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How to Be a Good Seller
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1. Pitch the Product
1-1. Focus on value.
You should sell high-quality products that the customer can actually derive benefit or pleasure from.
Buyer's remorse is a reaction you should try to avoid at all costs. You may have made a one-time purchase, but a customer who regrets purchasing your product won't return a second time and probably won't recommend you to anyone else.
1-2. Research the competition.
Customers will only consider buying from you if the product you offer can compete in quality and price with similar products.
Determine who your competition is, then spend some time researching your competitors' products.
If you sell within a broader online marketplace (like eBay, Etsy, or Amazon Marketplace), you'll need to focus your attention on competing sellers within that marketplace.
Similarly, if you sell products in person, you'll need to research local competitors to make sure that your prices can compare positively with theirs.
1-3. Show the product.
Buyers prefer to see the exact product they'll be purchasing. When possible, they will usually want to handle the product directly before agreeing to purchase it.
This is a fairly simple task to accomplish in person, but when you're selling online, succeeding visually will require the use of high-quality photographs.
Photographs of your products need to show each item in the best possible light and from all possible angles. Your primary photograph for the product should show the item at its best.
1-4. Make it clear.
Communication is important, but in most cases, the buyer should be able to find out everything he or she needs to know about a product without saying a word to you.
The price of an item should always be visible, as should any information regarding the contents or origin of the product.
This point is especially crucial for online sales. Most customers will never speak to you before deciding whether or not to buy from your online shop, so any information you would usually state in conversation should be provided in the item's description.
1-5. Back up feeling with fact.
May people use both their hearts and minds when making a purchase. You'll need to use emotion to grab the customer's attention and reason to seal the deal.
For instance, a book's catchy title and appealing cover art appeal to a prospective buyer's emotions. The back cover summary of the book's plot appeals to the buyer's mind by presenting information that lets the buyer know if he or she might actually enjoy the book.
2. Communicate with the Customer
2-1. Open the lines of communication.
Invite open communication from the beginning through the end of the overall sales experience.
Anticipate questions and answer them before your customers have to ask.
This can be especially important for online sales. Keep your customer updated on the status of the order. Let the buyer know when you've processed payment and when you've shipped the item. Check in later to make sure that the item arrived safely.
2-2. Get personal.
It may not be feasible to build a close relationship with every potential customer you meet, but you should try to establish a temporary connection with each prospect you come into contact with.
By showing the customer that you view him or her as a human instead of a paycheck, you encourage the customer to view you as a fellow human, too.
When selling a product in person, carefully observe the approaching prospect. Try to find something you have in common or offer an honest compliment.
When selling a product online, thank the buyer for his or her interest. Demonstrate interest in the buyer's needs, too, by asking questions that can direct the buyer to the best product for his or her circumstances.
2-3. Treat each customer as an individual.
No two customers are exactly alike, so you'll need to pay attention to each customer's personality and act accordingly.
On a basic level, introverted customers usually like to be left alone while extroverted customers may prefer to be actively engaged.
For sales made in person, you'll need to pay attention to body language.
For sales made online, you'll need to wait for the customer to reach out to you with a question or comment. Once that happens, try to respond with the same level of enthusiasm demonstrated by the customer's words.
2-4. Respond to concerns.
Customers want their money's worth; in other words, they want to buy good products that will last a long time. If a customer has some concern about the value of your product, you need to address that concern honestly and tactfully.
Some buyers will have a direct question about your product, like an inquiry on the size, weight, or functionality of the item.
Oftentimes, though, concerns are masked by misconceptions. It is your job to identify and correct the perception that prevents the buyer from purchasing your product.
2-5. Be honest.
No matter what your customer asks or says, your reply must always be honest. You should never overstate the value of a product or ignore sour details for the sake of making a sale.
If the customer catches you in a lie, you'll almost always lose that sale. Even worse, that customer may never consider buying from you again and could even discourage others from buying from you, too.
On the other hand, you might still lose the sale by being honest about the shortcomings of a particular product, but you'll build a good reputation with that potential buyer. That positive reputation may bring the buyer back to your shop for a different product.
2-6. Keep your cool.
The sales environment can be a stressful one, but if you want to succeed as a seller, you'll need to learn how to handle that stress in a calm and collected manner.
Rude customers can be especially trying, but you'll need to resist the urge to return discourtesy with discourtesy. Being friendly with a rude customer might be impossible, but you should still be polite and professional.
3. Go the Extra Mile
3-1. Avoid acts of desperation.
Nobody likes to feel pressured during a sale, so when interact with your customer, you need to avoid any statement or action that may create tension.
Persistently and consistently engage the customer, but once your customer starts backing off, you need to do the same. Doing otherwise may make you seem pushy and intimidating.
3-2. Encourage appropriate add-on purchases.
Depending on the circumstances, you might be able to increase the sales total by recommending products related to the main product your customer has decided to buy.
Choose items that may genuinely benefit the customer. The add-on product should either improve the original product or address some fear related to the original purchase.
For instance, you might recommend matching earrings to a customer interested in buying a necklace or security pens to a customer buying a checkbook cover.
3-3. Package the product with care.
At minimum, purchases must be packaged safely before being handed or shipped to the customer. It's also good to package purchases in an aesthetically pleasing manner.
Products that can break must be wrapped in an adequate amount of padding or tissue paper to protect them.
Consider printing shopping bags with your company's logo or including customized business cards inside boxed packages. Even small details can make the buying experience more exciting for the customer.
3-4. Offer samples and free gifts.
Encourage customers to buy another product later by including a free sample of that product with his or her original purchase.
For example, you might include small sample tubes of lip balm when a customer purchases other lip care products from you, or a sample swatch of perfume when a customer purchases a matching lotion.
Unlike samples, free gifts won't encourage the customer to buy any specific product from you in the future, but they can build your reputation with the customer and cause him or her to visit your shop again. Gifts should be small but meaningful. For instance, a seller at a book store might throw a free bookmark into the shopping bag before handing it over to the customer.
3-5. Sacrifice when necessary.
When an unforeseen circumstance damages the product after the transaction has already concluded, and neither you nor the buyer are at fault, you will need to take the loss instead of forcing it on your buyer.
You may never encounter this issue if you sell in person, but you'll probably deal with it at some point if you plan to sell online. For example, if the purchased product gets lost or damaged in the mail, you'll need to be willing to offer a refund or replacement if you want to keep your customer happy. Happy customers are more likely to buy from you again and recommend you to others.
3-6. Follow up.
When appropriate, consider following up with the customer after the transaction is complete. Doing so suggests that you genuinely care about the customer beyond his or her wallet.
If you've made an online sale, for instance, send an e-mail to the customer a few days after the product was due to arrive. Ask if the package arrived in good shape and if the product meets his or her needs.
For sales made in person, following up might not be necessary. You should make it easy for the customer to contact you again by providing business cards or by printing contact e-mail addresses and phone numbers on the sales receipt.
3-7. Learn from experience.
Build on past success and correct past mistakes. Selling is a skill you'll need to continually improve if you want to survive in the broader marketplace.
Review your past successes. Ask yourself which tactics encouraged the customer to buy from you and include those in your future selling experiences.
Likewise, review your past failures. Try to identify things that drove the customer away and avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
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Show the product.\\nBuyers prefer to see the exact product they'll be purchasing. When possible, they will usually want to handle the product directly before agreeing to purchase it.\\nThis is a fairly simple task to accomplish in person, but when you're selling online, succeeding visually will require the use of high-quality photographs.\\nPhotographs of your products need to show each item in the best possible light and from all possible angles. Your primary photograph for the product should show the item at its best.\\n1-4. Make it clear.\\nCommunication is important, but in most cases, the buyer should be able to find out everything he or she needs to know about a product without saying a word to you.\\nThe price of an item should always be visible, as should any information regarding the contents or origin of the product.\\nThis point is especially crucial for online sales. Most customers will never speak to you before deciding whether or not to buy from your online shop, so any information you would usually state in conversation should be provided in the item's description.\\n1-5. Back up feeling with fact.\\nMay people use both their hearts and minds when making a purchase. You'll need to use emotion to grab the customer's attention and reason to seal the deal.\\nFor instance, a book's catchy title and appealing cover art appeal to a prospective buyer's emotions. The back cover summary of the book's plot appeals to the buyer's mind by presenting information that lets the buyer know if he or she might actually enjoy the book.\\n2. Communicate with the Customer\\n2-1. Open the lines of communication.\\nInvite open communication from the beginning through the end of the overall sales experience.\\nAnticipate questions and answer them before your customers have to ask.\\nThis can be especially important for online sales. 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Treat each customer as an individual.\\nNo two customers are exactly alike, so you'll need to pay attention to each customer's personality and act accordingly.\\nOn a basic level, introverted customers usually like to be left alone while extroverted customers may prefer to be actively engaged.\\nFor sales made in person, you'll need to pay attention to body language.\\nFor sales made online, you'll need to wait for the customer to reach out to you with a question or comment. Once that happens, try to respond with the same level of enthusiasm demonstrated by the customer's words.\\n2-4. Respond to concerns.\\nCustomers want their money's worth; in other words, they want to buy good products that will last a long time. 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Package the product with care.\\nAt minimum, purchases must be packaged safely before being handed or shipped to the customer. It's also good to package purchases in an aesthetically pleasing manner.\\nProducts that can break must be wrapped in an adequate amount of padding or tissue paper to protect them.\\nConsider printing shopping bags with your company's logo or including customized business cards inside boxed packages. Even small details can make the buying experience more exciting for the customer.\\n3-4. Offer samples and free gifts.\\nEncourage customers to buy another product later by including a free sample of that product with his or her original purchase.\\nFor example, you might include small sample tubes of lip balm when a customer purchases other lip care products from you, or a sample swatch of perfume when a customer purchases a matching lotion.\\nUnlike samples, free gifts won't encourage the customer to buy any specific product from you in the future, but they can build your reputation with the customer and cause him or her to visit your shop again. Gifts should be small but meaningful. For instance, a seller at a book store might throw a free bookmark into the shopping bag before handing it over to the customer.\\n3-5. Sacrifice when necessary.\\nWhen an unforeseen circumstance damages the product after the transaction has already concluded, and neither you nor the buyer are at fault, you will need to take the loss instead of forcing it on your buyer.\\nYou may never encounter this issue if you sell in person, but you'll probably deal with it at some point if you plan to sell online. For example, if the purchased product gets lost or damaged in the mail, you'll need to be willing to offer a refund or replacement if you want to keep your customer happy. Happy customers are more likely to buy from you again and recommend you to others.\\n3-6. Follow up.\\nWhen appropriate, consider following up with the customer after the transaction is complete. Doing so suggests that you genuinely care about the customer beyond his or her wallet.\\nIf you've made an online sale, for instance, send an e-mail to the customer a few days after the product was due to arrive. 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How to Be a Good Sister
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1. Bonding with Your Sibling
1-1. Communicate with your sibling often.
Whether you live in the same house or across the country from one another, regular communication is important in enforcing sibling bonds. Stay in touch with your sibling any way that you can.
Text or Facetime your sibling once a week if they live far away.
Eat meals together if you live nearby.
Text them to let them know that you are thinking about them.
Send them pictures that they might find funny.
Give them a card.
1-2. Spend time together doing fun activities.
When you are together, plan some time just for you and your sibling. You can go out or stay in and just hang out. Do something that you will both enjoy. You can:
See a movie together.
Play a board game or video game.
Play a sport together.
Take a walk after dinner.
Hang out at the beach.
Go out to eat.
Cook a meal together at home.
Have an arts and crafts night.
1-3. Find out what is important to them.
You and your sibling may have different tastes, hobbies, and habits, but that doesn't mean that you can't still have fun with them. Find out what they enjoy or find important. Ask if you can join them next time they do it.
For example, if your sibling plays soccer, ask them when their next game is so that you can cheer them on.
If your sibling loves to play video games, ask them to teach you how to play their favorite game.
If your sibling is into a certain band, see if they want to see a concert together.
1-4. Remember birthdays and special occasions.
This is an easy and thoughtful way to show that you care. Mark on a calendar any special occasions that are important to your sibling, such as birthdays, weddings, or graduations. Buy a card and a small gift to let them know you are thinking about them.
Select a gift that is meaningful for your sibling. For example, if your sibling does ballet, you might get them a ticket to see the local ballet.
Gifts don't need to be expensive or elaborate. You can even make your own gift.
2. Supporting Your Sibling
2-1. Help your sibling when they need it.
Whether your sibling is struggling with school, work, or personal issues, they can benefit from their sister's love and assistance. If they ask you for help, assist them in any way that you can.
Don't wait for your sibling to ask you for help. If they seem like they're struggling, reach out to them. You can say, "Hey, is everything ok? Is there anything I can do to help?"
Sometimes your sibling may not want you to interfere. Respect their decision, but state that you will be there if they change their mind. You can say, “I understand. Just let me know if you ever do want my help.”
2-2. Compliment them on their best qualities.
Don't hold back on noticing your sibling's skills and accomplishments. Let them know when they have made you proud or what you admire about them.
If you know your sibling is insecure about something, lift their spirits by admiring them. For example, if your brother is worried about getting into college, you can say, “You've been working so hard! No matter what ends up happening, I know you'll do well.”
Congratulate them on them on their accomplishments. For example, if a sibling wins an award, let them know how proud you are.
Give them examples of how their good qualities influence and impact you in positive ways.
Let them know when they do things that inspire you. For example, if your sibling kept trying at an activity they struggled with, tell them that they inspired you to keep working at something you found difficult and that you admire that quality about them.
2-3. Appreciate your sibling for what they do for you.
When your sibling does a favor for you or if they support you, express gratitude to them. Let them know that you appreciate their presence in your life.
For example, you can say, “Thank you so much for always listening when I need to talk. It makes me so happy to know I have a sibling like you.”
2-4. Listen if your sibling needs to talk.
When things happen in life, talking to a sibling can be a big help. You can get your siblings to open up to you by opening up them first. Be willing to share things and to listen to what they want to share.
Sometimes, a person just needs someone to listen, not to give advice. Before sharing your wisdom, ask, “do you want my advice?” If they say no, just listen.
Let your sibling know that you are listening by occasionally repeating things that they say. For example, you can say, “I see. So your boss overlooked you for the promotion?”
Always keep your sibling's secrets. The only exception is where someone is likely to be endangered by keeping a secret.
2-5. Stand up for your sibling.
If your sibling is having a hard time with someone, ask them what you can do to help. They may ask you to talk to the other person or to help them file a complaint. If your sibling asks you to not interfere, you can still provide emotional support by letting them come talk to you.
If two siblings are fighting with each other, try to avoid taking sides. Instead, act as mediator to facilitate a win-win situation between them.
3. Keeping the Peace
3-1. Establish your boundaries before problems arise.
Don't expect your siblings to read your mind. Let them know ahead of time how they can respect your space and your belongings. Tell them in person, or post a sign.
For example, if you buy special coffee, you may decide that you don't want other people drinking it. Ask your siblings to get your permission before using your special coffee.
You can also ask them to respect your personal space and free time. You might say, "When I come home from school, I need 30 minutes to relax on my own. Please don't bother me during this time."
3-2. Handle conflict in a calm manner.
If a fight does erupt, try to remain calm. Yelling or whining won't help you and your siblings solve the problem. Speak in a level voice, avoid accusing or blaming others, and try to focus on solving the problem.
Speak calmly and stick to the facts. If you feel yourself getting heated, ask for time out and go to another room to calm down.
If the issue is minor, try to laugh it off, and walk away.
Do not bring up past conflicts in a current fight. This will only drag out grudges. Instead, focus on the issue at hand.
3-3. Avoid teasing siblings on sensitive subjects.
Teasing is natural in a family relationship, but you should make sure that you never call out or make fun of an issue that your sibling is sensitive about. For example, if your sister is defensive about the way that she dresses, avoid making fun of her style.
3-4. Learn to compromise.
Sometimes, you may need to compromise to prevent an argument. If you and your sibling's needs or wants conflict with each other, see if you can work out a solution. Remember that compromise is a two-way street. Both of you should give a little.
For example, if you both like to have 20 minutes in the bathroom but your sibling needs to use it at the same time as you, cut the time in half for each of you rather than giving up your time.
3-5. Give your sibling space.
Time spent together is great but so is time spent apart. If you crowd your sibling, they may feel suffocated. Instead, respect when your sibling needs time alone and time with friends.
Respect their personal space and property. Don't touch or use your sibling's stuff without their permission. Avoid entering their room without their knowledge. If you share a room, don't snoop through their belongings.
3-6. Avoid judging your sibling.
Your sibling may have a certain lifestyle that you disapprove of, but you should not judge or criticize them for living their own life. No matter how much you may disagree with them, try to respect your sibling's ability to make their own choices.
If you know that a subject, such as politics or religion, is going to start a fight, avoid talking about it.
If your sibling has a problem that could cause harm to them, such as substance abuse or suicidal thoughts, encourage them to get help.
Let your siblings figure out some things for themselves. Making mistakes that are not life-threatening is part of learning and growing up.
Tips
If you're older and your siblings are frustrating you, try to remember yourself at their age, how you thought and acted, and what would have made you feel good.
Don't compare yourself with your sibling.
Always love your sibling even when they do things wrong.
Warnings
Don't lie to your siblings or make up lies about them. Do this and it won't be long before they return the favor.
Don't treat your sibling like you're better than them. Acting superior can lead your siblings to resent you.
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Find out what is important to them.\\nYou and your sibling may have different tastes, hobbies, and habits, but that doesn't mean that you can't still have fun with them. Find out what they enjoy or find important. Ask if you can join them next time they do it.\\nFor example, if your sibling plays soccer, ask them when their next game is so that you can cheer them on.\\nIf your sibling loves to play video games, ask them to teach you how to play their favorite game.\\nIf your sibling is into a certain band, see if they want to see a concert together.\\n1-4. Remember birthdays and special occasions.\\nThis is an easy and thoughtful way to show that you care. Mark on a calendar any special occasions that are important to your sibling, such as birthdays, weddings, or graduations. Buy a card and a small gift to let them know you are thinking about them.\\nSelect a gift that is meaningful for your sibling. For example, if your sibling does ballet, you might get them a ticket to see the local ballet.\\nGifts don't need to be expensive or elaborate. You can even make your own gift.\\n2. Supporting Your Sibling\\n2-1. Help your sibling when they need it.\\nWhether your sibling is struggling with school, work, or personal issues, they can benefit from their sister's love and assistance. If they ask you for help, assist them in any way that you can.\\nDon't wait for your sibling to ask you for help. If they seem like they're struggling, reach out to them. You can say, \\\"Hey, is everything ok? Is there anything I can do to help?\\\"\\nSometimes your sibling may not want you to interfere. Respect their decision, but state that you will be there if they change their mind. You can say, “I understand. Just let me know if you ever do want my help.”\\n2-2. Compliment them on their best qualities.\\nDon't hold back on noticing your sibling's skills and accomplishments. Let them know when they have made you proud or what you admire about them.\\nIf you know your sibling is insecure about something, lift their spirits by admiring them. For example, if your brother is worried about getting into college, you can say, “You've been working so hard! No matter what ends up happening, I know you'll do well.”\\nCongratulate them on them on their accomplishments. For example, if a sibling wins an award, let them know how proud you are.\\nGive them examples of how their good qualities influence and impact you in positive ways.\\nLet them know when they do things that inspire you. For example, if your sibling kept trying at an activity they struggled with, tell them that they inspired you to keep working at something you found difficult and that you admire that quality about them.\\n2-3. Appreciate your sibling for what they do for you.\\nWhen your sibling does a favor for you or if they support you, express gratitude to them. Let them know that you appreciate their presence in your life.\\nFor example, you can say, “Thank you so much for always listening when I need to talk. It makes me so happy to know I have a sibling like you.”\\n2-4. Listen if your sibling needs to talk.\\nWhen things happen in life, talking to a sibling can be a big help. You can get your siblings to open up to you by opening up them first. Be willing to share things and to listen to what they want to share.\\nSometimes, a person just needs someone to listen, not to give advice. Before sharing your wisdom, ask, “do you want my advice?” If they say no, just listen.\\nLet your sibling know that you are listening by occasionally repeating things that they say. For example, you can say, “I see. So your boss overlooked you for the promotion?”\\nAlways keep your sibling's secrets. The only exception is where someone is likely to be endangered by keeping a secret.\\n2-5. Stand up for your sibling.\\nIf your sibling is having a hard time with someone, ask them what you can do to help. They may ask you to talk to the other person or to help them file a complaint. If your sibling asks you to not interfere, you can still provide emotional support by letting them come talk to you.\\nIf two siblings are fighting with each other, try to avoid taking sides. Instead, act as mediator to facilitate a win-win situation between them.\\n3. Keeping the Peace\\n3-1. Establish your boundaries before problems arise.\\nDon't expect your siblings to read your mind. Let them know ahead of time how they can respect your space and your belongings. Tell them in person, or post a sign.\\nFor example, if you buy special coffee, you may decide that you don't want other people drinking it. Ask your siblings to get your permission before using your special coffee.\\nYou can also ask them to respect your personal space and free time. 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If you share a room, don't snoop through their belongings.\\n3-6. Avoid judging your sibling.\\nYour sibling may have a certain lifestyle that you disapprove of, but you should not judge or criticize them for living their own life. No matter how much you may disagree with them, try to respect your sibling's ability to make their own choices. \\nIf you know that a subject, such as politics or religion, is going to start a fight, avoid talking about it.\\nIf your sibling has a problem that could cause harm to them, such as substance abuse or suicidal thoughts, encourage them to get help.\\nLet your siblings figure out some things for themselves. 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1. Improving Your Technical Skills
1-1. Perfect your defensive stance.
As a defender, a low center of gravity is crucial. Bend your knees and tighten your core, keeping your arms out to your sides. You can brush away the arms of opposing players when they come near you.
Stay on your toes with your feet about shoulder-width apart. This improves your balance and helps you block more space. Keep your feet staggered to avoid getting “megged.”
Keep your eye on the ball, not the player you're defending. When you're off the ball, scan the field so you know where all the players are and can anticipate opportunities the other team may try to take advantage of.
1-2. Defend both sides of a player.
When you're on the ball, stay square with the player you're defending rather than moving to one side or the other. If you only defend one side of the player, you give them an out to get around you or pass the ball.
Ask your teammates for help if you're having a hard time keeping up with the player and fear they may get through you. Focus on delaying them as long as possible until help arrives.
1-3. Take advantage of mistakes.
A bad touch or a misstep creates an opportunity for you as a defender. If you're defending a strong player, you have to be alert for the slightest mistake. Put the player you're defending under pressure to increase the likelihood that they get flustered and fumble.
Pay attention to the smallest details and be ready to act immediately when you sense the other player is in trouble. You may only have a second to act to make a big difference in the game.
1-4. Study your opponents.
Most soccer players have signature moves and patterns that can tell you when they're gearing up for a shot or a breakaway. If you research opposing teams and watch previous games, you'll be better able to anticipate their behavior.
As a defender, you need to be able to predict what your opponent is going to do and where they want to go so you can position yourself to stop them.
When you're watching previous games, also look out for defensive techniques that have caused particular opponents problems. You can add those techniques to your own repertoire when you play against them.
1-5. Communicate effectively to your teammates.
As a defender, you have the ability to see the whole field and know where all the players are. You can let your teammates know when pressure is headed their way and when someone is open.
For example, if there are no defenders near a player, you might say "time" to let them know they can take their time with the ball.
Be loud and keep the other defenders alert and on their toes. If another defender is on the ball, give them as much information as you can about the situation around them so they can focus on the ball. For example, you might say "I got drop" if you're supporting another defender and are in position for them to attempt a tackle.
If you're playing on a team that you don't have much experience with, you need to communicate more so you know what they like and what they want to do. Err on the side of more information, not less. For example, you might need to yell "feet" to let a player know to pass the ball directly to your feet rather than ahead of you. If that player was familiar with your style of play, they might already know how you like your passes.
1-6. Tackle only when you can clear the ball.
Tackling is one of the most dangerous parts of soccer, not only because you could get injured – you also risk fouling the other player. Keep this powerful defensive technique in reserve unless you are 100 percent sure you can regain possession of the ball for your team.
The best time to tackle is when the attacking player has just made a mistake, such as a bad touch, or if they are off-balance.
1-7. Head the ball safely.
The defensive header can be an important tool for a defender and can get your team out of a tight spot. Proper technique allows you to head the ball safely and effectively, with little risk of concussion or other injury.
Keep your eyes on the ball the whole time it's in the air, and line up your forehead with the part of the ball you want to hit. If you hit the top of the ball, it will go down to the ground. Hit the underside of the ball, and it will go up.
Many beginning players have the tendency to close their eyes as the ball approaches, mainly out of fear or anticipation of the ball hurting as it hits their head. Practice keeping your eyes open the whole time. Heading drills will help you get rid of that anticipation and lose the fear of heading the ball.
2. Conditioning Your Body
2-1. Adapt your training to your position.
Different defensive positions require different conditioning to respond well to the demands that will be placed on their bodies during the game. If you are a center back, focus on strength and stability. If you are an outside back, do speed and mobility drills to compete with wingers.
During the off season, schedule 2 or 3 strength days, along with 2 or 3 cardio days. You can also add a day that focuses on speed and power, by incorporating high-intensity interval training.
In season, reduce the volume of your training to reflect the time you're spending on the field. For example, if your workouts were 2 hours long in the off-season, reduce them to 1 hour in season. You may only want 1 or 2 strength days in season.
2-2. Combine distance running with sprints.
Distance running improves your cardiovascular endurance, which is necessary if you're spending 90 minutes on the pitch in any given game. But you also need to be able to come up with short bursts of speed to keep up with fast forwards, midfielders, and wingers.
Running in intervals is a good way to mimic the way you run during a soccer game. For example, you might jog for 10 minutes, then sprint for 2 minutes, then walk for 3 minutes. Repeat the interval until you've run for an hour.
2-3. Strengthen your core to improve your balance.
Working your core isn't just about having a six-pack like your favorite professional soccer player. A strong core improves your balance and makes it tougher for attacking players to push past you and make a break for the goal.
Make planks a regular part of your exercise regimen. Start by holding the plank position for 30 seconds to a minute. Every few days, add a minute, working up to a 5-minute duration.
Look for other core exercises that isolate various abdominal muscles. Make sure you're exercising all abdominal muscles evenly. Practices such as yoga and pilates can also help strengthen your core and improve your balance and flexibility.
2-4. Use plyometrics to build power and strength.
Plyometric exercises build fast-twitch muscle fibers in your body to give you explosive power to boost the sudden bursts of speed you need when chasing after a fast forward or midfielder.
Explosive push-ups are a good plyometric exercise for defenders. Start in a regular push-up position and lower your chest to the floor. Push yourself up forcefully so that your hands leave the floor, then come back down softly, bending your elbows to help absorb the impact. Do 4 sets of 5 to 10 reps, resting for 2 minutes between sets.
3. Developing Your Mind
3-1. Get some experience on offense.
Not every defensive player will have the ability to play offense, but if you have the opportunity, go for it. Playing offense gives you insight into what strikers want to do and how they do it so you can better anticipate their moves as a defender.
If you don't have the opportunity to play on offense, the next best thing is to talk to friends of yours who are midfielders or forwards. Through them you can learn how they see the field and how they create opportunities to score. Knowing how their mind works will make you a better defender.
3-2. Maintain confidence and have no fear.
If an opponent senses that you're afraid to battle with them, they'll run right through you. You can't be a truly good soccer defender if you're afraid to challenge a strong opponent for the ball.
You also can't be afraid to foul. While you never want to foul another player, you still want the opposing team to see you as someone who would stop at nothing to keep them from penetrating your side of the field and finding an opportunity to score.
3-3. Remain calm and let your opponent make mistakes.
Patience is paramount for a defender. Simply running forward and challenging every player that has the ball is aggressive, but it isn't the smartest way to play and you may end up racking up fouls.
Stay on your toes and face the attacking player, presenting as much of your body's surface area as possible. Stagger your legs so you can switch directions quickly. Stay alert and ready to go after the ball at any moment, but avoid lunging (or diving in) for the ball or directly threatening the attacking player.
While ready to strike, wait patiently for the attacking player to make their move. Apply pressure and strike when you sense weakness or see the attacking player make even a minor mistake.
3-4. Practice good sportsmanship.
When you're aggressively defending, it can be easy to get carried away in that mindset. Remember that the referees and the opposing team are people too. If an opposing player falls, help them get back up.
Avoid arguing with referees or protesting, even if they've made a bad call. Just shrug it off and keep playing.
Tips
Avoid diving as a defender.
Watch elite games and choose a defender to model your game after. Study how that player acts in different situations, and against different types of players.
As a defender, avoid following another player all the time, no matter how dangerous he/she is.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Improving Your Technical Skills\\n1-1. Perfect your defensive stance.\\nAs a defender, a low center of gravity is crucial. Bend your knees and tighten your core, keeping your arms out to your sides. You can brush away the arms of opposing players when they come near you.\\nStay on your toes with your feet about shoulder-width apart. This improves your balance and helps you block more space. Keep your feet staggered to avoid getting “megged.”\\nKeep your eye on the ball, not the player you're defending. When you're off the ball, scan the field so you know where all the players are and can anticipate opportunities the other team may try to take advantage of.\\n1-2. Defend both sides of a player.\\nWhen you're on the ball, stay square with the player you're defending rather than moving to one side or the other. If you only defend one side of the player, you give them an out to get around you or pass the ball.\\nAsk your teammates for help if you're having a hard time keeping up with the player and fear they may get through you. Focus on delaying them as long as possible until help arrives.\\n1-3. Take advantage of mistakes.\\nA bad touch or a misstep creates an opportunity for you as a defender. If you're defending a strong player, you have to be alert for the slightest mistake. Put the player you're defending under pressure to increase the likelihood that they get flustered and fumble.\\nPay attention to the smallest details and be ready to act immediately when you sense the other player is in trouble. You may only have a second to act to make a big difference in the game.\\n1-4. Study your opponents.\\nMost soccer players have signature moves and patterns that can tell you when they're gearing up for a shot or a breakaway. If you research opposing teams and watch previous games, you'll be better able to anticipate their behavior.\\nAs a defender, you need to be able to predict what your opponent is going to do and where they want to go so you can position yourself to stop them.\\nWhen you're watching previous games, also look out for defensive techniques that have caused particular opponents problems. You can add those techniques to your own repertoire when you play against them.\\n1-5. Communicate effectively to your teammates.\\nAs a defender, you have the ability to see the whole field and know where all the players are. You can let your teammates know when pressure is headed their way and when someone is open.\\nFor example, if there are no defenders near a player, you might say \\\"time\\\" to let them know they can take their time with the ball.\\nBe loud and keep the other defenders alert and on their toes. If another defender is on the ball, give them as much information as you can about the situation around them so they can focus on the ball. For example, you might say \\\"I got drop\\\" if you're supporting another defender and are in position for them to attempt a tackle.\\nIf you're playing on a team that you don't have much experience with, you need to communicate more so you know what they like and what they want to do. Err on the side of more information, not less. For example, you might need to yell \\\"feet\\\" to let a player know to pass the ball directly to your feet rather than ahead of you. If that player was familiar with your style of play, they might already know how you like your passes.\\n1-6. Tackle only when you can clear the ball.\\nTackling is one of the most dangerous parts of soccer, not only because you could get injured – you also risk fouling the other player. Keep this powerful defensive technique in reserve unless you are 100 percent sure you can regain possession of the ball for your team.\\nThe best time to tackle is when the attacking player has just made a mistake, such as a bad touch, or if they are off-balance.\\n1-7. Head the ball safely.\\nThe defensive header can be an important tool for a defender and can get your team out of a tight spot. Proper technique allows you to head the ball safely and effectively, with little risk of concussion or other injury.\\nKeep your eyes on the ball the whole time it's in the air, and line up your forehead with the part of the ball you want to hit. If you hit the top of the ball, it will go down to the ground. Hit the underside of the ball, and it will go up.\\nMany beginning players have the tendency to close their eyes as the ball approaches, mainly out of fear or anticipation of the ball hurting as it hits their head. Practice keeping your eyes open the whole time. Heading drills will help you get rid of that anticipation and lose the fear of heading the ball.\\n2. Conditioning Your Body\\n2-1. Adapt your training to your position.\\nDifferent defensive positions require different conditioning to respond well to the demands that will be placed on their bodies during the game. If you are a center back, focus on strength and stability. If you are an outside back, do speed and mobility drills to compete with wingers.\\nDuring the off season, schedule 2 or 3 strength days, along with 2 or 3 cardio days. You can also add a day that focuses on speed and power, by incorporating high-intensity interval training.\\nIn season, reduce the volume of your training to reflect the time you're spending on the field. For example, if your workouts were 2 hours long in the off-season, reduce them to 1 hour in season. You may only want 1 or 2 strength days in season.\\n2-2. Combine distance running with sprints.\\nDistance running improves your cardiovascular endurance, which is necessary if you're spending 90 minutes on the pitch in any given game. But you also need to be able to come up with short bursts of speed to keep up with fast forwards, midfielders, and wingers.\\nRunning in intervals is a good way to mimic the way you run during a soccer game. For example, you might jog for 10 minutes, then sprint for 2 minutes, then walk for 3 minutes. Repeat the interval until you've run for an hour.\\n2-3. Strengthen your core to improve your balance.\\nWorking your core isn't just about having a six-pack like your favorite professional soccer player. A strong core improves your balance and makes it tougher for attacking players to push past you and make a break for the goal.\\nMake planks a regular part of your exercise regimen. Start by holding the plank position for 30 seconds to a minute. Every few days, add a minute, working up to a 5-minute duration.\\nLook for other core exercises that isolate various abdominal muscles. Make sure you're exercising all abdominal muscles evenly. Practices such as yoga and pilates can also help strengthen your core and improve your balance and flexibility.\\n2-4. Use plyometrics to build power and strength.\\nPlyometric exercises build fast-twitch muscle fibers in your body to give you explosive power to boost the sudden bursts of speed you need when chasing after a fast forward or midfielder.\\nExplosive push-ups are a good plyometric exercise for defenders. Start in a regular push-up position and lower your chest to the floor. Push yourself up forcefully so that your hands leave the floor, then come back down softly, bending your elbows to help absorb the impact. Do 4 sets of 5 to 10 reps, resting for 2 minutes between sets.\\n3. Developing Your Mind\\n3-1. Get some experience on offense.\\nNot every defensive player will have the ability to play offense, but if you have the opportunity, go for it. Playing offense gives you insight into what strikers want to do and how they do it so you can better anticipate their moves as a defender.\\nIf you don't have the opportunity to play on offense, the next best thing is to talk to friends of yours who are midfielders or forwards. Through them you can learn how they see the field and how they create opportunities to score. Knowing how their mind works will make you a better defender.\\n3-2. Maintain confidence and have no fear.\\nIf an opponent senses that you're afraid to battle with them, they'll run right through you. You can't be a truly good soccer defender if you're afraid to challenge a strong opponent for the ball.\\nYou also can't be afraid to foul. While you never want to foul another player, you still want the opposing team to see you as someone who would stop at nothing to keep them from penetrating your side of the field and finding an opportunity to score.\\n3-3. Remain calm and let your opponent make mistakes.\\nPatience is paramount for a defender. Simply running forward and challenging every player that has the ball is aggressive, but it isn't the smartest way to play and you may end up racking up fouls.\\nStay on your toes and face the attacking player, presenting as much of your body's surface area as possible. Stagger your legs so you can switch directions quickly. Stay alert and ready to go after the ball at any moment, but avoid lunging (or diving in) for the ball or directly threatening the attacking player.\\nWhile ready to strike, wait patiently for the attacking player to make their move. Apply pressure and strike when you sense weakness or see the attacking player make even a minor mistake.\\n3-4. Practice good sportsmanship.\\nWhen you're aggressively defending, it can be easy to get carried away in that mindset. Remember that the referees and the opposing team are people too. If an opposing player falls, help them get back up.\\nAvoid arguing with referees or protesting, even if they've made a bad call. Just shrug it off and keep playing.\\nTips\\nAvoid diving as a defender.\\nWatch elite games and choose a defender to model your game after. Study how that player acts in different situations, and against different types of players.\\nAs a defender, avoid following another player all the time, no matter how dangerous he/she is.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As a soccer defender, your primary job is to keep the other team from scoring – but a good defender does so much more than that. You provide vital information to your teammates on the field. You pressure opponents into making mistakes that give you the opportunity to build an attach out of the back and eliminate the threat. You support your teammates and cover them so they can find scoring opportunities. A good soccer defender needs strong technical skills, mental toughness, and physical fitness.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving Your Technical Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Perfect your defensive stance.\", \"描述\": \"As a defender, a low center of gravity is crucial. Bend your knees and tighten your core, keeping your arms out to your sides. You can brush away the arms of opposing players when they come near you.\\nStay on your toes with your feet about shoulder-width apart. This improves your balance and helps you block more space. Keep your feet staggered to avoid getting “megged.”\\nKeep your eye on the ball, not the player you're defending. When you're off the ball, scan the field so you know where all the players are and can anticipate opportunities the other team may try to take advantage of.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Defend both sides of a player.\", \"描述\": \"When you're on the ball, stay square with the player you're defending rather than moving to one side or the other. If you only defend one side of the player, you give them an out to get around you or pass the ball.\\nAsk your teammates for help if you're having a hard time keeping up with the player and fear they may get through you. Focus on delaying them as long as possible until help arrives.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take advantage of mistakes.\", \"描述\": \"A bad touch or a misstep creates an opportunity for you as a defender. If you're defending a strong player, you have to be alert for the slightest mistake. Put the player you're defending under pressure to increase the likelihood that they get flustered and fumble.\\nPay attention to the smallest details and be ready to act immediately when you sense the other player is in trouble. You may only have a second to act to make a big difference in the game.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Study your opponents.\", \"描述\": \"Most soccer players have signature moves and patterns that can tell you when they're gearing up for a shot or a breakaway. If you research opposing teams and watch previous games, you'll be better able to anticipate their behavior.\\nAs a defender, you need to be able to predict what your opponent is going to do and where they want to go so you can position yourself to stop them.\\nWhen you're watching previous games, also look out for defensive techniques that have caused particular opponents problems. You can add those techniques to your own repertoire when you play against them.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Communicate effectively to your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"As a defender, you have the ability to see the whole field and know where all the players are. You can let your teammates know when pressure is headed their way and when someone is open.\\nFor example, if there are no defenders near a player, you might say \\\"time\\\" to let them know they can take their time with the ball.\\nBe loud and keep the other defenders alert and on their toes. If another defender is on the ball, give them as much information as you can about the situation around them so they can focus on the ball. For example, you might say \\\"I got drop\\\" if you're supporting another defender and are in position for them to attempt a tackle.\\nIf you're playing on a team that you don't have much experience with, you need to communicate more so you know what they like and what they want to do. Err on the side of more information, not less. For example, you might need to yell \\\"feet\\\" to let a player know to pass the ball directly to your feet rather than ahead of you. If that player was familiar with your style of play, they might already know how you like your passes.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Tackle only when you can clear the ball.\", \"描述\": \"Tackling is one of the most dangerous parts of soccer, not only because you could get injured – you also risk fouling the other player. Keep this powerful defensive technique in reserve unless you are 100 percent sure you can regain possession of the ball for your team.\\nThe best time to tackle is when the attacking player has just made a mistake, such as a bad touch, or if they are off-balance.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Head the ball safely.\", \"描述\": \"The defensive header can be an important tool for a defender and can get your team out of a tight spot. Proper technique allows you to head the ball safely and effectively, with little risk of concussion or other injury.\\nKeep your eyes on the ball the whole time it's in the air, and line up your forehead with the part of the ball you want to hit. If you hit the top of the ball, it will go down to the ground. Hit the underside of the ball, and it will go up.\\nMany beginning players have the tendency to close their eyes as the ball approaches, mainly out of fear or anticipation of the ball hurting as it hits their head. Practice keeping your eyes open the whole time. Heading drills will help you get rid of that anticipation and lose the fear of heading the ball.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Conditioning Your Body\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Adapt your training to your position.\", \"描述\": \"Different defensive positions require different conditioning to respond well to the demands that will be placed on their bodies during the game. If you are a center back, focus on strength and stability. If you are an outside back, do speed and mobility drills to compete with wingers.\\nDuring the off season, schedule 2 or 3 strength days, along with 2 or 3 cardio days. You can also add a day that focuses on speed and power, by incorporating high-intensity interval training.\\nIn season, reduce the volume of your training to reflect the time you're spending on the field. For example, if your workouts were 2 hours long in the off-season, reduce them to 1 hour in season. You may only want 1 or 2 strength days in season.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Combine distance running with sprints.\", \"描述\": \"Distance running improves your cardiovascular endurance, which is necessary if you're spending 90 minutes on the pitch in any given game. But you also need to be able to come up with short bursts of speed to keep up with fast forwards, midfielders, and wingers.\\nRunning in intervals is a good way to mimic the way you run during a soccer game. For example, you might jog for 10 minutes, then sprint for 2 minutes, then walk for 3 minutes. Repeat the interval until you've run for an hour.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Strengthen your core to improve your balance.\", \"描述\": \"Working your core isn't just about having a six-pack like your favorite professional soccer player. A strong core improves your balance and makes it tougher for attacking players to push past you and make a break for the goal.\\nMake planks a regular part of your exercise regimen. Start by holding the plank position for 30 seconds to a minute. Every few days, add a minute, working up to a 5-minute duration.\\nLook for other core exercises that isolate various abdominal muscles. Make sure you're exercising all abdominal muscles evenly. Practices such as yoga and pilates can also help strengthen your core and improve your balance and flexibility.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use plyometrics to build power and strength.\", \"描述\": \"Plyometric exercises build fast-twitch muscle fibers in your body to give you explosive power to boost the sudden bursts of speed you need when chasing after a fast forward or midfielder.\\nExplosive push-ups are a good plyometric exercise for defenders. Start in a regular push-up position and lower your chest to the floor. Push yourself up forcefully so that your hands leave the floor, then come back down softly, bending your elbows to help absorb the impact. Do 4 sets of 5 to 10 reps, resting for 2 minutes between sets.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Mind\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get some experience on offense.\", \"描述\": \"Not every defensive player will have the ability to play offense, but if you have the opportunity, go for it. Playing offense gives you insight into what strikers want to do and how they do it so you can better anticipate their moves as a defender.\\nIf you don't have the opportunity to play on offense, the next best thing is to talk to friends of yours who are midfielders or forwards. Through them you can learn how they see the field and how they create opportunities to score. Knowing how their mind works will make you a better defender.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain confidence and have no fear.\", \"描述\": \"If an opponent senses that you're afraid to battle with them, they'll run right through you. You can't be a truly good soccer defender if you're afraid to challenge a strong opponent for the ball.\\nYou also can't be afraid to foul. 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How to Be a Good Soccer Striker
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1. Training Effectively as a Forward
1-1. Learn to shoot quickly while still maintaining accuracy.
The faster you can pull off a shot, the more deadly you'll be up top. You should work on a two-touch shot. Your first touch creates space to swing your leg, either to the side of a defender or as you receive the ball. The second touch is the shot itself. If you can take these two touch shots, you'll be able to push the ball to the side of a defender and fire off a shot before they can even react.
Once you feel good on these quick shots, creating space and striking rapidly, work on it on the run, dribbling towards goal, taking a touch, and shooting.
1-2. Practice putting the ball on net immediately out of the air.
Typically, this is a header on goal or a "volley," which is when you strike the ball before it hits the ground. Difficult but essential, a great forward can redirect an aerial ball towards the goal without settling the ball, which gives the defense time to react. You can practice this easily with a friend hitting your crosses and corner kicks, but keep some things in mind.
Follow through towards your target. For headers, this means your shoulders will turn to face the goal. For kicks, the indicator is usually your hips, which will turn with the shot to face goal on accurate finishes.
This skill is almost useless if you're standing still. Always jog, move, or attack the ball on the run, even in practice. It is rare to have time to stand still in a game with the ball approaching the box.
1-3. Focus on controlling the ball out of the air with your entire body.
You will have to be good at controlling the ball from the air, which means bringing the ball from the air to the ground smoothly. This is because a lot of the game for a forward comes from long balls and aerial crosses. You want your touch to end with the ball about a foot in front of you so that your next touch can immediately pass, shoot, or dribble. Good ways to practice include:
Juggling is a great way to practice full body touch, but only if you challenge yourself. See how high you can get the ball and still maintain control.
Hit long balls with a friend. Start about 20 yards away, and slowly get further and further. As you get better, pick up the speed between controlling and hitting the ball back.
Hit against a wall, drilling shots or crosses at a hard surface and reacting quickly to trap the rebound.
1-4. Practice challenging defenders one on one.
You must be able to get around them without help from teammates. Once you have the ball, you must be able to dribble around the defenders and to the goal by using a variety of "moves" such as the Maradona, the step-over, or the scissors. Some good dribble moves are shoulder feint and step over. Not all forwards need to play silky, technical soccer like Messi, but you need a few ways around a defender to make them step up and respect you instead of hanging back and waiting for you to pass.
Get a close friend or teammate and challenge them to 1v1 drills. Simply make a thin rectangle and alternate attacking and defending. Crossing the opposite end line with control of the ball is a "goal."
You don't always get to beat a defender straight up -- sometimes you have to shield and control the ball with your back to goal, too.
You can work on moves by yourself. Set up a box and work on dribbling, cutting, and throwing moves at full speed, staying inside the box to work on control.
1-5. Develop both feet into dangerous weapons of scoring.
The infamous Arjen Robben aside, there are few dangerous forwards who can only use one foot. Feeling comfortable on both your left and right foot greatly expands your toolkit, as good defenders will punish you if you only have one side of the field to use. Whenever doing drills, do them with both feet, and spend extra time developing your shooting and passing skills on your "bad" foot. It will never be as good as your dominant foot, but you'll give defenders fits if you can cut to the other direction and make a clean pass with your weak foot.
2. Reading the Game Offensively
2-1. Watch for the shot at all times, staying hungry for a goal.
A forward's number-one goal is to put the ball on target. Even if they don't score, shooting on target creates corners, deflections, and rebounds that lead to goals and put defenses under pressure. Your mindset should always be to create the space needed to pull a shoot off for either you or your teammates.
Note that you want your team to shoot, not just you. Some forwards will get lots of direct chances, others will feed their partner forwards with good chances and take only a few themselves.
2-2. Dart, weave, and sprint into open space to create defensive chaos.
A mobile striker is the most dangerous. Even if you don't get the ball every time, good forwards know that they need to keep the defense on their toes for 90 minutes, as this is when they make mistakes and reveal the sorts of gaps that create goals. When your team has the ball, look up for the open space and make a run.
Always be on a light jog, or on the balls of your toes, to get the jump on defenders when space opens up. They'll be looking to close down space as you try to fill it.
Keep your eye on your other forward(s). Timing runs to weave and criss-cross with them will throw the defense for an enormous loop.
2-3. Time your approach to crosses so that you hit them near full speed.
If you're simply standing in the box, waiting for the ball to arrive, you're incredibly easy to mark up. Instead, time your runs so that you get to the ball as it is arriving, allowing you to cut it out before the ball reaches a defender and get a running start for any jumping header. Keep your eye on the ball and reach it just as it becomes available to play and you'll win many more headers, volleys, and long balls.
This is also the best strategy to avoid offside traps, letting you go from jogging to sprinting once the ball is played instead of trying to hit full speed from standing.
Curling runs are great for making time and space. Instead of sprinting into the box straight on, take a curving path as the ball is coming down the wings, then cut straight in once the ball is in the air. Your curling run lets you approach the box on the run while still letting you change directions quickly.
2-4. Check to the ball instead of always running away from it.
Checking means running towards the teammate with the ball, opening up space and making the pass shorter. This is particularly important when working with another striker, as the space you just ran away from is now open for him if your defender follows your check. If you don't get the ball and a defender is on you still, keep moving. If you do get the ball, try to turn to face the goal -- greatly pressuring the defense.
Always look over your shoulder quickly as you check. If you caught your defender sleeping you may have more time with the ball than you think.
2-5. Challenge the defense one on one when you have space to run.
A striker can't be selfish, but they also can't be passive. You need to be able to run at a defender with the ball, throwing a move to beat him, sprinting around with a big touch, or sucking in the defense to make a last-second pass. Great forwards force the defense to react to them, which creates space for the rest of your team. The best times to attack are when you have the defense in motion, particularly as they track backward. Go at them, forcing them to make a decision.
The wings are a good place to really challenge defenders. They usually have little support, and a turnover is much easier to win back with the sideline to your advantage.
Don't take on defenders if you're near the half-field unless you're sure you can beat them -- a turnover here is particularly dangerous.
Even if you lose the ball, no defender wants to be under pressure all game. They will start to break down and make mistakes. It only takes a 1 goal difference to win or lose a game, and you want that goal to be in your favor!
2-6. Follow all shots and crosses into the goal.
This is especially important for younger players, as inexperienced defenders and goalies will make mistakes that lead to easy goals. When you or a teammate shoots, run after the ball towards goal, ready to quickly re-shoot any rebounds, deflections, or partial saves.
It is very, very difficult to clear the ball on defense when facing your own goal. Make this job even harder and you'll pick up a few easy goals a season.
2-7. Come back to the midfield on defense, holding up the back defenders.
Wait to receive the ball off a clearance or a punt. You're no good to your team on defense or offense if you just sit up top and wait. Come back to midfield to keep the defenders from settling the ball and playing easy crosses in without pressure. Most importantly, be ready to check or sprint on counter-attacks. If the ball is being crossed or cleared, it is your job to hold onto possession until your team gets into offensive position.
3. Adjusting Your Play Based on Forward Positioning
3-1. Tweak your strategy and runs depending on your team's offensive system.
Not all forwards can play with the same style. The biggest variable is how many other strikers you're playing with, as this greatly changes how you handle yourself. If you're the only one up top, you're going to want to stay high up on the defense, spreading the field for your team. If there are three strikers, you're necessarily going to have to come back on defense at times.
The high forward, used to hold onto the middle of the field and create space, is often called a They are big targets who hold up the ball and create offensive space for others.
Wing forwards, or are basically offensive outside midfielders. They must be excellent one-on-one dribblers with great speed and crossing ability.
often hold underneath a center forward who controls the ball with his/her back to goal. Their goal is to get the ball to a striker in a dangerous position, making the striker your fastest ball-handler and shooter.
3-2. Hold the space up field as far as the defense will allow.
As the center striker, you need to create space for the rest of the team, so hold the off-sides line as deep as the defense will let you. When you get the ball, try to turn to face the goal, but know that this isn't necessary; you simply want to hold the ball as your teammates sprint up to support you. Your goal is to suck the defense in, forcing them to play you so that they open up oodles of space along the wings.
If there are two center strikers, try staggering yourselves with one up higher and one sitting closer to the midfield. This opens up space for both of you to each sideline, as well as for dangerous combination play in the middle.
3-3. Control and direct the middle of the field quickly and efficiently.
As a striker, you need to be looking for shots. Whether as part of a 2-person or 3-person system, striking forwards want to get the ball facing the goal whenever possible. Strikers are trying to create just enough space to get a shot off, punishing the defense for lapses and laziness. Your bread and butter is going to be quick, one-touch passes and one-two combinations, or throwing a quick scissors and ripping a shot with space. Don't stand around with the ball -- keep it moving and always look for shots, making 10-20 yard sprints through the defense for quick, slotted passes and shots.
Shooting, even when you don't score, is useful. As defenses feel shots coming from further out, they will push up to prevent you from shooting more often. This often opens up space behind them for through passes and crosses.
3-4. Focus on quality crosses and dangerous diagonal runs in the winger position.
Attack the end line ruthlessly, driving down at defenders and forcing them to make tackles that lead to corners and deep throw-ins. Your goal is to get the ball down near the end line and then put it into the box, preferably as the defenders are running towards their own goal. Furthermore, keep your eye on the middle of the field. If the center defenders are getting lazy or seem to forget about you, a sharp diagonal run straight at goal will open you up for crosses, through balls, and shots.
As soon as your team wins the ball, get out as wide as possible. This will stretch the defense considerably, making tons of space for you and others.
Depending on the team formation, a winger may be expected to play a lot more defense than most forwards. Be sure to coordinate this with your coach and outside backs.
3-5. Watch professional forwards.
Notice what they do without the ball. Next time you watch a professional game, pay attention to where the forward is when they're not touching the ball. Note how good forwards are always moving, which makes the defense constantly look up and readjust. As you watch more, pay attention to how the two or three forwards work together, holding their space and crisscrossing to manipulate the defenders into creating space.
Watch both teams' strikers. How does their movement differ?
What do the strikers do in different parts of the game? If a team is winning, they tend to sit back, whereas losing teams like to push strikers up further to create goal-scoring opportunities.
Tips
Don't be quiet on the field. Constantly let your teammates know where you are on the field so that they can get you the ball with ease.
Your first touch is very important, so make it good.
If you don't practice, you won't get any better. Hard training is the only way to success.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Training Effectively as a Forward\\n1-1. Learn to shoot quickly while still maintaining accuracy.\\nThe faster you can pull off a shot, the more deadly you'll be up top. You should work on a two-touch shot. Your first touch creates space to swing your leg, either to the side of a defender or as you receive the ball. The second touch is the shot itself. If you can take these two touch shots, you'll be able to push the ball to the side of a defender and fire off a shot before they can even react.\\nOnce you feel good on these quick shots, creating space and striking rapidly, work on it on the run, dribbling towards goal, taking a touch, and shooting.\\n1-2. Practice putting the ball on net immediately out of the air.\\nTypically, this is a header on goal or a \\\"volley,\\\" which is when you strike the ball before it hits the ground. Difficult but essential, a great forward can redirect an aerial ball towards the goal without settling the ball, which gives the defense time to react. You can practice this easily with a friend hitting your crosses and corner kicks, but keep some things in mind.\\nFollow through towards your target. For headers, this means your shoulders will turn to face the goal. For kicks, the indicator is usually your hips, which will turn with the shot to face goal on accurate finishes.\\nThis skill is almost useless if you're standing still. Always jog, move, or attack the ball on the run, even in practice. It is rare to have time to stand still in a game with the ball approaching the box.\\n1-3. Focus on controlling the ball out of the air with your entire body.\\nYou will have to be good at controlling the ball from the air, which means bringing the ball from the air to the ground smoothly. This is because a lot of the game for a forward comes from long balls and aerial crosses. You want your touch to end with the ball about a foot in front of you so that your next touch can immediately pass, shoot, or dribble. Good ways to practice include:\\nJuggling is a great way to practice full body touch, but only if you challenge yourself. See how high you can get the ball and still maintain control.\\nHit long balls with a friend. Start about 20 yards away, and slowly get further and further. As you get better, pick up the speed between controlling and hitting the ball back.\\nHit against a wall, drilling shots or crosses at a hard surface and reacting quickly to trap the rebound.\\n1-4. Practice challenging defenders one on one.\\nYou must be able to get around them without help from teammates. Once you have the ball, you must be able to dribble around the defenders and to the goal by using a variety of \\\"moves\\\" such as the Maradona, the step-over, or the scissors. Some good dribble moves are shoulder feint and step over. Not all forwards need to play silky, technical soccer like Messi, but you need a few ways around a defender to make them step up and respect you instead of hanging back and waiting for you to pass.\\nGet a close friend or teammate and challenge them to 1v1 drills. Simply make a thin rectangle and alternate attacking and defending. Crossing the opposite end line with control of the ball is a \\\"goal.\\\"\\nYou don't always get to beat a defender straight up -- sometimes you have to shield and control the ball with your back to goal, too.\\nYou can work on moves by yourself. Set up a box and work on dribbling, cutting, and throwing moves at full speed, staying inside the box to work on control.\\n1-5. Develop both feet into dangerous weapons of scoring.\\nThe infamous Arjen Robben aside, there are few dangerous forwards who can only use one foot. Feeling comfortable on both your left and right foot greatly expands your toolkit, as good defenders will punish you if you only have one side of the field to use. Whenever doing drills, do them with both feet, and spend extra time developing your shooting and passing skills on your \\\"bad\\\" foot. It will never be as good as your dominant foot, but you'll give defenders fits if you can cut to the other direction and make a clean pass with your weak foot.\\n2. Reading the Game Offensively\\n2-1. Watch for the shot at all times, staying hungry for a goal.\\nA forward's number-one goal is to put the ball on target. Even if they don't score, shooting on target creates corners, deflections, and rebounds that lead to goals and put defenses under pressure. Your mindset should always be to create the space needed to pull a shoot off for either you or your teammates.\\nNote that you want your team to shoot, not just you. Some forwards will get lots of direct chances, others will feed their partner forwards with good chances and take only a few themselves.\\n2-2. Dart, weave, and sprint into open space to create defensive chaos.\\nA mobile striker is the most dangerous. Even if you don't get the ball every time, good forwards know that they need to keep the defense on their toes for 90 minutes, as this is when they make mistakes and reveal the sorts of gaps that create goals. When your team has the ball, look up for the open space and make a run.\\nAlways be on a light jog, or on the balls of your toes, to get the jump on defenders when space opens up. They'll be looking to close down space as you try to fill it.\\nKeep your eye on your other forward(s). Timing runs to weave and criss-cross with them will throw the defense for an enormous loop.\\n2-3. Time your approach to crosses so that you hit them near full speed.\\nIf you're simply standing in the box, waiting for the ball to arrive, you're incredibly easy to mark up. Instead, time your runs so that you get to the ball as it is arriving, allowing you to cut it out before the ball reaches a defender and get a running start for any jumping header. Keep your eye on the ball and reach it just as it becomes available to play and you'll win many more headers, volleys, and long balls.\\nThis is also the best strategy to avoid offside traps, letting you go from jogging to sprinting once the ball is played instead of trying to hit full speed from standing.\\nCurling runs are great for making time and space. Instead of sprinting into the box straight on, take a curving path as the ball is coming down the wings, then cut straight in once the ball is in the air. Your curling run lets you approach the box on the run while still letting you change directions quickly.\\n2-4. Check to the ball instead of always running away from it.\\nChecking means running towards the teammate with the ball, opening up space and making the pass shorter. This is particularly important when working with another striker, as the space you just ran away from is now open for him if your defender follows your check. If you don't get the ball and a defender is on you still, keep moving. If you do get the ball, try to turn to face the goal -- greatly pressuring the defense.\\nAlways look over your shoulder quickly as you check. If you caught your defender sleeping you may have more time with the ball than you think.\\n2-5. Challenge the defense one on one when you have space to run.\\nA striker can't be selfish, but they also can't be passive. You need to be able to run at a defender with the ball, throwing a move to beat him, sprinting around with a big touch, or sucking in the defense to make a last-second pass. Great forwards force the defense to react to them, which creates space for the rest of your team. The best times to attack are when you have the defense in motion, particularly as they track backward. Go at them, forcing them to make a decision.\\nThe wings are a good place to really challenge defenders. They usually have little support, and a turnover is much easier to win back with the sideline to your advantage.\\nDon't take on defenders if you're near the half-field unless you're sure you can beat them -- a turnover here is particularly dangerous.\\nEven if you lose the ball, no defender wants to be under pressure all game. They will start to break down and make mistakes. It only takes a 1 goal difference to win or lose a game, and you want that goal to be in your favor!\\n2-6. Follow all shots and crosses into the goal.\\nThis is especially important for younger players, as inexperienced defenders and goalies will make mistakes that lead to easy goals. When you or a teammate shoots, run after the ball towards goal, ready to quickly re-shoot any rebounds, deflections, or partial saves.\\nIt is very, very difficult to clear the ball on defense when facing your own goal. Make this job even harder and you'll pick up a few easy goals a season.\\n2-7. Come back to the midfield on defense, holding up the back defenders.\\nWait to receive the ball off a clearance or a punt. You're no good to your team on defense or offense if you just sit up top and wait. Come back to midfield to keep the defenders from settling the ball and playing easy crosses in without pressure. Most importantly, be ready to check or sprint on counter-attacks. If the ball is being crossed or cleared, it is your job to hold onto possession until your team gets into offensive position.\\n3. Adjusting Your Play Based on Forward Positioning\\n3-1. Tweak your strategy and runs depending on your team's offensive system.\\nNot all forwards can play with the same style. The biggest variable is how many other strikers you're playing with, as this greatly changes how you handle yourself. If you're the only one up top, you're going to want to stay high up on the defense, spreading the field for your team. If there are three strikers, you're necessarily going to have to come back on defense at times.\\nThe high forward, used to hold onto the middle of the field and create space, is often called a They are big targets who hold up the ball and create offensive space for others.\\nWing forwards, or are basically offensive outside midfielders. They must be excellent one-on-one dribblers with great speed and crossing ability.\\n often hold underneath a center forward who controls the ball with his/her back to goal. Their goal is to get the ball to a striker in a dangerous position, making the striker your fastest ball-handler and shooter.\\n3-2. Hold the space up field as far as the defense will allow.\\nAs the center striker, you need to create space for the rest of the team, so hold the off-sides line as deep as the defense will let you. When you get the ball, try to turn to face the goal, but know that this isn't necessary; you simply want to hold the ball as your teammates sprint up to support you. Your goal is to suck the defense in, forcing them to play you so that they open up oodles of space along the wings.\\nIf there are two center strikers, try staggering yourselves with one up higher and one sitting closer to the midfield. This opens up space for both of you to each sideline, as well as for dangerous combination play in the middle.\\n3-3. Control and direct the middle of the field quickly and efficiently.\\nAs a striker, you need to be looking for shots. Whether as part of a 2-person or 3-person system, striking forwards want to get the ball facing the goal whenever possible. Strikers are trying to create just enough space to get a shot off, punishing the defense for lapses and laziness. Your bread and butter is going to be quick, one-touch passes and one-two combinations, or throwing a quick scissors and ripping a shot with space. Don't stand around with the ball -- keep it moving and always look for shots, making 10-20 yard sprints through the defense for quick, slotted passes and shots.\\nShooting, even when you don't score, is useful. As defenses feel shots coming from further out, they will push up to prevent you from shooting more often. This often opens up space behind them for through passes and crosses.\\n3-4. Focus on quality crosses and dangerous diagonal runs in the winger position.\\nAttack the end line ruthlessly, driving down at defenders and forcing them to make tackles that lead to corners and deep throw-ins. Your goal is to get the ball down near the end line and then put it into the box, preferably as the defenders are running towards their own goal. Furthermore, keep your eye on the middle of the field. If the center defenders are getting lazy or seem to forget about you, a sharp diagonal run straight at goal will open you up for crosses, through balls, and shots.\\nAs soon as your team wins the ball, get out as wide as possible. This will stretch the defense considerably, making tons of space for you and others.\\nDepending on the team formation, a winger may be expected to play a lot more defense than most forwards. Be sure to coordinate this with your coach and outside backs.\\n3-5. Watch professional forwards.\\nNotice what they do without the ball. Next time you watch a professional game, pay attention to where the forward is when they're not touching the ball. Note how good forwards are always moving, which makes the defense constantly look up and readjust. As you watch more, pay attention to how the two or three forwards work together, holding their space and crisscrossing to manipulate the defenders into creating space.\\nWatch both teams' strikers. How does their movement differ?\\nWhat do the strikers do in different parts of the game? If a team is winning, they tend to sit back, whereas losing teams like to push strikers up further to create goal-scoring opportunities.\\nTips\\nDon't be quiet on the field. Constantly let your teammates know where you are on the field so that they can get you the ball with ease.\\nYour first touch is very important, so make it good.\\nIf you don't practice, you won't get any better. Hard training is the only way to success.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"In the game of soccer, forward is an extremely important position. To become a forward, you'll need to have speed, good footwork, a powerful shot, and a cunning soccer mind. While a striker only gets a few chances a game, you'll need to turn them into goals! To be a good soccer striker, start by training for the position. Then, learn how to read the game so you can adjust your play.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Training Effectively as a Forward\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to shoot quickly while still maintaining accuracy.\", \"描述\": \"The faster you can pull off a shot, the more deadly you'll be up top. You should work on a two-touch shot. Your first touch creates space to swing your leg, either to the side of a defender or as you receive the ball. The second touch is the shot itself. If you can take these two touch shots, you'll be able to push the ball to the side of a defender and fire off a shot before they can even react.\\nOnce you feel good on these quick shots, creating space and striking rapidly, work on it on the run, dribbling towards goal, taking a touch, and shooting.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice putting the ball on net immediately out of the air.\", \"描述\": \"Typically, this is a header on goal or a \\\"volley,\\\" which is when you strike the ball before it hits the ground. Difficult but essential, a great forward can redirect an aerial ball towards the goal without settling the ball, which gives the defense time to react. You can practice this easily with a friend hitting your crosses and corner kicks, but keep some things in mind.\\nFollow through towards your target. For headers, this means your shoulders will turn to face the goal. For kicks, the indicator is usually your hips, which will turn with the shot to face goal on accurate finishes.\\nThis skill is almost useless if you're standing still. Always jog, move, or attack the ball on the run, even in practice. It is rare to have time to stand still in a game with the ball approaching the box.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Focus on controlling the ball out of the air with your entire body.\", \"描述\": \"You will have to be good at controlling the ball from the air, which means bringing the ball from the air to the ground smoothly. This is because a lot of the game for a forward comes from long balls and aerial crosses. You want your touch to end with the ball about a foot in front of you so that your next touch can immediately pass, shoot, or dribble. Good ways to practice include:\\nJuggling is a great way to practice full body touch, but only if you challenge yourself. See how high you can get the ball and still maintain control.\\nHit long balls with a friend. Start about 20 yards away, and slowly get further and further. As you get better, pick up the speed between controlling and hitting the ball back.\\nHit against a wall, drilling shots or crosses at a hard surface and reacting quickly to trap the rebound.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice challenging defenders one on one.\", \"描述\": \"You must be able to get around them without help from teammates. Once you have the ball, you must be able to dribble around the defenders and to the goal by using a variety of \\\"moves\\\" such as the Maradona, the step-over, or the scissors. Some good dribble moves are shoulder feint and step over. Not all forwards need to play silky, technical soccer like Messi, but you need a few ways around a defender to make them step up and respect you instead of hanging back and waiting for you to pass.\\nGet a close friend or teammate and challenge them to 1v1 drills. Simply make a thin rectangle and alternate attacking and defending. Crossing the opposite end line with control of the ball is a \\\"goal.\\\"\\nYou don't always get to beat a defender straight up -- sometimes you have to shield and control the ball with your back to goal, too.\\nYou can work on moves by yourself. Set up a box and work on dribbling, cutting, and throwing moves at full speed, staying inside the box to work on control.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Develop both feet into dangerous weapons of scoring.\", \"描述\": \"The infamous Arjen Robben aside, there are few dangerous forwards who can only use one foot. Feeling comfortable on both your left and right foot greatly expands your toolkit, as good defenders will punish you if you only have one side of the field to use. Whenever doing drills, do them with both feet, and spend extra time developing your shooting and passing skills on your \\\"bad\\\" foot. It will never be as good as your dominant foot, but you'll give defenders fits if you can cut to the other direction and make a clean pass with your weak foot.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Reading the Game Offensively\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Watch for the shot at all times, staying hungry for a goal.\", \"描述\": \"A forward's number-one goal is to put the ball on target. Even if they don't score, shooting on target creates corners, deflections, and rebounds that lead to goals and put defenses under pressure. Your mindset should always be to create the space needed to pull a shoot off for either you or your teammates.\\nNote that you want your team to shoot, not just you. Some forwards will get lots of direct chances, others will feed their partner forwards with good chances and take only a few themselves.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dart, weave, and sprint into open space to create defensive chaos.\", \"描述\": \"A mobile striker is the most dangerous. Even if you don't get the ball every time, good forwards know that they need to keep the defense on their toes for 90 minutes, as this is when they make mistakes and reveal the sorts of gaps that create goals. When your team has the ball, look up for the open space and make a run.\\nAlways be on a light jog, or on the balls of your toes, to get the jump on defenders when space opens up. They'll be looking to close down space as you try to fill it.\\nKeep your eye on your other forward(s). Timing runs to weave and criss-cross with them will throw the defense for an enormous loop.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Time your approach to crosses so that you hit them near full speed.\", \"描述\": \"If you're simply standing in the box, waiting for the ball to arrive, you're incredibly easy to mark up. Instead, time your runs so that you get to the ball as it is arriving, allowing you to cut it out before the ball reaches a defender and get a running start for any jumping header. Keep your eye on the ball and reach it just as it becomes available to play and you'll win many more headers, volleys, and long balls.\\nThis is also the best strategy to avoid offside traps, letting you go from jogging to sprinting once the ball is played instead of trying to hit full speed from standing.\\nCurling runs are great for making time and space. Instead of sprinting into the box straight on, take a curving path as the ball is coming down the wings, then cut straight in once the ball is in the air. Your curling run lets you approach the box on the run while still letting you change directions quickly.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Check to the ball instead of always running away from it.\", \"描述\": \"Checking means running towards the teammate with the ball, opening up space and making the pass shorter. This is particularly important when working with another striker, as the space you just ran away from is now open for him if your defender follows your check. If you don't get the ball and a defender is on you still, keep moving. If you do get the ball, try to turn to face the goal -- greatly pressuring the defense.\\nAlways look over your shoulder quickly as you check. If you caught your defender sleeping you may have more time with the ball than you think.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Challenge the defense one on one when you have space to run.\", \"描述\": \"A striker can't be selfish, but they also can't be passive. You need to be able to run at a defender with the ball, throwing a move to beat him, sprinting around with a big touch, or sucking in the defense to make a last-second pass. Great forwards force the defense to react to them, which creates space for the rest of your team. The best times to attack are when you have the defense in motion, particularly as they track backward. Go at them, forcing them to make a decision.\\nThe wings are a good place to really challenge defenders. They usually have little support, and a turnover is much easier to win back with the sideline to your advantage.\\nDon't take on defenders if you're near the half-field unless you're sure you can beat them -- a turnover here is particularly dangerous.\\nEven if you lose the ball, no defender wants to be under pressure all game. They will start to break down and make mistakes. It only takes a 1 goal difference to win or lose a game, and you want that goal to be in your favor!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Follow all shots and crosses into the goal.\", \"描述\": \"This is especially important for younger players, as inexperienced defenders and goalies will make mistakes that lead to easy goals. When you or a teammate shoots, run after the ball towards goal, ready to quickly re-shoot any rebounds, deflections, or partial saves.\\nIt is very, very difficult to clear the ball on defense when facing your own goal. Make this job even harder and you'll pick up a few easy goals a season.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Come back to the midfield on defense, holding up the back defenders.\", \"描述\": \"Wait to receive the ball off a clearance or a punt. You're no good to your team on defense or offense if you just sit up top and wait. Come back to midfield to keep the defenders from settling the ball and playing easy crosses in without pressure. Most importantly, be ready to check or sprint on counter-attacks. If the ball is being crossed or cleared, it is your job to hold onto possession until your team gets into offensive position.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Adjusting Your Play Based on Forward Positioning\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tweak your strategy and runs depending on your team's offensive system.\", \"描述\": \"Not all forwards can play with the same style. The biggest variable is how many other strikers you're playing with, as this greatly changes how you handle yourself. If you're the only one up top, you're going to want to stay high up on the defense, spreading the field for your team. If there are three strikers, you're necessarily going to have to come back on defense at times.\\nThe high forward, used to hold onto the middle of the field and create space, is often called a They are big targets who hold up the ball and create offensive space for others.\\nWing forwards, or are basically offensive outside midfielders. They must be excellent one-on-one dribblers with great speed and crossing ability.\\n often hold underneath a center forward who controls the ball with his/her back to goal. Their goal is to get the ball to a striker in a dangerous position, making the striker your fastest ball-handler and shooter.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hold the space up field as far as the defense will allow.\", \"描述\": \"As the center striker, you need to create space for the rest of the team, so hold the off-sides line as deep as the defense will let you. When you get the ball, try to turn to face the goal, but know that this isn't necessary; you simply want to hold the ball as your teammates sprint up to support you. Your goal is to suck the defense in, forcing them to play you so that they open up oodles of space along the wings.\\nIf there are two center strikers, try staggering yourselves with one up higher and one sitting closer to the midfield. This opens up space for both of you to each sideline, as well as for dangerous combination play in the middle.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Control and direct the middle of the field quickly and efficiently.\", \"描述\": \"As a striker, you need to be looking for shots. Whether as part of a 2-person or 3-person system, striking forwards want to get the ball facing the goal whenever possible. Strikers are trying to create just enough space to get a shot off, punishing the defense for lapses and laziness. Your bread and butter is going to be quick, one-touch passes and one-two combinations, or throwing a quick scissors and ripping a shot with space. Don't stand around with the ball -- keep it moving and always look for shots, making 10-20 yard sprints through the defense for quick, slotted passes and shots.\\nShooting, even when you don't score, is useful. As defenses feel shots coming from further out, they will push up to prevent you from shooting more often. This often opens up space behind them for through passes and crosses.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Focus on quality crosses and dangerous diagonal runs in the winger position.\", \"描述\": \"Attack the end line ruthlessly, driving down at defenders and forcing them to make tackles that lead to corners and deep throw-ins. Your goal is to get the ball down near the end line and then put it into the box, preferably as the defenders are running towards their own goal. Furthermore, keep your eye on the middle of the field. If the center defenders are getting lazy or seem to forget about you, a sharp diagonal run straight at goal will open you up for crosses, through balls, and shots.\\nAs soon as your team wins the ball, get out as wide as possible. This will stretch the defense considerably, making tons of space for you and others.\\nDepending on the team formation, a winger may be expected to play a lot more defense than most forwards. Be sure to coordinate this with your coach and outside backs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Watch professional forwards.\", \"描述\": \"Notice what they do without the ball. Next time you watch a professional game, pay attention to where the forward is when they're not touching the ball. Note how good forwards are always moving, which makes the defense constantly look up and readjust. As you watch more, pay attention to how the two or three forwards work together, holding their space and crisscrossing to manipulate the defenders into creating space.\\nWatch both teams' strikers. How does their movement differ?\\nWhat do the strikers do in different parts of the game? If a team is winning, they tend to sit back, whereas losing teams like to push strikers up further to create goal-scoring opportunities.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't be quiet on the field. Constantly let your teammates know where you are on the field so that they can get you the ball with ease.\\n\", \"Your first touch is very important, so make it good.\\n\", \"If you don't practice, you won't get any better. Hard training is the only way to success.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Determining if Social Work is Right for You
1-1. Be sure you have the personality of a good social worker.
Social work can be a very demanding job. You are constantly interacting with people in need, and often despite your best efforts, you are unable to help them due to social factors or your clients’ own resistance. Those who succeed as social workers tend to share common personality traits:
– You must be caring and understanding of those who come to you for help.
– You must work through problems at your clients’ own speed.
– You must be there for your clients when they need you if you are going to earn their trust.
– Because you will often be dealing with a heavy caseload, the ability to prioritize and manage multiple projects efficiently is key. Giving yourself time for breaks also can help you feel less overstimulated.
– You will be dealing with topics that are difficult to talk about like abuse. More than just being a good listener, you need to be able to read between the lines to get at what your clients’ want to tell you, but are often afraid to say.
– Becoming too emotionally involved can both drain you and make you less effective. Even while being empathetic, you must maintain the emotional distance necessary to be effective.
– Continually overcoming setbacks is the nature of the job. Perseverance is vital.
– Social work is not always a 9-5 job. The best case workers have the flexibility to help their clients when they need them most.
– You will see the worst in humanity and face heart-rending problems every day. You must be resilient in order to last in the job. This means knowing how to take care of yourself and recharge your batteries when not working.
1-2. Realize that you cannot help all your clients.
People go into social work hoping to change the world and improve lives, but things rarely go as smoothly as that. You will have clients who have been mandated to see you and those who do not want to be there. You will have clients who miss more appointments than they attend. You will have clients who do not want to change. You will have mountains of paperwork that take up more of your time than your clients. Being a social worker means dealing with frustration, pushing disappointment aside, and being able to celebrate small successes.
– Don’t be afraid to tell them about your disappointments and frustrations; they no doubt have them too. Knowing you are not alone can help you deal with frustration.
– They might miss meetings. They might not do as you ask. They might even lie to you. Blaming them will not help you, or them. They are dealing with huge problems. Remind yourself of that every day. It is the problems to blame, not the clients.
– Of all the problems you face, some you have total control over solving (e.g. when you do your paperwork or how your write up your reports), some you have limited control over (e.g. your schedule), some will be totally out of your control (i.e. whether a client shows up), and some will be so confusing you can’t even figure out what the problem is (e.g. office politics; managerial incompetence). The key is to focus on the things you can control or influence, and to recognize you cannot control the rest and let it go.
1-3. Get experience in your chosen area as soon as possible.
There is no better way to see if social work is right for you than to actually do social work. You should get an internship or begin volunteering before or shortly after you start the education required to be a social worker.
2. Excelling and Surviving as a Social Worker
2-1. Get support.
Social work is a demanding job, and to excel you’ll need professional and social support. This support will both keep you sane and help to progress your career.
Join professional organizations such as the British Association of Social Workers or the National Association of Social Workers in the U.S. in order to take advantage of conferences, workshops, and mentoring.
Develop helping relationships with peer groups, spouses, or friends. Interpersonal relationships are key to helping social workers deal with their own distress.
2-2. Take care of yourself.
If you are interested in social work, you are probably an empathetic person, which means that many of your clients’ problems will impact you emotionally. Their disappointments and failures can all too easily feel like your own failures. It is important to make time for yourself – reading, laughing, being with your family – whatever you need to recharge so that you can face your clients’ problems anew. Self care is basically a requisite within the social work field, since you must take time for yourself when doing stressful work. Some clinically tested strategies of self-care include:
– The ability to effectively monitor one’s own condition has been cited as the number one trait of effective therapists. This means both using introspection and being attentive to interpersonal feedback, such as a family member or colleague noting that you look tired or are working longer hours.
(aka stimulus control) – Changing one’s environment is a proven way to impact one’s mood. There are a variety of steps one can take: get a comfortable chair; play calming music while writing up reports; put plants in your office; take time to talk to colleagues; don’t eat at your desk; etc.
(aka counter conditioning) – These are activities that replenish you physically and psychologically, and they are vital to success as a social worker. Typical activities include: reading or watching TV; working out; hobbies; vacations; meditation; worship; volunteer work; and keeping a diary.
2-3. Seek out personal therapy.
The psychological perils of social work are many: compassion fatigue, burnout, and unchecked counter transference (taking up your clients’ pain and trauma as your own) among them. Spending time with a therapist has been shown to help mitigate these problems, resulting in both an improved personal life and better professional development for social workers.
2-4. Set boundaries.
When facing people who are dealing with huge problems like abuse or addiction, there is an understandable temptation to pour more and more of your time into helping them. However, to avoid burning out and to maintain one’s own mental health, a social worker must learn to set boundaries both on the time they devote to each case and on the milestones they hope to achieve.
– Don’t try and fix a client's problems overnight. If you create a reasonable care plan with small intermediate goals, you will have a road map to stick to and be less likely to pour time into seeking an immediate solution.
– While some clients do require more work, treating one client differently than others is often a sign that your boundaries – both in terms of time and your emotional relationship with the client – are overextended.
– Always use your organization's process for communicating with clients. Allowing a client to contact you directly leaves you out of control of your work schedule and, if you are unable to respond when needed, may create a loss of trust. In the case of a crisis, your clients should be directed to the emergency services.
– Speaking regularly with your supervisor about your workload and particularly difficult cases can help manage your caseload and set boundaries. Know that working extra will not help your organization, it will only set unrealistic expectations for your fellow social workers.
2-5. Learn from assessments.
As a social worker, you should have your own work assessed on a regular basis. Instead of dreading these assessments, use them as a tool to improve the services you offer.
– If your manager offers vague advice with no clear indication of how to enact it (e.g. use your time more efficiently), ask him or her to clarify or provide a series of clear steps.
– Managers are more likely to give candid feedback if you ask for it. So ask a general question – “What two things do you think I can do to most improve my work?” – or ask about areas you think need strengthening, such as “Can you recommend a strategy for dealing with all this paperwork?”
– After any performance review, take time to write down your manager’s recommendations or areas where you are underperforming, and then make a step by step plan for how to enact the recommendations or improve your performance. Consult your manager or colleagues as needed in creating your plan.
2-6. Diversify your professional activities.
Doing the same social work over and over again can be depleting. Diversifying the type of work you do has been shown to improve both personal mental health and professional output.
Conduct multiple forms of therapy: individual; couples; group
Work with different types of problems
Work with different types of patients: ethnicity; age; social background; profession
Try teaching, researching, or learning alongside counseling
2-7. Continue learning.
Your degree qualifies you to be a social worker, but it definitely doesn’t teach you everything you will need to know. Good social workers keep learning as they go, whether that means pursuing another degree, taking courses or attending workshops, or doing research on your own as issues come up.
3. Navigating Cases
3-1. Gather information in order to assess your clients’ situation.
This is an ongoing process that takes place during interviews with the client. It requires actively listening to your client and being open to verbal and nonverbal information, as well as input from colleagues and other members of the client system. Common areas addressed during assessment include:
Motivating factors in seeking your services
Living arrangements, including the safety of the home environment
Vocational history
Cultural values and beliefs
Family composition and potential support offered by family
Barriers to the client’s use of community resources
Client’s coping styles
Client’s perception of the needed changes
3-2. Set priorities and goals.
Based on the assessment, work with the client to set achievable goals to address their situation. For a client who is homeless, such overarching goals might include overcoming substance abuse, getting a job, and then acquiring housing.
3-3. Implement a plan to achieve the client’s goals.
The plan should translate the client’s goals into specific objectives and the steps needed to achieve those objectives. Resources available to help the client should be noted, and a schedule created to measure progress. Such plans often include:
Education and coaching in life skills
Individual, couples, and group counseling and psychotherapy
Mediation and conflict resolution
Advocacy on behalf of clients
Resource information and referrals (often including financial, housing, legal, and medical resources)
Planning for the termination of services
3-4. Advocate for your clients.
Part of the job of a social worker is to advocate for his or her clients’ access to services, including securing funding, educating the public and lawmakers regarding the need for resources, and addressing service gaps and discrimination that present barriers to clients.
3-5. Work with other services and organizations.
To ensure the best outcome for your clients, it will usually be necessary to work closely with other organizations – hospitals, schools, doctors, work training centers, etc. – that provide services that are helpful to your client.
3-6. Keep a record of your case activities.
Keeping an up-to-date record of each case is important in allowing you to manage your caseload, in ensuring that another social worker will be able to easily step in if the case is transferred, in coordinating services for your clients, in arranging for service reimbursement, and in providing support for case work managers in the event of legal review.
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More than just being a good listener, you need to be able to read between the lines to get at what your clients’ want to tell you, but are often afraid to say.\\n – Becoming too emotionally involved can both drain you and make you less effective. Even while being empathetic, you must maintain the emotional distance necessary to be effective.\\n – Continually overcoming setbacks is the nature of the job. Perseverance is vital.\\n – Social work is not always a 9-5 job. The best case workers have the flexibility to help their clients when they need them most.\\n – You will see the worst in humanity and face heart-rending problems every day. You must be resilient in order to last in the job. This means knowing how to take care of yourself and recharge your batteries when not working.\\n1-2. Realize that you cannot help all your clients.\\nPeople go into social work hoping to change the world and improve lives, but things rarely go as smoothly as that. You will have clients who have been mandated to see you and those who do not want to be there. You will have clients who miss more appointments than they attend. You will have clients who do not want to change. You will have mountains of paperwork that take up more of your time than your clients. Being a social worker means dealing with frustration, pushing disappointment aside, and being able to celebrate small successes.\\n\\n – Don’t be afraid to tell them about your disappointments and frustrations; they no doubt have them too. Knowing you are not alone can help you deal with frustration.\\n\\n – They might miss meetings. They might not do as you ask. They might even lie to you. Blaming them will not help you, or them. They are dealing with huge problems. Remind yourself of that every day. It is the problems to blame, not the clients.\\n\\n – Of all the problems you face, some you have total control over solving (e.g. when you do your paperwork or how your write up your reports), some you have limited control over (e.g. your schedule), some will be totally out of your control (i.e. whether a client shows up), and some will be so confusing you can’t even figure out what the problem is (e.g. office politics; managerial incompetence). The key is to focus on the things you can control or influence, and to recognize you cannot control the rest and let it go.\\n1-3. Get experience in your chosen area as soon as possible.\\nThere is no better way to see if social work is right for you than to actually do social work. You should get an internship or begin volunteering before or shortly after you start the education required to be a social worker.\\n2. Excelling and Surviving as a Social Worker\\n2-1. Get support.\\nSocial work is a demanding job, and to excel you’ll need professional and social support. This support will both keep you sane and help to progress your career.\\nJoin professional organizations such as the British Association of Social Workers or the National Association of Social Workers in the U.S. in order to take advantage of conferences, workshops, and mentoring.\\nDevelop helping relationships with peer groups, spouses, or friends. Interpersonal relationships are key to helping social workers deal with their own distress.\\n2-2. Take care of yourself.\\nIf you are interested in social work, you are probably an empathetic person, which means that many of your clients’ problems will impact you emotionally. Their disappointments and failures can all too easily feel like your own failures. It is important to make time for yourself – reading, laughing, being with your family – whatever you need to recharge so that you can face your clients’ problems anew. Self care is basically a requisite within the social work field, since you must take time for yourself when doing stressful work. Some clinically tested strategies of self-care include:\\n\\n – The ability to effectively monitor one’s own condition has been cited as the number one trait of effective therapists. This means both using introspection and being attentive to interpersonal feedback, such as a family member or colleague noting that you look tired or are working longer hours.\\n (aka stimulus control) – Changing one’s environment is a proven way to impact one’s mood. There are a variety of steps one can take: get a comfortable chair; play calming music while writing up reports; put plants in your office; take time to talk to colleagues; don’t eat at your desk; etc.\\n (aka counter conditioning) – These are activities that replenish you physically and psychologically, and they are vital to success as a social worker. Typical activities include: reading or watching TV; working out; hobbies; vacations; meditation; worship; volunteer work; and keeping a diary.\\n2-3. Seek out personal therapy.\\nThe psychological perils of social work are many: compassion fatigue, burnout, and unchecked counter transference (taking up your clients’ pain and trauma as your own) among them. Spending time with a therapist has been shown to help mitigate these problems, resulting in both an improved personal life and better professional development for social workers.\\n2-4. Set boundaries.\\nWhen facing people who are dealing with huge problems like abuse or addiction, there is an understandable temptation to pour more and more of your time into helping them. However, to avoid burning out and to maintain one’s own mental health, a social worker must learn to set boundaries both on the time they devote to each case and on the milestones they hope to achieve.\\n\\n – Don’t try and fix a client's problems overnight. If you create a reasonable care plan with small intermediate goals, you will have a road map to stick to and be less likely to pour time into seeking an immediate solution.\\n – While some clients do require more work, treating one client differently than others is often a sign that your boundaries – both in terms of time and your emotional relationship with the client – are overextended.\\n – Always use your organization's process for communicating with clients. Allowing a client to contact you directly leaves you out of control of your work schedule and, if you are unable to respond when needed, may create a loss of trust. In the case of a crisis, your clients should be directed to the emergency services.\\n – Speaking regularly with your supervisor about your workload and particularly difficult cases can help manage your caseload and set boundaries. Know that working extra will not help your organization, it will only set unrealistic expectations for your fellow social workers.\\n2-5. Learn from assessments.\\nAs a social worker, you should have your own work assessed on a regular basis. Instead of dreading these assessments, use them as a tool to improve the services you offer.\\n\\n – If your manager offers vague advice with no clear indication of how to enact it (e.g. use your time more efficiently), ask him or her to clarify or provide a series of clear steps.\\n\\n – Managers are more likely to give candid feedback if you ask for it. So ask a general question – “What two things do you think I can do to most improve my work?” – or ask about areas you think need strengthening, such as “Can you recommend a strategy for dealing with all this paperwork?”\\n\\n – After any performance review, take time to write down your manager’s recommendations or areas where you are underperforming, and then make a step by step plan for how to enact the recommendations or improve your performance. Consult your manager or colleagues as needed in creating your plan.\\n2-6. Diversify your professional activities.\\nDoing the same social work over and over again can be depleting. Diversifying the type of work you do has been shown to improve both personal mental health and professional output.\\nConduct multiple forms of therapy: individual; couples; group\\nWork with different types of problems\\nWork with different types of patients: ethnicity; age; social background; profession\\nTry teaching, researching, or learning alongside counseling\\n2-7. Continue learning.\\nYour degree qualifies you to be a social worker, but it definitely doesn’t teach you everything you will need to know. Good social workers keep learning as they go, whether that means pursuing another degree, taking courses or attending workshops, or doing research on your own as issues come up.\\n3. Navigating Cases\\n3-1. Gather information in order to assess your clients’ situation.\\nThis is an ongoing process that takes place during interviews with the client. It requires actively listening to your client and being open to verbal and nonverbal information, as well as input from colleagues and other members of the client system. Common areas addressed during assessment include:\\nMotivating factors in seeking your services\\nLiving arrangements, including the safety of the home environment\\nVocational history\\nCultural values and beliefs\\nFamily composition and potential support offered by family\\nBarriers to the client’s use of community resources\\nClient’s coping styles\\nClient’s perception of the needed changes\\n3-2. Set priorities and goals.\\nBased on the assessment, work with the client to set achievable goals to address their situation. For a client who is homeless, such overarching goals might include overcoming substance abuse, getting a job, and then acquiring housing.\\n3-3. Implement a plan to achieve the client’s goals.\\nThe plan should translate the client’s goals into specific objectives and the steps needed to achieve those objectives. Resources available to help the client should be noted, and a schedule created to measure progress. Such plans often include:\\nEducation and coaching in life skills\\nIndividual, couples, and group counseling and psychotherapy\\nMediation and conflict resolution\\nAdvocacy on behalf of clients\\nResource information and referrals (often including financial, housing, legal, and medical resources)\\nPlanning for the termination of services\\n3-4. Advocate for your clients.\\nPart of the job of a social worker is to advocate for his or her clients’ access to services, including securing funding, educating the public and lawmakers regarding the need for resources, and addressing service gaps and discrimination that present barriers to clients.\\n3-5. Work with other services and organizations.\\nTo ensure the best outcome for your clients, it will usually be necessary to work closely with other organizations – hospitals, schools, doctors, work training centers, etc. – that provide services that are helpful to your client.\\n3-6. Keep a record of your case activities.\\nKeeping an up-to-date record of each case is important in allowing you to manage your caseload, in ensuring that another social worker will be able to easily step in if the case is transferred, in coordinating services for your clients, in arranging for service reimbursement, and in providing support for case work managers in the event of legal review.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Social workers work in government agencies, hospitals, schools, and private practices to help people in need. They provide a variety of services, from helping people deal with abuse or overcome substance abuse, to aiding them to obtain housing, medical care, or education, to providing counseling or psychotherapy. They can also work to improve overall social conditions in a community. It is not an easy job. In the words of one therapist, “the practitioner who denies that clinical work is grueling and demanding is… mendacious, deluded, or incompetent.” Accordingly, the most important parts of being a good social worker are making sure you are well-suited to the rigors of the job and taking proper care of yourself.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Determining if Social Work is Right for You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be sure you have the personality of a good social worker.\", \"描述\": \"Social work can be a very demanding job. 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1. Showing Your Love
1-1. Spend time with your parents.
One of the best ways to show your parents how much you love them is to simply spend time with them. Though you may feel like you have a lot going on, between school, friends, and your personal life, you should always spend quality time with your parents as often as you can. This can mean having dinner with them every night, having family board game night, watching TV with your folks, or just hanging out around the house instead of running off to hang out with your friends. You’ll never know how much the time you spend with your parents means to them. Moms especially love it when their son will love them.
When you do spend time with them, don’t roll your eyes or act like it’s mandatory. Instead, you should look forward to the special time you have together.
Have routine nights where you spend time together, such as Sundays or Monday evenings, so you don’t have to try to work the time into your busy schedule.
1-2. Tell your parents what’s going on in your life.
Your parents love you and want to know what’s going on in your life. While they may not need to know all of the daily friend drama in your social circle or the ins and outs of the baseball game you saw with your friends, they would love to know what’s on your mind, from your struggles with your studies to any big problems you’re having with your friends. They really do care, and even if they can’t always help, they’d just like to know what’s happening. Your parents will feel upset if they’re completely shut out of your life.
Try to leave your bedroom door open as often as you can, so you welcome your parents in to have a conversation with you when they want to. Don’t make them feel like you want nothing to do with them.
Don’t be afraid to ask for their advice. Believe it or not, your parents were once your age, and they’ve gone through the same struggles that you’re going through. They’ll appreciate that you value their opinions, and you may learn a lot in the process.
1-3. Express gratitude.
It’s easy to take your parents for granted. After all, there was a time when they did absolutely everything for you, from bathing you to keeping you fed and well-rested. As you grow older, it can feel natural for you to forget the fact that it takes your parent's time and effort to take care of you, and you have to remember to thank them for all that they do. Whether you verbally say “thank you” every time your parents do something kind for you, write them thank you cards or letters, call them, or do them favors in return, it’s important to let your parents know how much you appreciate them.
Don’t think that it’s pointless for you to write your parents a card or a letter just because you live in the same house. They’ll love the gesture.
When you say “thank you,” look into your parents’ eyes to show that you really mean it and that you’re not just saying it because you feel obligated to say it.
1-4. Teach your parents things.
Your parents may not be incredibly tech-savvy and may not know some of the things going on in the modern world. If your mom wants to know how to work her new iPhone or your dad wants to start a Facebook account, be there to help your parents learn how to navigate some of these modern challenges. Try not to laugh at them or make them feel inadequate for not knowing these things, and instead, be there to help them learn new skills, remembering all the times they have taught you how to do something.
Teaching them things will make your relationship feel less one-sided. You won’t feel like you always have to learn from them, and your time together may feel more interesting.
When you do help them, don’t sigh or complain about it, and show them that you’re happy to help out.
1-5. Do bonding activities with both of your parents.
In addition to spending quality time with your parents around the house, you can also show you care by doing a variety of bonding activities with your parents. These can include going fishing, hiking, or camping with your dad, or going for walks, going out to the movies, or having a nice meal with your mother. Don’t think that all son activities have to be done with your father, and make sure you spend an equal amount of time bonding with your mom, whether you’re cooking, walking your dog together, or spending an afternoon at the library with her.
Go on a camping trip with your family a few times a year.
Spend the holiday season cooking together.
Do a housework project with your mom or dad, such as tiling floors, glazing furniture, or even building a bookshelf.
Find a TV show that you and your parents can watch and enjoy together and make it part of your weekly routine.
Try volunteering at a local park or library with your parents.
Go to watch your favorite sports team with your mom or dad.
1-6. Don’t turn your parents against each other.
If you want to be a good son, then you should help keep your parents’ relationship strong (if your parents are still together). Relationships are difficult enough as it is, and you shouldn’t try to drive a wedge between your parents. Accept your parents’ rules as a unified mandate, instead of trying to get the more lenient parents to let you get what you want. Work to keep their relationship strong; if nothing else, it’ll make you happier to see your parents happy together.
If you tell your mom, “But dad says it’s okay!” when she won’t let you do something, then you’re only creating friction between your parents by pitting them against each other.
1-7. Take the time to listen.
You may think that your relationship with your parents is one-sided and that they should listen to you and your problems and offer advice and then call it a day. In fact, sometimes your parents may also need you to listen to them, whether they’re struggling with one of your siblings or having a difficult time at work or with your grandparents. They may not even have a problem, but may just want to share something interesting that happened at work or something they read. The important thing is that you’re there to listen instead of acting like you are too busy or only half-listening and checking your phone every five minutes. Give them the time they need to tell you what’s on their mind; they more than deserve it.
When your parents are talking to you, give them your full attention. Don’t shift around on your feet or look longingly towards your bedroom. Don’t ever make them feel like you have better things to do than to talk to them.
2. Developing Strong Character
2-1. Help out around the house without being asked.
You may have a set list of chores to do or there may just be a general understanding that you will help your parents out when they need it. Whatever the rules are in your own household, you should take the initiative and help out your folks even before they ask for it. Whether this means washing your dishes, doing your own laundry, mowing the lawn, or picking up groceries, you should make a point of helping out without being forced to or without expecting a reward, because that is one of your duties as a son.
The least you can do is to always clean up after yourself, whether this means doing your own laundry or dishes or keeping your room clean. But after that, you should go above and beyond and help scrub the bathroom floor, take out the trash, or even clean out the fridge.
2-2. Do as well in school as you can.
Your parents don’t expect you to be a rocket scientist or to get into Stanford. However, they would be happy if you respected your teachers, did your homework, and kept your grades up to the best of your ability. If you need help in school, ask your teachers or your parents for help, and make studying a priority over socializing. Not only will this set you on a path to succeed in your future endeavors, but it will also make life much easier for your parents.
The best you can do is to respect your learning institution instead of playing hooky or complaining about it all the time. Your parents shouldn’t have to force you to see the value of your education.
2-3. Establish your independence.
As you grow older, you’ll find that you can’t depend on your parents to do everything for you. Your parents will appreciate that you’re independent and willing to do things on your own — though they’ll still want to love and care for you, of course. Once you’re in the neighborhood of 10-12 years old, you can start thinking about cleaning up after yourself, not asking your mom’s help with basic tasks like laundry or washing dishes, and starting to think for yourself a bit more. This will help you develop strong character and will make you a better son.
Your parents will appreciate it if you learn to do things on your own, from making your own meals to cleaning up on your own initiative. Your foresight will help them out a lot.
Don’t be afraid to be different from your parents. They don’t expect you to be a clone of them.
2-4. Be kind to your siblings.
One of the best things you can do to be a good son and a good brother is to be kind to your siblings. It’s not always easy to get along with your siblings, whether they are older or younger, but you should try to develop relationships with them that are encouraging and non-competitive. This will not only help you be a good role model to your siblings, but it will help your parents out more than you know.
You can also be a good son by helping your siblings do their schoolwork, clean up, or learn basic skills. This will give your parents some more time to relax.
2-5. Know when to agree to disagree.
As you grow older and develop your own personality and ideals, you may find that you and your parents fundamentally disagree about many things. Maybe your parents are devout Catholics while you struggle to believe in a higher power. Maybe your parents are conservative while you identify as a liberal. The important thing to keep in mind is not that you have to agree with everything your parents believe, but that you have to know how to respectfully disagree with them instead of starting a fight over every little difference you may have.
If your parents want you to do something you don’t want to do, such as go to church, try to explain why it’s not the path for you. Don’t just outright refuse, but make a point of staying calm while you explain your own beliefs. If your parents won’t budge, find a way to keep things civil and even friendly and to avoid topics that will cause you to fight.
2-6. Learn to see your parents as people.
As you grow older, you should begin to see your parents as people who are more than just “Mom” and “Dad.” They have busy lives, friendships, relationships with their own parents, careers that they may or may not be happy with, and at least one child to take care of. Take some time to consider how busy and overwhelming life can be for your parents, and consider how certain difficult situations may make them feel before you start an argument or protest too much.
It takes character to be able to step into someone else’s shoes. The next time you have a fight with one of your parents, try to see the situation from his or her perspective to see if it gives you a better understanding of why they disagree with you. This can help strengthen your relationship and will give you a deeper understanding of who your parents really are.
To see them as people, you can also ask them questions about their friends, their job, their childhood, or anything else that will shed some light on who they are.
2-7. Apologize when you’ve made a mistake.
It’s okay to make mistakes as a son, and your parents won’t expect perfection from you. However, they will expect you to be accountable for your mistakes, and the best thing you can really do is to apologize when you’ve made a mistake. If you’ve done something wrong, no matter how big or small, it’s important to sit your parents down, look them in the eyes, and tell them that you’ve really messed up. It’s also important that you make a point of not repeating the mistake again.
Make sure that they know you really mean it, and that you’re not just saying it so they’ll stop being mad at you.
If you’ve upset one of your siblings, it’s just as important to apologize to them as well.
3. Being a Good Son as an Adult
3-1. Communicate with your parents as often as you can.
Once you move out of the home, whether you’re in college or living in another state for a new job, it’s important to stay in touch with your parents. Call them at least once or a few days a week, send them emails when you think of them, and make a point to visit home for holidays, long weekends, or just as often as you’re able. They’ll appreciate the time you’re giving them and will feel loved and cared for because of the effort you make to see them.
Remember anniversaries and birthdays. It’s important to send your parents birthday cards or gifts on their anniversaries or on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day (if your family celebrates it). This shows them that they’re on your mind even when you’re apart.
3-2. Be happy — and reassure your parents when you’re not.
Studies show that parents are the happiest when their own adult children are happy in their lives. This doesn’t mean you have to have a perfect life or that you should feel bad if things have taken a bad turn for you, but it does mean that you should work to live a meaningful and fulfilling life. If every time you talk to your parents, all you do is complain about your job, romantic life, or living situation, then they will begin to think that they have failed you by giving you a bad life. Talk to them about the good things in your life and sugar-coat the problems you’re facing, whenever you can, as long as you don’t feel like you’re being dishonest.
With this in mind, know that it’s much more important to your parents that you’re happy than if you make a six-figure salary, live in a posh neighborhood, or are dating the most beautiful woman in the city. It’s more important that you do the best you can with what you have, instead of striving for some impossible-to-reach version of happiness.
3-3. Ask for and accept help when you need it.
You may feel like your parents will be disappointed if you ask for financial, or even emotional support as an adult, but studies actually show that parents are happy to provide support to their children. They’ll like the fact that they can still be useful to you and you shouldn’t be ashamed to ask for help once in a while. This will keep your relationship strong and will allow you to grow up, too.
Though it’s important to be independent of your parents as you become an adult and develop your own views about the world and follow your path, you can get some help from them once in a while.
3-4. Don’t try to parent your parents.
As you get older, you may have the temptation to tell your parents how to live their lives. While they may need your support as they get older, especially if they have trouble taking care of themselves, you should still try not to condescend to them or make them feel like they are helpless on their own. Give them the help they need without talking down to them or acting like they have no agency, and they will love you for it.
Avoid condescending to them, nagging them, or giving them a hard time for doing something their own way. Even if your way is quicker or more efficient, they may want to stick to their old routines, and you can’t hold that against them.
Be patient with them. As they get older, it may take them longer to do things than it used to, but that doesn’t mean you should get frustrated.
3-5. Treat them as fellow adults.
Another thing you can do to keep your relationship strong as you grow older is to treat your parents like they are fellow adults, instead of always thinking of them in the “Mom” or “Dad” role. This can help you discuss topics like finances or child-rearing on an even playing field, and may lead you to get some great advice. Though it’s important not to condescend to your parents when you feel like you need to take care of them, seeing them as fellow adults can help add a dynamic element to your relationship.
If you see them as fellow adults, you’ll be able to be honest with them instead of just telling them what you think they want to hear from a model son. They’ll appreciate your candor.
Tips
Think before you talk! Every single word coming from your mouth affects them. (These are your parents we are talking about), so be careful.
Hugging your parents when they come back from the office and when you wake up in the morning will help to build a very strong bond.
Do favors for your parents here and there. They will appreciate it!
Warnings
Never curse your parent.
Try not to lie to your parents.
Never try to prove your parents wrong.
If your parents are wrong, don't correct them immediately.
Never try to be too bossy over your parents.
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Instead, you should look forward to the special time you have together.\\nHave routine nights where you spend time together, such as Sundays or Monday evenings, so you don’t have to try to work the time into your busy schedule.\\n1-2. Tell your parents what’s going on in your life.\\nYour parents love you and want to know what’s going on in your life. While they may not need to know all of the daily friend drama in your social circle or the ins and outs of the baseball game you saw with your friends, they would love to know what’s on your mind, from your struggles with your studies to any big problems you’re having with your friends. They really do care, and even if they can’t always help, they’d just like to know what’s happening. Your parents will feel upset if they’re completely shut out of your life.\\nTry to leave your bedroom door open as often as you can, so you welcome your parents in to have a conversation with you when they want to. Don’t make them feel like you want nothing to do with them.\\nDon’t be afraid to ask for their advice. Believe it or not, your parents were once your age, and they’ve gone through the same struggles that you’re going through. They’ll appreciate that you value their opinions, and you may learn a lot in the process.\\n1-3. Express gratitude.\\nIt’s easy to take your parents for granted. After all, there was a time when they did absolutely everything for you, from bathing you to keeping you fed and well-rested. As you grow older, it can feel natural for you to forget the fact that it takes your parent's time and effort to take care of you, and you have to remember to thank them for all that they do. Whether you verbally say “thank you” every time your parents do something kind for you, write them thank you cards or letters, call them, or do them favors in return, it’s important to let your parents know how much you appreciate them.\\nDon’t think that it’s pointless for you to write your parents a card or a letter just because you live in the same house. They’ll love the gesture.\\nWhen you say “thank you,” look into your parents’ eyes to show that you really mean it and that you’re not just saying it because you feel obligated to say it.\\n1-4. Teach your parents things.\\nYour parents may not be incredibly tech-savvy and may not know some of the things going on in the modern world. If your mom wants to know how to work her new iPhone or your dad wants to start a Facebook account, be there to help your parents learn how to navigate some of these modern challenges. Try not to laugh at them or make them feel inadequate for not knowing these things, and instead, be there to help them learn new skills, remembering all the times they have taught you how to do something.\\nTeaching them things will make your relationship feel less one-sided. You won’t feel like you always have to learn from them, and your time together may feel more interesting.\\nWhen you do help them, don’t sigh or complain about it, and show them that you’re happy to help out.\\n1-5. Do bonding activities with both of your parents.\\nIn addition to spending quality time with your parents around the house, you can also show you care by doing a variety of bonding activities with your parents. These can include going fishing, hiking, or camping with your dad, or going for walks, going out to the movies, or having a nice meal with your mother. Don’t think that all son activities have to be done with your father, and make sure you spend an equal amount of time bonding with your mom, whether you’re cooking, walking your dog together, or spending an afternoon at the library with her.\\nGo on a camping trip with your family a few times a year.\\nSpend the holiday season cooking together.\\nDo a housework project with your mom or dad, such as tiling floors, glazing furniture, or even building a bookshelf.\\nFind a TV show that you and your parents can watch and enjoy together and make it part of your weekly routine.\\nTry volunteering at a local park or library with your parents.\\nGo to watch your favorite sports team with your mom or dad.\\n1-6. Don’t turn your parents against each other.\\nIf you want to be a good son, then you should help keep your parents’ relationship strong (if your parents are still together). Relationships are difficult enough as it is, and you shouldn’t try to drive a wedge between your parents. Accept your parents’ rules as a unified mandate, instead of trying to get the more lenient parents to let you get what you want. Work to keep their relationship strong; if nothing else, it’ll make you happier to see your parents happy together.\\nIf you tell your mom, “But dad says it’s okay!” when she won’t let you do something, then you’re only creating friction between your parents by pitting them against each other.\\n1-7. Take the time to listen.\\nYou may think that your relationship with your parents is one-sided and that they should listen to you and your problems and offer advice and then call it a day. In fact, sometimes your parents may also need you to listen to them, whether they’re struggling with one of your siblings or having a difficult time at work or with your grandparents. They may not even have a problem, but may just want to share something interesting that happened at work or something they read. The important thing is that you’re there to listen instead of acting like you are too busy or only half-listening and checking your phone every five minutes. Give them the time they need to tell you what’s on their mind; they more than deserve it.\\nWhen your parents are talking to you, give them your full attention. Don’t shift around on your feet or look longingly towards your bedroom. Don’t ever make them feel like you have better things to do than to talk to them.\\n2. Developing Strong Character\\n2-1. Help out around the house without being asked.\\nYou may have a set list of chores to do or there may just be a general understanding that you will help your parents out when they need it. Whatever the rules are in your own household, you should take the initiative and help out your folks even before they ask for it. Whether this means washing your dishes, doing your own laundry, mowing the lawn, or picking up groceries, you should make a point of helping out without being forced to or without expecting a reward, because that is one of your duties as a son.\\nThe least you can do is to always clean up after yourself, whether this means doing your own laundry or dishes or keeping your room clean. But after that, you should go above and beyond and help scrub the bathroom floor, take out the trash, or even clean out the fridge.\\n2-2. Do as well in school as you can.\\nYour parents don’t expect you to be a rocket scientist or to get into Stanford. However, they would be happy if you respected your teachers, did your homework, and kept your grades up to the best of your ability. If you need help in school, ask your teachers or your parents for help, and make studying a priority over socializing. Not only will this set you on a path to succeed in your future endeavors, but it will also make life much easier for your parents.\\nThe best you can do is to respect your learning institution instead of playing hooky or complaining about it all the time. Your parents shouldn’t have to force you to see the value of your education.\\n2-3. Establish your independence.\\nAs you grow older, you’ll find that you can’t depend on your parents to do everything for you. Your parents will appreciate that you’re independent and willing to do things on your own — though they’ll still want to love and care for you, of course. Once you’re in the neighborhood of 10-12 years old, you can start thinking about cleaning up after yourself, not asking your mom’s help with basic tasks like laundry or washing dishes, and starting to think for yourself a bit more. This will help you develop strong character and will make you a better son.\\nYour parents will appreciate it if you learn to do things on your own, from making your own meals to cleaning up on your own initiative. Your foresight will help them out a lot.\\nDon’t be afraid to be different from your parents. They don’t expect you to be a clone of them.\\n2-4. Be kind to your siblings.\\nOne of the best things you can do to be a good son and a good brother is to be kind to your siblings. It’s not always easy to get along with your siblings, whether they are older or younger, but you should try to develop relationships with them that are encouraging and non-competitive. This will not only help you be a good role model to your siblings, but it will help your parents out more than you know.\\nYou can also be a good son by helping your siblings do their schoolwork, clean up, or learn basic skills. This will give your parents some more time to relax.\\n2-5. Know when to agree to disagree.\\nAs you grow older and develop your own personality and ideals, you may find that you and your parents fundamentally disagree about many things. Maybe your parents are devout Catholics while you struggle to believe in a higher power. Maybe your parents are conservative while you identify as a liberal. The important thing to keep in mind is not that you have to agree with everything your parents believe, but that you have to know how to respectfully disagree with them instead of starting a fight over every little difference you may have.\\nIf your parents want you to do something you don’t want to do, such as go to church, try to explain why it’s not the path for you. Don’t just outright refuse, but make a point of staying calm while you explain your own beliefs. If your parents won’t budge, find a way to keep things civil and even friendly and to avoid topics that will cause you to fight.\\n2-6. Learn to see your parents as people.\\nAs you grow older, you should begin to see your parents as people who are more than just “Mom” and “Dad.” They have busy lives, friendships, relationships with their own parents, careers that they may or may not be happy with, and at least one child to take care of. Take some time to consider how busy and overwhelming life can be for your parents, and consider how certain difficult situations may make them feel before you start an argument or protest too much.\\nIt takes character to be able to step into someone else’s shoes. The next time you have a fight with one of your parents, try to see the situation from his or her perspective to see if it gives you a better understanding of why they disagree with you. This can help strengthen your relationship and will give you a deeper understanding of who your parents really are.\\nTo see them as people, you can also ask them questions about their friends, their job, their childhood, or anything else that will shed some light on who they are.\\n2-7. Apologize when you’ve made a mistake.\\nIt’s okay to make mistakes as a son, and your parents won’t expect perfection from you. However, they will expect you to be accountable for your mistakes, and the best thing you can really do is to apologize when you’ve made a mistake. If you’ve done something wrong, no matter how big or small, it’s important to sit your parents down, look them in the eyes, and tell them that you’ve really messed up. It’s also important that you make a point of not repeating the mistake again.\\nMake sure that they know you really mean it, and that you’re not just saying it so they’ll stop being mad at you.\\nIf you’ve upset one of your siblings, it’s just as important to apologize to them as well.\\n3. Being a Good Son as an Adult\\n3-1. Communicate with your parents as often as you can.\\nOnce you move out of the home, whether you’re in college or living in another state for a new job, it’s important to stay in touch with your parents. Call them at least once or a few days a week, send them emails when you think of them, and make a point to visit home for holidays, long weekends, or just as often as you’re able. They’ll appreciate the time you’re giving them and will feel loved and cared for because of the effort you make to see them.\\nRemember anniversaries and birthdays. It’s important to send your parents birthday cards or gifts on their anniversaries or on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day (if your family celebrates it). This shows them that they’re on your mind even when you’re apart.\\n3-2. Be happy — and reassure your parents when you’re not.\\nStudies show that parents are the happiest when their own adult children are happy in their lives. This doesn’t mean you have to have a perfect life or that you should feel bad if things have taken a bad turn for you, but it does mean that you should work to live a meaningful and fulfilling life. If every time you talk to your parents, all you do is complain about your job, romantic life, or living situation, then they will begin to think that they have failed you by giving you a bad life. Talk to them about the good things in your life and sugar-coat the problems you’re facing, whenever you can, as long as you don’t feel like you’re being dishonest.\\nWith this in mind, know that it’s much more important to your parents that you’re happy than if you make a six-figure salary, live in a posh neighborhood, or are dating the most beautiful woman in the city. It’s more important that you do the best you can with what you have, instead of striving for some impossible-to-reach version of happiness.\\n3-3. Ask for and accept help when you need it.\\nYou may feel like your parents will be disappointed if you ask for financial, or even emotional support as an adult, but studies actually show that parents are happy to provide support to their children. They’ll like the fact that they can still be useful to you and you shouldn’t be ashamed to ask for help once in a while. This will keep your relationship strong and will allow you to grow up, too.\\nThough it’s important to be independent of your parents as you become an adult and develop your own views about the world and follow your path, you can get some help from them once in a while.\\n3-4. Don’t try to parent your parents.\\nAs you get older, you may have the temptation to tell your parents how to live their lives. While they may need your support as they get older, especially if they have trouble taking care of themselves, you should still try not to condescend to them or make them feel like they are helpless on their own. Give them the help they need without talking down to them or acting like they have no agency, and they will love you for it.\\nAvoid condescending to them, nagging them, or giving them a hard time for doing something their own way. Even if your way is quicker or more efficient, they may want to stick to their old routines, and you can’t hold that against them.\\nBe patient with them. As they get older, it may take them longer to do things than it used to, but that doesn’t mean you should get frustrated.\\n3-5. Treat them as fellow adults.\\nAnother thing you can do to keep your relationship strong as you grow older is to treat your parents like they are fellow adults, instead of always thinking of them in the “Mom” or “Dad” role. This can help you discuss topics like finances or child-rearing on an even playing field, and may lead you to get some great advice. Though it’s important not to condescend to your parents when you feel like you need to take care of them, seeing them as fellow adults can help add a dynamic element to your relationship.\\nIf you see them as fellow adults, you’ll be able to be honest with them instead of just telling them what you think they want to hear from a model son. They’ll appreciate your candor.\\nTips\\nThink before you talk! Every single word coming from your mouth affects them. (These are your parents we are talking about), so be careful.\\nHugging your parents when they come back from the office and when you wake up in the morning will help to build a very strong bond.\\nDo favors for your parents here and there. They will appreciate it!\\nWarnings\\nNever curse your parent.\\nTry not to lie to your parents.\\nNever try to prove your parents wrong.\\nIf your parents are wrong, don't correct them immediately.\\nNever try to be too bossy over your parents.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It’s not always easy to be a good son. Sometimes, you’ve made a mistake and can’t find a way to fix it. Other times, you fundamentally disagree with your parents and don’t know how to approach them without starting a fight. The most important thing to remember is that, while being a son has its challenges, so does parenthood, and the best thing you can do is to give your parents your love and support. At the end of the day, the thing that will please your parents the most is to see their son growing into a happy, responsible adult.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Showing Your Love\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spend time with your parents.\", \"描述\": \"One of the best ways to show your parents how much you love them is to simply spend time with them. Though you may feel like you have a lot going on, between school, friends, and your personal life, you should always spend quality time with your parents as often as you can. This can mean having dinner with them every night, having family board game night, watching TV with your folks, or just hanging out around the house instead of running off to hang out with your friends. You’ll never know how much the time you spend with your parents means to them. Moms especially love it when their son will love them. \\nWhen you do spend time with them, don’t roll your eyes or act like it’s mandatory. Instead, you should look forward to the special time you have together.\\nHave routine nights where you spend time together, such as Sundays or Monday evenings, so you don’t have to try to work the time into your busy schedule.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tell your parents what’s going on in your life.\", \"描述\": \"Your parents love you and want to know what’s going on in your life. While they may not need to know all of the daily friend drama in your social circle or the ins and outs of the baseball game you saw with your friends, they would love to know what’s on your mind, from your struggles with your studies to any big problems you’re having with your friends. They really do care, and even if they can’t always help, they’d just like to know what’s happening. Your parents will feel upset if they’re completely shut out of your life.\\nTry to leave your bedroom door open as often as you can, so you welcome your parents in to have a conversation with you when they want to. Don’t make them feel like you want nothing to do with them.\\nDon’t be afraid to ask for their advice. Believe it or not, your parents were once your age, and they’ve gone through the same struggles that you’re going through. They’ll appreciate that you value their opinions, and you may learn a lot in the process.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Express gratitude.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to take your parents for granted. After all, there was a time when they did absolutely everything for you, from bathing you to keeping you fed and well-rested. As you grow older, it can feel natural for you to forget the fact that it takes your parent's time and effort to take care of you, and you have to remember to thank them for all that they do. Whether you verbally say “thank you” every time your parents do something kind for you, write them thank you cards or letters, call them, or do them favors in return, it’s important to let your parents know how much you appreciate them.\\nDon’t think that it’s pointless for you to write your parents a card or a letter just because you live in the same house. They’ll love the gesture.\\nWhen you say “thank you,” look into your parents’ eyes to show that you really mean it and that you’re not just saying it because you feel obligated to say it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Teach your parents things.\", \"描述\": \"Your parents may not be incredibly tech-savvy and may not know some of the things going on in the modern world. If your mom wants to know how to work her new iPhone or your dad wants to start a Facebook account, be there to help your parents learn how to navigate some of these modern challenges. Try not to laugh at them or make them feel inadequate for not knowing these things, and instead, be there to help them learn new skills, remembering all the times they have taught you how to do something.\\nTeaching them things will make your relationship feel less one-sided. You won’t feel like you always have to learn from them, and your time together may feel more interesting.\\nWhen you do help them, don’t sigh or complain about it, and show them that you’re happy to help out.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Do bonding activities with both of your parents.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to spending quality time with your parents around the house, you can also show you care by doing a variety of bonding activities with your parents. These can include going fishing, hiking, or camping with your dad, or going for walks, going out to the movies, or having a nice meal with your mother. Don’t think that all son activities have to be done with your father, and make sure you spend an equal amount of time bonding with your mom, whether you’re cooking, walking your dog together, or spending an afternoon at the library with her.\\nGo on a camping trip with your family a few times a year.\\nSpend the holiday season cooking together.\\nDo a housework project with your mom or dad, such as tiling floors, glazing furniture, or even building a bookshelf.\\nFind a TV show that you and your parents can watch and enjoy together and make it part of your weekly routine.\\nTry volunteering at a local park or library with your parents.\\nGo to watch your favorite sports team with your mom or dad.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don’t turn your parents against each other.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be a good son, then you should help keep your parents’ relationship strong (if your parents are still together). Relationships are difficult enough as it is, and you shouldn’t try to drive a wedge between your parents. Accept your parents’ rules as a unified mandate, instead of trying to get the more lenient parents to let you get what you want. Work to keep their relationship strong; if nothing else, it’ll make you happier to see your parents happy together.\\nIf you tell your mom, “But dad says it’s okay!” when she won’t let you do something, then you’re only creating friction between your parents by pitting them against each other.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take the time to listen.\", \"描述\": \"You may think that your relationship with your parents is one-sided and that they should listen to you and your problems and offer advice and then call it a day. In fact, sometimes your parents may also need you to listen to them, whether they’re struggling with one of your siblings or having a difficult time at work or with your grandparents. They may not even have a problem, but may just want to share something interesting that happened at work or something they read. The important thing is that you’re there to listen instead of acting like you are too busy or only half-listening and checking your phone every five minutes. Give them the time they need to tell you what’s on their mind; they more than deserve it.\\nWhen your parents are talking to you, give them your full attention. Don’t shift around on your feet or look longingly towards your bedroom. Don’t ever make them feel like you have better things to do than to talk to them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing Strong Character\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help out around the house without being asked.\", \"描述\": \"You may have a set list of chores to do or there may just be a general understanding that you will help your parents out when they need it. Whatever the rules are in your own household, you should take the initiative and help out your folks even before they ask for it. Whether this means washing your dishes, doing your own laundry, mowing the lawn, or picking up groceries, you should make a point of helping out without being forced to or without expecting a reward, because that is one of your duties as a son.\\nThe least you can do is to always clean up after yourself, whether this means doing your own laundry or dishes or keeping your room clean. But after that, you should go above and beyond and help scrub the bathroom floor, take out the trash, or even clean out the fridge.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do as well in school as you can.\", \"描述\": \"Your parents don’t expect you to be a rocket scientist or to get into Stanford. However, they would be happy if you respected your teachers, did your homework, and kept your grades up to the best of your ability. If you need help in school, ask your teachers or your parents for help, and make studying a priority over socializing. Not only will this set you on a path to succeed in your future endeavors, but it will also make life much easier for your parents.\\nThe best you can do is to respect your learning institution instead of playing hooky or complaining about it all the time. Your parents shouldn’t have to force you to see the value of your education.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Establish your independence.\", \"描述\": \"As you grow older, you’ll find that you can’t depend on your parents to do everything for you. Your parents will appreciate that you’re independent and willing to do things on your own — though they’ll still want to love and care for you, of course. Once you’re in the neighborhood of 10-12 years old, you can start thinking about cleaning up after yourself, not asking your mom’s help with basic tasks like laundry or washing dishes, and starting to think for yourself a bit more. This will help you develop strong character and will make you a better son.\\nYour parents will appreciate it if you learn to do things on your own, from making your own meals to cleaning up on your own initiative. Your foresight will help them out a lot.\\nDon’t be afraid to be different from your parents. They don’t expect you to be a clone of them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be kind to your siblings.\", \"描述\": \"One of the best things you can do to be a good son and a good brother is to be kind to your siblings. It’s not always easy to get along with your siblings, whether they are older or younger, but you should try to develop relationships with them that are encouraging and non-competitive. This will not only help you be a good role model to your siblings, but it will help your parents out more than you know.\\nYou can also be a good son by helping your siblings do their schoolwork, clean up, or learn basic skills. This will give your parents some more time to relax.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Know when to agree to disagree.\", \"描述\": \"As you grow older and develop your own personality and ideals, you may find that you and your parents fundamentally disagree about many things. Maybe your parents are devout Catholics while you struggle to believe in a higher power. Maybe your parents are conservative while you identify as a liberal. The important thing to keep in mind is not that you have to agree with everything your parents believe, but that you have to know how to respectfully disagree with them instead of starting a fight over every little difference you may have.\\nIf your parents want you to do something you don’t want to do, such as go to church, try to explain why it’s not the path for you. Don’t just outright refuse, but make a point of staying calm while you explain your own beliefs. If your parents won’t budge, find a way to keep things civil and even friendly and to avoid topics that will cause you to fight.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn to see your parents as people.\", \"描述\": \"As you grow older, you should begin to see your parents as people who are more than just “Mom” and “Dad.” They have busy lives, friendships, relationships with their own parents, careers that they may or may not be happy with, and at least one child to take care of. Take some time to consider how busy and overwhelming life can be for your parents, and consider how certain difficult situations may make them feel before you start an argument or protest too much.\\nIt takes character to be able to step into someone else’s shoes. The next time you have a fight with one of your parents, try to see the situation from his or her perspective to see if it gives you a better understanding of why they disagree with you. This can help strengthen your relationship and will give you a deeper understanding of who your parents really are.\\nTo see them as people, you can also ask them questions about their friends, their job, their childhood, or anything else that will shed some light on who they are.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Apologize when you’ve made a mistake.\", \"描述\": \"It’s okay to make mistakes as a son, and your parents won’t expect perfection from you. However, they will expect you to be accountable for your mistakes, and the best thing you can really do is to apologize when you’ve made a mistake. If you’ve done something wrong, no matter how big or small, it’s important to sit your parents down, look them in the eyes, and tell them that you’ve really messed up. It’s also important that you make a point of not repeating the mistake again.\\nMake sure that they know you really mean it, and that you’re not just saying it so they’ll stop being mad at you.\\nIf you’ve upset one of your siblings, it’s just as important to apologize to them as well.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being a Good Son as an Adult\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Communicate with your parents as often as you can.\", \"描述\": \"Once you move out of the home, whether you’re in college or living in another state for a new job, it’s important to stay in touch with your parents. Call them at least once or a few days a week, send them emails when you think of them, and make a point to visit home for holidays, long weekends, or just as often as you’re able. They’ll appreciate the time you’re giving them and will feel loved and cared for because of the effort you make to see them.\\nRemember anniversaries and birthdays. It’s important to send your parents birthday cards or gifts on their anniversaries or on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day (if your family celebrates it). This shows them that they’re on your mind even when you’re apart.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be happy — and reassure your parents when you’re not.\", \"描述\": \"Studies show that parents are the happiest when their own adult children are happy in their lives. This doesn’t mean you have to have a perfect life or that you should feel bad if things have taken a bad turn for you, but it does mean that you should work to live a meaningful and fulfilling life. If every time you talk to your parents, all you do is complain about your job, romantic life, or living situation, then they will begin to think that they have failed you by giving you a bad life. Talk to them about the good things in your life and sugar-coat the problems you’re facing, whenever you can, as long as you don’t feel like you’re being dishonest.\\nWith this in mind, know that it’s much more important to your parents that you’re happy than if you make a six-figure salary, live in a posh neighborhood, or are dating the most beautiful woman in the city. It’s more important that you do the best you can with what you have, instead of striving for some impossible-to-reach version of happiness.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask for and accept help when you need it.\", \"描述\": \"You may feel like your parents will be disappointed if you ask for financial, or even emotional support as an adult, but studies actually show that parents are happy to provide support to their children. They’ll like the fact that they can still be useful to you and you shouldn’t be ashamed to ask for help once in a while. This will keep your relationship strong and will allow you to grow up, too.\\nThough it’s important to be independent of your parents as you become an adult and develop your own views about the world and follow your path, you can get some help from them once in a while.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t try to parent your parents.\", \"描述\": \"As you get older, you may have the temptation to tell your parents how to live their lives. While they may need your support as they get older, especially if they have trouble taking care of themselves, you should still try not to condescend to them or make them feel like they are helpless on their own. 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1. Writing a Song
1-1. Relax and start writing whatever rhymes, phrases, or ideas come to mind.
Don't lose the faith that brought you to this article just because a brilliant song isn't bursting out of you. The only way to have creative thoughts is to do creative work. So grab a pen and paper and start scribbling. Spend your first 5-10 minutes writing just warming up your brain and relaxing into "songwriting" mode.
Freewrite for 5 minutes. Put the pen to paper and put on a timer, and don't ever stop writing until the timer is done. It doesn't matter what you say, just that you're saying something at all. When you're done, read over it and see if any lines or ideas stick out for a song.
Improvise on your instrument, humming melodies or even blurting out lines, rhymes, and ideas. If one catches your fancy, follow it and see if it leads to a song.
Review your old idea notebook and expand on one idea you like. If you have a collection of ideas, lines, and melodies somewhere, pull it up and review it for a few minutes. If you find an idea you like, spend a few minutes writing down every thought you can relate to that idea.
1-2. Write songs in whatever order they come to you.
Some days you'll come up with a great verse, but have no chorus to back it up. Some days you'll write a killer instrumental line but have no idea what lyrics it needs. Most people think that you have to have a specified topic about something in order to write a really good song, but in reality all you need to do is write. Keep working on ideas and you'll notice that they start to develop and join together naturally.
Tack up different song titles or ideas on your wall. Each time you come up with a line or new part of the song, post it underneath the title, moving it around when necessary.
1-3. Consider song structure as you develop lyrics and melodies.
Song structure is simply the order in which you place your parts, and is most commonly something like: Intro → Verse → Chorus → Verse → Chorus → Breakdown/Change Up → Chorus → Outro. However, there are a million ways to adjust this structure to fit your song and style, including:
Many songs feature a "bridge," which is a short, new set of lyrics or melody between the chorus and melody.
Songs off Bob Dylan's seminal album Blood on the Tracks" and Lupe Fiasco's song "Murals" both feature verses with no chorus or bridge, highlighting the wide-ranging ideas and songwriting talents of the artists. You don't need to follow any form if you don't want to.
If you're an instrumentalist, where would you fit a solo, instrumental break, or change of melody? How, as a listener, are you pulled from section to section?
1-4. Grab an instrument and start playing underneath your words.
Now that you have all of your words brainstormed you can mix and match different sentence fragments to get some lyrics. With an instrument in hand, start experimenting with different melodies that sound good to you. Hum or whistle along while playing to make up the melodies for your lyrics, experimenting until you find something you like.
It is rare that the entire, finished idea will come to you at once. So keep improvising until you find something that clicks.
1-5. Re-write once you feel confident in the developing ideas.
If something doesn't make sense, write it again and try to accompany it with other rhyming words and sentences. While rewriting, work on cutting away ideas that don't work and finding the theme of the song. Now that you have some parts, what is the song "about?" Even if the answer is "nothing," you want to use your rewrite to hone in on this idea and make the song as impactful as possible.
After re-writing you want a nearly finished song structure. It will change as the song develops, but you want to get to a point where you could play the entire song at once and see how it sounds.
1-6. Get feedback and advice on the song.
Play the song for a friend, share it on the internet, and start getting feedback. Do people tap their feet? Do they hum along? Do they come up with the same theme for the song that you do? Music is meant to be shared with others, and you'll notice that your song will subtly evolve as you keep playing it. This is natural, and it is often after a few performances that you can finally perfect the song and move on to another one.
James Brown developed the genre of funk at live shows when he noticed what songs, parts, and instruments people were dancing the most to.
1-7. Try a few simple tricks to adjust your songs if you get stuck in a rut.
All writers, no matter what they are writing, get stuck from time to time. The best advice if you get stuck is to keep writing. Inspiration is not something that is turned on and off randomly -- you need to sit down and write in order to write great songs. Try the following tips and tricks to keep you writing, even when it feels like nothing is working:
Reverse the chords. If you love the verse melody but have no chorus, reverse the chords. What happens if you reverse half of them, or swap two out?
Say it differently from your favorite song. Rappers like Jay-Z used to re-write their favorite songs, keeping the same structure but changing the words inside and rhymes, as a songwriting exercise.
Create contradictions. If you've got a slow, long chord melody, try using short, staccato phrase when you sing. If you've got a peppy, high-tempo song, try bringing down the energy in the bridge or breakdown.
Write with a partner. The most successful songwriting duo in history, Lennon/McCartney, had to be on to something.
Drop your judgment and break some rules. The best artists know the rules so that they can break them. There is no "wrong" way to break a song, so listen to your own imagination and write what sounds good to you.
2. Growing as a Songwriter
2-1. Learn to sing and play your favorite songs.
The best singers in the world spent years learning the songs of other songwriters, studying the art form and playing music daily. The Beatles spent 2 years in Germany as a cover band, sometimes playing for 8-10 hours each night. Bob Dylan covered folk songs, even lifting old-time melodies, for years before he started recording only original music. Both Bob and the Beatles are considered some of the greatest songwriters to ever live -- and they both started as cover bands. This isn't a mistake, this is because they needed to learn from the greats before becoming greats themselves.
2-2. Write down fragments of songs whenever they come to you.
Don't feel like you need to have a full song in your head in order to write it down. Even if all you think of is a single rhyme, or you just imagine a wordless melody to hum, record it for later. These kernels of music may fit perfectly into songs you haven't finished yet, or become the seeds of completely new songs over time. Great songwriters are writing constantly.
Dedicate a notebook to music. Whenever you're out of inspiration, turn back to it and read a few pages -- what ideas stick out again?
Famous singer-songwriter Tom Waits carries a tape recorder with him everywhere he goes, recording lines, melodies, and inspiration throughout the day and listening to it at the end of the week.
2-3. Let influences hit you from anywhere.
There is no experience that can't be turned into a song as long as you keep your mind open to it. From surrealistic trips into pop-culture tragedy in "American Pie," to the endless professions of love and loss in pop music, to an ode about a "Yellow Submarine," great songwriters can spin a song out of their life, imagination, the news, or simply a feeling. This isn't to say that your should write about anything and everything, simply that there is no "wrong" topic for a song.
Don't purge your ideas because you "don't think they'd make a good song." Just let your ideas flow without judgment -- you can decide if an idea isn't worth it when you're recording your album or writing a set list.
No idea is too small to become a song. "99 Red Balloons" is about a Rolling Stones concert effect where they released balloons, for example.
"I think songwriting is the ultimate form of being able to make anything that happens in your life productive." --Taylor Swift
2-4. Steal from your favorite artists, bands, and songs.
"Good artists borrow, great artists steal." Interestingly enough, this quote was originally attributed to Picasso but is also found in the writing of T.S. Elliot, Steve Jobs, and many others, all of whom may have stolen it. The point is simple -- you need to consciously pull your influences and inspirations into your writing. If you're struggling with a melody for your new song, play the chords from a similar song. Snap up your favorite lines from songs and re-use them in interesting ways, and realize that this isn't really "stealing," it is just the artistic process. All art is a combination of your own feelings and the notes, chords, and melodies that are already written -- so own up to this and start stealing like a pro.
Note how Vampire Weekend's "Step" re-purposes several melody lines from Souls of Mischief's "Step to My Girl."
Bob Dylan's famous, game-changing lyrics to "Blowin' in the Wind" is set to the old melody of "No More Auction Block."
Hip-hop is built on sampling, homages, and borrowed clips. Sometimes it's obvious ("50 [Cent] told me go 'head mix the style up"], sometimes it's subtle ("there she goes again / the dopest Ethiopian").
2-5. Play an instrument regularly.
There is a reason that many of the best songwriters can play 5-10 different instruments, even if only a little bit. Playing a song without thinking of words sharpens your ear for melody, rhythm, and song structure. It also helps you think about music without the pressure of coming up with original words. Even if the instrument isn't one that you normally play, spend some time getting to know music in all of its forms -- it will improve your songwriting considerably.
You don't have to play multiple instruments to be a songwriter, just something musical. Start playing an easy melody instrument like a piano or guitar to learn the guts of your music as you write
2-6. Enjoy your life outside of songwriting.
It may seem like odd advice to stop songwriting in order to be a better songwriter, but you need to live your life to the fullest to give yourself fuel for a great song. The best way to do this is to set aside time for songwriting every single day, giving yourself a few dedicated hours to focus on your craft. As you get used to this schedule, you'll find it helps you turn on "songwriting mode" when you need to write, and you won't feel worried about not-writing when you're at a party, on a hike, or reading a book.
“Life isn't a support-system for art. It's the other way around.” -- Stephen King
Tips
Write every single day if you want to become a great songwriter. Talent is only 10% of the equation -- hard work fills out the other 90%.
Let your emotions drive the song, whether it's happiness, anger, love, sadness or any other emotion. This will make the song more sincere and significant.
Let the song write itself. Sometimes you want the song to go one way, but it doesn't always go as you planned.
Warnings
"Great artists steal" is a way to express the use of other ideas, structures, and melodies. It is not an excuse to claim an entire song as your own, as this is not only illegal, it will not make you a good songwriter.
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Rappers like Jay-Z used to re-write their favorite songs, keeping the same structure but changing the words inside and rhymes, as a songwriting exercise.\\nCreate contradictions. If you've got a slow, long chord melody, try using short, staccato phrase when you sing. If you've got a peppy, high-tempo song, try bringing down the energy in the bridge or breakdown.\\nWrite with a partner. The most successful songwriting duo in history, Lennon/McCartney, had to be on to something.\\nDrop your judgment and break some rules. The best artists know the rules so that they can break them. There is no \\\"wrong\\\" way to break a song, so listen to your own imagination and write what sounds good to you.\\n2. Growing as a Songwriter\\n2-1. Learn to sing and play your favorite songs.\\nThe best singers in the world spent years learning the songs of other songwriters, studying the art form and playing music daily. The Beatles spent 2 years in Germany as a cover band, sometimes playing for 8-10 hours each night. Bob Dylan covered folk songs, even lifting old-time melodies, for years before he started recording only original music. Both Bob and the Beatles are considered some of the greatest songwriters to ever live -- and they both started as cover bands. This isn't a mistake, this is because they needed to learn from the greats before becoming greats themselves.\\n2-2. Write down fragments of songs whenever they come to you.\\nDon't feel like you need to have a full song in your head in order to write it down. Even if all you think of is a single rhyme, or you just imagine a wordless melody to hum, record it for later. These kernels of music may fit perfectly into songs you haven't finished yet, or become the seeds of completely new songs over time. Great songwriters are writing constantly.\\nDedicate a notebook to music. Whenever you're out of inspiration, turn back to it and read a few pages -- what ideas stick out again?\\nFamous singer-songwriter Tom Waits carries a tape recorder with him everywhere he goes, recording lines, melodies, and inspiration throughout the day and listening to it at the end of the week.\\n2-3. Let influences hit you from anywhere.\\nThere is no experience that can't be turned into a song as long as you keep your mind open to it. From surrealistic trips into pop-culture tragedy in \\\"American Pie,\\\" to the endless professions of love and loss in pop music, to an ode about a \\\"Yellow Submarine,\\\" great songwriters can spin a song out of their life, imagination, the news, or simply a feeling. This isn't to say that your should write about anything and everything, simply that there is no \\\"wrong\\\" topic for a song.\\nDon't purge your ideas because you \\\"don't think they'd make a good song.\\\" Just let your ideas flow without judgment -- you can decide if an idea isn't worth it when you're recording your album or writing a set list.\\nNo idea is too small to become a song. \\\"99 Red Balloons\\\" is about a Rolling Stones concert effect where they released balloons, for example.\\n\\\"I think songwriting is the ultimate form of being able to make anything that happens in your life productive.\\\" --Taylor Swift\\n2-4. Steal from your favorite artists, bands, and songs.\\n\\\"Good artists borrow, great artists steal.\\\" Interestingly enough, this quote was originally attributed to Picasso but is also found in the writing of T.S. Elliot, Steve Jobs, and many others, all of whom may have stolen it. The point is simple -- you need to consciously pull your influences and inspirations into your writing. If you're struggling with a melody for your new song, play the chords from a similar song. Snap up your favorite lines from songs and re-use them in interesting ways, and realize that this isn't really \\\"stealing,\\\" it is just the artistic process. All art is a combination of your own feelings and the notes, chords, and melodies that are already written -- so own up to this and start stealing like a pro.\\nNote how Vampire Weekend's \\\"Step\\\" re-purposes several melody lines from Souls of Mischief's \\\"Step to My Girl.\\\"\\nBob Dylan's famous, game-changing lyrics to \\\"Blowin' in the Wind\\\" is set to the old melody of \\\"No More Auction Block.\\\"\\nHip-hop is built on sampling, homages, and borrowed clips. Sometimes it's obvious (\\\"50 [Cent] told me go 'head mix the style up\\\"], sometimes it's subtle (\\\"there she goes again / the dopest Ethiopian\\\").\\n2-5. Play an instrument regularly.\\nThere is a reason that many of the best songwriters can play 5-10 different instruments, even if only a little bit. Playing a song without thinking of words sharpens your ear for melody, rhythm, and song structure. It also helps you think about music without the pressure of coming up with original words. Even if the instrument isn't one that you normally play, spend some time getting to know music in all of its forms -- it will improve your songwriting considerably.\\nYou don't have to play multiple instruments to be a songwriter, just something musical. Start playing an easy melody instrument like a piano or guitar to learn the guts of your music as you write\\n2-6. Enjoy your life outside of songwriting.\\nIt may seem like odd advice to stop songwriting in order to be a better songwriter, but you need to live your life to the fullest to give yourself fuel for a great song. The best way to do this is to set aside time for songwriting every single day, giving yourself a few dedicated hours to focus on your craft. As you get used to this schedule, you'll find it helps you turn on \\\"songwriting mode\\\" when you need to write, and you won't feel worried about not-writing when you're at a party, on a hike, or reading a book.\\n“Life isn't a support-system for art. It's the other way around.” -- Stephen King\\nTips\\nWrite every single day if you want to become a great songwriter. Talent is only 10% of the equation -- hard work fills out the other 90%.\\nLet your emotions drive the song, whether it's happiness, anger, love, sadness or any other emotion. This will make the song more sincere and significant.\\nLet the song write itself. Sometimes you want the song to go one way, but it doesn't always go as you planned.\\nWarnings\\n\\\"Great artists steal\\\" is a way to express the use of other ideas, structures, and melodies. It is not an excuse to claim an entire song as your own, as this is not only illegal, it will not make you a good songwriter.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you always wanted to write that one beautiful song that never seems to come to you? Being a good songwriter is all about practice. You need to be humble enough to learn from the greats but confident enough in yourself to share your thoughts and melodies with the world. Being a good songwriter like being any other musician, requires practice, experimentation, and some study.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Writing a Song\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Relax and start writing whatever rhymes, phrases, or ideas come to mind.\", \"描述\": \"Don't lose the faith that brought you to this article just because a brilliant song isn't bursting out of you. The only way to have creative thoughts is to do creative work. So grab a pen and paper and start scribbling. Spend your first 5-10 minutes writing just warming up your brain and relaxing into \\\"songwriting\\\" mode.\\nFreewrite for 5 minutes. Put the pen to paper and put on a timer, and don't ever stop writing until the timer is done. It doesn't matter what you say, just that you're saying something at all. When you're done, read over it and see if any lines or ideas stick out for a song.\\nImprovise on your instrument, humming melodies or even blurting out lines, rhymes, and ideas. If one catches your fancy, follow it and see if it leads to a song.\\nReview your old idea notebook and expand on one idea you like. If you have a collection of ideas, lines, and melodies somewhere, pull it up and review it for a few minutes. If you find an idea you like, spend a few minutes writing down every thought you can relate to that idea.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Write songs in whatever order they come to you.\", \"描述\": \"Some days you'll come up with a great verse, but have no chorus to back it up. Some days you'll write a killer instrumental line but have no idea what lyrics it needs. Most people think that you have to have a specified topic about something in order to write a really good song, but in reality all you need to do is write. Keep working on ideas and you'll notice that they start to develop and join together naturally.\\nTack up different song titles or ideas on your wall. Each time you come up with a line or new part of the song, post it underneath the title, moving it around when necessary.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider song structure as you develop lyrics and melodies.\", \"描述\": \"Song structure is simply the order in which you place your parts, and is most commonly something like: Intro → Verse → Chorus → Verse → Chorus → Breakdown/Change Up → Chorus → Outro. However, there are a million ways to adjust this structure to fit your song and style, including:\\nMany songs feature a \\\"bridge,\\\" which is a short, new set of lyrics or melody between the chorus and melody.\\nSongs off Bob Dylan's seminal album Blood on the Tracks\\\" and Lupe Fiasco's song \\\"Murals\\\" both feature verses with no chorus or bridge, highlighting the wide-ranging ideas and songwriting talents of the artists. You don't need to follow any form if you don't want to.\\nIf you're an instrumentalist, where would you fit a solo, instrumental break, or change of melody? How, as a listener, are you pulled from section to section?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Grab an instrument and start playing underneath your words.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you have all of your words brainstormed you can mix and match different sentence fragments to get some lyrics. With an instrument in hand, start experimenting with different melodies that sound good to you. Hum or whistle along while playing to make up the melodies for your lyrics, experimenting until you find something you like.\\nIt is rare that the entire, finished idea will come to you at once. So keep improvising until you find something that clicks.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Re-write once you feel confident in the developing ideas.\", \"描述\": \"If something doesn't make sense, write it again and try to accompany it with other rhyming words and sentences. While rewriting, work on cutting away ideas that don't work and finding the theme of the song. Now that you have some parts, what is the song \\\"about?\\\" Even if the answer is \\\"nothing,\\\" you want to use your rewrite to hone in on this idea and make the song as impactful as possible.\\nAfter re-writing you want a nearly finished song structure. It will change as the song develops, but you want to get to a point where you could play the entire song at once and see how it sounds.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get feedback and advice on the song.\", \"描述\": \"Play the song for a friend, share it on the internet, and start getting feedback. Do people tap their feet? Do they hum along? Do they come up with the same theme for the song that you do? Music is meant to be shared with others, and you'll notice that your song will subtly evolve as you keep playing it. This is natural, and it is often after a few performances that you can finally perfect the song and move on to another one.\\nJames Brown developed the genre of funk at live shows when he noticed what songs, parts, and instruments people were dancing the most to.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Try a few simple tricks to adjust your songs if you get stuck in a rut.\", \"描述\": \"All writers, no matter what they are writing, get stuck from time to time. The best advice if you get stuck is to keep writing. Inspiration is not something that is turned on and off randomly -- you need to sit down and write in order to write great songs. Try the following tips and tricks to keep you writing, even when it feels like nothing is working:\\nReverse the chords. If you love the verse melody but have no chorus, reverse the chords. What happens if you reverse half of them, or swap two out?\\nSay it differently from your favorite song. Rappers like Jay-Z used to re-write their favorite songs, keeping the same structure but changing the words inside and rhymes, as a songwriting exercise.\\nCreate contradictions. If you've got a slow, long chord melody, try using short, staccato phrase when you sing. If you've got a peppy, high-tempo song, try bringing down the energy in the bridge or breakdown.\\nWrite with a partner. The most successful songwriting duo in history, Lennon/McCartney, had to be on to something.\\nDrop your judgment and break some rules. The best artists know the rules so that they can break them. There is no \\\"wrong\\\" way to break a song, so listen to your own imagination and write what sounds good to you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Growing as a Songwriter\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to sing and play your favorite songs.\", \"描述\": \"The best singers in the world spent years learning the songs of other songwriters, studying the art form and playing music daily. The Beatles spent 2 years in Germany as a cover band, sometimes playing for 8-10 hours each night. Bob Dylan covered folk songs, even lifting old-time melodies, for years before he started recording only original music. Both Bob and the Beatles are considered some of the greatest songwriters to ever live -- and they both started as cover bands. This isn't a mistake, this is because they needed to learn from the greats before becoming greats themselves.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Write down fragments of songs whenever they come to you.\", \"描述\": \"Don't feel like you need to have a full song in your head in order to write it down. Even if all you think of is a single rhyme, or you just imagine a wordless melody to hum, record it for later. These kernels of music may fit perfectly into songs you haven't finished yet, or become the seeds of completely new songs over time. Great songwriters are writing constantly.\\nDedicate a notebook to music. Whenever you're out of inspiration, turn back to it and read a few pages -- what ideas stick out again?\\nFamous singer-songwriter Tom Waits carries a tape recorder with him everywhere he goes, recording lines, melodies, and inspiration throughout the day and listening to it at the end of the week.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let influences hit you from anywhere.\", \"描述\": \"There is no experience that can't be turned into a song as long as you keep your mind open to it. From surrealistic trips into pop-culture tragedy in \\\"American Pie,\\\" to the endless professions of love and loss in pop music, to an ode about a \\\"Yellow Submarine,\\\" great songwriters can spin a song out of their life, imagination, the news, or simply a feeling. This isn't to say that your should write about anything and everything, simply that there is no \\\"wrong\\\" topic for a song.\\nDon't purge your ideas because you \\\"don't think they'd make a good song.\\\" Just let your ideas flow without judgment -- you can decide if an idea isn't worth it when you're recording your album or writing a set list.\\nNo idea is too small to become a song. \\\"99 Red Balloons\\\" is about a Rolling Stones concert effect where they released balloons, for example.\\n\\\"I think songwriting is the ultimate form of being able to make anything that happens in your life productive.\\\" --Taylor Swift\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Steal from your favorite artists, bands, and songs.\", \"描述\": \"\\\"Good artists borrow, great artists steal.\\\" Interestingly enough, this quote was originally attributed to Picasso but is also found in the writing of T.S. Elliot, Steve Jobs, and many others, all of whom may have stolen it. 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1. Articulating Your Voice
1-1. Listen to recorded speeches.
If you want to become a great speaker, you should first have an idea of what it means to be great. Famous speeches became that way in part because the speaker knew how to wring the most feeling and meaning out of what he was saying. Pay attention to the pauses they take, the words they emphasize, and the steady pace most famous speakers perform at.
One of the most famous speeches is "I Have a Dream," by Martin Luther King Jr. This is not his only speech, but it is one of his more famous ones.
Other notable public speakers: Winston Churchill, Dwight Eisenhower, and John F. Kennedy.
Listen to Ted Talks to see examples of great public speakers. These are especially helpful if you are giving a speech with time constraints, as Ted Talks are 18 minutes or less.
1-2. Talk slowly.
As a public speaker, you should never feel the need to rush through a presentation. Because anxiety tends to make people speak much faster than they normally would, you should be aware of your rate of speech. Make a conscious point of speaking slowly. If your speech is happening at a more manageable rate, it will be easier for you to feel like you're in control.
Speaking slowly does not mean speaking in a monotone. Just because you're taking your time doesn't mean you need to be boring. The best public speakers will keep a steady speaking pace and use that extra time to inject more expression into their act.
1-3. Minimize filler words and stammering.
Filler words include things such as "like" and "um." They are words that only exist in a live presentation because the speaker's mind needs a second to catch up with the rest of the speech. Mishaps like this and other verbal slip-ups are most often the result of anxiety. While anxiety is totally natural and is to be expected, it's a good sign you need to slow down. A speaker speaking really slowly is better than one who is stuttering through important lines.
If you need a moment to recollect yourself in the middle of your speech, pause. While filler language will only detract from your presentation, a pause can give your audience time to mull over what you said.
If you freeze up, turn it into a joke. Say something like, “My memory was a lot better when I practicing this speech in front of my dog, Samuel.”
1-4. Emphasize or repeat particularly important lines.
Even if you have gone over every word of your speech with a fine-toothed comb, there are going to be lines that are most important to the central idea you're discussing. In the case of these especially important lines, it's crucial you bring added attention to them somehow. This can be done by saying them more slowly, more loudly, or repeating the same line twice.
Your audience will immediately pick up on this and will take extra care to remember that point.
A good example of this is through the repetition of "I have a dream" in Martin Luther King Jr.'s "I Have a Dream" speech.
1-5. Express emotion through inflections.
Although you may feel very anxious going into a speech, it may actually make things easier if you allow yourself the ability to connect emotionally with the topic and express yourself. Raising and lowering your voice to denote certain feelings can do a ton to engage an audience. As a general rule, people like to feel like they're being spoken to by a red-blooded human being. Acting like a robot may seem like a safe route if you're nervous about speaking, but you'll get a lot farther if you're candid with your audience.
Avoid a monotone delivery. This approach is common with people who put too much emphasis into a rote memorization of the speech lines, and didn't leave room for an organic quality.
Another good reason to avoid a monotone delivery is that you will simply bore your audience. They will lose interest in what you have to say.
However, make sure you’re in control of your emotions. Avoid getting overly emotional, tearing up, or actually crying. These may be signs that you aren’t ready to discuss the topic publicly.
1-6. Pause for effect.
Much as with an emphasis technique on a given word, a well-placed silence can say a lot. Pauses are a good thing to place after a particularly heavy or important idea has been stated, or in between relatively unrelated points to serve as a sort of paragraph break. A pause also gives the audience a chance to show their appreciation. Even if you don't need the warmth, members of your audience will feel more confident in your abilities if they see other people in the crowd cheering you on.
Take advantage of the pause. Use it to catch your breath, steady your breathing, and recollect your thoughts.
Be sure to maintain eye contact with your audience. Don't lose that connection!
1-7. Interact with your audience.
Speeches can be memorized with enough time and practice, but a truly gifted orator will use parts of his speech as an opportunity to communicate directly to the audience. If an audience member has a question, it would be a wasted opportunity not to answer it. The audience will be impressed by your willingness to play off the books and interact seemingly spontaneously.
An audience won't interact with a speaker unless some stakes have already been raised. You have to get an audience interested in what you're talking about if you want them to respond actively.
Trying to engage the audience yourself is always a risk. You can't control what an audience member will say, and you'll need to improvise a response to whatever they say. Worse still, getting no response from an audience will embarrass you as a presenter. Avoid putting the audience on the spot or asking too many questions.
Let the audience know if you’ll have a question and answer session at the end of your speech. Avoid taking questions or comments while you’re talking, as this could derail your message.
2. Maximizing Your Body Language
2-1. Keep a firm posture.
A strong posture is one of the most telling signs of confidence. Suffice to say, it's a look you'll want to have whenever you're speaking publicly. Keep your back straight, and your shoulders jutted outward.
If you're someone who struggles with a slouched posture, it may take some time to reprogram yourself. After a while, however, you'll be able to do it without thinking.
2-2. Allow yourself to express emotion through your face.
If you're nervous, your face will freeze up. Words alone only go so far in communication. The best speeches are emotionally hard-hitting, and it's intensified when the same feelings are being mirrored by the speaker. Whether rehearsed or not, matching facial expressions will lend your speech with a great air of authenticity.
Don't force it, however. While you certainly want to make yourself animated, you don't want to appear unnatural. You want your expression to match your tone and words.
2-3. Stake a claim on your personal area.
Whether you're speaking on stage or something more casual, chances are there's a larger physical space you could be occupying. Even if you're the most riveting speaker, there is going to be a part of your audience that wants to be engaged visually as well. Getting your audience's eyes to follow you as you stride across the stage will make your presentation (and topic) feel all that more dynamic.
If you're addressing the audience directly with someone, you should walk towards them on the stage. This creates an effect of urgency.
It’s best to move while you’re transitioning to a new topic, as this lets the audience know that something is about to change.
2-4. Scan your eyes across everyone you're speaking to.
Eye contact is essential if you want to foster a connection with the audience he's speaking to. This doesn't need to be a constant thing, and you don't need to make eye contact with each individual in the crowd. Instead, simply scanning your eyes around your audience from side to side can instill a sense of interaction between the speaker and his attendees.
Pace yourself. While you don't want to stare at any one person for too long, you don't want to skim too fast either, or you'll appear nervous.
If you find yourself skimming too much, consider focusing on the wall behind the audience. Don't stare at it for too long--keep your gaze moving slowly.
2-5. Use gestures in tandem with what you're saying.
Body language is a powerful tool on the stage, but it's only worth as much as it relates to the topic you're speaking about. Think of hand waves and gestures as exclamation marks in your speech. By using your body as an additional form of communication, you can ride home your point on multiple levels.
Keep your gestures natural and spontaneous. Match them to what you are feeling. If you feel an urge to clench your fist or raise your arm, do it!
Rehearsing gestures ahead of time is not always a good idea, as they may end up looking forced, static, and unnatural. However, you can rehearse your speech in front of the mirror and watch how you move naturally.
2-6. Keep your movements controlled.
Above all, you should keep every noticeable movement of your body under control when you are speaking. Many people will fidget and squirm when they're nervous. This isn't the sort of impression you want to get across if you intend on a successful presentation. Your body language should not be left up to whim or chance. If you're not comfortable with public speaking enough yet to balance the vocal presentation with purposeful body language, it is preferable to keep yourself completely still. Rest assured, unconscious movements are going to work against your presentation.
Consider practicing your speech in front of a friend or family member and ask them to note any fidgeting or squirming.
Alternatively, record yourself giving your speech, then watch the recording. Look for any subconscious movements, such as playing with your hair.
3. Knowing Your Words
3-1. Structure your speech with a beginning, middle, and end.
Speeches are like oral essays. They tend to follow a similar format for the most part. If you're writing your speech yourself, you should try breaking it up into sections in order to better organize your points. Even if you haven't written the speech, it's a good idea to know what structural role each part represents. Generally speaking, virtually all speeches will have three parts:
An introduction. This is where you will introduce either yourself or the topic that needs to be discussed.
The main body and supporting points. This is where the details of your argument or discussion are fleshed out. This is by far the biggest part of a speech and is analogous to all of the paragraphs in an essay between the first and last.
Closing statements and summary. At the end, the audience will be looking for some closure to signal the speech's end. Take this as an opportunity to note the widespread implications of the topic, as well as a to-the-point recap of the ideas you explored in the main body.
3-2. Include a take-home message.
No matter how complex the subject you're talking about is, there should be a line or two from your speech that will be instantly memorable for anyone who is hearing it. This could be the thesis, or central point of what you're trying to say. A take-home message should preferably take the form of an applied request.
Telling your audience to do or reflect upon something on their own time will hopefully keep your audience attentive on your subject long after the presentation itself has ended.
Any messages of particular importance should be spoken more boldly, more slowly, or repeated.
3-3. Keep time in mind.
While great speakers will keep their speaking pace relaxed and take care not to speed up, you should respect the time of your audience. There is no need to have a half-hour speech where all of the same points could be covered in 20 minutes. It's much easier to revise the speech itself than to try to speed through sections of your speech.
If you think your speech could be shorter, give it a run through and decide for yourself which lines could be done without.
If you start to run out of time in the middle of your speech, don't speed up! Cover the most important points, and close your speech.
3-4. Rehearse your speech.
Nothing great ever came about without hard work and practice. Rehearsing your speech is necessary if you want your audience to take something away from your presentation and take you seriously. Perform your speech in front of a mirror and pay attention to the way you look while you're speaking. It also helps to record yourself speaking. That way, you'll be able to see what you're doing right and wrong more clearly.
It's a good idea to give your speech a run-through in front of a friend or family member before going live. That way, the other person can offer you feedback from a fresh perspective.
3-5. Thank your audience once the speech is over.
Even if you're the one who is performing, your audience members are taking time out of their schedules to hear you speak about your topic. For this, they deserve some gratitude. Telling a crowd how much you appreciate lending their time to you will end your speech on a positive note of warmth.
Tips
Include visual aids (such as Powerpoint) in your presentation, but only if it legitimately adds something of value.[13]
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Also, be sure you are familiar with the technology so mishaps don’t distract from your speech.
Public speaking doesn't come naturally to many people. It's something you'll probably have to spend some serious time practicing in order to perfect. Don't let yourself feel down if you slip up the first few times you perform. It's a lifelong skill, and once you get the hang of it, it will stick with you for the rest of your days.
During the time that you’re writing your speech, your subconscious may be working on it while you are doing something else. These ideas are often creative and can be some of your best points. Keep a notebook or note-taking app handy so you can jot down ideas as they come to your mind.
Warnings
You can never know for sure how an audience will react to your presentation. Be prepared for a less-than-stellar reception, and should the case arise, make sure you roll with the punches. Getting visibly on stage won't do anything for your credibility.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Articulating Your Voice\\n1-1. Listen to recorded speeches.\\nIf you want to become a great speaker, you should first have an idea of what it means to be great. Famous speeches became that way in part because the speaker knew how to wring the most feeling and meaning out of what he was saying. Pay attention to the pauses they take, the words they emphasize, and the steady pace most famous speakers perform at.\\nOne of the most famous speeches is \\\"I Have a Dream,\\\" by Martin Luther King Jr. This is not his only speech, but it is one of his more famous ones.\\nOther notable public speakers: Winston Churchill, Dwight Eisenhower, and John F. Kennedy.\\nListen to Ted Talks to see examples of great public speakers. These are especially helpful if you are giving a speech with time constraints, as Ted Talks are 18 minutes or less.\\n1-2. Talk slowly.\\nAs a public speaker, you should never feel the need to rush through a presentation. Because anxiety tends to make people speak much faster than they normally would, you should be aware of your rate of speech. Make a conscious point of speaking slowly. If your speech is happening at a more manageable rate, it will be easier for you to feel like you're in control.\\nSpeaking slowly does not mean speaking in a monotone. Just because you're taking your time doesn't mean you need to be boring. The best public speakers will keep a steady speaking pace and use that extra time to inject more expression into their act.\\n1-3. Minimize filler words and stammering.\\nFiller words include things such as \\\"like\\\" and \\\"um.\\\" They are words that only exist in a live presentation because the speaker's mind needs a second to catch up with the rest of the speech. Mishaps like this and other verbal slip-ups are most often the result of anxiety. While anxiety is totally natural and is to be expected, it's a good sign you need to slow down. A speaker speaking really slowly is better than one who is stuttering through important lines.\\nIf you need a moment to recollect yourself in the middle of your speech, pause. While filler language will only detract from your presentation, a pause can give your audience time to mull over what you said.\\nIf you freeze up, turn it into a joke. Say something like, “My memory was a lot better when I practicing this speech in front of my dog, Samuel.”\\n1-4. Emphasize or repeat particularly important lines.\\nEven if you have gone over every word of your speech with a fine-toothed comb, there are going to be lines that are most important to the central idea you're discussing. In the case of these especially important lines, it's crucial you bring added attention to them somehow. This can be done by saying them more slowly, more loudly, or repeating the same line twice. \\nYour audience will immediately pick up on this and will take extra care to remember that point.\\nA good example of this is through the repetition of \\\"I have a dream\\\" in Martin Luther King Jr.'s \\\"I Have a Dream\\\" speech.\\n1-5. Express emotion through inflections.\\nAlthough you may feel very anxious going into a speech, it may actually make things easier if you allow yourself the ability to connect emotionally with the topic and express yourself. Raising and lowering your voice to denote certain feelings can do a ton to engage an audience. As a general rule, people like to feel like they're being spoken to by a red-blooded human being. Acting like a robot may seem like a safe route if you're nervous about speaking, but you'll get a lot farther if you're candid with your audience.\\nAvoid a monotone delivery. This approach is common with people who put too much emphasis into a rote memorization of the speech lines, and didn't leave room for an organic quality.\\nAnother good reason to avoid a monotone delivery is that you will simply bore your audience. They will lose interest in what you have to say.\\nHowever, make sure you’re in control of your emotions. Avoid getting overly emotional, tearing up, or actually crying. These may be signs that you aren’t ready to discuss the topic publicly.\\n1-6. Pause for effect.\\nMuch as with an emphasis technique on a given word, a well-placed silence can say a lot. Pauses are a good thing to place after a particularly heavy or important idea has been stated, or in between relatively unrelated points to serve as a sort of paragraph break. A pause also gives the audience a chance to show their appreciation. Even if you don't need the warmth, members of your audience will feel more confident in your abilities if they see other people in the crowd cheering you on.\\nTake advantage of the pause. Use it to catch your breath, steady your breathing, and recollect your thoughts.\\nBe sure to maintain eye contact with your audience. Don't lose that connection!\\n1-7. Interact with your audience.\\nSpeeches can be memorized with enough time and practice, but a truly gifted orator will use parts of his speech as an opportunity to communicate directly to the audience. If an audience member has a question, it would be a wasted opportunity not to answer it. The audience will be impressed by your willingness to play off the books and interact seemingly spontaneously.\\nAn audience won't interact with a speaker unless some stakes have already been raised. You have to get an audience interested in what you're talking about if you want them to respond actively.\\nTrying to engage the audience yourself is always a risk. You can't control what an audience member will say, and you'll need to improvise a response to whatever they say. Worse still, getting no response from an audience will embarrass you as a presenter. Avoid putting the audience on the spot or asking too many questions.\\nLet the audience know if you’ll have a question and answer session at the end of your speech. Avoid taking questions or comments while you’re talking, as this could derail your message.\\n2. Maximizing Your Body Language\\n2-1. Keep a firm posture.\\nA strong posture is one of the most telling signs of confidence. Suffice to say, it's a look you'll want to have whenever you're speaking publicly. Keep your back straight, and your shoulders jutted outward.\\nIf you're someone who struggles with a slouched posture, it may take some time to reprogram yourself. After a while, however, you'll be able to do it without thinking.\\n2-2. Allow yourself to express emotion through your face.\\nIf you're nervous, your face will freeze up. Words alone only go so far in communication. The best speeches are emotionally hard-hitting, and it's intensified when the same feelings are being mirrored by the speaker. Whether rehearsed or not, matching facial expressions will lend your speech with a great air of authenticity.\\nDon't force it, however. While you certainly want to make yourself animated, you don't want to appear unnatural. You want your expression to match your tone and words.\\n2-3. Stake a claim on your personal area.\\nWhether you're speaking on stage or something more casual, chances are there's a larger physical space you could be occupying. Even if you're the most riveting speaker, there is going to be a part of your audience that wants to be engaged visually as well. Getting your audience's eyes to follow you as you stride across the stage will make your presentation (and topic) feel all that more dynamic.\\nIf you're addressing the audience directly with someone, you should walk towards them on the stage. This creates an effect of urgency.\\nIt’s best to move while you’re transitioning to a new topic, as this lets the audience know that something is about to change.\\n2-4. Scan your eyes across everyone you're speaking to.\\nEye contact is essential if you want to foster a connection with the audience he's speaking to. This doesn't need to be a constant thing, and you don't need to make eye contact with each individual in the crowd. Instead, simply scanning your eyes around your audience from side to side can instill a sense of interaction between the speaker and his attendees.\\nPace yourself. While you don't want to stare at any one person for too long, you don't want to skim too fast either, or you'll appear nervous.\\nIf you find yourself skimming too much, consider focusing on the wall behind the audience. Don't stare at it for too long--keep your gaze moving slowly.\\n2-5. Use gestures in tandem with what you're saying.\\nBody language is a powerful tool on the stage, but it's only worth as much as it relates to the topic you're speaking about. Think of hand waves and gestures as exclamation marks in your speech. By using your body as an additional form of communication, you can ride home your point on multiple levels.\\nKeep your gestures natural and spontaneous. Match them to what you are feeling. If you feel an urge to clench your fist or raise your arm, do it!\\nRehearsing gestures ahead of time is not always a good idea, as they may end up looking forced, static, and unnatural. However, you can rehearse your speech in front of the mirror and watch how you move naturally.\\n2-6. Keep your movements controlled.\\nAbove all, you should keep every noticeable movement of your body under control when you are speaking. Many people will fidget and squirm when they're nervous. This isn't the sort of impression you want to get across if you intend on a successful presentation. Your body language should not be left up to whim or chance. If you're not comfortable with public speaking enough yet to balance the vocal presentation with purposeful body language, it is preferable to keep yourself completely still. Rest assured, unconscious movements are going to work against your presentation.\\nConsider practicing your speech in front of a friend or family member and ask them to note any fidgeting or squirming.\\nAlternatively, record yourself giving your speech, then watch the recording. Look for any subconscious movements, such as playing with your hair.\\n3. Knowing Your Words\\n3-1. Structure your speech with a beginning, middle, and end.\\nSpeeches are like oral essays. They tend to follow a similar format for the most part. If you're writing your speech yourself, you should try breaking it up into sections in order to better organize your points. Even if you haven't written the speech, it's a good idea to know what structural role each part represents. Generally speaking, virtually all speeches will have three parts:\\nAn introduction. This is where you will introduce either yourself or the topic that needs to be discussed.\\nThe main body and supporting points. This is where the details of your argument or discussion are fleshed out. This is by far the biggest part of a speech and is analogous to all of the paragraphs in an essay between the first and last.\\nClosing statements and summary. At the end, the audience will be looking for some closure to signal the speech's end. Take this as an opportunity to note the widespread implications of the topic, as well as a to-the-point recap of the ideas you explored in the main body.\\n3-2. Include a take-home message.\\nNo matter how complex the subject you're talking about is, there should be a line or two from your speech that will be instantly memorable for anyone who is hearing it. This could be the thesis, or central point of what you're trying to say. A take-home message should preferably take the form of an applied request. \\nTelling your audience to do or reflect upon something on their own time will hopefully keep your audience attentive on your subject long after the presentation itself has ended.\\nAny messages of particular importance should be spoken more boldly, more slowly, or repeated.\\n3-3. Keep time in mind.\\nWhile great speakers will keep their speaking pace relaxed and take care not to speed up, you should respect the time of your audience. There is no need to have a half-hour speech where all of the same points could be covered in 20 minutes. It's much easier to revise the speech itself than to try to speed through sections of your speech.\\nIf you think your speech could be shorter, give it a run through and decide for yourself which lines could be done without.\\nIf you start to run out of time in the middle of your speech, don't speed up! Cover the most important points, and close your speech.\\n3-4. Rehearse your speech.\\nNothing great ever came about without hard work and practice. Rehearsing your speech is necessary if you want your audience to take something away from your presentation and take you seriously. Perform your speech in front of a mirror and pay attention to the way you look while you're speaking. It also helps to record yourself speaking. That way, you'll be able to see what you're doing right and wrong more clearly.\\nIt's a good idea to give your speech a run-through in front of a friend or family member before going live. That way, the other person can offer you feedback from a fresh perspective.\\n3-5. Thank your audience once the speech is over.\\nEven if you're the one who is performing, your audience members are taking time out of their schedules to hear you speak about your topic. For this, they deserve some gratitude. Telling a crowd how much you appreciate lending their time to you will end your speech on a positive note of warmth.\\nTips\\nInclude visual aids (such as Powerpoint) in your presentation, but only if it legitimately adds something of value.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Also, be sure you are familiar with the technology so mishaps don’t distract from your speech.\\nPublic speaking doesn't come naturally to many people. It's something you'll probably have to spend some serious time practicing in order to perfect. Don't let yourself feel down if you slip up the first few times you perform. It's a lifelong skill, and once you get the hang of it, it will stick with you for the rest of your days.\\nDuring the time that you’re writing your speech, your subconscious may be working on it while you are doing something else. These ideas are often creative and can be some of your best points. Keep a notebook or note-taking app handy so you can jot down ideas as they come to your mind.\\nWarnings\\nYou can never know for sure how an audience will react to your presentation. Be prepared for a less-than-stellar reception, and should the case arise, make sure you roll with the punches. Getting visibly on stage won't do anything for your credibility.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There is a commonly cited statistic that people are generally more fearful of public speaking than they are of death. The idea of performing a speech in front of an attentive audience is a nerve-wracking concept for most people. Fortunately, it doesn't have to be. Being a great speaker is a skill that is learned just as much as any other. When you have a strong command of your voice and self-presentation, confidence with public speaking tends to fall into place.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Articulating Your Voice\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to recorded speeches.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to become a great speaker, you should first have an idea of what it means to be great. Famous speeches became that way in part because the speaker knew how to wring the most feeling and meaning out of what he was saying. Pay attention to the pauses they take, the words they emphasize, and the steady pace most famous speakers perform at.\\nOne of the most famous speeches is \\\"I Have a Dream,\\\" by Martin Luther King Jr. This is not his only speech, but it is one of his more famous ones.\\nOther notable public speakers: Winston Churchill, Dwight Eisenhower, and John F. Kennedy.\\nListen to Ted Talks to see examples of great public speakers. These are especially helpful if you are giving a speech with time constraints, as Ted Talks are 18 minutes or less.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Talk slowly.\", \"描述\": \"As a public speaker, you should never feel the need to rush through a presentation. Because anxiety tends to make people speak much faster than they normally would, you should be aware of your rate of speech. Make a conscious point of speaking slowly. If your speech is happening at a more manageable rate, it will be easier for you to feel like you're in control.\\nSpeaking slowly does not mean speaking in a monotone. Just because you're taking your time doesn't mean you need to be boring. The best public speakers will keep a steady speaking pace and use that extra time to inject more expression into their act.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Minimize filler words and stammering.\", \"描述\": \"Filler words include things such as \\\"like\\\" and \\\"um.\\\" They are words that only exist in a live presentation because the speaker's mind needs a second to catch up with the rest of the speech. Mishaps like this and other verbal slip-ups are most often the result of anxiety. While anxiety is totally natural and is to be expected, it's a good sign you need to slow down. A speaker speaking really slowly is better than one who is stuttering through important lines.\\nIf you need a moment to recollect yourself in the middle of your speech, pause. While filler language will only detract from your presentation, a pause can give your audience time to mull over what you said.\\nIf you freeze up, turn it into a joke. Say something like, “My memory was a lot better when I practicing this speech in front of my dog, Samuel.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Emphasize or repeat particularly important lines.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you have gone over every word of your speech with a fine-toothed comb, there are going to be lines that are most important to the central idea you're discussing. In the case of these especially important lines, it's crucial you bring added attention to them somehow. This can be done by saying them more slowly, more loudly, or repeating the same line twice. \\nYour audience will immediately pick up on this and will take extra care to remember that point.\\nA good example of this is through the repetition of \\\"I have a dream\\\" in Martin Luther King Jr.'s \\\"I Have a Dream\\\" speech.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Express emotion through inflections.\", \"描述\": \"Although you may feel very anxious going into a speech, it may actually make things easier if you allow yourself the ability to connect emotionally with the topic and express yourself. Raising and lowering your voice to denote certain feelings can do a ton to engage an audience. As a general rule, people like to feel like they're being spoken to by a red-blooded human being. Acting like a robot may seem like a safe route if you're nervous about speaking, but you'll get a lot farther if you're candid with your audience.\\nAvoid a monotone delivery. This approach is common with people who put too much emphasis into a rote memorization of the speech lines, and didn't leave room for an organic quality.\\nAnother good reason to avoid a monotone delivery is that you will simply bore your audience. They will lose interest in what you have to say.\\nHowever, make sure you’re in control of your emotions. Avoid getting overly emotional, tearing up, or actually crying. These may be signs that you aren’t ready to discuss the topic publicly.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Pause for effect.\", \"描述\": \"Much as with an emphasis technique on a given word, a well-placed silence can say a lot. Pauses are a good thing to place after a particularly heavy or important idea has been stated, or in between relatively unrelated points to serve as a sort of paragraph break. A pause also gives the audience a chance to show their appreciation. Even if you don't need the warmth, members of your audience will feel more confident in your abilities if they see other people in the crowd cheering you on.\\nTake advantage of the pause. Use it to catch your breath, steady your breathing, and recollect your thoughts.\\nBe sure to maintain eye contact with your audience. Don't lose that connection!\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Interact with your audience.\", \"描述\": \"Speeches can be memorized with enough time and practice, but a truly gifted orator will use parts of his speech as an opportunity to communicate directly to the audience. If an audience member has a question, it would be a wasted opportunity not to answer it. The audience will be impressed by your willingness to play off the books and interact seemingly spontaneously.\\nAn audience won't interact with a speaker unless some stakes have already been raised. You have to get an audience interested in what you're talking about if you want them to respond actively.\\nTrying to engage the audience yourself is always a risk. You can't control what an audience member will say, and you'll need to improvise a response to whatever they say. Worse still, getting no response from an audience will embarrass you as a presenter. Avoid putting the audience on the spot or asking too many questions.\\nLet the audience know if you’ll have a question and answer session at the end of your speech. Avoid taking questions or comments while you’re talking, as this could derail your message.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maximizing Your Body Language\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep a firm posture.\", \"描述\": \"A strong posture is one of the most telling signs of confidence. Suffice to say, it's a look you'll want to have whenever you're speaking publicly. Keep your back straight, and your shoulders jutted outward.\\nIf you're someone who struggles with a slouched posture, it may take some time to reprogram yourself. After a while, however, you'll be able to do it without thinking.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Allow yourself to express emotion through your face.\", \"描述\": \"If you're nervous, your face will freeze up. Words alone only go so far in communication. The best speeches are emotionally hard-hitting, and it's intensified when the same feelings are being mirrored by the speaker. Whether rehearsed or not, matching facial expressions will lend your speech with a great air of authenticity.\\nDon't force it, however. While you certainly want to make yourself animated, you don't want to appear unnatural. You want your expression to match your tone and words.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stake a claim on your personal area.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you're speaking on stage or something more casual, chances are there's a larger physical space you could be occupying. Even if you're the most riveting speaker, there is going to be a part of your audience that wants to be engaged visually as well. Getting your audience's eyes to follow you as you stride across the stage will make your presentation (and topic) feel all that more dynamic.\\nIf you're addressing the audience directly with someone, you should walk towards them on the stage. This creates an effect of urgency.\\nIt’s best to move while you’re transitioning to a new topic, as this lets the audience know that something is about to change.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Scan your eyes across everyone you're speaking to.\", \"描述\": \"Eye contact is essential if you want to foster a connection with the audience he's speaking to. This doesn't need to be a constant thing, and you don't need to make eye contact with each individual in the crowd. Instead, simply scanning your eyes around your audience from side to side can instill a sense of interaction between the speaker and his attendees.\\nPace yourself. While you don't want to stare at any one person for too long, you don't want to skim too fast either, or you'll appear nervous.\\nIf you find yourself skimming too much, consider focusing on the wall behind the audience. Don't stare at it for too long--keep your gaze moving slowly.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use gestures in tandem with what you're saying.\", \"描述\": \"Body language is a powerful tool on the stage, but it's only worth as much as it relates to the topic you're speaking about. Think of hand waves and gestures as exclamation marks in your speech. By using your body as an additional form of communication, you can ride home your point on multiple levels.\\nKeep your gestures natural and spontaneous. Match them to what you are feeling. If you feel an urge to clench your fist or raise your arm, do it!\\nRehearsing gestures ahead of time is not always a good idea, as they may end up looking forced, static, and unnatural. However, you can rehearse your speech in front of the mirror and watch how you move naturally.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep your movements controlled.\", \"描述\": \"Above all, you should keep every noticeable movement of your body under control when you are speaking. Many people will fidget and squirm when they're nervous. This isn't the sort of impression you want to get across if you intend on a successful presentation. Your body language should not be left up to whim or chance. If you're not comfortable with public speaking enough yet to balance the vocal presentation with purposeful body language, it is preferable to keep yourself completely still. Rest assured, unconscious movements are going to work against your presentation.\\nConsider practicing your speech in front of a friend or family member and ask them to note any fidgeting or squirming.\\nAlternatively, record yourself giving your speech, then watch the recording. Look for any subconscious movements, such as playing with your hair.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Knowing Your Words\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Structure your speech with a beginning, middle, and end.\", \"描述\": \"Speeches are like oral essays. They tend to follow a similar format for the most part. If you're writing your speech yourself, you should try breaking it up into sections in order to better organize your points. Even if you haven't written the speech, it's a good idea to know what structural role each part represents. Generally speaking, virtually all speeches will have three parts:\\nAn introduction. This is where you will introduce either yourself or the topic that needs to be discussed.\\nThe main body and supporting points. This is where the details of your argument or discussion are fleshed out. This is by far the biggest part of a speech and is analogous to all of the paragraphs in an essay between the first and last.\\nClosing statements and summary. At the end, the audience will be looking for some closure to signal the speech's end. Take this as an opportunity to note the widespread implications of the topic, as well as a to-the-point recap of the ideas you explored in the main body.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Include a take-home message.\", \"描述\": \"No matter how complex the subject you're talking about is, there should be a line or two from your speech that will be instantly memorable for anyone who is hearing it. This could be the thesis, or central point of what you're trying to say. A take-home message should preferably take the form of an applied request. \\nTelling your audience to do or reflect upon something on their own time will hopefully keep your audience attentive on your subject long after the presentation itself has ended.\\nAny messages of particular importance should be spoken more boldly, more slowly, or repeated.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep time in mind.\", \"描述\": \"While great speakers will keep their speaking pace relaxed and take care not to speed up, you should respect the time of your audience. There is no need to have a half-hour speech where all of the same points could be covered in 20 minutes. It's much easier to revise the speech itself than to try to speed through sections of your speech.\\nIf you think your speech could be shorter, give it a run through and decide for yourself which lines could be done without.\\nIf you start to run out of time in the middle of your speech, don't speed up! Cover the most important points, and close your speech.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Rehearse your speech.\", \"描述\": \"Nothing great ever came about without hard work and practice. Rehearsing your speech is necessary if you want your audience to take something away from your presentation and take you seriously. Perform your speech in front of a mirror and pay attention to the way you look while you're speaking. It also helps to record yourself speaking. That way, you'll be able to see what you're doing right and wrong more clearly.\\nIt's a good idea to give your speech a run-through in front of a friend or family member before going live. That way, the other person can offer you feedback from a fresh perspective.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Thank your audience once the speech is over.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you're the one who is performing, your audience members are taking time out of their schedules to hear you speak about your topic. For this, they deserve some gratitude. 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1. Being a Courteous Winner
1-1. Win the right way.
There are a number of things involved with winning the right way, and much of it has to do with fairness and honesty. To win the right way, you must:
Refuse to cheat
Play by the rules
Be honest about your actions and the actions of other players
Listen to the guidance and rulings of your coach and the referee
1-2. Don’t gloat.
One of the most important things about being a good winner is not gloating or bragging when you do win. The other team is aware that you won! You don’t have to rub it in. Avoid saying things like:
“Haha we won and you lost!”
“You're terrible players, and that’s why we won”
“We kicked your butts”
1-3. Be polite to the other team.
Remember that the other team just lost, and they need some encouragement right now. They don’t need you being rude, because they already feel bad for losing.
Being kind and polite to your opponents applies at all times, including before, during, and after the game. Even if you think you'll beat them, are winning in the middle of the game, or just won, you still have to be nice.
This means no trash talking the other team, no making fun, and no telling rude or mean jokes.
1-4. Compliment your opponent.
Part of being a good winner means appreciating your opponents’ efforts and skills, and you can show this by complimenting them. Imagine how you'd feel if you just lost. Wouldn’t you like to hear the other team say how well you played?
For instance, you can say something like, “You guys played a great game, and I really like how well you work as a team.”
At the end of the game, whether you won or lost, you can tell your opponents “good game!”
You can also do this in the middle of the game. If one of your opponents makes a great move or play, say something nice about it.
1-5. Don’t laugh at your opponent.
Even though the other team lost, it doesn’t mean that they're bad players, and you shouldn’t make them feel like they are. And even if they lost by a lot, you should never make fun, laugh at, or make jokes about the other team or any of the players.
Instead of poking fun, you can try offering tips or suggestions that might help them improve their game.
2. Accepting Defeat
2-1. Give yourself a few moments to cool down.
For most people, the initial reaction to losing is disappointment, sadness, or anger. Part of being a good sport is not being a sore loser, and you can do this by giving yourself time to relax and collect yourself after a loss.
Instead of yelling, crying, complaining or storming off right after the game, sit down alone for a minute. Take some deep breaths, and try to focus on all the things you love about the game. After that, you can line up with your teammates to shake hands. If you need an extra minute, go to the back of the line.
After the game when you're back home, if you still feel like something was unfair, talk to your parents or your coach.
2-2. Don’t quit if you aren't winning.
It can be very discouraging when you're losing in the middle of a game, but being a good sport means sticking with it and trying your hardest, even if you don’t think you'll win the game.
Playing a game is all about having fun, doing your best, and working to improve your skills, and you can't do this if you quit in the middle of a game.
For example, if you or another teammate makes a mistake that could cost you the game, such as missing a vital goal, you should still put in just as much effort as before.
You should also thank your teammate for trying, because everyone needs encouragement after a mistake.
2-3. Be friendly and kind to the other team.
When you're feeling bad for losing, it can be easy to try to make other people feel bad too. But when you lose, being a good sport means being nice to the other team regardless.
Try saying something like, “Wow, you played a great game. Any team will have a hard time beating you!”
2-4. Congratulate your opponent.
Both teams tried their best, and you both deserve to be congratulated! Being a good loser means not being angry with the team who won. If you do that, you can enjoy the victory they're celebrating rather than sulking about your own loss.
After the game, tell the winning team that they played a great game, and congratulate them.
2-5. Avoid blaming others.
Being a good loser also means accepting that you lost, and not trying to blame the loss on yourself, other teammates, the referee, or anybody else.
The important thing is that you learn from the game and use that to improve in the future.
At your next meeting, think of a few examples from your game that show where your team can use more practice.
2-6. Cheer your team on.
Whether you're winning, losing, or have no chance of winning, your teammates still need encouragement. You can help them feel good about their efforts by always cheering them on, telling them how well they're doing, and being positive.
During the game, say things like “you're doing great,” and, “come on team, we can do this,” and, “what a fantastic play/effort/try.”
Don’t get down on your teammates for making mistakes. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, including you, and nobody needs those errors pointed out. Instead, focus on what your teammates are doing right, and offer helpful suggestions about how they can improve.
2-7. Learn from your defeat.
Any time you lose a game, it’s actually an opportunity to make yourself a better player and become stronger as a team. Your loss can show you weaknesses, and you can use this to your advantage by practicing extra hard on the areas where you need improvement.
For instance, if you lost a game because your team let in too many goals, then you know you have to work on your team’s defensive skills.
On the other hand, if you lost because you weren't able to score enough, then you should work on your offensive skills.
Similarly, if your team is disorganized, you should work on drills that will improve how well you play together.
Or, if there are team members that needs help with coordination or technical skills, then work on drills and exercises that will improve abilities on the field.
3. Showing Good Character
3-1. Know the rules of the game.
In order to play a game properly and fairly, you need to know the rules. The rules will tell you the object of the game, what's expected of players, and what's fair and what’s not allowed.
For example, most field sports have boundary lines, and you need to know where these are in order to play the game properly.
If you are starting out with a new sport or hobby and don’t know all the rules, ask coaches, parents, and other players. You can also read books or check websites.
3-2. Play fair.
Once you know the rules of the game, it’s important that you play by them and don’t cheat just to tip the odds in your favor.
Don’t cheat means don’t bend the rules, don’t lie about how events played out, and be honest about your actions and the actions of other players.
For example, if you have an opportunity to score a basket in a game of basketball but can't do it without taking more steps than you're allowed without dribbling, resist the temptation to cheat. Do your best while following the rules, even if it means not scoring.
3-3. Understand that trying your best is more important than winning.
While winning is the object of many games, it’s not the only thing that’s important. Instead of caring only about winning, focus on things like:
Learning the game
Having fun
Getting exercise
Making new friends
Improving your skills
3-4. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
There will be disagreements that occur in your games, and part of being a good sport is taking people’s word and not suspecting others of lying and cheating.
For instance, if you think that someone went out of bounds but the other team says that player was in bounds, accept what they're saying and let the game resume.
Similarly, you can hope if the tables were turned, the other team will also give you the benefit of the doubt.
3-5. Be respectful.
This means showing respect for your coaches, yourself, your teammates, your fans, and the game officials. You can do this by listening to what these people say, taking their advice, and not arguing with them.
For instance, if your coach suggests that you try a certain play on the field, try your best to execute it, even if you think it won’t work.
You can also show respect by showing up to all your games and practices on time, even if you're the best player on the team and think you don’t need to practice.
3-6. Be a team player.
Everybody on your team has something to contribute, and everyone deserves a chance to play. Even if your team is on the verge of winning or losing and you think you need an all-star lineup on the field, you must still let other players have a turn, even if they need some extra practice.
Players who do need extra practice will never get better if they aren't given a chance to play, so don’t get angry or upset if your coach pulls you to give another player time on the field.
Don’t be a show-off, even if you're a more skilled player than your teammates or the other team.
3-7. Shake hands at the end of the game.
No matter what the result of the game and regardless of whether you won or lost, you should always shake hands with your own team and your opponents.
Shaking hands at the end of a game is a sign of good faith, and indicates that you're more concerned with playing well, having fun, congratulating your fellow players, and encouraging your team.
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They don’t need you being rude, because they already feel bad for losing. \\nBeing kind and polite to your opponents applies at all times, including before, during, and after the game. Even if you think you'll beat them, are winning in the middle of the game, or just won, you still have to be nice.\\nThis means no trash talking the other team, no making fun, and no telling rude or mean jokes.\\n1-4. Compliment your opponent.\\nPart of being a good winner means appreciating your opponents’ efforts and skills, and you can show this by complimenting them. Imagine how you'd feel if you just lost. Wouldn’t you like to hear the other team say how well you played? \\nFor instance, you can say something like, “You guys played a great game, and I really like how well you work as a team.”\\nAt the end of the game, whether you won or lost, you can tell your opponents “good game!”\\nYou can also do this in the middle of the game. If one of your opponents makes a great move or play, say something nice about it.\\n1-5. Don’t laugh at your opponent.\\nEven though the other team lost, it doesn’t mean that they're bad players, and you shouldn’t make them feel like they are. And even if they lost by a lot, you should never make fun, laugh at, or make jokes about the other team or any of the players. \\nInstead of poking fun, you can try offering tips or suggestions that might help them improve their game.\\n2. Accepting Defeat\\n2-1. Give yourself a few moments to cool down.\\nFor most people, the initial reaction to losing is disappointment, sadness, or anger. Part of being a good sport is not being a sore loser, and you can do this by giving yourself time to relax and collect yourself after a loss. \\nInstead of yelling, crying, complaining or storming off right after the game, sit down alone for a minute. Take some deep breaths, and try to focus on all the things you love about the game. After that, you can line up with your teammates to shake hands. If you need an extra minute, go to the back of the line.\\nAfter the game when you're back home, if you still feel like something was unfair, talk to your parents or your coach.\\n2-2. Don’t quit if you aren't winning.\\nIt can be very discouraging when you're losing in the middle of a game, but being a good sport means sticking with it and trying your hardest, even if you don’t think you'll win the game.\\nPlaying a game is all about having fun, doing your best, and working to improve your skills, and you can't do this if you quit in the middle of a game.\\nFor example, if you or another teammate makes a mistake that could cost you the game, such as missing a vital goal, you should still put in just as much effort as before.\\nYou should also thank your teammate for trying, because everyone needs encouragement after a mistake.\\n2-3. Be friendly and kind to the other team.\\nWhen you're feeling bad for losing, it can be easy to try to make other people feel bad too. But when you lose, being a good sport means being nice to the other team regardless.\\nTry saying something like, “Wow, you played a great game. Any team will have a hard time beating you!”\\n2-4. Congratulate your opponent.\\nBoth teams tried their best, and you both deserve to be congratulated! Being a good loser means not being angry with the team who won. If you do that, you can enjoy the victory they're celebrating rather than sulking about your own loss. \\nAfter the game, tell the winning team that they played a great game, and congratulate them.\\n2-5. Avoid blaming others.\\nBeing a good loser also means accepting that you lost, and not trying to blame the loss on yourself, other teammates, the referee, or anybody else. \\nThe important thing is that you learn from the game and use that to improve in the future.\\nAt your next meeting, think of a few examples from your game that show where your team can use more practice.\\n2-6. Cheer your team on.\\nWhether you're winning, losing, or have no chance of winning, your teammates still need encouragement. You can help them feel good about their efforts by always cheering them on, telling them how well they're doing, and being positive.\\nDuring the game, say things like “you're doing great,” and, “come on team, we can do this,” and, “what a fantastic play/effort/try.”\\nDon’t get down on your teammates for making mistakes. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, including you, and nobody needs those errors pointed out. 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Play fair.\\nOnce you know the rules of the game, it’s important that you play by them and don’t cheat just to tip the odds in your favor.\\nDon’t cheat means don’t bend the rules, don’t lie about how events played out, and be honest about your actions and the actions of other players.\\nFor example, if you have an opportunity to score a basket in a game of basketball but can't do it without taking more steps than you're allowed without dribbling, resist the temptation to cheat. Do your best while following the rules, even if it means not scoring.\\n3-3. Understand that trying your best is more important than winning.\\nWhile winning is the object of many games, it’s not the only thing that’s important. Instead of caring only about winning, focus on things like:\\nLearning the game\\nHaving fun\\nGetting exercise\\nMaking new friends\\nImproving your skills\\n3-4. Give people the benefit of the doubt.\\nThere will be disagreements that occur in your games, and part of being a good sport is taking people’s word and not suspecting others of lying and cheating. \\nFor instance, if you think that someone went out of bounds but the other team says that player was in bounds, accept what they're saying and let the game resume.\\nSimilarly, you can hope if the tables were turned, the other team will also give you the benefit of the doubt.\\n3-5. Be respectful.\\nThis means showing respect for your coaches, yourself, your teammates, your fans, and the game officials. You can do this by listening to what these people say, taking their advice, and not arguing with them. \\nFor instance, if your coach suggests that you try a certain play on the field, try your best to execute it, even if you think it won’t work.\\nYou can also show respect by showing up to all your games and practices on time, even if you're the best player on the team and think you don’t need to practice.\\n3-6. Be a team player.\\nEverybody on your team has something to contribute, and everyone deserves a chance to play. Even if your team is on the verge of winning or losing and you think you need an all-star lineup on the field, you must still let other players have a turn, even if they need some extra practice.\\nPlayers who do need extra practice will never get better if they aren't given a chance to play, so don’t get angry or upset if your coach pulls you to give another player time on the field.\\nDon’t be a show-off, even if you're a more skilled player than your teammates or the other team.\\n3-7. Shake hands at the end of the game.\\nNo matter what the result of the game and regardless of whether you won or lost, you should always shake hands with your own team and your opponents.\\nShaking hands at the end of a game is a sign of good faith, and indicates that you're more concerned with playing well, having fun, congratulating your fellow players, and encouraging your team.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a good sport means several things, including playing fair, being a polite winner, accepting defeat with dignity, and being friendly regardless of the outcome of the game or match. When it comes to losing, it’s ok to feel disappointed, but it’s all about controlling your reaction. And the same goes for winning. Everybody likes to win, but that doesn’t mean it’s nice to gloat about it. 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1. Communicating With Your Stepchildren
1-1. Give your stepchildren time.
Women are more likely than men to feel responsible for making their stepfamilies perfect. However, remember that most stepchildren will need time to adjust. Some may be open from the start, while others may be more reluctant to engage.
Recognize that the transition is hard for them. Be patient. It may take two years or longer for some children to feel comfortable.
Shy children and older children, especially teens, may take longer to open up to you.
1-2. Do not expect to occupy the role of mother.
While your role may evolve into a “motherly” one as time goes on, do not expect this from the start. Sometimes, stepparents take on more of a mentorship role, particularly for teens.
What matters is that the relationship is healthy and satisfying for stepparent and stepchild.
1-3. Set some boundaries.
Children need rules. While you might be tempted to forgo all rules in attempt to win over your stepchildren, this will only create more problems. Be firm, but kind, sort of like a camp counselor. You shouldn't be the primary disciplinarian, which could strain an already sensitive relationship. Let your partner take on that role.
Say something like, “In our house, we don't do that.”
Speak calmly and avoid screaming.
1-4. Create a judgement-free environment.
Let your stepchildren know that they can communicate honestly and openly with you without fear of judgement. This will help strengthen your relationship.
Say something like, “I care about you, and I want you to tell me how you feel.”
Set an example by communicating openly as well. You might say, “When you don't listen to me, it makes me feel like you don't value my opinion, and that hurts.”
1-5. Stick to your word.
Divorce can make children wary of trusting the adults in their lives. Your stepchildren will need to feel safe and secure. Keep your promises and always be supportive.
1-6. Don't take things too personally.
Your stepchildren will likely have a hard time adjusting, and their loyalties may be divided. While you shouldn't put up with rudeness, don't expect gratitude or affection right away. All that may come later. In the meantime, continue doing your best and try to be patient.
2. Bonding with Your Stepchildren
2-1. Spend time alone with your stepchildren.
Get to know your stepchildren by spending one-on-one time with each child. Ask them about their day, their interests, or their hobbies. Show you value them and their ideas by listening attentively.
If you live with your stepchildren, try to find some one-on-one time every day. You might want to start a project together, like a rock collection or a craft.
If you do not live with your stepchildren, try playing online games together, or taking them to their favorite store or restaurant.
2-2. Respect family traditions while creating new ones.
Family traditions are important, and you should respect those that were in place before your arrival. However, you shouldn't be afraid to create new ones. Family routines and rituals can be effective tools for bonding. Create at least one new family ritual. Choose something everyone in the family can enjoy.
You might plan a weekly trip to the beach, a game night, or bi-weekly family dinners.
2-3. Attend your stepchildren's events or activities.
Maybe one stepchild has a soccer game, and another is starring in the school play. Attend these activities with enthusiasm—it will show you care.
2-4. Don't play favorites.
If you have biological children, be certain not to show favoritism. Do your best to show that you value each child, biological or step.
At the same time, beware of overcompensating by showing more affection to your stepchildren than to your biological children. Try to spend one-on-one time with your biological children each day.
3. Communicating With Your Partner and Their Ex
3-1. Define your role.
Talk to your partner so you can come to a clear understanding of your role in the family. Talk about what you expect from each other in terms of your own marriage and your relationships with the children.
Ask about any boundaries your partner's ex wants you to maintain with the children. This is especially important for stepmothers, who are generally more involved in childcare than stepfathers. Respecting boundaries will create a happier, more functional household.
For example, if the biological mother always makes the Halloween costumes, you should respect that.
3-2. Make sure your partner is involved in disciplining the kids.
Your partner may feel guilty about the divorce, and ease up on disciplining the children as a result. However, acting as the sole disciplinarian can cause the children to resent you. Make sure you take turns enforcing the rules.
You might tell your partner, “I need you to help me out with disciplining the kids. It's hard for me to work on bonding with them when I'm the only one enforcing the rules.”
Make a concrete plan with your partner. Say, “Today, I'll tell the kids to make their beds. Next time they forget, it's your turn.”
3-3. Never speak badly about your partner's ex.
Avoid saying negative things about your partner's ex, and make sure your partner does the same. Continued fighting after a divorce can hurt the children.
3-4. Establish a good relationship with your partner's ex, if possible.
Stepchildren are often resistant to developing a relationship with their stepmothers because they don't want to be disloyal. Your stepchild might view their resistance as an act of solidarity with your partner's ex. Establishing a cordial relationship with your partner's ex can remove this barrier, allowing you to connect better with your stepchildren.
Call your partner's ex and try to set up a time to meet.
Be open to what your partner's ex has to say, and try not to get defensive.
4. Taking Care of Yourself
4-1. Take time to recharge.
Making a stepfamily work can be an extremely challenging process. You won't be able to help the family to the best of your ability if you are exhausted and depleted. Set aside a little time for yourself each day, and reach out to friends for support if you need it.
4-2. Nurture your relationship with your partner.
While you may find yourself putting nearly all your energy into building a relationship with your stepchildren, it is important that you don't neglect your marriage. After all, you and your partner should model a healthy relationship for the children. When your relationship is strong, everyone benefits.
Set aside time during the week to go to dinner, lunch, or coffee without the children.
Avoid arguing in front of the children. Make sure your are on the same page and present a unified front.
4-3. Talk to a therapist if you need to.
Step families are complicated, and you shouldn't blame yourself for familial hardships. If you feel your relationship with your stepchildren is especially strained, consider trying family therapy.
Also, consider attending a few preventative family therapy sessions when your step family is first formed, even if you don't have many issues at first. This can prevent problems down the road.
Tips
Different ages need different approaches. Teenagers may need extra help with the transition.
If you live together with the father, make sure the kids have their own space.
When in doubt, find a fellow stepmother who can help. Join a local group or an online community for support.
Warnings
If you have had kids before this marriage, your husband will be a step-parent, too, and the kids will now have step brothers/sisters. Be patient in this adjustment as well.
It is best to wait until your new family has bonded to have a biological child with your partner. Don't assume that a child in common will solve everything!
It's not uncommon for the step children to despise you at first, so don't lose hope.
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While you might be tempted to forgo all rules in attempt to win over your stepchildren, this will only create more problems. Be firm, but kind, sort of like a camp counselor. You shouldn't be the primary disciplinarian, which could strain an already sensitive relationship. Let your partner take on that role.\\nSay something like, “In our house, we don't do that.”\\nSpeak calmly and avoid screaming.\\n1-4. Create a judgement-free environment.\\nLet your stepchildren know that they can communicate honestly and openly with you without fear of judgement. This will help strengthen your relationship.\\nSay something like, “I care about you, and I want you to tell me how you feel.”\\nSet an example by communicating openly as well. You might say, “When you don't listen to me, it makes me feel like you don't value my opinion, and that hurts.”\\n1-5. Stick to your word.\\nDivorce can make children wary of trusting the adults in their lives. Your stepchildren will need to feel safe and secure. Keep your promises and always be supportive.\\n1-6. Don't take things too personally.\\nYour stepchildren will likely have a hard time adjusting, and their loyalties may be divided. While you shouldn't put up with rudeness, don't expect gratitude or affection right away. All that may come later. In the meantime, continue doing your best and try to be patient.\\n2. Bonding with Your Stepchildren\\n2-1. Spend time alone with your stepchildren.\\nGet to know your stepchildren by spending one-on-one time with each child. Ask them about their day, their interests, or their hobbies. Show you value them and their ideas by listening attentively.\\nIf you live with your stepchildren, try to find some one-on-one time every day. You might want to start a project together, like a rock collection or a craft.\\nIf you do not live with your stepchildren, try playing online games together, or taking them to their favorite store or restaurant.\\n2-2. Respect family traditions while creating new ones.\\nFamily traditions are important, and you should respect those that were in place before your arrival. However, you shouldn't be afraid to create new ones. Family routines and rituals can be effective tools for bonding. Create at least one new family ritual. Choose something everyone in the family can enjoy.\\nYou might plan a weekly trip to the beach, a game night, or bi-weekly family dinners.\\n2-3. Attend your stepchildren's events or activities.\\nMaybe one stepchild has a soccer game, and another is starring in the school play. Attend these activities with enthusiasm—it will show you care.\\n2-4. Don't play favorites.\\nIf you have biological children, be certain not to show favoritism. Do your best to show that you value each child, biological or step.\\nAt the same time, beware of overcompensating by showing more affection to your stepchildren than to your biological children. Try to spend one-on-one time with your biological children each day.\\n3. Communicating With Your Partner and Their Ex\\n3-1. Define your role.\\nTalk to your partner so you can come to a clear understanding of your role in the family. Talk about what you expect from each other in terms of your own marriage and your relationships with the children.\\nAsk about any boundaries your partner's ex wants you to maintain with the children. This is especially important for stepmothers, who are generally more involved in childcare than stepfathers. Respecting boundaries will create a happier, more functional household.\\nFor example, if the biological mother always makes the Halloween costumes, you should respect that.\\n3-2. Make sure your partner is involved in disciplining the kids.\\nYour partner may feel guilty about the divorce, and ease up on disciplining the children as a result. However, acting as the sole disciplinarian can cause the children to resent you. Make sure you take turns enforcing the rules.\\nYou might tell your partner, “I need you to help me out with disciplining the kids. It's hard for me to work on bonding with them when I'm the only one enforcing the rules.”\\nMake a concrete plan with your partner. Say, “Today, I'll tell the kids to make their beds. Next time they forget, it's your turn.”\\n3-3. Never speak badly about your partner's ex.\\nAvoid saying negative things about your partner's ex, and make sure your partner does the same. Continued fighting after a divorce can hurt the children.\\n3-4. Establish a good relationship with your partner's ex, if possible.\\nStepchildren are often resistant to developing a relationship with their stepmothers because they don't want to be disloyal. Your stepchild might view their resistance as an act of solidarity with your partner's ex. Establishing a cordial relationship with your partner's ex can remove this barrier, allowing you to connect better with your stepchildren.\\nCall your partner's ex and try to set up a time to meet.\\nBe open to what your partner's ex has to say, and try not to get defensive.\\n4. Taking Care of Yourself\\n4-1. Take time to recharge.\\nMaking a stepfamily work can be an extremely challenging process. You won't be able to help the family to the best of your ability if you are exhausted and depleted. Set aside a little time for yourself each day, and reach out to friends for support if you need it.\\n4-2. Nurture your relationship with your partner.\\nWhile you may find yourself putting nearly all your energy into building a relationship with your stepchildren, it is important that you don't neglect your marriage. After all, you and your partner should model a healthy relationship for the children. When your relationship is strong, everyone benefits.\\nSet aside time during the week to go to dinner, lunch, or coffee without the children.\\nAvoid arguing in front of the children. Make sure your are on the same page and present a unified front.\\n4-3. Talk to a therapist if you need to.\\nStep families are complicated, and you shouldn't blame yourself for familial hardships. If you feel your relationship with your stepchildren is especially strained, consider trying family therapy.\\nAlso, consider attending a few preventative family therapy sessions when your step family is first formed, even if you don't have many issues at first. This can prevent problems down the road.\\nTips\\nDifferent ages need different approaches. Teenagers may need extra help with the transition.\\nIf you live together with the father, make sure the kids have their own space.\\nWhen in doubt, find a fellow stepmother who can help. 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1. Establishing your role
1-1. Beware that the children may also have their biological father as a father figure.
Don't try to compete with the biological father.
1-2. Be patient when waiting for your new stepchild to respond to your caring, affection, and love.
Often, the child is deeply wounded by circumstances involving their biological mother and father and the breakdown of their primary, original family unit. For many, building a new relationship is threatening to them. Time is the best healer but so is keeping actively positive and supporting yourself whenever you're around the child.
2. Spending time with your step-children
2-1. Spend time with the stepchild in his or her activities.
Helping with schoolwork, projects, and attending sporting events or clubs like scouting they're involved with will show them you're willing to support their efforts. The more involved you are, the sooner the child will accept you in your role of alternative dad and be grateful that you're a part of his or her life too.
2-2. Balance the time and gifts you give your own children with the stepchild.
Both your own children and your stepchild are a part of your family now. Avoid playing favorites under any circumstances; each child is to be treated as equal, and no child deserves to be treated as an outcast.
Keep a watchful eye on how your stepchild interacts with your own children, if you have any. Jealousy is toxic to any relationship. If this appears to be occurring, try to head it off immediately. To maintain a happy family atmosphere, step-sibling anger must be dealt with fairly and prudently.
Never treat your stepchild like he or she is not worthy of your time or affection just because he or she is not your biological child.
Never make your stepchild feel like you don’t care or like them, or that they are in the way of your relationship with their mother.
2-3. Invite the stepchild to participate in your own activities.
If you fish, golf, or do other hobby activities, where it is appropriate, take your stepchild along. Not only does this give the child a chance to see what you enjoy, but it gives his or her mother a break. On the other hand, never force the child to do what you've asked––if he or she shows a disinclination toward fishing or rewiring the house, don't force it. Given time and your enthusiasm, the child might come around to trying it. But if he or she is never interested, then that's just a reflection of his or her interests, not a reflection on you. Pushing the child to do things he or she hates just to try to prove you're buddies will backfire. Instead, keep looking for common ground until you do find an activity the child would like to share with you.
Spend time with your stepchild and teach him or her ways to become a responsible adult.
Show the child you're willing to help out in housework. It is important for children to understand that keeping a household is a family job, a shared household responsibility, and not just the mother's. Don't be old-fashioned, even if the child's real father is.
3. Communicating with your step-children
3-1. Communicate clearly and calmly.
Let your stepchild know that you are available to talk whenever needed and be a good listener when your stepchild does come to you for a chat. Be open-minded and accepting of difference, as the child has had different experiences before you came along. Make your own preferences known without being harsh or intimidating––always explain your actions and preferences with sound reasons.
Never let the only interaction you have with your stepchild that day be yelling and screaming. You should always try to focus on the positive things they do and not always the things they are doing wrong.
Keep your negative opinions of the child's biological father to yourself. Unless you're asked directly, don't bring up your opinions of him in front of the children or anyone else. If you are asked directly, be circumspect and tactful, as there is often a risk of an emotional overflow. Each parent's parenting style is different and unless the father is not taking part in parenting at all or is abusive in any way, you don't need to pass judgment.
Never argue with the child's mother in front of the child. Be especially careful about making derogatory remarks about her where the child may hear. The child will be highly alert to any disharmony, mostly due to a sense of protectiveness toward the mother and holding a strong hope that this new relationship will result in creating a happy family arrangement.
3-2. Be openly caring.
The child/ren will need your love and affection at all times, they will need you to be there whenever they need you, no matter what the situation. Moreover, they will need you to be the better parent at times, they will need you to stick up for them no matter what, and they will need you to give them a pass once in a while.
Be ready to listen to them and understand what they are going through or what they are trying to say.
Give them your fatherly shoulder to cry on at times or even just a hug or a kiss on the forehead or just a simple "I love you".
4. Stepping back
4-1. Respect the child's private space.
Any child, from preteen through their teen years deserve a reasonable amount of privacy and private space, and unless there is serious concern about the child's behavior or activity, the more space they are given, the more trusted they will feel.
4-2. Raise the child in alignment with the child's mother's wishes, not contrary to them.
This means having open lines of communication with the mother about her expectations and intentions for raising your stepchild, and having clarity on the direction both of you will take. As much as possible, defer to her preferences unless they are dangerous or threaten to destabilize the family or relationship the two of you have.
Respect the child's mother's disciplinary and homework regimens. Even if you think they may be out of line, don't raise this in front of the child or make passing remarks that undermine her. Instead, talk to her privately about your concerns and try to reach a compromise that benefits the child.
Discuss decisions which affect your stepchild directly or indirectly with his or her mother. Don't sign the child up for a summer at a military academy or sports camp without talking it over with her. Don't buy the child firearms, fireworks or even seemingly harmless ones like paintball guns or BB guns without her knowledge and consent. Never take the child out on an ATV, snowmobile, micro-light or other potentially dangerous recreational vehicle without her express permission.
Talk about computer games, video games, and other cultural influences with the child's mother. Social pressure will often press on mom to let the child do it, whatever "it" is, because everyone else is doing "it". Each family should have its own standards and ethical codes to live by. The child's mother needs your support and input on deciding whether to let the child have violent or graphic video games in the home, or allowing them to go to "R" rated movies with their friends.
Understand that your spouse is a mother and cannot always be free to spend alone time with you. There will be times when she will have to help the child or spend time with the child when you would really like her to be spending time with you.
5. Being a great role model
5-1. Help plan the future of the stepchild.
It may fall on you to begin a savings plan for college expenses, the first car, and helping to find that first job. Be actively involved in working out what is needed for the child's future, talking to the mother first and then including the child where appropriate.
5-2. Be a good example to your stepchild.
Smoking, excessive drinking, and recreational drugs have no place in a home with children in it. This may not be the politically correct position, but from the effects of secondhand smoke on young lungs, to the acceptance of illegal drugs as a "norm", these are not good behaviors to model for children. If you have problems with addiction to substances, seek help. If you must smoke, always smoke outdoors, away from the child.
5-3. Remember, being a step-dad is a leadership role as part of a team.
Accept the unique qualities of each team member, the limitations, even the eccentricities. There will be good times, even great times, but there will be conflict, disagreements, and letdowns. Patience, love, and a sympathetic view should help you through these challenges. You are the adult, no matter what the situation, you should remember that, and that problems may seem huge, but often will be forgotten in tomorrows rush, or laughed about next year.
Be yourself. It is almost impossible to set up pretense of doing, being, enjoying, or acting in ways that are not you. You may impress your stepchild for a while, but the real you will emerge sooner or later.
You chose to enter into a relationship with a woman with children, so you ultimately chose to be a role model and a parental figure to her child or children.
It is a good idea to keep a good rapport with your stepchild's biological father, except in cases where he is not welcome in your stepchild's life. A large proportion of stepfathers are good friends with the biological fathers of their stepchildren––both men are acting in the best interest of the child and collaborate. If both men are reasonable, impasses are uncommon.
Never pass up an opportunity to tell you stepchild that you love him or her.
5-4. Try to forget that he/she is not your biological child.
Sometimes always thinking about it would make you feel uneasy and unnatural around your child. Just treat him/her as you would your own child: if you love your spouse so much, why shouldn't you love her child?
Tips
Never ignore your stepchild/ren when they have something to say or show you. Show them love, care and try to understand them because they're going through a tough time.Tell and show them how you love them because they will think you only love their mother.This mostly happens when the stepparent is man. Please never leave the mother to solve problems alone you're there as father help her; she needs your support.
Don't go overboard with it but remember that children are easily bribed. Don't do this with lots of money. It's much better to observe closely, find out what that child really cares about most and give tiny well chosen gifts. A glass unicorn for a child's collection, or a special issue comic book, a model project you can work on together or any hobby tool or supply makes a good small gift. Don't do this every day but give them some welcoming gifts when you first move in and then once in a while spontaneously.
Small earned rewards that are equally thoughtful are even more compelling in winning a child's affection. When you appreciate their achievements with something tangible, even a gumball machine sticker, and it's something you know exactly which one they like best because you paid attention to them, that brings out the best in them. It reinforces their good behavior more thoroughly than any punishment and it communicates that you're both fair and you think well of them. Children really care about fairness. Rewarding them with praise and thanking them whenever they do something for you shows, not tells the child you're a good man. You know what's good and you do it, you walk the walk.
Warnings
Don't complain about every single thing your stepchild does. Remember that it’s not easy for this child to move into a new environment and to automatically learn to respect you.
Never put your spouse in the spot to have to choose between you or her child/children. She will often choose her child over her adult relationship, meaning you will lose out. Even if she chooses you over her child, you both lose out by losing the child's respect and love.
Do not think of your stepchildren as being brats or just naughty and as having no respect for you; try to see the situation from their point of view, through their hearts and eyes, especially when you know their history of disappointments and what and whom they expect you to be.
You will find there are times when your step-children try your patience or test your loyalty against them or the mother. Then you have to be the adult and think before you speak; how you say it will affect your relationship forever.
Never say "You should be more like your sibling/step-sibling" or compare them. Every child is a different human being with their own needs, talents, goals and personality. Take each of them for who they are and judge them in relation to their real abilities and talents. Learning something in their most difficult subject is a much bigger achievement than the latest gold star the kid who's talented in it got. Effort should count when judging results.
Don't give them rewards for every routine chore and average behavior. They'll start doing it just for the reward and lose interest in their hobbies if you do too much rewarding. Save rewards for special achievements like grade level rises, extra special cleaning up, any time the kid's done something much better than usual.
Never complain about your stepchildren to strangers. Just don't go there. Don't do this with your own children either. When you talk about your step-kids or your kids, put their best foot forward and talk about what you like about them. It reflects badly on you if they're that awful and implies you're not getting along well with your new partner.
Becoming a stepfather puts you in a position of responsibility for protecting the child from a host of dangers. Be aware of the risks which the child faces and be on the lookout for dangers around the home. Small children suffer from terrible harm every day because of carelessness.
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The more involved you are, the sooner the child will accept you in your role of alternative dad and be grateful that you're a part of his or her life too.\\n2-2. Balance the time and gifts you give your own children with the stepchild.\\nBoth your own children and your stepchild are a part of your family now. Avoid playing favorites under any circumstances; each child is to be treated as equal, and no child deserves to be treated as an outcast.\\nKeep a watchful eye on how your stepchild interacts with your own children, if you have any. Jealousy is toxic to any relationship. If this appears to be occurring, try to head it off immediately. To maintain a happy family atmosphere, step-sibling anger must be dealt with fairly and prudently.\\nNever treat your stepchild like he or she is not worthy of your time or affection just because he or she is not your biological child.\\nNever make your stepchild feel like you don’t care or like them, or that they are in the way of your relationship with their mother.\\n2-3. Invite the stepchild to participate in your own activities.\\nIf you fish, golf, or do other hobby activities, where it is appropriate, take your stepchild along. Not only does this give the child a chance to see what you enjoy, but it gives his or her mother a break. On the other hand, never force the child to do what you've asked––if he or she shows a disinclination toward fishing or rewiring the house, don't force it. Given time and your enthusiasm, the child might come around to trying it. But if he or she is never interested, then that's just a reflection of his or her interests, not a reflection on you. Pushing the child to do things he or she hates just to try to prove you're buddies will backfire. Instead, keep looking for common ground until you do find an activity the child would like to share with you.\\nSpend time with your stepchild and teach him or her ways to become a responsible adult.\\nShow the child you're willing to help out in housework. It is important for children to understand that keeping a household is a family job, a shared household responsibility, and not just the mother's. Don't be old-fashioned, even if the child's real father is.\\n3. Communicating with your step-children\\n3-1. Communicate clearly and calmly.\\nLet your stepchild know that you are available to talk whenever needed and be a good listener when your stepchild does come to you for a chat. Be open-minded and accepting of difference, as the child has had different experiences before you came along. Make your own preferences known without being harsh or intimidating––always explain your actions and preferences with sound reasons.\\nNever let the only interaction you have with your stepchild that day be yelling and screaming. You should always try to focus on the positive things they do and not always the things they are doing wrong.\\nKeep your negative opinions of the child's biological father to yourself. Unless you're asked directly, don't bring up your opinions of him in front of the children or anyone else. If you are asked directly, be circumspect and tactful, as there is often a risk of an emotional overflow. Each parent's parenting style is different and unless the father is not taking part in parenting at all or is abusive in any way, you don't need to pass judgment.\\nNever argue with the child's mother in front of the child. Be especially careful about making derogatory remarks about her where the child may hear. The child will be highly alert to any disharmony, mostly due to a sense of protectiveness toward the mother and holding a strong hope that this new relationship will result in creating a happy family arrangement.\\n3-2. Be openly caring.\\nThe child/ren will need your love and affection at all times, they will need you to be there whenever they need you, no matter what the situation. Moreover, they will need you to be the better parent at times, they will need you to stick up for them no matter what, and they will need you to give them a pass once in a while.\\nBe ready to listen to them and understand what they are going through or what they are trying to say.\\nGive them your fatherly shoulder to cry on at times or even just a hug or a kiss on the forehead or just a simple \\\"I love you\\\".\\n4. Stepping back\\n4-1. Respect the child's private space.\\nAny child, from preteen through their teen years deserve a reasonable amount of privacy and private space, and unless there is serious concern about the child's behavior or activity, the more space they are given, the more trusted they will feel.\\n4-2. Raise the child in alignment with the child's mother's wishes, not contrary to them.\\nThis means having open lines of communication with the mother about her expectations and intentions for raising your stepchild, and having clarity on the direction both of you will take. As much as possible, defer to her preferences unless they are dangerous or threaten to destabilize the family or relationship the two of you have.\\nRespect the child's mother's disciplinary and homework regimens. Even if you think they may be out of line, don't raise this in front of the child or make passing remarks that undermine her. Instead, talk to her privately about your concerns and try to reach a compromise that benefits the child.\\nDiscuss decisions which affect your stepchild directly or indirectly with his or her mother. Don't sign the child up for a summer at a military academy or sports camp without talking it over with her. Don't buy the child firearms, fireworks or even seemingly harmless ones like paintball guns or BB guns without her knowledge and consent. Never take the child out on an ATV, snowmobile, micro-light or other potentially dangerous recreational vehicle without her express permission.\\nTalk about computer games, video games, and other cultural influences with the child's mother. Social pressure will often press on mom to let the child do it, whatever \\\"it\\\" is, because everyone else is doing \\\"it\\\". Each family should have its own standards and ethical codes to live by. The child's mother needs your support and input on deciding whether to let the child have violent or graphic video games in the home, or allowing them to go to \\\"R\\\" rated movies with their friends.\\nUnderstand that your spouse is a mother and cannot always be free to spend alone time with you. There will be times when she will have to help the child or spend time with the child when you would really like her to be spending time with you.\\n5. Being a great role model\\n5-1. Help plan the future of the stepchild.\\nIt may fall on you to begin a savings plan for college expenses, the first car, and helping to find that first job. Be actively involved in working out what is needed for the child's future, talking to the mother first and then including the child where appropriate.\\n5-2. Be a good example to your stepchild.\\nSmoking, excessive drinking, and recreational drugs have no place in a home with children in it. This may not be the politically correct position, but from the effects of secondhand smoke on young lungs, to the acceptance of illegal drugs as a \\\"norm\\\", these are not good behaviors to model for children. If you have problems with addiction to substances, seek help. If you must smoke, always smoke outdoors, away from the child.\\n5-3. Remember, being a step-dad is a leadership role as part of a team.\\nAccept the unique qualities of each team member, the limitations, even the eccentricities. There will be good times, even great times, but there will be conflict, disagreements, and letdowns. Patience, love, and a sympathetic view should help you through these challenges. You are the adult, no matter what the situation, you should remember that, and that problems may seem huge, but often will be forgotten in tomorrows rush, or laughed about next year.\\nBe yourself. It is almost impossible to set up pretense of doing, being, enjoying, or acting in ways that are not you. You may impress your stepchild for a while, but the real you will emerge sooner or later.\\nYou chose to enter into a relationship with a woman with children, so you ultimately chose to be a role model and a parental figure to her child or children.\\nIt is a good idea to keep a good rapport with your stepchild's biological father, except in cases where he is not welcome in your stepchild's life. A large proportion of stepfathers are good friends with the biological fathers of their stepchildren––both men are acting in the best interest of the child and collaborate. If both men are reasonable, impasses are uncommon.\\nNever pass up an opportunity to tell you stepchild that you love him or her.\\n5-4. Try to forget that he/she is not your biological child.\\nSometimes always thinking about it would make you feel uneasy and unnatural around your child. Just treat him/her as you would your own child: if you love your spouse so much, why shouldn't you love her child?\\nTips\\nNever ignore your stepchild/ren when they have something to say or show you. Show them love, care and try to understand them because they're going through a tough time.Tell and show them how you love them because they will think you only love their mother.This mostly happens when the stepparent is man. Please never leave the mother to solve problems alone you're there as father help her; she needs your support.\\nDon't go overboard with it but remember that children are easily bribed. Don't do this with lots of money. It's much better to observe closely, find out what that child really cares about most and give tiny well chosen gifts. A glass unicorn for a child's collection, or a special issue comic book, a model project you can work on together or any hobby tool or supply makes a good small gift. Don't do this every day but give them some welcoming gifts when you first move in and then once in a while spontaneously.\\nSmall earned rewards that are equally thoughtful are even more compelling in winning a child's affection. When you appreciate their achievements with something tangible, even a gumball machine sticker, and it's something you know exactly which one they like best because you paid attention to them, that brings out the best in them. It reinforces their good behavior more thoroughly than any punishment and it communicates that you're both fair and you think well of them. Children really care about fairness. Rewarding them with praise and thanking them whenever they do something for you shows, not tells the child you're a good man. You know what's good and you do it, you walk the walk.\\nWarnings\\nDon't complain about every single thing your stepchild does. Remember that it’s not easy for this child to move into a new environment and to automatically learn to respect you.\\nNever put your spouse in the spot to have to choose between you or her child/children. She will often choose her child over her adult relationship, meaning you will lose out. Even if she chooses you over her child, you both lose out by losing the child's respect and love.\\nDo not think of your stepchildren as being brats or just naughty and as having no respect for you; try to see the situation from their point of view, through their hearts and eyes, especially when you know their history of disappointments and what and whom they expect you to be.\\nYou will find there are times when your step-children try your patience or test your loyalty against them or the mother. Then you have to be the adult and think before you speak; how you say it will affect your relationship forever.\\nNever say \\\"You should be more like your sibling/step-sibling\\\" or compare them. Every child is a different human being with their own needs, talents, goals and personality. Take each of them for who they are and judge them in relation to their real abilities and talents. Learning something in their most difficult subject is a much bigger achievement than the latest gold star the kid who's talented in it got. Effort should count when judging results.\\nDon't give them rewards for every routine chore and average behavior. They'll start doing it just for the reward and lose interest in their hobbies if you do too much rewarding. Save rewards for special achievements like grade level rises, extra special cleaning up, any time the kid's done something much better than usual.\\nNever complain about your stepchildren to strangers. Just don't go there. Don't do this with your own children either. When you talk about your step-kids or your kids, put their best foot forward and talk about what you like about them. It reflects badly on you if they're that awful and implies you're not getting along well with your new partner.\\nBecoming a stepfather puts you in a position of responsibility for protecting the child from a host of dangers. Be aware of the risks which the child faces and be on the lookout for dangers around the home. Small children suffer from terrible harm every day because of carelessness.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a stepparent can be both fulfilling and challenging. If you've married or partnered with a person who already has children, you have to consider them part of a package deal, to be loved, nurtured, and protected to the best of your ability. Being a good stepfather has all the elements of being a good father, as well as acknowledging that it takes time and willingness to establish your role as stepfather in a new family arrangement.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Establishing your role\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Beware that the children may also have their biological father as a father figure.\", \"描述\": \"Don't try to compete with the biological father.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be patient when waiting for your new stepchild to respond to your caring, affection, and love.\", \"描述\": \"Often, the child is deeply wounded by circumstances involving their biological mother and father and the breakdown of their primary, original family unit. For many, building a new relationship is threatening to them. Time is the best healer but so is keeping actively positive and supporting yourself whenever you're around the child.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Spending time with your step-children\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spend time with the stepchild in his or her activities.\", \"描述\": \"Helping with schoolwork, projects, and attending sporting events or clubs like scouting they're involved with will show them you're willing to support their efforts. The more involved you are, the sooner the child will accept you in your role of alternative dad and be grateful that you're a part of his or her life too.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Balance the time and gifts you give your own children with the stepchild.\", \"描述\": \"Both your own children and your stepchild are a part of your family now. Avoid playing favorites under any circumstances; each child is to be treated as equal, and no child deserves to be treated as an outcast.\\nKeep a watchful eye on how your stepchild interacts with your own children, if you have any. Jealousy is toxic to any relationship. If this appears to be occurring, try to head it off immediately. To maintain a happy family atmosphere, step-sibling anger must be dealt with fairly and prudently.\\nNever treat your stepchild like he or she is not worthy of your time or affection just because he or she is not your biological child.\\nNever make your stepchild feel like you don’t care or like them, or that they are in the way of your relationship with their mother.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Invite the stepchild to participate in your own activities.\", \"描述\": \"If you fish, golf, or do other hobby activities, where it is appropriate, take your stepchild along. Not only does this give the child a chance to see what you enjoy, but it gives his or her mother a break. On the other hand, never force the child to do what you've asked––if he or she shows a disinclination toward fishing or rewiring the house, don't force it. Given time and your enthusiasm, the child might come around to trying it. But if he or she is never interested, then that's just a reflection of his or her interests, not a reflection on you. Pushing the child to do things he or she hates just to try to prove you're buddies will backfire. Instead, keep looking for common ground until you do find an activity the child would like to share with you.\\nSpend time with your stepchild and teach him or her ways to become a responsible adult.\\nShow the child you're willing to help out in housework. It is important for children to understand that keeping a household is a family job, a shared household responsibility, and not just the mother's. Don't be old-fashioned, even if the child's real father is.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Communicating with your step-children\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Communicate clearly and calmly.\", \"描述\": \"Let your stepchild know that you are available to talk whenever needed and be a good listener when your stepchild does come to you for a chat. Be open-minded and accepting of difference, as the child has had different experiences before you came along. Make your own preferences known without being harsh or intimidating––always explain your actions and preferences with sound reasons.\\nNever let the only interaction you have with your stepchild that day be yelling and screaming. You should always try to focus on the positive things they do and not always the things they are doing wrong.\\nKeep your negative opinions of the child's biological father to yourself. Unless you're asked directly, don't bring up your opinions of him in front of the children or anyone else. If you are asked directly, be circumspect and tactful, as there is often a risk of an emotional overflow. Each parent's parenting style is different and unless the father is not taking part in parenting at all or is abusive in any way, you don't need to pass judgment.\\nNever argue with the child's mother in front of the child. Be especially careful about making derogatory remarks about her where the child may hear. The child will be highly alert to any disharmony, mostly due to a sense of protectiveness toward the mother and holding a strong hope that this new relationship will result in creating a happy family arrangement.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be openly caring.\", \"描述\": \"The child/ren will need your love and affection at all times, they will need you to be there whenever they need you, no matter what the situation. Moreover, they will need you to be the better parent at times, they will need you to stick up for them no matter what, and they will need you to give them a pass once in a while.\\nBe ready to listen to them and understand what they are going through or what they are trying to say.\\nGive them your fatherly shoulder to cry on at times or even just a hug or a kiss on the forehead or just a simple \\\"I love you\\\".\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stepping back\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Respect the child's private space.\", \"描述\": \"Any child, from preteen through their teen years deserve a reasonable amount of privacy and private space, and unless there is serious concern about the child's behavior or activity, the more space they are given, the more trusted they will feel.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Raise the child in alignment with the child's mother's wishes, not contrary to them.\", \"描述\": \"This means having open lines of communication with the mother about her expectations and intentions for raising your stepchild, and having clarity on the direction both of you will take. As much as possible, defer to her preferences unless they are dangerous or threaten to destabilize the family or relationship the two of you have.\\nRespect the child's mother's disciplinary and homework regimens. Even if you think they may be out of line, don't raise this in front of the child or make passing remarks that undermine her. Instead, talk to her privately about your concerns and try to reach a compromise that benefits the child.\\nDiscuss decisions which affect your stepchild directly or indirectly with his or her mother. Don't sign the child up for a summer at a military academy or sports camp without talking it over with her. Don't buy the child firearms, fireworks or even seemingly harmless ones like paintball guns or BB guns without her knowledge and consent. Never take the child out on an ATV, snowmobile, micro-light or other potentially dangerous recreational vehicle without her express permission.\\nTalk about computer games, video games, and other cultural influences with the child's mother. Social pressure will often press on mom to let the child do it, whatever \\\"it\\\" is, because everyone else is doing \\\"it\\\". Each family should have its own standards and ethical codes to live by. The child's mother needs your support and input on deciding whether to let the child have violent or graphic video games in the home, or allowing them to go to \\\"R\\\" rated movies with their friends.\\nUnderstand that your spouse is a mother and cannot always be free to spend alone time with you. There will be times when she will have to help the child or spend time with the child when you would really like her to be spending time with you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Being a great role model\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help plan the future of the stepchild.\", \"描述\": \"It may fall on you to begin a savings plan for college expenses, the first car, and helping to find that first job. Be actively involved in working out what is needed for the child's future, talking to the mother first and then including the child where appropriate.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be a good example to your stepchild.\", \"描述\": \"Smoking, excessive drinking, and recreational drugs have no place in a home with children in it. This may not be the politically correct position, but from the effects of secondhand smoke on young lungs, to the acceptance of illegal drugs as a \\\"norm\\\", these are not good behaviors to model for children. If you have problems with addiction to substances, seek help. If you must smoke, always smoke outdoors, away from the child.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remember, being a step-dad is a leadership role as part of a team.\", \"描述\": \"Accept the unique qualities of each team member, the limitations, even the eccentricities. There will be good times, even great times, but there will be conflict, disagreements, and letdowns. Patience, love, and a sympathetic view should help you through these challenges. You are the adult, no matter what the situation, you should remember that, and that problems may seem huge, but often will be forgotten in tomorrows rush, or laughed about next year.\\nBe yourself. It is almost impossible to set up pretense of doing, being, enjoying, or acting in ways that are not you. You may impress your stepchild for a while, but the real you will emerge sooner or later.\\nYou chose to enter into a relationship with a woman with children, so you ultimately chose to be a role model and a parental figure to her child or children.\\nIt is a good idea to keep a good rapport with your stepchild's biological father, except in cases where he is not welcome in your stepchild's life. A large proportion of stepfathers are good friends with the biological fathers of their stepchildren––both men are acting in the best interest of the child and collaborate. If both men are reasonable, impasses are uncommon.\\nNever pass up an opportunity to tell you stepchild that you love him or her.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try to forget that he/she is not your biological child.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes always thinking about it would make you feel uneasy and unnatural around your child. Just treat him/her as you would your own child: if you love your spouse so much, why shouldn't you love her child?\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Never ignore your stepchild/ren when they have something to say or show you. Show them love, care and try to understand them because they're going through a tough time.Tell and show them how you love them because they will think you only love their mother.This mostly happens when the stepparent is man. Please never leave the mother to solve problems alone you're there as father help her; she needs your support.\\n\", \"Don't go overboard with it but remember that children are easily bribed. Don't do this with lots of money. It's much better to observe closely, find out what that child really cares about most and give tiny well chosen gifts. A glass unicorn for a child's collection, or a special issue comic book, a model project you can work on together or any hobby tool or supply makes a good small gift. Don't do this every day but give them some welcoming gifts when you first move in and then once in a while spontaneously.\\n\", \"Small earned rewards that are equally thoughtful are even more compelling in winning a child's affection. When you appreciate their achievements with something tangible, even a gumball machine sticker, and it's something you know exactly which one they like best because you paid attention to them, that brings out the best in them. It reinforces their good behavior more thoroughly than any punishment and it communicates that you're both fair and you think well of them. Children really care about fairness. Rewarding them with praise and thanking them whenever they do something for you shows, not tells the child you're a good man. You know what's good and you do it, you walk the walk.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't complain about every single thing your stepchild does. Remember that it’s not easy for this child to move into a new environment and to automatically learn to respect you.\\n\", \"Never put your spouse in the spot to have to choose between you or her child/children. She will often choose her child over her adult relationship, meaning you will lose out. Even if she chooses you over her child, you both lose out by losing the child's respect and love.\\n\", \"Do not think of your stepchildren as being brats or just naughty and as having no respect for you; try to see the situation from their point of view, through their hearts and eyes, especially when you know their history of disappointments and what and whom they expect you to be.\\n\", \"You will find there are times when your step-children try your patience or test your loyalty against them or the mother. Then you have to be the adult and think before you speak; how you say it will affect your relationship forever.\\n\", \"Never say \\\"You should be more like your sibling/step-sibling\\\" or compare them. Every child is a different human being with their own needs, talents, goals and personality. Take each of them for who they are and judge them in relation to their real abilities and talents. Learning something in their most difficult subject is a much bigger achievement than the latest gold star the kid who's talented in it got. Effort should count when judging results.\\n\", \"Don't give them rewards for every routine chore and average behavior. They'll start doing it just for the reward and lose interest in their hobbies if you do too much rewarding. Save rewards for special achievements like grade level rises, extra special cleaning up, any time the kid's done something much better than usual.\\n\", \"Never complain about your stepchildren to strangers. Just don't go there. Don't do this with your own children either. When you talk about your step-kids or your kids, put their best foot forward and talk about what you like about them. It reflects badly on you if they're that awful and implies you're not getting along well with your new partner.\\n\", \"Becoming a stepfather puts you in a position of responsibility for protecting the child from a host of dangers. Be aware of the risks which the child faces and be on the lookout for dangers around the home. Small children suffer from terrible harm every day because of carelessness.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Identifying Your Objectives
1-1. Know the issues.
Developing strategy is built on a foundation of understanding. In order to create a method by which you can succeed in your given area, you must recognize and accept the shortcomings. When you understand what needs work, you can build a strong action plan for overcoming those obstacles. Here's how to spot those shortcomings.
Look for the activities or responsibilities you constantly put off. People often avoid what they feel less competent in.
Pay attention to the feedback of those around you. If your partner and your boss give similar constructive criticism, the common ground may be an area of weakness for you.
Ask the opinion of a trusted friend. Find someone who will speak candidly with you and ask him what areas you can refine.
Look closely at previous setbacks. When you failed at a task in the past, what were the major barriers to your success?
1-2. Recognize the resources available to you.
The next step toward identifying your given objectives is to assess what resources you have at hand. Do you have everything you need to reach your goals? Are you maximizing these resources by using them most effectively?
For example, oftentimes, a leader may have a team of people there to help on a project, but only employ a few of the players. Make use of every person available to you for optimal success.
1-3. Figure out where you want to be.
Now is the time to dream. Close your eyes and envision what you would like to see happening in your life over a set period of time. Think about your career. Your relationships. Your finances. Your passions. Your health. Ask yourself the following questions:
What is missing from my life right now that I would like to incorporate?
What makes me feel excited, happy, engaged, and energized?
Am I moving towards the person I want to be?
Where do I see myself in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
1-4. Develop SMART goals
Once you have pinpointed a few goals that you would like to move towards, it's time to create an action plan to reach them. In order to ensure that these goals come into fruition, they need to meet certain qualifications. The most effective goals are SMART goals.
S is for specific. Your goals should outline who is involved, what you want to accomplish, where this will take place, when you expect to reach the goal, which requirement or resources are needed, and why you want to achieve it (i.e. the purpose).
M is for measurable. Your goals should include a concrete and clear way to track progress.
A is for attainable. You should be able to see yourself reaching these goals and know that you have the skills, resources, and willpower to achieve them.
R is for realistic. Your goals must be feasible based on your unique circumstances and the resources you have available to you. Set the bar high, but not so high that it's nearly impossible for you to achieve it.
T is for timely. Your goals must include time constraints. If there is no time frame, there is no urgency. Allow yourself a reasonable amount of time to reach the goal while still challenging yourself.
2. Maximizing Effectiveness
2-1. Break large tasks down.
A good strategist knows how to work smarter and not harder. One way to work smart is to work your way through big projects by tackling smaller, manageable parts. This helps you beat excess stress and fend off procrastination. Plus, as you complete each part, you gain a greater sense of self-efficacy and confidence in your abilities.
Look at the project as a whole and decide how it can be divided into several steps. What should be done first? Second? Third?
Create an action plan that allows you to complete each section in a logical order. Once every section is complete, review the project in its entirety before submitting.
2-2. Seek input regularly.
An effective strategist knows that continual growth requires taking a step back and reassessing one's methods. It also means seeking feedback from others. Getting input from others brings awareness to what's working or not working. It also reinforces the idea that success is a team effort.
Be specific in your request. Ask, "How do you suggest I handle this task?" or "How do you think I can improve my client relationships?"
Whether you agree or disagree with the response, paraphrase the feedback so that the person knows you received it (e.g. "So, you're saying I need to..."). Then, thank the person for his input. It can be very effective to seek input from a range of sources--superiors and subordinates alike.
2-3. Learn to delegate.
Good strategists are highly impactful leaders. One technique that helps you to maximize that effectiveness is delegation. When you are tackling a difficult project in which a team member has the skills to assist, reach out for help. This strategy can greatly improve your performance and productivity.
Delegation is an effective strategy because it enables those who are properly suited for specific tasks to handle them accordingly. That way you are not wasting time trying to retrain or learn new skills that someone on your team already has.
Another reason to delegate is to give other team members a chance to learn tasks that you do repeatedly, and, therefore, have already mastered.
Let's say you have a big project that needs marketing, statistics, and writing work in order to be completed. You might reach out to your best people in those categories. Doing so will ensure that the project receives the most capable hands on deck.
2-4. Surround yourself with effective people.
A good strategist does not try to be the smartest man in the room. He does, however, know the smartest man in the room. Successful, effective people resonate an energy that is contagious. If you surround yourself with people who are empowering, resourceful, and motivated, you will be, too.
If you are not convinced that those you spend time with influence you, consider this. There is a popular personal development concept that describes any person as being the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Even if the metrics are not accurate, you have to know that others' good--and bad--habits can rub off on you. So, spend time with people who embody the qualities you, too, would like to possess.
3. Fostering Continual Growth
3-1. Reassess your progress.
A big part of being a competent strategist is knowing when to switch tactics. Developing goals is wonderful, but you also must be willing to terminate a plan or incorporate new strategies if you are not getting the anticipated results.
If, upon reassessment, you find that you do not see the progress you would like, go back to step one. Consider what and why your methods are not working. Examine what resources you currently have at your disposal. Then, come up with some new ways of meeting your objectives.
Know that it takes time to meet many goals. Don't switch strategies until you can confirm that the tactic is, in fact, not working. In some cases, you may not have given your methods enough time to show results.
Consider this scenario: you are aiming to build up a long-term savings account. You were able to consistently deposit a set amount into the account every week. After successfully moving towards this goal for a period of time, you might decide to increase the amount you are depositing each week to meet your long-term goal faster.
3-2. Be open-minded.
If you are closed to new ideas and techniques, you limit yourself. An essential part of your arsenal as a strategist must be a willingness to be wrong, to be surprised, and to find inspiration in the most unlikely of places. If keeping an open mind poses a challenge for you, try the following tips:
Listen more, even to those with lesser titles than you.
Reinforce those who have the courage to try new things or make changes.
Gather all the facts before making a decision.
3-3. Build an always-learning attitude.
A good strategist is like a sponge, constantly soaking up knowledge and experiences. Because science and technology are always evolving, you must understand that you, too, must educate yourself to stay abreast.
Learn by reading books, watching films and documentaries, and completing online and in-person training in your given area. Regularly acquire new skills.
Observe others to see how they are doing things.
Ask questions; never assume you know everything.
3-4. Anticipate challenges and plan accordingly.
A capable strategist has mastered the notion of foresight, or he has someone on his team who has this skill. Many great leaders and businesses are toppled because a new trend or technique rendered their old methods useless. In order to prevent this, one must anticipate and plan for challenges. Do this by:
Staying connected. Keep your finger on the pulse of the people. Know what their challenges are.
Researching your area of expertise. Stay abreast of new trends, products, and the users' response to them.
Consult with the customer or end-user. Consider their opinion on new initiatives.
Develop special teams to anticipate and respond to challenges.
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Recognize the resources available to you.\\nThe next step toward identifying your given objectives is to assess what resources you have at hand. Do you have everything you need to reach your goals? Are you maximizing these resources by using them most effectively?\\nFor example, oftentimes, a leader may have a team of people there to help on a project, but only employ a few of the players. Make use of every person available to you for optimal success.\\n1-3. Figure out where you want to be.\\nNow is the time to dream. Close your eyes and envision what you would like to see happening in your life over a set period of time. Think about your career. Your relationships. Your finances. Your passions. Your health. Ask yourself the following questions:\\nWhat is missing from my life right now that I would like to incorporate?\\nWhat makes me feel excited, happy, engaged, and energized?\\nAm I moving towards the person I want to be?\\nWhere do I see myself in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?\\n1-4. Develop SMART goals\\nOnce you have pinpointed a few goals that you would like to move towards, it's time to create an action plan to reach them. In order to ensure that these goals come into fruition, they need to meet certain qualifications. The most effective goals are SMART goals.\\nS is for specific. Your goals should outline who is involved, what you want to accomplish, where this will take place, when you expect to reach the goal, which requirement or resources are needed, and why you want to achieve it (i.e. the purpose).\\nM is for measurable. Your goals should include a concrete and clear way to track progress.\\nA is for attainable. You should be able to see yourself reaching these goals and know that you have the skills, resources, and willpower to achieve them.\\nR is for realistic. Your goals must be feasible based on your unique circumstances and the resources you have available to you. Set the bar high, but not so high that it's nearly impossible for you to achieve it.\\nT is for timely. Your goals must include time constraints. If there is no time frame, there is no urgency. Allow yourself a reasonable amount of time to reach the goal while still challenging yourself.\\n2. Maximizing Effectiveness\\n2-1. Break large tasks down.\\nA good strategist knows how to work smarter and not harder. One way to work smart is to work your way through big projects by tackling smaller, manageable parts. This helps you beat excess stress and fend off procrastination. Plus, as you complete each part, you gain a greater sense of self-efficacy and confidence in your abilities.\\nLook at the project as a whole and decide how it can be divided into several steps. What should be done first? Second? Third?\\nCreate an action plan that allows you to complete each section in a logical order. Once every section is complete, review the project in its entirety before submitting.\\n2-2. Seek input regularly.\\nAn effective strategist knows that continual growth requires taking a step back and reassessing one's methods. It also means seeking feedback from others. Getting input from others brings awareness to what's working or not working. It also reinforces the idea that success is a team effort.\\nBe specific in your request. Ask, \\\"How do you suggest I handle this task?\\\" or \\\"How do you think I can improve my client relationships?\\\"\\nWhether you agree or disagree with the response, paraphrase the feedback so that the person knows you received it (e.g. \\\"So, you're saying I need to...\\\"). Then, thank the person for his input. It can be very effective to seek input from a range of sources--superiors and subordinates alike.\\n2-3. Learn to delegate.\\nGood strategists are highly impactful leaders. One technique that helps you to maximize that effectiveness is delegation. When you are tackling a difficult project in which a team member has the skills to assist, reach out for help. This strategy can greatly improve your performance and productivity.\\nDelegation is an effective strategy because it enables those who are properly suited for specific tasks to handle them accordingly. That way you are not wasting time trying to retrain or learn new skills that someone on your team already has.\\nAnother reason to delegate is to give other team members a chance to learn tasks that you do repeatedly, and, therefore, have already mastered.\\nLet's say you have a big project that needs marketing, statistics, and writing work in order to be completed. You might reach out to your best people in those categories. Doing so will ensure that the project receives the most capable hands on deck.\\n2-4. Surround yourself with effective people.\\nA good strategist does not try to be the smartest man in the room. He does, however, know the smartest man in the room. Successful, effective people resonate an energy that is contagious. If you surround yourself with people who are empowering, resourceful, and motivated, you will be, too.\\nIf you are not convinced that those you spend time with influence you, consider this. There is a popular personal development concept that describes any person as being the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.\\nEven if the metrics are not accurate, you have to know that others' good--and bad--habits can rub off on you. So, spend time with people who embody the qualities you, too, would like to possess.\\n3. Fostering Continual Growth\\n3-1. Reassess your progress.\\nA big part of being a competent strategist is knowing when to switch tactics. Developing goals is wonderful, but you also must be willing to terminate a plan or incorporate new strategies if you are not getting the anticipated results.\\nIf, upon reassessment, you find that you do not see the progress you would like, go back to step one. Consider what and why your methods are not working. Examine what resources you currently have at your disposal. Then, come up with some new ways of meeting your objectives.\\nKnow that it takes time to meet many goals. Don't switch strategies until you can confirm that the tactic is, in fact, not working. In some cases, you may not have given your methods enough time to show results.\\nConsider this scenario: you are aiming to build up a long-term savings account. You were able to consistently deposit a set amount into the account every week. After successfully moving towards this goal for a period of time, you might decide to increase the amount you are depositing each week to meet your long-term goal faster.\\n3-2. Be open-minded.\\nIf you are closed to new ideas and techniques, you limit yourself. An essential part of your arsenal as a strategist must be a willingness to be wrong, to be surprised, and to find inspiration in the most unlikely of places. If keeping an open mind poses a challenge for you, try the following tips:\\nListen more, even to those with lesser titles than you.\\nReinforce those who have the courage to try new things or make changes.\\nGather all the facts before making a decision.\\n3-3. Build an always-learning attitude.\\nA good strategist is like a sponge, constantly soaking up knowledge and experiences. Because science and technology are always evolving, you must understand that you, too, must educate yourself to stay abreast.\\nLearn by reading books, watching films and documentaries, and completing online and in-person training in your given area. Regularly acquire new skills.\\nObserve others to see how they are doing things.\\nAsk questions; never assume you know everything.\\n3-4. Anticipate challenges and plan accordingly.\\nA capable strategist has mastered the notion of foresight, or he has someone on his team who has this skill. Many great leaders and businesses are toppled because a new trend or technique rendered their old methods useless. In order to prevent this, one must anticipate and plan for challenges. Do this by:\\nStaying connected. Keep your finger on the pulse of the people. Know what their challenges are.\\nResearching your area of expertise. Stay abreast of new trends, products, and the users' response to them.\\nConsult with the customer or end-user. Consider their opinion on new initiatives.\\nDevelop special teams to anticipate and respond to challenges.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"In general terms, a strategist is someone who can develop and implement a plan of action. Having a good strategy is essential for achieving one's goals. If you are wanting to become more effective at work or meet more long-term goals, being a good strategist is the first step.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identifying Your Objectives\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know the issues.\", \"描述\": \"Developing strategy is built on a foundation of understanding. In order to create a method by which you can succeed in your given area, you must recognize and accept the shortcomings. When you understand what needs work, you can build a strong action plan for overcoming those obstacles. Here's how to spot those shortcomings.\\nLook for the activities or responsibilities you constantly put off. People often avoid what they feel less competent in.\\nPay attention to the feedback of those around you. If your partner and your boss give similar constructive criticism, the common ground may be an area of weakness for you.\\nAsk the opinion of a trusted friend. Find someone who will speak candidly with you and ask him what areas you can refine.\\nLook closely at previous setbacks. When you failed at a task in the past, what were the major barriers to your success?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Recognize the resources available to you.\", \"描述\": \"The next step toward identifying your given objectives is to assess what resources you have at hand. Do you have everything you need to reach your goals? Are you maximizing these resources by using them most effectively?\\nFor example, oftentimes, a leader may have a team of people there to help on a project, but only employ a few of the players. Make use of every person available to you for optimal success.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Figure out where you want to be.\", \"描述\": \"Now is the time to dream. Close your eyes and envision what you would like to see happening in your life over a set period of time. Think about your career. Your relationships. Your finances. Your passions. Your health. Ask yourself the following questions:\\nWhat is missing from my life right now that I would like to incorporate?\\nWhat makes me feel excited, happy, engaged, and energized?\\nAm I moving towards the person I want to be?\\nWhere do I see myself in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Develop SMART goals\", \"描述\": \"Once you have pinpointed a few goals that you would like to move towards, it's time to create an action plan to reach them. In order to ensure that these goals come into fruition, they need to meet certain qualifications. The most effective goals are SMART goals.\\nS is for specific. Your goals should outline who is involved, what you want to accomplish, where this will take place, when you expect to reach the goal, which requirement or resources are needed, and why you want to achieve it (i.e. the purpose).\\nM is for measurable. Your goals should include a concrete and clear way to track progress.\\nA is for attainable. You should be able to see yourself reaching these goals and know that you have the skills, resources, and willpower to achieve them.\\nR is for realistic. Your goals must be feasible based on your unique circumstances and the resources you have available to you. Set the bar high, but not so high that it's nearly impossible for you to achieve it.\\nT is for timely. Your goals must include time constraints. If there is no time frame, there is no urgency. Allow yourself a reasonable amount of time to reach the goal while still challenging yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maximizing Effectiveness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Break large tasks down.\", \"描述\": \"A good strategist knows how to work smarter and not harder. One way to work smart is to work your way through big projects by tackling smaller, manageable parts. This helps you beat excess stress and fend off procrastination. Plus, as you complete each part, you gain a greater sense of self-efficacy and confidence in your abilities.\\nLook at the project as a whole and decide how it can be divided into several steps. What should be done first? Second? Third?\\nCreate an action plan that allows you to complete each section in a logical order. Once every section is complete, review the project in its entirety before submitting.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Seek input regularly.\", \"描述\": \"An effective strategist knows that continual growth requires taking a step back and reassessing one's methods. It also means seeking feedback from others. Getting input from others brings awareness to what's working or not working. It also reinforces the idea that success is a team effort.\\nBe specific in your request. Ask, \\\"How do you suggest I handle this task?\\\" or \\\"How do you think I can improve my client relationships?\\\"\\nWhether you agree or disagree with the response, paraphrase the feedback so that the person knows you received it (e.g. \\\"So, you're saying I need to...\\\"). Then, thank the person for his input. It can be very effective to seek input from a range of sources--superiors and subordinates alike.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn to delegate.\", \"描述\": \"Good strategists are highly impactful leaders. One technique that helps you to maximize that effectiveness is delegation. When you are tackling a difficult project in which a team member has the skills to assist, reach out for help. This strategy can greatly improve your performance and productivity.\\nDelegation is an effective strategy because it enables those who are properly suited for specific tasks to handle them accordingly. That way you are not wasting time trying to retrain or learn new skills that someone on your team already has.\\nAnother reason to delegate is to give other team members a chance to learn tasks that you do repeatedly, and, therefore, have already mastered.\\nLet's say you have a big project that needs marketing, statistics, and writing work in order to be completed. You might reach out to your best people in those categories. Doing so will ensure that the project receives the most capable hands on deck.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with effective people.\", \"描述\": \"A good strategist does not try to be the smartest man in the room. He does, however, know the smartest man in the room. Successful, effective people resonate an energy that is contagious. If you surround yourself with people who are empowering, resourceful, and motivated, you will be, too.\\nIf you are not convinced that those you spend time with influence you, consider this. 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1. Provide value to your audience.
Think about what brings viewers to your content.
What is it that you can offer viewers that they won't find on other streams? Do you have advanced knowledge of a certain video game, historical era, health issue, or music genre? What are some unique insights you have that might impress, amuse, or inspire your viewers? To be a successful streamer, you should always be thinking about how your stream will add value to your viewer's lives.
If you're an expert in your niche, consider hosting Q&A sessions in your streams. Give your audience the chance to learn from a pro!
Ask your audience what they like about your content, and what they want to see more of. Incorporate audience feedback into your future streams.
2. Have a game plan for each live stream.
Unlike recorded video, you can't edit out the parts of your live stream that don't go well.
Before you go live, make a list of topics or tasks, such as talking points or game levels, and stick to the plan during your broadcast.
If you're a gamer, playing a game live is a bit more forgiving, as you don't have to create a time structure. Even so, make a list of things you can talk about while you play to keep things interesting.
If you want to stick to a particular time, such as a one-hour stream, try to structure your live on paper and devote chunks of time to particular topics or tasks. Be sure to leave room for viewer questions and comments.
3. Use a high-quality camera and microphone.
If viewers can't see or hear you, they won't come back.
Even if your laptop has a decent built-in webcam, consider upgrading to an external webcam so you can stream in a higher-quality format—720p or higher. And while your gaming headset may have a built-in microphone, a fancier USB mic can make a lot of difference in vocal quality.
If you plan to make a career out of live streaming, invest in a DSLR camera or high-quality camcorder.
Some streamers prefer condenser mics, as they are great for capturing quieter sounds. If you need something that can handle louder sounds, minimize background noise, and stand up to rough handling, consider a dynamic mic instead.
4. Use an encoder for a high-quality stream.
Even if you're not streaming live gameplay, an encoder is still beneficial.
Most gaming streamers use a software encoder to broadcast gameplay during their live streams. But software encoders also have other features, such as the ability to use external cameras and microphones, stream with multiple remote participants, and add overlays, graphics, and effects to your broadcast. Encoders can also keep your stream compressed properly, preventing issues like dropped video, stuttering, and lag.
Software encoders that YouTube recommends: AWS Elemental MediaLive, Melon, OBS, Stage Ten, Xsplit Broadcaster, Gamecaster, and Wirecast.
5. Use professional video lighting techniques.
Poor lighting can cause screen glare, awkward facial shadows, and grainy video.
Three-point lighting is a great way to minimize shadows, and it's easy to set up. Ring lights are also extremely popular with YouTube streamers, and you can find affordable ones from many online retailers.
If you wear glasses, avoid pointing a light right at your face—this will cause glare. Instead, mount the light higher than your face, angle it downward, and set it off slightly to the side. You can also avoid having a light point right at your face and instead place two lights on either side of you, illuminating you from both sides.
You can create a DIY photo and video lighting setup using household objects you may already have.
6. Stream at the right time.
Check YouTube Analytics to find out when your viewers are online the most.
If you've shared video content on YouTube in the past, your analytics can tell you when the people who watch your videos tend to come online. Streaming during those times is a great way to ensure the people who already enjoy your content can catch your live streams. You'll find your analytics in the area of YouTube Studio.
When you have an exciting streaming event on the horizon, record some promo videos to build anticipation. Add a cliffhanger to the promo video to compel viewers to watch your live stream.
7. Stream on a regular schedule.
Once you find a time to stream, stick to that time.
Whether you stream at 6 PM every weekday or at 6 PM one day a month, stick to a consistent broadcasting time to keep your viewers engaged. If your viewers expect to find you online at a certain time and you're not there, they'll eventually stop returning to your streams.
You can also let people know when you'll be streaming by encouraging viewers to subscribe to your channel and turn on notifications.
Don't forget to let your friends and social media followers know before you start streaming—they'll be the most likely to tune in.
8. Plan your streaming session like your other videos.
Give your live stream the same attention you'd give to your regular YouTube videos.
After you end your live stream, the video will be available to watch for anyone who missed the broadcast. Even if you don't have a lot of viewers when you go live, you might accumulate them once the live stream video is accessible on your channel. Give these viewers the same quality content that they'd expect from your typical pre-recorded videos.
If you use certain catchphrases, images, or sound effects in your pre-recorded YouTube videos, use that content in your live streams.
9. Interact with your viewers while you're live.
Engaging with your audience while live is like having a real-time conversation.
Keep the chat visible so you can address comments and questions from your viewers. Even if you can't respond to everyone directly, the fact that you're paying attention and actively responding lets your viewers know you care about their experience.
Shout out viewers by name, especially repeat viewers and people who donate to your channel, as they join the conversation. This helps build relationships with your viewers.
Asking your viewers questions is a great way to get them talking in the chat. Encourage them to communicate with each other as well as communicating directly with you. This builds a community based on your live streams.
10. Foster a community among your streamers.
Encourage your viewers to communicate with each other, not just you.
As your viewers get to know you, they can also get to know each other during the live chat—a surefire way to keep them coming back for more interactions. You can also create space for your community on another platform, such as a Discord server or even a Twitter hashtag, and then use those spaces to start conversations and hype up your upcoming live streams.
Assign moderators to your YouTube Live chat to keep the environment safe and friendly for everyone.
Consider exclusive subscriber-only chat sessions as your lives grow in popularity. You can specify how long someone needs to be subscribed to your channel before they'll be able to access these chats. This will encourage your viewers to subscribe to your channel, which improves your overall stats.
11. Post consistent videos in addition to streaming.
Keep your stream viewers satisfied between streams with pre-recorded YouTube videos.
Fans of your live streams will love the fact that they can watch your other content when you're not live. Plus, having creative or funny videos can attract new viewers to your live stream.
Keep your videos on the shorter side until you develop a following. Even if you want to do a lot of build-up to a certain topic, start by getting right to the point to reach viewers with shorter attention spans.
When you're finished streaming live, you can upload your live stream to your channel as a regular video. If you don’t want to upload the whole thing, try making a highlight reel that features just the parts you want people to see, or maybe even some bloopers and outtakes!
12. Use catchphrases, intros, and outros.
Open and close your live stream by saying something memorable.
A great way to build your brand is having a consistent intro and outro that you use at the beginning and end of each stream. To enhance your brand, come up with cool creative catchphrases and inside jokes that you can use throughout your lives and other videos.
Don't be too repetitive with catchphrases—just enough to make your audience associate you with that catchphrase.
Try not to change the intro and outro too much between streams to maintain consistency.
13. Find out what's working well for other popular streamers.
If there's a popular YouTube streamer in your niche, check out their content.
What are they doing that encourages so many viewers and subscribers? Is that something you can do in your own live stream? A little inspiration from the pros can go a long way,
If your niche is gaming, check out other streamers who stream the same games you do. You can also check lists to find the top gaming streamers on YouTube, such as this list from Statista: https://www.statista.com/statistics/453461/leading-youtube-gaming-channels-subscribers
Don't be afraid to try new things! Even if the top streamers are following a specific formula, that doesn't mean you have to. What's something you can add to your live stream that nobody else is doing? Try it out and see what people think.
14. Promote, promote, promote.
Reach new viewers by advertising your stream and channel.
When you're just beginning your live stream schedule, you may not have many viewers. Don't be discouraged! That just means the right viewership hasn't found your stream yet. To reach your audience, publicize your stream on social media platforms on which you already have followers, and link to your stream in as many locations on the web as you can.
You can advertise your content to YouTube viewers based on their interests and demographics using YouTube Promoted Videos. Check out https://www.youtube.com/ads/ to learn more about advertising on YouTube.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Provide value to your audience.\\nThink about what brings viewers to your content.\\nWhat is it that you can offer viewers that they won't find on other streams? Do you have advanced knowledge of a certain video game, historical era, health issue, or music genre? What are some unique insights you have that might impress, amuse, or inspire your viewers? To be a successful streamer, you should always be thinking about how your stream will add value to your viewer's lives.\\nIf you're an expert in your niche, consider hosting Q&A sessions in your streams. Give your audience the chance to learn from a pro!\\nAsk your audience what they like about your content, and what they want to see more of. Incorporate audience feedback into your future streams.\\n2. Have a game plan for each live stream.\\nUnlike recorded video, you can't edit out the parts of your live stream that don't go well.\\nBefore you go live, make a list of topics or tasks, such as talking points or game levels, and stick to the plan during your broadcast.\\nIf you're a gamer, playing a game live is a bit more forgiving, as you don't have to create a time structure. Even so, make a list of things you can talk about while you play to keep things interesting.\\nIf you want to stick to a particular time, such as a one-hour stream, try to structure your live on paper and devote chunks of time to particular topics or tasks. Be sure to leave room for viewer questions and comments.\\n3. Use a high-quality camera and microphone.\\nIf viewers can't see or hear you, they won't come back.\\nEven if your laptop has a decent built-in webcam, consider upgrading to an external webcam so you can stream in a higher-quality format—720p or higher. And while your gaming headset may have a built-in microphone, a fancier USB mic can make a lot of difference in vocal quality.\\nIf you plan to make a career out of live streaming, invest in a DSLR camera or high-quality camcorder.\\nSome streamers prefer condenser mics, as they are great for capturing quieter sounds. If you need something that can handle louder sounds, minimize background noise, and stand up to rough handling, consider a dynamic mic instead.\\n4. Use an encoder for a high-quality stream.\\nEven if you're not streaming live gameplay, an encoder is still beneficial.\\nMost gaming streamers use a software encoder to broadcast gameplay during their live streams. But software encoders also have other features, such as the ability to use external cameras and microphones, stream with multiple remote participants, and add overlays, graphics, and effects to your broadcast. Encoders can also keep your stream compressed properly, preventing issues like dropped video, stuttering, and lag.\\nSoftware encoders that YouTube recommends: AWS Elemental MediaLive, Melon, OBS, Stage Ten, Xsplit Broadcaster, Gamecaster, and Wirecast.\\n5. Use professional video lighting techniques.\\nPoor lighting can cause screen glare, awkward facial shadows, and grainy video.\\nThree-point lighting is a great way to minimize shadows, and it's easy to set up. Ring lights are also extremely popular with YouTube streamers, and you can find affordable ones from many online retailers.\\nIf you wear glasses, avoid pointing a light right at your face—this will cause glare. Instead, mount the light higher than your face, angle it downward, and set it off slightly to the side. You can also avoid having a light point right at your face and instead place two lights on either side of you, illuminating you from both sides.\\nYou can create a DIY photo and video lighting setup using household objects you may already have.\\n6. Stream at the right time.\\nCheck YouTube Analytics to find out when your viewers are online the most.\\nIf you've shared video content on YouTube in the past, your analytics can tell you when the people who watch your videos tend to come online. Streaming during those times is a great way to ensure the people who already enjoy your content can catch your live streams. You'll find your analytics in the area of YouTube Studio.\\nWhen you have an exciting streaming event on the horizon, record some promo videos to build anticipation. Add a cliffhanger to the promo video to compel viewers to watch your live stream.\\n7. 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This helps build relationships with your viewers.\\nAsking your viewers questions is a great way to get them talking in the chat. Encourage them to communicate with each other as well as communicating directly with you. This builds a community based on your live streams.\\n10. Foster a community among your streamers.\\nEncourage your viewers to communicate with each other, not just you.\\nAs your viewers get to know you, they can also get to know each other during the live chat—a surefire way to keep them coming back for more interactions. You can also create space for your community on another platform, such as a Discord server or even a Twitter hashtag, and then use those spaces to start conversations and hype up your upcoming live streams.\\nAssign moderators to your YouTube Live chat to keep the environment safe and friendly for everyone.\\nConsider exclusive subscriber-only chat sessions as your lives grow in popularity. 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If your viewers expect to find you online at a certain time and you're not there, they'll eventually stop returning to your streams.\\nYou can also let people know when you'll be streaming by encouraging viewers to subscribe to your channel and turn on notifications.\\nDon't forget to let your friends and social media followers know before you start streaming—they'll be the most likely to tune in.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Plan your streaming session like your other videos.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your live stream the same attention you'd give to your regular YouTube videos.\", \"描述\": \"After you end your live stream, the video will be available to watch for anyone who missed the broadcast. Even if you don't have a lot of viewers when you go live, you might accumulate them once the live stream video is accessible on your channel. 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1. Steps
1-1. Read all the materials you've been given about student teaching prior to entering the classroom.
Trying to wing it, without plans that you believe in, or to catch up on unread portions as you're going won't help you while you're actually in the classroom.
1-2. Be open to criticism.
As a student teacher, think that making mistakes is normal; so don't make anything of it. Bear in mind that no one is perfect. Even experts sometimes get off track when they are distracted. Just don't give up, persist and you will improve with practice.
1-3. Do your background research to find out about the school in advance.
Learn its rules and regulations, including any dress code information (all of this will help you if students test you, trying to find out how much or little you're aware of). Find out what areas are considered "out of bounds" to students, find out where staff hang out, and even whether it's possible for you to get a car parking sticker or permit. Every small thing matters for a smooth experience.
Learn about the school district, school boards (if relevant), parent teacher associations, and all acronyms accompanying these things.
Know where forms for student permissions, etc. and other important documents are located.
Ask if there are any legal issues or restrictions that you need to be aware of if you haven't already been taught these as part of your teacher training.
Search online for resources to help new teachers. There are sites with information suited to student and new teachers, and you might also be able to find forums to connect with others in your position, to share stories and support.
1-4. Make only about 5 or 6 set rules; the rest are procedures and processes for each activity and situation, not rules as such:
turning in work, testing expectations, lab, phys ed, art, halls, restroom, library, etc. each need simplified procedures quickly instructed or refreshed on that event (each time). Have your basic classroom rules sorted before you stand in front of your class for the first time (for example, raise hands when you want to communicate, respect others, be prepared to listen, etc.). You are then able to discuss these with students from the outset.
1-5. Talk with the teacher who is responsible for overseeing what you're doing.
Ask what his or her teaching philosophy or expectations are, along with learning about the expected teaching program for the duration of your time working with him or her. Be sure to find out whether you have free reign or restrictions on teaching methods, topics, and other relevant issues. Also aim to have a regular meet-up time for discussion or asking questions as you work through your student teacher time.
1-6. Expect to be nervous.
When you first enter the classroom, it's probable that your head will be filled with all the things you've been taught about teaching. While all of that is important, set aside the need for perfection and concentrate on quelling your nerves and fears. The students will be expecting you to appear confident, relaxed and at ease. As such, fake it until you make it! And, approach the entire experience with a positive attitude, expecting to find the experience a good one -- and you're more likely to find this as a result.
1-7. Stay natural
It's important to be attentive to detail but not expect to be perfect in what you think a teacher should be. Avoid unnecessary confrontations. Acknowledge that you're still a student yourself, and realize how a student pretending to be a tough teacher must look! The students will cut you some slack, if you're friendly, affable, and approachable -- firm but not rigid.
1-8. Don't overdo anything.
It's important not to produce a caricature of a teacher. Your real task is to convey information to students, with you as the conduit. It is not to convince students that you're a model teacher. However, there is nothing wrong with sharing your passion for teaching with them! Things to consider include:
Avoid coming across as too scary or too strict. You're still a student, remember! Would you have liked it, if your teachers had done that to you? Show the students that you know how they feel, and that you're on their wavelength. Accept the newness of the situation for both of you.
1-9. Move around.
Be complimentary as you go, and you'll be welcomed and helped by students. Be a facilitator. ~ Don't sit in one place. Kneel or sit, but realize that stooping low may put your posterior in someone space -- and squatting is awkward or humorous.
1-10. Walk toward a disturbance.
Flex; float: say, "I'll come back in a minute...", if a student seems frightened or angered by your attention. ~ Don't act overly bossy: just be matter of fact.
1-11. Earn respect
While you may feel that this contradicts the previous steps, it is possible to earn respect without being scary, too strict -- or too chummy with the students. Do this through a confident demeanor, and by conveying that you expect compliance with simple rules or boundaries. In addition, if something does happen requiring discipline, make it clear that you're not beyond reporting poor behavior to those in the chain of command who have authority to deal with it by actually reporting conduct. It will only need to happen once for students to understand that you're not a pushover.
Try hard not to sound nervous. If you fear this, it's more likely to happen. Make the most of pauses, and taking deep breaths to recover your composure before speaking. Smile. Be enthusiastic, but not over doing it. There is no need to rush.
Do not fear being disliked. Some students will always push boundaries and make it seem they dislike you. The reality, however, is that most students will respond far more respectfully to a student teacher sticking to well-defined boundaries than giving in, or acting disappointed that you're not liked. Your are not there to be a buddy.
1-12. Respect
Speak respectfully and show support (Say, "Thanks for your attention." or "May I show you this..." or "Right!" or "Good idea. Also, try this."). Critique the work, not the student. Respect earned is respect best returned. Avoid using your authority as a power trip that causes you to forget that students are people, too. Go back to the roots of why you took up teaching, if you feel you're losing any sense of perspective about the students.
Be genuine. Show real interest in your student's efforts and praise their work when you have the opportunity.
1-13. Be organized and be prepared.
Always come to the lesson prepared. All professional teachers are expected to be prepared, so it would be a mistake if you as a student teacher didn't. This is training for your future career; make the most of it.
Schedule a timetable for marking and preparing work. This is your first chance to experience the intensity involved in teaching, in which you need to be present mentally the entire time you're teaching, and then find a second wind for marking and preparation. This is a fantastic time to develop time management and personal organization skills that will set you in good stead for the rest of your teaching career.
1-14. Keep your promises.
If you tell your students you will have the quizzes, special projects, or homework checked by next week, always do as you've promised. Set an example for them to see and respond to; otherwise, you can't expect them to do what they're supposed to!
1-15. Set out to enjoy your student teaching experience.
Being a student teacher can, and should, be really fun. It is a chance to meet new people (usually only a few years younger than you), earn some money or credits, and to find your rhythm. Use your sense of humor to its best advantage to engage others and to make light of some of the more challenging aspects; in that way, you're set to enjoy your experience a great deal more.
Mingle with the other teachers. Be early; stay late. Seek information: Listen. The the staff can be a great source of information, support, ideas, and future contacts. Do your best to develop good relationships with amiable faculty members.
Make good friends with parents. Keeping in touch with parents regularly will establish an excellent rapport, and it helps to pass on something positive that their child has done now and then.
If it's permissible, after lessons socialize on campus with your students while having a coffee or a chat together. Do not be personal buddies. This will depend on the student's age and type of school you're teaching at; it might not be appropriate. At the very least, attend social functions held for the students during the term, such as dances and sports events.
When mingling with the other teachers, you may make good friendships with them (don't expect too much, too soon); also, don't judge them or yourself; do not be quick to spread rumors or gossip that can come back to you and ruin your relationships with them.
Tips
Expect to be tired. This isn't an easy role and if you're also studying or working in addition to the role as a student teacher, you'll have very little (if any) time to yourself for the duration of the student teacher experience.
Find a good friend to cry to or vent to when you feel that something has happened that's too much for you; there will be frustrating and upsetting moments, and occasionally your exhaustion will affect how you view things. Talking to someone neutral will help you to work out whether it's a real issue or you're just tired or misinterpreting things. Avoid taking out your frustrations on students, parents, or fellow teachers. Your first year of teaching is hard work, so be gentle on yourself!
Dress appropriately. This includes not wearing anything too revealing, too dowdy or overly casual. Check out the dress standards of other teachers when you visit the school first and take your cue from these observations.
Warnings
Take care not to let your personal intensity at doing really well cross over to demands on parents to improve their children's performance. Always double check where your expectations are stemming from before upsetting a parent about a child's progress.
A teacher's work is never done. If you feel that being a student is bad enough, teaching won't change that ever-present feeling of having things queued up to do always, even during vacation time! Learn to love it for what it is – a career you chose out of love and passion.
Be diplomatic about everyone, all of the time. You haven't established your career yet; so take care with loose lips and be impeccable instead.
Sometimes you'll be at the receiving end of parental anger. Be gentle on them and yourself; stay polite, calm, and respectful and try your best to hear them out. Many times, the best thing you can do is to listen to their concerns. If you can also find a resolution, so much the better, but at least listen.
Always let the principal know if something negative happens between you and students or student's parents. This way, you have already informed the principal if anything blows up.
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Also aim to have a regular meet-up time for discussion or asking questions as you work through your student teacher time.\\n1-6. Expect to be nervous.\\nWhen you first enter the classroom, it's probable that your head will be filled with all the things you've been taught about teaching. While all of that is important, set aside the need for perfection and concentrate on quelling your nerves and fears. The students will be expecting you to appear confident, relaxed and at ease. As such, fake it until you make it! And, approach the entire experience with a positive attitude, expecting to find the experience a good one -- and you're more likely to find this as a result.\\n1-7. Stay natural\\nIt's important to be attentive to detail but not expect to be perfect in what you think a teacher should be. Avoid unnecessary confrontations. Acknowledge that you're still a student yourself, and realize how a student pretending to be a tough teacher must look! The students will cut you some slack, if you're friendly, affable, and approachable -- firm but not rigid.\\n1-8. Don't overdo anything.\\nIt's important not to produce a caricature of a teacher. Your real task is to convey information to students, with you as the conduit. It is not to convince students that you're a model teacher. However, there is nothing wrong with sharing your passion for teaching with them! Things to consider include:\\nAvoid coming across as too scary or too strict. You're still a student, remember! Would you have liked it, if your teachers had done that to you? Show the students that you know how they feel, and that you're on their wavelength. Accept the newness of the situation for both of you.\\n1-9. Move around.\\nBe complimentary as you go, and you'll be welcomed and helped by students. Be a facilitator. ~ Don't sit in one place. Kneel or sit, but realize that stooping low may put your posterior in someone space -- and squatting is awkward or humorous.\\n1-10. Walk toward a disturbance.\\nFlex; float: say, \\\"I'll come back in a minute...\\\", if a student seems frightened or angered by your attention. ~ Don't act overly bossy: just be matter of fact.\\n1-11. Earn respect\\nWhile you may feel that this contradicts the previous steps, it is possible to earn respect without being scary, too strict -- or too chummy with the students. Do this through a confident demeanor, and by conveying that you expect compliance with simple rules or boundaries. In addition, if something does happen requiring discipline, make it clear that you're not beyond reporting poor behavior to those in the chain of command who have authority to deal with it by actually reporting conduct. It will only need to happen once for students to understand that you're not a pushover.\\nTry hard not to sound nervous. If you fear this, it's more likely to happen. Make the most of pauses, and taking deep breaths to recover your composure before speaking. Smile. Be enthusiastic, but not over doing it. There is no need to rush.\\nDo not fear being disliked. Some students will always push boundaries and make it seem they dislike you. The reality, however, is that most students will respond far more respectfully to a student teacher sticking to well-defined boundaries than giving in, or acting disappointed that you're not liked. Your are not there to be a buddy.\\n1-12. Respect\\nSpeak respectfully and show support (Say, \\\"Thanks for your attention.\\\" or \\\"May I show you this...\\\" or \\\"Right!\\\" or \\\"Good idea. Also, try this.\\\"). Critique the work, not the student. Respect earned is respect best returned. Avoid using your authority as a power trip that causes you to forget that students are people, too. Go back to the roots of why you took up teaching, if you feel you're losing any sense of perspective about the students.\\nBe genuine. Show real interest in your student's efforts and praise their work when you have the opportunity.\\n1-13. Be organized and be prepared.\\nAlways come to the lesson prepared. All professional teachers are expected to be prepared, so it would be a mistake if you as a student teacher didn't. This is training for your future career; make the most of it.\\nSchedule a timetable for marking and preparing work. This is your first chance to experience the intensity involved in teaching, in which you need to be present mentally the entire time you're teaching, and then find a second wind for marking and preparation. This is a fantastic time to develop time management and personal organization skills that will set you in good stead for the rest of your teaching career.\\n1-14. Keep your promises.\\nIf you tell your students you will have the quizzes, special projects, or homework checked by next week, always do as you've promised. Set an example for them to see and respond to; otherwise, you can't expect them to do what they're supposed to!\\n1-15. Set out to enjoy your student teaching experience.\\nBeing a student teacher can, and should, be really fun. It is a chance to meet new people (usually only a few years younger than you), earn some money or credits, and to find your rhythm. Use your sense of humor to its best advantage to engage others and to make light of some of the more challenging aspects; in that way, you're set to enjoy your experience a great deal more.\\nMingle with the other teachers. Be early; stay late. Seek information: Listen. The the staff can be a great source of information, support, ideas, and future contacts. Do your best to develop good relationships with amiable faculty members.\\nMake good friends with parents. Keeping in touch with parents regularly will establish an excellent rapport, and it helps to pass on something positive that their child has done now and then.\\nIf it's permissible, after lessons socialize on campus with your students while having a coffee or a chat together. Do not be personal buddies. This will depend on the student's age and type of school you're teaching at; it might not be appropriate. At the very least, attend social functions held for the students during the term, such as dances and sports events.\\nWhen mingling with the other teachers, you may make good friendships with them (don't expect too much, too soon); also, don't judge them or yourself; do not be quick to spread rumors or gossip that can come back to you and ruin your relationships with them.\\nTips\\nExpect to be tired. This isn't an easy role and if you're also studying or working in addition to the role as a student teacher, you'll have very little (if any) time to yourself for the duration of the student teacher experience.\\nFind a good friend to cry to or vent to when you feel that something has happened that's too much for you; there will be frustrating and upsetting moments, and occasionally your exhaustion will affect how you view things. Talking to someone neutral will help you to work out whether it's a real issue or you're just tired or misinterpreting things. Avoid taking out your frustrations on students, parents, or fellow teachers. Your first year of teaching is hard work, so be gentle on yourself!\\nDress appropriately. This includes not wearing anything too revealing, too dowdy or overly casual. Check out the dress standards of other teachers when you visit the school first and take your cue from these observations.\\nWarnings\\nTake care not to let your personal intensity at doing really well cross over to demands on parents to improve their children's performance. Always double check where your expectations are stemming from before upsetting a parent about a child's progress.\\nA teacher's work is never done. If you feel that being a student is bad enough, teaching won't change that ever-present feeling of having things queued up to do always, even during vacation time! Learn to love it for what it is – a career you chose out of love and passion.\\nBe diplomatic about everyone, all of the time. You haven't established your career yet; so take care with loose lips and be impeccable instead.\\nSometimes you'll be at the receiving end of parental anger. Be gentle on them and yourself; stay polite, calm, and respectful and try your best to hear them out. Many times, the best thing you can do is to listen to their concerns. If you can also find a resolution, so much the better, but at least listen.\\nAlways let the principal know if something negative happens between you and students or student's parents. This way, you have already informed the principal if anything blows up.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"After studying hard, and having great enthusiasm for a teaching career, it can come as a shock to your system to try your skills as a student teacher. It's most likely that you'll find it tiring, and at times challenging. And, it's a new way of seeing the classroom and being a part of it from your own time as a classroom pupil.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read all the materials you've been given about student teaching prior to entering the classroom.\", \"描述\": \"Trying to wing it, without plans that you believe in, or to catch up on unread portions as you're going won't help you while you're actually in the classroom.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be open to criticism.\", \"描述\": \"As a student teacher, think that making mistakes is normal; so don't make anything of it. Bear in mind that no one is perfect. Even experts sometimes get off track when they are distracted. Just don't give up, persist and you will improve with practice.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do your background research to find out about the school in advance.\", \"描述\": \"Learn its rules and regulations, including any dress code information (all of this will help you if students test you, trying to find out how much or little you're aware of). Find out what areas are considered \\\"out of bounds\\\" to students, find out where staff hang out, and even whether it's possible for you to get a car parking sticker or permit. Every small thing matters for a smooth experience.\\nLearn about the school district, school boards (if relevant), parent teacher associations, and all acronyms accompanying these things.\\nKnow where forms for student permissions, etc. and other important documents are located.\\nAsk if there are any legal issues or restrictions that you need to be aware of if you haven't already been taught these as part of your teacher training.\\nSearch online for resources to help new teachers. There are sites with information suited to student and new teachers, and you might also be able to find forums to connect with others in your position, to share stories and support.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make only about 5 or 6 set rules; the rest are procedures and processes for each activity and situation, not rules as such:\", \"描述\": \"turning in work, testing expectations, lab, phys ed, art, halls, restroom, library, etc. each need simplified procedures quickly instructed or refreshed on that event (each time). Have your basic classroom rules sorted before you stand in front of your class for the first time (for example, raise hands when you want to communicate, respect others, be prepared to listen, etc.). You are then able to discuss these with students from the outset.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Talk with the teacher who is responsible for overseeing what you're doing.\", \"描述\": \"Ask what his or her teaching philosophy or expectations are, along with learning about the expected teaching program for the duration of your time working with him or her. Be sure to find out whether you have free reign or restrictions on teaching methods, topics, and other relevant issues. Also aim to have a regular meet-up time for discussion or asking questions as you work through your student teacher time.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Expect to be nervous.\", \"描述\": \"When you first enter the classroom, it's probable that your head will be filled with all the things you've been taught about teaching. While all of that is important, set aside the need for perfection and concentrate on quelling your nerves and fears. The students will be expecting you to appear confident, relaxed and at ease. As such, fake it until you make it! And, approach the entire experience with a positive attitude, expecting to find the experience a good one -- and you're more likely to find this as a result.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Stay natural\", \"描述\": \"It's important to be attentive to detail but not expect to be perfect in what you think a teacher should be. Avoid unnecessary confrontations. Acknowledge that you're still a student yourself, and realize how a student pretending to be a tough teacher must look! The students will cut you some slack, if you're friendly, affable, and approachable -- firm but not rigid.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't overdo anything.\", \"描述\": \"It's important not to produce a caricature of a teacher. Your real task is to convey information to students, with you as the conduit. It is not to convince students that you're a model teacher. However, there is nothing wrong with sharing your passion for teaching with them! Things to consider include:\\nAvoid coming across as too scary or too strict. You're still a student, remember! Would you have liked it, if your teachers had done that to you? Show the students that you know how they feel, and that you're on their wavelength. Accept the newness of the situation for both of you.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Move around.\", \"描述\": \"Be complimentary as you go, and you'll be welcomed and helped by students. Be a facilitator. ~ Don't sit in one place. Kneel or sit, but realize that stooping low may put your posterior in someone space -- and squatting is awkward or humorous.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Walk toward a disturbance.\", \"描述\": \"Flex; float: say, \\\"I'll come back in a minute...\\\", if a student seems frightened or angered by your attention. ~ Don't act overly bossy: just be matter of fact.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Earn respect\", \"描述\": \"While you may feel that this contradicts the previous steps, it is possible to earn respect without being scary, too strict -- or too chummy with the students. Do this through a confident demeanor, and by conveying that you expect compliance with simple rules or boundaries. In addition, if something does happen requiring discipline, make it clear that you're not beyond reporting poor behavior to those in the chain of command who have authority to deal with it by actually reporting conduct. It will only need to happen once for students to understand that you're not a pushover.\\nTry hard not to sound nervous. If you fear this, it's more likely to happen. Make the most of pauses, and taking deep breaths to recover your composure before speaking. Smile. Be enthusiastic, but not over doing it. There is no need to rush.\\nDo not fear being disliked. Some students will always push boundaries and make it seem they dislike you. The reality, however, is that most students will respond far more respectfully to a student teacher sticking to well-defined boundaries than giving in, or acting disappointed that you're not liked. Your are not there to be a buddy.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Respect\", \"描述\": \"Speak respectfully and show support (Say, \\\"Thanks for your attention.\\\" or \\\"May I show you this...\\\" or \\\"Right!\\\" or \\\"Good idea. Also, try this.\\\"). Critique the work, not the student. Respect earned is respect best returned. Avoid using your authority as a power trip that causes you to forget that students are people, too. Go back to the roots of why you took up teaching, if you feel you're losing any sense of perspective about the students.\\nBe genuine. Show real interest in your student's efforts and praise their work when you have the opportunity.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Be organized and be prepared.\", \"描述\": \"Always come to the lesson prepared. All professional teachers are expected to be prepared, so it would be a mistake if you as a student teacher didn't. This is training for your future career; make the most of it.\\nSchedule a timetable for marking and preparing work. This is your first chance to experience the intensity involved in teaching, in which you need to be present mentally the entire time you're teaching, and then find a second wind for marking and preparation. 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Seek information: Listen. The the staff can be a great source of information, support, ideas, and future contacts. Do your best to develop good relationships with amiable faculty members.\\nMake good friends with parents. Keeping in touch with parents regularly will establish an excellent rapport, and it helps to pass on something positive that their child has done now and then.\\nIf it's permissible, after lessons socialize on campus with your students while having a coffee or a chat together. Do not be personal buddies. This will depend on the student's age and type of school you're teaching at; it might not be appropriate. At the very least, attend social functions held for the students during the term, such as dances and sports events.\\nWhen mingling with the other teachers, you may make good friendships with them (don't expect too much, too soon); also, don't judge them or yourself; do not be quick to spread rumors or gossip that can come back to you and ruin your relationships with them.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Expect to be tired. This isn't an easy role and if you're also studying or working in addition to the role as a student teacher, you'll have very little (if any) time to yourself for the duration of the student teacher experience.\\n\", \"Find a good friend to cry to or vent to when you feel that something has happened that's too much for you; there will be frustrating and upsetting moments, and occasionally your exhaustion will affect how you view things. Talking to someone neutral will help you to work out whether it's a real issue or you're just tired or misinterpreting things. 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How to Be a Good Student Without Being Teacher's Pet
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1. Moderating Your Behavior in Class
1-1. Ask questions in moderation.
Instead of asking questions every time your teacher finishes their sentence, limit them to one or two insightful and relevant questions. If you want, you can prepare these questions before class. They could be insights from last night’s homework, or general clarifying questions. By limiting your questions, you are allowing other students the opportunity to ask the teacher questions, as well.
When the teacher announces something, wait a few seconds to see if others have the same question before you ask your question.
If you have more questions, speak with your teacher after class or schedule a time to talk with your teacher instead of asking too many questions during class.
1-2. Let others volunteer.
Volunteering to help your teacher clean the chalkboard, pass out worksheets, or send a message to another class once in a while is fine. However, limit these opportunities to once or twice a week. Let other students volunteer their time to help the teacher with smaller tasks.
Instead, volunteer for the tasks that you enjoy doing, and leave the other ones to other students. For example, if you like passing out worksheets, then just volunteer to pass out worksheets. Let other students clean the chalkboard, send messages, or take attendance.
1-3. Sit in a different spot.
Unless you have poor eyesight or poor hearing, it would not hurt to sit in the middle or the back of the classroom from time to time. Sure, sitting in the front of the class every day makes you look engaged and ready to learn, but you do not want to monopolize the front seats.
By sitting in the middle or the back of the class, you are giving others the chance to sit in the front of the class.
Remember that the teacher can see you no matter where you sit, and you can still be engaged even from the back of the classroom.
1-4. Don’t go out of your way.
A lot of students get labeled “teacher’s pet” because they go out of their way to impress the teacher. They try their very hardest to please the teacher by bringing them gifts, complimenting them, or by taking their side versus the class’ side. These are not bad things to do, but try to limit your compliments and gifts to rare occasions.
For example, only give your teacher gifts during holidays, or when it is their birthday.
Compliment your teacher when they truly deserve it, for example, when you find their lesson particularly interesting.
2. Behaving Outside of Class
2-1. Don't brag about your grades.
You should feel proud about your grades, and the time you spent studying to get them. However, bragging to your peers about how well you did in class can be bothersome. When you brag, you are emphasizing differences between you and your classmates and friends. This creates distance between you and them, and your peers might start to resent you.
When talking about your achievements, highlight commonalities between you and your peers. For example, instead of saying, "I got the highest grade in the class," say, "Like you guys, I worked really hard on this project, and I worked even harder to get the grade that I got."
2-2. Avoid being a tattletale.
Don't go out of your way to inform the teacher about every little thing students do. Instead, use your judgment to decide whether it is important enough to tell your teacher. If it is, then tell your teacher discreetly, instead of outing the person in front of the whole class.
Try to remember that it is your teacher’s job to keep every one in line, not yours.
2-3. Don't worry about what others think of you.
Don't feel like you need to make major personal changes, or risk your academic success, to get others to like you or stop calling you "teacher's pet." Remember that true acceptance comes from within. Therefore, as long as you accept who you are, what others think of you is a small matter.
Plus, what others think about you is out of your control. Instead, focus your energy on bettering yourself and moving forward instead of changing what others think of you.
3. Expanding Your Horizons
3-1. Break the rules.
It is ok to break the rules once in a while. One little mark is not going to tarnish the reputation your teacher has of you. If anything, it makes you seem more human and relatable to your peers.
Don’t be afraid to whisper to your friend, pass a note, or make a joke during class. As long as you don’t make a habit out of it, and keep it moderation, you should be fine.
3-2. Make friends.
A tell-tale sign that you are a teacher’s pet is if your only friend is the teacher. This isn’t necessarily bad, but it can be lonely at times. Try to branch out and befriend other students. Make friends with students whom you have things in common with. Perhaps you love to eat chocolate, read books, or love the Christmas season. These are pretty common things that you can use to connect with other people.
Revealing tiny secrets that are slightly embarrassing is a good way to deepen a friendship. By sharing intimate details about yourself, you are showing the other person that you are human, and thus, relatable.
3-3. Be motivated.
A great student is a student that is motivated, and you can be motivated without being teacher’s pet. Instead of channeling your energy into pleasing the teacher (we know it takes a lot of energy and time), channel your energy into your interests.
For example, try starting a photography, book, fashion club, or any kind of club at school.
If you like planning events, you can help plan school events, like pep rallies, Christmas parties, and field days, for example.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Moderating Your Behavior in Class\\n1-1. Ask questions in moderation.\\nInstead of asking questions every time your teacher finishes their sentence, limit them to one or two insightful and relevant questions. If you want, you can prepare these questions before class. They could be insights from last night’s homework, or general clarifying questions. By limiting your questions, you are allowing other students the opportunity to ask the teacher questions, as well.\\nWhen the teacher announces something, wait a few seconds to see if others have the same question before you ask your question.\\nIf you have more questions, speak with your teacher after class or schedule a time to talk with your teacher instead of asking too many questions during class.\\n1-2. Let others volunteer.\\nVolunteering to help your teacher clean the chalkboard, pass out worksheets, or send a message to another class once in a while is fine. However, limit these opportunities to once or twice a week. Let other students volunteer their time to help the teacher with smaller tasks.\\nInstead, volunteer for the tasks that you enjoy doing, and leave the other ones to other students. For example, if you like passing out worksheets, then just volunteer to pass out worksheets. Let other students clean the chalkboard, send messages, or take attendance.\\n1-3. Sit in a different spot.\\nUnless you have poor eyesight or poor hearing, it would not hurt to sit in the middle or the back of the classroom from time to time. Sure, sitting in the front of the class every day makes you look engaged and ready to learn, but you do not want to monopolize the front seats.\\nBy sitting in the middle or the back of the class, you are giving others the chance to sit in the front of the class.\\nRemember that the teacher can see you no matter where you sit, and you can still be engaged even from the back of the classroom.\\n1-4. Don’t go out of your way.\\nA lot of students get labeled “teacher’s pet” because they go out of their way to impress the teacher. They try their very hardest to please the teacher by bringing them gifts, complimenting them, or by taking their side versus the class’ side. These are not bad things to do, but try to limit your compliments and gifts to rare occasions.\\nFor example, only give your teacher gifts during holidays, or when it is their birthday.\\nCompliment your teacher when they truly deserve it, for example, when you find their lesson particularly interesting.\\n2. Behaving Outside of Class\\n2-1. Don't brag about your grades.\\nYou should feel proud about your grades, and the time you spent studying to get them. However, bragging to your peers about how well you did in class can be bothersome. When you brag, you are emphasizing differences between you and your classmates and friends. This creates distance between you and them, and your peers might start to resent you.\\nWhen talking about your achievements, highlight commonalities between you and your peers. For example, instead of saying, \\\"I got the highest grade in the class,\\\" say, \\\"Like you guys, I worked really hard on this project, and I worked even harder to get the grade that I got.\\\"\\n2-2. Avoid being a tattletale.\\nDon't go out of your way to inform the teacher about every little thing students do. Instead, use your judgment to decide whether it is important enough to tell your teacher. If it is, then tell your teacher discreetly, instead of outing the person in front of the whole class.\\nTry to remember that it is your teacher’s job to keep every one in line, not yours.\\n2-3. Don't worry about what others think of you.\\nDon't feel like you need to make major personal changes, or risk your academic success, to get others to like you or stop calling you \\\"teacher's pet.\\\" Remember that true acceptance comes from within. Therefore, as long as you accept who you are, what others think of you is a small matter.\\nPlus, what others think about you is out of your control. Instead, focus your energy on bettering yourself and moving forward instead of changing what others think of you.\\n3. Expanding Your Horizons\\n3-1. Break the rules.\\nIt is ok to break the rules once in a while. One little mark is not going to tarnish the reputation your teacher has of you. If anything, it makes you seem more human and relatable to your peers. \\nDon’t be afraid to whisper to your friend, pass a note, or make a joke during class. As long as you don’t make a habit out of it, and keep it moderation, you should be fine.\\n3-2. Make friends.\\nA tell-tale sign that you are a teacher’s pet is if your only friend is the teacher. This isn’t necessarily bad, but it can be lonely at times. Try to branch out and befriend other students. Make friends with students whom you have things in common with. Perhaps you love to eat chocolate, read books, or love the Christmas season. These are pretty common things that you can use to connect with other people.\\nRevealing tiny secrets that are slightly embarrassing is a good way to deepen a friendship. By sharing intimate details about yourself, you are showing the other person that you are human, and thus, relatable.\\n3-3. Be motivated.\\nA great student is a student that is motivated, and you can be motivated without being teacher’s pet. Instead of channeling your energy into pleasing the teacher (we know it takes a lot of energy and time), channel your energy into your interests.\\nFor example, try starting a photography, book, fashion club, or any kind of club at school.\\nIf you like planning events, you can help plan school events, like pep rallies, Christmas parties, and field days, for example.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As long as you are motivated and make average to good grades, you can still be a good student that is liked by your teacher without being a teacher’s pet. However, if you feel like you are sliding into behavior that is reminiscent of a teacher’s pet, then you may want to make some adjustments. For example, by subtly changing how you spend your time inside and outside of class, you can avoid seeming like a teacher’s pet. Try to remember that no one is perfect, and that it is the imperfections that people can relate to that will lead to lasting friendships.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Moderating Your Behavior in Class\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask questions in moderation.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of asking questions every time your teacher finishes their sentence, limit them to one or two insightful and relevant questions. If you want, you can prepare these questions before class. They could be insights from last night’s homework, or general clarifying questions. By limiting your questions, you are allowing other students the opportunity to ask the teacher questions, as well.\\nWhen the teacher announces something, wait a few seconds to see if others have the same question before you ask your question.\\nIf you have more questions, speak with your teacher after class or schedule a time to talk with your teacher instead of asking too many questions during class.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Let others volunteer.\", \"描述\": \"Volunteering to help your teacher clean the chalkboard, pass out worksheets, or send a message to another class once in a while is fine. However, limit these opportunities to once or twice a week. Let other students volunteer their time to help the teacher with smaller tasks.\\nInstead, volunteer for the tasks that you enjoy doing, and leave the other ones to other students. For example, if you like passing out worksheets, then just volunteer to pass out worksheets. Let other students clean the chalkboard, send messages, or take attendance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sit in a different spot.\", \"描述\": \"Unless you have poor eyesight or poor hearing, it would not hurt to sit in the middle or the back of the classroom from time to time. Sure, sitting in the front of the class every day makes you look engaged and ready to learn, but you do not want to monopolize the front seats.\\nBy sitting in the middle or the back of the class, you are giving others the chance to sit in the front of the class.\\nRemember that the teacher can see you no matter where you sit, and you can still be engaged even from the back of the classroom.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t go out of your way.\", \"描述\": \"A lot of students get labeled “teacher’s pet” because they go out of their way to impress the teacher. They try their very hardest to please the teacher by bringing them gifts, complimenting them, or by taking their side versus the class’ side. These are not bad things to do, but try to limit your compliments and gifts to rare occasions.\\nFor example, only give your teacher gifts during holidays, or when it is their birthday.\\nCompliment your teacher when they truly deserve it, for example, when you find their lesson particularly interesting.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Behaving Outside of Class\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't brag about your grades.\", \"描述\": \"You should feel proud about your grades, and the time you spent studying to get them. However, bragging to your peers about how well you did in class can be bothersome. When you brag, you are emphasizing differences between you and your classmates and friends. This creates distance between you and them, and your peers might start to resent you.\\nWhen talking about your achievements, highlight commonalities between you and your peers. For example, instead of saying, \\\"I got the highest grade in the class,\\\" say, \\\"Like you guys, I worked really hard on this project, and I worked even harder to get the grade that I got.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid being a tattletale.\", \"描述\": \"Don't go out of your way to inform the teacher about every little thing students do. Instead, use your judgment to decide whether it is important enough to tell your teacher. If it is, then tell your teacher discreetly, instead of outing the person in front of the whole class.\\nTry to remember that it is your teacher’s job to keep every one in line, not yours.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't worry about what others think of you.\", \"描述\": \"Don't feel like you need to make major personal changes, or risk your academic success, to get others to like you or stop calling you \\\"teacher's pet.\\\" Remember that true acceptance comes from within. Therefore, as long as you accept who you are, what others think of you is a small matter.\\nPlus, what others think about you is out of your control. Instead, focus your energy on bettering yourself and moving forward instead of changing what others think of you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Expanding Your Horizons\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Break the rules.\", \"描述\": \"It is ok to break the rules once in a while. One little mark is not going to tarnish the reputation your teacher has of you. If anything, it makes you seem more human and relatable to your peers. \\nDon’t be afraid to whisper to your friend, pass a note, or make a joke during class. As long as you don’t make a habit out of it, and keep it moderation, you should be fine.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make friends.\", \"描述\": \"A tell-tale sign that you are a teacher’s pet is if your only friend is the teacher. This isn’t necessarily bad, but it can be lonely at times. Try to branch out and befriend other students. 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1. Becoming a Better Swimmer (Intermediate)
1-1. Swim drills and time yourself.
Drills will help you pay attention to the clock and your times. They allow you to take what you’ve been working on (like your strokes) and immediately apply it to your regular swimming habits.
Play “catch-up” while you swim freestyle. Catch up drills are a classic way of improving your freestyle stroke. Their goal is to smooth out and lengthen your stroke by making you pay attention to your strokes. You keep one arm out in front of you the entire time you swim, and wait until the arm taking a stroke “catches up” with the other one.
For more interesting swimming drills, ask other swimmers, or go online. There are plenty of fun suggestions to keep your workout interesting.
Challenge yourself by setting a yardage goal to complete each week. A good start is 2000 yards or meters a workout (forty lengths).Your goal is to become a better swimmer and nothing betters swimming like more swimming.
1-2. Swim year round.
Join a gym that has a lap pool (25 yards/meters at least). Swimming throughout the year will increase your strength, endurance, and stamina. It will also keep you in contact with fellow year-rounders who can support your efforts.
1-3. Join a swim club.
When you don’t have anyone to talk with at the pool, swimming can feel like a chore, and a lonely one at that. Going to work out with other swimmers might score you free training advice for free. At the very least, you’ll make friends who share your desire to become a better swimmer. This will lead to a sense of accountability, something that really helps when dragging yourself out of bed at five in the morning.
1-4. Join a swim team or attend stroke clinics.
Both are great opportunities for all swimmers to get technique help on each swimming stroke. They are also great ways to meet fellow swimmers who will help bolster your goal to become a better swimmer.
1-5. Learn your strokes.
There are four basic strokes (butterfly, backstroke, breaststroke, and freestyle) and you should try to learn them all. While you’ll always have a favorite, being a well-rounded swimmer will help to keep swimming challenging and interesting.
When you swim all strokes, your use more muscles. Your body will also get a much better workout. You’ll see and feel the results faster when you utilize all four strokes.
The risk of injury while swimming is decreased because you aren’t always stressing the same muscles with the same movements. The musculature is more balanced.
The skills you learn from one stroke transfers into skills into a different stroke. For example, the underwater undulation you employ when kicking off the wall into breaststroke is transferable to the underwater undulation you’ll use when starting in backstroke.
1-6. Learn flip turns.
Adding flip turns eliminates the stop-and-start rests at the end of each lap. You’ll become a better distance swimmer when employing these maneuvers. You’ll also save energy when you push off the wall, propelling yourself into a good position to begin your stroke. It’s also a great way to see where your opponents are.
Exercising your core while you learn will help you accomplish the technical aspects of a flip-turn. They require a full somersault, a trunk flexion, and rapid trunk extension.-
Keep your chin down when using a flipturn in freestyle. Begin the turn about an arm’s length from the wall. You’ll begin to do a somersault or a “flip.” Your chin should come close to your chest. Your knees should come close to your chest as well. Plant your feet against the wall and twist your torso. Put your hands together and streamline your body as you push away from the wall.
When you’re doing a flipturn in backstroke. About one yard or meter from the wall, turn around to the front by reaching around with your leading arm. Look around with your head so your body will naturally follow. Keep the leading arm extended ahead and flip. Push off from the wall.
1-7. Find and register for swimming lessons, classes, clinics, and races near you.
Check online to see what’s available. Look for instruction that is above your level. Challenge yourself!
1-8. Learn how to time yourself.
Keeping an eye on the clock will help you ascertain how efficient your are in the water. If you are doing sets, make sure they are timed (ie four fifties on the minute with ten seconds break between the next round).
1-9. Swim as often as possible.
With an increase in distance and speed, your technique will improve dramatically. Set new goals as you leave old ones behind!
1-10. Participate in local swim meets.
Through the swimming community, there are plenty of opportunities to compete in swim meets, even as an adult. A competition is a way to boost your swimming by providing a new, determined, focus.
2. Becoming a Better Swimmer (Beginner)
2-1. Get help from a friend.
Having a friend in the water with you is comforting. They can remind you what you need to be doing. They can hold you in specific positions while you get a feel for them.
2-2. Take swimming lessons.
Whether you are a child or an adult, there is a swim class out there for you. Being around people who are there to teach you will ease any tension or apprehension you might feel. Having a weekly “date” at the pool will help you be accountable to the learning process.
2-3. Get a “feel” for the water.
Learning how your body moves and feels in the water is very important. It’s something we’re not used to, but once you get comfortable, water can be very comfortable and soothing.
Start off in the shallow end and begin to move your hands and arms around.
Push your hands against the water to feel the resistance. Cup your hands and pull them through the water (sculling). That pressure you feel is what is going to eventually help propel you through the water effortlessly.
Bend your legs and let the water come up to your chin. Continue to move your hands and arms. Even when you are beginning to learn strokes, start each session like this.
2-4. Blow bubbles.
The most important (and scariest) part of swimming is learning how to breathe. But once you learn how to exhale into the water, you will be on your way to more efficient and graceful swimming.
Reach forward and hold onto the edge of the pool in the shallow end.
Put your face in the water and blow out. When you are done, turn your head to the side and take a breath.
Push your face back into the water and exhale. Try to create a long, steady stream of bubbles.
Repeat until you are comfortable. Exhaling into the water and timing your breathing might be frightening at first, but with practice you’ll soon be ready to learn some basic strokes.
2-5. Practice floating.
It sounds obvious, but floating is a tough skill to learn, and harder to master. In an emergency, knowing how to float can save precious energy and possibly your life. Spend time working on your body position. Learn to float on your stomach and your back.
Relax. You have to relax. While learning how to float on your back, look at the sky or the ceiling and breathe deeply. Fill your lungs with air with each breath. Hold your breath for a moment and let the experience of being weightless atop the water calm you.
Reach up with your arms if your legs sink. This will act as a counterbalance, bringing your legs up.
Have a friend help. Having someone next to you to place a reassuring hand at the small of your back can ease your tension immeasurably.
Tighten your abdominal muscles. Engaging your abdominal muscles will help you keep your appendages afloat easier.
Float on your stomach. Let your arms go limp and free. Raise your head or tilt it to the side when you need a breath.
2-6. Tread water.
Treading water can help you catch your breath and keep your head up without actually swimming. Practice this in the deep end with a friend.
Move your legs in an “eggbeater” fashion. Start with your knees bend and your legs slightly wider than hip-width apart. Then pedal your legs in opposite directions. Let your kicks be relaxed and easy.
Cup your hands and circle them in medium-sized (about two feet total) infinity signs. If you need to come up further, kick harder with your legs and arms to propel yourself above the rip of the water.
2-7. Practice kicking.
This is a great way to separate the parts of the strokes before you put them all together.
Hold on to the side of the pool. Put your face down and extend your body straight out.
Turn your feet in slightly. Begin small kicks. Try to keep them small and efficient, rarely breaking the surface of the water. Your legs should bend, but only slightly.This is a flutter kick.
Practice a front stroke. This is also known as freestyle. Bring one arm out of the water so that it is reaching forward. Place it back into the water with a slightly cupped hand, then pull your arm through the water. As your pull the water down, your stroke will naturally end at your hip. Alternate arms.
2-8. Learn other strokes.
As your skills grow, watch other people and emulate what they do. Most of all, have fun in the water and let its resistance turn you into a stronger, more graceful swimmer.
3. Becoming a Better Swimmer (Advanced)
3-1. Get a coach.
Having someone monitoring your strokes, your breathing, and your technique is a great way to get a new perspective on how you approach your swim style. A good coach standing on the pool deck working with a group of swimmers is the best way to improve your overall swimming performance.
If you can’t find a coach, have a swimming buddy whose technique you admire watch your workout.
3-2. Record yourself.
Aside from a coach, recording yourself is a great way to get perspective on how you move through the water. You’ll see bad habits you might not have been aware of as well as strengths you can improve upon.
3-3. Find balance between your long stroke and your short stroke.
A long stroke is great; you’re using good propulsion, low drag, and glide. A short stroke is great, too, but you can waste energy on strokes that are too short and scrappy.
Know your stroke rate. It’s a powerful aspect to know because it will allow you to make needed changes to your strokes to improve your style.
Ask a friend or coach to time you for ten strokes with a stopwatch, not including dives or push-offs, just regular swimming. Count the number of strokes you take in the ten seconds. This is your stroke rate. Adjust your stroke as needed.
3-4. Search for long distance swims in your area.
A long distance event is any distance-based swimming event more than 1650 yards or 1508.8 meters. It can also be any time based even equal to or greater than one hour and can be in a pool or any body of water.
Long distance swims are a great way to focus your expertise in your training for an fun event. Sign up with friends and make a weekend getaway out of it!
4. Acquiring Equipment to Become a Better Swimmer
4-1. Get comfortable goggles.
They will protect your eyes from the sting of chlorine. Once you get used to them, you’ll discover a whole new way of looking at the world.
Buy a pair that does not pinch at the nose. Good goggles should be snug but not pinch.
Push them against your face. If they stick around your eyes, that is a good sign they will not leak when you are in the water.
4-2. Buy a swim cap.
It will protect your hair against chlorine damage and will keep your hair out of your face while you are swimming. Most importantly, swim caps make you more hydrodynamic in the water.
Latex caps are protect well against chlorine but are difficult to put on and remove. Putting a bit of talcum powder in the cap before you put it on and while it’s dry helps. Don’t use if you have a latex allergy.
Silicone swim caps are the most popular although they are a bit more expensive. They are commonly used by people with medium to long hair. They protect hair well against the water and are still flexible enough to put on and take off.They do, however, slip off your head more easily..
Lycra swim caps are more comfortable and more durable than silicone or latex. They are not waterproof, however, and tend to slip the most while swimming.
Neoprene swim caps are great for keeping your head warm in cold water. They are thicker, have seams, and often have a certain smell. They are great, however, if you are swimming outdoors in rivers, lakes, or reservoirs.
4-3. Buy flippers.
Using flippers will improve a swimmer’s body position and their technique.Most importantly, they can be used to strengthen your kick to better propel yourself through the water. This propulsion will allow you time to focus on your stroke technique.
Using flippers will give you a sense of cutting quickly through the water. Remember this feeling and try to emulate it when you take the fins off.
Kicking efficiently is highlighted using flippers, especially if you have a cross-over kick. They will force you to keep your feet a proper distance. They will also help increase your ankle flexibility by streamlining the position of your feet.
4-4. Buy a proper suit.
This is the number one sign of commitment to swimming. Gone are the bikinis and frills; what’s left is consistent and streamlined. It’s best to think about your goals. Will you be logging long daily pool yardage or just a couple of times a week?
Buy a polyester blend if you’ll be spending lots of time in the water. If cared for properly, they can last for years.
Buy lycra swimwear if you won’t be in the pool daily. It’s soft, comfortable, and is known for its expansive stretchiness. Keep in mind though, that no material is impervious to chlorine so always pay attention to the manufacturer’s instructions.
4-5. Buy pull buoys and kickboards.
Both of these are designed to isolate your arms or your legs to better strengthen your techniques. While they are not strictly necessary (you can achieve the same effect by holding your hands together and focusing only on your kicks, or by tucking your feet together and only focusing on your strokes), they are wonderful at supporting your arms and legs as you move through the water.
Pull buoys and kickboards are a great resource to have if you have an injury. You can keep up with your workouts and rest the part of your body that is injured at the same time.
5. Training on Dry Land
5-1. Focus on the muscle endurance needed for swimming.
Back muscles, biceps, shoulders, triceps for upper body workouts that will build endurance with strength should be highlighted. However, high rep endurance is needed for the legs. Combining a maximum repetition of pullups and resting with flutter kicks can improve endurance.
5-2. Use the weight room.
Bent-over rows and bicep curls, and isolating triceps, abdominals, and the lower back are all great exercise for your swimming muscles.
They should be done with moderate weight and high reps (15-20 per set).
5-3. Utilize rubber bands.
Secure them to a tree or a door knob. Let the natural resistance work you out the same way water works.
Make sure you secure the band to something really stable. A sudden jolt from something breaking can lead to injury.
5-4. Run, bike, row, dance, use the elliptical or the stair machine.
Involving yourself with cardiovascular activities will always help your general health, and actively keeping fit will help your body stay ready for when you hit the water again.
Tips
The only reason you can hold your breath for about 10 seconds is your brain is telling you danger danger! But in reality you can hold your breath for more than a minute. When you go under don't think about holding your breath think about something happy like summer vacation or family or whatever but that will help.
Get certified in CPR or BLS. Emergency care is a great skill set to know in case something goes wrong in the water.
Use a kickboard, life jacket, or arm floats if you feel trepidatious about being in the water at first.
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Learn flip turns.\\nAdding flip turns eliminates the stop-and-start rests at the end of each lap. You’ll become a better distance swimmer when employing these maneuvers. You’ll also save energy when you push off the wall, propelling yourself into a good position to begin your stroke. It’s also a great way to see where your opponents are.\\nExercising your core while you learn will help you accomplish the technical aspects of a flip-turn. They require a full somersault, a trunk flexion, and rapid trunk extension.-\\nKeep your chin down when using a flipturn in freestyle. Begin the turn about an arm’s length from the wall. You’ll begin to do a somersault or a “flip.” Your chin should come close to your chest. Your knees should come close to your chest as well. Plant your feet against the wall and twist your torso. Put your hands together and streamline your body as you push away from the wall.\\nWhen you’re doing a flipturn in backstroke. 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A competition is a way to boost your swimming by providing a new, determined, focus.\\n2. Becoming a Better Swimmer (Beginner)\\n2-1. Get help from a friend.\\nHaving a friend in the water with you is comforting. They can remind you what you need to be doing. They can hold you in specific positions while you get a feel for them.\\n2-2. Take swimming lessons.\\nWhether you are a child or an adult, there is a swim class out there for you. Being around people who are there to teach you will ease any tension or apprehension you might feel. Having a weekly “date” at the pool will help you be accountable to the learning process.\\n2-3. Get a “feel” for the water.\\nLearning how your body moves and feels in the water is very important. It’s something we’re not used to, but once you get comfortable, water can be very comfortable and soothing.\\nStart off in the shallow end and begin to move your hands and arms around.\\nPush your hands against the water to feel the resistance. Cup your hands and pull them through the water (sculling). That pressure you feel is what is going to eventually help propel you through the water effortlessly.\\nBend your legs and let the water come up to your chin. Continue to move your hands and arms. Even when you are beginning to learn strokes, start each session like this.\\n2-4. Blow bubbles.\\nThe most important (and scariest) part of swimming is learning how to breathe. But once you learn how to exhale into the water, you will be on your way to more efficient and graceful swimming.\\nReach forward and hold onto the edge of the pool in the shallow end.\\nPut your face in the water and blow out. When you are done, turn your head to the side and take a breath.\\nPush your face back into the water and exhale. Try to create a long, steady stream of bubbles.\\nRepeat until you are comfortable. Exhaling into the water and timing your breathing might be frightening at first, but with practice you’ll soon be ready to learn some basic strokes.\\n2-5. Practice floating.\\nIt sounds obvious, but floating is a tough skill to learn, and harder to master. In an emergency, knowing how to float can save precious energy and possibly your life. Spend time working on your body position. Learn to float on your stomach and your back.\\nRelax. You have to relax. While learning how to float on your back, look at the sky or the ceiling and breathe deeply. Fill your lungs with air with each breath. Hold your breath for a moment and let the experience of being weightless atop the water calm you.\\nReach up with your arms if your legs sink. This will act as a counterbalance, bringing your legs up.\\nHave a friend help. Having someone next to you to place a reassuring hand at the small of your back can ease your tension immeasurably.\\nTighten your abdominal muscles. Engaging your abdominal muscles will help you keep your appendages afloat easier.\\nFloat on your stomach. Let your arms go limp and free. Raise your head or tilt it to the side when you need a breath.\\n2-6. Tread water.\\nTreading water can help you catch your breath and keep your head up without actually swimming. Practice this in the deep end with a friend.\\nMove your legs in an “eggbeater” fashion. Start with your knees bend and your legs slightly wider than hip-width apart. Then pedal your legs in opposite directions. Let your kicks be relaxed and easy.\\nCup your hands and circle them in medium-sized (about two feet total) infinity signs. If you need to come up further, kick harder with your legs and arms to propel yourself above the rip of the water.\\n2-7. Practice kicking.\\nThis is a great way to separate the parts of the strokes before you put them all together.\\nHold on to the side of the pool. Put your face down and extend your body straight out.\\nTurn your feet in slightly. Begin small kicks. Try to keep them small and efficient, rarely breaking the surface of the water. Your legs should bend, but only slightly.This is a flutter kick.\\nPractice a front stroke. This is also known as freestyle. Bring one arm out of the water so that it is reaching forward. Place it back into the water with a slightly cupped hand, then pull your arm through the water. As your pull the water down, your stroke will naturally end at your hip. Alternate arms.\\n2-8. Learn other strokes.\\nAs your skills grow, watch other people and emulate what they do. Most of all, have fun in the water and let its resistance turn you into a stronger, more graceful swimmer.\\n3. Becoming a Better Swimmer (Advanced)\\n3-1. Get a coach.\\nHaving someone monitoring your strokes, your breathing, and your technique is a great way to get a new perspective on how you approach your swim style. A good coach standing on the pool deck working with a group of swimmers is the best way to improve your overall swimming performance.\\nIf you can’t find a coach, have a swimming buddy whose technique you admire watch your workout.\\n3-2. Record yourself.\\nAside from a coach, recording yourself is a great way to get perspective on how you move through the water. You’ll see bad habits you might not have been aware of as well as strengths you can improve upon.\\n3-3. Find balance between your long stroke and your short stroke.\\nA long stroke is great; you’re using good propulsion, low drag, and glide. A short stroke is great, too, but you can waste energy on strokes that are too short and scrappy.\\nKnow your stroke rate. It’s a powerful aspect to know because it will allow you to make needed changes to your strokes to improve your style.\\nAsk a friend or coach to time you for ten strokes with a stopwatch, not including dives or push-offs, just regular swimming. Count the number of strokes you take in the ten seconds. This is your stroke rate. Adjust your stroke as needed.\\n3-4. Search for long distance swims in your area.\\nA long distance event is any distance-based swimming event more than 1650 yards or 1508.8 meters. It can also be any time based even equal to or greater than one hour and can be in a pool or any body of water.\\nLong distance swims are a great way to focus your expertise in your training for an fun event. Sign up with friends and make a weekend getaway out of it!\\n4. Acquiring Equipment to Become a Better Swimmer\\n4-1. Get comfortable goggles.\\nThey will protect your eyes from the sting of chlorine. Once you get used to them, you’ll discover a whole new way of looking at the world.\\nBuy a pair that does not pinch at the nose. Good goggles should be snug but not pinch.\\nPush them against your face. If they stick around your eyes, that is a good sign they will not leak when you are in the water.\\n4-2. Buy a swim cap.\\nIt will protect your hair against chlorine damage and will keep your hair out of your face while you are swimming. Most importantly, swim caps make you more hydrodynamic in the water.\\nLatex caps are protect well against chlorine but are difficult to put on and remove. Putting a bit of talcum powder in the cap before you put it on and while it’s dry helps. Don’t use if you have a latex allergy.\\nSilicone swim caps are the most popular although they are a bit more expensive. They are commonly used by people with medium to long hair. They protect hair well against the water and are still flexible enough to put on and take off.They do, however, slip off your head more easily..\\nLycra swim caps are more comfortable and more durable than silicone or latex. They are not waterproof, however, and tend to slip the most while swimming.\\nNeoprene swim caps are great for keeping your head warm in cold water. They are thicker, have seams, and often have a certain smell. They are great, however, if you are swimming outdoors in rivers, lakes, or reservoirs.\\n4-3. Buy flippers.\\nUsing flippers will improve a swimmer’s body position and their technique.Most importantly, they can be used to strengthen your kick to better propel yourself through the water. This propulsion will allow you time to focus on your stroke technique.\\nUsing flippers will give you a sense of cutting quickly through the water. Remember this feeling and try to emulate it when you take the fins off.\\nKicking efficiently is highlighted using flippers, especially if you have a cross-over kick. They will force you to keep your feet a proper distance. They will also help increase your ankle flexibility by streamlining the position of your feet.\\n4-4. Buy a proper suit.\\nThis is the number one sign of commitment to swimming. Gone are the bikinis and frills; what’s left is consistent and streamlined. It’s best to think about your goals. Will you be logging long daily pool yardage or just a couple of times a week?\\nBuy a polyester blend if you’ll be spending lots of time in the water. If cared for properly, they can last for years.\\nBuy lycra swimwear if you won’t be in the pool daily. It’s soft, comfortable, and is known for its expansive stretchiness. Keep in mind though, that no material is impervious to chlorine so always pay attention to the manufacturer’s instructions.\\n4-5. Buy pull buoys and kickboards.\\nBoth of these are designed to isolate your arms or your legs to better strengthen your techniques. While they are not strictly necessary (you can achieve the same effect by holding your hands together and focusing only on your kicks, or by tucking your feet together and only focusing on your strokes), they are wonderful at supporting your arms and legs as you move through the water.\\nPull buoys and kickboards are a great resource to have if you have an injury. You can keep up with your workouts and rest the part of your body that is injured at the same time.\\n5. Training on Dry Land\\n5-1. Focus on the muscle endurance needed for swimming.\\nBack muscles, biceps, shoulders, triceps for upper body workouts that will build endurance with strength should be highlighted. However, high rep endurance is needed for the legs. Combining a maximum repetition of pullups and resting with flutter kicks can improve endurance.\\n5-2. Use the weight room.\\nBent-over rows and bicep curls, and isolating triceps, abdominals, and the lower back are all great exercise for your swimming muscles.\\nThey should be done with moderate weight and high reps (15-20 per set).\\n5-3. Utilize rubber bands.\\nSecure them to a tree or a door knob. Let the natural resistance work you out the same way water works.\\nMake sure you secure the band to something really stable. A sudden jolt from something breaking can lead to injury.\\n5-4. Run, bike, row, dance, use the elliptical or the stair machine.\\nInvolving yourself with cardiovascular activities will always help your general health, and actively keeping fit will help your body stay ready for when you hit the water again.\\nTips\\nThe only reason you can hold your breath for about 10 seconds is your brain is telling you danger danger! But in reality you can hold your breath for more than a minute. When you go under don't think about holding your breath think about something happy like summer vacation or family or whatever but that will help.\\nGet certified in CPR or BLS. Emergency care is a great skill set to know in case something goes wrong in the water.\\nUse a kickboard, life jacket, or arm floats if you feel trepidatious about being in the water at first.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"No matter what your level, you can always find ways to improve your skills in the water. Whether you swim for enjoyment, for exercise, or only if necessary, learning how to swim better will help maximize your movements by streamlining your body, strengthening your muscles, and utilizing swimming equipment. It’s important to know how to swim at your best capacity, for emergencies and for not having to do an awkward doggy-paddle in front of your friends at the pool this summer.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Better Swimmer (Intermediate)\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Swim drills and time yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Drills will help you pay attention to the clock and your times. They allow you to take what you’ve been working on (like your strokes) and immediately apply it to your regular swimming habits.\\nPlay “catch-up” while you swim freestyle. Catch up drills are a classic way of improving your freestyle stroke. Their goal is to smooth out and lengthen your stroke by making you pay attention to your strokes. You keep one arm out in front of you the entire time you swim, and wait until the arm taking a stroke “catches up” with the other one.\\nFor more interesting swimming drills, ask other swimmers, or go online. There are plenty of fun suggestions to keep your workout interesting.\\nChallenge yourself by setting a yardage goal to complete each week. A good start is 2000 yards or meters a workout (forty lengths).Your goal is to become a better swimmer and nothing betters swimming like more swimming.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Swim year round.\", \"描述\": \"Join a gym that has a lap pool (25 yards/meters at least). Swimming throughout the year will increase your strength, endurance, and stamina. It will also keep you in contact with fellow year-rounders who can support your efforts.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join a swim club.\", \"描述\": \"When you don’t have anyone to talk with at the pool, swimming can feel like a chore, and a lonely one at that. Going to work out with other swimmers might score you free training advice for free. At the very least, you’ll make friends who share your desire to become a better swimmer. This will lead to a sense of accountability, something that really helps when dragging yourself out of bed at five in the morning.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Join a swim team or attend stroke clinics.\", \"描述\": \"Both are great opportunities for all swimmers to get technique help on each swimming stroke. They are also great ways to meet fellow swimmers who will help bolster your goal to become a better swimmer.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn your strokes.\", \"描述\": \"There are four basic strokes (butterfly, backstroke, breaststroke, and freestyle) and you should try to learn them all. While you’ll always have a favorite, being a well-rounded swimmer will help to keep swimming challenging and interesting.\\nWhen you swim all strokes, your use more muscles. Your body will also get a much better workout. You’ll see and feel the results faster when you utilize all four strokes.\\nThe risk of injury while swimming is decreased because you aren’t always stressing the same muscles with the same movements. The musculature is more balanced.\\nThe skills you learn from one stroke transfers into skills into a different stroke. For example, the underwater undulation you employ when kicking off the wall into breaststroke is transferable to the underwater undulation you’ll use when starting in backstroke.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn flip turns.\", \"描述\": \"Adding flip turns eliminates the stop-and-start rests at the end of each lap. You’ll become a better distance swimmer when employing these maneuvers. You’ll also save energy when you push off the wall, propelling yourself into a good position to begin your stroke. It’s also a great way to see where your opponents are.\\nExercising your core while you learn will help you accomplish the technical aspects of a flip-turn. They require a full somersault, a trunk flexion, and rapid trunk extension.-\\nKeep your chin down when using a flipturn in freestyle. Begin the turn about an arm’s length from the wall. You’ll begin to do a somersault or a “flip.” Your chin should come close to your chest. Your knees should come close to your chest as well. Plant your feet against the wall and twist your torso. Put your hands together and streamline your body as you push away from the wall.\\nWhen you’re doing a flipturn in backstroke. About one yard or meter from the wall, turn around to the front by reaching around with your leading arm. Look around with your head so your body will naturally follow. Keep the leading arm extended ahead and flip. Push off from the wall.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Find and register for swimming lessons, classes, clinics, and races near you.\", \"描述\": \"Check online to see what’s available. Look for instruction that is above your level. Challenge yourself!\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Learn how to time yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Keeping an eye on the clock will help you ascertain how efficient your are in the water. If you are doing sets, make sure they are timed (ie four fifties on the minute with ten seconds break between the next round).\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Swim as often as possible.\", \"描述\": \"With an increase in distance and speed, your technique will improve dramatically. Set new goals as you leave old ones behind!\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Participate in local swim meets.\", \"描述\": \"Through the swimming community, there are plenty of opportunities to compete in swim meets, even as an adult. A competition is a way to boost your swimming by providing a new, determined, focus.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Better Swimmer (Beginner)\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get help from a friend.\", \"描述\": \"Having a friend in the water with you is comforting. They can remind you what you need to be doing. They can hold you in specific positions while you get a feel for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take swimming lessons.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you are a child or an adult, there is a swim class out there for you. Being around people who are there to teach you will ease any tension or apprehension you might feel. Having a weekly “date” at the pool will help you be accountable to the learning process.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a “feel” for the water.\", \"描述\": \"Learning how your body moves and feels in the water is very important. It’s something we’re not used to, but once you get comfortable, water can be very comfortable and soothing.\\nStart off in the shallow end and begin to move your hands and arms around.\\nPush your hands against the water to feel the resistance. Cup your hands and pull them through the water (sculling). That pressure you feel is what is going to eventually help propel you through the water effortlessly.\\nBend your legs and let the water come up to your chin. Continue to move your hands and arms. Even when you are beginning to learn strokes, start each session like this.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Blow bubbles.\", \"描述\": \"The most important (and scariest) part of swimming is learning how to breathe. But once you learn how to exhale into the water, you will be on your way to more efficient and graceful swimming.\\nReach forward and hold onto the edge of the pool in the shallow end.\\nPut your face in the water and blow out. When you are done, turn your head to the side and take a breath.\\nPush your face back into the water and exhale. Try to create a long, steady stream of bubbles.\\nRepeat until you are comfortable. Exhaling into the water and timing your breathing might be frightening at first, but with practice you’ll soon be ready to learn some basic strokes.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice floating.\", \"描述\": \"It sounds obvious, but floating is a tough skill to learn, and harder to master. In an emergency, knowing how to float can save precious energy and possibly your life. Spend time working on your body position. Learn to float on your stomach and your back.\\nRelax. You have to relax. While learning how to float on your back, look at the sky or the ceiling and breathe deeply. Fill your lungs with air with each breath. Hold your breath for a moment and let the experience of being weightless atop the water calm you.\\nReach up with your arms if your legs sink. This will act as a counterbalance, bringing your legs up.\\nHave a friend help. Having someone next to you to place a reassuring hand at the small of your back can ease your tension immeasurably.\\nTighten your abdominal muscles. Engaging your abdominal muscles will help you keep your appendages afloat easier.\\nFloat on your stomach. Let your arms go limp and free. Raise your head or tilt it to the side when you need a breath.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Tread water.\", \"描述\": \"Treading water can help you catch your breath and keep your head up without actually swimming. Practice this in the deep end with a friend.\\nMove your legs in an “eggbeater” fashion. Start with your knees bend and your legs slightly wider than hip-width apart. Then pedal your legs in opposite directions. Let your kicks be relaxed and easy.\\nCup your hands and circle them in medium-sized (about two feet total) infinity signs. If you need to come up further, kick harder with your legs and arms to propel yourself above the rip of the water.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Practice kicking.\", \"描述\": \"This is a great way to separate the parts of the strokes before you put them all together.\\nHold on to the side of the pool. Put your face down and extend your body straight out.\\nTurn your feet in slightly. Begin small kicks. Try to keep them small and efficient, rarely breaking the surface of the water. Your legs should bend, but only slightly.This is a flutter kick.\\nPractice a front stroke. This is also known as freestyle. Bring one arm out of the water so that it is reaching forward. Place it back into the water with a slightly cupped hand, then pull your arm through the water. As your pull the water down, your stroke will naturally end at your hip. Alternate arms.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Learn other strokes.\", \"描述\": \"As your skills grow, watch other people and emulate what they do. Most of all, have fun in the water and let its resistance turn you into a stronger, more graceful swimmer.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Better Swimmer (Advanced)\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a coach.\", \"描述\": \"Having someone monitoring your strokes, your breathing, and your technique is a great way to get a new perspective on how you approach your swim style. A good coach standing on the pool deck working with a group of swimmers is the best way to improve your overall swimming performance.\\nIf you can’t find a coach, have a swimming buddy whose technique you admire watch your workout.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Record yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Aside from a coach, recording yourself is a great way to get perspective on how you move through the water. You’ll see bad habits you might not have been aware of as well as strengths you can improve upon.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find balance between your long stroke and your short stroke.\", \"描述\": \"A long stroke is great; you’re using good propulsion, low drag, and glide. A short stroke is great, too, but you can waste energy on strokes that are too short and scrappy.\\nKnow your stroke rate. It’s a powerful aspect to know because it will allow you to make needed changes to your strokes to improve your style.\\nAsk a friend or coach to time you for ten strokes with a stopwatch, not including dives or push-offs, just regular swimming. Count the number of strokes you take in the ten seconds. This is your stroke rate. Adjust your stroke as needed.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Search for long distance swims in your area.\", \"描述\": \"A long distance event is any distance-based swimming event more than 1650 yards or 1508.8 meters. It can also be any time based even equal to or greater than one hour and can be in a pool or any body of water.\\nLong distance swims are a great way to focus your expertise in your training for an fun event. Sign up with friends and make a weekend getaway out of it!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Acquiring Equipment to Become a Better Swimmer\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get comfortable goggles.\", \"描述\": \"They will protect your eyes from the sting of chlorine. Once you get used to them, you’ll discover a whole new way of looking at the world.\\nBuy a pair that does not pinch at the nose. Good goggles should be snug but not pinch.\\nPush them against your face. If they stick around your eyes, that is a good sign they will not leak when you are in the water.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Buy a swim cap.\", \"描述\": \"It will protect your hair against chlorine damage and will keep your hair out of your face while you are swimming. Most importantly, swim caps make you more hydrodynamic in the water.\\nLatex caps are protect well against chlorine but are difficult to put on and remove. Putting a bit of talcum powder in the cap before you put it on and while it’s dry helps. Don’t use if you have a latex allergy.\\nSilicone swim caps are the most popular although they are a bit more expensive. They are commonly used by people with medium to long hair. They protect hair well against the water and are still flexible enough to put on and take off.They do, however, slip off your head more easily..\\nLycra swim caps are more comfortable and more durable than silicone or latex. They are not waterproof, however, and tend to slip the most while swimming.\\nNeoprene swim caps are great for keeping your head warm in cold water. They are thicker, have seams, and often have a certain smell. They are great, however, if you are swimming outdoors in rivers, lakes, or reservoirs.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Buy flippers.\", \"描述\": \"Using flippers will improve a swimmer’s body position and their technique.Most importantly, they can be used to strengthen your kick to better propel yourself through the water. This propulsion will allow you time to focus on your stroke technique.\\nUsing flippers will give you a sense of cutting quickly through the water. Remember this feeling and try to emulate it when you take the fins off.\\nKicking efficiently is highlighted using flippers, especially if you have a cross-over kick. They will force you to keep your feet a proper distance. They will also help increase your ankle flexibility by streamlining the position of your feet.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Buy a proper suit.\", \"描述\": \"This is the number one sign of commitment to swimming. Gone are the bikinis and frills; what’s left is consistent and streamlined. It’s best to think about your goals. Will you be logging long daily pool yardage or just a couple of times a week?\\nBuy a polyester blend if you’ll be spending lots of time in the water. If cared for properly, they can last for years.\\nBuy lycra swimwear if you won’t be in the pool daily. It’s soft, comfortable, and is known for its expansive stretchiness. Keep in mind though, that no material is impervious to chlorine so always pay attention to the manufacturer’s instructions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Buy pull buoys and kickboards.\", \"描述\": \"Both of these are designed to isolate your arms or your legs to better strengthen your techniques. While they are not strictly necessary (you can achieve the same effect by holding your hands together and focusing only on your kicks, or by tucking your feet together and only focusing on your strokes), they are wonderful at supporting your arms and legs as you move through the water.\\nPull buoys and kickboards are a great resource to have if you have an injury. You can keep up with your workouts and rest the part of your body that is injured at the same time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Training on Dry Land\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Focus on the muscle endurance needed for swimming.\", \"描述\": \"Back muscles, biceps, shoulders, triceps for upper body workouts that will build endurance with strength should be highlighted. However, high rep endurance is needed for the legs. Combining a maximum repetition of pullups and resting with flutter kicks can improve endurance.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use the weight room.\", \"描述\": \"Bent-over rows and bicep curls, and isolating triceps, abdominals, and the lower back are all great exercise for your swimming muscles.\\nThey should be done with moderate weight and high reps (15-20 per set).\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Utilize rubber bands.\", \"描述\": \"Secure them to a tree or a door knob. Let the natural resistance work you out the same way water works.\\nMake sure you secure the band to something really stable. A sudden jolt from something breaking can lead to injury.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Run, bike, row, dance, use the elliptical or the stair machine.\", \"描述\": \"Involving yourself with cardiovascular activities will always help your general health, and actively keeping fit will help your body stay ready for when you hit the water again.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"The only reason you can hold your breath for about 10 seconds is your brain is telling you danger danger! But in reality you can hold your breath for more than a minute. When you go under don't think about holding your breath think about something happy like summer vacation or family or whatever but that will help.\\n\", \"Get certified in CPR or BLS. Emergency care is a great skill set to know in case something goes wrong in the water.\\n\", \"Use a kickboard, life jacket, or arm floats if you feel trepidatious about being in the water at first.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Good Taekwondo Student
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1. Steps
1-1. Take the oath.
Each Taekwondo practicing ground/hall should take an Oath either in English or local language as per the following:
We solemnly affirm that we shall be ready to maintain sovereignty and unity of the Nation in a disciplined way.
We shall not take part in any illegal activities.
We always be ready to save the people in guard and poor.
1-2. Show courtesy and respect to the instructor and all other students at all times.
Black belts should be referred to as 'Sir' or 'Ma'am'. At the end of any exercise where you have worked with a partner or group, you must bow to your partner or to the members of your group and say 'Thank you'. Courtesy is a key part of Taekwondo.
1-3. Be honest at all times in your study of Taekwondo, not only to your instructor and your fellow students but also to yourself.
1-4. Persevere:
exercises are often tough and there will many times when you want to give up, but to persevere is to carry on regardless.
1-5. Adopt an indomitable spirit:
it is likely that you will suffer setbacks at some point during your practice of Taekwondo, but it is important not to let these put you off. 'Fall Seven times, stand up eight'.
1-6. Be sensible:
don't overtrain or try to continue with an injury. Listen to your body. If you are injured, take some time off and come back when you are ready.
1-7. Train regularly:
at least three times a week to get the most out of it.
1-8. Grade whenever possible:
don't miss a grading, prepare yourself properly and be ready for it on time.
1-9. Compete in tournaments:
put your skills to the test against new people. Watch other students and pick up tips.
1-10. Ask Black Belts to help:
in most Dojangs, the black belts are friendly and more than willing to help you, whether you need to go over your form, kicking, or blocks. Just ask nicely, be polite and remember to thank them for their time.
1-11. Pay your training fees on the day they are due, and make sure your license and club memberships are up to date.
1-12. Do extra exercise outside your Taekwondo classes to build fitness, strength and flexibility.
A nice cardio workout will be good for kicking. Try a stairclimber or treadmill. After, try a muscular workout. This can include weights, pull ups, etc.
Taekwondo is a Korean martial art. Some styles of Taekwondo are similar to American karate.
Taekwondo is known for its jump kicks. It is one of the more aerial types of martial arts.
Karate tends to do more kicks from the waist down, while Taekwondo does kicks from the waist up.
1-13. Eat sensibly:
make sure your diet is high in protein for muscles and carbohydrates for energy (especially on training days).
1-14. Drink water:
before, during and after training. Dehydration can seriously affect your performance.
1-15. Practice everything you are taught.
Go over all the patterns every week to keep them fresh in your mind.
1-16. Be sure to warm up and cool down.
Don't forget to stretch AFTERWARDS!
Tips
Enjoy the journey- once you get to black belt, you'll wish that you hadn't wished to get there so fast as a color belt.
Age doesn't make a difference as long as you want to join, and are willing to give 100% do it!
Only find an instructor you can respect. Once you find a good instructor, be loyal to him/her. If you find you cannot be loyal to your teacher, TKD isn't for you.
Warnings
Make sure you wear the correct protective equipment when sparring - the helmets may not be comfortable or attractive but they are there for an obvious reason.
Taekwondo is not for those who are not willing to try their hardest. If you cannot give 100% effort, it is not worth it.
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Persevere:\\nexercises are often tough and there will many times when you want to give up, but to persevere is to carry on regardless.\\n1-5. Adopt an indomitable spirit:\\nit is likely that you will suffer setbacks at some point during your practice of Taekwondo, but it is important not to let these put you off. 'Fall Seven times, stand up eight'.\\n1-6. Be sensible:\\ndon't overtrain or try to continue with an injury. Listen to your body. If you are injured, take some time off and come back when you are ready.\\n1-7. Train regularly:\\nat least three times a week to get the most out of it.\\n1-8. Grade whenever possible:\\ndon't miss a grading, prepare yourself properly and be ready for it on time.\\n1-9. Compete in tournaments:\\nput your skills to the test against new people. Watch other students and pick up tips.\\n1-10. Ask Black Belts to help:\\nin most Dojangs, the black belts are friendly and more than willing to help you, whether you need to go over your form, kicking, or blocks. Just ask nicely, be polite and remember to thank them for their time.\\n1-11. Pay your training fees on the day they are due, and make sure your license and club memberships are up to date.\\n\\n1-12. Do extra exercise outside your Taekwondo classes to build fitness, strength and flexibility.\\nA nice cardio workout will be good for kicking. Try a stairclimber or treadmill. After, try a muscular workout. This can include weights, pull ups, etc.\\nTaekwondo is a Korean martial art. Some styles of Taekwondo are similar to American karate.\\nTaekwondo is known for its jump kicks. It is one of the more aerial types of martial arts.\\nKarate tends to do more kicks from the waist down, while Taekwondo does kicks from the waist up.\\n1-13. Eat sensibly:\\nmake sure your diet is high in protein for muscles and carbohydrates for energy (especially on training days).\\n1-14. Drink water:\\nbefore, during and after training. Dehydration can seriously affect your performance.\\n1-15. Practice everything you are taught.\\nGo over all the patterns every week to keep them fresh in your mind.\\n1-16. Be sure to warm up and cool down.\\nDon't forget to stretch AFTERWARDS!\\nTips\\nEnjoy the journey- once you get to black belt, you'll wish that you hadn't wished to get there so fast as a color belt.\\nAge doesn't make a difference as long as you want to join, and are willing to give 100% do it!\\nOnly find an instructor you can respect. Once you find a good instructor, be loyal to him/her. If you find you cannot be loyal to your teacher, TKD isn't for you.\\nWarnings\\nMake sure you wear the correct protective equipment when sparring - the helmets may not be comfortable or attractive but they are there for an obvious reason.\\nTaekwondo is not for those who are not willing to try their hardest. If you cannot give 100% effort, it is not worth it.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you do Taekwondo and would like to be a better student or if you would like to join Taekwondo the following are important things to keep in mind.\\nTaekwondo tradition is based upon decent human values such as self discipline (Guk-Gi), good conduct, decent (Ye-Jol) behavior, sincerity, honesty and integrity (Yom-Chi). A Taekwondo practitioner (Suryun-Saeng) shall not misbehave ever if provoked or harassed. He would react on the physical assault or abuse but refrain from emerging as a nuisance. He shall respect law of the land and would assist the enforcement authority against anti social and the unlawful acts and helps to prevail peace and security in the society. Taekwondo means ‘the art of the hand and foot.’\\n\\nOne should respect his senior (Sun Bae-Nim) in belt grade and elsewhere irrespective of age & sex or status and should address him or her as Sir (Son Saeg-Nim) or Madam (Puin or Madam) in due respect (Jon-Gyung) and shall behave in humility & courtesy. A Taekwondoin should treat his Master (Sah Bum-Nim) as ‘ideal' commanding full respect and care. One should treat his junior (Hu Bae-Nim) in the training ground or Taekwondo Gymnasium (Do-jang) as a caring elder who would prefer pardon to punishment to induce correction in techniques and behavior amongst them. The generosity may be suspended in the course of training or order to teach lessons through rigorous physical involvement. There is a mutual understanding between the master and the learner (Suryun-Saeng). The Taekwondoins duplicate their Master's style & tradition as an identity. \\n\\nTaekwondo begins (See-Jak) & ends (Ko-Mahn) with display of courtesy confirmed by bowing (Kyung-Nae) in submission of the senior by the junior at first sight. It's an unavoidable obligation on the training ground or Taekwondo Gym. One should obey commands of their seniors as concerned with their lessons & practice only. This is a Taekwondo tradition which transforms a commoner into a decent person and responsible citizen in due course.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take the oath.\", \"描述\": \"Each Taekwondo practicing ground/hall should take an Oath either in English or local language as per the following:\\nWe solemnly affirm that we shall be ready to maintain sovereignty and unity of the Nation in a disciplined way.\\nWe shall not take part in any illegal activities.\\nWe always be ready to save the people in guard and poor.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show courtesy and respect to the instructor and all other students at all times.\", \"描述\": \"Black belts should be referred to as 'Sir' or 'Ma'am'. At the end of any exercise where you have worked with a partner or group, you must bow to your partner or to the members of your group and say 'Thank you'. Courtesy is a key part of Taekwondo.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be honest at all times in your study of Taekwondo, not only to your instructor and your fellow students but also to yourself.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Persevere:\", \"描述\": \"exercises are often tough and there will many times when you want to give up, but to persevere is to carry on regardless.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Adopt an indomitable spirit:\", \"描述\": \"it is likely that you will suffer setbacks at some point during your practice of Taekwondo, but it is important not to let these put you off. 'Fall Seven times, stand up eight'.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be sensible:\", \"描述\": \"don't overtrain or try to continue with an injury. Listen to your body. If you are injured, take some time off and come back when you are ready.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Train regularly:\", \"描述\": \"at least three times a week to get the most out of it.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Grade whenever possible:\", \"描述\": \"don't miss a grading, prepare yourself properly and be ready for it on time.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Compete in tournaments:\", \"描述\": \"put your skills to the test against new people. Watch other students and pick up tips.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Ask Black Belts to help:\", \"描述\": \"in most Dojangs, the black belts are friendly and more than willing to help you, whether you need to go over your form, kicking, or blocks. Just ask nicely, be polite and remember to thank them for their time.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Pay your training fees on the day they are due, and make sure your license and club memberships are up to date.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Do extra exercise outside your Taekwondo classes to build fitness, strength and flexibility.\", \"描述\": \"A nice cardio workout will be good for kicking. Try a stairclimber or treadmill. After, try a muscular workout. This can include weights, pull ups, etc.\\nTaekwondo is a Korean martial art. Some styles of Taekwondo are similar to American karate.\\nTaekwondo is known for its jump kicks. 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1. Put forth an appropriate body presentation.
Good body language is a "must" for a good talker.
Are you convincing someone -- if so, your words become more effective with a nice smile. You can not afford any bad gesture or weak logic at that time. If you do not have a natural smile on your face, then assume that, "I am playing a role in a particular kind of movie or drama." You should act like a professional actor/actress would do, by bringing the right gestures on your face and body for your situation.
A stony, seemingly uncaring face is boring, confusing and self-defeating.
Make eye contact with the person while you're talking to sound more convincing and persuasive.
2. Use well-chosen words to make a good sentence.
Try to share your thoughts at the right place and exact time needed.
It is only possible by reading the situation instantly, using your automatic senses -- not like some autopilot, or robot, but being natural and fitting. For this purpose, to read the situation, you should be a good observer, or become a good observer/listener, and make a special effort to show a good kind and degree of response.
3. Make brief breaks in your sentences.
Pause momentarily where it seems natural.
This means that you should give a little time to the other to absorb the words of your sentence. Allow questions, objections and remarks. Here once again you will need a strong observation about the surroundings and the interests of the person to whom you are talking. If you feel that he/she has little interest in your talk, then try to wind up your topic or intermix with another topic and bend your perspective in a connective manner.
4. Avoid confronting someone directly through your words.
Unnecessary confrontation doesn't accomplish very much in a conversation.
If you do confront someone, you may have lost the value of your sentences by inducing negative feelings. Be kind to one another.
5. Match your body language to your conversation.
Some conversations demand more physical interaction than others.
If you are discussing business deals in an office or in some other rather formal places then just a confident measure in your voice and smiling is enough to support your words, and then an appropriate firm handshake, bowing if appropriate, on greeting and parting may be welcome and impressive. But, if you are in a garden with someone on a walk, then it may be good to walk hand in hand, if that is appropriate for the persons involved.
6. Don't demand explanations from other people.
Good, impressive talkers avoid asking for too much explanation.
Steer clear of demands such as "Tell me what you mean!" or a question like, "What do you mean?" Over-doing your talk may bore, or insult the listener, lose the person's attention and the value and importance of the matter which you are discussing.
7. Listen to your partner with complete patience.
Good listening skills are a critical part of being a good talker.
If you are not willing to listen to him/her, then assume that, "I am listening to a radio DJ, that I must listen to on how to win a prize, or to get very important news and information." While listening to your partner, it is must that you to respond actively with your body language (normally smile, nod with agreement) and use brief expressions spaced throughout like "Yes.", "I agree.", "You are right.", etc, etc.
This step will assure him/her that you are fully interested to listen, talk or discuss, and obviously your partner will give you a reward (such as accepting your plan or buying your product) in the end of your discussion.
8. Watch your tone.
Always keep your tone according to the meaning of the sentence.
You should not say an aggressive sentence with a polite tone -- or vice versa. That would seem sarcastic or as "reverse logic". If you do so, it will hurt your chances of a good result in your relationship with your partner a lot.
9. Choose a good volume.
Try to strike a happy medium.
Your voice must not be so loud that passing people can understand you easily but not so low that it brings difficulty to your partner in hearing. In both cases your partner will feel an insult or uneasiness about what is spoken.
10. Change the topic when necessary.
Don't stick with a topic if it makes someone else uncomfortable.
Still, it is also a bad idea to change your topic very suddenly, or all at once. So, link your continuing sentences with the other topic to flow onward with purpose, not breaking the spirit of the relationship for communicating successfully.
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1. Developing a Good Classroom Environment
1-1. Create a daily objective for your students.
This is your way of providing a roadmap for your students, it shows them that you’ve put thought into the day’s work and you know where it is heading. It's best if the objectives are clear, brief, and realistic. As each objective is completed, remind your students of what they’ve accomplished together.
For example, in a high school literature class, an objective might be to complete a close reading of a particular poem by the end of the period.
Some teachers find it helpful to post that day’s objectives on the board.
It’s okay if not every objective is met every day. In some cases it's better to follow the flow of a particular conversation, instead of railroading back to the original subject matter.
1-2. Listen to your students.
Ask them open-ended questions after they’ve made a statement. Encourage them to ask you questions as well. Show that you are listening to them by nodding your head or gesturing for them to continue. Give them eye contact while they are speaking and try your best not to interrupt, unless you must redirect the conversation.
Being an active listener shows your students that you respect their voice in the classroom. They will be more likely to give you respect as a teacher in return.
It’s also a good idea to model for your students how to respectfully listen to someone while disagreeing with them. You might say, “I’m not sure I agree with what you are saying, can you tell me more? Or, does anyone else want to jump in?”
1-3. Keep students on task.
Set time limits for classroom exercises or activities. In discussions, use your responses to their remarks as a classroom management tool. For example, you might say, “I really like what you are saying. How do you think it connects with objective number five?”
1-4. Push your students to succeed.
Try to create an environment in which your students will be constantly intellectually challenged. Let them know that it is okay to fail on occasion. You want to strike a balance between setting too high of goals for them and being a push-over. Use your students’ progress to guide your way. They should be steadily improving, but not without considerable effort.
For example, you might give a short, advanced-level reading assignment to high school students and ask them to use a dictionary to look up unfamiliar words. If used sparingly, this is a great way to challenge students to expand their vocabulary.
2. Dealing with Classroom Challenges
2-1. Discipline in a prompt and thoughtful way.
Make the rules for your classroom and each exercise very clear and consistent. If a student breaks a rule, handle it immediately in the classroom before moving forward. However, once you’ve made a disciplinary action, don’t dwell on it or you could create additional problems. Also, make sure that any consequences that you assign match the level of the offense committed.
For example, if a student accidentally disrupts a designated “quiet period” this can generally be corrected with a simple verbal warning for a first offense.
You can also ask the student to stay after class and speak with you. This is one way to issue a consequence without disrupting your classroom.
2-2. Assign leadership roles to difficult students.
Some students create problems in a classroom due to sheer boredom or feeling disconnected with the subject or their teacher. Start with giving a challenging student small, personal tasks to complete. Then, over time, give them more difficult and public responsibilities.
For example, you might ask a student to serve as a time-keeper for an in-class exercise.
Be aware that this is an option that won't work for every challenging student. If they don't do well at the simple tasks, don't give them more advanced ones.
2-3. Express a personal interest in all students.
If you show your students that you enjoy their company and value their opinions, then they are far less likely to exhibit challenging classroom behaviors. Make a point of asking your students about their daily lives and personal interests. While staying professional, tell your students information about you in return.
For example, you might talk with your students about where they are going for an upcoming break.
2-4. Stay calm when addressing argumentative students.
It’s really easy to lose your cool when faced with a challenging or critical student. Instead, take a deep breath and try to look at their perspective. Ask them to explain their position in further detail. Encourage other students to enter into the discussion.
2-5. Give quiet students many avenues of participation.
There are many possible reasons why a student might remain silent in your classroom. Encourage them to learn by creating a safe environment for all opinions. Offer a variety of assignment options, including journal submissions or email logs. Avoid putting a spotlight on quiet students, unless that fits your overall teaching style.
2-6. Offer assistance to struggling students.
Do your best to identify students who are struggling academically early on. Consider offering in-class resources, such as pair exercises. Or, direct them to external resources, such as subject tutoring.
3. Maintaining the Right Mindset
3-1. Be a professional at all times.
Dress appropriately for your teaching environment. Keep your teaching materials and classroom organized. Spend time preparing for each day of teaching. Show respect when talking with your colleagues and administrators. Think about what it means to be a professional teacher and try to live up to that model.
It sometimes helps to think about one of your past teachers who you would describe as a true professional. Try to think about how you could in some ways mimic their behaviors in your own classroom and career.
3-2. Laugh and keep your sense of humor.
Try to teach your students that learning doesn’t have to be serious 24/7. If you do something that is funny or goofy, then laugh at yourself. Being a bit self-deprecating will make your students more comfortable with you. If you incorporate humor or jokes into your lesson plans, then your students will likely remember the material better as well.
3-3. Repeat positive mantras on bad days.
Not every teaching day will go perfectly and some might even fall into the category of disaster. However, it’s important to stay positive or your students will pick up and reflect your negative energy. Take a moment to tell yourself, “It’s going to be okay,” or, “Tomorrow is a new day.” Put a smile on your face and keep going.
You might even say out loud, “I love teaching because…” and list off a few reasons. For example, think about a moment when you saw real improvement in a student’s life due to your efforts.
If it’s been a bad day for the students, too, then you might even say that you want to do a “re-set.” Tell them that you want to formally start the day over from that point forward.
3-4. Create good relationships with the parents of students.
Communication is key when working with parents. Keep in touch with them via in-person conferences as well as written behavioral reports. Let them know that you are interested in their ideas and perspectives on teaching. You can also solicit their help for events and celebrations in your classroom.
Make contact with the Parent Teacher Association (PTA) at your school and ask what you can do to help.
4. Improving as a Teacher
4-1. Seek out teaching mentors.
Look for other teachers at your school who are willing to discuss teaching with you or who will even let you sit in on their classes. If they are interested, invite them to your classroom as well. After they’ve seen you teach, ask them to provide you with constructive criticism. See if they have suggestions for how you can be an even better teacher.
For example, they might suggest that you state your classroom objectives more clearly. Then, you can talk about how you’d go about doing this.
It’s also a good idea to exchange teaching materials with your mentors and colleagues. Show them the format that you use for quizzes or tests and ask to see their versions. You don’t have to teach the same subject to benefit from talking about teaching.
You can also find mentors via teaching organizations or even at conferences. Stay in touch with the people that you meet and seek out their advice when you need it.
4-2. Take time to reflect.
At the end of each semester or teaching period, sit down and evaluate what worked well and what didn’t. Be honest with yourself and realistically assess what is in your power to change before teaching that particular class again. If you're preparing for a certain course that always causes problems, you might consider reaching out to your mentor for advice.
For example, you might find that your students react better to projects using media. If that’s the case, think about how you can incorporate more media-driven activities in your classroom.
4-3. Take advantage of professional development opportunities.
Go to teaching conferences in your area and meet other education professionals. Write articles about teaching and publish them in local magazines or newspapers. Serve as a grader for exams in your area, such as the Advanced Placements tests. Keep learning and you’ll be a model for your students, too.
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If your students are quiet, encourage them to participate by asking open-ended questions. Stick with “why” and “how” questions.[15]
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Get to know your student’s names as quickly as possible. They will appreciate your efforts and you’ll find it easier to communicate with them, too.
Maybe you feel like there's not much to be done when grading a paper other than marking incorrect answers and giving the score, but there can be a big difference between a paper that has helpful comments and explanations of missed problems and one that just has a bunch of red marks.
Warnings
If you develop safety concerns about a particular student, don’t hesitate to reach out to administrators or other teachers for advice and assistance. Trust your instincts.
Give yourself some time to develop into the best teacher that you can be. Don’t expect to happen overnight and be patient with yourself as you learn.[16]
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Show that you are listening to them by nodding your head or gesturing for them to continue. Give them eye contact while they are speaking and try your best not to interrupt, unless you must redirect the conversation.\\nBeing an active listener shows your students that you respect their voice in the classroom. They will be more likely to give you respect as a teacher in return.\\nIt’s also a good idea to model for your students how to respectfully listen to someone while disagreeing with them. You might say, “I’m not sure I agree with what you are saying, can you tell me more? Or, does anyone else want to jump in?”\\n1-3. Keep students on task.\\nSet time limits for classroom exercises or activities. In discussions, use your responses to their remarks as a classroom management tool. For example, you might say, “I really like what you are saying. How do you think it connects with objective number five?”\\n1-4. 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Repeat positive mantras on bad days.\\nNot every teaching day will go perfectly and some might even fall into the category of disaster. However, it’s important to stay positive or your students will pick up and reflect your negative energy. Take a moment to tell yourself, “It’s going to be okay,” or, “Tomorrow is a new day.” Put a smile on your face and keep going.\\nYou might even say out loud, “I love teaching because…” and list off a few reasons. For example, think about a moment when you saw real improvement in a student’s life due to your efforts.\\nIf it’s been a bad day for the students, too, then you might even say that you want to do a “re-set.” Tell them that you want to formally start the day over from that point forward.\\n3-4. Create good relationships with the parents of students.\\nCommunication is key when working with parents. Keep in touch with them via in-person conferences as well as written behavioral reports. 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Show them the format that you use for quizzes or tests and ask to see their versions. You don’t have to teach the same subject to benefit from talking about teaching.\\nYou can also find mentors via teaching organizations or even at conferences. Stay in touch with the people that you meet and seek out their advice when you need it.\\n4-2. Take time to reflect.\\nAt the end of each semester or teaching period, sit down and evaluate what worked well and what didn’t. Be honest with yourself and realistically assess what is in your power to change before teaching that particular class again. If you're preparing for a certain course that always causes problems, you might consider reaching out to your mentor for advice.\\nFor example, you might find that your students react better to projects using media. If that’s the case, think about how you can incorporate more media-driven activities in your classroom.\\n4-3. 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1. Communicating with the Teacher
1-1. Listen to the teacher’s needs.
Your number one job for this position is to assist the teacher. Chances are, your job exists because the teacher already has an idea of what she wants or needs out of an assistant. Before starting the position, or during your first few days, take notes on what is expected from you.
Determine early on what your primary responsibilities will be for the position. Will you mainly be helping a few students who need special support? Will you be working behind the scenes, making photocopies and grading papers? Or will you be taking over entire classes for the teacher?
If you have questions about anything the teacher describes, ask earlier rather than later.
1-2. Familiarize yourself with the curriculum.
You’ll be able to best assist the students if you know what they are learning as well as when and how they are learning it. Just because you have already taken the class that you’ll be assisting with, doesn’t mean you automatically know all about it from a teacher’s perspective. Read the teacher’s lesson plans, curriculum books, syllabus, etc.
1-3. Offer to check for homework and grade papers.
Part of the responsibilities of a teacher are the day-to-day monitoring of student progress. You can be a huge help to the teacher by sharing in these responsibilities.
Make a tracking sheet with each students’ name with columns of boxes so you can check off who brings their homework on time.
After grading papers, offer to enter the grades into the computer grading system for the teacher. Or, keep a paper record of the grades on paper to give to them to enter.
1-4. Ask if you can help communicate with parents.
Some public districts may have rules about who can communicate with parents, but if you are authorized to make parent phone calls, it can be a huge help to the teacher.
Be sure to keep calls professional. If you are dealing with behavior problems from the student, be sure to include highlights of things the child does well along with your reports of the problem behavior. No parent wants to hear only negative things about their child; giving only negative reports will decrease the amount of support and cooperation you get from the parent.
1-5. Offer to run errands for the teacher.
Something that can be very helpful for a teacher is to run to the copy machine or to the office during class. An adult needs to remain with the students at all times, so if the teacher realizes she didn’t make enough copies for that day’s lesson, after class has already started, it can be quite stressful. You can help in this situation by going out and making the needed amount of copies for her.
1-6. Ask to help with the schedule/calendar.
Teachers often have a calendar posted in the classroom that outlines important student dates and events for that month. You can assist in the sometimes monotonous task of filling in that calendar by offering to complete it for her. You’ll need to have a grasp on school events and regular classroom procedures before being able to do this.
1-7. Offer to watch students while the teacher steps out.
Bathroom emergencies and last minute meetings can happen for teachers. The school district where you work may have rules about who may stay with students for an extended period of time, but most will allow for a teaching assistant to stay with students for 10 minutes or less. Make the teacher aware that you are available as needed for this responsibility.
1-8. Ask if you can help with special discipline cases.
Sometimes students may have a particular issue going on that requires them to spend extra time out of class or in the office. Some students may not be allowed to walk the halls during class without adult supervision. Other times, a student’s IEP (Individualized Education Plan) requires that they have occasional breaks from the room.
Ask the teacher if you can be of assistance by remaining with these students and walking with them where they need to go while she is teaching.
2. Joining the Classroom Community
2-1. Get to know the students.
A primary responsibility of any teacher is getting to know the students and developing an understanding of their learning strengths and needs. Make an effort to learn all of your students’ names within the first couple of weeks; if you have trouble remembering names, you can make flash cards with defining student features. Another good trick for remembering names is to use popsicle sticks for class discussions; write each student’s name on a stick and pull them randomly during discussions. The student who answers is the one whose name matches your stick.
Keep a journal with reflections from each day. This will help you determine strengths and needs of certain students, as well as which lessons went well (or didn’t) and why.
2-2. Keep the room tidy.
No teacher or student likes a messy learning environment. Between classes be sure to push chairs back in, straighten desks, pick up dropped papers or pencils, and organize materials.
Ask the lead teacher before doing any major reorganizations in the room. Many teachers are particular about where they like having things placed.
2-3. Take instructional tips from the teacher.
Because your role as an assistant provides you with many opportunities for dialogue with students, you should practice how to provide assistance without actually completing work for the students.
Learn how to answer a question with a question; if a student needs help doing a particular task, ask what they remember about what they learned to guide them through getting their answer. Students remember more by figuring out tasks for themselves, not by being spoon-fed every step of the way.
2-4. Make bulletin boards and displays of student work.
Most students love to see their work displayed publicly. This is also a chance for you to get creative. Your school should have a main supply room where you can find colored paper and bulletin board borders.
Gather supplies and get to work decorating. Let students know which projects you intend to hang up for display.
2-5. Assist with supervision during field trips.
When your class makes outings, there is a need for as many adults as possible to assist with keeping a head count of students and helping with various tasks like passing out snacks or lunches and keeping everyone quiet during guest lectures. You can also help students get interested in the field trip by talking about your own experiences (if any) in visiting the place where you’re going.
2-6. Take younger students to lunch/specials classes.
Teachers can often use all the extra time during the day that they can get for planning lessons and grading papers. If you can cut down on the teacher’s need to leave class by walking students to where they need to go, she will probably be very appreciative.
2-7. Proctor make-up tests for older students.
Teacher’s lives are often full of giving tests in order to keep up with district and state requirements. Sometimes when students are absent on testing days it makes it complicated for teachers to find the time to give a make-up exam. Offer to take students out of the room, to the library or other quiet area, to give them the make-up test. It can be extremely helpful to both teachers and students alike.
2-8. Determine which students need extra support.
Some teaching assistants are hired specifically to help certain students; in these cases you will find out immediately which students are “yours” to assist. In other cases, such as assistants for whole classes, it will be up to you to figure out which students could benefit most from your extra help.
During lessons, watch for students’ responses and levels of participation. The ones who aren’t participating as much or who look confused are ones who could benefit from some extra one-on-one assistance.
Ask to look through student records. Again, some records may be confidential according to the district, but you can ask what you’re allowed to look through in order to gain extra insight into the needs of specific students.
For students who do need extra support, or to whom you are assigned to in the class, be sure to provide support without hovering over the student. A student with extra special needs may become clingy to an assistant; in these cases be sure show your affection toward the student while also encouraging them to join peer groups and develop friendships.
2-9. Offer to hold review sessions for struggling students.
Students who are falling behind on certain concepts in class can often use some extra time with the material. When the rest of the class is ready to move onto the next unit, offer to spend time reviewing the old material with the students who need extra help. You should be able to find extra practice work in the room by asking the teacher.
2-10. Maintain professionalism.
Remember that you are an authority figure to students, yet you do not make final decisions regarding classroom procedures. Remembering this balance in your role will help you to create a smooth classroom environment.
If questions arise by students regarding rules and you are unsure of the answer, it is okay to say, “let’s check with the teacher first.” At the same time, if students do not listen to you because you’re not the “real” teacher, it is okay to remind them that you are an adult in the class and you should be treated with respect just as any adult should be treated.
Always be a model example for students; do not participate in side conversations with students while the teacher is talking, and maintain your composure if a student is creating disruption. Don’t lose your temper or become emotional with either students or the teacher.
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Ask if you can help communicate with parents.\\nSome public districts may have rules about who can communicate with parents, but if you are authorized to make parent phone calls, it can be a huge help to the teacher.\\nBe sure to keep calls professional. If you are dealing with behavior problems from the student, be sure to include highlights of things the child does well along with your reports of the problem behavior. No parent wants to hear only negative things about their child; giving only negative reports will decrease the amount of support and cooperation you get from the parent.\\n1-5. Offer to run errands for the teacher.\\nSomething that can be very helpful for a teacher is to run to the copy machine or to the office during class. An adult needs to remain with the students at all times, so if the teacher realizes she didn’t make enough copies for that day’s lesson, after class has already started, it can be quite stressful. You can help in this situation by going out and making the needed amount of copies for her.\\n1-6. Ask to help with the schedule/calendar.\\nTeachers often have a calendar posted in the classroom that outlines important student dates and events for that month. You can assist in the sometimes monotonous task of filling in that calendar by offering to complete it for her. You’ll need to have a grasp on school events and regular classroom procedures before being able to do this.\\n1-7. Offer to watch students while the teacher steps out.\\nBathroom emergencies and last minute meetings can happen for teachers. The school district where you work may have rules about who may stay with students for an extended period of time, but most will allow for a teaching assistant to stay with students for 10 minutes or less. Make the teacher aware that you are available as needed for this responsibility.\\n1-8. Ask if you can help with special discipline cases.\\nSometimes students may have a particular issue going on that requires them to spend extra time out of class or in the office. Some students may not be allowed to walk the halls during class without adult supervision. Other times, a student’s IEP (Individualized Education Plan) requires that they have occasional breaks from the room.\\nAsk the teacher if you can be of assistance by remaining with these students and walking with them where they need to go while she is teaching.\\n2. Joining the Classroom Community\\n2-1. Get to know the students.\\nA primary responsibility of any teacher is getting to know the students and developing an understanding of their learning strengths and needs. Make an effort to learn all of your students’ names within the first couple of weeks; if you have trouble remembering names, you can make flash cards with defining student features. 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Take instructional tips from the teacher.\\nBecause your role as an assistant provides you with many opportunities for dialogue with students, you should practice how to provide assistance without actually completing work for the students.\\nLearn how to answer a question with a question; if a student needs help doing a particular task, ask what they remember about what they learned to guide them through getting their answer. Students remember more by figuring out tasks for themselves, not by being spoon-fed every step of the way.\\n2-4. Make bulletin boards and displays of student work.\\nMost students love to see their work displayed publicly. This is also a chance for you to get creative. Your school should have a main supply room where you can find colored paper and bulletin board borders.\\nGather supplies and get to work decorating. Let students know which projects you intend to hang up for display.\\n2-5. Assist with supervision during field trips.\\nWhen your class makes outings, there is a need for as many adults as possible to assist with keeping a head count of students and helping with various tasks like passing out snacks or lunches and keeping everyone quiet during guest lectures. You can also help students get interested in the field trip by talking about your own experiences (if any) in visiting the place where you’re going.\\n2-6. Take younger students to lunch/specials classes.\\nTeachers can often use all the extra time during the day that they can get for planning lessons and grading papers. If you can cut down on the teacher’s need to leave class by walking students to where they need to go, she will probably be very appreciative.\\n2-7. Proctor make-up tests for older students.\\nTeacher’s lives are often full of giving tests in order to keep up with district and state requirements. Sometimes when students are absent on testing days it makes it complicated for teachers to find the time to give a make-up exam. Offer to take students out of the room, to the library or other quiet area, to give them the make-up test. It can be extremely helpful to both teachers and students alike.\\n2-8. Determine which students need extra support.\\nSome teaching assistants are hired specifically to help certain students; in these cases you will find out immediately which students are “yours” to assist. In other cases, such as assistants for whole classes, it will be up to you to figure out which students could benefit most from your extra help.\\nDuring lessons, watch for students’ responses and levels of participation. The ones who aren’t participating as much or who look confused are ones who could benefit from some extra one-on-one assistance.\\nAsk to look through student records. 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1. Leading During the Game
1-1. Give a full effort all the time.
The most important part of being a captain is leading by example. Because you are the captain, your teammates will look up to you and follow your lead whether you want them to or not. No matter the situation, your teammates need to see you working as hard as you can to win the game; you are also the primary person who will either be rewarded for credit or criticised for the team's performance.
Some ways to show your effort include not jogging when you should be running, and never giving up on a play. If you slack off or give less effort, that is a sign that they do not need to try as hard either.
This is especially important if you are losing during a game. Don’t let the situation dictate your effort. Let your teammates know that you will always give your best effort, even if you don’t win the game. It can be hard to keep that energy up while losing, and your teammates will need your example to help.
1-2. Demonstrate good sportsmanship.
On the field, you should treat your opponents with respect. After the game is over, be sure to shake their hands as well. No matter how contentious the game, congratulate them on a good contest. Let your teammates know it is okay and important to be respectful of the everyone playing.
Be respectful to fans. You can always lead your teammates in saluting or applauding the cheers of your own fans after the game. Ignore booing, taunts, or insults to show your teammates that those things shouldn’t affect their performance. Never shout back or make obscene gestures in response to negative fan comments.
Talk to your teammates about sportsmanship as well. Ask them to describe what they think sportsmanship means, and how they are going to practice it during games. That way they will know and understand what you are doing, rather than you hoping they pick it up. It never hurts to remind them of the proper way to treat each other and their opponents.
1-3. Treat officials with respect.
In many sports, captains are the only players allowed to talk to the referees. Don’t shout at the officials over calls you think they missed or got wrong. Remember that the referee is in charge on the field and that you can’t let their calls affect your play on the field.
Don’t be afraid to discuss calls with the referees. Just remember to do so respectfully. Asking why something was or was not a foul, and explaining why you thought otherwise, is much better than trying to argue that the referee was wrong. Ask “Why was that a foul?” and listen to the answer rather than more accusatory statements like “That’s a terrible call” or “You didn’t call that foul on the other team.”
In some sports, the referees will share certain rules with the captains that players should be aware of. Make sure you share these rules with your teammates and coaches to make sure everyone has an idea of how the official plans to call the game.
In most sports, abusing the officials is a good way to pick up a penalty, or get yourself thrown out of the game. Not only will you be setting a bad example, but you will also be directly hurting the team.
1-4. Take responsibility for your mistakes.
Part of leading by example is letting your teammates know it is important to own up to your errors. Don’t make excuses when things go wrong. If appropriate, apologize. Stand up and say, “I made a mistake there. Sorry everyone.” If you are not willing to accept responsibility, your teammates won’t have any reason to do the same.
This is another piece of dealing with officials. If your teammates see you complaining about calls, it gives them an excuse to say the referee is the reason you are losing the game, rather than take responsibility for not playing well.
Remember that this is for your mistakes only. It is not the captain’s job to accept responsibility for teammates’ mistakes. If you are always trying to take the blame, your teammates won’t be able to take responsibility for their own errors.
2. Communicating with Teammates
2-1. Stay positive.
Don’t let your teammates believe they can’t win or be successful. Encourage your teammates after they make a mistake, let them know you believe things will go well.
This doesn’t have to be a big speech like you’re in a sports movie. Simple encouraging phrases like “Let’s go!” or “We can do this!” can be helpful letting the team know you believe you can play well and win.
This can be especially important if your teammate has been chewed out by the coach for a mistake. Piling on won’t help, so help pick him up. Let him know he can improve and that you believe he will do better the next time. A simple pat on the back and telling your teammate “It’ll be alright, you’ll get them next time” is a friendly reminder that you and the team supports him.
Body language matters. Don’t do things like shrug your shoulders or throw your arms up in the air if a teammate makes a mistake. Even without saying anything, these kinds of gestures communicate negative feelings and send a bad message to your teammates.
2-2. Talk to your teammates.
As a leader, you want your teammates to know that they can talk to you about the team, their performance, or how the season is going.
Encourage your teammates to talk to one another as well. Show them that it’s important to appreciate good effort, even with high-fives and a simple “Way to go!”
When facing a tough situation, like a player who doesn’t respond well to criticism or someone who is causing trouble, find ways to talk to them away from the rest of the team. Ask about his concerns and let him know how what he is doing hurts himself and the team. Remember to be firm and consistent, and remind him that actions that hurt the team can’t be tolerated.
Remember that, on the field, you are in charge. If you’ve decided how something should be done, communicate that quickly and confidently. Tell them “This is what we are doing,” and don't be afraid to explain your decisions. The more consistent you can be in explaining what you want to do will help your teammates trust and follow you.
The team probably won't like every decision you make. That is one of the tough parts of being a leader. If they know they can trust you, it will be easier to accept your choices, even if they disagree or it doesn’t work out.
Make sure you listen to your teammates’ suggestions for improvement as well. This lets them know that you value their opinion, and can take advice as well as give it. Besides, you know that your game can always improve.
2-3. Work with teammates.
As a leader, your job is not just to tell your teammates what to do, but help them get there. Be willing to offer advice before and during practice to help everyone improve performance.
You don’t want this to be too accusatory, saying things like “You’re doing it wrong.” Try to be more suggestive, saying things like “Why don’t you try this,” or “Just remember to do this one other thing when you make this move.”
This means talking to your fellow captains too. Lots of teams have more than one captain, so you need to be willing to work with your fellow captains to make sure you are all on the same page.
2-4. Set goals for your team.
As a team leader, you need to be willing to set goals for your team to achieve. Look for personal and team milestones that you all can accomplish together. Concrete objectives can be great for keeping everyone focused on the same thing.
Work with your coach to help create these goals. You want to make sure they are consistent with your coach’s vision for how the team should be run and the success you have.
3. Setting an Example Off the Field
3-1. Lead in practice.
As a team leader, you know that practice is just as important as the game. Just like in games, you need to be willing to work hard to show your teammates that it’s important. Compete in every drill or practice session, and force your teammates to work hard to beat you.
3-2. Treat your teammates with respect.
If you expect your teammates to follow your example, make sure you are the kind of person they want to follow. Stop rumors and gossip, and look for ways to encourage your teammates at all times.
You need to be familiar with all of your teammates, including the best ways to motivate them. Not everyone responds to motivation the same way, so you’ll need to know the best ways to motivate and encourage each of them individually.
Avoid team cliques. You are part of a team made up of players, not a team made up of teams. You won’t be able to make everyone friends, but you should be willing to break up groups that exclude other members.
If you have personal issues with a teammate, it is always better to discuss them in private. You want to avoid calling out teammates in public, which can cause embarrassment, and make the disagreements worse.
3-3. Take charge without your coach.
While the coach is in charge of the team, he can’t be everywhere at once, and will probably need your help. If you notice someone who needs help, offer it rather than waiting for the coach to notice. If it is time for practice to start, and your coach is doing something else, set up some stretching or a drill to make sure you are doing something productive.
If you notice problems developing in teammate’s habits or their level of play that the coach can’t solve, call a players-only meeting to help one another discuss issues without the coach looking over everyone. This can take some of the pressure off and make it more likely to be solved.
3-4. Build team spirit.
Your team will work better when you are happy together. Find ways to build team spirit and encourage your teammates to interact with one another away from practices and games.
Some good ways include holding a team dinner or party, making a team motto and even printing up shirts with it, or maybe creating a silly postgame tradition to recognize good performances. Even just briefly talking to your teammates when you run into them outside of practice or the game can help make them feel more like a part of the team.
Many teams will have more naturally outgoing players that like organizing social events and other morale-boosters. It is okay to let someone else be the unofficial (or official) “social coordinator” as long as you support them and make sure the whole team is included.
Not everyone on the team will be best friends, but doing social events together will help you all learn more about each other, and remind everyone of the importance of the team.
3-5. Do well away from the field.
As a captain, you are not only the team’s leader, but one of its representatives to the rest of the community. Acting appropriately looks good for your team, and sets a good example for your teammates as well.
If you play for a school team, this means doing well in your classes and staying out of trouble. In most high schools and colleges, you won’t be able to compete if your grades are poor, so make sure you and your teammates stay eligible. Set a good example for your teammates by getting the best grades you can, encouraging success on and off the field.
If you are a professional athlete, avoid getting into legal trouble. As a captain, you are one of the team’s most important public faces, and getting arrested or suspended is bad for your, and the team’s, image. It can also prevent you from playing, which doesn’t help your team at all.
Whatever level or organization you play at, be careful about material you post on social media accounts. Keep your comments positive, both to your teammates and your opponents.
Tips
A team captain should always be the first one to practice and the last one to leave.[18]
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Expert Source
Ryan TremblayBasketball Coach
Expert Interview. 13 November 2020.
A good captain will be passionate about the sport and about winning. You are involved in a competitive event and should be setting an example to others in doing what you need to do to make the team successful. Good captains demand success from themselves and their teammates.[19]
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Research source
Great captains aren’t born. Being a good leader, like any other aspect of your sport, will take time and practice. Don’t worry about making mistakes, just focus on doing your best, and you will improve.
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That way they will know and understand what you are doing, rather than you hoping they pick it up. It never hurts to remind them of the proper way to treat each other and their opponents.\\n1-3. Treat officials with respect.\\nIn many sports, captains are the only players allowed to talk to the referees. Don’t shout at the officials over calls you think they missed or got wrong. Remember that the referee is in charge on the field and that you can’t let their calls affect your play on the field.\\nDon’t be afraid to discuss calls with the referees. Just remember to do so respectfully. Asking why something was or was not a foul, and explaining why you thought otherwise, is much better than trying to argue that the referee was wrong. Ask “Why was that a foul?” and listen to the answer rather than more accusatory statements like “That’s a terrible call” or “You didn’t call that foul on the other team.”\\nIn some sports, the referees will share certain rules with the captains that players should be aware of. Make sure you share these rules with your teammates and coaches to make sure everyone has an idea of how the official plans to call the game.\\nIn most sports, abusing the officials is a good way to pick up a penalty, or get yourself thrown out of the game. Not only will you be setting a bad example, but you will also be directly hurting the team.\\n1-4. Take responsibility for your mistakes.\\nPart of leading by example is letting your teammates know it is important to own up to your errors. Don’t make excuses when things go wrong. If appropriate, apologize. Stand up and say, “I made a mistake there. Sorry everyone.” If you are not willing to accept responsibility, your teammates won’t have any reason to do the same.\\nThis is another piece of dealing with officials. If your teammates see you complaining about calls, it gives them an excuse to say the referee is the reason you are losing the game, rather than take responsibility for not playing well.\\nRemember that this is for your mistakes only. It is not the captain’s job to accept responsibility for teammates’ mistakes. If you are always trying to take the blame, your teammates won’t be able to take responsibility for their own errors.\\n2. Communicating with Teammates\\n2-1. Stay positive.\\nDon’t let your teammates believe they can’t win or be successful. Encourage your teammates after they make a mistake, let them know you believe things will go well.\\nThis doesn’t have to be a big speech like you’re in a sports movie. Simple encouraging phrases like “Let’s go!” or “We can do this!” can be helpful letting the team know you believe you can play well and win.\\nThis can be especially important if your teammate has been chewed out by the coach for a mistake. Piling on won’t help, so help pick him up. Let him know he can improve and that you believe he will do better the next time. A simple pat on the back and telling your teammate “It’ll be alright, you’ll get them next time” is a friendly reminder that you and the team supports him.\\nBody language matters. Don’t do things like shrug your shoulders or throw your arms up in the air if a teammate makes a mistake. Even without saying anything, these kinds of gestures communicate negative feelings and send a bad message to your teammates.\\n2-2. Talk to your teammates.\\nAs a leader, you want your teammates to know that they can talk to you about the team, their performance, or how the season is going.\\nEncourage your teammates to talk to one another as well. Show them that it’s important to appreciate good effort, even with high-fives and a simple “Way to go!”\\nWhen facing a tough situation, like a player who doesn’t respond well to criticism or someone who is causing trouble, find ways to talk to them away from the rest of the team. Ask about his concerns and let him know how what he is doing hurts himself and the team. Remember to be firm and consistent, and remind him that actions that hurt the team can’t be tolerated.\\nRemember that, on the field, you are in charge. If you’ve decided how something should be done, communicate that quickly and confidently. Tell them “This is what we are doing,” and don't be afraid to explain your decisions. The more consistent you can be in explaining what you want to do will help your teammates trust and follow you.\\nThe team probably won't like every decision you make. That is one of the tough parts of being a leader. If they know they can trust you, it will be easier to accept your choices, even if they disagree or it doesn’t work out.\\nMake sure you listen to your teammates’ suggestions for improvement as well. This lets them know that you value their opinion, and can take advice as well as give it. Besides, you know that your game can always improve.\\n2-3. Work with teammates.\\nAs a leader, your job is not just to tell your teammates what to do, but help them get there. Be willing to offer advice before and during practice to help everyone improve performance.\\nYou don’t want this to be too accusatory, saying things like “You’re doing it wrong.” Try to be more suggestive, saying things like “Why don’t you try this,” or “Just remember to do this one other thing when you make this move.”\\nThis means talking to your fellow captains too. Lots of teams have more than one captain, so you need to be willing to work with your fellow captains to make sure you are all on the same page.\\n2-4. Set goals for your team.\\nAs a team leader, you need to be willing to set goals for your team to achieve. Look for personal and team milestones that you all can accomplish together. Concrete objectives can be great for keeping everyone focused on the same thing.\\nWork with your coach to help create these goals. You want to make sure they are consistent with your coach’s vision for how the team should be run and the success you have.\\n3. Setting an Example Off the Field\\n3-1. Lead in practice.\\nAs a team leader, you know that practice is just as important as the game. Just like in games, you need to be willing to work hard to show your teammates that it’s important. Compete in every drill or practice session, and force your teammates to work hard to beat you.\\n3-2. Treat your teammates with respect.\\nIf you expect your teammates to follow your example, make sure you are the kind of person they want to follow. Stop rumors and gossip, and look for ways to encourage your teammates at all times.\\nYou need to be familiar with all of your teammates, including the best ways to motivate them. Not everyone responds to motivation the same way, so you’ll need to know the best ways to motivate and encourage each of them individually.\\nAvoid team cliques. You are part of a team made up of players, not a team made up of teams. You won’t be able to make everyone friends, but you should be willing to break up groups that exclude other members.\\nIf you have personal issues with a teammate, it is always better to discuss them in private. You want to avoid calling out teammates in public, which can cause embarrassment, and make the disagreements worse.\\n3-3. Take charge without your coach.\\nWhile the coach is in charge of the team, he can’t be everywhere at once, and will probably need your help. If you notice someone who needs help, offer it rather than waiting for the coach to notice. If it is time for practice to start, and your coach is doing something else, set up some stretching or a drill to make sure you are doing something productive.\\nIf you notice problems developing in teammate’s habits or their level of play that the coach can’t solve, call a players-only meeting to help one another discuss issues without the coach looking over everyone. This can take some of the pressure off and make it more likely to be solved.\\n3-4. Build team spirit.\\nYour team will work better when you are happy together. Find ways to build team spirit and encourage your teammates to interact with one another away from practices and games.\\nSome good ways include holding a team dinner or party, making a team motto and even printing up shirts with it, or maybe creating a silly postgame tradition to recognize good performances. Even just briefly talking to your teammates when you run into them outside of practice or the game can help make them feel more like a part of the team.\\nMany teams will have more naturally outgoing players that like organizing social events and other morale-boosters. It is okay to let someone else be the unofficial (or official) “social coordinator” as long as you support them and make sure the whole team is included.\\nNot everyone on the team will be best friends, but doing social events together will help you all learn more about each other, and remind everyone of the importance of the team.\\n3-5. Do well away from the field.\\nAs a captain, you are not only the team’s leader, but one of its representatives to the rest of the community. Acting appropriately looks good for your team, and sets a good example for your teammates as well.\\nIf you play for a school team, this means doing well in your classes and staying out of trouble. In most high schools and colleges, you won’t be able to compete if your grades are poor, so make sure you and your teammates stay eligible. Set a good example for your teammates by getting the best grades you can, encouraging success on and off the field.\\nIf you are a professional athlete, avoid getting into legal trouble. As a captain, you are one of the team’s most important public faces, and getting arrested or suspended is bad for your, and the team’s, image. It can also prevent you from playing, which doesn’t help your team at all.\\nWhatever level or organization you play at, be careful about material you post on social media accounts. Keep your comments positive, both to your teammates and your opponents.\\nTips\\nA team captain should always be the first one to practice and the last one to leave.[18]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nRyan TremblayBasketball Coach\\nExpert Interview. 13 November 2020.\\nA good captain will be passionate about the sport and about winning. You are involved in a competitive event and should be setting an example to others in doing what you need to do to make the team successful. Good captains demand success from themselves and their teammates.[19]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nGreat captains aren’t born. Being a good leader, like any other aspect of your sport, will take time and practice. Don’t worry about making mistakes, just focus on doing your best, and you will improve.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It's one thing to be a good team player, but it's another to be a good captain. Few will have the opportunity to take such an important leadership role. If you are fortunate enough to become a team captain, you will need to be a leader for your teammates both on and off the field.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Leading During the Game\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give a full effort all the time.\", \"描述\": \"The most important part of being a captain is leading by example. Because you are the captain, your teammates will look up to you and follow your lead whether you want them to or not. No matter the situation, your teammates need to see you working as hard as you can to win the game; you are also the primary person who will either be rewarded for credit or criticised for the team's performance.\\nSome ways to show your effort include not jogging when you should be running, and never giving up on a play. If you slack off or give less effort, that is a sign that they do not need to try as hard either.\\nThis is especially important if you are losing during a game. Don’t let the situation dictate your effort. Let your teammates know that you will always give your best effort, even if you don’t win the game. It can be hard to keep that energy up while losing, and your teammates will need your example to help.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Demonstrate good sportsmanship.\", \"描述\": \"On the field, you should treat your opponents with respect. After the game is over, be sure to shake their hands as well. No matter how contentious the game, congratulate them on a good contest. 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Remember that the referee is in charge on the field and that you can’t let their calls affect your play on the field.\\nDon’t be afraid to discuss calls with the referees. Just remember to do so respectfully. Asking why something was or was not a foul, and explaining why you thought otherwise, is much better than trying to argue that the referee was wrong. Ask “Why was that a foul?” and listen to the answer rather than more accusatory statements like “That’s a terrible call” or “You didn’t call that foul on the other team.”\\nIn some sports, the referees will share certain rules with the captains that players should be aware of. Make sure you share these rules with your teammates and coaches to make sure everyone has an idea of how the official plans to call the game.\\nIn most sports, abusing the officials is a good way to pick up a penalty, or get yourself thrown out of the game. 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A simple pat on the back and telling your teammate “It’ll be alright, you’ll get them next time” is a friendly reminder that you and the team supports him.\\nBody language matters. Don’t do things like shrug your shoulders or throw your arms up in the air if a teammate makes a mistake. Even without saying anything, these kinds of gestures communicate negative feelings and send a bad message to your teammates.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Talk to your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"As a leader, you want your teammates to know that they can talk to you about the team, their performance, or how the season is going.\\nEncourage your teammates to talk to one another as well. Show them that it’s important to appreciate good effort, even with high-fives and a simple “Way to go!”\\nWhen facing a tough situation, like a player who doesn’t respond well to criticism or someone who is causing trouble, find ways to talk to them away from the rest of the team. Ask about his concerns and let him know how what he is doing hurts himself and the team. Remember to be firm and consistent, and remind him that actions that hurt the team can’t be tolerated.\\nRemember that, on the field, you are in charge. If you’ve decided how something should be done, communicate that quickly and confidently. Tell them “This is what we are doing,” and don't be afraid to explain your decisions. The more consistent you can be in explaining what you want to do will help your teammates trust and follow you.\\nThe team probably won't like every decision you make. That is one of the tough parts of being a leader. If they know they can trust you, it will be easier to accept your choices, even if they disagree or it doesn’t work out.\\nMake sure you listen to your teammates’ suggestions for improvement as well. This lets them know that you value their opinion, and can take advice as well as give it. 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How to Be a Good Team Leader
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1. Ask questions to get to know your team.
Learn as much as you can about them and what they do.
Think about it. You can’t truly be a successful leader if you don’t know your team. Be a “learner” instead of a “knower” by admitting that you don’t have all of the answers and asking a ton of questions, especially if you’re new to your role as team leader. Be excited to learn about each person on your team and their individual roles and personalities.
For instance, as you pass someone on your team working on a project, you can ask them simple things like, “Hi! Can I ask about what you’re working on?” and after they explain the task or project, you can ask more personal questions like, “Do you enjoy doing these projects?” and “Do you have any ideas about how this could be done better?”
If your team feels like you genuinely care about them, they’ll be more likely to like and respect you as a leader.
2. Communicate your thoughts and plans to your team.
Be as transparent and open as you can with them.
Gone are the days of managers and bosses keeping a wall of privacy about what they’re thinking. It’s a much better practice to openly communicate with everyone on your team. Tell them what you’re thinking and what changes or new projects you’re considering. The more transparent you can be, the more your team will feel comfortable giving you their input and feedback, which can be really useful.
For example, if you’re thinking of starting a new project that would require additional work from your team, you could say something like, “I really think this project could improve our efficiency in general and could end up increasing our profitability. But I recognize that it would also mean more work.” You could then invite your team to give their thoughts and ideas.
3. Listen to the people on your team and avoid interrupting them.
Allow the folks on your team to feel comfortable talking to you.
Whenever someone on your team comes to you with a problem or even just to chat, maintain eye contact and listen to what they have to say. Be patient and avoid trying to interrupt them. Let your team feel like they can talk to you. Open communication can help make sure everyone is on the right page and problems are quickly addressed.
For instance, if a team member comes to you and starts to explain a mistake that they made, be patient and avoid cutting them off. Let them explain what happened before you figure out what to do next.
It doesn’t always have to be work-related, either. If you have someone on your team who just had a baby, for instance, let them tell you about it! You want your team to feel like they can trust you.
4. Care about your team’s professional and personal hardships.
Show them that they’re more than just employees to you.
People tend to work harder for leaders if they feel that they genuinely care about their well-being. Check in with the people on your team regularly to make sure they’re doing alright. If they’re having problems at work or at home, tell them they can come to you if they feel comfortable. Knowing you have their back can make your team respect and trust you more.
Don’t see the folks on your team as resources or tools for your own success. If you treat them with kindness and respect, they’ll respect you back.
5. Empathize with your team when they’re frustrated.
Show them you care and express your concern for them.
Stuff happens! It’s very likely that at some point in time there will be a problem or a mistake that makes either you or someone on your team angry or frustrated. That’s okay. The important thing is that you let your team know that you care about their well-being by being patient and kind. You can then work together to figure out how to address an issue.
For example, if someone’s computer keeps crashing and they’re losing all of their work, let them know that you understand how frustrating it can be and that you’ll work to have the problem fixed.
6. Direct praise to your team instead of yourself.
Give them the credit they deserve.
Remember that the people on your team are the real heroes. While it’s your role as team leader to keep them motivated and on track, they’re the ones doing the real work. So whenever someone praises you or your company, be sure to point to the people who made it all happen—your team! If your team feels appreciated, they’ll keep up their good work.
Taking credit for work that someone on your team did could really backfire and cause your team to lose respect for you.
7. Protect your team from criticism.
Don’t throw anybody on your team under the bus.
One of the biggest parts of being a team leader is being willing and able to take the heat whenever someone is upset or critical of your team or your company. Take responsibility for any mistakes or problems and shield your team from outside criticism. They’ll appreciate you for it and may work harder to help prevent future problems or mistakes.
8. Avoid criticizing or gossiping about other people.
It’s a sign of immaturity and poor leadership.
Mistakes happen and sometimes people can be unpleasant. But if you resort to gossip or judgment, your team will take notice. They may think that if you talk about other people that way, maybe you talk about them, too. In general, try to stay as positive in your role as team leader, and avoid negativity as much as you can.
For instance, never talk about someone on your team behind their back. It isn’t nice and it could cause others to lose respect for you.
9. Set clear goals and expectations for your team.
Tell your team exactly what you want them to accomplish.
Motivate and inspire your team by sharing your vision and the goals you hope to accomplish together with them. Help them understand the end goal that you’re all working toward so they feel like they’re really a valuable part of your team and they know exactly what they need to do. They’ll also be able to track their progress and identify whenever they successfully achieve something.
For instance, if you run a team of sales representatives, you could set a goal of $10,000 USD in sales by the end of the month. That way, everyone knows what they’re working toward and will feel motivated to help the team achieve that goal.
Your expectations can also include things like showing up to work on time, wearing appropriate work attire, and taking lunch breaks at set times.
10. Delegate work and avoid micromanaging.
Make sure everyone knows who is responsible for what.
One of the keys to being a successful team leader is being able to delegate work to the individuals on your team. Describe the job you want them to do in detail so they know exactly what needs to be done. Make sure they have everything they need to do the job and set checkpoints so they can update you on their progress without feeling like you’re breathing down their neck.
For instance, if you run a marketing team, you could assign graphics to one person, calls to clients to another person, and copywriting to another. You could then ask them to check in with you when they finish an assignment so you can review everything.
Delegating tasks also gives your team a little independence to get the job done without feeling like you’re micromanaging them.
11. Assign tasks based on people’s skills and ability.
Take advantage of the individual strengths of the people on your team.
A good leader doesn’t simply demand the people on their team to do jobs that they aren’t prepared to do. Whenever you’re spreading out the workload, try as best you can to give assignments and roles to people whose skills and strengths match with it. It’ll help your team perform better and they’ll appreciate that you respect and care about them.
For instance, if your company just landed a new big account that involves lots of data entry and phone calls to new clients, you could divvy out the data entry work to folks who enjoy or are better at using computers and the phone calls to people on your team who like talking to other people.
12. Give your team members the opportunity to learn and grow.
Empowering your team to take on new challenges can help motivate them.
With online tutorials, virtual courses, and in-person classes, there are likely a bunch of potential learning opportunities related to your team’s jobs. Show your employees that you believe in them by allowing them to take time to learn new skills or learn more about ones that they already have. If they ask about taking on more responsibility that you feel would be beneficial, let them go for it. The more you support your team, the more they’ll trust and support you.
For instance, if someone on your team wants to take a course to learn how to use a program like Adobe Photoshop or Microsoft Excel, and you think it could be a useful thing, allow them to do it.
If someone wants to start a fun project like a secret Santa or gift exchange, let them go for it!
13. Stay positive whenever there’s a problem.
Find 3 positive things about a problem before you address the issue.
It’s easy to immediately start thinking about all of the negative consequences of something that goes wrong. Take a moment to consider a few potential good things first. Then, identify some of the negative aspects of the problem. You may find that the more you look at the positives, the more people on your team will positively react and handle the problem.
For instance, if your company loses a big account because a client has decided to stop using your services, you could think about positive things such as the fact that now your team can focus more on your other clients, you can work to find a new (maybe even better) client, and you now have a chance to figure out what made them stop using your services so you can be better in the future.
14. Focus on finding solutions to problems.
It’s important to be flexible to be a successful leader.
Things are going to go wrong and mistakes are going to happen. It’s a part of life and a good team leader understands and anticipates it. Instead of getting upset or angry, stay optimistic and try to think outside of the box. Chances are there is a solution, you just need to be flexible and open-minded enough to find it.
For example, if you have a member of your staff who’s sick and can’t make it in for your shift, think about how you can solve the problem instead of getting stressed out. You may be able to find someone to come in for them or divide their work evenly among everyone else so no one is overloaded, for instance.
15. Be Assertive and understanding
Your teammates will respect you when you understand their point of view and be assertive with your ideas.
When problems come up inside the team, it's best to put your game face on and fix the solution. Being an assertive team leader is to stand up for yourself and other peoples ideas and points during working together. Not in a rude way, but calm, collective and passive style.
For example, if two staff members are arguing about something, it's best to be understanding about both of their points and make a responsible compromise about their argument. They will both end out happier and you will be assertive and solve the problem.
Tips
When in doubt, ask questions! If you don’t know or you’re unsure about something, asking questions is a simple and effective way to learn.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Ask questions to get to know your team.\\nLearn as much as you can about them and what they do.\\nThink about it. You can’t truly be a successful leader if you don’t know your team. Be a “learner” instead of a “knower” by admitting that you don’t have all of the answers and asking a ton of questions, especially if you’re new to your role as team leader. Be excited to learn about each person on your team and their individual roles and personalities.\\nFor instance, as you pass someone on your team working on a project, you can ask them simple things like, “Hi! Can I ask about what you’re working on?” and after they explain the task or project, you can ask more personal questions like, “Do you enjoy doing these projects?” and “Do you have any ideas about how this could be done better?”\\nIf your team feels like you genuinely care about them, they’ll be more likely to like and respect you as a leader.\\n2. Communicate your thoughts and plans to your team.\\nBe as transparent and open as you can with them.\\nGone are the days of managers and bosses keeping a wall of privacy about what they’re thinking. It’s a much better practice to openly communicate with everyone on your team. Tell them what you’re thinking and what changes or new projects you’re considering. The more transparent you can be, the more your team will feel comfortable giving you their input and feedback, which can be really useful.\\nFor example, if you’re thinking of starting a new project that would require additional work from your team, you could say something like, “I really think this project could improve our efficiency in general and could end up increasing our profitability. But I recognize that it would also mean more work.” You could then invite your team to give their thoughts and ideas.\\n3. Listen to the people on your team and avoid interrupting them.\\nAllow the folks on your team to feel comfortable talking to you.\\nWhenever someone on your team comes to you with a problem or even just to chat, maintain eye contact and listen to what they have to say. Be patient and avoid trying to interrupt them. Let your team feel like they can talk to you. Open communication can help make sure everyone is on the right page and problems are quickly addressed.\\nFor instance, if a team member comes to you and starts to explain a mistake that they made, be patient and avoid cutting them off. Let them explain what happened before you figure out what to do next.\\nIt doesn’t always have to be work-related, either. If you have someone on your team who just had a baby, for instance, let them tell you about it! You want your team to feel like they can trust you.\\n4. Care about your team’s professional and personal hardships.\\nShow them that they’re more than just employees to you.\\nPeople tend to work harder for leaders if they feel that they genuinely care about their well-being. Check in with the people on your team regularly to make sure they’re doing alright. If they’re having problems at work or at home, tell them they can come to you if they feel comfortable. Knowing you have their back can make your team respect and trust you more.\\nDon’t see the folks on your team as resources or tools for your own success. If you treat them with kindness and respect, they’ll respect you back.\\n5. Empathize with your team when they’re frustrated.\\nShow them you care and express your concern for them.\\nStuff happens! It’s very likely that at some point in time there will be a problem or a mistake that makes either you or someone on your team angry or frustrated. That’s okay. The important thing is that you let your team know that you care about their well-being by being patient and kind. You can then work together to figure out how to address an issue.\\nFor example, if someone’s computer keeps crashing and they’re losing all of their work, let them know that you understand how frustrating it can be and that you’ll work to have the problem fixed.\\n6. Direct praise to your team instead of yourself.\\nGive them the credit they deserve.\\nRemember that the people on your team are the real heroes. While it’s your role as team leader to keep them motivated and on track, they’re the ones doing the real work. So whenever someone praises you or your company, be sure to point to the people who made it all happen—your team! If your team feels appreciated, they’ll keep up their good work.\\nTaking credit for work that someone on your team did could really backfire and cause your team to lose respect for you.\\n7. Protect your team from criticism.\\nDon’t throw anybody on your team under the bus.\\nOne of the biggest parts of being a team leader is being willing and able to take the heat whenever someone is upset or critical of your team or your company. Take responsibility for any mistakes or problems and shield your team from outside criticism. They’ll appreciate you for it and may work harder to help prevent future problems or mistakes.\\n8. Avoid criticizing or gossiping about other people.\\nIt’s a sign of immaturity and poor leadership.\\nMistakes happen and sometimes people can be unpleasant. But if you resort to gossip or judgment, your team will take notice. They may think that if you talk about other people that way, maybe you talk about them, too. In general, try to stay as positive in your role as team leader, and avoid negativity as much as you can.\\nFor instance, never talk about someone on your team behind their back. It isn’t nice and it could cause others to lose respect for you.\\n9. Set clear goals and expectations for your team.\\nTell your team exactly what you want them to accomplish.\\nMotivate and inspire your team by sharing your vision and the goals you hope to accomplish together with them. Help them understand the end goal that you’re all working toward so they feel like they’re really a valuable part of your team and they know exactly what they need to do. They’ll also be able to track their progress and identify whenever they successfully achieve something.\\nFor instance, if you run a team of sales representatives, you could set a goal of $10,000 USD in sales by the end of the month. That way, everyone knows what they’re working toward and will feel motivated to help the team achieve that goal.\\nYour expectations can also include things like showing up to work on time, wearing appropriate work attire, and taking lunch breaks at set times.\\n10. Delegate work and avoid micromanaging.\\nMake sure everyone knows who is responsible for what.\\nOne of the keys to being a successful team leader is being able to delegate work to the individuals on your team. Describe the job you want them to do in detail so they know exactly what needs to be done. Make sure they have everything they need to do the job and set checkpoints so they can update you on their progress without feeling like you’re breathing down their neck.\\nFor instance, if you run a marketing team, you could assign graphics to one person, calls to clients to another person, and copywriting to another. You could then ask them to check in with you when they finish an assignment so you can review everything.\\nDelegating tasks also gives your team a little independence to get the job done without feeling like you’re micromanaging them.\\n11. Assign tasks based on people’s skills and ability.\\nTake advantage of the individual strengths of the people on your team.\\nA good leader doesn’t simply demand the people on their team to do jobs that they aren’t prepared to do. Whenever you’re spreading out the workload, try as best you can to give assignments and roles to people whose skills and strengths match with it. It’ll help your team perform better and they’ll appreciate that you respect and care about them.\\nFor instance, if your company just landed a new big account that involves lots of data entry and phone calls to new clients, you could divvy out the data entry work to folks who enjoy or are better at using computers and the phone calls to people on your team who like talking to other people.\\n12. Give your team members the opportunity to learn and grow.\\nEmpowering your team to take on new challenges can help motivate them.\\nWith online tutorials, virtual courses, and in-person classes, there are likely a bunch of potential learning opportunities related to your team’s jobs. Show your employees that you believe in them by allowing them to take time to learn new skills or learn more about ones that they already have. If they ask about taking on more responsibility that you feel would be beneficial, let them go for it. The more you support your team, the more they’ll trust and support you.\\nFor instance, if someone on your team wants to take a course to learn how to use a program like Adobe Photoshop or Microsoft Excel, and you think it could be a useful thing, allow them to do it.\\nIf someone wants to start a fun project like a secret Santa or gift exchange, let them go for it!\\n13. Stay positive whenever there’s a problem.\\nFind 3 positive things about a problem before you address the issue.\\nIt’s easy to immediately start thinking about all of the negative consequences of something that goes wrong. Take a moment to consider a few potential good things first. Then, identify some of the negative aspects of the problem. You may find that the more you look at the positives, the more people on your team will positively react and handle the problem.\\nFor instance, if your company loses a big account because a client has decided to stop using your services, you could think about positive things such as the fact that now your team can focus more on your other clients, you can work to find a new (maybe even better) client, and you now have a chance to figure out what made them stop using your services so you can be better in the future.\\n14. Focus on finding solutions to problems.\\nIt’s important to be flexible to be a successful leader.\\nThings are going to go wrong and mistakes are going to happen. It’s a part of life and a good team leader understands and anticipates it. Instead of getting upset or angry, stay optimistic and try to think outside of the box. Chances are there is a solution, you just need to be flexible and open-minded enough to find it.\\nFor example, if you have a member of your staff who’s sick and can’t make it in for your shift, think about how you can solve the problem instead of getting stressed out. You may be able to find someone to come in for them or divide their work evenly among everyone else so no one is overloaded, for instance.\\n15. Be Assertive and understanding\\nYour teammates will respect you when you understand their point of view and be assertive with your ideas.\\nWhen problems come up inside the team, it's best to put your game face on and fix the solution. Being an assertive team leader is to stand up for yourself and other peoples ideas and points during working together. Not in a rude way, but calm, collective and passive style.\\nFor example, if two staff members are arguing about something, it's best to be understanding about both of their points and make a responsible compromise about their argument. They will both end out happier and you will be assertive and solve the problem.\\nTips\\nWhen in doubt, ask questions! If you don’t know or you’re unsure about something, asking questions is a simple and effective way to learn.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"What does it mean to be a good team leader? Good leaders are motivating, decisive, and committed—but ultimately, people want leaders they can trust to have their backs. If you're looking to develop your own leadership qualities and get ahead in the professional world, we've put together a guide to help you. Read on for a handy list of strategies you can use to become an effective, successful, transformative leader for any team.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask questions to get to know your team.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn as much as you can about them and what they do.\", \"描述\": \"Think about it. You can’t truly be a successful leader if you don’t know your team. Be a “learner” instead of a “knower” by admitting that you don’t have all of the answers and asking a ton of questions, especially if you’re new to your role as team leader. Be excited to learn about each person on your team and their individual roles and personalities.\\nFor instance, as you pass someone on your team working on a project, you can ask them simple things like, “Hi! Can I ask about what you’re working on?” and after they explain the task or project, you can ask more personal questions like, “Do you enjoy doing these projects?” and “Do you have any ideas about how this could be done better?”\\nIf your team feels like you genuinely care about them, they’ll be more likely to like and respect you as a leader.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicate your thoughts and plans to your team.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be as transparent and open as you can with them.\", \"描述\": \"Gone are the days of managers and bosses keeping a wall of privacy about what they’re thinking. It’s a much better practice to openly communicate with everyone on your team. Tell them what you’re thinking and what changes or new projects you’re considering. The more transparent you can be, the more your team will feel comfortable giving you their input and feedback, which can be really useful.\\nFor example, if you’re thinking of starting a new project that would require additional work from your team, you could say something like, “I really think this project could improve our efficiency in general and could end up increasing our profitability. But I recognize that it would also mean more work.” You could then invite your team to give their thoughts and ideas.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to the people on your team and avoid interrupting them.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Allow the folks on your team to feel comfortable talking to you.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever someone on your team comes to you with a problem or even just to chat, maintain eye contact and listen to what they have to say. Be patient and avoid trying to interrupt them. Let your team feel like they can talk to you. Open communication can help make sure everyone is on the right page and problems are quickly addressed.\\nFor instance, if a team member comes to you and starts to explain a mistake that they made, be patient and avoid cutting them off. Let them explain what happened before you figure out what to do next.\\nIt doesn’t always have to be work-related, either. If you have someone on your team who just had a baby, for instance, let them tell you about it! You want your team to feel like they can trust you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Care about your team’s professional and personal hardships.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show them that they’re more than just employees to you.\", \"描述\": \"People tend to work harder for leaders if they feel that they genuinely care about their well-being. Check in with the people on your team regularly to make sure they’re doing alright. If they’re having problems at work or at home, tell them they can come to you if they feel comfortable. Knowing you have their back can make your team respect and trust you more.\\nDon’t see the folks on your team as resources or tools for your own success. If you treat them with kindness and respect, they’ll respect you back.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Empathize with your team when they’re frustrated.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show them you care and express your concern for them.\", \"描述\": \"Stuff happens! It’s very likely that at some point in time there will be a problem or a mistake that makes either you or someone on your team angry or frustrated. That’s okay. The important thing is that you let your team know that you care about their well-being by being patient and kind. You can then work together to figure out how to address an issue.\\nFor example, if someone’s computer keeps crashing and they’re losing all of their work, let them know that you understand how frustrating it can be and that you’ll work to have the problem fixed.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Direct praise to your team instead of yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give them the credit they deserve.\", \"描述\": \"Remember that the people on your team are the real heroes. While it’s your role as team leader to keep them motivated and on track, they’re the ones doing the real work. So whenever someone praises you or your company, be sure to point to the people who made it all happen—your team! If your team feels appreciated, they’ll keep up their good work.\\nTaking credit for work that someone on your team did could really backfire and cause your team to lose respect for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Protect your team from criticism.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t throw anybody on your team under the bus.\", \"描述\": \"One of the biggest parts of being a team leader is being willing and able to take the heat whenever someone is upset or critical of your team or your company. Take responsibility for any mistakes or problems and shield your team from outside criticism. They’ll appreciate you for it and may work harder to help prevent future problems or mistakes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Avoid criticizing or gossiping about other people.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’s a sign of immaturity and poor leadership.\", \"描述\": \"Mistakes happen and sometimes people can be unpleasant. But if you resort to gossip or judgment, your team will take notice. They may think that if you talk about other people that way, maybe you talk about them, too. In general, try to stay as positive in your role as team leader, and avoid negativity as much as you can.\\nFor instance, never talk about someone on your team behind their back. It isn’t nice and it could cause others to lose respect for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Set clear goals and expectations for your team.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tell your team exactly what you want them to accomplish.\", \"描述\": \"Motivate and inspire your team by sharing your vision and the goals you hope to accomplish together with them. Help them understand the end goal that you’re all working toward so they feel like they’re really a valuable part of your team and they know exactly what they need to do. They’ll also be able to track their progress and identify whenever they successfully achieve something.\\nFor instance, if you run a team of sales representatives, you could set a goal of $10,000 USD in sales by the end of the month. That way, everyone knows what they’re working toward and will feel motivated to help the team achieve that goal.\\nYour expectations can also include things like showing up to work on time, wearing appropriate work attire, and taking lunch breaks at set times.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Delegate work and avoid micromanaging.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make sure everyone knows who is responsible for what.\", \"描述\": \"One of the keys to being a successful team leader is being able to delegate work to the individuals on your team. Describe the job you want them to do in detail so they know exactly what needs to be done. Make sure they have everything they need to do the job and set checkpoints so they can update you on their progress without feeling like you’re breathing down their neck.\\nFor instance, if you run a marketing team, you could assign graphics to one person, calls to clients to another person, and copywriting to another. You could then ask them to check in with you when they finish an assignment so you can review everything.\\nDelegating tasks also gives your team a little independence to get the job done without feeling like you’re micromanaging them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Assign tasks based on people’s skills and ability.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take advantage of the individual strengths of the people on your team.\", \"描述\": \"A good leader doesn’t simply demand the people on their team to do jobs that they aren’t prepared to do. Whenever you’re spreading out the workload, try as best you can to give assignments and roles to people whose skills and strengths match with it. It’ll help your team perform better and they’ll appreciate that you respect and care about them.\\nFor instance, if your company just landed a new big account that involves lots of data entry and phone calls to new clients, you could divvy out the data entry work to folks who enjoy or are better at using computers and the phone calls to people on your team who like talking to other people.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Give your team members the opportunity to learn and grow.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Empowering your team to take on new challenges can help motivate them.\", \"描述\": \"With online tutorials, virtual courses, and in-person classes, there are likely a bunch of potential learning opportunities related to your team’s jobs. Show your employees that you believe in them by allowing them to take time to learn new skills or learn more about ones that they already have. If they ask about taking on more responsibility that you feel would be beneficial, let them go for it. The more you support your team, the more they’ll trust and support you.\\nFor instance, if someone on your team wants to take a course to learn how to use a program like Adobe Photoshop or Microsoft Excel, and you think it could be a useful thing, allow them to do it.\\nIf someone wants to start a fun project like a secret Santa or gift exchange, let them go for it!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Stay positive whenever there’s a problem.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find 3 positive things about a problem before you address the issue.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to immediately start thinking about all of the negative consequences of something that goes wrong. Take a moment to consider a few potential good things first. Then, identify some of the negative aspects of the problem. You may find that the more you look at the positives, the more people on your team will positively react and handle the problem.\\nFor instance, if your company loses a big account because a client has decided to stop using your services, you could think about positive things such as the fact that now your team can focus more on your other clients, you can work to find a new (maybe even better) client, and you now have a chance to figure out what made them stop using your services so you can be better in the future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Focus on finding solutions to problems.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’s important to be flexible to be a successful leader.\", \"描述\": \"Things are going to go wrong and mistakes are going to happen. It’s a part of life and a good team leader understands and anticipates it. Instead of getting upset or angry, stay optimistic and try to think outside of the box. 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Not in a rude way, but calm, collective and passive style.\\nFor example, if two staff members are arguing about something, it's best to be understanding about both of their points and make a responsible compromise about their argument. They will both end out happier and you will be assertive and solve the problem.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"When in doubt, ask questions! If you don’t know or you’re unsure about something, asking questions is a simple and effective way to learn.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Respecting Others and Yourself
1-1. Be respectful to your parents and their rules.
As a teenager, it can sometimes seem as if your parents’ rules are strict and unnecessary. To be a good daughter, however, it is essential to respect your parents. Follow even the rules you don’t agree with, and don’t complain about them. Rather, talk with your parents if you want them to consider changing those rules. Ask calmly for more privileges and don’t yell at your parents. Yelling will sound disrespectful, and you will appear immature.
Ask your parents if you can periodically revisit rules on curfew, nights out, or driving privileges.
Say things like, “I understand you worry about me when I’m out, but I’d really like your permission to stay out until midnight sometimes,” or “I’ve really been working hard on my grades lately, is it okay if I go out an extra night this weekend to see my friends?”
Avoid the argument that your friends get to do certain things that you don’t get to do. Instead, focus on how responsible you have demonstrated you can be and identify potential ways you can earn privileges.
1-2. Fulfill your household chores and duties.
A family is a system that relies on each member performing their responsibilities to help things run smoothly. If you are in charge of cleaning the bathrooms or starting dinner on weeknights, be sure to keep on top of these. Your parents will appreciate the help, and your responsibility will be apparent to them.
Offer to help out even more when your parents are busy.
Perform your chores happily, without complaint. If you anticipate a reason why you cannot do this, try your best to talk to your parents about it ahead of time so alternative arrangements can be made.
1-3. Understand and act on your own values.
This will help you avoid peer pressure and the problem behavior that may come with it. If you feel pressured, talk with your parent or another trusted adult.
Choose friends with similar values and perspectives to your own. Take time to formulate a list of what makes a friend a good influence, and see if your friends meet enough of these criteria. If you prioritize your involvement in school clubs and sports, hang out with friends from these groups.
Practice speaking up for yourself on relatively minor matters, like choices in restaurants or clothing stores. If you can confidently disagree with friends regarding your opinions on these somewhat unimportant topics, you will set yourself up for speaking your mind on larger topics.
When avoiding peer pressure, don’t make excuses. Rather, say things like, “I don’t want to lose control of how I act, that’s why I don’t want to drink,” or “I want to take care of myself and be healthy, so I choose not to smoke.”
2. Strengthening Your Relationship with Your Family
2-1. Spend time with your parents.
In a few short years, you’ll be off to college or have a career. Take advantage of the time you have now to have fun with your parents and build some good memories together. If you hate the things your parents like to do, be proactive and suggest plans yourself so that they are more in line with your interests. Additionally, you can benefit from this extra time you spend together. Teens who spend more time with their parents have higher self-esteem.
See if there are movies or shows that you can enjoy together.
If you and your parents are “foodies,” try to dine out together a few times a month and try new restaurants.
2-2. Introduce your friends to your parents.
You are probably spending more time with your friends than your parents at this point in your life, and it shows great respect to your parents by letting them know your friends. They will feel secure knowing the character of the people you choose to have around you, and it may make it easier to ask for extra privileges if your parents are fond of your friends.
Talk to your parents about your friendships and conflicts or difficulties you may be having. This will help them trust you more, and you can also gain valuable wisdom.
Ask if your friends can come over after school or for dinner.
If your parents attend a school function, make an effort to bring them over to meet a few of your friends.
2-3. Keep the lines of communication open with your parents.
It may seem like your parents don’t listen to you or your feelings, but you can help fix this by making an effort to really communicate with them. If you can, schedule a regular “chat time” to talk with them about your day or what is going on in your life. Also ask about them! Take an interest in their lives as well. Regular communication is one of the best ways for you to develop a good relationship with your parents.
Start simply, by saying something like, “Today was great. I presented my project to the biology class, and I finished all of my homework in study hall.” Sharing parts of your day like this will help you easily start a conversation and can lead to further discussion.
You could also talk with your parents about challenges you are facing: “My friend started to take her brother’s ADHD medicine, and I don’t know what to do to help her.” Your parents will be happy you confided in them, and they will be able to offer valuable advice on how to face these types of issues.
2-4. Be a good sibling.
Don’t forget about the relationships you share with your brothers and sisters when thinking about being a good teenage daughter. If you are one of the older children in your family, you can model good behavior to the younger ones. They will invariably look up to you, so if you treat your parents well, they will be more likely to also. Your parents will be grateful for you offering a good example to your younger siblings.
See if you can handle disputes between you and your siblings amongst yourselves, if appropriate. Then you can talk to your parents about how this went.
You can also be a good sibling by spending time with them, helping them with their homework, and attending their sports or dance activities.
Offer to watch your siblings so your parents can have some time together.
If you are the youngest in your family, try to keep in contact with siblings who may be away at college or living in another city for a job. You can learn from their experiences and figure out good ways to interact with your parents.
3. Developing Your Skills and Intellect
3-1. Get a part-time job.
You may feel busy with school and extra-curricular activities, but a part-time job can offer more than just a few extra dollars in your pocket. You will be able to develop your teamwork and time management skills, and you will learn about how to be a good employee.
Offer to use some of your new earnings to help pay for back-to-school clothes or part of your car insurance.
You can look around your neighborhood for opportunities at restaurants or bakeries. Hair salons or doctor’s offices may need part-time office help on the weekend or during summers.
3-2. Exercise regularly.
Consistent exercise, whether alone or through a team sport, leads to higher self image and greater self-esteem for teenagers. Exercise can be a great stress reliever and can also lead to increased confidence. Your parents will be happy to see you take an initiative to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
Use exercise as an opportunity to bond with your parents. Suggest taking regular walks or bike rides together.
3-3. Concentrate on school.
The goal of every parent is to raise a child into a successful adult who can take care of herself. By doing well in school and learning all that you can, you will prepare yourself for a strong future in college or in a career.
Challenge yourself by signing up for advanced classes.
Complete all work on time and ask your parents to quiz you for exams.
Ask for help if you need it—sooner rather than later!
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Yelling will sound disrespectful, and you will appear immature.\\nAsk your parents if you can periodically revisit rules on curfew, nights out, or driving privileges.\\nSay things like, “I understand you worry about me when I’m out, but I’d really like your permission to stay out until midnight sometimes,” or “I’ve really been working hard on my grades lately, is it okay if I go out an extra night this weekend to see my friends?”\\nAvoid the argument that your friends get to do certain things that you don’t get to do. Instead, focus on how responsible you have demonstrated you can be and identify potential ways you can earn privileges.\\n1-2. Fulfill your household chores and duties.\\nA family is a system that relies on each member performing their responsibilities to help things run smoothly. If you are in charge of cleaning the bathrooms or starting dinner on weeknights, be sure to keep on top of these. Your parents will appreciate the help, and your responsibility will be apparent to them.\\nOffer to help out even more when your parents are busy.\\nPerform your chores happily, without complaint. If you anticipate a reason why you cannot do this, try your best to talk to your parents about it ahead of time so alternative arrangements can be made.\\n1-3. Understand and act on your own values.\\nThis will help you avoid peer pressure and the problem behavior that may come with it. If you feel pressured, talk with your parent or another trusted adult.\\nChoose friends with similar values and perspectives to your own. Take time to formulate a list of what makes a friend a good influence, and see if your friends meet enough of these criteria. If you prioritize your involvement in school clubs and sports, hang out with friends from these groups.\\nPractice speaking up for yourself on relatively minor matters, like choices in restaurants or clothing stores. If you can confidently disagree with friends regarding your opinions on these somewhat unimportant topics, you will set yourself up for speaking your mind on larger topics.\\nWhen avoiding peer pressure, don’t make excuses. Rather, say things like, “I don’t want to lose control of how I act, that’s why I don’t want to drink,” or “I want to take care of myself and be healthy, so I choose not to smoke.”\\n2. Strengthening Your Relationship with Your Family\\n2-1. Spend time with your parents.\\nIn a few short years, you’ll be off to college or have a career. Take advantage of the time you have now to have fun with your parents and build some good memories together. If you hate the things your parents like to do, be proactive and suggest plans yourself so that they are more in line with your interests. Additionally, you can benefit from this extra time you spend together. Teens who spend more time with their parents have higher self-esteem.\\nSee if there are movies or shows that you can enjoy together.\\nIf you and your parents are “foodies,” try to dine out together a few times a month and try new restaurants.\\n2-2. Introduce your friends to your parents.\\nYou are probably spending more time with your friends than your parents at this point in your life, and it shows great respect to your parents by letting them know your friends. They will feel secure knowing the character of the people you choose to have around you, and it may make it easier to ask for extra privileges if your parents are fond of your friends.\\nTalk to your parents about your friendships and conflicts or difficulties you may be having. This will help them trust you more, and you can also gain valuable wisdom.\\nAsk if your friends can come over after school or for dinner.\\nIf your parents attend a school function, make an effort to bring them over to meet a few of your friends.\\n2-3. Keep the lines of communication open with your parents.\\nIt may seem like your parents don’t listen to you or your feelings, but you can help fix this by making an effort to really communicate with them. If you can, schedule a regular “chat time” to talk with them about your day or what is going on in your life. Also ask about them! Take an interest in their lives as well. Regular communication is one of the best ways for you to develop a good relationship with your parents.\\nStart simply, by saying something like, “Today was great. I presented my project to the biology class, and I finished all of my homework in study hall.” Sharing parts of your day like this will help you easily start a conversation and can lead to further discussion.\\nYou could also talk with your parents about challenges you are facing: “My friend started to take her brother’s ADHD medicine, and I don’t know what to do to help her.” Your parents will be happy you confided in them, and they will be able to offer valuable advice on how to face these types of issues.\\n2-4. Be a good sibling.\\nDon’t forget about the relationships you share with your brothers and sisters when thinking about being a good teenage daughter. If you are one of the older children in your family, you can model good behavior to the younger ones. They will invariably look up to you, so if you treat your parents well, they will be more likely to also. Your parents will be grateful for you offering a good example to your younger siblings.\\nSee if you can handle disputes between you and your siblings amongst yourselves, if appropriate. Then you can talk to your parents about how this went.\\nYou can also be a good sibling by spending time with them, helping them with their homework, and attending their sports or dance activities.\\nOffer to watch your siblings so your parents can have some time together.\\nIf you are the youngest in your family, try to keep in contact with siblings who may be away at college or living in another city for a job. You can learn from their experiences and figure out good ways to interact with your parents.\\n3. Developing Your Skills and Intellect\\n3-1. Get a part-time job.\\nYou may feel busy with school and extra-curricular activities, but a part-time job can offer more than just a few extra dollars in your pocket. You will be able to develop your teamwork and time management skills, and you will learn about how to be a good employee.\\nOffer to use some of your new earnings to help pay for back-to-school clothes or part of your car insurance.\\nYou can look around your neighborhood for opportunities at restaurants or bakeries. Hair salons or doctor’s offices may need part-time office help on the weekend or during summers.\\n3-2. Exercise regularly.\\nConsistent exercise, whether alone or through a team sport, leads to higher self image and greater self-esteem for teenagers. Exercise can be a great stress reliever and can also lead to increased confidence. Your parents will be happy to see you take an initiative to maintain a healthy lifestyle.\\nUse exercise as an opportunity to bond with your parents. Suggest taking regular walks or bike rides together.\\n3-3. Concentrate on school.\\nThe goal of every parent is to raise a child into a successful adult who can take care of herself. By doing well in school and learning all that you can, you will prepare yourself for a strong future in college or in a career.\\nChallenge yourself by signing up for advanced classes.\\nComplete all work on time and ask your parents to quiz you for exams.\\nAsk for help if you need it—sooner rather than later!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a teenage girl can be tough. You’re dealing with complex physical and psychological changes, as well as the stresses of school, sports, and relationships. It may seem crazy to add another job to your list, but being a good daughter is important for many reasons. By focusing on your relationship with your parents, you will gain valuable skills in respect, responsibility, and empathy. Additionally, you will set yourself up for a great relationship with them as you face more challenges in the years ahead.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Respecting Others and Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be respectful to your parents and their rules.\", \"描述\": \"As a teenager, it can sometimes seem as if your parents’ rules are strict and unnecessary. To be a good daughter, however, it is essential to respect your parents. Follow even the rules you don’t agree with, and don’t complain about them. Rather, talk with your parents if you want them to consider changing those rules. Ask calmly for more privileges and don’t yell at your parents. Yelling will sound disrespectful, and you will appear immature.\\nAsk your parents if you can periodically revisit rules on curfew, nights out, or driving privileges.\\nSay things like, “I understand you worry about me when I’m out, but I’d really like your permission to stay out until midnight sometimes,” or “I’ve really been working hard on my grades lately, is it okay if I go out an extra night this weekend to see my friends?”\\nAvoid the argument that your friends get to do certain things that you don’t get to do. Instead, focus on how responsible you have demonstrated you can be and identify potential ways you can earn privileges.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fulfill your household chores and duties.\", \"描述\": \"A family is a system that relies on each member performing their responsibilities to help things run smoothly. If you are in charge of cleaning the bathrooms or starting dinner on weeknights, be sure to keep on top of these. Your parents will appreciate the help, and your responsibility will be apparent to them.\\nOffer to help out even more when your parents are busy.\\nPerform your chores happily, without complaint. If you anticipate a reason why you cannot do this, try your best to talk to your parents about it ahead of time so alternative arrangements can be made.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand and act on your own values.\", \"描述\": \"This will help you avoid peer pressure and the problem behavior that may come with it. If you feel pressured, talk with your parent or another trusted adult.\\nChoose friends with similar values and perspectives to your own. Take time to formulate a list of what makes a friend a good influence, and see if your friends meet enough of these criteria. If you prioritize your involvement in school clubs and sports, hang out with friends from these groups.\\nPractice speaking up for yourself on relatively minor matters, like choices in restaurants or clothing stores. If you can confidently disagree with friends regarding your opinions on these somewhat unimportant topics, you will set yourself up for speaking your mind on larger topics.\\nWhen avoiding peer pressure, don’t make excuses. Rather, say things like, “I don’t want to lose control of how I act, that’s why I don’t want to drink,” or “I want to take care of myself and be healthy, so I choose not to smoke.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Strengthening Your Relationship with Your Family\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spend time with your parents.\", \"描述\": \"In a few short years, you’ll be off to college or have a career. Take advantage of the time you have now to have fun with your parents and build some good memories together. If you hate the things your parents like to do, be proactive and suggest plans yourself so that they are more in line with your interests. Additionally, you can benefit from this extra time you spend together. 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How to Be a Good Texter
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1. Using Your Phone Efficiently
1-1. Know your phone.
Mobile phones and tablets have become extremely powerful and convenient but can be tricky to master. Phones sometimes offer different ways of texting. Make sure to read the manual and allow yourself a few hours to explore all the options. Once you're comfortable with one, train your fingers to type or swipe quicker and think about the position of your hand.
Using a mobile phone can trigger several joint problems. Use yours wisely.
1-2. Organise your contacts.
It is important to keep your contacts organised on your phone if you want to find your interlocutors as quickly as possible. Use their full first and last names and try to avoid nicknames.
If you have several contacts, use directories and lists. Separating your friends, your family and your colleagues is the best way to be fast and avoid mistakes.
1-3. Customize your phone.
Depending on your phone, the SMS tool might be too basic or totally unreliable. It might be worth installing a new application to make texting far more efficient and user-friendly.
There are many applications available online. Try to look for one with a predictive text system to gain time.
Applications don't always support all languages. If you don't use English, check carefully that your language is included.
Some applications use speech recognition to text. This can be useful if you have to text and drive.
2. Writing Good Texts
2-1. Make it short.
A good text should always be concise. If you cannot convey your message in less than 200 characters, you should probably write an email or call your contact instead.
2-2. Avoid errors in grammar, punctuation and style.
A text is sometimes the first point of contact with a potential employer or someone you like. The best way to make a good first impression is to make sure that your text is mistake-free.
Most modern phones and tablets have automatic spelling checkers and dictionaries. They are not always perfect but can still detect most mistakes.
If you are unsure about the quality of your text, keep it short and simple.
If your phone can access the internet, quickly check a grammatical rule online.
Avoid abbreviations as much as you can. They might be useful to save words but will inevitably diminish the overall impact of your text.
2-3. Be precise and as clear as you can.
Before you start writing, think of what your interlocutor will need to know. Think of what you want to say and make it easy for the reader to answer you. If you're asked a question, offer a clear answer and make sure to use only one text.
Try to anticipate a question. If you are asked where to meet, give a precise location and the time of the rendezvous.
Make sure that your interlocutor knows who you are. Not everybody has your phone number saved. If you text someone you barely know, identify yourself at the beginning of the message.
2-4. Use emoticons with care.
Smileys and other emoticons are great to encapsulate your mood quickly or make a conversation more dynamic but they should be used properly. Although there are exceptions, moderation is generally advised when using emoticons. Your interlocutor will probably prefer reading your writing than looking at a generic yellow man.
If you have any doubt, use emoticons only with family, friends and partner. You might want to avoid emoticons with your boss, colleagues or people you know less.
3. Managing Your Time And Messages
3-1. Use time slots to write low-priority texts.
Texting is usually fast but answering your phone constantly can disrupt your work or distract you during an activity. It is far more efficient to plan your day in advance and answer your low-priority messages at a predetermined time.
If you commute to work, make the most of it! Take this opportunity to answer your contacts. Use a coffee or a lunch break to follow-up.
Don't text on the toilet. Half of the 18-29 years old do so but it's unhygienic and risky for your phone.
Avoid using your phone in the bed before sleeping. Research shows that using smartphones and tablets is detrimental for your sleep.
3-2. Read twice urgent messages.
High-priority texts are usually written for professional or romantic reasons. Make sure to read your text twice before sending them as you will want to avoid any mistake or confusion. Also make sure to send your high-priority texts to the right interlocutor to avoid embarrassment.
3-3. Save your messages on your computer.
You might want to keep your texts for various reasons. They might contain important information or remind you of a pleasant moment. Most phones allow you to back up your texts on a hard drive or on a USB key. Several applications can also do the same job.
4. Keeping In Mind The Etiquette Of Texting
4-1. Don't text while driving or walking.
Texting requires your full attention and it is important to keep focused on your initial task. Each day, nine people die in the United States as a result of distracted drivers. Even more people are injured when texting while walking.
Use a speech recognition text application if you drive a lot. It will keep you safe.
4-2. Don't forget the persons around you.
Paying more attention to your smartphone than to the people in the same round is both sad and incredibly rude. Warn your friends or family if you have to text and do so when you aren't in the middle of a conversation.
4-3. Don't use a text to announce important news.
There are times in life when calling is better than texting. If you just had a baby or if a member of your family passed away, make sure to call your relatives. Talking is far more personal and effective in extraordinary times.
4-4. Always stay on the side of the law.
Texting is usually fun and rewarding but it can also lead to severe cases of abuse. Remember that your interlocutor deserves to be treated with respect. In several countries, the law has changed to punish text stalkers and cases of harassment by mobile phone.
If a text conversation becomes heated, put the phone down and go for a walk. It's sometimes better to let things cool down.
A text can be used as evidence in a courtroom.
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Customize your phone.\\nDepending on your phone, the SMS tool might be too basic or totally unreliable. It might be worth installing a new application to make texting far more efficient and user-friendly. \\nThere are many applications available online. Try to look for one with a predictive text system to gain time.\\nApplications don't always support all languages. If you don't use English, check carefully that your language is included.\\nSome applications use speech recognition to text. This can be useful if you have to text and drive.\\n2. Writing Good Texts\\n2-1. Make it short.\\nA good text should always be concise. If you cannot convey your message in less than 200 characters, you should probably write an email or call your contact instead.\\n2-2. Avoid errors in grammar, punctuation and style.\\nA text is sometimes the first point of contact with a potential employer or someone you like. The best way to make a good first impression is to make sure that your text is mistake-free.\\nMost modern phones and tablets have automatic spelling checkers and dictionaries. They are not always perfect but can still detect most mistakes.\\nIf you are unsure about the quality of your text, keep it short and simple.\\nIf your phone can access the internet, quickly check a grammatical rule online.\\nAvoid abbreviations as much as you can. They might be useful to save words but will inevitably diminish the overall impact of your text.\\n2-3. Be precise and as clear as you can.\\nBefore you start writing, think of what your interlocutor will need to know. Think of what you want to say and make it easy for the reader to answer you. If you're asked a question, offer a clear answer and make sure to use only one text.\\nTry to anticipate a question. If you are asked where to meet, give a precise location and the time of the rendezvous.\\nMake sure that your interlocutor knows who you are. Not everybody has your phone number saved. If you text someone you barely know, identify yourself at the beginning of the message.\\n2-4. Use emoticons with care.\\nSmileys and other emoticons are great to encapsulate your mood quickly or make a conversation more dynamic but they should be used properly. Although there are exceptions, moderation is generally advised when using emoticons. Your interlocutor will probably prefer reading your writing than looking at a generic yellow man.\\nIf you have any doubt, use emoticons only with family, friends and partner. You might want to avoid emoticons with your boss, colleagues or people you know less.\\n3. Managing Your Time And Messages\\n3-1. Use time slots to write low-priority texts.\\nTexting is usually fast but answering your phone constantly can disrupt your work or distract you during an activity. It is far more efficient to plan your day in advance and answer your low-priority messages at a predetermined time.\\nIf you commute to work, make the most of it! Take this opportunity to answer your contacts. Use a coffee or a lunch break to follow-up.\\nDon't text on the toilet. Half of the 18-29 years old do so but it's unhygienic and risky for your phone.\\nAvoid using your phone in the bed before sleeping. Research shows that using smartphones and tablets is detrimental for your sleep.\\n3-2. Read twice urgent messages.\\nHigh-priority texts are usually written for professional or romantic reasons. Make sure to read your text twice before sending them as you will want to avoid any mistake or confusion. Also make sure to send your high-priority texts to the right interlocutor to avoid embarrassment.\\n3-3. Save your messages on your computer.\\nYou might want to keep your texts for various reasons. They might contain important information or remind you of a pleasant moment. Most phones allow you to back up your texts on a hard drive or on a USB key. Several applications can also do the same job.\\n4. Keeping In Mind The Etiquette Of Texting\\n4-1. Don't text while driving or walking.\\nTexting requires your full attention and it is important to keep focused on your initial task. Each day, nine people die in the United States as a result of distracted drivers. Even more people are injured when texting while walking. \\nUse a speech recognition text application if you drive a lot. It will keep you safe.\\n4-2. Don't forget the persons around you.\\nPaying more attention to your smartphone than to the people in the same round is both sad and incredibly rude. Warn your friends or family if you have to text and do so when you aren't in the middle of a conversation.\\n4-3. Don't use a text to announce important news.\\nThere are times in life when calling is better than texting. If you just had a baby or if a member of your family passed away, make sure to call your relatives. Talking is far more personal and effective in extraordinary times.\\n4-4. Always stay on the side of the law.\\nTexting is usually fun and rewarding but it can also lead to severe cases of abuse. Remember that your interlocutor deserves to be treated with respect. In several countries, the law has changed to punish text stalkers and cases of harassment by mobile phone. \\nIf a text conversation becomes heated, put the phone down and go for a walk. It's sometimes better to let things cool down.\\nA text can be used as evidence in a courtroom.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Texting has become an integral part of our lives. More than four billions people around the world enjoy sending SMS, but many of us never think about ways to optimize this important activity. A few simple steps will allow you to master this efficient form of communication.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using Your Phone Efficiently\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know your phone.\", \"描述\": \"Mobile phones and tablets have become extremely powerful and convenient but can be tricky to master. Phones sometimes offer different ways of texting. Make sure to read the manual and allow yourself a few hours to explore all the options. Once you're comfortable with one, train your fingers to type or swipe quicker and think about the position of your hand.\\nUsing a mobile phone can trigger several joint problems. Use yours wisely.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Organise your contacts.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to keep your contacts organised on your phone if you want to find your interlocutors as quickly as possible. Use their full first and last names and try to avoid nicknames.\\nIf you have several contacts, use directories and lists. Separating your friends, your family and your colleagues is the best way to be fast and avoid mistakes.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Customize your phone.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on your phone, the SMS tool might be too basic or totally unreliable. It might be worth installing a new application to make texting far more efficient and user-friendly. \\nThere are many applications available online. Try to look for one with a predictive text system to gain time.\\nApplications don't always support all languages. If you don't use English, check carefully that your language is included.\\nSome applications use speech recognition to text. This can be useful if you have to text and drive.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Writing Good Texts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make it short.\", \"描述\": \"A good text should always be concise. If you cannot convey your message in less than 200 characters, you should probably write an email or call your contact instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid errors in grammar, punctuation and style.\", \"描述\": \"A text is sometimes the first point of contact with a potential employer or someone you like. The best way to make a good first impression is to make sure that your text is mistake-free.\\nMost modern phones and tablets have automatic spelling checkers and dictionaries. They are not always perfect but can still detect most mistakes.\\nIf you are unsure about the quality of your text, keep it short and simple.\\nIf your phone can access the internet, quickly check a grammatical rule online.\\nAvoid abbreviations as much as you can. They might be useful to save words but will inevitably diminish the overall impact of your text.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be precise and as clear as you can.\", \"描述\": \"Before you start writing, think of what your interlocutor will need to know. Think of what you want to say and make it easy for the reader to answer you. If you're asked a question, offer a clear answer and make sure to use only one text.\\nTry to anticipate a question. If you are asked where to meet, give a precise location and the time of the rendezvous.\\nMake sure that your interlocutor knows who you are. Not everybody has your phone number saved. If you text someone you barely know, identify yourself at the beginning of the message.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use emoticons with care.\", \"描述\": \"Smileys and other emoticons are great to encapsulate your mood quickly or make a conversation more dynamic but they should be used properly. Although there are exceptions, moderation is generally advised when using emoticons. Your interlocutor will probably prefer reading your writing than looking at a generic yellow man.\\nIf you have any doubt, use emoticons only with family, friends and partner. You might want to avoid emoticons with your boss, colleagues or people you know less.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Managing Your Time And Messages\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use time slots to write low-priority texts.\", \"描述\": \"Texting is usually fast but answering your phone constantly can disrupt your work or distract you during an activity. It is far more efficient to plan your day in advance and answer your low-priority messages at a predetermined time.\\nIf you commute to work, make the most of it! Take this opportunity to answer your contacts. Use a coffee or a lunch break to follow-up.\\nDon't text on the toilet. Half of the 18-29 years old do so but it's unhygienic and risky for your phone.\\nAvoid using your phone in the bed before sleeping. Research shows that using smartphones and tablets is detrimental for your sleep.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read twice urgent messages.\", \"描述\": \"High-priority texts are usually written for professional or romantic reasons. Make sure to read your text twice before sending them as you will want to avoid any mistake or confusion. Also make sure to send your high-priority texts to the right interlocutor to avoid embarrassment.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Save your messages on your computer.\", \"描述\": \"You might want to keep your texts for various reasons. They might contain important information or remind you of a pleasant moment. Most phones allow you to back up your texts on a hard drive or on a USB key. Several applications can also do the same job.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keeping In Mind The Etiquette Of Texting\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't text while driving or walking.\", \"描述\": \"Texting requires your full attention and it is important to keep focused on your initial task. Each day, nine people die in the United States as a result of distracted drivers. Even more people are injured when texting while walking. \\nUse a speech recognition text application if you drive a lot. It will keep you safe.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't forget the persons around you.\", \"描述\": \"Paying more attention to your smartphone than to the people in the same round is both sad and incredibly rude. Warn your friends or family if you have to text and do so when you aren't in the middle of a conversation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't use a text to announce important news.\", \"描述\": \"There are times in life when calling is better than texting. If you just had a baby or if a member of your family passed away, make sure to call your relatives. Talking is far more personal and effective in extraordinary times.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Always stay on the side of the law.\", \"描述\": \"Texting is usually fun and rewarding but it can also lead to severe cases of abuse. Remember that your interlocutor deserves to be treated with respect. In several countries, the law has changed to punish text stalkers and cases of harassment by mobile phone. \\nIf a text conversation becomes heated, put the phone down and go for a walk. It's sometimes better to let things cool down.\\nA text can be used as evidence in a courtroom.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Evaluating a Student’s Needs
1-1. Pay attention to what they already know.
When first getting to know your students, you need to gauge what they already know, so you don't waste time in your sessions. Ask the student what they're good at and what they most enjoy about the subject you're working on. Let him or her speak open-endedly about the subject and show off for you. It will make the student feel smart and validated while letting you figure out what material they've already mastered.
1-2. Ask where they’re having trouble.
Students are often quite aware of their weaknesses. They know what types of questions they consistently miss on quizzes, or what parts of class lectures make no sense to them. Let the student explain where they get lost, and make a list of those areas for your own reference.
1-3. Work together to set up goals.
Create a mix of major and minor goals that can be achieved in a reasonable amount of time. For example, a student may not be able to bring up a math grade within a month, but three months would be a good goal for grade improvement. Minor goals should be set for the short term: the student will write a 150-word summary of a major source for an upcoming research paper by the end of the session.
Write down the goals on a sheet of paper and have the student keep track of it. Putting them in charge of the "goal tracker" gives them more responsibility for their own improvement.
1-4. Track the student’s progress.
Create a chart that allows you and your student to assess how well he or she is doing both in your sessions and in class. This chart can include entries for:
Quiz and test grades
Overall class grades
Achievement of the goals you set up together
Your evaluation of the student's effort
Your evaluation of the student's understanding of concepts
Celebrate improvement in qualitative assessments like grades with a lot of praise! If the student's grades aren't improving, but you see a lot of effort, your chart will help keep him or her from getting discouraged.
2. Structuring Tutoring Sessions
2-1. Open with questions about material covered in the last session.
Before moving on to new material, you want to make sure your student has mastered the old material. Ask one or two open-ended questions that will allow the student to display their understanding of concepts. If they struggle, you may need to revisit that information before moving on. Also allow the student to raise any questions of his or her own about previous material.
2-2. Help students meet their in-class requirements.
Have your student inform you about projects and essays as soon as they receive their assignments. Break each project down into smaller parts and work through them together slowly, well-ahead of time. Not only will the graded assignment be of a higher quality, but you'll also model for the child how to manage their time effectively.
If teachers give out study guides for exams, gear the content of your tutoring sessions toward the material that will be covered.
2-3. Focus each session on a specific goal.
Depending on the student’s needs for a given class, you may be working on a paper or project, or you may be going over concepts from class. After reviewing old material, make a verbal plan about what you will achieve together in this session. Make sure to keep your goals manageable:
Today, we're going to work on the organization of this essay. We're just going to take the ideas you already have and put them in the best possible order in an outline.
Today, we're going to try to figure out the network of Allied forces in WWII. Next session, we'll work on the Axis countries.
Today, we're going to look at all the problems you got wrong on your last math test and try to figure out the right answers. Then, we'll do new problems that test the same concept.
2-4. Provide opportunities to succeed.
While you should be working toward goals, you don't want to discourage your student by setting the bar too high. Every session should include exercises you know the student can complete successfully. From there, you can build on the lessons toward more complex exercises that may prove more challenging.
If the student doesn't perform at the level you expected, don't give up! Repeat the exercise until he or she completes it correctly. When they do, heap praise on the student for working through an obstacle.
2-5. Give your students breaks.
The breaks should be no longer than 5 minutes. Working for long stretches time might wear them out and make them lose focus. A 5-minute break is just enough time to refresh students without breaking stride in the work you're doing.
2-6. Adapt to student needs.
You have goals laid out, but sometimes young people get worn down by their work, just like adults do. If your student seems tired or in a bad mood on a given day, don't be afraid to mix things up a little and lighten the mood. For example, if you're tutoring a student in a foreign language, you might listen to and translate songs instead of going through conjugation exercises. You might watch cartoons in that language and see how much of the plot the student can follow.
2-7. Cater your tutoring style to the student’s learning style.
Not all children learn in the same way. Some students work better alone, and will do better if given time to complete activities on their own. Others are more social learners who will learn more if it seems like you're working through the problems with them.
Aural students learn best through verbal explanation, so talk to them about concepts. Verbal students need to talk through concepts on their own, so be willing to sit back and listen.
Physical/tactile students need to work with their hands. Bring in 3D models if you're studying anatomy, or clay that they can shape into the different organs of the body.
Visual students might need graphic aids like pictures, charts, or educational videos.
2-8. End each session by looking forward to the next one.
The end of a tutoring session doesn't mean the student is "finished" for the week. Make clear that you expect them to prepare for your next session in the time you're apart. If there's any work that wasn't finished during the session, assign it as homework for the next meeting. If you have a fun activity planned for the next session, give the student something to look forward to.
3. Building Relationships
3-1. Build a personal relationship with your students.
Your job is to help students perform up to their potential. As such, you're as much friend and cheerleader at times as you are instructor. By forming personal connections with students, you can more effectively motivate them to succeed.
Talk about how the subject makes them feel. Students who perform poorly in class may feel ashamed of it. When they improve, they may feel powerful and proud. Comfort them in their down times and celebrate their successes.
Share your own experiences of failure and how you overcame them.
Find out what their passions are, so you can make the tutoring sessions more interesting. A straightforward equation might seem boring, but a subtraction problem about fighting dinosaurs might perk up a student who loves dinosaurs.
3-2. Learn the student’s communication style.
Connect to the student on their own terms. If a student is intensely shy, you can't ignore it! It may be that the student communicates best in the days between sessions, when he or she can email you questions. Sometimes students are reluctant to ask questions in person, even though they have many they need answered.
3-3. Show up for each session in a good mood.
Your students will pick up on your moods immediately. If you seem tired or low energy, they will mimic your tone. But, if you show up smiling and optimistic for every session, they'll follow your lead and put more effort into the work at hand.
3-4. Act as a guide rather than teacher.
Teachers and tutors have very different roles. Teachers have many students to oversee at once, and must act as authority figures who pass on knowledge. Tutors work one-on-one, though, and are more like "educated peers" than authority figures. You only have one student to work with at a time, so you don't have to lecture. Let students take charge of learning objectives, and guide them toward their goals.
Ask a lot of questions. You don't want to lecture your students. Instead, ask open-ended questions that force them to come to conclusions on their own, with research you help them conduct.
3-5. Give students room to fall in love with the material.
While you need to keep the student on track to achieve their goals, don't be afraid to give up a little control. If, when studying the Civil War, your student wants to spend a lot of time on an unimportant but dramatic battle, let it happen even if it eats up a whole session. A tutor should let natural curiosity grow rather than trying to smother it. The increased enthusiasm will pay off down the line.
3-6. Communicate clearly with parents and teachers.
Without their help, you won't know how to focus the content of your sessions in a way that will help your students succeed in school. Talking to parents and teachers is especially important for younger students. While a high schooler might be able to explain course objectives to you, a third grader won't.
Reach out to the parents and teacher(s) and set up a regular schedule for communication.
You might speak to the parents every time the student is brought in for a tutoring session.
You might agree to email the teacher on the first Monday of each month to get a sense of what's coming down the pipe in the student's classwork.
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For example, a student may not be able to bring up a math grade within a month, but three months would be a good goal for grade improvement. Minor goals should be set for the short term: the student will write a 150-word summary of a major source for an upcoming research paper by the end of the session.\\nWrite down the goals on a sheet of paper and have the student keep track of it. Putting them in charge of the \\\"goal tracker\\\" gives them more responsibility for their own improvement.\\n1-4. Track the student’s progress.\\nCreate a chart that allows you and your student to assess how well he or she is doing both in your sessions and in class. This chart can include entries for:\\nQuiz and test grades\\nOverall class grades\\nAchievement of the goals you set up together\\nYour evaluation of the student's effort\\nYour evaluation of the student's understanding of concepts\\nCelebrate improvement in qualitative assessments like grades with a lot of praise! If the student's grades aren't improving, but you see a lot of effort, your chart will help keep him or her from getting discouraged.\\n2. Structuring Tutoring Sessions\\n2-1. Open with questions about material covered in the last session.\\nBefore moving on to new material, you want to make sure your student has mastered the old material. Ask one or two open-ended questions that will allow the student to display their understanding of concepts. If they struggle, you may need to revisit that information before moving on. Also allow the student to raise any questions of his or her own about previous material.\\n2-2. Help students meet their in-class requirements.\\nHave your student inform you about projects and essays as soon as they receive their assignments. Break each project down into smaller parts and work through them together slowly, well-ahead of time. Not only will the graded assignment be of a higher quality, but you'll also model for the child how to manage their time effectively.\\nIf teachers give out study guides for exams, gear the content of your tutoring sessions toward the material that will be covered.\\n2-3. Focus each session on a specific goal.\\nDepending on the student’s needs for a given class, you may be working on a paper or project, or you may be going over concepts from class. After reviewing old material, make a verbal plan about what you will achieve together in this session. Make sure to keep your goals manageable:\\nToday, we're going to work on the organization of this essay. We're just going to take the ideas you already have and put them in the best possible order in an outline.\\nToday, we're going to try to figure out the network of Allied forces in WWII. 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A 5-minute break is just enough time to refresh students without breaking stride in the work you're doing.\\n2-6. Adapt to student needs.\\nYou have goals laid out, but sometimes young people get worn down by their work, just like adults do. If your student seems tired or in a bad mood on a given day, don't be afraid to mix things up a little and lighten the mood. For example, if you're tutoring a student in a foreign language, you might listen to and translate songs instead of going through conjugation exercises. You might watch cartoons in that language and see how much of the plot the student can follow.\\n2-7. Cater your tutoring style to the student’s learning style.\\nNot all children learn in the same way. Some students work better alone, and will do better if given time to complete activities on their own. Others are more social learners who will learn more if it seems like you're working through the problems with them.\\nAural students learn best through verbal explanation, so talk to them about concepts. Verbal students need to talk through concepts on their own, so be willing to sit back and listen.\\nPhysical/tactile students need to work with their hands. Bring in 3D models if you're studying anatomy, or clay that they can shape into the different organs of the body.\\nVisual students might need graphic aids like pictures, charts, or educational videos.\\n2-8. End each session by looking forward to the next one.\\nThe end of a tutoring session doesn't mean the student is \\\"finished\\\" for the week. Make clear that you expect them to prepare for your next session in the time you're apart. If there's any work that wasn't finished during the session, assign it as homework for the next meeting. If you have a fun activity planned for the next session, give the student something to look forward to.\\n3. Building Relationships\\n3-1. Build a personal relationship with your students.\\nYour job is to help students perform up to their potential. As such, you're as much friend and cheerleader at times as you are instructor. By forming personal connections with students, you can more effectively motivate them to succeed.\\nTalk about how the subject makes them feel. Students who perform poorly in class may feel ashamed of it. When they improve, they may feel powerful and proud. Comfort them in their down times and celebrate their successes.\\nShare your own experiences of failure and how you overcame them.\\nFind out what their passions are, so you can make the tutoring sessions more interesting. A straightforward equation might seem boring, but a subtraction problem about fighting dinosaurs might perk up a student who loves dinosaurs.\\n3-2. Learn the student’s communication style.\\nConnect to the student on their own terms. If a student is intensely shy, you can't ignore it! It may be that the student communicates best in the days between sessions, when he or she can email you questions. Sometimes students are reluctant to ask questions in person, even though they have many they need answered.\\n3-3. Show up for each session in a good mood.\\nYour students will pick up on your moods immediately. If you seem tired or low energy, they will mimic your tone. But, if you show up smiling and optimistic for every session, they'll follow your lead and put more effort into the work at hand.\\n3-4. Act as a guide rather than teacher.\\nTeachers and tutors have very different roles. Teachers have many students to oversee at once, and must act as authority figures who pass on knowledge. Tutors work one-on-one, though, and are more like \\\"educated peers\\\" than authority figures. You only have one student to work with at a time, so you don't have to lecture. Let students take charge of learning objectives, and guide them toward their goals.\\nAsk a lot of questions. You don't want to lecture your students. Instead, ask open-ended questions that force them to come to conclusions on their own, with research you help them conduct.\\n3-5. Give students room to fall in love with the material.\\nWhile you need to keep the student on track to achieve their goals, don't be afraid to give up a little control. If, when studying the Civil War, your student wants to spend a lot of time on an unimportant but dramatic battle, let it happen even if it eats up a whole session. A tutor should let natural curiosity grow rather than trying to smother it. The increased enthusiasm will pay off down the line.\\n3-6. Communicate clearly with parents and teachers.\\nWithout their help, you won't know how to focus the content of your sessions in a way that will help your students succeed in school. Talking to parents and teachers is especially important for younger students. While a high schooler might be able to explain course objectives to you, a third grader won't.\\nReach out to the parents and teacher(s) and set up a regular schedule for communication.\\nYou might speak to the parents every time the student is brought in for a tutoring session.\\nYou might agree to email the teacher on the first Monday of each month to get a sense of what's coming down the pipe in the student's classwork.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tutoring students is a great responsibility, but it can also be one of life's most rewarding experiences. However, just knowing a lot about a subject area doesn't necessarily mean you'll be a good tutor. To help students reach their potential, you have to assess each one's needs and goals individually. With your individualized attention, any student can improve their understanding of difficult material.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Evaluating a Student’s Needs\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to what they already know.\", \"描述\": \"When first getting to know your students, you need to gauge what they already know, so you don't waste time in your sessions. Ask the student what they're good at and what they most enjoy about the subject you're working on. Let him or her speak open-endedly about the subject and show off for you. It will make the student feel smart and validated while letting you figure out what material they've already mastered.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask where they’re having trouble.\", \"描述\": \"Students are often quite aware of their weaknesses. 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If the student's grades aren't improving, but you see a lot of effort, your chart will help keep him or her from getting discouraged.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Structuring Tutoring Sessions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open with questions about material covered in the last session.\", \"描述\": \"Before moving on to new material, you want to make sure your student has mastered the old material. Ask one or two open-ended questions that will allow the student to display their understanding of concepts. If they struggle, you may need to revisit that information before moving on. Also allow the student to raise any questions of his or her own about previous material.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Help students meet their in-class requirements.\", \"描述\": \"Have your student inform you about projects and essays as soon as they receive their assignments. Break each project down into smaller parts and work through them together slowly, well-ahead of time. Not only will the graded assignment be of a higher quality, but you'll also model for the child how to manage their time effectively.\\nIf teachers give out study guides for exams, gear the content of your tutoring sessions toward the material that will be covered.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Focus each session on a specific goal.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the student’s needs for a given class, you may be working on a paper or project, or you may be going over concepts from class. After reviewing old material, make a verbal plan about what you will achieve together in this session. Make sure to keep your goals manageable:\\nToday, we're going to work on the organization of this essay. We're just going to take the ideas you already have and put them in the best possible order in an outline.\\nToday, we're going to try to figure out the network of Allied forces in WWII. Next session, we'll work on the Axis countries.\\nToday, we're going to look at all the problems you got wrong on your last math test and try to figure out the right answers. Then, we'll do new problems that test the same concept.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Provide opportunities to succeed.\", \"描述\": \"While you should be working toward goals, you don't want to discourage your student by setting the bar too high. Every session should include exercises you know the student can complete successfully. From there, you can build on the lessons toward more complex exercises that may prove more challenging.\\nIf the student doesn't perform at the level you expected, don't give up! Repeat the exercise until he or she completes it correctly. When they do, heap praise on the student for working through an obstacle.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give your students breaks.\", \"描述\": \"The breaks should be no longer than 5 minutes. Working for long stretches time might wear them out and make them lose focus. A 5-minute break is just enough time to refresh students without breaking stride in the work you're doing.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Adapt to student needs.\", \"描述\": \"You have goals laid out, but sometimes young people get worn down by their work, just like adults do. If your student seems tired or in a bad mood on a given day, don't be afraid to mix things up a little and lighten the mood. For example, if you're tutoring a student in a foreign language, you might listen to and translate songs instead of going through conjugation exercises. You might watch cartoons in that language and see how much of the plot the student can follow.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Cater your tutoring style to the student’s learning style.\", \"描述\": \"Not all children learn in the same way. Some students work better alone, and will do better if given time to complete activities on their own. Others are more social learners who will learn more if it seems like you're working through the problems with them.\\nAural students learn best through verbal explanation, so talk to them about concepts. Verbal students need to talk through concepts on their own, so be willing to sit back and listen.\\nPhysical/tactile students need to work with their hands. Bring in 3D models if you're studying anatomy, or clay that they can shape into the different organs of the body.\\nVisual students might need graphic aids like pictures, charts, or educational videos.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"End each session by looking forward to the next one.\", \"描述\": \"The end of a tutoring session doesn't mean the student is \\\"finished\\\" for the week. Make clear that you expect them to prepare for your next session in the time you're apart. If there's any work that wasn't finished during the session, assign it as homework for the next meeting. 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Teachers have many students to oversee at once, and must act as authority figures who pass on knowledge. Tutors work one-on-one, though, and are more like \\\"educated peers\\\" than authority figures. You only have one student to work with at a time, so you don't have to lecture. Let students take charge of learning objectives, and guide them toward their goals.\\nAsk a lot of questions. You don't want to lecture your students. Instead, ask open-ended questions that force them to come to conclusions on their own, with research you help them conduct.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give students room to fall in love with the material.\", \"描述\": \"While you need to keep the student on track to achieve their goals, don't be afraid to give up a little control. If, when studying the Civil War, your student wants to spend a lot of time on an unimportant but dramatic battle, let it happen even if it eats up a whole session. A tutor should let natural curiosity grow rather than trying to smother it. The increased enthusiasm will pay off down the line.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Communicate clearly with parents and teachers.\", \"描述\": \"Without their help, you won't know how to focus the content of your sessions in a way that will help your students succeed in school. Talking to parents and teachers is especially important for younger students. While a high schooler might be able to explain course objectives to you, a third grader won't.\\nReach out to the parents and teacher(s) and set up a regular schedule for communication.\\nYou might speak to the parents every time the student is brought in for a tutoring session.\\nYou might agree to email the teacher on the first Monday of each month to get a sense of what's coming down the pipe in the student's classwork.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Working on Your Voice
1-1. Learn to speak without moving your lips.
Go through the alphabet without moving your lips. You'll notice that the letters "b," "f," "m," "p," "q," "v," and "w" will make your lips move. To say these without moving your lips, you must use substitutions. For "b," say "d" or "geh." For "f," say "th." For "m," say "n," "nah," or "neh." For "p," say "kl" or "t." For "q," say "koo." For "v," say "th," and for "w," say "ooh."
You may think the new words with the substituted letters sound ridiculous, but if you learn to put stress on the syllables that don't contain these letters, the words will begin to sound more natural.
Hold a finger over your mouth as if trying to tell someone to be quiet to help prevent your lips from moving. Gritting your teeth together may also help.
1-2. Practice “throwing” your voice.
Take a deep breath in through your nose. Raise your tongue so it is near, but not touching, the soft palate at the roof of your mouth. Contract your diaphragm by tightening your stomach muscles, and keep your airway constricted so breath is trapped in your throat. Speak while exhaling slowly so that your voice sounds distant.
1-3. Change your voice
A convincing "vent" voice must be very different from yours. Listen to yourself speak. Do you speak loudly or softly? Fast or slow? Do you have a low voice or a high voice? Try to make your puppet's voice different from yours in all or most of these categories. To change your voice, you must speak from a different area, such as your nose or throat.
One excellent way to change your voice is to force air through your nose instead of your mouth when you speak.
Another option is to force the sound from the diaphragm. Tighten your stomach muscles when speaking for a deeper, raspier voice.
1-4. Choose your "vent" voice carefully depending on the puppet you chose.
Think about whether your puppet’s character would have an accent or a different way of speaking than you do. If your puppet is smart and witty, have them speak eloquently, without stuttering. If they are unintelligent or slow, have them speak in a low, slow voice.
The voice you choose helps to amplify your puppet's personality and brings them to life.
For example, if you’re from the south, you may want to create a fast-talking Yankee voice for your partner.
Alternatively, you could choose a relaxed, French accent to complement your own midwestern way of speech.
2. Choosing and Animating Your Puppet
2-1. Decide what kind of partner you want.
You can choose a person or an animal as your partner. However, you must always make sure that the puppet’s personality is different from your own, to give the illusion that you are not the same person. For instance, if you are a kind, responsible person, make your partner a mischievous jokester.
If you are athletic and love watching sports, make your partner someone who hates watching football and loves going to the opera instead.
Make your partner a scientist or mathematician if you are someone who prefers painting or sculpting, instead.
Think about what kind of routine you wish to create and what personality would complement yours the best for creating this routine.
2-2. Find a puppet that will fit that character.
Look at the puppets’ shape, size, age, and facial features. Also take note of their clothing and accessories. Choose a puppet that fits the character you created for your partner. For example, if your imagined character is a young, energetic boy, don't pick a puppet that's an old man or a young lady. If you imagined a sad, mangy dog as your partner, don’t choose a shiny, happy-looking pup.
You can choose a puppet with a hard figure (made out of wood) or soft figure (such as a cloth doll) as well as a “novelty” figure (like a jalapeno).
You can find a wide array of puppets to choose from online.
2-3. Choose a puppet with a moving head.
There are many different control schemes for puppets, but one with a moving head is excellent for beginners. Choose one where you put your hand in the back, grab a stick attached to the head, and push a trigger to move the mouth. This is key when animating your puppet, and works better than a puppet that uses a string on the neck to operate the mouth.
Some puppets have other features, including the ability to move their eyebrows, lips, ears, and eyes.
2-4. Convince yourself that your puppet is alive.
You should act as though the puppet is alive from the moment you pick it out. Don't treat your puppet like a doll or toy, instead treat them like a part of your family! Play games with your partner, watch TV with them, and bring them to family get-togethers.
2-5. Create a life and backstory for your puppet.
Have your puppet tell you stories about their life and experiences. Ask questions about their likes and dislikes, family, education, goals, hopes, and dreams. Even though you are technically making this up, it will help you believe that there is life in your partner.
2-6. Direct the audience’s eyes toward the puppet when they are “speaking.”
Ventriloquism, like magic, uses misdirection to make an act believable. If the audience is looking at the puppet, they won’t see that you are, in fact, the one who is speaking. Move your puppet’s mouth in time with every syllable of the words you are saying, and use their arms or body to gesture appropriately throughout their speech.
Be sure that the head isn't moving too much while they speak, or this will distract the audience from the actual speech. Try to observe real people as they speak, and have your partner mimic those movements.
2-7. Keep your puppet moving.
It’s important to keep your puppet moving, even when you are speaking, to help the audience believe that they are real. Also, be sure the amount that they are moving is consistent with their character. For example, if they are young and energetic, have their head move quickly and shake while they’re speaking. If they are an older person or a sleepy child, move their head slowly and not as often.
If your partner only moves their head, they will seem unrealistic to the audience. Move the rest of their body as well. For example, have them shift around on your knee or the stool they are sitting on, slump over, or stretch.
3. Putting on a Good Show
3-1. Create believable dialogue.
You’ll need to have a realistic conversation with your puppet on stage. Listen to the way you and friends talk to each other, or pay attention to other people’s conversations. Add pauses, “ums” and “ers,” sighs, and huffs into your conversations. Not only will these things make your dialogue more believable, they are easy to do without moving your lips!
Practice interrupting your puppet and your puppet interrupting you to make your dialogue more believable.
3-2. Practice your routine.
Though some people may be able to easily do an improv skit, it’s best if you prepare and practice your jokes and routine ahead of time. Work on throwing your voice and speaking without moving your lips in addition to moving your puppet realistically and in time with what they are “saying.”
Practice every day if you want to make ventriloquism your career.
3-3. Watch yourself in a mirror or on film.
Practice in front of a mirror so you can see what the audience will see. Alternatively, you could record your performance and then watch it play back to get a good idea of how you look and sound to the audience. Tweak your routine based on these practice sessions so that you are fully prepared for a live show.
3-4. Develop a strong stage presence
People enjoy watching others that have charisma, keep an optimistic attitude, and display positive energy. You (and your puppet!) can make use of the space on stage, make eye contact with various members of the audience, and be animated throughout your routine. Use lots of gestures and facial expressions to draw people’s attention to you and your puppet.
Choose an outfit that makes you feel comfortable and confident, and do the same for your puppet!
You could have your puppet choose a member of the audience to speak to. People will enjoy being included in the show.
3-5. Have fun with it.
A big factor in being a good ventriloquist is having passion. If the audience can tell that you are having a good time, they will have a good time too. Whether you are taking up ventriloquism for fun or for a career, make sure you are enjoying it.
Always entertain people in good humor, rather than using your puppet to lash out at specific groups or people.
4. Getting an Education in Ventriloquism
4-1. Research other ventriloquists.
Watch videos or go to a live show that another ventriloquist is putting on. You can pick up some tips and learn what works and what’s funny, and what’s not. Jeff Dunham, Ronn Lucas, Jay Johnson, or Terry Fator are examples of excellent ventriloquists that you can learn from.
4-2. Take ventriloquist lessons.
If you truly want to be a ventriloquist, it’s a great idea to take a few lessons. You’ll learn about the types of puppets available as well as how to move them realistically. These lessons also focus on voice techniques and can help you learn how to talk without moving your lips like a pro! Look online to find ventriloquist lessons near you.
4-3. Study the performing arts.
Ventriloquists are performers, so it’s only natural to study the performing arts. Take theatre, improv, music, or acting classes to hone your skills as a performer. You can also take voice lessons. Comedy, or comedic writing, classes would also be incredibly helpful for putting together a funny skit. Do an Internet search to find classes in your area.
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How do they do it and make it look so effortless? The good news is that it’s not magic, and anyone can learn the secrets to being a talented ventriloquist! In this article, we’ll walk you through everything you need to know to get started, like how to throw your voice like the professionals, come up with your own act, and put on a great show.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Working on Your Voice\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to speak without moving your lips.\", \"描述\": \"Go through the alphabet without moving your lips. You'll notice that the letters \\\"b,\\\" \\\"f,\\\" \\\"m,\\\" \\\"p,\\\" \\\"q,\\\" \\\"v,\\\" and \\\"w\\\" will make your lips move. To say these without moving your lips, you must use substitutions. 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1. Catching Technique
1-1. Keep your eyes on the ball.
Watch the ball starting from the bowler’s hand and don’t take your eyes off it as it travels down the pitch. Try to envision catching it at different possible angles as it comes towards you.
Don’t worry if you make mistakes. Let them go and refocus yourself on every new ball.
1-2. Get in a strong, low position before each ball.
Squat down with your weight on your toes and lean forward slightly with your hands on the ground. Face your palms forward towards the ball.
This will allow you to come up under the ball and receive it at any speed.
1-3. Rise up from the crouching position only as the ball bounces.
You won’t know what the ball is going to do until it bounces. Stay down low until the ball bounces, then come up with it to catch it at the right height.
This will help you avoid missing balls that roll low along the ground instead of bouncing up higher.
1-4. Lead with your head when diving.
Drive your head towards the ball when you have to dive for it and keep your fingers pointing down. This will allow your eyes and brain to process the best way to catch the ball.
When you land after diving for a ball, straighten your elbow if it was a low catch. Bend your elbow, tuck it under your body, and roll for higher catches so you don’t land on your elbow.
You can practice your diving technique on a mattress at home or on mats at cricket practice to get it down.
1-5. Practice catching with drills.
Use ramps that deflect balls at different angles and practice catching them at close range to improve your reaction times. Use tennis balls to make it even more difficult.
If you want to focus more on your reaction speed, then train with faster throws. If you want to focus more on your catching technique, then train with slower throws.
You can incorporate these training drills into each cricket practice or into your personal training sessions as well if you have a partner to help you.
2. Team Skills
2-1. Set the tempo for the fielding on your team.
The wicketkeeper is the centerpiece of the fielding team. Make sure you keep ahead with the over rate, especially when you are playing T20 cricket where time is more of an issue.
T20 cricket is a variety in which each side only gets 1 innings of 20 overs. Matches typically last only about 3 hours.
2-2. Work together with the bowler to prevent runs.
Use your anticipation, concentration, and catching technique to stop runs when the bowler unintentionally makes a wild or wide delivery. Work together to prevent as many runs as you can and get your team in the lead.
Try to make the batter feel that even if the bowler delivers a poor throw, you will always be there to catch it. That way, they are more likely to swing for every delivery and make a mistake that lets you get them out.
2-3. Help align the slip fielders on your team.
The slips are the fielders behind the batsman on the offside of the field who are there to catch any balls beyond your reach. Decide if you need 2 or 3 slips, then help position them far enough away that you have room to dive and move but close enough that they will catch balls you cannot reach.
This will take some practice to get the hang of, but once you know what your limitations are you will be able to help the slip fielders get into the perfect alignment to provide the extra coverage you need.
2-4. Encourage your teammates.
Don’t let anything get you down, not even a dropped catch. Fielders mostly take after the wicketkeeper's reactions, so it's very important to always keep up your energy levels and cheer the team on.
This is especially important when your team is under pressure. As the center of the fielding team, you can influence everyone’s performance by staying positive and offering encouragement.
3. Fitness
3-1. Do a mix of strength and cardio exercises to get in shape.
Wicketkeepers need to have all around good strength, stamina, and agility. You need to incorporate a mix of things like running, weight training, and agility drills into your exercise routines to get in shape to be a good wicketkeeper.
Cricket games can go on for a really long time, so it’s important that you have the strength and endurance to last a whole match.
The number of days you should train per week will depend on the level of cricket you are playing and how much time you have. In general, 3-4 personal training sessions a week is a good goal.
3-2. Perform repetitive sprint training drills to build your stamina.
Do something like 4-5 sets of 40 m (130 ft) sprints during every running session. Rest for short amounts of time, about 15 seconds, in between each sprint.
Wicketkeepers have to stand still while waiting for deliveries, then all of a sudden dive or jump for the ball. Doing cardio exercises like sprints helps replicate the sudden bursts of fast movement that you will need to use as a wicketkeeper.
Do sprint training drills every personal training session that you do during the week.
3-3. Alternate power exercises and strength training to build explosive strength.
Do a set of something like regular squats or lunges followed by a set of box jumps or jump squats. Alternating these types of exercises will build your muscles and allow you to make explosive movements during cricket matches.
Wicketkeepers have to make the same kinds of repetitive explosive movements as boxers and tennis players, such as launching themselves long distances to catch a ball.
Incorporate power exercises and strength training into each of your personal training sessions.
3-4. Work on developing your core to help you dive and twist around.
Do things like Russian twists, medicine ball throws, and other ab exercises to develop your core strength. This will allow you to perform rotation movements and dive with more ease.
Planks are another good exercise you can do to build your core stability.
Work some core exercises into every personal training session that you do during the week.
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Lead with your head when diving.\\nDrive your head towards the ball when you have to dive for it and keep your fingers pointing down. This will allow your eyes and brain to process the best way to catch the ball.\\nWhen you land after diving for a ball, straighten your elbow if it was a low catch. Bend your elbow, tuck it under your body, and roll for higher catches so you don’t land on your elbow.\\nYou can practice your diving technique on a mattress at home or on mats at cricket practice to get it down.\\n1-5. Practice catching with drills.\\nUse ramps that deflect balls at different angles and practice catching them at close range to improve your reaction times. Use tennis balls to make it even more difficult.\\nIf you want to focus more on your reaction speed, then train with faster throws. If you want to focus more on your catching technique, then train with slower throws.\\nYou can incorporate these training drills into each cricket practice or into your personal training sessions as well if you have a partner to help you.\\n2. Team Skills\\n2-1. Set the tempo for the fielding on your team.\\nThe wicketkeeper is the centerpiece of the fielding team. Make sure you keep ahead with the over rate, especially when you are playing T20 cricket where time is more of an issue.\\nT20 cricket is a variety in which each side only gets 1 innings of 20 overs. Matches typically last only about 3 hours.\\n2-2. Work together with the bowler to prevent runs.\\nUse your anticipation, concentration, and catching technique to stop runs when the bowler unintentionally makes a wild or wide delivery. Work together to prevent as many runs as you can and get your team in the lead.\\nTry to make the batter feel that even if the bowler delivers a poor throw, you will always be there to catch it. That way, they are more likely to swing for every delivery and make a mistake that lets you get them out.\\n2-3. Help align the slip fielders on your team.\\nThe slips are the fielders behind the batsman on the offside of the field who are there to catch any balls beyond your reach. Decide if you need 2 or 3 slips, then help position them far enough away that you have room to dive and move but close enough that they will catch balls you cannot reach.\\nThis will take some practice to get the hang of, but once you know what your limitations are you will be able to help the slip fielders get into the perfect alignment to provide the extra coverage you need.\\n2-4. Encourage your teammates.\\nDon’t let anything get you down, not even a dropped catch. Fielders mostly take after the wicketkeeper's reactions, so it's very important to always keep up your energy levels and cheer the team on.\\nThis is especially important when your team is under pressure. As the center of the fielding team, you can influence everyone’s performance by staying positive and offering encouragement.\\n3. Fitness\\n3-1. Do a mix of strength and cardio exercises to get in shape.\\nWicketkeepers need to have all around good strength, stamina, and agility. You need to incorporate a mix of things like running, weight training, and agility drills into your exercise routines to get in shape to be a good wicketkeeper.\\nCricket games can go on for a really long time, so it’s important that you have the strength and endurance to last a whole match.\\nThe number of days you should train per week will depend on the level of cricket you are playing and how much time you have. In general, 3-4 personal training sessions a week is a good goal.\\n3-2. Perform repetitive sprint training drills to build your stamina.\\nDo something like 4-5 sets of 40 m (130 ft) sprints during every running session. Rest for short amounts of time, about 15 seconds, in between each sprint.\\nWicketkeepers have to stand still while waiting for deliveries, then all of a sudden dive or jump for the ball. Doing cardio exercises like sprints helps replicate the sudden bursts of fast movement that you will need to use as a wicketkeeper.\\nDo sprint training drills every personal training session that you do during the week.\\n3-3. Alternate power exercises and strength training to build explosive strength.\\nDo a set of something like regular squats or lunges followed by a set of box jumps or jump squats. Alternating these types of exercises will build your muscles and allow you to make explosive movements during cricket matches.\\nWicketkeepers have to make the same kinds of repetitive explosive movements as boxers and tennis players, such as launching themselves long distances to catch a ball.\\nIncorporate power exercises and strength training into each of your personal training sessions.\\n3-4. Work on developing your core to help you dive and twist around.\\nDo things like Russian twists, medicine ball throws, and other ab exercises to develop your core strength. This will allow you to perform rotation movements and dive with more ease.\\n\\nPlanks are another good exercise you can do to build your core stability.\\nWork some core exercises into every personal training session that you do during the week.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A wicket-keeper is the player on the fielding team in the sport of cricket who stands behind the wicket, or stumps, behind the batter. As wicketkeeper, it’s your job to be ready to receive the ball and try to stump or run the batter out. Don’t let appearances deceive you—wicket-keepers actually need to be in a very high level of physical shape to perform their duties. In addition to that, wicketkeepers must constantly work on improving their catching technique. Finally, a truly good wicketkeeper needs to be a great team player and lead the fielding for their team. Be very sharp and alert also.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Catching Technique\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your eyes on the ball.\", \"描述\": \"Watch the ball starting from the bowler’s hand and don’t take your eyes off it as it travels down the pitch. Try to envision catching it at different possible angles as it comes towards you.\\nDon’t worry if you make mistakes. Let them go and refocus yourself on every new ball.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get in a strong, low position before each ball.\", \"描述\": \"Squat down with your weight on your toes and lean forward slightly with your hands on the ground. Face your palms forward towards the ball.\\nThis will allow you to come up under the ball and receive it at any speed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Rise up from the crouching position only as the ball bounces.\", \"描述\": \"You won’t know what the ball is going to do until it bounces. Stay down low until the ball bounces, then come up with it to catch it at the right height.\\nThis will help you avoid missing balls that roll low along the ground instead of bouncing up higher.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Lead with your head when diving.\", \"描述\": \"Drive your head towards the ball when you have to dive for it and keep your fingers pointing down. This will allow your eyes and brain to process the best way to catch the ball.\\nWhen you land after diving for a ball, straighten your elbow if it was a low catch. Bend your elbow, tuck it under your body, and roll for higher catches so you don’t land on your elbow.\\nYou can practice your diving technique on a mattress at home or on mats at cricket practice to get it down.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice catching with drills.\", \"描述\": \"Use ramps that deflect balls at different angles and practice catching them at close range to improve your reaction times. Use tennis balls to make it even more difficult.\\nIf you want to focus more on your reaction speed, then train with faster throws. If you want to focus more on your catching technique, then train with slower throws.\\nYou can incorporate these training drills into each cricket practice or into your personal training sessions as well if you have a partner to help you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Team Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set the tempo for the fielding on your team.\", \"描述\": \"The wicketkeeper is the centerpiece of the fielding team. Make sure you keep ahead with the over rate, especially when you are playing T20 cricket where time is more of an issue.\\nT20 cricket is a variety in which each side only gets 1 innings of 20 overs. Matches typically last only about 3 hours.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work together with the bowler to prevent runs.\", \"描述\": \"Use your anticipation, concentration, and catching technique to stop runs when the bowler unintentionally makes a wild or wide delivery. Work together to prevent as many runs as you can and get your team in the lead.\\nTry to make the batter feel that even if the bowler delivers a poor throw, you will always be there to catch it. That way, they are more likely to swing for every delivery and make a mistake that lets you get them out.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Help align the slip fielders on your team.\", \"描述\": \"The slips are the fielders behind the batsman on the offside of the field who are there to catch any balls beyond your reach. Decide if you need 2 or 3 slips, then help position them far enough away that you have room to dive and move but close enough that they will catch balls you cannot reach.\\nThis will take some practice to get the hang of, but once you know what your limitations are you will be able to help the slip fielders get into the perfect alignment to provide the extra coverage you need.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Encourage your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t let anything get you down, not even a dropped catch. Fielders mostly take after the wicketkeeper's reactions, so it's very important to always keep up your energy levels and cheer the team on.\\nThis is especially important when your team is under pressure. As the center of the fielding team, you can influence everyone’s performance by staying positive and offering encouragement.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Fitness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do a mix of strength and cardio exercises to get in shape.\", \"描述\": \"Wicketkeepers need to have all around good strength, stamina, and agility. You need to incorporate a mix of things like running, weight training, and agility drills into your exercise routines to get in shape to be a good wicketkeeper.\\nCricket games can go on for a really long time, so it’s important that you have the strength and endurance to last a whole match.\\nThe number of days you should train per week will depend on the level of cricket you are playing and how much time you have. In general, 3-4 personal training sessions a week is a good goal.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Perform repetitive sprint training drills to build your stamina.\", \"描述\": \"Do something like 4-5 sets of 40 m (130 ft) sprints during every running session. Rest for short amounts of time, about 15 seconds, in between each sprint.\\nWicketkeepers have to stand still while waiting for deliveries, then all of a sudden dive or jump for the ball. Doing cardio exercises like sprints helps replicate the sudden bursts of fast movement that you will need to use as a wicketkeeper.\\nDo sprint training drills every personal training session that you do during the week.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Alternate power exercises and strength training to build explosive strength.\", \"描述\": \"Do a set of something like regular squats or lunges followed by a set of box jumps or jump squats. Alternating these types of exercises will build your muscles and allow you to make explosive movements during cricket matches.\\nWicketkeepers have to make the same kinds of repetitive explosive movements as boxers and tennis players, such as launching themselves long distances to catch a ball.\\nIncorporate power exercises and strength training into each of your personal training sessions.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Work on developing your core to help you dive and twist around.\", \"描述\": \"Do things like Russian twists, medicine ball throws, and other ab exercises to develop your core strength. This will allow you to perform rotation movements and dive with more ease.\\n\\nPlanks are another good exercise you can do to build your core stability.\\nWork some core exercises into every personal training session that you do during the week.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Learning About the Position
1-1. Learn about the different wide-receiver positions.
Split end. A receiver on the line of scrimmage split one or more steps outside the tackle. The receiver has to be fast and strong enough to break through a jamming opponent at the line and quickly get open for a pass.
Flanker. A receiver behind the line of scrimmage split one or more steps outside the tackle. He has to break through and past opponents at the line The flanker is on the same side as the tight end, lined up just like a split end but a step or two behind the line.
Slot back. He lines up in the backfield between the split end and the tackle.
1-2. Watch professional wide receivers.
Learn from the pros. Watch how they move and interact with the ball so you can emulate what works for them.
2. Perfecting Your Skills
2-1. Create a workout routine.
To be a wide receiver you must be fast and agile. Strength is not usually as important but comes in handy when an opponent tries to tackle you.
2-2. Work on speed and agility.
For example, do several 20-yard dashes in succession. Increase your distance to 25 or 30 yards (22.9 or 27.4 m) for several repetitions. You need to be able to run hard many times with only short breaks in between. The faster you move, the more likely it is you'll be able to evade the defense.
2-3. Work on stamina.
Take jogs and maintain a breathing pattern to prevent cramps.
2-4. Run routes:
the slant, hitch, curl, hook, and post. Your coach or a teammate can demonstrate each to you.
2-5. Practice catching on the routes.
As a receiver you'll be catching the ball a lot, so practice catching as much as you can. A simple game of catch is good, but try to hook up with a good passer who can help you run routes and take good passes. A good passer will lead you with the ball (that is, he'll throw to where you will be, not to where you are.)
Develop "soft" hands. In other words, provide a "cushion" for the ball as it arrives. You don't want the ball to bounce off your hands.
Look at the ball until it's safely in your hands. Looking for an opponent before you have full possession of the ball often results in an incomplete pass.
2-6. Keep at it.
Practice every day. If you slack off, it's easy to lose your competitive edge.
2-7. Learn trick plays.
Also known as "fakes," these are designed to fool the opponent. Wide receivers are sometimes called on to appear to run a particular play but then suddenly run something else. In other words, you're called upon to be a good "actor."
Tips
Learn the route tree (your team's numbering system for calling pass plays).
Practice with players who are better than you. This is the fastest way to improve.
As the ball approaches you, spread your fingers but keep them loose. The ball is not very heavy: "soft" hands will be able to control and contain the ball no matter how hard or how far it's been thrown.
Warnings
Don't try to show off or make flashy catches. You could tear an ACL or break a bone.
Wide receivers get tackled a lot. You have to be able to take a hit, sometimes when you're off-balance and vulnerable. Football is a rough sport, and wide receiver can be a rough position.
Always stretch before playing to prevent pulling or even tearing a muscle.
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Strength is not usually as important but comes in handy when an opponent tries to tackle you.\\n2-2. Work on speed and agility.\\nFor example, do several 20-yard dashes in succession. Increase your distance to 25 or 30 yards (22.9 or 27.4 m) for several repetitions. You need to be able to run hard many times with only short breaks in between. The faster you move, the more likely it is you'll be able to evade the defense.\\n2-3. Work on stamina.\\nTake jogs and maintain a breathing pattern to prevent cramps.\\n2-4. Run routes:\\nthe slant, hitch, curl, hook, and post. Your coach or a teammate can demonstrate each to you.\\n2-5. Practice catching on the routes.\\nAs a receiver you'll be catching the ball a lot, so practice catching as much as you can. A simple game of catch is good, but try to hook up with a good passer who can help you run routes and take good passes. A good passer will lead you with the ball (that is, he'll throw to where you will be, not to where you are.)\\nDevelop \\\"soft\\\" hands. In other words, provide a \\\"cushion\\\" for the ball as it arrives. You don't want the ball to bounce off your hands.\\nLook at the ball until it's safely in your hands. Looking for an opponent before you have full possession of the ball often results in an incomplete pass.\\n2-6. Keep at it.\\nPractice every day. If you slack off, it's easy to lose your competitive edge.\\n2-7. Learn trick plays.\\nAlso known as \\\"fakes,\\\" these are designed to fool the opponent. Wide receivers are sometimes called on to appear to run a particular play but then suddenly run something else. In other words, you're called upon to be a good \\\"actor.\\\"\\nTips\\nLearn the route tree (your team's numbering system for calling pass plays).\\nPractice with players who are better than you. This is the fastest way to improve.\\nAs the ball approaches you, spread your fingers but keep them loose. The ball is not very heavy: \\\"soft\\\" hands will be able to control and contain the ball no matter how hard or how far it's been thrown.\\nWarnings\\nDon't try to show off or make flashy catches. You could tear an ACL or break a bone.\\nWide receivers get tackled a lot. You have to be able to take a hit, sometimes when you're off-balance and vulnerable. Football is a rough sport, and wide receiver can be a rough position.\\nAlways stretch before playing to prevent pulling or even tearing a muscle.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"To be the best wide receiver on your (American) football team, you have to be fast and be able to catch well. Receiver is what they call a \\\"skill position,\\\" and there's some glory that comes with it, but you have to be pretty tough to withstand the physical abuse that accompanies the position, too. That means you really have to want to play wide receiver. It's a tough job -- even a little dangerous! -- and it requires a lot of work. Here are some suggestions for improving your chances of success.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning About the Position\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn about the different wide-receiver positions.\", \"描述\": \"Split end. A receiver on the line of scrimmage split one or more steps outside the tackle. The receiver has to be fast and strong enough to break through a jamming opponent at the line and quickly get open for a pass.\\nFlanker. A receiver behind the line of scrimmage split one or more steps outside the tackle. He has to break through and past opponents at the line The flanker is on the same side as the tight end, lined up just like a split end but a step or two behind the line.\\nSlot back. He lines up in the backfield between the split end and the tackle.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Watch professional wide receivers.\", \"描述\": \"Learn from the pros. Watch how they move and interact with the ball so you can emulate what works for them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Perfecting Your Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create a workout routine.\", \"描述\": \"To be a wide receiver you must be fast and agile. Strength is not usually as important but comes in handy when an opponent tries to tackle you.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work on speed and agility.\", \"描述\": \"For example, do several 20-yard dashes in succession. Increase your distance to 25 or 30 yards (22.9 or 27.4 m) for several repetitions. You need to be able to run hard many times with only short breaks in between. The faster you move, the more likely it is you'll be able to evade the defense.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work on stamina.\", \"描述\": \"Take jogs and maintain a breathing pattern to prevent cramps.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Run routes:\", \"描述\": \"the slant, hitch, curl, hook, and post. Your coach or a teammate can demonstrate each to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice catching on the routes.\", \"描述\": \"As a receiver you'll be catching the ball a lot, so practice catching as much as you can. A simple game of catch is good, but try to hook up with a good passer who can help you run routes and take good passes. A good passer will lead you with the ball (that is, he'll throw to where you will be, not to where you are.)\\nDevelop \\\"soft\\\" hands. In other words, provide a \\\"cushion\\\" for the ball as it arrives. You don't want the ball to bounce off your hands.\\nLook at the ball until it's safely in your hands. Looking for an opponent before you have full possession of the ball often results in an incomplete pass.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep at it.\", \"描述\": \"Practice every day. If you slack off, it's easy to lose your competitive edge.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Learn trick plays.\", \"描述\": \"Also known as \\\"fakes,\\\" these are designed to fool the opponent. Wide receivers are sometimes called on to appear to run a particular play but then suddenly run something else. In other words, you're called upon to be a good \\\"actor.\\\"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Learn the route tree (your team's numbering system for calling pass plays).\\n\", \"Practice with players who are better than you. This is the fastest way to improve.\\n\", \"As the ball approaches you, spread your fingers but keep them loose. The ball is not very heavy: \\\"soft\\\" hands will be able to control and contain the ball no matter how hard or how far it's been thrown.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't try to show off or make flashy catches. You could tear an ACL or break a bone.\\n\", \"Wide receivers get tackled a lot. You have to be able to take a hit, sometimes when you're off-balance and vulnerable. Football is a rough sport, and wide receiver can be a rough position.\\n\", \"Always stretch before playing to prevent pulling or even tearing a muscle.\\n\"]}]}}",
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16+ Ways to Be a Good Wife: A How-To Guide
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1. Companionship
1-1. Spend time with your spouse to form a lasting friendship.
Romance isn’t the only thing that holds your relationship together. Intimacy is all about caring for your partner unconditionally. Talk openly and honestly with your spouse like they’re your best friend, do things together, and offer them support when they need it most.
Take time to ask each other questions about your days while making dinner.
Send them funny jokes, memes, or pictures that remind you of them.
Start a hobby or activity together to develop similar interests.
1-2. Go on exciting adventures with your spouse.
Married life doesn’t mean you both have to stop living! Spend quality time together and make lasting memories by doing something new. Maybe that’s camping, hiking, or traveling.
Find your exciting adventure as a couple by talking about your dreams. Ask your spouse what’s on their bucket list and see if any of your dreams match. You may even discover a new dream while you talk.
Plan week-long or weekend getaways with each other to relax and destress.
1-3. Support your spouse by accepting them for who they are.
One of the best things you can do for your spouse is be there for them through thick and thin. They’re an ever-evolving person—just like you! Their interests, career, and attitude may change, but you can be a good wife by being with them through it all. Focus on helping them be the best version of themselves rather than trying to change them.
1-4. Work with your spouse to manage stress as a couple.
Life can be stressful, and it’s important to be there for your spouse through the ups and downs. Be a good listener and discuss solutions with your partner about anxieties and worries. Not only can this help improve your relationship, but it can also help them be a better partner for you when you’re stressed.
Try exercising together to let out your frustrations. Moving your bodies together can help clear your minds and look at problems with new perspectives.
1-5. Take care of yourself
How are you supposed to make your spouse happy if you're not happy? Make time to do things you like to do without your spouse. Perhaps that’s attending a weekly yoga class, reading a book, or grabbing drinks with a few girl friends. Focusing on yourself doesn’t make you a bad wife—it makes you a great one!
Self-care is an easy way to set boundaries in a relationship, as spending time with yourself and doing something you love can help you recharge emotionally.
2. Affection and Intimacy
2-1. Kiss your spouse regularly to stay connected physically.
It can be easy for the honeymoon phase to fizzle out after you’ve been married for a long time. Even though it seems rather simple, kissing your spouse can help spark intimate feelings and increase sex drive. Try kissing them before they head off to work, before you go to bed, or when they look extra sexy. This is a great way to please them and yourself all while keeping the passion alive.
Add other aspects of physical touch into your daily routine as a couple. Holding hands and hugging are just as important as a steamy kiss.
2-2. Schedule date nights to stay romantically interested in each other.
No matter how busy you are, how stressful your job is, or how many kids you have, make time to spend a romantic evening with your spouse. Aim for a date every 2 weeks or as often as you can. Designate a day where it’s just you and them. Believe it or not, dressing up for each other and spending a night alone can renew your romantic connection.
Date nights can be as simple or romantic as you like. As long as you do something you both like together, you’re sure to have a great time!
Try spending a romantic night in, bowling, playing mini-golf, seeing a movie, or splurging at a high-end restaurant.
2-3. Turn your bedroom into a romantic sanctuary to initiate sex.
Remove TVs, laptops, and work-related materials from the bedroom. Make the bed with silk sheets and cover the windows with black-out curtains. Light a few candles or turn on a diffuser with a favorite essential oil. Create an inviting space meant for sex and sleep to help you and your spouse unwind after a long day.
Opt for a vanilla or woodsy candle or essential oil to heighten the sexy mood.
Play romantic music softly in the background. This can be a playlist of songs representing your relationship or an arousing instrumental track.
2-4. Make time for physical intimacy to keep the romance alive.
Life can get busy, which sometimes means putting sex on the back burner. Try scheduling sex into your weekly or monthly routine. Pick a day that works for both of you—maybe that’s a weekend or a holiday you both have off work. This can give you both something to look forward to while improving your sex lives.
Buy a new sexy outfit or plan a romantic evening leading up to your designated lovemaking day.
Marking a day to have sex doesn’t mean you can’t have it any other day. Be spontaneous when you can!
3. Communication
3-1. Support your spouse by asking what they need in the relationship.
Recognizing what’s important for your partner can help you do what’s best for them. Maybe they’re craving more physical intimacy, want some alone time, or would like to spend more time with you. Understanding their wants and needs helps you cultivate an environment you can both be happy in while improving your relationship.
Don’t sacrifice your needs for theirs. There’s always a happy medium, so make sure you’re not compromising your own happiness. After all, you can’t be a good wife if you’re not happy yourself!
3-2. Express your feelings and needs to your spouse.
Your spouse doesn't know what you’re thinking 100% of the time, so don’t be afraid to let them in every once and a while. Talk to them about what you need and want in the relationship. Being open and honest about your desires and emotions can strengthen your marriage and help you both be happier.
Use “I” statements to tell them what you need rather than pointing blame. For instance, you may say something like, “I feel ignored when you come home and watch TV before talking to me,” or “I want to spend more time with friends on the weekend to unwind.”
3-3. Listen and forgive your spouse to be understanding.
Sometimes, all it takes to be a good wife is a listening ear and an accepting nature. Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s important to actively listen to your spouse and accept their apologies (as long as your feel comfortable doing so) when you can.
Admit your own mistakes in return, as the best relationships strive on honesty.
Reach out to a couple’s therapist if you need help processing your feelings and rebuilding your relationship.
3-4. Choose your battles
Debates can be a healthy way to get your opinions across and learn something new, but full-on arguments can hurt both parties. When reprimanding your spouse, don’t sweat the small stuff. Pick your battles and ask yourself, “Would an argument over this solve something or make matters worse?”
Try writing your concerns down before bringing them up in conversation.
3-5. Be respectful
Disagreements are bound to happen in a marriage, and that’s completely normal. If a discussion gets heated, take a deep breath and consider their opinion or reasoning. Even if you don’t agree, use a level and even tone to explain your concerns. Not all couples have identical morals, beliefs, or attitudes, but being understanding and respectful of each other can strengthen your relationship.
Try bringing up touchy subjects at a time when you and your spouse can talk one-on-one without distractions. For example, bringing up a late bill or complaint about the in-laws may not be wise to do at dinner time in front of your children.
3-6. Work with your spouse to find solutions when you disagree.
No marriage is perfect, and that’s okay. Recognizing that you and your spouse are bound to disagree every once and a while helps you be the best wife you can be. Instead of making winning your goal, focus on your needs as a couple.
Lower your expectations when it comes to romance, finances, and conflict. Aiming high is great, but remember that life as a married couple is all about change and growth.
Accept change by remembering that whatever happens, you and your spouse are dealing with it as a team, not as people on opposite sides of the battle.
3-7. Talk to your spouse, not about them, when it comes to marital issues.
If you have a problem or concern with how your spouse behaves, try your best to work it out with them first before talking to your friends and family. This shows your partner that you respect them and are willing to work out any martial issues together.
If you don’t feel safe talking to your spouse, it’s okay to reach out for help. Therapists and domestic abuse hotlines can provide you with guidance and offer plenty of solutions.
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You may even discover a new dream while you talk.\\nPlan week-long or weekend getaways with each other to relax and destress.\\n1-3. Support your spouse by accepting them for who they are.\\nOne of the best things you can do for your spouse is be there for them through thick and thin. They’re an ever-evolving person—just like you! Their interests, career, and attitude may change, but you can be a good wife by being with them through it all. Focus on helping them be the best version of themselves rather than trying to change them.\\n1-4. Work with your spouse to manage stress as a couple.\\nLife can be stressful, and it’s important to be there for your spouse through the ups and downs. Be a good listener and discuss solutions with your partner about anxieties and worries. Not only can this help improve your relationship, but it can also help them be a better partner for you when you’re stressed.\\nTry exercising together to let out your frustrations. Moving your bodies together can help clear your minds and look at problems with new perspectives.\\n1-5. Take care of yourself\\nHow are you supposed to make your spouse happy if you're not happy? Make time to do things you like to do without your spouse. Perhaps that’s attending a weekly yoga class, reading a book, or grabbing drinks with a few girl friends. Focusing on yourself doesn’t make you a bad wife—it makes you a great one!\\nSelf-care is an easy way to set boundaries in a relationship, as spending time with yourself and doing something you love can help you recharge emotionally.\\n2. Affection and Intimacy\\n2-1. Kiss your spouse regularly to stay connected physically.\\nIt can be easy for the honeymoon phase to fizzle out after you’ve been married for a long time. Even though it seems rather simple, kissing your spouse can help spark intimate feelings and increase sex drive. Try kissing them before they head off to work, before you go to bed, or when they look extra sexy. This is a great way to please them and yourself all while keeping the passion alive.\\nAdd other aspects of physical touch into your daily routine as a couple. Holding hands and hugging are just as important as a steamy kiss.\\n2-2. Schedule date nights to stay romantically interested in each other.\\nNo matter how busy you are, how stressful your job is, or how many kids you have, make time to spend a romantic evening with your spouse. Aim for a date every 2 weeks or as often as you can. Designate a day where it’s just you and them. Believe it or not, dressing up for each other and spending a night alone can renew your romantic connection.\\nDate nights can be as simple or romantic as you like. As long as you do something you both like together, you’re sure to have a great time!\\nTry spending a romantic night in, bowling, playing mini-golf, seeing a movie, or splurging at a high-end restaurant.\\n2-3. Turn your bedroom into a romantic sanctuary to initiate sex.\\nRemove TVs, laptops, and work-related materials from the bedroom. Make the bed with silk sheets and cover the windows with black-out curtains. Light a few candles or turn on a diffuser with a favorite essential oil. Create an inviting space meant for sex and sleep to help you and your spouse unwind after a long day.\\nOpt for a vanilla or woodsy candle or essential oil to heighten the sexy mood.\\nPlay romantic music softly in the background. This can be a playlist of songs representing your relationship or an arousing instrumental track.\\n2-4. Make time for physical intimacy to keep the romance alive.\\nLife can get busy, which sometimes means putting sex on the back burner. Try scheduling sex into your weekly or monthly routine. Pick a day that works for both of you—maybe that’s a weekend or a holiday you both have off work. This can give you both something to look forward to while improving your sex lives.\\nBuy a new sexy outfit or plan a romantic evening leading up to your designated lovemaking day.\\nMarking a day to have sex doesn’t mean you can’t have it any other day. Be spontaneous when you can!\\n3. Communication\\n3-1. Support your spouse by asking what they need in the relationship.\\nRecognizing what’s important for your partner can help you do what’s best for them. Maybe they’re craving more physical intimacy, want some alone time, or would like to spend more time with you. Understanding their wants and needs helps you cultivate an environment you can both be happy in while improving your relationship.\\nDon’t sacrifice your needs for theirs. There’s always a happy medium, so make sure you’re not compromising your own happiness. After all, you can’t be a good wife if you’re not happy yourself!\\n3-2. Express your feelings and needs to your spouse.\\nYour spouse doesn't know what you’re thinking 100% of the time, so don’t be afraid to let them in every once and a while. Talk to them about what you need and want in the relationship. Being open and honest about your desires and emotions can strengthen your marriage and help you both be happier.\\nUse “I” statements to tell them what you need rather than pointing blame. For instance, you may say something like, “I feel ignored when you come home and watch TV before talking to me,” or “I want to spend more time with friends on the weekend to unwind.”\\n3-3. Listen and forgive your spouse to be understanding.\\nSometimes, all it takes to be a good wife is a listening ear and an accepting nature. Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s important to actively listen to your spouse and accept their apologies (as long as your feel comfortable doing so) when you can.\\nAdmit your own mistakes in return, as the best relationships strive on honesty.\\nReach out to a couple’s therapist if you need help processing your feelings and rebuilding your relationship.\\n3-4. Choose your battles\\nDebates can be a healthy way to get your opinions across and learn something new, but full-on arguments can hurt both parties. When reprimanding your spouse, don’t sweat the small stuff. Pick your battles and ask yourself, “Would an argument over this solve something or make matters worse?”\\nTry writing your concerns down before bringing them up in conversation.\\n3-5. Be respectful\\nDisagreements are bound to happen in a marriage, and that’s completely normal. If a discussion gets heated, take a deep breath and consider their opinion or reasoning. Even if you don’t agree, use a level and even tone to explain your concerns. Not all couples have identical morals, beliefs, or attitudes, but being understanding and respectful of each other can strengthen your relationship.\\nTry bringing up touchy subjects at a time when you and your spouse can talk one-on-one without distractions. For example, bringing up a late bill or complaint about the in-laws may not be wise to do at dinner time in front of your children.\\n3-6. Work with your spouse to find solutions when you disagree.\\nNo marriage is perfect, and that’s okay. Recognizing that you and your spouse are bound to disagree every once and a while helps you be the best wife you can be. Instead of making winning your goal, focus on your needs as a couple.\\nLower your expectations when it comes to romance, finances, and conflict. Aiming high is great, but remember that life as a married couple is all about change and growth.\\nAccept change by remembering that whatever happens, you and your spouse are dealing with it as a team, not as people on opposite sides of the battle.\\n3-7. Talk to your spouse, not about them, when it comes to marital issues.\\nIf you have a problem or concern with how your spouse behaves, try your best to work it out with them first before talking to your friends and family. This shows your partner that you respect them and are willing to work out any martial issues together.\\nIf you don’t feel safe talking to your spouse, it’s okay to reach out for help. Therapists and domestic abuse hotlines can provide you with guidance and offer plenty of solutions.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You love your spouse with all your heart, but how can you show that to them? Being a good wife is all about tending to their needs while maintaining your own identity. It’s a balance, caring for them while caring for yourself, but you can do it! In this article, we’ll teach you how to be a good wife through friendship, romance, and communication. Keep reading to learn how you can be the best wife, please your spouse, and stay true to yourself.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Companionship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spend time with your spouse to form a lasting friendship.\", \"描述\": \"Romance isn’t the only thing that holds your relationship together. Intimacy is all about caring for your partner unconditionally. 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4 Training Tips & Tricks for Soccer Wing Players
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1. Improving Speed
1-1. Improve your speed.
The most basic physical attributes that a good winger should have is speed. With speed, you would be able to bomb down the wings like Ronaldo or Messi. To improve your speed, follow the steps laid out in this section.
1-2. Have a friend place both of his hands on your shoulders.
1-3. Try to run as hard as you can in the direction of your friend while he tries to prevent you from doing so with his or her hands on your shoulders.
1-4. Ask your friend to let go and move away after about 10 seconds.
This should result in you running at full speed in a forward motion.
1-5. Repeat this method at least 10 times a week.
You should find that your speed will increase in about a month or so. This method is widely used by many athletes to beef up their speed.
2. Increasing Stamina
Work on your stamina.
Another physical attribute that a good winger should possess is stamina. A way to build this up is through swimming and frequent long distance jogs at high altitudes. The former increases lung capacity while the latter increases the amount of red blood cells that your body produces. These types of exercise increase the amount of oxygen you can take in your lungs with a single breath.
3. Dribbling and Agility
3-1. Increase your agility.
No winger would be complete without good dribbling and agility. How to build these up? Simple––follow the suggestions in this section.
3-2. Do daily dribbling and movement with the ball in confined spaces.
A good place to do it would be in your own home. But please avoid any damage to any thing or person.
3-3. Do lots of turns with the ball and get accustomed to the leg movements.
The more you do, the better your ball control will be. Ball control is essential for dribbling.
3-4. Run.
As for agility, you can do shuttle runs on a weekly basis. Try to time yourself every time you do it and make an effort to beat your timing at every attempt.
Also, you could learn some dribbling moves through viewing tutorial videos on YouTube.
3-5. Work on improving your weak foot.
You need to be able to cross, pass, and shoot with both feet. Many of the world's greatest wingers are two-footed and are so dangerous because they are able to cut in and shoot or drift wide and cross. Work on using you weak foot to control, pass, and shoot the ball. It may feel awkward at first, but eventually, you will get used to it and it will feel natural.
4. Positioning
4-1. Look for space when your team is in possession.
Run to the space and do this very frequently.
4-2. Use your vision to help find spaces which aren't offside.
Place yourself there regularly at right moments.
4-3. Ask for someone to pass to you in that space.
If in wing position, cross or dribble and shoot or pass.
Tips
Practice for several hours every day and then you will see how much your touch improves.
Dribble in and out of the cones to have more control over the ball.
Touch the ball everyday. That is the key to becoming a good soccer player. The more you get accustomed to the ball, the better you will be.
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A way to build this up is through swimming and frequent long distance jogs at high altitudes. The former increases lung capacity while the latter increases the amount of red blood cells that your body produces. These types of exercise increase the amount of oxygen you can take in your lungs with a single breath.\\n3. Dribbling and Agility\\n3-1. Increase your agility.\\nNo winger would be complete without good dribbling and agility. How to build these up? Simple––follow the suggestions in this section.\\n3-2. Do daily dribbling and movement with the ball in confined spaces.\\nA good place to do it would be in your own home. But please avoid any damage to any thing or person.\\n3-3. Do lots of turns with the ball and get accustomed to the leg movements.\\nThe more you do, the better your ball control will be. Ball control is essential for dribbling.\\n3-4. Run.\\nAs for agility, you can do shuttle runs on a weekly basis. Try to time yourself every time you do it and make an effort to beat your timing at every attempt.\\nAlso, you could learn some dribbling moves through viewing tutorial videos on YouTube.\\n3-5. Work on improving your weak foot.\\nYou need to be able to cross, pass, and shoot with both feet. Many of the world's greatest wingers are two-footed and are so dangerous because they are able to cut in and shoot or drift wide and cross. Work on using you weak foot to control, pass, and shoot the ball. It may feel awkward at first, but eventually, you will get used to it and it will feel natural.\\n4. Positioning\\n4-1. Look for space when your team is in possession.\\nRun to the space and do this very frequently.\\n4-2. Use your vision to help find spaces which aren't offside.\\nPlace yourself there regularly at right moments.\\n4-3. Ask for someone to pass to you in that space.\\nIf in wing position, cross or dribble and shoot or pass.\\nTips\\nPractice for several hours every day and then you will see how much your touch improves.\\nDribble in and out of the cones to have more control over the ball.\\nTouch the ball everyday. That is the key to becoming a good soccer player. The more you get accustomed to the ball, the better you will be.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Fast. Agile. Dependable. That's what it takes to be a soccer wing player. The winger position is all about taking wide attacks. These players are on either side of the field, playing close to the sidelines. It's their job to attack, cross, and pass the ball into the most active areas. Because of this, wingers have to have incredible stamina and ability. Their teammates depend on them! So, do you have what it takes to be a good winger? Follow these training techniques to stay on top of your game.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving Speed\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improve your speed.\", \"描述\": \"The most basic physical attributes that a good winger should have is speed. With speed, you would be able to bomb down the wings like Ronaldo or Messi. To improve your speed, follow the steps laid out in this section.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have a friend place both of his hands on your shoulders.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try to run as hard as you can in the direction of your friend while he tries to prevent you from doing so with his or her hands on your shoulders.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask your friend to let go and move away after about 10 seconds.\", \"描述\": \"This should result in you running at full speed in a forward motion.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Repeat this method at least 10 times a week.\", \"描述\": \"You should find that your speed will increase in about a month or so. This method is widely used by many athletes to beef up their speed.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Increasing Stamina\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on your stamina.\", \"描述\": \"Another physical attribute that a good winger should possess is stamina. A way to build this up is through swimming and frequent long distance jogs at high altitudes. The former increases lung capacity while the latter increases the amount of red blood cells that your body produces. These types of exercise increase the amount of oxygen you can take in your lungs with a single breath.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dribbling and Agility\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Increase your agility.\", \"描述\": \"No winger would be complete without good dribbling and agility. How to build these up? Simple––follow the suggestions in this section.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do daily dribbling and movement with the ball in confined spaces.\", \"描述\": \"A good place to do it would be in your own home. But please avoid any damage to any thing or person.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do lots of turns with the ball and get accustomed to the leg movements.\", \"描述\": \"The more you do, the better your ball control will be. Ball control is essential for dribbling.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Run.\", \"描述\": \"As for agility, you can do shuttle runs on a weekly basis. Try to time yourself every time you do it and make an effort to beat your timing at every attempt.\\nAlso, you could learn some dribbling moves through viewing tutorial videos on YouTube.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Work on improving your weak foot.\", \"描述\": \"You need to be able to cross, pass, and shoot with both feet. Many of the world's greatest wingers are two-footed and are so dangerous because they are able to cut in and shoot or drift wide and cross. Work on using you weak foot to control, pass, and shoot the ball. It may feel awkward at first, but eventually, you will get used to it and it will feel natural.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Positioning\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look for space when your team is in possession.\", \"描述\": \"Run to the space and do this very frequently.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use your vision to help find spaces which aren't offside.\", \"描述\": \"Place yourself there regularly at right moments.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask for someone to pass to you in that space.\", \"描述\": \"If in wing position, cross or dribble and shoot or pass.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Practice for several hours every day and then you will see how much your touch improves.\\n\", \"Dribble in and out of the cones to have more control over the ball.\\n\", \"Touch the ball everyday. That is the key to becoming a good soccer player. The more you get accustomed to the ball, the better you will be.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Approaching the Person Together
1-1. Wing only for people who are roughly at your level.
Don't try to wing for someone who is significantly less appealing than you. These are harsh words, but they are true. You and your friend should be pretty similar in terms of your attractiveness, your outgoing nature, and your general appeal. Otherwise, the people you meet are likely to latch on to you, and your buddy will feel even worse.
This doesn't mean that your friend can't appeal to people just because they’re less attractive than you. But if they also lack charisma and flirting skills, while you're a smooth operator, then you won't have much luck.
1-2. Give your leader the first choice of people.
That's what the wingman is for, right? If you're winging, it's either because you owe your friend one, because you're not single, or just because you want your friend to have a good time. That means you can't switch roles and take over engaging the person that your friend has their eye on.
Learn how to read cues to tell which person your friend wants. You might even want to designate hand, eye, or verbal signals beforehand.
1-3. Let your friend take the lead.
When you come up to a group, make it so they notice your friend first. Stand a bit behind and to the side of your leader — literally positioning yourself like a wing. Also try to replicate the leader’s attitude and body language — if they’re going for “super-friendly” or “super-chill,” follow suit.
You don't have to look like a total dud during this process, of course — don’t make it seem like you’re hiding/lurking/cowering behind your buddy. Think of yourself as the Robin to their Batman.
1-4. Don’t initiate the conversation yourself.
Let your friend make the introductions and start talking with the people, while you slowly make your way into the conversation. Otherwise, it won’t be clear who’s in charge. Remember that Batman always talks before Robin.
If there is just one person, you can let your friend talk to them first and join in later.
If there are two people, give your leader a few minutes to warm up to both of them before you join in.
1-5. Keep the target’s friend busy while your leader works.
For the rest of the night, occupying the main target’s friend(s) is your primary goal. If it’s a group of two, spend your time focusing on the secondary person by distracting and keeping them busy. Try to pay as little attention as possible to the primary person, even if they seem interested in you.
It's important that, once you figure out which person your friend wants, you stick to the other person from the beginning. If you try to switch off midway through, your targets will get confused.
2. Maintaining a Supporting Position
2-1. Provide interference if necessary.
Think of yourself as part friend, part bodyguard. If other people come your way to horn in on the object of your friend's eye, it’s your job to get them out of the way without looking like a jerk. The more attractive and appealing the person of your friend’s advances is, the more you must be on the lookout for interlopers.
Stave off interlopers by distracting them, getting in their way, or subtly annoying them until they buzz off.
2-2. Speak up and shut up at the right times.
You should make the person group laugh here and there, reveal a bit about yourself, and keep the conversation flowing, but you shouldn't talk so much that you end up stealing the show. Your friend should be the one who does more of the talking, and you should bail them out when there's an awkward silence or when you can contribute something that makes your friend look good.
Don't interrupt your friend when they’re talking unless you really have something to add. Otherwise, you'll make your friend look like a chump.
If it does get a little quiet, don't say "Now this is awkward..." Just speak up and get the ball rolling again.
2-3. Don't get distracted.
Maybe the most beautiful gal or guy you’ve ever seen just rolled in. Maybe your favorite team has gone into overtime with their biggest rival. Maybe your brother called, asking for a favor. That's all well and good, but not tonight, if you want to be a good wingman.
You need laser focus on the task at hand — to help your friend go home with, or at least to get the number of, the person they’re interested in.
Tell yourself that you're doing your friend a favor, and that you'll get your turn another day.
2-4. Don't get too intoxicated to be useful.
This should go without saying, but this is a mistake wingmen are prone to making. So what if you're stuck talking to someone you don't really care about? If you drink too much, you will look like a fool and make your friend look like a fool by association. And who wants to go home with a fool?
Pace yourself. Unless you’re both the designated wingman and designated driver, it’s fine to drink enough to keep near the pace of the group. But call it a night if you start to lose focus.
2-5. Stay in it for the long haul.
Getting tired? Wanting to go home to play video games? Too bad. Tonight is not your night to make decisions. Unless you really have a pressing reason to go home or are having a particularly horrible time, you have to grin and bear it.
As soon as you say you have to go home, the spell is over, and you will have ruined your friend's chances if they haven’t come close to closing the deal.
If you really need to leave, give your friend some advance notice — maybe even by text — so they can come up with a plan for staying in touch with the person.
2-6. Mention if you’re in a relationship — eventually.
If you approach two targets and announce that you have a boy/girlfriend within the first five minutes, they probably won't hang around to talk to you. But if you go two hours without mentioning this fact, then you'll look sketchy. Find a casual way to introduce your relationship status into the conversation, once you've gotten to know the person group a bit better.
Many leaders prefer a wingman who’s in a relationship, since they’re less likely to try to steal the main person. Also, a wingman who smoothly lets it be known that they’re taken can help ensure that the main person will focus on the leader even more.
3. Ensuring Your Leader’s Success
3-1. Make your friend look good — but not too good.
You might think that your goal as a wingman is to tell the target that your pal is the smartest, coolest, richest, and most talented person around. However, the target will quickly catch on to your game if you go down this path, so make your friend look good only if you can make it a part of the conversation naturally.
This doesn't mean that you should put your friend down or make them look like a loser, though. That won't help, either, and you'll both end up looking foolish.
3-2. Keep your friend presentable.
Let your buddy know if they spilled beer on their pants or have something stuck in their teeth. Also let them know if they’re getting too drunk and looking like a fool. If you want your friend to succeed, then you have to keep them looking good. Even if you're occupying the target’s friend, don't ignore your own friend completely; make sure they’re staying on track.
If you do have to tell them that they spilled a drink on their shirt or that something about their appearance is off, try to be subtle about it. Setting up a series of signals beforehand might help.
3-3. Let your friend know if they have no chance.
This is another key aspect of being a wingman. If you see them talking for a long time to someone who’s looking around the room or checking their phone every five seconds, you'll be doing your friend a favor by saying, "Hey, I think we should move on." Though their pride may be wounded, they'll thank you for not wasting the night.
An hour is the maximum amount of time to wait. You can often figure out whether or not the target is warming up to your friend in as little as ten to fifteen minutes — and sometimes almost instantly.
Remember — a good wingman has to make the tough decisions sometimes, even if they’re not popular in the moment.
3-4. Highlight connections between your friend and the target.
Look for things that the two have in common, and try to help them find that common bond whenever you can. If the target mentions that they just took a trip to L.A., mention that your friend is from there (especially if they missed the comment). If you notice the target has a keychain with your pal’s favorite NFL team’s logo, tell them that your friend has season tickets. Look for opportunities to enhance the connection between your friend and the target.
You can enhance the truth a bit, but don’t make it too much of a stretch. You can't force them to bond over something your friend really doesn’t know all that much about.
3-5. Break formation and depart when your work is done.
At the end of the night, you should hang back and let your friend work their magic. If you have the target’s friend to occupy, you can move on somewhere else first so they feel more comfortable. If you've both been talking to a solo target, go to the bathroom or order another drink while your friend’s wrapping up. Get out of the way so your friend can get a phone number — or someone to take home.
Make sure you have your own way of getting home if necessary. You don’t want to kill the mood by sharing their cab home.
If it just doesn’t work out in the end, don't sweat it. You tried your best — and that’s all that can be asked of a wingman.
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That means you can't switch roles and take over engaging the person that your friend has their eye on.\\nLearn how to read cues to tell which person your friend wants. You might even want to designate hand, eye, or verbal signals beforehand.\\n1-3. Let your friend take the lead.\\nWhen you come up to a group, make it so they notice your friend first. Stand a bit behind and to the side of your leader — literally positioning yourself like a wing. Also try to replicate the leader’s attitude and body language — if they’re going for “super-friendly” or “super-chill,” follow suit. \\nYou don't have to look like a total dud during this process, of course — don’t make it seem like you’re hiding/lurking/cowering behind your buddy. Think of yourself as the Robin to their Batman.\\n1-4. Don’t initiate the conversation yourself.\\nLet your friend make the introductions and start talking with the people, while you slowly make your way into the conversation. Otherwise, it won’t be clear who’s in charge. Remember that Batman always talks before Robin.\\nIf there is just one person, you can let your friend talk to them first and join in later.\\nIf there are two people, give your leader a few minutes to warm up to both of them before you join in.\\n1-5. Keep the target’s friend busy while your leader works.\\nFor the rest of the night, occupying the main target’s friend(s) is your primary goal. If it’s a group of two, spend your time focusing on the secondary person by distracting and keeping them busy. Try to pay as little attention as possible to the primary person, even if they seem interested in you.\\nIt's important that, once you figure out which person your friend wants, you stick to the other person from the beginning. If you try to switch off midway through, your targets will get confused.\\n2. Maintaining a Supporting Position\\n2-1. Provide interference if necessary.\\nThink of yourself as part friend, part bodyguard. If other people come your way to horn in on the object of your friend's eye, it’s your job to get them out of the way without looking like a jerk. The more attractive and appealing the person of your friend’s advances is, the more you must be on the lookout for interlopers.\\nStave off interlopers by distracting them, getting in their way, or subtly annoying them until they buzz off.\\n2-2. Speak up and shut up at the right times.\\nYou should make the person group laugh here and there, reveal a bit about yourself, and keep the conversation flowing, but you shouldn't talk so much that you end up stealing the show. Your friend should be the one who does more of the talking, and you should bail them out when there's an awkward silence or when you can contribute something that makes your friend look good.\\nDon't interrupt your friend when they’re talking unless you really have something to add. Otherwise, you'll make your friend look like a chump.\\nIf it does get a little quiet, don't say \\\"Now this is awkward...\\\" Just speak up and get the ball rolling again.\\n2-3. Don't get distracted.\\nMaybe the most beautiful gal or guy you’ve ever seen just rolled in. Maybe your favorite team has gone into overtime with their biggest rival. Maybe your brother called, asking for a favor. That's all well and good, but not tonight, if you want to be a good wingman.\\nYou need laser focus on the task at hand — to help your friend go home with, or at least to get the number of, the person they’re interested in.\\nTell yourself that you're doing your friend a favor, and that you'll get your turn another day.\\n2-4. Don't get too intoxicated to be useful.\\nThis should go without saying, but this is a mistake wingmen are prone to making. So what if you're stuck talking to someone you don't really care about? If you drink too much, you will look like a fool and make your friend look like a fool by association. And who wants to go home with a fool?\\nPace yourself. Unless you’re both the designated wingman and designated driver, it’s fine to drink enough to keep near the pace of the group. But call it a night if you start to lose focus.\\n2-5. Stay in it for the long haul.\\nGetting tired? Wanting to go home to play video games? Too bad. Tonight is not your night to make decisions. Unless you really have a pressing reason to go home or are having a particularly horrible time, you have to grin and bear it.\\nAs soon as you say you have to go home, the spell is over, and you will have ruined your friend's chances if they haven’t come close to closing the deal.\\nIf you really need to leave, give your friend some advance notice — maybe even by text — so they can come up with a plan for staying in touch with the person.\\n2-6. Mention if you’re in a relationship — eventually.\\nIf you approach two targets and announce that you have a boy/girlfriend within the first five minutes, they probably won't hang around to talk to you. But if you go two hours without mentioning this fact, then you'll look sketchy. Find a casual way to introduce your relationship status into the conversation, once you've gotten to know the person group a bit better.\\nMany leaders prefer a wingman who’s in a relationship, since they’re less likely to try to steal the main person. Also, a wingman who smoothly lets it be known that they’re taken can help ensure that the main person will focus on the leader even more.\\n3. Ensuring Your Leader’s Success\\n3-1. Make your friend look good — but not too good.\\nYou might think that your goal as a wingman is to tell the target that your pal is the smartest, coolest, richest, and most talented person around. However, the target will quickly catch on to your game if you go down this path, so make your friend look good only if you can make it a part of the conversation naturally.\\nThis doesn't mean that you should put your friend down or make them look like a loser, though. That won't help, either, and you'll both end up looking foolish.\\n3-2. Keep your friend presentable.\\nLet your buddy know if they spilled beer on their pants or have something stuck in their teeth. Also let them know if they’re getting too drunk and looking like a fool. If you want your friend to succeed, then you have to keep them looking good. Even if you're occupying the target’s friend, don't ignore your own friend completely; make sure they’re staying on track.\\nIf you do have to tell them that they spilled a drink on their shirt or that something about their appearance is off, try to be subtle about it. Setting up a series of signals beforehand might help.\\n3-3. Let your friend know if they have no chance.\\nThis is another key aspect of being a wingman. If you see them talking for a long time to someone who’s looking around the room or checking their phone every five seconds, you'll be doing your friend a favor by saying, \\\"Hey, I think we should move on.\\\" Though their pride may be wounded, they'll thank you for not wasting the night.\\nAn hour is the maximum amount of time to wait. You can often figure out whether or not the target is warming up to your friend in as little as ten to fifteen minutes — and sometimes almost instantly.\\nRemember — a good wingman has to make the tough decisions sometimes, even if they’re not popular in the moment.\\n3-4. Highlight connections between your friend and the target.\\nLook for things that the two have in common, and try to help them find that common bond whenever you can. If the target mentions that they just took a trip to L.A., mention that your friend is from there (especially if they missed the comment). If you notice the target has a keychain with your pal’s favorite NFL team’s logo, tell them that your friend has season tickets. Look for opportunities to enhance the connection between your friend and the target.\\nYou can enhance the truth a bit, but don’t make it too much of a stretch. You can't force them to bond over something your friend really doesn’t know all that much about.\\n3-5. Break formation and depart when your work is done.\\nAt the end of the night, you should hang back and let your friend work their magic. If you have the target’s friend to occupy, you can move on somewhere else first so they feel more comfortable. If you've both been talking to a solo target, go to the bathroom or order another drink while your friend’s wrapping up. Get out of the way so your friend can get a phone number — or someone to take home.\\nMake sure you have your own way of getting home if necessary. You don’t want to kill the mood by sharing their cab home.\\nIf it just doesn’t work out in the end, don't sweat it. You tried your best — and that’s all that can be asked of a wingman.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a good wingman is all about helping your buddy — the leader for the night out — “engage the target” they have in their sights at the party, bar, club, or other venue. Whatever your reason for winging for your friend, your job is to avoid stealing the spotlight and help your friend succeed with the person they want, all without calling too much attention to yourself. Do your job well, and your buddy will owe you big-time when it’s their turn to be your wingman.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Approaching the Person Together\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wing only for people who are roughly at your level.\", \"描述\": \"Don't try to wing for someone who is significantly less appealing than you. These are harsh words, but they are true. You and your friend should be pretty similar in terms of your attractiveness, your outgoing nature, and your general appeal. Otherwise, the people you meet are likely to latch on to you, and your buddy will feel even worse.\\nThis doesn't mean that your friend can't appeal to people just because they’re less attractive than you. But if they also lack charisma and flirting skills, while you're a smooth operator, then you won't have much luck.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Give your leader the first choice of people.\", \"描述\": \"That's what the wingman is for, right? If you're winging, it's either because you owe your friend one, because you're not single, or just because you want your friend to have a good time. That means you can't switch roles and take over engaging the person that your friend has their eye on.\\nLearn how to read cues to tell which person your friend wants. You might even want to designate hand, eye, or verbal signals beforehand.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let your friend take the lead.\", \"描述\": \"When you come up to a group, make it so they notice your friend first. Stand a bit behind and to the side of your leader — literally positioning yourself like a wing. Also try to replicate the leader’s attitude and body language — if they’re going for “super-friendly” or “super-chill,” follow suit. \\nYou don't have to look like a total dud during this process, of course — don’t make it seem like you’re hiding/lurking/cowering behind your buddy. Think of yourself as the Robin to their Batman.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t initiate the conversation yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Let your friend make the introductions and start talking with the people, while you slowly make your way into the conversation. Otherwise, it won’t be clear who’s in charge. Remember that Batman always talks before Robin.\\nIf there is just one person, you can let your friend talk to them first and join in later.\\nIf there are two people, give your leader a few minutes to warm up to both of them before you join in.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep the target’s friend busy while your leader works.\", \"描述\": \"For the rest of the night, occupying the main target’s friend(s) is your primary goal. If it’s a group of two, spend your time focusing on the secondary person by distracting and keeping them busy. Try to pay as little attention as possible to the primary person, even if they seem interested in you.\\nIt's important that, once you figure out which person your friend wants, you stick to the other person from the beginning. If you try to switch off midway through, your targets will get confused.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintaining a Supporting Position\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Provide interference if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"Think of yourself as part friend, part bodyguard. If other people come your way to horn in on the object of your friend's eye, it’s your job to get them out of the way without looking like a jerk. The more attractive and appealing the person of your friend’s advances is, the more you must be on the lookout for interlopers.\\nStave off interlopers by distracting them, getting in their way, or subtly annoying them until they buzz off.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak up and shut up at the right times.\", \"描述\": \"You should make the person group laugh here and there, reveal a bit about yourself, and keep the conversation flowing, but you shouldn't talk so much that you end up stealing the show. Your friend should be the one who does more of the talking, and you should bail them out when there's an awkward silence or when you can contribute something that makes your friend look good.\\nDon't interrupt your friend when they’re talking unless you really have something to add. Otherwise, you'll make your friend look like a chump.\\nIf it does get a little quiet, don't say \\\"Now this is awkward...\\\" Just speak up and get the ball rolling again.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't get distracted.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe the most beautiful gal or guy you’ve ever seen just rolled in. Maybe your favorite team has gone into overtime with their biggest rival. Maybe your brother called, asking for a favor. That's all well and good, but not tonight, if you want to be a good wingman.\\nYou need laser focus on the task at hand — to help your friend go home with, or at least to get the number of, the person they’re interested in.\\nTell yourself that you're doing your friend a favor, and that you'll get your turn another day.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't get too intoxicated to be useful.\", \"描述\": \"This should go without saying, but this is a mistake wingmen are prone to making. So what if you're stuck talking to someone you don't really care about? If you drink too much, you will look like a fool and make your friend look like a fool by association. And who wants to go home with a fool?\\nPace yourself. Unless you’re both the designated wingman and designated driver, it’s fine to drink enough to keep near the pace of the group. But call it a night if you start to lose focus.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay in it for the long haul.\", \"描述\": \"Getting tired? Wanting to go home to play video games? Too bad. Tonight is not your night to make decisions. Unless you really have a pressing reason to go home or are having a particularly horrible time, you have to grin and bear it.\\nAs soon as you say you have to go home, the spell is over, and you will have ruined your friend's chances if they haven’t come close to closing the deal.\\nIf you really need to leave, give your friend some advance notice — maybe even by text — so they can come up with a plan for staying in touch with the person.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Mention if you’re in a relationship — eventually.\", \"描述\": \"If you approach two targets and announce that you have a boy/girlfriend within the first five minutes, they probably won't hang around to talk to you. But if you go two hours without mentioning this fact, then you'll look sketchy. Find a casual way to introduce your relationship status into the conversation, once you've gotten to know the person group a bit better.\\nMany leaders prefer a wingman who’s in a relationship, since they’re less likely to try to steal the main person. Also, a wingman who smoothly lets it be known that they’re taken can help ensure that the main person will focus on the leader even more.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ensuring Your Leader’s Success\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make your friend look good — but not too good.\", \"描述\": \"You might think that your goal as a wingman is to tell the target that your pal is the smartest, coolest, richest, and most talented person around. However, the target will quickly catch on to your game if you go down this path, so make your friend look good only if you can make it a part of the conversation naturally.\\nThis doesn't mean that you should put your friend down or make them look like a loser, though. That won't help, either, and you'll both end up looking foolish.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your friend presentable.\", \"描述\": \"Let your buddy know if they spilled beer on their pants or have something stuck in their teeth. Also let them know if they’re getting too drunk and looking like a fool. If you want your friend to succeed, then you have to keep them looking good. Even if you're occupying the target’s friend, don't ignore your own friend completely; make sure they’re staying on track.\\nIf you do have to tell them that they spilled a drink on their shirt or that something about their appearance is off, try to be subtle about it. Setting up a series of signals beforehand might help.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let your friend know if they have no chance.\", \"描述\": \"This is another key aspect of being a wingman. If you see them talking for a long time to someone who’s looking around the room or checking their phone every five seconds, you'll be doing your friend a favor by saying, \\\"Hey, I think we should move on.\\\" Though their pride may be wounded, they'll thank you for not wasting the night.\\nAn hour is the maximum amount of time to wait. You can often figure out whether or not the target is warming up to your friend in as little as ten to fifteen minutes — and sometimes almost instantly.\\nRemember — a good wingman has to make the tough decisions sometimes, even if they’re not popular in the moment.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Highlight connections between your friend and the target.\", \"描述\": \"Look for things that the two have in common, and try to help them find that common bond whenever you can. If the target mentions that they just took a trip to L.A., mention that your friend is from there (especially if they missed the comment). If you notice the target has a keychain with your pal’s favorite NFL team’s logo, tell them that your friend has season tickets. Look for opportunities to enhance the connection between your friend and the target.\\nYou can enhance the truth a bit, but don’t make it too much of a stretch. You can't force them to bond over something your friend really doesn’t know all that much about.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Break formation and depart when your work is done.\", \"描述\": \"At the end of the night, you should hang back and let your friend work their magic. If you have the target’s friend to occupy, you can move on somewhere else first so they feel more comfortable. If you've both been talking to a solo target, go to the bathroom or order another drink while your friend’s wrapping up. Get out of the way so your friend can get a phone number — or someone to take home.\\nMake sure you have your own way of getting home if necessary. You don’t want to kill the mood by sharing their cab home.\\nIf it just doesn’t work out in the end, don't sweat it. You tried your best — and that’s all that can be asked of a wingman.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Writing Great Sentences and Paragraphs
1-1. Use simple, clear sentences to make your point.
Good writers use clear, concise language. They don't bog down sentences with extra words and long, winding sections. They cut to the chase and make their point in the simplest language possible. Sometimes it's best to break longer sentences into 2-3 smaller ones.
"The philosophy of Existentialism resists descending into the lofty, theoretical arguments that plagued many early philosophies, and thus gains its power."
"Existentialism became powerful because, unlike earlier, more theoretical philosophies, it is grounded and practical."
"Was the bomb not to ever come to being, America might never have overcome the long, drawn out war in the Pacific."
"Who knows how long the US would have had to fight in the Pacific without the bomb."
"Wandering in the desolate wilderness, Dave sat on a dusty, crepuscular rock and thought about his past while drinking from his almost empty canteen."
"Tired of aimless wandering, Dave sat on a dusty boulder to rest. He opened his canteen, but there were only a few drops left. Tired and thirsty, his mind drifted to his past."
1-2. Be as specific as possible.
People are visual animals - we see things when we read and orient ourselves with images. Give your reader enough specifics to visualize your writing whether you're writing stories, scripts, or speeches. Use 1-2 powerful images or senses to put the reader in your scene, paragraph, or shoes.
I felt tired → "My arms and muscles trembled, and my eyelids fluttered shut no matter how hard I tried to stay awake."
Gina is a nice woman. → "Gina was the kind of woman who baked you a plate of cookies (hot, gooey, smelling like home), just because you said you had a rough day."
To him, the city was terrible. → "He couldn't stand the city - the endless lights, the clatter of cars and pavement, the way all eyes turned downward when you looked at them as if you were the ugliest man in Manhattan and not just another stranger."
1-3. Make connections to help your reader understand your ideas.
Comparing two things, either with a metaphor, simile, or direct comparison, helps your reader make connections and deepens your writing. It gives them something to hold onto that they already understand, which helps them understand your writing. You can even make connections to your own stories, like in the third example here:
"In many ways he was like America itself, big and strong, full of good intentions, a roll of fat jiggling at his belly, slow of foot but always plodding along, always there when you needed him, a believer in the virtues of simplicity and directness and hard labor" (The Things They Carried, Tim O'Brien).
"Like the waters of the river, like the motorists on the highway, and like the yellow trains streaking down the Santa Fe tracks, drama, in the shape of exceptional happenings, had never stopped there" (In Cold Blood, Truman Capote).
"Many years later, as he faced the firing squad, Colonel Aureliano Buendia was to remember that distant afternoon when his father took him to discover ice" (One-Hundred Years of Solitude, Gabriel Garcia Marquez).
“For poems are like rainbows; they escape you quickly" (The Big Sea, Langston Hughes).
1-4. Use adverbs and "fillers" sparingly.
Adverbs, the words that end in -ly and modify actions, are the bane of many great writers. They give a sing-song feel to writing and bog down the meaning of a sentence in useless little modifications. Notice how, in most cases, the adverbs and filler words (like "really" or "very") don't add a lot to the sentences.
"Jaime was really sorry, and ran quickly over to his friend's house just to apologize."
"What's up?" She asked, happily. "Nothing much," he answered tiredly. She picked her face absently and said, "I wanted to talk about something." "I don't have time," he responded curtly.
1-5. Treat every paragraph, scene, and chapter like its own small argument.
Great paragraphs should be self-contained. They have a beginning, middle, and end. Otherwise, they don't actually move the story or essay along. Thought of another way, every paragraph and scene should end in a different place than where it started.
Ernest Hemingway was the master of economy. It is hard to find an extra paragraph or scene in any of his short stories or books.
Great journalism is a good way to see how each smaller part pushes the story forward. Read your favorite newspaper, but stop after every paragraph -- what did it accomplish?
Though not strictly a paragraph, Shakespearean monologues are a masterclass in growth and power in a short span. Listen to Hamlet's famous first monologue -- note how different he is in beginning and end.
1-6. Break all of the previous rules when it feels right.
Sometimes, the best way to get your point across is a long, winding sentence that packs in a multitude of meaning. Occasionally, you really do need adverbs and silly filler words to make a point perfectly. A direct point can be better than an indirect comparison. Sometimes a paragraph is there to provide tone, to slow down the pacing, or pause on a beautiful description, even if it "accomplishes" nothing.
2. Practicing Your Writing
2-1. Write every day.
Writing every day is the best way to improve your writing! You may prefer to write a new short scene every day, or work on a long-term, writing project. You might have a daily minimum of one paragraph, or an entire page. It doesn't matter what you write, just that you do it.
When you're a beginner writer, it's best to establish a set time to write each day so you can get in the habit. As you become accustomed to writing every day, you might vary your writing schedule according to your needs.
If you can't find room in your schedule, try getting up early or going to bed late, even if you can only spare fifteen minutes.
It's wise to set writing goals early when starting a new piece and try your best to stick to them.
2-2. Write your way through writer's block.
Don't be so afraid to write something "bad" that you end up staring at a blank document. Getting anything on the page at all can help you get started. Write about how you're stuck and can't think of something to write, or describe an object in the room in painfully exhaustive detail, or rant about something that irritates you. A few minutes of this will often put you in "writing mode" and lead you to another idea.
Look online, in bookstores, or in libraries for collections of writing prompts. These are designed to give you a starting point to work from, and are often ridiculous to spark your imagination and get you started.
2-3. Challenge yourself.
If you've been writing for a while, chances are good that you keep getting drawn back to a particular style, topic, or format. Practicing a favorite type of writing is a great way to keep yourself motivated, but make an effort to vary your writing exercises once in a while. Deliberately tackling new and difficult challenges is vital for improvement in any field. Try these challenges as exercises, whether or not you're interested in polishing the end result:
If your writing projects or your narrators all sound similar, try a different style. Imitate another author, or combine the styles of two authors.
If most of your writing is for a blog, or for one long project, take a break from it. Think of a topic that could never fit into your usual writing project, and write about it. (For a followup challenge, rewrite the piece so it could fit into your project.)
2-4. Trade feedback with a group of supportive writers.
Invite feedback on your writing, and offer to read other writers' drafts. Welcome honest criticism offered as advice for improvement, but keep your writing away from friends who act dismissive or negative. There's a big difference between useful critique, and disheartening negativity.
Look for online communities such as Scribophile or WritersCafe, or search for a more niche community on a specific type of writing.
Check your local library and community centers for information on local writing clubs.
You could even practice writing on a wiki, such as wikiHow or Wikipedia. This lets you help people as you practice, and might be one of the largest communal writing projects you ever undertake.
2-5. Commit yourself to a writing schedule with other people.
If you have trouble getting around to your writing projects, make a commitment to other people to give yourself external motivation. Get a pen pal to write letters to on a regular schedule, or start a blog with weekly updates. Find a writing contest a few weeks in the future, and promise to submit an entry. Join a writing challenge, whether that's a single writing session with a group of friends, or NaNoWriMo's annual "novel in a month" extravaganza.
2-6. Rewrite the pieces you care about.
The first draft of a story always has room for improvement, and often ends up looking quite different after a few revisions. Once you've written a piece that attracts your attention, go through the "finished" piece of writing and find sentences, paragraphs, or whole pages you're dissatisfied with. Rewrite a scene from a different character's perspective, try out alternative plot developments, or change the order of events. If you're not sure why you dislike a passage, rewrite it without referring to the original, then see what you like best in each version.
Scrapping a beloved passage and starting again can be incredibly tough, so much so that writers have been phrasing this advice as "murder your darlings" for over a century.
2-7. Find inspiration
You want to write a story and you are out of ideas for making a unique character? What is more unique than your own personality and your life! Stand in front of the mirror and stare at your reflection. What do you look like? What about your personality? You will have better ideas when you include a character similar to yourself in your writing unless you're writing a biography and have no relationship to the person you are writing about. Also, make sure to look at the lives of the people who are close to you and be inspired by them.
2-8. Surround yourself with nature.
Take a walk to the park, forest, beach, or anywhere outside of the house that you think will be inspirational. Lay down on the grass and listen to birds singing or listen to music and let yourself inhale the smell of fresh grass. Free your mind from everything and let it find inspiration by listening to the world around you.
2-9. Spend time around children.
Since you don't remember every single part of your childhood, this it's a great way to inspire yourself. Try looking at a child's behavior and life. Remember that the presence of a child can be really positive for your mind.
3. Learning Vital Skills
3-1. Read as much as you can.
Writers have a passion for the written word, and there's no better way to stoke that passion than to read. Read as widely as possible, from magazines to young adult novels to history dissertations, although you don't need to feel pressure to finish everything you pick up. Reading builds vocabulary, teaches grammar, provides inspiration, and shows you what can be done with language. For the beginning writer, reading may be just as important as the actual writing.
As you read, pay attention to how the writer constructs their sentences and paragraphs, particularly in sections you really like. Additionally, observe how they craft their opening line, as well as the openings and closings of each chapter.
If you're not sure what to read, ask for recommendations from friends, or visit a library and pick a couple books from each section.
3-2. Expand your vocabulary
While you're reading, keep a dictionary and thesaurus on hand, or write down unfamiliar words to look up later. World class writers have argued over whether to use simple words, or employ sesquipedalian verbiage. That's something for you to decide in your own writing, but not before you learn which tools are available.
Dictionary definitions often don't provide an intuitive sense of how to use a word. Search for the word online and read it in context to get a better understanding.
3-3. Learn the rules of grammar
Sure, there are plenty of famous, excellent books written in non-standard grammar, but learning grammar isn't just about memorizing a set of rules. Studying how a sentence is put together, and how punctuation is used to structure it, gives you the knowledge you need to express yourself the way you intend. If you think this may be a weak point for you, study an English textbook, or find a writing tutor.
Learn how to write without informal grammar if you are not used to formal, written English.
If you have a question about grammar, refer to a grammar book, such as The American Heritage Book of English Usage or Strunk and White's The Elements of Style.
3-4. Tailor your writing to your purpose and your audience.
Just as you change your clothing for the weather and the occasion, you should also change your writing for your audience and your message. Flowery writing, for example, might fit better in a poem than in a status report. Make sure that your word choice and sentence length is not too difficult (or too simplistic) for your audience, if you are addressing a specific group. Avoid specialized jargon when speaking to someone unfamiliar with the topic.
You can learn how to do this by reading good examples by established writers. Pay attention to how they use the specific register, format, and purpose of that type of writing so you can do it yourself.
4. Completing a Writing Project, from Start to Finish
4-1. Brainstorm
While thinking about what to write, put down any idea that comes to you, even if it seems far-fetched or unlikely to be successful. One mediocre idea may lead to a better one.
4-2. Choose a topic you would like to read about.
Find a topic that grabs your attention and thrills you. Your excitement and interest will make it easier for you to keep the project going and keep it to a high standard, and hopefully it will rub off on the reader as well.
4-3. Decide on a rough form for your project.
A serious writing project doesn't need to be a full-length book. Crafting a short story can be a difficult and rewarding challenge, and may be a more time-effective way to practice your skills.
4-4. Write down ideas.
Keep a notebook for writing down observations, overheard conversations, and sudden ideas encountered in your daily life. When you read or hear something that makes you laugh, think, or want to repeat it to someone else, write it down and think about what makes it effective.
You may prefer to keep your ideas in a digital file, such as a Word document or Google Doc. This makes it easier to develop your ideas or insert them into other documents. If you use Google Docs, you can also access your work from several devices.
You may use this notebook or file to collect unfamiliar words as well.
4-5. Plan your writing.
Use whatever technique works best for you, or try out several if you don't have an established process yet. You can make an outline, put a collection of notes on cards and arrange them until they are in order, or draw a tree or map. Your outline may have nothing but a rough order of the events or topics covered, or it may be a more detailed scene-by-scene summary. Building some kind of structure in advance can help keep you going on days when you're feeling low on creativity.
There are many types of organizational software for writers, such as Scrivener or TheSage. You could also use a simple Word document or Google Docs. With Google Docs, you can access your writing from any device.
It's fine to deviate from your plan, but if you abandon it entirely, stop and consider the reasons behind the chance. Build a new plan to guide you through the altered work, and keep you thinking consciously about how you want to get through it.
4-6. Research your subject.
While a work of nonfiction requires you to know your subject, even a fiction book will benefit from research. If your main character is a glassblower, read a book on glassblowing and use the right terminology. If you are writing a book set before you were born, interview people who lived during that time, or who spoke to parents and grandparents who did.
In the case of fiction writing, you may be able to dive in to the first draft before you start your research.
4-7. Write the first draft quickly.
Try writing without pause for as long as you can. Do not stop to change your word choice or correct your grammar, spelling, or punctuation. This is one of the most common recommendations for making sure that you actually finish what you start.
4-8. Rewrite.
Once you have a first draft, reread it and rewrite it. You are looking for errors in grammar and spelling as well as style, content, organization, and coherence. If there are any passages you dislike, get rid of them and write them again from scratch. Critiquing your own work is an important skill, and it takes plenty of practice, just like writing itself.
Give yourself time between writing and editing, if at all possible. It is better to wait a good length of time, but even a short break can give you some of the necessary distance and detachment to edit well.
4-9. Share your work with an audience.
Get feedback on your work in progress from interested readers, whether they are friends, fellow writers, or readers of your writing blog. Try to accept criticism without getting angry or upset; even if you don't agree with the specifics, knowing what parts of your work people dislike can be valuable for focusing your editing.
4-10. Rewrite, rewrite, rewrite.
Don't be afraid to make drastic changes, even cutting whole sections of the project or rewriting it from a different character's perspective. Continue the cycle of feedback and editing as you explore how to perfect your work. If it feels like running in place, remember you are practicing skills that will help you in all your future writing. You can always take a break to write something fun and ridiculous, just to remind yourself that writing can be a blast.
Tips
Sometimes your first drafts are fantastic. There is a common myth that your first drafts are terrible. This may be true because you have made spelling and grammar mistakes, but may not be true with regards to your written content.
Prepare yourself to receive rejection letters from publishers. Instead of being hard on yourself as a result, take them as constructive suggestions on what you can do better.
If you have a good idea, give it away for free. Giving away your free ideas is what great writers do. If you only give away your mediocre or copied ideas, then you are just like every other writer on the planet. Give away your best ideas and you will become a great writer.
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Be as specific as possible.\\nPeople are visual animals - we see things when we read and orient ourselves with images. Give your reader enough specifics to visualize your writing whether you're writing stories, scripts, or speeches. Use 1-2 powerful images or senses to put the reader in your scene, paragraph, or shoes.\\nI felt tired → \\\"My arms and muscles trembled, and my eyelids fluttered shut no matter how hard I tried to stay awake.\\\"\\nGina is a nice woman. → \\\"Gina was the kind of woman who baked you a plate of cookies (hot, gooey, smelling like home), just because you said you had a rough day.\\\"\\nTo him, the city was terrible. → \\\"He couldn't stand the city - the endless lights, the clatter of cars and pavement, the way all eyes turned downward when you looked at them as if you were the ugliest man in Manhattan and not just another stranger.\\\"\\n1-3. Make connections to help your reader understand your ideas.\\nComparing two things, either with a metaphor, simile, or direct comparison, helps your reader make connections and deepens your writing. It gives them something to hold onto that they already understand, which helps them understand your writing. You can even make connections to your own stories, like in the third example here:\\n\\\"In many ways he was like America itself, big and strong, full of good intentions, a roll of fat jiggling at his belly, slow of foot but always plodding along, always there when you needed him, a believer in the virtues of simplicity and directness and hard labor\\\" (The Things They Carried, Tim O'Brien).\\n\\\"Like the waters of the river, like the motorists on the highway, and like the yellow trains streaking down the Santa Fe tracks, drama, in the shape of exceptional happenings, had never stopped there\\\" (In Cold Blood, Truman Capote).\\n\\\"Many years later, as he faced the firing squad, Colonel Aureliano Buendia was to remember that distant afternoon when his father took him to discover ice\\\" (One-Hundred Years of Solitude, Gabriel Garcia Marquez).\\n“For poems are like rainbows; they escape you quickly\\\" (The Big Sea, Langston Hughes).\\n1-4. Use adverbs and \\\"fillers\\\" sparingly.\\nAdverbs, the words that end in -ly and modify actions, are the bane of many great writers. They give a sing-song feel to writing and bog down the meaning of a sentence in useless little modifications. Notice how, in most cases, the adverbs and filler words (like \\\"really\\\" or \\\"very\\\") don't add a lot to the sentences.\\n\\\"Jaime was really sorry, and ran quickly over to his friend's house just to apologize.\\\"\\n\\\"What's up?\\\" She asked, happily. \\\"Nothing much,\\\" he answered tiredly. She picked her face absently and said, \\\"I wanted to talk about something.\\\" \\\"I don't have time,\\\" he responded curtly.\\n1-5. Treat every paragraph, scene, and chapter like its own small argument.\\nGreat paragraphs should be self-contained. They have a beginning, middle, and end. Otherwise, they don't actually move the story or essay along. Thought of another way, every paragraph and scene should end in a different place than where it started.\\nErnest Hemingway was the master of economy. It is hard to find an extra paragraph or scene in any of his short stories or books.\\nGreat journalism is a good way to see how each smaller part pushes the story forward. Read your favorite newspaper, but stop after every paragraph -- what did it accomplish?\\nThough not strictly a paragraph, Shakespearean monologues are a masterclass in growth and power in a short span. Listen to Hamlet's famous first monologue -- note how different he is in beginning and end.\\n1-6. Break all of the previous rules when it feels right.\\nSometimes, the best way to get your point across is a long, winding sentence that packs in a multitude of meaning. Occasionally, you really do need adverbs and silly filler words to make a point perfectly. A direct point can be better than an indirect comparison. Sometimes a paragraph is there to provide tone, to slow down the pacing, or pause on a beautiful description, even if it \\\"accomplishes\\\" nothing.\\n2. Practicing Your Writing\\n2-1. Write every day.\\nWriting every day is the best way to improve your writing! You may prefer to write a new short scene every day, or work on a long-term, writing project. You might have a daily minimum of one paragraph, or an entire page. It doesn't matter what you write, just that you do it.\\nWhen you're a beginner writer, it's best to establish a set time to write each day so you can get in the habit. As you become accustomed to writing every day, you might vary your writing schedule according to your needs.\\nIf you can't find room in your schedule, try getting up early or going to bed late, even if you can only spare fifteen minutes.\\nIt's wise to set writing goals early when starting a new piece and try your best to stick to them.\\n2-2. Write your way through writer's block.\\nDon't be so afraid to write something \\\"bad\\\" that you end up staring at a blank document. Getting anything on the page at all can help you get started. Write about how you're stuck and can't think of something to write, or describe an object in the room in painfully exhaustive detail, or rant about something that irritates you. A few minutes of this will often put you in \\\"writing mode\\\" and lead you to another idea.\\nLook online, in bookstores, or in libraries for collections of writing prompts. These are designed to give you a starting point to work from, and are often ridiculous to spark your imagination and get you started.\\n2-3. Challenge yourself.\\nIf you've been writing for a while, chances are good that you keep getting drawn back to a particular style, topic, or format. Practicing a favorite type of writing is a great way to keep yourself motivated, but make an effort to vary your writing exercises once in a while. Deliberately tackling new and difficult challenges is vital for improvement in any field. Try these challenges as exercises, whether or not you're interested in polishing the end result:\\nIf your writing projects or your narrators all sound similar, try a different style. Imitate another author, or combine the styles of two authors.\\nIf most of your writing is for a blog, or for one long project, take a break from it. Think of a topic that could never fit into your usual writing project, and write about it. (For a followup challenge, rewrite the piece so it could fit into your project.)\\n2-4. Trade feedback with a group of supportive writers.\\nInvite feedback on your writing, and offer to read other writers' drafts. Welcome honest criticism offered as advice for improvement, but keep your writing away from friends who act dismissive or negative. There's a big difference between useful critique, and disheartening negativity.\\nLook for online communities such as Scribophile or WritersCafe, or search for a more niche community on a specific type of writing.\\nCheck your local library and community centers for information on local writing clubs.\\nYou could even practice writing on a wiki, such as wikiHow or Wikipedia. This lets you help people as you practice, and might be one of the largest communal writing projects you ever undertake.\\n2-5. Commit yourself to a writing schedule with other people.\\nIf you have trouble getting around to your writing projects, make a commitment to other people to give yourself external motivation. Get a pen pal to write letters to on a regular schedule, or start a blog with weekly updates. Find a writing contest a few weeks in the future, and promise to submit an entry. Join a writing challenge, whether that's a single writing session with a group of friends, or NaNoWriMo's annual \\\"novel in a month\\\" extravaganza.\\n2-6. Rewrite the pieces you care about.\\nThe first draft of a story always has room for improvement, and often ends up looking quite different after a few revisions. Once you've written a piece that attracts your attention, go through the \\\"finished\\\" piece of writing and find sentences, paragraphs, or whole pages you're dissatisfied with. Rewrite a scene from a different character's perspective, try out alternative plot developments, or change the order of events. If you're not sure why you dislike a passage, rewrite it without referring to the original, then see what you like best in each version.\\nScrapping a beloved passage and starting again can be incredibly tough, so much so that writers have been phrasing this advice as \\\"murder your darlings\\\" for over a century.\\n2-7. Find inspiration\\nYou want to write a story and you are out of ideas for making a unique character? What is more unique than your own personality and your life! Stand in front of the mirror and stare at your reflection. What do you look like? What about your personality? You will have better ideas when you include a character similar to yourself in your writing unless you're writing a biography and have no relationship to the person you are writing about. Also, make sure to look at the lives of the people who are close to you and be inspired by them.\\n2-8. Surround yourself with nature.\\nTake a walk to the park, forest, beach, or anywhere outside of the house that you think will be inspirational. Lay down on the grass and listen to birds singing or listen to music and let yourself inhale the smell of fresh grass. Free your mind from everything and let it find inspiration by listening to the world around you.\\n2-9. Spend time around children.\\nSince you don't remember every single part of your childhood, this it's a great way to inspire yourself. Try looking at a child's behavior and life. Remember that the presence of a child can be really positive for your mind.\\n3. Learning Vital Skills\\n3-1. Read as much as you can.\\nWriters have a passion for the written word, and there's no better way to stoke that passion than to read. Read as widely as possible, from magazines to young adult novels to history dissertations, although you don't need to feel pressure to finish everything you pick up. Reading builds vocabulary, teaches grammar, provides inspiration, and shows you what can be done with language. For the beginning writer, reading may be just as important as the actual writing.\\nAs you read, pay attention to how the writer constructs their sentences and paragraphs, particularly in sections you really like. Additionally, observe how they craft their opening line, as well as the openings and closings of each chapter.\\nIf you're not sure what to read, ask for recommendations from friends, or visit a library and pick a couple books from each section.\\n3-2. Expand your vocabulary\\nWhile you're reading, keep a dictionary and thesaurus on hand, or write down unfamiliar words to look up later. World class writers have argued over whether to use simple words, or employ sesquipedalian verbiage. That's something for you to decide in your own writing, but not before you learn which tools are available.\\nDictionary definitions often don't provide an intuitive sense of how to use a word. Search for the word online and read it in context to get a better understanding.\\n3-3. Learn the rules of grammar\\nSure, there are plenty of famous, excellent books written in non-standard grammar, but learning grammar isn't just about memorizing a set of rules. Studying how a sentence is put together, and how punctuation is used to structure it, gives you the knowledge you need to express yourself the way you intend. If you think this may be a weak point for you, study an English textbook, or find a writing tutor.\\n\\nLearn how to write without informal grammar if you are not used to formal, written English.\\nIf you have a question about grammar, refer to a grammar book, such as The American Heritage Book of English Usage or Strunk and White's The Elements of Style.\\n3-4. Tailor your writing to your purpose and your audience.\\nJust as you change your clothing for the weather and the occasion, you should also change your writing for your audience and your message. Flowery writing, for example, might fit better in a poem than in a status report. Make sure that your word choice and sentence length is not too difficult (or too simplistic) for your audience, if you are addressing a specific group. Avoid specialized jargon when speaking to someone unfamiliar with the topic.\\nYou can learn how to do this by reading good examples by established writers. Pay attention to how they use the specific register, format, and purpose of that type of writing so you can do it yourself.\\n4. Completing a Writing Project, from Start to Finish\\n4-1. Brainstorm\\nWhile thinking about what to write, put down any idea that comes to you, even if it seems far-fetched or unlikely to be successful. One mediocre idea may lead to a better one.\\n4-2. Choose a topic you would like to read about.\\nFind a topic that grabs your attention and thrills you. Your excitement and interest will make it easier for you to keep the project going and keep it to a high standard, and hopefully it will rub off on the reader as well.\\n4-3. Decide on a rough form for your project.\\nA serious writing project doesn't need to be a full-length book. Crafting a short story can be a difficult and rewarding challenge, and may be a more time-effective way to practice your skills.\\n4-4. Write down ideas.\\nKeep a notebook for writing down observations, overheard conversations, and sudden ideas encountered in your daily life. When you read or hear something that makes you laugh, think, or want to repeat it to someone else, write it down and think about what makes it effective.\\nYou may prefer to keep your ideas in a digital file, such as a Word document or Google Doc. This makes it easier to develop your ideas or insert them into other documents. If you use Google Docs, you can also access your work from several devices.\\nYou may use this notebook or file to collect unfamiliar words as well.\\n4-5. Plan your writing.\\nUse whatever technique works best for you, or try out several if you don't have an established process yet. You can make an outline, put a collection of notes on cards and arrange them until they are in order, or draw a tree or map. Your outline may have nothing but a rough order of the events or topics covered, or it may be a more detailed scene-by-scene summary. Building some kind of structure in advance can help keep you going on days when you're feeling low on creativity.\\nThere are many types of organizational software for writers, such as Scrivener or TheSage. You could also use a simple Word document or Google Docs. With Google Docs, you can access your writing from any device.\\nIt's fine to deviate from your plan, but if you abandon it entirely, stop and consider the reasons behind the chance. Build a new plan to guide you through the altered work, and keep you thinking consciously about how you want to get through it.\\n4-6. Research your subject.\\nWhile a work of nonfiction requires you to know your subject, even a fiction book will benefit from research. If your main character is a glassblower, read a book on glassblowing and use the right terminology. If you are writing a book set before you were born, interview people who lived during that time, or who spoke to parents and grandparents who did.\\nIn the case of fiction writing, you may be able to dive in to the first draft before you start your research.\\n4-7. Write the first draft quickly.\\nTry writing without pause for as long as you can. Do not stop to change your word choice or correct your grammar, spelling, or punctuation. This is one of the most common recommendations for making sure that you actually finish what you start.\\n4-8. Rewrite.\\nOnce you have a first draft, reread it and rewrite it. You are looking for errors in grammar and spelling as well as style, content, organization, and coherence. If there are any passages you dislike, get rid of them and write them again from scratch. Critiquing your own work is an important skill, and it takes plenty of practice, just like writing itself.\\nGive yourself time between writing and editing, if at all possible. It is better to wait a good length of time, but even a short break can give you some of the necessary distance and detachment to edit well.\\n4-9. Share your work with an audience.\\nGet feedback on your work in progress from interested readers, whether they are friends, fellow writers, or readers of your writing blog. Try to accept criticism without getting angry or upset; even if you don't agree with the specifics, knowing what parts of your work people dislike can be valuable for focusing your editing.\\n4-10. Rewrite, rewrite, rewrite.\\nDon't be afraid to make drastic changes, even cutting whole sections of the project or rewriting it from a different character's perspective. Continue the cycle of feedback and editing as you explore how to perfect your work. If it feels like running in place, remember you are practicing skills that will help you in all your future writing. You can always take a break to write something fun and ridiculous, just to remind yourself that writing can be a blast.\\nTips\\nSometimes your first drafts are fantastic. There is a common myth that your first drafts are terrible. This may be true because you have made spelling and grammar mistakes, but may not be true with regards to your written content.\\nPrepare yourself to receive rejection letters from publishers. Instead of being hard on yourself as a result, take them as constructive suggestions on what you can do better.\\nIf you have a good idea, give it away for free. Giving away your free ideas is what great writers do. If you only give away your mediocre or copied ideas, then you are just like every other writer on the planet. Give away your best ideas and you will become a great writer.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Want to become a good writer? Just like any other skill, writing takes time and practice to improve. You'll need to write often, keeping a daily writing habit. Writers are infamous for their self-doubt, whether they're world-renowned or just getting started. With persistence and hard work, you can become a good writer!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Writing Great Sentences and Paragraphs\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use simple, clear sentences to make your point.\", \"描述\": \"Good writers use clear, concise language. They don't bog down sentences with extra words and long, winding sections. They cut to the chase and make their point in the simplest language possible. Sometimes it's best to break longer sentences into 2-3 smaller ones.\\n\\n \\\"The philosophy of Existentialism resists descending into the lofty, theoretical arguments that plagued many early philosophies, and thus gains its power.\\\"\\n\\\"Existentialism became powerful because, unlike earlier, more theoretical philosophies, it is grounded and practical.\\\"\\n\\n \\\"Was the bomb not to ever come to being, America might never have overcome the long, drawn out war in the Pacific.\\\"\\n\\\"Who knows how long the US would have had to fight in the Pacific without the bomb.\\\"\\n\\n \\\"Wandering in the desolate wilderness, Dave sat on a dusty, crepuscular rock and thought about his past while drinking from his almost empty canteen.\\\"\\n\\\"Tired of aimless wandering, Dave sat on a dusty boulder to rest. He opened his canteen, but there were only a few drops left. Tired and thirsty, his mind drifted to his past.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be as specific as possible.\", \"描述\": \"People are visual animals - we see things when we read and orient ourselves with images. Give your reader enough specifics to visualize your writing whether you're writing stories, scripts, or speeches. Use 1-2 powerful images or senses to put the reader in your scene, paragraph, or shoes.\\nI felt tired → \\\"My arms and muscles trembled, and my eyelids fluttered shut no matter how hard I tried to stay awake.\\\"\\nGina is a nice woman. → \\\"Gina was the kind of woman who baked you a plate of cookies (hot, gooey, smelling like home), just because you said you had a rough day.\\\"\\nTo him, the city was terrible. → \\\"He couldn't stand the city - the endless lights, the clatter of cars and pavement, the way all eyes turned downward when you looked at them as if you were the ugliest man in Manhattan and not just another stranger.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make connections to help your reader understand your ideas.\", \"描述\": \"Comparing two things, either with a metaphor, simile, or direct comparison, helps your reader make connections and deepens your writing. It gives them something to hold onto that they already understand, which helps them understand your writing. You can even make connections to your own stories, like in the third example here:\\n\\\"In many ways he was like America itself, big and strong, full of good intentions, a roll of fat jiggling at his belly, slow of foot but always plodding along, always there when you needed him, a believer in the virtues of simplicity and directness and hard labor\\\" (The Things They Carried, Tim O'Brien).\\n\\\"Like the waters of the river, like the motorists on the highway, and like the yellow trains streaking down the Santa Fe tracks, drama, in the shape of exceptional happenings, had never stopped there\\\" (In Cold Blood, Truman Capote).\\n\\\"Many years later, as he faced the firing squad, Colonel Aureliano Buendia was to remember that distant afternoon when his father took him to discover ice\\\" (One-Hundred Years of Solitude, Gabriel Garcia Marquez).\\n“For poems are like rainbows; they escape you quickly\\\" (The Big Sea, Langston Hughes).\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use adverbs and \\\"fillers\\\" sparingly.\", \"描述\": \"Adverbs, the words that end in -ly and modify actions, are the bane of many great writers. They give a sing-song feel to writing and bog down the meaning of a sentence in useless little modifications. Notice how, in most cases, the adverbs and filler words (like \\\"really\\\" or \\\"very\\\") don't add a lot to the sentences.\\n\\\"Jaime was really sorry, and ran quickly over to his friend's house just to apologize.\\\"\\n\\\"What's up?\\\" She asked, happily. \\\"Nothing much,\\\" he answered tiredly. She picked her face absently and said, \\\"I wanted to talk about something.\\\" \\\"I don't have time,\\\" he responded curtly.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Treat every paragraph, scene, and chapter like its own small argument.\", \"描述\": \"Great paragraphs should be self-contained. They have a beginning, middle, and end. Otherwise, they don't actually move the story or essay along. Thought of another way, every paragraph and scene should end in a different place than where it started.\\nErnest Hemingway was the master of economy. It is hard to find an extra paragraph or scene in any of his short stories or books.\\nGreat journalism is a good way to see how each smaller part pushes the story forward. Read your favorite newspaper, but stop after every paragraph -- what did it accomplish?\\nThough not strictly a paragraph, Shakespearean monologues are a masterclass in growth and power in a short span. Listen to Hamlet's famous first monologue -- note how different he is in beginning and end.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Break all of the previous rules when it feels right.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, the best way to get your point across is a long, winding sentence that packs in a multitude of meaning. Occasionally, you really do need adverbs and silly filler words to make a point perfectly. A direct point can be better than an indirect comparison. Sometimes a paragraph is there to provide tone, to slow down the pacing, or pause on a beautiful description, even if it \\\"accomplishes\\\" nothing.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practicing Your Writing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Write every day.\", \"描述\": \"Writing every day is the best way to improve your writing! You may prefer to write a new short scene every day, or work on a long-term, writing project. You might have a daily minimum of one paragraph, or an entire page. It doesn't matter what you write, just that you do it.\\nWhen you're a beginner writer, it's best to establish a set time to write each day so you can get in the habit. As you become accustomed to writing every day, you might vary your writing schedule according to your needs.\\nIf you can't find room in your schedule, try getting up early or going to bed late, even if you can only spare fifteen minutes.\\nIt's wise to set writing goals early when starting a new piece and try your best to stick to them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Write your way through writer's block.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be so afraid to write something \\\"bad\\\" that you end up staring at a blank document. Getting anything on the page at all can help you get started. Write about how you're stuck and can't think of something to write, or describe an object in the room in painfully exhaustive detail, or rant about something that irritates you. A few minutes of this will often put you in \\\"writing mode\\\" and lead you to another idea.\\nLook online, in bookstores, or in libraries for collections of writing prompts. These are designed to give you a starting point to work from, and are often ridiculous to spark your imagination and get you started.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Challenge yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If you've been writing for a while, chances are good that you keep getting drawn back to a particular style, topic, or format. Practicing a favorite type of writing is a great way to keep yourself motivated, but make an effort to vary your writing exercises once in a while. Deliberately tackling new and difficult challenges is vital for improvement in any field. Try these challenges as exercises, whether or not you're interested in polishing the end result:\\nIf your writing projects or your narrators all sound similar, try a different style. Imitate another author, or combine the styles of two authors.\\nIf most of your writing is for a blog, or for one long project, take a break from it. Think of a topic that could never fit into your usual writing project, and write about it. (For a followup challenge, rewrite the piece so it could fit into your project.)\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Trade feedback with a group of supportive writers.\", \"描述\": \"Invite feedback on your writing, and offer to read other writers' drafts. Welcome honest criticism offered as advice for improvement, but keep your writing away from friends who act dismissive or negative. There's a big difference between useful critique, and disheartening negativity.\\nLook for online communities such as Scribophile or WritersCafe, or search for a more niche community on a specific type of writing.\\nCheck your local library and community centers for information on local writing clubs.\\nYou could even practice writing on a wiki, such as wikiHow or Wikipedia. This lets you help people as you practice, and might be one of the largest communal writing projects you ever undertake.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Commit yourself to a writing schedule with other people.\", \"描述\": \"If you have trouble getting around to your writing projects, make a commitment to other people to give yourself external motivation. Get a pen pal to write letters to on a regular schedule, or start a blog with weekly updates. Find a writing contest a few weeks in the future, and promise to submit an entry. Join a writing challenge, whether that's a single writing session with a group of friends, or NaNoWriMo's annual \\\"novel in a month\\\" extravaganza.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Rewrite the pieces you care about.\", \"描述\": \"The first draft of a story always has room for improvement, and often ends up looking quite different after a few revisions. Once you've written a piece that attracts your attention, go through the \\\"finished\\\" piece of writing and find sentences, paragraphs, or whole pages you're dissatisfied with. Rewrite a scene from a different character's perspective, try out alternative plot developments, or change the order of events. If you're not sure why you dislike a passage, rewrite it without referring to the original, then see what you like best in each version.\\nScrapping a beloved passage and starting again can be incredibly tough, so much so that writers have been phrasing this advice as \\\"murder your darlings\\\" for over a century.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Find inspiration\", \"描述\": \"You want to write a story and you are out of ideas for making a unique character? What is more unique than your own personality and your life! Stand in front of the mirror and stare at your reflection. What do you look like? What about your personality? You will have better ideas when you include a character similar to yourself in your writing unless you're writing a biography and have no relationship to the person you are writing about. Also, make sure to look at the lives of the people who are close to you and be inspired by them.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with nature.\", \"描述\": \"Take a walk to the park, forest, beach, or anywhere outside of the house that you think will be inspirational. Lay down on the grass and listen to birds singing or listen to music and let yourself inhale the smell of fresh grass. Free your mind from everything and let it find inspiration by listening to the world around you.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Spend time around children.\", \"描述\": \"Since you don't remember every single part of your childhood, this it's a great way to inspire yourself. Try looking at a child's behavior and life. Remember that the presence of a child can be really positive for your mind.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learning Vital Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read as much as you can.\", \"描述\": \"Writers have a passion for the written word, and there's no better way to stoke that passion than to read. Read as widely as possible, from magazines to young adult novels to history dissertations, although you don't need to feel pressure to finish everything you pick up. Reading builds vocabulary, teaches grammar, provides inspiration, and shows you what can be done with language. For the beginning writer, reading may be just as important as the actual writing.\\nAs you read, pay attention to how the writer constructs their sentences and paragraphs, particularly in sections you really like. Additionally, observe how they craft their opening line, as well as the openings and closings of each chapter.\\nIf you're not sure what to read, ask for recommendations from friends, or visit a library and pick a couple books from each section.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Expand your vocabulary\", \"描述\": \"While you're reading, keep a dictionary and thesaurus on hand, or write down unfamiliar words to look up later. World class writers have argued over whether to use simple words, or employ sesquipedalian verbiage. That's something for you to decide in your own writing, but not before you learn which tools are available.\\nDictionary definitions often don't provide an intuitive sense of how to use a word. Search for the word online and read it in context to get a better understanding.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn the rules of grammar\", \"描述\": \"Sure, there are plenty of famous, excellent books written in non-standard grammar, but learning grammar isn't just about memorizing a set of rules. Studying how a sentence is put together, and how punctuation is used to structure it, gives you the knowledge you need to express yourself the way you intend. If you think this may be a weak point for you, study an English textbook, or find a writing tutor.\\n\\nLearn how to write without informal grammar if you are not used to formal, written English.\\nIf you have a question about grammar, refer to a grammar book, such as The American Heritage Book of English Usage or Strunk and White's The Elements of Style.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Tailor your writing to your purpose and your audience.\", \"描述\": \"Just as you change your clothing for the weather and the occasion, you should also change your writing for your audience and your message. Flowery writing, for example, might fit better in a poem than in a status report. Make sure that your word choice and sentence length is not too difficult (or too simplistic) for your audience, if you are addressing a specific group. Avoid specialized jargon when speaking to someone unfamiliar with the topic.\\nYou can learn how to do this by reading good examples by established writers. Pay attention to how they use the specific register, format, and purpose of that type of writing so you can do it yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Completing a Writing Project, from Start to Finish\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Brainstorm\", \"描述\": \"While thinking about what to write, put down any idea that comes to you, even if it seems far-fetched or unlikely to be successful. One mediocre idea may lead to a better one.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose a topic you would like to read about.\", \"描述\": \"Find a topic that grabs your attention and thrills you. Your excitement and interest will make it easier for you to keep the project going and keep it to a high standard, and hopefully it will rub off on the reader as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Decide on a rough form for your project.\", \"描述\": \"A serious writing project doesn't need to be a full-length book. Crafting a short story can be a difficult and rewarding challenge, and may be a more time-effective way to practice your skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Write down ideas.\", \"描述\": \"Keep a notebook for writing down observations, overheard conversations, and sudden ideas encountered in your daily life. When you read or hear something that makes you laugh, think, or want to repeat it to someone else, write it down and think about what makes it effective.\\nYou may prefer to keep your ideas in a digital file, such as a Word document or Google Doc. This makes it easier to develop your ideas or insert them into other documents. If you use Google Docs, you can also access your work from several devices.\\nYou may use this notebook or file to collect unfamiliar words as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Plan your writing.\", \"描述\": \"Use whatever technique works best for you, or try out several if you don't have an established process yet. You can make an outline, put a collection of notes on cards and arrange them until they are in order, or draw a tree or map. Your outline may have nothing but a rough order of the events or topics covered, or it may be a more detailed scene-by-scene summary. Building some kind of structure in advance can help keep you going on days when you're feeling low on creativity.\\nThere are many types of organizational software for writers, such as Scrivener or TheSage. You could also use a simple Word document or Google Docs. With Google Docs, you can access your writing from any device.\\nIt's fine to deviate from your plan, but if you abandon it entirely, stop and consider the reasons behind the chance. Build a new plan to guide you through the altered work, and keep you thinking consciously about how you want to get through it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Research your subject.\", \"描述\": \"While a work of nonfiction requires you to know your subject, even a fiction book will benefit from research. If your main character is a glassblower, read a book on glassblowing and use the right terminology. If you are writing a book set before you were born, interview people who lived during that time, or who spoke to parents and grandparents who did.\\nIn the case of fiction writing, you may be able to dive in to the first draft before you start your research.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Write the first draft quickly.\", \"描述\": \"Try writing without pause for as long as you can. Do not stop to change your word choice or correct your grammar, spelling, or punctuation. This is one of the most common recommendations for making sure that you actually finish what you start.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Rewrite.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have a first draft, reread it and rewrite it. You are looking for errors in grammar and spelling as well as style, content, organization, and coherence. If there are any passages you dislike, get rid of them and write them again from scratch. Critiquing your own work is an important skill, and it takes plenty of practice, just like writing itself.\\nGive yourself time between writing and editing, if at all possible. It is better to wait a good length of time, but even a short break can give you some of the necessary distance and detachment to edit well.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Share your work with an audience.\", \"描述\": \"Get feedback on your work in progress from interested readers, whether they are friends, fellow writers, or readers of your writing blog. 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This may be true because you have made spelling and grammar mistakes, but may not be true with regards to your written content.\\n\", \"Prepare yourself to receive rejection letters from publishers. Instead of being hard on yourself as a result, take them as constructive suggestions on what you can do better.\\n\", \"If you have a good idea, give it away for free. Giving away your free ideas is what great writers do. If you only give away your mediocre or copied ideas, then you are just like every other writer on the planet. Give away your best ideas and you will become a great writer.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Using Basic YouTube Manners
1-1. Be positive.
More than anything else you can do on YouTube, maintaining a positive attitude in everything you do--from commenting to uploading--will set you apart from a large amount of YouTube users. This doesn't mean you have to pretend to be happy or enthusiastic all the time, but you should treat other users with respect and take the high road when others attempt to bring you down.
Any time you make a comment or upload a video, you expose yourself to criticism. Some users will likely make rude or negative comments--if so, simply ignore them and continue your positivity.
1-2. Like videos.
When you legitimately enjoy a video, click the "Like" button. The "Like" button, which is shaped like a thumbs-up gesture, is usually below and to the right of the YouTube video player window.
Similarly, refrain from using the "Dislike" button unless a video truly offends or hurts you or others.
Video Likes are one component of the various criteria used to determine how successful a video is. By liking a video, you are helping another content creator continue to grow.
1-3. Subscribe to channels you frequently watch.
If you've found that you tend to come back to a certain channel to watch or re-watch its videos, subscribing to it benefits both you--because you'll receive a notification whenever it uploads a new video--and the creator, because the number of subscriptions a channel has contributes to its perceived success.
YouTube channels with enough subscriptions are sometimes nominated for awards or featured on the "Trending" page as well.
Subscribing to a YouTube channel gives you the chance to be part of that channel's community.
1-4. Comment on other users' videos.
This is a great way to spread positivity as well as contributing feedback. For example, if you particularly enjoyed the theme of a specific video from one of your subscriptions, consider letting them know why you liked it in the comments.
Remember to be constructive with your feedback. If you really didn't like a video for personal reasons, there's no need to disrespect the author or the video itself.
1-5. Refrain from leaving spam comments.
Even if you don't intend for your comment to be negative, asking for people to check out your channel or lecturing other users on their spelling can be construed as spam. Remember, only comment when you have something positive and thought-provoking to add to the video discussions.
Similarly, don't send messages to YouTube content creators asking for collaborations, shout-outs, subscription requests, or any other kind of favor.
2. Maintaining Your Channel
2-1. Decide on the kind of content you want on your channel.
Creating a YouTube account grants you a channel, but you'll need to personalize it if you want it to appear attractive to inquisitive subscribers. Possible content you can have here includes the following:
A custom banner at the top of your channel
A user profile image
A channel description
2-2. Feature a video.
If you already have several videos on your channel, you can choose one to display on the front page of your channel. This should be a video that gives users an idea of the kind of content you'll be posting.
For example, if you predominately post gaming videos, you'd want to feature your best gaming video here.
You can also create a video specifically for the featured video slot. Be sure to keep this video around two minutes long (or less).
2-3. Organize your videos into playlists.
You'll want to do this once you've created enough videos to warrant categorization. Playlists give new subscribers a way to view your old videos in the order in which they were posted without having to scroll all the way down to the bottom of your channel.
Every video in a playlist should have a common theme with the other videos in the playlist. For example, a playlist on a gaming channel entitled "Let's Plays" would include all "Let's Play" videos on the channel.
Be sure to organize your videos in reverse chronological order (e.g., oldest video first) in your playlists.
2-4. Address subscriber comments.
As you start posting content, people will likely begin commenting on your videos and leaving you messages. This is a good opportunity for you to build a reputation as someone who reads user feedback and incorporates it into your creation process.
Once your channel starts growing, it will become difficult to keep up with every single comment. Don't worry about talking to or looking at every user in the comments section--simply reviewing the comment section for half an hour or so should give you a good idea of what people are talking about.
3. Creating Your Own Videos
3-1. Remember who you're creating your videos for.
It may be tempting to try to make a living from YouTube, but the reality of the situation is that your videos will always be more engaging if you stick to producing what you love.
While certain sections of YouTube have huge amounts of content being produced each day (e.g., the gaming community and the makeup community), that shouldn't keep you from creating that kind of content if you want to.
3-2. Determine your reason for posting on YouTube.
If you're simply using it as a place to store the old videos in your iPhone, consider making your videos private. This way, only you will have access to them. If, on the other hand, you plan on posting your videos for a large audience, it's helpful to have an idea of your end goal.
If you want to create a career on YouTube, you'll want to try to make your videos as professional-looking as possible. This will include researching your topics.
If you're making a channel dedicated to your own likes and interests, you'll have a lot more creative freedom in what you post. Even so, keeping your channel focused on one category of content (e.g., gaming, news, entertainment) will make your channel look tidy.
You can make a video private during the uploading process.
3-3. Come up with a plan for your video before recording.
You don't need to have a theme or a 40-page screenplay to be a good YouTuber, but knowing what you want to create before you hit that "Record" button will keep your videos focused and interesting.
Writing and memorizing a short script before you record might help you stay on track.
Similarly, writing down the content you'd like to cover for your video will also help you stay focused.
Your video plan should line up with your reason for posting on YouTube. For example, if your reason for posting on YouTube is to provide users with well-researched news, your video plan should focus on that topic exclusively.
3-4. Familiarize yourself with metadata.
Metadata is any non-video aspect of your video production. It includes the following components:
- This should be an eye-grabbing, concise title (e.g., "Election Results & What's Next").
- Cover the basics of what's going into the video. If you state facts, cite your sources here. You can also add timestamps that serve as a table of contents for your video so users can quickly jump to a specific in-video topic.
- This is a picture that sums up the content of the video. Try to keep the general appearance of your thumbnail consistent between videos.
- These are keywords that help categorize your video. For more reference on what to use as your video tags, look at other users' videos in the same category to see which tags they're using.
3-5. Use proper spelling and capitalization in your video titles.
Simply observing good grammar and formatting will make your videos appear professional.
This also applies to YouTube video descriptions, in which you'll also need to use proper punctuation.
3-6. Post consistently.
Especially once you have subscribers looking forward to your content, you'll want to upload at around the same time each week (or each day, etc.).
Tips
If you want to promote your videos, posting them on your various social media accounts (e.g., Facebook and Twitter) will increase the amount of people watching your videos.
Always post videos of one topic, not one video gaming then the next vlogging, then the next comedy. You won’t have a consistent amount of viewers. Make sure to accept positive feedback from the comments, it could help a lot!
Connect to your audience with social media. This allows you to be cool.
Warnings
Even the best YouTubers don't become famous overnight. Stick to what you love, post consistently, and the rest will eventually follow.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Using Basic YouTube Manners\\n1-1. Be positive.\\nMore than anything else you can do on YouTube, maintaining a positive attitude in everything you do--from commenting to uploading--will set you apart from a large amount of YouTube users. This doesn't mean you have to pretend to be happy or enthusiastic all the time, but you should treat other users with respect and take the high road when others attempt to bring you down.\\nAny time you make a comment or upload a video, you expose yourself to criticism. Some users will likely make rude or negative comments--if so, simply ignore them and continue your positivity.\\n1-2. Like videos.\\nWhen you legitimately enjoy a video, click the \\\"Like\\\" button. The \\\"Like\\\" button, which is shaped like a thumbs-up gesture, is usually below and to the right of the YouTube video player window.\\nSimilarly, refrain from using the \\\"Dislike\\\" button unless a video truly offends or hurts you or others.\\nVideo Likes are one component of the various criteria used to determine how successful a video is. By liking a video, you are helping another content creator continue to grow.\\n1-3. Subscribe to channels you frequently watch.\\nIf you've found that you tend to come back to a certain channel to watch or re-watch its videos, subscribing to it benefits both you--because you'll receive a notification whenever it uploads a new video--and the creator, because the number of subscriptions a channel has contributes to its perceived success.\\nYouTube channels with enough subscriptions are sometimes nominated for awards or featured on the \\\"Trending\\\" page as well.\\nSubscribing to a YouTube channel gives you the chance to be part of that channel's community.\\n1-4. Comment on other users' videos.\\nThis is a great way to spread positivity as well as contributing feedback. For example, if you particularly enjoyed the theme of a specific video from one of your subscriptions, consider letting them know why you liked it in the comments.\\nRemember to be constructive with your feedback. If you really didn't like a video for personal reasons, there's no need to disrespect the author or the video itself.\\n1-5. Refrain from leaving spam comments.\\nEven if you don't intend for your comment to be negative, asking for people to check out your channel or lecturing other users on their spelling can be construed as spam. Remember, only comment when you have something positive and thought-provoking to add to the video discussions.\\nSimilarly, don't send messages to YouTube content creators asking for collaborations, shout-outs, subscription requests, or any other kind of favor.\\n2. Maintaining Your Channel\\n2-1. Decide on the kind of content you want on your channel.\\nCreating a YouTube account grants you a channel, but you'll need to personalize it if you want it to appear attractive to inquisitive subscribers. Possible content you can have here includes the following:\\nA custom banner at the top of your channel\\nA user profile image\\nA channel description\\n2-2. Feature a video.\\nIf you already have several videos on your channel, you can choose one to display on the front page of your channel. This should be a video that gives users an idea of the kind of content you'll be posting.\\nFor example, if you predominately post gaming videos, you'd want to feature your best gaming video here.\\nYou can also create a video specifically for the featured video slot. Be sure to keep this video around two minutes long (or less).\\n2-3. Organize your videos into playlists.\\nYou'll want to do this once you've created enough videos to warrant categorization. Playlists give new subscribers a way to view your old videos in the order in which they were posted without having to scroll all the way down to the bottom of your channel.\\nEvery video in a playlist should have a common theme with the other videos in the playlist. For example, a playlist on a gaming channel entitled \\\"Let's Plays\\\" would include all \\\"Let's Play\\\" videos on the channel.\\nBe sure to organize your videos in reverse chronological order (e.g., oldest video first) in your playlists.\\n2-4. Address subscriber comments.\\nAs you start posting content, people will likely begin commenting on your videos and leaving you messages. This is a good opportunity for you to build a reputation as someone who reads user feedback and incorporates it into your creation process.\\nOnce your channel starts growing, it will become difficult to keep up with every single comment. Don't worry about talking to or looking at every user in the comments section--simply reviewing the comment section for half an hour or so should give you a good idea of what people are talking about.\\n3. Creating Your Own Videos\\n3-1. Remember who you're creating your videos for.\\nIt may be tempting to try to make a living from YouTube, but the reality of the situation is that your videos will always be more engaging if you stick to producing what you love.\\nWhile certain sections of YouTube have huge amounts of content being produced each day (e.g., the gaming community and the makeup community), that shouldn't keep you from creating that kind of content if you want to.\\n3-2. Determine your reason for posting on YouTube.\\nIf you're simply using it as a place to store the old videos in your iPhone, consider making your videos private. This way, only you will have access to them. If, on the other hand, you plan on posting your videos for a large audience, it's helpful to have an idea of your end goal.\\nIf you want to create a career on YouTube, you'll want to try to make your videos as professional-looking as possible. This will include researching your topics.\\nIf you're making a channel dedicated to your own likes and interests, you'll have a lot more creative freedom in what you post. Even so, keeping your channel focused on one category of content (e.g., gaming, news, entertainment) will make your channel look tidy.\\nYou can make a video private during the uploading process.\\n3-3. Come up with a plan for your video before recording.\\nYou don't need to have a theme or a 40-page screenplay to be a good YouTuber, but knowing what you want to create before you hit that \\\"Record\\\" button will keep your videos focused and interesting.\\nWriting and memorizing a short script before you record might help you stay on track.\\nSimilarly, writing down the content you'd like to cover for your video will also help you stay focused.\\nYour video plan should line up with your reason for posting on YouTube. For example, if your reason for posting on YouTube is to provide users with well-researched news, your video plan should focus on that topic exclusively.\\n3-4. Familiarize yourself with metadata.\\nMetadata is any non-video aspect of your video production. It includes the following components:\\n\\n - This should be an eye-grabbing, concise title (e.g., \\\"Election Results & What's Next\\\").\\n - Cover the basics of what's going into the video. If you state facts, cite your sources here. You can also add timestamps that serve as a table of contents for your video so users can quickly jump to a specific in-video topic.\\n - This is a picture that sums up the content of the video. Try to keep the general appearance of your thumbnail consistent between videos.\\n - These are keywords that help categorize your video. For more reference on what to use as your video tags, look at other users' videos in the same category to see which tags they're using.\\n3-5. Use proper spelling and capitalization in your video titles.\\nSimply observing good grammar and formatting will make your videos appear professional.\\nThis also applies to YouTube video descriptions, in which you'll also need to use proper punctuation.\\n3-6. Post consistently.\\nEspecially once you have subscribers looking forward to your content, you'll want to upload at around the same time each week (or each day, etc.).\\nTips\\nIf you want to promote your videos, posting them on your various social media accounts (e.g., Facebook and Twitter) will increase the amount of people watching your videos.\\nAlways post videos of one topic, not one video gaming then the next vlogging, then the next comedy. You won’t have a consistent amount of viewers. Make sure to accept positive feedback from the comments, it could help a lot!\\nConnect to your audience with social media. This allows you to be cool.\\nWarnings\\nEven the best YouTubers don't become famous overnight. Stick to what you love, post consistently, and the rest will eventually follow.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"This wikiHow teaches you how to make the best of your time on YouTube, both as a viewer and as a content creator. Through practicing good YouTube etiquette, maintaining your channel, and creating videos of your own, you can become a spectacular addition to YouTube's massive user base.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using Basic YouTube Manners\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be positive.\", \"描述\": \"More than anything else you can do on YouTube, maintaining a positive attitude in everything you do--from commenting to uploading--will set you apart from a large amount of YouTube users. This doesn't mean you have to pretend to be happy or enthusiastic all the time, but you should treat other users with respect and take the high road when others attempt to bring you down.\\nAny time you make a comment or upload a video, you expose yourself to criticism. 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How to Be a Gorgeous Teen Girl
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1. Skin
1-1. Splash your face with lukewarm water-never use hot water as that will open up your pores, which will allow dirt and grime to enter your skin.
Using hot water will also lead to extreme dry skin. Use a cleanser or face wash that is fit for your skin type and massage it into your face for about a minute targeting areas where acne is located.
1-2. Rinse your face with the coldest water your face can bear.
1-3. Pat your face dry and apply an astringent or toner all over your face and give it a second or two to dry.
You don't need to apply a toner if don't want to. If you are younger than 16, toners should definitely be avoided. Apply a moisturizer all over your face as this will hydrate your skin.
1-4. Use any medications prescribed by your dermatologist (if you have one) or any treatments that you may have now.
If you don't have any skin problems, you can skip this step.
1-5. Lightly exfoliate your skin (and lips) with a scrub or exfoliant every other day.
Make sure every night you put on Vaseline on your lips and you will wake up to smooth, luscious lips; in the daytime, always apply a lip balm (Carmex or Chapstick) is recommended so as not to get dry, cracked and chapped lips. Also, fix up any skin discolorations.
If you have random splotches of dark color on your skin, see a dermatologist. Try to fade dark under eye circles with eye rollers (such as Garnier Fructis).
If you have freckles, be excited! Just 2% of the world have them.
2. Hygiene
2-1. Exfoliate
Put on lotion no longer than three minutes after you bathe so that your skin does not dry out. You can never overdo moisturizing!
2-2. Shave every other day.
In the American society, shaving your underarms, legs, bikini area, and sometimes arms, are considered to be hygienic; use a good razor like Venus Embrace. Shaving is optional and it is perfectly acceptable not to shave.
2-3. Pluck your eyebrows
People aren't exactly in love with gorilla eyebrows but once they are tamed, people will be jealous.
If you have super thin eyebrows, take an eyebrow pencil and fill them in.
2-4. Make sure you put on some deodorant (or antiperspirant if you sweat) and apply perfume on your "hotspots" such as your neck, wrists, inside of elbows, back of knees, etc.
2-5. Brush your teeth
When brushing your teeth, make sure you brush your tongue, gums, backs of teeth, and inside of cheeks.
If you feel as if your teeth are a bit "yellowish", whiten them by using homemade remedies, professional dentist visits, mouth trays, etc.
Always floss and use mouthwash after brushing your teeth.
If you have retainers, clean them every day. If you have braces, be extra careful when cleaning.
2-6. Wash your hands every time you use the bathroom -- you wouldn't believe how many people don't!
2-7. Optional:
take vitamins! Ideally you should be getting all the necessary vitamins and minerals you need from your diet but taking a vitamin/mineral supplement can be good for an extra boost.
3. Health
3-1. Set a good sleep schedule
You will look and feel ten times better if you do! That doesn't mean you should go to bed at 7:00 every night. But if you go to bed at ten, and wake up at six, that's a good eight hours! When sleeping, you should have at least 8-9 hours of sleep. However, some people manage to be can sleep for only 7 hours while some people need to sleep 10 hours. It all depends on your body and you will eventually find the number of hours you need.
You don't have to keep the schedule up during the weekends. Make sure you don't go to bed at ridiculous times though (1:00 in the morning is not the best bedtime). You don't want to wake up with blood-shot, baggy eyes, and tired and dull skin. You need your beauty sleep!
3-2. Incorporate at least 30 minutes of physical activity 5-6 times in a week.
This could include taking yoga classes, riding a bike, running a mile or two, lifting weights for a half an hour or dancing around the house to your favorite songs.
3-3. Eat a healthy diet.
DO NOT TRY TO STARVE YOURSELF, you will ultimately fail and end up either with an eating disorder or bigger than when you started - either way you will be unhappy. Make sure you eat plenty of fruit and vegetables every day and drink 2-3 litres of water (more if you're exercising).
4. Hair
4-1. Wash your hair around once a week if it's curly or dry, and every other day if it's straight or oily.
You don't want to wash your hair every single day though because that will make it lose its natural oils.
If your hair is short, you can look at inspirations such as Rihanna and Victoria Beckham for hairstyles whereas if your hair is on the longer side (shoulder-length and longer), you could look at Kim Kardashian and Beyoncé for your inspiration.
4-2. Work with your hair.
In order to work your hair, you could keep it straight, wavy, curly or afro centric but it should always have some kind of shine. You definitely don't want dull, frizzy hair. In order to do that, find some products that produce shine such as Garnier Fructis and TRESemmé.
4-3. Make sure that if you are going to put heat on your hair, you use some kind of protection so as not to get split ends.
It is best to air dry your hair instead of blow drying it to relieve it from all of the heat.
4-4. Don't straighten your hair every single day.
It creates split ends and causes a lot of heat damage and the consequences are not worth it. Some appliances that may come in handy are: flat irons (for days where you want pin straight hair), curling wands (where you want lose waves and no creases in your hair from the clamps of curling irons), curling irons (for days where you want big, glamorous curls) and blow dryers (when time is running out and you don't have time to air dry).
5. Makeup
5-1. Put some concealer on blemishes if any -- no foundation, for that only clogs your pores.
5-2. Use black or brown pencil eyeliner.
By putting black or brown pencil eyeliner on your lower lash line and a peach-colored pencil eyeliner on your lower waterline, your eyes will look brighter and more awake.
5-3. Add about two coats of a volumizing mascara after curling it, slap on some lip balm and/or lip gloss, and you're ready to go!
Stay natural.
5-4. Alternatively, don't wear any makeup at all.
Makeup can be fun and a confidence boost but you don't NEED it. Do whatever you feel comfortable with.
6. Inside Out
6-1. Respect everyone you meet even if they give you a reason not too; try hard to not make any enemies and think before you speak.
However, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, others and the things you believe in.
6-2. Use the morals
However, you don't have to agree with everything your parents believe and think - make your own decisions, be your own person.
If you are sexually active, use condoms, birth control, etc.!
6-3. Hang out with your friends every other weekend and hang with your family the remaining weekends.
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6-4. Read a book every once in a while.
It's actually best to dedicate a certain amount of time for daily reading. You can get books from your library, your English teacher, or a bookstore. Know your favorite genre. If you have an addiction to historical fiction novels,read from that genre. However, it's important to read out of your genre sometimes as well. Try your hardest at school. You might not get a 4.0 GPA, but strive for it by studying. Most importantly, . It may sound cliché, but if you really find out your true self, your life will be amazing!
Tips
Stay healthy by eating a balanced diet and exercising daily.
You don't have to follow all the latest fashion trends or dress like the people around you just to fit in. Wear what you like and what you feel good in.
People will like you more if you stand alone confidentially, rather than standing with fake friends.
Warnings
Don't try to be someone you're not. True friends will like you for who you are.
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Lightly exfoliate your skin (and lips) with a scrub or exfoliant every other day.\\nMake sure every night you put on Vaseline on your lips and you will wake up to smooth, luscious lips; in the daytime, always apply a lip balm (Carmex or Chapstick) is recommended so as not to get dry, cracked and chapped lips. Also, fix up any skin discolorations.\\nIf you have random splotches of dark color on your skin, see a dermatologist. Try to fade dark under eye circles with eye rollers (such as Garnier Fructis).\\nIf you have freckles, be excited! Just 2% of the world have them.\\n2. Hygiene\\n2-1. Exfoliate\\nPut on lotion no longer than three minutes after you bathe so that your skin does not dry out. You can never overdo moisturizing!\\n2-2. Shave every other day.\\nIn the American society, shaving your underarms, legs, bikini area, and sometimes arms, are considered to be hygienic; use a good razor like Venus Embrace. Shaving is optional and it is perfectly acceptable not to shave.\\n2-3. Pluck your eyebrows\\nPeople aren't exactly in love with gorilla eyebrows but once they are tamed, people will be jealous.\\nIf you have super thin eyebrows, take an eyebrow pencil and fill them in.\\n2-4. Make sure you put on some deodorant (or antiperspirant if you sweat) and apply perfume on your \\\"hotspots\\\" such as your neck, wrists, inside of elbows, back of knees, etc.\\n\\n2-5. Brush your teeth\\nWhen brushing your teeth, make sure you brush your tongue, gums, backs of teeth, and inside of cheeks.\\nIf you feel as if your teeth are a bit \\\"yellowish\\\", whiten them by using homemade remedies, professional dentist visits, mouth trays, etc.\\nAlways floss and use mouthwash after brushing your teeth.\\nIf you have retainers, clean them every day. If you have braces, be extra careful when cleaning.\\n2-6. Wash your hands every time you use the bathroom -- you wouldn't believe how many people don't!\\n\\n2-7. Optional:\\ntake vitamins! Ideally you should be getting all the necessary vitamins and minerals you need from your diet but taking a vitamin/mineral supplement can be good for an extra boost.\\n3. Health\\n3-1. Set a good sleep schedule\\nYou will look and feel ten times better if you do! That doesn't mean you should go to bed at 7:00 every night. But if you go to bed at ten, and wake up at six, that's a good eight hours! When sleeping, you should have at least 8-9 hours of sleep. However, some people manage to be can sleep for only 7 hours while some people need to sleep 10 hours. It all depends on your body and you will eventually find the number of hours you need.\\nYou don't have to keep the schedule up during the weekends. Make sure you don't go to bed at ridiculous times though (1:00 in the morning is not the best bedtime). You don't want to wake up with blood-shot, baggy eyes, and tired and dull skin. You need your beauty sleep!\\n3-2. Incorporate at least 30 minutes of physical activity 5-6 times in a week.\\nThis could include taking yoga classes, riding a bike, running a mile or two, lifting weights for a half an hour or dancing around the house to your favorite songs.\\n3-3. Eat a healthy diet.\\nDO NOT TRY TO STARVE YOURSELF, you will ultimately fail and end up either with an eating disorder or bigger than when you started - either way you will be unhappy. Make sure you eat plenty of fruit and vegetables every day and drink 2-3 litres of water (more if you're exercising).\\n4. Hair\\n4-1. Wash your hair around once a week if it's curly or dry, and every other day if it's straight or oily.\\nYou don't want to wash your hair every single day though because that will make it lose its natural oils.\\nIf your hair is short, you can look at inspirations such as Rihanna and Victoria Beckham for hairstyles whereas if your hair is on the longer side (shoulder-length and longer), you could look at Kim Kardashian and Beyoncé for your inspiration.\\n4-2. Work with your hair.\\nIn order to work your hair, you could keep it straight, wavy, curly or afro centric but it should always have some kind of shine. You definitely don't want dull, frizzy hair. In order to do that, find some products that produce shine such as Garnier Fructis and TRESemmé.\\n4-3. Make sure that if you are going to put heat on your hair, you use some kind of protection so as not to get split ends.\\nIt is best to air dry your hair instead of blow drying it to relieve it from all of the heat.\\n4-4. Don't straighten your hair every single day.\\nIt creates split ends and causes a lot of heat damage and the consequences are not worth it. Some appliances that may come in handy are: flat irons (for days where you want pin straight hair), curling wands (where you want lose waves and no creases in your hair from the clamps of curling irons), curling irons (for days where you want big, glamorous curls) and blow dryers (when time is running out and you don't have time to air dry).\\n5. Makeup\\n5-1. Put some concealer on blemishes if any -- no foundation, for that only clogs your pores.\\n\\n5-2. Use black or brown pencil eyeliner.\\nBy putting black or brown pencil eyeliner on your lower lash line and a peach-colored pencil eyeliner on your lower waterline, your eyes will look brighter and more awake.\\n5-3. Add about two coats of a volumizing mascara after curling it, slap on some lip balm and/or lip gloss, and you're ready to go!\\nStay natural.\\n5-4. Alternatively, don't wear any makeup at all.\\nMakeup can be fun and a confidence boost but you don't NEED it. Do whatever you feel comfortable with.\\n6. Inside Out\\n6-1. Respect everyone you meet even if they give you a reason not too; try hard to not make any enemies and think before you speak.\\nHowever, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, others and the things you believe in.\\n6-2. Use the morals\\nHowever, you don't have to agree with everything your parents believe and think - make your own decisions, be your own person.\\nIf you are sexually active, use condoms, birth control, etc.!\\n6-3. Hang out with your friends every other weekend and hang with your family the remaining weekends.\\n.\\n6-4. Read a book every once in a while.\\nIt's actually best to dedicate a certain amount of time for daily reading. You can get books from your library, your English teacher, or a bookstore. Know your favorite genre. If you have an addiction to historical fiction novels,read from that genre. However, it's important to read out of your genre sometimes as well. Try your hardest at school. You might not get a 4.0 GPA, but strive for it by studying. Most importantly, . It may sound cliché, but if you really find out your true self, your life will be amazing!\\nTips\\nStay healthy by eating a balanced diet and exercising daily.\\nYou don't have to follow all the latest fashion trends or dress like the people around you just to fit in. Wear what you like and what you feel good in.\\nPeople will like you more if you stand alone confidentially, rather than standing with fake friends.\\nWarnings\\nDon't try to be someone you're not. True friends will like you for who you are.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Want to be the most gorgeous girl around? 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1. Spending Time with Your Grandchildren
1-1. Give your grandchildren lots of love.
As the grandfather, one of the most important things you can do is simply to shower your grandchildren with love. Give them hugs and kisses and let them know how much they mean to you. Tell them how beautiful, smart, or funny they are and make them see that not a day goes by that you don’t think about them. Being as loving and caring as possible is the most important thing you can do.
Be affectionate. It’s important to give them hugs, kisses, and a lot of love.
If you’re the proud grandfather, just be aware that other people will be in line to hold your new grandchild ahead of you, including the parents and grandmothers. Have patience and you’ll have a chance to shower your grandchild with love.
1-2. Spoil your grandkids a little.
Of course, grandparents are notorious for spoiling their grandchildren. While you don’t want to completely ruin their diets by feeding them nothing but cookies, you should indulge them a little bit by bending the rules just enough that their time with you feels fun and carefree. Let them know how special they are and reward them with little treats or gifts every once in a while so they know how much they mean to you.
Though you don’t have to spoil them with expensive gifts they’ll forget in a few weeks, you should give them treasured keepsakes that they’ll always remember.
1-3. Tell them about your family history.
As the grandfather, one of your jobs is to tell your grandkids about what life was like when you were growing up. Though they may roll their eyes or act indifferent at first, it’s important for you to tell them what your parents were like and what your grandparents and life was like so that they have a deeper understanding and appreciation of the world they live in today, which is likely very different from yours. Even if they don’t seem to appreciate it at the time, they’ll be very grateful, one day.
Have them look at a photo album with you and tell lively stories about all of the people in their families to make them really come alive.
One fun activity you can do with your grandkids is to make a family tree together.
1-4. Be there for the milestones.
As a grandfather, one of the most important things you can do is to make sure to be there for the milestones. You can be there when your grandkids learn to walk and talk, and also when they’re a bit older when they start their first day of school or even when they graduate from elementary school. When they look back on these important moments in their lives, they’ll want to know that their grandfather was there every step along the way.
Support and encourage them when those times come. They’ll need you for those big moments.
1-5. Don’t play favorites.
If you’re lucky enough to have more than one grandchild, then you have to learn to love them equally, even if your adorable little granddaughter is always telling you how much she loves you, while your grandson likes to throw his food at your face. If you make your preferences known, your grandkids will be able to tell, and the one who isn’t favored will suffer. Just as in parenting, it’s important to love all of your grandchildren equally so they can thrive in the light of your love.
Learn to appreciate what makes each grandchild different, and try not to make them act like their siblings, except to model good behavior.
1-6. Listen to them.
Another important way to give your grandkids the love they deserve is to sit down and really listen to them. As the grandfather, you may be more used to talking than to listen, but if you really want to show them that you care, then you have to let them see that what they have to say is important. Sit them down on your lap or across from you during dinner, make eye contact with them, and let them tell you what happened during their day, what they’re looking forward to next weekend, or just what’s on their minds. If you’re really listening to them, it’ll make a big difference.
Put away your newspaper, turn off the TV and avoid any other distractions. Give them all of your attention.
1-7. Get them outdoors.
Let’s face it. Most kids spend way too much time in front of the television, computer, or even their cell phones. As their grandfather, and hopefully as a man who is less dependent on technology than they are, it’s your job to get them outdoors. This can mean helping you out in the yard, going for a walk in your neighborhood, or even learning to play catch with you. The important thing is that they gain a love and appreciation for the outdoors — and they’ll have you to thank for it, even if they grumble initially.
Get them moving. In addition to encouraging your grandchildren to go outdoors, you should motivate them to be active. This should go hand in hand with going outside. If you’re on the beach, throw a Frisbee around or swim with them.
If you’re at a park, help them play tag or play ring toss or another fun game. Most kids don’t get enough exercise, and it’s important to keep them feeling active and energetic.
2. Helping Your Grandchildren Build Character
2-1. Don’t let them break too many rules.
Though spoiling your grandkids a little is every grandparent’s right, you shouldn’t do it so much that you completely disregard their parents’ rules and cause conflicts. Don’t completely ignore their bedtimes, their dietary restrictions, or how much TV time they get per day. Though letting them break these rules may feel good initially, it can lead to confusion in their household, and you should make sure that your grandkids know that rules are meant to be followed.
Instead, help your grandchildren understand why their parents’ rules are important.
If you disagree with one of the parents’ rules, you can try talking to them about it (though you should avoid giving advice), but don’t tell the grandkids that it’s a bad rule.
2-2. Teach your grandkids about the world.
Another thing you can do as a grandfather is to tell your grandkids what life was like when you were growing up. Let them see that their world is still changing quickly and that they shouldn’t take anything for granted. If you have an extensive knowledge of history, politics, music, or really anything at all, then you should share this knowledge with your grandkids as much as you can; it will help them become mature, knowledgeable adults.
Spend time reading the paper with them and answer any questions they may have.
If they’re taking a history class, see what you can contribute from your own experiences.
2-3. Have them teach you something.
Though you may think that you’re the grandfather and that you have infinite wisdom to share with your grandchildren, you shouldn’t underestimate them, either. They live in a different world than you do, and it’s likely that they can teach you a thing or two, from how to send a text message to who the heck Justin Beiber is. Let them see that they are natural teachers and have a lot to offer, too, and they’ll develop more self-worth.
Ask them for help and don’t be shy about it. They’ll be proud to have something they can show Grandpa.
2-4. Help them become good citizens.
Another thing you can do as their grandparent is to teach them the importance of being a good citizen of the world. This can mean everything from teaching them to recycle, to making sure that they are friendly to their neighbors and respectful in public. Remember that you’re a role model to them, so if you are a good citizen, they will follow suit.
Help them have good manners, be polite, and learn to respect the privacy of others.
Even the most basic tasks, like putting back your shopping cart or holding a door for someone, can help your grandkids become good citizens.
2-5. If Grandma is in the picture, be a united front with her.
If you and your wife are helping raise the grandkids together, then you should stick to the same rules and regulations. This will help keep things in your household consistent and will make your grandchildren treat you equally, instead of thinking that one of you is the “good cop” who will bend some of the rules. You should also treat your wife with love and kindness, and use your relationship as a model of love and care that your grandchildren can aspire to, one day.
Be affectionate with your wife in front of your grandchildren, and give them a positive model of a relationship.
2-6. Don’t criticize them.
Of course, you can tell your grandkids to shape up when they’re misbehaving, but you should avoid being overly critical. It’s not your job to make them feel bad about themselves. You should praise them as much as you can and only criticize them if you think you want to teach them an important lesson and that it’ll be really good for their character. They should come to you for love and guidance, not discouragement.
Hold your tongue if you feel yourself wanting to be critical. Offer criticism only if it’s constructive, not if it’s meant to make your grandkids feel bad about themselves.
2-7. Be kind about their parents.
If you want to help your grandchildren be strong and to build their character, then you shouldn’t criticize their parents in front of them. Whether their parents owe you money or are giving you too many responsibilities, you should kick that to the curb when it comes to bonding with your grandchildren; if they hear you criticizing their parents, they’ll think it’s okay to do that, too, and they’ll fall into bad habits.
It goes without saying that when it comes to actually talking to their parents, you should also treat them with kindness and respect, and avoid fighting with them in front of their children.
3. Adjusting to Your New Role
3-1. Help the parents out as much as you can.
As a new grandfather, you can try to be as helpful as you are able to be while maintaining your boundaries. Help the parents by watching your grandkids, running small errands for them, or helping out around the house when you can. You should be there as the parents adjust to their new lives and offer love, support, and a helping hand. When the new baby arrives, you should plan to be more available than you usually are.
If you don’t live near the parents, you can plan to take a trip out to spend time helping them and bonding with your new grandkids.
3-2. Make sure you’re not overwhelmed by your new responsibilities.
While it’s important to help out the new parents, you shouldn’t let your responsibilities as a grandparent take over your entire life. You may be feeling overwhelmed or like you don’t have time to do the things you want to do. You may also feel not physically able to help out as much as you’ve been helping and may feel too proud to say so.
Though you may be excited to spend time with your new grandchild, you have to be open and honest with parents about how much you can comfortably take on.
3-3. Maintain your own life.
Though you may be eager and excited to be a grandfather, especially if you’re going it alone, you have to make sure to maintain your own life in spite of your new duties. Keep your usual meeting times with your friends, make time for cooking, fishing, walking, or anything else you normally like to do, and make time for decompressing with a good book in the process. It’s important to have a life so you don’t get too absorbed in the life of your new grandchild.
Keep spending time with your friends and your wife, and keep doing the same activities you loved to do before your grandkids arrived, whether you enjoy golfing, reading the paper, or gardening.
Remember that it’s likely that there are other grandparents who want to share your duties so you can’t expect to spend all of your time with your new grandchild.
3-4. Don’t offer parenting advice.
Though you may have a million and one ideas of how to raise children and though you may have raised 10 healthy, happy children yourself, when it comes to giving advice to the parents, your lips should be sealed unless that advice is asked for. Remember that you’re the grandparent and not the parent and accept that your role in your grandchildren’s lives is not the same as it would be if you were the parent.
If the parents ask for advice, you should give it without being critical. Keep in mind that things have changed a bit since you were raising your kids, and you should account for that in your advice.
3-5. Give the parents time to bond.
Though you may like spending time with the whole family, as the grandfather, you may want to give the parents some time to be together without their children. Some alone time is important for them to maintain their relationship, even if they miss the kids when they’re not with them. Make sure you give them some time to decompress and are understanding of their need to be alone sometimes.
Make sure the parents get to have a date night at least once or twice a month. They may insist that they don’t need time away from their kids; you should encourage them to get it.
Tips
Don't take being a giver too far, or you'll run out o' cash.
It isn't possible to be perfect, just try your best.
Don't encourage your grandkids when they start fighting. It is not a Battle of the Bands against The Beach Boys and Bobby Darin.
Warnings
Listening to any music that has swears is NOT a good idea.
Influencing bad behavior will lead to many problems with the parents.
Swearing is not necessary unless you just hit your head on the cupboard and 30 bottles of basil fell on your head.
Smoking will teach your grandchildren to be smokers, so stop smoking!
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Spending Time with Your Grandchildren\\n1-1. Give your grandchildren lots of love.\\nAs the grandfather, one of the most important things you can do is simply to shower your grandchildren with love. Give them hugs and kisses and let them know how much they mean to you. Tell them how beautiful, smart, or funny they are and make them see that not a day goes by that you don’t think about them. Being as loving and caring as possible is the most important thing you can do.\\nBe affectionate. It’s important to give them hugs, kisses, and a lot of love.\\nIf you’re the proud grandfather, just be aware that other people will be in line to hold your new grandchild ahead of you, including the parents and grandmothers. Have patience and you’ll have a chance to shower your grandchild with love.\\n1-2. Spoil your grandkids a little.\\nOf course, grandparents are notorious for spoiling their grandchildren. While you don’t want to completely ruin their diets by feeding them nothing but cookies, you should indulge them a little bit by bending the rules just enough that their time with you feels fun and carefree. Let them know how special they are and reward them with little treats or gifts every once in a while so they know how much they mean to you.\\nThough you don’t have to spoil them with expensive gifts they’ll forget in a few weeks, you should give them treasured keepsakes that they’ll always remember.\\n1-3. Tell them about your family history.\\nAs the grandfather, one of your jobs is to tell your grandkids about what life was like when you were growing up. Though they may roll their eyes or act indifferent at first, it’s important for you to tell them what your parents were like and what your grandparents and life was like so that they have a deeper understanding and appreciation of the world they live in today, which is likely very different from yours. Even if they don’t seem to appreciate it at the time, they’ll be very grateful, one day.\\nHave them look at a photo album with you and tell lively stories about all of the people in their families to make them really come alive.\\nOne fun activity you can do with your grandkids is to make a family tree together.\\n1-4. Be there for the milestones.\\nAs a grandfather, one of the most important things you can do is to make sure to be there for the milestones. You can be there when your grandkids learn to walk and talk, and also when they’re a bit older when they start their first day of school or even when they graduate from elementary school. When they look back on these important moments in their lives, they’ll want to know that their grandfather was there every step along the way. \\nSupport and encourage them when those times come. They’ll need you for those big moments.\\n1-5. Don’t play favorites.\\nIf you’re lucky enough to have more than one grandchild, then you have to learn to love them equally, even if your adorable little granddaughter is always telling you how much she loves you, while your grandson likes to throw his food at your face. If you make your preferences known, your grandkids will be able to tell, and the one who isn’t favored will suffer. Just as in parenting, it’s important to love all of your grandchildren equally so they can thrive in the light of your love.\\nLearn to appreciate what makes each grandchild different, and try not to make them act like their siblings, except to model good behavior.\\n1-6. Listen to them.\\nAnother important way to give your grandkids the love they deserve is to sit down and really listen to them. As the grandfather, you may be more used to talking than to listen, but if you really want to show them that you care, then you have to let them see that what they have to say is important. Sit them down on your lap or across from you during dinner, make eye contact with them, and let them tell you what happened during their day, what they’re looking forward to next weekend, or just what’s on their minds. If you’re really listening to them, it’ll make a big difference. \\nPut away your newspaper, turn off the TV and avoid any other distractions. Give them all of your attention.\\n1-7. Get them outdoors.\\nLet’s face it. Most kids spend way too much time in front of the television, computer, or even their cell phones. As their grandfather, and hopefully as a man who is less dependent on technology than they are, it’s your job to get them outdoors. This can mean helping you out in the yard, going for a walk in your neighborhood, or even learning to play catch with you. The important thing is that they gain a love and appreciation for the outdoors — and they’ll have you to thank for it, even if they grumble initially.\\nGet them moving. In addition to encouraging your grandchildren to go outdoors, you should motivate them to be active. This should go hand in hand with going outside. If you’re on the beach, throw a Frisbee around or swim with them.\\nIf you’re at a park, help them play tag or play ring toss or another fun game. Most kids don’t get enough exercise, and it’s important to keep them feeling active and energetic.\\n2. Helping Your Grandchildren Build Character\\n2-1. Don’t let them break too many rules.\\nThough spoiling your grandkids a little is every grandparent’s right, you shouldn’t do it so much that you completely disregard their parents’ rules and cause conflicts. Don’t completely ignore their bedtimes, their dietary restrictions, or how much TV time they get per day. Though letting them break these rules may feel good initially, it can lead to confusion in their household, and you should make sure that your grandkids know that rules are meant to be followed.\\nInstead, help your grandchildren understand why their parents’ rules are important.\\nIf you disagree with one of the parents’ rules, you can try talking to them about it (though you should avoid giving advice), but don’t tell the grandkids that it’s a bad rule.\\n2-2. Teach your grandkids about the world.\\nAnother thing you can do as a grandfather is to tell your grandkids what life was like when you were growing up. Let them see that their world is still changing quickly and that they shouldn’t take anything for granted. If you have an extensive knowledge of history, politics, music, or really anything at all, then you should share this knowledge with your grandkids as much as you can; it will help them become mature, knowledgeable adults.\\nSpend time reading the paper with them and answer any questions they may have.\\nIf they’re taking a history class, see what you can contribute from your own experiences.\\n2-3. Have them teach you something.\\nThough you may think that you’re the grandfather and that you have infinite wisdom to share with your grandchildren, you shouldn’t underestimate them, either. They live in a different world than you do, and it’s likely that they can teach you a thing or two, from how to send a text message to who the heck Justin Beiber is. Let them see that they are natural teachers and have a lot to offer, too, and they’ll develop more self-worth.\\nAsk them for help and don’t be shy about it. They’ll be proud to have something they can show Grandpa.\\n2-4. Help them become good citizens.\\nAnother thing you can do as their grandparent is to teach them the importance of being a good citizen of the world. This can mean everything from teaching them to recycle, to making sure that they are friendly to their neighbors and respectful in public. Remember that you’re a role model to them, so if you are a good citizen, they will follow suit.\\nHelp them have good manners, be polite, and learn to respect the privacy of others.\\nEven the most basic tasks, like putting back your shopping cart or holding a door for someone, can help your grandkids become good citizens.\\n2-5. If Grandma is in the picture, be a united front with her.\\nIf you and your wife are helping raise the grandkids together, then you should stick to the same rules and regulations. This will help keep things in your household consistent and will make your grandchildren treat you equally, instead of thinking that one of you is the “good cop” who will bend some of the rules. You should also treat your wife with love and kindness, and use your relationship as a model of love and care that your grandchildren can aspire to, one day.\\nBe affectionate with your wife in front of your grandchildren, and give them a positive model of a relationship.\\n2-6. Don’t criticize them.\\nOf course, you can tell your grandkids to shape up when they’re misbehaving, but you should avoid being overly critical. It’s not your job to make them feel bad about themselves. You should praise them as much as you can and only criticize them if you think you want to teach them an important lesson and that it’ll be really good for their character. They should come to you for love and guidance, not discouragement.\\nHold your tongue if you feel yourself wanting to be critical. Offer criticism only if it’s constructive, not if it’s meant to make your grandkids feel bad about themselves.\\n2-7. Be kind about their parents.\\nIf you want to help your grandchildren be strong and to build their character, then you shouldn’t criticize their parents in front of them. Whether their parents owe you money or are giving you too many responsibilities, you should kick that to the curb when it comes to bonding with your grandchildren; if they hear you criticizing their parents, they’ll think it’s okay to do that, too, and they’ll fall into bad habits.\\nIt goes without saying that when it comes to actually talking to their parents, you should also treat them with kindness and respect, and avoid fighting with them in front of their children.\\n3. Adjusting to Your New Role\\n3-1. Help the parents out as much as you can.\\nAs a new grandfather, you can try to be as helpful as you are able to be while maintaining your boundaries. Help the parents by watching your grandkids, running small errands for them, or helping out around the house when you can. You should be there as the parents adjust to their new lives and offer love, support, and a helping hand. When the new baby arrives, you should plan to be more available than you usually are.\\nIf you don’t live near the parents, you can plan to take a trip out to spend time helping them and bonding with your new grandkids.\\n3-2. Make sure you’re not overwhelmed by your new responsibilities.\\nWhile it’s important to help out the new parents, you shouldn’t let your responsibilities as a grandparent take over your entire life. You may be feeling overwhelmed or like you don’t have time to do the things you want to do. You may also feel not physically able to help out as much as you’ve been helping and may feel too proud to say so.\\nThough you may be excited to spend time with your new grandchild, you have to be open and honest with parents about how much you can comfortably take on.\\n3-3. Maintain your own life.\\nThough you may be eager and excited to be a grandfather, especially if you’re going it alone, you have to make sure to maintain your own life in spite of your new duties. Keep your usual meeting times with your friends, make time for cooking, fishing, walking, or anything else you normally like to do, and make time for decompressing with a good book in the process. It’s important to have a life so you don’t get too absorbed in the life of your new grandchild.\\nKeep spending time with your friends and your wife, and keep doing the same activities you loved to do before your grandkids arrived, whether you enjoy golfing, reading the paper, or gardening.\\nRemember that it’s likely that there are other grandparents who want to share your duties so you can’t expect to spend all of your time with your new grandchild.\\n3-4. Don’t offer parenting advice.\\nThough you may have a million and one ideas of how to raise children and though you may have raised 10 healthy, happy children yourself, when it comes to giving advice to the parents, your lips should be sealed unless that advice is asked for. Remember that you’re the grandparent and not the parent and accept that your role in your grandchildren’s lives is not the same as it would be if you were the parent.\\nIf the parents ask for advice, you should give it without being critical. Keep in mind that things have changed a bit since you were raising your kids, and you should account for that in your advice.\\n3-5. Give the parents time to bond.\\nThough you may like spending time with the whole family, as the grandfather, you may want to give the parents some time to be together without their children. Some alone time is important for them to maintain their relationship, even if they miss the kids when they’re not with them. Make sure you give them some time to decompress and are understanding of their need to be alone sometimes.\\nMake sure the parents get to have a date night at least once or twice a month. They may insist that they don’t need time away from their kids; you should encourage them to get it.\\nTips\\nDon't take being a giver too far, or you'll run out o' cash.\\nIt isn't possible to be perfect, just try your best.\\nDon't encourage your grandkids when they start fighting. It is not a Battle of the Bands against The Beach Boys and Bobby Darin.\\nWarnings\\nListening to any music that has swears is NOT a good idea.\\nInfluencing bad behavior will lead to many problems with the parents.\\nSwearing is not necessary unless you just hit your head on the cupboard and 30 bottles of basil fell on your head.\\nSmoking will teach your grandchildren to be smokers, so stop smoking!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"How did this happen? You’re hardly middle-aged and incredibly fit, with your whole life ahead of you — and suddenly, some small baby will grow up to call you “Grandpa.” Of course you’re the most hip grandfather around, but if you want to do the job right, then you have to learn to shower your grandchild with love and affection while knowing your limits.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spending Time with Your Grandchildren\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your grandchildren lots of love.\", \"描述\": \"As the grandfather, one of the most important things you can do is simply to shower your grandchildren with love. Give them hugs and kisses and let them know how much they mean to you. Tell them how beautiful, smart, or funny they are and make them see that not a day goes by that you don’t think about them. Being as loving and caring as possible is the most important thing you can do.\\nBe affectionate. It’s important to give them hugs, kisses, and a lot of love.\\nIf you’re the proud grandfather, just be aware that other people will be in line to hold your new grandchild ahead of you, including the parents and grandmothers. Have patience and you’ll have a chance to shower your grandchild with love.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Spoil your grandkids a little.\", \"描述\": \"Of course, grandparents are notorious for spoiling their grandchildren. While you don’t want to completely ruin their diets by feeding them nothing but cookies, you should indulge them a little bit by bending the rules just enough that their time with you feels fun and carefree. Let them know how special they are and reward them with little treats or gifts every once in a while so they know how much they mean to you.\\nThough you don’t have to spoil them with expensive gifts they’ll forget in a few weeks, you should give them treasured keepsakes that they’ll always remember.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tell them about your family history.\", \"描述\": \"As the grandfather, one of your jobs is to tell your grandkids about what life was like when you were growing up. Though they may roll their eyes or act indifferent at first, it’s important for you to tell them what your parents were like and what your grandparents and life was like so that they have a deeper understanding and appreciation of the world they live in today, which is likely very different from yours. Even if they don’t seem to appreciate it at the time, they’ll be very grateful, one day.\\nHave them look at a photo album with you and tell lively stories about all of the people in their families to make them really come alive.\\nOne fun activity you can do with your grandkids is to make a family tree together.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be there for the milestones.\", \"描述\": \"As a grandfather, one of the most important things you can do is to make sure to be there for the milestones. You can be there when your grandkids learn to walk and talk, and also when they’re a bit older when they start their first day of school or even when they graduate from elementary school. When they look back on these important moments in their lives, they’ll want to know that their grandfather was there every step along the way. \\nSupport and encourage them when those times come. They’ll need you for those big moments.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don’t play favorites.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re lucky enough to have more than one grandchild, then you have to learn to love them equally, even if your adorable little granddaughter is always telling you how much she loves you, while your grandson likes to throw his food at your face. If you make your preferences known, your grandkids will be able to tell, and the one who isn’t favored will suffer. Just as in parenting, it’s important to love all of your grandchildren equally so they can thrive in the light of your love.\\nLearn to appreciate what makes each grandchild different, and try not to make them act like their siblings, except to model good behavior.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Listen to them.\", \"描述\": \"Another important way to give your grandkids the love they deserve is to sit down and really listen to them. As the grandfather, you may be more used to talking than to listen, but if you really want to show them that you care, then you have to let them see that what they have to say is important. Sit them down on your lap or across from you during dinner, make eye contact with them, and let them tell you what happened during their day, what they’re looking forward to next weekend, or just what’s on their minds. If you’re really listening to them, it’ll make a big difference. \\nPut away your newspaper, turn off the TV and avoid any other distractions. Give them all of your attention.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get them outdoors.\", \"描述\": \"Let’s face it. Most kids spend way too much time in front of the television, computer, or even their cell phones. As their grandfather, and hopefully as a man who is less dependent on technology than they are, it’s your job to get them outdoors. This can mean helping you out in the yard, going for a walk in your neighborhood, or even learning to play catch with you. The important thing is that they gain a love and appreciation for the outdoors — and they’ll have you to thank for it, even if they grumble initially.\\nGet them moving. In addition to encouraging your grandchildren to go outdoors, you should motivate them to be active. This should go hand in hand with going outside. If you’re on the beach, throw a Frisbee around or swim with them.\\nIf you’re at a park, help them play tag or play ring toss or another fun game. 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Though letting them break these rules may feel good initially, it can lead to confusion in their household, and you should make sure that your grandkids know that rules are meant to be followed.\\nInstead, help your grandchildren understand why their parents’ rules are important.\\nIf you disagree with one of the parents’ rules, you can try talking to them about it (though you should avoid giving advice), but don’t tell the grandkids that it’s a bad rule.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Teach your grandkids about the world.\", \"描述\": \"Another thing you can do as a grandfather is to tell your grandkids what life was like when you were growing up. Let them see that their world is still changing quickly and that they shouldn’t take anything for granted. If you have an extensive knowledge of history, politics, music, or really anything at all, then you should share this knowledge with your grandkids as much as you can; it will help them become mature, knowledgeable adults.\\nSpend time reading the paper with them and answer any questions they may have.\\nIf they’re taking a history class, see what you can contribute from your own experiences.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have them teach you something.\", \"描述\": \"Though you may think that you’re the grandfather and that you have infinite wisdom to share with your grandchildren, you shouldn’t underestimate them, either. They live in a different world than you do, and it’s likely that they can teach you a thing or two, from how to send a text message to who the heck Justin Beiber is. Let them see that they are natural teachers and have a lot to offer, too, and they’ll develop more self-worth.\\nAsk them for help and don’t be shy about it. They’ll be proud to have something they can show Grandpa.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Help them become good citizens.\", \"描述\": \"Another thing you can do as their grandparent is to teach them the importance of being a good citizen of the world. This can mean everything from teaching them to recycle, to making sure that they are friendly to their neighbors and respectful in public. Remember that you’re a role model to them, so if you are a good citizen, they will follow suit.\\nHelp them have good manners, be polite, and learn to respect the privacy of others.\\nEven the most basic tasks, like putting back your shopping cart or holding a door for someone, can help your grandkids become good citizens.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"If Grandma is in the picture, be a united front with her.\", \"描述\": \"If you and your wife are helping raise the grandkids together, then you should stick to the same rules and regulations. This will help keep things in your household consistent and will make your grandchildren treat you equally, instead of thinking that one of you is the “good cop” who will bend some of the rules. You should also treat your wife with love and kindness, and use your relationship as a model of love and care that your grandchildren can aspire to, one day.\\nBe affectionate with your wife in front of your grandchildren, and give them a positive model of a relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don’t criticize them.\", \"描述\": \"Of course, you can tell your grandkids to shape up when they’re misbehaving, but you should avoid being overly critical. It’s not your job to make them feel bad about themselves. You should praise them as much as you can and only criticize them if you think you want to teach them an important lesson and that it’ll be really good for their character. They should come to you for love and guidance, not discouragement.\\nHold your tongue if you feel yourself wanting to be critical. Offer criticism only if it’s constructive, not if it’s meant to make your grandkids feel bad about themselves.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be kind about their parents.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to help your grandchildren be strong and to build their character, then you shouldn’t criticize their parents in front of them. Whether their parents owe you money or are giving you too many responsibilities, you should kick that to the curb when it comes to bonding with your grandchildren; if they hear you criticizing their parents, they’ll think it’s okay to do that, too, and they’ll fall into bad habits.\\nIt goes without saying that when it comes to actually talking to their parents, you should also treat them with kindness and respect, and avoid fighting with them in front of their children.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Adjusting to Your New Role\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help the parents out as much as you can.\", \"描述\": \"As a new grandfather, you can try to be as helpful as you are able to be while maintaining your boundaries. Help the parents by watching your grandkids, running small errands for them, or helping out around the house when you can. You should be there as the parents adjust to their new lives and offer love, support, and a helping hand. 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It’s important to have a life so you don’t get too absorbed in the life of your new grandchild.\\nKeep spending time with your friends and your wife, and keep doing the same activities you loved to do before your grandkids arrived, whether you enjoy golfing, reading the paper, or gardening.\\nRemember that it’s likely that there are other grandparents who want to share your duties so you can’t expect to spend all of your time with your new grandchild.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t offer parenting advice.\", \"描述\": \"Though you may have a million and one ideas of how to raise children and though you may have raised 10 healthy, happy children yourself, when it comes to giving advice to the parents, your lips should be sealed unless that advice is asked for. 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1. Doing the Groundwork
1-1. Learn through script reading.
Read the scripts of your favorite plays and movies. Familiarize yourself with the classics, like Shakespeare, Oscar Wilde, Anton Chekov, and Tennessee Williams. Read these scripts aloud on your own or with friends. With every reading, try to capture the feeling and emotion in the scene.
By exposing yourself to the "greats" of play writing, you'll build up your knowledge of good scripts and develop an intuition for reading them.
Many copies of your favorite scripts can be found in part or whole online. Do a general keyword search for your favorite movies to find these.
The classics, especially ancient ones (like Euripides, Sophocles, and Aeschylus) can usually be found online for free.
1-2. Watch great actors.
Deconstruct your favorite actors' habits. How do they use their bodies? What facial expressions do they use effectively? Practice these gestures and expressions in a mirror. Exercise your facial muscles by doing things like smiling in uncommon ways, raising your eyebrows, raising one eyebrow at a time, puffing out your cheeks, and so on.
While some facial expressions, like quirking a single eyebrow, can be difficult at first, as you practice they should become easier.
Combine your favorite gestures and expressions with a recitation of your favorite lines from scripts, movies, and plays. This is an excellent way to integrate your body with spoken lines.
1-3. Develop audition material.
Some auditions will require you to read from a pre-selected piece or a portion of the script that will be used in the show. In many cases, however, you'll have to choose your own audition piece.
Monologues are common requirements for individual auditions. Find books of monologues at your local library or online.
Try to choose at least two tonally contrasting monologues that are rock-solid home runs and that aren't frequently performed.
Perform your favorite monologues to friends, family, and strangers. Ask for feedback. Friends and family may be overly kind to you, so it's a good idea to perform in front of people you don't know, too.
Steer clear of monologues that pop up when you search something like "best monologues," and also try to choose one that isn't from an iconic film or performance. You don't want to be compared to multiple people, and you don't want to be automatically compared to Oscar winners either.
1-4. Get a professional headshot.
When you audition, especially for serious parts, a headshot is often required. This is generally an 8x10, high-quality print where your face is clearly visible. While it may be tempting to just have a friend take these, professionally done headshots are essential at any level higher than basic commercial work. Your name should be on the print, in most cases in the lower right hand corner. To this print, you'll need to staple an acting resume, which includes things like:
Your basic stats (hair and eye color, height, weight, age, etc.)
Acting training and experience
Special skills and abilities the director might find desirable
1-5. Take a class.
Community centers and colleges frequently offer acting classes. Take an improvisation (improv) class or stand-up comedy class to work on your stage presence, delivery, and onstage flexibility.
Beyond simply giving you more experience, you'll also receive professional level critique and advice from the instructor of the class.
If you're nervous about taking a class by yourself, invite a friend to join you. Many basic acting/improv classes have open enrollment.
2. Auditioning for a Part
2-1. Find a suitable performance.
Keep an eye on local theatres. These will post casting calls when planning for a new performance. Join acting related social media groups, like those on Facebook or Twitter, to network with fellow actors and hear about potential gigs.
When choosing a performance to audition for, keep your personal style in mind. You may be a versatile actor, but oftentimes people are strong-suited for certain roles, like comedic or dramatic ones.
2-2. Visit the brick-and-mortar location of local theatres.
Drop off your headshot. Talk to staff and let them know you're interested in getting involved. Getting your foot in the door can help you network and land a future part.
Even if you aren't cast in a performance, ask if you can work as a stage hand or backstage. This will expose you to active talent, directors, and producers.
2-3. Choose a part to audition for.
All of your audition choices should prove that you're the right person to play this part. Sometimes, you may be asked to list two or three parts you're interested in. Your main part should be the focus, but have some backups on hand, just in case.
In some cases, a director may love your ability, but think you're the wrong choice for the part you've selected. By having backups, you'll show that you're really interested in being a part of the performance and not just a single part.
2-4. Do your homework.
What kind of performance are you auditioning for? If it's dramatic, you'll want to showcase your dramatic acting skills. What time period and environment does the performance take place in? This might influence how you act, speak, and treat others onstage.
Some plays, like My Fair Lady, are set in a location that requires an accent. In the case of My Fair Lady, which takes place in London, you'd want to show off your British accent.
Watch famous, popular, or iconic recordings of the performance for which you're auditioning. These can help you identify features you'll want to demonstrate in your audition.
2-5. Select an audition piece.
The tone of your audition piece should suit the part you're auditioning for. Try to match your audition piece with the local color of the part you're trying out for. Local color includes things like time period, region, and manner of speech.
Analyze the performances of other actors who played the part you'll be trying out for. Include your favorite features of their performance in your own.
2-6. Audition boldly.
Make big choices with your audition. There may be many people trying out for the same part, and standing out from the crowd will improve your chances of being remembered. Try not to be over-the-top silly, but aim to leave a mark on those watching your audition.
Come to the audition dressed in period clothing for the audition piece you'll be doing. Be confident. If you're the only person dressed up, that might work to your advantage.
Choose a pivotal moment in your audition piece. Craft that moment so it has a large impact on those watching. Usually this involves (believably) accentuating a moment of high energy, like a punchline or dramatic climax.
3. Performing Like a Star
3-1. Research your part deeply.
Look into your character's backstory. If it doesn't have one, research similar jobs to that of your character to get a feel for the kind of person your character might be. For example, if you're playing the part of Bert from Mary Poppins, you might look into the life of a chimney sweep.
Use the information you learn about your character to add depth to the part. This might be reflected in your gestures, delivery of lines, and more.
Think about how a character's life choices or job affect things like their posture or mannerisms. A military part, for example, would likely have good posture.
3-2. Investigate your part's connection to other parts.
Pay careful attention to the words your part exchanges with other characters. These will reveal the inner thoughts and feelings of your part. From these observations, draw conclusions about how your character feels about the world and other people in general.
For example, in My Fair Lady, the character of Pickering is described as "a confirmed bachelor." You might interpret this to mean the character isn't interested in women.
In Fiddler on the Roof, the main character, Tevye, sings "If I Were a Rich Man." When playing this part, you might act somewhat self-consciously around successful characters.
3-3. Embody your part.
Lose yourself in the character you are playing. Train yourself to think thoughts natural to your character. When in-character, your personal thoughts will likely detract from your performance. As a general rule, if you believe you are the character, so will your audience.
A good technique for losing yourself in your character involves imagining yourself and your personal experiences burning up in a flame, leaving only your character behind.
3-4. Take care of your instrument.
An actor's body and voice are their instrument. Performing on stage requires energy, speed, and stamina. Exercise so you're up to the challenge of performing. Avoid smoking to protect your voice.
Avoid drinking alcohol before performing. Alcohol dehydrates you, which can strain your voice before performing.
Get plenty of sleep before performances so you feel refreshed and at full energy when you go on stage.
It's common to be affected by nerves before a performance. Take melatonin, which is available at most drug and convenience stores, to aid in getting a good night's sleep.
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Exercise your facial muscles by doing things like smiling in uncommon ways, raising your eyebrows, raising one eyebrow at a time, puffing out your cheeks, and so on.\\nWhile some facial expressions, like quirking a single eyebrow, can be difficult at first, as you practice they should become easier.\\nCombine your favorite gestures and expressions with a recitation of your favorite lines from scripts, movies, and plays. This is an excellent way to integrate your body with spoken lines.\\n1-3. Develop audition material.\\nSome auditions will require you to read from a pre-selected piece or a portion of the script that will be used in the show. In many cases, however, you'll have to choose your own audition piece.\\nMonologues are common requirements for individual auditions. Find books of monologues at your local library or online.\\nTry to choose at least two tonally contrasting monologues that are rock-solid home runs and that aren't frequently performed.\\nPerform your favorite monologues to friends, family, and strangers. Ask for feedback. Friends and family may be overly kind to you, so it's a good idea to perform in front of people you don't know, too.\\nSteer clear of monologues that pop up when you search something like \\\"best monologues,\\\" and also try to choose one that isn't from an iconic film or performance. You don't want to be compared to multiple people, and you don't want to be automatically compared to Oscar winners either.\\n1-4. Get a professional headshot.\\nWhen you audition, especially for serious parts, a headshot is often required. This is generally an 8x10, high-quality print where your face is clearly visible. While it may be tempting to just have a friend take these, professionally done headshots are essential at any level higher than basic commercial work. Your name should be on the print, in most cases in the lower right hand corner. To this print, you'll need to staple an acting resume, which includes things like:\\nYour basic stats (hair and eye color, height, weight, age, etc.)\\nActing training and experience\\nSpecial skills and abilities the director might find desirable\\n1-5. Take a class.\\nCommunity centers and colleges frequently offer acting classes. Take an improvisation (improv) class or stand-up comedy class to work on your stage presence, delivery, and onstage flexibility.\\nBeyond simply giving you more experience, you'll also receive professional level critique and advice from the instructor of the class.\\nIf you're nervous about taking a class by yourself, invite a friend to join you. Many basic acting/improv classes have open enrollment.\\n2. Auditioning for a Part\\n2-1. Find a suitable performance.\\nKeep an eye on local theatres. These will post casting calls when planning for a new performance. Join acting related social media groups, like those on Facebook or Twitter, to network with fellow actors and hear about potential gigs.\\nWhen choosing a performance to audition for, keep your personal style in mind. You may be a versatile actor, but oftentimes people are strong-suited for certain roles, like comedic or dramatic ones.\\n2-2. Visit the brick-and-mortar location of local theatres.\\nDrop off your headshot. Talk to staff and let them know you're interested in getting involved. Getting your foot in the door can help you network and land a future part.\\nEven if you aren't cast in a performance, ask if you can work as a stage hand or backstage. This will expose you to active talent, directors, and producers.\\n2-3. Choose a part to audition for.\\nAll of your audition choices should prove that you're the right person to play this part. Sometimes, you may be asked to list two or three parts you're interested in. Your main part should be the focus, but have some backups on hand, just in case.\\nIn some cases, a director may love your ability, but think you're the wrong choice for the part you've selected. By having backups, you'll show that you're really interested in being a part of the performance and not just a single part.\\n2-4. Do your homework.\\nWhat kind of performance are you auditioning for? If it's dramatic, you'll want to showcase your dramatic acting skills. What time period and environment does the performance take place in? This might influence how you act, speak, and treat others onstage.\\nSome plays, like My Fair Lady, are set in a location that requires an accent. In the case of My Fair Lady, which takes place in London, you'd want to show off your British accent.\\nWatch famous, popular, or iconic recordings of the performance for which you're auditioning. These can help you identify features you'll want to demonstrate in your audition.\\n2-5. Select an audition piece.\\nThe tone of your audition piece should suit the part you're auditioning for. Try to match your audition piece with the local color of the part you're trying out for. Local color includes things like time period, region, and manner of speech.\\nAnalyze the performances of other actors who played the part you'll be trying out for. Include your favorite features of their performance in your own.\\n2-6. Audition boldly.\\nMake big choices with your audition. There may be many people trying out for the same part, and standing out from the crowd will improve your chances of being remembered. Try not to be over-the-top silly, but aim to leave a mark on those watching your audition.\\nCome to the audition dressed in period clothing for the audition piece you'll be doing. Be confident. If you're the only person dressed up, that might work to your advantage.\\nChoose a pivotal moment in your audition piece. Craft that moment so it has a large impact on those watching. Usually this involves (believably) accentuating a moment of high energy, like a punchline or dramatic climax.\\n3. Performing Like a Star\\n3-1. Research your part deeply.\\nLook into your character's backstory. If it doesn't have one, research similar jobs to that of your character to get a feel for the kind of person your character might be. For example, if you're playing the part of Bert from Mary Poppins, you might look into the life of a chimney sweep.\\nUse the information you learn about your character to add depth to the part. This might be reflected in your gestures, delivery of lines, and more.\\nThink about how a character's life choices or job affect things like their posture or mannerisms. A military part, for example, would likely have good posture.\\n3-2. Investigate your part's connection to other parts.\\nPay careful attention to the words your part exchanges with other characters. These will reveal the inner thoughts and feelings of your part. From these observations, draw conclusions about how your character feels about the world and other people in general.\\nFor example, in My Fair Lady, the character of Pickering is described as \\\"a confirmed bachelor.\\\" You might interpret this to mean the character isn't interested in women.\\nIn Fiddler on the Roof, the main character, Tevye, sings \\\"If I Were a Rich Man.\\\" When playing this part, you might act somewhat self-consciously around successful characters.\\n3-3. Embody your part.\\nLose yourself in the character you are playing. Train yourself to think thoughts natural to your character. When in-character, your personal thoughts will likely detract from your performance. As a general rule, if you believe you are the character, so will your audience.\\nA good technique for losing yourself in your character involves imagining yourself and your personal experiences burning up in a flame, leaving only your character behind.\\n3-4. Take care of your instrument.\\nAn actor's body and voice are their instrument. Performing on stage requires energy, speed, and stamina. Exercise so you're up to the challenge of performing. Avoid smoking to protect your voice.\\nAvoid drinking alcohol before performing. Alcohol dehydrates you, which can strain your voice before performing.\\nGet plenty of sleep before performances so you feel refreshed and at full energy when you go on stage.\\nIt's common to be affected by nerves before a performance. Take melatonin, which is available at most drug and convenience stores, to aid in getting a good night's sleep.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Although professionals onstage or in your favorite movies might make acting seem effortless, their performances are generally the result of years of effort, intelligent research, and careful observation. You can achieve a higher level of onstage or onscreen grace by doing groundwork with things like practicing and getting a headshot. Audition for parts by choosing one suitable for your style and making bold choices. Perform like a star by doing your research and embodying your character.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Doing the Groundwork\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn through script reading.\", \"描述\": \"Read the scripts of your favorite plays and movies. Familiarize yourself with the classics, like Shakespeare, Oscar Wilde, Anton Chekov, and Tennessee Williams. Read these scripts aloud on your own or with friends. With every reading, try to capture the feeling and emotion in the scene.\\nBy exposing yourself to the \\\"greats\\\" of play writing, you'll build up your knowledge of good scripts and develop an intuition for reading them.\\nMany copies of your favorite scripts can be found in part or whole online. Do a general keyword search for your favorite movies to find these.\\nThe classics, especially ancient ones (like Euripides, Sophocles, and Aeschylus) can usually be found online for free.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Watch great actors.\", \"描述\": \"Deconstruct your favorite actors' habits. How do they use their bodies? What facial expressions do they use effectively? Practice these gestures and expressions in a mirror. Exercise your facial muscles by doing things like smiling in uncommon ways, raising your eyebrows, raising one eyebrow at a time, puffing out your cheeks, and so on.\\nWhile some facial expressions, like quirking a single eyebrow, can be difficult at first, as you practice they should become easier.\\nCombine your favorite gestures and expressions with a recitation of your favorite lines from scripts, movies, and plays. This is an excellent way to integrate your body with spoken lines.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Develop audition material.\", \"描述\": \"Some auditions will require you to read from a pre-selected piece or a portion of the script that will be used in the show. In many cases, however, you'll have to choose your own audition piece.\\nMonologues are common requirements for individual auditions. Find books of monologues at your local library or online.\\nTry to choose at least two tonally contrasting monologues that are rock-solid home runs and that aren't frequently performed.\\nPerform your favorite monologues to friends, family, and strangers. Ask for feedback. Friends and family may be overly kind to you, so it's a good idea to perform in front of people you don't know, too.\\nSteer clear of monologues that pop up when you search something like \\\"best monologues,\\\" and also try to choose one that isn't from an iconic film or performance. You don't want to be compared to multiple people, and you don't want to be automatically compared to Oscar winners either.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a professional headshot.\", \"描述\": \"When you audition, especially for serious parts, a headshot is often required. This is generally an 8x10, high-quality print where your face is clearly visible. While it may be tempting to just have a friend take these, professionally done headshots are essential at any level higher than basic commercial work. Your name should be on the print, in most cases in the lower right hand corner. To this print, you'll need to staple an acting resume, which includes things like:\\nYour basic stats (hair and eye color, height, weight, age, etc.)\\nActing training and experience\\nSpecial skills and abilities the director might find desirable\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take a class.\", \"描述\": \"Community centers and colleges frequently offer acting classes. Take an improvisation (improv) class or stand-up comedy class to work on your stage presence, delivery, and onstage flexibility.\\nBeyond simply giving you more experience, you'll also receive professional level critique and advice from the instructor of the class.\\nIf you're nervous about taking a class by yourself, invite a friend to join you. Many basic acting/improv classes have open enrollment.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Auditioning for a Part\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find a suitable performance.\", \"描述\": \"Keep an eye on local theatres. These will post casting calls when planning for a new performance. Join acting related social media groups, like those on Facebook or Twitter, to network with fellow actors and hear about potential gigs.\\nWhen choosing a performance to audition for, keep your personal style in mind. You may be a versatile actor, but oftentimes people are strong-suited for certain roles, like comedic or dramatic ones.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Visit the brick-and-mortar location of local theatres.\", \"描述\": \"Drop off your headshot. Talk to staff and let them know you're interested in getting involved. Getting your foot in the door can help you network and land a future part.\\nEven if you aren't cast in a performance, ask if you can work as a stage hand or backstage. This will expose you to active talent, directors, and producers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose a part to audition for.\", \"描述\": \"All of your audition choices should prove that you're the right person to play this part. Sometimes, you may be asked to list two or three parts you're interested in. Your main part should be the focus, but have some backups on hand, just in case.\\nIn some cases, a director may love your ability, but think you're the wrong choice for the part you've selected. By having backups, you'll show that you're really interested in being a part of the performance and not just a single part.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do your homework.\", \"描述\": \"What kind of performance are you auditioning for? If it's dramatic, you'll want to showcase your dramatic acting skills. What time period and environment does the performance take place in? 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For example, if you're playing the part of Bert from Mary Poppins, you might look into the life of a chimney sweep.\\nUse the information you learn about your character to add depth to the part. This might be reflected in your gestures, delivery of lines, and more.\\nThink about how a character's life choices or job affect things like their posture or mannerisms. A military part, for example, would likely have good posture.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Investigate your part's connection to other parts.\", \"描述\": \"Pay careful attention to the words your part exchanges with other characters. These will reveal the inner thoughts and feelings of your part. 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1. Being Available to Your Nieces and Nephews
1-1. Listen to them.
Sometimes parents are too busy to listen to their children, especially if they have multiple children and busy careers. In situations such as these, as an auntie you can give more time to all the stories and news that your nieces and nephews want to share. In this way, you are almost acting as a supplemental parent by offering your niece or nephew your attention when they need it.
Practice active listening with your nieces and nephews. Listen to closely to what they are saying to you, and then repeat it back to them in their own words to make sure that you understood what they told you. Now, your niece or nephew will either confirm that you understood what they said, or they will correct you and explain what they meant. This helps to avoid misunderstandings.
1-2. Act as a role model.
In addition to listening to your niece or nephew, you can offer them advice, teach them how to do things, and set a good example for them. This will allow you to help mold your niece or nephew’s behaviors through your own example or counsel. For example, you might offer advice on how your niece or nephew should treat their siblings or how they should maintain a relationship with their parents. Or you might offer relationship advice or counsel your niece or nephew on school or career paths as they get older.
If you do not believe that you would be a good role model for your nieces and nephews, ask yourself why not. Is this something that you can change about yourself? If so, consider making the change. If not, consider the impact this will have on the children. Ask yourself if this is something that you could hide from your nieces and nephews, if you cannot change it. If so, consider hiding it.
For example, perhaps you are a young adult and you like to drink alcohol with your friends in the evening. You know that drinking alcohol in excess in front of your nieces and nephews could have a lasting negative impact upon them and that it wouldn’t make you a good role model. You might decide to stop drinking so much in order to be a better role model for the children. Or you might decide to continue drinking with your friends, but choose to remain sober when you are around your nieces and nephews. If you feel like you need to get drunk around your nieces and nephews, return them to their parents immediately. Getting drunk in front of them is irresponsible, and sets a bad example for them.
1-3. Be available to your niece and nephew.
Babysit your nieces and nephews when they are young. As they get older, let them know that they can drop by to see you whenever they wish. Take them on outings with you or arrange scheduled visits with them. The more time that you spend together, the stronger your bond will become. You will also show them that you are dependable and that they can trust you by making time for them.
1-4. Spend time cultivating your relationship with them through phone calls, text messages, and emails.
This is especially important if you can't visit with your niece or nephew or if you live far away. By incorporating mediated communication into your relationship with your niece or nephew, you are teaching them that you are always available to them and that you can be reached in a multitude of ways.
1-5. Share stories with your nieces and nephews.
If you know that your niece or nephew is going through something that you experienced as a child, share the story of your experience with your niece or nephew.
Children like hearing stories, especially when they are relatable or if they contain stories that include people they know such as their parents, grandparents, or other aunts and uncles. These stories inform your nieces and nephews of their family history, while also letting them know that they are not alone in their experiences.
1-6. Remain on good terms with your siblings.
Your brother or sister is likely the parent of your nieces and nephews, and you want to make sure that you don’t go against their wishes when you are spending time with your nieces and nephews. Your relationship with your nieces and nephews depends upon the strength of your relationship with their parents. The closer you are with their parents, the more likely that you will be close with your nieces and nephews.
As an aunt, you also want to make sure that you back up your siblings in the values, lessons, and rules that they are imposing upon their children. Respecting your siblings, shows your nieces and nephews that they should respect their parents and the family unit as a whole.
2. Engaging Your Nieces and Nephews with Activities
2-1. Choose activities that your niece or nephew enjoys.
When in doubt, ask them what they like to do. By undertaking an activity that they like, you will be able to hold their interest and demonstrate a common bond with them.
2-2. Teach them how to do something that you enjoy.
If you have a talent or a special skill, go out of your way to teach your niece or nephew how to do what you do. This will create a stronger bond between you and your niece or nephew and this activity may become something that they only do with you. For example:
If you are good at baking cookies, perhaps you can teach them how to make your recipes and you can bake cookies together.
If you are a musician, perhaps you can teach them to play music with you.
If you play a soccer, you might teach your niece or nephew how to kick the soccer ball around the field with you, or instruct them on the rules of the game.
2-3. Take your nieces and nephews to interesting places.
By taking them to a place that you find fun or interesting, you’ll impart your interests on them. These places might include planetariums, museums, parks, zoos, aquariums, beaches, etc. These trips can be educational, informative, and fun.
2-4. Make staying in fun.
Sometimes staying in can be more fun than going out with your niece or nephew. You can giggle and dance in the living room. You can build a blanket fort and watch movies or read books together all afternoon. Doing an activity together doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to leave the house or spend a lot of money. Below are a list of other activities that can make staying in fun:
Bring along something from work and do a show-and-tell.
Work on a science experiment together.
Bake a dessert together.
Go through an old photo album filled with images of you and their parents.
Do an art project together.
3. Spoiling Your Nieces and Nephews
3-1. Buy them gifts.
While it makes sense to buy gifts for the child’s birthdays and winter holidays, sometimes it is fun to surprise your niece or nephew with a gift at random. Sometimes these gifts will be impractical items that are adorable or funny, and other times your gift may be a toy that you know the child has been yearning for. Regardless of what you gift the child, the look of excitement and happiness on their face is always worth the expense.
3-2. Take them out for dessert.
As an auntie, you can spoil your niece and nephew with desserts when they spend time with you. This is a particular treat for the child if your visits are infrequent or if their parents do not often give them desserts. Taking a child out for ice cream with rainbow sprinkles is a great way to spoil them and bond with them at the same time.
3-3. Take them to do something special.
An easy way to spoil your niece or nephew is to take them to do something significant once or twice a year. For example, you might take them to a baseball game if your niece or nephew is a sports fan, to a dinner theatre musical if they are a fan of theatre, or to see The Nutcracker if they are a fan of dance. While these events may range in price from free to pricey, this is a special treat and time spent with you that they will treasure.
3-4. Maintain boundaries.
While spoiling your nieces and nephews is fun, you want to make sure that you aren’t doing anything that will have negative consequences for you or for them. For example, you might let your five year old niece stay up an hour beyond her bedtime to finish watching a movie with you, but you don’t want to let her stay up until midnight. Likewise, you might like to take your teenage nephew out for dinner and a ball game, but you shouldn’t be giving him beers while he is in your care.
Tips
Reward them for good deeds.
Be supportive.
Use positive reinforcement and avoid punishing your niece or nephew since that is their parents’ role.
Warnings
Don’t say negative things about their parents or other family members.
Don’t undermine their parents.
Don’t keep secrets from your niece or nephew’s parents.
Respect your niece or nephew’s parents’ rules and wishes regarding their child.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Being Available to Your Nieces and Nephews\\n1-1. Listen to them.\\nSometimes parents are too busy to listen to their children, especially if they have multiple children and busy careers. In situations such as these, as an auntie you can give more time to all the stories and news that your nieces and nephews want to share. In this way, you are almost acting as a supplemental parent by offering your niece or nephew your attention when they need it.\\nPractice active listening with your nieces and nephews. Listen to closely to what they are saying to you, and then repeat it back to them in their own words to make sure that you understood what they told you. Now, your niece or nephew will either confirm that you understood what they said, or they will correct you and explain what they meant. This helps to avoid misunderstandings.\\n1-2. Act as a role model.\\nIn addition to listening to your niece or nephew, you can offer them advice, teach them how to do things, and set a good example for them. This will allow you to help mold your niece or nephew’s behaviors through your own example or counsel. For example, you might offer advice on how your niece or nephew should treat their siblings or how they should maintain a relationship with their parents. Or you might offer relationship advice or counsel your niece or nephew on school or career paths as they get older.\\nIf you do not believe that you would be a good role model for your nieces and nephews, ask yourself why not. Is this something that you can change about yourself? If so, consider making the change. If not, consider the impact this will have on the children. Ask yourself if this is something that you could hide from your nieces and nephews, if you cannot change it. If so, consider hiding it.\\nFor example, perhaps you are a young adult and you like to drink alcohol with your friends in the evening. You know that drinking alcohol in excess in front of your nieces and nephews could have a lasting negative impact upon them and that it wouldn’t make you a good role model. You might decide to stop drinking so much in order to be a better role model for the children. Or you might decide to continue drinking with your friends, but choose to remain sober when you are around your nieces and nephews. If you feel like you need to get drunk around your nieces and nephews, return them to their parents immediately. Getting drunk in front of them is irresponsible, and sets a bad example for them.\\n1-3. Be available to your niece and nephew.\\nBabysit your nieces and nephews when they are young. As they get older, let them know that they can drop by to see you whenever they wish. Take them on outings with you or arrange scheduled visits with them. The more time that you spend together, the stronger your bond will become. You will also show them that you are dependable and that they can trust you by making time for them.\\n1-4. Spend time cultivating your relationship with them through phone calls, text messages, and emails.\\nThis is especially important if you can't visit with your niece or nephew or if you live far away. By incorporating mediated communication into your relationship with your niece or nephew, you are teaching them that you are always available to them and that you can be reached in a multitude of ways.\\n1-5. Share stories with your nieces and nephews.\\nIf you know that your niece or nephew is going through something that you experienced as a child, share the story of your experience with your niece or nephew.\\n Children like hearing stories, especially when they are relatable or if they contain stories that include people they know such as their parents, grandparents, or other aunts and uncles. These stories inform your nieces and nephews of their family history, while also letting them know that they are not alone in their experiences.\\n1-6. Remain on good terms with your siblings.\\nYour brother or sister is likely the parent of your nieces and nephews, and you want to make sure that you don’t go against their wishes when you are spending time with your nieces and nephews. Your relationship with your nieces and nephews depends upon the strength of your relationship with their parents. The closer you are with their parents, the more likely that you will be close with your nieces and nephews.\\nAs an aunt, you also want to make sure that you back up your siblings in the values, lessons, and rules that they are imposing upon their children. Respecting your siblings, shows your nieces and nephews that they should respect their parents and the family unit as a whole.\\n2. Engaging Your Nieces and Nephews with Activities\\n2-1. Choose activities that your niece or nephew enjoys.\\nWhen in doubt, ask them what they like to do. By undertaking an activity that they like, you will be able to hold their interest and demonstrate a common bond with them.\\n2-2. Teach them how to do something that you enjoy.\\nIf you have a talent or a special skill, go out of your way to teach your niece or nephew how to do what you do. This will create a stronger bond between you and your niece or nephew and this activity may become something that they only do with you. For example:\\nIf you are good at baking cookies, perhaps you can teach them how to make your recipes and you can bake cookies together.\\nIf you are a musician, perhaps you can teach them to play music with you.\\nIf you play a soccer, you might teach your niece or nephew how to kick the soccer ball around the field with you, or instruct them on the rules of the game.\\n2-3. Take your nieces and nephews to interesting places.\\nBy taking them to a place that you find fun or interesting, you’ll impart your interests on them. These places might include planetariums, museums, parks, zoos, aquariums, beaches, etc. These trips can be educational, informative, and fun.\\n2-4. Make staying in fun.\\nSometimes staying in can be more fun than going out with your niece or nephew. You can giggle and dance in the living room. You can build a blanket fort and watch movies or read books together all afternoon. Doing an activity together doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to leave the house or spend a lot of money. Below are a list of other activities that can make staying in fun:\\nBring along something from work and do a show-and-tell.\\nWork on a science experiment together.\\nBake a dessert together.\\nGo through an old photo album filled with images of you and their parents.\\nDo an art project together.\\n3. Spoiling Your Nieces and Nephews\\n3-1. Buy them gifts.\\nWhile it makes sense to buy gifts for the child’s birthdays and winter holidays, sometimes it is fun to surprise your niece or nephew with a gift at random. Sometimes these gifts will be impractical items that are adorable or funny, and other times your gift may be a toy that you know the child has been yearning for. Regardless of what you gift the child, the look of excitement and happiness on their face is always worth the expense.\\n3-2. Take them out for dessert.\\nAs an auntie, you can spoil your niece and nephew with desserts when they spend time with you. This is a particular treat for the child if your visits are infrequent or if their parents do not often give them desserts. Taking a child out for ice cream with rainbow sprinkles is a great way to spoil them and bond with them at the same time.\\n3-3. Take them to do something special.\\nAn easy way to spoil your niece or nephew is to take them to do something significant once or twice a year. For example, you might take them to a baseball game if your niece or nephew is a sports fan, to a dinner theatre musical if they are a fan of theatre, or to see The Nutcracker if they are a fan of dance. While these events may range in price from free to pricey, this is a special treat and time spent with you that they will treasure.\\n3-4. Maintain boundaries.\\nWhile spoiling your nieces and nephews is fun, you want to make sure that you aren’t doing anything that will have negative consequences for you or for them. For example, you might let your five year old niece stay up an hour beyond her bedtime to finish watching a movie with you, but you don’t want to let her stay up until midnight. 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By incorporating mediated communication into your relationship with your niece or nephew, you are teaching them that you are always available to them and that you can be reached in a multitude of ways.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Share stories with your nieces and nephews.\", \"描述\": \"If you know that your niece or nephew is going through something that you experienced as a child, share the story of your experience with your niece or nephew.\\n Children like hearing stories, especially when they are relatable or if they contain stories that include people they know such as their parents, grandparents, or other aunts and uncles. These stories inform your nieces and nephews of their family history, while also letting them know that they are not alone in their experiences.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Remain on good terms with your siblings.\", \"描述\": \"Your brother or sister is likely the parent of your nieces and nephews, and you want to make sure that you don’t go against their wishes when you are spending time with your nieces and nephews. Your relationship with your nieces and nephews depends upon the strength of your relationship with their parents. The closer you are with their parents, the more likely that you will be close with your nieces and nephews.\\nAs an aunt, you also want to make sure that you back up your siblings in the values, lessons, and rules that they are imposing upon their children. 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1. Preparing For a Commercial Banking Career
1-1. Get the right education.
Most commercial banking jobs will require at least a bachelor's degree. This degree should be in a related field, like economics, finance, business, or business administration. However, some banks are looking for bankers skilled at bringing in new business, so a marketing degree could be useful. In addition, job seekers will have an easier time landing a job as a commercial banker if they have a master's degree in business administration or something similar. However, advanced degrees are typically not required.
1-2. Gain experience.
During college or graduate school, your school may offer opportunities to work for a commercial bank as an intern. Taking advantage of these opportunities, even if they are unpaid, can be highly beneficial to your banking career. When hiring graduates, employers look for internship experience as an indicator of hard work and an interest in the field. Seek out these opportunities by talking to your school's career development office.
1-3. Consider getting professional certifications.
Some jobseekers may find that having professional certifications can make landing a banking job easier. For example, a common certification is the Certified Public Accountant (CPA) certification. To get this certification, you'll need to have an in-depth knowledge of accounting procedures and take a series of challenging exams. In addition, any commercial banker wanting to do loan brokering can seek a mortgage loan originator (MLO) certification in their state.
1-4. Land a banking job.
When you have the required education, and any certifications or experience you have acquired, you can start applying to commercial banking roles. Entry level roles may include analyst or "junior" roles like junior loan officer. When interviewing, focus on showing employers technical skills like an understanding of accounting and business procedures. In addition, display your interpersonal skills and make an effort to prove that you are hardworking, as these qualities are highly desired in banking (and all other fields).
2. Knowing Your Facts
2-1. Know the products.
It is essential for a good banker to know the accounts, credit cards, and savings accounts the bank offers inside and out. Bank customers rely on you to ensure that their money is in the right type of accounts for their needs. In order for you to guide customers and be a successful banker, you will need to familiarize yourself with the intricacies of each type of bank product and determine what customer profile fits each one the best. Preparing for this ahead of time will save you and the client a lot of time as well you help you to look like a more confident banker.
You'll likely be taught all about your products during the training part of your job. Be sure to review this information regularly afterwards, especially for products that you rarely deal with.
2-2. Tailor your approach to your client's needs.
In order to create successful relationships with your customers, avoid directly trying to get them to sign up for as many of your products as possible. Instead, develop a holistic approach to the client's needs. This situates you more as a partner to the client than a salesman. Ask about the client's personal and business life, including their short term and long term financial goals. Building this type of customized service can help develop long term relationships with your customers.
For example, you might create a holistic approach for a young customer that includes a round-up savings account that helps them begin saving and a credit card to help them begin to build up credit. Rather than directly selling them on these products, tell them how they will prepare them for the future.
Use other bank specialists as needed. These might include investment managers, trust officers, financial planners, and other specialized bankers. As a personal banker, you are responsible for coordinating bank services and products and the specialists needed.
2-3. Be able to offer alternatives.
For any given situation, you should be able to offer your client more than one product that can meet their needs. This allows your solutions to be more tailored to each individual customer, rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach. To help them decide on one, you should also be able to offer the pros and cons of each choice and an overall recommendation.
For example, a customer trying to save money in a separate account would have several options, from a standard to savings account to a certificate of deposit. Be sure to offer each option to them and make a recommendation based on their financial goals.
2-4. Know how to solve common problems.
As a banker, you'll see and hear many of the same problems day in and day out. You should know how to quickly diagnose and solve the more common issues quickly and easily. Practice this by studying each common problem individually and considering the best way to solve it for each type of customer. Providing this type of quick and reliable problem-solving is part of the foundation of a successful banker.
For example, customers may call frequently asking about charges made to their account like overdraft fees and other bank fees. Be ready with knowledge of each different type of fee, what it means on each type of account, and if and how the fee can be refunded.
2-5. Look out for continuing education opportunities.
Your learning shouldn't stop after your job training is over. Always seek opportunities to learn more about your work, your clients, and the banking industry on the whole. Get in the habit of reading relevant articles and publications to improve your knowledge.
If you work for a larger bank, they may offer continuing education workshops or something similar. Be sure to always takes advantage of these opportunities, especially if they are provided free of charge.
Education opportunities may include courses from American Institute of Banking (AIB) and others.
3. Getting In the Right Frame of Mind
3-1. Be professional.
Even more so than other services, people expect their bankers to be professional and reliable. After all, they are entrusting their financial wellbeing to your bank. You should always be well-dressed, smiling, and polite to every customer. Be sure to not let your personal life get in the way of your professionalism, no matter what kind of day or week you're having.
3-2. Be approachable.
People's finances can be a very personal subject. You need to be personable in order for bank customers to feel as if they can be honest with you about their finances. You need to know their financial history in order to be able to help them, and be a great banker, so your personality needs to allow for that to take place. Work on interacting with your customers in a personable and friendly way.
Part of being approachable is not aggressively trying to sell your customer more products or services. If they are clearly not interested in a product, don't try to sell it to them.
In addition, some customers will want to talk with you about your life outside of work. This helps establish trust and friendly conversation. Be sure to have some hobbies or community involvement that you can discuss.
3-3. Keep customer information confidential.
One of the key qualities of successful banks is that they keep all customer information is absolutely confidential. As a commercial bank, you are an extension of this rule and must keep all customer information private both at work and away from it. Disclosing information can also subject you to legal penalties.
3-4. Pay attention.
You need to catch all of the details that your customers tell you in order for you to make the right recommendations to your clients. The slightest misunderstanding or the smallest piece of incorrect information can cause your client to walk away with the wrong bank accounts. The wrong accounts could cause the client to lose out on acquired interest or to be charged fees because they aren't using the account properly.
Double check any details that you are unsure of or didn't hear correctly. Your customer wants their details to be correct as much as you do.
3-5. Learn to be creative.
Every customer isn't going to fit into the perfect account. It is up to you, as a good banker, to creatively help your clients use accounts in ways they might not be meant for, but work anyway. In order to be an efficient banker you will need to learn ways you can adapt certain bank accounts and credit cards to meet the needs of any customer that walks through your door.
While creativity is valuable, be sure not to stray outside the bounds of your bank's rules. This could cost you your job.
3-6. Be honest.
Your customers need to know the exact details of their interactions with the bank. You should explicitly state any fees or interest earned on accounts or credit cards and be sure that the client knows all of the terms of any agreement before signing it. It's not just that you shouldn't lie about numbers, but you should also be sure that there's nothing your customer could be overlooking in the agreement. The factor that often draws customers to and from certain banks is the customer's sense, or lack thereof, of honest and fair dealings.
Another part of this is being responsible for your work. Owning your mistakes is another way to cultivate trust with your customers.
4. Working to Improve
4-1. Recognize areas for personal improvement.
Consider at regular intervals, maybe weekly or monthly, how well you are doing your job. Think about the above criteria and how well you are performing within them. Are there any products you aren't sure about? Have there been days where you let your personal life interfere with your professionalism? Recognize these errors and work to correct them.
One way to notice this might be to examine situations when customers left your bank for your competitors. Try to figure out why this was the case. Were you unable to solve a problem they had?
4-2. Keep up on current trends.
The financial world is always changing, and so should you as a successful banker. You need to stay informed of the changes as finances around the country fluctuate. You need to be able to make suggestions to your clients that reflect the current status of the financial market. Providing your customers with out-of-date information could be a costly mistake to you and your clients.
This includes keeping yourself up to date on the newest technological trends. This is the area in which banking is evolving most rapidly, so be sure to keep up with every new trend and be able to inform your customers about it.
4-3. Cultivate a loyal customer base.
Banks make money by retaining loyal customers and gaining new ones. Much of this relies on the bank's reputation, which is largely built by happy customers and their recommendations. As a banker, you should strive to ensure that each and every customer is completely satisfied. In addition, establishing personal relationships with your customers can make them stick around for the long run.
4-4. Stay active in the community.
Customers like to think of their banker as a trustworthy member of their community. Be active in the community by participating in fraternal and civic organizations, charitable events, and other local events. Doing so will not only allow you to strengthen your connections with customers, but also can allow you to make new professional connections.
4-5. Go the extra mile.
Banking is a crowded market. In order to stand out from other banks in the area, all competing for your customers, you'll have to offer something above and beyond. This can be exceptionally personable and friendly service, incredibly reliable conflict resolution, or just extra time taken out of your schedule to solve any particularly difficult needs of your customers. In any case, demonstrate to your customers that you're willing to work harder than your competition for their business.
One easy way to do this is to personally give your customer a call if you notice any suspicious activity on their account. This lets them know that their money is safe in your hands.
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Seek out these opportunities by talking to your school's career development office.\\n1-3. Consider getting professional certifications.\\nSome jobseekers may find that having professional certifications can make landing a banking job easier. For example, a common certification is the Certified Public Accountant (CPA) certification. To get this certification, you'll need to have an in-depth knowledge of accounting procedures and take a series of challenging exams. In addition, any commercial banker wanting to do loan brokering can seek a mortgage loan originator (MLO) certification in their state.\\n1-4. Land a banking job.\\nWhen you have the required education, and any certifications or experience you have acquired, you can start applying to commercial banking roles. Entry level roles may include analyst or \\\"junior\\\" roles like junior loan officer. When interviewing, focus on showing employers technical skills like an understanding of accounting and business procedures. In addition, display your interpersonal skills and make an effort to prove that you are hardworking, as these qualities are highly desired in banking (and all other fields).\\n2. Knowing Your Facts\\n2-1. Know the products.\\nIt is essential for a good banker to know the accounts, credit cards, and savings accounts the bank offers inside and out. Bank customers rely on you to ensure that their money is in the right type of accounts for their needs. In order for you to guide customers and be a successful banker, you will need to familiarize yourself with the intricacies of each type of bank product and determine what customer profile fits each one the best. Preparing for this ahead of time will save you and the client a lot of time as well you help you to look like a more confident banker.\\nYou'll likely be taught all about your products during the training part of your job. Be sure to review this information regularly afterwards, especially for products that you rarely deal with.\\n2-2. Tailor your approach to your client's needs.\\nIn order to create successful relationships with your customers, avoid directly trying to get them to sign up for as many of your products as possible. Instead, develop a holistic approach to the client's needs. This situates you more as a partner to the client than a salesman. Ask about the client's personal and business life, including their short term and long term financial goals. Building this type of customized service can help develop long term relationships with your customers.\\nFor example, you might create a holistic approach for a young customer that includes a round-up savings account that helps them begin saving and a credit card to help them begin to build up credit. Rather than directly selling them on these products, tell them how they will prepare them for the future.\\nUse other bank specialists as needed. These might include investment managers, trust officers, financial planners, and other specialized bankers. As a personal banker, you are responsible for coordinating bank services and products and the specialists needed.\\n2-3. Be able to offer alternatives.\\nFor any given situation, you should be able to offer your client more than one product that can meet their needs. This allows your solutions to be more tailored to each individual customer, rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach. To help them decide on one, you should also be able to offer the pros and cons of each choice and an overall recommendation.\\nFor example, a customer trying to save money in a separate account would have several options, from a standard to savings account to a certificate of deposit. Be sure to offer each option to them and make a recommendation based on their financial goals.\\n2-4. Know how to solve common problems.\\nAs a banker, you'll see and hear many of the same problems day in and day out. You should know how to quickly diagnose and solve the more common issues quickly and easily. Practice this by studying each common problem individually and considering the best way to solve it for each type of customer. Providing this type of quick and reliable problem-solving is part of the foundation of a successful banker.\\nFor example, customers may call frequently asking about charges made to their account like overdraft fees and other bank fees. Be ready with knowledge of each different type of fee, what it means on each type of account, and if and how the fee can be refunded.\\n2-5. Look out for continuing education opportunities.\\nYour learning shouldn't stop after your job training is over. Always seek opportunities to learn more about your work, your clients, and the banking industry on the whole. Get in the habit of reading relevant articles and publications to improve your knowledge.\\nIf you work for a larger bank, they may offer continuing education workshops or something similar. Be sure to always takes advantage of these opportunities, especially if they are provided free of charge.\\nEducation opportunities may include courses from American Institute of Banking (AIB) and others.\\n3. Getting In the Right Frame of Mind\\n3-1. Be professional.\\nEven more so than other services, people expect their bankers to be professional and reliable. After all, they are entrusting their financial wellbeing to your bank. You should always be well-dressed, smiling, and polite to every customer. Be sure to not let your personal life get in the way of your professionalism, no matter what kind of day or week you're having.\\n3-2. Be approachable.\\nPeople's finances can be a very personal subject. You need to be personable in order for bank customers to feel as if they can be honest with you about their finances. You need to know their financial history in order to be able to help them, and be a great banker, so your personality needs to allow for that to take place. Work on interacting with your customers in a personable and friendly way.\\nPart of being approachable is not aggressively trying to sell your customer more products or services. If they are clearly not interested in a product, don't try to sell it to them.\\nIn addition, some customers will want to talk with you about your life outside of work. This helps establish trust and friendly conversation. Be sure to have some hobbies or community involvement that you can discuss.\\n3-3. Keep customer information confidential.\\nOne of the key qualities of successful banks is that they keep all customer information is absolutely confidential. As a commercial bank, you are an extension of this rule and must keep all customer information private both at work and away from it. Disclosing information can also subject you to legal penalties.\\n3-4. Pay attention.\\nYou need to catch all of the details that your customers tell you in order for you to make the right recommendations to your clients. The slightest misunderstanding or the smallest piece of incorrect information can cause your client to walk away with the wrong bank accounts. The wrong accounts could cause the client to lose out on acquired interest or to be charged fees because they aren't using the account properly.\\nDouble check any details that you are unsure of or didn't hear correctly. Your customer wants their details to be correct as much as you do.\\n3-5. Learn to be creative.\\nEvery customer isn't going to fit into the perfect account. It is up to you, as a good banker, to creatively help your clients use accounts in ways they might not be meant for, but work anyway. In order to be an efficient banker you will need to learn ways you can adapt certain bank accounts and credit cards to meet the needs of any customer that walks through your door.\\nWhile creativity is valuable, be sure not to stray outside the bounds of your bank's rules. This could cost you your job.\\n3-6. Be honest.\\nYour customers need to know the exact details of their interactions with the bank. You should explicitly state any fees or interest earned on accounts or credit cards and be sure that the client knows all of the terms of any agreement before signing it. It's not just that you shouldn't lie about numbers, but you should also be sure that there's nothing your customer could be overlooking in the agreement. The factor that often draws customers to and from certain banks is the customer's sense, or lack thereof, of honest and fair dealings.\\nAnother part of this is being responsible for your work. Owning your mistakes is another way to cultivate trust with your customers.\\n4. Working to Improve\\n4-1. Recognize areas for personal improvement.\\nConsider at regular intervals, maybe weekly or monthly, how well you are doing your job. Think about the above criteria and how well you are performing within them. Are there any products you aren't sure about? Have there been days where you let your personal life interfere with your professionalism? Recognize these errors and work to correct them.\\nOne way to notice this might be to examine situations when customers left your bank for your competitors. Try to figure out why this was the case. Were you unable to solve a problem they had?\\n4-2. Keep up on current trends.\\nThe financial world is always changing, and so should you as a successful banker. You need to stay informed of the changes as finances around the country fluctuate. You need to be able to make suggestions to your clients that reflect the current status of the financial market. Providing your customers with out-of-date information could be a costly mistake to you and your clients.\\nThis includes keeping yourself up to date on the newest technological trends. This is the area in which banking is evolving most rapidly, so be sure to keep up with every new trend and be able to inform your customers about it.\\n4-3. Cultivate a loyal customer base.\\nBanks make money by retaining loyal customers and gaining new ones. Much of this relies on the bank's reputation, which is largely built by happy customers and their recommendations. As a banker, you should strive to ensure that each and every customer is completely satisfied. In addition, establishing personal relationships with your customers can make them stick around for the long run.\\n4-4. Stay active in the community.\\nCustomers like to think of their banker as a trustworthy member of their community. Be active in the community by participating in fraternal and civic organizations, charitable events, and other local events. Doing so will not only allow you to strengthen your connections with customers, but also can allow you to make new professional connections.\\n4-5. Go the extra mile.\\nBanking is a crowded market. In order to stand out from other banks in the area, all competing for your customers, you'll have to offer something above and beyond. This can be exceptionally personable and friendly service, incredibly reliable conflict resolution, or just extra time taken out of your schedule to solve any particularly difficult needs of your customers. In any case, demonstrate to your customers that you're willing to work harder than your competition for their business.\\nOne easy way to do this is to personally give your customer a call if you notice any suspicious activity on their account. This lets them know that their money is safe in your hands.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"At all levels, commercial banking is about earning the trust of customers and providing them effective solutions for managing their money. To be a great banker, you have to be knowledgeable about all aspects of your work and project an image of professionalism and trustworthiness. This will require a dedication to customer service and consistent self-improvement. By embodying these qualities, you'll soon be on your way to a successful and profitable career in banking.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing For a Commercial Banking Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the right education.\", \"描述\": \"Most commercial banking jobs will require at least a bachelor's degree. This degree should be in a related field, like economics, finance, business, or business administration. However, some banks are looking for bankers skilled at bringing in new business, so a marketing degree could be useful. In addition, job seekers will have an easier time landing a job as a commercial banker if they have a master's degree in business administration or something similar. However, advanced degrees are typically not required.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Gain experience.\", \"描述\": \"During college or graduate school, your school may offer opportunities to work for a commercial bank as an intern. Taking advantage of these opportunities, even if they are unpaid, can be highly beneficial to your banking career. When hiring graduates, employers look for internship experience as an indicator of hard work and an interest in the field. Seek out these opportunities by talking to your school's career development office.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider getting professional certifications.\", \"描述\": \"Some jobseekers may find that having professional certifications can make landing a banking job easier. For example, a common certification is the Certified Public Accountant (CPA) certification. To get this certification, you'll need to have an in-depth knowledge of accounting procedures and take a series of challenging exams. 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Bank customers rely on you to ensure that their money is in the right type of accounts for their needs. In order for you to guide customers and be a successful banker, you will need to familiarize yourself with the intricacies of each type of bank product and determine what customer profile fits each one the best. Preparing for this ahead of time will save you and the client a lot of time as well you help you to look like a more confident banker.\\nYou'll likely be taught all about your products during the training part of your job. Be sure to review this information regularly afterwards, especially for products that you rarely deal with.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tailor your approach to your client's needs.\", \"描述\": \"In order to create successful relationships with your customers, avoid directly trying to get them to sign up for as many of your products as possible. Instead, develop a holistic approach to the client's needs. This situates you more as a partner to the client than a salesman. Ask about the client's personal and business life, including their short term and long term financial goals. Building this type of customized service can help develop long term relationships with your customers.\\nFor example, you might create a holistic approach for a young customer that includes a round-up savings account that helps them begin saving and a credit card to help them begin to build up credit. Rather than directly selling them on these products, tell them how they will prepare them for the future.\\nUse other bank specialists as needed. These might include investment managers, trust officers, financial planners, and other specialized bankers. 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You should know how to quickly diagnose and solve the more common issues quickly and easily. Practice this by studying each common problem individually and considering the best way to solve it for each type of customer. Providing this type of quick and reliable problem-solving is part of the foundation of a successful banker.\\nFor example, customers may call frequently asking about charges made to their account like overdraft fees and other bank fees. Be ready with knowledge of each different type of fee, what it means on each type of account, and if and how the fee can be refunded.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Look out for continuing education opportunities.\", \"描述\": \"Your learning shouldn't stop after your job training is over. Always seek opportunities to learn more about your work, your clients, and the banking industry on the whole. Get in the habit of reading relevant articles and publications to improve your knowledge.\\nIf you work for a larger bank, they may offer continuing education workshops or something similar. Be sure to always takes advantage of these opportunities, especially if they are provided free of charge.\\nEducation opportunities may include courses from American Institute of Banking (AIB) and others.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting In the Right Frame of Mind\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be professional.\", \"描述\": \"Even more so than other services, people expect their bankers to be professional and reliable. After all, they are entrusting their financial wellbeing to your bank. You should always be well-dressed, smiling, and polite to every customer. Be sure to not let your personal life get in the way of your professionalism, no matter what kind of day or week you're having.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be approachable.\", \"描述\": \"People's finances can be a very personal subject. You need to be personable in order for bank customers to feel as if they can be honest with you about their finances. You need to know their financial history in order to be able to help them, and be a great banker, so your personality needs to allow for that to take place. Work on interacting with your customers in a personable and friendly way.\\nPart of being approachable is not aggressively trying to sell your customer more products or services. If they are clearly not interested in a product, don't try to sell it to them.\\nIn addition, some customers will want to talk with you about your life outside of work. This helps establish trust and friendly conversation. Be sure to have some hobbies or community involvement that you can discuss.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep customer information confidential.\", \"描述\": \"One of the key qualities of successful banks is that they keep all customer information is absolutely confidential. 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1. Respecting Yourself
1-1. Be yourself
Being yourself around someone is part of what makes you all best friends. You are who you are, and your best friend will accept that. Being "fake" could lead you to lose your best friend, and it gets tiring to be someone whom you're not. Be best friends with someone who you know you can be yourself around because it isn't worth it trying to be someone you're not in order to get closer to someone else.
Don't hold things in. If you feel uncomfortable or have hard feelings toward your best friend, talk about it with them. It hurts even more when your friendship is being torn to bits while your friend has no idea how to fix it. Make things comfortable, and you'll both go through thick and thin together.
1-2. Be your own best friend
Learn how to respect yourself. If you can't respect yourself, then you can't respect others. Decide what boundaries are important to you and respect them. Not only is this healthy for you, but you'll also get enough practice and experience so that you'll be familiar with this area when respecting other people's boundaries. Understand what values are important to you and stick by them. Seek out others who honor those values because you'll only end up hurting yourself and possibly others if those people don't have the same values as you.
Close relationships with other people — whether it's a romantic relationship or an intimate friendship — teach us a lot about ourselves. Don't be afraid to learn about yourself. If you don't like who you are, it's hard for other people to like you.
Don't judge yourself too harshly. It's easy to hold ourselves to a really high standard sometimes, a standard that is impossible to uphold. If you're a perfectionist, learn to be a little forgiving toward yourself.
Don't be afraid to be vulnerable. Everyone feels vulnerable about some things, right? Don't be afraid to show your best friends the parts of yourself that are vulnerable. They won't care, and if they do, they might not be the right friend for you.
If your friends kindly point out your faults and/or suggest you make certain changes to help your friendships blossom, don't automatically grow defensive or harbor bitter feelings against them. They are only trying to help you become a better person, and you should feel blessed to have such thoughtful friends. Also, if you improve yourself, you'll be able to prevent future friendships from being torn apart.
However, if your friends aren't being very nice to you about your faults and picking on you for it, kindly let them know how you feel. If they refuse to stop, you may not want to spend as much time with them anymore.
2. Building Trust and Loyalty
2-1. Trust each other
You may find it hard in life and think that it is impossible to keep your best friend happy. To be a good best friend really doesn't take much. All you have to do really is make sure you can both trust each other about really important matters. Don't try to trick or use your friend to your advantage; you need to make them know they can trust you.
Realize that your best friend may have other friends. Trust that you're really important to them and let your best friend have a social life outside of you. A love between friends is never jealous.
To prevent loneliness from biting you, have a small circle of friends. That way, if one friend is unavailable or they turn out to be your enemy, you'll have other friends to support you. It's good to know as many people as possible, but only have a few close friends that you tell your secrets to. This will lower the chance of your secrets being spilled.
Don't keep secrets. Be open about what's going on in your life and what you hear about other people. If you don't want to talk about something, don't bring it up in the first place. If your best friend insists on hearing and you still don't want to talk about it, say: "You know you're my best friend; if I were going to tell anybody, it would be you. But I'm just not comfortable talking about it with anyone. I promise you'll be the first to know when I'm ready to talk, okay?"
Know that you'll probably go through rough patches. Bear in mind though that sometimes you will have to give them some space so that they can have time alone and think things through. Being a best friend means understanding when a little bit of time alone or space from them can be a good thing.
2-2. Be trustworthy
If they tell you a secret, make sure to keep it. tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don't even leak it out to someone you know you can trust. A secret is a secret.
Know the difference between a harmless secret and a dangerous secret. Dangerous secrets not only threaten your friend's life, but it can also affect you as well. Despite the fact that your friend may not want people to know about their secret, it's best to tell your parents or a trusted adult about this. Keep in mind that your friend might have told you their secret because they are tired of keeping it to themselves and they are silently asking for help.
Keep your word. If you say you're going to do something, do it. Follow through with it. You know what they say: Talk is cheap. Let your best friend know that if you say you're going to do something, you don't ever back away.
Don't gossip about your best friend. Don't say anything that might turn into a rumor. For example, if they had a crush, they'd probably be embarrassed if you told someone. Make sure you know your best friend is okay with it if you do tell other people. Things like this are sometimes hard to do, but if you want a solid friendship you have to be willing to do them.
2-3. Be loyal.
Stick up for your friend when they need it. Respect those times when they need to stick up for themselves. Trust your friend and allow yourself to be vulnerable with them. Through ups, downs, and disagreements, you'll still try to work things out and be their friend, truly demonstrating your loyalty.
Say "no" when you need to while still being their friend. A friend of integrity is of great value. Tell them respectfully when you think they're wrong. The journey of life is about learning from your mistakes, not always needing to be right.
If you don't learn to say "no" to your friend, it'll hurt your friendship more than improve it. Not only may your friend grow too reliant on you, but you'll also feel strained and angry.
2-4. When you two fight, try to work things out so everyone is happy.
Don't say mean things, whether it is right in their face or through a text. Apologize, but understand that it may take some time to get over what's happened. Let them cool down and talk to you when they are ready.
leave the problem alone and pretend it doesn't exist. It will not fade, and it will eventually pop up again later. It's best to solve the problem while it's small before it grows bigger and more painful.
If you two need help solving your problems, ask your parents or a trusted adult to help.
2-5. Come through in the clutch.
When your friend really needs something done, or a favor, be there for them. Help out. Think of how much they'd appreciate it. You never know when you'll be stuck between a rock and a hard place and might need someone (a good friend, maybe?) to bail you out.
2-6. Stick up for your best friend.
Sitting and watching your best friend get picked on or teased is definitely not going to earn you a brownie badge! If your best friend is getting seriously bullied and you're scared you'll get hurt if you get involved, then get help from a teacher or parents. If you can stick up for them without getting harmed yourself, make sure you do so. Imagine how you would feel if you were being picked on and a friend told everyone to shut up and clear off.
If you or your friend consistently has problems with another person, try not to be childish or immature about it. Don't prank them or embarrass them; sadly, that will only make things worse. Tell an adult what's happening, or simply ignore them. People hate being ignored and eventually lose interest in you.
3. Spending Time Together
3-1. Spend time with your friend.
Hang out on the weekends or plan activities together every now and then, do some homework together, and chat during the break at school. You don't have to live in each others' pockets, but make sure you spend some quality time together with your best friend to make the friendship grow and become stronger.
Know that you'll probably have to sacrifice some of your time and maybe effort to be your best friend. It should feel like something you want to be doing, even when it's hard.
Invite other people to hang out with you. Being best friends doesn't mean you have to isolate yourselves from other people. Sometimes, it's nice to be alone; you don't need anybody else to have fun together. Other times, your enjoyment is increased by including other people into the fold.
3-2. Share laughs.
There is nothing like laughing and smiling to bring people together. Besides, when they're really friends, you guys can laugh at the dumbest, smallest, weirdest stuff and it doesn't really matter. Take time out of your day to appreciate the funny things in life.
3-3. Learn to listen.
Nobody likes a best friend who just talks and talks but never listens. If you're a chatterbox, try to develop good listening skills. Whenever your best friend says something, listen carefully and say something. Don't just say "yeah" and move on. Don't interrupt or fidget continually while they're talking to you. If they ask for advice, listen carefully and give them the best advice you can. It'll earn you respect and of course, make them come to you more.
Be an active listener. Being an active listener means reading in between the lines. Sometimes it means knowing what the other person feels or is thinking before they do. If you're an active listener, you might know who your friend likes before they do.
Know when not to talk. There's an old saying out there: The dumb person talks; the wise person listens. While that's definitely an overstatement, it has some truth in it. Begin to feel comfortable just being with your bestie, not constantly having to talk to fill the silence.
4. Caring For Each Other
4-1. Care for your best friend
If your best friend is upset, ask them what's wrong. They might not tell you straight away, but they should in the end. If they don't tell you, don't get angry at them: Understand that certain things are private, and trust that they'd be just as patient with you if you were in their shoes.
If a boy or girl has upset them, tell them not to worry because you are there for them and you're not going anywhere. Also tell them that there are plenty more boys or girls out there just waiting to meet the love of their life. Reassure your best friend that they will find someone who loves them for who they are.
Remind yourself that lending a helping hand to your best friend doesn't really cost you anything. It may not be easy to constantly comfort them or find advice to give, but know that your best friend would do the same for you in your time of need.
If your friend is away from home, send them cards or care packages to show that you care. If they're sick, call them and ask how they are doing. Show them you appreciate their presence in your life. Write them notes to show that you care and are thankful for them, and ask about their lives. Share your own stories, but make sure you have time for them.
4-2. Get to know their family.
Our families are really important to us, even if they can sometimes be annoying, rude and pesky. Getting to know your best friend's family shows them that you appreciate where they come from, and that you're interested in knowing the people who are valuable in their life.
5. Being Realistic with Each Other
5-1. Avoid expectations.
If you assume you know what best friends' roles are, you could get disappointed and frustrated. Best friends are the most valuable friends you have, but they can't help or support you in every aspect of your life. Do not expect them to always be there, or expect them to say the thing you want to hear. If you set expectations for your best friends that are too high, it will only leave you disappointed and defeated.
Be your own caretaker. This comes back to being your own best friend and taking care of yourself. If you take care of yourself, you'll never put your friend in a position where they have to come in and rescue you. If you never put your friend in this position, you'll never be disappointed.
Remember that no one is perfect - not even your best friend. Everyone has their own faults, and they need to work through it. Don't be mean to your friend about their faults, but help them work through it while asking for help on your own as well. However, when gently letting your friend know, understand that your friend has feelings, and it's best to only focus on the faults that are the biggest threat to your friendship. Know what faults to ignore/let go of and what faults to help your friend solve.
Sometimes, you need to let your friend solve their faults without your help, unless they ask for your assistance. Constant nagging will make your friend feel stressed and angry, and they may be unwilling to improve your friendship if you're putting pressure on it.
5-2. Understand that best friends sometimes grow apart.
It's natural to stop having chemistry with a certain person. If you grow apart, for whatever reason, just be happy for the good times, and know how lucky you were to have that great person be a part of your life.
If neither of you make an effort to get together, or if you get into fights with them for no reason, then maybe you weren't meant to be best friends. It's not anyone's fault. Maybe you two are too much alike. Who knows? You might just need a break from one another for a few weeks.
Always treat your friend with respect, even if you grow apart. Don't be angry with them, it's truly not worth keeping all that anger locked up inside. Be courteous, kind, and respectful if you have a falling apart. You never know when things might change.
5-3. Let your friend have other friends, too.
If your best friend picks another friend over you, try to be friends with their friend too. Maybe you guys can be a group of friends! Everyone is always looking for new friends. But never, ever leave the old one; your loyalty is what the other person expects and counts on every day.
Tips
Always stick to your word when possible. It's okay to break it if an emergency comes up, but only do so for genuine emergencies and other unavoidable obstacles.
Talk about subjects that are comfortable for your friend. Pop in an occasional question while they're talking so they feel like you really care and are listening. Don't be nosy, but do be interested in what your friend is saying!
Don't try to make your best friend jealous, even if you want more of their attention. Intentionally creating jealousy could cause a deeper rift in your friendship.
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Not only is this healthy for you, but you'll also get enough practice and experience so that you'll be familiar with this area when respecting other people's boundaries. Understand what values are important to you and stick by them. Seek out others who honor those values because you'll only end up hurting yourself and possibly others if those people don't have the same values as you.\\nClose relationships with other people — whether it's a romantic relationship or an intimate friendship — teach us a lot about ourselves. Don't be afraid to learn about yourself. If you don't like who you are, it's hard for other people to like you.\\nDon't judge yourself too harshly. It's easy to hold ourselves to a really high standard sometimes, a standard that is impossible to uphold. If you're a perfectionist, learn to be a little forgiving toward yourself.\\nDon't be afraid to be vulnerable. Everyone feels vulnerable about some things, right? Don't be afraid to show your best friends the parts of yourself that are vulnerable. They won't care, and if they do, they might not be the right friend for you.\\nIf your friends kindly point out your faults and/or suggest you make certain changes to help your friendships blossom, don't automatically grow defensive or harbor bitter feelings against them. They are only trying to help you become a better person, and you should feel blessed to have such thoughtful friends. Also, if you improve yourself, you'll be able to prevent future friendships from being torn apart.\\nHowever, if your friends aren't being very nice to you about your faults and picking on you for it, kindly let them know how you feel. If they refuse to stop, you may not want to spend as much time with them anymore.\\n2. Building Trust and Loyalty\\n2-1. Trust each other\\nYou may find it hard in life and think that it is impossible to keep your best friend happy. To be a good best friend really doesn't take much. All you have to do really is make sure you can both trust each other about really important matters. Don't try to trick or use your friend to your advantage; you need to make them know they can trust you.\\nRealize that your best friend may have other friends. Trust that you're really important to them and let your best friend have a social life outside of you. A love between friends is never jealous.\\nTo prevent loneliness from biting you, have a small circle of friends. That way, if one friend is unavailable or they turn out to be your enemy, you'll have other friends to support you. It's good to know as many people as possible, but only have a few close friends that you tell your secrets to. This will lower the chance of your secrets being spilled.\\nDon't keep secrets. Be open about what's going on in your life and what you hear about other people. If you don't want to talk about something, don't bring it up in the first place. If your best friend insists on hearing and you still don't want to talk about it, say: \\\"You know you're my best friend; if I were going to tell anybody, it would be you. But I'm just not comfortable talking about it with anyone. I promise you'll be the first to know when I'm ready to talk, okay?\\\"\\nKnow that you'll probably go through rough patches. Bear in mind though that sometimes you will have to give them some space so that they can have time alone and think things through. Being a best friend means understanding when a little bit of time alone or space from them can be a good thing.\\n2-2. Be trustworthy\\nIf they tell you a secret, make sure to keep it. tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don't even leak it out to someone you know you can trust. A secret is a secret.\\nKnow the difference between a harmless secret and a dangerous secret. Dangerous secrets not only threaten your friend's life, but it can also affect you as well. Despite the fact that your friend may not want people to know about their secret, it's best to tell your parents or a trusted adult about this. Keep in mind that your friend might have told you their secret because they are tired of keeping it to themselves and they are silently asking for help.\\nKeep your word. If you say you're going to do something, do it. Follow through with it. You know what they say: Talk is cheap. Let your best friend know that if you say you're going to do something, you don't ever back away.\\nDon't gossip about your best friend. Don't say anything that might turn into a rumor. For example, if they had a crush, they'd probably be embarrassed if you told someone. Make sure you know your best friend is okay with it if you do tell other people. Things like this are sometimes hard to do, but if you want a solid friendship you have to be willing to do them.\\n2-3. Be loyal.\\nStick up for your friend when they need it. Respect those times when they need to stick up for themselves. Trust your friend and allow yourself to be vulnerable with them. Through ups, downs, and disagreements, you'll still try to work things out and be their friend, truly demonstrating your loyalty.\\nSay \\\"no\\\" when you need to while still being their friend. A friend of integrity is of great value. Tell them respectfully when you think they're wrong. The journey of life is about learning from your mistakes, not always needing to be right.\\nIf you don't learn to say \\\"no\\\" to your friend, it'll hurt your friendship more than improve it. Not only may your friend grow too reliant on you, but you'll also feel strained and angry.\\n2-4. When you two fight, try to work things out so everyone is happy.\\nDon't say mean things, whether it is right in their face or through a text. Apologize, but understand that it may take some time to get over what's happened. Let them cool down and talk to you when they are ready.\\n\\n leave the problem alone and pretend it doesn't exist. It will not fade, and it will eventually pop up again later. It's best to solve the problem while it's small before it grows bigger and more painful.\\nIf you two need help solving your problems, ask your parents or a trusted adult to help.\\n2-5. Come through in the clutch.\\nWhen your friend really needs something done, or a favor, be there for them. Help out. Think of how much they'd appreciate it. You never know when you'll be stuck between a rock and a hard place and might need someone (a good friend, maybe?) to bail you out.\\n2-6. Stick up for your best friend.\\nSitting and watching your best friend get picked on or teased is definitely not going to earn you a brownie badge! If your best friend is getting seriously bullied and you're scared you'll get hurt if you get involved, then get help from a teacher or parents. If you can stick up for them without getting harmed yourself, make sure you do so. Imagine how you would feel if you were being picked on and a friend told everyone to shut up and clear off.\\nIf you or your friend consistently has problems with another person, try not to be childish or immature about it. Don't prank them or embarrass them; sadly, that will only make things worse. Tell an adult what's happening, or simply ignore them. People hate being ignored and eventually lose interest in you.\\n3. Spending Time Together\\n3-1. Spend time with your friend.\\nHang out on the weekends or plan activities together every now and then, do some homework together, and chat during the break at school. You don't have to live in each others' pockets, but make sure you spend some quality time together with your best friend to make the friendship grow and become stronger.\\nKnow that you'll probably have to sacrifice some of your time and maybe effort to be your best friend. It should feel like something you want to be doing, even when it's hard.\\nInvite other people to hang out with you. Being best friends doesn't mean you have to isolate yourselves from other people. Sometimes, it's nice to be alone; you don't need anybody else to have fun together. Other times, your enjoyment is increased by including other people into the fold.\\n3-2. Share laughs.\\nThere is nothing like laughing and smiling to bring people together. Besides, when they're really friends, you guys can laugh at the dumbest, smallest, weirdest stuff and it doesn't really matter. Take time out of your day to appreciate the funny things in life.\\n3-3. Learn to listen.\\nNobody likes a best friend who just talks and talks but never listens. If you're a chatterbox, try to develop good listening skills. Whenever your best friend says something, listen carefully and say something. Don't just say \\\"yeah\\\" and move on. Don't interrupt or fidget continually while they're talking to you. If they ask for advice, listen carefully and give them the best advice you can. It'll earn you respect and of course, make them come to you more.\\n\\nBe an active listener. Being an active listener means reading in between the lines. Sometimes it means knowing what the other person feels or is thinking before they do. If you're an active listener, you might know who your friend likes before they do.\\nKnow when not to talk. There's an old saying out there: The dumb person talks; the wise person listens. While that's definitely an overstatement, it has some truth in it. Begin to feel comfortable just being with your bestie, not constantly having to talk to fill the silence.\\n4. Caring For Each Other\\n4-1. Care for your best friend\\nIf your best friend is upset, ask them what's wrong. They might not tell you straight away, but they should in the end. If they don't tell you, don't get angry at them: Understand that certain things are private, and trust that they'd be just as patient with you if you were in their shoes.\\nIf a boy or girl has upset them, tell them not to worry because you are there for them and you're not going anywhere. Also tell them that there are plenty more boys or girls out there just waiting to meet the love of their life. Reassure your best friend that they will find someone who loves them for who they are.\\nRemind yourself that lending a helping hand to your best friend doesn't really cost you anything. It may not be easy to constantly comfort them or find advice to give, but know that your best friend would do the same for you in your time of need.\\nIf your friend is away from home, send them cards or care packages to show that you care. If they're sick, call them and ask how they are doing. Show them you appreciate their presence in your life. Write them notes to show that you care and are thankful for them, and ask about their lives. Share your own stories, but make sure you have time for them.\\n4-2. Get to know their family.\\nOur families are really important to us, even if they can sometimes be annoying, rude and pesky. Getting to know your best friend's family shows them that you appreciate where they come from, and that you're interested in knowing the people who are valuable in their life.\\n5. Being Realistic with Each Other\\n5-1. Avoid expectations.\\nIf you assume you know what best friends' roles are, you could get disappointed and frustrated. Best friends are the most valuable friends you have, but they can't help or support you in every aspect of your life. Do not expect them to always be there, or expect them to say the thing you want to hear. If you set expectations for your best friends that are too high, it will only leave you disappointed and defeated.\\nBe your own caretaker. This comes back to being your own best friend and taking care of yourself. If you take care of yourself, you'll never put your friend in a position where they have to come in and rescue you. If you never put your friend in this position, you'll never be disappointed.\\nRemember that no one is perfect - not even your best friend. Everyone has their own faults, and they need to work through it. Don't be mean to your friend about their faults, but help them work through it while asking for help on your own as well. However, when gently letting your friend know, understand that your friend has feelings, and it's best to only focus on the faults that are the biggest threat to your friendship. Know what faults to ignore/let go of and what faults to help your friend solve.\\nSometimes, you need to let your friend solve their faults without your help, unless they ask for your assistance. Constant nagging will make your friend feel stressed and angry, and they may be unwilling to improve your friendship if you're putting pressure on it.\\n5-2. Understand that best friends sometimes grow apart.\\nIt's natural to stop having chemistry with a certain person. If you grow apart, for whatever reason, just be happy for the good times, and know how lucky you were to have that great person be a part of your life.\\nIf neither of you make an effort to get together, or if you get into fights with them for no reason, then maybe you weren't meant to be best friends. It's not anyone's fault. Maybe you two are too much alike. Who knows? You might just need a break from one another for a few weeks.\\nAlways treat your friend with respect, even if you grow apart. Don't be angry with them, it's truly not worth keeping all that anger locked up inside. Be courteous, kind, and respectful if you have a falling apart. You never know when things might change.\\n5-3. Let your friend have other friends, too.\\nIf your best friend picks another friend over you, try to be friends with their friend too. Maybe you guys can be a group of friends! Everyone is always looking for new friends. But never, ever leave the old one; your loyalty is what the other person expects and counts on every day.\\nTips\\nAlways stick to your word when possible. It's okay to break it if an emergency comes up, but only do so for genuine emergencies and other unavoidable obstacles.\\nTalk about subjects that are comfortable for your friend. Pop in an occasional question while they're talking so they feel like you really care and are listening. Don't be nosy, but do be interested in what your friend is saying!\\nDon't try to make your best friend jealous, even if you want more of their attention. Intentionally creating jealousy could cause a deeper rift in your friendship.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to be a good best friend but don't know how or where to start that perfect friendship? Have you fallen out with your best mate and want to prove how nice you can be if they'll forgive you? No matter what reason you have, this article will help you become a great best friend.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Respecting Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be yourself\", \"描述\": \"Being yourself around someone is part of what makes you all best friends. You are who you are, and your best friend will accept that. Being \\\"fake\\\" could lead you to lose your best friend, and it gets tiring to be someone whom you're not. Be best friends with someone who you know you can be yourself around because it isn't worth it trying to be someone you're not in order to get closer to someone else.\\nDon't hold things in. If you feel uncomfortable or have hard feelings toward your best friend, talk about it with them. It hurts even more when your friendship is being torn to bits while your friend has no idea how to fix it. Make things comfortable, and you'll both go through thick and thin together.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be your own best friend\", \"描述\": \"Learn how to respect yourself. If you can't respect yourself, then you can't respect others. Decide what boundaries are important to you and respect them. Not only is this healthy for you, but you'll also get enough practice and experience so that you'll be familiar with this area when respecting other people's boundaries. Understand what values are important to you and stick by them. Seek out others who honor those values because you'll only end up hurting yourself and possibly others if those people don't have the same values as you.\\nClose relationships with other people — whether it's a romantic relationship or an intimate friendship — teach us a lot about ourselves. Don't be afraid to learn about yourself. If you don't like who you are, it's hard for other people to like you.\\nDon't judge yourself too harshly. It's easy to hold ourselves to a really high standard sometimes, a standard that is impossible to uphold. If you're a perfectionist, learn to be a little forgiving toward yourself.\\nDon't be afraid to be vulnerable. Everyone feels vulnerable about some things, right? Don't be afraid to show your best friends the parts of yourself that are vulnerable. They won't care, and if they do, they might not be the right friend for you.\\nIf your friends kindly point out your faults and/or suggest you make certain changes to help your friendships blossom, don't automatically grow defensive or harbor bitter feelings against them. They are only trying to help you become a better person, and you should feel blessed to have such thoughtful friends. Also, if you improve yourself, you'll be able to prevent future friendships from being torn apart.\\nHowever, if your friends aren't being very nice to you about your faults and picking on you for it, kindly let them know how you feel. If they refuse to stop, you may not want to spend as much time with them anymore.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Building Trust and Loyalty\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Trust each other\", \"描述\": \"You may find it hard in life and think that it is impossible to keep your best friend happy. To be a good best friend really doesn't take much. All you have to do really is make sure you can both trust each other about really important matters. Don't try to trick or use your friend to your advantage; you need to make them know they can trust you.\\nRealize that your best friend may have other friends. Trust that you're really important to them and let your best friend have a social life outside of you. A love between friends is never jealous.\\nTo prevent loneliness from biting you, have a small circle of friends. That way, if one friend is unavailable or they turn out to be your enemy, you'll have other friends to support you. It's good to know as many people as possible, but only have a few close friends that you tell your secrets to. This will lower the chance of your secrets being spilled.\\nDon't keep secrets. Be open about what's going on in your life and what you hear about other people. If you don't want to talk about something, don't bring it up in the first place. If your best friend insists on hearing and you still don't want to talk about it, say: \\\"You know you're my best friend; if I were going to tell anybody, it would be you. But I'm just not comfortable talking about it with anyone. I promise you'll be the first to know when I'm ready to talk, okay?\\\"\\nKnow that you'll probably go through rough patches. Bear in mind though that sometimes you will have to give them some space so that they can have time alone and think things through. Being a best friend means understanding when a little bit of time alone or space from them can be a good thing.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be trustworthy\", \"描述\": \"If they tell you a secret, make sure to keep it. tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don't even leak it out to someone you know you can trust. A secret is a secret.\\nKnow the difference between a harmless secret and a dangerous secret. Dangerous secrets not only threaten your friend's life, but it can also affect you as well. Despite the fact that your friend may not want people to know about their secret, it's best to tell your parents or a trusted adult about this. Keep in mind that your friend might have told you their secret because they are tired of keeping it to themselves and they are silently asking for help.\\nKeep your word. If you say you're going to do something, do it. Follow through with it. You know what they say: Talk is cheap. Let your best friend know that if you say you're going to do something, you don't ever back away.\\nDon't gossip about your best friend. Don't say anything that might turn into a rumor. For example, if they had a crush, they'd probably be embarrassed if you told someone. Make sure you know your best friend is okay with it if you do tell other people. Things like this are sometimes hard to do, but if you want a solid friendship you have to be willing to do them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be loyal.\", \"描述\": \"Stick up for your friend when they need it. Respect those times when they need to stick up for themselves. Trust your friend and allow yourself to be vulnerable with them. Through ups, downs, and disagreements, you'll still try to work things out and be their friend, truly demonstrating your loyalty.\\nSay \\\"no\\\" when you need to while still being their friend. A friend of integrity is of great value. Tell them respectfully when you think they're wrong. The journey of life is about learning from your mistakes, not always needing to be right.\\nIf you don't learn to say \\\"no\\\" to your friend, it'll hurt your friendship more than improve it. Not only may your friend grow too reliant on you, but you'll also feel strained and angry.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"When you two fight, try to work things out so everyone is happy.\", \"描述\": \"Don't say mean things, whether it is right in their face or through a text. Apologize, but understand that it may take some time to get over what's happened. Let them cool down and talk to you when they are ready.\\n\\n leave the problem alone and pretend it doesn't exist. It will not fade, and it will eventually pop up again later. It's best to solve the problem while it's small before it grows bigger and more painful.\\nIf you two need help solving your problems, ask your parents or a trusted adult to help.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Come through in the clutch.\", \"描述\": \"When your friend really needs something done, or a favor, be there for them. Help out. Think of how much they'd appreciate it. You never know when you'll be stuck between a rock and a hard place and might need someone (a good friend, maybe?) to bail you out.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stick up for your best friend.\", \"描述\": \"Sitting and watching your best friend get picked on or teased is definitely not going to earn you a brownie badge! If your best friend is getting seriously bullied and you're scared you'll get hurt if you get involved, then get help from a teacher or parents. If you can stick up for them without getting harmed yourself, make sure you do so. Imagine how you would feel if you were being picked on and a friend told everyone to shut up and clear off.\\nIf you or your friend consistently has problems with another person, try not to be childish or immature about it. Don't prank them or embarrass them; sadly, that will only make things worse. Tell an adult what's happening, or simply ignore them. People hate being ignored and eventually lose interest in you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spending Time Together\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spend time with your friend.\", \"描述\": \"Hang out on the weekends or plan activities together every now and then, do some homework together, and chat during the break at school. You don't have to live in each others' pockets, but make sure you spend some quality time together with your best friend to make the friendship grow and become stronger.\\nKnow that you'll probably have to sacrifice some of your time and maybe effort to be your best friend. It should feel like something you want to be doing, even when it's hard.\\nInvite other people to hang out with you. Being best friends doesn't mean you have to isolate yourselves from other people. Sometimes, it's nice to be alone; you don't need anybody else to have fun together. Other times, your enjoyment is increased by including other people into the fold.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Share laughs.\", \"描述\": \"There is nothing like laughing and smiling to bring people together. Besides, when they're really friends, you guys can laugh at the dumbest, smallest, weirdest stuff and it doesn't really matter. Take time out of your day to appreciate the funny things in life.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn to listen.\", \"描述\": \"Nobody likes a best friend who just talks and talks but never listens. If you're a chatterbox, try to develop good listening skills. Whenever your best friend says something, listen carefully and say something. Don't just say \\\"yeah\\\" and move on. Don't interrupt or fidget continually while they're talking to you. If they ask for advice, listen carefully and give them the best advice you can. It'll earn you respect and of course, make them come to you more.\\n\\nBe an active listener. Being an active listener means reading in between the lines. Sometimes it means knowing what the other person feels or is thinking before they do. If you're an active listener, you might know who your friend likes before they do.\\nKnow when not to talk. There's an old saying out there: The dumb person talks; the wise person listens. While that's definitely an overstatement, it has some truth in it. Begin to feel comfortable just being with your bestie, not constantly having to talk to fill the silence.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Caring For Each Other\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Care for your best friend\", \"描述\": \"If your best friend is upset, ask them what's wrong. They might not tell you straight away, but they should in the end. If they don't tell you, don't get angry at them: Understand that certain things are private, and trust that they'd be just as patient with you if you were in their shoes.\\nIf a boy or girl has upset them, tell them not to worry because you are there for them and you're not going anywhere. Also tell them that there are plenty more boys or girls out there just waiting to meet the love of their life. Reassure your best friend that they will find someone who loves them for who they are.\\nRemind yourself that lending a helping hand to your best friend doesn't really cost you anything. It may not be easy to constantly comfort them or find advice to give, but know that your best friend would do the same for you in your time of need.\\nIf your friend is away from home, send them cards or care packages to show that you care. If they're sick, call them and ask how they are doing. Show them you appreciate their presence in your life. Write them notes to show that you care and are thankful for them, and ask about their lives. Share your own stories, but make sure you have time for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get to know their family.\", \"描述\": \"Our families are really important to us, even if they can sometimes be annoying, rude and pesky. Getting to know your best friend's family shows them that you appreciate where they come from, and that you're interested in knowing the people who are valuable in their life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Being Realistic with Each Other\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid expectations.\", \"描述\": \"If you assume you know what best friends' roles are, you could get disappointed and frustrated. Best friends are the most valuable friends you have, but they can't help or support you in every aspect of your life. Do not expect them to always be there, or expect them to say the thing you want to hear. 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1. Steps
1-1. Be reasonable and considerate:
your fairness should be visible to others. This includes being sober, free of excesses.
"Your tongue (words) has the power of life and death; those who love to talk will reap the consequences." (depression, incitement, anger, judging, harshness, unfairness, untruth, sarcasm, reverse logic, mean, hate, and even: leading to injury, unjust war,...).
Say what is true in love. Don't cuss, berate, rant or rave. Stand firm and tall, not being unnecessarily "mean". If you slip in anger or nonsense -- apologize; mean it and go forward.
1-2. Love others.
Listen more. Be positive; be enthused about the hope that you have. Be fair, not treating people indiscriminately, indifferently, but treat them individually, not coloring everybody with a wide brush.
1-3. Take a Bible with you just about everywhere you go:
whether it is the mall or the arcade with your little brother or sister.
Read your Bible every morning and every night, or anytime for answers to spiritual questions. It would be helpful to have two Bibles: a study Bible for home and a gift Bible for travel, that you can give away if someone needs it.
Create a Bible study notebook.
1-4. Pray every morning, every night, before every meal, when in doubt, when you're scared, when you're in need of spiritual help, or just any time you can.
If someone else comes to you with a problem, offer to pray with them. You'd be surprised at how helpful this can be from their view.
1-5. Go to Sunday morning church service, Sunday night church service, Wednesday night church service, and any other church service such as:
live nativity, revival, Bible study, and/or baptisms.
1-6. Talk to others about Jesus; you would be surprised how much one person can make a difference.
Confronting/arguing with friends and family about sensitive subjects like this is a surefire way to make them feel irritated or uncomfortable. So, be patient and mindful of their feelings, avoid topics that are particularly touchy; pray for them and do not criticize them directly. Practicing an idea of what to say in advance is also a good idea to ensure you're conveying what you're trying to in a way that seems non-judgmental and easier for them to listen to. It's up to them to receive Christ as their Lord and Savior, but you can be supportive.
1-7. Donate some time, money and possessions "to others in need of your help, giving all of your old clothes to a needy person, family or places like Goodwill, Salvation Army, Disabled American Veterans (DAV), etc.
Occasionally, volunteer and do daily, personal charity of your own. In the Gospels, Jesus commands: "Love one another." -- saying "if you have no [such] love, then you are none of mine."
1-8. Try to be as natural as possible, because God made mankind the way He wanted us, in his image, and wants us to improve.
God does not want us to try to change ourselves superficially -- with things like strange hair dye, body piercings, and tattoos. But, if you have done all that and then come to Christ, use it all to advantage to reach the people similar to yourself, who may feel out of place with the most genteel and proper of great Christians, who don't get it...
Be well groomed, take care of your body and carry yourself well in both posture and confidence. Cleanliness and neatness also apply to your clothing, all of this will help you make a good impression, regardless of your taste in clothes. Invest a little time in good skin and hair care daily -- to enhance your appearance, naturally.
Girls, dress for success, modestly: that means please try to avoid mini skirts, short dresses, low cut tops, sleeveless tops, and/or short shorts. Wearing such clothing is not particularly wrong for your comfort, but it is certainly wrong to cause some other Christian brother to stumble by lusting over your body just because you want to feel more "comfortable". Wearing modest clothing isn't as limiting as you may think, modest clothes can still match your personal style quite nicely. Consider visiting a department store -- with someone whose tastes in clothing you respect -- to try new things on and see what styles and colors look better on you.
Girls, a little makeup can enhance natural beauty. All you need for daily wear is a bit of brown or blackish brown mascara, sheer lip gloss and blush in a flattering shade. Try concealer, if you have acne -- or use powder, if you have oily skin; just be careful to not overdo it. A little eyeshadow, eyeliner and natural lipliner/lipstick are for special occasions. The key is to enhance, not overpower, what God has given you.
1-9. If you have not already, then get saved:
ask Jesus into your heart (your core being) and ask to receive the Holy Spirit; just go to your preacher or another trusted adult such as a parent, Sunday school teacher, or even a friend's parent, and ask one to help you with getting saved.
Not by work but by receiving the free gift, "by faith through God's grace"; so that, after you accept God's plan, then you will actively work and extend grace, because we "love others as he first loved us", and also "do good-works appointed" for each of us, as you accept and pass that grace (unmerited favor) on to others, and because you are justified, and pardoned freely by God -- for all you have ever done or do. Realize that you will get what you plant into your own life and into the lives of others -- "you'll reap what you sow", in another way of expressing that.
1-10. Follow up being saved:
you should get baptised and live for Jesus, seeking the best of God's plan, for whatever you do.
Encourage others to be saved and baptised.
Follow Jesus and The Ten Commandments all of the time.
Love God! Show it by loving others -- helping those in need. Anybody can say that they love God, but also show that you do through actions and words.
Honor your father and you mother at all times no matter how hard it may be. Arguing nicely with them may not be pleasant, but it comes with being a teenager and a human. Just make sure you resolve any conflicts that arise, take the initiative to do this, if necessary and try your best to stay on good terms with them
Do not steal or cheat. Be honest, not wasting breath or killing time.
Create a Christian website and/or articles with your notes and other info like inspiring testimonies and Bible verses. If you have a Facebook, Twitter, or other social media platform, you may also consider putting verses there for your friends to see and talk about how much God has done for you.
1-11. Find the right friends:
in other words, make friends that will be a good support system for you and encourage you to be your best self, not a completely different person.
Be friendly with everyone. However, avoid falling under the bad influences of troublemakers, backstabbers, liars or bullies.
Don't fight with others. Always turn the other cheek. Don't growl.
Try to maintain your composure when stressed. Get energized, enthusiastic and inspired, but not frenzied; have an edge by living by faith (not by sight), not allowing moods or feelings to change your outlook! However, also know anxiety is a human emotion and there's no way to dodge it entirely.
Find quiet ways to curb anxiety, sadness, anger, etc. Activities such as sports, writing and drawing can do a great at helping you relieve yourself as they become a distraction. If you need help and know things are out of control, never be afraid to ask. Also remember that crying is a natural and healthy way of relieving stress, just try to do it either alone or with people you know.
Be a peacemaker. Don't get in harsh disagreements with people, whether it is physical or not. If there are direct insults, discrimination, aggression or anything intended to hurt, it's gone too far.
Don't gossip about other people. It can really hurt somebody and yourself, when you cut-down others without good reason.
Don't EVER be a bully -- cyber, verbal, or physical.
If you see another person being bullied for whatever reason, never be afraid to stand up for them. Odds are, they'll be very grateful for your help and admire your courage.
Don't stay in abusive or toxic situations. The only thing you owe anybody who is going out of their way to hurt you is a kick out of your life.
Don't avoid people because they have a different religion or ideology. Many of these people won't pressure you to change who you are and you can learn a lot from such friendships.
Demonstrate respect, fairness and kindness to others at all times.
Be respectful to your elders at all times.
Be set free of fear, hate and shame by living in Christ.
1-12. Offer to do things like teach younger children in Sunday school:
Offer to sing the special at your church service.
Volunteer, such as: in the nursery or toddler room during Sunday service.
Volunteer to help the teachers during VBS (vacation Bible school).
1-13. Be active and involved in good things with your family and friends.
Have fun learning, working and doing chores at home and helping your family and friends.
Set a good example for children and younger teenagers. If you're not comfortable with your brother or sister doing something, don't do it yourself.
Do your best in school. Make a good effort to study hard and love your schoolwork, it will reward you well after you graduate.
If you have a job, be a diligent worker, complete all your tasks on time and try to get along with your boss and co-workers.
Don't get in a habit of living on line, with social media or in chat-rooms or gaming all the time.
Don't choose or watch inappropriate movies or videos -- cruel, bloody, violent, hate-filled, hard-core, vulgar, explicit content of many kinds, some include: 'R, R-17, X, XXX, porn',...
Avoid listening to crude music -- gang, violent, hate or trash-talk, i.e.: cussing like "'bi-atch', glorifying of 'ho', 'pimp'..." or other inappropriate content (unworthy of your time and attention).
Stay loyal to God and strive to be your best self [now].
Tips
If in doubt about your clothing, change them; don't wear that.
A few steps of this article are aimed mostly for girls.
When choosing your clothes, ask yourself this question: Would I wear this to church? If you answer "no," then you know that this is something you shouldn't be wearing. If you answer "yes," then the clothes you chose are most likely modest.
Warnings
Make responsible choices. The things you do paint a picture of your character, so don't make choices that you'll regret.
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Take a Bible with you just about everywhere you go:\\nwhether it is the mall or the arcade with your little brother or sister.\\nRead your Bible every morning and every night, or anytime for answers to spiritual questions. It would be helpful to have two Bibles: a study Bible for home and a gift Bible for travel, that you can give away if someone needs it.\\nCreate a Bible study notebook.\\n1-4. Pray every morning, every night, before every meal, when in doubt, when you're scared, when you're in need of spiritual help, or just any time you can.\\nIf someone else comes to you with a problem, offer to pray with them. You'd be surprised at how helpful this can be from their view.\\n1-5. Go to Sunday morning church service, Sunday night church service, Wednesday night church service, and any other church service such as:\\nlive nativity, revival, Bible study, and/or baptisms.\\n1-6. Talk to others about Jesus; you would be surprised how much one person can make a difference.\\nConfronting/arguing with friends and family about sensitive subjects like this is a surefire way to make them feel irritated or uncomfortable. So, be patient and mindful of their feelings, avoid topics that are particularly touchy; pray for them and do not criticize them directly. Practicing an idea of what to say in advance is also a good idea to ensure you're conveying what you're trying to in a way that seems non-judgmental and easier for them to listen to. It's up to them to receive Christ as their Lord and Savior, but you can be supportive.\\n1-7. Donate some time, money and possessions \\\"to others in need of your help, giving all of your old clothes to a needy person, family or places like Goodwill, Salvation Army, Disabled American Veterans (DAV), etc.\\nOccasionally, volunteer and do daily, personal charity of your own. 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Invest a little time in good skin and hair care daily -- to enhance your appearance, naturally.\\nGirls, dress for success, modestly: that means please try to avoid mini skirts, short dresses, low cut tops, sleeveless tops, and/or short shorts. Wearing such clothing is not particularly wrong for your comfort, but it is certainly wrong to cause some other Christian brother to stumble by lusting over your body just because you want to feel more \\\"comfortable\\\". Wearing modest clothing isn't as limiting as you may think, modest clothes can still match your personal style quite nicely. Consider visiting a department store -- with someone whose tastes in clothing you respect -- to try new things on and see what styles and colors look better on you.\\nGirls, a little makeup can enhance natural beauty. All you need for daily wear is a bit of brown or blackish brown mascara, sheer lip gloss and blush in a flattering shade. Try concealer, if you have acne -- or use powder, if you have oily skin; just be careful to not overdo it. A little eyeshadow, eyeliner and natural lipliner/lipstick are for special occasions. The key is to enhance, not overpower, what God has given you.\\n1-9. If you have not already, then get saved:\\nask Jesus into your heart (your core being) and ask to receive the Holy Spirit; just go to your preacher or another trusted adult such as a parent, Sunday school teacher, or even a friend's parent, and ask one to help you with getting saved.\\nNot by work but by receiving the free gift, \\\"by faith through God's grace\\\"; so that, after you accept God's plan, then you will actively work and extend grace, because we \\\"love others as he first loved us\\\", and also \\\"do good-works appointed\\\" for each of us, as you accept and pass that grace (unmerited favor) on to others, and because you are justified, and pardoned freely by God -- for all you have ever done or do. 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Be honest, not wasting breath or killing time.\\nCreate a Christian website and/or articles with your notes and other info like inspiring testimonies and Bible verses. If you have a Facebook, Twitter, or other social media platform, you may also consider putting verses there for your friends to see and talk about how much God has done for you.\\n1-11. Find the right friends:\\nin other words, make friends that will be a good support system for you and encourage you to be your best self, not a completely different person.\\nBe friendly with everyone. However, avoid falling under the bad influences of troublemakers, backstabbers, liars or bullies.\\nDon't fight with others. Always turn the other cheek. Don't growl.\\nTry to maintain your composure when stressed. Get energized, enthusiastic and inspired, but not frenzied; have an edge by living by faith (not by sight), not allowing moods or feelings to change your outlook! However, also know anxiety is a human emotion and there's no way to dodge it entirely.\\nFind quiet ways to curb anxiety, sadness, anger, etc. Activities such as sports, writing and drawing can do a great at helping you relieve yourself as they become a distraction. If you need help and know things are out of control, never be afraid to ask. Also remember that crying is a natural and healthy way of relieving stress, just try to do it either alone or with people you know.\\nBe a peacemaker. Don't get in harsh disagreements with people, whether it is physical or not. If there are direct insults, discrimination, aggression or anything intended to hurt, it's gone too far.\\nDon't gossip about other people. It can really hurt somebody and yourself, when you cut-down others without good reason.\\nDon't EVER be a bully -- cyber, verbal, or physical.\\nIf you see another person being bullied for whatever reason, never be afraid to stand up for them. Odds are, they'll be very grateful for your help and admire your courage.\\nDon't stay in abusive or toxic situations. The only thing you owe anybody who is going out of their way to hurt you is a kick out of your life.\\nDon't avoid people because they have a different religion or ideology. Many of these people won't pressure you to change who you are and you can learn a lot from such friendships.\\nDemonstrate respect, fairness and kindness to others at all times.\\nBe respectful to your elders at all times.\\nBe set free of fear, hate and shame by living in Christ.\\n1-12. Offer to do things like teach younger children in Sunday school:\\nOffer to sing the special at your church service.\\nVolunteer, such as: in the nursery or toddler room during Sunday service.\\nVolunteer to help the teachers during VBS (vacation Bible school).\\n1-13. Be active and involved in good things with your family and friends.\\nHave fun learning, working and doing chores at home and helping your family and friends.\\nSet a good example for children and younger teenagers. If you're not comfortable with your brother or sister doing something, don't do it yourself.\\nDo your best in school. Make a good effort to study hard and love your schoolwork, it will reward you well after you graduate.\\nIf you have a job, be a diligent worker, complete all your tasks on time and try to get along with your boss and co-workers.\\nDon't get in a habit of living on line, with social media or in chat-rooms or gaming all the time.\\nDon't choose or watch inappropriate movies or videos -- cruel, bloody, violent, hate-filled, hard-core, vulgar, explicit content of many kinds, some include: 'R, R-17, X, XXX, porn',...\\nAvoid listening to crude music -- gang, violent, hate or trash-talk, i.e.: cussing like \\\"'bi-atch', glorifying of 'ho', 'pimp'...\\\" or other inappropriate content (unworthy of your time and attention).\\nStay loyal to God and strive to be your best self [now].\\nTips\\nIf in doubt about your clothing, change them; don't wear that.\\nA few steps of this article are aimed mostly for girls.\\nWhen choosing your clothes, ask yourself this question: Would I wear this to church? 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Try concealer, if you have acne -- or use powder, if you have oily skin; just be careful to not overdo it. A little eyeshadow, eyeliner and natural lipliner/lipstick are for special occasions. 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1. Asking Questions
1-1. Focus on asking open-ended questions to encourage conversation.
Asking “yes” or “no” questions doesn’t naturally give others an opportunity to expand and talk more. Instead, try asking open ended questions, like:
“Tell me about where you grew up,” rather than “Where did you grow up?”
“What types of activities do you like to do when you have free time?”
“How did you first get involved with ____,” or “How did you and ____ meet?”
Keep in mind that people won't appreciate it if you ask personal or inappropriate questions that are completely unrelated to the topic of conversation. Repeating the same question over and over will make that person not want to talk to you anymore.
1-2. Say “tell me more” to invite the other person to continue talking.
Sometimes a conversation can stall because the other person fears they’ve been talking too much or perhaps they think their story is uninteresting. Prod and encourage them to continue talking by saying “tell me more” in an open and kind way.
For example, you could say, “tell me more about that process,” or “tell me more about what that was like for you.” These statements show that you’re interested in what the other person has to say, and they can lead to deeper conversations.
1-3. Turn the question around after answering one yourself.
Sometimes other people are really good at asking questions, which is great! After answering them, keep the conversation going by asking them about themselves. For example, if they ask you what kinds of books you like to read, ask them if they’ve read anything good lately that they could recommend.
When someone asks you about a specific topic, chances are they have some familiarity with that thing and it’s safe to focus in on that subject.
1-4. Ask someone for more information if you’re unfamiliar with a subject.
There is nothing wrong with admitting you don’t know something—if you find yourself in a situation where someone is asking you or talking to you about something you don’t know, say something like, “You know, I’m actually unfamiliar with that. Can you tell me more about it?”
If they makes you feel badly for not knowing something, chances are they just aren’t a very kind or gracious person.
Not pretending to know more than you do also shows that you’re a genuine person, and it’ll probably make others feel that you’re more trustworthy of a person, too.
2. Being Approachable and Friendly
2-1. Maintain a friendly tone to show you’re interested in the conversation.
Sometimes when you're nervous, your tone might come off a little odd, so practice speaking kindly to others. Smile when you speak to show you’re open to talking and to make others feel more comfortable.
Also be aware of your body language. Crossed arms or slumped shoulders indicate being unapproachable; try to keep your arms at your sides and avoid staring at the ground.
2-2. Practice open body language to appear more approachable.
Try to not cross your arms across your chest, as that can make you look angry and closed off. Instead, keep your arms at your sides, if you can, and be conscious of your shoulders—keep them back and relaxed rather than hunched up around your ears.
Looking up and forward also exudes confidence, as opposed to keeping your head down, which can make you look nervous and shy.
Even if you don’t feel confident and are nervous about talking to others, try faking it with your body language—you may be surprised at how much your body language impacts your attitude.
2-3. Make eye contact to let the other person know you’re engaged.
The main thing to remember is that you want your attention to be directed at the person, and not at your phone or anything else surrounding you. It’s okay if you glance away and break eye contact once in a while, but in general, try to watch the other person as much as you can.
Definitely keep your phone put away when you’re talking to someone. Notifications, texts, and incoming calls will distract both you and the person you’re talking to.
There’s a balance between not looking someone in the eye at all and staring them down and making them uncomfortable—try to nod, smile, and look away from time to time to look more natural.
2-4. Match your speaking volume to the setting to maintain privacy.
If you’re speaking with a larger group of people, make sure your voice is loud enough to be heard by everybody. But if you’re in a more intimate setting, like a restaurant or a small party, keep your voice low enough so as to not distract others.
For example, if you’re at a loud restaurant, rather than shouting to be heard and adding to the noise, lean in closer to your companion so you can hear each other better.
3. Practicing Reflective Listening
3-1. Pay attention to the other person’s body language to practice empathy.
Watch out for signs that the other person is impatient or upset, like: tapping toes, frequent glancing away, crossed arms, checking their phone, scowling or grimacing, and fidgeting or repetitive movements. These things may mean that the other person wants to move on from the conversation, or perhaps they’re nervous or stressed out.
If you’re concerned that the other person is upset or nervous, you could ask them, “Is everything okay? You seem a little fidgety.”
If you think the other person wants to end the conversation, try saying something like, “I don’t want to keep you too long.”
3-2. Use “acknowledgement responses” to show you’re listening.
Acknowledgement responses are brief statements or gestures that cue the other person to keep talking. Nonverbal gestures include nodding your head, cocking your head to the side, and furrowing your brow a little bit to show you’re concentrating. You can also try some of these verbal statements:
Mm-hmm.
Right.
Yes.
Keep in mind that if you intersperse these comments too frequently, it can be distracting for the speaker. A natural place to say them is when the other person pauses or perhaps looks at you for confirmation that you’re listening.
3-3. Reflect back what you understand the person to be thinking or feeling.
This isn’t just mimicking back what the person said, but rather it’s taking the information and reframing it to show you understand what they’re talking about. Essentially, you want to empathize with the person’s feeling and show that you understand why they feel that way.
For example, if a friend is telling you about a frustrating situation at work, you could respond by saying something like, “It sounds like that miscommunication was really difficult to respond to.”
3-4. Avoid interrupting the other person with similar stories of your own.
If you have something to share, that’s perfectly fine—just make sure the other person is finished speaking before you begin. Interrupting others communicates that you aren’t really listening to them; rather, you’re just waiting for your turn to speak.
If you find yourself interrupting others often, it’s okay to say something like, “I’m so sorry. I have such a bad habit of interrupting. Please, continue what you were saying.”
4. Overcoming Conversational Obstacles
4-1. Learn to be comfortable with pauses and silence.
The tendency is normally to start chattering to fill up awkward silences, but the next time you’re faced with a long pause in a conversation, try to internally count to 5 and remind yourself that it’s okay if there is a lull in conversation—chances are, it’ll only last for 15 seconds or so and then you’ll move on.
You can introduce a new topic of conversation if you want to, or you could just ride out the silence and see if anyone else has something to talk about.
If the silence goes on for a while, it’s okay to excuse yourself to go to the restroom or to refresh your drink. The pause actually gives you a natural time to break away if you want to.
4-2. Discuss rather than debate to foster a positive atmosphere.
Use conversations with others as a chance to learn and have fun. If someone says something you don’t agree with, try to learn more about why they think that way. And it’s okay to say you don’t agree, just try to be amiable and remember that the point of a discussion isn’t to change someone’s mind about something—it’s to get to know the person better.
However, if someone says something that is disrespectful or hostile, it’s okay to end the conversation. You should avoid judging others and always aim to respect different points of view, but if the person is making you uncomfortable, try to draw someone else into the conversation with you or make an excuse to walk away.
4-3. Give the benefit of the doubt if someone makes a negative comment.
For example, if someone is complaining about a situation, consider that perhaps they haven’t been able to talk about their feelings yet (everyone needs to vent sometimes), or if someone makes a comment you think is weird, try to remember that everyone is a little weird and you’ve probably said some odd things in conversation when you were nervous, too.
For example, if you’re at a party and someone reveals a little too much information about their recent bout of the flu, remember that they may be nervous and chatting more to try and keep the conversation moving. Try to gloss over the situation and not point out that their overshare was weird by finding something you can relate to. For example, you could say something like, “Oh, I think my friend had the flu around the same time. What’s your favorite movie to watch when you’re sick?” This keeps the conversation moving in a positive direction.
In general, try to focus conversations in a positive, forward-thinking way, and be respectful of others, even if you think they’re a little weird.
4-4. Stick to positive topics to keep the conversation from devolving.
It’s definitely okay to talk about difficult things, but if you’re conversing with someone new or who you don’t know well yet, try to focus on talking about things that excite you or that you’re passionate about.
Avoid over-sharing personal information with new acquaintances. If you want to talk about the intimate details of your relationship or something you’re struggling with personally, try to do that with a trusted, close friend instead.
4-5. Exit a conversation gracefully.
Ending a conversation can be the hardest part of interacting with another person. Try practicing a few statements at home so you can pull them out when you need to. Try some of these different endings:
“It was so nice getting to talk with you. I need to say hi to a few more people tonight still, but I hope you have a great rest of your evening.”
“I need to start heading out, but I really enjoyed getting to know more about you. Could we exchange numbers and talk more again later?”
“Thanks so much for talking with me tonight. I’m going to go stop at the restroom and say hi to a few other people, but hopefully I’ll see you around again soon!”
Tips
Read the news headlines before heading out to a party or networking event. Being up-to-date on recent events will help you participate in conversations.[21]
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Research source
The more you talk with others, the more comfortable you will be, so get out there and practice!
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Prod and encourage them to continue talking by saying “tell me more” in an open and kind way.\\nFor example, you could say, “tell me more about that process,” or “tell me more about what that was like for you.” These statements show that you’re interested in what the other person has to say, and they can lead to deeper conversations.\\n1-3. Turn the question around after answering one yourself.\\nSometimes other people are really good at asking questions, which is great! After answering them, keep the conversation going by asking them about themselves. For example, if they ask you what kinds of books you like to read, ask them if they’ve read anything good lately that they could recommend.\\nWhen someone asks you about a specific topic, chances are they have some familiarity with that thing and it’s safe to focus in on that subject.\\n1-4. 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Whether you’re talking with a friend or someone you just met, there are some basic conversational skills you can practice to make yourself more confident and welcoming. Try to be positive and engaged when speaking to another person, giving them your full attention. Ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation flowing, and give cues, like nodding your head, to show that you’re listening.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Asking Questions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Focus on asking open-ended questions to encourage conversation.\", \"描述\": \"Asking “yes” or “no” questions doesn’t naturally give others an opportunity to expand and talk more. 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1. Steps
1-1. Visit your local library.
Go to the cookbook section and borrow some cookbooks that tickle your fancy. Try to stick with less complicated recipes to begin with though––you don't want to be put off before you've even started.
Basics cookbooks are very good books, to begin with. These books tend to explain terminology and techniques, as well as providing samples of simple but essential recipes. You can learn a lot from even just one such book, and then graduate onto cookbooks that seem like favorites to you.
When reading a cookbook, check out how recipes are written and look for the basic terms and methods. Also notice that particular types of food (for example, bread, soup, meat, cake, etc.) have specific requirements in common to many recipes within that type of food.
1-2. Check out free recipes on the internet.
There are recipes everywhere on the internet, including on wikiHow. You have so many choices that it is important to work out which sites you like and trust instead of spending all day collecting recipes, so be discerning in your selection. It also helps to find recipes that allow comments; that way, you can see what others say about the recipes and what changes or additions they suggest.
Get to know the food bloggers. There are bound to be some you love because they cook the sort of food you like and share interesting anecdotes that make reading their blog worthwhile. You can usually subscribe to such blogs to get regular updates and when you're game, you can also share comments about your experiences of the recipes they're suggesting.
1-3. Watch cooking shows to get some more ideas.
Cooking shows are all over the TV nowadays, so it won't be hard to find one you like. This can help you learn techniques, find food of interest to you and maybe even get fired up about improving your cooking skills.
Warning: Cooking shows can be addictive. Try to keep them in perspective and ration the TV viewing.
1-4. Talk to other cooks.
Learn what motivates and inspires other cooks. Observe them and ask questions. This can fun and socially engaging way to learn more about cooking.
2. Testing your cooking
2-1. Don't wait.
Get started today. It doesn't matter if it doesn't work, you're learning and you'll learn faster by doing than by thinking about it. Expect to make mistakes and some stuff that doesn't taste so great. And for now, don't worry how it looks––work on how it tastes to begin with. Indeed, some people never get beyond how it tastes, and that is just fine because everyone loves good tasting food!
A word of advice: Don't try anything that requires expensive ingredients, has a very long list of steps, or is notoriously difficult at first. Give yourself a chance!
2-2. Begin with affordable ingredients.
That way, the errors aren't so costly and you can repeat until you get it right. And have fun in the process!
2-3. Choose simple recipes for your cheap ingredients.
That way, you won't get frustrated and you won't be stuck at a hot stove or cranky mixing bowl for more than a few minutes at a time.
2-4. Keep reading and keep experimenting with your cooking.
Taste the food you make, then practice how to make it taste better. A great cook can tell by mere taste what else needs to be added to improve a bland or strange tasting dish and most of this comes from sheer practice and innate decisions. On your side is the fact that you care enough about food to give this a go, so you'll get the hang of flavoring food in no time.
It really helps know what kinds of flavors you like and try to get them in your dish.
2-5. Fix your errors.
There are basic techniques for repairing mistakes, such as thickening or thinning a food, lessening saltiness and turning a failure into a completely different dish (with nobody the wiser). That said, some mistakes can't be fixed, such as burnt food (the taste goes all the way through). Learn when to simply throw out something and try again and when you can completely transform an error.
2-6. Be confident.
In order to be a great cook, you need to be confident. Sometimes, being nervous can spoil your dish. Fake it until you make it (or bake it) and something good is bound to come out!
Some people truly believe that emotions get cooked into food. Hence, it would be advisable not to cook when you're angry if you follow this belief.
2-7. Find a brave friend or family member to taste test your new creations.
Ask this person to give you honest feedback and to make suggestions for changes. Be prepared to accept constructive feedback; you can't improve your skills without this.
Tips
Don't be afraid to experiment with cheap ingredients, and be ready to add flavors to repair a dish.
Make sure you know the basic terms and follow recipes carefully at first.
Start by cooking one dish at a time, not three or four. Too many recipes spoil the novice cook!
Warnings
Always use appropriate care and equipment when working with hot stoves and ovens, hot oil, etc.
Go easy on the spices and dried herbs, especially when you don't know their flavor strengths. Too much of a good thing is bad when cooking. The aim is to avoid masking the food's natural flavor; instead, aim to bring it out.
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You have so many choices that it is important to work out which sites you like and trust instead of spending all day collecting recipes, so be discerning in your selection. It also helps to find recipes that allow comments; that way, you can see what others say about the recipes and what changes or additions they suggest.\\nGet to know the food bloggers. There are bound to be some you love because they cook the sort of food you like and share interesting anecdotes that make reading their blog worthwhile. You can usually subscribe to such blogs to get regular updates and when you're game, you can also share comments about your experiences of the recipes they're suggesting.\\n1-3. Watch cooking shows to get some more ideas.\\nCooking shows are all over the TV nowadays, so it won't be hard to find one you like. This can help you learn techniques, find food of interest to you and maybe even get fired up about improving your cooking skills.\\nWarning: Cooking shows can be addictive. Try to keep them in perspective and ration the TV viewing.\\n1-4. Talk to other cooks.\\nLearn what motivates and inspires other cooks. Observe them and ask questions. This can fun and socially engaging way to learn more about cooking.\\n2. Testing your cooking\\n2-1. Don't wait.\\nGet started today. It doesn't matter if it doesn't work, you're learning and you'll learn faster by doing than by thinking about it. Expect to make mistakes and some stuff that doesn't taste so great. And for now, don't worry how it looks––work on how it tastes to begin with. Indeed, some people never get beyond how it tastes, and that is just fine because everyone loves good tasting food!\\nA word of advice: Don't try anything that requires expensive ingredients, has a very long list of steps, or is notoriously difficult at first. Give yourself a chance!\\n2-2. Begin with affordable ingredients.\\nThat way, the errors aren't so costly and you can repeat until you get it right. And have fun in the process!\\n2-3. Choose simple recipes for your cheap ingredients.\\nThat way, you won't get frustrated and you won't be stuck at a hot stove or cranky mixing bowl for more than a few minutes at a time.\\n2-4. Keep reading and keep experimenting with your cooking.\\nTaste the food you make, then practice how to make it taste better. A great cook can tell by mere taste what else needs to be added to improve a bland or strange tasting dish and most of this comes from sheer practice and innate decisions. On your side is the fact that you care enough about food to give this a go, so you'll get the hang of flavoring food in no time.\\nIt really helps know what kinds of flavors you like and try to get them in your dish.\\n2-5. Fix your errors.\\nThere are basic techniques for repairing mistakes, such as thickening or thinning a food, lessening saltiness and turning a failure into a completely different dish (with nobody the wiser). 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Be prepared to accept constructive feedback; you can't improve your skills without this.\\nTips\\nDon't be afraid to experiment with cheap ingredients, and be ready to add flavors to repair a dish.\\nMake sure you know the basic terms and follow recipes carefully at first.\\nStart by cooking one dish at a time, not three or four. Too many recipes spoil the novice cook!\\nWarnings\\nAlways use appropriate care and equipment when working with hot stoves and ovens, hot oil, etc.\\nGo easy on the spices and dried herbs, especially when you don't know their flavor strengths. Too much of a good thing is bad when cooking. The aim is to avoid masking the food's natural flavor; instead, aim to bring it out.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do people grimace at your food when it's your turn to cook? Do you feel hopeless in the kitchen? 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1. Planning a Stay
1-1. Write a clear couchsurfing request
Tell your prospective hosts when you'll arrive, why you'd like to meet them, and how long you'll be staying. Explain a little about your visit. Are you touring the area? In town for an event? Passing through on the way to someplace else? Also, make sure you've filled in your profile, so they know a little about you.
If you're concerned about safety, choose hosts with detailed profiles and positive reviews. Women traveling alone may want to select female hosts or hosts with families, and to find the address of nearby hostels to use as a backup plan.
1-2. Find common ground with your host.
Read his profile and look for interests that you share or that you would like to learn more about. Your host is a volunteer, and is most likely open to hosting because it means getting to meet people. Think of stories and skills you can share with your host during your visit, and activities that you could do together.
Choose a factoid to use as an icebreaker, such as a shared taste in music or a location you've both visited. If nothing comes to mind, plan on asking your host whether he's hosted couch surfers before, or what he likes to do for fun in the area.
Communicate using the built-in tools on the website, not personal contact info, until you are sure you are compatible and decide to go through with the couch surf.
1-3. Coordinate with your host.
Once a host has accepted your request, communicate with him to figure out the logistics. Let him know whether the dates you give him are set in stone, or whether you might show up late or leave early. Whether you're traveling by plane, car, or foot, make sure you know how to get to your host's home, and what number to call if you get lost.
Ask whether you'll have your own key, or whether there are certain times you'll need to show up to be let in.
Find out the details of the accommodation. You may need to bring your own sleeping bag, pillow, and/or towel.
1-4. Get local tips from your host.
As a permanent member of the local community, your host can provide advice and warnings that aren't easy to find online. Feel free to ask about any topic related to your stay; your host should be happy to help. Here are a few topics that might be useful to cover before you arrive:
Are there any day trips worth doing to nearby towns or attractions? Would your host be interested in joining you?
What's the best way to get around the local area? How reliable is public transportation, and how late does it run? Should you rent a car?
Are there neighborhoods that are unsafe to walk through? Are there any precautions to take?
2. Creating a Great Experience
2-1. Share something with your host.
Part of the fun is getting to know your host. A small gift shows your appreciation and can open up a warm conversation, especially if it's a fun trinket from your hometown or the last place you visited. Even better, give the gift of a shared experience:
Share your skills. Many couchsurfers travel with a musical instrument or a small drawing kit. Others offer to help with basic home repairs, craft projects, or gardening.
Teach each other something. This could be a song, a holiday tradition, sports advice, or one of the skills mentioned above. If you know another language and your host seems interested, teach her a few words.
2-2. Trade stories.
Talk about the places you've traveled, the customs back home, or just stories from your life. Ask your host questions about the local community, its history, and his own life. Personal and cultural exchange sets couchsurfing apart from a stay in a hotel, if you step up to the opportunity.
2-3. Respect house rules.
Do your best to follow the instructions the host gives you, such as which entrance to use and when to keep the noise level down. Pay attention to your hosts' habits as well, and imitate them if necessary. For example, many people leave their shoes by the front door and may think this goes without saying in their culture.
Don't hesitate to ask questions or apologize when you make a mistake. A positive attitude goes a long way toward smoothing out minor slip-ups.
2-4. Offer your hosts food.
Food is a great way to share pleasant experiences, and to introduce each other to your respective cultures. If you can cook, offer to do so in your host's home, and share the results with your host. If you can't cook, or your host seems uncomfortable with the idea, offer to pick up the tab for a meal at a restaurant nearby. If there's no time to share a meal together, or a restaurant is out of your budget range, bring a small treat from home or a nearby bakery.
If your host also cooks, offer to share the recipe.
2-5. Be flexible and patient.
If your host can't be home to let you in during the day, find out when he or she can be there, and then find yourself something else to do for an afternoon.
It costs nothing to be cheerful, enthusiastic, and appreciative of your host's hospitality, and it can make a big difference in how your host sees you and treats you.
2-6. Stay in communication.
Let your host know when you plan to return from an excursion, and communicate again if your plans change.
2-7. Offer to help out around the house.
At the very least, clean up promptly after yourself and offer to help with dishes after a communal meal. If your host is usually busy or withdrawn, doing some light housekeeping or gardening together may be a good opportunity to connect.
3. Ending the Trip
3-1. Clean up after yourself.
Ask your host for appropriate cleaning supplies if you need them. If your host provided a pillow, blankets, a towel, or a floor mat, ask where to put them. Return any items you borrowed.
Don't leave anything behind besides gifts. Toss out all your trash, and offer to take the trash out if you filled it up.
3-2. Leave your host a reference.
If you had a great time, say so. A good review will help your host find couch surfers that match her interests and attitude. To describe your experience with the host, visit the host's profile and click on the ... symbol, then "Write Reference."
Write an honest reference that describes your host's attitude, plus a couple specific things your host did that made (or broke) your trip. Mention anything you found surprising, even if it was pleasant; other couch surfers will appreciate being told in advance.
3-3. Keep in touch.
Not all surfers and hosts will make friends every time, but if you did find a friend, trade social media or email contacts. Say hello once in a while and let your hosts know how the rest of your trip is going.
Tips
When calling or texting your host for the first time, be sure to introduce yourself. "Hi, this is [name] from CouchSurfing." Otherwise, you'll just show up as an unfamiliar number.
Try hosting, if it is within your means to do so. Otherwise, think back to a time when you had a house guest or roommate. What did that person do to be friendly and helpful? What did that person do that bugged you?
When sharing food with someone, especially from a different culture, ask whether they avoid any foods, and adjust your menu accordingly.
Warnings
Always have a backup plan, in case something goes wrong. That may mean having enough money on hand to get home, or to spend a few nights in a hotel if you need to. It may also mean having camping gear.
If your host or your surroundings make you uncomfortable, cut your stay short. Most hosts will be friendly and welcoming, but there are exceptions.
Respect your host's wishes regarding smoking, drinking, recreational drug use, etc. while staying with them.
While some couples do meet on CouchSurfing, dating should not be your primary objective. If you think there is a possibility for romance, it may be smart to check into a hostel and continue to spend time with your host from there. Some hosts may feel uncomfortable if the near-stranger in their living room makes a move.[4]
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Think of stories and skills you can share with your host during your visit, and activities that you could do together.\\nChoose a factoid to use as an icebreaker, such as a shared taste in music or a location you've both visited. If nothing comes to mind, plan on asking your host whether he's hosted couch surfers before, or what he likes to do for fun in the area.\\nCommunicate using the built-in tools on the website, not personal contact info, until you are sure you are compatible and decide to go through with the couch surf.\\n1-3. Coordinate with your host.\\nOnce a host has accepted your request, communicate with him to figure out the logistics. Let him know whether the dates you give him are set in stone, or whether you might show up late or leave early. Whether you're traveling by plane, car, or foot, make sure you know how to get to your host's home, and what number to call if you get lost.\\nAsk whether you'll have your own key, or whether there are certain times you'll need to show up to be let in.\\nFind out the details of the accommodation. You may need to bring your own sleeping bag, pillow, and/or towel.\\n1-4. Get local tips from your host.\\nAs a permanent member of the local community, your host can provide advice and warnings that aren't easy to find online. Feel free to ask about any topic related to your stay; your host should be happy to help. Here are a few topics that might be useful to cover before you arrive:\\nAre there any day trips worth doing to nearby towns or attractions? Would your host be interested in joining you?\\nWhat's the best way to get around the local area? How reliable is public transportation, and how late does it run? Should you rent a car?\\nAre there neighborhoods that are unsafe to walk through? Are there any precautions to take?\\n2. Creating a Great Experience\\n2-1. Share something with your host.\\nPart of the fun is getting to know your host. A small gift shows your appreciation and can open up a warm conversation, especially if it's a fun trinket from your hometown or the last place you visited. Even better, give the gift of a shared experience:\\nShare your skills. Many couchsurfers travel with a musical instrument or a small drawing kit. Others offer to help with basic home repairs, craft projects, or gardening.\\nTeach each other something. This could be a song, a holiday tradition, sports advice, or one of the skills mentioned above. If you know another language and your host seems interested, teach her a few words.\\n2-2. Trade stories.\\nTalk about the places you've traveled, the customs back home, or just stories from your life. Ask your host questions about the local community, its history, and his own life. Personal and cultural exchange sets couchsurfing apart from a stay in a hotel, if you step up to the opportunity.\\n2-3. Respect house rules.\\nDo your best to follow the instructions the host gives you, such as which entrance to use and when to keep the noise level down. Pay attention to your hosts' habits as well, and imitate them if necessary. For example, many people leave their shoes by the front door and may think this goes without saying in their culture.\\nDon't hesitate to ask questions or apologize when you make a mistake. A positive attitude goes a long way toward smoothing out minor slip-ups.\\n2-4. Offer your hosts food.\\nFood is a great way to share pleasant experiences, and to introduce each other to your respective cultures. If you can cook, offer to do so in your host's home, and share the results with your host. If you can't cook, or your host seems uncomfortable with the idea, offer to pick up the tab for a meal at a restaurant nearby. If there's no time to share a meal together, or a restaurant is out of your budget range, bring a small treat from home or a nearby bakery.\\nIf your host also cooks, offer to share the recipe.\\n2-5. Be flexible and patient.\\nIf your host can't be home to let you in during the day, find out when he or she can be there, and then find yourself something else to do for an afternoon.\\nIt costs nothing to be cheerful, enthusiastic, and appreciative of your host's hospitality, and it can make a big difference in how your host sees you and treats you.\\n2-6. Stay in communication.\\nLet your host know when you plan to return from an excursion, and communicate again if your plans change.\\n2-7. Offer to help out around the house.\\nAt the very least, clean up promptly after yourself and offer to help with dishes after a communal meal. 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Mention anything you found surprising, even if it was pleasant; other couch surfers will appreciate being told in advance.\\n3-3. Keep in touch.\\nNot all surfers and hosts will make friends every time, but if you did find a friend, trade social media or email contacts. Say hello once in a while and let your hosts know how the rest of your trip is going.\\nTips\\nWhen calling or texting your host for the first time, be sure to introduce yourself. \\\"Hi, this is [name] from CouchSurfing.\\\" Otherwise, you'll just show up as an unfamiliar number.\\nTry hosting, if it is within your means to do so. Otherwise, think back to a time when you had a house guest or roommate. What did that person do to be friendly and helpful? What did that person do that bugged you?\\nWhen sharing food with someone, especially from a different culture, ask whether they avoid any foods, and adjust your menu accordingly.\\nWarnings\\nAlways have a backup plan, in case something goes wrong. That may mean having enough money on hand to get home, or to spend a few nights in a hotel if you need to. It may also mean having camping gear.\\nIf your host or your surroundings make you uncomfortable, cut your stay short. Most hosts will be friendly and welcoming, but there are exceptions.\\nRespect your host's wishes regarding smoking, drinking, recreational drug use, etc. while staying with them.\\nWhile some couples do meet on CouchSurfing, dating should not be your primary objective. If you think there is a possibility for romance, it may be smart to check into a hostel and continue to spend time with your host from there. Some hosts may feel uncomfortable if the near-stranger in their living room makes a move.[4]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Couchsurfing can be a wonderful way to meet new people and to travel on a modest budget. Take the time to plan your visit, and you can find great opportunities to discover local culture, share stories and skills with your hosts, and perhaps even form lasting friendships.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Planning a Stay\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Write a clear couchsurfing request\", \"描述\": \"Tell your prospective hosts when you'll arrive, why you'd like to meet them, and how long you'll be staying. Explain a little about your visit. Are you touring the area? In town for an event? Passing through on the way to someplace else? Also, make sure you've filled in your profile, so they know a little about you.\\nIf you're concerned about safety, choose hosts with detailed profiles and positive reviews. Women traveling alone may want to select female hosts or hosts with families, and to find the address of nearby hostels to use as a backup plan.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find common ground with your host.\", \"描述\": \"Read his profile and look for interests that you share or that you would like to learn more about. Your host is a volunteer, and is most likely open to hosting because it means getting to meet people. Think of stories and skills you can share with your host during your visit, and activities that you could do together.\\nChoose a factoid to use as an icebreaker, such as a shared taste in music or a location you've both visited. If nothing comes to mind, plan on asking your host whether he's hosted couch surfers before, or what he likes to do for fun in the area.\\nCommunicate using the built-in tools on the website, not personal contact info, until you are sure you are compatible and decide to go through with the couch surf.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Coordinate with your host.\", \"描述\": \"Once a host has accepted your request, communicate with him to figure out the logistics. Let him know whether the dates you give him are set in stone, or whether you might show up late or leave early. Whether you're traveling by plane, car, or foot, make sure you know how to get to your host's home, and what number to call if you get lost.\\nAsk whether you'll have your own key, or whether there are certain times you'll need to show up to be let in.\\nFind out the details of the accommodation. You may need to bring your own sleeping bag, pillow, and/or towel.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get local tips from your host.\", \"描述\": \"As a permanent member of the local community, your host can provide advice and warnings that aren't easy to find online. Feel free to ask about any topic related to your stay; your host should be happy to help. Here are a few topics that might be useful to cover before you arrive:\\nAre there any day trips worth doing to nearby towns or attractions? Would your host be interested in joining you?\\nWhat's the best way to get around the local area? How reliable is public transportation, and how late does it run? Should you rent a car?\\nAre there neighborhoods that are unsafe to walk through? Are there any precautions to take?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Creating a Great Experience\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Share something with your host.\", \"描述\": \"Part of the fun is getting to know your host. A small gift shows your appreciation and can open up a warm conversation, especially if it's a fun trinket from your hometown or the last place you visited. Even better, give the gift of a shared experience:\\nShare your skills. Many couchsurfers travel with a musical instrument or a small drawing kit. Others offer to help with basic home repairs, craft projects, or gardening.\\nTeach each other something. This could be a song, a holiday tradition, sports advice, or one of the skills mentioned above. If you know another language and your host seems interested, teach her a few words.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Trade stories.\", \"描述\": \"Talk about the places you've traveled, the customs back home, or just stories from your life. Ask your host questions about the local community, its history, and his own life. Personal and cultural exchange sets couchsurfing apart from a stay in a hotel, if you step up to the opportunity.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Respect house rules.\", \"描述\": \"Do your best to follow the instructions the host gives you, such as which entrance to use and when to keep the noise level down. Pay attention to your hosts' habits as well, and imitate them if necessary. For example, many people leave their shoes by the front door and may think this goes without saying in their culture.\\nDon't hesitate to ask questions or apologize when you make a mistake. A positive attitude goes a long way toward smoothing out minor slip-ups.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Offer your hosts food.\", \"描述\": \"Food is a great way to share pleasant experiences, and to introduce each other to your respective cultures. If you can cook, offer to do so in your host's home, and share the results with your host. If you can't cook, or your host seems uncomfortable with the idea, offer to pick up the tab for a meal at a restaurant nearby. If there's no time to share a meal together, or a restaurant is out of your budget range, bring a small treat from home or a nearby bakery.\\nIf your host also cooks, offer to share the recipe.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be flexible and patient.\", \"描述\": \"If your host can't be home to let you in during the day, find out when he or she can be there, and then find yourself something else to do for an afternoon.\\nIt costs nothing to be cheerful, enthusiastic, and appreciative of your host's hospitality, and it can make a big difference in how your host sees you and treats you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stay in communication.\", \"描述\": \"Let your host know when you plan to return from an excursion, and communicate again if your plans change.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Offer to help out around the house.\", \"描述\": \"At the very least, clean up promptly after yourself and offer to help with dishes after a communal meal. If your host is usually busy or withdrawn, doing some light housekeeping or gardening together may be a good opportunity to connect.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ending the Trip\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Clean up after yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Ask your host for appropriate cleaning supplies if you need them. If your host provided a pillow, blankets, a towel, or a floor mat, ask where to put them. Return any items you borrowed.\\nDon't leave anything behind besides gifts. Toss out all your trash, and offer to take the trash out if you filled it up.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Leave your host a reference.\", \"描述\": \"If you had a great time, say so. A good review will help your host find couch surfers that match her interests and attitude. To describe your experience with the host, visit the host's profile and click on the ... symbol, then \\\"Write Reference.\\\"\\nWrite an honest reference that describes your host's attitude, plus a couple specific things your host did that made (or broke) your trip. Mention anything you found surprising, even if it was pleasant; other couch surfers will appreciate being told in advance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep in touch.\", \"描述\": \"Not all surfers and hosts will make friends every time, but if you did find a friend, trade social media or email contacts. Say hello once in a while and let your hosts know how the rest of your trip is going.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"When calling or texting your host for the first time, be sure to introduce yourself. \\\"Hi, this is [name] from CouchSurfing.\\\" Otherwise, you'll just show up as an unfamiliar number.\\n\", \"Try hosting, if it is within your means to do so. Otherwise, think back to a time when you had a house guest or roommate. What did that person do to be friendly and helpful? What did that person do that bugged you?\\n\", \"When sharing food with someone, especially from a different culture, ask whether they avoid any foods, and adjust your menu accordingly.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Always have a backup plan, in case something goes wrong. That may mean having enough money on hand to get home, or to spend a few nights in a hotel if you need to. It may also mean having camping gear.\\n\", \"If your host or your surroundings make you uncomfortable, cut your stay short. Most hosts will be friendly and welcoming, but there are exceptions.\\n\", \"Respect your host's wishes regarding smoking, drinking, recreational drug use, etc. while staying with them.\\n\", \"While some couples do meet on CouchSurfing, dating should not be your primary objective. If you think there is a possibility for romance, it may be smart to check into a hostel and continue to spend time with your host from there. Some hosts may feel uncomfortable if the near-stranger in their living room makes a move.[4]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Keep to the dress code.
Before even setting foot behind the deli counter, you have to look the part of a deli clerk. Depending on your place of employment, you may have a dress code. For most delis you must wear the following:
Safety shoes- these shoes are designed to follow health codes and prevent slipping in the work place.
Smock- The smock is worn to avoid the products from touching your clothes. This prevents contamination of the products.
Hair net- Unless you are bald, you should always wear a hair net while working. This prevents hair from coming into contact with products.
1-2. Be hygienic.
Hygiene is very important in the food industry. You must maintain a tidy appearance. Make sure that you and your clothes are clean before arriving to work. Once your entire uniform on, wash your hands. Always wash your hands before and after wearing latex gloves. You must wear latex gloves at all times when handling your products.
1-3. Know your products.
To be a successful deli clerk you must know what you are selling. Customers will ask questions about products. You need to be familiar with the items so that you can give your customers accurate information on the food you are trying to sell. There are many ways to gain information on products.
Read labels. Try to remember which products have low salt, are gluten free, and have the least amount of preservatives. Customers tend to ask these questions, so be prepared.
Try the products yourself. The best way to gain knowledge on a product is for you to try it yourself. Always ask a manager before taking a sample of anything.
Ask co-workers/managers about different products. Having different opinions on products can take away your bias on something.
Talk to your customers about their opinion. By asking customers their reaction to different products, you can share their opinions with other customers.
1-4. Know how to handle deli equipment.
Do not use the equipment until you are taught how to use it safely. Slicers are dangerous machines. If you do not know how to properly use the machine do not touch it. Have a manager or experienced co-worker show you how to safely use a slicer. Even after having experience with a slicer always be careful.
1-5. Be friendly.
Once you are familiar with products and equipment it is time to serve your customers. Always be friendly with your customers. Smile and greet your customer before asking what they would like. Occasionally you will encounter a rude customer. You must make sure to maintain a friendly demeanor.
1-6. Engage the customer.
When taking care of a customer, always ask how they prefer their product sliced. Most customers will tell you thin, thick, or in the middle. Occasionally you will be asked to chip (shred into a fine dust-like form) meat. This involves opening the slicer to its smallest opening and shredding the meat.
Ask the customer if the first slice looks good. By showing your customer the first slice they will be able to judge if you are preparing their food correctly.
Offer the customer the first slice as a sample. This way the customer can make sure they definitely like the product before buying it.
Ask what else you can get for them. Never assume that the customer is done with ordering. After slicing each product, ask what else you can get for them. Once they tell you they are done, make sure to thank them for shopping and ask them to come again.
1-7. Maintain a clean work space.
Whenever you have a chance, make sure that your workplace is clean.
Between customers, make sure that your slicers are clean. To clean a slicer, use a clean cloth and a Food and Drug Administration approved disinfectant.
You also need to make sure that your gloves are clean. If you handle a messy meat (such as roast beef or Virginia ham) make sure to change your gloves. Remember to wash your hands in between changing gloves.
When you have a break between customers, sweep the floor, disinfect counter tops, and straighten up so that your workplace is appealing to the eye and follows all health codes.
Tips
There is always something to do in a deli. Try not to just stand around.
You must be at least 18 years old to work in a deli.
Always greet your customers with a smile!
Warnings
Do not use a slicer until instructed on how to use it.
Be careful with knives.
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Know your products.\\nTo be a successful deli clerk you must know what you are selling. Customers will ask questions about products. You need to be familiar with the items so that you can give your customers accurate information on the food you are trying to sell. There are many ways to gain information on products.\\nRead labels. Try to remember which products have low salt, are gluten free, and have the least amount of preservatives. Customers tend to ask these questions, so be prepared.\\nTry the products yourself. The best way to gain knowledge on a product is for you to try it yourself. Always ask a manager before taking a sample of anything.\\nAsk co-workers/managers about different products. Having different opinions on products can take away your bias on something.\\nTalk to your customers about their opinion. By asking customers their reaction to different products, you can share their opinions with other customers.\\n1-4. Know how to handle deli equipment.\\nDo not use the equipment until you are taught how to use it safely. Slicers are dangerous machines. If you do not know how to properly use the machine do not touch it. Have a manager or experienced co-worker show you how to safely use a slicer. Even after having experience with a slicer always be careful.\\n1-5. Be friendly.\\nOnce you are familiar with products and equipment it is time to serve your customers. Always be friendly with your customers. Smile and greet your customer before asking what they would like. Occasionally you will encounter a rude customer. You must make sure to maintain a friendly demeanor.\\n1-6. Engage the customer.\\nWhen taking care of a customer, always ask how they prefer their product sliced. Most customers will tell you thin, thick, or in the middle. Occasionally you will be asked to chip (shred into a fine dust-like form) meat. This involves opening the slicer to its smallest opening and shredding the meat.\\nAsk the customer if the first slice looks good. By showing your customer the first slice they will be able to judge if you are preparing their food correctly.\\nOffer the customer the first slice as a sample. This way the customer can make sure they definitely like the product before buying it.\\nAsk what else you can get for them. Never assume that the customer is done with ordering. After slicing each product, ask what else you can get for them. Once they tell you they are done, make sure to thank them for shopping and ask them to come again.\\n1-7. Maintain a clean work space.\\nWhenever you have a chance, make sure that your workplace is clean.\\nBetween customers, make sure that your slicers are clean. To clean a slicer, use a clean cloth and a Food and Drug Administration approved disinfectant.\\nYou also need to make sure that your gloves are clean. If you handle a messy meat (such as roast beef or Virginia ham) make sure to change your gloves. Remember to wash your hands in between changing gloves.\\nWhen you have a break between customers, sweep the floor, disinfect counter tops, and straighten up so that your workplace is appealing to the eye and follows all health codes.\\nTips\\nThere is always something to do in a deli. Try not to just stand around.\\nYou must be at least 18 years old to work in a deli.\\nAlways greet your customers with a smile!\\nWarnings\\nDo not use a slicer until instructed on how to use it.\\nBe careful with knives.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Working in a deli can be fun, but you also need to be professional. Your duties might vary a little depending on your specific job description, but in general, being a good deli worker involves being familiar with the products you're serving and providing great customer service. Our guide will help you understand what you need to do to be great at this first step in your new career!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep to the dress code.\", \"描述\": \"Before even setting foot behind the deli counter, you have to look the part of a deli clerk. Depending on your place of employment, you may have a dress code. For most delis you must wear the following:\\nSafety shoes- these shoes are designed to follow health codes and prevent slipping in the work place.\\nSmock- The smock is worn to avoid the products from touching your clothes. This prevents contamination of the products.\\nHair net- Unless you are bald, you should always wear a hair net while working. This prevents hair from coming into contact with products.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be hygienic.\", \"描述\": \"Hygiene is very important in the food industry. You must maintain a tidy appearance. Make sure that you and your clothes are clean before arriving to work. Once your entire uniform on, wash your hands. Always wash your hands before and after wearing latex gloves. You must wear latex gloves at all times when handling your products.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know your products.\", \"描述\": \"To be a successful deli clerk you must know what you are selling. Customers will ask questions about products. You need to be familiar with the items so that you can give your customers accurate information on the food you are trying to sell. There are many ways to gain information on products.\\nRead labels. Try to remember which products have low salt, are gluten free, and have the least amount of preservatives. Customers tend to ask these questions, so be prepared.\\nTry the products yourself. The best way to gain knowledge on a product is for you to try it yourself. Always ask a manager before taking a sample of anything.\\nAsk co-workers/managers about different products. 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How to Be a Great Host or Hostess in a Restaurant
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1. Staying Organized
1-1. Make sure you have all of the supplies you need before your shift starts.
You should have plenty of pens and highlighters, a seating chart, and paper for making notes at your host stand. If there’s anything you need, ask your manager to bring it to you. You should also check to make sure there is plenty of clean silverware available.
Being well-organized is an important part of being a good host or hostess.
1-2. Keep track of each section.
Make a chart of the table layout and each server’s station. Keep track of how many tables are seated in each section, how many people are in each party, and what time each party arrived. This will help you assign new tables to the servers who have the most open tables.
If your restaurant takes reservations, be sure to factor them in when you’re planning your seating chart!
1-3. Communicate with your servers.
You need to know if a server is overwhelmed with just 2 tables or if they can handle another one even if they already have a 6-top. The best way to know what your servers can handle is to talk to them. Remember that you’re all working on the same team!
If possible, ask busy servers if they're ready for another table before you seat them. You can also ask servers if they're comfortable handling big groups if you have a large party come in.
1-4. Walk the floor to keep track of the tables.
Sometimes during a hectic dinner shift, you might lose track of who’s already left. If that’s the case, ask someone to watch your host stand and walk the floor with your seating chart. Look for any tables that are marked as seated but which are actually free. You can also check to see which customers have moved on to dessert, as the server in that section will probably be ready for a new table soon.
1-5. Help to clear and set tables when necessary.
You probably won’t be expected to bus and set tables as part of your job description, but you should be willing to lend a helping hand when you’re needed. Wipe down tables, put down silverware, and straighten chairs when you’re not busy doing anything else.
2. Greeting Guests
2-1. Greet guests with a smile and welcome them to the restaurant.
You’re the first chance the restaurant has to make an impression, so make sure you’re aware whenever new guests arrive. Greet guests warmly, addressing them by name if they are repeat customers. Let guests know right away if there will be a wait so they can decide whether they want to make other dinner plans.
Make eye contact. A host or hostess can't afford to be shy! Making eye contact shows you value a guest's patronage.
If you’re busy with another guest when someone arrives, acknowledge the new arrival with a smile or by saying something like “I’ll be right with you!”
Your goal as a host or hostess is to make customers feel welcomed and appreciated—that's why being charismatic and having a positive attitude are so important.
2-2. Ask how many people are in the party.
Don’t assume that just because 2 people walk in that they will be the only ones in their party. The rest of their group might not have joined them yet. Always ask so you’ll know what size table your guests need.
2-3. Ask customers if they have a seating preference.
Guests with a larger frame might not be comfortable squeezed into a small booth, and customers who have trouble walking might prefer a seat close to the door so they don’t have to walk as far. Make your best judgement call, but don’t be afraid to ask your customers what type of seating they’d prefer.
2-4. Answer the phone promptly.
The host of a restaurant is usually the one responsible for answering the phone. Make sure you answer the phone promptly and professionally. State the name of the restaurant, your name, and ask the caller how you can help them. Politely ask if you can put them on hold if you’re busy.
2-5. Maintain your composure even if the restaurant gets hectic.
When the dinner rush hits, it can be hard to stay calm and composed, but if you get frazzled, the whole restaurant could become disorganized. If you feel stressed, take deep breaths and remember that even the busiest dinner service will be over in a couple of hours.
3. Seating Your Customers
3-1. Show your guests to their table.
Make sure you do not walk faster than your customers. Walk slightly ahead of them, carrying menus and silverware to the table where you want them to sit. Ask if the table is okay before the customers sit down.
3-2. Apologize to your customers if they have had to wait long.
Most customers expect to wait at least 10 minutes to be seated at a restaurant, especially if they didn’t have a reservation. If your guests have waited much longer than that, offer a sincere apology as you show them to their table. Ask management if it’s okay to comp them a free drink or appetizer (but don’t offer it to the guests until you get permission).
3-3. Make sure your guests are seated comfortably.
If the restaurant is slow, try to seat guests at a table that’s not directly next to another full table. Of course, if the restaurant is very busy, guests will have to sit near other diners, but try to make sure all of your guests have enough space to be comfortable.
3-4. Rotate stations.
By seating guests in rotating sections, you’ll help ensure that all of your servers are able to make money for the night. Rotating stations will also help keep servers from becoming overwhelmed by getting several tables at the same time.
3-5. Place a menu and silverware for each guest at their place setting.
You never want to throw all of the menus down on a table, as this seems rude and dismissive. Instead, carefully lay a menu and silverware at each place setting, and make sure your guests are seated before you leave the table.
Be prepared to get water or other small items for guests. If they request more than that, politely let them know that their server will be right with them.
3-6. Speak to guests as they leave.
You’re the last person guests will have contact with, so offer a friendly farewell to guests as they walk out the door. This will help them leave feeling like they had a pleasant dining experience.
Tips
Guests should always have a clean menu. Wipe down menus before your shift starts and as they are returned to you throughout your shift.
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Communicate with your servers.\\nYou need to know if a server is overwhelmed with just 2 tables or if they can handle another one even if they already have a 6-top. The best way to know what your servers can handle is to talk to them. Remember that you’re all working on the same team!\\nIf possible, ask busy servers if they're ready for another table before you seat them. You can also ask servers if they're comfortable handling big groups if you have a large party come in.\\n1-4. Walk the floor to keep track of the tables.\\nSometimes during a hectic dinner shift, you might lose track of who’s already left. If that’s the case, ask someone to watch your host stand and walk the floor with your seating chart. Look for any tables that are marked as seated but which are actually free. You can also check to see which customers have moved on to dessert, as the server in that section will probably be ready for a new table soon.\\n1-5. Help to clear and set tables when necessary.\\nYou probably won’t be expected to bus and set tables as part of your job description, but you should be willing to lend a helping hand when you’re needed. Wipe down tables, put down silverware, and straighten chairs when you’re not busy doing anything else.\\n2. Greeting Guests\\n2-1. Greet guests with a smile and welcome them to the restaurant.\\nYou’re the first chance the restaurant has to make an impression, so make sure you’re aware whenever new guests arrive. Greet guests warmly, addressing them by name if they are repeat customers. Let guests know right away if there will be a wait so they can decide whether they want to make other dinner plans.\\nMake eye contact. A host or hostess can't afford to be shy! Making eye contact shows you value a guest's patronage.\\nIf you’re busy with another guest when someone arrives, acknowledge the new arrival with a smile or by saying something like “I’ll be right with you!”\\nYour goal as a host or hostess is to make customers feel welcomed and appreciated—that's why being charismatic and having a positive attitude are so important.\\n2-2. Ask how many people are in the party.\\nDon’t assume that just because 2 people walk in that they will be the only ones in their party. The rest of their group might not have joined them yet. Always ask so you’ll know what size table your guests need.\\n2-3. Ask customers if they have a seating preference.\\nGuests with a larger frame might not be comfortable squeezed into a small booth, and customers who have trouble walking might prefer a seat close to the door so they don’t have to walk as far. Make your best judgement call, but don’t be afraid to ask your customers what type of seating they’d prefer.\\n2-4. Answer the phone promptly.\\nThe host of a restaurant is usually the one responsible for answering the phone. Make sure you answer the phone promptly and professionally. State the name of the restaurant, your name, and ask the caller how you can help them. Politely ask if you can put them on hold if you’re busy.\\n2-5. Maintain your composure even if the restaurant gets hectic.\\nWhen the dinner rush hits, it can be hard to stay calm and composed, but if you get frazzled, the whole restaurant could become disorganized. If you feel stressed, take deep breaths and remember that even the busiest dinner service will be over in a couple of hours.\\n3. Seating Your Customers\\n3-1. Show your guests to their table.\\nMake sure you do not walk faster than your customers. Walk slightly ahead of them, carrying menus and silverware to the table where you want them to sit. Ask if the table is okay before the customers sit down.\\n3-2. Apologize to your customers if they have had to wait long.\\nMost customers expect to wait at least 10 minutes to be seated at a restaurant, especially if they didn’t have a reservation. If your guests have waited much longer than that, offer a sincere apology as you show them to their table. Ask management if it’s okay to comp them a free drink or appetizer (but don’t offer it to the guests until you get permission).\\n3-3. Make sure your guests are seated comfortably.\\nIf the restaurant is slow, try to seat guests at a table that’s not directly next to another full table. Of course, if the restaurant is very busy, guests will have to sit near other diners, but try to make sure all of your guests have enough space to be comfortable.\\n3-4. Rotate stations.\\nBy seating guests in rotating sections, you’ll help ensure that all of your servers are able to make money for the night. Rotating stations will also help keep servers from becoming overwhelmed by getting several tables at the same time.\\n3-5. Place a menu and silverware for each guest at their place setting.\\nYou never want to throw all of the menus down on a table, as this seems rude and dismissive. Instead, carefully lay a menu and silverware at each place setting, and make sure your guests are seated before you leave the table.\\nBe prepared to get water or other small items for guests. If they request more than that, politely let them know that their server will be right with them.\\n3-6. Speak to guests as they leave.\\nYou’re the last person guests will have contact with, so offer a friendly farewell to guests as they walk out the door. This will help them leave feeling like they had a pleasant dining experience.\\nTips\\nGuests should always have a clean menu. 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1. Treating Your Partner with Respect
1-1. Be honest
In a mature relationship, honesty is the best policy. It may be difficult, but the truth will allow relationships to breathe. If something doesn't suit them let them know, otherwise they will not trust your opinion.
Suggest an alternative and attach praise to the alternative. For example, if they ask you if you like clothing they are trying on, let them know that it might work but you think the blue one is your favorite so far because it matches their eyes.
It might not always be easy to be honest and kind at the same time, so focus on learning how to give a feedback sandwich and you'll both be better off.
1-2. Communicate with your partner openly.
As relationships progress, it can be tempting to communicate less and less. Fight this impulse, and be open about your feelings, daily experiences, and finances. Make sure you're actually listening, not just waiting for your turn to talk. Put off a vibe that tells your partner that they can tell you anything.
Tell your partner what you think, and don't assume they can read your mind. When you think they look nice, tell them. When you are thinking you are lucky to have them, tell them. Just like you, they'll like hearing they're valued.
Make sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood (e.g., a bad day at work), they are made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood. This way you will not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky person, and your partner will know that you aren’t mad at them.
1-3. Do your part around the house.
Clean up after yourself after meals and when coming home from working or socializing. Don't make your partner ask you to pull your own weight around the house. This makes them feel like a nag, which is never good. Your spouse is your partner, not your parent. Show them that they can count on you to get things handled.
Contribute to housework by doing things like washing dishes, vacuuming, and dusting. Your partner will see that you feel you have a vested interest in the home you share and that you take pride in creating a polished environment for both of you to enjoy.
1-4. Take responsibility for your actions.
This is a great way to show your partner that you possess emotional maturity, and are enough of an adult to face up to your own actions, whether they're good or bad. Responsible people honor their commitments, accept their duties, and are accountable for damages they incur, debts they owe, and claims they make.
For example, if your partner finds out that you criticized them behind their back, don't make an excuse or deny what happened. Say something like, "It's true that I said those things about you, and I'm sorry. Next time I'm upset by something you've done, I'll bring it up with you first."
1-5. Don't brush your partner off.
People often find it exasperating when they get the feeling their partner treats them as an inferior in a relationship. A lot of people have been taught that the only way to get attention when their partner is trying to ignore them is to act more emotional and be louder until the partner finally surrenders and pays attention to them, even if in annoyance.
If your partner feels you’re giving them the cold shoulder, they may get worried, especially when it happens without any explanation from you.
If you know that your mood might lead you to overreact, simply say "I'm feeling really irritated right now. Can we talk about this later after I cool off a bit?”
1-6. Don't show your partner contempt or sarcasm.
Contempt and sarcasm can poison a relationship. If your partner does something that doesn't thrill you, do not take on an attitude of superiority, even subtly in passing. Avoid behaviors such as momentary smirking, sighs of disgust, or eye-rolling. Such gestures, though seemingly insignificant, deeply show a lack of support, respect, and trust, especially over a period of time.
The way you naturally act towards your partner should subtly validate them as a person, even when you do not understand or agree with them.
If you show contempt in front of your child(ren), your child(ren) will then feel that is an appropriate way to treat your partner.
2. Showing Your Partner that You Care
2-1. Prioritize your partner in your day-to-day life.
They are the person you have chosen to spend your life with: treat them as such. Talk with your partner and set clear expectations about what decisions you can make without each other, and what decisions must absolutely be discussed. Ask their opinion when in doubt to show your partner you value their input.
For example, if you know your partner is cooking dinner at home and a work friend asks you to join them for a quick happy hour, say something like, "I'll join you next time, but I know my partner wanted me to be home for dinner tonight."
2-2. Be their greatest supporter.
Be someone your partner knows that they can always count on. Be there for them when they have had a long day. Listen to your partner attentively, and encourage them when they face difficult times. Say something like, "I'm sorry you had a tough day at work, but I know you're great at your job and I love how much you pour yourself into whatever task you're working on." You can also support your partner by talking them up to mutual friends.
If you have done something to hurt them, even if you didn't mean to, tell them you are sorry and show them affection. This must be sincere! There's nothing worse than an "I'm sorry" that is put on or phony.
2-3. Take care of your relationship.
Relationships are fun and rewarding, but they can also be difficult and take a lot of work to maintain. Invest time and energy in caring for your partner, and for your relationship and family. Your partner may feel overwhelmed with kids, work, or other aspects of their life. Take it upon yourself to support them no matter what they’re going through.
Help out; cook their favorite food or make their favorite drink. Help with the kids and help around the house (like doing dishes).
2-4. Ask your partner what you can do to make things work.
Part of being a great husband involves asking your partner if they have any needs you aren't meeting, or if they would like you to contribute to the relationship in ways you’re not. Ask them about what they need to feel loved by you. Try saying something like, "I think that things have been great between us lately. But I'm just curious, is there anything you'd like me to do that I haven't been, or any different ways I can contribute to our marriage?"
If your partner needs you to give them compliments, learn to master the art of compliments. If they need you to come home on time, be on time. And, if you know that you are going to be late coming home, call them and let them know.
If your partner needs you to help the children with homework, spend time with the family instead of going out with your friend.
3. Keeping Romance and Your Sex Life Alive
3-1. Be romantic
What "being romantic" means varies widely from person to person, but at its core, romance involves doing something to express affection in a meaningful yet unexpected way. A true act of romance requires creativity and sincerity, often inspired by love (either its presence or its possibility). Reintroduce the excitement that characterized the beginning of the relationship.
For example, treat your partner like they're single, and you're trying to earn their affection and trust. The opposite of being romanced is being taken for granted. No one wants to feel like they've already been "caught" and it's over and done with.
There are millions of ways to say "I love you" and "I'm lucky to have you." Buy flowers, cook them a meal, or surprise them with a quick weekend vacation.
You might also try re-creating special moments from the early days in your relationship, like revisiting the restaurant where you had your first date.
3-2. Keep your sex life invigorated.
As years go by, a couple's sex life can begin to feel routine or start to lag. Think of ways to counter this. For example, kiss your partner goodbye in the morning like you don't want them to leave. It gives them something to think about all day. Suggest new ideas to try out in the bedroom, or ask your partner if there's a new sex act, toy, or position that they've been wanting to try out. Be willing to put their pleasure ahead of yours.
Talk about sex, both what's been working well for the two of you and what hasn't. Intimacy (emotional and physical closeness) is important in maintaining a healthy relationship.
Sex is even more fun when you build anticipation. Drop a few hints in your partner’s ear early in the day, so that you can both look forward to getting together for some intimate moments after work.
3-3. Give gifts as a surprise.
Anyone can buy a gift for a birthday, Christmas, or an anniversary. Listen to them when you are out window shopping, and if there is something they like, and it's within your price range, remember it and surprise them with it when they least expect it, for no reason at all. Or pick something up on your way home from work, and tell them you were thinking of them when you saw it.
The gift doesn't have to be big or expensive. Buying a book you know they will like or a CD by their favorite band is a nice gesture.
Tips
Praise your partner in public (up to a certain extent without bragging!), but if you notice something you'd like to comment on more critically, find a private moment.[8]
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Discuss your financial dreams together and research and plan to achieve them together.
Spend quality time with your partner. This means laughing, talking, just having fun together. Make them see that wherever you are, you feel good when you are together.
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Put off a vibe that tells your partner that they can tell you anything.\\nTell your partner what you think, and don't assume they can read your mind. When you think they look nice, tell them. When you are thinking you are lucky to have them, tell them. Just like you, they'll like hearing they're valued.\\nMake sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood (e.g., a bad day at work), they are made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood. This way you will not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky person, and your partner will know that you aren’t mad at them.\\n1-3. Do your part around the house.\\nClean up after yourself after meals and when coming home from working or socializing. Don't make your partner ask you to pull your own weight around the house. This makes them feel like a nag, which is never good. Your spouse is your partner, not your parent. Show them that they can count on you to get things handled.\\nContribute to housework by doing things like washing dishes, vacuuming, and dusting. Your partner will see that you feel you have a vested interest in the home you share and that you take pride in creating a polished environment for both of you to enjoy.\\n1-4. Take responsibility for your actions.\\nThis is a great way to show your partner that you possess emotional maturity, and are enough of an adult to face up to your own actions, whether they're good or bad. Responsible people honor their commitments, accept their duties, and are accountable for damages they incur, debts they owe, and claims they make.\\nFor example, if your partner finds out that you criticized them behind their back, don't make an excuse or deny what happened. Say something like, \\\"It's true that I said those things about you, and I'm sorry. Next time I'm upset by something you've done, I'll bring it up with you first.\\\"\\n1-5. Don't brush your partner off.\\nPeople often find it exasperating when they get the feeling their partner treats them as an inferior in a relationship. A lot of people have been taught that the only way to get attention when their partner is trying to ignore them is to act more emotional and be louder until the partner finally surrenders and pays attention to them, even if in annoyance.\\nIf your partner feels you’re giving them the cold shoulder, they may get worried, especially when it happens without any explanation from you.\\nIf you know that your mood might lead you to overreact, simply say \\\"I'm feeling really irritated right now. Can we talk about this later after I cool off a bit?”\\n1-6. Don't show your partner contempt or sarcasm.\\nContempt and sarcasm can poison a relationship. If your partner does something that doesn't thrill you, do not take on an attitude of superiority, even subtly in passing. Avoid behaviors such as momentary smirking, sighs of disgust, or eye-rolling. Such gestures, though seemingly insignificant, deeply show a lack of support, respect, and trust, especially over a period of time.\\nThe way you naturally act towards your partner should subtly validate them as a person, even when you do not understand or agree with them.\\nIf you show contempt in front of your child(ren), your child(ren) will then feel that is an appropriate way to treat your partner.\\n2. Showing Your Partner that You Care\\n2-1. Prioritize your partner in your day-to-day life.\\nThey are the person you have chosen to spend your life with: treat them as such. Talk with your partner and set clear expectations about what decisions you can make without each other, and what decisions must absolutely be discussed. Ask their opinion when in doubt to show your partner you value their input.\\nFor example, if you know your partner is cooking dinner at home and a work friend asks you to join them for a quick happy hour, say something like, \\\"I'll join you next time, but I know my partner wanted me to be home for dinner tonight.\\\"\\n2-2. Be their greatest supporter.\\nBe someone your partner knows that they can always count on. Be there for them when they have had a long day. Listen to your partner attentively, and encourage them when they face difficult times. Say something like, \\\"I'm sorry you had a tough day at work, but I know you're great at your job and I love how much you pour yourself into whatever task you're working on.\\\" You can also support your partner by talking them up to mutual friends.\\nIf you have done something to hurt them, even if you didn't mean to, tell them you are sorry and show them affection. This must be sincere! There's nothing worse than an \\\"I'm sorry\\\" that is put on or phony.\\n2-3. Take care of your relationship.\\nRelationships are fun and rewarding, but they can also be difficult and take a lot of work to maintain. Invest time and energy in caring for your partner, and for your relationship and family. Your partner may feel overwhelmed with kids, work, or other aspects of their life. Take it upon yourself to support them no matter what they’re going through.\\nHelp out; cook their favorite food or make their favorite drink. Help with the kids and help around the house (like doing dishes).\\n2-4. Ask your partner what you can do to make things work.\\nPart of being a great husband involves asking your partner if they have any needs you aren't meeting, or if they would like you to contribute to the relationship in ways you’re not. Ask them about what they need to feel loved by you. Try saying something like, \\\"I think that things have been great between us lately. But I'm just curious, is there anything you'd like me to do that I haven't been, or any different ways I can contribute to our marriage?\\\"\\nIf your partner needs you to give them compliments, learn to master the art of compliments. If they need you to come home on time, be on time. And, if you know that you are going to be late coming home, call them and let them know.\\nIf your partner needs you to help the children with homework, spend time with the family instead of going out with your friend.\\n3. Keeping Romance and Your Sex Life Alive\\n3-1. Be romantic\\nWhat \\\"being romantic\\\" means varies widely from person to person, but at its core, romance involves doing something to express affection in a meaningful yet unexpected way. A true act of romance requires creativity and sincerity, often inspired by love (either its presence or its possibility). Reintroduce the excitement that characterized the beginning of the relationship.\\nFor example, treat your partner like they're single, and you're trying to earn their affection and trust. The opposite of being romanced is being taken for granted. No one wants to feel like they've already been \\\"caught\\\" and it's over and done with.\\nThere are millions of ways to say \\\"I love you\\\" and \\\"I'm lucky to have you.\\\" Buy flowers, cook them a meal, or surprise them with a quick weekend vacation.\\nYou might also try re-creating special moments from the early days in your relationship, like revisiting the restaurant where you had your first date.\\n3-2. Keep your sex life invigorated.\\nAs years go by, a couple's sex life can begin to feel routine or start to lag. Think of ways to counter this. For example, kiss your partner goodbye in the morning like you don't want them to leave. It gives them something to think about all day. Suggest new ideas to try out in the bedroom, or ask your partner if there's a new sex act, toy, or position that they've been wanting to try out. Be willing to put their pleasure ahead of yours.\\nTalk about sex, both what's been working well for the two of you and what hasn't. Intimacy (emotional and physical closeness) is important in maintaining a healthy relationship.\\nSex is even more fun when you build anticipation. Drop a few hints in your partner’s ear early in the day, so that you can both look forward to getting together for some intimate moments after work.\\n3-3. Give gifts as a surprise.\\nAnyone can buy a gift for a birthday, Christmas, or an anniversary. Listen to them when you are out window shopping, and if there is something they like, and it's within your price range, remember it and surprise them with it when they least expect it, for no reason at all. Or pick something up on your way home from work, and tell them you were thinking of them when you saw it.\\nThe gift doesn't have to be big or expensive. Buying a book you know they will like or a CD by their favorite band is a nice gesture.\\nTips\\nPraise your partner in public (up to a certain extent without bragging!), but if you notice something you'd like to comment on more critically, find a private moment.[8]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nDiscuss your financial dreams together and research and plan to achieve them together.\\nSpend quality time with your partner. This means laughing, talking, just having fun together. Make them see that wherever you are, you feel good when you are together.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There is no one-size-fits-all formula for being a wonderful husband. Every partner and every marriage is different. But there are some common issues that many married couples face, and part of being a great husband is being able to navigate and deal with these issues. In general, being a great husband involves treating your partner with love, growing together with them, and keeping the lines of communication open.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Treating Your Partner with Respect\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be honest\", \"描述\": \"In a mature relationship, honesty is the best policy. It may be difficult, but the truth will allow relationships to breathe. If something doesn't suit them let them know, otherwise they will not trust your opinion.\\nSuggest an alternative and attach praise to the alternative. For example, if they ask you if you like clothing they are trying on, let them know that it might work but you think the blue one is your favorite so far because it matches their eyes.\\nIt might not always be easy to be honest and kind at the same time, so focus on learning how to give a feedback sandwich and you'll both be better off.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicate with your partner openly.\", \"描述\": \"As relationships progress, it can be tempting to communicate less and less. Fight this impulse, and be open about your feelings, daily experiences, and finances. Make sure you're actually listening, not just waiting for your turn to talk. Put off a vibe that tells your partner that they can tell you anything.\\nTell your partner what you think, and don't assume they can read your mind. When you think they look nice, tell them. When you are thinking you are lucky to have them, tell them. Just like you, they'll like hearing they're valued.\\nMake sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood (e.g., a bad day at work), they are made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood. This way you will not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky person, and your partner will know that you aren’t mad at them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do your part around the house.\", \"描述\": \"Clean up after yourself after meals and when coming home from working or socializing. Don't make your partner ask you to pull your own weight around the house. This makes them feel like a nag, which is never good. Your spouse is your partner, not your parent. Show them that they can count on you to get things handled.\\nContribute to housework by doing things like washing dishes, vacuuming, and dusting. Your partner will see that you feel you have a vested interest in the home you share and that you take pride in creating a polished environment for both of you to enjoy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take responsibility for your actions.\", \"描述\": \"This is a great way to show your partner that you possess emotional maturity, and are enough of an adult to face up to your own actions, whether they're good or bad. Responsible people honor their commitments, accept their duties, and are accountable for damages they incur, debts they owe, and claims they make.\\nFor example, if your partner finds out that you criticized them behind their back, don't make an excuse or deny what happened. Say something like, \\\"It's true that I said those things about you, and I'm sorry. Next time I'm upset by something you've done, I'll bring it up with you first.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't brush your partner off.\", \"描述\": \"People often find it exasperating when they get the feeling their partner treats them as an inferior in a relationship. A lot of people have been taught that the only way to get attention when their partner is trying to ignore them is to act more emotional and be louder until the partner finally surrenders and pays attention to them, even if in annoyance.\\nIf your partner feels you’re giving them the cold shoulder, they may get worried, especially when it happens without any explanation from you.\\nIf you know that your mood might lead you to overreact, simply say \\\"I'm feeling really irritated right now. Can we talk about this later after I cool off a bit?”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't show your partner contempt or sarcasm.\", \"描述\": \"Contempt and sarcasm can poison a relationship. If your partner does something that doesn't thrill you, do not take on an attitude of superiority, even subtly in passing. Avoid behaviors such as momentary smirking, sighs of disgust, or eye-rolling. Such gestures, though seemingly insignificant, deeply show a lack of support, respect, and trust, especially over a period of time.\\nThe way you naturally act towards your partner should subtly validate them as a person, even when you do not understand or agree with them.\\nIf you show contempt in front of your child(ren), your child(ren) will then feel that is an appropriate way to treat your partner.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Showing Your Partner that You Care\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prioritize your partner in your day-to-day life.\", \"描述\": \"They are the person you have chosen to spend your life with: treat them as such. Talk with your partner and set clear expectations about what decisions you can make without each other, and what decisions must absolutely be discussed. Ask their opinion when in doubt to show your partner you value their input.\\nFor example, if you know your partner is cooking dinner at home and a work friend asks you to join them for a quick happy hour, say something like, \\\"I'll join you next time, but I know my partner wanted me to be home for dinner tonight.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be their greatest supporter.\", \"描述\": \"Be someone your partner knows that they can always count on. Be there for them when they have had a long day. Listen to your partner attentively, and encourage them when they face difficult times. Say something like, \\\"I'm sorry you had a tough day at work, but I know you're great at your job and I love how much you pour yourself into whatever task you're working on.\\\" You can also support your partner by talking them up to mutual friends.\\nIf you have done something to hurt them, even if you didn't mean to, tell them you are sorry and show them affection. This must be sincere! There's nothing worse than an \\\"I'm sorry\\\" that is put on or phony.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take care of your relationship.\", \"描述\": \"Relationships are fun and rewarding, but they can also be difficult and take a lot of work to maintain. Invest time and energy in caring for your partner, and for your relationship and family. Your partner may feel overwhelmed with kids, work, or other aspects of their life. Take it upon yourself to support them no matter what they’re going through.\\nHelp out; cook their favorite food or make their favorite drink. 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No one wants to feel like they've already been \\\"caught\\\" and it's over and done with.\\nThere are millions of ways to say \\\"I love you\\\" and \\\"I'm lucky to have you.\\\" Buy flowers, cook them a meal, or surprise them with a quick weekend vacation.\\nYou might also try re-creating special moments from the early days in your relationship, like revisiting the restaurant where you had your first date.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your sex life invigorated.\", \"描述\": \"As years go by, a couple's sex life can begin to feel routine or start to lag. Think of ways to counter this. For example, kiss your partner goodbye in the morning like you don't want them to leave. It gives them something to think about all day. Suggest new ideas to try out in the bedroom, or ask your partner if there's a new sex act, toy, or position that they've been wanting to try out. 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How to Be a Great Role Model to Young Kids
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1. Communicating Properly
1-1. Speak to kids as individuals.
Once you grow up, you lose touch with your childhood. As a result, you will find yourself thinking of children all in the same way. Many adults adopt a broad approach made to fit the concept of “kid” and, as such, forget how they wanted to be treated when they were young. Adults don’t want to be talked down to, and neither do kids.
Don’t lump them all together. Whether your reasoning is age or expectation-related, doing so prevents you from appreciating individuality.
It’s easy for adults such as parents to get absorbed in the responsibilities that come with authority, but they’ll remember someone who is personal and friendly rather than someone who dictates.
Try doing things like shaking their hand and asking non-patronizing questions. Ask about their viewpoints, like “What do you think about the news yesterday?” in order to get to know them and further customize your speech to them.
When speaking to them, don’t jump to conclusions about how they think and feel. Instead of saying, “You must have felt angry,” let them express that in their own words.
1-2. Don’t try hard to impress kids.
A common mistake adults make is to overcompensate for their discomfort around children. They’ll raise their voice in a childish way and make awkward praises in order to get on the child’s good side. Many fall into this extreme in order to assuage the burden of having to pose as a confident, authoritative adult.
Avoid sounding insincere. Instead of saying, “Good job!” in a drawn out, lilting tone, say, “I like the way you took the initiative to take out the trash.” Be specific, personal, and convicted.
Don’t feel the need to point out every action the kid does, exaggerate it, or compare it what others are doing. These mistakes make your praise sound inauthentic and kids will begin to lose confidence in their own abilities.
1-3. Adopt an appropriate tone.
This is situational, but knowing when to make your words sound the way you intend is critical and requires practice. Children infer a lot from tone, so sounding dismissive when they tell you about themselves, whether that be getting a hit in a baseball game or a serious problem, for instance, distances yourself from them. Your tone should be appropriate and non-threatening.
Yelling and screaming is reactionary when something bad happens, but you’ll have more of an effect as a role model by handling problems the cool and collected way. Rather than get mad about that broken vase, say, “It’ll be okay. Accidents happen.”
It is useful to vary your tone to match their feelings. For instance, you’d want to express pride and enthusiasm during an accomplishment or seriousness after a bad experience.
Public figures such as teachers should remain professional without sacrificing warmth. Rather than say, “This is the greatest writing ever!” or “This writing is terrible,” say “I like the way you’ve started. Do you want me to help you?”
1-4. Speak simply and directly.
While in many ways children feel and learn the same way adults do, they communicate very differently. The younger the child, the less capabilities they have in abstract thinking and the less attention they have for your spiel. When trying to get a child to get somewhere on time, rambling on about why they won’t make it doesn’t show them the consequences but does cause them to tune out.
Address the child by name, then put the point you’re trying to make up front. Avoid rambling and displaying uncertainty in your message.
Pay attention to how kids speak and mimic that. You’ll see them use short words and sentences.
Monitor your own speaking patterns with children. If you go on too long or in a way they can’t comprehend, they’ll appear disinterested. Use this to make adjustments.
1-5. Be encouraging rather than critical.
Kids make mistakes. They struggle at school. They don’t listen to your directions. Consider how much you like being berated and having your mistakes put on display. The way you relate to a child is a key factor between you being a role model or them spiraling down into resentment.
Instead of yelling at a child for struggling in school, for instance, make a point of acknowledging their efforts to improve. Show your support. Cheer them on.
Use words of encouragement rather than negative corrections. Demanding they out the trash later provokes a negative feeling compared to saying, “You’ve been doing a good job remembering to take out the trash.”
Displaying belief in them is a sure way to indicate to them that they deserve self-worth and can improve in whatever area is difficult for them.
1-6. Express positivity.
Children unconsciously pick up cues for their parents. A gloomy, anxious parent, for instance, spreads a mood that the child adopts, which can lead to depression and anxiety.
Read any book on inspirational sports athletes. You’ll see that the best role models encouraged them by instilling the self-confidence needed to deal with life’s obstacles.
Instilling a positive attitude doesn’t mean you need to be unrealistic. Handle situations with healthy optimism because delusional thinking can lead to later problems if the child doesn’t understand consequences and how to deal with them.
1-7. Invite them to speak.
The last person a child respects is someone who they feel refuses to listen to them or value their thoughts and feelings. The dynamic between you and a child should feel relaxed and more equal than authoritative.
A possible way to do this is to meet children at their level. Instead of lording over a young kid, for instance, try squatting or kneeling.
Conversation comes from open-ended questions. Many adults use this trick to converse with other adults. Instead of asking for their dog’s name, invite the child to tell you about the dog.
It is tempting to simplify questions into those that provoke closed, one-word answers. If the child is unresponsive, change your approach in a way such as offering an entertaining narrative or try again later.
1-8. Show affection.
Naturally, a display of coldness such as crossing your arms, turning away, and not smiling will suggest to anyone, including a child, that you’re not interested in them. If you’re a potential role model such as a parent, this has devastating consequences, including showing kids that you don’t care to reason with them or offer respect. Your body language should be in sync with your words.
Offer smiles with your praise. Smiles that are sincere feel open, familiar, and comfortable while making you appear genuine.
Proper eye contact is a must. Offer just enough to connect with kids personally. A lack of it displays disinterest or a lack of confidence. Too much feels invasive or even authoritarian.
Even your presence can lend strength. For instance, sitting close to a child when discussing a serious issue suggests you support them.
1-9. Learn to be an active listener.
It’s easy to hear what someone’s saying; it’s hard to hear what someone means. Most people in daily life don’t put in the time and effort to truly get to the heart of what someone else is trying to tell them. For children, this is important because they may be unable to tell you outright and instead express this through actions that can be cemented by an inappropriate response from you.
Mirror the child’s apparent feelings to try to get to the bottom of the issue. Instead of saying, “You must be sad,” say, “You might be sad” to avoid making an assumption.
The wrong way to actively listen is to add epithets in an attempt to teach a lesson. Saying something like, “Big girls don’t cry” is demeaning and devalues the child’s emotions.
2. Modeling Through Behavior
2-1. Set good habits for yourself.
Psychological studies show that children learn through imitation. While issues such as domestic violence and alcohol abuse are considered cyclical, behavioral imitation extends to habits far less obvious.
For instance, it isn’t enough to talk about eating healthy or saving money. If a child sees you being irresponsible by ignoring finances or eating lots of fast food, chances are that will become a habit of theirs too.
The more routine you make the behavior and the more positive examples of the behavior the environment holds, the more the behavior becomes normal for the child.
2-2. Take responsibility for your actions.
You’re human. You make mistakes and swear on occasion. To be a role model, you don’t have to be perfect; rather, it is important for you to own these mistakes and use them as a learning opportunity. Remember that excuses make your own behavior appear acceptable.
First, accept personal responsibility. Apologize sincerely if necessary. Owning up to your mistakes is difficult but honest and therefore impressive.
Second, seek to remedy whatever problem arises from your actions. This can be anything from having an honest discussion with a child after missing an event to helping a stranger in the street. Once the strength of your character is apparent, it’ll inspire those around you, including kids.
2-3. Stick to your rules.
It’s easy for an adult to change their mind. If you’re a parent, you may feel tempted to undo a punishment once a child flashes a cute, innocent smile or offers an insincere apology. This causes the child to find ways to avoid punishment not because they’ve learned better, but because they’ve learned that the repercussions of their behavior are inconsistent.
Consistent rules invoke transparency and expected consequences which reinforce that the action that merited punishment was wrong.
An unrelated adult such as a teacher still needs to keep their words and decisions consistent. This may mean making a tough judgment call to do what you consider right despite the scrutiny of parents, but the goal is to be consistent without being harsh.
2-4. Open yourself to others.
Often, the people who have the biggest impact on others are the ones who are able to effortlessly display compassion. You don’t have to fund charities or serve terms in volunteer organizations (though those can help), but you do need to display positive emotions to anyone you meet in life.
For instance, someone who presents a positive, happy face in a school cafeteria and takes the time to get to know the children is more likely to have a personal impact in a child’s life than someone who gives millions to charity while showing no compassion in daily life.
Be loyal to those around you. Whether that is with a difficult friend, a local business, or your own values, kids will notice your consistency. It's a unique trait in an era where friends can be removed from social media by the click of a button.
Subdue your negative feelings. Instead, show commitment to values such as positive social change or causes such as charity work. Civic engagement and acceptance of others make for great role model displays.
2-5. Show your ability to overcome adversity.
Think of why athletes are such popular role models. Other than media availability, many of them have fascinating stories of triumphing in the face of bad life circumstances such as loss and poverty. They had to work hard to get where they are, proving the worth of persistence.
For example, black male students suffer a disproportionate rate of failure in school, but a school that brought in role models who had overcome adversity and had the students imitate them caused student achievement to improve.
You don’t need to have survived a genocide to have a moving story. Search your childhood and work history for issues that challenged you and share these with children when they face similar struggles.
2-6. Manage negative emotions.
Feelings allowed to fester are ones that have severe consequences on relationships. You can tell kids to be patient on the road all you want, but if they hear you swearing up a storm at other drivers, they’ll adopt that attitude for themselves. Find more positive outlets for expression.
Instead of burying your feelings in chips and ice cream, exercise, for example. Teach self-control by example.
Be careful with the relationships you keep. Many kids come from broken home lives and you don’t want to be a contributor. Forgive gracefully and avoid talking negatively about someone behind their back, especially where a child can hear.
2-7. Display dependability.
Humans can seem like different people depending upon how their moods go, but good role models are known by the positive qualities they display regularly. Expressions such as “like father, like son” hold true because kids see and mimic behaviors. That means they also see when adults aren’t following up their words with behaviors.
”Walk the talk,” so to speak. If you promise you’re going to spend time with a child, for instance, follow through on that promise or your word is meaningless. “Do as I say, not as I do” never works.
Your body language and actions should always indicate that you’re there for support. This applies to whatever lesson you teach, such as self-respect and generosity. Choose the legacy you offer.
Step back and examine your actions for consistency. When you tell kids to be self-respecting and compassionate, do you end up in destructive relationships? Hypocrisy will cause kids to find alternative role models.
3. Avoiding Negative Role Models
3-1. Limit the influence of celebrities.
Everyone who thinks of a bad role model first goes to celebrities. Unfortunately, they get a lot of media attention for their worst behavior. This attention has the effect of normalizing the behavior for kids. They see someone they admire doing it, so the behavior becomes learned through admiring success.
Avoiding these role models requires forming a strong relationship with the child. If the child respects you and values your presence, they will be more likely to hear what you say.
Ensure that they realize there is a difference between public performance and private life. For instance, children are often wowed by athletes who command a lot of intention, but society often conflates winning a championship with being a good, responsible individual.
Find out what the child thinks of the behavior. Ask, “What do you think of that football player shoplifting?” Help them to understand, if necessary, then help them find ways the celebrity could have done better.
Ensure the child knows they don’t have to emulate all qualities of a bad role model.
3-2. Manage peer groups.
The other common example of a role model is a peer. Peers for kids are important, because they allow kids to grow and gain experiences that help them to navigate the world, but still, bad friends can impart many bad lessons. Limit their influence by setting a better example.
For children who struggle socially, find ways to teach proper interactions. Display these interactions in your own life, but also consider using the services of a therapist or teaching them such skills as conversing and problem-management.
Give kids opportunities to interact. For younger kids, you can have them together in a safe environment where they can play. Older kids still have to be allowed to make their mistakes and solve their problems.
The earlier you stop bad behaviors such as a bad attitude or drug abuse, the better. During calm periods have discussions with the child, but focus on the behaviors rather than attacking the bad peer.
Instead of forbidding the relationship and driving the child further towards the peer, institute rules such as having the peer over when you’re around.
3-3. Find out what qualities the child identifies in a bad role model.
When it comes to an athlete who happens to be involved in lascivious and violent behavior off the field, the child will see things such as wealth, fame, personal success, attention, and freedom. While these may seem nice to have, the negative lessons also come with them. Once you find these qualities, you can try to switch their attention to a role model who embodies similar traits in a positive way.
Be sure to teach them that every person has good and bad qualities. It can be helpful to not portray yourself as an infallible parent or public official. Own your own mistakes and adversities.
3-4. Steer kids towards better role models.
If you don’t, you can leave a blank in the child’s life where they aren’t sure who to look up to and can therefore end up going back to the bad role model.
It can take some compromising to find a substitute. You may find another athlete, for instance, who embodies positivity, or you may have to look to someone who never made the professional levels and had to go into a different field.
Talk about the people you look up to for inspiration. If you can explain your own feelings, hopes, and weaknesses, you can share these with kids to reach them in a personal and relatable way while providing them a better role model.
Tips
No matter how hard you try, you will make mistakes. Handle these with grace.
Nurturing a child is a complex task. A lot of the time, it will be difficult. Be prepared to persevere with patience.
Put yourself in your child's mind; kids think in ways you may not.
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Ask about their viewpoints, like “What do you think about the news yesterday?” in order to get to know them and further customize your speech to them.\\nWhen speaking to them, don’t jump to conclusions about how they think and feel. Instead of saying, “You must have felt angry,” let them express that in their own words.\\n1-2. Don’t try hard to impress kids.\\nA common mistake adults make is to overcompensate for their discomfort around children. They’ll raise their voice in a childish way and make awkward praises in order to get on the child’s good side. Many fall into this extreme in order to assuage the burden of having to pose as a confident, authoritative adult.\\nAvoid sounding insincere. Instead of saying, “Good job!” in a drawn out, lilting tone, say, “I like the way you took the initiative to take out the trash.” Be specific, personal, and convicted.\\nDon’t feel the need to point out every action the kid does, exaggerate it, or compare it what others are doing. These mistakes make your praise sound inauthentic and kids will begin to lose confidence in their own abilities.\\n1-3. Adopt an appropriate tone.\\nThis is situational, but knowing when to make your words sound the way you intend is critical and requires practice. Children infer a lot from tone, so sounding dismissive when they tell you about themselves, whether that be getting a hit in a baseball game or a serious problem, for instance, distances yourself from them. Your tone should be appropriate and non-threatening.\\nYelling and screaming is reactionary when something bad happens, but you’ll have more of an effect as a role model by handling problems the cool and collected way. Rather than get mad about that broken vase, say, “It’ll be okay. Accidents happen.”\\nIt is useful to vary your tone to match their feelings. For instance, you’d want to express pride and enthusiasm during an accomplishment or seriousness after a bad experience.\\nPublic figures such as teachers should remain professional without sacrificing warmth. Rather than say, “This is the greatest writing ever!” or “This writing is terrible,” say “I like the way you’ve started. Do you want me to help you?”\\n1-4. Speak simply and directly.\\nWhile in many ways children feel and learn the same way adults do, they communicate very differently. The younger the child, the less capabilities they have in abstract thinking and the less attention they have for your spiel. When trying to get a child to get somewhere on time, rambling on about why they won’t make it doesn’t show them the consequences but does cause them to tune out.\\nAddress the child by name, then put the point you’re trying to make up front. Avoid rambling and displaying uncertainty in your message.\\nPay attention to how kids speak and mimic that. You’ll see them use short words and sentences.\\nMonitor your own speaking patterns with children. If you go on too long or in a way they can’t comprehend, they’ll appear disinterested. Use this to make adjustments.\\n1-5. Be encouraging rather than critical.\\nKids make mistakes. They struggle at school. They don’t listen to your directions. Consider how much you like being berated and having your mistakes put on display. The way you relate to a child is a key factor between you being a role model or them spiraling down into resentment.\\nInstead of yelling at a child for struggling in school, for instance, make a point of acknowledging their efforts to improve. Show your support. Cheer them on.\\nUse words of encouragement rather than negative corrections. Demanding they out the trash later provokes a negative feeling compared to saying, “You’ve been doing a good job remembering to take out the trash.”\\nDisplaying belief in them is a sure way to indicate to them that they deserve self-worth and can improve in whatever area is difficult for them.\\n1-6. Express positivity.\\nChildren unconsciously pick up cues for their parents. A gloomy, anxious parent, for instance, spreads a mood that the child adopts, which can lead to depression and anxiety.\\nRead any book on inspirational sports athletes. You’ll see that the best role models encouraged them by instilling the self-confidence needed to deal with life’s obstacles.\\nInstilling a positive attitude doesn’t mean you need to be unrealistic. Handle situations with healthy optimism because delusional thinking can lead to later problems if the child doesn’t understand consequences and how to deal with them.\\n1-7. Invite them to speak.\\nThe last person a child respects is someone who they feel refuses to listen to them or value their thoughts and feelings. The dynamic between you and a child should feel relaxed and more equal than authoritative.\\nA possible way to do this is to meet children at their level. Instead of lording over a young kid, for instance, try squatting or kneeling.\\nConversation comes from open-ended questions. Many adults use this trick to converse with other adults. Instead of asking for their dog’s name, invite the child to tell you about the dog.\\nIt is tempting to simplify questions into those that provoke closed, one-word answers. If the child is unresponsive, change your approach in a way such as offering an entertaining narrative or try again later.\\n1-8. Show affection.\\nNaturally, a display of coldness such as crossing your arms, turning away, and not smiling will suggest to anyone, including a child, that you’re not interested in them. If you’re a potential role model such as a parent, this has devastating consequences, including showing kids that you don’t care to reason with them or offer respect. Your body language should be in sync with your words.\\nOffer smiles with your praise. Smiles that are sincere feel open, familiar, and comfortable while making you appear genuine.\\nProper eye contact is a must. Offer just enough to connect with kids personally. A lack of it displays disinterest or a lack of confidence. Too much feels invasive or even authoritarian.\\nEven your presence can lend strength. For instance, sitting close to a child when discussing a serious issue suggests you support them.\\n1-9. Learn to be an active listener.\\nIt’s easy to hear what someone’s saying; it’s hard to hear what someone means. Most people in daily life don’t put in the time and effort to truly get to the heart of what someone else is trying to tell them. For children, this is important because they may be unable to tell you outright and instead express this through actions that can be cemented by an inappropriate response from you.\\nMirror the child’s apparent feelings to try to get to the bottom of the issue. Instead of saying, “You must be sad,” say, “You might be sad” to avoid making an assumption.\\nThe wrong way to actively listen is to add epithets in an attempt to teach a lesson. Saying something like, “Big girls don’t cry” is demeaning and devalues the child’s emotions.\\n2. Modeling Through Behavior\\n2-1. Set good habits for yourself.\\nPsychological studies show that children learn through imitation. While issues such as domestic violence and alcohol abuse are considered cyclical, behavioral imitation extends to habits far less obvious.\\nFor instance, it isn’t enough to talk about eating healthy or saving money. If a child sees you being irresponsible by ignoring finances or eating lots of fast food, chances are that will become a habit of theirs too.\\nThe more routine you make the behavior and the more positive examples of the behavior the environment holds, the more the behavior becomes normal for the child.\\n2-2. Take responsibility for your actions.\\nYou’re human. You make mistakes and swear on occasion. To be a role model, you don’t have to be perfect; rather, it is important for you to own these mistakes and use them as a learning opportunity. Remember that excuses make your own behavior appear acceptable.\\nFirst, accept personal responsibility. Apologize sincerely if necessary. Owning up to your mistakes is difficult but honest and therefore impressive.\\nSecond, seek to remedy whatever problem arises from your actions. This can be anything from having an honest discussion with a child after missing an event to helping a stranger in the street. Once the strength of your character is apparent, it’ll inspire those around you, including kids.\\n2-3. Stick to your rules.\\nIt’s easy for an adult to change their mind. If you’re a parent, you may feel tempted to undo a punishment once a child flashes a cute, innocent smile or offers an insincere apology. This causes the child to find ways to avoid punishment not because they’ve learned better, but because they’ve learned that the repercussions of their behavior are inconsistent.\\nConsistent rules invoke transparency and expected consequences which reinforce that the action that merited punishment was wrong.\\nAn unrelated adult such as a teacher still needs to keep their words and decisions consistent. This may mean making a tough judgment call to do what you consider right despite the scrutiny of parents, but the goal is to be consistent without being harsh.\\n2-4. Open yourself to others.\\nOften, the people who have the biggest impact on others are the ones who are able to effortlessly display compassion. You don’t have to fund charities or serve terms in volunteer organizations (though those can help), but you do need to display positive emotions to anyone you meet in life.\\nFor instance, someone who presents a positive, happy face in a school cafeteria and takes the time to get to know the children is more likely to have a personal impact in a child’s life than someone who gives millions to charity while showing no compassion in daily life.\\nBe loyal to those around you. Whether that is with a difficult friend, a local business, or your own values, kids will notice your consistency. It's a unique trait in an era where friends can be removed from social media by the click of a button.\\nSubdue your negative feelings. Instead, show commitment to values such as positive social change or causes such as charity work. Civic engagement and acceptance of others make for great role model displays.\\n2-5. Show your ability to overcome adversity.\\nThink of why athletes are such popular role models. Other than media availability, many of them have fascinating stories of triumphing in the face of bad life circumstances such as loss and poverty. They had to work hard to get where they are, proving the worth of persistence.\\nFor example, black male students suffer a disproportionate rate of failure in school, but a school that brought in role models who had overcome adversity and had the students imitate them caused student achievement to improve.\\nYou don’t need to have survived a genocide to have a moving story. Search your childhood and work history for issues that challenged you and share these with children when they face similar struggles.\\n2-6. Manage negative emotions.\\nFeelings allowed to fester are ones that have severe consequences on relationships. You can tell kids to be patient on the road all you want, but if they hear you swearing up a storm at other drivers, they’ll adopt that attitude for themselves. Find more positive outlets for expression.\\nInstead of burying your feelings in chips and ice cream, exercise, for example. Teach self-control by example.\\nBe careful with the relationships you keep. Many kids come from broken home lives and you don’t want to be a contributor. Forgive gracefully and avoid talking negatively about someone behind their back, especially where a child can hear.\\n2-7. Display dependability.\\nHumans can seem like different people depending upon how their moods go, but good role models are known by the positive qualities they display regularly. Expressions such as “like father, like son” hold true because kids see and mimic behaviors. That means they also see when adults aren’t following up their words with behaviors.\\n”Walk the talk,” so to speak. If you promise you’re going to spend time with a child, for instance, follow through on that promise or your word is meaningless. “Do as I say, not as I do” never works.\\nYour body language and actions should always indicate that you’re there for support. This applies to whatever lesson you teach, such as self-respect and generosity. Choose the legacy you offer.\\nStep back and examine your actions for consistency. When you tell kids to be self-respecting and compassionate, do you end up in destructive relationships? Hypocrisy will cause kids to find alternative role models.\\n3. Avoiding Negative Role Models\\n3-1. Limit the influence of celebrities.\\nEveryone who thinks of a bad role model first goes to celebrities. Unfortunately, they get a lot of media attention for their worst behavior. This attention has the effect of normalizing the behavior for kids. They see someone they admire doing it, so the behavior becomes learned through admiring success.\\nAvoiding these role models requires forming a strong relationship with the child. If the child respects you and values your presence, they will be more likely to hear what you say.\\nEnsure that they realize there is a difference between public performance and private life. For instance, children are often wowed by athletes who command a lot of intention, but society often conflates winning a championship with being a good, responsible individual.\\nFind out what the child thinks of the behavior. Ask, “What do you think of that football player shoplifting?” Help them to understand, if necessary, then help them find ways the celebrity could have done better.\\nEnsure the child knows they don’t have to emulate all qualities of a bad role model.\\n3-2. Manage peer groups.\\nThe other common example of a role model is a peer. Peers for kids are important, because they allow kids to grow and gain experiences that help them to navigate the world, but still, bad friends can impart many bad lessons. Limit their influence by setting a better example.\\nFor children who struggle socially, find ways to teach proper interactions. Display these interactions in your own life, but also consider using the services of a therapist or teaching them such skills as conversing and problem-management.\\nGive kids opportunities to interact. For younger kids, you can have them together in a safe environment where they can play. Older kids still have to be allowed to make their mistakes and solve their problems.\\nThe earlier you stop bad behaviors such as a bad attitude or drug abuse, the better. During calm periods have discussions with the child, but focus on the behaviors rather than attacking the bad peer.\\nInstead of forbidding the relationship and driving the child further towards the peer, institute rules such as having the peer over when you’re around.\\n3-3. Find out what qualities the child identifies in a bad role model.\\nWhen it comes to an athlete who happens to be involved in lascivious and violent behavior off the field, the child will see things such as wealth, fame, personal success, attention, and freedom. While these may seem nice to have, the negative lessons also come with them. Once you find these qualities, you can try to switch their attention to a role model who embodies similar traits in a positive way.\\nBe sure to teach them that every person has good and bad qualities. It can be helpful to not portray yourself as an infallible parent or public official. Own your own mistakes and adversities.\\n3-4. Steer kids towards better role models.\\nIf you don’t, you can leave a blank in the child’s life where they aren’t sure who to look up to and can therefore end up going back to the bad role model.\\nIt can take some compromising to find a substitute. You may find another athlete, for instance, who embodies positivity, or you may have to look to someone who never made the professional levels and had to go into a different field.\\nTalk about the people you look up to for inspiration. If you can explain your own feelings, hopes, and weaknesses, you can share these with kids to reach them in a personal and relatable way while providing them a better role model.\\nTips\\nNo matter how hard you try, you will make mistakes. Handle these with grace.\\nNurturing a child is a complex task. A lot of the time, it will be difficult. Be prepared to persevere with patience.\\nPut yourself in your child's mind; kids think in ways you may not.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a role model is difficult work. Being an acceptable one requires avoiding many pitfalls that can lead children down paths of harmful feelings and behaviors, the same displayed by many public figures such as movie stars, athletes, and politicians. Being a great role model requires mastering communication and behavior that at once resonates with children and provides them an example to follow throughout life. With greater awareness of your own habits, as well as knowledge of how children think, you can serve as an inspiration that changes lives.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Communicating Properly\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Speak to kids as individuals.\", \"描述\": \"Once you grow up, you lose touch with your childhood. As a result, you will find yourself thinking of children all in the same way. Many adults adopt a broad approach made to fit the concept of “kid” and, as such, forget how they wanted to be treated when they were young. Adults don’t want to be talked down to, and neither do kids.\\nDon’t lump them all together. Whether your reasoning is age or expectation-related, doing so prevents you from appreciating individuality.\\nIt’s easy for adults such as parents to get absorbed in the responsibilities that come with authority, but they’ll remember someone who is personal and friendly rather than someone who dictates.\\nTry doing things like shaking their hand and asking non-patronizing questions. Ask about their viewpoints, like “What do you think about the news yesterday?” in order to get to know them and further customize your speech to them.\\nWhen speaking to them, don’t jump to conclusions about how they think and feel. Instead of saying, “You must have felt angry,” let them express that in their own words.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t try hard to impress kids.\", \"描述\": \"A common mistake adults make is to overcompensate for their discomfort around children. They’ll raise their voice in a childish way and make awkward praises in order to get on the child’s good side. Many fall into this extreme in order to assuage the burden of having to pose as a confident, authoritative adult.\\nAvoid sounding insincere. Instead of saying, “Good job!” in a drawn out, lilting tone, say, “I like the way you took the initiative to take out the trash.” Be specific, personal, and convicted.\\nDon’t feel the need to point out every action the kid does, exaggerate it, or compare it what others are doing. These mistakes make your praise sound inauthentic and kids will begin to lose confidence in their own abilities.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Adopt an appropriate tone.\", \"描述\": \"This is situational, but knowing when to make your words sound the way you intend is critical and requires practice. Children infer a lot from tone, so sounding dismissive when they tell you about themselves, whether that be getting a hit in a baseball game or a serious problem, for instance, distances yourself from them. Your tone should be appropriate and non-threatening.\\nYelling and screaming is reactionary when something bad happens, but you’ll have more of an effect as a role model by handling problems the cool and collected way. Rather than get mad about that broken vase, say, “It’ll be okay. Accidents happen.”\\nIt is useful to vary your tone to match their feelings. For instance, you’d want to express pride and enthusiasm during an accomplishment or seriousness after a bad experience.\\nPublic figures such as teachers should remain professional without sacrificing warmth. Rather than say, “This is the greatest writing ever!” or “This writing is terrible,” say “I like the way you’ve started. Do you want me to help you?”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Speak simply and directly.\", \"描述\": \"While in many ways children feel and learn the same way adults do, they communicate very differently. The younger the child, the less capabilities they have in abstract thinking and the less attention they have for your spiel. When trying to get a child to get somewhere on time, rambling on about why they won’t make it doesn’t show them the consequences but does cause them to tune out.\\nAddress the child by name, then put the point you’re trying to make up front. Avoid rambling and displaying uncertainty in your message.\\nPay attention to how kids speak and mimic that. You’ll see them use short words and sentences.\\nMonitor your own speaking patterns with children. If you go on too long or in a way they can’t comprehend, they’ll appear disinterested. Use this to make adjustments.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be encouraging rather than critical.\", \"描述\": \"Kids make mistakes. They struggle at school. They don’t listen to your directions. Consider how much you like being berated and having your mistakes put on display. The way you relate to a child is a key factor between you being a role model or them spiraling down into resentment.\\nInstead of yelling at a child for struggling in school, for instance, make a point of acknowledging their efforts to improve. Show your support. Cheer them on.\\nUse words of encouragement rather than negative corrections. Demanding they out the trash later provokes a negative feeling compared to saying, “You’ve been doing a good job remembering to take out the trash.”\\nDisplaying belief in them is a sure way to indicate to them that they deserve self-worth and can improve in whatever area is difficult for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Express positivity.\", \"描述\": \"Children unconsciously pick up cues for their parents. A gloomy, anxious parent, for instance, spreads a mood that the child adopts, which can lead to depression and anxiety.\\nRead any book on inspirational sports athletes. You’ll see that the best role models encouraged them by instilling the self-confidence needed to deal with life’s obstacles.\\nInstilling a positive attitude doesn’t mean you need to be unrealistic. Handle situations with healthy optimism because delusional thinking can lead to later problems if the child doesn’t understand consequences and how to deal with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Invite them to speak.\", \"描述\": \"The last person a child respects is someone who they feel refuses to listen to them or value their thoughts and feelings. The dynamic between you and a child should feel relaxed and more equal than authoritative.\\nA possible way to do this is to meet children at their level. Instead of lording over a young kid, for instance, try squatting or kneeling.\\nConversation comes from open-ended questions. Many adults use this trick to converse with other adults. Instead of asking for their dog’s name, invite the child to tell you about the dog.\\nIt is tempting to simplify questions into those that provoke closed, one-word answers. If the child is unresponsive, change your approach in a way such as offering an entertaining narrative or try again later.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Show affection.\", \"描述\": \"Naturally, a display of coldness such as crossing your arms, turning away, and not smiling will suggest to anyone, including a child, that you’re not interested in them. If you’re a potential role model such as a parent, this has devastating consequences, including showing kids that you don’t care to reason with them or offer respect. Your body language should be in sync with your words.\\nOffer smiles with your praise. Smiles that are sincere feel open, familiar, and comfortable while making you appear genuine.\\nProper eye contact is a must. Offer just enough to connect with kids personally. A lack of it displays disinterest or a lack of confidence. Too much feels invasive or even authoritarian.\\nEven your presence can lend strength. For instance, sitting close to a child when discussing a serious issue suggests you support them.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Learn to be an active listener.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to hear what someone’s saying; it’s hard to hear what someone means. Most people in daily life don’t put in the time and effort to truly get to the heart of what someone else is trying to tell them. For children, this is important because they may be unable to tell you outright and instead express this through actions that can be cemented by an inappropriate response from you.\\nMirror the child’s apparent feelings to try to get to the bottom of the issue. Instead of saying, “You must be sad,” say, “You might be sad” to avoid making an assumption.\\nThe wrong way to actively listen is to add epithets in an attempt to teach a lesson. Saying something like, “Big girls don’t cry” is demeaning and devalues the child’s emotions.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Modeling Through Behavior\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set good habits for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Psychological studies show that children learn through imitation. While issues such as domestic violence and alcohol abuse are considered cyclical, behavioral imitation extends to habits far less obvious.\\nFor instance, it isn’t enough to talk about eating healthy or saving money. If a child sees you being irresponsible by ignoring finances or eating lots of fast food, chances are that will become a habit of theirs too.\\nThe more routine you make the behavior and the more positive examples of the behavior the environment holds, the more the behavior becomes normal for the child.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take responsibility for your actions.\", \"描述\": \"You’re human. You make mistakes and swear on occasion. To be a role model, you don’t have to be perfect; rather, it is important for you to own these mistakes and use them as a learning opportunity. Remember that excuses make your own behavior appear acceptable.\\nFirst, accept personal responsibility. Apologize sincerely if necessary. Owning up to your mistakes is difficult but honest and therefore impressive.\\nSecond, seek to remedy whatever problem arises from your actions. This can be anything from having an honest discussion with a child after missing an event to helping a stranger in the street. Once the strength of your character is apparent, it’ll inspire those around you, including kids.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stick to your rules.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy for an adult to change their mind. If you’re a parent, you may feel tempted to undo a punishment once a child flashes a cute, innocent smile or offers an insincere apology. This causes the child to find ways to avoid punishment not because they’ve learned better, but because they’ve learned that the repercussions of their behavior are inconsistent.\\nConsistent rules invoke transparency and expected consequences which reinforce that the action that merited punishment was wrong.\\nAn unrelated adult such as a teacher still needs to keep their words and decisions consistent. This may mean making a tough judgment call to do what you consider right despite the scrutiny of parents, but the goal is to be consistent without being harsh.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Open yourself to others.\", \"描述\": \"Often, the people who have the biggest impact on others are the ones who are able to effortlessly display compassion. You don’t have to fund charities or serve terms in volunteer organizations (though those can help), but you do need to display positive emotions to anyone you meet in life.\\nFor instance, someone who presents a positive, happy face in a school cafeteria and takes the time to get to know the children is more likely to have a personal impact in a child’s life than someone who gives millions to charity while showing no compassion in daily life.\\nBe loyal to those around you. Whether that is with a difficult friend, a local business, or your own values, kids will notice your consistency. It's a unique trait in an era where friends can be removed from social media by the click of a button.\\nSubdue your negative feelings. Instead, show commitment to values such as positive social change or causes such as charity work. Civic engagement and acceptance of others make for great role model displays.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Show your ability to overcome adversity.\", \"描述\": \"Think of why athletes are such popular role models. Other than media availability, many of them have fascinating stories of triumphing in the face of bad life circumstances such as loss and poverty. They had to work hard to get where they are, proving the worth of persistence.\\nFor example, black male students suffer a disproportionate rate of failure in school, but a school that brought in role models who had overcome adversity and had the students imitate them caused student achievement to improve.\\nYou don’t need to have survived a genocide to have a moving story. Search your childhood and work history for issues that challenged you and share these with children when they face similar struggles.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Manage negative emotions.\", \"描述\": \"Feelings allowed to fester are ones that have severe consequences on relationships. You can tell kids to be patient on the road all you want, but if they hear you swearing up a storm at other drivers, they’ll adopt that attitude for themselves. Find more positive outlets for expression.\\nInstead of burying your feelings in chips and ice cream, exercise, for example. Teach self-control by example.\\nBe careful with the relationships you keep. Many kids come from broken home lives and you don’t want to be a contributor. Forgive gracefully and avoid talking negatively about someone behind their back, especially where a child can hear.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Display dependability.\", \"描述\": \"Humans can seem like different people depending upon how their moods go, but good role models are known by the positive qualities they display regularly. Expressions such as “like father, like son” hold true because kids see and mimic behaviors. That means they also see when adults aren’t following up their words with behaviors.\\n”Walk the talk,” so to speak. If you promise you’re going to spend time with a child, for instance, follow through on that promise or your word is meaningless. “Do as I say, not as I do” never works.\\nYour body language and actions should always indicate that you’re there for support. This applies to whatever lesson you teach, such as self-respect and generosity. Choose the legacy you offer.\\nStep back and examine your actions for consistency. When you tell kids to be self-respecting and compassionate, do you end up in destructive relationships? Hypocrisy will cause kids to find alternative role models.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoiding Negative Role Models\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Limit the influence of celebrities.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone who thinks of a bad role model first goes to celebrities. Unfortunately, they get a lot of media attention for their worst behavior. This attention has the effect of normalizing the behavior for kids. They see someone they admire doing it, so the behavior becomes learned through admiring success.\\nAvoiding these role models requires forming a strong relationship with the child. If the child respects you and values your presence, they will be more likely to hear what you say.\\nEnsure that they realize there is a difference between public performance and private life. For instance, children are often wowed by athletes who command a lot of intention, but society often conflates winning a championship with being a good, responsible individual.\\nFind out what the child thinks of the behavior. Ask, “What do you think of that football player shoplifting?” Help them to understand, if necessary, then help them find ways the celebrity could have done better.\\nEnsure the child knows they don’t have to emulate all qualities of a bad role model.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Manage peer groups.\", \"描述\": \"The other common example of a role model is a peer. Peers for kids are important, because they allow kids to grow and gain experiences that help them to navigate the world, but still, bad friends can impart many bad lessons. Limit their influence by setting a better example.\\nFor children who struggle socially, find ways to teach proper interactions. Display these interactions in your own life, but also consider using the services of a therapist or teaching them such skills as conversing and problem-management.\\nGive kids opportunities to interact. For younger kids, you can have them together in a safe environment where they can play. Older kids still have to be allowed to make their mistakes and solve their problems.\\nThe earlier you stop bad behaviors such as a bad attitude or drug abuse, the better. During calm periods have discussions with the child, but focus on the behaviors rather than attacking the bad peer.\\nInstead of forbidding the relationship and driving the child further towards the peer, institute rules such as having the peer over when you’re around.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find out what qualities the child identifies in a bad role model.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to an athlete who happens to be involved in lascivious and violent behavior off the field, the child will see things such as wealth, fame, personal success, attention, and freedom. While these may seem nice to have, the negative lessons also come with them. Once you find these qualities, you can try to switch their attention to a role model who embodies similar traits in a positive way.\\nBe sure to teach them that every person has good and bad qualities. It can be helpful to not portray yourself as an infallible parent or public official. Own your own mistakes and adversities.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Steer kids towards better role models.\", \"描述\": \"If you don’t, you can leave a blank in the child’s life where they aren’t sure who to look up to and can therefore end up going back to the bad role model.\\nIt can take some compromising to find a substitute. You may find another athlete, for instance, who embodies positivity, or you may have to look to someone who never made the professional levels and had to go into a different field.\\nTalk about the people you look up to for inspiration. If you can explain your own feelings, hopes, and weaknesses, you can share these with kids to reach them in a personal and relatable way while providing them a better role model.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"No matter how hard you try, you will make mistakes. Handle these with grace.\\n\", \"Nurturing a child is a complex task. A lot of the time, it will be difficult. 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1. Being Trustworthy
1-1. Put the customer first.
You can't sell anyone anything if they don't trust you. Convincing someone that they need something you're selling requires that you balance sincerity with your desire to make the sale, being assertive, firm, and honest. If they don't trust you, they're less willing to make an intelligent buying decision.
1-2. Empathize.
Find out what your customer really wants and why they want it. People buy "things" as a means to an end. Understanding your customer's desires and adopting them yourself will make you a great salesman.
Allow your customer to lead interactions, and ask questions to determine their desires. If a customer says they want a suit, ask "What's the occasion?" Selling a suit to someone going to a funeral is a lot different than selling to someone who is celebrating a recent promotion.
If a customer expresses interest in a particular item, ask what it is they like about it. Allow them to choose the product that they feel good about, getting to know your customer and their taste, and uncovering their real motivation for buying.
1-3. Be an expert in your field.
Know everything there is to know about your product, and your competitors products, so that you can justify to your customer why your recommended product is the right one for them.
If you're selling basketball shoes, learn which players wear what shoes, what styles are collectible, and some of the history of the shoes. Likewise, learn all the technical details about sizing, comfort, and care for the product.
1-4. Follow up.
If you really want to be a great salesman, go the extra mile. Write down the names and contact info of your customers, and follow up with a brief call or note to make sure they are 100% happy with their purchase. This is how you turn customers into raving fans who will return to you in the future. This is how you get referrals from your customers, and promotions from your employer.
1-5. Look the part.
There's no particular style--a car salesman will probably dress somewhat differently than a salesperson at a guitar shop--but you need to figure out how to look as appropriate and approachable as possible. Be clean, appropriately groomed, and friendly.
2. Being Assertive
2-1. Anticipate objections.
Pay close attention to your customers reactions. Facial expressions and body language can be a big "tell" in the customer's attitude. As you pitch the product to them, remember that you are there to sell whatever is going to make the customer feel really good about their purchase. Guessing what part of the product or price the customer is objecting to will help you respond tactfully and persuasively.
If a particular product seems to turn off a customer, acknowledge it rather than starting to argue for the product. You might objectively name some of its merits while justifying the customer's hesitation: "It is more expensive than the others, you're right. The hand-stitching takes a lot more time to complete, but it results in much more durable shoe."
2-2. Be logical.
If you're working on commission, it can be tempting to always up-sell or try to get customers interested in the most expensive items. But trying to up-sell a big screen plasma TV to someone living in a dorm room that isn't big enough for it is likely to put your customer off of your sales style. Balance your desire to make a sale with what product makes sense for the customer.
2-3. Ask for the sale.
If the customer is having a difficult time making the decision, it's ok to do a little pushing. Trust that you have suggested the best item and ask something like "Would you like me to bring this up to the check out stand for you while you continue your shopping?"
2-4. Increase your units per transaction.
After you confirm a sale, make the case for add-ons to up your total sales. If you've just sold a printer, mention some deals you're running on ink cartridges or reams of paper. Frame it as a money and stress-saving measure for them: "You'll need these eventually and this way you won't have to worry about it."
3. Staying Optimistic
3-1. Forget bad sales.
Spending lots of time on a sale that falls through can be frustrating and discouraging, but learning to put bad sales behind you and quickly approach new opportunities afresh is the best way to become a more successful salesperson.
Treat each failed sale as practice. What did you learn from it?
3-2. Stay focused on your own sales.
Some workplaces try to stimulate sales by encouraging competition among the sales staff, posting numbers for the week or the month. While this can be a friendly way of selling enthusiastically, it can also be discouraging if you constantly compare yourself to other salespeople.
Celebrate if you do sell a lot, but don't make that your goal. Treat work as work. Fill your free time with other hobbies to avoid dwelling on making sales.
3-3. Keep busy.
The more sales you attempt, the easier it will go. It'll be much easier to get past small failures and little setbacks and will keep you honing your craft. If you're making calls or roving the sales floor, the day will likewise go a lot faster the more time you spend selling.
3-4. Blame nobody.
Whatever happens, avoid placing blame anywhere. It's ultimately the customer's decision whether or not to buy something, so don't treat it as a failure on your part if they choose not to. Think of yourself as a counsellor in a transaction. Make your suggestions, be as helpful as possible, and move on when the deal is done, successful or not.
Tips
Listen to everything your customer says carefully, and listen to exactly how they say it. This is your firepower when presenting the product as a solution, and you want to present the solution back to them the same way they presented the need to you.
Always try to close. If you never ask, you'll never get the sale. Try to find common ground with the customer to create rapport (e.g. sports, family, school).
Always remember, you are here to serve and help your customer.
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Allow them to choose the product that they feel good about, getting to know your customer and their taste, and uncovering their real motivation for buying.\\n1-3. Be an expert in your field.\\nKnow everything there is to know about your product, and your competitors products, so that you can justify to your customer why your recommended product is the right one for them.\\nIf you're selling basketball shoes, learn which players wear what shoes, what styles are collectible, and some of the history of the shoes. Likewise, learn all the technical details about sizing, comfort, and care for the product.\\n1-4. Follow up.\\nIf you really want to be a great salesman, go the extra mile. Write down the names and contact info of your customers, and follow up with a brief call or note to make sure they are 100% happy with their purchase. This is how you turn customers into raving fans who will return to you in the future. This is how you get referrals from your customers, and promotions from your employer.\\n1-5. Look the part.\\nThere's no particular style--a car salesman will probably dress somewhat differently than a salesperson at a guitar shop--but you need to figure out how to look as appropriate and approachable as possible. Be clean, appropriately groomed, and friendly.\\n2. Being Assertive\\n2-1. Anticipate objections.\\nPay close attention to your customers reactions. Facial expressions and body language can be a big \\\"tell\\\" in the customer's attitude. As you pitch the product to them, remember that you are there to sell whatever is going to make the customer feel really good about their purchase. Guessing what part of the product or price the customer is objecting to will help you respond tactfully and persuasively.\\nIf a particular product seems to turn off a customer, acknowledge it rather than starting to argue for the product. You might objectively name some of its merits while justifying the customer's hesitation: \\\"It is more expensive than the others, you're right. The hand-stitching takes a lot more time to complete, but it results in much more durable shoe.\\\"\\n2-2. Be logical.\\nIf you're working on commission, it can be tempting to always up-sell or try to get customers interested in the most expensive items. But trying to up-sell a big screen plasma TV to someone living in a dorm room that isn't big enough for it is likely to put your customer off of your sales style. Balance your desire to make a sale with what product makes sense for the customer.\\n2-3. Ask for the sale.\\nIf the customer is having a difficult time making the decision, it's ok to do a little pushing. Trust that you have suggested the best item and ask something like \\\"Would you like me to bring this up to the check out stand for you while you continue your shopping?\\\"\\n2-4. Increase your units per transaction.\\nAfter you confirm a sale, make the case for add-ons to up your total sales. If you've just sold a printer, mention some deals you're running on ink cartridges or reams of paper. Frame it as a money and stress-saving measure for them: \\\"You'll need these eventually and this way you won't have to worry about it.\\\"\\n3. Staying Optimistic\\n3-1. Forget bad sales.\\nSpending lots of time on a sale that falls through can be frustrating and discouraging, but learning to put bad sales behind you and quickly approach new opportunities afresh is the best way to become a more successful salesperson.\\nTreat each failed sale as practice. What did you learn from it?\\n3-2. Stay focused on your own sales.\\nSome workplaces try to stimulate sales by encouraging competition among the sales staff, posting numbers for the week or the month. While this can be a friendly way of selling enthusiastically, it can also be discouraging if you constantly compare yourself to other salespeople.\\nCelebrate if you do sell a lot, but don't make that your goal. Treat work as work. Fill your free time with other hobbies to avoid dwelling on making sales.\\n3-3. Keep busy.\\nThe more sales you attempt, the easier it will go. It'll be much easier to get past small failures and little setbacks and will keep you honing your craft. If you're making calls or roving the sales floor, the day will likewise go a lot faster the more time you spend selling.\\n3-4. Blame nobody.\\nWhatever happens, avoid placing blame anywhere. It's ultimately the customer's decision whether or not to buy something, so don't treat it as a failure on your part if they choose not to. Think of yourself as a counsellor in a transaction. Make your suggestions, be as helpful as possible, and move on when the deal is done, successful or not.\\nTips\\nListen to everything your customer says carefully, and listen to exactly how they say it. This is your firepower when presenting the product as a solution, and you want to present the solution back to them the same way they presented the need to you.\\nAlways try to close. If you never ask, you'll never get the sale. Try to find common ground with the customer to create rapport (e.g. sports, family, school).\\nAlways remember, you are here to serve and help your customer.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sales is an art. Part assertive, part passive, if you balance the persuasion and charisma of a great salesperson, you'll be able to sell ketchup popsicles to a woman in white gloves on the 4th of July (although something slightly more practical is recommended). Read on to discover how to cultivate trustworthiness, an assertive presence, and an optimistic outlook on your sales.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Trustworthy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Put the customer first.\", \"描述\": \"You can't sell anyone anything if they don't trust you. Convincing someone that they need something you're selling requires that you balance sincerity with your desire to make the sale, being assertive, firm, and honest. If they don't trust you, they're less willing to make an intelligent buying decision.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Empathize.\", \"描述\": \"Find out what your customer really wants and why they want it. People buy \\\"things\\\" as a means to an end. Understanding your customer's desires and adopting them yourself will make you a great salesman.\\nAllow your customer to lead interactions, and ask questions to determine their desires. If a customer says they want a suit, ask \\\"What's the occasion?\\\" Selling a suit to someone going to a funeral is a lot different than selling to someone who is celebrating a recent promotion.\\nIf a customer expresses interest in a particular item, ask what it is they like about it. Allow them to choose the product that they feel good about, getting to know your customer and their taste, and uncovering their real motivation for buying.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be an expert in your field.\", \"描述\": \"Know everything there is to know about your product, and your competitors products, so that you can justify to your customer why your recommended product is the right one for them.\\nIf you're selling basketball shoes, learn which players wear what shoes, what styles are collectible, and some of the history of the shoes. Likewise, learn all the technical details about sizing, comfort, and care for the product.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Follow up.\", \"描述\": \"If you really want to be a great salesman, go the extra mile. Write down the names and contact info of your customers, and follow up with a brief call or note to make sure they are 100% happy with their purchase. This is how you turn customers into raving fans who will return to you in the future. This is how you get referrals from your customers, and promotions from your employer.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Look the part.\", \"描述\": \"There's no particular style--a car salesman will probably dress somewhat differently than a salesperson at a guitar shop--but you need to figure out how to look as appropriate and approachable as possible. Be clean, appropriately groomed, and friendly.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Assertive\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Anticipate objections.\", \"描述\": \"Pay close attention to your customers reactions. 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How to Be a Great Student in Middle School
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1. Being Prepared for School
1-1. Motivate yourself to succeed.
It can be tough to focus on school work, but without motivation, you’ll quickly lose interest in your academic goals. Motivated students are more likely to do well in middle school by keeping up with classwork and homework. You can stay motivated by reminding yourself that the work you’re doing in middle school matters and contributes to your overall academic success.
If you’re having trouble staying interested in school and being motivated on your own, look for a study group of students in your year. A study group will help keep you motivated by providing socialization and letting you work with other motivated individuals.
1-2. Keep your things organized.
In middle school, unlike elementary school, you’ll be responsible for keeping material for several classes organized and accessible. You’ll need to keep your English papers separate from your Math homework and keep track of which assignments are due on which days. To keep organized, make use of binders, folders, or spiral notebooks—whatever system you prefer to use.
Ask your parents to buy you one folder or binder per subject. That way, you can always place papers and assignments in the correct folder that corresponds to the subject.
Rather than shoving materials from multiple classes into your backpack, organize the materials into a separate subject.
Also, avoid letting old papers pile up in your desk or backpack, pull everything out regularly to make sure you haven’t missed an assignment or handout.
1-3. Manage your time wisely.
Time-management skills are one of the most important things that you can learn in middle school, although many students do not realize this at the time. Managing your time will help you avoid panicking the night before a large project is due, and will help you break your homework up into manageable segments.
1-4. Plan ahead for your homework and assignments.
When you’re given a new assignment, estimate how long the work will take. Then, plan to do a portion of that each day or every other day. This can help you break large, daunting projects down into smaller, manageable chunks.
See if your school provides an agenda book or a day planner. A day planner is a great way to keep track of multiple obligations, including classes, after-school activities, and social plans.
2. Excelling in the Classroom
2-1. Have all of your supplies with you.
You won’t be able to focus and do well if you don’t have the necessary supplies with you, so make sure that you come to class prepared. If you come to class prepared, you’ll show your teacher that you’re there to learn, and you’ll help keep yourself focused as well. When coming to class, make sure you have:
The required textbook and reading materials (handouts etc.).
A couple of functioning pens and pencils.
A notebook with blank paper.
Any class-specific items: for example, a calculator for math class.
2-2. Participate in class.
Participation will keep you interested in the material being discussed, and will also show your teacher that you’re attentive and focused. Focus on your teacher’s instruction, and follow along in the text or assigned reading. Show your interest in the subject, and if you are well prepared, try to start a discussion.
To begin participating, see if you can answer a question posed by the teacher or another student.
If you’re unclear about something covered in class, don’t be afraid to raise your hand and ask questions. This will help you learn, and chances are that if you’re confused about a topic, other students are confused also.
2-3. Take plenty of notes in class.
Note-taking will keep you focused in the classroom, and will help you retain a large portion of the material that the instructor tells you. When you take notes, don’t worry about transcribing full sentences—rather, write down keywords to jog your memory later. Also, listen to your teacher for verbal cues. If they say something like, “this is important,” or “here’s the main point,” be sure to write down what they say next.
Taking effective notes will also help you study better; you’ll be able to review the material from class without having to guess what the teacher lectured on, and you won’t have to struggle to remember important class points.
Keep your notes organized. Have a separate folder or notebook section for every class—that way, you won’t mix together notes from different subjects.
2-4. Don’t distract other students in the class.
An academic class is a collaborative community, and it’s important that you focus on learning what the teacher has set out for everyone. Don’t pass notes, talk out loud to your peers, or participate in other distracting activities. If you’re focused and attentive, you’ll enjoy class more, too.
Although it can be tempting to socialize during class, it’s not worth missing the material you’d otherwise learn. Save the socialization for lunch break and after school, and stay focused and attentive in the classroom.
3. Keeping Up with Homework
3-1. Designate a specific study area.
You’ll study better if you make homework part of your nightly routine, and if you have a single area that you always do your homework in. Pick a location that’s relatively quiet and set away from distractions, including TV, snacks, and other family members or friends.
Make sure that your study area is consistent. You’ll be distracted by new sounds and sights if you study in your bedroom one night, in the kitchen the next, and in the basement the next. Pick a location away from distractions.
3-2. Create a nightly study schedule.
If you get in the habit of working on homework every night, it will become second nature to you. You’ll get into a study routine more easily if you pick a consistent time to do homework. This will reinforce in your mind that studying takes time. Figure out which time(s) of day work best for you to study in: are you at your best in the morning before school, or at night, following dinner?
For example, do your homework on weekdays after school from 5:00 to 7:00, and then another hour after dinner from 8:00 to 9:00.
3-3. Study effectively to learn all you can.
When you study, review the day’s in-class work, and then move on to any new assignments. When starting a new assignment, apply the concepts from class to the work. Make sure that you understand the problems before beginning to work, and focus on learning and applying the concepts behind the homework.
Flashcards are a great way to learn tricky material. Write a problem or question on the front of the card and the answer on the opposite side. Flip through the cards to learn the material—this can be especially effective before tests.
Be aware that some facts—such as periodic elements, will simply have to be memorized. To aid in this process, try coming up with an acrostic or other memory-aid systems.
Reading ahead in advance is often helpful if you don’t want to be overwhelmed with the new concepts and information being given to you on the next lecture. Skim the chapter before class to get an idea of what you’ll be covering.
Tips
Make sure to tell the teacher if you’re struggling to learn class material. Teachers should always be happy to help, or at least recommend ways that you can approach class material to help you grasp it better.
Keep your locker clean. Often students are amazed at how many assignments and papers went missing in their locker at the end of the school year. Keeping it clean will help you stay on top of your school assignments.
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You’ll need to keep your English papers separate from your Math homework and keep track of which assignments are due on which days. To keep organized, make use of binders, folders, or spiral notebooks—whatever system you prefer to use.\\nAsk your parents to buy you one folder or binder per subject. That way, you can always place papers and assignments in the correct folder that corresponds to the subject.\\nRather than shoving materials from multiple classes into your backpack, organize the materials into a separate subject.\\nAlso, avoid letting old papers pile up in your desk or backpack, pull everything out regularly to make sure you haven’t missed an assignment or handout.\\n1-3. Manage your time wisely.\\nTime-management skills are one of the most important things that you can learn in middle school, although many students do not realize this at the time. Managing your time will help you avoid panicking the night before a large project is due, and will help you break your homework up into manageable segments.\\n1-4. Plan ahead for your homework and assignments.\\nWhen you’re given a new assignment, estimate how long the work will take. Then, plan to do a portion of that each day or every other day. This can help you break large, daunting projects down into smaller, manageable chunks.\\nSee if your school provides an agenda book or a day planner. A day planner is a great way to keep track of multiple obligations, including classes, after-school activities, and social plans.\\n2. Excelling in the Classroom\\n2-1. Have all of your supplies with you.\\nYou won’t be able to focus and do well if you don’t have the necessary supplies with you, so make sure that you come to class prepared. If you come to class prepared, you’ll show your teacher that you’re there to learn, and you’ll help keep yourself focused as well. When coming to class, make sure you have:\\nThe required textbook and reading materials (handouts etc.).\\nA couple of functioning pens and pencils.\\nA notebook with blank paper.\\nAny class-specific items: for example, a calculator for math class.\\n2-2. Participate in class.\\nParticipation will keep you interested in the material being discussed, and will also show your teacher that you’re attentive and focused. Focus on your teacher’s instruction, and follow along in the text or assigned reading. Show your interest in the subject, and if you are well prepared, try to start a discussion.\\nTo begin participating, see if you can answer a question posed by the teacher or another student.\\nIf you’re unclear about something covered in class, don’t be afraid to raise your hand and ask questions. This will help you learn, and chances are that if you’re confused about a topic, other students are confused also.\\n2-3. Take plenty of notes in class.\\nNote-taking will keep you focused in the classroom, and will help you retain a large portion of the material that the instructor tells you. When you take notes, don’t worry about transcribing full sentences—rather, write down keywords to jog your memory later. Also, listen to your teacher for verbal cues. If they say something like, “this is important,” or “here’s the main point,” be sure to write down what they say next.\\nTaking effective notes will also help you study better; you’ll be able to review the material from class without having to guess what the teacher lectured on, and you won’t have to struggle to remember important class points.\\nKeep your notes organized. Have a separate folder or notebook section for every class—that way, you won’t mix together notes from different subjects.\\n2-4. Don’t distract other students in the class.\\nAn academic class is a collaborative community, and it’s important that you focus on learning what the teacher has set out for everyone. Don’t pass notes, talk out loud to your peers, or participate in other distracting activities. If you’re focused and attentive, you’ll enjoy class more, too.\\nAlthough it can be tempting to socialize during class, it’s not worth missing the material you’d otherwise learn. Save the socialization for lunch break and after school, and stay focused and attentive in the classroom.\\n3. Keeping Up with Homework\\n3-1. Designate a specific study area.\\nYou’ll study better if you make homework part of your nightly routine, and if you have a single area that you always do your homework in. Pick a location that’s relatively quiet and set away from distractions, including TV, snacks, and other family members or friends.\\nMake sure that your study area is consistent. You’ll be distracted by new sounds and sights if you study in your bedroom one night, in the kitchen the next, and in the basement the next. Pick a location away from distractions.\\n3-2. Create a nightly study schedule.\\nIf you get in the habit of working on homework every night, it will become second nature to you. You’ll get into a study routine more easily if you pick a consistent time to do homework. This will reinforce in your mind that studying takes time. Figure out which time(s) of day work best for you to study in: are you at your best in the morning before school, or at night, following dinner? \\nFor example, do your homework on weekdays after school from 5:00 to 7:00, and then another hour after dinner from 8:00 to 9:00.\\n3-3. Study effectively to learn all you can.\\nWhen you study, review the day’s in-class work, and then move on to any new assignments. When starting a new assignment, apply the concepts from class to the work. Make sure that you understand the problems before beginning to work, and focus on learning and applying the concepts behind the homework.\\nFlashcards are a great way to learn tricky material. Write a problem or question on the front of the card and the answer on the opposite side. Flip through the cards to learn the material—this can be especially effective before tests.\\nBe aware that some facts—such as periodic elements, will simply have to be memorized. To aid in this process, try coming up with an acrostic or other memory-aid systems.\\nReading ahead in advance is often helpful if you don’t want to be overwhelmed with the new concepts and information being given to you on the next lecture. Skim the chapter before class to get an idea of what you’ll be covering.\\nTips\\nMake sure to tell the teacher if you’re struggling to learn class material. Teachers should always be happy to help, or at least recommend ways that you can approach class material to help you grasp it better.\\nKeep your locker clean. Often students are amazed at how many assignments and papers went missing in their locker at the end of the school year. Keeping it clean will help you stay on top of your school assignments.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"With all of the pressures of life that exist when you’re in your early teens, it can be hard to find the time to focus on being a good student. Social life and personal changes, including puberty and planning for high school, can feel like higher priorities. However, it’s important to do well academically in middle school, as this can directly prepare you for the work you’ll be doing in high school and beyond. In order to be a great student, you’ll need to prepare for school, focus in the classroom, and study nightly.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Prepared for School\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Motivate yourself to succeed.\", \"描述\": \"It can be tough to focus on school work, but without motivation, you’ll quickly lose interest in your academic goals. Motivated students are more likely to do well in middle school by keeping up with classwork and homework. You can stay motivated by reminding yourself that the work you’re doing in middle school matters and contributes to your overall academic success.\\nIf you’re having trouble staying interested in school and being motivated on your own, look for a study group of students in your year. A study group will help keep you motivated by providing socialization and letting you work with other motivated individuals.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your things organized.\", \"描述\": \"In middle school, unlike elementary school, you’ll be responsible for keeping material for several classes organized and accessible. You’ll need to keep your English papers separate from your Math homework and keep track of which assignments are due on which days. To keep organized, make use of binders, folders, or spiral notebooks—whatever system you prefer to use.\\nAsk your parents to buy you one folder or binder per subject. That way, you can always place papers and assignments in the correct folder that corresponds to the subject.\\nRather than shoving materials from multiple classes into your backpack, organize the materials into a separate subject.\\nAlso, avoid letting old papers pile up in your desk or backpack, pull everything out regularly to make sure you haven’t missed an assignment or handout.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Manage your time wisely.\", \"描述\": \"Time-management skills are one of the most important things that you can learn in middle school, although many students do not realize this at the time. Managing your time will help you avoid panicking the night before a large project is due, and will help you break your homework up into manageable segments.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Plan ahead for your homework and assignments.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re given a new assignment, estimate how long the work will take. Then, plan to do a portion of that each day or every other day. This can help you break large, daunting projects down into smaller, manageable chunks.\\nSee if your school provides an agenda book or a day planner. A day planner is a great way to keep track of multiple obligations, including classes, after-school activities, and social plans.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Excelling in the Classroom\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have all of your supplies with you.\", \"描述\": \"You won’t be able to focus and do well if you don’t have the necessary supplies with you, so make sure that you come to class prepared. If you come to class prepared, you’ll show your teacher that you’re there to learn, and you’ll help keep yourself focused as well. 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Pick a location that’s relatively quiet and set away from distractions, including TV, snacks, and other family members or friends.\\nMake sure that your study area is consistent. You’ll be distracted by new sounds and sights if you study in your bedroom one night, in the kitchen the next, and in the basement the next. Pick a location away from distractions.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create a nightly study schedule.\", \"描述\": \"If you get in the habit of working on homework every night, it will become second nature to you. You’ll get into a study routine more easily if you pick a consistent time to do homework. This will reinforce in your mind that studying takes time. 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1. Working Effectively and Efficiently
1-1. Always look presentable.
If you wear a uniform, make sure to keep it in excellent condition - ironed, stain-free and neat. If there is no uniform, wear well kept, slightly formal clothing. This gives the customers a better first impression and will keep your boss happy. Check your appearance periodically to see if you look disheveled or have spilled something on yourself without noticing.
Keep your nails clean and tidily cut.
Wear nice looking shoes, not tennis shoes, and keep them tightly tied. Never wear sandals.
Refrain from wearing perfume or cologne as some guests may have allergies to these scents. Similarly, try not to smoke before work or during your break, as it can leave an obnoxious smell.
Keep jewelry and makeup subtle and unobtrusive.
1-2. Know the menu thoroughly.
Being familiar with every item on the menu will save you a lot of time and trouble when taking orders. Study the menu on your own time if necessary to avoid mistakes and slow orders.
Become familiar with every option for every order. If a customer orders a sandwich, you should know which breads are available, which sides come with the sandwich, and how to phrase these questions clearly.
Know which dishes contain meat, dairy, and common allergens, such as peanuts. Be ready to suggest similar alternatives for customers who cannot eat those ingredients.
Familiarize yourself with the daily specials before each work shift.
1-3. Suggest additional purchases.
Politely ask whether the customer would like a drink, a side, or an upgrade to their order. Management will love you for this and your tips will increase as your customers purchase more.
Know which liquors are expensive and high quality. Suggest their use when a customer requests a mixed drink.
Always ask if the table would like an appetizer.
Never be pushy or deceptive. Present the option to the customer politely, and don't try to pass off an upgrade as though it were free.
1-4. Multitask.
You'll have a much easier shift if you can accomplish three tasks in one trip to the kitchen and back. Take empty dishes from tables whenever you're on your way to the kitchen. Fill up a tray when several tables want condiments, drinks, or similar items instead of carrying them out one by one.
Unless you are an experienced waitress who can confidently remember every task, write your orders down immediately and make additional notes if you need to remember to do something in five or ten minutes.
1-5. Manage your time well.
Keep track of how long its been since you checked on each table, and become familiar with how long each meal takes to cook. Plan to visit each table after they've finished each course. Move briskly without running and try to maintain a steady pace to keep everything running smoothly.
Pass on your knowledge of waiting times to the customer. If someone orders a well done steak, let them know it will take longer. If a soup just ran out and the cook needs to make a new one, let the customer know how long that will take and suggest an alternative.
1-6. Check the food before bringing it to the customer.
Especially when there are special requests involved, you can save everyone a lot of headache by making sure the order is correct before bringing it to the table.
If an order has been messed up, let the kitchen and the customers know. Apologize for the additional delay and, if allowed in your restaurant, try to give them a discounted meal or something extra to make up for it.
1-7. Anticipate common requests.
Most customers want ketchup with their burger. Kids frequently drop their silverware. Once you get to know which requests are popular with which meals and customers, bring them to the table in advance. This saves both you and the customers time and makes them feel taken care of.
Extra silverware, condiment packets, and napkins can be kept in your apron pocket if you have one.
1-8. Don't let a bad tip ruin your shift.
Never complain to a table about a bad tip, no matter how great your service was. Not only could you get yourself fired but it sets you up as the complaining type and creates bad relations with the other waiting staff.
Some people never tip appropriately regardless of service. Others may not be able to afford the tip, or may be visiting from a country where tipping is not common practice.
1-9. Never sit around doing nothing.
If you have no customers to take care of, clean! There's always work to be done in a restaurant. Show your employer that you're able to take initiative and work hard.
If your current tables do not require attention, look at the other customers as well. Some of them may be trying to flag down a waitress for a small request that you can fill without stepping on the toes of their waitstaff.
2. Handling Specific Situations
2-1. Pay attention to the parents when the kids are ordering.
A kid might try to order an unhealthy meal, caffeinated beverage, or other item parents might disapprove of. Give the parent a chance to object before you repeat the order.
If the parents aren't paying attention, repeat the order back loudly and clearly, addressing the whole table. This gives them another chance to notice.
In front of young kids, after a parent has objected, you may be able to smooth the argument away by saying "Sorry, we're all out of soda, can I get you something else?"
If you personally disapprove of someone's choice, don't say anything. This is up for the parents to decide, unless the order clearly violates the law, such as serving a child alcohol.
2-2. Don't set dangerous objects near children.
If you are serving hot dishes, putting down metal utensils, or giving the table some other potentially dangerous item, do so near the parents and address them with a "Here you are, sir/ma'am" if you need to get their attention.
2-3. Make the dining experience as fast as possible for parents with babies.
Babies and young toddlers typically have a short attention span, and if the meal drags on, the parents and the whole restaurant could suffer as well. Check in more frequently on them than on other tables, and multitask as much as possible to speed up the process.
Ask if you can take the drink and meal orders together instead of in two visits.
Suggest a more quickly prepared alternative if one of the customers orders a dish that will take extra long.
This is the rare situation in which you should bring the check when you approach to clear the final dishes. You should still ask if the customers are finished first.
Do not make the customers feel like you're trying to throw them out. Many tired and busy parents will appreciate your prompt service, but if they are getting annoyed, back off and let them continue the meal at their own pace.
2-4. Stay neutral in arguments over who will pay.
If multiple customers at one table request to pay, try to place the check in the center of the table instead of near one of them. Just smile and say you'll be back to collect it if they try to involve you in the argument.
2-5. Understand how to serve tea and coffee.
People get very serious about their tea and coffee, and it pays to know how to serve it in a way that will make most people happy. Disregard this advice when serving regulars if you know they like their drink a certain way (which you should pay attention to).
Tea drinkers are often finicky about preparation. Always be sure you know which variety of tea they ordered, and provide plenty of milk, lemon wedges, and sugar on the side so they can customize their drink.
Do not refill tea or coffee without asking the customer. You may be changing their carefully prepared beverage.
Don't place the spoon in the tea or coffee before taking it to the customer. This lowers the temperature of the drink, which some customers don't appreciate.
2-6. Ask diners if they would like water when they order caffeine or alcohol.
This is more relevant for people eating a meal than for people at the bar. Many people like to drink water in order to counteract the dehydrating or mood-changing effects of these substances.
You may not be able to follow this rule in regions outside the United States, where serving water is less common or comes with a price tag.
2-7. Never put an object from the floor back on the table.
Even if it is just a paper advertisement or a salt shaker, you should replace it with a new one from the kitchen. Your customers do not want to have "floor germs" on their table.
2-8. Practice specialized tasks on your own time.
Most commonly, this involves opening a bottle of wine. Many serving tasks you find difficult can easily be practiced when you "serve" yourself dinner, so they don't take much extra time to learn.
Most waiters who are supposed to open wine are expected to do so in front of the customers who ordered it. Practice this task to make it seem smooth and natural.
2-9. Choose appropriate music and vary the selection.
If you have control over the music selection, keep it at a relatively low volume and choose something appropriate to the mood. Never play a full album; mix it up so a customer who doesn't like that artist has another chance to hear something they do enjoy.
Customers at a cafe, or eating during the morning and early afternoon, usually enjoy calming, unobtrusive music. Classical music is a good choice.
Customers eating in the evening may enjoy more energetic music, but this varies greatly depending on the atmosphere of the establishment. Most still want the volume low so they can talk to their friends. In any case, waitstaff rarely make music decisions for the busiest or most formal times of day.
3. Interacting With Customers for Better Tips
3-1. Introduce yourself.
Make eye contact with the customers after they are seated and promptly introduce yourself. This starts the conversation out on the right foot, leading to better tips on average, and gives them a polite way to get your attention later.
Multitask by introducing yourself as you pass out the menus and check that every customer has enough silverware and napkins.
3-2. Stay polite, friendly and helpful, even to angry customers.
When speaking to customers, always use respectful terms of address such as sir, ma'am, and miss. Act friendly and positive, and make your customers feel as comfortable as possible.
Ask the customer whether they have dined at your restaurant before -- that way if they are new, first-time customers you can welcome them and offer your help with the menu.
Appear friendly, but do not get involved in the customer's conversation unless asked. Do your job, then leave the customer to eat or talk in relative privacy.
Always remember to smile. No matter how irritating customers or co-workers can be, just put on a pleasant face and suck it up -- this will save you a lot of drama!
Don't talk or gossip about customers even when you think they can't hear you. Remain polite and respectful when discussing them in case they are in earshot.
3-3. Respect the customer's personal space.
Never sit down at the table to take an order. Don't shake hands or hug unless you are personal friends with the customer, or you are shaking hands to greet them as per restaurant policy. Other physical interactions depend on the atmosphere of the place you work, and whether you are a man or woman.
Studies of U.S. restaurants show that women who touch a customer lightly on the shoulder, hand, or arm receive better tips from that customer on average. This should only be done when the customer appears relaxed and comfortable, and never if the customer is on a date with a woman. Be friendly rather than flirtatious.
3-4. Personally advise the customer about their order.
If a customer asks for advice, be prepared to answer whatever questions they have or recommend your favorite dish in each category. If a customer orders a dish that gets a lot of complaints, try to recommend another option.
Customers like it when you give them the "inside scoop", but you shouldn't go so far as to insult a dish unless you work in an unusually relaxed environment. Instead, steer them away from a bad dish by recommending a similar, better option as "the chef's specialty" or "my personal favorite".
3-5. Accommodate any reasonable request your customers make.
Many people have serious reasons to avoid certain ingredients, including potentially fatal allergies. If you aren't familiar with every dish on the menu (which you should be), do your best to find out for them how it is prepared.
Never lie to a customer and give them an ingredient they requested to have removed. If you can't accommodate the request, simply say so and suggest a similar alternative that the customer can eat.
Don't question your customers. Keep in mind there are many reasons for menu change requests, such as religious, vegetarian/vegan and cultural dietary restrictions. If the request can be accommodated, don't ask why they made it!
3-6. Repeat the order back to your customers.
Studies of U.S. establishments show that waitstaff who repeat the order to the customers receive more tips. However big or small that effect might be, it also gives the customer a chance to correct any mistakes or change their mind.
3-7. Check on your customers regularly and give them updates.
If you just got a job as a waiter or waitress, it may take some time to get a feel for how frequently you should check on each table. At least check in whenever they are finishing a course or if they look bored or irritated while waiting for their food.
Give them a specific time estimate if they ask how long the food will take, whenever possible.
Stop by to refill your customers' glass whenever it gets low, or to ask if they'd like to purchase another for non-refillable drinks.
3-8. Clear old dishes promptly but not without talking to the customer.
Always ask whether the customer is finished before removing dishes with food on them. If there is a lot of food left, ask whether the food was all right.
Many restaurants allow their waitstaff to give unsatisfied customers something extra to make up for bad experiences. This could save your tip.
3-9. Befriend your regulars.
Be friendly to people you would not normally talk to. When someone sits in your section more than once, take the time to get to know them. You don't need to become fast friends, but you will probably end up getting to like at least some of them.
Remember their names and favorite drinks, where they work etc. Make them feel like they are going to a restaurant to visit a friend: you!
Try to write down the appearance and preferences of anyone who visits more than once. The customer will be impressed if you know how they like their steak on the third visit.
3-10. Don't assume the customer wants the check, but don't leave them waiting either.
Ask if there is anything more you can get for them, and that will open the opportunity for them to ask for dessert, a take-out item/bag, or the check.
If they state they need nothing else, then ask if they are ready for the check.
If they have to ask you, it generally means they are in a hurry, or you have waited an excessive amount of time since you last checked on the table.
Never ask the customer if they need change. Say "I will be right back with your change," then come back and leave the full amount on the table.
4. Learning at a New Job
4-1. Learn the menu in advance.
When you interview, be proactive and ask for a menu to take with you. Study it on your own to become familiar with the food available. Chain restaurants have great training programs that guide you through the menu and kitchen; bars and smaller places expect you to learn on your own.
4-2. Show up to work early.
Punctuality is important for any job, especially one you've just started. Restaurants are particularly fast-paced during peak hours, however, and you'll make a good impression if you're ready to work on the dot or even a little in advance.
4-3. Listen to experienced employees carefully.
Even if you have worked as a waitress before, you should pay attention to the details of your new job. Each restaurant does things slightly differently, and paying attention during training will let you do your job more smoothly. It also never hurts to be respectful to your boss and coworkers, of course, rather than blowing them off with phrases such as "I know this already."
4-4. Keep up with the pace.
If you've never worked in a busy restaurant before, you could be surprised by how fast-paced and exhausting the work is. Do your best to keep up to the pace of the other waitstaff. As you grow more accustomed to the job, you'll have a somewhat easier time. At the beginning, you may need to push yourself.
4-5. Perform unpleasant tasks without complaining.
You'll start at the bottom of the totem pole, but you won't work your way up by complaining. Clean tables and work unpleasant hours if you are asked to, and remember that you'll have more choice once you're more established.
4-6. Take criticisms in stride.
Waiting tables can feel a little cutthroat, as some waitstaff will blame you personally if they think you contributed to a bad customer experience (and therefore a bad tip). Know that you'll receive less criticism once you learn the ropes, and try to smile and not let it get to you.
This is definitely not true of every restaurant. Don't be scared off from applying to a waiting job before you know the atmosphere of the establishment.
4-7. Volunteer for extra shifts.
Especially in the beginning, you want management and coworkers to know you are reliable. Once you know you can handle an extra shift, volunteer to cover a gap in the schedule so you stand out to your new boss.
4-8. Ask questions when you don't know how to do something.
Show an interest in learning specific skills or restaurant practices. Always ask how to do something if you are afraid of making a mistake. People know you're new, and you should be able to find at least one person who appreciates when you ask questions.
This does not mean you should question your job. "What time do I get off?" or "Do I have to do this?" are common phrases that will irritate your coworkers and employer.
Tips
Try not to get involved in work politics. Avoid trash talking your boss or other employees to your colleagues. In the end, they will find out!
Leave any emotional baggage at the door.
Just relax, people are there to enjoy themselves. You should too.
Warnings
Never count your tips in front of the customers.
Never brag about your tips in front of other waiting staff.
Do not reach over one customer to serve another. If the setting is informal and you have no other choice, at least say "excuse my reach".
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Show your employer that you're able to take initiative and work hard. \\nIf your current tables do not require attention, look at the other customers as well. Some of them may be trying to flag down a waitress for a small request that you can fill without stepping on the toes of their waitstaff.\\n2. Handling Specific Situations\\n2-1. Pay attention to the parents when the kids are ordering.\\nA kid might try to order an unhealthy meal, caffeinated beverage, or other item parents might disapprove of. Give the parent a chance to object before you repeat the order. \\nIf the parents aren't paying attention, repeat the order back loudly and clearly, addressing the whole table. This gives them another chance to notice.\\nIn front of young kids, after a parent has objected, you may be able to smooth the argument away by saying \\\"Sorry, we're all out of soda, can I get you something else?\\\"\\nIf you personally disapprove of someone's choice, don't say anything. 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Check in more frequently on them than on other tables, and multitask as much as possible to speed up the process. \\nAsk if you can take the drink and meal orders together instead of in two visits.\\nSuggest a more quickly prepared alternative if one of the customers orders a dish that will take extra long.\\nThis is the rare situation in which you should bring the check when you approach to clear the final dishes. You should still ask if the customers are finished first.\\nDo not make the customers feel like you're trying to throw them out. Many tired and busy parents will appreciate your prompt service, but if they are getting annoyed, back off and let them continue the meal at their own pace.\\n2-4. Stay neutral in arguments over who will pay.\\nIf multiple customers at one table request to pay, try to place the check in the center of the table instead of near one of them. Just smile and say you'll be back to collect it if they try to involve you in the argument.\\n2-5. Understand how to serve tea and coffee.\\nPeople get very serious about their tea and coffee, and it pays to know how to serve it in a way that will make most people happy. Disregard this advice when serving regulars if you know they like their drink a certain way (which you should pay attention to). \\nTea drinkers are often finicky about preparation. Always be sure you know which variety of tea they ordered, and provide plenty of milk, lemon wedges, and sugar on the side so they can customize their drink.\\nDo not refill tea or coffee without asking the customer. You may be changing their carefully prepared beverage.\\nDon't place the spoon in the tea or coffee before taking it to the customer. This lowers the temperature of the drink, which some customers don't appreciate.\\n2-6. Ask diners if they would like water when they order caffeine or alcohol.\\nThis is more relevant for people eating a meal than for people at the bar. Many people like to drink water in order to counteract the dehydrating or mood-changing effects of these substances. \\nYou may not be able to follow this rule in regions outside the United States, where serving water is less common or comes with a price tag.\\n2-7. Never put an object from the floor back on the table.\\nEven if it is just a paper advertisement or a salt shaker, you should replace it with a new one from the kitchen. Your customers do not want to have \\\"floor germs\\\" on their table.\\n2-8. Practice specialized tasks on your own time.\\nMost commonly, this involves opening a bottle of wine. Many serving tasks you find difficult can easily be practiced when you \\\"serve\\\" yourself dinner, so they don't take much extra time to learn. \\nMost waiters who are supposed to open wine are expected to do so in front of the customers who ordered it. Practice this task to make it seem smooth and natural.\\n2-9. Choose appropriate music and vary the selection.\\nIf you have control over the music selection, keep it at a relatively low volume and choose something appropriate to the mood. Never play a full album; mix it up so a customer who doesn't like that artist has another chance to hear something they do enjoy. \\nCustomers at a cafe, or eating during the morning and early afternoon, usually enjoy calming, unobtrusive music. Classical music is a good choice.\\nCustomers eating in the evening may enjoy more energetic music, but this varies greatly depending on the atmosphere of the establishment. Most still want the volume low so they can talk to their friends. In any case, waitstaff rarely make music decisions for the busiest or most formal times of day.\\n3. Interacting With Customers for Better Tips\\n3-1. Introduce yourself.\\nMake eye contact with the customers after they are seated and promptly introduce yourself. This starts the conversation out on the right foot, leading to better tips on average, and gives them a polite way to get your attention later.\\nMultitask by introducing yourself as you pass out the menus and check that every customer has enough silverware and napkins.\\n3-2. Stay polite, friendly and helpful, even to angry customers.\\nWhen speaking to customers, always use respectful terms of address such as sir, ma'am, and miss. Act friendly and positive, and make your customers feel as comfortable as possible. \\nAsk the customer whether they have dined at your restaurant before -- that way if they are new, first-time customers you can welcome them and offer your help with the menu.\\nAppear friendly, but do not get involved in the customer's conversation unless asked. Do your job, then leave the customer to eat or talk in relative privacy.\\nAlways remember to smile. No matter how irritating customers or co-workers can be, just put on a pleasant face and suck it up -- this will save you a lot of drama!\\nDon't talk or gossip about customers even when you think they can't hear you. Remain polite and respectful when discussing them in case they are in earshot.\\n3-3. Respect the customer's personal space.\\nNever sit down at the table to take an order. Don't shake hands or hug unless you are personal friends with the customer, or you are shaking hands to greet them as per restaurant policy. Other physical interactions depend on the atmosphere of the place you work, and whether you are a man or woman.\\nStudies of U.S. restaurants show that women who touch a customer lightly on the shoulder, hand, or arm receive better tips from that customer on average. This should only be done when the customer appears relaxed and comfortable, and never if the customer is on a date with a woman. Be friendly rather than flirtatious.\\n3-4. Personally advise the customer about their order.\\nIf a customer asks for advice, be prepared to answer whatever questions they have or recommend your favorite dish in each category. If a customer orders a dish that gets a lot of complaints, try to recommend another option.\\nCustomers like it when you give them the \\\"inside scoop\\\", but you shouldn't go so far as to insult a dish unless you work in an unusually relaxed environment. Instead, steer them away from a bad dish by recommending a similar, better option as \\\"the chef's specialty\\\" or \\\"my personal favorite\\\".\\n3-5. Accommodate any reasonable request your customers make.\\nMany people have serious reasons to avoid certain ingredients, including potentially fatal allergies. If you aren't familiar with every dish on the menu (which you should be), do your best to find out for them how it is prepared. \\nNever lie to a customer and give them an ingredient they requested to have removed. If you can't accommodate the request, simply say so and suggest a similar alternative that the customer can eat.\\nDon't question your customers. Keep in mind there are many reasons for menu change requests, such as religious, vegetarian/vegan and cultural dietary restrictions. If the request can be accommodated, don't ask why they made it!\\n3-6. Repeat the order back to your customers.\\nStudies of U.S. establishments show that waitstaff who repeat the order to the customers receive more tips. However big or small that effect might be, it also gives the customer a chance to correct any mistakes or change their mind.\\n3-7. Check on your customers regularly and give them updates.\\nIf you just got a job as a waiter or waitress, it may take some time to get a feel for how frequently you should check on each table. At least check in whenever they are finishing a course or if they look bored or irritated while waiting for their food. \\nGive them a specific time estimate if they ask how long the food will take, whenever possible.\\nStop by to refill your customers' glass whenever it gets low, or to ask if they'd like to purchase another for non-refillable drinks.\\n3-8. Clear old dishes promptly but not without talking to the customer.\\nAlways ask whether the customer is finished before removing dishes with food on them. If there is a lot of food left, ask whether the food was all right.\\nMany restaurants allow their waitstaff to give unsatisfied customers something extra to make up for bad experiences. This could save your tip.\\n3-9. Befriend your regulars.\\nBe friendly to people you would not normally talk to. When someone sits in your section more than once, take the time to get to know them. You don't need to become fast friends, but you will probably end up getting to like at least some of them. \\nRemember their names and favorite drinks, where they work etc. Make them feel like they are going to a restaurant to visit a friend: you!\\nTry to write down the appearance and preferences of anyone who visits more than once. The customer will be impressed if you know how they like their steak on the third visit.\\n3-10. Don't assume the customer wants the check, but don't leave them waiting either.\\nAsk if there is anything more you can get for them, and that will open the opportunity for them to ask for dessert, a take-out item/bag, or the check.\\nIf they state they need nothing else, then ask if they are ready for the check.\\nIf they have to ask you, it generally means they are in a hurry, or you have waited an excessive amount of time since you last checked on the table.\\nNever ask the customer if they need change. Say \\\"I will be right back with your change,\\\" then come back and leave the full amount on the table.\\n4. Learning at a New Job\\n4-1. Learn the menu in advance.\\nWhen you interview, be proactive and ask for a menu to take with you. Study it on your own to become familiar with the food available. Chain restaurants have great training programs that guide you through the menu and kitchen; bars and smaller places expect you to learn on your own.\\n4-2. Show up to work early.\\nPunctuality is important for any job, especially one you've just started. Restaurants are particularly fast-paced during peak hours, however, and you'll make a good impression if you're ready to work on the dot or even a little in advance.\\n4-3. Listen to experienced employees carefully.\\nEven if you have worked as a waitress before, you should pay attention to the details of your new job. Each restaurant does things slightly differently, and paying attention during training will let you do your job more smoothly. It also never hurts to be respectful to your boss and coworkers, of course, rather than blowing them off with phrases such as \\\"I know this already.\\\"\\n4-4. Keep up with the pace.\\nIf you've never worked in a busy restaurant before, you could be surprised by how fast-paced and exhausting the work is. Do your best to keep up to the pace of the other waitstaff. As you grow more accustomed to the job, you'll have a somewhat easier time. At the beginning, you may need to push yourself.\\n4-5. Perform unpleasant tasks without complaining.\\nYou'll start at the bottom of the totem pole, but you won't work your way up by complaining. Clean tables and work unpleasant hours if you are asked to, and remember that you'll have more choice once you're more established.\\n4-6. Take criticisms in stride.\\nWaiting tables can feel a little cutthroat, as some waitstaff will blame you personally if they think you contributed to a bad customer experience (and therefore a bad tip). Know that you'll receive less criticism once you learn the ropes, and try to smile and not let it get to you. \\nThis is definitely not true of every restaurant. Don't be scared off from applying to a waiting job before you know the atmosphere of the establishment.\\n4-7. Volunteer for extra shifts.\\nEspecially in the beginning, you want management and coworkers to know you are reliable. Once you know you can handle an extra shift, volunteer to cover a gap in the schedule so you stand out to your new boss.\\n4-8. Ask questions when you don't know how to do something.\\nShow an interest in learning specific skills or restaurant practices. Always ask how to do something if you are afraid of making a mistake. People know you're new, and you should be able to find at least one person who appreciates when you ask questions. \\nThis does not mean you should question your job. \\\"What time do I get off?\\\" or \\\"Do I have to do this?\\\" are common phrases that will irritate your coworkers and employer.\\nTips\\nTry not to get involved in work politics. Avoid trash talking your boss or other employees to your colleagues. In the end, they will find out!\\nLeave any emotional baggage at the door.\\nJust relax, people are there to enjoy themselves. You should too.\\nWarnings\\nNever count your tips in front of the customers.\\nNever brag about your tips in front of other waiting staff.\\nDo not reach over one customer to serve another. If the setting is informal and you have no other choice, at least say \\\"excuse my reach\\\".\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Working as a waitress can be a whirlwind, whether you're an experienced staff member or you've just entered the industry. To be a great waitress, you'll need to work efficiently by knowing the menu, multitasking, anticipating customer requests, and following other best waitstaff practices. It's also a good idea to prepare yourself for common on-the-job scenarios, learn how to improve customer interactions for better tips, and familiarize yourself with any rules or customs specific to the restaurant you work at.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Working Effectively and Efficiently\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Always look presentable.\", \"描述\": \"If you wear a uniform, make sure to keep it in excellent condition - ironed, stain-free and neat. If there is no uniform, wear well kept, slightly formal clothing. This gives the customers a better first impression and will keep your boss happy. Check your appearance periodically to see if you look disheveled or have spilled something on yourself without noticing. \\nKeep your nails clean and tidily cut.\\nWear nice looking shoes, not tennis shoes, and keep them tightly tied. Never wear sandals.\\nRefrain from wearing perfume or cologne as some guests may have allergies to these scents. Similarly, try not to smoke before work or during your break, as it can leave an obnoxious smell.\\nKeep jewelry and makeup subtle and unobtrusive.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know the menu thoroughly.\", \"描述\": \"Being familiar with every item on the menu will save you a lot of time and trouble when taking orders. Study the menu on your own time if necessary to avoid mistakes and slow orders.\\nBecome familiar with every option for every order. If a customer orders a sandwich, you should know which breads are available, which sides come with the sandwich, and how to phrase these questions clearly.\\nKnow which dishes contain meat, dairy, and common allergens, such as peanuts. Be ready to suggest similar alternatives for customers who cannot eat those ingredients.\\nFamiliarize yourself with the daily specials before each work shift.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Suggest additional purchases.\", \"描述\": \"Politely ask whether the customer would like a drink, a side, or an upgrade to their order. Management will love you for this and your tips will increase as your customers purchase more. \\nKnow which liquors are expensive and high quality. Suggest their use when a customer requests a mixed drink.\\nAlways ask if the table would like an appetizer.\\nNever be pushy or deceptive. Present the option to the customer politely, and don't try to pass off an upgrade as though it were free.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Multitask.\", \"描述\": \"You'll have a much easier shift if you can accomplish three tasks in one trip to the kitchen and back. Take empty dishes from tables whenever you're on your way to the kitchen. Fill up a tray when several tables want condiments, drinks, or similar items instead of carrying them out one by one. \\nUnless you are an experienced waitress who can confidently remember every task, write your orders down immediately and make additional notes if you need to remember to do something in five or ten minutes.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Manage your time well.\", \"描述\": \"Keep track of how long its been since you checked on each table, and become familiar with how long each meal takes to cook. Plan to visit each table after they've finished each course. Move briskly without running and try to maintain a steady pace to keep everything running smoothly. \\nPass on your knowledge of waiting times to the customer. If someone orders a well done steak, let them know it will take longer. If a soup just ran out and the cook needs to make a new one, let the customer know how long that will take and suggest an alternative.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Check the food before bringing it to the customer.\", \"描述\": \"Especially when there are special requests involved, you can save everyone a lot of headache by making sure the order is correct before bringing it to the table. \\nIf an order has been messed up, let the kitchen and the customers know. Apologize for the additional delay and, if allowed in your restaurant, try to give them a discounted meal or something extra to make up for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Anticipate common requests.\", \"描述\": \"Most customers want ketchup with their burger. Kids frequently drop their silverware. Once you get to know which requests are popular with which meals and customers, bring them to the table in advance. This saves both you and the customers time and makes them feel taken care of. \\nExtra silverware, condiment packets, and napkins can be kept in your apron pocket if you have one.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't let a bad tip ruin your shift.\", \"描述\": \"Never complain to a table about a bad tip, no matter how great your service was. Not only could you get yourself fired but it sets you up as the complaining type and creates bad relations with the other waiting staff. \\nSome people never tip appropriately regardless of service. Others may not be able to afford the tip, or may be visiting from a country where tipping is not common practice.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Never sit around doing nothing.\", \"描述\": \"If you have no customers to take care of, clean! There's always work to be done in a restaurant. Show your employer that you're able to take initiative and work hard. \\nIf your current tables do not require attention, look at the other customers as well. Some of them may be trying to flag down a waitress for a small request that you can fill without stepping on the toes of their waitstaff.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Handling Specific Situations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to the parents when the kids are ordering.\", \"描述\": \"A kid might try to order an unhealthy meal, caffeinated beverage, or other item parents might disapprove of. Give the parent a chance to object before you repeat the order. \\nIf the parents aren't paying attention, repeat the order back loudly and clearly, addressing the whole table. This gives them another chance to notice.\\nIn front of young kids, after a parent has objected, you may be able to smooth the argument away by saying \\\"Sorry, we're all out of soda, can I get you something else?\\\"\\nIf you personally disapprove of someone's choice, don't say anything. This is up for the parents to decide, unless the order clearly violates the law, such as serving a child alcohol.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't set dangerous objects near children.\", \"描述\": \"If you are serving hot dishes, putting down metal utensils, or giving the table some other potentially dangerous item, do so near the parents and address them with a \\\"Here you are, sir/ma'am\\\" if you need to get their attention.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make the dining experience as fast as possible for parents with babies.\", \"描述\": \"Babies and young toddlers typically have a short attention span, and if the meal drags on, the parents and the whole restaurant could suffer as well. Check in more frequently on them than on other tables, and multitask as much as possible to speed up the process. \\nAsk if you can take the drink and meal orders together instead of in two visits.\\nSuggest a more quickly prepared alternative if one of the customers orders a dish that will take extra long.\\nThis is the rare situation in which you should bring the check when you approach to clear the final dishes. You should still ask if the customers are finished first.\\nDo not make the customers feel like you're trying to throw them out. Many tired and busy parents will appreciate your prompt service, but if they are getting annoyed, back off and let them continue the meal at their own pace.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay neutral in arguments over who will pay.\", \"描述\": \"If multiple customers at one table request to pay, try to place the check in the center of the table instead of near one of them. Just smile and say you'll be back to collect it if they try to involve you in the argument.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Understand how to serve tea and coffee.\", \"描述\": \"People get very serious about their tea and coffee, and it pays to know how to serve it in a way that will make most people happy. Disregard this advice when serving regulars if you know they like their drink a certain way (which you should pay attention to). \\nTea drinkers are often finicky about preparation. Always be sure you know which variety of tea they ordered, and provide plenty of milk, lemon wedges, and sugar on the side so they can customize their drink.\\nDo not refill tea or coffee without asking the customer. You may be changing their carefully prepared beverage.\\nDon't place the spoon in the tea or coffee before taking it to the customer. This lowers the temperature of the drink, which some customers don't appreciate.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask diners if they would like water when they order caffeine or alcohol.\", \"描述\": \"This is more relevant for people eating a meal than for people at the bar. Many people like to drink water in order to counteract the dehydrating or mood-changing effects of these substances. \\nYou may not be able to follow this rule in regions outside the United States, where serving water is less common or comes with a price tag.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Never put an object from the floor back on the table.\", \"描述\": \"Even if it is just a paper advertisement or a salt shaker, you should replace it with a new one from the kitchen. Your customers do not want to have \\\"floor germs\\\" on their table.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Practice specialized tasks on your own time.\", \"描述\": \"Most commonly, this involves opening a bottle of wine. Many serving tasks you find difficult can easily be practiced when you \\\"serve\\\" yourself dinner, so they don't take much extra time to learn. \\nMost waiters who are supposed to open wine are expected to do so in front of the customers who ordered it. Practice this task to make it seem smooth and natural.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Choose appropriate music and vary the selection.\", \"描述\": \"If you have control over the music selection, keep it at a relatively low volume and choose something appropriate to the mood. Never play a full album; mix it up so a customer who doesn't like that artist has another chance to hear something they do enjoy. \\nCustomers at a cafe, or eating during the morning and early afternoon, usually enjoy calming, unobtrusive music. Classical music is a good choice.\\nCustomers eating in the evening may enjoy more energetic music, but this varies greatly depending on the atmosphere of the establishment. Most still want the volume low so they can talk to their friends. In any case, waitstaff rarely make music decisions for the busiest or most formal times of day.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Interacting With Customers for Better Tips\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Introduce yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Make eye contact with the customers after they are seated and promptly introduce yourself. This starts the conversation out on the right foot, leading to better tips on average, and gives them a polite way to get your attention later.\\nMultitask by introducing yourself as you pass out the menus and check that every customer has enough silverware and napkins.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay polite, friendly and helpful, even to angry customers.\", \"描述\": \"When speaking to customers, always use respectful terms of address such as sir, ma'am, and miss. Act friendly and positive, and make your customers feel as comfortable as possible. \\nAsk the customer whether they have dined at your restaurant before -- that way if they are new, first-time customers you can welcome them and offer your help with the menu.\\nAppear friendly, but do not get involved in the customer's conversation unless asked. Do your job, then leave the customer to eat or talk in relative privacy.\\nAlways remember to smile. No matter how irritating customers or co-workers can be, just put on a pleasant face and suck it up -- this will save you a lot of drama!\\nDon't talk or gossip about customers even when you think they can't hear you. Remain polite and respectful when discussing them in case they are in earshot.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Respect the customer's personal space.\", \"描述\": \"Never sit down at the table to take an order. Don't shake hands or hug unless you are personal friends with the customer, or you are shaking hands to greet them as per restaurant policy. Other physical interactions depend on the atmosphere of the place you work, and whether you are a man or woman.\\nStudies of U.S. restaurants show that women who touch a customer lightly on the shoulder, hand, or arm receive better tips from that customer on average. This should only be done when the customer appears relaxed and comfortable, and never if the customer is on a date with a woman. Be friendly rather than flirtatious.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Personally advise the customer about their order.\", \"描述\": \"If a customer asks for advice, be prepared to answer whatever questions they have or recommend your favorite dish in each category. If a customer orders a dish that gets a lot of complaints, try to recommend another option.\\nCustomers like it when you give them the \\\"inside scoop\\\", but you shouldn't go so far as to insult a dish unless you work in an unusually relaxed environment. Instead, steer them away from a bad dish by recommending a similar, better option as \\\"the chef's specialty\\\" or \\\"my personal favorite\\\".\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Accommodate any reasonable request your customers make.\", \"描述\": \"Many people have serious reasons to avoid certain ingredients, including potentially fatal allergies. If you aren't familiar with every dish on the menu (which you should be), do your best to find out for them how it is prepared. \\nNever lie to a customer and give them an ingredient they requested to have removed. If you can't accommodate the request, simply say so and suggest a similar alternative that the customer can eat.\\nDon't question your customers. Keep in mind there are many reasons for menu change requests, such as religious, vegetarian/vegan and cultural dietary restrictions. If the request can be accommodated, don't ask why they made it!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat the order back to your customers.\", \"描述\": \"Studies of U.S. establishments show that waitstaff who repeat the order to the customers receive more tips. However big or small that effect might be, it also gives the customer a chance to correct any mistakes or change their mind.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Check on your customers regularly and give them updates.\", \"描述\": \"If you just got a job as a waiter or waitress, it may take some time to get a feel for how frequently you should check on each table. At least check in whenever they are finishing a course or if they look bored or irritated while waiting for their food. \\nGive them a specific time estimate if they ask how long the food will take, whenever possible.\\nStop by to refill your customers' glass whenever it gets low, or to ask if they'd like to purchase another for non-refillable drinks.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Clear old dishes promptly but not without talking to the customer.\", \"描述\": \"Always ask whether the customer is finished before removing dishes with food on them. If there is a lot of food left, ask whether the food was all right.\\nMany restaurants allow their waitstaff to give unsatisfied customers something extra to make up for bad experiences. This could save your tip.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Befriend your regulars.\", \"描述\": \"Be friendly to people you would not normally talk to. When someone sits in your section more than once, take the time to get to know them. You don't need to become fast friends, but you will probably end up getting to like at least some of them. \\nRemember their names and favorite drinks, where they work etc. Make them feel like they are going to a restaurant to visit a friend: you!\\nTry to write down the appearance and preferences of anyone who visits more than once. The customer will be impressed if you know how they like their steak on the third visit.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Don't assume the customer wants the check, but don't leave them waiting either.\", \"描述\": \"Ask if there is anything more you can get for them, and that will open the opportunity for them to ask for dessert, a take-out item/bag, or the check.\\nIf they state they need nothing else, then ask if they are ready for the check.\\nIf they have to ask you, it generally means they are in a hurry, or you have waited an excessive amount of time since you last checked on the table.\\nNever ask the customer if they need change. Say \\\"I will be right back with your change,\\\" then come back and leave the full amount on the table.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learning at a New Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn the menu in advance.\", \"描述\": \"When you interview, be proactive and ask for a menu to take with you. Study it on your own to become familiar with the food available. Chain restaurants have great training programs that guide you through the menu and kitchen; bars and smaller places expect you to learn on your own.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show up to work early.\", \"描述\": \"Punctuality is important for any job, especially one you've just started. Restaurants are particularly fast-paced during peak hours, however, and you'll make a good impression if you're ready to work on the dot or even a little in advance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to experienced employees carefully.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you have worked as a waitress before, you should pay attention to the details of your new job. Each restaurant does things slightly differently, and paying attention during training will let you do your job more smoothly. It also never hurts to be respectful to your boss and coworkers, of course, rather than blowing them off with phrases such as \\\"I know this already.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep up with the pace.\", \"描述\": \"If you've never worked in a busy restaurant before, you could be surprised by how fast-paced and exhausting the work is. Do your best to keep up to the pace of the other waitstaff. As you grow more accustomed to the job, you'll have a somewhat easier time. At the beginning, you may need to push yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Perform unpleasant tasks without complaining.\", \"描述\": \"You'll start at the bottom of the totem pole, but you won't work your way up by complaining. Clean tables and work unpleasant hours if you are asked to, and remember that you'll have more choice once you're more established.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take criticisms in stride.\", \"描述\": \"Waiting tables can feel a little cutthroat, as some waitstaff will blame you personally if they think you contributed to a bad customer experience (and therefore a bad tip). Know that you'll receive less criticism once you learn the ropes, and try to smile and not let it get to you. \\nThis is definitely not true of every restaurant. Don't be scared off from applying to a waiting job before you know the atmosphere of the establishment.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Volunteer for extra shifts.\", \"描述\": \"Especially in the beginning, you want management and coworkers to know you are reliable. Once you know you can handle an extra shift, volunteer to cover a gap in the schedule so you stand out to your new boss.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Ask questions when you don't know how to do something.\", \"描述\": \"Show an interest in learning specific skills or restaurant practices. Always ask how to do something if you are afraid of making a mistake. People know you're new, and you should be able to find at least one person who appreciates when you ask questions. \\nThis does not mean you should question your job. \\\"What time do I get off?\\\" or \\\"Do I have to do this?\\\" are common phrases that will irritate your coworkers and employer.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try not to get involved in work politics. Avoid trash talking your boss or other employees to your colleagues. In the end, they will find out!\\n\", \"Leave any emotional baggage at the door.\\n\", \"Just relax, people are there to enjoy themselves. You should too.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Never count your tips in front of the customers.\\n\", \"Never brag about your tips in front of other waiting staff.\\n\", \"Do not reach over one customer to serve another. If the setting is informal and you have no other choice, at least say \\\"excuse my reach\\\".\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Being Emotionally Mature
1-1. Surround yourself with mature people.
Make sure that the friends that you hang out with on a daily basis are mature teenagers. Emulate mature characteristics of the adults or role models in your life. Take note of how they interact with people and conduct themselves in public. If you surround yourself with immature people, you are more likely to act immaturely.
Find a role model that has a clear set of values and qualities that you admire.
You might find a positive role model in your school, religious community, after school activity, or even within your family.
1-2. Learn new things every day.
Understanding that you don’t know everything is important to becoming a mature teenager. Be receptive to learning new things. Make it a goal to learn something new each day. Learning doesn’t always have to happen in the classroom. You also learn from your parents, friends, and community members to do things like cook, drive, and manage money.
Research things that you don’t know by looking it up on the internet, going to the library, or asking an expert.
Ask questions while you are learning to gain a deeper understanding.
Read lots of books to gain new perspective and spark your imagination. Reading is an excellent way to learn new things and gain perspective on all sorts of situations. Check out books from categories that interest you, such as sci-fi, fantasy, philosophy, nature, astronomy, and biography.
1-3. Accept constructive criticism.
Be open and welcome to feedback. Getting angry or defensive when you are given feedback is very childish. Actively listen and learn from the feedback that is given to you. In order to actively listen, you must listen with all of your senses instead of merely “hearing” what is being said.
Accept feedback from your teachers to improve your schoolwork. For example, apply the comments on your last research paper to improve your next research paper.
Receive constructive criticism from your coaches or mentors to succeed in afterschool activities. For example, apply the tips that your coach gives you during your practice to improve your technique.
Ask for feedback when feedback is not initially given to you. For example, when you receive a bad grade on a paper with little feedback, consider staying after class to discuss the paper with your teacher. Say something like, “Could you give me some feedback on how to make this paper better? I would like to make a better grade on the next assignment for this class.”
1-4. Take responsibility for your actions.
Don’t make excuses for things that you have done wrong. Resist the urge to blame other people, even if they were involved. Own up to your mistakes and learn from them. On the other hand, you should take credit for things that you have done well.
Take responsibility for your grades instead of blaming them on your teachers.
Admit to breaking or damaging something even if no one was watching.
Accept and serve punishments given to you at school instead of asking your parents to talk to the administration.
1-5. Improve your communication skills.
As you grow up you will need to learn to communicate more effectively. Effective and mature communication is key to gain the respect that you want from other people. Remember to use your manners and treat others with respect when you are talking to them. Listen to what others are saying and don’t jump to conclusions.
When possible, have important conversations face-to-face instead of by phone, text, or email. Try to communicate with someone face-to-face every day to improve your interpersonal skills and avoid isolating yourself with technology.
Focus on what the speaker is telling you. Put away any distractions.
2. Taking Care of Yourself
2-1. Learn to manage your money
You may be able to earn some money through a part-time or seasonal job or be given an allowance by your parents. Even though you may not have any serious financial commitments like rent or children, you should learn to manage your money. Create a budget for the money that you have and set some small savings goals so that you don’t have to ask your parents for more money before your next payday.
Try asking your parents if they would be willing to teach you about basic money management, or look into a community course where you can learn basic money management skills.
If you get a weekly allowance, list out all of your expenses for that week. Make sure to include gas, food, or money needed for activities. What is left over is money that you can spend or save for things you want.
Resist giving into peer pressure to go somewhere and do something that you cannot afford to do.
Keep a log of your spending and income to help stay on budget.
2-2. Make wise dietary decisions.
Throughout your childhood your parents probably cooked for you and helped you make wise food choices. As you grow up, it is important to start to make some of these decisions for yourself. You need to resist the temptation to eat only junk food when your parents are not around.
Remember to eat a balanced diet that includes a variety of vegetables, fruits, grains, proteins, and dairy products.
Resist the urge to skip meals when you are running short on time.
Learn to make wise dietary decisions by helping your parents prepare meals or grocery shop for your family.
2-3. Get enough sleep.
You probably had a bedtime when you were younger. However, as you get older, your parents will probably allow you to make more decisions, including what time you go to bed. Don’t be tempted to stay up all night, especially if you have to wake up early for school or work the next day. Not only is adequate sleep crucial to doing well in school, it is also an important part of your health and development.
In your teenage years, you need between eight to ten hours of sleep per night. It is also important to go to sleep and wake up at about the same time every day. This will give your body a chance to perform important tasks, such as healing and detoxifying, which usually occurs between 11pm and 3am.
2-4. Develop a routine of daily physical activity.
Staying physically active is important to maintain a healthy weight, flexibility, and reduce stress. You may get plenty of physical activity through PE classes at school or extracurricular activities such as sports or dance. If not, it is important to incorporate about 60 minutes of physical activity into your daily routine. Log your daily physical activity in a notebook or using a smartphone app to help you stay on track.
Take a walk.
Go on a bike ride.
Do chores such as vacuuming or gardening.
Play frisbee with some friends.
3. Taking Control of Your Life
3-1. Set and achieve realistic goals
In order to achieve your goals, you must make sure that they are smart, realistic, and measurable goals. Setting goals for yourself will keep you motivated without the need for an adult to tell you what to do. You will build self-esteem and confidence as you achieve your goals.
Try setting small, achievable goals for yourself to gain confidence and a sense of accomplishment. For example, you might set a goal to finish a paper for your English class. Or, you might set a goal to learn how to play a new song on the piano.
3-2. Follow through with any commitments.
Once you have made a commitment to something or someone, it is important to follow through with that commitment. It is a sign of maturity if you can follow through with that commitment without having to be nagged and reminded by your parents. These commitments could be short term, like babysitting for a neighbor next Saturday, or they could be long term, like being elected class president.
Maintain a planner or calendar to help keep track of your commitments.
3-3. Act without being told.
Children are often dependent on their parents to tell them what to do. As you grow up and become more mature, you should be able to be more proactive. Doing things like finishing your homework or keeping your room clean without being told is a sign that you are maturing. Adults must proactively do things each day in order to be successful.
Tips
Keep striving to be more mature even if you have immature moments.
Do things when you are told. Do not yell back "In a minute!" or anything saying that you will come in that time, but you don't.
Always thank and ask for help from your parents.
Warnings
Maturity will not happen overnight. Be patient.
You might start to feel distance in your relationships with less mature friends.
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1. Discuss the Mother’s Preferences in Advance
1-1. Ask about the mother’s guest list.
If there will be other guests present at the birth, ask the mother who she has invited so that you can anticipate the environment during delivery.
If she has invited her children, ask if she would like you to take charge of watching them or taking care of them during and shortly after the delivery so that she is not worried about monitoring them.
If someone with whom you do not get along well has been invited, consider whether you should attend the birth; inviting your personal drama into the birth experience may be uncomfortable for the mother and other guests at the birth.
1-2. Find out how she expects you to behave.
Some women may want your encouragement while others may prefer to simply have you stand back and stay quiet. Although this may always change once childbirth begins, it is good to have an idea of what the mother expects your role to be in advance.
1-3. Do not assume the invitation is extended to your family or significant other.
If you are close friends or siblings with the mother, do not assume she included an implied invitation for your spouse or children to attend.
If you are the partner of the woman delivering, do not assume that you can invite your parents or additional guests without the mother’s permission. She may resent you for doing such during or after birth.
2. Prepare Yourself for the Delivery
2-1. Consider attending a childbirth preparation class with the mother.
If you are the partner or principle guest of the mother, make sure you are ready to assist her during delivery with helpful tips, reminders, and encouragement.
A childbirth preparation class will teach you the stages of delivery, options for pain management, breathing techniques, assistance tips you can use as a guest during birth, and even what to bring with you to the delivery.
2-2. Learn the biology of birth.
If you have been invited to attend the delivery of a child, it may help to learn how labor and delivery function.
Knowing the basics of what the mother is experiencing and how labor is expected to progress can help you calm the mother, prepare yourself for the sight of blood, and inform you of how long you can expect to be on your toes as a guest.
2-3. Prepare ideas of what to do during the waiting period.
Many times, labor can begin hours before delivery occurs; as a guest, you may wish to think of strategies for keeping the mother pleasantly occupied during dilation.
Write down a list of things to discuss or safe activities to do while she is waiting to begin delivery. Suggestions include talking about future vacations, taking a walk, giving her a massage, listening to music, taking a bath (you may wish to pack a swimsuit), sitting on an exercise ball to relieve discomfort, watching the mother’s favorite movie on your laptop, and other low-stress activities to kill time and calm everyone’s nerves.
3. Be a Polite Guest During Birth
3-1. Remember that the focus is on the mother.
Think of nice things you can do to put the mother at ease or increase her comfort.
If you are taking a break to get a snack or drink, ask if there is anything you can bring her. Offer to get extra pillows, a blanket, or other comfort items from a nurse.
Avoid complaining about feeling tired, sore, bored, or nervous. You are there to provide assistance and share in a wonderful experience, and complaining about your own discomfort or discontent is unlikely to improve the mother’s experience.
Purchase a gift in advance or bring flowers with you to the hospital to show your love and encouragement to the mother.
3-2. Recognize that the mother may change her mind.
Labor and delivery can be challenging and even upsetting for many women.
If you sense the mother is no longer comfortable with your presence, offer to leave for a moment or temporarily give her some privacy.
If the mother requests that you leave, obey her wishes and remember that she is probably just overwhelmed; it is not necessarily a reflection of your relationship with her. In some instances, she may just want a few minutes without her guests, after which you may be able to return.
Tips
Be patient, as childbirth can be a long and exacting process. Remind yourself to be grateful that you have been invited to participate in such an important experience.
Warnings
Do not communicate with physicians or nurses about the mother’s preferences for pain medication or medical intervention unless she specifically requested you do so.
Do not presume to know the mother’s wishes about taking control of childcare, rearranging her bedding, or even holding her hand. Every woman is different, so asking prior to acting will give you the best chance of being a welcome and appreciated guest during birth.
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Do not assume the invitation is extended to your family or significant other.\\nIf you are close friends or siblings with the mother, do not assume she included an implied invitation for your spouse or children to attend.\\nIf you are the partner of the woman delivering, do not assume that you can invite your parents or additional guests without the mother’s permission. She may resent you for doing such during or after birth.\\n2. Prepare Yourself for the Delivery\\n2-1. Consider attending a childbirth preparation class with the mother.\\nIf you are the partner or principle guest of the mother, make sure you are ready to assist her during delivery with helpful tips, reminders, and encouragement.\\nA childbirth preparation class will teach you the stages of delivery, options for pain management, breathing techniques, assistance tips you can use as a guest during birth, and even what to bring with you to the delivery.\\n2-2. Learn the biology of birth.\\nIf you have been invited to attend the delivery of a child, it may help to learn how labor and delivery function.\\nKnowing the basics of what the mother is experiencing and how labor is expected to progress can help you calm the mother, prepare yourself for the sight of blood, and inform you of how long you can expect to be on your toes as a guest.\\n2-3. Prepare ideas of what to do during the waiting period.\\nMany times, labor can begin hours before delivery occurs; as a guest, you may wish to think of strategies for keeping the mother pleasantly occupied during dilation.\\nWrite down a list of things to discuss or safe activities to do while she is waiting to begin delivery. Suggestions include talking about future vacations, taking a walk, giving her a massage, listening to music, taking a bath (you may wish to pack a swimsuit), sitting on an exercise ball to relieve discomfort, watching the mother’s favorite movie on your laptop, and other low-stress activities to kill time and calm everyone’s nerves.\\n3. Be a Polite Guest During Birth\\n3-1. Remember that the focus is on the mother.\\nThink of nice things you can do to put the mother at ease or increase her comfort.\\nIf you are taking a break to get a snack or drink, ask if there is anything you can bring her. Offer to get extra pillows, a blanket, or other comfort items from a nurse.\\nAvoid complaining about feeling tired, sore, bored, or nervous. You are there to provide assistance and share in a wonderful experience, and complaining about your own discomfort or discontent is unlikely to improve the mother’s experience.\\nPurchase a gift in advance or bring flowers with you to the hospital to show your love and encouragement to the mother.\\n3-2. Recognize that the mother may change her mind.\\nLabor and delivery can be challenging and even upsetting for many women.\\nIf you sense the mother is no longer comfortable with your presence, offer to leave for a moment or temporarily give her some privacy.\\nIf the mother requests that you leave, obey her wishes and remember that she is probably just overwhelmed; it is not necessarily a reflection of your relationship with her. In some instances, she may just want a few minutes without her guests, after which you may be able to return.\\nTips\\nBe patient, as childbirth can be a long and exacting process. Remind yourself to be grateful that you have been invited to participate in such an important experience.\\nWarnings\\nDo not communicate with physicians or nurses about the mother’s preferences for pain medication or medical intervention unless she specifically requested you do so.\\nDo not presume to know the mother’s wishes about taking control of childcare, rearranging her bedding, or even holding her hand. 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Suggestions include talking about future vacations, taking a walk, giving her a massage, listening to music, taking a bath (you may wish to pack a swimsuit), sitting on an exercise ball to relieve discomfort, watching the mother’s favorite movie on your laptop, and other low-stress activities to kill time and calm everyone’s nerves.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be a Polite Guest During Birth\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remember that the focus is on the mother.\", \"描述\": \"Think of nice things you can do to put the mother at ease or increase her comfort.\\nIf you are taking a break to get a snack or drink, ask if there is anything you can bring her. Offer to get extra pillows, a blanket, or other comfort items from a nurse.\\nAvoid complaining about feeling tired, sore, bored, or nervous. 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1. Learning the Basics
1-1. Work on your flexibility.
Being flexible is one of the most important qualities of a gymnast. If you want to be a gymnast, you can start working on your flexibility right now. Doing stretches and other exercises every day will make your body more limber, allowing you to perform gymnastics moves with grace and ease. Being flexible also improves your coordination. To improve your flexibility, do these exercises every day:
Do neck rotations and try to bring your ears as close as possible to your shoulders without raising them.
Next is the shoulder stretch, where you pull one arm at a time across your chest.
Stretch your chest by locking your fingers behind your back and extending your arms up.
Stretch your back with the seal stretch: get in a push up position, then push up keeping your hips on the ground.
Stretch your hamstrings and back by leaning forward to touch your toes.
Practice doing the splits until you can go into a full split with ease.
Starting from a sitting position, do a knee to chin press. Bring one knee toward your chin, hold it there, then repeat with the other knee.
Do bridges. Start lying down with your knees bent. Put your hands on the floor behind your head and lift your body into a bridge position.
Don't be afraid to start out slow—you don't need to do a bunch of fancy stretches and yoga poses right away!
Do your stretches for 10-30 seconds when your're first starting out. Everything should be in moderation!
1-2. Learn how to do a forward roll.
It's a fun gymnastics move that will help you get used to using your body in more flexible ways than you're used to. You'll also learn how it feels to be upside down. To start, crouch close to the ground with your hands firmly planted on the floor. Tuck in your head and roll forward onto your back, letting your legs follow naturally. Keep practicing until you can do a forward roll without thinking.
Make sure you keep your head tucked in, and don't roll directly on your neck. You could injure your neck if you put all of your weight on it.
Try a more advanced version of the forward roll by starting from a standing position and smoothly rising to your feet without using your hands to support you at the end of the move.
1-3. Practice doing a cartwheel.
Find a soft or grassy spot to practice doing a cartwheel. This isn't a dangerous move, but you might fall a few times before you get the hang of it. Start in a standing position with your right toe (or your left, if you're left-handed) pointed in front of you and your hands above your head. Lean forward sideways, and place your right hand on the ground, following by your left hand. As your hands touch the ground, kick up your legs and use your arms to support their weight. Your left foot should touch down first, then your right. End the move standing upright.
The first few times you try to cartwheel, it will be hard to get your legs above your head. Keep practicing until you're used to the feeling of being upside down. Eventually, you should be able to cartwheel without bending your knees.
To do a roundoff, try landing with both feet at the same time instead of one at a time. Keep your feet together and plant them on the ground.
1-4. See if you can do a handstand.
This is the foundation of many gymnastics moves, and it's one you can perfect at home before you get lessons. Find a soft place to practice. Stand up straight with your hands over your head. Step forward with your right foot (or your left, if you're left-handed) and tip forward to plant your hands on the ground. At the same time, kick up your legs above your head, keeping them straight and together. Hold the position for a moment before dropping your feet back to the ground and standing upright.
It might help to practice against the wall, or with the help of the spotter, while you're learning this move.
Keep your chin tucked in and your shoulders against your ears. Don't lift or raise your head while you do a handstand.
1-5. Take gymnastics lessons.
If you think you have an aptitude for gymnastics, and you're ready to try more complicated moves, it's time to take some lessons. A qualified gymnastics coach will teach you how to do advanced moves using the right form. You'll learn how to strengthen your muscles so that you can execute moves with perfect grace. Also importantly, your coach will be able to show you how to train without risking your safety.
You can teach yourself at home gymnastics skills like a round-off, a front walkover, and a back walkover.
In a gymnastics gym, you'll get to learn how to use professional equipment. For girls, vault, balance beam, uneven bars, and floor exercise. For boys, vault, high bar, still rings, parallel bars, pommel horse, and floor exercise. handsprings, front tucks, back tucks, aerials, front aerials, etc..
To find gymnastics lessons near you, do an online search for “gymnastics gym” or “gymnastics club” and the name of your town. You'll probably find a range of options, from free lessons offered at your local YMCA to more expensive private lessons. At clubs, your skill level will be evaluated and you'll be instructed as to what class would fit you best.
2. Thinking Like a Gymnast
2-1. Be fearless with your body.
Gymnasts throw their bodies through the air headfirst like it's no big deal. To be a good gymnast, you have to be willing to take physical risks for the sake of seeing what your body is capable of. It's normal to feel butterflies before trying a new move on the high bar or doing a flip on the balance beam, but you'll need to be able to push through the jitters if you want to excel. The more you practice, the less frightening it will be.
While gymnastics does involve risk, with the help of a coach you'll learn how to minimize the dangers by using the correct form. Your instructor won't have you try a move he or she doesn't think you're advanced enough to try.
You will fall many, many times as you train to become a gymnast. You'll have to pick yourself up and keep going. The further the advance, the more tears and pain you'll experience. However, if you're a determined gymnast, the results will be worth everything it takes to get good.
Concentrating on the task at hand is a good way to overcome fear. If you're thinking deeply about what your body needs to do, you won't be as worried about messing up.
2-2. Eat an athlete's diet.
Your body will be more able to move the way it needs to if you nourish it with healthy food. Athletes need plenty of calories to keep their muscles strong, but it's important not to eat so much that your body feels heavy when you're trying to perform. A healthy athlete's diet includes the following:
Plenty of fruits, vegetables, nuts, and other plant-based foods that are as unprocessed as possible.
Lean meat, dairy, and other good sources of protein.
Whole grains and legumes to provide carbohydrates for energy.
Avoid sugary foods, sodas, processed foods, and anything that makes you feel less energetic.
Don't forget to stay hydrated, too: drink six to eight glasses of water per day, especially before and after practicing.
A low-fat diet plan is best if you're specifically focused on gaining muscle mass.
2-3. Strengthen your mind-body connection.
Being a gymnast is in some ways like being a dancer. A gymnastics performance involves style and grace, just like dancing does. Gymnasts and dancers both have a special mind-body connection that's rare to see. It's a special awareness of what their bodies can do, and an ability to move with pure confidence. Doing physical activities that feel exhilarating and fun can help strengthen your ability to make your body do amazing things. Consider giving one of these ideas a try:
Take dance lessons. Try hip hop, salsa, or beginner's ballet. If you don't want to take lessons, just go out dancing and lose yourself as you move your body to the music.
Try martial arts. Try capoeira, karate or ju jitsu.
Practice yoga. It's a great way to get in tune with your body and improve your flexibility, too.
2-4. Be willing to work your hardest.
The willingness to work hard day in and day out is a hallmark of every successful gymnast. Getting good at gymnastics moves takes so much practice that there's really no way to avoid working hard. Even amateur gymnasts might train as often as four hours a day, four times a week, with light practice and stretching on days in between.
In addition to working hard, if you end up deciding you want to pursue professional gymnastics, you may have to make some sacrifices. You probably won't have time for other extracurriculars, and your social time will be limited since you'll have to stay in good shape for practice and competitions.
2-5. Aim for perfection.
Every move must be practiced over and over until you execute it perfectly. If you're not a perfectionist, this repetition might get frustrating. However, it's your coach's job to help you reach perfection, since in a competition every movement you make will be judged. Having perfect form is also the best way to keep yourself from getting injured; a bent knee or waist could throw you off balance just enough to cause a bad fall from the balance beam.
Gymnasts have a reputation for being determined perfectionists, but this approach to life can backfire as well. Don't take it so far that you damage your health or injure yourself just to get a move right. Know your limits, and take a break when you need to.
3. Advancing to Elite Status
3-1. Start early and train hard.
As soon as you know you want to be a gymnast, start taking lessons right away so that your body learns flexibility from an early age. As you work with a coach and improve your skills, you'll advance from beginner level to higher levels, and eventually you'll be good enough to compete. It's important to develop flexibility and muscle memory as soon as possible, since these qualities are harder to attain at an older age.
To be a great athlete, you'll need to be willing to put in the work. You'll have to be willing to practice at higher levels than most people, and keep going even when things get tough.
If you decide you want to be an elite gymnast, get your skill level assessed so you know exactly where you stand and how much work you'll need to put in to advance to the next level.
If you're on the older side, you can still become a good gymnast, but it may be more difficult to compete at very high levels. Many gymnasts reach their peak before age 18.
3-2. See if your body type fits the role.
While anyone can gain flexibility and find out what their body can do, professional gymnasts tend to have a certain body type that's conducive to flying and flipping through the air. They're usually on the shorter side and very slight, but strong. If you're growing quite tall, or if your body tends to be stocky, being a professional gymnast might not be in the cards.
Work with a trainer to find out whether hard work will help your body get to where it needs to be to compete on an elite level. With the right kind of training, you might still be able to be a gymnast.
Don't be hard on yourself if it turns out that your genes aren't lining up with your desire to be a gymnast. It's not worth starving yourself or trying to stunt your growth; don't put your health at risk. Try pursuing an athletic endeavor that isn't so dependent on being slight.
3-3. Find a professional coach and enter competitions.
A gymnast will not succeed without a brilliant coach helping him or her along the way. When you start getting serious, ask around and track down the best coach in your area as soon as possible. Work with your coach to improve your skills to the point where you can start entering professional competitions.
You probably won't find who you're looking for at your local YMCA or club gym. In fact, you might have to travel to a different city to work with the best coach available.
When your skill level is high enough, you can compete as part of a team. Each team will have certain requirements your coach will help you meet.
Watch videos of Olympic gymnasts like Gabrielle Douglas, Simone Biles, Aly Raisman, Laurie Hernandez, Nastia Luikin, and Aliya Mustafina to see their artistry and technique, which will help you in competition.
Look for a USA Gymnastics safety-certified center with coaches who have professional memberships.
3-4. Devote your life to gymnastics.
At the elite level, your life will become gymnastics. Half of the day, almost every day, will be spent training. You'll learn top-level skills that you simply couldn't master any other way. If you want to compete with the very best, you'll have to become a gymnastics expert, and that means making gymnastics the most important part of your daily routine.
Many elite gymnasts are homeschooled, giving them the flexibility to spend half their days training. There's not much time for other extracurricular activities.
In order to work with the best coaches and teams, you might have to move to a new city, or even a new country, as many elites have done.
The reward for devoting your life to gymnastics will be seeing your body do amazing things — and maybe earning some medals, too.
Tips
Always try your best when you are doing gymnastics so you can improve your flexibility.
Always work on your flexibility.
When you work out, take breaks. You shouldn't work out every day of the week. Give yourself some time to relax. Also, try to form a schedule for what days of the week that you will exercise.
Warnings
Do not attempt advanced skills without a certified gymnastics coach.
Gymnastics can be a dangerous sport. In some cases, serious injuries and even death are a possibility.
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To improve your flexibility, do these exercises every day:\\nDo neck rotations and try to bring your ears as close as possible to your shoulders without raising them.\\nNext is the shoulder stretch, where you pull one arm at a time across your chest.\\nStretch your chest by locking your fingers behind your back and extending your arms up.\\nStretch your back with the seal stretch: get in a push up position, then push up keeping your hips on the ground.\\nStretch your hamstrings and back by leaning forward to touch your toes.\\nPractice doing the splits until you can go into a full split with ease.\\nStarting from a sitting position, do a knee to chin press. Bring one knee toward your chin, hold it there, then repeat with the other knee.\\n Do bridges. Start lying down with your knees bent. Put your hands on the floor behind your head and lift your body into a bridge position.\\nDon't be afraid to start out slow—you don't need to do a bunch of fancy stretches and yoga poses right away!\\nDo your stretches for 10-30 seconds when your're first starting out. Everything should be in moderation!\\n1-2. Learn how to do a forward roll.\\nIt's a fun gymnastics move that will help you get used to using your body in more flexible ways than you're used to. You'll also learn how it feels to be upside down. To start, crouch close to the ground with your hands firmly planted on the floor. Tuck in your head and roll forward onto your back, letting your legs follow naturally. Keep practicing until you can do a forward roll without thinking.\\nMake sure you keep your head tucked in, and don't roll directly on your neck. You could injure your neck if you put all of your weight on it.\\nTry a more advanced version of the forward roll by starting from a standing position and smoothly rising to your feet without using your hands to support you at the end of the move.\\n1-3. Practice doing a cartwheel.\\nFind a soft or grassy spot to practice doing a cartwheel. This isn't a dangerous move, but you might fall a few times before you get the hang of it. Start in a standing position with your right toe (or your left, if you're left-handed) pointed in front of you and your hands above your head. Lean forward sideways, and place your right hand on the ground, following by your left hand. As your hands touch the ground, kick up your legs and use your arms to support their weight. Your left foot should touch down first, then your right. End the move standing upright.\\nThe first few times you try to cartwheel, it will be hard to get your legs above your head. Keep practicing until you're used to the feeling of being upside down. Eventually, you should be able to cartwheel without bending your knees.\\nTo do a roundoff, try landing with both feet at the same time instead of one at a time. Keep your feet together and plant them on the ground.\\n1-4. See if you can do a handstand.\\nThis is the foundation of many gymnastics moves, and it's one you can perfect at home before you get lessons. Find a soft place to practice. Stand up straight with your hands over your head. Step forward with your right foot (or your left, if you're left-handed) and tip forward to plant your hands on the ground. At the same time, kick up your legs above your head, keeping them straight and together. Hold the position for a moment before dropping your feet back to the ground and standing upright.\\nIt might help to practice against the wall, or with the help of the spotter, while you're learning this move.\\nKeep your chin tucked in and your shoulders against your ears. Don't lift or raise your head while you do a handstand.\\n1-5. Take gymnastics lessons.\\nIf you think you have an aptitude for gymnastics, and you're ready to try more complicated moves, it's time to take some lessons. A qualified gymnastics coach will teach you how to do advanced moves using the right form. You'll learn how to strengthen your muscles so that you can execute moves with perfect grace. Also importantly, your coach will be able to show you how to train without risking your safety.\\nYou can teach yourself at home gymnastics skills like a round-off, a front walkover, and a back walkover.\\nIn a gymnastics gym, you'll get to learn how to use professional equipment. For girls, vault, balance beam, uneven bars, and floor exercise. For boys, vault, high bar, still rings, parallel bars, pommel horse, and floor exercise. handsprings, front tucks, back tucks, aerials, front aerials, etc..\\nTo find gymnastics lessons near you, do an online search for “gymnastics gym” or “gymnastics club” and the name of your town. You'll probably find a range of options, from free lessons offered at your local YMCA to more expensive private lessons. At clubs, your skill level will be evaluated and you'll be instructed as to what class would fit you best.\\n2. Thinking Like a Gymnast\\n2-1. Be fearless with your body.\\nGymnasts throw their bodies through the air headfirst like it's no big deal. To be a good gymnast, you have to be willing to take physical risks for the sake of seeing what your body is capable of. It's normal to feel butterflies before trying a new move on the high bar or doing a flip on the balance beam, but you'll need to be able to push through the jitters if you want to excel. The more you practice, the less frightening it will be.\\nWhile gymnastics does involve risk, with the help of a coach you'll learn how to minimize the dangers by using the correct form. Your instructor won't have you try a move he or she doesn't think you're advanced enough to try.\\nYou will fall many, many times as you train to become a gymnast. You'll have to pick yourself up and keep going. The further the advance, the more tears and pain you'll experience. However, if you're a determined gymnast, the results will be worth everything it takes to get good.\\nConcentrating on the task at hand is a good way to overcome fear. If you're thinking deeply about what your body needs to do, you won't be as worried about messing up.\\n2-2. Eat an athlete's diet.\\nYour body will be more able to move the way it needs to if you nourish it with healthy food. Athletes need plenty of calories to keep their muscles strong, but it's important not to eat so much that your body feels heavy when you're trying to perform. A healthy athlete's diet includes the following:\\nPlenty of fruits, vegetables, nuts, and other plant-based foods that are as unprocessed as possible.\\nLean meat, dairy, and other good sources of protein.\\nWhole grains and legumes to provide carbohydrates for energy.\\nAvoid sugary foods, sodas, processed foods, and anything that makes you feel less energetic.\\nDon't forget to stay hydrated, too: drink six to eight glasses of water per day, especially before and after practicing.\\nA low-fat diet plan is best if you're specifically focused on gaining muscle mass.\\n2-3. Strengthen your mind-body connection.\\nBeing a gymnast is in some ways like being a dancer. A gymnastics performance involves style and grace, just like dancing does. Gymnasts and dancers both have a special mind-body connection that's rare to see. It's a special awareness of what their bodies can do, and an ability to move with pure confidence. Doing physical activities that feel exhilarating and fun can help strengthen your ability to make your body do amazing things. Consider giving one of these ideas a try:\\nTake dance lessons. Try hip hop, salsa, or beginner's ballet. If you don't want to take lessons, just go out dancing and lose yourself as you move your body to the music.\\nTry martial arts. Try capoeira, karate or ju jitsu.\\nPractice yoga. It's a great way to get in tune with your body and improve your flexibility, too.\\n2-4. Be willing to work your hardest.\\nThe willingness to work hard day in and day out is a hallmark of every successful gymnast. Getting good at gymnastics moves takes so much practice that there's really no way to avoid working hard. Even amateur gymnasts might train as often as four hours a day, four times a week, with light practice and stretching on days in between.\\nIn addition to working hard, if you end up deciding you want to pursue professional gymnastics, you may have to make some sacrifices. You probably won't have time for other extracurriculars, and your social time will be limited since you'll have to stay in good shape for practice and competitions.\\n2-5. Aim for perfection.\\nEvery move must be practiced over and over until you execute it perfectly. If you're not a perfectionist, this repetition might get frustrating. However, it's your coach's job to help you reach perfection, since in a competition every movement you make will be judged. Having perfect form is also the best way to keep yourself from getting injured; a bent knee or waist could throw you off balance just enough to cause a bad fall from the balance beam.\\nGymnasts have a reputation for being determined perfectionists, but this approach to life can backfire as well. Don't take it so far that you damage your health or injure yourself just to get a move right. Know your limits, and take a break when you need to.\\n3. Advancing to Elite Status\\n3-1. Start early and train hard.\\nAs soon as you know you want to be a gymnast, start taking lessons right away so that your body learns flexibility from an early age. As you work with a coach and improve your skills, you'll advance from beginner level to higher levels, and eventually you'll be good enough to compete. It's important to develop flexibility and muscle memory as soon as possible, since these qualities are harder to attain at an older age.\\nTo be a great athlete, you'll need to be willing to put in the work. You'll have to be willing to practice at higher levels than most people, and keep going even when things get tough.\\nIf you decide you want to be an elite gymnast, get your skill level assessed so you know exactly where you stand and how much work you'll need to put in to advance to the next level.\\nIf you're on the older side, you can still become a good gymnast, but it may be more difficult to compete at very high levels. Many gymnasts reach their peak before age 18.\\n3-2. See if your body type fits the role.\\nWhile anyone can gain flexibility and find out what their body can do, professional gymnasts tend to have a certain body type that's conducive to flying and flipping through the air. They're usually on the shorter side and very slight, but strong. If you're growing quite tall, or if your body tends to be stocky, being a professional gymnast might not be in the cards.\\nWork with a trainer to find out whether hard work will help your body get to where it needs to be to compete on an elite level. With the right kind of training, you might still be able to be a gymnast.\\nDon't be hard on yourself if it turns out that your genes aren't lining up with your desire to be a gymnast. It's not worth starving yourself or trying to stunt your growth; don't put your health at risk. Try pursuing an athletic endeavor that isn't so dependent on being slight.\\n3-3. Find a professional coach and enter competitions.\\nA gymnast will not succeed without a brilliant coach helping him or her along the way. When you start getting serious, ask around and track down the best coach in your area as soon as possible. Work with your coach to improve your skills to the point where you can start entering professional competitions.\\nYou probably won't find who you're looking for at your local YMCA or club gym. In fact, you might have to travel to a different city to work with the best coach available.\\nWhen your skill level is high enough, you can compete as part of a team. Each team will have certain requirements your coach will help you meet.\\nWatch videos of Olympic gymnasts like Gabrielle Douglas, Simone Biles, Aly Raisman, Laurie Hernandez, Nastia Luikin, and Aliya Mustafina to see their artistry and technique, which will help you in competition.\\nLook for a USA Gymnastics safety-certified center with coaches who have professional memberships.\\n3-4. Devote your life to gymnastics.\\nAt the elite level, your life will become gymnastics. Half of the day, almost every day, will be spent training. You'll learn top-level skills that you simply couldn't master any other way. If you want to compete with the very best, you'll have to become a gymnastics expert, and that means making gymnastics the most important part of your daily routine.\\nMany elite gymnasts are homeschooled, giving them the flexibility to spend half their days training. There's not much time for other extracurricular activities.\\nIn order to work with the best coaches and teams, you might have to move to a new city, or even a new country, as many elites have done.\\nThe reward for devoting your life to gymnastics will be seeing your body do amazing things — and maybe earning some medals, too.\\nTips\\nAlways try your best when you are doing gymnastics so you can improve your flexibility.\\nAlways work on your flexibility.\\nWhen you work out, take breaks. You shouldn't work out every day of the week. Give yourself some time to relax. Also, try to form a schedule for what days of the week that you will exercise.\\nWarnings\\nDo not attempt advanced skills without a certified gymnastics coach.\\nGymnastics can be a dangerous sport. In some cases, serious injuries and even death are a possibility.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Gymnasts have the ability to push their bodies to their outer limits (or advance limits), demonstrating feats of flexibility that seem almost superhuman. Their leaps, flips and tumbles are delightful to watch, which is why gymnastics is one of the most popular Olympic sports. But behind every split-second move you see a gymnast make are countless hours of practice and training. Being a gymnast requires that you have mental strength and physical agility in equal parts. If you want to learn what it takes to be a gymnast, read on to learn how to get started.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning the Basics\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on your flexibility.\", \"描述\": \"Being flexible is one of the most important qualities of a gymnast. If you want to be a gymnast, you can start working on your flexibility right now. Doing stretches and other exercises every day will make your body more limber, allowing you to perform gymnastics moves with grace and ease. Being flexible also improves your coordination. To improve your flexibility, do these exercises every day:\\nDo neck rotations and try to bring your ears as close as possible to your shoulders without raising them.\\nNext is the shoulder stretch, where you pull one arm at a time across your chest.\\nStretch your chest by locking your fingers behind your back and extending your arms up.\\nStretch your back with the seal stretch: get in a push up position, then push up keeping your hips on the ground.\\nStretch your hamstrings and back by leaning forward to touch your toes.\\nPractice doing the splits until you can go into a full split with ease.\\nStarting from a sitting position, do a knee to chin press. Bring one knee toward your chin, hold it there, then repeat with the other knee.\\n Do bridges. Start lying down with your knees bent. Put your hands on the floor behind your head and lift your body into a bridge position.\\nDon't be afraid to start out slow—you don't need to do a bunch of fancy stretches and yoga poses right away!\\nDo your stretches for 10-30 seconds when your're first starting out. Everything should be in moderation!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn how to do a forward roll.\", \"描述\": \"It's a fun gymnastics move that will help you get used to using your body in more flexible ways than you're used to. You'll also learn how it feels to be upside down. To start, crouch close to the ground with your hands firmly planted on the floor. Tuck in your head and roll forward onto your back, letting your legs follow naturally. Keep practicing until you can do a forward roll without thinking.\\nMake sure you keep your head tucked in, and don't roll directly on your neck. You could injure your neck if you put all of your weight on it.\\nTry a more advanced version of the forward roll by starting from a standing position and smoothly rising to your feet without using your hands to support you at the end of the move.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice doing a cartwheel.\", \"描述\": \"Find a soft or grassy spot to practice doing a cartwheel. This isn't a dangerous move, but you might fall a few times before you get the hang of it. Start in a standing position with your right toe (or your left, if you're left-handed) pointed in front of you and your hands above your head. Lean forward sideways, and place your right hand on the ground, following by your left hand. As your hands touch the ground, kick up your legs and use your arms to support their weight. Your left foot should touch down first, then your right. End the move standing upright.\\nThe first few times you try to cartwheel, it will be hard to get your legs above your head. Keep practicing until you're used to the feeling of being upside down. Eventually, you should be able to cartwheel without bending your knees.\\nTo do a roundoff, try landing with both feet at the same time instead of one at a time. Keep your feet together and plant them on the ground.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"See if you can do a handstand.\", \"描述\": \"This is the foundation of many gymnastics moves, and it's one you can perfect at home before you get lessons. Find a soft place to practice. Stand up straight with your hands over your head. Step forward with your right foot (or your left, if you're left-handed) and tip forward to plant your hands on the ground. At the same time, kick up your legs above your head, keeping them straight and together. Hold the position for a moment before dropping your feet back to the ground and standing upright.\\nIt might help to practice against the wall, or with the help of the spotter, while you're learning this move.\\nKeep your chin tucked in and your shoulders against your ears. Don't lift or raise your head while you do a handstand.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take gymnastics lessons.\", \"描述\": \"If you think you have an aptitude for gymnastics, and you're ready to try more complicated moves, it's time to take some lessons. A qualified gymnastics coach will teach you how to do advanced moves using the right form. You'll learn how to strengthen your muscles so that you can execute moves with perfect grace. Also importantly, your coach will be able to show you how to train without risking your safety.\\nYou can teach yourself at home gymnastics skills like a round-off, a front walkover, and a back walkover.\\nIn a gymnastics gym, you'll get to learn how to use professional equipment. For girls, vault, balance beam, uneven bars, and floor exercise. For boys, vault, high bar, still rings, parallel bars, pommel horse, and floor exercise. handsprings, front tucks, back tucks, aerials, front aerials, etc..\\nTo find gymnastics lessons near you, do an online search for “gymnastics gym” or “gymnastics club” and the name of your town. You'll probably find a range of options, from free lessons offered at your local YMCA to more expensive private lessons. At clubs, your skill level will be evaluated and you'll be instructed as to what class would fit you best.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Thinking Like a Gymnast\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be fearless with your body.\", \"描述\": \"Gymnasts throw their bodies through the air headfirst like it's no big deal. To be a good gymnast, you have to be willing to take physical risks for the sake of seeing what your body is capable of. It's normal to feel butterflies before trying a new move on the high bar or doing a flip on the balance beam, but you'll need to be able to push through the jitters if you want to excel. The more you practice, the less frightening it will be.\\nWhile gymnastics does involve risk, with the help of a coach you'll learn how to minimize the dangers by using the correct form. Your instructor won't have you try a move he or she doesn't think you're advanced enough to try.\\nYou will fall many, many times as you train to become a gymnast. You'll have to pick yourself up and keep going. The further the advance, the more tears and pain you'll experience. However, if you're a determined gymnast, the results will be worth everything it takes to get good.\\nConcentrating on the task at hand is a good way to overcome fear. If you're thinking deeply about what your body needs to do, you won't be as worried about messing up.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Eat an athlete's diet.\", \"描述\": \"Your body will be more able to move the way it needs to if you nourish it with healthy food. Athletes need plenty of calories to keep their muscles strong, but it's important not to eat so much that your body feels heavy when you're trying to perform. A healthy athlete's diet includes the following:\\nPlenty of fruits, vegetables, nuts, and other plant-based foods that are as unprocessed as possible.\\nLean meat, dairy, and other good sources of protein.\\nWhole grains and legumes to provide carbohydrates for energy.\\nAvoid sugary foods, sodas, processed foods, and anything that makes you feel less energetic.\\nDon't forget to stay hydrated, too: drink six to eight glasses of water per day, especially before and after practicing.\\nA low-fat diet plan is best if you're specifically focused on gaining muscle mass.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Strengthen your mind-body connection.\", \"描述\": \"Being a gymnast is in some ways like being a dancer. A gymnastics performance involves style and grace, just like dancing does. Gymnasts and dancers both have a special mind-body connection that's rare to see. It's a special awareness of what their bodies can do, and an ability to move with pure confidence. Doing physical activities that feel exhilarating and fun can help strengthen your ability to make your body do amazing things. Consider giving one of these ideas a try:\\nTake dance lessons. Try hip hop, salsa, or beginner's ballet. If you don't want to take lessons, just go out dancing and lose yourself as you move your body to the music.\\nTry martial arts. Try capoeira, karate or ju jitsu.\\nPractice yoga. It's a great way to get in tune with your body and improve your flexibility, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be willing to work your hardest.\", \"描述\": \"The willingness to work hard day in and day out is a hallmark of every successful gymnast. Getting good at gymnastics moves takes so much practice that there's really no way to avoid working hard. Even amateur gymnasts might train as often as four hours a day, four times a week, with light practice and stretching on days in between.\\nIn addition to working hard, if you end up deciding you want to pursue professional gymnastics, you may have to make some sacrifices. You probably won't have time for other extracurriculars, and your social time will be limited since you'll have to stay in good shape for practice and competitions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Aim for perfection.\", \"描述\": \"Every move must be practiced over and over until you execute it perfectly. If you're not a perfectionist, this repetition might get frustrating. However, it's your coach's job to help you reach perfection, since in a competition every movement you make will be judged. Having perfect form is also the best way to keep yourself from getting injured; a bent knee or waist could throw you off balance just enough to cause a bad fall from the balance beam.\\nGymnasts have a reputation for being determined perfectionists, but this approach to life can backfire as well. Don't take it so far that you damage your health or injure yourself just to get a move right. Know your limits, and take a break when you need to.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Advancing to Elite Status\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start early and train hard.\", \"描述\": \"As soon as you know you want to be a gymnast, start taking lessons right away so that your body learns flexibility from an early age. As you work with a coach and improve your skills, you'll advance from beginner level to higher levels, and eventually you'll be good enough to compete. It's important to develop flexibility and muscle memory as soon as possible, since these qualities are harder to attain at an older age.\\nTo be a great athlete, you'll need to be willing to put in the work. You'll have to be willing to practice at higher levels than most people, and keep going even when things get tough.\\nIf you decide you want to be an elite gymnast, get your skill level assessed so you know exactly where you stand and how much work you'll need to put in to advance to the next level.\\nIf you're on the older side, you can still become a good gymnast, but it may be more difficult to compete at very high levels. Many gymnasts reach their peak before age 18.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"See if your body type fits the role.\", \"描述\": \"While anyone can gain flexibility and find out what their body can do, professional gymnasts tend to have a certain body type that's conducive to flying and flipping through the air. They're usually on the shorter side and very slight, but strong. If you're growing quite tall, or if your body tends to be stocky, being a professional gymnast might not be in the cards.\\nWork with a trainer to find out whether hard work will help your body get to where it needs to be to compete on an elite level. With the right kind of training, you might still be able to be a gymnast.\\nDon't be hard on yourself if it turns out that your genes aren't lining up with your desire to be a gymnast. It's not worth starving yourself or trying to stunt your growth; don't put your health at risk. Try pursuing an athletic endeavor that isn't so dependent on being slight.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find a professional coach and enter competitions.\", \"描述\": \"A gymnast will not succeed without a brilliant coach helping him or her along the way. When you start getting serious, ask around and track down the best coach in your area as soon as possible. Work with your coach to improve your skills to the point where you can start entering professional competitions.\\nYou probably won't find who you're looking for at your local YMCA or club gym. In fact, you might have to travel to a different city to work with the best coach available.\\nWhen your skill level is high enough, you can compete as part of a team. Each team will have certain requirements your coach will help you meet.\\nWatch videos of Olympic gymnasts like Gabrielle Douglas, Simone Biles, Aly Raisman, Laurie Hernandez, Nastia Luikin, and Aliya Mustafina to see their artistry and technique, which will help you in competition.\\nLook for a USA Gymnastics safety-certified center with coaches who have professional memberships.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Devote your life to gymnastics.\", \"描述\": \"At the elite level, your life will become gymnastics. Half of the day, almost every day, will be spent training. 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1. Embracing Your Body Hair
1-1. Set your own beauty standards because your opinion is what matters.
Many women remove their body hair out of habit because of conventional beauty standards. However, there’s no one way to be beautiful. Plus, beauty standards differ across the world, so it’s okay to be different. Decide which beauty standards feel right to you and which don’t.
For instance, European women often allow their body hair to grow and it’s considered beautiful.
Don’t worry about someone finding your body hair unattractive because it doesn't matter what they think.
1-2. Celebrate your body hair as a sign of your womanhood.
Women naturally sprout body hair as they go through puberty and become an adult. That means there’s nothing weird or abnormal about being hairy! When you look at the hair on your body, remember that it’s part of growing into the woman you’re meant to become.
In addition to leg and armpit hair, many women also have fuzzy upper lips and hairy arms, stomachs, and backs. This is totally normal!
It’s totally okay if you want to go hairless, and removing your hair won’t make you any less of a woman.
1-3. Recognize the benefits of not removing your body hair.
It takes time, energy, and personal care products to maintain a hairless look. Additionally, you might experience pain while waxing or shaving. Embracing your body hair allows you to save time, energy, and money that you can use for something you really enjoy or care about.
For instance, you might spend several minutes in the shower shaving your armpits and legs, as well as the time you spent getting the supplies. Additionally, razors and shaving cream or soap can be really expensive.
1-4. Connect with other hairy women to help boost your confidence.
Talking to like-minded people is a great way to get support for your decisions. Try to make some friends who’ve embraced their body hair, or look for other hairy women on social media or online forums. Reach out when you need a confidence boost.
Look at hashtags like #bodyhairdontcare or #leghairdontcare to find women who’ve embraced their body hair. You might even post your own photos using these hashtags.
1-5. Draw inspiration from celebrities who show off their body hair.
Celebrities often set the beauty standards, so it’s important that many famous women show off their body hair. If you start to second-guess yourself as a hairy women, look to these powerful women as an example that hairy is beautiful. Here are a few celebrities who are known for sporting body hair:
Rihanna
Bella Thorne
Amandla Stenberg
Adele
Halsey
Julia Roberts
Frida Kahlo
1-6. Use positive self-talk to remind yourself that you’re beautiful.
Everyone struggles to have confidence at times, and positive self-talk can give you the boost you need to feel good. Every morning, tell yourself how beautiful you are before you leave home. Then, counter any negative thoughts that arise with a positive truth. This will help you be a confident hair woman.
Every morning, tell yourself things like, “I look beautiful today,” “I’m so proud of who I am,” and “I feel confident and powerful today.”
Confront negative thoughts with statements like, “Someone else’s opinion doesn’t define me. I’m me, and that’s not changing,” or “I don’t need to look like other girls to be beautiful. I’m unique, and that’s amazing.”
1-7. Show off your body hair if you feel comfortable doing so.
Don’t be afraid to wear shorts, skirts, or sleeveless tops. Hairy legs, armpits, arms, and such are just as beautiful as hair-free skin. Wear clothes that make you feel confident, and don’t worry about what others might think.
Most of the time, people aren’t noticing your body hair, so don’t worry about it.
Don’t feel like you have to show off your hair if you prefer not to do so. Only wear what makes you happy.
1-8. Ignore any negative comments you get from others.
While society is starting to embrace hairy women, there are people who aren’t comfortable with it yet. Unfortunately, sometimes people say hurtful things when they don’t understand something. When this happens, remind yourself that these people are just sharing their opinions, not facts. Then, remember that your opinion is all that really matters.
Tell yourself, “I know that I’m beautiful, and that’s what matters,” or “I’m not trying to impress that person, so it doesn’t matter what they think.”
It helps to remember that there are people all over the world who see your hairy body as beautiful. It doesn’t matter if some people don’t understand your body hair.
1-9. Practice responding to questions about your body hair.
After you decide to grow out your body hair, some people might be curious about your decision. It helps to prepare for questions in advance so you know what you’ll say. Then, you can quickly explain why you’re hairy and confident.
Practice saying things like, “I used to spend a lot of time removing my body hair, but now I use that time to make art, which is important to me,” “Some people think that being hairless is unhygienic, but body hair actually protects your skin,” or “While some people think being hairless is beautiful, I think my hair is a symbol of my womanhood.”
2. Caring for Your Body Hair
2-1. Use gentle soaps and cleansers to wash your armpits and genital area.
Wash your armpits with your regular soap or body wash to keep them clean and fresh. Use a fragrance free soap or feminine care wash to cleanse your genital area. Don’t worry about using shampoos or conditioners on your body hair.
Think about how guys typically wash themselves. They don’t have special products to clean their hairy bodies, so why should you?
2-2. Exfoliate your body once a week or biweekly to prevent ingrown hairs.
Ingrown hairs are still a concern when you’re letting your body hair grow, especially if you have a lot of hair. Exfoliating regularly will remove the dead skin cells and oils that can clog your hair follicles. Use a commercial body scrub or make your own. Then, scrub your body once a week before you shower, then rinse it off with warm water.
To make a simple body scrub, mix 2 parts brown sugar with 1 part carrier oil. Great carrier oil options include sweet almond oil, grape seed oil, and almond oil.
Your body scrub may get stuck in your hair, but don’t worry. As you cleanse your body, the body oil will dissolve and rinse away.
2-3. Soften your hair with jojoba oil, grape seed oil, or clary sage seed oil.
It’s normal for body hair to be coarse, especially pubic hair. If you want to soften your hair, massage a pea-sized amount of carrier oil into your body hair. Add more oil as necessary to cover all of your hair. Let the oil dry before you put on your clothes.
Your best options include jojoba oil, grape seed oil, or clary sage seed oil. These oils are safe to use every day and will make your hair feel softer.
2-4. Trim your body hair if you want it to look neater.
As an alternative to removing your hair, you might decide to just trim it. Use a pair of scissors or an electric hair trimmer to cut your body hair whenever you think it's too long. Watch yourself in the mirror to help you trim your hair to the desired length.
This works great for armpit hair and pubic hair! Simply cut it shorter to minimize the look of it, if you prefer.
2-5. Bleach dark face or body hair that you want to be less visible.
Bleaching helps you minimize the look of your body hair for 1 to 2 weeks without having to remove it. Look for a face or body hair bleaching kit at your local drug store or online. Then, follow the instructions on the bleaching kit to apply the bleach, let it sit, and rinse it off.
You’ll likely need to retouch your hair every 1 to 2 weeks.
Bleaching is best for facial hair and patches of body hair on your stomach, chest, or back.
2-6. Try body hair trends if it’s something that interests you.
With so many women growing out their body hair, it’s starting to become a trend to style it. Look for body hair trends on social media and women’s magazines. Consider trying 1 if that seems fun to you. It might help you enjoy being a hairy woman!
For instance, you might dye or put glitter on your underarm hair.
3. Removing Excess Body Hair
3-1. Recognize that there’s no medical or hygiene reason for removing hair.
If you decide to let your body hair grow, you might hear comments about how it’s “unsanitary” or “unhygienic.” This is simply not true. Body hair is normal and healthy, and may even protect your skin from damage. Remember that removing your hair is a personal choice that has nothing to do with your health or cleanliness.
If someone tells you it’s unhygienic, say, “You probably don’t know this, but body hair is natural and healthy. There’s nothing dirty about a woman being hairy, just like it’s safe for men to be hairy.”
3-2. Decide what, if any, body hair you want to remove.
Just as you should never feel pressured to remove your body hair, don’t feel like you can’t remove hair that bothers you. How much hair you have on your body is a personal choice, so it’s okay if you want to remove some of it. Do what makes you happy, and know you can change your mind at any time.
For instance, you might decide to let all of your body hair grow, or you may decide to just shave your legs. Similarly, you might grow out your hair most of the year but remove it during the hotter months of the year.
If you don't want to shave, but want to thin out your arm hair, try sugaring it. This is a process that involves using a sugar paste to remove the hair.
In order to make your own sugar paste at home you'll need sugar, lemon juice, and water.
3-3. Shave
The easiest way to remove hair is to shave it. Apply a shaving cream or soap over the skin you plan to shave. Then, drag a razor over your skin to remove the hair. Go against the direction of your hair growth to remove it effectively. Then, rinse your skin to remove the shaving cream or soap.
You may need to shave some areas twice a day if your face grows very fast. For instance, you may notice a 5 o’clock shadow that reappears in the evening. You may prefer to touch up visible areas.
3-4. Pluck
Both plucking and waxing pull your hair out by the roots, so it takes longer for it to re-grow. Plucking is best for small areas, while waxing works well for any area on your body. Pluck facial hair and stray body hairs at home using a pair of tweezers. If you want to wax, use a waxing kit from your local drugstore or visit an esthetician.
Plucking works great when you have a few stray hairs, like facial hair or nipple hair. You might pluck your eyebrows, upper lip, chin, and breasts.
If you want to achieve a natural brow look, your best bet is to work with an esthetician who can create a fuller brow. You can also use minimal products such as brow gel to fluff up the brow.
You can wax hair on any part of your body. Do it at home or see a professional.
3-5. Try a topical hair remover to be hair-free for 1-2 weeks.
Over-the-counter topical hair removers dissolve your facial or body hair to remove it for about 1-2 weeks. Follow the directions on your topical hair remover to apply it to the area you want to treat. Let the product sit on your skin for the amount of time directed. Then, use a bladeless razor or a cloth to wipe away the hair remover. This will also remove the hair.
The best time to use a topical hair remover is right after a shower when your hair is soft.
Look for a topical hair remover at your local drug store or online.
3-6. Get electrolysis or laser hair removal to permanently remove hair.
If your hair really bothers you, visit a dermatologist to learn about electrolysis or laser hair removal. Electrolysis treats your hair follicle with a chemical to destroy it, while laser hair remover treats each follicle with a laser. Both of these procedures take several treatments and are very slow because they target each hair individually. However, they can thin your hair or permanently remove it.
Electrolysis is appropriate for all hair types and skin tones. However, you typically need weekly treatments until your hair is all gone.
Laser hair removal is best for light skin with dark hair. Unfortunately, darker skin can get bleached during treatments. Typically, you’ll need 6-8 treatments, which can remove about 80% of your hair.
You can get an at-home laser hair removal device. These can only be used on body hair and may be expensive. Additionally, they can burn or blister your skin if you use them incorrectly.
Tips
There’s no medical reason to shave your body hair. If you prefer going hairless, that’s totally okay! It’s also okay to let your body hair grow out.[22]
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You may need more deodorant if you have armpit hair.
You might choose to be hairy during cooler months and shave during warm months. Do what works best for you.
Warnings
Don’t try to force other women in your life to grow their body hair. Let them decide what they want for themself.
Some people are going to be rude about your body hair. However, that’s their problem, not yours. Don’t let someone pressure you into going hairless.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Embracing Your Body Hair\\n1-1. Set your own beauty standards because your opinion is what matters.\\nMany women remove their body hair out of habit because of conventional beauty standards. However, there’s no one way to be beautiful. Plus, beauty standards differ across the world, so it’s okay to be different. Decide which beauty standards feel right to you and which don’t.\\nFor instance, European women often allow their body hair to grow and it’s considered beautiful.\\nDon’t worry about someone finding your body hair unattractive because it doesn't matter what they think.\\n1-2. Celebrate your body hair as a sign of your womanhood.\\nWomen naturally sprout body hair as they go through puberty and become an adult. That means there’s nothing weird or abnormal about being hairy! When you look at the hair on your body, remember that it’s part of growing into the woman you’re meant to become.\\nIn addition to leg and armpit hair, many women also have fuzzy upper lips and hairy arms, stomachs, and backs. This is totally normal!\\nIt’s totally okay if you want to go hairless, and removing your hair won’t make you any less of a woman.\\n1-3. Recognize the benefits of not removing your body hair.\\nIt takes time, energy, and personal care products to maintain a hairless look. Additionally, you might experience pain while waxing or shaving. Embracing your body hair allows you to save time, energy, and money that you can use for something you really enjoy or care about.\\nFor instance, you might spend several minutes in the shower shaving your armpits and legs, as well as the time you spent getting the supplies. Additionally, razors and shaving cream or soap can be really expensive.\\n1-4. Connect with other hairy women to help boost your confidence.\\nTalking to like-minded people is a great way to get support for your decisions. Try to make some friends who’ve embraced their body hair, or look for other hairy women on social media or online forums. Reach out when you need a confidence boost.\\nLook at hashtags like #bodyhairdontcare or #leghairdontcare to find women who’ve embraced their body hair. You might even post your own photos using these hashtags.\\n1-5. Draw inspiration from celebrities who show off their body hair.\\nCelebrities often set the beauty standards, so it’s important that many famous women show off their body hair. If you start to second-guess yourself as a hairy women, look to these powerful women as an example that hairy is beautiful. Here are a few celebrities who are known for sporting body hair:\\nRihanna\\nBella Thorne\\nAmandla Stenberg\\nAdele\\nHalsey\\nJulia Roberts\\nFrida Kahlo\\n1-6. Use positive self-talk to remind yourself that you’re beautiful.\\nEveryone struggles to have confidence at times, and positive self-talk can give you the boost you need to feel good. Every morning, tell yourself how beautiful you are before you leave home. Then, counter any negative thoughts that arise with a positive truth. This will help you be a confident hair woman.\\nEvery morning, tell yourself things like, “I look beautiful today,” “I’m so proud of who I am,” and “I feel confident and powerful today.”\\nConfront negative thoughts with statements like, “Someone else’s opinion doesn’t define me. I’m me, and that’s not changing,” or “I don’t need to look like other girls to be beautiful. I’m unique, and that’s amazing.”\\n1-7. Show off your body hair if you feel comfortable doing so.\\nDon’t be afraid to wear shorts, skirts, or sleeveless tops. Hairy legs, armpits, arms, and such are just as beautiful as hair-free skin. Wear clothes that make you feel confident, and don’t worry about what others might think.\\nMost of the time, people aren’t noticing your body hair, so don’t worry about it.\\nDon’t feel like you have to show off your hair if you prefer not to do so. Only wear what makes you happy.\\n1-8. Ignore any negative comments you get from others.\\nWhile society is starting to embrace hairy women, there are people who aren’t comfortable with it yet. Unfortunately, sometimes people say hurtful things when they don’t understand something. When this happens, remind yourself that these people are just sharing their opinions, not facts. Then, remember that your opinion is all that really matters.\\nTell yourself, “I know that I’m beautiful, and that’s what matters,” or “I’m not trying to impress that person, so it doesn’t matter what they think.”\\nIt helps to remember that there are people all over the world who see your hairy body as beautiful. It doesn’t matter if some people don’t understand your body hair.\\n1-9. Practice responding to questions about your body hair.\\nAfter you decide to grow out your body hair, some people might be curious about your decision. It helps to prepare for questions in advance so you know what you’ll say. Then, you can quickly explain why you’re hairy and confident.\\nPractice saying things like, “I used to spend a lot of time removing my body hair, but now I use that time to make art, which is important to me,” “Some people think that being hairless is unhygienic, but body hair actually protects your skin,” or “While some people think being hairless is beautiful, I think my hair is a symbol of my womanhood.”\\n2. Caring for Your Body Hair\\n2-1. Use gentle soaps and cleansers to wash your armpits and genital area.\\nWash your armpits with your regular soap or body wash to keep them clean and fresh. Use a fragrance free soap or feminine care wash to cleanse your genital area. Don’t worry about using shampoos or conditioners on your body hair.\\nThink about how guys typically wash themselves. They don’t have special products to clean their hairy bodies, so why should you?\\n2-2. Exfoliate your body once a week or biweekly to prevent ingrown hairs.\\nIngrown hairs are still a concern when you’re letting your body hair grow, especially if you have a lot of hair. Exfoliating regularly will remove the dead skin cells and oils that can clog your hair follicles. Use a commercial body scrub or make your own. Then, scrub your body once a week before you shower, then rinse it off with warm water.\\nTo make a simple body scrub, mix 2 parts brown sugar with 1 part carrier oil. Great carrier oil options include sweet almond oil, grape seed oil, and almond oil.\\nYour body scrub may get stuck in your hair, but don’t worry. As you cleanse your body, the body oil will dissolve and rinse away.\\n2-3. Soften your hair with jojoba oil, grape seed oil, or clary sage seed oil.\\nIt’s normal for body hair to be coarse, especially pubic hair. If you want to soften your hair, massage a pea-sized amount of carrier oil into your body hair. Add more oil as necessary to cover all of your hair. Let the oil dry before you put on your clothes.\\nYour best options include jojoba oil, grape seed oil, or clary sage seed oil. These oils are safe to use every day and will make your hair feel softer.\\n2-4. Trim your body hair if you want it to look neater.\\nAs an alternative to removing your hair, you might decide to just trim it. Use a pair of scissors or an electric hair trimmer to cut your body hair whenever you think it's too long. Watch yourself in the mirror to help you trim your hair to the desired length.\\nThis works great for armpit hair and pubic hair! Simply cut it shorter to minimize the look of it, if you prefer.\\n2-5. Bleach dark face or body hair that you want to be less visible.\\nBleaching helps you minimize the look of your body hair for 1 to 2 weeks without having to remove it. Look for a face or body hair bleaching kit at your local drug store or online. Then, follow the instructions on the bleaching kit to apply the bleach, let it sit, and rinse it off.\\nYou’ll likely need to retouch your hair every 1 to 2 weeks.\\nBleaching is best for facial hair and patches of body hair on your stomach, chest, or back.\\n2-6. Try body hair trends if it’s something that interests you.\\nWith so many women growing out their body hair, it’s starting to become a trend to style it. Look for body hair trends on social media and women’s magazines. Consider trying 1 if that seems fun to you. It might help you enjoy being a hairy woman!\\nFor instance, you might dye or put glitter on your underarm hair.\\n3. Removing Excess Body Hair\\n3-1. Recognize that there’s no medical or hygiene reason for removing hair.\\nIf you decide to let your body hair grow, you might hear comments about how it’s “unsanitary” or “unhygienic.” This is simply not true. Body hair is normal and healthy, and may even protect your skin from damage. Remember that removing your hair is a personal choice that has nothing to do with your health or cleanliness.\\nIf someone tells you it’s unhygienic, say, “You probably don’t know this, but body hair is natural and healthy. There’s nothing dirty about a woman being hairy, just like it’s safe for men to be hairy.”\\n3-2. Decide what, if any, body hair you want to remove.\\nJust as you should never feel pressured to remove your body hair, don’t feel like you can’t remove hair that bothers you. How much hair you have on your body is a personal choice, so it’s okay if you want to remove some of it. Do what makes you happy, and know you can change your mind at any time.\\nFor instance, you might decide to let all of your body hair grow, or you may decide to just shave your legs. Similarly, you might grow out your hair most of the year but remove it during the hotter months of the year.\\nIf you don't want to shave, but want to thin out your arm hair, try sugaring it. This is a process that involves using a sugar paste to remove the hair.\\nIn order to make your own sugar paste at home you'll need sugar, lemon juice, and water.\\n3-3. Shave\\nThe easiest way to remove hair is to shave it. Apply a shaving cream or soap over the skin you plan to shave. Then, drag a razor over your skin to remove the hair. Go against the direction of your hair growth to remove it effectively. Then, rinse your skin to remove the shaving cream or soap.\\nYou may need to shave some areas twice a day if your face grows very fast. For instance, you may notice a 5 o’clock shadow that reappears in the evening. You may prefer to touch up visible areas.\\n3-4. Pluck\\nBoth plucking and waxing pull your hair out by the roots, so it takes longer for it to re-grow. Plucking is best for small areas, while waxing works well for any area on your body. Pluck facial hair and stray body hairs at home using a pair of tweezers. If you want to wax, use a waxing kit from your local drugstore or visit an esthetician.\\nPlucking works great when you have a few stray hairs, like facial hair or nipple hair. You might pluck your eyebrows, upper lip, chin, and breasts.\\nIf you want to achieve a natural brow look, your best bet is to work with an esthetician who can create a fuller brow. You can also use minimal products such as brow gel to fluff up the brow.\\nYou can wax hair on any part of your body. Do it at home or see a professional.\\n3-5. Try a topical hair remover to be hair-free for 1-2 weeks.\\nOver-the-counter topical hair removers dissolve your facial or body hair to remove it for about 1-2 weeks. Follow the directions on your topical hair remover to apply it to the area you want to treat. Let the product sit on your skin for the amount of time directed. Then, use a bladeless razor or a cloth to wipe away the hair remover. This will also remove the hair. \\nThe best time to use a topical hair remover is right after a shower when your hair is soft.\\nLook for a topical hair remover at your local drug store or online.\\n3-6. Get electrolysis or laser hair removal to permanently remove hair.\\nIf your hair really bothers you, visit a dermatologist to learn about electrolysis or laser hair removal. Electrolysis treats your hair follicle with a chemical to destroy it, while laser hair remover treats each follicle with a laser. Both of these procedures take several treatments and are very slow because they target each hair individually. However, they can thin your hair or permanently remove it.\\nElectrolysis is appropriate for all hair types and skin tones. However, you typically need weekly treatments until your hair is all gone.\\nLaser hair removal is best for light skin with dark hair. Unfortunately, darker skin can get bleached during treatments. Typically, you’ll need 6-8 treatments, which can remove about 80% of your hair.\\nYou can get an at-home laser hair removal device. These can only be used on body hair and may be expensive. Additionally, they can burn or blister your skin if you use them incorrectly.\\nTips\\nThere’s no medical reason to shave your body hair. If you prefer going hairless, that’s totally okay! It’s also okay to let your body hair grow out.[22]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nYou may need more deodorant if you have armpit hair.\\nYou might choose to be hairy during cooler months and shave during warm months. Do what works best for you.\\nWarnings\\nDon’t try to force other women in your life to grow their body hair. Let them decide what they want for themself.\\nSome people are going to be rude about your body hair. However, that’s their problem, not yours. Don’t let someone pressure you into going hairless.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Having excess body hair as a woman can feel frustrating and may have affected your confidence in the past. Growing up, you probably learned that being hairless is a beauty standard for women. However, that trend is changing as more and more women embrace their body hair. It’s up to you to decide if you want to remove any of your body hair and how you want to care for it. Hairy is beautiful, so don’t let anyone tell you differently.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Embracing Your Body Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set your own beauty standards because your opinion is what matters.\", \"描述\": \"Many women remove their body hair out of habit because of conventional beauty standards. However, there’s no one way to be beautiful. Plus, beauty standards differ across the world, so it’s okay to be different. Decide which beauty standards feel right to you and which don’t.\\nFor instance, European women often allow their body hair to grow and it’s considered beautiful.\\nDon’t worry about someone finding your body hair unattractive because it doesn't matter what they think.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Celebrate your body hair as a sign of your womanhood.\", \"描述\": \"Women naturally sprout body hair as they go through puberty and become an adult. That means there’s nothing weird or abnormal about being hairy! When you look at the hair on your body, remember that it’s part of growing into the woman you’re meant to become.\\nIn addition to leg and armpit hair, many women also have fuzzy upper lips and hairy arms, stomachs, and backs. This is totally normal!\\nIt’s totally okay if you want to go hairless, and removing your hair won’t make you any less of a woman.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Recognize the benefits of not removing your body hair.\", \"描述\": \"It takes time, energy, and personal care products to maintain a hairless look. Additionally, you might experience pain while waxing or shaving. Embracing your body hair allows you to save time, energy, and money that you can use for something you really enjoy or care about.\\nFor instance, you might spend several minutes in the shower shaving your armpits and legs, as well as the time you spent getting the supplies. Additionally, razors and shaving cream or soap can be really expensive.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Connect with other hairy women to help boost your confidence.\", \"描述\": \"Talking to like-minded people is a great way to get support for your decisions. Try to make some friends who’ve embraced their body hair, or look for other hairy women on social media or online forums. Reach out when you need a confidence boost.\\nLook at hashtags like #bodyhairdontcare or #leghairdontcare to find women who’ve embraced their body hair. You might even post your own photos using these hashtags.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Draw inspiration from celebrities who show off their body hair.\", \"描述\": \"Celebrities often set the beauty standards, so it’s important that many famous women show off their body hair. If you start to second-guess yourself as a hairy women, look to these powerful women as an example that hairy is beautiful. Here are a few celebrities who are known for sporting body hair:\\nRihanna\\nBella Thorne\\nAmandla Stenberg\\nAdele\\nHalsey\\nJulia Roberts\\nFrida Kahlo\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Use positive self-talk to remind yourself that you’re beautiful.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone struggles to have confidence at times, and positive self-talk can give you the boost you need to feel good. Every morning, tell yourself how beautiful you are before you leave home. Then, counter any negative thoughts that arise with a positive truth. This will help you be a confident hair woman.\\nEvery morning, tell yourself things like, “I look beautiful today,” “I’m so proud of who I am,” and “I feel confident and powerful today.”\\nConfront negative thoughts with statements like, “Someone else’s opinion doesn’t define me. I’m me, and that’s not changing,” or “I don’t need to look like other girls to be beautiful. I’m unique, and that’s amazing.”\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Show off your body hair if you feel comfortable doing so.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t be afraid to wear shorts, skirts, or sleeveless tops. Hairy legs, armpits, arms, and such are just as beautiful as hair-free skin. Wear clothes that make you feel confident, and don’t worry about what others might think.\\nMost of the time, people aren’t noticing your body hair, so don’t worry about it.\\nDon’t feel like you have to show off your hair if you prefer not to do so. Only wear what makes you happy.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Ignore any negative comments you get from others.\", \"描述\": \"While society is starting to embrace hairy women, there are people who aren’t comfortable with it yet. Unfortunately, sometimes people say hurtful things when they don’t understand something. When this happens, remind yourself that these people are just sharing their opinions, not facts. Then, remember that your opinion is all that really matters.\\nTell yourself, “I know that I’m beautiful, and that’s what matters,” or “I’m not trying to impress that person, so it doesn’t matter what they think.”\\nIt helps to remember that there are people all over the world who see your hairy body as beautiful. It doesn’t matter if some people don’t understand your body hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Practice responding to questions about your body hair.\", \"描述\": \"After you decide to grow out your body hair, some people might be curious about your decision. It helps to prepare for questions in advance so you know what you’ll say. Then, you can quickly explain why you’re hairy and confident.\\nPractice saying things like, “I used to spend a lot of time removing my body hair, but now I use that time to make art, which is important to me,” “Some people think that being hairless is unhygienic, but body hair actually protects your skin,” or “While some people think being hairless is beautiful, I think my hair is a symbol of my womanhood.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Caring for Your Body Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use gentle soaps and cleansers to wash your armpits and genital area.\", \"描述\": \"Wash your armpits with your regular soap or body wash to keep them clean and fresh. Use a fragrance free soap or feminine care wash to cleanse your genital area. Don’t worry about using shampoos or conditioners on your body hair.\\nThink about how guys typically wash themselves. They don’t have special products to clean their hairy bodies, so why should you?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Exfoliate your body once a week or biweekly to prevent ingrown hairs.\", \"描述\": \"Ingrown hairs are still a concern when you’re letting your body hair grow, especially if you have a lot of hair. Exfoliating regularly will remove the dead skin cells and oils that can clog your hair follicles. Use a commercial body scrub or make your own. Then, scrub your body once a week before you shower, then rinse it off with warm water.\\nTo make a simple body scrub, mix 2 parts brown sugar with 1 part carrier oil. Great carrier oil options include sweet almond oil, grape seed oil, and almond oil.\\nYour body scrub may get stuck in your hair, but don’t worry. As you cleanse your body, the body oil will dissolve and rinse away.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Soften your hair with jojoba oil, grape seed oil, or clary sage seed oil.\", \"描述\": \"It’s normal for body hair to be coarse, especially pubic hair. If you want to soften your hair, massage a pea-sized amount of carrier oil into your body hair. Add more oil as necessary to cover all of your hair. Let the oil dry before you put on your clothes.\\nYour best options include jojoba oil, grape seed oil, or clary sage seed oil. These oils are safe to use every day and will make your hair feel softer.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Trim your body hair if you want it to look neater.\", \"描述\": \"As an alternative to removing your hair, you might decide to just trim it. Use a pair of scissors or an electric hair trimmer to cut your body hair whenever you think it's too long. Watch yourself in the mirror to help you trim your hair to the desired length.\\nThis works great for armpit hair and pubic hair! Simply cut it shorter to minimize the look of it, if you prefer.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Bleach dark face or body hair that you want to be less visible.\", \"描述\": \"Bleaching helps you minimize the look of your body hair for 1 to 2 weeks without having to remove it. Look for a face or body hair bleaching kit at your local drug store or online. Then, follow the instructions on the bleaching kit to apply the bleach, let it sit, and rinse it off.\\nYou’ll likely need to retouch your hair every 1 to 2 weeks.\\nBleaching is best for facial hair and patches of body hair on your stomach, chest, or back.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try body hair trends if it’s something that interests you.\", \"描述\": \"With so many women growing out their body hair, it’s starting to become a trend to style it. Look for body hair trends on social media and women’s magazines. Consider trying 1 if that seems fun to you. It might help you enjoy being a hairy woman!\\nFor instance, you might dye or put glitter on your underarm hair.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Removing Excess Body Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Recognize that there’s no medical or hygiene reason for removing hair.\", \"描述\": \"If you decide to let your body hair grow, you might hear comments about how it’s “unsanitary” or “unhygienic.” This is simply not true. Body hair is normal and healthy, and may even protect your skin from damage. Remember that removing your hair is a personal choice that has nothing to do with your health or cleanliness.\\nIf someone tells you it’s unhygienic, say, “You probably don’t know this, but body hair is natural and healthy. There’s nothing dirty about a woman being hairy, just like it’s safe for men to be hairy.”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Decide what, if any, body hair you want to remove.\", \"描述\": \"Just as you should never feel pressured to remove your body hair, don’t feel like you can’t remove hair that bothers you. How much hair you have on your body is a personal choice, so it’s okay if you want to remove some of it. Do what makes you happy, and know you can change your mind at any time.\\nFor instance, you might decide to let all of your body hair grow, or you may decide to just shave your legs. Similarly, you might grow out your hair most of the year but remove it during the hotter months of the year.\\nIf you don't want to shave, but want to thin out your arm hair, try sugaring it. 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If you want to wax, use a waxing kit from your local drugstore or visit an esthetician.\\nPlucking works great when you have a few stray hairs, like facial hair or nipple hair. You might pluck your eyebrows, upper lip, chin, and breasts.\\nIf you want to achieve a natural brow look, your best bet is to work with an esthetician who can create a fuller brow. You can also use minimal products such as brow gel to fluff up the brow.\\nYou can wax hair on any part of your body. Do it at home or see a professional.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try a topical hair remover to be hair-free for 1-2 weeks.\", \"描述\": \"Over-the-counter topical hair removers dissolve your facial or body hair to remove it for about 1-2 weeks. Follow the directions on your topical hair remover to apply it to the area you want to treat. Let the product sit on your skin for the amount of time directed. Then, use a bladeless razor or a cloth to wipe away the hair remover. 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1. Spend more time outside.
Set aside at least 20 minutes a day to get out of the house.
Take a walk through a local park or explore a local forest preserve. If you’re in a city, take a stroll around the neighborhood or swing by a local park and take in the fresh air. Spending time outside will reduce your stress and lower any anxiety you’re experiencing, and you’ll be much happier in the long run if you get outside every day.
Walking also counts as a form of exercise, so you’re killing two birds with one stone if you’re also trying to spend more time exercising.
2. Try something new.
Variety is the spice of life, so step outside of your comfort zone.
If you’ve never gone on a hike, pack your bag and head to the nearest state park. If you’ve never tried Ethiopian food, grab a few friends and try that new restaurant out. Even if you don’t fall in love with every new thing you try, the variety will be exciting and you’ll always have something exciting to look forward to.
This is especially important when it comes to traveling. Get out there and visit new places. Even if you can’t fly out for your dream vacation right now, you can probably squeeze in a road trip to a new city.
3. Improve your attitude with positive self-talk.
Stop unhealthy thoughts and feelings in their tracks and revise them.
If you start thinking, “I never do anything right at work,” finish that sentence by tacking on “but this time I’m going to nail the presentation.” By catching bad thoughts and feelings as they crop up, your self-awareness will improve and you’ll have an easier time controlling your emotions, which can increase how much happiness you experience on a daily basis.
Another way to fix negative thoughts is to repeat a positive phrase or affirmation over and over again until your perspective has changed. You could say something like, “I am strong, I am capable,” or, “I can handle any obstacle.”
Positive self-talk is also physically good for you. The more optimistic you are, the less stress you’ll experience. This can increase your life span, build your immune system, and lower your risk for cardiovascular disease.
4. Make a gratitude list.
Spend a few minutes literally counting your blessings.
Jot down or verbally list everything you’re thankful for. Try to start showing more gratitude as well. Every act of gratitude will bring you happiness, from thanking your friends and family for always being there for you to telling strangers “thank you” when they hold the door open for you. If you can get in the habit of expressing gratitude, you’ll naturally cultivate a more positive attitude.
A gratitude journal is a great way to get in the habit of being grateful. Every day, spend 5-10 minutes writing about something you’re thankful for.
5. Enjoy uplifting movies and music.
Fill your eyes and ears with things that put a smile on your face.
You’re more likely to be down in the dumps if you’re always listening to sad songs and watching depressing movies. Try to incorporate more positivity into your life. Start the day by singing a joyous song in the shower, listening to motivational audiobooks, and throwing on the occasional feel-good romantic comedy when you don’t know what to watch on Netflix.
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t enjoy your death metal and horror movies. There’s a time and place for everything; just try to engage with something that makes you feel good about the world every now and then.
6. Do things you enjoy.
Set aside time every day to pursue the things that bring you joy.
Keep practicing that instrument, sign up for a dance class, or set aside time for more board games with your friends. Actively pursuing your hobbies will give you something to look forward to whenever you’re feeling down, and you’re going to find life more fulfilling if you dedicate yourself to something you actively care about.
If you’re looking for a new hobby, try to choose something social. You’re more likely to make new friends if you’re engaging in a team sport, book club, or community gardening project.
It’s impossible to waste time on something so long as you find value and meaning in it. If you’re passionate about competitive video gaming, brewing craft beer, or collecting stamps, don’t let anyone make you feel bad about pursuing what you love.
7. Practice random acts of kindness.
When you’re nice to other people, you feel better about yourself.
Offer to help your friend move, give your seat up on the bus to someone who could use a break, and take your mom out for lunch. Make a promise to yourself to go out of your way and do one kind thing every day. There’s no substitute for putting a smile on someone else’s face.
There’s a kind of positive feedback loop here where the happier you are, the kinder you’ll be and vice versa.
Kindness can be contagious. If you help other people out now, you’re more likely to find the help you might need in the future.
8. Take a break from social media.
If you spend a ton of time on your phone, it may be time for a break.
It’s hard to feel happy if you’re constantly comparing yourself to others and scrolling through the news articles on your timeline can bum you out. People that spend a ton of time on social media tend to be at higher risk for depression, so try taking a break from your social media accounts. You may get that big dose of joy you’ve been looking for.
You can always deactivate your accounts and reactivate them when you feel like you’re ready to get back online.
There are apps you can download to control how much time you spend on social media every day. This can be a great middle ground if you don’t want to be cut off entirely.
Social media is great when it comes to keeping in touch with people in other parts of the world, and there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with using Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. It’s just that people need a break sometimes!
9. Take a day off.
Cash in a vacation day or call off sick to take a break.
Spend a day doing whatever you’d like. You could take a day-trip to that beach you love, or just putz around the house in your robe all day. If you’ve been anxious about stuff piling up on your to-do list, spend the day completing a few tasks you’ve been putting off. Rewarding yourself with a micro-vacation is a great way to take a break and recharge.
This is an especially good option if you’ve been getting stressed about work. Giving yourself a break to focus on something else is a great way to recharge your batteries.
10. Do something you’re really good at.
Replay that video game you’ve mastered or show off your singing skills.
If you’re a great painter, spend an hour making some art. If you can juggle, do that instead. Being challenged can be rewarding, but nothing is better for your mood than reminding yourself you’re good at something. Performing a task you’re super good at can also boost your self-esteem, which is a key component of being happy.
Everyone has something they’re great at. Even something as simple as cooking a fancy meal for your family can be super rewarding.
11. Try aromatherapy.
Burn some incense or throw some essential oils in your diffuser.
Smell is one of the most powerful senses, especially when it comes to your mood. Lemon, lavender, jasmine, rosemary, and cinnamon are all great options if you’re doing some candle shopping or trying to find the perfect scent to put a smile on your face.
Scent has a unique ability to trigger memory. If there’s a unique dish your grandmother used to make, recreate it! The nostalgia is sure to boost your mood.
12. Exercise.
It’s hard to be happy if you don’t feel good physically.
Getting regular exercise will do wonders for your health, but it will also increase your emotional well-being. Sign up for a recreational sports league, hit the weights at the gym 2-3 times a week, and start jogging or cycling to get your blood flowing. Not only will your body feel better, but you’ll also give your mood a big boost at the same time.
Any physical activity counts as exercise. Cleaning your kitchen, walking your dog, and working on your car all count, so just get moving.
You don’t need to go straight from no exercise to a massive workout routine. Even 10 minutes of exercise a day can do wonders for your happiness. Start small and then work your way up from there.
13. Spend more time with your loved ones.
Call a friend you haven’t seen in a while and don’t skip that family dinner.
Spending time with positive people who care about you is one of the best ways to improve your overall happiness. Human beings aren’t meant to be cooped up and isolated, so stay connected with your loved ones and get out of the house to see the people who matter most.
You can still be social with the COVID pandemic keeping everyone indoors. Set up a video hangout session over Zoom, play some games online with your friends, and FaceTime your family over dinner.
Seeing your friends and family is also a great way to mitigate stress. If you’re ever going through a tough time, reach out to the people who care about you. You’re sure to feel better.
Don’t allow other people’s negative attitudes to affect your happiness. If you have a friend or family member who is constantly complaining or critiquing you, don’t go out of your way to see them.
14. Volunteer for a worthy cause.
Giving back to your community gives you purpose and self-satisfaction.
When you dedicate your time and energy to trying to make the world a better place, you feel better about yourself. Show up to help at a local soup kitchen, write a check for a local nonprofit, or go canvassing for a politician you believe in. You’ll see your happiness levels increase and you’ll make the world a nicer place for others in the process.
Some people are unhappy because they don’t feel purpose in life. Maybe they think their job doesn’t matter, or they feel like they aren’t making a difference in their off time. If this might be you, reach out to some charities near you to see how you can help.
15. Manage your stress.
Yoga, meditation, and deep-breathing exercises are great options.
Get in the habit of doing some form of relaxation every day to keep the stress from piling up. Stress isn’t good for your health, and it can dramatically influence the way you process emotions. If you’re totally stressed out, it will be difficult to find your inner peace, which is the opposite of what you want if your goal is to be happier. Pick a relaxation technique that works for you and do it every day to lower your stress levels.
Yoga is a fun way to exercise while lowering stress. Either sign up for a yoga class at a studio near you or pull up some beginner videos on YouTube and give it a shot.
Download a guided meditation app and find a nice quiet place to meditate. Follow the prompts to learn how to focus your thoughts and calm your body.
Deep-breathing exercises are a great option if you tend to overreact to stress in the moment. Put one hand on your belly, the other on your chest, and breathe in through your nose slowly. Exhale through pursed lips. Do this 3-10 times to lower your stress.
16. Get a pet.
It’s a commitment, but a furry friend will bring you smiles.
Not only do pets provide companionship when you’re feeling lonely, but taking care of another living thing can be deeply rewarding. Knowing you always have a friend at home waiting for you is also a great way to boost your sense of happiness. Just make sure you have the time to take care of a pet before you rush out and get one.
Dogs are extremely loyal and loving, but they do require a lot of time and energy. Cats are a fun option that don’t require daily walks.
Guinea pigs, rabbits, hamsters, and mice are all phenomenal options if you want a furry friend that won’t be super high maintenance.
Lizards and fish are other fun options that don’t require a lot of socialization.
There are even studies that show keeping crickets can boost your energy levels and mood! Taking care of an ant farm might be a great option if you don’t have a ton of free time for a dog or cat.
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Even if you don’t fall in love with every new thing you try, the variety will be exciting and you’ll always have something exciting to look forward to.\\nThis is especially important when it comes to traveling. Get out there and visit new places. Even if you can’t fly out for your dream vacation right now, you can probably squeeze in a road trip to a new city.\\n3. Improve your attitude with positive self-talk.\\nStop unhealthy thoughts and feelings in their tracks and revise them.\\nIf you start thinking, “I never do anything right at work,” finish that sentence by tacking on “but this time I’m going to nail the presentation.” By catching bad thoughts and feelings as they crop up, your self-awareness will improve and you’ll have an easier time controlling your emotions, which can increase how much happiness you experience on a daily basis.\\nAnother way to fix negative thoughts is to repeat a positive phrase or affirmation over and over again until your perspective has changed. You could say something like, “I am strong, I am capable,” or, “I can handle any obstacle.”\\nPositive self-talk is also physically good for you. The more optimistic you are, the less stress you’ll experience. This can increase your life span, build your immune system, and lower your risk for cardiovascular disease.\\n4. Make a gratitude list.\\nSpend a few minutes literally counting your blessings.\\nJot down or verbally list everything you’re thankful for. Try to start showing more gratitude as well. Every act of gratitude will bring you happiness, from thanking your friends and family for always being there for you to telling strangers “thank you” when they hold the door open for you. If you can get in the habit of expressing gratitude, you’ll naturally cultivate a more positive attitude.\\nA gratitude journal is a great way to get in the habit of being grateful. Every day, spend 5-10 minutes writing about something you’re thankful for.\\n5. Enjoy uplifting movies and music.\\nFill your eyes and ears with things that put a smile on your face.\\nYou’re more likely to be down in the dumps if you’re always listening to sad songs and watching depressing movies. Try to incorporate more positivity into your life. Start the day by singing a joyous song in the shower, listening to motivational audiobooks, and throwing on the occasional feel-good romantic comedy when you don’t know what to watch on Netflix.\\nThis isn’t to say that you shouldn’t enjoy your death metal and horror movies. There’s a time and place for everything; just try to engage with something that makes you feel good about the world every now and then.\\n6. Do things you enjoy.\\nSet aside time every day to pursue the things that bring you joy.\\nKeep practicing that instrument, sign up for a dance class, or set aside time for more board games with your friends. Actively pursuing your hobbies will give you something to look forward to whenever you’re feeling down, and you’re going to find life more fulfilling if you dedicate yourself to something you actively care about.\\nIf you’re looking for a new hobby, try to choose something social. You’re more likely to make new friends if you’re engaging in a team sport, book club, or community gardening project.\\nIt’s impossible to waste time on something so long as you find value and meaning in it. If you’re passionate about competitive video gaming, brewing craft beer, or collecting stamps, don’t let anyone make you feel bad about pursuing what you love.\\n7. Practice random acts of kindness.\\nWhen you’re nice to other people, you feel better about yourself.\\nOffer to help your friend move, give your seat up on the bus to someone who could use a break, and take your mom out for lunch. Make a promise to yourself to go out of your way and do one kind thing every day. There’s no substitute for putting a smile on someone else’s face.\\nThere’s a kind of positive feedback loop here where the happier you are, the kinder you’ll be and vice versa.\\nKindness can be contagious. If you help other people out now, you’re more likely to find the help you might need in the future.\\n8. Take a break from social media.\\nIf you spend a ton of time on your phone, it may be time for a break.\\nIt’s hard to feel happy if you’re constantly comparing yourself to others and scrolling through the news articles on your timeline can bum you out. People that spend a ton of time on social media tend to be at higher risk for depression, so try taking a break from your social media accounts. You may get that big dose of joy you’ve been looking for.\\nYou can always deactivate your accounts and reactivate them when you feel like you’re ready to get back online.\\nThere are apps you can download to control how much time you spend on social media every day. This can be a great middle ground if you don’t want to be cut off entirely.\\nSocial media is great when it comes to keeping in touch with people in other parts of the world, and there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with using Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. It’s just that people need a break sometimes!\\n9. Take a day off.\\nCash in a vacation day or call off sick to take a break.\\nSpend a day doing whatever you’d like. You could take a day-trip to that beach you love, or just putz around the house in your robe all day. If you’ve been anxious about stuff piling up on your to-do list, spend the day completing a few tasks you’ve been putting off. Rewarding yourself with a micro-vacation is a great way to take a break and recharge.\\nThis is an especially good option if you’ve been getting stressed about work. Giving yourself a break to focus on something else is a great way to recharge your batteries.\\n10. Do something you’re really good at.\\nReplay that video game you’ve mastered or show off your singing skills.\\nIf you’re a great painter, spend an hour making some art. If you can juggle, do that instead. Being challenged can be rewarding, but nothing is better for your mood than reminding yourself you’re good at something. Performing a task you’re super good at can also boost your self-esteem, which is a key component of being happy.\\nEveryone has something they’re great at. Even something as simple as cooking a fancy meal for your family can be super rewarding.\\n11. Try aromatherapy.\\nBurn some incense or throw some essential oils in your diffuser.\\nSmell is one of the most powerful senses, especially when it comes to your mood. Lemon, lavender, jasmine, rosemary, and cinnamon are all great options if you’re doing some candle shopping or trying to find the perfect scent to put a smile on your face.\\nScent has a unique ability to trigger memory. 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Spend more time with your loved ones.\\nCall a friend you haven’t seen in a while and don’t skip that family dinner.\\nSpending time with positive people who care about you is one of the best ways to improve your overall happiness. Human beings aren’t meant to be cooped up and isolated, so stay connected with your loved ones and get out of the house to see the people who matter most.\\nYou can still be social with the COVID pandemic keeping everyone indoors. Set up a video hangout session over Zoom, play some games online with your friends, and FaceTime your family over dinner.\\nSeeing your friends and family is also a great way to mitigate stress. If you’re ever going through a tough time, reach out to the people who care about you. You’re sure to feel better.\\nDon’t allow other people’s negative attitudes to affect your happiness. If you have a friend or family member who is constantly complaining or critiquing you, don’t go out of your way to see them.\\n14. 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Get a pet.\\nIt’s a commitment, but a furry friend will bring you smiles.\\nNot only do pets provide companionship when you’re feeling lonely, but taking care of another living thing can be deeply rewarding. Knowing you always have a friend at home waiting for you is also a great way to boost your sense of happiness. Just make sure you have the time to take care of a pet before you rush out and get one.\\nDogs are extremely loyal and loving, but they do require a lot of time and energy. Cats are a fun option that don’t require daily walks.\\nGuinea pigs, rabbits, hamsters, and mice are all phenomenal options if you want a furry friend that won’t be super high maintenance.\\nLizards and fish are other fun options that don’t require a lot of socialization.\\nThere are even studies that show keeping crickets can boost your energy levels and mood! Taking care of an ant farm might be a great option if you don’t have a ton of free time for a dog or cat.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Happiness means different things to different people. Some people find joy in roller coasters and bungee jumping, while others find happiness in something as simple as a good book. What makes you happy is going to be unique to you, but there are several easy ways to improve your sense of happiness regardless of what you enjoy doing in your spare time. Whether you’re looking to improve your attitude or you’re simply seeking a quick fix when you’re feeling blue, here are some options to help you become a better, happier person.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spend more time outside.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set aside at least 20 minutes a day to get out of the house.\", \"描述\": \"Take a walk through a local park or explore a local forest preserve. If you’re in a city, take a stroll around the neighborhood or swing by a local park and take in the fresh air. Spending time outside will reduce your stress and lower any anxiety you’re experiencing, and you’ll be much happier in the long run if you get outside every day.\\nWalking also counts as a form of exercise, so you’re killing two birds with one stone if you’re also trying to spend more time exercising.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try something new.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Variety is the spice of life, so step outside of your comfort zone.\", \"描述\": \"If you’ve never gone on a hike, pack your bag and head to the nearest state park. If you’ve never tried Ethiopian food, grab a few friends and try that new restaurant out. Even if you don’t fall in love with every new thing you try, the variety will be exciting and you’ll always have something exciting to look forward to.\\nThis is especially important when it comes to traveling. Get out there and visit new places. 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Every day, spend 5-10 minutes writing about something you’re thankful for.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Enjoy uplifting movies and music.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Fill your eyes and ears with things that put a smile on your face.\", \"描述\": \"You’re more likely to be down in the dumps if you’re always listening to sad songs and watching depressing movies. Try to incorporate more positivity into your life. Start the day by singing a joyous song in the shower, listening to motivational audiobooks, and throwing on the occasional feel-good romantic comedy when you don’t know what to watch on Netflix.\\nThis isn’t to say that you shouldn’t enjoy your death metal and horror movies. There’s a time and place for everything; just try to engage with something that makes you feel good about the world every now and then.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do things you enjoy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set aside time every day to pursue the things that bring you joy.\", \"描述\": \"Keep practicing that instrument, sign up for a dance class, or set aside time for more board games with your friends. Actively pursuing your hobbies will give you something to look forward to whenever you’re feeling down, and you’re going to find life more fulfilling if you dedicate yourself to something you actively care about.\\nIf you’re looking for a new hobby, try to choose something social. You’re more likely to make new friends if you’re engaging in a team sport, book club, or community gardening project.\\nIt’s impossible to waste time on something so long as you find value and meaning in it. If you’re passionate about competitive video gaming, brewing craft beer, or collecting stamps, don’t let anyone make you feel bad about pursuing what you love.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Practice random acts of kindness.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"When you’re nice to other people, you feel better about yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Offer to help your friend move, give your seat up on the bus to someone who could use a break, and take your mom out for lunch. Make a promise to yourself to go out of your way and do one kind thing every day. There’s no substitute for putting a smile on someone else’s face.\\nThere’s a kind of positive feedback loop here where the happier you are, the kinder you’ll be and vice versa.\\nKindness can be contagious. If you help other people out now, you’re more likely to find the help you might need in the future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Take a break from social media.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you spend a ton of time on your phone, it may be time for a break.\", \"描述\": \"It’s hard to feel happy if you’re constantly comparing yourself to others and scrolling through the news articles on your timeline can bum you out. People that spend a ton of time on social media tend to be at higher risk for depression, so try taking a break from your social media accounts. You may get that big dose of joy you’ve been looking for.\\nYou can always deactivate your accounts and reactivate them when you feel like you’re ready to get back online.\\nThere are apps you can download to control how much time you spend on social media every day. This can be a great middle ground if you don’t want to be cut off entirely.\\nSocial media is great when it comes to keeping in touch with people in other parts of the world, and there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with using Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. It’s just that people need a break sometimes!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Take a day off.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cash in a vacation day or call off sick to take a break.\", \"描述\": \"Spend a day doing whatever you’d like. You could take a day-trip to that beach you love, or just putz around the house in your robe all day. If you’ve been anxious about stuff piling up on your to-do list, spend the day completing a few tasks you’ve been putting off. Rewarding yourself with a micro-vacation is a great way to take a break and recharge.\\nThis is an especially good option if you’ve been getting stressed about work. Giving yourself a break to focus on something else is a great way to recharge your batteries.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Do something you’re really good at.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Replay that video game you’ve mastered or show off your singing skills.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re a great painter, spend an hour making some art. If you can juggle, do that instead. Being challenged can be rewarding, but nothing is better for your mood than reminding yourself you’re good at something. Performing a task you’re super good at can also boost your self-esteem, which is a key component of being happy.\\nEveryone has something they’re great at. Even something as simple as cooking a fancy meal for your family can be super rewarding.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Try aromatherapy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Burn some incense or throw some essential oils in your diffuser.\", \"描述\": \"Smell is one of the most powerful senses, especially when it comes to your mood. Lemon, lavender, jasmine, rosemary, and cinnamon are all great options if you’re doing some candle shopping or trying to find the perfect scent to put a smile on your face.\\nScent has a unique ability to trigger memory. If there’s a unique dish your grandmother used to make, recreate it! The nostalgia is sure to boost your mood.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Exercise.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’s hard to be happy if you don’t feel good physically.\", \"描述\": \"Getting regular exercise will do wonders for your health, but it will also increase your emotional well-being. Sign up for a recreational sports league, hit the weights at the gym 2-3 times a week, and start jogging or cycling to get your blood flowing. Not only will your body feel better, but you’ll also give your mood a big boost at the same time.\\nAny physical activity counts as exercise. Cleaning your kitchen, walking your dog, and working on your car all count, so just get moving.\\nYou don’t need to go straight from no exercise to a massive workout routine. Even 10 minutes of exercise a day can do wonders for your happiness. Start small and then work your way up from there.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Spend more time with your loved ones.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Call a friend you haven’t seen in a while and don’t skip that family dinner.\", \"描述\": \"Spending time with positive people who care about you is one of the best ways to improve your overall happiness. Human beings aren’t meant to be cooped up and isolated, so stay connected with your loved ones and get out of the house to see the people who matter most.\\nYou can still be social with the COVID pandemic keeping everyone indoors. Set up a video hangout session over Zoom, play some games online with your friends, and FaceTime your family over dinner.\\nSeeing your friends and family is also a great way to mitigate stress. If you’re ever going through a tough time, reach out to the people who care about you. You’re sure to feel better.\\nDon’t allow other people’s negative attitudes to affect your happiness. If you have a friend or family member who is constantly complaining or critiquing you, don’t go out of your way to see them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Volunteer for a worthy cause.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Giving back to your community gives you purpose and self-satisfaction.\", \"描述\": \"When you dedicate your time and energy to trying to make the world a better place, you feel better about yourself. Show up to help at a local soup kitchen, write a check for a local nonprofit, or go canvassing for a politician you believe in. You’ll see your happiness levels increase and you’ll make the world a nicer place for others in the process.\\nSome people are unhappy because they don’t feel purpose in life. Maybe they think their job doesn’t matter, or they feel like they aren’t making a difference in their off time. If this might be you, reach out to some charities near you to see how you can help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Manage your stress.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Yoga, meditation, and deep-breathing exercises are great options.\", \"描述\": \"Get in the habit of doing some form of relaxation every day to keep the stress from piling up. Stress isn’t good for your health, and it can dramatically influence the way you process emotions. If you’re totally stressed out, it will be difficult to find your inner peace, which is the opposite of what you want if your goal is to be happier. Pick a relaxation technique that works for you and do it every day to lower your stress levels.\\nYoga is a fun way to exercise while lowering stress. Either sign up for a yoga class at a studio near you or pull up some beginner videos on YouTube and give it a shot.\\nDownload a guided meditation app and find a nice quiet place to meditate. Follow the prompts to learn how to focus your thoughts and calm your body.\\nDeep-breathing exercises are a great option if you tend to overreact to stress in the moment. Put one hand on your belly, the other on your chest, and breathe in through your nose slowly. Exhale through pursed lips. Do this 3-10 times to lower your stress.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Get a pet.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’s a commitment, but a furry friend will bring you smiles.\", \"描述\": \"Not only do pets provide companionship when you’re feeling lonely, but taking care of another living thing can be deeply rewarding. Knowing you always have a friend at home waiting for you is also a great way to boost your sense of happiness. Just make sure you have the time to take care of a pet before you rush out and get one.\\nDogs are extremely loyal and loving, but they do require a lot of time and energy. Cats are a fun option that don’t require daily walks.\\nGuinea pigs, rabbits, hamsters, and mice are all phenomenal options if you want a furry friend that won’t be super high maintenance.\\nLizards and fish are other fun options that don’t require a lot of socialization.\\nThere are even studies that show keeping crickets can boost your energy levels and mood! Taking care of an ant farm might be a great option if you don’t have a ton of free time for a dog or cat.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Changing Your Mind
1-1. Make an effort to be happy.
A great deal of what it takes to be happy has nothing to do with being religious or atheist, but instead depends on your general attitude towards the world.
To make an effort, be honest with yourself and tell yourself you are going to try your best to become happier.
1-2. Challenge self-fulfilling prophecies.
Self-fulfilling prophecies are ideas that become true because you believe them. If you believe that atheists are generally unhappy, and if you are an atheist, you may act in ways that reinforce your belief, thereby making you less happy.
To avoid self-fulfilling prophecies, try to change your belief that atheists are generally unhappy. You ask yourself some questions such as: "is it logical that someone needs to believe in a particular religion to be happy?" "when am I most happy? Is it when I'm thinking about religion or is it when I'm doing fun things, hanging out with friends, thinking deeply, or taking in nature?"
1-3. Embrace your atheism.
In doing so, recognize the reasons you have chosen to be an Atheist. Mental reaffirmation will build confidence in yourself, your beliefs, or lack thereof, and your choices.
Changing who you are for others is a surefire way to become less happy and have less self-worth - so if you truly don't believe there is any god or supernatural being overseeing the universe, stick with it despite any persecution that may come your way.
1-4. Don't believe the stereotypes.
There are stereotypes out there that atheists are bad people, that they have no moral compass, and that they are unhappy. To counteract these stereotypes, think about some happy atheists that you know. If you don't know any, think about some famous atheists who seem pretty happy, such as Richard Dawkins or Sam Harris.
To see a happy atheist, watch this funny video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gW7607YiBso
1-5. Try to recognize the cultural value of religion.
This will help you understand and get along with people of any religion. While organized religion as an institution has many clear flaws, there are also good aspects, so it is important to respect people's choices regarding religious beliefs..
It may be as simple as the music associated with the religion, or perhaps you may find portions of a religions' moral code admirable.
People may find that religion offers them comfort, community, and morals. This can be meaningful for people who choose to be religious.
2. Adjusting Your Behavior
2-1. Join a like-minded community.
Social connection is important for happiness and stress reduction. Depending on where you are from, being an atheist can mean losing ones friends or even family. It is important to replace lost social connections with new ones. Join a like-minded community who you can socialize with from time to time.
This could be a humanist group, an atheist group, or some other group that is entirely associated with beliefs and values.
2-2. Be generous
Studies show that when you give to others, your happiness increases. And, you don't need to believe in any gods to decide to be good and generous.
You can choose to either give your time or your money; what matters most is that you are providing a benefit to someone else that makes them happy. In doing so, you will be happier, too.
2-3. Smile.
Studies show that there is a bi-directional relationship between the facial muscles and feelings of emotion. In other words, if you make yourself smile, you might just feel a little happier, regardless of your religious beliefs or lack thereof.
Try setting a reminder on your phone to remind yourself to smile more often. For example, you could set a reminder for every two or three hours throughout the day to remind yourself to smile more. You could have it say something simple like, "Are you smiling right now?"
2-4. When dealing with religious people, avoid argument and conflict.
People are very unlikely to change their minds about their beliefs. Unless the conversation is very important to you, it may be best to let it go.
It's not because it's about religion per se, but people's beliefs about most things that evoke emotions (e.g., their political beliefs) are difficult to change.
2-5. Exercise.
Get outside and go for a run or go to the gym and do some resistance training. Try to get moderate exercise for 30 minutes at least three times a week. Studies show that working out your body can improve your mood.
To get a more intense workout, try listening to some upbeat music and keeping up with the rhythm.
2-6. Cultivate your relationships.
Spend time on your friends and loved ones. Surrounding yourself with a supportive community will help you feel energized and happy.
Tips
Don't wear your beliefs on your sleeve. Be respectful of those with different beliefs.
Find constructive things to do with your time that you enjoy.
It may behoove you to avoid church programs, but you may still want to give your family the courtesy of attending church with them. This is a very personal decision and only you can decide what is best.
Warnings
Your lack of religion, strictly speaking, is no one else's business. If you aren't comfortable discussing your beliefs, yet don't wish to offend an inquirer, it is appropriate to tell them, "I'm not comfortable discussing my beliefs in public" or "with others."
If you are confronted with hostility for your beliefs, brush it off. It's not productive for anyone.
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Is it when I'm thinking about religion or is it when I'm doing fun things, hanging out with friends, thinking deeply, or taking in nature?\\\"\\n1-3. Embrace your atheism.\\nIn doing so, recognize the reasons you have chosen to be an Atheist. Mental reaffirmation will build confidence in yourself, your beliefs, or lack thereof, and your choices.\\nChanging who you are for others is a surefire way to become less happy and have less self-worth - so if you truly don't believe there is any god or supernatural being overseeing the universe, stick with it despite any persecution that may come your way.\\n1-4. Don't believe the stereotypes.\\nThere are stereotypes out there that atheists are bad people, that they have no moral compass, and that they are unhappy. To counteract these stereotypes, think about some happy atheists that you know. If you don't know any, think about some famous atheists who seem pretty happy, such as Richard Dawkins or Sam Harris.\\nTo see a happy atheist, watch this funny video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gW7607YiBso\\n1-5. Try to recognize the cultural value of religion.\\nThis will help you understand and get along with people of any religion. While organized religion as an institution has many clear flaws, there are also good aspects, so it is important to respect people's choices regarding religious beliefs..\\nIt may be as simple as the music associated with the religion, or perhaps you may find portions of a religions' moral code admirable.\\nPeople may find that religion offers them comfort, community, and morals. This can be meaningful for people who choose to be religious.\\n2. Adjusting Your Behavior\\n2-1. Join a like-minded community.\\nSocial connection is important for happiness and stress reduction. Depending on where you are from, being an atheist can mean losing ones friends or even family. It is important to replace lost social connections with new ones. Join a like-minded community who you can socialize with from time to time.\\nThis could be a humanist group, an atheist group, or some other group that is entirely associated with beliefs and values.\\n2-2. Be generous\\nStudies show that when you give to others, your happiness increases. And, you don't need to believe in any gods to decide to be good and generous.\\nYou can choose to either give your time or your money; what matters most is that you are providing a benefit to someone else that makes them happy. In doing so, you will be happier, too.\\n2-3. Smile.\\nStudies show that there is a bi-directional relationship between the facial muscles and feelings of emotion. 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Studies show that working out your body can improve your mood.\\nTo get a more intense workout, try listening to some upbeat music and keeping up with the rhythm.\\n2-6. Cultivate your relationships.\\nSpend time on your friends and loved ones. Surrounding yourself with a supportive community will help you feel energized and happy.\\nTips\\nDon't wear your beliefs on your sleeve. Be respectful of those with different beliefs.\\nFind constructive things to do with your time that you enjoy.\\nIt may behoove you to avoid church programs, but you may still want to give your family the courtesy of attending church with them. This is a very personal decision and only you can decide what is best.\\nWarnings\\nYour lack of religion, strictly speaking, is no one else's business. If you aren't comfortable discussing your beliefs, yet don't wish to offend an inquirer, it is appropriate to tell them, \\\"I'm not comfortable discussing my beliefs in public\\\" or \\\"with others.\\\"\\nIf you are confronted with hostility for your beliefs, brush it off. It's not productive for anyone.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many have argued that it is a myth that you need religion to be happy. However, there is sometimes a stigma attached to atheism in the public view: atheists are often disliked and may be viewed as unhappy, unkind, cynical, and/or immoral . Atheists sometimes have to deal with strong conversion efforts or outright hostility from religious people. 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1. Focusing on Yourself
1-1. Learn to be alone with yourself.
You spend more time with yourself than anyone else, and you should learn to enjoy your own company. One key to being a happy single woman is to be comfortable spending time alone with yourself, understanding that you don’t always need to be around others. You will ultimately discover qualities about yourself that you love, and some that you’d like to change. This process of self-discovery is invaluable to truly being a happy, single woman.
1-2. Pursue a new interest or hobby.
Being single means that you have more time for yourself. Now is the time to develop your own interests outside of work and other relationships. Pursue what makes you happy, what fulfills you, or what piques your curiosity. Don’t let your work or other people influence which interest you pursue. Choose something that will bring you joy or fulfillment.
You might take up bike riding, or yoga, or a book club, or even sign up for sewing lessons at a local shop.
1-3. Appreciate what you have.
Negativity breeds more negativity, and that can stifle your happiness. Instead, look around you, really think about your life, and take stock. Think about your friends, your family, your job, your house, your collection, your hobbies, your health, and your wit, and appreciate what you have. Focusing on the positive will shift your perspective to one of gratitude and happiness.
1-4. Define your relationship standards.
You might choose to be in a relationship in the future, and there’s no better time than when you’re happy and single to figure out what you want and need in a partner. Consider why you’re happy right now and what traits in a future partner could enhance that happiness. This is the best time to define what you want, expect, and need in a future relationship. It’s also a great time to concretely lay out your dealbreakers.
Perhaps you want your future partner to have a certain level of education or affiliate with a particular political party.
On the other hand, you might decide that a partner who is disrespectful to servers and strangers is a dealbreaker for you.
Take some time to clarify for yourself what features of a relationship are most important to you and what ones you are willing to be flexible on.
1-5. Treat yourself.
You’re a happy, single woman and you deserve to treat yourself. In fact, you should treat yourself. Splurge now and then, and if your budget allows, incorporate little treats as part of your monthly expenses. Make yourself a priority and reward yourself for being fabulous now and then.
Schedule a spa day.
Get your eyebrows waxed every month.
Take yourself to the movies.
Go get that bag that you’ve been eyeing for some time.
Book yourself a room at the nicest hotel in town for a night.
1-6. Advance your career.
You don’t have to choose between being in a relationship and having a career, an outdated idea that doesn’t accurately represent opportunities for modern women. As a single woman, though, you undeniably have more opportunity to focus on advancing your career, as your time and flexibility is entirely yours. Seize professional opportunities for growth and training, taking advantage of your flexibility. Opportunities may include:
You might be asked to travel regularly or even relocate for a better position.
You might be asked to work unplanned overtime.
You may have several after-work networking functions to attend.
2. Nurturing Relationships
2-1. Rethink your relationships.
Humans are social creatures, and research shows that people are happier when they have an emotional connection with someone. This doesn’t mean that you have to be in a relationship to be happy, though. Your platonic relationships can be just as rewarding as a romantic connection, and should not be overlooked as a source of happiness.
2-2. Form a support network.
Having a circle of friends and a support network is a must for a single, happy woman. Women tend to form friendships easier than men, as women are usually more social. And everyone needs confidantes, those people with whom you can share your highs, lows, and true self.
Some women aren’t as comfortable meeting people or being social. If you are somewhat uncomfortable meeting people, consider joining a variety of meetup groups or getting involved in a variety of your interests, which will naturally lead you to people who share at least one interest of yours.
2-3. Make friends and family a priority.
Your time, money, and energy is yours and yours alone. You get to spend each as you see fit without consulting with anyone else, which makes scheduling time with your friends and family all the easier. And just as you need a good support network, it’s important that you be a strong member of other support networks.
Ask your parents if they’d like to have weekly dinners.
Invite your friends over for a wine tasting.
Suggest that your friends or family take a short road trip with you to a popular tourist attraction.
Organize a camping adventure with a group of friends or your siblings.
2-4. Plan for sickness and aging.
Some women fear being single because they are scared of being alone when they’re older or ill. Because more and more people are choosing to be single, new communities are forming for older, single people. These intentional communities offer comradery, support, and socialization. Having a plan for how you’ll approach aging and illness as a single woman will alleviate your worries and uncertainty, allowing you to be happier.
These intentional communities are not retirement communities, although there are retirement communities for single people.
Intentional communities are typically housing cooperatives, or land trusts, or even communes.
3. Responding to Critics
3-1. Challenge social expectations.
Many societies prioritize and even celebrate marriage as the ultimate achievement for women. From a young age, society tells women that they should grow up, find a partner, get married and then they’ll be happy. This might not be the right path for you, though, and that’s perfectly alright.
You can find examples of social expectations everywhere, from commercials for cleaning products to reality television shows to print magazine ads for wedding dresses and engagement rings.
Nowadays, marriage is usually seen as a union founded on love and mutual affection, versus a financial or security arrangement between two families. Remind critics that a woman doesn’t need to be married to be secure or successful anymore.
If being a single woman is frowned upon in your culture, ask your family to explain their concerns, and be prepared that you may ultimately disagree on what is right for you – and that’s okay.
3-2. Defy cultural expectations.
Your family’s cultural background might place an extraordinary emphasis on you getting married. If your family routinely asks you when you’re going to settle down, or offers to set you up with someone, remember these cultural motivations before you get too upset with their persistence. Bearing these expectations in mind will help you best determine how to respond to your family.
Remember, too, that you might be the first woman in your family to voluntarily remain single and succeed at being independent and happy, which is a foreign idea to some.
3-3. Familiarize yourself with the typical conversation.
Understand that there will always be neigh-sayers who cannot accept that you’re not actively working on finding a future spouse. They will typically ask questions like, “did you give up on love?” or “don’t you want to be happy?” or even, “what’s so wrong about wanting to be close to someone?” These questions usually come from a good place, with the questioner just not understanding how you could be happy without a partner. Preparing stock answers to this line of questioning will alleviate stress for you, and ensure that you respond with a concise, direct answer that ends the line of questioning.
For example, if someone asks, “don’t you want to be happy?” you could respond with, “I certainly do, which is why I’m focusing on myself and my happiness. I am happily, voluntarily, single, am quite fulfilled, and am not looking for a relationship. I really appreciate you thinking of my happiness.” Another option is to say, “I am no more unhappy with being single than you are with being married.”
4. Handling Disappointment
4-1. Reconcile your desire to have children.
You’re a strong, single woman and perhaps you’ve always wanted children, or have just recently realized that you do, in fact, want to have a child. You might feel disappointed that you’re not in a relationship and think that limits your options. Fortunately, you can freely have a child as a single woman, if you choose to do so.
You have a variety of options that weren’t available to single women even 15 years ago. If you do want to have a child, look into sperm donation, adoption, and even fostering children for the state in which you live.
On the other hand, you might feel discomfort with the idea of raising a child as a single woman. You’re not alone. Almost 20% of women are child free and the number grows annually.
4-2. Acknowledge your desire for a relationship.
Not all single people are lonely, and not all lonely people are lonely all the time. You’re a single woman, and you might be disappointed that you’re not in a relationship. You’re bombarded daily with images and cultural reinforcements that tell you that you should be in a relationship, making you even more aware that you aren’t. Whether it’s by choice or not, you’re single, and acknowledging that you do want a relationship can be difficult because it makes you vulnerable.
If you’re single by choice, you may occasionally consider that you’d like a relationship. That’s entirely normal. Remember, you’re not committed to being single and can change your mind at any point, but you don’t have to do so.
If you’re disappointed that you’re not in a relationship, consider getting into the dating scene. Join a dating website, join a singles club, or even a hobby club, where you might meet like-minded single people.
4-3. Choose your family.
You’re single but that doesn’t mean you’re alone. You are in an extraordinary position to choose your family – the group of friends that you hold most dear. You will support one another, laugh with one another, celebrate with one another, and cry together. This is a family of your creation, and while you might not be in a traditional relationship, you are certainly not alone.
4-4. Acknowledge your accomplishments if you’re a single mom.
You may not have imagined raising a child or children by yourself, but here you are. You worry, cry, celebrate, and discipline by yourself, and you don’t have a partner to rely on, which can be challenging. This may not be how you imagined raising your family, and you might be a bit disappointed. Acknowledge your strength, appreciate your power and fortitude, and importantly, know when to reach out to friends and family to ask for help.
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Choose something that will bring you joy or fulfillment. \\nYou might take up bike riding, or yoga, or a book club, or even sign up for sewing lessons at a local shop.\\n1-3. Appreciate what you have.\\nNegativity breeds more negativity, and that can stifle your happiness. Instead, look around you, really think about your life, and take stock. Think about your friends, your family, your job, your house, your collection, your hobbies, your health, and your wit, and appreciate what you have. Focusing on the positive will shift your perspective to one of gratitude and happiness.\\n1-4. Define your relationship standards.\\nYou might choose to be in a relationship in the future, and there’s no better time than when you’re happy and single to figure out what you want and need in a partner. Consider why you’re happy right now and what traits in a future partner could enhance that happiness. This is the best time to define what you want, expect, and need in a future relationship. It’s also a great time to concretely lay out your dealbreakers.\\nPerhaps you want your future partner to have a certain level of education or affiliate with a particular political party.\\nOn the other hand, you might decide that a partner who is disrespectful to servers and strangers is a dealbreaker for you.\\nTake some time to clarify for yourself what features of a relationship are most important to you and what ones you are willing to be flexible on.\\n1-5. Treat yourself.\\nYou’re a happy, single woman and you deserve to treat yourself. In fact, you should treat yourself. Splurge now and then, and if your budget allows, incorporate little treats as part of your monthly expenses. Make yourself a priority and reward yourself for being fabulous now and then.\\nSchedule a spa day.\\nGet your eyebrows waxed every month.\\nTake yourself to the movies.\\nGo get that bag that you’ve been eyeing for some time.\\nBook yourself a room at the nicest hotel in town for a night.\\n1-6. Advance your career.\\nYou don’t have to choose between being in a relationship and having a career, an outdated idea that doesn’t accurately represent opportunities for modern women. As a single woman, though, you undeniably have more opportunity to focus on advancing your career, as your time and flexibility is entirely yours. Seize professional opportunities for growth and training, taking advantage of your flexibility. Opportunities may include:\\nYou might be asked to travel regularly or even relocate for a better position.\\nYou might be asked to work unplanned overtime.\\nYou may have several after-work networking functions to attend.\\n2. Nurturing Relationships\\n2-1. Rethink your relationships.\\nHumans are social creatures, and research shows that people are happier when they have an emotional connection with someone. This doesn’t mean that you have to be in a relationship to be happy, though. Your platonic relationships can be just as rewarding as a romantic connection, and should not be overlooked as a source of happiness.\\n2-2. Form a support network.\\nHaving a circle of friends and a support network is a must for a single, happy woman. Women tend to form friendships easier than men, as women are usually more social. And everyone needs confidantes, those people with whom you can share your highs, lows, and true self.\\nSome women aren’t as comfortable meeting people or being social. If you are somewhat uncomfortable meeting people, consider joining a variety of meetup groups or getting involved in a variety of your interests, which will naturally lead you to people who share at least one interest of yours.\\n2-3. Make friends and family a priority.\\nYour time, money, and energy is yours and yours alone. You get to spend each as you see fit without consulting with anyone else, which makes scheduling time with your friends and family all the easier. And just as you need a good support network, it’s important that you be a strong member of other support networks.\\nAsk your parents if they’d like to have weekly dinners.\\nInvite your friends over for a wine tasting.\\nSuggest that your friends or family take a short road trip with you to a popular tourist attraction.\\nOrganize a camping adventure with a group of friends or your siblings.\\n2-4. Plan for sickness and aging.\\nSome women fear being single because they are scared of being alone when they’re older or ill. Because more and more people are choosing to be single, new communities are forming for older, single people. These intentional communities offer comradery, support, and socialization. Having a plan for how you’ll approach aging and illness as a single woman will alleviate your worries and uncertainty, allowing you to be happier.\\nThese intentional communities are not retirement communities, although there are retirement communities for single people.\\nIntentional communities are typically housing cooperatives, or land trusts, or even communes.\\n3. Responding to Critics\\n3-1. Challenge social expectations.\\nMany societies prioritize and even celebrate marriage as the ultimate achievement for women. From a young age, society tells women that they should grow up, find a partner, get married and then they’ll be happy. This might not be the right path for you, though, and that’s perfectly alright.\\nYou can find examples of social expectations everywhere, from commercials for cleaning products to reality television shows to print magazine ads for wedding dresses and engagement rings.\\nNowadays, marriage is usually seen as a union founded on love and mutual affection, versus a financial or security arrangement between two families. Remind critics that a woman doesn’t need to be married to be secure or successful anymore.\\nIf being a single woman is frowned upon in your culture, ask your family to explain their concerns, and be prepared that you may ultimately disagree on what is right for you – and that’s okay.\\n3-2. Defy cultural expectations.\\nYour family’s cultural background might place an extraordinary emphasis on you getting married. If your family routinely asks you when you’re going to settle down, or offers to set you up with someone, remember these cultural motivations before you get too upset with their persistence. Bearing these expectations in mind will help you best determine how to respond to your family. \\nRemember, too, that you might be the first woman in your family to voluntarily remain single and succeed at being independent and happy, which is a foreign idea to some.\\n3-3. Familiarize yourself with the typical conversation.\\nUnderstand that there will always be neigh-sayers who cannot accept that you’re not actively working on finding a future spouse. They will typically ask questions like, “did you give up on love?” or “don’t you want to be happy?” or even, “what’s so wrong about wanting to be close to someone?” These questions usually come from a good place, with the questioner just not understanding how you could be happy without a partner. Preparing stock answers to this line of questioning will alleviate stress for you, and ensure that you respond with a concise, direct answer that ends the line of questioning.\\nFor example, if someone asks, “don’t you want to be happy?” you could respond with, “I certainly do, which is why I’m focusing on myself and my happiness. I am happily, voluntarily, single, am quite fulfilled, and am not looking for a relationship. I really appreciate you thinking of my happiness.” Another option is to say, “I am no more unhappy with being single than you are with being married.”\\n4. Handling Disappointment\\n4-1. Reconcile your desire to have children.\\nYou’re a strong, single woman and perhaps you’ve always wanted children, or have just recently realized that you do, in fact, want to have a child. You might feel disappointed that you’re not in a relationship and think that limits your options. Fortunately, you can freely have a child as a single woman, if you choose to do so.\\nYou have a variety of options that weren’t available to single women even 15 years ago. If you do want to have a child, look into sperm donation, adoption, and even fostering children for the state in which you live.\\nOn the other hand, you might feel discomfort with the idea of raising a child as a single woman. You’re not alone. Almost 20% of women are child free and the number grows annually.\\n4-2. Acknowledge your desire for a relationship.\\nNot all single people are lonely, and not all lonely people are lonely all the time. You’re a single woman, and you might be disappointed that you’re not in a relationship. You’re bombarded daily with images and cultural reinforcements that tell you that you should be in a relationship, making you even more aware that you aren’t. Whether it’s by choice or not, you’re single, and acknowledging that you do want a relationship can be difficult because it makes you vulnerable.\\nIf you’re single by choice, you may occasionally consider that you’d like a relationship. That’s entirely normal. Remember, you’re not committed to being single and can change your mind at any point, but you don’t have to do so.\\nIf you’re disappointed that you’re not in a relationship, consider getting into the dating scene. Join a dating website, join a singles club, or even a hobby club, where you might meet like-minded single people.\\n4-3. Choose your family.\\nYou’re single but that doesn’t mean you’re alone. You are in an extraordinary position to choose your family – the group of friends that you hold most dear. You will support one another, laugh with one another, celebrate with one another, and cry together. This is a family of your creation, and while you might not be in a traditional relationship, you are certainly not alone.\\n4-4. Acknowledge your accomplishments if you’re a single mom.\\nYou may not have imagined raising a child or children by yourself, but here you are. You worry, cry, celebrate, and discipline by yourself, and you don’t have a partner to rely on, which can be challenging. This may not be how you imagined raising your family, and you might be a bit disappointed. Acknowledge your strength, appreciate your power and fortitude, and importantly, know when to reach out to friends and family to ask for help.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You’ve heard the old-fashioned message that you need to be married to be a truly happy woman. Perhaps that was truer at one time, but not anymore. Over half of the U.S. population is single, according to the most recent census. So, whether you’re between relationships or have chosen to remain relationship-free, now is the time to focus on living life for yourself and your happiness.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Focusing on Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to be alone with yourself.\", \"描述\": \"You spend more time with yourself than anyone else, and you should learn to enjoy your own company. One key to being a happy single woman is to be comfortable spending time alone with yourself, understanding that you don’t always need to be around others. You will ultimately discover qualities about yourself that you love, and some that you’d like to change. This process of self-discovery is invaluable to truly being a happy, single woman.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pursue a new interest or hobby.\", \"描述\": \"Being single means that you have more time for yourself. Now is the time to develop your own interests outside of work and other relationships. Pursue what makes you happy, what fulfills you, or what piques your curiosity. Don’t let your work or other people influence which interest you pursue. Choose something that will bring you joy or fulfillment. \\nYou might take up bike riding, or yoga, or a book club, or even sign up for sewing lessons at a local shop.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Appreciate what you have.\", \"描述\": \"Negativity breeds more negativity, and that can stifle your happiness. Instead, look around you, really think about your life, and take stock. Think about your friends, your family, your job, your house, your collection, your hobbies, your health, and your wit, and appreciate what you have. Focusing on the positive will shift your perspective to one of gratitude and happiness.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Define your relationship standards.\", \"描述\": \"You might choose to be in a relationship in the future, and there’s no better time than when you’re happy and single to figure out what you want and need in a partner. Consider why you’re happy right now and what traits in a future partner could enhance that happiness. This is the best time to define what you want, expect, and need in a future relationship. It’s also a great time to concretely lay out your dealbreakers.\\nPerhaps you want your future partner to have a certain level of education or affiliate with a particular political party.\\nOn the other hand, you might decide that a partner who is disrespectful to servers and strangers is a dealbreaker for you.\\nTake some time to clarify for yourself what features of a relationship are most important to you and what ones you are willing to be flexible on.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Treat yourself.\", \"描述\": \"You’re a happy, single woman and you deserve to treat yourself. In fact, you should treat yourself. Splurge now and then, and if your budget allows, incorporate little treats as part of your monthly expenses. Make yourself a priority and reward yourself for being fabulous now and then.\\nSchedule a spa day.\\nGet your eyebrows waxed every month.\\nTake yourself to the movies.\\nGo get that bag that you’ve been eyeing for some time.\\nBook yourself a room at the nicest hotel in town for a night.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Advance your career.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t have to choose between being in a relationship and having a career, an outdated idea that doesn’t accurately represent opportunities for modern women. As a single woman, though, you undeniably have more opportunity to focus on advancing your career, as your time and flexibility is entirely yours. Seize professional opportunities for growth and training, taking advantage of your flexibility. Opportunities may include:\\nYou might be asked to travel regularly or even relocate for a better position.\\nYou might be asked to work unplanned overtime.\\nYou may have several after-work networking functions to attend.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Nurturing Relationships\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Rethink your relationships.\", \"描述\": \"Humans are social creatures, and research shows that people are happier when they have an emotional connection with someone. This doesn’t mean that you have to be in a relationship to be happy, though. Your platonic relationships can be just as rewarding as a romantic connection, and should not be overlooked as a source of happiness.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Form a support network.\", \"描述\": \"Having a circle of friends and a support network is a must for a single, happy woman. Women tend to form friendships easier than men, as women are usually more social. And everyone needs confidantes, those people with whom you can share your highs, lows, and true self.\\nSome women aren’t as comfortable meeting people or being social. If you are somewhat uncomfortable meeting people, consider joining a variety of meetup groups or getting involved in a variety of your interests, which will naturally lead you to people who share at least one interest of yours.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make friends and family a priority.\", \"描述\": \"Your time, money, and energy is yours and yours alone. You get to spend each as you see fit without consulting with anyone else, which makes scheduling time with your friends and family all the easier. And just as you need a good support network, it’s important that you be a strong member of other support networks.\\nAsk your parents if they’d like to have weekly dinners.\\nInvite your friends over for a wine tasting.\\nSuggest that your friends or family take a short road trip with you to a popular tourist attraction.\\nOrganize a camping adventure with a group of friends or your siblings.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Plan for sickness and aging.\", \"描述\": \"Some women fear being single because they are scared of being alone when they’re older or ill. Because more and more people are choosing to be single, new communities are forming for older, single people. These intentional communities offer comradery, support, and socialization. Having a plan for how you’ll approach aging and illness as a single woman will alleviate your worries and uncertainty, allowing you to be happier.\\nThese intentional communities are not retirement communities, although there are retirement communities for single people.\\nIntentional communities are typically housing cooperatives, or land trusts, or even communes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Responding to Critics\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Challenge social expectations.\", \"描述\": \"Many societies prioritize and even celebrate marriage as the ultimate achievement for women. From a young age, society tells women that they should grow up, find a partner, get married and then they’ll be happy. This might not be the right path for you, though, and that’s perfectly alright.\\nYou can find examples of social expectations everywhere, from commercials for cleaning products to reality television shows to print magazine ads for wedding dresses and engagement rings.\\nNowadays, marriage is usually seen as a union founded on love and mutual affection, versus a financial or security arrangement between two families. Remind critics that a woman doesn’t need to be married to be secure or successful anymore.\\nIf being a single woman is frowned upon in your culture, ask your family to explain their concerns, and be prepared that you may ultimately disagree on what is right for you – and that’s okay.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Defy cultural expectations.\", \"描述\": \"Your family’s cultural background might place an extraordinary emphasis on you getting married. If your family routinely asks you when you’re going to settle down, or offers to set you up with someone, remember these cultural motivations before you get too upset with their persistence. Bearing these expectations in mind will help you best determine how to respond to your family. \\nRemember, too, that you might be the first woman in your family to voluntarily remain single and succeed at being independent and happy, which is a foreign idea to some.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with the typical conversation.\", \"描述\": \"Understand that there will always be neigh-sayers who cannot accept that you’re not actively working on finding a future spouse. They will typically ask questions like, “did you give up on love?” or “don’t you want to be happy?” or even, “what’s so wrong about wanting to be close to someone?” These questions usually come from a good place, with the questioner just not understanding how you could be happy without a partner. 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1. Having Mental Toughness
1-1. Challenge negative thinking.
Everyone has negative thoughts from time to time, but having too many negative thoughts can begin to affect your behavior and how you see yourself. If you do not challenge these negative thoughts, you may not live up to your potential and be the person that you would like to be. To challenge these thoughts, write them down, evaluate them, and then respond with a more positive thought.
For example, if your initial thought is “I am weak”, you would start by writing down that thought on a piece of paper. You would then ask yourself, “Is there evidence that I am not weak?” Lastly, you would replace your initial thought with a more positive one like, “I am a strong person. There are areas that need improvement, but I am working to be better.”
You have to practice positive thinking until it becomes natural.
1-2. Focus on things you can control.
You will not always be able to control your circumstances, but you can control how you respond to them. Time spent worrying about a problem is a waste of your mental energy. If you find yourself worrying about something, identify exactly what you are worried about and then develop a plan to solve the problem.
For example, if you are worrying about a big presentation coming up, you would start by writing down the reasons you are worried about the presentation. You would then come up with a plan to prepare for the presentation and address any of your specific concerns. Putting your energy into developing a great presentation is a much better use of your time than sitting and thinking about all the ways your presentation could go wrong.
Developing good habits and increasing your willpower are also ways to help you manage any stress and focus on your behavior instead of the problem.
1-3. Set goals
Set short-term, specific goals for yourself. This will help you focus your mind on one task at a time and instead of thinking about what you have to do next. You will also become more confident every time you achieve a goal.
If you were setting a goal around working out, your goal would be to "finish the next 60 minutes of your workout" instead of "working out for 60 minutes, 5 times a week."
1-4. Deal with setbacks.
There will be bumps in the road. How you handle them will determine if you are a hard man. Accept that setbacks are part of the growing process and stay focused on your goal. Take time to write and/or think about your experience and what you learned. You may ask yourself:
What did I do?
What could I have done better?
What would I do if I could go through this situation again?
What did I do well?
What did I learn that I could apply to my future goals?
2. Being Physically Tough
2-1. Exercise regularly.
Have a regular fitness program that you follow. Try to train as hard as you possibly can. Decrease the amount of rest between workouts and exercise. For example, instead of running every other day, you may run 5 or 6 days a week and have one rest day. If you are lifting weights, you may rest 30 seconds in between exercises instead of resting for 1 or 2 minutes.
Because you are pushing your body hard, it is important to eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep.
If you have not been exercising, speak to your doctor before you get started.
2-2. Train outdoors.
If you only train indoors, you are limiting yourself to a controlled environment. When you go outside, you are challenging your body more. Train in cold and hot environments. Walk and run up hills and trails instead of being on paved, flat surfaces all of the time.
You can also adjust your clothing to make the environment more challenging. If it is hot outside, wear long pants and long sleeves instead of shorts and a tank top. If it is cold outside, wear the least amount of clothes you can stand when you train.
Slowly increase the intensity. You do not want to hurt yourself. For example, you may train in hot weather with shorts and a long sleeve shirt. Once your body gets used to the long sleeve shirt, you can add the long paints.
2-3. Push your limits.
Your body will adapt to your training conditions. You must mix it up and do a variety of activities. Constantly push yourself to get to the next level. If running in cold weather is easy, try running when it is cold and raining outside. If you did 20 repetitions last time, try to get 25 this time.
Do anything that gets you muddy and dirty.
Spartan races, obstacle courses, and adventure races are good options.
If you train with other people, always strive to be the best and outwork the other person.
2-4. Deal with pain.
Pain is inevitable when you are pushing your body. Try to manage your pain yourself. Do not complain to other people about how you feel. Positive thinking will also help you deal with pain. Your pain is bringing you one step closer to being the man you want to be.
Tell yourself, "I can deal with the pain. This is helping me get stronger."
If the pain becomes so severe that you cannot do your daily activities, visit a health care professional to make sure that you do not have a serious injury.
3. Acting Like a Hard Man
3-1. Do something uncomfortable daily.
As a hard man, you cannot be controlled by your emotions or circumstances. It takes time to reach this stage and you must train yourself by dealing with small discomforts every day. The more you practice, the better you will become.
Small discomforts such as taking cold showers, fasting one day a week, or eating a strict diet are a good place to start.
If you are having trouble finding a small discomfort, make a list of the things that irritate you or you don’t like doing. Then choose one of those things work on. For example, if you hate waking up early, start waking up 15 minutes earlier in the morning.
3-2. Choose your battles.
Just because you can fight, does not mean you should. You do not need to prove anything to anyone. Only fight when it is necessary and for a good cause. You should never start a fight, but you can definitely finish one.
Defend the victims of bullying and scapegoating. Sympathize with the victim and tell the bullies to leave the victim alone.
Someone bumping into you or saying something rude is not worth a fight. However, bumping into or disrespecting your girlfriend, partner, sister, or mother would be worth the fight.
3-3. Do not complain
No matter how you are feeling or what you are going through, do not complain about it to other people. If you complain about things, other people will think that you are weak. Instead of complaining, face your problems head on and be brave.
This is especially important when you are in front of other people. For example, if you worked out really hard one day and you are very sore, there is no need to tell other people how hard you worked out and how sore you are. You do not want sympathy; you want to be respected.
If you were up all night working or studying, don’t go and tell people how tired you are the next day. Instead put extra effort into how you look the next day. People will see that you worked very hard, but it did not affect you.
3-4. Stand by your beliefs.
Do not be influenced by what other people do or say. Have your own mind and stick to your beliefs. Always act based on those beliefs, and take action if those beliefs are violated. Your reputation is very important. Be a leader, not a follower.
For example, if you have strong beliefs about being friendly to animals and children, you may correct someone that hit their dog for being disobedient.
If you believe in being loyal and honest with your friends, do not tolerate friends who lie and are shady.
3-5. Speak with confidence
Look people in the eye and speak with conviction. You do not need to raise your voice or curse, but speak as if you truly believe what you are saying. If you do not believe your words, other people will not believe you.
For example, instead of saying, “I think that was a really good movie,” you would say, “That was a great movie. You need to go see it.”
3-6. Know when to be soft.
Even hard men have limits. There are times that your toughness may not be helpful to you or other people around you. You should never be a danger to yourself or other people. Ask for help if you need it. Remember that you do not have to prove anything to other people. You are a hard man because you have spent time working on yourself.
You may need to soften up a bit to comfort a friend, help someone in need, or show humility.
You can be a hard man and still have emotions.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Having Mental Toughness\\n1-1. Challenge negative thinking.\\nEveryone has negative thoughts from time to time, but having too many negative thoughts can begin to affect your behavior and how you see yourself. If you do not challenge these negative thoughts, you may not live up to your potential and be the person that you would like to be. To challenge these thoughts, write them down, evaluate them, and then respond with a more positive thought.\\nFor example, if your initial thought is “I am weak”, you would start by writing down that thought on a piece of paper. You would then ask yourself, “Is there evidence that I am not weak?” Lastly, you would replace your initial thought with a more positive one like, “I am a strong person. There are areas that need improvement, but I am working to be better.”\\nYou have to practice positive thinking until it becomes natural.\\n1-2. Focus on things you can control.\\nYou will not always be able to control your circumstances, but you can control how you respond to them. Time spent worrying about a problem is a waste of your mental energy. If you find yourself worrying about something, identify exactly what you are worried about and then develop a plan to solve the problem.\\nFor example, if you are worrying about a big presentation coming up, you would start by writing down the reasons you are worried about the presentation. You would then come up with a plan to prepare for the presentation and address any of your specific concerns. Putting your energy into developing a great presentation is a much better use of your time than sitting and thinking about all the ways your presentation could go wrong.\\nDeveloping good habits and increasing your willpower are also ways to help you manage any stress and focus on your behavior instead of the problem.\\n1-3. Set goals\\nSet short-term, specific goals for yourself. This will help you focus your mind on one task at a time and instead of thinking about what you have to do next. You will also become more confident every time you achieve a goal.\\nIf you were setting a goal around working out, your goal would be to \\\"finish the next 60 minutes of your workout\\\" instead of \\\"working out for 60 minutes, 5 times a week.\\\"\\n1-4. Deal with setbacks.\\nThere will be bumps in the road. How you handle them will determine if you are a hard man. Accept that setbacks are part of the growing process and stay focused on your goal. Take time to write and/or think about your experience and what you learned. You may ask yourself:\\nWhat did I do?\\nWhat could I have done better?\\nWhat would I do if I could go through this situation again?\\nWhat did I do well?\\nWhat did I learn that I could apply to my future goals?\\n2. Being Physically Tough\\n2-1. Exercise regularly.\\nHave a regular fitness program that you follow. Try to train as hard as you possibly can. Decrease the amount of rest between workouts and exercise. For example, instead of running every other day, you may run 5 or 6 days a week and have one rest day. If you are lifting weights, you may rest 30 seconds in between exercises instead of resting for 1 or 2 minutes.\\nBecause you are pushing your body hard, it is important to eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep.\\nIf you have not been exercising, speak to your doctor before you get started.\\n2-2. Train outdoors.\\nIf you only train indoors, you are limiting yourself to a controlled environment. When you go outside, you are challenging your body more. Train in cold and hot environments. Walk and run up hills and trails instead of being on paved, flat surfaces all of the time.\\nYou can also adjust your clothing to make the environment more challenging. If it is hot outside, wear long pants and long sleeves instead of shorts and a tank top. If it is cold outside, wear the least amount of clothes you can stand when you train.\\nSlowly increase the intensity. You do not want to hurt yourself. For example, you may train in hot weather with shorts and a long sleeve shirt. Once your body gets used to the long sleeve shirt, you can add the long paints.\\n2-3. Push your limits.\\nYour body will adapt to your training conditions. You must mix it up and do a variety of activities. Constantly push yourself to get to the next level. If running in cold weather is easy, try running when it is cold and raining outside. If you did 20 repetitions last time, try to get 25 this time.\\nDo anything that gets you muddy and dirty.\\nSpartan races, obstacle courses, and adventure races are good options.\\nIf you train with other people, always strive to be the best and outwork the other person.\\n2-4. Deal with pain.\\nPain is inevitable when you are pushing your body. Try to manage your pain yourself. Do not complain to other people about how you feel. Positive thinking will also help you deal with pain. Your pain is bringing you one step closer to being the man you want to be.\\nTell yourself, \\\"I can deal with the pain. This is helping me get stronger.\\\"\\nIf the pain becomes so severe that you cannot do your daily activities, visit a health care professional to make sure that you do not have a serious injury.\\n3. Acting Like a Hard Man\\n3-1. Do something uncomfortable daily.\\nAs a hard man, you cannot be controlled by your emotions or circumstances. It takes time to reach this stage and you must train yourself by dealing with small discomforts every day. The more you practice, the better you will become.\\nSmall discomforts such as taking cold showers, fasting one day a week, or eating a strict diet are a good place to start.\\nIf you are having trouble finding a small discomfort, make a list of the things that irritate you or you don’t like doing. Then choose one of those things work on. For example, if you hate waking up early, start waking up 15 minutes earlier in the morning.\\n3-2. Choose your battles.\\nJust because you can fight, does not mean you should. You do not need to prove anything to anyone. Only fight when it is necessary and for a good cause. You should never start a fight, but you can definitely finish one.\\nDefend the victims of bullying and scapegoating. Sympathize with the victim and tell the bullies to leave the victim alone.\\nSomeone bumping into you or saying something rude is not worth a fight. However, bumping into or disrespecting your girlfriend, partner, sister, or mother would be worth the fight.\\n3-3. Do not complain\\nNo matter how you are feeling or what you are going through, do not complain about it to other people. If you complain about things, other people will think that you are weak. Instead of complaining, face your problems head on and be brave.\\nThis is especially important when you are in front of other people. For example, if you worked out really hard one day and you are very sore, there is no need to tell other people how hard you worked out and how sore you are. You do not want sympathy; you want to be respected.\\nIf you were up all night working or studying, don’t go and tell people how tired you are the next day. Instead put extra effort into how you look the next day. People will see that you worked very hard, but it did not affect you.\\n3-4. Stand by your beliefs.\\nDo not be influenced by what other people do or say. Have your own mind and stick to your beliefs. Always act based on those beliefs, and take action if those beliefs are violated. Your reputation is very important. Be a leader, not a follower.\\nFor example, if you have strong beliefs about being friendly to animals and children, you may correct someone that hit their dog for being disobedient.\\nIf you believe in being loyal and honest with your friends, do not tolerate friends who lie and are shady.\\n3-5. Speak with confidence\\nLook people in the eye and speak with conviction. You do not need to raise your voice or curse, but speak as if you truly believe what you are saying. If you do not believe your words, other people will not believe you.\\nFor example, instead of saying, “I think that was a really good movie,” you would say, “That was a great movie. You need to go see it.”\\n3-6. Know when to be soft.\\nEven hard men have limits. There are times that your toughness may not be helpful to you or other people around you. You should never be a danger to yourself or other people. Ask for help if you need it. Remember that you do not have to prove anything to other people. You are a hard man because you have spent time working on yourself.\\nYou may need to soften up a bit to comfort a friend, help someone in need, or show humility.\\nYou can be a hard man and still have emotions.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The hard man has both physical and mental toughness. He knows how to control his emotions. He is not easily influenced by other people and follows his own rules. He stands up for himself and for other people. Anyone can become a hard man if they are willing to practice and train hard.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having Mental Toughness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Challenge negative thinking.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone has negative thoughts from time to time, but having too many negative thoughts can begin to affect your behavior and how you see yourself. If you do not challenge these negative thoughts, you may not live up to your potential and be the person that you would like to be. To challenge these thoughts, write them down, evaluate them, and then respond with a more positive thought.\\nFor example, if your initial thought is “I am weak”, you would start by writing down that thought on a piece of paper. You would then ask yourself, “Is there evidence that I am not weak?” Lastly, you would replace your initial thought with a more positive one like, “I am a strong person. There are areas that need improvement, but I am working to be better.”\\nYou have to practice positive thinking until it becomes natural.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus on things you can control.\", \"描述\": \"You will not always be able to control your circumstances, but you can control how you respond to them. Time spent worrying about a problem is a waste of your mental energy. If you find yourself worrying about something, identify exactly what you are worried about and then develop a plan to solve the problem.\\nFor example, if you are worrying about a big presentation coming up, you would start by writing down the reasons you are worried about the presentation. You would then come up with a plan to prepare for the presentation and address any of your specific concerns. Putting your energy into developing a great presentation is a much better use of your time than sitting and thinking about all the ways your presentation could go wrong.\\nDeveloping good habits and increasing your willpower are also ways to help you manage any stress and focus on your behavior instead of the problem.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set goals\", \"描述\": \"Set short-term, specific goals for yourself. This will help you focus your mind on one task at a time and instead of thinking about what you have to do next. You will also become more confident every time you achieve a goal.\\nIf you were setting a goal around working out, your goal would be to \\\"finish the next 60 minutes of your workout\\\" instead of \\\"working out for 60 minutes, 5 times a week.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Deal with setbacks.\", \"描述\": \"There will be bumps in the road. How you handle them will determine if you are a hard man. Accept that setbacks are part of the growing process and stay focused on your goal. Take time to write and/or think about your experience and what you learned. You may ask yourself:\\nWhat did I do?\\nWhat could I have done better?\\nWhat would I do if I could go through this situation again?\\nWhat did I do well?\\nWhat did I learn that I could apply to my future goals?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Physically Tough\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Exercise regularly.\", \"描述\": \"Have a regular fitness program that you follow. Try to train as hard as you possibly can. Decrease the amount of rest between workouts and exercise. For example, instead of running every other day, you may run 5 or 6 days a week and have one rest day. If you are lifting weights, you may rest 30 seconds in between exercises instead of resting for 1 or 2 minutes.\\nBecause you are pushing your body hard, it is important to eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep.\\nIf you have not been exercising, speak to your doctor before you get started.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Train outdoors.\", \"描述\": \"If you only train indoors, you are limiting yourself to a controlled environment. When you go outside, you are challenging your body more. Train in cold and hot environments. Walk and run up hills and trails instead of being on paved, flat surfaces all of the time.\\nYou can also adjust your clothing to make the environment more challenging. If it is hot outside, wear long pants and long sleeves instead of shorts and a tank top. If it is cold outside, wear the least amount of clothes you can stand when you train.\\nSlowly increase the intensity. You do not want to hurt yourself. For example, you may train in hot weather with shorts and a long sleeve shirt. Once your body gets used to the long sleeve shirt, you can add the long paints.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Push your limits.\", \"描述\": \"Your body will adapt to your training conditions. You must mix it up and do a variety of activities. Constantly push yourself to get to the next level. If running in cold weather is easy, try running when it is cold and raining outside. If you did 20 repetitions last time, try to get 25 this time.\\nDo anything that gets you muddy and dirty.\\nSpartan races, obstacle courses, and adventure races are good options.\\nIf you train with other people, always strive to be the best and outwork the other person.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Deal with pain.\", \"描述\": \"Pain is inevitable when you are pushing your body. Try to manage your pain yourself. Do not complain to other people about how you feel. Positive thinking will also help you deal with pain. Your pain is bringing you one step closer to being the man you want to be.\\nTell yourself, \\\"I can deal with the pain. This is helping me get stronger.\\\"\\nIf the pain becomes so severe that you cannot do your daily activities, visit a health care professional to make sure that you do not have a serious injury.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Acting Like a Hard Man\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do something uncomfortable daily.\", \"描述\": \"As a hard man, you cannot be controlled by your emotions or circumstances. It takes time to reach this stage and you must train yourself by dealing with small discomforts every day. The more you practice, the better you will become.\\nSmall discomforts such as taking cold showers, fasting one day a week, or eating a strict diet are a good place to start.\\nIf you are having trouble finding a small discomfort, make a list of the things that irritate you or you don’t like doing. Then choose one of those things work on. For example, if you hate waking up early, start waking up 15 minutes earlier in the morning.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose your battles.\", \"描述\": \"Just because you can fight, does not mean you should. You do not need to prove anything to anyone. Only fight when it is necessary and for a good cause. You should never start a fight, but you can definitely finish one.\\nDefend the victims of bullying and scapegoating. Sympathize with the victim and tell the bullies to leave the victim alone.\\nSomeone bumping into you or saying something rude is not worth a fight. 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1. Developing Good Habits
1-1. Train optimism in yourself.
By learning to be optimistic, the extra effort you need to put in to become a hard worker will become less severe. Optimists see negative occurrences as short lived and narrowly focused events. Adopt the explanatory style of the optimist to help yourself view both good and bad events in a more optimistic light.
Describe negative events, like a difficult presentation, in its positive light. For example, instead of complaining about responsibility, you could celebrate it as a chance to show your dedication and work ethic to your boss.
Describe positive things in your life as permanent and everyday. This will help you feel encouraged as you try to step up your game at work.
Optimists have also been found to score more highly on tests designed to gauge luck and self-perception. The higher your self-perception, the more likely you'll be able to shore up weak points in your life.
1-2. Identify and oppose irrational thoughts.
Notice when you see only the worst possible outcomes (catastrophizing), minimize your own good attributes and contributions, or any "all or nothing" thinking. Small successes are no less of a success, and you should allow yourself to feel pride at your accomplishment.
1-3. Re-frame problems as lessons.
Positive re-framing will reinforce the positive aspects of your situation and prevent you from feeling overwhelmed. This will also encourage you to approach the situation with a more open minded perspective. Open mindedness will facilitate problem solving, and a sense of having your work situation in hand will contribute to peace of mind, making your work easier in the long run.
1-4. Don't multi-task.
Much research has recently shown that no matter how good of a multi-tasker you think you are, there are some serious downsides to performing many tasks at once.
Multi-tasking impairs your overall performance, so that even if you feel like you are accomplishing a lot, you really might be missing out on important information and cues.
Constantly being distracted with many tasks can leave the problem solving and creative parts of your brain unable to function optimally.
1-5. Try not to complain.
Complaining is a natural part of the human condition, and it's unlikely you'll be able to remove this completely from your life. Be that as it may, complaining without a goal or solution in mind can lead to negative cycles that contribute to depression, poor self opinion, and stress. These will only make it harder for you to put in the time and effort required to become a better, more industrious worker.
1-6. Raise your social awareness.
By intentionally reaching out and trying to connect with people that you work with, you will further develop your empathy. Empathy is a key component of conflict resolution, collaboration, compromise, effective listening, and decision making. Raising your social awareness and developing your empathy will allow you to work even harder with your coworkers, and hold you more accountable to your goals.
Research supports that what scientists call "willed empathy," or the imagining of the pain of others, activates the pain response in your brain similar to naturally occurring empathy.
Admit the limits of your understanding and ask questions to create conditions where you can feel, and practice, empathy.
2. Expanding Responsibility
2-1. Put in overtime when appropriate.
Even if there is something that you would much rather be doing, during busy times you can practice your diligence and show your coworkers your commitment by putting in when necessary. Gauge how busy your place of employment by checking in with a manager and asking how other projects are going.
Be careful not to overdo it. Working too hard can have serious health side effects.
2-2. Culture accountability.
It's impossible for you to address issues if you are unwilling to face them. It can be difficult to take responsibility for your actions, but complete and timely resolution of conflict is impossible if you don't honestly deal with the root of the problem.
Avoid justifications and unnecessary explanations. These are, generally speaking, a waste of time, as there are always additional factors you could list to explain your actions.
2-3. Maximize potential and improve weaknesses.
Avoid minimizing your successes, no matter how minor, and identify areas in which you would like to improve.
Further improve your strengths by joining seminars, classes, and take on roles in the community that utilize your abilities.
Weaknesses can be addressed by interrupting negative thought patterns by doing something else, like taking a walk, admitting your humanity and the impossibility of true perfection, and by finding a mentor to provide guidance and support.
Make specific changes to help yourself be accountable. You might ask your manager to speak about performance related issues privately in the event you are shy.
2-4. Take the initiative.
Jumping on an opportunity when it arrives takes self confidence, and you can build this in yourself by starting with small goals and working your way up to a more major responsibility.
Before you make a suggestion, pause and think if the idea can be implemented effectively. It's easy to be defensive over your own idea, but weeding out implausible suggestions might leave you feeling less self-conscious.
2-5. Build a healthy support system.
Human beings are social creatures. No matter how much of a loner you believe yourself to be, a healthy support system will improve efficiency at work, the keeping of resolutions, and diminish the feeling of being overwhelmed.
Use your support system for recommendations when trying for a new position or if you are asking for a promotion.
Collaborate with your coworkers. You never know when you might need their help.
Try not to compete. This can be difficult, especially since many managers use competition to encourage performance, but constantly comparing yourself to other workers can leave you feeling dissatisfied or inadequate.
3. Maintaining Perseverance
3-1. Practice positive self-talk.
Coach yourself by using phrases that resonate with you. Self-talk should positively affirm your accomplishments and the achievement of your personal best.
Use present tense messages when practicing self talk to remove future worry with positive assertions.
Talk yourself through fears by asking yourself what the source may be and how you intend on correcting it.
3-2. Exercise your will.
The more you strengthen your willpower by training it, the stronger it will become. Approach the topic of willpower with a confident mindset; the belief that your willpower pool is limited will cause you to feel a lack of will more frequently.
One way you can exercise your will and promote general health and wellness is by exercising. The increased activity of your body will also result in a more active mind.
3-3. Imagine your process.
Think about how you will feel as you work on your goal and when you complete it. Visualize yourself being engaged in your work and finding harmony, fulfillment, and pride through it, a common characteristic of world class performers.
3-4. Make time for meditation.
Many researchers on the topic of willpower and perseverance have noted the positive influence meditation has on endurance, focus, and learning. Taking 10 minutes to calm your mind, breathe deeply, and focusing on the present will allow you to refocus and redeem yourself in a good way.
3-5. Review your progress.
Charting your past success will keep you in touch with just how much you've grown as a worker. Self review will also promote more productive discussions about performance, priorities, and challenges.
3-6. Try again when you fail.
The sting of failure is difficult for even successful people to take in stride, so don't feel self-conscious if you struggle while returning to a failed task. Use self-talk to minimize your negative feelings, and begin planning a new way of tackling your goal.
Tips
Focus on one thing you want to do at a specific time.
Don't internalize the negativity of others. Keep in mind that other might try hard to discourage you out of competition or jealousy.
Learn from your mistakes and don't make them again.
Warnings
Don't depend on your talent alone. Remember that hardworking trumps talent in the end. Depending on your talent might lead you to neglect, and lose, your skills.
Don't be arrogant. Once you become a hard worker, recognize the hard effort you've put in and don't let your attitude impede your self improvement.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Developing Good Habits\\n1-1. Train optimism in yourself.\\nBy learning to be optimistic, the extra effort you need to put in to become a hard worker will become less severe. Optimists see negative occurrences as short lived and narrowly focused events. Adopt the explanatory style of the optimist to help yourself view both good and bad events in a more optimistic light.\\nDescribe negative events, like a difficult presentation, in its positive light. For example, instead of complaining about responsibility, you could celebrate it as a chance to show your dedication and work ethic to your boss.\\nDescribe positive things in your life as permanent and everyday. This will help you feel encouraged as you try to step up your game at work.\\nOptimists have also been found to score more highly on tests designed to gauge luck and self-perception. The higher your self-perception, the more likely you'll be able to shore up weak points in your life.\\n1-2. Identify and oppose irrational thoughts.\\nNotice when you see only the worst possible outcomes (catastrophizing), minimize your own good attributes and contributions, or any \\\"all or nothing\\\" thinking. Small successes are no less of a success, and you should allow yourself to feel pride at your accomplishment.\\n1-3. Re-frame problems as lessons.\\nPositive re-framing will reinforce the positive aspects of your situation and prevent you from feeling overwhelmed. This will also encourage you to approach the situation with a more open minded perspective. Open mindedness will facilitate problem solving, and a sense of having your work situation in hand will contribute to peace of mind, making your work easier in the long run.\\n1-4. Don't multi-task.\\nMuch research has recently shown that no matter how good of a multi-tasker you think you are, there are some serious downsides to performing many tasks at once.\\nMulti-tasking impairs your overall performance, so that even if you feel like you are accomplishing a lot, you really might be missing out on important information and cues.\\nConstantly being distracted with many tasks can leave the problem solving and creative parts of your brain unable to function optimally.\\n1-5. Try not to complain.\\nComplaining is a natural part of the human condition, and it's unlikely you'll be able to remove this completely from your life. Be that as it may, complaining without a goal or solution in mind can lead to negative cycles that contribute to depression, poor self opinion, and stress. These will only make it harder for you to put in the time and effort required to become a better, more industrious worker.\\n1-6. Raise your social awareness.\\nBy intentionally reaching out and trying to connect with people that you work with, you will further develop your empathy. Empathy is a key component of conflict resolution, collaboration, compromise, effective listening, and decision making. Raising your social awareness and developing your empathy will allow you to work even harder with your coworkers, and hold you more accountable to your goals.\\nResearch supports that what scientists call \\\"willed empathy,\\\" or the imagining of the pain of others, activates the pain response in your brain similar to naturally occurring empathy.\\nAdmit the limits of your understanding and ask questions to create conditions where you can feel, and practice, empathy.\\n2. Expanding Responsibility\\n2-1. Put in overtime when appropriate.\\nEven if there is something that you would much rather be doing, during busy times you can practice your diligence and show your coworkers your commitment by putting in when necessary. Gauge how busy your place of employment by checking in with a manager and asking how other projects are going.\\nBe careful not to overdo it. Working too hard can have serious health side effects.\\n2-2. Culture accountability.\\nIt's impossible for you to address issues if you are unwilling to face them. It can be difficult to take responsibility for your actions, but complete and timely resolution of conflict is impossible if you don't honestly deal with the root of the problem.\\nAvoid justifications and unnecessary explanations. These are, generally speaking, a waste of time, as there are always additional factors you could list to explain your actions.\\n2-3. Maximize potential and improve weaknesses.\\nAvoid minimizing your successes, no matter how minor, and identify areas in which you would like to improve.\\nFurther improve your strengths by joining seminars, classes, and take on roles in the community that utilize your abilities.\\nWeaknesses can be addressed by interrupting negative thought patterns by doing something else, like taking a walk, admitting your humanity and the impossibility of true perfection, and by finding a mentor to provide guidance and support.\\nMake specific changes to help yourself be accountable. You might ask your manager to speak about performance related issues privately in the event you are shy.\\n2-4. Take the initiative.\\nJumping on an opportunity when it arrives takes self confidence, and you can build this in yourself by starting with small goals and working your way up to a more major responsibility.\\nBefore you make a suggestion, pause and think if the idea can be implemented effectively. It's easy to be defensive over your own idea, but weeding out implausible suggestions might leave you feeling less self-conscious.\\n2-5. Build a healthy support system.\\nHuman beings are social creatures. No matter how much of a loner you believe yourself to be, a healthy support system will improve efficiency at work, the keeping of resolutions, and diminish the feeling of being overwhelmed.\\nUse your support system for recommendations when trying for a new position or if you are asking for a promotion.\\nCollaborate with your coworkers. You never know when you might need their help.\\nTry not to compete. This can be difficult, especially since many managers use competition to encourage performance, but constantly comparing yourself to other workers can leave you feeling dissatisfied or inadequate.\\n3. Maintaining Perseverance\\n3-1. Practice positive self-talk.\\nCoach yourself by using phrases that resonate with you. Self-talk should positively affirm your accomplishments and the achievement of your personal best.\\nUse present tense messages when practicing self talk to remove future worry with positive assertions.\\nTalk yourself through fears by asking yourself what the source may be and how you intend on correcting it.\\n3-2. Exercise your will.\\nThe more you strengthen your willpower by training it, the stronger it will become. Approach the topic of willpower with a confident mindset; the belief that your willpower pool is limited will cause you to feel a lack of will more frequently.\\nOne way you can exercise your will and promote general health and wellness is by exercising. The increased activity of your body will also result in a more active mind.\\n3-3. Imagine your process.\\nThink about how you will feel as you work on your goal and when you complete it. Visualize yourself being engaged in your work and finding harmony, fulfillment, and pride through it, a common characteristic of world class performers.\\n3-4. Make time for meditation.\\nMany researchers on the topic of willpower and perseverance have noted the positive influence meditation has on endurance, focus, and learning. Taking 10 minutes to calm your mind, breathe deeply, and focusing on the present will allow you to refocus and redeem yourself in a good way.\\n3-5. Review your progress.\\nCharting your past success will keep you in touch with just how much you've grown as a worker. Self review will also promote more productive discussions about performance, priorities, and challenges.\\n3-6. Try again when you fail.\\nThe sting of failure is difficult for even successful people to take in stride, so don't feel self-conscious if you struggle while returning to a failed task. Use self-talk to minimize your negative feelings, and begin planning a new way of tackling your goal.\\nTips\\nFocus on one thing you want to do at a specific time.\\nDon't internalize the negativity of others. Keep in mind that other might try hard to discourage you out of competition or jealousy.\\nLearn from your mistakes and don't make them again.\\nWarnings\\nDon't depend on your talent alone. Remember that hardworking trumps talent in the end. Depending on your talent might lead you to neglect, and lose, your skills.\\nDon't be arrogant. Once you become a hard worker, recognize the hard effort you've put in and don't let your attitude impede your self improvement.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a hard worker doesn't come naturally. The qualities and characteristics that are associated with good workers are those of consistency and perseverance. Though some might have a predisposition to these traits, it is only through effort and dedication that you can fully mature into a hard worker making full use of your potential.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing Good Habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Train optimism in yourself.\", \"描述\": \"By learning to be optimistic, the extra effort you need to put in to become a hard worker will become less severe. Optimists see negative occurrences as short lived and narrowly focused events. Adopt the explanatory style of the optimist to help yourself view both good and bad events in a more optimistic light.\\nDescribe negative events, like a difficult presentation, in its positive light. For example, instead of complaining about responsibility, you could celebrate it as a chance to show your dedication and work ethic to your boss.\\nDescribe positive things in your life as permanent and everyday. This will help you feel encouraged as you try to step up your game at work.\\nOptimists have also been found to score more highly on tests designed to gauge luck and self-perception. The higher your self-perception, the more likely you'll be able to shore up weak points in your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Identify and oppose irrational thoughts.\", \"描述\": \"Notice when you see only the worst possible outcomes (catastrophizing), minimize your own good attributes and contributions, or any \\\"all or nothing\\\" thinking. Small successes are no less of a success, and you should allow yourself to feel pride at your accomplishment.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Re-frame problems as lessons.\", \"描述\": \"Positive re-framing will reinforce the positive aspects of your situation and prevent you from feeling overwhelmed. This will also encourage you to approach the situation with a more open minded perspective. Open mindedness will facilitate problem solving, and a sense of having your work situation in hand will contribute to peace of mind, making your work easier in the long run.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't multi-task.\", \"描述\": \"Much research has recently shown that no matter how good of a multi-tasker you think you are, there are some serious downsides to performing many tasks at once.\\nMulti-tasking impairs your overall performance, so that even if you feel like you are accomplishing a lot, you really might be missing out on important information and cues.\\nConstantly being distracted with many tasks can leave the problem solving and creative parts of your brain unable to function optimally.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try not to complain.\", \"描述\": \"Complaining is a natural part of the human condition, and it's unlikely you'll be able to remove this completely from your life. Be that as it may, complaining without a goal or solution in mind can lead to negative cycles that contribute to depression, poor self opinion, and stress. These will only make it harder for you to put in the time and effort required to become a better, more industrious worker.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Raise your social awareness.\", \"描述\": \"By intentionally reaching out and trying to connect with people that you work with, you will further develop your empathy. Empathy is a key component of conflict resolution, collaboration, compromise, effective listening, and decision making. Raising your social awareness and developing your empathy will allow you to work even harder with your coworkers, and hold you more accountable to your goals.\\nResearch supports that what scientists call \\\"willed empathy,\\\" or the imagining of the pain of others, activates the pain response in your brain similar to naturally occurring empathy.\\nAdmit the limits of your understanding and ask questions to create conditions where you can feel, and practice, empathy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Expanding Responsibility\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Put in overtime when appropriate.\", \"描述\": \"Even if there is something that you would much rather be doing, during busy times you can practice your diligence and show your coworkers your commitment by putting in when necessary. Gauge how busy your place of employment by checking in with a manager and asking how other projects are going.\\nBe careful not to overdo it. Working too hard can have serious health side effects.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Culture accountability.\", \"描述\": \"It's impossible for you to address issues if you are unwilling to face them. It can be difficult to take responsibility for your actions, but complete and timely resolution of conflict is impossible if you don't honestly deal with the root of the problem.\\nAvoid justifications and unnecessary explanations. These are, generally speaking, a waste of time, as there are always additional factors you could list to explain your actions.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maximize potential and improve weaknesses.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid minimizing your successes, no matter how minor, and identify areas in which you would like to improve.\\nFurther improve your strengths by joining seminars, classes, and take on roles in the community that utilize your abilities.\\nWeaknesses can be addressed by interrupting negative thought patterns by doing something else, like taking a walk, admitting your humanity and the impossibility of true perfection, and by finding a mentor to provide guidance and support.\\nMake specific changes to help yourself be accountable. You might ask your manager to speak about performance related issues privately in the event you are shy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take the initiative.\", \"描述\": \"Jumping on an opportunity when it arrives takes self confidence, and you can build this in yourself by starting with small goals and working your way up to a more major responsibility.\\nBefore you make a suggestion, pause and think if the idea can be implemented effectively. It's easy to be defensive over your own idea, but weeding out implausible suggestions might leave you feeling less self-conscious.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Build a healthy support system.\", \"描述\": \"Human beings are social creatures. No matter how much of a loner you believe yourself to be, a healthy support system will improve efficiency at work, the keeping of resolutions, and diminish the feeling of being overwhelmed.\\nUse your support system for recommendations when trying for a new position or if you are asking for a promotion.\\nCollaborate with your coworkers. You never know when you might need their help.\\nTry not to compete. This can be difficult, especially since many managers use competition to encourage performance, but constantly comparing yourself to other workers can leave you feeling dissatisfied or inadequate.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintaining Perseverance\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice positive self-talk.\", \"描述\": \"Coach yourself by using phrases that resonate with you. Self-talk should positively affirm your accomplishments and the achievement of your personal best.\\nUse present tense messages when practicing self talk to remove future worry with positive assertions.\\nTalk yourself through fears by asking yourself what the source may be and how you intend on correcting it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Exercise your will.\", \"描述\": \"The more you strengthen your willpower by training it, the stronger it will become. Approach the topic of willpower with a confident mindset; the belief that your willpower pool is limited will cause you to feel a lack of will more frequently.\\nOne way you can exercise your will and promote general health and wellness is by exercising. The increased activity of your body will also result in a more active mind.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Imagine your process.\", \"描述\": \"Think about how you will feel as you work on your goal and when you complete it. Visualize yourself being engaged in your work and finding harmony, fulfillment, and pride through it, a common characteristic of world class performers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make time for meditation.\", \"描述\": \"Many researchers on the topic of willpower and perseverance have noted the positive influence meditation has on endurance, focus, and learning. Taking 10 minutes to calm your mind, breathe deeply, and focusing on the present will allow you to refocus and redeem yourself in a good way.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Review your progress.\", \"描述\": \"Charting your past success will keep you in touch with just how much you've grown as a worker. Self review will also promote more productive discussions about performance, priorities, and challenges.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try again when you fail.\", \"描述\": \"The sting of failure is difficult for even successful people to take in stride, so don't feel self-conscious if you struggle while returning to a failed task. Use self-talk to minimize your negative feelings, and begin planning a new way of tackling your goal.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Focus on one thing you want to do at a specific time.\\n\", \"Don't internalize the negativity of others. Keep in mind that other might try hard to discourage you out of competition or jealousy.\\n\", \"Learn from your mistakes and don't make them again.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't depend on your talent alone. Remember that hardworking trumps talent in the end. Depending on your talent might lead you to neglect, and lose, your skills.\\n\", \"Don't be arrogant. Once you become a hard worker, recognize the hard effort you've put in and don't let your attitude impede your self improvement.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Eating Healthy
1-1. Make a plan.
Think about the way your diet currently is and how you want to change it. It’s always good to start small -- you can’t change habits overnight. It also might help to do it with a family member or friend (or even your whole family). Having someone there to commiserate with and keep you on track can be extremely helpful.
1-2. Consume fruits and vegetables.
Shoot for 7-9 servings per day. Eat the ones you know you like and take this opportunity to find tasty new fruits and vegetables. Look for new recipes and preparations to help guide you. And for fruit, if in doubt, throw it in a smoothie. For vegetables, most can be roasted successfully in the oven at high heats to cook, if you aren’t planning to eat them raw. Some of the most health fruits and vegetables are:
Dark, leafy greens (spinach, kale, chard, beet greens)
Beets
Red peppers
Sweet potatoes
Berries
Apples
Kiwis
Grapes
Papaya
1-3. Choose whole grains.
These are grains that include the bran, germ, and endosperm. Some common ones are barley, oats, quinoa, brown and colored rice, wheat varieties like spelt, farro, and kamut, along with many others. These are going to provide carbohydrates, but in their healthiest form. Keep in mind there are many whole-grain pastas now available, and an array of whole-grain breads that are often delicious.
1-4. Eat lean meats.
This is determined by the amount of fat in a 3 oz piece of meat -- it has to have less than 10 grams of total fat. Turkey and chicken are lean, but some red meats are as well. Look for cuts with “top” or “loin” in the title. Fish and lean meats are a great source of protein. These are important to eat as part of a balanced diet, but they should not be the elements you eat the most. You need to eat more vegetables and fruits than lean meats.
1-5. Drink water.
It is the healthiest beverage around, and provides many benefits to your health. Try for 6-8 8 oz. glasses per day. Black coffee and tea are extremely low in calories, and can be part of your daily beverage rotation if you know it won’t be possible to stop drinking caffeine.
1-6. Avoid processed foods.
These foods are often overly sweet or salty and tend to not contain much nutritional value. This means staying away from foods that contain the following ingredients:
High fructose corn syrup
Anything with artificial flavors or colors
MSG (Monosodium glutamate, a flavor enhancer)
1-7. Consider minimizing dairy and meat in your diet.
Many health nuts believe that both meat and dairy in large quantities are harmful to people's health. They believe that your diet should be an essentially vegan (no dairy, no eggs, no meat) diet that includes plenty of whole grains in addition to fruits and vegetables. Adding in some meat and dairy at times is fine, but they should not be the basis of your diet.
2. Making New Habits
2-1. Control your diet.
If you eat out a lot, think about how you can cook at home to have more control over what you eat. Look through cookbooks and online to find new recipes that sound appealing. Part of becoming healthier is changing your way of eating, and new foods and dishes will be part of that. Cooking the same things you always make and just eating less can be more difficult than preparing something new with fewer calories in the same size portion.
2-2. Eat at home.
Take packed lunches to work or school. For some people, just this simple step can go a long way toward helping them eat healthier and more mindfully. Home-cooked food is going to be healthier than the vast majority of restaurant food, and will not have the same kinds of preservatives or high sodium levels.
2-3. Go to the grocery store with a new list.
Buy the foods you need to make your new healthy dishes at home. Buy ingredients, not prepared or processed foods -- these are typically going to have the same sodium and preservative levels as restaurant food. Even though it might take time getting used to cooking at home, your food is going to be both healthier and better.
2-4. Go through your kitchen.
Identify the foods that you want to eliminate from your diet in both your refrigerator and your cupboards. Pay particular attention to prepackaged and processed foods -- they often have unhealthy preservatives and additives, and can be very high in sodium.
Toss all trans fats. If an ingredient is "partially hydrogenated oil" this is another name for trans fats, and are a major cause of heart attacks and strokes. You will want to eventually, if not immediately, throw out all foods you have with this ingredient listed on the package.
3. Getting Active Every Day
3-1. Exercise regularly
Take stock of your current exercise regimen. If you are exercising little, you have a lot of options to explore as you become more healthy. If you are already exercising, think about how you might want to add to the activities you already do. You might want to start a new exercise class to inspire you to exercise more.
3-2. Start your new exercise program.
A half hour of moderate exercise six days a week is all it takes to start making a difference if you’re exercising little. Keep in mind that you also don’t have to do it all at once -- ten minutes here and twenty there will work just as well.
3-3. Make your exercise program fun.
Don’t do the same thing every day (unless you love it). Walk one day, take a yoga class another, and try new activities. Check with your local gym or YMCA for their schedules and amenities. If you try and do a new activity every week or so, you might find your new favorite exercise routine.
3-4. Ramp up your exercise.
If you want to be a health nut, you need to be doing serious exercise, and moderate walks are not going to be enough. Think about what sports or kinds of training you might enjoy. You will need to do these activities most days and at a rate that allows your heart rate to stay elevated for 20-30 minutes at a time. You should also mix them up with some weight training. Some good options for cardiovascular exercise might be:
Swimming
Tennis
Cross-training in a gym
Boot-camp style exercise course
Tips
Don't feel like you need to change your whole diet overnight. It's okay to go slow. Gradually incorporate more healthy foods, like fruits and vegetables, into your diet, and eating healthy will become a habit over time.[14]
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Expert Source
Lyssandra GuerraCertified Nutrition & Wellness Consultant
Expert Interview. 25 March 2020.
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1. Personality Type Basics
1-1. Get your MBTI results from a reputable online test.
Numerous online tests have been designed to determine your personality type. Search “MBTI test” (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) and many options will appear. Look for one from a reputable site that relies on strong sources and cites the Myers-Briggs research. If you’re willing to pay a fee, take the official Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.
Know that the results of the official MBTI test are not guaranteed to be correct. The Myers & Briggs Foundations gives a consistency rate of 63%.
1-2. See if your preferences align with the INTP preferences.
INTPs prefer introversion, intuition, thinking, and perceiving to extroversion, sensing, feeling, and judging. Does this align with your own preferences?
If you’re introverted, you might prefer alone time to large gatherings.
If you’re intuitive, you likely look at the big picture and see possibilities.
As a thinker, you use logic and facts to make decisions, instead of emotions.
As a perceiver, you’re adaptable and open to possibilities.
1-3. Compare an INTP’s qualities with your own.
People who are classified as INTPs are often logical, objective, rational, quiet, reflective, strategic, curious, flexible, informal, and future-oriented. Does that sound like you?
1-4. Note that INTPs lead with Introverted Thinking (Ti).
This is the first element of the “function stack” for your personality. Leading with Ti makes you very logical and you might learn for the sake of learning. You likely care about accuracy, minute details, and how everything fits together. You can also be very blunt, pointing out the truth even when it might be hurtful.
Because Ti is a subjective function, you might have trouble explaining your thought process and ideas to others.
There are 4 functions in the function stack, and each describes the core values and characteristics of your personality type.
1-5. Understand that your auxiliary function, Ne, is Extraverted Intuition.
This function makes you highly creative. If you’re an INTP, you’re likely bursting with ideas and have a tendency to look for patterns and possibilities. You’re open minded, but can have a hard time making decisions.
As an Ne, you might make connections between seemingly unrelated ideas.
1-6. Recognize that your tertiary function is Introverted Sensing (Si).
As someone with Si, you likely enjoy routines and things that are familiar. You might also be a minimalist and someone that prefers to save, rather than spend, money.
For instance, you may enjoy looking at old photos, rereading a favorite book, or listening to a song that holds a special meaning.
1-7. Know that your inferior function is extraverted feeling (Fe).
The Fe function might make you feel as though your emotions can have a mind of their own. Social encounters can also be awkward or uncomfortable for you. With inferior Fe, you likely have a tendency to make peace with others and avoid confrontation.
Since Fe is an inferior function, you may have a hard time understanding and expressing your emotions.
1-8. Debunk MBTI stereotypes.
Allowing stereotypes to get into the way can bias your typing process. You may have heard that INTPs are unemotional robots, but that’s not true. As an INTP, you might even be highly sensitive and experience intense emotions.
You might also think that INTPs are scientists or mathematicians that wear glasses. This isn’t always the case! As an INTP, you could enjoy art, philosophy, and many other pursuits not related to math or science.
Also, remember that no preference or type is better than another. All people bring value to the world.
2. Self-Care and Emotional Development
2-1. Take care of your body.
If you’re busy with an idea or project, you might forget to eat or take breaks. Set reminders on your phone or alarm so you can make time to check in with your body. See to it that all of your needs are met on a daily basis so you can be at your best! Get enough sleep, eat well, and take care of your other bodily needs.
Most adults need around 7-9 hours of sleep. Teens need roughly 8-10 hours.
Listen to your body for cues! Check in with yourself so you can recognize if you’re hungry, thirsty, tired, or have another need.
Make it a point to maintain good hygiene, too.
2-2. Work on understanding your emotions.
As an INTP, you may find yourself ignoring or not understanding your emotions. Your emotions might even seem other-worldly and mystifying. When you’re feeling a certain way, pause and take stock. Is your emotion based in fear, anger, surprise, disgust, sadness, or joy? With practice, you can learn to recognize and manage your feelings.
Avoid ignoring your emotions because they seem illogical. Take the time to feel them and sort them out—you’ll be better off in the long run!
Talk to others about how you’re feeling. A trusted friend or counselor can help you work through your emotions.
2-3. Develop your self-confidence.
Your personality type makes you both analytical and critical. If you spend too much time criticizing yourself, you could damage your self-esteem. Take time to remind yourself of your positive qualities.
Stick post-it notes with encouragements around your home or on your desk to remind yourself how amazing you are!
2-4. Keep things organized and try not to procrastinate.
As an INTP, you might struggle to complete tasks that don’t interest you. Tasks like tidying up may also fall by the wayside. Be aware of your tendencies and make time to clean and organize your living and work spaces. Make it a point to tackle projects that you’ve been putting off.
Using a planner or making to-do lists can help you stay on track.
2-5. Embrace your strengths.
Because of your INTP mind, you might feel different than others. That’s okay! Instead of trying to fit the mold, accept your uniqueness and focus on your positive qualities.
Some strengths you might possess include: being highly imaginative, intellectual, honest, enthusiastic, and open-minded.
3. Communication and Socialization
3-1. Make time to socialize.
Because social functions can be awkward, you might find yourself avoiding them. If you’re shy, you may avoid talking to people you don’t know. However, we all need social interaction, so make it a point to catch up with your friends and family. Accept invitations to gatherings and try to connect with those around you.
If you want to find ways to socialize, consider dating, joining special interest groups, bonding with people you already know, and even talking to random people.
If you can't find people sharing your interests in-person, you can try posting on an online forum dedicated to your interests.
3-2. Be aware of other people’s feelings.
You probably have a tendency to be blunt, which might be off-putting to others. In social situations, take special care to be aware of other people’s feelings. Watch their body language and facial expressions, and really listen to what they’re saying.
You can state your opinions and disagree with others respectfully without putting other people down.
3-3. Hone your conflict resolution skills.
As an INTP, you likely have a tendency to be a peace-maker. Or, you may be prone to arguing in order to prove your point. Aim for a balance here—don’t avoid confrontations altogether, but don’t start them unnecessarily. Work on speaking up in a polite, respectful manner when something bothers you. Use “I” statements to tell others how you feel while avoiding blaming them.
Healthy debates and constructive criticism are okay, but remember that a shouting match or blog post bashing someone else is not.
Try stepping back and thinking about how your words will be perceived and if they're necessary.
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1. Having a Healthy Balanced Diet
1-1. Eat plenty of fruit
It’s very important to have a healthy diet to help you grow and develop. Fruit should be a major part of your diet, as it will provide you with lots of the vitamins and minerals that you need to stay strong and healthy.
The recommended amount of fruit varies a little by age and gender, but you should generally aim to eat one or two cups of fruit a day.
A large banana, an apple, and a large orange, would each count as one cup of fruit.
Try to have fresh fruit available around the house for an easy snack.
1-2. Get lots of vegetables.
Vegetables are an essential part of your diet. Try to be aware of how much you eat, and ensure you are getting enough. The recommended amount of vegetables varies a little by age and gender, but in general you should be aiming to eat between 2 and 3 cups of vegetables each day. Vegetables come in many different types, and so you should try to get a good balance of the different sorts. This includes dark green vegetables, red and orange vegetables, beans and peas, and starchy vegetables.
Try combining fruits and vegetables with other ingredients to make delicious snacks.
Combine apples with peanut butter or honey.
Dip some carrot or celery sticks into a pot of hummus.
1-3. Avoid too much sugar.
Sugary snacks and drinks are a major factor in unhealthy diets for those of all ages. Kids might be especially susceptible to sweets and sugary drinks, so it’s important that you control your sugar intake to help you stay healthy. Snacks that are high in sugar and saturated fats can cause children to put on a lot of weight relatively quickly.
Limit the amount of sweets, chocolate, chips and other unhealthy snacks you eat.
Try to opt for healthier snack alternatives, such as fruit.
1-4. Drink lots of water.
Water is a major part of staying healthy. Drinking plenty of water provides you with lots of valuable minerals. It also quenches your thirst without all the extra sugars that most other drinks contain. Soda drinks, and even fruit juice, contain a lot of sugar which can have a detrimental effect on your health.
If you're feeling thirsty, try to choose water as much as possible. Aim to drink 8 glasses a day.
For the most part, kids only need to drink milk or water. Choose low fat or non-fat milk if you can.
Try to avoid having sugary drinks in the house as a rule.
1-5. Have variation in your diet.
The key to a good balanced diet is variation and moderation. Don’t think you can only ever eat green vegetables to stay healthy, instead try and have a mixed, but healthy diet. The building blocks of your diet are fruits, vegetables, grain, proteins, and dairy foods. Try to think about all of these different groups and how you balance them out.
At every meal, try to include nutritious foods that will make your body healthy and strong.
The US Department of Agriculture’s “myplate” website helps you to understand in what proportion you should be eating each of the different groups.
1-6. Eat with friends and family.
You should try to eat healthily, but you should also enjoy your food and your mealtimes. Don't eat too quickly, and make meals into a big event. Try to eat meals at a table with friends or family so you can combine eating with talking, relaxing and having fun. Research suggests that families who eat a table, and not in front of the TV or computer, are less likely to be overweight.
Try preparing meals together with your family. It's a lot more fun to eat healthy foods when you helped make them yourself!
2. Being Active
2-1. Try some team sports
Getting lots of physical activity is very important for healthy growth and development in young people. Taking part in team sports can be a great way to get lots of exercise as well as being a fun way to spend time with your friends. Playing soccer, basketball, rugby, or any other intensive sport will get your blood pumping, and make you sweat and breathe hard.
Playing team sports can also be a great way to relax, hang out with friends, and meet new people.
You will learn great skills in team work and communication, all whilst playing your favourite sport.
2-2. Exercise on your own.
Not everyone enjoys team sports, but that’s no reason not to get plenty of exercise. There are all sorts of exercise options that you can do on your own, or with other people, but not in a team. You could go for a run or bike ride, go swimming, or try some dancing.
Activities such as martial arts are not typically team sports, but you will train with a group of people.
Rock climbing is a great way to exercise with other people, but not in a competitive team environment.
Doing muscle-building exercises like crunches and push-ups will also help you to grow strong and stay healthy.
2-3. Get an hour of exercise a day.
You should try to include an hour of physical activity in your schedule every day. Incorporating exercise into your everyday life will really help you to stay healthy and strong. An hour seems like a lot, but you can break it down into smaller chunks and it will seem much easier.
Playing soccer for half an hour at lunch is enough to get you halfway there.
Find activities that you enjoy and you'll discover that an hour of exercise a day isn’t so difficult.
2-4. Cut down on TV and internet time.
Being active means spending less time sat in front of TV and computer screens. Research shows that kids who spend more time sat in front of screens tend to be more likely to be overweight. Try to limit the amount of time that you are sitting around, and find active and physical things to do instead. A good target is to aim not spend more than two hours a day staring at a screen.
3. Looking After Yourself
3-1. Get into good hygiene habits
An important part of staying healthy is getting into good hygiene habits. That means you should wash properly and wear clean clothes. Take the time to wash thoroughly every day, including washing your feet. As you reach puberty you might find you start to produce more smelly sweat, or body odour, and daily showers will be important.
Brush your teeth thoroughly twice and day, floss regularly, and make regular visits to your dentist.
Don’t wear dirty, smelly or and stained clothes. Put them in the wash.
3-2. Get plenty of sleep.
Getting enough sleep is a very important part of your natural development. Research has shown that sleep is just as important as a healthy diet and exercise for avoiding childhood obesity. Kids who don’t get enough sleep tend to crave sugary and starchy foods for energy during the day, which they wouldn’t if they had slept more. The amount of sleep you need will vary a little according to your age:
7 years old: 10 ½ hours a night.
8 years old: 10 ¼ hours a night.
9 years old: 10 hours a night.
10 years old: 9 ¾ hours a night.
11 years old: 9 ½ hours a night.
12-13 years old: 9 ¼ hours a night.
14-16 years old: 9 hours a night.
3-3. Visit the doctor if you are ill.
If you have a healthy diet, and do plenty of physical activity, you will be giving yourself the best chance of staying healthy and avoiding illness. We can only lower our chances of getting ill, and we will all be ill at some point. If you do feel unwell, you should be sure to talk to your parents about it and go to see your doctor.
If you have an infection or a virus, your doctor will be able to give you medicine to tackle it.
Be sure to listen carefully to your doctor, as well as answering all the questions asked of you completely honestly.
4. Having Fun and Building Relationships
4-1. Have fun with friends and family.
Staying healthy shouldn’t be just about monitoring what you eat, how much exercise you get, and how many hours of sleep you manage. Try to incorporate all of these elements into your life, but remember that being healthy and happy is also having fun with friends and family.
Having great friends to play and learn with will really help you to be happy and healthy.
Take care of these relationships and value them.
If you begin to worry too much about your health, or be completely strict with how you live, you may end up becoming stressed and anxious.
Your health is very important, and you should protect it by finding a good balance and still allowing yourself to have plenty of fun.
4-2. Look for role models.
As a kid you will be spending a lot of time at school, so you should try to build strong relationships with the teachers you like and look up to. Having a good connection with a teacher can make a big difference if you are going through a tricky period at school. It's important to have role models in your life that you respect and admire.
As well as teachers, older brothers or sisters and other family members can be great role models.
A role model will help mentor you and give you some useful advice.
You don't have to agree with everything you're role model does or says. Nobody is perfect or right all the time.
4-3. Make time to just relax
It’s important to be physically active, but it’s also important to give yourself a little time to just relax and take it easy. You can even combine relaxation with exercise if you try out some yoga. Reading, taking a warm bath, or just chatting with friends and family gives you time to forget about everything else for a while. It's important not to sweat the small stuff, and to give yourself a break when you need it.
Relaxation doesn’t necessarily means using the computer or playing video games, which while not physically active, do make your brain work.
Try to make time to be away from electronic screens and really relax.
Learning to relax may also help you sleep better and fit more stuff into the rest of the day.
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Vegetables come in many different types, and so you should try to get a good balance of the different sorts. This includes dark green vegetables, red and orange vegetables, beans and peas, and starchy vegetables.\\nTry combining fruits and vegetables with other ingredients to make delicious snacks.\\nCombine apples with peanut butter or honey.\\nDip some carrot or celery sticks into a pot of hummus.\\n1-3. Avoid too much sugar.\\nSugary snacks and drinks are a major factor in unhealthy diets for those of all ages. Kids might be especially susceptible to sweets and sugary drinks, so it’s important that you control your sugar intake to help you stay healthy. Snacks that are high in sugar and saturated fats can cause children to put on a lot of weight relatively quickly.\\nLimit the amount of sweets, chocolate, chips and other unhealthy snacks you eat.\\nTry to opt for healthier snack alternatives, such as fruit.\\n1-4. Drink lots of water.\\nWater is a major part of staying healthy. 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Cut down on TV and internet time.\\nBeing active means spending less time sat in front of TV and computer screens. Research shows that kids who spend more time sat in front of screens tend to be more likely to be overweight. Try to limit the amount of time that you are sitting around, and find active and physical things to do instead. A good target is to aim not spend more than two hours a day staring at a screen.\\n3. Looking After Yourself\\n3-1. Get into good hygiene habits\\nAn important part of staying healthy is getting into good hygiene habits. That means you should wash properly and wear clean clothes. Take the time to wash thoroughly every day, including washing your feet. As you reach puberty you might find you start to produce more smelly sweat, or body odour, and daily showers will be important.\\nBrush your teeth thoroughly twice and day, floss regularly, and make regular visits to your dentist.\\nDon’t wear dirty, smelly or and stained clothes. Put them in the wash.\\n3-2. Get plenty of sleep.\\nGetting enough sleep is a very important part of your natural development. Research has shown that sleep is just as important as a healthy diet and exercise for avoiding childhood obesity. Kids who don’t get enough sleep tend to crave sugary and starchy foods for energy during the day, which they wouldn’t if they had slept more. The amount of sleep you need will vary a little according to your age:\\n7 years old: 10 ½ hours a night.\\n8 years old: 10 ¼ hours a night.\\n9 years old: 10 hours a night.\\n10 years old: 9 ¾ hours a night.\\n11 years old: 9 ½ hours a night.\\n12-13 years old: 9 ¼ hours a night.\\n14-16 years old: 9 hours a night.\\n3-3. Visit the doctor if you are ill.\\nIf you have a healthy diet, and do plenty of physical activity, you will be giving yourself the best chance of staying healthy and avoiding illness. We can only lower our chances of getting ill, and we will all be ill at some point. If you do feel unwell, you should be sure to talk to your parents about it and go to see your doctor.\\nIf you have an infection or a virus, your doctor will be able to give you medicine to tackle it.\\nBe sure to listen carefully to your doctor, as well as answering all the questions asked of you completely honestly.\\n4. Having Fun and Building Relationships\\n4-1. Have fun with friends and family.\\nStaying healthy shouldn’t be just about monitoring what you eat, how much exercise you get, and how many hours of sleep you manage. Try to incorporate all of these elements into your life, but remember that being healthy and happy is also having fun with friends and family.\\nHaving great friends to play and learn with will really help you to be happy and healthy.\\nTake care of these relationships and value them.\\nIf you begin to worry too much about your health, or be completely strict with how you live, you may end up becoming stressed and anxious.\\nYour health is very important, and you should protect it by finding a good balance and still allowing yourself to have plenty of fun.\\n4-2. Look for role models.\\nAs a kid you will be spending a lot of time at school, so you should try to build strong relationships with the teachers you like and look up to. Having a good connection with a teacher can make a big difference if you are going through a tricky period at school. 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1. Building Healthy Habits
1-1. Choose healthy foods.
Your food is your fuel for your body and brain, so pick good fuel! Minimize eating food with lots of sugar, salt, and processed trans fat – stay away from fast food, fried food, junk food from the snack aisle like potato chips, canned and processed food, and pastries. Amp up your intake of fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, low-fat and fat-free dairy, and quality protein like fish, chicken, nuts, beans, peas, and lentils. Choose healthy snacks like fruit, a handful of nuts, some celery, or a piece of low-fat cheese. Include healthy fats as well from sources like avocados, nuts, coconuts, olive oil, beef, and wild-caught salmon.
If you don’t know how to start to eat healthy, talk to your doctor or a nutritionist. They can help you create a plan that gets you all your needed vitamins, minerals, and calories. You can also check out online resources like this one for some guidance.
1-2. Have good eating habits.
Other than what you eat, how you eat can help you stay healthy and fit.
Don’t skip breakfast, which provides your body with its first fuel of the day and helps you concentrate. Good breakfast foods include fruit; eggs; cow, almond, or coconut milk; cream of wheat; oatmeal; or whole grain toast.
Pack your lunch for school so you can create a healthy meal for yourself. If you can’t pack your lunch, stick to lean protein and vegetable options the cafeteria offers.
Be involved in shopping and meal planning at home. You can even help the rest of your family to eat healthy!
Your doctor can tell you if you are in a healthy weight range or not. If your doctor advises you to lose weight, control your portion size, i.e. how much you eat at one time. Use a smaller plate or bowl, keep a food journal so you can track your servings, and fill most of your plate with fruits and vegetables.
Be sure to get enough calories! The average teen girl should eat 1,600 to 1,800 calories a day if you’re not very active and 2,200 to 2,400 calories a day if you’re physically active.
Avoid fad and crash diets. You will easily regain any weight you lose, and these are not good for your body. Always talk to your doctor before dieting, or if you have concerns about your weight.
1-3. Maintain a healthy weight.
Rather than worrying about your weight, think about your Body Mass Index, or BMI. This calculation judges whether you’re a healthy weight for your age and height. You can use this calculator to find out your BMI.
A healthy teen BMI falls between the 5th and 85th percentiles – under 5th is underweight, 85th-95th is overweight, and over 95th percentile is considered obese. Check your percentile here.
1-4. Drink at least 8 glasses of water every day.
Keeping your body hydrated will help regulate your metabolism and purify your body. Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day to stay hydrated.
Carry a water bottle with you and sip on water throughout the day. Be sure to drink water whenever you’re thirsty.
Drink more water if it’s hot out or you’re being active.
Your pee should be light yellow in color.
Boost your water’s flavor with slices of lemon, lime, or fresh fruit!
1-5. Sleep 8-10 hours every night.
Getting enough sleep improves your attention, focus, and mood. It’ll also help your body recover from the events of that day. You might not be getting enough sleep if it’s hard to get up in the morning, you fall asleep in class, you can’t concentrate well, or you feel moody or depressed. Try to get more sleep by:
Setting a regular bedtime for yourself.
Exercising regularly (but not within 3 hours of bedtime so it doesn’t keep you up).
Avoiding caffeine after 4pm.
Relaxing before bed with a warm bath or reading.
Not napping too much during the day.
Avoiding all-nighters, which throw off your sleep schedule.
Having good sleep hygiene: keep your lights low at bedtime to signal to your brain it’s time to sleep, keep your room cool and dark overnight, and wake up with bright lights.
1-6. Exercise
Exercise improves your energy, helps you feel good, and reduces stress. Try to work up a sweat for at least 20-30 minutes, preferably up to an hour. Aerobic exercises – the ones that get your heart pumping and breathing rate up, like running and swimming – are good for your heart and overall health. You can also do specific workouts to target areas of your body, like to get strong abs or legs.
If you think going to the gym is boring, try creative ways to work out. Go for a walk or bike ride or a challenging hike, join a fitness club, take your dog for a walk, or join a sports team.
Use a Wii Fit or a Wii Fit U for indoors activity!
Jog in place or do squats while watching TV.
You can also try looking for HIIT, barre, 7-minute, and yoga workouts on many fitness apps.
1-7. Have good posture.
Having good posture can improve self-esteem – you can literally walk tall! Maintaining healthy posture also minimizes strain on your muscles. There are many exercises that can help.
1-8. Protect your skin from excessive sun exposure.
You should try to get about 15–30 minutes of sunlight every day to improve your health and help your body produce vitamin D. However, too much time in the sun is really bad for skin since it can cause wrinkles and skin cancer. Always wear broad-spectrum sunscreen of SPF 15 or higher when you go outside, and maybe 30 or higher on your face which gets tons of sun.
Many moisturizing lotions also contain SPF 15 sunscreen. This can be an easy way to keep your skin soft and safe.
Reapply sunscreen every 2 hours, or after sweating or swimming.
Wear sunglasses when it’s sunny to protect your eyes from UV light, and the sensitive skin around your eyes.
No one should ever use tanning beds because they increase your risk of skin cancer. Using tanning beds during adolescence also increases your risk of developing melanoma later in life, which is the deadliest form of skin cancer. Tanning sprays and lotions are generally safe, but keep it out of your mouth and eyes.
Avoid going out into the sun when it is at its brightest, which is usually between 10am and 4pm.
2. Keeping Clean, Hygienic, and Healthy
2-1. Have a good hygiene routine.
Taking care of your appearance will help you feel good about yourself, and staying clean is important while your body is changing. Create a routine for yourself that you stick to every day – it might not be the same as your friend’s routine, because everyone is different.
Bathe or shower every day.
Keep your hair clean. If you have oily hair, you might need to wash it every day or every other day. Otherwise, wash your hair 2-3 times a week so you don’t dry it out.
Brush your teeth two to three times a day – after you wake up, when your breath is bad, and before bed. Floss daily and brush your tongue, as well.
Wear aluminum-free deodorant daily, shower after you get sweaty, and wear clean cotton clothes to help minimize body odor. Wear a fresh bra and undies every day.
2-2. Treat your acne.
Keep your skin clean and healthy by taking care of any acne on your face, chest, or back. Talk to your doctor about medications if your acne is severe. Otherwise, try using non-greasy, hypoallergenic skincare products, and a mild face cleanser on a daily basis. Wash your face in the morning and before bed.
Don’t overdo it on your makeup when you have acne so you don’t clog your pores.
Switch to a low-glycemic diet and cut sugary foods to help your skin improve naturally.
2-3. Remove body hair, if you want to.
Whether or not you want to shave your legs, underarms, and private area is completely up to you. Long hair in your armpits and groin might trap moisture and odors, but showering regularly and keeping the area clean and dry should solve that. If you do shave, do it safely and hygienically:
Use clean, new, sharp razor blades and plenty of shaving cream or gel (not just regular soap). Take your time and go slowly.
Do not shave your face. Pluck stray hairs with tweezers or try a bleach, cream, or wax. If you have lots of facial hair, see your doctor and ask about electrolysis to get rid of it for good.
2-4. Deal with your period
Maybe you just got your period for the first time, or you’re trying to figure out how to deal with cramps. Coping with your period can be easier if you’re well-prepared and have a hygienic plan. Track your period in a journal so you can prepare for your symptoms by taking some extra care of yourself.
Change your feminine hygiene product at least every 4-8 hours, and more frequently for heavy flow. On average, you probably need to use 3-6 pads or tampons per day. For heavier flow and at night, use longer, heavier pads with wings (side protectors) to prevent spilling. Change your pad or tampon every 4-8 hours, depending on your flow.
Shower regularly.
Keep track of when your period is coming and be prepared with pads and tampons. You can use an app to help you do this. An average cycle is 28 days, but this varies a lot. Keep a calendar to track the length of yours.
If you have bleeding that lasts longer than 10 days, severe pain that interferes with your daily life, or an irregular cycle, see your doctor.
2-5. Visit your healthcare provider regularly.
It’s important to see your doctor at least every year while you’re growing and developing. They will do physical exams and ask you questions about your health. It’s a great opportunity to ask any personal questions you have about your body.
Ask your doctor about getting the vaccines for chickenpox, hepatitis B, MMR (measles, mumps, rubella), meningococcal, polio, Tdap (tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis), and HPV (human papillomavirus). These are routine shots, but now that you’re getting older, you should take responsibility for your health and make sure you’re being protected.
Choose a primary care provider, or PCP – the doctor you will get to know and see regularly. Consider whether you want a man or a woman, any language needs you have, and whether they specialize in working with teens. Find your PCP by asking around for recommendations from friends or family, checking the Doctor Finder website of the American Medical Association, or calling your health insurance company for a list of providers they cover.
2-6. See your gynecologist yearly.
Visit the gynecologist for the first time between ages 13 and 15, or whenever you start being sexually active. They will do a physical exam of your breasts and body, and ask you questions about your body and behaviors. It’s a great opportunity to ask them questions that you don’t want to ask your parents, and get accurate information that your friends might not know.
Get tested for STIs at each visit if you’re sexually active, or if you have symptoms like itching, discharge from your vagina, or warts on your privates.
If you need a low-cost option, consider visiting Planned Parenthood. Many areas have other low-cost clinics, so research all the options in your area.
You will start to get pelvic exams at age 21 or when you become sexually active. Your gynecologist might also do a pelvic exam before then if you have discharge, pain, or itching around your vagina, if you bleed for longer than 10 days, if you haven’t gotten your period by the time you’re 15, if you’ve missed your period, or if you have cramps that interfere with daily life.
3. Staying Mentally Healthy
3-1. Have a positive attitude.
Your personal health and habits are for you and your well being, not for anyone else's. Don't get dragged down or caught up in the opinions of others. If you know you are healthy, you will feel good about yourself. So be positive and believe in yourself!
Think positive thoughts. What you tell yourself in your head can really affect how you feel and perceive the world around you. If you make a mistake, think “I’m human,” instead of, “I’m such a loser.”
Don't compare yourself to others. That can get you down and then you won’t remember everything that makes you amazing!
Don’t believe that everyone on the internet is as happy as they seem. Sure, everyone on Facebook and Twitter seems to have amazing, glamorous lives. Remember that everyone has problems and struggles, and probably try to appear happier than they really are.
3-2. Express yourself creatively.
Journaling, music, art – do something to express yourself in a creative way. This can help you reduce stress, learn to value your positive attributes, and feel accomplished. Experiment with hobbies and skills, and remember it doesn’t matter if you’re naturally talented – this is just for you.
Everyone can do something creative. Learn a musical instrument, draw, paint, craft, build something, or create a lovely garden.
3-3. Know that you’re beautiful.
Body image, how you view your physical self and if you feel attractive, can be closely linked to self esteem for many people. Having a positive body image is extremely important for you as a teen, since you might feel pressured by peers or media to look different than you do. Work on having positive body image by remembering these tips:
Remember that your body is your own, no matter what it looks like. This is your vessel through an exciting life! Treat it with respect and appreciate it for all its uniqueness.
Recognize which elements of your appearance you can change, and which you can’t. Let go of the things you can’t change. Remember that everyone has something about themselves they don’t like very much.
Set goals to change the things you can change. If you want to lose weight, create a diet and exercise plan. If you feel like your hair is boring, experiment with a new cut.
Compliment yourself every day, at least three times per day. Tell yourself something nice and honest, something you truly feel.
3-4. Develop time management skills.
Between school, homework, friends, family, work, a partner, and personal time, you have a lot to juggle! Developing time management skills will help you get everything done you need to do and not feel overwhelmed. Develop a system that works well for you by trying some of these ideas:
Make a To-Do list for the week with three columns: Have to do, Would like to accomplish (but could wait a little longer), and Want to do (leisure).
Use calendar updates on your phone or GoogleDocs for easy access to your schedule.
Break up big tasks into smaller tasks. Clean the house could break down into clean the toilets, tidy up my bedroom, and “do the dishes.”
Get ready for your day the night before. This way you won’t be scrambling in the morning and maybe forget something.
Keep your items organized by having a place for everything; it’s much harder to lose things that way.
Time yourself to learn how long things really take, versus how long you think they take. Use an app like 30/30.
3-5. Manage your stress
You might be stressed out if you feel edgy, tired, depressed, or guilty. Other signs that you’re too stressed are if you get headaches or have stomach trouble, can’t sleep well, often think negative thoughts, don’t enjoy things you used to, resent other people or the things you have to do, or blame other people for things that happen to you. Minimize stress by trying some of these ideas:
List the things that are stressing you out. Divide them into things you can control and things you can’t. Accept the things that you can’t change.
Make changes where you can. If you feel like you’re too busy to accomplish everything you need to, stop doing your least important activity.
Say “no” to doing things you don’t want to do or don’t have time to do. You’re not obligated to help others if it interferes with your own wellbeing.
Talk to someone, including friends, family, or a counselor. Try journaling just to vent your frustrations.
Try acupuncture, massage, relaxation techniques, or yoga. Though there is limited scientific data on how teens use complementary medicine, some people find it very beneficial.
3-6. Have healthy ideas about weight.
“Healthy” is not necessarily synonymous with “skinny.” Teen obesity is a major concern in some countries, especially the United States, but being underweight and malnourished is unhealthy in other ways. Many teens struggle with eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia, or unhealthy habits like over-exercising to lose weight. If you’re struggling with body image issues, seek help.
Do you avoid eating even when you’re hungry because you’re afraid to gain weight? Do you make yourself throw up after eating, use laxatives, or exercise more than one hour 5 days a week? Have you stopped having your period because you’ve lost so much weight? Eating disorders are serious and often require professional help – teens with eating disorders are more likely to get sick, die from complications, or commit suicide.
For help, talk to your doctor, family, friends, school counselor, coach – anyone you trust. No one who cares about you will judge you; they’ll just want to get you help. Research symptoms and support online in your community.
3-7. Embrace what makes you "different."
It’s common for teens to struggle with questions of sexuality and identity, so don’t feel alone. You might realize you’re gay, bisexual, or an alternate sexuality. Being gay isn’t a disease or something you choose to be – it’s the way you’re born. Embrace what makes you , educate yourself about your questions, and get support from loved ones and professionals if you need it.
It might feel like a struggle to tell other people you're not heterosexual, depending on your culture, values, or fear of others’ response. Confide in a parent, friend, counselor, doctor, coach, or another person you trust. You will feel relieved and happy to be yourself and can start to explore intimate relationships with those who interest you.
Some teens struggle with gender and identity issues – feeling like you were born as a girl but inside really feel like a boy. This is usually called being transgender, or just trans. It can be very helpful to work with a therapist or counselor who specializes in questions of gender, and stick with supportive friends and family as you learn about yourself.
3-8. Reach out for help if you need it.
Many teens struggle with depression, anxiety, abuse, and other troubling concerns. Family problems, physical or sexual abuse, and mental health issues might make you think about self-harm or suicide. You are not alone, and it can get better!
If you are thinking about hurting yourself, talk to someone you trust immediately.
If you're in the United States, you can also contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at any time by calling or texting 988.
Resources about teen mental health are available online. Educate yourself about what you’re feeling, and talk to your doctor right away.
4. Being a Socially Healthy Teen
4-1. Don’t drink alcohol.
Drinking alcohol as a teenager can stunt your brain’s growth and development. Not only that, but studies show your binge drinking now might negatively impact the health and wellbeing of your future children. Stay away from alcohol until you’re 21 – not only to stay out of legal trouble, but so your brain can fully develop!
NEVER drink and drive, or get in the car of someone who has been drinking. If you do drink alcohol, get a ride home with somebody sober, or call a sober friend or parent for a ride. Uber and Lyft are good options, too.
4-2. Don’t use drugs.
Drugs negatively affect your body and your thinking. Marijuana impairs memory and concentration. Sedatives like Valium can make you stop breathing. Stimulants like cocaine put a strain on your heart and can make you paranoid. Opioids like heroin and prescription pain-killers are incredibly addicting and can cause you lifelong problems with substance abuse. Drugs might seem tempting, but they are not worth the legal, physical, and mental risks.
4-3. Don’t smoke.
Smoking is highly addicting so if you don’t smoke, don’t start. Smoking causes more preventable deaths than any other drug, and if you start now, you might find it extremely hard to quit. Smoking is bad for you even as a healthy teenager – it can increase your risk of asthma and lung infections, decrease your ability to work out, damage your teeth and give you foul breath, and make your clothes smell terrible.
You may notice some benefits soon after you quit smoking, such as an improved sense of taste and smell and easier breathing after a few days.
4-4. Be cautious on the internet.
Today, everyone and everything is connected on the internet. While this can be great for keeping in touch with friends and learning about the world, it also comes with risks. Cyberbullying affects many young people. Remember also that anything you put on the internet stays there forever for anyone to see.
Never put private information online like your home address, social security number, or personal details. It’s easy for predators to take advantage of you when they know your personal info.
Don’t upload any photos of yourself doing anything illegal, or anything that you wouldn’t want your grandmother or future employer to see.
4-5. Report bullying.
Bullying can happen to anyone, and it may occur in person or online. Whether you experience in-person bullying or cyberbullying, it is important to report it right away. Some teens become so depressed over being bullied that they harm themselves, or lash out and harm others. It doesn’t have to be like that. Report it to your parents or a school authority right away if someone:
Spreads lies or hurtful rumors about you.
Physically harms you.
Calls you names or often negatively teases you.
Makes negative comments to you about your sex, gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, or disability.
Calls, emails, or approaches you repeatedly after you ask them not to (this is stalking; you can even report this to the police).
4-6. Get educated about sex.
Have an open and honest conversation with your parent(s), doctor, or another trusted and knowledgeable adult; you never know if what your friends and peers tell you about sex is true. Before you even think about having sex, get accurate information.
Sex can lead to unwanted pregnancy and STIs including gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis B, herpes, human papilloma virus (HPV), syphilis, and HIV/AIDS. Some of these are treatable with medicine, whereas others – like herpes, HPV, and HIV – last your entire life. HPV can cause warts and cervical cancer, and HIV/AIDS shortens your life expectancy and makes you very sick.
Consider your own feelings about sex and your personal values. Why do you want to have sex? Why do you want to wait? Think about your religious and cultural views, your self-esteem, and whether or not you’re ready for the responsibility of having sex.
4-7. Decide when you’re ready to have sex.
When you’re “ready” is different for different people. Some people want to wait until they’re adults or until they’re married, while others feel comfortable having sex when they feel their relationship is ready for it. You should never feel pressured, bullied, or manipulated into having sex, and you shouldn’t do it just because other people are. You might know that your relationship is ready if:
You and your partner trust each other and can be honest with each other.
You feel comfortable talking about things like feelings, and the risks of sex like STIs.
You are both educated about sex and can prevent pregnancy and STIs by using condoms or other birth control.
You respect each other’s needs about using protection, and not having sex until you’re both ready.
4-8. Don’t be peer pressured.
You should never be forced to have sex, use drugs or alcohol, or do something illegal. If someone is pressuring you, try responses like these (these can work for sex, drinking, doing drugs – anything you want to adapt it to):
Everybody’s doing it!: “I don’t care. I’m not everybody. And not everybody does it!”
If you loved me, you’d sleep with me.: “If you loved me, you wouldn’t pressure me to do something I don’t want to do.”
If you don’t have sex with me, I’ll break up with you.: “If being your girlfriend means I have to have sex with you, then I don’t want to be your girlfriend.”
4-9. Have safe sex if you have sex.
The only way to 100% prevent pregnancy and STIs is with abstinence – not having sex at all. However, if you choose to have sex, minimize your risks by using birth control and barrier methods to protect yourself. There are many options for birth control, from the pill, to an intrauterine device or IUD, to hormonal rings, patches, injections, and implants. The best way to choose a birth control method is to speak with your gynecologist. Be aware that these methods do prevent STIs.
Use a new condom every time you have sex, and a new condom during the same sex act if you switch between vaginal, anal, and oral sex. Condoms only work if they are used correctly, aren’t expired, don’t break, and are removed properly. Try to use condoms with a reservoir tip.
Even oral sex can put you at risk for STIs, so always use a barrier method when contacting another person's bodily fluids, such as a dental dam, condom, or some non-microwaveable plastic wrap.
The withdrawal method, or “pulling out,” isn’t effective in preventing pregnancy. Neither is the “rhythm method,” where you time unprotected sex with when you’re not ovulating. Both of these carry a high risk for pregnancy and getting an STI.
Get the HPV vaccine! Cervarix, Gardasil, and Gardasil 9 are all approved for girls. You should get two doses of this vaccine between ages 9 and 14, 6 months apart – and definitely before you start having any vaginal, anal, or oral sex.
If the condom breaks or you have another emergency, use emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy. “Plan B,” or “the morning-after pill” should NOT be used as your primary birth control method – it’s just for accidents and emergencies when other methods fail. You can get these over-the-counter at most pharmacies. Take it as soon after the accident as possible.
Tips
If you ever feel like harming yourself, seek help immediately. Talk to someone you trust, go to the hospital, or contact a Crisis Helpline. If you're in the United States, one helpline that you can contact at any time is the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. which can be reached by calling or texting 988. You can also chat with them online by going to this page and selecting "Chat With Lifeline".
In some countries, it is illegal to have sex under the age of 16. If you are going to have sex, when it is legal or you are so very confident that you are 100% ready, make sure you are comfortable and you are not trying to 'fit in' or are being forced. Stay safe.
If your school has unhealthy lunches and you have no other option, try reducing your portion size. Eat less of the unhealthy parts and load up on fruit (most schools in the U.S. have them).
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Have good eating habits.\\nOther than what you eat, how you eat can help you stay healthy and fit.\\nDon’t skip breakfast, which provides your body with its first fuel of the day and helps you concentrate. Good breakfast foods include fruit; eggs; cow, almond, or coconut milk; cream of wheat; oatmeal; or whole grain toast.\\nPack your lunch for school so you can create a healthy meal for yourself. If you can’t pack your lunch, stick to lean protein and vegetable options the cafeteria offers.\\nBe involved in shopping and meal planning at home. You can even help the rest of your family to eat healthy!\\nYour doctor can tell you if you are in a healthy weight range or not. If your doctor advises you to lose weight, control your portion size, i.e. how much you eat at one time. Use a smaller plate or bowl, keep a food journal so you can track your servings, and fill most of your plate with fruits and vegetables.\\nBe sure to get enough calories! The average teen girl should eat 1,600 to 1,800 calories a day if you’re not very active and 2,200 to 2,400 calories a day if you’re physically active.\\nAvoid fad and crash diets. You will easily regain any weight you lose, and these are not good for your body. Always talk to your doctor before dieting, or if you have concerns about your weight.\\n1-3. Maintain a healthy weight.\\nRather than worrying about your weight, think about your Body Mass Index, or BMI. This calculation judges whether you’re a healthy weight for your age and height. You can use this calculator to find out your BMI.\\nA healthy teen BMI falls between the 5th and 85th percentiles – under 5th is underweight, 85th-95th is overweight, and over 95th percentile is considered obese. Check your percentile here.\\n1-4. Drink at least 8 glasses of water every day.\\nKeeping your body hydrated will help regulate your metabolism and purify your body. Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day to stay hydrated.\\nCarry a water bottle with you and sip on water throughout the day. Be sure to drink water whenever you’re thirsty.\\nDrink more water if it’s hot out or you’re being active.\\nYour pee should be light yellow in color.\\nBoost your water’s flavor with slices of lemon, lime, or fresh fruit!\\n1-5. Sleep 8-10 hours every night.\\nGetting enough sleep improves your attention, focus, and mood. It’ll also help your body recover from the events of that day. You might not be getting enough sleep if it’s hard to get up in the morning, you fall asleep in class, you can’t concentrate well, or you feel moody or depressed. Try to get more sleep by:\\nSetting a regular bedtime for yourself.\\nExercising regularly (but not within 3 hours of bedtime so it doesn’t keep you up).\\nAvoiding caffeine after 4pm.\\nRelaxing before bed with a warm bath or reading.\\nNot napping too much during the day.\\nAvoiding all-nighters, which throw off your sleep schedule.\\nHaving good sleep hygiene: keep your lights low at bedtime to signal to your brain it’s time to sleep, keep your room cool and dark overnight, and wake up with bright lights.\\n1-6. Exercise\\nExercise improves your energy, helps you feel good, and reduces stress. Try to work up a sweat for at least 20-30 minutes, preferably up to an hour. Aerobic exercises – the ones that get your heart pumping and breathing rate up, like running and swimming – are good for your heart and overall health. You can also do specific workouts to target areas of your body, like to get strong abs or legs.\\nIf you think going to the gym is boring, try creative ways to work out. Go for a walk or bike ride or a challenging hike, join a fitness club, take your dog for a walk, or join a sports team.\\nUse a Wii Fit or a Wii Fit U for indoors activity!\\nJog in place or do squats while watching TV.\\nYou can also try looking for HIIT, barre, 7-minute, and yoga workouts on many fitness apps.\\n1-7. Have good posture.\\nHaving good posture can improve self-esteem – you can literally walk tall! Maintaining healthy posture also minimizes strain on your muscles. There are many exercises that can help.\\n1-8. Protect your skin from excessive sun exposure.\\nYou should try to get about 15–30 minutes of sunlight every day to improve your health and help your body produce vitamin D. However, too much time in the sun is really bad for skin since it can cause wrinkles and skin cancer. Always wear broad-spectrum sunscreen of SPF 15 or higher when you go outside, and maybe 30 or higher on your face which gets tons of sun.\\nMany moisturizing lotions also contain SPF 15 sunscreen. This can be an easy way to keep your skin soft and safe.\\nReapply sunscreen every 2 hours, or after sweating or swimming.\\nWear sunglasses when it’s sunny to protect your eyes from UV light, and the sensitive skin around your eyes.\\nNo one should ever use tanning beds because they increase your risk of skin cancer. Using tanning beds during adolescence also increases your risk of developing melanoma later in life, which is the deadliest form of skin cancer. Tanning sprays and lotions are generally safe, but keep it out of your mouth and eyes.\\nAvoid going out into the sun when it is at its brightest, which is usually between 10am and 4pm.\\n2. Keeping Clean, Hygienic, and Healthy\\n2-1. Have a good hygiene routine.\\nTaking care of your appearance will help you feel good about yourself, and staying clean is important while your body is changing. Create a routine for yourself that you stick to every day – it might not be the same as your friend’s routine, because everyone is different.\\nBathe or shower every day.\\nKeep your hair clean. If you have oily hair, you might need to wash it every day or every other day. Otherwise, wash your hair 2-3 times a week so you don’t dry it out.\\nBrush your teeth two to three times a day – after you wake up, when your breath is bad, and before bed. Floss daily and brush your tongue, as well.\\nWear aluminum-free deodorant daily, shower after you get sweaty, and wear clean cotton clothes to help minimize body odor. Wear a fresh bra and undies every day.\\n2-2. Treat your acne.\\nKeep your skin clean and healthy by taking care of any acne on your face, chest, or back. Talk to your doctor about medications if your acne is severe. Otherwise, try using non-greasy, hypoallergenic skincare products, and a mild face cleanser on a daily basis. Wash your face in the morning and before bed.\\nDon’t overdo it on your makeup when you have acne so you don’t clog your pores.\\nSwitch to a low-glycemic diet and cut sugary foods to help your skin improve naturally.\\n2-3. Remove body hair, if you want to.\\nWhether or not you want to shave your legs, underarms, and private area is completely up to you. Long hair in your armpits and groin might trap moisture and odors, but showering regularly and keeping the area clean and dry should solve that. If you do shave, do it safely and hygienically:\\nUse clean, new, sharp razor blades and plenty of shaving cream or gel (not just regular soap). Take your time and go slowly.\\nDo not shave your face. Pluck stray hairs with tweezers or try a bleach, cream, or wax. If you have lots of facial hair, see your doctor and ask about electrolysis to get rid of it for good.\\n2-4. Deal with your period\\nMaybe you just got your period for the first time, or you’re trying to figure out how to deal with cramps. Coping with your period can be easier if you’re well-prepared and have a hygienic plan. Track your period in a journal so you can prepare for your symptoms by taking some extra care of yourself.\\nChange your feminine hygiene product at least every 4-8 hours, and more frequently for heavy flow. On average, you probably need to use 3-6 pads or tampons per day. For heavier flow and at night, use longer, heavier pads with wings (side protectors) to prevent spilling. Change your pad or tampon every 4-8 hours, depending on your flow.\\n\\nShower regularly.\\nKeep track of when your period is coming and be prepared with pads and tampons. You can use an app to help you do this. An average cycle is 28 days, but this varies a lot. Keep a calendar to track the length of yours.\\nIf you have bleeding that lasts longer than 10 days, severe pain that interferes with your daily life, or an irregular cycle, see your doctor.\\n2-5. Visit your healthcare provider regularly.\\nIt’s important to see your doctor at least every year while you’re growing and developing. They will do physical exams and ask you questions about your health. It’s a great opportunity to ask any personal questions you have about your body.\\nAsk your doctor about getting the vaccines for chickenpox, hepatitis B, MMR (measles, mumps, rubella), meningococcal, polio, Tdap (tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis), and HPV (human papillomavirus). These are routine shots, but now that you’re getting older, you should take responsibility for your health and make sure you’re being protected.\\nChoose a primary care provider, or PCP – the doctor you will get to know and see regularly. Consider whether you want a man or a woman, any language needs you have, and whether they specialize in working with teens. Find your PCP by asking around for recommendations from friends or family, checking the Doctor Finder website of the American Medical Association, or calling your health insurance company for a list of providers they cover.\\n2-6. See your gynecologist yearly.\\nVisit the gynecologist for the first time between ages 13 and 15, or whenever you start being sexually active. They will do a physical exam of your breasts and body, and ask you questions about your body and behaviors. It’s a great opportunity to ask them questions that you don’t want to ask your parents, and get accurate information that your friends might not know.\\nGet tested for STIs at each visit if you’re sexually active, or if you have symptoms like itching, discharge from your vagina, or warts on your privates.\\nIf you need a low-cost option, consider visiting Planned Parenthood. 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If you make a mistake, think “I’m human,” instead of, “I’m such a loser.”\\nDon't compare yourself to others. That can get you down and then you won’t remember everything that makes you amazing!\\nDon’t believe that everyone on the internet is as happy as they seem. Sure, everyone on Facebook and Twitter seems to have amazing, glamorous lives. Remember that everyone has problems and struggles, and probably try to appear happier than they really are.\\n3-2. Express yourself creatively.\\nJournaling, music, art – do something to express yourself in a creative way. This can help you reduce stress, learn to value your positive attributes, and feel accomplished. Experiment with hobbies and skills, and remember it doesn’t matter if you’re naturally talented – this is just for you.\\nEveryone can do something creative. Learn a musical instrument, draw, paint, craft, build something, or create a lovely garden.\\n3-3. Know that you’re beautiful.\\nBody image, how you view your physical self and if you feel attractive, can be closely linked to self esteem for many people. Having a positive body image is extremely important for you as a teen, since you might feel pressured by peers or media to look different than you do. Work on having positive body image by remembering these tips:\\nRemember that your body is your own, no matter what it looks like. This is your vessel through an exciting life! Treat it with respect and appreciate it for all its uniqueness.\\nRecognize which elements of your appearance you can change, and which you can’t. Let go of the things you can’t change. Remember that everyone has something about themselves they don’t like very much.\\nSet goals to change the things you can change. If you want to lose weight, create a diet and exercise plan. If you feel like your hair is boring, experiment with a new cut.\\nCompliment yourself every day, at least three times per day. Tell yourself something nice and honest, something you truly feel.\\n3-4. Develop time management skills.\\nBetween school, homework, friends, family, work, a partner, and personal time, you have a lot to juggle! Developing time management skills will help you get everything done you need to do and not feel overwhelmed. Develop a system that works well for you by trying some of these ideas:\\nMake a To-Do list for the week with three columns: Have to do, Would like to accomplish (but could wait a little longer), and Want to do (leisure).\\nUse calendar updates on your phone or GoogleDocs for easy access to your schedule.\\nBreak up big tasks into smaller tasks. Clean the house could break down into clean the toilets, tidy up my bedroom, and “do the dishes.”\\nGet ready for your day the night before. This way you won’t be scrambling in the morning and maybe forget something.\\nKeep your items organized by having a place for everything; it’s much harder to lose things that way.\\nTime yourself to learn how long things really take, versus how long you think they take. Use an app like 30/30.\\n3-5. Manage your stress\\nYou might be stressed out if you feel edgy, tired, depressed, or guilty. Other signs that you’re too stressed are if you get headaches or have stomach trouble, can’t sleep well, often think negative thoughts, don’t enjoy things you used to, resent other people or the things you have to do, or blame other people for things that happen to you. Minimize stress by trying some of these ideas:\\nList the things that are stressing you out. Divide them into things you can control and things you can’t. Accept the things that you can’t change.\\nMake changes where you can. 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If you’re struggling with body image issues, seek help.\\nDo you avoid eating even when you’re hungry because you’re afraid to gain weight? Do you make yourself throw up after eating, use laxatives, or exercise more than one hour 5 days a week? Have you stopped having your period because you’ve lost so much weight? Eating disorders are serious and often require professional help – teens with eating disorders are more likely to get sick, die from complications, or commit suicide.\\nFor help, talk to your doctor, family, friends, school counselor, coach – anyone you trust. No one who cares about you will judge you; they’ll just want to get you help. Research symptoms and support online in your community.\\n3-7. Embrace what makes you \\\"different.\\\"\\nIt’s common for teens to struggle with questions of sexuality and identity, so don’t feel alone. You might realize you’re gay, bisexual, or an alternate sexuality. Being gay isn’t a disease or something you choose to be – it’s the way you’re born. Embrace what makes you , educate yourself about your questions, and get support from loved ones and professionals if you need it.\\nIt might feel like a struggle to tell other people you're not heterosexual, depending on your culture, values, or fear of others’ response. Confide in a parent, friend, counselor, doctor, coach, or another person you trust. You will feel relieved and happy to be yourself and can start to explore intimate relationships with those who interest you.\\nSome teens struggle with gender and identity issues – feeling like you were born as a girl but inside really feel like a boy. This is usually called being transgender, or just trans. It can be very helpful to work with a therapist or counselor who specializes in questions of gender, and stick with supportive friends and family as you learn about yourself.\\n3-8. Reach out for help if you need it.\\nMany teens struggle with depression, anxiety, abuse, and other troubling concerns. Family problems, physical or sexual abuse, and mental health issues might make you think about self-harm or suicide. You are not alone, and it can get better!\\nIf you are thinking about hurting yourself, talk to someone you trust immediately.\\nIf you're in the United States, you can also contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at any time by calling or texting 988.\\nResources about teen mental health are available online. Educate yourself about what you’re feeling, and talk to your doctor right away.\\n4. Being a Socially Healthy Teen\\n4-1. Don’t drink alcohol.\\nDrinking alcohol as a teenager can stunt your brain’s growth and development. Not only that, but studies show your binge drinking now might negatively impact the health and wellbeing of your future children. Stay away from alcohol until you’re 21 – not only to stay out of legal trouble, but so your brain can fully develop!\\nNEVER drink and drive, or get in the car of someone who has been drinking. If you do drink alcohol, get a ride home with somebody sober, or call a sober friend or parent for a ride. Uber and Lyft are good options, too.\\n4-2. Don’t use drugs.\\nDrugs negatively affect your body and your thinking. Marijuana impairs memory and concentration. Sedatives like Valium can make you stop breathing. Stimulants like cocaine put a strain on your heart and can make you paranoid. Opioids like heroin and prescription pain-killers are incredibly addicting and can cause you lifelong problems with substance abuse. Drugs might seem tempting, but they are not worth the legal, physical, and mental risks.\\n4-3. Don’t smoke.\\nSmoking is highly addicting so if you don’t smoke, don’t start. Smoking causes more preventable deaths than any other drug, and if you start now, you might find it extremely hard to quit. Smoking is bad for you even as a healthy teenager – it can increase your risk of asthma and lung infections, decrease your ability to work out, damage your teeth and give you foul breath, and make your clothes smell terrible.\\nYou may notice some benefits soon after you quit smoking, such as an improved sense of taste and smell and easier breathing after a few days.\\n4-4. Be cautious on the internet.\\nToday, everyone and everything is connected on the internet. While this can be great for keeping in touch with friends and learning about the world, it also comes with risks. Cyberbullying affects many young people. Remember also that anything you put on the internet stays there forever for anyone to see.\\nNever put private information online like your home address, social security number, or personal details. It’s easy for predators to take advantage of you when they know your personal info.\\nDon’t upload any photos of yourself doing anything illegal, or anything that you wouldn’t want your grandmother or future employer to see.\\n4-5. Report bullying.\\nBullying can happen to anyone, and it may occur in person or online. Whether you experience in-person bullying or cyberbullying, it is important to report it right away. Some teens become so depressed over being bullied that they harm themselves, or lash out and harm others. It doesn’t have to be like that. Report it to your parents or a school authority right away if someone:\\nSpreads lies or hurtful rumors about you.\\nPhysically harms you.\\nCalls you names or often negatively teases you.\\nMakes negative comments to you about your sex, gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, or disability.\\nCalls, emails, or approaches you repeatedly after you ask them not to (this is stalking; you can even report this to the police).\\n4-6. Get educated about sex.\\nHave an open and honest conversation with your parent(s), doctor, or another trusted and knowledgeable adult; you never know if what your friends and peers tell you about sex is true. Before you even think about having sex, get accurate information.\\nSex can lead to unwanted pregnancy and STIs including gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis B, herpes, human papilloma virus (HPV), syphilis, and HIV/AIDS. Some of these are treatable with medicine, whereas others – like herpes, HPV, and HIV – last your entire life. HPV can cause warts and cervical cancer, and HIV/AIDS shortens your life expectancy and makes you very sick.\\nConsider your own feelings about sex and your personal values. Why do you want to have sex? Why do you want to wait? Think about your religious and cultural views, your self-esteem, and whether or not you’re ready for the responsibility of having sex.\\n4-7. Decide when you’re ready to have sex.\\nWhen you’re “ready” is different for different people. Some people want to wait until they’re adults or until they’re married, while others feel comfortable having sex when they feel their relationship is ready for it. You should never feel pressured, bullied, or manipulated into having sex, and you shouldn’t do it just because other people are. You might know that your relationship is ready if:\\nYou and your partner trust each other and can be honest with each other.\\nYou feel comfortable talking about things like feelings, and the risks of sex like STIs.\\nYou are both educated about sex and can prevent pregnancy and STIs by using condoms or other birth control.\\nYou respect each other’s needs about using protection, and not having sex until you’re both ready.\\n4-8. Don’t be peer pressured.\\nYou should never be forced to have sex, use drugs or alcohol, or do something illegal. If someone is pressuring you, try responses like these (these can work for sex, drinking, doing drugs – anything you want to adapt it to):\\n\\nEverybody’s doing it!: “I don’t care. I’m not everybody. And not everybody does it!”\\nIf you loved me, you’d sleep with me.: “If you loved me, you wouldn’t pressure me to do something I don’t want to do.”\\nIf you don’t have sex with me, I’ll break up with you.: “If being your girlfriend means I have to have sex with you, then I don’t want to be your girlfriend.”\\n4-9. Have safe sex if you have sex.\\nThe only way to 100% prevent pregnancy and STIs is with abstinence – not having sex at all. However, if you choose to have sex, minimize your risks by using birth control and barrier methods to protect yourself. There are many options for birth control, from the pill, to an intrauterine device or IUD, to hormonal rings, patches, injections, and implants. The best way to choose a birth control method is to speak with your gynecologist. Be aware that these methods do prevent STIs.\\nUse a new condom every time you have sex, and a new condom during the same sex act if you switch between vaginal, anal, and oral sex. Condoms only work if they are used correctly, aren’t expired, don’t break, and are removed properly. Try to use condoms with a reservoir tip.\\nEven oral sex can put you at risk for STIs, so always use a barrier method when contacting another person's bodily fluids, such as a dental dam, condom, or some non-microwaveable plastic wrap.\\nThe withdrawal method, or “pulling out,” isn’t effective in preventing pregnancy. Neither is the “rhythm method,” where you time unprotected sex with when you’re not ovulating. Both of these carry a high risk for pregnancy and getting an STI.\\nGet the HPV vaccine! Cervarix, Gardasil, and Gardasil 9 are all approved for girls. You should get two doses of this vaccine between ages 9 and 14, 6 months apart – and definitely before you start having any vaginal, anal, or oral sex.\\nIf the condom breaks or you have another emergency, use emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy. “Plan B,” or “the morning-after pill” should NOT be used as your primary birth control method – it’s just for accidents and emergencies when other methods fail. You can get these over-the-counter at most pharmacies. Take it as soon after the accident as possible.\\nTips\\nIf you ever feel like harming yourself, seek help immediately. Talk to someone you trust, go to the hospital, or contact a Crisis Helpline. If you're in the United States, one helpline that you can contact at any time is the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. which can be reached by calling or texting 988. You can also chat with them online by going to this page and selecting \\\"Chat With Lifeline\\\".\\nIn some countries, it is illegal to have sex under the age of 16. If you are going to have sex, when it is legal or you are so very confident that you are 100% ready, make sure you are comfortable and you are not trying to 'fit in' or are being forced. Stay safe.\\nIf your school has unhealthy lunches and you have no other option, try reducing your portion size. Eat less of the unhealthy parts and load up on fruit (most schools in the U.S. have them).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being healthy means many different things for teen girls. Building good habits of diet and exercise is important, and so is having good hygiene. Being healthy also means having a positive mental attitude, and making safe decisions about your body and behaviors. Be healthy to feel confident, look great, and take care of your body!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Building Healthy Habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose healthy foods.\", \"描述\": \"Your food is your fuel for your body and brain, so pick good fuel! Minimize eating food with lots of sugar, salt, and processed trans fat – stay away from fast food, fried food, junk food from the snack aisle like potato chips, canned and processed food, and pastries. Amp up your intake of fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, low-fat and fat-free dairy, and quality protein like fish, chicken, nuts, beans, peas, and lentils. Choose healthy snacks like fruit, a handful of nuts, some celery, or a piece of low-fat cheese. Include healthy fats as well from sources like avocados, nuts, coconuts, olive oil, beef, and wild-caught salmon.\\nIf you don’t know how to start to eat healthy, talk to your doctor or a nutritionist. They can help you create a plan that gets you all your needed vitamins, minerals, and calories. You can also check out online resources like this one for some guidance.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have good eating habits.\", \"描述\": \"Other than what you eat, how you eat can help you stay healthy and fit.\\nDon’t skip breakfast, which provides your body with its first fuel of the day and helps you concentrate. Good breakfast foods include fruit; eggs; cow, almond, or coconut milk; cream of wheat; oatmeal; or whole grain toast.\\nPack your lunch for school so you can create a healthy meal for yourself. If you can’t pack your lunch, stick to lean protein and vegetable options the cafeteria offers.\\nBe involved in shopping and meal planning at home. You can even help the rest of your family to eat healthy!\\nYour doctor can tell you if you are in a healthy weight range or not. If your doctor advises you to lose weight, control your portion size, i.e. how much you eat at one time. Use a smaller plate or bowl, keep a food journal so you can track your servings, and fill most of your plate with fruits and vegetables.\\nBe sure to get enough calories! The average teen girl should eat 1,600 to 1,800 calories a day if you’re not very active and 2,200 to 2,400 calories a day if you’re physically active.\\nAvoid fad and crash diets. You will easily regain any weight you lose, and these are not good for your body. Always talk to your doctor before dieting, or if you have concerns about your weight.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintain a healthy weight.\", \"描述\": \"Rather than worrying about your weight, think about your Body Mass Index, or BMI. This calculation judges whether you’re a healthy weight for your age and height. You can use this calculator to find out your BMI.\\nA healthy teen BMI falls between the 5th and 85th percentiles – under 5th is underweight, 85th-95th is overweight, and over 95th percentile is considered obese. Check your percentile here.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Drink at least 8 glasses of water every day.\", \"描述\": \"Keeping your body hydrated will help regulate your metabolism and purify your body. Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day to stay hydrated.\\nCarry a water bottle with you and sip on water throughout the day. Be sure to drink water whenever you’re thirsty.\\nDrink more water if it’s hot out or you’re being active.\\nYour pee should be light yellow in color.\\nBoost your water’s flavor with slices of lemon, lime, or fresh fruit!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Sleep 8-10 hours every night.\", \"描述\": \"Getting enough sleep improves your attention, focus, and mood. It’ll also help your body recover from the events of that day. You might not be getting enough sleep if it’s hard to get up in the morning, you fall asleep in class, you can’t concentrate well, or you feel moody or depressed. Try to get more sleep by:\\nSetting a regular bedtime for yourself.\\nExercising regularly (but not within 3 hours of bedtime so it doesn’t keep you up).\\nAvoiding caffeine after 4pm.\\nRelaxing before bed with a warm bath or reading.\\nNot napping too much during the day.\\nAvoiding all-nighters, which throw off your sleep schedule.\\nHaving good sleep hygiene: keep your lights low at bedtime to signal to your brain it’s time to sleep, keep your room cool and dark overnight, and wake up with bright lights.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Exercise\", \"描述\": \"Exercise improves your energy, helps you feel good, and reduces stress. Try to work up a sweat for at least 20-30 minutes, preferably up to an hour. Aerobic exercises – the ones that get your heart pumping and breathing rate up, like running and swimming – are good for your heart and overall health. You can also do specific workouts to target areas of your body, like to get strong abs or legs.\\nIf you think going to the gym is boring, try creative ways to work out. Go for a walk or bike ride or a challenging hike, join a fitness club, take your dog for a walk, or join a sports team.\\nUse a Wii Fit or a Wii Fit U for indoors activity!\\nJog in place or do squats while watching TV.\\nYou can also try looking for HIIT, barre, 7-minute, and yoga workouts on many fitness apps.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Have good posture.\", \"描述\": \"Having good posture can improve self-esteem – you can literally walk tall! Maintaining healthy posture also minimizes strain on your muscles. There are many exercises that can help.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Protect your skin from excessive sun exposure.\", \"描述\": \"You should try to get about 15–30 minutes of sunlight every day to improve your health and help your body produce vitamin D. However, too much time in the sun is really bad for skin since it can cause wrinkles and skin cancer. Always wear broad-spectrum sunscreen of SPF 15 or higher when you go outside, and maybe 30 or higher on your face which gets tons of sun.\\nMany moisturizing lotions also contain SPF 15 sunscreen. This can be an easy way to keep your skin soft and safe.\\nReapply sunscreen every 2 hours, or after sweating or swimming.\\nWear sunglasses when it’s sunny to protect your eyes from UV light, and the sensitive skin around your eyes.\\nNo one should ever use tanning beds because they increase your risk of skin cancer. Using tanning beds during adolescence also increases your risk of developing melanoma later in life, which is the deadliest form of skin cancer. Tanning sprays and lotions are generally safe, but keep it out of your mouth and eyes.\\nAvoid going out into the sun when it is at its brightest, which is usually between 10am and 4pm.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keeping Clean, Hygienic, and Healthy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have a good hygiene routine.\", \"描述\": \"Taking care of your appearance will help you feel good about yourself, and staying clean is important while your body is changing. Create a routine for yourself that you stick to every day – it might not be the same as your friend’s routine, because everyone is different.\\nBathe or shower every day.\\nKeep your hair clean. If you have oily hair, you might need to wash it every day or every other day. Otherwise, wash your hair 2-3 times a week so you don’t dry it out.\\nBrush your teeth two to three times a day – after you wake up, when your breath is bad, and before bed. Floss daily and brush your tongue, as well.\\nWear aluminum-free deodorant daily, shower after you get sweaty, and wear clean cotton clothes to help minimize body odor. Wear a fresh bra and undies every day.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Treat your acne.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your skin clean and healthy by taking care of any acne on your face, chest, or back. Talk to your doctor about medications if your acne is severe. Otherwise, try using non-greasy, hypoallergenic skincare products, and a mild face cleanser on a daily basis. Wash your face in the morning and before bed.\\nDon’t overdo it on your makeup when you have acne so you don’t clog your pores.\\nSwitch to a low-glycemic diet and cut sugary foods to help your skin improve naturally.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remove body hair, if you want to.\", \"描述\": \"Whether or not you want to shave your legs, underarms, and private area is completely up to you. Long hair in your armpits and groin might trap moisture and odors, but showering regularly and keeping the area clean and dry should solve that. If you do shave, do it safely and hygienically:\\nUse clean, new, sharp razor blades and plenty of shaving cream or gel (not just regular soap). Take your time and go slowly.\\nDo not shave your face. Pluck stray hairs with tweezers or try a bleach, cream, or wax. If you have lots of facial hair, see your doctor and ask about electrolysis to get rid of it for good.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Deal with your period\", \"描述\": \"Maybe you just got your period for the first time, or you’re trying to figure out how to deal with cramps. Coping with your period can be easier if you’re well-prepared and have a hygienic plan. Track your period in a journal so you can prepare for your symptoms by taking some extra care of yourself.\\nChange your feminine hygiene product at least every 4-8 hours, and more frequently for heavy flow. On average, you probably need to use 3-6 pads or tampons per day. For heavier flow and at night, use longer, heavier pads with wings (side protectors) to prevent spilling. Change your pad or tampon every 4-8 hours, depending on your flow.\\n\\nShower regularly.\\nKeep track of when your period is coming and be prepared with pads and tampons. You can use an app to help you do this. An average cycle is 28 days, but this varies a lot. Keep a calendar to track the length of yours.\\nIf you have bleeding that lasts longer than 10 days, severe pain that interferes with your daily life, or an irregular cycle, see your doctor.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Visit your healthcare provider regularly.\", \"描述\": \"It’s important to see your doctor at least every year while you’re growing and developing. They will do physical exams and ask you questions about your health. It’s a great opportunity to ask any personal questions you have about your body.\\nAsk your doctor about getting the vaccines for chickenpox, hepatitis B, MMR (measles, mumps, rubella), meningococcal, polio, Tdap (tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis), and HPV (human papillomavirus). These are routine shots, but now that you’re getting older, you should take responsibility for your health and make sure you’re being protected.\\nChoose a primary care provider, or PCP – the doctor you will get to know and see regularly. Consider whether you want a man or a woman, any language needs you have, and whether they specialize in working with teens. Find your PCP by asking around for recommendations from friends or family, checking the Doctor Finder website of the American Medical Association, or calling your health insurance company for a list of providers they cover.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"See your gynecologist yearly.\", \"描述\": \"Visit the gynecologist for the first time between ages 13 and 15, or whenever you start being sexually active. They will do a physical exam of your breasts and body, and ask you questions about your body and behaviors. It’s a great opportunity to ask them questions that you don’t want to ask your parents, and get accurate information that your friends might not know.\\nGet tested for STIs at each visit if you’re sexually active, or if you have symptoms like itching, discharge from your vagina, or warts on your privates.\\nIf you need a low-cost option, consider visiting Planned Parenthood. Many areas have other low-cost clinics, so research all the options in your area.\\nYou will start to get pelvic exams at age 21 or when you become sexually active. Your gynecologist might also do a pelvic exam before then if you have discharge, pain, or itching around your vagina, if you bleed for longer than 10 days, if you haven’t gotten your period by the time you’re 15, if you’ve missed your period, or if you have cramps that interfere with daily life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Staying Mentally Healthy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have a positive attitude.\", \"描述\": \"Your personal health and habits are for you and your well being, not for anyone else's. Don't get dragged down or caught up in the opinions of others. If you know you are healthy, you will feel good about yourself. So be positive and believe in yourself!\\n\\nThink positive thoughts. What you tell yourself in your head can really affect how you feel and perceive the world around you. If you make a mistake, think “I’m human,” instead of, “I’m such a loser.”\\nDon't compare yourself to others. That can get you down and then you won’t remember everything that makes you amazing!\\nDon’t believe that everyone on the internet is as happy as they seem. Sure, everyone on Facebook and Twitter seems to have amazing, glamorous lives. Remember that everyone has problems and struggles, and probably try to appear happier than they really are.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Express yourself creatively.\", \"描述\": \"Journaling, music, art – do something to express yourself in a creative way. This can help you reduce stress, learn to value your positive attributes, and feel accomplished. Experiment with hobbies and skills, and remember it doesn’t matter if you’re naturally talented – this is just for you.\\nEveryone can do something creative. Learn a musical instrument, draw, paint, craft, build something, or create a lovely garden.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know that you’re beautiful.\", \"描述\": \"Body image, how you view your physical self and if you feel attractive, can be closely linked to self esteem for many people. Having a positive body image is extremely important for you as a teen, since you might feel pressured by peers or media to look different than you do. Work on having positive body image by remembering these tips:\\nRemember that your body is your own, no matter what it looks like. This is your vessel through an exciting life! Treat it with respect and appreciate it for all its uniqueness.\\nRecognize which elements of your appearance you can change, and which you can’t. Let go of the things you can’t change. Remember that everyone has something about themselves they don’t like very much.\\nSet goals to change the things you can change. If you want to lose weight, create a diet and exercise plan. If you feel like your hair is boring, experiment with a new cut.\\nCompliment yourself every day, at least three times per day. Tell yourself something nice and honest, something you truly feel.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Develop time management skills.\", \"描述\": \"Between school, homework, friends, family, work, a partner, and personal time, you have a lot to juggle! Developing time management skills will help you get everything done you need to do and not feel overwhelmed. Develop a system that works well for you by trying some of these ideas:\\nMake a To-Do list for the week with three columns: Have to do, Would like to accomplish (but could wait a little longer), and Want to do (leisure).\\nUse calendar updates on your phone or GoogleDocs for easy access to your schedule.\\nBreak up big tasks into smaller tasks. Clean the house could break down into clean the toilets, tidy up my bedroom, and “do the dishes.”\\nGet ready for your day the night before. This way you won’t be scrambling in the morning and maybe forget something.\\nKeep your items organized by having a place for everything; it’s much harder to lose things that way.\\nTime yourself to learn how long things really take, versus how long you think they take. Use an app like 30/30.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Manage your stress\", \"描述\": \"You might be stressed out if you feel edgy, tired, depressed, or guilty. Other signs that you’re too stressed are if you get headaches or have stomach trouble, can’t sleep well, often think negative thoughts, don’t enjoy things you used to, resent other people or the things you have to do, or blame other people for things that happen to you. Minimize stress by trying some of these ideas:\\nList the things that are stressing you out. Divide them into things you can control and things you can’t. Accept the things that you can’t change.\\nMake changes where you can. If you feel like you’re too busy to accomplish everything you need to, stop doing your least important activity.\\nSay “no” to doing things you don’t want to do or don’t have time to do. You’re not obligated to help others if it interferes with your own wellbeing.\\nTalk to someone, including friends, family, or a counselor. Try journaling just to vent your frustrations.\\nTry acupuncture, massage, relaxation techniques, or yoga. Though there is limited scientific data on how teens use complementary medicine, some people find it very beneficial.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Have healthy ideas about weight.\", \"描述\": \"“Healthy” is not necessarily synonymous with “skinny.” Teen obesity is a major concern in some countries, especially the United States, but being underweight and malnourished is unhealthy in other ways. Many teens struggle with eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia, or unhealthy habits like over-exercising to lose weight. If you’re struggling with body image issues, seek help.\\nDo you avoid eating even when you’re hungry because you’re afraid to gain weight? Do you make yourself throw up after eating, use laxatives, or exercise more than one hour 5 days a week? Have you stopped having your period because you’ve lost so much weight? Eating disorders are serious and often require professional help – teens with eating disorders are more likely to get sick, die from complications, or commit suicide.\\nFor help, talk to your doctor, family, friends, school counselor, coach – anyone you trust. No one who cares about you will judge you; they’ll just want to get you help. Research symptoms and support online in your community.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Embrace what makes you \\\"different.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"It’s common for teens to struggle with questions of sexuality and identity, so don’t feel alone. You might realize you’re gay, bisexual, or an alternate sexuality. Being gay isn’t a disease or something you choose to be – it’s the way you’re born. Embrace what makes you , educate yourself about your questions, and get support from loved ones and professionals if you need it.\\nIt might feel like a struggle to tell other people you're not heterosexual, depending on your culture, values, or fear of others’ response. Confide in a parent, friend, counselor, doctor, coach, or another person you trust. You will feel relieved and happy to be yourself and can start to explore intimate relationships with those who interest you.\\nSome teens struggle with gender and identity issues – feeling like you were born as a girl but inside really feel like a boy. This is usually called being transgender, or just trans. It can be very helpful to work with a therapist or counselor who specializes in questions of gender, and stick with supportive friends and family as you learn about yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Reach out for help if you need it.\", \"描述\": \"Many teens struggle with depression, anxiety, abuse, and other troubling concerns. Family problems, physical or sexual abuse, and mental health issues might make you think about self-harm or suicide. You are not alone, and it can get better!\\nIf you are thinking about hurting yourself, talk to someone you trust immediately.\\nIf you're in the United States, you can also contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at any time by calling or texting 988.\\nResources about teen mental health are available online. Educate yourself about what you’re feeling, and talk to your doctor right away.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Being a Socially Healthy Teen\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t drink alcohol.\", \"描述\": \"Drinking alcohol as a teenager can stunt your brain’s growth and development. Not only that, but studies show your binge drinking now might negatively impact the health and wellbeing of your future children. Stay away from alcohol until you’re 21 – not only to stay out of legal trouble, but so your brain can fully develop!\\nNEVER drink and drive, or get in the car of someone who has been drinking. If you do drink alcohol, get a ride home with somebody sober, or call a sober friend or parent for a ride. Uber and Lyft are good options, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t use drugs.\", \"描述\": \"Drugs negatively affect your body and your thinking. Marijuana impairs memory and concentration. Sedatives like Valium can make you stop breathing. Stimulants like cocaine put a strain on your heart and can make you paranoid. Opioids like heroin and prescription pain-killers are incredibly addicting and can cause you lifelong problems with substance abuse. Drugs might seem tempting, but they are not worth the legal, physical, and mental risks.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don’t smoke.\", \"描述\": \"Smoking is highly addicting so if you don’t smoke, don’t start. Smoking causes more preventable deaths than any other drug, and if you start now, you might find it extremely hard to quit. Smoking is bad for you even as a healthy teenager – it can increase your risk of asthma and lung infections, decrease your ability to work out, damage your teeth and give you foul breath, and make your clothes smell terrible.\\nYou may notice some benefits soon after you quit smoking, such as an improved sense of taste and smell and easier breathing after a few days.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be cautious on the internet.\", \"描述\": \"Today, everyone and everything is connected on the internet. While this can be great for keeping in touch with friends and learning about the world, it also comes with risks. Cyberbullying affects many young people. Remember also that anything you put on the internet stays there forever for anyone to see.\\nNever put private information online like your home address, social security number, or personal details. It’s easy for predators to take advantage of you when they know your personal info.\\nDon’t upload any photos of yourself doing anything illegal, or anything that you wouldn’t want your grandmother or future employer to see.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Report bullying.\", \"描述\": \"Bullying can happen to anyone, and it may occur in person or online. Whether you experience in-person bullying or cyberbullying, it is important to report it right away. Some teens become so depressed over being bullied that they harm themselves, or lash out and harm others. It doesn’t have to be like that. Report it to your parents or a school authority right away if someone:\\nSpreads lies or hurtful rumors about you.\\nPhysically harms you.\\nCalls you names or often negatively teases you.\\nMakes negative comments to you about your sex, gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, or disability.\\nCalls, emails, or approaches you repeatedly after you ask them not to (this is stalking; you can even report this to the police).\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get educated about sex.\", \"描述\": \"Have an open and honest conversation with your parent(s), doctor, or another trusted and knowledgeable adult; you never know if what your friends and peers tell you about sex is true. Before you even think about having sex, get accurate information.\\nSex can lead to unwanted pregnancy and STIs including gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis B, herpes, human papilloma virus (HPV), syphilis, and HIV/AIDS. Some of these are treatable with medicine, whereas others – like herpes, HPV, and HIV – last your entire life. HPV can cause warts and cervical cancer, and HIV/AIDS shortens your life expectancy and makes you very sick.\\nConsider your own feelings about sex and your personal values. Why do you want to have sex? Why do you want to wait? Think about your religious and cultural views, your self-esteem, and whether or not you’re ready for the responsibility of having sex.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Decide when you’re ready to have sex.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re “ready” is different for different people. Some people want to wait until they’re adults or until they’re married, while others feel comfortable having sex when they feel their relationship is ready for it. You should never feel pressured, bullied, or manipulated into having sex, and you shouldn’t do it just because other people are. You might know that your relationship is ready if:\\nYou and your partner trust each other and can be honest with each other.\\nYou feel comfortable talking about things like feelings, and the risks of sex like STIs.\\nYou are both educated about sex and can prevent pregnancy and STIs by using condoms or other birth control.\\nYou respect each other’s needs about using protection, and not having sex until you’re both ready.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don’t be peer pressured.\", \"描述\": \"You should never be forced to have sex, use drugs or alcohol, or do something illegal. If someone is pressuring you, try responses like these (these can work for sex, drinking, doing drugs – anything you want to adapt it to):\\n\\nEverybody’s doing it!: “I don’t care. I’m not everybody. And not everybody does it!”\\nIf you loved me, you’d sleep with me.: “If you loved me, you wouldn’t pressure me to do something I don’t want to do.”\\nIf you don’t have sex with me, I’ll break up with you.: “If being your girlfriend means I have to have sex with you, then I don’t want to be your girlfriend.”\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Have safe sex if you have sex.\", \"描述\": \"The only way to 100% prevent pregnancy and STIs is with abstinence – not having sex at all. However, if you choose to have sex, minimize your risks by using birth control and barrier methods to protect yourself. There are many options for birth control, from the pill, to an intrauterine device or IUD, to hormonal rings, patches, injections, and implants. The best way to choose a birth control method is to speak with your gynecologist. Be aware that these methods do prevent STIs.\\nUse a new condom every time you have sex, and a new condom during the same sex act if you switch between vaginal, anal, and oral sex. Condoms only work if they are used correctly, aren’t expired, don’t break, and are removed properly. Try to use condoms with a reservoir tip.\\nEven oral sex can put you at risk for STIs, so always use a barrier method when contacting another person's bodily fluids, such as a dental dam, condom, or some non-microwaveable plastic wrap.\\nThe withdrawal method, or “pulling out,” isn’t effective in preventing pregnancy. Neither is the “rhythm method,” where you time unprotected sex with when you’re not ovulating. Both of these carry a high risk for pregnancy and getting an STI.\\nGet the HPV vaccine! Cervarix, Gardasil, and Gardasil 9 are all approved for girls. You should get two doses of this vaccine between ages 9 and 14, 6 months apart – and definitely before you start having any vaginal, anal, or oral sex.\\nIf the condom breaks or you have another emergency, use emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy. “Plan B,” or “the morning-after pill” should NOT be used as your primary birth control method – it’s just for accidents and emergencies when other methods fail. You can get these over-the-counter at most pharmacies. Take it as soon after the accident as possible.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you ever feel like harming yourself, seek help immediately. Talk to someone you trust, go to the hospital, or contact a Crisis Helpline. If you're in the United States, one helpline that you can contact at any time is the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. which can be reached by calling or texting 988. You can also chat with them online by going to this page and selecting \\\"Chat With Lifeline\\\".\\n\", \"In some countries, it is illegal to have sex under the age of 16. If you are going to have sex, when it is legal or you are so very confident that you are 100% ready, make sure you are comfortable and you are not trying to 'fit in' or are being forced. Stay safe.\\n\", \"If your school has unhealthy lunches and you have no other option, try reducing your portion size. Eat less of the unhealthy parts and load up on fruit (most schools in the U.S. have them).\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Being Physically Healthy
1-1. Start eating healthier.
Eating healthy is really important if you want to be a healthy teen. You don't need to go on a diet, just pay attention to what you're putting in your body.
If you only ever eat sugary breakfast cereals and candy bars you aren't going to be healthy. Depending on your body and what works best for you, you can eat three meals a day or 5-6 mini-meals a day. NEVER skip meals. Try healthy alternatives, instead of having a bowl of ice-cream, opt for a frozen yogurt. Or try having apple slices instead of potato chips. Try to replace processed foods, especially those which contained added sodium and sugar, with whole natural foods like fruits and vegetables.
Drink more water. This is basically the most important thing of all. If you drink more water you will be much healthier. It flushes the toxins out of your body and gives your skin a healthy glow. It also keeps your skin hydrated and helps prevent spots. It also helps if you have acne. As a rule of thumb, try to drink a lot to the point where your urine is almost completely clear. As a rule of thumb, try drinking half of your body weight in water everyday.
1-2. Start exercising more.
Whether it's walking in the park, or doing a couple of crunches do at least 30 minutes of physical activity several times a week.
You should not exercise every day, when you work out you break your muscles down. It's the rebuilding that makes them stronger. If you don't give them time to rebuild, you're going to seriously hurt yourself. Try working out for 6 days a week and give yourself 2 days to rest and recuperate.
Exercise will make you stronger and tone your muscles. You can go to the gym and swim or run on the treadmill, buy a few work out DVDs, or just go for a jog around the block.
Whatever it is, exercising will make you healthier and happier about your body. It also releases oxytocin which helps reduces stress and calm the mind!
1-3. Catch up on your sleep.
During puberty you'll find you need more sleep than you did when you were younger. Sure it's tempting to stay up late chatting with friends on the phone or computer, but the next morning you'll be miserable
You need to get a minimum of 8 hours of sleep every single night. To find out how many hours you personally should be sleeping, on a weekend go to bed at the time you do on a school night and don't set your alarm. When you wake up count how many hours you were asleep and get that many hours every night.
It may be tough if you get back late and have to wake up early on a normal school day, but if you put the extra effort in of an early night you will feel much more refreshed the next morning. This will aid your concentration and you will be in a much happier and friendly mood. Also try to get the same amount of sleep everyday so that your body is adjusted to it.
2. Taking Care of Hygiene
2-1. Learn about hygiene basics.
The more you understand about hygiene the more likely you are to follow the rules on it!
2-2. Take showers everyday.
No, not every other day: every day. Because of puberty, your sweat glands are becoming more active, and are creating different chemicals that cause sweat to turn into a disgusting odor.
So, to make sure you're getting rid of all this smelly odor,you should use a mild soap and warm water! Even if it's hot outside, you need to shower in warm water, because that opens up your pores which means you get to clean more of that smell off of you.
Then rinse off in cold water to shut your pores and eliminate the amount of bacteria that makes you stink.
2-3. Wear clean clothing and apply deodorant to your now clean armpits.
Boys, that means changing your socks and underwear every day. Girls, that means washing your bra every day if your active or every other day if you weren't very active.
2-4. Brush your teeth two times a day.
Any more than this can wear down your enamel, weakening your teeth. When brushing your teeth, hold your brush at an angle so it lines up with your gum line.
Brush back and forth making sure to get every single tooth. Be sure to use a soft bristle brush so you don't damage your gums. Use your brush or a tongue scraper to get rid of all the bacteria on your tongue. If you don't know this, bad breath mostly comes from either poor eating habits or poor brushing habits.
After you brush for floss and use a good mouthwash. Though you should floss twice a day, if you're only going to floss once make it at night so you don't have pieces of food rotting between your teeth all night.
Mouth wash and brushing your teeth alone won't get rid of bad breath, you need to floss to get rid of the pieces of food in your mouth. If you don't those pieces will gather bacteria which gives off a bad odor.
2-5. Wash your face no more than twice a day with warm water and a facial wash for your skin type.
Don't harshly scrub! Slowly and gently wash your face, using a circular motion.
You should pop pimples, this will lead to scarring and possible infection. Try to keep your hands off your face, otherwise the oils on your hands will transfer to your face and cause break outs. Ensure you are washing your face with a suitable anti acne cleanser to further help prevent break outs.
Always remove makeup from your face before you go to sleep and keep your hair clean to eliminate the amount of oil that gets on your face.
Be sure not to wash your face too much as it may dry up the skin completely and cause itchiness or irritation. Use a gentle cleanser with no harsh chemicals to reduce sensitivity and irritation.
2-6. Wash your hair.
Unless you have very oily hair, try not to wash your hair everyday. Over washing can cause an itchy or irritated scalp and dandruff, so only wash it when needed. Most people should wash their hair 3-4 times a week, but it depends on your hair type. Ask someone what they think, just because it doesn't look greasy to you doesn't mean it isn't.
Use a shampoo and conditioner meant for your type of hair. If you use hair products every two or three weeks wash your hair with a clarifying shampoo to get rid of all the buildup.
2-7. Shave.
If you're a teenage boy, you may start shaving your face, and if you're a teenage girl, you may start shaving your legs and underarms. Here's some tips:
Don't skimp on shaving cream. Use as much as you need to completely cover the area. Alternatively if you have one, use an electric razor to start with as this requires no foam and can be used on wet or dry skin.
Shave with the grain; this will give you a lesser chance of getting in-grown hairs which hurt a lot.
Wait about half an hour before applying anything to the area, such as lotions or deodorant, or your skin may become irritated.
3. Maintaining Healthy Relationships
3-1. Hang out with friends.
Although this isn't usually a problem for most teenagers, it is very important to go out with your friends and meet new people.
If you don't have many friends then make the effort to go out and meet some new ones; it's not as hard as it may seem! Join a club or sports team where you can meet people with similar interests to your own.
Just try to avoid social events that involve dangerous or unhealthy activities such as drinking or taking drugs, as this will just cancel out everything in this article!
3-2. Be patient with parents.
Teenagers often have a rather bumpy relationship with their parents and tend to rebel against parental authority.
However, it's important to remember that your parents are only concerned for your safety and happiness and if they don't allow you to do something it's probably because they don't think it's safe or in your best interests.
Therefore, the best way to deal with disagreements is to have a calm, reasoned discussion with your parents, not a screaming tantrum. Remind them that you are a mature, sensible almost-adult who is capable of making good decisions. You'll get a lot more leeway if you use this approach!
3-3. Be sensible about relationships.
While having a boyfriend or girlfriend is all part of the fun of being a teenager, you shouldn't let your relationship take over your life. Make sure you take care of yourself before entering in a relationship.
Don't ditch your friends in favor of your latest boyfriend or girlfriend -- he or she may only last a couple of months, but friends are for life!
Don't be too heartbroken if things don't work out. You can be pretty certain that the guy or girl you dated for 6 weeks in ninth grade wasn't the love of your life! So get out there and meet someone new!
Be sexually responsible. If you make the decision to become sexually active as teenager, make sure to do so responsibly. Always use protection and regularly get yourself checked out for any STDs.
3-4. Maintain good relationships with your teachers.
It's important to maintain good relationships with your teachers by behaving well in class, handing in assignments on time and maintaining good grades.
Having a good relationship with your teachers can make your school experience much smoother and more pleasant and can really work in your favor when it comes to applying to colleges.
Most of your teachers are smart, interesting people (even if you don't think they're cool) so respect them and learn all you can from them, before it's too late.
Tips
Brush your teeth every day. Don't even try to skip it. Everyone will know.
When you're shaving, don't shave too hard or too fast, that will just cause nicks and burning. It'll take a few extra minutes if you shave slowly and gently but it'll be more than worth it in the end.
Always wear clean clothing.
Warnings
Don't shave too fast!
Never starve yourself to lose weight! EVER! At first you will gain weight, because your body takes this as a signal there isn't enough food around and starts storing it. Then you will get dizzy, irritable, and faint. You will end up in the hospital. And as soon as you begin eating normally again you will regain all of the weight you lost. If you aren't happy with your weight talk to your doctor and come up with a HEALTHY and SAFE plan to lose weight.
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It also helps if you have acne. As a rule of thumb, try to drink a lot to the point where your urine is almost completely clear. As a rule of thumb, try drinking half of your body weight in water everyday.\\n1-2. Start exercising more.\\nWhether it's walking in the park, or doing a couple of crunches do at least 30 minutes of physical activity several times a week.\\nYou should not exercise every day, when you work out you break your muscles down. It's the rebuilding that makes them stronger. If you don't give them time to rebuild, you're going to seriously hurt yourself. Try working out for 6 days a week and give yourself 2 days to rest and recuperate.\\nExercise will make you stronger and tone your muscles. You can go to the gym and swim or run on the treadmill, buy a few work out DVDs, or just go for a jog around the block.\\nWhatever it is, exercising will make you healthier and happier about your body. It also releases oxytocin which helps reduces stress and calm the mind!\\n1-3. Catch up on your sleep.\\nDuring puberty you'll find you need more sleep than you did when you were younger. Sure it's tempting to stay up late chatting with friends on the phone or computer, but the next morning you'll be miserable \\nYou need to get a minimum of 8 hours of sleep every single night. To find out how many hours you personally should be sleeping, on a weekend go to bed at the time you do on a school night and don't set your alarm. When you wake up count how many hours you were asleep and get that many hours every night.\\nIt may be tough if you get back late and have to wake up early on a normal school day, but if you put the extra effort in of an early night you will feel much more refreshed the next morning. This will aid your concentration and you will be in a much happier and friendly mood. Also try to get the same amount of sleep everyday so that your body is adjusted to it.\\n2. Taking Care of Hygiene\\n2-1. 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Brush your teeth two times a day.\\nAny more than this can wear down your enamel, weakening your teeth. When brushing your teeth, hold your brush at an angle so it lines up with your gum line.\\nBrush back and forth making sure to get every single tooth. Be sure to use a soft bristle brush so you don't damage your gums. Use your brush or a tongue scraper to get rid of all the bacteria on your tongue. If you don't know this, bad breath mostly comes from either poor eating habits or poor brushing habits.\\nAfter you brush for floss and use a good mouthwash. Though you should floss twice a day, if you're only going to floss once make it at night so you don't have pieces of food rotting between your teeth all night.\\nMouth wash and brushing your teeth alone won't get rid of bad breath, you need to floss to get rid of the pieces of food in your mouth. If you don't those pieces will gather bacteria which gives off a bad odor.\\n2-5. Wash your face no more than twice a day with warm water and a facial wash for your skin type.\\nDon't harshly scrub! Slowly and gently wash your face, using a circular motion.\\nYou should pop pimples, this will lead to scarring and possible infection. Try to keep your hands off your face, otherwise the oils on your hands will transfer to your face and cause break outs. Ensure you are washing your face with a suitable anti acne cleanser to further help prevent break outs.\\nAlways remove makeup from your face before you go to sleep and keep your hair clean to eliminate the amount of oil that gets on your face.\\nBe sure not to wash your face too much as it may dry up the skin completely and cause itchiness or irritation. Use a gentle cleanser with no harsh chemicals to reduce sensitivity and irritation.\\n2-6. Wash your hair.\\nUnless you have very oily hair, try not to wash your hair everyday. Over washing can cause an itchy or irritated scalp and dandruff, so only wash it when needed. Most people should wash their hair 3-4 times a week, but it depends on your hair type. Ask someone what they think, just because it doesn't look greasy to you doesn't mean it isn't. \\nUse a shampoo and conditioner meant for your type of hair. If you use hair products every two or three weeks wash your hair with a clarifying shampoo to get rid of all the buildup.\\n2-7. Shave.\\nIf you're a teenage boy, you may start shaving your face, and if you're a teenage girl, you may start shaving your legs and underarms. Here's some tips:\\nDon't skimp on shaving cream. Use as much as you need to completely cover the area. Alternatively if you have one, use an electric razor to start with as this requires no foam and can be used on wet or dry skin.\\nShave with the grain; this will give you a lesser chance of getting in-grown hairs which hurt a lot.\\nWait about half an hour before applying anything to the area, such as lotions or deodorant, or your skin may become irritated.\\n3. Maintaining Healthy Relationships\\n3-1. Hang out with friends.\\nAlthough this isn't usually a problem for most teenagers, it is very important to go out with your friends and meet new people.\\nIf you don't have many friends then make the effort to go out and meet some new ones; it's not as hard as it may seem! Join a club or sports team where you can meet people with similar interests to your own.\\nJust try to avoid social events that involve dangerous or unhealthy activities such as drinking or taking drugs, as this will just cancel out everything in this article!\\n3-2. Be patient with parents.\\nTeenagers often have a rather bumpy relationship with their parents and tend to rebel against parental authority. \\nHowever, it's important to remember that your parents are only concerned for your safety and happiness and if they don't allow you to do something it's probably because they don't think it's safe or in your best interests.\\nTherefore, the best way to deal with disagreements is to have a calm, reasoned discussion with your parents, not a screaming tantrum. Remind them that you are a mature, sensible almost-adult who is capable of making good decisions. You'll get a lot more leeway if you use this approach!\\n3-3. Be sensible about relationships.\\nWhile having a boyfriend or girlfriend is all part of the fun of being a teenager, you shouldn't let your relationship take over your life. 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1. Finding What's Right for You
1-1. Consider why you would like to become a hermit.
What are you trying to avoid or establish? If you have no clear goal, then becoming a hermit will merely be a passing phase. Is this a temporary means of rebellion? Is this to avoid a certain someone or people in general? Is this a type of prolonged "time out" for yourself? Do you feel a spiritual calling to hermitism? What are your personal reasons?
Is it the appeal of not being with people or is it the simplicity of the lifestyle that draws you? Does it seem like a passing phase or is it something that's been in the back of your mind for years? It is the symptom of a larger issue? Or is it the only possible solution?
1-2. Determine just how much of a hermit you want to be.
Being a hermit doesn't mean you're locked inside your house. Plenty have communication with the outside world or even live with another person. Over half live in urban areas. Knowing that there's a spectrum to being hermitic, where do you fall?
In today's world, it's difficult to be entirely self-sustaining. Do you want to build your own house, grow your own food, and rig up your own well system? Or would you rather stay put in your apartment and order Chinese takeout? Both are their own versions of the hermit life.
1-3. Decide on your home.
In the spirit of hermitdom, it is probably best to choose somewhere hidden, small, and modest. Better still if it's environmentally friendly. The more bucolic and out-of-the-way, the better. But if you happen to have a place in the middle of Manhattan, that'll work too (just get sound-proof windows).
As for the interior, generally hermits desire simple lives. Some have cable, computers, and are connected, while others spend their hours praying, gardening, and being entirely removed from the outside world. If you are planning on becoming a hermit to rid yourself of the evils and woes of society, you may want to weed through your possessions, removing the clutter from the world around you.
1-4. Think about how you'll go off the map.
Do you want to go cold turkey? Just one day wake up in your bed, take a look at the door, and know you'll never leave the woven entrails of your Berber carpet ever again? Or will you slowly limit yourself, demanding an escalating amount of "me" time as the days pass? Better yet...how will you alert the masses?
How do you become a hermit without upsetting your family? Well, in short, you don't. They are not going to be crazy about you refusing to live like "normal" people do. If this is a concern of yours, for starters, alleviate their worries by explaining your situation and your rationale. Hopefully they'll get it. And, if you'd like, tell them you'll stay in contact. Just because you're a hermit doesn't mean they'll never see you again.
1-5. Consider your mental health.
If you never want to see humans ever again (which isn't how most hermits work), you may have a type of avoidant personality disorder, PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) or another undiagnosed mental illness. These two, for example, can make you feel a strong desire to avoid people (so can SAD (Social Anxiety Disorder), but to a lesser extent). Is this at all possible?
Visit a therapist if you are considering cutting off communication entirely. It will make friends and family breathe easier, and you owe it to yourself to make certain that you are not self medicating a mental illness.
2. Getting Prepared
2-1. Get the funds ready.
Unless you work from home and somehow manage to have a job that doesn't provide you with some extreme cognitive dissonance in regards to your lifestyle, you probably won't have a significant, constant flow of income. And you will most likely still need money to survive! It'll be significantly less money you'll need, but you'll still need some. Where will it come from?
You still exist. You may have to pay taxes and your student loans won't just go away. You also need food, electricity (probably?), water (definitely), and whatever bare minimum essentials you require. You could try growing a garden with just your bare hands and a blessing from the rain, but it'll be a challenge!
2-2. Stock up on items you need.
Since you're staying put for, well, ever, stock up on whatever it is you need. Then, ideally, you can make a trip once a month for eggs and bread or your yearly dalliance with the local grocery store for powdered milk, spices, etc. Supermarkets can now deliver to your home, but that's just work you'd rather avoid.
Think of what you'd take with you if you had to go on a month-long vacation to a third world country. Razors? Shampoo? Deodorant? Toothpaste? Books? Batteries? Granola bars? The idea here is to stock up so heartily that all your needs are met within your humble abode.
2-3. Disconnect.
Alright, it's the moment you've been waiting for. Deactivate your Facebook account, give a 140-character goodbye to your Twitter, spend 5 final seconds snapchatting, turn in your cell phone, run over your laptop with your lawnmower, and enjoy. Done. You are now nothing but a memory on the face of the Internet. Congratulations.
Alright, so you can have a phone. You'll need it to order pizza, anyway. And you can have cable and Internet if you'd like, but you won't really reap the spiritual benefits of being a hermit if you stay connected. So, no, the hermit community won't shun you (there's a thought), but you won't be living up to your reclusive potential.
2-4. Make your environment sustainable.
Since you're largely depending on you and you alone, be sure to have everything you need at the ready. Go plant a garden! Build an outhouse! Invest in a bicycle! Get a stock of oil lamps! If it lasts, it's good.
Again, this part is up to you. But the more sustainable your environment, the more you can relish in your hermitry. Years will pass and you won't even know it. What do you need to create the life you want to live?
2-5. Develop skills.
You know all that time you'll have on your hands contemplating life and your existence? You'll need to kill it! So pick up a paintbrush now (that you fashioned out of a twig and your own hair) and start painting. Learn how to use a Bo Staff. Get the conversational basics of a foreign language down. Journal. Study the plants in your backyard. Learn how to garden. How to sew. The list is practically infinite.
If nothing else, get the skills down that will make your hermitry easier. This means sewing, cooking, gardening, killing spiders, being handy around the house, etc. Being a hermit is a lot easier when living independently isn't an issue. You can do laundry, right?
2-6. Like yourself.
You know why? Because you're literally the only one you'll be around 23.99/7. Don't like yourself and that's pretty terrible company. Terrible company that never goes away. It is possible to drive yourself crazy, which is an ending situation you most likely want to avoid. Don't like yourself and that could happen.
Being a hermit, for most, is not a three-month ordeal. It is a life choice that offers much happiness. It's usually done in the second half of life, but it can be done by anyone at any time. So before you go about isolating yourself from everyone but you, make sure you have "you" on your side.
2-7. Get a hermit helper.
It's like a personal assistant, but more alliterative. Sometimes you'll need someone to drop off groceries on your doorstep, to help you with the clogged toilet, to bring over emergency rodent killer, or to help you when you've fallen and broken your leg. It's just good sense. Make sure you have a link to the outside world -- you may end up desperately needing it.
You don't have to see them if you don't want, but you do have to be able to contact them. Generally speaking, the phone will be the easiest way. If this goes against your principles it's understandable; however, having a phone isn't the same as using it. Have one in case of emergencies. And, yes, it can be a landline. They still have those.
3. Reaping the Benefits and Making the Sacrifices
3-1. Put your time to good use.
Now that you're not working, not answering other people's obligations, and not worrying about what your hair looks like, what will you do with your time?! If you're like most hermits, you'll spend a lot of time meditating, praying, and enjoying the simple things in life. About time!
You'll probably have more time than you even realize. You'll wake when you want, sleep when you want, and fall into a natural cycle of productivity. Find the time that's best for sleeping, eating, and exercising for you. Now that your schedule is all yours, you've no reason to max out your productivity.
Use this to develop all the skills you wish you had time for in your more cookie-cutter past. Juggle! Plant roses! Make bread from scratch! So many wikiHow articles you could be perusing!
3-2. Dress simply.
You're a pretty sad excuse for a hermit if you walk around your house in a pair of Manolo Blahniks all day every day. Technically you're a hermit, but the idea of a hermit lifestyle is to live minimally, to shun extraneous desires and luxury. You don't have to make your own clothes if you don't want to, but do limit your closet to the basics.
If Ke$ha can rock garbage chic, you can rock hermit chic. Again with the suitcase metaphor: choose one or two pieces for every possible situation you may find yourself in. That's all you need! When they wear out, well, by then you'll have learned how to sew. Hey, what a nice transition to the next step!
3-3. Watch out for loneliness.
When was the last time you went days without even seeing another human being? Yeah, the world sucks, people are terrible, and the human race has long overstayed its welcome, but that doesn't mean loneliness won't come a-creepin'. When it does come, how will you handle it?
Loads of hermits have a very small network of people they're comfortable keeping in contact with. You could, feasibly, have one or two people that can remove the moody blues when they set in. Just have this established going into it! It's a lot harder to make friends once you get set in your hermit ways.
Here's another issue: abstinence. You won't be getting your groove on anytime soon. Like, ever. You cool with that?
3-4. Connect with other hermits.
Crazy, huh? But it's a thing. They even have an entire newsletter. Everybody needs someone who understands their trials and tribulations. It's not something you do in person or even on the regular, but reading a pamphlet is certainly a solatium for an otherwise bleak social existence.
Having a couple of people on your side doesn't take away your hermit cred. If J.D. Salinger had to cross the bridge into town to get his mail, so can you. People are a necessity of life. Like a diet -- if you go cold turkey, you'll fail. Allow yourself a taste (in the non-cannibalistic sense, that is).
3-5. Know the world may offer you a reputation.
When the local children start peering into your house, leaving you gifts in the knotholes of trees, rest assured the locals have started talking. Word's going to get out that there's a hermit inhabiting your residence and, lo and behold, it's you. This doesn't have to affect you if you don't let it, but if you ever wish to revisit the world, it will be a challenge. You up for it?
If you wish to become gainfully employed or even make friends, there may be a legitimate amount of rejection waiting for you. Hermits just aren't "got" in the world today. Why would someone want to abandon the comforts of modern living?! "Once you leave home, you can never go back," is a phrase to keep in mind here. Is it worth it? Maybe.
Tips
There's no need to never ever come out. You are trying to be a hermit, not a dead and buried corpse! Real hermits in the olden days spent lots of time outdoors and had occasional visitors. It is good to see the sun now and then, and maybe some people too.
Be prepared to tell people exactly why you've become a hermit. The more calm and reasonable you are about it, the more people will learn to leave you alone.
Warnings
Do not, above all, parade your hermitdom.
People will probably get a bit concerned. Be firm but assuring.
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And you will most likely still need money to survive! It'll be significantly less money you'll need, but you'll still need some. Where will it come from?\\nYou still exist. You may have to pay taxes and your student loans won't just go away. You also need food, electricity (probably?), water (definitely), and whatever bare minimum essentials you require. You could try growing a garden with just your bare hands and a blessing from the rain, but it'll be a challenge!\\n2-2. Stock up on items you need.\\nSince you're staying put for, well, ever, stock up on whatever it is you need. Then, ideally, you can make a trip once a month for eggs and bread or your yearly dalliance with the local grocery store for powdered milk, spices, etc. Supermarkets can now deliver to your home, but that's just work you'd rather avoid.\\nThink of what you'd take with you if you had to go on a month-long vacation to a third world country. Razors? Shampoo? Deodorant? Toothpaste? Books? Batteries? Granola bars? The idea here is to stock up so heartily that all your needs are met within your humble abode.\\n2-3. Disconnect.\\nAlright, it's the moment you've been waiting for. Deactivate your Facebook account, give a 140-character goodbye to your Twitter, spend 5 final seconds snapchatting, turn in your cell phone, run over your laptop with your lawnmower, and enjoy. Done. You are now nothing but a memory on the face of the Internet. Congratulations.\\nAlright, so you can have a phone. You'll need it to order pizza, anyway. And you can have cable and Internet if you'd like, but you won't really reap the spiritual benefits of being a hermit if you stay connected. So, no, the hermit community won't shun you (there's a thought), but you won't be living up to your reclusive potential.\\n2-4. Make your environment sustainable.\\nSince you're largely depending on you and you alone, be sure to have everything you need at the ready. Go plant a garden! Build an outhouse! Invest in a bicycle! Get a stock of oil lamps! If it lasts, it's good.\\nAgain, this part is up to you. But the more sustainable your environment, the more you can relish in your hermitry. Years will pass and you won't even know it. What do you need to create the life you want to live?\\n2-5. Develop skills.\\nYou know all that time you'll have on your hands contemplating life and your existence? You'll need to kill it! So pick up a paintbrush now (that you fashioned out of a twig and your own hair) and start painting. Learn how to use a Bo Staff. Get the conversational basics of a foreign language down. Journal. Study the plants in your backyard. Learn how to garden. How to sew. The list is practically infinite.\\nIf nothing else, get the skills down that will make your hermitry easier. This means sewing, cooking, gardening, killing spiders, being handy around the house, etc. Being a hermit is a lot easier when living independently isn't an issue. You can do laundry, right?\\n2-6. Like yourself.\\nYou know why? Because you're literally the only one you'll be around 23.99/7. Don't like yourself and that's pretty terrible company. Terrible company that never goes away. It is possible to drive yourself crazy, which is an ending situation you most likely want to avoid. Don't like yourself and that could happen.\\nBeing a hermit, for most, is not a three-month ordeal. It is a life choice that offers much happiness. It's usually done in the second half of life, but it can be done by anyone at any time. So before you go about isolating yourself from everyone but you, make sure you have \\\"you\\\" on your side.\\n2-7. Get a hermit helper.\\nIt's like a personal assistant, but more alliterative. Sometimes you'll need someone to drop off groceries on your doorstep, to help you with the clogged toilet, to bring over emergency rodent killer, or to help you when you've fallen and broken your leg. It's just good sense. Make sure you have a link to the outside world -- you may end up desperately needing it.\\nYou don't have to see them if you don't want, but you do have to be able to contact them. Generally speaking, the phone will be the easiest way. If this goes against your principles it's understandable; however, having a phone isn't the same as using it. Have one in case of emergencies. And, yes, it can be a landline. They still have those.\\n3. Reaping the Benefits and Making the Sacrifices\\n3-1. Put your time to good use.\\nNow that you're not working, not answering other people's obligations, and not worrying about what your hair looks like, what will you do with your time?! If you're like most hermits, you'll spend a lot of time meditating, praying, and enjoying the simple things in life. About time!\\nYou'll probably have more time than you even realize. You'll wake when you want, sleep when you want, and fall into a natural cycle of productivity. Find the time that's best for sleeping, eating, and exercising for you. Now that your schedule is all yours, you've no reason to max out your productivity.\\nUse this to develop all the skills you wish you had time for in your more cookie-cutter past. Juggle! Plant roses! Make bread from scratch! So many wikiHow articles you could be perusing!\\n3-2. Dress simply.\\nYou're a pretty sad excuse for a hermit if you walk around your house in a pair of Manolo Blahniks all day every day. Technically you're a hermit, but the idea of a hermit lifestyle is to live minimally, to shun extraneous desires and luxury. You don't have to make your own clothes if you don't want to, but do limit your closet to the basics.\\nIf Ke$ha can rock garbage chic, you can rock hermit chic. Again with the suitcase metaphor: choose one or two pieces for every possible situation you may find yourself in. That's all you need! When they wear out, well, by then you'll have learned how to sew. Hey, what a nice transition to the next step!\\n3-3. Watch out for loneliness.\\nWhen was the last time you went days without even seeing another human being? Yeah, the world sucks, people are terrible, and the human race has long overstayed its welcome, but that doesn't mean loneliness won't come a-creepin'. When it does come, how will you handle it?\\nLoads of hermits have a very small network of people they're comfortable keeping in contact with. You could, feasibly, have one or two people that can remove the moody blues when they set in. Just have this established going into it! It's a lot harder to make friends once you get set in your hermit ways.\\nHere's another issue: abstinence. You won't be getting your groove on anytime soon. Like, ever. You cool with that?\\n3-4. Connect with other hermits.\\nCrazy, huh? But it's a thing. They even have an entire newsletter. Everybody needs someone who understands their trials and tribulations. It's not something you do in person or even on the regular, but reading a pamphlet is certainly a solatium for an otherwise bleak social existence.\\nHaving a couple of people on your side doesn't take away your hermit cred. If J.D. Salinger had to cross the bridge into town to get his mail, so can you. People are a necessity of life. Like a diet -- if you go cold turkey, you'll fail. Allow yourself a taste (in the non-cannibalistic sense, that is).\\n3-5. Know the world may offer you a reputation.\\nWhen the local children start peering into your house, leaving you gifts in the knotholes of trees, rest assured the locals have started talking. Word's going to get out that there's a hermit inhabiting your residence and, lo and behold, it's you. This doesn't have to affect you if you don't let it, but if you ever wish to revisit the world, it will be a challenge. You up for it?\\nIf you wish to become gainfully employed or even make friends, there may be a legitimate amount of rejection waiting for you. Hermits just aren't \\\"got\\\" in the world today. Why would someone want to abandon the comforts of modern living?! \\\"Once you leave home, you can never go back,\\\" is a phrase to keep in mind here. Is it worth it? Maybe.\\nTips\\nThere's no need to never ever come out. You are trying to be a hermit, not a dead and buried corpse! Real hermits in the olden days spent lots of time outdoors and had occasional visitors. It is good to see the sun now and then, and maybe some people too.\\nBe prepared to tell people exactly why you've become a hermit. The more calm and reasonable you are about it, the more people will learn to leave you alone.\\nWarnings\\nDo not, above all, parade your hermitdom.\\nPeople will probably get a bit concerned. Be firm but assuring.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Since you're on this page, you're either looking to lead a life entirely devoted to prayer and being spiritual or you're fed up with looking at photos of food on Facebook and watching governments self-destruct. Either way, the finer points of being a hermit are the same. Are you ready for a life of near-solitude, sustainability, and resourcefulness? Want to find out?\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Finding What's Right for You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Consider why you would like to become a hermit.\", \"描述\": \"What are you trying to avoid or establish? If you have no clear goal, then becoming a hermit will merely be a passing phase. Is this a temporary means of rebellion? Is this to avoid a certain someone or people in general? Is this a type of prolonged \\\"time out\\\" for yourself? Do you feel a spiritual calling to hermitism? What are your personal reasons?\\nIs it the appeal of not being with people or is it the simplicity of the lifestyle that draws you? Does it seem like a passing phase or is it something that's been in the back of your mind for years? It is the symptom of a larger issue? Or is it the only possible solution?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Determine just how much of a hermit you want to be.\", \"描述\": \"Being a hermit doesn't mean you're locked inside your house. Plenty have communication with the outside world or even live with another person. Over half live in urban areas. Knowing that there's a spectrum to being hermitic, where do you fall?\\nIn today's world, it's difficult to be entirely self-sustaining. Do you want to build your own house, grow your own food, and rig up your own well system? Or would you rather stay put in your apartment and order Chinese takeout? Both are their own versions of the hermit life.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Decide on your home.\", \"描述\": \"In the spirit of hermitdom, it is probably best to choose somewhere hidden, small, and modest. Better still if it's environmentally friendly. The more bucolic and out-of-the-way, the better. But if you happen to have a place in the middle of Manhattan, that'll work too (just get sound-proof windows).\\nAs for the interior, generally hermits desire simple lives. Some have cable, computers, and are connected, while others spend their hours praying, gardening, and being entirely removed from the outside world. If you are planning on becoming a hermit to rid yourself of the evils and woes of society, you may want to weed through your possessions, removing the clutter from the world around you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think about how you'll go off the map.\", \"描述\": \"Do you want to go cold turkey? Just one day wake up in your bed, take a look at the door, and know you'll never leave the woven entrails of your Berber carpet ever again? Or will you slowly limit yourself, demanding an escalating amount of \\\"me\\\" time as the days pass? Better yet...how will you alert the masses?\\nHow do you become a hermit without upsetting your family? Well, in short, you don't. They are not going to be crazy about you refusing to live like \\\"normal\\\" people do. If this is a concern of yours, for starters, alleviate their worries by explaining your situation and your rationale. Hopefully they'll get it. And, if you'd like, tell them you'll stay in contact. Just because you're a hermit doesn't mean they'll never see you again.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider your mental health.\", \"描述\": \"If you never want to see humans ever again (which isn't how most hermits work), you may have a type of avoidant personality disorder, PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) or another undiagnosed mental illness. These two, for example, can make you feel a strong desire to avoid people (so can SAD (Social Anxiety Disorder), but to a lesser extent). Is this at all possible?\\nVisit a therapist if you are considering cutting off communication entirely. It will make friends and family breathe easier, and you owe it to yourself to make certain that you are not self medicating a mental illness.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting Prepared\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the funds ready.\", \"描述\": \"Unless you work from home and somehow manage to have a job that doesn't provide you with some extreme cognitive dissonance in regards to your lifestyle, you probably won't have a significant, constant flow of income. And you will most likely still need money to survive! It'll be significantly less money you'll need, but you'll still need some. Where will it come from?\\nYou still exist. You may have to pay taxes and your student loans won't just go away. You also need food, electricity (probably?), water (definitely), and whatever bare minimum essentials you require. You could try growing a garden with just your bare hands and a blessing from the rain, but it'll be a challenge!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stock up on items you need.\", \"描述\": \"Since you're staying put for, well, ever, stock up on whatever it is you need. Then, ideally, you can make a trip once a month for eggs and bread or your yearly dalliance with the local grocery store for powdered milk, spices, etc. Supermarkets can now deliver to your home, but that's just work you'd rather avoid.\\nThink of what you'd take with you if you had to go on a month-long vacation to a third world country. Razors? Shampoo? Deodorant? Toothpaste? Books? Batteries? Granola bars? The idea here is to stock up so heartily that all your needs are met within your humble abode.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Disconnect.\", \"描述\": \"Alright, it's the moment you've been waiting for. Deactivate your Facebook account, give a 140-character goodbye to your Twitter, spend 5 final seconds snapchatting, turn in your cell phone, run over your laptop with your lawnmower, and enjoy. Done. You are now nothing but a memory on the face of the Internet. Congratulations.\\nAlright, so you can have a phone. You'll need it to order pizza, anyway. And you can have cable and Internet if you'd like, but you won't really reap the spiritual benefits of being a hermit if you stay connected. So, no, the hermit community won't shun you (there's a thought), but you won't be living up to your reclusive potential.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make your environment sustainable.\", \"描述\": \"Since you're largely depending on you and you alone, be sure to have everything you need at the ready. Go plant a garden! Build an outhouse! Invest in a bicycle! Get a stock of oil lamps! If it lasts, it's good.\\nAgain, this part is up to you. But the more sustainable your environment, the more you can relish in your hermitry. Years will pass and you won't even know it. What do you need to create the life you want to live?\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Develop skills.\", \"描述\": \"You know all that time you'll have on your hands contemplating life and your existence? You'll need to kill it! So pick up a paintbrush now (that you fashioned out of a twig and your own hair) and start painting. Learn how to use a Bo Staff. Get the conversational basics of a foreign language down. Journal. Study the plants in your backyard. Learn how to garden. How to sew. The list is practically infinite.\\nIf nothing else, get the skills down that will make your hermitry easier. This means sewing, cooking, gardening, killing spiders, being handy around the house, etc. Being a hermit is a lot easier when living independently isn't an issue. You can do laundry, right?\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Like yourself.\", \"描述\": \"You know why? Because you're literally the only one you'll be around 23.99/7. Don't like yourself and that's pretty terrible company. Terrible company that never goes away. It is possible to drive yourself crazy, which is an ending situation you most likely want to avoid. Don't like yourself and that could happen.\\nBeing a hermit, for most, is not a three-month ordeal. It is a life choice that offers much happiness. It's usually done in the second half of life, but it can be done by anyone at any time. So before you go about isolating yourself from everyone but you, make sure you have \\\"you\\\" on your side.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get a hermit helper.\", \"描述\": \"It's like a personal assistant, but more alliterative. Sometimes you'll need someone to drop off groceries on your doorstep, to help you with the clogged toilet, to bring over emergency rodent killer, or to help you when you've fallen and broken your leg. It's just good sense. Make sure you have a link to the outside world -- you may end up desperately needing it.\\nYou don't have to see them if you don't want, but you do have to be able to contact them. Generally speaking, the phone will be the easiest way. If this goes against your principles it's understandable; however, having a phone isn't the same as using it. Have one in case of emergencies. And, yes, it can be a landline. They still have those.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Reaping the Benefits and Making the Sacrifices\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Put your time to good use.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you're not working, not answering other people's obligations, and not worrying about what your hair looks like, what will you do with your time?! If you're like most hermits, you'll spend a lot of time meditating, praying, and enjoying the simple things in life. About time!\\nYou'll probably have more time than you even realize. You'll wake when you want, sleep when you want, and fall into a natural cycle of productivity. Find the time that's best for sleeping, eating, and exercising for you. Now that your schedule is all yours, you've no reason to max out your productivity.\\nUse this to develop all the skills you wish you had time for in your more cookie-cutter past. Juggle! Plant roses! Make bread from scratch! So many wikiHow articles you could be perusing!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dress simply.\", \"描述\": \"You're a pretty sad excuse for a hermit if you walk around your house in a pair of Manolo Blahniks all day every day. Technically you're a hermit, but the idea of a hermit lifestyle is to live minimally, to shun extraneous desires and luxury. You don't have to make your own clothes if you don't want to, but do limit your closet to the basics.\\nIf Ke$ha can rock garbage chic, you can rock hermit chic. Again with the suitcase metaphor: choose one or two pieces for every possible situation you may find yourself in. That's all you need! When they wear out, well, by then you'll have learned how to sew. Hey, what a nice transition to the next step!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Watch out for loneliness.\", \"描述\": \"When was the last time you went days without even seeing another human being? Yeah, the world sucks, people are terrible, and the human race has long overstayed its welcome, but that doesn't mean loneliness won't come a-creepin'. When it does come, how will you handle it?\\nLoads of hermits have a very small network of people they're comfortable keeping in contact with. You could, feasibly, have one or two people that can remove the moody blues when they set in. Just have this established going into it! It's a lot harder to make friends once you get set in your hermit ways.\\nHere's another issue: abstinence. You won't be getting your groove on anytime soon. Like, ever. You cool with that?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Connect with other hermits.\", \"描述\": \"Crazy, huh? But it's a thing. They even have an entire newsletter. Everybody needs someone who understands their trials and tribulations. It's not something you do in person or even on the regular, but reading a pamphlet is certainly a solatium for an otherwise bleak social existence.\\nHaving a couple of people on your side doesn't take away your hermit cred. If J.D. Salinger had to cross the bridge into town to get his mail, so can you. People are a necessity of life. Like a diet -- if you go cold turkey, you'll fail. Allow yourself a taste (in the non-cannibalistic sense, that is).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Know the world may offer you a reputation.\", \"描述\": \"When the local children start peering into your house, leaving you gifts in the knotholes of trees, rest assured the locals have started talking. 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1. Heroic Thoughts
1-1. Let go of your ego.
A real hero knows that their actions might go unnoticed, and that’s okay. Make sure that you are trying to be a hero for the right reasons. You need to be willing to help people who might not even know you have intervened on their behalf. You have to be focused more on the feeling you get from doing the good deed than receiving praise.
Find joy in seeing the smiles on other people’s faces.
Think about how you would feel having a good deed done for you. That will help you connect to the joy or change you create in another person’s life.
1-2. Initiate the change you want to see.
A true hero isn’t all talk. A true hero is constantly thinking about how they can take action and help others. You may be inspired to be a hero for a certain cause or issue, or you may try to be a hero for someone in need.
For example, if you are passionate about the environment, don’t just preach to people that they should recycle. Try to start an environmental club at your school or get your friends to help you build a compost bin in your backyard.
If you're passionate about helping the homeless in your area, you could organize your neighborhood and advocate for positive change with city administrators, city council members, and county supervisors.
1-3. Put others before yourself.
Think about other people needs before considering your own. When you are making decisions at work or at home, take some time to think about how your actions will affect someone else. For example, if you take the day off of work, what kind of workload will that put on your coworkers?
Remember that everyone thinks differently. What seems comfortable or easy for you might not seem that way to other people. You might feel really confident going to a karaoke night with a bunch of strangers, but your friend or date might not. Consider what others want in addition to what makes you happy.
1-4. Be ready to act when others are passive.
People lead busy lives. Often a typical person is so focused on themselves, they don’t notice or care to act when something is wrong. A hero will be willing to take action and confront injustice straight on.
Stick up for a friend, classmate, or coworker you feel is being treated unfairly. Buy a meal for the homeless person everyone keeps walking by on the street. Notice the underdog or the less fortunate and give them a helping hand.
You can also focus on creating safe spaces for individuals who suffer from injustice or prejudice. This could be advocating for a space on your campus for LGBTQ students, or a club for women of color to network and connect.
2. Heroic Acts
2-1. Perform random acts of kindness.
A hero doesn’t just intervene when they see wrong being done. A true hero is there to do good at any time. This might mean taking some extra time out of your day to perform a good deed. You can do anything from paying for the coffee of the person behind you in line at the coffee shop to helping some lost tourists find their way around the city. Other random acts of kindness you can do include:
Raking your neighbor's leaves for them.
Helping to pay a student's tuition.
Buying lunch for the office.
Washing a friend's car for them.
Buying groceries for someone in need.
Taking an elderly neighbor to an appointment.
2-2. Volunteer your time.
There are many charities and nonprofit organizations across the country that volunteers. Simply donating a few hours each week to help these organizations so very much. Offer to work for a local marathon that is raising money for breast cancer or another cause you feel passionate about. You can also volunteer your time in other ways:
Help build houses for low-income families.
Join a community garden.
Get involved with your neighborhood watch.
You don’t always have to volunteer in such an official way. You can offer to help a friend move or give up some time to listen when a family member is in need of emotional support.
2-3. Volunteer your talents.
First, think about the things you are good at or the useful skills that you have. You can ask your friends and family what they think you excel at, if you cannot think of anything specific. They will have a good idea about your strengths and how you can best utilize them to help others. Think about how you can use your talents to help others.
Perhaps you are a great public speaker, or maybe you have a talent for craft projects or building furniture. Perhaps you are a great listener and can be an empathetic ear for an elderly neighbor.
You can also use your professional skills and knowledge to help others. If you are a teacher, you might volunteer some time to help tutor students who are having trouble in school. If you are an artist, you might volunteer at a senior center to help teach senior citizens how to paint or sketch.
2-4. Ask someone if they could use some help.
Some people, such as the disabled or elderly, need help, but don’t know how to ask. Become the type of person who isn’t just waiting around for opportunities to be a hero, by asking others if there is anything you can do for them.
Think about what you had a hard time with when you started your job. Offer to assist new employees with working the copy machine, getting to know certain procedures, or setting up their email.
2-5. Use small gestures.
A hero understands that the little things in life can all add up. You can do small gestures like holding open the door for people or offering to take a friend out to lunch. You could give someone a ride to the airport or pay for someone's laundry at the laundromat.
Even offering someone kind words can help you grow as a hero. Say thank you to service workers. Tell a friend you appreciate them.
Give a friend a hug.
Write your teacher a thank you note.
Wave to the driver, who stopped to let you cross the road, even if it is at a crosswalk.
Send a family member a surprise email or text telling them you love them.
3. Heroic Growth
3-1. Promote the good.
Being a hero is not just about solving all of the bad things in life like poverty, inequality, and oppression. It is also about working to promote and advance the good things in life like charity, kindness, gratitude and love. Speaking out against injustice is important, but speaking out in favor of peace is just as valuable.
Think about things in terms of “Pro” instead of “Anti”. Be pro-peace instead of antiwar. Be pro-environment instead of just antipollution.
Be a good leader. If you are a teacher or in charge of a team at work, know that you have people that look up to you. Lead them by example. If they see you thanking people for their hard work, highlighting the achievements of others, and going out of your way to make the classroom or work place safe, they are more likely to do the same.
3-2. Be on the lookout for opportunities.
A good hero is vigilant. They are aware of their surroundings and constantly on the lookout for situations where they may be of help to others. Start small. Think about the people you come across regularly in your daily life. The coworker in the cubicle next to you or the student who sits behind you in English class. What do you know about them? When might there have been an opportunity to be a hero to them in the past? How can you be ready to be a hero for them in the future?
If you are in line at the grocery store and the person behind you seems like they are in a hurry, let them go through in front of you.
If you recognize that a fellow classmate is struggling in a class you excel at, offer to study with them after school.
Watch for people on the subway who may need your seat. The elderly, a pregnant woman, someone on crutches.
3-3. Learn from your own heroes.
No one becomes a hero all on their own. Think about the people in your life who have acted like heroes. Think about the times when you felt lost or scared, only to have another person come along and help you through a tough time? Maybe they were strangers. Perhaps a teacher or relative was there for you when you really needed someone. Think about what they did and how it made you feel.
You can ask some of your own heroes for advice. Ask them how they are able to put others before themselves.
Don’t be afraid to imitate. Chances are that the way someone helped you will work for other people as well. If a friend helped you by being a good listener, you can do the same for someone else.
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Try to start an environmental club at your school or get your friends to help you build a compost bin in your backyard.\\nIf you're passionate about helping the homeless in your area, you could organize your neighborhood and advocate for positive change with city administrators, city council members, and county supervisors.\\n1-3. Put others before yourself.\\nThink about other people needs before considering your own. When you are making decisions at work or at home, take some time to think about how your actions will affect someone else. For example, if you take the day off of work, what kind of workload will that put on your coworkers?\\nRemember that everyone thinks differently. What seems comfortable or easy for you might not seem that way to other people. You might feel really confident going to a karaoke night with a bunch of strangers, but your friend or date might not. Consider what others want in addition to what makes you happy.\\n1-4. Be ready to act when others are passive.\\nPeople lead busy lives. Often a typical person is so focused on themselves, they don’t notice or care to act when something is wrong. A hero will be willing to take action and confront injustice straight on. \\nStick up for a friend, classmate, or coworker you feel is being treated unfairly. Buy a meal for the homeless person everyone keeps walking by on the street. Notice the underdog or the less fortunate and give them a helping hand.\\nYou can also focus on creating safe spaces for individuals who suffer from injustice or prejudice. This could be advocating for a space on your campus for LGBTQ students, or a club for women of color to network and connect.\\n2. Heroic Acts\\n2-1. Perform random acts of kindness.\\nA hero doesn’t just intervene when they see wrong being done. A true hero is there to do good at any time. This might mean taking some extra time out of your day to perform a good deed. You can do anything from paying for the coffee of the person behind you in line at the coffee shop to helping some lost tourists find their way around the city. Other random acts of kindness you can do include:\\nRaking your neighbor's leaves for them.\\nHelping to pay a student's tuition.\\nBuying lunch for the office.\\nWashing a friend's car for them.\\nBuying groceries for someone in need.\\nTaking an elderly neighbor to an appointment.\\n2-2. Volunteer your time.\\nThere are many charities and nonprofit organizations across the country that volunteers. Simply donating a few hours each week to help these organizations so very much. Offer to work for a local marathon that is raising money for breast cancer or another cause you feel passionate about. You can also volunteer your time in other ways:\\nHelp build houses for low-income families.\\nJoin a community garden.\\nGet involved with your neighborhood watch.\\nYou don’t always have to volunteer in such an official way. You can offer to help a friend move or give up some time to listen when a family member is in need of emotional support.\\n2-3. Volunteer your talents.\\nFirst, think about the things you are good at or the useful skills that you have. You can ask your friends and family what they think you excel at, if you cannot think of anything specific. They will have a good idea about your strengths and how you can best utilize them to help others. Think about how you can use your talents to help others.\\nPerhaps you are a great public speaker, or maybe you have a talent for craft projects or building furniture. Perhaps you are a great listener and can be an empathetic ear for an elderly neighbor.\\nYou can also use your professional skills and knowledge to help others. If you are a teacher, you might volunteer some time to help tutor students who are having trouble in school. If you are an artist, you might volunteer at a senior center to help teach senior citizens how to paint or sketch.\\n2-4. Ask someone if they could use some help.\\nSome people, such as the disabled or elderly, need help, but don’t know how to ask. Become the type of person who isn’t just waiting around for opportunities to be a hero, by asking others if there is anything you can do for them.\\nThink about what you had a hard time with when you started your job. Offer to assist new employees with working the copy machine, getting to know certain procedures, or setting up their email.\\n2-5. Use small gestures.\\nA hero understands that the little things in life can all add up. You can do small gestures like holding open the door for people or offering to take a friend out to lunch. You could give someone a ride to the airport or pay for someone's laundry at the laundromat.\\nEven offering someone kind words can help you grow as a hero. Say thank you to service workers. Tell a friend you appreciate them.\\nGive a friend a hug.\\nWrite your teacher a thank you note.\\nWave to the driver, who stopped to let you cross the road, even if it is at a crosswalk.\\nSend a family member a surprise email or text telling them you love them.\\n3. Heroic Growth\\n3-1. Promote the good.\\nBeing a hero is not just about solving all of the bad things in life like poverty, inequality, and oppression. It is also about working to promote and advance the good things in life like charity, kindness, gratitude and love. Speaking out against injustice is important, but speaking out in favor of peace is just as valuable.\\nThink about things in terms of “Pro” instead of “Anti”. Be pro-peace instead of antiwar. Be pro-environment instead of just antipollution.\\nBe a good leader. If you are a teacher or in charge of a team at work, know that you have people that look up to you. Lead them by example. If they see you thanking people for their hard work, highlighting the achievements of others, and going out of your way to make the classroom or work place safe, they are more likely to do the same.\\n3-2. Be on the lookout for opportunities.\\nA good hero is vigilant. They are aware of their surroundings and constantly on the lookout for situations where they may be of help to others. Start small. Think about the people you come across regularly in your daily life. The coworker in the cubicle next to you or the student who sits behind you in English class. What do you know about them? When might there have been an opportunity to be a hero to them in the past? How can you be ready to be a hero for them in the future?\\nIf you are in line at the grocery store and the person behind you seems like they are in a hurry, let them go through in front of you.\\nIf you recognize that a fellow classmate is struggling in a class you excel at, offer to study with them after school.\\nWatch for people on the subway who may need your seat. The elderly, a pregnant woman, someone on crutches.\\n3-3. Learn from your own heroes.\\nNo one becomes a hero all on their own. Think about the people in your life who have acted like heroes. Think about the times when you felt lost or scared, only to have another person come along and help you through a tough time? Maybe they were strangers. Perhaps a teacher or relative was there for you when you really needed someone. Think about what they did and how it made you feel.\\nYou can ask some of your own heroes for advice. Ask them how they are able to put others before themselves.\\nDon’t be afraid to imitate. Chances are that the way someone helped you will work for other people as well. If a friend helped you by being a good listener, you can do the same for someone else.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You do not have to wear a cape or be a crime fighter to be a hero. No matter who you are or what you do, there are opportunities to be heroic all around you. You just have to know how to think and act like a hero. Then, when the opportunity arises, you'll be able to come through and save the day.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Heroic Thoughts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Let go of your ego.\", \"描述\": \"A real hero knows that their actions might go unnoticed, and that’s okay. Make sure that you are trying to be a hero for the right reasons. You need to be willing to help people who might not even know you have intervened on their behalf. You have to be focused more on the feeling you get from doing the good deed than receiving praise. \\nFind joy in seeing the smiles on other people’s faces.\\nThink about how you would feel having a good deed done for you. That will help you connect to the joy or change you create in another person’s life.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Initiate the change you want to see.\", \"描述\": \"A true hero isn’t all talk. A true hero is constantly thinking about how they can take action and help others. You may be inspired to be a hero for a certain cause or issue, or you may try to be a hero for someone in need. \\nFor example, if you are passionate about the environment, don’t just preach to people that they should recycle. Try to start an environmental club at your school or get your friends to help you build a compost bin in your backyard.\\nIf you're passionate about helping the homeless in your area, you could organize your neighborhood and advocate for positive change with city administrators, city council members, and county supervisors.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Put others before yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Think about other people needs before considering your own. When you are making decisions at work or at home, take some time to think about how your actions will affect someone else. For example, if you take the day off of work, what kind of workload will that put on your coworkers?\\nRemember that everyone thinks differently. What seems comfortable or easy for you might not seem that way to other people. You might feel really confident going to a karaoke night with a bunch of strangers, but your friend or date might not. Consider what others want in addition to what makes you happy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be ready to act when others are passive.\", \"描述\": \"People lead busy lives. Often a typical person is so focused on themselves, they don’t notice or care to act when something is wrong. A hero will be willing to take action and confront injustice straight on. \\nStick up for a friend, classmate, or coworker you feel is being treated unfairly. Buy a meal for the homeless person everyone keeps walking by on the street. Notice the underdog or the less fortunate and give them a helping hand.\\nYou can also focus on creating safe spaces for individuals who suffer from injustice or prejudice. This could be advocating for a space on your campus for LGBTQ students, or a club for women of color to network and connect.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Heroic Acts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Perform random acts of kindness.\", \"描述\": \"A hero doesn’t just intervene when they see wrong being done. A true hero is there to do good at any time. This might mean taking some extra time out of your day to perform a good deed. You can do anything from paying for the coffee of the person behind you in line at the coffee shop to helping some lost tourists find their way around the city. Other random acts of kindness you can do include:\\nRaking your neighbor's leaves for them.\\nHelping to pay a student's tuition.\\nBuying lunch for the office.\\nWashing a friend's car for them.\\nBuying groceries for someone in need.\\nTaking an elderly neighbor to an appointment.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Volunteer your time.\", \"描述\": \"There are many charities and nonprofit organizations across the country that volunteers. Simply donating a few hours each week to help these organizations so very much. Offer to work for a local marathon that is raising money for breast cancer or another cause you feel passionate about. You can also volunteer your time in other ways:\\nHelp build houses for low-income families.\\nJoin a community garden.\\nGet involved with your neighborhood watch.\\nYou don’t always have to volunteer in such an official way. You can offer to help a friend move or give up some time to listen when a family member is in need of emotional support.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Volunteer your talents.\", \"描述\": \"First, think about the things you are good at or the useful skills that you have. You can ask your friends and family what they think you excel at, if you cannot think of anything specific. They will have a good idea about your strengths and how you can best utilize them to help others. Think about how you can use your talents to help others.\\nPerhaps you are a great public speaker, or maybe you have a talent for craft projects or building furniture. Perhaps you are a great listener and can be an empathetic ear for an elderly neighbor.\\nYou can also use your professional skills and knowledge to help others. If you are a teacher, you might volunteer some time to help tutor students who are having trouble in school. If you are an artist, you might volunteer at a senior center to help teach senior citizens how to paint or sketch.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask someone if they could use some help.\", \"描述\": \"Some people, such as the disabled or elderly, need help, but don’t know how to ask. Become the type of person who isn’t just waiting around for opportunities to be a hero, by asking others if there is anything you can do for them.\\nThink about what you had a hard time with when you started your job. Offer to assist new employees with working the copy machine, getting to know certain procedures, or setting up their email.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use small gestures.\", \"描述\": \"A hero understands that the little things in life can all add up. You can do small gestures like holding open the door for people or offering to take a friend out to lunch. You could give someone a ride to the airport or pay for someone's laundry at the laundromat.\\nEven offering someone kind words can help you grow as a hero. Say thank you to service workers. Tell a friend you appreciate them.\\nGive a friend a hug.\\nWrite your teacher a thank you note.\\nWave to the driver, who stopped to let you cross the road, even if it is at a crosswalk.\\nSend a family member a surprise email or text telling them you love them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Heroic Growth\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Promote the good.\", \"描述\": \"Being a hero is not just about solving all of the bad things in life like poverty, inequality, and oppression. It is also about working to promote and advance the good things in life like charity, kindness, gratitude and love. Speaking out against injustice is important, but speaking out in favor of peace is just as valuable.\\nThink about things in terms of “Pro” instead of “Anti”. Be pro-peace instead of antiwar. Be pro-environment instead of just antipollution.\\nBe a good leader. If you are a teacher or in charge of a team at work, know that you have people that look up to you. Lead them by example. If they see you thanking people for their hard work, highlighting the achievements of others, and going out of your way to make the classroom or work place safe, they are more likely to do the same.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be on the lookout for opportunities.\", \"描述\": \"A good hero is vigilant. They are aware of their surroundings and constantly on the lookout for situations where they may be of help to others. Start small. Think about the people you come across regularly in your daily life. The coworker in the cubicle next to you or the student who sits behind you in English class. What do you know about them? When might there have been an opportunity to be a hero to them in the past? How can you be ready to be a hero for them in the future?\\nIf you are in line at the grocery store and the person behind you seems like they are in a hurry, let them go through in front of you.\\nIf you recognize that a fellow classmate is struggling in a class you excel at, offer to study with them after school.\\nWatch for people on the subway who may need your seat. The elderly, a pregnant woman, someone on crutches.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn from your own heroes.\", \"描述\": \"No one becomes a hero all on their own. Think about the people in your life who have acted like heroes. Think about the times when you felt lost or scared, only to have another person come along and help you through a tough time? Maybe they were strangers. Perhaps a teacher or relative was there for you when you really needed someone. Think about what they did and how it made you feel.\\nYou can ask some of your own heroes for advice. Ask them how they are able to put others before themselves.\\nDon’t be afraid to imitate. Chances are that the way someone helped you will work for other people as well. If a friend helped you by being a good listener, you can do the same for someone else.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Changing Your Mindset
1-1. Take responsibility for your success.
One of the most common characteristics of a high achiever is the personal responsibility she takes for her own success or failure. High achievers tend to see ambition as the biggest factor that determines success, and tend to avoid blaming external factors like resources or circumstances.
To a high achiever, the only thing limiting the potential for success is ambition and dedication.
1-2. Learn to see challenges as opportunities.
Many people tend to think of challenges and demanding tasks as a threat. They see these things as being a potential cause of failure. A high achiever, however, sees challenges as opportunities to learn and grow.
Instead of dwelling on the possibility of failure and how to avoid it, try focusing on pursuing success. Even a simple change in perspective like this can help motivate you to take chances and pursue a meaningful achievement.
If you want to be a high achiever, always remember that anything worthwhile in life is going to be difficult. It will take hard work and dedication, but ultimately, it will be worth your effort.
1-3. Find ways to enjoy your work.
No matter what you do, it's important that you learn to enjoy working on demanding tasks. Rather than seeing work as stressful, learn to see work as an exercise in concentration and commitment.
Find ways to challenge yourself. Develop new skills that can be applied to everyday work tasks. You can do this by trying different techniques to accomplish the same tasks. Work-related tasks that do not involve any kind of variation or challenge can quickly feel tedious and never-ending.
Try to take pride in your work. Rather than thinking about the tedium of your job, or dwelling on cynical thoughts about your day-to-day assignments, train yourself to actively think highly of what you do. You can work on this in little ways by simply finding value in the work you perform, no matter what that job is.
Take stock in the things you accomplish at work each day. Try making a list for yourself of everything you got through before you leave work. It will help give you perspective about both your role within the company and the kind of impact your job has on others.
1-4. Avoid perfectionism.
It's imperative that you push yourself to grow and learn in order to achieve success, but you should not let yourself become a perfectionist. Perfectionists tend to set unrealistically high standards for themselves and others, and end up feeling defeated if they cannot achieve complete perfection. This type of mindset can actually be damaging, and may prevent you from ever accomplishing anything by creating unattainable goals.
Learn to recognize perfectionist thought patterns. If you have trouble meeting your goals or feel frustrated/upset when you can't meet your own expectations, you may be engaging in perfectionist thinking.
Be realistic. Try to scale back unreasonable expectations that you've created for yourself, and learn to let go of the way you think it should ideally be done perfectly.
Challenge yourself to engage in situations where you know you may fail. That doesn't mean allowing yourself to not meet your professional goals, but it does mean learning to accept small failures as an unavoidable part of life.
2. Developing a Work Ethic
2-1. Always seek to improve.
A high achiever is always trying to improve her skills and improve the quality of her work. Rather than thinking of a skill as something innate, learn to think of a skill as something that requires constant practice and improvement.
Rather than feeling insecure about your talents, focus on what you can improve each day. Then work towards getting better or more proficient at everything you do.
Even if you're not getting motivation to do better at work, you can provide your own motivation. Coach yourself on seeking to correct the minor mistakes that might slip through despite your day-to-day efforts. If you need help with this, try asking your immediate supervisor for more thorough feedback and suggestions on how you can improve your work.
No matter what you do or where you are, always seek to learn from others and from your own experiences.
Put yourself in challenging situations, and learn how to adapt to any environment or condition.
2-2. Be persistent and patient.
High achievers know that success takes time and dedication, but it also takes a great deal of patience. Even if you experience set backs or flat-out failures, it's important to remember that these are merely obstacles on the path to success.
Some of the most successful people have overcome incredible obstacles and repeated failures before achieving their dreams. JK Rowling was rejected by her publishers many times before she got her first book published. Bill Gate's first business failed. Yet neither of these famous achievers let those setbacks keep them from attaining success.
Remember that you may not see immediate rewards in your endeavors. That is no reason to give up, though. If anything, you should change your outlook to let setbacks or minor failures motivate you even more.
2-3. Learn to collaborate.
Being a high achiever requires a great deal of personal motivation and a strong work ethic. But it also requires an ability to work with others. It may sound counterintuitive, but success often hinges on a motivated person's ability to unify other people around a vision or goal.
Trust is an essential part of any collaboration. Learn to let go of some project control, and have faith that your colleague will work her hardest to help you succeed on the project.
Clear communication can help colleagues work together. In fact, clear communication can help most work-related tasks get done more efficiently.
Get to know your co-collaborators on a more personal level. Often times finding shared interests or life experiences can bond a group and help the individual co-collaborators work together more effectively.
Collaboration can take many forms. It may involve partners and coworkers, or it may involve employees, customers, and investors. Whomever you need to surround yourself with to achieve your goals, learn to work with others and rally them around your vision.
3. Cultivating Achievement and Success
3-1. Set SMART goals.
A high achiever tends to work on day-to-day goals that will help her succeed on her bigger, longer-term goals. One of the most effective goal-writing strategies is called creating S.M.A.R.T. goals: specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, and time-bound.
Specific - make your goals explicitly clear and simple for yourself. For example, rather than desiring to be more productive, specify that you would like to finish a manuscript and send it to your editor.
Measurable - as you develop your goals, work to ensure that they are measurable. That way you can track your progress, and have a clear picture of how much more work is still necessary. For example, work until you've completed 10 pages of new material each day.
Achievable - while your goals should challenge you to some extent, they should still be defined in such a way that you can accomplish those goals. For example, instead of wanting to be a best-selling author overnight, make it your goal to finish and submit a complete manuscript.
Results-focused - your goals should be determined by their outcomes. Be clear from the start what you want to achieve, and how (specifically) you can accomplish those goals. For example, after you've completed a manuscript, you'll need to work with an editor or publisher. The goal shouldn't be to become a world-famous author, it should be to have a publishing contract lined up.
Time-bound - give yourself a realistic time frame. Your deadlines should be close enough that they create a sense of urgency, but not so close that you will not be able to realistically accomplish those goals. For example, rather than hoping to achieve success overnight, give yourself 12 months to finish and submit a manuscript.
3-2. Be willing to change directions.
When you're driven to achieve a specific goal, it may seem illogical to even think about changing directions. But a high achiever knows that sometimes, when things aren't working well or have the potential to go off the rails down the line, you need to rethink your strategy. In some cases, you may have to scrap all of your plans and reevaluate how you can achieve that goal.
If you find yourself feeling bored, restless, or a vague sense of anxiety while working toward your goals, it may be time to step back and rethink your approach.
Changing directions does not mean giving up. It may mean altering how you approach your challenges, or it may mean adapting to changing circumstances. Whatever needs to be done in order to meet your goals, keep pushing yourself and never give up.
3-3. Step out of your comfort zone.
One of the best ways to push yourself to succeed is by stepping outside of your usual comfort zone. You can start doing this in small ways, and work your way up to bigger accomplishments. Studies show that learning a new skill, or even learning new ways to accomplish a task, combined with collaborative work, result in a smarter, sharper, and more confident individual.
Begin stepping outside of your comfort zone in low-stakes personal situations. You can pick up a new hobby and join a group of like-minded people, for example. As you get comfortable reaching outside your comfort zone, you can expand that practice to your work environment.
Aim for a middle ground between familiarity and anxiety. Don't push yourself to the point where you may have a panic attack, but be sure to challenge yourself, even if it means feeling somewhat uncomfortable.
3-4. Go the extra distance.
Many high achievers are successful because they push themselves further than the competition. That doesn't necessarily mean becoming a workaholic, but it does mean being willing to keep going no matter what. If you find yourself exhausted and you feel incapable of doing any more work on your project, put in another 15 minutes before you call it a day. If you can do this everyday, those 15 minutes will stack up very quickly.
Tips
Build up a good reputation. Work well with others, and people will know they can trust you with their projects.
Keep a positive attitude, and always be grateful for the help and support of others along the way.
Stay strong. It is often easier to give up than to keep trying, but long-term success requires persistence and dedication. If you cannot commit to your dreams, then no one else will.
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Even a simple change in perspective like this can help motivate you to take chances and pursue a meaningful achievement.\\nIf you want to be a high achiever, always remember that anything worthwhile in life is going to be difficult. It will take hard work and dedication, but ultimately, it will be worth your effort.\\n1-3. Find ways to enjoy your work.\\nNo matter what you do, it's important that you learn to enjoy working on demanding tasks. Rather than seeing work as stressful, learn to see work as an exercise in concentration and commitment.\\nFind ways to challenge yourself. Develop new skills that can be applied to everyday work tasks. You can do this by trying different techniques to accomplish the same tasks. Work-related tasks that do not involve any kind of variation or challenge can quickly feel tedious and never-ending.\\nTry to take pride in your work. Rather than thinking about the tedium of your job, or dwelling on cynical thoughts about your day-to-day assignments, train yourself to actively think highly of what you do. You can work on this in little ways by simply finding value in the work you perform, no matter what that job is.\\nTake stock in the things you accomplish at work each day. Try making a list for yourself of everything you got through before you leave work. It will help give you perspective about both your role within the company and the kind of impact your job has on others.\\n1-4. Avoid perfectionism.\\nIt's imperative that you push yourself to grow and learn in order to achieve success, but you should not let yourself become a perfectionist. Perfectionists tend to set unrealistically high standards for themselves and others, and end up feeling defeated if they cannot achieve complete perfection. This type of mindset can actually be damaging, and may prevent you from ever accomplishing anything by creating unattainable goals.\\nLearn to recognize perfectionist thought patterns. If you have trouble meeting your goals or feel frustrated/upset when you can't meet your own expectations, you may be engaging in perfectionist thinking.\\nBe realistic. Try to scale back unreasonable expectations that you've created for yourself, and learn to let go of the way you think it should ideally be done perfectly.\\nChallenge yourself to engage in situations where you know you may fail. That doesn't mean allowing yourself to not meet your professional goals, but it does mean learning to accept small failures as an unavoidable part of life.\\n2. Developing a Work Ethic\\n2-1. Always seek to improve.\\nA high achiever is always trying to improve her skills and improve the quality of her work. Rather than thinking of a skill as something innate, learn to think of a skill as something that requires constant practice and improvement.\\nRather than feeling insecure about your talents, focus on what you can improve each day. Then work towards getting better or more proficient at everything you do.\\nEven if you're not getting motivation to do better at work, you can provide your own motivation. Coach yourself on seeking to correct the minor mistakes that might slip through despite your day-to-day efforts. If you need help with this, try asking your immediate supervisor for more thorough feedback and suggestions on how you can improve your work.\\nNo matter what you do or where you are, always seek to learn from others and from your own experiences.\\nPut yourself in challenging situations, and learn how to adapt to any environment or condition.\\n2-2. Be persistent and patient.\\nHigh achievers know that success takes time and dedication, but it also takes a great deal of patience. Even if you experience set backs or flat-out failures, it's important to remember that these are merely obstacles on the path to success.\\nSome of the most successful people have overcome incredible obstacles and repeated failures before achieving their dreams. JK Rowling was rejected by her publishers many times before she got her first book published. Bill Gate's first business failed. Yet neither of these famous achievers let those setbacks keep them from attaining success.\\nRemember that you may not see immediate rewards in your endeavors. That is no reason to give up, though. If anything, you should change your outlook to let setbacks or minor failures motivate you even more.\\n2-3. Learn to collaborate.\\nBeing a high achiever requires a great deal of personal motivation and a strong work ethic. But it also requires an ability to work with others. It may sound counterintuitive, but success often hinges on a motivated person's ability to unify other people around a vision or goal.\\nTrust is an essential part of any collaboration. Learn to let go of some project control, and have faith that your colleague will work her hardest to help you succeed on the project.\\nClear communication can help colleagues work together. In fact, clear communication can help most work-related tasks get done more efficiently.\\nGet to know your co-collaborators on a more personal level. Often times finding shared interests or life experiences can bond a group and help the individual co-collaborators work together more effectively.\\nCollaboration can take many forms. It may involve partners and coworkers, or it may involve employees, customers, and investors. Whomever you need to surround yourself with to achieve your goals, learn to work with others and rally them around your vision.\\n3. Cultivating Achievement and Success\\n3-1. Set SMART goals.\\nA high achiever tends to work on day-to-day goals that will help her succeed on her bigger, longer-term goals. One of the most effective goal-writing strategies is called creating S.M.A.R.T. goals: specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, and time-bound.\\nSpecific - make your goals explicitly clear and simple for yourself. For example, rather than desiring to be more productive, specify that you would like to finish a manuscript and send it to your editor.\\nMeasurable - as you develop your goals, work to ensure that they are measurable. That way you can track your progress, and have a clear picture of how much more work is still necessary. For example, work until you've completed 10 pages of new material each day.\\nAchievable - while your goals should challenge you to some extent, they should still be defined in such a way that you can accomplish those goals. For example, instead of wanting to be a best-selling author overnight, make it your goal to finish and submit a complete manuscript.\\nResults-focused - your goals should be determined by their outcomes. Be clear from the start what you want to achieve, and how (specifically) you can accomplish those goals. For example, after you've completed a manuscript, you'll need to work with an editor or publisher. The goal shouldn't be to become a world-famous author, it should be to have a publishing contract lined up.\\nTime-bound - give yourself a realistic time frame. Your deadlines should be close enough that they create a sense of urgency, but not so close that you will not be able to realistically accomplish those goals. For example, rather than hoping to achieve success overnight, give yourself 12 months to finish and submit a manuscript.\\n3-2. Be willing to change directions.\\nWhen you're driven to achieve a specific goal, it may seem illogical to even think about changing directions. But a high achiever knows that sometimes, when things aren't working well or have the potential to go off the rails down the line, you need to rethink your strategy. In some cases, you may have to scrap all of your plans and reevaluate how you can achieve that goal.\\nIf you find yourself feeling bored, restless, or a vague sense of anxiety while working toward your goals, it may be time to step back and rethink your approach.\\nChanging directions does not mean giving up. It may mean altering how you approach your challenges, or it may mean adapting to changing circumstances. Whatever needs to be done in order to meet your goals, keep pushing yourself and never give up.\\n3-3. Step out of your comfort zone.\\nOne of the best ways to push yourself to succeed is by stepping outside of your usual comfort zone. You can start doing this in small ways, and work your way up to bigger accomplishments. Studies show that learning a new skill, or even learning new ways to accomplish a task, combined with collaborative work, result in a smarter, sharper, and more confident individual.\\nBegin stepping outside of your comfort zone in low-stakes personal situations. You can pick up a new hobby and join a group of like-minded people, for example. As you get comfortable reaching outside your comfort zone, you can expand that practice to your work environment.\\nAim for a middle ground between familiarity and anxiety. Don't push yourself to the point where you may have a panic attack, but be sure to challenge yourself, even if it means feeling somewhat uncomfortable.\\n3-4. Go the extra distance.\\nMany high achievers are successful because they push themselves further than the competition. That doesn't necessarily mean becoming a workaholic, but it does mean being willing to keep going no matter what. If you find yourself exhausted and you feel incapable of doing any more work on your project, put in another 15 minutes before you call it a day. If you can do this everyday, those 15 minutes will stack up very quickly.\\nTips\\nBuild up a good reputation. Work well with others, and people will know they can trust you with their projects.\\nKeep a positive attitude, and always be grateful for the help and support of others along the way.\\nStay strong. It is often easier to give up than to keep trying, but long-term success requires persistence and dedication. If you cannot commit to your dreams, then no one else will.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you ever wondered if you’re really reaching your greatest potential? The good news is that just by wanting to be a higher achiever, you’re already on the path to being one. In this article, we’ll highlight the most effective ways to improve your mindset and work ethic so you can reach all of your goals. 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A high achiever, however, sees challenges as opportunities to learn and grow.\\nInstead of dwelling on the possibility of failure and how to avoid it, try focusing on pursuing success. Even a simple change in perspective like this can help motivate you to take chances and pursue a meaningful achievement.\\nIf you want to be a high achiever, always remember that anything worthwhile in life is going to be difficult. It will take hard work and dedication, but ultimately, it will be worth your effort.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find ways to enjoy your work.\", \"描述\": \"No matter what you do, it's important that you learn to enjoy working on demanding tasks. Rather than seeing work as stressful, learn to see work as an exercise in concentration and commitment.\\nFind ways to challenge yourself. Develop new skills that can be applied to everyday work tasks. You can do this by trying different techniques to accomplish the same tasks. Work-related tasks that do not involve any kind of variation or challenge can quickly feel tedious and never-ending.\\nTry to take pride in your work. Rather than thinking about the tedium of your job, or dwelling on cynical thoughts about your day-to-day assignments, train yourself to actively think highly of what you do. You can work on this in little ways by simply finding value in the work you perform, no matter what that job is.\\nTake stock in the things you accomplish at work each day. Try making a list for yourself of everything you got through before you leave work. It will help give you perspective about both your role within the company and the kind of impact your job has on others.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Avoid perfectionism.\", \"描述\": \"It's imperative that you push yourself to grow and learn in order to achieve success, but you should not let yourself become a perfectionist. Perfectionists tend to set unrealistically high standards for themselves and others, and end up feeling defeated if they cannot achieve complete perfection. This type of mindset can actually be damaging, and may prevent you from ever accomplishing anything by creating unattainable goals.\\nLearn to recognize perfectionist thought patterns. If you have trouble meeting your goals or feel frustrated/upset when you can't meet your own expectations, you may be engaging in perfectionist thinking.\\nBe realistic. Try to scale back unreasonable expectations that you've created for yourself, and learn to let go of the way you think it should ideally be done perfectly.\\nChallenge yourself to engage in situations where you know you may fail. 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1. Learning the Basics
1-1. Study the main concepts of Hinduism.
Hindu is one of the oldest religions in the world, originating before recorded history on the Indian subcontinent. It’s vital to begin your entry into this religion through an appreciation of its foundation elements.
The is a concept in Hinduism "in which the cosmic functions of creation, maintenance, and destruction are personified by the forms of Brahma the creator, Vishnu the preserver and Shiva the destroyer or transformer." However in most Puranic texts, Brahma's creative activity depends on the presence and power of a higher god.
Traditionally, Hinduism prescribed a strictly ordered social with 4 main groups: Brahmin (priests), Kshatriyas (nobles and warriors or leaders), Vaishyas (craftsmen and farmers or profit-minded), and Shudras (skilled/unskilled laborers). With possible myth, a fifth “untouchable” class which is said to be outside of the Varna system, doesn't exist. Hindu religion doesn't divide people into categories and classes. The Varna system defines one's varna quotient and one can possess all varna quotient with one or more prominent.
refers to a cause-and-effect system where one’s deeds and acts influence what happens in life. Each person creates their own destiny through their actions in life: if one conducts good deeds, they will reap good consequences later on in life.
refers to God’s divine law which orders the cosmos. When we follow dharma, our souls are brought into harmony and advanced towards God, truth, and righteousness.
, also known as punarjanma, is a cyclic process of birth, life, death, and rebirth. Instead of an afterlife, as is found in Judeo-Christian religions, Hindus believe that the immortal soul continues to exist after the death of the body, and is reborn into subsequent new bodies. The actions that one completes in life (their karma) influence how the souls is reborn (for example, as a lower order life-form). Once one resolves or “perfects” their karma, the soul breaks free from the reincarnation cycle.
Hindus also traditionally believe in . There are 7 Chakras, or energy centers, located throughout the body and connected to one’s spirit. Believers can purify or open up their Chakras through yoga mediation.
While there is a wide array of perspectives on the “Divine” as well as a host of deity figures, all Hindus worship a who is unchanging, all-present, timeless, formless, and pure love.
1-2. Embrace pluralism.
More than most major religions, Hinduism accepts and even celebrates pluralism. It is open to multiple types of practices and traditions.
The Hindu phrase, “May good thoughts come to us from all sides,” reflects this open and accepting nature. It indicates that all can (and should) seek out enlightenment from multiple sources and perspectives rather than from one dogma.
Hindus do not ascribe to any one creed, and do not believe that there is any one singular view, reality, or way to reach God.
Contemporary Hindus tend to practice tolerance and acceptance as an important religious virtue, rather than being exclusionary or narrow-minded.
1-3. Learn about the main denominations.
There are 4 main denominations within Hinduism. Though each have their differences, they also share a common purpose: to further the soul's journey towards its divine destiny.
Under , Hindus worship the Supreme God as Shiva, (“the Compassionate One”). Shaivite Hindus value self discipline, follow a guru, worship in a temple, and practice yoga in order become one with Shiva.
Followers of worship the Supreme as the Divine Mother, Shakti or Devi, and use chants, magic, yoga, and other rituals to channel cosmic forces and awaken one’s spine Chakra.
In , worshipers seek the Supreme as Lord Vishnu and His incarnations, Krishna and Rama. Vaishnavites are deeply devotional and invested in saints, temples, and scriptures.
Followers of , worship the Supreme in one of six forms: Ganesha, Shiva, Shakti, Vishnu, Surya and Skanda. They accept all the major Hindu Gods and are thus known as the most liberal or nonsectarian Hindus. They follow a philosophical, meditative path and strive after oneness with God through understanding.
1-4. Read the major sacred texts of Hinduism.
These texts were written at different times in Hindu history and offer different perspectives on Hindu tenets.
The (usually considered part of larger book, Mahabharata), is a central text of Hinduism. It is structured as a philosophical dialog between the deity Krishna and the warrior Arjuna. The Bhagavad Gita is consider to be the most popular and accessible of the sacred texts and is the ideal book to start with as a beginner interested in Hinduism.
The are another primary Hindu text. There are 4 books in the ‘’‘Vedas’’’(the Rig Veda, Sama Veda, Yajur Veda and Atharva Veda) which contain hymns, incantations, rituals, a unique view of everyday life in ancient India.
The detail how the soul (Atman) can be united with the ultimate truth (Brahman). This is accomplished through contemplation and mediation, as well as establishing good karma.
The offer a narrative history of the Universe from creation to destruction, as well as tales of kings, heroes, and demigods.
1-5. Familiarize yourself with the Hindu deities.
In the Hindu pantheon, God takes on many forms and appears as several deities. While it is commonly stated that there are 330 million Hinduism deities, there are some main or more recognizable ones that you should try to learn.
(elephant god) is the son of Shiva and considered to be the god of success, prosperity and divinity. Before starting any main activity (like a new business, purchasing/building a house, doing daily pooja, etc.) is the first to be worshipped.
is the creator of all reality.
is the preserver of order.
is the God of Gods. He is also tasked with the destruction of the universe, so it can be remade.
is the Goddess of all wealth and consort of Vishnu.
is the Goddess of Power, strength and valour and consort of Shiva
2. Converting to Hinduism
2-1. Join a Hindu community.
This is the first step in completing an “ethical conversion” to Hinduism.
Search the internet for Hindu temples in your area and stop by to learn more about them and their services.
The goal of joining a Hindu community is to become accepted by your local practicing members, as well as gain their help in completing the daily and constant rituals (see section on Practicing Hinduism).
If there are no Hindu temples in your area, you can always join an online community, so that you can at least connect with fellow followers virtually .You can also call a priest over and make a praying area for pujas in a small part of the house.
2-2. Distinguish between your past and present beliefs.
The next step towards conversion is to create a point-counterpoint list of the beliefs help by your previous religion (if you had one) and the belief of Hindu. This exercise will help you take stock of what you will be leaving behind and embracing through your conversion.
2-3. Sever from former mentors.
An important element of Hindu philosophy is detachment, and you can start to practice this by leaving behind mentors and sources of influence from your former life, especially if they are not supportive of your conversion decision.
Converts from former religions are encouraged to share their desires to join Hinduism with their past religious mentors, and allow their mentors to try to change their mind.
Converts are to request a letter of severance from their past religious mentors, indicating that they have terminated their involvement with that religion in order to become a Hindu.
2-4. Adopt a Hindu name.
Coverts are asked to perform a legal name change and take on a Hindu name as part of their conversion process.
Hindu names are usually based on Sanskrit or Indian name, and are especially drawn from Hindu deities and mythologies.
Technically, one is asked to change both their first and last name, and to make these legal changes on all their documents (driver’s license, passport, work documents, etc.)
Popular Hindu first names for boys include Aarav (Peaceful, wisdom, musical note), Vivaan (First rays of the sun, full of life), and Aditya (the sun). For girls, popular first names include Saanvi (Goddess Lakshmi), Aanya (grace), and Aadhya (Goddess Durga).
2-5. Have a traditional Hindu name-giving ceremony.
This ceremony, also called a nama karan sanskara, is performed at the temple and is where the new Hindu name is conferred, vows are taken, and the certificate of conversion is signed.
2-6. Publicly announce your conversion.
After all the previous steps are completed, the new convert is asked to publish a 3-day announcement in their local newspaper proclaiming their name change and conversion. This announcement should be copied and saved for proof of conversion.
2-7. Enjoy a “welcoming” ceremony.
To celebrate your home coming into the Hinduism, a traditional vratyastoma ceremony is thrown in your honor.
3. Practicing Hinduism
3-1. Uphold nonviolence and be kind to all living things.
Hindus believe that all life is sacred and therefore should be loved and revered. As a practicing Hindu, try to be sensitive to all life forms, big and small.
Practice nonviolence (ahimsa) in thought, word and deed. In other words, try not to be hurtful or harmful to other living things in the things you do, say, or think.
Consider becoming vegetarian. Many Hindus, though not all, practice vegetarianism as a way to show care and respect for animal life.
Though all animals are considered sacred in Hindu culture, cows are especially revered as holy. According to an ancient Hindu story, the original cow, Mother Surabhi, was a treasure churned from the cosmic ocean.
Beef is never eaten in Hindu cuisine, though the 5 byproducts of cows -- milk, curd, butter (ghee), urine, and dung -- are revered as sacramental objects.
It is considered an important and holy duty (a dharma) to feed animals. Many Hindu households will ritualistically offer food to ants, for example, or offer sweet delicacies to elephants on special holidays.
3-2. Perform the 5 daily duties (pancha maha yajnas).
These daily duties, or homages, are performed by every Hindu householder.
involves paying homage to Brahman by teaching and studying scriptures.
involves paying homage to Gods and universe elementals by building fire.
involves paying homage to the ancestors through the offering of water.
involves paying respects to human guests, helping the poor and downtrodden
involves paying homage to beings by offering food to all creatures.
3-3. Practice the 5 constant duties (pancha nithya karma).
In addition to the 5 daily homages listed above, Hindus practice 5 karmas, or pious acts, as listed below.
One should (dharma) and live a virtuous life of purity, respect, self-control, detachment, selflessness, and striving towards truth.
One should (tirthayatra) where you regularly visit holy persons, temples, and sacred pilgrimage sites. Such journeys provide freedom from routine life and thereby freshen the mind. Pilgrimages also help to create a sense of togetherness in the family, since all members undertake the pilgrimages together.
One should (Uthsava) by participating in festivals, celebrating holy days in the home or temple, and observe fasts. Hindu sages tell us that occasional fasting prevents bodily diseases, restores the body's healing power, and heals the mind by removing lust, anger, hatred, pride, and jealousy.
One should (samskaras) as outlined in the scriptures and that mark an individual's passage through life.
One should (Sarva Brahma) and look for God in all beings.
3-4. Worship the gods through Puja.
Puja is the central act of Hindu worship.
Puja can take place be in a temple setting or at home.
In puja, one worships a Hindu god by bathing a statue/reliquary of it in milk, curds, honey, butter, and water before dressing it in rich fabrics and anointing it with jewelry, flowers, sandalwood, and incense.
3-5. Take up other Hindu practices.
In addition to these traditional practices, consider following other Hindu acts which are becoming increasingly popular in mainstream culture.
is an ancient Hindu system of holistic healing and wellness that is finding new popularity in the west today.
has been adapted from Hindu practice as a way to bring meditative movement to the masses.
Saying the greeting while bringing together both palms of the hands before the heart has become popularized as a humble way of greeting people.
Tips
If you chose to follow a vegetarian diet, make sure to check the labels of foodstuffs to ensure a lack of animal and especially beef (which can include gelatin).[32]
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You don't have to believe in all concepts! Remember, Hinduism encourages us to question beliefs. For example, some Hindus are creationists.
Hinduism encourages everyone’s subjective truth (whatever idea/practice that strengthens you by more remembrance). That is why there are many different forms of Gods and Goddesses. You are given the freedom to choose any one god which is available in the pantheon of Hindu gods. Choose any one that matches with your subjective truth.
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Many Hindus, though not all, practice vegetarianism as a way to show care and respect for animal life.\\nThough all animals are considered sacred in Hindu culture, cows are especially revered as holy. According to an ancient Hindu story, the original cow, Mother Surabhi, was a treasure churned from the cosmic ocean.\\nBeef is never eaten in Hindu cuisine, though the 5 byproducts of cows -- milk, curd, butter (ghee), urine, and dung -- are revered as sacramental objects.\\nIt is considered an important and holy duty (a dharma) to feed animals. Many Hindu households will ritualistically offer food to ants, for example, or offer sweet delicacies to elephants on special holidays.\\n3-2. Perform the 5 daily duties (pancha maha yajnas).\\nThese daily duties, or homages, are performed by every Hindu householder.\\n\\n involves paying homage to Brahman by teaching and studying scriptures.\\n involves paying homage to Gods and universe elementals by building fire.\\n involves paying homage to the ancestors through the offering of water.\\n involves paying respects to human guests, helping the poor and downtrodden\\n involves paying homage to beings by offering food to all creatures.\\n3-3. Practice the 5 constant duties (pancha nithya karma).\\nIn addition to the 5 daily homages listed above, Hindus practice 5 karmas, or pious acts, as listed below.\\nOne should (dharma) and live a virtuous life of purity, respect, self-control, detachment, selflessness, and striving towards truth.\\nOne should (tirthayatra) where you regularly visit holy persons, temples, and sacred pilgrimage sites. Such journeys provide freedom from routine life and thereby freshen the mind. Pilgrimages also help to create a sense of togetherness in the family, since all members undertake the pilgrimages together.\\nOne should (Uthsava) by participating in festivals, celebrating holy days in the home or temple, and observe fasts. Hindu sages tell us that occasional fasting prevents bodily diseases, restores the body's healing power, and heals the mind by removing lust, anger, hatred, pride, and jealousy.\\nOne should (samskaras) as outlined in the scriptures and that mark an individual's passage through life.\\nOne should (Sarva Brahma) and look for God in all beings.\\n3-4. Worship the gods through Puja.\\nPuja is the central act of Hindu worship.\\nPuja can take place be in a temple setting or at home.\\nIn puja, one worships a Hindu god by bathing a statue/reliquary of it in milk, curds, honey, butter, and water before dressing it in rich fabrics and anointing it with jewelry, flowers, sandalwood, and incense.\\n3-5. Take up other Hindu practices.\\nIn addition to these traditional practices, consider following other Hindu acts which are becoming increasingly popular in mainstream culture. \\n\\n is an ancient Hindu system of holistic healing and wellness that is finding new popularity in the west today.\\n\\n has been adapted from Hindu practice as a way to bring meditative movement to the masses.\\nSaying the greeting while bringing together both palms of the hands before the heart has become popularized as a humble way of greeting people.\\nTips\\nIf you chose to follow a vegetarian diet, make sure to check the labels of foodstuffs to ensure a lack of animal and especially beef (which can include gelatin).[32]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nYou don't have to believe in all concepts! Remember, Hinduism encourages us to question beliefs. For example, some Hindus are creationists.\\nHinduism encourages everyone’s subjective truth (whatever idea/practice that strengthens you by more remembrance). That is why there are many different forms of Gods and Goddesses. You are given the freedom to choose any one god which is available in the pantheon of Hindu gods. Choose any one that matches with your subjective truth.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Hinduism is the primary religion of India, and is the world's oldest extant religion created about 1500 to 500 BCE . With approximately one billion followers, it’s also the world's third largest religion. Today, Hinduism has spread all over the world and is truly a \\\"world\\\" religion. Even though several millennia have passed since it began, several core principles still make up the essence of Hindu philosophy, belief, and ritual practice. 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It’s vital to begin your entry into this religion through an appreciation of its foundation elements. \\nThe is a concept in Hinduism \\\"in which the cosmic functions of creation, maintenance, and destruction are personified by the forms of Brahma the creator, Vishnu the preserver and Shiva the destroyer or transformer.\\\" However in most Puranic texts, Brahma's creative activity depends on the presence and power of a higher god.\\nTraditionally, Hinduism prescribed a strictly ordered social with 4 main groups: Brahmin (priests), Kshatriyas (nobles and warriors or leaders), Vaishyas (craftsmen and farmers or profit-minded), and Shudras (skilled/unskilled laborers). With possible myth, a fifth “untouchable” class which is said to be outside of the Varna system, doesn't exist. Hindu religion doesn't divide people into categories and classes. The Varna system defines one's varna quotient and one can possess all varna quotient with one or more prominent.\\n\\n refers to a cause-and-effect system where one’s deeds and acts influence what happens in life. Each person creates their own destiny through their actions in life: if one conducts good deeds, they will reap good consequences later on in life.\\n\\n refers to God’s divine law which orders the cosmos. When we follow dharma, our souls are brought into harmony and advanced towards God, truth, and righteousness.\\n\\n, also known as punarjanma, is a cyclic process of birth, life, death, and rebirth. Instead of an afterlife, as is found in Judeo-Christian religions, Hindus believe that the immortal soul continues to exist after the death of the body, and is reborn into subsequent new bodies. The actions that one completes in life (their karma) influence how the souls is reborn (for example, as a lower order life-form). Once one resolves or “perfects” their karma, the soul breaks free from the reincarnation cycle.\\nHindus also traditionally believe in . There are 7 Chakras, or energy centers, located throughout the body and connected to one’s spirit. Believers can purify or open up their Chakras through yoga mediation.\\nWhile there is a wide array of perspectives on the “Divine” as well as a host of deity figures, all Hindus worship a who is unchanging, all-present, timeless, formless, and pure love.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Embrace pluralism.\", \"描述\": \"More than most major religions, Hinduism accepts and even celebrates pluralism. It is open to multiple types of practices and traditions.\\nThe Hindu phrase, “May good thoughts come to us from all sides,” reflects this open and accepting nature. It indicates that all can (and should) seek out enlightenment from multiple sources and perspectives rather than from one dogma.\\nHindus do not ascribe to any one creed, and do not believe that there is any one singular view, reality, or way to reach God.\\nContemporary Hindus tend to practice tolerance and acceptance as an important religious virtue, rather than being exclusionary or narrow-minded.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn about the main denominations.\", \"描述\": \"There are 4 main denominations within Hinduism. Though each have their differences, they also share a common purpose: to further the soul's journey towards its divine destiny.\\nUnder , Hindus worship the Supreme God as Shiva, (“the Compassionate One”). Shaivite Hindus value self discipline, follow a guru, worship in a temple, and practice yoga in order become one with Shiva.\\nFollowers of worship the Supreme as the Divine Mother, Shakti or Devi, and use chants, magic, yoga, and other rituals to channel cosmic forces and awaken one’s spine Chakra.\\nIn , worshipers seek the Supreme as Lord Vishnu and His incarnations, Krishna and Rama. Vaishnavites are deeply devotional and invested in saints, temples, and scriptures.\\nFollowers of , worship the Supreme in one of six forms: Ganesha, Shiva, Shakti, Vishnu, Surya and Skanda. They accept all the major Hindu Gods and are thus known as the most liberal or nonsectarian Hindus. They follow a philosophical, meditative path and strive after oneness with God through understanding.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Read the major sacred texts of Hinduism.\", \"描述\": \"These texts were written at different times in Hindu history and offer different perspectives on Hindu tenets.\\nThe (usually considered part of larger book, Mahabharata), is a central text of Hinduism. It is structured as a philosophical dialog between the deity Krishna and the warrior Arjuna. The Bhagavad Gita is consider to be the most popular and accessible of the sacred texts and is the ideal book to start with as a beginner interested in Hinduism.\\nThe are another primary Hindu text. There are 4 books in the ‘’‘Vedas’’’(the Rig Veda, Sama Veda, Yajur Veda and Atharva Veda) which contain hymns, incantations, rituals, a unique view of everyday life in ancient India.\\nThe detail how the soul (Atman) can be united with the ultimate truth (Brahman). This is accomplished through contemplation and mediation, as well as establishing good karma.\\nThe offer a narrative history of the Universe from creation to destruction, as well as tales of kings, heroes, and demigods.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with the Hindu deities.\", \"描述\": \"In the Hindu pantheon, God takes on many forms and appears as several deities. While it is commonly stated that there are 330 million Hinduism deities, there are some main or more recognizable ones that you should try to learn. \\n\\n (elephant god) is the son of Shiva and considered to be the god of success, prosperity and divinity. Before starting any main activity (like a new business, purchasing/building a house, doing daily pooja, etc.) is the first to be worshipped.\\n is the creator of all reality.\\n is the preserver of order.\\n is the God of Gods. He is also tasked with the destruction of the universe, so it can be remade.\\n\\n is the Goddess of all wealth and consort of Vishnu.\\n is the Goddess of Power, strength and valour and consort of Shiva\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Converting to Hinduism\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Join a Hindu community.\", \"描述\": \"This is the first step in completing an “ethical conversion” to Hinduism. \\nSearch the internet for Hindu temples in your area and stop by to learn more about them and their services.\\nThe goal of joining a Hindu community is to become accepted by your local practicing members, as well as gain their help in completing the daily and constant rituals (see section on Practicing Hinduism).\\nIf there are no Hindu temples in your area, you can always join an online community, so that you can at least connect with fellow followers virtually .You can also call a priest over and make a praying area for pujas in a small part of the house.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Distinguish between your past and present beliefs.\", \"描述\": \"The next step towards conversion is to create a point-counterpoint list of the beliefs help by your previous religion (if you had one) and the belief of Hindu. This exercise will help you take stock of what you will be leaving behind and embracing through your conversion.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sever from former mentors.\", \"描述\": \"An important element of Hindu philosophy is detachment, and you can start to practice this by leaving behind mentors and sources of influence from your former life, especially if they are not supportive of your conversion decision.\\nConverts from former religions are encouraged to share their desires to join Hinduism with their past religious mentors, and allow their mentors to try to change their mind.\\nConverts are to request a letter of severance from their past religious mentors, indicating that they have terminated their involvement with that religion in order to become a Hindu.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Adopt a Hindu name.\", \"描述\": \"Coverts are asked to perform a legal name change and take on a Hindu name as part of their conversion process.\\nHindu names are usually based on Sanskrit or Indian name, and are especially drawn from Hindu deities and mythologies.\\nTechnically, one is asked to change both their first and last name, and to make these legal changes on all their documents (driver’s license, passport, work documents, etc.)\\nPopular Hindu first names for boys include Aarav (Peaceful, wisdom, musical note), Vivaan (First rays of the sun, full of life), and Aditya (the sun). For girls, popular first names include Saanvi (Goddess Lakshmi), Aanya (grace), and Aadhya (Goddess Durga).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have a traditional Hindu name-giving ceremony.\", \"描述\": \"This ceremony, also called a nama karan sanskara, is performed at the temple and is where the new Hindu name is conferred, vows are taken, and the certificate of conversion is signed.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Publicly announce your conversion.\", \"描述\": \"After all the previous steps are completed, the new convert is asked to publish a 3-day announcement in their local newspaper proclaiming their name change and conversion. This announcement should be copied and saved for proof of conversion.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Enjoy a “welcoming” ceremony.\", \"描述\": \"To celebrate your home coming into the Hinduism, a traditional vratyastoma ceremony is thrown in your honor.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practicing Hinduism\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Uphold nonviolence and be kind to all living things.\", \"描述\": \"Hindus believe that all life is sacred and therefore should be loved and revered. As a practicing Hindu, try to be sensitive to all life forms, big and small.\\nPractice nonviolence (ahimsa) in thought, word and deed. In other words, try not to be hurtful or harmful to other living things in the things you do, say, or think.\\nConsider becoming vegetarian. Many Hindus, though not all, practice vegetarianism as a way to show care and respect for animal life.\\nThough all animals are considered sacred in Hindu culture, cows are especially revered as holy. 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1. Steps
1-1. Dress cool but not like a teen.
You want a fresher, younger look without looking like you raided your granddaughter's closet. Trying to dress as a teenager ages a woman rather than making her look younger.
Follow fashion code rules about hemline length. Mature women should opt for hemlines that flatter the body, and that typically means fewer plunging necklines and tiny mini-skirts. In general, however, adhere to the same rules typically followed by women in their 30’s or 40’s--shorts and skirts should be long enough to cover mid-thigh and necklines not exposing too much cleavage.
However, if you have great legs, show them off, and if your bosom is fabulous, wear V-necks!
Make sure what you wear fits. Too tight or too baggy is typically not good looking.
Shop at women’s stores--not teen or juniors sections. Even though you are a young, hip grandma, you are no longer 20 years-old. Luckily today’s women’s fashions include young styles and colors. Skip swapping clothes with your 15 year old granddaughter and shop in the women’s section. Instead of selecting old fashioned dresses and pantsuits, go for younger looking tops, jeans, and shorts.
Mix and match fun, bright colors and patterns. Just because you are a grandmother doesn’t mean you have to abandon fashion fun and color. Go with trending colors or patterns to express your love of life.
1-2. Update your hair and makeup.
No hip grandma would leave the house with grey in her hair or with the same look she wore in the 1980’s. Stay with the trends, but continue with the same mature approach. Use actress Helen Mirren or Goldie Hawn as an inspiration for hair and make up (also fashion).
Grey hair. It happens to most of us with age. You have the choice of coloring your hair, or embracing the grey. There is not one simple answer.
Is coloring the way to go? The best choice route is to visit a professional colorist, who can guide you on the best colors and options for you. However, home dyeing kits often yield very good results.
Visit a professional stylist for a fresh youthful cut. If you haven’t had your style updated in the last few decades now is the time to enter the new millennium. Request a style that is not only hip but goes with your unique personality, face shape and lifestyle.
Check out some of the latest makeup techniques and applications. You want to be hip, but not 14 years old so infuse some of the latest colors and techniques into your repertoire but make them age appropriate.
1-3. Be open-minded about trends and societal norms in modern society.
Being a hip grandma means that you go with the flow, try to connect and understand the younger generation without judgment or lamenting about how times were “better” when you were a girl.
Lend a trustworthy, listening ear to your children and grandchildren. Leave any judgment in the past and be the kind of grandmother that can be your child or grandchild’s sounding board.
Try new endeavors with your family. If your grandchildren really think you might love zip lining (and you are in relatively good shape), offer to spring for a session and go for it with the kids.
Understand that times have changed since you were young--and that’s o.k. So your grandson wants to live with his girlfriend instead of getting married right away or has a few piercings--be that grandma who tries to understand where he’s coming from and be supportive.
Embrace new technology. Instead of seeing new gadgets and conveniences as a burden or refuse to learn how to send a text message, run toward it and learn more about why people love it. Take a class at the local Apple store or ask your grandchildren to teach you about how to maximize your smartphone usage.
1-4. Have a sense of humor.
A cool grandma loves to laugh and continue to find humor in nearly any situation--even if it is relatively immature.
Laugh at yourself. A confident woman can definitely laugh at herself and find humor in her mistakes. She also knows that no matter her age, she is a work in progress, which can make for some pretty humorous material.
Find humor in the little things in life. So your cake turned out lopsided or you were watching “Americas Home Videos” and can’t get enough of watching a dad take the baseball bat to the family jewels; finding humor and silly laughs with your kids and grandkids will certainly make you a favorite, hip gal.
1-5. Continue to see life as a learning experience.
Just because you are a mature woman doesn’t mean that learning experiences have to stop. Life is a never-ending journey of learning and living--continue to embrace learning opportunities and be a role model to your family of how to get the most from life.
Pursue an additional college degree (or pursue a degree). If you always wanted to learn how to be a creative writer, take a class or pursue a degree in creative writing. Perhaps as a kid you earned a degree in something you felt would be more marketable, however now in your golden years the world is your oyster to explore.
Learn a new skill through classes or self exploration. Perhaps you simply want to learn more about a new hobby or have always wanted to learn how to paint with oils; you could either take a class or buy the materials and go for it on your own (or invite the kids, grandkids and friends).
Take up a sport. You may have wondered what this Lacrosse craze is all about--see for yourself by joining a senior league. You may fall in love with the sport.
1-6. Visit your doctor.
The only way you’ll be able to keep up with the family later in life is to maintain your health and prevent disease.
Follow up with all routine tests. If your physician orders a battery of tests, don’t ignore the order; do them. Early detection can add years to your life to be not only hip but smart.
Take medication as prescribed. Want to keep up with younger people? Then follow physician’s orders. You may feel older having to take blood pressure or cholesterol medication but you’ll feel worse if you don’t.
Explore different ways of healthy eating. Stave off illness and disease by adopting a healthy lifestyle. You’ll have more energy and feel happier if you eat healthy, don’t smoke and limit alcohol intake.
Continue (or start) to exercise every day. Think of fitness guru Jack LaLa land, who exercised and lived until he was 97. Clean living and exercise allowed Jack to do more push ups and pull ups than a person half his age. LaLanne once said, "I know so many people in their 80s who have Alzheimer's or are in a wheelchair or whatever. And I say to myself 'I don't want to live like that. I don't want to be a burden on my family. I need to live life. And I'd hate dying; it would ruin my image.'" Jack was a very hip grandpa.
Tips
Be open and ready to try new things--the same way you were when you were in your teens and twenties.
Share wisdom and experience with your children and grandchildren if they come to you for help with an issue or problem. Don’t be judgmental if they don’t fully (or at all) take your advice either.
Show an interest in your children and grandchildren’s hobbies and/or dreams. Ask questions and be open-minded to answers.
Warnings
Remember that a hip grandmother never condones any illegal or dangerous behavior, such as underage drinking or illegal drug use. In fact, a hip grandmother strives to educate and inform minors about the dangers and perils of illegal behavior.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Dress cool but not like a teen.\\nYou want a fresher, younger look without looking like you raided your granddaughter's closet. Trying to dress as a teenager ages a woman rather than making her look younger.\\nFollow fashion code rules about hemline length. Mature women should opt for hemlines that flatter the body, and that typically means fewer plunging necklines and tiny mini-skirts. In general, however, adhere to the same rules typically followed by women in their 30’s or 40’s--shorts and skirts should be long enough to cover mid-thigh and necklines not exposing too much cleavage.\\nHowever, if you have great legs, show them off, and if your bosom is fabulous, wear V-necks!\\nMake sure what you wear fits. Too tight or too baggy is typically not good looking.\\n\\nShop at women’s stores--not teen or juniors sections. Even though you are a young, hip grandma, you are no longer 20 years-old. Luckily today’s women’s fashions include young styles and colors. Skip swapping clothes with your 15 year old granddaughter and shop in the women’s section. Instead of selecting old fashioned dresses and pantsuits, go for younger looking tops, jeans, and shorts.\\nMix and match fun, bright colors and patterns. Just because you are a grandmother doesn’t mean you have to abandon fashion fun and color. Go with trending colors or patterns to express your love of life.\\n1-2. Update your hair and makeup.\\nNo hip grandma would leave the house with grey in her hair or with the same look she wore in the 1980’s. Stay with the trends, but continue with the same mature approach. Use actress Helen Mirren or Goldie Hawn as an inspiration for hair and make up (also fashion).\\nGrey hair. It happens to most of us with age. You have the choice of coloring your hair, or embracing the grey. There is not one simple answer.\\nIs coloring the way to go? The best choice route is to visit a professional colorist, who can guide you on the best colors and options for you. However, home dyeing kits often yield very good results.\\nVisit a professional stylist for a fresh youthful cut. If you haven’t had your style updated in the last few decades now is the time to enter the new millennium. Request a style that is not only hip but goes with your unique personality, face shape and lifestyle.\\nCheck out some of the latest makeup techniques and applications. You want to be hip, but not 14 years old so infuse some of the latest colors and techniques into your repertoire but make them age appropriate.\\n1-3. Be open-minded about trends and societal norms in modern society.\\nBeing a hip grandma means that you go with the flow, try to connect and understand the younger generation without judgment or lamenting about how times were “better” when you were a girl.\\nLend a trustworthy, listening ear to your children and grandchildren. Leave any judgment in the past and be the kind of grandmother that can be your child or grandchild’s sounding board.\\nTry new endeavors with your family. If your grandchildren really think you might love zip lining (and you are in relatively good shape), offer to spring for a session and go for it with the kids.\\nUnderstand that times have changed since you were young--and that’s o.k. So your grandson wants to live with his girlfriend instead of getting married right away or has a few piercings--be that grandma who tries to understand where he’s coming from and be supportive.\\nEmbrace new technology. Instead of seeing new gadgets and conveniences as a burden or refuse to learn how to send a text message, run toward it and learn more about why people love it. Take a class at the local Apple store or ask your grandchildren to teach you about how to maximize your smartphone usage.\\n1-4. Have a sense of humor.\\nA cool grandma loves to laugh and continue to find humor in nearly any situation--even if it is relatively immature.\\nLaugh at yourself. A confident woman can definitely laugh at herself and find humor in her mistakes. She also knows that no matter her age, she is a work in progress, which can make for some pretty humorous material.\\nFind humor in the little things in life. So your cake turned out lopsided or you were watching “Americas Home Videos” and can’t get enough of watching a dad take the baseball bat to the family jewels; finding humor and silly laughs with your kids and grandkids will certainly make you a favorite, hip gal.\\n1-5. Continue to see life as a learning experience.\\nJust because you are a mature woman doesn’t mean that learning experiences have to stop. Life is a never-ending journey of learning and living--continue to embrace learning opportunities and be a role model to your family of how to get the most from life.\\nPursue an additional college degree (or pursue a degree). If you always wanted to learn how to be a creative writer, take a class or pursue a degree in creative writing. Perhaps as a kid you earned a degree in something you felt would be more marketable, however now in your golden years the world is your oyster to explore.\\nLearn a new skill through classes or self exploration. Perhaps you simply want to learn more about a new hobby or have always wanted to learn how to paint with oils; you could either take a class or buy the materials and go for it on your own (or invite the kids, grandkids and friends).\\nTake up a sport. You may have wondered what this Lacrosse craze is all about--see for yourself by joining a senior league. You may fall in love with the sport.\\n1-6. Visit your doctor.\\nThe only way you’ll be able to keep up with the family later in life is to maintain your health and prevent disease.\\nFollow up with all routine tests. If your physician orders a battery of tests, don’t ignore the order; do them. Early detection can add years to your life to be not only hip but smart.\\nTake medication as prescribed. Want to keep up with younger people? Then follow physician’s orders. You may feel older having to take blood pressure or cholesterol medication but you’ll feel worse if you don’t.\\nExplore different ways of healthy eating. Stave off illness and disease by adopting a healthy lifestyle. You’ll have more energy and feel happier if you eat healthy, don’t smoke and limit alcohol intake.\\nContinue (or start) to exercise every day. Think of fitness guru Jack LaLa land, who exercised and lived until he was 97. Clean living and exercise allowed Jack to do more push ups and pull ups than a person half his age. LaLanne once said, \\\"I know so many people in their 80s who have Alzheimer's or are in a wheelchair or whatever. And I say to myself 'I don't want to live like that. I don't want to be a burden on my family. I need to live life. And I'd hate dying; it would ruin my image.'\\\" Jack was a very hip grandpa.\\nTips\\nBe open and ready to try new things--the same way you were when you were in your teens and twenties.\\nShare wisdom and experience with your children and grandchildren if they come to you for help with an issue or problem. Don’t be judgmental if they don’t fully (or at all) take your advice either.\\nShow an interest in your children and grandchildren’s hobbies and/or dreams. Ask questions and be open-minded to answers.\\nWarnings\\nRemember that a hip grandmother never condones any illegal or dangerous behavior, such as underage drinking or illegal drug use. In fact, a hip grandmother strives to educate and inform minors about the dangers and perils of illegal behavior.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Today’s grandma is no longer the type that sits in the den all afternoon, watching her “stories” and knitting. The modern, hip grandma is a lot like the kids and grandkids--living life to the fullest and keeping an open mind about new trends and experiences. If you want to make sure that you're in line with the modern day grandma, there are steps you can take to be hip and fresh, without looking like you are trying too hard to “hang with the kids” (which could ultimately embarrass your grandkids).\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress cool but not like a teen.\", \"描述\": \"You want a fresher, younger look without looking like you raided your granddaughter's closet. Trying to dress as a teenager ages a woman rather than making her look younger.\\nFollow fashion code rules about hemline length. Mature women should opt for hemlines that flatter the body, and that typically means fewer plunging necklines and tiny mini-skirts. In general, however, adhere to the same rules typically followed by women in their 30’s or 40’s--shorts and skirts should be long enough to cover mid-thigh and necklines not exposing too much cleavage.\\nHowever, if you have great legs, show them off, and if your bosom is fabulous, wear V-necks!\\nMake sure what you wear fits. Too tight or too baggy is typically not good looking.\\n\\nShop at women’s stores--not teen or juniors sections. Even though you are a young, hip grandma, you are no longer 20 years-old. Luckily today’s women’s fashions include young styles and colors. Skip swapping clothes with your 15 year old granddaughter and shop in the women’s section. Instead of selecting old fashioned dresses and pantsuits, go for younger looking tops, jeans, and shorts.\\nMix and match fun, bright colors and patterns. Just because you are a grandmother doesn’t mean you have to abandon fashion fun and color. Go with trending colors or patterns to express your love of life.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Update your hair and makeup.\", \"描述\": \"No hip grandma would leave the house with grey in her hair or with the same look she wore in the 1980’s. Stay with the trends, but continue with the same mature approach. Use actress Helen Mirren or Goldie Hawn as an inspiration for hair and make up (also fashion).\\nGrey hair. It happens to most of us with age. You have the choice of coloring your hair, or embracing the grey. There is not one simple answer.\\nIs coloring the way to go? The best choice route is to visit a professional colorist, who can guide you on the best colors and options for you. However, home dyeing kits often yield very good results.\\nVisit a professional stylist for a fresh youthful cut. If you haven’t had your style updated in the last few decades now is the time to enter the new millennium. Request a style that is not only hip but goes with your unique personality, face shape and lifestyle.\\nCheck out some of the latest makeup techniques and applications. You want to be hip, but not 14 years old so infuse some of the latest colors and techniques into your repertoire but make them age appropriate.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be open-minded about trends and societal norms in modern society.\", \"描述\": \"Being a hip grandma means that you go with the flow, try to connect and understand the younger generation without judgment or lamenting about how times were “better” when you were a girl.\\nLend a trustworthy, listening ear to your children and grandchildren. Leave any judgment in the past and be the kind of grandmother that can be your child or grandchild’s sounding board.\\nTry new endeavors with your family. If your grandchildren really think you might love zip lining (and you are in relatively good shape), offer to spring for a session and go for it with the kids.\\nUnderstand that times have changed since you were young--and that’s o.k. So your grandson wants to live with his girlfriend instead of getting married right away or has a few piercings--be that grandma who tries to understand where he’s coming from and be supportive.\\nEmbrace new technology. Instead of seeing new gadgets and conveniences as a burden or refuse to learn how to send a text message, run toward it and learn more about why people love it. Take a class at the local Apple store or ask your grandchildren to teach you about how to maximize your smartphone usage.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have a sense of humor.\", \"描述\": \"A cool grandma loves to laugh and continue to find humor in nearly any situation--even if it is relatively immature.\\nLaugh at yourself. A confident woman can definitely laugh at herself and find humor in her mistakes. She also knows that no matter her age, she is a work in progress, which can make for some pretty humorous material.\\nFind humor in the little things in life. So your cake turned out lopsided or you were watching “Americas Home Videos” and can’t get enough of watching a dad take the baseball bat to the family jewels; finding humor and silly laughs with your kids and grandkids will certainly make you a favorite, hip gal.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Continue to see life as a learning experience.\", \"描述\": \"Just because you are a mature woman doesn’t mean that learning experiences have to stop. Life is a never-ending journey of learning and living--continue to embrace learning opportunities and be a role model to your family of how to get the most from life.\\nPursue an additional college degree (or pursue a degree). If you always wanted to learn how to be a creative writer, take a class or pursue a degree in creative writing. Perhaps as a kid you earned a degree in something you felt would be more marketable, however now in your golden years the world is your oyster to explore.\\nLearn a new skill through classes or self exploration. Perhaps you simply want to learn more about a new hobby or have always wanted to learn how to paint with oils; you could either take a class or buy the materials and go for it on your own (or invite the kids, grandkids and friends).\\nTake up a sport. You may have wondered what this Lacrosse craze is all about--see for yourself by joining a senior league. You may fall in love with the sport.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Visit your doctor.\", \"描述\": \"The only way you’ll be able to keep up with the family later in life is to maintain your health and prevent disease.\\nFollow up with all routine tests. 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1. Steps
1-1. Feel groovy.
Start with the music that rocked a generation and just the music that makes you feel good! Hitchhike down to your local record store (or truck on over to eBay) and pick up the record of three days of love and music that defined the high point of hippiedom: Woodstock.
Listen to Jimi Hendrix and his inimitable rendition of Star Spangled Banner, Joe Cocker getting by with a little help from his friends, and the ever-popular Fish Cheer from Country Joe and the Fish.
For a truly authentic Woodstock experience, listen to it in the rain. In the mud. Naked, with friends.
While Woodstock has some of the best acts and most memorable songs of the sixties, don't neglect other music of the era as you build your hippie cred. (Actually, hippies never used the word "cred.") Groove to some of these other great artist that tapped the toes of the Biggest Generation:
Bob Dylan. There's a dichotomy here, one you must resolve for yourself. Do you go with Acoustic Bob, or Electric Bob? Either way, Mr. Dylan is one of the key ingredients in any hippie repertoire.
The Beatles. Especially during their psychedelic period, when they'd moved from "She Loves You (Yeah, Yeah, Yeah)" to "Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds."
Jefferson Airplane. Before the watered-down, glitzed-up popsters that were Jefferson Starship, Jefferson Airplane took us down a rabbit hole, and gave us somebody to love.
The Grateful Dead. If you don't know the Dead, then you just don't know the meaning of the word "hippie." These guys gave birth to an entire genre known as the "jam band," exemplified by bands like Phish, String Cheese Incident, and Widespread Panic (actually, The Allman Brothers Band gave birth to Panic). They also gave birth to an entire volume of jam band jokes, like "Why do Deadheads wave their hands in front of their face when they dance? So the music doesn't get in their eyes!"
Janis Joplin. If there is an archetypal "hippie chick," it would have to be Janis. Of course, she had her hair, her beads, and her wild-abandon ways, and she also had a voice that could sear, soar, cajole, seduce, and stun with its power.
While there are far too many excellent hippie bands to list individually, you must become familiar with Crosby, Stills, and Nash (with and without Neil Young); Joni Mitchell; Judy Collins; Sly and the Family Stone; The Doors; Donovan; The Who; The Stones; The Byrds; Buffalo Springfield, and, arguably, Frank Zappa.
1-2. Play it forward.
The music then was exactly what a generation needed. But time marches on, and there is awesome music being produced today that fits the ethos of peace, love, and understanding. Enjoy it. Being a hippie is all about openness and embracing what's good. As long as you can dance to it.
1-3. Get counter-cultured.
Understand fully the many aspects of the 1960s and 1970s that formed the hippie subculture. Learn how many of these people got together, what their general morals and beliefs were, and where they came from.
So much of the history of hippie subculture can be found on the internet today; possibly more than any other subculture. You can gain much insight into the Hippie subculture from watching the original Woodstock movie, "Celebration at Big Sur", "Monterey Pop", and so on. These are shown on Sundance and the Independent Film Channel, or you might be able to rent them from Netflix.
Don't just glue yourself to the History Channel (like wow, how to make a hippie feel old, man!). Read the words of the poets and authors and other cultural touchstones that defined hippiedom:
Electric Kool Aid Acid Test by Tom Wolfe about Ken Kesey and his Merry Pranksters is required reading, and when you're done, you will know if you're on the bus, or off the bus.
Learn to howl, and read the poetry of Allen Ginsberg and Jack Kerouac. While they themselves preceded the hippie culture, their works sparked the creative spirit in such icons as Hunter S. Thompson, and Bob Dylan (among many others).
Don't forget to laugh at the comics, and yourself. One of the greatest comedians to come from that era was the guy who gave us the "hippie dippy weatherman with your hippie dippy weather, man.": George Carlin. Unlike many hippies of the era, Mr. Carlin stuck to his beliefs throughout his life.
1-4. Get up to date.
Understand that being a hippie today is a bit different than being a hippie in the 60's and 70's. Hippies have new ideas on different topics that deal with the changing times. The hippie generation forming today is doing living by many of the same ideals that formed then, but the Vietnam war is over, and Martin Luther King, Jr., was more or less victorious in his struggle for civil rights.
Ask your parents what it was like while growing up in those days. You may be surprised—and, at turns, appalled—learning about your parent's bag was. They might surprise you, as they were once young and wild, too, and experienced many of the same things you are experiencing today, including love, war, a divided country, and a persistent existential threat.
1-5. Try to follow hippie ideals.
Contribute as little to pollution as possible. Hippies love mother earth, and do all they can to keep it well. Buy clothing and products that are recyclable and are good for the environment.
Do volunteer work and learn about barter. Hippies in the 60s believed in trade or barter rather than money.
1-6. Learn the lingo.
In the day, hippies had their own lexicon, as does every generation. Here are just some of the words that were part of the hippie's vocabulary:
1-A, closely related to Draft Card: This would determine whether you would have to go to Vietnam, unless you could get into the National Guard (hard), get CO status (harder), or move to Canada.
Babe, baby, chick, old lady: These were affectionate terms for women and wives or girlfriends.
Bag: Your thing. What you were or weren't into. "Like wow, you know, needlepoint just isn't my bag."
Blow your mind: Be really impressed by something almost unbelievable. "Man, it blows my mind that your old lady used to be my wife!"
Bogart: Not sharing a joint.
Bummer: A very bad thing. "Oh, bummer, man. I'm out of bread."
Bread: Money
Cat: A hip hippie.
Cop out: Bagging responsibility and taking the easy way out. "He loves the war, but joined the National Guard. What a cop out."
Dig: To grok; to understand, or to like. "I like really dig Sgt. Pepper, man, you dig?
Your thing. What you do. Your bag. You dig?
Far out: Like totally cool.
Gone: Really, really far out.
Flashback: An unexpected replay of a drug experience, without the drugs.
Freak flag: Long hair.
Fuzz: Police. Also, pigs, cops, and "the man."
Grok: To dig. Coined by Robert Heinlein in Strangers in a Strange Land.
Grooving: really enjoying something. "Man, I'm grooving on these new tunes by Dylan"
Groovy: Very cool. It's a good thing.
Head: Somebody who enjoys drugs.
High: What a head usually is.
If it feels good, do it; Make love, not war; Give peace chance; : Hippie mantras
Joint: A marijuana cigarette.
Killer: Really good. "That was some killer weed in that joint. Acapulco gold?"
Rap: To converse.
Split: To leave. "Man, it's been great rapping with you, but I gotta split now, gotta get ready for my gig at the Fillmore."
Wow: An expression that shows excitement. "Wow, man, bummer you have to leave. Me and my old lady have some killer weed that will really blow your mind, you dig?"
1-7. Get the clothes.
Or don't. Clothing is optional for hippies, and even when it's required, the key to being a hippie is to not care about the material stuff. It's about the attitude, not the fashion. So no need rummaging through eBay finding the right round-rimmed rose-colored glasses, bell bottoms, or tie-dyed shirts. It's just as credible to visit the bargain bins at Goodwill. As long as you're comfortable and colorful, you're cool.
Wear clothes made of natural materials, especially hemp. Hemp is the plant that releases the most pollution-preventing oxygen. Colorful ponchos and the Baja Jacket are a great hippie clothing staples, too.
Look into second-hand stores, thrift shops, garage sales, and making your own clothes and jewelry.
Hippies are known for their tie-dye attire, Native American jewelry, peasant skirts, and bell bottom pants. Men grew out their hair and facial hair, such as goatees and mustaches.
Women usually went places without a bra and no makeup. The image of the barefoot hippie is real, but they also wore sandals, soft boots or moccasins, even tennis shoes. Hippies were not immune to the weather.
Some staple items to create a modern hippie style include tiered, floral maxi dresses and short flowy shift dresses.
High-waisted flare jeans and loose, blousy tops are a part of this style.
Besides this, you can wear brown suede boots, hats, and fashion scarves to dress like a hippie.
1-8. Do your part to make the world better.
Stand against anti-life things such as wars, and help to campaign for a more liberal society with issues such as gay rights and drug laws. Take a stand for the environment and give animals a voice.
Most hippies think that drug prohibition hurts more than drug use. Google LEAP (Law Enforcement Against Prohibition), or NORML (National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws).
1-9. Let your freak flag fly.
Grow your hair and go to the hair salon as little as possible. Keep clean, but use natural soaps and deodorants and herbal products. Dr. Bronner's has long been a favorite maker of cleansing products for hippies. Make your own, if possible. Dreadlocks are a popular hippie hair-do too.
1-10. Like wow, man, look at the colors.
Some hippies are into smoking pot, and the use of psychedelic drugs such as mushrooms and LSD. More recently, ecstasy is also making a scene in hippie culture. Is it legal? Not at all. Is it dangerous? There's no consensus on that one. Ultimately, it's a choice for you to make, given what we know in the 21st century, but it was most definitely part of the hippie culture of the 60's. One can only wonder what would have become of bands like The Beatles or The Grateful Dead without their experimenting with hallucinogens.
Given that, you don't have to take drugs to be a hippie! Remember, many hippies—Frank Zappa, notably—avoided drugs and preferred the "natural high", which they sought through meditation, listening to music, colored lights, dancing, backpacking, and other healthy activities. Also, recreational drug use (barring alcohol) is illegal in many countries, so do be careful.
1-11. Become a vegetarian.
Some hippies eat only organic vegetarian and vegan food, though keep in mind that in the 60s, "organic" was not a food category, and veganism was rarely practiced. Most hippies were too poor to be too picky about what they ate.
Today's organic foods, free-range and health food stores are a legacy of the hippie movement; you might find hippies at your local one.
1-12. GO GMO FREE!
Stay away from foods with more than 10 ingredients on them. If they look confusing to your eyes, then they're NOT healthy!
1-13. Going to Farmers Markets is also a hippie thing.
Support your local farms and buy produce from them!
1-14. Going Vegan is also a good alternative if you believe that animal's lives should be well respected.
This includes taking cow's milk (a cow's milk is best for its young child), Bee's honey, (they create it themselves, therefore it's a by product of an animal), and eggs (in the case of chickens, they are basically a "period" of a chicken; an unfertilized egg doesn't turn into anything, but fertilized by a rooster, it turns into a chick) out of your diet.
1-15. Spirituality is also pretty important for the neo-hippie.
Study chakras and meditate. educate yourself on crystals and the healing benefits, maybe even start collecting them!
1-16. Watch movies like Woodstock (1970), Festival Express (2003), Revolution (1968), Magical Mystery Tour (1967), Alice's Restaurant (1969), and Magic Trip (2011).
These films capture the hippie counterculture pretty well.
Tips
Just be yourself! Have any religion and believe in anything you wish. There's no ground rules or regulations on being a hippie that you must follow.
Try to make peace in any arguments. Be the mediator for issues and see if you can help people by listening and giving advice.
Don't pollute
Warnings
Being a hippie is a decision you have to make based on your beliefs. Nobody can truly tell you how to be a hippie, or whether you truly are one or not. People generally do what they think is right, and if you think the hippies for the most part are right then you may just become one.
People are not generally fond of hippies. You won't get much approval when walking down the street, but you shouldn't change just because people tell you to.
If you decide to travel to the Rainbow Gathering, or travel to long distance cities like San Francisco or Portland, make sure your traveling group is people who you can trust and they respect you. Worst thing that can happen is you being stranded in a city with no ride and you're stuck in a city for weeks.
Don't tell other people that they are doing anything wrong by not being a hippie. Everybody is their own person, and what you think of as guidance and advice could seem to them like peer pressure and harassing.
Participating in protests can result in being arrested. Please use good judgment when protesting and marching and ensure you don't get arrested.
Hippies are also known for using psychedelics drugs (drugs that affect perceptions and stimulate different areas of the brain, like marijuana and LSD).[9]
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Be careful when experimenting with these drugs because in some states or countries, it is illegal. In addition, moderation and sense must be maintained and these drugs should not be abused. They are also know to have side effects, such as bad trips. There is a thing called marijuana induced psychosis, and it is now known that it can have long term, years long, negative (even phobic/paranoid) effects. For some it is a paranoid/phobic state for life.
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Do you go with Acoustic Bob, or Electric Bob? Either way, Mr. Dylan is one of the key ingredients in any hippie repertoire.\\nThe Beatles. Especially during their psychedelic period, when they'd moved from \\\"She Loves You (Yeah, Yeah, Yeah)\\\" to \\\"Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds.\\\"\\nJefferson Airplane. Before the watered-down, glitzed-up popsters that were Jefferson Starship, Jefferson Airplane took us down a rabbit hole, and gave us somebody to love.\\nThe Grateful Dead. If you don't know the Dead, then you just don't know the meaning of the word \\\"hippie.\\\" These guys gave birth to an entire genre known as the \\\"jam band,\\\" exemplified by bands like Phish, String Cheese Incident, and Widespread Panic (actually, The Allman Brothers Band gave birth to Panic). They also gave birth to an entire volume of jam band jokes, like \\\"Why do Deadheads wave their hands in front of their face when they dance? So the music doesn't get in their eyes!\\\"\\nJanis Joplin. 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Learn how many of these people got together, what their general morals and beliefs were, and where they came from.\\nSo much of the history of hippie subculture can be found on the internet today; possibly more than any other subculture. You can gain much insight into the Hippie subculture from watching the original Woodstock movie, \\\"Celebration at Big Sur\\\", \\\"Monterey Pop\\\", and so on. These are shown on Sundance and the Independent Film Channel, or you might be able to rent them from Netflix.\\nDon't just glue yourself to the History Channel (like wow, how to make a hippie feel old, man!). Read the words of the poets and authors and other cultural touchstones that defined hippiedom:\\nElectric Kool Aid Acid Test by Tom Wolfe about Ken Kesey and his Merry Pranksters is required reading, and when you're done, you will know if you're on the bus, or off the bus.\\nLearn to howl, and read the poetry of Allen Ginsberg and Jack Kerouac. 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Here are just some of the words that were part of the hippie's vocabulary:\\n1-A, closely related to Draft Card: This would determine whether you would have to go to Vietnam, unless you could get into the National Guard (hard), get CO status (harder), or move to Canada.\\nBabe, baby, chick, old lady: These were affectionate terms for women and wives or girlfriends.\\nBag: Your thing. What you were or weren't into. \\\"Like wow, you know, needlepoint just isn't my bag.\\\"\\nBlow your mind: Be really impressed by something almost unbelievable. \\\"Man, it blows my mind that your old lady used to be my wife!\\\"\\nBogart: Not sharing a joint.\\nBummer: A very bad thing. \\\"Oh, bummer, man. I'm out of bread.\\\"\\nBread: Money\\nCat: A hip hippie.\\nCop out: Bagging responsibility and taking the easy way out. \\\"He loves the war, but joined the National Guard. What a cop out.\\\"\\nDig: To grok; to understand, or to like. \\\"I like really dig Sgt. Pepper, man, you dig?\\nYour thing. What you do. Your bag. You dig?\\nFar out: Like totally cool.\\nGone: Really, really far out.\\nFlashback: An unexpected replay of a drug experience, without the drugs.\\nFreak flag: Long hair.\\nFuzz: Police. Also, pigs, cops, and \\\"the man.\\\"\\nGrok: To dig. Coined by Robert Heinlein in Strangers in a Strange Land.\\nGrooving: really enjoying something. \\\"Man, I'm grooving on these new tunes by Dylan\\\"\\nGroovy: Very cool. It's a good thing.\\nHead: Somebody who enjoys drugs.\\nHigh: What a head usually is.\\nIf it feels good, do it; Make love, not war; Give peace chance; : Hippie mantras\\nJoint: A marijuana cigarette.\\nKiller: Really good. \\\"That was some killer weed in that joint. Acapulco gold?\\\"\\nRap: To converse.\\nSplit: To leave. \\\"Man, it's been great rapping with you, but I gotta split now, gotta get ready for my gig at the Fillmore.\\\"\\nWow: An expression that shows excitement. \\\"Wow, man, bummer you have to leave. Me and my old lady have some killer weed that will really blow your mind, you dig?\\\"\\n1-7. Get the clothes.\\nOr don't. Clothing is optional for hippies, and even when it's required, the key to being a hippie is to not care about the material stuff. It's about the attitude, not the fashion. So no need rummaging through eBay finding the right round-rimmed rose-colored glasses, bell bottoms, or tie-dyed shirts. It's just as credible to visit the bargain bins at Goodwill. As long as you're comfortable and colorful, you're cool.\\nWear clothes made of natural materials, especially hemp. Hemp is the plant that releases the most pollution-preventing oxygen. Colorful ponchos and the Baja Jacket are a great hippie clothing staples, too.\\nLook into second-hand stores, thrift shops, garage sales, and making your own clothes and jewelry.\\nHippies are known for their tie-dye attire, Native American jewelry, peasant skirts, and bell bottom pants. Men grew out their hair and facial hair, such as goatees and mustaches.\\nWomen usually went places without a bra and no makeup. The image of the barefoot hippie is real, but they also wore sandals, soft boots or moccasins, even tennis shoes. Hippies were not immune to the weather.\\nSome staple items to create a modern hippie style include tiered, floral maxi dresses and short flowy shift dresses.\\nHigh-waisted flare jeans and loose, blousy tops are a part of this style.\\nBesides this, you can wear brown suede boots, hats, and fashion scarves to dress like a hippie.\\n1-8. Do your part to make the world better.\\nStand against anti-life things such as wars, and help to campaign for a more liberal society with issues such as gay rights and drug laws. Take a stand for the environment and give animals a voice.\\nMost hippies think that drug prohibition hurts more than drug use. Google LEAP (Law Enforcement Against Prohibition), or NORML (National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws).\\n1-9. Let your freak flag fly.\\nGrow your hair and go to the hair salon as little as possible. Keep clean, but use natural soaps and deodorants and herbal products. Dr. Bronner's has long been a favorite maker of cleansing products for hippies. Make your own, if possible. Dreadlocks are a popular hippie hair-do too.\\n1-10. Like wow, man, look at the colors.\\nSome hippies are into smoking pot, and the use of psychedelic drugs such as mushrooms and LSD. More recently, ecstasy is also making a scene in hippie culture. Is it legal? Not at all. Is it dangerous? There's no consensus on that one. Ultimately, it's a choice for you to make, given what we know in the 21st century, but it was most definitely part of the hippie culture of the 60's. One can only wonder what would have become of bands like The Beatles or The Grateful Dead without their experimenting with hallucinogens.\\nGiven that, you don't have to take drugs to be a hippie! Remember, many hippies—Frank Zappa, notably—avoided drugs and preferred the \\\"natural high\\\", which they sought through meditation, listening to music, colored lights, dancing, backpacking, and other healthy activities. Also, recreational drug use (barring alcohol) is illegal in many countries, so do be careful.\\n1-11. Become a vegetarian.\\nSome hippies eat only organic vegetarian and vegan food, though keep in mind that in the 60s, \\\"organic\\\" was not a food category, and veganism was rarely practiced. Most hippies were too poor to be too picky about what they ate. \\nToday's organic foods, free-range and health food stores are a legacy of the hippie movement; you might find hippies at your local one.\\n1-12. GO GMO FREE!\\nStay away from foods with more than 10 ingredients on them. If they look confusing to your eyes, then they're NOT healthy!\\n1-13. Going to Farmers Markets is also a hippie thing.\\nSupport your local farms and buy produce from them!\\n1-14. Going Vegan is also a good alternative if you believe that animal's lives should be well respected.\\nThis includes taking cow's milk (a cow's milk is best for its young child), Bee's honey, (they create it themselves, therefore it's a by product of an animal), and eggs (in the case of chickens, they are basically a \\\"period\\\" of a chicken; an unfertilized egg doesn't turn into anything, but fertilized by a rooster, it turns into a chick) out of your diet.\\n1-15. Spirituality is also pretty important for the neo-hippie.\\nStudy chakras and meditate. educate yourself on crystals and the healing benefits, maybe even start collecting them!\\n1-16. Watch movies like Woodstock (1970), Festival Express (2003), Revolution (1968), Magical Mystery Tour (1967), Alice's Restaurant (1969), and Magic Trip (2011).\\nThese films capture the hippie counterculture pretty well.\\nTips\\nJust be yourself! Have any religion and believe in anything you wish. There's no ground rules or regulations on being a hippie that you must follow.\\nTry to make peace in any arguments. Be the mediator for issues and see if you can help people by listening and giving advice.\\nDon't pollute\\nWarnings\\nBeing a hippie is a decision you have to make based on your beliefs. Nobody can truly tell you how to be a hippie, or whether you truly are one or not. People generally do what they think is right, and if you think the hippies for the most part are right then you may just become one.\\nPeople are not generally fond of hippies. You won't get much approval when walking down the street, but you shouldn't change just because people tell you to.\\nIf you decide to travel to the Rainbow Gathering, or travel to long distance cities like San Francisco or Portland, make sure your traveling group is people who you can trust and they respect you. Worst thing that can happen is you being stranded in a city with no ride and you're stuck in a city for weeks.\\nDon't tell other people that they are doing anything wrong by not being a hippie. Everybody is their own person, and what you think of as guidance and advice could seem to them like peer pressure and harassing.\\nParticipating in protests can result in being arrested. Please use good judgment when protesting and marching and ensure you don't get arrested.\\nHippies are also known for using psychedelics drugs (drugs that affect perceptions and stimulate different areas of the brain, like marijuana and LSD).[9]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Be careful when experimenting with these drugs because in some states or countries, it is illegal. In addition, moderation and sense must be maintained and these drugs should not be abused. They are also know to have side effects, such as bad trips. There is a thing called marijuana induced psychosis, and it is now known that it can have long term, years long, negative (even phobic/paranoid) effects. For some it is a paranoid/phobic state for life.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Man, it was so cool back in the 60s, the heyday of hippiedom. The peace movement, the music, mind-altering explorations, and free love, man! Being a hippie was far out. Cut to the 21st century [sound of a needle scratching across a record]. \\\"You want to be a what?\\\" OK, you're no square, so let's see if we can help, man, 'cause that's our bag!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Feel groovy.\", \"描述\": \"Start with the music that rocked a generation and just the music that makes you feel good! Hitchhike down to your local record store (or truck on over to eBay) and pick up the record of three days of love and music that defined the high point of hippiedom: Woodstock. \\nListen to Jimi Hendrix and his inimitable rendition of Star Spangled Banner, Joe Cocker getting by with a little help from his friends, and the ever-popular Fish Cheer from Country Joe and the Fish.\\nFor a truly authentic Woodstock experience, listen to it in the rain. In the mud. Naked, with friends.\\nWhile Woodstock has some of the best acts and most memorable songs of the sixties, don't neglect other music of the era as you build your hippie cred. (Actually, hippies never used the word \\\"cred.\\\") Groove to some of these other great artist that tapped the toes of the Biggest Generation:\\nBob Dylan. There's a dichotomy here, one you must resolve for yourself. Do you go with Acoustic Bob, or Electric Bob? Either way, Mr. Dylan is one of the key ingredients in any hippie repertoire.\\nThe Beatles. Especially during their psychedelic period, when they'd moved from \\\"She Loves You (Yeah, Yeah, Yeah)\\\" to \\\"Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds.\\\"\\nJefferson Airplane. Before the watered-down, glitzed-up popsters that were Jefferson Starship, Jefferson Airplane took us down a rabbit hole, and gave us somebody to love.\\nThe Grateful Dead. If you don't know the Dead, then you just don't know the meaning of the word \\\"hippie.\\\" These guys gave birth to an entire genre known as the \\\"jam band,\\\" exemplified by bands like Phish, String Cheese Incident, and Widespread Panic (actually, The Allman Brothers Band gave birth to Panic). They also gave birth to an entire volume of jam band jokes, like \\\"Why do Deadheads wave their hands in front of their face when they dance? So the music doesn't get in their eyes!\\\"\\nJanis Joplin. If there is an archetypal \\\"hippie chick,\\\" it would have to be Janis. Of course, she had her hair, her beads, and her wild-abandon ways, and she also had a voice that could sear, soar, cajole, seduce, and stun with its power.\\nWhile there are far too many excellent hippie bands to list individually, you must become familiar with Crosby, Stills, and Nash (with and without Neil Young); Joni Mitchell; Judy Collins; Sly and the Family Stone; The Doors; Donovan; The Who; The Stones; The Byrds; Buffalo Springfield, and, arguably, Frank Zappa.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Play it forward.\", \"描述\": \"The music then was exactly what a generation needed. But time marches on, and there is awesome music being produced today that fits the ethos of peace, love, and understanding. Enjoy it. Being a hippie is all about openness and embracing what's good. As long as you can dance to it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get counter-cultured.\", \"描述\": \"Understand fully the many aspects of the 1960s and 1970s that formed the hippie subculture. Learn how many of these people got together, what their general morals and beliefs were, and where they came from.\\nSo much of the history of hippie subculture can be found on the internet today; possibly more than any other subculture. You can gain much insight into the Hippie subculture from watching the original Woodstock movie, \\\"Celebration at Big Sur\\\", \\\"Monterey Pop\\\", and so on. These are shown on Sundance and the Independent Film Channel, or you might be able to rent them from Netflix.\\nDon't just glue yourself to the History Channel (like wow, how to make a hippie feel old, man!). Read the words of the poets and authors and other cultural touchstones that defined hippiedom:\\nElectric Kool Aid Acid Test by Tom Wolfe about Ken Kesey and his Merry Pranksters is required reading, and when you're done, you will know if you're on the bus, or off the bus.\\nLearn to howl, and read the poetry of Allen Ginsberg and Jack Kerouac. While they themselves preceded the hippie culture, their works sparked the creative spirit in such icons as Hunter S. Thompson, and Bob Dylan (among many others).\\nDon't forget to laugh at the comics, and yourself. One of the greatest comedians to come from that era was the guy who gave us the \\\"hippie dippy weatherman with your hippie dippy weather, man.\\\": George Carlin. Unlike many hippies of the era, Mr. Carlin stuck to his beliefs throughout his life.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get up to date.\", \"描述\": \"Understand that being a hippie today is a bit different than being a hippie in the 60's and 70's. Hippies have new ideas on different topics that deal with the changing times. The hippie generation forming today is doing living by many of the same ideals that formed then, but the Vietnam war is over, and Martin Luther King, Jr., was more or less victorious in his struggle for civil rights.\\nAsk your parents what it was like while growing up in those days. You may be surprised—and, at turns, appalled—learning about your parent's bag was. They might surprise you, as they were once young and wild, too, and experienced many of the same things you are experiencing today, including love, war, a divided country, and a persistent existential threat.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try to follow hippie ideals.\", \"描述\": \"Contribute as little to pollution as possible. Hippies love mother earth, and do all they can to keep it well. Buy clothing and products that are recyclable and are good for the environment.\\nDo volunteer work and learn about barter. Hippies in the 60s believed in trade or barter rather than money.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn the lingo.\", \"描述\": \"In the day, hippies had their own lexicon, as does every generation. Here are just some of the words that were part of the hippie's vocabulary:\\n1-A, closely related to Draft Card: This would determine whether you would have to go to Vietnam, unless you could get into the National Guard (hard), get CO status (harder), or move to Canada.\\nBabe, baby, chick, old lady: These were affectionate terms for women and wives or girlfriends.\\nBag: Your thing. What you were or weren't into. \\\"Like wow, you know, needlepoint just isn't my bag.\\\"\\nBlow your mind: Be really impressed by something almost unbelievable. \\\"Man, it blows my mind that your old lady used to be my wife!\\\"\\nBogart: Not sharing a joint.\\nBummer: A very bad thing. \\\"Oh, bummer, man. I'm out of bread.\\\"\\nBread: Money\\nCat: A hip hippie.\\nCop out: Bagging responsibility and taking the easy way out. \\\"He loves the war, but joined the National Guard. What a cop out.\\\"\\nDig: To grok; to understand, or to like. \\\"I like really dig Sgt. Pepper, man, you dig?\\nYour thing. What you do. Your bag. You dig?\\nFar out: Like totally cool.\\nGone: Really, really far out.\\nFlashback: An unexpected replay of a drug experience, without the drugs.\\nFreak flag: Long hair.\\nFuzz: Police. Also, pigs, cops, and \\\"the man.\\\"\\nGrok: To dig. Coined by Robert Heinlein in Strangers in a Strange Land.\\nGrooving: really enjoying something. \\\"Man, I'm grooving on these new tunes by Dylan\\\"\\nGroovy: Very cool. It's a good thing.\\nHead: Somebody who enjoys drugs.\\nHigh: What a head usually is.\\nIf it feels good, do it; Make love, not war; Give peace chance; : Hippie mantras\\nJoint: A marijuana cigarette.\\nKiller: Really good. \\\"That was some killer weed in that joint. Acapulco gold?\\\"\\nRap: To converse.\\nSplit: To leave. \\\"Man, it's been great rapping with you, but I gotta split now, gotta get ready for my gig at the Fillmore.\\\"\\nWow: An expression that shows excitement. \\\"Wow, man, bummer you have to leave. Me and my old lady have some killer weed that will really blow your mind, you dig?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get the clothes.\", \"描述\": \"Or don't. Clothing is optional for hippies, and even when it's required, the key to being a hippie is to not care about the material stuff. It's about the attitude, not the fashion. So no need rummaging through eBay finding the right round-rimmed rose-colored glasses, bell bottoms, or tie-dyed shirts. It's just as credible to visit the bargain bins at Goodwill. As long as you're comfortable and colorful, you're cool.\\nWear clothes made of natural materials, especially hemp. Hemp is the plant that releases the most pollution-preventing oxygen. Colorful ponchos and the Baja Jacket are a great hippie clothing staples, too.\\nLook into second-hand stores, thrift shops, garage sales, and making your own clothes and jewelry.\\nHippies are known for their tie-dye attire, Native American jewelry, peasant skirts, and bell bottom pants. Men grew out their hair and facial hair, such as goatees and mustaches.\\nWomen usually went places without a bra and no makeup. The image of the barefoot hippie is real, but they also wore sandals, soft boots or moccasins, even tennis shoes. Hippies were not immune to the weather.\\nSome staple items to create a modern hippie style include tiered, floral maxi dresses and short flowy shift dresses.\\nHigh-waisted flare jeans and loose, blousy tops are a part of this style.\\nBesides this, you can wear brown suede boots, hats, and fashion scarves to dress like a hippie.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Do your part to make the world better.\", \"描述\": \"Stand against anti-life things such as wars, and help to campaign for a more liberal society with issues such as gay rights and drug laws. Take a stand for the environment and give animals a voice.\\nMost hippies think that drug prohibition hurts more than drug use. Google LEAP (Law Enforcement Against Prohibition), or NORML (National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws).\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Let your freak flag fly.\", \"描述\": \"Grow your hair and go to the hair salon as little as possible. Keep clean, but use natural soaps and deodorants and herbal products. Dr. Bronner's has long been a favorite maker of cleansing products for hippies. Make your own, if possible. Dreadlocks are a popular hippie hair-do too.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Like wow, man, look at the colors.\", \"描述\": \"Some hippies are into smoking pot, and the use of psychedelic drugs such as mushrooms and LSD. More recently, ecstasy is also making a scene in hippie culture. Is it legal? Not at all. Is it dangerous? There's no consensus on that one. Ultimately, it's a choice for you to make, given what we know in the 21st century, but it was most definitely part of the hippie culture of the 60's. One can only wonder what would have become of bands like The Beatles or The Grateful Dead without their experimenting with hallucinogens.\\nGiven that, you don't have to take drugs to be a hippie! Remember, many hippies—Frank Zappa, notably—avoided drugs and preferred the \\\"natural high\\\", which they sought through meditation, listening to music, colored lights, dancing, backpacking, and other healthy activities. Also, recreational drug use (barring alcohol) is illegal in many countries, so do be careful.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Become a vegetarian.\", \"描述\": \"Some hippies eat only organic vegetarian and vegan food, though keep in mind that in the 60s, \\\"organic\\\" was not a food category, and veganism was rarely practiced. Most hippies were too poor to be too picky about what they ate. \\nToday's organic foods, free-range and health food stores are a legacy of the hippie movement; you might find hippies at your local one.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"GO GMO FREE!\", \"描述\": \"Stay away from foods with more than 10 ingredients on them. If they look confusing to your eyes, then they're NOT healthy!\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Going to Farmers Markets is also a hippie thing.\", \"描述\": \"Support your local farms and buy produce from them!\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Going Vegan is also a good alternative if you believe that animal's lives should be well respected.\", \"描述\": \"This includes taking cow's milk (a cow's milk is best for its young child), Bee's honey, (they create it themselves, therefore it's a by product of an animal), and eggs (in the case of chickens, they are basically a \\\"period\\\" of a chicken; an unfertilized egg doesn't turn into anything, but fertilized by a rooster, it turns into a chick) out of your diet.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Spirituality is also pretty important for the neo-hippie.\", \"描述\": \"Study chakras and meditate. educate yourself on crystals and the healing benefits, maybe even start collecting them!\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Watch movies like Woodstock (1970), Festival Express (2003), Revolution (1968), Magical Mystery Tour (1967), Alice's Restaurant (1969), and Magic Trip (2011).\", \"描述\": \"These films capture the hippie counterculture pretty well.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Just be yourself! Have any religion and believe in anything you wish. There's no ground rules or regulations on being a hippie that you must follow.\\n\", \"Try to make peace in any arguments. Be the mediator for issues and see if you can help people by listening and giving advice.\\n\", \"Don't pollute\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Being a hippie is a decision you have to make based on your beliefs. Nobody can truly tell you how to be a hippie, or whether you truly are one or not. People generally do what they think is right, and if you think the hippies for the most part are right then you may just become one.\\n\", \"People are not generally fond of hippies. You won't get much approval when walking down the street, but you shouldn't change just because people tell you to.\\n\", \"If you decide to travel to the Rainbow Gathering, or travel to long distance cities like San Francisco or Portland, make sure your traveling group is people who you can trust and they respect you. Worst thing that can happen is you being stranded in a city with no ride and you're stuck in a city for weeks.\\n\", \"Don't tell other people that they are doing anything wrong by not being a hippie. Everybody is their own person, and what you think of as guidance and advice could seem to them like peer pressure and harassing.\\n\", \"Participating in protests can result in being arrested. Please use good judgment when protesting and marching and ensure you don't get arrested.\\n\", \"Hippies are also known for using psychedelics drugs (drugs that affect perceptions and stimulate different areas of the brain, like marijuana and LSD).[9]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Be careful when experimenting with these drugs because in some states or countries, it is illegal. In addition, moderation and sense must be maintained and these drugs should not be abused. They are also know to have side effects, such as bad trips. There is a thing called marijuana induced psychosis, and it is now known that it can have long term, years long, negative (even phobic/paranoid) effects. For some it is a paranoid/phobic state for life.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Looking Like a Hippie
1-1. Grow your hair to shoulder length.
Growing your hair long is a popular hairstyle among hippies. For men, having long hair is sometimes not acceptable in the corporate world, and as a hippie you should embrace the counter culture.
Dreadlocks are also another hair option for hippies.
Hippies originally grew their hair long in protest against the Vietnam War and as a symbol of rebellion against the cultural norms of the 40’s and the 50’s
1-2. Avoid using cosmetics or personal care items that use harmful chemicals.
Certain hair products, like aerosol cans, are bad for the environment, which doesn’t align with the hippie lifestyle. Being natural is essential to being a hippie, and certain cosmetics or personal care items like moisturizers or shampoos contain harmful chemicals, so make sure to read the labels before purchasing your products.
Some hair products are animal tested which also goes against hippie ideals.
Popular brand such as Clinique, Lancôme Paris, L’Oréal, Clarins, and Revlon contain harmful toxins that destroy essential bacteria in soil.
1-3. Purchase your clothes from a thrift shop or second hand store.
Being a hippie also means going against the capitalist machine, and this includes not caring about brands or tags on clothes. Find a local thrift store in your area instead of going to a chain outlet or a mall. Look for earth tones or tie dye, so you can achieve a hippie look.
You can buy more clothes than you normally would, since clothes at second hand stores are usually significantly discounted.
Hemp based clothing is a common favorite for many hippies.
Baja hoodies, sometimes referred to as “drug rugs,” are common garb for hippies.
1-4. Buy a pair of aviator or round sunglasses.
As a person who is always one with nature, it’s likely you’ll be spending most of your time outside. Make sure to get a pair of fashionable sunglasses to really exude your hippie aura. Round and aviator sunglasses are usually the type that hippies like to wear.
Don’t get your sunglasses taken away at school if it’s against the policy.
John Lennon, Janis Joplin, and Jimi Hendrix made round, tinted glasses, popular in the early 70’s.
1-5. Don’t shave your body hair.
As a man, it may be standard practice to keep your body hair intact, but cultural norms set for women often have them shaving their armpits, and legs.
As a hippie, you need rebel against the archaic and misogynistic ideals that are placed on people.
2. Acting Like a Hippie
2-1. Avoid all processed food and food with chemical additives.
Not all hippies are vegan or vegetarian, but being a hippie means having respect for your own body and this begins with the food you eat. Avoid processed foods like fast food or microwaveable dinners, and try to eat more vegetables and fresh fruit.
Have a conversation with your parents about making healthier food choices, and explain how natural and healthy eating is important to you.
You can join a local food co-op if you are struggling to find healthy food in your area, or your parents refuse to buy healthy foods.
Growing fresh herbs or vegetables in a garden is a good idea if you want to regularly eat like a hippie.
Pack your lunch instead of buying processed food at the school cafeteria.
2-2. Volunteer at local organization that is involved with environmental activism.
Hippies originated the pro-earth movement, and created Earth Day in 1970. Try volunteering at a local environmental activism nonprofit in your area, or donate to an environmental cause if you have extra money.
On the first Earth Day, 20 million Americans participated in peaceful demonstrations across the U.S.
Your local community center will probably have opportunities to volunteer in a garden.
2-3. Act relaxed, stay positive, and go with the flow.
Hippies aren’t bothered by everyday problems like other people are. Instead of ruminating on the negative, hippies always try to see the positive in every situation.
Being a pacifist and practicing non-violence is also another hippie belief.
If you’re the type to get worked up emotionally during conflict, practice meditating or doing yoga.
2-4. Attend outdoor festivals to become part of the hippie community.
Take every opportunity to attend outdoor festivals and talk to other hippies. Search the web for festivals happening around you, and ask your parents if you can attend. See if any of your friends want to go with you, so you don’t have to go alone.
There are different kinds of outdoor festivals including music festivals, outdoor film festivals, and art festivals.
Make sure to check if the festival is for your age. Many of them are 18 or 21 and over.
3. Doing Your Research
3-1. Read up on revolutionaries and activists of the past.
Hippies protested the Vietnam War, and are inherently against injustice. Many hippies of the 60’s and 70’s were also involved in the Civil Rights movement in America. Educate yourself on revolutionaries like Martin Luther King Jr, Che Guevara, and Mahatma Gandhi, to get a better understanding of what it’s like to be a socially aware hippie.
In 1967 100,000 people protested in Washington D.C. against the Vietnam War.
You can participate in peaceful protests in your city around raising the minimum wage, environmental justice, or any other cause that is important to you.
3-2. Listen to psychedelic rock, jam bands, and folk music.
Music is a massive part of the hippie lifestyle, and many hippies listen to a pretty specific type of music. Luckily, it’s easy to find contemporary bands that take cues from bands that existed during the 60s and 70s.
Popular hippie musicians include The Beatles, Mamas & Papas, Janis Joplin, Bob Dylan, Joan Baez, and Neil Young.
Modern hippies will often listen to electronic dance music at outdoor festivals.
3-3. Research Eastern Philosophy online or at a library.
Eastern philosophy heavily influences hippie ideals, leading many hippies to explore religions like Hinduism, Buddhism, and Native American mysticism. While it’s not necessary for you to change your religion, it’s important that you have an understanding and respect for these practices and belief systems.
Spiritual exploration and acceptance of other cultures and beliefs is a common hippie trait.
3-4. Educate yourself on psychedelic drugs.
While you should never take illegal drugs, it’s important to know that psychedelic drugs influenced art and music for the hippie movement. Read up on the effects of LSD and marijuana, as these were widely used drugs in the past.
Many hippies use drugs to achieve a spiritual or self-discovering experience, not to party.
Popular hippie musicians like Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin died of drug overdoses.
Remember that as a teen, your brain is still developing so it is important to wait until you are old enough to use any adult substances. Please do your research on harm reduction.
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Being natural is essential to being a hippie, and certain cosmetics or personal care items like moisturizers or shampoos contain harmful chemicals, so make sure to read the labels before purchasing your products.\\nSome hair products are animal tested which also goes against hippie ideals.\\nPopular brand such as Clinique, Lancôme Paris, L’Oréal, Clarins, and Revlon contain harmful toxins that destroy essential bacteria in soil.\\n1-3. Purchase your clothes from a thrift shop or second hand store.\\nBeing a hippie also means going against the capitalist machine, and this includes not caring about brands or tags on clothes. Find a local thrift store in your area instead of going to a chain outlet or a mall. Look for earth tones or tie dye, so you can achieve a hippie look.\\nYou can buy more clothes than you normally would, since clothes at second hand stores are usually significantly discounted.\\nHemp based clothing is a common favorite for many hippies.\\nBaja hoodies, sometimes referred to as “drug rugs,” are common garb for hippies.\\n1-4. Buy a pair of aviator or round sunglasses.\\nAs a person who is always one with nature, it’s likely you’ll be spending most of your time outside. Make sure to get a pair of fashionable sunglasses to really exude your hippie aura. Round and aviator sunglasses are usually the type that hippies like to wear.\\nDon’t get your sunglasses taken away at school if it’s against the policy.\\nJohn Lennon, Janis Joplin, and Jimi Hendrix made round, tinted glasses, popular in the early 70’s.\\n1-5. Don’t shave your body hair.\\nAs a man, it may be standard practice to keep your body hair intact, but cultural norms set for women often have them shaving their armpits, and legs.\\nAs a hippie, you need rebel against the archaic and misogynistic ideals that are placed on people.\\n2. Acting Like a Hippie\\n2-1. Avoid all processed food and food with chemical additives.\\nNot all hippies are vegan or vegetarian, but being a hippie means having respect for your own body and this begins with the food you eat. Avoid processed foods like fast food or microwaveable dinners, and try to eat more vegetables and fresh fruit.\\nHave a conversation with your parents about making healthier food choices, and explain how natural and healthy eating is important to you.\\nYou can join a local food co-op if you are struggling to find healthy food in your area, or your parents refuse to buy healthy foods.\\nGrowing fresh herbs or vegetables in a garden is a good idea if you want to regularly eat like a hippie.\\nPack your lunch instead of buying processed food at the school cafeteria.\\n2-2. Volunteer at local organization that is involved with environmental activism.\\nHippies originated the pro-earth movement, and created Earth Day in 1970. Try volunteering at a local environmental activism nonprofit in your area, or donate to an environmental cause if you have extra money.\\nOn the first Earth Day, 20 million Americans participated in peaceful demonstrations across the U.S.\\nYour local community center will probably have opportunities to volunteer in a garden.\\n2-3. Act relaxed, stay positive, and go with the flow.\\nHippies aren’t bothered by everyday problems like other people are. Instead of ruminating on the negative, hippies always try to see the positive in every situation.\\nBeing a pacifist and practicing non-violence is also another hippie belief.\\nIf you’re the type to get worked up emotionally during conflict, practice meditating or doing yoga.\\n2-4. Attend outdoor festivals to become part of the hippie community.\\nTake every opportunity to attend outdoor festivals and talk to other hippies. Search the web for festivals happening around you, and ask your parents if you can attend. See if any of your friends want to go with you, so you don’t have to go alone.\\nThere are different kinds of outdoor festivals including music festivals, outdoor film festivals, and art festivals.\\nMake sure to check if the festival is for your age. Many of them are 18 or 21 and over.\\n3. Doing Your Research\\n3-1. Read up on revolutionaries and activists of the past.\\nHippies protested the Vietnam War, and are inherently against injustice. Many hippies of the 60’s and 70’s were also involved in the Civil Rights movement in America. Educate yourself on revolutionaries like Martin Luther King Jr, Che Guevara, and Mahatma Gandhi, to get a better understanding of what it’s like to be a socially aware hippie.\\nIn 1967 100,000 people protested in Washington D.C. against the Vietnam War.\\nYou can participate in peaceful protests in your city around raising the minimum wage, environmental justice, or any other cause that is important to you.\\n3-2. Listen to psychedelic rock, jam bands, and folk music.\\nMusic is a massive part of the hippie lifestyle, and many hippies listen to a pretty specific type of music. Luckily, it’s easy to find contemporary bands that take cues from bands that existed during the 60s and 70s.\\nPopular hippie musicians include The Beatles, Mamas & Papas, Janis Joplin, Bob Dylan, Joan Baez, and Neil Young.\\nModern hippies will often listen to electronic dance music at outdoor festivals.\\n3-3. Research Eastern Philosophy online or at a library.\\nEastern philosophy heavily influences hippie ideals, leading many hippies to explore religions like Hinduism, Buddhism, and Native American mysticism. While it’s not necessary for you to change your religion, it’s important that you have an understanding and respect for these practices and belief systems.\\nSpiritual exploration and acceptance of other cultures and beliefs is a common hippie trait.\\n3-4. Educate yourself on psychedelic drugs.\\nWhile you should never take illegal drugs, it’s important to know that psychedelic drugs influenced art and music for the hippie movement. Read up on the effects of LSD and marijuana, as these were widely used drugs in the past.\\nMany hippies use drugs to achieve a spiritual or self-discovering experience, not to party.\\nPopular hippie musicians like Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin died of drug overdoses.\\nRemember that as a teen, your brain is still developing so it is important to wait until you are old enough to use any adult substances. Please do your research on harm reduction.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"In the 60s and 70s there was a major backlash against the creative and sexual repression of the 40s and 50s. Young people across the U.S. embraced what was called the hippie movement, which aimed to break conformity, promote peace, and spread social consciousness. Today, the word hippie is well known, but actually becoming one as a teenager can be difficult if you don’t know what you’re doing. Being a hippie encompasses a lot more than what you look like or the bands you listen to. It requires a complete change in perspective and a greater propensity for understanding and love.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Looking Like a Hippie\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Grow your hair to shoulder length.\", \"描述\": \"Growing your hair long is a popular hairstyle among hippies. 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1. Hipster Fashion
1-1. Dress like a hipster.
Fashion is just as important as your taste in music. While shopping at vintage stores remains a staple for many hipsters, this is not a given, nor does it need to be a part of the hipster wardrobe.
Avoid buying labeled gear from stores run by the label itself (so very not nice consumerism). Instead, look for independent retailers because supporting obscure retailers is "totally deck". For example, buy from local mixed fashion stores near you.
Be sure to assess what you're wearing. Are you layering? Are you buying local? What's the color or specific style this season? Are you advertising something on your shirt that hipsters identify with?
1-2. Wear skinny jeans, especially of bright colors or patterns.
These can be for anyone of either of the two genders. Hipster men tend to be as skinny as the women.
Note that male hipsters actually probably wear skinny jeans more than the girls (girls prefer leggings).
Alternatively, for women, high-waisted pants (a.k.a. "mom jeans") may also be worn.
1-3. Wear glasses.
Hipsters love ironic eyewear such as shutter shades, oversized plastic framed glasses, Buddy Holly glasses, and most commonly authentic Ray Ban Wayfarers in all the colors of the rainbow.
Some hipsters wear glasses even though they have 20/20 vision! In this case, pop out the lenses or make sure they're just regular glass.
1-4. Wear ironic tops.
For tops, the following are good picks: band shirts such as Pink Floyd, Metallica, Van Halen, etc., plaid shirts, cowboy shirts, flannels, and anything in gingham, plaid, checkered patterns, paisley, vintage florals.
Many hipsters sport tops with appliques, images of animals or forests, other images, characters from children's TV shows, and ironic phrases or even book covers.
Fitted hoodies are perfect, too.
1-5. Dress vintage.
Consider a vintage floral or lace dress. Your Granny's closet is definitely a good source; however, you should know how to sew and restyle vintage clothing to fit you.
1-6. Find suitable footwear.
Hipster shoes include cowboy boots, combat boots, vintage shoes, unusual shoes, and a range of flats.
Converse are no longer hipster. They look great and you can wear them pretty much anywhere, but since everyone wears them, they aren't hipster.
If it's trainers you're after, see Classic Reebok.
High heels should be at least 5 inches (12.7 cm) in height, and ankle booties are popular too. Cute sandals, Keds (tennis/sand shoes), boots, and granny boots are not only more practical but also show how little effort you've put forth (even if it took you ages to find the perfect pair).
1-7. Accessorize.
There is a wide range of accessories, including large flower headbands, neon nail polish, pins, bright belts, black nail polish, bird necklaces, patterned and colorful leggings, etc.
Don't forget your plugs, piercings, and random scars supposedly acquired through woodwork and other carpentry-like endeavors.
Appropriately ironic accessories are mandatory, such as things kids would take to school, like an animal image on a lunchbox.
Essentials include a vintage leather courier bag (not a backpack), preferably something from Freitag, that can fit your MacBook, iPhone, and vinyl LPs (never CDs) of your current favorite band.
1-8. Mismatch and layer.
Layering or wearing things that don't match together is very hipster. It's that "I can't be bothered" look that actually takes some planning until you get into the habit.
Remember that a hipster's outfit never needs adjustment should you decide to go to the beach—keep all of your urban accompaniments for the sand and surf to ironically stick out of your element.
2. Hipster Health
2-1. Ignore the comments about improper hygiene.
Some people associate hipsters with hippies and assume that they don’t shower regularly or otherwise don’t practice proper hygiene. This is a misconception. Though some hipsters participate in the no shampoo movement (which is still very clean), most practice normal hygiene (with bonus artisanal and environmentally-friendly soaps!).
While hipsters do shower regularly and clean their teeth, they're just less interested in forking out money for hairstyling, spa sessions, pedicures/manicures, and large make-up kits because these are signs of conforming to cultural ideals of beauty.
Arguably, hipsters aren't so interested in "making the most of their assets" because they see their entire self as an asset; from a self-esteem point of view, this is actually a rather healthy outlook.
2-2. Keep your hair casual.
Messy hairdos are just fine. The "bed look", long unkempt hair, and hair that resists any attempts to stay flat without chemicals are acceptable looks.
Blurring gender lines with haircuts and styles is part of the hipster culture.
Greasy hair is considered okay by some in the hipster culture. That doesn't mean you need to concur and a squeaky clean but uncombed do might be more your thing.
For men, large beards and/or waxed mustaches are not a must but are preferred if one can grow them.
Some hipsters like to dye their hair in an obvious way.
2-3. Take a green approach to food.
Consider growing your own food or turning vegetarian. Use compost if possible. Eating meat isn't always popular with the hipster culture, and many hipsters tend to be vegetarian or vegan. If you do eat meat, you must assert that choice as a cynical transcendence of vegetarians' futile attempts to save the world.
Fruit, coffee, Asian food, etc., are all hip foods.
If you have absolutely no space to grow your own produce (not even a balcony or a windowsill), go to a natural foods market instead.
Often, hipsters are foodies and love making gourmet meals. If you can't cook, consider getting some good cookbooks today.
3. Hipster Lifestyle
3-1. Become a master of reuse.
This takes a mixture of frugality, respect for some of the past, and a desire to demonstrate that new things don't define you. Naturally, you'll need to wrestle with the inconsistency of this step with the fact that loving shiny new Apple products and brand new clothes from certain labels is also a side of a true hipster, but since we're all contradictory deep down, the sooner we grasp these contradictions and accept them, the more whole a person we'll be.
Commonly known old things associated with hipsters include Parliament cigarettes (and a devil-may-care attitude about smoking laws), Pabst beer, grandparent's clothing (or thrift store finds), bicycles with fixed gears (often ridden to the night clubs), analog cameras, and recycling and reusing almost anything (ingenuity, common sense, and fun comes into this).
Learn to play a musical instrument, the more obscure, the better. Example: ukulele > guitar and mandolin > piano. Act like it's no big deal that you can play when others are amazed.
3-2. Reject blind consumerism.
Hipsters are into "niche consumerism". If your purchase helps local retailers, the environment, the mom and pop retailer, and the craft sellers down the road, then it's hipster.
3-3. Be aware that most hipsters exist in a certain age group.
Hipsters tend to be in their teens through to their 30s. This is part of today's "extended adolescent" era, consisting of existential angst, searching for purpose and inner worth, and asking the meaning of everything.
Of course, this doesn't mean you can't be a hipster at an older age, but the fact that as you age you get less bothered and upset about the way the world works, or doesn't work, probably means you're a) not so keen to be labeled anything, b) not in need of belonging to any sub-culture, and/or c) less angry than you used to be. It's quite possible you're also very discreetly steering the rudder of your own teens going through "issues" and you're less than keen to adopt more of the same for yourself.
3-4. Be where the hipsters roam.
Hipsters tend to congregate in very urban settings and they're connected globally thanks to the Internet. In the USA, you'll tend to find hipsters in major metropolitan centers where "anything goes". Be where there are art galleries, movie houses, bands, and people.
Think New York City, Chicago, San Francisco, Portland, Seattle, Minneapolis, and especially the Brooklyn, N.Y. suburb of Williamsburg (known as the unofficial hipster capital of the world). Places like Glasslands and Pianos will be right up your alley. Los Angeles is also acceptable but be careful not to get sucked into the Southern California culture.
For less urban USA, try to find any moderately large college town; and in some states, a college town might be the only liberal part of the state such as Austin, TX, or Lawrence, KS.
In the UK, London is your spot, in Canada, try Montreal, in Australia, try Melbourne and in New Zealand, try Wellington.
Do not force yourself to live or go to these places or countries for the sake of being a hipster. Besides from being too uneconomical (especially if you live on the other side of the world), you can actually begin being a hipster in your place. One of the advantages is if your place knows less about hipsters, the fewer the people who will be discriminating or criticizing you. Take note that the Internet will always be your best friend.
3-5. Be educated.
Aim to go to college, as hipsters tend to be well educated in such areas as liberal arts, graphic art, or math and science.
Do a lot of reading, even if it means sitting in the local bookstore using their space and not actually purchasing the books you're siphoning up knowledge from. Seek to go to higher level education if you're in your element at college.
Going to the library (especially small, local libraries) is a good option because you don't have to pay and you can bring books back when you are finished. Also, they don't mind you just sitting reading without even taking a book out- this is normal in libraries.
Hipsters are a subculture that uses more of their right brain than the rest of the society, thus, many hipsters base their career choices around music, art, or fashion. While these areas of work aren't essential choices, they are probably a natural outlet for a hipster's creativity.
Education is what helps a hipster to be dismissive about the hue and cry of others; they know it's just history repeating itself, or it's all much ado about nothing.
3-6. Be an early adopter.
Hipsters tend to sense what's worthwhile before the trend or item becomes more popular. Many bands become famous only after hipsters first flock to their unknown performances. Many clothing trends were started by hipsters, only to be hijacked later by mainstream fashion houses. Many technical gadgets are taken up by hipsters first, only to become mainstream goodies later.
Of course, the irony of being an early adopter hipster is that once the trend or item becomes mainstream, it's time to move on to something else obscure and unrecognized. That's the trouble with being such an independent spirit; you trail blaze but you also have to keep moving on.
If you're really good at something like math, physics, medicine, psychology, political analysis, eco-awareness, etc., you might find yourself making amazing discoveries that are light years ahead of everyone else's thinking. You know deep down that you've cottoned onto something that really matters and that it makes sense but others are not convinced because it's the "great unknown". Rest easy and be determined in your knowledge that some day, others will come round to your discovery.
3-7. Don't define yourself to others.
One of the key elements of being hipster has been to avoid the label. Don't go around proclaiming your allegiance; to do so would be to start allying with those who like neatly tied-up boxes denoting who is what, when, and where.
The moment you define yourself too clearly is the moment you begin to stagnate and risk being captured by the status quo. Many a hipster will therefore deny their "hipster-ness" whenever possible.
To preemptively ward off the mockers, some hipsters have taken to extending their sense of irony to include even themselves by acknowledging and mocking their own hipsterdom (for example, wearing a tee that says "I hate hipsters"); that way, by mocking themselves first, no one else can effectively do it (reclaiming the negative).
3-8. Keep a pulse on the hipster community.
There is a strong community aspect to hipster culture. If you want to find out about the best new bands or a great local coffee shop, make sure to stay active in the community to get good recommendations and stay ahead of the trends.
When some new, obscure band is on Pitchfork (preferably before), you should know about it.
Check out Brooklyn Vegan (even if you don't live there), Stereogum, Gorilla vs. Bear, and the Hype Machine as often as possible, but don't make it obvious that you check them every five seconds.
4. Indie Entertainment
4-1. Read hipster classics.
Your reading sources are important because what you read connects you with other hipsters, informs you about cultural issues, and keeps you knowledgeable. There's a lot to be read out there, so sort the wheat from the chaff and get into the things that matter most. Things to read include:
Hipster magazines, such as Vice, Another Magazine, and Wallpaper. Foreign magazines are good too.
Great books and poetry by people like Jack Kerouac, Allen Ginsberg, and Norman Mailer. Any other books you think are great. Any books, period; reading books sets hipsters apart from a lot of people. Visit the political science, anthropology, and sociology sections of the bookstores and local library frequently.
Blogs by other hipsters. You might also be inspired enough to write your own blog frequently.
4-2. Watch hipster cinema.
Watch independent and foreign films, as well as attending independent theater productions, such as shows by Ann Liv Young. Watch Wes Anderson, Hal Hartley and Jim Jarmusch movies.
4-3. Listen to newly emerging, independent music.
Indie music is a big part of what being a hipster is all about. Turn to the endless and ever-renewing list of independent artists in the music scene, especially in the areas of nu-rave, minimalist techno, independent rap, nerdcore, Elephant 6, garage rock, classic rock (Beatles usually), and punk rock. Also, remember, they don't have to be famous to be good. Browse amateur videos on YouTube, and you may find your style.
Hipster artists of note include Lana Del Rey, Grizzly Bear, Marina & The Diamonds, Pink Floyd, Stray Kites,The Xx, Nirvana, La Roux, M83, Neon Indian, Neon Neon, King Khan, Milky Chance, Alt J, and the Shrines. Imagine Dragons, and Bastille are great examples of non-hipster bands, because the main part of being hipster is listening to bands that no one has ever heard of. Try Days n Daze, King Krule, Mitski, ikea graveyard, Waxahatchee, Dollar Signs, spoonboy, Not Half Bad, or Pope instead.
Music blogs like Gorilla vs. Bear, Indiehere, /mu/, and Stereogum may help you with choosing suitable bands to listen to. Meeting people who are already into these bands will help you as well.
Perhaps the most popular hipster music website is Pitchfork Media. If they give an album a good rating, it must be quite hip.
One good way to decipher whether or not an artist is hipster is if your non-hipster friends to have never heard of them.
Feel free to listen to the music of other countries as well, since most mainstream songs of this decade came out of America, Britain and South Korea.
5. Socializing
5-1. Use social media.
Hipsters love to use Blogspot, Tumblr, Instagram and WordPress, Ello, as well as taking photos with their Holga cameras and making cross-processed and "dream-like" pictures. Social media can also be a great way to find new things to enjoy, before they become mainstream.
5-2. Date
The reason to "hook up" with other hipsters is that you're much more likely to connect and see eye-to-eye on a range of issues. The all-American muscle guy or sorority-style tanned blond are not likely to be your type, so a fellow hipster is the answer.
Note that if you are already in a relationship with someone, there is no need to end it on account of them not being hipster, obviously. But if you're looking for a relationship, always consider that you're probably going to have a lot of intimate discussions with them, so having the same hipster ideology could be a point of shared interest.
5-3. Start dancing.
If you want to spot a hipster, just turn around the next time you're at a show and see them standing in the back discussing Stella or Pabst Blue Ribbon (PBR) in a can. Sometimes, if the music and setting is right, you will witness hipsters engaging in dance movements.
Hipster dancing, if done correctly, does not use so much of the hips as it does the upper body and arms. Lots of swinging your head back and forth but only do this if you're not humiliated easily (and as a hipster, you really shouldn't care).
Although you'll rarely see hipsters dancing at shows, they tend to enjoy separate dance parties where they can dance to an array of more upbeat hipster dance music.
5-4. Get the lingo and the attitude.
While there will be many variations—part of the reality of hipster culture is that things change constantly—there are some things that are useful to know:
Remember to use perhaps the most important hipster line: "I liked them before they were cool." Another good line given the recent spate of disasters is to say something like: "I donated to Haiti... before the disaster."
Namedrop often. Talk about all the obscure bands you like that nobody you know has heard of. When your friends talk about a band you're unfamiliar with, just say you've heard of them but not actually heard them. Look them up the next time you have a chance to. It'll give you more cred.
Insult a lot of bands. If you love everything you'll seem like a fanatic. Make sure to give off a vibe that you're too cool and elite for a lot of bands.
If you would like to seem more educated and elite there is the key phrase " I liked their first EP, but pretty much after that I never got into them."
Use made-up words as often as possible. Or use real words that no one really knows the meaning of unless they look them up (for example, pulchritudinous, cordiform, and petrichor).
5-5. Hone your humor.
A hipster is known for their strong sense of irony and sarcasm. When asked a question, refuse to answer directly; instead, obfuscate, ask a question in return, or just be plain sarcastic.
Be sure to layer on the smirk to indicate your lack of seriousness, because it's possible for the other person to mistake your sarcasm for sincerity.
For example: When in a theater watching a movie, and the person next to you turns to say, "Oh, my God, that was so cool! Did you see that?", in a dry tone, reply something along the lines of, "No, I paid $12.50 to stare at the ceiling."
Watch British comedies for examples of good uses of sarcasm you can borrow. Unless you're already British, in which case you should be just fine.
Have a sense of humorous perspective and don't take yourself too seriously. Hipsters are often parodied, so knowing how to laugh at derision will help a lot.
5-6. Be prepared for critics.
Be aware that hipsterism is frequently parodied or derided because hipsters bother some people. You're going to need to get used to disdainful attitudes and to work out the ways in which you're most comfortable responding.
There will often be an insistence that your sub-culture is "less than" whatever it is the hater "believes" in.
Given the tendency for hipsters to follow progressive politics, it's likely you'll encounter occasional conservative disdain, so it's probably a good idea to brush up on your responses to any standard ridicule.
As for people who poke fun at your fashion sense, remind the so-called trendy mass that their worn and torn jeans fashion was created by children who are little more than slaves in some sweatshop and if they want to contribute to that, they’re welcome to. If they point out the fact that your Apple products were also produced in sweatshops, change the subject to an obscure band they've never heard of.
Recognize the root of the problem. Realize that a lot of people who attack you may have deep insecurities about their own place in society and have very mixed ideas of what culture is, or how they reconcile the variant elements of culture with their own lifestyle and preferences. Practice a little compassion.
Know that geeks have an odd relationship with hipsters. While some are disdainful, other geeks recognize the overlap of the cultures.
Tips
Keeping a nonchalant attitude about everything will help portray a more mysterious character.
Coffee (preferably fair trade sold from an indie coffee shop) is basically one of the food groups.
Lush, while somewhat mainstream, is a great place to shop for all natural, handmade soaps and shampoo bars. Just don't buy those mainstream bath melts and such.
Warnings
The goal of being a hipster is to look like you're not trying, however, if you are one, you are probably trying really hard, or at least enough. Just accept it.
Don't take this article too seriously, instead see it as a set of guidelines to work with as befits you. Hipsters pride themselves on their independence from the mainstream.
Try not to take yourself, or the hipster culture, too seriously.
Sometimes, just sometimes, you may be really frustrated that other people don't get what's so great about your music, fashion, and other choices. Give it up; you won't ever see, hear, or feel the things they love the way they do, and that's because everyone is different.
Don't expect yourself to be hipster right away. It is actually a process of becoming a hipster and you shouldn't rush it.
Negativity can pervade the hipster culture, perhaps as a counteraction to the ridiculously-positive, can-do motivational speaker style attitudes pervading much of the business and consumer culture these days. However, negativity is not an answer, it's simply a reaction. Always try to find balance and peace in your life rather than seeing doom and gloom in everything. Yes, society is full of problems but being negative about them won't solve or change such problems whereas a realistic and pragmatic approach to doing things that make a difference will go part the way to bringing about a better world. Remember too, that every generation is cursed with thinking things used to be or could be better. We are time-bound and body-bound creatures who need to accept our limitations while making the most of what we do know and can do. Constant deconstructing and criticizing of society can all too easily turn into a paralysis-by-analysis lifestyle, in which complaining becomes your modus operandi but actually changing the status quo is not something you're tooled up to do.
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Hipster men tend to be as skinny as the women.\\nNote that male hipsters actually probably wear skinny jeans more than the girls (girls prefer leggings).\\nAlternatively, for women, high-waisted pants (a.k.a. \\\"mom jeans\\\") may also be worn.\\n1-3. Wear glasses.\\nHipsters love ironic eyewear such as shutter shades, oversized plastic framed glasses, Buddy Holly glasses, and most commonly authentic Ray Ban Wayfarers in all the colors of the rainbow.\\nSome hipsters wear glasses even though they have 20/20 vision! In this case, pop out the lenses or make sure they're just regular glass.\\n1-4. Wear ironic tops.\\nFor tops, the following are good picks: band shirts such as Pink Floyd, Metallica, Van Halen, etc., plaid shirts, cowboy shirts, flannels, and anything in gingham, plaid, checkered patterns, paisley, vintage florals.\\nMany hipsters sport tops with appliques, images of animals or forests, other images, characters from children's TV shows, and ironic phrases or even book covers.\\nFitted hoodies are perfect, too.\\n1-5. Dress vintage.\\nConsider a vintage floral or lace dress. Your Granny's closet is definitely a good source; however, you should know how to sew and restyle vintage clothing to fit you.\\n1-6. Find suitable footwear.\\nHipster shoes include cowboy boots, combat boots, vintage shoes, unusual shoes, and a range of flats.\\nConverse are no longer hipster. They look great and you can wear them pretty much anywhere, but since everyone wears them, they aren't hipster.\\nIf it's trainers you're after, see Classic Reebok.\\nHigh heels should be at least 5 inches (12.7 cm) in height, and ankle booties are popular too. Cute sandals, Keds (tennis/sand shoes), boots, and granny boots are not only more practical but also show how little effort you've put forth (even if it took you ages to find the perfect pair).\\n1-7. Accessorize.\\nThere is a wide range of accessories, including large flower headbands, neon nail polish, pins, bright belts, black nail polish, bird necklaces, patterned and colorful leggings, etc.\\nDon't forget your plugs, piercings, and random scars supposedly acquired through woodwork and other carpentry-like endeavors.\\nAppropriately ironic accessories are mandatory, such as things kids would take to school, like an animal image on a lunchbox.\\nEssentials include a vintage leather courier bag (not a backpack), preferably something from Freitag, that can fit your MacBook, iPhone, and vinyl LPs (never CDs) of your current favorite band.\\n1-8. Mismatch and layer.\\nLayering or wearing things that don't match together is very hipster. It's that \\\"I can't be bothered\\\" look that actually takes some planning until you get into the habit.\\nRemember that a hipster's outfit never needs adjustment should you decide to go to the beach—keep all of your urban accompaniments for the sand and surf to ironically stick out of your element.\\n2. Hipster Health\\n2-1. Ignore the comments about improper hygiene.\\nSome people associate hipsters with hippies and assume that they don’t shower regularly or otherwise don’t practice proper hygiene. This is a misconception. Though some hipsters participate in the no shampoo movement (which is still very clean), most practice normal hygiene (with bonus artisanal and environmentally-friendly soaps!).\\nWhile hipsters do shower regularly and clean their teeth, they're just less interested in forking out money for hairstyling, spa sessions, pedicures/manicures, and large make-up kits because these are signs of conforming to cultural ideals of beauty.\\nArguably, hipsters aren't so interested in \\\"making the most of their assets\\\" because they see their entire self as an asset; from a self-esteem point of view, this is actually a rather healthy outlook.\\n2-2. Keep your hair casual.\\nMessy hairdos are just fine. The \\\"bed look\\\", long unkempt hair, and hair that resists any attempts to stay flat without chemicals are acceptable looks.\\nBlurring gender lines with haircuts and styles is part of the hipster culture.\\nGreasy hair is considered okay by some in the hipster culture. That doesn't mean you need to concur and a squeaky clean but uncombed do might be more your thing.\\nFor men, large beards and/or waxed mustaches are not a must but are preferred if one can grow them.\\nSome hipsters like to dye their hair in an obvious way.\\n2-3. Take a green approach to food.\\nConsider growing your own food or turning vegetarian. Use compost if possible. Eating meat isn't always popular with the hipster culture, and many hipsters tend to be vegetarian or vegan. If you do eat meat, you must assert that choice as a cynical transcendence of vegetarians' futile attempts to save the world.\\nFruit, coffee, Asian food, etc., are all hip foods.\\nIf you have absolutely no space to grow your own produce (not even a balcony or a windowsill), go to a natural foods market instead.\\nOften, hipsters are foodies and love making gourmet meals. If you can't cook, consider getting some good cookbooks today.\\n3. Hipster Lifestyle\\n3-1. Become a master of reuse.\\nThis takes a mixture of frugality, respect for some of the past, and a desire to demonstrate that new things don't define you. Naturally, you'll need to wrestle with the inconsistency of this step with the fact that loving shiny new Apple products and brand new clothes from certain labels is also a side of a true hipster, but since we're all contradictory deep down, the sooner we grasp these contradictions and accept them, the more whole a person we'll be.\\nCommonly known old things associated with hipsters include Parliament cigarettes (and a devil-may-care attitude about smoking laws), Pabst beer, grandparent's clothing (or thrift store finds), bicycles with fixed gears (often ridden to the night clubs), analog cameras, and recycling and reusing almost anything (ingenuity, common sense, and fun comes into this).\\nLearn to play a musical instrument, the more obscure, the better. Example: ukulele > guitar and mandolin > piano. Act like it's no big deal that you can play when others are amazed.\\n3-2. Reject blind consumerism.\\nHipsters are into \\\"niche consumerism\\\". If your purchase helps local retailers, the environment, the mom and pop retailer, and the craft sellers down the road, then it's hipster.\\n3-3. Be aware that most hipsters exist in a certain age group.\\nHipsters tend to be in their teens through to their 30s. This is part of today's \\\"extended adolescent\\\" era, consisting of existential angst, searching for purpose and inner worth, and asking the meaning of everything.\\nOf course, this doesn't mean you can't be a hipster at an older age, but the fact that as you age you get less bothered and upset about the way the world works, or doesn't work, probably means you're a) not so keen to be labeled anything, b) not in need of belonging to any sub-culture, and/or c) less angry than you used to be. It's quite possible you're also very discreetly steering the rudder of your own teens going through \\\"issues\\\" and you're less than keen to adopt more of the same for yourself.\\n3-4. Be where the hipsters roam.\\nHipsters tend to congregate in very urban settings and they're connected globally thanks to the Internet. In the USA, you'll tend to find hipsters in major metropolitan centers where \\\"anything goes\\\". Be where there are art galleries, movie houses, bands, and people.\\nThink New York City, Chicago, San Francisco, Portland, Seattle, Minneapolis, and especially the Brooklyn, N.Y. suburb of Williamsburg (known as the unofficial hipster capital of the world). Places like Glasslands and Pianos will be right up your alley. Los Angeles is also acceptable but be careful not to get sucked into the Southern California culture.\\nFor less urban USA, try to find any moderately large college town; and in some states, a college town might be the only liberal part of the state such as Austin, TX, or Lawrence, KS.\\nIn the UK, London is your spot, in Canada, try Montreal, in Australia, try Melbourne and in New Zealand, try Wellington.\\nDo not force yourself to live or go to these places or countries for the sake of being a hipster. Besides from being too uneconomical (especially if you live on the other side of the world), you can actually begin being a hipster in your place. One of the advantages is if your place knows less about hipsters, the fewer the people who will be discriminating or criticizing you. Take note that the Internet will always be your best friend.\\n3-5. Be educated.\\nAim to go to college, as hipsters tend to be well educated in such areas as liberal arts, graphic art, or math and science.\\nDo a lot of reading, even if it means sitting in the local bookstore using their space and not actually purchasing the books you're siphoning up knowledge from. Seek to go to higher level education if you're in your element at college.\\nGoing to the library (especially small, local libraries) is a good option because you don't have to pay and you can bring books back when you are finished. Also, they don't mind you just sitting reading without even taking a book out- this is normal in libraries.\\nHipsters are a subculture that uses more of their right brain than the rest of the society, thus, many hipsters base their career choices around music, art, or fashion. While these areas of work aren't essential choices, they are probably a natural outlet for a hipster's creativity.\\nEducation is what helps a hipster to be dismissive about the hue and cry of others; they know it's just history repeating itself, or it's all much ado about nothing.\\n3-6. Be an early adopter.\\nHipsters tend to sense what's worthwhile before the trend or item becomes more popular. Many bands become famous only after hipsters first flock to their unknown performances. Many clothing trends were started by hipsters, only to be hijacked later by mainstream fashion houses. Many technical gadgets are taken up by hipsters first, only to become mainstream goodies later.\\nOf course, the irony of being an early adopter hipster is that once the trend or item becomes mainstream, it's time to move on to something else obscure and unrecognized. That's the trouble with being such an independent spirit; you trail blaze but you also have to keep moving on.\\nIf you're really good at something like math, physics, medicine, psychology, political analysis, eco-awareness, etc., you might find yourself making amazing discoveries that are light years ahead of everyone else's thinking. You know deep down that you've cottoned onto something that really matters and that it makes sense but others are not convinced because it's the \\\"great unknown\\\". Rest easy and be determined in your knowledge that some day, others will come round to your discovery.\\n3-7. Don't define yourself to others.\\nOne of the key elements of being hipster has been to avoid the label. Don't go around proclaiming your allegiance; to do so would be to start allying with those who like neatly tied-up boxes denoting who is what, when, and where.\\nThe moment you define yourself too clearly is the moment you begin to stagnate and risk being captured by the status quo. Many a hipster will therefore deny their \\\"hipster-ness\\\" whenever possible.\\nTo preemptively ward off the mockers, some hipsters have taken to extending their sense of irony to include even themselves by acknowledging and mocking their own hipsterdom (for example, wearing a tee that says \\\"I hate hipsters\\\"); that way, by mocking themselves first, no one else can effectively do it (reclaiming the negative).\\n3-8. Keep a pulse on the hipster community.\\nThere is a strong community aspect to hipster culture. If you want to find out about the best new bands or a great local coffee shop, make sure to stay active in the community to get good recommendations and stay ahead of the trends.\\nWhen some new, obscure band is on Pitchfork (preferably before), you should know about it.\\nCheck out Brooklyn Vegan (even if you don't live there), Stereogum, Gorilla vs. Bear, and the Hype Machine as often as possible, but don't make it obvious that you check them every five seconds.\\n4. Indie Entertainment\\n4-1. Read hipster classics.\\nYour reading sources are important because what you read connects you with other hipsters, informs you about cultural issues, and keeps you knowledgeable. There's a lot to be read out there, so sort the wheat from the chaff and get into the things that matter most. Things to read include:\\nHipster magazines, such as Vice, Another Magazine, and Wallpaper. Foreign magazines are good too.\\nGreat books and poetry by people like Jack Kerouac, Allen Ginsberg, and Norman Mailer. Any other books you think are great. Any books, period; reading books sets hipsters apart from a lot of people. Visit the political science, anthropology, and sociology sections of the bookstores and local library frequently.\\nBlogs by other hipsters. You might also be inspired enough to write your own blog frequently.\\n4-2. Watch hipster cinema.\\nWatch independent and foreign films, as well as attending independent theater productions, such as shows by Ann Liv Young. Watch Wes Anderson, Hal Hartley and Jim Jarmusch movies.\\n4-3. Listen to newly emerging, independent music.\\nIndie music is a big part of what being a hipster is all about. Turn to the endless and ever-renewing list of independent artists in the music scene, especially in the areas of nu-rave, minimalist techno, independent rap, nerdcore, Elephant 6, garage rock, classic rock (Beatles usually), and punk rock. Also, remember, they don't have to be famous to be good. Browse amateur videos on YouTube, and you may find your style.\\nHipster artists of note include Lana Del Rey, Grizzly Bear, Marina & The Diamonds, Pink Floyd, Stray Kites,The Xx, Nirvana, La Roux, M83, Neon Indian, Neon Neon, King Khan, Milky Chance, Alt J, and the Shrines. Imagine Dragons, and Bastille are great examples of non-hipster bands, because the main part of being hipster is listening to bands that no one has ever heard of. Try Days n Daze, King Krule, Mitski, ikea graveyard, Waxahatchee, Dollar Signs, spoonboy, Not Half Bad, or Pope instead.\\nMusic blogs like Gorilla vs. Bear, Indiehere, /mu/, and Stereogum may help you with choosing suitable bands to listen to. Meeting people who are already into these bands will help you as well.\\nPerhaps the most popular hipster music website is Pitchfork Media. If they give an album a good rating, it must be quite hip.\\nOne good way to decipher whether or not an artist is hipster is if your non-hipster friends to have never heard of them.\\nFeel free to listen to the music of other countries as well, since most mainstream songs of this decade came out of America, Britain and South Korea.\\n5. Socializing\\n5-1. Use social media.\\nHipsters love to use Blogspot, Tumblr, Instagram and WordPress, Ello, as well as taking photos with their Holga cameras and making cross-processed and \\\"dream-like\\\" pictures. Social media can also be a great way to find new things to enjoy, before they become mainstream.\\n5-2. Date\\nThe reason to \\\"hook up\\\" with other hipsters is that you're much more likely to connect and see eye-to-eye on a range of issues. The all-American muscle guy or sorority-style tanned blond are not likely to be your type, so a fellow hipster is the answer.\\nNote that if you are already in a relationship with someone, there is no need to end it on account of them not being hipster, obviously. But if you're looking for a relationship, always consider that you're probably going to have a lot of intimate discussions with them, so having the same hipster ideology could be a point of shared interest.\\n5-3. Start dancing.\\nIf you want to spot a hipster, just turn around the next time you're at a show and see them standing in the back discussing Stella or Pabst Blue Ribbon (PBR) in a can. Sometimes, if the music and setting is right, you will witness hipsters engaging in dance movements.\\nHipster dancing, if done correctly, does not use so much of the hips as it does the upper body and arms. Lots of swinging your head back and forth but only do this if you're not humiliated easily (and as a hipster, you really shouldn't care).\\nAlthough you'll rarely see hipsters dancing at shows, they tend to enjoy separate dance parties where they can dance to an array of more upbeat hipster dance music.\\n5-4. Get the lingo and the attitude.\\nWhile there will be many variations—part of the reality of hipster culture is that things change constantly—there are some things that are useful to know:\\nRemember to use perhaps the most important hipster line: \\\"I liked them before they were cool.\\\" Another good line given the recent spate of disasters is to say something like: \\\"I donated to Haiti... before the disaster.\\\"\\nNamedrop often. Talk about all the obscure bands you like that nobody you know has heard of. When your friends talk about a band you're unfamiliar with, just say you've heard of them but not actually heard them. Look them up the next time you have a chance to. It'll give you more cred.\\nInsult a lot of bands. If you love everything you'll seem like a fanatic. Make sure to give off a vibe that you're too cool and elite for a lot of bands.\\nIf you would like to seem more educated and elite there is the key phrase \\\" I liked their first EP, but pretty much after that I never got into them.\\\"\\nUse made-up words as often as possible. Or use real words that no one really knows the meaning of unless they look them up (for example, pulchritudinous, cordiform, and petrichor).\\n5-5. Hone your humor.\\nA hipster is known for their strong sense of irony and sarcasm. When asked a question, refuse to answer directly; instead, obfuscate, ask a question in return, or just be plain sarcastic.\\nBe sure to layer on the smirk to indicate your lack of seriousness, because it's possible for the other person to mistake your sarcasm for sincerity.\\nFor example: When in a theater watching a movie, and the person next to you turns to say, \\\"Oh, my God, that was so cool! Did you see that?\\\", in a dry tone, reply something along the lines of, \\\"No, I paid $12.50 to stare at the ceiling.\\\"\\nWatch British comedies for examples of good uses of sarcasm you can borrow. Unless you're already British, in which case you should be just fine.\\nHave a sense of humorous perspective and don't take yourself too seriously. Hipsters are often parodied, so knowing how to laugh at derision will help a lot.\\n5-6. Be prepared for critics.\\nBe aware that hipsterism is frequently parodied or derided because hipsters bother some people. You're going to need to get used to disdainful attitudes and to work out the ways in which you're most comfortable responding.\\nThere will often be an insistence that your sub-culture is \\\"less than\\\" whatever it is the hater \\\"believes\\\" in.\\nGiven the tendency for hipsters to follow progressive politics, it's likely you'll encounter occasional conservative disdain, so it's probably a good idea to brush up on your responses to any standard ridicule.\\nAs for people who poke fun at your fashion sense, remind the so-called trendy mass that their worn and torn jeans fashion was created by children who are little more than slaves in some sweatshop and if they want to contribute to that, they’re welcome to. If they point out the fact that your Apple products were also produced in sweatshops, change the subject to an obscure band they've never heard of.\\nRecognize the root of the problem. Realize that a lot of people who attack you may have deep insecurities about their own place in society and have very mixed ideas of what culture is, or how they reconcile the variant elements of culture with their own lifestyle and preferences. Practice a little compassion.\\nKnow that geeks have an odd relationship with hipsters. While some are disdainful, other geeks recognize the overlap of the cultures.\\nTips\\nKeeping a nonchalant attitude about everything will help portray a more mysterious character.\\nCoffee (preferably fair trade sold from an indie coffee shop) is basically one of the food groups.\\nLush, while somewhat mainstream, is a great place to shop for all natural, handmade soaps and shampoo bars. Just don't buy those mainstream bath melts and such.\\nWarnings\\nThe goal of being a hipster is to look like you're not trying, however, if you are one, you are probably trying really hard, or at least enough. Just accept it.\\nDon't take this article too seriously, instead see it as a set of guidelines to work with as befits you. Hipsters pride themselves on their independence from the mainstream.\\nTry not to take yourself, or the hipster culture, too seriously.\\nSometimes, just sometimes, you may be really frustrated that other people don't get what's so great about your music, fashion, and other choices. Give it up; you won't ever see, hear, or feel the things they love the way they do, and that's because everyone is different.\\nDon't expect yourself to be hipster right away. It is actually a process of becoming a hipster and you shouldn't rush it.\\nNegativity can pervade the hipster culture, perhaps as a counteraction to the ridiculously-positive, can-do motivational speaker style attitudes pervading much of the business and consumer culture these days. However, negativity is not an answer, it's simply a reaction. Always try to find balance and peace in your life rather than seeing doom and gloom in everything. Yes, society is full of problems but being negative about them won't solve or change such problems whereas a realistic and pragmatic approach to doing things that make a difference will go part the way to bringing about a better world. Remember too, that every generation is cursed with thinking things used to be or could be better. We are time-bound and body-bound creatures who need to accept our limitations while making the most of what we do know and can do. Constant deconstructing and criticizing of society can all too easily turn into a paralysis-by-analysis lifestyle, in which complaining becomes your modus operandi but actually changing the status quo is not something you're tooled up to do.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Hipsters are people who enjoy clothing, music, food and activities considered outside of the social mainstream. If you're keen on pursuing the hipster lifestyle in which independent music labels, vintage clothes, and artisanal coffee feature prominently, the following suggestions will help you to discover myriad ways to embrace it fully.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hipster Fashion\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress like a hipster.\", \"描述\": \"Fashion is just as important as your taste in music. While shopping at vintage stores remains a staple for many hipsters, this is not a given, nor does it need to be a part of the hipster wardrobe.\\nAvoid buying labeled gear from stores run by the label itself (so very not nice consumerism). Instead, look for independent retailers because supporting obscure retailers is \\\"totally deck\\\". For example, buy from local mixed fashion stores near you.\\nBe sure to assess what you're wearing. Are you layering? Are you buying local? What's the color or specific style this season? Are you advertising something on your shirt that hipsters identify with?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear skinny jeans, especially of bright colors or patterns.\", \"描述\": \"These can be for anyone of either of the two genders. Hipster men tend to be as skinny as the women.\\nNote that male hipsters actually probably wear skinny jeans more than the girls (girls prefer leggings).\\nAlternatively, for women, high-waisted pants (a.k.a. \\\"mom jeans\\\") may also be worn.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear glasses.\", \"描述\": \"Hipsters love ironic eyewear such as shutter shades, oversized plastic framed glasses, Buddy Holly glasses, and most commonly authentic Ray Ban Wayfarers in all the colors of the rainbow.\\nSome hipsters wear glasses even though they have 20/20 vision! In this case, pop out the lenses or make sure they're just regular glass.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear ironic tops.\", \"描述\": \"For tops, the following are good picks: band shirts such as Pink Floyd, Metallica, Van Halen, etc., plaid shirts, cowboy shirts, flannels, and anything in gingham, plaid, checkered patterns, paisley, vintage florals.\\nMany hipsters sport tops with appliques, images of animals or forests, other images, characters from children's TV shows, and ironic phrases or even book covers.\\nFitted hoodies are perfect, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dress vintage.\", \"描述\": \"Consider a vintage floral or lace dress. Your Granny's closet is definitely a good source; however, you should know how to sew and restyle vintage clothing to fit you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Find suitable footwear.\", \"描述\": \"Hipster shoes include cowboy boots, combat boots, vintage shoes, unusual shoes, and a range of flats.\\nConverse are no longer hipster. They look great and you can wear them pretty much anywhere, but since everyone wears them, they aren't hipster.\\nIf it's trainers you're after, see Classic Reebok.\\nHigh heels should be at least 5 inches (12.7 cm) in height, and ankle booties are popular too. Cute sandals, Keds (tennis/sand shoes), boots, and granny boots are not only more practical but also show how little effort you've put forth (even if it took you ages to find the perfect pair).\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Accessorize.\", \"描述\": \"There is a wide range of accessories, including large flower headbands, neon nail polish, pins, bright belts, black nail polish, bird necklaces, patterned and colorful leggings, etc.\\nDon't forget your plugs, piercings, and random scars supposedly acquired through woodwork and other carpentry-like endeavors.\\nAppropriately ironic accessories are mandatory, such as things kids would take to school, like an animal image on a lunchbox.\\nEssentials include a vintage leather courier bag (not a backpack), preferably something from Freitag, that can fit your MacBook, iPhone, and vinyl LPs (never CDs) of your current favorite band.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Mismatch and layer.\", \"描述\": \"Layering or wearing things that don't match together is very hipster. It's that \\\"I can't be bothered\\\" look that actually takes some planning until you get into the habit.\\nRemember that a hipster's outfit never needs adjustment should you decide to go to the beach—keep all of your urban accompaniments for the sand and surf to ironically stick out of your element.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hipster Health\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ignore the comments about improper hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"Some people associate hipsters with hippies and assume that they don’t shower regularly or otherwise don’t practice proper hygiene. This is a misconception. Though some hipsters participate in the no shampoo movement (which is still very clean), most practice normal hygiene (with bonus artisanal and environmentally-friendly soaps!).\\nWhile hipsters do shower regularly and clean their teeth, they're just less interested in forking out money for hairstyling, spa sessions, pedicures/manicures, and large make-up kits because these are signs of conforming to cultural ideals of beauty.\\nArguably, hipsters aren't so interested in \\\"making the most of their assets\\\" because they see their entire self as an asset; from a self-esteem point of view, this is actually a rather healthy outlook.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your hair casual.\", \"描述\": \"Messy hairdos are just fine. The \\\"bed look\\\", long unkempt hair, and hair that resists any attempts to stay flat without chemicals are acceptable looks.\\nBlurring gender lines with haircuts and styles is part of the hipster culture.\\nGreasy hair is considered okay by some in the hipster culture. That doesn't mean you need to concur and a squeaky clean but uncombed do might be more your thing.\\nFor men, large beards and/or waxed mustaches are not a must but are preferred if one can grow them.\\nSome hipsters like to dye their hair in an obvious way.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take a green approach to food.\", \"描述\": \"Consider growing your own food or turning vegetarian. Use compost if possible. Eating meat isn't always popular with the hipster culture, and many hipsters tend to be vegetarian or vegan. If you do eat meat, you must assert that choice as a cynical transcendence of vegetarians' futile attempts to save the world.\\nFruit, coffee, Asian food, etc., are all hip foods.\\nIf you have absolutely no space to grow your own produce (not even a balcony or a windowsill), go to a natural foods market instead.\\nOften, hipsters are foodies and love making gourmet meals. If you can't cook, consider getting some good cookbooks today.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Hipster Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Become a master of reuse.\", \"描述\": \"This takes a mixture of frugality, respect for some of the past, and a desire to demonstrate that new things don't define you. Naturally, you'll need to wrestle with the inconsistency of this step with the fact that loving shiny new Apple products and brand new clothes from certain labels is also a side of a true hipster, but since we're all contradictory deep down, the sooner we grasp these contradictions and accept them, the more whole a person we'll be.\\nCommonly known old things associated with hipsters include Parliament cigarettes (and a devil-may-care attitude about smoking laws), Pabst beer, grandparent's clothing (or thrift store finds), bicycles with fixed gears (often ridden to the night clubs), analog cameras, and recycling and reusing almost anything (ingenuity, common sense, and fun comes into this).\\nLearn to play a musical instrument, the more obscure, the better. Example: ukulele > guitar and mandolin > piano. Act like it's no big deal that you can play when others are amazed.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Reject blind consumerism.\", \"描述\": \"Hipsters are into \\\"niche consumerism\\\". If your purchase helps local retailers, the environment, the mom and pop retailer, and the craft sellers down the road, then it's hipster.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be aware that most hipsters exist in a certain age group.\", \"描述\": \"Hipsters tend to be in their teens through to their 30s. This is part of today's \\\"extended adolescent\\\" era, consisting of existential angst, searching for purpose and inner worth, and asking the meaning of everything.\\nOf course, this doesn't mean you can't be a hipster at an older age, but the fact that as you age you get less bothered and upset about the way the world works, or doesn't work, probably means you're a) not so keen to be labeled anything, b) not in need of belonging to any sub-culture, and/or c) less angry than you used to be. It's quite possible you're also very discreetly steering the rudder of your own teens going through \\\"issues\\\" and you're less than keen to adopt more of the same for yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be where the hipsters roam.\", \"描述\": \"Hipsters tend to congregate in very urban settings and they're connected globally thanks to the Internet. In the USA, you'll tend to find hipsters in major metropolitan centers where \\\"anything goes\\\". Be where there are art galleries, movie houses, bands, and people.\\nThink New York City, Chicago, San Francisco, Portland, Seattle, Minneapolis, and especially the Brooklyn, N.Y. suburb of Williamsburg (known as the unofficial hipster capital of the world). Places like Glasslands and Pianos will be right up your alley. Los Angeles is also acceptable but be careful not to get sucked into the Southern California culture.\\nFor less urban USA, try to find any moderately large college town; and in some states, a college town might be the only liberal part of the state such as Austin, TX, or Lawrence, KS.\\nIn the UK, London is your spot, in Canada, try Montreal, in Australia, try Melbourne and in New Zealand, try Wellington.\\nDo not force yourself to live or go to these places or countries for the sake of being a hipster. Besides from being too uneconomical (especially if you live on the other side of the world), you can actually begin being a hipster in your place. One of the advantages is if your place knows less about hipsters, the fewer the people who will be discriminating or criticizing you. Take note that the Internet will always be your best friend.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be educated.\", \"描述\": \"Aim to go to college, as hipsters tend to be well educated in such areas as liberal arts, graphic art, or math and science.\\nDo a lot of reading, even if it means sitting in the local bookstore using their space and not actually purchasing the books you're siphoning up knowledge from. Seek to go to higher level education if you're in your element at college.\\nGoing to the library (especially small, local libraries) is a good option because you don't have to pay and you can bring books back when you are finished. Also, they don't mind you just sitting reading without even taking a book out- this is normal in libraries.\\nHipsters are a subculture that uses more of their right brain than the rest of the society, thus, many hipsters base their career choices around music, art, or fashion. While these areas of work aren't essential choices, they are probably a natural outlet for a hipster's creativity.\\nEducation is what helps a hipster to be dismissive about the hue and cry of others; they know it's just history repeating itself, or it's all much ado about nothing.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be an early adopter.\", \"描述\": \"Hipsters tend to sense what's worthwhile before the trend or item becomes more popular. Many bands become famous only after hipsters first flock to their unknown performances. Many clothing trends were started by hipsters, only to be hijacked later by mainstream fashion houses. Many technical gadgets are taken up by hipsters first, only to become mainstream goodies later.\\nOf course, the irony of being an early adopter hipster is that once the trend or item becomes mainstream, it's time to move on to something else obscure and unrecognized. That's the trouble with being such an independent spirit; you trail blaze but you also have to keep moving on.\\nIf you're really good at something like math, physics, medicine, psychology, political analysis, eco-awareness, etc., you might find yourself making amazing discoveries that are light years ahead of everyone else's thinking. You know deep down that you've cottoned onto something that really matters and that it makes sense but others are not convinced because it's the \\\"great unknown\\\". Rest easy and be determined in your knowledge that some day, others will come round to your discovery.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Don't define yourself to others.\", \"描述\": \"One of the key elements of being hipster has been to avoid the label. Don't go around proclaiming your allegiance; to do so would be to start allying with those who like neatly tied-up boxes denoting who is what, when, and where.\\nThe moment you define yourself too clearly is the moment you begin to stagnate and risk being captured by the status quo. Many a hipster will therefore deny their \\\"hipster-ness\\\" whenever possible.\\nTo preemptively ward off the mockers, some hipsters have taken to extending their sense of irony to include even themselves by acknowledging and mocking their own hipsterdom (for example, wearing a tee that says \\\"I hate hipsters\\\"); that way, by mocking themselves first, no one else can effectively do it (reclaiming the negative).\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Keep a pulse on the hipster community.\", \"描述\": \"There is a strong community aspect to hipster culture. If you want to find out about the best new bands or a great local coffee shop, make sure to stay active in the community to get good recommendations and stay ahead of the trends.\\nWhen some new, obscure band is on Pitchfork (preferably before), you should know about it.\\nCheck out Brooklyn Vegan (even if you don't live there), Stereogum, Gorilla vs. Bear, and the Hype Machine as often as possible, but don't make it obvious that you check them every five seconds.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Indie Entertainment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read hipster classics.\", \"描述\": \"Your reading sources are important because what you read connects you with other hipsters, informs you about cultural issues, and keeps you knowledgeable. There's a lot to be read out there, so sort the wheat from the chaff and get into the things that matter most. Things to read include:\\nHipster magazines, such as Vice, Another Magazine, and Wallpaper. Foreign magazines are good too.\\nGreat books and poetry by people like Jack Kerouac, Allen Ginsberg, and Norman Mailer. Any other books you think are great. Any books, period; reading books sets hipsters apart from a lot of people. Visit the political science, anthropology, and sociology sections of the bookstores and local library frequently.\\nBlogs by other hipsters. You might also be inspired enough to write your own blog frequently.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Watch hipster cinema.\", \"描述\": \"Watch independent and foreign films, as well as attending independent theater productions, such as shows by Ann Liv Young. Watch Wes Anderson, Hal Hartley and Jim Jarmusch movies.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to newly emerging, independent music.\", \"描述\": \"Indie music is a big part of what being a hipster is all about. Turn to the endless and ever-renewing list of independent artists in the music scene, especially in the areas of nu-rave, minimalist techno, independent rap, nerdcore, Elephant 6, garage rock, classic rock (Beatles usually), and punk rock. Also, remember, they don't have to be famous to be good. Browse amateur videos on YouTube, and you may find your style.\\nHipster artists of note include Lana Del Rey, Grizzly Bear, Marina & The Diamonds, Pink Floyd, Stray Kites,The Xx, Nirvana, La Roux, M83, Neon Indian, Neon Neon, King Khan, Milky Chance, Alt J, and the Shrines. Imagine Dragons, and Bastille are great examples of non-hipster bands, because the main part of being hipster is listening to bands that no one has ever heard of. Try Days n Daze, King Krule, Mitski, ikea graveyard, Waxahatchee, Dollar Signs, spoonboy, Not Half Bad, or Pope instead.\\nMusic blogs like Gorilla vs. Bear, Indiehere, /mu/, and Stereogum may help you with choosing suitable bands to listen to. Meeting people who are already into these bands will help you as well.\\nPerhaps the most popular hipster music website is Pitchfork Media. If they give an album a good rating, it must be quite hip.\\nOne good way to decipher whether or not an artist is hipster is if your non-hipster friends to have never heard of them.\\nFeel free to listen to the music of other countries as well, since most mainstream songs of this decade came out of America, Britain and South Korea.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Socializing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use social media.\", \"描述\": \"Hipsters love to use Blogspot, Tumblr, Instagram and WordPress, Ello, as well as taking photos with their Holga cameras and making cross-processed and \\\"dream-like\\\" pictures. Social media can also be a great way to find new things to enjoy, before they become mainstream.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Date\", \"描述\": \"The reason to \\\"hook up\\\" with other hipsters is that you're much more likely to connect and see eye-to-eye on a range of issues. The all-American muscle guy or sorority-style tanned blond are not likely to be your type, so a fellow hipster is the answer.\\nNote that if you are already in a relationship with someone, there is no need to end it on account of them not being hipster, obviously. But if you're looking for a relationship, always consider that you're probably going to have a lot of intimate discussions with them, so having the same hipster ideology could be a point of shared interest.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start dancing.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to spot a hipster, just turn around the next time you're at a show and see them standing in the back discussing Stella or Pabst Blue Ribbon (PBR) in a can. Sometimes, if the music and setting is right, you will witness hipsters engaging in dance movements.\\nHipster dancing, if done correctly, does not use so much of the hips as it does the upper body and arms. Lots of swinging your head back and forth but only do this if you're not humiliated easily (and as a hipster, you really shouldn't care).\\nAlthough you'll rarely see hipsters dancing at shows, they tend to enjoy separate dance parties where they can dance to an array of more upbeat hipster dance music.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get the lingo and the attitude.\", \"描述\": \"While there will be many variations—part of the reality of hipster culture is that things change constantly—there are some things that are useful to know:\\nRemember to use perhaps the most important hipster line: \\\"I liked them before they were cool.\\\" Another good line given the recent spate of disasters is to say something like: \\\"I donated to Haiti... before the disaster.\\\"\\nNamedrop often. Talk about all the obscure bands you like that nobody you know has heard of. When your friends talk about a band you're unfamiliar with, just say you've heard of them but not actually heard them. Look them up the next time you have a chance to. It'll give you more cred.\\nInsult a lot of bands. If you love everything you'll seem like a fanatic. Make sure to give off a vibe that you're too cool and elite for a lot of bands.\\nIf you would like to seem more educated and elite there is the key phrase \\\" I liked their first EP, but pretty much after that I never got into them.\\\"\\nUse made-up words as often as possible. Or use real words that no one really knows the meaning of unless they look them up (for example, pulchritudinous, cordiform, and petrichor).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Hone your humor.\", \"描述\": \"A hipster is known for their strong sense of irony and sarcasm. When asked a question, refuse to answer directly; instead, obfuscate, ask a question in return, or just be plain sarcastic.\\nBe sure to layer on the smirk to indicate your lack of seriousness, because it's possible for the other person to mistake your sarcasm for sincerity.\\nFor example: When in a theater watching a movie, and the person next to you turns to say, \\\"Oh, my God, that was so cool! Did you see that?\\\", in a dry tone, reply something along the lines of, \\\"No, I paid $12.50 to stare at the ceiling.\\\"\\nWatch British comedies for examples of good uses of sarcasm you can borrow. Unless you're already British, in which case you should be just fine.\\nHave a sense of humorous perspective and don't take yourself too seriously. Hipsters are often parodied, so knowing how to laugh at derision will help a lot.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be prepared for critics.\", \"描述\": \"Be aware that hipsterism is frequently parodied or derided because hipsters bother some people. You're going to need to get used to disdainful attitudes and to work out the ways in which you're most comfortable responding.\\nThere will often be an insistence that your sub-culture is \\\"less than\\\" whatever it is the hater \\\"believes\\\" in.\\nGiven the tendency for hipsters to follow progressive politics, it's likely you'll encounter occasional conservative disdain, so it's probably a good idea to brush up on your responses to any standard ridicule.\\nAs for people who poke fun at your fashion sense, remind the so-called trendy mass that their worn and torn jeans fashion was created by children who are little more than slaves in some sweatshop and if they want to contribute to that, they’re welcome to. If they point out the fact that your Apple products were also produced in sweatshops, change the subject to an obscure band they've never heard of.\\nRecognize the root of the problem. Realize that a lot of people who attack you may have deep insecurities about their own place in society and have very mixed ideas of what culture is, or how they reconcile the variant elements of culture with their own lifestyle and preferences. Practice a little compassion.\\nKnow that geeks have an odd relationship with hipsters. While some are disdainful, other geeks recognize the overlap of the cultures.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Keeping a nonchalant attitude about everything will help portray a more mysterious character.\\n\", \"Coffee (preferably fair trade sold from an indie coffee shop) is basically one of the food groups.\\n\", \"Lush, while somewhat mainstream, is a great place to shop for all natural, handmade soaps and shampoo bars. Just don't buy those mainstream bath melts and such.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"The goal of being a hipster is to look like you're not trying, however, if you are one, you are probably trying really hard, or at least enough. Just accept it.\\n\", \"Don't take this article too seriously, instead see it as a set of guidelines to work with as befits you. Hipsters pride themselves on their independence from the mainstream.\\n\", \"Try not to take yourself, or the hipster culture, too seriously.\\n\", \"Sometimes, just sometimes, you may be really frustrated that other people don't get what's so great about your music, fashion, and other choices. Give it up; you won't ever see, hear, or feel the things they love the way they do, and that's because everyone is different.\\n\", \"Don't expect yourself to be hipster right away. It is actually a process of becoming a hipster and you shouldn't rush it.\\n\", \"Negativity can pervade the hipster culture, perhaps as a counteraction to the ridiculously-positive, can-do motivational speaker style attitudes pervading much of the business and consumer culture these days. However, negativity is not an answer, it's simply a reaction. Always try to find balance and peace in your life rather than seeing doom and gloom in everything. Yes, society is full of problems but being negative about them won't solve or change such problems whereas a realistic and pragmatic approach to doing things that make a difference will go part the way to bringing about a better world. Remember too, that every generation is cursed with thinking things used to be or could be better. We are time-bound and body-bound creatures who need to accept our limitations while making the most of what we do know and can do. Constant deconstructing and criticizing of society can all too easily turn into a paralysis-by-analysis lifestyle, in which complaining becomes your modus operandi but actually changing the status quo is not something you're tooled up to do.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Dressing Like a Hipster Girl
1-1. Shop at secondhand stores and independent shops.
Rather than conform to the norm of shopping for new, full price items at big box stores or the mall, head to your local thrift store for secondhand clothing. Most hipsters do not have a lot of extra cash for clothing and often shop at charity stores to save money and find unique items no one else will have.
You can also go to independent clothing shops in your area to support local businesses and vendors. Hipsters value independent thinking and independent business, so supporting local clothing stores is one way to give back to the community and avoid corporations and big business.
1-2. Look for vintage dresses and band t-shirts.
Many hipster girls wear vintage dresses in floral patterns or other bold prints with black or colored tights. Look for long floral dresses and shorter print dresses or shift dresses that you can pair with tights or knee socks for cold winter days. You can then wear the same dresses with bare legs and sandals in the summer.
Vintage band t-shirts are also popular with hipster girls, especially shirts that feature bands from the 60s, 70s, and 80s, like the Rolling Stones, Cream, Blondie, and The Cure. Look for vintage band t-shirts at your local thrift store. You can also find band shirts online through online vendors who specialize in vintage band t-shirts.
Fitted blouses with interesting details and striped tops are also popular items for hipster girls. Look for tops that have a bit of flair, but keep in mind that you can also dress up your clothing with accessories to complete your hipster girl look.
1-3. Buy jean cut offs or make your own cut offs.
Many hipster girls will wear jean cut offs during the warmer months with a band t-shirt or a crop top. You can buy jean cut offs at a local shop or thrift store, or make your own cut offs by cutting up a pair of old jeans.
The typical hipster cut off style for girls is at the mid to upper thigh. You can get a more tomboy look by wearing cut offs that are just above your knee.
In the colder months, you can wear tights underneath a pair of cut offs for a look that is comfortable and warm.
1-4. Combine skinny jeans or leggings with oversized tops.
A typical everyday outfit for hipster girls is a pair of blue or black skinny jeans worn with an oversized plaid shirt or sweater. You can also wear a pair of black leggings with your oversized sweater or shirt. Black leggings are staples in a hipster girl’s wardrobe.
You can find vintage plaid shirts and sweaters at your local thrift store, often in fun and unique designs. Oversized plaid shirts can be found in the men’s section of thrift stores. You can also tie plaid shirts around your waist to really nail the hipster girl style.
The more masculine look of flannel shirts is a staple of the hipster wardrobe.
Look for sweaters that have funny, ironic sayings on them or cute images of animals. Ugly Christmas sweaters are also popular among hipsters, during Christmas and in the off season.
1-5. Wear denim vests and leather jackets.
The layering garment of choice for hipster girls is a slim denim vest, worn over a band t-shirt or a vintage dress. Top this look with a vintage leather jacket with interesting details like zippers, buttons, studs, or fringe.
You can also layer multiple items for a more unique look. For example, you can try layering a leather jacket over a plaid shirt, or wearing a jacket and tying a plaid shirt around your waist.
2. Adding Hipster Girl Accessories
2-1. Go for vintage boots or oxfords.
Look for vintage leather boots, short and high, at your local thrift store in black or brown. Short boots, or booties, are a popular look for hipster girls, usually worn with tights and a vintage dress. You can also look for vintage oxfords or loafers in brown or black leather.
Some hipster girls favor comfort over appearance and will wear Converse sneakers or Vans sneakers with skinny jeans and a band t-shirt for a more casual look.
2-2. Shop for long necklaces and unique accessories.
Many hipster girls will wear long necklaces that sit a few inches above their waist line with a simple pendant or charm in geometric shapes. You can also look for necklaces with crystal pendants or unique designs at your local thrift store.
Accessories like beanie hats and fedoras are popular among hipster girls, especially slouchy beanie hats. You can also dye your hair a bright color for a committed hipster look.
2-3. Add pins and buttons.
Many hipster girls also collect pins and wear them on the lapels of their coats, such as pins from bands or with ironic, funny sayings on them. You can also decorate your handbag with pins or your backpack with pins for a fun, hipster look.
Try buying a pin every time you visit somewhere new or go to a concert. Each time you get a new pin, add it to the lapel of your coat or vest.
You can also collect antique brooches if that is more your style. Wear a different brooch every day of the week for a vintage chic look.
Leather bags are a great vintage accessory choice.
2-4. Wear a scarf.
Decorative scarves are also popular accessories for hipster girls. Look for scarves in thrift shops and independent clothing stores. Choose scarves that have unique designs, bright colors, or bold prints.
You can wear a scarf with just about any outfit. For example, you can dress up a plain t-shirt and jeans by adding a scarf, or wear a solid color scarf with a floral dress.
Choose lighter fabric scarves in the warmer months and knit scarves during colder months. You may even consider learning how to knit and making your own scarf for extra hipster girl credibility.
2-5. Get some cool sunglasses or wear your real glasses.
Quirky sunglasses and thick rimmed glasses are also common hipster girl accessories. Try wearing a pair of heart-shaped shades, some John Lennon style round sunglasses, or a pair of oversized black sunglasses.
If you actually wear glasses, then your glasses can help you to achieve a hipster girl look. You may even want to consider getting a pair of glasses with thick frames so that they are extra visible.
If you don’t wear glasses, but you want some to complete your look, then you can always buy some non-prescription clear lens glasses.
2-6. Carry an interesting purse.
Hipster girls often carry interesting looking purses, such as oversized messenger bags, extra small cross-body bags, or glittery clutches. To complete your hipster girl look, make sure that you are carrying a cool looking purse.
Fanny packs have also gained some popularity among hipster girls.
Try looking in vintage stores and locally owned shops for unique purses.
Lots of hipster girls enjoy doing DIY projects. If you are crafty and you want a truly unique purse, then try designing and making your own purse.
3. Embracing a Hipster Lifestyle
3-1. Read about pop culture and art.
Hipsters are often very well read and well versed in current pop culture trends and influences, usually through online blogs and online media. Read up on what’s going on in the world of the internet, such as the latest memes, viral stories, and viral videos.
There are certain websites known to be full of hipster information, such as Vice.com and Pitchfork.com. These sites provide up to the minute information on the latest trends and influences happening in pop culture.
Hipsters are also often interested in the art world and contemporary art. Take a trip to your local museum and find artists you admire through online art blogs. Try to immerse yourself in the art world and expand your knowledge of contemporary art.
Hipsters are noted as interested in excellent food and drink. This includes restaurants, cafes, bakeries, coffeehouses, pubs, and food trucks. Hipsters are also often patrons of farmer's markets, CSAs, upscale food markets, and ethnic markets.
Hipsters are noted for a preference for food that is local, organic, and artisan made.
A good hipster approaches eating with a sense of adventure. Whether it is trying Ethiopian cuisine or trying to make homemade cheese, a hipster tries new things.
The food rules are not entirely hard and fast when it comes to fine dining. Hipsters also have a soft spot for places which have plain, good food and an atmosphere of authenticity. "Kitschy" eateries such as truck stops, diners, and the like are also acceptable places.
3-2. Expand your knowledge of film, music, and television.
Hipsters usually have extensive knowledge of film, music, and television, new and old. You can find out the latest, hottest shows for hipsters by asking hipster friends for recommendations or searching online blogs for the shows everyone is talking about. Hipsters also enjoy old films, specifically independent films by directors from America and Europe. Strike up a conversation with the clerk at your local video store, if it still exists, or go online and search the top American and European films.
Search music blogs online for recommendations on hipster music and independent or alternative music. It may help to focus on a particular genre or style of music and a particular artist or group. Hipsters often listen to alternative and independent music, as well as rap, hip hop, soul, and progressive rock.
3-3. Learn more about social and political movements in your area.
Hipsters are often aware of the social and political issues of the day, and may be involved in protests or grassroots movements in their area. Think of a cause you feel passionate about or are interested in, and join in an online discussion about the issue or go to a protest organized in your area. Getting involved in social and political movements is part of the less superficial aspects of being hipster, where you are an informed and involved individual in society.
3-4. Focus on ways to be sustainable and environmentally friendly.
Many hipsters strive to live a sustainable and environmentally friendly lifestyle, as they believe in caring for the environment and being aware of the effects of climate change. This may mean recycling, composting, or donating old clothing to charity rather than throwing them away.
You can also look at ways to cut down on the amount of greenhouse gases you produce by biking or walking to work instead of driving or taking the bus. Hipsters are known for their passion for biking, and you can join in this element of hipster culture by getting a bike and using it year round.
3-5. Display confidence and independence around others.
Hipsters are known for their unique sense of style and for having an independent streak in their approach to life. Confidence and independence are two key elements of acting like a hipster.
This could mean being confident around others or confident in your abilities as an individual, as well as focusing on how you can live and work independently. You may decide to try to work for yourself or work flexible hours so you have more freedom and independence in your career. Or you may decide to be more independent and confident in your current work situation where you take more initiative and try to climb the career ladder.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Dressing Like a Hipster Girl\\n1-1. Shop at secondhand stores and independent shops.\\nRather than conform to the norm of shopping for new, full price items at big box stores or the mall, head to your local thrift store for secondhand clothing. Most hipsters do not have a lot of extra cash for clothing and often shop at charity stores to save money and find unique items no one else will have.\\nYou can also go to independent clothing shops in your area to support local businesses and vendors. Hipsters value independent thinking and independent business, so supporting local clothing stores is one way to give back to the community and avoid corporations and big business.\\n1-2. Look for vintage dresses and band t-shirts.\\nMany hipster girls wear vintage dresses in floral patterns or other bold prints with black or colored tights. Look for long floral dresses and shorter print dresses or shift dresses that you can pair with tights or knee socks for cold winter days. You can then wear the same dresses with bare legs and sandals in the summer.\\nVintage band t-shirts are also popular with hipster girls, especially shirts that feature bands from the 60s, 70s, and 80s, like the Rolling Stones, Cream, Blondie, and The Cure. Look for vintage band t-shirts at your local thrift store. You can also find band shirts online through online vendors who specialize in vintage band t-shirts.\\nFitted blouses with interesting details and striped tops are also popular items for hipster girls. Look for tops that have a bit of flair, but keep in mind that you can also dress up your clothing with accessories to complete your hipster girl look.\\n1-3. Buy jean cut offs or make your own cut offs.\\nMany hipster girls will wear jean cut offs during the warmer months with a band t-shirt or a crop top. You can buy jean cut offs at a local shop or thrift store, or make your own cut offs by cutting up a pair of old jeans.\\nThe typical hipster cut off style for girls is at the mid to upper thigh. You can get a more tomboy look by wearing cut offs that are just above your knee.\\nIn the colder months, you can wear tights underneath a pair of cut offs for a look that is comfortable and warm.\\n1-4. Combine skinny jeans or leggings with oversized tops.\\nA typical everyday outfit for hipster girls is a pair of blue or black skinny jeans worn with an oversized plaid shirt or sweater. You can also wear a pair of black leggings with your oversized sweater or shirt. Black leggings are staples in a hipster girl’s wardrobe. \\nYou can find vintage plaid shirts and sweaters at your local thrift store, often in fun and unique designs. Oversized plaid shirts can be found in the men’s section of thrift stores. You can also tie plaid shirts around your waist to really nail the hipster girl style.\\nThe more masculine look of flannel shirts is a staple of the hipster wardrobe.\\nLook for sweaters that have funny, ironic sayings on them or cute images of animals. Ugly Christmas sweaters are also popular among hipsters, during Christmas and in the off season.\\n1-5. Wear denim vests and leather jackets.\\nThe layering garment of choice for hipster girls is a slim denim vest, worn over a band t-shirt or a vintage dress. Top this look with a vintage leather jacket with interesting details like zippers, buttons, studs, or fringe.\\nYou can also layer multiple items for a more unique look. For example, you can try layering a leather jacket over a plaid shirt, or wearing a jacket and tying a plaid shirt around your waist.\\n2. Adding Hipster Girl Accessories\\n2-1. Go for vintage boots or oxfords.\\nLook for vintage leather boots, short and high, at your local thrift store in black or brown. Short boots, or booties, are a popular look for hipster girls, usually worn with tights and a vintage dress. You can also look for vintage oxfords or loafers in brown or black leather.\\nSome hipster girls favor comfort over appearance and will wear Converse sneakers or Vans sneakers with skinny jeans and a band t-shirt for a more casual look.\\n2-2. Shop for long necklaces and unique accessories.\\nMany hipster girls will wear long necklaces that sit a few inches above their waist line with a simple pendant or charm in geometric shapes. You can also look for necklaces with crystal pendants or unique designs at your local thrift store.\\nAccessories like beanie hats and fedoras are popular among hipster girls, especially slouchy beanie hats. You can also dye your hair a bright color for a committed hipster look.\\n2-3. Add pins and buttons.\\nMany hipster girls also collect pins and wear them on the lapels of their coats, such as pins from bands or with ironic, funny sayings on them. You can also decorate your handbag with pins or your backpack with pins for a fun, hipster look.\\nTry buying a pin every time you visit somewhere new or go to a concert. Each time you get a new pin, add it to the lapel of your coat or vest.\\nYou can also collect antique brooches if that is more your style. Wear a different brooch every day of the week for a vintage chic look.\\nLeather bags are a great vintage accessory choice.\\n2-4. Wear a scarf.\\nDecorative scarves are also popular accessories for hipster girls. Look for scarves in thrift shops and independent clothing stores. Choose scarves that have unique designs, bright colors, or bold prints.\\nYou can wear a scarf with just about any outfit. For example, you can dress up a plain t-shirt and jeans by adding a scarf, or wear a solid color scarf with a floral dress.\\nChoose lighter fabric scarves in the warmer months and knit scarves during colder months. You may even consider learning how to knit and making your own scarf for extra hipster girl credibility.\\n2-5. Get some cool sunglasses or wear your real glasses.\\nQuirky sunglasses and thick rimmed glasses are also common hipster girl accessories. Try wearing a pair of heart-shaped shades, some John Lennon style round sunglasses, or a pair of oversized black sunglasses. \\nIf you actually wear glasses, then your glasses can help you to achieve a hipster girl look. You may even want to consider getting a pair of glasses with thick frames so that they are extra visible.\\nIf you don’t wear glasses, but you want some to complete your look, then you can always buy some non-prescription clear lens glasses.\\n2-6. Carry an interesting purse.\\nHipster girls often carry interesting looking purses, such as oversized messenger bags, extra small cross-body bags, or glittery clutches. To complete your hipster girl look, make sure that you are carrying a cool looking purse. \\nFanny packs have also gained some popularity among hipster girls.\\nTry looking in vintage stores and locally owned shops for unique purses.\\nLots of hipster girls enjoy doing DIY projects. If you are crafty and you want a truly unique purse, then try designing and making your own purse.\\n3. Embracing a Hipster Lifestyle\\n3-1. Read about pop culture and art.\\nHipsters are often very well read and well versed in current pop culture trends and influences, usually through online blogs and online media. Read up on what’s going on in the world of the internet, such as the latest memes, viral stories, and viral videos.\\nThere are certain websites known to be full of hipster information, such as Vice.com and Pitchfork.com. These sites provide up to the minute information on the latest trends and influences happening in pop culture.\\nHipsters are also often interested in the art world and contemporary art. Take a trip to your local museum and find artists you admire through online art blogs. Try to immerse yourself in the art world and expand your knowledge of contemporary art.\\nHipsters are noted as interested in excellent food and drink. This includes restaurants, cafes, bakeries, coffeehouses, pubs, and food trucks. Hipsters are also often patrons of farmer's markets, CSAs, upscale food markets, and ethnic markets.\\nHipsters are noted for a preference for food that is local, organic, and artisan made.\\nA good hipster approaches eating with a sense of adventure. Whether it is trying Ethiopian cuisine or trying to make homemade cheese, a hipster tries new things.\\nThe food rules are not entirely hard and fast when it comes to fine dining. Hipsters also have a soft spot for places which have plain, good food and an atmosphere of authenticity. \\\"Kitschy\\\" eateries such as truck stops, diners, and the like are also acceptable places.\\n3-2. Expand your knowledge of film, music, and television.\\nHipsters usually have extensive knowledge of film, music, and television, new and old. You can find out the latest, hottest shows for hipsters by asking hipster friends for recommendations or searching online blogs for the shows everyone is talking about. Hipsters also enjoy old films, specifically independent films by directors from America and Europe. Strike up a conversation with the clerk at your local video store, if it still exists, or go online and search the top American and European films.\\nSearch music blogs online for recommendations on hipster music and independent or alternative music. It may help to focus on a particular genre or style of music and a particular artist or group. Hipsters often listen to alternative and independent music, as well as rap, hip hop, soul, and progressive rock.\\n3-3. Learn more about social and political movements in your area.\\nHipsters are often aware of the social and political issues of the day, and may be involved in protests or grassroots movements in their area. Think of a cause you feel passionate about or are interested in, and join in an online discussion about the issue or go to a protest organized in your area. Getting involved in social and political movements is part of the less superficial aspects of being hipster, where you are an informed and involved individual in society.\\n3-4. Focus on ways to be sustainable and environmentally friendly.\\nMany hipsters strive to live a sustainable and environmentally friendly lifestyle, as they believe in caring for the environment and being aware of the effects of climate change. This may mean recycling, composting, or donating old clothing to charity rather than throwing them away.\\nYou can also look at ways to cut down on the amount of greenhouse gases you produce by biking or walking to work instead of driving or taking the bus. Hipsters are known for their passion for biking, and you can join in this element of hipster culture by getting a bike and using it year round.\\n3-5. Display confidence and independence around others.\\nHipsters are known for their unique sense of style and for having an independent streak in their approach to life. Confidence and independence are two key elements of acting like a hipster.\\nThis could mean being confident around others or confident in your abilities as an individual, as well as focusing on how you can live and work independently. You may decide to try to work for yourself or work flexible hours so you have more freedom and independence in your career. Or you may decide to be more independent and confident in your current work situation where you take more initiative and try to climb the career ladder.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a hipster girl is more than just wearing the right clothes; it's also about adopting the right attitudes and starting to dig deeper into hipster communities and cultures. Hipsters, who are typically in their early 20s or 30s, are defined by their distinctive clothing and style, which expresses their goals of staying out of mainstream trends. To become a hipster girl you have to start somewhere, and changing your appearance and style is a good place to begin. Once you've done that, you can work your way into having a hipster lifestyle, which might include going to art shows and film screenings, getting involved in local politics, and drinking lots of coffee!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dressing Like a Hipster Girl\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Shop at secondhand stores and independent shops.\", \"描述\": \"Rather than conform to the norm of shopping for new, full price items at big box stores or the mall, head to your local thrift store for secondhand clothing. Most hipsters do not have a lot of extra cash for clothing and often shop at charity stores to save money and find unique items no one else will have.\\nYou can also go to independent clothing shops in your area to support local businesses and vendors. 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You can also decorate your handbag with pins or your backpack with pins for a fun, hipster look.\\nTry buying a pin every time you visit somewhere new or go to a concert. Each time you get a new pin, add it to the lapel of your coat or vest.\\nYou can also collect antique brooches if that is more your style. Wear a different brooch every day of the week for a vintage chic look.\\nLeather bags are a great vintage accessory choice.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear a scarf.\", \"描述\": \"Decorative scarves are also popular accessories for hipster girls. Look for scarves in thrift shops and independent clothing stores. Choose scarves that have unique designs, bright colors, or bold prints.\\nYou can wear a scarf with just about any outfit. For example, you can dress up a plain t-shirt and jeans by adding a scarf, or wear a solid color scarf with a floral dress.\\nChoose lighter fabric scarves in the warmer months and knit scarves during colder months. You may even consider learning how to knit and making your own scarf for extra hipster girl credibility.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get some cool sunglasses or wear your real glasses.\", \"描述\": \"Quirky sunglasses and thick rimmed glasses are also common hipster girl accessories. Try wearing a pair of heart-shaped shades, some John Lennon style round sunglasses, or a pair of oversized black sunglasses. \\nIf you actually wear glasses, then your glasses can help you to achieve a hipster girl look. You may even want to consider getting a pair of glasses with thick frames so that they are extra visible.\\nIf you don’t wear glasses, but you want some to complete your look, then you can always buy some non-prescription clear lens glasses.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Carry an interesting purse.\", \"描述\": \"Hipster girls often carry interesting looking purses, such as oversized messenger bags, extra small cross-body bags, or glittery clutches. To complete your hipster girl look, make sure that you are carrying a cool looking purse. \\nFanny packs have also gained some popularity among hipster girls.\\nTry looking in vintage stores and locally owned shops for unique purses.\\nLots of hipster girls enjoy doing DIY projects. If you are crafty and you want a truly unique purse, then try designing and making your own purse.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Embracing a Hipster Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read about pop culture and art.\", \"描述\": \"Hipsters are often very well read and well versed in current pop culture trends and influences, usually through online blogs and online media. Read up on what’s going on in the world of the internet, such as the latest memes, viral stories, and viral videos.\\nThere are certain websites known to be full of hipster information, such as Vice.com and Pitchfork.com. These sites provide up to the minute information on the latest trends and influences happening in pop culture.\\nHipsters are also often interested in the art world and contemporary art. Take a trip to your local museum and find artists you admire through online art blogs. Try to immerse yourself in the art world and expand your knowledge of contemporary art.\\nHipsters are noted as interested in excellent food and drink. This includes restaurants, cafes, bakeries, coffeehouses, pubs, and food trucks. Hipsters are also often patrons of farmer's markets, CSAs, upscale food markets, and ethnic markets.\\nHipsters are noted for a preference for food that is local, organic, and artisan made.\\nA good hipster approaches eating with a sense of adventure. Whether it is trying Ethiopian cuisine or trying to make homemade cheese, a hipster tries new things.\\nThe food rules are not entirely hard and fast when it comes to fine dining. 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1. Learning from Home
1-1. Make a list of your favorite time periods.
Make a list of history topics that interest you and do an Internet search to find out what time periods these topics correspond to. Being a history buff is about having fun and making history a hobby, so you will want to start off by learning all you can about the time periods that most interest you. Your list can be as long or short as you want.
For example, you may be really interested in the history of World War II, the Qing dynasty, ancient Egypt, or women’s suffrage. There are tons of topics to choose from.
1-2. Go online to find lists of history and biography books.
Use your favorite online search engine to find books about your favorite topics. Write down five titles. Go to your local library and either check them out or see if the librarian can get them from another location.
It is a good idea to start by checking books out instead of buying them, as this will keep your costs down. You can buy books you absolutely love later.
If you have never taken advantage of something called interlibrary loan, now’s a perfect time to start! Even if your local library doesn’t have the book you want, they can probably figure out a way to get a copy from another location in the area. And it’s free! Be prepared to wait a couple of weeks for your book, however.
To start your search, type something like: “best biographies of Eleanor Roosevelt” or “history books about the Great Migration” into the search box.
1-3. Read historical fiction.
Historical fiction is a booming genre with books about pretty much every time period you can think of. Read these books to get connected with history on a personal level. Do not expect fiction to always be historically accurate! Think of this as a fun way to add emotion to the facts you’re learning about from other sources.
Historical fiction authors sometimes include a section at the end of their books about the research and time period they’ve written about. They will also tell you in these spots what they made up, and what they didn’t.
There are lots of subgenres to historical fiction. You can find romances, mysteries, and even epic fantasies that are set in various historical time periods.
To find some popular historical fiction, visit: https://www.goodreads.com/. This site is full of user reviews and recommendations.
1-4. Do not just stick to one or two authors.
Resist the urge to only read books written by a few authors that you know you like. Historians write about the past in different ways. To be a true history buff, read lots of perspectives. Pay special attention when historians disagree with each other, and use what you have learned to make up your own mind.
1-5. Use online resources to find primary sources.
Primary sources, like letters, legal documents, journal entries, and photographs, were produced during the actual time period you are studying. Use your favorite search engine to find these sources, as many of them are now available in online exhibits and collections. Explore these sources to get a direct line to the history you love.
You can find primary sources from the Library of Congress (http://www.loc.gov/teachers/classroommaterials/themes/) and Gilder Lehrman collections (https://www.gilderlehrman.org/collection).
When analyzing primary sources, consider the purpose of the source, the intended audience, and how the author gets their message across.
History books and biographies are called secondary sources. They use primary sources as their evidence to make arguments about the past.
1-6. Watch historical documentaries.
Documentaries are a great way to visualize the past, as they’ll usually use photographs, audio, and video sources to make their films interesting and exciting. Find documentaries about your favorite time periods online or at your local library. Sit down with a bowl of popcorn and enjoy!
Documentarian Ken Burns has made several series about various topics in American history, including World War II, national parks, baseball, the Civil War, and more. These films are a great place to start your documentary education!
2. Visiting Historic Places
2-1. Start with historic sites near your home.
Go online to check out what you can you learn about history right in your neighborhood. You’ll likely find local museums, historic homes, and maybe even a battlefield or two. Visit these spots to feel more connected to the places you see on a day-to-day basis.
Small, regional museums will sometimes have rates for local visitors, so be sure to ask. They may also have yearly membership programs.
2-2. Make a list of important spots in your country.
It’s a great idea to learn more about your own nation’s past. Go online to find lists of must-see national historic sites. Make your own list based on the spots that interest you most. It may take you a few years to get through the list, but now’s a perfect time to start!
Usually, a nation’s capital is a great place to visit to find several important spots located in the same place.
2-3. Decide if there are places you want to see around the world.
You can never learn enough about history, especially when you think about it globally. Think about big events or time periods in world history that intrigue you. Make a list of places related to those topics, and start planning trips!
The United Nations recognizes significant sites around the world and compiles them on a World Heritage List, which you can find here: http://whc.unesco.org/en/list/. Browse the list for some great ideas of places to visit!
2-4. Go online to find the rules and fees for sites.
Before you go to a museum or historic site, be sure to either go online or call. Check their hours, fees, and rules before you arrive to be prepared. It’s important to respect the spots that are allowing you to learn more about history.
2-5. Bring a notebook to sites.
When you go, be sure to bring a notebook and a pencil. Some museums and sites won’t allow you to bring a large bag inside, so go for a pocket notebook that’s easy to carry. Take notes on things that excite you, important dates or events, and super cool historical figures.
Look over your notes when you get home that night to commit them to your memory.
Pencil is better than pen because it’s safer for the historical artifacts. You don’t want to get an ink stain on a priceless painting!
2-6. Ask guides questions if you can.
If there are guides and they’re not too busy, take advantage! These workers have been trained to answer your questions, so they’re goldmines of information. Write down questions as you think of them, and take notes on the guides’ answers.
Since you probably have more than one question, be sure to ask the guide if they have time to chat with you. Try saying: “This site really interested me! Do you have time to answer a few questions about it?”
2-7. Collect historical artifacts.
Finding artifacts from time periods that interest you can help you connect to the historical period. However, you should always verify the authenticity of an item before purchasing it. It’s also important to learn how to care for and preserve the artifacts. Be sure to follow all laws and treaties regarding the sale and possession of historical artifacts.
For instance, if you’re interested in the Civil War, you could collect uniforms, weapons, and soldier’s letters.
2-8. Don’t try to do too much in one day.
Never plan to visit more than at most two sites or museums in a day. You’ll get tired and overwhelmed, and you won’t be able to enjoy the spots. Space your trips out, and don’t rush - you’ve got your whole life to be a history buff!
Visiting just one spot will work even better than squeezing in two.
3. Making Time for History
3-1. Set aside time each week to learn about history.
Allow yourself the time to enjoy this hobby. Make it part of your weekly routine to read a history book, visit a museum, or do something else history-related.
Take notes on books, movies, and other sources as you explore them. You don’t need to memorize every important date or person. However, it’s a good idea to keep track of major turning points in history, along with the names and dates that go along with those big-deal events.
3-2. Visit museums or historic sites on your off-days.
Since visiting historic sites will likely take at least a half-day, reserve these trips for days you’re not working. Try to visit at least two local sites each month.
Get your family and friends involved! These can be fun group events.
3-3. Plan at least one history-themed vacation each year.
For bigger trips that take you out of your neighborhood, plan ahead. These can get pricey, so you may only be able to do one big trip each year, or even every other year. Be patient, and remember there’s no deadline for being a history buff.
Talk to your family about adding historical themes to your vacations, and add the trips to your yearly budget.
3-4. Spend time with older family members.
Family get-togethers are perfect times to learn more about your personal history. Ask your older relatives if they’d be comfortable talking about their lives with you. They’ll probably be thrilled, and you’ll never regret having this information. There are some key questions you can ask, including:
“What’s your first memory?”
“Can you tell me about where you grew up, and what it was like in your neighborhood?”
“Was there ever a major turning point in your life?”
“Do you remember what it felt like to live through times of national crisis?”
“What are some of the most important changes in the world you’ve noticed as you’ve gotten older?”
Ask if you can record the conversation on your smartphone. You can type it up later and circulate it among your family members.
3-5. Join a history-themed trivia team for fun.
Go online to see if any local spots host a history-themed trivia night. If you can’t find one, organize one of your own! See if a popular restaurant, bar, or coffee shop will host and advertise it. Get more people to come by asking funny and cool questions about history.
Ask your friends and family members if they’d be interested in doing trivia with you.
If you’re under 21 and living in the United States, you probably won’t be able to attend trivia nights at bars. Try for restaurants or coffee shops instead.
Random, obscure facts about history are usually the ones that interest people, and they make for harder trivia questions. You can go online to find lists and articles dedicated to offbeat historical facts.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Learning from Home\\n1-1. Make a list of your favorite time periods.\\nMake a list of history topics that interest you and do an Internet search to find out what time periods these topics correspond to. Being a history buff is about having fun and making history a hobby, so you will want to start off by learning all you can about the time periods that most interest you. Your list can be as long or short as you want.\\nFor example, you may be really interested in the history of World War II, the Qing dynasty, ancient Egypt, or women’s suffrage. There are tons of topics to choose from.\\n1-2. Go online to find lists of history and biography books.\\nUse your favorite online search engine to find books about your favorite topics. Write down five titles. Go to your local library and either check them out or see if the librarian can get them from another location.\\nIt is a good idea to start by checking books out instead of buying them, as this will keep your costs down. You can buy books you absolutely love later.\\nIf you have never taken advantage of something called interlibrary loan, now’s a perfect time to start! Even if your local library doesn’t have the book you want, they can probably figure out a way to get a copy from another location in the area. And it’s free! Be prepared to wait a couple of weeks for your book, however.\\nTo start your search, type something like: “best biographies of Eleanor Roosevelt” or “history books about the Great Migration” into the search box.\\n1-3. Read historical fiction.\\nHistorical fiction is a booming genre with books about pretty much every time period you can think of. Read these books to get connected with history on a personal level. Do not expect fiction to always be historically accurate! Think of this as a fun way to add emotion to the facts you’re learning about from other sources.\\nHistorical fiction authors sometimes include a section at the end of their books about the research and time period they’ve written about. They will also tell you in these spots what they made up, and what they didn’t.\\nThere are lots of subgenres to historical fiction. You can find romances, mysteries, and even epic fantasies that are set in various historical time periods.\\nTo find some popular historical fiction, visit: https://www.goodreads.com/. This site is full of user reviews and recommendations.\\n1-4. Do not just stick to one or two authors.\\nResist the urge to only read books written by a few authors that you know you like. Historians write about the past in different ways. To be a true history buff, read lots of perspectives. Pay special attention when historians disagree with each other, and use what you have learned to make up your own mind.\\n1-5. Use online resources to find primary sources.\\nPrimary sources, like letters, legal documents, journal entries, and photographs, were produced during the actual time period you are studying. Use your favorite search engine to find these sources, as many of them are now available in online exhibits and collections. Explore these sources to get a direct line to the history you love.\\nYou can find primary sources from the Library of Congress (http://www.loc.gov/teachers/classroommaterials/themes/) and Gilder Lehrman collections (https://www.gilderlehrman.org/collection).\\nWhen analyzing primary sources, consider the purpose of the source, the intended audience, and how the author gets their message across.\\nHistory books and biographies are called secondary sources. They use primary sources as their evidence to make arguments about the past.\\n1-6. Watch historical documentaries.\\nDocumentaries are a great way to visualize the past, as they’ll usually use photographs, audio, and video sources to make their films interesting and exciting. Find documentaries about your favorite time periods online or at your local library. Sit down with a bowl of popcorn and enjoy!\\nDocumentarian Ken Burns has made several series about various topics in American history, including World War II, national parks, baseball, the Civil War, and more. These films are a great place to start your documentary education!\\n2. Visiting Historic Places\\n2-1. Start with historic sites near your home.\\nGo online to check out what you can you learn about history right in your neighborhood. You’ll likely find local museums, historic homes, and maybe even a battlefield or two. Visit these spots to feel more connected to the places you see on a day-to-day basis.\\nSmall, regional museums will sometimes have rates for local visitors, so be sure to ask. They may also have yearly membership programs.\\n2-2. Make a list of important spots in your country.\\nIt’s a great idea to learn more about your own nation’s past. Go online to find lists of must-see national historic sites. Make your own list based on the spots that interest you most. It may take you a few years to get through the list, but now’s a perfect time to start!\\nUsually, a nation’s capital is a great place to visit to find several important spots located in the same place.\\n2-3. Decide if there are places you want to see around the world.\\nYou can never learn enough about history, especially when you think about it globally. Think about big events or time periods in world history that intrigue you. Make a list of places related to those topics, and start planning trips!\\nThe United Nations recognizes significant sites around the world and compiles them on a World Heritage List, which you can find here: http://whc.unesco.org/en/list/. Browse the list for some great ideas of places to visit!\\n2-4. Go online to find the rules and fees for sites.\\nBefore you go to a museum or historic site, be sure to either go online or call. Check their hours, fees, and rules before you arrive to be prepared. It’s important to respect the spots that are allowing you to learn more about history.\\n2-5. Bring a notebook to sites.\\nWhen you go, be sure to bring a notebook and a pencil. Some museums and sites won’t allow you to bring a large bag inside, so go for a pocket notebook that’s easy to carry. Take notes on things that excite you, important dates or events, and super cool historical figures.\\nLook over your notes when you get home that night to commit them to your memory.\\nPencil is better than pen because it’s safer for the historical artifacts. You don’t want to get an ink stain on a priceless painting!\\n2-6. Ask guides questions if you can.\\nIf there are guides and they’re not too busy, take advantage! These workers have been trained to answer your questions, so they’re goldmines of information. Write down questions as you think of them, and take notes on the guides’ answers.\\nSince you probably have more than one question, be sure to ask the guide if they have time to chat with you. Try saying: “This site really interested me! Do you have time to answer a few questions about it?”\\n2-7. Collect historical artifacts.\\nFinding artifacts from time periods that interest you can help you connect to the historical period. However, you should always verify the authenticity of an item before purchasing it. It’s also important to learn how to care for and preserve the artifacts. Be sure to follow all laws and treaties regarding the sale and possession of historical artifacts.\\nFor instance, if you’re interested in the Civil War, you could collect uniforms, weapons, and soldier’s letters.\\n2-8. Don’t try to do too much in one day.\\nNever plan to visit more than at most two sites or museums in a day. You’ll get tired and overwhelmed, and you won’t be able to enjoy the spots. Space your trips out, and don’t rush - you’ve got your whole life to be a history buff!\\nVisiting just one spot will work even better than squeezing in two.\\n3. Making Time for History\\n3-1. Set aside time each week to learn about history.\\nAllow yourself the time to enjoy this hobby. Make it part of your weekly routine to read a history book, visit a museum, or do something else history-related.\\nTake notes on books, movies, and other sources as you explore them. You don’t need to memorize every important date or person. However, it’s a good idea to keep track of major turning points in history, along with the names and dates that go along with those big-deal events.\\n3-2. Visit museums or historic sites on your off-days.\\nSince visiting historic sites will likely take at least a half-day, reserve these trips for days you’re not working. Try to visit at least two local sites each month.\\nGet your family and friends involved! These can be fun group events.\\n3-3. Plan at least one history-themed vacation each year.\\nFor bigger trips that take you out of your neighborhood, plan ahead. These can get pricey, so you may only be able to do one big trip each year, or even every other year. Be patient, and remember there’s no deadline for being a history buff.\\nTalk to your family about adding historical themes to your vacations, and add the trips to your yearly budget.\\n3-4. Spend time with older family members.\\nFamily get-togethers are perfect times to learn more about your personal history. Ask your older relatives if they’d be comfortable talking about their lives with you. They’ll probably be thrilled, and you’ll never regret having this information. There are some key questions you can ask, including:\\n“What’s your first memory?”\\n“Can you tell me about where you grew up, and what it was like in your neighborhood?”\\n“Was there ever a major turning point in your life?”\\n“Do you remember what it felt like to live through times of national crisis?”\\n“What are some of the most important changes in the world you’ve noticed as you’ve gotten older?”\\nAsk if you can record the conversation on your smartphone. You can type it up later and circulate it among your family members.\\n3-5. Join a history-themed trivia team for fun.\\nGo online to see if any local spots host a history-themed trivia night. If you can’t find one, organize one of your own! See if a popular restaurant, bar, or coffee shop will host and advertise it. Get more people to come by asking funny and cool questions about history.\\nAsk your friends and family members if they’d be interested in doing trivia with you.\\nIf you’re under 21 and living in the United States, you probably won’t be able to attend trivia nights at bars. Try for restaurants or coffee shops instead.\\nRandom, obscure facts about history are usually the ones that interest people, and they make for harder trivia questions. You can go online to find lists and articles dedicated to offbeat historical facts.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you love history and want to explore the field more, then you are ready to become a history buff! It is time to indulge your history habit and be as knowledgeable a buff as possible. Learn as much as you can about history from your home, and then take your learning outside. Explore museums, sites, and historic homes. 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Take notes on things that excite you, important dates or events, and super cool historical figures.\\nLook over your notes when you get home that night to commit them to your memory.\\nPencil is better than pen because it’s safer for the historical artifacts. You don’t want to get an ink stain on a priceless painting!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask guides questions if you can.\", \"描述\": \"If there are guides and they’re not too busy, take advantage! These workers have been trained to answer your questions, so they’re goldmines of information. Write down questions as you think of them, and take notes on the guides’ answers.\\nSince you probably have more than one question, be sure to ask the guide if they have time to chat with you. Try saying: “This site really interested me! 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How to Be the Hottest Girl in the Room: 24 Powerful Tricks
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1. Creating Your Hot Look
1-1. Create a wardrobe that makes you feel hot.
When you feel hot, your confidence will show, which makes people find you irresistibly attractive. Go through your closet and try on all of your clothes. Keep only the clothes that make you feel fabulous and toss the rest. When you go shopping, only buy items that help you feel your best. When you're extra choosy, your ensembles are sure to impress.
You don’t need to wear expensive or revealing clothes to be hot. What’s important is that you feel attractive because other people will pick up on that.
Wearing red will draw all eyes to you and can make people see you as sexy. As another option, try bright colors to get more attention.
1-2. Show off a little skin, but leave something to the imagination.
Revealing clothing is undeniably sexy, so a low neckline, cropped top, or short skirt are great for creating a hot look. However, showing off too much skin can sometimes give off the impression that you're trying too hard. To keep your look effortlessly hot, choose 1 revealing piece for each outfit you wear
For instance, pair a top that has a plunging neckline with a knee-length pencil skirt, wear a crop top with a maxi skirt or skinny jeans, and pair a mini skirt with a top that covers both your cleavage and your stomach.
1-3. Wear heels to create a sexy silhouette.
You don't always need to wear heels, but they're a quick way to amp up your sex appeal since they naturally enhance your bum and breasts. In addition to adding a nice curviness to your figure, they're easy to slide into, so they're an instant confidence boost.
Wearing heels that are a similar color to your skin tone will help your legs look longer.
Practice sauntering around in heels at home so you can perfect your walk.
1-4. Highlight your best features so people focus on them.
While you might think that the hot people around you look flawless, that’s really just a myth that you're creating in your head—after all, no one's perfect. However, “hot” people are typically better at recognizing their best features and showing them off. Stand in front of a mirror and figure out what you love most about yourself. Play up these features instead of worrying about what you don’t like.
For instance, you might think your eyes are your best facial feature, so you could wear bold eye makeup to draw people’s eyes to them. Similarly, you might think that your legs and toned arms are your most attractive body parts, so you might choose outfits that show them off.
1-5. Use makeup to spotlight your best features.
While you don’t need makeup to be hot, it can help you enhance your natural beauty. Plus, it can be fun to experiment with so you can change up your look and get people's eyes on you. If you're not sure how to apply makeup, use online tutorials to help you improve your techniques. Consider all your options to find the aesthetic that's best for you—for example, rock a femme fatale look or
stick to flaunting your natural beauty.
Go for one dramatic flourish; for instance, try a smokey eye, wear red lipstick, or contour your face.
If you’re playing up your eyes, go with a subtle lip shade. Similarly, keep your eye makeup basic if you’re doing a bold lip.
If you don’t like wearing makeup, don’t feel like you need it to be hot. Embracing your natural beauty can also make you a “hot” girl! After all, there's nothing more intriguing than a girl who's in her element without a stitch of makeup.
1-6. Get a hairstyle that flatters your face.
Great looking hair helps you look your best, and the key to having a great hairstyle is to get a cut that looks great on you. To totally wow everyone, Choose a hairstyle that flatters your facial shape and hair texture. Look for inspiration online by browsing pics of celebs or models you admire or ask your hairstylist for advice.
When you get your hairstyle, ask your stylist how to care for it and style it. Then, follow their advice so your hair looks great every day.
Embrace your natural hair texture instead of trying to fight it. This will make it easier to care for and style your hair. On top of that, rocking what you're born with can project an incredible level of confidence—plus, this fun tactic is no muss, no fuss!
1-7. Maintain good posture so your body looks its best.
To improve your posture, stand up straight and roll your shoulders back. Keep your chin tilted up and direct your gaze forward. These simple steps will make you look like you're on top of the world, which will draw in an audience of admirers who dig your awesome self-assurance.
Avoid hunching your shoulders or leaning forward while you walk. These habits make you look self-conscious and unsure of yourself, which might keep people from approaching you.
1-8. Smile and laugh to radiate infectious joy and charisma.
Find reasons to be happy with your life—when you're sunny and silly, you'll be a magnet to people. They'll adore your bright energy and get practically addicted to it. After all, everyone wants to cozy up with the most fun-loving person in the room. As Maya Angelou said, no one forgets the way you make them feel, so it's important to have a great attitude!
Practice smiling at yourself in the mirror so your expressions are more natural.
2. Showing off Your Personality
2-1. Make eye contact with people to create an instant spark.
Flirting with eye contact gives total rom-com, "meet cute" vibes. When you’re around people, make brief eye contact with them. Simply meet their eyes and then look away. That'll rev up some fun tension so people get curious about you. However, when you’re talking to someone and especially if you're in a deep conversation, maintain eye contact so they feel really heard. People will adore your active listening skills and feel that your empathy is out of this world.
If you’re uncomfortable making eye contact, practice gazing at yourself in the mirror or making eye contact with someone you trust, like a close friend.
2-2. Adopt a positive attitude so people enjoy being around you.
When you're always optimistic, your chats and upbeat observations will become everyone's favorite pick-me-ups. Plus, you pretty much become a motivational speaker that people flock to for advice and insights. Make a habit of looking at the pros of every situation. Even if it's hard at first, it'll get easy with practice and it'll be so worth it because everyone will be impressed by your cheerful attitude.
For instance, let's say it's raining outside and you get wet on your way into work. Instead of feeling like your day is off to a bad start, you could say something like, "Well, at least we don't have to worry about a drought! This will be great for the plant life!" For extra points and charisma, announce it with a great big smile.
2-3. Interact at social gatherings to boost your popularity.
Spread your wings and be a social butterfly by taking initiative and mingling with everyone in the room. When you give each person some quality time, you'll be seen as a high value woman who's a sparkling conversationalist.
Over time, you’ll get better at social interactions. Don’t give up if you feel unsure at first. All you need is practice.
Try walking up to someone and saying something like, “Is this your first time here?” or “How do you know Matt?”
Talking to a bunch of people and flitting around the room will make you seem more popular. It doesn’t matter if the people are your friends. Just striking up a conversation with everyone you meet is enough to make you seem like the most in-demand person there.
2-4. Share your passion with other people to enchant them.
Devoting yourself to a hobby or an interest, such as music, sports, or volunteer work, is incredibly alluring because it shows you’re a multidimensional, dynamic person. Talk animatedly about what lights you up and you’ll radiate pure joy that will take everyone’s breath away.
You might say, “Music is the thing that keeps me going. Right now, I’m working on my guitar skills so I can get a gig in the local coffee shop.”
2-5. Be a little mysterious to keep people intrigued.
Instead of sharing everything about yourself, keep some secrets to yourself. Tease people with just enough information to seem interesting, then hold back. When you keep private details to yourself, you’ll prove you have a rich inner world and that people will need to earn their way to getting to know you more. That fun little challenge will make you delicious because the lucky few who dive deep with you will savor every tidbit they get.
For instance, let’s say you’ve been posting your poetry online. You might be really open about how important writing is to you and how your life inspires your poems. However, you might respond with “That’s too personal” or “I don't like sharing too many private details” when people ask what inspired them.
2-6. Show off your smarts to absolutely dazzle others.
When you’re open-minded, intelligent, and opinionated, people will be excited to talk to you. They’ll find your deep discussions absolutely addictive and ask to pick your brain as often as they can. Learn about topics that interest you, keep up with the news, read, and watch documentaries. Share your knowledge when you have conversations with other people—you’ll build an audience of admirers right away.
For example, talk about a niche topic and impress others with your knowledge. You might say something like, “The mission to Mars program presents all types of opportunities—NASA’s actually creating brick habitats on the planet!”
3. Taking Good Care of Yourself
3-1. Eat a nutritious diet for healthy skin and more energy.
Don’t worry about your weight or body shape because anyone can look hot—it’s all about how you rock what you’ve already got. Instead, focus on healthy eating to support a strong body, glowing skin, and bountiful energy. Fill your plate with fresh produce, lean protein, and complex carbohydrates. When you nourish yourself, you’ll radiate a va-va-voom vivacity that’ll be positively electric.
Avoid processed junk foods, which can make you feel sluggish and fatigued due to the sugar crashes.
Don’t overly restrict your calories because you need proper nutrition to look and feel healthy.
3-2. Exercise for 30 minutes a day for good health.
Being active helps you maintain a healthy body, relieves stress, and boosts your energy, all of which help you dial up the charm when you’re around others. For best results, get at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise 5-7 days a week. Choose an exercise that you love so it’s easier to do. For instance, try the following:
Play a recreational sport.
Take a dance class.
Go hiking or walk around the block.
Swim.
Jog with a friend or your dog.
3-3. Sleep 7-9 hours nightly so you’re well-rested.
Being well-rested helps your skin look bright and healthy, and it helps you feel more energetic. To sleep better, keep your bedroom comfortable and only use your bed for sleeping. Additionally, wind down for bed by turning off screens 1-2 hours before bed and doing a relaxing activity, such as reading or taking a bath.
Try to wake up and go to bed at the same time every day so you have a regular sleep schedule. This makes it easier to fall asleep and wake up
If you’re a teenager, you need 8-10 hours of sleep each night to be properly rested.
3-4. Care for your skin so it glows.
Great, blemish-free skin is a sure-fire way to make heads turn, so follow a skincare routine! Getting perfect skin is pretty easy—wash your face 2 times a day with a mild cleanser, then apply a moisturizer. These simple steps will keep your skin soft and supple, so all eyes will be on you.
If it boosts your confidence, shave your underarms and legs regularly to remove the hair. However, don’t feel like you have to do this to be hot—it makes you super attractive to do exactly what you want.
3-5. Keep your nails manicured and toenails pedicured.
Caring for your nails helps give you an understated elegance so you look super sophisticated and wow anyone who sees you. Trim and file your nails every 1-2 weeks so they look neat. If you like, you can also paint your nails.
You don’t need painted nails to be hot—however, keeping them neat and clean is a great way to freshen up your appearance.
3-6. Take good care of your teeth.
A sparkling white smile is a great way to win over a whole crowd and steal some hearts in the process! To practice great oral hygiene, brush your teeth in the morning and evening and floss daily. Go the extra mile and see your dentist for annual check-ups so your teeth stay in great shape.
If your teeth are discolored, over-the-counter whitening strips and toothpaste can help. If you’d like to splurge for pearly whites, talk to your dentist if you're interested in trying a professional teeth whitening procedure.
If your teeth are crooked, braces or invisible teeth straighteners can help. However, don’t feel like you can’t be hot if you can’t afford these procedures. Imperfect teeth can be a quirk that makes you look super cute.
4. Being More Confident
4-1. Don’t worry about what other people think about you.
Ultimately, even if you’re trying to be a hot girl, the only person whose opinion matters is yours. If you throw caution to the wind and live your best life, you’ll be an awesome trend-setter who proves that independence and self-confidence is key. If you focus on creating a life you love, things will fall into place and people will worship the ground you walk on.
Try not to compare yourself to others, especially since they’re only showing you their highlight reels, which don’t tell the full story. Instead, only compare yourself to the past version of yourself. Remember—there’s only one you, anyway.
4-2. Pursue your goals and interests so you have a full life.
Being a well-rounded person with lots going on in your life makes you seem more interesting and desirable. Figure out what makes you happy and what you want most in your life, then create a plan that can make that happen. Show off that you’re goal-driven and you’ll have people chasing after you.
For instance, let’s say your goal is to become a nurse and you also like dogs. You might volunteer at a local hospital and help raise money for the local animal shelter to pursue these goals. When people see how big your heart is, they’ll be smitten.
4-3. Focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses.
Everyone has weaknesses, so don’t let yours get you down. Instead, figure out what your skills and talents are so you can show them off. For example, if you’re a graphic designer and a top-notch hostess, design your own party invitations and throw a fête that no one will forget! Your assets will blow everyone away and will be undeniably, scorchingly hot.
You might have book smarts, be good at helping others, and be a talented writer. Show off this unique mixture of lovable traits and everyone will celebrate you as an irreplaceable hottie.
4-4. Make people pursue you instead of chasing them.
When you go out of your way to make someone like you, it makes you seem less sure of yourself. However, if you get people to pursue you, major props—that’ll make you seem like a high value woman right off the bat. Feel free to flirt a little if you want a cutie to know you’re interested. After that, though, let them make the first move and ask you out. Remember: people have to work to snag themselves a hot girl!
For instance, think about your crush. You might flirt with them and give them your number, but wait for them to text before you reach out. When you wait to give them some of your time, you’ll seem super in demand. Try replying back in 1-2 hours to build some fun anticipation.
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However, showing off too much skin can sometimes give off the impression that you're trying too hard. To keep your look effortlessly hot, choose 1 revealing piece for each outfit you wear\\nFor instance, pair a top that has a plunging neckline with a knee-length pencil skirt, wear a crop top with a maxi skirt or skinny jeans, and pair a mini skirt with a top that covers both your cleavage and your stomach.\\n1-3. Wear heels to create a sexy silhouette.\\nYou don't always need to wear heels, but they're a quick way to amp up your sex appeal since they naturally enhance your bum and breasts. In addition to adding a nice curviness to your figure, they're easy to slide into, so they're an instant confidence boost.\\nWearing heels that are a similar color to your skin tone will help your legs look longer.\\nPractice sauntering around in heels at home so you can perfect your walk.\\n1-4. Highlight your best features so people focus on them.\\nWhile you might think that the hot people around you look flawless, that’s really just a myth that you're creating in your head—after all, no one's perfect. However, “hot” people are typically better at recognizing their best features and showing them off. Stand in front of a mirror and figure out what you love most about yourself. Play up these features instead of worrying about what you don’t like.\\nFor instance, you might think your eyes are your best facial feature, so you could wear bold eye makeup to draw people’s eyes to them. Similarly, you might think that your legs and toned arms are your most attractive body parts, so you might choose outfits that show them off.\\n1-5. Use makeup to spotlight your best features.\\nWhile you don’t need makeup to be hot, it can help you enhance your natural beauty. Plus, it can be fun to experiment with so you can change up your look and get people's eyes on you. If you're not sure how to apply makeup, use online tutorials to help you improve your techniques. Consider all your options to find the aesthetic that's best for you—for example, rock a femme fatale look or \\nstick to flaunting your natural beauty.\\nGo for one dramatic flourish; for instance, try a smokey eye, wear red lipstick, or contour your face.\\nIf you’re playing up your eyes, go with a subtle lip shade. Similarly, keep your eye makeup basic if you’re doing a bold lip.\\nIf you don’t like wearing makeup, don’t feel like you need it to be hot. Embracing your natural beauty can also make you a “hot” girl! After all, there's nothing more intriguing than a girl who's in her element without a stitch of makeup.\\n1-6. Get a hairstyle that flatters your face.\\nGreat looking hair helps you look your best, and the key to having a great hairstyle is to get a cut that looks great on you. To totally wow everyone, Choose a hairstyle that flatters your facial shape and hair texture. Look for inspiration online by browsing pics of celebs or models you admire or ask your hairstylist for advice.\\nWhen you get your hairstyle, ask your stylist how to care for it and style it. Then, follow their advice so your hair looks great every day.\\nEmbrace your natural hair texture instead of trying to fight it. This will make it easier to care for and style your hair. On top of that, rocking what you're born with can project an incredible level of confidence—plus, this fun tactic is no muss, no fuss!\\n1-7. Maintain good posture so your body looks its best.\\nTo improve your posture, stand up straight and roll your shoulders back. Keep your chin tilted up and direct your gaze forward. These simple steps will make you look like you're on top of the world, which will draw in an audience of admirers who dig your awesome self-assurance.\\nAvoid hunching your shoulders or leaning forward while you walk. These habits make you look self-conscious and unsure of yourself, which might keep people from approaching you.\\n1-8. Smile and laugh to radiate infectious joy and charisma.\\nFind reasons to be happy with your life—when you're sunny and silly, you'll be a magnet to people. They'll adore your bright energy and get practically addicted to it. After all, everyone wants to cozy up with the most fun-loving person in the room. As Maya Angelou said, no one forgets the way you make them feel, so it's important to have a great attitude!\\nPractice smiling at yourself in the mirror so your expressions are more natural.\\n2. Showing off Your Personality\\n2-1. Make eye contact with people to create an instant spark.\\nFlirting with eye contact gives total rom-com, \\\"meet cute\\\" vibes. When you’re around people, make brief eye contact with them. Simply meet their eyes and then look away. That'll rev up some fun tension so people get curious about you. However, when you’re talking to someone and especially if you're in a deep conversation, maintain eye contact so they feel really heard. People will adore your active listening skills and feel that your empathy is out of this world.\\nIf you’re uncomfortable making eye contact, practice gazing at yourself in the mirror or making eye contact with someone you trust, like a close friend.\\n2-2. Adopt a positive attitude so people enjoy being around you.\\nWhen you're always optimistic, your chats and upbeat observations will become everyone's favorite pick-me-ups. Plus, you pretty much become a motivational speaker that people flock to for advice and insights. Make a habit of looking at the pros of every situation. Even if it's hard at first, it'll get easy with practice and it'll be so worth it because everyone will be impressed by your cheerful attitude.\\nFor instance, let's say it's raining outside and you get wet on your way into work. Instead of feeling like your day is off to a bad start, you could say something like, \\\"Well, at least we don't have to worry about a drought! This will be great for the plant life!\\\" For extra points and charisma, announce it with a great big smile.\\n2-3. Interact at social gatherings to boost your popularity.\\nSpread your wings and be a social butterfly by taking initiative and mingling with everyone in the room. When you give each person some quality time, you'll be seen as a high value woman who's a sparkling conversationalist. \\nOver time, you’ll get better at social interactions. Don’t give up if you feel unsure at first. All you need is practice.\\nTry walking up to someone and saying something like, “Is this your first time here?” or “How do you know Matt?”\\nTalking to a bunch of people and flitting around the room will make you seem more popular. It doesn’t matter if the people are your friends. Just striking up a conversation with everyone you meet is enough to make you seem like the most in-demand person there.\\n2-4. Share your passion with other people to enchant them.\\nDevoting yourself to a hobby or an interest, such as music, sports, or volunteer work, is incredibly alluring because it shows you’re a multidimensional, dynamic person. Talk animatedly about what lights you up and you’ll radiate pure joy that will take everyone’s breath away.\\nYou might say, “Music is the thing that keeps me going. Right now, I’m working on my guitar skills so I can get a gig in the local coffee shop.”\\n2-5. Be a little mysterious to keep people intrigued.\\nInstead of sharing everything about yourself, keep some secrets to yourself. Tease people with just enough information to seem interesting, then hold back. When you keep private details to yourself, you’ll prove you have a rich inner world and that people will need to earn their way to getting to know you more. That fun little challenge will make you delicious because the lucky few who dive deep with you will savor every tidbit they get.\\nFor instance, let’s say you’ve been posting your poetry online. You might be really open about how important writing is to you and how your life inspires your poems. However, you might respond with “That’s too personal” or “I don't like sharing too many private details” when people ask what inspired them.\\n2-6. Show off your smarts to absolutely dazzle others.\\nWhen you’re open-minded, intelligent, and opinionated, people will be excited to talk to you. They’ll find your deep discussions absolutely addictive and ask to pick your brain as often as they can. Learn about topics that interest you, keep up with the news, read, and watch documentaries. Share your knowledge when you have conversations with other people—you’ll build an audience of admirers right away.\\nFor example, talk about a niche topic and impress others with your knowledge. You might say something like, “The mission to Mars program presents all types of opportunities—NASA’s actually creating brick habitats on the planet!”\\n3. Taking Good Care of Yourself\\n3-1. Eat a nutritious diet for healthy skin and more energy.\\nDon’t worry about your weight or body shape because anyone can look hot—it’s all about how you rock what you’ve already got. Instead, focus on healthy eating to support a strong body, glowing skin, and bountiful energy. Fill your plate with fresh produce, lean protein, and complex carbohydrates. When you nourish yourself, you’ll radiate a va-va-voom vivacity that’ll be positively electric.\\nAvoid processed junk foods, which can make you feel sluggish and fatigued due to the sugar crashes.\\nDon’t overly restrict your calories because you need proper nutrition to look and feel healthy.\\n3-2. Exercise for 30 minutes a day for good health.\\nBeing active helps you maintain a healthy body, relieves stress, and boosts your energy, all of which help you dial up the charm when you’re around others. For best results, get at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise 5-7 days a week. Choose an exercise that you love so it’s easier to do. For instance, try the following:\\nPlay a recreational sport.\\nTake a dance class.\\nGo hiking or walk around the block.\\nSwim.\\nJog with a friend or your dog.\\n3-3. Sleep 7-9 hours nightly so you’re well-rested.\\nBeing well-rested helps your skin look bright and healthy, and it helps you feel more energetic. To sleep better, keep your bedroom comfortable and only use your bed for sleeping. Additionally, wind down for bed by turning off screens 1-2 hours before bed and doing a relaxing activity, such as reading or taking a bath.\\nTry to wake up and go to bed at the same time every day so you have a regular sleep schedule. This makes it easier to fall asleep and wake up\\nIf you’re a teenager, you need 8-10 hours of sleep each night to be properly rested.\\n3-4. Care for your skin so it glows.\\nGreat, blemish-free skin is a sure-fire way to make heads turn, so follow a skincare routine! Getting perfect skin is pretty easy—wash your face 2 times a day with a mild cleanser, then apply a moisturizer. These simple steps will keep your skin soft and supple, so all eyes will be on you.\\nIf it boosts your confidence, shave your underarms and legs regularly to remove the hair. However, don’t feel like you have to do this to be hot—it makes you super attractive to do exactly what you want.\\n3-5. Keep your nails manicured and toenails pedicured.\\nCaring for your nails helps give you an understated elegance so you look super sophisticated and wow anyone who sees you. Trim and file your nails every 1-2 weeks so they look neat. If you like, you can also paint your nails.\\nYou don’t need painted nails to be hot—however, keeping them neat and clean is a great way to freshen up your appearance.\\n3-6. Take good care of your teeth.\\nA sparkling white smile is a great way to win over a whole crowd and steal some hearts in the process! To practice great oral hygiene, brush your teeth in the morning and evening and floss daily. Go the extra mile and see your dentist for annual check-ups so your teeth stay in great shape.\\nIf your teeth are discolored, over-the-counter whitening strips and toothpaste can help. If you’d like to splurge for pearly whites, talk to your dentist if you're interested in trying a professional teeth whitening procedure.\\nIf your teeth are crooked, braces or invisible teeth straighteners can help. However, don’t feel like you can’t be hot if you can’t afford these procedures. Imperfect teeth can be a quirk that makes you look super cute.\\n4. Being More Confident\\n4-1. Don’t worry about what other people think about you.\\nUltimately, even if you’re trying to be a hot girl, the only person whose opinion matters is yours. If you throw caution to the wind and live your best life, you’ll be an awesome trend-setter who proves that independence and self-confidence is key. If you focus on creating a life you love, things will fall into place and people will worship the ground you walk on.\\nTry not to compare yourself to others, especially since they’re only showing you their highlight reels, which don’t tell the full story. Instead, only compare yourself to the past version of yourself. Remember—there’s only one you, anyway.\\n4-2. Pursue your goals and interests so you have a full life.\\nBeing a well-rounded person with lots going on in your life makes you seem more interesting and desirable. Figure out what makes you happy and what you want most in your life, then create a plan that can make that happen. Show off that you’re goal-driven and you’ll have people chasing after you.\\nFor instance, let’s say your goal is to become a nurse and you also like dogs. You might volunteer at a local hospital and help raise money for the local animal shelter to pursue these goals. When people see how big your heart is, they’ll be smitten.\\n4-3. Focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses.\\nEveryone has weaknesses, so don’t let yours get you down. Instead, figure out what your skills and talents are so you can show them off. For example, if you’re a graphic designer and a top-notch hostess, design your own party invitations and throw a fête that no one will forget! Your assets will blow everyone away and will be undeniably, scorchingly hot.\\nYou might have book smarts, be good at helping others, and be a talented writer. Show off this unique mixture of lovable traits and everyone will celebrate you as an irreplaceable hottie.\\n4-4. Make people pursue you instead of chasing them.\\nWhen you go out of your way to make someone like you, it makes you seem less sure of yourself. However, if you get people to pursue you, major props—that’ll make you seem like a high value woman right off the bat. Feel free to flirt a little if you want a cutie to know you’re interested. After that, though, let them make the first move and ask you out. Remember: people have to work to snag themselves a hot girl!\\nFor instance, think about your crush. You might flirt with them and give them your number, but wait for them to text before you reach out. When you wait to give them some of your time, you’ll seem super in demand. Try replying back in 1-2 hours to build some fun anticipation.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"While being a hot girl might seem like an elusive goal, it's totally achievable. Plus, everyone has their own definition of what's \\\"hot,\\\" so there's no one way to be a hottie. To help you cultivate the highly coveted \\\"hot girl\\\" status, we'll walk you through how to show off your best features and your winning personality. We'll also reveal why confidence is key to making people completely worship you. So, if you're ready to glow from the inside out, give our trusty tips a try.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating Your Hot Look\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create a wardrobe that makes you feel hot.\", \"描述\": \"When you feel hot, your confidence will show, which makes people find you irresistibly attractive. Go through your closet and try on all of your clothes. Keep only the clothes that make you feel fabulous and toss the rest. When you go shopping, only buy items that help you feel your best. When you're extra choosy, your ensembles are sure to impress.\\nYou don’t need to wear expensive or revealing clothes to be hot. What’s important is that you feel attractive because other people will pick up on that.\\nWearing red will draw all eyes to you and can make people see you as sexy. As another option, try bright colors to get more attention.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show off a little skin, but leave something to the imagination.\", \"描述\": \"Revealing clothing is undeniably sexy, so a low neckline, cropped top, or short skirt are great for creating a hot look. However, showing off too much skin can sometimes give off the impression that you're trying too hard. To keep your look effortlessly hot, choose 1 revealing piece for each outfit you wear\\nFor instance, pair a top that has a plunging neckline with a knee-length pencil skirt, wear a crop top with a maxi skirt or skinny jeans, and pair a mini skirt with a top that covers both your cleavage and your stomach.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear heels to create a sexy silhouette.\", \"描述\": \"You don't always need to wear heels, but they're a quick way to amp up your sex appeal since they naturally enhance your bum and breasts. In addition to adding a nice curviness to your figure, they're easy to slide into, so they're an instant confidence boost.\\nWearing heels that are a similar color to your skin tone will help your legs look longer.\\nPractice sauntering around in heels at home so you can perfect your walk.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Highlight your best features so people focus on them.\", \"描述\": \"While you might think that the hot people around you look flawless, that’s really just a myth that you're creating in your head—after all, no one's perfect. However, “hot” people are typically better at recognizing their best features and showing them off. Stand in front of a mirror and figure out what you love most about yourself. Play up these features instead of worrying about what you don’t like.\\nFor instance, you might think your eyes are your best facial feature, so you could wear bold eye makeup to draw people’s eyes to them. Similarly, you might think that your legs and toned arms are your most attractive body parts, so you might choose outfits that show them off.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use makeup to spotlight your best features.\", \"描述\": \"While you don’t need makeup to be hot, it can help you enhance your natural beauty. Plus, it can be fun to experiment with so you can change up your look and get people's eyes on you. If you're not sure how to apply makeup, use online tutorials to help you improve your techniques. Consider all your options to find the aesthetic that's best for you—for example, rock a femme fatale look or \\nstick to flaunting your natural beauty.\\nGo for one dramatic flourish; for instance, try a smokey eye, wear red lipstick, or contour your face.\\nIf you’re playing up your eyes, go with a subtle lip shade. Similarly, keep your eye makeup basic if you’re doing a bold lip.\\nIf you don’t like wearing makeup, don’t feel like you need it to be hot. Embracing your natural beauty can also make you a “hot” girl! After all, there's nothing more intriguing than a girl who's in her element without a stitch of makeup.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get a hairstyle that flatters your face.\", \"描述\": \"Great looking hair helps you look your best, and the key to having a great hairstyle is to get a cut that looks great on you. To totally wow everyone, Choose a hairstyle that flatters your facial shape and hair texture. Look for inspiration online by browsing pics of celebs or models you admire or ask your hairstylist for advice.\\nWhen you get your hairstyle, ask your stylist how to care for it and style it. Then, follow their advice so your hair looks great every day.\\nEmbrace your natural hair texture instead of trying to fight it. This will make it easier to care for and style your hair. On top of that, rocking what you're born with can project an incredible level of confidence—plus, this fun tactic is no muss, no fuss!\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Maintain good posture so your body looks its best.\", \"描述\": \"To improve your posture, stand up straight and roll your shoulders back. Keep your chin tilted up and direct your gaze forward. These simple steps will make you look like you're on top of the world, which will draw in an audience of admirers who dig your awesome self-assurance.\\nAvoid hunching your shoulders or leaning forward while you walk. These habits make you look self-conscious and unsure of yourself, which might keep people from approaching you.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Smile and laugh to radiate infectious joy and charisma.\", \"描述\": \"Find reasons to be happy with your life—when you're sunny and silly, you'll be a magnet to people. They'll adore your bright energy and get practically addicted to it. After all, everyone wants to cozy up with the most fun-loving person in the room. As Maya Angelou said, no one forgets the way you make them feel, so it's important to have a great attitude!\\nPractice smiling at yourself in the mirror so your expressions are more natural.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Showing off Your Personality\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make eye contact with people to create an instant spark.\", \"描述\": \"Flirting with eye contact gives total rom-com, \\\"meet cute\\\" vibes. When you’re around people, make brief eye contact with them. Simply meet their eyes and then look away. That'll rev up some fun tension so people get curious about you. However, when you’re talking to someone and especially if you're in a deep conversation, maintain eye contact so they feel really heard. People will adore your active listening skills and feel that your empathy is out of this world.\\nIf you’re uncomfortable making eye contact, practice gazing at yourself in the mirror or making eye contact with someone you trust, like a close friend.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adopt a positive attitude so people enjoy being around you.\", \"描述\": \"When you're always optimistic, your chats and upbeat observations will become everyone's favorite pick-me-ups. Plus, you pretty much become a motivational speaker that people flock to for advice and insights. Make a habit of looking at the pros of every situation. Even if it's hard at first, it'll get easy with practice and it'll be so worth it because everyone will be impressed by your cheerful attitude.\\nFor instance, let's say it's raining outside and you get wet on your way into work. Instead of feeling like your day is off to a bad start, you could say something like, \\\"Well, at least we don't have to worry about a drought! This will be great for the plant life!\\\" For extra points and charisma, announce it with a great big smile.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Interact at social gatherings to boost your popularity.\", \"描述\": \"Spread your wings and be a social butterfly by taking initiative and mingling with everyone in the room. When you give each person some quality time, you'll be seen as a high value woman who's a sparkling conversationalist. \\nOver time, you’ll get better at social interactions. Don’t give up if you feel unsure at first. All you need is practice.\\nTry walking up to someone and saying something like, “Is this your first time here?” or “How do you know Matt?”\\nTalking to a bunch of people and flitting around the room will make you seem more popular. It doesn’t matter if the people are your friends. Just striking up a conversation with everyone you meet is enough to make you seem like the most in-demand person there.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Share your passion with other people to enchant them.\", \"描述\": \"Devoting yourself to a hobby or an interest, such as music, sports, or volunteer work, is incredibly alluring because it shows you’re a multidimensional, dynamic person. Talk animatedly about what lights you up and you’ll radiate pure joy that will take everyone’s breath away.\\nYou might say, “Music is the thing that keeps me going. Right now, I’m working on my guitar skills so I can get a gig in the local coffee shop.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be a little mysterious to keep people intrigued.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of sharing everything about yourself, keep some secrets to yourself. Tease people with just enough information to seem interesting, then hold back. When you keep private details to yourself, you’ll prove you have a rich inner world and that people will need to earn their way to getting to know you more. That fun little challenge will make you delicious because the lucky few who dive deep with you will savor every tidbit they get.\\nFor instance, let’s say you’ve been posting your poetry online. You might be really open about how important writing is to you and how your life inspires your poems. However, you might respond with “That’s too personal” or “I don't like sharing too many private details” when people ask what inspired them.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Show off your smarts to absolutely dazzle others.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re open-minded, intelligent, and opinionated, people will be excited to talk to you. They’ll find your deep discussions absolutely addictive and ask to pick your brain as often as they can. Learn about topics that interest you, keep up with the news, read, and watch documentaries. Share your knowledge when you have conversations with other people—you’ll build an audience of admirers right away.\\nFor example, talk about a niche topic and impress others with your knowledge. You might say something like, “The mission to Mars program presents all types of opportunities—NASA’s actually creating brick habitats on the planet!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking Good Care of Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Eat a nutritious diet for healthy skin and more energy.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t worry about your weight or body shape because anyone can look hot—it’s all about how you rock what you’ve already got. Instead, focus on healthy eating to support a strong body, glowing skin, and bountiful energy. Fill your plate with fresh produce, lean protein, and complex carbohydrates. When you nourish yourself, you’ll radiate a va-va-voom vivacity that’ll be positively electric.\\nAvoid processed junk foods, which can make you feel sluggish and fatigued due to the sugar crashes.\\nDon’t overly restrict your calories because you need proper nutrition to look and feel healthy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Exercise for 30 minutes a day for good health.\", \"描述\": \"Being active helps you maintain a healthy body, relieves stress, and boosts your energy, all of which help you dial up the charm when you’re around others. For best results, get at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise 5-7 days a week. Choose an exercise that you love so it’s easier to do. 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1. Choosing a Cause
1-1. Research human rights causes.
Learn which causes are important to you by conducting research online or talking to family or friends you know who volunteer or care about human rights issues. By researching and learning about various areas of human rights activism, you may find a cause that you are passionate about that you did not previously know about.
Use the internet to conduct an online search of human rights activism. You can use a search engine to search for “human rights activism,” “human rights issues,” or “human rights volunteering.” The results that come up should give you an idea of what human rights causes, groups, and issues are out there.
You can use an online search engine to search for famous human rights activists to become inspired by the work of other great activists, such as Martin Luther King Jr. or Nelson Mandela.
Talk to family or friends who are human rights activists and ask them how they volunteer and what areas they focus on and why. You can learn a lot by listening to others speak about issues that are very meaningful to them.
1-2. Visit Amnesty International’s website.
Amnesty International is the world’s largest organization for human rights. Their website contains plenty of information about human rights issues. By visiting their website, you can learn about the violations of human rights in the United States and around the world.
Go to www.amnestyusa.org.
Click on “Get Involved” in the top menu.
Click on “Issues” in the menu on the left side of the page.
Browse the human rights issues that are listed on the page. There are several areas of human rights issues that are featured on this page, including poverty, refugee and migrant rights, women’s rights, and children’s rights.
Click on one of the issues to learn more about it. Reading about the different areas of human rights will give you a better understanding of what you would like to focus on.
1-3. Make a list.
Using a sheet of paper and a pen or pencil or using a Microsoft Word document, write down or type the causes that mean a lot to you. There may be several causes or there may be just a few.
Narrow the list of causes to one or two that mean the most to you. By narrowing your focus, you will be able to fully lend yourself to a cause, which will be the most beneficial to you and the people you would like to help.
For example, if you care about LGBT rights, censorship, refugee and migrant rights, women’s rights, and the death penalty, you might choose one or two that are the most directly relevant to you, such as censorship and women’s rights. You can also narrow this down by picking the one that you feel the most passionate about.
1-4. Decide on a cause.
By choosing a cause to dedicate yourself to, you will be more likely to make a difference in your chosen area. This is because you will have more time and resources to dedicate to this particular cause, rather than spreading your time and resources too thin by being involved in several causes.
You can visit VolunteerMatch.org to get matched to a cause based on your interests. This is a great resource because you can receive suggestions and information for nonprofit organizations in your area that need your help.
2. Joining a Group
2-1. Research human rights groups.
Having decided on a human rights issue that is meaningful and important to you, you can now find a group in your area that works on the issue you are interested in.
Use a search engine to look up human rights groups in your area. For example, you can search for “women’s rights activism in Detroit, MI” to see what results come up. This will help you locate groups in your area.
Many national and international groups have local chapters, such as Amnesty International and the Red Cross.
If there are no groups in your region or area that work on the issue you care about, you can contact regional, national, or international groups about working remotely. You can make phone calls, write letters, or send emails on behalf of the organization without even having to leave your home. Human Rights Watch will instruct you on how to help with certain causes, which usually involve tweeting about the issue or writing or emailing your local and regional politicians.
2-2. Contact the organization.
Once you have found a human rights group that you would like to join, search their website for a menu option that says “Join Now” or “About Us” or something similar. This should give you information about who you can contact and how to join the group or organization.
Reach out to the group’s leaders via email, social media, or a phone call. It is highly likely that they will be happy to hear from you and be grateful to receive your help. Ask them how you can get involved and where they need the most help. You can say something like, “I’m interested in getting involved in your organization. What is the best way for someone new to get involved?”
You may have to fill out an application to get involved with certain organizations. The “How to Join” page should direct you to this information and the application. This is more likely to be the case for paid positions.
If you can’t find contact information for anyone, you can submit your information or questions via an online form. This type of form, if applicable, can be found under “Contact Us.” They may also list a general phone number or email that you can use.
2-3. Go to an upcoming meeting.
Many local chapters of national organizations and smaller human rights activist groups will post a schedule on their website or post about an upcoming media on their social media accounts. These meetings are usually about direct activism and what its members can do in the near future, such as planning protests or rallies.
Monitor the website and social media accounts to see when the next meeting is and make a note on your calendar to attend the next one.
If the meeting is not posted anywhere that you are able to find online, email, call, or message a group/organization leader to find out when and if they meet.
2-4. Get involved.
After you have contacted group or organization leaders and have attended a meeting or two, if applicable, you should be familiar with the organization and the work that they do and be able to take on an active role.
Regularly attend meetings and group activities. This will help you stay abreast of the latest news regarding the issues and what others are doing to help. This will also help you identify activities
Volunteer for activities that you are comfortable with. Depending on your experience and qualifications, you can help with things like stuffing envelopes for mailings, making phone calls, knocking on doors, travelling and building projects, working with law enforcement, providing resources, doing research, conducting on-site investigations of abuse, drafting reports/articles about human rights issues, or counseling individuals.
3. Becoming Active
3-1. Donate your time.
A great way to become a human rights activist is to use your time to actively campaign for the issues that are important to you. Many organizations and groups rely on the physical presence and assistance of other people and would not be able to be in operation otherwise.
Talk to the individuals who are in charge and find out how you can help, based on your experience and what you are comfortable with. Depending on the organization, this could be anything from sweeping floors to building a house. Be prepared to work hard no matter what you do.
3-2. Donate money.
If you are short on time and/or have enough money, you can donate money to the groups/organizations/causes that mean the most to you. Many organizations rely entirely on donations from individuals like you who care about their causes.
Look on the website or talk to the individuals who work for the organization to find out how to donate money. This can be done via cash, check, or online transactions such as PayPal. Most organizations list how you can donate on their website or social media pages.
Obtain a receipt from your charitable donation to save for tax purposes. You can often write off charitable donations on your taxes.
If you don’t have the extra funds to donate, don’t worry. Donating your time is an effective way to help the causes you are concerned about.
3-3. Join the Peace Corps.
The Peace Corps is a volunteer organization for adults run by the United States government that focuses on making a difference in the community abroad. Members of the Peace Corps will travel to other countries for a certain amount of time, usually about two years, to work on assignments and are paid positions. It is a significant commitment if you choose this route.
Assignments are generally categorized into sectors, such as education, agriculture, health, community economic development, environment, or youth development. Depending on your qualifications and interest, you could be teaching in a school, working with farmers to teach them about soil erosion, working in a classroom setting with entrepreneurs and business owners to develop and market their products, teaching environmental awareness to organizations and schools, and working in communities to promote health and programs to provide support for those in need.
In your internet browser, go to www.peacecorps.gov.
In the top right corner, click on “Apply Now”.
Click on “Start Your Application”.
Fill out and submit the application.
Make sure that you apply by the stated deadline. It is advised that you apply nine to twelve months before you want to leave.
3-4. Join AmeriCorps.
If you do not want to leave the country and want to help people in the United States, AmeriCorps is the ideal organization for you. AmeriCorps is a federally-run program for adults who want to volunteer within the borders of the United States. A term is usually ten months to one year and is a paid position.
In your browser, type in www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps.
In the left hand menu, click on “Join AmeriCorps”.
Under “Join AmeriCorps”, click on “I’m Ready to Serve”.
Select your area of interest and the state you would like to work in.
A list of programs will come up. Browse these opportunities for one (or more) that interest you.
Click on the programs that appeal to you.
Click on “Apply Now!” and submit your application.
3-5. Go on a mission trip.
If you are interested in travelling around the country or abroad to help other people for a relatively short amount of time, such as a few days or months, then a mission trip would be a good option for you.
Inquire within the organizations you are already involved in to see if there are any mission trips that are planned.
Inquire at a national or international organization to see how you can travel and help others, such as Habitat for Humanity or the Red Cross. Visit their website to see how you can join and what is required.
If you do not know of any mission trips coming up in your area, search online or ask friends and family. You can use your search engine to search for “mission trips in Detroit, MI.”
4. Turning Human Rights Activism into a Career
4-1. Choose a career path.
You may want to have an idea of what you would like to do for a career that is directly involved in human rights activism so that you can plan out your career path. Many paid human rights activists take on important advocacy work to change the conditions of the individuals around the world who are suffering by working to influence and change the policies of governments and international institutions.
It is useful to pick a career that is in line with the volunteer work you are currently doing, so that you can continue to gain experience to obtain a paid position in the future. For example, if you would like to have a career in working for LGBT rights and are already volunteering in that area, you should continue what you are doing so that you can leverage your experience into a paid position.
4-2. Pick a major.
If you have chosen the college route and are entering your first year of college, or looking to change your major, you can pick a major that will suit a job in a field related to your human rights activism.
Some majors include social work, sociology, women’s studies, philosophy, and law.
For example, if you would like to be a lawyer someday, you can major in law or pre-law, depending on the institution you are attending and your level of study, and study international law or human rights law.
4-3. Apply for positions.
You will want to apply for as many positions as possible if you would like to obtain a paid position in human rights activism. This will increase your chances of getting an interview.
Look for job opportunities online and by asking fellow activists if they know of any opportunities. You can start by asking, "Do you know of any jobs that will be opening up in the near future?" of the people you know at any organizations you currently volunteer with.
There are a few websites that index human rights activist jobs, such as HumanRightsCareers.com and Human Rights Job Board.
Many human rights activist positions will require previous experience with volunteering and references from past volunteer work. Be sure to stay in touch with individuals you have worked for in the past so that you can use them as a reference to obtain a paid position.
Tips
Narrowing your focus to just a two or three causes will help you effectively distribute your time and resources by not spreading yourself too thin.
Warnings
Don't expect to completely save the world overnight—there are always new problems. Just try to make the world a better and happier place however you can, one good deed at a time.
Be wary of charities that are a scam and do not actually use the money you donate for the cause you think are donating to.
If you are a minor, ask your parents’ or guardians’ permission before volunteering your time or money.
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Many paid human rights activists take on important advocacy work to change the conditions of the individuals around the world who are suffering by working to influence and change the policies of governments and international institutions.\\nIt is useful to pick a career that is in line with the volunteer work you are currently doing, so that you can continue to gain experience to obtain a paid position in the future. For example, if you would like to have a career in working for LGBT rights and are already volunteering in that area, you should continue what you are doing so that you can leverage your experience into a paid position.\\n4-2. Pick a major.\\nIf you have chosen the college route and are entering your first year of college, or looking to change your major, you can pick a major that will suit a job in a field related to your human rights activism.\\nSome majors include social work, sociology, women’s studies, philosophy, and law.\\nFor example, if you would like to be a lawyer someday, you can major in law or pre-law, depending on the institution you are attending and your level of study, and study international law or human rights law.\\n4-3. Apply for positions.\\nYou will want to apply for as many positions as possible if you would like to obtain a paid position in human rights activism. This will increase your chances of getting an interview.\\nLook for job opportunities online and by asking fellow activists if they know of any opportunities. You can start by asking, \\\"Do you know of any jobs that will be opening up in the near future?\\\" of the people you know at any organizations you currently volunteer with.\\nThere are a few websites that index human rights activist jobs, such as HumanRightsCareers.com and Human Rights Job Board.\\nMany human rights activist positions will require previous experience with volunteering and references from past volunteer work. Be sure to stay in touch with individuals you have worked for in the past so that you can use them as a reference to obtain a paid position.\\nTips\\nNarrowing your focus to just a two or three causes will help you effectively distribute your time and resources by not spreading yourself too thin.\\nWarnings\\nDon't expect to completely save the world overnight—there are always new problems. Just try to make the world a better and happier place however you can, one good deed at a time.\\nBe wary of charities that are a scam and do not actually use the money you donate for the cause you think are donating to.\\nIf you are a minor, ask your parents’ or guardians’ permission before volunteering your time or money.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you care about human rights issues and improving people’s lives throughout the world, you may be interested in becoming a human rights activist. Through human rights activism, you will be able to help other people and make a real difference in their lives. Your hard work and dedication can be the difference between someone’s suffering and happiness. 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You can use a search engine to search for “human rights activism,” “human rights issues,” or “human rights volunteering.” The results that come up should give you an idea of what human rights causes, groups, and issues are out there.\\nYou can use an online search engine to search for famous human rights activists to become inspired by the work of other great activists, such as Martin Luther King Jr. or Nelson Mandela.\\nTalk to family or friends who are human rights activists and ask them how they volunteer and what areas they focus on and why. You can learn a lot by listening to others speak about issues that are very meaningful to them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Visit Amnesty International’s website.\", \"描述\": \"Amnesty International is the world’s largest organization for human rights. Their website contains plenty of information about human rights issues. By visiting their website, you can learn about the violations of human rights in the United States and around the world.\\nGo to www.amnestyusa.org.\\nClick on “Get Involved” in the top menu.\\nClick on “Issues” in the menu on the left side of the page.\\nBrowse the human rights issues that are listed on the page. There are several areas of human rights issues that are featured on this page, including poverty, refugee and migrant rights, women’s rights, and children’s rights.\\nClick on one of the issues to learn more about it. Reading about the different areas of human rights will give you a better understanding of what you would like to focus on.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make a list.\", \"描述\": \"Using a sheet of paper and a pen or pencil or using a Microsoft Word document, write down or type the causes that mean a lot to you. There may be several causes or there may be just a few.\\nNarrow the list of causes to one or two that mean the most to you. By narrowing your focus, you will be able to fully lend yourself to a cause, which will be the most beneficial to you and the people you would like to help.\\nFor example, if you care about LGBT rights, censorship, refugee and migrant rights, women’s rights, and the death penalty, you might choose one or two that are the most directly relevant to you, such as censorship and women’s rights. You can also narrow this down by picking the one that you feel the most passionate about.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide on a cause.\", \"描述\": \"By choosing a cause to dedicate yourself to, you will be more likely to make a difference in your chosen area. This is because you will have more time and resources to dedicate to this particular cause, rather than spreading your time and resources too thin by being involved in several causes.\\nYou can visit VolunteerMatch.org to get matched to a cause based on your interests. This is a great resource because you can receive suggestions and information for nonprofit organizations in your area that need your help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Joining a Group\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Research human rights groups.\", \"描述\": \"Having decided on a human rights issue that is meaningful and important to you, you can now find a group in your area that works on the issue you are interested in.\\nUse a search engine to look up human rights groups in your area. For example, you can search for “women’s rights activism in Detroit, MI” to see what results come up. This will help you locate groups in your area.\\nMany national and international groups have local chapters, such as Amnesty International and the Red Cross.\\nIf there are no groups in your region or area that work on the issue you care about, you can contact regional, national, or international groups about working remotely. You can make phone calls, write letters, or send emails on behalf of the organization without even having to leave your home. Human Rights Watch will instruct you on how to help with certain causes, which usually involve tweeting about the issue or writing or emailing your local and regional politicians.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Contact the organization.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have found a human rights group that you would like to join, search their website for a menu option that says “Join Now” or “About Us” or something similar. This should give you information about who you can contact and how to join the group or organization.\\nReach out to the group’s leaders via email, social media, or a phone call. It is highly likely that they will be happy to hear from you and be grateful to receive your help. Ask them how you can get involved and where they need the most help. You can say something like, “I’m interested in getting involved in your organization. What is the best way for someone new to get involved?”\\nYou may have to fill out an application to get involved with certain organizations. The “How to Join” page should direct you to this information and the application. This is more likely to be the case for paid positions.\\nIf you can’t find contact information for anyone, you can submit your information or questions via an online form. This type of form, if applicable, can be found under “Contact Us.” They may also list a general phone number or email that you can use.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go to an upcoming meeting.\", \"描述\": \"Many local chapters of national organizations and smaller human rights activist groups will post a schedule on their website or post about an upcoming media on their social media accounts. 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Depending on your qualifications and interest, you could be teaching in a school, working with farmers to teach them about soil erosion, working in a classroom setting with entrepreneurs and business owners to develop and market their products, teaching environmental awareness to organizations and schools, and working in communities to promote health and programs to provide support for those in need.\\nIn your internet browser, go to www.peacecorps.gov.\\nIn the top right corner, click on “Apply Now”.\\nClick on “Start Your Application”.\\nFill out and submit the application.\\nMake sure that you apply by the stated deadline. It is advised that you apply nine to twelve months before you want to leave.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Join AmeriCorps.\", \"描述\": \"If you do not want to leave the country and want to help people in the United States, AmeriCorps is the ideal organization for you. 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1. Getting Your Start Locally
1-1. Start small.
You don’t have to travel to the other side of the globe to be a humanitarian. You can start by affecting change in your own neighborhood. Look at the community around you and try to identify humanitarian issues that you can help address. It could be helping the homeless or the hungry, volunteering at an after school program, or picking up litter.
Look for things that you feel like you could help to improve.
If there is a lower income community in your area, think about what types of things you could do that could improve their standard of living.
1-2. Volunteer at a local shelter.
There are homeless shelters and food banks in many larger communities that are always looking for volunteer help. Shelters for victims of abuse are also fairly common and need help organizing and executing fundraising and day to day operations. You can offer your time to these organizations as a way to pursue local humanitarian work.
Look for a cause that you feel strongly about and volunteer your time at a local organization to help.
Humanitarian work can be done anywhere in the world, including your own neighborhood.
Try using websites like http://www.idealist.com to find local organizations that need volunteers.
1-3. Bring the humanitarian mindset to work with you.
You can help humanitarian causes by getting the company that you work for involved. Organize a can drive at work, or start a collection of clothing to help the area’s under privileged. Many companies will not only authorize you to pursue humanitarian efforts at work, they may even encourage it because it improves perception of the organization in the community.
Make sure to speak to your manager for permission before starting a program at work.
Reach out to local shelters and humanitarian organizations to see what is in high demand that you can attempt to help with.
1-4. Spread the message on social media.
One of the biggest challenges facing humanitarian organizations all over the world is funding. You can help by engaging your friends and family on social media and encouraging them to donate to humanitarian causes. This is one aspect of humanitarian work you can do from home that can have a global reach.
You can share content posted by your favorite humanitarian organizations.
Posting your own message about important causes with links to donate may help your message to reach people.
1-5. Be consistent.
Volunteering your time, skills, or resources here and there can be extremely rewarding, but consistency can help your efforts to compound. Instead of volunteering at a single event, or helping to raise funds one time, volunteer with consistency for local organizations that need your help. In order to be truly effective, humanitarian efforts must include both short terms and long term plans.
Consistent humanitarian work can help you to develop a relationship with the people in your community that you are helping, which can be more rewarding for you both.
Every bit of your work counts. Over time, a few hours out of your Sunday afternoons can compound into a significant change for the people in your area.
2. Developing a Humanitarian Mindset
2-1. Do away with selfishness.
Being a humanitarian is about action, but your intentions matter too. Pursuing work that helps others with the intent of gaining something like recognition or influence isn’t the purpose of being a humanitarian. Instead, look for ways to benefit others without placing an emphasis on what you may get in return. In order to be a capable humanitarian, you need to demonstrate tolerance, cultural understanding and altruism.
Approach humanitarian work with a mindset of giving, helping, and hope to improve the world around you.
Don’t focus on what you can gain from your effort, focus on what your community can gain.
2-2. Value human welfare.
The nature of humanitarian work is to pursue ways to end human suffering in all forms. In order to do so, you must learn to appreciate the value in saving lives, relieving suffering, and helping to maintain human dignity. Try to imagine yourself in the difficult positions of the people you seek to help to better empathize with their situations.
It’s important that you learn to show empathy for all people.
Valuing human welfare can help you to overcome the discomfort of helping people in difficult situations and environments.
2-3. Free yourself from any prejudices.
A humanitarian must value human life in all forms. That means letting go of any prejudices or generalizations you may find yourself making about groups of people. All people, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, religion or race deserve to live a life that is free from suffering, and it’s the humanitarian’s job to help make that happen.
It is not uncommon for people to grow up with misconceptions about groups of people they have never met, but you must actively engage and overcome these ideas.
A humanitarian values all human life equally and works to alleviate suffering equally worldwide.
2-4. Maintain a professional demeanor.
Humanitarians need to carry themselves in a professional manner in the field as well as the office. Each organization has its own set of guidelines to aid in your understanding of professional behavior, but it is all based in the concept that all humanitarian workers should adhere to common standards in order to maximize their effectiveness in a crisis.
Carrying yourself in a professional manner means maintaining an ethical standard and demonstrating respect for all you encounter.
Being professional also means following the local laws and regulations as well as those enforced by your organization.
2-5. Seek and embrace new experiences and challenges.
Humanitarian work can lead you all over the globe and take you on exciting adventures, but it can also present some extremely difficult challenges. In order to be an effective humanitarian, you must seek new ways to solve problems and overcome obstacle and find the value in creating relationships with new people.
Meeting new people and facing new issues can be a way of life for humanitarians.
Embracing the experiences that are inherent to these challenges can help you to overcome them.
3. Volunteering Globally
3-1. Determine what skills you can offer.
Humanitarian efforts need all kinds of skill sets, all over the planet. You may already possess a skill or trade that could be extremely helpful to the right cause. Take an inventory of your qualifications and use that to inform your search for a volunteer opportunity. Volunteering to share your expertise can help you make the biggest impact possible with your time and effort.
You may want to consider volunteering in the same field you work in. Whether you work on a construction site or in a cubicle, there’s likely an organization in need of your skill set.
Consider what other skills you possess that may be helpful. Skills like leadership, problem solving, or any technical skill are always in high demand.
3-2. Choose a cause to support.
There are many different organizations and causes you can choose to volunteer for, so it’s important to find one that you’re passionate about. Volunteering overseas is a significant commitment, so finding a cause that matters to you can help alleviate the stress of leaving your home behind for a short time. Here are some common areas people volunteer their efforts for:
Marine Conservation
Wildlife Conservation
Teaching and Education
Community Development
Healthcare
Environmental Conservation
3-3. Look for an organization that supports your cause of choice.
Once you have identified a cause you’d like to work for, start looking for organizations that support that cause. Many organizations have volunteer programs to help get you placed in an area you can help. Make sure to research the organization you choose to volunteer for extensively, as your safety should be a top priority.
Find volunteer opportunities online in databases like the one found here: http://www.workingabroad.com/database
Once you find an organization you like, look for news stories about it online. It can help you to better understand the organization and shed light on any issues the organization has had recently.
3-4. Contact the organization of your choice.
Many organizations have outreach professionals whose job it is to help you plan your volunteer experience. Because each organization has different procedures, these people can walk you through the steps necessary to get on your way to providing aid in a part of the world that needs your help. You can also contact third party organizations like Working Abroad who can help get you started on the right track.
Look for contact information on the webpage of the organization you choose.
Ask questions to make sure you have all of your important concerns addressed like how you will travel there, where you will stay and what expenses are involved.
3-5. Raise money for your trip.
There are a number of expenses involved in volunteering to work for overseas humanitarian causes. You will likely be responsible for the costs of your transportation to and from the region of the world you volunteer in. Many organizations also charge a program fee to offset the cost of providing you with housing and food during your time abroad. These costs can vary dramatically depending on the organization you volunteer for and the distance you need to travel. You can get a good sense of how much you will need to raise by speaking to a volunteer coordinator within the organization you will be working with.
Try using a fundraising website like GoFundMe.com or Classy.org to raise money for your trip.
Ask friends, family and coworkers to help support your cause by donating toward the cost of your trip.
Write letters to business owners or individuals in your community that you think may be willing to help.
3-6. Plan your trip thoroughly and take the necessary precautions.
Before leaving for a humanitarian aid trip, it’s important the you plan things thoroughly. Start by making an appointment with your doctor or a travel medicine specialist to receive any immunizations that may be necessary for the region you’re traveling to. Make sure to speak to your volunteer coordinator about what to expect so you can pack the necessary equipment and let your family know your plans.
Make sure your coordinator tells you what kind of traveling you can expect to do and in what regions of the world so you can appropriately prepare for the trip.
You may want to have a dental checkup before you leave as well, to ensure your trip is not hindered by an unexpected dental emergency.
3-7. Share what you have learned.
Your humanitarian trip will likely change the way you view the world around you, and it’s important that you share that message with others upon your return. Studies have shown that humanitarian trips can increase reflexive learning about external factors effecting the world as well as internal factors that affect our perception. By sharing your experiences, you can encourage others to take similar trips, thus expanding their perspectives as well.
Sharing your experiences can help encourage others to volunteer their time and skills as well.
The experience you gain as a volunteer can also help lead to a career in humanitarian service.
4. Finding a Career in Humanitarian Work
4-1. Ensure you have the right qualifications.
If you don’t have extensive volunteer work to pull from, you will likely need a master’s degree from an accredited institution in order to find a career in humanitarian work. It can be an extremely competitive field to find work, so having an advanced degree in a field that is of particular benefit to the organization you want to work for can help.
Advanced degrees in engineering, accounting, or other in demand fields are always sought after.
A master’s degree or higher in humanitarian related fields such as food security is a great way to get in the door.
4-2. Put together a good résumé.
You will need to apply to a position within a humanitarian organization just like any other job, so the first step should be to make sure you have an updated and well put together résumé. Make sure to highlight your skills and experiences that make you a valuable addition to a non-government organization’s team.
Make sure to list any volunteer experience you have in humanitarian endeavors.
Create a cover letter that speaks to your passion about the organization you apply to, as well as the cause they support.
4-3. Search for positions you’re qualified for on job board websites.
You can find careers in the humanitarian industry on most traditional job boards like Indeed.com or Monster.com, but there are also specialized job boards you can visit that allow people to post only positions in non-government, humanitarian organizations. You may also want to create a LinkedIn account to help you look for positions.
Try visiting Reliefweb.int, Trust.org or DevNetJobs.org for international humanitarian job postings.
If there is a particular organization you have in mind, look on their website for open positions.
4-4. Ace the interview.
Once you are able to get an interview to work for the humanitarian organization of your choice, make sure to prepare beforehand. You should do research on the organization and prepare yourself to answer questions about your qualifications and goals, as well as about the organization you are interviewing with.
Make sure to dress appropriately for your interview. You should wear a suit or a suit with a skirt and have good hygiene.
Be professional and confident in order to leave a a good impression with the interviewer.
4-5. Embrace working in the home office.
Like any other organization, humanitarian non-government entities need people in all sorts of positions in order to be successful. Once you’re offered a position, it may not be exactly what you were hoping for. Many humanitarian organizations will require that you work in their home office for a year or so before doing field work. Embrace this opportunity to get to know the organization and do your best to help from the position you’re in.
Take the opportunity to network with people within the organization and better understand how it goes about its humanitarian work.
Remember that every person counts in terms of helping the cause. After time, you may be able to transfer to field work.
Tips
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that humanitarianism is limited to those areas affected by large-scale disasters. All humanitarianism is an altruistic loyalty to humanity and its progress.
Allow yourself to be empathetic and compassionate. When we have compassion and empathy, we are laying aside our perceptions and beliefs and we are engaging in the wellbeing and welfare of others.
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Pursuing work that helps others with the intent of gaining something like recognition or influence isn’t the purpose of being a humanitarian. Instead, look for ways to benefit others without placing an emphasis on what you may get in return. In order to be a capable humanitarian, you need to demonstrate tolerance, cultural understanding and altruism.\\nApproach humanitarian work with a mindset of giving, helping, and hope to improve the world around you.\\nDon’t focus on what you can gain from your effort, focus on what your community can gain.\\n2-2. Value human welfare.\\nThe nature of humanitarian work is to pursue ways to end human suffering in all forms. In order to do so, you must learn to appreciate the value in saving lives, relieving suffering, and helping to maintain human dignity. Try to imagine yourself in the difficult positions of the people you seek to help to better empathize with their situations.\\nIt’s important that you learn to show empathy for all people.\\nValuing human welfare can help you to overcome the discomfort of helping people in difficult situations and environments.\\n2-3. Free yourself from any prejudices.\\nA humanitarian must value human life in all forms. That means letting go of any prejudices or generalizations you may find yourself making about groups of people. All people, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, religion or race deserve to live a life that is free from suffering, and it’s the humanitarian’s job to help make that happen.\\nIt is not uncommon for people to grow up with misconceptions about groups of people they have never met, but you must actively engage and overcome these ideas.\\nA humanitarian values all human life equally and works to alleviate suffering equally worldwide.\\n2-4. Maintain a professional demeanor.\\nHumanitarians need to carry themselves in a professional manner in the field as well as the office. Each organization has its own set of guidelines to aid in your understanding of professional behavior, but it is all based in the concept that all humanitarian workers should adhere to common standards in order to maximize their effectiveness in a crisis.\\nCarrying yourself in a professional manner means maintaining an ethical standard and demonstrating respect for all you encounter.\\nBeing professional also means following the local laws and regulations as well as those enforced by your organization.\\n2-5. Seek and embrace new experiences and challenges.\\nHumanitarian work can lead you all over the globe and take you on exciting adventures, but it can also present some extremely difficult challenges. In order to be an effective humanitarian, you must seek new ways to solve problems and overcome obstacle and find the value in creating relationships with new people.\\nMeeting new people and facing new issues can be a way of life for humanitarians.\\nEmbracing the experiences that are inherent to these challenges can help you to overcome them.\\n3. Volunteering Globally\\n3-1. Determine what skills you can offer.\\nHumanitarian efforts need all kinds of skill sets, all over the planet. You may already possess a skill or trade that could be extremely helpful to the right cause. Take an inventory of your qualifications and use that to inform your search for a volunteer opportunity. Volunteering to share your expertise can help you make the biggest impact possible with your time and effort.\\nYou may want to consider volunteering in the same field you work in. Whether you work on a construction site or in a cubicle, there’s likely an organization in need of your skill set.\\nConsider what other skills you possess that may be helpful. Skills like leadership, problem solving, or any technical skill are always in high demand.\\n3-2. Choose a cause to support.\\nThere are many different organizations and causes you can choose to volunteer for, so it’s important to find one that you’re passionate about. Volunteering overseas is a significant commitment, so finding a cause that matters to you can help alleviate the stress of leaving your home behind for a short time. Here are some common areas people volunteer their efforts for:\\nMarine Conservation\\nWildlife Conservation\\nTeaching and Education\\nCommunity Development\\nHealthcare\\nEnvironmental Conservation\\n3-3. Look for an organization that supports your cause of choice.\\nOnce you have identified a cause you’d like to work for, start looking for organizations that support that cause. Many organizations have volunteer programs to help get you placed in an area you can help. Make sure to research the organization you choose to volunteer for extensively, as your safety should be a top priority.\\nFind volunteer opportunities online in databases like the one found here: http://www.workingabroad.com/database\\nOnce you find an organization you like, look for news stories about it online. It can help you to better understand the organization and shed light on any issues the organization has had recently.\\n3-4. Contact the organization of your choice.\\nMany organizations have outreach professionals whose job it is to help you plan your volunteer experience. Because each organization has different procedures, these people can walk you through the steps necessary to get on your way to providing aid in a part of the world that needs your help. You can also contact third party organizations like Working Abroad who can help get you started on the right track.\\nLook for contact information on the webpage of the organization you choose.\\nAsk questions to make sure you have all of your important concerns addressed like how you will travel there, where you will stay and what expenses are involved.\\n3-5. Raise money for your trip.\\nThere are a number of expenses involved in volunteering to work for overseas humanitarian causes. You will likely be responsible for the costs of your transportation to and from the region of the world you volunteer in. Many organizations also charge a program fee to offset the cost of providing you with housing and food during your time abroad. These costs can vary dramatically depending on the organization you volunteer for and the distance you need to travel. You can get a good sense of how much you will need to raise by speaking to a volunteer coordinator within the organization you will be working with.\\nTry using a fundraising website like GoFundMe.com or Classy.org to raise money for your trip.\\nAsk friends, family and coworkers to help support your cause by donating toward the cost of your trip.\\nWrite letters to business owners or individuals in your community that you think may be willing to help.\\n3-6. Plan your trip thoroughly and take the necessary precautions.\\nBefore leaving for a humanitarian aid trip, it’s important the you plan things thoroughly. Start by making an appointment with your doctor or a travel medicine specialist to receive any immunizations that may be necessary for the region you’re traveling to. Make sure to speak to your volunteer coordinator about what to expect so you can pack the necessary equipment and let your family know your plans.\\nMake sure your coordinator tells you what kind of traveling you can expect to do and in what regions of the world so you can appropriately prepare for the trip.\\nYou may want to have a dental checkup before you leave as well, to ensure your trip is not hindered by an unexpected dental emergency.\\n3-7. Share what you have learned.\\nYour humanitarian trip will likely change the way you view the world around you, and it’s important that you share that message with others upon your return. Studies have shown that humanitarian trips can increase reflexive learning about external factors effecting the world as well as internal factors that affect our perception. By sharing your experiences, you can encourage others to take similar trips, thus expanding their perspectives as well.\\nSharing your experiences can help encourage others to volunteer their time and skills as well.\\nThe experience you gain as a volunteer can also help lead to a career in humanitarian service.\\n4. Finding a Career in Humanitarian Work\\n4-1. Ensure you have the right qualifications.\\nIf you don’t have extensive volunteer work to pull from, you will likely need a master’s degree from an accredited institution in order to find a career in humanitarian work. It can be an extremely competitive field to find work, so having an advanced degree in a field that is of particular benefit to the organization you want to work for can help.\\nAdvanced degrees in engineering, accounting, or other in demand fields are always sought after.\\nA master’s degree or higher in humanitarian related fields such as food security is a great way to get in the door.\\n4-2. Put together a good résumé.\\nYou will need to apply to a position within a humanitarian organization just like any other job, so the first step should be to make sure you have an updated and well put together résumé. Make sure to highlight your skills and experiences that make you a valuable addition to a non-government organization’s team.\\nMake sure to list any volunteer experience you have in humanitarian endeavors.\\nCreate a cover letter that speaks to your passion about the organization you apply to, as well as the cause they support.\\n4-3. Search for positions you’re qualified for on job board websites.\\nYou can find careers in the humanitarian industry on most traditional job boards like Indeed.com or Monster.com, but there are also specialized job boards you can visit that allow people to post only positions in non-government, humanitarian organizations. You may also want to create a LinkedIn account to help you look for positions.\\nTry visiting Reliefweb.int, Trust.org or DevNetJobs.org for international humanitarian job postings.\\nIf there is a particular organization you have in mind, look on their website for open positions.\\n4-4. Ace the interview.\\nOnce you are able to get an interview to work for the humanitarian organization of your choice, make sure to prepare beforehand. You should do research on the organization and prepare yourself to answer questions about your qualifications and goals, as well as about the organization you are interviewing with.\\nMake sure to dress appropriately for your interview. You should wear a suit or a suit with a skirt and have good hygiene.\\nBe professional and confident in order to leave a a good impression with the interviewer.\\n4-5. Embrace working in the home office.\\nLike any other organization, humanitarian non-government entities need people in all sorts of positions in order to be successful. Once you’re offered a position, it may not be exactly what you were hoping for. Many humanitarian organizations will require that you work in their home office for a year or so before doing field work. Embrace this opportunity to get to know the organization and do your best to help from the position you’re in.\\nTake the opportunity to network with people within the organization and better understand how it goes about its humanitarian work.\\nRemember that every person counts in terms of helping the cause. After time, you may be able to transfer to field work.\\nTips\\nDon’t fall into the trap of thinking that humanitarianism is limited to those areas affected by large-scale disasters. All humanitarianism is an altruistic loyalty to humanity and its progress.\\nAllow yourself to be empathetic and compassionate. When we have compassion and empathy, we are laying aside our perceptions and beliefs and we are engaging in the wellbeing and welfare of others.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a humanitarian does not necessarily involve getting on the next plane to a third world country; there are many ways that you can be a humanitarian in a very local sense. Being a humanitarian means you are working to improve human welfare, regardless of location. Of course, if you do choose to pursue international humanitarian work, you may want to begin by volunteering, then eventually transition your passion for humanitarian causes into a career.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Your Start Locally\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start small.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t have to travel to the other side of the globe to be a humanitarian. You can start by affecting change in your own neighborhood. Look at the community around you and try to identify humanitarian issues that you can help address. It could be helping the homeless or the hungry, volunteering at an after school program, or picking up litter.\\nLook for things that you feel like you could help to improve.\\nIf there is a lower income community in your area, think about what types of things you could do that could improve their standard of living.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Volunteer at a local shelter.\", \"描述\": \"There are homeless shelters and food banks in many larger communities that are always looking for volunteer help. Shelters for victims of abuse are also fairly common and need help organizing and executing fundraising and day to day operations. You can offer your time to these organizations as a way to pursue local humanitarian work.\\nLook for a cause that you feel strongly about and volunteer your time at a local organization to help.\\nHumanitarian work can be done anywhere in the world, including your own neighborhood.\\nTry using websites like http://www.idealist.com to find local organizations that need volunteers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Bring the humanitarian mindset to work with you.\", \"描述\": \"You can help humanitarian causes by getting the company that you work for involved. Organize a can drive at work, or start a collection of clothing to help the area’s under privileged. Many companies will not only authorize you to pursue humanitarian efforts at work, they may even encourage it because it improves perception of the organization in the community.\\nMake sure to speak to your manager for permission before starting a program at work.\\nReach out to local shelters and humanitarian organizations to see what is in high demand that you can attempt to help with.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Spread the message on social media.\", \"描述\": \"One of the biggest challenges facing humanitarian organizations all over the world is funding. You can help by engaging your friends and family on social media and encouraging them to donate to humanitarian causes. This is one aspect of humanitarian work you can do from home that can have a global reach.\\nYou can share content posted by your favorite humanitarian organizations.\\nPosting your own message about important causes with links to donate may help your message to reach people.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be consistent.\", \"描述\": \"Volunteering your time, skills, or resources here and there can be extremely rewarding, but consistency can help your efforts to compound. Instead of volunteering at a single event, or helping to raise funds one time, volunteer with consistency for local organizations that need your help. In order to be truly effective, humanitarian efforts must include both short terms and long term plans.\\nConsistent humanitarian work can help you to develop a relationship with the people in your community that you are helping, which can be more rewarding for you both.\\nEvery bit of your work counts. Over time, a few hours out of your Sunday afternoons can compound into a significant change for the people in your area.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing a Humanitarian Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do away with selfishness.\", \"描述\": \"Being a humanitarian is about action, but your intentions matter too. Pursuing work that helps others with the intent of gaining something like recognition or influence isn’t the purpose of being a humanitarian. Instead, look for ways to benefit others without placing an emphasis on what you may get in return. In order to be a capable humanitarian, you need to demonstrate tolerance, cultural understanding and altruism.\\nApproach humanitarian work with a mindset of giving, helping, and hope to improve the world around you.\\nDon’t focus on what you can gain from your effort, focus on what your community can gain.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Value human welfare.\", \"描述\": \"The nature of humanitarian work is to pursue ways to end human suffering in all forms. In order to do so, you must learn to appreciate the value in saving lives, relieving suffering, and helping to maintain human dignity. Try to imagine yourself in the difficult positions of the people you seek to help to better empathize with their situations.\\nIt’s important that you learn to show empathy for all people.\\nValuing human welfare can help you to overcome the discomfort of helping people in difficult situations and environments.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Free yourself from any prejudices.\", \"描述\": \"A humanitarian must value human life in all forms. That means letting go of any prejudices or generalizations you may find yourself making about groups of people. All people, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, religion or race deserve to live a life that is free from suffering, and it’s the humanitarian’s job to help make that happen.\\nIt is not uncommon for people to grow up with misconceptions about groups of people they have never met, but you must actively engage and overcome these ideas.\\nA humanitarian values all human life equally and works to alleviate suffering equally worldwide.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Maintain a professional demeanor.\", \"描述\": \"Humanitarians need to carry themselves in a professional manner in the field as well as the office. Each organization has its own set of guidelines to aid in your understanding of professional behavior, but it is all based in the concept that all humanitarian workers should adhere to common standards in order to maximize their effectiveness in a crisis.\\nCarrying yourself in a professional manner means maintaining an ethical standard and demonstrating respect for all you encounter.\\nBeing professional also means following the local laws and regulations as well as those enforced by your organization.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Seek and embrace new experiences and challenges.\", \"描述\": \"Humanitarian work can lead you all over the globe and take you on exciting adventures, but it can also present some extremely difficult challenges. In order to be an effective humanitarian, you must seek new ways to solve problems and overcome obstacle and find the value in creating relationships with new people.\\nMeeting new people and facing new issues can be a way of life for humanitarians.\\nEmbracing the experiences that are inherent to these challenges can help you to overcome them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Volunteering Globally\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Determine what skills you can offer.\", \"描述\": \"Humanitarian efforts need all kinds of skill sets, all over the planet. You may already possess a skill or trade that could be extremely helpful to the right cause. Take an inventory of your qualifications and use that to inform your search for a volunteer opportunity. Volunteering to share your expertise can help you make the biggest impact possible with your time and effort.\\nYou may want to consider volunteering in the same field you work in. Whether you work on a construction site or in a cubicle, there’s likely an organization in need of your skill set.\\nConsider what other skills you possess that may be helpful. Skills like leadership, problem solving, or any technical skill are always in high demand.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose a cause to support.\", \"描述\": \"There are many different organizations and causes you can choose to volunteer for, so it’s important to find one that you’re passionate about. Volunteering overseas is a significant commitment, so finding a cause that matters to you can help alleviate the stress of leaving your home behind for a short time. Here are some common areas people volunteer their efforts for:\\nMarine Conservation\\nWildlife Conservation\\nTeaching and Education\\nCommunity Development\\nHealthcare\\nEnvironmental Conservation\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look for an organization that supports your cause of choice.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have identified a cause you’d like to work for, start looking for organizations that support that cause. Many organizations have volunteer programs to help get you placed in an area you can help. Make sure to research the organization you choose to volunteer for extensively, as your safety should be a top priority.\\nFind volunteer opportunities online in databases like the one found here: http://www.workingabroad.com/database\\nOnce you find an organization you like, look for news stories about it online. It can help you to better understand the organization and shed light on any issues the organization has had recently.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Contact the organization of your choice.\", \"描述\": \"Many organizations have outreach professionals whose job it is to help you plan your volunteer experience. Because each organization has different procedures, these people can walk you through the steps necessary to get on your way to providing aid in a part of the world that needs your help. You can also contact third party organizations like Working Abroad who can help get you started on the right track.\\nLook for contact information on the webpage of the organization you choose.\\nAsk questions to make sure you have all of your important concerns addressed like how you will travel there, where you will stay and what expenses are involved.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Raise money for your trip.\", \"描述\": \"There are a number of expenses involved in volunteering to work for overseas humanitarian causes. You will likely be responsible for the costs of your transportation to and from the region of the world you volunteer in. Many organizations also charge a program fee to offset the cost of providing you with housing and food during your time abroad. These costs can vary dramatically depending on the organization you volunteer for and the distance you need to travel. You can get a good sense of how much you will need to raise by speaking to a volunteer coordinator within the organization you will be working with.\\nTry using a fundraising website like GoFundMe.com or Classy.org to raise money for your trip.\\nAsk friends, family and coworkers to help support your cause by donating toward the cost of your trip.\\nWrite letters to business owners or individuals in your community that you think may be willing to help.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Plan your trip thoroughly and take the necessary precautions.\", \"描述\": \"Before leaving for a humanitarian aid trip, it’s important the you plan things thoroughly. Start by making an appointment with your doctor or a travel medicine specialist to receive any immunizations that may be necessary for the region you’re traveling to. Make sure to speak to your volunteer coordinator about what to expect so you can pack the necessary equipment and let your family know your plans.\\nMake sure your coordinator tells you what kind of traveling you can expect to do and in what regions of the world so you can appropriately prepare for the trip.\\nYou may want to have a dental checkup before you leave as well, to ensure your trip is not hindered by an unexpected dental emergency.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Share what you have learned.\", \"描述\": \"Your humanitarian trip will likely change the way you view the world around you, and it’s important that you share that message with others upon your return. Studies have shown that humanitarian trips can increase reflexive learning about external factors effecting the world as well as internal factors that affect our perception. By sharing your experiences, you can encourage others to take similar trips, thus expanding their perspectives as well.\\nSharing your experiences can help encourage others to volunteer their time and skills as well.\\nThe experience you gain as a volunteer can also help lead to a career in humanitarian service.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Finding a Career in Humanitarian Work\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ensure you have the right qualifications.\", \"描述\": \"If you don’t have extensive volunteer work to pull from, you will likely need a master’s degree from an accredited institution in order to find a career in humanitarian work. It can be an extremely competitive field to find work, so having an advanced degree in a field that is of particular benefit to the organization you want to work for can help.\\nAdvanced degrees in engineering, accounting, or other in demand fields are always sought after.\\nA master’s degree or higher in humanitarian related fields such as food security is a great way to get in the door.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Put together a good résumé.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to apply to a position within a humanitarian organization just like any other job, so the first step should be to make sure you have an updated and well put together résumé. Make sure to highlight your skills and experiences that make you a valuable addition to a non-government organization’s team.\\nMake sure to list any volunteer experience you have in humanitarian endeavors.\\nCreate a cover letter that speaks to your passion about the organization you apply to, as well as the cause they support.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Search for positions you’re qualified for on job board websites.\", \"描述\": \"You can find careers in the humanitarian industry on most traditional job boards like Indeed.com or Monster.com, but there are also specialized job boards you can visit that allow people to post only positions in non-government, humanitarian organizations. You may also want to create a LinkedIn account to help you look for positions.\\nTry visiting Reliefweb.int, Trust.org or DevNetJobs.org for international humanitarian job postings.\\nIf there is a particular organization you have in mind, look on their website for open positions.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ace the interview.\", \"描述\": \"Once you are able to get an interview to work for the humanitarian organization of your choice, make sure to prepare beforehand. You should do research on the organization and prepare yourself to answer questions about your qualifications and goals, as well as about the organization you are interviewing with.\\nMake sure to dress appropriately for your interview. 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How to Be a Humble Christian
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1. Steps
1-1. Realize that any gift or ability you may have came from God.
The Bible says "Every good and perfect gift is from above." God gave you breath. God gave you your personality and talents, etc. God wants you to use your talents, such as can be seen in the parable of the talents, which I think does literally refer to gifts or talents, but God doesn't want us to get prideful about our abilities. "For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast." (Ephesians 2:8). Salvation is by grace, and sanctification is also by grace. Any progress that we make in our walks with God, any spiritual gift we might receive, is thanks to God's Holy Spirit in us alone. We have nothing to get puffed up or prideful about. It's always all about God and not about us.
1-2. Always see that God is God, and you are not.
Sometimes Christians can get on a power trip regarding prayer. We start to think that we can change the universe or something through prayer. But ultimately God is in charge. He can grant our requests in prayer, or He can choose to not grant them.
1-3. Do something that keeps you humble, such as house cleaning.
Cleaning, or any kind of work, has a way of humbling us. Working out is a good way to discipline our bodies, and so, then discipline our minds. Try fasting and denying yourself food for a day or so, if you need to work on humility, etc.
1-4. Realize that you might be wrong on some things.
For some reason, since Christians have spiritual eyes through the Holy Spirit, we can start to think that we are always right and never wrong. But, it's good to admit that you could possibly be wrong on something.
1-5. See and treat others better than yourself.
If you find that it's hard to serve others, ask God for help. Remember that Christ humbly served everyone, even those who were mean to him. Meditate on His humility to help yourself. Realize that every human being alive is created in God's image, so all people have innate value.
1-6. Continuously be willing to see your sin.
Every person, Christian or not, sins every day. The Bible says "If anyone says he is without sin, he is a liar."
1-7. Don't boast about what you do for God's kingdom.
What are something that Christians might boast about? One is having the gift of tongues, if a person has it. Or any other spiritual gift. But, the fact that we all need to realize is that any spiritual gift is from God; it is not of our own doing, so there is no room for boasting. Amen.
There are many other things Christians might boast about; going on a missions trip, serving in the church, teaching Sunday school, feeding the homeless, etc. It's hard to tell if we are doing things for the wrong motives sometimes. Do we serve God to be noticed by others, or do we serve God just to serve God?
Ongoing self-examination is good for anyone to do. It is always good to consider why we do what we do. Do we do good things for a boost to our own ego; to feel better about ourselves? Are we like the Pharisees and want other people to notice all the good that we do? What would Jesus say then, we have already received our reward. Jesus said when you give to anyone in any way, "don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing."
Do we pray to be seen and heard by men, like the Pharisees did? Or, do we pray because we want to draw closer to God and build our relationship with Him alone? Do we give, and then tell everyone how much we gave and who we gave to, or do we do it without drawing any attention to ourselves? It's hard to give or to pray or to fast, etc. in secret without telling anyone, because our flesh wants others to know all that we are accomplishing for God. Our flesh wants to brag and boast. Our flesh wants to say, "Look at me! Look at how holy I am!" But, is that really being holy?
Paul said, "Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or, am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ." (Galatians 1:10). That is a good verse to always keep in mind in your Christian walk.
1-8. Never, therefore, seek to please man, certainly not the powerful or rich self-serving people.
But, love is the key. Have mercy on the hungry, cold, hurting and needy children and other people as to or for God. Don't expect any repayment. Only and always seek to please God and God alone. Jesus said:
"If you hate, then you are a murderer..." and also "Whatever you do (or do not do) for/to the least of these, you do for/to me." -- and He even said: "Love (be kind to) those who hate you." That is hard to do, especially if they are merciless people who think they are serving God by being harsh and unloving, or such.
Tips
If you find yourself thinking negative or judgmental thoughts about someone, try instead forcing yourself to replace those thoughts with the hope that they are happy. God did not make us to be judgmental about others; that is His job only.
Warnings
Don't hate yourself and think "That is humility." Because that is not! True humility is confidence found in Christ alone, not in self ("self-confidence" is probably arrogance).
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Always see that God is God, and you are not.\\nSometimes Christians can get on a power trip regarding prayer. We start to think that we can change the universe or something through prayer. But ultimately God is in charge. He can grant our requests in prayer, or He can choose to not grant them.\\n1-3. Do something that keeps you humble, such as house cleaning.\\nCleaning, or any kind of work, has a way of humbling us. Working out is a good way to discipline our bodies, and so, then discipline our minds. Try fasting and denying yourself food for a day or so, if you need to work on humility, etc.\\n1-4. Realize that you might be wrong on some things.\\nFor some reason, since Christians have spiritual eyes through the Holy Spirit, we can start to think that we are always right and never wrong. But, it's good to admit that you could possibly be wrong on something.\\n1-5. See and treat others better than yourself.\\nIf you find that it's hard to serve others, ask God for help. Remember that Christ humbly served everyone, even those who were mean to him. Meditate on His humility to help yourself. Realize that every human being alive is created in God's image, so all people have innate value.\\n1-6. Continuously be willing to see your sin.\\nEvery person, Christian or not, sins every day. The Bible says \\\"If anyone says he is without sin, he is a liar.\\\"\\n1-7. Don't boast about what you do for God's kingdom.\\nWhat are something that Christians might boast about? One is having the gift of tongues, if a person has it. Or any other spiritual gift. But, the fact that we all need to realize is that any spiritual gift is from God; it is not of our own doing, so there is no room for boasting. Amen.\\nThere are many other things Christians might boast about; going on a missions trip, serving in the church, teaching Sunday school, feeding the homeless, etc. It's hard to tell if we are doing things for the wrong motives sometimes. Do we serve God to be noticed by others, or do we serve God just to serve God?\\nOngoing self-examination is good for anyone to do. It is always good to consider why we do what we do. Do we do good things for a boost to our own ego; to feel better about ourselves? Are we like the Pharisees and want other people to notice all the good that we do? What would Jesus say then, we have already received our reward. Jesus said when you give to anyone in any way, \\\"don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing.\\\"\\nDo we pray to be seen and heard by men, like the Pharisees did? Or, do we pray because we want to draw closer to God and build our relationship with Him alone? Do we give, and then tell everyone how much we gave and who we gave to, or do we do it without drawing any attention to ourselves? It's hard to give or to pray or to fast, etc. in secret without telling anyone, because our flesh wants others to know all that we are accomplishing for God. Our flesh wants to brag and boast. Our flesh wants to say, \\\"Look at me! Look at how holy I am!\\\" But, is that really being holy?\\nPaul said, \\\"Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or, am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.\\\" (Galatians 1:10). That is a good verse to always keep in mind in your Christian walk.\\n1-8. Never, therefore, seek to please man, certainly not the powerful or rich self-serving people.\\nBut, love is the key. Have mercy on the hungry, cold, hurting and needy children and other people as to or for God. Don't expect any repayment. Only and always seek to please God and God alone. Jesus said:\\n\\\"If you hate, then you are a murderer...\\\" and also \\\"Whatever you do (or do not do) for/to the least of these, you do for/to me.\\\" -- and He even said: \\\"Love (be kind to) those who hate you.\\\" That is hard to do, especially if they are merciless people who think they are serving God by being harsh and unloving, or such.\\nTips\\nIf you find yourself thinking negative or judgmental thoughts about someone, try instead forcing yourself to replace those thoughts with the hope that they are happy. God did not make us to be judgmental about others; that is His job only.\\nWarnings\\nDon't hate yourself and think \\\"That is humility.\\\" Because that is not! True humility is confidence found in Christ alone, not in self (\\\"self-confidence\\\" is probably arrogance).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Often times, Christians struggle in their Christian walk more than they should because of pride. It is pride that makes Christians unable to relate to others as well as we could. It is very easy for Christians to have a lot of spiritual pride if they have done a lot for God. But, here are some tips on how to stay humble as a Christian.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Realize that any gift or ability you may have came from God.\", \"描述\": \"The Bible says \\\"Every good and perfect gift is from above.\\\" God gave you breath. God gave you your personality and talents, etc. God wants you to use your talents, such as can be seen in the parable of the talents, which I think does literally refer to gifts or talents, but God doesn't want us to get prideful about our abilities. \\\"For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast.\\\" (Ephesians 2:8). Salvation is by grace, and sanctification is also by grace. Any progress that we make in our walks with God, any spiritual gift we might receive, is thanks to God's Holy Spirit in us alone. We have nothing to get puffed up or prideful about. It's always all about God and not about us.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Always see that God is God, and you are not.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes Christians can get on a power trip regarding prayer. We start to think that we can change the universe or something through prayer. But ultimately God is in charge. He can grant our requests in prayer, or He can choose to not grant them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do something that keeps you humble, such as house cleaning.\", \"描述\": \"Cleaning, or any kind of work, has a way of humbling us. Working out is a good way to discipline our bodies, and so, then discipline our minds. Try fasting and denying yourself food for a day or so, if you need to work on humility, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Realize that you might be wrong on some things.\", \"描述\": \"For some reason, since Christians have spiritual eyes through the Holy Spirit, we can start to think that we are always right and never wrong. But, it's good to admit that you could possibly be wrong on something.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"See and treat others better than yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If you find that it's hard to serve others, ask God for help. Remember that Christ humbly served everyone, even those who were mean to him. Meditate on His humility to help yourself. Realize that every human being alive is created in God's image, so all people have innate value.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Continuously be willing to see your sin.\", \"描述\": \"Every person, Christian or not, sins every day. 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How to Be a Hygienic Girl at School
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1. Keeping Your Body Clean
1-1. Take showers daily.
Either at night or in the morning, it doesn't matter, as long as you're taking a shower. Make sure you use the proper shampoos and other various hair products. If you are one of the thousands of girls without access to clean, running water, do the best you can to keep clean by washing with water that you've boiled and then allowed to cool to a suitable temperature.
Try to stick to a consistent schedule, such as showering immediately after you wake up, or right after suppertime. This will make it easier to remember. You can bathe or strip wash too. Don't believe old wives tales about not showering or washing your hair while you've got your period. It's okay to wash, shower or bathe as much as you can.
During finals week, if this is applicable to you, or other eventful times, you may want to skip showering. If you do so, don't skip more than one day in a row.
Shaving body hair or facial hair is optional. If you decide to shave, try saving time by shaving in the shower while you let your conditioner set.
1-2. Use deodorant if you feel the need to.
Apply deodorant every morning, and after exercising. You can take a small stick of deodorant in your gym bag if you have P.E. during the day. Experiment with different types of deodorants: solid sticks, gels, sprays, etc. until you find what works best for you. Keep some at home and keep a stick in your gym bag.
Body sprays and perfumes are banned in many schools because they can trigger asthma attacks. Make sure they are allowed at your school before taking them in.
Use an antiperspirant deodorant. It will keep you from sweating as much in the first place.
1-3. Use feminine hygiene products when necessary.
While a napkin or paper towel may be okay in an emergency, they won't do the job nearly as well as something designed specifically for that purpose, if you have access to these products.
1-4. Care for your skin, but remember skin conditions aren't always a sign of poor hygiene.
Moisturizers and creams can help with dryness, itchiness, and flakiness. Here are several solutions to common problems:
Chapstick and lip balm can soothe chapped lips.
Apply an oil-free sunscreen on your face to improve skin health, make makeup base sit better, and reduce wrinkles in the future. The higher the SPF, the better it works.
Cuticle oil will help dry cuticles.
Manage acne with face washing and exfoliating in the shower with a wet washcloth. If your acne is greatly bothering you, consider seeing a dermatologist for a prescription cream.
2. Keeping Your Face and Hair Clean
2-1. Wash your face once a day, whether morning or night, especially if you wore makeup.
Never go to bed without taking your makeup off. Don't use a cleanser or face wash that is particularly oily because it will make your skin greasy. Use a facial scrub and cleanser that is made specifically for your skin type. If you have visible pores, use a face wash that helps minimize your pores and softens skin. Once you've finished washing your face, gently pat your face dry, and apply facial moisturizer to help keep your face soft, moist, and radiant.
2-2. Brush your teeth.
At least after breakfast and dinner, you should brush your teeth. After lunch at school, it is good to brush your teeth, and if you have braces you must clean the brackets. A mouth of plaque is not hygienic at all.
Replace your toothbrush every one to two months.
2-3. Wash your hair regularly.
Clean hair is a must when it comes to good hygiene. Start by washing it two to three times a week, but don't over wash your hair, doing so can lead to your hair getting extremely dry. Keep your hair smelling nice by putting in some leave in- conditioner with a scent (not too strong a scent, this may be irritating to those with allergies). Try to go with a nice, subtle scent so that your hair smells fresh and clean.
2-4. Brush your hair.
You don't have to style it. Brushing it is just fine. Use a brush that actually gets the knots out instead of smoothing them into the rest of your hair. If you use the proper conditioning products and brush your hair as often as needed, you'll have a beautiful, glossy head of hair.
It's a good idea to keep a hairbrush in your locker or backpack so you have one if your hair starts looking knotty or stringy.
3. Keeping Other Forms of Cleanliness
3-1. Keep your clothes clean.
Clothes are important. Wash your clothes every day or at least three times a week (use a scented laundry detergent and fabric softener)! Keep your clothes smelling nice and looking neat, don't settle for a smelly and stained t-shirt. Change your underwear every single day. Either in the morning when you wake up, or at night after you take a shower. This is important in making sure you smell nice and keeping you feeling fresh.
Shirts, dresses, and underpants should be washed after one day of wearing, while pants and sweaters can go two or three days if you don't sweat in them.
3-2. Keep your hands clean.
Germs collect on your hands and can make you get sick. Wash your hands every time after you use the bathroom, and before every meal. In a pinch, use hand sanitizer. If your hands become dry, you can apply lotion to them.
3-3. Remember additional self care rituals.
Some of these may only need to be done on a semi-regular basis.
Clip your nails every week or so, to keep them from getting too long. Long nails can break more easily, and can make typing or playing instruments a pain.
Always comb out and/or brush your hair daily, either before or after showering.
Clean your ears once a week to prevent earwax buildup. This helps keep headphones and earplugs from becoming gross.
If you experience vaginal discharge, place pantyliners in your underpants to avoid stains.
4. Having a Clean Lifestyle
4-1. Act clean, and you'll be clean.
Try to avoid "acting" unhygienic and doing things that are considered filthy (like burping, passing gas loudly, etc.). Don't act out or up because you think it'll get attention. It may be funny at first, but you'll end up regretting it. If you're joking around
4-2. Surround yourself with nice, pleasant people and things.
Don't go to dirty places and don't hang around the dirty parts of your town. Try staying in places that are nice and clean, don't sit in places that may smell and be dirty, as this may lead to you smelling and getting dirt (and grosser things) on you. When walking outdoors, or in a particularly dirty place, always be wary of where you are placing your foot, who knows, you might even step in animal feces or something else.
Tips
It's okay if you goof up and do something unflattering! It happens to all of us, we all make mistakes.
Be confident in yourself. Good hygiene and confidence go together.
Eat a balanced diet, and exercise on at least a semi-regular basis. Incorporating fruits and vegetables will help your body get the vitamins and minerals it needs. Exercise is sort of a magic pill for health: it improves mood, boosts the immune system, and helps you feel confident and capable. Good health equals good looks.
Warnings
Don't change how you are just because you're trying to impress a special someone.
Don't point out how "dirty" someone else is, or how clean you are compared to them. As silly as this sounds, you may come off as stuck up.
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If you decide to shave, try saving time by shaving in the shower while you let your conditioner set.\\n1-2. Use deodorant if you feel the need to.\\nApply deodorant every morning, and after exercising. You can take a small stick of deodorant in your gym bag if you have P.E. during the day. Experiment with different types of deodorants: solid sticks, gels, sprays, etc. until you find what works best for you. Keep some at home and keep a stick in your gym bag.\\nBody sprays and perfumes are banned in many schools because they can trigger asthma attacks. Make sure they are allowed at your school before taking them in.\\nUse an antiperspirant deodorant. It will keep you from sweating as much in the first place.\\n1-3. Use feminine hygiene products when necessary.\\nWhile a napkin or paper towel may be okay in an emergency, they won't do the job nearly as well as something designed specifically for that purpose, if you have access to these products.\\n1-4. Care for your skin, but remember skin conditions aren't always a sign of poor hygiene.\\nMoisturizers and creams can help with dryness, itchiness, and flakiness. Here are several solutions to common problems:\\nChapstick and lip balm can soothe chapped lips.\\nApply an oil-free sunscreen on your face to improve skin health, make makeup base sit better, and reduce wrinkles in the future. The higher the SPF, the better it works.\\nCuticle oil will help dry cuticles.\\nManage acne with face washing and exfoliating in the shower with a wet washcloth. If your acne is greatly bothering you, consider seeing a dermatologist for a prescription cream.\\n2. Keeping Your Face and Hair Clean\\n2-1. Wash your face once a day, whether morning or night, especially if you wore makeup.\\nNever go to bed without taking your makeup off. Don't use a cleanser or face wash that is particularly oily because it will make your skin greasy. Use a facial scrub and cleanser that is made specifically for your skin type. If you have visible pores, use a face wash that helps minimize your pores and softens skin. Once you've finished washing your face, gently pat your face dry, and apply facial moisturizer to help keep your face soft, moist, and radiant.\\n2-2. Brush your teeth.\\nAt least after breakfast and dinner, you should brush your teeth. After lunch at school, it is good to brush your teeth, and if you have braces you must clean the brackets. A mouth of plaque is not hygienic at all.\\nReplace your toothbrush every one to two months.\\n2-3. Wash your hair regularly.\\nClean hair is a must when it comes to good hygiene. Start by washing it two to three times a week, but don't over wash your hair, doing so can lead to your hair getting extremely dry. Keep your hair smelling nice by putting in some leave in- conditioner with a scent (not too strong a scent, this may be irritating to those with allergies). Try to go with a nice, subtle scent so that your hair smells fresh and clean.\\n2-4. Brush your hair.\\nYou don't have to style it. Brushing it is just fine. Use a brush that actually gets the knots out instead of smoothing them into the rest of your hair. If you use the proper conditioning products and brush your hair as often as needed, you'll have a beautiful, glossy head of hair.\\nIt's a good idea to keep a hairbrush in your locker or backpack so you have one if your hair starts looking knotty or stringy.\\n3. Keeping Other Forms of Cleanliness\\n3-1. Keep your clothes clean.\\nClothes are important. Wash your clothes every day or at least three times a week (use a scented laundry detergent and fabric softener)! Keep your clothes smelling nice and looking neat, don't settle for a smelly and stained t-shirt. Change your underwear every single day. Either in the morning when you wake up, or at night after you take a shower. This is important in making sure you smell nice and keeping you feeling fresh.\\nShirts, dresses, and underpants should be washed after one day of wearing, while pants and sweaters can go two or three days if you don't sweat in them.\\n3-2. Keep your hands clean.\\nGerms collect on your hands and can make you get sick. Wash your hands every time after you use the bathroom, and before every meal. In a pinch, use hand sanitizer. If your hands become dry, you can apply lotion to them.\\n3-3. Remember additional self care rituals.\\nSome of these may only need to be done on a semi-regular basis.\\nClip your nails every week or so, to keep them from getting too long. Long nails can break more easily, and can make typing or playing instruments a pain.\\nAlways comb out and/or brush your hair daily, either before or after showering.\\nClean your ears once a week to prevent earwax buildup. This helps keep headphones and earplugs from becoming gross.\\nIf you experience vaginal discharge, place pantyliners in your underpants to avoid stains.\\n4. Having a Clean Lifestyle\\n4-1. Act clean, and you'll be clean.\\nTry to avoid \\\"acting\\\" unhygienic and doing things that are considered filthy (like burping, passing gas loudly, etc.). Don't act out or up because you think it'll get attention. It may be funny at first, but you'll end up regretting it. If you're joking around\\n4-2. Surround yourself with nice, pleasant people and things.\\nDon't go to dirty places and don't hang around the dirty parts of your town. Try staying in places that are nice and clean, don't sit in places that may smell and be dirty, as this may lead to you smelling and getting dirt (and grosser things) on you. When walking outdoors, or in a particularly dirty place, always be wary of where you are placing your foot, who knows, you might even step in animal feces or something else.\\nTips\\nIt's okay if you goof up and do something unflattering! It happens to all of us, we all make mistakes.\\nBe confident in yourself. Good hygiene and confidence go together.\\nEat a balanced diet, and exercise on at least a semi-regular basis. Incorporating fruits and vegetables will help your body get the vitamins and minerals it needs. Exercise is sort of a magic pill for health: it improves mood, boosts the immune system, and helps you feel confident and capable. Good health equals good looks.\\nWarnings\\nDon't change how you are just because you're trying to impress a special someone.\\nDon't point out how \\\"dirty\\\" someone else is, or how clean you are compared to them. 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Either in the morning when you wake up, or at night after you take a shower. This is important in making sure you smell nice and keeping you feeling fresh.\\nShirts, dresses, and underpants should be washed after one day of wearing, while pants and sweaters can go two or three days if you don't sweat in them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your hands clean.\", \"描述\": \"Germs collect on your hands and can make you get sick. Wash your hands every time after you use the bathroom, and before every meal. In a pinch, use hand sanitizer. If your hands become dry, you can apply lotion to them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remember additional self care rituals.\", \"描述\": \"Some of these may only need to be done on a semi-regular basis.\\nClip your nails every week or so, to keep them from getting too long. Long nails can break more easily, and can make typing or playing instruments a pain.\\nAlways comb out and/or brush your hair daily, either before or after showering.\\nClean your ears once a week to prevent earwax buildup. This helps keep headphones and earplugs from becoming gross.\\nIf you experience vaginal discharge, place pantyliners in your underpants to avoid stains.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Having a Clean Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Act clean, and you'll be clean.\", \"描述\": \"Try to avoid \\\"acting\\\" unhygienic and doing things that are considered filthy (like burping, passing gas loudly, etc.). Don't act out or up because you think it'll get attention. It may be funny at first, but you'll end up regretting it. If you're joking around\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with nice, pleasant people and things.\", \"描述\": \"Don't go to dirty places and don't hang around the dirty parts of your town. Try staying in places that are nice and clean, don't sit in places that may smell and be dirty, as this may lead to you smelling and getting dirt (and grosser things) on you. When walking outdoors, or in a particularly dirty place, always be wary of where you are placing your foot, who knows, you might even step in animal feces or something else.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"It's okay if you goof up and do something unflattering! It happens to all of us, we all make mistakes.\\n\", \"Be confident in yourself. Good hygiene and confidence go together.\\n\", \"Eat a balanced diet, and exercise on at least a semi-regular basis. Incorporating fruits and vegetables will help your body get the vitamins and minerals it needs. Exercise is sort of a magic pill for health: it improves mood, boosts the immune system, and helps you feel confident and capable. Good health equals good looks.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't change how you are just because you're trying to impress a special someone.\\n\", \"Don't point out how \\\"dirty\\\" someone else is, or how clean you are compared to them. As silly as this sounds, you may come off as stuck up.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Hygienic Teenage Girl
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1. Steps
1-1. Shower, wash or bathe every day.
Showering, washing or bathing keeps you clean and fresh smelling, so even if you don't feel like it, remember to clean your whole body every day. Make sure to wash your feet well and your armpits.
1-2. Consider removing hair from your legs, face, armpits, or any other part of your body you think needs to be hairless to be hygenic.
Body hair is not unhygienic, men have it, and a lot of them are hygenic! You don't have to shave to be hygenic. It is a very personal thing, you should shave whenever you think it's time to and whatever you think you should shave. Use shaving cream or soap - never try to shave without shaving cream or soap, as it can lead to irritation, nicks, and little red bumps, which you don't want. If you want any part of your body to be hairless, you can wax, thread, epilate, pluck or use hair removal creams.
You can apply oil to remove wax from skin.
It helps to reduce the stickiness of wax.
1-3. Have good oral hygiene.
Clean your teeth, use floss. Use mouthwash, see a dentist regularly. Keep your breath fresh.
1-4. Consider wearing deodorant or antiperspirant every day.
Smelling good does not make you hygenic, but, if you smell bad, you may have a hygiene issue. If you wash sweat from your body before it becomes stale and stinky, you can consider yourself hygenic. This is very practical though, using antiperspirant so you don't sweat. You can also wear perfume, eau de cologne, eau de toilette, scented moisturiser or body spray to smell fragrant - this is optional. If you have asthma triggered by products, avoid these products.
1-5. Wear clean clothes.
There is no point in having a hygienic body if you dress in dirty clothes - it'll just make you stink and look unkempt.
1-6. Wash your hair whenever you feel that it's necessary.
Washing your hair every day will strip your hair and scalp of the natural oils it needs to stay hydrated. Use shampoo made especially for your hair type, and never skip conditioner. You can also straighten or curl if you want but the look of your hair has absolutely nothing to do with how clean you are.
1-7. Trim your nails so that dirt does not build up under them.
Do not bite, lick or pick at your nails. Nail polish is optional, but try not to paint your nails more than twice a month, as this can lead to the yellowing and weakening of your nails which whilst not unhygienic is unsightly.
1-8. Keep your face hygenic.
Gentle soap and water and never going to bed with makeup on is enough to have a hygenic face. If you're interested in looking after the appearance of the skin on your face beyond hygiene you can:
Use a cleanser recommended for your skin type. Put a small amount of face cleanser on your hands, about the size of a nickel, and rub some on your wet hands. Use a product that is gentle enough for your skin, because something that's too strong will just dry the skin out and stimulate the oil glands to produce more oil - you're trying to remove oil and retain moisture at the same time. Do not use soap - it's too strong, and can't be rinsed easily.
Using your fingertips, massage the cleanser all over your face, removing any dirt and oil. Take thirty seconds or so, concentrating on first the hairline, then paying special attention to the "T-zone" (forehead, nose, and nostril area), then around the mouth and chin, then cheeks. Cleanse the neck using upward strokes. You have oil glands behind your ears, so don't neglect that area. It's messy, but do it anyway. When you're fifty, you will be glad you went to the trouble to help your mature skin look its best. Rinse your face with warm water and pat it dry with a soft towel.
Moisturizer is a very good thing. You have just washed off dirt and oil, and a moisturizer will help keep the moisture in the surface cells, which promotes a more youthful looking complexion - plus it feels great.
1-9. Adopt healthy habits.
Wash your hands before eating. Don't pick you nose. Keep piercings clean. Don't pick scabs. Wash your hands after going to the toilet, every single time. Always use cover your mouth when you cover and always sneeze into a tissue or handkerchief. Never spit. Keep your body free of unhygienic substances. Change your clothes whenever they become soiled.
Tips
Always shower after exercise! Nobody likes the smell of sweat!
Always brush your teeth and comb your hair at least twice a day. You don't want to look like a mess!
Don't forget to thoroughly wash all of your conditioner out. If you don't it can lead to oily hair and residue.
Warnings
Don't use too much perfume - one or two sprays will do. By spraying in front of you 2-3 times and then walking through the spray three seconds later, you will have just the right amount of perfume on.
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If you want any part of your body to be hairless, you can wax, thread, epilate, pluck or use hair removal creams.\\nYou can apply oil to remove wax from skin.\\nIt helps to reduce the stickiness of wax.\\n1-3. Have good oral hygiene.\\nClean your teeth, use floss. Use mouthwash, see a dentist regularly. Keep your breath fresh.\\n1-4. Consider wearing deodorant or antiperspirant every day.\\nSmelling good does not make you hygenic, but, if you smell bad, you may have a hygiene issue. If you wash sweat from your body before it becomes stale and stinky, you can consider yourself hygenic. This is very practical though, using antiperspirant so you don't sweat. You can also wear perfume, eau de cologne, eau de toilette, scented moisturiser or body spray to smell fragrant - this is optional. If you have asthma triggered by products, avoid these products.\\n1-5. Wear clean clothes.\\nThere is no point in having a hygienic body if you dress in dirty clothes - it'll just make you stink and look unkempt.\\n1-6. Wash your hair whenever you feel that it's necessary.\\nWashing your hair every day will strip your hair and scalp of the natural oils it needs to stay hydrated. Use shampoo made especially for your hair type, and never skip conditioner. You can also straighten or curl if you want but the look of your hair has absolutely nothing to do with how clean you are.\\n1-7. Trim your nails so that dirt does not build up under them.\\nDo not bite, lick or pick at your nails. Nail polish is optional, but try not to paint your nails more than twice a month, as this can lead to the yellowing and weakening of your nails which whilst not unhygienic is unsightly.\\n1-8. Keep your face hygenic.\\nGentle soap and water and never going to bed with makeup on is enough to have a hygenic face. If you're interested in looking after the appearance of the skin on your face beyond hygiene you can:\\nUse a cleanser recommended for your skin type. Put a small amount of face cleanser on your hands, about the size of a nickel, and rub some on your wet hands. Use a product that is gentle enough for your skin, because something that's too strong will just dry the skin out and stimulate the oil glands to produce more oil - you're trying to remove oil and retain moisture at the same time. Do not use soap - it's too strong, and can't be rinsed easily.\\nUsing your fingertips, massage the cleanser all over your face, removing any dirt and oil. Take thirty seconds or so, concentrating on first the hairline, then paying special attention to the \\\"T-zone\\\" (forehead, nose, and nostril area), then around the mouth and chin, then cheeks. Cleanse the neck using upward strokes. You have oil glands behind your ears, so don't neglect that area. It's messy, but do it anyway. When you're fifty, you will be glad you went to the trouble to help your mature skin look its best. Rinse your face with warm water and pat it dry with a soft towel.\\nMoisturizer is a very good thing. You have just washed off dirt and oil, and a moisturizer will help keep the moisture in the surface cells, which promotes a more youthful looking complexion - plus it feels great.\\n1-9. Adopt healthy habits.\\nWash your hands before eating. Don't pick you nose. Keep piercings clean. Don't pick scabs. Wash your hands after going to the toilet, every single time. Always use cover your mouth when you cover and always sneeze into a tissue or handkerchief. Never spit. Keep your body free of unhygienic substances. Change your clothes whenever they become soiled.\\nTips\\nAlways shower after exercise! Nobody likes the smell of sweat!\\nAlways brush your teeth and comb your hair at least twice a day. You don't want to look like a mess!\\nDon't forget to thoroughly wash all of your conditioner out. If you don't it can lead to oily hair and residue.\\nWarnings\\nDon't use too much perfume - one or two sprays will do. By spraying in front of you 2-3 times and then walking through the spray three seconds later, you will have just the right amount of perfume on.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Every teenage girl wants to be hygienic, but some girls don't know where to start. Read this article to learn how to be hygienic.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Shower, wash or bathe every day.\", \"描述\": \"Showering, washing or bathing keeps you clean and fresh smelling, so even if you don't feel like it, remember to clean your whole body every day. 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How to Be a Jain
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1. Steps
1-1. Learn Jainism:
Jainism is an ancient philosophy from India. Jainism /ˈdʒeɪnɪzᵊm/, traditionally known as Jaina dharma, is an Indian religion that prescribes a path of non-violence towards all living beings and emphasises spiritual independence and equality between all forms of life. The essence of Jainism is concern for the welfare of every being in the universe. Practitioners believe that non-violence and self-control are the means by which they can obtain liberation. Currently, Jainism is divided into two major sects - Digambara and Śvetambara. The word Jainism is derived from a Sanskrit verb Jin which means to conquer. It refers to a battle with the passions and bodily pleasures that the Jaina ascetics undertake. Those who win this battle are termed as Jina (conqueror). The term Jaina is thus used to refer to laymen and ascetics of this tradition alike.
1-2. Learn the five core beliefs:
An essential aspect of Jainism is the ascetic lifestyle. Monks and nuns undertake the ascetic life full-time and take the "Five Great Vows":
. You can do this by practicing non-violence for every being, including an animal, person or even an ant. They all have soul, and karma to go along with it. To kill that being takes away its chances to rid itself of its karma. Therefore, Jains practice vegetarianism. They do not eat Meat/Seafood/Eggs e.g. chicken, cows, sheep, steak, fish or any food that comes from killing a living being. They don't even eat honey or wear clothes made out of animal skin. It may be hard to follow this if you have eaten meat all your life, but you can take baby steps and start with first, discontinuing seafood. A week later meat then chicken and so on. Jains also do not eat root vegetables (garlic, onions, potatoes, carrots etc) as they kill the entire plant and lots of other lives in the form of micro-organisms on these vegetables. The belief of non-violence should not be only for animals, but it should be extended towards humans as well. Please watch your words. It is said that a wound can heal itself but harsh words are rarely forgotten and can hurt far worse.
. No matter what, always say the truth also keep in mind that if that truth is going to hurt someone, then remain silent.
. If it's not yours, don't take it. Simple as that. Resist temptation.
. Abstinence from sex. You can contribute to this by at least avoiding masturbation and having non-marital sex. Also avoid drinking alcohol or smoking.
. Try to restrict the objects you need to live. By doing so you will reduce the dependency on those objects and gradually reduce the need to use them for your survival.
1-3. Perform the six essential duties prescribed for a śrāvaka (householder).
These help one in achieving the principle of ahimsa which is necessary for his/her spiritual upliftment. The six duties are:
Worship of Pañca-Parameṣṭhi (five supreme beings)
Following the preachings of Jain saints.
Study of Jain scriptures
Samayik (Meditation)-Meditation in Jainism aims at realizing the self, attain salvation, take the soul to complete freedom. It aims to reach and to remain in the pure state of soul which is believed to be pure conscious, beyond any attachment or aversion. The practitioner strives to be just a knower-seer.
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Following discipline in their daily engagement
Charity (dāna) of four kinds:
Ahara-dāna- donation of food
Ausadha-dāna- donation of medicine
Jnana-dāna- donation of knowledge
Abhaya-dāna- saving the life of a living being or giving of protection to someone under threat
1-4. Know about Jain holy books and monks:
The Jain holy books are called 'Jinvani' and has everything about Jainism in it. Remember that this is the oldest religion on Earth, therefore none of it is just wrong. Even what the scientists are finding now was written in these books years ago. Talking about the Jain monks, they are called 'Sadhus' and are really great religion followers. While Svetambara Sadhus wear a single white cotton cloth, Digambara sadhus don't wear anything. They remain barefoot and have no relations with their past families.They don't live in a house and can't take any means of transport.They eat only once in a day, and even this is only if a Jain person invites them at home.
1-5. Chant the mantras and do pujas:
In Jainism, the most important mantra is 'Navkar' or 'Namokar' mantra. Jain people follow an exact way of offering different things known as puja. They also offer pure water along with many other pure liquids simultaneously when chanting mantras. These are known as 'Abhishek.'
1-6. Visit temples and holy places.
You can look for all these places on the wikipedia. But the most important holy place is the 'Shikharji'. This is a very sacred place and any jain will go over there, irrespective of being digambara or svetambara. Moreover, visiting there relaxes minds. Shikharji is a huge mountain and you have to climb up barefoot.
1-7. Follow some rules of remaining pure.
This is for the girls and women who have their menstrual cycle. During this period, the girls should not touch anyone nor touch any place that is related to god or anything made out of cloth or fabric. Even not going into the kitchen. If someone touches you, that person has to immediately go and have bathe. This should be at least for 3 days, but going in front of god is only once you become clean.
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1. Excelling in Sports
1-1. Determine which sport(s) you want to play.
Maybe the most important step to being a jock is being an athlete. Typically jocks are associated with high school and college football, although basketball and wrestling are also common choices. Participate in pick up games at local parks, or organize friends to play together. Ask team coaches to let you work out and practice with a team. Once you know which one suits you best, try out for your school team.
When picking a sport, ask yourself these questions: Which sport do I have the most fun playing? Is my body type right for this? What are my natural physical talents? What are my friends playing?
More sports to consider playing include cheerleading, dance, water polo, volleyball, gymnastics, swimming, diving, softball, rugby, lacrosse, tennis, and golf.
1-2. Try out for your school's team.
After figuring out which sport suits your talents and joys most, go to the school try-outs. Coaches post information about try-out dates and locations, typically in the gym. You can ask coaches or even other athletes for more information about what equipment or special clothing you need to bring. Make sure you come prepared.
Talk with older students who are already on the team for specific information about what exercises or tests will be a part of try-outs.
Most sports are seasonal (i.e. basketball is in winter and football in summer). You can possibly play for multiple teams.
If you don't make the cut for one team, don't be discouraged. You can try out for another sport. Some teams, like Track & Field, commonly accept most applicants. Even if it's not your first choice, it's an excellent way to build yourself up as an athlete and make it more likely you're chosen next season.
1-3. Join a recreational league.
If your school doesn't have the sport you're interested in, or you're not chosen but feel committed to a particular sport, this is a great option. Many cities have organized sports leagues for players of all ages and talent levels. Some are more competitive than others and require traveling greater distances for games. Talk with other jocks as well as coaches to learn more about each league's reputation.
Go to a game just to watch and see if you like the level of competitiveness.
See if your friends are interested in putting together a team. If you have enough people for the sport, it is common for large groups of friends and acquaintances to form their own squad.
1-4. Attend all practices and scrimmages.
It is often said that practice makes perfect. In order to become a better athlete/jock, you need to consistently put in effort. Learn to acknowledge and hone your strengths while understanding and improving upon your weaknesses. Work with your coach; good coaches will help you excel and find the right position for you in any sport.
Practice is the place to try out different roles on a team to figure out which one suits you best. Each sport has a number of positions with different responsibilities and skill sets; explore your talents as an athlete.
Scrimmages are friendly matches where team members play one another. Use these opportunities to take individual risks as well as develop your awareness of how to work as a team. Generally, scrimmages are not played full force to avoid injury.
1-5. Study sports strategies.
Whether it is football plays or soccer formations, any sport you play will have theories on how to best face an opponent. Take the time to train your brain as much as your body and it will pay off come game time.
Talk with older, more experienced players on the team(s) you join.
Read books on tactics specific to your sport.
Learn the philosophies of athletes famous for their skill and victories.
1-6. Work out.
Physical strength is one of the main characteristics of jocks. Those who are taller, heavier, and more muscular are most likely to be considered top picks for sports teams. If you join a sports team, you may be working out as a team on a regular basis. Spend time learning different exercises to build the various muscle groups so your whole body becomes stronger.
Athletes need to eat anywhere from 2,500 to 3,500 calories a day. Eat a balanced diet of vegetables, fruit, grains, and protein to build muscle and stay healthy.
Get a gym membership. Part of being a jock is identifying with the sports you play and with working out in general. If you'd like to take your effort beyond what you do on a team, or if your team doesn't work out together, join a gym and work out alone.
Lunge jumps, squat jumps, burpees, star jumps, knee drive hops, hop overs and broad jumps are some exercises you can do at home with little to no equipment!
Resistance bands are a great way to up-level your workouts and add serious weight at home without needing to build a full home gym. Adjustable dumbbells also can help you save space while still adding significant weights to your training sessions.
1-7. Play in competitive matches.
Even if you are a new player, ask your coach to give you as much active time in games/matches as possible. Make a sincere effort every game and maintain awareness of your teammates so you can work together. Respect your opponents as equals and enjoy yourself. If you win, show humility in your victory, and if you lose, remain gracious in defeat.
The more you improve through training and live games, the more likely you will be selected to play and possibly start (be chosen to play at the beginning of a game).
2. Being Social
2-1. Be confident
Know that you are an important, strong, capable person, and show that in your interactions with others. Walk, stand and sit with correct posture. Don't talk down about yourself. Research shows that people who play on varsity sports teams for their schools show greater self-confidence, self-respect, and leadership.
Participation in group sports will help you be confident. Research shows it leads to many characteristics, including courage, honesty, integrity, perseverance, fairness, cooperation, and respect.
2-2. Befriend many of your peers.
Jocks are notoriously popular. This comes with confidence, kindness, and openness. Talk to a wide variety of people in your school. Often times there are different social cliques based on mutual interests and/or cultural groups. Make an effort to talk to different people so that you develop a balanced understanding of your social world. This will also show people you are approachable and nonjudgmental.
Spend time in and out of school cultivating friendships with the people you care about most.
It's important to build camaraderie with your teammates on and off the field. Take the time to get to know your team so that your chemistry improves.
Keep in mind that not every person can be your best friend. It's acceptable to establish boundaries with people and have different levels of closeness. If you are kind and honest, often times people will end up respecting you for it.
2-3. Go to parties and celebrations.
When your peers celebrate birthdays, team victories, major school events (i.e. prom, homecoming), or are simply hosting an event to have fun and socialize, be sure to attend. Jocks are athletes first, but just as importantly they have active and engaging social lives. Be a source of cheer, spirit, and respectfulness among your friends; bring gifts if it's appropriate for the occasion and join in any fun and games.
Although the numbers are declining in recent years, it is still common for athletes to drink alcohol, often in excess. Keep in mind it is illegal to drink under the age of 21. Also, alcohol has a negative effect on your health and performance as an athlete.
2-4. Date other athletes.
Dating shows you have the confidence to approach people and be vulnerable. Dating fellow athletes will multiply your appearance as cool and important. The jock identity is used a majority of the time to describe men, but some women also identify as jocks. For both men and women, dating another athlete will increase your social standing.
US and UK sports culture are sometimes associated with homophobia and misogyny. However, it's best not to follow all generalizations. Even though dating someone of the same sex as you might not win the same approval and affirmation of your jock identity as being in a heterosexual couple, it's important to never deny part of who you are for other people's approval.
Professional athletes like Michael Sam are beginning to publicly come out as gay. The public association of athletes and jocks with homophobia may be decreasing.
2-5. Cultivate positive relationships with adults.
Being a jock also means being a leader, and this is far easier to accomplish with the guidance of elders. Look for adults you admire; this could be your coach, teachers, and other members of your community at large. Talk to them one-on-one about your life, the challenges you face, and learn what you can about how to live with grace, courage, and happiness.
Expanding your social life beyond your peers will expand your perspective and help you navigate the different worlds in which you spend your time.
Share the advice you receive with your peers when you feel they can benefit.
2-6. Join school pep rallies.
Pep rallies are common in middle and high schools. Students often gather in gym bleachers separated by graduation year and cheer on each sports team as they enter the building. Once you have joined a school team, be sure to show up in uniform to represent during the pep rally. This is an opportunity to build morale, school pride, and optimism.
Often times pep rallies are competitions to see which class can be the loudest. Come with plenty of energy and pump up your classmates.
3. Maintaining Jock Interests
3-1. Build healthy aggression
Jocks are generally more likely to be aggressive than their peers.
Aggression is not an entirely negative trait, and can have much more to do with direct expression than bullying others. Develop your ability to boldly speak your mind, while also showing respect to others.
The sports you play will teach you what healthy aggression feels and looks like.
Generally speaking, aggression is not wrong. However, like bullying, if you direct it at the weak and/or innocent, you can expect punishment, judgment and unhappiness within yourself.
3-2. Dress like a jock.
Clothing made specifically for athletes is always a good choice for anyone wanting to be a jock. If you join a sports team, wearing team jerseys and apparel is a stylish choice. This will increase your appearance as an athlete.
Hoodies, t-shirts, pullover jackets, and jerseys are stylistic norms that can fill an entire week of jock outfits. Be sure to pair them with jeans and tennis shoes. Do not tuck in your shirts; this is similar to “nerd” looks.
Letterman jackets are the pinnacle of jock style because they show you have achieved a level of accomplishment within your chosen sport.
3-3. Watch sports.
When you're not playing, practicing, or studying, spend time enjoying the sports you love. Pick a team or player(s) to support, and follow them through a whole season. Gather at your home, friends' homes, or even restaurants and sports bars to watch games communally. Plan ahead of time so people have time to gather any supplies they need.
Purchase jerseys and other paraphernalia of the team you support to show your pride.
Organize a potluck where everyone who wants to watch a game brings one snack or dish for everyone to eat.
Find tickets and go to a see a professional game to experience the fervor and excitement of a live match.
Also watch sports analysis programs on networks like ESPN, FSN, and major network broadcasts of sports events to develop your understanding of the game.
3-4. Join in fantasy sports leagues.
Organize a group of friends/athletes/people interested in sports to create a fantasy league together. Learn to pick players based on consistent productivity and skill; develop a wider understanding of the professional leagues of whatever sport you enjoy. This will encourage your tactical understanding of the game and give you a feel of what it's like to be a coach.
While it is illegal to bet on real games, betting on fantasy sports is legal in the US because it is a game of skill. If you are a minor, make sure to consult your parent/guardian before betting anything.
3-5. Learn about college and professional players.
Much of the conversation between athletes can be about specific players, their talents, weaknesses, and even their social lives as revealed in the media. Read sports websites, watch sports programs on TV, and follow the careers of your favorite athletes and teams.
Watching/reading interviews of talented athletes may give you a clue about the character traits that help someone become a top level jock.
Tips
Never display a lack of confidence in your school, don't say nerdy things like "This school sucks" and "We lose at everything" and "Everyone here is a loser". Be positive and have lots of spirit!
Don't get caught hazing or bullying
School shirts are cool.
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Coaches post information about try-out dates and locations, typically in the gym. You can ask coaches or even other athletes for more information about what equipment or special clothing you need to bring. Make sure you come prepared.\\nTalk with older students who are already on the team for specific information about what exercises or tests will be a part of try-outs.\\nMost sports are seasonal (i.e. basketball is in winter and football in summer). You can possibly play for multiple teams.\\nIf you don't make the cut for one team, don't be discouraged. You can try out for another sport. Some teams, like Track & Field, commonly accept most applicants. Even if it's not your first choice, it's an excellent way to build yourself up as an athlete and make it more likely you're chosen next season.\\n1-3. Join a recreational league.\\nIf your school doesn't have the sport you're interested in, or you're not chosen but feel committed to a particular sport, this is a great option. Many cities have organized sports leagues for players of all ages and talent levels. Some are more competitive than others and require traveling greater distances for games. Talk with other jocks as well as coaches to learn more about each league's reputation.\\nGo to a game just to watch and see if you like the level of competitiveness.\\nSee if your friends are interested in putting together a team. If you have enough people for the sport, it is common for large groups of friends and acquaintances to form their own squad.\\n1-4. Attend all practices and scrimmages.\\nIt is often said that practice makes perfect. In order to become a better athlete/jock, you need to consistently put in effort. Learn to acknowledge and hone your strengths while understanding and improving upon your weaknesses. Work with your coach; good coaches will help you excel and find the right position for you in any sport.\\nPractice is the place to try out different roles on a team to figure out which one suits you best. Each sport has a number of positions with different responsibilities and skill sets; explore your talents as an athlete.\\nScrimmages are friendly matches where team members play one another. Use these opportunities to take individual risks as well as develop your awareness of how to work as a team. Generally, scrimmages are not played full force to avoid injury.\\n1-5. Study sports strategies.\\nWhether it is football plays or soccer formations, any sport you play will have theories on how to best face an opponent. Take the time to train your brain as much as your body and it will pay off come game time. \\nTalk with older, more experienced players on the team(s) you join.\\nRead books on tactics specific to your sport.\\nLearn the philosophies of athletes famous for their skill and victories.\\n1-6. Work out.\\nPhysical strength is one of the main characteristics of jocks. Those who are taller, heavier, and more muscular are most likely to be considered top picks for sports teams. If you join a sports team, you may be working out as a team on a regular basis. Spend time learning different exercises to build the various muscle groups so your whole body becomes stronger.\\nAthletes need to eat anywhere from 2,500 to 3,500 calories a day. Eat a balanced diet of vegetables, fruit, grains, and protein to build muscle and stay healthy.\\nGet a gym membership. Part of being a jock is identifying with the sports you play and with working out in general. If you'd like to take your effort beyond what you do on a team, or if your team doesn't work out together, join a gym and work out alone.\\nLunge jumps, squat jumps, burpees, star jumps, knee drive hops, hop overs and broad jumps are some exercises you can do at home with little to no equipment!\\nResistance bands are a great way to up-level your workouts and add serious weight at home without needing to build a full home gym. Adjustable dumbbells also can help you save space while still adding significant weights to your training sessions.\\n1-7. Play in competitive matches.\\nEven if you are a new player, ask your coach to give you as much active time in games/matches as possible. Make a sincere effort every game and maintain awareness of your teammates so you can work together. Respect your opponents as equals and enjoy yourself. If you win, show humility in your victory, and if you lose, remain gracious in defeat. \\nThe more you improve through training and live games, the more likely you will be selected to play and possibly start (be chosen to play at the beginning of a game).\\n2. Being Social\\n2-1. Be confident\\nKnow that you are an important, strong, capable person, and show that in your interactions with others. Walk, stand and sit with correct posture. Don't talk down about yourself. Research shows that people who play on varsity sports teams for their schools show greater self-confidence, self-respect, and leadership.\\nParticipation in group sports will help you be confident. Research shows it leads to many characteristics, including courage, honesty, integrity, perseverance, fairness, cooperation, and respect.\\n2-2. Befriend many of your peers.\\nJocks are notoriously popular. This comes with confidence, kindness, and openness. Talk to a wide variety of people in your school. Often times there are different social cliques based on mutual interests and/or cultural groups. Make an effort to talk to different people so that you develop a balanced understanding of your social world. This will also show people you are approachable and nonjudgmental. \\nSpend time in and out of school cultivating friendships with the people you care about most.\\nIt's important to build camaraderie with your teammates on and off the field. Take the time to get to know your team so that your chemistry improves.\\nKeep in mind that not every person can be your best friend. It's acceptable to establish boundaries with people and have different levels of closeness. If you are kind and honest, often times people will end up respecting you for it.\\n2-3. Go to parties and celebrations.\\nWhen your peers celebrate birthdays, team victories, major school events (i.e. prom, homecoming), or are simply hosting an event to have fun and socialize, be sure to attend. Jocks are athletes first, but just as importantly they have active and engaging social lives. Be a source of cheer, spirit, and respectfulness among your friends; bring gifts if it's appropriate for the occasion and join in any fun and games.\\nAlthough the numbers are declining in recent years, it is still common for athletes to drink alcohol, often in excess. Keep in mind it is illegal to drink under the age of 21. Also, alcohol has a negative effect on your health and performance as an athlete.\\n2-4. Date other athletes.\\nDating shows you have the confidence to approach people and be vulnerable. Dating fellow athletes will multiply your appearance as cool and important. The jock identity is used a majority of the time to describe men, but some women also identify as jocks. For both men and women, dating another athlete will increase your social standing. \\nUS and UK sports culture are sometimes associated with homophobia and misogyny. However, it's best not to follow all generalizations. Even though dating someone of the same sex as you might not win the same approval and affirmation of your jock identity as being in a heterosexual couple, it's important to never deny part of who you are for other people's approval.\\nProfessional athletes like Michael Sam are beginning to publicly come out as gay. The public association of athletes and jocks with homophobia may be decreasing.\\n2-5. Cultivate positive relationships with adults.\\nBeing a jock also means being a leader, and this is far easier to accomplish with the guidance of elders. Look for adults you admire; this could be your coach, teachers, and other members of your community at large. Talk to them one-on-one about your life, the challenges you face, and learn what you can about how to live with grace, courage, and happiness.\\nExpanding your social life beyond your peers will expand your perspective and help you navigate the different worlds in which you spend your time.\\nShare the advice you receive with your peers when you feel they can benefit.\\n2-6. Join school pep rallies.\\nPep rallies are common in middle and high schools. Students often gather in gym bleachers separated by graduation year and cheer on each sports team as they enter the building. Once you have joined a school team, be sure to show up in uniform to represent during the pep rally. This is an opportunity to build morale, school pride, and optimism.\\nOften times pep rallies are competitions to see which class can be the loudest. Come with plenty of energy and pump up your classmates.\\n3. Maintaining Jock Interests\\n3-1. Build healthy aggression\\nJocks are generally more likely to be aggressive than their peers.\\n Aggression is not an entirely negative trait, and can have much more to do with direct expression than bullying others. Develop your ability to boldly speak your mind, while also showing respect to others.\\nThe sports you play will teach you what healthy aggression feels and looks like.\\nGenerally speaking, aggression is not wrong. However, like bullying, if you direct it at the weak and/or innocent, you can expect punishment, judgment and unhappiness within yourself.\\n3-2. Dress like a jock.\\nClothing made specifically for athletes is always a good choice for anyone wanting to be a jock. If you join a sports team, wearing team jerseys and apparel is a stylish choice. This will increase your appearance as an athlete.\\nHoodies, t-shirts, pullover jackets, and jerseys are stylistic norms that can fill an entire week of jock outfits. Be sure to pair them with jeans and tennis shoes. Do not tuck in your shirts; this is similar to “nerd” looks.\\nLetterman jackets are the pinnacle of jock style because they show you have achieved a level of accomplishment within your chosen sport.\\n3-3. Watch sports.\\nWhen you're not playing, practicing, or studying, spend time enjoying the sports you love. Pick a team or player(s) to support, and follow them through a whole season. Gather at your home, friends' homes, or even restaurants and sports bars to watch games communally. Plan ahead of time so people have time to gather any supplies they need.\\nPurchase jerseys and other paraphernalia of the team you support to show your pride.\\nOrganize a potluck where everyone who wants to watch a game brings one snack or dish for everyone to eat.\\nFind tickets and go to a see a professional game to experience the fervor and excitement of a live match.\\nAlso watch sports analysis programs on networks like ESPN, FSN, and major network broadcasts of sports events to develop your understanding of the game.\\n3-4. Join in fantasy sports leagues.\\nOrganize a group of friends/athletes/people interested in sports to create a fantasy league together. Learn to pick players based on consistent productivity and skill; develop a wider understanding of the professional leagues of whatever sport you enjoy. This will encourage your tactical understanding of the game and give you a feel of what it's like to be a coach.\\nWhile it is illegal to bet on real games, betting on fantasy sports is legal in the US because it is a game of skill. If you are a minor, make sure to consult your parent/guardian before betting anything.\\n3-5. Learn about college and professional players.\\nMuch of the conversation between athletes can be about specific players, their talents, weaknesses, and even their social lives as revealed in the media. Read sports websites, watch sports programs on TV, and follow the careers of your favorite athletes and teams. \\nWatching/reading interviews of talented athletes may give you a clue about the character traits that help someone become a top level jock.\\nTips\\nNever display a lack of confidence in your school, don't say nerdy things like \\\"This school sucks\\\" and \\\"We lose at everything\\\" and \\\"Everyone here is a loser\\\". Be positive and have lots of spirit!\\nDon't get caught hazing or bullying\\nSchool shirts are cool.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Jocks play sports to learn self-confidence, teamwork, and leadership. Also, they often stand out as social leaders in their schools. If you're willing to dedicate to a sport and positively develop your social life, you're already on the right track.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Excelling in Sports\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Determine which sport(s) you want to play.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe the most important step to being a jock is being an athlete. Typically jocks are associated with high school and college football, although basketball and wrestling are also common choices. Participate in pick up games at local parks, or organize friends to play together. Ask team coaches to let you work out and practice with a team. Once you know which one suits you best, try out for your school team. \\nWhen picking a sport, ask yourself these questions: Which sport do I have the most fun playing? Is my body type right for this? What are my natural physical talents? What are my friends playing?\\nMore sports to consider playing include cheerleading, dance, water polo, volleyball, gymnastics, swimming, diving, softball, rugby, lacrosse, tennis, and golf.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try out for your school's team.\", \"描述\": \"After figuring out which sport suits your talents and joys most, go to the school try-outs. Coaches post information about try-out dates and locations, typically in the gym. You can ask coaches or even other athletes for more information about what equipment or special clothing you need to bring. Make sure you come prepared.\\nTalk with older students who are already on the team for specific information about what exercises or tests will be a part of try-outs.\\nMost sports are seasonal (i.e. basketball is in winter and football in summer). You can possibly play for multiple teams.\\nIf you don't make the cut for one team, don't be discouraged. You can try out for another sport. Some teams, like Track & Field, commonly accept most applicants. Even if it's not your first choice, it's an excellent way to build yourself up as an athlete and make it more likely you're chosen next season.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join a recreational league.\", \"描述\": \"If your school doesn't have the sport you're interested in, or you're not chosen but feel committed to a particular sport, this is a great option. Many cities have organized sports leagues for players of all ages and talent levels. Some are more competitive than others and require traveling greater distances for games. Talk with other jocks as well as coaches to learn more about each league's reputation.\\nGo to a game just to watch and see if you like the level of competitiveness.\\nSee if your friends are interested in putting together a team. If you have enough people for the sport, it is common for large groups of friends and acquaintances to form their own squad.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Attend all practices and scrimmages.\", \"描述\": \"It is often said that practice makes perfect. In order to become a better athlete/jock, you need to consistently put in effort. Learn to acknowledge and hone your strengths while understanding and improving upon your weaknesses. Work with your coach; good coaches will help you excel and find the right position for you in any sport.\\nPractice is the place to try out different roles on a team to figure out which one suits you best. Each sport has a number of positions with different responsibilities and skill sets; explore your talents as an athlete.\\nScrimmages are friendly matches where team members play one another. Use these opportunities to take individual risks as well as develop your awareness of how to work as a team. Generally, scrimmages are not played full force to avoid injury.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Study sports strategies.\", \"描述\": \"Whether it is football plays or soccer formations, any sport you play will have theories on how to best face an opponent. Take the time to train your brain as much as your body and it will pay off come game time. \\nTalk with older, more experienced players on the team(s) you join.\\nRead books on tactics specific to your sport.\\nLearn the philosophies of athletes famous for their skill and victories.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Work out.\", \"描述\": \"Physical strength is one of the main characteristics of jocks. Those who are taller, heavier, and more muscular are most likely to be considered top picks for sports teams. If you join a sports team, you may be working out as a team on a regular basis. Spend time learning different exercises to build the various muscle groups so your whole body becomes stronger.\\nAthletes need to eat anywhere from 2,500 to 3,500 calories a day. Eat a balanced diet of vegetables, fruit, grains, and protein to build muscle and stay healthy.\\nGet a gym membership. Part of being a jock is identifying with the sports you play and with working out in general. If you'd like to take your effort beyond what you do on a team, or if your team doesn't work out together, join a gym and work out alone.\\nLunge jumps, squat jumps, burpees, star jumps, knee drive hops, hop overs and broad jumps are some exercises you can do at home with little to no equipment!\\nResistance bands are a great way to up-level your workouts and add serious weight at home without needing to build a full home gym. Adjustable dumbbells also can help you save space while still adding significant weights to your training sessions.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Play in competitive matches.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you are a new player, ask your coach to give you as much active time in games/matches as possible. Make a sincere effort every game and maintain awareness of your teammates so you can work together. Respect your opponents as equals and enjoy yourself. If you win, show humility in your victory, and if you lose, remain gracious in defeat. \\nThe more you improve through training and live games, the more likely you will be selected to play and possibly start (be chosen to play at the beginning of a game).\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Social\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be confident\", \"描述\": \"Know that you are an important, strong, capable person, and show that in your interactions with others. Walk, stand and sit with correct posture. Don't talk down about yourself. Research shows that people who play on varsity sports teams for their schools show greater self-confidence, self-respect, and leadership.\\nParticipation in group sports will help you be confident. Research shows it leads to many characteristics, including courage, honesty, integrity, perseverance, fairness, cooperation, and respect.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Befriend many of your peers.\", \"描述\": \"Jocks are notoriously popular. This comes with confidence, kindness, and openness. Talk to a wide variety of people in your school. Often times there are different social cliques based on mutual interests and/or cultural groups. Make an effort to talk to different people so that you develop a balanced understanding of your social world. This will also show people you are approachable and nonjudgmental. \\nSpend time in and out of school cultivating friendships with the people you care about most.\\nIt's important to build camaraderie with your teammates on and off the field. Take the time to get to know your team so that your chemistry improves.\\nKeep in mind that not every person can be your best friend. It's acceptable to establish boundaries with people and have different levels of closeness. If you are kind and honest, often times people will end up respecting you for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go to parties and celebrations.\", \"描述\": \"When your peers celebrate birthdays, team victories, major school events (i.e. prom, homecoming), or are simply hosting an event to have fun and socialize, be sure to attend. Jocks are athletes first, but just as importantly they have active and engaging social lives. Be a source of cheer, spirit, and respectfulness among your friends; bring gifts if it's appropriate for the occasion and join in any fun and games.\\nAlthough the numbers are declining in recent years, it is still common for athletes to drink alcohol, often in excess. Keep in mind it is illegal to drink under the age of 21. Also, alcohol has a negative effect on your health and performance as an athlete.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Date other athletes.\", \"描述\": \"Dating shows you have the confidence to approach people and be vulnerable. Dating fellow athletes will multiply your appearance as cool and important. The jock identity is used a majority of the time to describe men, but some women also identify as jocks. For both men and women, dating another athlete will increase your social standing. \\nUS and UK sports culture are sometimes associated with homophobia and misogyny. However, it's best not to follow all generalizations. Even though dating someone of the same sex as you might not win the same approval and affirmation of your jock identity as being in a heterosexual couple, it's important to never deny part of who you are for other people's approval.\\nProfessional athletes like Michael Sam are beginning to publicly come out as gay. The public association of athletes and jocks with homophobia may be decreasing.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Cultivate positive relationships with adults.\", \"描述\": \"Being a jock also means being a leader, and this is far easier to accomplish with the guidance of elders. Look for adults you admire; this could be your coach, teachers, and other members of your community at large. Talk to them one-on-one about your life, the challenges you face, and learn what you can about how to live with grace, courage, and happiness.\\nExpanding your social life beyond your peers will expand your perspective and help you navigate the different worlds in which you spend your time.\\nShare the advice you receive with your peers when you feel they can benefit.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Join school pep rallies.\", \"描述\": \"Pep rallies are common in middle and high schools. Students often gather in gym bleachers separated by graduation year and cheer on each sports team as they enter the building. Once you have joined a school team, be sure to show up in uniform to represent during the pep rally. This is an opportunity to build morale, school pride, and optimism.\\nOften times pep rallies are competitions to see which class can be the loudest. Come with plenty of energy and pump up your classmates.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintaining Jock Interests\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build healthy aggression\", \"描述\": \"Jocks are generally more likely to be aggressive than their peers.\\n Aggression is not an entirely negative trait, and can have much more to do with direct expression than bullying others. Develop your ability to boldly speak your mind, while also showing respect to others.\\nThe sports you play will teach you what healthy aggression feels and looks like.\\nGenerally speaking, aggression is not wrong. However, like bullying, if you direct it at the weak and/or innocent, you can expect punishment, judgment and unhappiness within yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dress like a jock.\", \"描述\": \"Clothing made specifically for athletes is always a good choice for anyone wanting to be a jock. If you join a sports team, wearing team jerseys and apparel is a stylish choice. This will increase your appearance as an athlete.\\nHoodies, t-shirts, pullover jackets, and jerseys are stylistic norms that can fill an entire week of jock outfits. Be sure to pair them with jeans and tennis shoes. Do not tuck in your shirts; this is similar to “nerd” looks.\\nLetterman jackets are the pinnacle of jock style because they show you have achieved a level of accomplishment within your chosen sport.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Watch sports.\", \"描述\": \"When you're not playing, practicing, or studying, spend time enjoying the sports you love. Pick a team or player(s) to support, and follow them through a whole season. Gather at your home, friends' homes, or even restaurants and sports bars to watch games communally. Plan ahead of time so people have time to gather any supplies they need.\\nPurchase jerseys and other paraphernalia of the team you support to show your pride.\\nOrganize a potluck where everyone who wants to watch a game brings one snack or dish for everyone to eat.\\nFind tickets and go to a see a professional game to experience the fervor and excitement of a live match.\\nAlso watch sports analysis programs on networks like ESPN, FSN, and major network broadcasts of sports events to develop your understanding of the game.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Join in fantasy sports leagues.\", \"描述\": \"Organize a group of friends/athletes/people interested in sports to create a fantasy league together. Learn to pick players based on consistent productivity and skill; develop a wider understanding of the professional leagues of whatever sport you enjoy. This will encourage your tactical understanding of the game and give you a feel of what it's like to be a coach.\\nWhile it is illegal to bet on real games, betting on fantasy sports is legal in the US because it is a game of skill. If you are a minor, make sure to consult your parent/guardian before betting anything.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn about college and professional players.\", \"描述\": \"Much of the conversation between athletes can be about specific players, their talents, weaknesses, and even their social lives as revealed in the media. Read sports websites, watch sports programs on TV, and follow the careers of your favorite athletes and teams. \\nWatching/reading interviews of talented athletes may give you a clue about the character traits that help someone become a top level jock.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Never display a lack of confidence in your school, don't say nerdy things like \\\"This school sucks\\\" and \\\"We lose at everything\\\" and \\\"Everyone here is a loser\\\". Be positive and have lots of spirit!\\n\", \"Don't get caught hazing or bullying\\n\", \"School shirts are cool.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Improving Your Writing Skills
1-1. Write every day.
Journalism consists mostly of writing, whether it's an article or live-tweeting a story. You need to be a strong writer who has a voice, and the way to get there is practice. Daily writing allows you to get your practice and helps build your confidence, which is key to succeeding as a writer.
Keep a journal or log of your activities.
Start a blog.
Offer to help your friends and relatives by completing writing tasks to help them with work or self-promotion. For example, create a short newsletter for your club or church.
1-2. Build your grammar skills.
You need to be able to proofread and edit your writing so that you can produce clean copy. Use a spellchecker to avoid misspellings, and proofread to make sure that you don’t have any typos. Make sure any revisions and edits are made to the article, but check to ensure that your word processor isn’t setup to show comments or changes.
Double-check for homophones and often-confused words that might not show up on a spellcheck.
Familiarize yourself with the Associated Press style guide.
Use online resources like Purdue’s OWL and Grammar Bytes to improve your grammar.
1-3. Use sample texts to help you develop new skills.
Find articles that you like and try to write your own article in a similar way. This is called using a mentor text. Your mentor text serves as a model for how an article should be written.
Choose a style to emulate, or experiment by writing the same story in different writing styles.
Outline an article that you think is formatted well, and write your own article in the same format.
Use sample texts to practice new ways of writing, but make sure that you don’t try to pass off someone’s writing or unique style as your own.
1-4. Be speedy and accurate.
Journalists have a quick turn-around time between assignment and deadline. Think about how fast news is reported after it happens. To be a good journalist, you need to be able to meet your readers’ expectations by producing speedy and accurate work.
Practice by setting a time limit for yourself to complete writing tasks. When your time is up, stop writing, even if you’re not finished. Assess your performance to see if you’re meeting your goals. Try to improve each time you do the exercise.
1-5. Get feedback on your writing.
Ask people you trust to review your writing and offer their critiques. If you can get a teacher or tutor to help you, then take advantage of their knowledge base to help you improve your writing skills. While it might be hard to have your writing critiqued, it’s necessary if you want to grow as a writer.
Join a writing group that does regular critiques. You’ll get help from people who know what they’re talking about and meet other writers. Look for a group on social media or http://www.meetup.com.
1-6. Take a writing class.
Your best option for improving your writing is a class. Even accomplished writers still take classes to gain new skills or push themselves to try different forms of writing. Check with your school, find a workshop, or look for an online class.
You can take a basic writing course or one that’s targeted to a specific area. You may want to take classes outside of journalism to help you build different skills.
Try https://www.edx.org/ for free classes from elite colleges and universities.
2. Building Interpersonal Skills
2-1. Form good relationships with others.
Some of your best sources of information will be people you meet. Be open to meeting new people and hearing what they have to say. They may be a source, or they might give you a good idea about a story lead. The more people you’re connected to, the easier it will be to find a source for your story.
Stay close to your mentors, teachers, and fellow students because you never know when that person could help you with a story or a job.
Use social media, such as LinkedIn and Facebook, to stay connected to people.
Talk to people you meet. For example, share small talk with people who are sitting at the same table as you are in a coffee shop, sharing your elevator, or waiting in the same line as you are. Say, “Is this your first time coming here?”
2-2. Network with other journalists.
Learn new skills and find opportunities by reaching out to other journalists. Don’t just limit yourself to people you meet. Look up your journalist idols and reach out to them. You can network both in person and through correspondence, such as email or social media.
When you contact your idol, explain that you are pursuing journalism and use their work as an example of good journalism. You could say, “As a developing journalist, I consider your work to be a model of the work I aspire to produce.”
Tell your idol your purpose for contacting them so that they know that you aren’t just sending fanmail. You could say, “I hope that by following you and your work that I can reach the same levels of success that you have.”
2-3. Develop confidence
When you’re putting yourself out there - whether through your writing or when meeting new people - confidence is essential to helping you be successful. You need to be able to approach others and form relationships that help you, and you also need to project that you know your worth.
Don’t compare yourself to others; instead, focus on being who you are and sharing that with the world.
When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, turn the thought around and make it positive. It’s normal to think bad thoughts about yourself sometimes, so don’t feel bad about it.
Tell yourself, “I have important and interesting things to share with the world,” or “I’m just as valuable as anyone else.”
3. Being Resourceful and Committed
3-1. Go above and beyond what’s required.
Going above and beyond is about more than just doing what’s necessary to get a story. You need to be more than just a good writer in today’s journalism market. When you write a story, don’t stop at the minimum to get the job done. Think about what you’d want out of the article if you were a reader, and try to give them that.
Make yourself more marketable by expanding your technical skills. Knowing how to use more programs, do basic coding, and use creative software will help you get your voice out there and will make you more marketable.
If possible, beat your deadlines. While you don’t want to rush your work, you do want to provide your publisher with a speedy product so that your article will be timely.
3-2. Make sacrifices.
You may have to give up your free time or miss out on fun events with friends in order to meet your journalism goals. Writing is usually a solitary activity, so it may be a sacrifice for you to miss out on that social time. You may also need to sacrifice earning potential or social connections if you write about polarizing issues.
When you’re faced with sacrifices, ask yourself what’s more important to you. Ask, “Where do I want to be in five years? How will this sacrifice impact my five-year goal?”
3-3. Conduct your own research.
Journalists get information from a variety of sources, so you’ll need to know how to gather, assess, and organize information on your own. Research consists of more than just doing a Google search. You need to be able to find the information you need in print sources, by talking to knowledgeable individuals, and by sorting through relevant materials, such as letters, memos, or file documents.
3-4. Expand your knowledge base.
Being able to understand various topics, sniff out stories, and look at things from various perspectives are all necessary to be a good journalist.
Consider getting a degree in something other than journalism to make you a more informed writer.
If you want to cover world events, consider studying languages.
3-5. Stay up-to-date on news and events.
Read or watch the news, and stay plugged in to politics, current events, and pop culture. Anything can be relevant from a journalistic standpoint, so keep yourself open and learn the current trends. You’ll produce better stories and get your readers what they want if you know what’s going on.
3-6. Verify your sources.
Before reporting information that you find, make sure that it’s from a reliable source. When possible, try to find a second source that confirms the information. If you receive facts from a source, independently verify that those facts line up.
For example, if someone tells you that they knew the subject of your story when they were in college, make sure they were really in college together.
3-7. Maintain independence from your sources and subjects.
While you will likely build relationships with some of your sources or the people you write about, make sure those relationships don’t influence how you portray them in your work. For example, if your best friend works as a police officer, then getting your crime information from them will likely be biased toward your friend’s opinion.
For example, don’t take payments from a source or a subject of an article. If you are writing an investigative article about a corporation, you’ll lose your independence if you allow them to hire you for freelance work during your investigation.
If you have someone who gives you inside information about the local crime beat, keep a professional relationship with that person. If you start to get too personal, then you may unknowingly have a bias toward them.
If you get too close to a source, you can always ask them to help you find a new one so that your information stays independent.
4. Gaining Experience
4-1. Start a blog
Practice your journalistic abilities by running your own blog. In addition to being a great place for you to share your voice and flex your skills, it will also help you promote yourself to people who might hire you or may buy your stories.
4-2. Be active on social media.
Build a strong and clean social media presence across platforms. Make sure that you are posting meaningful information on a regular basis. You should be able to share your handles with potential employers, so be mindful about what you post.
4-3. Apply for internships.
Both paid and unpaid internships are available in journalism. If you don’t need the money, then an unpaid internship might be a great way for you to get experience without as much competition. Paid internships are competitive, but you’ll be getting paid to do what you love.
If you get turned down for an internship, contact the employer to ask if you can still submit a story or two for consideration.
4-4. Join the school paper.
If you’re in school, take any position that is available, even if it’s not what you really want to do. If you do a good job, you’ll likely get more and better opportunities.
4-5. Build a portfolio.
Include your bio, interests, and examples of your work. If you build an online portfolio, include links to sites that feature your work, as well as links to your social media accounts.
Tips
Because the journalism field is so competitive, being able to take and edit good photos in addition to writing well is essential for you to market yourself.[17]
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Research source
Be yourself. Don't try to be like other journalists.
A good journalist should be open-minded and ready for anything.
Warnings
Don't tell lies or blatant untruths. It can seriously discredit your reputation as a journalist.
Take the proper precautions to stay safe abroad and during media frenzies.
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Be speedy and accurate.\\nJournalists have a quick turn-around time between assignment and deadline. Think about how fast news is reported after it happens. To be a good journalist, you need to be able to meet your readers’ expectations by producing speedy and accurate work.\\nPractice by setting a time limit for yourself to complete writing tasks. When your time is up, stop writing, even if you’re not finished. Assess your performance to see if you’re meeting your goals. Try to improve each time you do the exercise.\\n1-5. Get feedback on your writing.\\nAsk people you trust to review your writing and offer their critiques. If you can get a teacher or tutor to help you, then take advantage of their knowledge base to help you improve your writing skills. While it might be hard to have your writing critiqued, it’s necessary if you want to grow as a writer.\\nJoin a writing group that does regular critiques. 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You could say, “As a developing journalist, I consider your work to be a model of the work I aspire to produce.”\\nTell your idol your purpose for contacting them so that they know that you aren’t just sending fanmail. You could say, “I hope that by following you and your work that I can reach the same levels of success that you have.”\\n2-3. Develop confidence\\nWhen you’re putting yourself out there - whether through your writing or when meeting new people - confidence is essential to helping you be successful. You need to be able to approach others and form relationships that help you, and you also need to project that you know your worth.\\nDon’t compare yourself to others; instead, focus on being who you are and sharing that with the world.\\nWhen you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, turn the thought around and make it positive. It’s normal to think bad thoughts about yourself sometimes, so don’t feel bad about it.\\nTell yourself, “I have important and interesting things to share with the world,” or “I’m just as valuable as anyone else.”\\n3. Being Resourceful and Committed\\n3-1. Go above and beyond what’s required.\\nGoing above and beyond is about more than just doing what’s necessary to get a story. You need to be more than just a good writer in today’s journalism market. When you write a story, don’t stop at the minimum to get the job done. Think about what you’d want out of the article if you were a reader, and try to give them that.\\nMake yourself more marketable by expanding your technical skills. Knowing how to use more programs, do basic coding, and use creative software will help you get your voice out there and will make you more marketable.\\nIf possible, beat your deadlines. While you don’t want to rush your work, you do want to provide your publisher with a speedy product so that your article will be timely.\\n3-2. Make sacrifices.\\nYou may have to give up your free time or miss out on fun events with friends in order to meet your journalism goals. Writing is usually a solitary activity, so it may be a sacrifice for you to miss out on that social time. You may also need to sacrifice earning potential or social connections if you write about polarizing issues.\\nWhen you’re faced with sacrifices, ask yourself what’s more important to you. Ask, “Where do I want to be in five years? How will this sacrifice impact my five-year goal?”\\n3-3. Conduct your own research.\\nJournalists get information from a variety of sources, so you’ll need to know how to gather, assess, and organize information on your own. Research consists of more than just doing a Google search. 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1. Appreciating the Music
1-1. Listen to the popular hits from Insane Clown Posse (ICP).
Songs like "Photograph" , "Great Milenko", "Hokus Pokus", "The Neden Game", "Boogie Woogie Wu", and "What is a Juggalo" are popular songs to start with. Listen to entire albums to appreciate ICP. Popular albums include The Great Milenko, The Amazing Jeckel Brothers, and Bizaar. Their first album, Carnival of Carnage, is a great one to listen to so you can see how their music evolved.
1-2. Memorize the lyrics to key Insane Clown Posse songs.
Chicken Huntin’ is a great song to memorize the lyrics to because it is played at most Insane Clown Posse concerts. If you know all the lyrics, you can have fun singing along with the band. Another song to learn is Hokus Pokus. Listen to these songs everyday to learn the lyrics, or look up the lyrics online to memorize them.
1-3. Listen to other artists with Psychopathic Records.
Psychopathic Records is the record company co-founded by the Insane Clown Posse. They have signed many great hip-hop-artists that Juggalos enjoy listening to.
Dark Lotus
Psychopathic Rydas
Anybody Killa
Killjoy Club
Axe Murder Boyz
Nickelback
Lyte
2. Attending Events
2-1. Go to a concert.
Attending concerts is a big part of being a Juggalo. Many Juggalos try to go to multiple Insane Clown Posse concerts each year. Look online to find out when they will be in your area. There are a few preparations you should make when going to an Insane Clown Posse concert.
When you go to an ICP concert you should bring a change of clothes because you’ll get soaked with Faygo. The band sprays out multiple bottles of Faygo soda out at the fans. It’s also a good idea to put your electronics in a plastic bag.
Paint your face like a clown with a white base and black accents around your eyes and lips. The artists of Insane Clown Posse always perform with clown makeup on and many fans join them in the fun. There’s no one way to do ICP makeup. Be unique and have fun whether you paint your whole face or only add accents to your eyes and lips.
2-2. Attend a Gathering of the Juggalos.
The Gathering of the Juggalos is an annual festival held by Psychopathic Records. It features Psychopathic Record artists as well as other well-known artists and even some new artists. The festival lasts 5 days and includes concerts, wrestling events, games and contests, autograph sessions, and more. The gathering is held in Thornville, OH at Legend Valley, a 120-acre property.
2-3. Attend a Juggalo Championship Wrestling event.
Juggalo Championship Wrestling is a professional wrestling promotion founded in 1999 by the Insane Clown Posse. Juggalo Championship Wrestling tours wrestling shows across the United States which sometimes feature a live performance from a hip-hop artists as well. They also frequently stream wrestling shows online.
3. Living a Juggalo Lifestyle
3-1. Drink Faygo soda.
Faygo soda is the drink that the Insane Clown Posse drinks and sprays out at their concerts. Bring lots of 2-liter bottles of Faygo to any concert of ICP event you attend.
3-2. Talk like a Juggalo.
Juggalo’s have their own catch phrase or battle cry. They also have different words to describe themselves. Knowing the Juggalo lingo will help you submerse yourself in the Juggalo lifestyle.
The phrase “whoop whoop” is the Juggalo’s catch phrase. This is what Juggalos say to out of excitement, encouragement, or just as a general greeting to each other. When you like another Juggalo’s makeup or outfit, shout “whoop whoop” to them. When you email or communicate something you like on social media, say “whoop whoop”.
A girl that is a Juggalo is referred to as a Juggalette.
Juggalo’s also call themselves ninja. It’s common to yell “whoop whoop ninja” to a fellow Juggalo.
3-3. Join Juggalobook.
Juggalobook is the social media site of Juggalos. It’s similar to other social media sites in that you get your own profile and can interact with other people, however all of the interactions are done with Juggalo talk. For example, when you want to “like” something you “whoop whoop” it instead.
Interact on Juggalobook daily to make Juggalo friends. If any are near you, you can suggest to meet up at a concert together.
3-4. Use the Juggalocoin.
The Juggalocoin is an internet based currency to make purchases online. The Juggalocoin is set up to be a currency only to be used by people accepting of the Juggalo lifestyle. It was created to know that when you spend your money at a business that accepts the Juggalocoin, you know your money is supporting a fellow Juggalo. You can also use the Juggalocoin for charity by sending some to a Juggalo in need. The coin is designed to keep the money in the Juggalo family.
3-5. Wear Hatchet gear.
The Insane Clown Posse’s logo is a man with a hatchet. When you sport the hatchet logo, people can easily identify you as a Juggalo in your everyday life. You can get Hatchet gear from the ICP website, on online auction sites, or from vendors at ICP events.
Put a sticker of the hatchet logo on your car.
Wear shirts with the ICP logo.
If you really want to show your loyalty, you can get a tattoo of the hatchet man.
3-6. Celebrate Juggalo Day.
February 17th was declared Juggalo Day by the Insane Clown Posse to thank and celebrate their fans. Celebrate Juggalo Day by drinking nothing but Faygo all day. Get together with fellow Juggalos to celebrate, or throw a huge house party and invite all the Juggalos you know. Check Juggalobook to find out where Juggalo Day celebrations are taking place.
Tips
Be prepared to change into this newfound alter-ego once or twice a year.
Talk to other Juggalos to find out how they live a Juggalo lifestyle.
Go to your first concert with someone who’s been before. They can show you the ropes, and you won’t be as intimidated.
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Listen to other artists with Psychopathic Records.\\nPsychopathic Records is the record company co-founded by the Insane Clown Posse. They have signed many great hip-hop-artists that Juggalos enjoy listening to.\\nDark Lotus\\nPsychopathic Rydas\\nAnybody Killa\\nKilljoy Club\\nAxe Murder Boyz\\nNickelback\\nLyte\\n2. Attending Events\\n2-1. Go to a concert.\\nAttending concerts is a big part of being a Juggalo. Many Juggalos try to go to multiple Insane Clown Posse concerts each year. Look online to find out when they will be in your area. There are a few preparations you should make when going to an Insane Clown Posse concert.\\nWhen you go to an ICP concert you should bring a change of clothes because you’ll get soaked with Faygo. The band sprays out multiple bottles of Faygo soda out at the fans. It’s also a good idea to put your electronics in a plastic bag.\\nPaint your face like a clown with a white base and black accents around your eyes and lips. The artists of Insane Clown Posse always perform with clown makeup on and many fans join them in the fun. There’s no one way to do ICP makeup. Be unique and have fun whether you paint your whole face or only add accents to your eyes and lips.\\n2-2. Attend a Gathering of the Juggalos.\\nThe Gathering of the Juggalos is an annual festival held by Psychopathic Records. It features Psychopathic Record artists as well as other well-known artists and even some new artists. The festival lasts 5 days and includes concerts, wrestling events, games and contests, autograph sessions, and more. The gathering is held in Thornville, OH at Legend Valley, a 120-acre property.\\n2-3. Attend a Juggalo Championship Wrestling event.\\nJuggalo Championship Wrestling is a professional wrestling promotion founded in 1999 by the Insane Clown Posse. Juggalo Championship Wrestling tours wrestling shows across the United States which sometimes feature a live performance from a hip-hop artists as well. They also frequently stream wrestling shows online.\\n3. Living a Juggalo Lifestyle\\n3-1. Drink Faygo soda.\\nFaygo soda is the drink that the Insane Clown Posse drinks and sprays out at their concerts. Bring lots of 2-liter bottles of Faygo to any concert of ICP event you attend.\\n3-2. Talk like a Juggalo.\\nJuggalo’s have their own catch phrase or battle cry. They also have different words to describe themselves. Knowing the Juggalo lingo will help you submerse yourself in the Juggalo lifestyle.\\nThe phrase “whoop whoop” is the Juggalo’s catch phrase. This is what Juggalos say to out of excitement, encouragement, or just as a general greeting to each other. When you like another Juggalo’s makeup or outfit, shout “whoop whoop” to them. When you email or communicate something you like on social media, say “whoop whoop”.\\nA girl that is a Juggalo is referred to as a Juggalette.\\nJuggalo’s also call themselves ninja. It’s common to yell “whoop whoop ninja” to a fellow Juggalo.\\n3-3. Join Juggalobook.\\nJuggalobook is the social media site of Juggalos. It’s similar to other social media sites in that you get your own profile and can interact with other people, however all of the interactions are done with Juggalo talk. For example, when you want to “like” something you “whoop whoop” it instead.\\nInteract on Juggalobook daily to make Juggalo friends. If any are near you, you can suggest to meet up at a concert together.\\n3-4. Use the Juggalocoin.\\nThe Juggalocoin is an internet based currency to make purchases online. The Juggalocoin is set up to be a currency only to be used by people accepting of the Juggalo lifestyle. It was created to know that when you spend your money at a business that accepts the Juggalocoin, you know your money is supporting a fellow Juggalo. You can also use the Juggalocoin for charity by sending some to a Juggalo in need. The coin is designed to keep the money in the Juggalo family.\\n3-5. Wear Hatchet gear.\\nThe Insane Clown Posse’s logo is a man with a hatchet. When you sport the hatchet logo, people can easily identify you as a Juggalo in your everyday life. You can get Hatchet gear from the ICP website, on online auction sites, or from vendors at ICP events.\\nPut a sticker of the hatchet logo on your car.\\nWear shirts with the ICP logo.\\nIf you really want to show your loyalty, you can get a tattoo of the hatchet man.\\n3-6. Celebrate Juggalo Day.\\nFebruary 17th was declared Juggalo Day by the Insane Clown Posse to thank and celebrate their fans. Celebrate Juggalo Day by drinking nothing but Faygo all day. Get together with fellow Juggalos to celebrate, or throw a huge house party and invite all the Juggalos you know. Check Juggalobook to find out where Juggalo Day celebrations are taking place.\\nTips\\nBe prepared to change into this newfound alter-ego once or twice a year.\\nTalk to other Juggalos to find out how they live a Juggalo lifestyle.\\nGo to your first concert with someone who’s been before. They can show you the ropes, and you won’t be as intimidated.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Juggalos are the fans of the band Insane Clown Posse, and their record label Psychopathic Records. To be a Juggalo you have to appreciate the music of Insane Clown Posse and the other artists on the Psychopathic Record label. 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Another song to learn is Hokus Pokus. Listen to these songs everyday to learn the lyrics, or look up the lyrics online to memorize them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to other artists with Psychopathic Records.\", \"描述\": \"Psychopathic Records is the record company co-founded by the Insane Clown Posse. They have signed many great hip-hop-artists that Juggalos enjoy listening to.\\nDark Lotus\\nPsychopathic Rydas\\nAnybody Killa\\nKilljoy Club\\nAxe Murder Boyz\\nNickelback\\nLyte\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Attending Events\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go to a concert.\", \"描述\": \"Attending concerts is a big part of being a Juggalo. Many Juggalos try to go to multiple Insane Clown Posse concerts each year. Look online to find out when they will be in your area. There are a few preparations you should make when going to an Insane Clown Posse concert.\\nWhen you go to an ICP concert you should bring a change of clothes because you’ll get soaked with Faygo. The band sprays out multiple bottles of Faygo soda out at the fans. It’s also a good idea to put your electronics in a plastic bag.\\nPaint your face like a clown with a white base and black accents around your eyes and lips. The artists of Insane Clown Posse always perform with clown makeup on and many fans join them in the fun. There’s no one way to do ICP makeup. Be unique and have fun whether you paint your whole face or only add accents to your eyes and lips.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Attend a Gathering of the Juggalos.\", \"描述\": \"The Gathering of the Juggalos is an annual festival held by Psychopathic Records. It features Psychopathic Record artists as well as other well-known artists and even some new artists. The festival lasts 5 days and includes concerts, wrestling events, games and contests, autograph sessions, and more. 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Everything You Need to Know to Become a K-Pop Trainee
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1. Cultivating Your Skills
1-1. Take dance classes
If you don’t have much dance experience, take a variety of dance classes while maintaining a focus on hip-hop and urban dancing. A big part of being a trainee is being able to perform exceptionally, and that includes dancing.
If you can’t take actual classes, use the internet to learn new skills.
1-2. Invest in a vocal coach to strengthen your singing abilities.
Even if you’re already a great singer, a coach will likely be able to teach you something new. If nothing else, they can give you tips to increase your endurance when you perform.
Along with great dance skills, having the ability to sing will increase your odds of getting noticed when you audition to become a trainee.
1-3. Work on your rapping skills
Rapping is an important part of the K-pop genre and is featured in many K-pop songs. Listen to more rap music to get an idea of the rhythm and start imitating your favorite artists.
If you have trouble enunciating your words and keeping up with the fast rhythm, practice tongue twisters to loosen your lips.
1-4. Practice writing your own music and perfecting well-known songs.
When you audition, you’ll need to perform songs that the producers already know, but when you’re a trainee, you’ll be working on writing and choreographing your own original music. It’s a good idea to work on both aspects of being a performer.
Take a music writing class and spend a lot of time listening to K-pop and watching music videos so you can start emulating popular styles.
2. Adopting New Habits
2-1. Familiarize yourself with Korean culture and beauty standards.
Though many companies will accept non-Korean trainees, you will still be catering to a largely Korean audience. It’s smart to learn about the culture if you aren’t already familiar. Study popular K-pop groups, spend time on Korean fashion websites, and read up on etiquette and social norms.
If you aren’t Korean, it’ll show the producers that you are invested in becoming a K-pop trainee and are willing to work hard to be a part of the culture.
2-2. Learn to speak Korean if it isn’t a language you’re familiar with.
At a minimum, make sure you know basic phrases like “Hello,” “Goodbye,” “Please,” and “Thank you,” and read the Korean alphabet. You will have to sing in Korean at least some of the time if you become a trainee, and knowing the language will also help you make friends and get around in South Korea.
If you can’t take a Korean language class, try downloading an app like EggBun or Duolingo.
2-3. Avoid scandals and be careful with what you put on social media.
A big part of being a successful trainee is characterized by having good manners and behaving properly. Avoid situations where you might get in trouble, like being at a party where there’s underage drinking. Also use caution when posting on social media. Managers and executives can most likely see your accounts.
Producers are interested in trainees who have the right skill and are willing to work hard. They aren’t interested in trainees who end up in the spotlight because they’re often in trouble or causing drama.
2-4. Create a YouTube channel
Start recording your original songs, as well as your covers. Experiment with making videos that show you talking about your personal journey to becoming a K-pop trainee and your experience. Producers often visit YouTube channels when looking for new recruits.
Create a schedule for posting so that you’re regularly adding new content to your channel, and research different ways to grow your audience.
2-5. Maintain a healthy weight
Regardless of the beauty standards a company might adhere to, your physical health should be in good enough shape to allow you to keep up with the rigorous activity you’ll go through as a trainee. For K-pop trainees, and even idols, hours of dance practice everyday is fairly common.
If you feel like you’re out of shape or want to lose weight, incorporate daily exercise into your routine and try to eat more whole foods rather than processed foods.
3. Auditioning
3-1. Decide which companies you’d like to audition for.
Some of the major entertainment companies include SM, JYP, YG, Cube, LOEN, Pledis, Woolim, and BigHit. Some companies are focused on trainees who match a certain aesthetic and already know how to sing and dance, while others don’t mind taking someone who needs more training in a particular area.
Auditioning for every available opportunity can get expensive and be very time-consuming. Start by finding a company that is most likely to accept you and focus your attention on their auditions.
If you’re under 14 years old, a legal guardian will need to attend the audition with you or sign-off on the audition on your behalf.
3-2. Become an expert in your skill and be confident when you audition.
Most K-pop trainees are great at one of the following skills: singing, dancing, or rapping. Come prepared with one really strong skill and a familiarity with everything else. For example, if you are strongest at dancing, take classes and hone that skill as best as you can, but also don’t neglect working on your singing and rapping, too.
No matter where you end up, you’ll be taking hours and hours of classes for all of the skills needed to be a K-pop idol. But having a strength when you set out to audition could help you stand out to the producers.
3-3. Prepare 3 songs for an audition, including at least 1 Korean song.
Think about where your talents shine, and then make your song selections based off of that. For example, if you’re great at rapping and dancing, choose 1 song that is in Korean that showcases your rapping and dancing skills, choose another that exhibits another type of dancing, and then choose a song that you absolutely love—the producers will get a chance to see both your skill and your passion.
Search YouTube for audition videos to check out what other hopeful trainees are doing and what types of songs they’re auditioning with.
3-4. Get headshots done to hand out or send to producers.
You can have these done professionally, or you can try to do them yourself at home. Take shots from the front and profile, and include photos of just your face as well as your entire body.
Wear minimal makeup for your headshots, since producers will want to see your natural look.
3-5. Wear plain clothes and minimal makeup on your audition day.
The judges will want to see what your face and body look like without excessive makeup or distracting clothes. Stick to form-fitting clothes in neutral tones so that your body movements are the center of attention.
Avoid wearing K-pop fan clothing—producers might assume you’re only at the audition so you can see your favorite idol.
3-6. Attend a live audition or submit an audition video online.
There are tons of live auditions that take place all over the world all throughout the year, so chances are you can find one in your country to attend. If you can’t attend a live audition or if you simply want to increase your odds of being chosen by participating in more auditions, check out each company’s online audition forum at their websites.
Online auditions are a great option for people hoping to be trainees. Live auditions are great for the experience and opportunity, too, but don’t discount the possibility of getting discovered through an online audition.
3-7. Be resilient
A lot of people audition again and again before they finally get chosen to be a trainee. If you get feedback from an audition, make sure to incorporate those corrections in your next audition. For example, if a judge says that you need to work on your vocal strength, start seeing a vocal coach to work on that.
Don’t worry if you’re older and still not a trainee. Lots of K-pop idols didn’t get started in a company until they were in their late teens. Keep working on your skills, attend auditions, and don’t give up.
4. Living the Trainee Lifestyle
4-1. Read your contract carefully before committing to a company.
Being a K-pop trainee is a long term commitment. Some companies, depending on your age, may even ask you to sign a 5-6 year-long contract. Read and review the contract’s contents very closely. If you don’t speak Korean, hire a professional lawyer who can review and walk you through the fine print.
Many entertainment companies make you repay your salary if you break your contract. Some of them also will not make accommodations for emergencies or health issues. Don’t sign anything before you fully understand it.
4-2. Work to overcome language barriers and make friends with other trainees.
Trainees often sign years-long contracts and spend upwards of 18 hours a day with the other trainees. If you don’t speak Korean or are unfamiliar with the culture, it may take a while before you make friends and feel like you fit in. Make an effort to try and communicate clearly with others, especially if there is a language barrier. Be kind to others and help each other while you’re adapting to trainee life.
4-3. Take good care of your health throughout the rigorous training program.
Many trainees work from 5 or 6 am until midnight or later. In addition to training, you may also have schoolwork that has to be done or might need extra practice on your own.
The company often sets the schedule for their trainees without running it by them first.
Trainees generally don’t get the recommended amount of sleep every night, and they often don’t eat meals at regular intervals.
4-4. Be prepared for monthly skill evaluations.
Because new trainees are often being brought into the company, everyone is evaluated on a monthly basis to ensure that the recruits are all up to standard. It can be a tense time every month, as the company could choose to let you go if you don’t perform well.
There are generally 20-30 other students at any company at any given time, so you are usually going to be in competition with your classmates to keep your place at the company.
Tips
Be respectful of everyone at auditions. You never know who is watching!
Look at reviews from other trainees and idols about the companies they worked for—that could tell you a lot about the company and whether or not you want to work with them.
Be prepared for every outcome whether good or bad. For example, if you have a voice crack during auditions, carry on and don't hesitate or stop.
Warnings
If you aren’t from South Korea and become a trainee, you may have to move there to participate in the industry, so think carefully about whether or not that is something you want for your life or something that your family can accommodate.
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Maintain a healthy weight\\nRegardless of the beauty standards a company might adhere to, your physical health should be in good enough shape to allow you to keep up with the rigorous activity you’ll go through as a trainee. For K-pop trainees, and even idols, hours of dance practice everyday is fairly common.\\nIf you feel like you’re out of shape or want to lose weight, incorporate daily exercise into your routine and try to eat more whole foods rather than processed foods.\\n3. Auditioning\\n3-1. Decide which companies you’d like to audition for.\\nSome of the major entertainment companies include SM, JYP, YG, Cube, LOEN, Pledis, Woolim, and BigHit. Some companies are focused on trainees who match a certain aesthetic and already know how to sing and dance, while others don’t mind taking someone who needs more training in a particular area.\\nAuditioning for every available opportunity can get expensive and be very time-consuming. Start by finding a company that is most likely to accept you and focus your attention on their auditions.\\nIf you’re under 14 years old, a legal guardian will need to attend the audition with you or sign-off on the audition on your behalf.\\n3-2. Become an expert in your skill and be confident when you audition.\\nMost K-pop trainees are great at one of the following skills: singing, dancing, or rapping. Come prepared with one really strong skill and a familiarity with everything else. For example, if you are strongest at dancing, take classes and hone that skill as best as you can, but also don’t neglect working on your singing and rapping, too.\\nNo matter where you end up, you’ll be taking hours and hours of classes for all of the skills needed to be a K-pop idol. But having a strength when you set out to audition could help you stand out to the producers.\\n3-3. Prepare 3 songs for an audition, including at least 1 Korean song.\\nThink about where your talents shine, and then make your song selections based off of that. For example, if you’re great at rapping and dancing, choose 1 song that is in Korean that showcases your rapping and dancing skills, choose another that exhibits another type of dancing, and then choose a song that you absolutely love—the producers will get a chance to see both your skill and your passion.\\nSearch YouTube for audition videos to check out what other hopeful trainees are doing and what types of songs they’re auditioning with.\\n3-4. Get headshots done to hand out or send to producers.\\nYou can have these done professionally, or you can try to do them yourself at home. Take shots from the front and profile, and include photos of just your face as well as your entire body.\\nWear minimal makeup for your headshots, since producers will want to see your natural look.\\n3-5. Wear plain clothes and minimal makeup on your audition day.\\nThe judges will want to see what your face and body look like without excessive makeup or distracting clothes. Stick to form-fitting clothes in neutral tones so that your body movements are the center of attention.\\nAvoid wearing K-pop fan clothing—producers might assume you’re only at the audition so you can see your favorite idol.\\n3-6. Attend a live audition or submit an audition video online.\\nThere are tons of live auditions that take place all over the world all throughout the year, so chances are you can find one in your country to attend. If you can’t attend a live audition or if you simply want to increase your odds of being chosen by participating in more auditions, check out each company’s online audition forum at their websites.\\nOnline auditions are a great option for people hoping to be trainees. Live auditions are great for the experience and opportunity, too, but don’t discount the possibility of getting discovered through an online audition.\\n3-7. Be resilient\\nA lot of people audition again and again before they finally get chosen to be a trainee. If you get feedback from an audition, make sure to incorporate those corrections in your next audition. For example, if a judge says that you need to work on your vocal strength, start seeing a vocal coach to work on that.\\nDon’t worry if you’re older and still not a trainee. Lots of K-pop idols didn’t get started in a company until they were in their late teens. Keep working on your skills, attend auditions, and don’t give up.\\n4. Living the Trainee Lifestyle\\n4-1. Read your contract carefully before committing to a company.\\nBeing a K-pop trainee is a long term commitment. Some companies, depending on your age, may even ask you to sign a 5-6 year-long contract. Read and review the contract’s contents very closely. 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In addition to training, you may also have schoolwork that has to be done or might need extra practice on your own.\\nThe company often sets the schedule for their trainees without running it by them first.\\nTrainees generally don’t get the recommended amount of sleep every night, and they often don’t eat meals at regular intervals.\\n4-4. Be prepared for monthly skill evaluations.\\nBecause new trainees are often being brought into the company, everyone is evaluated on a monthly basis to ensure that the recruits are all up to standard. It can be a tense time every month, as the company could choose to let you go if you don’t perform well.\\nThere are generally 20-30 other students at any company at any given time, so you are usually going to be in competition with your classmates to keep your place at the company.\\nTips\\nBe respectful of everyone at auditions. You never know who is watching!\\nLook at reviews from other trainees and idols about the companies they worked for—that could tell you a lot about the company and whether or not you want to work with them.\\nBe prepared for every outcome whether good or bad. For example, if you have a voice crack during auditions, carry on and don't hesitate or stop.\\nWarnings\\nIf you aren’t from South Korea and become a trainee, you may have to move there to participate in the industry, so think carefully about whether or not that is something you want for your life or something that your family can accommodate.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Before your favorite K-pop idols were the iconic performers you know and love, they were just regular trainees. With the rise in popularity of K-pop, more and more people from all over the world are auditioning to become K-pop trainees with the hopes of making it big someday. If you’re someone with the dream of becoming a K-pop star, this article will tell you everything you need to know to jumpstart your career as a trainee. Shoot for the stars and get ready to make your dreams a reality.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cultivating Your Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take dance classes\", \"描述\": \"If you don’t have much dance experience, take a variety of dance classes while maintaining a focus on hip-hop and urban dancing. A big part of being a trainee is being able to perform exceptionally, and that includes dancing.\\nIf you can’t take actual classes, use the internet to learn new skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Invest in a vocal coach to strengthen your singing abilities.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you’re already a great singer, a coach will likely be able to teach you something new. If nothing else, they can give you tips to increase your endurance when you perform.\\nAlong with great dance skills, having the ability to sing will increase your odds of getting noticed when you audition to become a trainee.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work on your rapping skills\", \"描述\": \"Rapping is an important part of the K-pop genre and is featured in many K-pop songs. Listen to more rap music to get an idea of the rhythm and start imitating your favorite artists.\\nIf you have trouble enunciating your words and keeping up with the fast rhythm, practice tongue twisters to loosen your lips.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice writing your own music and perfecting well-known songs.\", \"描述\": \"When you audition, you’ll need to perform songs that the producers already know, but when you’re a trainee, you’ll be working on writing and choreographing your own original music. It’s a good idea to work on both aspects of being a performer.\\nTake a music writing class and spend a lot of time listening to K-pop and watching music videos so you can start emulating popular styles.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adopting New Habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with Korean culture and beauty standards.\", \"描述\": \"Though many companies will accept non-Korean trainees, you will still be catering to a largely Korean audience. It’s smart to learn about the culture if you aren’t already familiar. Study popular K-pop groups, spend time on Korean fashion websites, and read up on etiquette and social norms.\\nIf you aren’t Korean, it’ll show the producers that you are invested in becoming a K-pop trainee and are willing to work hard to be a part of the culture.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn to speak Korean if it isn’t a language you’re familiar with.\", \"描述\": \"At a minimum, make sure you know basic phrases like “Hello,” “Goodbye,” “Please,” and “Thank you,” and read the Korean alphabet. You will have to sing in Korean at least some of the time if you become a trainee, and knowing the language will also help you make friends and get around in South Korea.\\nIf you can’t take a Korean language class, try downloading an app like EggBun or Duolingo.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid scandals and be careful with what you put on social media.\", \"描述\": \"A big part of being a successful trainee is characterized by having good manners and behaving properly. Avoid situations where you might get in trouble, like being at a party where there’s underage drinking. Also use caution when posting on social media. Managers and executives can most likely see your accounts.\\nProducers are interested in trainees who have the right skill and are willing to work hard. They aren’t interested in trainees who end up in the spotlight because they’re often in trouble or causing drama.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Create a YouTube channel\", \"描述\": \"Start recording your original songs, as well as your covers. Experiment with making videos that show you talking about your personal journey to becoming a K-pop trainee and your experience. Producers often visit YouTube channels when looking for new recruits.\\nCreate a schedule for posting so that you’re regularly adding new content to your channel, and research different ways to grow your audience.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Maintain a healthy weight\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of the beauty standards a company might adhere to, your physical health should be in good enough shape to allow you to keep up with the rigorous activity you’ll go through as a trainee. For K-pop trainees, and even idols, hours of dance practice everyday is fairly common.\\nIf you feel like you’re out of shape or want to lose weight, incorporate daily exercise into your routine and try to eat more whole foods rather than processed foods.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Auditioning\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide which companies you’d like to audition for.\", \"描述\": \"Some of the major entertainment companies include SM, JYP, YG, Cube, LOEN, Pledis, Woolim, and BigHit. Some companies are focused on trainees who match a certain aesthetic and already know how to sing and dance, while others don’t mind taking someone who needs more training in a particular area.\\nAuditioning for every available opportunity can get expensive and be very time-consuming. Start by finding a company that is most likely to accept you and focus your attention on their auditions.\\nIf you’re under 14 years old, a legal guardian will need to attend the audition with you or sign-off on the audition on your behalf.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Become an expert in your skill and be confident when you audition.\", \"描述\": \"Most K-pop trainees are great at one of the following skills: singing, dancing, or rapping. Come prepared with one really strong skill and a familiarity with everything else. For example, if you are strongest at dancing, take classes and hone that skill as best as you can, but also don’t neglect working on your singing and rapping, too.\\nNo matter where you end up, you’ll be taking hours and hours of classes for all of the skills needed to be a K-pop idol. But having a strength when you set out to audition could help you stand out to the producers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Prepare 3 songs for an audition, including at least 1 Korean song.\", \"描述\": \"Think about where your talents shine, and then make your song selections based off of that. For example, if you’re great at rapping and dancing, choose 1 song that is in Korean that showcases your rapping and dancing skills, choose another that exhibits another type of dancing, and then choose a song that you absolutely love—the producers will get a chance to see both your skill and your passion.\\nSearch YouTube for audition videos to check out what other hopeful trainees are doing and what types of songs they’re auditioning with.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get headshots done to hand out or send to producers.\", \"描述\": \"You can have these done professionally, or you can try to do them yourself at home. Take shots from the front and profile, and include photos of just your face as well as your entire body.\\nWear minimal makeup for your headshots, since producers will want to see your natural look.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wear plain clothes and minimal makeup on your audition day.\", \"描述\": \"The judges will want to see what your face and body look like without excessive makeup or distracting clothes. Stick to form-fitting clothes in neutral tones so that your body movements are the center of attention.\\nAvoid wearing K-pop fan clothing—producers might assume you’re only at the audition so you can see your favorite idol.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Attend a live audition or submit an audition video online.\", \"描述\": \"There are tons of live auditions that take place all over the world all throughout the year, so chances are you can find one in your country to attend. If you can’t attend a live audition or if you simply want to increase your odds of being chosen by participating in more auditions, check out each company’s online audition forum at their websites.\\nOnline auditions are a great option for people hoping to be trainees. Live auditions are great for the experience and opportunity, too, but don’t discount the possibility of getting discovered through an online audition.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be resilient\", \"描述\": \"A lot of people audition again and again before they finally get chosen to be a trainee. If you get feedback from an audition, make sure to incorporate those corrections in your next audition. For example, if a judge says that you need to work on your vocal strength, start seeing a vocal coach to work on that.\\nDon’t worry if you’re older and still not a trainee. Lots of K-pop idols didn’t get started in a company until they were in their late teens. Keep working on your skills, attend auditions, and don’t give up.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Living the Trainee Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read your contract carefully before committing to a company.\", \"描述\": \"Being a K-pop trainee is a long term commitment. Some companies, depending on your age, may even ask you to sign a 5-6 year-long contract. Read and review the contract’s contents very closely. If you don’t speak Korean, hire a professional lawyer who can review and walk you through the fine print.\\nMany entertainment companies make you repay your salary if you break your contract. Some of them also will not make accommodations for emergencies or health issues. Don’t sign anything before you fully understand it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work to overcome language barriers and make friends with other trainees.\", \"描述\": \"Trainees often sign years-long contracts and spend upwards of 18 hours a day with the other trainees. If you don’t speak Korean or are unfamiliar with the culture, it may take a while before you make friends and feel like you fit in. Make an effort to try and communicate clearly with others, especially if there is a language barrier. Be kind to others and help each other while you’re adapting to trainee life.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take good care of your health throughout the rigorous training program.\", \"描述\": \"Many trainees work from 5 or 6 am until midnight or later. In addition to training, you may also have schoolwork that has to be done or might need extra practice on your own.\\nThe company often sets the schedule for their trainees without running it by them first.\\nTrainees generally don’t get the recommended amount of sleep every night, and they often don’t eat meals at regular intervals.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be prepared for monthly skill evaluations.\", \"描述\": \"Because new trainees are often being brought into the company, everyone is evaluated on a monthly basis to ensure that the recruits are all up to standard. It can be a tense time every month, as the company could choose to let you go if you don’t perform well.\\nThere are generally 20-30 other students at any company at any given time, so you are usually going to be in competition with your classmates to keep your place at the company.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be respectful of everyone at auditions. 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1. Live in inner peace and act with love.
Act with love for the happiness of all beings.
For some people, it is important to live in the outer peace to achieve the inner peace. Basically, the inner peace is the result of a calm mind. A calm mind happens when you focus on yourself spiritually. By focusing on your own qualities, you focus on god, as Hindus embrace the term Aham Brahmasmi (one is inherently a part of god).
This godliness is found by working continually to master your negative qualities, addictions, fears, and aggressions, while simultaneously enhancing your positive qualities.
2. Find your personal balance of rest and action.
Those who live in the inner balance save their energy, physical health, and mental health.
If you strengthen not only the calmness in your life, but also focus on your inner positivity and love, you will grow into the light. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Constantly practice positive thinking, positive speaking, and positive actions.
3. Seek to contribute making a happy world.
You grow further toward enlightenment when you facilitate the desire for a happy world.
The secret to this wish is the connection from the inner to the outer world. You are not spiritually separated from other beings. Their happiness affects yours. When you visualize other beings as happy, then you feel happy too. Those who encourage the goal to a happy world creates positivity within.
When you send light to all beings, then one day light will come through to your soul. When you do something good for the world, the world will reward you with a positive psyche.
4. Prioritize inner happiness.
Don't make outer happiness the center of your life.
If you follow the two principles of spiritual practice and love for all beings, you will transform your mind. Your inner tension will dissolve and happiness will appear. The longer you live and the longer you practice Karma-Yoga, the more you grow into the light.
5. Meditate to solve your tensions and find inner peace.
The meditation has 5 parts in total.
Do the following:
1. Globe = Visualize the earth beneath you, rub the earth with your feet and think, "May all beings be happy. May the world be happy."
2. Television = Which person on television today touches you negatively or positively? Clean the energetic connection, visualize this person as a Buddha or an angel. Give him or her a positive sentence. Think of the sentence as a mantra until you have overcome all attachment or rejection. Everything you see outside makes a knot in your soul. Create harmony in your mind. The first step to happiness is to create a positive world in your mind. Move a hand and send all the people in the television light: "I send light to .. I wish him / her wisdom, love and happiness. May all people on TV Buddhas, yogis and angels."
3. Goddess = Rub your hands before the heart chakra. Visualize yourself as a Buddha, Goddess or Christian: "I am a Goddess (Buddha, Christian). I go the way of the positive. I live in peace, love and happiness."
4. Enlightened Masters = Rub the hands over your head and ask the enlightened masters for guidance and help. Connect yourself spiritually with their energy, "Om all enlightened masters. I ask for guidance and help on my spiritual way."
5. Mantra = Put your hands together in your lap, move your feet and think many times the mantra "Om Shanti" in your body, your legs and in the whole world. Stop every thought for a minute. Relax. Live as a Karma-Yogi in peace, love and happiness.
6. Practice your positive qualities.
Be an angel for the world.
Meditate on or say "I send light to ... May all people be happy. May the world be happy."
Tips
The Dalai Lama[1]
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explains, “live balanced by helping and by meditating.“
Swami Shivananda[2]
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said, “love, serve, give, meditate, purify, and realize your true self.”
Sai Baba[3]
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said, “helping hands are holier than lips which pray.“ Those who work towards happiness for all beings is holier than the yogi who only searches for self-enlightenment.
Warnings
There is a danger along the path of unconditional, all-encompassing love. We can overwhelm ourselves and work too hard and have no energy left for happiness. A karma yogi must practice rooted in inner peace. A karma yogi must take care of himself or herself, as it is impossible to take care of others unless the self is cared for. Furthermore, a path of exhaustion only leads to burn-out, not enlightenment.
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How to Be a Kawaii Girl
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1. Having Kawaii Attitude
1-1. Don't worry about race and ethnicity––these don't matter.
Even if you are not Asian, you can still be Kawaii. Being Kawaii is more than just about race or ethnicity. Your body shape doesn't matter either, Kawaii girls can be short, tall, flat, curvy, or skinny!
1-2. Get the attitude.
Kawaii girls have sweet, nice attitudes that everyone loves! They giggle a lot, are super kind to everyone around them, never pick fights, and are just pleasant to be around! Kawaii is all about being adorable, so find things that you like. Hello Kitty is super adorable and loved by many so that's a good place to start. Don't just get something because it is Kawaii, get it because you like it.
2. Looking Kawaii
2-1. Get the look.
Here's where the innocent, lovable image comes in. Kawaii girls dress in bright, frilly clothes that just scream "cute!". Think outfits like floral, childish/elegant, scalloped designs, patterned overalls, balloon shorts with bows, etc.
Go out shopping find the most adorable clothing you can find. Look for colour and cuteness, but, if you don't love and don't think it would look good on you, put it back. Don't buy something you don't like just because it is Kawaii.
2-2. Dress brightly and colorfully.
Put lots of key chains and things like that on your backpack or purse. Kid Robot has some Kawaii stuffed animals. Accessorize well and make sure your outfits look good together.
Try finding old or used clothes and add lace, bows or other cute attributes.
Many things that don't seem kawaii can look great with some changes. For example, you could add cute animal stickers to white sneakers. Try adding lace to a normal skirt.
2-3. Do Kawaii makeup.
Use black gel and/or liquid eyeliner, pink cream blush, sparkly pink lip gloss, and light concealer/foundation. You want a clean but innocent makeup look. For a good Kawaii makeup tutorial, watch Jemma Kuma's video on Kawaii makeup on YouTube.
Don't do anything sexy if you want to fully follow the kawaii style. Don't do smoky eye, for example.
2-4. Get your nails done.
Look videos up on Youtube if you want a good idea for DIY ideas. Often Kawaii girls wear fake, long and accessorized nails. This might be too much for you, so you got to find out what suits you. Neatly manicured nails are also good and can work in lots of looks.
Try adding stickers to your nails. Just be careful not to paint over them. If would be best to add them after your nails are dry.
2-5. Keep your eyes as large as possible.
In pictures, Kawaii girls always have eyes wide open. You can lay an ice-cold washcloth on your eyes for about five minutes, then apply some pearly eyeshadow to under your eyes, on your crease. Big eyes are cute, but don't worry if your eyes aren't big.
You could make your eyes appear larger by including lashes and applying eyeliner into a cat eye shape.
2-6. Do Kawaii hair.
For hair, think "young child." Pigtails, side ponytails, braids, anything you'd see on a student in elementary school. Don't forget to add bows!
3. Being Kawaii
3-1. Be yourself.
Add your own flair to the Kawaii style using whatever you like, and make the style your own.
3-2. Try watching anime.
It is super fun and interesting and there is something for everyone. It's not all fighting and things like that! For example, try watching Peach Girl. It's great!
3-3. Surround yourself with friends, Kawaii or not.
Really, labels don't matter at all. All that really matters is how much love and support you surround yourself with.
3-4. Have Kawaii role models.
Look around online for great Kawaii women you can look up to. Make sure they make good decisions, are super nice and sweet, and use good language, because Kawaii girls never curse.
Many K-pop and J-pop idols are kawaii or have clothes that could be kawaii. Some look cuter than others. You can copy their outfit styles, which will make you look more kawaii. Go check them out!
Tips
Try to act as innocent as possible.
Use cute little smiley faces! Like this for example: {◕ ◡ ◕}. You can find lots and lots online!
If you just want to follow around people or be "cool" than don`t bother and just find your own style. If you do not enjoy these things then please don`t do this to yourself! If you just love the look, you can only follow that if you`d like.
Warnings
Don't change your voice just to sound cute. This can come across as very unnatural and fake, Kawaii is about being your adorable self!
Don't use "desu" after every sentence unless you want to be labeled as a poser.
Even though you're Kawaii, do know that some people are still gonna hate, sadly. This isn't a fix for bad social situations. Just rock your style and ignore the people drinking Haterade!
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Think outfits like floral, childish/elegant, scalloped designs, patterned overalls, balloon shorts with bows, etc.\\nGo out shopping find the most adorable clothing you can find. Look for colour and cuteness, but, if you don't love and don't think it would look good on you, put it back. Don't buy something you don't like just because it is Kawaii.\\n2-2. Dress brightly and colorfully.\\nPut lots of key chains and things like that on your backpack or purse. Kid Robot has some Kawaii stuffed animals. Accessorize well and make sure your outfits look good together.\\nTry finding old or used clothes and add lace, bows or other cute attributes.\\nMany things that don't seem kawaii can look great with some changes. For example, you could add cute animal stickers to white sneakers. Try adding lace to a normal skirt.\\n2-3. Do Kawaii makeup.\\nUse black gel and/or liquid eyeliner, pink cream blush, sparkly pink lip gloss, and light concealer/foundation. You want a clean but innocent makeup look. For a good Kawaii makeup tutorial, watch Jemma Kuma's video on Kawaii makeup on YouTube.\\nDon't do anything sexy if you want to fully follow the kawaii style. Don't do smoky eye, for example.\\n2-4. Get your nails done.\\nLook videos up on Youtube if you want a good idea for DIY ideas. Often Kawaii girls wear fake, long and accessorized nails. This might be too much for you, so you got to find out what suits you. Neatly manicured nails are also good and can work in lots of looks.\\nTry adding stickers to your nails. Just be careful not to paint over them. If would be best to add them after your nails are dry.\\n2-5. Keep your eyes as large as possible.\\nIn pictures, Kawaii girls always have eyes wide open. You can lay an ice-cold washcloth on your eyes for about five minutes, then apply some pearly eyeshadow to under your eyes, on your crease. Big eyes are cute, but don't worry if your eyes aren't big.\\nYou could make your eyes appear larger by including lashes and applying eyeliner into a cat eye shape.\\n2-6. Do Kawaii hair.\\nFor hair, think \\\"young child.\\\" Pigtails, side ponytails, braids, anything you'd see on a student in elementary school. Don't forget to add bows!\\n3. Being Kawaii\\n3-1. Be yourself.\\nAdd your own flair to the Kawaii style using whatever you like, and make the style your own.\\n3-2. Try watching anime.\\nIt is super fun and interesting and there is something for everyone. It's not all fighting and things like that! For example, try watching Peach Girl. It's great!\\n3-3. Surround yourself with friends, Kawaii or not.\\nReally, labels don't matter at all. All that really matters is how much love and support you surround yourself with.\\n3-4. Have Kawaii role models.\\nLook around online for great Kawaii women you can look up to. Make sure they make good decisions, are super nice and sweet, and use good language, because Kawaii girls never curse.\\nMany K-pop and J-pop idols are kawaii or have clothes that could be kawaii. Some look cuter than others. You can copy their outfit styles, which will make you look more kawaii. Go check them out!\\nTips\\nTry to act as innocent as possible.\\nUse cute little smiley faces! Like this for example: {◕ ◡ ◕}. You can find lots and lots online!\\nIf you just want to follow around people or be \\\"cool\\\" than don`t bother and just find your own style. If you do not enjoy these things then please don`t do this to yourself! If you just love the look, you can only follow that if you`d like.\\nWarnings\\nDon't change your voice just to sound cute. This can come across as very unnatural and fake, Kawaii is about being your adorable self!\\nDon't use \\\"desu\\\" after every sentence unless you want to be labeled as a poser.\\nEven though you're Kawaii, do know that some people are still gonna hate, sadly. This isn't a fix for bad social situations. Just rock your style and ignore the people drinking Haterade!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you ever desired to be just like girls that look like the most innocent, adorable people on the planet? Read this article to learn how to be kawaii yourself!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having Kawaii Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't worry about race and ethnicity––these don't matter.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you are not Asian, you can still be Kawaii. Being Kawaii is more than just about race or ethnicity. 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1. Getting Started
1-1. Take acting classes.
While you may have natural talent, it always helps to hone your skills, so you’re well-prepared when you start to go on auditions. A school drama class is a good place to start, but specialized classes and workshops in specific acting areas, such as commercial acting or acting for the camera, are more impressive to list on your resume.
If you don’t have time during the school year to take acting classes, a summer drama camp may be a good alternative.
If you want personalized acting instruction, you might talk to your parents about hiring an acting coach who can work with you one-on-one to improve your skills.
1-2. Get some experience.
While you probably won’t be able to get a professional acting job right out of the gate, you’ll want potential agents and casting directors to know that you have experience performing. Look for local opportunities to act (such as school plays, regional theater, and student films) so you have some roles to put on your resume.
Try to play a large variety of types of roles. Doing so will it give you an opportunity to stretch your acting skills and will also showcase your impressive acting range to casting directors.
Don't think that you need to go to L.A. or New York in order to jumpstart your acting career. There are many other markets and opportunities out there that you can take advantage of. Although, L.A., New York and Chicago will likely give you more free range of roles, auditions and classes.
1-3. Talk to your parents.
If you’re under 18, you won’t be able to work as an actor without your parents’ permission, so it’s important to get them on board with your plans. Explain how much you enjoy acting, so they understand that it’s something you’re extremely passionate about. You may also need to reassure them that you won’t neglect your other responsibilities, such as school and chores, just because you’re pursuing acting. If it's something you're really passionate about, and you're parents aren't completely sure about it, but you don't want to quit, keep working on your skills, and when your confident enough show them how much it means. Talk about it as much as you can, and most likely you're parents will be happy to help you out!
Don’t tell your parents that you want to become an actor just because you want to be famous or rich. Have some good reasons ready, such as you love telling stories or have fun creating characters, so they’ll take you seriously.
2. Making Connections
2-1. Get headshots.
When you go to meet with potential agents and casting directors, you’ll need to provide a photo. They must be professional photos, though, so you should go to a photographer who specializes in taking photos of children and teens. Make sure to ask for both commercial and theatrical headshots, so you’re ready for both advertising work and film, television, and theater opportunities.
It’s important to choose the right photographer for your headshots. Ask for recommendations if you have friends or acquaintances in the acting field. Otherwise, visit websites for photographers in your area, and study their online portfolios to get an idea of the quality of their work.
Especially early in your acting career, a headshot that pops is important because it's a huge part of your acting portfolio.
2-2. Find an agent.
While you may be able to book some small acting jobs with just your parents’ help, having an agent is crucial if you really want to build a successful acting career. Not only will an agent know the ins and outs of the business so they can guide you in the right direction, they’ll have connections with casting directors and producers that make it easier to get auditions.
To find an agent, research the top talent agencies in your area. You want to make sure that you’re working with a reputable agent, who doesn’t ask for any money upfront.
Many talent agencies allow you to apply online. However, it’s a good idea to meet with a potential agent in person before you and your parents commit to working with them.
If you live in a rural area where it's difficult to find an agent, that doesn't mean you can't act. It just means that you need to look for work through trade publications, such as Backstage, and online casting sites, so you can identify local acting opportunities.
In some cases, agents won't take you on as a client until you have some professional acting credits to your name. You may want to find a few jobs on your own (or with your parents' help) before trying to land an agent.
2-3. Get a work permit.
If you’re under 18, many states require a permit to work in the entertainment industry. For example, California and New York, where many acting opportunities are available, have specific requirements that regulate how child actors may be used. Your agent should know the laws in your state, but you can also visit your state’s labor department website to find out if you need a permit in your state.
In most cases, a form is required to get a work permit. You’ll need to provide parental consent, as well as other information depending on the state. Your health and school records are usually required.
2-4. Join online casting sites.
While your agent will be on the lookout for acting opportunities that fit your skills, you can also do some research yourself. Sites such as Casting Frontier, Actors Access, and L.A. Casting provide casting and audition information for projects that are currently in the process of filling roles. You can usually submit yourself for consideration directly, but it's a good idea to discuss potential roles with your agent.
These sites usually charge a fee, so you’ll need to discuss joining them with your parents.
2-5. Create a YouTube account.
Whether you have an agent or not, it's important to find as many ways to market yourself as an actor as possible, especially if you don't live in L.A. or New York, where most acting opportunities are. Make videos for YouTube that demonstrate your acting skills -- there's no guarantee casting directors or agents will see your videos, but you never know when one will go viral.
Videos of school play and regional theater performances are ideal content for your YouTube channel. Local commercials or TV appearances are also a good idea because agents or casting directors outside your area probably haven't seen them.
If you're feeling creative, you can also post original short films that help showcase your acting ability.
3. Auditioning
3-1. Prepare a monologue.
While most auditions will have a specific scene or group of scenes that you are required to perform, you may sometimes be asked to come up with your own material. That’s why it’s a good idea to work on a monologue or two, so you’ll always be ready when an audition comes up. Make sure to choose a piece that really allows you to showcase your acting skills.
If you’re not sure what monologue(s) to prepare, consider some of your favorite movies -- there’s bound to be a piece in one of them that will work.
It’s usually best to choose an age-appropriate monologue. If possible, find one that’s delivered by character who’s as close to you in age as possible.
Try to master at least two monologues that tonally contrast with each other and also aren't too well-known or frequently performed. That way, you can showcase your acting range without automatically being compared to others.
3-2. Study the script or sides.
In many cases, the casting company will send you a script or “sides,” which are just the portion of the script that pertain to the character that you’re reading for, in advance of the audition. Don’t just glance at your lines a couple of times to try to memorize them -- make an effort to understand the character and figure out the best way to play the scene.
Many casting directors won’t mind if you hold your script or sides during your audition. However, it’s best if you don’t read directly from it. Instead, just glance at it occasionally to remind yourself of the lines.
3-3. Treat it like work.
If you really want an acting career, you must take every audition seriously. While you may not have a job yet, you should act like a professional, so the casting director is comfortable working with you. That means being open to any suggestions that he or she might make and being willing to do the scene several times to get it right.
Make sure to project confidence during your audition. If you don’t believe that you’re good enough for the part, the casting director probably won’t either.
3-4. Don’t get discouraged.
Acting is an extremely competitive business, even for children. As a result, you’re probably going to go on many auditions that don’t end in a job -- but that doesn’t mean you should lose faith in your skills as an actor. As with most things, practice makes perfect, so the more you audition, the better you’ll become at impressing casting directors.
If you realize at some point that you’re no longer having fun pursuing an acting career, talk to your parents. You shouldn’t keep at it if it only makes you feel bad about yourself. And maybe if you cant do these things at school then maybe start a little drama club for you and your friends!
Tips
Remember that acting is just a job. You should still maintain other hobbies and interests outside of your career, and make time for friends and family.
Always practice your craft, even if it’s just reciting lines at home in front of family and friends. It will help you be more comfortable and confident at auditions.
If you’re having trouble tapping into the emotions of a character that you’re auditioning for, try to remember a time in your life when you felt the same things -- or just put yourself in their place. For example, if you’re playing a character who just lost a dog, imagine how you would feel if you lost your pet.
Warnings
Acting may seem like a glamorous profession, but it also involves a lot of hard work. Make sure that you’re really ready to commit yourself to the job.
It's important to remember that the entertainment industry is extremely competitive. Many adults and children try to make it as actors, but it doesn't work out as a long-term career for most of them. Pursue acting because you love it, not because you're counting on it to become a star.
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Look for local opportunities to act (such as school plays, regional theater, and student films) so you have some roles to put on your resume.\\nTry to play a large variety of types of roles. Doing so will it give you an opportunity to stretch your acting skills and will also showcase your impressive acting range to casting directors.\\nDon't think that you need to go to L.A. or New York in order to jumpstart your acting career. There are many other markets and opportunities out there that you can take advantage of. Although, L.A., New York and Chicago will likely give you more free range of roles, auditions and classes.\\n1-3. Talk to your parents.\\nIf you’re under 18, you won’t be able to work as an actor without your parents’ permission, so it’s important to get them on board with your plans. Explain how much you enjoy acting, so they understand that it’s something you’re extremely passionate about. You may also need to reassure them that you won’t neglect your other responsibilities, such as school and chores, just because you’re pursuing acting. If it's something you're really passionate about, and you're parents aren't completely sure about it, but you don't want to quit, keep working on your skills, and when your confident enough show them how much it means. Talk about it as much as you can, and most likely you're parents will be happy to help you out! \\nDon’t tell your parents that you want to become an actor just because you want to be famous or rich. Have some good reasons ready, such as you love telling stories or have fun creating characters, so they’ll take you seriously.\\n2. Making Connections\\n2-1. Get headshots.\\nWhen you go to meet with potential agents and casting directors, you’ll need to provide a photo. They must be professional photos, though, so you should go to a photographer who specializes in taking photos of children and teens. Make sure to ask for both commercial and theatrical headshots, so you’re ready for both advertising work and film, television, and theater opportunities.\\nIt’s important to choose the right photographer for your headshots. Ask for recommendations if you have friends or acquaintances in the acting field. Otherwise, visit websites for photographers in your area, and study their online portfolios to get an idea of the quality of their work.\\nEspecially early in your acting career, a headshot that pops is important because it's a huge part of your acting portfolio.\\n2-2. Find an agent.\\nWhile you may be able to book some small acting jobs with just your parents’ help, having an agent is crucial if you really want to build a successful acting career. Not only will an agent know the ins and outs of the business so they can guide you in the right direction, they’ll have connections with casting directors and producers that make it easier to get auditions.\\nTo find an agent, research the top talent agencies in your area. You want to make sure that you’re working with a reputable agent, who doesn’t ask for any money upfront.\\nMany talent agencies allow you to apply online. However, it’s a good idea to meet with a potential agent in person before you and your parents commit to working with them.\\nIf you live in a rural area where it's difficult to find an agent, that doesn't mean you can't act. It just means that you need to look for work through trade publications, such as Backstage, and online casting sites, so you can identify local acting opportunities.\\nIn some cases, agents won't take you on as a client until you have some professional acting credits to your name. You may want to find a few jobs on your own (or with your parents' help) before trying to land an agent.\\n2-3. Get a work permit.\\nIf you’re under 18, many states require a permit to work in the entertainment industry. For example, California and New York, where many acting opportunities are available, have specific requirements that regulate how child actors may be used. Your agent should know the laws in your state, but you can also visit your state’s labor department website to find out if you need a permit in your state.\\nIn most cases, a form is required to get a work permit. You’ll need to provide parental consent, as well as other information depending on the state. Your health and school records are usually required.\\n2-4. Join online casting sites.\\nWhile your agent will be on the lookout for acting opportunities that fit your skills, you can also do some research yourself. Sites such as Casting Frontier, Actors Access, and L.A. Casting provide casting and audition information for projects that are currently in the process of filling roles. You can usually submit yourself for consideration directly, but it's a good idea to discuss potential roles with your agent.\\nThese sites usually charge a fee, so you’ll need to discuss joining them with your parents.\\n2-5. Create a YouTube account.\\nWhether you have an agent or not, it's important to find as many ways to market yourself as an actor as possible, especially if you don't live in L.A. or New York, where most acting opportunities are. Make videos for YouTube that demonstrate your acting skills -- there's no guarantee casting directors or agents will see your videos, but you never know when one will go viral.\\nVideos of school play and regional theater performances are ideal content for your YouTube channel. Local commercials or TV appearances are also a good idea because agents or casting directors outside your area probably haven't seen them.\\nIf you're feeling creative, you can also post original short films that help showcase your acting ability.\\n3. Auditioning\\n3-1. Prepare a monologue.\\nWhile most auditions will have a specific scene or group of scenes that you are required to perform, you may sometimes be asked to come up with your own material. That’s why it’s a good idea to work on a monologue or two, so you’ll always be ready when an audition comes up. Make sure to choose a piece that really allows you to showcase your acting skills.\\nIf you’re not sure what monologue(s) to prepare, consider some of your favorite movies -- there’s bound to be a piece in one of them that will work.\\nIt’s usually best to choose an age-appropriate monologue. If possible, find one that’s delivered by character who’s as close to you in age as possible.\\nTry to master at least two monologues that tonally contrast with each other and also aren't too well-known or frequently performed. That way, you can showcase your acting range without automatically being compared to others.\\n3-2. Study the script or sides.\\nIn many cases, the casting company will send you a script or “sides,” which are just the portion of the script that pertain to the character that you’re reading for, in advance of the audition. Don’t just glance at your lines a couple of times to try to memorize them -- make an effort to understand the character and figure out the best way to play the scene.\\nMany casting directors won’t mind if you hold your script or sides during your audition. However, it’s best if you don’t read directly from it. Instead, just glance at it occasionally to remind yourself of the lines.\\n3-3. Treat it like work.\\nIf you really want an acting career, you must take every audition seriously. While you may not have a job yet, you should act like a professional, so the casting director is comfortable working with you. That means being open to any suggestions that he or she might make and being willing to do the scene several times to get it right.\\nMake sure to project confidence during your audition. If you don’t believe that you’re good enough for the part, the casting director probably won’t either.\\n3-4. Don’t get discouraged.\\nActing is an extremely competitive business, even for children. As a result, you’re probably going to go on many auditions that don’t end in a job -- but that doesn’t mean you should lose faith in your skills as an actor. As with most things, practice makes perfect, so the more you audition, the better you’ll become at impressing casting directors.\\nIf you realize at some point that you’re no longer having fun pursuing an acting career, talk to your parents. You shouldn’t keep at it if it only makes you feel bad about yourself. And maybe if you cant do these things at school then maybe start a little drama club for you and your friends!\\nTips\\nRemember that acting is just a job. You should still maintain other hobbies and interests outside of your career, and make time for friends and family.\\nAlways practice your craft, even if it’s just reciting lines at home in front of family and friends. It will help you be more comfortable and confident at auditions.\\nIf you’re having trouble tapping into the emotions of a character that you’re auditioning for, try to remember a time in your life when you felt the same things -- or just put yourself in their place. For example, if you’re playing a character who just lost a dog, imagine how you would feel if you lost your pet.\\nWarnings\\nActing may seem like a glamorous profession, but it also involves a lot of hard work. Make sure that you’re really ready to commit yourself to the job.\\nIt's important to remember that the entertainment industry is extremely competitive. Many adults and children try to make it as actors, but it doesn't work out as a long-term career for most of them. Pursue acting because you love it, not because you're counting on it to become a star.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you love performing in front of an audience and dazzling a crowd? If so, you might be an actor at heart. There are all kinds of opportunities out there for child actors, but how do you get into the business? Don't worry—this article will walk you through everything you need to know to become a child actor, from developing your acting skills to getting an agent to acing your auditions.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Started\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take acting classes.\", \"描述\": \"While you may have natural talent, it always helps to hone your skills, so you’re well-prepared when you start to go on auditions. A school drama class is a good place to start, but specialized classes and workshops in specific acting areas, such as commercial acting or acting for the camera, are more impressive to list on your resume.\\nIf you don’t have time during the school year to take acting classes, a summer drama camp may be a good alternative.\\nIf you want personalized acting instruction, you might talk to your parents about hiring an acting coach who can work with you one-on-one to improve your skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get some experience.\", \"描述\": \"While you probably won’t be able to get a professional acting job right out of the gate, you’ll want potential agents and casting directors to know that you have experience performing. Look for local opportunities to act (such as school plays, regional theater, and student films) so you have some roles to put on your resume.\\nTry to play a large variety of types of roles. Doing so will it give you an opportunity to stretch your acting skills and will also showcase your impressive acting range to casting directors.\\nDon't think that you need to go to L.A. or New York in order to jumpstart your acting career. There are many other markets and opportunities out there that you can take advantage of. Although, L.A., New York and Chicago will likely give you more free range of roles, auditions and classes.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Talk to your parents.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re under 18, you won’t be able to work as an actor without your parents’ permission, so it’s important to get them on board with your plans. Explain how much you enjoy acting, so they understand that it’s something you’re extremely passionate about. You may also need to reassure them that you won’t neglect your other responsibilities, such as school and chores, just because you’re pursuing acting. If it's something you're really passionate about, and you're parents aren't completely sure about it, but you don't want to quit, keep working on your skills, and when your confident enough show them how much it means. Talk about it as much as you can, and most likely you're parents will be happy to help you out! \\nDon’t tell your parents that you want to become an actor just because you want to be famous or rich. Have some good reasons ready, such as you love telling stories or have fun creating characters, so they’ll take you seriously.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making Connections\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get headshots.\", \"描述\": \"When you go to meet with potential agents and casting directors, you’ll need to provide a photo. They must be professional photos, though, so you should go to a photographer who specializes in taking photos of children and teens. Make sure to ask for both commercial and theatrical headshots, so you’re ready for both advertising work and film, television, and theater opportunities.\\nIt’s important to choose the right photographer for your headshots. Ask for recommendations if you have friends or acquaintances in the acting field. Otherwise, visit websites for photographers in your area, and study their online portfolios to get an idea of the quality of their work.\\nEspecially early in your acting career, a headshot that pops is important because it's a huge part of your acting portfolio.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find an agent.\", \"描述\": \"While you may be able to book some small acting jobs with just your parents’ help, having an agent is crucial if you really want to build a successful acting career. Not only will an agent know the ins and outs of the business so they can guide you in the right direction, they’ll have connections with casting directors and producers that make it easier to get auditions.\\nTo find an agent, research the top talent agencies in your area. You want to make sure that you’re working with a reputable agent, who doesn’t ask for any money upfront.\\nMany talent agencies allow you to apply online. However, it’s a good idea to meet with a potential agent in person before you and your parents commit to working with them.\\nIf you live in a rural area where it's difficult to find an agent, that doesn't mean you can't act. It just means that you need to look for work through trade publications, such as Backstage, and online casting sites, so you can identify local acting opportunities.\\nIn some cases, agents won't take you on as a client until you have some professional acting credits to your name. You may want to find a few jobs on your own (or with your parents' help) before trying to land an agent.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a work permit.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re under 18, many states require a permit to work in the entertainment industry. For example, California and New York, where many acting opportunities are available, have specific requirements that regulate how child actors may be used. Your agent should know the laws in your state, but you can also visit your state’s labor department website to find out if you need a permit in your state.\\nIn most cases, a form is required to get a work permit. You’ll need to provide parental consent, as well as other information depending on the state. Your health and school records are usually required.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Join online casting sites.\", \"描述\": \"While your agent will be on the lookout for acting opportunities that fit your skills, you can also do some research yourself. Sites such as Casting Frontier, Actors Access, and L.A. Casting provide casting and audition information for projects that are currently in the process of filling roles. You can usually submit yourself for consideration directly, but it's a good idea to discuss potential roles with your agent.\\nThese sites usually charge a fee, so you’ll need to discuss joining them with your parents.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create a YouTube account.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you have an agent or not, it's important to find as many ways to market yourself as an actor as possible, especially if you don't live in L.A. or New York, where most acting opportunities are. Make videos for YouTube that demonstrate your acting skills -- there's no guarantee casting directors or agents will see your videos, but you never know when one will go viral.\\nVideos of school play and regional theater performances are ideal content for your YouTube channel. Local commercials or TV appearances are also a good idea because agents or casting directors outside your area probably haven't seen them.\\nIf you're feeling creative, you can also post original short films that help showcase your acting ability.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Auditioning\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare a monologue.\", \"描述\": \"While most auditions will have a specific scene or group of scenes that you are required to perform, you may sometimes be asked to come up with your own material. That’s why it’s a good idea to work on a monologue or two, so you’ll always be ready when an audition comes up. Make sure to choose a piece that really allows you to showcase your acting skills.\\nIf you’re not sure what monologue(s) to prepare, consider some of your favorite movies -- there’s bound to be a piece in one of them that will work.\\nIt’s usually best to choose an age-appropriate monologue. If possible, find one that’s delivered by character who’s as close to you in age as possible.\\nTry to master at least two monologues that tonally contrast with each other and also aren't too well-known or frequently performed. That way, you can showcase your acting range without automatically being compared to others.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Study the script or sides.\", \"描述\": \"In many cases, the casting company will send you a script or “sides,” which are just the portion of the script that pertain to the character that you’re reading for, in advance of the audition. Don’t just glance at your lines a couple of times to try to memorize them -- make an effort to understand the character and figure out the best way to play the scene.\\nMany casting directors won’t mind if you hold your script or sides during your audition. However, it’s best if you don’t read directly from it. Instead, just glance at it occasionally to remind yourself of the lines.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Treat it like work.\", \"描述\": \"If you really want an acting career, you must take every audition seriously. While you may not have a job yet, you should act like a professional, so the casting director is comfortable working with you. That means being open to any suggestions that he or she might make and being willing to do the scene several times to get it right.\\nMake sure to project confidence during your audition. If you don’t believe that you’re good enough for the part, the casting director probably won’t either.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t get discouraged.\", \"描述\": \"Acting is an extremely competitive business, even for children. As a result, you’re probably going to go on many auditions that don’t end in a job -- but that doesn’t mean you should lose faith in your skills as an actor. As with most things, practice makes perfect, so the more you audition, the better you’ll become at impressing casting directors.\\nIf you realize at some point that you’re no longer having fun pursuing an acting career, talk to your parents. You shouldn’t keep at it if it only makes you feel bad about yourself. And maybe if you cant do these things at school then maybe start a little drama club for you and your friends!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Remember that acting is just a job. You should still maintain other hobbies and interests outside of your career, and make time for friends and family.\\n\", \"Always practice your craft, even if it’s just reciting lines at home in front of family and friends. It will help you be more comfortable and confident at auditions.\\n\", \"If you’re having trouble tapping into the emotions of a character that you’re auditioning for, try to remember a time in your life when you felt the same things -- or just put yourself in their place. 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1. Making Kindness a Habit
1-1. Act with good intentions.
Research has shown that acting with good intentions can improve your mindset and help you to enjoy your own acts of kindness. Being aware of your good intentions can also make your act of kindness more meaningful to the recipient.
Decide to do something nice for someone before you do it. Acting with intent will help you to enjoy acting in a kind manner.
Enjoying being kind serves as a form of positive reinforcement, encouraging you to be kind more often in order to continue enjoying the feeling.
1-2. Try to see things from the perspective of others.
Being kind becomes easier when you empathize with the experiences of others. Try to imagine yourself in the shoes of those around you and think of how your actions might affect them. Do things that you wish others would do for you, if you were in their shoes.
Picturing yourself in other people's shoes can making being kind seem less like something that requires effort and more like it's simply the right thing to do.
1-3. Take a timeout when you feel yourself getting angry.
Being kind is much easier when things are going well, but when the going gets tough people often forget to consider the feelings of others. When you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated, take a timeout and try to calm yourself down.
Controlling your temper is one of the most important elements of kindness.
Try counting to ten and taking long, deep breaths when you're angry. Think about your words and actions, and how they may affect those around you, when you're angry.
1-4. Take responsibility for your actions.
When you distance yourself from your actions by justifying them as vengeance or deserved, you allow yourself to be unkind for selfish reasons. Instead of telling yourself that the way you act towards others is deserved with it's negative, take responsibility for the way you treat others.
Don't convince yourself that negative things you do or say are acceptable because you feel slighted.
You can't control the actions of others, but you can control how you react to them. Being kind is a choice.
2. Practicing Compassion
2-1. Understand the benefits of compassion practice.
Studies have shown that you can train yourself to feel compassion for those around you through practice. Compassion practice is a kind of training that will help you better empathize with the people in your life, making kindness an easier endeavor.
Compassion practice is made up of mental exercises that you should try to do on a daily basis.
Studies have shown that compassion practice can reduce the hormones in your brain associated with stress.
2-2. Imagine a loved one in trouble.
Spend a few minutes of your day imagining someone you care about needing help. Focus on the way they would feel and try to envision their stresses and concerns. Create a complex scenario in your mind and imagine their difficulties in as much detail as you can.
This exercise will help you to appreciate the difficulties the people you love go through. Developing an understanding of your loved one's struggles will help you develop empathy toward others.
You can also use this exercise to help you develop more compassion towards yourself. For example, after thinking about how you would treat a friend who was suffering or struggling with something, consider how you treat yourself when you are suffering or struggling. Are you kind to yourself? Do you show yourself compassion? Or do you refuse to acknowledge when you are struggling or suffering? If you treat yourself harshly, then consider the reasons why. What might change if you were kind to yourself?
2-3. Focus on what you have in common with others.
Take some time out of your day to focus on the things you have in common with the people around you. Think of the emotions they are experiencing or have experienced and add the phrase, “just like me” to the end of each. Try saying some of the following statements to yourself throughout your day:
“This person just wants to be happy… just like me.”
“This person is trying to avoid suffering in his or her life… just like me.”
“This person has been down, sad and depressed at times… just like me.”
2-4. Think about what kindness could do for people.
Establishing empathy for others and finding what you have in common are just the beginning. Now, as you imagine the suffering of people that you know are ultimately a lot like you, think about what it would mean to you if someone were to go out of their way to be kind to you in the same position.
Think about how much it would mean just to know someone was hoping things would get better for you.
Focus on that joy you can imagine others experiencing. That feeling is the basis of compassion.
2-5. Put it to practice.
Use the progress you've made in the previous steps to put your training to good use. Try to find a small gesture you can make for another person each day. It doesn't need to be anything significant, it just needs to be intentionally kind. Start by sharing a smile or a kind word, and over time you will develop a habit of not only empathizing, but also acting on that empathy.
Start with small gestures, but from time to time take an opportunity to go out of your way for others.
Think about the way your kind gestures made people feel and reflect on the way your kindness affects others.
3. Exercising Kindness in Your Daily Life
3-1. Be courteous and polite.
Kindness does not have to be a grand gesture. Often, you can demonstrate kindness for others simply by being conscious of those around you and treating others with respect. Do small things like opening doors for others or greeting people with a smile. By being kind to others through random acts of kindness, you will be making other people feel good and you may also feel happier yourself.
Small gestures can mean a great deal to a person that's having a difficult day. Change the toner in the photocopier because you coworker hates doing it, pay for a friend's coffee or tell a loved one that they're important to you today.
Kindness isn't about grand gestures as much as it's about thinking of others. Demonstrate your concern for others by treating them with respect.
3-2. Reach out to friends who seem down.
It can be easy to be so focused on what you're doing that you don't notice when friends seem sad or even depressed. Make a conscious effort to reach out to friends who don't seem happy and let them know that you care.
Send an e-mail, message or text to a friend that seems down and ask how they're doing. Let them know that you're there if they need you.
Volunteering is another great way to help yourself while helping others. Consider volunteering for a a non-profit organization to help people (or animals) who are in need of help. For example, you could volunteer for a soup kitchen, become a dog walker for a local animal shelter, or donate your time and talents to a homeless shelter.
3-3. Show gratitude.
When other people do something nice for you, or show you kindness, return the favor by expressing your gratitude. Saying thank you may not seem like it's a big deal, but a sincere “thanks” can make someone's effort feel well worth it. Saying thank you can also improve your relationships and improve your own well-being.
Think about how much you appreciate being thanked when you go out of your way for someone.
When someone does something nice for you, it means they were thinking about you and cared enough to put forth the effort. Reciprocate that effort by making sure to show your appreciation.
3-4. Donate to charity.
Kindness can extend to people you've never met. Donating your time or money to a good cause is an excellent way to share kindness with the world and it will likely leave you feeling fulfilled when you're done.
Clean out your closet and donate old clothes to charity.
Give a few dollars to a charitable cause that you believe in.
Raise money for a cause.
3-5. Be kind anonymously.
A kind act from a stranger can often have a more significant impact on your day than kindness from close friends and family. Spread kindness in the world by doing something nice for someone you don't know without looking for recognition.
Pay for the coffee of the person behind you at a drive through. This kind gesture can set off a chain reaction of kindness that can permeate throughout the day and a part of the community.
Throw a quarter in someone's parking meter to prevent them from getting a parking ticket.
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Do things that you wish others would do for you, if you were in their shoes.\\nPicturing yourself in other people's shoes can making being kind seem less like something that requires effort and more like it's simply the right thing to do.\\n1-3. Take a timeout when you feel yourself getting angry.\\nBeing kind is much easier when things are going well, but when the going gets tough people often forget to consider the feelings of others. When you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated, take a timeout and try to calm yourself down.\\n\\nControlling your temper is one of the most important elements of kindness.\\nTry counting to ten and taking long, deep breaths when you're angry. Think about your words and actions, and how they may affect those around you, when you're angry.\\n1-4. Take responsibility for your actions.\\nWhen you distance yourself from your actions by justifying them as vengeance or deserved, you allow yourself to be unkind for selfish reasons. Instead of telling yourself that the way you act towards others is deserved with it's negative, take responsibility for the way you treat others. \\nDon't convince yourself that negative things you do or say are acceptable because you feel slighted.\\nYou can't control the actions of others, but you can control how you react to them. Being kind is a choice.\\n2. Practicing Compassion\\n2-1. Understand the benefits of compassion practice.\\nStudies have shown that you can train yourself to feel compassion for those around you through practice. Compassion practice is a kind of training that will help you better empathize with the people in your life, making kindness an easier endeavor.\\nCompassion practice is made up of mental exercises that you should try to do on a daily basis.\\nStudies have shown that compassion practice can reduce the hormones in your brain associated with stress.\\n2-2. Imagine a loved one in trouble.\\nSpend a few minutes of your day imagining someone you care about needing help. Focus on the way they would feel and try to envision their stresses and concerns. Create a complex scenario in your mind and imagine their difficulties in as much detail as you can.\\nThis exercise will help you to appreciate the difficulties the people you love go through. Developing an understanding of your loved one's struggles will help you develop empathy toward others.\\nYou can also use this exercise to help you develop more compassion towards yourself. For example, after thinking about how you would treat a friend who was suffering or struggling with something, consider how you treat yourself when you are suffering or struggling. Are you kind to yourself? Do you show yourself compassion? Or do you refuse to acknowledge when you are struggling or suffering? If you treat yourself harshly, then consider the reasons why. What might change if you were kind to yourself?\\n2-3. Focus on what you have in common with others.\\nTake some time out of your day to focus on the things you have in common with the people around you. Think of the emotions they are experiencing or have experienced and add the phrase, “just like me” to the end of each. Try saying some of the following statements to yourself throughout your day:\\n“This person just wants to be happy… just like me.”\\n“This person is trying to avoid suffering in his or her life… just like me.”\\n“This person has been down, sad and depressed at times… just like me.”\\n2-4. Think about what kindness could do for people.\\nEstablishing empathy for others and finding what you have in common are just the beginning. Now, as you imagine the suffering of people that you know are ultimately a lot like you, think about what it would mean to you if someone were to go out of their way to be kind to you in the same position.\\nThink about how much it would mean just to know someone was hoping things would get better for you.\\nFocus on that joy you can imagine others experiencing. That feeling is the basis of compassion.\\n2-5. Put it to practice.\\nUse the progress you've made in the previous steps to put your training to good use. Try to find a small gesture you can make for another person each day. It doesn't need to be anything significant, it just needs to be intentionally kind. Start by sharing a smile or a kind word, and over time you will develop a habit of not only empathizing, but also acting on that empathy.\\nStart with small gestures, but from time to time take an opportunity to go out of your way for others.\\nThink about the way your kind gestures made people feel and reflect on the way your kindness affects others.\\n3. Exercising Kindness in Your Daily Life\\n3-1. Be courteous and polite.\\nKindness does not have to be a grand gesture. Often, you can demonstrate kindness for others simply by being conscious of those around you and treating others with respect. Do small things like opening doors for others or greeting people with a smile. By being kind to others through random acts of kindness, you will be making other people feel good and you may also feel happier yourself.\\nSmall gestures can mean a great deal to a person that's having a difficult day. 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For example, you could volunteer for a soup kitchen, become a dog walker for a local animal shelter, or donate your time and talents to a homeless shelter.\\n3-3. Show gratitude.\\nWhen other people do something nice for you, or show you kindness, return the favor by expressing your gratitude. Saying thank you may not seem like it's a big deal, but a sincere “thanks” can make someone's effort feel well worth it. Saying thank you can also improve your relationships and improve your own well-being.\\nThink about how much you appreciate being thanked when you go out of your way for someone.\\nWhen someone does something nice for you, it means they were thinking about you and cared enough to put forth the effort. Reciprocate that effort by making sure to show your appreciation.\\n3-4. Donate to charity.\\nKindness can extend to people you've never met. 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Sometimes it takes some real effort to be able to treat others with the kindness you would hope to receive, but through practice you can change your perception and start seeing kindness as more worth the effort. Making kindness habitual will take some practice, but all it takes is one small gesture to get started. As Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making Kindness a Habit\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Act with good intentions.\", \"描述\": \"Research has shown that acting with good intentions can improve your mindset and help you to enjoy your own acts of kindness. Being aware of your good intentions can also make your act of kindness more meaningful to the recipient.\\nDecide to do something nice for someone before you do it. 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Being kind is a choice.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practicing Compassion\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand the benefits of compassion practice.\", \"描述\": \"Studies have shown that you can train yourself to feel compassion for those around you through practice. Compassion practice is a kind of training that will help you better empathize with the people in your life, making kindness an easier endeavor.\\nCompassion practice is made up of mental exercises that you should try to do on a daily basis.\\nStudies have shown that compassion practice can reduce the hormones in your brain associated with stress.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Imagine a loved one in trouble.\", \"描述\": \"Spend a few minutes of your day imagining someone you care about needing help. Focus on the way they would feel and try to envision their stresses and concerns. Create a complex scenario in your mind and imagine their difficulties in as much detail as you can.\\nThis exercise will help you to appreciate the difficulties the people you love go through. Developing an understanding of your loved one's struggles will help you develop empathy toward others.\\nYou can also use this exercise to help you develop more compassion towards yourself. For example, after thinking about how you would treat a friend who was suffering or struggling with something, consider how you treat yourself when you are suffering or struggling. Are you kind to yourself? Do you show yourself compassion? Or do you refuse to acknowledge when you are struggling or suffering? If you treat yourself harshly, then consider the reasons why. What might change if you were kind to yourself?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Focus on what you have in common with others.\", \"描述\": \"Take some time out of your day to focus on the things you have in common with the people around you. Think of the emotions they are experiencing or have experienced and add the phrase, “just like me” to the end of each. Try saying some of the following statements to yourself throughout your day:\\n“This person just wants to be happy… just like me.”\\n“This person is trying to avoid suffering in his or her life… just like me.”\\n“This person has been down, sad and depressed at times… just like me.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think about what kindness could do for people.\", \"描述\": \"Establishing empathy for others and finding what you have in common are just the beginning. Now, as you imagine the suffering of people that you know are ultimately a lot like you, think about what it would mean to you if someone were to go out of their way to be kind to you in the same position.\\nThink about how much it would mean just to know someone was hoping things would get better for you.\\nFocus on that joy you can imagine others experiencing. That feeling is the basis of compassion.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Put it to practice.\", \"描述\": \"Use the progress you've made in the previous steps to put your training to good use. Try to find a small gesture you can make for another person each day. It doesn't need to be anything significant, it just needs to be intentionally kind. Start by sharing a smile or a kind word, and over time you will develop a habit of not only empathizing, but also acting on that empathy.\\nStart with small gestures, but from time to time take an opportunity to go out of your way for others.\\nThink about the way your kind gestures made people feel and reflect on the way your kindness affects others.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Exercising Kindness in Your Daily Life\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be courteous and polite.\", \"描述\": \"Kindness does not have to be a grand gesture. Often, you can demonstrate kindness for others simply by being conscious of those around you and treating others with respect. Do small things like opening doors for others or greeting people with a smile. By being kind to others through random acts of kindness, you will be making other people feel good and you may also feel happier yourself.\\nSmall gestures can mean a great deal to a person that's having a difficult day. Change the toner in the photocopier because you coworker hates doing it, pay for a friend's coffee or tell a loved one that they're important to you today.\\nKindness isn't about grand gestures as much as it's about thinking of others. Demonstrate your concern for others by treating them with respect.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Reach out to friends who seem down.\", \"描述\": \"It can be easy to be so focused on what you're doing that you don't notice when friends seem sad or even depressed. Make a conscious effort to reach out to friends who don't seem happy and let them know that you care.\\nSend an e-mail, message or text to a friend that seems down and ask how they're doing. Let them know that you're there if they need you.\\nVolunteering is another great way to help yourself while helping others. Consider volunteering for a a non-profit organization to help people (or animals) who are in need of help. For example, you could volunteer for a soup kitchen, become a dog walker for a local animal shelter, or donate your time and talents to a homeless shelter.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Show gratitude.\", \"描述\": \"When other people do something nice for you, or show you kindness, return the favor by expressing your gratitude. Saying thank you may not seem like it's a big deal, but a sincere “thanks” can make someone's effort feel well worth it. Saying thank you can also improve your relationships and improve your own well-being.\\nThink about how much you appreciate being thanked when you go out of your way for someone.\\nWhen someone does something nice for you, it means they were thinking about you and cared enough to put forth the effort. Reciprocate that effort by making sure to show your appreciation.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Donate to charity.\", \"描述\": \"Kindness can extend to people you've never met. Donating your time or money to a good cause is an excellent way to share kindness with the world and it will likely leave you feeling fulfilled when you're done.\\nClean out your closet and donate old clothes to charity.\\nGive a few dollars to a charitable cause that you believe in.\\nRaise money for a cause.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be kind anonymously.\", \"描述\": \"A kind act from a stranger can often have a more significant impact on your day than kindness from close friends and family. Spread kindness in the world by doing something nice for someone you don't know without looking for recognition.\\nPay for the coffee of the person behind you at a drive through. This kind gesture can set off a chain reaction of kindness that can permeate throughout the day and a part of the community.\\nThrow a quarter in someone's parking meter to prevent them from getting a parking ticket.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Becoming a Likeable Know-It-All
1-1. Acquire the skills to be a know-it-all.
To become a know-it-all, you have to be open to learning and gaining knowledge. You should focus on studying up on everyday knowledge that will come in handy on a day to day basis. This way you can act like a helpful know-it-all when you are around others. For example, you may learn about how to open a wine bottle or how to fix a broken toilet.
You may also brush up on your knowledge of medical procedures so you can be a know-it-all in the event of an emergency. For example, you may read up on how to perform CPR or how to clean a wound.
You may try to learn about survival knowledge that may come in handy if you are stranded in the wild with friends, such as how to make a stone axe or how to make a simple stretcher.
1-2. Act like a friendly know-it-all.
To avoid being an annoying know-it-all that irritates everyone around them, you should try to be friendly and polite when you share your knowledge. Adopt a friendly, open tone and try to act agreeable when you tell someone what you know. This will make your know-it-all attitude seem less rude or obnoxious. Try to teach others about how to do something right in a generous way and be a friendly know-it-all, rather than a snobbish know-it-all.
You can appear friendly by displaying open body language, where you maintain eye contact with others and keep your body relaxed, with your arms at your sides. You should also lean towards the person you are addressing and have a friendly look on your face, preferably a smile.
When you make know-it-all statements, you should use "I" and say "I think" or "I believe". Even if you know a statement is correct, you want to appear agreeable to others around you and not too obnoxious or annoying. For example, you may say, "I think this is how you open a wine bottle" or "I believe this is how you clean a wound."
1-3. Be willing to admit when you do not know-it-all.
To be a likeable know-it-all, you should be willing to admit when you do not, in fact, know-it-all. Though you may try your best to know all there is to know about a subject or topic, there may be moments when you are stuck or unsure of the right answer. Rather than pretend you know something, be willing to admit that you are not 100 percent sure of the right solution to a problem or issue. Then, ask others around you for their opinion. Doing this will show you are able to open and humble about the limits of your knowledge.
For example, you may try to be a know-it-all about how to solve a math problem in class. However, you may be struggling to determine the right answer for the problem. Rather than sit in class and continue to struggle, you may tap a friend on the shoulder and ask them for help. Or you may raise your hand and ask your teacher for help.
2. Being a Know-It-All at School
2-1. Raise your hand often in class.
You can be a know-it-all in school by making sure you attend every class and raise your hand often. As a know-it-all, you should not be afraid to show off your knowledge in class around your peers. Raise your hand in class as much as you can so your teacher can call on you and ask you for an answer.
As a know-it-all, you may be tempted to raise your hand every time your teacher asks for an answer to a problem or an opinion from the class. But you should make sure you are aware of the answer to your teacher’s question before you raise your hand. You are not going to seem like such a know-it-all if you end up providing the wrong answer to your teacher’s question.
2-2. Correct the mistakes of other students.
Know-it-alls are also prone to correcting the mistakes of others, such as their peers or fellow students. As a know-it-all, you may correct any mistakes your peers make in class, such as providing a wrong answer to a question. You may also expand on the answer of one of your peers during a discussion to show everyone how much you know.
For example, one of your peers may say, “I think the answer is 9.” You may then respond by raising your hand and saying, “Actually, the answer is 5 because…” As a know-it-all, you should be willing to correct someone’s mistakes in a straightforward and honest way.
2-3. Do well on exams and tests.
To prove that you are a know-it-all, you should strive to do well on all your exams and tests in school. Being a model student will show your peers and your teachers that you do in fact know it all and are able to perform well academically. You should study hard for your exams well in advance so you are prepared and confident going into the exam.
You may also try studying with your peers for exams, though you may find this difficult as a know-it-all. Collaborating and working with your peers can make you a stronger student, even if you may have to sacrifice some of your know-it-all traits.
2-4. Share your knowledge with your teachers.
As a know-it-all you should also be comfortable with sharing your knowledge and expertise with your teachers. You may try correcting your teachers on their mistakes, though this may end up getting you in trouble with your teachers.
Another option is to make suggestions on a different approach to a problem or issue so you appear less threatening and aggressive to your teachers. You may present a different approach as a way to debate an issue with your teacher and with the rest of the class.
For example, you may feel there is a point that is being missed during your teacher’s discussion on a play by Shakespeare. You may then raise your hand and say, “Actually, I thought Shakespeare was more interested in exploring these themes…” or “In my opinion, I think Shakespeare misses the point..”. Presenting your ideas in this way will still allow you to be a know-it-all without alienated your teachers or your classmates.
3. Being a Know-It-All at Work
3-1. Speak up in meetings.
You can be the office know-it-all by speaking up during meetings or group discussions. Be confident and assertive during meetings so everyone is aware of your presence. You may try raising your hand to speak or waiting for a lull in conversation to share your opinion. Being bold and honest about your thoughts is a key quality of being a know-it-all.
Use “I” statements when you speak and try to go for a neutral tone, even if you are acting like a know-it-all. For example, you may say, “I think a better approach might be…” or “I believe we are missing a key issue, which is…”.
3-2. Discuss your ideas with your coworkers.
As a know-it-all, you should also be willing to discuss your ideas with your coworkers in a clear and honest way. You may talk about your ideas casually over lunch or at the coffee machine. Or you may discuss your thoughts during a brainstorming meeting with coworkers.
Try to maintain a friendly, neutral tone when you are sharing your ideas with your coworker, even if you feel they are the right ideas. For example, you may say, “I like your idea but I was also thinking about…” or “I see where you are going and I think adding on to that idea might make it stronger…”.
3-3. Perform well at your job.
You can be the ultimate know-it-all by focusing on doing well at your job and being a model employee. Meet your deadlines and keep your clients happy to show your boss that you are good at your job. You may also try to impress your clients with your ability to know-it-all and use this to your advantage as an employee.
If you get feedback about your know-it-all attitude from your employer or your coworkers, you may want to consider how you can shift your attitude so you still project confidence and expertise without being too aggressive or in your face.
4. Being a Know-It-All at Home
4-1. Share your opinion with your siblings and your parents.
You can be a know-it-all at home by sharing your opinions with your siblings and your parents. You may do this at the dinner table during a family discussion or when you are alone with your siblings. Listen to what others have to say and then be willing to share your opinion honestly.
Try to be friendly when you state your opinion as you do not want to get into hot water with your parents or your siblings.
For example, a sibling may say something you think is incorrect. You may say, “Actually, I think the right answer is…” or “In fact, the right answer is…”.
4-2. Speak up at home.
As a know-it-all, you may speak up when you see things that you feel are not right at home. You may notice when chores as not done correctly or when problems at home are not handled well. You should point out these issues and not be afraid to state your case.
For example, you may notice that your sister is not doing her share of the chores. You may then say to your sister, “You are responsible for your chores” or “You need to fulfill your responsibilities.”
Be tactful when speaking up to your parents, as you do not want to seem disrespectful. Instead, use a polite tone and speak respectfully to your parents when you are being a know-it-all. For example, you may say to your parents, “I don't mean to be disrespectful but...” or “I have a few issues I would like to share.”
4-3. Try to fix any issues at home.
Once you have shared your opinions on possible issues at home, you should work on fixing them. Part of being a know-it-all is also taking action when needed to address an issue. You should work with the person who is the source of the problem to come up with a solution.
For example, once you have acted like a know-it-all with your sister over doing her share of chores, you should work together to consider how she can get them done. Maybe she sets aside more time in her day to do the chores or she switches to doing chores that are more manageable for her.
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Act like a friendly know-it-all.\\nTo avoid being an annoying know-it-all that irritates everyone around them, you should try to be friendly and polite when you share your knowledge. Adopt a friendly, open tone and try to act agreeable when you tell someone what you know. This will make your know-it-all attitude seem less rude or obnoxious. Try to teach others about how to do something right in a generous way and be a friendly know-it-all, rather than a snobbish know-it-all.\\nYou can appear friendly by displaying open body language, where you maintain eye contact with others and keep your body relaxed, with your arms at your sides. You should also lean towards the person you are addressing and have a friendly look on your face, preferably a smile.\\nWhen you make know-it-all statements, you should use \\\"I\\\" and say \\\"I think\\\" or \\\"I believe\\\". Even if you know a statement is correct, you want to appear agreeable to others around you and not too obnoxious or annoying. For example, you may say, \\\"I think this is how you open a wine bottle\\\" or \\\"I believe this is how you clean a wound.\\\"\\n1-3. Be willing to admit when you do not know-it-all.\\nTo be a likeable know-it-all, you should be willing to admit when you do not, in fact, know-it-all. Though you may try your best to know all there is to know about a subject or topic, there may be moments when you are stuck or unsure of the right answer. Rather than pretend you know something, be willing to admit that you are not 100 percent sure of the right solution to a problem or issue. Then, ask others around you for their opinion. Doing this will show you are able to open and humble about the limits of your knowledge.\\nFor example, you may try to be a know-it-all about how to solve a math problem in class. However, you may be struggling to determine the right answer for the problem. Rather than sit in class and continue to struggle, you may tap a friend on the shoulder and ask them for help. Or you may raise your hand and ask your teacher for help.\\n2. Being a Know-It-All at School\\n2-1. Raise your hand often in class.\\nYou can be a know-it-all in school by making sure you attend every class and raise your hand often. As a know-it-all, you should not be afraid to show off your knowledge in class around your peers. Raise your hand in class as much as you can so your teacher can call on you and ask you for an answer.\\nAs a know-it-all, you may be tempted to raise your hand every time your teacher asks for an answer to a problem or an opinion from the class. But you should make sure you are aware of the answer to your teacher’s question before you raise your hand. You are not going to seem like such a know-it-all if you end up providing the wrong answer to your teacher’s question.\\n2-2. Correct the mistakes of other students.\\nKnow-it-alls are also prone to correcting the mistakes of others, such as their peers or fellow students. As a know-it-all, you may correct any mistakes your peers make in class, such as providing a wrong answer to a question. You may also expand on the answer of one of your peers during a discussion to show everyone how much you know.\\nFor example, one of your peers may say, “I think the answer is 9.” You may then respond by raising your hand and saying, “Actually, the answer is 5 because…” As a know-it-all, you should be willing to correct someone’s mistakes in a straightforward and honest way.\\n2-3. Do well on exams and tests.\\nTo prove that you are a know-it-all, you should strive to do well on all your exams and tests in school. Being a model student will show your peers and your teachers that you do in fact know it all and are able to perform well academically. You should study hard for your exams well in advance so you are prepared and confident going into the exam.\\nYou may also try studying with your peers for exams, though you may find this difficult as a know-it-all. Collaborating and working with your peers can make you a stronger student, even if you may have to sacrifice some of your know-it-all traits.\\n2-4. Share your knowledge with your teachers.\\nAs a know-it-all you should also be comfortable with sharing your knowledge and expertise with your teachers. You may try correcting your teachers on their mistakes, though this may end up getting you in trouble with your teachers.\\nAnother option is to make suggestions on a different approach to a problem or issue so you appear less threatening and aggressive to your teachers. You may present a different approach as a way to debate an issue with your teacher and with the rest of the class.\\nFor example, you may feel there is a point that is being missed during your teacher’s discussion on a play by Shakespeare. You may then raise your hand and say, “Actually, I thought Shakespeare was more interested in exploring these themes…” or “In my opinion, I think Shakespeare misses the point..”. Presenting your ideas in this way will still allow you to be a know-it-all without alienated your teachers or your classmates.\\n3. Being a Know-It-All at Work\\n3-1. Speak up in meetings.\\nYou can be the office know-it-all by speaking up during meetings or group discussions. Be confident and assertive during meetings so everyone is aware of your presence. You may try raising your hand to speak or waiting for a lull in conversation to share your opinion. Being bold and honest about your thoughts is a key quality of being a know-it-all.\\nUse “I” statements when you speak and try to go for a neutral tone, even if you are acting like a know-it-all. For example, you may say, “I think a better approach might be…” or “I believe we are missing a key issue, which is…”.\\n3-2. Discuss your ideas with your coworkers.\\nAs a know-it-all, you should also be willing to discuss your ideas with your coworkers in a clear and honest way. You may talk about your ideas casually over lunch or at the coffee machine. Or you may discuss your thoughts during a brainstorming meeting with coworkers.\\nTry to maintain a friendly, neutral tone when you are sharing your ideas with your coworker, even if you feel they are the right ideas. For example, you may say, “I like your idea but I was also thinking about…” or “I see where you are going and I think adding on to that idea might make it stronger…”.\\n3-3. Perform well at your job.\\nYou can be the ultimate know-it-all by focusing on doing well at your job and being a model employee. Meet your deadlines and keep your clients happy to show your boss that you are good at your job. You may also try to impress your clients with your ability to know-it-all and use this to your advantage as an employee.\\nIf you get feedback about your know-it-all attitude from your employer or your coworkers, you may want to consider how you can shift your attitude so you still project confidence and expertise without being too aggressive or in your face.\\n4. Being a Know-It-All at Home\\n4-1. Share your opinion with your siblings and your parents.\\nYou can be a know-it-all at home by sharing your opinions with your siblings and your parents. You may do this at the dinner table during a family discussion or when you are alone with your siblings. Listen to what others have to say and then be willing to share your opinion honestly.\\nTry to be friendly when you state your opinion as you do not want to get into hot water with your parents or your siblings.\\nFor example, a sibling may say something you think is incorrect. You may say, “Actually, I think the right answer is…” or “In fact, the right answer is…”.\\n4-2. Speak up at home.\\nAs a know-it-all, you may speak up when you see things that you feel are not right at home. You may notice when chores as not done correctly or when problems at home are not handled well. You should point out these issues and not be afraid to state your case.\\nFor example, you may notice that your sister is not doing her share of the chores. You may then say to your sister, “You are responsible for your chores” or “You need to fulfill your responsibilities.”\\nBe tactful when speaking up to your parents, as you do not want to seem disrespectful. Instead, use a polite tone and speak respectfully to your parents when you are being a know-it-all. For example, you may say to your parents, “I don't mean to be disrespectful but...” or “I have a few issues I would like to share.”\\n4-3. Try to fix any issues at home.\\nOnce you have shared your opinions on possible issues at home, you should work on fixing them. Part of being a know-it-all is also taking action when needed to address an issue. You should work with the person who is the source of the problem to come up with a solution.\\nFor example, once you have acted like a know-it-all with your sister over doing her share of chores, you should work together to consider how she can get them done. Maybe she sets aside more time in her day to do the chores or she switches to doing chores that are more manageable for her.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Maybe you are tired of being a pushover and want to become a know-it-all instead. Or perhaps you have been called a “know-it-all” but are not sure how to act like one. A know-it-all is someone who claims to know everything and always has the right answer to every question. Often, know-it-alls can be difficult to be around, but you can be a know-it-all without being too annoying to everyone around you by striving to be a likeable know-it-all. You can learn how to be a know-it-all at school, at work, and at home.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Likeable Know-It-All\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Acquire the skills to be a know-it-all.\", \"描述\": \"To become a know-it-all, you have to be open to learning and gaining knowledge. You should focus on studying up on everyday knowledge that will come in handy on a day to day basis. This way you can act like a helpful know-it-all when you are around others. For example, you may learn about how to open a wine bottle or how to fix a broken toilet.\\nYou may also brush up on your knowledge of medical procedures so you can be a know-it-all in the event of an emergency. 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Then, ask others around you for their opinion. Doing this will show you are able to open and humble about the limits of your knowledge.\\nFor example, you may try to be a know-it-all about how to solve a math problem in class. However, you may be struggling to determine the right answer for the problem. Rather than sit in class and continue to struggle, you may tap a friend on the shoulder and ask them for help. Or you may raise your hand and ask your teacher for help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being a Know-It-All at School\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Raise your hand often in class.\", \"描述\": \"You can be a know-it-all in school by making sure you attend every class and raise your hand often. As a know-it-all, you should not be afraid to show off your knowledge in class around your peers. Raise your hand in class as much as you can so your teacher can call on you and ask you for an answer.\\nAs a know-it-all, you may be tempted to raise your hand every time your teacher asks for an answer to a problem or an opinion from the class. But you should make sure you are aware of the answer to your teacher’s question before you raise your hand. You are not going to seem like such a know-it-all if you end up providing the wrong answer to your teacher’s question.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Correct the mistakes of other students.\", \"描述\": \"Know-it-alls are also prone to correcting the mistakes of others, such as their peers or fellow students. As a know-it-all, you may correct any mistakes your peers make in class, such as providing a wrong answer to a question. You may also expand on the answer of one of your peers during a discussion to show everyone how much you know.\\nFor example, one of your peers may say, “I think the answer is 9.” You may then respond by raising your hand and saying, “Actually, the answer is 5 because…” As a know-it-all, you should be willing to correct someone’s mistakes in a straightforward and honest way.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do well on exams and tests.\", \"描述\": \"To prove that you are a know-it-all, you should strive to do well on all your exams and tests in school. Being a model student will show your peers and your teachers that you do in fact know it all and are able to perform well academically. You should study hard for your exams well in advance so you are prepared and confident going into the exam.\\nYou may also try studying with your peers for exams, though you may find this difficult as a know-it-all. Collaborating and working with your peers can make you a stronger student, even if you may have to sacrifice some of your know-it-all traits.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Share your knowledge with your teachers.\", \"描述\": \"As a know-it-all you should also be comfortable with sharing your knowledge and expertise with your teachers. You may try correcting your teachers on their mistakes, though this may end up getting you in trouble with your teachers.\\nAnother option is to make suggestions on a different approach to a problem or issue so you appear less threatening and aggressive to your teachers. You may present a different approach as a way to debate an issue with your teacher and with the rest of the class.\\nFor example, you may feel there is a point that is being missed during your teacher’s discussion on a play by Shakespeare. You may then raise your hand and say, “Actually, I thought Shakespeare was more interested in exploring these themes…” or “In my opinion, I think Shakespeare misses the point..”. Presenting your ideas in this way will still allow you to be a know-it-all without alienated your teachers or your classmates.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being a Know-It-All at Work\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Speak up in meetings.\", \"描述\": \"You can be the office know-it-all by speaking up during meetings or group discussions. Be confident and assertive during meetings so everyone is aware of your presence. You may try raising your hand to speak or waiting for a lull in conversation to share your opinion. Being bold and honest about your thoughts is a key quality of being a know-it-all.\\nUse “I” statements when you speak and try to go for a neutral tone, even if you are acting like a know-it-all. For example, you may say, “I think a better approach might be…” or “I believe we are missing a key issue, which is…”.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Discuss your ideas with your coworkers.\", \"描述\": \"As a know-it-all, you should also be willing to discuss your ideas with your coworkers in a clear and honest way. You may talk about your ideas casually over lunch or at the coffee machine. Or you may discuss your thoughts during a brainstorming meeting with coworkers.\\nTry to maintain a friendly, neutral tone when you are sharing your ideas with your coworker, even if you feel they are the right ideas. For example, you may say, “I like your idea but I was also thinking about…” or “I see where you are going and I think adding on to that idea might make it stronger…”.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Perform well at your job.\", \"描述\": \"You can be the ultimate know-it-all by focusing on doing well at your job and being a model employee. Meet your deadlines and keep your clients happy to show your boss that you are good at your job. You may also try to impress your clients with your ability to know-it-all and use this to your advantage as an employee.\\nIf you get feedback about your know-it-all attitude from your employer or your coworkers, you may want to consider how you can shift your attitude so you still project confidence and expertise without being too aggressive or in your face.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Being a Know-It-All at Home\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Share your opinion with your siblings and your parents.\", \"描述\": \"You can be a know-it-all at home by sharing your opinions with your siblings and your parents. You may do this at the dinner table during a family discussion or when you are alone with your siblings. Listen to what others have to say and then be willing to share your opinion honestly.\\nTry to be friendly when you state your opinion as you do not want to get into hot water with your parents or your siblings.\\nFor example, a sibling may say something you think is incorrect. You may say, “Actually, I think the right answer is…” or “In fact, the right answer is…”.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak up at home.\", \"描述\": \"As a know-it-all, you may speak up when you see things that you feel are not right at home. You may notice when chores as not done correctly or when problems at home are not handled well. You should point out these issues and not be afraid to state your case.\\nFor example, you may notice that your sister is not doing her share of the chores. You may then say to your sister, “You are responsible for your chores” or “You need to fulfill your responsibilities.”\\nBe tactful when speaking up to your parents, as you do not want to seem disrespectful. Instead, use a polite tone and speak respectfully to your parents when you are being a know-it-all. For example, you may say to your parents, “I don't mean to be disrespectful but...” or “I have a few issues I would like to share.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try to fix any issues at home.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have shared your opinions on possible issues at home, you should work on fixing them. Part of being a know-it-all is also taking action when needed to address an issue. You should work with the person who is the source of the problem to come up with a solution.\\nFor example, once you have acted like a know-it-all with your sister over doing her share of chores, you should work together to consider how she can get them done. Maybe she sets aside more time in her day to do the chores or she switches to doing chores that are more manageable for her.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a Lacto Ovo Vegetarian
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1. Educating Yourself
1-1. Understand exactly what a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet is.
This kind of diet excludes all meat, poultry, and fish, but permits eggs and dairy products, as well as foods containing either or both these. The lacto-ovo diet thus differs from other types of vegetarian plans, like pesco-vegetarian (which permits fish), or lacto-vegetarian (which permits dairy but not eggs), as well as from the vegan diet, which excludes all animal products and foods made from them.
1-2. Understand the benefits.
A lacto-ovo vegetarian diet is associated with lower rates of obesity, heart disease, the reduction of blood pressure and cholesterol, of type 2 diabetes, and certain types of cancer.
1-3. Know the challenges.
Switching to a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet can be a big change in terms of dish choices and staying overall healthy. As with any major health change, you are advised to talk to a doctor and/or registered dietitian. That way, you can get help developing a healthy nutritional plan that will ensure you get the right amounts of nutrients.
1-4. Decide the limits you want to draw for your diet.
Animal products include meat and eggs, while animal-based products like gelatin and lard are derived from animals but are often found in processed foods that are not specifically animal products. You can make choices about what specific foods or food types you want to include or exclude from your lacto-ovo vegetarian diet.
You may choose to exclude all animal-based foods, including gelatin, honey, etc. as many vegans do.
Alternatively, you may choose to include gelatin, honey, etc. in your lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, while excluding animal products like meat, poultry, and fish.
Keep in mind that animal-based products like gelatin are sometimes included in foods that are not obviously animal products. You may need to read product labels carefully, and ask about ingredients in dishes at restaurants, in order to make sure whether or not foods are permissible in your diet based on the limits you have set.
2. Eating Well
2-1. Eat the proper portions of the right amount of foods.
It is possible to consume the full range of nutrients you need while following a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, but as with any meal plan you will have to balance what you eat.
The best way to do this is to eat a variety of fruits and vegetables, legumes (beans and lentils), cheeses, yogurts, grains (wheat, rice, oats, etc.), and other foods. This helps to ensure that you get the proper nutrients and avoid any vitamin or mineral deficiencies.
The precise amount of foods you will need to eat varies depending on the level of calories you need for your age, activity level, etc. Check with a doctor or registered dietitian if you have concerns.
2-2. Get enough protein.
Protein, which the body needs to function and grow, is essential. As a lacto-ovo vegetarian, you can meet your protein needs by eating foods like beans, nuts, and soy products, as well as dairy products and eggs. Good ways to get protein (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: an omelette made of four egg whites, two four-inch pancakes made with egg whites, or 1/2 cup cooked beans.
Most varieties of vegetarians face issues with getting enough protein. Track your protein intake and adjust accordingly.
2-3. Ensure you are consuming vitamin D.
Lacto-ovo vegetarians can get the calcium they need for bones and teeth not only from dairy products, but from certain soy milks, breakfast cereals, dark-green leafy vegetables, and other foods as well. Fortified dairy products and egg yolks also provide necessary vitamin D. Good ways to get vitamin D (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup low-fat milk, 1 ounce of low-fat cheese, or 1 cup of raw leafy greens.
2-4. Eat enough iron.
Instead of getting iron from meats, lacto-ovo vegetarians have a range of delicious options including iron-fortified breakfast cereals, spinach, beans, whole wheat breads, and other foods. Good ways to get iron (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup cooked beans, 1 slice of whole wheat bread, 1 cup of raw spinach, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.
Take a multivitamin and multi mineral supplement daily (but it's not necessary, unless you run a daily marathon).
2-5. Don't forget zinc.
Lacto-ovo vegetarians can get zinc from fortified breakfast cereals, many beans, pumpkin seeds, chickpeas, wheat germ, and milk products, among others. Good ways to get zinc (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup cooked beans, 1/2 cup low-fat milk, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.
2-6. Make sure you get vitamin B-12 in adequate amounts.
This vitamin can come from animal products or supplements. As a lacto-ovo vegetarian, you have the option of getting B-12 from milk products, eggs, and vitamin-fortified foods. Good ways to get vitamin B-12 (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup low-fat milk, a medium egg, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.
2-7. Determine if you are getting enough Iodine.
Iodine helps the functioning of many organs, and is an ingredient that is now commonly found in iodized salt. It is also found in many processed foods made with iodized salt. If your diet is largely based on raw foods, you may not be getting enough iodine. Keep iodized salt available if this is the case, but be careful not to ingest too much of it.
2-8. Look for Omega-3-rich foods.
Omega-3 fatty acids are important for heart and brain health. In a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, they can be obtained from nuts and seeds, soybeans and certain fortified foods. 1 tablespoon of flaxseed oil or 1/2 cup flaxseed or chiaseed are excellent sources of Omega-3s, for example. Certain varieties of eggs are also rich in Omega-3s; these are often labeled as such.
3. Expanding your Menu Options
3-1. Make an attempt to step out of your comfort zone.
Switching to a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet can be a major change, and sticking to it can feel difficult if you only focus on what you can’t eat. However, your diet can also be a way of opening up to new and exciting possibilities. Trying new things helps ensure that you are eating a varied diet and getting all of the nutrients you need.
3-2. Try a variety of cuisines.
Many cuisines are rich in options for lacto-ovo vegetarians. Dining out at a variety of restaurants can be a great way to try new foods and get ideas for dishes.
Asian cuisines (including Chinese, Japanese, Thai, and Vietnamese) often have meatless options, based on vegetables and/or tofu. Some of these dishes are prepared using fish sauces, so ask if you are unsure.
South Asian cuisines (Indian, Pakistani, Nepali, etc.) often offer meatless dishes based on lentils, rice, curried vegetables, yogurts, and other foods that are permissible in a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet.
It is not too difficult to find meatless options in Mediterranean cuisines (Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern). Look for dishes incorporating falafel (chick peas balls), couscous, eggplant, tabbouleh, feta, and other foods. Many specific dishes and sauces are explicitly meatless, such as pasta primavera (with veggies) and pesto (marinara contains fish).
Options for lacto-ovo vegetarians in Mexican cuisine include bean-based burritos, vegetable fajitas and nachos, cheese or bean enchiladas, quesadillas, tamales, rice dishes, huevos rancheros, guacamole, salsas, refried beans, and more. Ask if you want to make sure that any of these dishes are not made with lard or other animal products.
3-3. Look for substitutions.
If you have a recipe or dish that traditionally requires meat, there are ways to substitute it with lacto-ovo vegetarian approved options. Meat substitutes include:
Tempeh is made from fermented soybeans. It can be sliced or processed like meat to be fried, baked, roasted, etc.
Seitan is processed from wheat gluten. It has a mild flavor and a texture similar to meat. It can be used in strips, chunks, etc. in many recipes instead of meat.
Tofu is coagulated soy milk that has been pressed into blocks. Soft tofu can range from creamy to crumbly, while firm tofu can be sliced into strips or pieces to be grilled, marinated, baked, etc.
Textured vegetable protein is produced from soy, and comes in a variety of forms (flakes, chunks, etc.). These can be added to dishes to increase their protein content, or can be used as a ground meat substitute in chili, spaghetti, burgers, and practically any other dish.
Beans are rich and protein and can be used as a meat substitute. For example, vegetarian chili can be made by substituting more beans instead of beef.
Vegetarian or vegan alternatives have been developed for many animal products. Many supermarkets carry now items such as bean-based “hamburgers,” soy “hot dogs,” and tofu “turkey,” and “bacon” made from ingredients like tempeh and seitan.
Although cheese is permissible in a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, you can also choose vegan soy “cheese” as an option.
Quorn is a good substitute
3-4. Use cookbooks and recipe sites to find ideas.
You can easily research lacto-ovo vegetarian recipes. These will give you lots of ideas for dishes to try, and new or different foods to incorporate into your diet.
The USDA and other organizations maintain lists of resources, and internet search engines will also reveal lots of possibilities.
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That way, you can get help developing a healthy nutritional plan that will ensure you get the right amounts of nutrients.\\n1-4. Decide the limits you want to draw for your diet.\\nAnimal products include meat and eggs, while animal-based products like gelatin and lard are derived from animals but are often found in processed foods that are not specifically animal products. You can make choices about what specific foods or food types you want to include or exclude from your lacto-ovo vegetarian diet.\\nYou may choose to exclude all animal-based foods, including gelatin, honey, etc. as many vegans do.\\nAlternatively, you may choose to include gelatin, honey, etc. in your lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, while excluding animal products like meat, poultry, and fish.\\nKeep in mind that animal-based products like gelatin are sometimes included in foods that are not obviously animal products. You may need to read product labels carefully, and ask about ingredients in dishes at restaurants, in order to make sure whether or not foods are permissible in your diet based on the limits you have set.\\n2. Eating Well\\n2-1. Eat the proper portions of the right amount of foods.\\nIt is possible to consume the full range of nutrients you need while following a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, but as with any meal plan you will have to balance what you eat.\\nThe best way to do this is to eat a variety of fruits and vegetables, legumes (beans and lentils), cheeses, yogurts, grains (wheat, rice, oats, etc.), and other foods. This helps to ensure that you get the proper nutrients and avoid any vitamin or mineral deficiencies.\\nThe precise amount of foods you will need to eat varies depending on the level of calories you need for your age, activity level, etc. Check with a doctor or registered dietitian if you have concerns.\\n2-2. Get enough protein.\\nProtein, which the body needs to function and grow, is essential. As a lacto-ovo vegetarian, you can meet your protein needs by eating foods like beans, nuts, and soy products, as well as dairy products and eggs. Good ways to get protein (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: an omelette made of four egg whites, two four-inch pancakes made with egg whites, or 1/2 cup cooked beans.\\nMost varieties of vegetarians face issues with getting enough protein. Track your protein intake and adjust accordingly.\\n2-3. Ensure you are consuming vitamin D.\\nLacto-ovo vegetarians can get the calcium they need for bones and teeth not only from dairy products, but from certain soy milks, breakfast cereals, dark-green leafy vegetables, and other foods as well. Fortified dairy products and egg yolks also provide necessary vitamin D. Good ways to get vitamin D (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup low-fat milk, 1 ounce of low-fat cheese, or 1 cup of raw leafy greens.\\n2-4. Eat enough iron.\\nInstead of getting iron from meats, lacto-ovo vegetarians have a range of delicious options including iron-fortified breakfast cereals, spinach, beans, whole wheat breads, and other foods. Good ways to get iron (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup cooked beans, 1 slice of whole wheat bread, 1 cup of raw spinach, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.\\nTake a multivitamin and multi mineral supplement daily (but it's not necessary, unless you run a daily marathon).\\n2-5. Don't forget zinc.\\nLacto-ovo vegetarians can get zinc from fortified breakfast cereals, many beans, pumpkin seeds, chickpeas, wheat germ, and milk products, among others. Good ways to get zinc (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup cooked beans, 1/2 cup low-fat milk, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.\\n2-6. Make sure you get vitamin B-12 in adequate amounts.\\nThis vitamin can come from animal products or supplements. As a lacto-ovo vegetarian, you have the option of getting B-12 from milk products, eggs, and vitamin-fortified foods. Good ways to get vitamin B-12 (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup low-fat milk, a medium egg, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.\\n2-7. Determine if you are getting enough Iodine.\\nIodine helps the functioning of many organs, and is an ingredient that is now commonly found in iodized salt. It is also found in many processed foods made with iodized salt. If your diet is largely based on raw foods, you may not be getting enough iodine. Keep iodized salt available if this is the case, but be careful not to ingest too much of it.\\n2-8. Look for Omega-3-rich foods.\\nOmega-3 fatty acids are important for heart and brain health. In a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, they can be obtained from nuts and seeds, soybeans and certain fortified foods. 1 tablespoon of flaxseed oil or 1/2 cup flaxseed or chiaseed are excellent sources of Omega-3s, for example. Certain varieties of eggs are also rich in Omega-3s; these are often labeled as such.\\n3. Expanding your Menu Options\\n3-1. Make an attempt to step out of your comfort zone.\\nSwitching to a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet can be a major change, and sticking to it can feel difficult if you only focus on what you can’t eat. However, your diet can also be a way of opening up to new and exciting possibilities. Trying new things helps ensure that you are eating a varied diet and getting all of the nutrients you need.\\n3-2. Try a variety of cuisines.\\nMany cuisines are rich in options for lacto-ovo vegetarians. Dining out at a variety of restaurants can be a great way to try new foods and get ideas for dishes.\\nAsian cuisines (including Chinese, Japanese, Thai, and Vietnamese) often have meatless options, based on vegetables and/or tofu. Some of these dishes are prepared using fish sauces, so ask if you are unsure.\\nSouth Asian cuisines (Indian, Pakistani, Nepali, etc.) often offer meatless dishes based on lentils, rice, curried vegetables, yogurts, and other foods that are permissible in a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet.\\nIt is not too difficult to find meatless options in Mediterranean cuisines (Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern). Look for dishes incorporating falafel (chick peas balls), couscous, eggplant, tabbouleh, feta, and other foods. Many specific dishes and sauces are explicitly meatless, such as pasta primavera (with veggies) and pesto (marinara contains fish).\\nOptions for lacto-ovo vegetarians in Mexican cuisine include bean-based burritos, vegetable fajitas and nachos, cheese or bean enchiladas, quesadillas, tamales, rice dishes, huevos rancheros, guacamole, salsas, refried beans, and more. Ask if you want to make sure that any of these dishes are not made with lard or other animal products.\\n3-3. Look for substitutions.\\nIf you have a recipe or dish that traditionally requires meat, there are ways to substitute it with lacto-ovo vegetarian approved options. Meat substitutes include:\\nTempeh is made from fermented soybeans. It can be sliced or processed like meat to be fried, baked, roasted, etc.\\nSeitan is processed from wheat gluten. It has a mild flavor and a texture similar to meat. It can be used in strips, chunks, etc. in many recipes instead of meat.\\nTofu is coagulated soy milk that has been pressed into blocks. Soft tofu can range from creamy to crumbly, while firm tofu can be sliced into strips or pieces to be grilled, marinated, baked, etc.\\nTextured vegetable protein is produced from soy, and comes in a variety of forms (flakes, chunks, etc.). These can be added to dishes to increase their protein content, or can be used as a ground meat substitute in chili, spaghetti, burgers, and practically any other dish.\\nBeans are rich and protein and can be used as a meat substitute. For example, vegetarian chili can be made by substituting more beans instead of beef.\\nVegetarian or vegan alternatives have been developed for many animal products. Many supermarkets carry now items such as bean-based “hamburgers,” soy “hot dogs,” and tofu “turkey,” and “bacon” made from ingredients like tempeh and seitan.\\nAlthough cheese is permissible in a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, you can also choose vegan soy “cheese” as an option.\\nQuorn is a good substitute\\n3-4. Use cookbooks and recipe sites to find ideas.\\nYou can easily research lacto-ovo vegetarian recipes. These will give you lots of ideas for dishes to try, and new or different foods to incorporate into your diet.\\nThe USDA and other organizations maintain lists of resources, and internet search engines will also reveal lots of possibilities.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Lacto-ovo vegetarianism is the practice of avoiding meat, fish and poultry while allowing the consumption of dairy and some other animal-based products. Studies suggest that this type of diet is a healthier choice for some people. 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That way, you can get help developing a healthy nutritional plan that will ensure you get the right amounts of nutrients.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide the limits you want to draw for your diet.\", \"描述\": \"Animal products include meat and eggs, while animal-based products like gelatin and lard are derived from animals but are often found in processed foods that are not specifically animal products. You can make choices about what specific foods or food types you want to include or exclude from your lacto-ovo vegetarian diet.\\nYou may choose to exclude all animal-based foods, including gelatin, honey, etc. as many vegans do.\\nAlternatively, you may choose to include gelatin, honey, etc. in your lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, while excluding animal products like meat, poultry, and fish.\\nKeep in mind that animal-based products like gelatin are sometimes included in foods that are not obviously animal products. 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This helps to ensure that you get the proper nutrients and avoid any vitamin or mineral deficiencies.\\nThe precise amount of foods you will need to eat varies depending on the level of calories you need for your age, activity level, etc. Check with a doctor or registered dietitian if you have concerns.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get enough protein.\", \"描述\": \"Protein, which the body needs to function and grow, is essential. As a lacto-ovo vegetarian, you can meet your protein needs by eating foods like beans, nuts, and soy products, as well as dairy products and eggs. Good ways to get protein (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: an omelette made of four egg whites, two four-inch pancakes made with egg whites, or 1/2 cup cooked beans.\\nMost varieties of vegetarians face issues with getting enough protein. Track your protein intake and adjust accordingly.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ensure you are consuming vitamin D.\", \"描述\": \"Lacto-ovo vegetarians can get the calcium they need for bones and teeth not only from dairy products, but from certain soy milks, breakfast cereals, dark-green leafy vegetables, and other foods as well. Fortified dairy products and egg yolks also provide necessary vitamin D. Good ways to get vitamin D (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup low-fat milk, 1 ounce of low-fat cheese, or 1 cup of raw leafy greens.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Eat enough iron.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of getting iron from meats, lacto-ovo vegetarians have a range of delicious options including iron-fortified breakfast cereals, spinach, beans, whole wheat breads, and other foods. Good ways to get iron (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup cooked beans, 1 slice of whole wheat bread, 1 cup of raw spinach, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.\\nTake a multivitamin and multi mineral supplement daily (but it's not necessary, unless you run a daily marathon).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't forget zinc.\", \"描述\": \"Lacto-ovo vegetarians can get zinc from fortified breakfast cereals, many beans, pumpkin seeds, chickpeas, wheat germ, and milk products, among others. Good ways to get zinc (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup cooked beans, 1/2 cup low-fat milk, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make sure you get vitamin B-12 in adequate amounts.\", \"描述\": \"This vitamin can come from animal products or supplements. As a lacto-ovo vegetarian, you have the option of getting B-12 from milk products, eggs, and vitamin-fortified foods. Good ways to get vitamin B-12 (assuming a 2,000-calorie per day diet) include: 1/2 cup low-fat milk, a medium egg, or 3/4 cup fortified cold cereal.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Determine if you are getting enough Iodine.\", \"描述\": \"Iodine helps the functioning of many organs, and is an ingredient that is now commonly found in iodized salt. It is also found in many processed foods made with iodized salt. If your diet is largely based on raw foods, you may not be getting enough iodine. Keep iodized salt available if this is the case, but be careful not to ingest too much of it.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Look for Omega-3-rich foods.\", \"描述\": \"Omega-3 fatty acids are important for heart and brain health. In a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, they can be obtained from nuts and seeds, soybeans and certain fortified foods. 1 tablespoon of flaxseed oil or 1/2 cup flaxseed or chiaseed are excellent sources of Omega-3s, for example. Certain varieties of eggs are also rich in Omega-3s; these are often labeled as such.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Expanding your Menu Options\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make an attempt to step out of your comfort zone.\", \"描述\": \"Switching to a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet can be a major change, and sticking to it can feel difficult if you only focus on what you can’t eat. However, your diet can also be a way of opening up to new and exciting possibilities. Trying new things helps ensure that you are eating a varied diet and getting all of the nutrients you need.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try a variety of cuisines.\", \"描述\": \"Many cuisines are rich in options for lacto-ovo vegetarians. Dining out at a variety of restaurants can be a great way to try new foods and get ideas for dishes.\\nAsian cuisines (including Chinese, Japanese, Thai, and Vietnamese) often have meatless options, based on vegetables and/or tofu. Some of these dishes are prepared using fish sauces, so ask if you are unsure.\\nSouth Asian cuisines (Indian, Pakistani, Nepali, etc.) often offer meatless dishes based on lentils, rice, curried vegetables, yogurts, and other foods that are permissible in a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet.\\nIt is not too difficult to find meatless options in Mediterranean cuisines (Italian, Greek, Middle Eastern). Look for dishes incorporating falafel (chick peas balls), couscous, eggplant, tabbouleh, feta, and other foods. Many specific dishes and sauces are explicitly meatless, such as pasta primavera (with veggies) and pesto (marinara contains fish).\\nOptions for lacto-ovo vegetarians in Mexican cuisine include bean-based burritos, vegetable fajitas and nachos, cheese or bean enchiladas, quesadillas, tamales, rice dishes, huevos rancheros, guacamole, salsas, refried beans, and more. Ask if you want to make sure that any of these dishes are not made with lard or other animal products.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look for substitutions.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a recipe or dish that traditionally requires meat, there are ways to substitute it with lacto-ovo vegetarian approved options. Meat substitutes include:\\nTempeh is made from fermented soybeans. It can be sliced or processed like meat to be fried, baked, roasted, etc.\\nSeitan is processed from wheat gluten. It has a mild flavor and a texture similar to meat. It can be used in strips, chunks, etc. in many recipes instead of meat.\\nTofu is coagulated soy milk that has been pressed into blocks. Soft tofu can range from creamy to crumbly, while firm tofu can be sliced into strips or pieces to be grilled, marinated, baked, etc.\\nTextured vegetable protein is produced from soy, and comes in a variety of forms (flakes, chunks, etc.). These can be added to dishes to increase their protein content, or can be used as a ground meat substitute in chili, spaghetti, burgers, and practically any other dish.\\nBeans are rich and protein and can be used as a meat substitute. For example, vegetarian chili can be made by substituting more beans instead of beef.\\nVegetarian or vegan alternatives have been developed for many animal products. Many supermarkets carry now items such as bean-based “hamburgers,” soy “hot dogs,” and tofu “turkey,” and “bacon” made from ingredients like tempeh and seitan.\\nAlthough cheese is permissible in a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet, you can also choose vegan soy “cheese” as an option.\\nQuorn is a good substitute\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use cookbooks and recipe sites to find ideas.\", \"描述\": \"You can easily research lacto-ovo vegetarian recipes. These will give you lots of ideas for dishes to try, and new or different foods to incorporate into your diet.\\nThe USDA and other organizations maintain lists of resources, and internet search engines will also reveal lots of possibilities.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Behaving Like a Lady
1-1. Educate yourself.
A lady is eloquent and can carry a conversation. This requires being well-read and staying up-to-date on the current events of the world. While this doesn’t necessarily require formal education, attaining the highest possible level of education that you can will be to your benefit.
If you are not enrolled in school, then find alternative ways to educate yourself. Read plenty of books (both fiction and non-fiction), read the news, and attend seminars and/or discussions.
Thanks to the internet, most people have free access to an endless array of scholarly articles on various topics at the touch of a button.
Many college campuses allow people to sit in on lectures without receiving academic credits. Be sure to clear this with the institute before dropping in on classes, however.
1-2. Be respectful toward others.
Being a lady isn't just about looking or behaving properly on the outside; it involves being a good person on the inside.
When talking to another person, give him or her your undivided attention. It is polite, and will make for a more stimulating conversation for both parties.
Don't interrupt or talk over others.
Offer your help to those in need. This can be as simple an act as helping an elderly person carry his or her groceries, or a more generous act like volunteering at a homeless or animal shelter.
1-3. Be charming.
A true lady doesn't just sit there quietly and let the world pass her by. She engages with other people, carries stimulating conversations, and is a subtle flirt.
If you don't know how to be charming, start off by smiling more at people when you talk to them, and complimenting people more. Make your compliments personal; for example, instead of complimenting a person's shoes, tell them that you think they have impeccable sense of fashion.
1-4. Have good posture.
Standing and sitting up straight are signs of a true lady. As an added bonus, having good posture is better for your back, and will help strengthen up your core! It will take some training to get used to this, especially if you are accustomed to slouching.
1-5. Don't overeat or drink excessively.
Being a lady requires having self-control and both of these activities are examples of overindulgence.
1-6. Say please and thank you.
While this may sound like an etiquette cliché, forgetting to say these things (even by accident) will not go unnoticed, and comes across as very rude.
Say thank you anytime somebody does you a favor, however big or small; it will show him or her that you appreciated it.
Always thank a host/hostess after attending a party or other special occasion at his or her home. Consider sending a “thank you” text, phone call, or email the following day.
Always thank people for gifts they have given you. You may want to consider writing the person a note thanking them.
Don’t abuse the words “please” and “thank you.” Using them excessively will devoid them of their meaning, and make you appear weak. For example, if a waiter pulls your chair out for you, unfolds your napkin, and then pours you a glass of water, then thank him/her one time at the very end of the action, rather than once after each gesture.
Add details when thanking others. Rather than just saying “Thanks” to a friend for talking you through an issue, say “Thank you for being so understanding. It really means a lot to me.” This will come across as more sincere.
1-7. Know when to say no.
Being polite doesn’t mean being passive and letting others take advantage of you. It is important to learn how to politely tell people no.
If somebody offers you alcohol or a cigarette and you are not interested, then kindly thank the person and refuse. Giving in against your will sends the impression that you are easily impressionable.
Similarly, if a man is attempting to “pick you up” or is getting physically aggressive with you, then stand up for yourself and tell him to back off. If necessary, call or ask for help.
1-8. Be respectful when visiting others' homes.
When you are a guest in somebody else's home, allow the host/hostess to tell you where to sit, where to leave your purse, whether or not to take off your shoes, and so on.
Remember that some people are more protective over their home environment than others. Use your best judgment to determine how to behave.
1-9. Hold the door open for others.
It doesn't matter whether you are a man or a woman, offering to hold the door open for other people is respectful and friendly.
1-10. Make introductions.
If you are talking to one person and another person approaches, introduce the person you were initially talking to the person who has just arrived.
In the business world, the order in which introductions are made depends on a person’s level of “importance;" in other words, on his or her level of seniority within the company. In such an example, you would first introduce the person of higher importance to the person of lesser importance, and then vice versa. Remember that the client is always of the highest seniority, regardless of his or her title.
Add a thoughtful detail about the person you are introducing, when possible. Rather than just stating the person’s name, also introduce his or her title, or how you know this person.
1-11. Stay calm, cool, and collected.
Avoiding lashing out at others if you are annoyed, angry, or upset. Remain poised, and handle the situation rationally and calmly. This will prevent you from doing or saying things in the heat of the moment that you will regret later.
2. Dressing Like a Lady
2-1. Maintain your personal hygiene.
This will keep you looking and smelling your best, and more importantly, prevent infections and other illnesses.
Shower daily. If you don't want to wash your hair everyday, then wear a shower cap and rinse your body with soap and water.
Brush your teeth every morning and evening. Brushing in between meals can further improve the health and appearance of your teeth and gums.
Wear deodorant. Smelling your best is just as important as looking your best.
Maintain your waxing, shaving, and/or tweezing regimen. Getting rid of unwanted body hair can instantly make you look and feel more attractive and leave you with smooth, touchable skin.
2-2. Dress elegantly
This means dressing appropriately for the occasion, your body type, and your age. Use your best judgment to determine what clothes are most appropriate for you.
Buy fewer but better quality clothes which will last; wearing cheap, throwaway items isn't good for your new image
Wear clothes that comfortably fit you.
Start to wear skirts or dresses rather than pants. They bring out your femininity and show off your curves better than pants do and you will feel much more elegant and feminine. And nothing says 'lady' more loudly that a girl wearing a smart skirt when all her friends are wearing jeans.
Don't go bare-legged. Always wear tights or pantyhose.
Don't feel obliged to wear high heels if you find them uncomfortable - flat shoes are just as good.
Don't wear sweatpants or tracksuits unless you are at the gym or exercising. Wearing these around all day suggest that you pay very little attention to your physical appearance.
2-3. Keep your clothing clean and pressed.
Iron your clothes to remove any wrinkles, and be sure to wash your clothes if they are stained.
2-4. Don't wear excessive makeup or revealing clothing.
Elegance requires minimalism; wear makeup to accentuate your beauty, not to cover it up.
Don't show excessive cleavage or wear bare-midriff tops. These types of revealing clothes suggest that you are not dressing for yourself, but rather, to attract men.'
If you're dressing for warm weather, make sure your undergarments don't show.
Only wear a little perfume when you head out and about. Too much perfume can be overwhelming to some people.
3. Proper Table Etiquette
3-1. Don’t start eating before the meal has started.
If you are at a restaurant, wait until everybody’s meal has arrived before you start to eat. When at a dinner party, wait for the host/hostess to unfold his or her napkin and begin eating.
3-2. Don’t speak with food in your mouth.
It is not only rude, it can actually ruin other peoples’ appetites.
Also avoid burping, smacking your lips, or fidgeting at the dinner table.
If you have to cough or sneeze at the table, be sure to cover your mouth with a napkin.
3-3. Excuse yourself when necessary.
If you need to get up from the table to go to the restroom, let others know where you are going.
3-4. Don’t text or talk on the phone.
Not only will it disturb other patrons if you are in a restaurant, it is disrespectful to the person/people you are eating with, especially if one of them has cooked the meal for you. Wait until the end of the meal to make phone calls.
Turn off or silence your phone during formal dinners.
3-5. Leave your elbows off of the table.
This rule applies only when you are actually eating. If the food has not yet arrived, or if you are sitting at a table drinking water or other beverages, then it is acceptable to rest your elbows on the table.
3-6. Cut your food into bite-sized portions.
Not only is it healthier than taking huge bites, it will give you the opportunity to quickly chew and swallow your food if somebody asks you a question when you have food in your mouth. Nothing is more frustrating (and embarrassing) than having somebody ask you a question right after you have taken a huge bite of food!
3-7. Only grab for things on the table that are within your reach.
Otherwise, ask somebody to please hand it to you.
Always pass the salt and pepper shaker together, even if the person only asks for one of them. These items are meant to be kept together at all times.
3-8. Remember to use your napkin.
Clean your fingers or blot your lips when necessary.
3-9. Make proper thanks.
Be sure to thank the waiter/waitress if you are at a restaurant, and thank the host/hostess if you are at a dinner party. Compliment the food when dining with the person who has cooked it.
Tips
Ladies practice acceptance and tolerance, all of the time. A lady does not point out differences in others that might make them feel uncomfortable. For example, if someone walks differently, don't ask them about it until you know them well.
Watch classic films to find inspiration for how to act like a lady.
Consider taking a formal etiquette training class.
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Make introductions.\\nIf you are talking to one person and another person approaches, introduce the person you were initially talking to the person who has just arrived.\\nIn the business world, the order in which introductions are made depends on a person’s level of “importance;\\\" in other words, on his or her level of seniority within the company. In such an example, you would first introduce the person of higher importance to the person of lesser importance, and then vice versa. Remember that the client is always of the highest seniority, regardless of his or her title.\\nAdd a thoughtful detail about the person you are introducing, when possible. Rather than just stating the person’s name, also introduce his or her title, or how you know this person.\\n1-11. Stay calm, cool, and collected.\\nAvoiding lashing out at others if you are annoyed, angry, or upset. Remain poised, and handle the situation rationally and calmly. 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Use your best judgment to determine what clothes are most appropriate for you.\\nBuy fewer but better quality clothes which will last; wearing cheap, throwaway items isn't good for your new image\\nWear clothes that comfortably fit you.\\nStart to wear skirts or dresses rather than pants. They bring out your femininity and show off your curves better than pants do and you will feel much more elegant and feminine. And nothing says 'lady' more loudly that a girl wearing a smart skirt when all her friends are wearing jeans.\\nDon't go bare-legged. Always wear tights or pantyhose.\\nDon't feel obliged to wear high heels if you find them uncomfortable - flat shoes are just as good.\\nDon't wear sweatpants or tracksuits unless you are at the gym or exercising. Wearing these around all day suggest that you pay very little attention to your physical appearance.\\n2-3. Keep your clothing clean and pressed.\\nIron your clothes to remove any wrinkles, and be sure to wash your clothes if they are stained.\\n2-4. Don't wear excessive makeup or revealing clothing.\\nElegance requires minimalism; wear makeup to accentuate your beauty, not to cover it up.\\nDon't show excessive cleavage or wear bare-midriff tops. These types of revealing clothes suggest that you are not dressing for yourself, but rather, to attract men.'\\nIf you're dressing for warm weather, make sure your undergarments don't show.\\nOnly wear a little perfume when you head out and about. Too much perfume can be overwhelming to some people.\\n3. Proper Table Etiquette\\n3-1. Don’t start eating before the meal has started.\\nIf you are at a restaurant, wait until everybody’s meal has arrived before you start to eat. When at a dinner party, wait for the host/hostess to unfold his or her napkin and begin eating.\\n3-2. Don’t speak with food in your mouth.\\nIt is not only rude, it can actually ruin other peoples’ appetites.\\nAlso avoid burping, smacking your lips, or fidgeting at the dinner table.\\nIf you have to cough or sneeze at the table, be sure to cover your mouth with a napkin.\\n3-3. Excuse yourself when necessary.\\nIf you need to get up from the table to go to the restroom, let others know where you are going.\\n3-4. Don’t text or talk on the phone.\\nNot only will it disturb other patrons if you are in a restaurant, it is disrespectful to the person/people you are eating with, especially if one of them has cooked the meal for you. Wait until the end of the meal to make phone calls.\\nTurn off or silence your phone during formal dinners.\\n3-5. Leave your elbows off of the table.\\nThis rule applies only when you are actually eating. 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Make proper thanks.\\nBe sure to thank the waiter/waitress if you are at a restaurant, and thank the host/hostess if you are at a dinner party. Compliment the food when dining with the person who has cooked it.\\nTips\\nLadies practice acceptance and tolerance, all of the time. A lady does not point out differences in others that might make them feel uncomfortable. For example, if someone walks differently, don't ask them about it until you know them well.\\nWatch classic films to find inspiration for how to act like a lady.\\nConsider taking a formal etiquette training class.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As manners, attitudes, and styles of dress change over time, so has the conventional understanding of what it means to be a “lady.” Though the term may seem outdated, there are certain aspects of ladylike behavior that are undying: elegance, courteousness, and a sense of respect toward oneself and others. Read this article to learn how to be a true modern-day lady.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Behaving Like a Lady\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself.\", \"描述\": \"A lady is eloquent and can carry a conversation. This requires being well-read and staying up-to-date on the current events of the world. While this doesn’t necessarily require formal education, attaining the highest possible level of education that you can will be to your benefit.\\nIf you are not enrolled in school, then find alternative ways to educate yourself. Read plenty of books (both fiction and non-fiction), read the news, and attend seminars and/or discussions.\\nThanks to the internet, most people have free access to an endless array of scholarly articles on various topics at the touch of a button.\\nMany college campuses allow people to sit in on lectures without receiving academic credits. Be sure to clear this with the institute before dropping in on classes, however.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be respectful toward others.\", \"描述\": \"Being a lady isn't just about looking or behaving properly on the outside; it involves being a good person on the inside.\\nWhen talking to another person, give him or her your undivided attention. It is polite, and will make for a more stimulating conversation for both parties.\\nDon't interrupt or talk over others.\\nOffer your help to those in need. This can be as simple an act as helping an elderly person carry his or her groceries, or a more generous act like volunteering at a homeless or animal shelter.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be charming.\", \"描述\": \"A true lady doesn't just sit there quietly and let the world pass her by. She engages with other people, carries stimulating conversations, and is a subtle flirt.\\nIf you don't know how to be charming, start off by smiling more at people when you talk to them, and complimenting people more. Make your compliments personal; for example, instead of complimenting a person's shoes, tell them that you think they have impeccable sense of fashion.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have good posture.\", \"描述\": \"Standing and sitting up straight are signs of a true lady. As an added bonus, having good posture is better for your back, and will help strengthen up your core! It will take some training to get used to this, especially if you are accustomed to slouching.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't overeat or drink excessively.\", \"描述\": \"Being a lady requires having self-control and both of these activities are examples of overindulgence.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Say please and thank you.\", \"描述\": \"While this may sound like an etiquette cliché, forgetting to say these things (even by accident) will not go unnoticed, and comes across as very rude.\\nSay thank you anytime somebody does you a favor, however big or small; it will show him or her that you appreciated it.\\nAlways thank a host/hostess after attending a party or other special occasion at his or her home. Consider sending a “thank you” text, phone call, or email the following day.\\nAlways thank people for gifts they have given you. You may want to consider writing the person a note thanking them.\\nDon’t abuse the words “please” and “thank you.” Using them excessively will devoid them of their meaning, and make you appear weak. For example, if a waiter pulls your chair out for you, unfolds your napkin, and then pours you a glass of water, then thank him/her one time at the very end of the action, rather than once after each gesture.\\nAdd details when thanking others. Rather than just saying “Thanks” to a friend for talking you through an issue, say “Thank you for being so understanding. It really means a lot to me.” This will come across as more sincere.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Know when to say no.\", \"描述\": \"Being polite doesn’t mean being passive and letting others take advantage of you. It is important to learn how to politely tell people no.\\nIf somebody offers you alcohol or a cigarette and you are not interested, then kindly thank the person and refuse. Giving in against your will sends the impression that you are easily impressionable.\\nSimilarly, if a man is attempting to “pick you up” or is getting physically aggressive with you, then stand up for yourself and tell him to back off. If necessary, call or ask for help.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be respectful when visiting others' homes.\", \"描述\": \"When you are a guest in somebody else's home, allow the host/hostess to tell you where to sit, where to leave your purse, whether or not to take off your shoes, and so on.\\nRemember that some people are more protective over their home environment than others. Use your best judgment to determine how to behave.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Hold the door open for others.\", \"描述\": \"It doesn't matter whether you are a man or a woman, offering to hold the door open for other people is respectful and friendly.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Make introductions.\", \"描述\": \"If you are talking to one person and another person approaches, introduce the person you were initially talking to the person who has just arrived.\\nIn the business world, the order in which introductions are made depends on a person’s level of “importance;\\\" in other words, on his or her level of seniority within the company. In such an example, you would first introduce the person of higher importance to the person of lesser importance, and then vice versa. Remember that the client is always of the highest seniority, regardless of his or her title.\\nAdd a thoughtful detail about the person you are introducing, when possible. Rather than just stating the person’s name, also introduce his or her title, or how you know this person.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Stay calm, cool, and collected.\", \"描述\": \"Avoiding lashing out at others if you are annoyed, angry, or upset. Remain poised, and handle the situation rationally and calmly. This will prevent you from doing or saying things in the heat of the moment that you will regret later.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dressing Like a Lady\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Maintain your personal hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"This will keep you looking and smelling your best, and more importantly, prevent infections and other illnesses.\\nShower daily. If you don't want to wash your hair everyday, then wear a shower cap and rinse your body with soap and water.\\nBrush your teeth every morning and evening. Brushing in between meals can further improve the health and appearance of your teeth and gums.\\nWear deodorant. Smelling your best is just as important as looking your best.\\nMaintain your waxing, shaving, and/or tweezing regimen. Getting rid of unwanted body hair can instantly make you look and feel more attractive and leave you with smooth, touchable skin.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dress elegantly\", \"描述\": \"This means dressing appropriately for the occasion, your body type, and your age. Use your best judgment to determine what clothes are most appropriate for you.\\nBuy fewer but better quality clothes which will last; wearing cheap, throwaway items isn't good for your new image\\nWear clothes that comfortably fit you.\\nStart to wear skirts or dresses rather than pants. They bring out your femininity and show off your curves better than pants do and you will feel much more elegant and feminine. And nothing says 'lady' more loudly that a girl wearing a smart skirt when all her friends are wearing jeans.\\nDon't go bare-legged. Always wear tights or pantyhose.\\nDon't feel obliged to wear high heels if you find them uncomfortable - flat shoes are just as good.\\nDon't wear sweatpants or tracksuits unless you are at the gym or exercising. Wearing these around all day suggest that you pay very little attention to your physical appearance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your clothing clean and pressed.\", \"描述\": \"Iron your clothes to remove any wrinkles, and be sure to wash your clothes if they are stained.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't wear excessive makeup or revealing clothing.\", \"描述\": \"Elegance requires minimalism; wear makeup to accentuate your beauty, not to cover it up.\\nDon't show excessive cleavage or wear bare-midriff tops. These types of revealing clothes suggest that you are not dressing for yourself, but rather, to attract men.'\\nIf you're dressing for warm weather, make sure your undergarments don't show.\\nOnly wear a little perfume when you head out and about. 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When at a dinner party, wait for the host/hostess to unfold his or her napkin and begin eating.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t speak with food in your mouth.\", \"描述\": \"It is not only rude, it can actually ruin other peoples’ appetites.\\nAlso avoid burping, smacking your lips, or fidgeting at the dinner table.\\nIf you have to cough or sneeze at the table, be sure to cover your mouth with a napkin.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Excuse yourself when necessary.\", \"描述\": \"If you need to get up from the table to go to the restroom, let others know where you are going.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t text or talk on the phone.\", \"描述\": \"Not only will it disturb other patrons if you are in a restaurant, it is disrespectful to the person/people you are eating with, especially if one of them has cooked the meal for you. Wait until the end of the meal to make phone calls.\\nTurn off or silence your phone during formal dinners.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Leave your elbows off of the table.\", \"描述\": \"This rule applies only when you are actually eating. If the food has not yet arrived, or if you are sitting at a table drinking water or other beverages, then it is acceptable to rest your elbows on the table.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Cut your food into bite-sized portions.\", \"描述\": \"Not only is it healthier than taking huge bites, it will give you the opportunity to quickly chew and swallow your food if somebody asks you a question when you have food in your mouth. 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1. Developing Leadership Qualities
1-1. Be confident
Maintain good posture, make eye contact, keep your head up when talking, speak loud and clear, and use the right gestures when you speak to emphasize key points. Project confidence, and have faith in your ability to get your team from point A to point B. Additionally, be secure enough to admit when you don't know something without letting it phase you.
Imagine saying, “I don't know,” while looking down and fidgeting. Now imagine saying, “I don't know the answer, but I'll look into it and get back to you,” as you stand up straight and look the person in the eye.
Not knowing something doesn't make you a bad leader. Ineffective leaders, on the other hand, get insecure and refuse to admit when they're wrong.
Keep in mind there's a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Acknowledge that you don't know everything, and avoid acting like you're superior to everyone.
1-2. Learn as much as you can about your field.
Take every opportunity to refine your knowledge, whether you're managing a sales team or the president of a school club. Knowing what you're talking about will build your confidence and earn your team's trust. While it's impossible to know everything, your team will doubt your abilities if you say “I don't know” to every question they ask.
Even worse, if you don't have an answer, make something up, and turn out to be wrong, your team won't trust you.
For example, if you're planning a fundraiser at school for a charity, check the organization's website for guides on coordinating events.
If you're the head of an engineering team, learn everything you can about the products you create, attend professional development events, and stay updated on relevant new technologies and software.
1-3. Find a more experienced mentor.
There's always room to grow, even if you're in a top leadership position. Reach out to a person you admire who has strong leadership skills. You could ask them to chat over coffee or lunch, or see if they're open to being a long-term mentor.
Look for role models who've overcome challenges and reached goals similar to your own. For instance, if you're a young woman in high school or college, attend public speaking events by women in leadership positions.
It might be intimidating to ask someone to be a mentor, but try to relax. Just get in touch with someone who's achieved the goals you've set for yourself, show interest in their achievements, and ask for advice.
In addition to seizing opportunities to learn from those with more experience, you should mentor those you lead.
1-4. Learn how to manage conflicts.
If there's a heated disagreement between team members, tell those involved to get their emotions in check. Have them take some time to cool down, if necessary. Identify the source of the conflict, and take steps to address it.
Try to see each person's perspective, and remain objective. If there's a way to find a win-win scenario, do your best to negotiate a compromise.
Suppose you run a factory, and a blueprint typo led to a canceled order. The salesperson is angry that they lost a commission and yells at the designer who made the typo. Instruct them to cool down, stress that getting angry is unacceptable, and assure both that a new double-check system will prevent future issues.
Keep in mind in a professional setting, you might need to let HR handle an escalating conflict between employees.
2. Providing Effective Leadership
2-1. Be firm, but be kind.
As a leader, you need to enforce clear rules and boundaries. However, your team will turn against you if you don't balance authority with compassion.
When you enforce a rule, explain to your team why that rule is important. Instead of barking, “Don't waste paper,” tell your team, “Please try not to print something unless it's absolutely necessary. Our supplies costs are way up, and it's hurting the bottom line.”
2-2. Be decisive
Stand by your decisions, but don't be a tyrant. Gather information, listen to a range of opinions, and make time for debate. Then, when the time for discussion is over, make a firm decision.
Suppose you and your friends are debating on what to do that night. Everyone is dilly-dallying and nixing each other's ideas. Then someone steps up and says, “Guys, we're doing 'this.'” That person rose to the top, saw the situation needed direction, and took charge.
Keep in mind there will be times when you'll have to make decisions yourself and times when you'll need input. Ask yourself, “Will a snap decision compromise morale? Does a decision have to be made right now, or do I have time to discuss this with everyone else?”
Be flexible and, if necessary, shift gears when new information becomes available.
2-3. Delegate tasks and explain roles clearly.
A leader doesn't micromanage their team or try to do everything themselves. When you assign tasks, define your expectations clearly and provide any necessary training. It'll be easier to trust team members to perform a task if you set them up for success.
A clear expectation would be, “Complete specification profiles for at least 5 installation projects by the end of the week.” A vague expectation would be, “Do some specification profiles.”
When you need to train someone, demonstrate the task yourself, and narrate the steps as you perform them. If possible, observe them when they start and, if they make an error, gently correct them.
3. Earning Your Team's Trust
3-1. Treat your team with respect.
Show them sincere compassion, as they'll be able to tell if you're genuinely concerned for them. Hear them out when they express their opinions, praise them for their hard work, and never use inappropriate language. Remember, you set the tone, so model the type of behavior you'd like your team to display.
Bear in mind showing them respect doesn't mean you should cave in to their whims. You're in charge, and you know what's best for the team.
If someone disagrees with you, listen to their argument, and use their input to refine your decision. If you can't use their suggestion, let them know that you respect their opinion, but are going in another direction.
3-2. Keep your promises.
Break your promises and you'll lose respect. You may be charismatic and knowledgeable, but you're bound to have a mutiny on your hands if you break your word.
In order to keep promises, you have to know what's doable and what's not. Be realistic when you make a promise, and make sure it's something you can deliver.
For example, don't promise your staff big raises unless you're 100% certain you have room in the budget. If you're an officer of a club at school, don't promise that you'll get more funding when you haven't even talked your principal or school administration.
3-3. Ask for feedback from those you lead.
As a leader, people may be intimidated by you, and they might not rush to lend you constructive criticism. Instead of waiting for someone to speak up, ask your team specific questions about how you can improve your performance.
Don't ask yes or no questions about whether or not they like you. Instead, ask specific questions, such as, “In your opinion, what can I do to be a better leader,” or “What are some ways I could communicate more clearly?”
3-4. Hold yourself accountable.
Stand by your decisions, and take responsibility for the consequences. If things go wrong, the buck stops with you, so don't blame others to cover your mistakes.
Think of yourself as the captain of a ship; the fate of the ship is in your hands, and it's up to you to steer everyone in the right direction.
When things don't work out as planned, a good leader perseveres. Instead of sticking your head in the sand, treat setbacks as learning opportunities.
3-5. Dress in a way that's consistent with your role.
Your appearance can inspire confidence, but know the difference between dressing to impress and dressing to influence. Dressing to impress, or being overdressed, could drive a wedge between you and those you lead.
For instance, if you manage a casual restaurant, wearing a suit and tie is impractical, might turn off your customers, and could alienate your staff.
If you're president of your high school class, wearing a crisp button-up or neat dress to a meeting is better than wearing ripped jeans and a stained, wrinkly tee-shirt.
Tips
Help your team to achieve both individual and collective goals. Remember, setting individuals up for success is part of getting the group from A to B.
Always practice what you preach. There's no better way to lose your credibility as a leader than to be a hypocrite. If you set a rule, be sure to follow it. Lead by example and others will follow in your steps.
Don't be a manager, but a leader.
Warnings
As a leader, you're in the limelight, which means your moves are under a microscope. Your morals and values are just as important as your knowledge and skills.
Be mindful when forming close relationships with members of your group. Don't pick favorites or give people preferential treatment.
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Learn as much as you can about your field.\\nTake every opportunity to refine your knowledge, whether you're managing a sales team or the president of a school club. Knowing what you're talking about will build your confidence and earn your team's trust. While it's impossible to know everything, your team will doubt your abilities if you say “I don't know” to every question they ask.\\nEven worse, if you don't have an answer, make something up, and turn out to be wrong, your team won't trust you.\\nFor example, if you're planning a fundraiser at school for a charity, check the organization's website for guides on coordinating events.\\nIf you're the head of an engineering team, learn everything you can about the products you create, attend professional development events, and stay updated on relevant new technologies and software.\\n1-3. Find a more experienced mentor.\\nThere's always room to grow, even if you're in a top leadership position. Reach out to a person you admire who has strong leadership skills. You could ask them to chat over coffee or lunch, or see if they're open to being a long-term mentor.\\nLook for role models who've overcome challenges and reached goals similar to your own. For instance, if you're a young woman in high school or college, attend public speaking events by women in leadership positions.\\nIt might be intimidating to ask someone to be a mentor, but try to relax. Just get in touch with someone who's achieved the goals you've set for yourself, show interest in their achievements, and ask for advice.\\nIn addition to seizing opportunities to learn from those with more experience, you should mentor those you lead.\\n1-4. Learn how to manage conflicts.\\nIf there's a heated disagreement between team members, tell those involved to get their emotions in check. Have them take some time to cool down, if necessary. 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Your morals and values are just as important as your knowledge and skills.\\nBe mindful when forming close relationships with members of your group. Don't pick favorites or give people preferential treatment.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"To be a leader, you don't have to be an elected official or a CEO. Whether in day-to-day life, at school, or in the workplace, a leader is someone who provides example, guidance, and direction. A fancy title doesn't make someone a true leader; rather, qualities and actions do. If you want to be the best leader you can, put effort into developing your skills, balance authority with compassion, and demonstrate that you're worthy of your team's trust.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing Leadership Qualities\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be confident\", \"描述\": \"Maintain good posture, make eye contact, keep your head up when talking, speak loud and clear, and use the right gestures when you speak to emphasize key points. 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However, your team will turn against you if you don't balance authority with compassion.\\nWhen you enforce a rule, explain to your team why that rule is important. Instead of barking, “Don't waste paper,” tell your team, “Please try not to print something unless it's absolutely necessary. Our supplies costs are way up, and it's hurting the bottom line.”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be decisive\", \"描述\": \"Stand by your decisions, but don't be a tyrant. Gather information, listen to a range of opinions, and make time for debate. Then, when the time for discussion is over, make a firm decision.\\nSuppose you and your friends are debating on what to do that night. Everyone is dilly-dallying and nixing each other's ideas. Then someone steps up and says, “Guys, we're doing 'this.'” That person rose to the top, saw the situation needed direction, and took charge.\\nKeep in mind there will be times when you'll have to make decisions yourself and times when you'll need input. 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If possible, observe them when they start and, if they make an error, gently correct them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Earning Your Team's Trust\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Treat your team with respect.\", \"描述\": \"Show them sincere compassion, as they'll be able to tell if you're genuinely concerned for them. Hear them out when they express their opinions, praise them for their hard work, and never use inappropriate language. Remember, you set the tone, so model the type of behavior you'd like your team to display.\\nBear in mind showing them respect doesn't mean you should cave in to their whims. You're in charge, and you know what's best for the team.\\nIf someone disagrees with you, listen to their argument, and use their input to refine your decision. If you can't use their suggestion, let them know that you respect their opinion, but are going in another direction.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your promises.\", \"描述\": \"Break your promises and you'll lose respect. You may be charismatic and knowledgeable, but you're bound to have a mutiny on your hands if you break your word.\\nIn order to keep promises, you have to know what's doable and what's not. Be realistic when you make a promise, and make sure it's something you can deliver.\\nFor example, don't promise your staff big raises unless you're 100% certain you have room in the budget. If you're an officer of a club at school, don't promise that you'll get more funding when you haven't even talked your principal or school administration.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask for feedback from those you lead.\", \"描述\": \"As a leader, people may be intimidated by you, and they might not rush to lend you constructive criticism. Instead of waiting for someone to speak up, ask your team specific questions about how you can improve your performance.\\nDon't ask yes or no questions about whether or not they like you. Instead, ask specific questions, such as, “In your opinion, what can I do to be a better leader,” or “What are some ways I could communicate more clearly?”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hold yourself accountable.\", \"描述\": \"Stand by your decisions, and take responsibility for the consequences. If things go wrong, the buck stops with you, so don't blame others to cover your mistakes.\\nThink of yourself as the captain of a ship; the fate of the ship is in your hands, and it's up to you to steer everyone in the right direction.\\nWhen things don't work out as planned, a good leader perseveres. Instead of sticking your head in the sand, treat setbacks as learning opportunities.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dress in a way that's consistent with your role.\", \"描述\": \"Your appearance can inspire confidence, but know the difference between dressing to impress and dressing to influence. Dressing to impress, or being overdressed, could drive a wedge between you and those you lead.\\nFor instance, if you manage a casual restaurant, wearing a suit and tie is impractical, might turn off your customers, and could alienate your staff.\\nIf you're president of your high school class, wearing a crisp button-up or neat dress to a meeting is better than wearing ripped jeans and a stained, wrinkly tee-shirt.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Help your team to achieve both individual and collective goals. Remember, setting individuals up for success is part of getting the group from A to B.\\n\", \"Always practice what you preach. There's no better way to lose your credibility as a leader than to be a hypocrite. If you set a rule, be sure to follow it. Lead by example and others will follow in your steps.\\n\", \"Don't be a manager, but a leader.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"As a leader, you're in the limelight, which means your moves are under a microscope. 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1. Planning for Your Group
1-1. Make the decisions about where to go.
If you become known as the person who comes up with the plans when everyone gets together, your friends will start looking to you as their leader. This doesn’t mean you make plans without thinking about your friends, however. Serve as a mediator if your friends have differing likes. Choose one friend's favorite lunch spot this week, then another friend's favorite next week.
Say things like: “Hey guys, I think it would be cool to try that new Thai place before the movie Friday. What to you all think?”
Choose places based on your friend's preferences so that everyone feels included: "Instead of going to a movie Friday, why don't we play putt-putt? I know Karen loves it!"
If everyone seems tired of going to the same old places, be the one to suggest something new!
1-2. Share some planning responsibilities with your friends.
Even if you tend to make the decisions for your group, you don’t have to do everything for them. When you’re out with friends, let them take on some responsibilities. If you suggest what everyone should do, you’ll appear like the leader.
For instance, if you’re going to the movies, say “Hey Alisha, why don’t you look up the start times?”
Likewise, if you’re planning a school party, you could say “Nick, why don't you come up with the playlist? You've got great taste in music.”
1-3. Plan ahead so all of your friends can be included.
Anticipate your friends' needs. Make sure that everyone has what they need to have fun, and that no one gets left behind.
For instance, if you’re headed to the beach, bring some extra towels and sunscreen.
If some of your friends have more money that others, plan things so that everyone can afford to take part. If decisions need to be made, step in for your friends: “I don’t know--the movies are kinda pricey. Why don’t we just hang at my house and watch one instead?”
1-4. Start some special group clothing themes.
Plan some fun ways that your group can coordinate. Whatever you decide, start a theme and make it special to your group. Try talk:
Wearing jeans and hoodies every Friday, or striped socks on Tuesdays.
Getting matching patches to sew onto jackets.
Picking coordinating Halloween costumes--everyone could go as Marvel superheroes, for instance.
Buying ugly Christmas sweaters for all of you to wear to a holiday party.
2. Dealing with Group Issues
2-1. Be willing to compromise when your friends disagree.
Sometimes, you might feel like the rest of the group wants to do something you don’t. Other times, you might be dealing with two or more friends who can’t agree. Either way, as a leader, you can step in to help everyone find a compromise.
For instance, if one friend wants to plan a party the night before graduation, and another on the night after, come up with a third solution: “We all probably should get some sleep the night before graduation, and our families probably want to spend time with us the day of. Why don’t we just plan a big party for the day after graduation? That way we’ll have all day.”
2-2. Help everyone stay flexible.
Sometimes, plans will have to change. There’s no sense in going nuts if everything doesn’t work out completely as planned or expected. Be a leader and help everyone stay positive. Always be ready to say things like:
”It’s too bad that the movie’s sold out. Why don’t we just see the new Pixar movie instead? I heard it’s actually pretty funny, and I think we could all use a laugh right now.”
”I can’t believe Lisa bailed on us either, but let’s not let that stop us from having a good time.”
2-3. Be there when a friend's having problems.
Having friends is lots of fun. Sometimes, however, being a friend means supporting someone who's having a hard time. Be a leader by showing your friends that you care about them (and that they should care about each other, too).
If a friend is going through a rough patch in a relationship, at home, or just personally, call them up or hang out so you can talk about it.
2-4. Resolve conflicts between friends.
If two or more of your friends end up fighting, step in to help restore the piece. Ask them both to sit down and talk, with you as the mediator. Talk about what could change to make everyone feel better. Saying "I'm sorry" is usually a great start!
Ask your friends what they think started the fight.
Have each friend talk about how they felt. Try to get them to stick to "I" statements ("I felt mad when...") instead of "you" statements ("You were wrong when you...").
If your friends seem resistant, try saying something like "I know there are a lot of hurt feelings, but we're all friends and should try to stick together. Let's work this out!"
3. Keeping Your Group Positive
3-1. Be a role model for your friends.
Being a leader for your friends does not mean bossing them around or being mean. Talking about your friends behind their back and putting people down will eventually cause your group to fall apart. Instead, be respectful, positive and supportive.
Compliment your friends (“Dave, your presentation was awesome! How’d you do it?”).
Stop trash-talking whenever you hear it (“You know, I don’t think that’s fair to pick on what Karen's wearing today. She’s really been having a hard time at home lately”).
3-2. Keep in touch with everyone.
The leader of your group is going to be the person who has everyone’s contact information, sends out the group texts, and checks in to see how everyone’s doing. If you can do this, then your group will be less likely to have members vanish or be left out.
Be persistent, but not desperate, if one of your friends seems to be checking out. Send them a message like “Campbell! Everyone misses you! Are you coming out with us Friday?”
3-3. Support your group.
A leader shows up when friends need them. It also means a lot if you show interest in what your friends care about. For instance:
Be there when your friends have recitals, performances, etc.
Offer to help out if your friends need help studying, with work, or taking care of something at home.
Make cookies or a care package when one of your friends is sick.
If one of your friend’s family members dies, show up at the funeral. Encourage the rest of your friends to go, too.
If one of your friends bombed a test or screwed up at work, have the group take them out to cheer them up.
3-4. Let new friends into the group.
It’s natural that groups of friends will shift over time. To keep things from become too clique-ish, always open to new people joining in. And as the leader of your group, you can encourage this. For instance, you might say:
”Everyone, this is Dan. He’s new, and I was just telling him he should come to the show with us on Saturday.”
”Carly, why don’t you tell your friend Jess to come study with us? She’s in Chem, too, right? It’ll be fun!”
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1. Recognizing and Accepting Your Sexuality
1-1. Remember that you can define your sexuality for yourself.
When you’re exploring your sexual identity, it’s important to remember that sexuality is a spectrum. That means that you might have feelings for both men and women, for just women, or for very few people at all. Your sexuality might even shift over time. This might feel confusing or even scary, but it’s completely normal. Wherever your sexuality falls is where it’s supposed to be.
Remember that there are also no “right” ways to be lesbian, straight, bisexual, or any other sexual identity. Your identity is defined by who you are, not any stereotypes or expectations.
Consider taking an online sexuality quiz to determine what sexuality label (if any) feels right for you.
1-2. Explore your feelings with patience and curiosity.
Looking more closely at your sexuality might feel intimidating, especially if it’s something you’ve avoided for a while. Remind yourself that you’re safe—just because you’re thinking about your feelings, doesn’t mean you have to act on them or tell anyone if you’re not ready. Simply start to think about the way you feel about other girls and romantic relationships, recognizing and accepting your feelings with honesty and compassion.
Try to reframe this process in your head. Exploring your sexuality is a good thing, and it might even start feeling exciting.
Do your best not to judge yourself. Take a step back to really look at how you feel, and be kind and open to any feelings that come up.
1-3. Accept and confront any fears or hesitations you have about your sexuality.
If you’re uncomfortable, scared, or even in denial about your feelings, start to think about why this might be the case. Recognizing and accepting, or even confronting, any negative feelings you have about your sexuality can teach you a lot about yourself. Instead of fighting those negative emotions, accept them as a part of this journey and remind yourself that they don’t have power over you.
For example, if you’re feeling embarrassed or ashamed, think about what those feelings might stem from, like long-held romantic beliefs from family or media.
Little by little, start to pick apart the reasoning behind your negative feelings. You might realize, for example, that just because you were raised to think that certain things are normal or right, doesn’t mean those ideas have to control who you are now.
1-4. Be confident
Your sexuality can feel like a core part of you, and exploring or questioning it can make you feel scared or uncertain about who you are and where you fit in. Embracing who you are might be hard right now, but it’s the best thing you can do. Loving yourself and being confident in who you are will make it easier to accept your sexuality and even share it with others, when you’re ready.
1-5. Remember that your sexuality is only one aspect of your identity.
Your sexuality is important, but it’s not the only thing you are. Being a lesbian doesn’t make you a different person, and there are no rules about what you can do or think because of your sexuality. Keep on doing the things that make you happiest, whether that’s school, hobbies, work, or spending time with family and friends.
If you’re feeling conflicted, confused, or scared, lean on the things that make you the happiest. Remind yourself of who you are and what you love, and remember that being lesbian won’t change those things.
1-6. Think about seeing a therapist to confide in and get professional advice.
A therapist, especially one who specializes in LGBT issues, can be a great resource for advice if you’re having trouble coming to terms with your sexuality. Therapists are required by law to keep their patient’s information confidential, which means that you can talk to them about your sexuality without fear of them telling anyone else.
Therapists are required to report abuse and things that could harm you or others, like thoughts of suicide.
2. Finding Support
2-1. Look for LGBT groups on the Internet or in your community.
If you don’t think your friends or family will be supportive, or you’re just not ready to open up to them yet, it’s completely OK to look for community and support in other places. See if there are any LGBT support groups in your area, or look for forums and communities online. Finding people going through the same thing as you can help you feel less alone and more like part of a community.
Look for online and in-person groups that seem legitimate, with connections to LGBT organizations or therapists. If you’re not comfortable talking yet, just log in or sit in on sessions to listen. When it comes to sharing your story, it’s OK to take your time.
2-2. Talk to a close friend or family member that you trust.
Opening up to friends and family can feel like a huge, scary step, and you don’t have to do it unless you feel ready, and keep your safety in mind. If there’s someone in your life who you can trust, though, confiding in them about your sexuality can help you feel stronger and less alone. They’ll be able to give you support when you need it, and maybe advice as well.
Pay attention to friends and family members who seem open and accepting. They might mention having LGBT friends or even talk about their own sexual orientation.
Start the conversation when you’re alone and say something like, “I’m not ready to tell anyone else this yet, but I think I’m a lesbian.”
2-3. Read or watch shows about lesbians to feel like part of a community.
It’s OK if you don’t feel like reaching out to people just yet, whether they’re friends or a support group. Taking in LGBT-supportive media, like TV shows, movies, and books, is an easy, low-risk way to start finding a community and a place you belong. Seeing people like you in the media can also help you feel more confident in yourself.
Try watching shows with lesbian representation, like Glee and Orange is the New Black, and movies like Imagine Me and You and Carol. For books, try reading Annie On My Mind by Nancy Garden, or The Bermudez Triangle by Maureen Johnson.
2-4. Come out
Coming out is a big step, and only you can decide if and when it’s right for you. Living openly and honestly can be a huge relief, but it’s OK to keep your sexuality to yourself if you’re worried about being bullied, harassed, or treated differently. Take the time to really think about this decision and decide if it’s something you want to do.
Start by talking to people who you know will support you. This will give you a support system for when you open up to others.
If you’re not sure how someone will respond, bring up lesbian movies or shows, or talk about general LGBT issues, like the Supreme Court’s decision to allow gay marriage. See whether they seem respectful or against the idea.
Explain how you feel by saying something like, “I’ve been thinking about this for a while, and I’ve realized I’m attracted to other girls.”
Let them ask questions afterwards.
2-5. Avoid telling people who seem unsupportive or untrustworthy.
You don’t have to talk to every person in your life about your sexuality, and there are some cases when it’s better not to. Follow your gut instincts and don’t feel pressured to tell someone, no matter how close to them you are. It comes down to your comfort and safety. Consider not telling people who:
Seem homophobic. They might make negative comments about LGBT people or issues in the news, or call people homophobic slurs as insults.
Threaten to hurt you if they found out you’re a lesbian.
Support you financially or physically. For example, if you live with your parents and you think they might react badly, you may not want to tell them until you’re able to move out.
Might really affect you if they react badly. Think about how you’d feel if the person responded negatively. If you don’t think you’d be able to handle it emotionally, consider not telling them for now.
3. Exploring Relationships
3-1. Recognize that you might need more time before pursuing a relationship.
If you’re just starting to accept your sexuality, you might not be ready for a relationship—and that’s OK. Work to accept your identity first, then start reaching out to others. You’ll be more sure of yourself and ready to connect, which will make those relationships even more rewarding.
Don’t feel pressured by other people’s experiences or relationships. Only you know when you’re ready to start dating.
3-2. Connect with people you know or go online if you’re ready to start dating.
Dating apps and websites are great resources if you’re not sure how to start meeting other girls. Look for ones that are geared towards or popular with LGBT users. If you’re comfortable with it, you can also ask people you know to help you find dates or people to connect with.
Talking to friends and family might feel awkward, but they know you better than anyone! They’ll know if a potential date is a good match or not, even better than an app or website.
Try dating apps and sites like Lesly, Plenty of Fish, and Fem.
3-3. Get to know the other person before asking them out.
Take your time before setting up a date with someone you like. You want to make sure they’re also interested in women, but beyond that, you also want to see if you have a genuine connection. Talk about things she’s passionate about, her dreams and aspirations, and what she like to do in her spare time.
See if you feel a spark or just enjoy being around her. When you feel ready, see if she’d like to get dinner, see a movie, or do something fun together.
3-4. Accept your partner’s level of openness with her sexuality.
Women that you meet and date might be in different places in their lives than you are, especially when it comes to accepting and being open about their sexuality. You might be able to pick up on this from non-verbal cues, like whether she holds your hand in public, or you might want to have a conversation about it. Be patient and accepting of wherever she’s at.
You could say something like, “I was wondering if you’re out to your friends and family. I am, but it’s OK if you’re not.”
3-5. Let intimacy develop naturally.
You might be in a rush to be intimate with another woman, a little scared by the idea, or a mixture of both! Try to be patient and calm when it comes to getting physical with a partner—you might not be ready, she might not be ready, or you both might be unsure. Communicate about where you are and what you’re open to, and do what feels natural to both of you.
If you decide to get intimate, be open about what feels good and ask her what she likes, too.
Remember to use safe sex practices, like female condoms or dental dams.
3-6. Remember that dating lesbians is just like entering any other relationship.
The essence of a date doesn't change depending on your sexual orientation. Dating is about getting to know someone one-on-one, flirting, and having fun no matter who you are with. If you remember to be polite, learn to listen instead of talk, and try and have fun, you’ll make the date great for both you and your partner.
You don’t need to change who you are or what you do once you've identified as a lesbian. Be yourself, whether you’re on a date or not.
Tips
Be kind to yourself. You’re worthy of love and happiness, no matter what your sexuality is.
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Remind yourself that you’re safe—just because you’re thinking about your feelings, doesn’t mean you have to act on them or tell anyone if you’re not ready. Simply start to think about the way you feel about other girls and romantic relationships, recognizing and accepting your feelings with honesty and compassion.\\nTry to reframe this process in your head. Exploring your sexuality is a good thing, and it might even start feeling exciting.\\nDo your best not to judge yourself. Take a step back to really look at how you feel, and be kind and open to any feelings that come up.\\n1-3. Accept and confront any fears or hesitations you have about your sexuality.\\nIf you’re uncomfortable, scared, or even in denial about your feelings, start to think about why this might be the case. Recognizing and accepting, or even confronting, any negative feelings you have about your sexuality can teach you a lot about yourself. Instead of fighting those negative emotions, accept them as a part of this journey and remind yourself that they don’t have power over you.\\nFor example, if you’re feeling embarrassed or ashamed, think about what those feelings might stem from, like long-held romantic beliefs from family or media.\\nLittle by little, start to pick apart the reasoning behind your negative feelings. You might realize, for example, that just because you were raised to think that certain things are normal or right, doesn’t mean those ideas have to control who you are now.\\n1-4. Be confident\\nYour sexuality can feel like a core part of you, and exploring or questioning it can make you feel scared or uncertain about who you are and where you fit in. Embracing who you are might be hard right now, but it’s the best thing you can do. Loving yourself and being confident in who you are will make it easier to accept your sexuality and even share it with others, when you’re ready.\\n1-5. Remember that your sexuality is only one aspect of your identity.\\nYour sexuality is important, but it’s not the only thing you are. Being a lesbian doesn’t make you a different person, and there are no rules about what you can do or think because of your sexuality. Keep on doing the things that make you happiest, whether that’s school, hobbies, work, or spending time with family and friends.\\nIf you’re feeling conflicted, confused, or scared, lean on the things that make you the happiest. Remind yourself of who you are and what you love, and remember that being lesbian won’t change those things.\\n1-6. Think about seeing a therapist to confide in and get professional advice.\\nA therapist, especially one who specializes in LGBT issues, can be a great resource for advice if you’re having trouble coming to terms with your sexuality. Therapists are required by law to keep their patient’s information confidential, which means that you can talk to them about your sexuality without fear of them telling anyone else.\\nTherapists are required to report abuse and things that could harm you or others, like thoughts of suicide.\\n2. Finding Support\\n2-1. Look for LGBT groups on the Internet or in your community.\\nIf you don’t think your friends or family will be supportive, or you’re just not ready to open up to them yet, it’s completely OK to look for community and support in other places. See if there are any LGBT support groups in your area, or look for forums and communities online. Finding people going through the same thing as you can help you feel less alone and more like part of a community.\\nLook for online and in-person groups that seem legitimate, with connections to LGBT organizations or therapists. If you’re not comfortable talking yet, just log in or sit in on sessions to listen. When it comes to sharing your story, it’s OK to take your time.\\n2-2. Talk to a close friend or family member that you trust.\\nOpening up to friends and family can feel like a huge, scary step, and you don’t have to do it unless you feel ready, and keep your safety in mind. If there’s someone in your life who you can trust, though, confiding in them about your sexuality can help you feel stronger and less alone. They’ll be able to give you support when you need it, and maybe advice as well.\\nPay attention to friends and family members who seem open and accepting. They might mention having LGBT friends or even talk about their own sexual orientation.\\nStart the conversation when you’re alone and say something like, “I’m not ready to tell anyone else this yet, but I think I’m a lesbian.”\\n2-3. Read or watch shows about lesbians to feel like part of a community.\\nIt’s OK if you don’t feel like reaching out to people just yet, whether they’re friends or a support group. Taking in LGBT-supportive media, like TV shows, movies, and books, is an easy, low-risk way to start finding a community and a place you belong. Seeing people like you in the media can also help you feel more confident in yourself.\\nTry watching shows with lesbian representation, like Glee and Orange is the New Black, and movies like Imagine Me and You and Carol. For books, try reading Annie On My Mind by Nancy Garden, or The Bermudez Triangle by Maureen Johnson.\\n2-4. Come out\\nComing out is a big step, and only you can decide if and when it’s right for you. Living openly and honestly can be a huge relief, but it’s OK to keep your sexuality to yourself if you’re worried about being bullied, harassed, or treated differently. Take the time to really think about this decision and decide if it’s something you want to do.\\nStart by talking to people who you know will support you. 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They might make negative comments about LGBT people or issues in the news, or call people homophobic slurs as insults.\\nThreaten to hurt you if they found out you’re a lesbian.\\nSupport you financially or physically. For example, if you live with your parents and you think they might react badly, you may not want to tell them until you’re able to move out.\\nMight really affect you if they react badly. Think about how you’d feel if the person responded negatively. If you don’t think you’d be able to handle it emotionally, consider not telling them for now.\\n3. Exploring Relationships\\n3-1. Recognize that you might need more time before pursuing a relationship.\\nIf you’re just starting to accept your sexuality, you might not be ready for a relationship—and that’s OK. Work to accept your identity first, then start reaching out to others. 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1. Finding Adventures to Make You Less Boring
1-1. Show interest in a wide variety of people, places, and things.
If you try to get out of your comfort zone of knowledge, you will learn more interesting things. Boring people are often not interested in people other than themselves, which makes them less fun to be around.
Visit new neighborhoods and restaurants. Don't just go to the same place everyday, since you'll never experience anything new.
Read about different people that are not like you. This can be people from a different country, region, ethnic group, or gender.
Listen to different genres of music. Even if you don't always understand it at first, try listening to new and interesting music that comes from different backgrounds than your own.
1-2. Try learning a new skill or taking up a new hobby.
Learning a new skill or hobby can force you to challenge yourself. A new hobby or skill can be a fun thing to talk to people about and can show that you are an interesting person rather than something who doesn’t enjoy learning new things.
Hobbies can also introduce you to new people who share your hobby. Learning how to play guitar with others can make you new friends.
Taking up a hobby like cooking can also give you something that you can do and talk about with others. If your hobby is relatable, people will be interested to learn more about it.
1-3. Travel to new and exciting locations.
Traveling broadens your perspective on life and gives you interesting stories to tell others. Even if you're just going to the next state over, traveling somewhere always gives you interesting stories to tell rather than boring stories from the sames places you always go.
Look for cheap flights from your airport. There may be some travel deals to exotic or local places.
Experience new cultures. Taking part in different cultures can broad your horizons.
1-4. Join interesting clubs or groups.
Getting involved in activities outside of work or school can give you fun things to talk about. It also shows that you are interested in expanding your horizons and not just hanging around the same people doing the same things.
Find an intramural sports league. Even if you're only playing sports as a hobby, it can have great social benefits and personal fulfillment for you.
Look for volunteer groups that you might find interesting. There are many volunteer groups that might match your interests. Helping other people can make you feel better as well.
1-5. Get creative in your experiences.
Something exciting like skydiving lets others now you're up for a challenge. It also shows you like to try new things and want to have fun while doing different things.
Try skydiving by yourself or with a group. It can be a fun activity that is a once in a life time experience.
Take up new challenges like rock climbing. Outdoor activities like hiking can also be a fun way to have creative experiences and become a less boring person.
2. Being Curious About Others Rather than Bored
2-1. Listen to others when they're talking.
If you’re talking to other people, this means you are also listening to what they have to say. Boring people don’t listen, but instead only wait for the other person to stop talking so they can start; instead, always listen to others so you can have a two-way conversation with them.
Pay attention to the other person’s body language. If they are slouched, have their arms crossed, or seem disengaged, they may be bored by your conversation.
Ask plenty of questions about the other person. Try to avoid standard conversation starters like “What do you do for a living?” but instead ask fun questions like “What’s the best part of your week?” or “What makes you feel passionate?"
2-2. Share your opinions.
Boring people often have no opinions or are afraid to share their opinions. Sharing your opinions shows that are paying attention and have something to contribute.
If you disagree with someone, be considerate of their opinion. Don’t attack them, but show that you are listening and engaging with them.
When you do share your opinion, make sure to know both sides of the conversation. Otherwise, you may come across as uninformed.
2-3. Have fun when you're talking to others.
Look for opportunities to have a good time. Boring people are often inhibited or afraid to do something that seems crazy; instead, try to always look for a way to have fun with others.
If you have any skills or talents, show them off. Don't make yourself the center of attention, but find ways to show that you know how to do things.
Try not to worry too much what others think. If you're feeling and acting natural, that will make you a less boring person.
2-4. Be positive about your life.
Boring people often moan about their life and work, whereas less boring people see life more positively. Talk about the things you care about, not the things that bother you.
If you are talking to people about what you are excited about in life, you are more interesting and engaging to others. Being passionate really shows through in your nonverbal body language.
2-5. Let other people shine.
Focus on the talents and skills of other people as well. When you're talking to them, ask them about things they care about, so you don't make the conversation all about you.
Don't be conceited. Try not to worry about how you come off to others. If other people are the center of attention, that does not make you a boring person.
2-6. Smile
A grin shows that you approach life with a positive attitude and that you're interested in making friends. If you have a blank or sad expression on your face, you’ll come across as boring and disengaged to others.
Smiling makes you feel happier and more open to new situations. It can really improve your mood and make you more likely to talk to others.
When you smile at others, it’s often contagious. They’ll want to smile back at you and feel more receptive when talking to you.
3. Using Your Sense of Humor to Interest Others
3-1. Make laughter a priority.
If laughter is important to you, then you will make an effort to laugh when you're around others. It is part of your personality to be a person full of laughter, which shows you feel joy in life. In contrast, boring people often seem joyless and do not laugh often.
Laughter brings people closer together. It bonds them together socially through the shared experience of laughter.
If you make laughter a priority, this shows that are a joyful person. It shows that you are in touch with yourself and others.
3-2. Don't be scared to be wacky or zany.
Sometimes, it's good to dance like a goofball, have unusual conversations, or do silly things. Holding back your silly side from others may close you off from them and make them think of you as a boring person.
Always involve others in silliness. Don't be a clown for others, but instead bring them into any fun activity you are doing.
Being silly also shows that you don't care too much about what others are thinking. You are interested and engaged in others, but not reliant on them for your sense of self-worth.
3-3. Don't wait for others to begin having fun.
Boring people often wait for others to entertain them. Instead, start the fun by yourself and encourage others to join in engaging in fun and playful activities.
Start joking with others when the opportunity arises. They may be willing to join in the fun, but were just waiting for others to start.
Do something silly or outrageous to gauge everyone's reaction. If they are amused or entertained, then you know that they are also interested in laughing and having a good time.
3-4. Try to look at things from a unique perspective.
Humor is a sign of intelligence and flexibility in terms of outlook. Boring people often seem inflexible and not willing to change their perspective.
When people are talking, think of funny ways to take their words or their actions. Don't insult them, but try to find the humor in any conversation.
Don't be afraid to make fun of yourself. Making fun of yourself shows that you do not take yourself too seriously.
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A new hobby or skill can be a fun thing to talk to people about and can show that you are an interesting person rather than something who doesn’t enjoy learning new things.\\nHobbies can also introduce you to new people who share your hobby. Learning how to play guitar with others can make you new friends.\\nTaking up a hobby like cooking can also give you something that you can do and talk about with others. If your hobby is relatable, people will be interested to learn more about it.\\n1-3. Travel to new and exciting locations.\\nTraveling broadens your perspective on life and gives you interesting stories to tell others. Even if you're just going to the next state over, traveling somewhere always gives you interesting stories to tell rather than boring stories from the sames places you always go.\\nLook for cheap flights from your airport. There may be some travel deals to exotic or local places.\\nExperience new cultures. Taking part in different cultures can broad your horizons.\\n1-4. Join interesting clubs or groups.\\nGetting involved in activities outside of work or school can give you fun things to talk about. It also shows that you are interested in expanding your horizons and not just hanging around the same people doing the same things.\\nFind an intramural sports league. Even if you're only playing sports as a hobby, it can have great social benefits and personal fulfillment for you.\\nLook for volunteer groups that you might find interesting. There are many volunteer groups that might match your interests. Helping other people can make you feel better as well.\\n1-5. Get creative in your experiences.\\nSomething exciting like skydiving lets others now you're up for a challenge. It also shows you like to try new things and want to have fun while doing different things.\\nTry skydiving by yourself or with a group. It can be a fun activity that is a once in a life time experience.\\nTake up new challenges like rock climbing. Outdoor activities like hiking can also be a fun way to have creative experiences and become a less boring person.\\n2. Being Curious About Others Rather than Bored\\n2-1. Listen to others when they're talking.\\nIf you’re talking to other people, this means you are also listening to what they have to say. Boring people don’t listen, but instead only wait for the other person to stop talking so they can start; instead, always listen to others so you can have a two-way conversation with them.\\nPay attention to the other person’s body language. If they are slouched, have their arms crossed, or seem disengaged, they may be bored by your conversation.\\nAsk plenty of questions about the other person. Try to avoid standard conversation starters like “What do you do for a living?” but instead ask fun questions like “What’s the best part of your week?” or “What makes you feel passionate?\\\"\\n2-2. Share your opinions.\\nBoring people often have no opinions or are afraid to share their opinions. Sharing your opinions shows that are paying attention and have something to contribute.\\nIf you disagree with someone, be considerate of their opinion. Don’t attack them, but show that you are listening and engaging with them.\\nWhen you do share your opinion, make sure to know both sides of the conversation. Otherwise, you may come across as uninformed.\\n2-3. Have fun when you're talking to others.\\nLook for opportunities to have a good time. Boring people are often inhibited or afraid to do something that seems crazy; instead, try to always look for a way to have fun with others.\\nIf you have any skills or talents, show them off. Don't make yourself the center of attention, but find ways to show that you know how to do things.\\nTry not to worry too much what others think. If you're feeling and acting natural, that will make you a less boring person.\\n2-4. Be positive about your life.\\nBoring people often moan about their life and work, whereas less boring people see life more positively. Talk about the things you care about, not the things that bother you.\\nIf you are talking to people about what you are excited about in life, you are more interesting and engaging to others. Being passionate really shows through in your nonverbal body language.\\n2-5. Let other people shine.\\nFocus on the talents and skills of other people as well. When you're talking to them, ask them about things they care about, so you don't make the conversation all about you.\\nDon't be conceited. Try not to worry about how you come off to others. If other people are the center of attention, that does not make you a boring person.\\n2-6. Smile\\nA grin shows that you approach life with a positive attitude and that you're interested in making friends. If you have a blank or sad expression on your face, you’ll come across as boring and disengaged to others.\\nSmiling makes you feel happier and more open to new situations. It can really improve your mood and make you more likely to talk to others.\\nWhen you smile at others, it’s often contagious. They’ll want to smile back at you and feel more receptive when talking to you.\\n3. Using Your Sense of Humor to Interest Others\\n3-1. Make laughter a priority.\\nIf laughter is important to you, then you will make an effort to laugh when you're around others. It is part of your personality to be a person full of laughter, which shows you feel joy in life. In contrast, boring people often seem joyless and do not laugh often.\\nLaughter brings people closer together. It bonds them together socially through the shared experience of laughter.\\nIf you make laughter a priority, this shows that are a joyful person. It shows that you are in touch with yourself and others.\\n3-2. Don't be scared to be wacky or zany.\\nSometimes, it's good to dance like a goofball, have unusual conversations, or do silly things. Holding back your silly side from others may close you off from them and make them think of you as a boring person.\\nAlways involve others in silliness. Don't be a clown for others, but instead bring them into any fun activity you are doing.\\nBeing silly also shows that you don't care too much about what others are thinking. You are interested and engaged in others, but not reliant on them for your sense of self-worth.\\n3-3. Don't wait for others to begin having fun.\\nBoring people often wait for others to entertain them. 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1. Becoming Qualified
1-1. Take coaching classes through an accredited program.
If you're already out of college and not looking to go back, the other route is taking life coach classes through an accredited school or program. The ICF and IAC (International Coaching Federation and the International Association of Coaching, respectively), have partnered up with certain schools and deemed the coaches they spit out worthy of their certification.
Those two organizations are about as legit as the field of life coaching gets. Make sure whatever school you go to works through one of these organizations. If not, it's either a scam, a waste of your money and time, or both.
1-2. Get certified.
Once you have completed your school's coaching program, you are eligible for certification (either through the ICF or the IAC, depending on which your school is associated with). With that certification, you're basically good to go. Instead of telling people you're a life coach and hoping they don't ask about the details, you've got the cred to back it up.
This will be your bread and butter. No life coach can really succeed without it. If you have education on top of it, you'll be even better off. Just remember to include it on your business card!
1-3. Attend seminars.
Because there's no life coaching equivalent to med school, seminars are a super common thing. To stay viable in the field, get familiar with all the big names, and to network, coaches are attending seminars left, right, and center. Your school should be able to get you started on when and where to find them in your area.
Use these to your advantage. Not only should you go home and try to really take in what was addressed (each seminar should have a different topic), but you should also talk to the people there. Having mentors (or at least friendly faces in the field) will be infinitely useful to you when bumps come up in the road. Someone's gotta show you the ropes!
2. Setting Up Your Business
2-1. Keep your part-time job.
Let's just get this out there right outta the gate: while there aren't a ton of fees associated with becoming a life coach (in comparison to paying for a decade of medical school, say), there's a definite delay in income. Not only do you need something to keep the lights on while you're getting trained, but you'll need that savings while you get started, too. After four months of classes, people won't exactly be knocking down your door to pay you for advice. These things take time.
It could take years to build up a steady, sturdy clientele base. This is not a get-rich-quick scheme. While some life coaches can charge exorbitant amounts of money for just a quick phone call, most aren't so lucky. With less experience, you'll have to charge less money (in addition to having fewer clients). And you'll probably have to start out doing work for free -- so don't go flipping your boss the bird yet.
2-2. Work for yourself.
While a few life coaches get hired by corporations and those businesses looking to improve their employee retention rates, most life coaches are self-employed. This means you'll handle your own paperwork and have to get bogged down by the business side of it all, but it also means you set your own schedule.
You'll need to pay self-employment tax along with invoicing all your clients yourself and establishing methods and schedules of payment (just to name a few). If you're unsure of all the bases you need to cover, talk to someone else who is self-employed -- or other life coaches! What a nice set-up for the next step.
2-3. Be mentored by an established life coach.
Just as therapists receive hours of counseling during their training, new life coaches need to get mentored by experienced coaches to supplement their training. Mentoring may occur in group sessions or with individual coaches over the phone if your school provides one for you -- or you may have to seek one out yourself. You've been networking, right?
The other side to this equation is that you need to see what a life coach actually does. You may think it's all, "You're ruining your life -- do this instead," when it's really anything but that (if you're a good life coach, at least!). To get a better grip on what you'll actually be doing, you should have a life coach yourself.
If your school doesn't provide one for you (or at the very least give you a few names to hit up), find one either through your friends/school buddies/teachers or through a directory -- much like your future clients will find you.
2-4. List yourself in various coaching directories.
There are several online directories in which you can list yourself so that Internet wanderers may find you if they decide they'd like a little life assistance. There are tons of people out there you'll never reach by word of mouth -- putting yourself out there on the web is the only way to find them.
Most websites will charge a fee to put your image and information up. Make sure it's not a complete hoax/waste of time before you hand anyone your credit card information or money. There are plenty of scams out there, so step lightly.
2-5. Find your niche.
Some life coaches specialize in coaching people on defining visions for their lives and seeking ways to improve overall. Some coaches focus on helping clients choose and train for careers, while others coach executives in how to run their businesses; and still others coach clients in managing their interpersonal relationships. Decide on what area of life coaching you wish to specialize in (hint: it should be something you know personally). Here's a list of possibilities to start you off:
Business coaching
Carbon coaching (helping others reduce their carbon footprint)
Career coaching
Corporate coaching
Executive coaching
Relationship coaching
Retirement coaching
Spiritual and Christian coaching
Time management coaching
Weight and body image coaching
Work/life balance coaching
2-6. Market yourself.
Now that you have the title "Certified Life Coach" behind your name, it's time to start handing out business cards, getting ads online, in newspapers, in community pages and journals, setting up a Facebook page, tweeting, heck, even plastering your name on the side of your car. The more name recognition you have, the better. People can't come to you if they don't know you exist!
Consider marketing yourself as a specialist. You've got your niche, right? What might your prospective clients be reading, viewing, or listening to? If you want to reach executives, you wouldn't post an ad at the local daycare -- but you might want to do that if you want to reach new moms or women balancing career and family life.
Studies have shown that coaching is just as great for employees as it is for employers. Companies that spend $1 on their employees (be it through coaching, personal wellness, etc.) make $3 in savings for decreased turnover and the processes that go with it. If you're considering walking up to a business and suggesting they provide you as a coach (and if you weren't, you are now), arm yourself with these facts.
2-7. Get some guinea pig clients.
After you're fresh off the certification boat, you'll need some clients. However, with zero experience under your belt, they're going to be pretty hard to come by. In an exchange to be able to say you have experience working with living, breathing people, ask your friends and family members if you can work with them for free. You'll get your hours in and they'll get some much needed me-time (and hopefully some great pointers and a dose of reality).
How many and for how long you do this is up to you. The correct answer is "until you feel comfortable charging for your services and confident that you can truly help others enrich their lives." It could be weeks, it could be months. Luckily, there's no wrong way to go about it. However, waiting until you feel completely "ready" will delay the work of truly helping people, especially if you're a perfectionist. At some point, you're going to need to jump in and make the decision that you are running a real business.
2-8. Get some real clients.
After a few months of working with your sister's coworker and your friend's friend's pizza delivery guy, eventually word of mouth will do its job. You'll get that first phone call that makes you jump through the roof. Congratulations! It's money making time.*Word of mouth is NOT something to depend on. You need to learn to market your business and set up a plan, not wait for others to talk about you. Get a business coach if you really want to run a business and not have a part-time hobby that barely brings in any money.
...But how much? Quite frankly, that's up to you. Do you want to charge a daily rate? A monthly rate? And what is that rate? Consider how steep the challenges are for this individual -- both for you and for them. What can they afford? What can you afford? What demographic do the majority of your potential clients fall into? When in doubt -- ask around about the competition! * You need to learn to charge for results, not by the hour or day. Worrying about what the competition charges and trying to undercut them is why very few coaches make money. You'll need to hire a business coach to learn the correct way to set up your services and price them so that you can make a good living and eventually quit your day job. It's also important to set up longer-term programs, and not just meet with a client one time or let them hire you monthly.
3. Working with Clients
3-1. Start with an in-depth interview.
When it comes to life coaching, there is no judging books by their covers. When a client comes to you, have the first session be an in-depth, cover-all-your-bases interview. What do they want from you? What part of their lives are they looking to change? What are their goals?
Most people will come in with an idea -- a very specific idea (hence the reason most life coaches have specialties) of what they want to accomplish. Whether it's weight loss, wrapping their minds around their blooming business, or tackling their relationship issues, they know. Let them guide you initially and listen.
3-2. Stay organized.
Once you set up a base of clients, it's gonna be easy to refer to one in your head as that-one-guy-who-drinks-coffee-addiction-who-still-has-narcolepsy. Don't do that. He won't like it. Keep portfolios of all your clients, get the details down, and keep them straight. If you don't stay organized, you'll end up missing a call with client number #14 who abandons you the next day.
It's also important to make them feel like they are your most important client. Every little detail they've told you needs to be something you remember and take into account when you're working with them. Not only will they be impressed and trust you more, but you'll be able to make more accurate decisions on what would help them if you keep your facts straight.
3-3. Set up a doable schedule.
You'll soon find what works best for you, but most coaches say they work with each client around 3 times a month. Some clients will require more work and some less, but three times a month is average. The length of time for each session is up to you and the client.
You don't necessarily have to do the sessions in person, though those are obviously the most personal. You could also do them over the phone or even via programs like Skype. If you're corporate or executive, you may find that your clients are traveling a lot and session over the phone are the only option. If you want to really be successful, you'll want to open up your business to clients all over the World. Skype is a poor option in many countries and areas as it drops frequently. Learn to use other systems such as Google Hangouts where you can meet face-to-face without the frustration of poor technology as with Skype.
3-4. Don't just give instructions.
Life coaches aren't just expensive advice givers. That'd be terrible. It's about helping others explore their choices and figuring out what's best for them. It's only the bad life coaches that dispense advice and hang up. You're really working at changing the behavior -- which is about a million more times valuable than simply telling a client what to do.
No one else needs another person (much less a virtual stranger) telling them what to do with our lives -- we all get that from our in-laws, our siblings, and the occasional high school friend who thinks they know everything. You're answering the "how," not the what. You can give them the process.
3-5. Give homework.
To a certain extent, you're a teacher or guide. When you hang up the phone with a client, your job doesn't just end there. You have to make sure they're putting into action what you two have discussed. You need to give them homework. Whether it's exploring different business plans or talking to their ex-husband, you have to give them actions that lead to change. What would be best for them? And how do you make sure they do it?
You will have clients that don't cooperate. You'll have clients that don't agree with you. You'll have clients that think you're wasting their precious time. These will happen. You have to take the good with the bad and know when to cut your losses. If a client doesn't like your style, then it could be resistance and fear coming up. Don't take on a client you don't get along with, and you won't have these problems. As you work with more clients, you'll be able to discover in your discovery session whether or not you will be a good fit. If you don't know how to do a discovery session (it is NOT a coaching session), then you need to learn how to do one right away. See your business coach or group for help.
3-6. Help them reach their goals.
In the end, that's ultimately what it is about. We all struggle with this thing called life and a life coach is there to shine the light for us down that dark, scary tunnel we're all wandering. If you've done your best to hit all their goals and have shown them the options, you've done your part. They'll be better for having worked with you.
4. Developing Effective Coaching Skills
4-1. Be a caring, empathetic individual.
Much of the work a life coach does is helping people set goals and encouraging them to achieve them. This requires being someone who likes being in touch with people in a friendly manner. If you're a negative Nancy or a Debbie Downer or a Sad, Sad Sally, your clients will be running for the hills in no time at all.
Face-to-face contact is not always necessary to be a life coach, as many coaches work with clients over the telephone. However, it has many advantages: it is less inhibiting and therefore easier to build trust. It's convenient as it is global and flexible.
4-2. Sincerely want the best for everyone.
Some of us (read: 99% of us) aren't always nice and understanding. Even if we think of ourselves as possessing these qualities, we still have the occasional slip-up. And sometimes it happens with a certain type more than another. That really pretty coworker may make us feel envious or that really dumb friend of Joe's just irritates us so much we become cold and aloof. Whether it's intellect, appearance, or just obnoxious laughs that get to you, you have to put that all aside and be willing and eager to help everyone.
You're probably going to have clients that you wouldn't walk across the street to have a 5 minute cup of coffee with in the next life. That's fine. We can't all mesh with everyone. But that's fine -- you don't have to have coffee with these people. All you have to do is help them. Help them and want them to succeed. Even if you find their personalities akin to fingernails on a chalkboard, still have their best interests at heart.
4-3. Know that you are not your clients' friend.
Just like the previous step got at, you're not having coffee dates with these people. You are not grabbing drinks during happy hour before the game starts. You are there to push them, not to enable them like friends often do. It's important to keep this line clear to maintain a professional relationship. When you become their friend, they stop paying you.
When you cross the line from coach to friend, your clients will feel less of a push to do what you're suggesting they do. You'll also feel less inclined to be real with them -- one day you'll need to be harsh with them and they'll get personally offended if you're friends. It's just general good, logical practice to keep the boundaries clear.
4-4. Be flexible.
Our lives often take unexpected turns. You're likely to get a call at 9 on a Friday night from a client who would love to schedule a session the following day. If you can, work with them! They're not being disrespectful -- they're practically as surprised as you are. You won't have the most constant work schedule, but it definitely won't be your standard behind-a-desk 9 to 5 gig. * You need to set up appointments with your clients in advance, not let them wait until the last minute like this. Only by helping them plan longer term will they begin to organize their lives better and start making lasting changes. Allowing them to make last-minute changes or appointments is only enabling their bad behaviors and is not conducive to achieving positive results. Emergencies are one thing, but otherwise a good coach will have 2-4 weeks of calls scheduled in advance for each client.
In addition to being flexible with hours, be flexible in terms of an open mind. What you see working for this person may not be something that actually does. In the end, everything is relative. If they're not keen on something, you may have to respect their wishes. You are always working with a unique individual. Cater your program to them as specifically as you can, but leave a little wiggle room for improvement.
4-5. Be creative.
In order to help people reach their potential, you've gotta be able to think outside the box. Odds are they've considered routes A and B and they haven't been good enough (for one reason or another) -- you have to present them with routes C, D, and E. They won't always be so obvious (or your client would have thought of them!); in order to be a successful life coach, you gotta be resourceful, creative, and imaginative.
That's not to say you shouldn't be logical. Nope -- you gotta be both. All in all, you gotta be zeroed in on the path to success. A healthy balance of reality mixed in with a have-you-thought-about-it-this-way attitude will get you far in the eyes of your clients. And when they're happy, you're happy -- and they might tell their friends, too!
Tips
Keep a list of satisfied clients to use as references for prospective future clients.
You may want to offer prospective clients a sample coaching session to see if your coaching style meshes with their goals and other needs. And to whet their appetites!
Warnings
A life coach should work as a partner to the client, and the client should be the one who determines the direction that partnership should go.
There are presently no external regulatory agencies for life coaches as there are for psychiatrists and psychologists.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Becoming Qualified\\n1-1. Take coaching classes through an accredited program.\\nIf you're already out of college and not looking to go back, the other route is taking life coach classes through an accredited school or program. The ICF and IAC (International Coaching Federation and the International Association of Coaching, respectively), have partnered up with certain schools and deemed the coaches they spit out worthy of their certification.\\nThose two organizations are about as legit as the field of life coaching gets. Make sure whatever school you go to works through one of these organizations. If not, it's either a scam, a waste of your money and time, or both.\\n1-2. Get certified.\\nOnce you have completed your school's coaching program, you are eligible for certification (either through the ICF or the IAC, depending on which your school is associated with). With that certification, you're basically good to go. Instead of telling people you're a life coach and hoping they don't ask about the details, you've got the cred to back it up.\\nThis will be your bread and butter. No life coach can really succeed without it. If you have education on top of it, you'll be even better off. Just remember to include it on your business card!\\n1-3. Attend seminars.\\nBecause there's no life coaching equivalent to med school, seminars are a super common thing. To stay viable in the field, get familiar with all the big names, and to network, coaches are attending seminars left, right, and center. Your school should be able to get you started on when and where to find them in your area.\\nUse these to your advantage. Not only should you go home and try to really take in what was addressed (each seminar should have a different topic), but you should also talk to the people there. Having mentors (or at least friendly faces in the field) will be infinitely useful to you when bumps come up in the road. Someone's gotta show you the ropes!\\n2. Setting Up Your Business\\n2-1. Keep your part-time job.\\nLet's just get this out there right outta the gate: while there aren't a ton of fees associated with becoming a life coach (in comparison to paying for a decade of medical school, say), there's a definite delay in income. Not only do you need something to keep the lights on while you're getting trained, but you'll need that savings while you get started, too. After four months of classes, people won't exactly be knocking down your door to pay you for advice. These things take time.\\nIt could take years to build up a steady, sturdy clientele base. This is not a get-rich-quick scheme. While some life coaches can charge exorbitant amounts of money for just a quick phone call, most aren't so lucky. With less experience, you'll have to charge less money (in addition to having fewer clients). And you'll probably have to start out doing work for free -- so don't go flipping your boss the bird yet.\\n2-2. Work for yourself.\\nWhile a few life coaches get hired by corporations and those businesses looking to improve their employee retention rates, most life coaches are self-employed. This means you'll handle your own paperwork and have to get bogged down by the business side of it all, but it also means you set your own schedule.\\nYou'll need to pay self-employment tax along with invoicing all your clients yourself and establishing methods and schedules of payment (just to name a few). If you're unsure of all the bases you need to cover, talk to someone else who is self-employed -- or other life coaches! What a nice set-up for the next step.\\n2-3. Be mentored by an established life coach.\\nJust as therapists receive hours of counseling during their training, new life coaches need to get mentored by experienced coaches to supplement their training. Mentoring may occur in group sessions or with individual coaches over the phone if your school provides one for you -- or you may have to seek one out yourself. You've been networking, right?\\nThe other side to this equation is that you need to see what a life coach actually does. You may think it's all, \\\"You're ruining your life -- do this instead,\\\" when it's really anything but that (if you're a good life coach, at least!). To get a better grip on what you'll actually be doing, you should have a life coach yourself.\\nIf your school doesn't provide one for you (or at the very least give you a few names to hit up), find one either through your friends/school buddies/teachers or through a directory -- much like your future clients will find you.\\n2-4. List yourself in various coaching directories.\\nThere are several online directories in which you can list yourself so that Internet wanderers may find you if they decide they'd like a little life assistance. There are tons of people out there you'll never reach by word of mouth -- putting yourself out there on the web is the only way to find them.\\nMost websites will charge a fee to put your image and information up. Make sure it's not a complete hoax/waste of time before you hand anyone your credit card information or money. There are plenty of scams out there, so step lightly.\\n2-5. Find your niche.\\nSome life coaches specialize in coaching people on defining visions for their lives and seeking ways to improve overall. Some coaches focus on helping clients choose and train for careers, while others coach executives in how to run their businesses; and still others coach clients in managing their interpersonal relationships. Decide on what area of life coaching you wish to specialize in (hint: it should be something you know personally). Here's a list of possibilities to start you off:\\nBusiness coaching\\nCarbon coaching (helping others reduce their carbon footprint)\\nCareer coaching\\nCorporate coaching\\nExecutive coaching\\nRelationship coaching\\nRetirement coaching\\nSpiritual and Christian coaching\\nTime management coaching\\nWeight and body image coaching\\nWork/life balance coaching\\n2-6. Market yourself.\\nNow that you have the title \\\"Certified Life Coach\\\" behind your name, it's time to start handing out business cards, getting ads online, in newspapers, in community pages and journals, setting up a Facebook page, tweeting, heck, even plastering your name on the side of your car. The more name recognition you have, the better. People can't come to you if they don't know you exist!\\nConsider marketing yourself as a specialist. You've got your niche, right? What might your prospective clients be reading, viewing, or listening to? If you want to reach executives, you wouldn't post an ad at the local daycare -- but you might want to do that if you want to reach new moms or women balancing career and family life.\\nStudies have shown that coaching is just as great for employees as it is for employers. Companies that spend $1 on their employees (be it through coaching, personal wellness, etc.) make $3 in savings for decreased turnover and the processes that go with it. If you're considering walking up to a business and suggesting they provide you as a coach (and if you weren't, you are now), arm yourself with these facts.\\n2-7. Get some guinea pig clients.\\nAfter you're fresh off the certification boat, you'll need some clients. However, with zero experience under your belt, they're going to be pretty hard to come by. In an exchange to be able to say you have experience working with living, breathing people, ask your friends and family members if you can work with them for free. You'll get your hours in and they'll get some much needed me-time (and hopefully some great pointers and a dose of reality).\\nHow many and for how long you do this is up to you. The correct answer is \\\"until you feel comfortable charging for your services and confident that you can truly help others enrich their lives.\\\" It could be weeks, it could be months. Luckily, there's no wrong way to go about it. However, waiting until you feel completely \\\"ready\\\" will delay the work of truly helping people, especially if you're a perfectionist. At some point, you're going to need to jump in and make the decision that you are running a real business.\\n2-8. Get some real clients.\\nAfter a few months of working with your sister's coworker and your friend's friend's pizza delivery guy, eventually word of mouth will do its job. You'll get that first phone call that makes you jump through the roof. Congratulations! It's money making time.*Word of mouth is NOT something to depend on. You need to learn to market your business and set up a plan, not wait for others to talk about you. Get a business coach if you really want to run a business and not have a part-time hobby that barely brings in any money.\\n...But how much? Quite frankly, that's up to you. Do you want to charge a daily rate? A monthly rate? And what is that rate? Consider how steep the challenges are for this individual -- both for you and for them. What can they afford? What can you afford? What demographic do the majority of your potential clients fall into? When in doubt -- ask around about the competition! * You need to learn to charge for results, not by the hour or day. Worrying about what the competition charges and trying to undercut them is why very few coaches make money. You'll need to hire a business coach to learn the correct way to set up your services and price them so that you can make a good living and eventually quit your day job. It's also important to set up longer-term programs, and not just meet with a client one time or let them hire you monthly.\\n3. Working with Clients\\n3-1. Start with an in-depth interview.\\nWhen it comes to life coaching, there is no judging books by their covers. When a client comes to you, have the first session be an in-depth, cover-all-your-bases interview. What do they want from you? What part of their lives are they looking to change? What are their goals?\\nMost people will come in with an idea -- a very specific idea (hence the reason most life coaches have specialties) of what they want to accomplish. Whether it's weight loss, wrapping their minds around their blooming business, or tackling their relationship issues, they know. Let them guide you initially and listen.\\n3-2. Stay organized.\\nOnce you set up a base of clients, it's gonna be easy to refer to one in your head as that-one-guy-who-drinks-coffee-addiction-who-still-has-narcolepsy. Don't do that. He won't like it. Keep portfolios of all your clients, get the details down, and keep them straight. If you don't stay organized, you'll end up missing a call with client number #14 who abandons you the next day.\\nIt's also important to make them feel like they are your most important client. Every little detail they've told you needs to be something you remember and take into account when you're working with them. Not only will they be impressed and trust you more, but you'll be able to make more accurate decisions on what would help them if you keep your facts straight.\\n3-3. Set up a doable schedule.\\nYou'll soon find what works best for you, but most coaches say they work with each client around 3 times a month. Some clients will require more work and some less, but three times a month is average. The length of time for each session is up to you and the client.\\nYou don't necessarily have to do the sessions in person, though those are obviously the most personal. You could also do them over the phone or even via programs like Skype. If you're corporate or executive, you may find that your clients are traveling a lot and session over the phone are the only option. If you want to really be successful, you'll want to open up your business to clients all over the World. Skype is a poor option in many countries and areas as it drops frequently. Learn to use other systems such as Google Hangouts where you can meet face-to-face without the frustration of poor technology as with Skype.\\n3-4. Don't just give instructions.\\nLife coaches aren't just expensive advice givers. That'd be terrible. It's about helping others explore their choices and figuring out what's best for them. It's only the bad life coaches that dispense advice and hang up. You're really working at changing the behavior -- which is about a million more times valuable than simply telling a client what to do.\\nNo one else needs another person (much less a virtual stranger) telling them what to do with our lives -- we all get that from our in-laws, our siblings, and the occasional high school friend who thinks they know everything. You're answering the \\\"how,\\\" not the what. You can give them the process.\\n3-5. Give homework.\\nTo a certain extent, you're a teacher or guide. When you hang up the phone with a client, your job doesn't just end there. You have to make sure they're putting into action what you two have discussed. You need to give them homework. Whether it's exploring different business plans or talking to their ex-husband, you have to give them actions that lead to change. What would be best for them? And how do you make sure they do it?\\nYou will have clients that don't cooperate. You'll have clients that don't agree with you. You'll have clients that think you're wasting their precious time. These will happen. You have to take the good with the bad and know when to cut your losses. If a client doesn't like your style, then it could be resistance and fear coming up. Don't take on a client you don't get along with, and you won't have these problems. As you work with more clients, you'll be able to discover in your discovery session whether or not you will be a good fit. If you don't know how to do a discovery session (it is NOT a coaching session), then you need to learn how to do one right away. See your business coach or group for help.\\n3-6. Help them reach their goals.\\nIn the end, that's ultimately what it is about. We all struggle with this thing called life and a life coach is there to shine the light for us down that dark, scary tunnel we're all wandering. If you've done your best to hit all their goals and have shown them the options, you've done your part. They'll be better for having worked with you.\\n4. Developing Effective Coaching Skills\\n4-1. Be a caring, empathetic individual.\\nMuch of the work a life coach does is helping people set goals and encouraging them to achieve them. This requires being someone who likes being in touch with people in a friendly manner. If you're a negative Nancy or a Debbie Downer or a Sad, Sad Sally, your clients will be running for the hills in no time at all.\\nFace-to-face contact is not always necessary to be a life coach, as many coaches work with clients over the telephone. However, it has many advantages: it is less inhibiting and therefore easier to build trust. It's convenient as it is global and flexible.\\n4-2. Sincerely want the best for everyone.\\nSome of us (read: 99% of us) aren't always nice and understanding. Even if we think of ourselves as possessing these qualities, we still have the occasional slip-up. And sometimes it happens with a certain type more than another. That really pretty coworker may make us feel envious or that really dumb friend of Joe's just irritates us so much we become cold and aloof. Whether it's intellect, appearance, or just obnoxious laughs that get to you, you have to put that all aside and be willing and eager to help everyone.\\nYou're probably going to have clients that you wouldn't walk across the street to have a 5 minute cup of coffee with in the next life. That's fine. We can't all mesh with everyone. But that's fine -- you don't have to have coffee with these people. All you have to do is help them. Help them and want them to succeed. Even if you find their personalities akin to fingernails on a chalkboard, still have their best interests at heart.\\n4-3. Know that you are not your clients' friend.\\nJust like the previous step got at, you're not having coffee dates with these people. You are not grabbing drinks during happy hour before the game starts. You are there to push them, not to enable them like friends often do. It's important to keep this line clear to maintain a professional relationship. When you become their friend, they stop paying you.\\nWhen you cross the line from coach to friend, your clients will feel less of a push to do what you're suggesting they do. You'll also feel less inclined to be real with them -- one day you'll need to be harsh with them and they'll get personally offended if you're friends. It's just general good, logical practice to keep the boundaries clear.\\n4-4. Be flexible.\\nOur lives often take unexpected turns. You're likely to get a call at 9 on a Friday night from a client who would love to schedule a session the following day. If you can, work with them! They're not being disrespectful -- they're practically as surprised as you are. You won't have the most constant work schedule, but it definitely won't be your standard behind-a-desk 9 to 5 gig. * You need to set up appointments with your clients in advance, not let them wait until the last minute like this. Only by helping them plan longer term will they begin to organize their lives better and start making lasting changes. Allowing them to make last-minute changes or appointments is only enabling their bad behaviors and is not conducive to achieving positive results. Emergencies are one thing, but otherwise a good coach will have 2-4 weeks of calls scheduled in advance for each client.\\nIn addition to being flexible with hours, be flexible in terms of an open mind. What you see working for this person may not be something that actually does. In the end, everything is relative. If they're not keen on something, you may have to respect their wishes. You are always working with a unique individual. Cater your program to them as specifically as you can, but leave a little wiggle room for improvement.\\n4-5. Be creative.\\nIn order to help people reach their potential, you've gotta be able to think outside the box. Odds are they've considered routes A and B and they haven't been good enough (for one reason or another) -- you have to present them with routes C, D, and E. They won't always be so obvious (or your client would have thought of them!); in order to be a successful life coach, you gotta be resourceful, creative, and imaginative.\\nThat's not to say you shouldn't be logical. Nope -- you gotta be both. All in all, you gotta be zeroed in on the path to success. A healthy balance of reality mixed in with a have-you-thought-about-it-this-way attitude will get you far in the eyes of your clients. And when they're happy, you're happy -- and they might tell their friends, too!\\nTips\\nKeep a list of satisfied clients to use as references for prospective future clients.\\nYou may want to offer prospective clients a sample coaching session to see if your coaching style meshes with their goals and other needs. And to whet their appetites!\\nWarnings\\nA life coach should work as a partner to the client, and the client should be the one who determines the direction that partnership should go.\\nThere are presently no external regulatory agencies for life coaches as there are for psychiatrists and psychologists.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"After spending hours with your friend on the phone discussing possible routes to a new career, you end up asking yourself, Why am I not getting paid for this? If you want to help others by becoming a life coach, we'll walk you through the ideal credentials and requirements as well as the process of setting up your life coaching business and landing your first clients. Read on to get started on your life coaching career!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Becoming Qualified\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take coaching classes through an accredited program.\", \"描述\": \"If you're already out of college and not looking to go back, the other route is taking life coach classes through an accredited school or program. The ICF and IAC (International Coaching Federation and the International Association of Coaching, respectively), have partnered up with certain schools and deemed the coaches they spit out worthy of their certification.\\nThose two organizations are about as legit as the field of life coaching gets. Make sure whatever school you go to works through one of these organizations. If not, it's either a scam, a waste of your money and time, or both.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get certified.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have completed your school's coaching program, you are eligible for certification (either through the ICF or the IAC, depending on which your school is associated with). With that certification, you're basically good to go. Instead of telling people you're a life coach and hoping they don't ask about the details, you've got the cred to back it up.\\nThis will be your bread and butter. No life coach can really succeed without it. If you have education on top of it, you'll be even better off. Just remember to include it on your business card!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Attend seminars.\", \"描述\": \"Because there's no life coaching equivalent to med school, seminars are a super common thing. To stay viable in the field, get familiar with all the big names, and to network, coaches are attending seminars left, right, and center. Your school should be able to get you started on when and where to find them in your area.\\nUse these to your advantage. Not only should you go home and try to really take in what was addressed (each seminar should have a different topic), but you should also talk to the people there. Having mentors (or at least friendly faces in the field) will be infinitely useful to you when bumps come up in the road. Someone's gotta show you the ropes!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Setting Up Your Business\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your part-time job.\", \"描述\": \"Let's just get this out there right outta the gate: while there aren't a ton of fees associated with becoming a life coach (in comparison to paying for a decade of medical school, say), there's a definite delay in income. Not only do you need something to keep the lights on while you're getting trained, but you'll need that savings while you get started, too. After four months of classes, people won't exactly be knocking down your door to pay you for advice. These things take time.\\nIt could take years to build up a steady, sturdy clientele base. This is not a get-rich-quick scheme. While some life coaches can charge exorbitant amounts of money for just a quick phone call, most aren't so lucky. With less experience, you'll have to charge less money (in addition to having fewer clients). And you'll probably have to start out doing work for free -- so don't go flipping your boss the bird yet.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"While a few life coaches get hired by corporations and those businesses looking to improve their employee retention rates, most life coaches are self-employed. This means you'll handle your own paperwork and have to get bogged down by the business side of it all, but it also means you set your own schedule.\\nYou'll need to pay self-employment tax along with invoicing all your clients yourself and establishing methods and schedules of payment (just to name a few). If you're unsure of all the bases you need to cover, talk to someone else who is self-employed -- or other life coaches! What a nice set-up for the next step.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be mentored by an established life coach.\", \"描述\": \"Just as therapists receive hours of counseling during their training, new life coaches need to get mentored by experienced coaches to supplement their training. Mentoring may occur in group sessions or with individual coaches over the phone if your school provides one for you -- or you may have to seek one out yourself. You've been networking, right?\\nThe other side to this equation is that you need to see what a life coach actually does. You may think it's all, \\\"You're ruining your life -- do this instead,\\\" when it's really anything but that (if you're a good life coach, at least!). To get a better grip on what you'll actually be doing, you should have a life coach yourself.\\nIf your school doesn't provide one for you (or at the very least give you a few names to hit up), find one either through your friends/school buddies/teachers or through a directory -- much like your future clients will find you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"List yourself in various coaching directories.\", \"描述\": \"There are several online directories in which you can list yourself so that Internet wanderers may find you if they decide they'd like a little life assistance. There are tons of people out there you'll never reach by word of mouth -- putting yourself out there on the web is the only way to find them.\\nMost websites will charge a fee to put your image and information up. Make sure it's not a complete hoax/waste of time before you hand anyone your credit card information or money. There are plenty of scams out there, so step lightly.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find your niche.\", \"描述\": \"Some life coaches specialize in coaching people on defining visions for their lives and seeking ways to improve overall. Some coaches focus on helping clients choose and train for careers, while others coach executives in how to run their businesses; and still others coach clients in managing their interpersonal relationships. Decide on what area of life coaching you wish to specialize in (hint: it should be something you know personally). Here's a list of possibilities to start you off:\\nBusiness coaching\\nCarbon coaching (helping others reduce their carbon footprint)\\nCareer coaching\\nCorporate coaching\\nExecutive coaching\\nRelationship coaching\\nRetirement coaching\\nSpiritual and Christian coaching\\nTime management coaching\\nWeight and body image coaching\\nWork/life balance coaching\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Market yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you have the title \\\"Certified Life Coach\\\" behind your name, it's time to start handing out business cards, getting ads online, in newspapers, in community pages and journals, setting up a Facebook page, tweeting, heck, even plastering your name on the side of your car. The more name recognition you have, the better. People can't come to you if they don't know you exist!\\nConsider marketing yourself as a specialist. You've got your niche, right? What might your prospective clients be reading, viewing, or listening to? If you want to reach executives, you wouldn't post an ad at the local daycare -- but you might want to do that if you want to reach new moms or women balancing career and family life.\\nStudies have shown that coaching is just as great for employees as it is for employers. Companies that spend $1 on their employees (be it through coaching, personal wellness, etc.) make $3 in savings for decreased turnover and the processes that go with it. If you're considering walking up to a business and suggesting they provide you as a coach (and if you weren't, you are now), arm yourself with these facts.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get some guinea pig clients.\", \"描述\": \"After you're fresh off the certification boat, you'll need some clients. However, with zero experience under your belt, they're going to be pretty hard to come by. In an exchange to be able to say you have experience working with living, breathing people, ask your friends and family members if you can work with them for free. You'll get your hours in and they'll get some much needed me-time (and hopefully some great pointers and a dose of reality).\\nHow many and for how long you do this is up to you. The correct answer is \\\"until you feel comfortable charging for your services and confident that you can truly help others enrich their lives.\\\" It could be weeks, it could be months. Luckily, there's no wrong way to go about it. However, waiting until you feel completely \\\"ready\\\" will delay the work of truly helping people, especially if you're a perfectionist. At some point, you're going to need to jump in and make the decision that you are running a real business.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Get some real clients.\", \"描述\": \"After a few months of working with your sister's coworker and your friend's friend's pizza delivery guy, eventually word of mouth will do its job. You'll get that first phone call that makes you jump through the roof. Congratulations! It's money making time.*Word of mouth is NOT something to depend on. You need to learn to market your business and set up a plan, not wait for others to talk about you. Get a business coach if you really want to run a business and not have a part-time hobby that barely brings in any money.\\n...But how much? Quite frankly, that's up to you. Do you want to charge a daily rate? A monthly rate? And what is that rate? Consider how steep the challenges are for this individual -- both for you and for them. What can they afford? What can you afford? What demographic do the majority of your potential clients fall into? When in doubt -- ask around about the competition! * You need to learn to charge for results, not by the hour or day. Worrying about what the competition charges and trying to undercut them is why very few coaches make money. You'll need to hire a business coach to learn the correct way to set up your services and price them so that you can make a good living and eventually quit your day job. It's also important to set up longer-term programs, and not just meet with a client one time or let them hire you monthly.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Working with Clients\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start with an in-depth interview.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to life coaching, there is no judging books by their covers. When a client comes to you, have the first session be an in-depth, cover-all-your-bases interview. What do they want from you? What part of their lives are they looking to change? What are their goals?\\nMost people will come in with an idea -- a very specific idea (hence the reason most life coaches have specialties) of what they want to accomplish. Whether it's weight loss, wrapping their minds around their blooming business, or tackling their relationship issues, they know. Let them guide you initially and listen.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay organized.\", \"描述\": \"Once you set up a base of clients, it's gonna be easy to refer to one in your head as that-one-guy-who-drinks-coffee-addiction-who-still-has-narcolepsy. Don't do that. He won't like it. Keep portfolios of all your clients, get the details down, and keep them straight. If you don't stay organized, you'll end up missing a call with client number #14 who abandons you the next day.\\nIt's also important to make them feel like they are your most important client. Every little detail they've told you needs to be something you remember and take into account when you're working with them. Not only will they be impressed and trust you more, but you'll be able to make more accurate decisions on what would help them if you keep your facts straight.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set up a doable schedule.\", \"描述\": \"You'll soon find what works best for you, but most coaches say they work with each client around 3 times a month. Some clients will require more work and some less, but three times a month is average. The length of time for each session is up to you and the client.\\nYou don't necessarily have to do the sessions in person, though those are obviously the most personal. You could also do them over the phone or even via programs like Skype. If you're corporate or executive, you may find that your clients are traveling a lot and session over the phone are the only option. If you want to really be successful, you'll want to open up your business to clients all over the World. Skype is a poor option in many countries and areas as it drops frequently. Learn to use other systems such as Google Hangouts where you can meet face-to-face without the frustration of poor technology as with Skype.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't just give instructions.\", \"描述\": \"Life coaches aren't just expensive advice givers. That'd be terrible. It's about helping others explore their choices and figuring out what's best for them. It's only the bad life coaches that dispense advice and hang up. You're really working at changing the behavior -- which is about a million more times valuable than simply telling a client what to do.\\nNo one else needs another person (much less a virtual stranger) telling them what to do with our lives -- we all get that from our in-laws, our siblings, and the occasional high school friend who thinks they know everything. You're answering the \\\"how,\\\" not the what. You can give them the process.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give homework.\", \"描述\": \"To a certain extent, you're a teacher or guide. When you hang up the phone with a client, your job doesn't just end there. You have to make sure they're putting into action what you two have discussed. You need to give them homework. Whether it's exploring different business plans or talking to their ex-husband, you have to give them actions that lead to change. What would be best for them? And how do you make sure they do it?\\nYou will have clients that don't cooperate. You'll have clients that don't agree with you. You'll have clients that think you're wasting their precious time. These will happen. You have to take the good with the bad and know when to cut your losses. If a client doesn't like your style, then it could be resistance and fear coming up. Don't take on a client you don't get along with, and you won't have these problems. As you work with more clients, you'll be able to discover in your discovery session whether or not you will be a good fit. If you don't know how to do a discovery session (it is NOT a coaching session), then you need to learn how to do one right away. See your business coach or group for help.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Help them reach their goals.\", \"描述\": \"In the end, that's ultimately what it is about. We all struggle with this thing called life and a life coach is there to shine the light for us down that dark, scary tunnel we're all wandering. If you've done your best to hit all their goals and have shown them the options, you've done your part. They'll be better for having worked with you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Developing Effective Coaching Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be a caring, empathetic individual.\", \"描述\": \"Much of the work a life coach does is helping people set goals and encouraging them to achieve them. This requires being someone who likes being in touch with people in a friendly manner. If you're a negative Nancy or a Debbie Downer or a Sad, Sad Sally, your clients will be running for the hills in no time at all.\\nFace-to-face contact is not always necessary to be a life coach, as many coaches work with clients over the telephone. However, it has many advantages: it is less inhibiting and therefore easier to build trust. It's convenient as it is global and flexible.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Sincerely want the best for everyone.\", \"描述\": \"Some of us (read: 99% of us) aren't always nice and understanding. Even if we think of ourselves as possessing these qualities, we still have the occasional slip-up. And sometimes it happens with a certain type more than another. That really pretty coworker may make us feel envious or that really dumb friend of Joe's just irritates us so much we become cold and aloof. Whether it's intellect, appearance, or just obnoxious laughs that get to you, you have to put that all aside and be willing and eager to help everyone.\\nYou're probably going to have clients that you wouldn't walk across the street to have a 5 minute cup of coffee with in the next life. That's fine. We can't all mesh with everyone. But that's fine -- you don't have to have coffee with these people. All you have to do is help them. Help them and want them to succeed. Even if you find their personalities akin to fingernails on a chalkboard, still have their best interests at heart.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know that you are not your clients' friend.\", \"描述\": \"Just like the previous step got at, you're not having coffee dates with these people. You are not grabbing drinks during happy hour before the game starts. You are there to push them, not to enable them like friends often do. It's important to keep this line clear to maintain a professional relationship. When you become their friend, they stop paying you.\\nWhen you cross the line from coach to friend, your clients will feel less of a push to do what you're suggesting they do. You'll also feel less inclined to be real with them -- one day you'll need to be harsh with them and they'll get personally offended if you're friends. It's just general good, logical practice to keep the boundaries clear.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be flexible.\", \"描述\": \"Our lives often take unexpected turns. You're likely to get a call at 9 on a Friday night from a client who would love to schedule a session the following day. If you can, work with them! They're not being disrespectful -- they're practically as surprised as you are. You won't have the most constant work schedule, but it definitely won't be your standard behind-a-desk 9 to 5 gig. * You need to set up appointments with your clients in advance, not let them wait until the last minute like this. Only by helping them plan longer term will they begin to organize their lives better and start making lasting changes. Allowing them to make last-minute changes or appointments is only enabling their bad behaviors and is not conducive to achieving positive results. Emergencies are one thing, but otherwise a good coach will have 2-4 weeks of calls scheduled in advance for each client.\\nIn addition to being flexible with hours, be flexible in terms of an open mind. What you see working for this person may not be something that actually does. In the end, everything is relative. If they're not keen on something, you may have to respect their wishes. You are always working with a unique individual. Cater your program to them as specifically as you can, but leave a little wiggle room for improvement.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be creative.\", \"描述\": \"In order to help people reach their potential, you've gotta be able to think outside the box. Odds are they've considered routes A and B and they haven't been good enough (for one reason or another) -- you have to present them with routes C, D, and E. They won't always be so obvious (or your client would have thought of them!); in order to be a successful life coach, you gotta be resourceful, creative, and imaginative.\\nThat's not to say you shouldn't be logical. Nope -- you gotta be both. All in all, you gotta be zeroed in on the path to success. A healthy balance of reality mixed in with a have-you-thought-about-it-this-way attitude will get you far in the eyes of your clients. And when they're happy, you're happy -- and they might tell their friends, too!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Keep a list of satisfied clients to use as references for prospective future clients.\\n\", \"You may want to offer prospective clients a sample coaching session to see if your coaching style meshes with their goals and other needs. And to whet their appetites!\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"A life coach should work as a partner to the client, and the client should be the one who determines the direction that partnership should go.\\n\", \"There are presently no external regulatory agencies for life coaches as there are for psychiatrists and psychologists.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Linux Expert
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1. Steps
1-1. Use a GNU/Linux based operating system as your main.
A lot of IT, Computer, Physics , etc. students install a Linux distro as a secondary operating system on their computers. If you want to be an expert, Use it as your primary operating system.
1-2. Try different distributions.
GNU/Linux has thousands of distributions, try major ones. Like Debian and Archlinux
1-3. Use Terminal to solve problems.
GNU/Linux is a terminal-based operating system. If you want to be an expert, you need to learn how to work on terminal.
1-4. Learn a Programming Language.
Programming Languages let you make better tweaks to the system and to fix what you need to. Learn main languages of the Unix family like C, C++, Python, and/or Bash.
1-5. Try different Desktop Environments(Graphical UIs).
GNU/Linux has thousands of X Desktop environments like GNOME, KDE or XFCE.
1-6. Use IRC channels to get support.
A lot of Linux distributions have their own IRC (Internet Relay Chat) channels. You can ask your questions there.
1-7. Learn about patching and versioning systems(subversion, git)
1-8. Use forums or communities such as linux.com
1-9. Look for a Linux-related job.
(Go to Openhatch)
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How to Be a Lipstick Lesbian
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1. Steps
1-1. Don't be afraid of makeup.
Wear as much or as little as you would like. If it makes you happy, go ahead. However, keep in mind that it's and not everyone who is a lipstick lesbian will wear makeup. It doesn’t make you less or more of a lesbian.
Go for lighter colors, blush, and neutral eye shadow for a feminine look.
1-2. Wear what you like.
For a more feminine look, opt for skirts and dresses. They don't have to be short or revealing, just any shape or style that you are comfortable in. However there is no textbook way how to dress. The idea of a 'Lipstick Lesbian' is somebody who retains a feminine appearance but this doesn't mean you have to be in dresses all the time. Look for clothes that are appropriate for your body shape and size - ones that are comfortable yet modest if that is what you prefer. Instead of wearing pants or jeans, try skirts. With a blouse, belt, and flats, a skirt looks adorable.
1-3. Choose comfortable, feminine shoes.
Heels work well, if you can survive wearing them, and kitten heels work well for those who find them difficult to wear. If all else fails, pumps are cute and girly, and will work just as well. Just like the outfit however, you should wear what makes you comfortable.
Wearing heels too often can lead to damage and pain. Try to wear flat shoes when you can.
1-4. Find cute accessories to match your look.
Aside from your clothes and makeup, you should take some time to find the perfect accessories to complement your ensemble. You don't need a whole box of accessories to look put-together; just a few key pieces can help you look more feminine:
A simple headband
A hair barrette or ribbons
A dainty necklace
A couple of arm bracelets
To be more stylish, you can use fun, bold, playful accessories such as bright, colorful bags in different shapes and sizes and statement jewelry like earrings, necklaces, and cuffs. You can also wear statement shoes with color and print.
Accessories work to transform an outfit quickly. They complement a capsule closet.
They do not require a big investment and can be worn repeatedly in multiple ways.
1-5. Be kind and polite.
Even if you're hanging out with someone you don't particularly like, you should refrain from being openly angry or aggressive. Instead, smile, be courteous, and keep your contact with the person to a minimum.
1-6. Enjoy being yourself.
You don't have to prove anything to anyone. Some people may not believe you are into women because you seem too feminine, and many have the thought to demand you prove it. You don't have to prove it, because if they don't believe you in the first place, why are they worth proving it to? However, you are free to do so if you choose. It is your own decision.
1-7. To boost your confidence and self-esteem, practice self-love.
If you are self-conscious and insecure about your appearance, look in the mirror and find at least one aspect of yourself that you like. It does not have to be grand; it can be as simple as the shape of your nose, freckles, or eye color. Do this on a daily basis.
1-8. Shave or wax (optional).
Most girls will only wax their legs and underarms, but you can wax your forearms as well, especially if your hair is thick and coarse. You can also visit a beauty salon or manicure shop to have your brows and upper lip waxed. Remember that shaving is a personal preference, not a necessity. You don't have to shave to look pretty or be feminine.
1-9. Be playful and fun.
Let's get rid of the notion that being feminine entails being perfect and luminous. When grace fails you and you fall flat on your face in the middle of a room, your ability to laugh it off is the true test of your femininity! Make jokes, make others smile, and project positivity.
1-10. Style your hair.
Take advantage of your hair's natural texture. It is much easier to embrace your hair than to fight against it. Visit a hair stylist, and ask him or her to help you choose a hairstyle that suits your face shape and hair texture. Brush your hair properly to prevent frizz and snags. Skip the daily heat styling, and use a good heat protectant when you do.
1-11. Take care of your body and yourself.
Wear sunscreen, exercise, eat healthily, and get 8-10 hours of sleep per night. This will help you feel confident and happy.
1-12. Make grooming a priority.
You don't have to take a two-hour shower or spend an hour doing your hair every day, but you should make sure you always look, feel, and smell clean, and that you've set aside enough time to maintain a ladylike appearance. It's not very feminine to show up somewhere after a workout without showering; make sure you exude cleanliness and poise and appear somewhat put-together wherever you go.
1-13. Follow your own style.
Every lesbian is different, and you don't have to perfectly conform to the "lipstick lesbian" label if you don't feel like it. Do not feel pressured to fit into a box or adhere to a particular style to represent yourself in a way that makes you uncomfortable. Be true to yourself, since everyone is different.
Tips
A shopping spree will do good if you need to refresh your wardrobe.
Keep good posture and stand tall.
Warnings
If people believe you are straight and then find out you are not, they may act differently around you--especially women. Let that person know that your sexual orientation doesn't change who you are.
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Choose comfortable, feminine shoes.\\nHeels work well, if you can survive wearing them, and kitten heels work well for those who find them difficult to wear. If all else fails, pumps are cute and girly, and will work just as well. Just like the outfit however, you should wear what makes you comfortable.\\nWearing heels too often can lead to damage and pain. Try to wear flat shoes when you can.\\n1-4. Find cute accessories to match your look.\\nAside from your clothes and makeup, you should take some time to find the perfect accessories to complement your ensemble. You don't need a whole box of accessories to look put-together; just a few key pieces can help you look more feminine:\\nA simple headband\\nA hair barrette or ribbons\\nA dainty necklace\\nA couple of arm bracelets\\nTo be more stylish, you can use fun, bold, playful accessories such as bright, colorful bags in different shapes and sizes and statement jewelry like earrings, necklaces, and cuffs. You can also wear statement shoes with color and print.\\nAccessories work to transform an outfit quickly. They complement a capsule closet.\\nThey do not require a big investment and can be worn repeatedly in multiple ways.\\n1-5. Be kind and polite.\\nEven if you're hanging out with someone you don't particularly like, you should refrain from being openly angry or aggressive. Instead, smile, be courteous, and keep your contact with the person to a minimum.\\n1-6. Enjoy being yourself.\\nYou don't have to prove anything to anyone. Some people may not believe you are into women because you seem too feminine, and many have the thought to demand you prove it. You don't have to prove it, because if they don't believe you in the first place, why are they worth proving it to? However, you are free to do so if you choose. It is your own decision.\\n1-7. To boost your confidence and self-esteem, practice self-love.\\nIf you are self-conscious and insecure about your appearance, look in the mirror and find at least one aspect of yourself that you like. It does not have to be grand; it can be as simple as the shape of your nose, freckles, or eye color. Do this on a daily basis.\\n1-8. Shave or wax (optional).\\nMost girls will only wax their legs and underarms, but you can wax your forearms as well, especially if your hair is thick and coarse. You can also visit a beauty salon or manicure shop to have your brows and upper lip waxed. Remember that shaving is a personal preference, not a necessity. You don't have to shave to look pretty or be feminine.\\n1-9. Be playful and fun.\\nLet's get rid of the notion that being feminine entails being perfect and luminous. When grace fails you and you fall flat on your face in the middle of a room, your ability to laugh it off is the true test of your femininity! Make jokes, make others smile, and project positivity.\\n1-10. Style your hair.\\nTake advantage of your hair's natural texture. It is much easier to embrace your hair than to fight against it. Visit a hair stylist, and ask him or her to help you choose a hairstyle that suits your face shape and hair texture. Brush your hair properly to prevent frizz and snags. Skip the daily heat styling, and use a good heat protectant when you do.\\n1-11. Take care of your body and yourself.\\nWear sunscreen, exercise, eat healthily, and get 8-10 hours of sleep per night. This will help you feel confident and happy.\\n1-12. Make grooming a priority.\\nYou don't have to take a two-hour shower or spend an hour doing your hair every day, but you should make sure you always look, feel, and smell clean, and that you've set aside enough time to maintain a ladylike appearance. It's not very feminine to show up somewhere after a workout without showering; make sure you exude cleanliness and poise and appear somewhat put-together wherever you go.\\n1-13. Follow your own style.\\nEvery lesbian is different, and you don't have to perfectly conform to the \\\"lipstick lesbian\\\" label if you don't feel like it. Do not feel pressured to fit into a box or adhere to a particular style to represent yourself in a way that makes you uncomfortable. Be true to yourself, since everyone is different.\\nTips\\nA shopping spree will do good if you need to refresh your wardrobe.\\nKeep good posture and stand tall.\\nWarnings\\nIf people believe you are straight and then find out you are not, they may act differently around you--especially women. Let that person know that your sexual orientation doesn't change who you are.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A lipstick lesbian is a lesbian woman who has a highly feminine style and attitude (as opposed to conforming to the stereotypical masculine characteristics that are connected with being a lesbian) as well as an attraction to other feminine women. This article will show you how to be a lipstick lesbian.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid of makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Wear as much or as little as you would like. If it makes you happy, go ahead. However, keep in mind that it's and not everyone who is a lipstick lesbian will wear makeup. It doesn’t make you less or more of a lesbian.\\nGo for lighter colors, blush, and neutral eye shadow for a feminine look.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear what you like.\", \"描述\": \"For a more feminine look, opt for skirts and dresses. They don't have to be short or revealing, just any shape or style that you are comfortable in. However there is no textbook way how to dress. The idea of a 'Lipstick Lesbian' is somebody who retains a feminine appearance but this doesn't mean you have to be in dresses all the time. Look for clothes that are appropriate for your body shape and size - ones that are comfortable yet modest if that is what you prefer. Instead of wearing pants or jeans, try skirts. With a blouse, belt, and flats, a skirt looks adorable.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose comfortable, feminine shoes.\", \"描述\": \"Heels work well, if you can survive wearing them, and kitten heels work well for those who find them difficult to wear. If all else fails, pumps are cute and girly, and will work just as well. Just like the outfit however, you should wear what makes you comfortable.\\nWearing heels too often can lead to damage and pain. Try to wear flat shoes when you can.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find cute accessories to match your look.\", \"描述\": \"Aside from your clothes and makeup, you should take some time to find the perfect accessories to complement your ensemble. You don't need a whole box of accessories to look put-together; just a few key pieces can help you look more feminine:\\nA simple headband\\nA hair barrette or ribbons\\nA dainty necklace\\nA couple of arm bracelets\\nTo be more stylish, you can use fun, bold, playful accessories such as bright, colorful bags in different shapes and sizes and statement jewelry like earrings, necklaces, and cuffs. You can also wear statement shoes with color and print.\\nAccessories work to transform an outfit quickly. 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1. Creating a Character and Costume
1-1. Develop a character.
The character can be based on a real person or well-known literary or mythological character, or created along common character tropes. Common character ideas include: robots, astronauts, literal statues (e.g. “The Thinker”), and mimes.
For ideas or inspiration, look through pictures of living statues online, or go to an area of a nearby city in which living statues frequently perform.
1-2. Make a costume.
Start by visiting costume stores or novelty shops to find the necessary wigs and clothing for your costume. If you’d like to custom make your own costume, you can visit a fabric store to purchase an appropriate color and style of fabric, and then sew your own costume.
If you have the option, choose a cotton fabric for your costume. Cotton holds its color well, even if you’re performing in rain or snow.
1-3. Accessorize your character.
To flesh out your appearance as a human statue, you can accessorize with objects to wear and hold. Look for objects that match your overall theme: if you’re a robot, hold an imitation computer; if you’re a statue, hold a book to “read”; if you’re a pirate, hold a plastic sword and hook.
Sometimes just going shopping will be enough to inspire the costume, character, and actions you choose to perform. Yard sales, thrift shops and antique shops are best. You’re bound to find something odd that will spark your inspiration.
Other helpful places for props are home improvement stores (if you’re looking for mechanical items) and fabric and craft stores. Items found at these types of stores may spark your creativity and give you ideas of how to accessorize your statue character.
1-4. Apply makeup to flesh out your character.
Many living statues cover themselves completely in makeup, to give them the appearance of being a statue, robot, or other non-human character. Depending on your natural skin tone, white makeup works best; copper and silver are other popular face-paint colors. You should be able to find costume makeup at a costume or hobby store, or through most online retailers.
If using a white or non-metallic color, use water based cake-makeup as opposed to oil based. If you use oil, dust it with a finishing powder so it doesn’t smudge.
In order to draw attention to your eyes, you may want to line them in brown or black with regular eyeliner.
Adding extra makeup (like lipstick or blush) on top of your solid base may be necessary, but keep it minimal unless the makeup is an essential part of your costume.
2. Standing as A Living Statue
2-1. Find a pose that is easy to maintain.
Since you’ll largely be standing still, you need to find an easy pose, at least at first. Exert only a small amount of energy by relying on your bones to hold you up, instead of relying on muscles to keep you in a contorted position. Keep your arms low and close to your body, feet shoulder-width apart, and avoid contorting your torso.
Don’t force yourself to balance in an uncomfortable position. If you’re just starting out, you could even incorporate a chair or the wall of a building into your positions, to help support your body weight.
As you become more used to working as a living statue, you’ll develop patience, and you’ll learn to ignore small distractions from your body, including minor itches or a building sneeze.
2-2. Change your pose often.
Although a practiced living statue can hold a single pose for over two hours, a beginner will find it difficult to hold a pose for 15 minutes. You can make gradual movements to switch poses: lower or raise your arms, bend at your waist, straighten your back, or try innovating new positions on your own. Shifting poses frequently will prevent you from developing cramps or falling over.
Conversely, sudden and dramatic movements can take your audience by surprise and wow them. By interspersing dramatic arm and torso movements into your living-statue routine, you can give yourself opportunities to move and to further engage the audience.
2-3. Breathe deeply and without movement.
Control your breathing when you’re trying to hold a pose for a long period of time. Breathe deeply and slowly into your abdomen, then your chest. As your breaths slow, it will create the illusion of total immobility, which will impress audience members.
For some living statues, the experience of standing perfectly still and breathing slowly can begin to feel like meditation. Time can pass quickly in this state, so don’t forget to look at your watch from time to time.
2-4. Choose an action to perform.
When a human statue comes to life, it’s common for the performer to perform an action or give something away. What you give away doesn’t have to be tangible; it can be something as simple as a glance or gesture. However, your action or gesture needs to be meaningful; it should be a moment in which you connect with the human being in front of you and look them in the eye.
If you have a talent, use it. For example, you can draw in viewers and surprise audience members by blowing bubbles, creating origami, performing coin tricks, or playing an instrument.
If someone leaves money, you can surprise them by performing an action: blow a kiss, tip your hat, or take a dramatic bow.
3. Interacting with Audience Members
3-1. Select a good location to perform as a statue.
If you’d like to be seen by as many passers-by as possible (and consequently receive as many tips as possible), you’ll need to select a location with a high level of pedestrian traffic. Street performers commonly set up along walking malls, large sidewalks and street corners, or in large public parks or gardens. Make sure to avoid areas where “No Busking” signs are prominently posted.
You’ll also need to confirm that you can legally perform and solicit money in the area that you select. Generally, busking is legal on public property. Most large cities will have publicly available busking guidelines posted online. Consult these, or speak with other buskers to determine where you can and cannot perform.
3-2. Set out a hat or bucket for money.
Living statues often work as buskers and rely on their performance as a part of their income. Passing pedestrians who appreciate your costume and talent will often linger and join other individuals to watch you in full statue costume. If you have a hat, bucket, or jar set out, appreciative audience members will drop in money.
If you’re only planning to perform as a living statue as a hobby and don’t want to make an income from the work, you don’t need to put out a collections bucket.
3-3. Do not scare or jump towards children in the audience.
Resist the urge to jump out at toddlers and young children to startle them. The idea of a large grey statue coming to life and frightening a child could potentially give them nightmares. If you treat your audience members—especially children—with hostility, your audience will soon stop giving you money.
Some people dislike being near living statues and find them creepy due to their realism. If anybody complains, simply inform them that you are doing this as performance art, not to try to disturb people.
3-4. Protect your personal space from hecklers.
Unfortunately, some individuals find it funny to harass, heckle, or otherwise bother and assault living statues. There are various ways that living can statues can discourage hecklers and protect themselves from hasslers. You can try various techniques, and find one that works for you and your costume.
For example, when dealing with unruly teenagers or adults, jumping out and scaring them away can be a defense that allows you to stay in character. This applies to any people who try to touch you or generally treat you poorly.
3-5. Speak to hecklers if they continue to hassle you.
If you have tried to discourage hecklers while staying in character, you may need to break character and speak to persistent hecklers. Although performers try to stay in character for a long as possible, it’s worth breaking character to protect your personal space and keep from potentially being assaulted.
If someone continues to try to touch your or hassle you, try saying something like, “This isn’t funny and you’re making me uncomfortable, please stop hassling me.”
Tips
To increase the realism of your costume, cover your head. Hats and wigs work best. Natural hair can spoil the look of a living statue, and diminish the illusion you’re trying to create. Often a head wrap (such as for a Greco-Roman statue) can look good.[13]
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