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How to Be a Lolita
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1. Getting the Right Clothes
1-1. Pick clothes carefully.
Lolita styles of clothes can be found all around you, though it may take a little work to find items befitting the style aesthetic. You can purchase brand items second hand online, though you can also find items locally if you are careful.
Mainstream stores are unlikely to have dresses or skirts that are full enough to fit a petticoat; while it is possible to find blouses that can work in these stores, it's important that they cover your shoulders, have no cut-outs, and are not cropped nor low-cut.
If you wish, you may create and sew your own lolita clothing.
Check out second-hand stores for good deals on accessories and shoes. Check for lacy vintage tops, vests, and mary janes. Additionally, you can try to find jewelry to match your existing pieces. Check here for cheaper options. How to Be a Budget Lolita.
Beware of online scam sites like milanoo.com or anything that seems fishy. Always verify the trustworthiness of a site before buying from it.
When picking out your clothes be aware of the silhouettes that are prevalent in the fashion and the flow of the outfit. Lolita coordinates require careful consideration!
1-2. Find matching pieces.
Lolita outfits are called coordinates, or coords, because everything in each outfit is carefully matched to the rest of the outfit. It's about looking elegant with a Victorian, Rococo, and/or Edwardian influence. Based on your preference, the look can be either cute or elegant or a mix of both.
The most common type of lolita blouse is a button-down shirt with a peter-pan collar, which is a round type of collar. Remember that lolita is a modest fashion- high collars, sleeves, and layers are necessary to properly pull off the look. Think elegance and modesty.
1-3. Achieve the lolita silhouette.
Common lolita skirt or dress shapes are the cupcake, bell, and A-line. Petticoats/panniers are nearly always necessary to achieve the lolita silhouette, while bloomers are also often used to add volume, modesty, and sometimes warmth to the outfit. A lolita skirt should be approximately knee-length, though a bit below or above is acceptable. If a skirt is particularly short (more than 4-5" above the knee) it's often best to consider an underskirt to make it longer.
Make sure that your petticoat is the right shape! A square-dancing petticoat will not fit under a bell-shaped skirt correctly; you need a bell-shaped petticoat for a bell-shaped skirt.
1-4. Get socks or stockings.
These are required. Knee-length socks, over-the-knee socks, stockings, and opaque tights are often a part of a lolita look as well. Sheer tights are sometimes thought to be too "sexy" for lolita, and ankle socks aren't always fitting for the style (though short socks with lace at the top edge can make a nice accent when worn over tights).
1-5. Wear some cute shoes!
Mary janes are perfect for this look. Lolita shoes usually feature a closed, rounded toe. Flat shoes, often called tea-parties, are the most popular kind of shoe.
Boots are common too in some gothic or punk lolita styles.
Another classic type of shoe is the rocking-horse shoe, which features a simple style top with a large chunk of wood at the bottom to add height. Rocking-horse shoes often feature a curved front and a part cut-out of the back.
1-6. Accessorize.
A good lolita look can be even better with the right accessories. Depending on what specific look you want to try to build up, you can augment it with some side-items that will make it really pop. Use any of the following, and learn more about crafting specific looks in the next section:
Parasols
cute jewelry
Frilled and themed handbags
Wrist cuffs
1-7. Add hair accessories.
This is to balance out the volume created below the waistline.
Wigs are often used in the fashion but are certainly not required.
Headbands and head bows are very popular, easy, and safe choices to decorate and add volume to a look.
Other options are rectangular headdress, top hats, hair clips, bonnets, sunhats, or tricorn hats.
1-8. Select the right makeup application for you.
Most lolitas don't use a particularly elaborate make-up routine, but generally a smooth, natural foundation look is paired with subtle color choices (that coordinate with the rest of the outfit) for lipstick and eyeshadow.
Make-up isn't always necessary for a lolita look. If you don't want to wear make-up, it's fine to leave it off and let your clothes do the work of the style. In fact, in the style originally, makeup was light, or nonexistent.
1-9. Style your hair.
Your hair is important too! There are many options for you to choose, but, most often, a hairstyle to balance the volume from your skirt looks best. Try teasing your hair or opt for wearing a wig. Here are some cool hairstyles from Lolita influencers.If you have one, make your wig match your specific style. More natural styles will suit Classic or Gothic than a sugary Sweet coord.
2. Picking a Specific Lolita Look
2-1. Try a sweet lolita look.
The most popular style of lolita, it often features light colors and light-hearted motifs. Common motifs are bunnies, kittens, sweets, bears, and clouds.
2-2. Experiment with the gothic lolita.
This type of outfit is the longest-lived out of all the lolita styles. It's pretty modest, characterized by a bell-shaped skirt and puffy sleeves, and a darker make-up and hairstyle. Gothic lolita outfits are generally either black or muted, (and sometimes have a vibrant accent); they feature rich fabrics and detailing.
2-3. Attempt a classic lolita style.
unlike most other lolita styles, this substyle more often utilizes an A-line skirt than a bell-shaped skirt. The color scheme and styling are generally more mature than sweet and more classical than gothic- more muted colors, florals, and wallpaper patterns are quite common, as are classical art themes.
2-4. Try a country-style lolita.
This look displays straw baskets, hats, fruit motifs, and gingham patterns.
2-5. Aiming for a shiro lolita look involves all white attire.
Sometimes Shiro and kuro lolitas match black and white twin-style apparel to go out as a team. Light and dark is a common play in the lolita world.
2-6. Portray a "broken doll" sort of look for a guro lolita.
It’s gruesome yet doll-like. White clothes with blood splatters are the most common choice. How gory you go is up to you, and can range from subtle hints to bandages, a sling, or blood splatters on your clothing. Just be sure to use materials that will not rub off onto your surroundings.
2-7. Wear a nautical style to be a sailor lolita.
Sailor collars, dark blues, and whites are what make this style. Nautical symbols such as ship anchors and wheels make very cute additions. Like most lolita styles the same silhouette is expected, quite often this skirt may be pleated, and the outfit may often include a puffed-short-sleeved blouse with pockets.
2-8. Consider a more masculine lolita look.
While lolita is often thought to be pretty whimsical, some looks incorporate traditionally masculine styles.
Ouji (prince), is a more masculine related style. It does not involve the iconic petticoats and skirts of lolita. Instead, short capri-style pants that cut off at the knee and usually have details on them such as lace-edged cuffs or ruffles are worn.
Kodona, or "boy style," is similar to Ouji, in that pants are exchanged for petticoats, but shorts or pumpkin shorts are worn instead of pants, and mini top hats are more common than top hats in this style. Kodona focuses on cuteness rather than a princely appearance.
Other common additions to your look are suspenders, ties, vests, and long socks. The more extravagant styles can include things like spats, canes, top hats, and other Victorian accessories.
3. Being a Lolita
3-1. Remember anyone can be a lolita.
Lolita fashion is a very accepting subculture, and your looks, race, age, weight, and gender don't matter. Anyone who fits the dressing criteria is welcome.
You can't be "too ugly" for the style. The focus is on appreciating the style of your clothing and what makes you happy.
Experiment some to see what you like, and build your style off of that.
3-2. Learn more about the subculture.
You may enjoy reading the Gothic and Lolita Bible, Fruits Magazine, or following lolita groups on Tumblr or Facebook. There are a variety of magazines and other print publications for lolita and other j-fashion, first published in Japan in the early 2000s, which have more recently been translated into a variety of languages, English included. Featuring photographs, style descriptions, and a variety of lifestyle guides, these books are common and popular among lolitas and those interested in the style.
3-3. Head to an anime or j-fashion convention.
Lolita meet-ups are common in some areas, and it's often a good idea to search for a local community of lolitas.
Likewise, anime conventions and j-fashion conventions are often places to meet fellow lolitas. Many conventions have lolita panels, meets, or swap-meets where you can meet new lolitas, socialize, and sometimes even buy lolita items in person.
3-4. Dress this way for yourself.
The point of fashion, in general, is to have fun with your look. If someone doesn't like your coord, remember that you should listen to their criticism, but you still don't have to apply it. And, of course, if someone doesn't like lolita in general, that's their problem.
4. Learning Lolita Terminology
4-1. Learn some lolita terminology.
It's hard to find clothes when you don't know what any of the words mean! Sometimes the language in this subculture can be difficult to type out or say efficiently so there are a lot of abbreviations. There are also a number of Japanese loanwords and style-specific terms. Here are some of the most common:
= One Piece (dress with sleeves)
= Jumperskirt (a dress with straps, no sleeves)
= Skirt (a heckin' lolita skirt)
= a pieced cotton shirt- not as fancy as a blouse, often knit.
= Over The Top (referring to how a style is executed in a way that is described as extravagant. The person may be wearing a lot of hair clips or have an especially fancy coordinate.)
"Brand" = Refers to popular lolita brands.
= This refers to a reoccurring subject of the dress or coordinate.
Ex: apples, breakfast, or Alice in Wonderland.
= Community (of lolitas or fans of alternate fashion in general)
= Constructive criticism (the only type of criticism that is helpful to you)
= An outfit (short for coordinate)
= This is the Japanese word for cute. Usually, kawaii is used instead of cute when referring to a specific style originating in Japan. Be careful using this word, it can be cringe-inducing. Best to just use it as a search term.
For a more extensive list of common terms, visit
4-2. Know some popular lolita brands:
= Baby the Stars Shine Bright (first official lolita brand)
= Angelic Pretty (most popular lolita brand)
= Innocent world (a classic style lolita brand)
= Alice and the Pirates (BtSSB's sister brand who focuses more on elegant clothing)
(aka ) = Moi-même-Moitié (a gothic lolita brand)
= Metamorphose temps de Fille
4-3. Know what not to say!
there are some lolita-specific words with pretty bad connotations- while it's nice to know if someone's being insulting, it's better to know not to be unkind.
= A name used for someone whose coord is particularly bad or cheap. It comes from the Japanese word "itai" which means "ouch." This term is hurtful, so refrain from using it, even if you see others who do. Provide concrit instead of using this word, please.
= Usually a cis male lolita. This term is inaccurate and outdated because a male lolita is simply a lolita. Try not to use this term.
= A coordinate with excessive and/or cheap lace. Also not nice to use, so please refrain from using it even if you see others doing so. Here's a link to tell if your lace is cheap.
Tips
The term "Lolita" can have many different meanings but was also used for Vladimir Nabokov's novel "Lolita", in which a sexual predator takes advantage of a young girl of the same name. While the term is sometimes used to refer to a "sexually attractive" young girl, this does not apply to lolita fashion at all. Generally speaking, lolita fashion is lowercase unless at the beginning of a sentence, where Lolita the book (or the movie based on the book) is capitalized.[17]
X
Research source
Because of the association, many people have tried to rename the fashion to Alice kei or rorita, but none of these names have stuck.
Don't be afraid to ask a fellow lolita questions! They would be more than happy to help you.
You don't have to have a closet filled with lolita clothes only! You can have normal clothes, sexy clothes, pajamas, etc. that doesn't have to do with anything with lolita styles. Does that mean you're a poser? No. Of course not. You're still that cute lolita.
Warnings
This fashion is about being creative and unique. You should always maintain your individuality while dressing in lolita. You can always spice up your lolita coord to fit your unique style.
Try not to buy lolita items where you can't see reviews on the product (unless they're brand, of course).
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Wear some cute shoes!\\nMary janes are perfect for this look. Lolita shoes usually feature a closed, rounded toe. Flat shoes, often called tea-parties, are the most popular kind of shoe. \\nBoots are common too in some gothic or punk lolita styles.\\nAnother classic type of shoe is the rocking-horse shoe, which features a simple style top with a large chunk of wood at the bottom to add height. Rocking-horse shoes often feature a curved front and a part cut-out of the back.\\n1-6. Accessorize.\\nA good lolita look can be even better with the right accessories. Depending on what specific look you want to try to build up, you can augment it with some side-items that will make it really pop. Use any of the following, and learn more about crafting specific looks in the next section:\\nParasols\\ncute jewelry\\nFrilled and themed handbags\\nWrist cuffs\\n1-7. 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There are many options for you to choose, but, most often, a hairstyle to balance the volume from your skirt looks best. Try teasing your hair or opt for wearing a wig. Here are some cool hairstyles from Lolita influencers.If you have one, make your wig match your specific style. More natural styles will suit Classic or Gothic than a sugary Sweet coord.\\n2. Picking a Specific Lolita Look\\n2-1. Try a sweet lolita look.\\nThe most popular style of lolita, it often features light colors and light-hearted motifs. Common motifs are bunnies, kittens, sweets, bears, and clouds.\\n2-2. Experiment with the gothic lolita.\\nThis type of outfit is the longest-lived out of all the lolita styles. It's pretty modest, characterized by a bell-shaped skirt and puffy sleeves, and a darker make-up and hairstyle. Gothic lolita outfits are generally either black or muted, (and sometimes have a vibrant accent); they feature rich fabrics and detailing.\\n2-3. Attempt a classic lolita style.\\nunlike most other lolita styles, this substyle more often utilizes an A-line skirt than a bell-shaped skirt. The color scheme and styling are generally more mature than sweet and more classical than gothic- more muted colors, florals, and wallpaper patterns are quite common, as are classical art themes.\\n2-4. Try a country-style lolita.\\nThis look displays straw baskets, hats, fruit motifs, and gingham patterns.\\n2-5. Aiming for a shiro lolita look involves all white attire.\\nSometimes Shiro and kuro lolitas match black and white twin-style apparel to go out as a team. Light and dark is a common play in the lolita world.\\n2-6. Portray a \\\"broken doll\\\" sort of look for a guro lolita.\\nIt’s gruesome yet doll-like. White clothes with blood splatters are the most common choice. How gory you go is up to you, and can range from subtle hints to bandages, a sling, or blood splatters on your clothing. Just be sure to use materials that will not rub off onto your surroundings.\\n2-7. Wear a nautical style to be a sailor lolita.\\nSailor collars, dark blues, and whites are what make this style. Nautical symbols such as ship anchors and wheels make very cute additions. Like most lolita styles the same silhouette is expected, quite often this skirt may be pleated, and the outfit may often include a puffed-short-sleeved blouse with pockets.\\n2-8. Consider a more masculine lolita look.\\nWhile lolita is often thought to be pretty whimsical, some looks incorporate traditionally masculine styles. \\nOuji (prince), is a more masculine related style. It does not involve the iconic petticoats and skirts of lolita. Instead, short capri-style pants that cut off at the knee and usually have details on them such as lace-edged cuffs or ruffles are worn.\\nKodona, or \\\"boy style,\\\" is similar to Ouji, in that pants are exchanged for petticoats, but shorts or pumpkin shorts are worn instead of pants, and mini top hats are more common than top hats in this style. Kodona focuses on cuteness rather than a princely appearance.\\nOther common additions to your look are suspenders, ties, vests, and long socks. The more extravagant styles can include things like spats, canes, top hats, and other Victorian accessories.\\n3. Being a Lolita\\n3-1. Remember anyone can be a lolita.\\nLolita fashion is a very accepting subculture, and your looks, race, age, weight, and gender don't matter. Anyone who fits the dressing criteria is welcome.\\nYou can't be \\\"too ugly\\\" for the style. The focus is on appreciating the style of your clothing and what makes you happy.\\nExperiment some to see what you like, and build your style off of that.\\n3-2. Learn more about the subculture.\\nYou may enjoy reading the Gothic and Lolita Bible, Fruits Magazine, or following lolita groups on Tumblr or Facebook. There are a variety of magazines and other print publications for lolita and other j-fashion, first published in Japan in the early 2000s, which have more recently been translated into a variety of languages, English included. Featuring photographs, style descriptions, and a variety of lifestyle guides, these books are common and popular among lolitas and those interested in the style.\\n3-3. Head to an anime or j-fashion convention.\\nLolita meet-ups are common in some areas, and it's often a good idea to search for a local community of lolitas.\\nLikewise, anime conventions and j-fashion conventions are often places to meet fellow lolitas. Many conventions have lolita panels, meets, or swap-meets where you can meet new lolitas, socialize, and sometimes even buy lolita items in person.\\n3-4. Dress this way for yourself.\\nThe point of fashion, in general, is to have fun with your look. If someone doesn't like your coord, remember that you should listen to their criticism, but you still don't have to apply it. And, of course, if someone doesn't like lolita in general, that's their problem.\\n4. Learning Lolita Terminology\\n4-1. Learn some lolita terminology.\\nIt's hard to find clothes when you don't know what any of the words mean! Sometimes the language in this subculture can be difficult to type out or say efficiently so there are a lot of abbreviations. There are also a number of Japanese loanwords and style-specific terms. Here are some of the most common:\\n\\n = One Piece (dress with sleeves)\\n = Jumperskirt (a dress with straps, no sleeves)\\n = Skirt (a heckin' lolita skirt)\\n = a pieced cotton shirt- not as fancy as a blouse, often knit.\\n = Over The Top (referring to how a style is executed in a way that is described as extravagant. The person may be wearing a lot of hair clips or have an especially fancy coordinate.)\\n\\\"Brand\\\" = Refers to popular lolita brands.\\n = This refers to a reoccurring subject of the dress or coordinate.\\nEx: apples, breakfast, or Alice in Wonderland.\\n\\n = Community (of lolitas or fans of alternate fashion in general)\\n = Constructive criticism (the only type of criticism that is helpful to you)\\n = An outfit (short for coordinate)\\n = This is the Japanese word for cute. Usually, kawaii is used instead of cute when referring to a specific style originating in Japan. Be careful using this word, it can be cringe-inducing. Best to just use it as a search term.\\nFor a more extensive list of common terms, visit\\n4-2. Know some popular lolita brands:\\n= Baby the Stars Shine Bright (first official lolita brand)\\n = Angelic Pretty (most popular lolita brand)\\n = Innocent world (a classic style lolita brand)\\n = Alice and the Pirates (BtSSB's sister brand who focuses more on elegant clothing)\\n (aka ) = Moi-même-Moitié (a gothic lolita brand)\\n = Metamorphose temps de Fille\\n4-3. Know what not to say!\\nthere are some lolita-specific words with pretty bad connotations- while it's nice to know if someone's being insulting, it's better to know not to be unkind.\\n\\n = A name used for someone whose coord is particularly bad or cheap. It comes from the Japanese word \\\"itai\\\" which means \\\"ouch.\\\" This term is hurtful, so refrain from using it, even if you see others who do. Provide concrit instead of using this word, please.\\n = Usually a cis male lolita. This term is inaccurate and outdated because a male lolita is simply a lolita. Try not to use this term.\\n = A coordinate with excessive and/or cheap lace. Also not nice to use, so please refrain from using it even if you see others doing so. Here's a link to tell if your lace is cheap.\\nTips\\nThe term \\\"Lolita\\\" can have many different meanings but was also used for Vladimir Nabokov's novel \\\"Lolita\\\", in which a sexual predator takes advantage of a young girl of the same name. While the term is sometimes used to refer to a \\\"sexually attractive\\\" young girl, this does not apply to lolita fashion at all. Generally speaking, lolita fashion is lowercase unless at the beginning of a sentence, where Lolita the book (or the movie based on the book) is capitalized.[17]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Because of the association, many people have tried to rename the fashion to Alice kei or rorita, but none of these names have stuck.\\nDon't be afraid to ask a fellow lolita questions! They would be more than happy to help you.\\nYou don't have to have a closet filled with lolita clothes only! You can have normal clothes, sexy clothes, pajamas, etc. that doesn't have to do with anything with lolita styles. Does that mean you're a poser? No. Of course not. You're still that cute lolita.\\nWarnings\\nThis fashion is about being creative and unique. You should always maintain your individuality while dressing in lolita. You can always spice up your lolita coord to fit your unique style.\\nTry not to buy lolita items where you can't see reviews on the product (unless they're brand, of course).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Lolita is a Japanese street fashion inspired primarily by the clothing and style of the Rococo and Victorian periods. This fashion movement started in Japan in the 1980s and has evolved and spread since. Nowadays, lolita fashion can be seen worldwide. You can learn what clothes options are available to help you craft your own Lolita look, and how to pull it off with elegance and style.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting the Right Clothes\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick clothes carefully.\", \"描述\": \"Lolita styles of clothes can be found all around you, though it may take a little work to find items befitting the style aesthetic. 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Lolita coordinates require careful consideration!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find matching pieces.\", \"描述\": \"Lolita outfits are called coordinates, or coords, because everything in each outfit is carefully matched to the rest of the outfit. It's about looking elegant with a Victorian, Rococo, and/or Edwardian influence. Based on your preference, the look can be either cute or elegant or a mix of both.\\nThe most common type of lolita blouse is a button-down shirt with a peter-pan collar, which is a round type of collar. Remember that lolita is a modest fashion- high collars, sleeves, and layers are necessary to properly pull off the look. Think elegance and modesty.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Achieve the lolita silhouette.\", \"描述\": \"Common lolita skirt or dress shapes are the cupcake, bell, and A-line. Petticoats/panniers are nearly always necessary to achieve the lolita silhouette, while bloomers are also often used to add volume, modesty, and sometimes warmth to the outfit. A lolita skirt should be approximately knee-length, though a bit below or above is acceptable. If a skirt is particularly short (more than 4-5\\\" above the knee) it's often best to consider an underskirt to make it longer. \\nMake sure that your petticoat is the right shape! A square-dancing petticoat will not fit under a bell-shaped skirt correctly; you need a bell-shaped petticoat for a bell-shaped skirt.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get socks or stockings.\", \"描述\": \"These are required. Knee-length socks, over-the-knee socks, stockings, and opaque tights are often a part of a lolita look as well. Sheer tights are sometimes thought to be too \\\"sexy\\\" for lolita, and ankle socks aren't always fitting for the style (though short socks with lace at the top edge can make a nice accent when worn over tights).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wear some cute shoes!\", \"描述\": \"Mary janes are perfect for this look. Lolita shoes usually feature a closed, rounded toe. Flat shoes, often called tea-parties, are the most popular kind of shoe. \\nBoots are common too in some gothic or punk lolita styles.\\nAnother classic type of shoe is the rocking-horse shoe, which features a simple style top with a large chunk of wood at the bottom to add height. Rocking-horse shoes often feature a curved front and a part cut-out of the back.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Accessorize.\", \"描述\": \"A good lolita look can be even better with the right accessories. Depending on what specific look you want to try to build up, you can augment it with some side-items that will make it really pop. Use any of the following, and learn more about crafting specific looks in the next section:\\nParasols\\ncute jewelry\\nFrilled and themed handbags\\nWrist cuffs\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Add hair accessories.\", \"描述\": \"This is to balance out the volume created below the waistline.\\nWigs are often used in the fashion but are certainly not required.\\nHeadbands and head bows are very popular, easy, and safe choices to decorate and add volume to a look.\\nOther options are rectangular headdress, top hats, hair clips, bonnets, sunhats, or tricorn hats.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Select the right makeup application for you.\", \"描述\": \"Most lolitas don't use a particularly elaborate make-up routine, but generally a smooth, natural foundation look is paired with subtle color choices (that coordinate with the rest of the outfit) for lipstick and eyeshadow.\\nMake-up isn't always necessary for a lolita look. If you don't want to wear make-up, it's fine to leave it off and let your clothes do the work of the style. In fact, in the style originally, makeup was light, or nonexistent.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Style your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Your hair is important too! There are many options for you to choose, but, most often, a hairstyle to balance the volume from your skirt looks best. Try teasing your hair or opt for wearing a wig. Here are some cool hairstyles from Lolita influencers.If you have one, make your wig match your specific style. More natural styles will suit Classic or Gothic than a sugary Sweet coord.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Picking a Specific Lolita Look\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Try a sweet lolita look.\", \"描述\": \"The most popular style of lolita, it often features light colors and light-hearted motifs. Common motifs are bunnies, kittens, sweets, bears, and clouds.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Experiment with the gothic lolita.\", \"描述\": \"This type of outfit is the longest-lived out of all the lolita styles. It's pretty modest, characterized by a bell-shaped skirt and puffy sleeves, and a darker make-up and hairstyle. Gothic lolita outfits are generally either black or muted, (and sometimes have a vibrant accent); they feature rich fabrics and detailing.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Attempt a classic lolita style.\", \"描述\": \"unlike most other lolita styles, this substyle more often utilizes an A-line skirt than a bell-shaped skirt. The color scheme and styling are generally more mature than sweet and more classical than gothic- more muted colors, florals, and wallpaper patterns are quite common, as are classical art themes.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try a country-style lolita.\", \"描述\": \"This look displays straw baskets, hats, fruit motifs, and gingham patterns.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Aiming for a shiro lolita look involves all white attire.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes Shiro and kuro lolitas match black and white twin-style apparel to go out as a team. Light and dark is a common play in the lolita world.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Portray a \\\"broken doll\\\" sort of look for a guro lolita.\", \"描述\": \"It’s gruesome yet doll-like. White clothes with blood splatters are the most common choice. How gory you go is up to you, and can range from subtle hints to bandages, a sling, or blood splatters on your clothing. Just be sure to use materials that will not rub off onto your surroundings.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Wear a nautical style to be a sailor lolita.\", \"描述\": \"Sailor collars, dark blues, and whites are what make this style. Nautical symbols such as ship anchors and wheels make very cute additions. Like most lolita styles the same silhouette is expected, quite often this skirt may be pleated, and the outfit may often include a puffed-short-sleeved blouse with pockets.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Consider a more masculine lolita look.\", \"描述\": \"While lolita is often thought to be pretty whimsical, some looks incorporate traditionally masculine styles. \\nOuji (prince), is a more masculine related style. It does not involve the iconic petticoats and skirts of lolita. Instead, short capri-style pants that cut off at the knee and usually have details on them such as lace-edged cuffs or ruffles are worn.\\nKodona, or \\\"boy style,\\\" is similar to Ouji, in that pants are exchanged for petticoats, but shorts or pumpkin shorts are worn instead of pants, and mini top hats are more common than top hats in this style. Kodona focuses on cuteness rather than a princely appearance.\\nOther common additions to your look are suspenders, ties, vests, and long socks. The more extravagant styles can include things like spats, canes, top hats, and other Victorian accessories.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being a Lolita\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remember anyone can be a lolita.\", \"描述\": \"Lolita fashion is a very accepting subculture, and your looks, race, age, weight, and gender don't matter. Anyone who fits the dressing criteria is welcome.\\nYou can't be \\\"too ugly\\\" for the style. The focus is on appreciating the style of your clothing and what makes you happy.\\nExperiment some to see what you like, and build your style off of that.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn more about the subculture.\", \"描述\": \"You may enjoy reading the Gothic and Lolita Bible, Fruits Magazine, or following lolita groups on Tumblr or Facebook. There are a variety of magazines and other print publications for lolita and other j-fashion, first published in Japan in the early 2000s, which have more recently been translated into a variety of languages, English included. Featuring photographs, style descriptions, and a variety of lifestyle guides, these books are common and popular among lolitas and those interested in the style.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Head to an anime or j-fashion convention.\", \"描述\": \"Lolita meet-ups are common in some areas, and it's often a good idea to search for a local community of lolitas.\\nLikewise, anime conventions and j-fashion conventions are often places to meet fellow lolitas. Many conventions have lolita panels, meets, or swap-meets where you can meet new lolitas, socialize, and sometimes even buy lolita items in person.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dress this way for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"The point of fashion, in general, is to have fun with your look. If someone doesn't like your coord, remember that you should listen to their criticism, but you still don't have to apply it. And, of course, if someone doesn't like lolita in general, that's their problem.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learning Lolita Terminology\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn some lolita terminology.\", \"描述\": \"It's hard to find clothes when you don't know what any of the words mean! Sometimes the language in this subculture can be difficult to type out or say efficiently so there are a lot of abbreviations. There are also a number of Japanese loanwords and style-specific terms. Here are some of the most common:\\n\\n = One Piece (dress with sleeves)\\n = Jumperskirt (a dress with straps, no sleeves)\\n = Skirt (a heckin' lolita skirt)\\n = a pieced cotton shirt- not as fancy as a blouse, often knit.\\n = Over The Top (referring to how a style is executed in a way that is described as extravagant. The person may be wearing a lot of hair clips or have an especially fancy coordinate.)\\n\\\"Brand\\\" = Refers to popular lolita brands.\\n = This refers to a reoccurring subject of the dress or coordinate.\\nEx: apples, breakfast, or Alice in Wonderland.\\n\\n = Community (of lolitas or fans of alternate fashion in general)\\n = Constructive criticism (the only type of criticism that is helpful to you)\\n = An outfit (short for coordinate)\\n = This is the Japanese word for cute. Usually, kawaii is used instead of cute when referring to a specific style originating in Japan. Be careful using this word, it can be cringe-inducing. Best to just use it as a search term.\\nFor a more extensive list of common terms, visit\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know some popular lolita brands:\", \"描述\": \"= Baby the Stars Shine Bright (first official lolita brand)\\n = Angelic Pretty (most popular lolita brand)\\n = Innocent world (a classic style lolita brand)\\n = Alice and the Pirates (BtSSB's sister brand who focuses more on elegant clothing)\\n (aka ) = Moi-même-Moitié (a gothic lolita brand)\\n = Metamorphose temps de Fille\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know what not to say!\", \"描述\": \"there are some lolita-specific words with pretty bad connotations- while it's nice to know if someone's being insulting, it's better to know not to be unkind.\\n\\n = A name used for someone whose coord is particularly bad or cheap. It comes from the Japanese word \\\"itai\\\" which means \\\"ouch.\\\" This term is hurtful, so refrain from using it, even if you see others who do. Provide concrit instead of using this word, please.\\n = Usually a cis male lolita. This term is inaccurate and outdated because a male lolita is simply a lolita. Try not to use this term.\\n = A coordinate with excessive and/or cheap lace. Also not nice to use, so please refrain from using it even if you see others doing so. Here's a link to tell if your lace is cheap.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"The term \\\"Lolita\\\" can have many different meanings but was also used for Vladimir Nabokov's novel \\\"Lolita\\\", in which a sexual predator takes advantage of a young girl of the same name. While the term is sometimes used to refer to a \\\"sexually attractive\\\" young girl, this does not apply to lolita fashion at all. Generally speaking, lolita fashion is lowercase unless at the beginning of a sentence, where Lolita the book (or the movie based on the book) is capitalized.[17]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Because of the association, many people have tried to rename the fashion to Alice kei or rorita, but none of these names have stuck.\\n\", \"Don't be afraid to ask a fellow lolita questions! They would be more than happy to help you.\\n\", \"You don't have to have a closet filled with lolita clothes only! You can have normal clothes, sexy clothes, pajamas, etc. that doesn't have to do with anything with lolita styles. Does that mean you're a poser? No. Of course not. You're still that cute lolita.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"This fashion is about being creative and unique. You should always maintain your individuality while dressing in lolita. 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1. Being Happy as a Loner
1-1. Think about why you enjoy being alone.
If you start feeling as though maybe you should just try harder to be more social or worried that maybe there is something wrong with you, just remind yourself of the reasons that you enjoy being alone. If you need to you can make a list of the reasons that spending time alone makes you happy. You can refer back to this list whenever you start feeling insecure.
For example, for many “loners,” spending time alone allows them to “recharge their batteries” by engaging in some creative activity or simply relaxing with a good book.
1-2. Value your strengths.
Some people may see extroversion as the ideal personality. However, more and more research is pointing out the value of introversion. For example, some research is finding that introverts can be great leaders because they tend to be better at letting those below them have a bit more room to try out new ideas, and are better at listening to others.
An extrovert is a person who relies on social interaction and novel experience for their energy, while an introvert is someone who is more inward focused. An introvert needs time alone and often feels drained by intense social interaction.
There is also a strong link between being introverted and being creative. Remember that many famous artists, writers, and scientists are believed to be loners, such as J.K. Rowling, Emily Dickinson, and Isaac Newton.
1-3. Accept yourself for who you are.
One key thing you must do in order to become happy about being a loner is accept yourself as you are. You can certainly do things to become more social if you want to. However, if you are truly happiest when you are alone, why try to do something different?
When you find yourself being self-critical, try to change your way of thinking from negative to positive. For example, if you find yourself thinking, “people think I'm such a loser because I don't like to go to parties” remind yourself of why going to parties is difficult for you. For example, “I know people don't understand how exhausting a big party is for me, but staying at home makes me feel happy so I shouldn't worry about what they think.”
1-4. Learn what you can from critics, and ignore the rest.
Dealing with people who criticize you can be tough. Especially if the person criticizing your habits is someone you really care about. At some point, someone may give you a hard time about preferring to spend time alone. Take time to determine whether or not there is something you can learn from them, or whether they simply can't understand why you enjoy being alone because they are not like you.
They may tell you that you're not trying hard enough to be social or that there is something wrong with you. If you think the person criticizing you is really trying to help then hear them out.
If the person criticizing you is someone you care about, then you might want to try and explain that this is who you are and that you need time by yourself to recharge. For example, you might say something like, "Going to parties and having a lot of friends is your thing. I'm happy the way I am and I enjoy my life."
If someone you don't know well or someone who's opinion you don't value, then just brush off the criticism. Remember that what they say is a reflection of their own thoughts and beliefs, not an indication of what is right and what is wrong.
1-5. Nurture the relationships that are valuable to you.
Although you may be a loner, you may also have one or two good friends or family members that you rely on for social support. Spend time nurturing these relationships so that you will have the social support you need when things get tough.
If you don't have any friends and don't feel that you need any, then don't worry about it. However, try to have at least one person (such as a family member) that you feel like you can rely on when/if a tough time arises.
2. Finding and Spending Time Alone
2-1. Disconnect from social media.
If you spend lots of time looking at various social media outlets then try to limit yourself. There is plenty of evidence that social media causes us to compare our lives to those we see on social media, which often leaves us feeling somehow inadequate.
When you do look at social media, remember that people are only posting the best moments from their day, and they may even be exaggerating in their posts.
2-2. Make a space that is just for you.
If you live with other people you probably have a bedroom that is just for you. You can make this your own space and fill it with things that make you feel safe and happy. If you have to share your room with siblings or roommates, then finding a solitary place can be a bit tricky. In this case, maybe there is a closet or a small space where nobody goes that you can use to get some time alone.
You can also find a place outside the home that will provide you with solitude. There is no guarantee that you won't encounter another person, but a park often offers a good place to go where no one will bother you.
If you have your own room where you can be alone, close your door when you need alone time. If that doesn't deter people then place a sign on your door that says you are not to be disturbed.
2-3. Get up early or go to bed later.
If you can't seem to find some quiet alone time in your home and you can't find a nearby place outside the home, try getting up an hour or two earlier than everyone else. If that isn't an option, try going to bed a bit later. Hopefully this will give you at least a few minutes to enjoy being alone without being bothered by parents, siblings, and/or roommates.
Be careful with this step though. Getting up earlier or going to bed later may mean getting fewer hours of sleep. Sleep is important for staying physically and emotionally healthy so don't give up too many hours in the name of solitude.
Use this time to do whatever makes you happy. For example, do something creative, meditate, or get some work done that you aren't able to do when everyone is up and about.
3. Going Out Alone
3-1. Go do something you enjoy.
As a loner, it can sometimes be hard to get out of the house as you may wonder what you can do by yourself without feeling weird. However, if you think about it you will find that there are lots of things you can go do alone to have some fun.
Going to the movies is a great thing to do alone. Find a movie you've been wanting to see, pick up some popcorn, and enjoy the film. Going to the movies with people is all well and good, but when you think about it, it seems a bit silly since you don't talk to each other the whole time the movie is showing anyways.
Try out different coffee shops. Coffee shops have become very popular in the past few years, so there are more and more popping up every day. Take a book or, if you like drawing, a sketchpad. Order a nice coffee or tea, and just enjoy a few hours out of the house.
Try out a restaurant you've been interested in. If there is a restaurant you're interested in, there is no reason you should feel embarrassed to go alone. If you're worried that people will stare at you, try to go during an off-peak time.
Go for a walk or a run. Another great thing to do alone is just to go out and enjoy nature. Go for a walk or jog in a nearby park and you'll be doing something good for you and your health.
3-2. Carry a book or wear headphones.
One part of going out in public that can make a loner feel nervous is the possibility that someone will try to chat casually with you. If you want to avoid this, put on a pair of headphones or have a book to read while you are waiting around or riding public transport. This will discourage people from engaging in idle chat.
This doesn't guarantee that no one will talk to you. Some especially outgoing people are hard to deter. If someone talks to you and you aren't interested in the conversation, keep your answers short and don't ask questions that will encourage the conversation.
3-3. Enjoy the moment.
If you are not used to going out by yourself to do things, you might feel as though everyone is staring at you, which will distract you from enjoying what you are doing. Try to remember that it is unlikely that anyone is truly interested in what you are doing or why you are doing it. As you spend more and more time outside the house by yourself, you'll come to realize that most people are just trying to get on with their day. Although it will take some practice, when you go out to do something, focus on how you're feeling about what you're doing instead of on what you think everyone around you is feeling.
If you aren't able to focus on yourself you may find the experience of going out alone just as draining as going with other people.
3-4. Try to chat with someone you don't know every once in awhile.
Depending on your work or school setting it may be very easy for you to go days or weeks without talking to anyone. For example, if you work from home you may not have to talk to anyone at all. While this may be comfortable for you, there is evidence that socializing is good for everyone (even loners) from time to time.
It doesn't have to be a huge conversation. You can simply chat with someone in your class or at a coffee shop for a few minutes. For example, you can bring up how tough that last test was with a classmate, or you can ask the barista about her favorite beverage to make.
Tips
Remember that the only problem with being a loner occurs when you aren't OK with it. If you feel comfortable in your own skin and are happy with who you are, then there is no reason to believe that there is something wrong with you.[9]
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Warnings
Find your own way to be social, whatever that may be. There is a big difference between being a loner and being lonely, but not having a social support system to rely on can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. Make sure that you have someone you can rely on in times of need.[10]
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Although it will take some practice, when you go out to do something, focus on how you're feeling about what you're doing instead of on what you think everyone around you is feeling.\\nIf you aren't able to focus on yourself you may find the experience of going out alone just as draining as going with other people.\\n3-4. Try to chat with someone you don't know every once in awhile.\\nDepending on your work or school setting it may be very easy for you to go days or weeks without talking to anyone. For example, if you work from home you may not have to talk to anyone at all. While this may be comfortable for you, there is evidence that socializing is good for everyone (even loners) from time to time.\\nIt doesn't have to be a huge conversation. You can simply chat with someone in your class or at a coffee shop for a few minutes. For example, you can bring up how tough that last test was with a classmate, or you can ask the barista about her favorite beverage to make.\\nTips\\nRemember that the only problem with being a loner occurs when you aren't OK with it. If you feel comfortable in your own skin and are happy with who you are, then there is no reason to believe that there is something wrong with you.[9]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWarnings\\nFind your own way to be social, whatever that may be. There is a big difference between being a loner and being lonely, but not having a social support system to rely on can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. Make sure that you have someone you can rely on in times of need.[10]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It is estimated that up to half the population is made up of introverted people (sometimes referred to as “loners”). Despite this statistic, society seems to make those of us that would prefer to spend time alone feel as though we are somehow wrong. Fortunately, the truth of that matter is that many people enjoy being loners, and would rather curl up on the couch to watch a movie than go out to a huge party. If you are a loner, take steps to accept this about yourself, find ways to spend time alone, and learn to enjoy going out to do things alone. You will realize that you are okay just the way you are and that there are many others out there that are just the same.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Happy as a Loner\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think about why you enjoy being alone.\", \"描述\": \"If you start feeling as though maybe you should just try harder to be more social or worried that maybe there is something wrong with you, just remind yourself of the reasons that you enjoy being alone. If you need to you can make a list of the reasons that spending time alone makes you happy. You can refer back to this list whenever you start feeling insecure.\\nFor example, for many “loners,” spending time alone allows them to “recharge their batteries” by engaging in some creative activity or simply relaxing with a good book.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Value your strengths.\", \"描述\": \"Some people may see extroversion as the ideal personality. However, more and more research is pointing out the value of introversion. For example, some research is finding that introverts can be great leaders because they tend to be better at letting those below them have a bit more room to try out new ideas, and are better at listening to others.\\nAn extrovert is a person who relies on social interaction and novel experience for their energy, while an introvert is someone who is more inward focused. An introvert needs time alone and often feels drained by intense social interaction.\\nThere is also a strong link between being introverted and being creative. 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For example, “I know people don't understand how exhausting a big party is for me, but staying at home makes me feel happy so I shouldn't worry about what they think.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn what you can from critics, and ignore the rest.\", \"描述\": \"Dealing with people who criticize you can be tough. Especially if the person criticizing your habits is someone you really care about. At some point, someone may give you a hard time about preferring to spend time alone. Take time to determine whether or not there is something you can learn from them, or whether they simply can't understand why you enjoy being alone because they are not like you.\\nThey may tell you that you're not trying hard enough to be social or that there is something wrong with you. If you think the person criticizing you is really trying to help then hear them out.\\nIf the person criticizing you is someone you care about, then you might want to try and explain that this is who you are and that you need time by yourself to recharge. For example, you might say something like, \\\"Going to parties and having a lot of friends is your thing. I'm happy the way I am and I enjoy my life.\\\"\\nIf someone you don't know well or someone who's opinion you don't value, then just brush off the criticism. Remember that what they say is a reflection of their own thoughts and beliefs, not an indication of what is right and what is wrong.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Nurture the relationships that are valuable to you.\", \"描述\": \"Although you may be a loner, you may also have one or two good friends or family members that you rely on for social support. Spend time nurturing these relationships so that you will have the social support you need when things get tough.\\nIf you don't have any friends and don't feel that you need any, then don't worry about it. However, try to have at least one person (such as a family member) that you feel like you can rely on when/if a tough time arises.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Finding and Spending Time Alone\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Disconnect from social media.\", \"描述\": \"If you spend lots of time looking at various social media outlets then try to limit yourself. There is plenty of evidence that social media causes us to compare our lives to those we see on social media, which often leaves us feeling somehow inadequate.\\nWhen you do look at social media, remember that people are only posting the best moments from their day, and they may even be exaggerating in their posts.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a space that is just for you.\", \"描述\": \"If you live with other people you probably have a bedroom that is just for you. You can make this your own space and fill it with things that make you feel safe and happy. If you have to share your room with siblings or roommates, then finding a solitary place can be a bit tricky. In this case, maybe there is a closet or a small space where nobody goes that you can use to get some time alone.\\nYou can also find a place outside the home that will provide you with solitude. There is no guarantee that you won't encounter another person, but a park often offers a good place to go where no one will bother you.\\nIf you have your own room where you can be alone, close your door when you need alone time. If that doesn't deter people then place a sign on your door that says you are not to be disturbed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get up early or go to bed later.\", \"描述\": \"If you can't seem to find some quiet alone time in your home and you can't find a nearby place outside the home, try getting up an hour or two earlier than everyone else. If that isn't an option, try going to bed a bit later. Hopefully this will give you at least a few minutes to enjoy being alone without being bothered by parents, siblings, and/or roommates.\\nBe careful with this step though. Getting up earlier or going to bed later may mean getting fewer hours of sleep. Sleep is important for staying physically and emotionally healthy so don't give up too many hours in the name of solitude.\\nUse this time to do whatever makes you happy. For example, do something creative, meditate, or get some work done that you aren't able to do when everyone is up and about.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Going Out Alone\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go do something you enjoy.\", \"描述\": \"As a loner, it can sometimes be hard to get out of the house as you may wonder what you can do by yourself without feeling weird. However, if you think about it you will find that there are lots of things you can go do alone to have some fun.\\nGoing to the movies is a great thing to do alone. Find a movie you've been wanting to see, pick up some popcorn, and enjoy the film. Going to the movies with people is all well and good, but when you think about it, it seems a bit silly since you don't talk to each other the whole time the movie is showing anyways.\\nTry out different coffee shops. Coffee shops have become very popular in the past few years, so there are more and more popping up every day. Take a book or, if you like drawing, a sketchpad. Order a nice coffee or tea, and just enjoy a few hours out of the house.\\nTry out a restaurant you've been interested in. If there is a restaurant you're interested in, there is no reason you should feel embarrassed to go alone. If you're worried that people will stare at you, try to go during an off-peak time.\\nGo for a walk or a run. Another great thing to do alone is just to go out and enjoy nature. 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1. Dealing with Social Interactions as a Loner
1-1. Keep conversations brief.
If someone begins to talk to you, try to keep your answers short and to the point. Providing very little information or encouragement will let them know that you are not interested in a long chat. However, do listen carefully in case they say something of importance to you.
Avoiding eye contact will make your classmates less likely to approach you for conversation. Instead of looking directly at one person, try to skim the room with your eyes.
Being a loner doesn’t mean that you can’t provide a reaction to what someone says to you. If a person is talking and you feel like offering your sympathy, do so. In fact, introverts are often known for their emotional awareness.
Noncommittal responses such as, “Uh-huh,” and, “Mm-hm,” often signal to other people that you are not engaged in the conversation. This will usually lead to a talk being cut short.
1-2. Head directly to the bus after school.
Instead of hanging around in the hallways or outside of the school to socialize, make your way to your ride home. The sooner that you get home, the sooner you can recharge in peace and privacy. If you take this same action every day it will become a routine and your classmates will know what to expect.
You may want to time your arrival at the bus carefully, otherwise you could end up sitting and waiting for it to fill up.
1-3. Use technology as a distraction.
Cell phones are generally not allowed in the classroom. However, you may be able to bring your headphones and wear them in the cafeteria and other public spaces. You can also use your phone in permitted areas. Getting on a library computer also sends a message that you want your space.
Just make sure that you are still aware of your surroundings as you immerse yourself in technology. For example, watch where you are walking as you make your way around campus.
1-4. Stay away from crowded areas.
Find a place to sit away from others in the cafeteria. Try to walk on the edges of the hallway away from where people are congregating. Don’t hang around in the classroom immediately after class. The fewer people you encounter, the fewer random conversations and forced social interactions you will have.
It is a common misconception that all loners are shy. Many loners are perfectly fine in social situations, they just prefer to avoid them if possible. Loners can often be classified as introverts at heart.
1-5. Find a private space of your own.
Get to know your school environment and look for a few places that you can escape to during the day for some privacy and solitude. This is especially important to do if you find your classroom time to be mentally draining. Escaping in this way shows that you are a loner by choice, not by circumstance.
If one of your fellow students questions you about your habit of disappearing, simply tell them that sometimes you prefer to be alone.
Look for places currently not in use, such as the school theater or empty classrooms.
1-6. Avoid major social events.
Instead of attending the seasonal dance with a large group, go by yourself or not at all. You could always spend that time pursuing a hobby that you enjoy, such as painting. If you attend a function requiring tickets, purchase the seats around you to ensure your solitude.
If someone makes a big deal about you not going to a particular event, just remind yourself that your peers are busy with their own lives, so everything will blow over rather quickly.
1-7. Locate one or two trusted confidantes.
This is not a necessity, as it may make you feel like less of a ‘true’ loner. However, everyone needs help on occasion and having a few classmates you can turn to for assistance is never a bad idea. Just remember to return any favors as soon as possible so that you don’t feel indebted to anyone.
Just because you are a loner in high school doesn’t mean that you can’t have friends or a social life outside of that space either. If you have a best friend from childhood, who goes to a different school, look to that person for support.
2. Developing Your Own Personality as a Loner
2-1. Stick with your own fashion style.
Don’t feel the need to follow all of the latest trends. Embrace your own unique appearance and work to refine it over time. Wear clothes that suit your personality and mood. Being comfortable in your own skin will give you more confidence in all of your choices, including being a loner.
Most people are aware of the stereotype of the trench coat wearing, troubled loner teen. If you choose to dress this way do so because you enjoy it, not to conform to some image.
2-2. Stay polite.
No matter how frustrated you become with other people attempting to reach out to you, avoid the desire to head into rude territory. Stay true to your morals and give them minimal time, but not an abrupt brush-off. Most people are extroverts and have no clue how to interpret your loner signals.
Some polite ways to exit a conversation include saying, “Okay, well, I have to make my next class,” or, “I’ve got to go now or I’ll be late.”
2-3. Develop some individual hobbies.
Being a loner doesn’t mean you can’t be interesting. In fact, many loners become recognized artists due to their abilities to channel their inner energies outward. Investigate learning a musical instrument on your own. Or, try your hand at another artistic pursuit, such as writing or painting.
One of the reasons that Bruce Springsteen started playing music was to find an outlet for his feelings as a high school loner. Just because you are a loner doesn’t mean you are alone in your experiences.
It is also possible that you gravitate toward being a loner because you hold potential friends to higher creative standards as a result of your own artistic impulses. Being aware of this can help you to reassess your expectations of others, if you desire.
2-4. Be confident.
Try your best to not care about the opinions of others, including those of your peers. Focus on your own inner strength and take actions that make you feel comfortable, not the ones that will make you ‘fit in.’ Part of being a confident person is not accepting bullying. Don’t allow anyone to victimize you for your loner status.
2-5. Choose a few loner idols or mentors.
Search online for the stories of other loners. You will find that many celebrities self-identify as former, or current, loners. Your research will show you that, for most loners, there is nothing unhealthy or unnatural about this affinity. You simply crave privacy.
3. Being Aware of Potential Problems as a Loner
3-1. Be a survivor.
Be aware that your loner status may make you a target for ridicule in your present, or future, life. So, it is important to be flexible and to adapt to your situation the best that you can. Perhaps you need to wait until the end of the day to get alone time. If that is the case, then so be it. Perhaps you have to discuss your work in a group project setting. If that is the case, then so be it.
3-2. Change your behaviors if you are lonely.
Practice introspection on a daily basis and ask yourself if being a loner is making you happy. If the answer is yes, then continue as is. If the answer is no, then start to open yourself up a bit more to social experiences while in high school. Pay attention to any feelings of loneliness, in particular. Your decision to be a loner can be reversed, if you choose to do so.
Loneliness actually leads to the build-up of stress within your body. Over time it can cause a host of health problems if it is not addressed.
3-3. Watch out for the stereotypes.
Humans usually reach out for social interaction, so, as a loner, you may be the focus of other’s curiosity or fear. In particular, as a result of some of the violent acts committed by self-described loners in school environments, some of your classmates may attach negative stereotypes to your choice. Try to alleviate their concerns by being polite and engaged, just busy with other concerns.
3-4. Don’t give in to peer pressure.
Some of your peers may try to ply you with alcohol or drugs in order to get you back into the social group. Be prepared for this and feel confident in your refusal. Others may assume that you are interested in these illicit activities simply because you are a loner. Brush these advances off as well.
If you are offered drugs or alcohol, you might simply say, “Sorry, I’m not into that.”
3-5. Talk to the school counselor.
If you feel as if your emotions are bottled up as a result of your loner status, reach out to professionals at your school. They will keep these conversations confidential and you can unload what is on your mind. Be aware that you can also visit with your counselor to discuss how happy you are as a loner.
If you are satisfied with your life as a loner, your counselor may be able to offer suggestions regarding future career options that will suit your personality. Many loners find satisfying work as writers or completing other solitary pursuits.
3-6. Talk to your parents.
Your parents may be concerned about your life as a loner, especially if they are both extroverts. Spend time talking with them and let them know that you are okay and happy. If you are unhappy, you can also reach out to your parents for assistance and ask for their advice.
3-7. Talk to a medical professional.
If you feel like hurting yourself or others, you should talk to your parents or school professionals and get them to make you a counseling appointment outside of the school environment. It is important that you don’t keep these feelings bottled up. There are ways to improve your situation, but you have to go against your natural instincts and reach out to others.
Tips
You can find many loner success stories online if you ever need an emotional boost. Just remember that high school is only a temporary situation. In the future, your loner characteristics could be quite in demand.
Warnings
Being a loner doesn’t mean that you should perform poorly at school. Make sure that you raise your hand and keep an eye on your class participation scores. Approach group work with a good attitude when it is assigned.
If you ever feel violent or overly negative toward yourself or others, do not hesitate to reach out for professional medical assistance.
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Head directly to the bus after school.\\nInstead of hanging around in the hallways or outside of the school to socialize, make your way to your ride home. The sooner that you get home, the sooner you can recharge in peace and privacy. If you take this same action every day it will become a routine and your classmates will know what to expect.\\nYou may want to time your arrival at the bus carefully, otherwise you could end up sitting and waiting for it to fill up.\\n1-3. Use technology as a distraction.\\nCell phones are generally not allowed in the classroom. However, you may be able to bring your headphones and wear them in the cafeteria and other public spaces. You can also use your phone in permitted areas. Getting on a library computer also sends a message that you want your space.\\nJust make sure that you are still aware of your surroundings as you immerse yourself in technology. For example, watch where you are walking as you make your way around campus.\\n1-4. Stay away from crowded areas.\\nFind a place to sit away from others in the cafeteria. Try to walk on the edges of the hallway away from where people are congregating. Don’t hang around in the classroom immediately after class. The fewer people you encounter, the fewer random conversations and forced social interactions you will have.\\nIt is a common misconception that all loners are shy. Many loners are perfectly fine in social situations, they just prefer to avoid them if possible. Loners can often be classified as introverts at heart.\\n1-5. Find a private space of your own.\\nGet to know your school environment and look for a few places that you can escape to during the day for some privacy and solitude. This is especially important to do if you find your classroom time to be mentally draining. 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If you choose to dress this way do so because you enjoy it, not to conform to some image.\\n2-2. Stay polite.\\nNo matter how frustrated you become with other people attempting to reach out to you, avoid the desire to head into rude territory. Stay true to your morals and give them minimal time, but not an abrupt brush-off. Most people are extroverts and have no clue how to interpret your loner signals.\\nSome polite ways to exit a conversation include saying, “Okay, well, I have to make my next class,” or, “I’ve got to go now or I’ll be late.”\\n2-3. Develop some individual hobbies.\\nBeing a loner doesn’t mean you can’t be interesting. In fact, many loners become recognized artists due to their abilities to channel their inner energies outward. Investigate learning a musical instrument on your own. 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Pay attention to any feelings of loneliness, in particular. Your decision to be a loner can be reversed, if you choose to do so.\\nLoneliness actually leads to the build-up of stress within your body. Over time it can cause a host of health problems if it is not addressed.\\n3-3. Watch out for the stereotypes.\\nHumans usually reach out for social interaction, so, as a loner, you may be the focus of other’s curiosity or fear. In particular, as a result of some of the violent acts committed by self-described loners in school environments, some of your classmates may attach negative stereotypes to your choice. Try to alleviate their concerns by being polite and engaged, just busy with other concerns.\\n3-4. Don’t give in to peer pressure.\\nSome of your peers may try to ply you with alcohol or drugs in order to get you back into the social group. Be prepared for this and feel confident in your refusal. 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Spend time talking with them and let them know that you are okay and happy. If you are unhappy, you can also reach out to your parents for assistance and ask for their advice.\\n3-7. Talk to a medical professional.\\nIf you feel like hurting yourself or others, you should talk to your parents or school professionals and get them to make you a counseling appointment outside of the school environment. It is important that you don’t keep these feelings bottled up. There are ways to improve your situation, but you have to go against your natural instincts and reach out to others.\\nTips\\nYou can find many loner success stories online if you ever need an emotional boost. Just remember that high school is only a temporary situation. In the future, your loner characteristics could be quite in demand.\\nWarnings\\nBeing a loner doesn’t mean that you should perform poorly at school. Make sure that you raise your hand and keep an eye on your class participation scores. 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Providing very little information or encouragement will let them know that you are not interested in a long chat. However, do listen carefully in case they say something of importance to you.\\nAvoiding eye contact will make your classmates less likely to approach you for conversation. Instead of looking directly at one person, try to skim the room with your eyes.\\nBeing a loner doesn’t mean that you can’t provide a reaction to what someone says to you. If a person is talking and you feel like offering your sympathy, do so. In fact, introverts are often known for their emotional awareness.\\nNoncommittal responses such as, “Uh-huh,” and, “Mm-hm,” often signal to other people that you are not engaged in the conversation. This will usually lead to a talk being cut short.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Head directly to the bus after school.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of hanging around in the hallways or outside of the school to socialize, make your way to your ride home. The sooner that you get home, the sooner you can recharge in peace and privacy. If you take this same action every day it will become a routine and your classmates will know what to expect.\\nYou may want to time your arrival at the bus carefully, otherwise you could end up sitting and waiting for it to fill up.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use technology as a distraction.\", \"描述\": \"Cell phones are generally not allowed in the classroom. However, you may be able to bring your headphones and wear them in the cafeteria and other public spaces. You can also use your phone in permitted areas. Getting on a library computer also sends a message that you want your space.\\nJust make sure that you are still aware of your surroundings as you immerse yourself in technology. For example, watch where you are walking as you make your way around campus.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay away from crowded areas.\", \"描述\": \"Find a place to sit away from others in the cafeteria. Try to walk on the edges of the hallway away from where people are congregating. Don’t hang around in the classroom immediately after class. The fewer people you encounter, the fewer random conversations and forced social interactions you will have.\\nIt is a common misconception that all loners are shy. Many loners are perfectly fine in social situations, they just prefer to avoid them if possible. Loners can often be classified as introverts at heart.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find a private space of your own.\", \"描述\": \"Get to know your school environment and look for a few places that you can escape to during the day for some privacy and solitude. This is especially important to do if you find your classroom time to be mentally draining. Escaping in this way shows that you are a loner by choice, not by circumstance.\\nIf one of your fellow students questions you about your habit of disappearing, simply tell them that sometimes you prefer to be alone.\\nLook for places currently not in use, such as the school theater or empty classrooms.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid major social events.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of attending the seasonal dance with a large group, go by yourself or not at all. You could always spend that time pursuing a hobby that you enjoy, such as painting. If you attend a function requiring tickets, purchase the seats around you to ensure your solitude.\\nIf someone makes a big deal about you not going to a particular event, just remind yourself that your peers are busy with their own lives, so everything will blow over rather quickly.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Locate one or two trusted confidantes.\", \"描述\": \"This is not a necessity, as it may make you feel like less of a ‘true’ loner. However, everyone needs help on occasion and having a few classmates you can turn to for assistance is never a bad idea. Just remember to return any favors as soon as possible so that you don’t feel indebted to anyone.\\nJust because you are a loner in high school doesn’t mean that you can’t have friends or a social life outside of that space either. If you have a best friend from childhood, who goes to a different school, look to that person for support.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Own Personality as a Loner\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stick with your own fashion style.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t feel the need to follow all of the latest trends. Embrace your own unique appearance and work to refine it over time. Wear clothes that suit your personality and mood. Being comfortable in your own skin will give you more confidence in all of your choices, including being a loner.\\nMost people are aware of the stereotype of the trench coat wearing, troubled loner teen. If you choose to dress this way do so because you enjoy it, not to conform to some image.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay polite.\", \"描述\": \"No matter how frustrated you become with other people attempting to reach out to you, avoid the desire to head into rude territory. Stay true to your morals and give them minimal time, but not an abrupt brush-off. Most people are extroverts and have no clue how to interpret your loner signals.\\nSome polite ways to exit a conversation include saying, “Okay, well, I have to make my next class,” or, “I’ve got to go now or I’ll be late.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Develop some individual hobbies.\", \"描述\": \"Being a loner doesn’t mean you can’t be interesting. In fact, many loners become recognized artists due to their abilities to channel their inner energies outward. Investigate learning a musical instrument on your own. Or, try your hand at another artistic pursuit, such as writing or painting.\\nOne of the reasons that Bruce Springsteen started playing music was to find an outlet for his feelings as a high school loner. Just because you are a loner doesn’t mean you are alone in your experiences.\\nIt is also possible that you gravitate toward being a loner because you hold potential friends to higher creative standards as a result of your own artistic impulses. Being aware of this can help you to reassess your expectations of others, if you desire.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be confident.\", \"描述\": \"Try your best to not care about the opinions of others, including those of your peers. Focus on your own inner strength and take actions that make you feel comfortable, not the ones that will make you ‘fit in.’ Part of being a confident person is not accepting bullying. Don’t allow anyone to victimize you for your loner status.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Choose a few loner idols or mentors.\", \"描述\": \"Search online for the stories of other loners. You will find that many celebrities self-identify as former, or current, loners. Your research will show you that, for most loners, there is nothing unhealthy or unnatural about this affinity. You simply crave privacy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being Aware of Potential Problems as a Loner\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be a survivor.\", \"描述\": \"Be aware that your loner status may make you a target for ridicule in your present, or future, life. So, it is important to be flexible and to adapt to your situation the best that you can. Perhaps you need to wait until the end of the day to get alone time. If that is the case, then so be it. Perhaps you have to discuss your work in a group project setting. If that is the case, then so be it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Change your behaviors if you are lonely.\", \"描述\": \"Practice introspection on a daily basis and ask yourself if being a loner is making you happy. If the answer is yes, then continue as is. If the answer is no, then start to open yourself up a bit more to social experiences while in high school. Pay attention to any feelings of loneliness, in particular. Your decision to be a loner can be reversed, if you choose to do so.\\nLoneliness actually leads to the build-up of stress within your body. Over time it can cause a host of health problems if it is not addressed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Watch out for the stereotypes.\", \"描述\": \"Humans usually reach out for social interaction, so, as a loner, you may be the focus of other’s curiosity or fear. In particular, as a result of some of the violent acts committed by self-described loners in school environments, some of your classmates may attach negative stereotypes to your choice. Try to alleviate their concerns by being polite and engaged, just busy with other concerns.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t give in to peer pressure.\", \"描述\": \"Some of your peers may try to ply you with alcohol or drugs in order to get you back into the social group. Be prepared for this and feel confident in your refusal. Others may assume that you are interested in these illicit activities simply because you are a loner. Brush these advances off as well.\\nIf you are offered drugs or alcohol, you might simply say, “Sorry, I’m not into that.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Talk to the school counselor.\", \"描述\": \"If you feel as if your emotions are bottled up as a result of your loner status, reach out to professionals at your school. They will keep these conversations confidential and you can unload what is on your mind. Be aware that you can also visit with your counselor to discuss how happy you are as a loner.\\nIf you are satisfied with your life as a loner, your counselor may be able to offer suggestions regarding future career options that will suit your personality. Many loners find satisfying work as writers or completing other solitary pursuits.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Talk to your parents.\", \"描述\": \"Your parents may be concerned about your life as a loner, especially if they are both extroverts. Spend time talking with them and let them know that you are okay and happy. 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How to Be a Loner in School
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1. Acting Like a Loner
1-1. Keep to yourself at school functions.
If you have to go to school functions, like a pep rally or assembly, sit by yourself if you can. Sit at the back of the room if possible. You may want to put on headphones and listen to music, read a book, or play on your phone.
If you can, try to get out of going to school functions. But don’t skip it if you are going to get in trouble.
1-2. Sit alone at lunch.
Lunch is one of the most common times during the school day where people socialize. However, if you want to be a loner, you should sit alone if you can. Try sitting at a table by yourself or on the floor, if your school allows that. If you cannot sit in an area by yourself, sit at the end of a table with people you don't know.
Find solitary activities to do during lunch. For example, you can draw, read, or listen to music.
If your school will allow it, go to the library or a teacher's classroom where you can eat lunch alone.
If your school has open lunch, you can go up town to restaurants and other places to eat lunch or you can go home if you live close to the school.
1-3. Keep to yourself during physical education.
P.E. is another time during the school day where people try to talk to you and get you involved. Keep to yourself during P.E. If you have a choice of activity, consider walking, running, or lifting weights alone. If you are allowed, put on your headphones and listen to music.
If your teacher makes you participate with others, do what you have to to do well in the class. Play basketball or volleyball on the team, but don't go out of your way to talk to people.
If your teacher will allow you to, sit on the bleachers or off to the side whenever you can.
1-4. Avoid starting conversations with people.
Loners keep to themselves and don’t go out of their way to talk to other students. This means you wouldn’t go up to someone and start talking to them, or join in a conversation when you’re in a group. Instead, you should keep to yourself.
If someone speaks directly to you, don’t be rude. Answer the question, but don’t follow up or ask the person a question in return.
1-5. Focus on your interests.
One way to be a loner in school is to engage in your interests during the day. This may mean taking classes you are interested in, like art or music classes. Spend your downtime at school doing things you like.
1-6. Choose classes that let you be independent.
When you are choosing elective classes, choose ones that will let you work independently or that don't require group activities. Some classes that may let you be independent include computer or technology classes, shop classes, art classes,music classes, or foreign language classes. You may also want to take sports classes that allow you to exercise alone, like weight lifting or cross-country.
Since you are a loner, you wouldn't want to take drama or chorus classes. Independent vocal or instrumental music lessons such as piano are a better class to take.
2. Adopting the Correct Body Language
2-1. Avoid making eye contact with people.
Loners keep to themselves and don’t want people to try to interact with them. To help with this, discourage people from approaching or talking to you by keeping your eyes down. Don’t look people in the eye and encourage them to speak to you
Make sure not to make eye contact with people in areas where they might come and talk to you, like in the lunchroom or the classroom.
To show respect, be sure to make eye contact with teachers and other authority figures.
2-2. Keep your arms folded.
Try folding your arms over your chest. This signals that you don’t want to be bothered and want to be left alone. This body position helps make you look closed off and unapproachable.
Fold your arms loosely across your body and keep your head down. This will help people realize you don’t want to be bothered.
2-3. Use accessories to keep people away.
Adding accessories helps put up a barrier between you and others. They will see you doing something with the accessory and not disturb you. The accessories also give you a reason to ignore everyone around you.
For example, you can wear headphones, read a book, look on your smartphone, or draw on a sketchpad.
3. Participating in Class
3-1. Ask if you can work alone.
If your teacher puts people in groups, ask them if you can work alone. Generally, loners don’t like to work and interact with other students. If your teacher gives you the option to work together or alone, work alone.
If your teacher won’t allow you to work alone, do your part of the group work, but don’t talk to the other students unless you have to.
3-2. Pay attention in class.
You may prefer to be a loner and not socialize with your peers, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore your classes. One way to successfully be a loner is to focus on your studies and be a good student.
Listen in class, take notes, and study so you will make good grades.
It doesn’t make a difference where you sit in class, just as long as you are paying attention.
3-3. Ask and answer questions in class.
Being a loner doesn’t mean that you can’t speak up and participate in class. Raise your hand and ask questions when you have one. If the teacher calls on you or asks a question, answer.
Being a loner means you don’t really hang around with other students. It doesn’t mean you don’t participate in class.
4. Connecting With Others
4-1. Look for a friend outside of school.
If you aren’t interested in being friends with people at school, consider friends or acquaintances outside of school. This may be a cousin or neighbor. You may also look for friends or acquaintances at any out-of-school activities.
For example, you may meet people at a music or computer class in the community. You may consider getting a tutor through the Boys and Girls Club or with a local college kid who can teach you a skill.
Even if you prefer to be a loner, it's healthy to connect with people sometimes, even if it's only 1 or 2 other people who share similar interests as you or who you get along with.
4-2. Join out-of-school activities.
You don’t have to join clubs or organizations through the school. You can instead find a club or organization to get involved in through the community. You may do things through the library, with a religious organization, or through a volunteer group.
Many communities have after school clubs you can get involved with.
Doing things through a community organization allows you a chance to be a loner while still enjoying doing things.
4-3. Consider making friends with other loners.
You may not want to be friends with most of the people at your school, but you may find other loners and shy kids you can connect with. Maybe there are other kids who are sitting by themselves that you can talk to or work with on projects.
You may also look for shy people or introverts in any clubs or organizations. These people may have similar interests as you.
Tips
If your school allows it, you can wear head phones and listen to music or anything you like to put people off talking to you. You can just have your ear buds or head phones in place as a deterrent, you don't have to have anything playing.
Warnings
Many people view loners as "weird" or "creepy" and may be a target for bullying, harassment, and a possible mental health evaluation. You should be aware of that before considering choosing this lifestyle.
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For example, you can draw, read, or listen to music.\\nIf your school will allow it, go to the library or a teacher's classroom where you can eat lunch alone.\\nIf your school has open lunch, you can go up town to restaurants and other places to eat lunch or you can go home if you live close to the school.\\n1-3. Keep to yourself during physical education.\\nP.E. is another time during the school day where people try to talk to you and get you involved. Keep to yourself during P.E. If you have a choice of activity, consider walking, running, or lifting weights alone. If you are allowed, put on your headphones and listen to music.\\nIf your teacher makes you participate with others, do what you have to to do well in the class. Play basketball or volleyball on the team, but don't go out of your way to talk to people.\\nIf your teacher will allow you to, sit on the bleachers or off to the side whenever you can.\\n1-4. Avoid starting conversations with people.\\nLoners keep to themselves and don’t go out of their way to talk to other students. This means you wouldn’t go up to someone and start talking to them, or join in a conversation when you’re in a group. Instead, you should keep to yourself.\\nIf someone speaks directly to you, don’t be rude. Answer the question, but don’t follow up or ask the person a question in return.\\n1-5. Focus on your interests.\\nOne way to be a loner in school is to engage in your interests during the day. This may mean taking classes you are interested in, like art or music classes. Spend your downtime at school doing things you like.\\n1-6. Choose classes that let you be independent.\\nWhen you are choosing elective classes, choose ones that will let you work independently or that don't require group activities. Some classes that may let you be independent include computer or technology classes, shop classes, art classes,music classes, or foreign language classes. You may also want to take sports classes that allow you to exercise alone, like weight lifting or cross-country.\\nSince you are a loner, you wouldn't want to take drama or chorus classes. Independent vocal or instrumental music lessons such as piano are a better class to take.\\n2. Adopting the Correct Body Language\\n2-1. Avoid making eye contact with people.\\nLoners keep to themselves and don’t want people to try to interact with them. To help with this, discourage people from approaching or talking to you by keeping your eyes down. Don’t look people in the eye and encourage them to speak to you\\nMake sure not to make eye contact with people in areas where they might come and talk to you, like in the lunchroom or the classroom.\\nTo show respect, be sure to make eye contact with teachers and other authority figures.\\n2-2. Keep your arms folded.\\nTry folding your arms over your chest. This signals that you don’t want to be bothered and want to be left alone. This body position helps make you look closed off and unapproachable.\\nFold your arms loosely across your body and keep your head down. This will help people realize you don’t want to be bothered.\\n2-3. Use accessories to keep people away.\\nAdding accessories helps put up a barrier between you and others. They will see you doing something with the accessory and not disturb you. The accessories also give you a reason to ignore everyone around you.\\nFor example, you can wear headphones, read a book, look on your smartphone, or draw on a sketchpad.\\n3. Participating in Class\\n3-1. Ask if you can work alone.\\nIf your teacher puts people in groups, ask them if you can work alone. Generally, loners don’t like to work and interact with other students. If your teacher gives you the option to work together or alone, work alone.\\nIf your teacher won’t allow you to work alone, do your part of the group work, but don’t talk to the other students unless you have to.\\n3-2. Pay attention in class.\\nYou may prefer to be a loner and not socialize with your peers, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore your classes. One way to successfully be a loner is to focus on your studies and be a good student.\\nListen in class, take notes, and study so you will make good grades.\\nIt doesn’t make a difference where you sit in class, just as long as you are paying attention.\\n3-3. Ask and answer questions in class.\\nBeing a loner doesn’t mean that you can’t speak up and participate in class. Raise your hand and ask questions when you have one. If the teacher calls on you or asks a question, answer.\\nBeing a loner means you don’t really hang around with other students. It doesn’t mean you don’t participate in class.\\n4. Connecting With Others\\n4-1. Look for a friend outside of school.\\nIf you aren’t interested in being friends with people at school, consider friends or acquaintances outside of school. This may be a cousin or neighbor. 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Consider making friends with other loners.\\nYou may not want to be friends with most of the people at your school, but you may find other loners and shy kids you can connect with. Maybe there are other kids who are sitting by themselves that you can talk to or work with on projects.\\nYou may also look for shy people or introverts in any clubs or organizations. These people may have similar interests as you.\\nTips\\nIf your school allows it, you can wear head phones and listen to music or anything you like to put people off talking to you. You can just have your ear buds or head phones in place as a deterrent, you don't have to have anything playing.\\nWarnings\\nMany people view loners as \\\"weird\\\" or \\\"creepy\\\" and may be a target for bullying, harassment, and a possible mental health evaluation. You should be aware of that before considering choosing this lifestyle.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Not everybody likes to join others and be social during school. 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Spend your downtime at school doing things you like.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Choose classes that let you be independent.\", \"描述\": \"When you are choosing elective classes, choose ones that will let you work independently or that don't require group activities. Some classes that may let you be independent include computer or technology classes, shop classes, art classes,music classes, or foreign language classes. You may also want to take sports classes that allow you to exercise alone, like weight lifting or cross-country.\\nSince you are a loner, you wouldn't want to take drama or chorus classes. Independent vocal or instrumental music lessons such as piano are a better class to take.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adopting the Correct Body Language\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid making eye contact with people.\", \"描述\": \"Loners keep to themselves and don’t want people to try to interact with them. 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The accessories also give you a reason to ignore everyone around you.\\nFor example, you can wear headphones, read a book, look on your smartphone, or draw on a sketchpad.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Participating in Class\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask if you can work alone.\", \"描述\": \"If your teacher puts people in groups, ask them if you can work alone. Generally, loners don’t like to work and interact with other students. If your teacher gives you the option to work together or alone, work alone.\\nIf your teacher won’t allow you to work alone, do your part of the group work, but don’t talk to the other students unless you have to.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pay attention in class.\", \"描述\": \"You may prefer to be a loner and not socialize with your peers, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore your classes. One way to successfully be a loner is to focus on your studies and be a good student.\\nListen in class, take notes, and study so you will make good grades.\\nIt doesn’t make a difference where you sit in class, just as long as you are paying attention.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask and answer questions in class.\", \"描述\": \"Being a loner doesn’t mean that you can’t speak up and participate in class. Raise your hand and ask questions when you have one. If the teacher calls on you or asks a question, answer.\\nBeing a loner means you don’t really hang around with other students. It doesn’t mean you don’t participate in class.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Connecting With Others\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look for a friend outside of school.\", \"描述\": \"If you aren’t interested in being friends with people at school, consider friends or acquaintances outside of school. This may be a cousin or neighbor. You may also look for friends or acquaintances at any out-of-school activities.\\nFor example, you may meet people at a music or computer class in the community. You may consider getting a tutor through the Boys and Girls Club or with a local college kid who can teach you a skill.\\nEven if you prefer to be a loner, it's healthy to connect with people sometimes, even if it's only 1 or 2 other people who share similar interests as you or who you get along with.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Join out-of-school activities.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t have to join clubs or organizations through the school. You can instead find a club or organization to get involved in through the community. You may do things through the library, with a religious organization, or through a volunteer group.\\nMany communities have after school clubs you can get involved with.\\nDoing things through a community organization allows you a chance to be a loner while still enjoying doing things.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider making friends with other loners.\", \"描述\": \"You may not want to be friends with most of the people at your school, but you may find other loners and shy kids you can connect with. Maybe there are other kids who are sitting by themselves that you can talk to or work with on projects.\\nYou may also look for shy people or introverts in any clubs or organizations. These people may have similar interests as you.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If your school allows it, you can wear head phones and listen to music or anything you like to put people off talking to you. You can just have your ear buds or head phones in place as a deterrent, you don't have to have anything playing.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Many people view loners as \\\"weird\\\" or \\\"creepy\\\" and may be a target for bullying, harassment, and a possible mental health evaluation. You should be aware of that before considering choosing this lifestyle.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Mind
1-1. Know yourself.
Find out who you are and be happy with that person. There's no one way to be a man. A 'real' man can be a logger who wears plaid and doesn't shower for 10 days; a 'real' man can also be a professor who talks about Milton and Shakespeare. All men, however, know who they are and respect themselves in and out.
1-2. Be knowledgeable about something.
It doesn't really matter what it is, but you should consider yourself pretty familiar with one area of expertise. Men may not know or want to use fancy, two-dollar words, but when it comes time to getting things done, they know how to act. They use their smarts to get it done. What area of expertise do you know? Here are just a few areas you might consider diving into.
General knowledge. You're the jack of all trades. You could win a pretty penny on Jeopardy! if you cared at all about being on TV. You know the difference between participles and parts of speech, pterodactyls and pterorhynchus, and a $99 suit and a $6,000 suit.
History. Increasingly rare, the man who's a student of history gives himself the benefit of a very wide lens when contemplating problems: he can draw on Roman artillery strategy, Cold War negotiating tactics, and obscure French economic policy, among others. He knows that history isn't just about preventing the mistakes of the past from happening in the future.
Women. Some men turn the opposite sex into a field of study. If you want to be knowledgeable about women, be prepared to make mistakes and learn from them. There's nothing worse than a man who thinks he's God's gift to all women, but who's stubbornly insulting, cavalier, and clueless. Note that this does not apply to all men and that such stereotypes like "being a lady's-man" are not only out-dated, but also presumptuous.
1-3. Know when you've made a mistake and know when to say "I'm sorry.
There's nothing wrong with making a mistake. Only the insecure man thinks that making a mistake is bad, because he's not comfortable with who he is in the first place. Confident men know when they're wrong and aren't afraid to admit it.
Learn to say "I'm sorry" in different ways. Men know that saying "sorry" doesn't always have to be verbal. A ticket to a baseball game, breakfast in bed, and a camping trip are all ways to say "I'm sorry" without moving the old vocal cords back and forth. Men know that these are often more effective ways of communicating regret than two measly words.
1-4. Know the man-code.
What is the man-code? The man-code is an unwritten set of rules that some men live by, often evolving but rarely changing. If it means something to you, take the man-code seriously. It might tell other men that you respect them as much as you respect yourself. Remember that this is all to be taken with a pinch of salt. Every man is different, you are different and if this list doesn't resonate with you or mean anything to you, do not feel as though you have to go out of your way to achieve these things. Here are a few items on the list:
Dating no-nos. You may never date another friend's sister (or sibling), unless you actually intend on marrying them. You may never date another friend's ex unless you have his explicit permission. Explicit permission means actually asking him.
Share your possessions when possible. If a friend asks for a pair of work boots, a drill, or a crock-pot a day in advance, you should be kind enough to loan it to him. Cars, lucky items, or partners are not necessarily applicable.
Birthday presents for other men are always optional. If pressed for information, you may always lie and tell them your significant other ordered you to act.
Never initiate conversation with other men at a urinal station. It is never acceptable to choose a urinal immediately adjacent to another man if an open, further-removed urinal is available.
No smiley-faces or emoticons are necessary when texting another guy. Although acceptable (not preferable) to use when texting love-interests, keep use to a bare minimum.
1-5. Let go of self-destructive thoughts or customs.
Understand that all men in all cultures may have, to some extent, been socialized in ways that may be psychologically and culturally damaging, and may bring unhappiness. The first step in creating a sense of self in manhood is to examine the environment in which you were raised, as objectively as you can.
Did you grow up in a culture where it was acceptable to abuse someone, whether physically or verbally, who was "out of line" or insubordinate? Violence is more often the result of cowardice than a genuine impulse to solve a problem. Using violence or threats against friends or family to "show your authority" is unhealthy and damaging.
Were you taught that being "tough" means suppressing emotion, holding in tears, and never exposing vulnerability? The drawback here is that you also learn to internalize and suppress these emotions which then fester and get worse. Focus on being a different kind of tough: be a reliable, strong figure who can handle adversity.
Were you taught to hate/fear anyone who's homosexual? Understand that only one thing makes you gay: having a romantic and sexual preference for people of the same gender. The kind of music you like, the clothes you wear, whether you cry at sad movies, buying your wife flowers, being sensitive or nice to others — none of that makes you gay. Outward displays of homophobia point to a man's own sexual insecurity, not his prowess and is not cool in any way, shape or form.
2. Body
2-1. Clean yourself, even if you are living out in the woods.
A man knows that cleaning one's body is necessary, every animal does it, but don't fall into the trap of "grooming yourself" as part of some modernist social trend. Grooming has become a business and corporations and companies never tire of convincing you that you need endless amounts of unnecessary products. The modern "grooming" and "manscaping" business is all done in order to make money, not because it's noble, healthy or moral.
You don't have to shave every day, especially not if you are growing a beard. Some men cannot grow a proper beard, and that's okay, maybe then it's better to stay clean shaven. Other men have very good beard growth, which is nature's call to them to grow a full beard. Men tend to be afraid of what potential partners think of facial hair. No one should dominate (or manipulate) you into shaving your beard when you don't want to. Be yourself, as nature created you, be your own master.
You don't have to shave or trim your chest hair, back hair or any body hair in general. You don't have to live up to any nonsensical and superficial image of "smooth, chiseled (plastic) man" created by modern fashion, advertising and movie industry, again in order to make money. Some men are very hairy, others are totally smooth, either way, be proud of your body and all the physical attributes nature has created to give you your male identity.
Shower and bathe when necessary. A man benefits from showering when he is dirty or smelly — not necessarily every day. Some may choose to stay dirty or smelly for a good reason (working on a car, or about to work out).
You can cut your hair and finger nails regularly. Most men like no-nonsense haircuts, although some men prefer hair that is a little longer or style and that is fine also.
2-2. Exercise.
Being a man doesn't mean you need to be ripped. It does mean you need to take care of your body (For some men, that does mean lifting weights.) Adjust to the responsibility of being by keeping fit: do cardio, yoga or pilates (not only for women), strength training, body building, or sports, combined with a healthy diet. At the very least, walk about 30 minutes a day to burn fat and build some muscle.
2-3. Wear clothes that fit you.
Your clothes don't need to be designer or cost an arm and a leg. They do, however, need to fit you. Not all men are muscular and stocky, and therefore don't look great in baggy, loose-fitting clothes. All men will need:
Great jeans. One pair of casual jeans, one pair of work jeans, and one pair of formal jeans should round out your wardrobe. Build around the basics.
Some button-down shirts. Again, a couple casual item, a couple for work, and a couple formal button-downs should be enough for the average man.
Decent shoes. Men probably want between three and five different kinds of shoes at any given time: formal shoes (for work and/or big occasions), tennis shoes, work boots, casual shoes (chukkas, lace-ups, sneakers, etc.), or slightly-less-than-formal shoes (oxfords, top-siders, loafers, etc.). Mix and match depending on your needs and habits.
2-4. Don't use drugs as a crutch.
Men are born adventurers, making the lure of drugs very real. Men who are comfortable with themselves tend not to rely on the crutch of drugs for support. Even with bills weighing them down, work staring them in the face, and personal projects (not to mention football) looming, men find a way to appreciate the beauty of life without sedating themselves.
3. Spirit
3-1. Develop your own principles.
A man isn't always comfortable being judge, jury, and executioner, but he knows right from wrong and expects others to play by the same rules. Look inside yourself and ask: would I want someone else doing that to me? This should help you develop principles to live by.
A man never steals, even if he is desperate. A desperate man learns to ask others to help him instead of helping himself to something he is not entitled to.
A man helps others in need. He knows when others are down on their luck and need a helping hand, even if the utility lies in the gesture itself.
A man trusts his friends, significant others, and family. He follows through with what he says he'll do and expects others to do the same.
A man never lies — to himself or others. He develops a conscience that gives him good feedback and allows him to be comfortable with the truth, even if it hurts.
3-2. Be ambitious in your own way.
Men are naturally ambitious. We want to be breadwinners and have the admiration and respect of our peers. Not all men choose the same career paths, however, so ambition doesn't always amount to the same thing. Whatever career or profession you choose (you may have many), set goals for yourself, live up to or exceed them, and reinvent yourself whenever you need to. Define your own idea of success.
3-3. Seek responsibility and take responsibility for your actions.
The main difference between a man and a boy, and adult and a child, is that men are responsible. Men honor their commitments, accept their duties and are accountable for their actions. Men clean up after themselves (figuratively and literally).
Men know that anyone can father a baby, but only a man who understands and accepts responsibility can be a good father.
Men refuse to make anyone do anything they themselves are unwilling to do. As a result, they appreciate the difficulty and risk other people take on their behalf.
3-4. Learn to make sacrifices for the people you love and care about.
Making sacrifices is part of growing up, whether you like it or not. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man steps up to the plate, while a boy hesitates or complains. Especially for the people in his life that he loves, a man looks at sacrifice — whether it means devoting time, money or other resources to people aside from himself — as his duty.
3-5. Be a good man.
Integrity is doing the right thing, for the right reason, even when no one is watching. It can be tempting to think that by meeting your self-defined responsibilities as a man, your job is done, but that doesn't always make you a good person. Never stop trying to do the right thing and re-evaluating your character and integrity. If you're going to be a man, be a good man, or else it's no better than remaining a boy.
4. Love
4-1. Use your inner gentleman.
Your inner gentleman tells you the things to do that you know you should — but sometimes are too lazy — to do:
Paying for dates, unless the love-interest in question views the act as some barbaric throwback to a more misogynistic time. Treat with caution.
Opening doors, helping into chairs, and saying "please" and "thank you." Generally putting the lover in question ahead of yourself out of respect.
Doing domestic duties. Some men who are already in long-term relationships shirk their domestic duties: forgetting to take out the trash, do the dishes, change the diapers. Real men know that they must share in domestic duties, as unpleasant as they may be.
Being a gracious loser. Man are naturally competitive, making this a tough one for some. Accept defeat with the same grace that you accept victory. Easier said than done.
4-2. Don't kiss and tell.
Men love the chase of romance, but too often get lured into bragging about the conquest. Don't fall victim to the notion that if you don't brag about it, it didn't happen. Success in love speaks loud enough for itself. A quiet confidence will perhaps even suggest to your friends that you're a regular Lothario, even if you're not.
4-3. Always treat your significant other with respect.
A simple list of dos and don'ts:
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Listen to what they have to say.
Forgive them when they make a simple mistake.
Follow through on what you say you'll do.
Treat them the same way you'd like to be treated.
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Hold them to unrealistic expectations.
Manipulate them to get whatever you want.
Treat them as an object instead of a person.
Assume that you know how they'll feel or react.
4-4. Don't rush a relationship.
Lots of guys rush people into uncomfortable situations. By doing this, they not only alienate the lover but also keep themselves from getting what they want. Straight men know that when it comes to dating, the lady sets the pace: if she wants to rush into a whirlwind romance, he's usually game; if she wants to take things slower, he'll reassure her that he's there for the long-haul. By letting her set the pace, the man sets the relationship up for success and usually ends up richer in the bargain. This can apply to non-heterosexual relationships also but remember for all, the best thing in a relationship is the communication. Talk to your partner!
4-5. Keep a little mystery in the tank.
Being intriguingly puzzling can be very alluring and seductive to some. Being mysterious does not mean being the strong, silent type. It just means holding back a little for a later time, surprising with an unexpected skill, trait or gesture.
Tips
Surround yourself with good role models, even if they're younger than you are. Who in your life do you think is a good male role model? How do they act? What do they do? Learn from them, but remember that no one is perfect as well--they are still learning, just like you are.
Being a man and being a woman mean the same thing, when it comes down to it - being a kind, respectful and true to you person. It is not defined by anything else, such as clothing preference, hobbies, or sexual preference.
You may not want to marry. That is your choice; marriage is not a requirement for being a man.
Warnings
It takes years to develop the qualities that differentiate men from boys. We all grow at different speeds. Keep working at it.
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You know the difference between participles and parts of speech, pterodactyls and pterorhynchus, and a $99 suit and a $6,000 suit.\\nHistory. Increasingly rare, the man who's a student of history gives himself the benefit of a very wide lens when contemplating problems: he can draw on Roman artillery strategy, Cold War negotiating tactics, and obscure French economic policy, among others. He knows that history isn't just about preventing the mistakes of the past from happening in the future.\\nWomen. Some men turn the opposite sex into a field of study. If you want to be knowledgeable about women, be prepared to make mistakes and learn from them. There's nothing worse than a man who thinks he's God's gift to all women, but who's stubbornly insulting, cavalier, and clueless. Note that this does not apply to all men and that such stereotypes like \\\"being a lady's-man\\\" are not only out-dated, but also presumptuous.\\n1-3. Know when you've made a mistake and know when to say \\\"I'm sorry.\\nThere's nothing wrong with making a mistake. Only the insecure man thinks that making a mistake is bad, because he's not comfortable with who he is in the first place. Confident men know when they're wrong and aren't afraid to admit it.\\nLearn to say \\\"I'm sorry\\\" in different ways. Men know that saying \\\"sorry\\\" doesn't always have to be verbal. A ticket to a baseball game, breakfast in bed, and a camping trip are all ways to say \\\"I'm sorry\\\" without moving the old vocal cords back and forth. Men know that these are often more effective ways of communicating regret than two measly words.\\n1-4. Know the man-code.\\nWhat is the man-code? The man-code is an unwritten set of rules that some men live by, often evolving but rarely changing. If it means something to you, take the man-code seriously. It might tell other men that you respect them as much as you respect yourself. Remember that this is all to be taken with a pinch of salt. Every man is different, you are different and if this list doesn't resonate with you or mean anything to you, do not feel as though you have to go out of your way to achieve these things. Here are a few items on the list:\\nDating no-nos. You may never date another friend's sister (or sibling), unless you actually intend on marrying them. You may never date another friend's ex unless you have his explicit permission. Explicit permission means actually asking him.\\nShare your possessions when possible. If a friend asks for a pair of work boots, a drill, or a crock-pot a day in advance, you should be kind enough to loan it to him. Cars, lucky items, or partners are not necessarily applicable.\\nBirthday presents for other men are always optional. If pressed for information, you may always lie and tell them your significant other ordered you to act.\\nNever initiate conversation with other men at a urinal station. 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Using violence or threats against friends or family to \\\"show your authority\\\" is unhealthy and damaging.\\nWere you taught that being \\\"tough\\\" means suppressing emotion, holding in tears, and never exposing vulnerability? The drawback here is that you also learn to internalize and suppress these emotions which then fester and get worse. Focus on being a different kind of tough: be a reliable, strong figure who can handle adversity.\\nWere you taught to hate/fear anyone who's homosexual? Understand that only one thing makes you gay: having a romantic and sexual preference for people of the same gender. The kind of music you like, the clothes you wear, whether you cry at sad movies, buying your wife flowers, being sensitive or nice to others — none of that makes you gay. Outward displays of homophobia point to a man's own sexual insecurity, not his prowess and is not cool in any way, shape or form.\\n2. Body\\n2-1. Clean yourself, even if you are living out in the woods.\\nA man knows that cleaning one's body is necessary, every animal does it, but don't fall into the trap of \\\"grooming yourself\\\" as part of some modernist social trend. Grooming has become a business and corporations and companies never tire of convincing you that you need endless amounts of unnecessary products. The modern \\\"grooming\\\" and \\\"manscaping\\\" business is all done in order to make money, not because it's noble, healthy or moral.\\nYou don't have to shave every day, especially not if you are growing a beard. Some men cannot grow a proper beard, and that's okay, maybe then it's better to stay clean shaven. Other men have very good beard growth, which is nature's call to them to grow a full beard. Men tend to be afraid of what potential partners think of facial hair. No one should dominate (or manipulate) you into shaving your beard when you don't want to. Be yourself, as nature created you, be your own master.\\nYou don't have to shave or trim your chest hair, back hair or any body hair in general. You don't have to live up to any nonsensical and superficial image of \\\"smooth, chiseled (plastic) man\\\" created by modern fashion, advertising and movie industry, again in order to make money. Some men are very hairy, others are totally smooth, either way, be proud of your body and all the physical attributes nature has created to give you your male identity.\\nShower and bathe when necessary. A man benefits from showering when he is dirty or smelly — not necessarily every day. Some may choose to stay dirty or smelly for a good reason (working on a car, or about to work out).\\nYou can cut your hair and finger nails regularly. Most men like no-nonsense haircuts, although some men prefer hair that is a little longer or style and that is fine also.\\n2-2. Exercise.\\nBeing a man doesn't mean you need to be ripped. It does mean you need to take care of your body (For some men, that does mean lifting weights.) Adjust to the responsibility of being by keeping fit: do cardio, yoga or pilates (not only for women), strength training, body building, or sports, combined with a healthy diet. At the very least, walk about 30 minutes a day to burn fat and build some muscle.\\n2-3. Wear clothes that fit you.\\nYour clothes don't need to be designer or cost an arm and a leg. They do, however, need to fit you. Not all men are muscular and stocky, and therefore don't look great in baggy, loose-fitting clothes. All men will need:\\nGreat jeans. One pair of casual jeans, one pair of work jeans, and one pair of formal jeans should round out your wardrobe. Build around the basics.\\nSome button-down shirts. Again, a couple casual item, a couple for work, and a couple formal button-downs should be enough for the average man.\\nDecent shoes. Men probably want between three and five different kinds of shoes at any given time: formal shoes (for work and/or big occasions), tennis shoes, work boots, casual shoes (chukkas, lace-ups, sneakers, etc.), or slightly-less-than-formal shoes (oxfords, top-siders, loafers, etc.). Mix and match depending on your needs and habits.\\n2-4. Don't use drugs as a crutch.\\nMen are born adventurers, making the lure of drugs very real. Men who are comfortable with themselves tend not to rely on the crutch of drugs for support. Even with bills weighing them down, work staring them in the face, and personal projects (not to mention football) looming, men find a way to appreciate the beauty of life without sedating themselves.\\n3. Spirit\\n3-1. Develop your own principles.\\nA man isn't always comfortable being judge, jury, and executioner, but he knows right from wrong and expects others to play by the same rules. Look inside yourself and ask: would I want someone else doing that to me? This should help you develop principles to live by.\\nA man never steals, even if he is desperate. A desperate man learns to ask others to help him instead of helping himself to something he is not entitled to.\\nA man helps others in need. He knows when others are down on their luck and need a helping hand, even if the utility lies in the gesture itself.\\nA man trusts his friends, significant others, and family. He follows through with what he says he'll do and expects others to do the same.\\nA man never lies — to himself or others. He develops a conscience that gives him good feedback and allows him to be comfortable with the truth, even if it hurts.\\n3-2. Be ambitious in your own way.\\nMen are naturally ambitious. We want to be breadwinners and have the admiration and respect of our peers. Not all men choose the same career paths, however, so ambition doesn't always amount to the same thing. Whatever career or profession you choose (you may have many), set goals for yourself, live up to or exceed them, and reinvent yourself whenever you need to. Define your own idea of success.\\n3-3. Seek responsibility and take responsibility for your actions.\\nThe main difference between a man and a boy, and adult and a child, is that men are responsible. Men honor their commitments, accept their duties and are accountable for their actions. Men clean up after themselves (figuratively and literally).\\nMen know that anyone can father a baby, but only a man who understands and accepts responsibility can be a good father.\\nMen refuse to make anyone do anything they themselves are unwilling to do. As a result, they appreciate the difficulty and risk other people take on their behalf.\\n3-4. Learn to make sacrifices for the people you love and care about.\\nMaking sacrifices is part of growing up, whether you like it or not. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man steps up to the plate, while a boy hesitates or complains. Especially for the people in his life that he loves, a man looks at sacrifice — whether it means devoting time, money or other resources to people aside from himself — as his duty.\\n3-5. Be a good man.\\nIntegrity is doing the right thing, for the right reason, even when no one is watching. It can be tempting to think that by meeting your self-defined responsibilities as a man, your job is done, but that doesn't always make you a good person. Never stop trying to do the right thing and re-evaluating your character and integrity. If you're going to be a man, be a good man, or else it's no better than remaining a boy.\\n4. Love\\n4-1. Use your inner gentleman.\\nYour inner gentleman tells you the things to do that you know you should — but sometimes are too lazy — to do:\\nPaying for dates, unless the love-interest in question views the act as some barbaric throwback to a more misogynistic time. Treat with caution.\\nOpening doors, helping into chairs, and saying \\\"please\\\" and \\\"thank you.\\\" Generally putting the lover in question ahead of yourself out of respect.\\nDoing domestic duties. Some men who are already in long-term relationships shirk their domestic duties: forgetting to take out the trash, do the dishes, change the diapers. Real men know that they must share in domestic duties, as unpleasant as they may be.\\nBeing a gracious loser. Man are naturally competitive, making this a tough one for some. Accept defeat with the same grace that you accept victory. Easier said than done.\\n4-2. Don't kiss and tell.\\nMen love the chase of romance, but too often get lured into bragging about the conquest. Don't fall victim to the notion that if you don't brag about it, it didn't happen. Success in love speaks loud enough for itself. A quiet confidence will perhaps even suggest to your friends that you're a regular Lothario, even if you're not.\\n4-3. Always treat your significant other with respect.\\nA simple list of dos and don'ts:\\n\\n:\\nListen to what they have to say.\\nForgive them when they make a simple mistake.\\nFollow through on what you say you'll do.\\nTreat them the same way you'd like to be treated.\\n\\n:\\nHold them to unrealistic expectations.\\nManipulate them to get whatever you want.\\nTreat them as an object instead of a person.\\nAssume that you know how they'll feel or react.\\n4-4. Don't rush a relationship.\\nLots of guys rush people into uncomfortable situations. By doing this, they not only alienate the lover but also keep themselves from getting what they want. Straight men know that when it comes to dating, the lady sets the pace: if she wants to rush into a whirlwind romance, he's usually game; if she wants to take things slower, he'll reassure her that he's there for the long-haul. By letting her set the pace, the man sets the relationship up for success and usually ends up richer in the bargain. This can apply to non-heterosexual relationships also but remember for all, the best thing in a relationship is the communication. Talk to your partner!\\n4-5. Keep a little mystery in the tank.\\nBeing intriguingly puzzling can be very alluring and seductive to some. Being mysterious does not mean being the strong, silent type. It just means holding back a little for a later time, surprising with an unexpected skill, trait or gesture.\\nTips\\nSurround yourself with good role models, even if they're younger than you are. Who in your life do you think is a good male role model? How do they act? What do they do? Learn from them, but remember that no one is perfect as well--they are still learning, just like you are.\\nBeing a man and being a woman mean the same thing, when it comes down to it - being a kind, respectful and true to you person. It is not defined by anything else, such as clothing preference, hobbies, or sexual preference.\\nYou may not want to marry. That is your choice; marriage is not a requirement for being a man.\\nWarnings\\nIt takes years to develop the qualities that differentiate men from boys. We all grow at different speeds. Keep working at it.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Like it or not, it takes more than a pair of cojones to achieve manhood. Cultures around the world have rites of passage to symbolize it and customs to preserve it. Although there is no one way to categorize manliness, there are certain attributes almost everyone would consider to be \\\"manly.\\\"\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Mind\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Find out who you are and be happy with that person. There's no one way to be a man. A 'real' man can be a logger who wears plaid and doesn't shower for 10 days; a 'real' man can also be a professor who talks about Milton and Shakespeare. All men, however, know who they are and respect themselves in and out.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be knowledgeable about something.\", \"描述\": \"It doesn't really matter what it is, but you should consider yourself pretty familiar with one area of expertise. Men may not know or want to use fancy, two-dollar words, but when it comes time to getting things done, they know how to act. They use their smarts to get it done. What area of expertise do you know? Here are just a few areas you might consider diving into.\\nGeneral knowledge. You're the jack of all trades. You could win a pretty penny on Jeopardy! if you cared at all about being on TV. You know the difference between participles and parts of speech, pterodactyls and pterorhynchus, and a $99 suit and a $6,000 suit.\\nHistory. Increasingly rare, the man who's a student of history gives himself the benefit of a very wide lens when contemplating problems: he can draw on Roman artillery strategy, Cold War negotiating tactics, and obscure French economic policy, among others. He knows that history isn't just about preventing the mistakes of the past from happening in the future.\\nWomen. Some men turn the opposite sex into a field of study. If you want to be knowledgeable about women, be prepared to make mistakes and learn from them. There's nothing worse than a man who thinks he's God's gift to all women, but who's stubbornly insulting, cavalier, and clueless. Note that this does not apply to all men and that such stereotypes like \\\"being a lady's-man\\\" are not only out-dated, but also presumptuous.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know when you've made a mistake and know when to say \\\"I'm sorry.\", \"描述\": \"There's nothing wrong with making a mistake. Only the insecure man thinks that making a mistake is bad, because he's not comfortable with who he is in the first place. Confident men know when they're wrong and aren't afraid to admit it.\\nLearn to say \\\"I'm sorry\\\" in different ways. Men know that saying \\\"sorry\\\" doesn't always have to be verbal. A ticket to a baseball game, breakfast in bed, and a camping trip are all ways to say \\\"I'm sorry\\\" without moving the old vocal cords back and forth. Men know that these are often more effective ways of communicating regret than two measly words.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know the man-code.\", \"描述\": \"What is the man-code? The man-code is an unwritten set of rules that some men live by, often evolving but rarely changing. If it means something to you, take the man-code seriously. It might tell other men that you respect them as much as you respect yourself. Remember that this is all to be taken with a pinch of salt. Every man is different, you are different and if this list doesn't resonate with you or mean anything to you, do not feel as though you have to go out of your way to achieve these things. Here are a few items on the list:\\nDating no-nos. You may never date another friend's sister (or sibling), unless you actually intend on marrying them. You may never date another friend's ex unless you have his explicit permission. Explicit permission means actually asking him.\\nShare your possessions when possible. If a friend asks for a pair of work boots, a drill, or a crock-pot a day in advance, you should be kind enough to loan it to him. Cars, lucky items, or partners are not necessarily applicable.\\nBirthday presents for other men are always optional. If pressed for information, you may always lie and tell them your significant other ordered you to act.\\nNever initiate conversation with other men at a urinal station. It is never acceptable to choose a urinal immediately adjacent to another man if an open, further-removed urinal is available.\\nNo smiley-faces or emoticons are necessary when texting another guy. Although acceptable (not preferable) to use when texting love-interests, keep use to a bare minimum.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Let go of self-destructive thoughts or customs.\", \"描述\": \"Understand that all men in all cultures may have, to some extent, been socialized in ways that may be psychologically and culturally damaging, and may bring unhappiness. The first step in creating a sense of self in manhood is to examine the environment in which you were raised, as objectively as you can.\\nDid you grow up in a culture where it was acceptable to abuse someone, whether physically or verbally, who was \\\"out of line\\\" or insubordinate? Violence is more often the result of cowardice than a genuine impulse to solve a problem. Using violence or threats against friends or family to \\\"show your authority\\\" is unhealthy and damaging.\\nWere you taught that being \\\"tough\\\" means suppressing emotion, holding in tears, and never exposing vulnerability? The drawback here is that you also learn to internalize and suppress these emotions which then fester and get worse. Focus on being a different kind of tough: be a reliable, strong figure who can handle adversity.\\nWere you taught to hate/fear anyone who's homosexual? Understand that only one thing makes you gay: having a romantic and sexual preference for people of the same gender. The kind of music you like, the clothes you wear, whether you cry at sad movies, buying your wife flowers, being sensitive or nice to others — none of that makes you gay. Outward displays of homophobia point to a man's own sexual insecurity, not his prowess and is not cool in any way, shape or form.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Body\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Clean yourself, even if you are living out in the woods.\", \"描述\": \"A man knows that cleaning one's body is necessary, every animal does it, but don't fall into the trap of \\\"grooming yourself\\\" as part of some modernist social trend. Grooming has become a business and corporations and companies never tire of convincing you that you need endless amounts of unnecessary products. The modern \\\"grooming\\\" and \\\"manscaping\\\" business is all done in order to make money, not because it's noble, healthy or moral.\\nYou don't have to shave every day, especially not if you are growing a beard. Some men cannot grow a proper beard, and that's okay, maybe then it's better to stay clean shaven. Other men have very good beard growth, which is nature's call to them to grow a full beard. Men tend to be afraid of what potential partners think of facial hair. No one should dominate (or manipulate) you into shaving your beard when you don't want to. Be yourself, as nature created you, be your own master.\\nYou don't have to shave or trim your chest hair, back hair or any body hair in general. You don't have to live up to any nonsensical and superficial image of \\\"smooth, chiseled (plastic) man\\\" created by modern fashion, advertising and movie industry, again in order to make money. Some men are very hairy, others are totally smooth, either way, be proud of your body and all the physical attributes nature has created to give you your male identity.\\nShower and bathe when necessary. A man benefits from showering when he is dirty or smelly — not necessarily every day. Some may choose to stay dirty or smelly for a good reason (working on a car, or about to work out).\\nYou can cut your hair and finger nails regularly. Most men like no-nonsense haircuts, although some men prefer hair that is a little longer or style and that is fine also.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Exercise.\", \"描述\": \"Being a man doesn't mean you need to be ripped. It does mean you need to take care of your body (For some men, that does mean lifting weights.) Adjust to the responsibility of being by keeping fit: do cardio, yoga or pilates (not only for women), strength training, body building, or sports, combined with a healthy diet. At the very least, walk about 30 minutes a day to burn fat and build some muscle.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear clothes that fit you.\", \"描述\": \"Your clothes don't need to be designer or cost an arm and a leg. They do, however, need to fit you. Not all men are muscular and stocky, and therefore don't look great in baggy, loose-fitting clothes. All men will need:\\nGreat jeans. One pair of casual jeans, one pair of work jeans, and one pair of formal jeans should round out your wardrobe. Build around the basics.\\nSome button-down shirts. Again, a couple casual item, a couple for work, and a couple formal button-downs should be enough for the average man.\\nDecent shoes. Men probably want between three and five different kinds of shoes at any given time: formal shoes (for work and/or big occasions), tennis shoes, work boots, casual shoes (chukkas, lace-ups, sneakers, etc.), or slightly-less-than-formal shoes (oxfords, top-siders, loafers, etc.). Mix and match depending on your needs and habits.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't use drugs as a crutch.\", \"描述\": \"Men are born adventurers, making the lure of drugs very real. Men who are comfortable with themselves tend not to rely on the crutch of drugs for support. Even with bills weighing them down, work staring them in the face, and personal projects (not to mention football) looming, men find a way to appreciate the beauty of life without sedating themselves.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spirit\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop your own principles.\", \"描述\": \"A man isn't always comfortable being judge, jury, and executioner, but he knows right from wrong and expects others to play by the same rules. Look inside yourself and ask: would I want someone else doing that to me? This should help you develop principles to live by.\\nA man never steals, even if he is desperate. A desperate man learns to ask others to help him instead of helping himself to something he is not entitled to.\\nA man helps others in need. He knows when others are down on their luck and need a helping hand, even if the utility lies in the gesture itself.\\nA man trusts his friends, significant others, and family. He follows through with what he says he'll do and expects others to do the same.\\nA man never lies — to himself or others. He develops a conscience that gives him good feedback and allows him to be comfortable with the truth, even if it hurts.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be ambitious in your own way.\", \"描述\": \"Men are naturally ambitious. We want to be breadwinners and have the admiration and respect of our peers. Not all men choose the same career paths, however, so ambition doesn't always amount to the same thing. Whatever career or profession you choose (you may have many), set goals for yourself, live up to or exceed them, and reinvent yourself whenever you need to. Define your own idea of success.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Seek responsibility and take responsibility for your actions.\", \"描述\": \"The main difference between a man and a boy, and adult and a child, is that men are responsible. Men honor their commitments, accept their duties and are accountable for their actions. Men clean up after themselves (figuratively and literally).\\nMen know that anyone can father a baby, but only a man who understands and accepts responsibility can be a good father.\\nMen refuse to make anyone do anything they themselves are unwilling to do. As a result, they appreciate the difficulty and risk other people take on their behalf.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn to make sacrifices for the people you love and care about.\", \"描述\": \"Making sacrifices is part of growing up, whether you like it or not. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man steps up to the plate, while a boy hesitates or complains. Especially for the people in his life that he loves, a man looks at sacrifice — whether it means devoting time, money or other resources to people aside from himself — as his duty.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be a good man.\", \"描述\": \"Integrity is doing the right thing, for the right reason, even when no one is watching. It can be tempting to think that by meeting your self-defined responsibilities as a man, your job is done, but that doesn't always make you a good person. Never stop trying to do the right thing and re-evaluating your character and integrity. If you're going to be a man, be a good man, or else it's no better than remaining a boy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Love\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use your inner gentleman.\", \"描述\": \"Your inner gentleman tells you the things to do that you know you should — but sometimes are too lazy — to do:\\nPaying for dates, unless the love-interest in question views the act as some barbaric throwback to a more misogynistic time. Treat with caution.\\nOpening doors, helping into chairs, and saying \\\"please\\\" and \\\"thank you.\\\" Generally putting the lover in question ahead of yourself out of respect.\\nDoing domestic duties. Some men who are already in long-term relationships shirk their domestic duties: forgetting to take out the trash, do the dishes, change the diapers. Real men know that they must share in domestic duties, as unpleasant as they may be.\\nBeing a gracious loser. Man are naturally competitive, making this a tough one for some. Accept defeat with the same grace that you accept victory. Easier said than done.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't kiss and tell.\", \"描述\": \"Men love the chase of romance, but too often get lured into bragging about the conquest. Don't fall victim to the notion that if you don't brag about it, it didn't happen. Success in love speaks loud enough for itself. A quiet confidence will perhaps even suggest to your friends that you're a regular Lothario, even if you're not.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Always treat your significant other with respect.\", \"描述\": \"A simple list of dos and don'ts:\\n\\n:\\nListen to what they have to say.\\nForgive them when they make a simple mistake.\\nFollow through on what you say you'll do.\\nTreat them the same way you'd like to be treated.\\n\\n:\\nHold them to unrealistic expectations.\\nManipulate them to get whatever you want.\\nTreat them as an object instead of a person.\\nAssume that you know how they'll feel or react.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't rush a relationship.\", \"描述\": \"Lots of guys rush people into uncomfortable situations. By doing this, they not only alienate the lover but also keep themselves from getting what they want. Straight men know that when it comes to dating, the lady sets the pace: if she wants to rush into a whirlwind romance, he's usually game; if she wants to take things slower, he'll reassure her that he's there for the long-haul. By letting her set the pace, the man sets the relationship up for success and usually ends up richer in the bargain. This can apply to non-heterosexual relationships also but remember for all, the best thing in a relationship is the communication. Talk to your partner!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep a little mystery in the tank.\", \"描述\": \"Being intriguingly puzzling can be very alluring and seductive to some. Being mysterious does not mean being the strong, silent type. It just means holding back a little for a later time, surprising with an unexpected skill, trait or gesture.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Surround yourself with good role models, even if they're younger than you are. Who in your life do you think is a good male role model? How do they act? What do they do? Learn from them, but remember that no one is perfect as well--they are still learning, just like you are.\\n\", \"Being a man and being a woman mean the same thing, when it comes down to it - being a kind, respectful and true to you person. It is not defined by anything else, such as clothing preference, hobbies, or sexual preference.\\n\", \"You may not want to marry. That is your choice; marriage is not a requirement for being a man.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"It takes years to develop the qualities that differentiate men from boys. We all grow at different speeds. Keep working at it.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Changing How You See Commitments and Promises
1-1. Treat small promises with the same level of importance as big ones.
Being a man of your word means more than simply following through with the commitments you think people will remember; it means following through no matter what.
Place the same value on keeping small promises as you do on keeping the big ones.
Remember that being a man of your word is about integrity, and integrity matters even when no one is watching.
1-2. Write your commitments down.
Writing your commitments down can help you change how you think about them, as well as being a great tool to help you remember them. Use index cards to write important commitments or promises out and keep them someplace safe that is preferably visible to you on a daily basis.
Writing your commitments down may make you feel more accountable for actions.
The act of writing your commitments down can help you to remember them.
1-3. Bridge the gap between abstract long term commitments and short term experiences.
It can sometimes be easy to make commitments that would be unpleasant to keep because we tend not to think of things in the medium to distant future in a real way. If someone asks you to help them move next month, for instance, you are more likely to say yes than if they were to ask about this Sunday. That's because discomfort in the distant future doesn't seem real in the present.
Viewing future events in an abstract sense is called the “planning fallacy” and it can lead you to make commitments for the future that you may not otherwise have made.
Try to think of the things you are agreeing to do as though you were about to go do them right now. Don't agree to do things you wouldn't normally accept doing.
1-4. View your commitments as a privilege.
While it's easy to see the commitments you have to others as burdens, try to reframe the way you see them to reflect the trust others must have in you. You have earned the respect of people in your life, and as a part of that respect, commitments have arisen.
Following through on your word is a great way to show the people in your life that you care about them.
People rely on you based on trust and respect. Having commitments to others is borne out of the respect and trust people have for you.
2. Managing Your Conversations
2-1. Don't agree to do things you don't want to do.
Sometimes it may be tempting to agree to do something in conversation that you don't really want to do. Social or peer pressure can leave you agreeing to do something in the moment, despite not actually wanting to keep the commitment.
Don't succumb to peer pressure when asked to do something that you truly don't want to do. This will make it easier not to go back on your word later.
Treat your commitments as a valuable asset that you don't give away lightly.
2-2. Don't use excuses.
If you find that you will not be able to fulfil a commitment that you've made, take responsibility for it. Making excuses can seem disingenuous, and it removes your responsibility to follow through. Instead, be honest and apologetic when you need to cancel plans.
If you are uncomfortable explaining why you can't fulfil a promise, apologize sincerely and explain that you will try not to let it happen again.
Disallowing yourself from using excuses will help motivate you to keep your promises and fulfill commitments.
2-3. Don't be vague about what you are committing to do.
Do not say that you may be able to do something if you don't believe that you will for the sake of casual conversation. Instead, make solid commitments to do things when you intend to, and clearly explain that you cannot when you don't.
Don't use vague wording like, “I'm not sure but I'll try,” when you don't want to do something.
Be honest and clear about what you can and can't do. It's better to say you won't be able to do something now then to make excuses later.
2-4. Do what you said you'd do, even if you don't want to do it.
Force yourself to keep your word, even if you don't want to at times. Sometimes you may commit yourself to something at a moment when it seems like something you wouldn't mind doing, only to find yourself lacking the motivation or energy when the time comes to fulfill your commitment. Don't allow yourself to fall through because of a change of heart.
Always keep your promises and fulfil your commitments to the utmost of your ability.
Keeping your word even when you don't want to will help to teach you not to commit to things you will not want to do.
3. Helping Yourself Keep Promises
3-1. Get a commitment partner.
Find someone that you trust and ask them to be your commitment partner. A commitment partner is someone you share your personal, professional or social commitments with so they can hold you accountable for your actions. If you struggle to keep your commitments, a commitment partner could be a great tool for you.
Use your best friend or significant other as your commitment partner so they can ask you if you fulfilled the commitments you discuss with them.
Having someone to answer to can help motivate you to keep your commitments.
3-2. Schedule reminders for yourself on your phone or in your calendar.
If you find yourself unable to follow through with commitments because you forget about them, try scheduling reminders for yourself on your phone or e-mail calendar.
Most iPhones and Androids have applications that allow you to set reminders to go off at specific times and dates.
E-mail applications like Outlook can also provide you with reminders of things you have committed to do.
3-3. Keep commitments you make to yourself.
Following through is a habit, and as such you need to treat all commitments with equal importance. That means you must keep the promises you make to yourself as well as those you make to others.
When you decide to do something, do it, regardless of who you committed to.
Following through on your word no matter what will help make it second nature and eventually will require less and less mental effort.
3-4. Make a habit of keeping your promises.
When you make keeping your word a habit, it will become second nature to you. Instead of using tools to help you keep your word, you can train yourself to do so without having to convince yourself.
Make keeping your promises a habit so it requires less and less self-convincing to follow through.
Maintaining such a habit will lead others to see you as a man that keeps his word.
When you have a reputation for being honest, people will see you as being reliable, trustworthy, honorable, and consistent.
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Bridge the gap between abstract long term commitments and short term experiences.\\nIt can sometimes be easy to make commitments that would be unpleasant to keep because we tend not to think of things in the medium to distant future in a real way. If someone asks you to help them move next month, for instance, you are more likely to say yes than if they were to ask about this Sunday. That's because discomfort in the distant future doesn't seem real in the present.\\nViewing future events in an abstract sense is called the “planning fallacy” and it can lead you to make commitments for the future that you may not otherwise have made.\\nTry to think of the things you are agreeing to do as though you were about to go do them right now. Don't agree to do things you wouldn't normally accept doing.\\n1-4. View your commitments as a privilege.\\nWhile it's easy to see the commitments you have to others as burdens, try to reframe the way you see them to reflect the trust others must have in you. You have earned the respect of people in your life, and as a part of that respect, commitments have arisen.\\nFollowing through on your word is a great way to show the people in your life that you care about them.\\nPeople rely on you based on trust and respect. Having commitments to others is borne out of the respect and trust people have for you.\\n2. Managing Your Conversations\\n2-1. Don't agree to do things you don't want to do.\\nSometimes it may be tempting to agree to do something in conversation that you don't really want to do. Social or peer pressure can leave you agreeing to do something in the moment, despite not actually wanting to keep the commitment.\\nDon't succumb to peer pressure when asked to do something that you truly don't want to do. This will make it easier not to go back on your word later.\\nTreat your commitments as a valuable asset that you don't give away lightly.\\n2-2. Don't use excuses.\\nIf you find that you will not be able to fulfil a commitment that you've made, take responsibility for it. Making excuses can seem disingenuous, and it removes your responsibility to follow through. Instead, be honest and apologetic when you need to cancel plans.\\nIf you are uncomfortable explaining why you can't fulfil a promise, apologize sincerely and explain that you will try not to let it happen again.\\nDisallowing yourself from using excuses will help motivate you to keep your promises and fulfill commitments.\\n2-3. Don't be vague about what you are committing to do.\\nDo not say that you may be able to do something if you don't believe that you will for the sake of casual conversation. Instead, make solid commitments to do things when you intend to, and clearly explain that you cannot when you don't.\\nDon't use vague wording like, “I'm not sure but I'll try,” when you don't want to do something.\\nBe honest and clear about what you can and can't do. It's better to say you won't be able to do something now then to make excuses later.\\n2-4. Do what you said you'd do, even if you don't want to do it.\\nForce yourself to keep your word, even if you don't want to at times. Sometimes you may commit yourself to something at a moment when it seems like something you wouldn't mind doing, only to find yourself lacking the motivation or energy when the time comes to fulfill your commitment. Don't allow yourself to fall through because of a change of heart.\\nAlways keep your promises and fulfil your commitments to the utmost of your ability.\\nKeeping your word even when you don't want to will help to teach you not to commit to things you will not want to do.\\n3. Helping Yourself Keep Promises\\n3-1. Get a commitment partner.\\nFind someone that you trust and ask them to be your commitment partner. A commitment partner is someone you share your personal, professional or social commitments with so they can hold you accountable for your actions. If you struggle to keep your commitments, a commitment partner could be a great tool for you.\\nUse your best friend or significant other as your commitment partner so they can ask you if you fulfilled the commitments you discuss with them.\\nHaving someone to answer to can help motivate you to keep your commitments.\\n3-2. Schedule reminders for yourself on your phone or in your calendar.\\nIf you find yourself unable to follow through with commitments because you forget about them, try scheduling reminders for yourself on your phone or e-mail calendar.\\nMost iPhones and Androids have applications that allow you to set reminders to go off at specific times and dates.\\nE-mail applications like Outlook can also provide you with reminders of things you have committed to do.\\n3-3. Keep commitments you make to yourself.\\nFollowing through is a habit, and as such you need to treat all commitments with equal importance. That means you must keep the promises you make to yourself as well as those you make to others.\\nWhen you decide to do something, do it, regardless of who you committed to.\\nFollowing through on your word no matter what will help make it second nature and eventually will require less and less mental effort.\\n3-4. Make a habit of keeping your promises.\\nWhen you make keeping your word a habit, it will become second nature to you. Instead of using tools to help you keep your word, you can train yourself to do so without having to convince yourself.\\nMake keeping your promises a habit so it requires less and less self-convincing to follow through.\\nMaintaining such a habit will lead others to see you as a man that keeps his word.\\nWhen you have a reputation for being honest, people will see you as being reliable, trustworthy, honorable, and consistent.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a man of your word may sound like a traditional ideal, but even in the modern age personal ideals like trust, integrity and honesty have significant importance in social and professional interactions. 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That's because discomfort in the distant future doesn't seem real in the present.\\nViewing future events in an abstract sense is called the “planning fallacy” and it can lead you to make commitments for the future that you may not otherwise have made.\\nTry to think of the things you are agreeing to do as though you were about to go do them right now. Don't agree to do things you wouldn't normally accept doing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"View your commitments as a privilege.\", \"描述\": \"While it's easy to see the commitments you have to others as burdens, try to reframe the way you see them to reflect the trust others must have in you. You have earned the respect of people in your life, and as a part of that respect, commitments have arisen.\\nFollowing through on your word is a great way to show the people in your life that you care about them.\\nPeople rely on you based on trust and respect. 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1. Choosing Good Hiding Places
1-1. Search for items with long edges that you can hide behind.
Look for large pieces of furniture or house fixtures that are wide and long, and are difficult to peer around. If the seeker doesn’t feel like doing a thorough job in a certain room, you might be able to get away with an unexpectedly clever hiding spot.
For example, if there’s a room that’s divided by a sudden closet or angular wall, try hiding against the side of this surface. If the seeker doesn’t peer all the way around the corner, they might not notice you.
1-2. Take advantage of long curtains when you’re playing inside.
While thinner, more sheer curtains aren’t the best hiding spot, thick, neutral-toned drapes can provide an excellent place for you to hide on short notice. Take advantage of the ruffles in the drapes as you position yourself behind them, and stand as still as possible!
This works best with floor-length drapes, so your feet aren’t noticeably sticking out on the bottom.
Don’t pick this type of hiding spot unless you’re comfortable with standing for a long period of time.
1-3. Tuck yourself into a clothes hamper to hide in plain sight.
As the seeker is counting, find a laundry basket that you can squeeze or crouch into. Don’t worry if there’s clothing in the hamper; if anything, this makes your hiding spot more convincing! Take out the clothing and get into the bottom of the basket, then cover yourself with clothing!
Make sure that you have enough room to breathe when you’re doing this.
1-4. Look for shrubbery or tall grass that you can blend in with.
Search for spots in a yard or park that appear especially inconspicuous to the naked eye. Squat, kneel, or lay down beneath a bush or some tall grass so that you can blend in better. If you really want to pull off this hiding spot, try wearing darker clothes!
Be sure to wear clothes that you don’t mind getting dirty or dusty.
1-5. Search for unlikely spots to hide in a yard, like a ditch.
Look along the edge of your game’s boundaries, like the property line of a yard or the edge of a lawn. Even if it takes you a little bit longer, try to go to these outer areas and make yourself as flat and 2-dimensional as possible. While this might be a little risky, there’s a chance that the seeker won’t notice you if you’re hiding in plain sight.
To make the hiding spot more convincing, wear neutral-toned or darker clothes when you’re playing the game.
2. Improving Your Hiding Strategies
2-1. Determine how long the seeker is allowed to count for at the beginning of the round.
Clarify how long the hiders will have to find a hiding spot before the seeker stops counting. Many games employ a rule of 50 seconds, while other people have opted for a shorter time span. Keep this amount of time in mind so you can plan for the perfect hiding spot.
While it’s fun to be ambitious, don’t go for an impossible-to-reach hiding location. The longer it takes you to hide, the greater the chances are that the seeker will find you early on.
2-2. Pick a hiding place after the seeker looks in a room.
When the seeker starts counting, don’t pick a hiding place right away. Instead, hover in a far away corner and wait for the seeker to check a certain room. Since there’s a good chance that they won’t check the room for a while, hide in that spot after the seeker leaves.
Check and make sure that you’re allowed to do this before the game starts. Some groups might have stricter rules than others!
2-3. Look for areas that provide a lot of camouflage.
Try to avoid areas that are painted or filled with furniture that’s a solid color. Unless you’re playing in the dark, you won’t be able to blend in very well to a couch or curtain that’s bright red. Instead, look for multi-colored areas where you can try and blend into the background.
Try and use decoys whenever possible. If there’s a bedroom or couch in your hiding area, stuff a few pillows under a blanket and lay it on the surface. The seeker might get distracted and check under the blanket, which will buy you more time.
2-4. Inhale in slow breaths so you’re not overheard.
Don’t give yourself away by breathing heavily. As tempting and clever as it might originally seem to hold your breath, you might find yourself in trouble once your lungs need more air. Instead, imitate military breathing exercises and take low, slow breaths. If you’re quiet, the seeker won’t be able to detect you by sound!
Practice this type of breathing throughout the day, even when you’re not playing the game. This will help you gain expertise for future rounds of hide and seek!
2-5. Don’t hide in any dangerous areas during the game.
Avoid the temptation to hide on an especially high ledge, or to sneak into a clothes dryer. As creative as these ideas are, there’s a big risk for injury and worse if you try and fit yourself in an unstable area. Before the round starts, clarify with the other players if there are any spots that are off-limits.
If you aren’t sure if you’re allowed to hide in a certain area, then don’t hide there at all. You can’t master the game if you end up breaking the rules!
3. Developing Better Seeking Skills
3-1. Keep track of the places you’ve already searched.
Take a mental note of the rooms and areas that you’ve looked through. Once you’ve examined a room thoroughly and found no people hiding inside, mark that room off as searched. Depending on your play style, continue searching in a grid-style pattern or by randomly checking rooms to keep other players on their toes. Whatever you do, remember where you have and haven’t been.
Keep in mind that hiders might sneak into rooms that you’ve already searched. Hiders may tuck away into a bathroom or corner then hide in a room you've already searched. Once you’ve searched all main areas, double back to find any stragglers in the previously checked rooms.
3-2. Check behind objects with wide angles to be thorough.
Look for less obvious hiding spots or inanimate objects that are just wide enough for people to fit behind. Try putting yourself in the shoes of the people who are hiding, as this might help you gain some perspective and out-of-the-box ideas on where to search.
Be on the lookout for walls that cut through the center of a room, in addition to certain items of furniture, like desks and long sofas.
3-3. Think outside of the box whenever you play as the seeker.
Use your knowledge of your friend’s tendencies and preferences to try and find them earlier on in the game. Try and put yourself in your friend’s position. If you were this person, where would you be most likely to hide? Take advantage of these theoretical questions as you search throughout the hiding area.
3-4. Search lower areas to see if anyone is crouching to hide.
Look under beds, tables, and any other surface that can fit a person beneath it. Although many people hide in perfectly normal and average spots, other people might hide by squatting in a closet, or by planking beneath a table. Keep this in mind, especially when you’re playing with smaller/younger individuals.
If you want to make the game harder for seekers, then make spaces like closets and pantries off-limits.
3-5. Memorize your playing area for the round.
Have a good sense of your bearings throughout the game. To save time while you’re playing as seeker, take a moment to commit the basic floor plan of your playing area to memory. Whether you’re playing outdoors or indoors, keep in mind the widest, most open spaces as well as the smaller, more compact places where players are most likely to hide.
For instance, it’s much less likely that players will hide in the large, open areas of your play area. Because of this, you might have more success searching in narrow corridors and other less obvious places.
Tips
Since there are different versions of Hide and Seek like Flashlight and Sardines, see if there are any special rules or requirements in your specific game that break away from the traditional rule set.[8]
X
Research source
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The longer it takes you to hide, the greater the chances are that the seeker will find you early on.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pick a hiding place after the seeker looks in a room.\", \"描述\": \"When the seeker starts counting, don’t pick a hiding place right away. Instead, hover in a far away corner and wait for the seeker to check a certain room. Since there’s a good chance that they won’t check the room for a while, hide in that spot after the seeker leaves.\\nCheck and make sure that you’re allowed to do this before the game starts. Some groups might have stricter rules than others!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look for areas that provide a lot of camouflage.\", \"描述\": \"Try to avoid areas that are painted or filled with furniture that’s a solid color. Unless you’re playing in the dark, you won’t be able to blend in very well to a couch or curtain that’s bright red. Instead, look for multi-colored areas where you can try and blend into the background.\\nTry and use decoys whenever possible. If there’s a bedroom or couch in your hiding area, stuff a few pillows under a blanket and lay it on the surface. The seeker might get distracted and check under the blanket, which will buy you more time.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Inhale in slow breaths so you’re not overheard.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t give yourself away by breathing heavily. As tempting and clever as it might originally seem to hold your breath, you might find yourself in trouble once your lungs need more air. Instead, imitate military breathing exercises and take low, slow breaths. If you’re quiet, the seeker won’t be able to detect you by sound!\\nPractice this type of breathing throughout the day, even when you’re not playing the game. This will help you gain expertise for future rounds of hide and seek!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don’t hide in any dangerous areas during the game.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid the temptation to hide on an especially high ledge, or to sneak into a clothes dryer. As creative as these ideas are, there’s a big risk for injury and worse if you try and fit yourself in an unstable area. Before the round starts, clarify with the other players if there are any spots that are off-limits.\\nIf you aren’t sure if you’re allowed to hide in a certain area, then don’t hide there at all. You can’t master the game if you end up breaking the rules!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Better Seeking Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep track of the places you’ve already searched.\", \"描述\": \"Take a mental note of the rooms and areas that you’ve looked through. Once you’ve examined a room thoroughly and found no people hiding inside, mark that room off as searched. 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1. Ask for permission.
A single friend isn’t necessarily an unhappy friend.
Always check in with your friends and classmates before you start playing Cupid. Some people just aren’t looking for a relationship, while others may still be coping with a break-up. Before you get the ball rolling, ask something like this:
“Hey Amber! I think you’d be a really great match with this guy from my math class. Would you like me to try and set something up?”
“Hi Dan! This might sound crazy, but I think Kelsey from our physics class really likes you. Would you like me to scope things out?”
2. Match people who have shared interests.
Being single doesn’t count as common ground.
Every person is incredibly unique, from their hobbies and passions to their favorite music group. Matching people on a random whim is just asking for trouble. Instead, match up your friends and classmates who have something significant in common.
Try pairing 2 classmates who have the same sense of humor.
Set up a date between 2 peers who are aspiring doctors.
Match up a member of the lacrosse team with a member of the field hockey team.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself to create a perfect match. You're never going to find someone who's 100% perfect for another person.
3. Scope out potential compatibility issues.
Pairing a player with someone hoping to go steady is a recipe for disaster.
Before you make a move, do a little research first. If your match-up offers more long-term risks than rewards, it probably isn’t worth pursuing.
If you don’t know a lot about your match-up, ask some other peers for advice. You might say, “Do you think Hannah and Derek would be a good couple?” or “Has Sarah dated anyone recently?”
4. Ask yourself if the relationship could cause drama.
Do a little extra research if both people are from the same friend group.
Did either person date someone else in the friend group? If so, did the relationship end on good terms? Don’t set up a match that’s destined to be overshadowed by jealousy and hurt feelings.
If Jack used to date Maria’s best friend, setting up Jack and Maria may not be a good idea.
If Sam has an on-again/off-again relationship with a guy on the basketball team, you shouldn’t set her up with a different guy on the team.
5. Tune in to your feelings.
Ask yourself if you’re crushing on 1 of the people you’re matching up.
Do you genuinely think these people would make a good couple, or are you repressing your own feelings by putting them together? Don’t sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of someone else.
6. Get to the point instead of making a sales pitch.
You’re setting up a date, not auditioning for an infomercial.
Chances are, your classmate isn’t interested in a list of adjectives about why someone is “perfect” for them. Instead, focus on the person’s morals and values, and why you think they’d be compatible with your friend. While you’re at it, use this conversation to share any possible dealbreakers, so your peer knows exactly what they’d be getting into. Try saying something like:
“Cliff really cares about the environment and spends most of his weekends volunteering. I know you spend a lot of time at the local animal shelter, so I think you’d be a great match.”
“I’m pretty sure that Jessica lives on the other side of town. I don’t know if location is a big dealbreaker for you, but I just wanted to let you know.”
7. Arrange the date.
Plan something that both people will like.
Maybe you’ll invite them both to a small party, or set up a date at a nearby cafe. Once you’ve settled on a time and place, offer to show up at the date yourself, which may help make things less awkward. When both people seem comfortable, you can leave them on their own.
Remember—you aren’t trying to blindside them. Say something like, “Jane is definitely interested in hanging out with you. Would you be interested in grabbing coffee this Saturday around 11?”
Or, you might say, “Rob said that he’ll be shooting hoops at the community center tomorrow night. Would you like to meet him there?”
You could set up an outdoor date, too! That might feel more fun and laid-back than something like a dinner date.
8. Stay calm instead of gushing about the date.
At the end of the day, you can’t control how people feel about each other.
As excited as you might be, don’t overhype the date or put extra pressure on your classmates. Maybe the date will be a huge success, or maybe they’ll realize they have nothing in common. Regardless, no amount of excited, overzealous questions will change anything. Try to keep your comments as neutral as possible.
“Just see how the date goes!” is much more neutral than “I’m so excited for your date on Friday. You guys are gonna have a blast!”
“What do you think of Maya?” is a much better question than “So, do you love Maya or what?”
9. Offer support after the date.
One or both of them may want to share their thoughts.
As a matchmaker, your job is to see the date through to the very end. Offer a listening ear and let your classmates speak their mind. Then, feel free to offer some advice. You could say:
“It sounds like you aren’t sure about how you feel. It probably wouldn’t hurt to go on another date and see if there’s actually a connection there.”
“It’s okay if you don’t like them! Just be honest about your feelings and let them know that it’s nothing personal.”
10. Don’t force an unsuccessful match.
It can be frustrating to see all your hard work and planning amount to nothing.
That’s okay! Don’t try to force your classmates on a second date if the sparks weren’t flying on the first one. Instead, just let it go and focus on setting up your next match.
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How to Be a Mature Teenager
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1. Acting Emotionally Mature
1-1. Don’t take your emotions out on others.
To be mature, you’ll have to get a handle on the uncomfortable feelings you experience, such as anger, disappointment, or embarrassment. Cursing or shouting at others because you feel terrible won’t help you look mature. Find healthy ways to release and express your emotions instead.
First, understand why you are feeling this way. Answer three questions: what happened before, how does it feel in your body, and how would you label the feeling?
Next, decide how you can express this feeling without hurting yourself or others. You might write in a journal, burn off some steam by exercising or playing sports, or listen to some music that reflects your emotions.
1-2. Take ownership for your behavior.
When you make a mistake, it won’t do you any good to blame someone else or make an excuse. Putting the fault off on others can ruin your relationships. Plus, you will never learn and grow if you don’t face consequences.
Step up to the plate and take full responsibility when you make a mistake. Do this by immediately admitting your wrongdoing. This can be as simple as saying “My bad” or “That was my mistake.” If you hurt someone, apologize. Then, figure out how you can make amends.
For instance, if you left the back door open and your cat got out, admit it. You might say, “I’m sorry. I left the back door open. I’ll go ask the neighbors if they have seen the cat.”
1-3. Think before acting.
Maturity means thinking about the consequences of your actions. Whenever you are about to say or do something, take a couple of seconds to think about the outcome of your words or actions. Acting on impulse may feel good in the moment, but it can get you into trouble in the long run.
To prevent impulse reactions, pause before making decisions or taking any action. Take a few deep breaths.
Ask yourself, “what is my conscience saying? Will this harm me, or anyone else? How would I feel if someone did this to me, or how will I feel about myself later, if I do this?”
For example, a friend asks if you want to cut class. You might pause and breathe deeply. Think about why you would do this—maybe you just want to hang out. Think about what might happen if you do it: you might get caught and get in trouble with the school and your parents.
Going through this process each time you make a choice will help you make smarter decisions.
1-4. Practice gratitude.
Adults are more likely to respect and admire you when you learn to appreciate the things you have. Limit complaining about what you don't have. Instead, practice gratitude.
At the end of each day, jot down in a notebook three things that went well for you that day. Spend a few moments thinking about these positive events or outcomes. Try to draw in good feelings about them.
2. Behaving Appropriately
2-1. Follow the rules.
If you want to act in a mature fashion, you need to respect authority. No matter where you go—home, school, or work—you will have to obey rules set by authority figures. In most cases, these rules are set to keep you and others safe, so comply with them.
It’s normal for teens to want to push back against authority sometimes. If you want to discuss rules with authority figures, argue your case in a respectful manner. That way, the adult is more likely to listen.
For example, you might say, “Mom and Dad, I’m fifteen now and I think I deserve a later curfew. I always come home on time and I never get into trouble. What do you say?”
2-2. Be a leader.
One of the best ways to be more mature is to show responsibility in the different aspects of your life. Participate in class, have good study habits, and join an extracurricular activity. If you think you have enough time, try holding a leadership office in a club or picking up a part-time job.
2-3. Be responsible and own up to your actions.
Follow through on your commitments and take care of yourself and your activities on your own as much as you can. If you do get in trouble for some reason, be honest and accept whatever consequences might follow. By holding yourself accountable for your own actions, you can show your maturity to your parents and others.
For example, if your friends have invited you to a sleepover but you already agreed to babysit your younger siblings that night, politely turn your friends down. It might be hard, but being mature means sticking to your commitments and showing you can be trusted to follow through.
2-4. Use your manners
Having good manners shows respect. Proper behavior also helps adults see you as more mature. Good manners cover a wide range of behaviors: saying “yes, sir/ma’am,” answering the phone with “hello,” not interrupting others’ conversations, chewing with your mouth closed, and holding the door for the person walking behind you.
Many rules of etiquette may already have been explained to you. However, you can ask your parents or other adults, “How can I show good manners?” to learn more.
2-5. Clean up after yourself.
A mature person doesn’t expect others to go around cleaning up their messes. If you’re a teen trying to be mature, then you’ll want to start picking up behind yourself. This means putting your plate away after meals and wiping up any spills. You should also return games, movies, or books to their proper place after using them.
Keep your room tidy by tossing dirty clothes in the laundry and putting away clean clothes in drawers or in the closet. Make your bed each morning immediately after you get up. Place your book bag on a hook behind the door to keep it off the floor. Line up shoes under your bed or on shelves in your closet so you and your parents don’t trip over them.
Make it easier to tidy by setting a timer for 20 minutes and doing a deep-clean of your room once a day. Play some music to make the time go faster.
2-6. Develop smart and healthy habits.
A mature teen knows to say “no” to delinquent behaviors. Using alcohol and drugs, lying, stealing, fighting, acting recklessly, or destroying others’ property will only get you into trouble or hurt. Instead, be drug-free, wear your seat belt when driving or riding in a car, and stay away from negative influences.
3. Developing Intellectual Maturity
3-1. Stay informed on current events.
Read up on current issues and events in the newspaper and legitimate online sources. Don't rely on information from your social media feed. Make an effort to seek out other sources for news and stay in the know about what’s happening in the world around you.
When you learn about current events, discuss them with your parents or other adults. You might say, “What do you think about the president’s new bill, Dad?”
Look at online sources like CNN Student News, BBC News, and Smithsonian Tween Tribune. Read the newspaper in the mornings and check out a few academic journals from the library on topics you’re interested in.
3-2. Read books.
Whether you are reading a book about real-world facts or made-up stories, reading can be a great hobby. Reading a book not only makes you wiser, but also adds new words to your vocabulary. This helps you improve your ability to comprehend and even enhances your own writing skills. Plus, reading can help you relieve stress, too.
Go beyond the reading assignments needed for school. To enjoy the habit of reading, choose books that relate to your interests, such as airplanes or ancient Egypt.
3-3. Use your critical thinking skills.
Critical thinking skills describe the way you go about solving a problem. You might jump at the quickest answer that comes to mind, or you might spend more time viewing all angles of the problem before selecting an answer. Being a critical thinker can help you better judge the consequences of your actions, evaluate the validity of information, and learn to think outside the box.
A great way to build critical thinking skills is by playing board games. Schedule a game night with your family and/or closest pals. Good board game options include Apples to Apples and Scattergories.
4. Communicating in a Mature Way
4-1. Communicate clearly
Many adolescents and teens communicate in a style that leaves teachers and parents scratching their heads. If you want to be viewed as mature, you should speak in a way that others understand. Use proper words, not shorthand or acronyms. Write in complete sentences with proper spelling.
If you want to learn appropriate ways to engage in conversation with others, ask your parents to role-play communication with you.
4-2. Use active listening.
Many teens assume they know everything, so they don’t want to listen to others. A sign of maturity is knowing that you can learn something from everyone. Try to listen more than you speak.
A good rule-of-thumb is to listen to understand rather than listening to reply. Try to figure out what the other person is trying to say. Don’t interrupt or rush to get your message across. Fully hear them out. Then, try to summarize what you think they said.
For instance, your mom says, “I’ll be out of town this weekend and I’m concerned about leaving you at home alone. I think you should try to stay with the Woodards.” You might respond, “I can see you are worried about me being here by myself. I agree. I will see if Pat’s parents don’t mind me staying over.”
4-3. Avoid using slang or swear words.
Using slang or other popular terms strictly in the presence of peers is okay. But, when you are communicating with adults, try to use words in their proper form. Don’t try to talk over adults heads by using terms they aren’t familiar with. Also, avoid using swear words, which is a sign of disrespect.
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Plus, you will never learn and grow if you don’t face consequences.\\nStep up to the plate and take full responsibility when you make a mistake. Do this by immediately admitting your wrongdoing. This can be as simple as saying “My bad” or “That was my mistake.” If you hurt someone, apologize. Then, figure out how you can make amends.\\nFor instance, if you left the back door open and your cat got out, admit it. You might say, “I’m sorry. I left the back door open. I’ll go ask the neighbors if they have seen the cat.”\\n1-3. Think before acting.\\nMaturity means thinking about the consequences of your actions. Whenever you are about to say or do something, take a couple of seconds to think about the outcome of your words or actions. Acting on impulse may feel good in the moment, but it can get you into trouble in the long run.\\nTo prevent impulse reactions, pause before making decisions or taking any action. Take a few deep breaths.\\nAsk yourself, “what is my conscience saying? Will this harm me, or anyone else? How would I feel if someone did this to me, or how will I feel about myself later, if I do this?”\\nFor example, a friend asks if you want to cut class. You might pause and breathe deeply. Think about why you would do this—maybe you just want to hang out. Think about what might happen if you do it: you might get caught and get in trouble with the school and your parents.\\nGoing through this process each time you make a choice will help you make smarter decisions.\\n1-4. Practice gratitude.\\nAdults are more likely to respect and admire you when you learn to appreciate the things you have. Limit complaining about what you don't have. Instead, practice gratitude.\\nAt the end of each day, jot down in a notebook three things that went well for you that day. Spend a few moments thinking about these positive events or outcomes. Try to draw in good feelings about them.\\n2. Behaving Appropriately\\n2-1. Follow the rules.\\nIf you want to act in a mature fashion, you need to respect authority. No matter where you go—home, school, or work—you will have to obey rules set by authority figures. In most cases, these rules are set to keep you and others safe, so comply with them.\\nIt’s normal for teens to want to push back against authority sometimes. If you want to discuss rules with authority figures, argue your case in a respectful manner. That way, the adult is more likely to listen.\\nFor example, you might say, “Mom and Dad, I’m fifteen now and I think I deserve a later curfew. I always come home on time and I never get into trouble. What do you say?”\\n2-2. Be a leader.\\nOne of the best ways to be more mature is to show responsibility in the different aspects of your life. Participate in class, have good study habits, and join an extracurricular activity. If you think you have enough time, try holding a leadership office in a club or picking up a part-time job.\\n2-3. Be responsible and own up to your actions.\\nFollow through on your commitments and take care of yourself and your activities on your own as much as you can. If you do get in trouble for some reason, be honest and accept whatever consequences might follow. By holding yourself accountable for your own actions, you can show your maturity to your parents and others.\\nFor example, if your friends have invited you to a sleepover but you already agreed to babysit your younger siblings that night, politely turn your friends down. It might be hard, but being mature means sticking to your commitments and showing you can be trusted to follow through.\\n2-4. Use your manners\\nHaving good manners shows respect. Proper behavior also helps adults see you as more mature. Good manners cover a wide range of behaviors: saying “yes, sir/ma’am,” answering the phone with “hello,” not interrupting others’ conversations, chewing with your mouth closed, and holding the door for the person walking behind you.\\nMany rules of etiquette may already have been explained to you. However, you can ask your parents or other adults, “How can I show good manners?” to learn more.\\n2-5. Clean up after yourself.\\nA mature person doesn’t expect others to go around cleaning up their messes. If you’re a teen trying to be mature, then you’ll want to start picking up behind yourself. This means putting your plate away after meals and wiping up any spills. You should also return games, movies, or books to their proper place after using them.\\nKeep your room tidy by tossing dirty clothes in the laundry and putting away clean clothes in drawers or in the closet. Make your bed each morning immediately after you get up. Place your book bag on a hook behind the door to keep it off the floor. Line up shoes under your bed or on shelves in your closet so you and your parents don’t trip over them.\\nMake it easier to tidy by setting a timer for 20 minutes and doing a deep-clean of your room once a day. Play some music to make the time go faster.\\n2-6. Develop smart and healthy habits.\\nA mature teen knows to say “no” to delinquent behaviors. Using alcohol and drugs, lying, stealing, fighting, acting recklessly, or destroying others’ property will only get you into trouble or hurt. Instead, be drug-free, wear your seat belt when driving or riding in a car, and stay away from negative influences.\\n3. Developing Intellectual Maturity\\n3-1. Stay informed on current events.\\nRead up on current issues and events in the newspaper and legitimate online sources. Don't rely on information from your social media feed. Make an effort to seek out other sources for news and stay in the know about what’s happening in the world around you.\\nWhen you learn about current events, discuss them with your parents or other adults. You might say, “What do you think about the president’s new bill, Dad?”\\nLook at online sources like CNN Student News, BBC News, and Smithsonian Tween Tribune. Read the newspaper in the mornings and check out a few academic journals from the library on topics you’re interested in.\\n3-2. Read books.\\nWhether you are reading a book about real-world facts or made-up stories, reading can be a great hobby. Reading a book not only makes you wiser, but also adds new words to your vocabulary. This helps you improve your ability to comprehend and even enhances your own writing skills. Plus, reading can help you relieve stress, too.\\nGo beyond the reading assignments needed for school. To enjoy the habit of reading, choose books that relate to your interests, such as airplanes or ancient Egypt.\\n3-3. Use your critical thinking skills.\\nCritical thinking skills describe the way you go about solving a problem. You might jump at the quickest answer that comes to mind, or you might spend more time viewing all angles of the problem before selecting an answer. Being a critical thinker can help you better judge the consequences of your actions, evaluate the validity of information, and learn to think outside the box.\\nA great way to build critical thinking skills is by playing board games. Schedule a game night with your family and/or closest pals. Good board game options include Apples to Apples and Scattergories.\\n4. Communicating in a Mature Way\\n4-1. Communicate clearly\\nMany adolescents and teens communicate in a style that leaves teachers and parents scratching their heads. If you want to be viewed as mature, you should speak in a way that others understand. Use proper words, not shorthand or acronyms. Write in complete sentences with proper spelling.\\nIf you want to learn appropriate ways to engage in conversation with others, ask your parents to role-play communication with you.\\n4-2. Use active listening.\\nMany teens assume they know everything, so they don’t want to listen to others. A sign of maturity is knowing that you can learn something from everyone. Try to listen more than you speak.\\nA good rule-of-thumb is to listen to understand rather than listening to reply. Try to figure out what the other person is trying to say. Don’t interrupt or rush to get your message across. Fully hear them out. Then, try to summarize what you think they said.\\nFor instance, your mom says, “I’ll be out of town this weekend and I’m concerned about leaving you at home alone. I think you should try to stay with the Woodards.” You might respond, “I can see you are worried about me being here by myself. I agree. I will see if Pat’s parents don’t mind me staying over.”\\n4-3. Avoid using slang or swear words.\\nUsing slang or other popular terms strictly in the presence of peers is okay. But, when you are communicating with adults, try to use words in their proper form. Don’t try to talk over adults heads by using terms they aren’t familiar with. Also, avoid using swear words, which is a sign of disrespect.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Teens are often called immature by their parents or older peers. Because of this, you might be on a mission to become more mature. In general, maturity comes with age—you may not be able to truly mature until you go through different life experiences. Still, if you want to come off as more mature to others, there are a few areas you can tweak. 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I’ll go ask the neighbors if they have seen the cat.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Think before acting.\", \"描述\": \"Maturity means thinking about the consequences of your actions. Whenever you are about to say or do something, take a couple of seconds to think about the outcome of your words or actions. Acting on impulse may feel good in the moment, but it can get you into trouble in the long run.\\nTo prevent impulse reactions, pause before making decisions or taking any action. Take a few deep breaths.\\nAsk yourself, “what is my conscience saying? Will this harm me, or anyone else? How would I feel if someone did this to me, or how will I feel about myself later, if I do this?”\\nFor example, a friend asks if you want to cut class. You might pause and breathe deeply. Think about why you would do this—maybe you just want to hang out. 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How to Be a Memorable First Date
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1. Planning the Date
1-1. Suggest a unique date.
One way to ensure you'll be memorable is to pick a date that you know will set you apart. Instead of going to dinner and a movie, pick something that will make you stand out compared to other dates you've been on.
Ask your date to an art show, or invite them to a painting class.
Ask them to go to an arcade.
If you're into music, invite your date to a record store to talk about music and your favorite bands.
Make a picnic and spend time feeding ducks in the park.
1-2. Pick an activity that also allows time to talk.
To be memorable, your date needs to get to know you, so make sure you are able to talk during your date. Choosing an activity instead of a sit down discussion will help ease awkward silences and give you something to talk about in a pinch since you can talk about what you're doing.
Try mini golf or bowling.
Play pool.
Go to a carnival or theme park.
1-3. Think of a few fun topics to talk about.
While you don’t want to plan out everything you’ll say, you’ll feel less nervous and will be able to converse easily if you have a go-to list of fun topics to discuss. You’ll also avoid spending too much time talking about topics like work or school.
Make a list of stories about you that people usually find interesting.
Write down a list of interesting facts you know.
List the five most interesting things that have happened to you.
1-4. Choose an outfit that shows something about you.
In addition to choosing clothes that make you look good, dress in a way that says something about you. The clothes you pick give you another chance to stand out and be memorable.
If you're a music buff, wear a T-shirt with your favorite band’s logo.
Accessorize with your handmade jewelry.
Choose a great pin-up dress if you're into vintage.
2. Having Fun on the Date
2-1. Be yourself
Don’t try to impress your date by acting like you’re someone you’re not. Being yourself will create a longer-lasting impression because people can tell when you’re being authentic. Not only that, but you’ll have a much better time if you’re able to relax and just be you.
2-2. Be enthusiastic.
A great attitude makes an impression on someone. Show your date that you have a zest for life and are happy to be out with them, and they’ll be more likely to get you stuck in their mind.
Gush about the activity. Say, “I’m so excited we decided to try this!”
Point out things you like about the place. Say, “Wow, I love how they decorated the walls with local art.”
2-3. Give them a compliment.
Everyone loves to hear good things about themself, especially from someone they’re out on a date with. Your date will likely be nervous, and giving them a compliment can be a great way to put them into a good mood. If they’re feeling good about the date, then they’ll likely be feeling good about you, too.
Say, “That shirt looks great on you,” or “Wow, I think those are the coolest shoes I’ve ever seen.”
If they’re wearing a brand or style you’re familiar with, comment on it. Say, “I see you’re a fan of leather, too. That’s a great jacket.”
2-4. Be a good listener
Listen to what your date has to say, and show them that you care by repeating parts back to them. Try not to interrupt them, and don’t hog the conversation with stories about yourself.
Make eye contact and nod along.
Repeat part of what they said back to them to show that you’re listening and care about what they say. For example, say, “Wow, I can’t believe that your lost dog walked across the state to get back to you. It’s so great that you guys were reunited.”
2-5. Avoid asking too many questions.
While you want to know a lot about your date and want the conversation to keep moving, don’t just ask them a bunch of questions. You don’t want your date to feel interrogated. Instead, build off of their answers.
After they tell you their favorite style of music, say, “I love alt-rock, too. There’s a local record store that holds free concerts a few times a month.”
Give them a chance to talk more about the topic or ask you something before you ask another question.
2-6. Create conversation.
Don’t rely on getting to know each other for the whole conversation because it could wreck the vibe of your date. Instead, point out things that are going on during the date and comment about them. This will also help them remember the fun they had with you in addition to what they learned about you.
If there’s music playing, make a comment about the song. Say, “It’s been forever since I heard this song, but it still makes me feel like dancing.”
2-7. Laugh at yourself.
Laughing at yourself shows that you can be relaxed and take things in stride. This will show your date that you’re easy to be around. It also shows that you have a sense of humor and can be an entertaining date.
Point out your goofs and laugh. This could be your gutter balls during bowling, your stray balls at mini golf, or the toppings that slid off your pizza.
2-8. Avoid discussing your problems or flaws.
While it’s fun to laugh at your mistakes, pointing out your personal flaws on a first date will make you look insecure. It’s also no fun for your date, so don’t talk about how your eyes are too close together, you want to lose weight, or you hope your skin clears up soon. Instead, keep the conversation light and fun.
Don’t tell them what you hate about your appearance.
Don’t apologize for how you look.
2-9. Be spontaneous.
Sometimes the most memorable events aren't planned, so be flexible on your date. If the opportunity to do something exciting comes up, take it.
For example, you and your date might be offered free tickets to a concert, you may come across a fireworks display or an outdoor event put on by your city, or you may notice an interesting venue near where you planned to have your date.
Go with the flow. Don't be locked into your plans if you have a chance to do something memorable.
3. Ending the Date
3-1. Remind them of something you discussed earlier.
Bring up a fun topic from earlier in your date to remind them of the great time the two of you had and how interesting you are. Choose something that points to a follow-up date.
Say, “I can't believe you've never tried Hank’s Pizza. We should go sometime soon.”
Say, “I still think I can ice skate better than you can. Want to have a faceoff soon?”
3-2. Tell them you had a great time.
Leave things on a positive note by telling them that you enjoyed the date. This will give them a good feeling, which should make the date more memorable. It also tells them that you’re probably open to a second date.
Say, “Tonight was awesome! I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.”
3-3. Lean in for the kiss if you want one.
The good night kiss can be the most awkward part of a first date, but it’s also the most exhilarating. If you’re interested in a kiss, lean in. If they’re interested, they’ll likely lean in, too. A goodnight kiss can make you a very memorable first date.
3-4. Send a follow-up text the next day.
Remind your date that you had a great time, and mention something funny or memorable that happened on your date. This will keep you fresh on their mind, making you memorable.
Say, "I had such a great time last night. I'm glad you were there to witness my epic nacho fail."
Tips
Choose a place for your date that you think you’ll both enjoy.
Both people on a first date are apprehensive and somewhat nervous, so try to use humor to keep the mood light and fun.
Don't be someone you're not. Be yourself and share helpful thoughts with your date. Discuss your likes and dislikes and don't just talk, listen too. Maybe what your date is looking in a partner is somebody who listens to him/her.
Warnings
Bring enough enough money or a payment method so you can cover your costs and/or pay for a way home if you need to.
Don’t lie to try to make someone like you. Just be yourself.
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Think of a few fun topics to talk about.\\nWhile you don’t want to plan out everything you’ll say, you’ll feel less nervous and will be able to converse easily if you have a go-to list of fun topics to discuss. You’ll also avoid spending too much time talking about topics like work or school.\\nMake a list of stories about you that people usually find interesting.\\nWrite down a list of interesting facts you know.\\nList the five most interesting things that have happened to you.\\n1-4. Choose an outfit that shows something about you.\\nIn addition to choosing clothes that make you look good, dress in a way that says something about you. The clothes you pick give you another chance to stand out and be memorable.\\nIf you're a music buff, wear a T-shirt with your favorite band’s logo.\\nAccessorize with your handmade jewelry.\\nChoose a great pin-up dress if you're into vintage.\\n2. Having Fun on the Date\\n2-1. Be yourself\\nDon’t try to impress your date by acting like you’re someone you’re not. Being yourself will create a longer-lasting impression because people can tell when you’re being authentic. Not only that, but you’ll have a much better time if you’re able to relax and just be you.\\n2-2. Be enthusiastic.\\nA great attitude makes an impression on someone. Show your date that you have a zest for life and are happy to be out with them, and they’ll be more likely to get you stuck in their mind.\\nGush about the activity. Say, “I’m so excited we decided to try this!”\\nPoint out things you like about the place. Say, “Wow, I love how they decorated the walls with local art.”\\n2-3. Give them a compliment.\\nEveryone loves to hear good things about themself, especially from someone they’re out on a date with. Your date will likely be nervous, and giving them a compliment can be a great way to put them into a good mood. If they’re feeling good about the date, then they’ll likely be feeling good about you, too.\\nSay, “That shirt looks great on you,” or “Wow, I think those are the coolest shoes I’ve ever seen.”\\nIf they’re wearing a brand or style you’re familiar with, comment on it. Say, “I see you’re a fan of leather, too. That’s a great jacket.”\\n2-4. Be a good listener\\nListen to what your date has to say, and show them that you care by repeating parts back to them. Try not to interrupt them, and don’t hog the conversation with stories about yourself.\\nMake eye contact and nod along.\\nRepeat part of what they said back to them to show that you’re listening and care about what they say. For example, say, “Wow, I can’t believe that your lost dog walked across the state to get back to you. It’s so great that you guys were reunited.”\\n2-5. Avoid asking too many questions.\\nWhile you want to know a lot about your date and want the conversation to keep moving, don’t just ask them a bunch of questions. You don’t want your date to feel interrogated. Instead, build off of their answers.\\nAfter they tell you their favorite style of music, say, “I love alt-rock, too. There’s a local record store that holds free concerts a few times a month.”\\nGive them a chance to talk more about the topic or ask you something before you ask another question.\\n2-6. Create conversation.\\nDon’t rely on getting to know each other for the whole conversation because it could wreck the vibe of your date. Instead, point out things that are going on during the date and comment about them. This will also help them remember the fun they had with you in addition to what they learned about you.\\nIf there’s music playing, make a comment about the song. Say, “It’s been forever since I heard this song, but it still makes me feel like dancing.”\\n2-7. Laugh at yourself.\\nLaughing at yourself shows that you can be relaxed and take things in stride. This will show your date that you’re easy to be around. It also shows that you have a sense of humor and can be an entertaining date.\\nPoint out your goofs and laugh. This could be your gutter balls during bowling, your stray balls at mini golf, or the toppings that slid off your pizza.\\n2-8. Avoid discussing your problems or flaws.\\nWhile it’s fun to laugh at your mistakes, pointing out your personal flaws on a first date will make you look insecure. It’s also no fun for your date, so don’t talk about how your eyes are too close together, you want to lose weight, or you hope your skin clears up soon. Instead, keep the conversation light and fun.\\nDon’t tell them what you hate about your appearance.\\nDon’t apologize for how you look.\\n2-9. Be spontaneous.\\nSometimes the most memorable events aren't planned, so be flexible on your date. If the opportunity to do something exciting comes up, take it.\\nFor example, you and your date might be offered free tickets to a concert, you may come across a fireworks display or an outdoor event put on by your city, or you may notice an interesting venue near where you planned to have your date.\\nGo with the flow. Don't be locked into your plans if you have a chance to do something memorable.\\n3. Ending the Date\\n3-1. Remind them of something you discussed earlier.\\nBring up a fun topic from earlier in your date to remind them of the great time the two of you had and how interesting you are. Choose something that points to a follow-up date.\\nSay, “I can't believe you've never tried Hank’s Pizza. We should go sometime soon.”\\nSay, “I still think I can ice skate better than you can. Want to have a faceoff soon?”\\n3-2. Tell them you had a great time.\\nLeave things on a positive note by telling them that you enjoyed the date. This will give them a good feeling, which should make the date more memorable. It also tells them that you’re probably open to a second date.\\nSay, “Tonight was awesome! I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.”\\n3-3. Lean in for the kiss if you want one.\\nThe good night kiss can be the most awkward part of a first date, but it’s also the most exhilarating. If you’re interested in a kiss, lean in. If they’re interested, they’ll likely lean in, too. A goodnight kiss can make you a very memorable first date.\\n3-4. Send a follow-up text the next day.\\nRemind your date that you had a great time, and mention something funny or memorable that happened on your date. This will keep you fresh on their mind, making you memorable.\\nSay, \\\"I had such a great time last night. I'm glad you were there to witness my epic nacho fail.\\\"\\nTips\\nChoose a place for your date that you think you’ll both enjoy.\\nBoth people on a first date are apprehensive and somewhat nervous, so try to use humor to keep the mood light and fun.\\nDon't be someone you're not. Be yourself and share helpful thoughts with your date. Discuss your likes and dislikes and don't just talk, listen too. Maybe what your date is looking in a partner is somebody who listens to him/her.\\nWarnings\\nBring enough enough money or a payment method so you can cover your costs and/or pay for a way home if you need to.\\nDon’t lie to try to make someone like you. Just be yourself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"First dates can be nerve-wracking, but they can also be really fun. If you’ve gotten a date with someone you really like, then you’ll want to make a great impression on your first date. 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1. Reading & Analyzing People
1-1. Make snap, educated judgments.
Part of being a mentalist is about trusting your judgment. Unfortunately, most people have turned their observation skills off. General and non-overt assessment of an individual provides good background information that is normally missed. For example, are the person's hands soft or calloused? Is his musculature toned or not? Is the person dressed to stand out or to hide? Take yourself right now -- what might someone learn about you just from looking at you?
There are dozens of general assessment information items that will help you to profile the individual. Think of Sherlock Holmes -- he didn't have ESP, he just noticed things. That's all. A slight tan line on the left ring finger. A pen mark on the left hand. He would now trust that this person is either divorced or separated and right-handed. Trust those snap judgments!
1-2. Look for physical cues in others.
A mentalist's work lies in stirring memories and causing the "tells" to appear, even if the person cannot bring to mind the information. “Tells” will help you to observe what the mind knows but the memory cannot call forth. Remember that although someone may say they do not remember something, the brain records everything. As such, the information is there, but just not accessible to that person at that time. "Tells" include:
Dilation or constriction of the pupil of the eye (dilation is associated with positive emotion; constriction with negative).
Where the person gazes
Rate of respiration
Heart rate
Relative perspiration of the body
1-3. Use yourself as your first guinea pig.
Knowing what tells to look for isn't helpful if you don't know what they mean. While each person is a bit different, tells are called as such because they're usually consistent. So get in front of a mirror and start studying your own face. Here's a few things to look for:
When you think of a positive memory, your pupils should dilate. When you think of a negative experience, they should constrict. Imagine both of these scenarios and see what happens.
Think of an answer to this question: What do you like about going to the beach? Once you've come up with your answer, note where you looked. If you said something like fire, you probably visualized it and looked up. If you said something like the sounds and the smells, you probably remained at eye level. If you said the sand in your hands, you may have looked down. Visual answers generally go up, aural stays level, and hands-on memories draw gaze downward.
Make yourself nervous. How does it manifest in your body? What is your heart doing? Your breathing? What are you doing with your hands? Now run through other emotions too -- sadness, happiness, stress, etc.
1-4. Detect lies.
Much of detecting lies is seeing the tells we just covered. In fact, that's what a polygraph does -- it measures blood pressure, pulse, and perspiration. The higher these numbers, the more likely the person is lying. But you can also do things a polygraph can't do -- like see when people aren't looking you in the eye, twiddling their thumbs, or being inconsistent in their verbal and non-verbal behavior.
A good thing to master is detecting micro-expressions. These are little flashes of how the person actually feels before they consciously cover it up. They're often feelings of distress or negative feelings they don't want other people to see for one reason or another.
Pay attention to their entire body -- how much they're gulping, if they're touching their nose or mouth, what they're doing with their hands, fingers, and feet, and how they're standing in relation to you. Are they angled toward the door? They probably subconsciously want to get away!
1-5. Ask leading questions.
Persuading people is a huge part of being a mentalist. At the very least, you're persuading them you are a mentalist! If a person is given some evidence that one can “read their mind," they are easily confused between telepathy and observation/persuasion. A simple way to do this is to ask leading questions.
John Edward and other TV personalities are great at this. They start with, "I'm seeing a 19. Does that mean anything to anyone?" They start out vague until someone latches on. Then, once someone does, he'll ask questions like, "You were very close to him, weren't you?" and the person answers, feeling like they're understood. He's just asking very vague questions and the person is filling in the gaps for him!
1-6. Practice casually sweeping the room with an observant gaze.
Look for all detail in the environment. Observe all human interaction, from the one-on-one to how the room is grouped. Often just a ten-second look into a room can tell you how each person is feeling.
If you see one or two people near the door, they may be socially anxious. See a person whose body language is clearly focused on someone else? They're interested in that person, probably sexually. And if everyone is aligned toward one person in the room, you've found your alpha. And that's just three examples.
If you can, record something. Start with small segments, observe, record, then view again several times to find what information you missed the first time.
2. Convincing People You're a Mentalist
2-1. Memorize a “baseline” of behavior for the people you're dealing with.
This means how a person normally acts in any given circumstance. Since people are different, you'll be a lot more effective in your readings if you have a baseline first. And you'll know how receptive they're feeling toward you!
An easy example is think of naturally flirty people. When they're comfortable, they may be touching, laughing, and poking away at someone they find attractive. Other people, while comfortable, might consider that a violation of a person's bubble. Both people are feeling the same way, they just show it in very different ways.
2-2. Be confident
99% of getting people to believe/agree with you is confidence (statistic yet to be verified). How do politicians get elected? What makes a salesman effective? Who gets the ladies? We may think it has something to do with smarts or with looks (and those definitely don't hurt), but what it really boils down to is confidence. When you're confident enough, it doesn't even occur to other people to question your judgment.
If you're nervous about professing your mentalist ways, you gotta kick that nasty habit! What you're really selling here is yourself. People are looking to you to be convinced -- they're not looking for the most accurate or logical information. When you realize it's not what you say, it's how you say it, a lot of the pressure falls away.
2-3. Listen
The fact of the matter is that people tell us things way more often than we realize. If we were better listeners, a whole new world would open up to us. Our memories would improve and we would make connections we didn't see before. That's what mentalists do!
An important part of listening and being an effective mentalist is reading between the lines. Seeing what people really mean when they're talking. If your friend walked up to you and said, "Oh my gosh, I worked out soooooo hard today," they're actually saying, "Please give me a pat on the back. I need to be told I'm fit." It's this underlying text that will clue you in when people don't realize you're any the wiser.
2-4. Act natural.
What it boils down to is that you're really putting on a show. So instead of pretending to be someone you're not and making this dramatic scene about it, just be yourself! The genuine you is a lot more convincing than anything else.
If anything, be slightly amused. Think of those actors giving interviews that constantly have a slight smile on their faces and are prone to little bouts of subdued laughter. They're totally relaxed and they just seem, well, cool. Be that guy!
2-5. Plant ideas.
And you thought Inception was just an awesome Leonardo DiCaprio movie. While you can't plant dreams yet, you can plant ideas. Let's say you want to get someone to think of a word and the word you want them to think of is "watch." You would insert that word into your conversation beforehand, glance at yours casually (albeit briefly), and then ask them to think of something like an accessory. Boom. Mind read.
Start experimenting with this on small levels, like the example above. Grab a friend or two and see if you can come up with a few scenarios on your own where they don't know they're getting ideas planted in their brains. Once you come up with half a dozen or so words you can easily plant, you can impress anyone at a moment's notice.
2-6. Don't give away your secrets.
If you've ever asked a magician to tell you how he does one of his tricks, if he's any good he never spills! He shouldn't even explain a trick that any other magician does (or the union will kick him out). You should be the same! If someone asks you how you do something, simply shrug your shoulders and equate it to your awesomeness.
Don't accidentally give it away, either. "Ah, I see you looked up and to the left," gives away that you're monitoring their eyes, even if you don't tell them what it signifies. You want them to think there's something extra-sensory about you, something that other people don't have. So be mysterious. You'll only increase their intrigue.
3. Learning More & Practicing
3-1. Read, read, and then read some more about mentalists and how they work.
There are many books on interviewing people and interpreting even the slightest facial movements, body tells, and mind-manipulation. Annemann’s Practical Mental Effects and Corinda’s 13 Steps to Mentalism are two good places to start. As is T.A. Waters’ Mind, Myth and Magick. No one better to learn from than the pros!
3-2. Study up on different, yet related, areas.
To give yourself more cred -- and just because you may also find it interesting -- venture into other related realms. Think of reading up on dream interpretation, tarot cards, astrology, and telepathy and telekinesis, just to name a few. Might as well make yourself well-rounded!
Consider learning new skills, too. Look into hypnosis,palm reading, and other people-reading skills. Then when you're being your mentalist self, you could always truthfully say, "I could hypnotize you, but I shouldn't have to do that."
3-3. Train your mind.
It's a muscle, really. If you don't use it, you'll lose it. So start playing chess, doing Sudoku, and solving riddles. Do crossword puzzles. Spend your free time reading and doing DIY projects. Paint (that's a good one for noticing details). Take an acting class (also good for detail and emotion). All of these are things that can help you increase your mental power.
Use the Internet! Visit sites like Lumosity, Khan Academy, Coursera, and Memrise and make sure you train your mind regularly. Deductive reasoning and critical thinking are two skills that aren't necessarily used while being a mentalist, but they get the skills you do use going a lot faster! Sherlock may be able to notice that lack of a wedding ring, but if it takes him a day and a half to put it together, Watson's dead by then. So keep mentally agile and stay on top of your game.
3-4. Find a job where you can use your skills.
Whether you're looking to be a magician or a criminal profiler or a TV star, why not make a little moolah off of your mad observational skills and people-reading prowess? You'll hone your methods and learn even more tricks of the trade.
If you haven't thought about it before, start! Get to reading How to Be a Magician, How to Be an FBI Profiler, How to Be a Detective, or even How to Get on TV. To learn from real professional mentalists, read about Master Mentalism. If Honey Boo Boo can do it, you certainly can!
Tips
Start small in terms of using your skills. It is better to be successful in measured steps than it is to fail by reaching beyond what you are comfortably capable of doing.
Using your growing skills constantly will reinforce what you have already gained.
Becoming a credible mentalist takes dedication. It is not a quick or easy process as there are thousands of variables in human behavior. This is a multi-disciplinary endeavor as it entails understanding advanced psychology, advanced skills in persuasion, and countless hours of observation and interpretation.
Warnings
If you are using friends to help you develop your skills, ask them in advance if that is acceptable. During your first few years, mistakes can cost a lot in terms of human relationships when done without permission or the result is negative for the person involved.
Be cautious of how you use any mentalist skills you have developed. Like most things, it simply is, and is neither good nor bad. How one uses it, however, does determine its societal value.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Reading & Analyzing People\\n1-1. Make snap, educated judgments.\\nPart of being a mentalist is about trusting your judgment. Unfortunately, most people have turned their observation skills off. General and non-overt assessment of an individual provides good background information that is normally missed. For example, are the person's hands soft or calloused? Is his musculature toned or not? Is the person dressed to stand out or to hide? Take yourself right now -- what might someone learn about you just from looking at you?\\nThere are dozens of general assessment information items that will help you to profile the individual. Think of Sherlock Holmes -- he didn't have ESP, he just noticed things. That's all. A slight tan line on the left ring finger. A pen mark on the left hand. He would now trust that this person is either divorced or separated and right-handed. Trust those snap judgments!\\n1-2. Look for physical cues in others.\\nA mentalist's work lies in stirring memories and causing the \\\"tells\\\" to appear, even if the person cannot bring to mind the information. “Tells” will help you to observe what the mind knows but the memory cannot call forth. Remember that although someone may say they do not remember something, the brain records everything. As such, the information is there, but just not accessible to that person at that time. \\\"Tells\\\" include:\\nDilation or constriction of the pupil of the eye (dilation is associated with positive emotion; constriction with negative).\\nWhere the person gazes\\nRate of respiration\\nHeart rate\\nRelative perspiration of the body\\n1-3. Use yourself as your first guinea pig.\\nKnowing what tells to look for isn't helpful if you don't know what they mean. While each person is a bit different, tells are called as such because they're usually consistent. So get in front of a mirror and start studying your own face. Here's a few things to look for:\\nWhen you think of a positive memory, your pupils should dilate. When you think of a negative experience, they should constrict. Imagine both of these scenarios and see what happens.\\nThink of an answer to this question: What do you like about going to the beach? Once you've come up with your answer, note where you looked. If you said something like fire, you probably visualized it and looked up. If you said something like the sounds and the smells, you probably remained at eye level. If you said the sand in your hands, you may have looked down. Visual answers generally go up, aural stays level, and hands-on memories draw gaze downward.\\nMake yourself nervous. How does it manifest in your body? What is your heart doing? Your breathing? What are you doing with your hands? Now run through other emotions too -- sadness, happiness, stress, etc.\\n1-4. Detect lies.\\nMuch of detecting lies is seeing the tells we just covered. In fact, that's what a polygraph does -- it measures blood pressure, pulse, and perspiration. The higher these numbers, the more likely the person is lying. But you can also do things a polygraph can't do -- like see when people aren't looking you in the eye, twiddling their thumbs, or being inconsistent in their verbal and non-verbal behavior.\\nA good thing to master is detecting micro-expressions. These are little flashes of how the person actually feels before they consciously cover it up. They're often feelings of distress or negative feelings they don't want other people to see for one reason or another.\\nPay attention to their entire body -- how much they're gulping, if they're touching their nose or mouth, what they're doing with their hands, fingers, and feet, and how they're standing in relation to you. Are they angled toward the door? They probably subconsciously want to get away!\\n1-5. Ask leading questions.\\nPersuading people is a huge part of being a mentalist. At the very least, you're persuading them you are a mentalist! If a person is given some evidence that one can “read their mind,\\\" they are easily confused between telepathy and observation/persuasion. A simple way to do this is to ask leading questions.\\nJohn Edward and other TV personalities are great at this. They start with, \\\"I'm seeing a 19. Does that mean anything to anyone?\\\" They start out vague until someone latches on. Then, once someone does, he'll ask questions like, \\\"You were very close to him, weren't you?\\\" and the person answers, feeling like they're understood. He's just asking very vague questions and the person is filling in the gaps for him!\\n1-6. Practice casually sweeping the room with an observant gaze.\\nLook for all detail in the environment. Observe all human interaction, from the one-on-one to how the room is grouped. Often just a ten-second look into a room can tell you how each person is feeling.\\nIf you see one or two people near the door, they may be socially anxious. See a person whose body language is clearly focused on someone else? They're interested in that person, probably sexually. And if everyone is aligned toward one person in the room, you've found your alpha. And that's just three examples.\\nIf you can, record something. Start with small segments, observe, record, then view again several times to find what information you missed the first time.\\n2. Convincing People You're a Mentalist\\n2-1. Memorize a “baseline” of behavior for the people you're dealing with.\\nThis means how a person normally acts in any given circumstance. Since people are different, you'll be a lot more effective in your readings if you have a baseline first. And you'll know how receptive they're feeling toward you!\\nAn easy example is think of naturally flirty people. When they're comfortable, they may be touching, laughing, and poking away at someone they find attractive. Other people, while comfortable, might consider that a violation of a person's bubble. Both people are feeling the same way, they just show it in very different ways.\\n2-2. Be confident\\n99% of getting people to believe/agree with you is confidence (statistic yet to be verified). How do politicians get elected? What makes a salesman effective? Who gets the ladies? We may think it has something to do with smarts or with looks (and those definitely don't hurt), but what it really boils down to is confidence. When you're confident enough, it doesn't even occur to other people to question your judgment.\\nIf you're nervous about professing your mentalist ways, you gotta kick that nasty habit! What you're really selling here is yourself. People are looking to you to be convinced -- they're not looking for the most accurate or logical information. When you realize it's not what you say, it's how you say it, a lot of the pressure falls away.\\n2-3. Listen\\nThe fact of the matter is that people tell us things way more often than we realize. If we were better listeners, a whole new world would open up to us. Our memories would improve and we would make connections we didn't see before. That's what mentalists do!\\nAn important part of listening and being an effective mentalist is reading between the lines. Seeing what people really mean when they're talking. If your friend walked up to you and said, \\\"Oh my gosh, I worked out soooooo hard today,\\\" they're actually saying, \\\"Please give me a pat on the back. I need to be told I'm fit.\\\" It's this underlying text that will clue you in when people don't realize you're any the wiser.\\n2-4. Act natural.\\nWhat it boils down to is that you're really putting on a show. So instead of pretending to be someone you're not and making this dramatic scene about it, just be yourself! The genuine you is a lot more convincing than anything else.\\nIf anything, be slightly amused. Think of those actors giving interviews that constantly have a slight smile on their faces and are prone to little bouts of subdued laughter. They're totally relaxed and they just seem, well, cool. Be that guy!\\n2-5. Plant ideas.\\nAnd you thought Inception was just an awesome Leonardo DiCaprio movie. While you can't plant dreams yet, you can plant ideas. Let's say you want to get someone to think of a word and the word you want them to think of is \\\"watch.\\\" You would insert that word into your conversation beforehand, glance at yours casually (albeit briefly), and then ask them to think of something like an accessory. Boom. Mind read.\\nStart experimenting with this on small levels, like the example above. Grab a friend or two and see if you can come up with a few scenarios on your own where they don't know they're getting ideas planted in their brains. Once you come up with half a dozen or so words you can easily plant, you can impress anyone at a moment's notice.\\n2-6. Don't give away your secrets.\\nIf you've ever asked a magician to tell you how he does one of his tricks, if he's any good he never spills! He shouldn't even explain a trick that any other magician does (or the union will kick him out). You should be the same! If someone asks you how you do something, simply shrug your shoulders and equate it to your awesomeness.\\nDon't accidentally give it away, either. \\\"Ah, I see you looked up and to the left,\\\" gives away that you're monitoring their eyes, even if you don't tell them what it signifies. You want them to think there's something extra-sensory about you, something that other people don't have. So be mysterious. You'll only increase their intrigue.\\n3. Learning More & Practicing\\n3-1. Read, read, and then read some more about mentalists and how they work.\\nThere are many books on interviewing people and interpreting even the slightest facial movements, body tells, and mind-manipulation. Annemann’s Practical Mental Effects and Corinda’s 13 Steps to Mentalism are two good places to start. As is T.A. Waters’ Mind, Myth and Magick. No one better to learn from than the pros!\\n3-2. Study up on different, yet related, areas.\\nTo give yourself more cred -- and just because you may also find it interesting -- venture into other related realms. Think of reading up on dream interpretation, tarot cards, astrology, and telepathy and telekinesis, just to name a few. Might as well make yourself well-rounded!\\nConsider learning new skills, too. Look into hypnosis,palm reading, and other people-reading skills. Then when you're being your mentalist self, you could always truthfully say, \\\"I could hypnotize you, but I shouldn't have to do that.\\\"\\n3-3. Train your mind.\\nIt's a muscle, really. If you don't use it, you'll lose it. So start playing chess, doing Sudoku, and solving riddles. Do crossword puzzles. Spend your free time reading and doing DIY projects. Paint (that's a good one for noticing details). Take an acting class (also good for detail and emotion). All of these are things that can help you increase your mental power.\\nUse the Internet! Visit sites like Lumosity, Khan Academy, Coursera, and Memrise and make sure you train your mind regularly. Deductive reasoning and critical thinking are two skills that aren't necessarily used while being a mentalist, but they get the skills you do use going a lot faster! Sherlock may be able to notice that lack of a wedding ring, but if it takes him a day and a half to put it together, Watson's dead by then. So keep mentally agile and stay on top of your game.\\n3-4. Find a job where you can use your skills.\\nWhether you're looking to be a magician or a criminal profiler or a TV star, why not make a little moolah off of your mad observational skills and people-reading prowess? You'll hone your methods and learn even more tricks of the trade.\\nIf you haven't thought about it before, start! Get to reading How to Be a Magician, How to Be an FBI Profiler, How to Be a Detective, or even How to Get on TV. To learn from real professional mentalists, read about Master Mentalism. If Honey Boo Boo can do it, you certainly can!\\nTips\\nStart small in terms of using your skills. It is better to be successful in measured steps than it is to fail by reaching beyond what you are comfortably capable of doing.\\nUsing your growing skills constantly will reinforce what you have already gained.\\nBecoming a credible mentalist takes dedication. It is not a quick or easy process as there are thousands of variables in human behavior. This is a multi-disciplinary endeavor as it entails understanding advanced psychology, advanced skills in persuasion, and countless hours of observation and interpretation.\\nWarnings\\nIf you are using friends to help you develop your skills, ask them in advance if that is acceptable. During your first few years, mistakes can cost a lot in terms of human relationships when done without permission or the result is negative for the person involved.\\nBe cautious of how you use any mentalist skills you have developed. Like most things, it simply is, and is neither good nor bad. How one uses it, however, does determine its societal value.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A mentalist is an individual who appears to have supernatural powers in divining the truth about an individual as well as many facts about that person's life. A mentalist must be great at decoding, possess observational skills, and have a highly developed ability to observe minute detail. Many people, from criminal profiles to magicians, all use mentalist tactics and a working knowledge of psychology to interpret human behavior. Mentalists can not only get attention, but they can also entertain literally anybody on this planet. Want to get your Simon Baker on? Here's how.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Reading & Analyzing People\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make snap, educated judgments.\", \"描述\": \"Part of being a mentalist is about trusting your judgment. Unfortunately, most people have turned their observation skills off. General and non-overt assessment of an individual provides good background information that is normally missed. For example, are the person's hands soft or calloused? Is his musculature toned or not? Is the person dressed to stand out or to hide? Take yourself right now -- what might someone learn about you just from looking at you?\\nThere are dozens of general assessment information items that will help you to profile the individual. Think of Sherlock Holmes -- he didn't have ESP, he just noticed things. That's all. A slight tan line on the left ring finger. A pen mark on the left hand. He would now trust that this person is either divorced or separated and right-handed. Trust those snap judgments!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look for physical cues in others.\", \"描述\": \"A mentalist's work lies in stirring memories and causing the \\\"tells\\\" to appear, even if the person cannot bring to mind the information. “Tells” will help you to observe what the mind knows but the memory cannot call forth. Remember that although someone may say they do not remember something, the brain records everything. As such, the information is there, but just not accessible to that person at that time. \\\"Tells\\\" include:\\nDilation or constriction of the pupil of the eye (dilation is associated with positive emotion; constriction with negative).\\nWhere the person gazes\\nRate of respiration\\nHeart rate\\nRelative perspiration of the body\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use yourself as your first guinea pig.\", \"描述\": \"Knowing what tells to look for isn't helpful if you don't know what they mean. While each person is a bit different, tells are called as such because they're usually consistent. So get in front of a mirror and start studying your own face. Here's a few things to look for:\\nWhen you think of a positive memory, your pupils should dilate. When you think of a negative experience, they should constrict. Imagine both of these scenarios and see what happens.\\nThink of an answer to this question: What do you like about going to the beach? Once you've come up with your answer, note where you looked. If you said something like fire, you probably visualized it and looked up. If you said something like the sounds and the smells, you probably remained at eye level. If you said the sand in your hands, you may have looked down. Visual answers generally go up, aural stays level, and hands-on memories draw gaze downward.\\nMake yourself nervous. How does it manifest in your body? What is your heart doing? Your breathing? What are you doing with your hands? Now run through other emotions too -- sadness, happiness, stress, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Detect lies.\", \"描述\": \"Much of detecting lies is seeing the tells we just covered. In fact, that's what a polygraph does -- it measures blood pressure, pulse, and perspiration. The higher these numbers, the more likely the person is lying. But you can also do things a polygraph can't do -- like see when people aren't looking you in the eye, twiddling their thumbs, or being inconsistent in their verbal and non-verbal behavior.\\nA good thing to master is detecting micro-expressions. These are little flashes of how the person actually feels before they consciously cover it up. They're often feelings of distress or negative feelings they don't want other people to see for one reason or another.\\nPay attention to their entire body -- how much they're gulping, if they're touching their nose or mouth, what they're doing with their hands, fingers, and feet, and how they're standing in relation to you. Are they angled toward the door? They probably subconsciously want to get away!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ask leading questions.\", \"描述\": \"Persuading people is a huge part of being a mentalist. At the very least, you're persuading them you are a mentalist! If a person is given some evidence that one can “read their mind,\\\" they are easily confused between telepathy and observation/persuasion. A simple way to do this is to ask leading questions.\\nJohn Edward and other TV personalities are great at this. They start with, \\\"I'm seeing a 19. Does that mean anything to anyone?\\\" They start out vague until someone latches on. Then, once someone does, he'll ask questions like, \\\"You were very close to him, weren't you?\\\" and the person answers, feeling like they're understood. He's just asking very vague questions and the person is filling in the gaps for him!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Practice casually sweeping the room with an observant gaze.\", \"描述\": \"Look for all detail in the environment. Observe all human interaction, from the one-on-one to how the room is grouped. Often just a ten-second look into a room can tell you how each person is feeling.\\nIf you see one or two people near the door, they may be socially anxious. See a person whose body language is clearly focused on someone else? They're interested in that person, probably sexually. And if everyone is aligned toward one person in the room, you've found your alpha. And that's just three examples.\\nIf you can, record something. Start with small segments, observe, record, then view again several times to find what information you missed the first time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Convincing People You're a Mentalist\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Memorize a “baseline” of behavior for the people you're dealing with.\", \"描述\": \"This means how a person normally acts in any given circumstance. Since people are different, you'll be a lot more effective in your readings if you have a baseline first. And you'll know how receptive they're feeling toward you!\\nAn easy example is think of naturally flirty people. When they're comfortable, they may be touching, laughing, and poking away at someone they find attractive. Other people, while comfortable, might consider that a violation of a person's bubble. Both people are feeling the same way, they just show it in very different ways.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be confident\", \"描述\": \"99% of getting people to believe/agree with you is confidence (statistic yet to be verified). How do politicians get elected? What makes a salesman effective? Who gets the ladies? We may think it has something to do with smarts or with looks (and those definitely don't hurt), but what it really boils down to is confidence. When you're confident enough, it doesn't even occur to other people to question your judgment.\\nIf you're nervous about professing your mentalist ways, you gotta kick that nasty habit! What you're really selling here is yourself. People are looking to you to be convinced -- they're not looking for the most accurate or logical information. When you realize it's not what you say, it's how you say it, a lot of the pressure falls away.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen\", \"描述\": \"The fact of the matter is that people tell us things way more often than we realize. If we were better listeners, a whole new world would open up to us. Our memories would improve and we would make connections we didn't see before. That's what mentalists do!\\nAn important part of listening and being an effective mentalist is reading between the lines. Seeing what people really mean when they're talking. If your friend walked up to you and said, \\\"Oh my gosh, I worked out soooooo hard today,\\\" they're actually saying, \\\"Please give me a pat on the back. I need to be told I'm fit.\\\" It's this underlying text that will clue you in when people don't realize you're any the wiser.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Act natural.\", \"描述\": \"What it boils down to is that you're really putting on a show. So instead of pretending to be someone you're not and making this dramatic scene about it, just be yourself! The genuine you is a lot more convincing than anything else.\\nIf anything, be slightly amused. Think of those actors giving interviews that constantly have a slight smile on their faces and are prone to little bouts of subdued laughter. They're totally relaxed and they just seem, well, cool. Be that guy!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Plant ideas.\", \"描述\": \"And you thought Inception was just an awesome Leonardo DiCaprio movie. While you can't plant dreams yet, you can plant ideas. Let's say you want to get someone to think of a word and the word you want them to think of is \\\"watch.\\\" You would insert that word into your conversation beforehand, glance at yours casually (albeit briefly), and then ask them to think of something like an accessory. Boom. Mind read.\\nStart experimenting with this on small levels, like the example above. Grab a friend or two and see if you can come up with a few scenarios on your own where they don't know they're getting ideas planted in their brains. Once you come up with half a dozen or so words you can easily plant, you can impress anyone at a moment's notice.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't give away your secrets.\", \"描述\": \"If you've ever asked a magician to tell you how he does one of his tricks, if he's any good he never spills! He shouldn't even explain a trick that any other magician does (or the union will kick him out). You should be the same! If someone asks you how you do something, simply shrug your shoulders and equate it to your awesomeness.\\nDon't accidentally give it away, either. \\\"Ah, I see you looked up and to the left,\\\" gives away that you're monitoring their eyes, even if you don't tell them what it signifies. You want them to think there's something extra-sensory about you, something that other people don't have. So be mysterious. You'll only increase their intrigue.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learning More & Practicing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read, read, and then read some more about mentalists and how they work.\", \"描述\": \"There are many books on interviewing people and interpreting even the slightest facial movements, body tells, and mind-manipulation. Annemann’s Practical Mental Effects and Corinda’s 13 Steps to Mentalism are two good places to start. As is T.A. Waters’ Mind, Myth and Magick. No one better to learn from than the pros!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Study up on different, yet related, areas.\", \"描述\": \"To give yourself more cred -- and just because you may also find it interesting -- venture into other related realms. Think of reading up on dream interpretation, tarot cards, astrology, and telepathy and telekinesis, just to name a few. Might as well make yourself well-rounded!\\nConsider learning new skills, too. Look into hypnosis,palm reading, and other people-reading skills. Then when you're being your mentalist self, you could always truthfully say, \\\"I could hypnotize you, but I shouldn't have to do that.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Train your mind.\", \"描述\": \"It's a muscle, really. If you don't use it, you'll lose it. So start playing chess, doing Sudoku, and solving riddles. Do crossword puzzles. Spend your free time reading and doing DIY projects. Paint (that's a good one for noticing details). Take an acting class (also good for detail and emotion). All of these are things that can help you increase your mental power.\\nUse the Internet! Visit sites like Lumosity, Khan Academy, Coursera, and Memrise and make sure you train your mind regularly. Deductive reasoning and critical thinking are two skills that aren't necessarily used while being a mentalist, but they get the skills you do use going a lot faster! Sherlock may be able to notice that lack of a wedding ring, but if it takes him a day and a half to put it together, Watson's dead by then. So keep mentally agile and stay on top of your game.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find a job where you can use your skills.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you're looking to be a magician or a criminal profiler or a TV star, why not make a little moolah off of your mad observational skills and people-reading prowess? You'll hone your methods and learn even more tricks of the trade.\\nIf you haven't thought about it before, start! Get to reading How to Be a Magician, How to Be an FBI Profiler, How to Be a Detective, or even How to Get on TV. To learn from real professional mentalists, read about Master Mentalism. If Honey Boo Boo can do it, you certainly can!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Start small in terms of using your skills. It is better to be successful in measured steps than it is to fail by reaching beyond what you are comfortably capable of doing.\\n\", \"Using your growing skills constantly will reinforce what you have already gained.\\n\", \"Becoming a credible mentalist takes dedication. It is not a quick or easy process as there are thousands of variables in human behavior. This is a multi-disciplinary endeavor as it entails understanding advanced psychology, advanced skills in persuasion, and countless hours of observation and interpretation.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If you are using friends to help you develop your skills, ask them in advance if that is acceptable. During your first few years, mistakes can cost a lot in terms of human relationships when done without permission or the result is negative for the person involved.\\n\", \"Be cautious of how you use any mentalist skills you have developed. Like most things, it simply is, and is neither good nor bad. How one uses it, however, does determine its societal value.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Be born again as told by Jesus, John 3:
1 There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: 2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said to him, "Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher come from God: for no human can do these miracles that you do, except God be with him." 3 Jesus answered and said to him, "Verily, truly, I say to you, Except a human be born again, they cannot see the kingdom of God." 4 Nicodemus saith to him, "How can a human be born when they are old? Can they enter a second time into their mother's womb, and be born?" 5 Jesus answered, "Verily, truly, I say to you, Except a human be born of water and [of] the Spirit, they cannot enter into the kingdom of God."
1-2. Examine the prayer of the psalmist David.
This prayer is an example of the rebirth of the core being, one's spirit, by God's grace, answered in Yah'shua/Jesus, 'The Messiah'.
"Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. 12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation; and uphold me [with your] free Spirit. 13 [Then] will I teach transgressors your ways; and sinners will be converted to you. 14 Deliver me from blood guiltiness, O God, you [who are the] God of my salvation: [and] my tongue will sing aloud of your righteousness. 15 O Lord, [I ask you to] open my lips; and my mouth will show forth [i.e. sing/shout] your praise. 16 Because you [do not] desire sacrifice; else I would give [it]: you [do not] delight in burnt offerings. 17 The sacrifices of God [are] a broken spirit: A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise. 18 Do good in your good pleasure to Zion: build you, the walls of Jerusalem."
1-3. Believe that God is salvation.
Salvation refers to God's ability to deliver us from the eternal penalties of our sins. The eternal penalty of sin is utter separation from all that is 'good'. So the psalmist asks: 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. In believing that God is salvation, you ask and receive free eternal life in his presence by his grace. Pray:
1-4. [Sample Prayer]
"Lord Jesus, beginning today, I ask you to become the Lord of my life. I believe that you died for my sins/transgression of the Levitical Law and rose again from the dead. Lord, I confess that I am a sinner and I repent/turn from my sins/transgressions. Thank You for forgiving me and cleansing me by the blood of Jesus the perfect lamb that paid for my sins. Come into my life and guide me to live for you from now on -- creating in me a new life. In Jesus Name Amen. Ba Shem Yah'shua Amain".
1-5. Understand what you say/ask:
as you receive/accept certain things in the prayer, in The Holy Spirit/Ruach HaKodesh, רוח הקודש (meaning Divine Spirit or Divine Inspiration, literally "Holy Spirit", also transliterated Ruah Ha-qodesh).
1-6. Understand that you are agreeing with and accepting the teachings of the Bible (Word of God), and are saved by the redeeming authority of The Messiah, The perfect lamb, as God/Elohim is your salvation.
1-7. Accept and receive 100% salvation by the grace from God.
Grace is unmerited favor. Believe that you are saved through the power of God and through faith, not of yourself. Faith Itself is a gift from God. Be strong in the Lord and the power of His might!
Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are you saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: faith is the gift of God:
The Lord sets your path, then you may walk in the path he lays out -- if so, He orders and directs your pathway as you follow. And, he lives in you.
Be careful not to assume that you can receive salvation by confessing minute by minute, nor by performing -- or earning blessings -- but confess your weaknesses and trust by faith in God's grace only, for salvation. Which is clean heart, and a renewed spirit within you wherein you discover a love for God, not just knowledge about the real gift he is offering. Read it again. 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. Salvation is for each individual Israelite as well as the Chosen Nation.
1-8. Avoid doubting God's grace.
This is (self-righteousness).
You can not gain salvation by doing your best (refusing grace) or any such attempt at being spiritually ethical/self-worth/righteousness.
You can only be born again by becoming a new creation in Christ, as He lives in you. "It is no longer you -- but Christ who lives in you/and you in Him." This follows redemption which is the payment of your sins with the precious life's blood of Jesus/Yah'shua, the perfect lamb.
1-9. Trust only in Christ's/The Lamb of God's redemption/pesach for salvation:
who paid-off your eternal debt-burden of "sin and death". No, not by selling all and giving it all away, or other sacrifices which are great, good works or wondrous activities, but they are not for salvation. But salvation is by his grace.
But, yes, do the "good work that God foreordained for you to do" from the beginning as best you can.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
I Peter 1:18 For as much as you know that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, [such as] silver and gold, from your vain conversation [received] by tradition from your fathers; 1 Peter 1:19 But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot:
1-10. Accept that God's grace is sufficient for all salvation and for your new life.
1-11. Trust God and walk away from the old life of glorying in the flesh, glorying in what you think you do so well on your own.
Yet, one is naturally responsible for/to your spouse, family, work, their livelihoods, etc.
1-12. Be victorious through Christ/Messiah.
1-13. Believe that by His shedding His blood for you, Jesus/Yah'shua paid for your transgression of the law.
Realize, that even at ones best, that you are still an undeserving sinner, and can never deserve that unfathomable grace and love gift of The Pesach/Passover/Perfect Lamb.
Realizing that you are unworthy, will cause His Spirit to stay with you always, as your helper and guide. As a child of God you are adopted into His family, a miraculous child of God...
You can suffer the consequences of: being wrong, in the wrong place/time, in illness, injury or self endangerment... even physical death. But you can be assured of love and forgiveness as God's child/prodigal child. A recipient of eternal grace, to come back to full standing, although with consequences and rewards! Because God is not mocked-whatever you sow is what you will reap. If you plant good things you will get good things.
1-14. Seek fellowship with like believers.
One may like to attend and/or start a church of Messianic Jews and some persons of other backgrounds who wish to have a church with a distinctively Jewish sound, look and "context". There are examples of Messianic Worshipers from YouTube, such as an Israeli news program.
1-15. Realize that both Jews and Gentiles become one new man in Jesus/Yah'shua by faith:
Ephesians 2:15 Having abolished in His flesh the enmity, [even] the law of commandments [contained] in ordinances; so as to make in Himself of twain (two), one new man, [so] making peace;
1-16. Realize that the love of Yah'shua/Jesus lives in the Believer's heart.
Here are some examples of that love where Believer's fulfilled the scripture in Isaiah 49:22: "This is what the Lord, God, says, "Behold, I will lift up my hand to the Gentiles, and set up my standard to the people: and they shall bring your sons in [their] arms, and your daughters shall be carried on [their] shoulders."
Read about Christians that helped Jewish people during the Holocaust.
1-17. Read the account of Jesus sacrificial death found in "The New Testament" which contains "The New Covenant".:
Matthew 27:45--51 Now from the sixth hour there was darkness over all the land unto the ninth hour. At about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, 'Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?' that is to say, 'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?' Some of them that stood there, when they heard [that], said, 'This [man] calleth for Elias.' Immediately one of them ran, and took a sponge, and filled [it] with vinegar, and put [it] on a reed/pole, and gave him to drink. The rest said, 'Let be, let us see whether Elias will come to save him.' Jesus, when he had cried again with a loud voice, yielded up the ghost. Now look! The veil of the temple was rent/torn in twain/half from the top to the bottom; and the earth did quake, and the rocks rent/tore;
Tips
You may like watching a news program about being a Messianic Jews in Israel, on YouTube.[3]
X
Research source
You may find Messianic music on YouTube.com[4]
X
Research source
Research Tanakh and Old Testament.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.[5]
X
Research source
Hebrews 8:1,2 "Now of the things which we have spoken [this is] the sum: 'We have such a high priest, who is set on the right hand of the throne of the Majesty in the heavens; A minister of the sanctuary, and of the true tabernacle, which the Lord pitched, and not man"
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Examine the prayer of the psalmist David.\\nThis prayer is an example of the rebirth of the core being, one's spirit, by God's grace, answered in Yah'shua/Jesus, 'The Messiah'. \\n\\\"Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. 12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation; and uphold me [with your] free Spirit. 13 [Then] will I teach transgressors your ways; and sinners will be converted to you. 14 Deliver me from blood guiltiness, O God, you [who are the] God of my salvation: [and] my tongue will sing aloud of your righteousness. 15 O Lord, [I ask you to] open my lips; and my mouth will show forth [i.e. sing/shout] your praise. 16 Because you [do not] desire sacrifice; else I would give [it]: you [do not] delight in burnt offerings. 17 The sacrifices of God [are] a broken spirit: A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise. 18 Do good in your good pleasure to Zion: build you, the walls of Jerusalem.\\\"\\n1-3. Believe that God is salvation.\\nSalvation refers to God's ability to deliver us from the eternal penalties of our sins. The eternal penalty of sin is utter separation from all that is 'good'. So the psalmist asks: 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. In believing that God is salvation, you ask and receive free eternal life in his presence by his grace. Pray:\\n1-4. [Sample Prayer]\\n\\n\\\"Lord Jesus, beginning today, I ask you to become the Lord of my life. I believe that you died for my sins/transgression of the Levitical Law and rose again from the dead. Lord, I confess that I am a sinner and I repent/turn from my sins/transgressions. Thank You for forgiving me and cleansing me by the blood of Jesus the perfect lamb that paid for my sins. Come into my life and guide me to live for you from now on -- creating in me a new life. In Jesus Name Amen. Ba Shem Yah'shua Amain\\\".\\n1-5. Understand what you say/ask:\\nas you receive/accept certain things in the prayer, in The Holy Spirit/Ruach HaKodesh, רוח הקודש (meaning Divine Spirit or Divine Inspiration, literally \\\"Holy Spirit\\\", also transliterated Ruah Ha-qodesh).\\n1-6. Understand that you are agreeing with and accepting the teachings of the Bible (Word of God), and are saved by the redeeming authority of The Messiah, The perfect lamb, as God/Elohim is your salvation.\\n\\n1-7. Accept and receive 100% salvation by the grace from God.\\nGrace is unmerited favor. Believe that you are saved through the power of God and through faith, not of yourself. Faith Itself is a gift from God. Be strong in the Lord and the power of His might!\\nEphesians 2:8 For by grace are you saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: faith is the gift of God:\\nThe Lord sets your path, then you may walk in the path he lays out -- if so, He orders and directs your pathway as you follow. And, he lives in you.\\nBe careful not to assume that you can receive salvation by confessing minute by minute, nor by performing -- or earning blessings -- but confess your weaknesses and trust by faith in God's grace only, for salvation. Which is clean heart, and a renewed spirit within you wherein you discover a love for God, not just knowledge about the real gift he is offering. Read it again. 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. Salvation is for each individual Israelite as well as the Chosen Nation.\\n1-8. Avoid doubting God's grace.\\nThis is (self-righteousness).\\nYou can not gain salvation by doing your best (refusing grace) or any such attempt at being spiritually ethical/self-worth/righteousness.\\nYou can only be born again by becoming a new creation in Christ, as He lives in you. \\\"It is no longer you -- but Christ who lives in you/and you in Him.\\\" This follows redemption which is the payment of your sins with the precious life's blood of Jesus/Yah'shua, the perfect lamb.\\n1-9. Trust only in Christ's/The Lamb of God's redemption/pesach for salvation:\\nwho paid-off your eternal debt-burden of \\\"sin and death\\\". No, not by selling all and giving it all away, or other sacrifices which are great, good works or wondrous activities, but they are not for salvation. But salvation is by his grace. \\nBut, yes, do the \\\"good work that God foreordained for you to do\\\" from the beginning as best you can.\\nPhilippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.\\nI Peter 1:18 For as much as you know that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, [such as] silver and gold, from your vain conversation [received] by tradition from your fathers; 1 Peter 1:19 But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot:\\n1-10. Accept that God's grace is sufficient for all salvation and for your new life.\\n\\n1-11. Trust God and walk away from the old life of glorying in the flesh, glorying in what you think you do so well on your own.\\nYet, one is naturally responsible for/to your spouse, family, work, their livelihoods, etc.\\n1-12. Be victorious through Christ/Messiah.\\n\\n1-13. Believe that by His shedding His blood for you, Jesus/Yah'shua paid for your transgression of the law.\\nRealize, that even at ones best, that you are still an undeserving sinner, and can never deserve that unfathomable grace and love gift of The Pesach/Passover/Perfect Lamb.\\nRealizing that you are unworthy, will cause His Spirit to stay with you always, as your helper and guide. As a child of God you are adopted into His family, a miraculous child of God...\\nYou can suffer the consequences of: being wrong, in the wrong place/time, in illness, injury or self endangerment... even physical death. But you can be assured of love and forgiveness as God's child/prodigal child. A recipient of eternal grace, to come back to full standing, although with consequences and rewards! Because God is not mocked-whatever you sow is what you will reap. If you plant good things you will get good things.\\n1-14. Seek fellowship with like believers.\\nOne may like to attend and/or start a church of Messianic Jews and some persons of other backgrounds who wish to have a church with a distinctively Jewish sound, look and \\\"context\\\". There are examples of Messianic Worshipers from YouTube, such as an Israeli news program.\\n1-15. Realize that both Jews and Gentiles become one new man in Jesus/Yah'shua by faith:\\nEphesians 2:15 Having abolished in His flesh the enmity, [even] the law of commandments [contained] in ordinances; so as to make in Himself of twain (two), one new man, [so] making peace;\\n1-16. Realize that the love of Yah'shua/Jesus lives in the Believer's heart.\\nHere are some examples of that love where Believer's fulfilled the scripture in Isaiah 49:22: \\\"This is what the Lord, God, says, \\\"Behold, I will lift up my hand to the Gentiles, and set up my standard to the people: and they shall bring your sons in [their] arms, and your daughters shall be carried on [their] shoulders.\\\"\\nRead about Christians that helped Jewish people during the Holocaust.\\n1-17. Read the account of Jesus sacrificial death found in \\\"The New Testament\\\" which contains \\\"The New Covenant\\\".:\\nMatthew 27:45--51 Now from the sixth hour there was darkness over all the land unto the ninth hour. At about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, 'Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?' that is to say, 'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?' Some of them that stood there, when they heard [that], said, 'This [man] calleth for Elias.' Immediately one of them ran, and took a sponge, and filled [it] with vinegar, and put [it] on a reed/pole, and gave him to drink. The rest said, 'Let be, let us see whether Elias will come to save him.' Jesus, when he had cried again with a loud voice, yielded up the ghost. Now look! The veil of the temple was rent/torn in twain/half from the top to the bottom; and the earth did quake, and the rocks rent/tore;\\nTips\\nYou may like watching a news program about being a Messianic Jews in Israel, on YouTube.[3]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nYou may find Messianic music on YouTube.com[4]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nResearch Tanakh and Old Testament.\\n\\nJohn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.[5]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nHebrews 8:1,2 \\\"Now of the things which we have spoken [this is] the sum: 'We have such a high priest, who is set on the right hand of the throne of the Majesty in the heavens; A minister of the sanctuary, and of the true tabernacle, which the Lord pitched, and not man\\\"\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Messianic refers to \\\"Fulfilled Messianic Prophecy\\\" and involves \\\"Yah'shua\\\" which means: \\\"God is our salvation\\\". The name “Yah’shua” is Hebrew for “Jesus”, in English. Messianic Jew here means, choosing as a Jewish person, to believe that the prophecies regarding \\\"The Messiah\\\" are fulfilled in the person of Yah'shua/Jesus in Roman times; to accept that this specific Yah'shua/Jesus is \\\"The Messiah\\\" and has accepted Yah'shua/Jesus as one's personal Savior.\\n\\nMessianic Jews believe Yah'shua/Jesus is the rightful heir to \\\"The Throne of David\\\". If you're interested in being a Messianic Jew, you can search God's Word for yourself and read about God's promises to Israel.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be born again as told by Jesus, John 3:\", \"描述\": \"1 There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: 2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said to him, \\\"Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher come from God: for no human can do these miracles that you do, except God be with him.\\\" 3 Jesus answered and said to him, \\\"Verily, truly, I say to you, Except a human be born again, they cannot see the kingdom of God.\\\" 4 Nicodemus saith to him, \\\"How can a human be born when they are old? Can they enter a second time into their mother's womb, and be born?\\\" 5 Jesus answered, \\\"Verily, truly, I say to you, Except a human be born of water and [of] the Spirit, they cannot enter into the kingdom of God.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Examine the prayer of the psalmist David.\", \"描述\": \"This prayer is an example of the rebirth of the core being, one's spirit, by God's grace, answered in Yah'shua/Jesus, 'The Messiah'. \\n\\\"Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. 12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation; and uphold me [with your] free Spirit. 13 [Then] will I teach transgressors your ways; and sinners will be converted to you. 14 Deliver me from blood guiltiness, O God, you [who are the] God of my salvation: [and] my tongue will sing aloud of your righteousness. 15 O Lord, [I ask you to] open my lips; and my mouth will show forth [i.e. sing/shout] your praise. 16 Because you [do not] desire sacrifice; else I would give [it]: you [do not] delight in burnt offerings. 17 The sacrifices of God [are] a broken spirit: A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise. 18 Do good in your good pleasure to Zion: build you, the walls of Jerusalem.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Believe that God is salvation.\", \"描述\": \"Salvation refers to God's ability to deliver us from the eternal penalties of our sins. The eternal penalty of sin is utter separation from all that is 'good'. So the psalmist asks: 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. In believing that God is salvation, you ask and receive free eternal life in his presence by his grace. Pray:\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"[Sample Prayer]\", \"描述\": \"\\\"Lord Jesus, beginning today, I ask you to become the Lord of my life. I believe that you died for my sins/transgression of the Levitical Law and rose again from the dead. Lord, I confess that I am a sinner and I repent/turn from my sins/transgressions. Thank You for forgiving me and cleansing me by the blood of Jesus the perfect lamb that paid for my sins. Come into my life and guide me to live for you from now on -- creating in me a new life. In Jesus Name Amen. Ba Shem Yah'shua Amain\\\".\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Understand what you say/ask:\", \"描述\": \"as you receive/accept certain things in the prayer, in The Holy Spirit/Ruach HaKodesh, רוח הקודש (meaning Divine Spirit or Divine Inspiration, literally \\\"Holy Spirit\\\", also transliterated Ruah Ha-qodesh).\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Understand that you are agreeing with and accepting the teachings of the Bible (Word of God), and are saved by the redeeming authority of The Messiah, The perfect lamb, as God/Elohim is your salvation.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Accept and receive 100% salvation by the grace from God.\", \"描述\": \"Grace is unmerited favor. Believe that you are saved through the power of God and through faith, not of yourself. Faith Itself is a gift from God. Be strong in the Lord and the power of His might!\\nEphesians 2:8 For by grace are you saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: faith is the gift of God:\\nThe Lord sets your path, then you may walk in the path he lays out -- if so, He orders and directs your pathway as you follow. And, he lives in you.\\nBe careful not to assume that you can receive salvation by confessing minute by minute, nor by performing -- or earning blessings -- but confess your weaknesses and trust by faith in God's grace only, for salvation. Which is clean heart, and a renewed spirit within you wherein you discover a love for God, not just knowledge about the real gift he is offering. Read it again. 11 Do not cast me away from your presence; and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. Salvation is for each individual Israelite as well as the Chosen Nation.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Avoid doubting God's grace.\", \"描述\": \"This is (self-righteousness).\\nYou can not gain salvation by doing your best (refusing grace) or any such attempt at being spiritually ethical/self-worth/righteousness.\\nYou can only be born again by becoming a new creation in Christ, as He lives in you. \\\"It is no longer you -- but Christ who lives in you/and you in Him.\\\" This follows redemption which is the payment of your sins with the precious life's blood of Jesus/Yah'shua, the perfect lamb.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Trust only in Christ's/The Lamb of God's redemption/pesach for salvation:\", \"描述\": \"who paid-off your eternal debt-burden of \\\"sin and death\\\". No, not by selling all and giving it all away, or other sacrifices which are great, good works or wondrous activities, but they are not for salvation. But salvation is by his grace. \\nBut, yes, do the \\\"good work that God foreordained for you to do\\\" from the beginning as best you can.\\nPhilippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.\\nI Peter 1:18 For as much as you know that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, [such as] silver and gold, from your vain conversation [received] by tradition from your fathers; 1 Peter 1:19 But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot:\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Accept that God's grace is sufficient for all salvation and for your new life.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Trust God and walk away from the old life of glorying in the flesh, glorying in what you think you do so well on your own.\", \"描述\": \"Yet, one is naturally responsible for/to your spouse, family, work, their livelihoods, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Be victorious through Christ/Messiah.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Believe that by His shedding His blood for you, Jesus/Yah'shua paid for your transgression of the law.\", \"描述\": \"Realize, that even at ones best, that you are still an undeserving sinner, and can never deserve that unfathomable grace and love gift of The Pesach/Passover/Perfect Lamb.\\nRealizing that you are unworthy, will cause His Spirit to stay with you always, as your helper and guide. 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Becoming a Microsoft Certified Trainer: Everything You Need to Know
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1. What is a Microsoft Certified Trainer?
An MCT is an expert with training in Microsoft technology.
To be an MCT, it means you have an extensive background in Microsoft products or solutions and you've got experience teaching. This certification is required if you want to train others to become Microsoft certified. Membership also gets you access to all of Microsoft's training and certification products, invitations to exclusive events, access to MCT community members, and discounts on Microsoft products.
This might be a position you want if you're boosting your skillset or your job in IT might require it.
2. What qualifications do I need to become an MCT?
2-1. Earn a qualifying Microsoft Certification.
Part of getting certified is that you've proven you have technical skills, so earn certification in the field or job in which you want to teach. For example, here are a few broad certifications you can hold—check Microsoft's certification website for the most complete list:
Microsoft Certified: Azure Data Scientist Associate
Microsoft Certified: Azure Data Engineer Associate
Microsoft Certified: Data Analyst Associate
Microsoft 365 Certified: Developer Associate
Microsoft Certified: Dynamics 365 Sales Functional Consultant Associate
2-2. Demonstrate your instructional skills if you aren't certified.
If you're already teaching Microsoft products or solutions in an academic setting and you have been for more than 1 year, you can submit this instead of going through the certification process. You will need to list a reference and contact information to verify your experience.Choose someone who knows you and will give you a good reference—Microsoft will actually check in with them before making a decision about your application!
3. Does it cost money to become an MCT?
Yes—it currently costs $1,000 USD to become a new MCT.
While this seems like a lot of money, keep in mind that it's for a prestigious training certification that can set you apart in your career. Being an MCT may help you get a job if it makes you look more qualified than other candidates, for instance.
If you work for a Microsoft Certified Partner for Learning Solutions, you can get a 25% discount, or if you work for a Microsoft Imagine Academy, you can get a 50% discount!
4. How do I apply?
Fill out and submit an online application.
If you fulfill the requirements, sign in to your Microsoft account and fill out the application. It's a really straightforward 10-step application that you can fill out and submit online. Then, wait for an email confirmation from Microsoft and you should get their decision within a few days.
If you listed a reference, they'll email your personal reference before making their decision, so it may take a little longer.
5. How much do Microsoft Certified Trainers make?
Most trainers average around $44,000 a year.
This works out to an average of around $21 an hour. Keep in mind that this really depends on the job you have, where you live, your work experience, and the job market.
The top 10% of MCT make over $59,000 while the bottom 10% make less than $33,000.
6. Do I have to renew my certification or pay any fees later?
Yes—renew your certification every year and pay an annual fee.
The renewal fee is $800 USD. To renew your certification, you'll have to fill out the online application again and have a current Microsoft certification. You'll also have to teach at least one class or prove that you've provided training.
You've got to renew your membership by your anniversary date or you'll lose your program benefits and you won't be able to teach using Microsoft Official Course titles.
Tips
Microsoft reserves the right to change any of their requirements for the MCT program at any time so check their website for the most up-to-date requirements.
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For example, here are a few broad certifications you can hold—check Microsoft's certification website for the most complete list:\\nMicrosoft Certified: Azure Data Scientist Associate\\nMicrosoft Certified: Azure Data Engineer Associate\\nMicrosoft Certified: Data Analyst Associate\\nMicrosoft 365 Certified: Developer Associate\\nMicrosoft Certified: Dynamics 365 Sales Functional Consultant Associate\\n2-2. Demonstrate your instructional skills if you aren't certified.\\nIf you're already teaching Microsoft products or solutions in an academic setting and you have been for more than 1 year, you can submit this instead of going through the certification process. You will need to list a reference and contact information to verify your experience.Choose someone who knows you and will give you a good reference—Microsoft will actually check in with them before making a decision about your application!\\n3. Does it cost money to become an MCT?\\nYes—it currently costs $1,000 USD to become a new MCT.\\nWhile this seems like a lot of money, keep in mind that it's for a prestigious training certification that can set you apart in your career. Being an MCT may help you get a job if it makes you look more qualified than other candidates, for instance.\\nIf you work for a Microsoft Certified Partner for Learning Solutions, you can get a 25% discount, or if you work for a Microsoft Imagine Academy, you can get a 50% discount!\\n4. How do I apply?\\nFill out and submit an online application.\\nIf you fulfill the requirements, sign in to your Microsoft account and fill out the application. It's a really straightforward 10-step application that you can fill out and submit online. Then, wait for an email confirmation from Microsoft and you should get their decision within a few days.\\nIf you listed a reference, they'll email your personal reference before making their decision, so it may take a little longer.\\n5. How much do Microsoft Certified Trainers make?\\nMost trainers average around $44,000 a year.\\nThis works out to an average of around $21 an hour. Keep in mind that this really depends on the job you have, where you live, your work experience, and the job market.\\nThe top 10% of MCT make over $59,000 while the bottom 10% make less than $33,000.\\n6. Do I have to renew my certification or pay any fees later?\\nYes—renew your certification every year and pay an annual fee.\\nThe renewal fee is $800 USD. To renew your certification, you'll have to fill out the online application again and have a current Microsoft certification. You'll also have to teach at least one class or prove that you've provided training.\\nYou've got to renew your membership by your anniversary date or you'll lose your program benefits and you won't be able to teach using Microsoft Official Course titles.\\nTips\\nMicrosoft reserves the right to change any of their requirements for the MCT program at any time so check their website for the most up-to-date requirements.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Looking to boost your resume or gain access to great Microsoft perks? When you become an Microsoft Certified Trainer (MCT), it shows that you're knowledgeable about Microsoft products and have exceptional teaching skills. 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1. Keeping Your Relationship Strong
1-1. Have good communication.
Communication is the key to success in any relationship, but is especially important in military relationships. Be open, honest, and understanding with your partner about all things good and bad in order to keep your connection strong, even when miles apart.
Before deployments and any other long separations, be sure to sit down with your partner and have a serious talk about both of your expectations, concerns, and feelings. It’s crucial to be on the same page.
When you and your partner disagree on something, make sure to hear them out. When it’s their turn to talk, put your opinions aside for a moment and truly listen to what they’re saying.
Don’t resort to blame, name-calling, or silent treatments when you’re upset. Instead, respectfully and directly confront your partner about the problem.
1-2. Communicate in whatever way you can.
Depending on which branch of the military your significant other is in, you’ll most likely have limited contact from time to time and only be able to communicate with them by letter, email, phone call, video call, or through social media. Take full advantage of this and write as many letters and emails as you can, even if you don’t receive many. Keep your phone near you at all times, just incase your partner has a couple minutes to talk.
When you’re far from each other, every bit of contact you have with your partner is beneficial to your relationship.
While it isn’t as good as as true physical contact, Facetiming or Skyping your significant other is the next best thing. Video call your partner as often as possible, as this may help you feel more connected than other forms of contact.
1-3. Allow for an adjustment period when your significant other comes home.
After you’ve spent a lot of time apart, whether your partner was at boot camp or deployed, you’ll both need some time to adjust. Most likely, it’ll be really exciting to be reunited but then adjusting to day-to-day life together may feel difficult because you’ll both have to change the routines you were just in.
1-4. Wait a year before making big relationship decisions.
You may feel a lot of pressure from others in the military community or just because of circumstance to make major decisions early on in the relationship. In order to give the relationship the best chance possible, resist the urge to move across the country or marry your significant other until you’ve been dating for at least a year.
You may quickly learn that there are a lot of benefits to marrying your partner, including higher pay for your partner and free health insurance for you. Don’t rush into anything before you’re truly ready just because it would make things easier.
2. Staying Happy During Tough Times
2-1. Keep a positive mindset.
Although it isn’t always easy to do, having an optimistic attitude can make all the difference in the world when you’re dating someone in the military. Do your best to see the good in every situation and develop patience and understanding. Some ways to achieve this include: practicing positive self-talk, smiling more, and keeping a daily gratitude journal.
Sometimes deployments get extended and orders get changed last minute. In the military world, it’s best to practice realistic optimism and expect the worst but hope for the best.
2-2. Stay busy.
As the girlfriend or boyfriend of a military person, it’s easy to get wrapped up in missing them and let yourself wallow. Instead, focus on your own personal goals and independent happiness.
Take a few classes at the local college, join a book club, pick up an extra shift, or sign up and train for a 5K that’s coming up to fill your time in a productive, fun way.
2-3. Make new friends.
You’re much less likely to feel lonely if you surround yourself with good friends. Invest in both old and new friendships that you have so that you can have a support system for the challenging times and also have fun experiences while your partner is away.
Spend some time with other military significant others. These people know what you’re going through and are often welcoming and supportive.
2-4. Come to terms with not having control.
There are a lot of rules and demands in the military, and there may be many holidays that you won’t be able to spend with your partner and many important details about missions that will be kept from you. Do your best to accept that you can’t change these things, and try to make the most of the situation.
Whenever you get overwhelmed about things being out of your control, try slowly counting down from 10 with your eyes closed. If this doesn’t work, you can try talking it out with a close friend, destressing through exercise, or focusing on helping someone else.
2-5. Accept the distance.
Whether it means distance from your family or distance from your significant other, you’ll have to be okay with being far away from loved ones. This is just a part of the military lifestyle. A benefit to this is that the military may allow you to visit and live in many places you’ve never been to before.
3. Showing Support
3-1. Stay positive in your emails, letters, and calls.
While it can be difficult, try not to show any sadness or frustration when you do have a special moment to talk to your spouse. Keep in mind that boot camp and/or deployments can be really hard on them too, and what they need is your positive support and reassurance.
Try to leave out any bad things that have happened to you lately and instead be upbeat in telling them how much you love and miss them.
Give them encouraging pep talks and say things like “I believe in you.”
3-2. Don’t give up.
Being separated from the person you love is no easy challenge to overcome. Some moments will feel harder than others and sometimes you may even doubt the relationship. Do your best to stay strong during these moments of weakness. You may regret making rash decisions about the relationship when your judgment is clouded by sadness and loneliness.
Don’t break up with your significant other or cheat on them while they’re away.
3-3. Accept your significant other’s career choice.
Choosing to be the in the military is not always an easy decision to make, so when you choose to be with someone in the military, respect their choice. At the end of the day it was their decision, not yours.
Do not talk down about the military, regardless your past experiences (i.e., a past negative relationship within the military or negative "military brat" experience).
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1. Taking Care of Your Own Needs
1-1. Have clear expectations and an understanding of your role in his life.
Know from the get-go that you’re not going to be his number one priority. Don’t expect him to eventually leave his wife (and if that’s something you want, you might want to reexamine your motivations for being his mistress). If you can keep things clear from the beginning, you can have an enjoyable affair for much longer and can save yourself from unneeded frustration and heartbreak.
When the relationship starts up, it may be helpful to have a brief conversation about what each of you expects—let him know you don’t expect him to be your boyfriend and that your main interest is having fun.
1-2. Make sure you're comfortable having a secret relationship.
If you want to become a mistress, you’ll need to embrace the fact that you will be a secret and that, most likely, your lover will have to be a secret from your friends and family, too. This means no cute couples photos, few outdoor activities, and keeping your personal life to yourself.
Perhaps you prefer knowing that there’s no chance of the relationship getting serious because you simply want to have some fun. If you can adopt the right mindset at the beginning, it could save you a lot of pain and frustration in the long run.
1-3. Consider the implications for his wife and children if he has any.
Chances are that you’ve thought about this already, but take a moment to check in with your gut. If you’re concerned about the implications of your relationship on his wife and family, think about what that might mean later down the road. Will you feel resentful of him? Will it affect the way you view yourself? Make sure that you feel comfortable with your decision so it doesn’t affect you negatively in the future.
Because every situation is different, there isn’t a hard and fast rule to tell you to stop or proceed with this relationship—it’s a decision you’ll have to make for yourself based on your particular circumstances.
1-4. Cultivate other meaningful relationships and hobbies.
Being the mistress often means that you won’t have a go-to date for special events, and you often might spend holidays and special occasions alone. Be prepared for this inevitability and have friendships (and other romantic relationships, too, if you want) so that your life is full and fun. You’ll have a lot of downtime, which is great if you have hobbies and other things that you’re invested in.
Being a mistress could satisfy some of your needs while still leaving you free to focus on other relationships, your career, personal improvement, or health goals.
1-5. Check in with yourself
Make sure to stay in tune with your feelings, needs, and desires. If you find yourself growing bored or resentful, it might be time to end the affair. Also, if you find yourself daydreaming of becoming your lover’s new wife, you might be setting yourself up for bitter disappointment. Protect yourself emotionally as much as you can by putting your own needs first.
Give yourself space to develop a romantic relationship with someone other than your lover. You may meet someone you’d like to date, and you deserve that kind of out-in-the-open relationship, too.
2. Being Discreet
2-1. Steer clear of places where you know his friends and family congregate.
One of the key steps to not getting caught is staying out of sight. You probably know where he lives, where his wife runs errands, where his kids go to school, and other intimate details. Avoid those areas, especially if you’re meeting up with him in public.
If you live or work close to each other and you happen to see him out in public with his family, ignore him. If you have to interact, keep things short, polite, and professional.
2-2. Keep your belongings out of his home, car, and other personal spaces.
Lots of people having affairs get caught because the wife finds something intimate that doesn’t belong to her, like lingerie, jewelry, makeup, or other clothing items. Keep all of your stuff at your place or in your purse, and double-check that you aren’t leaving anything behind if you’re rendezvousing in a mutual location.
Similarly, don’t send him gifts or packages to his home address or office. Wait to give him things in person so they don’t get intercepted by someone else.
2-3. Don’t call or text him when he’s spending time with his family.
Remember, you aren’t his priority, and if you want your affair to go smoothly, you need to respect his boundaries and family time. Potentially exposing the affair by contacting him when he’s at home could make him resent you and end the affair, and at the very least, it’ll make your next couple of interactions pretty tense.
It may be hard to do, but you’re going to need to let him control the frequency of contact in the relationship.
Discourage him from things like getting a second phone for you to use to contact him. If his wife finds it, she’ll definitely know that something is going on.
2-4. Use a code name if you’re going to tell others about your relationship.
Keeping quiet about your relationship is the best way to ensure it stays a secret, but if you do want to talk about it, avoid using his real name or other identifying details. As you know, friends can be pretty interested in details, so decide beforehand if you’re willing to lie and keep track of your stories, or if you’d rather just feign ignorance.
Be prepared to get some serious feedback if you tell friends or family that you’re a mistress. People might not be supportive of your choices, so think carefully if you’re up to having those conversations with people you love.
2-5. Avoid posting about the relationship on social media.
Even if you think you’re being vague and sneaky, someone is eventually bound to notice some telling detail and figure out what’s going on. It’s best to keep your love life off of the internet completely to avoid getting caught.
This means no photos of the flowers he sent, of the trip you took together, the meal you cooked, and other related details that you might otherwise be excited to share.
3. Enjoying Each Other’s Company
3-1. Take weekend trips out of town to enjoy being out in public together.
For some quality alone time without the worry of being seen in public, go away together. You’ll enjoy going to a new destination for some special one-on-one time.
You probably won’t be able to take these trips often, just depending on his schedule with work and his family. Aim to take a trip once every couple of months if you can manage it.
3-2. Keep things drama-free and do fun activities together.
You may be limited in what you can actually do on a day-to-day or night-to-night basis, and your time might mainly be spent at your home or a secondary location. That doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time, though! If you’re looking for something to do that’s a little out of the ordinary, consider cooking a meal together instead of getting takeout or schedule a couples massage as a romantic gesture.
Your affair might last for years, or it may be over within a few months. Commit to enjoying yourself as much as possible and focus on the present instead of worrying about what might happen in the future.
3-3. Don’t make comments about his relationship with his wife.
Even if he complains about his home life and his spouse, avoid making negative comments or comparing yourself to her. Instead, try to refocus attention to the present moment. You could try changing the subject or saying something simple, like, “You don’t have to spend time with her right now—let’s enjoy our evening together!”
It could be really tempting to put his wife down to try and make yourself look even more appealing; try to remember that he already chose you and you don’t need to give your input on his marriage.
3-4. Let him make the move to contact so you don’t come off as needy.
The best way to dampen an affair is to get possessive and jealous. Remember, he has a separate life that he has to participate in. Your time together will be a lot more fun and enjoyable if you aren’t bombarding him with messages about how you want to spend more time together.
The less clingy you are, the more he will want you. Maintaining a casual and nonchalant demeanor may make him chase you even harder.
Tips
Never threaten to expose the affair to his wife and family in an attempt to get him to leave her. The threat will backfire, and you’ll lose out on the relationship you did have.
If his wife confronts you about the affair, it’s probably best to come clean and end the relationship. Now that she knows, she’ll be watching him much more closely and it will be nearly impossible to continue meeting him.
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This means no cute couples photos, few outdoor activities, and keeping your personal life to yourself.\\nPerhaps you prefer knowing that there’s no chance of the relationship getting serious because you simply want to have some fun. If you can adopt the right mindset at the beginning, it could save you a lot of pain and frustration in the long run.\\n1-3. Consider the implications for his wife and children if he has any.\\nChances are that you’ve thought about this already, but take a moment to check in with your gut. If you’re concerned about the implications of your relationship on his wife and family, think about what that might mean later down the road. Will you feel resentful of him? Will it affect the way you view yourself? Make sure that you feel comfortable with your decision so it doesn’t affect you negatively in the future.\\nBecause every situation is different, there isn’t a hard and fast rule to tell you to stop or proceed with this relationship—it’s a decision you’ll have to make for yourself based on your particular circumstances.\\n1-4. Cultivate other meaningful relationships and hobbies.\\nBeing the mistress often means that you won’t have a go-to date for special events, and you often might spend holidays and special occasions alone. Be prepared for this inevitability and have friendships (and other romantic relationships, too, if you want) so that your life is full and fun. You’ll have a lot of downtime, which is great if you have hobbies and other things that you’re invested in.\\nBeing a mistress could satisfy some of your needs while still leaving you free to focus on other relationships, your career, personal improvement, or health goals.\\n1-5. Check in with yourself\\nMake sure to stay in tune with your feelings, needs, and desires. If you find yourself growing bored or resentful, it might be time to end the affair. Also, if you find yourself daydreaming of becoming your lover’s new wife, you might be setting yourself up for bitter disappointment. Protect yourself emotionally as much as you can by putting your own needs first.\\nGive yourself space to develop a romantic relationship with someone other than your lover. You may meet someone you’d like to date, and you deserve that kind of out-in-the-open relationship, too.\\n2. Being Discreet\\n2-1. Steer clear of places where you know his friends and family congregate.\\nOne of the key steps to not getting caught is staying out of sight. You probably know where he lives, where his wife runs errands, where his kids go to school, and other intimate details. Avoid those areas, especially if you’re meeting up with him in public.\\nIf you live or work close to each other and you happen to see him out in public with his family, ignore him. If you have to interact, keep things short, polite, and professional.\\n2-2. Keep your belongings out of his home, car, and other personal spaces.\\nLots of people having affairs get caught because the wife finds something intimate that doesn’t belong to her, like lingerie, jewelry, makeup, or other clothing items. Keep all of your stuff at your place or in your purse, and double-check that you aren’t leaving anything behind if you’re rendezvousing in a mutual location.\\nSimilarly, don’t send him gifts or packages to his home address or office. Wait to give him things in person so they don’t get intercepted by someone else.\\n2-3. Don’t call or text him when he’s spending time with his family.\\nRemember, you aren’t his priority, and if you want your affair to go smoothly, you need to respect his boundaries and family time. Potentially exposing the affair by contacting him when he’s at home could make him resent you and end the affair, and at the very least, it’ll make your next couple of interactions pretty tense.\\nIt may be hard to do, but you’re going to need to let him control the frequency of contact in the relationship.\\nDiscourage him from things like getting a second phone for you to use to contact him. If his wife finds it, she’ll definitely know that something is going on.\\n2-4. Use a code name if you’re going to tell others about your relationship.\\nKeeping quiet about your relationship is the best way to ensure it stays a secret, but if you do want to talk about it, avoid using his real name or other identifying details. As you know, friends can be pretty interested in details, so decide beforehand if you’re willing to lie and keep track of your stories, or if you’d rather just feign ignorance.\\nBe prepared to get some serious feedback if you tell friends or family that you’re a mistress. People might not be supportive of your choices, so think carefully if you’re up to having those conversations with people you love.\\n2-5. Avoid posting about the relationship on social media.\\nEven if you think you’re being vague and sneaky, someone is eventually bound to notice some telling detail and figure out what’s going on. It’s best to keep your love life off of the internet completely to avoid getting caught.\\nThis means no photos of the flowers he sent, of the trip you took together, the meal you cooked, and other related details that you might otherwise be excited to share.\\n3. Enjoying Each Other’s Company\\n3-1. Take weekend trips out of town to enjoy being out in public together.\\nFor some quality alone time without the worry of being seen in public, go away together. You’ll enjoy going to a new destination for some special one-on-one time.\\nYou probably won’t be able to take these trips often, just depending on his schedule with work and his family. Aim to take a trip once every couple of months if you can manage it.\\n3-2. Keep things drama-free and do fun activities together.\\nYou may be limited in what you can actually do on a day-to-day or night-to-night basis, and your time might mainly be spent at your home or a secondary location. That doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time, though! If you’re looking for something to do that’s a little out of the ordinary, consider cooking a meal together instead of getting takeout or schedule a couples massage as a romantic gesture.\\nYour affair might last for years, or it may be over within a few months. Commit to enjoying yourself as much as possible and focus on the present instead of worrying about what might happen in the future.\\n3-3. Don’t make comments about his relationship with his wife.\\nEven if he complains about his home life and his spouse, avoid making negative comments or comparing yourself to her. Instead, try to refocus attention to the present moment. You could try changing the subject or saying something simple, like, “You don’t have to spend time with her right now—let’s enjoy our evening together!”\\nIt could be really tempting to put his wife down to try and make yourself look even more appealing; try to remember that he already chose you and you don’t need to give your input on his marriage.\\n3-4. Let him make the move to contact so you don’t come off as needy.\\nThe best way to dampen an affair is to get possessive and jealous. Remember, he has a separate life that he has to participate in. Your time together will be a lot more fun and enjoyable if you aren’t bombarding him with messages about how you want to spend more time together.\\nThe less clingy you are, the more he will want you. Maintaining a casual and nonchalant demeanor may make him chase you even harder.\\nTips\\nNever threaten to expose the affair to his wife and family in an attempt to get him to leave her. The threat will backfire, and you’ll lose out on the relationship you did have.\\nIf his wife confronts you about the affair, it’s probably best to come clean and end the relationship. Now that she knows, she’ll be watching him much more closely and it will be nearly impossible to continue meeting him.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There are many reasons why you might decide to become “the other woman” in a relationship, but be sure to consider the potential consequences, both for his wife and family and also for your own emotional health. If you do begin an affair, remember to be discreet by avoiding public places where either of you might be recognized, and never post photos of your relationship on social media. Keep things fresh and fun by planning special weekends away and enjoy being together in the moment for however long you have!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Your Own Needs\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have clear expectations and an understanding of your role in his life.\", \"描述\": \"Know from the get-go that you’re not going to be his number one priority. Don’t expect him to eventually leave his wife (and if that’s something you want, you might want to reexamine your motivations for being his mistress). If you can keep things clear from the beginning, you can have an enjoyable affair for much longer and can save yourself from unneeded frustration and heartbreak.\\nWhen the relationship starts up, it may be helpful to have a brief conversation about what each of you expects—let him know you don’t expect him to be your boyfriend and that your main interest is having fun.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make sure you're comfortable having a secret relationship.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to become a mistress, you’ll need to embrace the fact that you will be a secret and that, most likely, your lover will have to be a secret from your friends and family, too. This means no cute couples photos, few outdoor activities, and keeping your personal life to yourself.\\nPerhaps you prefer knowing that there’s no chance of the relationship getting serious because you simply want to have some fun. 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You’ll have a lot of downtime, which is great if you have hobbies and other things that you’re invested in.\\nBeing a mistress could satisfy some of your needs while still leaving you free to focus on other relationships, your career, personal improvement, or health goals.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Check in with yourself\", \"描述\": \"Make sure to stay in tune with your feelings, needs, and desires. If you find yourself growing bored or resentful, it might be time to end the affair. Also, if you find yourself daydreaming of becoming your lover’s new wife, you might be setting yourself up for bitter disappointment. Protect yourself emotionally as much as you can by putting your own needs first.\\nGive yourself space to develop a romantic relationship with someone other than your lover. You may meet someone you’d like to date, and you deserve that kind of out-in-the-open relationship, too.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Discreet\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steer clear of places where you know his friends and family congregate.\", \"描述\": \"One of the key steps to not getting caught is staying out of sight. You probably know where he lives, where his wife runs errands, where his kids go to school, and other intimate details. Avoid those areas, especially if you’re meeting up with him in public.\\nIf you live or work close to each other and you happen to see him out in public with his family, ignore him. If you have to interact, keep things short, polite, and professional.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your belongings out of his home, car, and other personal spaces.\", \"描述\": \"Lots of people having affairs get caught because the wife finds something intimate that doesn’t belong to her, like lingerie, jewelry, makeup, or other clothing items. 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How to Be a Model in Your Mid Twenties
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1. Look the part
1-1. Dress simply.
A pair of jeans, a sexy t-shirt, and a sexy pair of heels will do. The point is not to let your wardrobe take attention away from your beautiful face or body. You don't want to look overdone. Heels, as opposed to flats, will not only enhance your height, but they will improve your walk and add style to your simple wardrobe.
1-2. Wear very little make-up.
Try to avoid wearing foundation at all, if possible. This will keep your skin clean and healthy. If you have acne, see a dermatologist right away. Realistically, acne may take months or even years to clear up, and at this age, you have very little time to waste on experimenting blindly with products. Also, consider switching to mineral make-up. It is much lighter than heavy foundations, it does not clog pores, and can help oily complexions. Avoid drugstore brands, unless that is financially your only option.
1-3. Do not hide or distort your features with heavy eye make-up or blush.
If you do not know how to do the natural look, see a professional make-up artist and ask for a natural look. If you feel you need heavy eye make-up, you may not be cut out for modeling, or you may lack the confidence needed to succeed in the field. If this is you, try going cold turkey by slapping on some mascara, some light concealer only where it's absolutely necessary, and some lip gloss with a natural tint. You WILL get used to it, and you will probably get compliments from your friends and family, which can only help. Chances are they've been hoping you'd chill with the heavy make-up. Also, make sure to stick to the daytime and nighttime make-up rule.
1-4. Watch your posture and walk at all times.
Keep your shoulders back, and your head up, regardless of how odd this feels. Keep one foot in front of the other as you walk. Your feet should follow one another in a straight line.
1-5. Exercise.
Be sure to keep your weight down, but be careful to stay healthy. See a nutritionist and discuss your goals with him/her. Lets face it- as a professional, you should take advantage of all of the sources available to assist you. Think of it as tuition, and as an investment in your future success as a model.
1-6. Drink 8 glasses of water daily.
Substitute soda and juice for water if this is difficult for you. You'll avoid sugar, and keep your body hydrated and your skin aglow.
1-7. Keep your hair healthy.
Avoid hot irons, blow-dryers, and curling irons whenever you can. Try working with the natural texture of your hair, whether you like it or not. Invest in a high-end salon and ask your stylist to create a style that would work with the natural texture of your hair. Straightening iron addicts- put those straighteners down! These tools should be reserved for special occasions ONLY! As a model, you will be exposed to these frequently anyway, so it would help to allow your hair to rest whenever you can. Also, try finding styling products that can achieve the look you're going for. ALWAYS use heat protection sprays and the appropriate products for your hair type. DO NOT wash your hair daily. Try using dry shampoo instead.
1-8. Don't neglect your nails.
Keep them relatively short (no hooker/acrylic nails, ladies!) and polished with a clear polish or a natural toned polish.
2. Decide on the Type of Modeling
2-1. If you're 25, there are agencies who will still consider you for high-fashion depending on how well you've aged, so make sure to take excellent care of your skin, invest in a good eye cream and moisturizer, and stay out of the sun!
That means, no tanning! EVER. Unless of course it's sunless, in which case, don't overdo it, and don't look orange. Ask a family member or friend who you think would be bold enough to tell you if you look orange or not. If you do, tone it down or avoid it all together. Photographers will apply bronzer to your skin if they think it's too pale.
2-2. If you're over 25 and believe you still look young enough to try it, submit your photos to reputable agencies through their websites or snail-mail.
Agencies usually cut off open calls to models over the age of 25. Take 4 photos of yourself. The first should be a photo of the front of your face with NO MAKEUP on. (if you insist on wearing it, however, make sure you keep it down to mascara and concealer that matches your skin tone perfectly). Second, a photo of your profile. Third, a full body shot of you in a bikini (NEVER send nude photos. They are UNACCEPTABLE). And finally, a full body shot of you in a bikini from the side.
2-3. Be honest with yourself.
Are you a size 4, 6, or 8? Are you over 5'9"? If not, you should probably go with commercial/print/plus-size modeling. Seek out agencies with these divisions.
2-4. If you're over 25 and have ruled out a career in high fashion, or an agent advised you to go commercial, by all means, listen to him/her and GO COMMERCIAL!
You can have tremendous success as a commercial/print model, and best of all, unlike those of us in high fashion, you never expire. You can model until you die. Plus, it's still super glam, super fun, and you have the opportunity to make lots of money.
3. Don't Give up
3-1. Keep up the fight.
The modeling biz can be one of the most discouraging businesses to ever try to break into. There will be lots of rejection and people who will think you're too old for their agency.
3-2. Know that just because you aren't good for one assignment, doesn't mean you aren't good for another.
This does NOT mean you aren't beautiful or perfect for another agency. You are only too old if you think you're too old. That is a self-defeating and self-fulfilling prophecy.
3-3. Keep that head up, those shoulders back, and that walk fierce.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Look the part\\n1-1. Dress simply.\\nA pair of jeans, a sexy t-shirt, and a sexy pair of heels will do. The point is not to let your wardrobe take attention away from your beautiful face or body. You don't want to look overdone. Heels, as opposed to flats, will not only enhance your height, but they will improve your walk and add style to your simple wardrobe.\\n1-2. Wear very little make-up.\\nTry to avoid wearing foundation at all, if possible. This will keep your skin clean and healthy. If you have acne, see a dermatologist right away. Realistically, acne may take months or even years to clear up, and at this age, you have very little time to waste on experimenting blindly with products. Also, consider switching to mineral make-up. It is much lighter than heavy foundations, it does not clog pores, and can help oily complexions. Avoid drugstore brands, unless that is financially your only option.\\n1-3. Do not hide or distort your features with heavy eye make-up or blush.\\nIf you do not know how to do the natural look, see a professional make-up artist and ask for a natural look. If you feel you need heavy eye make-up, you may not be cut out for modeling, or you may lack the confidence needed to succeed in the field. If this is you, try going cold turkey by slapping on some mascara, some light concealer only where it's absolutely necessary, and some lip gloss with a natural tint. You WILL get used to it, and you will probably get compliments from your friends and family, which can only help. Chances are they've been hoping you'd chill with the heavy make-up. Also, make sure to stick to the daytime and nighttime make-up rule.\\n1-4. Watch your posture and walk at all times.\\nKeep your shoulders back, and your head up, regardless of how odd this feels. Keep one foot in front of the other as you walk. Your feet should follow one another in a straight line.\\n1-5. Exercise.\\nBe sure to keep your weight down, but be careful to stay healthy. See a nutritionist and discuss your goals with him/her. Lets face it- as a professional, you should take advantage of all of the sources available to assist you. Think of it as tuition, and as an investment in your future success as a model.\\n1-6. Drink 8 glasses of water daily.\\nSubstitute soda and juice for water if this is difficult for you. You'll avoid sugar, and keep your body hydrated and your skin aglow.\\n1-7. Keep your hair healthy.\\nAvoid hot irons, blow-dryers, and curling irons whenever you can. Try working with the natural texture of your hair, whether you like it or not. Invest in a high-end salon and ask your stylist to create a style that would work with the natural texture of your hair. Straightening iron addicts- put those straighteners down! These tools should be reserved for special occasions ONLY! As a model, you will be exposed to these frequently anyway, so it would help to allow your hair to rest whenever you can. Also, try finding styling products that can achieve the look you're going for. ALWAYS use heat protection sprays and the appropriate products for your hair type. DO NOT wash your hair daily. Try using dry shampoo instead.\\n1-8. Don't neglect your nails.\\nKeep them relatively short (no hooker/acrylic nails, ladies!) and polished with a clear polish or a natural toned polish.\\n2. Decide on the Type of Modeling\\n2-1. If you're 25, there are agencies who will still consider you for high-fashion depending on how well you've aged, so make sure to take excellent care of your skin, invest in a good eye cream and moisturizer, and stay out of the sun!\\nThat means, no tanning! EVER. Unless of course it's sunless, in which case, don't overdo it, and don't look orange. Ask a family member or friend who you think would be bold enough to tell you if you look orange or not. If you do, tone it down or avoid it all together. Photographers will apply bronzer to your skin if they think it's too pale.\\n2-2. If you're over 25 and believe you still look young enough to try it, submit your photos to reputable agencies through their websites or snail-mail.\\nAgencies usually cut off open calls to models over the age of 25. Take 4 photos of yourself. The first should be a photo of the front of your face with NO MAKEUP on. (if you insist on wearing it, however, make sure you keep it down to mascara and concealer that matches your skin tone perfectly). Second, a photo of your profile. Third, a full body shot of you in a bikini (NEVER send nude photos. They are UNACCEPTABLE). And finally, a full body shot of you in a bikini from the side.\\n2-3. Be honest with yourself.\\nAre you a size 4, 6, or 8? Are you over 5'9\\\"? If not, you should probably go with commercial/print/plus-size modeling. Seek out agencies with these divisions.\\n2-4. If you're over 25 and have ruled out a career in high fashion, or an agent advised you to go commercial, by all means, listen to him/her and GO COMMERCIAL!\\nYou can have tremendous success as a commercial/print model, and best of all, unlike those of us in high fashion, you never expire. You can model until you die. Plus, it's still super glam, super fun, and you have the opportunity to make lots of money.\\n3. Don't Give up\\n3-1. Keep up the fight.\\nThe modeling biz can be one of the most discouraging businesses to ever try to break into. There will be lots of rejection and people who will think you're too old for their agency.\\n3-2. Know that just because you aren't good for one assignment, doesn't mean you aren't good for another.\\nThis does NOT mean you aren't beautiful or perfect for another agency. You are only too old if you think you're too old. That is a self-defeating and self-fulfilling prophecy.\\n3-3. Keep that head up, those shoulders back, and that walk fierce.\\n\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Anyone can be a model, no matter how old they are! If you're interested in being a model but worried about getting a gig because of your age - don't worry! Look into the type of modeling you want to do, and work on catering to that style!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look the part\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress simply.\", \"描述\": \"A pair of jeans, a sexy t-shirt, and a sexy pair of heels will do. The point is not to let your wardrobe take attention away from your beautiful face or body. You don't want to look overdone. Heels, as opposed to flats, will not only enhance your height, but they will improve your walk and add style to your simple wardrobe.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear very little make-up.\", \"描述\": \"Try to avoid wearing foundation at all, if possible. This will keep your skin clean and healthy. If you have acne, see a dermatologist right away. Realistically, acne may take months or even years to clear up, and at this age, you have very little time to waste on experimenting blindly with products. Also, consider switching to mineral make-up. It is much lighter than heavy foundations, it does not clog pores, and can help oily complexions. Avoid drugstore brands, unless that is financially your only option.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do not hide or distort your features with heavy eye make-up or blush.\", \"描述\": \"If you do not know how to do the natural look, see a professional make-up artist and ask for a natural look. If you feel you need heavy eye make-up, you may not be cut out for modeling, or you may lack the confidence needed to succeed in the field. If this is you, try going cold turkey by slapping on some mascara, some light concealer only where it's absolutely necessary, and some lip gloss with a natural tint. You WILL get used to it, and you will probably get compliments from your friends and family, which can only help. Chances are they've been hoping you'd chill with the heavy make-up. Also, make sure to stick to the daytime and nighttime make-up rule.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Watch your posture and walk at all times.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your shoulders back, and your head up, regardless of how odd this feels. Keep one foot in front of the other as you walk. Your feet should follow one another in a straight line.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Exercise.\", \"描述\": \"Be sure to keep your weight down, but be careful to stay healthy. See a nutritionist and discuss your goals with him/her. Lets face it- as a professional, you should take advantage of all of the sources available to assist you. Think of it as tuition, and as an investment in your future success as a model.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Drink 8 glasses of water daily.\", \"描述\": \"Substitute soda and juice for water if this is difficult for you. You'll avoid sugar, and keep your body hydrated and your skin aglow.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Keep your hair healthy.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid hot irons, blow-dryers, and curling irons whenever you can. Try working with the natural texture of your hair, whether you like it or not. Invest in a high-end salon and ask your stylist to create a style that would work with the natural texture of your hair. Straightening iron addicts- put those straighteners down! These tools should be reserved for special occasions ONLY! As a model, you will be exposed to these frequently anyway, so it would help to allow your hair to rest whenever you can. Also, try finding styling products that can achieve the look you're going for. ALWAYS use heat protection sprays and the appropriate products for your hair type. DO NOT wash your hair daily. Try using dry shampoo instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't neglect your nails.\", \"描述\": \"Keep them relatively short (no hooker/acrylic nails, ladies!) and polished with a clear polish or a natural toned polish.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Decide on the Type of Modeling\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you're 25, there are agencies who will still consider you for high-fashion depending on how well you've aged, so make sure to take excellent care of your skin, invest in a good eye cream and moisturizer, and stay out of the sun!\", \"描述\": \"That means, no tanning! EVER. Unless of course it's sunless, in which case, don't overdo it, and don't look orange. Ask a family member or friend who you think would be bold enough to tell you if you look orange or not. If you do, tone it down or avoid it all together. Photographers will apply bronzer to your skin if they think it's too pale.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"If you're over 25 and believe you still look young enough to try it, submit your photos to reputable agencies through their websites or snail-mail.\", \"描述\": \"Agencies usually cut off open calls to models over the age of 25. Take 4 photos of yourself. The first should be a photo of the front of your face with NO MAKEUP on. (if you insist on wearing it, however, make sure you keep it down to mascara and concealer that matches your skin tone perfectly). Second, a photo of your profile. Third, a full body shot of you in a bikini (NEVER send nude photos. They are UNACCEPTABLE). And finally, a full body shot of you in a bikini from the side.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be honest with yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Are you a size 4, 6, or 8? Are you over 5'9\\\"? If not, you should probably go with commercial/print/plus-size modeling. 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You are only too old if you think you're too old. That is a self-defeating and self-fulfilling prophecy.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep that head up, those shoulders back, and that walk fierce.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a Modern Christian Girl
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1. Steps
1-1. Pray every day.
Start off with reading a couple of passages in the Bible. Then start praying. You should start by praising God and marking Him as authority. Then start thanking Him, and pray for yourself, and others. Pray consistently and with patience. Whisper a prayer in the morning, afternoon and evening. Arrow prayers can be integrated in the day. If you have trouble remembering whom you need to pray for, have a notebook and write down whom you must pray for. Promise that person that you'll pray for them and be sure to keep that promise. Pray with that person too, if they desire.
1-2. Send bible verses to friends and family.
While this can make a nice difference in someone's day, if they aren't religious or have asked you not to include them you are disrespecting them, their wishes, and their beliefs, which is something a modern Christian girl should never do.
1-3. Admit your faults.
No one, even people who are born again in Christ, is perfect. When we evangelize to others, we must be prepared to be open about our sins. It should be done in a modest way and for the benefit of others who are in difficult situations.
1-4. Be trustworthy.
When someone tells you something, don't spread it around. Promise that person that you'll keep it to yourself. However, if what that person told you is illegal or serious, such as that they suffer from an eating disorder, you need to tell an adult immediately. Pray to God for wisdom and guidance.
1-5. Be open to God.
Do what God tells you to do just like Moses did. God knows what is best for us and even if we don't realize it now, we may later on. Use the bible for inspiration and pour your heart out to the Lord. Listen to Him. Ask for forgiveness.
1-6. Do what is right before God.
If you know something is not right then be bold and don't give into it. It may not be easy. It can help to trust in other believers and to trust God Himself.
1-7. Forgive others.
In the Lord's prayer and in the Bible, it teaches us to forgive. God always forgives us when we sin so we should forgive ourselves and others. It may not be easy, but unless you are thinking of forgiving someone currently hurting you, it is the right thing to do.
1-8. Don't judge others.
Only God has the authority to judge others. If we judge others, we will also be judged ourselves.
1-9. Be wary of false teachings.
You may run across people who tell you something and justify it with "it's in the Bible" when in reality it is not. Similarly, you may run across people who twist what is in the Bible for their own benefits or to hold against a certain group. Don't buy into what these people are saying!
1-10. Don't be a hypocrite.
Don't say one thing and do something completely opposite. This will cause others as well as yourself to doubt your faith and God. Admit your past mistakes, try to lead a godly life and walk with Christ.
1-11. Get involved in church activities.
It can be anything. There is always something going on at church, so get involved! If you are worried that it might affect your studies or job, then pray about it. If there is no way to fit it into your schedule, as long as you aren't shunning Him, God will understand.
1-12. Dress suitably.
There is nothing wrong with being stylish. Just remember when you dress how others will perceive you and what they will think about you simply by the way you dress. Is your clothing pleasing to God? Remember that you have a testimony to keep and although being stylish sometimes can also be modest it is not always and we Christian ladies should always be aware of how we present ourselves for the Lord.
1-13. Help others.
Babysit for someone, bake a cake for them, help someone with their groceries or shovel an elderly neighbour's walk. Try to help at least one person every day.
1-14. Set up prayer meetings or other Christian events.
Invite friends, family, and members of your church to a prayer meeting or other Christian event. If you have time, try to schedule at least one per month.
1-15. Accept things gracefully.
When a person is unpleasant to you don't make a big deal out of it. Don't sink to name calling or fist fights. Simply move on. If you are constantly being taunted by a classmate or coworker though, you should go to a teacher or your boss. They do not have the right to do this to you and getting help in making them stop is not ungraceful.
1-16. Don't show off or spend too much.
Keep track of what you spend money on and then see if it is all really necessary. Start a budget and you will be amazed how much you can save! This money can go towards treats for yourself, others, and charities.
1-17. Be servant-hearted.
Jesus calls us to be like this. We should treat others the way Jesus would and always be ready to help others.
1-18. Treat everyone equally.
This is regardless of their background, nationality, sexuality, and religion. Everyone deserves to be treated equally, and as mentioned above, only God may judge.
1-19. Know that there is nothing wrong with being ambitious or intelligent.
God blessed us with the gifts to develop our abilities. We should be use them in the right way. God has a plan for us all, he always knows what is best for us.
1-20. Have fun.
It is good to have fun with other Christian brethren as long as the activities are wholesome and pleasing to the Lord. Remember to behave like a good Christian lady at all times.
1-21. Be an example to others.
If you are struggling with a decision and praying for guidance doesn't help you, imagine what someone who looks up to you and you care for would think. Will this person be hurt if you do this? Would you want this person to do this? Try to be a leader and a good example for others.
Tips
Read the bible often.
Write out your favourite bible verse and stick it on the wall.
Remember, only God can judge - you, or others.
Warnings
Christ told us we would have to suffer for Him, but don't think you'll have to suffer alone. Talk to your parents, church leaders, elders,or pastor, share with a close Christian friend and let them comfort you and pray for you and ask for God to deliver to you Him strength in these last days.
At the same time, stand up for for your faith and up for God and what's right in His sight. If other people try to bully or hurt you because of your Christianity or the fact that you don't agree with certain worldly ideals, thank the Lord for your suffering.
Pray to Him for comfort and guidance and pray for those who try to hurt, bless them that curse, and do good to those people who bully you. People need the love of Christ through you, please give that to them.
Never, ever, hurt another person because of their sexuality or religion. You do not have to agree with them but that does not give you the right to hurt them, in any way, physically, mentally, or emotionally. And if you do hurt them physically there is a good chance you will go to jail.
Make sure you don't 'lord it over' people. It does not make you look like a good Christian, it only makes you look like you think you are better than them, and you aren't.
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Admit your faults.\\nNo one, even people who are born again in Christ, is perfect. When we evangelize to others, we must be prepared to be open about our sins. It should be done in a modest way and for the benefit of others who are in difficult situations.\\n1-4. Be trustworthy.\\nWhen someone tells you something, don't spread it around. Promise that person that you'll keep it to yourself. However, if what that person told you is illegal or serious, such as that they suffer from an eating disorder, you need to tell an adult immediately. Pray to God for wisdom and guidance.\\n1-5. Be open to God.\\nDo what God tells you to do just like Moses did. God knows what is best for us and even if we don't realize it now, we may later on. Use the bible for inspiration and pour your heart out to the Lord. Listen to Him. Ask for forgiveness.\\n1-6. Do what is right before God.\\nIf you know something is not right then be bold and don't give into it. It may not be easy. It can help to trust in other believers and to trust God Himself.\\n1-7. Forgive others.\\nIn the Lord's prayer and in the Bible, it teaches us to forgive. God always forgives us when we sin so we should forgive ourselves and others. It may not be easy, but unless you are thinking of forgiving someone currently hurting you, it is the right thing to do.\\n1-8. Don't judge others.\\nOnly God has the authority to judge others. If we judge others, we will also be judged ourselves.\\n1-9. Be wary of false teachings.\\nYou may run across people who tell you something and justify it with \\\"it's in the Bible\\\" when in reality it is not. Similarly, you may run across people who twist what is in the Bible for their own benefits or to hold against a certain group. Don't buy into what these people are saying!\\n1-10. Don't be a hypocrite.\\nDon't say one thing and do something completely opposite. This will cause others as well as yourself to doubt your faith and God. Admit your past mistakes, try to lead a godly life and walk with Christ.\\n1-11. Get involved in church activities.\\nIt can be anything. There is always something going on at church, so get involved! If you are worried that it might affect your studies or job, then pray about it. If there is no way to fit it into your schedule, as long as you aren't shunning Him, God will understand.\\n1-12. Dress suitably.\\nThere is nothing wrong with being stylish. Just remember when you dress how others will perceive you and what they will think about you simply by the way you dress. Is your clothing pleasing to God? Remember that you have a testimony to keep and although being stylish sometimes can also be modest it is not always and we Christian ladies should always be aware of how we present ourselves for the Lord.\\n1-13. Help others.\\nBabysit for someone, bake a cake for them, help someone with their groceries or shovel an elderly neighbour's walk. Try to help at least one person every day.\\n1-14. Set up prayer meetings or other Christian events.\\nInvite friends, family, and members of your church to a prayer meeting or other Christian event. If you have time, try to schedule at least one per month.\\n1-15. Accept things gracefully.\\nWhen a person is unpleasant to you don't make a big deal out of it. Don't sink to name calling or fist fights. Simply move on. If you are constantly being taunted by a classmate or coworker though, you should go to a teacher or your boss. They do not have the right to do this to you and getting help in making them stop is not ungraceful.\\n1-16. Don't show off or spend too much.\\nKeep track of what you spend money on and then see if it is all really necessary. Start a budget and you will be amazed how much you can save! This money can go towards treats for yourself, others, and charities.\\n1-17. Be servant-hearted.\\nJesus calls us to be like this. We should treat others the way Jesus would and always be ready to help others.\\n1-18. Treat everyone equally.\\nThis is regardless of their background, nationality, sexuality, and religion. Everyone deserves to be treated equally, and as mentioned above, only God may judge.\\n1-19. Know that there is nothing wrong with being ambitious or intelligent.\\nGod blessed us with the gifts to develop our abilities. We should be use them in the right way. God has a plan for us all, he always knows what is best for us.\\n1-20. Have fun.\\nIt is good to have fun with other Christian brethren as long as the activities are wholesome and pleasing to the Lord. Remember to behave like a good Christian lady at all times.\\n1-21. Be an example to others.\\nIf you are struggling with a decision and praying for guidance doesn't help you, imagine what someone who looks up to you and you care for would think. Will this person be hurt if you do this? Would you want this person to do this? Try to be a leader and a good example for others.\\nTips\\nRead the bible often.\\nWrite out your favourite bible verse and stick it on the wall.\\nRemember, only God can judge - you, or others.\\nWarnings\\nChrist told us we would have to suffer for Him, but don't think you'll have to suffer alone. Talk to your parents, church leaders, elders,or pastor, share with a close Christian friend and let them comfort you and pray for you and ask for God to deliver to you Him strength in these last days.\\nAt the same time, stand up for for your faith and up for God and what's right in His sight. If other people try to bully or hurt you because of your Christianity or the fact that you don't agree with certain worldly ideals, thank the Lord for your suffering.\\nPray to Him for comfort and guidance and pray for those who try to hurt, bless them that curse, and do good to those people who bully you. People need the love of Christ through you, please give that to them.\\nNever, ever, hurt another person because of their sexuality or religion. You do not have to agree with them but that does not give you the right to hurt them, in any way, physically, mentally, or emotionally. And if you do hurt them physically there is a good chance you will go to jail.\\nMake sure you don't 'lord it over' people. It does not make you look like a good Christian, it only makes you look like you think you are better than them, and you aren't.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"For girls who struggle with the Christian faith and how to incorporate it into a modern life, here is how you can blend them and still place God first in your life.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pray every day.\", \"描述\": \"Start off with reading a couple of passages in the Bible. Then start praying. You should start by praising God and marking Him as authority. Then start thanking Him, and pray for yourself, and others. Pray consistently and with patience. Whisper a prayer in the morning, afternoon and evening. Arrow prayers can be integrated in the day. If you have trouble remembering whom you need to pray for, have a notebook and write down whom you must pray for. Promise that person that you'll pray for them and be sure to keep that promise. Pray with that person too, if they desire.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Send bible verses to friends and family.\", \"描述\": \"While this can make a nice difference in someone's day, if they aren't religious or have asked you not to include them you are disrespecting them, their wishes, and their beliefs, which is something a modern Christian girl should never do.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Admit your faults.\", \"描述\": \"No one, even people who are born again in Christ, is perfect. When we evangelize to others, we must be prepared to be open about our sins. It should be done in a modest way and for the benefit of others who are in difficult situations.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be trustworthy.\", \"描述\": \"When someone tells you something, don't spread it around. Promise that person that you'll keep it to yourself. However, if what that person told you is illegal or serious, such as that they suffer from an eating disorder, you need to tell an adult immediately. Pray to God for wisdom and guidance.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be open to God.\", \"描述\": \"Do what God tells you to do just like Moses did. God knows what is best for us and even if we don't realize it now, we may later on. Use the bible for inspiration and pour your heart out to the Lord. Listen to Him. Ask for forgiveness.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do what is right before God.\", \"描述\": \"If you know something is not right then be bold and don't give into it. It may not be easy. It can help to trust in other believers and to trust God Himself.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Forgive others.\", \"描述\": \"In the Lord's prayer and in the Bible, it teaches us to forgive. God always forgives us when we sin so we should forgive ourselves and others. It may not be easy, but unless you are thinking of forgiving someone currently hurting you, it is the right thing to do.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't judge others.\", \"描述\": \"Only God has the authority to judge others. If we judge others, we will also be judged ourselves.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be wary of false teachings.\", \"描述\": \"You may run across people who tell you something and justify it with \\\"it's in the Bible\\\" when in reality it is not. Similarly, you may run across people who twist what is in the Bible for their own benefits or to hold against a certain group. Don't buy into what these people are saying!\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Don't be a hypocrite.\", \"描述\": \"Don't say one thing and do something completely opposite. This will cause others as well as yourself to doubt your faith and God. Admit your past mistakes, try to lead a godly life and walk with Christ.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Get involved in church activities.\", \"描述\": \"It can be anything. There is always something going on at church, so get involved! If you are worried that it might affect your studies or job, then pray about it. If there is no way to fit it into your schedule, as long as you aren't shunning Him, God will understand.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Dress suitably.\", \"描述\": \"There is nothing wrong with being stylish. Just remember when you dress how others will perceive you and what they will think about you simply by the way you dress. Is your clothing pleasing to God? 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1. Be respectful of others.
Gentlemen treat people the way they want to be treated.
It’s easy for people to be judgmental or jaded these days, but a modern gentleman aims to give people the benefit of the doubt. Be nice to everyone, even if there’s really nothing in it for you. Try to avoid letting a preconceived idea about someone cloud your ability to show them respect.
Treat everyone with respect regardless of their gender, race, or class. No modern gentleman looks down on others for coming from a different background!
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” is a great mantra for a modern gentleman.
2. Say please and thank you.
Expressing gratitude is key for a gentleman.
While a gentleman hundreds of years ago may have drunk their tea with a pinky out, you don’t need to worry about following any kind of hard set of rules here. Just be grateful and show some basic appreciation when you interact with other people.
Feel free to make this your own. “I appreciate it,” “You’re the best,” and, “You’re so kind,” are all solid ways to say thanks without coming off as too formal!
This is especially important when it comes to service workers. Instead of just rattling off your order at the restaurant, greet your server by saying, “Hey! How’s your day going?” and don’t forget to thank them after they’ve taken your order. The way you treat strangers who serve you says a lot!
3. Mind your manners.
Abide by the proper etiquette to exude gentlemanliness.
While many traditional social rules no longer apply, you can absolutely embody the spirit of a gentleman by following the spirit of traditional etiquette. You don’t need to be super stiff or formal, but do your best to avoid ruffling feathers in public or making poor first impressions.
Be punctual and never show up late if you can avoid it.
Don’t curse in front of strangers, and avoid raising your voice in public unless someone is having trouble understanding you.
Table manners are a key part of being a modern gentleman. Keep your elbows off of the table and never reach out over anyone to grab the salt!
Avoid being overly informal with people. There’s nothing wrong with calling someone “dude” or “mate,” but it isn’t especially gentlemanly.
4. Spread positivity everywhere you go.
Hand out compliments liberally and build people up.
The more positivity you can inject into the world, the better. Tell your friends you love their outfit, say nice things about their hair, and tell people you care about them. If someone looks like they’re having a rough day, shower them with support and love.
A lot of people spend a majority of their time doing things for themselves. A true gentleman cares about everyone! Whether it’s volunteering for a good cause or just being nice to strangers, aim to make the world a better place.
5. Dress well and take care of your appearance.
Keep that 5 o’clock shadow in check and update your wardrobe.
Shower every day, touch your facial hair up as needed to keep it neat, and stop pulling your outfits out of the laundry basket. If you need some new clothes, there’s no time like now to do some shopping! This isn’t 1950—you don’t have to always wear a suit and tie in order to be a gentleman. But that doesn’t mean you should be walking around in sweatpants and sandals, either.
You don’t need to look a certain way—you can absolutely be a bearded fellow with a goth wardrobe and still be a gentleman—but you should be mindful of how you present yourself.
A lot of guys don’t moisturize or exfoliate at all. Take care of your skin!
Invest in a quality cologne. How you smell is a large part of the impression you make on others.
6. Stand up for what’s right.
Call out injustice and don’t let cruel behavior go unchecked.
If you see someone being bullied, call out the aggressor and make it known that you don’t tolerate nastiness. If one of your friends makes an off-handed racist joke or something, let them know it won’t fly when you’re around. Gentlemen should be beacons of justice and fairness, so take a stand when it’s called for.
The famous adage comes to mind here: “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” If you want to be a good man, do something!
7. Help people in need.
Volunteer to help even if there’s nothing in it for you.
If your friend needs help moving, put yourself up for the job before they get a chance to ask. If someone stops you on the street to ask for directions, do your best to walk them through where they need to go. Even if it’s just a little thing, do your best to go out of your way to improve the lives of those around you.
This isn’t to say that you should sacrifice time, money, or energy to help others if you can’t do it. You should still take care of yourself; just try to help others whenever you can.
8. Engage in a few scholarly pursuits.
A gentleman is well-versed on a variety of topics, so read up!
If it’s been a while since you’ve cracked open a book, try to get back into the habit. Whether it’s classic novels, scientific articles, or nonfiction, aim to read a little bit every day. You could also learn how to play an instrument, or take a class on writing poetry. Whatever you choose to do, pursue something that will make you smarter and more well-rounded.
A modern gentleman should be able to hold their own at a cocktail party or on a dinner date. Even if you don’t consider yourself particularly “academic,” at least you’ll be able to hold an interesting conversation if you know a thing or two!
9. Keep up with the news.
Be a good citizen by staying informed and updated on current affairs.
Aim to get a good balance of local, national, and international news, and look for news sources that provide a variety of diverse opinions. Not only will you be able to engage in a casual conversation about that new tax bill the next time it comes up at a party, but you’ll be more informed about the world around you!
It’s a little old school, but getting a newspaper subscription is a great way to stay up on local news. You’ll get to support a good local paper while you’re at it!
It’s easy to get beat down with all the negativity out there. If it gets a little too depressing to keep reading the news, take a break.
10. Use social media as a force for good.
It’s easy to engage in bad faith online, so treat digital strangers right.
Post positive comments, share motivational images, and do your best not to get into digital duals with strangers. If you’re a gentleman in real life, be a gentleman online. A lot of people are a little more controversial, rude, or toxic online than they are in real life. This is because it’s easy to pretend like those profiles and screen names don’t have a real person behind them.
This is especially important when it comes to interacting with potential dating partners. A lot of men out there aren’t particularly kind or respectful in this arena, so be the change you want to see in the world.
11. Brush off rejection and failure gracefully.
Things don’t always go your way, so shake off obstacles with candor.
How you respond to failure says a lot about you, and a true gentleman doesn’t get flustered, act out, or insult people when things don’t go their way. If your boss shoots you down when you ask for a promotion, thank them for considering you and don’t let it impact your work. If you ask someone on a date and they decline your offer, smile and tell them that you understand. Take the high road whenever you can, and don’t let challenges get you down.
Ever hear the phrase “water off of a duck’s back”? It’s a good mantra for gentlemen anywhere. Don’t let problems rattle or upset you to the point that you act out. Even if you’re hurting inside in the moment, swallow your pride and process the feeling in private.
12. Be a man about town.
Build your rolodex and learn where to find the best.
A good gentleman is “in the know” when it comes to where you should get a suit tailored, where you should go for a fancy bottle of wine, and where the last pool hall in the city is located. If you’re in the habit of going to the same place for food, haircuts, or drinks, spread your wings a bit. Visit new places and find the best in town.
Always tip well—especially when you’re at a business you regularly visit. If you’re in the United States, aim to always tip 15-20%.
Know a barber, florist, and jeweler. You’re sure to raise some eyebrows if you can rattle off a recommendation for a fresh shave, fancy centerpiece, or watch salesman! You’ll never feel cooler than you do when you get to say, “I know a guy.”
If you’re over 21, find a hidden gem in the bar department. It could be a secretive speakeasy, a basement whiskey bar, or a trendy rooftop spot that makes fancy cocktails. If co-workers are looking for a spot to grab a drink or your date wants to grab a nightcap, you’ll be the slick guy with the cool recommendation!
Warnings
Some of the old-school habits of gentlemen may not go over so well today. People are perfectly capable of ordering for themselves at restaurants, and many women find the title “lady” to be insulting, not endearing. Even if you mean well, be aware of how your actions may be seen by other people.[16]
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Just be grateful and show some basic appreciation when you interact with other people.\\nFeel free to make this your own. “I appreciate it,” “You’re the best,” and, “You’re so kind,” are all solid ways to say thanks without coming off as too formal!\\nThis is especially important when it comes to service workers. Instead of just rattling off your order at the restaurant, greet your server by saying, “Hey! How’s your day going?” and don’t forget to thank them after they’ve taken your order. The way you treat strangers who serve you says a lot!\\n3. Mind your manners.\\nAbide by the proper etiquette to exude gentlemanliness.\\nWhile many traditional social rules no longer apply, you can absolutely embody the spirit of a gentleman by following the spirit of traditional etiquette. 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1. Following a Hippie Diet
1-1. Eat organic foods.
Try to buy organic foods and avoid genetically modified foods at all costs. Hippies find that it is better for the earth and healthier for the body. Hippies nowadays and in the past ate to sustain themselves and the planet. A reason hippies eat this way is that they treat their bodies like a temple. This is why you should pick out the purest ingredients available.
Growing your own produce and raising livestock assures the highest quality, freshest food for your family. If this is not possible, you will have to rely on others to supply your needs.
Check labels at your local grocery store. They usually have labelling on the box saying that the ingredients are certified organic.
Visit health-centered grocery stores to increase your chances of finding quality ingredients.
1-2. Support local farms.
One way to support your local community is to buy produce and meats from local farmers. You can do this through a local farmer's market, by subscribing to a farm-to-table program, or working directly with individual local farmers. If you have the time, it is best to become involved in some way with your community and, especially, the local farmers.
Modern hippies value sustainability and part of this involves avoiding the processed food industry as much as possible.
Growing your own food is also a viable option for getting the best quality. Volunteer with a local garden to get started into the local gardening community.
1-3. Eat a vegetarian diet.
Vegetarianism isn't for everyone, but some hippies are vegetarian. Some hippies go vegetarian because of their love for animals and their stance against violence. Industrial cattle farming is one of the highest producers of toxic emissions. It is better for your body and the environment to eat a plant-based diet.
If you are struggling with giving up meat, you can take steps to lower your weekly meat intake. Start slowly, and progressively work to cut it from your diet.
If you do eat meat, purchase hormone-free meats.
1-4. Avoid toxins.
One way to treat your body like a temple is to cut out toxins from your life. Dietary toxins can contribute to causing many modern diseases. Replace foods that contain dietary toxins like crackers or soda with vitalizing foods like quinoa and blueberries. The four largest dietary toxins that can be found in a wide array of processed foods are:
Refined cereal grains
Industrial seed oils
Sugar
Processed soy
1-5. Drink kombucha regularly.
Kombucha is fermented tea that ancient Chinese called the “immortal health elixir”. The health benefits of drinking kombucha are tremendous when consumed on a regular basis. You can either buy kombucha or brew your own by fermenting tea yourself. Here are some of the health benefits:
Detoxifying effects like protecting the health of your liver and cancer prevention.
It protects your joints and prevents diseases like arthritis.
Kombucha aids and protects the health of your gut by containing probiotics.
2. Dressing Like a Modern Hippie
2-1. Let your hair down.
Hippies traditionally and to this day have long hair. It isn't required, but for both girls and guys, natural, long hair is viewed as a hippie. Don't use a flat iron or a curling iron, but instead let the hair do its natural thing.
Many modern hippies also like to dread their hair. This can take some time.
Hippie girls usually wear their hair long and wavy without any coloring.
2-2. Dress like a hippie.
Hippies usually wear floral maxi dresses, flowy shift dresses, high-waisted flare jeans, loose blouses, and halter tops. Thrift stores often sell clothing like this for a good price. You can also make your own clothing or buy from individual stores that aren't a brand name.
Modern hippies who follow electronic music closely wear flat-brimmed hats and attach metal twined crystals.
2-3. Don't wear makeup.
Try to go all-natural without makeup, but if you do decide to wear makeup (some girls don't feel comfortable going out of the house without it on), put on a natural look. For example, instead of using that black lipstick, wear a light peach or pink color instead. Use natural products that don't contain harmful chemicals.
2-4. Let all of your hair grow.
Boys normally have facial hair, but if you have trouble growing facial hair, don't sweat it. It's also a popular choice for girls to stop shaving. If you're uncomfortable keeping your leg hair, just grow out your armpit hair. Modern hippies get clumped into the “granola” category which values natural people in all facets.
2-5. Wear sandals.
The classic shoe in the heyday of hippies was Birkenstocks, but today the sandal has changed. You could still wear Birkenstocks or a similar look, but more modern hippies are wearing Chacos and Tevas. Chacos and Tevas are built to be durable and comfortable sandals regardless of weather conditions.
2-6. Accessorize like a hippie.
Modern hippies enjoy crystals and jewelry that incorporates crystal healing. Other popular forms of jewelry are various stones and natural rocks that are artfully wrapped in copper wire. The old school hippie wore large straw hats, but today the flat-brimmed hats are popular.
Fanny packs are also popular bags for modern hippies to carry around.
2-7. Use essential oils.
Modern hippies don't use deodorants that are mainstream and can be found in a drug store. Instead, you should go to a natural foods store and find a scent of essential oil (make sure its one you can apply to skin) to wear as a fragrance. A popular scent among modern hippies is patchouli, but you can use whatever catches your nostrils.
3. Thinking Like a Modern Hippie
3-1. Be an individual.
Hippies are all about being themselves. If you don't agree with something, voice your opinion! Don't just agree with things to seem "cool" or "like everyone else." Hippies aren't like that.
3-2. Be calm, cool, and collected.
Hippies are usually laid back and aren't stressful. If you have something that is stressing you out, take deep breaths and sit back for a few minutes. If you have tendencies of being stressed out, begin practicing transcendental meditation. Transcendental meditation was popular in the 1960s and currently, it is becoming a well-respected practice that holds many health benefits.
Seek out a meditation center that specializes in transcendental meditation.
Another combatant to stressors is to practice yoga and philosophies of yogis.
3-3. Find your opinion and voice it.
Are you against the prison industry underpaying inmates for mass goods? Let your voice be heard. Against the war? Share your opinions! Hippies in the 60s to 70s protested the Vietnam war. Engage with contemporary struggles against social justice. Don't feel limited to “hippie” issues. There are plenty of communities that need to be fought for.
Become involved with Amnesty International to become informed on events and contemporary issues that you can get involved with.
Amnesty International campaigns against issues like arms control, corporate accountability, discrimination, freedom of expression, refugees, LGBTQ rights, and much more.
3-4. Get in touch with nature.
Get some fresh air and feel the sun on your skin. Old school hippies believed that nature itself contains the answers to life's most important questions. The old mentality was to show respect to mother nature and be in contact with our natural animal essence that is repressed through culture. Take time off to go on hikes.
Try your hand at backpacking. Go for days or weeks living off a limited amount of supplies and the wilderness.
3-5. Consider staying away from drugs.
Know that you don't need to get into drugs because you want to be a hippie. Hippies have always been known for experimenting with drugs. Today we know more about the dangers, long-term effects, and the costs of addiction from practicing recreational drugs. Don't start just because you want to look more like a hippie. Many modern hippies are focused on getting a "natural high" through meditation and spirituality.
Many hippies from the past and today connect strongly to eastern religions like Buddhism and Taoism.
3-6. Be open-minded.
Accept other people's beliefs and accept that not everyone is going to have the same view on an issue that you do. If someone is bothering you with their opinion, try to see the argument from their point of view. There are two sides to every opinion and you should try to listen to everyone without becoming angry.
3-7. Be intellectually curious.
Read as much as you possibly can. If you're still in school, pay attention in class and strive for good grades. True hippies are very intelligent and aren't ignorant about issues going around them. Branch out to subjects like philosophy and environmental science. Here is a quick list of books you should read:
Howl by Allen Ginsberg
Be Here Now by Ram Dass
On the Road by Jack Kerouac
The Bhagavad Gita
The Stranger by Albert Camus
Operating Manual for Spaceship Earth by R. Buckminster Fuller
Siddhartha by Herman Hesse
I Ching
Back to Eden by Jethro Kloss
3-8. Care for the environment.
Recycle as much as possible. Never throw trash onto the ground. As a modern hippie or granola, your mentality is to save the planet, not to pollute it. Plant flowers and trees instead of cutting them down. Reduce your water and paper consumption. Practice the three R's of environmentalism:
Recycle
Reduce
Reuse
4. Caring About Music
4-1. Listen to the oldies.
Classic hippie music is older music, typically rock n' roll, from the 1960s and 1970s. This time period was when the hippie counterculture was skyrocketing. You shouldn't force yourself to listen to oldies if you don't like it. There are plenty of other music styles that are deemed, modern hippie. Give these classic albums a chance before you dismiss it:
The Doors by The Doors
Forever Changes by Love
Surrealistic Pillow by Jefferson Airplane
Deja Vu by CSNY
Are You Experienced by Jimi Hendrix
Blond on Blond by Bob Dylan
IV by Led Zeppelin
Anthem of the Sun by Grateful Dead
Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band by The Beatles
If You can Believe Your Eyes and Ears by The Mamas and the Papas
4-2. Get into electronic music.
One large distinction of modern hippies compared to the older generation is the newer strides in electronic music. Many young people who identify as being a hippie also prefer newer styles of psychedelic electronic music. Bands like Shpongle or Infected Mushroom make up examples of the genre, psytrance, which has become very popular with modern hippies.
A large connotation with this type of music and concert experience is with drug experimentation.
Electronic hippie music is also rooted deeply in jam band music.
4-3. Respect jam bands.
A staple of the hippie movement is centered around jam bands. They've been a staple since The Grateful Dead and Allman Brothers and have since evolved throughout the decades. It is not necessary to like jam bands, but most connotations of a hippie imply an appreciation or knowledge of jam bands. Newer offshoots from the first generation of jam bands are:
Phish
Widespread Panic
The String Cheese Incident
moe.
There are also many genre offshoots that cross into other genres like bluegrass, Yonder Mountain String Band, and dance music, Disco Biscuits.
4-4. Attend music festivals.
Since Woodstock and Monterey Pop festival, more and more music festivals have popped up around the world. One of the biggest festivals for modern hippies is Burning Man, in which the regular festival attendees are called “burners.”
Another traveling large festival for hippies is called Rainbow Gathering.
There are tons of music festivals year-round and almost all of them feature a "hippie band".
Tips
Learn an instrument like the guitar or the ukulele.
Try to be calm and content. Hippies are also usually optimists!
If something is nearby, try to walk or use a bicycle instead of driving.
Warnings
Don't let other people try to tell you who you are or what you should be. People are going to be judgmental so be prepared!
Don't appropriate eastern cultures because you think it looks cool.
There are more negative effects to using drugs than there are positive effects.
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Wear sandals.\\nThe classic shoe in the heyday of hippies was Birkenstocks, but today the sandal has changed. You could still wear Birkenstocks or a similar look, but more modern hippies are wearing Chacos and Tevas. Chacos and Tevas are built to be durable and comfortable sandals regardless of weather conditions.\\n2-6. Accessorize like a hippie.\\nModern hippies enjoy crystals and jewelry that incorporates crystal healing. Other popular forms of jewelry are various stones and natural rocks that are artfully wrapped in copper wire. The old school hippie wore large straw hats, but today the flat-brimmed hats are popular.\\nFanny packs are also popular bags for modern hippies to carry around.\\n2-7. Use essential oils.\\nModern hippies don't use deodorants that are mainstream and can be found in a drug store. Instead, you should go to a natural foods store and find a scent of essential oil (make sure its one you can apply to skin) to wear as a fragrance. 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Find your opinion and voice it.\\nAre you against the prison industry underpaying inmates for mass goods? Let your voice be heard. Against the war? Share your opinions! Hippies in the 60s to 70s protested the Vietnam war. Engage with contemporary struggles against social justice. Don't feel limited to “hippie” issues. There are plenty of communities that need to be fought for.\\nBecome involved with Amnesty International to become informed on events and contemporary issues that you can get involved with.\\nAmnesty International campaigns against issues like arms control, corporate accountability, discrimination, freedom of expression, refugees, LGBTQ rights, and much more.\\n3-4. Get in touch with nature.\\nGet some fresh air and feel the sun on your skin. Old school hippies believed that nature itself contains the answers to life's most important questions. The old mentality was to show respect to mother nature and be in contact with our natural animal essence that is repressed through culture. Take time off to go on hikes.\\nTry your hand at backpacking. Go for days or weeks living off a limited amount of supplies and the wilderness.\\n3-5. Consider staying away from drugs.\\nKnow that you don't need to get into drugs because you want to be a hippie. Hippies have always been known for experimenting with drugs. Today we know more about the dangers, long-term effects, and the costs of addiction from practicing recreational drugs. Don't start just because you want to look more like a hippie. Many modern hippies are focused on getting a \\\"natural high\\\" through meditation and spirituality.\\nMany hippies from the past and today connect strongly to eastern religions like Buddhism and Taoism.\\n3-6. Be open-minded.\\nAccept other people's beliefs and accept that not everyone is going to have the same view on an issue that you do. 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Newer offshoots from the first generation of jam bands are:\\nPhish\\nWidespread Panic\\nThe String Cheese Incident\\nmoe.\\nThere are also many genre offshoots that cross into other genres like bluegrass, Yonder Mountain String Band, and dance music, Disco Biscuits.\\n4-4. Attend music festivals.\\nSince Woodstock and Monterey Pop festival, more and more music festivals have popped up around the world. One of the biggest festivals for modern hippies is Burning Man, in which the regular festival attendees are called “burners.”\\nAnother traveling large festival for hippies is called Rainbow Gathering.\\nThere are tons of music festivals year-round and almost all of them feature a \\\"hippie band\\\".\\nTips\\nLearn an instrument like the guitar or the ukulele.\\nTry to be calm and content. Hippies are also usually optimists!\\nIf something is nearby, try to walk or use a bicycle instead of driving.\\nWarnings\\nDon't let other people try to tell you who you are or what you should be. 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Here are some of the health benefits:\\nDetoxifying effects like protecting the health of your liver and cancer prevention.\\nIt protects your joints and prevents diseases like arthritis.\\nKombucha aids and protects the health of your gut by containing probiotics.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dressing Like a Modern Hippie\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Let your hair down.\", \"描述\": \"Hippies traditionally and to this day have long hair. It isn't required, but for both girls and guys, natural, long hair is viewed as a hippie. Don't use a flat iron or a curling iron, but instead let the hair do its natural thing.\\nMany modern hippies also like to dread their hair. This can take some time.\\nHippie girls usually wear their hair long and wavy without any coloring.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dress like a hippie.\", \"描述\": \"Hippies usually wear floral maxi dresses, flowy shift dresses, high-waisted flare jeans, loose blouses, and halter tops. Thrift stores often sell clothing like this for a good price. You can also make your own clothing or buy from individual stores that aren't a brand name.\\nModern hippies who follow electronic music closely wear flat-brimmed hats and attach metal twined crystals.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't wear makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Try to go all-natural without makeup, but if you do decide to wear makeup (some girls don't feel comfortable going out of the house without it on), put on a natural look. For example, instead of using that black lipstick, wear a light peach or pink color instead. Use natural products that don't contain harmful chemicals.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Let all of your hair grow.\", \"描述\": \"Boys normally have facial hair, but if you have trouble growing facial hair, don't sweat it. It's also a popular choice for girls to stop shaving. If you're uncomfortable keeping your leg hair, just grow out your armpit hair. Modern hippies get clumped into the “granola” category which values natural people in all facets.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wear sandals.\", \"描述\": \"The classic shoe in the heyday of hippies was Birkenstocks, but today the sandal has changed. You could still wear Birkenstocks or a similar look, but more modern hippies are wearing Chacos and Tevas. Chacos and Tevas are built to be durable and comfortable sandals regardless of weather conditions.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Accessorize like a hippie.\", \"描述\": \"Modern hippies enjoy crystals and jewelry that incorporates crystal healing. Other popular forms of jewelry are various stones and natural rocks that are artfully wrapped in copper wire. The old school hippie wore large straw hats, but today the flat-brimmed hats are popular.\\nFanny packs are also popular bags for modern hippies to carry around.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Use essential oils.\", \"描述\": \"Modern hippies don't use deodorants that are mainstream and can be found in a drug store. Instead, you should go to a natural foods store and find a scent of essential oil (make sure its one you can apply to skin) to wear as a fragrance. A popular scent among modern hippies is patchouli, but you can use whatever catches your nostrils.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Thinking Like a Modern Hippie\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be an individual.\", \"描述\": \"Hippies are all about being themselves. If you don't agree with something, voice your opinion! Don't just agree with things to seem \\\"cool\\\" or \\\"like everyone else.\\\" Hippies aren't like that.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be calm, cool, and collected.\", \"描述\": \"Hippies are usually laid back and aren't stressful. If you have something that is stressing you out, take deep breaths and sit back for a few minutes. If you have tendencies of being stressed out, begin practicing transcendental meditation. Transcendental meditation was popular in the 1960s and currently, it is becoming a well-respected practice that holds many health benefits.\\nSeek out a meditation center that specializes in transcendental meditation.\\nAnother combatant to stressors is to practice yoga and philosophies of yogis.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find your opinion and voice it.\", \"描述\": \"Are you against the prison industry underpaying inmates for mass goods? Let your voice be heard. Against the war? Share your opinions! Hippies in the 60s to 70s protested the Vietnam war. Engage with contemporary struggles against social justice. Don't feel limited to “hippie” issues. There are plenty of communities that need to be fought for.\\nBecome involved with Amnesty International to become informed on events and contemporary issues that you can get involved with.\\nAmnesty International campaigns against issues like arms control, corporate accountability, discrimination, freedom of expression, refugees, LGBTQ rights, and much more.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get in touch with nature.\", \"描述\": \"Get some fresh air and feel the sun on your skin. Old school hippies believed that nature itself contains the answers to life's most important questions. The old mentality was to show respect to mother nature and be in contact with our natural animal essence that is repressed through culture. Take time off to go on hikes.\\nTry your hand at backpacking. Go for days or weeks living off a limited amount of supplies and the wilderness.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider staying away from drugs.\", \"描述\": \"Know that you don't need to get into drugs because you want to be a hippie. Hippies have always been known for experimenting with drugs. Today we know more about the dangers, long-term effects, and the costs of addiction from practicing recreational drugs. Don't start just because you want to look more like a hippie. Many modern hippies are focused on getting a \\\"natural high\\\" through meditation and spirituality.\\nMany hippies from the past and today connect strongly to eastern religions like Buddhism and Taoism.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be open-minded.\", \"描述\": \"Accept other people's beliefs and accept that not everyone is going to have the same view on an issue that you do. If someone is bothering you with their opinion, try to see the argument from their point of view. There are two sides to every opinion and you should try to listen to everyone without becoming angry.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be intellectually curious.\", \"描述\": \"Read as much as you possibly can. If you're still in school, pay attention in class and strive for good grades. True hippies are very intelligent and aren't ignorant about issues going around them. Branch out to subjects like philosophy and environmental science. Here is a quick list of books you should read:\\nHowl by Allen Ginsberg\\nBe Here Now by Ram Dass\\nOn the Road by Jack Kerouac\\nThe Bhagavad Gita\\nThe Stranger by Albert Camus\\nOperating Manual for Spaceship Earth by R. Buckminster Fuller\\nSiddhartha by Herman Hesse\\nI Ching\\nBack to Eden by Jethro Kloss\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Care for the environment.\", \"描述\": \"Recycle as much as possible. Never throw trash onto the ground. As a modern hippie or granola, your mentality is to save the planet, not to pollute it. Plant flowers and trees instead of cutting them down. Reduce your water and paper consumption. Practice the three R's of environmentalism:\\nRecycle\\nReduce\\nReuse\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Caring About Music\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to the oldies.\", \"描述\": \"Classic hippie music is older music, typically rock n' roll, from the 1960s and 1970s. This time period was when the hippie counterculture was skyrocketing. You shouldn't force yourself to listen to oldies if you don't like it. There are plenty of other music styles that are deemed, modern hippie. Give these classic albums a chance before you dismiss it:\\nThe Doors by The Doors\\nForever Changes by Love\\nSurrealistic Pillow by Jefferson Airplane\\nDeja Vu by CSNY\\nAre You Experienced by Jimi Hendrix\\nBlond on Blond by Bob Dylan\\nIV by Led Zeppelin\\nAnthem of the Sun by Grateful Dead\\nSgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band by The Beatles\\nIf You can Believe Your Eyes and Ears by The Mamas and the Papas\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get into electronic music.\", \"描述\": \"One large distinction of modern hippies compared to the older generation is the newer strides in electronic music. Many young people who identify as being a hippie also prefer newer styles of psychedelic electronic music. Bands like Shpongle or Infected Mushroom make up examples of the genre, psytrance, which has become very popular with modern hippies.\\nA large connotation with this type of music and concert experience is with drug experimentation.\\nElectronic hippie music is also rooted deeply in jam band music.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Respect jam bands.\", \"描述\": \"A staple of the hippie movement is centered around jam bands. They've been a staple since The Grateful Dead and Allman Brothers and have since evolved throughout the decades. It is not necessary to like jam bands, but most connotations of a hippie imply an appreciation or knowledge of jam bands. Newer offshoots from the first generation of jam bands are:\\nPhish\\nWidespread Panic\\nThe String Cheese Incident\\nmoe.\\nThere are also many genre offshoots that cross into other genres like bluegrass, Yonder Mountain String Band, and dance music, Disco Biscuits.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Attend music festivals.\", \"描述\": \"Since Woodstock and Monterey Pop festival, more and more music festivals have popped up around the world. One of the biggest festivals for modern hippies is Burning Man, in which the regular festival attendees are called “burners.”\\nAnother traveling large festival for hippies is called Rainbow Gathering.\\nThere are tons of music festivals year-round and almost all of them feature a \\\"hippie band\\\".\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Learn an instrument like the guitar or the ukulele.\\n\", \"Try to be calm and content. Hippies are also usually optimists!\\n\", \"If something is nearby, try to walk or use a bicycle instead of driving.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't let other people try to tell you who you are or what you should be. People are going to be judgmental so be prepared!\\n\", \"Don't appropriate eastern cultures because you think it looks cool.\\n\", \"There are more negative effects to using drugs than there are positive effects.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Using Body Language to Convey Confidence
1-1. Make eye contact
Making eye contact with another person is a great way to convey confidence. It also shows you are friendly and approachable. People will treat you with more respect if you are able to look them in the eyes.
You don’t need to stare at them intensely. That can be unnerving to the other person. It’s okay to look away every once in a while.
Keep practicing. It may feel weird at first to look at people’s faces (instead of your shoes), but keep at it. It will begin to feel more natural after some time.
Practice making eye contact with people you are most comfortable with, like your siblings or your friends, and move on to more challenging targets (your teacher or your crush).
1-2. Stay visible.
Resist the urge to hide behind your hair or curl up in a ball. Confident people have body language that indicates they deserve to be there, that they are strong and in control.
Keep your hair off your face. Tuck it behind your ears or pull it back if you need to.
Don’t slouch. Not only is it bad for your posture, but it makes you appear unapproachable and insecure. Stand up straight with your head up and shoulders back.
Sit tall. Don’t hunch forward or lean back in your chair. Put your hands in your lap or on your desk, don’t cross your arms in front of you.
When you're around others, face them directly. Don't remain off to the side.
1-3. Smile.
A genuine smile makes you look better and friendlier, but did you know it also helps you feel better? Studies have found that even forcing yourself to smile can boost your mood. And if you are feeling happier, you will most likely feel more confident, too.
Smiling makes you look more approachable, more comfortable, and can even make you more memorable.
1-4. Fake it ‘til you make it.
Sometimes the secret to being confident is to pretend to be confident. Eventually your acting will begin to feel less like acting and more like real confidence. Pretend you’ve got confidence and eventually you may realize you do, and in fact have had it all along!
For example, you may feel intimidated in a class because you feel surrounded by smart people and struggle with the material. What if you pretended to be one of those smart people? Sit up straight, raise your hand with confidence and contribute to the conversation. As you begin to act differently, you will find that your teacher and classmates treat you differently.
2. Finding Ways to Connect with Others
2-1. Have friends you trust.
You don’t need a huge group of friends, so do your best not to stress about popularity. You just need a few close friends you are able to confide in, have fun with, and connect with.
Make sure you are comfortable talking to your friends. You want to have people you can turn to when you need support or a listening ear. You also want to be able to trust that they won’t spread your secrets around.
If your friendships are too full of drama or backbiting and often seem like they are more trouble than they are worth, you might want to distance yourself from these people and look for new friends. For example, friends who love you one day and give you the silent treatment the next are probably not worth the angst they are bringing to your life.
Don’t ditch your good friends for other friends who make you seem more popular.
2-2. Share your feelings with others.
Expressing your emotions can be tough sometimes, but being able to do so indicates confidence and helps to boost your self-esteem. Speaking up -- for your own feelings and for others’ -- can be scary, but it is another one of those things that gets easier with practice.
If you feel self-conscious about sharing your feelings with others, think about a time when someone disclosed some tough information to you. For example, what if one of your friends confided in you that she was struggling with depression? Would you judge her for being weak or laugh at her? Most likely, you would do your best to comfort her, relate to her, and let her know you were glad she reached out to you. If you have friends you trust, they will probably react the same way.
Think about situations when you might need to express your emotions or stand up for yourself. For example, imagine you have found out that your friend is saying mean things about you behind your back. Letting them know how it makes you feel (angry, sad, or disappointed in them, for example) indicates to your friend that you find their behavior unacceptable. Your friend knows you won’t put up with that kind of treatment, and will hopefully not treat you like that again in the future.
When you are expressing your feelings, try saying “I feel hurt that you didn’t include me,” rather than “You never invite me to hang out after school.” The first sentence conveys hurt, while the second sentence is accusatory and will have the other person feeling defensive.
2-3. Find a supportive community.
Have people in your life who’ve got your back no matter what. Having a community of people who you can rely on to support you will help you boost your confidence. You have a safe place to fall back, and a safe place to be yourself, in a group of people who care about you.
You may find this group of people in your extended family, faith community, or athletic team, for example.
If you do not feel like you have a group like this in your life, you could consider joining a religious youth group or a scouting group, for example. You want to find a group of people who value support and inclusion, perhaps with adult leadership that enforces these values.
2-4. Listen to your elders.
Trusted adults or older members of your family can offer you advice and perspective on what you are dealing with. As difficult as it may be to imagine, they were once teenagers themselves, dealing with problems similar to what you face today.
Adults can help you realize you are not alone in your feelings. Not feeling like you are the only one to go through this helps you feel more confident that you are normal and on the right track.
Ask your parents or grandparents what they were like when they were your age. What were their worries and concerns? Find an adult you can trust not to sugarcoat adolescence and ask them to paint a realistic picture of what life was like for them as a teenager.
You could ask, “Dad, you’re always telling me about the fun stuff you did in high school. Do you remember it ever being not fun, or even really hard?”
2-5. Get involved in school activities.
There are so many ways to connect with your peers. Sharing a common goal, project, or vision will help you become closer to others, as well as help you become more confident in yourself in all you can accomplish.
Join an athletic team. Whether you get involved in sports in your school or your community, athletics are a fantastic way to build self-esteem and self-confidence. You will make friends and enjoy the camaraderie of a team, as well as get in great shape and improve your self-esteem.
Perform. Getting up in front of a group of people to sing, dance, play an instrument, or act can take a lot of courage sometimes. If you can survive opening night nerves, it often feels like you can accomplish anything! Performing an artistic talent for others can be a huge confidence boost.
Join a club. Find a group of people with a common interest in a school club or in your community. Maybe you are into robotics, outdoor adventuring, or film. Whatever your interest, you will likely find opportunities to get to know others in your school or community who enjoy similar hobbies. Making new friends and having new social opportunities can increase your confidence.
Volunteer. Get involved with a cause you support -- animal rights, the environment, fighting homelessness -- and become an advocate for it. You will gain confidence with your knowledge and by using your voice to help those who may not be to use theirs.
3. Focusing on Yourself
3-1. Be authentic.
Don’t pretend to be someone you are not in order to be liked by others. This does not convey confidence; rather, it indicates insecurity. This is easier said than done, of course, but here are some suggestions to help you be who you are:
Be comfortable in your own skin. Embrace your inner nerd (or band geek, or jock, or hippie) and love what you love. Nothing shows confidence like a person enjoying who they are.
Have a sense of humor about yourself. If people are making fun of you for being involved in all the school plays, for example, you can laugh and say, “Yes, that’s me! The drama queen!” Add a dramatic gesture for increased effect.
Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Not only will people be able to figure it out, but you will feel miserable.
Trust your intuition. Listen to that “gut feeling” that gives you the sense that maybe you are not doing what is the best for you. For example, your discomfort around hanging out with a boisterous crowd at the football game is not a personal failing. It could be your intuition saying, hey, this isn’t your scene.
3-2. Be honest.
Tell the truth about who you are and the mistakes you’ve made. Making yourself vulnerable and sharing the “real” you can give you confidence. People will be impressed with your strength in sharing your feelings, which may help you feel good about yourself. You will see others accepting you in spite of your “flaws.”
You’ll also see that sharing your vulnerabilities is not the worst thing in the world; in fact, it can often help grow relationships with others. You will find that the people who matter most will most likely accept you for who you are no matter what.
For example, say you feel upset about your dad’s remarriage. You could say, “I feel like I am going to be left out of his new family.” While your friends may not be able to relate to a parent getting remarried, everyone can relate to the feeling of being left out. This statement gives others the opportunity to share their own experiences.
3-3. Try new things.
Adolescence is the time to figure out who you are. Give yourself permission to try something and fail. You’ll realize that if you fail, it’s not the end of the world.
Make a point to do something that you have always wanted to do, but it is also something you find daunting or even terrifying! For example, you could ask out your crush, perform in the school talent show, or make your un-athletic self join the track team.
It might be hard and frightening, but think of the sense of accomplishment you will have. Also consider how much easier it will be to do the scary thing again.
3-4. Keep a journal.
Writing in a journal is a great way to keep track of your feelings, work through your problems, and watch yourself evolve. You will look back on previous pages and see how the thing you thought was such a huge deal really wasn’t. You’ll learn to not sweat the small stuff.
You’ll get to know yourself better -- self-awareness boosts confidence.
You’ll also have a personal record of your life as a teenager to keep as you move into adulthood. Looking back on it as an adult may help you empathize with younger generations one day!
3-5. Remember that everyone else feels the same way that you do.
Being a teenager is not an easy time. You are figuring out your identity, exploring new freedoms, and learning about the world… and so is everybody else! Take confidence in the fact that your feelings and struggles are normal.
Be gentle with yourself as you navigate adolescence. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and not know everything. Remember, no one has it all figured out (that goes for adults, too)!
Don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself to know who you are or what you want to do with your life. Learning who you are is a lifelong process. It won’t happen overnight, or even in your teens. Be confident that you are normal, and that you’ll find your own answers in your own time.
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Confident people have body language that indicates they deserve to be there, that they are strong and in control.\\nKeep your hair off your face. Tuck it behind your ears or pull it back if you need to.\\nDon’t slouch. Not only is it bad for your posture, but it makes you appear unapproachable and insecure. Stand up straight with your head up and shoulders back.\\nSit tall. Don’t hunch forward or lean back in your chair. Put your hands in your lap or on your desk, don’t cross your arms in front of you.\\nWhen you're around others, face them directly. Don't remain off to the side.\\n1-3. Smile.\\nA genuine smile makes you look better and friendlier, but did you know it also helps you feel better? Studies have found that even forcing yourself to smile can boost your mood. And if you are feeling happier, you will most likely feel more confident, too.\\nSmiling makes you look more approachable, more comfortable, and can even make you more memorable.\\n1-4. Fake it ‘til you make it.\\nSometimes the secret to being confident is to pretend to be confident. Eventually your acting will begin to feel less like acting and more like real confidence. Pretend you’ve got confidence and eventually you may realize you do, and in fact have had it all along!\\nFor example, you may feel intimidated in a class because you feel surrounded by smart people and struggle with the material. What if you pretended to be one of those smart people? Sit up straight, raise your hand with confidence and contribute to the conversation. As you begin to act differently, you will find that your teacher and classmates treat you differently.\\n2. Finding Ways to Connect with Others\\n2-1. Have friends you trust.\\nYou don’t need a huge group of friends, so do your best not to stress about popularity. You just need a few close friends you are able to confide in, have fun with, and connect with.\\nMake sure you are comfortable talking to your friends. You want to have people you can turn to when you need support or a listening ear. You also want to be able to trust that they won’t spread your secrets around.\\nIf your friendships are too full of drama or backbiting and often seem like they are more trouble than they are worth, you might want to distance yourself from these people and look for new friends. For example, friends who love you one day and give you the silent treatment the next are probably not worth the angst they are bringing to your life.\\nDon’t ditch your good friends for other friends who make you seem more popular.\\n2-2. Share your feelings with others.\\nExpressing your emotions can be tough sometimes, but being able to do so indicates confidence and helps to boost your self-esteem. Speaking up -- for your own feelings and for others’ -- can be scary, but it is another one of those things that gets easier with practice.\\nIf you feel self-conscious about sharing your feelings with others, think about a time when someone disclosed some tough information to you. For example, what if one of your friends confided in you that she was struggling with depression? Would you judge her for being weak or laugh at her? Most likely, you would do your best to comfort her, relate to her, and let her know you were glad she reached out to you. If you have friends you trust, they will probably react the same way.\\nThink about situations when you might need to express your emotions or stand up for yourself. For example, imagine you have found out that your friend is saying mean things about you behind your back. Letting them know how it makes you feel (angry, sad, or disappointed in them, for example) indicates to your friend that you find their behavior unacceptable. Your friend knows you won’t put up with that kind of treatment, and will hopefully not treat you like that again in the future.\\nWhen you are expressing your feelings, try saying “I feel hurt that you didn’t include me,” rather than “You never invite me to hang out after school.” The first sentence conveys hurt, while the second sentence is accusatory and will have the other person feeling defensive.\\n2-3. Find a supportive community.\\nHave people in your life who’ve got your back no matter what. Having a community of people who you can rely on to support you will help you boost your confidence. You have a safe place to fall back, and a safe place to be yourself, in a group of people who care about you.\\nYou may find this group of people in your extended family, faith community, or athletic team, for example.\\nIf you do not feel like you have a group like this in your life, you could consider joining a religious youth group or a scouting group, for example. You want to find a group of people who value support and inclusion, perhaps with adult leadership that enforces these values.\\n2-4. Listen to your elders.\\nTrusted adults or older members of your family can offer you advice and perspective on what you are dealing with. As difficult as it may be to imagine, they were once teenagers themselves, dealing with problems similar to what you face today.\\nAdults can help you realize you are not alone in your feelings. Not feeling like you are the only one to go through this helps you feel more confident that you are normal and on the right track.\\nAsk your parents or grandparents what they were like when they were your age. What were their worries and concerns? Find an adult you can trust not to sugarcoat adolescence and ask them to paint a realistic picture of what life was like for them as a teenager.\\nYou could ask, “Dad, you’re always telling me about the fun stuff you did in high school. Do you remember it ever being not fun, or even really hard?”\\n2-5. Get involved in school activities.\\nThere are so many ways to connect with your peers. Sharing a common goal, project, or vision will help you become closer to others, as well as help you become more confident in yourself in all you can accomplish.\\nJoin an athletic team. Whether you get involved in sports in your school or your community, athletics are a fantastic way to build self-esteem and self-confidence. You will make friends and enjoy the camaraderie of a team, as well as get in great shape and improve your self-esteem.\\nPerform. Getting up in front of a group of people to sing, dance, play an instrument, or act can take a lot of courage sometimes. If you can survive opening night nerves, it often feels like you can accomplish anything! Performing an artistic talent for others can be a huge confidence boost.\\nJoin a club. Find a group of people with a common interest in a school club or in your community. Maybe you are into robotics, outdoor adventuring, or film. Whatever your interest, you will likely find opportunities to get to know others in your school or community who enjoy similar hobbies. Making new friends and having new social opportunities can increase your confidence.\\nVolunteer. Get involved with a cause you support -- animal rights, the environment, fighting homelessness -- and become an advocate for it. You will gain confidence with your knowledge and by using your voice to help those who may not be to use theirs.\\n3. Focusing on Yourself\\n3-1. Be authentic.\\nDon’t pretend to be someone you are not in order to be liked by others. This does not convey confidence; rather, it indicates insecurity. This is easier said than done, of course, but here are some suggestions to help you be who you are:\\nBe comfortable in your own skin. Embrace your inner nerd (or band geek, or jock, or hippie) and love what you love. Nothing shows confidence like a person enjoying who they are.\\nHave a sense of humor about yourself. If people are making fun of you for being involved in all the school plays, for example, you can laugh and say, “Yes, that’s me! The drama queen!” Add a dramatic gesture for increased effect.\\nDon’t pretend to be someone you are not. Not only will people be able to figure it out, but you will feel miserable.\\nTrust your intuition. Listen to that “gut feeling” that gives you the sense that maybe you are not doing what is the best for you. For example, your discomfort around hanging out with a boisterous crowd at the football game is not a personal failing. It could be your intuition saying, hey, this isn’t your scene.\\n3-2. Be honest.\\nTell the truth about who you are and the mistakes you’ve made. Making yourself vulnerable and sharing the “real” you can give you confidence. People will be impressed with your strength in sharing your feelings, which may help you feel good about yourself. You will see others accepting you in spite of your “flaws.”\\nYou’ll also see that sharing your vulnerabilities is not the worst thing in the world; in fact, it can often help grow relationships with others. You will find that the people who matter most will most likely accept you for who you are no matter what.\\nFor example, say you feel upset about your dad’s remarriage. You could say, “I feel like I am going to be left out of his new family.” While your friends may not be able to relate to a parent getting remarried, everyone can relate to the feeling of being left out. This statement gives others the opportunity to share their own experiences.\\n3-3. Try new things.\\nAdolescence is the time to figure out who you are. Give yourself permission to try something and fail. You’ll realize that if you fail, it’s not the end of the world.\\nMake a point to do something that you have always wanted to do, but it is also something you find daunting or even terrifying! For example, you could ask out your crush, perform in the school talent show, or make your un-athletic self join the track team.\\nIt might be hard and frightening, but think of the sense of accomplishment you will have. Also consider how much easier it will be to do the scary thing again.\\n3-4. Keep a journal.\\nWriting in a journal is a great way to keep track of your feelings, work through your problems, and watch yourself evolve. You will look back on previous pages and see how the thing you thought was such a huge deal really wasn’t. You’ll learn to not sweat the small stuff.\\nYou’ll get to know yourself better -- self-awareness boosts confidence.\\nYou’ll also have a personal record of your life as a teenager to keep as you move into adulthood. Looking back on it as an adult may help you empathize with younger generations one day!\\n3-5. Remember that everyone else feels the same way that you do.\\nBeing a teenager is not an easy time. You are figuring out your identity, exploring new freedoms, and learning about the world… and so is everybody else! Take confidence in the fact that your feelings and struggles are normal.\\nBe gentle with yourself as you navigate adolescence. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and not know everything. Remember, no one has it all figured out (that goes for adults, too)!\\nDon’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself to know who you are or what you want to do with your life. Learning who you are is a lifelong process. It won’t happen overnight, or even in your teens. Be confident that you are normal, and that you’ll find your own answers in your own time.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a teenager is hard. You’re trying to grow into an adult and are facing new challenges every day. You may be feeling overwhelmed by all the changes in your life, or struggling with low self-esteem. Remember that your feelings are normal and everyone struggles with self-confidence during adolescence. You can take some steps to improve your confidence by adopting confident body language, forming strong friendships through connecting with others, and becoming comfortable with being yourself.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using Body Language to Convey Confidence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make eye contact\", \"描述\": \"Making eye contact with another person is a great way to convey confidence. It also shows you are friendly and approachable. People will treat you with more respect if you are able to look them in the eyes.\\nYou don’t need to stare at them intensely. That can be unnerving to the other person. It’s okay to look away every once in a while.\\nKeep practicing. It may feel weird at first to look at people’s faces (instead of your shoes), but keep at it. It will begin to feel more natural after some time.\\nPractice making eye contact with people you are most comfortable with, like your siblings or your friends, and move on to more challenging targets (your teacher or your crush).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay visible.\", \"描述\": \"Resist the urge to hide behind your hair or curl up in a ball. Confident people have body language that indicates they deserve to be there, that they are strong and in control.\\nKeep your hair off your face. Tuck it behind your ears or pull it back if you need to.\\nDon’t slouch. Not only is it bad for your posture, but it makes you appear unapproachable and insecure. Stand up straight with your head up and shoulders back.\\nSit tall. Don’t hunch forward or lean back in your chair. Put your hands in your lap or on your desk, don’t cross your arms in front of you.\\nWhen you're around others, face them directly. Don't remain off to the side.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Smile.\", \"描述\": \"A genuine smile makes you look better and friendlier, but did you know it also helps you feel better? Studies have found that even forcing yourself to smile can boost your mood. And if you are feeling happier, you will most likely feel more confident, too.\\nSmiling makes you look more approachable, more comfortable, and can even make you more memorable.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Fake it ‘til you make it.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes the secret to being confident is to pretend to be confident. Eventually your acting will begin to feel less like acting and more like real confidence. Pretend you’ve got confidence and eventually you may realize you do, and in fact have had it all along!\\nFor example, you may feel intimidated in a class because you feel surrounded by smart people and struggle with the material. What if you pretended to be one of those smart people? Sit up straight, raise your hand with confidence and contribute to the conversation. As you begin to act differently, you will find that your teacher and classmates treat you differently.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Finding Ways to Connect with Others\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have friends you trust.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t need a huge group of friends, so do your best not to stress about popularity. You just need a few close friends you are able to confide in, have fun with, and connect with.\\nMake sure you are comfortable talking to your friends. You want to have people you can turn to when you need support or a listening ear. You also want to be able to trust that they won’t spread your secrets around.\\nIf your friendships are too full of drama or backbiting and often seem like they are more trouble than they are worth, you might want to distance yourself from these people and look for new friends. For example, friends who love you one day and give you the silent treatment the next are probably not worth the angst they are bringing to your life.\\nDon’t ditch your good friends for other friends who make you seem more popular.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Share your feelings with others.\", \"描述\": \"Expressing your emotions can be tough sometimes, but being able to do so indicates confidence and helps to boost your self-esteem. Speaking up -- for your own feelings and for others’ -- can be scary, but it is another one of those things that gets easier with practice.\\nIf you feel self-conscious about sharing your feelings with others, think about a time when someone disclosed some tough information to you. For example, what if one of your friends confided in you that she was struggling with depression? Would you judge her for being weak or laugh at her? Most likely, you would do your best to comfort her, relate to her, and let her know you were glad she reached out to you. If you have friends you trust, they will probably react the same way.\\nThink about situations when you might need to express your emotions or stand up for yourself. For example, imagine you have found out that your friend is saying mean things about you behind your back. Letting them know how it makes you feel (angry, sad, or disappointed in them, for example) indicates to your friend that you find their behavior unacceptable. Your friend knows you won’t put up with that kind of treatment, and will hopefully not treat you like that again in the future.\\nWhen you are expressing your feelings, try saying “I feel hurt that you didn’t include me,” rather than “You never invite me to hang out after school.” The first sentence conveys hurt, while the second sentence is accusatory and will have the other person feeling defensive.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find a supportive community.\", \"描述\": \"Have people in your life who’ve got your back no matter what. Having a community of people who you can rely on to support you will help you boost your confidence. You have a safe place to fall back, and a safe place to be yourself, in a group of people who care about you.\\nYou may find this group of people in your extended family, faith community, or athletic team, for example.\\nIf you do not feel like you have a group like this in your life, you could consider joining a religious youth group or a scouting group, for example. You want to find a group of people who value support and inclusion, perhaps with adult leadership that enforces these values.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Listen to your elders.\", \"描述\": \"Trusted adults or older members of your family can offer you advice and perspective on what you are dealing with. As difficult as it may be to imagine, they were once teenagers themselves, dealing with problems similar to what you face today.\\nAdults can help you realize you are not alone in your feelings. Not feeling like you are the only one to go through this helps you feel more confident that you are normal and on the right track.\\nAsk your parents or grandparents what they were like when they were your age. What were their worries and concerns? Find an adult you can trust not to sugarcoat adolescence and ask them to paint a realistic picture of what life was like for them as a teenager.\\nYou could ask, “Dad, you’re always telling me about the fun stuff you did in high school. Do you remember it ever being not fun, or even really hard?”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get involved in school activities.\", \"描述\": \"There are so many ways to connect with your peers. Sharing a common goal, project, or vision will help you become closer to others, as well as help you become more confident in yourself in all you can accomplish.\\nJoin an athletic team. Whether you get involved in sports in your school or your community, athletics are a fantastic way to build self-esteem and self-confidence. You will make friends and enjoy the camaraderie of a team, as well as get in great shape and improve your self-esteem.\\nPerform. Getting up in front of a group of people to sing, dance, play an instrument, or act can take a lot of courage sometimes. If you can survive opening night nerves, it often feels like you can accomplish anything! Performing an artistic talent for others can be a huge confidence boost.\\nJoin a club. Find a group of people with a common interest in a school club or in your community. Maybe you are into robotics, outdoor adventuring, or film. Whatever your interest, you will likely find opportunities to get to know others in your school or community who enjoy similar hobbies. Making new friends and having new social opportunities can increase your confidence.\\nVolunteer. Get involved with a cause you support -- animal rights, the environment, fighting homelessness -- and become an advocate for it. You will gain confidence with your knowledge and by using your voice to help those who may not be to use theirs.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Focusing on Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be authentic.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t pretend to be someone you are not in order to be liked by others. This does not convey confidence; rather, it indicates insecurity. This is easier said than done, of course, but here are some suggestions to help you be who you are:\\nBe comfortable in your own skin. Embrace your inner nerd (or band geek, or jock, or hippie) and love what you love. Nothing shows confidence like a person enjoying who they are.\\nHave a sense of humor about yourself. If people are making fun of you for being involved in all the school plays, for example, you can laugh and say, “Yes, that’s me! The drama queen!” Add a dramatic gesture for increased effect.\\nDon’t pretend to be someone you are not. 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1. Adding Details to Your Writing
1-1. Show, don't tell.
Whether you're writing fiction, creative non-fiction, or a closing trial statement, this fundamental piece of writing advice holds true. Don't tell us your character is angry, show us by the tightness in her jaw, or the edge in her voice, or the way her posture stiffens ever so slightly. Don't tell us that the tenement building was run down; describe the broken windows, peeling paint, and pervasive smell of urine. The key is details, details, details.
Take this example of a house from Alexander McCall Smith's The No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency. He is describing a traditional mud hut, but he gives us so much more than that: "It was a bare earth house in the traditional style; brown mud walls, a few glassless windows, with a knee-height wall around the yard. A previous owner, a long time ago, had painted designs on the wall, but neglect and the years had scaled them off and only their ghosts remained."
1-2. Focus on key details.
Too many details can ruin the pacing of your story or clutter your argument. The key is not to describe everything, but rather to pick out a few precise details and let the reader fill in the rest. Consider why you are including details. Do they tell you something about a character or your story? Do they contribute in a specific way to the argument you are making?
In this excerpt from The God of Small Things, Arundhati Roy draws on one aspect of a church – the heat – which she uses to draw a contrast that reveals the emotional state of a character: "It was hot in the church, and the white edges of the arum lilies crisped and curled. A bee died in a coffin flower. Ammu's hands shook and her hymnbook with it. Her skin was cold."
1-3. Avoid empty descriptive words.
One way to make sure you are showing and not telling is to seek out empty descriptors in your writing. These are words – usually adjectives – like "delicious," which describe without really telling you anything. So the meal was delicious. How so? Did lightly fried sardines accompanied with a sweet wine smelling of apricots give way to a tartrate of egg and pungent cheese, spiced with cardamom and a dozen other spices she could not identify? Was the bread dense and rich, with a hint of earthiness, as if it had grown directly from the dark soil outside the hut? Some empty descriptors to watch out for include:
Beautiful
Amazing, incredible
Size adjectives (tall, short, big, large, small)
Good or bad
Young, old
Empty language also happens in non-fiction academic writing. For example, a thesis statement that says "Shakespeare's Hamlet is a good play about the contrast between good and evil" is shallow and doesn't provide any detail about your claim. In contrast, compare this detailed thesis statement: "Shakespeare's Hamlet examines the nuances of intention. Hamlet's intent to avenge his father may be noble, but his willingness to annihilate everyone standing in his path to that revenge eventually outweighs any good in his purpose, making him as much a villain as King Claudius."
1-4. Get rid of most adverbs.
Stephen King believes "the road to hell is paved with adverbs," and he is not alone. Adverbs – words that modify adjectives, verbs, or other adverbs and usually end in -ly – should be used cautiously. Occasionally, they can be helpful, but for the most part, you should search for a more descriptive verb, or add context that makes the adverb unnecessary. For example:
Avoid said-modifiers. Instead of "said softly", try "whispered." Instead of "said fearfully", "whimpered."
Avoid motion-modifiers. Instead of "walked slowly," try "sauntered", "meandered", or "strolled." Instead of "walked quickly," "hurried" or "scampered".
Replace adverbs with detailed context: Instead of writing "she walked softly," think about why she's walking that way and how it makes her feel. "She tip-toed past the guard, each creak of the floorboards sounding to her like thunder."
1-5. Draw on all five senses.
Smell, sound, taste, and touch can make your descriptions more vivid and tangible. They can take you to a place in a way that visual description often cannot. Think of the salty smell of sea air or the hiss of wind over new-fallen snow.
Smell – Patrick Suskind's Perfume: The Story of a Murderer has, appropriately, some particularly vivid descriptions of smell. "People stank of sweat and unwashed clothes; from their mouths came the stench of rotting teeth, from their bellies that of onions, and from their bodies, if they were no longer very young, came the stench of rancid cheese and sour milk and tumorous disease."
Taste – Particularly effective with food, taste language can be even more powerful elsewhere: "A wave engulfed him. He came up and spit the briny water from his mouth."
Sound – Listen to how Robert Frost describes the sound of a wood at night: "Which has its sounds, familiar, like the roar / Of trees and crack of branches, common things, / But nothing so like beating on a box." (Robert Frost, "An Old Man's Winter Night")
Touch – In "Once More to the Lake," E.B. White vividly evokes the sensation of pulling on wet, cold swimming trunks: "He pulled his dripping trunks from the line… I watched him, his hard little body, skinny and bare, saw him wince slightly as he pulled up around his vitals the small, soggy, icy garment."
1-6. Make judicious use of similes and metaphors.
A simile is a figure of speech that uses "like" or "as" to make a comparison between two things: "his eyes were as big as saucers as he gazed at the cake." A metaphor makes an implicit comparison without using "like" or "as": "his eyes were saucers as he gazed at the cake." A well chosen metaphor, like Shakespeare's famous "All the world's a stage," can illuminate, while a poor one will only confuse. To get it right, follow these rules:
Make your metaphors and similes simple and clear. The more elaborate they become, the more likely they are to confuse rather than to illuminate.
Don't mix them. Pick a comparison and stick with that. Otherwise, you risk writing nonsense like this: "The president will put the ship of state on its feet."
Only use original ones. Using timeworn comparisons like "slow as a snail" won't add anything to your writing. If the comparison isn't vivid and interesting, simply stick with a straightforward description.
Use them to vividly evoke sensations. The most powerful metaphors and similes typically paint a picture or evoke a particular sound, taste, smell, or feeling. The more tangible the better, like "The water made a sound like kittens lapping" (The Yearling by Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings)
2. Researching for Greater Detail
2-1. Start with general background research.
The beginning point for any piece of writing should be general research into the topic. This will mean different things for different types of writing:
Fiction – Explore in-depth details that are important to the story. This might mean learning more about the job of the main character, or the setting. The goal is to learn enough to start writing. Don't worry about learning every little detail.
Academic non-fiction – Background research means being aware of the literature in the field regarding your topic. You should have read and digested all the works that your own article or book is in dialogue with.
Professional writing – Whether writing a pitch or a pleading, you'll again want to have researched the important details. Know enough to frame the outline of your argument. Then, fill in that frame as you write.
2-2. Use the internet to help with background research.
Wikipedia is a great place to start for general information. But never settle for internet research. Sources online are famously unreliable. Be sure to verify any information you are going to use with at least three independent sources.
When doing research, peer-reviewed journal articles in your field are the gold standard. Books from well-respected publishers, especially university presses, and government sources are also places to look. Always try to find the most reputable sources possible.
2-3. Begin writing before you've finished your research.
Whether writing fiction, non-fiction, or a professional document, you'll end up wasting time if you try to research every little thing before you start writing. This is because it's impossible to know exactly what information you'll need until you start writing. It is much more efficient to learn the basics, establish an outline, and then fill in the details you need as you go.
2-4. Use bibliographies and notes to find more sources.
If you find an interesting fact in a book, use the citation to find out where it came from. Read that. This is a great way to get to primary sources. That's where you want to be: looking at the actual material so you can provide your own insights or put your own spin on things.
2-5. Make friends with librarians.
College and university librarians, in particular, can be a great resource. They can guide you to useful sources that you might not otherwise find. And they are usually happy to help. It's their job.
2-6. Keep track of your sources.
Take careful notes regarding where you found any information that you are considering using. For non-fiction writing, citing your sources is vital to establish the legitimacy of your argument and to avoid accusations of plagiarism. But even when researching for fiction, it is helpful to know where you found things in case you need to look them up again.
3. Creating More Detailed Fiction
3-1. Move beyond physical appearance with characters.
It's important to know what characters look like, but how a character thinks, talks or moves can leave an even more powerful impression. Think of Sherlock Holmes. His defining features are that he is ridiculously smart, doesn't like other people, and is a bit of a drug addict. When establishing a character try:
Using other character's reactions to convey information, e.g., "The conversation ceased as Esmeralda entered the room. Every eye fixed on her."
Use a character's history to convey his or her qualities: "His appetite was legendary. It was said he had once eaten an entire boar in one sitting." Or, "He had once gone a year without uttering anything beyond 'yes, sir', 'no, sir', or 'I should think not, sir.'"
Focus on a character's movement rather than his or her appearance, e.g., "She moved with the grace of a dancer."
If you are going to discuss appearance, don't describe everything. Pick a particular defining feature: "Vic's a square-set, ready-and-steady sort of bloke, the sort of bloke who rubs his hands together at the start of something. His hands are always clean." (Graham Swift, Last Orders)
3-2. Use voice to create character.
The most powerful characters are often defined by the way they talk or think, like Balram Halwai, the hero of Aravind Adiga's The White Tiger. His voice is smart and humorous and alive: "Out of respect for the love of liberty shown by the Chinese people, and also in the belief that the future of the world lies with the yellow man and the brown man now that our erstwhile master, the white-skinned man, has wasted himself through buggery, cell phone usage, and drug abuse, I offer to tell you, free of charge, the truth about Bangalore."
3-3. Keep descriptions of settings and objects short.
You don't need to go on and on to create a vivid picture. Doing so will only slow down your story. Instead, focus on a few key details and let the reader fill in the rest.
Few writers do this better than Erik Morgenstern in The Night Circus, a book filled with dizzily clever, yet surprisingly compact descriptions, like this one of a fantastic clock: "The body of the clock, which has been methodically turning itself inside out and expanding, is now entirely subtle shades of white and grey. And it is not just pieces, it is figures and objects, perfectly carved flowers and planets and tiny books with actual paper pages that turn."
3-4. Use real place details judiciously.
For many books – particularly historical fiction – the setting is almost another character. Yet when describing a real place – say 19th century France – you don't want to drown the reader in details. Instead, choose a few to give a sense of place, e.g., the small circles of light thrown by the gas lamps, illuminating sections of paved street; the smell of freshly-baked bread mixing with the stench of the Seine; the chiming of bells from a hundred churches.
Sprinkle in place names to give a sense of place. Instead of "the river", "the Seine." Instead of a broad square, the "Place de la Bastille."
Foreign words can also create a sense of place, if sprinkled judiciously throughout your text. James Clavell's Shogun, set in feudal Japan, does a fantastic job of this. "Hai" is used instead of "yes." "Tomodachi" for "friend." "Domo" for "thank you."
3-5. Describe through absence.
Sometimes, the key detail is what is not there. A woman might enter a ball in a fabulous dress with a smile on her face, but no joy in her eyes. A forest might feature towering oaks and lush undergrowth, but no birdsong or animal calls, not even the buzzing of insects. Remember that what is not there can sometimes reveal more than what is there.
Erin Morgenstern's The Night Circus, again, provides a great example of description through absence. In introducing the circus, he defines it through what it lacks: color. "The towering tents are striped in black and white, no golds and crimsons to be seen. No color at all, save for the neighboring trees and the grass of the surrounding fields… Even what ground is visible from the outside is black or white, painted or powdered, or treated with some other circus trick."
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A previous owner, a long time ago, had painted designs on the wall, but neglect and the years had scaled them off and only their ghosts remained.\\\"\\n1-2. Focus on key details.\\nToo many details can ruin the pacing of your story or clutter your argument. The key is not to describe everything, but rather to pick out a few precise details and let the reader fill in the rest. Consider why you are including details. Do they tell you something about a character or your story? Do they contribute in a specific way to the argument you are making?\\nIn this excerpt from The God of Small Things, Arundhati Roy draws on one aspect of a church – the heat – which she uses to draw a contrast that reveals the emotional state of a character: \\\"It was hot in the church, and the white edges of the arum lilies crisped and curled. A bee died in a coffin flower. Ammu's hands shook and her hymnbook with it. Her skin was cold.\\\"\\n1-3. Avoid empty descriptive words.\\nOne way to make sure you are showing and not telling is to seek out empty descriptors in your writing. These are words – usually adjectives – like \\\"delicious,\\\" which describe without really telling you anything. So the meal was delicious. How so? Did lightly fried sardines accompanied with a sweet wine smelling of apricots give way to a tartrate of egg and pungent cheese, spiced with cardamom and a dozen other spices she could not identify? Was the bread dense and rich, with a hint of earthiness, as if it had grown directly from the dark soil outside the hut? Some empty descriptors to watch out for include:\\nBeautiful\\nAmazing, incredible\\nSize adjectives (tall, short, big, large, small)\\nGood or bad\\nYoung, old\\nEmpty language also happens in non-fiction academic writing. For example, a thesis statement that says \\\"Shakespeare's Hamlet is a good play about the contrast between good and evil\\\" is shallow and doesn't provide any detail about your claim. In contrast, compare this detailed thesis statement: \\\"Shakespeare's Hamlet examines the nuances of intention. Hamlet's intent to avenge his father may be noble, but his willingness to annihilate everyone standing in his path to that revenge eventually outweighs any good in his purpose, making him as much a villain as King Claudius.\\\"\\n1-4. Get rid of most adverbs.\\nStephen King believes \\\"the road to hell is paved with adverbs,\\\" and he is not alone. Adverbs – words that modify adjectives, verbs, or other adverbs and usually end in -ly – should be used cautiously. Occasionally, they can be helpful, but for the most part, you should search for a more descriptive verb, or add context that makes the adverb unnecessary. For example:\\nAvoid said-modifiers. Instead of \\\"said softly\\\", try \\\"whispered.\\\" Instead of \\\"said fearfully\\\", \\\"whimpered.\\\"\\nAvoid motion-modifiers. Instead of \\\"walked slowly,\\\" try \\\"sauntered\\\", \\\"meandered\\\", or \\\"strolled.\\\" Instead of \\\"walked quickly,\\\" \\\"hurried\\\" or \\\"scampered\\\".\\nReplace adverbs with detailed context: Instead of writing \\\"she walked softly,\\\" think about why she's walking that way and how it makes her feel. \\\"She tip-toed past the guard, each creak of the floorboards sounding to her like thunder.\\\"\\n1-5. Draw on all five senses.\\nSmell, sound, taste, and touch can make your descriptions more vivid and tangible. They can take you to a place in a way that visual description often cannot. Think of the salty smell of sea air or the hiss of wind over new-fallen snow.\\nSmell – Patrick Suskind's Perfume: The Story of a Murderer has, appropriately, some particularly vivid descriptions of smell. \\\"People stank of sweat and unwashed clothes; from their mouths came the stench of rotting teeth, from their bellies that of onions, and from their bodies, if they were no longer very young, came the stench of rancid cheese and sour milk and tumorous disease.\\\"\\nTaste – Particularly effective with food, taste language can be even more powerful elsewhere: \\\"A wave engulfed him. He came up and spit the briny water from his mouth.\\\"\\nSound – Listen to how Robert Frost describes the sound of a wood at night: \\\"Which has its sounds, familiar, like the roar / Of trees and crack of branches, common things, / But nothing so like beating on a box.\\\" (Robert Frost, \\\"An Old Man's Winter Night\\\")\\nTouch – In \\\"Once More to the Lake,\\\" E.B. White vividly evokes the sensation of pulling on wet, cold swimming trunks: \\\"He pulled his dripping trunks from the line… I watched him, his hard little body, skinny and bare, saw him wince slightly as he pulled up around his vitals the small, soggy, icy garment.\\\"\\n1-6. Make judicious use of similes and metaphors.\\nA simile is a figure of speech that uses \\\"like\\\" or \\\"as\\\" to make a comparison between two things: \\\"his eyes were as big as saucers as he gazed at the cake.\\\" A metaphor makes an implicit comparison without using \\\"like\\\" or \\\"as\\\": \\\"his eyes were saucers as he gazed at the cake.\\\" A well chosen metaphor, like Shakespeare's famous \\\"All the world's a stage,\\\" can illuminate, while a poor one will only confuse. To get it right, follow these rules:\\nMake your metaphors and similes simple and clear. The more elaborate they become, the more likely they are to confuse rather than to illuminate.\\nDon't mix them. Pick a comparison and stick with that. Otherwise, you risk writing nonsense like this: \\\"The president will put the ship of state on its feet.\\\"\\nOnly use original ones. Using timeworn comparisons like \\\"slow as a snail\\\" won't add anything to your writing. If the comparison isn't vivid and interesting, simply stick with a straightforward description.\\nUse them to vividly evoke sensations. The most powerful metaphors and similes typically paint a picture or evoke a particular sound, taste, smell, or feeling. The more tangible the better, like \\\"The water made a sound like kittens lapping\\\" (The Yearling by Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings)\\n2. Researching for Greater Detail\\n2-1. Start with general background research.\\nThe beginning point for any piece of writing should be general research into the topic. This will mean different things for different types of writing:\\nFiction – Explore in-depth details that are important to the story. This might mean learning more about the job of the main character, or the setting. The goal is to learn enough to start writing. Don't worry about learning every little detail.\\nAcademic non-fiction – Background research means being aware of the literature in the field regarding your topic. You should have read and digested all the works that your own article or book is in dialogue with.\\nProfessional writing – Whether writing a pitch or a pleading, you'll again want to have researched the important details. Know enough to frame the outline of your argument. Then, fill in that frame as you write.\\n2-2. Use the internet to help with background research.\\nWikipedia is a great place to start for general information. But never settle for internet research. Sources online are famously unreliable. Be sure to verify any information you are going to use with at least three independent sources.\\nWhen doing research, peer-reviewed journal articles in your field are the gold standard. Books from well-respected publishers, especially university presses, and government sources are also places to look. Always try to find the most reputable sources possible.\\n2-3. Begin writing before you've finished your research.\\nWhether writing fiction, non-fiction, or a professional document, you'll end up wasting time if you try to research every little thing before you start writing. This is because it's impossible to know exactly what information you'll need until you start writing. It is much more efficient to learn the basics, establish an outline, and then fill in the details you need as you go.\\n2-4. Use bibliographies and notes to find more sources.\\nIf you find an interesting fact in a book, use the citation to find out where it came from. Read that. This is a great way to get to primary sources. That's where you want to be: looking at the actual material so you can provide your own insights or put your own spin on things.\\n2-5. Make friends with librarians.\\nCollege and university librarians, in particular, can be a great resource. They can guide you to useful sources that you might not otherwise find. And they are usually happy to help. It's their job.\\n2-6. Keep track of your sources.\\nTake careful notes regarding where you found any information that you are considering using. For non-fiction writing, citing your sources is vital to establish the legitimacy of your argument and to avoid accusations of plagiarism. But even when researching for fiction, it is helpful to know where you found things in case you need to look them up again.\\n3. Creating More Detailed Fiction\\n3-1. Move beyond physical appearance with characters.\\nIt's important to know what characters look like, but how a character thinks, talks or moves can leave an even more powerful impression. Think of Sherlock Holmes. His defining features are that he is ridiculously smart, doesn't like other people, and is a bit of a drug addict. When establishing a character try:\\nUsing other character's reactions to convey information, e.g., \\\"The conversation ceased as Esmeralda entered the room. Every eye fixed on her.\\\"\\nUse a character's history to convey his or her qualities: \\\"His appetite was legendary. It was said he had once eaten an entire boar in one sitting.\\\" Or, \\\"He had once gone a year without uttering anything beyond 'yes, sir', 'no, sir', or 'I should think not, sir.'\\\"\\nFocus on a character's movement rather than his or her appearance, e.g., \\\"She moved with the grace of a dancer.\\\"\\nIf you are going to discuss appearance, don't describe everything. Pick a particular defining feature: \\\"Vic's a square-set, ready-and-steady sort of bloke, the sort of bloke who rubs his hands together at the start of something. His hands are always clean.\\\" (Graham Swift, Last Orders)\\n3-2. Use voice to create character.\\nThe most powerful characters are often defined by the way they talk or think, like Balram Halwai, the hero of Aravind Adiga's The White Tiger. His voice is smart and humorous and alive: \\\"Out of respect for the love of liberty shown by the Chinese people, and also in the belief that the future of the world lies with the yellow man and the brown man now that our erstwhile master, the white-skinned man, has wasted himself through buggery, cell phone usage, and drug abuse, I offer to tell you, free of charge, the truth about Bangalore.\\\"\\n3-3. Keep descriptions of settings and objects short.\\nYou don't need to go on and on to create a vivid picture. Doing so will only slow down your story. Instead, focus on a few key details and let the reader fill in the rest.\\nFew writers do this better than Erik Morgenstern in The Night Circus, a book filled with dizzily clever, yet surprisingly compact descriptions, like this one of a fantastic clock: \\\"The body of the clock, which has been methodically turning itself inside out and expanding, is now entirely subtle shades of white and grey. And it is not just pieces, it is figures and objects, perfectly carved flowers and planets and tiny books with actual paper pages that turn.\\\"\\n3-4. Use real place details judiciously.\\nFor many books – particularly historical fiction – the setting is almost another character. Yet when describing a real place – say 19th century France – you don't want to drown the reader in details. Instead, choose a few to give a sense of place, e.g., the small circles of light thrown by the gas lamps, illuminating sections of paved street; the smell of freshly-baked bread mixing with the stench of the Seine; the chiming of bells from a hundred churches.\\nSprinkle in place names to give a sense of place. Instead of \\\"the river\\\", \\\"the Seine.\\\" Instead of a broad square, the \\\"Place de la Bastille.\\\"\\nForeign words can also create a sense of place, if sprinkled judiciously throughout your text. James Clavell's Shogun, set in feudal Japan, does a fantastic job of this. \\\"Hai\\\" is used instead of \\\"yes.\\\" \\\"Tomodachi\\\" for \\\"friend.\\\" \\\"Domo\\\" for \\\"thank you.\\\"\\n3-5. Describe through absence.\\nSometimes, the key detail is what is not there. A woman might enter a ball in a fabulous dress with a smile on her face, but no joy in her eyes. A forest might feature towering oaks and lush undergrowth, but no birdsong or animal calls, not even the buzzing of insects. Remember that what is not there can sometimes reveal more than what is there.\\nErin Morgenstern's The Night Circus, again, provides a great example of description through absence. In introducing the circus, he defines it through what it lacks: color. \\\"The towering tents are striped in black and white, no golds and crimsons to be seen. No color at all, save for the neighboring trees and the grass of the surrounding fields… Even what ground is visible from the outside is black or white, painted or powdered, or treated with some other circus trick.\\\"\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Details can make the difference between a dull read and a gripping tale, or between a weak argument and a strong one. In particular, details can bring descriptions to life, turning a \\\"worn pair of sneakers\\\" into \\\"a pair of Air Jordans with frayed laces and the tread long-since worn away.\\\" While the settings and characters of fiction and literary non-fiction benefit most from detailed writing, there are a number of steps you can take to put more detail into any writing, from doing detailed research, to rooting out adverbs, to evoking senses like taste and smell.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Adding Details to Your Writing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show, don't tell.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you're writing fiction, creative non-fiction, or a closing trial statement, this fundamental piece of writing advice holds true. Don't tell us your character is angry, show us by the tightness in her jaw, or the edge in her voice, or the way her posture stiffens ever so slightly. Don't tell us that the tenement building was run down; describe the broken windows, peeling paint, and pervasive smell of urine. The key is details, details, details.\\nTake this example of a house from Alexander McCall Smith's The No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency. He is describing a traditional mud hut, but he gives us so much more than that: \\\"It was a bare earth house in the traditional style; brown mud walls, a few glassless windows, with a knee-height wall around the yard. A previous owner, a long time ago, had painted designs on the wall, but neglect and the years had scaled them off and only their ghosts remained.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus on key details.\", \"描述\": \"Too many details can ruin the pacing of your story or clutter your argument. The key is not to describe everything, but rather to pick out a few precise details and let the reader fill in the rest. Consider why you are including details. Do they tell you something about a character or your story? Do they contribute in a specific way to the argument you are making?\\nIn this excerpt from The God of Small Things, Arundhati Roy draws on one aspect of a church – the heat – which she uses to draw a contrast that reveals the emotional state of a character: \\\"It was hot in the church, and the white edges of the arum lilies crisped and curled. A bee died in a coffin flower. Ammu's hands shook and her hymnbook with it. Her skin was cold.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid empty descriptive words.\", \"描述\": \"One way to make sure you are showing and not telling is to seek out empty descriptors in your writing. These are words – usually adjectives – like \\\"delicious,\\\" which describe without really telling you anything. So the meal was delicious. How so? Did lightly fried sardines accompanied with a sweet wine smelling of apricots give way to a tartrate of egg and pungent cheese, spiced with cardamom and a dozen other spices she could not identify? Was the bread dense and rich, with a hint of earthiness, as if it had grown directly from the dark soil outside the hut? Some empty descriptors to watch out for include:\\nBeautiful\\nAmazing, incredible\\nSize adjectives (tall, short, big, large, small)\\nGood or bad\\nYoung, old\\nEmpty language also happens in non-fiction academic writing. For example, a thesis statement that says \\\"Shakespeare's Hamlet is a good play about the contrast between good and evil\\\" is shallow and doesn't provide any detail about your claim. In contrast, compare this detailed thesis statement: \\\"Shakespeare's Hamlet examines the nuances of intention. Hamlet's intent to avenge his father may be noble, but his willingness to annihilate everyone standing in his path to that revenge eventually outweighs any good in his purpose, making him as much a villain as King Claudius.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get rid of most adverbs.\", \"描述\": \"Stephen King believes \\\"the road to hell is paved with adverbs,\\\" and he is not alone. Adverbs – words that modify adjectives, verbs, or other adverbs and usually end in -ly – should be used cautiously. Occasionally, they can be helpful, but for the most part, you should search for a more descriptive verb, or add context that makes the adverb unnecessary. For example:\\nAvoid said-modifiers. Instead of \\\"said softly\\\", try \\\"whispered.\\\" Instead of \\\"said fearfully\\\", \\\"whimpered.\\\"\\nAvoid motion-modifiers. Instead of \\\"walked slowly,\\\" try \\\"sauntered\\\", \\\"meandered\\\", or \\\"strolled.\\\" Instead of \\\"walked quickly,\\\" \\\"hurried\\\" or \\\"scampered\\\".\\nReplace adverbs with detailed context: Instead of writing \\\"she walked softly,\\\" think about why she's walking that way and how it makes her feel. \\\"She tip-toed past the guard, each creak of the floorboards sounding to her like thunder.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Draw on all five senses.\", \"描述\": \"Smell, sound, taste, and touch can make your descriptions more vivid and tangible. They can take you to a place in a way that visual description often cannot. Think of the salty smell of sea air or the hiss of wind over new-fallen snow.\\nSmell – Patrick Suskind's Perfume: The Story of a Murderer has, appropriately, some particularly vivid descriptions of smell. \\\"People stank of sweat and unwashed clothes; from their mouths came the stench of rotting teeth, from their bellies that of onions, and from their bodies, if they were no longer very young, came the stench of rancid cheese and sour milk and tumorous disease.\\\"\\nTaste – Particularly effective with food, taste language can be even more powerful elsewhere: \\\"A wave engulfed him. He came up and spit the briny water from his mouth.\\\"\\nSound – Listen to how Robert Frost describes the sound of a wood at night: \\\"Which has its sounds, familiar, like the roar / Of trees and crack of branches, common things, / But nothing so like beating on a box.\\\" (Robert Frost, \\\"An Old Man's Winter Night\\\")\\nTouch – In \\\"Once More to the Lake,\\\" E.B. White vividly evokes the sensation of pulling on wet, cold swimming trunks: \\\"He pulled his dripping trunks from the line… I watched him, his hard little body, skinny and bare, saw him wince slightly as he pulled up around his vitals the small, soggy, icy garment.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make judicious use of similes and metaphors.\", \"描述\": \"A simile is a figure of speech that uses \\\"like\\\" or \\\"as\\\" to make a comparison between two things: \\\"his eyes were as big as saucers as he gazed at the cake.\\\" A metaphor makes an implicit comparison without using \\\"like\\\" or \\\"as\\\": \\\"his eyes were saucers as he gazed at the cake.\\\" A well chosen metaphor, like Shakespeare's famous \\\"All the world's a stage,\\\" can illuminate, while a poor one will only confuse. To get it right, follow these rules:\\nMake your metaphors and similes simple and clear. The more elaborate they become, the more likely they are to confuse rather than to illuminate.\\nDon't mix them. Pick a comparison and stick with that. Otherwise, you risk writing nonsense like this: \\\"The president will put the ship of state on its feet.\\\"\\nOnly use original ones. Using timeworn comparisons like \\\"slow as a snail\\\" won't add anything to your writing. If the comparison isn't vivid and interesting, simply stick with a straightforward description.\\nUse them to vividly evoke sensations. The most powerful metaphors and similes typically paint a picture or evoke a particular sound, taste, smell, or feeling. 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You should have read and digested all the works that your own article or book is in dialogue with.\\nProfessional writing – Whether writing a pitch or a pleading, you'll again want to have researched the important details. Know enough to frame the outline of your argument. Then, fill in that frame as you write.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use the internet to help with background research.\", \"描述\": \"Wikipedia is a great place to start for general information. But never settle for internet research. Sources online are famously unreliable. Be sure to verify any information you are going to use with at least three independent sources.\\nWhen doing research, peer-reviewed journal articles in your field are the gold standard. Books from well-respected publishers, especially university presses, and government sources are also places to look. Always try to find the most reputable sources possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Begin writing before you've finished your research.\", \"描述\": \"Whether writing fiction, non-fiction, or a professional document, you'll end up wasting time if you try to research every little thing before you start writing. This is because it's impossible to know exactly what information you'll need until you start writing. It is much more efficient to learn the basics, establish an outline, and then fill in the details you need as you go.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use bibliographies and notes to find more sources.\", \"描述\": \"If you find an interesting fact in a book, use the citation to find out where it came from. Read that. This is a great way to get to primary sources. That's where you want to be: looking at the actual material so you can provide your own insights or put your own spin on things.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make friends with librarians.\", \"描述\": \"College and university librarians, in particular, can be a great resource. They can guide you to useful sources that you might not otherwise find. And they are usually happy to help. It's their job.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep track of your sources.\", \"描述\": \"Take careful notes regarding where you found any information that you are considering using. For non-fiction writing, citing your sources is vital to establish the legitimacy of your argument and to avoid accusations of plagiarism. 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It was said he had once eaten an entire boar in one sitting.\\\" Or, \\\"He had once gone a year without uttering anything beyond 'yes, sir', 'no, sir', or 'I should think not, sir.'\\\"\\nFocus on a character's movement rather than his or her appearance, e.g., \\\"She moved with the grace of a dancer.\\\"\\nIf you are going to discuss appearance, don't describe everything. Pick a particular defining feature: \\\"Vic's a square-set, ready-and-steady sort of bloke, the sort of bloke who rubs his hands together at the start of something. His hands are always clean.\\\" (Graham Swift, Last Orders)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use voice to create character.\", \"描述\": \"The most powerful characters are often defined by the way they talk or think, like Balram Halwai, the hero of Aravind Adiga's The White Tiger. 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And it is not just pieces, it is figures and objects, perfectly carved flowers and planets and tiny books with actual paper pages that turn.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use real place details judiciously.\", \"描述\": \"For many books – particularly historical fiction – the setting is almost another character. Yet when describing a real place – say 19th century France – you don't want to drown the reader in details. Instead, choose a few to give a sense of place, e.g., the small circles of light thrown by the gas lamps, illuminating sections of paved street; the smell of freshly-baked bread mixing with the stench of the Seine; the chiming of bells from a hundred churches.\\nSprinkle in place names to give a sense of place. Instead of \\\"the river\\\", \\\"the Seine.\\\" Instead of a broad square, the \\\"Place de la Bastille.\\\"\\nForeign words can also create a sense of place, if sprinkled judiciously throughout your text. 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1. Creating a Stretching Routine
1-1. Start out small.
If you are a beginner in gymnastics, you need to build up your flexibility gradually over time. Begin in a way in which you feel most comfortable and slowly develop yourself one step at a time.
Try some gentle stretches, such as the side stretch. Stand with your feet together and lace your fingers together. Raise your arms over your head and focus on lengthening your torso as well as your arms and legs. Gently lean to one side, and hold for 10 seconds. Return to the starting position then repeat on the other side.
Stretch your legs by standing an arm's length away from a wall. Keep your arms straight and rest your hands on the wall, then bring one foot back, keeping it straight. Let your front knee bend and hold the stretch for 10 seconds. Return to the starting position then repeat with the opposite leg.
1-2. Remember to breathe.
Sometimes people unknowingly hold their breath when stretching, but this is not a habit you want to create. Breathe deeply when you are stretching, and exhale on the more difficult movements. This will help you to concentrate, as well as get oxygen into your muscles.
1-3. Stretch all your major muscle groups.
Aim to stretch your entire body each day rather than focusing on one particular area. Stretch your arms and upper body, your torso, back, and abdomen, as well as your lower body and legs.
1-4. Identify your strengths and weak spots.
You may already be able to move certain muscles effectively, yet can do hardly anything in another area or on the opposite side. Practice where you need it and maintain the areas in which you are already flexible.
1-5. Stretch every single day.
There is no set limit of time or specific day to stretch. You can do it when you wake up, go to sleep, or simply during commercial breaks when you're watching television. Just be sure to stretch each day, or you risk losing flexibility.
1-6. Seek "professional" help.
If you know a friend who is practically a master gymnast, ask for tips on how to stay motivated and get them to work with you daily until you achieve your goals.
2. Stretching Your Upper Body
2-1. Do neck rolls.
Gently tilt your head to one side then roll it down in a circular motion, sweeping from one side, toward your chest, and to the other side. Then roll your neck back so you are looking up at the ceiling or sky, and sweep it back to the starting position.
2-2. Try an arm-up rotator stretch.
Do this stretch standing up, and stick your arm out with your forearm pointing up at a 90 degree angle. Hold a broomstick in your hand so that it rests behind your elbow. Use your other hand to pull the bottom of the broomstick forward.
2-3. Stretch your shoulders.
It's important to stretch your shoulders and upper chest as a gymnast. Sit on the floor and put your arms behind you with your fingers facing the rear. Straighten your arms as you slide your hands away from your body. Hold for 30 seconds, then slowly walk your hands forward.
2-4. Loosen up your arm muscles.
Put one arm behind your head and bend it at the elbow. Use your other arm to gently pull your elbow toward your head. Repeat on the other side.
3. Stretching Your Core and Back
3-1. Touch your toes.
Stand straight up and keep your knees and legs straight. Bend over and touch your toes or the ground. Keep your back and neck straight, and bend at the waist. This stretches your back and legs as well.
3-2. Try a wall bridge.
Stand a few feet away from the wall and place your hands on the wall behind your head by bending backward. Walk yourself down to the ground.
3-3. Do back-bends.
Back bends stretch out your back muscles and help you become more flexible. Lay on your back and reach your arms over your head, placing your hands on the ground by your ears. Push your body up so that your weight is on both your hands and feet and your torso is in a bridge.
Make sure to maintain the proper position as you do the back bend. You should hold your core tight, tuck your head into your chest, place your hands next to your ears, and have your legs parallel to one another.
3-4. Rock out your back.
Lay on your back and bring your knees in toward your tummy. Hold your legs with your arms so that you are curled up in a ball. Rock back and forth to stretch your back muscles.
3-5. Do a seal stretch.
Lay flat on your tummy then use your arms to hold your torso up. Tip your head back. This stretches your chest, abdominal, and back muscles. A snake or cobra stretch is another name for this pose.
If that stretches your muscles too far, support your body with your elbows and forearms and work up to using your hands to support your weight.
4. Stretching Your Lower Body
4-1. Try a split stretch on each leg.
This stretches out your hip flexors and legs. Start with one knee bent, with your foot on the floor, and the other leg stretched out behind you on the floor. Raise your arms above your head.
To stretch further, lean back so the leg that was bent is now straight out in front of you, and the other leg is bent at the knee and rests under your body. Lean forward and stretch your arms in front of you.
You can also bend your front leg, while keeping your back leg straight. Sit on the ground and reach forward to touch your toes.
4-2. Do a straddle stretch.
Start by sitting on the ground with your legs spread out in front of you. Open your legs as wide as you can but keep your knees and legs straight. Keep your back straight and lean over to one side to touch your toes. Repeat on the other side.
You can also reach out in front of you with your arms and try to touch the ground.
4-3. Attempt a pike stretch.
Sit on the ground and stretch your legs out in front of you. Point your toes and keep your legs together. Reach over with your arms and touch your toes.
Then, flex your feet, reach over and grab your toes, and try to pull your heels off the ground.
4-4. Do a butterfly stretch.
Sit on the ground and bend your knees to the sides so that the bottoms of your feet are touching. Gently press down on your knees to stretch your hips. You can also lean over and reach your arms out in front of you so that they touch the floor.
4-5. Ask a partner to help you stretch.
Ask a friend to help you stretch your legs. Lay on your back and lift one leg in the air, bringing it toward your body but keeping the leg straight. Have a friend push your leg gently toward your body. When it starts to hurt, push back against your friend's hands. Then, relax your muscles and your leg should stretch further. Repeat with the other leg.
Tips
You can also take a yoga class or enroll in dance lessons to help you become more flexible.
Make sure your toes are always pointed for increased flexibility.
Be careful. Don't stretch further than your range of motion, or you may end up with an injury.
Warnings
Call for backup. If you are trying out a new stretch, seek guidance from someone who can help you manage the move.
Always use common sense when practicing. If you feel pain, then stop. If you think you're not ready for something, then wait until you know you can do it.
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Remember to breathe.\\nSometimes people unknowingly hold their breath when stretching, but this is not a habit you want to create. Breathe deeply when you are stretching, and exhale on the more difficult movements. This will help you to concentrate, as well as get oxygen into your muscles.\\n1-3. Stretch all your major muscle groups.\\nAim to stretch your entire body each day rather than focusing on one particular area. Stretch your arms and upper body, your torso, back, and abdomen, as well as your lower body and legs.\\n1-4. Identify your strengths and weak spots.\\nYou may already be able to move certain muscles effectively, yet can do hardly anything in another area or on the opposite side. Practice where you need it and maintain the areas in which you are already flexible.\\n1-5. Stretch every single day.\\nThere is no set limit of time or specific day to stretch. You can do it when you wake up, go to sleep, or simply during commercial breaks when you're watching television. Just be sure to stretch each day, or you risk losing flexibility.\\n1-6. Seek \\\"professional\\\" help.\\nIf you know a friend who is practically a master gymnast, ask for tips on how to stay motivated and get them to work with you daily until you achieve your goals.\\n2. Stretching Your Upper Body\\n2-1. Do neck rolls.\\nGently tilt your head to one side then roll it down in a circular motion, sweeping from one side, toward your chest, and to the other side. Then roll your neck back so you are looking up at the ceiling or sky, and sweep it back to the starting position.\\n2-2. Try an arm-up rotator stretch.\\nDo this stretch standing up, and stick your arm out with your forearm pointing up at a 90 degree angle. Hold a broomstick in your hand so that it rests behind your elbow. Use your other hand to pull the bottom of the broomstick forward.\\n2-3. Stretch your shoulders.\\nIt's important to stretch your shoulders and upper chest as a gymnast. Sit on the floor and put your arms behind you with your fingers facing the rear. Straighten your arms as you slide your hands away from your body. Hold for 30 seconds, then slowly walk your hands forward.\\n2-4. Loosen up your arm muscles.\\nPut one arm behind your head and bend it at the elbow. Use your other arm to gently pull your elbow toward your head. Repeat on the other side.\\n3. Stretching Your Core and Back\\n3-1. Touch your toes.\\nStand straight up and keep your knees and legs straight. Bend over and touch your toes or the ground. Keep your back and neck straight, and bend at the waist. This stretches your back and legs as well.\\n3-2. Try a wall bridge.\\nStand a few feet away from the wall and place your hands on the wall behind your head by bending backward. Walk yourself down to the ground.\\n3-3. Do back-bends.\\nBack bends stretch out your back muscles and help you become more flexible. Lay on your back and reach your arms over your head, placing your hands on the ground by your ears. Push your body up so that your weight is on both your hands and feet and your torso is in a bridge.\\nMake sure to maintain the proper position as you do the back bend. You should hold your core tight, tuck your head into your chest, place your hands next to your ears, and have your legs parallel to one another.\\n3-4. Rock out your back.\\nLay on your back and bring your knees in toward your tummy. Hold your legs with your arms so that you are curled up in a ball. Rock back and forth to stretch your back muscles.\\n3-5. Do a seal stretch.\\nLay flat on your tummy then use your arms to hold your torso up. Tip your head back. This stretches your chest, abdominal, and back muscles. A snake or cobra stretch is another name for this pose.\\nIf that stretches your muscles too far, support your body with your elbows and forearms and work up to using your hands to support your weight.\\n4. Stretching Your Lower Body\\n4-1. Try a split stretch on each leg.\\nThis stretches out your hip flexors and legs. Start with one knee bent, with your foot on the floor, and the other leg stretched out behind you on the floor. Raise your arms above your head.\\nTo stretch further, lean back so the leg that was bent is now straight out in front of you, and the other leg is bent at the knee and rests under your body. Lean forward and stretch your arms in front of you.\\nYou can also bend your front leg, while keeping your back leg straight. Sit on the ground and reach forward to touch your toes.\\n4-2. Do a straddle stretch.\\nStart by sitting on the ground with your legs spread out in front of you. Open your legs as wide as you can but keep your knees and legs straight. Keep your back straight and lean over to one side to touch your toes. Repeat on the other side.\\nYou can also reach out in front of you with your arms and try to touch the ground.\\n4-3. Attempt a pike stretch.\\nSit on the ground and stretch your legs out in front of you. Point your toes and keep your legs together. Reach over with your arms and touch your toes.\\nThen, flex your feet, reach over and grab your toes, and try to pull your heels off the ground.\\n4-4. Do a butterfly stretch.\\nSit on the ground and bend your knees to the sides so that the bottoms of your feet are touching. Gently press down on your knees to stretch your hips. You can also lean over and reach your arms out in front of you so that they touch the floor.\\n4-5. Ask a partner to help you stretch.\\nAsk a friend to help you stretch your legs. Lay on your back and lift one leg in the air, bringing it toward your body but keeping the leg straight. Have a friend push your leg gently toward your body. When it starts to hurt, push back against your friend's hands. Then, relax your muscles and your leg should stretch further. Repeat with the other leg.\\nTips\\nYou can also take a yoga class or enroll in dance lessons to help you become more flexible.\\nMake sure your toes are always pointed for increased flexibility.\\nBe careful. Don't stretch further than your range of motion, or you may end up with an injury.\\nWarnings\\nCall for backup. If you are trying out a new stretch, seek guidance from someone who can help you manage the move.\\nAlways use common sense when practicing. If you feel pain, then stop. If you think you're not ready for something, then wait until you know you can do it.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Gymnastics requires a very flexible body in order to complete tricks and advance to higher levels. To increase your flexibility, you should stretch every single day. Be sure to stretch your upper body, core and back, as well as your lower body. Create a stretching routine to ensure all your muscles get stretched each day.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating a Stretching Routine\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start out small.\", \"描述\": \"If you are a beginner in gymnastics, you need to build up your flexibility gradually over time. Begin in a way in which you feel most comfortable and slowly develop yourself one step at a time.\\nTry some gentle stretches, such as the side stretch. Stand with your feet together and lace your fingers together. Raise your arms over your head and focus on lengthening your torso as well as your arms and legs. Gently lean to one side, and hold for 10 seconds. Return to the starting position then repeat on the other side.\\nStretch your legs by standing an arm's length away from a wall. Keep your arms straight and rest your hands on the wall, then bring one foot back, keeping it straight. Let your front knee bend and hold the stretch for 10 seconds. 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How to Be a More Romantic Woman to a Man
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1. Compliment him.
Even a small compliment can mean a lot.
If you're out and about and notice how handsome he looks in his new T-shirt, tell him. They may not always make it obvious, but guys like being flattered just as much as anyone else. Make sure he knows how sexy, kind, and funny you find him and give compliments that are genuine and specific to him.
To make him feel super handsome, say something like, "I love it when you wear that shirt. You always look so hot in it."
Be sure to compliment his personality, too. If he sends you a funny text, for example, text back, "You're the funniest guy in the world. This made my day!"
2. Tell him how grateful you are for him.
Never take his presence or love for granted.
Tell him how happy you are to have him in your life. Do so freely and often so he never forgets how happy he makes you. It'll up his confidence and make him feel awesome around you.
Next time he does something nice for you, say something like, "I don't know what I would do without you. You're the sweetest and I'm so lucky."
Give him a call on your break at work to tell him how much you love him. Say something like, "Just wanted to say I love you and that I'm so happy to have you in my life. Can't wait to see you when I get home!'
3. Text him throughout the day.
This shows that he's on your mind, even when you're not together.
Short, sweet texts that encourage him and let him know that you miss him go a long way in letting him know that you care.
Text something like, "Missing you! Can't wait to get home :)"
Don't be afraid to be a little flirty. Text him something like, "Can't stop thinking about your cute face."
A NSFW text might really up the romance, but take some precautions if you go this route. Only send pictures or texts you're comfortable with, make sure you trust him, and give him some warning if he's out or at work.
4. Write him romantic letters and notes.
Tailor your notes to him specifically.
First, brainstorm the things that you really love about your man. Find specific things, like his sense of spontaneity, his one-of-a-kind sense of humor, or even something super unique to him, like his cute ears or his freckles. Pick your favorites and write out the letter on a nice piece of paper or stationary. Address the letter to him or use a cute pet name, like "My love" or "My sweetheart."
Mail him the letter if you're in a long-distance relationship, or hand-deliver it to him along with a little gift, flowers, or his favorite candy.
5. Give him gifts, both big and small.
This is a great way to show that you care.
Pick up his favorite coffee drink if you're meeting up for a morning walk. Make a playlist of songs that you think he would really like and send it to him. If he lives out of town, arrange for flowers to be delivered to his apartment.
You don't have to spend a lot of money to show that you care. Handmade gifts are wonderfully romantic, and the effort it takes to make them means way more than any amount of money.
6. Do nice things for him.
This means a lot, especially if there's no occasion other than wanting to make him feel good.
Cook him his favorite meal. Take care of his least favorite chore, especially if he's been super stressed lately. Give him a ride to work to make his commute easier and to spend a little extra time with him in the morning.
Other nice things you can try include giving him a massage while you watch TV together and waking up early to make him breakfast in bed.
7. Plan date nights and spontaneous trips to keep things exciting.
No matter how busy you are, it's important to set aside time to spend with your man.
Plan a date night at least once a week where you go out to eat or cook a nice dinner at your apartment. Go on a day trip together next time you both have a day off. Set aside time just to be together, with no distractions! Making time for him in your schedule will really show that he means a lot to you.
When you're together, turn off your phone and be attentive to your guy.
If you've been dating for a long time, do new things together to keep things fresh. Eat at a restaurant you've both never been to before, hike a new trail, or take a class together.
8. Encourage him to do his own thing.
Showing support for your man's hobbies and interests is actually super romantic.
Be happy for him when he has plans with his friends. Encourage him to keep up with his hobbies like playing the drums or writing short stories. Show how secure and confident you are in your relationship by supporting his individual goals, interests, and endeavors in life.
It's completely normal if you get a little jealous sometimes when your man has plans without you. Remember that it's actually super beneficial for your relationship to keep up with your own hobbies, interests, and friendships.
9. Show him love through your touch.
Actions can speak louder than words.
Hug and kiss him when you greet him. Cuddle when you're watching TV together. Lay in bed together just to talk and hang out with each other. He'll appreciate the physical affection, and it'll bring you closer.
Only do what you're both comfortable with. If you're not feeling very touchy or your partner isn't super physically affectionate, you can be romantic in other ways. Try expressing your love through words or acts of kindness instead.
10. Be affectionate in public.
This doesn't have to be over-the-top—just subtle and sweet.
Hold his hand when you're going on a walk together. Give him a quick kiss when you greet him at a restaurant. Put your head on his shoulder while you're waiting for a movie to start at the theater. A little PDA shows that you're proud to be seen with him.
It's okay if one or both of you isn't super into PDA. Talk about what you're comfortable with, whether it be hand-holding or a brief kiss on the cheek, so that you both feel good about it.
11. Experiment in the bedroom.
Talk about each other's fantasies, and ask him if he's ever liked to try anything new.
If you're comfortable with what he says, go ahead and try it. This will show that you care about his satisfaction, and trying new things together can make you feel more comfortable with each other.
Emphasize his satisfaction, but don't forget about your own. Only try things you're both comfortable and excited about, and never feel any pressure to try something you don't want to do.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Compliment him.\\nEven a small compliment can mean a lot.\\nIf you're out and about and notice how handsome he looks in his new T-shirt, tell him. They may not always make it obvious, but guys like being flattered just as much as anyone else. Make sure he knows how sexy, kind, and funny you find him and give compliments that are genuine and specific to him.\\nTo make him feel super handsome, say something like, \\\"I love it when you wear that shirt. You always look so hot in it.\\\"\\nBe sure to compliment his personality, too. If he sends you a funny text, for example, text back, \\\"You're the funniest guy in the world. This made my day!\\\"\\n2. Tell him how grateful you are for him.\\nNever take his presence or love for granted.\\nTell him how happy you are to have him in your life. Do so freely and often so he never forgets how happy he makes you. It'll up his confidence and make him feel awesome around you.\\nNext time he does something nice for you, say something like, \\\"I don't know what I would do without you. You're the sweetest and I'm so lucky.\\\"\\nGive him a call on your break at work to tell him how much you love him. Say something like, \\\"Just wanted to say I love you and that I'm so happy to have you in my life. Can't wait to see you when I get home!'\\n3. Text him throughout the day.\\nThis shows that he's on your mind, even when you're not together.\\nShort, sweet texts that encourage him and let him know that you miss him go a long way in letting him know that you care.\\nText something like, \\\"Missing you! Can't wait to get home :)\\\"\\nDon't be afraid to be a little flirty. Text him something like, \\\"Can't stop thinking about your cute face.\\\"\\nA NSFW text might really up the romance, but take some precautions if you go this route. Only send pictures or texts you're comfortable with, make sure you trust him, and give him some warning if he's out or at work.\\n4. Write him romantic letters and notes.\\nTailor your notes to him specifically.\\nFirst, brainstorm the things that you really love about your man. Find specific things, like his sense of spontaneity, his one-of-a-kind sense of humor, or even something super unique to him, like his cute ears or his freckles. Pick your favorites and write out the letter on a nice piece of paper or stationary. Address the letter to him or use a cute pet name, like \\\"My love\\\" or \\\"My sweetheart.\\\"\\nMail him the letter if you're in a long-distance relationship, or hand-deliver it to him along with a little gift, flowers, or his favorite candy.\\n5. Give him gifts, both big and small.\\nThis is a great way to show that you care.\\nPick up his favorite coffee drink if you're meeting up for a morning walk. Make a playlist of songs that you think he would really like and send it to him. If he lives out of town, arrange for flowers to be delivered to his apartment.\\nYou don't have to spend a lot of money to show that you care. Handmade gifts are wonderfully romantic, and the effort it takes to make them means way more than any amount of money.\\n6. Do nice things for him.\\nThis means a lot, especially if there's no occasion other than wanting to make him feel good.\\nCook him his favorite meal. Take care of his least favorite chore, especially if he's been super stressed lately. Give him a ride to work to make his commute easier and to spend a little extra time with him in the morning.\\nOther nice things you can try include giving him a massage while you watch TV together and waking up early to make him breakfast in bed.\\n7. Plan date nights and spontaneous trips to keep things exciting.\\nNo matter how busy you are, it's important to set aside time to spend with your man.\\nPlan a date night at least once a week where you go out to eat or cook a nice dinner at your apartment. Go on a day trip together next time you both have a day off. Set aside time just to be together, with no distractions! Making time for him in your schedule will really show that he means a lot to you.\\nWhen you're together, turn off your phone and be attentive to your guy.\\nIf you've been dating for a long time, do new things together to keep things fresh. Eat at a restaurant you've both never been to before, hike a new trail, or take a class together.\\n8. Encourage him to do his own thing.\\nShowing support for your man's hobbies and interests is actually super romantic.\\nBe happy for him when he has plans with his friends. Encourage him to keep up with his hobbies like playing the drums or writing short stories. Show how secure and confident you are in your relationship by supporting his individual goals, interests, and endeavors in life.\\nIt's completely normal if you get a little jealous sometimes when your man has plans without you. Remember that it's actually super beneficial for your relationship to keep up with your own hobbies, interests, and friendships.\\n9. Show him love through your touch.\\nActions can speak louder than words.\\nHug and kiss him when you greet him. Cuddle when you're watching TV together. Lay in bed together just to talk and hang out with each other. He'll appreciate the physical affection, and it'll bring you closer.\\nOnly do what you're both comfortable with. If you're not feeling very touchy or your partner isn't super physically affectionate, you can be romantic in other ways. Try expressing your love through words or acts of kindness instead.\\n10. Be affectionate in public.\\nThis doesn't have to be over-the-top—just subtle and sweet.\\nHold his hand when you're going on a walk together. Give him a quick kiss when you greet him at a restaurant. Put your head on his shoulder while you're waiting for a movie to start at the theater. A little PDA shows that you're proud to be seen with him.\\nIt's okay if one or both of you isn't super into PDA. Talk about what you're comfortable with, whether it be hand-holding or a brief kiss on the cheek, so that you both feel good about it.\\n11. Experiment in the bedroom.\\nTalk about each other's fantasies, and ask him if he's ever liked to try anything new.\\nIf you're comfortable with what he says, go ahead and try it. This will show that you care about his satisfaction, and trying new things together can make you feel more comfortable with each other.\\nEmphasize his satisfaction, but don't forget about your own. Only try things you're both comfortable and excited about, and never feel any pressure to try something you don't want to do.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sometimes it can be hard to figure out how to up the romance in a relationship, especially if you've been dating for a while. Whether you’re sharing words of love, showering him with kindness, or offering physical touch, there are so many ways to show your love. Read on for tips on how to add some excitement and passion to your interactions with your guy. Here are 11 ways to turn up the romance.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Compliment him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Even a small compliment can mean a lot.\", \"描述\": \"If you're out and about and notice how handsome he looks in his new T-shirt, tell him. They may not always make it obvious, but guys like being flattered just as much as anyone else. Make sure he knows how sexy, kind, and funny you find him and give compliments that are genuine and specific to him.\\nTo make him feel super handsome, say something like, \\\"I love it when you wear that shirt. You always look so hot in it.\\\"\\nBe sure to compliment his personality, too. If he sends you a funny text, for example, text back, \\\"You're the funniest guy in the world. This made my day!\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tell him how grateful you are for him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Never take his presence or love for granted.\", \"描述\": \"Tell him how happy you are to have him in your life. Do so freely and often so he never forgets how happy he makes you. It'll up his confidence and make him feel awesome around you.\\nNext time he does something nice for you, say something like, \\\"I don't know what I would do without you. You're the sweetest and I'm so lucky.\\\"\\nGive him a call on your break at work to tell him how much you love him. Say something like, \\\"Just wanted to say I love you and that I'm so happy to have you in my life. Can't wait to see you when I get home!'\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Text him throughout the day.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This shows that he's on your mind, even when you're not together.\", \"描述\": \"Short, sweet texts that encourage him and let him know that you miss him go a long way in letting him know that you care.\\nText something like, \\\"Missing you! Can't wait to get home :)\\\"\\nDon't be afraid to be a little flirty. Text him something like, \\\"Can't stop thinking about your cute face.\\\"\\nA NSFW text might really up the romance, but take some precautions if you go this route. Only send pictures or texts you're comfortable with, make sure you trust him, and give him some warning if he's out or at work.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Write him romantic letters and notes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tailor your notes to him specifically.\", \"描述\": \"First, brainstorm the things that you really love about your man. Find specific things, like his sense of spontaneity, his one-of-a-kind sense of humor, or even something super unique to him, like his cute ears or his freckles. Pick your favorites and write out the letter on a nice piece of paper or stationary. Address the letter to him or use a cute pet name, like \\\"My love\\\" or \\\"My sweetheart.\\\"\\nMail him the letter if you're in a long-distance relationship, or hand-deliver it to him along with a little gift, flowers, or his favorite candy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give him gifts, both big and small.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This is a great way to show that you care.\", \"描述\": \"Pick up his favorite coffee drink if you're meeting up for a morning walk. Make a playlist of songs that you think he would really like and send it to him. If he lives out of town, arrange for flowers to be delivered to his apartment.\\nYou don't have to spend a lot of money to show that you care. Handmade gifts are wonderfully romantic, and the effort it takes to make them means way more than any amount of money.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do nice things for him.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This means a lot, especially if there's no occasion other than wanting to make him feel good.\", \"描述\": \"Cook him his favorite meal. Take care of his least favorite chore, especially if he's been super stressed lately. Give him a ride to work to make his commute easier and to spend a little extra time with him in the morning.\\nOther nice things you can try include giving him a massage while you watch TV together and waking up early to make him breakfast in bed.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Plan date nights and spontaneous trips to keep things exciting.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"No matter how busy you are, it's important to set aside time to spend with your man.\", \"描述\": \"Plan a date night at least once a week where you go out to eat or cook a nice dinner at your apartment. Go on a day trip together next time you both have a day off. Set aside time just to be together, with no distractions! Making time for him in your schedule will really show that he means a lot to you.\\nWhen you're together, turn off your phone and be attentive to your guy.\\nIf you've been dating for a long time, do new things together to keep things fresh. Eat at a restaurant you've both never been to before, hike a new trail, or take a class together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Encourage him to do his own thing.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Showing support for your man's hobbies and interests is actually super romantic.\", \"描述\": \"Be happy for him when he has plans with his friends. Encourage him to keep up with his hobbies like playing the drums or writing short stories. Show how secure and confident you are in your relationship by supporting his individual goals, interests, and endeavors in life.\\nIt's completely normal if you get a little jealous sometimes when your man has plans without you. Remember that it's actually super beneficial for your relationship to keep up with your own hobbies, interests, and friendships.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Show him love through your touch.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Actions can speak louder than words.\", \"描述\": \"Hug and kiss him when you greet him. Cuddle when you're watching TV together. Lay in bed together just to talk and hang out with each other. He'll appreciate the physical affection, and it'll bring you closer.\\nOnly do what you're both comfortable with. If you're not feeling very touchy or your partner isn't super physically affectionate, you can be romantic in other ways. Try expressing your love through words or acts of kindness instead.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Be affectionate in public.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This doesn't have to be over-the-top—just subtle and sweet.\", \"描述\": \"Hold his hand when you're going on a walk together. Give him a quick kiss when you greet him at a restaurant. Put your head on his shoulder while you're waiting for a movie to start at the theater. A little PDA shows that you're proud to be seen with him.\\nIt's okay if one or both of you isn't super into PDA. Talk about what you're comfortable with, whether it be hand-holding or a brief kiss on the cheek, so that you both feel good about it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Experiment in the bedroom.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Talk about each other's fantasies, and ask him if he's ever liked to try anything new.\", \"描述\": \"If you're comfortable with what he says, go ahead and try it. This will show that you care about his satisfaction, and trying new things together can make you feel more comfortable with each other.\\nEmphasize his satisfaction, but don't forget about your own. Only try things you're both comfortable and excited about, and never feel any pressure to try something you don't want to do.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Setting an Evening Routine
1-1. Sleep more, and more consistently.
Many more of us could be morning people if we would just give ourselves the chance to get some more sleep at night. Getting sufficient sleep for your body’s needs gives you the energy, health, and motivation to get things done in the morning and throughout the day.
While seven to nine hours of sleep is the general recommendation for adults, everyone is different. One way to test your sleep needs is to go a week with no alarm clock (such as when you are on vacation). Go to bed at the same time each night, and see what the average length of time is until you wake up on your own in the morning.
Establish a consistent bedtime and wake-up time, on weekdays and weekends. Of course, it’s tempting to stay up a little late and sleep in on days when you don’t have work or other early morning responsibilities, but keeping a consistent daily routine will help train your body.
Cut one hour from the end of each day. No, you can’t actually make the clock skip from 10 to 11 p.m., but you can leave a blank hour before bedtime during which you can’t schedule any work or other activities. You need to have time to wind down before bedtime.
1-2. Go to bed earlier.
To rise earlier, you'll need to start sleep earlier, and that can be hard if you're used to using the later hours of the night for activities such as reading, watching TV, or writing.
Consider going to bed earlier in increments. Start with 15 minutes earlier, with the expectation of getting up 15 minutes earlier, then gradually increase this to half an hour and then to an hour. If you do this gradually, it will give both your body and your mind time to adjust to the earlier sleeping and waking times. It will also allow you to find your happy medium between too early and too late.
Dim your lights one hour before bedtime to facilitate the release of melatonin and make you sleepy. If the room is also comfortably cool (roughly 65-69℉), it will be easier for you to fall asleep as well. Avoid bright lights, caffeine, and alcohol, as these will all wake you up more.
Avoid “screen time” (TV, computer, etc.) during your hour of preparation for an earlier bedtime. Even a relaxing TV show stimulates you and makes it harder to fall asleep.
Allow yourself to read in bed. Reading is a quiet activity and it will often induce sleep when in a reclined position. Your reading doesn't have to be deadly dull, but choose bedtime reading that is not too suspenseful or strenuous.
If you live with a night owl who hasn't the slightest interest in changing his or her sleeping schedule, ask for a bit of slack and no noise when they finally do go to bed.
1-3. Find the right alarm clock and locate it smartly.
Although it is important to learn to wake up earlier as a matter of will, your alarm clock is the main source of helping establish your new routine when changing over your sleeping patterns.
Some people will do better with a blaring loud alarm, others with a gradual alarm. Try several options until you find what works best at getting you up.
Keep the alarm clock far enough away that you have to get out of bed to shut it off. The effort of having to rise from bed to shut it off will be enough to start waking you up properly.
1-4. Prepare yourself for sleeping and waking.
In addition to the advice already mentioned, such as avoiding electronic devices with screens before bedtime, setting up a consistent routine for bedtime is critical to transitioning to morning person.
Try to go to bed neither too hungry nor too stuffed. Either condition makes it harder to fall asleep.
Begin your morning preparations the night before. Pack your work or school bag. Lay out your clothes. Set up for breakfast. Free up some more of your newly-gained morning time.
Try taking a warm bath or shower before going to bed. Your body temperature will drop afterward, which is likely to make you more sleepy.
1-5. Reflect on your purpose for getting up earlier.
If you're mentally motivated to get up earlier, it can help to make a big dent in your sleeping-in excuses. Each night, create a clear mental image about why you want to get up and what you will accomplish with that morning time. Common good reasons include:
Having quiet time to yourself before anybody else in the house is up. During this time, you can read, write, exercise, contemplate, meditate, make the evening's dinner, or even do a bit of tidying up.
Giving time to your faith. For many people, early morning is an important time to reflect upon or practice elements of their faith.
Catching the sunrise. As wonderful as the sunset is, the sunrise heralds the new day and brings promise of a fresh start. That's often worth the effort.
Getting to work, school, or college earlier so that you can come home earlier and do other things you want to do.
Caring for a family member or animal companion. Those responsible for the care of other people or animals can benefit from getting up earlier, especially if they need feeding, bathing, exercising, etc.
Plan an enjoyable morning activity for each day — the same one, or a different one each day. For instance, catch up with an old friend on the phone; write that short story collection you’ve always wanted to do; start training for the half-marathon; or redecorate your dining room.
It's also a great time to deal with routine matters while you're alert and ready to get going; things such as checking emails, paying bills, and administrative filing can be done first thing in the morning to get them out of the way.
For some people, it's about restoring the morning person you used to be until you allowed late night TV, internet chatting, and other wakeful activities to keep you up late.
2. Waking Up Ready to Go
2-1. Light up your morning.
It will be especially difficult when you first try to transition from night owl sleeping patterns to morning person sleeping rhythms, but employing light is one way to "trick" your body into greater alertness.
Exposure to light, whether natural or artificial, at wake-up time helps reset your circadian rhythm and make you more alert. Allow natural sunlight to pour in to your bedroom, or invest in a “light box” or gradual alarm clock that produces a steadily brighter light.
2-2. Try out various wake-up strategies.
Find something that forces you to get out (and stay out) of bed. Consider the following to help you transition to wake-up mode:
Make your bed. It's a lot less desirable to crawl back into it when you've gone to the trouble of making it up.
Force yourself to leave the room – go to the bathroom, drink a glass of water, brush your teeth, or do anything else that will overcome your inner chat about returning to bed. As an aside, we are often dehydrated upon waking up, so drinking a glass of water can help the body rejuvenate and prepare for activity.
Splash your face with water as soon as you get out of bed.
Stretch. Stretching can help awaken you gently, as well as improve your flexibility.
Put on upbeat music and dance to it a little.
Have a cup of tea or coffee to awaken your senses. Some people swear by slightly warmed water with freshly squeezed lemon juice as a refreshing tonic.
2-3. Exercise before breakfast.
You might as well work up a sweat before taking your morning shower, and you can start your day by burning some calories before you even take any in.
Physical activity will help wake you up, and exercise undertaken first thing in the morning is more effective at charging up your metabolism than exercise undertaken at any other time of the day.
Have your gear ready to go the night before — lay out your running clothes and shoes, tune up your bike, lay out your weight set, or cue up your workout DVD. Jump right into action before your inner sleepy-head can convince you otherwise.
Make sure to drink lots of water before and during morning exercise.
2-4. Eat a smart breakfast.
Don't be tempted to skip breakfast — it's your energy kick-starter for the rest of the day, and the early bird has even longer to wait until lunchtime.
A breakfast that features protein, fruits or vegetables, and a whole grain can help energize you for the day ahead. For a quick and healthy example, try Greek yogurt topped with blueberries and granola with chia seeds.
Look into options like adding variety to your meals, or even talking to your doctor, if you consistently don't feel like eating breakfast in the morning.
2-5. Keep the new morning rhythm going once it's established.
It's important to get up at the same time every day once you're established in your new routine, including weekends. Don't sleep in on days when you don't have to be somewhere; doing so throws off your sleep rhythm. Leave sleeping in for when you're unwell. Instead, get up and use the time to read, enjoy a longer breakfast, chat with others, or exercise.
Take notice of how much more you have accomplished when you get home from work and/or school. You'll relax more, sleep better at night, and be more refreshed for when you get up early again.
2-6. Persevere and be realistic.
It can take time to transition from a night owl to a morning person. Moreover, being a morning person or a night owl has a genetic basis that may not be easy to override. (It is estimated that only 10% of us are the former, and 20% the latter, which means the remaining 70% of us should be able to change our ways more readily.)
As such, it may not be possible to switch yourself over entirely to becoming a morning person, unless you're a morning person reforming from a lapse into a night owl lifestyle. However, if waking even an hour earlier is benefitting you, it can be worth the effort and the new routine in your life.
Even night owls are prone to wake up earlier during the warmer months when the morning light streams through earlier. Try to go with your body's natural flow and it's more likely that you'll wake up earlier than usual anyway during spring and summer months.
Stick with the process; it's not going to be easy for the first few mornings. The more your body becomes used to the light cues and the regular bedtimes, the more you'll find it easier to transition.
Have rewards in place for early rising, such as a delicious breakfast at the local cafe, a brand new paperback to read, an early appointment massage, etc. Reward yourself with something that encourages you to keep getting up early each day.
Give yourself a pep talk last thing each night and first thing each morning. Remind yourself that tomorrow/today is a new day. Forget about what happened yesterday, it's in the past. Today is a fresh day, enjoy it!
Tips
Sleep researchers believe that many people shift from being temporary night owls in their teens to early 20s (due to hormonal surges) to being morning persons in their 30s onward. However, some people remain night owls for life (being born that way), and if you're a dyed-in-the-wool night owl, it's likely you'll find it hard ever changing over to being a permanent morning person![22]
X
Research source
Jacqueline Stenson, Reset your body clock: not a morning person? Your genes have a lot to do with it, but there are ways to change your night-owl or early-bird habits to accomplish more each day
Give yourself something to accomplish each day (even on the weekends). Whether it be running 10 miles (16 km) before breakfast or getting a few loads of laundry through before you go to work, just do something.
Each sleep cycle lasts 90 minutes. Set your alarm clock to go off after a multiple of an hour and a half, and it will be easier to wake up.
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Of course, it’s tempting to stay up a little late and sleep in on days when you don’t have work or other early morning responsibilities, but keeping a consistent daily routine will help train your body.\\nCut one hour from the end of each day. No, you can’t actually make the clock skip from 10 to 11 p.m., but you can leave a blank hour before bedtime during which you can’t schedule any work or other activities. You need to have time to wind down before bedtime.\\n1-2. Go to bed earlier.\\nTo rise earlier, you'll need to start sleep earlier, and that can be hard if you're used to using the later hours of the night for activities such as reading, watching TV, or writing.\\nConsider going to bed earlier in increments. Start with 15 minutes earlier, with the expectation of getting up 15 minutes earlier, then gradually increase this to half an hour and then to an hour. If you do this gradually, it will give both your body and your mind time to adjust to the earlier sleeping and waking times. It will also allow you to find your happy medium between too early and too late.\\nDim your lights one hour before bedtime to facilitate the release of melatonin and make you sleepy. If the room is also comfortably cool (roughly 65-69℉), it will be easier for you to fall asleep as well. Avoid bright lights, caffeine, and alcohol, as these will all wake you up more.\\nAvoid “screen time” (TV, computer, etc.) during your hour of preparation for an earlier bedtime. Even a relaxing TV show stimulates you and makes it harder to fall asleep.\\nAllow yourself to read in bed. Reading is a quiet activity and it will often induce sleep when in a reclined position. Your reading doesn't have to be deadly dull, but choose bedtime reading that is not too suspenseful or strenuous.\\nIf you live with a night owl who hasn't the slightest interest in changing his or her sleeping schedule, ask for a bit of slack and no noise when they finally do go to bed.\\n1-3. Find the right alarm clock and locate it smartly.\\nAlthough it is important to learn to wake up earlier as a matter of will, your alarm clock is the main source of helping establish your new routine when changing over your sleeping patterns.\\nSome people will do better with a blaring loud alarm, others with a gradual alarm. Try several options until you find what works best at getting you up.\\nKeep the alarm clock far enough away that you have to get out of bed to shut it off. The effort of having to rise from bed to shut it off will be enough to start waking you up properly.\\n1-4. Prepare yourself for sleeping and waking.\\nIn addition to the advice already mentioned, such as avoiding electronic devices with screens before bedtime, setting up a consistent routine for bedtime is critical to transitioning to morning person.\\nTry to go to bed neither too hungry nor too stuffed. Either condition makes it harder to fall asleep.\\nBegin your morning preparations the night before. Pack your work or school bag. Lay out your clothes. Set up for breakfast. Free up some more of your newly-gained morning time.\\nTry taking a warm bath or shower before going to bed. Your body temperature will drop afterward, which is likely to make you more sleepy.\\n1-5. Reflect on your purpose for getting up earlier.\\nIf you're mentally motivated to get up earlier, it can help to make a big dent in your sleeping-in excuses. Each night, create a clear mental image about why you want to get up and what you will accomplish with that morning time. Common good reasons include:\\nHaving quiet time to yourself before anybody else in the house is up. During this time, you can read, write, exercise, contemplate, meditate, make the evening's dinner, or even do a bit of tidying up.\\nGiving time to your faith. For many people, early morning is an important time to reflect upon or practice elements of their faith.\\nCatching the sunrise. As wonderful as the sunset is, the sunrise heralds the new day and brings promise of a fresh start. That's often worth the effort.\\nGetting to work, school, or college earlier so that you can come home earlier and do other things you want to do.\\nCaring for a family member or animal companion. Those responsible for the care of other people or animals can benefit from getting up earlier, especially if they need feeding, bathing, exercising, etc.\\nPlan an enjoyable morning activity for each day — the same one, or a different one each day. For instance, catch up with an old friend on the phone; write that short story collection you’ve always wanted to do; start training for the half-marathon; or redecorate your dining room.\\nIt's also a great time to deal with routine matters while you're alert and ready to get going; things such as checking emails, paying bills, and administrative filing can be done first thing in the morning to get them out of the way.\\nFor some people, it's about restoring the morning person you used to be until you allowed late night TV, internet chatting, and other wakeful activities to keep you up late.\\n2. Waking Up Ready to Go\\n2-1. Light up your morning.\\nIt will be especially difficult when you first try to transition from night owl sleeping patterns to morning person sleeping rhythms, but employing light is one way to \\\"trick\\\" your body into greater alertness.\\nExposure to light, whether natural or artificial, at wake-up time helps reset your circadian rhythm and make you more alert. Allow natural sunlight to pour in to your bedroom, or invest in a “light box” or gradual alarm clock that produces a steadily brighter light.\\n2-2. Try out various wake-up strategies.\\nFind something that forces you to get out (and stay out) of bed. Consider the following to help you transition to wake-up mode:\\n\\nMake your bed. It's a lot less desirable to crawl back into it when you've gone to the trouble of making it up.\\nForce yourself to leave the room – go to the bathroom, drink a glass of water, brush your teeth, or do anything else that will overcome your inner chat about returning to bed. As an aside, we are often dehydrated upon waking up, so drinking a glass of water can help the body rejuvenate and prepare for activity.\\nSplash your face with water as soon as you get out of bed.\\nStretch. Stretching can help awaken you gently, as well as improve your flexibility.\\nPut on upbeat music and dance to it a little.\\nHave a cup of tea or coffee to awaken your senses. Some people swear by slightly warmed water with freshly squeezed lemon juice as a refreshing tonic.\\n2-3. Exercise before breakfast.\\nYou might as well work up a sweat before taking your morning shower, and you can start your day by burning some calories before you even take any in.\\nPhysical activity will help wake you up, and exercise undertaken first thing in the morning is more effective at charging up your metabolism than exercise undertaken at any other time of the day.\\nHave your gear ready to go the night before — lay out your running clothes and shoes, tune up your bike, lay out your weight set, or cue up your workout DVD. Jump right into action before your inner sleepy-head can convince you otherwise.\\nMake sure to drink lots of water before and during morning exercise.\\n2-4. Eat a smart breakfast.\\nDon't be tempted to skip breakfast — it's your energy kick-starter for the rest of the day, and the early bird has even longer to wait until lunchtime.\\nA breakfast that features protein, fruits or vegetables, and a whole grain can help energize you for the day ahead. For a quick and healthy example, try Greek yogurt topped with blueberries and granola with chia seeds.\\nLook into options like adding variety to your meals, or even talking to your doctor, if you consistently don't feel like eating breakfast in the morning.\\n2-5. Keep the new morning rhythm going once it's established.\\nIt's important to get up at the same time every day once you're established in your new routine, including weekends. Don't sleep in on days when you don't have to be somewhere; doing so throws off your sleep rhythm. Leave sleeping in for when you're unwell. Instead, get up and use the time to read, enjoy a longer breakfast, chat with others, or exercise.\\nTake notice of how much more you have accomplished when you get home from work and/or school. You'll relax more, sleep better at night, and be more refreshed for when you get up early again.\\n2-6. Persevere and be realistic.\\nIt can take time to transition from a night owl to a morning person. Moreover, being a morning person or a night owl has a genetic basis that may not be easy to override. (It is estimated that only 10% of us are the former, and 20% the latter, which means the remaining 70% of us should be able to change our ways more readily.)\\nAs such, it may not be possible to switch yourself over entirely to becoming a morning person, unless you're a morning person reforming from a lapse into a night owl lifestyle. However, if waking even an hour earlier is benefitting you, it can be worth the effort and the new routine in your life.\\nEven night owls are prone to wake up earlier during the warmer months when the morning light streams through earlier. Try to go with your body's natural flow and it's more likely that you'll wake up earlier than usual anyway during spring and summer months.\\nStick with the process; it's not going to be easy for the first few mornings. The more your body becomes used to the light cues and the regular bedtimes, the more you'll find it easier to transition.\\nHave rewards in place for early rising, such as a delicious breakfast at the local cafe, a brand new paperback to read, an early appointment massage, etc. Reward yourself with something that encourages you to keep getting up early each day.\\nGive yourself a pep talk last thing each night and first thing each morning. Remind yourself that tomorrow/today is a new day. Forget about what happened yesterday, it's in the past. Today is a fresh day, enjoy it!\\nTips\\nSleep researchers believe that many people shift from being temporary night owls in their teens to early 20s (due to hormonal surges) to being morning persons in their 30s onward. However, some people remain night owls for life (being born that way), and if you're a dyed-in-the-wool night owl, it's likely you'll find it hard ever changing over to being a permanent morning person![22]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nJacqueline Stenson, Reset your body clock: not a morning person? Your genes have a lot to do with it, but there are ways to change your night-owl or early-bird habits to accomplish more each day\\nGive yourself something to accomplish each day (even on the weekends). Whether it be running 10 miles (16 km) before breakfast or getting a few loads of laundry through before you go to work, just do something.\\nEach sleep cycle lasts 90 minutes. Set your alarm clock to go off after a multiple of an hour and a half, and it will be easier to wake up.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"People tend to say they dislike a “morning person” — one of those lucky few who are happy, full of pep, and productive in the a.m. while you’re still wrestling your snooze button. Secretly, however, most of us wish we could be one. Switching from “night owl” to being bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at daybreak is no easy task, but there are simple steps to take that can make the transition more manageable. So take back your mornings without sacrificing the sleep you need!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Setting an Evening Routine\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Sleep more, and more consistently.\", \"描述\": \"Many more of us could be morning people if we would just give ourselves the chance to get some more sleep at night. Getting sufficient sleep for your body’s needs gives you the energy, health, and motivation to get things done in the morning and throughout the day.\\nWhile seven to nine hours of sleep is the general recommendation for adults, everyone is different. One way to test your sleep needs is to go a week with no alarm clock (such as when you are on vacation). Go to bed at the same time each night, and see what the average length of time is until you wake up on your own in the morning.\\nEstablish a consistent bedtime and wake-up time, on weekdays and weekends. Of course, it’s tempting to stay up a little late and sleep in on days when you don’t have work or other early morning responsibilities, but keeping a consistent daily routine will help train your body.\\nCut one hour from the end of each day. No, you can’t actually make the clock skip from 10 to 11 p.m., but you can leave a blank hour before bedtime during which you can’t schedule any work or other activities. You need to have time to wind down before bedtime.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go to bed earlier.\", \"描述\": \"To rise earlier, you'll need to start sleep earlier, and that can be hard if you're used to using the later hours of the night for activities such as reading, watching TV, or writing.\\nConsider going to bed earlier in increments. Start with 15 minutes earlier, with the expectation of getting up 15 minutes earlier, then gradually increase this to half an hour and then to an hour. If you do this gradually, it will give both your body and your mind time to adjust to the earlier sleeping and waking times. It will also allow you to find your happy medium between too early and too late.\\nDim your lights one hour before bedtime to facilitate the release of melatonin and make you sleepy. If the room is also comfortably cool (roughly 65-69℉), it will be easier for you to fall asleep as well. Avoid bright lights, caffeine, and alcohol, as these will all wake you up more.\\nAvoid “screen time” (TV, computer, etc.) during your hour of preparation for an earlier bedtime. Even a relaxing TV show stimulates you and makes it harder to fall asleep.\\nAllow yourself to read in bed. Reading is a quiet activity and it will often induce sleep when in a reclined position. Your reading doesn't have to be deadly dull, but choose bedtime reading that is not too suspenseful or strenuous.\\nIf you live with a night owl who hasn't the slightest interest in changing his or her sleeping schedule, ask for a bit of slack and no noise when they finally do go to bed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find the right alarm clock and locate it smartly.\", \"描述\": \"Although it is important to learn to wake up earlier as a matter of will, your alarm clock is the main source of helping establish your new routine when changing over your sleeping patterns.\\nSome people will do better with a blaring loud alarm, others with a gradual alarm. Try several options until you find what works best at getting you up.\\nKeep the alarm clock far enough away that you have to get out of bed to shut it off. The effort of having to rise from bed to shut it off will be enough to start waking you up properly.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Prepare yourself for sleeping and waking.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to the advice already mentioned, such as avoiding electronic devices with screens before bedtime, setting up a consistent routine for bedtime is critical to transitioning to morning person.\\nTry to go to bed neither too hungry nor too stuffed. Either condition makes it harder to fall asleep.\\nBegin your morning preparations the night before. Pack your work or school bag. Lay out your clothes. Set up for breakfast. Free up some more of your newly-gained morning time.\\nTry taking a warm bath or shower before going to bed. Your body temperature will drop afterward, which is likely to make you more sleepy.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Reflect on your purpose for getting up earlier.\", \"描述\": \"If you're mentally motivated to get up earlier, it can help to make a big dent in your sleeping-in excuses. Each night, create a clear mental image about why you want to get up and what you will accomplish with that morning time. Common good reasons include:\\nHaving quiet time to yourself before anybody else in the house is up. During this time, you can read, write, exercise, contemplate, meditate, make the evening's dinner, or even do a bit of tidying up.\\nGiving time to your faith. For many people, early morning is an important time to reflect upon or practice elements of their faith.\\nCatching the sunrise. As wonderful as the sunset is, the sunrise heralds the new day and brings promise of a fresh start. That's often worth the effort.\\nGetting to work, school, or college earlier so that you can come home earlier and do other things you want to do.\\nCaring for a family member or animal companion. Those responsible for the care of other people or animals can benefit from getting up earlier, especially if they need feeding, bathing, exercising, etc.\\nPlan an enjoyable morning activity for each day — the same one, or a different one each day. For instance, catch up with an old friend on the phone; write that short story collection you’ve always wanted to do; start training for the half-marathon; or redecorate your dining room.\\nIt's also a great time to deal with routine matters while you're alert and ready to get going; things such as checking emails, paying bills, and administrative filing can be done first thing in the morning to get them out of the way.\\nFor some people, it's about restoring the morning person you used to be until you allowed late night TV, internet chatting, and other wakeful activities to keep you up late.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Waking Up Ready to Go\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Light up your morning.\", \"描述\": \"It will be especially difficult when you first try to transition from night owl sleeping patterns to morning person sleeping rhythms, but employing light is one way to \\\"trick\\\" your body into greater alertness.\\nExposure to light, whether natural or artificial, at wake-up time helps reset your circadian rhythm and make you more alert. Allow natural sunlight to pour in to your bedroom, or invest in a “light box” or gradual alarm clock that produces a steadily brighter light.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try out various wake-up strategies.\", \"描述\": \"Find something that forces you to get out (and stay out) of bed. Consider the following to help you transition to wake-up mode:\\n\\nMake your bed. It's a lot less desirable to crawl back into it when you've gone to the trouble of making it up.\\nForce yourself to leave the room – go to the bathroom, drink a glass of water, brush your teeth, or do anything else that will overcome your inner chat about returning to bed. As an aside, we are often dehydrated upon waking up, so drinking a glass of water can help the body rejuvenate and prepare for activity.\\nSplash your face with water as soon as you get out of bed.\\nStretch. Stretching can help awaken you gently, as well as improve your flexibility.\\nPut on upbeat music and dance to it a little.\\nHave a cup of tea or coffee to awaken your senses. Some people swear by slightly warmed water with freshly squeezed lemon juice as a refreshing tonic.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Exercise before breakfast.\", \"描述\": \"You might as well work up a sweat before taking your morning shower, and you can start your day by burning some calories before you even take any in.\\nPhysical activity will help wake you up, and exercise undertaken first thing in the morning is more effective at charging up your metabolism than exercise undertaken at any other time of the day.\\nHave your gear ready to go the night before — lay out your running clothes and shoes, tune up your bike, lay out your weight set, or cue up your workout DVD. Jump right into action before your inner sleepy-head can convince you otherwise.\\nMake sure to drink lots of water before and during morning exercise.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Eat a smart breakfast.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be tempted to skip breakfast — it's your energy kick-starter for the rest of the day, and the early bird has even longer to wait until lunchtime.\\nA breakfast that features protein, fruits or vegetables, and a whole grain can help energize you for the day ahead. For a quick and healthy example, try Greek yogurt topped with blueberries and granola with chia seeds.\\nLook into options like adding variety to your meals, or even talking to your doctor, if you consistently don't feel like eating breakfast in the morning.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep the new morning rhythm going once it's established.\", \"描述\": \"It's important to get up at the same time every day once you're established in your new routine, including weekends. Don't sleep in on days when you don't have to be somewhere; doing so throws off your sleep rhythm. Leave sleeping in for when you're unwell. Instead, get up and use the time to read, enjoy a longer breakfast, chat with others, or exercise.\\nTake notice of how much more you have accomplished when you get home from work and/or school. You'll relax more, sleep better at night, and be more refreshed for when you get up early again.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Persevere and be realistic.\", \"描述\": \"It can take time to transition from a night owl to a morning person. Moreover, being a morning person or a night owl has a genetic basis that may not be easy to override. (It is estimated that only 10% of us are the former, and 20% the latter, which means the remaining 70% of us should be able to change our ways more readily.)\\nAs such, it may not be possible to switch yourself over entirely to becoming a morning person, unless you're a morning person reforming from a lapse into a night owl lifestyle. However, if waking even an hour earlier is benefitting you, it can be worth the effort and the new routine in your life.\\nEven night owls are prone to wake up earlier during the warmer months when the morning light streams through earlier. Try to go with your body's natural flow and it's more likely that you'll wake up earlier than usual anyway during spring and summer months.\\nStick with the process; it's not going to be easy for the first few mornings. The more your body becomes used to the light cues and the regular bedtimes, the more you'll find it easier to transition.\\nHave rewards in place for early rising, such as a delicious breakfast at the local cafe, a brand new paperback to read, an early appointment massage, etc. Reward yourself with something that encourages you to keep getting up early each day.\\nGive yourself a pep talk last thing each night and first thing each morning. Remind yourself that tomorrow/today is a new day. Forget about what happened yesterday, it's in the past. Today is a fresh day, enjoy it!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Sleep researchers believe that many people shift from being temporary night owls in their teens to early 20s (due to hormonal surges) to being morning persons in their 30s onward. However, some people remain night owls for life (being born that way), and if you're a dyed-in-the-wool night owl, it's likely you'll find it hard ever changing over to being a permanent morning person![22]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nJacqueline Stenson, Reset your body clock: not a morning person? Your genes have a lot to do with it, but there are ways to change your night-owl or early-bird habits to accomplish more each day\\n\", \"Give yourself something to accomplish each day (even on the weekends). Whether it be running 10 miles (16 km) before breakfast or getting a few loads of laundry through before you go to work, just do something.\\n\", \"Each sleep cycle lasts 90 minutes. Set your alarm clock to go off after a multiple of an hour and a half, and it will be easier to wake up.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Building Acting Skills
1-1. Take advantage of school theatre.
If you're in high school or college, there's no better time to start your acting career than now. Get involved with school theatre as soon as possible. Sign up for theatre classes in your school if you can. Audition for school plays. High school drama programs are a great way for you to get a feel for what the acting world is like and start building your experience and skill as an actor.
If you're in college, you can likely find a student-run theatre program that has open auditions. Take advantage of any opportunities to act you can find at your school. Search your schools list of clubs and organizations. Contact the ones that put on plays and ask them how to get involved.
1-2. Get a theatrical degree.
Although there are plenty of movie stars who didn't go to college, or did go to college but not for theatre, it certainly can't hurt. Especially if you're coming out of high school with no theatre experience, getting acting skills and experience in college is a worthwhile step. Research colleges and their drama programs. Things to consider when choosing a school include:
How well rated is their drama program? What kind of classes do they offer? How many of their alumni are professional actors? Do they have an agent showcase? How well does the schools and it's drama program fit with my goals as an actor?
1-3. Take acting classes and workshops.
If you're not in high school or college, you should still be getting acting training. Most movie stars have spent many years honing their acting chops. Any opportunity to do so will improve your chances. Search online for acting classes and workshops near you.
1-4. Volunteer for local theatre.
Whether you're in high school, college, or neither, you can get acting experience in your current town by volunteering for local theater productions. Audition for upcoming productions. Contact local theatre companies and ask what kind of volunteer work they have available. Even if it's not acting work, working at a theatre company will give you an "in" for when they start casting for later productions.
Alternatively, look for community television stations near you. Contact them and ask about volunteering opportunities.
Once you start volunteering, learn as much as you can. Observe how things work in the company. Ask questions. Get to know the people involved. This is the time to start build a relationship with the industry and those inside it.
1-5. Get all the acting practice you can.
You don't have to be in a movie or play to work on your acting skills. There are ways to improve your acting on your own as well. Make short films with your friends. If you have friends who are also interested in some aspect of acting or movie making, this is an option for building experience that requires no prerequisite or luck.
Even if you're alone in your pursuit of acting skill, there are ways to practice on your own. Practice monologues in front of a camera. Practice playing different types of characters and personalities. Review the recordings you made and look for areas of improvement.
2. Getting into the Industry
2-1. Be an extra.
Extras are the people in movies with no speaking lines, the background people. Search for movie projects that are being filmed in and around your area. Look for calls for extras. These jobs will often be unpaid, and you won't get any quality acting experience, but it's something to put on your acting resume, so don't discount it.
The simplest way to find extra work is to search online for upcoming films being shot in your area. Then contact the casting agency for the film and ask about extra opportunities. Volunteer to be an extra for free.
2-2. Look for local open casting calls.
Depending on the area you live in, there might be opportunities to be in films near you. Search online for open casting calls in your area. Look for both feature length films and short films. If you find an open casting call, go to the audition. Dress your best, prepare your audition material in advance, and give it your all. And most importantly, don't be discouraged by rejection. Taking rejection well is an essential skill for aspiring movie stars.
Even if there's no professional acting opportunities near you, there's always student films. If you're anywhere near a college with a film-making program, there will be no shortage of film students looking for amateur acting talent.
2-3. Move to Los Angeles.
Depending on the area you in, there might simply be a lack of real acting opportunity near you. If you're really serious about becoming a movie star, you're going to have to move to Los Angeles eventually. This is where the majority of big-budget movies are made. It's where the acting agents are, and it's where big breaks happen. If you are applied for a movie role and it is not shot in your area you are going to have to fly to the nearest airport in that area.
2-4. Find a non-acting job in the industry.
Plenty of famous actors started out with non-acting jobs and moved their way up. This is a common strategy for any profession. Start by looking for volunteer and interning opportunities in production companies. Jobs on sets include production assistants, handling equipment, or catering. You can find opportunities by searching for these opportunities online, or calling companies and asking about volunteering.
Research what film production companies are in your area. Then go to their websites and look for contact information, or information about volunteer opportunities.
3. Moving Up
3-1. Build and improve your acting resume.
You need a good resume and a quality headshot. It's the first thing that agencies and casting directors will see and can make or break your chances at getting auditions.
Quality headshots must be 8x10 inches, and done by a professional photographer, preferably one with a good reputation who specializes in headshots.
A quality resume will include all of your acting experience, with details about the productions and your role. It will include vital statistics like your height, eye and hair color, and vocal range. It will include any sort of special skills you posses, and your contact information.
3-2. Get an agent.
For most television and movie acting roles, the only way to get an audition is through an agent. That makes getting an agent a vital step on the road to movie stardom. There are two main ways to get an agent:
Be noticed by an agent. Do all the acting you can, student films, community television, local theatre. Film schools often invite agents to their showcases as well. If an agent sees you and likes you, you're in luck.
Send a well polished resume to agencies. Look up agencies that are accepting unsolicited submissions. Then make sure you have a professional and complete resume that includes a cover letter, and send it.
3-3. Join a union.
Being a part of a union like the Screen Actors Guild opens up a lot opportunities for bigger and better roles. You can act professionally without joining a union, but there will be a limit to how high you can rise in most cases.
The Screen Actors Guild is the biggest union, but also the hardest to join. One way is to work as a background actor in a SAG production. Another way is to first be a part of an affiliated union like ACTRA, AEA, AGMA or AGVA. Also keep in mind that after joining the union, you can't work on non-SAG productions. So you trade the freedom to work on non-contract jobs with the ability to pursue bigger roles with higher guaranteed salaries.
3-4. Make auditioning your job.
As an aspiring movie star, auditioning is your job. Take as many auditions as you can, and don't discouraged by lack of success. It'll will take nothing more or less than great patience and persistence to move through the acting ranks.
3-5. Make a habit of networking.
Finding positive role models and mentors is an essential skill to learn if you want to go far in the movie industry. Get used to talking to anyone and everyone involved with the production of whatever you're working on. Make friends and ask questions. Increasing the size of your professional network will lead to more opportunities down the line.
3-6. Luck out.
It may not be what you want to hear, but often times, what separates quality actors who make it big from those that don't is nothing more than being in the right place at the right time. A director happens to like something in your audition, and the production goes well, and the movie hits it big, and suddenly you're on your way to stardom. All of the previous steps will increases your chances, but one of the biggest keys to success is just patiently waiting for good opportunities, and taking them when they appear.
Tips
The road to movie stardom requires tough skin. You'll be rejected, a lot. The ratio of people who want to be movie stars to people who become movie stars is huge. If you want to make it, you can't let discouragement get the best of you.
There will be tons of people telling you bad things like "there is a possibility of one in a million" or " it will take many years of your life and you will end as an extra or doing commercials" but don't hear them, what do they know about the industry? If you really want to be a movie star and you effort as much as you can every day, you will make it!
The difference between the people who becomes "successful" and the ones who does not is their effort, so don't keep reading articles on the internet about celebrities, you better go outside and get an agent, try to travel to LA to see if it is good, open a YouTube channel, take lessons for more skills.
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Especially if you're coming out of high school with no theatre experience, getting acting skills and experience in college is a worthwhile step. Research colleges and their drama programs. Things to consider when choosing a school include:\\nHow well rated is their drama program? What kind of classes do they offer? How many of their alumni are professional actors? Do they have an agent showcase? How well does the schools and it's drama program fit with my goals as an actor?\\n1-3. Take acting classes and workshops.\\nIf you're not in high school or college, you should still be getting acting training. Most movie stars have spent many years honing their acting chops. Any opportunity to do so will improve your chances. Search online for acting classes and workshops near you.\\n1-4. Volunteer for local theatre.\\nWhether you're in high school, college, or neither, you can get acting experience in your current town by volunteering for local theater productions. Audition for upcoming productions. Contact local theatre companies and ask what kind of volunteer work they have available. Even if it's not acting work, working at a theatre company will give you an \\\"in\\\" for when they start casting for later productions.\\nAlternatively, look for community television stations near you. Contact them and ask about volunteering opportunities.\\nOnce you start volunteering, learn as much as you can. Observe how things work in the company. Ask questions. Get to know the people involved. This is the time to start build a relationship with the industry and those inside it.\\n1-5. Get all the acting practice you can.\\nYou don't have to be in a movie or play to work on your acting skills. There are ways to improve your acting on your own as well. Make short films with your friends. If you have friends who are also interested in some aspect of acting or movie making, this is an option for building experience that requires no prerequisite or luck.\\nEven if you're alone in your pursuit of acting skill, there are ways to practice on your own. Practice monologues in front of a camera. Practice playing different types of characters and personalities. Review the recordings you made and look for areas of improvement.\\n2. Getting into the Industry\\n2-1. Be an extra.\\nExtras are the people in movies with no speaking lines, the background people. Search for movie projects that are being filmed in and around your area. Look for calls for extras. These jobs will often be unpaid, and you won't get any quality acting experience, but it's something to put on your acting resume, so don't discount it.\\nThe simplest way to find extra work is to search online for upcoming films being shot in your area. Then contact the casting agency for the film and ask about extra opportunities. Volunteer to be an extra for free.\\n2-2. Look for local open casting calls.\\nDepending on the area you live in, there might be opportunities to be in films near you. Search online for open casting calls in your area. Look for both feature length films and short films. If you find an open casting call, go to the audition. Dress your best, prepare your audition material in advance, and give it your all. And most importantly, don't be discouraged by rejection. Taking rejection well is an essential skill for aspiring movie stars.\\nEven if there's no professional acting opportunities near you, there's always student films. If you're anywhere near a college with a film-making program, there will be no shortage of film students looking for amateur acting talent.\\n2-3. Move to Los Angeles.\\nDepending on the area you in, there might simply be a lack of real acting opportunity near you. If you're really serious about becoming a movie star, you're going to have to move to Los Angeles eventually. This is where the majority of big-budget movies are made. It's where the acting agents are, and it's where big breaks happen. If you are applied for a movie role and it is not shot in your area you are going to have to fly to the nearest airport in that area.\\n2-4. Find a non-acting job in the industry.\\nPlenty of famous actors started out with non-acting jobs and moved their way up. This is a common strategy for any profession. Start by looking for volunteer and interning opportunities in production companies. Jobs on sets include production assistants, handling equipment, or catering. You can find opportunities by searching for these opportunities online, or calling companies and asking about volunteering.\\nResearch what film production companies are in your area. Then go to their websites and look for contact information, or information about volunteer opportunities.\\n3. Moving Up\\n3-1. Build and improve your acting resume.\\nYou need a good resume and a quality headshot. It's the first thing that agencies and casting directors will see and can make or break your chances at getting auditions.\\nQuality headshots must be 8x10 inches, and done by a professional photographer, preferably one with a good reputation who specializes in headshots.\\nA quality resume will include all of your acting experience, with details about the productions and your role. It will include vital statistics like your height, eye and hair color, and vocal range. It will include any sort of special skills you posses, and your contact information.\\n3-2. Get an agent.\\nFor most television and movie acting roles, the only way to get an audition is through an agent. That makes getting an agent a vital step on the road to movie stardom. There are two main ways to get an agent:\\n\\nBe noticed by an agent. Do all the acting you can, student films, community television, local theatre. Film schools often invite agents to their showcases as well. If an agent sees you and likes you, you're in luck.\\nSend a well polished resume to agencies. Look up agencies that are accepting unsolicited submissions. Then make sure you have a professional and complete resume that includes a cover letter, and send it.\\n3-3. Join a union.\\nBeing a part of a union like the Screen Actors Guild opens up a lot opportunities for bigger and better roles. You can act professionally without joining a union, but there will be a limit to how high you can rise in most cases.\\nThe Screen Actors Guild is the biggest union, but also the hardest to join. One way is to work as a background actor in a SAG production. Another way is to first be a part of an affiliated union like ACTRA, AEA, AGMA or AGVA. Also keep in mind that after joining the union, you can't work on non-SAG productions. So you trade the freedom to work on non-contract jobs with the ability to pursue bigger roles with higher guaranteed salaries.\\n3-4. Make auditioning your job.\\nAs an aspiring movie star, auditioning is your job. Take as many auditions as you can, and don't discouraged by lack of success. It'll will take nothing more or less than great patience and persistence to move through the acting ranks.\\n3-5. Make a habit of networking.\\nFinding positive role models and mentors is an essential skill to learn if you want to go far in the movie industry. Get used to talking to anyone and everyone involved with the production of whatever you're working on. Make friends and ask questions. Increasing the size of your professional network will lead to more opportunities down the line.\\n3-6. Luck out.\\nIt may not be what you want to hear, but often times, what separates quality actors who make it big from those that don't is nothing more than being in the right place at the right time. A director happens to like something in your audition, and the production goes well, and the movie hits it big, and suddenly you're on your way to stardom. All of the previous steps will increases your chances, but one of the biggest keys to success is just patiently waiting for good opportunities, and taking them when they appear.\\nTips\\nThe road to movie stardom requires tough skin. You'll be rejected, a lot. The ratio of people who want to be movie stars to people who become movie stars is huge. If you want to make it, you can't let discouragement get the best of you.\\nThere will be tons of people telling you bad things like \\\"there is a possibility of one in a million\\\" or \\\" it will take many years of your life and you will end as an extra or doing commercials\\\" but don't hear them, what do they know about the industry? If you really want to be a movie star and you effort as much as you can every day, you will make it!\\nThe difference between the people who becomes \\\"successful\\\" and the ones who does not is their effort, so don't keep reading articles on the internet about celebrities, you better go outside and get an agent, try to travel to LA to see if it is good, open a YouTube channel, take lessons for more skills.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Ever wanted to become a movie star? Have a great passion for acting, and a dream of making it big, but don't know where to start? Plenty of people want to become a movie star someday, but few make it. What separates those who do is a combination of patience, persistence, hard work, and luck. It's a long road, but there's no better time to start than now.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Building Acting Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take advantage of school theatre.\", \"描述\": \"If you're in high school or college, there's no better time to start your acting career than now. Get involved with school theatre as soon as possible. Sign up for theatre classes in your school if you can. Audition for school plays. High school drama programs are a great way for you to get a feel for what the acting world is like and start building your experience and skill as an actor.\\nIf you're in college, you can likely find a student-run theatre program that has open auditions. Take advantage of any opportunities to act you can find at your school. Search your schools list of clubs and organizations. Contact the ones that put on plays and ask them how to get involved.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get a theatrical degree.\", \"描述\": \"Although there are plenty of movie stars who didn't go to college, or did go to college but not for theatre, it certainly can't hurt. Especially if you're coming out of high school with no theatre experience, getting acting skills and experience in college is a worthwhile step. Research colleges and their drama programs. Things to consider when choosing a school include:\\nHow well rated is their drama program? What kind of classes do they offer? How many of their alumni are professional actors? Do they have an agent showcase? How well does the schools and it's drama program fit with my goals as an actor?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take acting classes and workshops.\", \"描述\": \"If you're not in high school or college, you should still be getting acting training. Most movie stars have spent many years honing their acting chops. Any opportunity to do so will improve your chances. Search online for acting classes and workshops near you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Volunteer for local theatre.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you're in high school, college, or neither, you can get acting experience in your current town by volunteering for local theater productions. Audition for upcoming productions. Contact local theatre companies and ask what kind of volunteer work they have available. Even if it's not acting work, working at a theatre company will give you an \\\"in\\\" for when they start casting for later productions.\\nAlternatively, look for community television stations near you. Contact them and ask about volunteering opportunities.\\nOnce you start volunteering, learn as much as you can. Observe how things work in the company. Ask questions. Get to know the people involved. This is the time to start build a relationship with the industry and those inside it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get all the acting practice you can.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to be in a movie or play to work on your acting skills. There are ways to improve your acting on your own as well. Make short films with your friends. If you have friends who are also interested in some aspect of acting or movie making, this is an option for building experience that requires no prerequisite or luck.\\nEven if you're alone in your pursuit of acting skill, there are ways to practice on your own. Practice monologues in front of a camera. Practice playing different types of characters and personalities. Review the recordings you made and look for areas of improvement.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting into the Industry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be an extra.\", \"描述\": \"Extras are the people in movies with no speaking lines, the background people. Search for movie projects that are being filmed in and around your area. Look for calls for extras. These jobs will often be unpaid, and you won't get any quality acting experience, but it's something to put on your acting resume, so don't discount it.\\nThe simplest way to find extra work is to search online for upcoming films being shot in your area. Then contact the casting agency for the film and ask about extra opportunities. Volunteer to be an extra for free.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look for local open casting calls.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the area you live in, there might be opportunities to be in films near you. Search online for open casting calls in your area. Look for both feature length films and short films. If you find an open casting call, go to the audition. Dress your best, prepare your audition material in advance, and give it your all. And most importantly, don't be discouraged by rejection. Taking rejection well is an essential skill for aspiring movie stars.\\nEven if there's no professional acting opportunities near you, there's always student films. If you're anywhere near a college with a film-making program, there will be no shortage of film students looking for amateur acting talent.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Move to Los Angeles.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the area you in, there might simply be a lack of real acting opportunity near you. If you're really serious about becoming a movie star, you're going to have to move to Los Angeles eventually. This is where the majority of big-budget movies are made. It's where the acting agents are, and it's where big breaks happen. If you are applied for a movie role and it is not shot in your area you are going to have to fly to the nearest airport in that area.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find a non-acting job in the industry.\", \"描述\": \"Plenty of famous actors started out with non-acting jobs and moved their way up. This is a common strategy for any profession. Start by looking for volunteer and interning opportunities in production companies. Jobs on sets include production assistants, handling equipment, or catering. You can find opportunities by searching for these opportunities online, or calling companies and asking about volunteering.\\nResearch what film production companies are in your area. Then go to their websites and look for contact information, or information about volunteer opportunities.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Moving Up\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build and improve your acting resume.\", \"描述\": \"You need a good resume and a quality headshot. It's the first thing that agencies and casting directors will see and can make or break your chances at getting auditions.\\nQuality headshots must be 8x10 inches, and done by a professional photographer, preferably one with a good reputation who specializes in headshots.\\nA quality resume will include all of your acting experience, with details about the productions and your role. It will include vital statistics like your height, eye and hair color, and vocal range. It will include any sort of special skills you posses, and your contact information.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get an agent.\", \"描述\": \"For most television and movie acting roles, the only way to get an audition is through an agent. That makes getting an agent a vital step on the road to movie stardom. There are two main ways to get an agent:\\n\\nBe noticed by an agent. Do all the acting you can, student films, community television, local theatre. Film schools often invite agents to their showcases as well. If an agent sees you and likes you, you're in luck.\\nSend a well polished resume to agencies. Look up agencies that are accepting unsolicited submissions. Then make sure you have a professional and complete resume that includes a cover letter, and send it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join a union.\", \"描述\": \"Being a part of a union like the Screen Actors Guild opens up a lot opportunities for bigger and better roles. You can act professionally without joining a union, but there will be a limit to how high you can rise in most cases.\\nThe Screen Actors Guild is the biggest union, but also the hardest to join. One way is to work as a background actor in a SAG production. Another way is to first be a part of an affiliated union like ACTRA, AEA, AGMA or AGVA. Also keep in mind that after joining the union, you can't work on non-SAG productions. So you trade the freedom to work on non-contract jobs with the ability to pursue bigger roles with higher guaranteed salaries.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make auditioning your job.\", \"描述\": \"As an aspiring movie star, auditioning is your job. Take as many auditions as you can, and don't discouraged by lack of success. It'll will take nothing more or less than great patience and persistence to move through the acting ranks.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make a habit of networking.\", \"描述\": \"Finding positive role models and mentors is an essential skill to learn if you want to go far in the movie industry. Get used to talking to anyone and everyone involved with the production of whatever you're working on. Make friends and ask questions. Increasing the size of your professional network will lead to more opportunities down the line.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Luck out.\", \"描述\": \"It may not be what you want to hear, but often times, what separates quality actors who make it big from those that don't is nothing more than being in the right place at the right time. A director happens to like something in your audition, and the production goes well, and the movie hits it big, and suddenly you're on your way to stardom. All of the previous steps will increases your chances, but one of the biggest keys to success is just patiently waiting for good opportunities, and taking them when they appear.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"The road to movie stardom requires tough skin. You'll be rejected, a lot. The ratio of people who want to be movie stars to people who become movie stars is huge. 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1. Building a Solid Musical Foundation
1-1. Explore genres you don’t usually listen to.
There are countless types of music, each with a definite sound that can be categorized into genre. Try listening to music from a new genre every day. You can learn something new from each individual type of music, so don’t limit yourself to listening only to the music you already know you love.
Satellite radio, such as SiriusFM, is a great way to explore different genres with little work. There are stations for almost every type of genre. Simply flip through the stations to get exposure to a variety of music.
Check out a comprehensive list of all possible genres at http://www.musicgenreslist.com.
A detailed blog that focuses specifically on trending genres and genre news can be found here: http://www.musicgenreslist.com/music-genres-blog/
1-2. Learn about different sub-genres and micro-genres.
Sub-genres and micro-genres are specialty, niche genres that are narrower than the bigger, more popular genres. Explore different sub-genres and micro-genres to deepen your knowledge of more obscure types of music.
Some examples of sub-genres are Straight-Edge punk, Indie R&B, and Latin Pop.
Some examples of micro-genres are Jazzrap, Electropunk, and Metalcore.
A great, comprehensive list of genres, sub-genres, and micro-genres can be found at http://everynoise.com/.
1-3. Listen to music that’s currently trending.
Music billboards rank songs and artists based on popularity, and there are billboards for every type of music. Keep an eye on the billboard rankings and listen to songs you haven’t heard before. This is a great way to stay up-to-date on trends in the music world.
A great site to view the current billboard rankings is https://www.billboard.com/charts.
1-4. Read up on the history of genres, sub-genres, and micro-genres.
This will give you a deeper understanding of where the music you love originated. Knowing this history of the music you love is important if you want to truly consider yourself a music know-it-all.
A great site that breaks down the history by year and genre is https://musicmap.info/
2. Utilizing Digital Music Resources
2-1. Sign up for a membership to an online digital music service.
Online digital music services are one of the best resources for experiencing music you’ve never heard before. Most of these services personalize the music they play based upon the songs and artists you currently listen to, so it’s a great way to get introduced to new musicians in the genre you like.
Spotify and Pandora are 2 of the most popular personalized radio services on the web. They are both free to use if you are willing to listen to advertisements. Ad-free subscriptions are cheap, and are a great investment for serious music-goers.
2-2. Install popular music apps on your mobile device.
While you can listen to your digital music service on the computer, many music lovers prefer to listen on their mobile phones. Pandora and Spotify both offer mobile apps that you can install directly onto your mobile phone for easier convenience.
Shazam is a great mobile app that will tell you the name, artist, and album of a song. The app will automatically recognize the tune and identify it for you. Use this app when you hear a song on the radio and want to know what it’s called or who it’s by.
2-3. Use an online composition site to learn how to make your own music.
The benefits of learning how to compose music is an introduction to scales, musical terminology, and other technical aspects underlying the music industry. There are countless websites nowadays that will walk you through the basic technicalities of reading and composing music. A few examples are:
https://learningmusic.ableton.com/
https://www.lightnote.co/
https://www.khanacademy.org/humanities/music/
2-4. Follow 3-4 music blogs focused on different types of music.
Well-written music blogs offer their readers a wealth of information, including album and concert reviews, latest news in the music industry, and recommendations for songs and artists that may be trending. Some popular music blogs:
https://www.pitchfork.com/
https://www.consequenceofsound.net/
https://www.allmusic.com/blog
http://www.thefader.com/music
2-5. Join a few online music fan communities.
Joining an online fan community will allow you to meet others who are just as passionate about the industry as you are, and to exchange recommendations, reviews, and knowledge with one another. Music fandom is essentially a social activity, and there are countless online communities made up of music fans from all across the world. Some popular online fan communities are:
http://www.reddit.com/
https://boards.vinylcollective.com/
http://board.okayplayer.com/okp.php
http://www.drownedinsound.com/community/boards/music
https://www.musesongwriters.com/forums/
This is a great way to expand your circle of friends if you’re anxious about meeting people in person, as you can ask questions and reach out to people without worrying about repercussions.
2-6. Explore other popular music websites.
Bandcamp and Soundcloud are great websites for learning more about indie or more obscure artists. Radio Djs of all genres post their sets on Mixcloud, which you can search by genre tags. Countless other websites offer similar exposure to artists, playlists, and trending music, so take some time to explore them.
Bandcamp is located at https://www.bandcamp.com/
Mixcloud is located at http://www.mixcloud.com/
Soundcloud is located at https://soundcloud.com/
3. Learning About Music in Person
3-1. Go to local clubs or bars that have live music.
Many communities have magazines or newspapers that list when and to find live music venues. Pick one up and schedule an outing to a band you’ve never heard or a venue you’ve never visited.
Going to local live music events surrounds you with others who are just as passionate about music as you.
Go out of your way to yourself to some of the music-goers at these events. Chances are they will give you suggestions on the best spots to listen to music.
Watching music live is completely different from listening to recorded music, because you get to see and feel the vibes of the musicians as they play.
3-2. Attend concerts of popular artists who are visiting your area.
Listen to radio stations or your local news channel to hear about popular artists who are coming to your city. If you hear that an artist you love is coming to town, invest in a ticket to see them play. You may not get the opportunity in the future, and watching an artist perform live is completely different than listening to their recordings.
Tickets can range from cheap to expensive, but are usually cheaper if you buy them early.
3-3. Sign up for music lessons at a local music school.
Whether you want to learn to play an instrument or perfect your signing technique, many local colleges and music schools offer lessons for beginners. Check online for places in your community that offer music lessons, and call them to see if they offer what you’re looking for.
If you would prefer to learn music one-on-one, look into private lessons from independent music teachers.
3-4. Visit record stores and ask for suggestions on what to listen to.
Good record-store clerks love it when people ask for suggestions on new music worth listening to. Don’t be afraid to ask a lot of questions. They will probably be happy to share their knowledge, and this is the only way you’ll learn!
Tips
Try to be a music learn-it-all instead of a music know-it-all. It’s impossible to know everything there is to know about music, so it’s best to approach the pursuit of musical knowledge with the intention to learn.
Music is its own language, and musicians have their own vocabulary. It takes time to learn this vocabulary, so be patient. You will learn the language after a while.
Warnings
Never share personal information with strangers on the Internet. Protect your identity, and never tell anyone where you live!
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Learn about different sub-genres and micro-genres.\\nSub-genres and micro-genres are specialty, niche genres that are narrower than the bigger, more popular genres. Explore different sub-genres and micro-genres to deepen your knowledge of more obscure types of music.\\nSome examples of sub-genres are Straight-Edge punk, Indie R&B, and Latin Pop.\\nSome examples of micro-genres are Jazzrap, Electropunk, and Metalcore.\\nA great, comprehensive list of genres, sub-genres, and micro-genres can be found at http://everynoise.com/.\\n1-3. Listen to music that’s currently trending.\\nMusic billboards rank songs and artists based on popularity, and there are billboards for every type of music. Keep an eye on the billboard rankings and listen to songs you haven’t heard before. This is a great way to stay up-to-date on trends in the music world.\\nA great site to view the current billboard rankings is https://www.billboard.com/charts.\\n1-4. Read up on the history of genres, sub-genres, and micro-genres.\\nThis will give you a deeper understanding of where the music you love originated. Knowing this history of the music you love is important if you want to truly consider yourself a music know-it-all.\\nA great site that breaks down the history by year and genre is https://musicmap.info/\\n2. Utilizing Digital Music Resources\\n2-1. Sign up for a membership to an online digital music service.\\nOnline digital music services are one of the best resources for experiencing music you’ve never heard before. Most of these services personalize the music they play based upon the songs and artists you currently listen to, so it’s a great way to get introduced to new musicians in the genre you like.\\nSpotify and Pandora are 2 of the most popular personalized radio services on the web. They are both free to use if you are willing to listen to advertisements. Ad-free subscriptions are cheap, and are a great investment for serious music-goers.\\n2-2. Install popular music apps on your mobile device.\\nWhile you can listen to your digital music service on the computer, many music lovers prefer to listen on their mobile phones. Pandora and Spotify both offer mobile apps that you can install directly onto your mobile phone for easier convenience.\\nShazam is a great mobile app that will tell you the name, artist, and album of a song. The app will automatically recognize the tune and identify it for you. Use this app when you hear a song on the radio and want to know what it’s called or who it’s by.\\n2-3. Use an online composition site to learn how to make your own music.\\nThe benefits of learning how to compose music is an introduction to scales, musical terminology, and other technical aspects underlying the music industry. 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Music fandom is essentially a social activity, and there are countless online communities made up of music fans from all across the world. Some popular online fan communities are:\\nhttp://www.reddit.com/\\nhttps://boards.vinylcollective.com/\\nhttp://board.okayplayer.com/okp.php\\nhttp://www.drownedinsound.com/community/boards/music\\nhttps://www.musesongwriters.com/forums/\\nThis is a great way to expand your circle of friends if you’re anxious about meeting people in person, as you can ask questions and reach out to people without worrying about repercussions.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Explore other popular music websites.\", \"描述\": \"Bandcamp and Soundcloud are great websites for learning more about indie or more obscure artists. Radio Djs of all genres post their sets on Mixcloud, which you can search by genre tags. Countless other websites offer similar exposure to artists, playlists, and trending music, so take some time to explore them.\\nBandcamp is located at https://www.bandcamp.com/\\nMixcloud is located at http://www.mixcloud.com/\\nSoundcloud is located at https://soundcloud.com/\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learning About Music in Person\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go to local clubs or bars that have live music.\", \"描述\": \"Many communities have magazines or newspapers that list when and to find live music venues. Pick one up and schedule an outing to a band you’ve never heard or a venue you’ve never visited.\\nGoing to local live music events surrounds you with others who are just as passionate about music as you.\\nGo out of your way to yourself to some of the music-goers at these events. Chances are they will give you suggestions on the best spots to listen to music.\\nWatching music live is completely different from listening to recorded music, because you get to see and feel the vibes of the musicians as they play.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Attend concerts of popular artists who are visiting your area.\", \"描述\": \"Listen to radio stations or your local news channel to hear about popular artists who are coming to your city. If you hear that an artist you love is coming to town, invest in a ticket to see them play. You may not get the opportunity in the future, and watching an artist perform live is completely different than listening to their recordings.\\nTickets can range from cheap to expensive, but are usually cheaper if you buy them early.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sign up for music lessons at a local music school.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you want to learn to play an instrument or perfect your signing technique, many local colleges and music schools offer lessons for beginners. Check online for places in your community that offer music lessons, and call them to see if they offer what you’re looking for.\\nIf you would prefer to learn music one-on-one, look into private lessons from independent music teachers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Visit record stores and ask for suggestions on what to listen to.\", \"描述\": \"Good record-store clerks love it when people ask for suggestions on new music worth listening to. Don’t be afraid to ask a lot of questions. They will probably be happy to share their knowledge, and this is the only way you’ll learn!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try to be a music learn-it-all instead of a music know-it-all. It’s impossible to know everything there is to know about music, so it’s best to approach the pursuit of musical knowledge with the intention to learn.\\n\", \"Music is its own language, and musicians have their own vocabulary. It takes time to learn this vocabulary, so be patient. You will learn the language after a while.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Never share personal information with strangers on the Internet. Protect your identity, and never tell anyone where you live!\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Equipping Yourself to be a Music Video Director
1-1. Learn the basics of film-making with photography.
Many directors and film producers get their start in photography. Photography will introduce you to the basics of many important aspects of film making, like the different kinds of lenses, shot composition, lighting effects, and framing.
Even while learning basics with still photography, you should begin to orient yourself in the genre you are most interested. For example, if you like thrash metal, you might take pictures of or for a local thrash band to get a better feel for capturing that kind of image.
In many cases, you can get permission to take pictures of local or lesser known bands by offering free copies of your photography.
1-2. Purchase suitable equipment.
Filming equipment is notoriously expensive, so you'll have to take time determining which camera will be the best for your situation and budget accordingly. It's likely you'll also have to account for the cost of lenses, which can add several hundreds of dollars of expense to your purchase. Some recommended cameras include:
Canon EOS M is a very economic model that also has an HD movie mode for shooting in high definition. If cost is a significant factor for you, this may be your best option.
Canon EOS Rebel T2i is one of the best mid-cost cameras for shooting music videos. It also has a dim light mode, making it suitable for many different kinds of lighting environment. The videos you make with this will look professional, no matter the content.
Nikon D5200 is the most expensive of these three models. It has excellent features for music video shooting, like it's 24.1 megapixel CMOS sensor and 5 FPS continuous shooting, though you'll definitely need to budget for a lens for this one.
In many cases, you can buy refurbished or like new models from electronics stores, pawn shops, or online for a fraction of the retail value. However, you should be wary when you go this route. Some "like new" cameras have damage that isn't obvious.
1-3. Produce amateur music videos with your friends.
This will prepare you for learning how to set up and direct the action of a scene. The professional side of video production can be very demanding, and working with your friends will allow you a safe place to make mistakes and learn from them.
Depending on the quality of these videos, you might want to upload them to your YouTube channel to see if you can gain some popularity and reputation.
You might consider putting together a video in the style of a flash mob, or you could involve your school/local theatre group to acting out a simple story to a popular song.
1-4. Study different genres of music video.
If you want to become a truly great music video director, you should expose yourself to other great videos to learn from them. This way, you'll be able to talk about and deconstruct the differences between different styles of music video. While watching, be on the lookout for things like:
The use of lighting in the video. How does it affect the atmosphere of the video? How do you think you can replicate the effect? Is there a mix of hot (strong, bright) and soft (diffused, dim) lighting effects?
The composition of the video. How do the visual elements of the video work together? How are the visual elements of different scenes integrated?
The framing of the video. Framing is generally considered to be the way the shot brings focus to the subject. In what ways is the subject defined in your favorite videos? How do shapes or other elements (light, shadow, environment) bring attention to the subjects in the video?
1-5. Take a class.
In many cases, there are photography/film classes offered at local community centers, community colleges, and universities. You can attend these to give yourself more formal knowledge about shooting and film making. You'll likely want to focus on the technical side of things, like a class on lighting effects, as an example.
If you live in a major city that has regularly produced photography/film media, you might be able to volunteer your time doing on-set tasks to get real exposure to the industry. For instance, you might volunteer to run food and drink to talent at your local news studio.
Consider going to film school for a bachelors degree in film.
2. Building Your Professional Reputation
2-1. Shoot amateur music videos for local bands.
In some cases, you may even be able to convince somewhat popular though still relatively unknown bands to allow you to shoot their music videos. This will help you learn how to manage the expectations and on-camera movements of band members, and could result in suitable material for your demo reel.
2-2. Polish your editing skills.
Not all directors are skilled at film editing, but having a general knowledge of it will help you to coach the editors you work with to your desired result. Take some time to play around with film editing software until you are comfortable with the basics. Also, you should always make sure any finished productions are well-edited.
You may want to consider taking a class on film editing, specifically. There's a great deal of psychology that goes into piecing together a story from separate shots, and knowing this can put you ahead of the curve.
2-3. Enter prominent video competitions to build your reputation.
In particular, on-spec/brand competitions should receive priority, as these generally are more highly regarded than others. Try not to get discouraged if it takes you a while before you see any success at one of these. Competition can be fierce.
Keep improving upon your method and techniques as you make videos for competitions. Critique can be difficult to hear, but can result in drastic improvements.
When you finally win or achieve a "shortlisted" or "runner up" ranking, you should include this information in any bio, personal statement, or resume you submit. These sorts of awards serve as proof that you are a serious film maker.
2-4. Make a demo reel.
Your demo reel is a short clip that shows prospective clients/employers what you can do as a music video director. It should include clips of your finest work, and shouldn't exceed more than 90 seconds in total length. It should be specific to the line of video production that you want to work in, like pop, heavy metal, or country.
These reels can either contain short snippets of many different scenes, or a few longer samples strung together.
Don't forget to include your name and contact information in your demo reel. While trying to craft the perfect demo, this can be easily overlooked.
Signify your roles during shooting with headings. For example, if you directed and also creates models for the scene in your demo reel, you might include the text "Lead Modeler" in one of the lower corners of the shot where it won't distract from the scene.
3. Breaking in to the Music Video Scene
3-1. Utilize social media.
Social media, like Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube, are free ways that you can build your fanbase and increase your exposure. As your popularity among users grows, you'll notice that larger companies and labels will take you more seriously.
Many bands and video production companies look favorably on a large YouTube or Twitter following due to the fact that you'll be adding your fanbase to their own.
3-2. Network with local music artists.
Local artists will also be trying to break into the industry, so they may have connections that could be useful to you on your journey to becoming a music video producer. A simple business card can help you appear more professional while providing your contact information.
Through social networking sites, you may be able to find the email addresses of PR representatives or other decision makers at music video production companies. A brief email introducing yourself or with a proposal could result in a potential gig.
Social media is sometimes a "back door" to companies or groups that are difficult to get in touch with. You might announce on Twitter that you're looking for a new music video project and see if anyone bites.
3-3. Submit your demo reel to music labels.
After you have some experience and presence, you can start submitting your demo reel to professional companies and music labels. You'll want the quality of your reel to be as high as possible, as you'll be competing with other professionals for a chance at directing music videos.
If your editing ability is weaker than your directing skills, you may want to hire a professional video editor to help you put together the most impressive video reel possible.
3-4. Take a position with a production company.
Oftentimes, you won't be able to get your desired position right from the start, but that doesn't mean you can't work your way up to it. Running food or helping with lighting can turn into an assistant directorship or stage manager position. From those positions you'll have a better shot at directing.
When working from the bottom up, you'll often have to put in extra work to prove yourself. Be honest with your goals with other staff and your supervisors, and show them you are serious by putting forth your best effort.
You should try to angle for any position that works closely with a director, like as a director's assistant or secretary. This way, you'll have more opportunity to watch a professional in action.
3-5. Identify moneyed companies suitable for your demo reel.
It takes money to produce a music video, and by targeting profitable music companies in your genre, you'll stand a better chance of getting an offer to direct. Look for companies that are actively producing music videos, as this is often a sign of financial health and stability.
You can also supplement your career as a director through online means, like YouTube. Popular YouTube channels often receive compensation.
Tips
Even if it costs you a lot as an initial investment, buying quality shooting materials will ensure the highest quality results in your film making.
Warnings
Amateur bands may not be aware of some of the legal ramifications of making a music video. For example, in some cases making a music video off a covered song without permission can result in legal action.[14]
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1. Thinking Mysteriously
1-1. Be your genuine and authentic self when dating.
Have you ever met someone that's just so different from you? So different that the way they see the world is just...fascinating? These people aren't mysterious by nature, they're just mysterious because of the difference between the two of you. You know the only way to be different from everyone? By being yourself.
Seriously. Think about it. When a man and woman are dating, the element of mystery mainly comes from the way each person views and interacts in the world. The man sees the woman flitting about in her feminine world, knowing he'll never be a part of it and vice versa. The same goes for your unique world, regardless of gender, regardless of relationship.
1-2. Be confident
In order to really be yourself in today's world (the one that's plastered with images from the media about the necessity to blend in and succumb to fleeting trends), you have to be confident. When the world says, "sink or swim?", it's the only way you'll swim. And, oh yeah, people love confident people; they're super magnetic. They're persuasive, attractive, and admirable and we often don't realize why.
There is nothing mysterious about having low self-worth. When that's plaguing you, all your actions are dictated by the thought, "Will people accept me?" A) That's not at all attractive and B) it's super easy to see through and figure out. The confident person, the one who's comfortable in their skin, asserting themselves, standing up for what they believe in, is the one people naturally flock to, the one people will look at and say, "What is it about them?"
1-3. Be calm
People who wear their emotions on their sleeves don't leave much to the imagination. After a few days, you know what eats at them, what makes them happy, and what makes them want to ball up in a corner. But if you're the person that's calm all the time, no one will know what really gets you going. This can backfire though -- they'll try even harder to find it!
Be the one who's lighthearted in dire situations. And if you must show emotion, show ones that wouldn't necessarily correlate with the circumstance. It's cold outside but it's not snowing? What the heck, mother nature?! What kind of game is she trying to play?! Man, this winter just isn't worth it. You're moving to Belize.
1-4. Be polite
Since being mysterious is often equated with "dark" and "aloof," it's important to circumvent those negatives by being polite. Being mysterious does not mean being rude or unresponsive. Don't confuse the two! Everyone deserves being treated well, regardless of how you're trying to come off.
Having a slight smile on your face at all times is a good way to start. Not only will you look more friendly and approachable, but people will be left wondering, "What's really going on in her head?" If you've ever walked by someone on the street that's smiling or laughing to themselves, you know this feeling.
1-5. Don't be afraid to be absurd.
As we age, we slowly gauge what society expects from us and how we should act in public. You could insert a chicken wing into your mouth, chew it up, and then spit out the bone on the floor, but you don't (probably). While you shouldn't necessarily take that example to heart, think about the impulses you do have that wouldn't be terrible. When a waiter comes up to your table and asks you what you'd like, sometimes you just want to say, "I could tell you -- but then I'd have to kill you." Completely deadpan. And that's okay.
While it's not the most sophisticated of tactics, it will get people wondering what the heck is going on in that brain of yours. And it can be fun! So next time you order a shrimp salad, preface it with, "I have a shellfish allergy." When they ask why you ordered what you did, tell them you'll work through it.
2. Interacting with Others
2-1. Don't go into detail.
When people ask us questions, we generally know what they're expecting. When someone says, "Are you in a relationship?" we know that it really means, "Are you in a relationship? And if so, what kind and with who?" Instead of saying, "Yeah, I have a boyfriend -- his name is George. George Glass." Just say, "Yes." They won't know if they can pry any further -- but they'll want to!
Try to summarize stories as factually and accurately as possible without truly getting into it. Don't insert commentary -- just stick to what actually happened. Just keep things simple and do a lot of listening.
Let's say your boyfriend asks you about your ex. Instead of going on and on about why it didn't work out, tell them, "We didn't mesh. When the relationship ended, I stopped thinking about it." Simple. Terse, maybe, but to the point and honest.
2-2. Be unreadable.
Most of our interactions with other people are non-verbal. We have dozens of "tells" going on at any one time indicating to others how we feel at that exact moment. Be aware of this and consciously take advantage of the patterns people are relying on. You know how James Bond gets all serious when he's telling a joke? Kind of like that. When he's hitting on a woman he's stoic, too. And that's one mysterious guy.
Think about your body positioning when you're interacting with a person. Experiment with changing it around and seeing how the other person reacts. Play with your tone of voice. Your eye contact. Leave them wondering how the heck you were feeling.
2-3. Turn the focus on the other person.
This one is surprisingly really easy. Get into a conversation with a person and all you have to do is ask them questions to get them running. After it's over, they'll be left thinking how great of a conversationalist you were and not even realizing they didn't learn anything about you. In short, people love talking about themselves, so take advantage of it!
Ask open ended questions. When you see a spark in them, jump on it. Get them talking about it. Act genuinely interested to keep them going. You'll seem nice, like a good listener, and you'll be fun to be around even though you're barely doing anything. See? Easy.
2-4. Talk in facts.
When the conversation does roll around to you, talk in facts about other things. Don't talk in your opinions, beliefs, or experiences. That way you can add value to any conversation without truly giving away something about yourself.
Instead of saying, "Oh my gosh, I read this thing on the Internet the other day while I was killing time before drinks with Sally about how drinking one more liter of water a day can lead to noticeable weight loss long-term and I'm definitely gonna try it. Working out just isn't enough!" stick to, "Some research is saying that upping your water intake can lead to noticeable weight loss. Definitely a viable tactic." You're getting the same point across without exposing too much about yourself.
2-5. Be mysteriously absent.
So in order to get invited to parties, you have to actually go when you are invited. But once you've gotten your foot in the door and these people like you, feel free to be mysteriously absent. Don't show up to something. Make people wonder where you are. Come late. Leave early with no explanation. Get them wondering.
Do this sparingly. If you get up and leave from a party all the time, it'll become a quirk of yours that's a little annoying. If you never show up in the first place, you'll stop being invited. So as with anything, pick your battles.
2-6. Keep your past a secret.
If you're the new kid in town and you want to keep the intrigue up, don't talk about your past. You'd be surprised what you can get away with! When someone asks you where you moved from, say something like, "It matters not where you've been -- only where you're going." Or, you know. Keep it simple and say "Utah" but don't give any details. That might cause fewer weird looks.
If keeping your past a secret sounds like an issue, make a game out of it. Tell everyone a story about how you lived in Viet Nam a while back and worked on a ferret farm. Then talk about how you were a chef at a fine restaurant back in your old 'hood. And then magically insert into a random conversation down the line the story of the year you spent hanging out with Charlie Sheen. Might as well get a kick out of the image you're cultivating, right?
3. Cultivating Your Mysterious Personality
3-1. Have perfect posture.
Having a slouch shows low self esteem, and instead of seeming mysterious, you'll seem shy, or like a loner, which you don't want. The perfect posture is to stick out your sternum, shoulders back, but keep your stomach in a straight line. If your posture is bad, do exercises to Improve Your Posture. Having a perfect posture makes you seem attractive and confident, which will get you positive attention from both men and women, giving you more people to talk to.
3-2. Develop your own unique sense of style.
Unfortunately, clothing trends make us pretty easy to peg -- or at least give people the impression that we're peg-able. Wearing a scarf and thick, black glasses? You're a hipster. Wearing a top that shows off your chest and a mini skirt? Doesn't even need to be said. Are your pants down around your knees and your shoes untied? Sheesh. So instead of prescribing to a label, make your own.
If you like it, go for it. You can mix up styles in one look, or you can rock different looks at different times. One day you rock the black rimmed glasses, the next day it's North Face. The next day it's a top you made yourself. Or it's all three at the same time. Whatever floats your boat.
3-3. Pick hobbies that don't mesh.
If you were shown a typical high school football player, you'd probably think, "Okay, he's probably athletic, takes classes like woodshop, likes partying on the weekends and has a preppy girlfriend." If you were shown a typical high school band member, you'd probably think "A little introverted. Smart. Probably has a few close friends. Close to family. In general, nice. Maybe plays a few too many video games." While these are just stereotypes and not at all correct, mix the two anyway. Be the girl wearing the lipstick and short skirt who's carrying around The Divine Comedy. Be the saxophone player who lights up the soccer field on weekends. Do it all.
The more dynamic you are, the harder you'll be able to be put into a box. And once people have you boxed in, you're no longer mysterious. So go out there and do something that "you" wouldn't normally do. Not only will you be mysterious, but you may find something you seriously enjoy that you didn't think you would.
3-4. Keep the emotions to a minimum.
When people can easily get a rise out of you, they'll do it. When they know what ticks you off, what really gets you excited, they feel like they get you. Avoid wearing your emotions on your sleeve so you don't get pegged. When people can't get a feel for how you feel, they'll never know what the truth is. When you come up, they won't even know what you like, what you dislike, and what you stand for. Most people can't keep their mouths shut!
it's a good idea to keep the volume to a minimum, too. Ever noticed how loud people are never mysterious? No one ever says, "Americans, now that's one mysterious bunch!" So feel free to whisper to the person next to you with that blank, unreadable face of yours. Everyone will probably think you're talking about them. Win. Oh, the games we play.
3-5. Stay offline.
You know those people that update their Facebook profiles every six seconds with thoughts like, "OMG, I just forgot to eat dinner" and the like? Don't be that person. That person is ruining Facebook for the rest of us. Don't post pictures of everything that's about to go into your mouth, don't post selfies you took in your bathroom when you were bored, don't Vaguebook trying to express your delicate, flowery emotions. When you have something to say online, make it worth it.
The fact of the matter is we don't need to know what all of us are doing at any moment. The less we know, the better, really. If you want to be mysterious, leave people wondering where you are, who you're with and what you're doing. So avoid checking into Starbucks every morning. Avoid "Dear so-and-so" statuses. Resist the temptation of putting a hashtag after everything you say. While social networking is useful, don't use it to let the world in on everything you think and do.
3-6. Take it to the limit.
There are a jillion ideas out there that you could take advantage of if you really want to be mysterious. You could do silly things like wearing dark sunglasses. You could purposefully make your room Gothic and yet princess-themed. You could use air quotes and say things like, "I went to the "post office" today." You could wear a cape. How far are you willing to go?
Wanna have a little fun with it? Pretend you're someone you're not. When you enter a party, you give people a fake name and ask them if the mob has been here recently. It's not quite the same as being yourself, but it can be quite entertaining!
Tips
Be emotional, but don't be too emotional.[8]
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Try wearing different style of clothing. It helps to have interest with "art" and have a complicated yet interesting wardrobe.
Don't let too many people in on your game of being mysterious. Then you're no longer mysterious!
Try using words people need to look up after your conversation.
Warnings
Being too mysterious could make people -- especially your parents -- think that you're up to something not good. Keep it low, and don't go overboard.
You may be classed as 'moody'."
Being mysterious doesn't mean you can't have friends. You can have a bunch of friends and still be mysterious. It all depends on how you do it (as in: present yourself).
Some people may view you as "weird." Don't take this offensively, take it as a compliment.
People could start thinking you don't like them anymore and stop bothering you and ignore you and move on even. If you want to keep your friends, don't do this for a period. It's not worth being a loner, even if it is fun.
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When the world says, \\\"sink or swim?\\\", it's the only way you'll swim. And, oh yeah, people love confident people; they're super magnetic. They're persuasive, attractive, and admirable and we often don't realize why.\\nThere is nothing mysterious about having low self-worth. When that's plaguing you, all your actions are dictated by the thought, \\\"Will people accept me?\\\" A) That's not at all attractive and B) it's super easy to see through and figure out. The confident person, the one who's comfortable in their skin, asserting themselves, standing up for what they believe in, is the one people naturally flock to, the one people will look at and say, \\\"What is it about them?\\\"\\n1-3. Be calm\\nPeople who wear their emotions on their sleeves don't leave much to the imagination. After a few days, you know what eats at them, what makes them happy, and what makes them want to ball up in a corner. But if you're the person that's calm all the time, no one will know what really gets you going. This can backfire though -- they'll try even harder to find it!\\nBe the one who's lighthearted in dire situations. And if you must show emotion, show ones that wouldn't necessarily correlate with the circumstance. It's cold outside but it's not snowing? What the heck, mother nature?! What kind of game is she trying to play?! Man, this winter just isn't worth it. You're moving to Belize.\\n1-4. Be polite\\nSince being mysterious is often equated with \\\"dark\\\" and \\\"aloof,\\\" it's important to circumvent those negatives by being polite. Being mysterious does not mean being rude or unresponsive. Don't confuse the two! Everyone deserves being treated well, regardless of how you're trying to come off.\\nHaving a slight smile on your face at all times is a good way to start. Not only will you look more friendly and approachable, but people will be left wondering, \\\"What's really going on in her head?\\\" If you've ever walked by someone on the street that's smiling or laughing to themselves, you know this feeling.\\n1-5. Don't be afraid to be absurd.\\nAs we age, we slowly gauge what society expects from us and how we should act in public. You could insert a chicken wing into your mouth, chew it up, and then spit out the bone on the floor, but you don't (probably). While you shouldn't necessarily take that example to heart, think about the impulses you do have that wouldn't be terrible. When a waiter comes up to your table and asks you what you'd like, sometimes you just want to say, \\\"I could tell you -- but then I'd have to kill you.\\\" Completely deadpan. And that's okay.\\nWhile it's not the most sophisticated of tactics, it will get people wondering what the heck is going on in that brain of yours. And it can be fun! So next time you order a shrimp salad, preface it with, \\\"I have a shellfish allergy.\\\" When they ask why you ordered what you did, tell them you'll work through it.\\n2. Interacting with Others\\n2-1. Don't go into detail.\\nWhen people ask us questions, we generally know what they're expecting. When someone says, \\\"Are you in a relationship?\\\" we know that it really means, \\\"Are you in a relationship? And if so, what kind and with who?\\\" Instead of saying, \\\"Yeah, I have a boyfriend -- his name is George. George Glass.\\\" Just say, \\\"Yes.\\\" They won't know if they can pry any further -- but they'll want to!\\nTry to summarize stories as factually and accurately as possible without truly getting into it. Don't insert commentary -- just stick to what actually happened. Just keep things simple and do a lot of listening.\\nLet's say your boyfriend asks you about your ex. Instead of going on and on about why it didn't work out, tell them, \\\"We didn't mesh. When the relationship ended, I stopped thinking about it.\\\" Simple. Terse, maybe, but to the point and honest.\\n2-2. Be unreadable.\\nMost of our interactions with other people are non-verbal. We have dozens of \\\"tells\\\" going on at any one time indicating to others how we feel at that exact moment. Be aware of this and consciously take advantage of the patterns people are relying on. You know how James Bond gets all serious when he's telling a joke? Kind of like that. When he's hitting on a woman he's stoic, too. And that's one mysterious guy.\\nThink about your body positioning when you're interacting with a person. Experiment with changing it around and seeing how the other person reacts. Play with your tone of voice. Your eye contact. Leave them wondering how the heck you were feeling.\\n2-3. Turn the focus on the other person.\\nThis one is surprisingly really easy. Get into a conversation with a person and all you have to do is ask them questions to get them running. After it's over, they'll be left thinking how great of a conversationalist you were and not even realizing they didn't learn anything about you. In short, people love talking about themselves, so take advantage of it!\\nAsk open ended questions. When you see a spark in them, jump on it. Get them talking about it. Act genuinely interested to keep them going. You'll seem nice, like a good listener, and you'll be fun to be around even though you're barely doing anything. See? Easy.\\n2-4. Talk in facts.\\nWhen the conversation does roll around to you, talk in facts about other things. Don't talk in your opinions, beliefs, or experiences. That way you can add value to any conversation without truly giving away something about yourself.\\nInstead of saying, \\\"Oh my gosh, I read this thing on the Internet the other day while I was killing time before drinks with Sally about how drinking one more liter of water a day can lead to noticeable weight loss long-term and I'm definitely gonna try it. Working out just isn't enough!\\\" stick to, \\\"Some research is saying that upping your water intake can lead to noticeable weight loss. Definitely a viable tactic.\\\" You're getting the same point across without exposing too much about yourself.\\n2-5. Be mysteriously absent.\\nSo in order to get invited to parties, you have to actually go when you are invited. But once you've gotten your foot in the door and these people like you, feel free to be mysteriously absent. Don't show up to something. Make people wonder where you are. Come late. Leave early with no explanation. Get them wondering.\\nDo this sparingly. If you get up and leave from a party all the time, it'll become a quirk of yours that's a little annoying. If you never show up in the first place, you'll stop being invited. So as with anything, pick your battles.\\n2-6. Keep your past a secret.\\nIf you're the new kid in town and you want to keep the intrigue up, don't talk about your past. You'd be surprised what you can get away with! When someone asks you where you moved from, say something like, \\\"It matters not where you've been -- only where you're going.\\\" Or, you know. Keep it simple and say \\\"Utah\\\" but don't give any details. That might cause fewer weird looks.\\nIf keeping your past a secret sounds like an issue, make a game out of it. Tell everyone a story about how you lived in Viet Nam a while back and worked on a ferret farm. Then talk about how you were a chef at a fine restaurant back in your old 'hood. And then magically insert into a random conversation down the line the story of the year you spent hanging out with Charlie Sheen. Might as well get a kick out of the image you're cultivating, right?\\n3. Cultivating Your Mysterious Personality\\n3-1. Have perfect posture.\\nHaving a slouch shows low self esteem, and instead of seeming mysterious, you'll seem shy, or like a loner, which you don't want. The perfect posture is to stick out your sternum, shoulders back, but keep your stomach in a straight line. If your posture is bad, do exercises to Improve Your Posture. Having a perfect posture makes you seem attractive and confident, which will get you positive attention from both men and women, giving you more people to talk to.\\n3-2. Develop your own unique sense of style.\\nUnfortunately, clothing trends make us pretty easy to peg -- or at least give people the impression that we're peg-able. Wearing a scarf and thick, black glasses? You're a hipster. Wearing a top that shows off your chest and a mini skirt? Doesn't even need to be said. Are your pants down around your knees and your shoes untied? Sheesh. So instead of prescribing to a label, make your own.\\nIf you like it, go for it. You can mix up styles in one look, or you can rock different looks at different times. One day you rock the black rimmed glasses, the next day it's North Face. The next day it's a top you made yourself. Or it's all three at the same time. Whatever floats your boat.\\n3-3. Pick hobbies that don't mesh.\\nIf you were shown a typical high school football player, you'd probably think, \\\"Okay, he's probably athletic, takes classes like woodshop, likes partying on the weekends and has a preppy girlfriend.\\\" If you were shown a typical high school band member, you'd probably think \\\"A little introverted. Smart. Probably has a few close friends. Close to family. In general, nice. Maybe plays a few too many video games.\\\" While these are just stereotypes and not at all correct, mix the two anyway. Be the girl wearing the lipstick and short skirt who's carrying around The Divine Comedy. Be the saxophone player who lights up the soccer field on weekends. Do it all.\\nThe more dynamic you are, the harder you'll be able to be put into a box. And once people have you boxed in, you're no longer mysterious. So go out there and do something that \\\"you\\\" wouldn't normally do. Not only will you be mysterious, but you may find something you seriously enjoy that you didn't think you would.\\n3-4. Keep the emotions to a minimum.\\nWhen people can easily get a rise out of you, they'll do it. When they know what ticks you off, what really gets you excited, they feel like they get you. Avoid wearing your emotions on your sleeve so you don't get pegged. When people can't get a feel for how you feel, they'll never know what the truth is. When you come up, they won't even know what you like, what you dislike, and what you stand for. Most people can't keep their mouths shut!\\nit's a good idea to keep the volume to a minimum, too. Ever noticed how loud people are never mysterious? No one ever says, \\\"Americans, now that's one mysterious bunch!\\\" So feel free to whisper to the person next to you with that blank, unreadable face of yours. Everyone will probably think you're talking about them. Win. Oh, the games we play.\\n3-5. Stay offline.\\nYou know those people that update their Facebook profiles every six seconds with thoughts like, \\\"OMG, I just forgot to eat dinner\\\" and the like? Don't be that person. That person is ruining Facebook for the rest of us. Don't post pictures of everything that's about to go into your mouth, don't post selfies you took in your bathroom when you were bored, don't Vaguebook trying to express your delicate, flowery emotions. When you have something to say online, make it worth it.\\nThe fact of the matter is we don't need to know what all of us are doing at any moment. The less we know, the better, really. If you want to be mysterious, leave people wondering where you are, who you're with and what you're doing. So avoid checking into Starbucks every morning. Avoid \\\"Dear so-and-so\\\" statuses. Resist the temptation of putting a hashtag after everything you say. While social networking is useful, don't use it to let the world in on everything you think and do.\\n3-6. Take it to the limit.\\nThere are a jillion ideas out there that you could take advantage of if you really want to be mysterious. You could do silly things like wearing dark sunglasses. You could purposefully make your room Gothic and yet princess-themed. You could use air quotes and say things like, \\\"I went to the \\\"post office\\\" today.\\\" You could wear a cape. How far are you willing to go?\\nWanna have a little fun with it? Pretend you're someone you're not. When you enter a party, you give people a fake name and ask them if the mob has been here recently. It's not quite the same as being yourself, but it can be quite entertaining!\\nTips\\nBe emotional, but don't be too emotional.[8]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Try wearing different style of clothing. It helps to have interest with \\\"art\\\" and have a complicated yet interesting wardrobe.\\nDon't let too many people in on your game of being mysterious. Then you're no longer mysterious!\\nTry using words people need to look up after your conversation.\\nWarnings\\nBeing too mysterious could make people -- especially your parents -- think that you're up to something not good. Keep it low, and don't go overboard.\\nYou may be classed as 'moody'.\\\"\\nBeing mysterious doesn't mean you can't have friends. You can have a bunch of friends and still be mysterious. It all depends on how you do it (as in: present yourself).\\nSome people may view you as \\\"weird.\\\" Don't take this offensively, take it as a compliment.\\nPeople could start thinking you don't like them anymore and stop bothering you and ignore you and move on even. If you want to keep your friends, don't do this for a period. It's not worth being a loner, even if it is fun.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It's tempting to be open to everyone around us -- after all, you don't have to care if they know a ton about you. But if we really want to spark someone's interest, playing it mysterious may be a better tactic. If you want to leave people wondering, \\\"What is it about her?\\\" read on.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Thinking Mysteriously\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be your genuine and authentic self when dating.\", \"描述\": \"Have you ever met someone that's just so different from you? So different that the way they see the world is just...fascinating? These people aren't mysterious by nature, they're just mysterious because of the difference between the two of you. You know the only way to be different from everyone? By being yourself.\\nSeriously. Think about it. When a man and woman are dating, the element of mystery mainly comes from the way each person views and interacts in the world. The man sees the woman flitting about in her feminine world, knowing he'll never be a part of it and vice versa. The same goes for your unique world, regardless of gender, regardless of relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be confident\", \"描述\": \"In order to really be yourself in today's world (the one that's plastered with images from the media about the necessity to blend in and succumb to fleeting trends), you have to be confident. When the world says, \\\"sink or swim?\\\", it's the only way you'll swim. And, oh yeah, people love confident people; they're super magnetic. They're persuasive, attractive, and admirable and we often don't realize why.\\nThere is nothing mysterious about having low self-worth. When that's plaguing you, all your actions are dictated by the thought, \\\"Will people accept me?\\\" A) That's not at all attractive and B) it's super easy to see through and figure out. The confident person, the one who's comfortable in their skin, asserting themselves, standing up for what they believe in, is the one people naturally flock to, the one people will look at and say, \\\"What is it about them?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be calm\", \"描述\": \"People who wear their emotions on their sleeves don't leave much to the imagination. After a few days, you know what eats at them, what makes them happy, and what makes them want to ball up in a corner. But if you're the person that's calm all the time, no one will know what really gets you going. This can backfire though -- they'll try even harder to find it!\\nBe the one who's lighthearted in dire situations. And if you must show emotion, show ones that wouldn't necessarily correlate with the circumstance. It's cold outside but it's not snowing? What the heck, mother nature?! What kind of game is she trying to play?! Man, this winter just isn't worth it. You're moving to Belize.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be polite\", \"描述\": \"Since being mysterious is often equated with \\\"dark\\\" and \\\"aloof,\\\" it's important to circumvent those negatives by being polite. Being mysterious does not mean being rude or unresponsive. Don't confuse the two! Everyone deserves being treated well, regardless of how you're trying to come off.\\nHaving a slight smile on your face at all times is a good way to start. Not only will you look more friendly and approachable, but people will be left wondering, \\\"What's really going on in her head?\\\" If you've ever walked by someone on the street that's smiling or laughing to themselves, you know this feeling.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to be absurd.\", \"描述\": \"As we age, we slowly gauge what society expects from us and how we should act in public. You could insert a chicken wing into your mouth, chew it up, and then spit out the bone on the floor, but you don't (probably). While you shouldn't necessarily take that example to heart, think about the impulses you do have that wouldn't be terrible. When a waiter comes up to your table and asks you what you'd like, sometimes you just want to say, \\\"I could tell you -- but then I'd have to kill you.\\\" Completely deadpan. And that's okay.\\nWhile it's not the most sophisticated of tactics, it will get people wondering what the heck is going on in that brain of yours. And it can be fun! So next time you order a shrimp salad, preface it with, \\\"I have a shellfish allergy.\\\" When they ask why you ordered what you did, tell them you'll work through it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Interacting with Others\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't go into detail.\", \"描述\": \"When people ask us questions, we generally know what they're expecting. When someone says, \\\"Are you in a relationship?\\\" we know that it really means, \\\"Are you in a relationship? And if so, what kind and with who?\\\" Instead of saying, \\\"Yeah, I have a boyfriend -- his name is George. George Glass.\\\" Just say, \\\"Yes.\\\" They won't know if they can pry any further -- but they'll want to!\\nTry to summarize stories as factually and accurately as possible without truly getting into it. Don't insert commentary -- just stick to what actually happened. Just keep things simple and do a lot of listening.\\nLet's say your boyfriend asks you about your ex. Instead of going on and on about why it didn't work out, tell them, \\\"We didn't mesh. When the relationship ended, I stopped thinking about it.\\\" Simple. Terse, maybe, but to the point and honest.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be unreadable.\", \"描述\": \"Most of our interactions with other people are non-verbal. We have dozens of \\\"tells\\\" going on at any one time indicating to others how we feel at that exact moment. Be aware of this and consciously take advantage of the patterns people are relying on. You know how James Bond gets all serious when he's telling a joke? Kind of like that. When he's hitting on a woman he's stoic, too. And that's one mysterious guy.\\nThink about your body positioning when you're interacting with a person. Experiment with changing it around and seeing how the other person reacts. Play with your tone of voice. Your eye contact. Leave them wondering how the heck you were feeling.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Turn the focus on the other person.\", \"描述\": \"This one is surprisingly really easy. Get into a conversation with a person and all you have to do is ask them questions to get them running. After it's over, they'll be left thinking how great of a conversationalist you were and not even realizing they didn't learn anything about you. In short, people love talking about themselves, so take advantage of it!\\nAsk open ended questions. When you see a spark in them, jump on it. Get them talking about it. Act genuinely interested to keep them going. You'll seem nice, like a good listener, and you'll be fun to be around even though you're barely doing anything. See? Easy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Talk in facts.\", \"描述\": \"When the conversation does roll around to you, talk in facts about other things. Don't talk in your opinions, beliefs, or experiences. That way you can add value to any conversation without truly giving away something about yourself.\\nInstead of saying, \\\"Oh my gosh, I read this thing on the Internet the other day while I was killing time before drinks with Sally about how drinking one more liter of water a day can lead to noticeable weight loss long-term and I'm definitely gonna try it. Working out just isn't enough!\\\" stick to, \\\"Some research is saying that upping your water intake can lead to noticeable weight loss. Definitely a viable tactic.\\\" You're getting the same point across without exposing too much about yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be mysteriously absent.\", \"描述\": \"So in order to get invited to parties, you have to actually go when you are invited. But once you've gotten your foot in the door and these people like you, feel free to be mysteriously absent. Don't show up to something. Make people wonder where you are. Come late. Leave early with no explanation. Get them wondering.\\nDo this sparingly. If you get up and leave from a party all the time, it'll become a quirk of yours that's a little annoying. If you never show up in the first place, you'll stop being invited. So as with anything, pick your battles.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep your past a secret.\", \"描述\": \"If you're the new kid in town and you want to keep the intrigue up, don't talk about your past. You'd be surprised what you can get away with! When someone asks you where you moved from, say something like, \\\"It matters not where you've been -- only where you're going.\\\" Or, you know. Keep it simple and say \\\"Utah\\\" but don't give any details. That might cause fewer weird looks.\\nIf keeping your past a secret sounds like an issue, make a game out of it. Tell everyone a story about how you lived in Viet Nam a while back and worked on a ferret farm. Then talk about how you were a chef at a fine restaurant back in your old 'hood. And then magically insert into a random conversation down the line the story of the year you spent hanging out with Charlie Sheen. Might as well get a kick out of the image you're cultivating, right?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cultivating Your Mysterious Personality\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have perfect posture.\", \"描述\": \"Having a slouch shows low self esteem, and instead of seeming mysterious, you'll seem shy, or like a loner, which you don't want. The perfect posture is to stick out your sternum, shoulders back, but keep your stomach in a straight line. If your posture is bad, do exercises to Improve Your Posture. Having a perfect posture makes you seem attractive and confident, which will get you positive attention from both men and women, giving you more people to talk to.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop your own unique sense of style.\", \"描述\": \"Unfortunately, clothing trends make us pretty easy to peg -- or at least give people the impression that we're peg-able. Wearing a scarf and thick, black glasses? You're a hipster. Wearing a top that shows off your chest and a mini skirt? Doesn't even need to be said. Are your pants down around your knees and your shoes untied? Sheesh. So instead of prescribing to a label, make your own.\\nIf you like it, go for it. You can mix up styles in one look, or you can rock different looks at different times. One day you rock the black rimmed glasses, the next day it's North Face. The next day it's a top you made yourself. Or it's all three at the same time. Whatever floats your boat.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pick hobbies that don't mesh.\", \"描述\": \"If you were shown a typical high school football player, you'd probably think, \\\"Okay, he's probably athletic, takes classes like woodshop, likes partying on the weekends and has a preppy girlfriend.\\\" If you were shown a typical high school band member, you'd probably think \\\"A little introverted. Smart. Probably has a few close friends. Close to family. In general, nice. Maybe plays a few too many video games.\\\" While these are just stereotypes and not at all correct, mix the two anyway. Be the girl wearing the lipstick and short skirt who's carrying around The Divine Comedy. Be the saxophone player who lights up the soccer field on weekends. Do it all.\\nThe more dynamic you are, the harder you'll be able to be put into a box. And once people have you boxed in, you're no longer mysterious. So go out there and do something that \\\"you\\\" wouldn't normally do. Not only will you be mysterious, but you may find something you seriously enjoy that you didn't think you would.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep the emotions to a minimum.\", \"描述\": \"When people can easily get a rise out of you, they'll do it. When they know what ticks you off, what really gets you excited, they feel like they get you. Avoid wearing your emotions on your sleeve so you don't get pegged. When people can't get a feel for how you feel, they'll never know what the truth is. When you come up, they won't even know what you like, what you dislike, and what you stand for. Most people can't keep their mouths shut!\\nit's a good idea to keep the volume to a minimum, too. Ever noticed how loud people are never mysterious? No one ever says, \\\"Americans, now that's one mysterious bunch!\\\" So feel free to whisper to the person next to you with that blank, unreadable face of yours. Everyone will probably think you're talking about them. Win. Oh, the games we play.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay offline.\", \"描述\": \"You know those people that update their Facebook profiles every six seconds with thoughts like, \\\"OMG, I just forgot to eat dinner\\\" and the like? Don't be that person. That person is ruining Facebook for the rest of us. Don't post pictures of everything that's about to go into your mouth, don't post selfies you took in your bathroom when you were bored, don't Vaguebook trying to express your delicate, flowery emotions. When you have something to say online, make it worth it.\\nThe fact of the matter is we don't need to know what all of us are doing at any moment. The less we know, the better, really. If you want to be mysterious, leave people wondering where you are, who you're with and what you're doing. So avoid checking into Starbucks every morning. Avoid \\\"Dear so-and-so\\\" statuses. Resist the temptation of putting a hashtag after everything you say. While social networking is useful, don't use it to let the world in on everything you think and do.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take it to the limit.\", \"描述\": \"There are a jillion ideas out there that you could take advantage of if you really want to be mysterious. You could do silly things like wearing dark sunglasses. You could purposefully make your room Gothic and yet princess-themed. You could use air quotes and say things like, \\\"I went to the \\\"post office\\\" today.\\\" You could wear a cape. How far are you willing to go?\\nWanna have a little fun with it? Pretend you're someone you're not. When you enter a party, you give people a fake name and ask them if the mob has been here recently. It's not quite the same as being yourself, but it can be quite entertaining!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be emotional, but don't be too emotional.[8]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Try wearing different style of clothing. It helps to have interest with \\\"art\\\" and have a complicated yet interesting wardrobe.\\n\", \"Don't let too many people in on your game of being mysterious. Then you're no longer mysterious!\\n\", \"Try using words people need to look up after your conversation.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Being too mysterious could make people -- especially your parents -- think that you're up to something not good. Keep it low, and don't go overboard.\\n\", \"You may be classed as 'moody'.\\\"\\n\", \"Being mysterious doesn't mean you can't have friends. You can have a bunch of friends and still be mysterious. It all depends on how you do it (as in: present yourself).\\n\", \"Some people may view you as \\\"weird.\\\" Don't take this offensively, take it as a compliment.\\n\", \"People could start thinking you don't like them anymore and stop bothering you and ignore you and move on even. If you want to keep your friends, don't do this for a period. 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1. Thinking Mystically
1-1. Feel the presence of a guiding hand.
Whether you think of yourself as a deeply spiritual person or not, a mystic is one who seeks to find order in the chaos and collect evidence of that order. If you're the kind of person who sees every strange coincidence, every elegant metaphor, or every pretty rainbow as a sign of something greater, you might begin to feel the presence of a guiding hand in which you place your trust.
Religious mystics place their trust in a higher power, a powerful being that creates and controls the world and the people in it. Sometimes, as in the case of Zen Buddhism, religious mystics will also place their trust in a practice, that asceticism and meditation are the truest way to understand the world.
Mystics aren't always religious, though they often are. The writing of quantum physicists and Jungian psychologists often borders on the mystical, the deeper it gets. Whatever system, being, or practice you've found in which to place your trust, place it there.
1-2. Look for the interconnectedness of things around you.
Seek to find order and balance in the world, rather than emphasizing differences and disparities. Look for things you have in common with your enemies.
Regardless of your spiritual or religious leanings, it's good to read and study a wide variety of mystical writings, across disciplines and dogmas. Christian writer Thomas Merton spent considerable time studying Zen Buddhism,
1-3. Emphasize experience
What is a mystic? What differentiates a Christian mystic from a regular Christian, or a Buddhist mystic from a regular Buddhist? Across practices, disciplines, and cultures, mystics have one thing in common: a deep personal and spiritual connection to their belief system. To the mystic, a personal experience of spirituality is always more powerful and more important than book-learning or hearsay. Simply going to church isn't enough for the mystic.
Avoid the showy materialist trappings of some religions. You don't need an expensive rock garden, koi pond, and meditation pad to be a Buddhist mystic. You don't need a 13th-century crucifix to be a Christian.
1-4. Be present
Mystics need to center themselves and be fully present at all times. A mystic isn't distracted by electronic devices, stresses, or complex schedules for the day. Instead, the mystic should be focused completely on doing one thing and one thing only. When you're eating lunch, just eat lunch. Focus entirely on nourishing your body, slowing down, enjoying what you eat. When you're reading the newspaper, just focus on learning, reading the words, and understanding the concepts. Put yourself completely into each task.
This can be surprisingly difficult, and it won't happen right away. Buzzing text alerts and constant 21st century noise can make it hard to slow down and focus. Try to simplify your life as much as possible. Start small. Put your phone away, except when you actively need it to make a call or send a message.
1-5. Question everything.
Mystics want personal connections to the spiritual world and the self, not hearsay. Received wisdom and platitudes are made to be questioned by mystics. If you want to develop your mystical connections to the world, both seen and unseen, start asking the big questions. Whatever your religious or spiritual leanings, learn to embrace the big questions:
Why are we here?
What does it mean to live a good life?
Who am I?
What happens when we die? What does death mean to me?
1-6. Trust your intuition.
Not only is it important to ask the big questions, but to trust that your instincts will lead you to the answers that you seek. Trust in yourself. Develop your intuition and your self-reliance. Eliminate your doubts and trust that you'll have the faith to discover what you're looking for.
2. Building a Mystical Foundation
2-1. Read the writings of the mystics in your tradition.
Studying mystical writings and tomes is an essential way to learn about the lives of the mystics. Each tradition will have a wide variety of different mystics and different dogmas, and it's important to get some sense of the scope of different writings. Everything starts to seem interconnected and becomes more alike than different:
Thomas Merton's No Man is an Island
St. Augustine's Confessions of St. Augustine
The Cloud of Unknowing, written anonymously
Julian of Norwich's Revelation of Divine Love
DT Suzuki's An Introduction to Zen Buddhism
The Nasruddin Stories from the Sufic tradition
2-2. Identify the central tenants of your practice.
Mystical practice is a combination of self-imposed meditation and contemplation and the specific guidelines of your religion or other practice. Each religious life will be different, because each religious person is different. Deciding what's most important to you and your practice is a decision that only one person can make. You.
For some mystical Christians, living life as close to the way Christ lived is the most important aspect of practicing. For others, spreading the gospel is essential. Both ways of thinking can lead to mysticism and deep appreciations of the spiritual world.
2-3. Make your spiritual practice your main priority.
Mystics aren't part-time. Whatever your deep connection to religion and the big questions, it needs to be your biggest priority in life. Not your job, your family, or your hobbies. Your connection with the cosmos needs to be your biggest commitment.
For many people, being a mystic is an entirely solitary life. Most mystics are monastic for a reason. If you want to be a mystic, it's hard to go out on Saturday night and have fun. Are you up to the challenge to commit?
2-4. Embrace mystery.
Part of Zen meditation revolves around letting go of these big concerns and embracing the void. For the mystic, that void should be your living room. Trusting in your instincts and diving into the biggest questions has a tendency to lead to even more questions than answers. It could either be frustrating or liberating to realize that you might never know what will happen after you die, or whether or not you're really "right" about your way of interpreting the world.
3. Going Deeper
3-1. Develop a deep belief system with prayer and contemplation
Whatever religion or belief system that you align you with, or even if you don't align yourself with any organized religion at all, you need to carve out time in your schedule for deep contemplation and meditative training. Pray, meditate, and contemplate constantly.
To start praying, focus less on asking specific yes-no types of questions and more on focusing on feeling. How does it feel to get in touch with the higher power in which you believe? How does talking with your god affect your soul?
For some monastics, time needs to be divided evenly between reading the great texts, meditating, and experiencing the world. As a rule of thumb, don't spend more time praying than you spend studying the religious texts you study, and vice versa.
3-2. Develop your awareness through meditation.
There's no specific goal or outcome of a meditative practice. You don't come out the other side of a meditation sitting feeling as if you've learned something, necessarily, or as if you've solved the big problems that you seek. Instead, focus on stilling yourself and increasing your awareness, then taking that into the world.
To start meditating, learn to still your thoughts and watch them float through your mind without identifying them actively. Just sit, focus on your breathing, and fix your gaze on the void.
Try to hold onto your meditation-mind for as long as possible throughout the day. Notice the little things. Slow down.
3-3. Abandon needless beliefs.
A popular Zen saying compares Zen to a boat. You use when you need to cross the river, but you don't take it with you. Learn to leave your Zen on the shore when it becomes unnecessary. Religion, meditative practices, and other aspects of your mystical experience should serve your understanding of the world, not burden it.
3-4. Surround yourself with mystical people.
It's important to spend time with like-minded believers who take their mystical practice seriously. Learn by observing and having complicated conversations with people from your church, organization, or other religious groups. Bounce ideas and interpretations off each other. Learn as much as you can.
In some traditions, finding a teacher, mentor, or guru is an essential part of practicing your own brand of mysticism and developing as a mystical thinker. If you're ready to pledge yourself to a serious practice, consider finding a personal teacher.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Thinking Mystically\\n1-1. Feel the presence of a guiding hand.\\nWhether you think of yourself as a deeply spiritual person or not, a mystic is one who seeks to find order in the chaos and collect evidence of that order. If you're the kind of person who sees every strange coincidence, every elegant metaphor, or every pretty rainbow as a sign of something greater, you might begin to feel the presence of a guiding hand in which you place your trust.\\nReligious mystics place their trust in a higher power, a powerful being that creates and controls the world and the people in it. Sometimes, as in the case of Zen Buddhism, religious mystics will also place their trust in a practice, that asceticism and meditation are the truest way to understand the world.\\nMystics aren't always religious, though they often are. The writing of quantum physicists and Jungian psychologists often borders on the mystical, the deeper it gets. Whatever system, being, or practice you've found in which to place your trust, place it there.\\n1-2. Look for the interconnectedness of things around you.\\nSeek to find order and balance in the world, rather than emphasizing differences and disparities. Look for things you have in common with your enemies.\\nRegardless of your spiritual or religious leanings, it's good to read and study a wide variety of mystical writings, across disciplines and dogmas. Christian writer Thomas Merton spent considerable time studying Zen Buddhism,\\n1-3. Emphasize experience\\nWhat is a mystic? What differentiates a Christian mystic from a regular Christian, or a Buddhist mystic from a regular Buddhist? Across practices, disciplines, and cultures, mystics have one thing in common: a deep personal and spiritual connection to their belief system. To the mystic, a personal experience of spirituality is always more powerful and more important than book-learning or hearsay. Simply going to church isn't enough for the mystic.\\nAvoid the showy materialist trappings of some religions. You don't need an expensive rock garden, koi pond, and meditation pad to be a Buddhist mystic. You don't need a 13th-century crucifix to be a Christian.\\n1-4. Be present\\nMystics need to center themselves and be fully present at all times. A mystic isn't distracted by electronic devices, stresses, or complex schedules for the day. Instead, the mystic should be focused completely on doing one thing and one thing only. When you're eating lunch, just eat lunch. Focus entirely on nourishing your body, slowing down, enjoying what you eat. When you're reading the newspaper, just focus on learning, reading the words, and understanding the concepts. Put yourself completely into each task.\\nThis can be surprisingly difficult, and it won't happen right away. Buzzing text alerts and constant 21st century noise can make it hard to slow down and focus. Try to simplify your life as much as possible. Start small. Put your phone away, except when you actively need it to make a call or send a message.\\n1-5. Question everything.\\nMystics want personal connections to the spiritual world and the self, not hearsay. Received wisdom and platitudes are made to be questioned by mystics. If you want to develop your mystical connections to the world, both seen and unseen, start asking the big questions. Whatever your religious or spiritual leanings, learn to embrace the big questions:\\nWhy are we here?\\nWhat does it mean to live a good life?\\nWho am I?\\nWhat happens when we die? What does death mean to me?\\n1-6. Trust your intuition.\\nNot only is it important to ask the big questions, but to trust that your instincts will lead you to the answers that you seek. Trust in yourself. Develop your intuition and your self-reliance. Eliminate your doubts and trust that you'll have the faith to discover what you're looking for.\\n2. Building a Mystical Foundation\\n2-1. Read the writings of the mystics in your tradition.\\nStudying mystical writings and tomes is an essential way to learn about the lives of the mystics. Each tradition will have a wide variety of different mystics and different dogmas, and it's important to get some sense of the scope of different writings. Everything starts to seem interconnected and becomes more alike than different:\\nThomas Merton's No Man is an Island\\nSt. Augustine's Confessions of St. Augustine\\nThe Cloud of Unknowing, written anonymously\\nJulian of Norwich's Revelation of Divine Love\\nDT Suzuki's An Introduction to Zen Buddhism\\nThe Nasruddin Stories from the Sufic tradition\\n2-2. Identify the central tenants of your practice.\\nMystical practice is a combination of self-imposed meditation and contemplation and the specific guidelines of your religion or other practice. Each religious life will be different, because each religious person is different. Deciding what's most important to you and your practice is a decision that only one person can make. You.\\nFor some mystical Christians, living life as close to the way Christ lived is the most important aspect of practicing. For others, spreading the gospel is essential. Both ways of thinking can lead to mysticism and deep appreciations of the spiritual world.\\n2-3. Make your spiritual practice your main priority.\\nMystics aren't part-time. Whatever your deep connection to religion and the big questions, it needs to be your biggest priority in life. Not your job, your family, or your hobbies. Your connection with the cosmos needs to be your biggest commitment.\\nFor many people, being a mystic is an entirely solitary life. Most mystics are monastic for a reason. If you want to be a mystic, it's hard to go out on Saturday night and have fun. Are you up to the challenge to commit?\\n2-4. Embrace mystery.\\nPart of Zen meditation revolves around letting go of these big concerns and embracing the void. For the mystic, that void should be your living room. Trusting in your instincts and diving into the biggest questions has a tendency to lead to even more questions than answers. It could either be frustrating or liberating to realize that you might never know what will happen after you die, or whether or not you're really \\\"right\\\" about your way of interpreting the world.\\n3. Going Deeper\\n3-1. Develop a deep belief system with prayer and contemplation\\nWhatever religion or belief system that you align you with, or even if you don't align yourself with any organized religion at all, you need to carve out time in your schedule for deep contemplation and meditative training. Pray, meditate, and contemplate constantly.\\n\\nTo start praying, focus less on asking specific yes-no types of questions and more on focusing on feeling. How does it feel to get in touch with the higher power in which you believe? How does talking with your god affect your soul?\\nFor some monastics, time needs to be divided evenly between reading the great texts, meditating, and experiencing the world. As a rule of thumb, don't spend more time praying than you spend studying the religious texts you study, and vice versa.\\n3-2. Develop your awareness through meditation.\\nThere's no specific goal or outcome of a meditative practice. You don't come out the other side of a meditation sitting feeling as if you've learned something, necessarily, or as if you've solved the big problems that you seek. Instead, focus on stilling yourself and increasing your awareness, then taking that into the world.\\n\\nTo start meditating, learn to still your thoughts and watch them float through your mind without identifying them actively. Just sit, focus on your breathing, and fix your gaze on the void.\\nTry to hold onto your meditation-mind for as long as possible throughout the day. Notice the little things. Slow down.\\n3-3. Abandon needless beliefs.\\nA popular Zen saying compares Zen to a boat. You use when you need to cross the river, but you don't take it with you. Learn to leave your Zen on the shore when it becomes unnecessary. Religion, meditative practices, and other aspects of your mystical experience should serve your understanding of the world, not burden it.\\n3-4. Surround yourself with mystical people.\\nIt's important to spend time with like-minded believers who take their mystical practice seriously. Learn by observing and having complicated conversations with people from your church, organization, or other religious groups. Bounce ideas and interpretations off each other. Learn as much as you can.\\nIn some traditions, finding a teacher, mentor, or guru is an essential part of practicing your own brand of mysticism and developing as a mystical thinker. If you're ready to pledge yourself to a serious practice, consider finding a personal teacher.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a mystic is a lifelong process of learning and deep contemplation which you can't afford to treat as a game. Identifying the spiritual practice or tradition which speaks to you and starts answering the questions you're interested in is step one. But then your real work starts.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Thinking Mystically\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Feel the presence of a guiding hand.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you think of yourself as a deeply spiritual person or not, a mystic is one who seeks to find order in the chaos and collect evidence of that order. If you're the kind of person who sees every strange coincidence, every elegant metaphor, or every pretty rainbow as a sign of something greater, you might begin to feel the presence of a guiding hand in which you place your trust.\\nReligious mystics place their trust in a higher power, a powerful being that creates and controls the world and the people in it. Sometimes, as in the case of Zen Buddhism, religious mystics will also place their trust in a practice, that asceticism and meditation are the truest way to understand the world.\\nMystics aren't always religious, though they often are. The writing of quantum physicists and Jungian psychologists often borders on the mystical, the deeper it gets. Whatever system, being, or practice you've found in which to place your trust, place it there.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look for the interconnectedness of things around you.\", \"描述\": \"Seek to find order and balance in the world, rather than emphasizing differences and disparities. Look for things you have in common with your enemies.\\nRegardless of your spiritual or religious leanings, it's good to read and study a wide variety of mystical writings, across disciplines and dogmas. Christian writer Thomas Merton spent considerable time studying Zen Buddhism,\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Emphasize experience\", \"描述\": \"What is a mystic? What differentiates a Christian mystic from a regular Christian, or a Buddhist mystic from a regular Buddhist? Across practices, disciplines, and cultures, mystics have one thing in common: a deep personal and spiritual connection to their belief system. To the mystic, a personal experience of spirituality is always more powerful and more important than book-learning or hearsay. Simply going to church isn't enough for the mystic.\\nAvoid the showy materialist trappings of some religions. You don't need an expensive rock garden, koi pond, and meditation pad to be a Buddhist mystic. You don't need a 13th-century crucifix to be a Christian.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be present\", \"描述\": \"Mystics need to center themselves and be fully present at all times. A mystic isn't distracted by electronic devices, stresses, or complex schedules for the day. Instead, the mystic should be focused completely on doing one thing and one thing only. When you're eating lunch, just eat lunch. Focus entirely on nourishing your body, slowing down, enjoying what you eat. When you're reading the newspaper, just focus on learning, reading the words, and understanding the concepts. Put yourself completely into each task.\\nThis can be surprisingly difficult, and it won't happen right away. Buzzing text alerts and constant 21st century noise can make it hard to slow down and focus. Try to simplify your life as much as possible. Start small. Put your phone away, except when you actively need it to make a call or send a message.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Question everything.\", \"描述\": \"Mystics want personal connections to the spiritual world and the self, not hearsay. Received wisdom and platitudes are made to be questioned by mystics. If you want to develop your mystical connections to the world, both seen and unseen, start asking the big questions. Whatever your religious or spiritual leanings, learn to embrace the big questions:\\nWhy are we here?\\nWhat does it mean to live a good life?\\nWho am I?\\nWhat happens when we die? What does death mean to me?\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Trust your intuition.\", \"描述\": \"Not only is it important to ask the big questions, but to trust that your instincts will lead you to the answers that you seek. Trust in yourself. Develop your intuition and your self-reliance. Eliminate your doubts and trust that you'll have the faith to discover what you're looking for.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Building a Mystical Foundation\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read the writings of the mystics in your tradition.\", \"描述\": \"Studying mystical writings and tomes is an essential way to learn about the lives of the mystics. Each tradition will have a wide variety of different mystics and different dogmas, and it's important to get some sense of the scope of different writings. Everything starts to seem interconnected and becomes more alike than different:\\nThomas Merton's No Man is an Island\\nSt. Augustine's Confessions of St. Augustine\\nThe Cloud of Unknowing, written anonymously\\nJulian of Norwich's Revelation of Divine Love\\nDT Suzuki's An Introduction to Zen Buddhism\\nThe Nasruddin Stories from the Sufic tradition\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Identify the central tenants of your practice.\", \"描述\": \"Mystical practice is a combination of self-imposed meditation and contemplation and the specific guidelines of your religion or other practice. Each religious life will be different, because each religious person is different. Deciding what's most important to you and your practice is a decision that only one person can make. You.\\nFor some mystical Christians, living life as close to the way Christ lived is the most important aspect of practicing. For others, spreading the gospel is essential. Both ways of thinking can lead to mysticism and deep appreciations of the spiritual world.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make your spiritual practice your main priority.\", \"描述\": \"Mystics aren't part-time. Whatever your deep connection to religion and the big questions, it needs to be your biggest priority in life. Not your job, your family, or your hobbies. Your connection with the cosmos needs to be your biggest commitment.\\nFor many people, being a mystic is an entirely solitary life. Most mystics are monastic for a reason. If you want to be a mystic, it's hard to go out on Saturday night and have fun. Are you up to the challenge to commit?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Embrace mystery.\", \"描述\": \"Part of Zen meditation revolves around letting go of these big concerns and embracing the void. For the mystic, that void should be your living room. Trusting in your instincts and diving into the biggest questions has a tendency to lead to even more questions than answers. It could either be frustrating or liberating to realize that you might never know what will happen after you die, or whether or not you're really \\\"right\\\" about your way of interpreting the world.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Going Deeper\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop a deep belief system with prayer and contemplation\", \"描述\": \"Whatever religion or belief system that you align you with, or even if you don't align yourself with any organized religion at all, you need to carve out time in your schedule for deep contemplation and meditative training. Pray, meditate, and contemplate constantly.\\n\\nTo start praying, focus less on asking specific yes-no types of questions and more on focusing on feeling. How does it feel to get in touch with the higher power in which you believe? How does talking with your god affect your soul?\\nFor some monastics, time needs to be divided evenly between reading the great texts, meditating, and experiencing the world. As a rule of thumb, don't spend more time praying than you spend studying the religious texts you study, and vice versa.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop your awareness through meditation.\", \"描述\": \"There's no specific goal or outcome of a meditative practice. You don't come out the other side of a meditation sitting feeling as if you've learned something, necessarily, or as if you've solved the big problems that you seek. Instead, focus on stilling yourself and increasing your awareness, then taking that into the world.\\n\\nTo start meditating, learn to still your thoughts and watch them float through your mind without identifying them actively. Just sit, focus on your breathing, and fix your gaze on the void.\\nTry to hold onto your meditation-mind for as long as possible throughout the day. Notice the little things. Slow down.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Abandon needless beliefs.\", \"描述\": \"A popular Zen saying compares Zen to a boat. You use when you need to cross the river, but you don't take it with you. Learn to leave your Zen on the shore when it becomes unnecessary. Religion, meditative practices, and other aspects of your mystical experience should serve your understanding of the world, not burden it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with mystical people.\", \"描述\": \"It's important to spend time with like-minded believers who take their mystical practice seriously. Learn by observing and having complicated conversations with people from your church, organization, or other religious groups. Bounce ideas and interpretations off each other. Learn as much as you can.\\nIn some traditions, finding a teacher, mentor, or guru is an essential part of practicing your own brand of mysticism and developing as a mystical thinker. If you're ready to pledge yourself to a serious practice, consider finding a personal teacher.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a NASCAR Driver
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1. Starting With the Basics
1-1. Race go-karts.
Many professional race car drivers started at ages as young as 5 behind the wheel of a go-kart. Karting helps teach you the craft of racing, from control to adapting to the race track for speed. The earlier you start racing, the better your chances will be for cultivating a career later. Learn as much as you can while racing go-karts.
Enter karting competitions. Different local, national, and international cup competitions are held through the year. Try looking into CIKFIA or The World Karting Association
If you're not yet of the legal driving age, try to find a track that offers youth racing. This is great way to learn the basics of handling a vehicle around curves while negotiating the pack.
Race in the soap box derby. The more racing experience you have as a youth, the better equipped you will be for a career in racing.
1-2. Graduate to racing actual vehicles.
After you have learned all you can from karting, and hopefully gotten a few wins under your belt, start racing cars. Try entering amateur racing competitions. You can also start building a career racing off-road vehicles and motorcycles, like 7x Monster Energy NASCAR Cup Series winner Jimmie Johnson.
1-3. Compete in local races.
Before you can make it to any kind of professional circuit, you need to hone your skills. Race in as many local races as you can. As you win races, you start to build a reputation as you improve your driving skills, enhance your talent, and build a career. Work your way up through local and regional races, collecting as many wins as possible.
1-4. Watch professional drivers at work.
Watch races on TV. Even better, visit a local track.
If you have the opportunity to purchase a pit pass, do it, and ask questions of the pit crew members, drivers, managers, and officials.
1-5. Study the mechanics of a race car.
Find race car mechanics near you or on the Internet, so you can learn everything you can about the mechanics of a race car and how it differs from a passenger car.
Read textbooks about auto mechanics, or take a course at a local community college. If you are serious about becoming a race car driver, you need to know everything you can about cars, from the basics of a lug wrench to suspensions.
The most important tool for any race car driver is a reliable car, and although professional drivers have a maintenance staff of mechanics to keep things running smoothly, the driver is the only one on the track who can spot a problem early and pit the car before getting into trouble at high speeds.
1-6. Volunteer to help with a local driver's crew.
As a volunteer, you’ll generally need some sort of basic skills, such as knowledge of mechanics, though some programs provide training for volunteers. Sometimes, struggling drivers will just be happy for someone to help out, which can lead to you learning skills on site.
Many amateur and semi-pro teams need volunteers to do all sorts of jobs. This is a good way to meet people and get hands on experience.
1-7. Take part in a NASCAR driving course.
Most major speedways offer driving experiences that range from ride-along laps to following a pace car, or the ultimate driver's-seat challenge with an experienced passenger to guide you with hand signals as you tour the track.
“Fantasy” driving schools offer detailed safety and track communications instruction, lessons in standard track procedures, and the opportunity to drive a race car from 3 to 40 laps around the track.
2. Becoming a Professional
2-1. Get an internship at NASCAR.
While many race car drivers don't have college educations, working on a degree while racing and honing your skills won't hurt. It's always good to have a degree and career to fall back on in case you don't make it. Plus, racing companies, including NASCAR, offer internships for college students.
While actual race car experience is important if you want to be a NASCAR driver, it's also important to tune up the mind to deal with the racing business. As the popularity of racing continues to grow and fans continue to pump millions of dollars into the industry, some advanced education in business and communication could give new NASCAR drivers an edge.
2-2. Attend a racing school.
Different organizations, such as the Sports Car Club of America (SCCA), offer driving schools. An organization such as SCCA can also help you get inside the business as a worker or inspector, which could lead to your own career as a race car driver.
The Mazda Road to Indy features a driving school, championships, and other opportunities for a career in racing. While not NASCAR, attending something like this could help jumpstart your career.
2-3. Get a competition license.
Before you get behind the wheel, you will need to apply for a competition license. This can be an arduous process, but different organizations can help you with this process.
There are slightly different restrictions for people who have racing experience and those who do not. Attending racing schools can help you obtain a competition license.
Before being awarded a competition license, you will be required to have a physical.
You will begin with a novice or provisional competition license. After successfully competing in a set number of organization-sponsored races, the driver will be eligible for upgrade to a full competition license.
2-4. Don't buy a race car.
Race cars are expensive - extremely expensive. And it's not just the race car you have to buy, but everything that goes with it: a trailer, tow truck, and tools. Race a few seasons before you invest in a race car, and make sure you know how to work on it and how to drive it.
2-5. Find money.
Most race car drivers have said that racing is one of the most expensive sports out there. It takes money to race, either from your own pockets or from sponsors. Factoring in equipment and everything else you need, it can cost tens of thousands of dollars at the beginning of your career to race a season.
One way to gain sponsors and money is to network. To network, you need to win races. If you are finishing low in a higher division, try racing in a lower division and dominating it. It's more impressive to tell sponsors about your wins than finishing fourth or fifth.
Spread the word about your success. Get a PR team, even if it's friends or family, and spread the word on social media. Build a website, get a Facebook page, and set up a Twitter account to post about your wins.
2-6. Get physically fit and stay fit.
Physical fitness is paramount to becoming a successful race car driver. The more trim and healthy a driver, the better equipped he or she will be to withstand the heat, the G-Forces, and body-battering strain of driving at nearly 200 miles per hour (about 322 km/h). Also, race cars can move faster when they carry less weight in the driver's seat. However, don't think this will give you too much of an advantage...as NASCAR puts weights in cars that has a driver lighter than 200 pounds.
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Graduate to racing actual vehicles.\\nAfter you have learned all you can from karting, and hopefully gotten a few wins under your belt, start racing cars. Try entering amateur racing competitions. You can also start building a career racing off-road vehicles and motorcycles, like 7x Monster Energy NASCAR Cup Series winner Jimmie Johnson.\\n1-3. Compete in local races.\\nBefore you can make it to any kind of professional circuit, you need to hone your skills. Race in as many local races as you can. As you win races, you start to build a reputation as you improve your driving skills, enhance your talent, and build a career. Work your way up through local and regional races, collecting as many wins as possible.\\n1-4. Watch professional drivers at work.\\nWatch races on TV. Even better, visit a local track.\\nIf you have the opportunity to purchase a pit pass, do it, and ask questions of the pit crew members, drivers, managers, and officials.\\n1-5. Study the mechanics of a race car.\\nFind race car mechanics near you or on the Internet, so you can learn everything you can about the mechanics of a race car and how it differs from a passenger car.\\nRead textbooks about auto mechanics, or take a course at a local community college. If you are serious about becoming a race car driver, you need to know everything you can about cars, from the basics of a lug wrench to suspensions.\\nThe most important tool for any race car driver is a reliable car, and although professional drivers have a maintenance staff of mechanics to keep things running smoothly, the driver is the only one on the track who can spot a problem early and pit the car before getting into trouble at high speeds.\\n1-6. Volunteer to help with a local driver's crew.\\nAs a volunteer, you’ll generally need some sort of basic skills, such as knowledge of mechanics, though some programs provide training for volunteers. Sometimes, struggling drivers will just be happy for someone to help out, which can lead to you learning skills on site.\\nMany amateur and semi-pro teams need volunteers to do all sorts of jobs. This is a good way to meet people and get hands on experience.\\n1-7. Take part in a NASCAR driving course.\\nMost major speedways offer driving experiences that range from ride-along laps to following a pace car, or the ultimate driver's-seat challenge with an experienced passenger to guide you with hand signals as you tour the track.\\n“Fantasy” driving schools offer detailed safety and track communications instruction, lessons in standard track procedures, and the opportunity to drive a race car from 3 to 40 laps around the track.\\n2. Becoming a Professional\\n2-1. Get an internship at NASCAR.\\nWhile many race car drivers don't have college educations, working on a degree while racing and honing your skills won't hurt. It's always good to have a degree and career to fall back on in case you don't make it. Plus, racing companies, including NASCAR, offer internships for college students. \\nWhile actual race car experience is important if you want to be a NASCAR driver, it's also important to tune up the mind to deal with the racing business. As the popularity of racing continues to grow and fans continue to pump millions of dollars into the industry, some advanced education in business and communication could give new NASCAR drivers an edge.\\n2-2. Attend a racing school.\\nDifferent organizations, such as the Sports Car Club of America (SCCA), offer driving schools. An organization such as SCCA can also help you get inside the business as a worker or inspector, which could lead to your own career as a race car driver.\\nThe Mazda Road to Indy features a driving school, championships, and other opportunities for a career in racing. While not NASCAR, attending something like this could help jumpstart your career.\\n2-3. Get a competition license.\\nBefore you get behind the wheel, you will need to apply for a competition license. This can be an arduous process, but different organizations can help you with this process.\\nThere are slightly different restrictions for people who have racing experience and those who do not. Attending racing schools can help you obtain a competition license.\\nBefore being awarded a competition license, you will be required to have a physical.\\nYou will begin with a novice or provisional competition license. After successfully competing in a set number of organization-sponsored races, the driver will be eligible for upgrade to a full competition license.\\n2-4. Don't buy a race car.\\nRace cars are expensive - extremely expensive. And it's not just the race car you have to buy, but everything that goes with it: a trailer, tow truck, and tools. Race a few seasons before you invest in a race car, and make sure you know how to work on it and how to drive it.\\n2-5. Find money.\\nMost race car drivers have said that racing is one of the most expensive sports out there. It takes money to race, either from your own pockets or from sponsors. Factoring in equipment and everything else you need, it can cost tens of thousands of dollars at the beginning of your career to race a season.\\nOne way to gain sponsors and money is to network. To network, you need to win races. If you are finishing low in a higher division, try racing in a lower division and dominating it. It's more impressive to tell sponsors about your wins than finishing fourth or fifth.\\nSpread the word about your success. Get a PR team, even if it's friends or family, and spread the word on social media. Build a website, get a Facebook page, and set up a Twitter account to post about your wins.\\n2-6. Get physically fit and stay fit.\\nPhysical fitness is paramount to becoming a successful race car driver. The more trim and healthy a driver, the better equipped he or she will be to withstand the heat, the G-Forces, and body-battering strain of driving at nearly 200 miles per hour (about 322 km/h). Also, race cars can move faster when they carry less weight in the driver's seat. However, don't think this will give you too much of an advantage...as NASCAR puts weights in cars that has a driver lighter than 200 pounds.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"With the right focus and training, talented race car drivers can take sensible, measurable steps toward the ultimate goal of driving professionally in the NASCAR circuit. Anyone can aspire toward high-profile professional sports careers, but when it comes to the competitive world of auto racing, a would-be NASCAR driver should first consider gaining some basic experience from which to build a professional driver's resume.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Starting With the Basics\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Race go-karts.\", \"描述\": \"Many professional race car drivers started at ages as young as 5 behind the wheel of a go-kart. Karting helps teach you the craft of racing, from control to adapting to the race track for speed. The earlier you start racing, the better your chances will be for cultivating a career later. Learn as much as you can while racing go-karts.\\nEnter karting competitions. Different local, national, and international cup competitions are held through the year. Try looking into CIKFIA or The World Karting Association\\nIf you're not yet of the legal driving age, try to find a track that offers youth racing. 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Work your way up through local and regional races, collecting as many wins as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Watch professional drivers at work.\", \"描述\": \"Watch races on TV. Even better, visit a local track.\\nIf you have the opportunity to purchase a pit pass, do it, and ask questions of the pit crew members, drivers, managers, and officials.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Study the mechanics of a race car.\", \"描述\": \"Find race car mechanics near you or on the Internet, so you can learn everything you can about the mechanics of a race car and how it differs from a passenger car.\\nRead textbooks about auto mechanics, or take a course at a local community college. If you are serious about becoming a race car driver, you need to know everything you can about cars, from the basics of a lug wrench to suspensions.\\nThe most important tool for any race car driver is a reliable car, and although professional drivers have a maintenance staff of mechanics to keep things running smoothly, the driver is the only one on the track who can spot a problem early and pit the car before getting into trouble at high speeds.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Volunteer to help with a local driver's crew.\", \"描述\": \"As a volunteer, you’ll generally need some sort of basic skills, such as knowledge of mechanics, though some programs provide training for volunteers. Sometimes, struggling drivers will just be happy for someone to help out, which can lead to you learning skills on site.\\nMany amateur and semi-pro teams need volunteers to do all sorts of jobs. This is a good way to meet people and get hands on experience.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take part in a NASCAR driving course.\", \"描述\": \"Most major speedways offer driving experiences that range from ride-along laps to following a pace car, or the ultimate driver's-seat challenge with an experienced passenger to guide you with hand signals as you tour the track.\\n“Fantasy” driving schools offer detailed safety and track communications instruction, lessons in standard track procedures, and the opportunity to drive a race car from 3 to 40 laps around the track.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Professional\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get an internship at NASCAR.\", \"描述\": \"While many race car drivers don't have college educations, working on a degree while racing and honing your skills won't hurt. It's always good to have a degree and career to fall back on in case you don't make it. 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How to Be a National Delegate (USA)
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1. Increasing Your Chances of a Nomination
1-1. Be an active member of your political party.
To be a delegate at your party’s national convention, it helps to be an active member of your political party. You can do this by staying up to date on the concerns and challenges of your party, volunteering for your party, and voting for party members in your local and state elections.
Party workers are often selected as delegates, so you may even want to consider pursuing employment with your party.
1-2. Start supporting a candidate early.
People who are sent to national conventions are often political activists and early supporters of a presidential candidate. Don’t wait until the last minute to start supporting someone. Choose a candidate who speaks to you and publicly support the candidate from the beginning of his or her campaign.
You might consider doing grassroots campaigning for your chosen candidate, attending the candidate’s campaign trail events, or using social media to promote your candidate.
1-3. Run for a political position
Local political leaders may also be chosen to go to a party’s national convention. In fact, many of the people who are chosen to be delegates are elected officials. If you are determined to be a national delegate, then you might need to get involved in local politics.
For example, you might consider running for a position on your city council or even run for mayor. Watch for open positions that interest you and that match your skill set and qualifications.
1-4. Vote in the primaries.
Voting in the primaries is an important part of becoming a delegate. Not only does voting in your party’s primary election demonstrate your dedication to your party, it will also give you the right to vote at your party’s convention. Make sure that you vote in your party’s primary on March 1st.
If you did not vote in the primaries, then you may still be able to vote at your party’s convention by signing an oath of affiliation with your party. Check your party’s rules to be sure.
2. Winning a Delegation Spot
2-1. Determine if you live in a caucus or primary state.
There are two systems used to elect delegates: the caucus system and the primary system. In the caucus system, political parties organize meetings in places like school gyms and community centers where people can gather to discuss and vote on the candidates. In a primary system, voters simply turn up at a polling place and cast their votes for a presidential candidate and delegates. While 13 states and territories still use the caucus system, most states now use a primary system to elect delegates. States and territories that still use a caucus system include:
Alaska
Hawaii
Iowa
Kansas
Kentucky (Republican only)
Maine
Nevada
North Dakota
Washington (Democratic only)
Wyoming
American Samoa
Guam
US Virgin Islands
2-2. Attend your precinct’s caucus.
If your state uses a caucus system, then delegates for your precinct will be selected by a public vote at your precinct’s caucus. At the caucus, people will gather to discuss the presidential candidates and make arguments for who should represent the party.
If you hope to become a delegate for your party, then you will need to attend your precinct's caucus, convince those in attendance to vote for you, and win a delegate position.
Precinct caucuses are usually held a few weeks after the primary election, which is towards the end of March. Find out for sure when the caucus will be held in your precinct and make sure that you are in attendance.
2-3. Apply to be on the ballot in the primary election.
If you live in a state that uses the primary system, then you will need to apply to get your name on the ballot as a delegate, promote yourself, and win the election to attend your county convention. Keep in mind that the rules for electing delegates vary from state to state, so it is important to check the requirements for your state well before the election.
2-4. Introduce yourself to people.
Getting to know people and telling them about your efforts for the party will increase your chances of receiving votes. Introduce yourself to people at the caucus or at other events for your political party. You might even call some people who you know will be voting at the caucus or primary election. As you interact with people, make sure that you are being polite, pleasant, and professional.
Try saying something like, “Hello. I’m ____ and I am running for a delegate position at the county convention. I have done extensive work for the party, including ________. Can I count on your vote?”
Be willing to listen to other delegate candidates as well and offer your support to the other delegates you endorse. You will have the opportunity to vote for yourself and for others.
2-5. Hand out fliers that detail your work.
You may want to start promoting yourself ahead of time to people who will attend the caucus. You can do this by making some fliers that highlight your work and accomplishments. Then, mail out or hand out these fliers to people who will be voting.
Make some fliers before the caucus or primary that detail the work you have done for your party and your candidate. On the flier, make sure that you include your name, why you should be chosen as a delegate, what you have done to promote the party’s interests, what you have done to support your candidate’s campaign, and a line to encourage people to vote for you.
If you are not skilled with programs like Microsoft Publisher, then you may want to hire someone to create a professional looking flier for you.
2-6. Give a great speech
If your state has a caucus system, then you will have the opportunity to give a one minute speech at the caucus meeting. Take time to craft this speech into something that will convince others that you should be chosen as a delegate. Keep in mind that writing a great speech takes time. Start planning your speech a few weeks before the caucus and practice it several times before the event. In your speech, make sure that you:
Introduce yourself by name and give information about your job or party position. For example, if you are an elected official, then say so.
Explain what you have done to promote the party’s interests.
State what candidate you support and what you have done to support that candidate’s campaign.
Request that people vote for you and thank them for listening.
2-7. Vote for yourself.
You are entitled to vote for yourself to be one of the delegates at your party’s convention. Make sure that you vote for yourself at the caucus or primary along with anyone else that you want to support.
3. Securing a Spot at the National Convention
3-1. Register for and attend the county convention.
If you are elected by your precinct to be a delegate at the county convention, then you will need to attend this convention to be eligible for a spot as a national delegate. This convention will take place on or around May 1st.
You can register for this convention by visiting the state website for your party. For example, if you are a democrat living in Texas, then you would need to visit the Texas Democrats website to register for the convention.
At the county convention, there will be another vote to select delegates to attend the state convention. Therefore, it is important to continue to promote yourself, just as you did for the caucus election. Talk to other delegates who will be at the convention, continue to be active with your party, and ask for votes.
During the county convention, there will be another vote and you will have the opportunity to vote for yourself and others. If you are one of the winners, then you will get to attend your party’s state convention.
3-2. Attend the state convention.
The state convention brings together all of the state’s county delegates. If you win a spot as a delegate at the state convention, then you are even closer to being nominated as a national delegate. Just keep in mind that only about 10% of the state convention delegates will be sent to the national convention.
To increase your chances of being elected as a national delegate, continue to promote yourself as much as possible leading up to and during the state convention. Continue to work hard for your party as well.
3-3. Get a nomination from someone at the state convention.
If you do not get a nomination to attend your state’s convention, then you can still be nominated by someone in attendance at that convention. The delegates at the state convention will break into caucuses where they will nominate and vote on additional delegates.
You might receive a nomination from someone if you are an active member of your party and you are well-known to other for your efforts to promote your political party.
There is also the possibility of being nominated as an at-large delegate. These spots are open to members and non-members of a party’s committee, but they are competitive. Hundreds of people may apply for a few dozen spots. To be considered for an at-large delegate position, you will need to fill out an application. Check with your party’s committee to get an application.
3-4. Keep trying.
If you don’t get a delegate spot the first time around, then keep trying! Becoming a delegate is a lengthy, competitive process. Most of the people who obtain delegate positions are elected officials or party insiders, so it can take many years to gain enough recognition to be chosen. However, if you are determined to break into politics and attend the national convention as a delegate someday, then keep working to achieve your goal.
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Choose a candidate who speaks to you and publicly support the candidate from the beginning of his or her campaign.\\nYou might consider doing grassroots campaigning for your chosen candidate, attending the candidate’s campaign trail events, or using social media to promote your candidate.\\n1-3. Run for a political position\\nLocal political leaders may also be chosen to go to a party’s national convention. In fact, many of the people who are chosen to be delegates are elected officials. If you are determined to be a national delegate, then you might need to get involved in local politics.\\nFor example, you might consider running for a position on your city council or even run for mayor. Watch for open positions that interest you and that match your skill set and qualifications.\\n1-4. Vote in the primaries.\\nVoting in the primaries is an important part of becoming a delegate. Not only does voting in your party’s primary election demonstrate your dedication to your party, it will also give you the right to vote at your party’s convention. Make sure that you vote in your party’s primary on March 1st.\\nIf you did not vote in the primaries, then you may still be able to vote at your party’s convention by signing an oath of affiliation with your party. Check your party’s rules to be sure.\\n2. Winning a Delegation Spot\\n2-1. Determine if you live in a caucus or primary state.\\nThere are two systems used to elect delegates: the caucus system and the primary system. In the caucus system, political parties organize meetings in places like school gyms and community centers where people can gather to discuss and vote on the candidates. In a primary system, voters simply turn up at a polling place and cast their votes for a presidential candidate and delegates. 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On the flier, make sure that you include your name, why you should be chosen as a delegate, what you have done to promote the party’s interests, what you have done to support your candidate’s campaign, and a line to encourage people to vote for you.\\nIf you are not skilled with programs like Microsoft Publisher, then you may want to hire someone to create a professional looking flier for you.\\n2-6. Give a great speech\\nIf your state has a caucus system, then you will have the opportunity to give a one minute speech at the caucus meeting. Take time to craft this speech into something that will convince others that you should be chosen as a delegate. Keep in mind that writing a great speech takes time. Start planning your speech a few weeks before the caucus and practice it several times before the event. In your speech, make sure that you:\\nIntroduce yourself by name and give information about your job or party position. For example, if you are an elected official, then say so.\\nExplain what you have done to promote the party’s interests.\\nState what candidate you support and what you have done to support that candidate’s campaign.\\nRequest that people vote for you and thank them for listening.\\n2-7. Vote for yourself.\\nYou are entitled to vote for yourself to be one of the delegates at your party’s convention. Make sure that you vote for yourself at the caucus or primary along with anyone else that you want to support.\\n3. Securing a Spot at the National Convention\\n3-1. Register for and attend the county convention.\\nIf you are elected by your precinct to be a delegate at the county convention, then you will need to attend this convention to be eligible for a spot as a national delegate. This convention will take place on or around May 1st.\\nYou can register for this convention by visiting the state website for your party. For example, if you are a democrat living in Texas, then you would need to visit the Texas Democrats website to register for the convention.\\nAt the county convention, there will be another vote to select delegates to attend the state convention. Therefore, it is important to continue to promote yourself, just as you did for the caucus election. Talk to other delegates who will be at the convention, continue to be active with your party, and ask for votes.\\nDuring the county convention, there will be another vote and you will have the opportunity to vote for yourself and others. If you are one of the winners, then you will get to attend your party’s state convention.\\n3-2. Attend the state convention.\\nThe state convention brings together all of the state’s county delegates. If you win a spot as a delegate at the state convention, then you are even closer to being nominated as a national delegate. Just keep in mind that only about 10% of the state convention delegates will be sent to the national convention.\\nTo increase your chances of being elected as a national delegate, continue to promote yourself as much as possible leading up to and during the state convention. Continue to work hard for your party as well.\\n3-3. Get a nomination from someone at the state convention.\\nIf you do not get a nomination to attend your state’s convention, then you can still be nominated by someone in attendance at that convention. The delegates at the state convention will break into caucuses where they will nominate and vote on additional delegates.\\nYou might receive a nomination from someone if you are an active member of your party and you are well-known to other for your efforts to promote your political party.\\nThere is also the possibility of being nominated as an at-large delegate. These spots are open to members and non-members of a party’s committee, but they are competitive. Hundreds of people may apply for a few dozen spots. To be considered for an at-large delegate position, you will need to fill out an application. Check with your party’s committee to get an application.\\n3-4. Keep trying.\\nIf you don’t get a delegate spot the first time around, then keep trying! Becoming a delegate is a lengthy, competitive process. Most of the people who obtain delegate positions are elected officials or party insiders, so it can take many years to gain enough recognition to be chosen. However, if you are determined to break into politics and attend the national convention as a delegate someday, then keep working to achieve your goal.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A national delegate is someone who represents his or her state at that party’s national convention. The delegates get to cast a vote for the presidential candidate that they support and the vote will determine the party’s official candidate for President of the United States of America. 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1. Communicating Effectively
1-1. Ask about how to contact him.
Your service member may have many ways in which you can contact him or he may only have a few. Know the different methods to talk with your boyfriend and which one you should use for what situation. He probably has more than one email address, a civilian one and a military one. He may also have a mailing address and a phone number you could use. Talk with him about the best way to keep in contact. Some potential things to keep in mind include:
If there is a phone number, it may be something you should only use for true emergencies, or something he can call out from but you cannot call in to.
He may only have access to their military email, especially if he is on a ship, and his connection may be unreliable.
Getting mail such as handwritten letters and care packages may take significantly longer to get to him then you might think.
1-2. Learn the language.
You may begin to notice your service member using words, phrases, or abbreviations you don't understand. Being in the military comes with its own culture and a language shift, with different branches of the military having different dialects to some extent. If he says something you don't understand, ask him what it means or do your own research. Learning the military language will help you and your service member communicate more easily. You may run into the following categories:
Military Terminology and Acronyms such as, "base plan," "NATOPS," or "weaponeering."
Naval Terminology such as "fathom," "radar," or "yaw."
Nautical Terminology such as "capsize," "quarter," or "squall."
Different types of vessels, such as boat (a waterborne vehicle smaller than a ship), ship (a larger vessel used for ocean travel), freighter (a ship designed to carry cargo), and submarine (a warship designed to operate completely submerged for long periods of time).
1-3. Write often.
Staying in contact is an important part to maintaining your emotional connection and coping with the time apart. Write your service member often and mix it up between letters, emails, and care packages. Each contact does not have to be lengthy, but the more regularly you are in contact the easier it will be to stay up to date with each other's lives. The more distance you put in between communications, the less you will know about each other’s day to day experiences and feelings of not being connected to each other may increase.
The frequent communication that is required to maintain a long distance relationship may result in a stronger bond than a traditional face-to-face relationship.
You may have different abilities and opportunities to communicate frequently due to the demands of each of your schedules. Try not to get discouraged. Your boyfriend’s schedule may be busy and he may be exhausted, but he will likely enjoy hearing about what is going on in your life and at home.
1-4. Follow the rules.
There are rules about what your service member can talk about or even post on social media, and some of those rules apply to you too. Figure out what the rules are for your service member and his posts by asking him for guidelines. You can also research through the Naval Operations Security Support Team (NOST) for Operations Security brochures and training. When communicating through social media, email, and even on the phone, make sure to keep important information as secure as possible for safety. In general, avoid posting any information about your boyfriend’s:
Location and movement.
Fellow service members (such as names and ranks of the individuals).
Flight dates or time.
1-5. Respect that he may not be able to tell you everything.
Just like following the rules for what you tell everyone else, there may be some rules your service member has to follow about what he can or cannot share with family. There is a large security component to what service members do in every branch of the military. If there is something that he cannot tell you, trust that he is not doing it to hide something from you, but that he is just doing his job.
1-6. Know that your communications may not be private or reliable.
It is hard to deal with methods of communication that are unreliable and schedules that may get in the way. Additionally, talk with your service member about the processing your communications go through before reaching him. Find out if the communications are subject to search or screening, and consider who might see what you are sending. This will help you decide what pictures to send if you want to include pictures, or what should go into a care package. Ask your service member:
Will packages be opened before they make it to you and searched for anything?
Will letters be opened before you receive them?
Does anyone screen the emails?
Is there anything I shouldn't do or shouldn't send you?
1-7. Address any conflicts that arise
Even though you do not see your significant other every day, you might still have problems now and then that you will need to resolve. The best way to resolve a conflict over a distance is to talk about it openly and try to come to a collaborative resolution.
For example, if you are upset with your significant other because he or she did not call you at an agreed upon time, then you would need to tell your significant other how you feel in a direct way. You might say, “I feel hurt because you did not call me when you said you would.”
Then, you would need to listen to your significant other’s reason for not calling. Your significant other might have had a valid reason or he might have simply forgotten.
To resolve the conflict, you might suggest a solution, such as deciding on a more convenient time for your significant other to call you.
Be sure to pay attention to cues on the phone that your significant other might be upset about something, such as staying silent or being less talkative than usual. You might address this by saying something like, "You're being more quiet than usual, are you upset or mad at me?"
2. Helping Your Service Member
2-1. Encourage your service member as much as possible.
It's going to be a stressful time for you both. You can help your service member through it by listening to him and encouraging him. Without your encouragement and support, your service member may get overwhelmed by the obstacles you are facing together. With your support, he may be able to refocus, continue on, and hopefully return the encouragement along the way when you are struggling.
Talk to him about how proud you are of him and what he is doing.
Mention how you are proud to say you are a “service member's girlfriend.”
Remind him of everything he has accomplished so far (boot camp, training, other hurdles).
If he is worried about the relationship, talk about how it is tough but that you will be so much stronger as a couple for going through it.
Help him come up with a detailed plan of action for whatever problem or goal he is having.
2-2. Keep focused on the future.
There may be days where your service member loves what he is doing, but there also may be some days where he is unhappy. During the days where things are a little harder, remind him what he is doing for both of your futures. If you are facing a deployment or trying to make it through boot camp, make plans for what you want to do when he gets home. If you are waiting until his next leave, have a creative countdown until the next time you can see each other.
2-3. Be flexible.
Depending on his assignments, commands, or duties, your service member's ability to communicate with you or take leave may change with short notice. The ability of any service member to take a vacation or a trip is wildly different than that of civilians. They are also limited to where they can go, where they will be stationed, or how much free time they have on any certain duty. Try and remain flexible to help with stress levels and expectations in your relationship. Some examples include:
If he is deployed, know that his deployment length will depend on where is he deployed, what type of vessel he is deployed on, and his assignment or command.
His command may have a radius of several miles which he won't be allowed to go outside of.
He may have to stand duty for a certain amount of days at a time, meaning he may not to have a Monday through Friday work week.
Your ability to see them, how long you can see them, or where you two can connect may be different depending on the status of your relationship (married, engaged, or dating).
His command may be on land or on a ship.
2-4. Put yourself in his shoes.
As you are both working through this difficult time, practice shifting your perspective and imagining what he might be going through. It is hard for you to be without your service member, but remind yourself that he is without you as well as everyone else he is close to. He likely has to be away from and have limited communication with his family and friends who are not enlisted as well. Getting practice in doing this will help you:
Develop empathy.
Reduce petty arguments.
Help you both communicate better.
3. Helping Yourself
3-1. Keep in touch with his family.
This may be difficult if you have just started dating each other, but if you have been seeing each other for a while, then you may already be comfortable with them. Keeping in touch with his family gives you another source of information, but more importantly, it gives you access to a support system of people who understand how you feel.
They might be hurting just like you or could be struggling with similar feelings. You all may benefit from relying on each other a little and supporting each other during this difficult time.
You may encounter some difficulty in getting information about your service member from the military, if you are not married. Therefore, sticking close to his family can be a good source of information that you may not have easy access to yet.
3-2. Find a community to connect to.
The group of people who are most likely to really understand what you are going though are other military girlfriends. Find an online community or a local community; if it is available where you live. As you make contacts and make friends, utilize these new friends for support. They may have some advice, or are having the same worries and fears you are. You'll find that these friends will be your greatest asset.
If you don't know where to start, try social media such as the US Navy's Loved Ones Facebook page.
There are also nonprofit groups such as Give an Hour.
Connect to other girlfriends or significant others through your service member's shipmates.
3-3. Keep busy.
As much as your service member will be on your mind, you want to make sure you continue to live your life as well. Try not to sit around waiting for a call or email. Keeping busy by finding a hobby, sport, or work task will help you to do something active to ease your stress and anxiety instead.
Learn something new, like a language or a musical instrument.
Pick up a new sport or fitness activity, like running or rock climbing.
Spend some time with friends, playing games, going to the movies, or just hanging out.
3-4. Be patient.
It may feel like there is a whole lot of "hurry up and wait" happening with your service member and his schedule. Try and be patient with the military as well as your service member because he is probably feeling frustrated by the same things you are. Exercising patience will help with your relationship as well as increase your happiness. Be particularly patient with the following:
Leave. Taking leave is a process that takes time and takes getting approval. So if you are some of the lucky few that can plan a vacation or a trip, it may take a little longer than you'd like to get everything planned and everyone on board.
Mail may take longer to get to your service member than you would like. Especially if he is on a ship, as you can imagine getting mail to him takes longer than regular mail. If they are overseas it could take up to a few months. Keep this in mind with care packages or mail.
3-5. Communicate how you are feeling.
Remember that there are going to be times when you are frustrated and sad. Avoid the impulse to hide that from your service member. It is important for your relationship that you are both open and honest with each other. It can be scary to discuss things like doubts and fears, but maybe they are feeling it too, and you'll feel better for talking about it. There are good ways to communicate how you feel and not so great ways, use these suggestions to help you.
Try to avoid blaming him. Instead of saying, “I'm mad because you never write me back!” try saying, “I'm really frustrated with our situation and schedules. I just wish I could talk to you or hear from you more.”
Use “I” statements when you are talking about how you feel. “I feel like we are drifting apart, or we are not as connected as before.”
Acknowledge the difficulty of the situation. “I know this sucks for the both of us, and there's probably nothing we can do about it. I just think it is important you know how I'm feeling.”
3-6. Stay committed and faithful.
It can be hard when you are working on a relationship long distance. Issues of jealousy, trust, and commitment may pop up on both sides. Avoid this potential negative long distance relationship downfall by discussing your feelings with your service member, and talking about your commitment to each other and the relationship regularly.
3-7. Find ways to cope with loneliness.
You might feel really lonely sometimes while your significant other is away. This is a normal reaction to your situation, but it is important to find ways to ease your loneliness.
Make sure that you spend time with friends and family. Do not isolate yourself from people. Try to plan some regular outings with people every week to keep yourself connected.
If you are invited to an event where a lot of couples will be present, then you might consider bringing a friend along as a “date” to help you feel less lonely. For example, you could ask another military girlfriend to be your plus one at a wedding.
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Learn the language.\\nYou may begin to notice your service member using words, phrases, or abbreviations you don't understand. Being in the military comes with its own culture and a language shift, with different branches of the military having different dialects to some extent. If he says something you don't understand, ask him what it means or do your own research. Learning the military language will help you and your service member communicate more easily. You may run into the following categories:\\nMilitary Terminology and Acronyms such as, \\\"base plan,\\\" \\\"NATOPS,\\\" or \\\"weaponeering.\\\"\\nNaval Terminology such as \\\"fathom,\\\" \\\"radar,\\\" or \\\"yaw.\\\"\\nNautical Terminology such as \\\"capsize,\\\" \\\"quarter,\\\" or \\\"squall.\\\"\\nDifferent types of vessels, such as boat (a waterborne vehicle smaller than a ship), ship (a larger vessel used for ocean travel), freighter (a ship designed to carry cargo), and submarine (a warship designed to operate completely submerged for long periods of time).\\n1-3. Write often.\\nStaying in contact is an important part to maintaining your emotional connection and coping with the time apart. Write your service member often and mix it up between letters, emails, and care packages. Each contact does not have to be lengthy, but the more regularly you are in contact the easier it will be to stay up to date with each other's lives. The more distance you put in between communications, the less you will know about each other’s day to day experiences and feelings of not being connected to each other may increase.\\nThe frequent communication that is required to maintain a long distance relationship may result in a stronger bond than a traditional face-to-face relationship.\\nYou may have different abilities and opportunities to communicate frequently due to the demands of each of your schedules. Try not to get discouraged. Your boyfriend’s schedule may be busy and he may be exhausted, but he will likely enjoy hearing about what is going on in your life and at home.\\n1-4. Follow the rules.\\nThere are rules about what your service member can talk about or even post on social media, and some of those rules apply to you too. Figure out what the rules are for your service member and his posts by asking him for guidelines. You can also research through the Naval Operations Security Support Team (NOST) for Operations Security brochures and training. When communicating through social media, email, and even on the phone, make sure to keep important information as secure as possible for safety. In general, avoid posting any information about your boyfriend’s:\\nLocation and movement.\\nFellow service members (such as names and ranks of the individuals).\\nFlight dates or time.\\n1-5. Respect that he may not be able to tell you everything.\\nJust like following the rules for what you tell everyone else, there may be some rules your service member has to follow about what he can or cannot share with family. There is a large security component to what service members do in every branch of the military. If there is something that he cannot tell you, trust that he is not doing it to hide something from you, but that he is just doing his job.\\n1-6. Know that your communications may not be private or reliable.\\nIt is hard to deal with methods of communication that are unreliable and schedules that may get in the way. Additionally, talk with your service member about the processing your communications go through before reaching him. Find out if the communications are subject to search or screening, and consider who might see what you are sending. This will help you decide what pictures to send if you want to include pictures, or what should go into a care package. Ask your service member:\\nWill packages be opened before they make it to you and searched for anything?\\nWill letters be opened before you receive them?\\nDoes anyone screen the emails?\\nIs there anything I shouldn't do or shouldn't send you?\\n1-7. Address any conflicts that arise\\nEven though you do not see your significant other every day, you might still have problems now and then that you will need to resolve. The best way to resolve a conflict over a distance is to talk about it openly and try to come to a collaborative resolution.\\nFor example, if you are upset with your significant other because he or she did not call you at an agreed upon time, then you would need to tell your significant other how you feel in a direct way. You might say, “I feel hurt because you did not call me when you said you would.”\\nThen, you would need to listen to your significant other’s reason for not calling. Your significant other might have had a valid reason or he might have simply forgotten.\\nTo resolve the conflict, you might suggest a solution, such as deciding on a more convenient time for your significant other to call you.\\nBe sure to pay attention to cues on the phone that your significant other might be upset about something, such as staying silent or being less talkative than usual. You might address this by saying something like, \\\"You're being more quiet than usual, are you upset or mad at me?\\\"\\n2. Helping Your Service Member\\n2-1. Encourage your service member as much as possible.\\nIt's going to be a stressful time for you both. You can help your service member through it by listening to him and encouraging him. Without your encouragement and support, your service member may get overwhelmed by the obstacles you are facing together. With your support, he may be able to refocus, continue on, and hopefully return the encouragement along the way when you are struggling.\\nTalk to him about how proud you are of him and what he is doing.\\nMention how you are proud to say you are a “service member's girlfriend.”\\nRemind him of everything he has accomplished so far (boot camp, training, other hurdles).\\nIf he is worried about the relationship, talk about how it is tough but that you will be so much stronger as a couple for going through it.\\nHelp him come up with a detailed plan of action for whatever problem or goal he is having.\\n2-2. Keep focused on the future.\\nThere may be days where your service member loves what he is doing, but there also may be some days where he is unhappy. During the days where things are a little harder, remind him what he is doing for both of your futures. If you are facing a deployment or trying to make it through boot camp, make plans for what you want to do when he gets home. If you are waiting until his next leave, have a creative countdown until the next time you can see each other.\\n2-3. Be flexible.\\nDepending on his assignments, commands, or duties, your service member's ability to communicate with you or take leave may change with short notice. The ability of any service member to take a vacation or a trip is wildly different than that of civilians. They are also limited to where they can go, where they will be stationed, or how much free time they have on any certain duty. Try and remain flexible to help with stress levels and expectations in your relationship. Some examples include:\\nIf he is deployed, know that his deployment length will depend on where is he deployed, what type of vessel he is deployed on, and his assignment or command.\\nHis command may have a radius of several miles which he won't be allowed to go outside of.\\nHe may have to stand duty for a certain amount of days at a time, meaning he may not to have a Monday through Friday work week.\\nYour ability to see them, how long you can see them, or where you two can connect may be different depending on the status of your relationship (married, engaged, or dating).\\nHis command may be on land or on a ship.\\n2-4. Put yourself in his shoes.\\nAs you are both working through this difficult time, practice shifting your perspective and imagining what he might be going through. It is hard for you to be without your service member, but remind yourself that he is without you as well as everyone else he is close to. He likely has to be away from and have limited communication with his family and friends who are not enlisted as well. Getting practice in doing this will help you: \\nDevelop empathy.\\nReduce petty arguments.\\nHelp you both communicate better.\\n3. Helping Yourself\\n3-1. Keep in touch with his family.\\nThis may be difficult if you have just started dating each other, but if you have been seeing each other for a while, then you may already be comfortable with them. Keeping in touch with his family gives you another source of information, but more importantly, it gives you access to a support system of people who understand how you feel.\\nThey might be hurting just like you or could be struggling with similar feelings. You all may benefit from relying on each other a little and supporting each other during this difficult time.\\nYou may encounter some difficulty in getting information about your service member from the military, if you are not married. Therefore, sticking close to his family can be a good source of information that you may not have easy access to yet.\\n3-2. Find a community to connect to.\\nThe group of people who are most likely to really understand what you are going though are other military girlfriends. Find an online community or a local community; if it is available where you live. As you make contacts and make friends, utilize these new friends for support. They may have some advice, or are having the same worries and fears you are. You'll find that these friends will be your greatest asset.\\nIf you don't know where to start, try social media such as the US Navy's Loved Ones Facebook page.\\nThere are also nonprofit groups such as Give an Hour.\\nConnect to other girlfriends or significant others through your service member's shipmates.\\n3-3. Keep busy.\\nAs much as your service member will be on your mind, you want to make sure you continue to live your life as well. Try not to sit around waiting for a call or email. Keeping busy by finding a hobby, sport, or work task will help you to do something active to ease your stress and anxiety instead.\\nLearn something new, like a language or a musical instrument.\\nPick up a new sport or fitness activity, like running or rock climbing.\\nSpend some time with friends, playing games, going to the movies, or just hanging out.\\n3-4. Be patient.\\nIt may feel like there is a whole lot of \\\"hurry up and wait\\\" happening with your service member and his schedule. Try and be patient with the military as well as your service member because he is probably feeling frustrated by the same things you are. Exercising patience will help with your relationship as well as increase your happiness. Be particularly patient with the following:\\nLeave. Taking leave is a process that takes time and takes getting approval. So if you are some of the lucky few that can plan a vacation or a trip, it may take a little longer than you'd like to get everything planned and everyone on board.\\nMail may take longer to get to your service member than you would like. Especially if he is on a ship, as you can imagine getting mail to him takes longer than regular mail. If they are overseas it could take up to a few months. Keep this in mind with care packages or mail.\\n3-5. Communicate how you are feeling.\\nRemember that there are going to be times when you are frustrated and sad. Avoid the impulse to hide that from your service member. It is important for your relationship that you are both open and honest with each other. It can be scary to discuss things like doubts and fears, but maybe they are feeling it too, and you'll feel better for talking about it. There are good ways to communicate how you feel and not so great ways, use these suggestions to help you.\\nTry to avoid blaming him. Instead of saying, “I'm mad because you never write me back!” try saying, “I'm really frustrated with our situation and schedules. I just wish I could talk to you or hear from you more.”\\nUse “I” statements when you are talking about how you feel. “I feel like we are drifting apart, or we are not as connected as before.”\\nAcknowledge the difficulty of the situation. “I know this sucks for the both of us, and there's probably nothing we can do about it. I just think it is important you know how I'm feeling.”\\n3-6. Stay committed and faithful.\\nIt can be hard when you are working on a relationship long distance. Issues of jealousy, trust, and commitment may pop up on both sides. Avoid this potential negative long distance relationship downfall by discussing your feelings with your service member, and talking about your commitment to each other and the relationship regularly.\\n3-7. Find ways to cope with loneliness.\\nYou might feel really lonely sometimes while your significant other is away. This is a normal reaction to your situation, but it is important to find ways to ease your loneliness.\\nMake sure that you spend time with friends and family. Do not isolate yourself from people. Try to plan some regular outings with people every week to keep yourself connected.\\nIf you are invited to an event where a lot of couples will be present, then you might consider bringing a friend along as a “date” to help you feel less lonely. For example, you could ask another military girlfriend to be your plus one at a wedding.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Dating someone in any branch of the military can be difficult. The travel, the communication, the strain on the relationship, and trying to understand their world, can only complicate matters further. Is your boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, or significant other in the military? Maybe you are just starting out dating each other, or maybe you are experiencing being without him for the first timed due to a post or a deployment. Learning how to communicate effectively, how to help your significant other with the separation, and how to help yourself with the distance may make all the difference.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Communicating Effectively\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask about how to contact him.\", \"描述\": \"Your service member may have many ways in which you can contact him or he may only have a few. Know the different methods to talk with your boyfriend and which one you should use for what situation. He probably has more than one email address, a civilian one and a military one. He may also have a mailing address and a phone number you could use. Talk with him about the best way to keep in contact. Some potential things to keep in mind include:\\nIf there is a phone number, it may be something you should only use for true emergencies, or something he can call out from but you cannot call in to.\\nHe may only have access to their military email, especially if he is on a ship, and his connection may be unreliable.\\nGetting mail such as handwritten letters and care packages may take significantly longer to get to him then you might think.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn the language.\", \"描述\": \"You may begin to notice your service member using words, phrases, or abbreviations you don't understand. Being in the military comes with its own culture and a language shift, with different branches of the military having different dialects to some extent. If he says something you don't understand, ask him what it means or do your own research. Learning the military language will help you and your service member communicate more easily. You may run into the following categories:\\nMilitary Terminology and Acronyms such as, \\\"base plan,\\\" \\\"NATOPS,\\\" or \\\"weaponeering.\\\"\\nNaval Terminology such as \\\"fathom,\\\" \\\"radar,\\\" or \\\"yaw.\\\"\\nNautical Terminology such as \\\"capsize,\\\" \\\"quarter,\\\" or \\\"squall.\\\"\\nDifferent types of vessels, such as boat (a waterborne vehicle smaller than a ship), ship (a larger vessel used for ocean travel), freighter (a ship designed to carry cargo), and submarine (a warship designed to operate completely submerged for long periods of time).\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Write often.\", \"描述\": \"Staying in contact is an important part to maintaining your emotional connection and coping with the time apart. Write your service member often and mix it up between letters, emails, and care packages. Each contact does not have to be lengthy, but the more regularly you are in contact the easier it will be to stay up to date with each other's lives. The more distance you put in between communications, the less you will know about each other’s day to day experiences and feelings of not being connected to each other may increase.\\nThe frequent communication that is required to maintain a long distance relationship may result in a stronger bond than a traditional face-to-face relationship.\\nYou may have different abilities and opportunities to communicate frequently due to the demands of each of your schedules. Try not to get discouraged. Your boyfriend’s schedule may be busy and he may be exhausted, but he will likely enjoy hearing about what is going on in your life and at home.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Follow the rules.\", \"描述\": \"There are rules about what your service member can talk about or even post on social media, and some of those rules apply to you too. Figure out what the rules are for your service member and his posts by asking him for guidelines. You can also research through the Naval Operations Security Support Team (NOST) for Operations Security brochures and training. When communicating through social media, email, and even on the phone, make sure to keep important information as secure as possible for safety. In general, avoid posting any information about your boyfriend’s:\\nLocation and movement.\\nFellow service members (such as names and ranks of the individuals).\\nFlight dates or time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Respect that he may not be able to tell you everything.\", \"描述\": \"Just like following the rules for what you tell everyone else, there may be some rules your service member has to follow about what he can or cannot share with family. There is a large security component to what service members do in every branch of the military. If there is something that he cannot tell you, trust that he is not doing it to hide something from you, but that he is just doing his job.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Know that your communications may not be private or reliable.\", \"描述\": \"It is hard to deal with methods of communication that are unreliable and schedules that may get in the way. Additionally, talk with your service member about the processing your communications go through before reaching him. Find out if the communications are subject to search or screening, and consider who might see what you are sending. This will help you decide what pictures to send if you want to include pictures, or what should go into a care package. 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Your significant other might have had a valid reason or he might have simply forgotten.\\nTo resolve the conflict, you might suggest a solution, such as deciding on a more convenient time for your significant other to call you.\\nBe sure to pay attention to cues on the phone that your significant other might be upset about something, such as staying silent or being less talkative than usual. You might address this by saying something like, \\\"You're being more quiet than usual, are you upset or mad at me?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Helping Your Service Member\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Encourage your service member as much as possible.\", \"描述\": \"It's going to be a stressful time for you both. You can help your service member through it by listening to him and encouraging him. Without your encouragement and support, your service member may get overwhelmed by the obstacles you are facing together. 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If you are facing a deployment or trying to make it through boot camp, make plans for what you want to do when he gets home. If you are waiting until his next leave, have a creative countdown until the next time you can see each other.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be flexible.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on his assignments, commands, or duties, your service member's ability to communicate with you or take leave may change with short notice. The ability of any service member to take a vacation or a trip is wildly different than that of civilians. They are also limited to where they can go, where they will be stationed, or how much free time they have on any certain duty. Try and remain flexible to help with stress levels and expectations in your relationship. Some examples include:\\nIf he is deployed, know that his deployment length will depend on where is he deployed, what type of vessel he is deployed on, and his assignment or command.\\nHis command may have a radius of several miles which he won't be allowed to go outside of.\\nHe may have to stand duty for a certain amount of days at a time, meaning he may not to have a Monday through Friday work week.\\nYour ability to see them, how long you can see them, or where you two can connect may be different depending on the status of your relationship (married, engaged, or dating).\\nHis command may be on land or on a ship.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Put yourself in his shoes.\", \"描述\": \"As you are both working through this difficult time, practice shifting your perspective and imagining what he might be going through. It is hard for you to be without your service member, but remind yourself that he is without you as well as everyone else he is close to. He likely has to be away from and have limited communication with his family and friends who are not enlisted as well. Getting practice in doing this will help you: \\nDevelop empathy.\\nReduce petty arguments.\\nHelp you both communicate better.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Helping Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep in touch with his family.\", \"描述\": \"This may be difficult if you have just started dating each other, but if you have been seeing each other for a while, then you may already be comfortable with them. Keeping in touch with his family gives you another source of information, but more importantly, it gives you access to a support system of people who understand how you feel.\\nThey might be hurting just like you or could be struggling with similar feelings. You all may benefit from relying on each other a little and supporting each other during this difficult time.\\nYou may encounter some difficulty in getting information about your service member from the military, if you are not married. Therefore, sticking close to his family can be a good source of information that you may not have easy access to yet.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find a community to connect to.\", \"描述\": \"The group of people who are most likely to really understand what you are going though are other military girlfriends. Find an online community or a local community; if it is available where you live. As you make contacts and make friends, utilize these new friends for support. They may have some advice, or are having the same worries and fears you are. You'll find that these friends will be your greatest asset.\\nIf you don't know where to start, try social media such as the US Navy's Loved Ones Facebook page.\\nThere are also nonprofit groups such as Give an Hour.\\nConnect to other girlfriends or significant others through your service member's shipmates.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep busy.\", \"描述\": \"As much as your service member will be on your mind, you want to make sure you continue to live your life as well. Try not to sit around waiting for a call or email. Keeping busy by finding a hobby, sport, or work task will help you to do something active to ease your stress and anxiety instead.\\nLearn something new, like a language or a musical instrument.\\nPick up a new sport or fitness activity, like running or rock climbing.\\nSpend some time with friends, playing games, going to the movies, or just hanging out.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be patient.\", \"描述\": \"It may feel like there is a whole lot of \\\"hurry up and wait\\\" happening with your service member and his schedule. Try and be patient with the military as well as your service member because he is probably feeling frustrated by the same things you are. Exercising patience will help with your relationship as well as increase your happiness. Be particularly patient with the following:\\nLeave. Taking leave is a process that takes time and takes getting approval. So if you are some of the lucky few that can plan a vacation or a trip, it may take a little longer than you'd like to get everything planned and everyone on board.\\nMail may take longer to get to your service member than you would like. Especially if he is on a ship, as you can imagine getting mail to him takes longer than regular mail. If they are overseas it could take up to a few months. Keep this in mind with care packages or mail.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Communicate how you are feeling.\", \"描述\": \"Remember that there are going to be times when you are frustrated and sad. Avoid the impulse to hide that from your service member. It is important for your relationship that you are both open and honest with each other. It can be scary to discuss things like doubts and fears, but maybe they are feeling it too, and you'll feel better for talking about it. There are good ways to communicate how you feel and not so great ways, use these suggestions to help you.\\nTry to avoid blaming him. Instead of saying, “I'm mad because you never write me back!” try saying, “I'm really frustrated with our situation and schedules. I just wish I could talk to you or hear from you more.”\\nUse “I” statements when you are talking about how you feel. “I feel like we are drifting apart, or we are not as connected as before.”\\nAcknowledge the difficulty of the situation. “I know this sucks for the both of us, and there's probably nothing we can do about it. I just think it is important you know how I'm feeling.”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stay committed and faithful.\", \"描述\": \"It can be hard when you are working on a relationship long distance. Issues of jealousy, trust, and commitment may pop up on both sides. 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1. How to Think Like a Nerd
1-1. Know the difference between a nerd, a geek, and a dork.
There may be significant overlap between the three, but if anyone would care about the subtle distinctions, it would be a nerd.
A is thought to be a highly intelligent person who has a singular passion about an academic pursuit. They tend to be either socially inept or asocial.
A is thought to be an individual who is always interested in a niche activity or subject, but who is not necessarily academically inclined nor as asocial as the nerd.
A is thought to be slightly sillier and not at all asocial, but perhaps not interested in a niche or academic pursuit.
1-2. Be singular.
In other words, act the only way you know how, in a way all your own. Nerds are renowned for being weird because they are, each in their own way, quite unique. Live your life like it's entirely your own, like you are the master of your own ship. By just being yourself and embracing your own eccentricities, you're already being weird. If you're looking for inspiration, read about some famous nerds in history. Here are three short vignettes of people, considered "nerds," who did entirely what they wanted:
Isaac Newton is a great example. He made many discoveries including the reflector telescope, differential and integral calculus, Laws of Motion and Gravitation, and colors of light. He was usually busy with his research work. He didn't talk much, and only slept about three hours a night. (He probably should have seen a doctor about that.)
Katherine Johnson worked for NASA as a "human computer." Her calculations were so accurate that she was asked to double-check the work of the actual computers. She co-authored 26 scientific papers.
Alan Turing is another famous nerd. Half-hero, half-scapegoat, Turing is credited with helping to crack the Nazi Enigma codes at the end of World War II, as well as playing an instrumental role in developing the first computers of the 20th century. Despite his achievements, he was later prosecuted by the British government for having a boyfriend and was forced to take estrogen injections to "neutralize his libido." Turing died of suicide not long after the trial.
1-3. Find a subject or subjects that you can immerse yourself in.
It doesn't need to be science-related, although researchers are finding that increasingly numbers of autistic individuals (who often qualify as nerdy) are drawn to science, technology, engineering and math (STEM majors). Learn as much as you can about the subjects you are interested in, and safeguard that knowledge so that you can use it effectively later on.
1-4. Question, constantly.
Many nerds are defined by their ability — some say habit — to question the information they receive until they are satisfied about its authenticity or understand the logic behind it. To be a nerd, you must be on an insatiable quest for knowledge. To be on an insatiable quest for knowledge, you must constantly question the quality, source, and utility of information you receive.
Don't trust information just because it comes from an authority figure. Nerds understand that figures of authority can sometimes get away with misleading or falsified information simply because of their power. Be willing to fact-check, especially if something seems off or too convenient.
Get to the root of things. A nerd will understand a question inside and out. A nerd will not rely on memorized information, but rather on understanding a concept. If a nerd asks the question "Why is the sky blue?" and is given the answer, "Because molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light," her next question will inevitably be: "Why do molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light?" they will continue the line of questioning until the answer relates to something they already understand completely.
1-5. Examine the details.
The devil may be in the details, but that doesn't mean you can't embrace them. (That was Vladimir Nabokov's advice to his students.) The nerd may prefer concrete details over generalizing statements because details can be cross-checked by reality more easily than generalities can. The nerd cares more about being right than appearing smart, so he grabs onto details as a way of investigating reality.
Many nerds gravitate towards sci, tech, eng, math, i.e.: STEM majors: STEMs deal plainly in facts and systems observable in nature, whereas many other more subjective disciplines lack the objective, fact-checking component.
Other nerds prefer more theoretical fields, such as abstract fields or the humanities. These also have room for analysis and discussion.
1-6. Go toward the gray areas.
No, this is not an obscure fashion directive; it's a way of thinking. Nerds tend to see gray areas where others see black and white. This is because nerds are good at examining pros and cons, comparison and contrasts, theses and rebuttals. They devalue their own opinion and focus on the "quantifiable" facts. Sometimes, this leaves them looking like occupational vacillators, constantly seesawing back and forth between "sides" of an argument (arguing with themselves, it may seem). In fact, they are gathering information and waiting for pre-aligned, set "opinion" (conclusion) to hit them with the force of facts, instead of forming an opinion (hypothesis) that one begins justifying by supporting facts.
While some areas are black and white (e.g. questions of basic science or respecting human rights), many areas aren't so simple. There may be exceptions, nuances, and qualifications. Look for those and see what you can learn from them.
There are several scientific/philosophical theories that nerds who love the gray area reference. It might be helpful to get familiar with just a few of them:
Thomas Kuhn's : Periods of "normal science" are interrupted by periods of "revolutionary science," called paradigm shifts that are relentlessly discussed and expounded (defined, diagrammed, flow-charted, mapped, extrapolated, spanning and forming a new amalgam, a new reality...). For STEMs adherents paradigm shifts are entirely new, focuses of scientific thinking and concentration.
Kurt Gödel's : It's impossible to establish consistency and completeness inside formal logical systems. In other words, all consistent axiomatic formulations of number theory include propositions/assumptions that are undecidable (fundamental elements of math include the undefined point, line, plain and space which are nonetheless bases to define large fields of mathematics).
1-7. Ask the experts.
If you know someone who is experienced in a certain field, ask them what they know. Pose questions, listen closely to their answers, and speak up if you don't understand yet, or if you disagree with them.
Remember, knowledge can come from surprising sources! Everyone is good at something. Practice intellectual humility and approach each person as if they have something new to teach you.
If you disagree with an expert, do so with respect and humility. It's possible they've heard your statement many times before and can tell you exactly how wrong it is.
1-8. Lose the ideas of genius and talent.
Being intelligent doesn't mean knowing everything; it means knowing things and being eager to learn more. Get comfortable with asking questions and being wrong. The quest for knowledge includes wrong turns and realizing that you don't know. Focus less on "What do I know?" and more on "What can I learn?"
2. How to Act Like a Nerd
2-1. Lose yourself in your passion.
Nerds get the reputation for being in the clouds half the time because their minds are wandering, probing distant places or complex correlations and equations. For this reason, don't be afraid to be aloof, if that's who you are. Lose yourself in the intellectual areas that make you happy and help you feel connected to the world, even if it means you seem disconnected by the "depth" and "displacement" involved in your internalizing a singular passion.
Your passion could be anything, from cryptology to philosophy to Norse mythology to philately. Whatever it is, make it a blast!
Set short- and long-term goals for yourself. The sooner you set yourself some goals (perhaps in an outline of variable and constant parameters, a rubric, or a protocol), the easier it will be to achieve them. Setting absorbing goals has the benefit of being especially nerdy!
2-2. Don't be afraid to go beyond the ordinary.
Think differently. Don't be afraid to tackle an idea or activity that isn't popular. (Realize that you may not have a great grasp of what is popular and what isn't in the first place. No matter!)
If you found that lining your car antenna with aluminum foil gives you better reception on the AM stations in your car, then go for it. A nerd does not care how their car looks if the radio station is playing properly.
If you propose to test all your friends for an antibody not yet known to science, then go for it (with your friends' consent). A nerd does not care whether the world doubts their methods and challenges their findings.
If you are interested in computer viruses and want to tell all your friends what a trojan is, then go for it! A lot of nerds like to learn about things that seem pointless to others.
2-3. Always keep learning.
A nerd is on a constant quest for knowledge. A nerd doesn't always care whether the information they receive has any utility. The mere fact that it's simple, profound, or counter-intuitive is enough to make it cool.
2-4. Read voraciously.
Read everything in your area(s) of interests that you can get your hands on, including reference books and encyclopedias. Read and watch the news enough everyday to be informed about what's going on beyond your community. Read fiction books, too, because they can help build your vocabulary and gives you a good sense of spelling. Read things that you like, but your parents don't approve of.
Take regular trips to the library. If you can't go physically, try checking out e-books.
Read a variety of nonfiction and fiction books. Nonfiction teaches you new things. Fiction teaches you new perspectives. (Look for books about people who are different from you, such as people of different cultures, races, or disabilities. Also check out books that tackle major social issues.)
Study related languages. Try to pick up a language just for kicks; or maybe because a subject your learning about has original sources in the native tongue. Experiment with web-based translation machines. If you feel that learning a language is too hard, then try and learn Pig Latin. Pig Latin has a set of rules to go by in order to speak it, so it is very easy to learn.
Extra cred goes to nerds who study a "dead" or fictional language, such as Cuman, Eyak, and Karankawa, or Elvish, Dothraki, or Klingon. Dead or fictional languages are exquisitely nerdy.
Note that informative reading doesn’t have to mean slogging through a dry, unbearable textbook. For an entertaining and informative read, try the funny physics classic Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman or The Feynman Lectures, any of Brian Greene’s very popular and accessible science bestsellers, or well-researched historical fiction like I, Claudius (whose unlikely hero survives a particularly brutal period in the Roman Empire).
2-5. Pay attention in school.
Try to get a seat where you can clearly hear, see the teacher and chalkboard, and pay attention. A good goal to set for yourself is to try getting mostly As in everything you do at school, including homework. Take notes, study for that test, and focus. Most of all, come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much if it's uninteresting or uncomfortable.
Try some extracurricular activities, such as robotics or math club, chess, or drama. Try to balance your extracurriculars so that they don't bring your grades down.
Ask a lot of questions in class. There is no such thing as a stupid question, remember? The only stupid question is the question you didn't ask.
Do research above and beyond what is taught in class. YouTube channels such as Khan Academy, Crash Course, Vsauce, Numberphile, CGP Grey to name a few, offer the opportunity to get ahead at the convenience and enjoyment of your computer.
Don't be afraid to look into online learning or get a tutor if you're struggling with a certain subject area. Everyone has certain subjects that don't come easily to them. Your school may offer free tutoring resources.
2-6. Channel any difficult feelings you may have into your passions.
Nerds deal with their anger and heartbreak in a productive way: they think very carefully and logically about what to do or say, or amend changes to their debate presentation before they lash out at other people. Don't cut yourself down. What other people say about you isn't necessarily who you are. Just don't pay attention to what they say about the way you are.
2-7. Take care of your body.
Make sure you take proper care of your body. Here are some things that help you stay sharp:
Eat a healthy diet.
Establish a regular sleep schedule. Aim for around 8+ hours to refresh your brain. As a nerd, your brain is one of your biggest assets in life, so you should take care of it.
Exercise regularly - even a nerd can be physically fit!
Brush your teeth, use floss, and use mouthwash. Regular tooth-brushing improves longevity and reduces a surprising amount of health risks.
Maintain good hygiene.
It's a common stereotype for nerds to have lots of allergies/health issues, but try to stay on top of all of your medications. For example, if you have asthma, always have your inhaler with you in case of an attack.
2-8. Be an optimist.
You're a nerd and you know it. But you're also willing to be optimistic. You like who you are, even if it doesn't seem like very many other people do. (That's okay, they simply don't understand you.) The friends that you do have are good people who make you feel like you want to be alive.
It may not always be easy. Life can be tough, but you can be equally tough. Nerds are resilient in challenging situations, willing to get up and keep going despite being knocked down.
If optimism feels impossible, that's a sign of a problem. A nerd doesn't keep trying the same things if it's clear they aren't working. Find ways to change your life to be more advantageous to your success and well-being. Consult a counselor or doctor if needed; they are experts, after all.
3. How to Dress Like a Nerd
3-1. You shouldn't have to worry too much about your fashion sense, because a nerd prizes comfort over style, so if it so happens that you love wearing sweatpants, then embrace it!
3-2. Consider practicality.
Pull long hair back out of your face. Wear clothes that don't itch and are good for walking, sitting, and running.
Look for clothes that have nerdy patterns, like plaid, argyle, or pinstripes. You can wear such patterns on your shirts, jackets, sweaters, or even your pants.
Bring a sweater to tie around your waist if needed. This way, you'll be prepared for variable temperatures.
If you're a female, only wear high heels if you can walk and run confidently in them. If you want to be taller, stick with kitten heels or platform shoes; a significant heel can cause foot damage and is definitely not practical.
Shoes that nerds are commonly associated with wearing are Chuck Taylor All-Stars, loafers, dress shoes, or boat shoes.
Measure your feet before you go shoe shopping. You want to make sure the shoes you buy give your feet plenty of support and comfort, and enough room for you to wiggle your toes.
If you have foot problems like flat feet, meet up with a podiatrist to have your feet examined - it's okay if you need to wear orthopedics!
Colored pants are a staple of the nerdy style. You can wear any pants you like, but only wear ones that are comfortable for you. Popular color choices include olive green, maroon, brown, gray, mustard yellow, and navy blue.
Khakis are a classic choice if colored pants aren't your thing.
Chino pants are a more casual alternative.
3-3. Use your shirts to make nerd references or jokes.
Look for ones that make you chuckle or smile. Math jokes, or obscure topics (binary code, Latin, etc.) work great, too, as do movie references.
Try using T-shirts to advertise your interest in your favorite video games, movies, books, or TV shows. This may attract new nerdy friends who like the same things.
Try on button-down shirts, long-sleeved or short-sleeved ones. You can wear it in a solid color or with a pattern. To appear dressier, wear a tie and keep the shirt buttoned up all the way.
Polo shirts are a more casual alternative if button-down shirts aren't your thing.
3-4. Wear glasses if you need them.
Glasses not help you see better, which is good for your overall health, but they're also the defining staple of the nerdy style, so they'll help increase your nerd quotient drastically. Find a pair of glasses you like, and you'll get used to wearing them in no time.
Because nerds aren't into fashion statements, wearing fake glasses isn't really a nerd thing. (Geeks and hipsters sometimes do this.)
Glasses can also help make you more attractive, as long as you wear them with confidence.
3-5. Sport ill-fitting clothes (if desired).
Nerds are infamous in the fashion world for wearing clothes that don't flatter their body type and are rather anachronistic, probably because their clothes are hand-me-downs. So if you're going for the nerd look, choose your wardrobe by lottery instead of carefully fitting the outfit together.
Some nerds go for the disheveled look (by accident or choice). There's nothing wrong with this as long as you're showered and clean.
3-6. Dress preppy.
Some nerds, but not all, have the preppy look on lock-down. A button-down shirt (tucked-in, of course), a vest, chino pants, and loafers, with a hint of messiness to tie it all together. Especially when worn during informal occasions, this style will get you pegged for a nerd in no time.
4. How to Socialize Like a Nerd
4-1. Be friendly.
A nerd may be very smart, but he or she never looks down on anyone who isn't as smart as he or she is. Work on being polite, gentle, and easygoing with everyone around you, whether they are a jock, a valley girl, or anyone who has an intellectual disability.
Sometimes, correcting others hurts more than it helps. If a person is sensitive or in a bad mood, or if the situation isn't good, let it slide. (With the exception of health issues, of course.) If you know that a person prefers to be corrected, discreetly correct them and don't make it a big deal.
Support fellow nerds. If you should find one getting bullied or snubbed by his or her non-nerdy peers, be there for him or her. Introduce yourself and invite him or her to spend time together with you so you can get to know each other better.
4-2. Use the right words.
Nerds are usually pretty good with words because they care about getting things right. It doesn't hurt that they may read more in a month than the average American reads in a year. Regardless, the misconception out there is that nerds use big words. Wrong. Nerds use the right word given the context. Sometimes, the right word happens to be a big one. Very smart nerds have the ability to use incredibly basic words to explain incredibly complex subject matter.
Make the dictionary and thesaurus your friend. Whenever you come across a word you don't know, consult the dictionary. Whenever you believe you could be using a better word given the circumstances, consult a thesaurus.
Skip the overly complex or obscure words if you're talking to a child or someone with a limited vocabulary. The point of communication is to share ideas, not make the other person feel inferior.
Recognize that prioritizing other things doesn't mean someone is unintelligent or boring. Some people who love to style hair are interested in the chemistry that is used to make hair products. Some football players love the theatre and acting.
It's good to be friends with fellow nerds, though you shouldn't judge non-nerdy people for not being "smart." Maybe they didn't have the same educational opportunities as you have had or they have a disability. They still could be interesting in other ways, and you never know what you could learn from them.
4-3. Seek good, wholesome fun.
Nerds are fun-loving and playful, with activities such as LAN parties, having movie marathons, playing role-playing or tabletop games, or collecting things (like comic books, rocks and minerals, or film paraphernalia) being examples of typical nerdy activities. You can enjoy them alone (independence can be good) or with your new nerdy friends (the more the merrier!)!
Be cautious about alcohol, especially if you are underage. This can impair your judgment and could harm your ability to recognize harmful or dangerous activities.
Say "no thanks" if anyone offers you drugs.
4-4. Find friends with similar interests.
While geeks often navigate between social groups, nerds are more likely to associate with other nerds, because of common interests. Maybe if you're an abstract thinker, try to find a nerd who's more practical or technical, and vice versa. Having a friend, or a set of friends, who complement you is as much as anyone could ask for.
If you don’t know any nerds who are interested in what you do, find a community online or try to get your own friends interested in aspects of nerdiness. The web is increasingly becoming an important social community for nerds, mainly because of its focus on free expression and its utility as platform for technology.
Don't be afraid to branch out to non-nerdy friends too. They have their own values and interesting perspectives.
Tips
Here's a list of suggestions of different types of nerds, not stereotypes; these are sketches, not rules:
Anime/Manga nerd—a nerd who is obsessed with Anime or Manga, and basically everything Japanese in general. Also called 'Wapanese' (a more derogatory term meaning white people who pretend to be Japanese). Nerds of these sorts also call themselves 'Otaku,' which is a Japanese insult meaning 'fanatic.' (The term is not generally recognized outside of Japan, and is used mostly by American anime and manga fans.) The Otaku community is not just a group of rabid fans; they are often prolific and creative fan fiction writers. Otaku often attend anime and manga conventions, and sometimes engage in cosplay. Otaku are generally common, and easy to find in a group of nerds.
Comic book nerd- these are nerds that are interested in comic books and comic book characters, especially superheroes. You can be a nerd about the Marvel/DC Comics superhero franchise or you can be interested in other, non manga comic books and graphic novels such as The Archies. These nerds are similar to the manga nerds and they may be involved in activities such as cosplaying.
Music nerd—also called "band geeks." These nerds got groove. They're usually seen with their instrument of choice or silently tapping out complicated drum rhythms.
DJ nerd—practices constantly, hordes vinyl in massive quantities, and can remember the artist, track name, record label, year of release, and a million other obscure details about every record ever released in their chosen favorite genre. They also like to make DJ playlists for their own benefit.
Computer nerd—helpful, and can compile a kernel in a heartbeat. They know at least 1 programming language, and are skilled hackers. Usually seen putting the finishing touches on a website or helping the computer-tech teacher.
Video game nerd—these nerds are becoming more common daily. Always seen playing and competing in the latest games, they are the progenitors of the '1337' language, and usually identify each other by conversing in it. A sub-class of the Computer nerd. However, video games are more of a geek thing.
Factoid nerd—annoying at times, but weirdly endearing. Can recite dozens of things no one needed to know — from the full "Hamlet's Soliloquy" to the nutritional value of goat's milk (not just trivia, but things might matter in your knowledge-base).
History nerd—Knows everything about their favorite time period(s). Compares everyday life to historical events. Is a historian by a young age and could beat out college students in American Government class.
Competitive nerd—compares results, too much; may breathe loudly, and also glance around to see who's not finished, in their marginal time—has to be the first one done (or the last one, if it requires depth and thoroughness). Often alienates others. Always wants to be the best at everything, especially in academics.
Dorky nerd—gifted with a natural lack of grace and style. They have difficulty carrying on a conversation about topics that are not their obsession. Nevertheless, they are often sweet and endearing.
Drama nerd—possessed with an attitude, which is rare in other types of nerds. They know the ins and outs of many theater arts, including dance, mime, chorus, et cetera.
Math nerd—usually knows calculus at a young age or another form of advanced math. They enjoy playing with numbers and learning more than what is taught in school. You can get math nerd stuff such as tutorials on the Internet.[13]
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Natural science nerd—initially a generalist, he/she almost always specializes in one form of science (biology, physics, astronomy, chemistry, geology) at a very young age and proceeds to become a super-specialist.
"Sci-Fi" nerd—a nerd who loves Star Wars, X-Files, Comics, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Stargate SG-1 or Stargate Atlantis, Lexx, Farsape, Andromeda, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Zombies and/or Star Trek. May be a geek.
Literature nerd—specializes in fiction, almost always seen to be reading or composing post-modern essays. Usually has a favorite era of literature. Known to be able to produce a notebook out of nowhere. Distinct from emo poets.
Speech nerd—speaks clearly and enunciates well. Launch randomly into friendly lectures. Never shuts up. Speaks too passionately for this subject, compared to the average person's disinterest.
Debate nerd—always firm in their beliefs. They do their homework on controversial issues, so don't mess with them! They can be found in debate clubs (obviously) and are usually holding some sort of argument even if they're just playing devils advocate.
No-crap nerd—these nerds will not deal with others' bad behavior and will stand strong with what they know and believe. These nerds may also take martial art, weightlifting classes, boxing, etc. to be able to stand up and fight, a rarity among nerds.
Fabricator nerd—can design and build engineering and physics projects, and use power tools like nobody's business. They know how to work everything from a soldering iron to a chainsaw... sometimes without even checking a manual. Many construction nerds are robotic nerds.
Robotics nerd—joins programs like BEST, FIRST, or other after-school robotics clubs. They can usually work any kind of remote (and with lightening speed) and are usually good with electronics/computers.
Rail nerd—a nerd who has an obsession with railways, usually known as a trainspotter. Often seen at a station with a notebook, camera, or binoculars.
Road nerd—Also called a road geek, these nerds specialize in roads. They go to "road meets", and drive around a lot.
Hot nerd—The most elusive of all nerds, due challenges in identifying the species by sight alone. Demands an approximately 1:1:1 ratio of cute, funny, and intelligent. Common traits include: individual activities (willing to separate from the pack), ability and willingness to read a book outside of Stephen King, Michael Crichton or John Grisham, tends to be quiet yet articulate; a subtle sense of humor and quick wit... and, of course, cuteness.
Cool nerd—this is a social classing of a nerd, also referred to as 'popular nerds.' However, don't be deceived by the words "cool" or "popular." These nerds still have their quirks, it just means that they are more sociable than other nerds. Most cool nerds have a good sense of humor and dress in an edgy, fashionable way.
Awkward nerd—this is the second type of social classing for nerds. These nerds can range from socially inept to just annoying, but basically boil down to awkward (hence the name). Being awkward isn't a completely bad thing. They have friends and meet all the requirements of being a nerd, but they normally have less of a social life.
Social science nerds—Usually dwell in fields such as psychology, sociology, economics, anthropology, and political science. These guys take the crown for jargon, articulation, and long-windedness. Although their ideas are often overlooked, they still manage to propose earth-shattering epiphanies about human behavior.
Astronomy nerd -- They are very interested in astronomy and know a lot about it. These nerds will sometimes have themselves nose deep in an astronomy book.
If you make mistakes in the exam, check with your teacher straight away to know what they are, so you can correct them in the future. Bargain for marks if you have to; there is nothing wrong in that if you are serious about education.
Be yourself. Do you like to solve equations all the time? Go on then!
Warnings
Don't become so consumed with your obsession that you lose sight of reality. A balanced life is important, and a good nerd recognizes the value of other pursuits. Too much specialization is unhealthy.
If you constantly bully or mock someone who is less intelligent than you, they could get their friends to mock you or bully back.
Not everyone in your life will like you for your nerdiness. Some may bully or try to convince you that "No, you have it wrong..." and your nerdy style (or nerds in general) aren't cool. Whatever you do, be faithful to truth and accuracy. Listen to new ideas if they have worth, and don't become bogged down by stuffy ideologies or bland stereotypes.
If you want to be a computer nerd, don't use Internet Explorer or Microsoft Edge. They are bad browsers and are the "default browsers" on your computer. The same thing with the Apple Safari on Apple products. Good web browsers are Firefox and Google Chrome. Better yet, use a more obscure, less mainstream browsers such as Opera. Never refer to either web browser by their full name, IE and FF are popular acronyms for the first two. GC to represent Google Chrome is outdated - use "chrome" instead
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Question, constantly.\\nMany nerds are defined by their ability — some say habit — to question the information they receive until they are satisfied about its authenticity or understand the logic behind it. To be a nerd, you must be on an insatiable quest for knowledge. To be on an insatiable quest for knowledge, you must constantly question the quality, source, and utility of information you receive. \\nDon't trust information just because it comes from an authority figure. Nerds understand that figures of authority can sometimes get away with misleading or falsified information simply because of their power. Be willing to fact-check, especially if something seems off or too convenient.\\nGet to the root of things. A nerd will understand a question inside and out. A nerd will not rely on memorized information, but rather on understanding a concept. If a nerd asks the question \\\"Why is the sky blue?\\\" and is given the answer, \\\"Because molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light,\\\" her next question will inevitably be: \\\"Why do molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light?\\\" they will continue the line of questioning until the answer relates to something they already understand completely.\\n1-5. Examine the details.\\nThe devil may be in the details, but that doesn't mean you can't embrace them. (That was Vladimir Nabokov's advice to his students.) The nerd may prefer concrete details over generalizing statements because details can be cross-checked by reality more easily than generalities can. The nerd cares more about being right than appearing smart, so he grabs onto details as a way of investigating reality. \\nMany nerds gravitate towards sci, tech, eng, math, i.e.: STEM majors: STEMs deal plainly in facts and systems observable in nature, whereas many other more subjective disciplines lack the objective, fact-checking component.\\nOther nerds prefer more theoretical fields, such as abstract fields or the humanities. These also have room for analysis and discussion.\\n1-6. Go toward the gray areas.\\nNo, this is not an obscure fashion directive; it's a way of thinking. Nerds tend to see gray areas where others see black and white. This is because nerds are good at examining pros and cons, comparison and contrasts, theses and rebuttals. They devalue their own opinion and focus on the \\\"quantifiable\\\" facts. Sometimes, this leaves them looking like occupational vacillators, constantly seesawing back and forth between \\\"sides\\\" of an argument (arguing with themselves, it may seem). In fact, they are gathering information and waiting for pre-aligned, set \\\"opinion\\\" (conclusion) to hit them with the force of facts, instead of forming an opinion (hypothesis) that one begins justifying by supporting facts. \\nWhile some areas are black and white (e.g. questions of basic science or respecting human rights), many areas aren't so simple. There may be exceptions, nuances, and qualifications. Look for those and see what you can learn from them.\\nThere are several scientific/philosophical theories that nerds who love the gray area reference. It might be helpful to get familiar with just a few of them:\\nThomas Kuhn's : Periods of \\\"normal science\\\" are interrupted by periods of \\\"revolutionary science,\\\" called paradigm shifts that are relentlessly discussed and expounded (defined, diagrammed, flow-charted, mapped, extrapolated, spanning and forming a new amalgam, a new reality...). For STEMs adherents paradigm shifts are entirely new, focuses of scientific thinking and concentration.\\nKurt Gödel's : It's impossible to establish consistency and completeness inside formal logical systems. In other words, all consistent axiomatic formulations of number theory include propositions/assumptions that are undecidable (fundamental elements of math include the undefined point, line, plain and space which are nonetheless bases to define large fields of mathematics).\\n1-7. Ask the experts.\\nIf you know someone who is experienced in a certain field, ask them what they know. Pose questions, listen closely to their answers, and speak up if you don't understand yet, or if you disagree with them. \\nRemember, knowledge can come from surprising sources! Everyone is good at something. Practice intellectual humility and approach each person as if they have something new to teach you.\\nIf you disagree with an expert, do so with respect and humility. It's possible they've heard your statement many times before and can tell you exactly how wrong it is.\\n1-8. Lose the ideas of genius and talent.\\nBeing intelligent doesn't mean knowing everything; it means knowing things and being eager to learn more. Get comfortable with asking questions and being wrong. The quest for knowledge includes wrong turns and realizing that you don't know. Focus less on \\\"What do I know?\\\" and more on \\\"What can I learn?\\\"\\n2. How to Act Like a Nerd\\n2-1. Lose yourself in your passion.\\nNerds get the reputation for being in the clouds half the time because their minds are wandering, probing distant places or complex correlations and equations. For this reason, don't be afraid to be aloof, if that's who you are. Lose yourself in the intellectual areas that make you happy and help you feel connected to the world, even if it means you seem disconnected by the \\\"depth\\\" and \\\"displacement\\\" involved in your internalizing a singular passion. \\nYour passion could be anything, from cryptology to philosophy to Norse mythology to philately. Whatever it is, make it a blast!\\nSet short- and long-term goals for yourself. The sooner you set yourself some goals (perhaps in an outline of variable and constant parameters, a rubric, or a protocol), the easier it will be to achieve them. Setting absorbing goals has the benefit of being especially nerdy!\\n2-2. Don't be afraid to go beyond the ordinary.\\nThink differently. Don't be afraid to tackle an idea or activity that isn't popular. (Realize that you may not have a great grasp of what is popular and what isn't in the first place. No matter!) \\nIf you found that lining your car antenna with aluminum foil gives you better reception on the AM stations in your car, then go for it. A nerd does not care how their car looks if the radio station is playing properly.\\nIf you propose to test all your friends for an antibody not yet known to science, then go for it (with your friends' consent). A nerd does not care whether the world doubts their methods and challenges their findings.\\nIf you are interested in computer viruses and want to tell all your friends what a trojan is, then go for it! A lot of nerds like to learn about things that seem pointless to others.\\n2-3. Always keep learning.\\nA nerd is on a constant quest for knowledge. A nerd doesn't always care whether the information they receive has any utility. The mere fact that it's simple, profound, or counter-intuitive is enough to make it cool.\\n2-4. Read voraciously.\\nRead everything in your area(s) of interests that you can get your hands on, including reference books and encyclopedias. Read and watch the news enough everyday to be informed about what's going on beyond your community. Read fiction books, too, because they can help build your vocabulary and gives you a good sense of spelling. Read things that you like, but your parents don't approve of. \\nTake regular trips to the library. If you can't go physically, try checking out e-books.\\nRead a variety of nonfiction and fiction books. Nonfiction teaches you new things. Fiction teaches you new perspectives. (Look for books about people who are different from you, such as people of different cultures, races, or disabilities. Also check out books that tackle major social issues.)\\nStudy related languages. Try to pick up a language just for kicks; or maybe because a subject your learning about has original sources in the native tongue. Experiment with web-based translation machines. If you feel that learning a language is too hard, then try and learn Pig Latin. Pig Latin has a set of rules to go by in order to speak it, so it is very easy to learn.\\nExtra cred goes to nerds who study a \\\"dead\\\" or fictional language, such as Cuman, Eyak, and Karankawa, or Elvish, Dothraki, or Klingon. Dead or fictional languages are exquisitely nerdy.\\nNote that informative reading doesn’t have to mean slogging through a dry, unbearable textbook. For an entertaining and informative read, try the funny physics classic Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman or The Feynman Lectures, any of Brian Greene’s very popular and accessible science bestsellers, or well-researched historical fiction like I, Claudius (whose unlikely hero survives a particularly brutal period in the Roman Empire).\\n2-5. Pay attention in school.\\nTry to get a seat where you can clearly hear, see the teacher and chalkboard, and pay attention. A good goal to set for yourself is to try getting mostly As in everything you do at school, including homework. Take notes, study for that test, and focus. Most of all, come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much if it's uninteresting or uncomfortable. \\nTry some extracurricular activities, such as robotics or math club, chess, or drama. Try to balance your extracurriculars so that they don't bring your grades down.\\nAsk a lot of questions in class. There is no such thing as a stupid question, remember? The only stupid question is the question you didn't ask.\\nDo research above and beyond what is taught in class. YouTube channels such as Khan Academy, Crash Course, Vsauce, Numberphile, CGP Grey to name a few, offer the opportunity to get ahead at the convenience and enjoyment of your computer.\\nDon't be afraid to look into online learning or get a tutor if you're struggling with a certain subject area. Everyone has certain subjects that don't come easily to them. Your school may offer free tutoring resources.\\n2-6. Channel any difficult feelings you may have into your passions.\\nNerds deal with their anger and heartbreak in a productive way: they think very carefully and logically about what to do or say, or amend changes to their debate presentation before they lash out at other people. Don't cut yourself down. What other people say about you isn't necessarily who you are. Just don't pay attention to what they say about the way you are.\\n2-7. Take care of your body.\\nMake sure you take proper care of your body. Here are some things that help you stay sharp: \\n\\nEat a healthy diet.\\nEstablish a regular sleep schedule. Aim for around 8+ hours to refresh your brain. As a nerd, your brain is one of your biggest assets in life, so you should take care of it.\\nExercise regularly - even a nerd can be physically fit!\\nBrush your teeth, use floss, and use mouthwash. Regular tooth-brushing improves longevity and reduces a surprising amount of health risks.\\nMaintain good hygiene.\\nIt's a common stereotype for nerds to have lots of allergies/health issues, but try to stay on top of all of your medications. For example, if you have asthma, always have your inhaler with you in case of an attack.\\n2-8. Be an optimist.\\nYou're a nerd and you know it. But you're also willing to be optimistic. You like who you are, even if it doesn't seem like very many other people do. (That's okay, they simply don't understand you.) The friends that you do have are good people who make you feel like you want to be alive. \\nIt may not always be easy. Life can be tough, but you can be equally tough. Nerds are resilient in challenging situations, willing to get up and keep going despite being knocked down.\\nIf optimism feels impossible, that's a sign of a problem. A nerd doesn't keep trying the same things if it's clear they aren't working. Find ways to change your life to be more advantageous to your success and well-being. Consult a counselor or doctor if needed; they are experts, after all.\\n3. How to Dress Like a Nerd\\n3-1. You shouldn't have to worry too much about your fashion sense, because a nerd prizes comfort over style, so if it so happens that you love wearing sweatpants, then embrace it!\\n\\n3-2. Consider practicality.\\nPull long hair back out of your face. Wear clothes that don't itch and are good for walking, sitting, and running. \\nLook for clothes that have nerdy patterns, like plaid, argyle, or pinstripes. You can wear such patterns on your shirts, jackets, sweaters, or even your pants.\\nBring a sweater to tie around your waist if needed. This way, you'll be prepared for variable temperatures.\\nIf you're a female, only wear high heels if you can walk and run confidently in them. If you want to be taller, stick with kitten heels or platform shoes; a significant heel can cause foot damage and is definitely not practical.\\nShoes that nerds are commonly associated with wearing are Chuck Taylor All-Stars, loafers, dress shoes, or boat shoes.\\nMeasure your feet before you go shoe shopping. You want to make sure the shoes you buy give your feet plenty of support and comfort, and enough room for you to wiggle your toes.\\nIf you have foot problems like flat feet, meet up with a podiatrist to have your feet examined - it's okay if you need to wear orthopedics!\\nColored pants are a staple of the nerdy style. You can wear any pants you like, but only wear ones that are comfortable for you. Popular color choices include olive green, maroon, brown, gray, mustard yellow, and navy blue.\\nKhakis are a classic choice if colored pants aren't your thing.\\nChino pants are a more casual alternative.\\n3-3. Use your shirts to make nerd references or jokes.\\nLook for ones that make you chuckle or smile. Math jokes, or obscure topics (binary code, Latin, etc.) work great, too, as do movie references. \\nTry using T-shirts to advertise your interest in your favorite video games, movies, books, or TV shows. This may attract new nerdy friends who like the same things.\\nTry on button-down shirts, long-sleeved or short-sleeved ones. You can wear it in a solid color or with a pattern. To appear dressier, wear a tie and keep the shirt buttoned up all the way.\\nPolo shirts are a more casual alternative if button-down shirts aren't your thing.\\n3-4. Wear glasses if you need them.\\nGlasses not help you see better, which is good for your overall health, but they're also the defining staple of the nerdy style, so they'll help increase your nerd quotient drastically. Find a pair of glasses you like, and you'll get used to wearing them in no time.\\nBecause nerds aren't into fashion statements, wearing fake glasses isn't really a nerd thing. (Geeks and hipsters sometimes do this.)\\nGlasses can also help make you more attractive, as long as you wear them with confidence.\\n3-5. Sport ill-fitting clothes (if desired).\\nNerds are infamous in the fashion world for wearing clothes that don't flatter their body type and are rather anachronistic, probably because their clothes are hand-me-downs. So if you're going for the nerd look, choose your wardrobe by lottery instead of carefully fitting the outfit together. \\nSome nerds go for the disheveled look (by accident or choice). There's nothing wrong with this as long as you're showered and clean.\\n3-6. Dress preppy.\\nSome nerds, but not all, have the preppy look on lock-down. A button-down shirt (tucked-in, of course), a vest, chino pants, and loafers, with a hint of messiness to tie it all together. Especially when worn during informal occasions, this style will get you pegged for a nerd in no time.\\n4. How to Socialize Like a Nerd\\n4-1. Be friendly.\\nA nerd may be very smart, but he or she never looks down on anyone who isn't as smart as he or she is. Work on being polite, gentle, and easygoing with everyone around you, whether they are a jock, a valley girl, or anyone who has an intellectual disability. \\nSometimes, correcting others hurts more than it helps. If a person is sensitive or in a bad mood, or if the situation isn't good, let it slide. (With the exception of health issues, of course.) If you know that a person prefers to be corrected, discreetly correct them and don't make it a big deal.\\nSupport fellow nerds. If you should find one getting bullied or snubbed by his or her non-nerdy peers, be there for him or her. Introduce yourself and invite him or her to spend time together with you so you can get to know each other better.\\n4-2. Use the right words.\\nNerds are usually pretty good with words because they care about getting things right. It doesn't hurt that they may read more in a month than the average American reads in a year. Regardless, the misconception out there is that nerds use big words. Wrong. Nerds use the right word given the context. Sometimes, the right word happens to be a big one. Very smart nerds have the ability to use incredibly basic words to explain incredibly complex subject matter. \\nMake the dictionary and thesaurus your friend. Whenever you come across a word you don't know, consult the dictionary. Whenever you believe you could be using a better word given the circumstances, consult a thesaurus.\\nSkip the overly complex or obscure words if you're talking to a child or someone with a limited vocabulary. The point of communication is to share ideas, not make the other person feel inferior.\\nRecognize that prioritizing other things doesn't mean someone is unintelligent or boring. Some people who love to style hair are interested in the chemistry that is used to make hair products. Some football players love the theatre and acting.\\nIt's good to be friends with fellow nerds, though you shouldn't judge non-nerdy people for not being \\\"smart.\\\" Maybe they didn't have the same educational opportunities as you have had or they have a disability. They still could be interesting in other ways, and you never know what you could learn from them.\\n4-3. Seek good, wholesome fun.\\nNerds are fun-loving and playful, with activities such as LAN parties, having movie marathons, playing role-playing or tabletop games, or collecting things (like comic books, rocks and minerals, or film paraphernalia) being examples of typical nerdy activities. You can enjoy them alone (independence can be good) or with your new nerdy friends (the more the merrier!)! \\nBe cautious about alcohol, especially if you are underage. This can impair your judgment and could harm your ability to recognize harmful or dangerous activities.\\nSay \\\"no thanks\\\" if anyone offers you drugs.\\n4-4. Find friends with similar interests.\\nWhile geeks often navigate between social groups, nerds are more likely to associate with other nerds, because of common interests. Maybe if you're an abstract thinker, try to find a nerd who's more practical or technical, and vice versa. Having a friend, or a set of friends, who complement you is as much as anyone could ask for. \\nIf you don’t know any nerds who are interested in what you do, find a community online or try to get your own friends interested in aspects of nerdiness. The web is increasingly becoming an important social community for nerds, mainly because of its focus on free expression and its utility as platform for technology.\\nDon't be afraid to branch out to non-nerdy friends too. They have their own values and interesting perspectives.\\nTips\\nHere's a list of suggestions of different types of nerds, not stereotypes; these are sketches, not rules:\\n\\nAnime/Manga nerd—a nerd who is obsessed with Anime or Manga, and basically everything Japanese in general. Also called 'Wapanese' (a more derogatory term meaning white people who pretend to be Japanese). Nerds of these sorts also call themselves 'Otaku,' which is a Japanese insult meaning 'fanatic.' (The term is not generally recognized outside of Japan, and is used mostly by American anime and manga fans.) The Otaku community is not just a group of rabid fans; they are often prolific and creative fan fiction writers. Otaku often attend anime and manga conventions, and sometimes engage in cosplay. Otaku are generally common, and easy to find in a group of nerds.\\nComic book nerd- these are nerds that are interested in comic books and comic book characters, especially superheroes. You can be a nerd about the Marvel/DC Comics superhero franchise or you can be interested in other, non manga comic books and graphic novels such as The Archies. These nerds are similar to the manga nerds and they may be involved in activities such as cosplaying.\\nMusic nerd—also called \\\"band geeks.\\\" These nerds got groove. They're usually seen with their instrument of choice or silently tapping out complicated drum rhythms.\\nDJ nerd—practices constantly, hordes vinyl in massive quantities, and can remember the artist, track name, record label, year of release, and a million other obscure details about every record ever released in their chosen favorite genre. They also like to make DJ playlists for their own benefit.\\nComputer nerd—helpful, and can compile a kernel in a heartbeat. They know at least 1 programming language, and are skilled hackers. Usually seen putting the finishing touches on a website or helping the computer-tech teacher.\\nVideo game nerd—these nerds are becoming more common daily. Always seen playing and competing in the latest games, they are the progenitors of the '1337' language, and usually identify each other by conversing in it. A sub-class of the Computer nerd. However, video games are more of a geek thing.\\nFactoid nerd—annoying at times, but weirdly endearing. Can recite dozens of things no one needed to know — from the full \\\"Hamlet's Soliloquy\\\" to the nutritional value of goat's milk (not just trivia, but things might matter in your knowledge-base).\\nHistory nerd—Knows everything about their favorite time period(s). Compares everyday life to historical events. Is a historian by a young age and could beat out college students in American Government class.\\nCompetitive nerd—compares results, too much; may breathe loudly, and also glance around to see who's not finished, in their marginal time—has to be the first one done (or the last one, if it requires depth and thoroughness). Often alienates others. Always wants to be the best at everything, especially in academics.\\nDorky nerd—gifted with a natural lack of grace and style. They have difficulty carrying on a conversation about topics that are not their obsession. Nevertheless, they are often sweet and endearing.\\nDrama nerd—possessed with an attitude, which is rare in other types of nerds. They know the ins and outs of many theater arts, including dance, mime, chorus, et cetera.\\nMath nerd—usually knows calculus at a young age or another form of advanced math. They enjoy playing with numbers and learning more than what is taught in school. You can get math nerd stuff such as tutorials on the Internet.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nNatural science nerd—initially a generalist, he/she almost always specializes in one form of science (biology, physics, astronomy, chemistry, geology) at a very young age and proceeds to become a super-specialist.\\n\\\"Sci-Fi\\\" nerd—a nerd who loves Star Wars, X-Files, Comics, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Stargate SG-1 or Stargate Atlantis, Lexx, Farsape, Andromeda, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Zombies and/or Star Trek. May be a geek.\\nLiterature nerd—specializes in fiction, almost always seen to be reading or composing post-modern essays. Usually has a favorite era of literature. Known to be able to produce a notebook out of nowhere. Distinct from emo poets.\\nSpeech nerd—speaks clearly and enunciates well. Launch randomly into friendly lectures. Never shuts up. Speaks too passionately for this subject, compared to the average person's disinterest.\\nDebate nerd—always firm in their beliefs. They do their homework on controversial issues, so don't mess with them! They can be found in debate clubs (obviously) and are usually holding some sort of argument even if they're just playing devils advocate.\\nNo-crap nerd—these nerds will not deal with others' bad behavior and will stand strong with what they know and believe. These nerds may also take martial art, weightlifting classes, boxing, etc. to be able to stand up and fight, a rarity among nerds.\\nFabricator nerd—can design and build engineering and physics projects, and use power tools like nobody's business. They know how to work everything from a soldering iron to a chainsaw... sometimes without even checking a manual. Many construction nerds are robotic nerds.\\nRobotics nerd—joins programs like BEST, FIRST, or other after-school robotics clubs. They can usually work any kind of remote (and with lightening speed) and are usually good with electronics/computers.\\nRail nerd—a nerd who has an obsession with railways, usually known as a trainspotter. Often seen at a station with a notebook, camera, or binoculars.\\nRoad nerd—Also called a road geek, these nerds specialize in roads. They go to \\\"road meets\\\", and drive around a lot.\\nHot nerd—The most elusive of all nerds, due challenges in identifying the species by sight alone. Demands an approximately 1:1:1 ratio of cute, funny, and intelligent. Common traits include: individual activities (willing to separate from the pack), ability and willingness to read a book outside of Stephen King, Michael Crichton or John Grisham, tends to be quiet yet articulate; a subtle sense of humor and quick wit... and, of course, cuteness.\\nCool nerd—this is a social classing of a nerd, also referred to as 'popular nerds.' However, don't be deceived by the words \\\"cool\\\" or \\\"popular.\\\" These nerds still have their quirks, it just means that they are more sociable than other nerds. Most cool nerds have a good sense of humor and dress in an edgy, fashionable way.\\nAwkward nerd—this is the second type of social classing for nerds. These nerds can range from socially inept to just annoying, but basically boil down to awkward (hence the name). Being awkward isn't a completely bad thing. They have friends and meet all the requirements of being a nerd, but they normally have less of a social life.\\nSocial science nerds—Usually dwell in fields such as psychology, sociology, economics, anthropology, and political science. These guys take the crown for jargon, articulation, and long-windedness. Although their ideas are often overlooked, they still manage to propose earth-shattering epiphanies about human behavior.\\nAstronomy nerd -- They are very interested in astronomy and know a lot about it. These nerds will sometimes have themselves nose deep in an astronomy book.\\nIf you make mistakes in the exam, check with your teacher straight away to know what they are, so you can correct them in the future. Bargain for marks if you have to; there is nothing wrong in that if you are serious about education.\\nBe yourself. Do you like to solve equations all the time? Go on then!\\nWarnings\\nDon't become so consumed with your obsession that you lose sight of reality. A balanced life is important, and a good nerd recognizes the value of other pursuits. Too much specialization is unhealthy.\\nIf you constantly bully or mock someone who is less intelligent than you, they could get their friends to mock you or bully back.\\nNot everyone in your life will like you for your nerdiness. Some may bully or try to convince you that \\\"No, you have it wrong...\\\" and your nerdy style (or nerds in general) aren't cool. Whatever you do, be faithful to truth and accuracy. Listen to new ideas if they have worth, and don't become bogged down by stuffy ideologies or bland stereotypes.\\nIf you want to be a computer nerd, don't use Internet Explorer or Microsoft Edge. They are bad browsers and are the \\\"default browsers\\\" on your computer. The same thing with the Apple Safari on Apple products. Good web browsers are Firefox and Google Chrome. Better yet, use a more obscure, less mainstream browsers such as Opera. Never refer to either web browser by their full name, IE and FF are popular acronyms for the first two. GC to represent Google Chrome is outdated - use \\\"chrome\\\" instead\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Bill Gates has some famous advice: \\\"Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.\\\" In many ways, he's right: nerds make the world run, even if they (gently) stop short of world domination. A nerd is someone who is always curious and always learning, especially (though not exclusively) about intellectual pursuits. Being a nerd can be fun only if it suits you, but whatever your definition of a nerd is, read on for tips on how to become one.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"How to Think Like a Nerd\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know the difference between a nerd, a geek, and a dork.\", \"描述\": \"There may be significant overlap between the three, but if anyone would care about the subtle distinctions, it would be a nerd. \\nA is thought to be a highly intelligent person who has a singular passion about an academic pursuit. They tend to be either socially inept or asocial.\\nA is thought to be an individual who is always interested in a niche activity or subject, but who is not necessarily academically inclined nor as asocial as the nerd.\\nA is thought to be slightly sillier and not at all asocial, but perhaps not interested in a niche or academic pursuit.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be singular.\", \"描述\": \"In other words, act the only way you know how, in a way all your own. Nerds are renowned for being weird because they are, each in their own way, quite unique. Live your life like it's entirely your own, like you are the master of your own ship. By just being yourself and embracing your own eccentricities, you're already being weird. If you're looking for inspiration, read about some famous nerds in history. Here are three short vignettes of people, considered \\\"nerds,\\\" who did entirely what they wanted: \\nIsaac Newton is a great example. He made many discoveries including the reflector telescope, differential and integral calculus, Laws of Motion and Gravitation, and colors of light. He was usually busy with his research work. He didn't talk much, and only slept about three hours a night. (He probably should have seen a doctor about that.)\\nKatherine Johnson worked for NASA as a \\\"human computer.\\\" Her calculations were so accurate that she was asked to double-check the work of the actual computers. She co-authored 26 scientific papers.\\nAlan Turing is another famous nerd. Half-hero, half-scapegoat, Turing is credited with helping to crack the Nazi Enigma codes at the end of World War II, as well as playing an instrumental role in developing the first computers of the 20th century. Despite his achievements, he was later prosecuted by the British government for having a boyfriend and was forced to take estrogen injections to \\\"neutralize his libido.\\\" Turing died of suicide not long after the trial.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find a subject or subjects that you can immerse yourself in.\", \"描述\": \"It doesn't need to be science-related, although researchers are finding that increasingly numbers of autistic individuals (who often qualify as nerdy) are drawn to science, technology, engineering and math (STEM majors). Learn as much as you can about the subjects you are interested in, and safeguard that knowledge so that you can use it effectively later on.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Question, constantly.\", \"描述\": \"Many nerds are defined by their ability — some say habit — to question the information they receive until they are satisfied about its authenticity or understand the logic behind it. To be a nerd, you must be on an insatiable quest for knowledge. To be on an insatiable quest for knowledge, you must constantly question the quality, source, and utility of information you receive. \\nDon't trust information just because it comes from an authority figure. Nerds understand that figures of authority can sometimes get away with misleading or falsified information simply because of their power. Be willing to fact-check, especially if something seems off or too convenient.\\nGet to the root of things. A nerd will understand a question inside and out. A nerd will not rely on memorized information, but rather on understanding a concept. If a nerd asks the question \\\"Why is the sky blue?\\\" and is given the answer, \\\"Because molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light,\\\" her next question will inevitably be: \\\"Why do molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light?\\\" they will continue the line of questioning until the answer relates to something they already understand completely.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Examine the details.\", \"描述\": \"The devil may be in the details, but that doesn't mean you can't embrace them. (That was Vladimir Nabokov's advice to his students.) The nerd may prefer concrete details over generalizing statements because details can be cross-checked by reality more easily than generalities can. The nerd cares more about being right than appearing smart, so he grabs onto details as a way of investigating reality. \\nMany nerds gravitate towards sci, tech, eng, math, i.e.: STEM majors: STEMs deal plainly in facts and systems observable in nature, whereas many other more subjective disciplines lack the objective, fact-checking component.\\nOther nerds prefer more theoretical fields, such as abstract fields or the humanities. These also have room for analysis and discussion.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Go toward the gray areas.\", \"描述\": \"No, this is not an obscure fashion directive; it's a way of thinking. Nerds tend to see gray areas where others see black and white. This is because nerds are good at examining pros and cons, comparison and contrasts, theses and rebuttals. They devalue their own opinion and focus on the \\\"quantifiable\\\" facts. Sometimes, this leaves them looking like occupational vacillators, constantly seesawing back and forth between \\\"sides\\\" of an argument (arguing with themselves, it may seem). In fact, they are gathering information and waiting for pre-aligned, set \\\"opinion\\\" (conclusion) to hit them with the force of facts, instead of forming an opinion (hypothesis) that one begins justifying by supporting facts. \\nWhile some areas are black and white (e.g. questions of basic science or respecting human rights), many areas aren't so simple. There may be exceptions, nuances, and qualifications. Look for those and see what you can learn from them.\\nThere are several scientific/philosophical theories that nerds who love the gray area reference. It might be helpful to get familiar with just a few of them:\\nThomas Kuhn's : Periods of \\\"normal science\\\" are interrupted by periods of \\\"revolutionary science,\\\" called paradigm shifts that are relentlessly discussed and expounded (defined, diagrammed, flow-charted, mapped, extrapolated, spanning and forming a new amalgam, a new reality...). For STEMs adherents paradigm shifts are entirely new, focuses of scientific thinking and concentration.\\nKurt Gödel's : It's impossible to establish consistency and completeness inside formal logical systems. In other words, all consistent axiomatic formulations of number theory include propositions/assumptions that are undecidable (fundamental elements of math include the undefined point, line, plain and space which are nonetheless bases to define large fields of mathematics).\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Ask the experts.\", \"描述\": \"If you know someone who is experienced in a certain field, ask them what they know. Pose questions, listen closely to their answers, and speak up if you don't understand yet, or if you disagree with them. \\nRemember, knowledge can come from surprising sources! Everyone is good at something. Practice intellectual humility and approach each person as if they have something new to teach you.\\nIf you disagree with an expert, do so with respect and humility. It's possible they've heard your statement many times before and can tell you exactly how wrong it is.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Lose the ideas of genius and talent.\", \"描述\": \"Being intelligent doesn't mean knowing everything; it means knowing things and being eager to learn more. Get comfortable with asking questions and being wrong. The quest for knowledge includes wrong turns and realizing that you don't know. Focus less on \\\"What do I know?\\\" and more on \\\"What can I learn?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"How to Act Like a Nerd\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Lose yourself in your passion.\", \"描述\": \"Nerds get the reputation for being in the clouds half the time because their minds are wandering, probing distant places or complex correlations and equations. For this reason, don't be afraid to be aloof, if that's who you are. Lose yourself in the intellectual areas that make you happy and help you feel connected to the world, even if it means you seem disconnected by the \\\"depth\\\" and \\\"displacement\\\" involved in your internalizing a singular passion. \\nYour passion could be anything, from cryptology to philosophy to Norse mythology to philately. Whatever it is, make it a blast!\\nSet short- and long-term goals for yourself. The sooner you set yourself some goals (perhaps in an outline of variable and constant parameters, a rubric, or a protocol), the easier it will be to achieve them. Setting absorbing goals has the benefit of being especially nerdy!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to go beyond the ordinary.\", \"描述\": \"Think differently. Don't be afraid to tackle an idea or activity that isn't popular. (Realize that you may not have a great grasp of what is popular and what isn't in the first place. No matter!) \\nIf you found that lining your car antenna with aluminum foil gives you better reception on the AM stations in your car, then go for it. A nerd does not care how their car looks if the radio station is playing properly.\\nIf you propose to test all your friends for an antibody not yet known to science, then go for it (with your friends' consent). A nerd does not care whether the world doubts their methods and challenges their findings.\\nIf you are interested in computer viruses and want to tell all your friends what a trojan is, then go for it! A lot of nerds like to learn about things that seem pointless to others.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Always keep learning.\", \"描述\": \"A nerd is on a constant quest for knowledge. A nerd doesn't always care whether the information they receive has any utility. The mere fact that it's simple, profound, or counter-intuitive is enough to make it cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Read voraciously.\", \"描述\": \"Read everything in your area(s) of interests that you can get your hands on, including reference books and encyclopedias. Read and watch the news enough everyday to be informed about what's going on beyond your community. Read fiction books, too, because they can help build your vocabulary and gives you a good sense of spelling. Read things that you like, but your parents don't approve of. \\nTake regular trips to the library. If you can't go physically, try checking out e-books.\\nRead a variety of nonfiction and fiction books. Nonfiction teaches you new things. Fiction teaches you new perspectives. (Look for books about people who are different from you, such as people of different cultures, races, or disabilities. Also check out books that tackle major social issues.)\\nStudy related languages. Try to pick up a language just for kicks; or maybe because a subject your learning about has original sources in the native tongue. Experiment with web-based translation machines. If you feel that learning a language is too hard, then try and learn Pig Latin. Pig Latin has a set of rules to go by in order to speak it, so it is very easy to learn.\\nExtra cred goes to nerds who study a \\\"dead\\\" or fictional language, such as Cuman, Eyak, and Karankawa, or Elvish, Dothraki, or Klingon. Dead or fictional languages are exquisitely nerdy.\\nNote that informative reading doesn’t have to mean slogging through a dry, unbearable textbook. For an entertaining and informative read, try the funny physics classic Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman or The Feynman Lectures, any of Brian Greene’s very popular and accessible science bestsellers, or well-researched historical fiction like I, Claudius (whose unlikely hero survives a particularly brutal period in the Roman Empire).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pay attention in school.\", \"描述\": \"Try to get a seat where you can clearly hear, see the teacher and chalkboard, and pay attention. A good goal to set for yourself is to try getting mostly As in everything you do at school, including homework. Take notes, study for that test, and focus. Most of all, come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much if it's uninteresting or uncomfortable. \\nTry some extracurricular activities, such as robotics or math club, chess, or drama. Try to balance your extracurriculars so that they don't bring your grades down.\\nAsk a lot of questions in class. There is no such thing as a stupid question, remember? The only stupid question is the question you didn't ask.\\nDo research above and beyond what is taught in class. YouTube channels such as Khan Academy, Crash Course, Vsauce, Numberphile, CGP Grey to name a few, offer the opportunity to get ahead at the convenience and enjoyment of your computer.\\nDon't be afraid to look into online learning or get a tutor if you're struggling with a certain subject area. Everyone has certain subjects that don't come easily to them. Your school may offer free tutoring resources.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Channel any difficult feelings you may have into your passions.\", \"描述\": \"Nerds deal with their anger and heartbreak in a productive way: they think very carefully and logically about what to do or say, or amend changes to their debate presentation before they lash out at other people. Don't cut yourself down. What other people say about you isn't necessarily who you are. Just don't pay attention to what they say about the way you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take care of your body.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you take proper care of your body. Here are some things that help you stay sharp: \\n\\nEat a healthy diet.\\nEstablish a regular sleep schedule. Aim for around 8+ hours to refresh your brain. As a nerd, your brain is one of your biggest assets in life, so you should take care of it.\\nExercise regularly - even a nerd can be physically fit!\\nBrush your teeth, use floss, and use mouthwash. Regular tooth-brushing improves longevity and reduces a surprising amount of health risks.\\nMaintain good hygiene.\\nIt's a common stereotype for nerds to have lots of allergies/health issues, but try to stay on top of all of your medications. For example, if you have asthma, always have your inhaler with you in case of an attack.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be an optimist.\", \"描述\": \"You're a nerd and you know it. But you're also willing to be optimistic. You like who you are, even if it doesn't seem like very many other people do. (That's okay, they simply don't understand you.) The friends that you do have are good people who make you feel like you want to be alive. \\nIt may not always be easy. Life can be tough, but you can be equally tough. Nerds are resilient in challenging situations, willing to get up and keep going despite being knocked down.\\nIf optimism feels impossible, that's a sign of a problem. A nerd doesn't keep trying the same things if it's clear they aren't working. Find ways to change your life to be more advantageous to your success and well-being. Consult a counselor or doctor if needed; they are experts, after all.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"How to Dress Like a Nerd\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You shouldn't have to worry too much about your fashion sense, because a nerd prizes comfort over style, so if it so happens that you love wearing sweatpants, then embrace it!\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider practicality.\", \"描述\": \"Pull long hair back out of your face. Wear clothes that don't itch and are good for walking, sitting, and running. \\nLook for clothes that have nerdy patterns, like plaid, argyle, or pinstripes. You can wear such patterns on your shirts, jackets, sweaters, or even your pants.\\nBring a sweater to tie around your waist if needed. This way, you'll be prepared for variable temperatures.\\nIf you're a female, only wear high heels if you can walk and run confidently in them. If you want to be taller, stick with kitten heels or platform shoes; a significant heel can cause foot damage and is definitely not practical.\\nShoes that nerds are commonly associated with wearing are Chuck Taylor All-Stars, loafers, dress shoes, or boat shoes.\\nMeasure your feet before you go shoe shopping. You want to make sure the shoes you buy give your feet plenty of support and comfort, and enough room for you to wiggle your toes.\\nIf you have foot problems like flat feet, meet up with a podiatrist to have your feet examined - it's okay if you need to wear orthopedics!\\nColored pants are a staple of the nerdy style. You can wear any pants you like, but only wear ones that are comfortable for you. Popular color choices include olive green, maroon, brown, gray, mustard yellow, and navy blue.\\nKhakis are a classic choice if colored pants aren't your thing.\\nChino pants are a more casual alternative.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use your shirts to make nerd references or jokes.\", \"描述\": \"Look for ones that make you chuckle or smile. Math jokes, or obscure topics (binary code, Latin, etc.) work great, too, as do movie references. \\nTry using T-shirts to advertise your interest in your favorite video games, movies, books, or TV shows. This may attract new nerdy friends who like the same things.\\nTry on button-down shirts, long-sleeved or short-sleeved ones. You can wear it in a solid color or with a pattern. To appear dressier, wear a tie and keep the shirt buttoned up all the way.\\nPolo shirts are a more casual alternative if button-down shirts aren't your thing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear glasses if you need them.\", \"描述\": \"Glasses not help you see better, which is good for your overall health, but they're also the defining staple of the nerdy style, so they'll help increase your nerd quotient drastically. Find a pair of glasses you like, and you'll get used to wearing them in no time.\\nBecause nerds aren't into fashion statements, wearing fake glasses isn't really a nerd thing. (Geeks and hipsters sometimes do this.)\\nGlasses can also help make you more attractive, as long as you wear them with confidence.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Sport ill-fitting clothes (if desired).\", \"描述\": \"Nerds are infamous in the fashion world for wearing clothes that don't flatter their body type and are rather anachronistic, probably because their clothes are hand-me-downs. So if you're going for the nerd look, choose your wardrobe by lottery instead of carefully fitting the outfit together. \\nSome nerds go for the disheveled look (by accident or choice). There's nothing wrong with this as long as you're showered and clean.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Dress preppy.\", \"描述\": \"Some nerds, but not all, have the preppy look on lock-down. A button-down shirt (tucked-in, of course), a vest, chino pants, and loafers, with a hint of messiness to tie it all together. Especially when worn during informal occasions, this style will get you pegged for a nerd in no time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"How to Socialize Like a Nerd\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be friendly.\", \"描述\": \"A nerd may be very smart, but he or she never looks down on anyone who isn't as smart as he or she is. Work on being polite, gentle, and easygoing with everyone around you, whether they are a jock, a valley girl, or anyone who has an intellectual disability. \\nSometimes, correcting others hurts more than it helps. If a person is sensitive or in a bad mood, or if the situation isn't good, let it slide. (With the exception of health issues, of course.) If you know that a person prefers to be corrected, discreetly correct them and don't make it a big deal.\\nSupport fellow nerds. If you should find one getting bullied or snubbed by his or her non-nerdy peers, be there for him or her. Introduce yourself and invite him or her to spend time together with you so you can get to know each other better.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use the right words.\", \"描述\": \"Nerds are usually pretty good with words because they care about getting things right. It doesn't hurt that they may read more in a month than the average American reads in a year. Regardless, the misconception out there is that nerds use big words. Wrong. Nerds use the right word given the context. Sometimes, the right word happens to be a big one. Very smart nerds have the ability to use incredibly basic words to explain incredibly complex subject matter. \\nMake the dictionary and thesaurus your friend. Whenever you come across a word you don't know, consult the dictionary. Whenever you believe you could be using a better word given the circumstances, consult a thesaurus.\\nSkip the overly complex or obscure words if you're talking to a child or someone with a limited vocabulary. The point of communication is to share ideas, not make the other person feel inferior.\\nRecognize that prioritizing other things doesn't mean someone is unintelligent or boring. Some people who love to style hair are interested in the chemistry that is used to make hair products. Some football players love the theatre and acting.\\nIt's good to be friends with fellow nerds, though you shouldn't judge non-nerdy people for not being \\\"smart.\\\" Maybe they didn't have the same educational opportunities as you have had or they have a disability. They still could be interesting in other ways, and you never know what you could learn from them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Seek good, wholesome fun.\", \"描述\": \"Nerds are fun-loving and playful, with activities such as LAN parties, having movie marathons, playing role-playing or tabletop games, or collecting things (like comic books, rocks and minerals, or film paraphernalia) being examples of typical nerdy activities. You can enjoy them alone (independence can be good) or with your new nerdy friends (the more the merrier!)! \\nBe cautious about alcohol, especially if you are underage. This can impair your judgment and could harm your ability to recognize harmful or dangerous activities.\\nSay \\\"no thanks\\\" if anyone offers you drugs.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find friends with similar interests.\", \"描述\": \"While geeks often navigate between social groups, nerds are more likely to associate with other nerds, because of common interests. Maybe if you're an abstract thinker, try to find a nerd who's more practical or technical, and vice versa. Having a friend, or a set of friends, who complement you is as much as anyone could ask for. \\nIf you don’t know any nerds who are interested in what you do, find a community online or try to get your own friends interested in aspects of nerdiness. The web is increasingly becoming an important social community for nerds, mainly because of its focus on free expression and its utility as platform for technology.\\nDon't be afraid to branch out to non-nerdy friends too. They have their own values and interesting perspectives.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Here's a list of suggestions of different types of nerds, not stereotypes; these are sketches, not rules:\\n\\nAnime/Manga nerd—a nerd who is obsessed with Anime or Manga, and basically everything Japanese in general. Also called 'Wapanese' (a more derogatory term meaning white people who pretend to be Japanese). Nerds of these sorts also call themselves 'Otaku,' which is a Japanese insult meaning 'fanatic.' (The term is not generally recognized outside of Japan, and is used mostly by American anime and manga fans.) The Otaku community is not just a group of rabid fans; they are often prolific and creative fan fiction writers. Otaku often attend anime and manga conventions, and sometimes engage in cosplay. Otaku are generally common, and easy to find in a group of nerds.\\nComic book nerd- these are nerds that are interested in comic books and comic book characters, especially superheroes. You can be a nerd about the Marvel/DC Comics superhero franchise or you can be interested in other, non manga comic books and graphic novels such as The Archies. These nerds are similar to the manga nerds and they may be involved in activities such as cosplaying.\\nMusic nerd—also called \\\"band geeks.\\\" These nerds got groove. They're usually seen with their instrument of choice or silently tapping out complicated drum rhythms.\\nDJ nerd—practices constantly, hordes vinyl in massive quantities, and can remember the artist, track name, record label, year of release, and a million other obscure details about every record ever released in their chosen favorite genre. They also like to make DJ playlists for their own benefit.\\nComputer nerd—helpful, and can compile a kernel in a heartbeat. They know at least 1 programming language, and are skilled hackers. Usually seen putting the finishing touches on a website or helping the computer-tech teacher.\\nVideo game nerd—these nerds are becoming more common daily. Always seen playing and competing in the latest games, they are the progenitors of the '1337' language, and usually identify each other by conversing in it. A sub-class of the Computer nerd. However, video games are more of a geek thing.\\nFactoid nerd—annoying at times, but weirdly endearing. Can recite dozens of things no one needed to know — from the full \\\"Hamlet's Soliloquy\\\" to the nutritional value of goat's milk (not just trivia, but things might matter in your knowledge-base).\\nHistory nerd—Knows everything about their favorite time period(s). Compares everyday life to historical events. Is a historian by a young age and could beat out college students in American Government class.\\nCompetitive nerd—compares results, too much; may breathe loudly, and also glance around to see who's not finished, in their marginal time—has to be the first one done (or the last one, if it requires depth and thoroughness). Often alienates others. Always wants to be the best at everything, especially in academics.\\nDorky nerd—gifted with a natural lack of grace and style. They have difficulty carrying on a conversation about topics that are not their obsession. Nevertheless, they are often sweet and endearing.\\nDrama nerd—possessed with an attitude, which is rare in other types of nerds. They know the ins and outs of many theater arts, including dance, mime, chorus, et cetera.\\nMath nerd—usually knows calculus at a young age or another form of advanced math. They enjoy playing with numbers and learning more than what is taught in school. You can get math nerd stuff such as tutorials on the Internet.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n\\nNatural science nerd—initially a generalist, he/she almost always specializes in one form of science (biology, physics, astronomy, chemistry, geology) at a very young age and proceeds to become a super-specialist.\\n\\\"Sci-Fi\\\" nerd—a nerd who loves Star Wars, X-Files, Comics, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Stargate SG-1 or Stargate Atlantis, Lexx, Farsape, Andromeda, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Zombies and/or Star Trek. May be a geek.\\nLiterature nerd—specializes in fiction, almost always seen to be reading or composing post-modern essays. Usually has a favorite era of literature. Known to be able to produce a notebook out of nowhere. Distinct from emo poets.\\nSpeech nerd—speaks clearly and enunciates well. Launch randomly into friendly lectures. Never shuts up. Speaks too passionately for this subject, compared to the average person's disinterest.\\nDebate nerd—always firm in their beliefs. They do their homework on controversial issues, so don't mess with them! They can be found in debate clubs (obviously) and are usually holding some sort of argument even if they're just playing devils advocate.\\nNo-crap nerd—these nerds will not deal with others' bad behavior and will stand strong with what they know and believe. These nerds may also take martial art, weightlifting classes, boxing, etc. to be able to stand up and fight, a rarity among nerds.\\nFabricator nerd—can design and build engineering and physics projects, and use power tools like nobody's business. They know how to work everything from a soldering iron to a chainsaw... sometimes without even checking a manual. Many construction nerds are robotic nerds.\\nRobotics nerd—joins programs like BEST, FIRST, or other after-school robotics clubs. They can usually work any kind of remote (and with lightening speed) and are usually good with electronics/computers.\\nRail nerd—a nerd who has an obsession with railways, usually known as a trainspotter. Often seen at a station with a notebook, camera, or binoculars.\\nRoad nerd—Also called a road geek, these nerds specialize in roads. They go to \\\"road meets\\\", and drive around a lot.\\nHot nerd—The most elusive of all nerds, due challenges in identifying the species by sight alone. Demands an approximately 1:1:1 ratio of cute, funny, and intelligent. Common traits include: individual activities (willing to separate from the pack), ability and willingness to read a book outside of Stephen King, Michael Crichton or John Grisham, tends to be quiet yet articulate; a subtle sense of humor and quick wit... and, of course, cuteness.\\nCool nerd—this is a social classing of a nerd, also referred to as 'popular nerds.' However, don't be deceived by the words \\\"cool\\\" or \\\"popular.\\\" These nerds still have their quirks, it just means that they are more sociable than other nerds. Most cool nerds have a good sense of humor and dress in an edgy, fashionable way.\\nAwkward nerd—this is the second type of social classing for nerds. These nerds can range from socially inept to just annoying, but basically boil down to awkward (hence the name). Being awkward isn't a completely bad thing. They have friends and meet all the requirements of being a nerd, but they normally have less of a social life.\\nSocial science nerds—Usually dwell in fields such as psychology, sociology, economics, anthropology, and political science. These guys take the crown for jargon, articulation, and long-windedness. Although their ideas are often overlooked, they still manage to propose earth-shattering epiphanies about human behavior.\\nAstronomy nerd -- They are very interested in astronomy and know a lot about it. These nerds will sometimes have themselves nose deep in an astronomy book.\\n\", \"If you make mistakes in the exam, check with your teacher straight away to know what they are, so you can correct them in the future. Bargain for marks if you have to; there is nothing wrong in that if you are serious about education.\\n\", \"Be yourself. Do you like to solve equations all the time? Go on then!\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't become so consumed with your obsession that you lose sight of reality. A balanced life is important, and a good nerd recognizes the value of other pursuits. Too much specialization is unhealthy.\\n\", \"If you constantly bully or mock someone who is less intelligent than you, they could get their friends to mock you or bully back.\\n\", \"Not everyone in your life will like you for your nerdiness. Some may bully or try to convince you that \\\"No, you have it wrong...\\\" and your nerdy style (or nerds in general) aren't cool. Whatever you do, be faithful to truth and accuracy. Listen to new ideas if they have worth, and don't become bogged down by stuffy ideologies or bland stereotypes.\\n\", \"If you want to be a computer nerd, don't use Internet Explorer or Microsoft Edge. They are bad browsers and are the \\\"default browsers\\\" on your computer. The same thing with the Apple Safari on Apple products. Good web browsers are Firefox and Google Chrome. Better yet, use a more obscure, less mainstream browsers such as Opera. Never refer to either web browser by their full name, IE and FF are popular acronyms for the first two. GC to represent Google Chrome is outdated - use \\\"chrome\\\" instead\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Decide on a way to revive people.
This could be via the method used in the article, which is tapping someone on the shoulder, or it can be the method of high-fiving someone to revive them.
It's important to let your team know you are the medic, so people aren't confused when you tap someone on the shoulder.
1-2. Pick a primary weapon.
You may not like it, but shooting the medic is a perfectly viable strategy, but one that has blasters makes it far less effective. Your primary should be a small weapon, like the Retaliator with no barrel extension, or the Stryfe. Make sure that you can run at a good pace with it and that it doesn't get in the way of your hands when you're reviving someone.
Some games put weapons restrictions on medics due to them being able to revive people. Make sure to follow these rules.
1-3. Pick a secondary weapon.
Your secondary is a backup for when you need to shoot one-handed while reviving someone. This weapon should be one you're comfortable with. A good example for a secondary weapon would be the Hammershot, Nailbiter or Doublestrike.
1-4. Get in shape.
Even more than a normal nerfer, medics need to stay in shape. A medic needs to be able to run to a downed teammate quickly, and then needs to be able to get out quick as well. Make sure you can move fast over and around obstacles.
1-5. Practice dodging darts while moving.
Because you'll be running more as a medic, that means more darts that will be coming at you will be when you're running. If you can dodge darts when running, this means sprints are less dangerous.
1-6. Never go running off on your own.
You are a more valuable target than the rest of your friends. Staying with two or three people not only helps you by having some impromptu meat-shields in case of an ambush, but also helps them by having you within arm's reach to quickly revive them.
1-7. Be able to revive people quickly if you use the candy method.
Get a system down where you can revive them in under ten seconds. Having your pistol out while reviving also helps, so you can fend off enemies who want to take you down.
1-8. Try not to get downed yourself.
If you get downed, then the other medic on your team will have to revive you or your team will be without a medic. Don't get involved in heavy conflict without having some more troops with you.
1-9. Get help for people who are legitimately injured.
If someone is actually hurt, call out "Hold!" and call emergency services as needed if they are seriously injured (e.g., unconsciousness, broken bones, deep cuts).
If you have training in first aid, try to apply it. If you aren't qualified, however, do not. Improper first aid can often make a condition worse.
Tips
You should have two medics just in case if one medic gets hurt.
Try not to make it too obvious to the other team that you are the medic. This will draw attention and make you a target for any enemy who understands how powerful you can be.
Wear a bulletproof vest (dart tag vest). It won't keep you alive longer, but it can help you hold gear.
Warnings
Wear eye protection - getting hit in the eye will HURT.
Make sure a responsible adult knows where you are at all times and can communicate with you on short notice.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Decide on a way to revive people.\\nThis could be via the method used in the article, which is tapping someone on the shoulder, or it can be the method of high-fiving someone to revive them.\\nIt's important to let your team know you are the medic, so people aren't confused when you tap someone on the shoulder.\\n1-2. Pick a primary weapon.\\nYou may not like it, but shooting the medic is a perfectly viable strategy, but one that has blasters makes it far less effective. Your primary should be a small weapon, like the Retaliator with no barrel extension, or the Stryfe. Make sure that you can run at a good pace with it and that it doesn't get in the way of your hands when you're reviving someone.\\nSome games put weapons restrictions on medics due to them being able to revive people. Make sure to follow these rules.\\n1-3. Pick a secondary weapon.\\nYour secondary is a backup for when you need to shoot one-handed while reviving someone. This weapon should be one you're comfortable with. A good example for a secondary weapon would be the Hammershot, Nailbiter or Doublestrike.\\n1-4. Get in shape.\\nEven more than a normal nerfer, medics need to stay in shape. A medic needs to be able to run to a downed teammate quickly, and then needs to be able to get out quick as well. Make sure you can move fast over and around obstacles.\\n1-5. Practice dodging darts while moving.\\nBecause you'll be running more as a medic, that means more darts that will be coming at you will be when you're running. If you can dodge darts when running, this means sprints are less dangerous.\\n1-6. Never go running off on your own.\\nYou are a more valuable target than the rest of your friends. Staying with two or three people not only helps you by having some impromptu meat-shields in case of an ambush, but also helps them by having you within arm's reach to quickly revive them.\\n1-7. Be able to revive people quickly if you use the candy method.\\nGet a system down where you can revive them in under ten seconds. Having your pistol out while reviving also helps, so you can fend off enemies who want to take you down.\\n1-8. Try not to get downed yourself.\\nIf you get downed, then the other medic on your team will have to revive you or your team will be without a medic. Don't get involved in heavy conflict without having some more troops with you.\\n1-9. Get help for people who are legitimately injured.\\nIf someone is actually hurt, call out \\\"Hold!\\\" and call emergency services as needed if they are seriously injured (e.g., unconsciousness, broken bones, deep cuts).\\nIf you have training in first aid, try to apply it. If you aren't qualified, however, do not. Improper first aid can often make a condition worse.\\nTips\\nYou should have two medics just in case if one medic gets hurt.\\nTry not to make it too obvious to the other team that you are the medic. This will draw attention and make you a target for any enemy who understands how powerful you can be.\\nWear a bulletproof vest (dart tag vest). It won't keep you alive longer, but it can help you hold gear.\\nWarnings\\nWear eye protection - getting hit in the eye will HURT.\\nMake sure a responsible adult knows where you are at all times and can communicate with you on short notice.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Medics are what keeps a team in the game during a Nerf war. Having one or two of these is a tremendous help in keeping your team ready for battle. This article will show you how to help keep you and your team alive and well in a Nerf war.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide on a way to revive people.\", \"描述\": \"This could be via the method used in the article, which is tapping someone on the shoulder, or it can be the method of high-fiving someone to revive them.\\nIt's important to let your team know you are the medic, so people aren't confused when you tap someone on the shoulder.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pick a primary weapon.\", \"描述\": \"You may not like it, but shooting the medic is a perfectly viable strategy, but one that has blasters makes it far less effective. Your primary should be a small weapon, like the Retaliator with no barrel extension, or the Stryfe. Make sure that you can run at a good pace with it and that it doesn't get in the way of your hands when you're reviving someone.\\nSome games put weapons restrictions on medics due to them being able to revive people. Make sure to follow these rules.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pick a secondary weapon.\", \"描述\": \"Your secondary is a backup for when you need to shoot one-handed while reviving someone. This weapon should be one you're comfortable with. A good example for a secondary weapon would be the Hammershot, Nailbiter or Doublestrike.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get in shape.\", \"描述\": \"Even more than a normal nerfer, medics need to stay in shape. A medic needs to be able to run to a downed teammate quickly, and then needs to be able to get out quick as well. Make sure you can move fast over and around obstacles.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice dodging darts while moving.\", \"描述\": \"Because you'll be running more as a medic, that means more darts that will be coming at you will be when you're running. If you can dodge darts when running, this means sprints are less dangerous.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Never go running off on your own.\", \"描述\": \"You are a more valuable target than the rest of your friends. Staying with two or three people not only helps you by having some impromptu meat-shields in case of an ambush, but also helps them by having you within arm's reach to quickly revive them.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be able to revive people quickly if you use the candy method.\", \"描述\": \"Get a system down where you can revive them in under ten seconds. Having your pistol out while reviving also helps, so you can fend off enemies who want to take you down.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Try not to get downed yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If you get downed, then the other medic on your team will have to revive you or your team will be without a medic. Don't get involved in heavy conflict without having some more troops with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Get help for people who are legitimately injured.\", \"描述\": \"If someone is actually hurt, call out \\\"Hold!\\\" and call emergency services as needed if they are seriously injured (e.g., unconsciousness, broken bones, deep cuts).\\nIf you have training in first aid, try to apply it. If you aren't qualified, however, do not. Improper first aid can often make a condition worse.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You should have two medics just in case if one medic gets hurt.\\n\", \"Try not to make it too obvious to the other team that you are the medic. 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1. Equipping Yourself
1-1. Gather your gear.
In terms of shooting equipment, you’ll need a 3rd party blaster such as the nexus pro or a modded nerf blaster, unmodded nerf blasters are an alternative as they have the same range as normal nerf guns.
Good aesthetic sniper rifles are the Nexus Pro, Max Stryker, Modulus Longstrike with Waffle darts, Nerf Rival Jupiter, Ultra Pharaoh with Ultra AccuStrike darts, or Centurion with Mega Accustrike darts. But a good sniper doesn’t need to have sniper aesthetics, it just needs to have a good FPS and accuracy (keep in mind that some nerf wars have FPS caps).
If you get a Longshot, look into modifying it. Its large direct plunger system makes it an excellent blaster to modify.
. If it has a decent rate of fire, that is a definite plus. One-handed use is also a good Idea. Recommended blasters are the Blitzfire, Reflex 6, Apollo, Helios, and Hera.
Use a spring-powered nerf blaster. These are softer and are less likely to give away your position but generally it won't matter how loud your blaster is, it just shouldn't be ear-piercing.
Use accustrike darts or purchase accurate darts off eBay, Amazon, lightake, etc. These darts are accurate, and outclass other types of nerf darts. As long as you have these, you can use most nerf blasters as a sniper rifle.
Ensure that you have any other attachments needed for the rifle. For example, you may need a stock or bi-pod for easier aiming.
Have sufficient ammunition. (Waffle darts are preferable.)
1-2. Prepare yourself.
Stay in shape; you might need to run from an enemy. You need a good sidearm in case you do not have time to reload or need to shoot with a fast fire rate.
Make sure you can use any blaster and be good with it. You never know when you might need to be more than a sniper.
1-3. Get a blaster strap.
You can find one on places such as Amazon and other online stores. Put it on your blaster by attaching it to the strap attachments. (Some blasters may only have one or no strap attachment point.
1-4. Bring a backup pistol.
The Blitzfire, Reflex 6, Apollo, Kronos, Helios, and Hera are all decent secondary blasters.
1-5. Load your Nerf blaster, and add all necessary accessories.
Using the smallest mags possible like 6-round mags can be good in small spaces. If you don't have a 6 round mag, you're not a sniper.
2. Hiding Well
2-1. Pick a good hiding spot.
Never be completely out in the open. Have cover and concealment all around you, but be able to move easily and keep in mind that hiding in a single spot the whole match is not all that helpful for the team. Choose a space where you get a tactical advantage over the enemy, and you might catch them off guard. But be ready to get the heck out 'a there if they overwhelm you.
2-2. Find a vantage point on the battlefield with a covered infiltration/ex filtration route.
Basically, where you can exit and enter the sniper post without blowing your cover or giving away your hiding spot. If you're found, don't shout. Enemies can find you easily, just use a backup that has more than a shot and doesn't jam a lot.
Cover and Concealment are Key
3. Sniping Successfully
3-1. Be patient.
Most snipers at the beginning of their sniper career think they are going to get the most kills on the battlefield. Wrong. They actually get the least. Being a sniper is not glorious. It's basically you laying on your belly, holding a long blaster.(It isn't ALWAYS a long blaster)
3-2. Wait until the target is in range and in your sights.
Ask a few questions. Is it one person, or is it a group? What is the wind speed? What range are you firing at? Can you be seen? (The answer to that one should be NO!)
3-3. Turn 20 degrees in the opposite direction of the wind.
Nerf darts are heavily affected by wind speed and direction. The wind will carry the dart over to the target if done right. The stronger the wind, the more it will be affected.
3-4. Breathe quietly at all times, and step quietly when moving.
A way to step quietly is to step heel first, and then lower your foot down slowly.
3-5. Prime the blaster and take a deep breath.
Once your breath reaches its natural pause, slowly take the shot. (Note: this might not improve firing for you)
3-6. Escape quickly if the target is around other people.
They will be looking for you. If you want to take out the entire group, move 6-12 feet away from your original firing spot. Then reload and shoot again.
3-7. Confirm the shot through your scope, in case another round is needed.
This technique is best done with the use of a spotter. (This is probably going to be hard to do with a nerf scope. Use binoculars, or a different piece of equipment if necessary.) In situations of limited personnel. Spotters tell you where your target is, approximate how many feet/yards your target is away from you, the wind speed and direction.
3-8. Reload/Re-acquire darts.
Always. And remember, your blaster's mag doesn't always have to be fully loaded to fire.
3-9. Take out your target/targets and repeat the sniper approach against other targets!
3-10. After you take a few shots, move to another position.
Never stand in a corner for more than 3 shots. If you do, and you get found, you will get destroyed! (This is somewhat dependent on your playing style. You might want to draw your enemies in, and then take out a bunch of them before moving.)
3-11. Do not shoot your darts as far as you can.
The dart slows before reaching its farthest point, and has the least accuracy at its farthest point. Instead, shoot about 65-70% of your blaster's max range.
Tips
Wear gloves. Sore hands shake, so wearing gloves increases aiming skill.
Do not overuse any sniper hide, your position will be compromised preventing further use.
Practice shooting your rifle beforehand, to accurately sight your weapon and gather D.O.P.E. (Data of Previous Engagement) on distance and wind direction.
Warnings
Be careful when you shoot! You could knock something over or break something,
Don't shoot at anyone's eyes.
Don't remove air restrictor if fps limit says otherwise. if you do remove the air restrictor then make sure to follow your game rule's fps limit.
Never climb trees. You can be seen by enemies while in a tree and climbing one is dumb and you could get seriously hurt.
Don't shoot in public areas!
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Equipping Yourself\\n1-1. Gather your gear.\\nIn terms of shooting equipment, you’ll need a 3rd party blaster such as the nexus pro or a modded nerf blaster, unmodded nerf blasters are an alternative as they have the same range as normal nerf guns.\\nGood aesthetic sniper rifles are the Nexus Pro, Max Stryker, Modulus Longstrike with Waffle darts, Nerf Rival Jupiter, Ultra Pharaoh with Ultra AccuStrike darts, or Centurion with Mega Accustrike darts. But a good sniper doesn’t need to have sniper aesthetics, it just needs to have a good FPS and accuracy (keep in mind that some nerf wars have FPS caps).\\nIf you get a Longshot, look into modifying it. Its large direct plunger system makes it an excellent blaster to modify.\\n. If it has a decent rate of fire, that is a definite plus. One-handed use is also a good Idea. Recommended blasters are the Blitzfire, Reflex 6, Apollo, Helios, and Hera.\\nUse a spring-powered nerf blaster. These are softer and are less likely to give away your position but generally it won't matter how loud your blaster is, it just shouldn't be ear-piercing.\\nUse accustrike darts or purchase accurate darts off eBay, Amazon, lightake, etc. These darts are accurate, and outclass other types of nerf darts. As long as you have these, you can use most nerf blasters as a sniper rifle.\\nEnsure that you have any other attachments needed for the rifle. For example, you may need a stock or bi-pod for easier aiming.\\nHave sufficient ammunition. (Waffle darts are preferable.)\\n1-2. Prepare yourself.\\nStay in shape; you might need to run from an enemy. You need a good sidearm in case you do not have time to reload or need to shoot with a fast fire rate.\\nMake sure you can use any blaster and be good with it. You never know when you might need to be more than a sniper.\\n1-3. Get a blaster strap.\\nYou can find one on places such as Amazon and other online stores. Put it on your blaster by attaching it to the strap attachments. (Some blasters may only have one or no strap attachment point.\\n1-4. Bring a backup pistol.\\nThe Blitzfire, Reflex 6, Apollo, Kronos, Helios, and Hera are all decent secondary blasters.\\n1-5. Load your Nerf blaster, and add all necessary accessories.\\nUsing the smallest mags possible like 6-round mags can be good in small spaces. If you don't have a 6 round mag, you're not a sniper.\\n2. Hiding Well\\n2-1. Pick a good hiding spot.\\nNever be completely out in the open. Have cover and concealment all around you, but be able to move easily and keep in mind that hiding in a single spot the whole match is not all that helpful for the team. Choose a space where you get a tactical advantage over the enemy, and you might catch them off guard. But be ready to get the heck out 'a there if they overwhelm you.\\n2-2. Find a vantage point on the battlefield with a covered infiltration/ex filtration route.\\nBasically, where you can exit and enter the sniper post without blowing your cover or giving away your hiding spot. If you're found, don't shout. Enemies can find you easily, just use a backup that has more than a shot and doesn't jam a lot.\\nCover and Concealment are Key\\n3. Sniping Successfully\\n3-1. Be patient.\\nMost snipers at the beginning of their sniper career think they are going to get the most kills on the battlefield. Wrong. They actually get the least. Being a sniper is not glorious. It's basically you laying on your belly, holding a long blaster.(It isn't ALWAYS a long blaster)\\n3-2. Wait until the target is in range and in your sights.\\nAsk a few questions. Is it one person, or is it a group? What is the wind speed? What range are you firing at? Can you be seen? (The answer to that one should be NO!)\\n3-3. Turn 20 degrees in the opposite direction of the wind.\\nNerf darts are heavily affected by wind speed and direction. The wind will carry the dart over to the target if done right. The stronger the wind, the more it will be affected.\\n3-4. Breathe quietly at all times, and step quietly when moving.\\nA way to step quietly is to step heel first, and then lower your foot down slowly.\\n3-5. Prime the blaster and take a deep breath.\\nOnce your breath reaches its natural pause, slowly take the shot. (Note: this might not improve firing for you)\\n3-6. Escape quickly if the target is around other people.\\nThey will be looking for you. If you want to take out the entire group, move 6-12 feet away from your original firing spot. Then reload and shoot again.\\n3-7. Confirm the shot through your scope, in case another round is needed.\\nThis technique is best done with the use of a spotter. (This is probably going to be hard to do with a nerf scope. Use binoculars, or a different piece of equipment if necessary.) In situations of limited personnel. Spotters tell you where your target is, approximate how many feet/yards your target is away from you, the wind speed and direction.\\n3-8. Reload/Re-acquire darts.\\nAlways. And remember, your blaster's mag doesn't always have to be fully loaded to fire.\\n3-9. Take out your target/targets and repeat the sniper approach against other targets!\\n\\n3-10. After you take a few shots, move to another position.\\nNever stand in a corner for more than 3 shots. If you do, and you get found, you will get destroyed! (This is somewhat dependent on your playing style. You might want to draw your enemies in, and then take out a bunch of them before moving.)\\n3-11. Do not shoot your darts as far as you can.\\nThe dart slows before reaching its farthest point, and has the least accuracy at its farthest point. Instead, shoot about 65-70% of your blaster's max range.\\nTips\\nWear gloves. Sore hands shake, so wearing gloves increases aiming skill.\\nDo not overuse any sniper hide, your position will be compromised preventing further use.\\nPractice shooting your rifle beforehand, to accurately sight your weapon and gather D.O.P.E. (Data of Previous Engagement) on distance and wind direction.\\nWarnings\\nBe careful when you shoot! You could knock something over or break something,\\nDon't shoot at anyone's eyes.\\nDon't remove air restrictor if fps limit says otherwise. if you do remove the air restrictor then make sure to follow your game rule's fps limit.\\nNever climb trees. You can be seen by enemies while in a tree and climbing one is dumb and you could get seriously hurt.\\nDon't shoot in public areas!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Not all Nerf guns are designed for close combat fighting situations and suppression fire. With dedication, one can master the rare art of sniping. Sniper warfare is most effective when the shooter is able to deliver precise long-range fire on selected targets, creating fear among enemy troops, slowing enemy movement, killing enemy soldiers, lowering morale, and adding confusion to their operations all the while being hidden from sight. The strategic importance of the \\\"Sniper\\\" in warfare cannot be measured simply by the number of casualties he inflicts upon the enemy, as the realization of the sniper’s presence instills fear in enemy troop elements, and influences their decisions and actions.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Equipping Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gather your gear.\", \"描述\": \"In terms of shooting equipment, you’ll need a 3rd party blaster such as the nexus pro or a modded nerf blaster, unmodded nerf blasters are an alternative as they have the same range as normal nerf guns.\\nGood aesthetic sniper rifles are the Nexus Pro, Max Stryker, Modulus Longstrike with Waffle darts, Nerf Rival Jupiter, Ultra Pharaoh with Ultra AccuStrike darts, or Centurion with Mega Accustrike darts. But a good sniper doesn’t need to have sniper aesthetics, it just needs to have a good FPS and accuracy (keep in mind that some nerf wars have FPS caps).\\nIf you get a Longshot, look into modifying it. Its large direct plunger system makes it an excellent blaster to modify.\\n. If it has a decent rate of fire, that is a definite plus. One-handed use is also a good Idea. Recommended blasters are the Blitzfire, Reflex 6, Apollo, Helios, and Hera.\\nUse a spring-powered nerf blaster. These are softer and are less likely to give away your position but generally it won't matter how loud your blaster is, it just shouldn't be ear-piercing.\\nUse accustrike darts or purchase accurate darts off eBay, Amazon, lightake, etc. These darts are accurate, and outclass other types of nerf darts. As long as you have these, you can use most nerf blasters as a sniper rifle.\\nEnsure that you have any other attachments needed for the rifle. For example, you may need a stock or bi-pod for easier aiming.\\nHave sufficient ammunition. (Waffle darts are preferable.)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prepare yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Stay in shape; you might need to run from an enemy. You need a good sidearm in case you do not have time to reload or need to shoot with a fast fire rate.\\nMake sure you can use any blaster and be good with it. You never know when you might need to be more than a sniper.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a blaster strap.\", \"描述\": \"You can find one on places such as Amazon and other online stores. Put it on your blaster by attaching it to the strap attachments. (Some blasters may only have one or no strap attachment point.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Bring a backup pistol.\", \"描述\": \"The Blitzfire, Reflex 6, Apollo, Kronos, Helios, and Hera are all decent secondary blasters.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Load your Nerf blaster, and add all necessary accessories.\", \"描述\": \"Using the smallest mags possible like 6-round mags can be good in small spaces. If you don't have a 6 round mag, you're not a sniper.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hiding Well\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick a good hiding spot.\", \"描述\": \"Never be completely out in the open. Have cover and concealment all around you, but be able to move easily and keep in mind that hiding in a single spot the whole match is not all that helpful for the team. Choose a space where you get a tactical advantage over the enemy, and you might catch them off guard. 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You could knock something over or break something,\\n\", \"Don't shoot at anyone's eyes.\\n\", \"Don't remove air restrictor if fps limit says otherwise. if you do remove the air restrictor then make sure to follow your game rule's fps limit.\\n\", \"Never climb trees. You can be seen by enemies while in a tree and climbing one is dumb and you could get seriously hurt.\\n\", \"Don't shoot in public areas!\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a New Mom
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1. Adapting to Your New Role
1-1. Stay positive
Your or your spouse's being negative about anything will discourage you. More importantly, the baby develops its psyche under whatever conditions it is brought up in. So be careful what you say about yourself and your baby. Reasonably happy parents make for a better-adjusted, smiling baby.
Believe that you can be a good mom, and you will be. Believe that your baby is going to be a good baby, and he or she will be, or at least you will ensure that he/she will be.
1-2. Try to not worry too much.
To worry about anything drains your energy. Worrying does not solve any problems. It makes the problems seem bigger than they really are.
If your baby gets a fever, for example, try to not worry right away that he/she will get brain damage, etc. Most fevers go away after about 24 hours. Just give your baby some medication as directed by the label, and everything will most likely be okay. Let your baby sleep as much as they want to to fight off the fever.
If your baby is crying and you can't figure out why, it may be because of gas and that they need to be burped. Usually babies cry when they are hungry, for the most part, but their needing to burp is something that is harder for moms to think of. Sometimes you will have changed your baby, fed your baby, but they are still crying and it might be driving you crazy. Don't worry, every mom has been there, at a loss and not knowing what else to do. You may just need to pat their back and hold them upright so that they can burp.
Swaddling your baby can also comfort them and help them to stop crying, if the crying continues after feeding and burping.
1-3. Try to remain calm and keep your cool.
Don't worry too much if you make a mistake or lightly bump your baby's head, and don't let your spouse worry too much either.
1-4. Try to cut back and make time and room for parenting.
Take as much time off work as you can in this time so you won't have to worry about sleeping so many hours every night so that you are rested for work.
If you can, move to a smaller house or cheaper apartment so that your family can survive on one income until your baby is older.
1-5. Ensure that you have support from a family member.
You can't do this huge new job on your own. You will feel overwhelmed if you don't have any help at all.
If at all possible, make sure you are living near supportive family members. You will definitely need their help and advice. Also whenever you have questions, Google whatever it might be. You can find the answer to pretty much anything online.
You have to have breaks, even if it's just going to the store by yourself, baby free, once a week. Try to get your mom or mother in law to babysit once a week, so you can relax and recapture the peaceful life you had before taking on all this responsibility.
1-6. Take time to maintain your other relationships.
Still have friends after your new baby comes. If you used to go to a book group or religious group, keep going. It helps a lot to have other women to talk to about being a mom.
Make sure you maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse and don't let the baby consume all of your time. It can be easy for your husband to get jealous of a new baby, but if you still do things together, that will help. Watch movies together, play games, or go shopping.
1-7. Go easy on yourself if you have to shift your obligations.
You probably won't be able to do everything that you did before your baby arrived.
If you used to go to church every Sunday, don't stress yourself out too much if you can't make it to church on Sundays anymore. You can find alternatives during this phase of your life, such as watching online church services or going to a mid-week Bible study when a babysitter is available.
Be flexible and refrain from forcing yourself to go out when you know the baby might have a very hard time in the nursery, etc.
1-8. Be forgiving of yourself.
Have grace with yourself. You don't have to be the perfect mom, because no one alive can be a perfect mom. We all make mistakes, but always know that is okay.
Don't blame yourself for not being perfect. Realize it would be impossible to be. Don't expect too much of yourself or anyone else.
1-9. Have fun and enjoy your new baby.
Don't just take care of him or her. Play with your baby, laugh with them, and make faces and noises at them. Dress them up in tons of cute outfits. Take lots of pictures. Learn to enjoy this time because it goes by quickly.
1-10. Give yourself a huge congrats on getting to be a mother.
Not everyone gets to be one. Remember to be incredibly thankful everyday that you have the most precious gift in the entire world. Recognize that it is a tremendous privilege to get to be a mom. You are a very lucky and very fortunate woman.
2. Using Some Parenting "Tricks"
2-1. Learn ways to make being a mom easier on yourself.
It is hard enough to be employed 24/7 as a parent. The hours can be a very hard adjustment to make.
Your life now revolves around your new little one. You have to deny yourself and serve your new baby in almost every single hour of your day. You keep getting your sleep interrupted. You can't get outside as much as you might want to. Remember to give yourself breaks sometimes: listen to fun music or watch some good movies.
2-2. Prop the bottle up on a blanket.
This will free your hands so that you can get some work done. Sometimes, this can be a nice break which will allow you to get things done or just relax for a bit.
2-3. Get a swing.
Nothing will do more for making your life easier than getting a swing. Fisher Price is a good brand; they seem to be durable and last longer. Babies are used to motion, because when they were in your tummy, they rocked and rolled all over the place whenever you moved around.
Swinging is a good way to get your baby to sleep, since they are moving like they are used to. You can try rocking them yourself, but it can be hard to set them down after you've rocked them to sleep. Babies usually wake up when you lay them down in their crib etc. A swing saves you from having to worry about that.
It is possible for a baby to sleep in a swing, one that reclines back, or a bassinet, since co-sleeping is not recommended.
Swing sleeping can give you peace of mind that your baby is strapped in and won't be able to roll on their tummy, which can be dangerous for them and cause SIDS.
You can also give them their bottles in the swing. You can hold the bottle for them or, as mentioned before, you can prop the bottle up on a blanket to make things easier for you.
2-4. Use diaper rash cream often.
With disposable diapers, babies get rashes a lot. This can lead to a lot of crying and discomfort for them.
Sometimes babies resist diaper changing time, or are extra fussy, because they have a rash.
2-5. Breastfeed
Milk is much cheaper than formula, and is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics because it provides the necessary nutrients that are easily digestible by your baby and is associated with a lower risk of SIDS.
If you are switching from milk from formula, mix the formula with milk. You need to slowly wean your baby off of the formula. If you don't do this, they may become constipated and unhappy. Constipation happens with an abrupt change in diet, so make transitions in food "slow and easy".
2-6. Utilize a sleep training regimen to avoid too many sleepless nights and promote good sleep habits for your baby.
Although studies suggest that babies who "cried it out" had no significant short-term or long-term change in their development as opposed to babies whose parents used check-and-console or "camping out" sleep training regimens, such regimens positively impacted the psychological and sleep-related health of the parent and child.
"Camping out" refers to the parent staying in the room for increasingly shorter periods of time when the baby is crying, while "check-and-console" refers to the parent returning to check on the baby at increasingly longer intervals.
Don't neglect your baby if you suspect there is a serious problem—attend to their needs as best you can.
Tips
Find a pediatrician with whom you and your baby are comfortable.
Follow your doctor's advice regarding vaccination and do your own research on approved and recommended vaccination schedules.
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Let your baby sleep as much as they want to to fight off the fever.\\nIf your baby is crying and you can't figure out why, it may be because of gas and that they need to be burped. Usually babies cry when they are hungry, for the most part, but their needing to burp is something that is harder for moms to think of. Sometimes you will have changed your baby, fed your baby, but they are still crying and it might be driving you crazy. Don't worry, every mom has been there, at a loss and not knowing what else to do. You may just need to pat their back and hold them upright so that they can burp.\\nSwaddling your baby can also comfort them and help them to stop crying, if the crying continues after feeding and burping.\\n1-3. Try to remain calm and keep your cool.\\nDon't worry too much if you make a mistake or lightly bump your baby's head, and don't let your spouse worry too much either.\\n1-4. Try to cut back and make time and room for parenting.\\nTake as much time off work as you can in this time so you won't have to worry about sleeping so many hours every night so that you are rested for work.\\nIf you can, move to a smaller house or cheaper apartment so that your family can survive on one income until your baby is older.\\n1-5. Ensure that you have support from a family member.\\nYou can't do this huge new job on your own. You will feel overwhelmed if you don't have any help at all.\\nIf at all possible, make sure you are living near supportive family members. You will definitely need their help and advice. Also whenever you have questions, Google whatever it might be. You can find the answer to pretty much anything online.\\nYou have to have breaks, even if it's just going to the store by yourself, baby free, once a week. Try to get your mom or mother in law to babysit once a week, so you can relax and recapture the peaceful life you had before taking on all this responsibility.\\n1-6. Take time to maintain your other relationships.\\nStill have friends after your new baby comes. If you used to go to a book group or religious group, keep going. It helps a lot to have other women to talk to about being a mom.\\nMake sure you maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse and don't let the baby consume all of your time. It can be easy for your husband to get jealous of a new baby, but if you still do things together, that will help. Watch movies together, play games, or go shopping.\\n1-7. Go easy on yourself if you have to shift your obligations.\\nYou probably won't be able to do everything that you did before your baby arrived.\\nIf you used to go to church every Sunday, don't stress yourself out too much if you can't make it to church on Sundays anymore. 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Remember to be incredibly thankful everyday that you have the most precious gift in the entire world. Recognize that it is a tremendous privilege to get to be a mom. You are a very lucky and very fortunate woman.\\n2. Using Some Parenting \\\"Tricks\\\"\\n2-1. Learn ways to make being a mom easier on yourself.\\nIt is hard enough to be employed 24/7 as a parent. The hours can be a very hard adjustment to make.\\nYour life now revolves around your new little one. You have to deny yourself and serve your new baby in almost every single hour of your day. You keep getting your sleep interrupted. You can't get outside as much as you might want to. Remember to give yourself breaks sometimes: listen to fun music or watch some good movies.\\n2-2. Prop the bottle up on a blanket.\\nThis will free your hands so that you can get some work done. Sometimes, this can be a nice break which will allow you to get things done or just relax for a bit.\\n2-3. Get a swing.\\nNothing will do more for making your life easier than getting a swing. Fisher Price is a good brand; they seem to be durable and last longer. Babies are used to motion, because when they were in your tummy, they rocked and rolled all over the place whenever you moved around.\\nSwinging is a good way to get your baby to sleep, since they are moving like they are used to. You can try rocking them yourself, but it can be hard to set them down after you've rocked them to sleep. Babies usually wake up when you lay them down in their crib etc. A swing saves you from having to worry about that.\\nIt is possible for a baby to sleep in a swing, one that reclines back, or a bassinet, since co-sleeping is not recommended.\\nSwing sleeping can give you peace of mind that your baby is strapped in and won't be able to roll on their tummy, which can be dangerous for them and cause SIDS.\\nYou can also give them their bottles in the swing. You can hold the bottle for them or, as mentioned before, you can prop the bottle up on a blanket to make things easier for you.\\n2-4. Use diaper rash cream often.\\nWith disposable diapers, babies get rashes a lot. This can lead to a lot of crying and discomfort for them.\\nSometimes babies resist diaper changing time, or are extra fussy, because they have a rash.\\n2-5. Breastfeed\\nMilk is much cheaper than formula, and is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics because it provides the necessary nutrients that are easily digestible by your baby and is associated with a lower risk of SIDS.\\nIf you are switching from milk from formula, mix the formula with milk. You need to slowly wean your baby off of the formula. If you don't do this, they may become constipated and unhappy. Constipation happens with an abrupt change in diet, so make transitions in food \\\"slow and easy\\\".\\n2-6. Utilize a sleep training regimen to avoid too many sleepless nights and promote good sleep habits for your baby.\\nAlthough studies suggest that babies who \\\"cried it out\\\" had no significant short-term or long-term change in their development as opposed to babies whose parents used check-and-console or \\\"camping out\\\" sleep training regimens, such regimens positively impacted the psychological and sleep-related health of the parent and child.\\n\\\"Camping out\\\" refers to the parent staying in the room for increasingly shorter periods of time when the baby is crying, while \\\"check-and-console\\\" refers to the parent returning to check on the baby at increasingly longer intervals.\\nDon't neglect your baby if you suspect there is a serious problem—attend to their needs as best you can.\\nTips\\nFind a pediatrician with whom you and your baby are comfortable.\\nFollow your doctor's advice regarding vaccination and do your own research on approved and recommended vaccination schedules.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Congratulations on becoming a new mom! This can be a very difficult and somewhat scary time, but it will also be one of the most special, as taking good care of your new little one is very rewarding. Like anything new, there is a kind of high at first, as you get to know and show love to your new baby. The opportunity for fun hardly ends, as you put new outfits on them and take endless pictures of how cute they are. It is a lot of fun, but sometimes being a new mom can be a difficult job. Here are some tips that will help to make your role as a new mom a bit easier to manage.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Adapting to Your New Role\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stay positive\", \"描述\": \"Your or your spouse's being negative about anything will discourage you. More importantly, the baby develops its psyche under whatever conditions it is brought up in. So be careful what you say about yourself and your baby. 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1. Supporting Your Friend
1-1. Be happy for your friend's accomplishments.
If you want to be a supportive friend, one of the most important things you can do is to be happy for your friend's accomplishments. Work on being your friend's biggest fan. Applaud his or her achievements and try not to feel jealous.
Jealousy can often make it difficult to celebrate another person's success, even someone you consider a friend. However, it's very important that you are able to cheer you friend on. People want to be around positive people who make them feel good about themselves. Even if you're feeling a twang of envy, try to push past that feeling and offer a sincere, "Congratulations." You'll feel better if you do. You'll find it's much less exhausting to be happy for another person than harboring jealousy.
Do not just congratulate your friend on big achievements or milestones. You should also compliment your friend on small things he or she does that you appreciate. Remind your friend of his or her good qualities. For example, say something like, "I love how you're always smiling" or "I appreciate how you always remember everyone's birthday."
1-2. Listen when your friend's in need.
Listening is the foundation of a quality friendship. If you know your friend is having a bad day, offer to let your friend vent to you. You do not have to offer solutions or even advice. Simply allow your friend to express his or her feelings without judgment.
If you're unsure what to say when listening, try active listening. This will allow your friend to feel more open expressing his or herself to you. You can reiterate what your friend says after he or she finishes talking, encouraging your friend to elaborate if necessary. For example, say something like, "You feel really stressed about the way your brother behaved when he came to visit?"
Keep in mind that, while listening is important, you do not want to end up in a one-sided friendship. If you feel like your friend is always asking you to listen, but is never there for you in return, you may want to reevaluate the friendship. Being a nice friend is important, but you do not want to end up in a situation where someone is taking advantage of your good nature. If you listen to your friend, expect him or her to listen to you when you're in need.
1-3. Remember important events.
The little things help build the foundation of a strong friendship. Make the effort to remember the important events in your friend's life, like birthdays, anniversaries, and more.
Always remember your friend's birthday. It can help to write a reminder in your smart phone. You don't necessarily have to go overboard with a big present each year. However, your friend may appreciate a nice phone call or card.
Does your friend have any other big life events that are important? Even sad events are worth of remembrance. For example, if your friend has lost a loved one, the death anniversary can be difficult. Try to keep this in mind, and shoot your friend a text letting him or her know you're there if he or she needs to talk.
1-4. Have loyalty.
Loyalty is a very important aspect of a strong friendship. Jealousy, envy, bitterness, and distrust are all negative emotions than can affect your ability to be loyal. Try to rise beyond these sentiments and strive for basic loyalty.
Avoid talking about your friend behind his or her back. Even if you're angry or upset about something your friend did, avoid venting your frustrations to others. Instead, try writing it out and later, when you're more calm, talking to your friend directly about any problems.
It can be hard to cope with negative emotions that can adversely affect loyalty. However, try to keep in mind the benefits of working past these emotions. What's more important in the long term? Momentarily satiating feelings of jealousy by trash talking your friend, or building a strong lifelong bond?
One caveat is that loyalty, like listening, has its limitations. While you should be loyal to your friend and support his or her decisions, you do not have to be blindly loyal to someone who is behaving poorly. If, for example, your friend hurt a mutual friend's feelings, do not immediately jump to your friend's defense. It's important that you tell you friend up front if his or her behavior has crossed a line for you or another person.
1-5. Practice the golden rule.
The Golden Rule states you should treat others as you wish to be treated. When interacting with your friends, pause and think about your actions. If you feel as if you're not treating your friend well, consider how you would feel if you were being treated in this fashion. If you would not appreciate the kind of treatment you're dishing out, you should cease to treat your friend in that way.
2. Spending Time with Your Friend
2-1. Engage in shared interests.
Often, friendships are built around common interests. If there's something that drew you and your friend together to begin with, going back to this shared interest can help strengthen your bond.
For example, if you and your friend met at a book club, try agreeing to read the same book. You can meet up once a week to discuss the book. Your friend will love having you there to share this experience.
You can also pursue shared interests further together. For example, if you and your friend met in college in a Spanish class, consider attending a Spanish club together. You can help build on your language skills as a pair.
2-2. Make friendship a priority.
As time goes by, friendship can sometimes fall to the wayside. School, work, romantic relationships, and other commitments can put a strain on a friendship. However, if you want to be a nice friend, work on prioritizing the friendships in your life.
Realistically, as life gets busier and busier, you will not be able to see your friends every day or even every week. However, make an effort to get together regularly. It can help to have a regular meet up time. For example, you can agree to have dinner together the first Tuesday of every month.
One thing to keep in mind is that you should not prioritize someone who does not prioritize you. You do not want to end up in a one-sided friendship. If you are always the one reaching out and making plans with a particular person, you may be better off tapering off contact. You can work on being a good friend to someone who appreciates your presence.
Even if time is an issue, you can still find ways to reach out. Many people find they can stay in touch via social media when life gets hectic. You can also make a point of calling a friend to chat once in awhile if you're too busy to go out regularly.
2-3. Laugh together.
People tend to bond when they laugh together. Your friend will enjoy your company more if the two of you are always laughing. Try to make laughter a priority when you hangout.
Watch funny movies together or go to comedy clubs.
Make each other laugh. Do not be afraid to be a little silly or ridiculous. A true friend won't judge you for bringing out your immature side.
While laughter is important, try not to laugh at the expense of others. You do not want to build a friendship on mutual scorn or animosity. A person willing to laugh and judge others with you will probably not be a nice friend to you in return.
2-4. Keep in contact long distance.
Unfortunately, distance can sometimes keep good friends apart. In this case, you should make an effort to keep up contact. If your friend moves away for school or work, call or Skype regularly. You can make a plan of calling every other Thursday, for example. You can also strive to stay in touch with your friend through various social media outlets, like Facebook and Twitter.
3. Communicating with Your Friend
3-1. Avoid giving advice.
You may feel that being nice means always telling your friend how to fix his or her problems. However, this can make the friendship feel unbalanced. You're always the one with the answers, while your friend is always the one with the problems. Not only this, when your friend opens up to you, he or she may not always be seeking advice. Sometimes, people just want to vent and do not want guidance.
Simply let your friend talk. Show you're listening by giving non-verbal cues, like smiling and nodding, to convey you're paying attention. Reiterate what she's saying on occasion to make sure you understood fully.
You should also help your friend bounce ideas off of you. Ask questions like, "What do you think you're going to do?" or "Do you have any idea how to proceed?"
In the event you're genuinely worried about a decision your friend is making, it's okay to voice your concern. If your friend is considering doing something dangerous or illegal, for example, it's not a bad idea to express concern.
3-2. Do not keep score.
A nice friend does not make people feel a debt. You should not hold onto things like who gave the best birthday present or who did the last favor. You should do nice things for your friend because you appreciate this person, not as a way to get favors in return.
People often create petty barriers to friendship. For example, you may feel like you shouldn't invite your friend out on a Saturday night because you did so last week. In your mind, it's your friend's turn. However, some people just aren't great at making plans and prefer to simply go along with what others are doing. Your friend does not owe you an invitation because you extended one to him or her.
Try to keep in mind you and your friend have different strengths. You may feel like you're always the one hosting events, for example, but maybe your friend is always the one willing to bring over cookies and help with the clean-up.
3-3. Tell your friend when he or she is wrong.
Being a good friend means you sometimes have to dish out harsh truths. You're not being nice by allowing a friend to repeat the same mistakes. When you see your friend is in the wrong or about to make a mistake, say so. While you may feel bad about this in the moment, in the long run your friend will appreciate your honesty.
You do not have to be mean when you're telling your friend he or she is in the wrong. In fact, you should come into the situation from a place of love. Say something like, "I'm worried about the way you talk about other people. I know you're a better person than this, and I wish you would be less negative about those who aren't around."
Reiterate that you care about a friend after telling that person he or she is in the wrong. Say something like, "I'm only saying something because I care about you and this behavior concerns me."
3-4. Deal with conflict in a mature fashion.
Conflict is inevitable in a friendship. If the two of you are close, you're going to get on one another's nerves. In the event of conflict, try to work things out maturely.
If you hurt a friend's feelings, apologize. Even if you did not mean something the way your friend took it, if your friend was genuinely hurt, he or she deserves an "I'm sorry."
If you're upset by something your friend said, tell him or her directly. Do not talk about your friend behind his or her back. This will not resolve the issue and could create further tension.
Tips
Introduce your friends to others. You can create a fun, strong friend group by helping people connect to one another.
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You should also compliment your friend on small things he or she does that you appreciate. Remind your friend of his or her good qualities. For example, say something like, \\\"I love how you're always smiling\\\" or \\\"I appreciate how you always remember everyone's birthday.\\\"\\n1-2. Listen when your friend's in need.\\nListening is the foundation of a quality friendship. If you know your friend is having a bad day, offer to let your friend vent to you. You do not have to offer solutions or even advice. Simply allow your friend to express his or her feelings without judgment.\\nIf you're unsure what to say when listening, try active listening. This will allow your friend to feel more open expressing his or herself to you. You can reiterate what your friend says after he or she finishes talking, encouraging your friend to elaborate if necessary. For example, say something like, \\\"You feel really stressed about the way your brother behaved when he came to visit?\\\"\\nKeep in mind that, while listening is important, you do not want to end up in a one-sided friendship. If you feel like your friend is always asking you to listen, but is never there for you in return, you may want to reevaluate the friendship. Being a nice friend is important, but you do not want to end up in a situation where someone is taking advantage of your good nature. If you listen to your friend, expect him or her to listen to you when you're in need.\\n1-3. Remember important events.\\nThe little things help build the foundation of a strong friendship. Make the effort to remember the important events in your friend's life, like birthdays, anniversaries, and more.\\nAlways remember your friend's birthday. It can help to write a reminder in your smart phone. You don't necessarily have to go overboard with a big present each year. However, your friend may appreciate a nice phone call or card.\\nDoes your friend have any other big life events that are important? Even sad events are worth of remembrance. For example, if your friend has lost a loved one, the death anniversary can be difficult. Try to keep this in mind, and shoot your friend a text letting him or her know you're there if he or she needs to talk.\\n1-4. Have loyalty.\\nLoyalty is a very important aspect of a strong friendship. Jealousy, envy, bitterness, and distrust are all negative emotions than can affect your ability to be loyal. Try to rise beyond these sentiments and strive for basic loyalty.\\nAvoid talking about your friend behind his or her back. Even if you're angry or upset about something your friend did, avoid venting your frustrations to others. Instead, try writing it out and later, when you're more calm, talking to your friend directly about any problems.\\nIt can be hard to cope with negative emotions that can adversely affect loyalty. However, try to keep in mind the benefits of working past these emotions. What's more important in the long term? Momentarily satiating feelings of jealousy by trash talking your friend, or building a strong lifelong bond?\\nOne caveat is that loyalty, like listening, has its limitations. While you should be loyal to your friend and support his or her decisions, you do not have to be blindly loyal to someone who is behaving poorly. If, for example, your friend hurt a mutual friend's feelings, do not immediately jump to your friend's defense. It's important that you tell you friend up front if his or her behavior has crossed a line for you or another person.\\n1-5. Practice the golden rule.\\nThe Golden Rule states you should treat others as you wish to be treated. When interacting with your friends, pause and think about your actions. If you feel as if you're not treating your friend well, consider how you would feel if you were being treated in this fashion. If you would not appreciate the kind of treatment you're dishing out, you should cease to treat your friend in that way.\\n2. Spending Time with Your Friend\\n2-1. Engage in shared interests.\\nOften, friendships are built around common interests. If there's something that drew you and your friend together to begin with, going back to this shared interest can help strengthen your bond.\\nFor example, if you and your friend met at a book club, try agreeing to read the same book. You can meet up once a week to discuss the book. Your friend will love having you there to share this experience.\\nYou can also pursue shared interests further together. For example, if you and your friend met in college in a Spanish class, consider attending a Spanish club together. You can help build on your language skills as a pair.\\n2-2. Make friendship a priority.\\nAs time goes by, friendship can sometimes fall to the wayside. School, work, romantic relationships, and other commitments can put a strain on a friendship. However, if you want to be a nice friend, work on prioritizing the friendships in your life.\\nRealistically, as life gets busier and busier, you will not be able to see your friends every day or even every week. However, make an effort to get together regularly. It can help to have a regular meet up time. For example, you can agree to have dinner together the first Tuesday of every month.\\nOne thing to keep in mind is that you should not prioritize someone who does not prioritize you. You do not want to end up in a one-sided friendship. If you are always the one reaching out and making plans with a particular person, you may be better off tapering off contact. You can work on being a good friend to someone who appreciates your presence.\\nEven if time is an issue, you can still find ways to reach out. Many people find they can stay in touch via social media when life gets hectic. You can also make a point of calling a friend to chat once in awhile if you're too busy to go out regularly.\\n2-3. Laugh together.\\nPeople tend to bond when they laugh together. Your friend will enjoy your company more if the two of you are always laughing. Try to make laughter a priority when you hangout. \\nWatch funny movies together or go to comedy clubs.\\nMake each other laugh. Do not be afraid to be a little silly or ridiculous. A true friend won't judge you for bringing out your immature side.\\nWhile laughter is important, try not to laugh at the expense of others. You do not want to build a friendship on mutual scorn or animosity. A person willing to laugh and judge others with you will probably not be a nice friend to you in return.\\n2-4. Keep in contact long distance.\\nUnfortunately, distance can sometimes keep good friends apart. In this case, you should make an effort to keep up contact. If your friend moves away for school or work, call or Skype regularly. You can make a plan of calling every other Thursday, for example. You can also strive to stay in touch with your friend through various social media outlets, like Facebook and Twitter.\\n3. Communicating with Your Friend\\n3-1. Avoid giving advice.\\nYou may feel that being nice means always telling your friend how to fix his or her problems. However, this can make the friendship feel unbalanced. You're always the one with the answers, while your friend is always the one with the problems. Not only this, when your friend opens up to you, he or she may not always be seeking advice. Sometimes, people just want to vent and do not want guidance.\\nSimply let your friend talk. Show you're listening by giving non-verbal cues, like smiling and nodding, to convey you're paying attention. Reiterate what she's saying on occasion to make sure you understood fully.\\nYou should also help your friend bounce ideas off of you. Ask questions like, \\\"What do you think you're going to do?\\\" or \\\"Do you have any idea how to proceed?\\\"\\nIn the event you're genuinely worried about a decision your friend is making, it's okay to voice your concern. If your friend is considering doing something dangerous or illegal, for example, it's not a bad idea to express concern.\\n3-2. Do not keep score.\\nA nice friend does not make people feel a debt. You should not hold onto things like who gave the best birthday present or who did the last favor. You should do nice things for your friend because you appreciate this person, not as a way to get favors in return.\\nPeople often create petty barriers to friendship. For example, you may feel like you shouldn't invite your friend out on a Saturday night because you did so last week. In your mind, it's your friend's turn. However, some people just aren't great at making plans and prefer to simply go along with what others are doing. Your friend does not owe you an invitation because you extended one to him or her.\\nTry to keep in mind you and your friend have different strengths. You may feel like you're always the one hosting events, for example, but maybe your friend is always the one willing to bring over cookies and help with the clean-up.\\n3-3. Tell your friend when he or she is wrong.\\nBeing a good friend means you sometimes have to dish out harsh truths. You're not being nice by allowing a friend to repeat the same mistakes. When you see your friend is in the wrong or about to make a mistake, say so. While you may feel bad about this in the moment, in the long run your friend will appreciate your honesty.\\nYou do not have to be mean when you're telling your friend he or she is in the wrong. In fact, you should come into the situation from a place of love. Say something like, \\\"I'm worried about the way you talk about other people. I know you're a better person than this, and I wish you would be less negative about those who aren't around.\\\"\\nReiterate that you care about a friend after telling that person he or she is in the wrong. Say something like, \\\"I'm only saying something because I care about you and this behavior concerns me.\\\"\\n3-4. Deal with conflict in a mature fashion.\\nConflict is inevitable in a friendship. If the two of you are close, you're going to get on one another's nerves. In the event of conflict, try to work things out maturely.\\nIf you hurt a friend's feelings, apologize. Even if you did not mean something the way your friend took it, if your friend was genuinely hurt, he or she deserves an \\\"I'm sorry.\\\"\\nIf you're upset by something your friend said, tell him or her directly. Do not talk about your friend behind his or her back. This will not resolve the issue and could create further tension.\\nTips\\nIntroduce your friends to others. You can create a fun, strong friend group by helping people connect to one another.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Everyone enjoys having friends. If you have a good friend in your life, you probably want to maintain a solid relationship with that person. You may be wondering what you need to do to be a nice friend. In order to be a high quality companion, support your friend in good and bad times. Spend time with your friend regularly, and keep up contact even at a distance. Lastly, work on good communication skills to avoid fights and misunderstandings.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Supporting Your Friend\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be happy for your friend's accomplishments.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be a supportive friend, one of the most important things you can do is to be happy for your friend's accomplishments. Work on being your friend's biggest fan. Applaud his or her achievements and try not to feel jealous.\\nJealousy can often make it difficult to celebrate another person's success, even someone you consider a friend. However, it's very important that you are able to cheer you friend on. People want to be around positive people who make them feel good about themselves. Even if you're feeling a twang of envy, try to push past that feeling and offer a sincere, \\\"Congratulations.\\\" You'll feel better if you do. 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You can reiterate what your friend says after he or she finishes talking, encouraging your friend to elaborate if necessary. For example, say something like, \\\"You feel really stressed about the way your brother behaved when he came to visit?\\\"\\nKeep in mind that, while listening is important, you do not want to end up in a one-sided friendship. If you feel like your friend is always asking you to listen, but is never there for you in return, you may want to reevaluate the friendship. Being a nice friend is important, but you do not want to end up in a situation where someone is taking advantage of your good nature. If you listen to your friend, expect him or her to listen to you when you're in need.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remember important events.\", \"描述\": \"The little things help build the foundation of a strong friendship. Make the effort to remember the important events in your friend's life, like birthdays, anniversaries, and more.\\nAlways remember your friend's birthday. It can help to write a reminder in your smart phone. You don't necessarily have to go overboard with a big present each year. However, your friend may appreciate a nice phone call or card.\\nDoes your friend have any other big life events that are important? Even sad events are worth of remembrance. For example, if your friend has lost a loved one, the death anniversary can be difficult. Try to keep this in mind, and shoot your friend a text letting him or her know you're there if he or she needs to talk.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have loyalty.\", \"描述\": \"Loyalty is a very important aspect of a strong friendship. Jealousy, envy, bitterness, and distrust are all negative emotions than can affect your ability to be loyal. 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1. Projecting Nice Guy Energy to Others
1-1. Offer to help others.
Helpfulness is one of the hallmarks of a nice guy. Look for ways that you can be more helpful to everyone around you, and remember that even small gestures are appreciated.
Pay attention to how your friends and loved ones are feeling. If they seem overwhelmed by something, always offer to help them in whatever way you can. For example, if your mom is stressed out about a party she is hosting, offer to help clean the house or pick up the groceries she needs.
Help people you don't know as well. You can do this by volunteering for charitable organizations, or even just by helping a stranger pick up a stack of papers that he dropped in the hallway.
Don't expect to get anything in return. Kindness is often repaid, but your goal should not be to be rewarded for your helpfulness.
1-2. Be a great listener.
Nice guys take the time to really listen when someone is talking to them. The next time you're having a conversation with someone, be sure to listen attentively and respond in a meaningful way.
Avoid distractions that might make the other person think you're not listening. Always put your phone away when you're having a conversation and maintain eye contact to show that you are fully engaged.
Don't interrupt people, even if you think you know what they're about to say. Always let them finish talking before you share your thoughts.
1-3. Be grateful.
Nice guys always express gratitude when other people do nice things for them. No matter how big or small the gesture, always say thank you when someone else does something nice for you.
Consider doing something nice in return. For example, if a friend surprised you with concert tickets, consider treating her to lunch the next time you see her.
Be grateful to people you don't know too. If a stranger holds the elevator for you, for example, be sure to thank her.
1-4. Smile and laugh.
Happiness is contagious and it makes people want to spend time with you. The happier you are, the nicer you will be perceived by others, so make an effort to smile and laugh a little more each day.
Always smile when you see somebody, whether you know them or not. Your smile might just make someone else's day a lot brighter.
Smiling and laughing will also make you feel happier, which will make it much easier to be nice to other people. In addition, it will help other people have more fun when they're around you.
1-5. Be honest.
People do not like liars, so it's very important to be open and honest with everyone. This includes never pretending to be someone you're not, even if you think it will make people like you more.
While it's important to tell the truth, be sure to consider how the truth might hurt someone else's feelings, and always weigh the pros and cons before you say something potentially hurtful. For example, it may be a good idea to tell a friend that his girlfriend is cheating on him, but it's probably not a good idea to tell him that you think his shoes are ugly (unless he asks).
If you have already lied to someone, consider coming clean and telling the truth. It will take a lot of weight off of your shoulders, and the other person will probably appreciate your honesty.
1-6. Treat everyone with respect.
Nice guys should treat everyone respectfully. Start paying particular attention to the way you treat people, whether they're strangers, friends, or loved ones, to make sure that you're not being unintentionally offensive.
Avoid using diminutives like "babe" or "hun" with friends and acquaintances. Many women find these terms belittling (although they may be acceptable if you're in a relationship with the woman).
Avoid talking about women's bodies. This can make them feel uncomfortable and objectified, even if you're being complimentary.
If you're in a relationship, never pressure a woman to do something she's not ready for.
2. Feeling Like a Nicer Person
2-1. Stay calm.
Nice guys are not hotheads, so if you have a problem with anger, you need to start working on it. Getting rid of anger will not only help others perceive you as a nice guy, but it will also help you feel much happier.
Yoga and meditation can help you calm your mind and release stress, so consider incorporating these into your routine if you need more calmness in your life.
2-2. Learn to forgive.
In order to feel like a nice guy, it's important that you not hold on to grudges. No matter how badly another person has hurt you, make the decision to forgive instead of seeking vengeance.
Forgiving does not necessarily mean that you need to accept the harmful action as acceptable; it simply means that you need to make the decision to not let the action affect you any longer.
Forgiving is easier if you can start to think about the person who harmed you as a good person who did a bad thing, instead of villainizing the individual.
2-3. Think about how others feel.
Nice guys are not self-centered, which means that they are always aware of how their words and actions will affect others. If you want to be nicer, be sure to always take other people's feelings into consideration.
The most successful nice guys consider how others think, how they feel, and how they are likely to act. This helps them engage with others in a way that is both kind and effective.
When you think about how others feel, being polite and respectful should come naturally. If you think that something you say or do might be offensive to another person, don't do it.
2-4. Trust that you are a good person.
No one is perfect all the time, and it can be easy to think that you are a bad person just because you lashed out at someone or did something else that you're not proud of. Unfortunately, thinking that you are a bad person makes you more likely to act like a bad person in the future, so it's extremely important that you don't judge yourself too harshly.
The next time you do something that you're ashamed of, remind yourself that you are a good person who did something bad and that you will try not to do that bad thing again. Do not fall into the trap of believing that one bad action is a reflection of who you are as a person.
Keep in mind that feeling guilty about doing a bad thing is an indication that you really are a good person. If you were a bad person, you wouldn't feel guilty at all.
3. Being a Nice Guy Who Gets Ahead
3-1. Be confident and assertive.
People sometimes make the false assumption that nice guys are timid and insecure, so you need to prove them wrong! This means overcoming shyness, if this is a problem for you, and standing up for yourself if people are taking advantage of you.
Just because you're a nice guy does not mean that you have to let people walk all over you. If someone treats you badly, don't be afraid to let them know that it is unacceptable. People generally appreciate when someone can stand up for their opinion and what they believe in, even if they disagree.
Being outgoing, social, and self-confident can help you be a nice guy without all of the negative associations.
Learn to be comfortable being yourself, no matter who you're around. Don't feel like you need to filter everything you say because you don't feel comfortable expressing who you really are—that can make you seem nervous or even fake.
3-2. Don't give too much.
Helping others is great, but if you help others so much that you begin to neglect yourself, you've gone too far. Try to find a balance between taking care of others and taking care of yourself.
It's okay to say no to others if you feel that you are over-committed. Being a nice guy does not mean helping everyone with everything all the time, but rather helping people whenever you are reasonably able to.
Being too generous can also make people see you as a poor leader. If you want to be a strong leader, you may need to be careful about how much you are willing to give to others.
3-3. Don't be boring.
For some reason, people often assume that nice guys are dull, inexperienced, and uninteresting. This is a completely false stereotype, so show everyone around you that you are both nice and interesting.
Develop unique hobbies or travel to interesting places. This will give you plenty of fascinating things to talk about, so people will never think you're boring.
Do something unpredictable every so often, whether it's going on a last-minute road trip or trying a new activity that's out of your normal comfort zone.
There are lots of nice things that you can do that other people will also find very interesting. For example, traveling to help people who survived natural disasters, volunteering to help build houses for the poor, or organizing a fund raiser for a local charity are all great ways to do nice things for people without being boring or predictable.
Tips
Remember to be nice to everyone, not just to people in your social circle. People will have much more respect for you if you are inclusive.[18]
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Research source
If you want to start being nicer, start at home. Try being nicer to your family by helping them out or even just arguing with them less.
Don't just pretend to be a nice guy. It's always best to be yourself, and people will know that you're not being genuine.
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The next time you're having a conversation with someone, be sure to listen attentively and respond in a meaningful way.\\nAvoid distractions that might make the other person think you're not listening. Always put your phone away when you're having a conversation and maintain eye contact to show that you are fully engaged.\\nDon't interrupt people, even if you think you know what they're about to say. Always let them finish talking before you share your thoughts.\\n1-3. Be grateful.\\nNice guys always express gratitude when other people do nice things for them. No matter how big or small the gesture, always say thank you when someone else does something nice for you.\\nConsider doing something nice in return. For example, if a friend surprised you with concert tickets, consider treating her to lunch the next time you see her.\\nBe grateful to people you don't know too. If a stranger holds the elevator for you, for example, be sure to thank her.\\n1-4. Smile and laugh.\\nHappiness is contagious and it makes people want to spend time with you. The happier you are, the nicer you will be perceived by others, so make an effort to smile and laugh a little more each day.\\nAlways smile when you see somebody, whether you know them or not. Your smile might just make someone else's day a lot brighter.\\nSmiling and laughing will also make you feel happier, which will make it much easier to be nice to other people. In addition, it will help other people have more fun when they're around you.\\n1-5. Be honest.\\nPeople do not like liars, so it's very important to be open and honest with everyone. This includes never pretending to be someone you're not, even if you think it will make people like you more.\\nWhile it's important to tell the truth, be sure to consider how the truth might hurt someone else's feelings, and always weigh the pros and cons before you say something potentially hurtful. 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No matter how badly another person has hurt you, make the decision to forgive instead of seeking vengeance.\\nForgiving does not necessarily mean that you need to accept the harmful action as acceptable; it simply means that you need to make the decision to not let the action affect you any longer.\\nForgiving is easier if you can start to think about the person who harmed you as a good person who did a bad thing, instead of villainizing the individual.\\n2-3. Think about how others feel.\\nNice guys are not self-centered, which means that they are always aware of how their words and actions will affect others. If you want to be nicer, be sure to always take other people's feelings into consideration.\\nThe most successful nice guys consider how others think, how they feel, and how they are likely to act. This helps them engage with others in a way that is both kind and effective.\\nWhen you think about how others feel, being polite and respectful should come naturally. If you think that something you say or do might be offensive to another person, don't do it.\\n2-4. Trust that you are a good person.\\nNo one is perfect all the time, and it can be easy to think that you are a bad person just because you lashed out at someone or did something else that you're not proud of. Unfortunately, thinking that you are a bad person makes you more likely to act like a bad person in the future, so it's extremely important that you don't judge yourself too harshly.\\nThe next time you do something that you're ashamed of, remind yourself that you are a good person who did something bad and that you will try not to do that bad thing again. Do not fall into the trap of believing that one bad action is a reflection of who you are as a person.\\nKeep in mind that feeling guilty about doing a bad thing is an indication that you really are a good person. If you were a bad person, you wouldn't feel guilty at all.\\n3. Being a Nice Guy Who Gets Ahead\\n3-1. Be confident and assertive.\\nPeople sometimes make the false assumption that nice guys are timid and insecure, so you need to prove them wrong! This means overcoming shyness, if this is a problem for you, and standing up for yourself if people are taking advantage of you.\\nJust because you're a nice guy does not mean that you have to let people walk all over you. If someone treats you badly, don't be afraid to let them know that it is unacceptable. People generally appreciate when someone can stand up for their opinion and what they believe in, even if they disagree.\\nBeing outgoing, social, and self-confident can help you be a nice guy without all of the negative associations.\\nLearn to be comfortable being yourself, no matter who you're around. Don't feel like you need to filter everything you say because you don't feel comfortable expressing who you really are—that can make you seem nervous or even fake.\\n3-2. Don't give too much.\\nHelping others is great, but if you help others so much that you begin to neglect yourself, you've gone too far. Try to find a balance between taking care of others and taking care of yourself.\\nIt's okay to say no to others if you feel that you are over-committed. Being a nice guy does not mean helping everyone with everything all the time, but rather helping people whenever you are reasonably able to.\\nBeing too generous can also make people see you as a poor leader. If you want to be a strong leader, you may need to be careful about how much you are willing to give to others.\\n3-3. Don't be boring.\\nFor some reason, people often assume that nice guys are dull, inexperienced, and uninteresting. This is a completely false stereotype, so show everyone around you that you are both nice and interesting.\\nDevelop unique hobbies or travel to interesting places. 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How to Be a Nice Guy Instead of a "Nice Guy"
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1. Adjusting Your Attitude
1-1. Know the signs of being a "nice guy."
Many "nice guys" work hard to satisfy other people, then get upset when it doesn't get them what they want. You may have a "nice guy" problem if...
You are always seeking other people's approval.
You apologize as a reflex.
You put others' needs before your own, and your own life suffers for it.
You have trouble saying "no" to people.
You're passive and let other people boss you around.
You often feel like a victim.
You struggle with dating, and feel like you always give more than you get.
You end up judging and resenting other people for not reciprocating.
1-2. Recognize that being a "Nice Guy" doesn't work.
You're likely to get frustrated if you sit around being nice and hoping that something good will fall into your lap.
Many "nice guys" feel like everything they try just doesn't work, and they may end up suppressing their feelings and resenting other people for it.
"Nice guys" can end up with a reputation for being deceptive and creepy, because other people don't know what the "nice guy" wants or what will make him angry.
Your actions can speak loud. So if you support others often but never ask for support, people may think you are hypocritical.
1-3. Recognize unrealistic expectations.
There are no secret rules of relationships that guarantee that if you do something, you'll get something in return. People with "nice guy" ideas may believe that:
"If I'm nice, women will love me and want to date me."
"If I meet others' needs, other people should meet my needs."
"If I do things right, my life will be easier."
Former "nice guy" Dr. Robert Glover calls these "covert contracts." The trouble with a covert contract is that the other person isn't aware of the terms, or that you are holding them to the contract. Thus, they're bound to disappoint you.
1-4. Recognize that nobody owes you anything in return for kindness.
Relationships aren't a tit-for-tat exchange, and building up resentment if someone doesn't reciprocate isn't helpful to you. Give for the sake of giving, not because you expect to get something in return.
Notice if someone doesn't reciprocate. Assume that this person is probably not a good dating option for you.
Recognize that you don't have to give something if you don't want to. You can say no.
Remember that nobody has to "give you a chance" and try dating you. Just like you aren't obligated to try dating any random person off the street, nobody ever owes you a date.
If you notice yourself giving in the hopes of getting something back, stop. Instead, just ask for what you want.
1-5. Try rejection therapy.
"Rejection therapy" is a game you can play to build your resilience and assertiveness skills. Try asking random people for favors; have the goal of making sure they say no to you. Then smile politely and walk away. Here are some examples of things you can do for practice:
Ask someone to race you.
Ask a store worker for a discount.
Ask strangers for money.
Ask to test drive someone else's car.
Ask strangers to take a selfie with you.
Only make the request if you would be okay with them saying "yes!" Sometimes people will surprise you. For example, if you aren't attracted to men but you ask a random guy out and he says yes, that's a bad situation.
1-6. Let go of jealousy and insecurities.
Quit judging men who are romantically successful, or blaming women for "wanting jerks." Envy is a bad look, and it'll eat you up from the inside (and drive potential dates away). Instead, work on letting things go and acknowledging that there's nothing wrong with you if you don't happen to have what other guys have.
There are many different ways to be attractive. Some guys are bookish, sensitive, and charming. Some guys are bold, assertive, and spontaneous. Some guys are stoic, gentle, and loving. None of these are wrong. Just because a different guy is attractive in a different way doesn't mean that one of you is less attractive than the other.
1-7. Be your own man.
Some "nice guys" hear stories about awful men and decide to become the opposite. But they're still relying on other people (especially women) for validation, which isn't helpful. Avoid defining yourself by how you assume that women may see you, and instead, consider how you see yourself.
You don't need a girlfriend to know that you are a good person.
Don't feel the need to copy other men who look successful. Instead, focus on your own strengths, and work on being the best version of yourself. This will make you much more attractive, and you'll feel better about yourself too.
1-8. Don't be afraid to be masculine.
Being a good person doesn't have to mean alienating yourself from your masculinity. If you want to lift weights, be tough, dress like a cowboy, watch sports, or do any other stereotypical "manly" things, you can! Be yourself, own your quirks, and make it part of your style.
Women don't necessarily find "manly men" unattractive. Aggressive, mean, misogynistic, and uncaring men are unattractive, but you can be manly without being those things. Macho jerks are bad, but genuinely manly men are attractive.
If you don't feel comfortable being "manly," that's okay too. Focus on wearing and doing the things that make you happy.
Be yourself, not a chameleon who mimics whatever he thinks women will like.
1-9. Mean what you say.
Many "nice guys" try to avoid making waves because they fear conflict too much. But in the end, they are shooting themselves in the foot, because they don't stand up for themselves and they end up coming off as deceptive. Instead, take the courage to speak your mind.
Quit saying yes when you want to say no.
Politely say no to people if they make requests that would be too much of a burden on you. For example, if you have to study all weekend and you're asked to babysit for half a day, don't say yes. Just say "Sorry, I have to study."
Break bad news gently. You don't have to be rude to be honest. For example, you can say things like "No, I think the yellow dress was more flattering" or "I already have plans. Are you free next week?"
1-10. Take care of yourself first.
Learn to count on yourself. Being a pushover and neglecting yourself isn't good for you. Take care of your own needs first, and once that is done, offer your spare energy doing a mix of things that you enjoy and things that help other people.
It is important to focus on your needs and desires to avoid falling into a nice guy stereotype.
If you feel someone is taking advantage of you, set boundaries with them so that you do not feel walked over.
1-11. Don't unleash pent-up anger on others.
Yes, it stinks when you don't get what you want. It's okay to be upset. But that doesn't give you the right to call names, accuse everyone of everything, or act like a bully. If you start swearing or calling names when you get rejected, you aren't acting like a nice guy at all. Find healthy outlets instead of hurting others or blaming everyone but yourself.
Other people are not responsible for fulfilling expectations they didn't even know you had.
Don't send angry messages to people who don't want to date you. Instead, take a break and do something that helps you process things or relax. Rage-filled messages can scare women.
Consider anger management classes if you feel the need to verbally abuse people who don't go out with you.
1-12. Consider therapy if you don't know what else to do.
If you feel like you're trapped in ineffective and negative behavior patterns, it might help to see a counselor and ask for tools to handle things in more productive ways.
Some people think that "real men" don't get therapy. In reality, taking a step towards making things right is an incredibly brave thing to do.
2. Handling Dating
2-1. Recognize and respect the signs that someone isn't interested.
It's normal to strike out sometimes, and if someone is disinterested, it's time to cut your losses and leave. Remember, romantic rejection is normal and doesn't reflect badly on you. It's time to move on if the person you're flirting with is...
Looking away from you
Using "closed off" body language, with their arms or legs folded like a barrier
Trying to change the subject or avoid you
Turning their body and/or feet away
Making excuses, like "I would, but..." or "I have a boyfriend" or "I have to go" (You want someone who is enthusiastic about dating you.)
2-2. Choose potential dates based on personality, not on appearance.
Beauty is skin deep, and a gorgeous woman with a mean personality is not a good date. Instead, look for people who are kind, good at listening, and fun to be around (regardless of whether they're "pretty" or not). You'll be much happier with someone who treats you well.
It doesn't hurt to be attracted to someone who is good-looking. Just make sure that you like their personality too!
A sweet, funny, ugly girlfriend is way better than a pretty, mean one.
2-3. Beware people who seek to take advantage of you.
Just like it's wrong for a man to take advantage of an unassertive woman, it's wrong for a woman to take advantage of a man (or for anyone to take advantage of anyone). If you notice that someone seems to be using you, and asks you for things without reciprocating, start spending less time with them.
As you start becoming more assertive, saying "no," and growing a backbone, it's possible you will lose a few "friends." But it's likely that these people didn't care much about you in the first place. They just liked using you because they knew you were afraid to say "no" to them.
2-4. Learn to make peace with romantic rejection.
Getting turned down doesn't mean you aren't an upstanding guy. Sometimes, it's a bad time, or the two of you wouldn't be very romantically compatible. If someone rejects you, there isn't anything wrong with you or with them. It's just a bad match, and you can move on to the next person who might be a better fit for you. Reasons for rejection can include:
Incompatible sexual orientations (e.g. a man asking out a lesbian)
You're not that person's type
The person is already in a relationship
The person is too busy for a relationship
The person wants to focus on their own issues right now
The person has trust issues
2-5. Flirt, and see if they flirt back.
Being nice to somebody and hoping they eventually fall in love is a very frustrating, unhelpful tactic. Instead, let the person know that you like them. If they seem clueless, it means you need to dial it up so that they get it. If they seem uncomfortable or start saying that you're "a good friend," it means you need to move on. If they smile and flirt back, it means you should keep flirting, and maybe try asking them out.
Look at them and smile flirtatiously.
Find excuses to touch them (if they seem comfortable with it).
Compliment them.
Ask them out. It can be simple: even just "I think you're beautiful and I'd like to take you out to a movie sometime" is a good way to ask someone out.
2-6. Do things instead of just being nice.
Niceness is the bare minimum that most people expect of each other. You don't get a gold star for human decency. If you want to be seen as special, then you need to do special things. What do you do that sets you apart from a random guy on the street? Use your actions to show your interest and your suitability as a romantic partner.
Which person do you think the average straight single woman would want to date: the guy who constructs elaborate fantasies in his head without doing anything, or the guy who will listen to her, surprise her with her favorite food and flowers, and rub her feet after she has had a long day at work? (You can be the second guy!)
Remember that it's what you do, not who you are, that makes you a viable partner. You can change what you do.
2-7. Ask for what you want.
Assertiveness and good communication are key to getting and maintaining a healthy relationship. If you want to date, kiss, or do something else, take a deep breath and ask. Being brave gets you a straight answer, and takes you out of the purgatory of suspense.
If you get turned down for a date, it's not the end of the world. Now you know that you would be wasting your time trying to date this person, and you can look for the next person to try asking.
If your date turns down an invitation for a romantic activity, it's okay. Maybe they're too busy, or they aren't in the mood. If you think something might be wrong, just ask "is everything okay?"
People can tell if you're trying to take a "tit-for-tat" approach. For example, if you do little things for your girlfriend in the hopes that she'll reward you in the bedroom, she'll probably figure out what you're doing and think you're manipulative. Instead, only do nice things for the sake of being nice, and ask for what you want.
2-8. Start being more open about your feelings.
If you're feeling stressed about something, try saying "I'm stressed." If something's bothering you, say "Can I talk to you about something that has been on my mind?" Relationships go both ways, and you can give your partner opportunities to give back to you.
Try using "I" language or the nonviolent communication style to express how you feel and what you want.
2-9. Approach relationship decisions as equals.
A "nice guy" may feel like he has to be passive to please the person he's dating. But you can speak your mind and assert yourself without steamrolling your partner.
If you never tell your date what you want, they may end up feeling very confused because they don't know what's going on in your head. A good partner wants to date someone who will speak their mind.
Hiding your true wants and thoughts just builds up toxic resentment, which isn't good for you or your relationship.
2-10. Focus on partnership, not "winning."
Your goal isn't to score or defeat your date, and your date isn't your opponent. Instead, treat relationships like being on a team, or like living life using the buddy system.
Tips
Respect yourself and other people. A respectful man is much more attractive than a "nice" man who neglects himself or says spiteful things behind people's backs.
Be patient with yourself. Unlearning bad habits and adopting new ones, can take time and practice. Don't expect yourself to be perfect after a day or a week.
Warnings
Avoid websites that guarantee they know a perfect trick to make people fall in love with you. Relationships are hard work, and there are no cheat codes to hack the system.
Stay away from toxic material that disrespects women, or ranks men based on how "alpha" or "pathetic" they are.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Adjusting Your Attitude\\n1-1. Know the signs of being a \\\"nice guy.\\\"\\nMany \\\"nice guys\\\" work hard to satisfy other people, then get upset when it doesn't get them what they want. You may have a \\\"nice guy\\\" problem if...\\nYou are always seeking other people's approval.\\nYou apologize as a reflex.\\nYou put others' needs before your own, and your own life suffers for it.\\nYou have trouble saying \\\"no\\\" to people.\\nYou're passive and let other people boss you around.\\nYou often feel like a victim.\\nYou struggle with dating, and feel like you always give more than you get.\\nYou end up judging and resenting other people for not reciprocating.\\n1-2. Recognize that being a \\\"Nice Guy\\\" doesn't work.\\nYou're likely to get frustrated if you sit around being nice and hoping that something good will fall into your lap.\\nMany \\\"nice guys\\\" feel like everything they try just doesn't work, and they may end up suppressing their feelings and resenting other people for it.\\n\\\"Nice guys\\\" can end up with a reputation for being deceptive and creepy, because other people don't know what the \\\"nice guy\\\" wants or what will make him angry.\\nYour actions can speak loud. So if you support others often but never ask for support, people may think you are hypocritical.\\n1-3. Recognize unrealistic expectations.\\nThere are no secret rules of relationships that guarantee that if you do something, you'll get something in return. People with \\\"nice guy\\\" ideas may believe that: \\n\\\"If I'm nice, women will love me and want to date me.\\\"\\n\\\"If I meet others' needs, other people should meet my needs.\\\"\\n\\\"If I do things right, my life will be easier.\\\"\\nFormer \\\"nice guy\\\" Dr. Robert Glover calls these \\\"covert contracts.\\\" The trouble with a covert contract is that the other person isn't aware of the terms, or that you are holding them to the contract. Thus, they're bound to disappoint you.\\n1-4. Recognize that nobody owes you anything in return for kindness.\\nRelationships aren't a tit-for-tat exchange, and building up resentment if someone doesn't reciprocate isn't helpful to you. Give for the sake of giving, not because you expect to get something in return. \\nNotice if someone doesn't reciprocate. Assume that this person is probably not a good dating option for you.\\nRecognize that you don't have to give something if you don't want to. You can say no.\\nRemember that nobody has to \\\"give you a chance\\\" and try dating you. Just like you aren't obligated to try dating any random person off the street, nobody ever owes you a date.\\nIf you notice yourself giving in the hopes of getting something back, stop. Instead, just ask for what you want.\\n1-5. Try rejection therapy.\\n\\\"Rejection therapy\\\" is a game you can play to build your resilience and assertiveness skills. Try asking random people for favors; have the goal of making sure they say no to you. Then smile politely and walk away. Here are some examples of things you can do for practice:\\nAsk someone to race you.\\nAsk a store worker for a discount.\\nAsk strangers for money.\\nAsk to test drive someone else's car.\\nAsk strangers to take a selfie with you.\\n Only make the request if you would be okay with them saying \\\"yes!\\\" Sometimes people will surprise you. For example, if you aren't attracted to men but you ask a random guy out and he says yes, that's a bad situation.\\n1-6. Let go of jealousy and insecurities.\\nQuit judging men who are romantically successful, or blaming women for \\\"wanting jerks.\\\" Envy is a bad look, and it'll eat you up from the inside (and drive potential dates away). Instead, work on letting things go and acknowledging that there's nothing wrong with you if you don't happen to have what other guys have. \\nThere are many different ways to be attractive. Some guys are bookish, sensitive, and charming. Some guys are bold, assertive, and spontaneous. Some guys are stoic, gentle, and loving. None of these are wrong. Just because a different guy is attractive in a different way doesn't mean that one of you is less attractive than the other.\\n1-7. Be your own man.\\nSome \\\"nice guys\\\" hear stories about awful men and decide to become the opposite. But they're still relying on other people (especially women) for validation, which isn't helpful. Avoid defining yourself by how you assume that women may see you, and instead, consider how you see yourself. \\nYou don't need a girlfriend to know that you are a good person.\\nDon't feel the need to copy other men who look successful. Instead, focus on your own strengths, and work on being the best version of yourself. This will make you much more attractive, and you'll feel better about yourself too.\\n1-8. Don't be afraid to be masculine.\\nBeing a good person doesn't have to mean alienating yourself from your masculinity. If you want to lift weights, be tough, dress like a cowboy, watch sports, or do any other stereotypical \\\"manly\\\" things, you can! Be yourself, own your quirks, and make it part of your style. \\nWomen don't necessarily find \\\"manly men\\\" unattractive. Aggressive, mean, misogynistic, and uncaring men are unattractive, but you can be manly without being those things. Macho jerks are bad, but genuinely manly men are attractive.\\nIf you don't feel comfortable being \\\"manly,\\\" that's okay too. Focus on wearing and doing the things that make you happy.\\nBe yourself, not a chameleon who mimics whatever he thinks women will like.\\n1-9. Mean what you say.\\nMany \\\"nice guys\\\" try to avoid making waves because they fear conflict too much. But in the end, they are shooting themselves in the foot, because they don't stand up for themselves and they end up coming off as deceptive. Instead, take the courage to speak your mind. \\nQuit saying yes when you want to say no.\\nPolitely say no to people if they make requests that would be too much of a burden on you. For example, if you have to study all weekend and you're asked to babysit for half a day, don't say yes. Just say \\\"Sorry, I have to study.\\\"\\nBreak bad news gently. You don't have to be rude to be honest. For example, you can say things like \\\"No, I think the yellow dress was more flattering\\\" or \\\"I already have plans. Are you free next week?\\\"\\n1-10. Take care of yourself first.\\nLearn to count on yourself. Being a pushover and neglecting yourself isn't good for you. Take care of your own needs first, and once that is done, offer your spare energy doing a mix of things that you enjoy and things that help other people. \\nIt is important to focus on your needs and desires to avoid falling into a nice guy stereotype.\\nIf you feel someone is taking advantage of you, set boundaries with them so that you do not feel walked over.\\n1-11. Don't unleash pent-up anger on others.\\nYes, it stinks when you don't get what you want. It's okay to be upset. But that doesn't give you the right to call names, accuse everyone of everything, or act like a bully. If you start swearing or calling names when you get rejected, you aren't acting like a nice guy at all. Find healthy outlets instead of hurting others or blaming everyone but yourself. \\nOther people are not responsible for fulfilling expectations they didn't even know you had.\\nDon't send angry messages to people who don't want to date you. Instead, take a break and do something that helps you process things or relax. Rage-filled messages can scare women.\\nConsider anger management classes if you feel the need to verbally abuse people who don't go out with you.\\n1-12. Consider therapy if you don't know what else to do.\\nIf you feel like you're trapped in ineffective and negative behavior patterns, it might help to see a counselor and ask for tools to handle things in more productive ways. \\nSome people think that \\\"real men\\\" don't get therapy. In reality, taking a step towards making things right is an incredibly brave thing to do.\\n2. Handling Dating\\n2-1. Recognize and respect the signs that someone isn't interested.\\nIt's normal to strike out sometimes, and if someone is disinterested, it's time to cut your losses and leave. Remember, romantic rejection is normal and doesn't reflect badly on you. It's time to move on if the person you're flirting with is... \\nLooking away from you\\nUsing \\\"closed off\\\" body language, with their arms or legs folded like a barrier\\nTrying to change the subject or avoid you\\nTurning their body and/or feet away\\nMaking excuses, like \\\"I would, but...\\\" or \\\"I have a boyfriend\\\" or \\\"I have to go\\\" (You want someone who is enthusiastic about dating you.)\\n2-2. Choose potential dates based on personality, not on appearance.\\nBeauty is skin deep, and a gorgeous woman with a mean personality is not a good date. Instead, look for people who are kind, good at listening, and fun to be around (regardless of whether they're \\\"pretty\\\" or not). You'll be much happier with someone who treats you well. \\nIt doesn't hurt to be attracted to someone who is good-looking. Just make sure that you like their personality too!\\nA sweet, funny, ugly girlfriend is way better than a pretty, mean one.\\n2-3. Beware people who seek to take advantage of you.\\nJust like it's wrong for a man to take advantage of an unassertive woman, it's wrong for a woman to take advantage of a man (or for anyone to take advantage of anyone). If you notice that someone seems to be using you, and asks you for things without reciprocating, start spending less time with them. \\nAs you start becoming more assertive, saying \\\"no,\\\" and growing a backbone, it's possible you will lose a few \\\"friends.\\\" But it's likely that these people didn't care much about you in the first place. They just liked using you because they knew you were afraid to say \\\"no\\\" to them.\\n2-4. Learn to make peace with romantic rejection.\\nGetting turned down doesn't mean you aren't an upstanding guy. Sometimes, it's a bad time, or the two of you wouldn't be very romantically compatible. If someone rejects you, there isn't anything wrong with you or with them. It's just a bad match, and you can move on to the next person who might be a better fit for you. Reasons for rejection can include: \\nIncompatible sexual orientations (e.g. a man asking out a lesbian)\\nYou're not that person's type\\nThe person is already in a relationship\\nThe person is too busy for a relationship\\nThe person wants to focus on their own issues right now\\nThe person has trust issues\\n2-5. Flirt, and see if they flirt back.\\nBeing nice to somebody and hoping they eventually fall in love is a very frustrating, unhelpful tactic. Instead, let the person know that you like them. If they seem clueless, it means you need to dial it up so that they get it. If they seem uncomfortable or start saying that you're \\\"a good friend,\\\" it means you need to move on. If they smile and flirt back, it means you should keep flirting, and maybe try asking them out. \\nLook at them and smile flirtatiously.\\nFind excuses to touch them (if they seem comfortable with it).\\nCompliment them.\\nAsk them out. It can be simple: even just \\\"I think you're beautiful and I'd like to take you out to a movie sometime\\\" is a good way to ask someone out.\\n2-6. Do things instead of just being nice.\\nNiceness is the bare minimum that most people expect of each other. You don't get a gold star for human decency. If you want to be seen as special, then you need to do special things. What do you do that sets you apart from a random guy on the street? Use your actions to show your interest and your suitability as a romantic partner. \\nWhich person do you think the average straight single woman would want to date: the guy who constructs elaborate fantasies in his head without doing anything, or the guy who will listen to her, surprise her with her favorite food and flowers, and rub her feet after she has had a long day at work? (You can be the second guy!)\\nRemember that it's what you do, not who you are, that makes you a viable partner. You can change what you do.\\n2-7. Ask for what you want.\\nAssertiveness and good communication are key to getting and maintaining a healthy relationship. If you want to date, kiss, or do something else, take a deep breath and ask. Being brave gets you a straight answer, and takes you out of the purgatory of suspense. \\nIf you get turned down for a date, it's not the end of the world. Now you know that you would be wasting your time trying to date this person, and you can look for the next person to try asking.\\nIf your date turns down an invitation for a romantic activity, it's okay. Maybe they're too busy, or they aren't in the mood. If you think something might be wrong, just ask \\\"is everything okay?\\\"\\nPeople can tell if you're trying to take a \\\"tit-for-tat\\\" approach. For example, if you do little things for your girlfriend in the hopes that she'll reward you in the bedroom, she'll probably figure out what you're doing and think you're manipulative. Instead, only do nice things for the sake of being nice, and ask for what you want.\\n2-8. Start being more open about your feelings.\\nIf you're feeling stressed about something, try saying \\\"I'm stressed.\\\" If something's bothering you, say \\\"Can I talk to you about something that has been on my mind?\\\" Relationships go both ways, and you can give your partner opportunities to give back to you. \\nTry using \\\"I\\\" language or the nonviolent communication style to express how you feel and what you want.\\n2-9. Approach relationship decisions as equals.\\nA \\\"nice guy\\\" may feel like he has to be passive to please the person he's dating. But you can speak your mind and assert yourself without steamrolling your partner. \\nIf you never tell your date what you want, they may end up feeling very confused because they don't know what's going on in your head. A good partner wants to date someone who will speak their mind.\\nHiding your true wants and thoughts just builds up toxic resentment, which isn't good for you or your relationship.\\n2-10. Focus on partnership, not \\\"winning.\\\"\\nYour goal isn't to score or defeat your date, and your date isn't your opponent. Instead, treat relationships like being on a team, or like living life using the buddy system.\\nTips\\nRespect yourself and other people. A respectful man is much more attractive than a \\\"nice\\\" man who neglects himself or says spiteful things behind people's backs.\\nBe patient with yourself. Unlearning bad habits and adopting new ones, can take time and practice. Don't expect yourself to be perfect after a day or a week.\\nWarnings\\nAvoid websites that guarantee they know a perfect trick to make people fall in love with you. Relationships are hard work, and there are no cheat codes to hack the system.\\nStay away from toxic material that disrespects women, or ranks men based on how \\\"alpha\\\" or \\\"pathetic\\\" they are.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you pay attention to stories told by women, you may have heard of the self-proclaimed \\\"nice guy\\\": a man who pursues women whether they say yes or no, demanding affection in return for his advances, and often becoming resentful when people don't give him what he wants. To succeed in dating and in life, you need to be a good guy instead of merely being \\\"nice.\\\"\\n\\nNote: This article focuses on straight men, since this is the common and stereotypical demographic of \\\"nice guys.\\\" However, people of any gender and orientation can fall into the \\\"nice guy\\\" trap. If you're one of them, you have a problem and you need to work on fixing it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Adjusting Your Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know the signs of being a \\\"nice guy.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"Many \\\"nice guys\\\" work hard to satisfy other people, then get upset when it doesn't get them what they want. You may have a \\\"nice guy\\\" problem if...\\nYou are always seeking other people's approval.\\nYou apologize as a reflex.\\nYou put others' needs before your own, and your own life suffers for it.\\nYou have trouble saying \\\"no\\\" to people.\\nYou're passive and let other people boss you around.\\nYou often feel like a victim.\\nYou struggle with dating, and feel like you always give more than you get.\\nYou end up judging and resenting other people for not reciprocating.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Recognize that being a \\\"Nice Guy\\\" doesn't work.\", \"描述\": \"You're likely to get frustrated if you sit around being nice and hoping that something good will fall into your lap.\\nMany \\\"nice guys\\\" feel like everything they try just doesn't work, and they may end up suppressing their feelings and resenting other people for it.\\n\\\"Nice guys\\\" can end up with a reputation for being deceptive and creepy, because other people don't know what the \\\"nice guy\\\" wants or what will make him angry.\\nYour actions can speak loud. So if you support others often but never ask for support, people may think you are hypocritical.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Recognize unrealistic expectations.\", \"描述\": \"There are no secret rules of relationships that guarantee that if you do something, you'll get something in return. People with \\\"nice guy\\\" ideas may believe that: \\n\\\"If I'm nice, women will love me and want to date me.\\\"\\n\\\"If I meet others' needs, other people should meet my needs.\\\"\\n\\\"If I do things right, my life will be easier.\\\"\\nFormer \\\"nice guy\\\" Dr. Robert Glover calls these \\\"covert contracts.\\\" The trouble with a covert contract is that the other person isn't aware of the terms, or that you are holding them to the contract. Thus, they're bound to disappoint you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Recognize that nobody owes you anything in return for kindness.\", \"描述\": \"Relationships aren't a tit-for-tat exchange, and building up resentment if someone doesn't reciprocate isn't helpful to you. Give for the sake of giving, not because you expect to get something in return. \\nNotice if someone doesn't reciprocate. Assume that this person is probably not a good dating option for you.\\nRecognize that you don't have to give something if you don't want to. You can say no.\\nRemember that nobody has to \\\"give you a chance\\\" and try dating you. Just like you aren't obligated to try dating any random person off the street, nobody ever owes you a date.\\nIf you notice yourself giving in the hopes of getting something back, stop. Instead, just ask for what you want.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try rejection therapy.\", \"描述\": \"\\\"Rejection therapy\\\" is a game you can play to build your resilience and assertiveness skills. Try asking random people for favors; have the goal of making sure they say no to you. Then smile politely and walk away. Here are some examples of things you can do for practice:\\nAsk someone to race you.\\nAsk a store worker for a discount.\\nAsk strangers for money.\\nAsk to test drive someone else's car.\\nAsk strangers to take a selfie with you.\\n Only make the request if you would be okay with them saying \\\"yes!\\\" Sometimes people will surprise you. For example, if you aren't attracted to men but you ask a random guy out and he says yes, that's a bad situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Let go of jealousy and insecurities.\", \"描述\": \"Quit judging men who are romantically successful, or blaming women for \\\"wanting jerks.\\\" Envy is a bad look, and it'll eat you up from the inside (and drive potential dates away). Instead, work on letting things go and acknowledging that there's nothing wrong with you if you don't happen to have what other guys have. \\nThere are many different ways to be attractive. Some guys are bookish, sensitive, and charming. Some guys are bold, assertive, and spontaneous. Some guys are stoic, gentle, and loving. None of these are wrong. Just because a different guy is attractive in a different way doesn't mean that one of you is less attractive than the other.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be your own man.\", \"描述\": \"Some \\\"nice guys\\\" hear stories about awful men and decide to become the opposite. But they're still relying on other people (especially women) for validation, which isn't helpful. Avoid defining yourself by how you assume that women may see you, and instead, consider how you see yourself. \\nYou don't need a girlfriend to know that you are a good person.\\nDon't feel the need to copy other men who look successful. Instead, focus on your own strengths, and work on being the best version of yourself. This will make you much more attractive, and you'll feel better about yourself too.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to be masculine.\", \"描述\": \"Being a good person doesn't have to mean alienating yourself from your masculinity. If you want to lift weights, be tough, dress like a cowboy, watch sports, or do any other stereotypical \\\"manly\\\" things, you can! Be yourself, own your quirks, and make it part of your style. \\nWomen don't necessarily find \\\"manly men\\\" unattractive. Aggressive, mean, misogynistic, and uncaring men are unattractive, but you can be manly without being those things. Macho jerks are bad, but genuinely manly men are attractive.\\nIf you don't feel comfortable being \\\"manly,\\\" that's okay too. Focus on wearing and doing the things that make you happy.\\nBe yourself, not a chameleon who mimics whatever he thinks women will like.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Mean what you say.\", \"描述\": \"Many \\\"nice guys\\\" try to avoid making waves because they fear conflict too much. But in the end, they are shooting themselves in the foot, because they don't stand up for themselves and they end up coming off as deceptive. Instead, take the courage to speak your mind. \\nQuit saying yes when you want to say no.\\nPolitely say no to people if they make requests that would be too much of a burden on you. For example, if you have to study all weekend and you're asked to babysit for half a day, don't say yes. Just say \\\"Sorry, I have to study.\\\"\\nBreak bad news gently. You don't have to be rude to be honest. For example, you can say things like \\\"No, I think the yellow dress was more flattering\\\" or \\\"I already have plans. Are you free next week?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Take care of yourself first.\", \"描述\": \"Learn to count on yourself. Being a pushover and neglecting yourself isn't good for you. Take care of your own needs first, and once that is done, offer your spare energy doing a mix of things that you enjoy and things that help other people. \\nIt is important to focus on your needs and desires to avoid falling into a nice guy stereotype.\\nIf you feel someone is taking advantage of you, set boundaries with them so that you do not feel walked over.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Don't unleash pent-up anger on others.\", \"描述\": \"Yes, it stinks when you don't get what you want. It's okay to be upset. But that doesn't give you the right to call names, accuse everyone of everything, or act like a bully. If you start swearing or calling names when you get rejected, you aren't acting like a nice guy at all. Find healthy outlets instead of hurting others or blaming everyone but yourself. \\nOther people are not responsible for fulfilling expectations they didn't even know you had.\\nDon't send angry messages to people who don't want to date you. Instead, take a break and do something that helps you process things or relax. Rage-filled messages can scare women.\\nConsider anger management classes if you feel the need to verbally abuse people who don't go out with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Consider therapy if you don't know what else to do.\", \"描述\": \"If you feel like you're trapped in ineffective and negative behavior patterns, it might help to see a counselor and ask for tools to handle things in more productive ways. \\nSome people think that \\\"real men\\\" don't get therapy. In reality, taking a step towards making things right is an incredibly brave thing to do.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Handling Dating\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Recognize and respect the signs that someone isn't interested.\", \"描述\": \"It's normal to strike out sometimes, and if someone is disinterested, it's time to cut your losses and leave. Remember, romantic rejection is normal and doesn't reflect badly on you. It's time to move on if the person you're flirting with is... \\nLooking away from you\\nUsing \\\"closed off\\\" body language, with their arms or legs folded like a barrier\\nTrying to change the subject or avoid you\\nTurning their body and/or feet away\\nMaking excuses, like \\\"I would, but...\\\" or \\\"I have a boyfriend\\\" or \\\"I have to go\\\" (You want someone who is enthusiastic about dating you.)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose potential dates based on personality, not on appearance.\", \"描述\": \"Beauty is skin deep, and a gorgeous woman with a mean personality is not a good date. Instead, look for people who are kind, good at listening, and fun to be around (regardless of whether they're \\\"pretty\\\" or not). You'll be much happier with someone who treats you well. \\nIt doesn't hurt to be attracted to someone who is good-looking. Just make sure that you like their personality too!\\nA sweet, funny, ugly girlfriend is way better than a pretty, mean one.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Beware people who seek to take advantage of you.\", \"描述\": \"Just like it's wrong for a man to take advantage of an unassertive woman, it's wrong for a woman to take advantage of a man (or for anyone to take advantage of anyone). If you notice that someone seems to be using you, and asks you for things without reciprocating, start spending less time with them. \\nAs you start becoming more assertive, saying \\\"no,\\\" and growing a backbone, it's possible you will lose a few \\\"friends.\\\" But it's likely that these people didn't care much about you in the first place. They just liked using you because they knew you were afraid to say \\\"no\\\" to them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn to make peace with romantic rejection.\", \"描述\": \"Getting turned down doesn't mean you aren't an upstanding guy. Sometimes, it's a bad time, or the two of you wouldn't be very romantically compatible. If someone rejects you, there isn't anything wrong with you or with them. It's just a bad match, and you can move on to the next person who might be a better fit for you. Reasons for rejection can include: \\nIncompatible sexual orientations (e.g. a man asking out a lesbian)\\nYou're not that person's type\\nThe person is already in a relationship\\nThe person is too busy for a relationship\\nThe person wants to focus on their own issues right now\\nThe person has trust issues\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Flirt, and see if they flirt back.\", \"描述\": \"Being nice to somebody and hoping they eventually fall in love is a very frustrating, unhelpful tactic. Instead, let the person know that you like them. If they seem clueless, it means you need to dial it up so that they get it. If they seem uncomfortable or start saying that you're \\\"a good friend,\\\" it means you need to move on. If they smile and flirt back, it means you should keep flirting, and maybe try asking them out. \\nLook at them and smile flirtatiously.\\nFind excuses to touch them (if they seem comfortable with it).\\nCompliment them.\\nAsk them out. It can be simple: even just \\\"I think you're beautiful and I'd like to take you out to a movie sometime\\\" is a good way to ask someone out.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do things instead of just being nice.\", \"描述\": \"Niceness is the bare minimum that most people expect of each other. You don't get a gold star for human decency. If you want to be seen as special, then you need to do special things. What do you do that sets you apart from a random guy on the street? Use your actions to show your interest and your suitability as a romantic partner. \\nWhich person do you think the average straight single woman would want to date: the guy who constructs elaborate fantasies in his head without doing anything, or the guy who will listen to her, surprise her with her favorite food and flowers, and rub her feet after she has had a long day at work? (You can be the second guy!)\\nRemember that it's what you do, not who you are, that makes you a viable partner. You can change what you do.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Ask for what you want.\", \"描述\": \"Assertiveness and good communication are key to getting and maintaining a healthy relationship. If you want to date, kiss, or do something else, take a deep breath and ask. Being brave gets you a straight answer, and takes you out of the purgatory of suspense. \\nIf you get turned down for a date, it's not the end of the world. Now you know that you would be wasting your time trying to date this person, and you can look for the next person to try asking.\\nIf your date turns down an invitation for a romantic activity, it's okay. Maybe they're too busy, or they aren't in the mood. If you think something might be wrong, just ask \\\"is everything okay?\\\"\\nPeople can tell if you're trying to take a \\\"tit-for-tat\\\" approach. For example, if you do little things for your girlfriend in the hopes that she'll reward you in the bedroom, she'll probably figure out what you're doing and think you're manipulative. 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1. Mind your manners.
Saying “please” and “thank you” goes a long way at school.
Hold the door open for other students when they’re walking behind you. Follow your teachers’ classroom rules. Raise your hand instead of speaking out when you know the answer, and thank students when they’re passing you papers per the teacher’s request. These are small things, but people will really take note!
A lot of students don’t demonstrate good manners because they think it’s about following rules. In reality, manners are all about respect. All of these little acts of kindness signal to others that you appreciate them.
2. Keep a smile on your face.
People naturally feel better when others smile at them, so smile away.
This is a very tiny thing, but if you want to be nice to others, smile at them. Looking at a happy face will instantly brighten someone’s day, so keep smiling to extend that kindness to everyone at your school.
On top of the fact that people will feel better when you smile, you’ll feel better too! Smiling can actually trick your brain into thinking things are really good—even if you’re a little bummed or upset about something.
3. Compliment other students and teachers.
Give at least one good, unsolicited compliment every day.
Go out of your way to tell people what they’re doing right. Not only is this a nice thing to do, but it’s also a great way to build your relationships with people and improve the way people see you. Students and teachers like being around people who make them feel good, so spread the love everywhere you go!
Tell that kid in the hall that you love the outfit they wore to school. If the other kids are poking fun at a kid’s new haircut, tell them you think it looks really good.
You know what teachers love to hear? “That was a great lesson.” The teachers really love being recognized for their hard work, so let them know when they’re crushing it.
4. Listen and empathize with others.
Look people in the eye when they speak and absorb what they say.
It can be easy to feel like you’re living in your own little world sometimes, and your ability to feel what other people feel can go a long way when it comes to developing a kind attitude. When people talk to you, listen carefully and focus on the way they feel. You’ll find it much easier to be kind if you’re tuned into the people around you.
Never interrupt when people are talking. Aside from the fact that it’s rude, it makes it impossible to really absorb what someone is saying to you.
5. Ask people about themselves.
Take an interest in other people when you talk to them.
People really like talking about themselves, and it’s easy to get so caught up in your own headspace that you end up responding to people by talking about yourself. Whenever you’re talking to someone about what they’ve been up to, or how their weekend was, ask meaningful follow-up questions. Be curious about their passions. They’ll really appreciate it!
For example, if you ask a friend what the did over the weekend and they say, “Nothing really, I just played some games,” you may be tempted to say something like, “Oh, that’s cool,” or, “Yeah, me too.” Don’t! Ask, “What games did you play?” or, “Do you normally play a lot of games?” Dig deeper!
6. Practice daily acts of gratitude.
Tell people how much you appreciate them when they lend you a hand.
If a teacher takes the time to explain something to you at lunch, let them know that you really appreciate them helping you out. If another student helps explain a concept you found confusing in class, tell them how smart they are and explain how much you appreciate it. Every day, make an effort to let people know how thankful you are for them.
Not only will this make other people feel better, but it will make you feel better, too! Practicing gratitude is one of the best ways to improve your overall mood and attitude.
7. Help people whenever you can.
Volunteer to help your teachers and be a good friend to your classmates.
If someone is struggling in class, offer to show them how to solve the problem. If a teacher is carrying a stack of papers and they’re struggling to open the door to their class, rush up and do it for them. Even the smallest acts of help can really improve someone’s day, so don’t hesitate to be a resource for others.
This is big when it comes to the way teachers perceive you. If you raise your hand when they ask for help cleaning up in class or passing papers out, they’ll remember!
8. Include people in your games or group projects.
Inviting the unpopular kid to join in is one of the kindest things you can do.
It’s easy to stick to your friend group, but try inviting others along. You’d be surprised how much this can mean to the kid who gets picked last for basketball, or the student in your class who nobody wants to work with. It’s easy to be nice to people you already like, but when it comes to the kids who may not be the most popular, make it your job to extend that kindness.
This is the kind of thing other people will notice as well. If you want to be nice because you want more people to like you, this is a great way to do it!
9. Have positive energy.
Greet people kindly, cheer people up, and be a generally warm person.
Try to be genuine, kind, and pleasant. If you aren’t in the best mood, that’s okay, but don’t take it out on others. Be friendly—even with students you know that well, or teachers you don’t like. Do your best to express enthusiasm for your teachers’ activities, and try to cheer people up if they seem a little down. The warmer you are, the happier people will be around you.
10. Resist the urge to gossip.
Kids love gossiping and spreading rumors, but stay out of it.
You probably know this as well as anyone, but the rumor mill at school can be brutal. As tempting as it may be to feel included when the kids are snickering and talking trash, stay out of it. It’s important when it comes to being a decent person, but it’s also a key part of being nice to others at your school.
This is also a key part of building your reputation as a kind person. If someone comes to you when they’re talking trash about people behind their back, the other kids will find out eventually.
11. Don’t lash out at others when you’re angry.
Keep your cool, take a few deep breaths, and don’t act out in the moment.
You know how it goes at school—kids have bad days and good days. If someone is pushing your buttons or being rude, brush it off. Don’t let people get under your skin! You never know what’s going on in someone’s personal life, and if that rude kid comes back to apologize, they’ll remember your restraint and appreciate the kindness.
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t stand up for yourself. If someone is crossing a line or violating your personal space, tell them to step off and get a teacher.
12. Stand up for kids who get bullied.
If a student is being bullied, tell them to stop and get a teacher.
Do not ignore cruelty when you see it. Tell the bully to cut it out, grab a teacher, and encourage the bully to reflect on what they’re doing. If necessary, take the target of the bully out of the area yourself to get them out of harm’s way. Whatever you do, stand up for others when they need help.
If other kids are laughing or following along with the bully, say, “What’s the joke? What’s funny about this? Do you all feel good about what you’re doing right now?” Often, it takes one person pointing out the cruelty to get others to reexamine their behavior.
Don’t put yourself in harm’s way. If things have the potential to turn physical or you’re being threatened, get out and get help.
Remember, even if the bully calls you a snitch or whatever, there’s absolutely no shame in getting an adult.
13. Join a club that fights for a good cause.
Being nice isn’t just about being nice to people you know.
Whether it’s a climate change awareness group or a club that raises funds for kids in need, join a group that focuses on a cause you care about. Not only will you have fun with other students, but you’ll spread positive vibes and extend your kindness to the rest of the world.
If your school doesn’t have a club that focuses on a cause you care about, talk to a teacher you like about starting a new club!
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Easy Ways to Be a Nicer Person at Work and Improve Your Relationships
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1. Say “good morning” to your coworkers.
Try to greet them as you walk in the door every day.
It might sound like a small thing, but a nice greeting from you could seriously lift up someone’s mood if they’re having a bad day.
Saying good morning to your coworkers also makes you feel more approachable. If you can be casual at the beginning of the day, your coworkers are more likely to chat with you throughout the work day.
2. Get to know your coworkers.
Talk about something other than work on your breaks.
Chat about your children, what you like to do on the weekends, and what you all do for fun.
Getting to know your coworkers will foster a relationship and develop a bond between you all.
Make sure you tell your coworkers about yourself too! Talk about the fun stuff you did last weekend or what your plans are for the evening.
3. Look for a silver lining.
Keep a positive attitude while you’re at work, even when it’s tough.
If you can find the silver lining even in a bad situation, people will start to see you as a nice, kind person to rely on.
For example, if you and your team miss a deadline, you could say, “Well, at least we know how much time we need to carve out for the next project.”
Or, if you have to work late, you could say, “Thank goodness we’re getting paid overtime for this.”
4. Practice active listening skills.
Nod along and ask questions when you talk to your coworkers.
Show that you’re really listening to what they have to say instead of dismissing them right away.
For example, if your coworker is telling you something about your next assignment, you could say, “So what you need is a double page document by the end of the day?”
If you’re just chatting about your personal life with your coworkers, you could ask, “So what happened with your kid’s recital last night?”
5. Do your job to the best of your abilities.
Get organized, meet your deadlines, and collaborate with your coworkers.
The better you can do your job, the more people will see you as a reliable person.
While doing your job well on its own won’t make people view you as “nice” necessarily, if you couple it with a few other methods you can make sure people think that you’re a kind person.
If you don’t do your job well, you can be the nicest person around, but people may still resent you.
6. Respect other people’s needs.
Remember that everyone works at a different pace and with a different style.
Instead of getting frustrated at your coworkers if they do something differently than you, try to respect their needs and let them work how they need to.
For example, you might be able to chat and listen to music while you work, but other people might need complete silence. Instead of getting offended that they don’t want to talk, let them do their work on their own.
7. Help your colleagues out.
Offer your assistance if one of your coworkers is struggling.
While you might not be able to do their work for them, you can offer to bring them new materials or go over their work, especially if you’re on a team together.
If you do something kind for one of your colleagues, they’ll probably return the favor later on.
8. Admit your mistakes.
Recognize when you’ve messed up and tell everyone how you can do better.
Don’t try to assign the blame to anyone else; instead, take accountability if you mess up.
For example, you could say, “I misplaced the report we needed and that meant we missed the deadline. I’m really sorry, and I’m going to work on my organizational skills for next time.”
9. Acknowledge when your coworker does something good.
Just a quick “nice job!”
Try to point out when one of your coworkers gets something done quickly, works extra hard, or goes above and beyond their job duties.
Positive reinforcement tends to make people work harder and with more enthusiasm. If you’re in charge of a team, try to encourage your employees to be more productive by rewarding them when they’ve done well.
10. Deal with problems head on.
If there’s a coworker you have a problem with, confront them directly.
Don’t spend time being passive aggressive or talking about them with other people. Instead, sit down with them and talk through your issues together.
Gossiping about others is a surefire way to start work drama, which is never fun.
If you’re having a big problem with someone that you can’t resolve on your own, consider taking it to your HR department for help.
Try not to take workplace stress personally. Instead, take a step back and look at what's triggering those emotions so you can start to cope with them.
11. Buy coffee for everyone now and then.
Show a small gesture of kindness every other month or so.
Splurge on coffee in the morning, bring in donuts for everyone, or treat your coworkers to lunch. Chances are, they’ll even repay the favor!
These small niceties can really make people see you as a fun, kind person.
Don’t break the bank—if you can’t afford to buy everyone food or drinks, don’t worry about it.
Tips
Being a nicer person won’t happen overnight. Keep making small changes every day to work toward your goal.
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Look for a silver lining.\\nKeep a positive attitude while you’re at work, even when it’s tough.\\nIf you can find the silver lining even in a bad situation, people will start to see you as a nice, kind person to rely on.\\nFor example, if you and your team miss a deadline, you could say, “Well, at least we know how much time we need to carve out for the next project.”\\nOr, if you have to work late, you could say, “Thank goodness we’re getting paid overtime for this.”\\n4. Practice active listening skills.\\nNod along and ask questions when you talk to your coworkers.\\nShow that you’re really listening to what they have to say instead of dismissing them right away.\\nFor example, if your coworker is telling you something about your next assignment, you could say, “So what you need is a double page document by the end of the day?”\\nIf you’re just chatting about your personal life with your coworkers, you could ask, “So what happened with your kid’s recital last night?”\\n5. Do your job to the best of your abilities.\\nGet organized, meet your deadlines, and collaborate with your coworkers.\\nThe better you can do your job, the more people will see you as a reliable person.\\nWhile doing your job well on its own won’t make people view you as “nice” necessarily, if you couple it with a few other methods you can make sure people think that you’re a kind person.\\nIf you don’t do your job well, you can be the nicest person around, but people may still resent you.\\n6. Respect other people’s needs.\\nRemember that everyone works at a different pace and with a different style.\\nInstead of getting frustrated at your coworkers if they do something differently than you, try to respect their needs and let them work how they need to.\\nFor example, you might be able to chat and listen to music while you work, but other people might need complete silence. Instead of getting offended that they don’t want to talk, let them do their work on their own.\\n7. Help your colleagues out.\\nOffer your assistance if one of your coworkers is struggling.\\nWhile you might not be able to do their work for them, you can offer to bring them new materials or go over their work, especially if you’re on a team together.\\nIf you do something kind for one of your colleagues, they’ll probably return the favor later on.\\n8. Admit your mistakes.\\nRecognize when you’ve messed up and tell everyone how you can do better.\\nDon’t try to assign the blame to anyone else; instead, take accountability if you mess up.\\nFor example, you could say, “I misplaced the report we needed and that meant we missed the deadline. I’m really sorry, and I’m going to work on my organizational skills for next time.”\\n9. Acknowledge when your coworker does something good.\\nJust a quick “nice job!”\\nTry to point out when one of your coworkers gets something done quickly, works extra hard, or goes above and beyond their job duties.\\nPositive reinforcement tends to make people work harder and with more enthusiasm. If you’re in charge of a team, try to encourage your employees to be more productive by rewarding them when they’ve done well.\\n10. Deal with problems head on.\\nIf there’s a coworker you have a problem with, confront them directly.\\nDon’t spend time being passive aggressive or talking about them with other people. Instead, sit down with them and talk through your issues together.\\nGossiping about others is a surefire way to start work drama, which is never fun.\\nIf you’re having a big problem with someone that you can’t resolve on your own, consider taking it to your HR department for help.\\nTry not to take workplace stress personally. 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How to Be a Nicer Person to Your Spouse
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1. Tell your spouse what you appreciate about them.
Consider writing in a gratitude journal so you notice the good things.
Doing this every day can actually help you recognize nice things about your spouse. Then, make a point of telling them something you like about them. This is a simple but really effective way of being nice to your spouse.
For example, you might say, "I really appreciate that you took the kids out of the house for a few hours so I could get a break," or, "You're such a great cook. Thanks for making dinner tonight."
2. Surprise them with a thoughtful gesture.
Show your spouse that you're considerate and that you care about them.
We've all heard that actions speak louder than words so do things that show your love. These don't have to be huge gestures! Even something small like brewing them coffee if they're working an early shift shows them that you're thoughtful and anticipate their needs or wants.
Your spouse might need some space so a thoughtful gesture could be getting out of your home for the day so he's got it all to himself.
Think back to things they've talked about. Maybe they mentioned wanting to try a new Chinese place. You could surprise them by picking up takeout one night. Your spouse will not only appreciate the food, but also the fact that you listened and remembered something they wanted.
3. Spend quality time together.
Go on dates or just take time to talk with each other.
It's really easy to get into a routine where you don't actually communicate with your spouse. Try to have one-on-one time where you can talk about things that aren't job or kid-related. If you can, go out for regular dates; these can remind you what you love about your spouse.
Is life too busy for dates or quality time? At least make a point of checking in with each other every day. Even a genuine, "What was your day like?" or, "How are you feeling?" can help you feel connected.
Keep in mind that having personal space is important, too. If you've spent a lot of time around each other or your spouse is stressed, they might want some time or space for themselves.
4. Do things that make you both laugh.
Enjoy each other's company so you're less critical or angry.
Remember how dating your spouse was fun? Make time to play or goof around—you'll find that it's a lot easier to be kind to your spouse if you're in a great mood.
For instance, go out for a karaoke night, hit a comedy show, or play a ridiculous card game.
5. Show affection with physical touch.
Give your spouse a hug, hold hands, and make time for intimacy.
These are simple ways to connect with your spouse every day. Physical affection reassures your spouse that you love them and it can make them feel more confident.
Again, these don't have to be huge displays of affection. Even just sitting next to your spouse and putting your arm around them can let them know that you care for them.
6. Give your spouse your full attention.
Make eye contact and minimize distractions so they know you're listening.
Put your phone away turn off anything noisy that makes it hard to pay attention. Your spouse should notice that you're really listening which will make them feel valued and appreciated.
You can also show that you listened by saying something like, "It sounds like work is really stressing you out," or, "I'm so happy that the project seems to be working out for you."
If your spouse wants to talk about a difficult subject, try to practice open body language. Keep your arms uncrossed, face the other person, and don't fidget when they talk.
7. Use disagreements as opportunities to communicate.
Go into the conversation trying to understand your partner.
Keep an open mind and respectful attitude when you ask how they're feeling about something. Give them time to speak before you share your thoughts. You might learn why they're frustrated or upset and you can explain how you're feeling. Effective communication will make your marriage much stronger.
For example, you might hear your spouse say they're frustrated and tired. You might say, "I didn't know you were feeling this way. What can I do to help?"
Use a calm tone of voice when you speak with your spouse and don't get defensive. Let them speak without interrupting and look for ways to compromise.
8. Stop yourself before you say something hurtful.
Cool off if you're fighting so you don't say something you regret.
It can be hard not to say something mean if you're feeling hurt, but it's important not to react in anger. Give each other some space before you come back to resolve your differences. You'll find that it's easier to be kind or respectful.
You could say something like, "I really can't talk about this right now. I need a little time to think things through."
It can help to establish boundaries within your relationship. You both might agree that calling each other names or making personal attacks is off-limits. Setting healthy boundaries can make it easier to communicate without hurting each other's feelings.
9. Forgive your spouse when they make a mistake.
Think of your spouse as your teammate—you're not competing with each other.
If they've done something to upset you, have an honest discussion about it and forgive them. It's critical that you both move forward together instead of trying to get even or punishing the other person.
Not sure what to say? Even a simple, "I'm disappointed that this happened, but I love you and I forgive you," tells your spouse that you care about them and are willing to move on together.
10. Support and encourage your spouse.
Listen to what your partner needs or wants and be there for your spouse.
Think of yourself as your spouse's cheerleader—they should feel like they can make changes in their life and that they'll succeed. Your spouse might be struggling in a job they don't like. Listen to what they're saying and affirm how they're feeling so they feel supported. You might say, "It sounds like you're really feeling burned out. What do you think could help?"
Sometimes, your spouse just needs you to be there to listen and that's fine, too! You might say, "I'm always here if you ever want to bounce ideas off of me."
11. Appreciate your spouse for who they are.
Remind yourself of what you love about your spouse.
Don't dwell on the small things they do that irritate you or you might focus more on the negative. Remember, your spouse isn't perfect, but there are things you absolutely love about them.
For instance, it might bother you that you're always picking up their dirty socks, but instead of letting it bother you, remind yourself that your spouse always does a chore that you dislike. Plus, you know that you've got habits that irritate your spouse, too.
12. Take time for self-care.
Work on your own happiness and be kinder to yourself.
It's difficult to be nice to your spouse if you're not gentle with yourself. Take a break from thinking about your marriage and other demands on your time so you can focus on your needs and wants.
Self-care could mean eating more nutritious food, taking time to read a good book, going out for a jog, or meeting up with friends. The point is to do something that makes you feel happier and better about yourself.
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Even something small like brewing them coffee if they're working an early shift shows them that you're thoughtful and anticipate their needs or wants.\\nYour spouse might need some space so a thoughtful gesture could be getting out of your home for the day so he's got it all to himself.\\nThink back to things they've talked about. Maybe they mentioned wanting to try a new Chinese place. You could surprise them by picking up takeout one night. Your spouse will not only appreciate the food, but also the fact that you listened and remembered something they wanted.\\n3. Spend quality time together.\\nGo on dates or just take time to talk with each other.\\nIt's really easy to get into a routine where you don't actually communicate with your spouse. Try to have one-on-one time where you can talk about things that aren't job or kid-related. If you can, go out for regular dates; these can remind you what you love about your spouse.\\nIs life too busy for dates or quality time? At least make a point of checking in with each other every day. Even a genuine, \\\"What was your day like?\\\" or, \\\"How are you feeling?\\\" can help you feel connected.\\nKeep in mind that having personal space is important, too. If you've spent a lot of time around each other or your spouse is stressed, they might want some time or space for themselves.\\n4. Do things that make you both laugh.\\nEnjoy each other's company so you're less critical or angry.\\nRemember how dating your spouse was fun? Make time to play or goof around—you'll find that it's a lot easier to be kind to your spouse if you're in a great mood.\\nFor instance, go out for a karaoke night, hit a comedy show, or play a ridiculous card game.\\n5. Show affection with physical touch.\\nGive your spouse a hug, hold hands, and make time for intimacy.\\nThese are simple ways to connect with your spouse every day. Physical affection reassures your spouse that you love them and it can make them feel more confident.\\nAgain, these don't have to be huge displays of affection. Even just sitting next to your spouse and putting your arm around them can let them know that you care for them.\\n6. Give your spouse your full attention.\\nMake eye contact and minimize distractions so they know you're listening.\\nPut your phone away turn off anything noisy that makes it hard to pay attention. Your spouse should notice that you're really listening which will make them feel valued and appreciated.\\nYou can also show that you listened by saying something like, \\\"It sounds like work is really stressing you out,\\\" or, \\\"I'm so happy that the project seems to be working out for you.\\\"\\nIf your spouse wants to talk about a difficult subject, try to practice open body language. Keep your arms uncrossed, face the other person, and don't fidget when they talk.\\n7. Use disagreements as opportunities to communicate.\\nGo into the conversation trying to understand your partner.\\nKeep an open mind and respectful attitude when you ask how they're feeling about something. Give them time to speak before you share your thoughts. You might learn why they're frustrated or upset and you can explain how you're feeling. Effective communication will make your marriage much stronger.\\nFor example, you might hear your spouse say they're frustrated and tired. You might say, \\\"I didn't know you were feeling this way. What can I do to help?\\\"\\nUse a calm tone of voice when you speak with your spouse and don't get defensive. Let them speak without interrupting and look for ways to compromise.\\n8. Stop yourself before you say something hurtful.\\nCool off if you're fighting so you don't say something you regret.\\nIt can be hard not to say something mean if you're feeling hurt, but it's important not to react in anger. Give each other some space before you come back to resolve your differences. You'll find that it's easier to be kind or respectful.\\nYou could say something like, \\\"I really can't talk about this right now. I need a little time to think things through.\\\"\\nIt can help to establish boundaries within your relationship. You both might agree that calling each other names or making personal attacks is off-limits. Setting healthy boundaries can make it easier to communicate without hurting each other's feelings.\\n9. Forgive your spouse when they make a mistake.\\nThink of your spouse as your teammate—you're not competing with each other.\\nIf they've done something to upset you, have an honest discussion about it and forgive them. It's critical that you both move forward together instead of trying to get even or punishing the other person.\\nNot sure what to say? 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This is a simple but really effective way of being nice to your spouse.\\nFor example, you might say, \\\"I really appreciate that you took the kids out of the house for a few hours so I could get a break,\\\" or, \\\"You're such a great cook. Thanks for making dinner tonight.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Surprise them with a thoughtful gesture.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show your spouse that you're considerate and that you care about them.\", \"描述\": \"We've all heard that actions speak louder than words so do things that show your love. These don't have to be huge gestures! Even something small like brewing them coffee if they're working an early shift shows them that you're thoughtful and anticipate their needs or wants.\\nYour spouse might need some space so a thoughtful gesture could be getting out of your home for the day so he's got it all to himself.\\nThink back to things they've talked about. Maybe they mentioned wanting to try a new Chinese place. You could surprise them by picking up takeout one night. Your spouse will not only appreciate the food, but also the fact that you listened and remembered something they wanted.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spend quality time together.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go on dates or just take time to talk with each other.\", \"描述\": \"It's really easy to get into a routine where you don't actually communicate with your spouse. Try to have one-on-one time where you can talk about things that aren't job or kid-related. If you can, go out for regular dates; these can remind you what you love about your spouse.\\nIs life too busy for dates or quality time? At least make a point of checking in with each other every day. Even a genuine, \\\"What was your day like?\\\" or, \\\"How are you feeling?\\\" can help you feel connected.\\nKeep in mind that having personal space is important, too. If you've spent a lot of time around each other or your spouse is stressed, they might want some time or space for themselves.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do things that make you both laugh.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Enjoy each other's company so you're less critical or angry.\", \"描述\": \"Remember how dating your spouse was fun? Make time to play or goof around—you'll find that it's a lot easier to be kind to your spouse if you're in a great mood.\\nFor instance, go out for a karaoke night, hit a comedy show, or play a ridiculous card game.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Show affection with physical touch.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your spouse a hug, hold hands, and make time for intimacy.\", \"描述\": \"These are simple ways to connect with your spouse every day. Physical affection reassures your spouse that you love them and it can make them feel more confident.\\nAgain, these don't have to be huge displays of affection. Even just sitting next to your spouse and putting your arm around them can let them know that you care for them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Give your spouse your full attention.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make eye contact and minimize distractions so they know you're listening.\", \"描述\": \"Put your phone away turn off anything noisy that makes it hard to pay attention. Your spouse should notice that you're really listening which will make them feel valued and appreciated.\\nYou can also show that you listened by saying something like, \\\"It sounds like work is really stressing you out,\\\" or, \\\"I'm so happy that the project seems to be working out for you.\\\"\\nIf your spouse wants to talk about a difficult subject, try to practice open body language. Keep your arms uncrossed, face the other person, and don't fidget when they talk.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Use disagreements as opportunities to communicate.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go into the conversation trying to understand your partner.\", \"描述\": \"Keep an open mind and respectful attitude when you ask how they're feeling about something. Give them time to speak before you share your thoughts. You might learn why they're frustrated or upset and you can explain how you're feeling. Effective communication will make your marriage much stronger.\\nFor example, you might hear your spouse say they're frustrated and tired. You might say, \\\"I didn't know you were feeling this way. What can I do to help?\\\"\\nUse a calm tone of voice when you speak with your spouse and don't get defensive. Let them speak without interrupting and look for ways to compromise.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Stop yourself before you say something hurtful.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cool off if you're fighting so you don't say something you regret.\", \"描述\": \"It can be hard not to say something mean if you're feeling hurt, but it's important not to react in anger. Give each other some space before you come back to resolve your differences. You'll find that it's easier to be kind or respectful.\\nYou could say something like, \\\"I really can't talk about this right now. I need a little time to think things through.\\\"\\nIt can help to establish boundaries within your relationship. You both might agree that calling each other names or making personal attacks is off-limits. Setting healthy boundaries can make it easier to communicate without hurting each other's feelings.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Forgive your spouse when they make a mistake.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think of your spouse as your teammate—you're not competing with each other.\", \"描述\": \"If they've done something to upset you, have an honest discussion about it and forgive them. It's critical that you both move forward together instead of trying to get even or punishing the other person.\\nNot sure what to say? Even a simple, \\\"I'm disappointed that this happened, but I love you and I forgive you,\\\" tells your spouse that you care about them and are willing to move on together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Support and encourage your spouse.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to what your partner needs or wants and be there for your spouse.\", \"描述\": \"Think of yourself as your spouse's cheerleader—they should feel like they can make changes in their life and that they'll succeed. Your spouse might be struggling in a job they don't like. Listen to what they're saying and affirm how they're feeling so they feel supported. You might say, \\\"It sounds like you're really feeling burned out. What do you think could help?\\\"\\nSometimes, your spouse just needs you to be there to listen and that's fine, too! You might say, \\\"I'm always here if you ever want to bounce ideas off of me.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Appreciate your spouse for who they are.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remind yourself of what you love about your spouse.\", \"描述\": \"Don't dwell on the small things they do that irritate you or you might focus more on the negative. Remember, your spouse isn't perfect, but there are things you absolutely love about them.\\nFor instance, it might bother you that you're always picking up their dirty socks, but instead of letting it bother you, remind yourself that your spouse always does a chore that you dislike. Plus, you know that you've got habits that irritate your spouse, too.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Take time for self-care.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on your own happiness and be kinder to yourself.\", \"描述\": \"It's difficult to be nice to your spouse if you're not gentle with yourself. Take a break from thinking about your marriage and other demands on your time so you can focus on your needs and wants.\\nSelf-care could mean eating more nutritious food, taking time to read a good book, going out for a jog, or meeting up with friends. The point is to do something that makes you feel happier and better about yourself.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Choose a target market.
A promoter needs to know their target market. Plan your event around the type of people you want to show up, and keep them in mind throughout the whole process. It might sound obvious but many inexperienced promoters try to appeal to all ages and demographics, the trick is to be as selective as possible. There are many great books available on Amazon or iTunes that explain these concepts even further so you don't make rookie mistakes. Promoting bars and clubs is a much more intricate concept than it first seems, but it is also quite interesting so this should ultimately be your first step. This article can only provide a brief overview, but if you think this is something you will actually pursue, make sure you educate yourself adequately.
1-2. Find a venue.
Call up bars, nightclubs, lounges, or even art galleries to ask if they would be interested in hosting your event. If you're a new promoter, you are really going to have to sell your ability to get people through the doors. However, you would be wise not to choose just any venue, most venues already have an established reputation, you would be wise to conform to these existing perceptions because once the mind is made up, there is no changing it.
1-3. Pick a date.
Do some research to make sure there won't be too many competing parties the same night as yours. Picking a bad date for your event can ruin the best laid plans of any promoter. The more time you give yourself and the more notice you provide your guests, the higher your chances of a successful launch.
1-4. Secure Entertainment.
This can be nightclub DJs, a band, etc. Make sure to choose entertainment that fits with your target market.
1-5. Hire people.
Some key people you may want to hire for the party include a door person to collect money & email addresses, and a photographer to capture the event.
1-6. Advertise the event.
This is where the majority of a promoter's work comes in. You'll need to have professional flyers made up, send out emails, call everyone you know, and send out press releases to local media like newspapers, nightlife magazines, forums, and internet blogs.
1-7. Collect your cash.
Club usually get paid per person they get to the party. This amount is worked out between you and the venue, sometimes it is a percentage of the door cover charge, sometimes it's the whole thing. You can make a large amount of money in a short time as a promoter, if your parties are successful.
Tips
Teaming up with a more experienced promoter when you are first starting out can help bring lots more people to your first party.
To be a successful promoter, you must know a lot of people. If you do not already know a lot of people in your area, try partnering with a more experienced promoter until you are able to build your following.
The best promoters pick a specific niche market for their parties. When you are just starting out, try to pick a market that isn't already huge, and you'll have more success.
Warnings
Make sure you can afford to lose the money you invested, should something unexpected happen (like bad weather, a competing party taking all your customers, etc.)
Make sure you are prepared for the rush of easy money and popularity should your parties be a huge success!
Make sure you pay all the people you hired after the party. Paying your workers before the party is extremely unprofessional due to the lack of incentive or lower motives from your employees.
Promoting can be addictive.
Not all parties are a success. To make a good living as a promoter, you'll have to stick with it in good times and bad.
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If you're a new promoter, you are really going to have to sell your ability to get people through the doors. However, you would be wise not to choose just any venue, most venues already have an established reputation, you would be wise to conform to these existing perceptions because once the mind is made up, there is no changing it.\\n1-3. Pick a date.\\nDo some research to make sure there won't be too many competing parties the same night as yours. Picking a bad date for your event can ruin the best laid plans of any promoter. The more time you give yourself and the more notice you provide your guests, the higher your chances of a successful launch.\\n1-4. Secure Entertainment.\\nThis can be nightclub DJs, a band, etc. Make sure to choose entertainment that fits with your target market.\\n1-5. Hire people.\\nSome key people you may want to hire for the party include a door person to collect money & email addresses, and a photographer to capture the event.\\n1-6. Advertise the event.\\nThis is where the majority of a promoter's work comes in. You'll need to have professional flyers made up, send out emails, call everyone you know, and send out press releases to local media like newspapers, nightlife magazines, forums, and internet blogs.\\n1-7. Collect your cash.\\nClub usually get paid per person they get to the party. This amount is worked out between you and the venue, sometimes it is a percentage of the door cover charge, sometimes it's the whole thing. You can make a large amount of money in a short time as a promoter, if your parties are successful.\\nTips\\nTeaming up with a more experienced promoter when you are first starting out can help bring lots more people to your first party.\\nTo be a successful promoter, you must know a lot of people. If you do not already know a lot of people in your area, try partnering with a more experienced promoter until you are able to build your following.\\nThe best promoters pick a specific niche market for their parties. When you are just starting out, try to pick a market that isn't already huge, and you'll have more success.\\nWarnings\\nMake sure you can afford to lose the money you invested, should something unexpected happen (like bad weather, a competing party taking all your customers, etc.)\\nMake sure you are prepared for the rush of easy money and popularity should your parties be a huge success!\\nMake sure you pay all the people you hired after the party. Paying your workers before the party is extremely unprofessional due to the lack of incentive or lower motives from your employees.\\nPromoting can be addictive.\\nNot all parties are a success. To make a good living as a promoter, you'll have to stick with it in good times and bad.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you ever received a flyer, text message, or email blast from a person who wanted you to go to a party on Friday night? Were you ever curious as to who was in charge of organizing and advertising events at nightclubs, bars, or concerts? That person is called a Promoter. A promoter has an interesting, very rewarding, and frequently misunderstood job. This article discusses what a party promoter does to make special events a huge success. The same things that make large nightclub events a success, can work for your own cocktail party too!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose a target market.\", \"描述\": \"A promoter needs to know their target market. Plan your event around the type of people you want to show up, and keep them in mind throughout the whole process. 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When you are just starting out, try to pick a market that isn't already huge, and you'll have more success.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Make sure you can afford to lose the money you invested, should something unexpected happen (like bad weather, a competing party taking all your customers, etc.)\\n\", \"Make sure you are prepared for the rush of easy money and popularity should your parties be a huge success!\\n\", \"Make sure you pay all the people you hired after the party. Paying your workers before the party is extremely unprofessional due to the lack of incentive or lower motives from your employees.\\n\", \"Promoting can be addictive.\\n\", \"Not all parties are a success. To make a good living as a promoter, you'll have to stick with it in good times and bad.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Normal Good Looking Girl from Inside and Outside
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1. Keep Your Hair and Makeup Fresh
1-1. Have fun with your hair.
Hair can be a great asset when cared for properly but can also detract from your appearance if neglected. Even if you have no time to put it up, make sure it’s brushed and that you have a ponytail holder with you. Short hair is normal too.
Wash your hair regularly. Gently towel-dry it and let it air-dry as often as possible; blow-drying is hard on your hair.
Condition your hair to keep it looking healthy and vibrant. Find a formula that works for you; nothing is one-size-fits-all.
1-2. Keep your makeup simple.
Of course, you want to minimize flaws and accentuate your best features, but don’t pack it on; unnatural makeup makes you look fake. If you want people to think you are normal, then be real and look real. It's normal to not want to wear makeup too.
A touch of base, a hint of blush, a bit of eye shadow, eyeliner, and mascara can help bring your face to life.
To avoid looking like a painted lady, choose colours that compliment your natural colouring.
Go natural if that’s what feels best to you. Be sure to eat right, drink lots of water, and pamper your skin to make it glow.
2. Take Care of Your Body
2-1. Exercise!
Find a way to sweat — yes, really sweat — for 30 minutes at least 3 to 5 times every week. Take a dance class; go jogging or biking; join a hiking club; play tennis, racketball, soccer, or basketball; walk laps around the block. Do something. It will improve not only your fitness, but also your outlook on life and the world. Some normal people can't exercise this way others can. Find something physical you can do that works for you.
Being fit is always more attractive than not being fit. And don't think you have to be a skinny model to be fit; fitness is about being able to move, breathe, and keep up during a physical activity.
Exercise is also a secret potion for happiness and well-being, and being happy always makes you more attractive.
2-2. Maintain your personal hygiene.
No one likes to be around someone who looks or smells bad. Every morning and night, brush your teeth for 2 minutes. Don't forget to floss; most cavities occur between teeth that are hard to clean with a brush. Wash your hands after using the bathroom, keep your nails clean, shower or bath with soap, and wear antiperspirant.
A lack of hygiene is a huge red flag for interpersonal relationships; after all, if you aren’t willing to take care of yourself, why should anyone else be?
3. Dress Well
3-1. Wear clean clothes.
To be honest, most of your clothes can be worn a few times before being washed, but always remember this rule of thumb: if you don't want it on your nose, don't wear it.
Pants are not as noticeable as shirts (pretty much all jeans look alike) and can be worn more times in a row than anything else. Just be sure they stay relatively clean and don’t lose their shape; jeans can become stretched out after just a few uses.
3-2. Choose classy, modest styles.
Many fashions promote revealing styles that are tight-fitting, attention-grabbing, low-cut, etc. Dressing up every once in a while is part of being young and beautiful, but for everyday stuff, your best bet is attractive, modest, flattering clothes that don’t draw undue attention to your body.
If you have a nice figure, it will be obvious in modest clothes.
If attracting a boyfriend is one of your goals, you may be surprised to find out how many boys actually prefer it when things are left to the imagination. More importantly, a lot of the guys who want to see normal girls in ridiculous little outfits aren’t the ones you want to be attracting in the first place.
3-3. Wear practical shoes.
Don't be that girl who has to sit out of the soccer game because she can't play in her mini-skirt and wedges; it’s much more attractive to be comfortable and to participate. High heels should be reserved for special dress-up occasions. Low heels or pumps can work in many situations if they’re sturdy and comfy. The rest of the time, wear cute athletic shoes, sensible leather lace-ups, or whatever else fits the bill for everyday life.
4. Develop a Healthy Inner Self
4-1. Leave the past behind.
Whatever has happened before, it's over now. Accept the lessons you've learned, and try to move on. Remember: if you think about it every day, you're still allowing it to control you.
Seek professional help, if necessary. A counselor or therapist can help you overcome self-confidence issues and be your best self.
4-2. Be confident
Even if you're feeling really down about yourself, act confident. You don't have to pretend to be something you're not, but don't announce to the world you're upset. Stay calm and collected. You will be respected if you show your feelings, but in a confident way.
4-3. Appreciate your uniqueness.
You are a beautiful individual with your own personality and talents. Only by appreciating your potential will you be able to nurture your gifts and offer something to the world.
4-4. Maintain your integrity.
Don't do anything you might regret later or you’ll lose your self-respect. Not only that, but secrets have a way of getting out -- and when they do, people’s negative judgments of you might poison your own sense of self. Be honest and ethical and, most importantly, have a little backbone!
Stand up for what’s right. If someone puts you down, be your own knight in shining armor; no one has a right to treat you with disrespect. Do the same if someone else is being abused. Don’t be afraid to stand up -- even if it means standing alone; remember, it only takes one person to make a huge difference.
Respect yourself and your body. Think twice about drinking liquor, smoking cigarettes, and eating bad food. Illegal drugs should be avoided. And be careful if/when you engage in sexual activity.
4-5. Keep a journal
Write in it as often as you can and you’ll soon discover that it’s worth the time: it’ll not only give you a chance to reflect on your relationships and experiences, but also help you consider who you are and who you want to be. While you’re at it, keep a record of the good things in your life. You may be surprised how blessed you really are.
If you think it's nerdy or uncool, don't worry; it can be private and no one needs to know you keep it.
4-6. Set goals for yourself.
Ride the momentum of all this soul-searching into a better future. Start with one or two goals (ex. lose 10 pounds, make the volleyball team, make the 'A' honour roll, save money and buy new clothes, etc.) and, once you’ve made headway on them, set a few more. Make a habit of knowing what you want and getting it.
It may help to make a new sheet of paper for each goal and write why you want to do it, how you'll make this happen, and when you’ll have it done by.
5. Enrich Your Mind
5-1. Try new things.
Whenever the opportunity arises to do something interesting that you’ve never tried before, seize it! If you get invited to go skiing, accept. If a new ethnic restaurant opens in your area, give it a shot. Experiencing new and different activities will not only make you a more balanced person, but also get you in the habit of becoming a life-long learner.
5-2. Educate yourself as much as possible.
Although getting a traditional education should be the first priority, also remember that life is full of learning experiences; you don't have to be in a classroom to acquire knowledge.
Do your best at school. People look up to smart, active people in the community.
Don't be afraid to ask for help from teachers and other students. There's no such thing as a stupid question; that's how you learn!
Read|Read]]! Read bestsellers, classic literature, how-to manuals, self-help books, and pieces you don’t necessarily agree with. Always carry around a book to read so that you can fill your heart and mind with good things and great ideas.
5-3. Devote 15 to 30 minutes of every day to developing a special talent.
This could be playing an instrument, painting, welding, tutoring, cooking, or building miniature wooden space hamsters; the important thing is to have fun while becoming really good at something. Doing this will build your self-confidence and create opportunities to have fun with friends and your future partner.
6. Appreciate the People Around You
6-1. Make an extra effort to get to know the people in your world.
Learn to enjoy finding out about others by talking to them -- and not just about yourself. The better you understand others, the better you’ll understand yourself.
6-2. Recognize true beauty.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone is beautiful in their own way. Be supportive of other people’s processes; everyone needs help at some point in their life -- and when it’s your turn, people will happily repay your kindness.
Don’t put others down, tell them they're stupid or ugly, or call attention to their flaws. Everyone has flaws, but by learning to recognize the positive things in others, you’ll be able to appreciate and develop them in yourself.
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It's normal to not want to wear makeup too.\\nA touch of base, a hint of blush, a bit of eye shadow, eyeliner, and mascara can help bring your face to life.\\nTo avoid looking like a painted lady, choose colours that compliment your natural colouring.\\nGo natural if that’s what feels best to you. Be sure to eat right, drink lots of water, and pamper your skin to make it glow.\\n2. Take Care of Your Body\\n2-1. Exercise!\\nFind a way to sweat — yes, really sweat — for 30 minutes at least 3 to 5 times every week. Take a dance class; go jogging or biking; join a hiking club; play tennis, racketball, soccer, or basketball; walk laps around the block. Do something. It will improve not only your fitness, but also your outlook on life and the world. Some normal people can't exercise this way others can. Find something physical you can do that works for you.\\nBeing fit is always more attractive than not being fit. And don't think you have to be a skinny model to be fit; fitness is about being able to move, breathe, and keep up during a physical activity.\\nExercise is also a secret potion for happiness and well-being, and being happy always makes you more attractive.\\n2-2. Maintain your personal hygiene.\\nNo one likes to be around someone who looks or smells bad. Every morning and night, brush your teeth for 2 minutes. Don't forget to floss; most cavities occur between teeth that are hard to clean with a brush. Wash your hands after using the bathroom, keep your nails clean, shower or bath with soap, and wear antiperspirant.\\nA lack of hygiene is a huge red flag for interpersonal relationships; after all, if you aren’t willing to take care of yourself, why should anyone else be?\\n3. Dress Well\\n3-1. Wear clean clothes.\\nTo be honest, most of your clothes can be worn a few times before being washed, but always remember this rule of thumb: if you don't want it on your nose, don't wear it.\\nPants are not as noticeable as shirts (pretty much all jeans look alike) and can be worn more times in a row than anything else. Just be sure they stay relatively clean and don’t lose their shape; jeans can become stretched out after just a few uses.\\n3-2. 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Keep a journal\\nWrite in it as often as you can and you’ll soon discover that it’s worth the time: it’ll not only give you a chance to reflect on your relationships and experiences, but also help you consider who you are and who you want to be. While you’re at it, keep a record of the good things in your life. You may be surprised how blessed you really are.\\nIf you think it's nerdy or uncool, don't worry; it can be private and no one needs to know you keep it.\\n4-6. Set goals for yourself.\\nRide the momentum of all this soul-searching into a better future. Start with one or two goals (ex. lose 10 pounds, make the volleyball team, make the 'A' honour roll, save money and buy new clothes, etc.) and, once you’ve made headway on them, set a few more. Make a habit of knowing what you want and getting it.\\nIt may help to make a new sheet of paper for each goal and write why you want to do it, how you'll make this happen, and when you’ll have it done by.\\n5. Enrich Your Mind\\n5-1. Try new things.\\nWhenever the opportunity arises to do something interesting that you’ve never tried before, seize it! If you get invited to go skiing, accept. If a new ethnic restaurant opens in your area, give it a shot. Experiencing new and different activities will not only make you a more balanced person, but also get you in the habit of becoming a life-long learner.\\n5-2. Educate yourself as much as possible.\\nAlthough getting a traditional education should be the first priority, also remember that life is full of learning experiences; you don't have to be in a classroom to acquire knowledge.\\nDo your best at school. People look up to smart, active people in the community.\\nDon't be afraid to ask for help from teachers and other students. There's no such thing as a stupid question; that's how you learn!\\nRead|Read]]! Read bestsellers, classic literature, how-to manuals, self-help books, and pieces you don’t necessarily agree with. Always carry around a book to read so that you can fill your heart and mind with good things and great ideas.\\n5-3. Devote 15 to 30 minutes of every day to developing a special talent.\\nThis could be playing an instrument, painting, welding, tutoring, cooking, or building miniature wooden space hamsters; the important thing is to have fun while becoming really good at something. Doing this will build your self-confidence and create opportunities to have fun with friends and your future partner.\\n6. Appreciate the People Around You\\n6-1. Make an extra effort to get to know the people in your world.\\nLearn to enjoy finding out about others by talking to them -- and not just about yourself. The better you understand others, the better you’ll understand yourself.\\n6-2. Recognize true beauty.\\nBeauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone is beautiful in their own way. Be supportive of other people’s processes; everyone needs help at some point in their life -- and when it’s your turn, people will happily repay your kindness.\\nDon’t put others down, tell them they're stupid or ugly, or call attention to their flaws. Everyone has flaws, but by learning to recognize the positive things in others, you’ll be able to appreciate and develop them in yourself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being good looking does not just mean you have good looks. Being a naturally good looking girl can make your inner beauty shine just as brightly as your outer good looks. As the saying goes, \\\"pretty is as pretty does,\\\" and being a normal good looking girl involves both maintaining your looks and acting graceful and kind.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep Your Hair and Makeup Fresh\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have fun with your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Hair can be a great asset when cared for properly but can also detract from your appearance if neglected. Even if you have no time to put it up, make sure it’s brushed and that you have a ponytail holder with you. Short hair is normal too. \\nWash your hair regularly. Gently towel-dry it and let it air-dry as often as possible; blow-drying is hard on your hair.\\nCondition your hair to keep it looking healthy and vibrant. Find a formula that works for you; nothing is one-size-fits-all.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your makeup simple.\", \"描述\": \"Of course, you want to minimize flaws and accentuate your best features, but don’t pack it on; unnatural makeup makes you look fake. If you want people to think you are normal, then be real and look real. It's normal to not want to wear makeup too.\\nA touch of base, a hint of blush, a bit of eye shadow, eyeliner, and mascara can help bring your face to life.\\nTo avoid looking like a painted lady, choose colours that compliment your natural colouring.\\nGo natural if that’s what feels best to you. Be sure to eat right, drink lots of water, and pamper your skin to make it glow.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take Care of Your Body\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Exercise!\", \"描述\": \"Find a way to sweat — yes, really sweat — for 30 minutes at least 3 to 5 times every week. Take a dance class; go jogging or biking; join a hiking club; play tennis, racketball, soccer, or basketball; walk laps around the block. Do something. It will improve not only your fitness, but also your outlook on life and the world. Some normal people can't exercise this way others can. Find something physical you can do that works for you.\\nBeing fit is always more attractive than not being fit. 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Wash your hands after using the bathroom, keep your nails clean, shower or bath with soap, and wear antiperspirant.\\nA lack of hygiene is a huge red flag for interpersonal relationships; after all, if you aren’t willing to take care of yourself, why should anyone else be?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dress Well\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear clean clothes.\", \"描述\": \"To be honest, most of your clothes can be worn a few times before being washed, but always remember this rule of thumb: if you don't want it on your nose, don't wear it.\\nPants are not as noticeable as shirts (pretty much all jeans look alike) and can be worn more times in a row than anything else. 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How to Be a Normal Teen (Girls)
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1. Steps
1-1. Know that there is no specific "attitude."
Just go with the flow and be yourself. There is no such thing as normal; normal in this context (wikiHow) means to fit in well with society.
1-2. Wear clothes that express you.
You don't have to look like that model in "Seventeen." Develop your own style as you go along. If you wear unusual clothing with confidence, you can still be "normal."
1-3. Be mindful of those around you if you choose to swear.
It is important to respect that others might find vulgar language distasteful, including many adults. (Some teens choose to abstain completely from swearing, and that's fine, too!)
1-4. Choose your friends wisely.
Yes, you're going to meet people who do mean things. But you don't have to be one of those people. You can be whatever and hang with whoever. If your friends don't treat you the way you deserve, or if they pressure you to do things you're not comfortable with, you can choose new friends!
1-5. Be active.
Don't just lay around the house. Get out and go to the pool with your friends, go talk to boys, play a sport, do whatever you find fun.
1-6. Have a healthy social life.
Lots of girls these days have Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, Pinterest, etc. You do not have to have these to have a social life. Socialize face-to-face with people.
1-7. Be confident
1-8. Refrain from obsessing about money, or talking about how much your parents make.
You can be cool and normal no matter what your family's economic status.
1-9. Keep your hygiene up.
Take a shower or bathe every day and use antiperspirant. Brush your hair and teeth, floss, use mouthwash, daily stuff.
1-10. Make the grade.
Try your best in school. Getting straight A's is excellent; it's not nerdy at all. Make high goals for your academic life, and try your best to achieve them.
1-11. Have a life.
"Normal" girls have best friends and hang out with guys. They occasionally get into trouble with things such as ding-dong-ditch, but nothing too life changing .
1-12. Remember that normal doesn't exist.
Be yourself; no one likes a poser.
1-13. Find a friend who you can tell everything to, someone you can trust 100%.
Don't bottle everything up!
Tips
Don't let other people run your life.
Find your hobby. With it, you can find friends with similar interests.
Have fun! Be yourself, don't let anyone ruin your fun. Life is a party.
Warnings
Don't try to be someone you're not. Making friendships with people who aren't like you may seem like a good idea at first, but just be yourself and find people like you. It will most likely turn out great in the long run!
Don't over-commit yourself--spend some time relaxing as a teen!
Don't develop self-esteem issues or eating disorders just to look like the photo-shopped model on the front of a magazine.
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How to Be a Nude Art Model
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1. Getting Hired
1-1. Meet the requirements for being a nude model.
Being a nude model doesn't require you to look like you're ready for the runway or to meet some unrealistic standard of beauty.
Nude models help artists learn to draw the human body and understand its nuances and structure.
Artists don't necessarily look for models who fit a stereotype and are open to models of all sizes, shapes, and ethnicities. People with unique body types and asymmetrical bodies are actually sought after.
An important requirement for being a nude model is being comfortable with your body.
Before you model nude, you should be comfortable enough to pose nude without blushing, covering yourself up, or trying to only show off the most flattering parts of your body.
1-2. Prepare a resume.
Not every artist or art teacher will ask for a resume, but you should be prepared with one anyway.
You can still fill your resume even if you haven't been a nude model before.
Providing a resume will give the artist or art teacher an idea of who you are. This is important for getting to know you as modeling for an art class is an intimate setting for both the artist and model that requires trust.
Include any previous modeling experience, performances, art schooling, acting, dance, yoga, or other activity you have done which would benefit an artist model.
1-3. Find work as a nude art model.
If you're committed to being a nude art model, then you need to start looking for work.
Contact your local art school or college to see if they are hiring art models.
You can start with the art department, but ask if there is someone in particular assigned to hire models for all classes. Sometimes each instructor hires his or her own models.
If you want to pose for a photographer, also look on any one of a number of websites that link models to photographers.
Free online classified advertising websites also often post ads for nude models.
You should first find work modeling for a class and only consider doing some private modeling once you have a better understanding of the nude art modeling world and know that you're working with a legitimate artist.
1-4. Discuss the details in advance.
When you are hired, it is best to iron out payment, time commitment, and schedule.
Typical nude art modeling sessions run about three hours, including a number of breaks and a variety of poses held for 5, 10, or 20 minutes.
Discuss average length and number of poses, the types of poses, and the amount of breaks you'll be given.
Discuss payment or hourly sitting rates, which can vary greatly but generally are between $15 and $25 for drawing -- though fees for a photographer will generally be higher.
2. Preparing to Pose
2-1. Prepare your poses.
Nude art models are typically expected to strike four basic poses during their sessions.
These are standing, seated, reclining, and semi-reclining or prone.
The standing pose requires you to stand in a variety of ways with your arms, legs, hands, and feet engaged in various ways. You might have props to hold or have to hold a particular facial expression.
The reclining pose will typically require you to lie down on your back on a sofa or couch in a comfortable position.
The semi-reclining pose will require you to lie down on your stomach while lifting your chest, as you would do to read a magazine at the beach.
These are the four basic poses, but there is a variety of movements and gestures that you can make when you hold them.
It is important to note that when in a standing pose, not to let your knees lockout (doing so may cause you to pass out).
2-2. Be expressive.
Draw on any personal experience to think of poses that are interesting or inspiring. Any physical activity may be a source of good poses.
A good model must be able to be expressive from the bottoms of their feet to the tips of their fingers. Art is dynamic and your poses should be as well!
Many models are inspired by the poses depicted in classical works of art.
Yoga poses are often used because they engage the muscles in interesting and dynamic ways.
2-3. Be prepared to hold each pose for a specified amount of time.
Different kinds of poses can be held for short or long periods. It is best to be prepared to hold still for a long time.
The time required for a pose can be described by any of the following three terms: gestures, short poses, and long poses.
Gestures are poses lasting less than three minutes.
Short poses last three to twenty minutes, and long poses which are held in multiple 20 minute intervals with a short break in between.
The latter is generally the norm for painting and sculpture; drawing classes will require a number of shorter poses.
Any class may begin with a few gestures as a "warm-up".
If you're in the middle of a long pose and need to move, someone will use tape to mark the position of your body. Just ask, "Can someone please tape me?"
2-4. Put together a "modeling bag."
You should come prepared to your modeling session so you don't need to trouble the artist by asking for anything and maintain your professionalism.
The most important thing you need to bring is a robe so you can wear it between poses or to use the bathroom.
You should also bring a towel or blanket to sit on for hygienic reasons.
Bring slippers or sandals to slip in and out of quickly on breaks.
You might also want to have water or snacks with you.
Always bring a date book and pen (or your phone) for booking future sessions.
2-5. Prepare your body.
You will want to be clean and look natural.
Before you leave for your session, shower and apply lotion to soothe dry skin, which could cause you discomfort while posing.
Wear minimal jewelry unless otherwise requested.
You shouldn't put in a ton of hairspray or wear make up unless requested. You should look as natural as possible.
3. Posing
3-1. Remove your clothing.
Once you meet the artist and get comfortable, it'll be time to remove your clothes.
A private changing room will likely be provided or there may be a folding screen that you can change behind.
Use the privacy to get centered and ready for a nude art modeling session. Remove your clothes and put on your robe and slippers.
Step up to the modeling area. Step up onto the model's area holding only your timer to mark the time passed in each of the posing sessions.
3-2. Remove your robe and slippers.
Your artist will designate an area for you to place these items during your session.
If sitting or lying down, it is best to do so on a towel or sheet. The artist may provide one for you, or you can bring one of your own.
If you do not have a towel, it is hygienic and highly recommended that you place your robe beneath your bottom for sitting poses.
Some artists even enjoy drawing the additional "drapery."
3-3. Follow the artist's directions.
Keep your body and eyes very still. Listening to your artist is key for a successful session.
It is useful to fix your gaze on one spot; do not make eye contact with any artist unless specifically directed.
Relax into the pose, but not so much that you move from your original position.
You may be asked to time your own poses or the artist may tell you when you're finished.
If you're not sure about what the artist means, don't be afraid to ask for clarification. This is far better than striking the wrong pose.
If you're told to hold a pose that is too challenging, it's better to speak up than to try to hold it.
The artist would rather have you hold a pose that you can maintain for the duration instead of having to start over.
4. Finishing the Session
4-1. Get dressed.
When you are finished with your session, put on your robe and return to your private changing area and put on your clothes.
Make sure you don't leave anything in the studio.
You should wear comfortable clothes.
It is a good idea to have a bag for your dirty robe or towel so you can wash these after your session.
4-2. Be prepared when you say goodbye to the artist.
You will want to discuss any further sessions at this time.
Have your date book and pen handy when you come out of the change room in case the artist would like to work with you again.
It's also a good idea to prepare a business card to hand to the artist.
Ask for feedback from the artist.
Once you've worked with the artist a few times, you can even ask for a letter of recommendation that you can use to help you find future work.
4-3. Follow up with your artist.
You want to show initiative and enthusiasm if you want to be hired again.
Call or email to confirm a time and date for your next session.
If you don't book another session right away, contact the artist in a few weeks after your session to see if they need any more models.
Ask your artist for other contacts if you have developed a good working relationship.
Tips
Cell phone cameras have emerged as another problem. Institutions may have rules against them but models must be vigilant.
When responding to an advertisement, whether on the Internet or otherwise, find out as much as possible before accepting the job.
There is a chance that someone may request a photograph to use as a reference for completing a work outside of class. This would be up to you and require an additional payment (usually 2-3 times the standard art model rates).
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Prepare a resume.\\nNot every artist or art teacher will ask for a resume, but you should be prepared with one anyway.\\nYou can still fill your resume even if you haven't been a nude model before.\\nProviding a resume will give the artist or art teacher an idea of who you are. This is important for getting to know you as modeling for an art class is an intimate setting for both the artist and model that requires trust.\\nInclude any previous modeling experience, performances, art schooling, acting, dance, yoga, or other activity you have done which would benefit an artist model.\\n1-3. Find work as a nude art model.\\nIf you're committed to being a nude art model, then you need to start looking for work.\\nContact your local art school or college to see if they are hiring art models.\\nYou can start with the art department, but ask if there is someone in particular assigned to hire models for all classes. Sometimes each instructor hires his or her own models.\\nIf you want to pose for a photographer, also look on any one of a number of websites that link models to photographers.\\nFree online classified advertising websites also often post ads for nude models.\\nYou should first find work modeling for a class and only consider doing some private modeling once you have a better understanding of the nude art modeling world and know that you're working with a legitimate artist.\\n1-4. Discuss the details in advance.\\nWhen you are hired, it is best to iron out payment, time commitment, and schedule.\\nTypical nude art modeling sessions run about three hours, including a number of breaks and a variety of poses held for 5, 10, or 20 minutes.\\nDiscuss average length and number of poses, the types of poses, and the amount of breaks you'll be given.\\nDiscuss payment or hourly sitting rates, which can vary greatly but generally are between $15 and $25 for drawing -- though fees for a photographer will generally be higher.\\n2. Preparing to Pose\\n2-1. Prepare your poses.\\nNude art models are typically expected to strike four basic poses during their sessions.\\nThese are standing, seated, reclining, and semi-reclining or prone.\\nThe standing pose requires you to stand in a variety of ways with your arms, legs, hands, and feet engaged in various ways. You might have props to hold or have to hold a particular facial expression.\\nThe reclining pose will typically require you to lie down on your back on a sofa or couch in a comfortable position.\\nThe semi-reclining pose will require you to lie down on your stomach while lifting your chest, as you would do to read a magazine at the beach.\\nThese are the four basic poses, but there is a variety of movements and gestures that you can make when you hold them.\\nIt is important to note that when in a standing pose, not to let your knees lockout (doing so may cause you to pass out).\\n2-2. Be expressive.\\nDraw on any personal experience to think of poses that are interesting or inspiring. Any physical activity may be a source of good poses.\\nA good model must be able to be expressive from the bottoms of their feet to the tips of their fingers. Art is dynamic and your poses should be as well!\\nMany models are inspired by the poses depicted in classical works of art.\\nYoga poses are often used because they engage the muscles in interesting and dynamic ways.\\n2-3. Be prepared to hold each pose for a specified amount of time.\\nDifferent kinds of poses can be held for short or long periods. It is best to be prepared to hold still for a long time. \\nThe time required for a pose can be described by any of the following three terms: gestures, short poses, and long poses.\\nGestures are poses lasting less than three minutes.\\nShort poses last three to twenty minutes, and long poses which are held in multiple 20 minute intervals with a short break in between.\\nThe latter is generally the norm for painting and sculpture; drawing classes will require a number of shorter poses.\\nAny class may begin with a few gestures as a \\\"warm-up\\\".\\nIf you're in the middle of a long pose and need to move, someone will use tape to mark the position of your body. Just ask, \\\"Can someone please tape me?\\\"\\n2-4. Put together a \\\"modeling bag.\\\"\\nYou should come prepared to your modeling session so you don't need to trouble the artist by asking for anything and maintain your professionalism.\\nThe most important thing you need to bring is a robe so you can wear it between poses or to use the bathroom.\\nYou should also bring a towel or blanket to sit on for hygienic reasons.\\nBring slippers or sandals to slip in and out of quickly on breaks.\\nYou might also want to have water or snacks with you.\\nAlways bring a date book and pen (or your phone) for booking future sessions.\\n2-5. Prepare your body.\\nYou will want to be clean and look natural. \\nBefore you leave for your session, shower and apply lotion to soothe dry skin, which could cause you discomfort while posing.\\nWear minimal jewelry unless otherwise requested.\\nYou shouldn't put in a ton of hairspray or wear make up unless requested. You should look as natural as possible.\\n3. Posing\\n3-1. Remove your clothing.\\nOnce you meet the artist and get comfortable, it'll be time to remove your clothes. \\nA private changing room will likely be provided or there may be a folding screen that you can change behind.\\nUse the privacy to get centered and ready for a nude art modeling session. Remove your clothes and put on your robe and slippers.\\nStep up to the modeling area. Step up onto the model's area holding only your timer to mark the time passed in each of the posing sessions.\\n3-2. Remove your robe and slippers.\\nYour artist will designate an area for you to place these items during your session. \\nIf sitting or lying down, it is best to do so on a towel or sheet. The artist may provide one for you, or you can bring one of your own.\\nIf you do not have a towel, it is hygienic and highly recommended that you place your robe beneath your bottom for sitting poses.\\nSome artists even enjoy drawing the additional \\\"drapery.\\\"\\n3-3. Follow the artist's directions.\\nKeep your body and eyes very still. Listening to your artist is key for a successful session.\\nIt is useful to fix your gaze on one spot; do not make eye contact with any artist unless specifically directed.\\nRelax into the pose, but not so much that you move from your original position.\\nYou may be asked to time your own poses or the artist may tell you when you're finished.\\nIf you're not sure about what the artist means, don't be afraid to ask for clarification. This is far better than striking the wrong pose.\\nIf you're told to hold a pose that is too challenging, it's better to speak up than to try to hold it.\\nThe artist would rather have you hold a pose that you can maintain for the duration instead of having to start over.\\n4. Finishing the Session\\n4-1. Get dressed.\\nWhen you are finished with your session, put on your robe and return to your private changing area and put on your clothes.\\nMake sure you don't leave anything in the studio.\\nYou should wear comfortable clothes.\\nIt is a good idea to have a bag for your dirty robe or towel so you can wash these after your session.\\n4-2. Be prepared when you say goodbye to the artist.\\nYou will want to discuss any further sessions at this time. \\nHave your date book and pen handy when you come out of the change room in case the artist would like to work with you again.\\nIt's also a good idea to prepare a business card to hand to the artist.\\nAsk for feedback from the artist.\\nOnce you've worked with the artist a few times, you can even ask for a letter of recommendation that you can use to help you find future work.\\n4-3. Follow up with your artist.\\nYou want to show initiative and enthusiasm if you want to be hired again. \\nCall or email to confirm a time and date for your next session.\\nIf you don't book another session right away, contact the artist in a few weeks after your session to see if they need any more models.\\nAsk your artist for other contacts if you have developed a good working relationship.\\nTips\\nCell phone cameras have emerged as another problem. Institutions may have rules against them but models must be vigilant.\\nWhen responding to an advertisement, whether on the Internet or otherwise, find out as much as possible before accepting the job.\\nThere is a chance that someone may request a photograph to use as a reference for completing a work outside of class. This would be up to you and require an additional payment (usually 2-3 times the standard art model rates).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Nude art models have been around since the days of ancient Greece and their work is both difficult and rewarding. If you want to be a nude art model, you have to be comfortable with your body, know how to hold a variety of poses, and understand the proper protocol. This article addresses the basics of getting hired, working, and posing for an artist.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Hired\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meet the requirements for being a nude model.\", \"描述\": \"Being a nude model doesn't require you to look like you're ready for the runway or to meet some unrealistic standard of beauty.\\nNude models help artists learn to draw the human body and understand its nuances and structure.\\nArtists don't necessarily look for models who fit a stereotype and are open to models of all sizes, shapes, and ethnicities. People with unique body types and asymmetrical bodies are actually sought after.\\nAn important requirement for being a nude model is being comfortable with your body.\\nBefore you model nude, you should be comfortable enough to pose nude without blushing, covering yourself up, or trying to only show off the most flattering parts of your body.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prepare a resume.\", \"描述\": \"Not every artist or art teacher will ask for a resume, but you should be prepared with one anyway.\\nYou can still fill your resume even if you haven't been a nude model before.\\nProviding a resume will give the artist or art teacher an idea of who you are. 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You might have props to hold or have to hold a particular facial expression.\\nThe reclining pose will typically require you to lie down on your back on a sofa or couch in a comfortable position.\\nThe semi-reclining pose will require you to lie down on your stomach while lifting your chest, as you would do to read a magazine at the beach.\\nThese are the four basic poses, but there is a variety of movements and gestures that you can make when you hold them.\\nIt is important to note that when in a standing pose, not to let your knees lockout (doing so may cause you to pass out).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be expressive.\", \"描述\": \"Draw on any personal experience to think of poses that are interesting or inspiring. Any physical activity may be a source of good poses.\\nA good model must be able to be expressive from the bottoms of their feet to the tips of their fingers. 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The artist may provide one for you, or you can bring one of your own.\\nIf you do not have a towel, it is hygienic and highly recommended that you place your robe beneath your bottom for sitting poses.\\nSome artists even enjoy drawing the additional \\\"drapery.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Follow the artist's directions.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your body and eyes very still. Listening to your artist is key for a successful session.\\nIt is useful to fix your gaze on one spot; do not make eye contact with any artist unless specifically directed.\\nRelax into the pose, but not so much that you move from your original position.\\nYou may be asked to time your own poses or the artist may tell you when you're finished.\\nIf you're not sure about what the artist means, don't be afraid to ask for clarification. 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1. Starting Out
1-1. Get your high school diploma or GED.
In order to complete the path to becoming any type of nurse (be it an LPN, an RN, or anything else), you need to complete high school. To get into a good nursing school, you need decent grades as well.
Many nursing schools require a pre-entrance exam to be accepted into the nursing program as well. Many schools offer different programs, but know that all require prerequisite courses. Typical prerequisite courses have up to four years required from high school and college of English, math, science, social studies, and possibly even a couple years of a foreign language.
1-2. Get an entry-level job in the healthcare arena.
While not always mandatory, some schools do require previous healthcare experience in order to be accepted to their program. If you have the time and desire to become a CNA (a Certified Nursing Assistant), that's a great first step. Not only will you start getting experience, but it proves you're serious.
When you are CNA before a nurse, it gives you a good stepping stone into the healthcare world, and your future nursing coworkers will appreciate that you were an aide before a nurse.
Even volunteering at a local hospital or doing admin work at a clinic looks great on your resume and exposes you to the environment. If you like the hospital environment, you’ll have a better idea of the realities of nursing as a career. The more experience you have in this setting, the better—regardless of what kind of experience it is.
Some may find that performing the aide work makes them realize nursing isn’t for them as well.
1-3. Decide if becoming an LPN/LVN is right for you.
In a hospital, you'll likely run into CNAs, LPNs, and RNs. LPNs are Licensed Practical (Vocational) Nurses. A Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN) or Licensed Vocational Nurse (LVN) can do the basic essential care of the patient, pass medications, and report the status of the patient directly to the Registered Nurse (RN) or the doctor, usually under the supervision of an RN. They're still nurses, just with less autonomy. Most nurses can become LPNs in around 18 months.
LPN/LVNs take the NCLEX-PN examination, as opposed to the NCLEX-RN examination.
Recent trends in the profession have shown LPNs fading out of the hospital setting and into long-term care facilities and offices.
1-4. Decide if becoming an RN is right for you.
RNs focus on the pathophysiology behind it all. Normally, there is an RN in “charge” of the LPNS, but along with that, the RN is responsible for the LPN’s patients. Therefore, the LPN and RN need to understand and communicate with each other often for the safety of the patient.
The RN must think critically on the job rather than simply performing tasks. Analyzing lab results, passing medications, educating patients why they take medications, performing plans of care, and supervisory roles are often part of the RN’s job.
1-5. Decide which program best suits your needs.
Becoming a nurse is easier than ever with online school and weekend options. The work is still difficult, but the flexibility is now available. Some programs are exclusively online. This may be ideal for those with families. Some students need a classroom setting to learn and benefit from that environment. Different options are available for each type of nurse.
1-6. Look into LPN programs.
There are programs that are accelerated for LPNs. Look into your specific state for accredited programs, as well as the pass rates for their students on the NCLEX-PN.
For most, this is just a pit stop on the way to being an RN. If that speaks to you, talk to your school about their ADN or BSN program. They may have an LPN designation built in once you're halfway through. Otherwise, know that you can become an LPN after approximately eighteen months or so of training (mostly through hospitals or community colleges).
1-7. Look into RN programs.
The typical route to becoming an RN includes an associate degree in Nursing (ADN) followed by a Bachelor of Science in Nursing (BSN). There is a recent push for RNs to have their BSN over an ADN degree. The BSN degree focuses more on the research in nursing. Nurses also have more prospects with a BSN as many employers require new nurse applicants to have it.
You can expect to spend two-to-three years obtaining an ADN and a BSN is a full, four-year degree for a full-time student, which means the BSN is a much more expensive option.
Both degrees allow recipients to sit for the NCLEX exam upon graduation.
The leap in RN-to-BSN programs offered has grown more popular in recent years, a 22.2% leap between 2011 and 2012.
Getting your BSN allows you to eventually pursue leadership positions, teach nursing students, lead the administrative side, etc. Having a four-year degree at all in today's society is invaluable as well.
1-8. Consider alternate routes.
A couple of other routes exist for becoming a nurse as well.
Nursing diploma programs have dramatically decreased since the 1970s. Though these are becoming less and less common, it is still a viable option.
Go through the military. You can train for two-to-four years through an ROTC Nursing program at a college or university.
If you already have a four-year degree but it's not in nursing, you should be able to devise an accelerated program. All you need to do is send your transcripts to your new school and start asking questions. It’s a very, very common thing. Some states even have special designations for this.
1-9. Apply to a nursing school.
Once you've decided how you want to achieve this career goal, look at the schools and hospitals (some hospitals offer programs too) around you. You will have to decide if you want to take full- or part-time classes, how much you can spend, if you want to live in campus, and if you want to take any of the classes online.
Be aware that the widely known nursing shortage has led to long waiting lists at some schools. It's best to inquire about this before you set your heart on one.
If you already work for a hospital, see if any programs are affiliated with it. You may receive discounts if so.
1-10. Get accepted.
Once you've picked a school, you have to apply and get in. How do you do that? Most programs will require transcripts (high school or college), SAT/ACT scores, and essay and letters of recommendation. On-the-job experience is always a perk as well.
If you can, get letters of recommendation from people who also work in healthcare. Ask the professional reference in person rather than by email. If you do not work in healthcare, request a recommendation letter from someone else who knows your work ethic and desire to become a nurse. Ask in advance. Don’t rush the person.
On the essay, don't write about what you think is a good answer; write what you believe. Using words from the heart will make you stick out from other applicants.
2. Studying and Getting Licensed
2-1. Be a top-notch student.
You'll be studying anatomy, physiology, microbiology, chemistry, nutrition, psychology, and other social and behavioral sciences. Prepare to spend a lot of time studying hard to do well in such intensive courses.
If you need inspiration to study, remember that people's lives will be in your hands once you’re a nurse. If you need more motivation, remember that the graduation exam costs $200 to take each time. If you fail it, you can't take it for another 45-to-90 days.
2-2. Ace your clinicals.
Clinicals are part of your education, but they’re out of the classroom and in the action. If you are a hands on learner, you'll really enjoy clinicals. Most clinicals are done in replacement of a school day and last throughout the entire nursing program. They focus on a specialization, such as medical-surgical, pediatrics, maternity, or psychiatric. You will learn many skills here, but you have to be willing and ready to learn.
Clinicals are a normal working day, except not paid like residents in a medical-degree program.
It's normal to be stressed during clinicals. After all, you're working with real people, and you're still a newbie. Everyone goes through this, and the feeling does go away. Continue to study and seek out opportunities.
2-3. Prep for the NCLEX-RN.
The exam is also known as “the boards.” It's a series of questions (between 75 and 265) that will test your knowledge in a variety of different domains. You're given five hours to complete the test.
The number of questions varies person to person. The test will continue until the computer feels it has accurately determined your knowledge level with 95% confidence. Finishing at 75 questions means you either did magnificently or very poorly, so don't worry about the number you get.
2-4. Pass the exam and get licensed
The best way to pass is to study hard and get plenty of sleep between studying. Know that 81% of candidates pass on the first try, so you have a great chance if you come prepared.
Consider taking advantage of one of the prep courses available to help with studying the possibly overwhelming amount of information.
The average number of questions is around 125, and the average test takes about 2.5 hours.
2-5. Look for employment in your desired department.
Most nurses will have an idea where they want to work by this point. You may enjoy the adrenaline rush of the ER, the focus of the OR, working with kids in pediatrics, working with babies in labor and delivery, working with the elderly and long-term care patients, etc. If you're unsure, a medical-surgical unit will help with solidifying skills and prioritization.
Consider the fact that baby boomers are pretty much taking over. Working with the 55+ demographic would ensure job stability.
Working with children is great, but it can also be very sad. If you do choose to go into pediatrics, you'll be faced with a lot of situations that just aren't fair. There are a few options in the pediatric area, including general pediatrics, pediatric intensive care units, pediatric oncology units, and home care for pediatrics.
Mother/baby units can be very difficult to get into. Everyone wants to work with patients who are happy, excited, and healthy. Remember, these areas are also very high stressed with two lives in your hands at one time. When it is sad in these units, it’s very sad.
If you do get into this unit, be ready to commit to a night shift job for many years because most nurses who work in OB do not leave.
Most surgeries nowadays are scheduled. If you prefer working normal hours (plenty of nurses don't), being a surgical nurse may be down your alley. Otherwise prepare for the possibility of working night shifts.
2-6. Consider your ideal work environment.
Since nurses are needed everywhere and at all times, you can imagine the plethora of forms they take. They work in hospitals, of course, but they also work in private homes, in clinics, in doctor's offices, in nursing homes, etc.
There's also the option of being a traveling nurse.
Many places have nurses working third shift, on-call, or on standby. Your ideal environment may also allow you to choose between eight-, ten-, or twelve-hour shifts. Floating between different departments may also be an option.
2-7. Apply for jobs.
If you've been working at or through a hospital, that's your first go-to. If not, apply anywhere and everywhere you can. Unfortunately with the recent economic slump, it's getting harder and harder to find jobs, nursing jobs included.
However, some places do prefer new grads (they cost less money), and the need for nurses is still booming.
Practice interview questions often and be prepared for anything. Ask about your potential employer's turnover rate as well. If its 20% or higher, it may not be the place for you to start.
Ask to shadow a day or two before you decide you want to work there. The attitudes of your fellow coworkers may have an impact on your decision.
Ask about guidance. Expect that you will have training with a preceptor. It depends what unit you work on, but you will get trained. Most orientation programs last between 6-12 weeks.
3. Advancing Your Career
3-1. Get specialized.
After X number of hours in your department, there's probably some certification you'll be able to get. Achieving a certificate makes you look like an expert in your field and may open doors for more opportunities. Your hospital should offer you a course, seminar, or training class to certify you in this area.
Some available certifications include: Ambulatory Care, Cardiac-Vascular Nursing, Faith Community Nursing, Forensic Nursing, Genetics Nursing, Gerontological Nursing, Hemostasis Nursing, Informatics Nursing, Medical-Surgical Nursing, Nurse Executive, Nurse Executive - Advanced, Nursing Case Management, Nursing Professional Development, Pain Management Nursing, Pediatric Nursing, Psychiatric–Mental Health Nursing, Public Health Nursing - Advanced, Rheumatology Nursing, etc.
With that should come a slight increase in pay, and certifications look great on a resume. If the opportunity comes, take it!
You need so many hours on the floor of that department before you're even eligible for these certifications. Think of it more as a badge of honor instead of as a specialization or certification.
3-2. Be mentally ready.
Nurses have to face many difficult situations. Whether it's a particularly nasty infection, vomit and excrement all over you, or a very sick baby, the job is hard. It is not for the mentally (nor physically) unfit.
At one point or another, you may feel guilt for something that happened to someone, whether it was out of your control or not. This profession is not something that is always light on the spirit. If you have yet to pursue this as your career, think about this before you make the leap.
Many institutions have groups for when incidents happen on units. These groups help debrief situations and are supportive emotionally to the staff.
The schedule of a nurse can be pretty intense. You could work three twelve-hour shifts in a row before getting four days off. If you're working overtime, it could be more. It could also mean night shifts. You may even be on-call on your days off as well. Sleep may not be your constant companion. Stay aware of your schedule and avoid any states of fatigue.
3-3. Maintain your licensure and credibility.
Eligibility requirements for having a license vary by state or area, so maintaining yours depends on where you live. However, your employer will probably routinely have you in workshops, seminars, and certification classes to keep you up to date.
It is still your professional responsibility to be up to date on your current certifications. Every department will have requirements for your job. Common requirements are basic life support, advanced cardiac life support, and others specific to your department of choice. For labor and delivery, for example, BLS, ACLS, neonatal resuscitation, and fetal monitoring are often required.
It used to be that if you were licensed in one state, you weren't licensed in another. While that's still technically true, it's slowly changing. Some states have entered into the Nurse Licensure Compact Agreement, allowing each other's nurses to work within their boundaries. Currently it's at twenty-four states and counting.
You'll need to retake your exams every so often, depending on where you live and whether or not you've been practicing. Look up the laws in your area to make sure your license stays active. By searching the internet for your state’s requirement, you will find specific website for your state’s board of nursing.
Unless you lapse in renewal, you will never have to retake the NCLEX.
3-4. Pursue further education.
Whether you got your LPN, your ADN, or your BSN, there's always room for more education. You can get your Master of Science in Nursing in only one or two years, allowing you to become a nurse practitioner, clinical nurse specialist, nurse anesthetist, or nurse-midwife. Then you can do pretty much anything and go pretty much anywhere.
If you only have an ADN, you can pursue a joint BSN/MSN in two-to-three years. You will have to meet additional certification and licensure requirements. However, it's certainly worth looking into with the 27% higher average salary when compared to regular RNs. In 2011, ADNs earned about $64k while BSNs earned $76k.
Tips
Clinical experience is often provided in a hospital setting, but can also occur in clinics, nursing homes and health departments.
Several entities provide credentialing, including the National League for Nursing and the American Nursing Credentialing Center.
Salaries and opportunities for advancement are highest for four-year Registered Nurses.
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Not only will you start getting experience, but it proves you're serious.\\nWhen you are CNA before a nurse, it gives you a good stepping stone into the healthcare world, and your future nursing coworkers will appreciate that you were an aide before a nurse.\\nEven volunteering at a local hospital or doing admin work at a clinic looks great on your resume and exposes you to the environment. If you like the hospital environment, you’ll have a better idea of the realities of nursing as a career. The more experience you have in this setting, the better—regardless of what kind of experience it is.\\nSome may find that performing the aide work makes them realize nursing isn’t for them as well.\\n1-3. Decide if becoming an LPN/LVN is right for you.\\nIn a hospital, you'll likely run into CNAs, LPNs, and RNs. LPNs are Licensed Practical (Vocational) Nurses. A Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN) or Licensed Vocational Nurse (LVN) can do the basic essential care of the patient, pass medications, and report the status of the patient directly to the Registered Nurse (RN) or the doctor, usually under the supervision of an RN. They're still nurses, just with less autonomy. Most nurses can become LPNs in around 18 months.\\nLPN/LVNs take the NCLEX-PN examination, as opposed to the NCLEX-RN examination.\\nRecent trends in the profession have shown LPNs fading out of the hospital setting and into long-term care facilities and offices.\\n1-4. Decide if becoming an RN is right for you.\\nRNs focus on the pathophysiology behind it all. Normally, there is an RN in “charge” of the LPNS, but along with that, the RN is responsible for the LPN’s patients. Therefore, the LPN and RN need to understand and communicate with each other often for the safety of the patient.\\nThe RN must think critically on the job rather than simply performing tasks. Analyzing lab results, passing medications, educating patients why they take medications, performing plans of care, and supervisory roles are often part of the RN’s job.\\n1-5. Decide which program best suits your needs.\\nBecoming a nurse is easier than ever with online school and weekend options. The work is still difficult, but the flexibility is now available. Some programs are exclusively online. This may be ideal for those with families. Some students need a classroom setting to learn and benefit from that environment. Different options are available for each type of nurse.\\n1-6. Look into LPN programs.\\nThere are programs that are accelerated for LPNs. Look into your specific state for accredited programs, as well as the pass rates for their students on the NCLEX-PN.\\nFor most, this is just a pit stop on the way to being an RN. If that speaks to you, talk to your school about their ADN or BSN program. They may have an LPN designation built in once you're halfway through. Otherwise, know that you can become an LPN after approximately eighteen months or so of training (mostly through hospitals or community colleges).\\n1-7. Look into RN programs.\\nThe typical route to becoming an RN includes an associate degree in Nursing (ADN) followed by a Bachelor of Science in Nursing (BSN). There is a recent push for RNs to have their BSN over an ADN degree. The BSN degree focuses more on the research in nursing. Nurses also have more prospects with a BSN as many employers require new nurse applicants to have it.\\nYou can expect to spend two-to-three years obtaining an ADN and a BSN is a full, four-year degree for a full-time student, which means the BSN is a much more expensive option.\\nBoth degrees allow recipients to sit for the NCLEX exam upon graduation.\\nThe leap in RN-to-BSN programs offered has grown more popular in recent years, a 22.2% leap between 2011 and 2012.\\nGetting your BSN allows you to eventually pursue leadership positions, teach nursing students, lead the administrative side, etc. Having a four-year degree at all in today's society is invaluable as well.\\n1-8. Consider alternate routes.\\nA couple of other routes exist for becoming a nurse as well.\\nNursing diploma programs have dramatically decreased since the 1970s. Though these are becoming less and less common, it is still a viable option.\\nGo through the military. You can train for two-to-four years through an ROTC Nursing program at a college or university.\\nIf you already have a four-year degree but it's not in nursing, you should be able to devise an accelerated program. All you need to do is send your transcripts to your new school and start asking questions. It’s a very, very common thing. Some states even have special designations for this.\\n1-9. Apply to a nursing school.\\nOnce you've decided how you want to achieve this career goal, look at the schools and hospitals (some hospitals offer programs too) around you. You will have to decide if you want to take full- or part-time classes, how much you can spend, if you want to live in campus, and if you want to take any of the classes online.\\nBe aware that the widely known nursing shortage has led to long waiting lists at some schools. It's best to inquire about this before you set your heart on one.\\nIf you already work for a hospital, see if any programs are affiliated with it. You may receive discounts if so.\\n1-10. Get accepted.\\nOnce you've picked a school, you have to apply and get in. How do you do that? Most programs will require transcripts (high school or college), SAT/ACT scores, and essay and letters of recommendation. On-the-job experience is always a perk as well.\\nIf you can, get letters of recommendation from people who also work in healthcare. Ask the professional reference in person rather than by email. If you do not work in healthcare, request a recommendation letter from someone else who knows your work ethic and desire to become a nurse. Ask in advance. Don’t rush the person.\\nOn the essay, don't write about what you think is a good answer; write what you believe. Using words from the heart will make you stick out from other applicants.\\n2. Studying and Getting Licensed\\n2-1. Be a top-notch student.\\nYou'll be studying anatomy, physiology, microbiology, chemistry, nutrition, psychology, and other social and behavioral sciences. Prepare to spend a lot of time studying hard to do well in such intensive courses.\\nIf you need inspiration to study, remember that people's lives will be in your hands once you’re a nurse. If you need more motivation, remember that the graduation exam costs $200 to take each time. If you fail it, you can't take it for another 45-to-90 days.\\n2-2. Ace your clinicals.\\nClinicals are part of your education, but they’re out of the classroom and in the action. If you are a hands on learner, you'll really enjoy clinicals. Most clinicals are done in replacement of a school day and last throughout the entire nursing program. They focus on a specialization, such as medical-surgical, pediatrics, maternity, or psychiatric. You will learn many skills here, but you have to be willing and ready to learn.\\nClinicals are a normal working day, except not paid like residents in a medical-degree program.\\nIt's normal to be stressed during clinicals. After all, you're working with real people, and you're still a newbie. Everyone goes through this, and the feeling does go away. Continue to study and seek out opportunities.\\n2-3. Prep for the NCLEX-RN.\\nThe exam is also known as “the boards.” It's a series of questions (between 75 and 265) that will test your knowledge in a variety of different domains. You're given five hours to complete the test.\\nThe number of questions varies person to person. The test will continue until the computer feels it has accurately determined your knowledge level with 95% confidence. Finishing at 75 questions means you either did magnificently or very poorly, so don't worry about the number you get.\\n2-4. Pass the exam and get licensed\\nThe best way to pass is to study hard and get plenty of sleep between studying. Know that 81% of candidates pass on the first try, so you have a great chance if you come prepared.\\nConsider taking advantage of one of the prep courses available to help with studying the possibly overwhelming amount of information.\\nThe average number of questions is around 125, and the average test takes about 2.5 hours.\\n2-5. Look for employment in your desired department.\\nMost nurses will have an idea where they want to work by this point. You may enjoy the adrenaline rush of the ER, the focus of the OR, working with kids in pediatrics, working with babies in labor and delivery, working with the elderly and long-term care patients, etc. If you're unsure, a medical-surgical unit will help with solidifying skills and prioritization.\\nConsider the fact that baby boomers are pretty much taking over. Working with the 55+ demographic would ensure job stability.\\nWorking with children is great, but it can also be very sad. If you do choose to go into pediatrics, you'll be faced with a lot of situations that just aren't fair. There are a few options in the pediatric area, including general pediatrics, pediatric intensive care units, pediatric oncology units, and home care for pediatrics.\\nMother/baby units can be very difficult to get into. Everyone wants to work with patients who are happy, excited, and healthy. Remember, these areas are also very high stressed with two lives in your hands at one time. When it is sad in these units, it’s very sad.\\nIf you do get into this unit, be ready to commit to a night shift job for many years because most nurses who work in OB do not leave.\\nMost surgeries nowadays are scheduled. If you prefer working normal hours (plenty of nurses don't), being a surgical nurse may be down your alley. Otherwise prepare for the possibility of working night shifts.\\n2-6. Consider your ideal work environment.\\nSince nurses are needed everywhere and at all times, you can imagine the plethora of forms they take. They work in hospitals, of course, but they also work in private homes, in clinics, in doctor's offices, in nursing homes, etc.\\nThere's also the option of being a traveling nurse.\\nMany places have nurses working third shift, on-call, or on standby. Your ideal environment may also allow you to choose between eight-, ten-, or twelve-hour shifts. Floating between different departments may also be an option.\\n2-7. Apply for jobs.\\nIf you've been working at or through a hospital, that's your first go-to. If not, apply anywhere and everywhere you can. Unfortunately with the recent economic slump, it's getting harder and harder to find jobs, nursing jobs included.\\nHowever, some places do prefer new grads (they cost less money), and the need for nurses is still booming.\\nPractice interview questions often and be prepared for anything. Ask about your potential employer's turnover rate as well. If its 20% or higher, it may not be the place for you to start.\\nAsk to shadow a day or two before you decide you want to work there. The attitudes of your fellow coworkers may have an impact on your decision.\\nAsk about guidance. Expect that you will have training with a preceptor. It depends what unit you work on, but you will get trained. Most orientation programs last between 6-12 weeks.\\n3. Advancing Your Career\\n3-1. Get specialized.\\nAfter X number of hours in your department, there's probably some certification you'll be able to get. Achieving a certificate makes you look like an expert in your field and may open doors for more opportunities. Your hospital should offer you a course, seminar, or training class to certify you in this area.\\nSome available certifications include: Ambulatory Care, Cardiac-Vascular Nursing, Faith Community Nursing, Forensic Nursing, Genetics Nursing, Gerontological Nursing, Hemostasis Nursing, Informatics Nursing, Medical-Surgical Nursing, Nurse Executive, Nurse Executive - Advanced, Nursing Case Management, Nursing Professional Development, Pain Management Nursing, Pediatric Nursing, Psychiatric–Mental Health Nursing, Public Health Nursing - Advanced, Rheumatology Nursing, etc.\\nWith that should come a slight increase in pay, and certifications look great on a resume. If the opportunity comes, take it!\\nYou need so many hours on the floor of that department before you're even eligible for these certifications. Think of it more as a badge of honor instead of as a specialization or certification.\\n3-2. Be mentally ready.\\nNurses have to face many difficult situations. Whether it's a particularly nasty infection, vomit and excrement all over you, or a very sick baby, the job is hard. It is not for the mentally (nor physically) unfit.\\nAt one point or another, you may feel guilt for something that happened to someone, whether it was out of your control or not. This profession is not something that is always light on the spirit. If you have yet to pursue this as your career, think about this before you make the leap.\\nMany institutions have groups for when incidents happen on units. These groups help debrief situations and are supportive emotionally to the staff.\\nThe schedule of a nurse can be pretty intense. You could work three twelve-hour shifts in a row before getting four days off. If you're working overtime, it could be more. It could also mean night shifts. You may even be on-call on your days off as well. Sleep may not be your constant companion. Stay aware of your schedule and avoid any states of fatigue.\\n3-3. Maintain your licensure and credibility.\\nEligibility requirements for having a license vary by state or area, so maintaining yours depends on where you live. However, your employer will probably routinely have you in workshops, seminars, and certification classes to keep you up to date.\\nIt is still your professional responsibility to be up to date on your current certifications. Every department will have requirements for your job. Common requirements are basic life support, advanced cardiac life support, and others specific to your department of choice. For labor and delivery, for example, BLS, ACLS, neonatal resuscitation, and fetal monitoring are often required.\\nIt used to be that if you were licensed in one state, you weren't licensed in another. While that's still technically true, it's slowly changing. Some states have entered into the Nurse Licensure Compact Agreement, allowing each other's nurses to work within their boundaries. Currently it's at twenty-four states and counting.\\nYou'll need to retake your exams every so often, depending on where you live and whether or not you've been practicing. Look up the laws in your area to make sure your license stays active. By searching the internet for your state’s requirement, you will find specific website for your state’s board of nursing.\\nUnless you lapse in renewal, you will never have to retake the NCLEX.\\n3-4. Pursue further education.\\nWhether you got your LPN, your ADN, or your BSN, there's always room for more education. You can get your Master of Science in Nursing in only one or two years, allowing you to become a nurse practitioner, clinical nurse specialist, nurse anesthetist, or nurse-midwife. Then you can do pretty much anything and go pretty much anywhere.\\nIf you only have an ADN, you can pursue a joint BSN/MSN in two-to-three years. You will have to meet additional certification and licensure requirements. However, it's certainly worth looking into with the 27% higher average salary when compared to regular RNs. In 2011, ADNs earned about $64k while BSNs earned $76k.\\nTips\\nClinical experience is often provided in a hospital setting, but can also occur in clinics, nursing homes and health departments.\\nSeveral entities provide credentialing, including the National League for Nursing and the American Nursing Credentialing Center.\\nSalaries and opportunities for advancement are highest for four-year Registered Nurses.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Nursing shortages are common. Nurses are needed in hospitals, clinics, doctors' offices, nursing homes, and home health care. Learning how to be a nurse is a great way to enter the healthcare profession.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Starting Out\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get your high school diploma or GED.\", \"描述\": \"In order to complete the path to becoming any type of nurse (be it an LPN, an RN, or anything else), you need to complete high school. To get into a good nursing school, you need decent grades as well.\\nMany nursing schools require a pre-entrance exam to be accepted into the nursing program as well. Many schools offer different programs, but know that all require prerequisite courses. Typical prerequisite courses have up to four years required from high school and college of English, math, science, social studies, and possibly even a couple years of a foreign language.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get an entry-level job in the healthcare arena.\", \"描述\": \"While not always mandatory, some schools do require previous healthcare experience in order to be accepted to their program. If you have the time and desire to become a CNA (a Certified Nursing Assistant), that's a great first step. Not only will you start getting experience, but it proves you're serious.\\nWhen you are CNA before a nurse, it gives you a good stepping stone into the healthcare world, and your future nursing coworkers will appreciate that you were an aide before a nurse.\\nEven volunteering at a local hospital or doing admin work at a clinic looks great on your resume and exposes you to the environment. If you like the hospital environment, you’ll have a better idea of the realities of nursing as a career. The more experience you have in this setting, the better—regardless of what kind of experience it is.\\nSome may find that performing the aide work makes them realize nursing isn’t for them as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Decide if becoming an LPN/LVN is right for you.\", \"描述\": \"In a hospital, you'll likely run into CNAs, LPNs, and RNs. LPNs are Licensed Practical (Vocational) Nurses. A Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN) or Licensed Vocational Nurse (LVN) can do the basic essential care of the patient, pass medications, and report the status of the patient directly to the Registered Nurse (RN) or the doctor, usually under the supervision of an RN. They're still nurses, just with less autonomy. Most nurses can become LPNs in around 18 months.\\nLPN/LVNs take the NCLEX-PN examination, as opposed to the NCLEX-RN examination.\\nRecent trends in the profession have shown LPNs fading out of the hospital setting and into long-term care facilities and offices.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide if becoming an RN is right for you.\", \"描述\": \"RNs focus on the pathophysiology behind it all. Normally, there is an RN in “charge” of the LPNS, but along with that, the RN is responsible for the LPN’s patients. Therefore, the LPN and RN need to understand and communicate with each other often for the safety of the patient.\\nThe RN must think critically on the job rather than simply performing tasks. Analyzing lab results, passing medications, educating patients why they take medications, performing plans of care, and supervisory roles are often part of the RN’s job.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Decide which program best suits your needs.\", \"描述\": \"Becoming a nurse is easier than ever with online school and weekend options. The work is still difficult, but the flexibility is now available. Some programs are exclusively online. This may be ideal for those with families. Some students need a classroom setting to learn and benefit from that environment. Different options are available for each type of nurse.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Look into LPN programs.\", \"描述\": \"There are programs that are accelerated for LPNs. Look into your specific state for accredited programs, as well as the pass rates for their students on the NCLEX-PN.\\nFor most, this is just a pit stop on the way to being an RN. If that speaks to you, talk to your school about their ADN or BSN program. They may have an LPN designation built in once you're halfway through. Otherwise, know that you can become an LPN after approximately eighteen months or so of training (mostly through hospitals or community colleges).\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Look into RN programs.\", \"描述\": \"The typical route to becoming an RN includes an associate degree in Nursing (ADN) followed by a Bachelor of Science in Nursing (BSN). There is a recent push for RNs to have their BSN over an ADN degree. The BSN degree focuses more on the research in nursing. Nurses also have more prospects with a BSN as many employers require new nurse applicants to have it.\\nYou can expect to spend two-to-three years obtaining an ADN and a BSN is a full, four-year degree for a full-time student, which means the BSN is a much more expensive option.\\nBoth degrees allow recipients to sit for the NCLEX exam upon graduation.\\nThe leap in RN-to-BSN programs offered has grown more popular in recent years, a 22.2% leap between 2011 and 2012.\\nGetting your BSN allows you to eventually pursue leadership positions, teach nursing students, lead the administrative side, etc. Having a four-year degree at all in today's society is invaluable as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Consider alternate routes.\", \"描述\": \"A couple of other routes exist for becoming a nurse as well.\\nNursing diploma programs have dramatically decreased since the 1970s. Though these are becoming less and less common, it is still a viable option.\\nGo through the military. You can train for two-to-four years through an ROTC Nursing program at a college or university.\\nIf you already have a four-year degree but it's not in nursing, you should be able to devise an accelerated program. All you need to do is send your transcripts to your new school and start asking questions. It’s a very, very common thing. Some states even have special designations for this.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Apply to a nursing school.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've decided how you want to achieve this career goal, look at the schools and hospitals (some hospitals offer programs too) around you. You will have to decide if you want to take full- or part-time classes, how much you can spend, if you want to live in campus, and if you want to take any of the classes online.\\nBe aware that the widely known nursing shortage has led to long waiting lists at some schools. It's best to inquire about this before you set your heart on one.\\nIf you already work for a hospital, see if any programs are affiliated with it. You may receive discounts if so.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Get accepted.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've picked a school, you have to apply and get in. How do you do that? Most programs will require transcripts (high school or college), SAT/ACT scores, and essay and letters of recommendation. On-the-job experience is always a perk as well.\\nIf you can, get letters of recommendation from people who also work in healthcare. Ask the professional reference in person rather than by email. If you do not work in healthcare, request a recommendation letter from someone else who knows your work ethic and desire to become a nurse. Ask in advance. Don’t rush the person.\\nOn the essay, don't write about what you think is a good answer; write what you believe. Using words from the heart will make you stick out from other applicants.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Studying and Getting Licensed\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be a top-notch student.\", \"描述\": \"You'll be studying anatomy, physiology, microbiology, chemistry, nutrition, psychology, and other social and behavioral sciences. Prepare to spend a lot of time studying hard to do well in such intensive courses.\\nIf you need inspiration to study, remember that people's lives will be in your hands once you’re a nurse. If you need more motivation, remember that the graduation exam costs $200 to take each time. If you fail it, you can't take it for another 45-to-90 days.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ace your clinicals.\", \"描述\": \"Clinicals are part of your education, but they’re out of the classroom and in the action. If you are a hands on learner, you'll really enjoy clinicals. Most clinicals are done in replacement of a school day and last throughout the entire nursing program. They focus on a specialization, such as medical-surgical, pediatrics, maternity, or psychiatric. You will learn many skills here, but you have to be willing and ready to learn.\\nClinicals are a normal working day, except not paid like residents in a medical-degree program.\\nIt's normal to be stressed during clinicals. After all, you're working with real people, and you're still a newbie. Everyone goes through this, and the feeling does go away. Continue to study and seek out opportunities.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Prep for the NCLEX-RN.\", \"描述\": \"The exam is also known as “the boards.” It's a series of questions (between 75 and 265) that will test your knowledge in a variety of different domains. You're given five hours to complete the test.\\nThe number of questions varies person to person. The test will continue until the computer feels it has accurately determined your knowledge level with 95% confidence. 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You may enjoy the adrenaline rush of the ER, the focus of the OR, working with kids in pediatrics, working with babies in labor and delivery, working with the elderly and long-term care patients, etc. If you're unsure, a medical-surgical unit will help with solidifying skills and prioritization.\\nConsider the fact that baby boomers are pretty much taking over. Working with the 55+ demographic would ensure job stability.\\nWorking with children is great, but it can also be very sad. If you do choose to go into pediatrics, you'll be faced with a lot of situations that just aren't fair. There are a few options in the pediatric area, including general pediatrics, pediatric intensive care units, pediatric oncology units, and home care for pediatrics.\\nMother/baby units can be very difficult to get into. Everyone wants to work with patients who are happy, excited, and healthy. Remember, these areas are also very high stressed with two lives in your hands at one time. When it is sad in these units, it’s very sad.\\nIf you do get into this unit, be ready to commit to a night shift job for many years because most nurses who work in OB do not leave.\\nMost surgeries nowadays are scheduled. If you prefer working normal hours (plenty of nurses don't), being a surgical nurse may be down your alley. Otherwise prepare for the possibility of working night shifts.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Consider your ideal work environment.\", \"描述\": \"Since nurses are needed everywhere and at all times, you can imagine the plethora of forms they take. They work in hospitals, of course, but they also work in private homes, in clinics, in doctor's offices, in nursing homes, etc.\\nThere's also the option of being a traveling nurse.\\nMany places have nurses working third shift, on-call, or on standby. Your ideal environment may also allow you to choose between eight-, ten-, or twelve-hour shifts. Floating between different departments may also be an option.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Apply for jobs.\", \"描述\": \"If you've been working at or through a hospital, that's your first go-to. If not, apply anywhere and everywhere you can. Unfortunately with the recent economic slump, it's getting harder and harder to find jobs, nursing jobs included.\\nHowever, some places do prefer new grads (they cost less money), and the need for nurses is still booming.\\nPractice interview questions often and be prepared for anything. Ask about your potential employer's turnover rate as well. If its 20% or higher, it may not be the place for you to start.\\nAsk to shadow a day or two before you decide you want to work there. The attitudes of your fellow coworkers may have an impact on your decision.\\nAsk about guidance. Expect that you will have training with a preceptor. It depends what unit you work on, but you will get trained. Most orientation programs last between 6-12 weeks.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Advancing Your Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get specialized.\", \"描述\": \"After X number of hours in your department, there's probably some certification you'll be able to get. Achieving a certificate makes you look like an expert in your field and may open doors for more opportunities. Your hospital should offer you a course, seminar, or training class to certify you in this area.\\nSome available certifications include: Ambulatory Care, Cardiac-Vascular Nursing, Faith Community Nursing, Forensic Nursing, Genetics Nursing, Gerontological Nursing, Hemostasis Nursing, Informatics Nursing, Medical-Surgical Nursing, Nurse Executive, Nurse Executive - Advanced, Nursing Case Management, Nursing Professional Development, Pain Management Nursing, Pediatric Nursing, Psychiatric–Mental Health Nursing, Public Health Nursing - Advanced, Rheumatology Nursing, etc.\\nWith that should come a slight increase in pay, and certifications look great on a resume. If the opportunity comes, take it!\\nYou need so many hours on the floor of that department before you're even eligible for these certifications. Think of it more as a badge of honor instead of as a specialization or certification.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be mentally ready.\", \"描述\": \"Nurses have to face many difficult situations. Whether it's a particularly nasty infection, vomit and excrement all over you, or a very sick baby, the job is hard. It is not for the mentally (nor physically) unfit.\\nAt one point or another, you may feel guilt for something that happened to someone, whether it was out of your control or not. This profession is not something that is always light on the spirit. If you have yet to pursue this as your career, think about this before you make the leap.\\nMany institutions have groups for when incidents happen on units. These groups help debrief situations and are supportive emotionally to the staff.\\nThe schedule of a nurse can be pretty intense. You could work three twelve-hour shifts in a row before getting four days off. If you're working overtime, it could be more. It could also mean night shifts. You may even be on-call on your days off as well. Sleep may not be your constant companion. Stay aware of your schedule and avoid any states of fatigue.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintain your licensure and credibility.\", \"描述\": \"Eligibility requirements for having a license vary by state or area, so maintaining yours depends on where you live. However, your employer will probably routinely have you in workshops, seminars, and certification classes to keep you up to date.\\nIt is still your professional responsibility to be up to date on your current certifications. Every department will have requirements for your job. Common requirements are basic life support, advanced cardiac life support, and others specific to your department of choice. For labor and delivery, for example, BLS, ACLS, neonatal resuscitation, and fetal monitoring are often required.\\nIt used to be that if you were licensed in one state, you weren't licensed in another. While that's still technically true, it's slowly changing. Some states have entered into the Nurse Licensure Compact Agreement, allowing each other's nurses to work within their boundaries. Currently it's at twenty-four states and counting.\\nYou'll need to retake your exams every so often, depending on where you live and whether or not you've been practicing. Look up the laws in your area to make sure your license stays active. By searching the internet for your state’s requirement, you will find specific website for your state’s board of nursing.\\nUnless you lapse in renewal, you will never have to retake the NCLEX.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pursue further education.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you got your LPN, your ADN, or your BSN, there's always room for more education. You can get your Master of Science in Nursing in only one or two years, allowing you to become a nurse practitioner, clinical nurse specialist, nurse anesthetist, or nurse-midwife. Then you can do pretty much anything and go pretty much anywhere.\\nIf you only have an ADN, you can pursue a joint BSN/MSN in two-to-three years. You will have to meet additional certification and licensure requirements. However, it's certainly worth looking into with the 27% higher average salary when compared to regular RNs. In 2011, ADNs earned about $64k while BSNs earned $76k.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Clinical experience is often provided in a hospital setting, but can also occur in clinics, nursing homes and health departments.\\n\", \"Several entities provide credentialing, including the National League for Nursing and the American Nursing Credentialing Center.\\n\", \"Salaries and opportunities for advancement are highest for four-year Registered Nurses.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Learning About the Types of Paganism
1-1. Learn about Wiccan Paganism.
Wiccans can also be called “Witches,” regardless of gender. (although do note that witchcraft and Wicca are not the same things) Wiccans are known for their reverence for nature, focus on spirituality, and spell casting. All Wiccan spells are positive by nature, as Wiccans don’t believe in casting hexes or curses. Wiccans are also known for:
A belief in a divine Goddess and God
The creation of charms and potions
The ritual celebration of astrological events, such as the summer solstice
1-2. Learn to identify Druidism.
Druidism is a flexible form of Paganism that focuses on the divinity of nature. Druids commonly celebrate the changing of the seasons with rituals and believe that nature should be preserved at all costs. Additionally, many Druids believe in the existence of the Otherworld, a spiritual realm where your spirit rests before reincarnating.
Many Druids celebrate multiple religions. For example, it’s not uncommon to meet a Christian Druid, although many Pagan beliefs tend to be incompatible with monotheism.
1-3. Understand Reconstructionist Paganism.
The term refers to contemporary revivals of Pagan religions, which often focus around a specific pantheon of deities, such as the Norse gods or the Greek gods. However, some polytheists may worship an eclectic range of deities, from many traditions. The main difference between the former groups is that while Druids focus on nature and Wiccans focus on magic, Polytheists focus on the gods. Reconstructionist religions include:
Heathenry, a broad collection of Norse belief (such as Asatru, Vanatru, etc.)
Hellenism, worship of the Greek gods
Kemeticism, worship of the Egyptian gods
Eclectic Polytheism, where one worships deities from more than one pantheon
And many other traditions and paths, often based around a pantheon of deities.
2. Becoming a Wiccan
2-1. Learn the Wiccan Rede.
The Wiccan Rede is an ancient poem passed down through generations of Wiccans that details the spiritual ideals of Wiccans. This poem can be found online or on the first few pages of most Wiccan literature. There are two basic tenants: harm none, and the rule of threes.
To “harm none,” avoid doing harm to other people, animals, nature, and yourself.
The rule of threes refers to witchcraft and spiritual energy. Whatever you put out into the world, you receive threefold.
Some Wiccans memorize the Wiccan Rede. However, many find this unnecessary and choose to internalize the teachings instead.
2-2. Read modern Wiccan literature.
There are many contemporary Wiccans that have written excellent books about becoming a practicing Wiccan. These books often include meditation tips, spells, and potion recipes. Additionally, reading a book about Wiccan practices will help you determine if Wiccan Paganism is right for you. Popular Wiccan books include:
“Wicca: A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner” by Scott Cunningham
“To Ride A Silver Broomstick: New Generation Witchcraft” by Silver RavenWolf
“Power of the Witch: The Earth, the Moon, and the Magical Path to Enlightenment” by Laurie Cabot
2-3. Join a coven.
Covens are groups of witches that practice their craft together. Covens are great places for new Wiccans to learn about spell casting, meditation, and potion making. Find covens in your area by doing an online search or talking to an experienced Wiccan. However, you can also become an independent witch if you don’t like the idea of joining a coven.
Many covens require any aspiring Wiccans to complete a training period before they can officially join. The training varies greatly between each coven.
When looking for a coven, look for groups with a belief system that is similar to your own.
2-4. Perform a dedication ritual.
If you join a coven, you will perform a dedication ritual when your training has finished. If you’re an independent witch, you can perform the ritual whenever you feel ready. Dedication rituals can be found in most Wiccan books and spell manuals. You can also create your own dedication ritual. For example:
Begin with a spoken promise to the God and Goddess to live ethically and “harm none.”
Give the deities an offering, such as a glass of wine or a plate of food.
Finish the ritual by performing ritual purification. For example, burn sage incense while you pray to the god and goddess.
2-5. Create your Book of Shadows.
Also called a Grimoire, this book is an integral part of your spiritual journey. You can either buy a large blank journal online or make your own book. If you buy a book, make sure you feel a sense of attachment to it before purchasing it. In this book you can record:
Spells you’ve learned
Rituals
Notes about your spiritual journey
Potion recipes
2-6. Cast spells and create potions.
Spell and potion recipes can be found online or in published Wiccan literature. These spells are always positive in nature and usually call for healings and blessings. Hexes and curses are referred to as Dark Magic and are not performed by Wiccans. Examples of Wiccan magic include:
A spell for fertility
A potion for healing and good health
A charm that brings wealth to the carrier
3. Becoming a Druid
3-1. Understand the basic tenets.
Druidism is a very flexible faith system that prides itself in a diversity of thought. However, all Druids believe in the divinity of nature and try to live in balance with the eco-system. Additionally, many Druids believe in reincarnation and in the existence of the Otherworld.
The Otherworld is a spiritual realm where your soul rests before reincarnation.
If you combine Druidism with another religion, you may not believe in the Otherworld. For example, a Christian Druid may not believe that the Otherworld exists.
3-2. Find balance with nature.
Druids believe that nature is inherently holy and should be preserved at all costs. Whenever possible, make an effort to limit your negative impact on the environment. You can practice living in harmony with the environment even if you live in a large city. For example:
Make an effort to recycle all plastic, glass, and metal that passes through your home.
Live frugally to reduce the waste you produce.
Grow a small garden in your home to show respect for nature.
3-3. Read Druid literature.
Many practicing Druids have written excellent books teaching others how to follow the Druid path. Reading these books will enhance your spiritual journey and give you an idea of whether or not Druidism is right for you. Some popular books on Druidism include:
“Druidry and Meditation” by Nimue Brown
“The Path of Druidry: Walking the Ancient Green Way” by Penny Billington
The Druidry Handbook” by John Michael Greer
3-4. Connect with other Druids.
There are Druids living all over the world. Experienced Druids can offer advice that will help you along your spiritual journey. Less experienced Druids can offer companionship and insight into the Druid lifestyle.
Find other Druids online or by talking to an experienced Druid in your area.
3-5. Participate in Druid holidays.
There are eight Druidic holidays every year where one can celebrate the divinity of nature. During these times, many Druids attend large festivals with seasonal food and dancing. Other Druids enjoy holding small parties in their homes with their friends. There are no rules on how to enjoy these holidays. The Druidic holidays include:
The summer and winter solstice (usually the 21st-22nd of June and the 21st-22nd of December)
The spring and autumn equinoxes (usually the 21st-22nd of March and the 21st-22nd of September)
General celebrations of the seasons that aren’t tied to any specific date
4. Becoming a Reconstructionist
4-1. Choose a tradition.
The term Reconstructionist covers a variety of polytheistic religions. When choosing a tradition, you can either look for a religion that you feel an affinity for or practice the religion of your ancestors. Examples of Reconstructionist traditions include:
Celtic Reconstructionism
Heathenry (Norse Paganism)
Hellenism (Greek Paganism)
Kemeticism (Egyptian Paganism)
Religio Romana (Roman Paganism)
Rodnovery (Slavic Paganism)
4-2. Learn about your tradition.
Learn about your chosen tradition by talking to people that actively practice it. Do an online search to find forums or websites dedicated to connecting experienced practitioners with potential devotees. Additionally, read literature written for recent converts. For example:
To learn about Hellenism, you could read “Kharis: Hellenic Polytheism Explored” by Sarah Kate Istra Winter.
If you’re interested in worshipping ancient Nordic gods, read “Essential Asatru: Walking the Path of Norse Paganism” by Diana L. Paxson.
Followers of any deity will benefit from "Devotional Polytheism: An Introduction" by Galina Krasskova.
4-3. Practice your faith.
You may create a shrine to your deities, recite prayers, and celebrate their rites and festivals. Much information can be found online, especially in the larger traditions, such as Heathenry and Hellenism. Theoi.com provides details about the Greek gods, as well as prayers one can use to worship them.
If the surviving prayers don't work for you, you could write your own.
You can also honor deities through their domains, such as gardening to honor an agricultural deity.
4-4. Connect with other Polytheists in your tradition.
Do an online search to find a community of Polytheists. If you can’t find one in your area, join an online group instead. Connecting with other Polytheists will allow you to make friends in the community and get advice throughout your spiritual journey.
There will likely be an active group within the country where your tradition originated. The Ásatrúarfélagið in Iceland is currently building a temple, and the Greek LABRYS celebrates ancient festivals in Athens.
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Additionally, many Druids believe in the existence of the Otherworld, a spiritual realm where your spirit rests before reincarnating.\\nMany Druids celebrate multiple religions. For example, it’s not uncommon to meet a Christian Druid, although many Pagan beliefs tend to be incompatible with monotheism.\\n1-3. Understand Reconstructionist Paganism.\\nThe term refers to contemporary revivals of Pagan religions, which often focus around a specific pantheon of deities, such as the Norse gods or the Greek gods. However, some polytheists may worship an eclectic range of deities, from many traditions. The main difference between the former groups is that while Druids focus on nature and Wiccans focus on magic, Polytheists focus on the gods. Reconstructionist religions include:\\nHeathenry, a broad collection of Norse belief (such as Asatru, Vanatru, etc.)\\nHellenism, worship of the Greek gods\\nKemeticism, worship of the Egyptian gods\\nEclectic Polytheism, where one worships deities from more than one pantheon\\nAnd many other traditions and paths, often based around a pantheon of deities.\\n2. Becoming a Wiccan\\n2-1. Learn the Wiccan Rede.\\nThe Wiccan Rede is an ancient poem passed down through generations of Wiccans that details the spiritual ideals of Wiccans. This poem can be found online or on the first few pages of most Wiccan literature. There are two basic tenants: harm none, and the rule of threes. \\nTo “harm none,” avoid doing harm to other people, animals, nature, and yourself.\\nThe rule of threes refers to witchcraft and spiritual energy. Whatever you put out into the world, you receive threefold.\\nSome Wiccans memorize the Wiccan Rede. However, many find this unnecessary and choose to internalize the teachings instead.\\n2-2. Read modern Wiccan literature.\\nThere are many contemporary Wiccans that have written excellent books about becoming a practicing Wiccan. These books often include meditation tips, spells, and potion recipes. Additionally, reading a book about Wiccan practices will help you determine if Wiccan Paganism is right for you. Popular Wiccan books include:\\n“Wicca: A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner” by Scott Cunningham\\n“To Ride A Silver Broomstick: New Generation Witchcraft” by Silver RavenWolf\\n“Power of the Witch: The Earth, the Moon, and the Magical Path to Enlightenment” by Laurie Cabot\\n2-3. Join a coven.\\nCovens are groups of witches that practice their craft together. Covens are great places for new Wiccans to learn about spell casting, meditation, and potion making. Find covens in your area by doing an online search or talking to an experienced Wiccan. However, you can also become an independent witch if you don’t like the idea of joining a coven.\\nMany covens require any aspiring Wiccans to complete a training period before they can officially join. The training varies greatly between each coven.\\nWhen looking for a coven, look for groups with a belief system that is similar to your own.\\n2-4. Perform a dedication ritual.\\nIf you join a coven, you will perform a dedication ritual when your training has finished. If you’re an independent witch, you can perform the ritual whenever you feel ready. Dedication rituals can be found in most Wiccan books and spell manuals. You can also create your own dedication ritual. For example:\\nBegin with a spoken promise to the God and Goddess to live ethically and “harm none.”\\nGive the deities an offering, such as a glass of wine or a plate of food.\\nFinish the ritual by performing ritual purification. For example, burn sage incense while you pray to the god and goddess.\\n2-5. Create your Book of Shadows.\\nAlso called a Grimoire, this book is an integral part of your spiritual journey. You can either buy a large blank journal online or make your own book. If you buy a book, make sure you feel a sense of attachment to it before purchasing it. In this book you can record:\\nSpells you’ve learned\\nRituals\\nNotes about your spiritual journey\\nPotion recipes\\n2-6. Cast spells and create potions.\\nSpell and potion recipes can be found online or in published Wiccan literature. These spells are always positive in nature and usually call for healings and blessings. Hexes and curses are referred to as Dark Magic and are not performed by Wiccans. Examples of Wiccan magic include:\\nA spell for fertility\\nA potion for healing and good health\\nA charm that brings wealth to the carrier\\n3. Becoming a Druid\\n3-1. Understand the basic tenets.\\nDruidism is a very flexible faith system that prides itself in a diversity of thought. However, all Druids believe in the divinity of nature and try to live in balance with the eco-system. Additionally, many Druids believe in reincarnation and in the existence of the Otherworld.\\nThe Otherworld is a spiritual realm where your soul rests before reincarnation.\\nIf you combine Druidism with another religion, you may not believe in the Otherworld. For example, a Christian Druid may not believe that the Otherworld exists.\\n3-2. Find balance with nature.\\nDruids believe that nature is inherently holy and should be preserved at all costs. Whenever possible, make an effort to limit your negative impact on the environment. You can practice living in harmony with the environment even if you live in a large city. For example:\\nMake an effort to recycle all plastic, glass, and metal that passes through your home.\\nLive frugally to reduce the waste you produce.\\nGrow a small garden in your home to show respect for nature.\\n3-3. Read Druid literature.\\nMany practicing Druids have written excellent books teaching others how to follow the Druid path. Reading these books will enhance your spiritual journey and give you an idea of whether or not Druidism is right for you. Some popular books on Druidism include:\\n“Druidry and Meditation” by Nimue Brown\\n“The Path of Druidry: Walking the Ancient Green Way” by Penny Billington\\nThe Druidry Handbook” by John Michael Greer\\n3-4. Connect with other Druids.\\nThere are Druids living all over the world. Experienced Druids can offer advice that will help you along your spiritual journey. Less experienced Druids can offer companionship and insight into the Druid lifestyle.\\nFind other Druids online or by talking to an experienced Druid in your area.\\n3-5. Participate in Druid holidays.\\nThere are eight Druidic holidays every year where one can celebrate the divinity of nature. During these times, many Druids attend large festivals with seasonal food and dancing. Other Druids enjoy holding small parties in their homes with their friends. There are no rules on how to enjoy these holidays. The Druidic holidays include:\\nThe summer and winter solstice (usually the 21st-22nd of June and the 21st-22nd of December)\\nThe spring and autumn equinoxes (usually the 21st-22nd of March and the 21st-22nd of September)\\nGeneral celebrations of the seasons that aren’t tied to any specific date\\n4. Becoming a Reconstructionist\\n4-1. Choose a tradition.\\nThe term Reconstructionist covers a variety of polytheistic religions. When choosing a tradition, you can either look for a religion that you feel an affinity for or practice the religion of your ancestors. Examples of Reconstructionist traditions include:\\nCeltic Reconstructionism\\nHeathenry (Norse Paganism)\\nHellenism (Greek Paganism)\\nKemeticism (Egyptian Paganism)\\nReligio Romana (Roman Paganism)\\nRodnovery (Slavic Paganism)\\n4-2. Learn about your tradition.\\nLearn about your chosen tradition by talking to people that actively practice it. Do an online search to find forums or websites dedicated to connecting experienced practitioners with potential devotees. Additionally, read literature written for recent converts. For example:\\nTo learn about Hellenism, you could read “Kharis: Hellenic Polytheism Explored” by Sarah Kate Istra Winter.\\nIf you’re interested in worshipping ancient Nordic gods, read “Essential Asatru: Walking the Path of Norse Paganism” by Diana L. Paxson.\\nFollowers of any deity will benefit from \\\"Devotional Polytheism: An Introduction\\\" by Galina Krasskova.\\n4-3. Practice your faith.\\nYou may create a shrine to your deities, recite prayers, and celebrate their rites and festivals. Much information can be found online, especially in the larger traditions, such as Heathenry and Hellenism. Theoi.com provides details about the Greek gods, as well as prayers one can use to worship them.\\nIf the surviving prayers don't work for you, you could write your own.\\nYou can also honor deities through their domains, such as gardening to honor an agricultural deity.\\n4-4. Connect with other Polytheists in your tradition.\\nDo an online search to find a community of Polytheists. If you can’t find one in your area, join an online group instead. Connecting with other Polytheists will allow you to make friends in the community and get advice throughout your spiritual journey.\\nThere will likely be an active group within the country where your tradition originated. The Ásatrúarfélagið in Iceland is currently building a temple, and the Greek LABRYS celebrates ancient festivals in Athens.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The term Paganism refers to any non-Abrahamic religion that doesn’t have a central authority. There are many different Pagan traditions that are practiced all over the world. Wicca, also called Witchcraft, is a popular religion based on positive spell casting and worshiping a divine God and Goddess. Druidism is a diverse religion that celebrates and preserves nature. Reconstructionist traditions revive ancient pagan religions, such as worshipping the Norse gods.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning About the Types of Paganism\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn about Wiccan Paganism.\", \"描述\": \"Wiccans can also be called “Witches,” regardless of gender. (although do note that witchcraft and Wicca are not the same things) Wiccans are known for their reverence for nature, focus on spirituality, and spell casting. All Wiccan spells are positive by nature, as Wiccans don’t believe in casting hexes or curses. Wiccans are also known for:\\nA belief in a divine Goddess and God\\nThe creation of charms and potions\\nThe ritual celebration of astrological events, such as the summer solstice\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn to identify Druidism.\", \"描述\": \"Druidism is a flexible form of Paganism that focuses on the divinity of nature. Druids commonly celebrate the changing of the seasons with rituals and believe that nature should be preserved at all costs. Additionally, many Druids believe in the existence of the Otherworld, a spiritual realm where your spirit rests before reincarnating.\\nMany Druids celebrate multiple religions. For example, it’s not uncommon to meet a Christian Druid, although many Pagan beliefs tend to be incompatible with monotheism.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand Reconstructionist Paganism.\", \"描述\": \"The term refers to contemporary revivals of Pagan religions, which often focus around a specific pantheon of deities, such as the Norse gods or the Greek gods. However, some polytheists may worship an eclectic range of deities, from many traditions. The main difference between the former groups is that while Druids focus on nature and Wiccans focus on magic, Polytheists focus on the gods. Reconstructionist religions include:\\nHeathenry, a broad collection of Norse belief (such as Asatru, Vanatru, etc.)\\nHellenism, worship of the Greek gods\\nKemeticism, worship of the Egyptian gods\\nEclectic Polytheism, where one worships deities from more than one pantheon\\nAnd many other traditions and paths, often based around a pantheon of deities.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Wiccan\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn the Wiccan Rede.\", \"描述\": \"The Wiccan Rede is an ancient poem passed down through generations of Wiccans that details the spiritual ideals of Wiccans. This poem can be found online or on the first few pages of most Wiccan literature. There are two basic tenants: harm none, and the rule of threes. \\nTo “harm none,” avoid doing harm to other people, animals, nature, and yourself.\\nThe rule of threes refers to witchcraft and spiritual energy. Whatever you put out into the world, you receive threefold.\\nSome Wiccans memorize the Wiccan Rede. However, many find this unnecessary and choose to internalize the teachings instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read modern Wiccan literature.\", \"描述\": \"There are many contemporary Wiccans that have written excellent books about becoming a practicing Wiccan. These books often include meditation tips, spells, and potion recipes. Additionally, reading a book about Wiccan practices will help you determine if Wiccan Paganism is right for you. Popular Wiccan books include:\\n“Wicca: A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner” by Scott Cunningham\\n“To Ride A Silver Broomstick: New Generation Witchcraft” by Silver RavenWolf\\n“Power of the Witch: The Earth, the Moon, and the Magical Path to Enlightenment” by Laurie Cabot\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join a coven.\", \"描述\": \"Covens are groups of witches that practice their craft together. Covens are great places for new Wiccans to learn about spell casting, meditation, and potion making. Find covens in your area by doing an online search or talking to an experienced Wiccan. However, you can also become an independent witch if you don’t like the idea of joining a coven.\\nMany covens require any aspiring Wiccans to complete a training period before they can officially join. The training varies greatly between each coven.\\nWhen looking for a coven, look for groups with a belief system that is similar to your own.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Perform a dedication ritual.\", \"描述\": \"If you join a coven, you will perform a dedication ritual when your training has finished. If you’re an independent witch, you can perform the ritual whenever you feel ready. Dedication rituals can be found in most Wiccan books and spell manuals. You can also create your own dedication ritual. For example:\\nBegin with a spoken promise to the God and Goddess to live ethically and “harm none.”\\nGive the deities an offering, such as a glass of wine or a plate of food.\\nFinish the ritual by performing ritual purification. For example, burn sage incense while you pray to the god and goddess.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create your Book of Shadows.\", \"描述\": \"Also called a Grimoire, this book is an integral part of your spiritual journey. You can either buy a large blank journal online or make your own book. If you buy a book, make sure you feel a sense of attachment to it before purchasing it. In this book you can record:\\nSpells you’ve learned\\nRituals\\nNotes about your spiritual journey\\nPotion recipes\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Cast spells and create potions.\", \"描述\": \"Spell and potion recipes can be found online or in published Wiccan literature. These spells are always positive in nature and usually call for healings and blessings. Hexes and curses are referred to as Dark Magic and are not performed by Wiccans. Examples of Wiccan magic include:\\nA spell for fertility\\nA potion for healing and good health\\nA charm that brings wealth to the carrier\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Druid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand the basic tenets.\", \"描述\": \"Druidism is a very flexible faith system that prides itself in a diversity of thought. However, all Druids believe in the divinity of nature and try to live in balance with the eco-system. Additionally, many Druids believe in reincarnation and in the existence of the Otherworld.\\nThe Otherworld is a spiritual realm where your soul rests before reincarnation.\\nIf you combine Druidism with another religion, you may not believe in the Otherworld. For example, a Christian Druid may not believe that the Otherworld exists.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find balance with nature.\", \"描述\": \"Druids believe that nature is inherently holy and should be preserved at all costs. Whenever possible, make an effort to limit your negative impact on the environment. You can practice living in harmony with the environment even if you live in a large city. For example:\\nMake an effort to recycle all plastic, glass, and metal that passes through your home.\\nLive frugally to reduce the waste you produce.\\nGrow a small garden in your home to show respect for nature.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Read Druid literature.\", \"描述\": \"Many practicing Druids have written excellent books teaching others how to follow the Druid path. Reading these books will enhance your spiritual journey and give you an idea of whether or not Druidism is right for you. Some popular books on Druidism include:\\n“Druidry and Meditation” by Nimue Brown\\n“The Path of Druidry: Walking the Ancient Green Way” by Penny Billington\\nThe Druidry Handbook” by John Michael Greer\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Connect with other Druids.\", \"描述\": \"There are Druids living all over the world. Experienced Druids can offer advice that will help you along your spiritual journey. Less experienced Druids can offer companionship and insight into the Druid lifestyle.\\nFind other Druids online or by talking to an experienced Druid in your area.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Participate in Druid holidays.\", \"描述\": \"There are eight Druidic holidays every year where one can celebrate the divinity of nature. During these times, many Druids attend large festivals with seasonal food and dancing. Other Druids enjoy holding small parties in their homes with their friends. There are no rules on how to enjoy these holidays. The Druidic holidays include:\\nThe summer and winter solstice (usually the 21st-22nd of June and the 21st-22nd of December)\\nThe spring and autumn equinoxes (usually the 21st-22nd of March and the 21st-22nd of September)\\nGeneral celebrations of the seasons that aren’t tied to any specific date\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Reconstructionist\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose a tradition.\", \"描述\": \"The term Reconstructionist covers a variety of polytheistic religions. When choosing a tradition, you can either look for a religion that you feel an affinity for or practice the religion of your ancestors. Examples of Reconstructionist traditions include:\\nCeltic Reconstructionism\\nHeathenry (Norse Paganism)\\nHellenism (Greek Paganism)\\nKemeticism (Egyptian Paganism)\\nReligio Romana (Roman Paganism)\\nRodnovery (Slavic Paganism)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn about your tradition.\", \"描述\": \"Learn about your chosen tradition by talking to people that actively practice it. Do an online search to find forums or websites dedicated to connecting experienced practitioners with potential devotees. Additionally, read literature written for recent converts. For example:\\nTo learn about Hellenism, you could read “Kharis: Hellenic Polytheism Explored” by Sarah Kate Istra Winter.\\nIf you’re interested in worshipping ancient Nordic gods, read “Essential Asatru: Walking the Path of Norse Paganism” by Diana L. Paxson.\\nFollowers of any deity will benefit from \\\"Devotional Polytheism: An Introduction\\\" by Galina Krasskova.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice your faith.\", \"描述\": \"You may create a shrine to your deities, recite prayers, and celebrate their rites and festivals. Much information can be found online, especially in the larger traditions, such as Heathenry and Hellenism. Theoi.com provides details about the Greek gods, as well as prayers one can use to worship them.\\nIf the surviving prayers don't work for you, you could write your own.\\nYou can also honor deities through their domains, such as gardening to honor an agricultural deity.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Connect with other Polytheists in your tradition.\", \"描述\": \"Do an online search to find a community of Polytheists. If you can’t find one in your area, join an online group instead. Connecting with other Polytheists will allow you to make friends in the community and get advice throughout your spiritual journey.\\nThere will likely be an active group within the country where your tradition originated. The Ásatrúarfélagið in Iceland is currently building a temple, and the Greek LABRYS celebrates ancient festivals in Athens.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Educating Yourself in Your Medium
1-1. Contemplate the kind of painter you want to become.
There are many different kinds of painting styles and mediums. Three of the most popular mediums include oil, acrylic, and watercolor painting. Each of these mediums has a different effect on the canvas and conveys a different kind of atmosphere.
Spend some time at your local museum observing these styles. Inquire with museum staff about the method and training that artists you particularly enjoy used.
Explore different kinds of painting through art lessons at a community center or school for fine art.
1-2. Stock yourself with painting supplies.
Since you'll be painting all the time as a career painter, you should purchase high quality supplies. These will ensure that you are able to produce the best possible work you can. General supplies you'll want to have on hand include:
Brushes of various size, shape, and purpose
Easels
Paints (acrylic, oil, watercolor)
Palettes
Paper (canvas, watercolor paper, wet strength cartridge paper (130gsm/180gsm))
1-3. Learn to maintain your equipment.
It's no secret that art supplies can be expensive. Learning to upkeep your brushes and preserve your paints while learning your medium will make your life easier. You can find compounds designed to remove artistic substances, like acrylic or oil paints, at most specialty art stores. Familiarize yourself with:
Removing acrylic paint from brushes
Removing oil paints from your brushes
Maintaining your palette
Refreshing your paintbrushes
1-4. Invest time learning each medium.
Even if you consider yourself to be a mostly acrylic painter, you never know when you'll need to use a certain medium, like watercolor, for effect or to fill an order from a client. Additionally, you may find out you enjoy a certain style more than you initially thought.
Try painting a variety of objects. You might discover that you like watercolors best for landscape painting and oil paints more for portraits.
1-5. Study art theory.
You may consider your style to be of the utmost importance, but in the words of the Dalai Lama, you should "Know the rules well, so you can break them effectively." Color theory will help cultivate your intuition of how different colors work together and the emotions these evoke. Studies in shading will provide you with a better understanding of how to bring out depth in your paintings, and so on.
There are many different approaches to art theory, and the broadest education you receive on the topic might come from an art theory class at a university, community college, or community center.
Some techniques work well across many mediums, some techniques only apply to a single medium. Art theory can help you determine which technique will help you achieve your goal best.
1-6. Find a studio where you can practice.
The kind of location you choose for a studio might be limited by many factors, like income and availability, to name a couple. You might also find that your taste in studio changes over time. For example, you may find yourself most productive working in a studio in a lively part of town in your youth, only to prefer a more remote and quiet location later in your life.
Windows that allow natural light can be an asset to your work as a painter. You can always put up a sheet or curtains to block out excess light in the event you need a dimmer ambiance to work.
Be sure your room is adequately ventilated. Some paints, like many that are oil based, give off fumes that can be dangerous in enclosed spaces.
2. Training Yourself as a Painter
2-1. Consider a school for fine artists.
School can be both a place to receive an education and a place to receive training. Some programs focus on imparting knowledge to students, while others focus on the application of skills. Many fine art programs offer broad exposure to many different kinds of fine art, which help you create richer art. Some areas you might be trained in:
Painting
Drawing
Printmaking
Sculpture
2-2. Imitate the masters.
Even if you were born with a gift as a painter, your skill can always be sharpened. Experts agree, by duplicating a difficult piece by a master, you can train your skills as an artist and gain insight into the process of the master you are studying. Some of your imitation work might even be chosen by organizations, like the Royal Society of Portrait Painters, for an exhibition.
Some classes may stress a certain aesthetic, like cartooning or portraiture, and can improve your problem areas rapidly.
You may benefit from doing a masterwork study every month. Choose one painting per month from a master you admire and try to imitate it.
2-3. Discover your theme.
Most, if not all, professional artists find themselves drawn to a particular concept or subject. This can be as simple and definite as "octagons," or as complex and nuanced as "the divine expressed in man." Look through your art and honestly search yourself to find what resonates with you. This is your theme, and should be developed.
Themes can often turn into the hallmark of an artist, such as the Art-Nouveau designs of Alphonse Mucha and Gustav Klimt.
Your theme can also keep you inspired in your pursuit of artistic excellence.
2-4. Keep inspiration flowing.
Every artist has a different approach to their artistic process. You'll have to spend some time trying different things and soul-searching to find how to consistently motivate yourself. Some ideas to consider:
Go for a nature walk and draw inspiration from the natural world.
Search the web for photos that resonate with you.
Search for artists in the same school or time period as artists you admire.
Visit an at museum. Bring along a sketchbook and jot some ideas down to develop later.
2-5. Paint constantly.
Artistic jobs are sometimes looked at as being subject to the whims of creativity. But just like an accountant must crunch numbers every day to earn his salary, so too must you pick up your paintbrush and soldier through the uninspired times of your career to preserve and improve your skill.
2-6. Apprentice yourself to a professional artist.
Unfortunately, apprenticeship has fallen out of popularity in many parts of the world, but this is a small obstacle you can overcome. Visit local artists and choose one that you connect with both personally and artistically. Then:
Trade your time or effort (cleaning, stretching canvas, etc.) for use of the artist's studio and her direction.
Volunteer your time assisting the artist. She might not be able to afford to pay you, but while volunteering, you'll get an insider's look at her process and business model.
3. Marketing Your Art for Profit
3-1. Think of a profitable activity.
This does not have to be the final goal of your art career, but should instead be something to keep you artistically engaged while paying the bills. For many painters, this translates to portraiture. Sign up to do 15 minute portraits at a local fair or outdoor event. You might also:
Paint local or iconic scenes and print these on postcards. You could sell these online, or to a local boutique.
Bid to paint public art installations, like murals.
Sell pieces to a local gallery.
3-2. Make, and keep, connections.
While you are going to school or during your apprenticeship, you'll meet other artists, art collectors or buyers, and other people associated with fine art. Make up some simple business cards with your information and exchange these with people who might be able to help you in your goal of becoming a painter.
3-3. Brainstorm venues for selling.
Once you figured out the theme you are passionate about and the medium you prefer working in, devote time and thought to the people who will buy your art. You'll need to do some research, as every situation will be different for each artist, but you might look into:
The people who have bought your art in the past. What features do these people have in common, and how might you use that information to sell your art?
Artists similar to yourself. Look at the business model of these people, who they are marketing to, and how they are marketing.
3-4. Start a website
There are also hosted sites you might go through, like Etsy and Patreon, but having your own website can accomplish two purposes for you. First and foremost, you can include your portfolio and post pieces that are for sale as well as a shopping cart feature for those who would like to buy your art outright. Secondly, your business website will give you more of a presence as an artist, making you look more professional to prospective clients.
3-5. Open a gallery.
It might be a while before you can afford to open your own gallery to sell your work, but you might be able to snag an exhibition at a gallery that focuses on new and emerging talent. These venues are frequently found in urban and semi-urban environments. Submit your art for review with the gallery manager.
Schools can sometimes be a profitable place for you to start, or in some cases offer cheaper spaces for exhibiting the work of beginning artists.
3-6. Treat your work like a business.
Though many artists create work as a labor of love, you should still treat your work as a business. It is, after all, the thing you hope to make a living off of. Don't offer freebies unless for a reason, like for marketing purposes.
Though people might think, "it's easy for her to paint," those people don't realize how much time, effort, and money you've spent developing that skill.
Always treat your time and skill as a resource and make it clear you expect appropriate compensation for your efforts.
Tips
Approach your process organically. Though there is plenty of good advice out there about becoming an artist, in the end, it's a matter of determination and what works best for you.
Warnings
Some acrylic paints and other kinds of paint are poisonous. Be sure you read the labels of all supplies before using and are working in a well ventilated space.[20]
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General supplies you'll want to have on hand include:\\nBrushes of various size, shape, and purpose\\nEasels\\nPaints (acrylic, oil, watercolor)\\nPalettes\\nPaper (canvas, watercolor paper, wet strength cartridge paper (130gsm/180gsm))\\n1-3. Learn to maintain your equipment.\\nIt's no secret that art supplies can be expensive. Learning to upkeep your brushes and preserve your paints while learning your medium will make your life easier. You can find compounds designed to remove artistic substances, like acrylic or oil paints, at most specialty art stores. Familiarize yourself with:\\nRemoving acrylic paint from brushes\\nRemoving oil paints from your brushes\\nMaintaining your palette\\nRefreshing your paintbrushes\\n1-4. Invest time learning each medium.\\nEven if you consider yourself to be a mostly acrylic painter, you never know when you'll need to use a certain medium, like watercolor, for effect or to fill an order from a client. 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Consider a school for fine artists.\\nSchool can be both a place to receive an education and a place to receive training. Some programs focus on imparting knowledge to students, while others focus on the application of skills. Many fine art programs offer broad exposure to many different kinds of fine art, which help you create richer art. Some areas you might be trained in:\\nPainting\\nDrawing\\nPrintmaking\\nSculpture\\n2-2. Imitate the masters.\\nEven if you were born with a gift as a painter, your skill can always be sharpened. Experts agree, by duplicating a difficult piece by a master, you can train your skills as an artist and gain insight into the process of the master you are studying. Some of your imitation work might even be chosen by organizations, like the Royal Society of Portrait Painters, for an exhibition.\\nSome classes may stress a certain aesthetic, like cartooning or portraiture, and can improve your problem areas rapidly.\\nYou may benefit from doing a masterwork study every month. Choose one painting per month from a master you admire and try to imitate it.\\n2-3. Discover your theme.\\nMost, if not all, professional artists find themselves drawn to a particular concept or subject. This can be as simple and definite as \\\"octagons,\\\" or as complex and nuanced as \\\"the divine expressed in man.\\\" Look through your art and honestly search yourself to find what resonates with you. This is your theme, and should be developed.\\nThemes can often turn into the hallmark of an artist, such as the Art-Nouveau designs of Alphonse Mucha and Gustav Klimt.\\nYour theme can also keep you inspired in your pursuit of artistic excellence.\\n2-4. Keep inspiration flowing.\\nEvery artist has a different approach to their artistic process. You'll have to spend some time trying different things and soul-searching to find how to consistently motivate yourself. Some ideas to consider:\\nGo for a nature walk and draw inspiration from the natural world.\\nSearch the web for photos that resonate with you.\\nSearch for artists in the same school or time period as artists you admire.\\nVisit an at museum. Bring along a sketchbook and jot some ideas down to develop later.\\n2-5. Paint constantly.\\nArtistic jobs are sometimes looked at as being subject to the whims of creativity. But just like an accountant must crunch numbers every day to earn his salary, so too must you pick up your paintbrush and soldier through the uninspired times of your career to preserve and improve your skill.\\n2-6. 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You could sell these online, or to a local boutique.\\nBid to paint public art installations, like murals.\\nSell pieces to a local gallery.\\n3-2. Make, and keep, connections.\\nWhile you are going to school or during your apprenticeship, you'll meet other artists, art collectors or buyers, and other people associated with fine art. Make up some simple business cards with your information and exchange these with people who might be able to help you in your goal of becoming a painter.\\n3-3. Brainstorm venues for selling.\\nOnce you figured out the theme you are passionate about and the medium you prefer working in, devote time and thought to the people who will buy your art. You'll need to do some research, as every situation will be different for each artist, but you might look into:\\nThe people who have bought your art in the past. What features do these people have in common, and how might you use that information to sell your art?\\nArtists similar to yourself. Look at the business model of these people, who they are marketing to, and how they are marketing.\\n3-4. Start a website\\nThere are also hosted sites you might go through, like Etsy and Patreon, but having your own website can accomplish two purposes for you. First and foremost, you can include your portfolio and post pieces that are for sale as well as a shopping cart feature for those who would like to buy your art outright. Secondly, your business website will give you more of a presence as an artist, making you look more professional to prospective clients.\\n3-5. Open a gallery.\\nIt might be a while before you can afford to open your own gallery to sell your work, but you might be able to snag an exhibition at a gallery that focuses on new and emerging talent. These venues are frequently found in urban and semi-urban environments. Submit your art for review with the gallery manager.\\nSchools can sometimes be a profitable place for you to start, or in some cases offer cheaper spaces for exhibiting the work of beginning artists.\\n3-6. Treat your work like a business.\\nThough many artists create work as a labor of love, you should still treat your work as a business. It is, after all, the thing you hope to make a living off of. Don't offer freebies unless for a reason, like for marketing purposes.\\nThough people might think, \\\"it's easy for her to paint,\\\" those people don't realize how much time, effort, and money you've spent developing that skill.\\nAlways treat your time and skill as a resource and make it clear you expect appropriate compensation for your efforts.\\nTips\\nApproach your process organically. Though there is plenty of good advice out there about becoming an artist, in the end, it's a matter of determination and what works best for you.\\nWarnings\\nSome acrylic paints and other kinds of paint are poisonous. Be sure you read the labels of all supplies before using and are working in a well ventilated space.[20]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If every waking moment you're itching to pick up a brush and take pigment to canvas, a career as a professional painter and fine artist might be right up your alley. But the path to becoming a painting pro is rarely simple, and often involves dedicated study, constant exercise, and self-marketing. On top of being visually appealing to your public, you also need to know how to sell the work you have produced. No matter if you don't know where or how to begin, with some effort on your part and the development of some techniques, you'll stand a fighting chance of establishing yourself as a painter.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educating Yourself in Your Medium\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Contemplate the kind of painter you want to become.\", \"描述\": \"There are many different kinds of painting styles and mediums. Three of the most popular mediums include oil, acrylic, and watercolor painting. Each of these mediums has a different effect on the canvas and conveys a different kind of atmosphere.\\nSpend some time at your local museum observing these styles. Inquire with museum staff about the method and training that artists you particularly enjoy used.\\nExplore different kinds of painting through art lessons at a community center or school for fine art.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stock yourself with painting supplies.\", \"描述\": \"Since you'll be painting all the time as a career painter, you should purchase high quality supplies. These will ensure that you are able to produce the best possible work you can. General supplies you'll want to have on hand include:\\nBrushes of various size, shape, and purpose\\nEasels\\nPaints (acrylic, oil, watercolor)\\nPalettes\\nPaper (canvas, watercolor paper, wet strength cartridge paper (130gsm/180gsm))\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn to maintain your equipment.\", \"描述\": \"It's no secret that art supplies can be expensive. Learning to upkeep your brushes and preserve your paints while learning your medium will make your life easier. You can find compounds designed to remove artistic substances, like acrylic or oil paints, at most specialty art stores. Familiarize yourself with:\\nRemoving acrylic paint from brushes\\nRemoving oil paints from your brushes\\nMaintaining your palette\\nRefreshing your paintbrushes\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Invest time learning each medium.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you consider yourself to be a mostly acrylic painter, you never know when you'll need to use a certain medium, like watercolor, for effect or to fill an order from a client. Additionally, you may find out you enjoy a certain style more than you initially thought.\\nTry painting a variety of objects. You might discover that you like watercolors best for landscape painting and oil paints more for portraits.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Study art theory.\", \"描述\": \"You may consider your style to be of the utmost importance, but in the words of the Dalai Lama, you should \\\"Know the rules well, so you can break them effectively.\\\" Color theory will help cultivate your intuition of how different colors work together and the emotions these evoke. Studies in shading will provide you with a better understanding of how to bring out depth in your paintings, and so on. \\nThere are many different approaches to art theory, and the broadest education you receive on the topic might come from an art theory class at a university, community college, or community center.\\nSome techniques work well across many mediums, some techniques only apply to a single medium. Art theory can help you determine which technique will help you achieve your goal best.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Find a studio where you can practice.\", \"描述\": \"The kind of location you choose for a studio might be limited by many factors, like income and availability, to name a couple. You might also find that your taste in studio changes over time. For example, you may find yourself most productive working in a studio in a lively part of town in your youth, only to prefer a more remote and quiet location later in your life.\\nWindows that allow natural light can be an asset to your work as a painter. You can always put up a sheet or curtains to block out excess light in the event you need a dimmer ambiance to work.\\nBe sure your room is adequately ventilated. Some paints, like many that are oil based, give off fumes that can be dangerous in enclosed spaces.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Training Yourself as a Painter\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Consider a school for fine artists.\", \"描述\": \"School can be both a place to receive an education and a place to receive training. Some programs focus on imparting knowledge to students, while others focus on the application of skills. Many fine art programs offer broad exposure to many different kinds of fine art, which help you create richer art. Some areas you might be trained in:\\nPainting\\nDrawing\\nPrintmaking\\nSculpture\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Imitate the masters.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you were born with a gift as a painter, your skill can always be sharpened. Experts agree, by duplicating a difficult piece by a master, you can train your skills as an artist and gain insight into the process of the master you are studying. Some of your imitation work might even be chosen by organizations, like the Royal Society of Portrait Painters, for an exhibition.\\nSome classes may stress a certain aesthetic, like cartooning or portraiture, and can improve your problem areas rapidly.\\nYou may benefit from doing a masterwork study every month. Choose one painting per month from a master you admire and try to imitate it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Discover your theme.\", \"描述\": \"Most, if not all, professional artists find themselves drawn to a particular concept or subject. This can be as simple and definite as \\\"octagons,\\\" or as complex and nuanced as \\\"the divine expressed in man.\\\" Look through your art and honestly search yourself to find what resonates with you. This is your theme, and should be developed.\\nThemes can often turn into the hallmark of an artist, such as the Art-Nouveau designs of Alphonse Mucha and Gustav Klimt.\\nYour theme can also keep you inspired in your pursuit of artistic excellence.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep inspiration flowing.\", \"描述\": \"Every artist has a different approach to their artistic process. You'll have to spend some time trying different things and soul-searching to find how to consistently motivate yourself. Some ideas to consider:\\nGo for a nature walk and draw inspiration from the natural world.\\nSearch the web for photos that resonate with you.\\nSearch for artists in the same school or time period as artists you admire.\\nVisit an at museum. Bring along a sketchbook and jot some ideas down to develop later.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Paint constantly.\", \"描述\": \"Artistic jobs are sometimes looked at as being subject to the whims of creativity. But just like an accountant must crunch numbers every day to earn his salary, so too must you pick up your paintbrush and soldier through the uninspired times of your career to preserve and improve your skill.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Apprentice yourself to a professional artist.\", \"描述\": \"Unfortunately, apprenticeship has fallen out of popularity in many parts of the world, but this is a small obstacle you can overcome. Visit local artists and choose one that you connect with both personally and artistically. Then:\\nTrade your time or effort (cleaning, stretching canvas, etc.) for use of the artist's studio and her direction.\\nVolunteer your time assisting the artist. She might not be able to afford to pay you, but while volunteering, you'll get an insider's look at her process and business model.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Marketing Your Art for Profit\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think of a profitable activity.\", \"描述\": \"This does not have to be the final goal of your art career, but should instead be something to keep you artistically engaged while paying the bills. For many painters, this translates to portraiture. Sign up to do 15 minute portraits at a local fair or outdoor event. You might also:\\nPaint local or iconic scenes and print these on postcards. You could sell these online, or to a local boutique.\\nBid to paint public art installations, like murals.\\nSell pieces to a local gallery.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make, and keep, connections.\", \"描述\": \"While you are going to school or during your apprenticeship, you'll meet other artists, art collectors or buyers, and other people associated with fine art. Make up some simple business cards with your information and exchange these with people who might be able to help you in your goal of becoming a painter.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Brainstorm venues for selling.\", \"描述\": \"Once you figured out the theme you are passionate about and the medium you prefer working in, devote time and thought to the people who will buy your art. You'll need to do some research, as every situation will be different for each artist, but you might look into:\\nThe people who have bought your art in the past. What features do these people have in common, and how might you use that information to sell your art?\\nArtists similar to yourself. Look at the business model of these people, who they are marketing to, and how they are marketing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Start a website\", \"描述\": \"There are also hosted sites you might go through, like Etsy and Patreon, but having your own website can accomplish two purposes for you. First and foremost, you can include your portfolio and post pieces that are for sale as well as a shopping cart feature for those who would like to buy your art outright. Secondly, your business website will give you more of a presence as an artist, making you look more professional to prospective clients.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Open a gallery.\", \"描述\": \"It might be a while before you can afford to open your own gallery to sell your work, but you might be able to snag an exhibition at a gallery that focuses on new and emerging talent. These venues are frequently found in urban and semi-urban environments. Submit your art for review with the gallery manager.\\nSchools can sometimes be a profitable place for you to start, or in some cases offer cheaper spaces for exhibiting the work of beginning artists.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Treat your work like a business.\", \"描述\": \"Though many artists create work as a labor of love, you should still treat your work as a business. 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1. Deciding to Become a Park Ranger
1-1. Decide what type of park ranger you want to become.
Do you hope to work in the back country, or wilderness, collecting environmental data and searching for people who have lost their way? Or do you see yourself welcoming park visitors at the entrance and teaching children about plants and animals? Before you start pursuing a career as a park ranger, it's important to know what park ranger roles will be the right fit for you.
Some park rangers have a background in science. They collect important information on wildlife and plant populations, and participate in decisions that affect the health of the park in which they work. These park rangers usually have a degree in earth sciences or forestry.
Other park rangers focus on education. They're responsible for teaching the public not only about the wildlife and geological formations in their park, but also how the park is affected by pollution, litter and climate change. They teach people how to enjoy nature and history while also helping to preserve it.
Another common focus for park rangers is law enforcement and firefighting services. Rangers are the first line of security in areas remote from police and fire stations. They make sure visitors follow park rules for the sake of everyone's safety.
Fee collection, grounds maintenance, paperwork, and permit and equipment sales are also common park ranger responsibilities.
1-2. Know the benefits and the drawbacks of being a park ranger.
Many people are attracted to becoming a park ranger because they care about nature and wish to work outdoors every day. The flipside is that they have to be willing to do manual labor in cold, hot, or wet conditions, and they often work weekends and holidays. Park rangers who provide law enforcement may face dangerous situations, and sometimes the job can be emotionally difficult, as when people get injured or die in the park. A park ranger's work is sometimes grueling, but it's often blissful, and most park rangers say that they love their jobs.
1-3. Understand the park ranger's mindset.
Park rangers are government workers who play a serious part in the protection of federal and state land. Whether their primary role is education, conservation, or law enforcement, park rangers tend to have the following qualities:
They honor the natural world. Park rangers spend their days learning about the land where they work. They care about protecting animals, trees and other plants.
They're confident leaders. Whether leading a night walk through a forest or heading a search expedition for a lost backpacker, park rangers are usually the expert in a given situation, and they must often take on the responsibility of guiding others.
They don't mind seasonal work, or working weekends and holidays. Since the majority of park visitors flock to the parks during warmer months and days off, park rangers are busiest when other people are vacationing.
2. Meeting the Requirements for Becoming a Park Ranger
2-1. Acquire a college education.
To qualify as a ranger for the National Park Service, you will need at least a two-year degree, one year of work experience in a park, or a combination of these two.
The most common degrees held by park rangers are public administration, law enforcement, and park and recreation management, but there are other degree programs that would also qualify you to be a park ranger. Most departments want their rangers to hold a minimum at least a two-year degree; some positions might require a four-year degree.
If you intend to focus in the area of ecology or conservation, pursue a bachelor's degree in the natural sciences, such as environmental studies, forestry, biology or geology.
2-2. Get familiar with the parks system.
Visit state and national parks. Research the parks' histories, rules and regulations. Speak with the rangers there about how they pursued their careers. Volunteer to spend time assisting a ranger to get a better understanding of what the job entails.
2-3. Gain relevant work experience.
Many parks hire entry-level seasonal workers who go on to become park rangers. You may also volunteer at a national park, state park, municipal park or historic site. Consider working as a tour guide or docent at a museum, or working as an expense-paid intern with the Student Conservation Association.
3. Finding a Job as a Park Ranger
3-1. Get in touch with parks that interest you.
Contact the office that has jurisdiction over the area where you want to work and ask how to be a park ranger. Requirements vary for each department, depending on its needs.
Contact the regional office of the National Park Service if you want to work in a national park. You can also find vacancies by searching for them on the Federal government's official job website, USAJobs.gov.
Contact your state's department of parks and recreation if you want to work in a state park, or your city's department of parks and recreation if you want to work in a municipal park.
3-2. Apply for jobs.
The application process for a job as a park ranger varies according to the department offering the position. In any case, it will include an application, testing, an interview process, and a background check before you are eventually hired. Know the requirements for the particular job for which you're applying, and be sure you meet them before proceeding.
3-3. Pass the Group VI Law Enforcement and Investigation examination.
This examination is administered by Administrative Careers with America to help the National Park Service determine whether you're qualified to be a park ranger. You'll be asked to take the exam after applying for a job vacancy through the Office of Personnel Management.
If you want to be a law enforcement park ranger, you must also complete the Seasonal Law Enforcement Training Program at one of the nine colleges that offer it. You cannot substitute other training programs or work experience for this class, and there is no distance learning option.
Warnings
Competition for park ranger jobs can be stiff, especially for law enforcement park rangers.
Determining the education, job experience and other prerequisites for obtaining the park ranger position you want can be difficult. Take care to obtain detailed information from the parks department you want to work for, rather than relying on general descriptions of job requirements.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Deciding to Become a Park Ranger\\n1-1. Decide what type of park ranger you want to become.\\nDo you hope to work in the back country, or wilderness, collecting environmental data and searching for people who have lost their way? Or do you see yourself welcoming park visitors at the entrance and teaching children about plants and animals? Before you start pursuing a career as a park ranger, it's important to know what park ranger roles will be the right fit for you.\\nSome park rangers have a background in science. They collect important information on wildlife and plant populations, and participate in decisions that affect the health of the park in which they work. These park rangers usually have a degree in earth sciences or forestry.\\nOther park rangers focus on education. They're responsible for teaching the public not only about the wildlife and geological formations in their park, but also how the park is affected by pollution, litter and climate change. They teach people how to enjoy nature and history while also helping to preserve it.\\nAnother common focus for park rangers is law enforcement and firefighting services. Rangers are the first line of security in areas remote from police and fire stations. They make sure visitors follow park rules for the sake of everyone's safety.\\nFee collection, grounds maintenance, paperwork, and permit and equipment sales are also common park ranger responsibilities.\\n1-2. Know the benefits and the drawbacks of being a park ranger.\\nMany people are attracted to becoming a park ranger because they care about nature and wish to work outdoors every day. The flipside is that they have to be willing to do manual labor in cold, hot, or wet conditions, and they often work weekends and holidays. Park rangers who provide law enforcement may face dangerous situations, and sometimes the job can be emotionally difficult, as when people get injured or die in the park. A park ranger's work is sometimes grueling, but it's often blissful, and most park rangers say that they love their jobs.\\n1-3. Understand the park ranger's mindset.\\nPark rangers are government workers who play a serious part in the protection of federal and state land. Whether their primary role is education, conservation, or law enforcement, park rangers tend to have the following qualities:\\nThey honor the natural world. Park rangers spend their days learning about the land where they work. They care about protecting animals, trees and other plants.\\nThey're confident leaders. Whether leading a night walk through a forest or heading a search expedition for a lost backpacker, park rangers are usually the expert in a given situation, and they must often take on the responsibility of guiding others.\\nThey don't mind seasonal work, or working weekends and holidays. Since the majority of park visitors flock to the parks during warmer months and days off, park rangers are busiest when other people are vacationing.\\n2. Meeting the Requirements for Becoming a Park Ranger\\n2-1. Acquire a college education.\\nTo qualify as a ranger for the National Park Service, you will need at least a two-year degree, one year of work experience in a park, or a combination of these two.\\nThe most common degrees held by park rangers are public administration, law enforcement, and park and recreation management, but there are other degree programs that would also qualify you to be a park ranger. Most departments want their rangers to hold a minimum at least a two-year degree; some positions might require a four-year degree.\\nIf you intend to focus in the area of ecology or conservation, pursue a bachelor's degree in the natural sciences, such as environmental studies, forestry, biology or geology.\\n2-2. Get familiar with the parks system.\\nVisit state and national parks. Research the parks' histories, rules and regulations. Speak with the rangers there about how they pursued their careers. Volunteer to spend time assisting a ranger to get a better understanding of what the job entails.\\n2-3. Gain relevant work experience.\\nMany parks hire entry-level seasonal workers who go on to become park rangers. You may also volunteer at a national park, state park, municipal park or historic site. Consider working as a tour guide or docent at a museum, or working as an expense-paid intern with the Student Conservation Association.\\n3. Finding a Job as a Park Ranger\\n3-1. Get in touch with parks that interest you.\\nContact the office that has jurisdiction over the area where you want to work and ask how to be a park ranger. Requirements vary for each department, depending on its needs.\\nContact the regional office of the National Park Service if you want to work in a national park. You can also find vacancies by searching for them on the Federal government's official job website, USAJobs.gov.\\nContact your state's department of parks and recreation if you want to work in a state park, or your city's department of parks and recreation if you want to work in a municipal park.\\n3-2. Apply for jobs.\\nThe application process for a job as a park ranger varies according to the department offering the position. In any case, it will include an application, testing, an interview process, and a background check before you are eventually hired. Know the requirements for the particular job for which you're applying, and be sure you meet them before proceeding.\\n3-3. Pass the Group VI Law Enforcement and Investigation examination.\\nThis examination is administered by Administrative Careers with America to help the National Park Service determine whether you're qualified to be a park ranger. You'll be asked to take the exam after applying for a job vacancy through the Office of Personnel Management.\\nIf you want to be a law enforcement park ranger, you must also complete the Seasonal Law Enforcement Training Program at one of the nine colleges that offer it. You cannot substitute other training programs or work experience for this class, and there is no distance learning option.\\nWarnings\\nCompetition for park ranger jobs can be stiff, especially for law enforcement park rangers.\\nDetermining the education, job experience and other prerequisites for obtaining the park ranger position you want can be difficult. Take care to obtain detailed information from the parks department you want to work for, rather than relying on general descriptions of job requirements.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you called to the life of a park ranger? Park rangers act as stewards of state and national parks, working to keep these natural areas safe for wildlife and plant species and accessible to the millions of people who visit them each year. They have job duties as varied as protecting endangered areas, teaching visitors about wildlife and plants, gathering scientific information and conducting search and rescue operations. This article provides information on the career of a park ranger, the requirements for becoming one, and finding a job with the National Park Service or within a state park system.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Deciding to Become a Park Ranger\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide what type of park ranger you want to become.\", \"描述\": \"Do you hope to work in the back country, or wilderness, collecting environmental data and searching for people who have lost their way? Or do you see yourself welcoming park visitors at the entrance and teaching children about plants and animals? 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They make sure visitors follow park rules for the sake of everyone's safety.\\nFee collection, grounds maintenance, paperwork, and permit and equipment sales are also common park ranger responsibilities.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know the benefits and the drawbacks of being a park ranger.\", \"描述\": \"Many people are attracted to becoming a park ranger because they care about nature and wish to work outdoors every day. The flipside is that they have to be willing to do manual labor in cold, hot, or wet conditions, and they often work weekends and holidays. Park rangers who provide law enforcement may face dangerous situations, and sometimes the job can be emotionally difficult, as when people get injured or die in the park. 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You can also find vacancies by searching for them on the Federal government's official job website, USAJobs.gov.\\nContact your state's department of parks and recreation if you want to work in a state park, or your city's department of parks and recreation if you want to work in a municipal park.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Apply for jobs.\", \"描述\": \"The application process for a job as a park ranger varies according to the department offering the position. In any case, it will include an application, testing, an interview process, and a background check before you are eventually hired. Know the requirements for the particular job for which you're applying, and be sure you meet them before proceeding.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pass the Group VI Law Enforcement and Investigation examination.\", \"描述\": \"This examination is administered by Administrative Careers with America to help the National Park Service determine whether you're qualified to be a park ranger. 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How to Be a Party Animal
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1. Preparing for the Party
1-1. Dress up in a costume or extravagant "going-outfit.
Party animals announce their presence the minute the enter the room, and there is no better way to do this than a costume, prop, or killer outfit. Obviously, the outfit will change depending on the party, but the important thing to remember is that you want to wear it with confidence. A party animal wears something because they want to, not because they're worried about what other people think.
For themed parties, you want to commit as completely to the theme as possible. Go big or go home.
If it is a casual party, throw on a silly hat, shirt, or grab a weird prop to bring with you. Anything that calls attention to you will do.
1-2. Have a few casual drinks before leaving.
You don't want to be drunk when you arrive, but you also don't want to feel like you need to "catch-up" when you get there. If you're going to drink, ensure that you have a driver before leaving.
1-3. Have something to eat an hour before the party.
Unless you're going to a dinner party (where party animals are generally less welcome), chances are good you're not going to get a whole lot of food at the party. Eat a good meal before the party so that you energy and food in your stomach. Going into a party without eating beforehand isn't just a drag, it can be dangerous if there's drinking involved. Always have a good meal 1-2 hours before going so that you don't have to worry about feeling sick or foraging for food when you're in party animal mode.
1-4. Arrive late.
A party animal needs a habitat to party in. It will be difficult to get momentum going if you're the first one in the door, so play it cool and arrive fashionably late. If it is a smaller gathering or party, 15-20 minutes should be fine, but if you're going to a huge party you should try to arrive at least an hour after things have kicked off.
If you do arrive before things really kick off, never fear. Just have fun, be energetic, and the party will soon follow your vibe.
1-5. Make plans for the end of the party before you start partying.
No one wants to deal with rides home or places to sleep once they've transformed into a party animal. It is smartest and safest to deal with these things in advance. Make sure you have a designated driver if the party has alcohol, and check with the host that you have a place to sleep if you will not be driving home. Check in with your friends to make sure you have a buddy at the party to watch out for you if things go poorly -- the two of you can make sure that you both make it home safely.
2. Turning a Mild Party into a Blast
2-1. Pull shy people into the party one at a time with friendly conversation.
If you see someone by themselves or off in the corner, introduce yourself. Make them feel at home, then ask them to join you for a drink, a dance, or a game. The more people you pull into the party, the more rocking it becomes. You, the party animal, should be pulling as many other animals into your pack as possible. More importantly, the party animal needs to know everyone at the party, because everyone needs to know them.
Listen to people as they talk and ask questions to get them comfortable speaking.
Introduce people as you find common interests.
2-2. Pour out drinks slowly if the party has alcohol.
Forcing someone to do 5 shots in an hour is dangerous and can lead to a sloppy, sickening feeling. Instead, start drinking slowly, letting people get to their own comfortable level of drunkenness. A good party is one where everyone feels comfortable enough to let their inhibitions fly and have fun, not one where half the group is in the bathroom the whole time.
2-3. Turn up the music.
Find songs that everyone can enjoy but have a quick beat and a lot of energy. As the party gets going, slowly turn up the volume to get people moving. While people should still be able to have a conversation, you also want people to feel free to stop talking and start dancing. Each group has different musical tastes, but there are some go-to party genres that get most people moving:
Motown
House/Dance/Rave
Beatles-era rock.
90's Hip-Hop.
2-4. Play some games that get people moving, laughing, or sharing.
Games are one of the most sure-fire ways to get the crowd together and start having fun. A little competition, some humor, and common thread of conversation will help the party bond and bring up the energy of the group naturally. Just make sure that lots of people can play, being as inclusive as possible. While there are hundreds of games to start with, from drinking games to big, humorous group board games like Cards Against Humanity, you can't go wrong with some of the classics:
Truth or Dare
Never Have I Ever
Kings
Who am I?
2-5. Bring a pack of party animals with you.
Show up with people who are just as fun and willing to be a bit silly. Having a good group around you makes the infectious energy easier to spread. However, this doesn't mean your "wolfpack" comes in and ruins the party for everyone else. If they are annoying or sloppy, then you may also be considered annoying or sloppy as well.
Mingle with other people, not just those in your group.
Check with the host beforehand if it is okay to bring guests.
Bring a party gift, like some food or extra drinks, if you show up with multiple people.
2-6. Know that a rocking party takes time to get started.
Think of the energy of a party as a volume dial -- you want to raise it slowly, but surely, so that you don't blast anyone's ears or shock people who are still having a quiet, relaxed time. Don't expect your presence to suddenly kick the party into overdrive. Instead, be a little stealthy, slowly turning up the volume (both literally and figuratively), until the party is really bumping. Be a strategic party animal, and suddenly you'll have the whole pack following you.
3. Unleashing Your Inner Animal
3-1. Be yourself and stick to your guns.
A party animal is not at the whims of every person who comes up and asks to do a shot or play a game. The party animal knows that he knows how to party and that he makes the party. Be confident. Even if you're just faking it, confidence attracts attention, so "fake it 'til you make it." Inject your own personality into the party by:
Rounding up groups for games that you want to play
Introducing yourself to new people
Dancing
Mixing up new "cocktails."
3-2. Remain in control of yourself.
Party animals are not sloppy or too drunk to function, they are in control and having fun at all times. Know your limits and accept them, otherwise you'll tip over from party animal to annoying nuisance in no time. Being a party animal is about being the drunkest person at the party, or showing off how cool you are to others. It is about being a blast in every situation, helping others loosen up and fun and driving the party energy up.
3-3. Loosen up and let go of your inhibitions.
Let go of your fears, even if it takes a few drinks to get you to play air guitar on the dance floor, so accept that fact. A party animal isn't the one who stands quietly in the corner; he is the one dancing on the tables, making everyone have more fun. You are in control of how much fun you have at a party, so stop wishing things were more lively and make them lively.
Being a party animal is not about thinking and planning, it is about acting. So go dance, ask that girl if you can buy her a drink, play a game, and get a little rowdy.
3-4. Lead the party from the front with group activities and games.
Get the whole party on the same level, you party animal. You could be the first one to cut up the dance floor, DJ a "party playlist," or lead a group sing-along to a favorite like "Don't Stop Believing" or "Twist and Shout." Whatever you do, try and get other people involved in your shenanigans.
3-5. Throw yourself completely into the party atmosphere.
Own up to the theme, hit the dance floor with everything you've got, and stay involved with the games you play. You should be willing to step outside of your comfort zone, too, and let yourself live in the moment. As long as you stop from time to time to make sure you're not hurting or endangering anyone, a party animal knows how to spice things up and is willing to be a bit goofy to do it.
3-6. Have a sense of humor, but don't make a fool of yourself.
You don't want to take yourself so seriously that you're not having a fun, but you also don't want to be an annoying, overly idiotic party-goer begging for attention. Remember the old expression and make sure people are laughing "with you, not at you." This should be easy if you just act like yourself and have fun, but never do something at a party just because you think it'll make you look cool -- it will almost always backfire.
Tips
Be chill but fun, nobody likes someone who's off the walls and destructive.
Make sure you look good. If you look good, you'll feel good, and it will make it easier to loosen up.
Bring your best friends. They will lift you up and they will make everything five times more fun.
Warnings
Make sure you don't become too much. If you get a feeling that you are just ruin the party, calm down.
Stay under control. A party animal gives the party what it needs -- no more, no less.
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If you're going to drink, ensure that you have a driver before leaving.\\n1-3. Have something to eat an hour before the party.\\nUnless you're going to a dinner party (where party animals are generally less welcome), chances are good you're not going to get a whole lot of food at the party. Eat a good meal before the party so that you energy and food in your stomach. Going into a party without eating beforehand isn't just a drag, it can be dangerous if there's drinking involved. Always have a good meal 1-2 hours before going so that you don't have to worry about feeling sick or foraging for food when you're in party animal mode.\\n1-4. Arrive late.\\nA party animal needs a habitat to party in. It will be difficult to get momentum going if you're the first one in the door, so play it cool and arrive fashionably late. If it is a smaller gathering or party, 15-20 minutes should be fine, but if you're going to a huge party you should try to arrive at least an hour after things have kicked off.\\nIf you do arrive before things really kick off, never fear. Just have fun, be energetic, and the party will soon follow your vibe.\\n1-5. Make plans for the end of the party before you start partying.\\nNo one wants to deal with rides home or places to sleep once they've transformed into a party animal. It is smartest and safest to deal with these things in advance. Make sure you have a designated driver if the party has alcohol, and check with the host that you have a place to sleep if you will not be driving home. Check in with your friends to make sure you have a buddy at the party to watch out for you if things go poorly -- the two of you can make sure that you both make it home safely.\\n2. Turning a Mild Party into a Blast\\n2-1. Pull shy people into the party one at a time with friendly conversation.\\nIf you see someone by themselves or off in the corner, introduce yourself. Make them feel at home, then ask them to join you for a drink, a dance, or a game. The more people you pull into the party, the more rocking it becomes. You, the party animal, should be pulling as many other animals into your pack as possible. More importantly, the party animal needs to know everyone at the party, because everyone needs to know them.\\nListen to people as they talk and ask questions to get them comfortable speaking.\\nIntroduce people as you find common interests.\\n2-2. Pour out drinks slowly if the party has alcohol.\\nForcing someone to do 5 shots in an hour is dangerous and can lead to a sloppy, sickening feeling. Instead, start drinking slowly, letting people get to their own comfortable level of drunkenness. A good party is one where everyone feels comfortable enough to let their inhibitions fly and have fun, not one where half the group is in the bathroom the whole time.\\n2-3. Turn up the music.\\nFind songs that everyone can enjoy but have a quick beat and a lot of energy. As the party gets going, slowly turn up the volume to get people moving. While people should still be able to have a conversation, you also want people to feel free to stop talking and start dancing. Each group has different musical tastes, but there are some go-to party genres that get most people moving:\\nMotown\\nHouse/Dance/Rave\\nBeatles-era rock.\\n90's Hip-Hop.\\n2-4. Play some games that get people moving, laughing, or sharing.\\nGames are one of the most sure-fire ways to get the crowd together and start having fun. A little competition, some humor, and common thread of conversation will help the party bond and bring up the energy of the group naturally. Just make sure that lots of people can play, being as inclusive as possible. While there are hundreds of games to start with, from drinking games to big, humorous group board games like Cards Against Humanity, you can't go wrong with some of the classics:\\nTruth or Dare\\nNever Have I Ever\\nKings\\nWho am I?\\n2-5. Bring a pack of party animals with you.\\nShow up with people who are just as fun and willing to be a bit silly. Having a good group around you makes the infectious energy easier to spread. However, this doesn't mean your \\\"wolfpack\\\" comes in and ruins the party for everyone else. If they are annoying or sloppy, then you may also be considered annoying or sloppy as well.\\nMingle with other people, not just those in your group.\\nCheck with the host beforehand if it is okay to bring guests.\\nBring a party gift, like some food or extra drinks, if you show up with multiple people.\\n2-6. Know that a rocking party takes time to get started.\\nThink of the energy of a party as a volume dial -- you want to raise it slowly, but surely, so that you don't blast anyone's ears or shock people who are still having a quiet, relaxed time. Don't expect your presence to suddenly kick the party into overdrive. Instead, be a little stealthy, slowly turning up the volume (both literally and figuratively), until the party is really bumping. Be a strategic party animal, and suddenly you'll have the whole pack following you.\\n3. Unleashing Your Inner Animal\\n3-1. Be yourself and stick to your guns.\\nA party animal is not at the whims of every person who comes up and asks to do a shot or play a game. The party animal knows that he knows how to party and that he makes the party. Be confident. 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A party animal isn't the one who stands quietly in the corner; he is the one dancing on the tables, making everyone have more fun. You are in control of how much fun you have at a party, so stop wishing things were more lively and make them lively.\\nBeing a party animal is not about thinking and planning, it is about acting. So go dance, ask that girl if you can buy her a drink, play a game, and get a little rowdy.\\n3-4. Lead the party from the front with group activities and games.\\nGet the whole party on the same level, you party animal. You could be the first one to cut up the dance floor, DJ a \\\"party playlist,\\\" or lead a group sing-along to a favorite like \\\"Don't Stop Believing\\\" or \\\"Twist and Shout.\\\" Whatever you do, try and get other people involved in your shenanigans.\\n3-5. Throw yourself completely into the party atmosphere.\\nOwn up to the theme, hit the dance floor with everything you've got, and stay involved with the games you play. 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If you look good, you'll feel good, and it will make it easier to loosen up.\\nBring your best friends. They will lift you up and they will make everything five times more fun.\\nWarnings\\nMake sure you don't become too much. If you get a feeling that you are just ruin the party, calm down.\\nStay under control. A party animal gives the party what it needs -- no more, no less.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"When the party animal arrives, the party starts. They don't care about what anyone thinks of them, and they ignore the haters. Learn how to be the center of every party, go wild and crazy, and have fun at the same time. Remember, however, that a party animal is no fun if they pass out or put others in danger. 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1. Crank up the enthusiasm.
Cheerful, enthusiastic people tend to make a stronger impression.
Imagine you just shared some great news with a couple of your co-workers. One person says, “That’s fantastic! I’m so happy for you!” while the other says, “Oh, that’s nice.” The first person’s reaction is a lot more positive and uplifting, right? Being a people person is all about making a positive impression on the people around you, and being a person others enjoy spending time around.
“Kudos!” “Wow, that’s incredible!” or “That’s so exciting!” are just a few ways to add some extra enthusiasm into your conversations.
Try to keep the positive energy going, even if you’re having a rough day. For example, if you overslept your alarm before work, you might comment about how nice the weather is instead of complaining about your rough morning.
2. Ditch robotic, automatic replies.
“I’m fine” is a real conversation killer.
The next time someone asks about your day, take a moment to give a genuine answer. This simple change can help you make the most out of your conversations, and connect more deeply with the people around you.
You might say something like, “I had my favorite cereal for breakfast today, so my day’s going pretty great so far!” or “I lost track of time reading a great book last night and only got about 4 hours of sleep. It was totally worth it, though!”
3. Tweak your tone.
Watch the way you inflect words in a sentence.
In ordinary conversations, it’s easy for our minds to go on autopilot. As a people person, take a moment to think before you say anything. Try to speak in an even, consistent tone, so you don’t sound condescending by mistake.
For example, “Did you really do that?” may sound condescending, while “Did you really do that?” sounds a lot friendlier.
4. Act empathetic instead of sympathetic.
Empathy focuses on connection, while sympathy is more detached.
To be a people person, focus on connecting with the people in your life as much as possible, instead of acting like a bystander. A simple change in your daily responses and reactions can make a really big difference!
For instance, you might say “You must be so excited” instead of “That’s good to hear.”
A sympathetic response might be something like “That’s too bad,” while an empathetic response could be, “Oh no. You must be so disappointed!”
5. Be a good listener.
Believe it or not, being a people person doesn’t involve lots of talking.
It’s all about connecting with others in a positive way, and making a good impression. Being an active listener is an easy way to do this. Make eye contact with your conversational partner, and give them your full attention until you’re done chatting.
Try making thoughtful comments throughout the conversation. You might say “Mmm-hmm” throughout the conversation, or repeat back some of what the person said.
6. Ask lots of questions.
Most people love to chat about themselves.
When you express a lot of interest in another person’s life, they start to find you interesting, too. Offer lots of friendly questions throughout the conversation—the other person will really appreciate your interest. At the end of the day, making positive connections is what being a people person is all about!
You might ask “How was your weekend?” “What are you doing over the holidays?” or “Anything exciting coming up?”
7. Remember the little details about people.
Reference those small details in a later conversation.
Being a people person really comes down to the little things, like how you connect with others. Try taking mental notes about the small details in your conversations, even if they seem insignificant at the time. Then, the next time you chat, ask about the small detail they mentioned before.
For instance, you might ask a friend how her math test went, or ask a co-worker if their doctor’s appointment went well.
8. Make small talk with the people around you.
Small, pleasant conversations are a great way to network with new people.
The more individuals you’re friendly with, the easier it is to become a people person. Try striking up a conversation with a co-worker or classmate you don’t chat with often, and see where things go.
You might say “hi” to a classmate you sit close to, or make small talk with the person standing next to you on the subway.
You can make a few professional acquaintances by exchanging business cards.
9. Invite people to events.
Building social habits is a great way to become a people person.
In the upcoming weeks, try inviting your friends and acquaintances to more activities, like a professional seminar. Even if they can’t attend the event with you, they’ll still appreciate the fact that you reached out.
You can take baby steps with this, if you’d like! For instance, you might email your friend a link to an interesting article, or forward them a post on social media.
10. Set specific goals.
Over time, small steps can make a big difference.
Each day, make small, intentional changes that force you out of your comfort zone. It’s okay if you take it slow—after all, baby steps are still progress!
You might decide to chat with a co-worker one day, or say hello to a random person on the street. What matters most is that you put yourself out there, even if you’re taking baby steps.
11. Be patient with yourself.
Don’t expect to become a people person overnight.
It can be tough to put yourself out there, especially if you prefer keeping to yourself. That’s okay! Be kind to yourself, and take it one day at a time.
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Even if they can’t attend the event with you, they’ll still appreciate the fact that you reached out.\\nYou can take baby steps with this, if you’d like! For instance, you might email your friend a link to an interesting article, or forward them a post on social media.\\n10. Set specific goals.\\nOver time, small steps can make a big difference.\\nEach day, make small, intentional changes that force you out of your comfort zone. It’s okay if you take it slow—after all, baby steps are still progress!\\nYou might decide to chat with a co-worker one day, or say hello to a random person on the street. What matters most is that you put yourself out there, even if you’re taking baby steps.\\n11. Be patient with yourself.\\nDon’t expect to become a people person overnight.\\nIt can be tough to put yourself out there, especially if you prefer keeping to yourself. That’s okay! 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1. Steps
1-1. Read all the books.
This is really important. There are 5 books in the Percy Jackson and The Olympians (PJO) Series, 5 books in the Heroes of Olympus (HoO) series, and the Trials of Apollo series, which has 5 books. You could also read additional parts to the series like the Demigod Files, The Demigod Diaries, Kane crossovers: The Son of Sobek, The Staff of Serapis, The Crown of Ptolemy, extra books: Percy Jackson's Greek Gods, Percy Jackson's Greek Heroes & Percy Jackson: The ultimate guide. Get to know the books and love them.
1-2. Decide whether or not to watch the movies.
Many fans hate the movies because they aren't really accurate to the books, but maybe you want to watch them anyway.
1-3.
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This is Uncle Rick's official Twitter account, and you can get important information here. You can also follow him on Facebook and Instagram. Pinterest is also an interesting way to keep up.
1-4. Join a fanfiction website.
Fanfiction is basically stories made by fans set in the same universe or using the same characters as the book. You can meet other fangirls and read stories to tide you over until the next book. You could also join Deviantart (original fan art), or any other Percy Jackson related websites. Some examples of websites could be Wattpad, AO3, or fanfiction.net.
1-5. Go on Tumblr.
There are lots of really cool Percy Jackson related blogs, and you can meet other fans. You can find text posts, fan art, jokes, memes, head canons, and more. Also check out Pinterest boards related to PJO/HoO/ToA for more image based content.
1-6. Get used to the language.
Firstly, the basic abbreviations used when discussing the Riordanverse books. Secondly, fangirls use a lot of words that you might see around on social media:
PJO - Percy Jackson and the Olympians. This is the main series narrated by Percy Jackson himself.
HoO - Heroes of Olympus. This is the sequel series narrated by the Seven (Percy, Annabeth, Hazel, Frank, Piper, Jason, Leo) along with Nico and Reyna.
MCGA - Magnus Chase and the Gods of Asgard. Based on Norse mythology, this series follows Magnus Chase (Annabeth's Cousin). Percy and Annabeth appear briefly, however mostly this one stays away from the world of PJO and HoO.
ToA - Trials of Apollo. This series is narrated by the god Apollo, following his adventures as he lands on earth as a mortal. This is the only series that is currently ongoing, so beware of spoilers if you are not yet up to date.
Ship - To ship someone is to think they have a good relationship or would be good together. A ship name is the two people's names put together. Example: I totally ship Percabeth!
OTP - This stands for "One True Pair". This is the couple you ship most of all.
Canon - Canon is what actually happened in the books, the real facts not fanfiction. If a ship is canon, that couple actually exists in the book.
Fanon - This is the opposite of "Canon". Fanon is used for describing relationships that don't actually happen in the book, or ideas based mostly or completely off of fanfiction.
1-7. You could also start using some of the lingo used in the book, like "Oh my gods!"
and "Holy Hades!"
1-8. Choose your OTP, your favorite ship.
You can have more than one, but most people only have one or two. Some common, canon ships are Percabeth (Percy and Annabeth), Frazel (Frank and Hazel), Jasper (Jason and Piper), Caleo (Calypso and Leo), and Solangelo (Will Solace and Nico Di Angelo). You can ship anyone you want. Your ship does not have to actually exist in the book.
1-9. Look the part.
There is PJO related merch all over the web, especially on places like Etsy. You could buy a Camp Half-Blood shirt, Camp Jupiter shirt, or a camp necklace, or even try your hand at making them yourself! Whenever an important date comes around like a book release or a character's birthday, you can dress up and celebrate.
1-10. Know the important dates, like Percy and Annabeth's birthdays (August 18 and July 12) and book releases.
Twitter will help you stay up to date on events.
1-11. Get excited, and celebrate!
SQUEAL!!!!!
Tips
Be creative! Write your own fanfiction, or do some fan art!
Spread the word and get your friends to read the books.
Wear your Camp Half-Blood shirt, and if people ask questions say, "It's a dam Percy Jackson thing, cupcake. You mortal wouldn't understand" which is a popular book reference- the "dam" joke from Titan's Curse, and "cupcake", which is what Coach Hedge calls everyone. DO NOT overuse the "dam" joke.
Warnings
People may think you are weird. Ignore them.
Be aware that there are some inappropriate fanfictions online. If you want to avoid these, try and avoid categories like "M" (Mature) and "E" (Explicit).
Don't damage your voice squealing.
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How to Be a Perfect Couple
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1. Building Trust
1-1. Follow through on the promises that you make.
Always be reliable to your partner so they know they can trust you. Do your best to keep your word, and tell them immediately if something will prevent you from doing something you told them you’d do.
For instance, be on time for date night and call when you say you will.
Over the course of a relationship, you’ll likely encounter circumstances that make you break a promise. For instance, you might get a flat tire that makes you miss a date. Tell your partner what’s going so that you’re being open and honest with them.
1-2. Open up to your partner about your private thoughts.
Shared intimacy is important in a relationship, so tell your partner about your inner life. This includes your feelings, worries, and dreams for the future.
As an example, tell your partner when you're stressed over work. Say something like, "I'm really behind on my project, and I'm worried I won't meet the deadline."
Similarly, talk to them about your dreams for the future. You might say, "I have a dream of opening an art bakery with my friend some day. She could bake the treats, and I could organize events to attract business."
1-3. Don’t share your partner’s private information.
You and your partner will share things with each other that no one else knows. When your partner opens up to you, keep it between yourselves. This shows your partner that they can trust you.
For example, let’s say your partner tells you they’re angry at their brother over an argument. Don’t call the brother to tell him to apologize or post about the incident on social media.
1-4. Apologize
You’re probably doing everything you can to be a good partner, but no one is perfect. When you make a mistake, fess up about what you did. Tell your partner that you’re sorry about what happened and how you’ll change in the future.
You might say, “I know I stood you up tonight, and I’m so sorry. I forgot we had a date, but it won’t happen again because I’m going to put you on my calendar.”
1-5. Forgive your partner
Sometimes your partner is going to mess up, but try to remember they’re not trying to hurt you. When this happens, tell them how their words or actions made you feel. Give them a chance to apologize and think about what they say. When you're ready, tell them that you forgive them and what you expect from them going forward.
For example, let’s say your partner called you a rude name. You might say, “It hurts me that you’d call me that. I think it’s wrong to treat someone that way.” After they apologize, say, "I accept your apology and forgive you. In the future, I want us to avoid name calling during fights."
1-6. Support your partner when they encounter setbacks.
Your partner is going to have rough moments. When this happens, be empathetic with them and offer your love and support. Additionally, encourage them to keep going.
As an example, let’s say your partner misses out on a promotion. Tell them that you’re still proud of them and know they’ll get more opportunities in the future. Say, “I’m so proud that you pursued this opportunity. It might not have been the right fit for you, but I know you’re going to find something better in the future.”
2. Communicating with Your Partner
2-1. Talk about your relationship so that you're both on the same page.
Make a habit of talking about how you feel about your relationship. Encourage your partner to open up to you, as well. This will help you both understand where you're both at in the relationship so you can build a strong future together.
For instance, discuss your goals for your relationship, such as moving in together, getting married, or having kids.
Additionally, talk about how you're both feeling in the relationship. You might say, "I feel like we're in a really good place right now. How about you?"
2-2. Listen
Do your best to really focus on what your partner is saying. When they speak, listen closely to their words, then paraphrase what they said back to them. Think about their side of things before you respond.
You might say, “It sounds like you’re upset that I forgot to do the dishes last night.”
2-3. Watch their nonverbal signals to understand them better.
Your partner’s facial expressions and body language can tell you a lot about how they feel. Pay attention to your partner when you’re spending time with them so you better understand what they’re saying. Here are some things to consider:
If they’re smiling a lot, they might feel happy about the situation.
If their arms are spread open and they’re facing you, they’re probably open to talking to you.
If they fold their arms over their chest, it might mean that they’re feeling closed off or defensive.
Avoiding eye contact might mean they’re having trouble talking to you or that they’re hiding something.
Turning away from you might mean that they’re upset or closed off.
Raising their voice could mean that they’re escalating the situation, but it might mean that they’re not feeling heard.
2-4. Don’t bring up the past when you’re having disagreements.
You might feel tempted to bring up past problems or slights during a fight to gain the upper hand. It’s normal to feel this way, but it won’t help your relationship. Focus on what’s happening in the present, and leave the past behind you.
For instance, let’s say you’re upset that your partner came home later than expected. Don’t say, “You’re not reliable. It’s just like last week when you forgot to pay the phone bill.”
2-5. Express your appreciation for your partner daily.
Tell your partner what you value about them every day. Give them compliments, and thank them for the kind things they do for you. This helps you not take them for granted.
Say things like, “I love how creative you are,” “I’m so happy I have you to cuddle,” “You’re so smart and kind,” and “Thank you for being there for me today.”
2-6. Compromise when you have a disagreement.
Every couple has issues, so you’re going to have disagreements. When this happens, talk about the issue so you both feel heard. Then, try to reach a compromise that works for both of you.
As an example, let’s say one of you wants to save money for a new TV, but the other person wants to take a vacation. You might compromise by taking a weekend road trip and waiting a little longer to get your TV.
Similarly, you might both want to spend the holidays with your respective families. You might compromise by switching off which family you see on the actual holiday each year so you each get equal time with your families.
3. Spending Time Together
3-1. Celebrate your special dates and anniversaries.
Create personal holiday traditions that you can share with each other. Additionally, do something special for your birthdays and anniversary. This will bring you closer together and allow you to have fun together.
As an example, start a Christmas Eve tradition of drinking cocoa while you look a Christmas lights.
Bake each other cakes for your birthdays.
Make plans for your anniversary every year.
3-2. Schedule “date nights” to keep the spark alive.
It’s important to spend quality time with your partner so you feel close to them. To keep your bond strong, plan a date night at least once a week. Do something special for your date night, like going to dinner, bowling, or playing a board game at home.
Work with your partner to find a day each week that works for both you and your partner.
3-3. Do shared activities that help you connect emotionally.
It’s fun to spend time watching TV together, but it’s important to also do activities that allow you to interact. Make a list of fun things that you both enjoy, then make a point to do them together. This will help you grow closer together and maintain a close bond.
For example, play mini golf, go for a hike, go camping, make a meal together, or go out for drinks.
3-4. Be physically affectionate with your partner.
Build your intimacy by holding hands, hugging, kissing, cuddling, and being intimate. Talk to your partner about your intimacy needs, and ask them to tell you about theirs. Do your best to meet your partner’s desire for affection.
For instance, kiss your partner in the morning and before bed. If you don’t live together, kiss them when you say hello and goodbye.
When you’re together, touch your partner’s arms, back, and leg to show affection.
Tips
Remember that there is no such thing as a “perfect” relationship. Only you and your partner know what you need and what works best for you!
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1. Being a “Perfect” Daughter
1-1. Be realistic.
No person is ever perfect, but as the U.S. author John Steinbeck once said “Now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” Remind yourself that even Olympic gold medalists get points off on their scores (but still win). That Albert Einstein made (but learned from) his mistakes and imperfect solutions. Never let “perfect” undermine your self-esteem and become the enemy of all the excellent, worthwhile (but unfortunately imperfect) things you are capable of.
Striving for absolute “perfection” can be counterproductive, because it can diminish an accomplishment or task completion just because it is not flawless success.
Perfectionism is also closely linked to depression, troubled relationships, and decreased life satisfaction.
1-2. Always ask first.
If you are unsure whether something you wish to do will upset your parents, ask first. If you are hesitant to ask, it is probably a good sign that it will upset your parents.
When asking, always ensure you've thought through the possible outcomes of what you are asking to do and anticipate the concerns your parents will have.
Don't get upset. Although your parents may seem resistant to your suggestion, remember to stay cool-headed and present facts and examples that illustrate why you should do something and why you are capable of handling any outcomes.
Especially if you are still living at home, if your parents say "no," always honor their wishes, even if it is not what you would prefer.
1-3. Honor your responsibilities.
When you have promised parents you will do something, but wait until you have to be told again (and again), it can create negative tensions.
Set expectations early. Say “Mom, I have [x, y and z] to finish before I’ll have time, but as soon as I am free, I will take care of this,” then complete all tasks before having to be asked additional times.
Anticipate needs and fill them. Do you know what days garbage runs on? Are guest expected over the weekend? Take out the garbage, clean your room and other rooms in the house, all without being asked.
1-4. Be respectful.
You may not initially agree with what your parents are saying, but remind yourself that they have your best interests at heart.
They have seen more of life than you have and may have insights that you are too young to have access to.
Trust that they are looking out for you and don’t back talk. Back talk creates arguments and can be counterproductive to establishing yourself as respectful and trustworthy.
1-5. Take care of yourself.
Demonstrate respect for yourself by caring for your body’s needs and maintaining a healthy appearance. Your parents love you and it reassures them to see you healthy and well-cared for.
Keep up with hygiene and cleanliness. Try to take a bath or shower daily. At the very least, wipe off sweat and grime with a soapy wash cloth. Wash hair every 1-3 days.
Wear clean clothes and comb your hair. Iron clothes that need ironing. Wear a belt with pants, especially loose ones. Style hair to keep it out of your face.
Eat regular, healthy meals. Three meals a day is traditionally recommended; however, nutritionists have indicated that 5-6 smaller meals spread over the day can actually be healthier for us and maintain a more even blood sugar. Regardless of which meal plan you choose, make sure you are eating enough to be healthy.
Go to bed at a reasonable hour. Teens between the ages of 14 to 17 need 8-10 hours of sleep a night. Anyone over the age of 18 needs at somewhere between 7-9 hours.
1-6. Take help.
Although we often want to show our parents how successful and capable we are, there are times when we may need help to reach our desired goals.
Don’t be too proud or egotistical to accept help from your parents, even in the form of advice.
When you do take help, be humble and show gratitude for the contributions your parents make.
1-7. Be patient with your parents.
When we are young, the world is ours and we can let our ambitions guide what happens. But think about how difficult it can be for parents to adjust to rapid changes that we take for granted.
When you get married, get a job, move to a new place, it can remind them of their own mortality, or make them lonely for the days when you were just down the hall.
Help parents adjust to your own evolution. Take time to talk with them and let them ask questions. Help them understand, but don’t be angry if they can’t always do it. Remind them that acceptance and trust are just as powerful as understanding.
1-8. Be true to you.
Being true to you means that you are confident, happy, learning, and growing. Nothing makes a parent more content than seeing their child coming into their own and being successful. When you are true to you, you are actualizing the person your parents raised you to be. Sometimes, however, being true to you will initially create tension with parents.
For example, if you parents want you to attend church with them, but you are not religious, let them know that you wish not to go. If you still have to attend their church, consider how you can still be true to your values during the experience. Resources like the Skeptics Bible offer some great conversation starters to get people thinking about the contradictions and inconsistencies within religious scriptures.
Are you worried about coming out to your parents? While your sexuality is an important part of who you are and should be celebrated, if you are living at home with your parents, you may not want to share this part of yourself at that time. If you are living away from home and worried about talking to your parents about your sexual orientation, consider speaking to a therapist about the best "coming out" options for your circumstances.
1-9. Have a happy life.
Parents want more than anything from their daughter is that she grows up to have a safe and happy life. Part of having that life, however, is that your parents want to be a part of it and offer assistance that will help secure that happiness. They also want to share in your relationships, help raise possible grandchildren, and enjoy watching their family grow.
1-10. Pay it forward.
Take the advantages, kindness, support, and generosity you’ve been shown by your parents and offer it to others. That could be your own children, your spouse, friends, and other family members.
Volunteer to be a “Big Sister,” who offers support and life guidance to at-risk young women.
When you use what you’ve been given you help others, you show respect and gratitude for the upbringing your parents gave you.
2. Being a “Perfect” Daughter-In-Law
2-1. Balance individuality and closeness.
When families grow and gain new members, it can require some adjustment, particularly for the new addition. Remember that your partner loves you for who you are, and that you should not try to be someone else. At the same time, look for opportunities to make connections to his or her family.
2-2. Be open to new family relationships.
Although every family does things differently, many families accept new members by immediately treating them as a new sibling or child.
If you are an only child and have never had siblings before, think of sibling relationships as being like living with a best friend for most of your life. Everyone tries to get along, have fun, and take care of each other, with lots of compromises.
Accept that hugs, jokes, and some teasing may come along with being the new sibling, but that it is coming from a place of love and welcome. Reciprocate in turn when possible.
2-3. Give yourself “Me” time.
Especially if you have just married into a new family, be sure to plan for at least an hour a day of “Me” time during visits.
"Me" time may be when you say “I’m going to have a quick nap” and then rest for a few moment, thinking back over the events of the day, releasing any possible stress that may have built up.
You can even ask you partner to join you, especially if there is something you are confused about any want to ask questions.
Over time, as you and your partner's family become better acquainted, these quiet moments may not even be necessary.
2-4. Be honest.
The relationship between a parent and biological child can permit a degree of honesty unmatched by any other relationship. While your partner may be able to tell their parents anything, remember that they are getting to know you, and tact can be important maintaining peace.
Remember to never lie to your partner’s family, but also remember to break difficult truths with respect and kindness.
2-5. Set boundaries.
When we begin a relationship with a partner’s family, we usually want them to like us as much as possible. Yet, while compromise is important, it is equally as important not to sacrifice your entire personal comfort for someone else.
For example, are your partner’s parents asking you to come visit for the holidays when you both really want to stay home? If you and your partner agree, be kind, but firm, in letting the rest of the family know that you will be delighted to join them at a different time, but can’t make the requested date.
This may cause disappointment at first but, in the long-run, establishes reasonable expectations and mutual respect.
2-6. Agree to disagree.
There are points on which you will never agree with a partner’s family. This is not a sign of failure or incompatibility. Instead, think of it as a challenge, to love and be tolerant in spite of differences.
For example, do you already know that your partner’s parents have different politics than you? If anyone asks, say “You know, I’ve never been entirely comfortable talking about politics. Mind if I sit this one out and listen?”
If pushed, gently remind others that you respect their beliefs and feelings, love them dearly, hope they can respect your feelings as well.
2-7. Be open to change.
Compromise is a key part of maintaining healthy family relationships. This may mean accepting that your partner’s family has completely different holiday traditions, or that Aunt Margaret will always makes her macaroni and cheese for special occasions (even though that was what you always made).
While you should never give up all the habits and rituals that bring joy and meaning to your life, you may find that you need to adjust how and when you observe your own traditions. For example, if Aunt Margaret always makes the macaroni and cheese, ask your partner what kind of dish you could make that could become a family staple.
Another compromise is to have your own Christmas tree and cookies for Santa at home but still enjoy lighting the menorah and having noodle kugel with your partner’s family.
2-8. Empathize.
Welcoming a new person to the family can be a joyous but also stressful occasion.
It can remind your in-laws that they are aging, or that their child/brother/sister lives far away, or that there may be limitations on how much family time that can be spent together, which can bring mixed feelings into play.
While you should never be a door mat or accept disrespect, understand what families go through when a new person is added and attempt to give in-laws the benefit of the doubt before becoming upset or angry.
3. Creating Positive Interactions with Parents
3-1. Be mindful.
Think about your own personal life, as well as the relationship you share with family, including parents. What aspects could be made more comfortable, productive, or enjoyable? Below are exercises in mindfulness that can help you be a better daughter:
Strive for excellence in all tasks you undertake. When you complete tasks without a commitment to success or improvement, you show a lack of concern for the people impacted by the outcome. Instead, demonstrate love, care, and respect by attempting to complete all tasks successfully, pushing for above-average outcomes. Let your parents feel proud of what you have accomplished
Look for new ways to make positive changes. This could be something as simple as planting flowers in your parent’s garden or deciding to ask your supervisor for a promotion at work. When you make a personal effort to bring happiness to yourself or the people who care about you, you demonstrate a commitment to being a better person for yourself and others.
3-2. Communicate.
When long periods go without talking to your parents, it can be difficult to make the call when either party needs help or support. For this reason, try to reach out to your parents as often as is convenient and comfortable for both of you.
For younger adults, this could mean daily check-ins via text to a conversation over dinner. For adult children, try to text and/or call your parents multiple times a week. It doesn’t have to be an important message. It might be as simple as seeing your mom’s favorite flower and wanting to say “hi,” to sharing a funny observation from work.
Reach out first. Don’t always be the one waiting on a phone call or text. Make time to talk to your parents and call them. Or if you live away from home, invite them to come visit. By reminding our parents of their importance to us, we cement bonds and offer reassurance.
3-3. Listen carefully.
When parents tell us to listen, it means more than just nodding while they talk. Demonstrate that you are not only engaged but learning through active listening. This is not just an act of respect. It also ensures that you remember what they’ve told you and can act on it appropriately. Below are tactics for active listening:
Restate information: This demonstrates that you are attentive and also gives you the ability to clarify things you are less certain of.
Offer subtle "encouragers": Nod your head. Say "uh huh" or "I see" so your parents continue speaking and elaborate on their ideas.
Summarize: Before ending the conversation or asking questions, summarize information into your own words. This helps you remember what was said, but also allows for your parents to say “That one part is not quite right, let me explain again” in order to offer correction.
Give feedback: If something strikes you as a good idea, say “I agree that this is good, because…” If you are less certain of another part, say “I’m less certain about this part. Can you explain it again?” This allows you to collaborate and even nuance the information. Depending on the situation, your parents might even welcome suggestions or alternative ideas.
Probe for more information: when in doubt, ask questions to draw out elaboration, make distinctions, or clarify information. Make sure that you completely understand what you’ve been told and how will impact your behavior.
Validation: Remind your parents that that you appreciate them taking the time to offer guidance and instruction. Give hugs, make a card, say “Thank you.” Always demonstrate your gratitude for and appreciation of your parents.
3-4. Stay in the present.
Although it can be tempting to remind our parents of mistakes they’ve made, unless it is key to your protection or health, resist the urge to dwell on the past.
Forgive. Forgiveness is not a free pass. It doesn’t mean that mistakes that happened are ok or validated. But what it does mean is that you are willing to move on and love in spite of mistakes. That you accept your parents as human and, like you, not expected to be perfect.
Repair disagreements quickly. The longer a disagreement remains unresolved, the longer resentment builds and the more difficult it can be to make amends. Additionally, when we don’t resolve lingering issues with those closest to us, we build a pattern of behavior that will continue into future relationships as well—even those with our own children. For these reasons, it is best to repair damaged relationships quickly and develop the conflict resolution skills required to be a better person, daughter, and mother.
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If you are hesitant to ask, it is probably a good sign that it will upset your parents.\\nWhen asking, always ensure you've thought through the possible outcomes of what you are asking to do and anticipate the concerns your parents will have.\\nDon't get upset. Although your parents may seem resistant to your suggestion, remember to stay cool-headed and present facts and examples that illustrate why you should do something and why you are capable of handling any outcomes.\\nEspecially if you are still living at home, if your parents say \\\"no,\\\" always honor their wishes, even if it is not what you would prefer.\\n1-3. Honor your responsibilities.\\nWhen you have promised parents you will do something, but wait until you have to be told again (and again), it can create negative tensions.\\nSet expectations early. Say “Mom, I have [x, y and z] to finish before I’ll have time, but as soon as I am free, I will take care of this,” then complete all tasks before having to be asked additional times.\\nAnticipate needs and fill them. Do you know what days garbage runs on? Are guest expected over the weekend? Take out the garbage, clean your room and other rooms in the house, all without being asked.\\n1-4. Be respectful.\\nYou may not initially agree with what your parents are saying, but remind yourself that they have your best interests at heart.\\nThey have seen more of life than you have and may have insights that you are too young to have access to.\\nTrust that they are looking out for you and don’t back talk. Back talk creates arguments and can be counterproductive to establishing yourself as respectful and trustworthy.\\n1-5. Take care of yourself.\\nDemonstrate respect for yourself by caring for your body’s needs and maintaining a healthy appearance. Your parents love you and it reassures them to see you healthy and well-cared for.\\nKeep up with hygiene and cleanliness. Try to take a bath or shower daily. At the very least, wipe off sweat and grime with a soapy wash cloth. Wash hair every 1-3 days.\\nWear clean clothes and comb your hair. Iron clothes that need ironing. Wear a belt with pants, especially loose ones. Style hair to keep it out of your face.\\nEat regular, healthy meals. Three meals a day is traditionally recommended; however, nutritionists have indicated that 5-6 smaller meals spread over the day can actually be healthier for us and maintain a more even blood sugar. Regardless of which meal plan you choose, make sure you are eating enough to be healthy.\\nGo to bed at a reasonable hour. Teens between the ages of 14 to 17 need 8-10 hours of sleep a night. Anyone over the age of 18 needs at somewhere between 7-9 hours.\\n1-6. Take help.\\nAlthough we often want to show our parents how successful and capable we are, there are times when we may need help to reach our desired goals.\\nDon’t be too proud or egotistical to accept help from your parents, even in the form of advice.\\nWhen you do take help, be humble and show gratitude for the contributions your parents make.\\n1-7. Be patient with your parents.\\nWhen we are young, the world is ours and we can let our ambitions guide what happens. But think about how difficult it can be for parents to adjust to rapid changes that we take for granted.\\nWhen you get married, get a job, move to a new place, it can remind them of their own mortality, or make them lonely for the days when you were just down the hall.\\nHelp parents adjust to your own evolution. Take time to talk with them and let them ask questions. Help them understand, but don’t be angry if they can’t always do it. Remind them that acceptance and trust are just as powerful as understanding.\\n1-8. Be true to you.\\nBeing true to you means that you are confident, happy, learning, and growing. Nothing makes a parent more content than seeing their child coming into their own and being successful. When you are true to you, you are actualizing the person your parents raised you to be. Sometimes, however, being true to you will initially create tension with parents.\\nFor example, if you parents want you to attend church with them, but you are not religious, let them know that you wish not to go. If you still have to attend their church, consider how you can still be true to your values during the experience. Resources like the Skeptics Bible offer some great conversation starters to get people thinking about the contradictions and inconsistencies within religious scriptures.\\nAre you worried about coming out to your parents? While your sexuality is an important part of who you are and should be celebrated, if you are living at home with your parents, you may not want to share this part of yourself at that time. If you are living away from home and worried about talking to your parents about your sexual orientation, consider speaking to a therapist about the best \\\"coming out\\\" options for your circumstances.\\n1-9. Have a happy life.\\nParents want more than anything from their daughter is that she grows up to have a safe and happy life. Part of having that life, however, is that your parents want to be a part of it and offer assistance that will help secure that happiness. They also want to share in your relationships, help raise possible grandchildren, and enjoy watching their family grow.\\n1-10. Pay it forward.\\nTake the advantages, kindness, support, and generosity you’ve been shown by your parents and offer it to others. That could be your own children, your spouse, friends, and other family members.\\nVolunteer to be a “Big Sister,” who offers support and life guidance to at-risk young women.\\nWhen you use what you’ve been given you help others, you show respect and gratitude for the upbringing your parents gave you.\\n2. Being a “Perfect” Daughter-In-Law\\n2-1. Balance individuality and closeness.\\nWhen families grow and gain new members, it can require some adjustment, particularly for the new addition. Remember that your partner loves you for who you are, and that you should not try to be someone else. At the same time, look for opportunities to make connections to his or her family.\\n2-2. Be open to new family relationships.\\nAlthough every family does things differently, many families accept new members by immediately treating them as a new sibling or child.\\nIf you are an only child and have never had siblings before, think of sibling relationships as being like living with a best friend for most of your life. Everyone tries to get along, have fun, and take care of each other, with lots of compromises.\\nAccept that hugs, jokes, and some teasing may come along with being the new sibling, but that it is coming from a place of love and welcome. Reciprocate in turn when possible.\\n2-3. Give yourself “Me” time.\\nEspecially if you have just married into a new family, be sure to plan for at least an hour a day of “Me” time during visits.\\n\\\"Me\\\" time may be when you say “I’m going to have a quick nap” and then rest for a few moment, thinking back over the events of the day, releasing any possible stress that may have built up.\\nYou can even ask you partner to join you, especially if there is something you are confused about any want to ask questions.\\nOver time, as you and your partner's family become better acquainted, these quiet moments may not even be necessary.\\n2-4. Be honest.\\nThe relationship between a parent and biological child can permit a degree of honesty unmatched by any other relationship. While your partner may be able to tell their parents anything, remember that they are getting to know you, and tact can be important maintaining peace.\\nRemember to never lie to your partner’s family, but also remember to break difficult truths with respect and kindness.\\n2-5. Set boundaries.\\nWhen we begin a relationship with a partner’s family, we usually want them to like us as much as possible. Yet, while compromise is important, it is equally as important not to sacrifice your entire personal comfort for someone else.\\nFor example, are your partner’s parents asking you to come visit for the holidays when you both really want to stay home? If you and your partner agree, be kind, but firm, in letting the rest of the family know that you will be delighted to join them at a different time, but can’t make the requested date.\\nThis may cause disappointment at first but, in the long-run, establishes reasonable expectations and mutual respect.\\n2-6. Agree to disagree.\\nThere are points on which you will never agree with a partner’s family. This is not a sign of failure or incompatibility. Instead, think of it as a challenge, to love and be tolerant in spite of differences.\\nFor example, do you already know that your partner’s parents have different politics than you? If anyone asks, say “You know, I’ve never been entirely comfortable talking about politics. Mind if I sit this one out and listen?”\\nIf pushed, gently remind others that you respect their beliefs and feelings, love them dearly, hope they can respect your feelings as well.\\n2-7. Be open to change.\\nCompromise is a key part of maintaining healthy family relationships. 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Empathize.\\nWelcoming a new person to the family can be a joyous but also stressful occasion.\\nIt can remind your in-laws that they are aging, or that their child/brother/sister lives far away, or that there may be limitations on how much family time that can be spent together, which can bring mixed feelings into play.\\nWhile you should never be a door mat or accept disrespect, understand what families go through when a new person is added and attempt to give in-laws the benefit of the doubt before becoming upset or angry.\\n3. Creating Positive Interactions with Parents\\n3-1. Be mindful.\\nThink about your own personal life, as well as the relationship you share with family, including parents. What aspects could be made more comfortable, productive, or enjoyable? Below are exercises in mindfulness that can help you be a better daughter:\\nStrive for excellence in all tasks you undertake. When you complete tasks without a commitment to success or improvement, you show a lack of concern for the people impacted by the outcome. Instead, demonstrate love, care, and respect by attempting to complete all tasks successfully, pushing for above-average outcomes. Let your parents feel proud of what you have accomplished\\nLook for new ways to make positive changes. This could be something as simple as planting flowers in your parent’s garden or deciding to ask your supervisor for a promotion at work. When you make a personal effort to bring happiness to yourself or the people who care about you, you demonstrate a commitment to being a better person for yourself and others.\\n3-2. Communicate.\\nWhen long periods go without talking to your parents, it can be difficult to make the call when either party needs help or support. For this reason, try to reach out to your parents as often as is convenient and comfortable for both of you.\\nFor younger adults, this could mean daily check-ins via text to a conversation over dinner. For adult children, try to text and/or call your parents multiple times a week. It doesn’t have to be an important message. It might be as simple as seeing your mom’s favorite flower and wanting to say “hi,” to sharing a funny observation from work.\\nReach out first. Don’t always be the one waiting on a phone call or text. Make time to talk to your parents and call them. Or if you live away from home, invite them to come visit. By reminding our parents of their importance to us, we cement bonds and offer reassurance.\\n3-3. Listen carefully.\\nWhen parents tell us to listen, it means more than just nodding while they talk. Demonstrate that you are not only engaged but learning through active listening. This is not just an act of respect. It also ensures that you remember what they’ve told you and can act on it appropriately. Below are tactics for active listening:\\nRestate information: This demonstrates that you are attentive and also gives you the ability to clarify things you are less certain of.\\nOffer subtle \\\"encouragers\\\": Nod your head. Say \\\"uh huh\\\" or \\\"I see\\\" so your parents continue speaking and elaborate on their ideas.\\nSummarize: Before ending the conversation or asking questions, summarize information into your own words. This helps you remember what was said, but also allows for your parents to say “That one part is not quite right, let me explain again” in order to offer correction.\\nGive feedback: If something strikes you as a good idea, say “I agree that this is good, because…” If you are less certain of another part, say “I’m less certain about this part. Can you explain it again?” This allows you to collaborate and even nuance the information. Depending on the situation, your parents might even welcome suggestions or alternative ideas.\\nProbe for more information: when in doubt, ask questions to draw out elaboration, make distinctions, or clarify information. Make sure that you completely understand what you’ve been told and how will impact your behavior.\\nValidation: Remind your parents that that you appreciate them taking the time to offer guidance and instruction. Give hugs, make a card, say “Thank you.” Always demonstrate your gratitude for and appreciation of your parents.\\n3-4. Stay in the present.\\nAlthough it can be tempting to remind our parents of mistakes they’ve made, unless it is key to your protection or health, resist the urge to dwell on the past.\\nForgive. Forgiveness is not a free pass. It doesn’t mean that mistakes that happened are ok or validated. But what it does mean is that you are willing to move on and love in spite of mistakes. That you accept your parents as human and, like you, not expected to be perfect.\\nRepair disagreements quickly. The longer a disagreement remains unresolved, the longer resentment builds and the more difficult it can be to make amends. Additionally, when we don’t resolve lingering issues with those closest to us, we build a pattern of behavior that will continue into future relationships as well—even those with our own children. For these reasons, it is best to repair damaged relationships quickly and develop the conflict resolution skills required to be a better person, daughter, and mother.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Throughout our lives, our parents have a lasting impact on who we are and the decisions we make. They offer support when we need it and tough love when we aren't living up to our potential. It's not easy, and every child owes good parents a debt of gratitude and respect. Being a \\\"perfect\\\" daughter is one way of providing that, but it means being a daughter who is perfect for the people who raised her, respecting their values and making meaningful contributions to the happiness of her parents.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being a “Perfect” Daughter\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be realistic.\", \"描述\": \"No person is ever perfect, but as the U.S. author John Steinbeck once said “Now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” Remind yourself that even Olympic gold medalists get points off on their scores (but still win). That Albert Einstein made (but learned from) his mistakes and imperfect solutions. Never let “perfect” undermine your self-esteem and become the enemy of all the excellent, worthwhile (but unfortunately imperfect) things you are capable of.\\nStriving for absolute “perfection” can be counterproductive, because it can diminish an accomplishment or task completion just because it is not flawless success. \\nPerfectionism is also closely linked to depression, troubled relationships, and decreased life satisfaction.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Always ask first.\", \"描述\": \"If you are unsure whether something you wish to do will upset your parents, ask first. If you are hesitant to ask, it is probably a good sign that it will upset your parents.\\nWhen asking, always ensure you've thought through the possible outcomes of what you are asking to do and anticipate the concerns your parents will have.\\nDon't get upset. Although your parents may seem resistant to your suggestion, remember to stay cool-headed and present facts and examples that illustrate why you should do something and why you are capable of handling any outcomes.\\nEspecially if you are still living at home, if your parents say \\\"no,\\\" always honor their wishes, even if it is not what you would prefer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Honor your responsibilities.\", \"描述\": \"When you have promised parents you will do something, but wait until you have to be told again (and again), it can create negative tensions.\\nSet expectations early. Say “Mom, I have [x, y and z] to finish before I’ll have time, but as soon as I am free, I will take care of this,” then complete all tasks before having to be asked additional times.\\nAnticipate needs and fill them. Do you know what days garbage runs on? Are guest expected over the weekend? 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Wash hair every 1-3 days.\\nWear clean clothes and comb your hair. Iron clothes that need ironing. Wear a belt with pants, especially loose ones. Style hair to keep it out of your face.\\nEat regular, healthy meals. Three meals a day is traditionally recommended; however, nutritionists have indicated that 5-6 smaller meals spread over the day can actually be healthier for us and maintain a more even blood sugar. Regardless of which meal plan you choose, make sure you are eating enough to be healthy.\\nGo to bed at a reasonable hour. Teens between the ages of 14 to 17 need 8-10 hours of sleep a night. 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At the same time, look for opportunities to make connections to his or her family.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be open to new family relationships.\", \"描述\": \"Although every family does things differently, many families accept new members by immediately treating them as a new sibling or child.\\nIf you are an only child and have never had siblings before, think of sibling relationships as being like living with a best friend for most of your life. Everyone tries to get along, have fun, and take care of each other, with lots of compromises.\\nAccept that hugs, jokes, and some teasing may come along with being the new sibling, but that it is coming from a place of love and welcome. Reciprocate in turn when possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give yourself “Me” time.\", \"描述\": \"Especially if you have just married into a new family, be sure to plan for at least an hour a day of “Me” time during visits.\\n\\\"Me\\\" time may be when you say “I’m going to have a quick nap” and then rest for a few moment, thinking back over the events of the day, releasing any possible stress that may have built up.\\nYou can even ask you partner to join you, especially if there is something you are confused about any want to ask questions.\\nOver time, as you and your partner's family become better acquainted, these quiet moments may not even be necessary.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be honest.\", \"描述\": \"The relationship between a parent and biological child can permit a degree of honesty unmatched by any other relationship. While your partner may be able to tell their parents anything, remember that they are getting to know you, and tact can be important maintaining peace.\\nRemember to never lie to your partner’s family, but also remember to break difficult truths with respect and kindness.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Set boundaries.\", \"描述\": \"When we begin a relationship with a partner’s family, we usually want them to like us as much as possible. Yet, while compromise is important, it is equally as important not to sacrifice your entire personal comfort for someone else.\\nFor example, are your partner’s parents asking you to come visit for the holidays when you both really want to stay home? If you and your partner agree, be kind, but firm, in letting the rest of the family know that you will be delighted to join them at a different time, but can’t make the requested date.\\nThis may cause disappointment at first but, in the long-run, establishes reasonable expectations and mutual respect.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Agree to disagree.\", \"描述\": \"There are points on which you will never agree with a partner’s family. This is not a sign of failure or incompatibility. Instead, think of it as a challenge, to love and be tolerant in spite of differences.\\nFor example, do you already know that your partner’s parents have different politics than you? If anyone asks, say “You know, I’ve never been entirely comfortable talking about politics. Mind if I sit this one out and listen?”\\nIf pushed, gently remind others that you respect their beliefs and feelings, love them dearly, hope they can respect your feelings as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be open to change.\", \"描述\": \"Compromise is a key part of maintaining healthy family relationships. This may mean accepting that your partner’s family has completely different holiday traditions, or that Aunt Margaret will always makes her macaroni and cheese for special occasions (even though that was what you always made).\\nWhile you should never give up all the habits and rituals that bring joy and meaning to your life, you may find that you need to adjust how and when you observe your own traditions. For example, if Aunt Margaret always makes the macaroni and cheese, ask your partner what kind of dish you could make that could become a family staple.\\nAnother compromise is to have your own Christmas tree and cookies for Santa at home but still enjoy lighting the menorah and having noodle kugel with your partner’s family.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Empathize.\", \"描述\": \"Welcoming a new person to the family can be a joyous but also stressful occasion.\\nIt can remind your in-laws that they are aging, or that their child/brother/sister lives far away, or that there may be limitations on how much family time that can be spent together, which can bring mixed feelings into play.\\nWhile you should never be a door mat or accept disrespect, understand what families go through when a new person is added and attempt to give in-laws the benefit of the doubt before becoming upset or angry.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Creating Positive Interactions with Parents\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be mindful.\", \"描述\": \"Think about your own personal life, as well as the relationship you share with family, including parents. What aspects could be made more comfortable, productive, or enjoyable? Below are exercises in mindfulness that can help you be a better daughter:\\nStrive for excellence in all tasks you undertake. When you complete tasks without a commitment to success or improvement, you show a lack of concern for the people impacted by the outcome. Instead, demonstrate love, care, and respect by attempting to complete all tasks successfully, pushing for above-average outcomes. Let your parents feel proud of what you have accomplished\\nLook for new ways to make positive changes. This could be something as simple as planting flowers in your parent’s garden or deciding to ask your supervisor for a promotion at work. When you make a personal effort to bring happiness to yourself or the people who care about you, you demonstrate a commitment to being a better person for yourself and others.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicate.\", \"描述\": \"When long periods go without talking to your parents, it can be difficult to make the call when either party needs help or support. For this reason, try to reach out to your parents as often as is convenient and comfortable for both of you.\\nFor younger adults, this could mean daily check-ins via text to a conversation over dinner. For adult children, try to text and/or call your parents multiple times a week. It doesn’t have to be an important message. It might be as simple as seeing your mom’s favorite flower and wanting to say “hi,” to sharing a funny observation from work.\\nReach out first. Don’t always be the one waiting on a phone call or text. Make time to talk to your parents and call them. Or if you live away from home, invite them to come visit. By reminding our parents of their importance to us, we cement bonds and offer reassurance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen carefully.\", \"描述\": \"When parents tell us to listen, it means more than just nodding while they talk. Demonstrate that you are not only engaged but learning through active listening. This is not just an act of respect. It also ensures that you remember what they’ve told you and can act on it appropriately. Below are tactics for active listening:\\nRestate information: This demonstrates that you are attentive and also gives you the ability to clarify things you are less certain of.\\nOffer subtle \\\"encouragers\\\": Nod your head. Say \\\"uh huh\\\" or \\\"I see\\\" so your parents continue speaking and elaborate on their ideas.\\nSummarize: Before ending the conversation or asking questions, summarize information into your own words. This helps you remember what was said, but also allows for your parents to say “That one part is not quite right, let me explain again” in order to offer correction.\\nGive feedback: If something strikes you as a good idea, say “I agree that this is good, because…” If you are less certain of another part, say “I’m less certain about this part. Can you explain it again?” This allows you to collaborate and even nuance the information. Depending on the situation, your parents might even welcome suggestions or alternative ideas.\\nProbe for more information: when in doubt, ask questions to draw out elaboration, make distinctions, or clarify information. Make sure that you completely understand what you’ve been told and how will impact your behavior.\\nValidation: Remind your parents that that you appreciate them taking the time to offer guidance and instruction. Give hugs, make a card, say “Thank you.” Always demonstrate your gratitude for and appreciation of your parents.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay in the present.\", \"描述\": \"Although it can be tempting to remind our parents of mistakes they’ve made, unless it is key to your protection or health, resist the urge to dwell on the past.\\nForgive. Forgiveness is not a free pass. It doesn’t mean that mistakes that happened are ok or validated. But what it does mean is that you are willing to move on and love in spite of mistakes. That you accept your parents as human and, like you, not expected to be perfect.\\nRepair disagreements quickly. The longer a disagreement remains unresolved, the longer resentment builds and the more difficult it can be to make amends. Additionally, when we don’t resolve lingering issues with those closest to us, we build a pattern of behavior that will continue into future relationships as well—even those with our own children. For these reasons, it is best to repair damaged relationships quickly and develop the conflict resolution skills required to be a better person, daughter, and mother.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Dressing Perfectly
1-1. Build a classy wardrobe.
A key way of always looking feminine and chic is by wearing classic pieces that can help you create the perfect outfit and that are a really good fit for your body type. Here are a few essential wardrobe pieces for you to consider adding to your closet:
Have several pairs of jeans in a variety of styles to flawlessly bring you through the week. Be sure to have a great fitting pair of straight-leg and flare jeans to mix-up your style.
Invest in basic T-shirts, cozy sweaters, simple cardigans, and several blouses that you can wear for any occasion. These are simple pieces that can be mixed-and-matched to create many different outfits.
Be careful with most fashion trends. It may be better to resist the urge to buy something that is "in" style for the moment because you probably won't be wearing that piece come next year.
1-2. Keep your jewelry simple.
A good rule to remember is to remove one piece of jewelry before you leave the house. This will keep you from looking tacky and distracting from the rest of your outfit. Stick with diamond stud earrings, simple silver or gold chains with pendants, and delicate tennis bracelets.
Statement jewelry is a great way to dress up a basic outfit. Just be sure that if you do wear a larger necklace, big earrings, or bold bracelet, that it is the only piece of jewelry you wear.
1-3. Invest in the perfect black dress.
All girls know that wearing the "little black dress" is as close to flawless as a girl can get. However, not just any black dress will do, you have to find one that is special. Keep these tips in mind as you are picking out your perfect black dress:
Look for a dress that hits you around the knee, and one that has unique embellishments. The longer cut will allow you to wear it to any occasion for years to come, and the embellishments will set it apart. Detailing around the sleeve or waist are typically fabulous looks for everyone.
1-4. Wear great shoes.
Every girl trying to achieve perfection should have classic shoes for every season. When looking for shoes, try to find simple styles and colors that you can wear with any outfit. Here is some footwear you should consider for your closet:
Find several pairs of ballet flats that are comfy to wear. You should have a black and nude pair, along with a couple of pairs in fun colors.
For the fall and winter, have a black and brown pair of boots.
2. Looking Perfect
2-1. Practice good hygiene.
This will give you a fresh and clean base to work with so you can look and feel your best. Your hygiene is one of the first things that other people will notice about you, so it is important to maintain a clean lifestyle. Try working these steps into your daily routine:
Wash your body every day. Although it is not necessary to wash your hair every day, you should either take a bath or shower every day to keep good hygiene. If you shower in the morning and then find yourself getting dirty or sweaty later on in the day, take another shower. This will keep your skin clear and your body smelling good.
Use deodorant every morning. Regardless of what the day ahead has in store, always use deodorant. This will help you smell your best.
Brush your teeth every morning and every night before bed for two minutes. Oral hygiene will not only help you look your best, but it is also extremely important for your overall health. Along with brushing, be sure to floss and use mouthwash, and consider bringing your floss with your during the day to use after each meal.
2-2. Treat your skin carefully.
Clear, glowing skin is a great way to look amazing. Skin is very delicate, and it needs to be properly maintained, treated, and cleaned in order to stay healthy. Follow these tips to help your skin look its best:
Be extra careful with the delicate skin area around your eyes by never rubbing your eyes with your hands.
Use a quality facial moisturizer to keep your skin supple. Immediately after you wash your face or shower, you should apply a facial moisturizer to lock in moisture. Use a lighter moisturizer for mornings, and apply a heavier moisturizer before bed. Wash your face with warm water and face wash first (opens pores, lets vitamins in face wash sink in) and wash it with cold water after (closes the pores, so no bacteria can enter).
Wear sunscreen to protect your skin from drying out and becoming sunburned. Many face moisturizers have sunscreen in them so you can hydrate and protect your skin with one product.
Wash your face every morning and before bed to keep skin clear. After washing your face, pat it dry with a towel, and avoid tugging on your skin. You can use cleansers with salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide for skin that is experiencing breakouts. If you still can not achieve clear skin, consider seeing a dermatologist for professional help.
Do not squeeze or pick acne, pimple, or blackheads. This can scar your face and lead to more clogged pores.
2-3. Keep your hair in good health.
Your hair should display healthiness and good care every day. After you take a bath or shower, never brush your hair wet, as it will cause damage. Instead, use a wide-toothed comb and dry your hair either naturally or with cool air.
Keep your hair clean. Depending on your hair type, you may only need to wash your hair once every three days. Keep an eye on your hair, and once it starts to look greasy, treat it with shampoo and conditioner.
Use shampoo and conditioner that are tailored towards your hair type. For example, hair products are sold for thick, thin, curly, straight, and frizzy hair types to help give them the nourishment each type needs.
Trim your hair every 6-8 weeks to keep split ends away.
2-4. Care for your nails.
It is important not to overlook your fingernails or toenails as they can represent your overall hygiene. Keep your nails trimmed, or filed neatly. If you paint your nails, be sure that the paint fully covers your nails. When the paint starts to chip, touch them up with more polish, or remove the polish.
2-5. Eat a healthy diet
Eating foods that are good for you will keep you feeling and looking your best. Incorporating plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins into your diet is good for your whole body, inside and out. Eating nutrient-rich foods will also help your skin stay clear and glowing.
A typical female should be eating two servings of fruit and three servings of vegetables every day.
You need about three to five servings of whole grains each day.
It is recommended to get about 48 grams of protein each day.
2-6. Do not smoke.
Smoking cigarettes has an endless list of negative consequences including many health problems. Cigarette smoke causes your skin to dry out, wrinkle, and age faster. When trying to live perfectly, smoking should never be part of your lifestyle habits.
3. Acting Perfectly
3-1. Practice respect for everyone in your life.
You should always show a great attitude towards your family, teachers, friends, and everyone you meet. Even if you disagree with someone's views or behaviours, you can show respect by refraining from judgement or ill-treatment. Accepting different viewpoints shows your maturity. You should present yourself to everyone in a dignified and elegant way that will help you receive the respect from others that you give to them. Here are some methods you can practice:
Always say "please" and "thank you".
Never talk negatively about someone to others.
Treat others how you want to be treated.
3-2. Create self-esteem.
It is important to remember that nobody is perfect, and there will be times that you make mistakes, have regret, and find yourself in an "oops" moment. Making mistakes is part of being human. Instead of being overly critical of yourself, or bashing yourself to others, reflect on your mistakes, learn from them, and move on. Being critical of yourself should not be a part of your daily routine. If you say bad things about yourself to others, then you open the door for others to say bad things as well.
3-3. Develop strong values to live by.
Values are the guidelines that keep you grounded and prevent you from making poor decisions. They also feed into your reputation and are one way that other people develop an opinion about your character. They take a lifetime to build, but they can be damaged in a brief moment of poor decision making.
Listen to your parents, grandparents, or any person who is older and wiser than you when they offer up advice and insight on life. They can teach you how to avoid bad situations and make the best choices for your life.
Each time you are presented with peer pressure, or find yourself in a difficult decision-making moment, remember your values. Do not allow yourself to be tempted with bad decisions that you will be sure to regret later.
3-4. Be mature
When trying to get as close to perfect as possible, a major component is acting responsibly and being able to handle any situation that comes your way. This does not mean that you can't let go, and have fun, but you should also not make a fool out of yourself. Here are some tips to help you practice maturity:
Do not complain or whine if something does not go your way. Remember that life is not always fair, and you have to roll with the punches.
Know what your responsibilities are at home, at school, and to your friends and family. Mature people recognize their responsibilities and do their best to live up to them. This means helping out at home, being kind to your friends, and trying your best at school.
3-5. Appreciate your education.
Having intelligence is a part of being well-rounded. Focus in class, practice good study habits, set up a schedule for homework, and try to take a genuine interest in all of the knowledge you are lucky enough to learn.
Give your best self to school every day even when the going gets tough. Although you can't achieve absolute perfection, you can certainly try with an iron will and a smile.
Remember to be grateful to have the opportunity to learn. It may be difficult to learn that one subject, or be draining constantly studying, but knowledge is power, and it will take you far in life.
3-6. Display confidence.
A girl that is as close to perfect as someone can get is a girl that holds great confidence. Other people will see your high self-esteem and think that you must have your life altogether. Here are some great tips to help you act confidently:
Hold your shoulders back and your head held high. Your body language says a lot about you, and having strong body language communicates that you are capable and in-charge.
Smile and laugh as much as you can. Smiling is a great way to show you are comfortable in your own skin and glad to be alive, and laughing will spread joy to all those around you. People will be envious of your sense of humor.
Be optimistic by always looking at the bright side of all situations.
3-7. Practice humility.
Even if you are as close to perfect as a person can be, bragging is not attractive. It is okay to feel proud of your accomplishments, but try not to flaunt your successes in everyone's face. This can come across as rude, tacky, and disrespectful. Feel free to accept praise, and do not hide the things you work hard for, but do so with gratitude and appreciation.
For example, if you score the most points during a basketball game, it is okay to feel good about it, and accept compliments from other people. However, do not go around telling everyone about that you won the game for the team. This would be an example of bragging.
Give sincere compliments to others instead of competing with them. When you notice someone's success or hard work, let that person know with a sincere compliment. This will display your good character, and it will show that you're not intimidated by the success of others.
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Keep your jewelry simple.\\nA good rule to remember is to remove one piece of jewelry before you leave the house. This will keep you from looking tacky and distracting from the rest of your outfit. Stick with diamond stud earrings, simple silver or gold chains with pendants, and delicate tennis bracelets.\\nStatement jewelry is a great way to dress up a basic outfit. Just be sure that if you do wear a larger necklace, big earrings, or bold bracelet, that it is the only piece of jewelry you wear.\\n1-3. Invest in the perfect black dress.\\nAll girls know that wearing the \\\"little black dress\\\" is as close to flawless as a girl can get. However, not just any black dress will do, you have to find one that is special. Keep these tips in mind as you are picking out your perfect black dress:\\nLook for a dress that hits you around the knee, and one that has unique embellishments. The longer cut will allow you to wear it to any occasion for years to come, and the embellishments will set it apart. Detailing around the sleeve or waist are typically fabulous looks for everyone.\\n1-4. Wear great shoes.\\nEvery girl trying to achieve perfection should have classic shoes for every season. When looking for shoes, try to find simple styles and colors that you can wear with any outfit. Here is some footwear you should consider for your closet:\\nFind several pairs of ballet flats that are comfy to wear. You should have a black and nude pair, along with a couple of pairs in fun colors.\\nFor the fall and winter, have a black and brown pair of boots.\\n2. Looking Perfect\\n2-1. Practice good hygiene.\\nThis will give you a fresh and clean base to work with so you can look and feel your best. Your hygiene is one of the first things that other people will notice about you, so it is important to maintain a clean lifestyle. Try working these steps into your daily routine:\\nWash your body every day. Although it is not necessary to wash your hair every day, you should either take a bath or shower every day to keep good hygiene. If you shower in the morning and then find yourself getting dirty or sweaty later on in the day, take another shower. This will keep your skin clear and your body smelling good.\\nUse deodorant every morning. Regardless of what the day ahead has in store, always use deodorant. This will help you smell your best.\\nBrush your teeth every morning and every night before bed for two minutes. Oral hygiene will not only help you look your best, but it is also extremely important for your overall health. Along with brushing, be sure to floss and use mouthwash, and consider bringing your floss with your during the day to use after each meal.\\n2-2. Treat your skin carefully.\\nClear, glowing skin is a great way to look amazing. Skin is very delicate, and it needs to be properly maintained, treated, and cleaned in order to stay healthy. Follow these tips to help your skin look its best:\\nBe extra careful with the delicate skin area around your eyes by never rubbing your eyes with your hands.\\nUse a quality facial moisturizer to keep your skin supple. Immediately after you wash your face or shower, you should apply a facial moisturizer to lock in moisture. Use a lighter moisturizer for mornings, and apply a heavier moisturizer before bed. Wash your face with warm water and face wash first (opens pores, lets vitamins in face wash sink in) and wash it with cold water after (closes the pores, so no bacteria can enter).\\nWear sunscreen to protect your skin from drying out and becoming sunburned. Many face moisturizers have sunscreen in them so you can hydrate and protect your skin with one product.\\nWash your face every morning and before bed to keep skin clear. After washing your face, pat it dry with a towel, and avoid tugging on your skin. You can use cleansers with salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide for skin that is experiencing breakouts. If you still can not achieve clear skin, consider seeing a dermatologist for professional help. \\nDo not squeeze or pick acne, pimple, or blackheads. This can scar your face and lead to more clogged pores.\\n2-3. Keep your hair in good health.\\nYour hair should display healthiness and good care every day. After you take a bath or shower, never brush your hair wet, as it will cause damage. Instead, use a wide-toothed comb and dry your hair either naturally or with cool air.\\nKeep your hair clean. Depending on your hair type, you may only need to wash your hair once every three days. Keep an eye on your hair, and once it starts to look greasy, treat it with shampoo and conditioner.\\nUse shampoo and conditioner that are tailored towards your hair type. For example, hair products are sold for thick, thin, curly, straight, and frizzy hair types to help give them the nourishment each type needs.\\nTrim your hair every 6-8 weeks to keep split ends away.\\n2-4. Care for your nails.\\nIt is important not to overlook your fingernails or toenails as they can represent your overall hygiene. Keep your nails trimmed, or filed neatly. If you paint your nails, be sure that the paint fully covers your nails. When the paint starts to chip, touch them up with more polish, or remove the polish.\\n2-5. Eat a healthy diet\\nEating foods that are good for you will keep you feeling and looking your best. Incorporating plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins into your diet is good for your whole body, inside and out. Eating nutrient-rich foods will also help your skin stay clear and glowing.\\nA typical female should be eating two servings of fruit and three servings of vegetables every day.\\nYou need about three to five servings of whole grains each day.\\nIt is recommended to get about 48 grams of protein each day.\\n2-6. Do not smoke.\\nSmoking cigarettes has an endless list of negative consequences including many health problems. Cigarette smoke causes your skin to dry out, wrinkle, and age faster. When trying to live perfectly, smoking should never be part of your lifestyle habits.\\n3. Acting Perfectly\\n3-1. Practice respect for everyone in your life.\\nYou should always show a great attitude towards your family, teachers, friends, and everyone you meet. Even if you disagree with someone's views or behaviours, you can show respect by refraining from judgement or ill-treatment. Accepting different viewpoints shows your maturity. You should present yourself to everyone in a dignified and elegant way that will help you receive the respect from others that you give to them. Here are some methods you can practice:\\nAlways say \\\"please\\\" and \\\"thank you\\\".\\nNever talk negatively about someone to others.\\nTreat others how you want to be treated.\\n3-2. Create self-esteem.\\nIt is important to remember that nobody is perfect, and there will be times that you make mistakes, have regret, and find yourself in an \\\"oops\\\" moment. Making mistakes is part of being human. Instead of being overly critical of yourself, or bashing yourself to others, reflect on your mistakes, learn from them, and move on. Being critical of yourself should not be a part of your daily routine. If you say bad things about yourself to others, then you open the door for others to say bad things as well.\\n3-3. Develop strong values to live by.\\nValues are the guidelines that keep you grounded and prevent you from making poor decisions. They also feed into your reputation and are one way that other people develop an opinion about your character. They take a lifetime to build, but they can be damaged in a brief moment of poor decision making.\\nListen to your parents, grandparents, or any person who is older and wiser than you when they offer up advice and insight on life. They can teach you how to avoid bad situations and make the best choices for your life.\\nEach time you are presented with peer pressure, or find yourself in a difficult decision-making moment, remember your values. Do not allow yourself to be tempted with bad decisions that you will be sure to regret later.\\n3-4. Be mature\\nWhen trying to get as close to perfect as possible, a major component is acting responsibly and being able to handle any situation that comes your way. This does not mean that you can't let go, and have fun, but you should also not make a fool out of yourself. Here are some tips to help you practice maturity:\\nDo not complain or whine if something does not go your way. Remember that life is not always fair, and you have to roll with the punches.\\nKnow what your responsibilities are at home, at school, and to your friends and family. Mature people recognize their responsibilities and do their best to live up to them. This means helping out at home, being kind to your friends, and trying your best at school.\\n3-5. Appreciate your education.\\nHaving intelligence is a part of being well-rounded. Focus in class, practice good study habits, set up a schedule for homework, and try to take a genuine interest in all of the knowledge you are lucky enough to learn.\\nGive your best self to school every day even when the going gets tough. Although you can't achieve absolute perfection, you can certainly try with an iron will and a smile.\\nRemember to be grateful to have the opportunity to learn. It may be difficult to learn that one subject, or be draining constantly studying, but knowledge is power, and it will take you far in life.\\n3-6. Display confidence.\\nA girl that is as close to perfect as someone can get is a girl that holds great confidence. Other people will see your high self-esteem and think that you must have your life altogether. Here are some great tips to help you act confidently:\\nHold your shoulders back and your head held high. Your body language says a lot about you, and having strong body language communicates that you are capable and in-charge.\\nSmile and laugh as much as you can. Smiling is a great way to show you are comfortable in your own skin and glad to be alive, and laughing will spread joy to all those around you. People will be envious of your sense of humor.\\nBe optimistic by always looking at the bright side of all situations.\\n3-7. Practice humility.\\nEven if you are as close to perfect as a person can be, bragging is not attractive. It is okay to feel proud of your accomplishments, but try not to flaunt your successes in everyone's face. This can come across as rude, tacky, and disrespectful. Feel free to accept praise, and do not hide the things you work hard for, but do so with gratitude and appreciation.\\nFor example, if you score the most points during a basketball game, it is okay to feel good about it, and accept compliments from other people. However, do not go around telling everyone about that you won the game for the team. This would be an example of bragging.\\nGive sincere compliments to others instead of competing with them. When you notice someone's success or hard work, let that person know with a sincere compliment. This will display your good character, and it will show that you're not intimidated by the success of others.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Girls from all over the world set out to achieve perfection in their lives. Some want to act perfectly, while others want to have the perfect look. Although there is no way to achieve absolute perfection, there are steps you can take to getting as close to your perfect self as possible! On your journey to your best self, never forget that everyone is a unique individual, and everyone deserves to love themselves inside and out.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dressing Perfectly\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build a classy wardrobe.\", \"描述\": \"A key way of always looking feminine and chic is by wearing classic pieces that can help you create the perfect outfit and that are a really good fit for your body type. Here are a few essential wardrobe pieces for you to consider adding to your closet:\\nHave several pairs of jeans in a variety of styles to flawlessly bring you through the week. Be sure to have a great fitting pair of straight-leg and flare jeans to mix-up your style.\\nInvest in basic T-shirts, cozy sweaters, simple cardigans, and several blouses that you can wear for any occasion. These are simple pieces that can be mixed-and-matched to create many different outfits.\\nBe careful with most fashion trends. It may be better to resist the urge to buy something that is \\\"in\\\" style for the moment because you probably won't be wearing that piece come next year.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your jewelry simple.\", \"描述\": \"A good rule to remember is to remove one piece of jewelry before you leave the house. This will keep you from looking tacky and distracting from the rest of your outfit. Stick with diamond stud earrings, simple silver or gold chains with pendants, and delicate tennis bracelets.\\nStatement jewelry is a great way to dress up a basic outfit. Just be sure that if you do wear a larger necklace, big earrings, or bold bracelet, that it is the only piece of jewelry you wear.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Invest in the perfect black dress.\", \"描述\": \"All girls know that wearing the \\\"little black dress\\\" is as close to flawless as a girl can get. However, not just any black dress will do, you have to find one that is special. Keep these tips in mind as you are picking out your perfect black dress:\\nLook for a dress that hits you around the knee, and one that has unique embellishments. The longer cut will allow you to wear it to any occasion for years to come, and the embellishments will set it apart. Detailing around the sleeve or waist are typically fabulous looks for everyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear great shoes.\", \"描述\": \"Every girl trying to achieve perfection should have classic shoes for every season. When looking for shoes, try to find simple styles and colors that you can wear with any outfit. Here is some footwear you should consider for your closet:\\nFind several pairs of ballet flats that are comfy to wear. You should have a black and nude pair, along with a couple of pairs in fun colors.\\nFor the fall and winter, have a black and brown pair of boots.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Looking Perfect\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"This will give you a fresh and clean base to work with so you can look and feel your best. Your hygiene is one of the first things that other people will notice about you, so it is important to maintain a clean lifestyle. Try working these steps into your daily routine:\\nWash your body every day. Although it is not necessary to wash your hair every day, you should either take a bath or shower every day to keep good hygiene. If you shower in the morning and then find yourself getting dirty or sweaty later on in the day, take another shower. This will keep your skin clear and your body smelling good.\\nUse deodorant every morning. Regardless of what the day ahead has in store, always use deodorant. This will help you smell your best.\\nBrush your teeth every morning and every night before bed for two minutes. Oral hygiene will not only help you look your best, but it is also extremely important for your overall health. Along with brushing, be sure to floss and use mouthwash, and consider bringing your floss with your during the day to use after each meal.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Treat your skin carefully.\", \"描述\": \"Clear, glowing skin is a great way to look amazing. Skin is very delicate, and it needs to be properly maintained, treated, and cleaned in order to stay healthy. Follow these tips to help your skin look its best:\\nBe extra careful with the delicate skin area around your eyes by never rubbing your eyes with your hands.\\nUse a quality facial moisturizer to keep your skin supple. Immediately after you wash your face or shower, you should apply a facial moisturizer to lock in moisture. Use a lighter moisturizer for mornings, and apply a heavier moisturizer before bed. Wash your face with warm water and face wash first (opens pores, lets vitamins in face wash sink in) and wash it with cold water after (closes the pores, so no bacteria can enter).\\nWear sunscreen to protect your skin from drying out and becoming sunburned. Many face moisturizers have sunscreen in them so you can hydrate and protect your skin with one product.\\nWash your face every morning and before bed to keep skin clear. After washing your face, pat it dry with a towel, and avoid tugging on your skin. You can use cleansers with salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide for skin that is experiencing breakouts. If you still can not achieve clear skin, consider seeing a dermatologist for professional help. \\nDo not squeeze or pick acne, pimple, or blackheads. This can scar your face and lead to more clogged pores.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your hair in good health.\", \"描述\": \"Your hair should display healthiness and good care every day. After you take a bath or shower, never brush your hair wet, as it will cause damage. Instead, use a wide-toothed comb and dry your hair either naturally or with cool air.\\nKeep your hair clean. Depending on your hair type, you may only need to wash your hair once every three days. Keep an eye on your hair, and once it starts to look greasy, treat it with shampoo and conditioner.\\nUse shampoo and conditioner that are tailored towards your hair type. For example, hair products are sold for thick, thin, curly, straight, and frizzy hair types to help give them the nourishment each type needs.\\nTrim your hair every 6-8 weeks to keep split ends away.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Care for your nails.\", \"描述\": \"It is important not to overlook your fingernails or toenails as they can represent your overall hygiene. Keep your nails trimmed, or filed neatly. If you paint your nails, be sure that the paint fully covers your nails. When the paint starts to chip, touch them up with more polish, or remove the polish.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Eat a healthy diet\", \"描述\": \"Eating foods that are good for you will keep you feeling and looking your best. Incorporating plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins into your diet is good for your whole body, inside and out. Eating nutrient-rich foods will also help your skin stay clear and glowing.\\nA typical female should be eating two servings of fruit and three servings of vegetables every day.\\nYou need about three to five servings of whole grains each day.\\nIt is recommended to get about 48 grams of protein each day.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do not smoke.\", \"描述\": \"Smoking cigarettes has an endless list of negative consequences including many health problems. Cigarette smoke causes your skin to dry out, wrinkle, and age faster. When trying to live perfectly, smoking should never be part of your lifestyle habits.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Acting Perfectly\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice respect for everyone in your life.\", \"描述\": \"You should always show a great attitude towards your family, teachers, friends, and everyone you meet. Even if you disagree with someone's views or behaviours, you can show respect by refraining from judgement or ill-treatment. Accepting different viewpoints shows your maturity. You should present yourself to everyone in a dignified and elegant way that will help you receive the respect from others that you give to them. Here are some methods you can practice:\\nAlways say \\\"please\\\" and \\\"thank you\\\".\\nNever talk negatively about someone to others.\\nTreat others how you want to be treated.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create self-esteem.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to remember that nobody is perfect, and there will be times that you make mistakes, have regret, and find yourself in an \\\"oops\\\" moment. Making mistakes is part of being human. Instead of being overly critical of yourself, or bashing yourself to others, reflect on your mistakes, learn from them, and move on. Being critical of yourself should not be a part of your daily routine. If you say bad things about yourself to others, then you open the door for others to say bad things as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Develop strong values to live by.\", \"描述\": \"Values are the guidelines that keep you grounded and prevent you from making poor decisions. They also feed into your reputation and are one way that other people develop an opinion about your character. They take a lifetime to build, but they can be damaged in a brief moment of poor decision making.\\nListen to your parents, grandparents, or any person who is older and wiser than you when they offer up advice and insight on life. They can teach you how to avoid bad situations and make the best choices for your life.\\nEach time you are presented with peer pressure, or find yourself in a difficult decision-making moment, remember your values. Do not allow yourself to be tempted with bad decisions that you will be sure to regret later.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be mature\", \"描述\": \"When trying to get as close to perfect as possible, a major component is acting responsibly and being able to handle any situation that comes your way. This does not mean that you can't let go, and have fun, but you should also not make a fool out of yourself. Here are some tips to help you practice maturity:\\nDo not complain or whine if something does not go your way. Remember that life is not always fair, and you have to roll with the punches.\\nKnow what your responsibilities are at home, at school, and to your friends and family. Mature people recognize their responsibilities and do their best to live up to them. This means helping out at home, being kind to your friends, and trying your best at school.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Appreciate your education.\", \"描述\": \"Having intelligence is a part of being well-rounded. Focus in class, practice good study habits, set up a schedule for homework, and try to take a genuine interest in all of the knowledge you are lucky enough to learn.\\nGive your best self to school every day even when the going gets tough. Although you can't achieve absolute perfection, you can certainly try with an iron will and a smile.\\nRemember to be grateful to have the opportunity to learn. It may be difficult to learn that one subject, or be draining constantly studying, but knowledge is power, and it will take you far in life.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Display confidence.\", \"描述\": \"A girl that is as close to perfect as someone can get is a girl that holds great confidence. Other people will see your high self-esteem and think that you must have your life altogether. Here are some great tips to help you act confidently:\\nHold your shoulders back and your head held high. Your body language says a lot about you, and having strong body language communicates that you are capable and in-charge.\\nSmile and laugh as much as you can. Smiling is a great way to show you are comfortable in your own skin and glad to be alive, and laughing will spread joy to all those around you. People will be envious of your sense of humor.\\nBe optimistic by always looking at the bright side of all situations.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Practice humility.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you are as close to perfect as a person can be, bragging is not attractive. It is okay to feel proud of your accomplishments, but try not to flaunt your successes in everyone's face. This can come across as rude, tacky, and disrespectful. Feel free to accept praise, and do not hide the things you work hard for, but do so with gratitude and appreciation.\\nFor example, if you score the most points during a basketball game, it is okay to feel good about it, and accept compliments from other people. However, do not go around telling everyone about that you won the game for the team. This would be an example of bragging.\\nGive sincere compliments to others instead of competing with them. When you notice someone's success or hard work, let that person know with a sincere compliment. This will display your good character, and it will show that you're not intimidated by the success of others.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a Perfectionist
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1. Completely organize your room or house, and have everything aligned perfectly.
Tidy your room often.
You will no longer stress out at the last minute looking for something. Once every month, go through your room and look through the things that you don't need and throw them out. If you have a hard time with this, then every day before you go to school, make sure your floor is cleared and no clothes or anything is on there. Step by step you will get to a clean, organized room of sitting up, stretching, and getting out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off. If you can't get out of bed on time, you may be going to bed too late. Try sleeping earlier to allow yourself at least 8 hours sleep. By getting up late you are setting a pattern of lateness for the rest of the day.
2. Be punctual.
Always arrive at your destination at least 15 minutes before you are supposed to be there.
Wake up extra early. People will not take you seriously if you are late to things. You are letting people and their expectations down.
Don't rush. Leave your house early so you don't even risk getting a detention for being late to class, or so that you will not be late for work. When you plan out your day, plan it so that you don't have to rush. It is as simple as that.
Keep your watch accurate. For some people, moving up the time on their watch will help them be earlier. For others, they will subconsciously know that the time is wrong and so they just disregard it altogether. It may be helpful to set your watch just two minutes ahead instead of five or ten. This will make you less likely to factor in those extra few minutes.
3. Make to do lists.
Get a calendar/planner, and write all of the things that you have to do on that day, not just the important things; to a perfectionist, everything is important.
Make a to do list for your day. Your daily or immediate list should never be more than 5 items long, or else you're taking on too much and setting yourself up for failure. Mark one or two of those items as things you absolutely must get done that day, and pursue those tasks relentlessly until you get them done.
Make a to do list for the week. Appropriate items here would be: Grocery shopping, fix air conditioner, etc. Draw from this list to make your daily to-do list. A white board or board with erasable markers can help to remember all one has to do every day, or long term goals.
Make a to do list for the month. This list would have more general tasks like: Birthday gift to Jill, get car serviced, dentist appointment. Draw from this list to make your daily and weekly to-do list.
Make a to do list for your life. Drastic, yes, but why not use this time to rethink your life and where it's going? Being a perfectionist is all about priorities, and it never hurts to get your ducks in a row.
Follow through. There's no point in making a to-do list if you don't discipline yourself to complete the tasks you've assigned yourself. There are many ways to stick to your to-do list. Stop procrastinating, remove or ignore distractions, and hop to it.
If something keeps slipping to the bottom of your to-do list, take a good look at it. Is it really important? If so, get it over with, or at least get it started. If not, put it back in the long-term list for someday or get it off the list altogether. Don't let yourself get hung up on something for too long.
4. Pay attention to your demeanor and speech.
Have excellent grammar.
Be very polite. Hold a door for someone. Say please, thank you and I'm sorry whenever necessary, even if it is to a person you may not like very much.
Speak calmly. This shows politeness. If you talk very loudly, it will seem that you're desperate for attention. Being loud in public isn't just obnoxious, but also inconsiderate to the people around you. Listen to what people have to say and always make eye contact.
Act As If You're Constantly Watched. Anywhere you are, imagine your boyfriend, your boss, your mother watching you. If you are a perfectionist you are doing just as you should, but if you talk to yourself, smoke, slouch, eat like a pig, speed, swear, or lie would these people think of you differently? They would! And you should feel you need to change as well.
5. Have great hygiene.
If you want to act the part, you should look the part as well.
Be sure to iron your clothes. Dress for success, not like a slob. You will find that people will take you more seriously.
Take care of your skin. Skin should be well cared for and clear of imperfections. Wash your face everyday and remember to wear sunscreen or shade hats. Try to give yourself a mask facial once a week.
Maintain your nails. Clear coat on your fingernails; color or french pedicure on your toes. Don't let the skin around them get dry to the point that they crack, and stop biting your nails. If you polish them, go for a natural French manicure, clear polish, or even neutral, solid-colored polish (not bold, like red or blue or black). Don't let the polish chip off, and don't let your nails get too long. Nails should be in neutral colors and medium short in length on girls and trimmed short on boys.
6. Always be ready for everything.
Carry extra money with you.
If you have a cell phone, always make sure that it's fully charged. You never know when you will be stuck in a situation where you are stuck on your own. You will be very thankful that you brought your cell phone with you. A perfectionist cannot be perfect if they are unprepared!
7. Set high standards for yourself.[4]
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Expert Source
Carolyn Rubenstein, PhDLicensed Clinical Psychologist
Expert Interview. 9 September 2021.
Perfectionists are known to set impossibly high standards for themselves.
You want to set high standards, but not impossibly high if you would actually like to achieve them. Find out what works for you.
8. Take extra time to make everything around you perfect, starting with your schoolwork.
Pay attention to every little detail.
It will make you happy.
9. Do your best in school.
At school try to get a seat where you can clearly hear and see the teacher and chalkboard and pay attention.
A good goal to set for yourself is to try to get mostly A's in everything you do at school including homework.
Take notes, study for that test, focus, but most of all come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much, after all, that's not what school is for.
Try to join extracurricular activities but only if you know it will not bring your grades down.
Follow school rules. There's a reason why they've been set in place. By following rules, not only do you avoid getting in trouble, but troublemakers are often though less of, so you'll look like a better person. To be a perfectionist, you have to be a perfect student!
10. At home, try your best to please your parents.
i.e.
go to bed on time, offer to wash the dishes, bring in the groceries, teach your little brother how to tie his shoes, etc. No matter how tempting it is, if you know there's something you should be doing (no matter how badly you don't want to do it), do it!
Create a chore chart for yourself. Once you have organized your space, make a list of a few small chores to do each day to help you keep up with your organization.
11. Have good personal style.
Girls should dress neatly and appropriately. Any style can work for a perfectionist, just remember to pay attention to detail. Wearing quality, classic clothes is your best bet. Follow your school's dress code!
For boys try to wear things such as t-shirts with checks, and fabric pants, and, just like the girls, wear items that look crisp and fresh and are well coordinated. And, no matter your gender, always follow your school's dress code.
12. Have good hygiene.[7]
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Research source
Remember to always be clean: run a comb through your hair, keep your nails dirt-free and neat, brush your teeth and bath/shower.
When spraying perfume, be sure to use just enough, but not too much. Excessive use of perfume isn't attractive and does not improve your hygiene, despite popular belief.
Never have greasy hair. Use dry shampoo, if you do not have time to wash it.
Maintain your nails. Clear coat on your fingernails; color or french pedicure on your toes. Don't let the skin around them get dry to the point that they crack, and stop biting your nails. If you polish them, go for a natural French manicure, clear polish, or even neutral, solid-colored polish (not bold, like red or blue or black). Don't let the polish chip off, and don't let your nails get too long. Nails should be in neutral colors and medium short in length on girls and trimmed short on boys.
Tips
It's a good idea to carry a notepad and pen with you at all times so you can write things down as they come to you (usually at the most inconvenient times, which is why they're so promptly forgotten). If you're worried about fitting a notepad in your pants pocket, don't be. Check bookstores and office supply centers to find a notepad slim enough for any pocket. Of course, if your planner is compact enough, it can serve this purpose as well. Another idea would be to have a PDA, Blackberry or palm Pilot. Some cell phones have notification or note-taking menus. If you are using one of those, they may be practical too. As a last resort, call your own phone number and leave yourself a voice mail.
If you have a phone, try saving all of your important dates and everything else in it.
Post-it notes are your friend. Put them in nifty spots as reminders. For example, if you know you need to wash your car, then put a post-it note on your steering wheel so that next time you get in your car, you remember to get it done. Other good spots for post-it notes are doorknobs, mirrors, and PC monitors (the borders, not the actual screen).
Warnings
Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Let loose! We are put on this planet to be happy, and you should never do things that bring you down.
Try not to be overly critical of yourself on this journey.[8]
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Expert Source
Carolyn Rubenstein, PhDLicensed Clinical Psychologist
Expert Interview. 9 September 2021.
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You are letting people and their expectations down.\\nDon't rush. Leave your house early so you don't even risk getting a detention for being late to class, or so that you will not be late for work. When you plan out your day, plan it so that you don't have to rush. It is as simple as that.\\nKeep your watch accurate. For some people, moving up the time on their watch will help them be earlier. For others, they will subconsciously know that the time is wrong and so they just disregard it altogether. It may be helpful to set your watch just two minutes ahead instead of five or ten. This will make you less likely to factor in those extra few minutes.\\n3. Make to do lists.\\nGet a calendar/planner, and write all of the things that you have to do on that day, not just the important things; to a perfectionist, everything is important.\\nMake a to do list for your day. 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There's no point in making a to-do list if you don't discipline yourself to complete the tasks you've assigned yourself. There are many ways to stick to your to-do list. Stop procrastinating, remove or ignore distractions, and hop to it.\\nIf something keeps slipping to the bottom of your to-do list, take a good look at it. Is it really important? If so, get it over with, or at least get it started. If not, put it back in the long-term list for someday or get it off the list altogether. Don't let yourself get hung up on something for too long.\\n4. Pay attention to your demeanor and speech.\\n\\nHave excellent grammar.\\nBe very polite. Hold a door for someone. Say please, thank you and I'm sorry whenever necessary, even if it is to a person you may not like very much.\\nSpeak calmly. This shows politeness. If you talk very loudly, it will seem that you're desperate for attention. Being loud in public isn't just obnoxious, but also inconsiderate to the people around you. 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Don't let the skin around them get dry to the point that they crack, and stop biting your nails. If you polish them, go for a natural French manicure, clear polish, or even neutral, solid-colored polish (not bold, like red or blue or black). Don't let the polish chip off, and don't let your nails get too long. Nails should be in neutral colors and medium short in length on girls and trimmed short on boys.\\n6. Always be ready for everything.\\nCarry extra money with you.\\nIf you have a cell phone, always make sure that it's fully charged. You never know when you will be stuck in a situation where you are stuck on your own. You will be very thankful that you brought your cell phone with you. A perfectionist cannot be perfect if they are unprepared!\\n7. Set high standards for yourself.[4]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nCarolyn Rubenstein, PhDLicensed Clinical Psychologist\\nExpert Interview. 9 September 2021.\\nPerfectionists are known to set impossibly high standards for themselves.\\nYou want to set high standards, but not impossibly high if you would actually like to achieve them. Find out what works for you.\\n8. Take extra time to make everything around you perfect, starting with your schoolwork.\\nPay attention to every little detail.\\nIt will make you happy.\\n9. Do your best in school.\\n\\nAt school try to get a seat where you can clearly hear and see the teacher and chalkboard and pay attention.\\nA good goal to set for yourself is to try to get mostly A's in everything you do at school including homework.\\nTake notes, study for that test, focus, but most of all come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much, after all, that's not what school is for.\\nTry to join extracurricular activities but only if you know it will not bring your grades down.\\nFollow school rules. There's a reason why they've been set in place. By following rules, not only do you avoid getting in trouble, but troublemakers are often though less of, so you'll look like a better person. To be a perfectionist, you have to be a perfect student!\\n10. At home, try your best to please your parents.\\ni.e.\\ngo to bed on time, offer to wash the dishes, bring in the groceries, teach your little brother how to tie his shoes, etc. No matter how tempting it is, if you know there's something you should be doing (no matter how badly you don't want to do it), do it!\\nCreate a chore chart for yourself. Once you have organized your space, make a list of a few small chores to do each day to help you keep up with your organization.\\n11. Have good personal style.\\n\\nGirls should dress neatly and appropriately. Any style can work for a perfectionist, just remember to pay attention to detail. Wearing quality, classic clothes is your best bet. Follow your school's dress code!\\nFor boys try to wear things such as t-shirts with checks, and fabric pants, and, just like the girls, wear items that look crisp and fresh and are well coordinated. And, no matter your gender, always follow your school's dress code.\\n12. Have good hygiene.[7]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\nRemember to always be clean: run a comb through your hair, keep your nails dirt-free and neat, brush your teeth and bath/shower.\\nWhen spraying perfume, be sure to use just enough, but not too much. Excessive use of perfume isn't attractive and does not improve your hygiene, despite popular belief.\\nNever have greasy hair. Use dry shampoo, if you do not have time to wash it.\\nMaintain your nails. Clear coat on your fingernails; color or french pedicure on your toes. Don't let the skin around them get dry to the point that they crack, and stop biting your nails. If you polish them, go for a natural French manicure, clear polish, or even neutral, solid-colored polish (not bold, like red or blue or black). Don't let the polish chip off, and don't let your nails get too long. Nails should be in neutral colors and medium short in length on girls and trimmed short on boys.\\nTips\\nIt's a good idea to carry a notepad and pen with you at all times so you can write things down as they come to you (usually at the most inconvenient times, which is why they're so promptly forgotten). If you're worried about fitting a notepad in your pants pocket, don't be. Check bookstores and office supply centers to find a notepad slim enough for any pocket. Of course, if your planner is compact enough, it can serve this purpose as well. Another idea would be to have a PDA, Blackberry or palm Pilot. Some cell phones have notification or note-taking menus. If you are using one of those, they may be practical too. As a last resort, call your own phone number and leave yourself a voice mail.\\nIf you have a phone, try saving all of your important dates and everything else in it.\\nPost-it notes are your friend. Put them in nifty spots as reminders. For example, if you know you need to wash your car, then put a post-it note on your steering wheel so that next time you get in your car, you remember to get it done. Other good spots for post-it notes are doorknobs, mirrors, and PC monitors (the borders, not the actual screen).\\nWarnings\\nDon't put too much pressure on yourself. Let loose! We are put on this planet to be happy, and you should never do things that bring you down.\\nTry not to be overly critical of yourself on this journey.[8]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nCarolyn Rubenstein, PhDLicensed Clinical Psychologist\\nExpert Interview. 9 September 2021.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Ever wanted to be perfect in almost every way? Unfortunately, no one will probably ever achieve true perfection but you can come as close as possible without harming your health. Start at step one to start being responsible and become as perfect as possible.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Completely organize your room or house, and have everything aligned perfectly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tidy your room often.\", \"描述\": \"You will no longer stress out at the last minute looking for something. Once every month, go through your room and look through the things that you don't need and throw them out. If you have a hard time with this, then every day before you go to school, make sure your floor is cleared and no clothes or anything is on there. Step by step you will get to a clean, organized room of sitting up, stretching, and getting out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off. If you can't get out of bed on time, you may be going to bed too late. Try sleeping earlier to allow yourself at least 8 hours sleep. By getting up late you are setting a pattern of lateness for the rest of the day.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be punctual.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Always arrive at your destination at least 15 minutes before you are supposed to be there.\", \"描述\": \"Wake up extra early. People will not take you seriously if you are late to things. You are letting people and their expectations down.\\nDon't rush. Leave your house early so you don't even risk getting a detention for being late to class, or so that you will not be late for work. When you plan out your day, plan it so that you don't have to rush. It is as simple as that.\\nKeep your watch accurate. For some people, moving up the time on their watch will help them be earlier. For others, they will subconsciously know that the time is wrong and so they just disregard it altogether. It may be helpful to set your watch just two minutes ahead instead of five or ten. This will make you less likely to factor in those extra few minutes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make to do lists.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a calendar/planner, and write all of the things that you have to do on that day, not just the important things; to a perfectionist, everything is important.\", \"描述\": \"Make a to do list for your day. Your daily or immediate list should never be more than 5 items long, or else you're taking on too much and setting yourself up for failure. Mark one or two of those items as things you absolutely must get done that day, and pursue those tasks relentlessly until you get them done.\\nMake a to do list for the week. Appropriate items here would be: Grocery shopping, fix air conditioner, etc. Draw from this list to make your daily to-do list. A white board or board with erasable markers can help to remember all one has to do every day, or long term goals.\\nMake a to do list for the month. This list would have more general tasks like: Birthday gift to Jill, get car serviced, dentist appointment. Draw from this list to make your daily and weekly to-do list.\\nMake a to do list for your life. Drastic, yes, but why not use this time to rethink your life and where it's going? Being a perfectionist is all about priorities, and it never hurts to get your ducks in a row.\\nFollow through. There's no point in making a to-do list if you don't discipline yourself to complete the tasks you've assigned yourself. There are many ways to stick to your to-do list. Stop procrastinating, remove or ignore distractions, and hop to it.\\nIf something keeps slipping to the bottom of your to-do list, take a good look at it. Is it really important? If so, get it over with, or at least get it started. If not, put it back in the long-term list for someday or get it off the list altogether. Don't let yourself get hung up on something for too long.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to your demeanor and speech.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"\", \"描述\": \"Have excellent grammar.\\nBe very polite. Hold a door for someone. Say please, thank you and I'm sorry whenever necessary, even if it is to a person you may not like very much.\\nSpeak calmly. This shows politeness. If you talk very loudly, it will seem that you're desperate for attention. Being loud in public isn't just obnoxious, but also inconsiderate to the people around you. Listen to what people have to say and always make eye contact.\\nAct As If You're Constantly Watched. Anywhere you are, imagine your boyfriend, your boss, your mother watching you. If you are a perfectionist you are doing just as you should, but if you talk to yourself, smoke, slouch, eat like a pig, speed, swear, or lie would these people think of you differently? They would! And you should feel you need to change as well.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have great hygiene.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you want to act the part, you should look the part as well.\", \"描述\": \"Be sure to iron your clothes. Dress for success, not like a slob. You will find that people will take you more seriously.\\n\\nTake care of your skin. Skin should be well cared for and clear of imperfections. Wash your face everyday and remember to wear sunscreen or shade hats. Try to give yourself a mask facial once a week.\\nMaintain your nails. Clear coat on your fingernails; color or french pedicure on your toes. Don't let the skin around them get dry to the point that they crack, and stop biting your nails. If you polish them, go for a natural French manicure, clear polish, or even neutral, solid-colored polish (not bold, like red or blue or black). Don't let the polish chip off, and don't let your nails get too long. Nails should be in neutral colors and medium short in length on girls and trimmed short on boys.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Always be ready for everything.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Carry extra money with you.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a cell phone, always make sure that it's fully charged. You never know when you will be stuck in a situation where you are stuck on your own. You will be very thankful that you brought your cell phone with you. A perfectionist cannot be perfect if they are unprepared!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Set high standards for yourself.[4]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nCarolyn Rubenstein, PhDLicensed Clinical Psychologist\\nExpert Interview. 9 September 2021.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Perfectionists are known to set impossibly high standards for themselves.\", \"描述\": \"You want to set high standards, but not impossibly high if you would actually like to achieve them. Find out what works for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Take extra time to make everything around you perfect, starting with your schoolwork.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to every little detail.\", \"描述\": \"It will make you happy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Do your best in school.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"\", \"描述\": \"At school try to get a seat where you can clearly hear and see the teacher and chalkboard and pay attention.\\nA good goal to set for yourself is to try to get mostly A's in everything you do at school including homework.\\nTake notes, study for that test, focus, but most of all come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much, after all, that's not what school is for.\\nTry to join extracurricular activities but only if you know it will not bring your grades down.\\nFollow school rules. There's a reason why they've been set in place. By following rules, not only do you avoid getting in trouble, but troublemakers are often though less of, so you'll look like a better person. To be a perfectionist, you have to be a perfect student!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"At home, try your best to please your parents.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"i.e.\", \"描述\": \"go to bed on time, offer to wash the dishes, bring in the groceries, teach your little brother how to tie his shoes, etc. No matter how tempting it is, if you know there's something you should be doing (no matter how badly you don't want to do it), do it!\\nCreate a chore chart for yourself. Once you have organized your space, make a list of a few small chores to do each day to help you keep up with your organization.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Have good personal style.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"\", \"描述\": \"Girls should dress neatly and appropriately. Any style can work for a perfectionist, just remember to pay attention to detail. Wearing quality, classic clothes is your best bet. Follow your school's dress code!\\nFor boys try to wear things such as t-shirts with checks, and fabric pants, and, just like the girls, wear items that look crisp and fresh and are well coordinated. And, no matter your gender, always follow your school's dress code.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Have good hygiene.[7]\\nX\\nResearch source\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"\", \"描述\": \"Remember to always be clean: run a comb through your hair, keep your nails dirt-free and neat, brush your teeth and bath/shower.\\nWhen spraying perfume, be sure to use just enough, but not too much. Excessive use of perfume isn't attractive and does not improve your hygiene, despite popular belief.\\nNever have greasy hair. Use dry shampoo, if you do not have time to wash it.\\nMaintain your nails. Clear coat on your fingernails; color or french pedicure on your toes. 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How to Be a Physically Attractive Woman
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1. Adding to Your Natural Beauty
1-1. Wear red.
Perhaps there’s a reason we associate the color red with things like “lust” and “passion.” Several studies have shown that men are more attracted to women wearing the color red. It’s pretty safe to say that red is a good color to wear on a first date.
1-2. Wear clothes that accentuate your shape.
Regardless of your body shape, wear clothing that flatters your figure. This will not only help you strut with confidence, it will give you an opportunity to flaunt your feminine contours. Wear outfits that fit snugly but not too tight. Avoid clothes that are too big.
1-3. Wear makeup.
Studies have shown that men are more likely to approach women who are wearing makeup.
Makeup helps you look attractive because it enhances certain markers for beauty. High cheekbones, large eyes, smooth skin, and a small nose are all features you can highlight with makeup.
Wear red lipstick. If you don’t want to wear it all the time, wear it when you dress up to go out.
Put focus on your eyes. Wear eyeliner, shadow, and mascara that flatter your natural eye color and shape.
Make your makeup look as natural as possible. Most people prefer a “natural” look to someone wearing an overabundance of makeup. It shouldn’t look like you put too much effort into it.
1-4. Smell good.
If you catch the attention of someone with a perfume or cologne that someone finds particularly pleasant you’re off to a good start. The sense of smell is a powerful tool of attraction.
1-5. Grow out your hair.
If you can get away with sporting long locks, go for it. Studies have shown that longer hair is generally preferred over short hair, because it is a cue of the feminine gender. Some women can pull off short hair really well, but long hair tends to be more popular as a marker of attractiveness.
1-6. Smile often.
If you don’t already smile a lot, make it a habit of smiling more. Flaunt your healthy white teeth and show the world how happy you are.
2. Having an Attractive Attitude
2-1. Be confident.
How do you expect others to see you in a favorable way if you don’t see yourself in a favorable way? Having self-esteem begins with confidence. Being comfortable in your own skin is attractive because you know who you are. You don’t need to demean or compete with others to get ahead in life. People find that quality attractive.
Discover who you are. Once you have that under control, hang on to it and don’t be afraid to let the world know. Having a firm grasp on your own sense of self will go a long way when it comes to making you attractive.
Practice positive affirmations. They work. List things about yourself that you love and revisit them once in a while.
Be careful not to brag or tip over into the realm of arrogance. Few people find arrogance attractive.
2-2. Be happy.
There has been a lot of research showing that people who are happy are more attractive (and attractive people are happier).
Practice gratitude and forgiveness. These two things will boost your happiness.
Focus on the relationships in your life. Relationships have shown to be one of the most important influencers of happiness. Spend time with trusted friends and family.
Think positively. When negative thoughts enter your mind, kick them out. If this is something you struggle with, you might look into cognitive behavioral methods.
2-3. Be kind.
Some studies have shown that people who are kind or agreeable are more attractive. Their attractiveness can even improve over time just based on their personality.
2-4. Be assertive.
If you want someone to like you (or find you attractive), let them know. Studies have shown that we tend to like people who like us. If you show interest in someone, they'll more likely be attracted to you if you show interest in them first.
2-5. Have a sense of humor.
A sense of humor makes you attractive for more than one reason.
Having a sense of humor makes you easier to be around. That’s an attractive quality to have.
Laughter releases a chemical called Serotonin, which is the cause of our good moods. Helping people laugh puts them in a good mood, and they have you to thank for that.
3. Staying in Shape
3-1. Get exercise.
Scientific studies have shown that one of the strongest traits of physical attractiveness is a healthy BMI (Body Mass Index). Your BMI is the amount of fat on your body in relation to your height and weight.
You can maintain a healthy BMI by making sure you get regular exercise. Good exercise can include aerobic training, strength training, sports, or outdoor activities. Anything that gets your heart rate elevated.
A good rule of thumb is to exercise for at least a half-hour a day, five days a week. If you want to pump up the intensity, then exercise at least a half hour a day more rigorously, three days a week.
3-2. Eat healthy.
Being healthy requires more than just exercise. A well-balanced diet is a crucial part of being healthy. Eating healthy keeps you fit and makes it easier for you to feel good.
Drinking a lot of water will do great things for your skin.
Cut out as much processed food and high-fructose corn syrup as you can.
Eat foods high in carotenoids. One study showed that people who eat high- carotenoid diets are more attractive. Some foods that are high in carotenoids are sweet potatoes, carrots, butternut squash, and sweet red peppers.
3-3. Maintain good hygiene.
To be physically attractive, you should make a daily effort to keep your hygiene in good health.
Brushing your teeth will help keep them white. One study showed that whiter teeth can make people look 20% more attractive. Teeth whitening procedures can help keep those pearls white if brushing does not do the trick.
Wash your face. Clear skin is a universal sign of attractiveness. Keeping your skin clean shows you care about your health. It also reduces the chances that you’ll have blemishes like blackheads or pimples.
Keep your hair clean and conditioned. Shiny hair is a sign of health and fertility., which is the driving force of attraction.
3-4. Get enough sleep.
Getting at least six to eight hours of sleep every night will bring a variety of benefits to your life, many of which result in your attractiveness.
It’s good for your health, in general. Your body repairs and heals itself while you sleep. This is especially important if you exercise. Getting enough sleep also decreases obesity and illness.
You’ll have better emotional health. Getting more sleep leads to less stress and better mood regulation. Nobody finds stress attractive. In general, happy people are more attractive.
Sleeping more leads to a better memory and clearer thinking. Looks aren’t everything, and you want to be able to keep up in conversation. To be the best version of yourself and have a clear mind, it’s best to catch those Zs the night before.
3-5. Get a tan.
Studies have shown that people who are tan are more attractive. Tanning also raises your risk of skin cancer (especially indoor tanning), so exercise caution.
A theory for this phenomenon is that the vitamin D you get from tanning represents health.
A tan body shows off muscle better than a fairer body because you can see the shadows cast by the muscles.
Tips
Women are more attractive when they’re fertile. Go out more often during your most fertile days of your cycle; people will pick up on it.[33]
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Trustworthy Source
PubMed Central
Journal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health
Go to source
Keep a positive attitude. Many people worry about their physical appearance -- you're not the only one!
Decide which of the methods to focus on first, and then move to the next. It might be a lot of work to do all three at once.
Warnings
Don't try to change yourself into someone you're not. Everyone is attractive in their own way and you've got to work with what you've got.
Don’t over tan. Consult a physician to discuss your tanning goals before you start a tanning regimen.
Anorexia and Bulimia are serious medical conditions. Health is attractive, and eating disorders are not healthy. If you have an eating disorder, seek professional medical attention.
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If you don’t want to wear it all the time, wear it when you dress up to go out.\\nPut focus on your eyes. Wear eyeliner, shadow, and mascara that flatter your natural eye color and shape.\\nMake your makeup look as natural as possible. Most people prefer a “natural” look to someone wearing an overabundance of makeup. It shouldn’t look like you put too much effort into it.\\n1-4. Smell good.\\nIf you catch the attention of someone with a perfume or cologne that someone finds particularly pleasant you’re off to a good start. The sense of smell is a powerful tool of attraction.\\n1-5. Grow out your hair.\\nIf you can get away with sporting long locks, go for it. Studies have shown that longer hair is generally preferred over short hair, because it is a cue of the feminine gender. Some women can pull off short hair really well, but long hair tends to be more popular as a marker of attractiveness.\\n1-6. Smile often.\\nIf you don’t already smile a lot, make it a habit of smiling more. Flaunt your healthy white teeth and show the world how happy you are.\\n2. Having an Attractive Attitude\\n2-1. Be confident.\\nHow do you expect others to see you in a favorable way if you don’t see yourself in a favorable way? Having self-esteem begins with confidence. Being comfortable in your own skin is attractive because you know who you are. You don’t need to demean or compete with others to get ahead in life. People find that quality attractive.\\nDiscover who you are. Once you have that under control, hang on to it and don’t be afraid to let the world know. Having a firm grasp on your own sense of self will go a long way when it comes to making you attractive.\\nPractice positive affirmations. They work. List things about yourself that you love and revisit them once in a while.\\nBe careful not to brag or tip over into the realm of arrogance. Few people find arrogance attractive.\\n2-2. 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One study showed that whiter teeth can make people look 20% more attractive. Teeth whitening procedures can help keep those pearls white if brushing does not do the trick.\\nWash your face. Clear skin is a universal sign of attractiveness. Keeping your skin clean shows you care about your health. It also reduces the chances that you’ll have blemishes like blackheads or pimples.\\nKeep your hair clean and conditioned. Shiny hair is a sign of health and fertility., which is the driving force of attraction.\\n3-4. Get enough sleep.\\nGetting at least six to eight hours of sleep every night will bring a variety of benefits to your life, many of which result in your attractiveness.\\nIt’s good for your health, in general. Your body repairs and heals itself while you sleep. This is especially important if you exercise. Getting enough sleep also decreases obesity and illness.\\nYou’ll have better emotional health. Getting more sleep leads to less stress and better mood regulation. Nobody finds stress attractive. In general, happy people are more attractive.\\nSleeping more leads to a better memory and clearer thinking. Looks aren’t everything, and you want to be able to keep up in conversation. To be the best version of yourself and have a clear mind, it’s best to catch those Zs the night before.\\n3-5. Get a tan.\\nStudies have shown that people who are tan are more attractive. Tanning also raises your risk of skin cancer (especially indoor tanning), so exercise caution.\\nA theory for this phenomenon is that the vitamin D you get from tanning represents health.\\nA tan body shows off muscle better than a fairer body because you can see the shadows cast by the muscles.\\nTips\\nWomen are more attractive when they’re fertile. Go out more often during your most fertile days of your cycle; people will pick up on it.[33]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nPubMed Central\\nJournal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health\\nGo to source\\nKeep a positive attitude. Many people worry about their physical appearance -- you're not the only one!\\nDecide which of the methods to focus on first, and then move to the next. It might be a lot of work to do all three at once.\\nWarnings\\nDon't try to change yourself into someone you're not. Everyone is attractive in their own way and you've got to work with what you've got.\\nDon’t over tan. Consult a physician to discuss your tanning goals before you start a tanning regimen.\\nAnorexia and Bulimia are serious medical conditions. Health is attractive, and eating disorders are not healthy. If you have an eating disorder, seek professional medical attention.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you looking to catch the attention of more men? Look no further. There has been a lot of research to find out what makes a woman physically attractive. It turns out there are some tried and true markers of attractiveness, many of which are universal. You can adopt these traits by making small changes, to make sure you are looking your best all the time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Adding to Your Natural Beauty\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear red.\", \"描述\": \"Perhaps there’s a reason we associate the color red with things like “lust” and “passion.” Several studies have shown that men are more attracted to women wearing the color red. It’s pretty safe to say that red is a good color to wear on a first date.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear clothes that accentuate your shape.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of your body shape, wear clothing that flatters your figure. This will not only help you strut with confidence, it will give you an opportunity to flaunt your feminine contours. Wear outfits that fit snugly but not too tight. Avoid clothes that are too big.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Studies have shown that men are more likely to approach women who are wearing makeup.\\nMakeup helps you look attractive because it enhances certain markers for beauty. High cheekbones, large eyes, smooth skin, and a small nose are all features you can highlight with makeup.\\nWear red lipstick. If you don’t want to wear it all the time, wear it when you dress up to go out.\\nPut focus on your eyes. Wear eyeliner, shadow, and mascara that flatter your natural eye color and shape.\\nMake your makeup look as natural as possible. Most people prefer a “natural” look to someone wearing an overabundance of makeup. It shouldn’t look like you put too much effort into it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Smell good.\", \"描述\": \"If you catch the attention of someone with a perfume or cologne that someone finds particularly pleasant you’re off to a good start. The sense of smell is a powerful tool of attraction.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Grow out your hair.\", \"描述\": \"If you can get away with sporting long locks, go for it. Studies have shown that longer hair is generally preferred over short hair, because it is a cue of the feminine gender. Some women can pull off short hair really well, but long hair tends to be more popular as a marker of attractiveness.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Smile often.\", \"描述\": \"If you don’t already smile a lot, make it a habit of smiling more. Flaunt your healthy white teeth and show the world how happy you are.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Having an Attractive Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be confident.\", \"描述\": \"How do you expect others to see you in a favorable way if you don’t see yourself in a favorable way? Having self-esteem begins with confidence. Being comfortable in your own skin is attractive because you know who you are. You don’t need to demean or compete with others to get ahead in life. People find that quality attractive.\\nDiscover who you are. Once you have that under control, hang on to it and don’t be afraid to let the world know. Having a firm grasp on your own sense of self will go a long way when it comes to making you attractive.\\nPractice positive affirmations. They work. List things about yourself that you love and revisit them once in a while.\\nBe careful not to brag or tip over into the realm of arrogance. Few people find arrogance attractive.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be happy.\", \"描述\": \"There has been a lot of research showing that people who are happy are more attractive (and attractive people are happier).\\nPractice gratitude and forgiveness. These two things will boost your happiness.\\nFocus on the relationships in your life. Relationships have shown to be one of the most important influencers of happiness. Spend time with trusted friends and family.\\nThink positively. When negative thoughts enter your mind, kick them out. If this is something you struggle with, you might look into cognitive behavioral methods.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be kind.\", \"描述\": \"Some studies have shown that people who are kind or agreeable are more attractive. Their attractiveness can even improve over time just based on their personality.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be assertive.\", \"描述\": \"If you want someone to like you (or find you attractive), let them know. Studies have shown that we tend to like people who like us. If you show interest in someone, they'll more likely be attracted to you if you show interest in them first.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have a sense of humor.\", \"描述\": \"A sense of humor makes you attractive for more than one reason.\\nHaving a sense of humor makes you easier to be around. That’s an attractive quality to have.\\nLaughter releases a chemical called Serotonin, which is the cause of our good moods. Helping people laugh puts them in a good mood, and they have you to thank for that.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Staying in Shape\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get exercise.\", \"描述\": \"Scientific studies have shown that one of the strongest traits of physical attractiveness is a healthy BMI (Body Mass Index). Your BMI is the amount of fat on your body in relation to your height and weight.\\nYou can maintain a healthy BMI by making sure you get regular exercise. Good exercise can include aerobic training, strength training, sports, or outdoor activities. Anything that gets your heart rate elevated.\\nA good rule of thumb is to exercise for at least a half-hour a day, five days a week. If you want to pump up the intensity, then exercise at least a half hour a day more rigorously, three days a week.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Eat healthy.\", \"描述\": \"Being healthy requires more than just exercise. A well-balanced diet is a crucial part of being healthy. Eating healthy keeps you fit and makes it easier for you to feel good.\\nDrinking a lot of water will do great things for your skin.\\nCut out as much processed food and high-fructose corn syrup as you can.\\nEat foods high in carotenoids. One study showed that people who eat high- carotenoid diets are more attractive. Some foods that are high in carotenoids are sweet potatoes, carrots, butternut squash, and sweet red peppers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintain good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"To be physically attractive, you should make a daily effort to keep your hygiene in good health.\\nBrushing your teeth will help keep them white. One study showed that whiter teeth can make people look 20% more attractive. Teeth whitening procedures can help keep those pearls white if brushing does not do the trick.\\nWash your face. Clear skin is a universal sign of attractiveness. Keeping your skin clean shows you care about your health. It also reduces the chances that you’ll have blemishes like blackheads or pimples.\\nKeep your hair clean and conditioned. Shiny hair is a sign of health and fertility., which is the driving force of attraction.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep.\", \"描述\": \"Getting at least six to eight hours of sleep every night will bring a variety of benefits to your life, many of which result in your attractiveness.\\nIt’s good for your health, in general. Your body repairs and heals itself while you sleep. This is especially important if you exercise. Getting enough sleep also decreases obesity and illness.\\nYou’ll have better emotional health. Getting more sleep leads to less stress and better mood regulation. Nobody finds stress attractive. In general, happy people are more attractive.\\nSleeping more leads to a better memory and clearer thinking. Looks aren’t everything, and you want to be able to keep up in conversation. To be the best version of yourself and have a clear mind, it’s best to catch those Zs the night before.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get a tan.\", \"描述\": \"Studies have shown that people who are tan are more attractive. Tanning also raises your risk of skin cancer (especially indoor tanning), so exercise caution.\\nA theory for this phenomenon is that the vitamin D you get from tanning represents health.\\nA tan body shows off muscle better than a fairer body because you can see the shadows cast by the muscles.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Women are more attractive when they’re fertile. Go out more often during your most fertile days of your cycle; people will pick up on it.[33]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nPubMed Central\\nJournal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health\\nGo to source\\n\", \"Keep a positive attitude. Many people worry about their physical appearance -- you're not the only one!\\n\", \"Decide which of the methods to focus on first, and then move to the next. It might be a lot of work to do all three at once.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't try to change yourself into someone you're not. Everyone is attractive in their own way and you've got to work with what you've got.\\n\", \"Don’t over tan. Consult a physician to discuss your tanning goals before you start a tanning regimen.\\n\", \"Anorexia and Bulimia are serious medical conditions. Health is attractive, and eating disorders are not healthy. If you have an eating disorder, seek professional medical attention.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Physically Strong Girl
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1. Steps
1-1. Eat healthy foods.
This means that you should follow the food triangle, particularly around the middle. Anything containing a lot of protein, carbs or vitamins is likely a healthy food. Even a little sugar and fat needs to be consumed to become healthy. You don't have to go on a diet, but you could as long as you don't starve yourself.
Meat helps you build body strength.
Carbs give you lots of energy.
Fruits have many vitamins to boost your health and thus making it easier to get fit.
1-2. Exercise.
You have to exercise to be strong. A good way to achieve this would be to choose one sport to play, possibly weekly for 30 minutes a day - or just visit the gym on a regular basis. It can be tiring to exercise but you'll find that as time passes you'll begin to build stamina - and strength.
1-3. Build speed.
This can be achieved by running quite frequently, and also sprinting. Go to your nearest running track and, with a friend, time your sprinting speed. Try to improve it, but remember to always have rests and bring water.
1-4. Do exercises that require strength.
Monkey bars, lifting weights, and rock climbing are some choices. These exercises are very tiring once you do them for a while. If you're weak you won't last long. By now you should be quite strong though. This will build you more muscle and energy.
1-5. Get enough sleep.
When you get too tired, your body will get weak. This means that you should try to get 8-10 hours of sleep each day. When your body is deprived of rest, it will start to lose muscle and you might even fall asleep during a sport!
1-6. Drink lots of water.
When you go through so many exercises, you sweat. You will also get dehydrated and tired if you don't drink enough. Drink at least one whole cup of water after doing a sport for 30 minutes or more. Make sure to drink lots and lots of water, but don't bloat yourself. Try to drink at least five cups of water a day.
1-7. Try some stunts.
Now that you're strong, you can probably do lots of different stunts that you couldn't do before. If you're young, try swinging across monkey bars. If you like rock climbing and earned tons of upper body strength, try climbing with only your arms. Try some daring and fun new stunts that you couldn't do before. Fight your fears - you're super strong, so you can do it! It will improve your energy and strength, too.
Tips
You'll probably sweat a lot, so remember to take lots of showers and use deodorant.
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Go to your nearest running track and, with a friend, time your sprinting speed. Try to improve it, but remember to always have rests and bring water.\\n1-4. Do exercises that require strength.\\nMonkey bars, lifting weights, and rock climbing are some choices. These exercises are very tiring once you do them for a while. If you're weak you won't last long. By now you should be quite strong though. This will build you more muscle and energy.\\n1-5. Get enough sleep.\\nWhen you get too tired, your body will get weak. This means that you should try to get 8-10 hours of sleep each day. When your body is deprived of rest, it will start to lose muscle and you might even fall asleep during a sport!\\n1-6. Drink lots of water.\\nWhen you go through so many exercises, you sweat. You will also get dehydrated and tired if you don't drink enough. Drink at least one whole cup of water after doing a sport for 30 minutes or more. Make sure to drink lots and lots of water, but don't bloat yourself. Try to drink at least five cups of water a day.\\n1-7. Try some stunts.\\nNow that you're strong, you can probably do lots of different stunts that you couldn't do before. If you're young, try swinging across monkey bars. If you like rock climbing and earned tons of upper body strength, try climbing with only your arms. Try some daring and fun new stunts that you couldn't do before. Fight your fears - you're super strong, so you can do it! It will improve your energy and strength, too.\\nTips\\nYou'll probably sweat a lot, so remember to take lots of showers and use deodorant.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're that girl in your class that everyone calls weak and horrible at sports, this is the article for you. This article will teach you how to build body strength and become known as a super duper strong girl. All the boys will whimper in fear of you whenever you even move one of your body parts.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Eat healthy foods.\", \"描述\": \"This means that you should follow the food triangle, particularly around the middle. Anything containing a lot of protein, carbs or vitamins is likely a healthy food. Even a little sugar and fat needs to be consumed to become healthy. You don't have to go on a diet, but you could as long as you don't starve yourself.\\nMeat helps you build body strength.\\nCarbs give you lots of energy.\\nFruits have many vitamins to boost your health and thus making it easier to get fit.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Exercise.\", \"描述\": \"You have to exercise to be strong. A good way to achieve this would be to choose one sport to play, possibly weekly for 30 minutes a day - or just visit the gym on a regular basis. It can be tiring to exercise but you'll find that as time passes you'll begin to build stamina - and strength.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Build speed.\", \"描述\": \"This can be achieved by running quite frequently, and also sprinting. Go to your nearest running track and, with a friend, time your sprinting speed. Try to improve it, but remember to always have rests and bring water.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do exercises that require strength.\", \"描述\": \"Monkey bars, lifting weights, and rock climbing are some choices. These exercises are very tiring once you do them for a while. If you're weak you won't last long. By now you should be quite strong though. This will build you more muscle and energy.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep.\", \"描述\": \"When you get too tired, your body will get weak. This means that you should try to get 8-10 hours of sleep each day. When your body is deprived of rest, it will start to lose muscle and you might even fall asleep during a sport!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Drink lots of water.\", \"描述\": \"When you go through so many exercises, you sweat. You will also get dehydrated and tired if you don't drink enough. Drink at least one whole cup of water after doing a sport for 30 minutes or more. Make sure to drink lots and lots of water, but don't bloat yourself. Try to drink at least five cups of water a day.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Try some stunts.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you're strong, you can probably do lots of different stunts that you couldn't do before. If you're young, try swinging across monkey bars. If you like rock climbing and earned tons of upper body strength, try climbing with only your arms. Try some daring and fun new stunts that you couldn't do before. Fight your fears - you're super strong, so you can do it! It will improve your energy and strength, too.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You'll probably sweat a lot, so remember to take lots of showers and use deodorant.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Pious Young Muslimah
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1. Steps
1-1. Have an appropriate attitude.
The proper attitude for a young Muslim woman is to be modest, plain, simple and sincere, not someone provoking attention. Observe the hijab, which is not just a dress code, but also a standard of behaviour. Become accustomed to being mindful of Allah (SWT) as much as possible and keep asking yourself if your behaviour would please or disappoint Allah (SWT). Always remember that:
Islam is a comprehensive way of life that sets out how we should live our lives.
The purpose of our creation is to worship Allah (SWT) alone.
Allah (SWT) created us and provides everything that we need, including the rules that set out how we must behave and interact within our societies..
Obedience to Allah (SWT) and to His Messenger (SAW) must therefore be our priority.
We must love Allah (SWT) and know that He loves us too, but this must be balanced by a fear of incurring His displeasure.
Our comparatively short life on earth is preparation for the Hereafter.
Jannah (Heaven) and Jahannam (Hellfire) are real places that Allah (SWT) has created for us - our good and bad deeds will be noted and taken into account when Allah (SWT) decides our eternal destiny.
A combination of hope (of Jannah) and fear (of Jahannam) is key to driving ourselves towards obedience.
1-2. Offer the five daily obligatory prayers.
Prayer is the most effective way that we can connect with Allah (SWT) and is therefore an extremely significant part of the life of a pious Muslim. This may sound quite obvious, but many people take it lightly. Prophet Mohammed (S.A.W) once said that the Ascent (Mayraaj) for a Muslim is to pray.
Some scholars say that neglecting prayers takes you out of the fold of Islam, so it's really important to make sure that all your prayers are read correctly, just as the Prophet (S.A.W.) has taught us.
Parents are required to teach their children to pray from the age of seven and ensure that all 5 daily prayers are read regularly and correctly by the age of ten. When puberty is reached, the child becomes accountable to Allah (SWT) for every single action, good or bad, including praying or not praying.
All five prayers are equally important and each has its own significance.
Try to learn how to improve the quality of your prayer, for example by improving your concentration and varying the verses of the Qur'an that you recite during prayer.
1-3. Organize yourself by making a timetable based around the five daily obligatory prayers.
Include what you need to do: prayers, chores, school, hobbies, family time, sleep etc. Make sure you have time for other acts of worship beyond the five prayers. Studying the Qur'an and Sunnah will give you a better understanding of how Allah (SWT) wishes us to live our lives in His service. Learn more about how to perform Muraqbah.
Have the intention to pray and make dua to Allah to help you, your family and the people you care for and shower His blessings on them.
Every sin that we commit, however large or small, must be acknowledged before Allah (SWT) in our prayers. Allah (SWT) is Oft-forgiving and Most-merciful and loves it when we ask for forgiveness, but we should never take it for granted and must fear His punishment.
Schedule other acts of worship into your daily and weekly routine, such as reciting Qur'an, fasting, remembrance of Allah (dhikr), voluntary prayers and study circles. These will help you develop a feeling of closeness to Allah (SWT) and will boost your faith.
Understand that every Muslimah must devote her life to worshiping the One who is behind the existence of everyone and everything and has promised us so much in return for our obedience.
1-4. Gain knowledge.
There are many ways to seek knowledge, such as reading and memorising the Qur'an, reading the translation, reading the interpretation (tafsir) and studying the life of the Prophet (S.A.W.) (seerah).
Remember that, while seeking Islamic knowledge is a lifelong obligation upon all Muslims, we must incorporate what we learn within our daily lives, as it is our actions that will determine our destiny in the Hereafter.
With study comes awareness of how Allah (SWT) wishes to be worshiped, so the more we study the better placed we are to please Allah (SWT) and earn His rewards.
Study the descriptions of the bounties of Jannah and the punishments of Jahannam in the Quran and the narrations of the Prophet (SAW) and use these to motivate yourself to become a better Muslimah.
Always remember that life on this earth is finite, whereas the Afterlife is eternal.
1-5. Share your religious knowledge.
Those who seek knowledge and then spread it are praised in Islam. The Prophet said, "When a man dies, all his deeds come to an end except for three – an ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge or a righteous son who will pray for him."
Specializing in a particular area of fiqh is a good way of sharing knowledge, for example to help other sisters better understand the Islamic dress code, the rules of menstruation or the correct way to go about finding a husband.
Weekly sisters' study circles are a great way of sharing religious knowledge. Each sister can take turns to lead a discussion, perhaps on a favorite aspect of worship or Islamic law, to encourage each other to improve their connection with Allah (SWT).
Make sure that your religious knowledge is obtained only from authentic sources. There little room for personal opinion in Islam, except among scholars.
Any innovation in how we worship Allah (SWT) is absolutely forbidden. Our Prophet Muhammed (SAW) has shown us the perfect way to worship Allah (SWT), which we must do our best to follow.
1-6. Avoid negative media stories.
There is far too much negativity in this world around Islam. There are people who claim to be Muslims yet defy every single characteristic of a good Muslim, but the media often focuses on these people and equates them to the majority of Muslims, portraying Islam as intolerant and barbaric. Distance yourself from extreme Muslims as well as non-Muslims with these views.
If you need to speak up for Islam, do so with kindness and humbleness by explaining the reasoning behind its laws and teachings.
Emphasize the strong moral perspective that Islam provides on many controversial aspects of modern society.
1-7. Preach your religion.
Write blogs, organize sisters' sessions in your local mosque, talk to your siblings, family and neighbors. There are many ways to preach Islam. Allah (SWT) loves those who show Islam in a good light, i.e. a religion of peace, tolerance and strong morals, and offer great rewards for those that make the effort to spread its message.
Make sure you give the advice in a humble manner. As Muslims, we are taught by the Quran and our Prophet.(S.A.W.) to be humble, kind and truthful.
When you discuss why Islam encourages or forbids a particular practice or why a certain law or punishment applies, always explain the benefits for the individual and for wider society through reference to the Quran and Sunnah.
1-8. Be modest and aspire towards purity.
Observe the hijab, which isn't only a piece of cloth. It's a way of life, being humble and modest. Lower your gaze in the presence of unrelated men; this, however, does not mean outright ignore them or refuse to look at them. When interacting with them, do so in a modest, business-like manner, without any sort of flirting, unnecessary chat or staring. Remember, hijab is for our own protection.
Many Muslimahs gradually improve their hijab as they develop their spirituality, sometimes taking the step of covering the face (niqab), as this was the practice of the wives of the Prophet Mohammed (S.A.W.). The minimum requirement is to cover the entire body expect the face and hands with loose clothes.
Respect the Islamic norms of gender interaction, which strictly forbids unnecessary free-mixing between genders. Understand that Allah (SW) has guided us this way to help strengthen families and create safer societies.
Modesty is reflected through self-discipline. Learn to fight off temptation and base desires through the use of prayer, fasting, recitation of the Qur'an and remembrance of Allah (SWT).
Understand that Shaytaan (Satan) tries to put doubts in the minds of the believers to draw them towards sin and away from Allah (SWT). Develop strategies to protect yourself from this, for example by reciting beautiful phrases from the Qur'an and Sunnah.
When you need help or support in your life, always turn to Allah (SWT) first and He will respond in the way that is best for you.
Tips
Make sure you are kind and dutiful to your parents! They have a high status in Islam and Allah commands us to pray for them.
Make sure you have a humble intention; do everything for the sake of Allah. Make dua to Allah and Allah will help you! Also, never despair of the mercy of Allah because He is the most gracious, the most merciful!
Warnings
Never wear revealing clothes. Do not expose your 'awrah, and wear loose-fitting, comfortable clothes. Avoid wearing too much perfume to prevent attention.
Never ever go out with ghayr mahram men (unrelated men). You must have a mahram (related family member) with you in such cases.
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Always remember that: \\nIslam is a comprehensive way of life that sets out how we should live our lives.\\nThe purpose of our creation is to worship Allah (SWT) alone.\\nAllah (SWT) created us and provides everything that we need, including the rules that set out how we must behave and interact within our societies..\\nObedience to Allah (SWT) and to His Messenger (SAW) must therefore be our priority.\\nWe must love Allah (SWT) and know that He loves us too, but this must be balanced by a fear of incurring His displeasure.\\nOur comparatively short life on earth is preparation for the Hereafter.\\nJannah (Heaven) and Jahannam (Hellfire) are real places that Allah (SWT) has created for us - our good and bad deeds will be noted and taken into account when Allah (SWT) decides our eternal destiny.\\nA combination of hope (of Jannah) and fear (of Jahannam) is key to driving ourselves towards obedience.\\n1-2. Offer the five daily obligatory prayers.\\nPrayer is the most effective way that we can connect with Allah (SWT) and is therefore an extremely significant part of the life of a pious Muslim. This may sound quite obvious, but many people take it lightly. Prophet Mohammed (S.A.W) once said that the Ascent (Mayraaj) for a Muslim is to pray. \\nSome scholars say that neglecting prayers takes you out of the fold of Islam, so it's really important to make sure that all your prayers are read correctly, just as the Prophet (S.A.W.) has taught us.\\nParents are required to teach their children to pray from the age of seven and ensure that all 5 daily prayers are read regularly and correctly by the age of ten. 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Learn more about how to perform Muraqbah. \\nHave the intention to pray and make dua to Allah to help you, your family and the people you care for and shower His blessings on them.\\nEvery sin that we commit, however large or small, must be acknowledged before Allah (SWT) in our prayers. Allah (SWT) is Oft-forgiving and Most-merciful and loves it when we ask for forgiveness, but we should never take it for granted and must fear His punishment.\\nSchedule other acts of worship into your daily and weekly routine, such as reciting Qur'an, fasting, remembrance of Allah (dhikr), voluntary prayers and study circles. These will help you develop a feeling of closeness to Allah (SWT) and will boost your faith.\\nUnderstand that every Muslimah must devote her life to worshiping the One who is behind the existence of everyone and everything and has promised us so much in return for our obedience.\\n1-4. Gain knowledge.\\nThere are many ways to seek knowledge, such as reading and memorising the Qur'an, reading the translation, reading the interpretation (tafsir) and studying the life of the Prophet (S.A.W.) (seerah). \\nRemember that, while seeking Islamic knowledge is a lifelong obligation upon all Muslims, we must incorporate what we learn within our daily lives, as it is our actions that will determine our destiny in the Hereafter.\\nWith study comes awareness of how Allah (SWT) wishes to be worshiped, so the more we study the better placed we are to please Allah (SWT) and earn His rewards.\\nStudy the descriptions of the bounties of Jannah and the punishments of Jahannam in the Quran and the narrations of the Prophet (SAW) and use these to motivate yourself to become a better Muslimah.\\nAlways remember that life on this earth is finite, whereas the Afterlife is eternal.\\n1-5. Share your religious knowledge.\\nThose who seek knowledge and then spread it are praised in Islam. The Prophet said, \\\"When a man dies, all his deeds come to an end except for three – an ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge or a righteous son who will pray for him.\\\"\\nSpecializing in a particular area of fiqh is a good way of sharing knowledge, for example to help other sisters better understand the Islamic dress code, the rules of menstruation or the correct way to go about finding a husband.\\nWeekly sisters' study circles are a great way of sharing religious knowledge. Each sister can take turns to lead a discussion, perhaps on a favorite aspect of worship or Islamic law, to encourage each other to improve their connection with Allah (SWT).\\nMake sure that your religious knowledge is obtained only from authentic sources. There little room for personal opinion in Islam, except among scholars.\\nAny innovation in how we worship Allah (SWT) is absolutely forbidden. Our Prophet Muhammed (SAW) has shown us the perfect way to worship Allah (SWT), which we must do our best to follow.\\n1-6. Avoid negative media stories.\\nThere is far too much negativity in this world around Islam. There are people who claim to be Muslims yet defy every single characteristic of a good Muslim, but the media often focuses on these people and equates them to the majority of Muslims, portraying Islam as intolerant and barbaric. Distance yourself from extreme Muslims as well as non-Muslims with these views. \\nIf you need to speak up for Islam, do so with kindness and humbleness by explaining the reasoning behind its laws and teachings.\\nEmphasize the strong moral perspective that Islam provides on many controversial aspects of modern society.\\n1-7. Preach your religion.\\nWrite blogs, organize sisters' sessions in your local mosque, talk to your siblings, family and neighbors. There are many ways to preach Islam. 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Always remember that: \\nIslam is a comprehensive way of life that sets out how we should live our lives.\\nThe purpose of our creation is to worship Allah (SWT) alone.\\nAllah (SWT) created us and provides everything that we need, including the rules that set out how we must behave and interact within our societies..\\nObedience to Allah (SWT) and to His Messenger (SAW) must therefore be our priority.\\nWe must love Allah (SWT) and know that He loves us too, but this must be balanced by a fear of incurring His displeasure.\\nOur comparatively short life on earth is preparation for the Hereafter.\\nJannah (Heaven) and Jahannam (Hellfire) are real places that Allah (SWT) has created for us - our good and bad deeds will be noted and taken into account when Allah (SWT) decides our eternal destiny.\\nA combination of hope (of Jannah) and fear (of Jahannam) is key to driving ourselves towards obedience.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Offer the five daily obligatory prayers.\", \"描述\": \"Prayer is the most effective way that we can connect with Allah (SWT) and is therefore an extremely significant part of the life of a pious Muslim. This may sound quite obvious, but many people take it lightly. Prophet Mohammed (S.A.W) once said that the Ascent (Mayraaj) for a Muslim is to pray. \\nSome scholars say that neglecting prayers takes you out of the fold of Islam, so it's really important to make sure that all your prayers are read correctly, just as the Prophet (S.A.W.) has taught us.\\nParents are required to teach their children to pray from the age of seven and ensure that all 5 daily prayers are read regularly and correctly by the age of ten. When puberty is reached, the child becomes accountable to Allah (SWT) for every single action, good or bad, including praying or not praying.\\nAll five prayers are equally important and each has its own significance.\\nTry to learn how to improve the quality of your prayer, for example by improving your concentration and varying the verses of the Qur'an that you recite during prayer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Organize yourself by making a timetable based around the five daily obligatory prayers.\", \"描述\": \"Include what you need to do: prayers, chores, school, hobbies, family time, sleep etc. Make sure you have time for other acts of worship beyond the five prayers. Studying the Qur'an and Sunnah will give you a better understanding of how Allah (SWT) wishes us to live our lives in His service. Learn more about how to perform Muraqbah. \\nHave the intention to pray and make dua to Allah to help you, your family and the people you care for and shower His blessings on them.\\nEvery sin that we commit, however large or small, must be acknowledged before Allah (SWT) in our prayers. Allah (SWT) is Oft-forgiving and Most-merciful and loves it when we ask for forgiveness, but we should never take it for granted and must fear His punishment.\\nSchedule other acts of worship into your daily and weekly routine, such as reciting Qur'an, fasting, remembrance of Allah (dhikr), voluntary prayers and study circles. 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(seerah). \\nRemember that, while seeking Islamic knowledge is a lifelong obligation upon all Muslims, we must incorporate what we learn within our daily lives, as it is our actions that will determine our destiny in the Hereafter.\\nWith study comes awareness of how Allah (SWT) wishes to be worshiped, so the more we study the better placed we are to please Allah (SWT) and earn His rewards.\\nStudy the descriptions of the bounties of Jannah and the punishments of Jahannam in the Quran and the narrations of the Prophet (SAW) and use these to motivate yourself to become a better Muslimah.\\nAlways remember that life on this earth is finite, whereas the Afterlife is eternal.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Share your religious knowledge.\", \"描述\": \"Those who seek knowledge and then spread it are praised in Islam. 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1. Attending a Casting Call
1-1. Find out when the next Playboy casting call is coming to a city near you.
You can either run an internet search to find out when a casting call in your area might happen, or you can go on to the Playboy website--they have a map that shows where the ongoing casting calls are happening. If there are no scheduled casting calls in your area and you think you have what it takes to be a Playmate, you can travel to the areas that do have casting calls to audition.
Having modeling experience isn’t required--the photographer at the audition will guide you through the photo process.
1-2. Prepare for the big day.
In the weeks leading up to your audition make sure you maintain a healthy eating and exercise regime. Playboy is looking for the sexiest girls around. Get to a point where you feel confident and comfortable in your own body. After all, a big aspect of Playboy is feeling comfortable being nude.
You may want to practice some poses in a mirror to know what flatters your figure the most. Practice your best ‘smoldering temptress’ look. Learn how to flirt with your eyes. Get a friend to take pictures of you posing in different ways to see how each position looks.
1-3. Pick out the perfect outfit.
You are required to either wear lingerie, a bikini, or a swimsuit with heels. Go shopping before the casting call and find your perfect outfit. Look for a sexy, unique wardrobe that will show off your best assets. Pair your look with the perfect heels--these should match and make you look like you have legs that are a mile long.
1-4. Get your beauty sleep the night before.
While you might be wide awake with nerves, excitement, or a combination of the two, you really should get some rest the night before. After all, you want to be on your A-game for the audition, bright-eyed and lively. However, don’t take anything to make you fall asleep--things like sleeping pills can make you groggy the next day.
1-5. Bring two forms of identification.
Playboy requires that you bring two forms of identification to the casting call proving that you are 18 or older. One of the IDs must be government issued and have a photo, your birth date, and an expiration date (like a driver’s license, passport, or state ID). The other does not need to be government issued but should have your name and birthday on it (this could be your birth certificate, social security card, voter registration card, etc.).
You don’t need to bring a portfolio with you. However, extra photos will be accepted and added to your bio form. Keep in mind that these photos won’t be returned to you.
1-6. Do your hair and makeup before you get to the casting call.
Playboy requires that you have your hair and makeup done already before your show up for your casting call. Remember, less is more! Aim to look your absolute best--if your hair looks best with a curl in it, curl it before you get there.
1-7. Know what will happen at the interview and photoshoot.
When you get to the casting call, you will have to show both of your IDs and complete a bio form. You can also fill out a model release form, but this is optional. You will then change into your lingerie or bikini, put on a robe, and wait to be called. The interview will be casual, during which time you will have a professional photographer take photos and a video of you. This interview and photo shoot will last 15 to 20 minutes. Show ‘em what you got girl!
Keep in mind that you are auditioning for Playboy and should be alright with nudity, even during the interview--a certain level of nudity is actually expected of you.
1-8. Be patient while waiting for a call.
Playboy may take four to six weeks to get back to you after your casting call. Playboy states on their website that they will not accept calls about your audition status. If you do get selected as a Playmate, Playboy will give you specific instructions to follow. You will sign a contract and have your own spread in their magazine. Plus, a playmate is a playmate for life! That means attending parties and entering into the running for Playmate of the Year.
If you haven’t gotten a call from a Playboy representative within six weeks, it means that there isn’t an open position for you in the magazine at this time. However, your casting call audition will be kept on file and considered in the future.
2. Applying Online
2-1. Take photos for submission.
If you were unable to make it to a casting call, you can apply online by sending photos in for consideration. Playboy requires that you send in one headshot and four to six full-length nude photos. These photos don’t have to be taken by a professional, but they should be in-focus (no blurry shots ladies!). Half of the shots should be of your frontside, and half of your backside.
Make copies of your photos because your photos will not be returned after the application process, whether you get hired or not.
2-2. Make a copy of your ID.
The Playboy application requires you to send in a scanned copy of your photo ID proving that you are 18 years of age or old. This is really important because your application won’t be accepted without proof of your age (no matter how sexy or well-shot your photos are).
2-3. Have all of your information ready before you apply.
You will need all of the normal information (including full name, address, date of birth, and whether or not you are a United States citizen). You will also need physical information. This info includes your present height, weight, bust size, waist size, hip size, hair color, eye color, and ethnic background.
If you are enrolled in college, you will also need to write down your major and school activities, as well as your college’s name and location.
You also have the option to post links to any online presence you might have, including your website, Facebook page, or Twitter ID.
2-4. Know that there are other modeling opportunities aside from Playmate.
When you apply for a model position as a Playmate at Playboy, your application automatically gets sent to other modeling sectors of Playboy. Even if you don’t get hired as a Playmate, your application will get reviewed by other sections of the Playboy business, so you still have the potential to be hired as a model. These other modeling opportunities include Cyber Girls, Playboy Special Editions, Playboy Golf, and others.
2-5. Fill out the online application.
As stated above, you will need to fill out all of the information, upload your ID proving you are 18 or older, and upload your photos. You will also be required to write your digital signature and check the ‘I agree’ box stating that you acknowledge the rules and swear everything you wrote down on the application is true.
2-6. Know what will happen if you are chosen.
You should hear back from Playboy within four to six weeks. If you have not heard from them around six weeks, it means there isn’t a Playmate opening at this time. However, if you do get selected, you will be flown (all expenses paid) to meet with a Playboy photographer for a photo shoot.
Tips
If you need to reschedule your interview time, you can do so by emailing the casting call email, which you can find on the Playboy website.
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After all, a big aspect of Playboy is feeling comfortable being nude.\\nYou may want to practice some poses in a mirror to know what flatters your figure the most. Practice your best ‘smoldering temptress’ look. Learn how to flirt with your eyes. Get a friend to take pictures of you posing in different ways to see how each position looks.\\n1-3. Pick out the perfect outfit.\\nYou are required to either wear lingerie, a bikini, or a swimsuit with heels. Go shopping before the casting call and find your perfect outfit. Look for a sexy, unique wardrobe that will show off your best assets. Pair your look with the perfect heels--these should match and make you look like you have legs that are a mile long.\\n1-4. Get your beauty sleep the night before.\\nWhile you might be wide awake with nerves, excitement, or a combination of the two, you really should get some rest the night before. After all, you want to be on your A-game for the audition, bright-eyed and lively. However, don’t take anything to make you fall asleep--things like sleeping pills can make you groggy the next day.\\n1-5. Bring two forms of identification.\\nPlayboy requires that you bring two forms of identification to the casting call proving that you are 18 or older. One of the IDs must be government issued and have a photo, your birth date, and an expiration date (like a driver’s license, passport, or state ID). The other does not need to be government issued but should have your name and birthday on it (this could be your birth certificate, social security card, voter registration card, etc.).\\nYou don’t need to bring a portfolio with you. However, extra photos will be accepted and added to your bio form. Keep in mind that these photos won’t be returned to you.\\n1-6. Do your hair and makeup before you get to the casting call.\\nPlayboy requires that you have your hair and makeup done already before your show up for your casting call. Remember, less is more! Aim to look your absolute best--if your hair looks best with a curl in it, curl it before you get there.\\n1-7. Know what will happen at the interview and photoshoot.\\nWhen you get to the casting call, you will have to show both of your IDs and complete a bio form. You can also fill out a model release form, but this is optional. You will then change into your lingerie or bikini, put on a robe, and wait to be called. The interview will be casual, during which time you will have a professional photographer take photos and a video of you. This interview and photo shoot will last 15 to 20 minutes. Show ‘em what you got girl!\\nKeep in mind that you are auditioning for Playboy and should be alright with nudity, even during the interview--a certain level of nudity is actually expected of you.\\n1-8. Be patient while waiting for a call.\\nPlayboy may take four to six weeks to get back to you after your casting call. Playboy states on their website that they will not accept calls about your audition status. If you do get selected as a Playmate, Playboy will give you specific instructions to follow. You will sign a contract and have your own spread in their magazine. Plus, a playmate is a playmate for life! That means attending parties and entering into the running for Playmate of the Year.\\nIf you haven’t gotten a call from a Playboy representative within six weeks, it means that there isn’t an open position for you in the magazine at this time. However, your casting call audition will be kept on file and considered in the future.\\n2. Applying Online\\n2-1. Take photos for submission.\\nIf you were unable to make it to a casting call, you can apply online by sending photos in for consideration. Playboy requires that you send in one headshot and four to six full-length nude photos. These photos don’t have to be taken by a professional, but they should be in-focus (no blurry shots ladies!). Half of the shots should be of your frontside, and half of your backside. \\nMake copies of your photos because your photos will not be returned after the application process, whether you get hired or not.\\n2-2. Make a copy of your ID.\\nThe Playboy application requires you to send in a scanned copy of your photo ID proving that you are 18 years of age or old. This is really important because your application won’t be accepted without proof of your age (no matter how sexy or well-shot your photos are).\\n2-3. Have all of your information ready before you apply.\\nYou will need all of the normal information (including full name, address, date of birth, and whether or not you are a United States citizen). You will also need physical information. This info includes your present height, weight, bust size, waist size, hip size, hair color, eye color, and ethnic background.\\nIf you are enrolled in college, you will also need to write down your major and school activities, as well as your college’s name and location.\\nYou also have the option to post links to any online presence you might have, including your website, Facebook page, or Twitter ID.\\n2-4. Know that there are other modeling opportunities aside from Playmate.\\nWhen you apply for a model position as a Playmate at Playboy, your application automatically gets sent to other modeling sectors of Playboy. Even if you don’t get hired as a Playmate, your application will get reviewed by other sections of the Playboy business, so you still have the potential to be hired as a model. These other modeling opportunities include Cyber Girls, Playboy Special Editions, Playboy Golf, and others.\\n2-5. Fill out the online application.\\nAs stated above, you will need to fill out all of the information, upload your ID proving you are 18 or older, and upload your photos. You will also be required to write your digital signature and check the ‘I agree’ box stating that you acknowledge the rules and swear everything you wrote down on the application is true.\\n2-6. Know what will happen if you are chosen.\\nYou should hear back from Playboy within four to six weeks. If you have not heard from them around six weeks, it means there isn’t a Playmate opening at this time. However, if you do get selected, you will be flown (all expenses paid) to meet with a Playboy photographer for a photo shoot.\\nTips\\nIf you need to reschedule your interview time, you can do so by emailing the casting call email, which you can find on the Playboy website.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many people dream of modeling for Playboy, but only the most talented and confident models are chosen as Playboy Bunnies. 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However, don’t take anything to make you fall asleep--things like sleeping pills can make you groggy the next day.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Bring two forms of identification.\", \"描述\": \"Playboy requires that you bring two forms of identification to the casting call proving that you are 18 or older. One of the IDs must be government issued and have a photo, your birth date, and an expiration date (like a driver’s license, passport, or state ID). The other does not need to be government issued but should have your name and birthday on it (this could be your birth certificate, social security card, voter registration card, etc.).\\nYou don’t need to bring a portfolio with you. However, extra photos will be accepted and added to your bio form. Keep in mind that these photos won’t be returned to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do your hair and makeup before you get to the casting call.\", \"描述\": \"Playboy requires that you have your hair and makeup done already before your show up for your casting call. Remember, less is more! Aim to look your absolute best--if your hair looks best with a curl in it, curl it before you get there.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Know what will happen at the interview and photoshoot.\", \"描述\": \"When you get to the casting call, you will have to show both of your IDs and complete a bio form. You can also fill out a model release form, but this is optional. You will then change into your lingerie or bikini, put on a robe, and wait to be called. The interview will be casual, during which time you will have a professional photographer take photos and a video of you. This interview and photo shoot will last 15 to 20 minutes. Show ‘em what you got girl!\\nKeep in mind that you are auditioning for Playboy and should be alright with nudity, even during the interview--a certain level of nudity is actually expected of you.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be patient while waiting for a call.\", \"描述\": \"Playboy may take four to six weeks to get back to you after your casting call. Playboy states on their website that they will not accept calls about your audition status. If you do get selected as a Playmate, Playboy will give you specific instructions to follow. You will sign a contract and have your own spread in their magazine. Plus, a playmate is a playmate for life! That means attending parties and entering into the running for Playmate of the Year.\\nIf you haven’t gotten a call from a Playboy representative within six weeks, it means that there isn’t an open position for you in the magazine at this time. 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1. Think Like a Player
1-1. Be confident.
You can walk and talk like a player, but if you don't have the right mindset, the ladies will be turned off. Before you become a true player, you have to work to have true self-confidence. Here's how to do it:
Ease your anxieties. Think about anything you may be worried about--your future, your family, or your career--and try to minimize your anxieties about all aspects of your life. A healthy amount of stress is normal, but if you're obsessing too much about what can go wrong, you won't be able to think in the moment, and the ladies will know you have too much on your mind.
Address your flaws. Be aware of your shortcomings, and work to improve them. Are you a bad listener, disorganized, or too easily distracted? Make a plan to work on improving these characteristics little by little. Nobody's perfect, but everyone can improve.
Think positive. When you walk into a room, think of the three things you like most about yourself instead of the three things you want to work on. If you think positive about yourself, the ladies will follow.
1-2. Don't get attached.
A true player should value quantity over quality, so if you're committed to this lifestyle, you need to enjoy the company of as many women as possible, and not get hung up on one girl. If you're worrying about when what a certain girl thinks of you, or when she'll call, then you're approaching girlfriend territory with her, and you should put your guard up. Here's how to keep things open:
If you feel that a girl is getting too close to you, pull away. If a girl is initiating deep conversations about your personal lives, wanting to move in with you, or plan a romantic vacation, then she definitely wants to be your girlfriend, and you should move on.
Keep things light. Enjoy a woman's company, but don't let her make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Focus on having a good time both out in the world and in the bedroom, and change the topic when things get too deep.
Don't think mushy thoughts. When you see a potential conquest, you should be thinking about how much fun you'll having dancing, making out, or hooking up--not what your grandkids would look like. Think cool, and the rest will follow.
If you've really found the right girl, it may be time to rethink your lifestyle. Even a true player can fall a victim to love, and if you've found a girl who makes you feel like she really is the only girl in the world and the person you want to spend all of your time with, then don't give her up. This is rare in the life of the true player, but if you really can't control how you feel, it may be worth it to tell the other ladies you're off the market.
1-3. Always think of your next move.
Like a true chess champ, you should always be at least one step--or many--ahead of the game. If you only focus on the present, you won't have a revolving door of women in your life. Here's how to do it:
Have a game plan for your night. If you're out at a club, think of your next location. Will you be taking the lady to more intimate bar, to your crib, or to a friend's fancy after party? Before you pick the girl, plan your moves for the night, so you don't waste your time figuring out what to do.
Have a plan for your weekends. You may have just finished saying goodbye to your latest girl, but what are you doing the next night? Unless you want to spend it sitting alone in your basement and checking your phone, you should already have a lady lined up.
2. Look Like a Player
2-1. Have the right clothes.
You have to look the part before you can act the part. A true player should look smooth, but like he's not trying too hard. His clothes should have one goal--to help him find women who want to rip them off. Here are some ways to wear the perfect clothes:
Wear a nice long-sleeved button down shirt over a tight tank top. The ladies will want to get you down to your tight shirt so they can feel your muscles. Always wear shirts that hint at or display your killer biceps.
Wear pants that are a little loose so they can hang low. Show the ladies just a hint of your boxers, and find excuses to lift up your shirt so they can see your rock hard abs. Once they see your happy trail, they'll want to follow it all the way down.
Have smart shoes. Whether you're out at a fancy restaurant or wearing more casual sneakers at the gym, make it clear that your shoes are brand-new and expensive. The ladies will think you'll shell out the same amount of cash that you spent on your shoes on your fancy dates.
Wear a few key accessories. Have a fun wallet, a big gold chain, and flashy jewelry. You are not trying to be subtle, player. Have a leather belt with a flashy buckle, so the ladies are already looking in the right direction.
2-2. Have the right body.
Being a player isn't all fun and games. To keep up the player look, you have to put in long hours at the gym. You won't be able to seduce the ladies if your biceps look like string beans. Here's how to do it:
Develop your cardio. Start by running for just one or two miles, but learn to run for at least five miles without getting winded. You won't be much of a Don Juan if you're wheezing while you leading your latest conquest up a staircase.
Build muscle. Do whatever you can to have rock-hard abs, impeccable pecs, and strong shoulders. Hit up the bench press at the gym, or try a sport that will help build muscle, like boxing or basketball.
Eat right. If you're taking a lady on a dinner date, you can eat something manly like a juicy steak, but when you're on your own, try to eat a healthy balance of fruits, veggies, proteins, and carbs. Eating the right foods, especially proteins, can help you burn fat and build muscle.
2-3. Have the perfect body language.
Having an open and assertive body will show your lady of the week that you're not only confident but that you're focusing all of your energy on her--for the time being. Here's how to do it:
Make killer eye contact. When you're talking to a lady, look deep into her eyes, like you could jump right into them. This will make her blush and will easily turn her on. Make her feel like the only girl not only in the room, but in the world.
Lean in closely when you talk. When you talk to girl who is obviously into you, lean in real close, like you could kiss her at any moment. This will leave her wanting more.
Face your arms and body in her direction. Don't cross your arms, or turn your legs away from her. Everything about your body should say, "Hey baby, I'm ready."
2-4. Clean up like a player.
Hygiene is just as important as having the right clothes or body language. The ladies won't be charmed by you if you smell like you spend the night in an alley. Here's how to seduce them by your ability to clean up:
Wear a powerful, manly cologne. That will make the ladies want to faint in your arms.
Shower and wash your hair at least once a day. Use a manly body wash and shampoo to leave the ladies swooning.
Use hair gel. Give your hair an extra kick with some gel--the ladies will want to run their fingers through it.
Always have fresh breath. You'll need it for close-talking.
Have a fresh face. Shave off your facial hair, and run your hands over your face. Turn to your girl and say, "Feel how smooth that is, girl."
2-5. Have a player-worthy crib.
To complete the part of a player, you not only have to look like a player, but your crib has to be worthy of the ladies too. Here's how to have a sexy crash pad for your lady:
Keep it clean. Since you can bring home a lady at the blink of any eye, you should always keep fresh sheets, clean counters, and most importantly--a spotless bathroom. If your lady is grossed out as soon as she walks into your place, she'll be calling for a cab before you can make your first move.
Always have reinforcements. Stock your home with bottles of wine and sexy snacks like grapes or strawberries.
Keep it sleek. Leather couches, shiny lamps, and a flat-screen TV will make your lady feel at home in your love nest. If you can't afford to have a killer bachelor pad, focus on keeping your place clean.
3. Walk the Player Walk
3-1. Choose wisely.
Before you go in for the kill, you need to make sure to pick a lady who will be receptive to your player ways. If you choose the wrong girl, you may either end up with someone who is just not interested, or who wants to get wifed up ASAP. Here's how to find the right girl:
Look for a girl who is laughing, obviously having fun, and looking to have a good time. Don't talk to anyone who is obviously bored, checking her phone, or just looking around for something better to do. A girl like that is a soft target for a reason, and you want someone who is worth impressing.
Avoid ladies who are looking for a husband. Many of the ladies you approach will be looking for more than a fling. Any girl who mentions having you meet her parents, wanting to settle down, or talks about how many times she's been a bridesmaid probably doesn't want to be your tenth favorite girl. Let this lady find her soul mate, and don't waste your time--or hers.
Avoid girls who are obviously taken. If you spot a hottie who is barely interested in some guy who is trying to make a move on her, then go for it. But if a lady is batting eyes at her boyfriend or suitor, unless you're really up for the challenge, find someone who is still fun but not so clearly off-limits.
3-2. Make the girl feel special.
Approach a group of ladies, and have fun chatting them up and showing you're a great guy to be around. But after a while, home in on the lady of your choosing, and find a way to isolate her and make her feel unique. Here's how:
Have a light opening. Start off by teasing her or just asking what she'd like to drink. Make her laugh and show that you're a person worth talking to.
Tell her that she's special. Say something like, "There's something different about you." Make her feel like she really stands out, and that you understand that there is something extra unique about her.
Compliment her. Don't overdo it, but tell her at least three things you like about her, whether it's her eyes, her dance moves, or her laugh. You don't have to say anything deep--just let her know that you appreciate who she is and want to get to know her.
3-3. Focus the conversation on her.
People love to feel interesting, so listen closely to her and show genuine interest in what she has to say.
3-4. Be a gentleman.
Treat her, the waiter, her friends, and strangers with complete respect. This signals to her that you're the good kind of mysterious, and that you'll treat her well.
Hold doors for people, help her put on her jacket, and listen closely to what she wants.
3-5. Be cool if she says no.
Maybe she isn't comfortable with casual sex, maybe she isn't looking for that type of fun tonight, or maybe she isn't into guys. Stay cool and shrug it off.
If you get turned down right off the bat, give her a polite nod and say "All right. Have a good night." Then look for a more receptive woman.
If she doesn't want to take things up past a certain level, accept her decision and cool things down. Stay casual and don't pressure her.
3-6. Don't mislead her.
The difference between a good player and a jerk is that a jerk is willing to lie to a lady. You don't want to hook up with a woman who thinks this is the beginning of a long-term relationship. Let her know that you aren't looking for commitment, so that there are no awkward misunderstandings later.
3-7. Always be closing.
Follow your A-B-Cs and remember to always try to take your conversation to the next level. Your goal is to get your lady into bed, not to have a deep conversation about the meaning of life. When you hit it off with a lady, you should show her that you want to take it to the next level. Here's how:
Be casual. Just say something like, "You wanna get out of here?" Or, "How about we go somewhere where we can really talk?"
Put the moves on. Once you get your lady alone, touch her gently, or ask if you can take off her coat. Seduce her as quickly as you can, as long as she's into it.
3-8. Be sexy in the sack.
To be a true player, you have to show the ladies that you're not just all talk. Here's are some tips for being great in bed so the ladies put your on their speed dial:
Give your lady a massage. Massage her shoulders, her lower back, or even her feet, to show that you know how to touch her body.
Kiss with passion. Don't shove your tongue in your lady's mouth--start with a gentle kiss and work your way toward an all-out makeout.
Once you're in bed, take your time. Give your girl enough time to be ready for sex. Tease her, bite her gently, or do whatever you need to do to turn her on. Just don't rush into sex because that can just be painful and definitely not hot.
When it's over, be courteous. You don't have to spend hours cuddling in bed once the deed is done, but spending some time with your lady, gently kissing her, or letting her spend the night, will make her feel more special than if you instantly jump in the shower once your passion has run its course.
3-9. Play it cool.
Once you've had a good time with your new woman, it's important to have the right attitude so you can see her again if you want, or at least leave on a good note so she doesn't talk trash about you to her girlfriends. Here's how:
Be vague about when you'll see her again. Tell her you'll see her around. Don't try to set up a dinner date for the following week--that's not how players roll.
Be a gentleman. Help her put her coat on and walk her to the door or to her car. Make a good last impression so she doesn't think you're completely sleazy.
Don't overdo it with your flattery. Tell her you had a great time, but don't tell her you had the best night of your life. Be real and don't make her think you're something you're not.
End on a good note. As you say goodbye, make her laugh, give her a gentle kiss, or remind her of something from the night before. Make sure she wants to see you again--it's up to you to decide if you want to see her again or to move on. If you do want to see her again, give it a few days before you check in. Play on, player!
4. You Should be a Player If...
4-1. You're not looking for stability.
Being a player is not about finding The One. It is about getting to know lots of people, moving quickly from one partner to the other. Neither mode of dating is "right," but you should know that being a player is a shallow, surface-level way to make connections.
If you're looking for deep emotional connections, don't be a player.
If you want to find someone to settle down with, don't be a player.
If you don't feel comfortable letting people down, don't be a player.
4-2. You love to go out and meet new people.
The player lifestyle is constantly on the move. You're going to new parties, clubs, and events every weekend, and you are constantly making new friends. A player has a wide range of friends, though only a few of them are necessarily "close" friends.
If you'd rather sit in and watch Netflix, don't be a player.
If you'd rather meet the gang at your favorite bar each weekend, don't be a player.
If you want the comfort and ease of long-term relationships, don't be a player.
4-3. You're okay hurting a few people's feelings.
The reality of being a player is that feelings are going to hurt. Some people are going to get attached. You might even get unexpectedly attached. If you're committed to playing the field, you're never going to have full control over the emotions of others. Every now and then things won't end as neatly as you hope. You're going to have to firmly, though politely, let people down.
If you'd rather not break up with people, don't be a player.
If you know you struggle with confrontation, don't be a player.
If you feel bad about sleeping with someone and leaving the next morning, don't be a player.
4-4. You're ready to juggle multiple partners at once.
Being a player is not about being monogamous. But handling several partners at the same time is not easy, especially if you're not telling them who else you're seeing. This isn't to say it's wrong or unethical. You just need to know what you're getting into.
If you're uncomfortable keeping multiple relationships going, don't be a player.
If you hate managing relationships, texting, and keeping secrets, don't be a player.
If you have a moral or ethical problem with polyamory, don't be a player.
4-5. You're willing to try new things.
At the end of the day, you don't have to choose between being a player and avoiding the game. You can, of course, fall somewhere in the middle. If you're unsure about this, just give it a shot. Try to meet a few new partners, and keep them all low key. The following advice doesn't have to be followed to the letter if you're just interested in exploring your relationships a bit more.
Tips
Remember, before breaking up with a girl, be polite, courteous, and let her down gently. You’ll have a better shot at preventing a confrontation this way.
If she’s with a group, try to make friends with the group. Earning the respect of the Alpha Male of the group with make your appeal grow in her eyes.
Be a gentleman. Open the door for her, say “bless you” if she sneezes, and show consideration as often as you can.
Warnings
Never date girls that are friends of the same circle or that you work with. This can have unintended consequences.
Women can play men just as men play women. A playette will use many of the aforementioned tactics to gain the upper hand for the purpose of seducing you. You can choose whether or not to play along.
Don't be a jerk. You can be confident and seek after women without putting up a nasty front.
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Here are some ways to wear the perfect clothes:\\nWear a nice long-sleeved button down shirt over a tight tank top. The ladies will want to get you down to your tight shirt so they can feel your muscles. Always wear shirts that hint at or display your killer biceps.\\nWear pants that are a little loose so they can hang low. Show the ladies just a hint of your boxers, and find excuses to lift up your shirt so they can see your rock hard abs. Once they see your happy trail, they'll want to follow it all the way down.\\nHave smart shoes. Whether you're out at a fancy restaurant or wearing more casual sneakers at the gym, make it clear that your shoes are brand-new and expensive. The ladies will think you'll shell out the same amount of cash that you spent on your shoes on your fancy dates.\\nWear a few key accessories. Have a fun wallet, a big gold chain, and flashy jewelry. You are not trying to be subtle, player. Have a leather belt with a flashy buckle, so the ladies are already looking in the right direction.\\n2-2. Have the right body.\\nBeing a player isn't all fun and games. To keep up the player look, you have to put in long hours at the gym. You won't be able to seduce the ladies if your biceps look like string beans. Here's how to do it:\\nDevelop your cardio. Start by running for just one or two miles, but learn to run for at least five miles without getting winded. You won't be much of a Don Juan if you're wheezing while you leading your latest conquest up a staircase.\\nBuild muscle. Do whatever you can to have rock-hard abs, impeccable pecs, and strong shoulders. Hit up the bench press at the gym, or try a sport that will help build muscle, like boxing or basketball.\\nEat right. If you're taking a lady on a dinner date, you can eat something manly like a juicy steak, but when you're on your own, try to eat a healthy balance of fruits, veggies, proteins, and carbs. Eating the right foods, especially proteins, can help you burn fat and build muscle.\\n2-3. Have the perfect body language.\\nHaving an open and assertive body will show your lady of the week that you're not only confident but that you're focusing all of your energy on her--for the time being. Here's how to do it:\\nMake killer eye contact. When you're talking to a lady, look deep into her eyes, like you could jump right into them. This will make her blush and will easily turn her on. Make her feel like the only girl not only in the room, but in the world.\\nLean in closely when you talk. When you talk to girl who is obviously into you, lean in real close, like you could kiss her at any moment. This will leave her wanting more.\\nFace your arms and body in her direction. Don't cross your arms, or turn your legs away from her. Everything about your body should say, \\\"Hey baby, I'm ready.\\\"\\n2-4. Clean up like a player.\\nHygiene is just as important as having the right clothes or body language. The ladies won't be charmed by you if you smell like you spend the night in an alley. Here's how to seduce them by your ability to clean up:\\nWear a powerful, manly cologne. That will make the ladies want to faint in your arms.\\nShower and wash your hair at least once a day. Use a manly body wash and shampoo to leave the ladies swooning.\\nUse hair gel. Give your hair an extra kick with some gel--the ladies will want to run their fingers through it.\\nAlways have fresh breath. You'll need it for close-talking.\\nHave a fresh face. Shave off your facial hair, and run your hands over your face. Turn to your girl and say, \\\"Feel how smooth that is, girl.\\\"\\n2-5. Have a player-worthy crib.\\nTo complete the part of a player, you not only have to look like a player, but your crib has to be worthy of the ladies too. Here's how to have a sexy crash pad for your lady:\\nKeep it clean. Since you can bring home a lady at the blink of any eye, you should always keep fresh sheets, clean counters, and most importantly--a spotless bathroom. If your lady is grossed out as soon as she walks into your place, she'll be calling for a cab before you can make your first move.\\nAlways have reinforcements. Stock your home with bottles of wine and sexy snacks like grapes or strawberries.\\nKeep it sleek. Leather couches, shiny lamps, and a flat-screen TV will make your lady feel at home in your love nest. If you can't afford to have a killer bachelor pad, focus on keeping your place clean.\\n3. Walk the Player Walk\\n3-1. Choose wisely.\\nBefore you go in for the kill, you need to make sure to pick a lady who will be receptive to your player ways. If you choose the wrong girl, you may either end up with someone who is just not interested, or who wants to get wifed up ASAP. Here's how to find the right girl:\\nLook for a girl who is laughing, obviously having fun, and looking to have a good time. Don't talk to anyone who is obviously bored, checking her phone, or just looking around for something better to do. A girl like that is a soft target for a reason, and you want someone who is worth impressing.\\nAvoid ladies who are looking for a husband. Many of the ladies you approach will be looking for more than a fling. Any girl who mentions having you meet her parents, wanting to settle down, or talks about how many times she's been a bridesmaid probably doesn't want to be your tenth favorite girl. Let this lady find her soul mate, and don't waste your time--or hers.\\nAvoid girls who are obviously taken. If you spot a hottie who is barely interested in some guy who is trying to make a move on her, then go for it. But if a lady is batting eyes at her boyfriend or suitor, unless you're really up for the challenge, find someone who is still fun but not so clearly off-limits.\\n3-2. Make the girl feel special.\\nApproach a group of ladies, and have fun chatting them up and showing you're a great guy to be around. But after a while, home in on the lady of your choosing, and find a way to isolate her and make her feel unique. Here's how:\\nHave a light opening. Start off by teasing her or just asking what she'd like to drink. Make her laugh and show that you're a person worth talking to.\\nTell her that she's special. Say something like, \\\"There's something different about you.\\\" Make her feel like she really stands out, and that you understand that there is something extra unique about her.\\nCompliment her. Don't overdo it, but tell her at least three things you like about her, whether it's her eyes, her dance moves, or her laugh. You don't have to say anything deep--just let her know that you appreciate who she is and want to get to know her.\\n3-3. Focus the conversation on her.\\nPeople love to feel interesting, so listen closely to her and show genuine interest in what she has to say.\\n3-4. Be a gentleman.\\nTreat her, the waiter, her friends, and strangers with complete respect. This signals to her that you're the good kind of mysterious, and that you'll treat her well.\\nHold doors for people, help her put on her jacket, and listen closely to what she wants.\\n3-5. Be cool if she says no.\\nMaybe she isn't comfortable with casual sex, maybe she isn't looking for that type of fun tonight, or maybe she isn't into guys. Stay cool and shrug it off.\\nIf you get turned down right off the bat, give her a polite nod and say \\\"All right. Have a good night.\\\" Then look for a more receptive woman.\\nIf she doesn't want to take things up past a certain level, accept her decision and cool things down. Stay casual and don't pressure her.\\n3-6. Don't mislead her.\\nThe difference between a good player and a jerk is that a jerk is willing to lie to a lady. You don't want to hook up with a woman who thinks this is the beginning of a long-term relationship. Let her know that you aren't looking for commitment, so that there are no awkward misunderstandings later.\\n3-7. Always be closing.\\nFollow your A-B-Cs and remember to always try to take your conversation to the next level. Your goal is to get your lady into bed, not to have a deep conversation about the meaning of life. When you hit it off with a lady, you should show her that you want to take it to the next level. Here's how:\\nBe casual. Just say something like, \\\"You wanna get out of here?\\\" Or, \\\"How about we go somewhere where we can really talk?\\\"\\nPut the moves on. Once you get your lady alone, touch her gently, or ask if you can take off her coat. Seduce her as quickly as you can, as long as she's into it.\\n3-8. Be sexy in the sack.\\nTo be a true player, you have to show the ladies that you're not just all talk. Here's are some tips for being great in bed so the ladies put your on their speed dial:\\nGive your lady a massage. Massage her shoulders, her lower back, or even her feet, to show that you know how to touch her body.\\nKiss with passion. Don't shove your tongue in your lady's mouth--start with a gentle kiss and work your way toward an all-out makeout.\\nOnce you're in bed, take your time. Give your girl enough time to be ready for sex. Tease her, bite her gently, or do whatever you need to do to turn her on. Just don't rush into sex because that can just be painful and definitely not hot.\\nWhen it's over, be courteous. You don't have to spend hours cuddling in bed once the deed is done, but spending some time with your lady, gently kissing her, or letting her spend the night, will make her feel more special than if you instantly jump in the shower once your passion has run its course.\\n3-9. Play it cool.\\nOnce you've had a good time with your new woman, it's important to have the right attitude so you can see her again if you want, or at least leave on a good note so she doesn't talk trash about you to her girlfriends. Here's how:\\nBe vague about when you'll see her again. Tell her you'll see her around. Don't try to set up a dinner date for the following week--that's not how players roll.\\nBe a gentleman. Help her put her coat on and walk her to the door or to her car. Make a good last impression so she doesn't think you're completely sleazy.\\nDon't overdo it with your flattery. Tell her you had a great time, but don't tell her you had the best night of your life. Be real and don't make her think you're something you're not.\\nEnd on a good note. As you say goodbye, make her laugh, give her a gentle kiss, or remind her of something from the night before. Make sure she wants to see you again--it's up to you to decide if you want to see her again or to move on. If you do want to see her again, give it a few days before you check in. Play on, player!\\n4. You Should be a Player If...\\n4-1. You're not looking for stability.\\nBeing a player is not about finding The One. It is about getting to know lots of people, moving quickly from one partner to the other. Neither mode of dating is \\\"right,\\\" but you should know that being a player is a shallow, surface-level way to make connections.\\nIf you're looking for deep emotional connections, don't be a player.\\nIf you want to find someone to settle down with, don't be a player.\\nIf you don't feel comfortable letting people down, don't be a player.\\n4-2. You love to go out and meet new people.\\nThe player lifestyle is constantly on the move. You're going to new parties, clubs, and events every weekend, and you are constantly making new friends. A player has a wide range of friends, though only a few of them are necessarily \\\"close\\\" friends.\\nIf you'd rather sit in and watch Netflix, don't be a player.\\nIf you'd rather meet the gang at your favorite bar each weekend, don't be a player.\\nIf you want the comfort and ease of long-term relationships, don't be a player.\\n4-3. You're okay hurting a few people's feelings.\\nThe reality of being a player is that feelings are going to hurt. Some people are going to get attached. You might even get unexpectedly attached. If you're committed to playing the field, you're never going to have full control over the emotions of others. Every now and then things won't end as neatly as you hope. You're going to have to firmly, though politely, let people down.\\nIf you'd rather not break up with people, don't be a player.\\nIf you know you struggle with confrontation, don't be a player.\\nIf you feel bad about sleeping with someone and leaving the next morning, don't be a player.\\n4-4. You're ready to juggle multiple partners at once.\\nBeing a player is not about being monogamous. But handling several partners at the same time is not easy, especially if you're not telling them who else you're seeing. This isn't to say it's wrong or unethical. You just need to know what you're getting into.\\nIf you're uncomfortable keeping multiple relationships going, don't be a player.\\nIf you hate managing relationships, texting, and keeping secrets, don't be a player.\\nIf you have a moral or ethical problem with polyamory, don't be a player.\\n4-5. You're willing to try new things.\\nAt the end of the day, you don't have to choose between being a player and avoiding the game. You can, of course, fall somewhere in the middle. If you're unsure about this, just give it a shot. Try to meet a few new partners, and keep them all low key. The following advice doesn't have to be followed to the letter if you're just interested in exploring your relationships a bit more.\\nTips\\nRemember, before breaking up with a girl, be polite, courteous, and let her down gently. You’ll have a better shot at preventing a confrontation this way.\\nIf she’s with a group, try to make friends with the group. Earning the respect of the Alpha Male of the group with make your appeal grow in her eyes.\\nBe a gentleman. Open the door for her, say “bless you” if she sneezes, and show consideration as often as you can.\\nWarnings\\nNever date girls that are friends of the same circle or that you work with. This can have unintended consequences.\\nWomen can play men just as men play women. A playette will use many of the aforementioned tactics to gain the upper hand for the purpose of seducing you. You can choose whether or not to play along.\\nDon't be a jerk. You can be confident and seek after women without putting up a nasty front.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A player is an ice-cold Casanova who leaves a trail of broken hearts wherever he goes. When he walks into a room, all the women line up to talk to him, and practically beg to be taken out. And if he's good at what he does, he'll have a woman in his bed faster than he can say, \\\"check, please!\\\" If you're already a player and want to hone your skills, or if this sounds like the right lifestyle for you, read on.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think Like a Player\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be confident.\", \"描述\": \"You can walk and talk like a player, but if you don't have the right mindset, the ladies will be turned off. Before you become a true player, you have to work to have true self-confidence. Here's how to do it:\\nEase your anxieties. Think about anything you may be worried about--your future, your family, or your career--and try to minimize your anxieties about all aspects of your life. A healthy amount of stress is normal, but if you're obsessing too much about what can go wrong, you won't be able to think in the moment, and the ladies will know you have too much on your mind.\\nAddress your flaws. Be aware of your shortcomings, and work to improve them. Are you a bad listener, disorganized, or too easily distracted? Make a plan to work on improving these characteristics little by little. Nobody's perfect, but everyone can improve.\\nThink positive. When you walk into a room, think of the three things you like most about yourself instead of the three things you want to work on. If you think positive about yourself, the ladies will follow.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't get attached.\", \"描述\": \"A true player should value quantity over quality, so if you're committed to this lifestyle, you need to enjoy the company of as many women as possible, and not get hung up on one girl. If you're worrying about when what a certain girl thinks of you, or when she'll call, then you're approaching girlfriend territory with her, and you should put your guard up. Here's how to keep things open:\\nIf you feel that a girl is getting too close to you, pull away. If a girl is initiating deep conversations about your personal lives, wanting to move in with you, or plan a romantic vacation, then she definitely wants to be your girlfriend, and you should move on.\\nKeep things light. Enjoy a woman's company, but don't let her make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Focus on having a good time both out in the world and in the bedroom, and change the topic when things get too deep.\\nDon't think mushy thoughts. When you see a potential conquest, you should be thinking about how much fun you'll having dancing, making out, or hooking up--not what your grandkids would look like. Think cool, and the rest will follow.\\nIf you've really found the right girl, it may be time to rethink your lifestyle. Even a true player can fall a victim to love, and if you've found a girl who makes you feel like she really is the only girl in the world and the person you want to spend all of your time with, then don't give her up. This is rare in the life of the true player, but if you really can't control how you feel, it may be worth it to tell the other ladies you're off the market.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Always think of your next move.\", \"描述\": \"Like a true chess champ, you should always be at least one step--or many--ahead of the game. If you only focus on the present, you won't have a revolving door of women in your life. Here's how to do it:\\nHave a game plan for your night. If you're out at a club, think of your next location. Will you be taking the lady to more intimate bar, to your crib, or to a friend's fancy after party? Before you pick the girl, plan your moves for the night, so you don't waste your time figuring out what to do.\\nHave a plan for your weekends. You may have just finished saying goodbye to your latest girl, but what are you doing the next night? Unless you want to spend it sitting alone in your basement and checking your phone, you should already have a lady lined up.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look Like a Player\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have the right clothes.\", \"描述\": \"You have to look the part before you can act the part. A true player should look smooth, but like he's not trying too hard. His clothes should have one goal--to help him find women who want to rip them off. Here are some ways to wear the perfect clothes:\\nWear a nice long-sleeved button down shirt over a tight tank top. The ladies will want to get you down to your tight shirt so they can feel your muscles. Always wear shirts that hint at or display your killer biceps.\\nWear pants that are a little loose so they can hang low. Show the ladies just a hint of your boxers, and find excuses to lift up your shirt so they can see your rock hard abs. Once they see your happy trail, they'll want to follow it all the way down.\\nHave smart shoes. Whether you're out at a fancy restaurant or wearing more casual sneakers at the gym, make it clear that your shoes are brand-new and expensive. The ladies will think you'll shell out the same amount of cash that you spent on your shoes on your fancy dates.\\nWear a few key accessories. Have a fun wallet, a big gold chain, and flashy jewelry. You are not trying to be subtle, player. Have a leather belt with a flashy buckle, so the ladies are already looking in the right direction.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have the right body.\", \"描述\": \"Being a player isn't all fun and games. To keep up the player look, you have to put in long hours at the gym. You won't be able to seduce the ladies if your biceps look like string beans. Here's how to do it:\\nDevelop your cardio. Start by running for just one or two miles, but learn to run for at least five miles without getting winded. You won't be much of a Don Juan if you're wheezing while you leading your latest conquest up a staircase.\\nBuild muscle. Do whatever you can to have rock-hard abs, impeccable pecs, and strong shoulders. Hit up the bench press at the gym, or try a sport that will help build muscle, like boxing or basketball.\\nEat right. If you're taking a lady on a dinner date, you can eat something manly like a juicy steak, but when you're on your own, try to eat a healthy balance of fruits, veggies, proteins, and carbs. Eating the right foods, especially proteins, can help you burn fat and build muscle.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have the perfect body language.\", \"描述\": \"Having an open and assertive body will show your lady of the week that you're not only confident but that you're focusing all of your energy on her--for the time being. Here's how to do it:\\nMake killer eye contact. When you're talking to a lady, look deep into her eyes, like you could jump right into them. This will make her blush and will easily turn her on. Make her feel like the only girl not only in the room, but in the world.\\nLean in closely when you talk. When you talk to girl who is obviously into you, lean in real close, like you could kiss her at any moment. This will leave her wanting more.\\nFace your arms and body in her direction. Don't cross your arms, or turn your legs away from her. Everything about your body should say, \\\"Hey baby, I'm ready.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Clean up like a player.\", \"描述\": \"Hygiene is just as important as having the right clothes or body language. The ladies won't be charmed by you if you smell like you spend the night in an alley. Here's how to seduce them by your ability to clean up:\\nWear a powerful, manly cologne. That will make the ladies want to faint in your arms.\\nShower and wash your hair at least once a day. Use a manly body wash and shampoo to leave the ladies swooning.\\nUse hair gel. Give your hair an extra kick with some gel--the ladies will want to run their fingers through it.\\nAlways have fresh breath. You'll need it for close-talking.\\nHave a fresh face. Shave off your facial hair, and run your hands over your face. Turn to your girl and say, \\\"Feel how smooth that is, girl.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have a player-worthy crib.\", \"描述\": \"To complete the part of a player, you not only have to look like a player, but your crib has to be worthy of the ladies too. Here's how to have a sexy crash pad for your lady:\\nKeep it clean. Since you can bring home a lady at the blink of any eye, you should always keep fresh sheets, clean counters, and most importantly--a spotless bathroom. If your lady is grossed out as soon as she walks into your place, she'll be calling for a cab before you can make your first move.\\nAlways have reinforcements. Stock your home with bottles of wine and sexy snacks like grapes or strawberries.\\nKeep it sleek. Leather couches, shiny lamps, and a flat-screen TV will make your lady feel at home in your love nest. If you can't afford to have a killer bachelor pad, focus on keeping your place clean.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Walk the Player Walk\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose wisely.\", \"描述\": \"Before you go in for the kill, you need to make sure to pick a lady who will be receptive to your player ways. If you choose the wrong girl, you may either end up with someone who is just not interested, or who wants to get wifed up ASAP. Here's how to find the right girl:\\nLook for a girl who is laughing, obviously having fun, and looking to have a good time. Don't talk to anyone who is obviously bored, checking her phone, or just looking around for something better to do. A girl like that is a soft target for a reason, and you want someone who is worth impressing.\\nAvoid ladies who are looking for a husband. Many of the ladies you approach will be looking for more than a fling. Any girl who mentions having you meet her parents, wanting to settle down, or talks about how many times she's been a bridesmaid probably doesn't want to be your tenth favorite girl. Let this lady find her soul mate, and don't waste your time--or hers.\\nAvoid girls who are obviously taken. If you spot a hottie who is barely interested in some guy who is trying to make a move on her, then go for it. But if a lady is batting eyes at her boyfriend or suitor, unless you're really up for the challenge, find someone who is still fun but not so clearly off-limits.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make the girl feel special.\", \"描述\": \"Approach a group of ladies, and have fun chatting them up and showing you're a great guy to be around. But after a while, home in on the lady of your choosing, and find a way to isolate her and make her feel unique. Here's how:\\nHave a light opening. Start off by teasing her or just asking what she'd like to drink. Make her laugh and show that you're a person worth talking to.\\nTell her that she's special. Say something like, \\\"There's something different about you.\\\" Make her feel like she really stands out, and that you understand that there is something extra unique about her.\\nCompliment her. Don't overdo it, but tell her at least three things you like about her, whether it's her eyes, her dance moves, or her laugh. You don't have to say anything deep--just let her know that you appreciate who she is and want to get to know her.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Focus the conversation on her.\", \"描述\": \"People love to feel interesting, so listen closely to her and show genuine interest in what she has to say.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be a gentleman.\", \"描述\": \"Treat her, the waiter, her friends, and strangers with complete respect. This signals to her that you're the good kind of mysterious, and that you'll treat her well.\\nHold doors for people, help her put on her jacket, and listen closely to what she wants.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be cool if she says no.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe she isn't comfortable with casual sex, maybe she isn't looking for that type of fun tonight, or maybe she isn't into guys. Stay cool and shrug it off.\\nIf you get turned down right off the bat, give her a polite nod and say \\\"All right. Have a good night.\\\" Then look for a more receptive woman.\\nIf she doesn't want to take things up past a certain level, accept her decision and cool things down. Stay casual and don't pressure her.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't mislead her.\", \"描述\": \"The difference between a good player and a jerk is that a jerk is willing to lie to a lady. You don't want to hook up with a woman who thinks this is the beginning of a long-term relationship. Let her know that you aren't looking for commitment, so that there are no awkward misunderstandings later.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Always be closing.\", \"描述\": \"Follow your A-B-Cs and remember to always try to take your conversation to the next level. Your goal is to get your lady into bed, not to have a deep conversation about the meaning of life. When you hit it off with a lady, you should show her that you want to take it to the next level. Here's how:\\nBe casual. Just say something like, \\\"You wanna get out of here?\\\" Or, \\\"How about we go somewhere where we can really talk?\\\"\\nPut the moves on. Once you get your lady alone, touch her gently, or ask if you can take off her coat. Seduce her as quickly as you can, as long as she's into it.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be sexy in the sack.\", \"描述\": \"To be a true player, you have to show the ladies that you're not just all talk. Here's are some tips for being great in bed so the ladies put your on their speed dial:\\nGive your lady a massage. Massage her shoulders, her lower back, or even her feet, to show that you know how to touch her body.\\nKiss with passion. Don't shove your tongue in your lady's mouth--start with a gentle kiss and work your way toward an all-out makeout.\\nOnce you're in bed, take your time. Give your girl enough time to be ready for sex. Tease her, bite her gently, or do whatever you need to do to turn her on. Just don't rush into sex because that can just be painful and definitely not hot.\\nWhen it's over, be courteous. You don't have to spend hours cuddling in bed once the deed is done, but spending some time with your lady, gently kissing her, or letting her spend the night, will make her feel more special than if you instantly jump in the shower once your passion has run its course.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Play it cool.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've had a good time with your new woman, it's important to have the right attitude so you can see her again if you want, or at least leave on a good note so she doesn't talk trash about you to her girlfriends. Here's how:\\nBe vague about when you'll see her again. Tell her you'll see her around. Don't try to set up a dinner date for the following week--that's not how players roll.\\nBe a gentleman. Help her put her coat on and walk her to the door or to her car. Make a good last impression so she doesn't think you're completely sleazy.\\nDon't overdo it with your flattery. Tell her you had a great time, but don't tell her you had the best night of your life. Be real and don't make her think you're something you're not.\\nEnd on a good note. As you say goodbye, make her laugh, give her a gentle kiss, or remind her of something from the night before. Make sure she wants to see you again--it's up to you to decide if you want to see her again or to move on. If you do want to see her again, give it a few days before you check in. Play on, player!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"You Should be a Player If...\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You're not looking for stability.\", \"描述\": \"Being a player is not about finding The One. It is about getting to know lots of people, moving quickly from one partner to the other. Neither mode of dating is \\\"right,\\\" but you should know that being a player is a shallow, surface-level way to make connections.\\nIf you're looking for deep emotional connections, don't be a player.\\nIf you want to find someone to settle down with, don't be a player.\\nIf you don't feel comfortable letting people down, don't be a player.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"You love to go out and meet new people.\", \"描述\": \"The player lifestyle is constantly on the move. You're going to new parties, clubs, and events every weekend, and you are constantly making new friends. A player has a wide range of friends, though only a few of them are necessarily \\\"close\\\" friends.\\nIf you'd rather sit in and watch Netflix, don't be a player.\\nIf you'd rather meet the gang at your favorite bar each weekend, don't be a player.\\nIf you want the comfort and ease of long-term relationships, don't be a player.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"You're okay hurting a few people's feelings.\", \"描述\": \"The reality of being a player is that feelings are going to hurt. Some people are going to get attached. You might even get unexpectedly attached. If you're committed to playing the field, you're never going to have full control over the emotions of others. Every now and then things won't end as neatly as you hope. You're going to have to firmly, though politely, let people down.\\nIf you'd rather not break up with people, don't be a player.\\nIf you know you struggle with confrontation, don't be a player.\\nIf you feel bad about sleeping with someone and leaving the next morning, don't be a player.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"You're ready to juggle multiple partners at once.\", \"描述\": \"Being a player is not about being monogamous. But handling several partners at the same time is not easy, especially if you're not telling them who else you're seeing. This isn't to say it's wrong or unethical. You just need to know what you're getting into.\\nIf you're uncomfortable keeping multiple relationships going, don't be a player.\\nIf you hate managing relationships, texting, and keeping secrets, don't be a player.\\nIf you have a moral or ethical problem with polyamory, don't be a player.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"You're willing to try new things.\", \"描述\": \"At the end of the day, you don't have to choose between being a player and avoiding the game. You can, of course, fall somewhere in the middle. If you're unsure about this, just give it a shot. Try to meet a few new partners, and keep them all low key. The following advice doesn't have to be followed to the letter if you're just interested in exploring your relationships a bit more.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Remember, before breaking up with a girl, be polite, courteous, and let her down gently. You’ll have a better shot at preventing a confrontation this way.\\n\", \"If she’s with a group, try to make friends with the group. Earning the respect of the Alpha Male of the group with make your appeal grow in her eyes.\\n\", \"Be a gentleman. Open the door for her, say “bless you” if she sneezes, and show consideration as often as you can.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Never date girls that are friends of the same circle or that you work with. This can have unintended consequences.\\n\", \"Women can play men just as men play women. A playette will use many of the aforementioned tactics to gain the upper hand for the purpose of seducing you. You can choose whether or not to play along.\\n\", \"Don't be a jerk. You can be confident and seek after women without putting up a nasty front.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Making Simple Changes to Convey Positivity
1-1. Choose to harbor positive emotions.
Make the active decision to nurture a positive mindset. This is one of the quickest ways to affect your mood and outlook, which are both constantly shaping how other people feel around you. Further, maintaining positive emotions will contribute to your own satisfaction and the amount of happiness you experience. These sentiments will also positively affect the way you interact with others.
Choose to hold onto positive thoughts as they arise, and repeat them in your mind. Similarly, make the decision to set negative thoughts aside, and address any recurring sources of negativity.
Think of harboring positive emotions as providing the base of an “upwards spiral” that will contribute to your own emotional health and the enjoyment others derive in your company.
The more optimism you convey externally, the more positive experiences you’ll share. In turn, these will lead to greater personal and social comfort, success, and happiness.
1-2. Perform simple acts of kindness whenever possible.
Acts of kindness will immediately send a pleasant, positive message to whomever witnesses or benefits from them. Further, performing acts of kindness will contribute to your own feelings of happiness. For instance, simply smiling while holding the door has the legitimate potential to improve someone’s day. Don’t miss your next chance to do so!
1-3. Point out the little things that you enjoy.
Take note of the little things that make you happy, and mention them to others around you. Simply spreading a sense of general contentment in the spaces you share with others will cause them to value and appreciate your presence.
For instance, simply mention how refreshing the air is on a particular day, or pointing out the blue jay on the tree outside the office window.
1-4. Bite your tongue more often.
Reduce the frequency with which you criticize or make contentious statements. When you disagree with someone, think about the specific reasons you hold a different perspective before voicing your disagreement. If you are uncertain about whether a critical comment is worth saying, try to see the scenario from the other person’s perspective. This will likely lead you to frame your perspective more pleasantly.
1-5. Allow yourself to smile.
Smiling is one of the most powerfully pleasant behaviors you can immediately start doing more often. Not only will you own mood be elevated, leading you to act more pleasantly, the smile alone will positively affect the mood of those who see it – whether they realize it or not!
Smile at people you interact with before saying hello. People will almost always smile back, and your interactions will start off pleasantly, even before either of you say a word.
2. Communicating Pleasantly
2-1. Articulate your thankfulness.
The sentiment of gratitude actually contributes to your own and others’ happiness. Further, those who indicate their gratefulness to others wind up actually being more grateful for the contributions that others make to their lives, and enjoy stronger, more pleasant relationships with those around them. All told, gratitude, happiness, and positive relationships all tend to enhance each other.
Incorporate gracious behavior into your daily life by saying “please” and “thank you” more frequently. This does more than simply indicate your basic gratitude, it also helps convey yourself pleasantly and respectfully.
Try writing in a gratitude journal each day.
You can also hang up inspirational post-its on your mirror to help you feel more thankful and grateful.
2-2. Give genuine apologies.
Whenever you make a mistake, particularly by doing something that hurts another person, you need to apologize for it. This is true whether your mistake was intentional or unintentional. Focus on conveying the fact that you’re truly sorry. Say something like, “I wanted to tell you that I’m sorry about ________.”
Don’t try to explain or shift blame away from yourself. This will make your apology sound disingenuous. If an explanation is necessary, it can be given later, in a separate conversation.
2-3. Listen first.
Instinct usually warrants speaking first and then listening to another’s perspective. However, you will likely be perceived more pleasantly if you get in the practice of listening first, and speaking only once you fully understand another’s perspective. Not only will you learn more about situations and people by actively listening to them, the efficiency and clarity of your conversations will improve.
You’re immediately more likable if you are able to convey that you are genuinely interested in another person. One of the best ways to do so is by listening quietly, while making eye contact and indicating you understand by nodding periodically.
After listening, you’ll also be able to frame your own perspective according to another’s vernacular, which make them more likely to hear what you’re saying, and increases the likelihood that the conversation is positive and productive.
3. Taking an Active Role in Social Interactions
3-1. Laugh readily and often.
On par with the visual positivity of a smile, laughing is an auditory message that you’re happy. Further, it conveys that you’re on the same page with someone, that will make you both more comfortable in one another’s presence. And of course, laughing actually causes a release of endorphins that contribute to happiness and relaxation.
Never stifle a laugh! Laughter is simply contagious: once someone begins, others are likely to follow, and all will benefit from its positive effects.
Make eye contact with someone immediately after sharing a laugh with them. There is perhaps no better way for people to maintain positive sentiments than by keeping one another laughing.
3-2. Compliment readily.
Acknowledging that you noticed something about someone that you admired or were otherwise impressed by is another surefire way to create a pleasant rapport between you. Sincerity is key, of course, so don’t go around complimenting people without any actual inspiration to do so. Instead, simply verbalize the complimentary thoughts that naturally come to your mind.
For instance, when you find yourself impressed by someone’s behavior or performance, let them know.
Be specific, as this will make the compliment sound sincere. Say something like, “I really admired how you handled yourself in there today. I thought your response to _____ was insightful and productive.”
Make a compliment personal too, by adding something along the lines of, “I’m glad we’ll be working together on this.”
3-3. Initiate conversations with casual acquaintances.
If you frequently run into someone, or have met a friend of a friend before but don’t really know them yet, don’t hesitate to say hello. Know that you can keep it brief if it feels awkward or if you tend to be shy.
Even simply saying hello will increase the likelihood that others will feel positively towards you. Introduce yourself, ask the person’s name, and say something like “Well, great to see you! Hopefully we’ll run into each other again soon.”
3-4. Engage in small talk.
It might be insufferable in moments of particularly uninteresting conversation, but small talk indicates something incredibly important; that you feel the person with whom your speaking is worth your time and attention. Particularly when someone tries to chat with you, at least engage them for a polite exchange about the weather, the sports teams currently in the news, or the latest politician’s gaff.
Whenever you encounter someone you know, say hello! Whether friends, or co-workers, indicate that you value the people around you by making a point of engaging with them, even if only for moment.
Don’t allow concerns about a potentially uninteresting conversation to dissuade you from a positive encounter. At worst, you can always politely excuse yourself after trading a few pleasantries.
3-5. Take the opportunity to include others in your life.
In simplest terms, invite others to join you, especially in social endeavors. For instance, whenever running into an old friend, be sure to include an invitation to the next open social gathering you’re looking forward to. Even if others are unable to attend a particular event, your invitation will come across as friendly and pleasant.
3-6. Welcome new people to shared social groups.
Especially when someone has been brought into a new group but may not have developed individual relationships, make yourself available. If someone may need a bit of guidance getting used to a new environment, offer to walk them through an activity or scenario they may not have encountered before.
Make a point of talking to the person at a social or work gathering you don’t know, and make sure they’re in the loop regarding any future activities that they might also be interested.
Even if only in parting, say something along the lines of, “Hey, two weeks from today is _____. Hope to see you there!”
3-7. Expose yourself to other human beings.
Technology has increasingly offered the ability to entertain, and even to sustain ourselves almost entirely independently. This does not mean that doing everything alone will make your happier. In fact, the more time you spend alone, the more important it is to go out too. One quick way to up your social interactions is making lunch plans. While your job will dictate the specifics, try to eat your meals, especially lunch and dinner, with others.
In general, indicate that you want to be involved by vocalizing your interest and joining in group activities whenever you’re able to do so.
Stay a while longer at social functions. Often, more personal interactions will occur when crowds have thinned, and the more you’re able to relate to someone, the more likely the two of you will enjoy a pleasant evening together.
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1. Preparing Through School
1-1. Take relevant classes.
Even in high school, you can take certain classes that will prepare you for plumbing. A number of high schools offer vocational training for upperclassmen. Ideal courses would be in plumbing and heating. You can still prepare yourself by enrolling in classes in math, physics, and computer technology.
You may also want to take classes in drafting and blueprint reading, if your school offers them.
1-2. Get your high school diploma or GED.
You’re required to complete high school or get your GED to enroll in vocational training and apprenticeships. People working in your school’s career center may have connections and available programs for you.
Take advantage of the resources available to you.
1-3. Research higher education.
Survey the available community colleges in your area. Depending on the school, you may be able to attend any state community college. Pick a school that has a program that specializes in plumbing. Some schools offer one year vocational degrees while others offer a two associate's degree.
If you’re unsure about the options available, talk to your high school’s counseling services. Certain high schools have resources for advising and contacting colleges.
1-4. Enroll in vocational training.
Once you find a plumbing program at a trade school, technical or community college, you’ll need to sign up for classes. You'll earn a certificate that covers water supply and drainage systems, as well as piping equipment. It is not necessary to get a degree in plumbing, but many companies and state agencies prefer it.
Not all plumbers get their vocational training in this manner.
1-5. Take specialty programs.
Depending on the school you decide on, you might be able to take courses that specialize in niche areas of study. There is a major shift towards water conservation today and many businesses want plumbers who specialize in this.
2. Joining an Apprentice Program
2-1. Research and apply to local plumbing companies.
Some private companies offer apprenticeships to those willing to learn. Make your resume and try to list relevant skills and jobs that retain to being a plumber. It’s okay if you’ve never had a plumbing job, but a job in customer service will look good. Include your plumbing degree if you received one.
Print off copies of your resumes and bring them to the managers of plumbing companies. Even if a company isn’t hiring, they’ll probably still take your resume and appreciate your effort.
An important part of your resume is to show that you can keep a job for over six months.
Never lie about the information you give to a prospective company. They’d rather work with no experience than a liar.
2-2. Apply to a plumber’s union.
Unions can be difficult to join as an apprentice, but the training and experience will be beneficial. Research local unions and then consider the United Association (UA). UA is a long recognized union that branches beyond plumbing. There are opportunities for a union to provide classes and even opportunities for obtaining an associate's or bachelor's degree.
2-3. Work with a pro.
Part the apprenticeship program is working day to day with someone who has already gone through the steps you're going through. Some apprenticeships assign you one mentor to work with, while others offer a rotating support group of experienced plumbers. Take as much away from these figures because you won't always have them around on the job.
Most apprenticeships will pay you while working under the program.
2-4. Work in the classroom.
All apprenticeship programs require a certain amount of classwork. Subjects can range from trade mathematics, technical blueprint reading, mechanical drawing, computer science, water supply, drainage, code interpretation, and more. Certain programs will send you to local community colleges and have a member from the American Council of Education to evaluate your progress.
Some programs will pay for you to go through school and give you the chance to earn an Associates in Science.
2-5. Complete an apprenticeship program.
Apprenticeship programs generally offer the most comprehensive training on becoming a plumber. They are usually administered jointly by either plumbers' unions or by non-union contractor organizations. Be prepared to put in the work while considering an apprenticeship.
Apprenticeships run 4 to 5 years beginning with basic plumbing skills and advance to more sophisticated work, covering all aspects of the trade.
3. Getting Licensed
3-1. Research your state’s requirements.
Plumbing licenses are not issued by the federal government. Each state administers a different application for becoming licensed. You’ll need to find out which government entity issues the license. Then you’ll need to figure out what education and work experience is required.
Most states use the state government to issue licenses, but some are deemed at the local level (county, city, or town) like New York.
Certain states issue the license, but then some local governments set different requirements like Chicago.
3-2. Understand the factions of licenses.
Different states and local governments will require different levels of plumbing licenses. For most metropolitan areas, you’ll be required to hold the highest level. These are some of the degrees of licenses:
Apprentice plumber does not need a license because she is in training to eventually hold a license.
Journeyman plumbing license requires at least fours years training under a master plumber.
Master plumbing license usually has the most rigorous requirements. You’ll typically already have a journeyman plumbing license as well as need letters of recommendation.
Every states holds different requirements for these licenses.
3-3. Apply for the license.
Once you consult your state's website, check over all the requirements and be sure you meet them. Some states have their applications online while others require you to fill them out by hand.
Have a record of all your past plumbing experience and have a few references for your file.
3-4. Study for the exam.
Once you apply to the license that you’re qualified for, you’ll receive a packet of practice tests. Prepare by taking time in reviewing the practice materials and spend as much time as it takes till you understand everything.
It is best to keep your notes and textbooks from your apprenticeship to study.
Try not to cut corners and instead absorb the given material.
The exam will be anywhere from 1.5 to 4 hours depending on what license you're applying for.
3-5. Get licensed.
Once you build up your application and complete all the requirements deemed by your state, you’re ready to take the exam. Being licensed is required to work independently as a plumber.
It is important to understand the materials on the exam because your license will expire at some point. When your license expires you'll need to reapply to keep your title.
Tips
Plumbers can also seek additional training and certification in a plumbing specialty. An increasingly popular area of specialization is in green plumbing techniques, designed to save both water and energy.
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There is a major shift towards water conservation today and many businesses want plumbers who specialize in this.\\n2. Joining an Apprentice Program\\n2-1. Research and apply to local plumbing companies.\\nSome private companies offer apprenticeships to those willing to learn. Make your resume and try to list relevant skills and jobs that retain to being a plumber. It’s okay if you’ve never had a plumbing job, but a job in customer service will look good. Include your plumbing degree if you received one.\\nPrint off copies of your resumes and bring them to the managers of plumbing companies. Even if a company isn’t hiring, they’ll probably still take your resume and appreciate your effort.\\nAn important part of your resume is to show that you can keep a job for over six months.\\nNever lie about the information you give to a prospective company. They’d rather work with no experience than a liar.\\n2-2. Apply to a plumber’s union.\\nUnions can be difficult to join as an apprentice, but the training and experience will be beneficial. Research local unions and then consider the United Association (UA). UA is a long recognized union that branches beyond plumbing. There are opportunities for a union to provide classes and even opportunities for obtaining an associate's or bachelor's degree.\\n2-3. Work with a pro.\\nPart the apprenticeship program is working day to day with someone who has already gone through the steps you're going through. Some apprenticeships assign you one mentor to work with, while others offer a rotating support group of experienced plumbers. Take as much away from these figures because you won't always have them around on the job.\\nMost apprenticeships will pay you while working under the program.\\n2-4. Work in the classroom.\\nAll apprenticeship programs require a certain amount of classwork. Subjects can range from trade mathematics, technical blueprint reading, mechanical drawing, computer science, water supply, drainage, code interpretation, and more. Certain programs will send you to local community colleges and have a member from the American Council of Education to evaluate your progress.\\nSome programs will pay for you to go through school and give you the chance to earn an Associates in Science.\\n2-5. Complete an apprenticeship program.\\nApprenticeship programs generally offer the most comprehensive training on becoming a plumber. They are usually administered jointly by either plumbers' unions or by non-union contractor organizations. Be prepared to put in the work while considering an apprenticeship.\\nApprenticeships run 4 to 5 years beginning with basic plumbing skills and advance to more sophisticated work, covering all aspects of the trade.\\n3. Getting Licensed\\n3-1. Research your state’s requirements.\\nPlumbing licenses are not issued by the federal government. Each state administers a different application for becoming licensed. You’ll need to find out which government entity issues the license. Then you’ll need to figure out what education and work experience is required.\\nMost states use the state government to issue licenses, but some are deemed at the local level (county, city, or town) like New York.\\nCertain states issue the license, but then some local governments set different requirements like Chicago.\\n3-2. Understand the factions of licenses.\\nDifferent states and local governments will require different levels of plumbing licenses. For most metropolitan areas, you’ll be required to hold the highest level. These are some of the degrees of licenses:\\nApprentice plumber does not need a license because she is in training to eventually hold a license.\\nJourneyman plumbing license requires at least fours years training under a master plumber.\\nMaster plumbing license usually has the most rigorous requirements. You’ll typically already have a journeyman plumbing license as well as need letters of recommendation.\\nEvery states holds different requirements for these licenses.\\n3-3. Apply for the license.\\nOnce you consult your state's website, check over all the requirements and be sure you meet them. Some states have their applications online while others require you to fill them out by hand.\\nHave a record of all your past plumbing experience and have a few references for your file.\\n3-4. Study for the exam.\\nOnce you apply to the license that you’re qualified for, you’ll receive a packet of practice tests. 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1. Finding Your Inspiration
1-1. Pick a subject that matters to you.
Think about what you value in life or take an experience you’ve had in life as the starting point for your poem. Make a list of points in your life that have affected you to find themes that you can use as a basis for your writing.
For example, if you had an accident or someone close to you has passed away, you may write about mortality or celebrating life.
Inspiration could come at any time and surprise you. Carry a small pad of paper and a pen with you or use the Notes function on your phone to write down anything that pops into your head.
1-2. Write with your emotions.
Think about the things that make you happy, sad, angry, or any other feelings you have. When you have an emotional stake in the subject matter you’re writing about, your poetry will seem stronger and more passionate.
Consider your audience for the poems you’re writing. The subject matter doesn’t have to relate to every single one of your readers, but they should understand the emotions you’re connecting to it.
Try free-writing or journaling to get in the practice of writing regularly.
1-3. Look through a book or website filled with writing prompts.
Purchase a book specifically for poetry prompts to find inspiration when you need it. Other websites offer a new prompt every day so you never revisit the same prompt twice. Even if you don’t write a poem from the prompt, brainstorm what the prompt means to you.
Revisit writing prompts once in a while to jot down new ideas you may not have initially thought of.
1-4. Find something ordinary to describe in an extraordinary way.
Look around your home and out in nature to make a list of the things you take for granted. Think of new ways to describe these common occurrences using similes and metaphors. Consider what feelings they evoke.
For example, you may think about how sitting in front of a warm fire feels, or how the weather is during your favorite season.
1-5. Read other poets to get a sense of ideas.
Read classic poets such as Emily Dickinson, Robert Frost, or William Blake. Find styles that you like and continue reading them to understand how they structure their poems.
Ask your local librarian or a literature teacher for poetry suggestions.
Try writing a poem that emulates their style as a warm-up.
1-6. Look for contemporary poets in literary journals.
Look in your library and online for journals like Fence, Brooklyn Rail, or Poetry. These journals can help you find new poets that you may not be familiar with and help expose yourself to current styles.
Literary journals often list potential publishers that you can later contact when you have poems of your own.
1-7. Go to open mic or slam poetry nights.
Inquire at your local coffee shops or bookstores to see if they offer nights where people can share their work. This way you can meet with local poets and hear their work performed.
If you have poems you want to read or perform, these nights are great opportunities for you to practice.
2. Studying Poetry
2-1. Attend workshops by local authors.
Check with your local bookstores or libraries to see if they have any events planned for visiting poets. These usually include a reading by the poet and workshopping your own poetry. Take advantage of these events so you can continue learning.
See if your city or a city near you hosts a writer’s conference. There, you can meet other writers and attend lecture sessions.
2-2. Take creative writing courses online or in school.
Look at your local university or community college to find in-class options or see if online lectures are available. Creative writing covers many basics, like short stories and poetry. See if there’s a class offered with poetry as its primary focus.
Search on YouTube or Vimeo for masterclasses or lectures from professional poets.
2-3. Consider getting an MFA in poetry.
Getting your master’s degree will help expose you to more poetry as well as help shape your own writing style. Your professors will help guide you and make you think critically on what does and doesn’t work in poems.
Many MFAs require you to have prerequisite courses or similar experience. Make sure you check the school where you apply for information on what you need.
Getting an MFA in poetry doesn’t guarantee that you’ll get a job as a professional poet.
3. Writing Poems
3-1. Set time aside each day to focus on writing.
Find a time in your schedule when you feel the most productive to write your poetry. Even if you only do a brainstorming session, you’re working on getting your ideas on paper and preparing them for your poem.
Every person has a time that works best for them for writing. Try a few different times throughout the day to find when you’re the most productive.
3-2. Decide on the style of poem you want to write.
There are many different types of poems you can write, both structured and unstructured. Look at the styles of poets you admire and try to write something similar since you’re familiar with the structure.
Many poems follow a specific rhyme scheme, but rhyming is not required. Try free verse poems to have more freedom.
Haikus are short 3-line poems that usually discuss topics like nature or moments of beauty.
3-3. Brainstorm imagery associated with the topic you want to write about.
Write the main topic or theme of your poem in the center of a piece of paper. Incorporate each of the 5 senses into your brainstorming session to fully encapsulate the experience you want to convey.
Avoid using clichés in your brainstorming, such as phrases like cold as ice or busy as a bee.
3-4. Use a thesaurus to find stronger, more descriptive words.
Look up the word you want to replace in your thesaurus to find other words with a similar definition. Avoid using the word very, but instead find a stronger word to describe the moment.
3-5. Read your poems out loud when you finish them.
Take pauses whenever there’s a line break or a punctuation marks. This way you’ll be able to hear the rhythm of the words when they’re spoken. If you stumble over words or something doesn’t sound quite right, adjust the wording.
Practice performing your poem to get an idea of how others may read it.
3-6. Revise your poems until you’re happy with how they sound.
Go back into your poem and adjust phrasing that doesn’t sound right or rhythms that don’t flow well. After each edit, read your poem aloud again to see if your edits worked. Once you’re happy with it, you’re ready to share.
Ask friends that you trust or literature teachers to look over your poems to see if they have any constructive feedback for you.
4. Publishing Your Poetry
4-1. Search for publishers that accept your style of poem.
There are various print and online media that have open submissions for poetry, but they may only accept certain styles. Look through the site or publication to see what normally gets published and tailor your submissions towards their guidelines.
Look on their site for all submission guidelines that they may have.
Ask your local librarian for the current Poet’s Market book published annually. This book lists all places that are accepting submissions and the styles they prefer.
Look out for publishing scams. If it sounds too good to be true or they ask for money when you send in your poems, do not use them.
4-2. Pick your best work to send to publications.
Even if you don’t think a specific publication deserves your best work, always put your best foot forward. Only submit poems that you’ve revised and workshopped a few times.
Make sure you double, or even triple, check the spelling and grammar in your poem before submitting it.
4-3. Provide a cover letter along with your submission.
Tell the editor of the publication about yourself and any publishing history that you may have. Keep the letter less than 1 page long. Thank the editor for their time and consideration for looking over your work.
Cover letters are not required for all submissions. Check with the guidelines for where you would like to submit to see if it’s necessary.
Include information if the poem you’re submitting has been previously published.
4-4. Keep track of your submissions in a spreadsheet.
Make a document in Excel, Google Sheets, or another similar spreadsheet program. Write down the name of the poem, where you’ve submitted it, and the submission date. Include if it has been accepted or rejected.
Keeping a spreadsheet allows you to easily keep track of your publication history and will prevent you from accidentally sending the same poem to the same publisher.
4-5. Self-publish
Compile your poems into a document and use a publishing resource like Amazon to create a physical copy or e-book of your work. This way people can support your collection, and you receive profits and recognition for your hard work!
Use Twitter and Facebook to promote your collection to let others know it’s available for purchase!
Tips
Keep reading poetry to continually improve on your own writing skills.
Find a writing group or people you trust to look over and help revise your poems.
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The subject matter doesn’t have to relate to every single one of your readers, but they should understand the emotions you’re connecting to it.\\nTry free-writing or journaling to get in the practice of writing regularly.\\n1-3. Look through a book or website filled with writing prompts.\\nPurchase a book specifically for poetry prompts to find inspiration when you need it. Other websites offer a new prompt every day so you never revisit the same prompt twice. Even if you don’t write a poem from the prompt, brainstorm what the prompt means to you.\\nRevisit writing prompts once in a while to jot down new ideas you may not have initially thought of.\\n1-4. Find something ordinary to describe in an extraordinary way.\\nLook around your home and out in nature to make a list of the things you take for granted. Think of new ways to describe these common occurrences using similes and metaphors. Consider what feelings they evoke.\\nFor example, you may think about how sitting in front of a warm fire feels, or how the weather is during your favorite season.\\n1-5. Read other poets to get a sense of ideas.\\nRead classic poets such as Emily Dickinson, Robert Frost, or William Blake. Find styles that you like and continue reading them to understand how they structure their poems.\\nAsk your local librarian or a literature teacher for poetry suggestions.\\nTry writing a poem that emulates their style as a warm-up.\\n1-6. Look for contemporary poets in literary journals.\\nLook in your library and online for journals like Fence, Brooklyn Rail, or Poetry. These journals can help you find new poets that you may not be familiar with and help expose yourself to current styles.\\nLiterary journals often list potential publishers that you can later contact when you have poems of your own.\\n1-7. Go to open mic or slam poetry nights.\\nInquire at your local coffee shops or bookstores to see if they offer nights where people can share their work. This way you can meet with local poets and hear their work performed.\\nIf you have poems you want to read or perform, these nights are great opportunities for you to practice.\\n2. Studying Poetry\\n2-1. Attend workshops by local authors.\\nCheck with your local bookstores or libraries to see if they have any events planned for visiting poets. These usually include a reading by the poet and workshopping your own poetry. Take advantage of these events so you can continue learning.\\nSee if your city or a city near you hosts a writer’s conference. There, you can meet other writers and attend lecture sessions.\\n2-2. Take creative writing courses online or in school.\\nLook at your local university or community college to find in-class options or see if online lectures are available. Creative writing covers many basics, like short stories and poetry. See if there’s a class offered with poetry as its primary focus.\\nSearch on YouTube or Vimeo for masterclasses or lectures from professional poets.\\n2-3. Consider getting an MFA in poetry.\\nGetting your master’s degree will help expose you to more poetry as well as help shape your own writing style. Your professors will help guide you and make you think critically on what does and doesn’t work in poems.\\nMany MFAs require you to have prerequisite courses or similar experience. Make sure you check the school where you apply for information on what you need.\\nGetting an MFA in poetry doesn’t guarantee that you’ll get a job as a professional poet.\\n3. Writing Poems\\n3-1. Set time aside each day to focus on writing.\\nFind a time in your schedule when you feel the most productive to write your poetry. Even if you only do a brainstorming session, you’re working on getting your ideas on paper and preparing them for your poem.\\nEvery person has a time that works best for them for writing. Try a few different times throughout the day to find when you’re the most productive.\\n3-2. Decide on the style of poem you want to write.\\nThere are many different types of poems you can write, both structured and unstructured. Look at the styles of poets you admire and try to write something similar since you’re familiar with the structure.\\nMany poems follow a specific rhyme scheme, but rhyming is not required. Try free verse poems to have more freedom.\\nHaikus are short 3-line poems that usually discuss topics like nature or moments of beauty.\\n3-3. Brainstorm imagery associated with the topic you want to write about.\\nWrite the main topic or theme of your poem in the center of a piece of paper. Incorporate each of the 5 senses into your brainstorming session to fully encapsulate the experience you want to convey.\\nAvoid using clichés in your brainstorming, such as phrases like cold as ice or busy as a bee.\\n3-4. Use a thesaurus to find stronger, more descriptive words.\\nLook up the word you want to replace in your thesaurus to find other words with a similar definition. Avoid using the word very, but instead find a stronger word to describe the moment.\\n3-5. Read your poems out loud when you finish them.\\nTake pauses whenever there’s a line break or a punctuation marks. This way you’ll be able to hear the rhythm of the words when they’re spoken. If you stumble over words or something doesn’t sound quite right, adjust the wording.\\nPractice performing your poem to get an idea of how others may read it.\\n3-6. Revise your poems until you’re happy with how they sound.\\nGo back into your poem and adjust phrasing that doesn’t sound right or rhythms that don’t flow well. After each edit, read your poem aloud again to see if your edits worked. Once you’re happy with it, you’re ready to share.\\nAsk friends that you trust or literature teachers to look over your poems to see if they have any constructive feedback for you.\\n4. Publishing Your Poetry\\n4-1. Search for publishers that accept your style of poem.\\nThere are various print and online media that have open submissions for poetry, but they may only accept certain styles. Look through the site or publication to see what normally gets published and tailor your submissions towards their guidelines.\\nLook on their site for all submission guidelines that they may have.\\nAsk your local librarian for the current Poet’s Market book published annually. This book lists all places that are accepting submissions and the styles they prefer.\\nLook out for publishing scams. If it sounds too good to be true or they ask for money when you send in your poems, do not use them.\\n4-2. Pick your best work to send to publications.\\nEven if you don’t think a specific publication deserves your best work, always put your best foot forward. Only submit poems that you’ve revised and workshopped a few times.\\nMake sure you double, or even triple, check the spelling and grammar in your poem before submitting it.\\n4-3. Provide a cover letter along with your submission.\\nTell the editor of the publication about yourself and any publishing history that you may have. Keep the letter less than 1 page long. Thank the editor for their time and consideration for looking over your work.\\nCover letters are not required for all submissions. Check with the guidelines for where you would like to submit to see if it’s necessary.\\nInclude information if the poem you’re submitting has been previously published.\\n4-4. Keep track of your submissions in a spreadsheet.\\nMake a document in Excel, Google Sheets, or another similar spreadsheet program. Write down the name of the poem, where you’ve submitted it, and the submission date. Include if it has been accepted or rejected.\\nKeeping a spreadsheet allows you to easily keep track of your publication history and will prevent you from accidentally sending the same poem to the same publisher.\\n4-5. Self-publish\\nCompile your poems into a document and use a publishing resource like Amazon to create a physical copy or e-book of your work. This way people can support your collection, and you receive profits and recognition for your hard work!\\nUse Twitter and Facebook to promote your collection to let others know it’s available for purchase!\\nTips\\nKeep reading poetry to continually improve on your own writing skills.\\nFind a writing group or people you trust to look over and help revise your poems.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Poetry is a great way to capture a feeling or an experience in very few words. 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Even if you don’t write a poem from the prompt, brainstorm what the prompt means to you.\\nRevisit writing prompts once in a while to jot down new ideas you may not have initially thought of.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find something ordinary to describe in an extraordinary way.\", \"描述\": \"Look around your home and out in nature to make a list of the things you take for granted. Think of new ways to describe these common occurrences using similes and metaphors. Consider what feelings they evoke.\\nFor example, you may think about how sitting in front of a warm fire feels, or how the weather is during your favorite season.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Read other poets to get a sense of ideas.\", \"描述\": \"Read classic poets such as Emily Dickinson, Robert Frost, or William Blake. Find styles that you like and continue reading them to understand how they structure their poems.\\nAsk your local librarian or a literature teacher for poetry suggestions.\\nTry writing a poem that emulates their style as a warm-up.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Look for contemporary poets in literary journals.\", \"描述\": \"Look in your library and online for journals like Fence, Brooklyn Rail, or Poetry. These journals can help you find new poets that you may not be familiar with and help expose yourself to current styles.\\nLiterary journals often list potential publishers that you can later contact when you have poems of your own.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Go to open mic or slam poetry nights.\", \"描述\": \"Inquire at your local coffee shops or bookstores to see if they offer nights where people can share their work. This way you can meet with local poets and hear their work performed.\\nIf you have poems you want to read or perform, these nights are great opportunities for you to practice.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Studying Poetry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Attend workshops by local authors.\", \"描述\": \"Check with your local bookstores or libraries to see if they have any events planned for visiting poets. These usually include a reading by the poet and workshopping your own poetry. Take advantage of these events so you can continue learning.\\nSee if your city or a city near you hosts a writer’s conference. There, you can meet other writers and attend lecture sessions.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take creative writing courses online or in school.\", \"描述\": \"Look at your local university or community college to find in-class options or see if online lectures are available. Creative writing covers many basics, like short stories and poetry. See if there’s a class offered with poetry as its primary focus.\\nSearch on YouTube or Vimeo for masterclasses or lectures from professional poets.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider getting an MFA in poetry.\", \"描述\": \"Getting your master’s degree will help expose you to more poetry as well as help shape your own writing style. Your professors will help guide you and make you think critically on what does and doesn’t work in poems.\\nMany MFAs require you to have prerequisite courses or similar experience. Make sure you check the school where you apply for information on what you need.\\nGetting an MFA in poetry doesn’t guarantee that you’ll get a job as a professional poet.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Writing Poems\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set time aside each day to focus on writing.\", \"描述\": \"Find a time in your schedule when you feel the most productive to write your poetry. Even if you only do a brainstorming session, you’re working on getting your ideas on paper and preparing them for your poem.\\nEvery person has a time that works best for them for writing. Try a few different times throughout the day to find when you’re the most productive.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Decide on the style of poem you want to write.\", \"描述\": \"There are many different types of poems you can write, both structured and unstructured. Look at the styles of poets you admire and try to write something similar since you’re familiar with the structure.\\nMany poems follow a specific rhyme scheme, but rhyming is not required. Try free verse poems to have more freedom.\\nHaikus are short 3-line poems that usually discuss topics like nature or moments of beauty.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Brainstorm imagery associated with the topic you want to write about.\", \"描述\": \"Write the main topic or theme of your poem in the center of a piece of paper. 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If you stumble over words or something doesn’t sound quite right, adjust the wording.\\nPractice performing your poem to get an idea of how others may read it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Revise your poems until you’re happy with how they sound.\", \"描述\": \"Go back into your poem and adjust phrasing that doesn’t sound right or rhythms that don’t flow well. After each edit, read your poem aloud again to see if your edits worked. Once you’re happy with it, you’re ready to share.\\nAsk friends that you trust or literature teachers to look over your poems to see if they have any constructive feedback for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Publishing Your Poetry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Search for publishers that accept your style of poem.\", \"描述\": \"There are various print and online media that have open submissions for poetry, but they may only accept certain styles. Look through the site or publication to see what normally gets published and tailor your submissions towards their guidelines.\\nLook on their site for all submission guidelines that they may have.\\nAsk your local librarian for the current Poet’s Market book published annually. This book lists all places that are accepting submissions and the styles they prefer.\\nLook out for publishing scams. If it sounds too good to be true or they ask for money when you send in your poems, do not use them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pick your best work to send to publications.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you don’t think a specific publication deserves your best work, always put your best foot forward. 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1. Steps
1-1. If you do not have a Pokémon game, buy one!
You'll also need a Nintendo DS, DS lite, DSi, DSi XL,3DS or a Game Boy.It is highly recommended to get at least one Generation VII game, Generation VII spin-off game, Generation VI game,Generation VI spin-off game,Generation V game, Generation V spin-off game, Generation IV game, and a Generation IV spin-off game (some examples of spin-off games are Battle and Get! Pokémon Typing DS and Pokémon Ranger: Guardian Signs). Generations I-III are played on the Nintendo Game Boy. The newest console you can play generation 1 and 2 games on is the Game Boy Advance SP, but Generation 3 games can be played on the Nintendo DS and the Nintendo DS Lite. Starting in Pokémon HeartGold and Pokémon SoulSilver versions, you can catch almost all of the first 493 Pokémon and there has been almost no need for migrating since. Once you have gotten your game(s) and have chosen your starter Pokémon, go on to step 2.
1-2. Visit an online Pokémon walkthrough site.
1-3. Do whatever errand is required in the game.
When you get some Poké Balls, catch some new Pokémon. They have to be wild ones, so head into some grass to randomly fight a wild Pokémon. Have your current Pokémon fight it, and weaken, but not defeat it. Once they are as weak as they can get, throw a Pokéball at the wild Pokémon. The less health has, the better chance the capture is successful. Once successful, you can use your new Pokémon immediately if you have an empty spot in your party. You have 6 slots in your party. Any Pokémon caught without an empty slot is transported to Someone's (soon to be either Bill's, Lanette's, Amanita's or Bebe's, depending on the version you chose) PC, which can be accessed at computers at a Pokémon Center.
1-4. Start training your Pokémon.
The above method is a good way to catch Pokémon. Now you have to train them! Have them battle against wild Pokémon and gain experience points. Make sure that you heal your Pokémon at Pokémon Centers in cities and towns. Pokémon Centers give their services for free. Also, go shopping at Poké Marts for important items that will help you on your journey. If you look at the statistics of your Pokémon, you can see how many experience points it takes for them to get to the next level. Every Pokémon defeated is worth some experience points for your Pokémon, and every level gained makes your Pokémon stronger.
1-5. Learn the stats.
Every level gained makes your Pokémon stronger. But how much stronger? Take a look at the statistics screen. It should have Hit Points, Attack, Defense, Special Attack, Special Defense, and Speed. Hit Points indicate how much damage the Pokémon can take before fainting. Attack controls how powerful your Pokémon is with physical attacks, such as Giga impact or Outrage. Defense controls how much damage your Pokémon take from physical attacks, the more defense the less damage. Special Attack controls the strength of special attacks, like Ice Beam or Thunder Shock. Special Defense is like normal Defense, except against Special Attacks. (Note that in Red, Blue, and Yellow, Special Attack and Special Defense are simply one stat: Special.) Finally, Speed determines which Pokémon goes attacks first each turn.
1-6. Learn battle mechanics.
By playing the game, you should already figure out how the game is played. But you can go even further. Pokémon with higher speed get the first turn in battle, which can be very crucial. In battle, a Pokémon's moves have a chance of hitting the opponent. A Pokémon even has a chance of doing double damage with an attack, called a critical hit. Each attack has a Power Point usage count. This count determines how many times a Pokémon can use the attack. Attacks like Tackle have a high PP count, of 35. Stronger attacks, like Thunder, have a PP count of only 10. Make sure that you balance moves by choosing attacks that are efficient; Thunder is powerful, but you can only use it 10 times, and it is inaccurate. Thunderbolt is weaker, but you can use it 15 times, and it is very accurate.Remember if your Pokémon is out of power points for all moves, you start using a move called struggle Some types of moves are great against others (like water against fire); whereas certain moves are not very good against others (like fire against water).
1-7. Learn about status effect.
A status effect has a chance of happening in battle, and they have negative effects for the affected. These effects are: Paralysis, Burn, Poison, Freeze, and Sleep. When a Pokémon is paralyzed, their speed is halved and there is a 20% chance of being completely unable to attack that turn. When a Pokémon is poisoned, they begin to lose some HP each turn, until they are defeated. When a Pokémon is burned, their attack goes down slightly and they lose some HP per turn. When put to sleep, Pokémon cannot attack until they wake up at a random number of turns later. Finally, the most potent affliction is freeze. A frozen Pokémon cannot do anything at all until they thaw out. There are also other status effects, which are not immediately visible. These can overlap with the obvious ones, such as Sleep or Poison. These effects include flinching, in which the flinched Pokémon does not attack that turn, Confusion, in which the Pokémon has a chance of attacking itself, and others. Also, Pokémon with status conditions are easier to catch (sleep and frozen are more effective).
1-8. For the Diamond/Pearl/Platinum/HeartGold/SoulSilver Guys, If you go to the Battle Tower, every Pokémon you see there in a battle will NOT be registered in your Pokédex.
That isn't good. So don't bother entering if you want to complete your PokeDex. DO bother yourself if you want to see how powerful a Pokémon really is. You can buy/earn helpful items such as HP Up, Rare Candy, Life Orb, and TMs! These items will make your Pokémon super powerful!
1-9. Defeat other trainers.
Start battling trainers once your Pokémon have battled against wild Pokémon and get stronger. A trainer has stronger Pokémon than wild ones, and these Pokémon give more experience than wild ones. Some people assert that "forcing" Pokémon to fight each other is abusing them; what these people forget is that Pokémon are competitive and love to battle each other, so go ahead and battle to your heart's content! You can also battle your friends at any Pokémon Center, so grab your friends and see who's the best! You can get some great practice from this.
1-10. Go spelunking.
What's a good Pokémon quest without some spelunking? If you see a mysterious cave, then by all means, go inside! If you see an abandoned power plant said to have a wild and wildly power Pokémon rampaging inside, then go inside it despite the pleas of the engineers! If you see a long tower leading up to the sky where the primal Pokémon of the sky that can easily tear you apart lives, then start climbing that tower! You won't get anywhere if you just stick to catching Pokémon that appear randomly in some National Park! Go adventuring, find some treasure, find some strong Pokémon, and some insanely strong Pokémon.
1-11. Trade Pokémon where available.
In games where trading can be done with GTS Negotiations, try it. It's much easier than having to wait for a Pokémon in the GTS, and then getting a level 1 Pokémon.
1-12. Defeat the eight gym leaders.
Gym leaders are the elite trainers, and they have stronger Pokémon than most trainers. There are eight gym leaders in a single region, and each leader has their own theme, such as Rock-types Brock of the Pewter Gym, Ghost-type Morty of Ecruteak City, Flying-type Winona of Fortree Gym, and Electric-type Volkner of Sunyshore City. Each gym leader gives you a badge, proving you beat him/her. Earn eight badges and you'll arrive at the Pokémon League, where the most powerful trainers hone their skills.
1-13. Start battling the Elite Four.
Your region should have a group known as the Elite Four, the top four trainers of that region who preside over the Pokémon championships. It takes eight badges to prove your ready for the Elite Four. The Four follow a theme like the gym leaders, except they are just a little more lax on their theme type. The Elite Four must be fought right after the other, without breaks, unlike gym leaders who are fought when you get to their respective towns. Once you beat them, you are the best! Or are you?
1-14. Battle the Champion.
You didn't think that you're the first one to beat the Elite Four? You'll usually find out that your rival just made it to the Elite Four before you did, and he already took the cake. Or, you might get to the Elite Four only to realize that a well-trusted ally is the champion, leading to quite an interesting battle. No matter, what the case, the Champion is even stronger than the Elite Four, and usually has the most varied mix of Pokémon. Once you beat him/her, you are the best!
1-15. Catch all the Pokémon.
Well, if you became the Champion, you are just a very, very powerful Pokémon trainer. If you want to be a true Pokémon master, you'll have to do a lot of things. You'll have to catch all the Pokémon. If you got far enough to beat the Elite Four, you should have enough money to buy the new Poké Balls, such as Ultra Balls, or the special balls like the Timer Balls or Quick Balls which are more specialized. You have a lot of Pokémon to catch; Pokémon researchers have found 802 Pokémon so far. You'll need to trade around for some of the rare Pokémon, like Meloetta. You'll also need to transfer the legendary Pokémon from original GBA games into Diamond and Pearl in order to have the complete set.
1-16. Enter into Pokémon Contests (in the newer versions).
There's more to Pokémon than just battling! There are also contests of coolness, cuteness, toughness, smartness and beauty! Enter your Pokémon into these contests and have them participate in three rounds. The first round, they get judged by the audience based on appearance and high statistics, based on the theme. The second round consists of a dance exhibition. The final round is a mock battle in which the point is to make the Pokémon look cool, cute, tough, smart, or beautiful when they use certain attacks. Winning these events will win you ribbons.
1-17. Train the perfect Pokémon (if you can).
If you can build a perfect Pokémon, and feel good afterward, then do it with your entire team! For help, click here.
1-18. Start being a Pokémon Master.
Now that you've won a bunch of ribbons, collected all 150 Pokémon in Red/Blue/Yellow, 251 in Gold/Silver/Crystal, 386 in Ruby/Sapphire/Emerald/Fire Red/Leaf Green, 493 in Diamond/Pearl/Platinum/HeartGold/SoulSilver, 649 in Black/White/Black 2/White 2, all 721 Pokémon in X/Y/Omega Ruby/Alpha Sapphire, and all 802 Pokémon in Sun/Moon, became Champion, and trained a team of perfect Pokémon (if you did it), you can start being a true Pokémon Master! But wait, what if you want to be the Pokémon Master? Well, start competing against other Pokémon Masters in high-powered battles and contests. Take it to the next level, the 3-D consoles, in the Stadium, Colosseum, or even the new Battle Revolution and fight against pumped up trainers. Find the people who have both come out on top in being the Champion, capturing all the Pokémon, winning all the contests, maybe got to training the perfect Pokémon team, and won in the 3-D consoles to further separate the Pokémon Master from the Semi-Pokémon Master.And, if you can, be legit and don't cheat.
1-19. The Pokeathlon.
In HeartGold/SoulSilver there is a new feature called the Pokeathlon, it is the words Pokémon and Triathlon because you select 3 Pokémon and do 3 events. There are 5 courses: Speed, Stamina, Power, Jump, and Skill. All of the Pokémon have base stats in each category and a maximum amount they can get. You can raise the base stat up to the maximum stat by using Aprijuice. There are ten courses total: The Snow Throw, the Pennant Capture, the Goal Roll, the Relay Run, the Hurdle Dash, the Disc Catch, the Lamp Jump, The Ring Drop, The Block Smash, and the Circle Push. What's cool about the Pokeathlon is your Pokémon can do good without being highly trained, just high evolution and lots of aprijuice. So what are you waiting for? Go out there and start your Pokémon experience. Tough battles and exiting challenges await you. Once you have become a master, remember to tell your friends to come here if they want to be masters. Now go out there and show the Pokémon world who you are!Now that you've defeated the Johto gym leaders you are ready to travel over to Kanto! To get to Kanto just go to Olivine city and go over to the Olivine port and talk to the man to get on the S.S. Aqua(only after you defeat the elite four) The ship only runs on Mondays and Fridays and your in Vermilion city. Or you can take the Magnet Train once you get the pass from Copycat.
Tips
Train your Pokémon with wild Pokémon or trainers when you have nothing to do while playing your game. The Elite Four can be beaten an infinite number of times and are a great source of money, too!
Train your Pokémon so they look like they were trained by a master. Keep them at high levels, with a wide range of attacks high stats, and a large inventory of items like Magnet, Charcoal, Mystic Water, and Miracle Seed. Make sure they cover each other's weaknesses, too.
There is no such thing as a bad trainer. Every trainer is strong in their own way. (For example, you may have powerful Pokémon. Your friend David may have many Fire-type Pokémon. Your other friend Sarah may be exceptional in Contests. Your other other friend Billy may have many Pokémon eggs. You and each of your friends are powerful in their own way.)
Warnings
You will get frustrated if you don't stop for a break every once in a while. Every hour take a break and do something else besides video games, like watching TV or playing a board game with a friend.
Don't brag a lot. Not everyone is as powerful as you, and there are probably better trainers than you.
9 out of 10 people won't catch every Pokémon. There are 802 Pokémon, so don't get frustrated! For the professor to say you've completed the Pokédex, you'll need to catch all Pokémon excluding event-only Pokémon.
Care for your Pokémon and don't just use them as battle slaves. Give them a PokéBean or PokéPuff some time, y'know?
Don't cheat or exploit glitches. Real Pokémon Masters never cheat in any part of the game. Nintendo will find out someday if you try trading off or entering in competitions with hacked Pokémon. So please try to keep cheating to your self unless you know what you are getting into. Also cheating can be a real pain when your game or computer get corrupted from occasional overly enthusiastic on your part, human errors, and scams.
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Visit an online Pokémon walkthrough site.\\n\\n1-3. Do whatever errand is required in the game.\\nWhen you get some Poké Balls, catch some new Pokémon. They have to be wild ones, so head into some grass to randomly fight a wild Pokémon. Have your current Pokémon fight it, and weaken, but not defeat it. Once they are as weak as they can get, throw a Pokéball at the wild Pokémon. The less health has, the better chance the capture is successful. Once successful, you can use your new Pokémon immediately if you have an empty spot in your party. You have 6 slots in your party. Any Pokémon caught without an empty slot is transported to Someone's (soon to be either Bill's, Lanette's, Amanita's or Bebe's, depending on the version you chose) PC, which can be accessed at computers at a Pokémon Center.\\n1-4. Start training your Pokémon.\\nThe above method is a good way to catch Pokémon. Now you have to train them! Have them battle against wild Pokémon and gain experience points. Make sure that you heal your Pokémon at Pokémon Centers in cities and towns. Pokémon Centers give their services for free. Also, go shopping at Poké Marts for important items that will help you on your journey. If you look at the statistics of your Pokémon, you can see how many experience points it takes for them to get to the next level. Every Pokémon defeated is worth some experience points for your Pokémon, and every level gained makes your Pokémon stronger.\\n1-5. Learn the stats.\\nEvery level gained makes your Pokémon stronger. But how much stronger? Take a look at the statistics screen. It should have Hit Points, Attack, Defense, Special Attack, Special Defense, and Speed. Hit Points indicate how much damage the Pokémon can take before fainting. Attack controls how powerful your Pokémon is with physical attacks, such as Giga impact or Outrage. Defense controls how much damage your Pokémon take from physical attacks, the more defense the less damage. Special Attack controls the strength of special attacks, like Ice Beam or Thunder Shock. Special Defense is like normal Defense, except against Special Attacks. (Note that in Red, Blue, and Yellow, Special Attack and Special Defense are simply one stat: Special.) Finally, Speed determines which Pokémon goes attacks first each turn.\\n1-6. Learn battle mechanics.\\nBy playing the game, you should already figure out how the game is played. But you can go even further. Pokémon with higher speed get the first turn in battle, which can be very crucial. In battle, a Pokémon's moves have a chance of hitting the opponent. A Pokémon even has a chance of doing double damage with an attack, called a critical hit. Each attack has a Power Point usage count. This count determines how many times a Pokémon can use the attack. Attacks like Tackle have a high PP count, of 35. Stronger attacks, like Thunder, have a PP count of only 10. Make sure that you balance moves by choosing attacks that are efficient; Thunder is powerful, but you can only use it 10 times, and it is inaccurate. Thunderbolt is weaker, but you can use it 15 times, and it is very accurate.Remember if your Pokémon is out of power points for all moves, you start using a move called struggle Some types of moves are great against others (like water against fire); whereas certain moves are not very good against others (like fire against water).\\n1-7. Learn about status effect.\\nA status effect has a chance of happening in battle, and they have negative effects for the affected. These effects are: Paralysis, Burn, Poison, Freeze, and Sleep. When a Pokémon is paralyzed, their speed is halved and there is a 20% chance of being completely unable to attack that turn. When a Pokémon is poisoned, they begin to lose some HP each turn, until they are defeated. When a Pokémon is burned, their attack goes down slightly and they lose some HP per turn. When put to sleep, Pokémon cannot attack until they wake up at a random number of turns later. Finally, the most potent affliction is freeze. A frozen Pokémon cannot do anything at all until they thaw out. There are also other status effects, which are not immediately visible. These can overlap with the obvious ones, such as Sleep or Poison. These effects include flinching, in which the flinched Pokémon does not attack that turn, Confusion, in which the Pokémon has a chance of attacking itself, and others. Also, Pokémon with status conditions are easier to catch (sleep and frozen are more effective).\\n1-8. For the Diamond/Pearl/Platinum/HeartGold/SoulSilver Guys, If you go to the Battle Tower, every Pokémon you see there in a battle will NOT be registered in your Pokédex.\\nThat isn't good. So don't bother entering if you want to complete your PokeDex. DO bother yourself if you want to see how powerful a Pokémon really is. You can buy/earn helpful items such as HP Up, Rare Candy, Life Orb, and TMs! These items will make your Pokémon super powerful!\\n1-9. Defeat other trainers.\\nStart battling trainers once your Pokémon have battled against wild Pokémon and get stronger. A trainer has stronger Pokémon than wild ones, and these Pokémon give more experience than wild ones. Some people assert that \\\"forcing\\\" Pokémon to fight each other is abusing them; what these people forget is that Pokémon are competitive and love to battle each other, so go ahead and battle to your heart's content! You can also battle your friends at any Pokémon Center, so grab your friends and see who's the best! You can get some great practice from this.\\n1-10. Go spelunking.\\nWhat's a good Pokémon quest without some spelunking? If you see a mysterious cave, then by all means, go inside! If you see an abandoned power plant said to have a wild and wildly power Pokémon rampaging inside, then go inside it despite the pleas of the engineers! If you see a long tower leading up to the sky where the primal Pokémon of the sky that can easily tear you apart lives, then start climbing that tower! You won't get anywhere if you just stick to catching Pokémon that appear randomly in some National Park! Go adventuring, find some treasure, find some strong Pokémon, and some insanely strong Pokémon.\\n1-11. Trade Pokémon where available.\\nIn games where trading can be done with GTS Negotiations, try it. It's much easier than having to wait for a Pokémon in the GTS, and then getting a level 1 Pokémon.\\n1-12. Defeat the eight gym leaders.\\nGym leaders are the elite trainers, and they have stronger Pokémon than most trainers. There are eight gym leaders in a single region, and each leader has their own theme, such as Rock-types Brock of the Pewter Gym, Ghost-type Morty of Ecruteak City, Flying-type Winona of Fortree Gym, and Electric-type Volkner of Sunyshore City. Each gym leader gives you a badge, proving you beat him/her. Earn eight badges and you'll arrive at the Pokémon League, where the most powerful trainers hone their skills.\\n1-13. Start battling the Elite Four.\\nYour region should have a group known as the Elite Four, the top four trainers of that region who preside over the Pokémon championships. It takes eight badges to prove your ready for the Elite Four. The Four follow a theme like the gym leaders, except they are just a little more lax on their theme type. The Elite Four must be fought right after the other, without breaks, unlike gym leaders who are fought when you get to their respective towns. Once you beat them, you are the best! Or are you?\\n1-14. Battle the Champion.\\nYou didn't think that you're the first one to beat the Elite Four? You'll usually find out that your rival just made it to the Elite Four before you did, and he already took the cake. Or, you might get to the Elite Four only to realize that a well-trusted ally is the champion, leading to quite an interesting battle. No matter, what the case, the Champion is even stronger than the Elite Four, and usually has the most varied mix of Pokémon. Once you beat him/her, you are the best!\\n1-15. Catch all the Pokémon.\\nWell, if you became the Champion, you are just a very, very powerful Pokémon trainer. If you want to be a true Pokémon master, you'll have to do a lot of things. You'll have to catch all the Pokémon. If you got far enough to beat the Elite Four, you should have enough money to buy the new Poké Balls, such as Ultra Balls, or the special balls like the Timer Balls or Quick Balls which are more specialized. You have a lot of Pokémon to catch; Pokémon researchers have found 802 Pokémon so far. You'll need to trade around for some of the rare Pokémon, like Meloetta. You'll also need to transfer the legendary Pokémon from original GBA games into Diamond and Pearl in order to have the complete set.\\n1-16. Enter into Pokémon Contests (in the newer versions).\\nThere's more to Pokémon than just battling! There are also contests of coolness, cuteness, toughness, smartness and beauty! Enter your Pokémon into these contests and have them participate in three rounds. The first round, they get judged by the audience based on appearance and high statistics, based on the theme. The second round consists of a dance exhibition. The final round is a mock battle in which the point is to make the Pokémon look cool, cute, tough, smart, or beautiful when they use certain attacks. Winning these events will win you ribbons.\\n1-17. Train the perfect Pokémon (if you can).\\nIf you can build a perfect Pokémon, and feel good afterward, then do it with your entire team! For help, click here.\\n1-18. Start being a Pokémon Master.\\nNow that you've won a bunch of ribbons, collected all 150 Pokémon in Red/Blue/Yellow, 251 in Gold/Silver/Crystal, 386 in Ruby/Sapphire/Emerald/Fire Red/Leaf Green, 493 in Diamond/Pearl/Platinum/HeartGold/SoulSilver, 649 in Black/White/Black 2/White 2, all 721 Pokémon in X/Y/Omega Ruby/Alpha Sapphire, and all 802 Pokémon in Sun/Moon, became Champion, and trained a team of perfect Pokémon (if you did it), you can start being a true Pokémon Master! But wait, what if you want to be the Pokémon Master? Well, start competing against other Pokémon Masters in high-powered battles and contests. Take it to the next level, the 3-D consoles, in the Stadium, Colosseum, or even the new Battle Revolution and fight against pumped up trainers. Find the people who have both come out on top in being the Champion, capturing all the Pokémon, winning all the contests, maybe got to training the perfect Pokémon team, and won in the 3-D consoles to further separate the Pokémon Master from the Semi-Pokémon Master.And, if you can, be legit and don't cheat.\\n1-19. The Pokeathlon.\\nIn HeartGold/SoulSilver there is a new feature called the Pokeathlon, it is the words Pokémon and Triathlon because you select 3 Pokémon and do 3 events. There are 5 courses: Speed, Stamina, Power, Jump, and Skill. All of the Pokémon have base stats in each category and a maximum amount they can get. You can raise the base stat up to the maximum stat by using Aprijuice. There are ten courses total: The Snow Throw, the Pennant Capture, the Goal Roll, the Relay Run, the Hurdle Dash, the Disc Catch, the Lamp Jump, The Ring Drop, The Block Smash, and the Circle Push. What's cool about the Pokeathlon is your Pokémon can do good without being highly trained, just high evolution and lots of aprijuice. So what are you waiting for? Go out there and start your Pokémon experience. Tough battles and exiting challenges await you. Once you have become a master, remember to tell your friends to come here if they want to be masters. Now go out there and show the Pokémon world who you are!Now that you've defeated the Johto gym leaders you are ready to travel over to Kanto! To get to Kanto just go to Olivine city and go over to the Olivine port and talk to the man to get on the S.S. Aqua(only after you defeat the elite four) The ship only runs on Mondays and Fridays and your in Vermilion city. Or you can take the Magnet Train once you get the pass from Copycat.\\nTips\\nTrain your Pokémon with wild Pokémon or trainers when you have nothing to do while playing your game. The Elite Four can be beaten an infinite number of times and are a great source of money, too!\\nTrain your Pokémon so they look like they were trained by a master. Keep them at high levels, with a wide range of attacks high stats, and a large inventory of items like Magnet, Charcoal, Mystic Water, and Miracle Seed. Make sure they cover each other's weaknesses, too.\\nThere is no such thing as a bad trainer. Every trainer is strong in their own way. (For example, you may have powerful Pokémon. Your friend David may have many Fire-type Pokémon. Your other friend Sarah may be exceptional in Contests. Your other other friend Billy may have many Pokémon eggs. You and each of your friends are powerful in their own way.)\\nWarnings\\nYou will get frustrated if you don't stop for a break every once in a while. Every hour take a break and do something else besides video games, like watching TV or playing a board game with a friend.\\nDon't brag a lot. Not everyone is as powerful as you, and there are probably better trainers than you.\\n9 out of 10 people won't catch every Pokémon. There are 802 Pokémon, so don't get frustrated! For the professor to say you've completed the Pokédex, you'll need to catch all Pokémon excluding event-only Pokémon.\\nCare for your Pokémon and don't just use them as battle slaves. Give them a PokéBean or PokéPuff some time, y'know?\\nDon't cheat or exploit glitches. Real Pokémon Masters never cheat in any part of the game. Nintendo will find out someday if you try trading off or entering in competitions with hacked Pokémon. So please try to keep cheating to your self unless you know what you are getting into. Also cheating can be a real pain when your game or computer get corrupted from occasional overly enthusiastic on your part, human errors, and scams.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"So do you want to be the very best that no one ever was? Is catching them your real test, training them your cause? Will you travel across the land, searching far and wide? Do you have the skills to be number one; the very best? Well, here's a how-to that will teach you how to be a Pokémon Master! Being a Pokémon Master requires some determination and patience, as well as a bunch of helpful and cool Pokémon.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you do not have a Pokémon game, buy one!\", \"描述\": \"You'll also need a Nintendo DS, DS lite, DSi, DSi XL,3DS or a Game Boy.It is highly recommended to get at least one Generation VII game, Generation VII spin-off game, Generation VI game,Generation VI spin-off game,Generation V game, Generation V spin-off game, Generation IV game, and a Generation IV spin-off game (some examples of spin-off games are Battle and Get! Pokémon Typing DS and Pokémon Ranger: Guardian Signs). Generations I-III are played on the Nintendo Game Boy. The newest console you can play generation 1 and 2 games on is the Game Boy Advance SP, but Generation 3 games can be played on the Nintendo DS and the Nintendo DS Lite. Starting in Pokémon HeartGold and Pokémon SoulSilver versions, you can catch almost all of the first 493 Pokémon and there has been almost no need for migrating since. Once you have gotten your game(s) and have chosen your starter Pokémon, go on to step 2.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Visit an online Pokémon walkthrough site.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do whatever errand is required in the game.\", \"描述\": \"When you get some Poké Balls, catch some new Pokémon. They have to be wild ones, so head into some grass to randomly fight a wild Pokémon. Have your current Pokémon fight it, and weaken, but not defeat it. Once they are as weak as they can get, throw a Pokéball at the wild Pokémon. The less health has, the better chance the capture is successful. Once successful, you can use your new Pokémon immediately if you have an empty spot in your party. You have 6 slots in your party. Any Pokémon caught without an empty slot is transported to Someone's (soon to be either Bill's, Lanette's, Amanita's or Bebe's, depending on the version you chose) PC, which can be accessed at computers at a Pokémon Center.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Start training your Pokémon.\", \"描述\": \"The above method is a good way to catch Pokémon. Now you have to train them! Have them battle against wild Pokémon and gain experience points. Make sure that you heal your Pokémon at Pokémon Centers in cities and towns. Pokémon Centers give their services for free. Also, go shopping at Poké Marts for important items that will help you on your journey. If you look at the statistics of your Pokémon, you can see how many experience points it takes for them to get to the next level. Every Pokémon defeated is worth some experience points for your Pokémon, and every level gained makes your Pokémon stronger.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn the stats.\", \"描述\": \"Every level gained makes your Pokémon stronger. But how much stronger? Take a look at the statistics screen. It should have Hit Points, Attack, Defense, Special Attack, Special Defense, and Speed. Hit Points indicate how much damage the Pokémon can take before fainting. Attack controls how powerful your Pokémon is with physical attacks, such as Giga impact or Outrage. Defense controls how much damage your Pokémon take from physical attacks, the more defense the less damage. Special Attack controls the strength of special attacks, like Ice Beam or Thunder Shock. Special Defense is like normal Defense, except against Special Attacks. (Note that in Red, Blue, and Yellow, Special Attack and Special Defense are simply one stat: Special.) Finally, Speed determines which Pokémon goes attacks first each turn.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn battle mechanics.\", \"描述\": \"By playing the game, you should already figure out how the game is played. But you can go even further. Pokémon with higher speed get the first turn in battle, which can be very crucial. In battle, a Pokémon's moves have a chance of hitting the opponent. A Pokémon even has a chance of doing double damage with an attack, called a critical hit. Each attack has a Power Point usage count. This count determines how many times a Pokémon can use the attack. Attacks like Tackle have a high PP count, of 35. Stronger attacks, like Thunder, have a PP count of only 10. Make sure that you balance moves by choosing attacks that are efficient; Thunder is powerful, but you can only use it 10 times, and it is inaccurate. Thunderbolt is weaker, but you can use it 15 times, and it is very accurate.Remember if your Pokémon is out of power points for all moves, you start using a move called struggle Some types of moves are great against others (like water against fire); whereas certain moves are not very good against others (like fire against water).\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Learn about status effect.\", \"描述\": \"A status effect has a chance of happening in battle, and they have negative effects for the affected. These effects are: Paralysis, Burn, Poison, Freeze, and Sleep. When a Pokémon is paralyzed, their speed is halved and there is a 20% chance of being completely unable to attack that turn. When a Pokémon is poisoned, they begin to lose some HP each turn, until they are defeated. When a Pokémon is burned, their attack goes down slightly and they lose some HP per turn. When put to sleep, Pokémon cannot attack until they wake up at a random number of turns later. Finally, the most potent affliction is freeze. A frozen Pokémon cannot do anything at all until they thaw out. There are also other status effects, which are not immediately visible. These can overlap with the obvious ones, such as Sleep or Poison. These effects include flinching, in which the flinched Pokémon does not attack that turn, Confusion, in which the Pokémon has a chance of attacking itself, and others. Also, Pokémon with status conditions are easier to catch (sleep and frozen are more effective).\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"For the Diamond/Pearl/Platinum/HeartGold/SoulSilver Guys, If you go to the Battle Tower, every Pokémon you see there in a battle will NOT be registered in your Pokédex.\", \"描述\": \"That isn't good. So don't bother entering if you want to complete your PokeDex. DO bother yourself if you want to see how powerful a Pokémon really is. You can buy/earn helpful items such as HP Up, Rare Candy, Life Orb, and TMs! These items will make your Pokémon super powerful!\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Defeat other trainers.\", \"描述\": \"Start battling trainers once your Pokémon have battled against wild Pokémon and get stronger. A trainer has stronger Pokémon than wild ones, and these Pokémon give more experience than wild ones. Some people assert that \\\"forcing\\\" Pokémon to fight each other is abusing them; what these people forget is that Pokémon are competitive and love to battle each other, so go ahead and battle to your heart's content! You can also battle your friends at any Pokémon Center, so grab your friends and see who's the best! You can get some great practice from this.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Go spelunking.\", \"描述\": \"What's a good Pokémon quest without some spelunking? If you see a mysterious cave, then by all means, go inside! If you see an abandoned power plant said to have a wild and wildly power Pokémon rampaging inside, then go inside it despite the pleas of the engineers! If you see a long tower leading up to the sky where the primal Pokémon of the sky that can easily tear you apart lives, then start climbing that tower! You won't get anywhere if you just stick to catching Pokémon that appear randomly in some National Park! Go adventuring, find some treasure, find some strong Pokémon, and some insanely strong Pokémon.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Trade Pokémon where available.\", \"描述\": \"In games where trading can be done with GTS Negotiations, try it. It's much easier than having to wait for a Pokémon in the GTS, and then getting a level 1 Pokémon.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Defeat the eight gym leaders.\", \"描述\": \"Gym leaders are the elite trainers, and they have stronger Pokémon than most trainers. There are eight gym leaders in a single region, and each leader has their own theme, such as Rock-types Brock of the Pewter Gym, Ghost-type Morty of Ecruteak City, Flying-type Winona of Fortree Gym, and Electric-type Volkner of Sunyshore City. Each gym leader gives you a badge, proving you beat him/her. Earn eight badges and you'll arrive at the Pokémon League, where the most powerful trainers hone their skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Start battling the Elite Four.\", \"描述\": \"Your region should have a group known as the Elite Four, the top four trainers of that region who preside over the Pokémon championships. It takes eight badges to prove your ready for the Elite Four. The Four follow a theme like the gym leaders, except they are just a little more lax on their theme type. The Elite Four must be fought right after the other, without breaks, unlike gym leaders who are fought when you get to their respective towns. Once you beat them, you are the best! Or are you?\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Battle the Champion.\", \"描述\": \"You didn't think that you're the first one to beat the Elite Four? You'll usually find out that your rival just made it to the Elite Four before you did, and he already took the cake. Or, you might get to the Elite Four only to realize that a well-trusted ally is the champion, leading to quite an interesting battle. No matter, what the case, the Champion is even stronger than the Elite Four, and usually has the most varied mix of Pokémon. Once you beat him/her, you are the best!\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Catch all the Pokémon.\", \"描述\": \"Well, if you became the Champion, you are just a very, very powerful Pokémon trainer. If you want to be a true Pokémon master, you'll have to do a lot of things. You'll have to catch all the Pokémon. If you got far enough to beat the Elite Four, you should have enough money to buy the new Poké Balls, such as Ultra Balls, or the special balls like the Timer Balls or Quick Balls which are more specialized. You have a lot of Pokémon to catch; Pokémon researchers have found 802 Pokémon so far. You'll need to trade around for some of the rare Pokémon, like Meloetta. You'll also need to transfer the legendary Pokémon from original GBA games into Diamond and Pearl in order to have the complete set.\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Enter into Pokémon Contests (in the newer versions).\", \"描述\": \"There's more to Pokémon than just battling! There are also contests of coolness, cuteness, toughness, smartness and beauty! Enter your Pokémon into these contests and have them participate in three rounds. The first round, they get judged by the audience based on appearance and high statistics, based on the theme. The second round consists of a dance exhibition. The final round is a mock battle in which the point is to make the Pokémon look cool, cute, tough, smart, or beautiful when they use certain attacks. Winning these events will win you ribbons.\"}, {\"编号\": 17, \"标题\": \"Train the perfect Pokémon (if you can).\", \"描述\": \"If you can build a perfect Pokémon, and feel good afterward, then do it with your entire team! For help, click here.\"}, {\"编号\": 18, \"标题\": \"Start being a Pokémon Master.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you've won a bunch of ribbons, collected all 150 Pokémon in Red/Blue/Yellow, 251 in Gold/Silver/Crystal, 386 in Ruby/Sapphire/Emerald/Fire Red/Leaf Green, 493 in Diamond/Pearl/Platinum/HeartGold/SoulSilver, 649 in Black/White/Black 2/White 2, all 721 Pokémon in X/Y/Omega Ruby/Alpha Sapphire, and all 802 Pokémon in Sun/Moon, became Champion, and trained a team of perfect Pokémon (if you did it), you can start being a true Pokémon Master! But wait, what if you want to be the Pokémon Master? Well, start competing against other Pokémon Masters in high-powered battles and contests. Take it to the next level, the 3-D consoles, in the Stadium, Colosseum, or even the new Battle Revolution and fight against pumped up trainers. Find the people who have both come out on top in being the Champion, capturing all the Pokémon, winning all the contests, maybe got to training the perfect Pokémon team, and won in the 3-D consoles to further separate the Pokémon Master from the Semi-Pokémon Master.And, if you can, be legit and don't cheat.\"}, {\"编号\": 19, \"标题\": \"The Pokeathlon.\", \"描述\": \"In HeartGold/SoulSilver there is a new feature called the Pokeathlon, it is the words Pokémon and Triathlon because you select 3 Pokémon and do 3 events. There are 5 courses: Speed, Stamina, Power, Jump, and Skill. All of the Pokémon have base stats in each category and a maximum amount they can get. You can raise the base stat up to the maximum stat by using Aprijuice. There are ten courses total: The Snow Throw, the Pennant Capture, the Goal Roll, the Relay Run, the Hurdle Dash, the Disc Catch, the Lamp Jump, The Ring Drop, The Block Smash, and the Circle Push. What's cool about the Pokeathlon is your Pokémon can do good without being highly trained, just high evolution and lots of aprijuice. So what are you waiting for? Go out there and start your Pokémon experience. Tough battles and exiting challenges await you. Once you have become a master, remember to tell your friends to come here if they want to be masters. Now go out there and show the Pokémon world who you are!Now that you've defeated the Johto gym leaders you are ready to travel over to Kanto! To get to Kanto just go to Olivine city and go over to the Olivine port and talk to the man to get on the S.S. Aqua(only after you defeat the elite four) The ship only runs on Mondays and Fridays and your in Vermilion city. Or you can take the Magnet Train once you get the pass from Copycat.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Train your Pokémon with wild Pokémon or trainers when you have nothing to do while playing your game. The Elite Four can be beaten an infinite number of times and are a great source of money, too!\\n\", \"Train your Pokémon so they look like they were trained by a master. Keep them at high levels, with a wide range of attacks high stats, and a large inventory of items like Magnet, Charcoal, Mystic Water, and Miracle Seed. Make sure they cover each other's weaknesses, too.\\n\", \"There is no such thing as a bad trainer. Every trainer is strong in their own way. (For example, you may have powerful Pokémon. Your friend David may have many Fire-type Pokémon. Your other friend Sarah may be exceptional in Contests. Your other other friend Billy may have many Pokémon eggs. You and each of your friends are powerful in their own way.)\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"You will get frustrated if you don't stop for a break every once in a while. Every hour take a break and do something else besides video games, like watching TV or playing a board game with a friend.\\n\", \"Don't brag a lot. Not everyone is as powerful as you, and there are probably better trainers than you.\\n\", \"9 out of 10 people won't catch every Pokémon. There are 802 Pokémon, so don't get frustrated! For the professor to say you've completed the Pokédex, you'll need to catch all Pokémon excluding event-only Pokémon.\\n\", \"Care for your Pokémon and don't just use them as battle slaves. Give them a PokéBean or PokéPuff some time, y'know?\\n\", \"Don't cheat or exploit glitches. Real Pokémon Masters never cheat in any part of the game. Nintendo will find out someday if you try trading off or entering in competitions with hacked Pokémon. So please try to keep cheating to your self unless you know what you are getting into. Also cheating can be a real pain when your game or computer get corrupted from occasional overly enthusiastic on your part, human errors, and scams.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. How to Make New Friends
1-1. Set a goal to make more friends.
It may sound strange, but setting goals can help you make new friends. This is especially true if you're on the shy side. Setting small goals for yourself, that allow you to gradually break out of your shell, can help boost your popularity.
Set small goals for yourself at first. For example, you can promise to make small talk with a new person before class every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.
As you begin to feel more comfortable socializing with others, try to set bigger goals. You can promise you'll go to the birthday party you were invited to and try to talk to at least 3 new people.
If you're persistent with following up on your goals, you'll eventually feel much more comfortable socializing. This can allow you to meet new people and make a great number of new friends.
1-2. Invite people to hang out.
If you want to make more friends, you have to focus on socializing outside the classroom. Once you get comfortable hanging out at school, try inviting someone out. Ask an acquaintance if he or she wants to go see a movie or get coffee. Try getting a group together to do something fun, like go to the mall.
Do not be afraid to ask a popular girl to do something with you, especially if you have already established a firm connection with her in school. If you get along with someone inside the classroom, there's a good chance that person would be open to spending time with you outside the classroom.
1-3. Be active on social media.
Social media can help you be popular, especially in high school. Many teenagers have accounts like Snapchat, Instagram, Tik Tok, and Twitter that are a major aspect of socialization. A lot of invitations to events, as well as conversation and bonding, happen online.
Find out what kind of social media accounts are popular in your school. If the popular girls are really interested in Snapchat, sign up for an account. You may want to check with your parents before opening certain social media accounts, however, just to make sure that it's okay in your home.
Focus on meaningful interactions online. People tend to respond better to personalized messages over vague status updates. Congratulate one of the popular girls about winning a spelling bee or getting accepted into a summer internship program.
Keep in mind virtual friends cannot make up for real friends. While socializing online can enhance existing relationships, avoid talking to strangers on the internet. Not only will this not increase your overall popularity, it can be a safety issue as well.
1-4. Be friendly and nice to everyone.
If you want more friends, you need to have something offer people. Remember the Golden Rule when seeking out new friends and treat others as you would wish to be treated. People are naturally drawn to people who are respectful, courteous and kind to others.
However, don't be overly nice or it might come across as fake and people will be wondering who you really are. Be polite to everyone but reserve special acts of generosity for your genuine friends, to avoid stretching your personal resources too far and seeming like you're not being genuine.
1-5. Don't take rejection personally.
Fear of rejection is a big reason people refrain from putting themselves out there. However, rejection happens to everyone. Just because someone doesn't want to see a movie with you on a particular Friday does not mean that person is not interested in your friendship.
People do have other obligations. If a popular girl declines your invitation to get coffee, she may genuinely be busy. Don't use this setback as a reason to retreat back into your shell.
Remember, there is a lot you do not know about other people. Anyone you talk to has a litany of obligations and issues you do not know about. If someone says "No," that person may be shy or busy.
Take rejection as a minor setback. You can try asking someone to hang out in a few weeks if they say "No" the first time.
Remember that you don't have to be popular with every single person to really stand out.
2. How Get Involved in Your School
2-1. Join a club.
If you want to be popular, you'll need to be seen and known around your school. Joining an extracurricular activity can help boost your status and will be something to mention in your future résumé. It has the added benefit of allowing you to make new friends and increasing your popular nature.
You can find people with common interests by joining a club that personally shows your passions. If you're interested in journalism, for example, joining the newspaper club can help.
If you're focusing on popularity, you may want to see what kinds of clubs the popular kids are joining. If the most popular boys and girls in school are all in the debate club, this may be a great place to meet popular students.
The activities of the club itself won't make you popular. Rather, what will make you popular is the fact you enjoy doing the club's activities and this enthusiasm rubs off on others because you own it, like it, and want to share the enjoyment with other people.
Maybe start a club if one doesn't exist already in what interests you. This is a brave, bold and risky move that will get you noticed for all the right reasons, as you're doing something different and enthusing others to join in.
2-2. Get involved in sports.
In many schools, a lot of girls and boys are involved in sports or athletics. Joining a sports team may help you get to know the popular students. If you end up excelling at sports, you may become popular yourself.
Train if you're unfamiliar with a certain sport. If you want to join the basketball team, for example, practice shooting hoops at a local park.
You may have to get in shape to join certain clubs. Make sure you start small when it comes to getting in shape, as you don't want to overexert yourself. Start with small exercise sessions and work your way up.
Do not get too discouraged if you don't make a school sport's team. Remember that you can always try out again next year. It is also important to stay in shape if you're willing to get better for next year's try-outs. What matters is to try your very best as it's always a chance to get to know more people.
2-3. Run for student council
Are the class presidents, treasurers, and representatives popular in your school? If so, you may benefit from running for student council. At the beginning of the year, when elections are held, try to get a campaign team together and go for a spot in student council. This will show everyone you’re confident in who you are and what you stand for!
Make sure you learn the rules and regulations for running for student council. You may have to get your parents' or guardians' signatures and sign up by a certain deadline.
Think of a great campaign slogan and plaster it on decorative poster boards. Put up your posters throughout the school.
Write a great campaign speech for your chosen position, clearly laying out what you'll bring to the job.
Leadership skills can help to make you more popular, when exercised with care and consideration for others. Leadership skills can help you stand out from the crowd.
2-4. Show up to school events.
If you want to be popular, you have to put yourself out there and socialize. Attend school events where the popular crowd is likely to hang out. Do not skip out on things like school dances, sporting events, and pep rallies.
If you're shy, try to get a small group of existing friends to attend such events with you. However, be sure not to just hang out with your own crowd. You'll want to branch out and talk to new people. Increasing your friend's circle can help you gain popularity.
Do not be shy. It can be intimidating to meet others, but school events often make striking up a conversation easier. This is especially true for sporting events, where there may be a sense of camaraderie based on cheering for the same team.
3. How to Have the Right Attitude
3-1. Give yourself a makeover.
While you should not focus on looks alone to be popular, confidence is key to popularity. Giving yourself a new haircut and changing up your wardrobe and makeup can help you feel better about yourself. This may make you more likely to put yourself out there and seek out new friendships, boosting your popularity.
Try to go with trends that you personally enjoy. If you're wearing something you hate, you won't feel confident in it. This can make you less likely to socialize. If you hate leggings, do not follow the legging trend in your school. If you notice a lot of popular girls wear boots, and you love your pair of black lace-up boots, this could be a great trend for you to follow.
Try to keep up with trends and wear trendy clothing. Right now stores like Hollister, A&F, Brandy Melville, Forever 21, PacSun, and Aeropostale are all good places to shop at. But also have unique quirky things to change things up a bit.
You may want to change up your hair and makeup. You can go to the makeup counter at a local beauty salon and ask for an attractive every day makeup look. Ask a stylist at a salon what would be a flattering hairstyle for you. Makeup and hair that works well for your features can bolster your confidence and, in turn, increase your popularity.
3-2. Smile.
While smiling is a small change, it can make you look more positive and approachable. Striving to smile more can help increase your popularity and win you more friends. Work on smiling in front of a mirror until you find a winning and approachable smile. As you navigate the hallways, try to smile at others.
When people talk to you, make an effort to smile during the conversation.
When introducing yourself to new people, flash a smile at them and make eye contact.
3-3. Be friendly.
If you're a warm and friendly person, people can be drawn to you. This can win you more friends and more popularity. Work on cultivating a friendly attitude in order to be popular in your school.
Try to show people you are happy to see them. If appropriate, give a friend a hug or a pat on the shoulder when meeting up with them in public.
Show genuine enthusiasm when around others. Smile and laugh during conversation.
Be kind to everyone. Ask the girl in geometry how her day is going. Make conversation with the boy that sits by himself. Be genuinely interested in what they have to say. If you are kind to everyone, people will like you. You would rather be the girl that is popular because she is well-liked rather than the girl that is popular because she rules by fear.
Be open with new people. Strike up a conversation between classes. Sit at a new lunch table. Introduce yourself in a friendly fashion in an effort to get to know new people and make new friends.
3-4. Ask about others.
People are drawn to people who show an interest in their lives. During conversations with others, ask questions. Give people an opportunity to talk about themselves and their interests.
Ask questions to learn about others. Ask about other people's interests and passions. Ask something like, "What's your earliest memory?" or "What's your favorite thing to do on the weekends?"
This can be a great technique at parties. You'll be able to hold down a conversation for a while by asking questions, as people enjoy talking about themselves. You can really get to know someone by asking a lot of questions.
3-5. Listen.
Being a good listener can help people like you more, allowing yourself to be more popular. Try to genuinely listen to what others say. If you don't understand something, ask a follow up question to make sure you understand. Showing a genuine interest in what others have to say can really help with your popularity.
Give people space to speak. When someone finishes a sentence, wait 5 to 10 seconds to make sure they're truly done speaking.
Try to balance talking and listening.
3-6. Be a helpful person.
Another way to be popular is to be helpful to others. Listen when a friend is in need. If someone needs help with a homework problem, offer to lend them a helping hand. People want to be around people who are caring and kind to other people. Trying to be helpful can help you be more popular.
Help others with their homework, with making introductions, with small things you can do for them with ease.
Be that one student who raises their hand in class and asks the question everyone else wants the answer to but is too fearful to ask!
While being helpful is great to make new friends, avoid getting taken advantage of. If someone is constantly asking you for favors, it's okay to establish boundaries.
Be certain that nobody is using you. If friends are not helpful to you in return, you may be better off with such people out of your life. If someone borrows money from you and they owe you, remind them. If they don't return the money, tell them off.
3-7. Be yourself.
It's a cliche saying for a reason. Being authentic can help you win friends. While many people feel they have to change to be popular, people tend to be naturally drawn to people who are comfortable in their own skin. Try to let your personality show through. Do not be afraid to bring up your own interests and passions when the opportunity presents itself. Let your unique qualities, like your sense of humor, shine through during conversations.
Remember that you won't be universally popular but you can always be likable, stand out and be a leader among your peers.
4. How to Avoid Peer Pressure
4-1. Trust your instincts.
While being popular can be fun, you should never put yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable just to please others. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation, listen to this gut instinct. A negative gut reaction often points to a dangerous situation.
Back out of a situation when you become uncomfortable. Find a way to excuse yourself from a party or even if you get nervous.
You can try making up a quick excuse if you do not want to get into a confrontation in the moment. For example, say something like, "Sorry, but I should get going. I'm coming down with a really bad headache."
Be brave. Stand up for what you believe matters, speak up for what you need and not what others want to push you into.
4-2. Don't do illegal or immature things.
If you're attending an event where drugs or alcohol are being used, it's best to leave. You do not want to be popular at the expense of your own safety. There also may be legal consequences to underage drinking or the use of illegal drugs. If you're pressured into doing anything illegal, find a way to leave the situation fast.
If you're going to a party where there may be alcohol or drugs served, plan what to do in the event you're pressured to partake. You can have a trusted friend on call who can help get you out of this situation.
4-3. Avoid bullying.
Negative peer pressure can often encourage you to bully or ostracize other students. Popular cliques in middle or high school often engage in bullying. Remember, bullying can have serious emotional consequences for the target. Avoid the temptation of gossip and do not be openly (or even not-openly) cruel to other students at your school. If you ever get bullied, go to a website called Stymie to anonymously file a report.
It can be very hard to try to resist negative peer pressure, but remember the benefits. You'll feel better about yourself and you may influence other peers to resist things like bullying and gossip as well.
4-4. Focus on positive peer pressure.
Peer pressure is not always negative. Sometimes, your friends may pressure you into a taking a risk that is worth it. Good friends, for example, will encourage you to submit your poems to that contest or ask your crush on a date. Friends may also expose you to new and interesting things, like a new music group or author. While rejecting negative peer pressure, focus on the positives. Allow your friends to teach you about new things and help you find opportunities for fun, learning, and personal growth.
Tips
Don't worry if there are people who don't like you, not everyone will. Be nice to them though, because you don't want to give them another reason not to like you.
Adjusting yourself and changing yourself are two different things. Trying to be someone you're not won't win you friends; everyone will see through your act at some point. Try to build off of who you already are. Very different sorts of people can all become popular, so don't try to fit a mold.
Don't gossip or engage in any way. Spreading rumors is no way to make friends and can cause people to lose their trust in you. Even if you genuinely dislike someone, do not engage in gossip.
Warnings
Although popularity is sometimes not about grades, if you are generally smart as well as a cool person, people will like you because you have a good balance of cool and smart.
When you try to get involved in school, make sure to seem natural. Don't be pushy or ask too many questions. Don't be annoying. Doing so will make others feel you are making friends with them for a purpose.
Do not be mean or snobby! In the movies, they show popular girls as being mean, snobby, and rich. In reality, nobody wants to hang out with mean snobs, and it's 100% possible to be popular without being rich or owning a single designer outfit. The popular girls are the nice girls who are well-liked and have lots of friends.
If you have made friends with other people who are popular, don't abandon your old friends. Get your old friends to come with your new friends so you can hang out with all your friends.
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Invite people to hang out.\\nIf you want to make more friends, you have to focus on socializing outside the classroom. Once you get comfortable hanging out at school, try inviting someone out. Ask an acquaintance if he or she wants to go see a movie or get coffee. Try getting a group together to do something fun, like go to the mall.\\nDo not be afraid to ask a popular girl to do something with you, especially if you have already established a firm connection with her in school. If you get along with someone inside the classroom, there's a good chance that person would be open to spending time with you outside the classroom.\\n1-3. Be active on social media.\\nSocial media can help you be popular, especially in high school. Many teenagers have accounts like Snapchat, Instagram, Tik Tok, and Twitter that are a major aspect of socialization. A lot of invitations to events, as well as conversation and bonding, happen online.\\nFind out what kind of social media accounts are popular in your school. If the popular girls are really interested in Snapchat, sign up for an account. You may want to check with your parents before opening certain social media accounts, however, just to make sure that it's okay in your home.\\nFocus on meaningful interactions online. People tend to respond better to personalized messages over vague status updates. Congratulate one of the popular girls about winning a spelling bee or getting accepted into a summer internship program.\\nKeep in mind virtual friends cannot make up for real friends. While socializing online can enhance existing relationships, avoid talking to strangers on the internet. Not only will this not increase your overall popularity, it can be a safety issue as well.\\n1-4. Be friendly and nice to everyone.\\nIf you want more friends, you need to have something offer people. Remember the Golden Rule when seeking out new friends and treat others as you would wish to be treated. People are naturally drawn to people who are respectful, courteous and kind to others.\\nHowever, don't be overly nice or it might come across as fake and people will be wondering who you really are. Be polite to everyone but reserve special acts of generosity for your genuine friends, to avoid stretching your personal resources too far and seeming like you're not being genuine.\\n1-5. Don't take rejection personally.\\nFear of rejection is a big reason people refrain from putting themselves out there. However, rejection happens to everyone. Just because someone doesn't want to see a movie with you on a particular Friday does not mean that person is not interested in your friendship.\\nPeople do have other obligations. If a popular girl declines your invitation to get coffee, she may genuinely be busy. Don't use this setback as a reason to retreat back into your shell.\\nRemember, there is a lot you do not know about other people. Anyone you talk to has a litany of obligations and issues you do not know about. If someone says \\\"No,\\\" that person may be shy or busy.\\nTake rejection as a minor setback. You can try asking someone to hang out in a few weeks if they say \\\"No\\\" the first time.\\nRemember that you don't have to be popular with every single person to really stand out.\\n2. How Get Involved in Your School\\n2-1. Join a club.\\nIf you want to be popular, you'll need to be seen and known around your school. Joining an extracurricular activity can help boost your status and will be something to mention in your future résumé. It has the added benefit of allowing you to make new friends and increasing your popular nature.\\nYou can find people with common interests by joining a club that personally shows your passions. If you're interested in journalism, for example, joining the newspaper club can help.\\nIf you're focusing on popularity, you may want to see what kinds of clubs the popular kids are joining. If the most popular boys and girls in school are all in the debate club, this may be a great place to meet popular students.\\nThe activities of the club itself won't make you popular. Rather, what will make you popular is the fact you enjoy doing the club's activities and this enthusiasm rubs off on others because you own it, like it, and want to share the enjoyment with other people.\\nMaybe start a club if one doesn't exist already in what interests you. This is a brave, bold and risky move that will get you noticed for all the right reasons, as you're doing something different and enthusing others to join in.\\n2-2. Get involved in sports.\\nIn many schools, a lot of girls and boys are involved in sports or athletics. Joining a sports team may help you get to know the popular students. If you end up excelling at sports, you may become popular yourself.\\nTrain if you're unfamiliar with a certain sport. If you want to join the basketball team, for example, practice shooting hoops at a local park.\\nYou may have to get in shape to join certain clubs. Make sure you start small when it comes to getting in shape, as you don't want to overexert yourself. Start with small exercise sessions and work your way up.\\nDo not get too discouraged if you don't make a school sport's team. Remember that you can always try out again next year. It is also important to stay in shape if you're willing to get better for next year's try-outs. What matters is to try your very best as it's always a chance to get to know more people.\\n2-3. Run for student council\\nAre the class presidents, treasurers, and representatives popular in your school? If so, you may benefit from running for student council. At the beginning of the year, when elections are held, try to get a campaign team together and go for a spot in student council. This will show everyone you’re confident in who you are and what you stand for!\\nMake sure you learn the rules and regulations for running for student council. You may have to get your parents' or guardians' signatures and sign up by a certain deadline.\\nThink of a great campaign slogan and plaster it on decorative poster boards. Put up your posters throughout the school.\\nWrite a great campaign speech for your chosen position, clearly laying out what you'll bring to the job.\\nLeadership skills can help to make you more popular, when exercised with care and consideration for others. Leadership skills can help you stand out from the crowd.\\n2-4. Show up to school events.\\nIf you want to be popular, you have to put yourself out there and socialize. Attend school events where the popular crowd is likely to hang out. Do not skip out on things like school dances, sporting events, and pep rallies.\\nIf you're shy, try to get a small group of existing friends to attend such events with you. However, be sure not to just hang out with your own crowd. You'll want to branch out and talk to new people. Increasing your friend's circle can help you gain popularity.\\nDo not be shy. It can be intimidating to meet others, but school events often make striking up a conversation easier. This is especially true for sporting events, where there may be a sense of camaraderie based on cheering for the same team.\\n3. How to Have the Right Attitude\\n3-1. Give yourself a makeover.\\nWhile you should not focus on looks alone to be popular, confidence is key to popularity. Giving yourself a new haircut and changing up your wardrobe and makeup can help you feel better about yourself. This may make you more likely to put yourself out there and seek out new friendships, boosting your popularity.\\nTry to go with trends that you personally enjoy. If you're wearing something you hate, you won't feel confident in it. This can make you less likely to socialize. If you hate leggings, do not follow the legging trend in your school. If you notice a lot of popular girls wear boots, and you love your pair of black lace-up boots, this could be a great trend for you to follow.\\nTry to keep up with trends and wear trendy clothing. Right now stores like Hollister, A&F, Brandy Melville, Forever 21, PacSun, and Aeropostale are all good places to shop at. But also have unique quirky things to change things up a bit.\\nYou may want to change up your hair and makeup. You can go to the makeup counter at a local beauty salon and ask for an attractive every day makeup look. Ask a stylist at a salon what would be a flattering hairstyle for you. Makeup and hair that works well for your features can bolster your confidence and, in turn, increase your popularity.\\n3-2. Smile.\\nWhile smiling is a small change, it can make you look more positive and approachable. Striving to smile more can help increase your popularity and win you more friends. Work on smiling in front of a mirror until you find a winning and approachable smile. As you navigate the hallways, try to smile at others.\\nWhen people talk to you, make an effort to smile during the conversation.\\nWhen introducing yourself to new people, flash a smile at them and make eye contact.\\n3-3. Be friendly.\\nIf you're a warm and friendly person, people can be drawn to you. This can win you more friends and more popularity. Work on cultivating a friendly attitude in order to be popular in your school.\\nTry to show people you are happy to see them. If appropriate, give a friend a hug or a pat on the shoulder when meeting up with them in public.\\nShow genuine enthusiasm when around others. Smile and laugh during conversation.\\nBe kind to everyone. Ask the girl in geometry how her day is going. Make conversation with the boy that sits by himself. Be genuinely interested in what they have to say. If you are kind to everyone, people will like you. You would rather be the girl that is popular because she is well-liked rather than the girl that is popular because she rules by fear.\\nBe open with new people. Strike up a conversation between classes. Sit at a new lunch table. Introduce yourself in a friendly fashion in an effort to get to know new people and make new friends.\\n3-4. Ask about others.\\nPeople are drawn to people who show an interest in their lives. During conversations with others, ask questions. Give people an opportunity to talk about themselves and their interests.\\nAsk questions to learn about others. Ask about other people's interests and passions. Ask something like, \\\"What's your earliest memory?\\\" or \\\"What's your favorite thing to do on the weekends?\\\"\\nThis can be a great technique at parties. You'll be able to hold down a conversation for a while by asking questions, as people enjoy talking about themselves. You can really get to know someone by asking a lot of questions.\\n3-5. Listen.\\nBeing a good listener can help people like you more, allowing yourself to be more popular. Try to genuinely listen to what others say. If you don't understand something, ask a follow up question to make sure you understand. Showing a genuine interest in what others have to say can really help with your popularity.\\nGive people space to speak. When someone finishes a sentence, wait 5 to 10 seconds to make sure they're truly done speaking.\\nTry to balance talking and listening.\\n3-6. Be a helpful person.\\nAnother way to be popular is to be helpful to others. Listen when a friend is in need. If someone needs help with a homework problem, offer to lend them a helping hand. People want to be around people who are caring and kind to other people. Trying to be helpful can help you be more popular.\\nHelp others with their homework, with making introductions, with small things you can do for them with ease.\\nBe that one student who raises their hand in class and asks the question everyone else wants the answer to but is too fearful to ask!\\nWhile being helpful is great to make new friends, avoid getting taken advantage of. If someone is constantly asking you for favors, it's okay to establish boundaries.\\nBe certain that nobody is using you. If friends are not helpful to you in return, you may be better off with such people out of your life. If someone borrows money from you and they owe you, remind them. If they don't return the money, tell them off.\\n3-7. Be yourself.\\nIt's a cliche saying for a reason. Being authentic can help you win friends. While many people feel they have to change to be popular, people tend to be naturally drawn to people who are comfortable in their own skin. Try to let your personality show through. Do not be afraid to bring up your own interests and passions when the opportunity presents itself. Let your unique qualities, like your sense of humor, shine through during conversations.\\nRemember that you won't be universally popular but you can always be likable, stand out and be a leader among your peers.\\n4. How to Avoid Peer Pressure\\n4-1. Trust your instincts.\\nWhile being popular can be fun, you should never put yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable just to please others. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation, listen to this gut instinct. A negative gut reaction often points to a dangerous situation.\\nBack out of a situation when you become uncomfortable. Find a way to excuse yourself from a party or even if you get nervous.\\nYou can try making up a quick excuse if you do not want to get into a confrontation in the moment. For example, say something like, \\\"Sorry, but I should get going. I'm coming down with a really bad headache.\\\"\\nBe brave. Stand up for what you believe matters, speak up for what you need and not what others want to push you into.\\n4-2. Don't do illegal or immature things.\\nIf you're attending an event where drugs or alcohol are being used, it's best to leave. You do not want to be popular at the expense of your own safety. There also may be legal consequences to underage drinking or the use of illegal drugs. If you're pressured into doing anything illegal, find a way to leave the situation fast.\\nIf you're going to a party where there may be alcohol or drugs served, plan what to do in the event you're pressured to partake. You can have a trusted friend on call who can help get you out of this situation.\\n4-3. Avoid bullying.\\nNegative peer pressure can often encourage you to bully or ostracize other students. Popular cliques in middle or high school often engage in bullying. Remember, bullying can have serious emotional consequences for the target. Avoid the temptation of gossip and do not be openly (or even not-openly) cruel to other students at your school. If you ever get bullied, go to a website called Stymie to anonymously file a report. \\nIt can be very hard to try to resist negative peer pressure, but remember the benefits. You'll feel better about yourself and you may influence other peers to resist things like bullying and gossip as well.\\n4-4. Focus on positive peer pressure.\\nPeer pressure is not always negative. Sometimes, your friends may pressure you into a taking a risk that is worth it. Good friends, for example, will encourage you to submit your poems to that contest or ask your crush on a date. Friends may also expose you to new and interesting things, like a new music group or author. While rejecting negative peer pressure, focus on the positives. Allow your friends to teach you about new things and help you find opportunities for fun, learning, and personal growth.\\nTips\\nDon't worry if there are people who don't like you, not everyone will. Be nice to them though, because you don't want to give them another reason not to like you.\\nAdjusting yourself and changing yourself are two different things. Trying to be someone you're not won't win you friends; everyone will see through your act at some point. Try to build off of who you already are. Very different sorts of people can all become popular, so don't try to fit a mold.\\nDon't gossip or engage in any way. Spreading rumors is no way to make friends and can cause people to lose their trust in you. Even if you genuinely dislike someone, do not engage in gossip.\\nWarnings\\nAlthough popularity is sometimes not about grades, if you are generally smart as well as a cool person, people will like you because you have a good balance of cool and smart.\\nWhen you try to get involved in school, make sure to seem natural. Don't be pushy or ask too many questions. Don't be annoying. Doing so will make others feel you are making friends with them for a purpose.\\nDo not be mean or snobby! In the movies, they show popular girls as being mean, snobby, and rich. In reality, nobody wants to hang out with mean snobs, and it's 100% possible to be popular without being rich or owning a single designer outfit. The popular girls are the nice girls who are well-liked and have lots of friends.\\nIf you have made friends with other people who are popular, don't abandon your old friends. Get your old friends to come with your new friends so you can hang out with all your friends.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Having a lot of friends can provide you with social support, help boost your mood, and reduce feelings of stress. If you want to become popular, focus on being a likable person who others genuinely want to be around. You can also gain recognition and respect in your school by joining a variety of clubs and activities. If you put yourself out there and strive to be more social, popularity will follow in time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"How to Make New Friends\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set a goal to make more friends.\", \"描述\": \"It may sound strange, but setting goals can help you make new friends. This is especially true if you're on the shy side. Setting small goals for yourself, that allow you to gradually break out of your shell, can help boost your popularity.\\nSet small goals for yourself at first. For example, you can promise to make small talk with a new person before class every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.\\nAs you begin to feel more comfortable socializing with others, try to set bigger goals. You can promise you'll go to the birthday party you were invited to and try to talk to at least 3 new people.\\nIf you're persistent with following up on your goals, you'll eventually feel much more comfortable socializing. This can allow you to meet new people and make a great number of new friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Invite people to hang out.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to make more friends, you have to focus on socializing outside the classroom. Once you get comfortable hanging out at school, try inviting someone out. Ask an acquaintance if he or she wants to go see a movie or get coffee. 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You may want to check with your parents before opening certain social media accounts, however, just to make sure that it's okay in your home.\\nFocus on meaningful interactions online. People tend to respond better to personalized messages over vague status updates. Congratulate one of the popular girls about winning a spelling bee or getting accepted into a summer internship program.\\nKeep in mind virtual friends cannot make up for real friends. While socializing online can enhance existing relationships, avoid talking to strangers on the internet. Not only will this not increase your overall popularity, it can be a safety issue as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be friendly and nice to everyone.\", \"描述\": \"If you want more friends, you need to have something offer people. Remember the Golden Rule when seeking out new friends and treat others as you would wish to be treated. People are naturally drawn to people who are respectful, courteous and kind to others.\\nHowever, don't be overly nice or it might come across as fake and people will be wondering who you really are. Be polite to everyone but reserve special acts of generosity for your genuine friends, to avoid stretching your personal resources too far and seeming like you're not being genuine.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't take rejection personally.\", \"描述\": \"Fear of rejection is a big reason people refrain from putting themselves out there. However, rejection happens to everyone. Just because someone doesn't want to see a movie with you on a particular Friday does not mean that person is not interested in your friendship.\\nPeople do have other obligations. If a popular girl declines your invitation to get coffee, she may genuinely be busy. Don't use this setback as a reason to retreat back into your shell.\\nRemember, there is a lot you do not know about other people. 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If you're interested in journalism, for example, joining the newspaper club can help.\\nIf you're focusing on popularity, you may want to see what kinds of clubs the popular kids are joining. If the most popular boys and girls in school are all in the debate club, this may be a great place to meet popular students.\\nThe activities of the club itself won't make you popular. Rather, what will make you popular is the fact you enjoy doing the club's activities and this enthusiasm rubs off on others because you own it, like it, and want to share the enjoyment with other people.\\nMaybe start a club if one doesn't exist already in what interests you. This is a brave, bold and risky move that will get you noticed for all the right reasons, as you're doing something different and enthusing others to join in.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get involved in sports.\", \"描述\": \"In many schools, a lot of girls and boys are involved in sports or athletics. Joining a sports team may help you get to know the popular students. If you end up excelling at sports, you may become popular yourself.\\nTrain if you're unfamiliar with a certain sport. If you want to join the basketball team, for example, practice shooting hoops at a local park.\\nYou may have to get in shape to join certain clubs. Make sure you start small when it comes to getting in shape, as you don't want to overexert yourself. Start with small exercise sessions and work your way up.\\nDo not get too discouraged if you don't make a school sport's team. Remember that you can always try out again next year. It is also important to stay in shape if you're willing to get better for next year's try-outs. What matters is to try your very best as it's always a chance to get to know more people.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Run for student council\", \"描述\": \"Are the class presidents, treasurers, and representatives popular in your school? If so, you may benefit from running for student council. At the beginning of the year, when elections are held, try to get a campaign team together and go for a spot in student council. This will show everyone you’re confident in who you are and what you stand for!\\nMake sure you learn the rules and regulations for running for student council. You may have to get your parents' or guardians' signatures and sign up by a certain deadline.\\nThink of a great campaign slogan and plaster it on decorative poster boards. Put up your posters throughout the school.\\nWrite a great campaign speech for your chosen position, clearly laying out what you'll bring to the job.\\nLeadership skills can help to make you more popular, when exercised with care and consideration for others. Leadership skills can help you stand out from the crowd.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Show up to school events.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be popular, you have to put yourself out there and socialize. Attend school events where the popular crowd is likely to hang out. Do not skip out on things like school dances, sporting events, and pep rallies.\\nIf you're shy, try to get a small group of existing friends to attend such events with you. However, be sure not to just hang out with your own crowd. You'll want to branch out and talk to new people. Increasing your friend's circle can help you gain popularity.\\nDo not be shy. It can be intimidating to meet others, but school events often make striking up a conversation easier. This is especially true for sporting events, where there may be a sense of camaraderie based on cheering for the same team.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"How to Have the Right Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give yourself a makeover.\", \"描述\": \"While you should not focus on looks alone to be popular, confidence is key to popularity. Giving yourself a new haircut and changing up your wardrobe and makeup can help you feel better about yourself. This may make you more likely to put yourself out there and seek out new friendships, boosting your popularity.\\nTry to go with trends that you personally enjoy. If you're wearing something you hate, you won't feel confident in it. This can make you less likely to socialize. If you hate leggings, do not follow the legging trend in your school. If you notice a lot of popular girls wear boots, and you love your pair of black lace-up boots, this could be a great trend for you to follow.\\nTry to keep up with trends and wear trendy clothing. Right now stores like Hollister, A&F, Brandy Melville, Forever 21, PacSun, and Aeropostale are all good places to shop at. But also have unique quirky things to change things up a bit.\\nYou may want to change up your hair and makeup. You can go to the makeup counter at a local beauty salon and ask for an attractive every day makeup look. Ask a stylist at a salon what would be a flattering hairstyle for you. Makeup and hair that works well for your features can bolster your confidence and, in turn, increase your popularity.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Smile.\", \"描述\": \"While smiling is a small change, it can make you look more positive and approachable. Striving to smile more can help increase your popularity and win you more friends. Work on smiling in front of a mirror until you find a winning and approachable smile. As you navigate the hallways, try to smile at others.\\nWhen people talk to you, make an effort to smile during the conversation.\\nWhen introducing yourself to new people, flash a smile at them and make eye contact.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be friendly.\", \"描述\": \"If you're a warm and friendly person, people can be drawn to you. This can win you more friends and more popularity. Work on cultivating a friendly attitude in order to be popular in your school.\\nTry to show people you are happy to see them. If appropriate, give a friend a hug or a pat on the shoulder when meeting up with them in public.\\nShow genuine enthusiasm when around others. Smile and laugh during conversation.\\nBe kind to everyone. Ask the girl in geometry how her day is going. Make conversation with the boy that sits by himself. Be genuinely interested in what they have to say. If you are kind to everyone, people will like you. You would rather be the girl that is popular because she is well-liked rather than the girl that is popular because she rules by fear.\\nBe open with new people. Strike up a conversation between classes. Sit at a new lunch table. Introduce yourself in a friendly fashion in an effort to get to know new people and make new friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask about others.\", \"描述\": \"People are drawn to people who show an interest in their lives. During conversations with others, ask questions. Give people an opportunity to talk about themselves and their interests.\\nAsk questions to learn about others. Ask about other people's interests and passions. Ask something like, \\\"What's your earliest memory?\\\" or \\\"What's your favorite thing to do on the weekends?\\\"\\nThis can be a great technique at parties. You'll be able to hold down a conversation for a while by asking questions, as people enjoy talking about themselves. You can really get to know someone by asking a lot of questions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Listen.\", \"描述\": \"Being a good listener can help people like you more, allowing yourself to be more popular. Try to genuinely listen to what others say. If you don't understand something, ask a follow up question to make sure you understand. Showing a genuine interest in what others have to say can really help with your popularity.\\nGive people space to speak. When someone finishes a sentence, wait 5 to 10 seconds to make sure they're truly done speaking.\\nTry to balance talking and listening.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be a helpful person.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to be popular is to be helpful to others. Listen when a friend is in need. If someone needs help with a homework problem, offer to lend them a helping hand. People want to be around people who are caring and kind to other people. Trying to be helpful can help you be more popular.\\nHelp others with their homework, with making introductions, with small things you can do for them with ease.\\nBe that one student who raises their hand in class and asks the question everyone else wants the answer to but is too fearful to ask!\\nWhile being helpful is great to make new friends, avoid getting taken advantage of. If someone is constantly asking you for favors, it's okay to establish boundaries.\\nBe certain that nobody is using you. If friends are not helpful to you in return, you may be better off with such people out of your life. If someone borrows money from you and they owe you, remind them. If they don't return the money, tell them off.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"描述\": \"It's a cliche saying for a reason. Being authentic can help you win friends. While many people feel they have to change to be popular, people tend to be naturally drawn to people who are comfortable in their own skin. Try to let your personality show through. Do not be afraid to bring up your own interests and passions when the opportunity presents itself. Let your unique qualities, like your sense of humor, shine through during conversations.\\nRemember that you won't be universally popular but you can always be likable, stand out and be a leader among your peers.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"How to Avoid Peer Pressure\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Trust your instincts.\", \"描述\": \"While being popular can be fun, you should never put yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable just to please others. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation, listen to this gut instinct. A negative gut reaction often points to a dangerous situation.\\nBack out of a situation when you become uncomfortable. Find a way to excuse yourself from a party or even if you get nervous.\\nYou can try making up a quick excuse if you do not want to get into a confrontation in the moment. For example, say something like, \\\"Sorry, but I should get going. I'm coming down with a really bad headache.\\\"\\nBe brave. Stand up for what you believe matters, speak up for what you need and not what others want to push you into.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't do illegal or immature things.\", \"描述\": \"If you're attending an event where drugs or alcohol are being used, it's best to leave. You do not want to be popular at the expense of your own safety. There also may be legal consequences to underage drinking or the use of illegal drugs. If you're pressured into doing anything illegal, find a way to leave the situation fast.\\nIf you're going to a party where there may be alcohol or drugs served, plan what to do in the event you're pressured to partake. You can have a trusted friend on call who can help get you out of this situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid bullying.\", \"描述\": \"Negative peer pressure can often encourage you to bully or ostracize other students. Popular cliques in middle or high school often engage in bullying. Remember, bullying can have serious emotional consequences for the target. Avoid the temptation of gossip and do not be openly (or even not-openly) cruel to other students at your school. If you ever get bullied, go to a website called Stymie to anonymously file a report. \\nIt can be very hard to try to resist negative peer pressure, but remember the benefits. You'll feel better about yourself and you may influence other peers to resist things like bullying and gossip as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Focus on positive peer pressure.\", \"描述\": \"Peer pressure is not always negative. Sometimes, your friends may pressure you into a taking a risk that is worth it. Good friends, for example, will encourage you to submit your poems to that contest or ask your crush on a date. Friends may also expose you to new and interesting things, like a new music group or author. While rejecting negative peer pressure, focus on the positives. Allow your friends to teach you about new things and help you find opportunities for fun, learning, and personal growth.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't worry if there are people who don't like you, not everyone will. Be nice to them though, because you don't want to give them another reason not to like you.\\n\", \"Adjusting yourself and changing yourself are two different things. Trying to be someone you're not won't win you friends; everyone will see through your act at some point. Try to build off of who you already are. Very different sorts of people can all become popular, so don't try to fit a mold.\\n\", \"Don't gossip or engage in any way. Spreading rumors is no way to make friends and can cause people to lose their trust in you. Even if you genuinely dislike someone, do not engage in gossip.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Although popularity is sometimes not about grades, if you are generally smart as well as a cool person, people will like you because you have a good balance of cool and smart.\\n\", \"When you try to get involved in school, make sure to seem natural. Don't be pushy or ask too many questions. Don't be annoying. Doing so will make others feel you are making friends with them for a purpose.\\n\", \"Do not be mean or snobby! In the movies, they show popular girls as being mean, snobby, and rich. In reality, nobody wants to hang out with mean snobs, and it's 100% possible to be popular without being rich or owning a single designer outfit. The popular girls are the nice girls who are well-liked and have lots of friends.\\n\", \"If you have made friends with other people who are popular, don't abandon your old friends. 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1. Socializing with Other Kids
1-1. Let your classmates know you're friendly by smiling and saying nice things.
Smile when you make eye contact with another kid. They'll know right away that you're a nice, friendly person. Give your classmate a compliment when you like something they've done. This not only makes the other person feel good about themself but it also warms them up to you.
In art class, you could say, “Hey Ari, your drawing looks really pretty!” or “Emily, it was really nice of you to share your scissors with me today. Thanks!”
After math class, let a classmate know you appreciated their help by saying “Mandy, I'm so glad you asked the teacher that question today. I was confused about that too!”
1-2. Introduce yourself to kids you don't know.
Whether you end up sitting next to a new kid at your school or you're assigned to a group project with someone you haven't met before, take a moment to introduce yourself. Add a question or compliment to your introduction to get the other person talking. The other person will be glad you broke the silence and will feel comfortable around you in the future.
Try saying, “Hi, I don't think we've met before. I'm Rachel, what's your name?” or “Hi, I'm Rachel. Were you in Mrs. Colt's class last year?”
Continue your conversation by asking the other person more questions about themselves. Show that you're genuinely interested and try to get to know them a little bit better.
You can compliment someone by noticing something good that they're doing and praising it. For example, you could say, “Lola, you were an amazing team captain in gym class today!”
If you're nervous about talking to kids you don't know, practice with a trusted adult at home first.
1-3. Join a club or activity group to meet new people.
Pick activities you're interested in; don't just choose a club because it seems cool. If you like volleyball, dance, gymnastics, or singing, find a group through your school or local community that you can join. As an alternative to joining a club, consider volunteering and helping others with your free time.
If you're interested in volunteering, ask your parents to help you find a local organization you could help. See if you could volunteer at your church or local library. Maybe there's a park clean-up group or food pantry you could volunteer with.
Music, photography, and anime clubs are all possible options for you to join.
When you show up for your group meetings, introduce yourself and be friendly to everyone you meet.
If you do things you like outside of school, you'll have plenty to talk about with your classmates. You could even invite a friend to join you sometime.
1-4. Say “yes” when someone asks you to hang out or play with them.
If another kid asks you to play tag with them on the playground, or if they invite you to their birthday party, accept their invitation. Show that you're excited and grateful by saying “yes, I'd love to; thanks for asking!” The more you say “yes,” the more people will get to know you and like you.
If you're just a little nervous, don't automatically say “no.” They might not ask you again because they'll be worried about another rejection.
If the event is outside of school, ask your parents' permission to go before confirming with your classmate.
It's okay to say “no” if you're not able to go. But let the person know you appreciate the offer and would still like to be friends.
But if someone makes you uncomfortable, it's ok to say “no.” Talk with a parent or guardian if you're uncomfortable about a person's behavior or something they asked you to do.
1-5. Keep your promises.
When you've agreed to hang out with a new friend, show up. If you offered to lend a classmate a great book, bring it to school the next day. If you promised not to share a secret, don't share it. The more you stick to your word, the more people will trust and like you. You'll make others feel valued and special.
Loyalty is really important in establishing good friendships. Be a loyal friend to others and they'll eventually do the same for you.
Don't cancel your plans at the last minute for no good reason. People get bored and tired of friends who never show up and never follow through.
If you're feeling down but you're supposed to go to a friend's birthday party in an hour, it would be easy to stay home, but your friend will be really disappointed. Instead, try to cheer yourself up and go to the party. You'll probably have lots of fun!
1-6. Ask other kids to hang out or play with you.
It can be scary to ask someone to come over to your house or join you for a movie. But if you never ask, you'll never know what they'd have said! Think about what your classmate likes to do, and decide what to invite them for based on that.
While you're at school, invite other kids to hang out with you. If your classmate is into soccer, ask them if they'd like to kick a soccer ball around with you during recess.
You can even invite others to play with you outside of school. If your new friend likes baking, ask your parents if you can invite your friend to come over and make cookies with you.
If someone turns down your invitation, don't take it personally. Their decision to say “no” probably has nothing to do with you and more to do with something else that's going on in their life.
1-7. Avoid trying to become popular by social climbing.
Hanging out with certain “super-popular” kids and leaving out other “unpopular” kids might seem like a good way to become popular, but it doesn't really work. You'll seem fake and might hurt the people who like you. Just focus on being a nice, kind person to everyone around you. Offer genuine friendship to the people you want to befriend.
Social climbing involves ranking other kids and trying to climb up the ladder to join a group of kids you think are more popular than you.
Don't try to hang out with a cool girl at your school just because she seems cool. Instead, show that you're interested in her as a person. Ask her questions about herself and see if you have anything in common. If you decide you don't really get along after all, don't pretend that you do.
When you make new friends, don't assume your old friends are beneath you or treat them badly. If you agreed to sit with your old friend on the bus, keep your promise. Don't just ditch them by sitting with your new friend on the bus.
2. Showing Respect to Everyone
2-1. Use good listening skills when a classmate speaks to you.
Show genuine interest and excitement about what your classmate says. Let them speak their mind and pay close attention. Ask them questions about themselves and their interests to keep the conversation going. Your classmates will feel great around you and might want to spend more time with you.
Try asking questions like these: “What topic did you pick for the science project?” “What did you do over the weekend?” “Which TV shows do you like to watch?”
Avoid interrupting your friend. This can seem rude and annoying.
Even if you're talking with a classmate you don't know very well, open your mind and listen closely. You might just find that you have a lot in common!
2-2. Be kind to all of your classmates without leaving anyone out.
If you exclude other people from sitting near you or hanging out with you, you're being mean. This behavior will make you cliquey, but it won't make you popular. If most of your classmates see you as being a nice person, you'll be very popular at school.
A clique is a group of friends who purposely leave other kids out.
Cliques look cool in some movies, books, and TV shows. While these stories are entertaining, they aren't good examples of how to behave.
2-3. Don't gossip about your classmates or friends.
Gossip can be a quick way to get a few people to listen to you, but your words are harmful to the other person and to yourself. Don't make fun of a classmate behind their back or start spreading rumors. Try to be empathetic instead. If a friend starts trying to gossip with you, change the subject.
Empathy means putting yourself in the other person's shoes so you can understand what they might be feeling.
If word gets around about your trash-talking, your other friends will feel betrayed and won't feel comfortable around you anymore.
Here's how you could change the subject: “Hey Kelly, I get that you might not like Lucy's outfit today, but I think Lucy is really sweet. Let's try not to be mean, ok? But speaking of clothes, what are you planning to wear for the music class recital next week?”
2-4. Don't be a bully or encourage your friends to bully your classmates.
Avoid threatening your classmates, saying mean and nasty things to them, and physically hurting them. Stand up against bullying when you can, and you'll gain popularity with your peers.
Bullies might seem powerful but they aren't popular or well-liked.
Avoid using stereotypes to come up with mean things to say. You'll miss out on a lot of possible friendships.
3. Being Yourself
3-1. Wear clothes that you feel good in.
Don't obsess over how clothes make you look. Think about how they make you feel instead. Pick out clothes and accessories that make you feel comfortable and confident. You can follow trends, but only if you love them and how they make you feel. Focus mainly on choosing outfits that show off your personality and make you feel like you can take on the world!
Instead of wondering, “Does this top make me look good?” think, “Do I feel good when I wear this top?”
Confident, comfortable people are easy and fun to be around. If you're uncomfortable or insecure about your clothes, your negative energy will show and other people will start to feel awkward around you.
If you wear a school uniform, stick to the guidelines and take care of your uniform. Try expressing your personality by doing your hair how you like, if that's allowed at your school. Have fun expressing yourself through clothes after school and on the weekends.
3-2. Keep up a clean, hygienic appearance.
Take a bath or shower on a regular basis. Brush your teeth twice a day and brush your hair, too. Wear deodorant to stay fresh. Take good care of your clothes so they stay clean and free of wrinkles.
Don't worry about wearing makeup. A little lip balm or lip gloss is all you need.
Ask your parent or guardian to teach you how to do the laundry. They will appreciate the help and you'll have clean clothes whenever you want them.
3-3. Stay true to yourself, no matter who you're with.
If you join an exclusive clique, you might start acting differently. If you're sitting next to someone from another friend group, you might ignore them because you're not really friends. Don't switch your behavior based on who's around; focus on being your true self no matter who you're with.
When you're around older or younger kids, be just as friendly to them as you are to people your own age.
If you change who you are when you find a new group of friends, your old friends will feel left out and sad. They might not like the new person you've become and you'll risk losing their friendship.
If you're always true to yourself, you'll be able to form real friendships and people in school will get to know the real you.
3-4. Focus on learning and doing well in school.
While it's tempting to pass notes and whisper to your friends, try to pay attention during your classes. Take good notes, participate in hands-on activities, and study for quizzes and tests. Don't be afraid to give it your all in gym class and music lessons. Learn as much as you can and keep an open mind. You might be able to connect with other kids who enjoy or struggle with the same subjects as you!
If you slack off in school, talk badly about your teacher, or complain about hating your classes, some of your classmates might be put off.
Work as hard as you can in school. Not only will your skills improve but your classmates will admire you for your willingness to try new things.
Stay organized by writing all of your assignments, extra-curricular activities, and social outings in a calendar.
3-5. Talk to a trusted adult if you're having a hard time.
Confide in a parent, guardian, teacher, or guidance counselor if you're feeling sad and lonely, if you're being bullied, or if you're just not sure how to start making friends. Ask your trusted adult about what you're struggling with, and what you can do to manage your feelings.
If you're worried you aren't popular enough, think carefully about what the word “popular” means to you and talk about this with your trusted adult. You'll probably realize it has less to do with your friendships and more to do with your self-esteem.
For instance, you might be jealous of another kid's clothing and lifestyle, or a clique at your school might make you feel bad about yourself, and you think being popular would erase those yucky feelings. These problems can be solved in other ways.
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Say “yes” when someone asks you to hang out or play with them.\\nIf another kid asks you to play tag with them on the playground, or if they invite you to their birthday party, accept their invitation. Show that you're excited and grateful by saying “yes, I'd love to; thanks for asking!” The more you say “yes,” the more people will get to know you and like you.\\nIf you're just a little nervous, don't automatically say “no.” They might not ask you again because they'll be worried about another rejection.\\nIf the event is outside of school, ask your parents' permission to go before confirming with your classmate.\\nIt's okay to say “no” if you're not able to go. But let the person know you appreciate the offer and would still like to be friends.\\nBut if someone makes you uncomfortable, it's ok to say “no.” Talk with a parent or guardian if you're uncomfortable about a person's behavior or something they asked you to do.\\n1-5. Keep your promises.\\nWhen you've agreed to hang out with a new friend, show up. If you offered to lend a classmate a great book, bring it to school the next day. If you promised not to share a secret, don't share it. The more you stick to your word, the more people will trust and like you. You'll make others feel valued and special.\\nLoyalty is really important in establishing good friendships. Be a loyal friend to others and they'll eventually do the same for you.\\nDon't cancel your plans at the last minute for no good reason. People get bored and tired of friends who never show up and never follow through.\\nIf you're feeling down but you're supposed to go to a friend's birthday party in an hour, it would be easy to stay home, but your friend will be really disappointed. Instead, try to cheer yourself up and go to the party. You'll probably have lots of fun!\\n1-6. Ask other kids to hang out or play with you.\\nIt can be scary to ask someone to come over to your house or join you for a movie. But if you never ask, you'll never know what they'd have said! Think about what your classmate likes to do, and decide what to invite them for based on that.\\nWhile you're at school, invite other kids to hang out with you. If your classmate is into soccer, ask them if they'd like to kick a soccer ball around with you during recess.\\nYou can even invite others to play with you outside of school. If your new friend likes baking, ask your parents if you can invite your friend to come over and make cookies with you.\\nIf someone turns down your invitation, don't take it personally. Their decision to say “no” probably has nothing to do with you and more to do with something else that's going on in their life.\\n1-7. Avoid trying to become popular by social climbing.\\nHanging out with certain “super-popular” kids and leaving out other “unpopular” kids might seem like a good way to become popular, but it doesn't really work. You'll seem fake and might hurt the people who like you. Just focus on being a nice, kind person to everyone around you. Offer genuine friendship to the people you want to befriend.\\nSocial climbing involves ranking other kids and trying to climb up the ladder to join a group of kids you think are more popular than you.\\nDon't try to hang out with a cool girl at your school just because she seems cool. Instead, show that you're interested in her as a person. Ask her questions about herself and see if you have anything in common. If you decide you don't really get along after all, don't pretend that you do.\\nWhen you make new friends, don't assume your old friends are beneath you or treat them badly. If you agreed to sit with your old friend on the bus, keep your promise. Don't just ditch them by sitting with your new friend on the bus.\\n2. Showing Respect to Everyone\\n2-1. Use good listening skills when a classmate speaks to you.\\nShow genuine interest and excitement about what your classmate says. Let them speak their mind and pay close attention. Ask them questions about themselves and their interests to keep the conversation going. Your classmates will feel great around you and might want to spend more time with you.\\nTry asking questions like these: “What topic did you pick for the science project?” “What did you do over the weekend?” “Which TV shows do you like to watch?”\\nAvoid interrupting your friend. This can seem rude and annoying.\\nEven if you're talking with a classmate you don't know very well, open your mind and listen closely. You might just find that you have a lot in common!\\n2-2. Be kind to all of your classmates without leaving anyone out.\\nIf you exclude other people from sitting near you or hanging out with you, you're being mean. This behavior will make you cliquey, but it won't make you popular. If most of your classmates see you as being a nice person, you'll be very popular at school.\\nA clique is a group of friends who purposely leave other kids out.\\nCliques look cool in some movies, books, and TV shows. While these stories are entertaining, they aren't good examples of how to behave.\\n2-3. Don't gossip about your classmates or friends.\\nGossip can be a quick way to get a few people to listen to you, but your words are harmful to the other person and to yourself. Don't make fun of a classmate behind their back or start spreading rumors. Try to be empathetic instead. If a friend starts trying to gossip with you, change the subject.\\nEmpathy means putting yourself in the other person's shoes so you can understand what they might be feeling.\\nIf word gets around about your trash-talking, your other friends will feel betrayed and won't feel comfortable around you anymore.\\nHere's how you could change the subject: “Hey Kelly, I get that you might not like Lucy's outfit today, but I think Lucy is really sweet. Let's try not to be mean, ok? But speaking of clothes, what are you planning to wear for the music class recital next week?”\\n2-4. Don't be a bully or encourage your friends to bully your classmates.\\nAvoid threatening your classmates, saying mean and nasty things to them, and physically hurting them. Stand up against bullying when you can, and you'll gain popularity with your peers.\\nBullies might seem powerful but they aren't popular or well-liked.\\nAvoid using stereotypes to come up with mean things to say. You'll miss out on a lot of possible friendships.\\n3. Being Yourself\\n3-1. Wear clothes that you feel good in.\\nDon't obsess over how clothes make you look. Think about how they make you feel instead. Pick out clothes and accessories that make you feel comfortable and confident. You can follow trends, but only if you love them and how they make you feel. Focus mainly on choosing outfits that show off your personality and make you feel like you can take on the world!\\nInstead of wondering, “Does this top make me look good?” think, “Do I feel good when I wear this top?”\\nConfident, comfortable people are easy and fun to be around. If you're uncomfortable or insecure about your clothes, your negative energy will show and other people will start to feel awkward around you.\\nIf you wear a school uniform, stick to the guidelines and take care of your uniform. Try expressing your personality by doing your hair how you like, if that's allowed at your school. Have fun expressing yourself through clothes after school and on the weekends.\\n3-2. Keep up a clean, hygienic appearance.\\nTake a bath or shower on a regular basis. Brush your teeth twice a day and brush your hair, too. Wear deodorant to stay fresh. Take good care of your clothes so they stay clean and free of wrinkles.\\nDon't worry about wearing makeup. A little lip balm or lip gloss is all you need.\\nAsk your parent or guardian to teach you how to do the laundry. They will appreciate the help and you'll have clean clothes whenever you want them.\\n3-3. Stay true to yourself, no matter who you're with.\\nIf you join an exclusive clique, you might start acting differently. If you're sitting next to someone from another friend group, you might ignore them because you're not really friends. Don't switch your behavior based on who's around; focus on being your true self no matter who you're with.\\nWhen you're around older or younger kids, be just as friendly to them as you are to people your own age.\\nIf you change who you are when you find a new group of friends, your old friends will feel left out and sad. They might not like the new person you've become and you'll risk losing their friendship.\\nIf you're always true to yourself, you'll be able to form real friendships and people in school will get to know the real you.\\n3-4. Focus on learning and doing well in school.\\nWhile it's tempting to pass notes and whisper to your friends, try to pay attention during your classes. Take good notes, participate in hands-on activities, and study for quizzes and tests. Don't be afraid to give it your all in gym class and music lessons. Learn as much as you can and keep an open mind. You might be able to connect with other kids who enjoy or struggle with the same subjects as you!\\nIf you slack off in school, talk badly about your teacher, or complain about hating your classes, some of your classmates might be put off.\\nWork as hard as you can in school. Not only will your skills improve but your classmates will admire you for your willingness to try new things.\\nStay organized by writing all of your assignments, extra-curricular activities, and social outings in a calendar.\\n3-5. Talk to a trusted adult if you're having a hard time.\\nConfide in a parent, guardian, teacher, or guidance counselor if you're feeling sad and lonely, if you're being bullied, or if you're just not sure how to start making friends. Ask your trusted adult about what you're struggling with, and what you can do to manage your feelings.\\nIf you're worried you aren't popular enough, think carefully about what the word “popular” means to you and talk about this with your trusted adult. You'll probably realize it has less to do with your friendships and more to do with your self-esteem.\\nFor instance, you might be jealous of another kid's clothing and lifestyle, or a clique at your school might make you feel bad about yourself, and you think being popular would erase those yucky feelings. These problems can be solved in other ways.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being popular means that a lot of people like and respect you. To become popular in elementary school, focus on being friendly and sociable to all of your classmates. Introduce yourself, say “yes” when other kids ask you to play with them, and don't be afraid to ask a classmate to hang out with you, too. Treat everyone with kindness, no matter who they are, and avoid gossiping and bullying other kids. 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I was confused about that too!”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Introduce yourself to kids you don't know.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you end up sitting next to a new kid at your school or you're assigned to a group project with someone you haven't met before, take a moment to introduce yourself. Add a question or compliment to your introduction to get the other person talking. The other person will be glad you broke the silence and will feel comfortable around you in the future.\\nTry saying, “Hi, I don't think we've met before. I'm Rachel, what's your name?” or “Hi, I'm Rachel. Were you in Mrs. Colt's class last year?”\\nContinue your conversation by asking the other person more questions about themselves. Show that you're genuinely interested and try to get to know them a little bit better.\\nYou can compliment someone by noticing something good that they're doing and praising it. For example, you could say, “Lola, you were an amazing team captain in gym class today!”\\nIf you're nervous about talking to kids you don't know, practice with a trusted adult at home first.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join a club or activity group to meet new people.\", \"描述\": \"Pick activities you're interested in; don't just choose a club because it seems cool. If you like volleyball, dance, gymnastics, or singing, find a group through your school or local community that you can join. As an alternative to joining a club, consider volunteering and helping others with your free time.\\nIf you're interested in volunteering, ask your parents to help you find a local organization you could help. See if you could volunteer at your church or local library. Maybe there's a park clean-up group or food pantry you could volunteer with.\\nMusic, photography, and anime clubs are all possible options for you to join.\\nWhen you show up for your group meetings, introduce yourself and be friendly to everyone you meet.\\nIf you do things you like outside of school, you'll have plenty to talk about with your classmates. You could even invite a friend to join you sometime.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Say “yes” when someone asks you to hang out or play with them.\", \"描述\": \"If another kid asks you to play tag with them on the playground, or if they invite you to their birthday party, accept their invitation. Show that you're excited and grateful by saying “yes, I'd love to; thanks for asking!” The more you say “yes,” the more people will get to know you and like you.\\nIf you're just a little nervous, don't automatically say “no.” They might not ask you again because they'll be worried about another rejection.\\nIf the event is outside of school, ask your parents' permission to go before confirming with your classmate.\\nIt's okay to say “no” if you're not able to go. But let the person know you appreciate the offer and would still like to be friends.\\nBut if someone makes you uncomfortable, it's ok to say “no.” Talk with a parent or guardian if you're uncomfortable about a person's behavior or something they asked you to do.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep your promises.\", \"描述\": \"When you've agreed to hang out with a new friend, show up. If you offered to lend a classmate a great book, bring it to school the next day. If you promised not to share a secret, don't share it. The more you stick to your word, the more people will trust and like you. You'll make others feel valued and special.\\nLoyalty is really important in establishing good friendships. Be a loyal friend to others and they'll eventually do the same for you.\\nDon't cancel your plans at the last minute for no good reason. People get bored and tired of friends who never show up and never follow through.\\nIf you're feeling down but you're supposed to go to a friend's birthday party in an hour, it would be easy to stay home, but your friend will be really disappointed. Instead, try to cheer yourself up and go to the party. You'll probably have lots of fun!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask other kids to hang out or play with you.\", \"描述\": \"It can be scary to ask someone to come over to your house or join you for a movie. But if you never ask, you'll never know what they'd have said! Think about what your classmate likes to do, and decide what to invite them for based on that.\\nWhile you're at school, invite other kids to hang out with you. If your classmate is into soccer, ask them if they'd like to kick a soccer ball around with you during recess.\\nYou can even invite others to play with you outside of school. If your new friend likes baking, ask your parents if you can invite your friend to come over and make cookies with you.\\nIf someone turns down your invitation, don't take it personally. Their decision to say “no” probably has nothing to do with you and more to do with something else that's going on in their life.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Avoid trying to become popular by social climbing.\", \"描述\": \"Hanging out with certain “super-popular” kids and leaving out other “unpopular” kids might seem like a good way to become popular, but it doesn't really work. You'll seem fake and might hurt the people who like you. Just focus on being a nice, kind person to everyone around you. Offer genuine friendship to the people you want to befriend.\\nSocial climbing involves ranking other kids and trying to climb up the ladder to join a group of kids you think are more popular than you.\\nDon't try to hang out with a cool girl at your school just because she seems cool. Instead, show that you're interested in her as a person. Ask her questions about herself and see if you have anything in common. If you decide you don't really get along after all, don't pretend that you do.\\nWhen you make new friends, don't assume your old friends are beneath you or treat them badly. If you agreed to sit with your old friend on the bus, keep your promise. 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If a friend starts trying to gossip with you, change the subject.\\nEmpathy means putting yourself in the other person's shoes so you can understand what they might be feeling.\\nIf word gets around about your trash-talking, your other friends will feel betrayed and won't feel comfortable around you anymore.\\nHere's how you could change the subject: “Hey Kelly, I get that you might not like Lucy's outfit today, but I think Lucy is really sweet. Let's try not to be mean, ok? But speaking of clothes, what are you planning to wear for the music class recital next week?”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't be a bully or encourage your friends to bully your classmates.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid threatening your classmates, saying mean and nasty things to them, and physically hurting them. Stand up against bullying when you can, and you'll gain popularity with your peers.\\nBullies might seem powerful but they aren't popular or well-liked.\\nAvoid using stereotypes to come up with mean things to say. 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How to Be a Popular Girl in a Private School
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1. Steps
1-1. Get the accessories right and make sure you're up-to-date on all the latest fashion trends, movies, music, and celebrity gossip!
Hair: Many girls wear their hair in a messy bun with one of those skinny headbands. If your hair is short or layered, and pieces fall out when you make a ponytail, use colored barrettes instead of a headband (they're cute, and give you that nice,unique look).
Nails: If nail polish is allowed, don't be afraid to use different colors like neons or sparkly polishes. Little details like your nails can show people your personality so be creative! If you just want a clean-cut, pretty look, you can try french tips (on your own if they're long enough or fake nails) or clear polish.
Shoes: In private schools, there are usually rules about shoes. Usually, they have to be dress shoes and/or be a certain color. If there are no rules about shoes, wear cute ones like uggs. Ballet flats are always cute. White vans are great as well, even though many people have them. You might be allowed to wear high heels. If you can, don't wear really tall ones and only wear heels in high school, otherwise you're just going to look weird. If you can, wear Toms. They are for a good cause, make you seem nice and giving, and are super cute. Also, Sperrys are cute too. You might think they're just for preppies but they're not. If your school allows it, get the ones with your favorite colors and patterns on the side. Also, try to wear colors that match your uniform. For example, if you wear a navy and green plaid skirt, wear navy or green shoes.
Make up: Do not go overboard on the make up; natural make up looks casual and pretty! Just make sure it looks natural and enhance your natural beauty. A bit of concealer, face powder, light blush or bronzer, thin eyeliner on top eyelash line, mascara and a very light lipstick - if you apply these things lightly, it will make your face look really pretty and not fake or caked on. Less is more.
1-2. Own the attitude.
Attitude is one thing that can make or break you. If you act too confident, people may see you as being full of yourself or stuck up. If you aren't confident enough, people will think you're shy and won't approach you. Just smile, have good posture (back straight, shoulders back, head up, don't slouch), and look people in the eye.
1-3. Make conversation.
In many wikiHow articles, people suggest making small talk and using ice-breakers like "It looks like it is going to rain" or "What class do you have next?" Don't do that! Your conversations will run dry in seconds if you start with a topic like that. Turn to a group of girls and ask, "Does anyone have Honors English 1 next hour?". That way, you will give off a confident impression and also find someone to sit next to in the first hour! Talk to the girl that's going to be in your class and ask her what things she likes. Girls come from all over to go to private schools, so if you haven't heard of that thing before, ask her what that is. This will lead to a longer conversation, and maybe even a friendship!
1-4. During your first class, don't be afraid to raise your hand if you know an answer and ask questions if you need to.
This will show your teachers that you are eager to learn and want to do your assignments correctly. And if someone asks to borrow a pencil or a piece of paper, don't be objective, lend it to them! It's better to be known as friendly, kind, and sharing than stingy and selfish!
1-5. During lunch, sit near the girl that you met with the advice from Step 3, and even invite other girls you met in class or near your locker to sit with you.
Eventually you will have a full table and lots of girls to talk to and it will appear to others that you are very friendly and easy to talk to since you are sitting with so many people.
1-6. Try to form new bonds and friendships.
When you get to know someone new well enough and/or think you're "hitting it off," ask if you can keep in touch via texting or social media. Also ask to hang out outside of school.
1-7. Do your homework.
Make sure you're prepared for class the next day. This will give your teachers a better impression of you and help you learn more effectively.
1-8. Ask one of your new friends if they are trying out for a sport!
Do this on the second day or on Facebook. If you share the same interest, tell them you wanted to try out too, and ask if they know when try-outs or practices are. Sports and extra-curricular activities are a great way to meet friends with the same hobbies and interests as you.
1-9. You should always try to be nice, insults may make some people laugh, but the one who's getting dissed won't be laughing and will probably won't think you're very friendly.
They might even try to get back at you so play it safe and if someone is bothering don't avoid it but just tell them how you feel. It shows that you have guts, and people with respect you for that.
1-10. Popular girls can have the personality trait of anywhere between a kindhearted angel to a diva.
Either way, befriend one of the friendly popular girls and dress your best. That'll be your ticket in to the popular group!
1-11. Customize your uniform.
Tie a hair-tie to the back of your shirt to tighten it.
Tips
Bring mints or gum in your backpack or purse for after lunch to avoid nasty breath! Bringing mints and gum is also a great way to make friends. It can be an easy conversation starter!
Look into joining sports teams, clubs, and helping with anything school-spirit related. Popular girls are generally in Spirit Club, leadership, journalism, etc.
Be friendly and kind but do not act arrogant, first impressions stick. If you are good at soccer but your friend hates it just do it. You could make new friends.
Warnings
Don't wear concealer that doesn't match your skin tone, if it doesn't match it won't look very good on you.
Don't wear anything way out there on the first day of school. Use the first day to observe what others wear.
Don't try to be too cool. People will think that you're a snobby poser desperate to be popular and it will be harder to make friends.
Don't go overboard! Keep in mind that you are perfect the way you are and being popular isn't meant for everyone.
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White vans are great as well, even though many people have them. You might be allowed to wear high heels. If you can, don't wear really tall ones and only wear heels in high school, otherwise you're just going to look weird. If you can, wear Toms. They are for a good cause, make you seem nice and giving, and are super cute. Also, Sperrys are cute too. You might think they're just for preppies but they're not. If your school allows it, get the ones with your favorite colors and patterns on the side. Also, try to wear colors that match your uniform. For example, if you wear a navy and green plaid skirt, wear navy or green shoes.\\nMake up: Do not go overboard on the make up; natural make up looks casual and pretty! Just make sure it looks natural and enhance your natural beauty. A bit of concealer, face powder, light blush or bronzer, thin eyeliner on top eyelash line, mascara and a very light lipstick - if you apply these things lightly, it will make your face look really pretty and not fake or caked on. Less is more.\\n1-2. Own the attitude.\\nAttitude is one thing that can make or break you. If you act too confident, people may see you as being full of yourself or stuck up. If you aren't confident enough, people will think you're shy and won't approach you. Just smile, have good posture (back straight, shoulders back, head up, don't slouch), and look people in the eye.\\n1-3. Make conversation.\\nIn many wikiHow articles, people suggest making small talk and using ice-breakers like \\\"It looks like it is going to rain\\\" or \\\"What class do you have next?\\\" Don't do that! Your conversations will run dry in seconds if you start with a topic like that. Turn to a group of girls and ask, \\\"Does anyone have Honors English 1 next hour?\\\". That way, you will give off a confident impression and also find someone to sit next to in the first hour! Talk to the girl that's going to be in your class and ask her what things she likes. Girls come from all over to go to private schools, so if you haven't heard of that thing before, ask her what that is. This will lead to a longer conversation, and maybe even a friendship!\\n1-4. During your first class, don't be afraid to raise your hand if you know an answer and ask questions if you need to.\\nThis will show your teachers that you are eager to learn and want to do your assignments correctly. And if someone asks to borrow a pencil or a piece of paper, don't be objective, lend it to them! It's better to be known as friendly, kind, and sharing than stingy and selfish!\\n1-5. During lunch, sit near the girl that you met with the advice from Step 3, and even invite other girls you met in class or near your locker to sit with you.\\nEventually you will have a full table and lots of girls to talk to and it will appear to others that you are very friendly and easy to talk to since you are sitting with so many people.\\n1-6. Try to form new bonds and friendships.\\nWhen you get to know someone new well enough and/or think you're \\\"hitting it off,\\\" ask if you can keep in touch via texting or social media. Also ask to hang out outside of school.\\n1-7. Do your homework.\\nMake sure you're prepared for class the next day. This will give your teachers a better impression of you and help you learn more effectively.\\n1-8. Ask one of your new friends if they are trying out for a sport!\\nDo this on the second day or on Facebook. If you share the same interest, tell them you wanted to try out too, and ask if they know when try-outs or practices are. Sports and extra-curricular activities are a great way to meet friends with the same hobbies and interests as you.\\n1-9. You should always try to be nice, insults may make some people laugh, but the one who's getting dissed won't be laughing and will probably won't think you're very friendly.\\nThey might even try to get back at you so play it safe and if someone is bothering don't avoid it but just tell them how you feel. It shows that you have guts, and people with respect you for that.\\n1-10. Popular girls can have the personality trait of anywhere between a kindhearted angel to a diva.\\nEither way, befriend one of the friendly popular girls and dress your best. That'll be your ticket in to the popular group!\\n1-11. Customize your uniform.\\nTie a hair-tie to the back of your shirt to tighten it.\\nTips\\nBring mints or gum in your backpack or purse for after lunch to avoid nasty breath! Bringing mints and gum is also a great way to make friends. It can be an easy conversation starter!\\nLook into joining sports teams, clubs, and helping with anything school-spirit related. Popular girls are generally in Spirit Club, leadership, journalism, etc.\\nBe friendly and kind but do not act arrogant, first impressions stick. If you are good at soccer but your friend hates it just do it. You could make new friends.\\nWarnings\\nDon't wear concealer that doesn't match your skin tone, if it doesn't match it won't look very good on you.\\nDon't wear anything way out there on the first day of school. Use the first day to observe what others wear.\\nDon't try to be too cool. People will think that you're a snobby poser desperate to be popular and it will be harder to make friends.\\nDon't go overboard! Keep in mind that you are perfect the way you are and being popular isn't meant for everyone.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're about to switch from public to a private school, these tips can help you feel confident and blend in on your first day. Appearance is important because first impressions can stick with you for a long time. So, try some of these ideas to help you look your best and be your best!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the accessories right and make sure you're up-to-date on all the latest fashion trends, movies, music, and celebrity gossip!\", \"描述\": \"Hair: Many girls wear their hair in a messy bun with one of those skinny headbands. If your hair is short or layered, and pieces fall out when you make a ponytail, use colored barrettes instead of a headband (they're cute, and give you that nice,unique look).\\nNails: If nail polish is allowed, don't be afraid to use different colors like neons or sparkly polishes. Little details like your nails can show people your personality so be creative! If you just want a clean-cut, pretty look, you can try french tips (on your own if they're long enough or fake nails) or clear polish.\\nShoes: In private schools, there are usually rules about shoes. Usually, they have to be dress shoes and/or be a certain color. If there are no rules about shoes, wear cute ones like uggs. Ballet flats are always cute. White vans are great as well, even though many people have them. You might be allowed to wear high heels. If you can, don't wear really tall ones and only wear heels in high school, otherwise you're just going to look weird. If you can, wear Toms. They are for a good cause, make you seem nice and giving, and are super cute. Also, Sperrys are cute too. You might think they're just for preppies but they're not. If your school allows it, get the ones with your favorite colors and patterns on the side. Also, try to wear colors that match your uniform. For example, if you wear a navy and green plaid skirt, wear navy or green shoes.\\nMake up: Do not go overboard on the make up; natural make up looks casual and pretty! Just make sure it looks natural and enhance your natural beauty. A bit of concealer, face powder, light blush or bronzer, thin eyeliner on top eyelash line, mascara and a very light lipstick - if you apply these things lightly, it will make your face look really pretty and not fake or caked on. Less is more.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Own the attitude.\", \"描述\": \"Attitude is one thing that can make or break you. If you act too confident, people may see you as being full of yourself or stuck up. If you aren't confident enough, people will think you're shy and won't approach you. Just smile, have good posture (back straight, shoulders back, head up, don't slouch), and look people in the eye.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make conversation.\", \"描述\": \"In many wikiHow articles, people suggest making small talk and using ice-breakers like \\\"It looks like it is going to rain\\\" or \\\"What class do you have next?\\\" Don't do that! Your conversations will run dry in seconds if you start with a topic like that. Turn to a group of girls and ask, \\\"Does anyone have Honors English 1 next hour?\\\". That way, you will give off a confident impression and also find someone to sit next to in the first hour! Talk to the girl that's going to be in your class and ask her what things she likes. Girls come from all over to go to private schools, so if you haven't heard of that thing before, ask her what that is. This will lead to a longer conversation, and maybe even a friendship!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"During your first class, don't be afraid to raise your hand if you know an answer and ask questions if you need to.\", \"描述\": \"This will show your teachers that you are eager to learn and want to do your assignments correctly. And if someone asks to borrow a pencil or a piece of paper, don't be objective, lend it to them! It's better to be known as friendly, kind, and sharing than stingy and selfish!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"During lunch, sit near the girl that you met with the advice from Step 3, and even invite other girls you met in class or near your locker to sit with you.\", \"描述\": \"Eventually you will have a full table and lots of girls to talk to and it will appear to others that you are very friendly and easy to talk to since you are sitting with so many people.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try to form new bonds and friendships.\", \"描述\": \"When you get to know someone new well enough and/or think you're \\\"hitting it off,\\\" ask if you can keep in touch via texting or social media. Also ask to hang out outside of school.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Do your homework.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you're prepared for class the next day. This will give your teachers a better impression of you and help you learn more effectively.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Ask one of your new friends if they are trying out for a sport!\", \"描述\": \"Do this on the second day or on Facebook. If you share the same interest, tell them you wanted to try out too, and ask if they know when try-outs or practices are. Sports and extra-curricular activities are a great way to meet friends with the same hobbies and interests as you.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"You should always try to be nice, insults may make some people laugh, but the one who's getting dissed won't be laughing and will probably won't think you're very friendly.\", \"描述\": \"They might even try to get back at you so play it safe and if someone is bothering don't avoid it but just tell them how you feel. It shows that you have guts, and people with respect you for that.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Popular girls can have the personality trait of anywhere between a kindhearted angel to a diva.\", \"描述\": \"Either way, befriend one of the friendly popular girls and dress your best. That'll be your ticket in to the popular group!\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Customize your uniform.\", \"描述\": \"Tie a hair-tie to the back of your shirt to tighten it.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Bring mints or gum in your backpack or purse for after lunch to avoid nasty breath! Bringing mints and gum is also a great way to make friends. It can be an easy conversation starter!\\n\", \"Look into joining sports teams, clubs, and helping with anything school-spirit related. Popular girls are generally in Spirit Club, leadership, journalism, etc.\\n\", \"Be friendly and kind but do not act arrogant, first impressions stick. If you are good at soccer but your friend hates it just do it. You could make new friends.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't wear concealer that doesn't match your skin tone, if it doesn't match it won't look very good on you.\\n\", \"Don't wear anything way out there on the first day of school. Use the first day to observe what others wear.\\n\", \"Don't try to be too cool. People will think that you're a snobby poser desperate to be popular and it will be harder to make friends.\\n\", \"Don't go overboard! Keep in mind that you are perfect the way you are and being popular isn't meant for everyone.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Do a self evaluation.
Write down the things you like about yourself, the things you would like to change, and the things that you don't like about yourself but can't change.
Know what you like about yourself, and don't forget it. The road to popularity can sometimes be hard. In order to keep yourself happy you need to remember these things.
The things you don't like about yourself, change them. If you don't like that you are fat, then lose some weight, but only do it if you want to. Not all popular people have rock hard bodies.
The most important things of all are the things you don't like about yourself that you can't change. If you realize that there are things about yourself that you can't change, and you're okay with that, it will boost your self esteem and overall make you a better person that people will want to be around and feed off that energy.
1-2. Work out.
If you look physically strong, girls will be attracted to you and you'll look a bit intimidating.
1-3. Stay clean.
Shower every day, brush your teeth, and wash your face to help prevent acne. Consult a dermatologist if you have serious acne problems.
1-4. Walk with pride.
Don't slouch, but know how to relax when it's appropriate. Look people in the eye when you speak to them, and show off your pearly whites when you smile; it's a lot more attractive than looking somber and emo. Self-confidence is really important, because that is the thing that sets your body posture. A lot of people who don't have much self-confidence usually slouch.
1-5. Talk to people.
Interest yourself in what others do, and who they are. They will then pay you this same respect. Try not to talk about yourself all the time and obsess over your special interests. People like someone listening to them.
1-6. Become part of a group.
Start slow and work your way up. Know the group you want to hang out with. If you want to be in a "popular" group, figure out who that group is. Study the group, and decide if it's what you really want.
Pick one person from the clique/group you want to join, preferably someone you see a lot (i.e. having classes with them, do after school sports with, or live close to). Start talking to to this person, learn more about him, and he will slowly start to become your friend. Don't throw yourself at this person or they will be weirded out. As you become more of a friend to this person, you will learn more about the group, and how the people act. As you work your way through time, he will introduce you to some of his friends, and soon, you may just become part of the group.
1-7. Consider what you're wearing.
It's not really true that the clothes make the man, but looking nice can't hurt. Take a look at current trends, but wear what makes you feel good and confident.
1-8. Laugh at others' jokes.
As time goes on, you will feel comfortable enough to be funny, and others will laugh at your jokes.
1-9. Make money.
While money can't buy you popularity, it can be useful. Want to buy an iPod? Buy it with your own money to make it look good.
1-10. Get involved in a sport or extracurricular activity, such as soccer, basketball or baseball.
This is apparently the most important step because it will definitely help you to meet people with the same interests as yours.
1-11. Know what works best for you.
While some guys might look good with slightly longer hair with highlights, some look better with spikes. Having a friend who's a girl (or a girlfriend) is very helpful in this case. Most of the time people say do what feels right for yourself, but if you want to be popular you have to start listening to other people's ideas. Just don't go too far.
1-12. Act positively and don't go trying to impress people.
Be comfortable in your own skin. Even though you might not seem to be a positive guy, act like one. Don't gossip about things, don't participate in an inappropriate activity, and try to stay normal. The reason why most guys try to impress people and end up pissed off is because people would think that this dude is acting like a maniac. It's okay to start a joke or prank once in a while, but don't try it too many times. People will think you are hyper and weird. They'll also think that you are some insane and tacky person.
Tips
Don't be childish around girls. It's the biggest turn off. You can sometimes swear but not too much around girls and don't constantly talk about sex!
Talk to popular people as much as you can but watch for how they're like. Try to fit in. When you get popular friends, it will eventually lead to a better rep.
Most of all, don't be a consumer addict. If you need to buy iPods to impress your friends, get new friends.
Warnings
Do not make your problems public. Talk them out with a few good or close friends.
Always think before you speak.
Do not make a lot of enemies.
Being associated with a lot of people may get you involved in things you may not want to be involved in.
Do not suck up too much! Because then people will think you have an ulterior motive.
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Work out.\\nIf you look physically strong, girls will be attracted to you and you'll look a bit intimidating.\\n1-3. Stay clean.\\nShower every day, brush your teeth, and wash your face to help prevent acne. Consult a dermatologist if you have serious acne problems.\\n1-4. Walk with pride.\\nDon't slouch, but know how to relax when it's appropriate. Look people in the eye when you speak to them, and show off your pearly whites when you smile; it's a lot more attractive than looking somber and emo. Self-confidence is really important, because that is the thing that sets your body posture. A lot of people who don't have much self-confidence usually slouch.\\n1-5. Talk to people.\\nInterest yourself in what others do, and who they are. They will then pay you this same respect. Try not to talk about yourself all the time and obsess over your special interests. People like someone listening to them.\\n1-6. Become part of a group.\\nStart slow and work your way up. Know the group you want to hang out with. If you want to be in a \\\"popular\\\" group, figure out who that group is. Study the group, and decide if it's what you really want.\\nPick one person from the clique/group you want to join, preferably someone you see a lot (i.e. having classes with them, do after school sports with, or live close to). Start talking to to this person, learn more about him, and he will slowly start to become your friend. Don't throw yourself at this person or they will be weirded out. As you become more of a friend to this person, you will learn more about the group, and how the people act. As you work your way through time, he will introduce you to some of his friends, and soon, you may just become part of the group.\\n1-7. Consider what you're wearing.\\nIt's not really true that the clothes make the man, but looking nice can't hurt. Take a look at current trends, but wear what makes you feel good and confident.\\n1-8. Laugh at others' jokes.\\nAs time goes on, you will feel comfortable enough to be funny, and others will laugh at your jokes.\\n1-9. Make money.\\nWhile money can't buy you popularity, it can be useful. Want to buy an iPod? Buy it with your own money to make it look good.\\n1-10. Get involved in a sport or extracurricular activity, such as soccer, basketball or baseball.\\nThis is apparently the most important step because it will definitely help you to meet people with the same interests as yours.\\n1-11. Know what works best for you.\\nWhile some guys might look good with slightly longer hair with highlights, some look better with spikes. Having a friend who's a girl (or a girlfriend) is very helpful in this case. Most of the time people say do what feels right for yourself, but if you want to be popular you have to start listening to other people's ideas. Just don't go too far.\\n1-12. Act positively and don't go trying to impress people.\\nBe comfortable in your own skin. Even though you might not seem to be a positive guy, act like one. Don't gossip about things, don't participate in an inappropriate activity, and try to stay normal. The reason why most guys try to impress people and end up pissed off is because people would think that this dude is acting like a maniac. It's okay to start a joke or prank once in a while, but don't try it too many times. People will think you are hyper and weird. They'll also think that you are some insane and tacky person.\\nTips\\nDon't be childish around girls. It's the biggest turn off. You can sometimes swear but not too much around girls and don't constantly talk about sex!\\nTalk to popular people as much as you can but watch for how they're like. Try to fit in. When you get popular friends, it will eventually lead to a better rep.\\nMost of all, don't be a consumer addict. If you need to buy iPods to impress your friends, get new friends.\\nWarnings\\nDo not make your problems public. Talk them out with a few good or close friends.\\nAlways think before you speak.\\nDo not make a lot of enemies.\\nBeing associated with a lot of people may get you involved in things you may not want to be involved in.\\nDo not suck up too much! Because then people will think you have an ulterior motive.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Popularity for guys and for girls are two different things. Guys have it different than girls because of the different ways the two sexes look at things.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do a self evaluation.\", \"描述\": \"Write down the things you like about yourself, the things you would like to change, and the things that you don't like about yourself but can't change.\\nKnow what you like about yourself, and don't forget it. The road to popularity can sometimes be hard. In order to keep yourself happy you need to remember these things.\\nThe things you don't like about yourself, change them. If you don't like that you are fat, then lose some weight, but only do it if you want to. Not all popular people have rock hard bodies.\\nThe most important things of all are the things you don't like about yourself that you can't change. If you realize that there are things about yourself that you can't change, and you're okay with that, it will boost your self esteem and overall make you a better person that people will want to be around and feed off that energy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work out.\", \"描述\": \"If you look physically strong, girls will be attracted to you and you'll look a bit intimidating.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stay clean.\", \"描述\": \"Shower every day, brush your teeth, and wash your face to help prevent acne. Consult a dermatologist if you have serious acne problems.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Walk with pride.\", \"描述\": \"Don't slouch, but know how to relax when it's appropriate. 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How to Be a Popular Preppy Girl
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1. Presenting Yourself
1-1. Wear preppy clothes.
One important thing about looking preppy is the look. Wear the latest styles, but try to add your own twist. Here are some basic suggestions:
Shirts: Wear good quality shirts, in preppy colors. You can also wear brightly colored shirts, but try to team these with a pastel.
Pants: Own about two pairs of dark wash skinny jeans and jean shorts (depending on the weather). Have at least one pair of khakis and a few patterned pants in stripes, plaid, etc.
Shoes: Own a pair of brown riding style boots, Toms, Uggs, loafers, topsiders, canvas shoes, flats, or fuzzy boots - any of these shoes will be great. Have one pair of good quality tennis shoes too.
1-2. Accessorize.
Accessories are the fun part and they can be very stylish. Try pearl earrings in your ears, which can look quite preppy. Always carry around a purse with you. Wear a watch, colorful or showy––a FitBit wouldn't go astray these days. Have a classy piece of jewelry other than the pearls, such as a charm bracelet or necklace. Some preppy charms for a charm bracelet are a tiara and a tennis racket. Get studs, a silver necklace, and small hoop earrings.
Don't forget the hair. Have pretty hair bows in pink, green, and/or navy blue, use these to tie your hair up in a high ponytail or pigtails. It is also cool to get bows in your school/team colors.
1-3. Have well cared for hair.
Shampoo and conditioner every day, and blow dry after, if that is your thing. Do a high ponytail with an adorable hair bow added to it. You can also put your hair in a bun, put it in pigtails, or in a French braid. The perfect haircut has long layers, side bangs, and is straight. Wear your hair in curls on special occasions.
1-4. Keep the makeup very light.
Some sheer gloss is really all you need. If you have bad skin, use facial cleaning products. Don't cake on the foundation but do apply mascara and blush. A thin line of eyeliner looks classy.
2. Fine Tuning Your Popularity Style
2-1. Have confidence and assume power.
To be a popular girl, you can't be overwhelmed with all the girls asking you questions. You must be able to to answer quickly and snappily, clearly and well. Give off an aura of being in control and always sound like an authority on the relevant subject.
2-2. Have a preppy personality.
Be classy, pleasant and smile frequently. Have a bubbly, peppy and outgoing persona. Avoid using words that everyone else overuses––have an excellent grasp of the finer words in the English language.
2-3. Get involved and find a hobby.
You have to have at least one preppy activity. Choose from horseback riding, polo, tennis, squash, track and field or lacrosse. You can also do ballet, jazz, lyrical, tap, cheerleading, basketball, softball, soccer, or volleyball. As long as you do one preppy activity, you can do one non preppy activity.
Join lots of school clubs.
Run for school president or for other officers.
2-4. Care about your studies.
Get good grades and make good choices. Try to get A's, or a B+ average at the least. The studies come before any extracurriculars.
Speak a language. Consider taking French at school and learning Italian, German, or Spanish in your free time. Learning any other language is good too. Latin helps as well. Take Chinese and ace it.
2-5. Stay in good condition.
Exercise daily. Preppy girls are never unfit. Eat healthily. Drink herbal tea and have plenty of water.
2-6. Have a fun room to take friends home to.
Decorate the room as you'd like it to be but ensure that it is up-to-date and hip, as well as a cool place to hang out in.
Tips
Be athletic and sporty. If you want to be popular, join in several sports.
If you have braces, pink and green are good preppy colors. Light blue or pale pink can also work.
Make sure to take great care of your teeth.
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Have a classy piece of jewelry other than the pearls, such as a charm bracelet or necklace. Some preppy charms for a charm bracelet are a tiara and a tennis racket. Get studs, a silver necklace, and small hoop earrings.\\nDon't forget the hair. Have pretty hair bows in pink, green, and/or navy blue, use these to tie your hair up in a high ponytail or pigtails. It is also cool to get bows in your school/team colors.\\n1-3. Have well cared for hair.\\nShampoo and conditioner every day, and blow dry after, if that is your thing. Do a high ponytail with an adorable hair bow added to it. You can also put your hair in a bun, put it in pigtails, or in a French braid. The perfect haircut has long layers, side bangs, and is straight. Wear your hair in curls on special occasions.\\n1-4. Keep the makeup very light.\\nSome sheer gloss is really all you need. If you have bad skin, use facial cleaning products. Don't cake on the foundation but do apply mascara and blush. A thin line of eyeliner looks classy.\\n2. Fine Tuning Your Popularity Style\\n2-1. Have confidence and assume power.\\nTo be a popular girl, you can't be overwhelmed with all the girls asking you questions. You must be able to to answer quickly and snappily, clearly and well. Give off an aura of being in control and always sound like an authority on the relevant subject.\\n2-2. Have a preppy personality.\\nBe classy, pleasant and smile frequently. Have a bubbly, peppy and outgoing persona. Avoid using words that everyone else overuses––have an excellent grasp of the finer words in the English language.\\n2-3. Get involved and find a hobby.\\nYou have to have at least one preppy activity. Choose from horseback riding, polo, tennis, squash, track and field or lacrosse. You can also do ballet, jazz, lyrical, tap, cheerleading, basketball, softball, soccer, or volleyball. As long as you do one preppy activity, you can do one non preppy activity.\\nJoin lots of school clubs.\\nRun for school president or for other officers.\\n2-4. Care about your studies.\\nGet good grades and make good choices. Try to get A's, or a B+ average at the least. The studies come before any extracurriculars.\\nSpeak a language. Consider taking French at school and learning Italian, German, or Spanish in your free time. Learning any other language is good too. Latin helps as well. Take Chinese and ace it.\\n2-5. Stay in good condition.\\nExercise daily. Preppy girls are never unfit. Eat healthily. Drink herbal tea and have plenty of water.\\n2-6. Have a fun room to take friends home to.\\nDecorate the room as you'd like it to be but ensure that it is up-to-date and hip, as well as a cool place to hang out in.\\nTips\\nBe athletic and sporty. If you want to be popular, join in several sports.\\nIf you have braces, pink and green are good preppy colors. Light blue or pale pink can also work.\\nMake sure to take great care of your teeth.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Popularity is a rare but admired thing to possess. You want to be like the popular, preppy girls but it's a fickle thing to achieve. To get there takes effort and good moves, and some of those moves are explained here. Just realize that results may vary, depending on who you are, where you are and how you perceive popularity.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Presenting Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear preppy clothes.\", \"描述\": \"One important thing about looking preppy is the look. Wear the latest styles, but try to add your own twist. Here are some basic suggestions:\\nShirts: Wear good quality shirts, in preppy colors. You can also wear brightly colored shirts, but try to team these with a pastel.\\nPants: Own about two pairs of dark wash skinny jeans and jean shorts (depending on the weather). 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You must be able to to answer quickly and snappily, clearly and well. Give off an aura of being in control and always sound like an authority on the relevant subject.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have a preppy personality.\", \"描述\": \"Be classy, pleasant and smile frequently. Have a bubbly, peppy and outgoing persona. Avoid using words that everyone else overuses––have an excellent grasp of the finer words in the English language.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get involved and find a hobby.\", \"描述\": \"You have to have at least one preppy activity. Choose from horseback riding, polo, tennis, squash, track and field or lacrosse. You can also do ballet, jazz, lyrical, tap, cheerleading, basketball, softball, soccer, or volleyball. As long as you do one preppy activity, you can do one non preppy activity.\\nJoin lots of school clubs.\\nRun for school president or for other officers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Care about your studies.\", \"描述\": \"Get good grades and make good choices. Try to get A's, or a B+ average at the least. The studies come before any extracurriculars.\\nSpeak a language. Consider taking French at school and learning Italian, German, or Spanish in your free time. Learning any other language is good too. Latin helps as well. Take Chinese and ace it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay in good condition.\", \"描述\": \"Exercise daily. Preppy girls are never unfit. Eat healthily. Drink herbal tea and have plenty of water.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Have a fun room to take friends home to.\", \"描述\": \"Decorate the room as you'd like it to be but ensure that it is up-to-date and hip, as well as a cool place to hang out in.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be athletic and sporty. If you want to be popular, join in several sports.\\n\", \"If you have braces, pink and green are good preppy colors. Light blue or pale pink can also work.\\n\", \"Make sure to take great care of your teeth.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
Be yourself.
Never feel obligated to make yourself look different because all the 'cool' people are saying to do it. Be yourself, that's what people like.
Think about what kind of person and student you would like others to see you as when you're at school? Would you be happy looking at that person from the outside? By thinking through how you come across to others in this way, it can help you to be your most authentic, true self.
2. Clothing
Be stylish.
You don't have to have the newest designer bag to be considered popular, being considered popular does not mean having all the newest clothes and accessories. But many people (sadly) do judge by looks, so to keep up with your age of style is your best option. Knowing you are only 11 to 12 (maybe 13) years of age, don't dress in a "sexy" outfit. Also, avoid graphic tees with hello kitty on them and other cartoon shows. Wear running style shorts and a tee shirt of your liking.
Ripped/laddered jeans are popular. Shorts can be popular, in cute styles with lace, and wear belts with them.
3. Hair
Choose an appropriate hairstyle.
Long hair is popular, usually worn in ponytails. Some ways of wearing hair include:
If you have long hair, try doing this: Comb it with a hairbrush, spray it with light detangler, put a headband in, gather your hair and put it into a ponytail with a cheerleading bow.
If you have short hair: Put a headband in, and a hair bow in the side.
If you have medium hair: Put it in a little ponytail with light hairspray.
4. Makeup
Wear minimal makeup.
Wearing a lot of makeup is bad for your skin at such a young age, it will clog your pores and increase acne breakouts. The only 'beauty' things you need to be doing are:
Washing your face (with any face wash, because you are still young a gentle face wash is best).
Brushing your teeth; you are now old enough to throw out the old fluoride-free toothpaste and go out to get some toothpaste with fluoride.
Moisturize your face (your face is beautiful as it is!) Keep your skin moisturized to help avoid dry skin and peeling skin.
5. Interacting with people
5-1. Link arms with a few other popular girls, and walk down the hall, giggling and laughing.
It's a sign of friendship, and people will probably talk to you more because they now know you're really friendly.
Only link arms with boys if they're your boyfriend, and make it look cute, like your head comfortably nestled into his shoulder. You'll be the "toast" of the school, especially if he's the most popular boy in school!
5-2. Don't bully anybody!
In movies, they may do it to "climb" the social ladder; in real life, it's the opposite. It will give you a bad reputation and your friends will not tend to be too happy to see you bullying others.
5-3. Get involved in activities.
Consider such activities as cheerleading, dancing, singing, gymnastics, etc. Don't change anything you already love doing!
Join a club that does things you really enjoy doing. Your enthusiasm for the activity will help you to want to share the joys of doing it with others, attracting them to both you and the activity. If there isn't a club focused on what you like doing, then consider starting one, as that will surely get you noticed!
Tips
Remember to be positive about mostly everything.
Take it slowly. You have plenty of time!
Don't try too hard to be so popular that you fall behind on your school work. Popular girls need good grades too.
Warnings
Do not become obsessed with what other people think about you. Doing so will lower your self-confidence. Despite what you think, not every single person in the world goes to school just to judge you and your clothes.
Do not focus too much on your outward appearance, but rather on being outgoing, making true friends, and doing well in school. You're there to learn, too, so don't obsess too much over how you look.
Just be yourself! If you answered "No way! Why would I do that?" to any of these instructions, just remember: you want to be popular, right? But don't push yourself into following all of this! You don't have to be super popular!
There are bullies out there. Popular people can be pushy. This is why you should take things slowly - try talking to the head girl after you've obviously established her respect.
Nobody likes a tattletale. Don't be one, it is just rude and no one would like to be your friend.
Don't think skipping classes or getting bad grades is cool. It's good to get teachers to like you, too. Remember, if you're on the road to popularity, people are going to look up to you. Don't make their role model a rule-breaking, nasty girl who cares about nothing!
Do not throw yourself at boys. Never throw yourself at boys just to be famous.
Don't be mean to others. Even if they are mean to you, just ignore them; they will be the ones who end up getting in trouble. Besides, when you grow up you won't know half of them.
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Wear running style shorts and a tee shirt of your liking.\\nRipped/laddered jeans are popular. Shorts can be popular, in cute styles with lace, and wear belts with them.\\n3. Hair\\nChoose an appropriate hairstyle.\\nLong hair is popular, usually worn in ponytails. Some ways of wearing hair include:\\nIf you have long hair, try doing this: Comb it with a hairbrush, spray it with light detangler, put a headband in, gather your hair and put it into a ponytail with a cheerleading bow.\\nIf you have short hair: Put a headband in, and a hair bow in the side.\\nIf you have medium hair: Put it in a little ponytail with light hairspray.\\n4. Makeup\\nWear minimal makeup.\\nWearing a lot of makeup is bad for your skin at such a young age, it will clog your pores and increase acne breakouts. The only 'beauty' things you need to be doing are:\\nWashing your face (with any face wash, because you are still young a gentle face wash is best).\\nBrushing your teeth; you are now old enough to throw out the old fluoride-free toothpaste and go out to get some toothpaste with fluoride.\\nMoisturize your face (your face is beautiful as it is!) Keep your skin moisturized to help avoid dry skin and peeling skin.\\n5. Interacting with people\\n5-1. Link arms with a few other popular girls, and walk down the hall, giggling and laughing.\\nIt's a sign of friendship, and people will probably talk to you more because they now know you're really friendly.\\nOnly link arms with boys if they're your boyfriend, and make it look cute, like your head comfortably nestled into his shoulder. You'll be the \\\"toast\\\" of the school, especially if he's the most popular boy in school!\\n5-2. Don't bully anybody!\\nIn movies, they may do it to \\\"climb\\\" the social ladder; in real life, it's the opposite. It will give you a bad reputation and your friends will not tend to be too happy to see you bullying others.\\n5-3. Get involved in activities.\\nConsider such activities as cheerleading, dancing, singing, gymnastics, etc. Don't change anything you already love doing!\\nJoin a club that does things you really enjoy doing. Your enthusiasm for the activity will help you to want to share the joys of doing it with others, attracting them to both you and the activity. If there isn't a club focused on what you like doing, then consider starting one, as that will surely get you noticed!\\nTips\\nRemember to be positive about mostly everything.\\nTake it slowly. You have plenty of time!\\nDon't try too hard to be so popular that you fall behind on your school work. Popular girls need good grades too.\\nWarnings\\nDo not become obsessed with what other people think about you. Doing so will lower your self-confidence. Despite what you think, not every single person in the world goes to school just to judge you and your clothes.\\nDo not focus too much on your outward appearance, but rather on being outgoing, making true friends, and doing well in school. You're there to learn, too, so don't obsess too much over how you look.\\nJust be yourself! If you answered \\\"No way! Why would I do that?\\\" to any of these instructions, just remember: you want to be popular, right? But don't push yourself into following all of this! You don't have to be super popular!\\nThere are bullies out there. Popular people can be pushy. This is why you should take things slowly - try talking to the head girl after you've obviously established her respect.\\nNobody likes a tattletale. Don't be one, it is just rude and no one would like to be your friend.\\nDon't think skipping classes or getting bad grades is cool. It's good to get teachers to like you, too. Remember, if you're on the road to popularity, people are going to look up to you. Don't make their role model a rule-breaking, nasty girl who cares about nothing!\\nDo not throw yourself at boys. Never throw yourself at boys just to be famous.\\nDon't be mean to others. Even if they are mean to you, just ignore them; they will be the ones who end up getting in trouble. Besides, when you grow up you won't know half of them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Okay, so you are popular, and you want to gain even more power, or you are not so popular, and you want to become popular, right? Try the following suggestions to help increase your chances of middle school popularity.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Never feel obligated to make yourself look different because all the 'cool' people are saying to do it. 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The only 'beauty' things you need to be doing are:\\nWashing your face (with any face wash, because you are still young a gentle face wash is best).\\nBrushing your teeth; you are now old enough to throw out the old fluoride-free toothpaste and go out to get some toothpaste with fluoride.\\nMoisturize your face (your face is beautiful as it is!) Keep your skin moisturized to help avoid dry skin and peeling skin.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Interacting with people\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Link arms with a few other popular girls, and walk down the hall, giggling and laughing.\", \"描述\": \"It's a sign of friendship, and people will probably talk to you more because they now know you're really friendly.\\nOnly link arms with boys if they're your boyfriend, and make it look cute, like your head comfortably nestled into his shoulder. 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How to Be a Popular Teacher
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1. Steps
1-1. Have a unique character.
This normally only works if you're new, but if you stick to a certain personality that may be mean/angry etc. You will gain respect for it, as long as you're not unjust or act like you're better than your students.
1-2. Ask for a class opinion.
Have a discussion with your class about what could make class more interesting, and what would help them. Remember that while you are in charge, everything you do is to try to teach them; so if they complain about something as a group, it's worth looking into. The same things normally come up like listening to music, participation, and eating in class. Listen to their suggestions and compromise.
1-3. Be flexible.
Listen to your students! You'll be amazed how much they'll respect you when you do. But don't let the kids rule you, and be careful not to rule them. Remember that, though they are younger, you are all equals. Of course they'll want to take advantage of these fun things, but you still want to maintain control. Do not be overly strict; don't tell them that you'll hold them in after the bell, because it's not only your time, but their time. Remember that your class is most likely not the most important thing to them, and don't act as such. They have busy lives, just like you.
1-4. Make the work you give to students fun.
Any subject can be interesting if done through a game or puzzles. Never waste the students' time by giving busy work. Make sure that your assignment is actually going to teach them something or help them apply class principles in real life. Busy work is a hassle for everyone. Moreover, they will see it it as pointless for you teach something not relevant to the subject you are teaching. No matter what you teach, but especially for math, make sure that you give examples for every type of problem you expect your students to complete.
1-5. Stay in fashion
While still dressing appropriately for your age and maintaining decorum, keep in touch with fashion to help the students relate to you more. Discussing what's new in trends with your students will give you a better feel for where they're coming from as well.
1-6. Keep in mind that your students cannot remember everything.
Make sure to remind them about things when necessary.
1-7. Know how to console your students.
Be someone who can give advice on solving the students' dilemma. Give respect, and never humiliate a student in front of the class unless the context is a very clear joke. Remember, humiliation offends far more people than just the student in question. Don't draw sticks or cards with student's names on them - this serves no purpose other than to humiliate them. Teach the material, and if they know, they will raise their hands. If they don't, it's your job to show them, so you should just tell them the answers on the sheet or work.
1-8. Show your passion!
Stay interested and involved with your work, remember why you became a teacher in the beginning. Your love of a subject and excitement for it can influence your pupils greatly.
1-9. Earn their respect with discipline.
It will be difficult for them to respect you if you cannot keep a handle on your classroom. Once you have shown them you can handle the group, it will be easier to be relaxed and fun with them. Don't be the 'cool' teacher that lets their students get away with murder!
Tips
If you have a student who has read something that you haven't or has an idea you don't know how to respond to, respect their opinion and appreciate that someone has taken the time to do some extra research. If you don't know how to respond, say things like "I've never heard that before. I will have to do some research." It will actually make the student feel that his opinions are valid.
If you don't know the answer, don't be afraid to say "I don't know." Students often know when the teacher doesn't have a clue and that leads to a dramatic loss of respect. (And then don't take the question as a challenge to your knowledge. Take it as a good question from a good, curious student.)
Grade fairly. Make sure that not all of your assignments are subjective. For those that are, take precautions such as reading the first page with the name last, or having students write their names on the backs of the papers so you don't know who it is before you grade.
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Of course they'll want to take advantage of these fun things, but you still want to maintain control. Do not be overly strict; don't tell them that you'll hold them in after the bell, because it's not only your time, but their time. Remember that your class is most likely not the most important thing to them, and don't act as such. They have busy lives, just like you.\\n1-4. Make the work you give to students fun.\\nAny subject can be interesting if done through a game or puzzles. Never waste the students' time by giving busy work. Make sure that your assignment is actually going to teach them something or help them apply class principles in real life. Busy work is a hassle for everyone. Moreover, they will see it it as pointless for you teach something not relevant to the subject you are teaching. No matter what you teach, but especially for math, make sure that you give examples for every type of problem you expect your students to complete.\\n1-5. Stay in fashion\\nWhile still dressing appropriately for your age and maintaining decorum, keep in touch with fashion to help the students relate to you more. Discussing what's new in trends with your students will give you a better feel for where they're coming from as well.\\n1-6. Keep in mind that your students cannot remember everything.\\nMake sure to remind them about things when necessary.\\n1-7. Know how to console your students.\\nBe someone who can give advice on solving the students' dilemma. Give respect, and never humiliate a student in front of the class unless the context is a very clear joke. Remember, humiliation offends far more people than just the student in question. Don't draw sticks or cards with student's names on them - this serves no purpose other than to humiliate them. Teach the material, and if they know, they will raise their hands. If they don't, it's your job to show them, so you should just tell them the answers on the sheet or work.\\n1-8. Show your passion!\\nStay interested and involved with your work, remember why you became a teacher in the beginning. Your love of a subject and excitement for it can influence your pupils greatly.\\n1-9. Earn their respect with discipline.\\nIt will be difficult for them to respect you if you cannot keep a handle on your classroom. Once you have shown them you can handle the group, it will be easier to be relaxed and fun with them. Don't be the 'cool' teacher that lets their students get away with murder!\\nTips\\nIf you have a student who has read something that you haven't or has an idea you don't know how to respond to, respect their opinion and appreciate that someone has taken the time to do some extra research. If you don't know how to respond, say things like \\\"I've never heard that before. I will have to do some research.\\\" It will actually make the student feel that his opinions are valid.\\nIf you don't know the answer, don't be afraid to say \\\"I don't know.\\\" Students often know when the teacher doesn't have a clue and that leads to a dramatic loss of respect. (And then don't take the question as a challenge to your knowledge. Take it as a good question from a good, curious student.)\\nGrade fairly. Make sure that not all of your assignments are subjective. For those that are, take precautions such as reading the first page with the name last, or having students write their names on the backs of the papers so you don't know who it is before you grade.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Don't you hate it when you get the feeling that your pupils don't like you or have something against you? 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How to Be a Popular Transgender Person in High School
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1. Enjoying Your Time at School
1-1. Straighten your back and smile
Stand tall so everyone sees you're happy to be you. Imagine that you look flawless and carry yourself that way. Any time you find yourself slinking back to unconfident body language in the halls, remind yourself how fabulously attractive you are, and go back to your awesome walk.
It's okay if you don't feel fabulously attractive. Keep telling yourself you are and keep pretending you are. Eventually, you'll believe it. You can shine.
1-2. Cultivate confidence
There's a good chance you've learned to be resourceful and quick in order to protect yourself from insults you may have heard. Use that quick and agile thinking to put forth a calm, confident appearance. Use your humor to help defuse tense situations, and you'll draw people in.
Others are drawn to confident, funny people. For instance, you might notice that the most attractive people tend to choose partners who are funny and kind rather than worrying about looks.
1-3. Look for new friends.
Be friendly and compassionate to others and practice random acts of kindness. View each person as a potential new friend, and react to them in the most positive way. Usually, when you treat people well, they will also treat you well.
1-4. Recognize that not everyone will be your friend, and that's okay.
Your personality won't "click" with everyone. This is natural and not a bad reflection on you. Don't assume it's because you are transgender.
If you don't wind up with the traditional "in-crowd," that's all right. That clique is hard to crack for most people in their high school years. There is no need to push it. Seek out other interesting and fun people and be popular in your own way.
Some people are legitimate jerks. When you encounter mean or inconsiderate people, try to remember that their behavior is about them, not you. They’re not worth your time, so focus on people who care about you.
1-5. Ask people questions to show you’re interested in getting to know them.
People love to talk about themselves, so ask them questions to keep the conversation flowing about what they like. Listen to them so they know you’re interested in what they have to say. Add your own input to the conversation and ask follow-up questions to keep things going.
After leaving a conversation, try mentally summing it up. You might say, "Wow! It sounds like your new puppy is a lot of work. How long do you have to train it?” This way you are more likely to recall the details later, and the person will be pleased you care.
1-6. Enjoy the good things in your life.
Focus on the upsides, such as the sweet girl you talked to today, your success in Spanish class, or your father's kindness. Reflecting upon the positives can help you stay afloat during the negatives. Try to list a few things you’re grateful for every day so you can remember the good things.
1-7. Get involved in your school to help you meet people and have fun.
Find your interests and search for a group centered around those interests. Join clubs, play sports, volunteer, and attend school events. This will help you meet people who share your talents and passions, and you can make great new friendships. Keep your focus on having fun and enjoying who you are.
Join your school’s LGBTQ+ group. If your school doesn’t have one, ask a teacher to help you start one.
2. Being Closeted
2-1. Don't be mad at yourself for staying in the closet.
Safety, acceptance, and other concerns you have are perfectly valid reasons not to come out. Additionally, you are not obligated to educate anyone about what it’s like to be LGBTQ+. Your health comes first, and if that means not mentioning that you're transgender, that's okay.
2-2. Recognize that others are focused on themselves, not on you.
You may feel like everyone at school is picking you apart, but it’s more likely that you’re the only person who’s closely analyzing you. Most high schoolers are absorbed in their own lives and worried about themselves, which means they aren’t thinking about you so much. Try not to worry about what other people might be thinking.
Even if you don’t quite match up to what you think your gender expectations might be, it’s likely that no one’s going to notice or care.
2-3. Expect for people to keep their thoughts to themselves in most cases.
Even if someone notices something “different” about you, they’re likely not going to say anything. For instance, you might be a girl with a slightly deep voice or a shorter guy, but it’s unlikely anyone is going to point it out or ask you about it. Do your best to not listen to your worries about what people might say.
Some guys tease each other about perceived weakness, a.k.a. femininity, and you may be on the receiving end if you're a trans guy. You can shrug it off as good-natured teasing if you feel comfortable with that.
If someone’s comments bother you, take the teaser aside in private, explain that it bothers you, and ask them to stop. You might say, “Hey, I know you’re just kidding around, but I’m self conscious about my size. It hurts my feelings when you make fun of me, and I’d appreciate it if you stopped.” You might also talk to an adult if you feel nervous confronting the teaser or the teasing continues.
2-4. Practice self care to help you feel your best.
You might feel gnawed at by worries that you don't pass or saddled with dysphoria at needing to pretend to be someone you aren't. This is difficult, and it will be stressful at times. To help you get through the difficult times, take really good care of yourself physically and emotionally.
Eat a healthy diet, exercise, and sleep well.
Incorporate stress relievers into your day to help you stay calm. For instance, you might journal, exercise, or talk to a close friend.
3. Being Out
3-1. Surround yourself with accepting people and open up to them.
Take your time in deciding when to take people into your confidence, and if it makes you more comfortable, choose just one person to divulge your secrets to first. This person can help pave the way to being honest with your whole group and can help be a bridge to understanding between you and them.
3-2. Be prepared for questions but don’t feel pressured to answer them.
Most high schoolers don't know the difference between sex and gender, simply because nobody has taught it to them. They may be a little awkward at first, but that is because this is new to them, not because anything is wrong or bad about you. Expect your friends and loved ones to ask a lot of questions. Give them the best answers you can, but don’t feel like you have to share anything you want kept private.
Educating people can be tiring. It helps to come up with a "script" that you can rattle off anytime and to have a website URL or two that you can encourage people to check out in order to learn more.
3-3. Look for people's second reactions, not their first.
Having their ideas of gender overturned can be a little shocking, and they might react less positively than you hoped. Take a deep breath and give them a little time. Once they've had a little time to process, they will show their true colors.
If they realize that they overreacted and apologize, then it means they probably do support you and are worth your trust.
If it has been a week and they're still not accepting you, then it probably isn't going to happen. They don't have the strength to accept you, which is more about them than you.
Keep in mind that some of your friends may need to unlearn things they’ve been taught by their parents or other authority figures. This may take them some time, but it’s possible.
3-4. Don't take it personally if someone is inconsiderate, rude, or cruel.
Unfortunately, there are people out there who disregard the feelings of others and mistreat people who are different from them. While this can be painful, try to remember that their actions are a reflection of them, not you. If they don’t appreciate how wonderful you are, it’s their loss.
Unfortunately, some people won't like you because you are transgender. Remind yourself that sometimes people get scared or angry when they see someone who is braver than they are.
Choose to feel sorry for people who are rude or cruel. They may be going through something themself and are jealous that you’re so confident in being you.
4. Caring For Yourself
4-1. Take plenty of time to relax.
Your emotional health matters, so spend lots of time hanging out with people who make you happy. Additionally, engage in hobbies that help you feel at peace.
4-2. Don’t feel pressured to be a spokesperson for the transgender community.
It isn't fair to expect you to be an ambassador of transgender people, especially not when you are so young. No one is entitled to anything from you. Any educational or anti-discrimination efforts on your part are your choice, and you are not obligated.
Check yourself to make sure you aren't holding yourself to impossible standards. You should not expect yourself to constantly be a smiling, talking Trans 101 encyclopedia. Not every interaction needs to be a perfect educational moment.
If educating others is exhausting you, give yourself a break.
4-3. Immerse yourself in positive transgender media.
Read webcomics such as The Princess and Rain, watch Orange is the New Black (if you are okay with R ratings), look at the work of transgender artists, and immerse yourself in transgender stories as told by transgender people. Representation matters, and it can really help to see fictional people who are just like you.
Don't just look for professional artists! A lot of amateurs also post worthwhile work.
4-4. Make LGBTQ+ friends.
Look for transgender friends, but also other LGBTQ+ people. There may be a club at school, a local support group, or a website (e.g. Tumblr) where you can meet others like you. They can understand you in a way that cisgender heterosexuals can't. Support each other, and know that you're not alone.
Tips
Seek support online when you’re feeling down. You might also use an LGBTQ+ helpline, such as the Trevor Project hotline at 1-866-488-7386. No matter where you live or how bad it gets, it does get better.
Everything takes time. Just as you want to be accepted for who you are inside, you need to accept your peers for who they are. They may not have any prior experience in being friends with someone who’s transgender, so it may take them time to learn about what it means to be LGBTQ+ and how to be an ally.
Always take the high road when someone is rude or inappropriate. Let no one say that you were rude, hostile, closed, defensive or a jerk to them. You don't want to give haters any more ammunition than they think they already have.
Warnings
Remember that your mental health takes priority. Don't force yourself into a situation that you know you won't be able to handle - as important as education is, you always come first. Make sure to have a support system somewhere. The Internet can help you find other transgender people and/or professionals to help you.
Progress isn't achieved overnight, so pay attention to how people are reacting to your identity. Speak up if you feel threatened and don’t provoke someone who refuses to accept you. Stay away from these people, alert an adult, and try to travel in a pack. Stay safe.
Unfortunately, you may be the target of jokes and teasing, though it’s possible you won’t be. Try not to take hurtful things personally. Instead, focus on the people who love you.
Don't be ashamed of who you are.
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For instance, you might notice that the most attractive people tend to choose partners who are funny and kind rather than worrying about looks.\\n1-3. Look for new friends.\\nBe friendly and compassionate to others and practice random acts of kindness. View each person as a potential new friend, and react to them in the most positive way. Usually, when you treat people well, they will also treat you well.\\n1-4. Recognize that not everyone will be your friend, and that's okay.\\nYour personality won't \\\"click\\\" with everyone. This is natural and not a bad reflection on you. Don't assume it's because you are transgender.\\nIf you don't wind up with the traditional \\\"in-crowd,\\\" that's all right. That clique is hard to crack for most people in their high school years. There is no need to push it. Seek out other interesting and fun people and be popular in your own way.\\nSome people are legitimate jerks. When you encounter mean or inconsiderate people, try to remember that their behavior is about them, not you. They’re not worth your time, so focus on people who care about you.\\n1-5. Ask people questions to show you’re interested in getting to know them.\\nPeople love to talk about themselves, so ask them questions to keep the conversation flowing about what they like. Listen to them so they know you’re interested in what they have to say. Add your own input to the conversation and ask follow-up questions to keep things going.\\nAfter leaving a conversation, try mentally summing it up. You might say, \\\"Wow! It sounds like your new puppy is a lot of work. How long do you have to train it?” This way you are more likely to recall the details later, and the person will be pleased you care.\\n1-6. Enjoy the good things in your life.\\nFocus on the upsides, such as the sweet girl you talked to today, your success in Spanish class, or your father's kindness. Reflecting upon the positives can help you stay afloat during the negatives. Try to list a few things you’re grateful for every day so you can remember the good things.\\n1-7. Get involved in your school to help you meet people and have fun.\\nFind your interests and search for a group centered around those interests. Join clubs, play sports, volunteer, and attend school events. This will help you meet people who share your talents and passions, and you can make great new friendships. Keep your focus on having fun and enjoying who you are.\\nJoin your school’s LGBTQ+ group. If your school doesn’t have one, ask a teacher to help you start one.\\n2. Being Closeted\\n2-1. Don't be mad at yourself for staying in the closet.\\nSafety, acceptance, and other concerns you have are perfectly valid reasons not to come out. Additionally, you are not obligated to educate anyone about what it’s like to be LGBTQ+. Your health comes first, and if that means not mentioning that you're transgender, that's okay.\\n2-2. Recognize that others are focused on themselves, not on you.\\nYou may feel like everyone at school is picking you apart, but it’s more likely that you’re the only person who’s closely analyzing you. Most high schoolers are absorbed in their own lives and worried about themselves, which means they aren’t thinking about you so much. Try not to worry about what other people might be thinking.\\nEven if you don’t quite match up to what you think your gender expectations might be, it’s likely that no one’s going to notice or care.\\n2-3. Expect for people to keep their thoughts to themselves in most cases.\\nEven if someone notices something “different” about you, they’re likely not going to say anything. For instance, you might be a girl with a slightly deep voice or a shorter guy, but it’s unlikely anyone is going to point it out or ask you about it. Do your best to not listen to your worries about what people might say.\\nSome guys tease each other about perceived weakness, a.k.a. femininity, and you may be on the receiving end if you're a trans guy. You can shrug it off as good-natured teasing if you feel comfortable with that.\\nIf someone’s comments bother you, take the teaser aside in private, explain that it bothers you, and ask them to stop. You might say, “Hey, I know you’re just kidding around, but I’m self conscious about my size. It hurts my feelings when you make fun of me, and I’d appreciate it if you stopped.” You might also talk to an adult if you feel nervous confronting the teaser or the teasing continues.\\n2-4. Practice self care to help you feel your best.\\nYou might feel gnawed at by worries that you don't pass or saddled with dysphoria at needing to pretend to be someone you aren't. This is difficult, and it will be stressful at times. To help you get through the difficult times, take really good care of yourself physically and emotionally.\\nEat a healthy diet, exercise, and sleep well.\\nIncorporate stress relievers into your day to help you stay calm. For instance, you might journal, exercise, or talk to a close friend.\\n3. Being Out\\n3-1. Surround yourself with accepting people and open up to them.\\nTake your time in deciding when to take people into your confidence, and if it makes you more comfortable, choose just one person to divulge your secrets to first. This person can help pave the way to being honest with your whole group and can help be a bridge to understanding between you and them.\\n3-2. Be prepared for questions but don’t feel pressured to answer them.\\nMost high schoolers don't know the difference between sex and gender, simply because nobody has taught it to them. They may be a little awkward at first, but that is because this is new to them, not because anything is wrong or bad about you. Expect your friends and loved ones to ask a lot of questions. Give them the best answers you can, but don’t feel like you have to share anything you want kept private.\\nEducating people can be tiring. It helps to come up with a \\\"script\\\" that you can rattle off anytime and to have a website URL or two that you can encourage people to check out in order to learn more.\\n3-3. Look for people's second reactions, not their first.\\nHaving their ideas of gender overturned can be a little shocking, and they might react less positively than you hoped. Take a deep breath and give them a little time. Once they've had a little time to process, they will show their true colors.\\nIf they realize that they overreacted and apologize, then it means they probably do support you and are worth your trust.\\nIf it has been a week and they're still not accepting you, then it probably isn't going to happen. They don't have the strength to accept you, which is more about them than you.\\nKeep in mind that some of your friends may need to unlearn things they’ve been taught by their parents or other authority figures. This may take them some time, but it’s possible.\\n3-4. Don't take it personally if someone is inconsiderate, rude, or cruel.\\nUnfortunately, there are people out there who disregard the feelings of others and mistreat people who are different from them. While this can be painful, try to remember that their actions are a reflection of them, not you. If they don’t appreciate how wonderful you are, it’s their loss.\\nUnfortunately, some people won't like you because you are transgender. Remind yourself that sometimes people get scared or angry when they see someone who is braver than they are.\\nChoose to feel sorry for people who are rude or cruel. They may be going through something themself and are jealous that you’re so confident in being you.\\n4. Caring For Yourself\\n4-1. Take plenty of time to relax.\\nYour emotional health matters, so spend lots of time hanging out with people who make you happy. Additionally, engage in hobbies that help you feel at peace.\\n4-2. Don’t feel pressured to be a spokesperson for the transgender community.\\nIt isn't fair to expect you to be an ambassador of transgender people, especially not when you are so young. No one is entitled to anything from you. Any educational or anti-discrimination efforts on your part are your choice, and you are not obligated.\\nCheck yourself to make sure you aren't holding yourself to impossible standards. You should not expect yourself to constantly be a smiling, talking Trans 101 encyclopedia. Not every interaction needs to be a perfect educational moment.\\nIf educating others is exhausting you, give yourself a break.\\n4-3. Immerse yourself in positive transgender media.\\nRead webcomics such as The Princess and Rain, watch Orange is the New Black (if you are okay with R ratings), look at the work of transgender artists, and immerse yourself in transgender stories as told by transgender people. Representation matters, and it can really help to see fictional people who are just like you.\\nDon't just look for professional artists! A lot of amateurs also post worthwhile work.\\n4-4. Make LGBTQ+ friends.\\nLook for transgender friends, but also other LGBTQ+ people. There may be a club at school, a local support group, or a website (e.g. Tumblr) where you can meet others like you. They can understand you in a way that cisgender heterosexuals can't. Support each other, and know that you're not alone.\\nTips\\nSeek support online when you’re feeling down. You might also use an LGBTQ+ helpline, such as the Trevor Project hotline at 1-866-488-7386. No matter where you live or how bad it gets, it does get better.\\nEverything takes time. Just as you want to be accepted for who you are inside, you need to accept your peers for who they are. They may not have any prior experience in being friends with someone who’s transgender, so it may take them time to learn about what it means to be LGBTQ+ and how to be an ally.\\nAlways take the high road when someone is rude or inappropriate. Let no one say that you were rude, hostile, closed, defensive or a jerk to them. You don't want to give haters any more ammunition than they think they already have.\\nWarnings\\nRemember that your mental health takes priority. Don't force yourself into a situation that you know you won't be able to handle - as important as education is, you always come first. Make sure to have a support system somewhere. The Internet can help you find other transgender people and/or professionals to help you.\\nProgress isn't achieved overnight, so pay attention to how people are reacting to your identity. Speak up if you feel threatened and don’t provoke someone who refuses to accept you. Stay away from these people, alert an adult, and try to travel in a pack. Stay safe.\\nUnfortunately, you may be the target of jokes and teasing, though it’s possible you won’t be. Try not to take hurtful things personally. Instead, focus on the people who love you.\\nDon't be ashamed of who you are.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many people say that being popular if you are transgender is impossible. Really, it isn't. It’s totally possible to make a large amount of friends and to create positive friendships. With a few tips, you’ll hopefully be able to thrive as well as survive your time in high school.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Enjoying Your Time at School\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Straighten your back and smile\", \"描述\": \"Stand tall so everyone sees you're happy to be you. Imagine that you look flawless and carry yourself that way. Any time you find yourself slinking back to unconfident body language in the halls, remind yourself how fabulously attractive you are, and go back to your awesome walk.\\nIt's okay if you don't feel fabulously attractive. Keep telling yourself you are and keep pretending you are. Eventually, you'll believe it. You can shine.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cultivate confidence\", \"描述\": \"There's a good chance you've learned to be resourceful and quick in order to protect yourself from insults you may have heard. Use that quick and agile thinking to put forth a calm, confident appearance. Use your humor to help defuse tense situations, and you'll draw people in.\\nOthers are drawn to confident, funny people. For instance, you might notice that the most attractive people tend to choose partners who are funny and kind rather than worrying about looks.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look for new friends.\", \"描述\": \"Be friendly and compassionate to others and practice random acts of kindness. View each person as a potential new friend, and react to them in the most positive way. Usually, when you treat people well, they will also treat you well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Recognize that not everyone will be your friend, and that's okay.\", \"描述\": \"Your personality won't \\\"click\\\" with everyone. This is natural and not a bad reflection on you. Don't assume it's because you are transgender.\\nIf you don't wind up with the traditional \\\"in-crowd,\\\" that's all right. That clique is hard to crack for most people in their high school years. There is no need to push it. Seek out other interesting and fun people and be popular in your own way.\\nSome people are legitimate jerks. When you encounter mean or inconsiderate people, try to remember that their behavior is about them, not you. They’re not worth your time, so focus on people who care about you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ask people questions to show you’re interested in getting to know them.\", \"描述\": \"People love to talk about themselves, so ask them questions to keep the conversation flowing about what they like. Listen to them so they know you’re interested in what they have to say. Add your own input to the conversation and ask follow-up questions to keep things going.\\nAfter leaving a conversation, try mentally summing it up. You might say, \\\"Wow! It sounds like your new puppy is a lot of work. How long do you have to train it?” This way you are more likely to recall the details later, and the person will be pleased you care.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Enjoy the good things in your life.\", \"描述\": \"Focus on the upsides, such as the sweet girl you talked to today, your success in Spanish class, or your father's kindness. Reflecting upon the positives can help you stay afloat during the negatives. Try to list a few things you’re grateful for every day so you can remember the good things.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get involved in your school to help you meet people and have fun.\", \"描述\": \"Find your interests and search for a group centered around those interests. Join clubs, play sports, volunteer, and attend school events. This will help you meet people who share your talents and passions, and you can make great new friendships. Keep your focus on having fun and enjoying who you are.\\nJoin your school’s LGBTQ+ group. If your school doesn’t have one, ask a teacher to help you start one.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Closeted\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't be mad at yourself for staying in the closet.\", \"描述\": \"Safety, acceptance, and other concerns you have are perfectly valid reasons not to come out. Additionally, you are not obligated to educate anyone about what it’s like to be LGBTQ+. Your health comes first, and if that means not mentioning that you're transgender, that's okay.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Recognize that others are focused on themselves, not on you.\", \"描述\": \"You may feel like everyone at school is picking you apart, but it’s more likely that you’re the only person who’s closely analyzing you. Most high schoolers are absorbed in their own lives and worried about themselves, which means they aren’t thinking about you so much. 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Give them the best answers you can, but don’t feel like you have to share anything you want kept private.\\nEducating people can be tiring. It helps to come up with a \\\"script\\\" that you can rattle off anytime and to have a website URL or two that you can encourage people to check out in order to learn more.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look for people's second reactions, not their first.\", \"描述\": \"Having their ideas of gender overturned can be a little shocking, and they might react less positively than you hoped. Take a deep breath and give them a little time. Once they've had a little time to process, they will show their true colors.\\nIf they realize that they overreacted and apologize, then it means they probably do support you and are worth your trust.\\nIf it has been a week and they're still not accepting you, then it probably isn't going to happen. They don't have the strength to accept you, which is more about them than you.\\nKeep in mind that some of your friends may need to unlearn things they’ve been taught by their parents or other authority figures. This may take them some time, but it’s possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't take it personally if someone is inconsiderate, rude, or cruel.\", \"描述\": \"Unfortunately, there are people out there who disregard the feelings of others and mistreat people who are different from them. While this can be painful, try to remember that their actions are a reflection of them, not you. If they don’t appreciate how wonderful you are, it’s their loss.\\nUnfortunately, some people won't like you because you are transgender. Remind yourself that sometimes people get scared or angry when they see someone who is braver than they are.\\nChoose to feel sorry for people who are rude or cruel. 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1. Understanding the Porn Industry
1-1. Ask yourself if porn is the right industry for you.
On the outset, porn seems like the perfect career for adventurous, sexually-active actors. You get paid to have sex almost every day, and the pay is actually pretty good once you get started. But porn comes with a series of risks as well, and they may outweigh the perceived benefits. Things to remember include:
Your image, once filmed, will be online forever, even if you try and switch careers.
You need to take the time every day to stay in shape, eat well, and keep clean and hygienic.
You are not having sex for fun, you are doing it for your job. Expect the intimacy and spontaneity of sex to disappear during a 4-hour video shoot.
Maintaining a committed relationship while in porn can be almost impossible, as jealousy is only natural.
1-2. Remember that you must be 18 years old to act in pornography.
This is a heavily enforced rule in the porn industry because breaking it can lead to years of prison and hundreds of thousands of dollars in fines. Even if you are a consenting, willing participant, you must be 18 to be in porn in the United States.
You must bring proof of age (valid passport, ID, etc.) to with you to a shoot in order to act. Producers are required to copy this proof and keep it on record for years.
1-3. Ask how much you will be paid.
The average rate for a straight porn star in Brooklyn, NY, is $500-600 for one video shoot. Gay porn stars, however, make three times that, no matter the gender. The general rule of thumb is that the weirder it is from “average,” the more you will get paid. So a straight, guy-girl scene might make $800 while an intense bondage or novelty scene can make $2,000 or more.
The average female porn star averages $50,000 a year, but can make upwards of $350,000.
Top male performers can make more than $100,000 each year, but average far less.
1-4. Understand where porn is filmed.
Strictly speaking, it is only legally possible to make or act in porn in Los Angeles and New Hampshire. That said, most videos are not location specific, making it impossible to determine where it was shot, so producers will often make videos anywhere. There is a porn industry in many major cities, but to have the best chance of breaking in you need to move to LA. Some major hubs include:
Los Angeles, San Fernando Valley, California. This is the porn capital of the world.
New York City, New York
Orlando, Tampa, and Miami, Florida
San Diego and San Francisco, CA
Portland, OR
1-5. Realize that it is very difficult to become a porn "star.
The porn industry is inundated with young talent that flocks to Los Angeles hoping to make it big. The sad reality, however, is that not everyone can be a well-known, marketable star in any industry. If the only reason you want to be in porn is to be famous, pulling in a six-figure salary every year, you will be sorely disappointed. The porn industry is at its most competitive thanks to the explosion of internet porn, so be ready to work hard to make a name for yourself. Porn is not a lavish lifestyle, it is a job, and you need to treat it as such.
While no one should ever force you to do something, having wider preferences and being willing to try more things will lead to more gigs and greater success.
2. Getting Your First Audition
2-1. Remember that all body types are beautiful, and lucrative, in porn.
One of the most interesting facets of porn is how inclusive it is. Since there is a desire for almost any type of man or woman on the internet, almost any type of man or woman can find a niche in the porn industry. What matters most is confidence on camera, not your look.
That said, make sure you show your best side for the camera. Exercise, a healthy diet, and a good posture will all help you go far on camera.
2-2. Take flattering photographs
Producers are most concerned with your look as they cast porn, so they need to see if you will fit in their next video. Capture as much of your body as you can, showing off your best assets whenever possible. If you have an incredible chest, puff it out slightly and make it the center of the photograph. If you are proud of you booty, curve your body so that it is in the frame. The shots you absolutely need are:
Full body, clothed scantily (tight t-shirt and shorts, lacy tops, etc.)
Full-body, nude. Men should have a full erection.
Headshot.
2-3. Get a full HIV and STD test.
One of the benefits of the modern porn industry is its insistence on safe, healthy sex. Any porn shoot you get will demand a current (under 30-days old) STD test to make sure no one contracts a dangerous disease while shooting. You can get an STD test at:
Your local Planned Parenthood.
Your physician.
The hospital or health clinic.
The CDC has a free search engine to find clinics across the country that will test you for HIV and STDs free of charge.
2-4. Set personal boundaries about what types of sex you will willingly engage in.
If you wouldn’t do it for free at home, you shouldn’t do it for money. Keep this in mind as you book gigs, as it will help you stay happy and healthy as your career begins. Know your limits and “no-go” areas and be honest with producers before taking a gig. Some of the most common types of porn include:
Fetish porn is made to fit a specific, often odd, desire. It can feature almost anything, from costumes of famous TV shows to a predilection for feet.
Standing for “Bondage, Discipline, and Sado-Masochism", this extreme variety of porn features various power dynamics. It is widely known for whips, chains, handcuffs, masks, and black leather.
There is a variety of sexual acts and specialty porn genres out there, and you need to know what you are signing up for before showing up. When in doubt, do your research on the large list of porn terms and vocabulary.
2-5. Check out modeling forums to look for casting calls.
Online forums, found easily with an online search for “Adult Modeling Forums,” allow you to post your pictures and search for casting calls. Never give your real name or address on these forums, and instead wait until you are contacted back by a producer who is interested in you.
You will have to begin in amateur porn before you will be paid for professional porn.
2-6. Petition porn studios with your photos.
Go directly to nearby porn studios and send them your information through their website’s “contact us” button. Go online and research “Adult Film Studios + your area” to find nearby studios, or check out aggregate sites like Sexyjobs.com to find potential listings.
2-7. Bring a friend or chaperone with you to your audition to prevent scams.
If a producer says that you cannot bring a guest because it is a “closed set,” then don’t take the audition. You need to protect yourself against scams, and the best way to do this is to have a partner to watch your back.
For detailed information, classes, and up-to-date changes on laws in adult education, you should sign up for a free National Association for the Advancement of Science & Art in Sexuality (NAASAS) membership online.
If a gig seems too good to be true (paying 1,000s of dollars for minimal work) or does not give you concrete details (what you’ll be doing, where, for how long, and for how much), don’t take the gig.
2-8. Be ready to perform.
An audition will be more than just showing up and snapping a few pictures. You need to be ready to get in the sack and be professional and cooperative. If you’ve booked an audition, you need to know that you’ll be on camera for your first gig. Prepare accordingly.
Look nice – wear clean clothes, shower, and groom your private areas.
Be on time.
Have proof of age and a recent (2-weeks old or less) STD test.
If you’re a man, show up with a girl. Ron Jeremy famously said that the only way to get into porn is to bring a woman with you. Make sure she is willing to take part as well.
2-9. Make your own videos and post them online, as an alternative.
The internet age has made it possible for anyone to break into the industry with a camera and a consenting partner. The site MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, for example, lets you post your videos online and make 50% of the profits when people download it. This can be a great way to get comfortable on camera, test your limits, and gain traction in the porn industry.
Focus on what makes you happy. Be natural on camera and the audience will enjoy it.
You can point potential producers to these videos later as a sort of “porn resume.”
3. Building a Career in Porn
3-1. Sign with a talent agency for porn stars.
Agencies help you book gigs, protect you in case of contract disputes, and put you in touch with other stars and producers. A list of licensed adult agencies can be found on the LATATA website, where you can contact them with your pictures, past movies, or questions. Search around their websites to find one that fits your boundaries and desires. Some large, famous agencies include:
LA Direct
OC Modeling
Burning Angel
Spiegler Girls
Lucas Entertainment
World Modeling
3-2. Invent a screen name for your porn persona.
While there is no law saying you cannot use your real name, it is usually easier to keep your career under wraps if you make up a new name, or ‘’nom de porn.’’ While you can choose anything, from the normal sounding Ron Jeremy and Jenna Jameson to the more absurd Moe the Monster or Brick Steel, you should try and keep things relatively simple.
The most common first names are Lisa, Angel, Nicole, Jessica, and Vanessa (female), or David, Tony, Mike, Steve, and Jason (male).
The most common last names are Love, Star, Foxx, Rose, and Sweet (female), or Lee, James, Stone, Steel, Black, and Williams (male).
3-3. Be a professional on-set.
Much like a typical movie shoot, porn requires an enormous amount of coordination between cameramen, directors, sound engineers, lighting crews, and actors to succeed. Don’t walk in expecting to be a king – you should be ready for a full 3-4 hours of shooting, re-shooting, and posing. You may have to shoot the same scene 5 times, and you need to deliver and lines and show up at the right place every time. This will be harder than you think after 3-4 hours of near constant performance in the bed.
Hit your placement – there is usually a place on the ground, marked by tape, that you have to find and stand on without looking down.
Show up on time, with the proper paperwork documenting your age and STD test.
Be open and honest on set. Tell the producers your limits beforehand and ask for some time if you have trouble getting it up, getting in costume, or setting a scene.
3-4. Know that you will have to conform to someone else’s standards.
Porn is entertainment for other people, and the director, writers, and producers will all have a vision for what is the most appealing scene. You need to be flexible and willing to change, whether that means putting on costumes, working frequently, or using shots and pills to enhance your “goods.” This won’t always be pleasant, but is necessary to develop a strong, lasting career.
3-5. Do not sign a modeling release form until you have been paid.
This may anger producers, but you need to look out for yourself to avoid getting scammed. Wait until you have cash or a check in hand to before signing the contract to make sure your rights are respected.
3-6. Diversify your options.
A straight male or female who only does one type of porn is, unfortunately, not going to get a lot of work. The porn industry is constantly changing and evolving, and it requires actors who are flexible, eager, and willing to try new things. While you should always respect your boundaries, test out new gigs as you become comfortable in the industry to take your career to the next level.
Remember, the weirder the shoot, the more you usually get paid.
Scenes with multiple or same-sex partners often pay the most.
Tips
Think long and hard about a career in porn. Once your face is on the internet, there is little chance you will ever get it taken down. You need to be 100% ready for a career in porn before you embark.
Treat porn like any other job – being kind, professional, and hardworking will help you get far.
If you have a fetish, don't shame yourself.
Warnings
Never take gigs that make you uncomfortable, or work with people who will force you to do something you don’t want to.
If you cannot verify that a partner is clean of STDs, do not work with them under any circumstance.
Beware of stalkers. Celebrities of all types have had to deal with at least one overzealous or out of touch fan that for some reason latches on to them and won't let go. If you find yourself confronted with such a fan then report them to police and notify your agency's legal department in case you need help filing for a restraining order.
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Get a full HIV and STD test.\\nOne of the benefits of the modern porn industry is its insistence on safe, healthy sex. Any porn shoot you get will demand a current (under 30-days old) STD test to make sure no one contracts a dangerous disease while shooting. You can get an STD test at:\\nYour local Planned Parenthood.\\nYour physician.\\nThe hospital or health clinic.\\nThe CDC has a free search engine to find clinics across the country that will test you for HIV and STDs free of charge.\\n2-4. Set personal boundaries about what types of sex you will willingly engage in.\\nIf you wouldn’t do it for free at home, you shouldn’t do it for money. Keep this in mind as you book gigs, as it will help you stay happy and healthy as your career begins. Know your limits and “no-go” areas and be honest with producers before taking a gig. Some of the most common types of porn include:\\n\\n Fetish porn is made to fit a specific, often odd, desire. It can feature almost anything, from costumes of famous TV shows to a predilection for feet.\\n Standing for “Bondage, Discipline, and Sado-Masochism\\\", this extreme variety of porn features various power dynamics. It is widely known for whips, chains, handcuffs, masks, and black leather.\\n There is a variety of sexual acts and specialty porn genres out there, and you need to know what you are signing up for before showing up. When in doubt, do your research on the large list of porn terms and vocabulary.\\n2-5. Check out modeling forums to look for casting calls.\\nOnline forums, found easily with an online search for “Adult Modeling Forums,” allow you to post your pictures and search for casting calls. Never give your real name or address on these forums, and instead wait until you are contacted back by a producer who is interested in you.\\nYou will have to begin in amateur porn before you will be paid for professional porn.\\n2-6. Petition porn studios with your photos.\\nGo directly to nearby porn studios and send them your information through their website’s “contact us” button. Go online and research “Adult Film Studios + your area” to find nearby studios, or check out aggregate sites like Sexyjobs.com to find potential listings.\\n2-7. Bring a friend or chaperone with you to your audition to prevent scams.\\nIf a producer says that you cannot bring a guest because it is a “closed set,” then don’t take the audition. You need to protect yourself against scams, and the best way to do this is to have a partner to watch your back.\\nFor detailed information, classes, and up-to-date changes on laws in adult education, you should sign up for a free National Association for the Advancement of Science & Art in Sexuality (NAASAS) membership online.\\nIf a gig seems too good to be true (paying 1,000s of dollars for minimal work) or does not give you concrete details (what you’ll be doing, where, for how long, and for how much), don’t take the gig.\\n2-8. Be ready to perform.\\nAn audition will be more than just showing up and snapping a few pictures. You need to be ready to get in the sack and be professional and cooperative. If you’ve booked an audition, you need to know that you’ll be on camera for your first gig. Prepare accordingly.\\nLook nice – wear clean clothes, shower, and groom your private areas.\\nBe on time.\\nHave proof of age and a recent (2-weeks old or less) STD test.\\nIf you’re a man, show up with a girl. Ron Jeremy famously said that the only way to get into porn is to bring a woman with you. Make sure she is willing to take part as well.\\n2-9. Make your own videos and post them online, as an alternative.\\nThe internet age has made it possible for anyone to break into the industry with a camera and a consenting partner. The site MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, for example, lets you post your videos online and make 50% of the profits when people download it. This can be a great way to get comfortable on camera, test your limits, and gain traction in the porn industry.\\nFocus on what makes you happy. Be natural on camera and the audience will enjoy it.\\nYou can point potential producers to these videos later as a sort of “porn resume.”\\n3. Building a Career in Porn\\n3-1. Sign with a talent agency for porn stars.\\nAgencies help you book gigs, protect you in case of contract disputes, and put you in touch with other stars and producers. A list of licensed adult agencies can be found on the LATATA website, where you can contact them with your pictures, past movies, or questions. Search around their websites to find one that fits your boundaries and desires. Some large, famous agencies include:\\nLA Direct\\nOC Modeling\\nBurning Angel\\nSpiegler Girls\\nLucas Entertainment\\nWorld Modeling\\n3-2. Invent a screen name for your porn persona.\\nWhile there is no law saying you cannot use your real name, it is usually easier to keep your career under wraps if you make up a new name, or ‘’nom de porn.’’ While you can choose anything, from the normal sounding Ron Jeremy and Jenna Jameson to the more absurd Moe the Monster or Brick Steel, you should try and keep things relatively simple.\\nThe most common first names are Lisa, Angel, Nicole, Jessica, and Vanessa (female), or David, Tony, Mike, Steve, and Jason (male).\\nThe most common last names are Love, Star, Foxx, Rose, and Sweet (female), or Lee, James, Stone, Steel, Black, and Williams (male).\\n3-3. Be a professional on-set.\\nMuch like a typical movie shoot, porn requires an enormous amount of coordination between cameramen, directors, sound engineers, lighting crews, and actors to succeed. Don’t walk in expecting to be a king – you should be ready for a full 3-4 hours of shooting, re-shooting, and posing. You may have to shoot the same scene 5 times, and you need to deliver and lines and show up at the right place every time. This will be harder than you think after 3-4 hours of near constant performance in the bed.\\nHit your placement – there is usually a place on the ground, marked by tape, that you have to find and stand on without looking down.\\nShow up on time, with the proper paperwork documenting your age and STD test.\\nBe open and honest on set. Tell the producers your limits beforehand and ask for some time if you have trouble getting it up, getting in costume, or setting a scene.\\n3-4. Know that you will have to conform to someone else’s standards.\\nPorn is entertainment for other people, and the director, writers, and producers will all have a vision for what is the most appealing scene. You need to be flexible and willing to change, whether that means putting on costumes, working frequently, or using shots and pills to enhance your “goods.” This won’t always be pleasant, but is necessary to develop a strong, lasting career.\\n3-5. Do not sign a modeling release form until you have been paid.\\nThis may anger producers, but you need to look out for yourself to avoid getting scammed. Wait until you have cash or a check in hand to before signing the contract to make sure your rights are respected.\\n3-6. Diversify your options.\\nA straight male or female who only does one type of porn is, unfortunately, not going to get a lot of work. The porn industry is constantly changing and evolving, and it requires actors who are flexible, eager, and willing to try new things. While you should always respect your boundaries, test out new gigs as you become comfortable in the industry to take your career to the next level.\\nRemember, the weirder the shoot, the more you usually get paid.\\nScenes with multiple or same-sex partners often pay the most.\\nTips\\nThink long and hard about a career in porn. Once your face is on the internet, there is little chance you will ever get it taken down. You need to be 100% ready for a career in porn before you embark.\\nTreat porn like any other job – being kind, professional, and hardworking will help you get far.\\nIf you have a fetish, don't shame yourself.\\nWarnings\\nNever take gigs that make you uncomfortable, or work with people who will force you to do something you don’t want to.\\nIf you cannot verify that a partner is clean of STDs, do not work with them under any circumstance.\\nBeware of stalkers. Celebrities of all types have had to deal with at least one overzealous or out of touch fan that for some reason latches on to them and won't let go. If you find yourself confronted with such a fan then report them to police and notify your agency's legal department in case you need help filing for a restraining order.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Ever wondered how you can get into the porn industry? As one of the most lucrative entertainment industries in the world, porn production brings in almost $100 billion worldwide each year. Though the life of a porn star might not be as glamorous or carefree as it seems, you can make good money and have fun starting a career in adult entertainment. We’ll walk you through exactly what it takes to be a pornstar, how to land your first gig, and how to launch your porn career.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understanding the Porn Industry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask yourself if porn is the right industry for you.\", \"描述\": \"On the outset, porn seems like the perfect career for adventurous, sexually-active actors. You get paid to have sex almost every day, and the pay is actually pretty good once you get started. But porn comes with a series of risks as well, and they may outweigh the perceived benefits. Things to remember include:\\nYour image, once filmed, will be online forever, even if you try and switch careers.\\nYou need to take the time every day to stay in shape, eat well, and keep clean and hygienic.\\nYou are not having sex for fun, you are doing it for your job. Expect the intimacy and spontaneity of sex to disappear during a 4-hour video shoot.\\nMaintaining a committed relationship while in porn can be almost impossible, as jealousy is only natural.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Remember that you must be 18 years old to act in pornography.\", \"描述\": \"This is a heavily enforced rule in the porn industry because breaking it can lead to years of prison and hundreds of thousands of dollars in fines. Even if you are a consenting, willing participant, you must be 18 to be in porn in the United States.\\nYou must bring proof of age (valid passport, ID, etc.) to with you to a shoot in order to act. Producers are required to copy this proof and keep it on record for years.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask how much you will be paid.\", \"描述\": \"The average rate for a straight porn star in Brooklyn, NY, is $500-600 for one video shoot. Gay porn stars, however, make three times that, no matter the gender. The general rule of thumb is that the weirder it is from “average,” the more you will get paid. So a straight, guy-girl scene might make $800 while an intense bondage or novelty scene can make $2,000 or more.\\nThe average female porn star averages $50,000 a year, but can make upwards of $350,000.\\nTop male performers can make more than $100,000 each year, but average far less.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand where porn is filmed.\", \"描述\": \"Strictly speaking, it is only legally possible to make or act in porn in Los Angeles and New Hampshire. That said, most videos are not location specific, making it impossible to determine where it was shot, so producers will often make videos anywhere. There is a porn industry in many major cities, but to have the best chance of breaking in you need to move to LA. Some major hubs include:\\nLos Angeles, San Fernando Valley, California. This is the porn capital of the world.\\nNew York City, New York\\nOrlando, Tampa, and Miami, Florida\\nSan Diego and San Francisco, CA\\nPortland, OR\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Realize that it is very difficult to become a porn \\\"star.\", \"描述\": \"The porn industry is inundated with young talent that flocks to Los Angeles hoping to make it big. The sad reality, however, is that not everyone can be a well-known, marketable star in any industry. If the only reason you want to be in porn is to be famous, pulling in a six-figure salary every year, you will be sorely disappointed. The porn industry is at its most competitive thanks to the explosion of internet porn, so be ready to work hard to make a name for yourself. Porn is not a lavish lifestyle, it is a job, and you need to treat it as such.\\nWhile no one should ever force you to do something, having wider preferences and being willing to try more things will lead to more gigs and greater success.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting Your First Audition\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remember that all body types are beautiful, and lucrative, in porn.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most interesting facets of porn is how inclusive it is. Since there is a desire for almost any type of man or woman on the internet, almost any type of man or woman can find a niche in the porn industry. What matters most is confidence on camera, not your look.\\nThat said, make sure you show your best side for the camera. Exercise, a healthy diet, and a good posture will all help you go far on camera.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take flattering photographs\", \"描述\": \"Producers are most concerned with your look as they cast porn, so they need to see if you will fit in their next video. Capture as much of your body as you can, showing off your best assets whenever possible. If you have an incredible chest, puff it out slightly and make it the center of the photograph. If you are proud of you booty, curve your body so that it is in the frame. The shots you absolutely need are:\\nFull body, clothed scantily (tight t-shirt and shorts, lacy tops, etc.)\\nFull-body, nude. Men should have a full erection.\\nHeadshot.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a full HIV and STD test.\", \"描述\": \"One of the benefits of the modern porn industry is its insistence on safe, healthy sex. Any porn shoot you get will demand a current (under 30-days old) STD test to make sure no one contracts a dangerous disease while shooting. You can get an STD test at:\\nYour local Planned Parenthood.\\nYour physician.\\nThe hospital or health clinic.\\nThe CDC has a free search engine to find clinics across the country that will test you for HIV and STDs free of charge.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Set personal boundaries about what types of sex you will willingly engage in.\", \"描述\": \"If you wouldn’t do it for free at home, you shouldn’t do it for money. Keep this in mind as you book gigs, as it will help you stay happy and healthy as your career begins. Know your limits and “no-go” areas and be honest with producers before taking a gig. Some of the most common types of porn include:\\n\\n Fetish porn is made to fit a specific, often odd, desire. It can feature almost anything, from costumes of famous TV shows to a predilection for feet.\\n Standing for “Bondage, Discipline, and Sado-Masochism\\\", this extreme variety of porn features various power dynamics. It is widely known for whips, chains, handcuffs, masks, and black leather.\\n There is a variety of sexual acts and specialty porn genres out there, and you need to know what you are signing up for before showing up. When in doubt, do your research on the large list of porn terms and vocabulary.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Check out modeling forums to look for casting calls.\", \"描述\": \"Online forums, found easily with an online search for “Adult Modeling Forums,” allow you to post your pictures and search for casting calls. Never give your real name or address on these forums, and instead wait until you are contacted back by a producer who is interested in you.\\nYou will have to begin in amateur porn before you will be paid for professional porn.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Petition porn studios with your photos.\", \"描述\": \"Go directly to nearby porn studios and send them your information through their website’s “contact us” button. Go online and research “Adult Film Studios + your area” to find nearby studios, or check out aggregate sites like Sexyjobs.com to find potential listings.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Bring a friend or chaperone with you to your audition to prevent scams.\", \"描述\": \"If a producer says that you cannot bring a guest because it is a “closed set,” then don’t take the audition. You need to protect yourself against scams, and the best way to do this is to have a partner to watch your back.\\nFor detailed information, classes, and up-to-date changes on laws in adult education, you should sign up for a free National Association for the Advancement of Science & Art in Sexuality (NAASAS) membership online.\\nIf a gig seems too good to be true (paying 1,000s of dollars for minimal work) or does not give you concrete details (what you’ll be doing, where, for how long, and for how much), don’t take the gig.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be ready to perform.\", \"描述\": \"An audition will be more than just showing up and snapping a few pictures. You need to be ready to get in the sack and be professional and cooperative. If you’ve booked an audition, you need to know that you’ll be on camera for your first gig. Prepare accordingly.\\nLook nice – wear clean clothes, shower, and groom your private areas.\\nBe on time.\\nHave proof of age and a recent (2-weeks old or less) STD test.\\nIf you’re a man, show up with a girl. Ron Jeremy famously said that the only way to get into porn is to bring a woman with you. Make sure she is willing to take part as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Make your own videos and post them online, as an alternative.\", \"描述\": \"The internet age has made it possible for anyone to break into the industry with a camera and a consenting partner. The site MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, for example, lets you post your videos online and make 50% of the profits when people download it. This can be a great way to get comfortable on camera, test your limits, and gain traction in the porn industry.\\nFocus on what makes you happy. 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1. Finding the Bright Side
1-1. Start smiling more.
When you smile, your brain activates neural messages that actually make you feel more positive. Even if you're feeling kind of "blah," make your face do the work of brightening up your day. It works.
An added bonus? When you smile, you'll spread positivity around to other people, putting other people in good moods as well. It's good for everyone.
If you're not in a great mood, complaining about it won't make it any better. Practice forcing yourself to smile, and it'll become second nature.
1-2. Make little changes in the words you use.
It's easy to say things that can accidentally bring you down. Using positive words, as opposed to negative words, has a proven effect on your mood and your attitude.
Don't identify yourself with your feelings. Don't say, "I am sad" or "I am frustrated." Instead, put the negativity elsewhere. Say, "That movie made me feel sad" or "This task is difficult and frustrating."
1-3. Do nice things for others, even if you don't feel like it.
Not having a great day? That doesn't mean you have to act like it. Choose to spread positivity around, and the smiles you get in return will do a lot to make you think more positively. Here a few little ideas for things you can do to brighten someone else's day:
Clean up the house before your partner or roommate gets home
Pick up coffee or donuts for your office
Mow your neighbor's yard, or shovel their driveway in winter
Just say hello and compliment a stranger
1-4. Be with people you enjoy.
If you want to think positively, surround yourself with other positive thinkers, and with people who bring out the best in you. Hang out with people who are supportive, friendly, and like you for who you are.
If you don't like hanging out with someone because they put you in a bad mood, stop hanging out with them.
1-5. Find positive quotes or mantras to keep with you.
One great way to keep your outlook bright is to keep little quotes or sayings that you like in your pocket, on your phone, or otherwise in your mind as you go about your day.
Subscribe to positive affirmation feeds on Pinterest, Twitter, or Facebook to keep your social networking more positive an influence in your life.
1-6. Keep a journal and record each day.
If you sometimes end the day on a sour note, train yourself to turn that around. Instead, pour yourself a cup of tea, or another beverage of your choice, and sit down with a journal and write it out. Just sit down and start writing about your day. What happened? What went right? What went wrong? Put it all down.
Write down three things that went well and explain why they went well. Write down three things that didn't go well, and explain why they didn't go well. Be as specific as possible in describing the events.
Read back over what you wrote. Sometimes, what seems super-dramatic in your mind will suddenly seem much more minor when you actually read it out. Was it really worth all that negativity?
2. Avoiding Negativity
2-1. Identify your negativity triggers.
What puts you in a dark mood? What makes you feel bad? Identify the things that make you spiral into negative emotional states, so you can plan how to attack those triggers and get rid of them from your life.
Do you get angry or upset at a particular time of day? When a particular event happens? When you're around a particular person? What makes you angry?
Maybe you just have trouble feeling positive about much of anything. If you struggle to approach even your vacation day with a positive attitude, you might want to get checked out for signs of depression and talk to your doctor.
2-2. Only keep supportive friends.
If someone in your life doesn't contribute to your mental well-being, they don't have a place in your life. People who stress you out, criticize you, or bring you down are a waste of your time and energy. Avoid these people or draw firm limits with them.
If you have to hang out with someone who rubs you the wrong way, or you can't stop seeing someone, do your best to draw limits. Be honest with them and tell them that you really need your space and you'd prefer to be left alone.
As the old saying goes, if you wish to stay positive, prevent negative-minded people.
2-3. Give less weight to what other people say.
If you feel good about something, let yourself feel good about it. If you don't care about something, don't let yourself be swayed by the opinions of others. Listen to your own voice and pay less attention to what other people have to say about you or your business.
Don't ask for other people's opinion if you don't really need it. What difference does it make it your coworker doesn't like the name you picked for your new pet cat? As long as it makes you happy, that's all that matters.
2-4. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Competition can bring up a lot of negativity in people. Avoid situations that force you to compare yourself or your skills to the skills of others. These situations can breed bad feelings, resentment, and anxiety. If you want to keep a positive mindset, avoid any situation that will force you to compare or compete with others.
2-5. Stay busy.
Work hard and play hard. Fill up your schedule with activities that will keep you so busy you won't have time to sink back into negative feelings. If you're focused and productive, it's hard to feel negative about much of anything. Stay focused on the things you're doing and your accomplishments, not on anything else.
In some people, staying busy helps to outrun feelings of negativity. In others, it creates it. Some people just need more downtime than others. If you're one of those people, make sure you get it for yourself.
2-6. Don't sweat small stuff.
Being happy and satisfied, spending time with family and friends–these are the important things. Anything else? Chalk it up under the category of "small stuff." Do not sweat it.
Block stuff on social networking that drives you crazy. If you've got a friend who won't stop humblebragging and making you annoyed, stop subscribing to their updates. Ignore it.
Of course, if you're in a bad place and you need to improve your life, that may be an important step to take to help yourself get positive. Read the next section for tips.
3. Improving Your Life
3-1. Get active
Exercise is shown to have drastic and positive effects on your mood, releasing stress-reducing hormones in your body that help to keep you feeling good. One excellent way of improving your outlook is to find some method of exercising that you enjoy, and making physical activity a bigger part of your life.
Start small. Just start by taking 30-40 minute walks around your neighborhood, moving at a good clip. Cue up some music or a podcast that you enjoy in your headphones, and get some fresh air.
Find a team sport that you like, like football, soccer, basketball, or volleyball, and join a community team if you enjoy the positive effects of sport.
If you don't like gyms or sports, try a solo activity like hiking, swimming, or riding your bike.
3-2. Set and complete goals
Sometimes, if you start feeling like you're wandering aimlessly, the negativity will start to creep back in. To keep those feelings at bay, start setting goals actively and working hard to meet them. Even if they're relatively small things, it's important to have some sense of purpose to meet the day.
Write up a five year plan for important goals and do something every week to get yourself moving toward those goals. Where do you want to be in five years? What do you want to do? What can you do right now to move in that direction?
If you're feeling successful in your life, but still struggle with feeling like you're not getting the most out of it, get a new hobby. Pick up an instrument, or start an art project to get creative in a way you might not be used to.
3-3. Take the time to celebrate.
It's important to set aside the time to let yourself feel good. Even if you're busy, even if you're not feeling that great, it helps you cultivate a positive mindset to take the time out to celebrate with friends and family.
Celebrate accomplishments, big and small. When someone graduates, that's cause for celebration. But, so is a regular Friday. Raise a toast to getting through the week!
3-4. Eat well
What you put into your body can have a big impact on how you feel, both physically and mentally. Getting more leafy greens, omega-3 fatty acids, and folate in your diet is proven to come with mood-altering properties for the better.
Always eat breakfast. Research reveals that people who eat breakfast are helping to jumpstart their metabolism, resulting in more energy and positivity throughout the day.
Eat complex carbohydrates, found in oatmeal, whole grains, and sweet potato, to give yourself energy without the crash associated with simple carbs, like sugary cereals and processed foods.
3-5. Let yourself relax when you need to
Relaxation is essential to staying positive. If you're the stressful type, train yourself to take a step back and grab a relaxation break when you need it. It's not a sign of weakness, it's a sign that you're doing what you need to do to stay healthy.
Take short breaks periodically throughout the day. 10-15 minutes of sitting quietly and listening to meditative music, or reading a magazine during a busy workday can help you feel a lot more positive about the day.
Take longer breaks as well. Don't leave unused vacation days on the table. Take a week off and use it to restore.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Finding the Bright Side\\n1-1. Start smiling more.\\nWhen you smile, your brain activates neural messages that actually make you feel more positive. Even if you're feeling kind of \\\"blah,\\\" make your face do the work of brightening up your day. It works.\\nAn added bonus? When you smile, you'll spread positivity around to other people, putting other people in good moods as well. It's good for everyone.\\nIf you're not in a great mood, complaining about it won't make it any better. Practice forcing yourself to smile, and it'll become second nature.\\n1-2. Make little changes in the words you use.\\nIt's easy to say things that can accidentally bring you down. Using positive words, as opposed to negative words, has a proven effect on your mood and your attitude.\\nDon't identify yourself with your feelings. Don't say, \\\"I am sad\\\" or \\\"I am frustrated.\\\" Instead, put the negativity elsewhere. Say, \\\"That movie made me feel sad\\\" or \\\"This task is difficult and frustrating.\\\"\\n1-3. Do nice things for others, even if you don't feel like it.\\nNot having a great day? That doesn't mean you have to act like it. Choose to spread positivity around, and the smiles you get in return will do a lot to make you think more positively. Here a few little ideas for things you can do to brighten someone else's day:\\nClean up the house before your partner or roommate gets home\\nPick up coffee or donuts for your office\\nMow your neighbor's yard, or shovel their driveway in winter\\nJust say hello and compliment a stranger\\n1-4. Be with people you enjoy.\\nIf you want to think positively, surround yourself with other positive thinkers, and with people who bring out the best in you. Hang out with people who are supportive, friendly, and like you for who you are.\\nIf you don't like hanging out with someone because they put you in a bad mood, stop hanging out with them.\\n1-5. Find positive quotes or mantras to keep with you.\\nOne great way to keep your outlook bright is to keep little quotes or sayings that you like in your pocket, on your phone, or otherwise in your mind as you go about your day.\\nSubscribe to positive affirmation feeds on Pinterest, Twitter, or Facebook to keep your social networking more positive an influence in your life.\\n1-6. Keep a journal and record each day.\\nIf you sometimes end the day on a sour note, train yourself to turn that around. Instead, pour yourself a cup of tea, or another beverage of your choice, and sit down with a journal and write it out. Just sit down and start writing about your day. What happened? What went right? What went wrong? Put it all down.\\nWrite down three things that went well and explain why they went well. Write down three things that didn't go well, and explain why they didn't go well. Be as specific as possible in describing the events.\\nRead back over what you wrote. Sometimes, what seems super-dramatic in your mind will suddenly seem much more minor when you actually read it out. Was it really worth all that negativity?\\n2. Avoiding Negativity\\n2-1. Identify your negativity triggers.\\nWhat puts you in a dark mood? What makes you feel bad? Identify the things that make you spiral into negative emotional states, so you can plan how to attack those triggers and get rid of them from your life.\\nDo you get angry or upset at a particular time of day? When a particular event happens? When you're around a particular person? What makes you angry?\\nMaybe you just have trouble feeling positive about much of anything. If you struggle to approach even your vacation day with a positive attitude, you might want to get checked out for signs of depression and talk to your doctor.\\n2-2. Only keep supportive friends.\\nIf someone in your life doesn't contribute to your mental well-being, they don't have a place in your life. People who stress you out, criticize you, or bring you down are a waste of your time and energy. Avoid these people or draw firm limits with them.\\nIf you have to hang out with someone who rubs you the wrong way, or you can't stop seeing someone, do your best to draw limits. Be honest with them and tell them that you really need your space and you'd prefer to be left alone.\\nAs the old saying goes, if you wish to stay positive, prevent negative-minded people.\\n2-3. Give less weight to what other people say.\\nIf you feel good about something, let yourself feel good about it. If you don't care about something, don't let yourself be swayed by the opinions of others. Listen to your own voice and pay less attention to what other people have to say about you or your business.\\nDon't ask for other people's opinion if you don't really need it. What difference does it make it your coworker doesn't like the name you picked for your new pet cat? As long as it makes you happy, that's all that matters.\\n2-4. Stop comparing yourself to others.\\nCompetition can bring up a lot of negativity in people. Avoid situations that force you to compare yourself or your skills to the skills of others. These situations can breed bad feelings, resentment, and anxiety. If you want to keep a positive mindset, avoid any situation that will force you to compare or compete with others.\\n2-5. Stay busy.\\nWork hard and play hard. Fill up your schedule with activities that will keep you so busy you won't have time to sink back into negative feelings. If you're focused and productive, it's hard to feel negative about much of anything. Stay focused on the things you're doing and your accomplishments, not on anything else.\\nIn some people, staying busy helps to outrun feelings of negativity. In others, it creates it. Some people just need more downtime than others. If you're one of those people, make sure you get it for yourself.\\n2-6. Don't sweat small stuff.\\nBeing happy and satisfied, spending time with family and friends–these are the important things. Anything else? Chalk it up under the category of \\\"small stuff.\\\" Do not sweat it.\\nBlock stuff on social networking that drives you crazy. If you've got a friend who won't stop humblebragging and making you annoyed, stop subscribing to their updates. Ignore it.\\nOf course, if you're in a bad place and you need to improve your life, that may be an important step to take to help yourself get positive. Read the next section for tips.\\n3. Improving Your Life\\n3-1. Get active\\nExercise is shown to have drastic and positive effects on your mood, releasing stress-reducing hormones in your body that help to keep you feeling good. One excellent way of improving your outlook is to find some method of exercising that you enjoy, and making physical activity a bigger part of your life.\\nStart small. Just start by taking 30-40 minute walks around your neighborhood, moving at a good clip. Cue up some music or a podcast that you enjoy in your headphones, and get some fresh air.\\nFind a team sport that you like, like football, soccer, basketball, or volleyball, and join a community team if you enjoy the positive effects of sport.\\nIf you don't like gyms or sports, try a solo activity like hiking, swimming, or riding your bike.\\n3-2. Set and complete goals\\nSometimes, if you start feeling like you're wandering aimlessly, the negativity will start to creep back in. To keep those feelings at bay, start setting goals actively and working hard to meet them. Even if they're relatively small things, it's important to have some sense of purpose to meet the day.\\n\\nWrite up a five year plan for important goals and do something every week to get yourself moving toward those goals. Where do you want to be in five years? What do you want to do? What can you do right now to move in that direction?\\nIf you're feeling successful in your life, but still struggle with feeling like you're not getting the most out of it, get a new hobby. Pick up an instrument, or start an art project to get creative in a way you might not be used to.\\n3-3. Take the time to celebrate.\\nIt's important to set aside the time to let yourself feel good. Even if you're busy, even if you're not feeling that great, it helps you cultivate a positive mindset to take the time out to celebrate with friends and family.\\nCelebrate accomplishments, big and small. When someone graduates, that's cause for celebration. But, so is a regular Friday. Raise a toast to getting through the week!\\n3-4. Eat well\\nWhat you put into your body can have a big impact on how you feel, both physically and mentally. Getting more leafy greens, omega-3 fatty acids, and folate in your diet is proven to come with mood-altering properties for the better.\\nAlways eat breakfast. Research reveals that people who eat breakfast are helping to jumpstart their metabolism, resulting in more energy and positivity throughout the day.\\nEat complex carbohydrates, found in oatmeal, whole grains, and sweet potato, to give yourself energy without the crash associated with simple carbs, like sugary cereals and processed foods.\\n3-5. Let yourself relax when you need to\\nRelaxation is essential to staying positive. If you're the stressful type, train yourself to take a step back and grab a relaxation break when you need it. It's not a sign of weakness, it's a sign that you're doing what you need to do to stay healthy.\\nTake short breaks periodically throughout the day. 10-15 minutes of sitting quietly and listening to meditative music, or reading a magazine during a busy workday can help you feel a lot more positive about the day.\\nTake longer breaks as well. Don't leave unused vacation days on the table. Take a week off and use it to restore.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Negative emotions can spiral. If you want to stop letting yourself sink down into bad feelings, you can train yourself to let the light in. You can learn to find the bright side and stay positive, avoiding negativity in your life, and going about the process of improving yourself for the better.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Finding the Bright Side\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start smiling more.\", \"描述\": \"When you smile, your brain activates neural messages that actually make you feel more positive. Even if you're feeling kind of \\\"blah,\\\" make your face do the work of brightening up your day. It works.\\nAn added bonus? When you smile, you'll spread positivity around to other people, putting other people in good moods as well. It's good for everyone.\\nIf you're not in a great mood, complaining about it won't make it any better. Practice forcing yourself to smile, and it'll become second nature.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make little changes in the words you use.\", \"描述\": \"It's easy to say things that can accidentally bring you down. Using positive words, as opposed to negative words, has a proven effect on your mood and your attitude.\\nDon't identify yourself with your feelings. Don't say, \\\"I am sad\\\" or \\\"I am frustrated.\\\" Instead, put the negativity elsewhere. Say, \\\"That movie made me feel sad\\\" or \\\"This task is difficult and frustrating.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do nice things for others, even if you don't feel like it.\", \"描述\": \"Not having a great day? That doesn't mean you have to act like it. Choose to spread positivity around, and the smiles you get in return will do a lot to make you think more positively. Here a few little ideas for things you can do to brighten someone else's day:\\nClean up the house before your partner or roommate gets home\\nPick up coffee or donuts for your office\\nMow your neighbor's yard, or shovel their driveway in winter\\nJust say hello and compliment a stranger\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be with people you enjoy.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to think positively, surround yourself with other positive thinkers, and with people who bring out the best in you. Hang out with people who are supportive, friendly, and like you for who you are.\\nIf you don't like hanging out with someone because they put you in a bad mood, stop hanging out with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find positive quotes or mantras to keep with you.\", \"描述\": \"One great way to keep your outlook bright is to keep little quotes or sayings that you like in your pocket, on your phone, or otherwise in your mind as you go about your day.\\nSubscribe to positive affirmation feeds on Pinterest, Twitter, or Facebook to keep your social networking more positive an influence in your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep a journal and record each day.\", \"描述\": \"If you sometimes end the day on a sour note, train yourself to turn that around. Instead, pour yourself a cup of tea, or another beverage of your choice, and sit down with a journal and write it out. Just sit down and start writing about your day. What happened? What went right? What went wrong? Put it all down.\\nWrite down three things that went well and explain why they went well. Write down three things that didn't go well, and explain why they didn't go well. Be as specific as possible in describing the events.\\nRead back over what you wrote. Sometimes, what seems super-dramatic in your mind will suddenly seem much more minor when you actually read it out. Was it really worth all that negativity?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoiding Negativity\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identify your negativity triggers.\", \"描述\": \"What puts you in a dark mood? What makes you feel bad? Identify the things that make you spiral into negative emotional states, so you can plan how to attack those triggers and get rid of them from your life.\\nDo you get angry or upset at a particular time of day? When a particular event happens? When you're around a particular person? What makes you angry?\\nMaybe you just have trouble feeling positive about much of anything. If you struggle to approach even your vacation day with a positive attitude, you might want to get checked out for signs of depression and talk to your doctor.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Only keep supportive friends.\", \"描述\": \"If someone in your life doesn't contribute to your mental well-being, they don't have a place in your life. People who stress you out, criticize you, or bring you down are a waste of your time and energy. Avoid these people or draw firm limits with them.\\nIf you have to hang out with someone who rubs you the wrong way, or you can't stop seeing someone, do your best to draw limits. Be honest with them and tell them that you really need your space and you'd prefer to be left alone.\\nAs the old saying goes, if you wish to stay positive, prevent negative-minded people.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give less weight to what other people say.\", \"描述\": \"If you feel good about something, let yourself feel good about it. If you don't care about something, don't let yourself be swayed by the opinions of others. Listen to your own voice and pay less attention to what other people have to say about you or your business.\\nDon't ask for other people's opinion if you don't really need it. What difference does it make it your coworker doesn't like the name you picked for your new pet cat? As long as it makes you happy, that's all that matters.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stop comparing yourself to others.\", \"描述\": \"Competition can bring up a lot of negativity in people. Avoid situations that force you to compare yourself or your skills to the skills of others. These situations can breed bad feelings, resentment, and anxiety. If you want to keep a positive mindset, avoid any situation that will force you to compare or compete with others.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay busy.\", \"描述\": \"Work hard and play hard. Fill up your schedule with activities that will keep you so busy you won't have time to sink back into negative feelings. If you're focused and productive, it's hard to feel negative about much of anything. Stay focused on the things you're doing and your accomplishments, not on anything else.\\nIn some people, staying busy helps to outrun feelings of negativity. In others, it creates it. Some people just need more downtime than others. If you're one of those people, make sure you get it for yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't sweat small stuff.\", \"描述\": \"Being happy and satisfied, spending time with family and friends–these are the important things. Anything else? Chalk it up under the category of \\\"small stuff.\\\" Do not sweat it.\\nBlock stuff on social networking that drives you crazy. If you've got a friend who won't stop humblebragging and making you annoyed, stop subscribing to their updates. 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How to Be a Power User
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1. Steps
1-1. Seriously consider using the command-line.
You can still tweet, instant message, play mp3 (with mplayer), browse the web (with Lynx or Links2), p2p (amulecmd), torrent (rtorrent), image edit (ImageMagick), read feeds (raggle), chat (irssi), ofm (midnight commander), manage downloads (axel, wget) and everything else. Linux and BSD make it easy to use the command-line, whereas OS X and especially Windows don't.
action
Windows/DOS
Windows Powershell,Mac OS X, Linux, BSD etc.
list directory
dir
ls
clear console
cls
clear
copy file(s)
copy
cp
move file(s)
move
mv
delete file(s)
del
rm
create directory
md
mkdir
remove directory
rd
rm
change current directory
cd
cd
current directory
cd, chdir
pwd
search
find
grep
concatenate
cat
cat
permissions
chmod
chmod
display/output text
echo
echo
add user
net user
adduser
If you must use a GUI read on to the next step. But the efficiency advantages of the CLI are as follows.
If you need to move all folders ending with "photos" this is easy in the command line but difficult and slow in a GUI.
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Command-line completion is also known as tab-completion and can speed things up.
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Pipe command-line output into other commands if needed.
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Shell aliases can be set in Linux.
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1-2. Consider a tiling window manager
Most systems use floating window managers where windows aren't automatically aligned and can overlap one another. If you spend a lot of time moving, resizing, maximizing, minimizing, restoring and generally switching windows then a tiling window manager might be for you. A TWM presents multiple windows on one screen aligned in a tile formation. The following is the manifesto of Ion, a dynamic tiling window manager with tabs for each frame."So-called “modern desktop environments” converge on total unusability, and present-day mainstream graphical user interfaces in general are far less usable than they are praised to be. Usability simply does not equal low learning curve, and hiding system details from the user, as the Official Truth seems to be these days."
Key
Tilingfunction
Alt+k
next tile
Alt+j
previous tile
Alt+space
switch layout
1-3. Ditch the mouse.
Use the keyboard. Set up key bindings for everything, basic windows operation and browsing . Learn the key bindings. Familiarize yourself with them.
Key
Operating systemfunction
Win+e
Opens My Computer in Windows Explorer
Win+f
Find
Win+m
Minimize all windows
Win+d
Toggle minimizeall windows
Win+r
Open run dialog
Ctrl+A
Select all
Ctrl+B
Bold
Ctrl+O
Open
Ctrl+C
Copy
Ctrl+X
Cut
Ctrl+V
Paste
Ctrl+Z
Undo
Ctrl+PgUp
Next tab
Ctrl+PgDn
Previous tab
Alt-tab
Switch open windows
Alt+F4
Quit app
Alt+F5
Restore window
Alt+F7
Move window
Alt+F8
Resize window
Alt+F9
Minimize window
Alt+F10
Maximize current window
.
Use application keyboard shortcuts (Vimperator and other Firefox add-ons are useful for this).
Key
Browser Function
Alt+left arrow
Back
Alt+right arrow
Forward
Alt+home
Home
Ctrl+L
Location/address bar
Ctrl+k
Search bar
Ctrl+T
New tab
Ctrl+W
Close tab
Ctrl+PgUp
Previous tab
Ctrl+PgDn
Next tab
Ctrl+R
Refresh
Ctrl+u
View source
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1-4. If you don't want to ditch the mouse totally, Use Mouse Gestures.
Strokeit (Windows), Opera (Cross platform), gMote (Windows), Easystroke (Linux), Mouse Gestures Redox (Firefox) are all applications.
1-5. Write scripts.
You won't become a programmer, but scripts help to automate common repetitive tasks. In Windows they're sometimes called batch files.
If you need to copy photos until you reach a certain number of megabytes, a script is needed.
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Use browser scripts. Greasemonkey, iMacros and Chickenfoot are some on Firefox. Opera supports user javascript.
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1-6. Use an Orthodox File Manager (OFM).
Also known as Commander-like, Midnight Commander is one for command-line users. Alternatively use something like Directory Opus, as long as you don't use a basic (usually bundled) file manager. Again, it is all about key bindings, so learn the keyboard shortcuts.
Key
OFM Function
F1
help
F2
user menu/scripting
F3
view
F4
edit
F5
copy
F6
move
F7
new directory
F8
delete
F9
top menu
F10
quit
1-7. Turn off any eye-candy that might slow you down.
In Windows, right-click My Computer, Properties, Advanced, under Performance click Settings, then Adjust for Best Performance.
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In KDE 4+, press Alt+F3, then Configure Window Behaviour, then Desktop Effects then uncheck Enable Desktop Effects.
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1-8. Choose appropriate software.
Don't just use the bundled software just because it's bundled, unless it's a conscious decision.
Choose a web browser, don't just use the bundled one because it's bundled.
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Organize your audio and images with appropriate software designed for this purpose.
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Don't use a word-processor where a decent plain text editor will do. . Where you don't need to format documents, use plain text.
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Asterisk * matches any number of what's before it, from zero to infinity.
? matches zero or one.
+ matches one or more.
For chatrooms use IRC. For forums use Usenet.
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1-9. Use a job scheduler for regular tasks.
In Windows use Task Manager, in Mac OS X use Launchd, in Linux/BSD use cron/anacron.
1-10. Power users in word processing use styles (or even Latex) for formatting documents.
Tips
Have multiple user accounts on your computer. This is especially true if there are multiple users on a single computer, but it also holds true if you're the only user of a particular computer. It's better (safer) to run as limited user instead of root/Administrator most of the time.
Use feeds (RSS/Atom) to receive web updates. It's quicker than visiting multiple websites.
Warnings
Many myths exist about performance[3]
X
Research source
including;
defragging,
turning off services,
registry cleaning,
memory optimization software tools.
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Choose appropriate software.\\nDon't just use the bundled software just because it's bundled, unless it's a conscious decision.\\n\\nChoose a web browser, don't just use the bundled one because it's bundled.\\n\\n{\\\"smallUrl\\\":\\\"https:\\\\/\\\\/www.wikihow.com\\\\/images\\\\/thumb\\\\/4\\\\/43\\\\/Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet1.jpg\\\\/v4-460px-Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet1.jpg\\\",\\\"bigUrl\\\":\\\"\\\\/images\\\\/thumb\\\\/4\\\\/43\\\\/Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet1.jpg\\\\/aid801259-v4-706px-Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet1.jpg\\\",\\\"smallWidth\\\":460,\\\"smallHeight\\\":365,\\\"bigWidth\\\":706,\\\"bigHeight\\\":560,\\\"licensing\\\":\\\"<div class=\\\\\\\"mw-parser-output\\\\\\\"><p>License: <a target=\\\\\\\"_blank\\\\\\\" rel=\\\\\\\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\\\\\\\" class=\\\\\\\"external text\\\\\\\" href=\\\\\\\"https:\\\\/\\\\/creativecommons.org\\\\/licenses\\\\/by-nc-sa\\\\/3.0\\\\/\\\\\\\">Creative Commons<\\\\/a><br>\\\\n<\\\\/p><p><br \\\\/>\\\\n<\\\\/p><\\\\/div>\\\"}\\nOrganize your audio and images with appropriate software designed for this purpose.\\n\\n{\\\"smallUrl\\\":\\\"https:\\\\/\\\\/www.wikihow.com\\\\/images\\\\/thumb\\\\/9\\\\/9b\\\\/Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet2.jpg\\\\/v4-460px-Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet2.jpg\\\",\\\"bigUrl\\\":\\\"\\\\/images\\\\/thumb\\\\/9\\\\/9b\\\\/Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet2.jpg\\\\/aid801259-v4-728px-Be-a-Power-User-Step-8Bullet2.jpg\\\",\\\"smallWidth\\\":460,\\\"smallHeight\\\":287,\\\"bigWidth\\\":728,\\\"bigHeight\\\":454,\\\"licensing\\\":\\\"<div class=\\\\\\\"mw-parser-output\\\\\\\"><p>License: <a target=\\\\\\\"_blank\\\\\\\" rel=\\\\\\\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\\\\\\\" class=\\\\\\\"external text\\\\\\\" href=\\\\\\\"https:\\\\/\\\\/creativecommons.org\\\\/licenses\\\\/by-nc-sa\\\\/3.0\\\\/\\\\\\\">Creative Commons<\\\\/a><br>\\\\n<\\\\/p><p><br \\\\/>\\\\n<\\\\/p><\\\\/div>\\\"}\\nDon't use a word-processor where a decent plain text editor will do. . 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1. Dressing in the Preppy Style
1-1. Purchase the “staple” preppy clothes if you don't already have them.
Preppy style is very modest and clean cut, with cute, well-fitting, and well-made items. You might have many of them in your closet already, so keep track of what you have before buying new clothes. Common preppy clothing items include:
Plain colored t-shirts in white, navy blue, pastel colors, red, and neutrals
Solid or striped blouses in bright, eye-catching colors like pink, blue and white
Dark wash skinny jeans and khaki pants
Plain colored cardigans in pastel or basic colors
Navy, black, or white colored blazers
Solid color chino shorts in khaki, navy, or white
Riding boots, boat shoes, and basic ballet flats
1-2. Follow preppy brands and bloggers on social media.
Preppy girls tend to refer to specific brands that make clothing of their style most often. Following the brands on social media will give you ideas for how to style pieces and show you what's trendy and fashionable for this season. You don't have to necessarily buy the brand name, in fact.
Some popular preppy brands to get inspiration from are Vineyard Vines, Brooks Brothers, Ralph Lauren, Tory Burch, Lacoste, Kate Spade, Lilly Pulitzer, Kendra Scott, Simply Southern, Ann Taylor Loft, Tommy Hilfiger, and J. Crew.
It's easy to find affordable, preppy-style items at stores like Target, Old Navy, and T.J. Maxx. At these stores, you can get the look you want without spending quite as much money on the designer name!
1-3. Mix and match pieces to create different outfits.
One of the best parts about having a preppy wardrobe is the ability to match different pieces to create unique outfits. Layering, print-mixing, and pairing bright colors with neutrals are all techniques used to make the perfect preppy outfit.
For a nice dinner out in the summer, you could wear a printed skirt, solid shirt to match, a bright statement necklace, and strappy sandals
For school in the winter, you can wear red and white striped sweater layered over a light chambray shirt, dark-wash skinny jeans, brown leather riding boots, and ruffled socks.
For school in the springtime, you can wear a pair of floral chino shorts with a matching colored polo tucked in, a brown belt, and a pair of boat shoes.
On a casual summer day, wear a short sleeve t-shirt, white chino shorts, with a matching pair of canvas sneakers, and statement headband.
During the colder months, wear a long sleeve shirt or blouse, dark wash skinny jeans, riding boots, a warm headband, and layer a fuzzy jacket over top.
1-4. Accessorize
Accessories are extremely important to the preppy style, and will help pull your look together. Preppy girls tend to wear statement jewelry, large tote bags, and sleek belts.
You can pair a neutral-colored tote bag with almost any outfit, and they're extremely functional, especially for going to work or class!
Sleek belts in black, navy, red, or tan can help to pull a look together and accentuate your waist.
Add a statement necklace to an outfit to draw attention to your upper body and face. This is a great accessory to spice up plain outfits like jeans and a t-shirt.
Wear plain earrings, like studs, to complement your look. For a fancier event, you can wear a matching necklace and earring set.
Nautical rope bracelets are very popular for casual wear, as well as metal bangle charm bracelets. They come in different colors and can complete a more muted outfit.
2. Grooming
2-1. Style your hair in a sleek and clean look.
Hairstyles for preppy girls are easy whether your hair is straight, curly or somewhere in between. Make sure your hair is clean, and use hairspray and styling mousse to tame flyaways or frizz.
For a plain, cute look, wear your hair down and natural with a barrette or bobby pin holding some hair off to the side.
Accessorize a curled look with a statement headband. Plain headbands tend to blend better with the classic preppy stereotype. Bright, colored bands might be too much.
Do sleek braids in your hair to keep it out of your face on days where you're busy.
Pull your hair into a medium-height ponytail with a bow for a quick and simple hairdo.
2-2. Wash your face every day to prevent breakouts.
Having clear skin is especially important for preppy girls because they tend to wear more natural looking makeup. Wash your face every day with a gentle cleanser before you go to sleep.
If you get breakouts often, which are sometimes inevitable, use a face wash that is specifically formulated for acne treatment.
If you have sensitive skin, look for an unscented cleanser to avoid irritating your face, which can make skincare difficult.
2-3. Wear simple makeup
For preppy girls, foundation, mascara, light eyeliner, blush and lipstick are the key components to most makeup looks. The key is to keep it simple and highlight your natural beauty.
Apply your concealer and foundation in areas where you have redness or breakouts. If you're comfortable with your natural skin, you don't have to wear foundation at all.
Avoid using bright or dark eyeshadow colors. For a clean and classic preppy look, apply a light brown color all over your lid before applying eyeliner and mascara.
Make sure your mascara doesn't clump. If it does, select a mascara with a smoother formula or use a wand with smaller bristles.
Use a light pink or red blush on the apples of your cheeks to give you a pretty glow.
Apply light pink or neutral colored lipstick for everyday looks. On days where you want to stand out, use bright red lipstick with blue undertones.
2-4. Maintain good personal hygiene.
This includes showering every day and brushing your teeth twice a day. Good hygiene is a huge part of maintaining the put-together and clean cut preppy look.
If your teeth have a natural yellow tint to them, you might try teeth whitening. There are many different options for whitening, so you should talk to your dentist before trying a new method.
2-5. Keep your nails trimmed and wear nail polish if you're comfortable with it.
Avoid bright colored nail polish because it can clash with different colors or prints in your outfit. Instead, pick light creams and pinks, or a French tip style that goes with any look.
If you're not good at applying polish or trimming your nails, consider getting a basic or gel manicure once or twice per month. Avoid long acrylic nails, which can get dirty easily and tend to look less professional.
Gel nail polish will last longer than a basic manicure, but tends to be slightly more expensive. For regular nail maintenance like trimming, filing, and cuticle care, you can get a manicure without polish or with clear polish.
2-6. Select a light, muted perfume as your signature scent.
Choose a scent that isn't overpowering, such as a light floral smell, or a clean scent. Apply only 1-2 sprays each day to avoid smelling too strong.
A good perfume is especially helpful for hot summer days when you might sweat a lot. It can help you to smell good all day long!
3. Having a Preppy Attitude
3-1. Be confident
Preppy girls have brains, a sense of classic style, and an optimistic outlook. Part of the classic preppy look comes from confidence in timeless clothing. As a preppy girl, be confident in yourself by holding your head high, speaking with conviction, and being proud of who you are.
If you have problems with low self esteem, changing your style might be the first step to gaining some confidence in yourself.
3-2. Be classy
Avoid using bad language, gossiping, or doing things that are considered tacky or tasteless. Be polite to other people by minding your manners, and always think before speaking.
It can be difficult to remain classy, especially if your friends aren't always. Try your hardest to always be pleasant and have a smile on your face.
3-3. Try some “preppy” sports.
You don't have to play a preppy sport to have preppy style, but there are a few unique sports that are played most often by preppy girls. Rowing, tennis, volleyball, Lacrosse, sailing, golf, track and field, ballet, swimming, field hockey, soccer, horseback riding, and cheerleading are all popular sports for preppy girls.
Anything that gets you moving and makes you feel good is a positive addition to your style, so don't feel confined to a list of a few “preppy” sports if they don't interest you.
3-4. Be nice
You don't have to be best friends with everyone, but you shouldn't be rude or mean to other people. Try to be pleasant, kind, and cheerful. Avoid gossiping, bullying, or manipulating other people.
If you see another person is struggling, try to help them out. Going out of your way to help someone is kind and can really go a long way toward making them feel good.
Tips
Having a preppy style doesn't mean you have to spend a lot of money. Keep your eye out for sales and deals whenever you can, and build your preppy wardrobe over time.
Don't be afraid to add your own style to your preppy look by complementing your outfits or makeup with a twist of your own.
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Following the brands on social media will give you ideas for how to style pieces and show you what's trendy and fashionable for this season. You don't have to necessarily buy the brand name, in fact.\\nSome popular preppy brands to get inspiration from are Vineyard Vines, Brooks Brothers, Ralph Lauren, Tory Burch, Lacoste, Kate Spade, Lilly Pulitzer, Kendra Scott, Simply Southern, Ann Taylor Loft, Tommy Hilfiger, and J. Crew.\\nIt's easy to find affordable, preppy-style items at stores like Target, Old Navy, and T.J. Maxx. At these stores, you can get the look you want without spending quite as much money on the designer name!\\n1-3. Mix and match pieces to create different outfits.\\nOne of the best parts about having a preppy wardrobe is the ability to match different pieces to create unique outfits. Layering, print-mixing, and pairing bright colors with neutrals are all techniques used to make the perfect preppy outfit.\\nFor a nice dinner out in the summer, you could wear a printed skirt, solid shirt to match, a bright statement necklace, and strappy sandals\\nFor school in the winter, you can wear red and white striped sweater layered over a light chambray shirt, dark-wash skinny jeans, brown leather riding boots, and ruffled socks.\\nFor school in the springtime, you can wear a pair of floral chino shorts with a matching colored polo tucked in, a brown belt, and a pair of boat shoes.\\nOn a casual summer day, wear a short sleeve t-shirt, white chino shorts, with a matching pair of canvas sneakers, and statement headband.\\nDuring the colder months, wear a long sleeve shirt or blouse, dark wash skinny jeans, riding boots, a warm headband, and layer a fuzzy jacket over top.\\n1-4. Accessorize\\nAccessories are extremely important to the preppy style, and will help pull your look together. Preppy girls tend to wear statement jewelry, large tote bags, and sleek belts.\\nYou can pair a neutral-colored tote bag with almost any outfit, and they're extremely functional, especially for going to work or class!\\nSleek belts in black, navy, red, or tan can help to pull a look together and accentuate your waist.\\nAdd a statement necklace to an outfit to draw attention to your upper body and face. This is a great accessory to spice up plain outfits like jeans and a t-shirt.\\nWear plain earrings, like studs, to complement your look. For a fancier event, you can wear a matching necklace and earring set.\\nNautical rope bracelets are very popular for casual wear, as well as metal bangle charm bracelets. They come in different colors and can complete a more muted outfit.\\n2. Grooming\\n2-1. Style your hair in a sleek and clean look.\\nHairstyles for preppy girls are easy whether your hair is straight, curly or somewhere in between. Make sure your hair is clean, and use hairspray and styling mousse to tame flyaways or frizz.\\nFor a plain, cute look, wear your hair down and natural with a barrette or bobby pin holding some hair off to the side.\\nAccessorize a curled look with a statement headband. Plain headbands tend to blend better with the classic preppy stereotype. Bright, colored bands might be too much.\\nDo sleek braids in your hair to keep it out of your face on days where you're busy.\\nPull your hair into a medium-height ponytail with a bow for a quick and simple hairdo.\\n2-2. Wash your face every day to prevent breakouts.\\nHaving clear skin is especially important for preppy girls because they tend to wear more natural looking makeup. Wash your face every day with a gentle cleanser before you go to sleep.\\nIf you get breakouts often, which are sometimes inevitable, use a face wash that is specifically formulated for acne treatment.\\nIf you have sensitive skin, look for an unscented cleanser to avoid irritating your face, which can make skincare difficult.\\n2-3. Wear simple makeup\\nFor preppy girls, foundation, mascara, light eyeliner, blush and lipstick are the key components to most makeup looks. The key is to keep it simple and highlight your natural beauty.\\n\\nApply your concealer and foundation in areas where you have redness or breakouts. If you're comfortable with your natural skin, you don't have to wear foundation at all.\\nAvoid using bright or dark eyeshadow colors. For a clean and classic preppy look, apply a light brown color all over your lid before applying eyeliner and mascara.\\nMake sure your mascara doesn't clump. If it does, select a mascara with a smoother formula or use a wand with smaller bristles.\\nUse a light pink or red blush on the apples of your cheeks to give you a pretty glow.\\nApply light pink or neutral colored lipstick for everyday looks. On days where you want to stand out, use bright red lipstick with blue undertones.\\n2-4. Maintain good personal hygiene.\\nThis includes showering every day and brushing your teeth twice a day. Good hygiene is a huge part of maintaining the put-together and clean cut preppy look.\\nIf your teeth have a natural yellow tint to them, you might try teeth whitening. There are many different options for whitening, so you should talk to your dentist before trying a new method.\\n2-5. Keep your nails trimmed and wear nail polish if you're comfortable with it.\\nAvoid bright colored nail polish because it can clash with different colors or prints in your outfit. Instead, pick light creams and pinks, or a French tip style that goes with any look.\\nIf you're not good at applying polish or trimming your nails, consider getting a basic or gel manicure once or twice per month. Avoid long acrylic nails, which can get dirty easily and tend to look less professional.\\nGel nail polish will last longer than a basic manicure, but tends to be slightly more expensive. For regular nail maintenance like trimming, filing, and cuticle care, you can get a manicure without polish or with clear polish.\\n2-6. Select a light, muted perfume as your signature scent.\\nChoose a scent that isn't overpowering, such as a light floral smell, or a clean scent. Apply only 1-2 sprays each day to avoid smelling too strong.\\nA good perfume is especially helpful for hot summer days when you might sweat a lot. It can help you to smell good all day long!\\n3. Having a Preppy Attitude\\n3-1. Be confident\\nPreppy girls have brains, a sense of classic style, and an optimistic outlook. Part of the classic preppy look comes from confidence in timeless clothing. As a preppy girl, be confident in yourself by holding your head high, speaking with conviction, and being proud of who you are.\\nIf you have problems with low self esteem, changing your style might be the first step to gaining some confidence in yourself.\\n3-2. Be classy\\nAvoid using bad language, gossiping, or doing things that are considered tacky or tasteless. Be polite to other people by minding your manners, and always think before speaking.\\nIt can be difficult to remain classy, especially if your friends aren't always. Try your hardest to always be pleasant and have a smile on your face.\\n3-3. Try some “preppy” sports.\\nYou don't have to play a preppy sport to have preppy style, but there are a few unique sports that are played most often by preppy girls. Rowing, tennis, volleyball, Lacrosse, sailing, golf, track and field, ballet, swimming, field hockey, soccer, horseback riding, and cheerleading are all popular sports for preppy girls.\\nAnything that gets you moving and makes you feel good is a positive addition to your style, so don't feel confined to a list of a few “preppy” sports if they don't interest you.\\n3-4. Be nice\\nYou don't have to be best friends with everyone, but you shouldn't be rude or mean to other people. Try to be pleasant, kind, and cheerful. Avoid gossiping, bullying, or manipulating other people.\\nIf you see another person is struggling, try to help them out. Going out of your way to help someone is kind and can really go a long way toward making them feel good.\\nTips\\nHaving a preppy style doesn't mean you have to spend a lot of money. Keep your eye out for sales and deals whenever you can, and build your preppy wardrobe over time.\\nDon't be afraid to add your own style to your preppy look by complementing your outfits or makeup with a twist of your own.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"\\\"Prep\\\" style clothing comes from \\\"the prep school look\\\"; the smart students aiming for college and professional careers. It has a focus on smart, classic, understated looks. But this look has a fun side, as it combines fun prints with bold colors to create a modest and classy look for young adults. It's extremely easy to make the style your own! 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1. Steps
1-1. Wear respectable brand name clothes.
A sampling of such brands might include Polo, Ralph Lauren, Brooks Brothers, Lacoste, J. Crew, Hickey Freeman, Paul & Shark, Peter Millar, J. Press, Southern Tide, and Vineyard Vines. Hollister, Abercrombie, Aeropostale, and A.E are not the conventional preppy but some of their designs are classic.
1-2. Especially Rugby shirts, chinos in light colors and shirts make you look preppy.
1-3. Shop for clothes that come in classic colors, although this is by no means a definitive list:
pink, sky blue, navy blue, lime green, Nantucket red, or yellow. Looking at some clothing from the brands above will probably give you a good idea. Buy clothes that have colors that match well and look good on you. For example, a redhead will look better with green than pink or lavender unless he has blue eyes.
1-4. Develop a comfortable but clean look.
Find classic looking belts, preferably tan/light brown. Make sure the belt is leather if it is a dress belt, and canvas with leather tips if it is for casual occasions. Make sure it is not covered in little tacky bits or studs etc.
1-5. Wear leather moccasins, and boat shoes (top-siders) or leather flip flops in the summer.
Wearing a pair of top-siders without socks is classic preppy.
1-6. Pick a scent and stick to it.
Don't use different scents of shampoo, conditioner, body wash, aftershave, deodorant and cologne. Buy a matching set. Don't put too much on.
1-7. Consider that if you wear glasses, try wearing cool-looking glasses or consider contacts.
Dark rimmed glasses are geeky or scene/emo/punk, etc. Try getting rim-less glasses and clean them everyday to look sophisticated. Lately though, Buddy Holly styled glasses have been making a comeback on the runway. If you wear nothing but preppy clothes, then this would completely work well with a nice cardigan or sweater. Also, many preppies in history (such as Barry Goldwater) have worn nerdy glasses, & the subculture often overlaps with preppies, so any glasses could work.
1-8. Keep simple hair.
A common preppy hairstyle is the shaggy look or the fluffy look, or hair just parted on the side and short. Lately, many preppy guys are going away from the long hair styles and back to traditional shorter hairstyles. Think the 1940s and 1950s crop top and crew cut. No unnatural hair colors or shaved hair. If it is shaved, have it shaved modestly. Keep your hair looking natural! Hair gel is all right if it is done modestly, but don't overdo it.
1-9. Be fresh and neat.
Have clean, trimmed fingernails. File and buff your nails to make them healthy - don't bite them. Keep your lips moisturized. Chapped, cracked lips are unsightly. Shave and comb your hair as often as you need to. Don't wear wrinkled or stained clothes. Stay away from ripped jeans; this is for wannabe preppy and ripped jeans are 1990s and 2000s fashions. Brush twice or thrice and floss your teeth once or twice a day. Whiten your teeth if necessary. Be well groomed. Avoid tattoos and getting pierced.
1-10. Look healthy.
Get toned and take in some sun color, just don't overdo it. Don't burn your skin, use sunscreen. Don't use tanning beds either. Drink lots of water, take vitamins and eat lean protein. Take excellent care of your skin (use lotion), teeth, hair, and nails.
1-11. Participate in some kind of sport.
Crew, Cross Country, horseback riding, lacrosse, track, polo, rugby, football, golf, sailing, skiing, squash and tennis are classic examples of preppy sports. If it is in the Olympics, it is preppy. Even if you don't do a sport, you should stay fit as possible. For high school sports, try sports such as tennis, Cross Country, golf, swimming, soccer, track etc. Lift weights for toning and staying lean but don't develop huge bodybuilder muscles.
1-12. Join the choir, preferably the madrigals or orchestra if you are musical.
Don't start your own band. If you do play a band instrument, make sure you are in symphonic band, jazz band, or solo and ensemble contests. Don't obsess on marching or pep band. A community band is better than high school band.
1-13. Act friendly and outgoing...
a little shy is OK, but be nice. Smile. Stand up straight. Avoid getting people angry. Forget talking about money - it can put people off.
1-14. Study hard and remember to keep your grades up, preferably 3.0 GPA at minimum and above, because preps are also known as being smart and hard working on top of their looks and lifestyle.
They get into good preppy colleges because they try to work hard. Use good grammar. Many preps end up getting into Ivy League or Private Universities because of their grades, sports and high SAT scores. Keep up with what is going on in the world and financial markets. If you don't understand investing money basics - read books and learn.
1-15. Read etiquette books.
Don't laugh! Good manners is not just for girls or older men. It shows people you have had a good upbringing. Use basic politeness such as please, thank you and excuse me. Be considerate and hold doors for people. Don't wear a hat indoors. Keep your cell phone in check and put it on vibrate when you go to a public place. Never use slang or talk back or roll your eyes.
Tips
Walk into any 'preppy' labeled store [Saks Fifth Avenue, Brooks Brothers, etc.] and check out the clothing. Note patterns in the style, cut, and colors. That's what you want to be wearing.
Take advantage to what your school has to offer. There are plenty of opportunities to meet people. For example, you can work on the school newspaper or join your local Future Business Leaders of America (FBLA) club, a business or marketing club is always a great preppy association choice. If you want to get into a good college after high school, it helps to be involved with outside interests. Be a "Big Brother" or look around your community - what can you do to help it.
Apply to a good fraternity, based on what your male predecessors may have been in (having a legacy is always a positive) or based on where you're from (Northern or Southern, basically.)
Warnings
Don't be loud and obnoxious. Be courteous towards everyone. Remember that being a prep is gearing to be a gentleman from an upper class. You can wear the "right" clothes but the behavior has to change as well too.
Don't be a snob or rude. Remember that while you act preppy, and dress preppy, not everyone wants to or can afford to. Be preppy and proud, but tolerant, welcoming, and nonjudgmental towards other types of people. Acting snobby just gives preps a bad name and is a sign of poor upbringing. Do not boast or brag about your things. Do not talk about family money ever. Also learn how to properly introduce yourself and greet people.
There are people who don't like preps. Beware of haters. They'll try to prank on you or embarrass you.
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Make sure the belt is leather if it is a dress belt, and canvas with leather tips if it is for casual occasions. Make sure it is not covered in little tacky bits or studs etc.\\n1-5. Wear leather moccasins, and boat shoes (top-siders) or leather flip flops in the summer.\\nWearing a pair of top-siders without socks is classic preppy.\\n1-6. Pick a scent and stick to it.\\nDon't use different scents of shampoo, conditioner, body wash, aftershave, deodorant and cologne. Buy a matching set. Don't put too much on.\\n1-7. Consider that if you wear glasses, try wearing cool-looking glasses or consider contacts.\\nDark rimmed glasses are geeky or scene/emo/punk, etc. Try getting rim-less glasses and clean them everyday to look sophisticated. Lately though, Buddy Holly styled glasses have been making a comeback on the runway. If you wear nothing but preppy clothes, then this would completely work well with a nice cardigan or sweater. Also, many preppies in history (such as Barry Goldwater) have worn nerdy glasses, & the subculture often overlaps with preppies, so any glasses could work.\\n1-8. Keep simple hair.\\nA common preppy hairstyle is the shaggy look or the fluffy look, or hair just parted on the side and short. Lately, many preppy guys are going away from the long hair styles and back to traditional shorter hairstyles. Think the 1940s and 1950s crop top and crew cut. No unnatural hair colors or shaved hair. If it is shaved, have it shaved modestly. Keep your hair looking natural! Hair gel is all right if it is done modestly, but don't overdo it.\\n1-9. Be fresh and neat.\\nHave clean, trimmed fingernails. File and buff your nails to make them healthy - don't bite them. Keep your lips moisturized. Chapped, cracked lips are unsightly. Shave and comb your hair as often as you need to. Don't wear wrinkled or stained clothes. Stay away from ripped jeans; this is for wannabe preppy and ripped jeans are 1990s and 2000s fashions. Brush twice or thrice and floss your teeth once or twice a day. Whiten your teeth if necessary. Be well groomed. Avoid tattoos and getting pierced.\\n1-10. Look healthy.\\nGet toned and take in some sun color, just don't overdo it. Don't burn your skin, use sunscreen. Don't use tanning beds either. Drink lots of water, take vitamins and eat lean protein. Take excellent care of your skin (use lotion), teeth, hair, and nails.\\n1-11. Participate in some kind of sport.\\nCrew, Cross Country, horseback riding, lacrosse, track, polo, rugby, football, golf, sailing, skiing, squash and tennis are classic examples of preppy sports. If it is in the Olympics, it is preppy. Even if you don't do a sport, you should stay fit as possible. For high school sports, try sports such as tennis, Cross Country, golf, swimming, soccer, track etc. Lift weights for toning and staying lean but don't develop huge bodybuilder muscles.\\n1-12. Join the choir, preferably the madrigals or orchestra if you are musical.\\nDon't start your own band. If you do play a band instrument, make sure you are in symphonic band, jazz band, or solo and ensemble contests. Don't obsess on marching or pep band. A community band is better than high school band.\\n1-13. Act friendly and outgoing...\\na little shy is OK, but be nice. Smile. Stand up straight. Avoid getting people angry. Forget talking about money - it can put people off.\\n1-14. Study hard and remember to keep your grades up, preferably 3.0 GPA at minimum and above, because preps are also known as being smart and hard working on top of their looks and lifestyle.\\nThey get into good preppy colleges because they try to work hard. Use good grammar. Many preps end up getting into Ivy League or Private Universities because of their grades, sports and high SAT scores. Keep up with what is going on in the world and financial markets. If you don't understand investing money basics - read books and learn.\\n1-15. Read etiquette books.\\nDon't laugh! Good manners is not just for girls or older men. It shows people you have had a good upbringing. Use basic politeness such as please, thank you and excuse me. Be considerate and hold doors for people. Don't wear a hat indoors. Keep your cell phone in check and put it on vibrate when you go to a public place. Never use slang or talk back or roll your eyes.\\nTips\\nWalk into any 'preppy' labeled store [Saks Fifth Avenue, Brooks Brothers, etc.] and check out the clothing. Note patterns in the style, cut, and colors. That's what you want to be wearing.\\nTake advantage to what your school has to offer. There are plenty of opportunities to meet people. For example, you can work on the school newspaper or join your local Future Business Leaders of America (FBLA) club, a business or marketing club is always a great preppy association choice. If you want to get into a good college after high school, it helps to be involved with outside interests. Be a \\\"Big Brother\\\" or look around your community - what can you do to help it.\\nApply to a good fraternity, based on what your male predecessors may have been in (having a legacy is always a positive) or based on where you're from (Northern or Southern, basically.)\\nWarnings\\nDon't be loud and obnoxious. Be courteous towards everyone. Remember that being a prep is gearing to be a gentleman from an upper class. You can wear the \\\"right\\\" clothes but the behavior has to change as well too.\\nDon't be a snob or rude. Remember that while you act preppy, and dress preppy, not everyone wants to or can afford to. Be preppy and proud, but tolerant, welcoming, and nonjudgmental towards other types of people. Acting snobby just gives preps a bad name and is a sign of poor upbringing. Do not boast or brag about your things. Do not talk about family money ever. Also learn how to properly introduce yourself and greet people.\\nThere are people who don't like preps. Beware of haters. They'll try to prank on you or embarrass you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Looking like a prep is one thing, and many tips out there are directed towards preppy girls. But here's a guide specifically on how to act and become a preppy guy.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear respectable brand name clothes.\", \"描述\": \"A sampling of such brands might include Polo, Ralph Lauren, Brooks Brothers, Lacoste, J. Crew, Hickey Freeman, Paul & Shark, Peter Millar, J. Press, Southern Tide, and Vineyard Vines. Hollister, Abercrombie, Aeropostale, and A.E are not the conventional preppy but some of their designs are classic.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Especially Rugby shirts, chinos in light colors and shirts make you look preppy.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Shop for clothes that come in classic colors, although this is by no means a definitive list:\", \"描述\": \"pink, sky blue, navy blue, lime green, Nantucket red, or yellow. Looking at some clothing from the brands above will probably give you a good idea. Buy clothes that have colors that match well and look good on you. For example, a redhead will look better with green than pink or lavender unless he has blue eyes.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Develop a comfortable but clean look.\", \"描述\": \"Find classic looking belts, preferably tan/light brown. Make sure the belt is leather if it is a dress belt, and canvas with leather tips if it is for casual occasions. Make sure it is not covered in little tacky bits or studs etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wear leather moccasins, and boat shoes (top-siders) or leather flip flops in the summer.\", \"描述\": \"Wearing a pair of top-siders without socks is classic preppy.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Pick a scent and stick to it.\", \"描述\": \"Don't use different scents of shampoo, conditioner, body wash, aftershave, deodorant and cologne. Buy a matching set. Don't put too much on.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Consider that if you wear glasses, try wearing cool-looking glasses or consider contacts.\", \"描述\": \"Dark rimmed glasses are geeky or scene/emo/punk, etc. Try getting rim-less glasses and clean them everyday to look sophisticated. Lately though, Buddy Holly styled glasses have been making a comeback on the runway. If you wear nothing but preppy clothes, then this would completely work well with a nice cardigan or sweater. Also, many preppies in history (such as Barry Goldwater) have worn nerdy glasses, & the subculture often overlaps with preppies, so any glasses could work.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Keep simple hair.\", \"描述\": \"A common preppy hairstyle is the shaggy look or the fluffy look, or hair just parted on the side and short. Lately, many preppy guys are going away from the long hair styles and back to traditional shorter hairstyles. Think the 1940s and 1950s crop top and crew cut. No unnatural hair colors or shaved hair. If it is shaved, have it shaved modestly. Keep your hair looking natural! Hair gel is all right if it is done modestly, but don't overdo it.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be fresh and neat.\", \"描述\": \"Have clean, trimmed fingernails. File and buff your nails to make them healthy - don't bite them. Keep your lips moisturized. Chapped, cracked lips are unsightly. Shave and comb your hair as often as you need to. Don't wear wrinkled or stained clothes. Stay away from ripped jeans; this is for wannabe preppy and ripped jeans are 1990s and 2000s fashions. Brush twice or thrice and floss your teeth once or twice a day. Whiten your teeth if necessary. Be well groomed. Avoid tattoos and getting pierced.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Look healthy.\", \"描述\": \"Get toned and take in some sun color, just don't overdo it. Don't burn your skin, use sunscreen. Don't use tanning beds either. Drink lots of water, take vitamins and eat lean protein. Take excellent care of your skin (use lotion), teeth, hair, and nails.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Participate in some kind of sport.\", \"描述\": \"Crew, Cross Country, horseback riding, lacrosse, track, polo, rugby, football, golf, sailing, skiing, squash and tennis are classic examples of preppy sports. If it is in the Olympics, it is preppy. Even if you don't do a sport, you should stay fit as possible. For high school sports, try sports such as tennis, Cross Country, golf, swimming, soccer, track etc. Lift weights for toning and staying lean but don't develop huge bodybuilder muscles.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Join the choir, preferably the madrigals or orchestra if you are musical.\", \"描述\": \"Don't start your own band. If you do play a band instrument, make sure you are in symphonic band, jazz band, or solo and ensemble contests. Don't obsess on marching or pep band. A community band is better than high school band.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Act friendly and outgoing...\", \"描述\": \"a little shy is OK, but be nice. Smile. Stand up straight. Avoid getting people angry. 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How to Be a Pretty 10 Year Old Girl
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1. Steps
1-1. Experiment with different clothes and outfits to find what you like.
Remember, not everyone has the same likings of clothes style. You can still be pretty even if you can't afford new clothes. Wear whatever makes you come alive, and the right people will compliment you.
Wear clothes that make you happy, not what makes other people happy. Don't worry too much about what other people think or what is called "age appropriate", wear what makes you feel good. Wear leggings, jeans, shorts, skirts, crop tops and dresses. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and good. Wash your clothing once a week, and make sure that they are stain free. Wear the outfit you like best, and always smile when you're happy to let out the best in you!
Tune into Instagram, fashion magazines, and new celebrity looks if you'd like to keep up with the latest trends.
Color trends are another great way to stay fashionable. Look at the colors of the season (like Pantone colors) and try to pick your wardrobe based on those.
Try to find bloggers who share the same style as you, too. That can be a great outlet to figure out what's in style.
1-2. Adapt your own style.
You are going to change rapidly over the next few years, if you aren't already changing. Adapting your sense of self now will take you further than ever. Be proud of who you are, and how you present yourself. So keeping clean, fresh, and coming off as being a polite person will come in handy. Finally, don't let other people get you down.
1-3. Be confident
Confidence is the key to being beautiful. Your personality shows a lot more than your looks.
1-4. Let your light shine.
Be nice to everyone. Help other people carry their groceries, pick up something a busy parent dropped. Do small deeds for people and you will feel good about yourself. If you see a chore that needs doing, try and get it over with. Your parents will thank you!
1-5. Don't get too stressed by your looks.
What you look like doesn't define you. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
1-6. Choose whether you wear makeup.
Never feel like you have to. You're gorgeous anyway and no one has to wear makeup. You can wear it if you want to though.
The same applies for accessories like expensive handbags and jewelry. You do not not need to wear them unless you want to.
1-7. Adopt good hygiene.
You're going through changes (or will be soon) and you need to get in the habit of showering daily, brushing your teeth twice a day, and wearing deodorant.
1-8. Be neat and clean
Have clean nails and make sure there is no dirt under them. You can wear acrylic nails or nail polish if you want to. If you wear nail polish or acrylic nails all the time, your nails won't be as nice when you're older.
1-9. Be healthy
Eat decent food more often than junk. Everybody needs a healthy lifestyle to keep them alert and help them to live longer. You should eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, move enough every day to get your heart rate up, and drink plenty of water (this means drinking water whenever you are thirsty). This will help give your skin a natural, healthy look even if you don't wear makeup.
1-10. Try your best in school.
Study hard and if you need help, ask! Make your family proud by doing well on tests and getting good grades. Learn as much as you can about the world around you and try to have interesting things to say. No, you won't use everything you learn in school, but think of school as a way to teach you how to learn. It sounds funny, but this is a very useful skill.
1-11. Be yourself
Don't try to be someone you are not to impress others or make friends. When people see that you can be yourself and be likable without trying to be someone you're not, others will admire you. You are unique in your own way, and this makes you just as special as anyone else.
1-12. Don't let anyone make you believe you need to be in a relationship.
You can, there is no right age but you don't have to if you don't want to. Having to be in a relationship because of peer pressure is not good. But beware of hanging out with older, "cool" people. It could be dangerous for you. Stick around kids your age and be cautious with older children.
1-13. Be fun-loving.
Fun people smile more, and chances are that people will like you more that way.
1-14. Try to make friends.
If you're new in school, smile and try to make some jokes. It'll make the other kids think you're cool, and want to hang out with you. You never know--those people might be your best friends for life!
1-15. Smile
This will make people find you approachable and easy to talk to. Make sure you don't smile so much that it looks unnatural, however. Only show your teeth a little bit and make it look natural.
1-16. Have nice hair.
Wash it every one or two days.
Tips
Never make fun of anyone! It's hurtful and unkind.
If you like someone's hair or outfit, let them know! Everyone likes when they get a compliment tell them that you like it, because it makes people like you. It makes you look nice and easy to talk to.
Never care about what others think.
Warnings
Don't take this thing too far! If you just want to be yourself, it's okay.
If you are too concerned about being pretty and you feel stressed out, try to talk to someone.
The tips above for appearance are only guides! Follow fashion to get ideas so you don't have to worry so much about that you don't have to though
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Experiment with different clothes and outfits to find what you like.\\nRemember, not everyone has the same likings of clothes style. You can still be pretty even if you can't afford new clothes. Wear whatever makes you come alive, and the right people will compliment you.\\nWear clothes that make you happy, not what makes other people happy. Don't worry too much about what other people think or what is called \\\"age appropriate\\\", wear what makes you feel good. Wear leggings, jeans, shorts, skirts, crop tops and dresses. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and good. Wash your clothing once a week, and make sure that they are stain free. Wear the outfit you like best, and always smile when you're happy to let out the best in you!\\nTune into Instagram, fashion magazines, and new celebrity looks if you'd like to keep up with the latest trends.\\nColor trends are another great way to stay fashionable. Look at the colors of the season (like Pantone colors) and try to pick your wardrobe based on those.\\nTry to find bloggers who share the same style as you, too. That can be a great outlet to figure out what's in style.\\n1-2. Adapt your own style.\\nYou are going to change rapidly over the next few years, if you aren't already changing. Adapting your sense of self now will take you further than ever. Be proud of who you are, and how you present yourself. So keeping clean, fresh, and coming off as being a polite person will come in handy. Finally, don't let other people get you down.\\n1-3. Be confident\\nConfidence is the key to being beautiful. Your personality shows a lot more than your looks.\\n1-4. Let your light shine.\\nBe nice to everyone. Help other people carry their groceries, pick up something a busy parent dropped. Do small deeds for people and you will feel good about yourself. If you see a chore that needs doing, try and get it over with. Your parents will thank you!\\n1-5. Don't get too stressed by your looks.\\nWhat you look like doesn't define you. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.\\n1-6. Choose whether you wear makeup.\\nNever feel like you have to. You're gorgeous anyway and no one has to wear makeup. You can wear it if you want to though.\\nThe same applies for accessories like expensive handbags and jewelry. You do not not need to wear them unless you want to.\\n1-7. Adopt good hygiene.\\nYou're going through changes (or will be soon) and you need to get in the habit of showering daily, brushing your teeth twice a day, and wearing deodorant.\\n1-8. Be neat and clean\\nHave clean nails and make sure there is no dirt under them. You can wear acrylic nails or nail polish if you want to. If you wear nail polish or acrylic nails all the time, your nails won't be as nice when you're older.\\n1-9. Be healthy\\nEat decent food more often than junk. Everybody needs a healthy lifestyle to keep them alert and help them to live longer. You should eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, move enough every day to get your heart rate up, and drink plenty of water (this means drinking water whenever you are thirsty). This will help give your skin a natural, healthy look even if you don't wear makeup.\\n1-10. Try your best in school.\\nStudy hard and if you need help, ask! Make your family proud by doing well on tests and getting good grades. Learn as much as you can about the world around you and try to have interesting things to say. No, you won't use everything you learn in school, but think of school as a way to teach you how to learn. It sounds funny, but this is a very useful skill.\\n1-11. Be yourself\\nDon't try to be someone you are not to impress others or make friends. When people see that you can be yourself and be likable without trying to be someone you're not, others will admire you. You are unique in your own way, and this makes you just as special as anyone else.\\n1-12. Don't let anyone make you believe you need to be in a relationship.\\nYou can, there is no right age but you don't have to if you don't want to. Having to be in a relationship because of peer pressure is not good. But beware of hanging out with older, \\\"cool\\\" people. It could be dangerous for you. Stick around kids your age and be cautious with older children.\\n1-13. Be fun-loving.\\nFun people smile more, and chances are that people will like you more that way.\\n1-14. Try to make friends.\\nIf you're new in school, smile and try to make some jokes. It'll make the other kids think you're cool, and want to hang out with you. You never know--those people might be your best friends for life!\\n1-15. Smile\\nThis will make people find you approachable and easy to talk to. Make sure you don't smile so much that it looks unnatural, however. Only show your teeth a little bit and make it look natural.\\n1-16. Have nice hair.\\nWash it every one or two days.\\nTips\\nNever make fun of anyone! It's hurtful and unkind.\\nIf you like someone's hair or outfit, let them know! Everyone likes when they get a compliment tell them that you like it, because it makes people like you. It makes you look nice and easy to talk to.\\nNever care about what others think.\\nWarnings\\nDon't take this thing too far! If you just want to be yourself, it's okay.\\nIf you are too concerned about being pretty and you feel stressed out, try to talk to someone.\\nThe tips above for appearance are only guides! Follow fashion to get ideas so you don't have to worry so much about that you don't have to though\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being pretty is all about having confidence, loving who you are, and expressing yourself in a way that's true to you. To help you out, we've put together a list of the best ways to be beautiful inside and out, from embracing your unique personality and style to taking care of your appearance. Keep reading to learn how to feel prettier and start showing the world just how amazing you really are.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Experiment with different clothes and outfits to find what you like.\", \"描述\": \"Remember, not everyone has the same likings of clothes style. You can still be pretty even if you can't afford new clothes. Wear whatever makes you come alive, and the right people will compliment you.\\nWear clothes that make you happy, not what makes other people happy. Don't worry too much about what other people think or what is called \\\"age appropriate\\\", wear what makes you feel good. Wear leggings, jeans, shorts, skirts, crop tops and dresses. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and good. Wash your clothing once a week, and make sure that they are stain free. Wear the outfit you like best, and always smile when you're happy to let out the best in you!\\nTune into Instagram, fashion magazines, and new celebrity looks if you'd like to keep up with the latest trends.\\nColor trends are another great way to stay fashionable. Look at the colors of the season (like Pantone colors) and try to pick your wardrobe based on those.\\nTry to find bloggers who share the same style as you, too. That can be a great outlet to figure out what's in style.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adapt your own style.\", \"描述\": \"You are going to change rapidly over the next few years, if you aren't already changing. Adapting your sense of self now will take you further than ever. Be proud of who you are, and how you present yourself. So keeping clean, fresh, and coming off as being a polite person will come in handy. Finally, don't let other people get you down.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be confident\", \"描述\": \"Confidence is the key to being beautiful. Your personality shows a lot more than your looks.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Let your light shine.\", \"描述\": \"Be nice to everyone. Help other people carry their groceries, pick up something a busy parent dropped. Do small deeds for people and you will feel good about yourself. If you see a chore that needs doing, try and get it over with. Your parents will thank you!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't get too stressed by your looks.\", \"描述\": \"What you look like doesn't define you. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Choose whether you wear makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Never feel like you have to. You're gorgeous anyway and no one has to wear makeup. You can wear it if you want to though.\\nThe same applies for accessories like expensive handbags and jewelry. You do not not need to wear them unless you want to.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Adopt good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"You're going through changes (or will be soon) and you need to get in the habit of showering daily, brushing your teeth twice a day, and wearing deodorant.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be neat and clean\", \"描述\": \"Have clean nails and make sure there is no dirt under them. You can wear acrylic nails or nail polish if you want to. If you wear nail polish or acrylic nails all the time, your nails won't be as nice when you're older.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be healthy\", \"描述\": \"Eat decent food more often than junk. Everybody needs a healthy lifestyle to keep them alert and help them to live longer. You should eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, move enough every day to get your heart rate up, and drink plenty of water (this means drinking water whenever you are thirsty). This will help give your skin a natural, healthy look even if you don't wear makeup.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Try your best in school.\", \"描述\": \"Study hard and if you need help, ask! Make your family proud by doing well on tests and getting good grades. Learn as much as you can about the world around you and try to have interesting things to say. No, you won't use everything you learn in school, but think of school as a way to teach you how to learn. It sounds funny, but this is a very useful skill.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Be yourself\", \"描述\": \"Don't try to be someone you are not to impress others or make friends. When people see that you can be yourself and be likable without trying to be someone you're not, others will admire you. You are unique in your own way, and this makes you just as special as anyone else.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Don't let anyone make you believe you need to be in a relationship.\", \"描述\": \"You can, there is no right age but you don't have to if you don't want to. Having to be in a relationship because of peer pressure is not good. But beware of hanging out with older, \\\"cool\\\" people. It could be dangerous for you. Stick around kids your age and be cautious with older children.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Be fun-loving.\", \"描述\": \"Fun people smile more, and chances are that people will like you more that way.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Try to make friends.\", \"描述\": \"If you're new in school, smile and try to make some jokes. It'll make the other kids think you're cool, and want to hang out with you. You never know--those people might be your best friends for life!\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Smile\", \"描述\": \"This will make people find you approachable and easy to talk to. 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1. Taking Care of Your Outfits and Style
1-1. Understand that style is a fluid concept.
Steve Urkel, a fictional U.S. television character in the 90s, was famously dressed in unpopular fashion at the time. However, in 2011, his style would have been considered the epitome of cool. Similarly, following the history of a single style alone can be very telling. Bell bottoms were initially from the 1800s, re-introduced as high fashion in Europe the mid-60s, and went mainstream in the US and Europe in the 70s. There was a revival in a varied form in the 90s, which is now known as "boot-cut", though styles similar to the 70s have been seen in recent years. Furthermore, boho-chic (bohemian) styles popular in the 60s-70s have also come into popularity again in recent years. Style can also be seasonal -- with lighter and brighter colors trending in the Spring-Summer, and medium to darker hues in the Fall-Winter (this is applicable across clothes, hair, and makeup).
Ultimately, trends recycle, reuse, and rotate. What's popular now, may not be tomorrow, and vice versa -- but at the same time, style can live on eternally in the world of high fashion and couture. For example, Alexander McQueen is worshiped in the fashion realm but considered gothic. Even if a style is not recognized where you live, it may be celebrated across the globe. Such as steampunk, which has been gaining momentum within Japanese subcultures in recent years.
At the end of the day, clothes are also a practical means to an end. This is something visionaries such as Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg have accepted in an effort to be more efficient -- they wore/wear the same thing every day. Some people do unfortunately tend to use looks as a way to gauge a person. Forgive those people since they may not know any better, whether they were raised that way or influenced by societal cues, but also notice if you have these thoughts and feelings. Focus on yourself and what you like. Even if it is not preferable to others, it is always respectable. More importantly, it will allow you to learn more about yourself.
If you're truly trying to be fashionable, and on trend, you're going to have to be aware of current trends on Instagram, in magazines, on famous people, etc.
Obviously, you need to see which trends work for your age and your current style.
1-2. Don't be afraid to experiment with different styles.
You can still dress goth, skater, scene, or emo and still look pretty. You can even try on some vintage dresses for a chic, feminine look. If you are adopting a new style that may not be widely accepted it may take time for you to feel comfortable and confident.
Consider talking to your guardian(s) and friends about your interests first. If they do not support you, know that there are people that would (there are many examples of parents supporting their children's choices for instance). If you are not ready yet and you want to put it off until a later time, that's OK too -- it's never too early or too late (consider Baddiewinkle) to express yourself through your personal style. Know that there are always other people that share the same interests as you, they just may not be accessible to you yet.
1-3. Embracing what you like may take bravery, but you are not alone in your exploration.
For instance, as a high-schooler, Kyemah McEntyre became an internet sensation by going forth and creating her phenomenal vision of an African-inspired prom dress despite being bullied. Style can be a means to change perception and/or perspective, and not everyone is receptive to change or something different in any situation (including those closest to you). Accept that there will be challenges along the way, and try to find people, or a community of like-minded people, that will support you.
1-4. Recognize that your personal style is your own.
Even not caring is a style (the Parisians, for instance, are famously known for their love of effortless-chic). Choose a style that you feel comfortable in. If you don't feel comfortable in your outfit, don't wear it. Part of looking pretty is feeling comfortable and confident in your clothes.
Note: The steps below may not be applicable to all styles, so if the suggestion is not in line with what you actually like, go with your personal preference, whether that's grunge, baggy clothes (which were popular in the 90's and always comfortable), minimalist, or you simply don't care.
1-5. Know that every shape is pretty, and beautiful clothes exist for every type of person.
You definitely do not have to be thin to be pretty -- remember, beauty varies from person-to-person and country-to-country. Curvy girls and large girls can be some of the most beautiful and fabulous people you ever meet. Models, such as Robyn Lawley and Ashley Graham, continue to defy current standards while building their own. Also, keep in mind that your body is still changing. Many teenage girls experience changes in weight. Also, know that a friendly smile is most attractive.
1-6. Make sure that your clothes are clean and in good condition.
Dirt, stains, and tears can detract from any outfit, no matter how well put together it is. Most shirts need to be washed after being worn once or twice. Pants and skirts can be worn a few times before needing to be washed.
If something gets torn, try to mend it by stitching it together.
If something is stained, you will need to use a stain remover on it before putting it into the laundry.
1-7. Highlight your own best features.
Know how to make unflattering outfits flattering. Loose, flowing tops can look graceful and pretty, but they can also get in the way. If you have one, try securing it around your waist with a cute belt. A tank top may look cute, but it may also make your shoulders look too big or too small for your tastes. If this happens, try throwing a cardigan over it for a quick, chic look.
You can also learn more about how to Dress for Your Body Type.
1-8. Wear clothes that fit you, even if they aren't currently in fashion.
Make sure that you are buying your size. Tight-fitting clothes can be uncomfortable and difficult to breathe in, while baggy clothes can be difficult to move around in. If you find something that you really like, but you can't find your size, ask the cashier if you can order the outfit in your size. You can also get it altered, or find creative temporary ways to alter them yourself. Pants should fit comfortably around your waist. The shoulder width of a shirt should match your own shoulder width. You should feel comfortable in whatever you wear.
Some stores sell jeans that come have short, normal, and long leg lengths. If you are really short or really tall, this is something you could consider.
Just because your friends wear low-waist jeans does not mean that you have to. If you find high-waist jeans more comfortable, and if they look great on you, then go for it.
1-9. Try adding some accessories.
A cute belt or a simple necklace can take your outfit to the next level. It can make it look as though you spent a lot of time putting your outfit together.
1-10. Understand that style is a fluid concept.
Steve Urkel, a fictional U.S. television character in the 90s, was famously dressed in unpopular fashion at the time. However, in 2011, his style would have been considered the epitome of cool. Similarly, following the history of a single style alone can be very telling. Bell bottoms were initially from the 1800s, re-introduced as high fashion in Europe the mid-60s, and went mainstream in the US and Europe in the 70s. There was a revival in a varied form in the 90s, which is now known as "boot-cut", though styles similar to the 70s have been seen in recent years. Furthermore, boho-chic (bohemian) styles popular in the 60s-70s have also come into popularity again in recent years. Style can also be seasonal -- with lighter and brighter colors trending in the Spring-Summer, and medium to darker hues in the Fall-Winter (this is applicable across clothes, hair, and makeup).
Ultimately, trends recycle, reuse, and rotate. What's popular now, may not be tomorrow, and vice versa -- but at the same time, style can live on eternally in the world of high fashion and couture. For example, Alexander McQueen is worshiped in the fashion realm but considered gothic. Even if a style is not recognized where you live, it may be celebrated across the globe. Such as steampunk, which has been gaining momentum within Japanese subcultures in recent years.
At the end of the day, clothes are also a practical means to an end. This is something visionaries such as Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg have accepted in an effort to be more efficient -- they wore/wear the same thing every day. Some people do unfortunately tend to use looks as a way to gauge a person. Forgive those people since they may not know any better, whether they were raised that way or influenced by societal cues, but also notice if you have these thoughts and feelings. Focus on yourself and what you like. Even if it is not preferable to others, it is always respectable. More importantly, it will allow you to learn more about yourself.
If you're truly trying to be fashionable, and on trend, you're going to have to be aware of current trends on Instagram, in magazines, on famous people, etc.
Obviously, you need to see which trends work for your age and your current style.
2. Doing Your Makeup
2-1. Start with a clean face before applying any makeup.
Be sure to use some toner and moisturizer. This will help give you a nice, clean canvas to work on. To get some skin-care tips for your face, click here.
2-2. Use foundation or a tinted moisturizer to even out your skin tone.
Foundation can be a little heavy for daily wear, but a tinted moisturizer is a great way to even out your skin tone while keeping it fresh and moisturized. You can apply foundation with your fingers, a makeup sponge, or a foundation brush—just be sure to blend it in, especially around the sides of your face and along your jawline.
Make sure that your foundation matches your skin tone, even if you are not happy with your skin color. If you use a shade that is too light or too dark, your makeup won't look very natural.
If you spend a lot of time out in the sun, consider getting something with 15 SPF in it.
Consider using some concealer to hide blemishes. Pimples are a part of growing up, but they can be embarrassing. If you have a pimple that really bothers you, don't pop it. Instead, dab a little concealer over it. Blend the concealer with a makeup brush into the rest of your skin, and then set it with some loose setting powder.
2-3. Use makeup to bring some color to your cheeks or lips.
Use a powder brush to dust on some blush or onto the apples of your cheeks and across your forehead. This will give you a healthy glow. You can also add color to your lips with some lip gloss or lip balm. This is also a great way to keep your lips looking smooth. Consider adding lipstick on special occasions.
2-4. Go light on the eye makeup.
You can use mascara just by itself to enhance your eyes, or you can use it with some eyeliner and eyeshadow. If you have light-colored hair, use a dark brown eyeliner or mascara. If you have dark-colored hair, you can get away with a darker color, such as black or charcoal. For the eyeshadow, try to stick with neutral colors, such as browns and creams. Save the brighter colors for special events.
2-5. Limit the perfume.
Most perfumes are too strong for daily wear. If you want to smell like a flower or cupcakes, try getting some body spray. It is much lighter and less expensive, but it still smells great. Don't over-do it, however; one or two squirts is enough.
2-6. Know how to make your makeup work with glasses.
Just because you wear glasses doesn't mean that you have to skip out on the makeup. If you like wearing makeup, there are a few things you can do to make your eyes stand out even more. Here are some tips:
Put some concealer or light-colored eyeshadow on the inner corner of your eyes. Be sure to blend it well. This will help get rid of any shadows cast by the glasses.
Define your eyebrows. You don't have to pluck them, but try to keep them well-groomed by combing over them with a brow brush.
Go easy on the eyeshadow. Glasses tend to cast lots of shadow on your eyes already. If you like to wear eyeshadow, try using lighter or softer colors. You can also use neutral colors as well. You might want to skip on the dark colors; however.
Do some winged eyeliner. The will help make your eyes appear even larger. You can also use a little bit of eyeliner on your lower lash line.
Try adding some mascara. This will help define your eyes.
2-7. Always remove all of your makeup before going to bed.
Sleeping with your makeup on can be extremely detrimental in the long-term, aging you as much as 10 years if done every day for a month.
3. Taking Care of Your Body and Health
3-1. Maintain good hygiene.
Staying clean will not only help you look your best, but it will also help you feel better too. Here are some things to keep in mind:
Brush your teeth twice a day. If you wear braces, you might want to brush your teeth after you eat something. Consider bringing a toothbrush and toothpaste with you to school. Also, take care of your teeth by flossing.
Take a bath or shower once a day. Try not to do this more than once a day, because it will dry out your skin. This will help you stay healthy; it will also help you feel fresh.
Wear deodorant to keep body odor down. This may also help increase your self-confidence. You don't have to smell like a rose to feel good about yourself. A fresh, natural scent is okay too.
Consider using perfume. Use on wrists, elbows, neck, and upper body. Try to use only one spritz because otherwise, you will smell too strong! Natural fragrances are good, and refreshing or sweet are too. Just use whatever is right for you!
3-2. Get enough sleep.
Plan on sleeping eight to nine hours a night. Your body will be healthier, and your skin and hair will look better too. You may also find your mood to be lighter, and that you are feeling less stressed.
3-3. Consider eating healthy food and skip on the junk food.
Things like pizza, french fries, candy, chips, and hot dogs aren't great for your health. They can cause weight gain, wreck havoc on your skin, and influence your mood. They also lack the nutrients your body needs. Foods like fruits, vegetables, fish, nuts, and lean meats, however, are packed with nutrients and vitamins. They are not only good for your body, but for your skin and hair as well. Try to include more of these in your diet and see how it affects you on a long-term basis.
You could also try doing exercises to become more toned, especially abdominal-benefiting ones! This will not only make you feel the sports-happy-rush, but you will start to feel generally better with yourself.
It is perfectly fine to treat yourself to something sweet, such as a chocolate or cookie, every once in a while.
Oftentimes, this lifestyle change can be difficult if you are accustomed to a certain diet. Junk food can be addictive and even inhibit the desire to change what you eat. Adjust slowly starting with things you can tolerate, or find creative ways to incorporate the foods that are difficult for you. For instance, you can often throw various greens into a smoothie and completely mask the taste with complimentary fruits.
If you are determined, consider setting small goals to start. For example, you can make it a goal to experiment with a new vegetable, nut, or fruit each week to figure out what it is you like or different things you can do with it. Another idea is trying to substitute a healthy snack for an unhealthy snack for 5 days a week within a month.
3-4. Drink more water.
Most popular sodas have a lot of sugar, and even most juices have substantial sugar. Coffee is actually dehydrating and can significantly affect your skin, so much so that estheticians have suggested drinking two cups of water for every 1 cup of coffee on top of your daily 8. Even tea can be dehydrating, though not as much as coffee. Aside from minimizing calories, drinking more water produces numerous other benefits, including (but not limited to): better skin (flushing out toxins and helping blood flow), lowering stress (which can be caused by dehydration), and giving you more energy (also a side-effect of dehydration).
Drinking less soda and coffee may require time, as the two can be habit-forming. Start off with a few cups of water a day, and increase over time. Consider adding ice and/or fresh lemon to make it taste more refreshing. You can also infuse water with fruits or cucumber to get that extra taste you are looking for.
If you prefer carbonation, you can consider sparkling water without additives. While it is a mild acid (like juice) and can erode the teeth over time, there is no evidence at this time that it can be harmful otherwise.
3-5. Exercise to stay healthy.
Exercise is not just for those who want to lose weight; it also helps reduce stress and increase the hormones responsible for causing happiness. Even if you have a small frame, taking a long walk every once in a while will help keep you in shape.
This may require a lifestyle change, which always takes time to adjust. Feel free to go at your own pace, and start by thinking about what you enjoy. If you've always wanted to try a yoga class, check your local listings to see if any of them offer a free trial or discounted trial period. Simply dance around to your favorite song at home, because why not?
Involving a friend is often helpful. For instance, you can substitute your weekly coffee catch-up sessions with a leisurely stroll around a local track. Check deal listings and find one or two new activities to explore with a friend or two periodically, or until you find something that you like.
Setting weekly goals or having a set day and time per week can really help your efforts. Consider adding and marking it off a calendar, since this will give you a sense of accomplishment.
3-6. Know what you can do to lose weight if you are self-conscious about your body.
Everybody's shape is beautiful, but if your figure really bothers you and makes you unhappy, there are a few things you can try to lose some weight. Keep in mind, however, that losing weight will take some time. Don't overwork yourself just to lose your weight faster. You will get very sick instead.
Eat well, but eat healthy. Do not starve yourself or skip meals. Instead, try to eat normal-sized, healthy meals. These will include things such as fruits, vegetables, fish, nuts, and lean meats. Try to avoid eating unhealthy foods, such as sweets and fast food.
Skip on the sugary drinks, and drink more water. These are easy calories to lose as you get used to it over time. Also avoid drinks that may be dehydrating, such as coffee.
Exercise a few times a week. Try swimming, jogging, or doing some sit-ups. If you haven't exercised before, or have not done it in a while, start with small, easy sessions first.
Get enough sleep. Try to get to bed early, and get around eight or nine hours. Studies have shown that going to bed late and not sleeping enough is tied to weight gain (and stress).
Consider enrolling in a weight-loss program or boot camp. It might be more fun and motivating to do it with other people.
3-7. Understand that you don't have to wear makeup to be pretty.
Every face is pretty in its own way, but makeup can help bring out certain features, such as the eyes or lips. It may also help you feel good about yourself. This section will give you some basic makeup tips for a more natural look. You don't have to do all of them, however; you can just wear some lip gloss or mascara.
Instead of trying to cover up the parts of your face that you don't like, try to focus on parts that you do like. This may help you feel less stressed about your looks. For example, if you don't like your nose, don't worry about trying to change it. Instead, focus your makeup on a part of your face that you do like, such as your eyes or lips.
On the other hand, if you enjoy experimenting with makeup or want to create more dramatic looks to highlight your style, go for it. You should do what feels best for you, regardless of what other people may say. The tips below are not a one-size-fits-all solution. Only you know what works best for you.
4. Taking Care of Your Skin
4-1. Take care of your face by washing it twice a day.
Try not to use body wash or hand soap; they are too harsh and will dry your skin out. You also don't want to wash your face too often, even if it is very oily. This will also cause your skin to dry out. When your skin becomes too dry, it will start producing extra oils to make up for it.
4-2. Use toner and moisturizer after washing your face.
Soak a cotton ball with some toner, and sweep it across your face, focusing on the nose, forehead, chin, and cheeks. Avoid the sensitive area around your eyes. Follow up with some moisturizer. If you have oily skin, try to find a light-weight or gel-based moisturizer.
The toner will help restore your skin's natural pH. It will also help tighten your pores.
Moisturizer will hydrate your skin. It will make it appear smoother and less flaky.
4-3. Protect your skin from the sun.
This doesn't mean that you have to avoid the sun. Instead, try wearing sunscreen each time you go out. If you don't like wearing sunscreen on your face, try using some foundation or moisturizer that has SPF 15.
4-4. Know that acne, pimples, and blackheads are normal.
Everyone gets them at some point in their lives. Some people get them sooner than others. If you find yourself burdened with acne, there are a few things you can do to make it less severe:
Try not to pick or pop your pimples. This will cause them to bleed, and you may get scars.
Wash your face twice a day. This will help get rid of acne-causing bacteria. If you wear makeup, be sure to wash it off before you go to bed.
Buy some pimple cream from the drug store. Keep in mind that these creams may take some time to work. Don't use more than directed; this won't make the pimples disappear faster.
Ask your parents if you can see a dermatologist if you have severe acne. Most pimple creams will do the job, but some people might need something stronger. A dermatologist may help you find the right product, or give you a prescription.
Consider covering some pimples up with concealer. Everyone gets pimples, but if they really lower your confidence, you can dab on a little concealer over them to make them less noticeable.
5. Taking Care of Your Hair
5-1. Buy the right products for your hair type.
There are many types of hair, and therefore, there are various solutions for various hair types. If your hair looks frizzy, matte, or just not that great, take a look at your shampoo and conditioner bottles. Are you using a shampoo that matches your hair type? If not, try to get a shampoo that says it's for your hair type (such as curly, dry, colored, and so forth), and see if that helps.
If you have dry hair, look for products that say "hydrating" or "moisturizing." Try not to wash your hair every day. Instead, wash it every two to three days.
If you have oily hair, look for a clarifying shampoo, or something that says its meant for oily hair. Try leaving the shampoo on your scalp for up to five minutes. When it comes to conditioner, only use it on the ends of your hair.
If you have thin, limp hair, look for a volumizing shampoo. It will make your hair appear thicker and give it extra body.
If you dye your hair, get a shampoo that says it's for "colored hair." It will help your dye job last longer. It will also take care of your hair and help keep it soft; most hair dyes are very harsh and drying on hair.
5-2. Make sure that you are washing and brushing your hair properly.
How you wash and brush your hair will affect how it looks in the end. Here are some tips on how to get your hair to look its best:
Wash your hair no more than three times a week. The more often you wash it, the more oil it will produce.
Use warm or lukewarm water instead of hot water. Hot water will cause your hair to lose moisture and frizz. Consider rinsing your hair with cool water; this will seal the hair cuticle, reduce frizz, and make it shiny.
Make sure you are leaving the conditioner in your hair long enough. Most brands needs to be left for three to five minutes, but you might want to check the label on the back of the bottle.
Brush or comb your hair when it is almost dry. Start from the ends first, and work your way up towards the roots. Wet hair is very stretchy, and snaps easily.
5-3. Know how to tame annoying frizz.
Curly hair can be beautiful, but it can also get frizzy and unruly. It tangles easily and gets in your face when you are trying to work. Here are some things you can try to bring out the natural beauty of your curls:
Don't use a hairbrush. This usually is what causes frizz. Instead, use a wide-toothed comb when your hair is dry. If you must brush your hair, do it only when it's wet.
Try adding in a little bit of Argan oil or coconut oil to your hair.
5-4. Know how to take care of split ends.
There is no way to permanently seal the split ends together; however, you can temporarily seal them with a split end mending cream. Simply apply some of the cream to your split ends. The only way to get rid of split ends, however, is to trim your hair. If you don't do this, the damage will continue to creep up the hair shaft.
Try not to over-brush your hair. Also, try to use less heat-styling (such as straightening or curling). If you must straighten or curl your hair, be sure to use a heat protecting spray.
5-5. Use curling irons, flat irons, and hairdryers with care.
When you are using a hairdryer, use a medium-heat setting instead of a high one. Hold the nozzle 6 to 8 inches (15.2 to 20.3 cm) (15.24 to 20.32 inches) away from your head. Also, be sure to use a heat protecting sprays if you are going to straighten or curl your hair. There is nothing wrong with straightening or curling your hair, but it is very important to use a heat protecting spray on your hair before doing so. If you don't, you will fry your hair, and make it brittle and dry.
5-6. Know what to do on bad hair days.
Everyone gets one at some point or another, and they can be pretty embarrassing. If your hair just doesn't want to behave, no matter what you do, try putting it in a braid or wearing a hat over it. It will look chic and cute, and keep you from feeling too embarrassed or self-conscious.
5-7. Use the right styling products to get the right look.
There are a few things you can add to your hair to make it look glossy and shiny. Here are some ideas:
Use a smoothing cream or oil if your have frizz. This will tame your hair, and let your natural curls or waves show through.
Use a small amount of hair oil, such as Argan oil or coconut oil, if you have dull hair and want to add some shine back to it.
Use some gel or mousse to bring if you have curly hair, and want to bring out your spirals and ringlets. The gel or mousse will help your curls keep their shape and texture.
If you have straight hair or want to blow dry your hair straight, spray your hair down with a heat protecting spray. Use a nozzle attachment on your hairdryer, and aim the nozzle downwards when drying.
5-8. Experiment with different hairstyles.
Your hair frames your face, and can also highlight certain features. Play around with various methods of styling to see what you like. There are at least 15 Ways to Have a Simple Hairstyle for School.
Find out what type of face shape you have. This can help you determine what sort of haircut might look best on you.
6. Knowing Yourself
6-1. Think about what you consider to be pretty.
Everyone has their own ideas of what is pretty and what isn't -- and these ideas even change amongst different countries. When reading this article, you should consider what you think is pretty. If you think that wild, curly hair is pretty, then go for it. Don't be afraid to be yourself and set your own standards.
Remember that true beauty comes from the inside and uniqueness is also beautiful. If you've only believed that beauty was physical before, redefine this idea and contemplate the possibilities.
At the same time, try to set realistic expectations. For example, instead of drastically trying to change your figure, skin color, or hair, try to accept the way you look first. Take good care of your hair and skin and focus on the parts you do like about yourself (such as your eyes or your curly hair).
6-2. Believe in your own beauty.
Sometimes, people can be their own worst critics. Take a moment and treat yourself like a friend -- would you be as harsh on yourself? What are your best qualities (both inside and out)?
Maybe you value certain features about yourself because they are inherited from a loved one. Accept yourself as you are, and recognize that you are not perfect -- but no one is, it's human.
Appreciate your uniqueness, develop the qualities you want that you have control over (such as your personality, intelligence, and health), and trust that your beauty will grow day by day.
7. Being Pretty on the Inside
7-1. Know that beauty also comes from the inside.
Even the prettiest girl can lose friends if she is mean, manipulative, or uncaring. At the same time, the plainest girl can find many friends if they are kind, fair, and thoughtful. This section will give you a few tips on how to let your inner beauty shine through.
7-2. Smile often.
A scowl or frown can make anyone look unpleasant and intimidating. A friendly smile, however, can make any face look brighter and approachable.
7-3. Be polite.
Make sure to say "please," when asking for something, and "thank you," when you get it. Also, if you need to get past someone, say "excuse me."
7-4. Show that you care for others.
If you notice your friend or classmate looking sad, ask them what's wrong or if they'd like to talk about it. If they do start to talk, listen to them attentively. Even if their problems are not ones you may be able to connect with, they will recognize that you care. They will see this as a beautiful quality about you.
You can also show that you care by volunteering at homes for the elderly, soup kitchens, or animal shelters.
7-5. Try to be more positive and supportive.
The more positive and supportive you are, the better you will feel about yourself. You may even stop focusing on your flaws (such as that annoying pimple that keeps popping up) and start seeing the good things about yourself. Here are some ways you can be more positive:
If something doesn't turn out the way you liked, try to find something good about the situation. You can also consider what you can do to improve the situation next time. Oftentimes, the lesson you take away will be more valuable than a favorable outcome. By focusing on the benefits, you can strengthen your perspective.
In unforeseeable circumstances, see if you can adapt to the situation and make the most out of it. For instance, if it rains on the day of the picnic you spent all week planning, see if you can bring it inside. You could even set up a movie or bring out a few board games to play with your friends.
If your friend is really excited about something, try to share their excitement. You can also ask them questions about it to show that you are interested.
If your friend is really good at something, try to encourage them. For example, if your friend is good at drawing, tell them that their drawing is really good and that you really like their style.
7-6. Don't be a bully and don't encourage bullying.
Putting someone down will never make you feel better about yourself or accomplish anything worthwhile. In reality, the more you make fun of others, the worse you will feel about yourself. Sometimes, the bullying might even come back to you. You could really hurt someone, and make them feel really bad about themselves.
Instead, ask yourself what it is that would make you consider bullying or participating in it -- are there internal issues you may need to work through? Are you trying to feel accepted by the bully? Is the person being bullied or their actions symbolic of something or someone that you dislike? Perhaps they reflect a quality about yourself that you neglect or wish could be better.
7-7. Work and study hard.
Even if you don't get good grades or score the most goals on your team, people will notice if you try hard. They will appreciate your efforts and look up to you. Developing your intelligence will also open many doors (such as opportunities) for you.
Try to do well in school. Find a subject that you really like or are passionate about, and try to do the best you can in it. You might even get people asking you for help in that subject. Even if there is a subject that is not your strength, give it attention. You may be noticed for your diligence and/or find people that want to help you or work together.
7-8. Don't forget about your hobbies and talents.
If you like to draw, then consider taking some art classes. If you like to sing and dance, consider trying out for the school play. Building an arsenal of skills will help you cultivate who you are as a person.
7-9. Learn about the world around you.
Look around the familiar and see if you notice anything new or different today - was there something you weren't aware of before? Try to explore different places, cultures, topics, and look for similarities and differences. Being curious and building your knowledge is not only a fun thing to do, but you will find a treasure trove of intrigue that will connect you with others in ways you would never imagine possible.
Read more. Read the news (both domestic and worldwide) and see what you can learn. Read literature, poetry, or non-fiction, and take a dive into someone else's life or ideas.
Listen to what other people have to say. Listen to the radio, podcasts, and listen more closely to the people around you. Every person has knowledge that they can offer that can help you grow.
Ask questions. "Why" is one of the best questions and can often help you find the heart of the issue in many cases. Don't be afraid to ask questions, because questions (when asked correctly) can also make another person feel important. Furthermore, it will make you look and feel confident, but also help you gain knowledge.
7-10. Try to be confident but don't be arrogant.
Don't brag about the things you are good at, but don't try to hide your talents either. When you walk, try to keep your chin up, your back straight, and your shoulders tilted back. This will help you look and feel more confident. Many people find confidence attractive, but moreover, confidence will encourage you to nurture your personal growth into becoming the person you want to be.
Tips
Set your own standards for beauty. This will help you feel most confident about yourself. If you think that curly hair is beautiful, then go for it.
There are many cosmetic lines that now offer organic or mineral makeup. Try giving that a try if you feel that you want to venture into the makeup world.
Don't be afraid to experiment with your own style. What looks good on your friends may not look good on you. Try to find something that flatters you, and that you feel comfortable in.
Warnings
Try not to get discouraged by models in fashion magazines. Many of the photos are actually heavily edited and Photoshopped. The models' thighs and waists usually look slim because they have been erased and/or contoured in an image program to look that way.
Your body is changing. You will experience acne and weight changes. This is normal. Try not to get too discouraged by it and accept your body for the way it is.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Taking Care of Your Outfits and Style\\n1-1. Understand that style is a fluid concept.\\nSteve Urkel, a fictional U.S. television character in the 90s, was famously dressed in unpopular fashion at the time. However, in 2011, his style would have been considered the epitome of cool. Similarly, following the history of a single style alone can be very telling. Bell bottoms were initially from the 1800s, re-introduced as high fashion in Europe the mid-60s, and went mainstream in the US and Europe in the 70s. There was a revival in a varied form in the 90s, which is now known as \\\"boot-cut\\\", though styles similar to the 70s have been seen in recent years. Furthermore, boho-chic (bohemian) styles popular in the 60s-70s have also come into popularity again in recent years. Style can also be seasonal -- with lighter and brighter colors trending in the Spring-Summer, and medium to darker hues in the Fall-Winter (this is applicable across clothes, hair, and makeup).\\nUltimately, trends recycle, reuse, and rotate. What's popular now, may not be tomorrow, and vice versa -- but at the same time, style can live on eternally in the world of high fashion and couture. For example, Alexander McQueen is worshiped in the fashion realm but considered gothic. Even if a style is not recognized where you live, it may be celebrated across the globe. Such as steampunk, which has been gaining momentum within Japanese subcultures in recent years.\\nAt the end of the day, clothes are also a practical means to an end. This is something visionaries such as Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg have accepted in an effort to be more efficient -- they wore/wear the same thing every day. Some people do unfortunately tend to use looks as a way to gauge a person. Forgive those people since they may not know any better, whether they were raised that way or influenced by societal cues, but also notice if you have these thoughts and feelings. Focus on yourself and what you like. Even if it is not preferable to others, it is always respectable. More importantly, it will allow you to learn more about yourself.\\nIf you're truly trying to be fashionable, and on trend, you're going to have to be aware of current trends on Instagram, in magazines, on famous people, etc.\\nObviously, you need to see which trends work for your age and your current style.\\n1-2. Don't be afraid to experiment with different styles.\\nYou can still dress goth, skater, scene, or emo and still look pretty. You can even try on some vintage dresses for a chic, feminine look. If you are adopting a new style that may not be widely accepted it may take time for you to feel comfortable and confident.\\nConsider talking to your guardian(s) and friends about your interests first. If they do not support you, know that there are people that would (there are many examples of parents supporting their children's choices for instance). If you are not ready yet and you want to put it off until a later time, that's OK too -- it's never too early or too late (consider Baddiewinkle) to express yourself through your personal style. Know that there are always other people that share the same interests as you, they just may not be accessible to you yet.\\n1-3. Embracing what you like may take bravery, but you are not alone in your exploration.\\nFor instance, as a high-schooler, Kyemah McEntyre became an internet sensation by going forth and creating her phenomenal vision of an African-inspired prom dress despite being bullied. Style can be a means to change perception and/or perspective, and not everyone is receptive to change or something different in any situation (including those closest to you). Accept that there will be challenges along the way, and try to find people, or a community of like-minded people, that will support you.\\n1-4. Recognize that your personal style is your own.\\nEven not caring is a style (the Parisians, for instance, are famously known for their love of effortless-chic). Choose a style that you feel comfortable in. If you don't feel comfortable in your outfit, don't wear it. Part of looking pretty is feeling comfortable and confident in your clothes.\\nNote: The steps below may not be applicable to all styles, so if the suggestion is not in line with what you actually like, go with your personal preference, whether that's grunge, baggy clothes (which were popular in the 90's and always comfortable), minimalist, or you simply don't care.\\n1-5. Know that every shape is pretty, and beautiful clothes exist for every type of person.\\nYou definitely do not have to be thin to be pretty -- remember, beauty varies from person-to-person and country-to-country. Curvy girls and large girls can be some of the most beautiful and fabulous people you ever meet. Models, such as Robyn Lawley and Ashley Graham, continue to defy current standards while building their own. Also, keep in mind that your body is still changing. Many teenage girls experience changes in weight. Also, know that a friendly smile is most attractive.\\n1-6. Make sure that your clothes are clean and in good condition.\\nDirt, stains, and tears can detract from any outfit, no matter how well put together it is. Most shirts need to be washed after being worn once or twice. Pants and skirts can be worn a few times before needing to be washed.\\nIf something gets torn, try to mend it by stitching it together.\\nIf something is stained, you will need to use a stain remover on it before putting it into the laundry.\\n1-7. Highlight your own best features.\\nKnow how to make unflattering outfits flattering. Loose, flowing tops can look graceful and pretty, but they can also get in the way. If you have one, try securing it around your waist with a cute belt. A tank top may look cute, but it may also make your shoulders look too big or too small for your tastes. If this happens, try throwing a cardigan over it for a quick, chic look.\\nYou can also learn more about how to Dress for Your Body Type.\\n1-8. Wear clothes that fit you, even if they aren't currently in fashion.\\nMake sure that you are buying your size. Tight-fitting clothes can be uncomfortable and difficult to breathe in, while baggy clothes can be difficult to move around in. If you find something that you really like, but you can't find your size, ask the cashier if you can order the outfit in your size. You can also get it altered, or find creative temporary ways to alter them yourself. Pants should fit comfortably around your waist. The shoulder width of a shirt should match your own shoulder width. You should feel comfortable in whatever you wear.\\nSome stores sell jeans that come have short, normal, and long leg lengths. If you are really short or really tall, this is something you could consider.\\nJust because your friends wear low-waist jeans does not mean that you have to. If you find high-waist jeans more comfortable, and if they look great on you, then go for it.\\n1-9. Try adding some accessories.\\nA cute belt or a simple necklace can take your outfit to the next level. It can make it look as though you spent a lot of time putting your outfit together.\\n1-10. Understand that style is a fluid concept.\\nSteve Urkel, a fictional U.S. television character in the 90s, was famously dressed in unpopular fashion at the time. However, in 2011, his style would have been considered the epitome of cool. Similarly, following the history of a single style alone can be very telling. Bell bottoms were initially from the 1800s, re-introduced as high fashion in Europe the mid-60s, and went mainstream in the US and Europe in the 70s. There was a revival in a varied form in the 90s, which is now known as \\\"boot-cut\\\", though styles similar to the 70s have been seen in recent years. Furthermore, boho-chic (bohemian) styles popular in the 60s-70s have also come into popularity again in recent years. Style can also be seasonal -- with lighter and brighter colors trending in the Spring-Summer, and medium to darker hues in the Fall-Winter (this is applicable across clothes, hair, and makeup).\\nUltimately, trends recycle, reuse, and rotate. What's popular now, may not be tomorrow, and vice versa -- but at the same time, style can live on eternally in the world of high fashion and couture. For example, Alexander McQueen is worshiped in the fashion realm but considered gothic. Even if a style is not recognized where you live, it may be celebrated across the globe. Such as steampunk, which has been gaining momentum within Japanese subcultures in recent years.\\nAt the end of the day, clothes are also a practical means to an end. This is something visionaries such as Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg have accepted in an effort to be more efficient -- they wore/wear the same thing every day. Some people do unfortunately tend to use looks as a way to gauge a person. Forgive those people since they may not know any better, whether they were raised that way or influenced by societal cues, but also notice if you have these thoughts and feelings. Focus on yourself and what you like. Even if it is not preferable to others, it is always respectable. More importantly, it will allow you to learn more about yourself.\\nIf you're truly trying to be fashionable, and on trend, you're going to have to be aware of current trends on Instagram, in magazines, on famous people, etc.\\nObviously, you need to see which trends work for your age and your current style.\\n2. Doing Your Makeup\\n2-1. Start with a clean face before applying any makeup.\\nBe sure to use some toner and moisturizer. This will help give you a nice, clean canvas to work on. To get some skin-care tips for your face, click here.\\n2-2. Use foundation or a tinted moisturizer to even out your skin tone.\\nFoundation can be a little heavy for daily wear, but a tinted moisturizer is a great way to even out your skin tone while keeping it fresh and moisturized. You can apply foundation with your fingers, a makeup sponge, or a foundation brush—just be sure to blend it in, especially around the sides of your face and along your jawline.\\nMake sure that your foundation matches your skin tone, even if you are not happy with your skin color. If you use a shade that is too light or too dark, your makeup won't look very natural.\\nIf you spend a lot of time out in the sun, consider getting something with 15 SPF in it.\\nConsider using some concealer to hide blemishes. Pimples are a part of growing up, but they can be embarrassing. If you have a pimple that really bothers you, don't pop it. Instead, dab a little concealer over it. Blend the concealer with a makeup brush into the rest of your skin, and then set it with some loose setting powder.\\n2-3. Use makeup to bring some color to your cheeks or lips.\\nUse a powder brush to dust on some blush or onto the apples of your cheeks and across your forehead. This will give you a healthy glow. You can also add color to your lips with some lip gloss or lip balm. This is also a great way to keep your lips looking smooth. Consider adding lipstick on special occasions.\\n2-4. Go light on the eye makeup.\\nYou can use mascara just by itself to enhance your eyes, or you can use it with some eyeliner and eyeshadow. If you have light-colored hair, use a dark brown eyeliner or mascara. If you have dark-colored hair, you can get away with a darker color, such as black or charcoal. For the eyeshadow, try to stick with neutral colors, such as browns and creams. Save the brighter colors for special events.\\n2-5. Limit the perfume.\\nMost perfumes are too strong for daily wear. If you want to smell like a flower or cupcakes, try getting some body spray. It is much lighter and less expensive, but it still smells great. Don't over-do it, however; one or two squirts is enough.\\n2-6. Know how to make your makeup work with glasses.\\nJust because you wear glasses doesn't mean that you have to skip out on the makeup. If you like wearing makeup, there are a few things you can do to make your eyes stand out even more. Here are some tips:\\nPut some concealer or light-colored eyeshadow on the inner corner of your eyes. Be sure to blend it well. This will help get rid of any shadows cast by the glasses.\\nDefine your eyebrows. You don't have to pluck them, but try to keep them well-groomed by combing over them with a brow brush.\\nGo easy on the eyeshadow. Glasses tend to cast lots of shadow on your eyes already. If you like to wear eyeshadow, try using lighter or softer colors. You can also use neutral colors as well. You might want to skip on the dark colors; however.\\nDo some winged eyeliner. The will help make your eyes appear even larger. You can also use a little bit of eyeliner on your lower lash line.\\nTry adding some mascara. This will help define your eyes.\\n2-7. Always remove all of your makeup before going to bed.\\nSleeping with your makeup on can be extremely detrimental in the long-term, aging you as much as 10 years if done every day for a month.\\n3. Taking Care of Your Body and Health\\n3-1. Maintain good hygiene.\\nStaying clean will not only help you look your best, but it will also help you feel better too. Here are some things to keep in mind:\\nBrush your teeth twice a day. If you wear braces, you might want to brush your teeth after you eat something. Consider bringing a toothbrush and toothpaste with you to school. Also, take care of your teeth by flossing.\\nTake a bath or shower once a day. Try not to do this more than once a day, because it will dry out your skin. This will help you stay healthy; it will also help you feel fresh.\\nWear deodorant to keep body odor down. This may also help increase your self-confidence. You don't have to smell like a rose to feel good about yourself. A fresh, natural scent is okay too.\\nConsider using perfume. Use on wrists, elbows, neck, and upper body. Try to use only one spritz because otherwise, you will smell too strong! Natural fragrances are good, and refreshing or sweet are too. Just use whatever is right for you!\\n3-2. Get enough sleep.\\nPlan on sleeping eight to nine hours a night. Your body will be healthier, and your skin and hair will look better too. You may also find your mood to be lighter, and that you are feeling less stressed.\\n3-3. Consider eating healthy food and skip on the junk food.\\nThings like pizza, french fries, candy, chips, and hot dogs aren't great for your health. They can cause weight gain, wreck havoc on your skin, and influence your mood. They also lack the nutrients your body needs. Foods like fruits, vegetables, fish, nuts, and lean meats, however, are packed with nutrients and vitamins. They are not only good for your body, but for your skin and hair as well. Try to include more of these in your diet and see how it affects you on a long-term basis.\\nYou could also try doing exercises to become more toned, especially abdominal-benefiting ones! This will not only make you feel the sports-happy-rush, but you will start to feel generally better with yourself.\\nIt is perfectly fine to treat yourself to something sweet, such as a chocolate or cookie, every once in a while.\\nOftentimes, this lifestyle change can be difficult if you are accustomed to a certain diet. Junk food can be addictive and even inhibit the desire to change what you eat. Adjust slowly starting with things you can tolerate, or find creative ways to incorporate the foods that are difficult for you. For instance, you can often throw various greens into a smoothie and completely mask the taste with complimentary fruits.\\nIf you are determined, consider setting small goals to start. For example, you can make it a goal to experiment with a new vegetable, nut, or fruit each week to figure out what it is you like or different things you can do with it. Another idea is trying to substitute a healthy snack for an unhealthy snack for 5 days a week within a month.\\n3-4. Drink more water.\\nMost popular sodas have a lot of sugar, and even most juices have substantial sugar. Coffee is actually dehydrating and can significantly affect your skin, so much so that estheticians have suggested drinking two cups of water for every 1 cup of coffee on top of your daily 8. Even tea can be dehydrating, though not as much as coffee. Aside from minimizing calories, drinking more water produces numerous other benefits, including (but not limited to): better skin (flushing out toxins and helping blood flow), lowering stress (which can be caused by dehydration), and giving you more energy (also a side-effect of dehydration).\\nDrinking less soda and coffee may require time, as the two can be habit-forming. Start off with a few cups of water a day, and increase over time. Consider adding ice and/or fresh lemon to make it taste more refreshing. You can also infuse water with fruits or cucumber to get that extra taste you are looking for.\\nIf you prefer carbonation, you can consider sparkling water without additives. While it is a mild acid (like juice) and can erode the teeth over time, there is no evidence at this time that it can be harmful otherwise.\\n3-5. Exercise to stay healthy.\\nExercise is not just for those who want to lose weight; it also helps reduce stress and increase the hormones responsible for causing happiness. Even if you have a small frame, taking a long walk every once in a while will help keep you in shape.\\nThis may require a lifestyle change, which always takes time to adjust. Feel free to go at your own pace, and start by thinking about what you enjoy. If you've always wanted to try a yoga class, check your local listings to see if any of them offer a free trial or discounted trial period. Simply dance around to your favorite song at home, because why not?\\nInvolving a friend is often helpful. For instance, you can substitute your weekly coffee catch-up sessions with a leisurely stroll around a local track. Check deal listings and find one or two new activities to explore with a friend or two periodically, or until you find something that you like.\\nSetting weekly goals or having a set day and time per week can really help your efforts. Consider adding and marking it off a calendar, since this will give you a sense of accomplishment.\\n3-6. Know what you can do to lose weight if you are self-conscious about your body.\\nEverybody's shape is beautiful, but if your figure really bothers you and makes you unhappy, there are a few things you can try to lose some weight. Keep in mind, however, that losing weight will take some time. Don't overwork yourself just to lose your weight faster. You will get very sick instead.\\nEat well, but eat healthy. Do not starve yourself or skip meals. Instead, try to eat normal-sized, healthy meals. These will include things such as fruits, vegetables, fish, nuts, and lean meats. Try to avoid eating unhealthy foods, such as sweets and fast food.\\nSkip on the sugary drinks, and drink more water. These are easy calories to lose as you get used to it over time. Also avoid drinks that may be dehydrating, such as coffee.\\nExercise a few times a week. Try swimming, jogging, or doing some sit-ups. If you haven't exercised before, or have not done it in a while, start with small, easy sessions first.\\nGet enough sleep. Try to get to bed early, and get around eight or nine hours. Studies have shown that going to bed late and not sleeping enough is tied to weight gain (and stress).\\nConsider enrolling in a weight-loss program or boot camp. It might be more fun and motivating to do it with other people.\\n3-7. Understand that you don't have to wear makeup to be pretty.\\nEvery face is pretty in its own way, but makeup can help bring out certain features, such as the eyes or lips. It may also help you feel good about yourself. This section will give you some basic makeup tips for a more natural look. You don't have to do all of them, however; you can just wear some lip gloss or mascara.\\nInstead of trying to cover up the parts of your face that you don't like, try to focus on parts that you do like. This may help you feel less stressed about your looks. For example, if you don't like your nose, don't worry about trying to change it. Instead, focus your makeup on a part of your face that you do like, such as your eyes or lips.\\nOn the other hand, if you enjoy experimenting with makeup or want to create more dramatic looks to highlight your style, go for it. You should do what feels best for you, regardless of what other people may say. The tips below are not a one-size-fits-all solution. Only you know what works best for you.\\n4. Taking Care of Your Skin\\n4-1. Take care of your face by washing it twice a day.\\nTry not to use body wash or hand soap; they are too harsh and will dry your skin out. You also don't want to wash your face too often, even if it is very oily. This will also cause your skin to dry out. When your skin becomes too dry, it will start producing extra oils to make up for it.\\n4-2. Use toner and moisturizer after washing your face.\\nSoak a cotton ball with some toner, and sweep it across your face, focusing on the nose, forehead, chin, and cheeks. Avoid the sensitive area around your eyes. Follow up with some moisturizer. If you have oily skin, try to find a light-weight or gel-based moisturizer.\\nThe toner will help restore your skin's natural pH. It will also help tighten your pores.\\nMoisturizer will hydrate your skin. It will make it appear smoother and less flaky.\\n4-3. Protect your skin from the sun.\\nThis doesn't mean that you have to avoid the sun. Instead, try wearing sunscreen each time you go out. If you don't like wearing sunscreen on your face, try using some foundation or moisturizer that has SPF 15.\\n4-4. Know that acne, pimples, and blackheads are normal.\\nEveryone gets them at some point in their lives. Some people get them sooner than others. If you find yourself burdened with acne, there are a few things you can do to make it less severe:\\nTry not to pick or pop your pimples. This will cause them to bleed, and you may get scars.\\nWash your face twice a day. This will help get rid of acne-causing bacteria. If you wear makeup, be sure to wash it off before you go to bed.\\nBuy some pimple cream from the drug store. Keep in mind that these creams may take some time to work. Don't use more than directed; this won't make the pimples disappear faster.\\nAsk your parents if you can see a dermatologist if you have severe acne. Most pimple creams will do the job, but some people might need something stronger. A dermatologist may help you find the right product, or give you a prescription.\\nConsider covering some pimples up with concealer. Everyone gets pimples, but if they really lower your confidence, you can dab on a little concealer over them to make them less noticeable.\\n5. Taking Care of Your Hair\\n5-1. Buy the right products for your hair type.\\nThere are many types of hair, and therefore, there are various solutions for various hair types. If your hair looks frizzy, matte, or just not that great, take a look at your shampoo and conditioner bottles. Are you using a shampoo that matches your hair type? If not, try to get a shampoo that says it's for your hair type (such as curly, dry, colored, and so forth), and see if that helps.\\nIf you have dry hair, look for products that say \\\"hydrating\\\" or \\\"moisturizing.\\\" Try not to wash your hair every day. Instead, wash it every two to three days.\\nIf you have oily hair, look for a clarifying shampoo, or something that says its meant for oily hair. Try leaving the shampoo on your scalp for up to five minutes. When it comes to conditioner, only use it on the ends of your hair.\\nIf you have thin, limp hair, look for a volumizing shampoo. It will make your hair appear thicker and give it extra body.\\nIf you dye your hair, get a shampoo that says it's for \\\"colored hair.\\\" It will help your dye job last longer. It will also take care of your hair and help keep it soft; most hair dyes are very harsh and drying on hair.\\n5-2. Make sure that you are washing and brushing your hair properly.\\nHow you wash and brush your hair will affect how it looks in the end. Here are some tips on how to get your hair to look its best:\\nWash your hair no more than three times a week. The more often you wash it, the more oil it will produce.\\nUse warm or lukewarm water instead of hot water. Hot water will cause your hair to lose moisture and frizz. Consider rinsing your hair with cool water; this will seal the hair cuticle, reduce frizz, and make it shiny.\\nMake sure you are leaving the conditioner in your hair long enough. Most brands needs to be left for three to five minutes, but you might want to check the label on the back of the bottle.\\nBrush or comb your hair when it is almost dry. Start from the ends first, and work your way up towards the roots. Wet hair is very stretchy, and snaps easily.\\n5-3. Know how to tame annoying frizz.\\nCurly hair can be beautiful, but it can also get frizzy and unruly. It tangles easily and gets in your face when you are trying to work. Here are some things you can try to bring out the natural beauty of your curls:\\nDon't use a hairbrush. This usually is what causes frizz. Instead, use a wide-toothed comb when your hair is dry. If you must brush your hair, do it only when it's wet.\\nTry adding in a little bit of Argan oil or coconut oil to your hair.\\n5-4. Know how to take care of split ends.\\nThere is no way to permanently seal the split ends together; however, you can temporarily seal them with a split end mending cream. Simply apply some of the cream to your split ends. The only way to get rid of split ends, however, is to trim your hair. If you don't do this, the damage will continue to creep up the hair shaft.\\nTry not to over-brush your hair. Also, try to use less heat-styling (such as straightening or curling). If you must straighten or curl your hair, be sure to use a heat protecting spray.\\n5-5. Use curling irons, flat irons, and hairdryers with care.\\nWhen you are using a hairdryer, use a medium-heat setting instead of a high one. Hold the nozzle 6 to 8 inches (15.2 to 20.3 cm) (15.24 to 20.32 inches) away from your head. Also, be sure to use a heat protecting sprays if you are going to straighten or curl your hair. There is nothing wrong with straightening or curling your hair, but it is very important to use a heat protecting spray on your hair before doing so. If you don't, you will fry your hair, and make it brittle and dry.\\n5-6. Know what to do on bad hair days.\\nEveryone gets one at some point or another, and they can be pretty embarrassing. If your hair just doesn't want to behave, no matter what you do, try putting it in a braid or wearing a hat over it. It will look chic and cute, and keep you from feeling too embarrassed or self-conscious.\\n5-7. Use the right styling products to get the right look.\\nThere are a few things you can add to your hair to make it look glossy and shiny. Here are some ideas:\\nUse a smoothing cream or oil if your have frizz. This will tame your hair, and let your natural curls or waves show through.\\nUse a small amount of hair oil, such as Argan oil or coconut oil, if you have dull hair and want to add some shine back to it.\\nUse some gel or mousse to bring if you have curly hair, and want to bring out your spirals and ringlets. The gel or mousse will help your curls keep their shape and texture.\\nIf you have straight hair or want to blow dry your hair straight, spray your hair down with a heat protecting spray. Use a nozzle attachment on your hairdryer, and aim the nozzle downwards when drying.\\n5-8. Experiment with different hairstyles.\\nYour hair frames your face, and can also highlight certain features. Play around with various methods of styling to see what you like. There are at least 15 Ways to Have a Simple Hairstyle for School.\\nFind out what type of face shape you have. This can help you determine what sort of haircut might look best on you.\\n6. Knowing Yourself\\n6-1. Think about what you consider to be pretty.\\nEveryone has their own ideas of what is pretty and what isn't -- and these ideas even change amongst different countries. When reading this article, you should consider what you think is pretty. If you think that wild, curly hair is pretty, then go for it. Don't be afraid to be yourself and set your own standards.\\nRemember that true beauty comes from the inside and uniqueness is also beautiful. If you've only believed that beauty was physical before, redefine this idea and contemplate the possibilities.\\nAt the same time, try to set realistic expectations. For example, instead of drastically trying to change your figure, skin color, or hair, try to accept the way you look first. Take good care of your hair and skin and focus on the parts you do like about yourself (such as your eyes or your curly hair).\\n6-2. Believe in your own beauty.\\nSometimes, people can be their own worst critics. Take a moment and treat yourself like a friend -- would you be as harsh on yourself? What are your best qualities (both inside and out)?\\nMaybe you value certain features about yourself because they are inherited from a loved one. Accept yourself as you are, and recognize that you are not perfect -- but no one is, it's human.\\nAppreciate your uniqueness, develop the qualities you want that you have control over (such as your personality, intelligence, and health), and trust that your beauty will grow day by day.\\n7. Being Pretty on the Inside\\n7-1. Know that beauty also comes from the inside.\\nEven the prettiest girl can lose friends if she is mean, manipulative, or uncaring. At the same time, the plainest girl can find many friends if they are kind, fair, and thoughtful. This section will give you a few tips on how to let your inner beauty shine through.\\n7-2. Smile often.\\nA scowl or frown can make anyone look unpleasant and intimidating. A friendly smile, however, can make any face look brighter and approachable.\\n7-3. Be polite.\\nMake sure to say \\\"please,\\\" when asking for something, and \\\"thank you,\\\" when you get it. Also, if you need to get past someone, say \\\"excuse me.\\\"\\n7-4. Show that you care for others.\\nIf you notice your friend or classmate looking sad, ask them what's wrong or if they'd like to talk about it. If they do start to talk, listen to them attentively. Even if their problems are not ones you may be able to connect with, they will recognize that you care. They will see this as a beautiful quality about you.\\nYou can also show that you care by volunteering at homes for the elderly, soup kitchens, or animal shelters.\\n7-5. Try to be more positive and supportive.\\nThe more positive and supportive you are, the better you will feel about yourself. You may even stop focusing on your flaws (such as that annoying pimple that keeps popping up) and start seeing the good things about yourself. Here are some ways you can be more positive:\\nIf something doesn't turn out the way you liked, try to find something good about the situation. You can also consider what you can do to improve the situation next time. Oftentimes, the lesson you take away will be more valuable than a favorable outcome. By focusing on the benefits, you can strengthen your perspective.\\nIn unforeseeable circumstances, see if you can adapt to the situation and make the most out of it. For instance, if it rains on the day of the picnic you spent all week planning, see if you can bring it inside. You could even set up a movie or bring out a few board games to play with your friends.\\nIf your friend is really excited about something, try to share their excitement. You can also ask them questions about it to show that you are interested.\\nIf your friend is really good at something, try to encourage them. For example, if your friend is good at drawing, tell them that their drawing is really good and that you really like their style.\\n7-6. Don't be a bully and don't encourage bullying.\\nPutting someone down will never make you feel better about yourself or accomplish anything worthwhile. In reality, the more you make fun of others, the worse you will feel about yourself. Sometimes, the bullying might even come back to you. You could really hurt someone, and make them feel really bad about themselves.\\nInstead, ask yourself what it is that would make you consider bullying or participating in it -- are there internal issues you may need to work through? Are you trying to feel accepted by the bully? Is the person being bullied or their actions symbolic of something or someone that you dislike? Perhaps they reflect a quality about yourself that you neglect or wish could be better.\\n7-7. Work and study hard.\\nEven if you don't get good grades or score the most goals on your team, people will notice if you try hard. They will appreciate your efforts and look up to you. Developing your intelligence will also open many doors (such as opportunities) for you.\\nTry to do well in school. Find a subject that you really like or are passionate about, and try to do the best you can in it. You might even get people asking you for help in that subject. Even if there is a subject that is not your strength, give it attention. You may be noticed for your diligence and/or find people that want to help you or work together.\\n7-8. Don't forget about your hobbies and talents.\\nIf you like to draw, then consider taking some art classes. If you like to sing and dance, consider trying out for the school play. Building an arsenal of skills will help you cultivate who you are as a person.\\n7-9. Learn about the world around you.\\nLook around the familiar and see if you notice anything new or different today - was there something you weren't aware of before? Try to explore different places, cultures, topics, and look for similarities and differences. Being curious and building your knowledge is not only a fun thing to do, but you will find a treasure trove of intrigue that will connect you with others in ways you would never imagine possible.\\nRead more. Read the news (both domestic and worldwide) and see what you can learn. Read literature, poetry, or non-fiction, and take a dive into someone else's life or ideas.\\nListen to what other people have to say. Listen to the radio, podcasts, and listen more closely to the people around you. Every person has knowledge that they can offer that can help you grow.\\nAsk questions. \\\"Why\\\" is one of the best questions and can often help you find the heart of the issue in many cases. Don't be afraid to ask questions, because questions (when asked correctly) can also make another person feel important. Furthermore, it will make you look and feel confident, but also help you gain knowledge.\\n7-10. Try to be confident but don't be arrogant.\\nDon't brag about the things you are good at, but don't try to hide your talents either. When you walk, try to keep your chin up, your back straight, and your shoulders tilted back. This will help you look and feel more confident. Many people find confidence attractive, but moreover, confidence will encourage you to nurture your personal growth into becoming the person you want to be.\\nTips\\nSet your own standards for beauty. This will help you feel most confident about yourself. If you think that curly hair is beautiful, then go for it.\\nThere are many cosmetic lines that now offer organic or mineral makeup. Try giving that a try if you feel that you want to venture into the makeup world.\\nDon't be afraid to experiment with your own style. What looks good on your friends may not look good on you. Try to find something that flatters you, and that you feel comfortable in.\\nWarnings\\nTry not to get discouraged by models in fashion magazines. Many of the photos are actually heavily edited and Photoshopped. The models' thighs and waists usually look slim because they have been erased and/or contoured in an image program to look that way.\\nYour body is changing. You will experience acne and weight changes. This is normal. Try not to get too discouraged by it and accept your body for the way it is.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"What \\\"pretty\\\" is, is something that you will have to decide for yourself, regardless of what you see or hear from the media and other people. Everyone has enviable features, whether they recognize it or not, and what makes you different may in reality be what makes you most beautiful. Beauty is not just just skin deep, beauty is: confidence, believing in yourself, and who you are as a person. Right now, your body is still changing, and not always in ways that you may like at the moment. Some changes, such as pimples, might make it difficult to feel good about yourself. This article will give you a few tips on how to make the best of these physical changes and maintaining other physical qualities, such as taking care of your skin and hair. However, know that you are already pretty, and you're pretty amazing.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Your Outfits and Style\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand that style is a fluid concept.\", \"描述\": \"Steve Urkel, a fictional U.S. television character in the 90s, was famously dressed in unpopular fashion at the time. However, in 2011, his style would have been considered the epitome of cool. Similarly, following the history of a single style alone can be very telling. Bell bottoms were initially from the 1800s, re-introduced as high fashion in Europe the mid-60s, and went mainstream in the US and Europe in the 70s. There was a revival in a varied form in the 90s, which is now known as \\\"boot-cut\\\", though styles similar to the 70s have been seen in recent years. Furthermore, boho-chic (bohemian) styles popular in the 60s-70s have also come into popularity again in recent years. Style can also be seasonal -- with lighter and brighter colors trending in the Spring-Summer, and medium to darker hues in the Fall-Winter (this is applicable across clothes, hair, and makeup).\\nUltimately, trends recycle, reuse, and rotate. What's popular now, may not be tomorrow, and vice versa -- but at the same time, style can live on eternally in the world of high fashion and couture. For example, Alexander McQueen is worshiped in the fashion realm but considered gothic. Even if a style is not recognized where you live, it may be celebrated across the globe. Such as steampunk, which has been gaining momentum within Japanese subcultures in recent years.\\nAt the end of the day, clothes are also a practical means to an end. This is something visionaries such as Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg have accepted in an effort to be more efficient -- they wore/wear the same thing every day. Some people do unfortunately tend to use looks as a way to gauge a person. Forgive those people since they may not know any better, whether they were raised that way or influenced by societal cues, but also notice if you have these thoughts and feelings. Focus on yourself and what you like. Even if it is not preferable to others, it is always respectable. More importantly, it will allow you to learn more about yourself.\\nIf you're truly trying to be fashionable, and on trend, you're going to have to be aware of current trends on Instagram, in magazines, on famous people, etc.\\nObviously, you need to see which trends work for your age and your current style.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to experiment with different styles.\", \"描述\": \"You can still dress goth, skater, scene, or emo and still look pretty. You can even try on some vintage dresses for a chic, feminine look. If you are adopting a new style that may not be widely accepted it may take time for you to feel comfortable and confident.\\nConsider talking to your guardian(s) and friends about your interests first. If they do not support you, know that there are people that would (there are many examples of parents supporting their children's choices for instance). If you are not ready yet and you want to put it off until a later time, that's OK too -- it's never too early or too late (consider Baddiewinkle) to express yourself through your personal style. Know that there are always other people that share the same interests as you, they just may not be accessible to you yet.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Embracing what you like may take bravery, but you are not alone in your exploration.\", \"描述\": \"For instance, as a high-schooler, Kyemah McEntyre became an internet sensation by going forth and creating her phenomenal vision of an African-inspired prom dress despite being bullied. Style can be a means to change perception and/or perspective, and not everyone is receptive to change or something different in any situation (including those closest to you). Accept that there will be challenges along the way, and try to find people, or a community of like-minded people, that will support you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Recognize that your personal style is your own.\", \"描述\": \"Even not caring is a style (the Parisians, for instance, are famously known for their love of effortless-chic). Choose a style that you feel comfortable in. If you don't feel comfortable in your outfit, don't wear it. Part of looking pretty is feeling comfortable and confident in your clothes.\\nNote: The steps below may not be applicable to all styles, so if the suggestion is not in line with what you actually like, go with your personal preference, whether that's grunge, baggy clothes (which were popular in the 90's and always comfortable), minimalist, or you simply don't care.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Know that every shape is pretty, and beautiful clothes exist for every type of person.\", \"描述\": \"You definitely do not have to be thin to be pretty -- remember, beauty varies from person-to-person and country-to-country. Curvy girls and large girls can be some of the most beautiful and fabulous people you ever meet. Models, such as Robyn Lawley and Ashley Graham, continue to defy current standards while building their own. Also, keep in mind that your body is still changing. Many teenage girls experience changes in weight. Also, know that a friendly smile is most attractive.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make sure that your clothes are clean and in good condition.\", \"描述\": \"Dirt, stains, and tears can detract from any outfit, no matter how well put together it is. Most shirts need to be washed after being worn once or twice. Pants and skirts can be worn a few times before needing to be washed.\\nIf something gets torn, try to mend it by stitching it together.\\nIf something is stained, you will need to use a stain remover on it before putting it into the laundry.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Highlight your own best features.\", \"描述\": \"Know how to make unflattering outfits flattering. Loose, flowing tops can look graceful and pretty, but they can also get in the way. If you have one, try securing it around your waist with a cute belt. A tank top may look cute, but it may also make your shoulders look too big or too small for your tastes. If this happens, try throwing a cardigan over it for a quick, chic look.\\nYou can also learn more about how to Dress for Your Body Type.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Wear clothes that fit you, even if they aren't currently in fashion.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure that you are buying your size. Tight-fitting clothes can be uncomfortable and difficult to breathe in, while baggy clothes can be difficult to move around in. If you find something that you really like, but you can't find your size, ask the cashier if you can order the outfit in your size. You can also get it altered, or find creative temporary ways to alter them yourself. Pants should fit comfortably around your waist. The shoulder width of a shirt should match your own shoulder width. You should feel comfortable in whatever you wear.\\nSome stores sell jeans that come have short, normal, and long leg lengths. If you are really short or really tall, this is something you could consider.\\nJust because your friends wear low-waist jeans does not mean that you have to. If you find high-waist jeans more comfortable, and if they look great on you, then go for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Try adding some accessories.\", \"描述\": \"A cute belt or a simple necklace can take your outfit to the next level. It can make it look as though you spent a lot of time putting your outfit together.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Understand that style is a fluid concept.\", \"描述\": \"Steve Urkel, a fictional U.S. television character in the 90s, was famously dressed in unpopular fashion at the time. However, in 2011, his style would have been considered the epitome of cool. Similarly, following the history of a single style alone can be very telling. Bell bottoms were initially from the 1800s, re-introduced as high fashion in Europe the mid-60s, and went mainstream in the US and Europe in the 70s. There was a revival in a varied form in the 90s, which is now known as \\\"boot-cut\\\", though styles similar to the 70s have been seen in recent years. Furthermore, boho-chic (bohemian) styles popular in the 60s-70s have also come into popularity again in recent years. Style can also be seasonal -- with lighter and brighter colors trending in the Spring-Summer, and medium to darker hues in the Fall-Winter (this is applicable across clothes, hair, and makeup).\\nUltimately, trends recycle, reuse, and rotate. What's popular now, may not be tomorrow, and vice versa -- but at the same time, style can live on eternally in the world of high fashion and couture. For example, Alexander McQueen is worshiped in the fashion realm but considered gothic. Even if a style is not recognized where you live, it may be celebrated across the globe. Such as steampunk, which has been gaining momentum within Japanese subcultures in recent years.\\nAt the end of the day, clothes are also a practical means to an end. This is something visionaries such as Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg have accepted in an effort to be more efficient -- they wore/wear the same thing every day. Some people do unfortunately tend to use looks as a way to gauge a person. Forgive those people since they may not know any better, whether they were raised that way or influenced by societal cues, but also notice if you have these thoughts and feelings. Focus on yourself and what you like. Even if it is not preferable to others, it is always respectable. More importantly, it will allow you to learn more about yourself.\\nIf you're truly trying to be fashionable, and on trend, you're going to have to be aware of current trends on Instagram, in magazines, on famous people, etc.\\nObviously, you need to see which trends work for your age and your current style.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Doing Your Makeup\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start with a clean face before applying any makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Be sure to use some toner and moisturizer. This will help give you a nice, clean canvas to work on. To get some skin-care tips for your face, click here.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use foundation or a tinted moisturizer to even out your skin tone.\", \"描述\": \"Foundation can be a little heavy for daily wear, but a tinted moisturizer is a great way to even out your skin tone while keeping it fresh and moisturized. You can apply foundation with your fingers, a makeup sponge, or a foundation brush—just be sure to blend it in, especially around the sides of your face and along your jawline.\\nMake sure that your foundation matches your skin tone, even if you are not happy with your skin color. If you use a shade that is too light or too dark, your makeup won't look very natural.\\nIf you spend a lot of time out in the sun, consider getting something with 15 SPF in it.\\nConsider using some concealer to hide blemishes. Pimples are a part of growing up, but they can be embarrassing. If you have a pimple that really bothers you, don't pop it. Instead, dab a little concealer over it. Blend the concealer with a makeup brush into the rest of your skin, and then set it with some loose setting powder.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use makeup to bring some color to your cheeks or lips.\", \"描述\": \"Use a powder brush to dust on some blush or onto the apples of your cheeks and across your forehead. This will give you a healthy glow. You can also add color to your lips with some lip gloss or lip balm. This is also a great way to keep your lips looking smooth. Consider adding lipstick on special occasions.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go light on the eye makeup.\", \"描述\": \"You can use mascara just by itself to enhance your eyes, or you can use it with some eyeliner and eyeshadow. If you have light-colored hair, use a dark brown eyeliner or mascara. If you have dark-colored hair, you can get away with a darker color, such as black or charcoal. For the eyeshadow, try to stick with neutral colors, such as browns and creams. Save the brighter colors for special events.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Limit the perfume.\", \"描述\": \"Most perfumes are too strong for daily wear. If you want to smell like a flower or cupcakes, try getting some body spray. It is much lighter and less expensive, but it still smells great. Don't over-do it, however; one or two squirts is enough.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Know how to make your makeup work with glasses.\", \"描述\": \"Just because you wear glasses doesn't mean that you have to skip out on the makeup. If you like wearing makeup, there are a few things you can do to make your eyes stand out even more. Here are some tips:\\nPut some concealer or light-colored eyeshadow on the inner corner of your eyes. Be sure to blend it well. This will help get rid of any shadows cast by the glasses.\\nDefine your eyebrows. You don't have to pluck them, but try to keep them well-groomed by combing over them with a brow brush.\\nGo easy on the eyeshadow. Glasses tend to cast lots of shadow on your eyes already. If you like to wear eyeshadow, try using lighter or softer colors. You can also use neutral colors as well. You might want to skip on the dark colors; however.\\nDo some winged eyeliner. The will help make your eyes appear even larger. You can also use a little bit of eyeliner on your lower lash line.\\nTry adding some mascara. This will help define your eyes.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Always remove all of your makeup before going to bed.\", \"描述\": \"Sleeping with your makeup on can be extremely detrimental in the long-term, aging you as much as 10 years if done every day for a month.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Your Body and Health\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Maintain good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"Staying clean will not only help you look your best, but it will also help you feel better too. Here are some things to keep in mind:\\nBrush your teeth twice a day. If you wear braces, you might want to brush your teeth after you eat something. Consider bringing a toothbrush and toothpaste with you to school. Also, take care of your teeth by flossing.\\nTake a bath or shower once a day. Try not to do this more than once a day, because it will dry out your skin. This will help you stay healthy; it will also help you feel fresh.\\nWear deodorant to keep body odor down. This may also help increase your self-confidence. You don't have to smell like a rose to feel good about yourself. A fresh, natural scent is okay too.\\nConsider using perfume. Use on wrists, elbows, neck, and upper body. Try to use only one spritz because otherwise, you will smell too strong! Natural fragrances are good, and refreshing or sweet are too. Just use whatever is right for you!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep.\", \"描述\": \"Plan on sleeping eight to nine hours a night. Your body will be healthier, and your skin and hair will look better too. You may also find your mood to be lighter, and that you are feeling less stressed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider eating healthy food and skip on the junk food.\", \"描述\": \"Things like pizza, french fries, candy, chips, and hot dogs aren't great for your health. They can cause weight gain, wreck havoc on your skin, and influence your mood. They also lack the nutrients your body needs. Foods like fruits, vegetables, fish, nuts, and lean meats, however, are packed with nutrients and vitamins. They are not only good for your body, but for your skin and hair as well. Try to include more of these in your diet and see how it affects you on a long-term basis.\\nYou could also try doing exercises to become more toned, especially abdominal-benefiting ones! This will not only make you feel the sports-happy-rush, but you will start to feel generally better with yourself.\\nIt is perfectly fine to treat yourself to something sweet, such as a chocolate or cookie, every once in a while.\\nOftentimes, this lifestyle change can be difficult if you are accustomed to a certain diet. Junk food can be addictive and even inhibit the desire to change what you eat. Adjust slowly starting with things you can tolerate, or find creative ways to incorporate the foods that are difficult for you. For instance, you can often throw various greens into a smoothie and completely mask the taste with complimentary fruits.\\nIf you are determined, consider setting small goals to start. For example, you can make it a goal to experiment with a new vegetable, nut, or fruit each week to figure out what it is you like or different things you can do with it. Another idea is trying to substitute a healthy snack for an unhealthy snack for 5 days a week within a month.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Drink more water.\", \"描述\": \"Most popular sodas have a lot of sugar, and even most juices have substantial sugar. Coffee is actually dehydrating and can significantly affect your skin, so much so that estheticians have suggested drinking two cups of water for every 1 cup of coffee on top of your daily 8. Even tea can be dehydrating, though not as much as coffee. Aside from minimizing calories, drinking more water produces numerous other benefits, including (but not limited to): better skin (flushing out toxins and helping blood flow), lowering stress (which can be caused by dehydration), and giving you more energy (also a side-effect of dehydration).\\nDrinking less soda and coffee may require time, as the two can be habit-forming. Start off with a few cups of water a day, and increase over time. Consider adding ice and/or fresh lemon to make it taste more refreshing. You can also infuse water with fruits or cucumber to get that extra taste you are looking for.\\nIf you prefer carbonation, you can consider sparkling water without additives. While it is a mild acid (like juice) and can erode the teeth over time, there is no evidence at this time that it can be harmful otherwise.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Exercise to stay healthy.\", \"描述\": \"Exercise is not just for those who want to lose weight; it also helps reduce stress and increase the hormones responsible for causing happiness. Even if you have a small frame, taking a long walk every once in a while will help keep you in shape.\\nThis may require a lifestyle change, which always takes time to adjust. Feel free to go at your own pace, and start by thinking about what you enjoy. If you've always wanted to try a yoga class, check your local listings to see if any of them offer a free trial or discounted trial period. Simply dance around to your favorite song at home, because why not?\\nInvolving a friend is often helpful. For instance, you can substitute your weekly coffee catch-up sessions with a leisurely stroll around a local track. Check deal listings and find one or two new activities to explore with a friend or two periodically, or until you find something that you like.\\nSetting weekly goals or having a set day and time per week can really help your efforts. Consider adding and marking it off a calendar, since this will give you a sense of accomplishment.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Know what you can do to lose weight if you are self-conscious about your body.\", \"描述\": \"Everybody's shape is beautiful, but if your figure really bothers you and makes you unhappy, there are a few things you can try to lose some weight. Keep in mind, however, that losing weight will take some time. Don't overwork yourself just to lose your weight faster. You will get very sick instead.\\nEat well, but eat healthy. Do not starve yourself or skip meals. Instead, try to eat normal-sized, healthy meals. These will include things such as fruits, vegetables, fish, nuts, and lean meats. Try to avoid eating unhealthy foods, such as sweets and fast food.\\nSkip on the sugary drinks, and drink more water. These are easy calories to lose as you get used to it over time. Also avoid drinks that may be dehydrating, such as coffee.\\nExercise a few times a week. Try swimming, jogging, or doing some sit-ups. If you haven't exercised before, or have not done it in a while, start with small, easy sessions first.\\nGet enough sleep. Try to get to bed early, and get around eight or nine hours. Studies have shown that going to bed late and not sleeping enough is tied to weight gain (and stress).\\nConsider enrolling in a weight-loss program or boot camp. It might be more fun and motivating to do it with other people.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Understand that you don't have to wear makeup to be pretty.\", \"描述\": \"Every face is pretty in its own way, but makeup can help bring out certain features, such as the eyes or lips. It may also help you feel good about yourself. This section will give you some basic makeup tips for a more natural look. You don't have to do all of them, however; you can just wear some lip gloss or mascara.\\nInstead of trying to cover up the parts of your face that you don't like, try to focus on parts that you do like. This may help you feel less stressed about your looks. For example, if you don't like your nose, don't worry about trying to change it. Instead, focus your makeup on a part of your face that you do like, such as your eyes or lips.\\nOn the other hand, if you enjoy experimenting with makeup or want to create more dramatic looks to highlight your style, go for it. You should do what feels best for you, regardless of what other people may say. The tips below are not a one-size-fits-all solution. Only you know what works best for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Your Skin\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take care of your face by washing it twice a day.\", \"描述\": \"Try not to use body wash or hand soap; they are too harsh and will dry your skin out. You also don't want to wash your face too often, even if it is very oily. This will also cause your skin to dry out. When your skin becomes too dry, it will start producing extra oils to make up for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use toner and moisturizer after washing your face.\", \"描述\": \"Soak a cotton ball with some toner, and sweep it across your face, focusing on the nose, forehead, chin, and cheeks. Avoid the sensitive area around your eyes. Follow up with some moisturizer. If you have oily skin, try to find a light-weight or gel-based moisturizer.\\nThe toner will help restore your skin's natural pH. It will also help tighten your pores.\\nMoisturizer will hydrate your skin. It will make it appear smoother and less flaky.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Protect your skin from the sun.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean that you have to avoid the sun. Instead, try wearing sunscreen each time you go out. If you don't like wearing sunscreen on your face, try using some foundation or moisturizer that has SPF 15.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know that acne, pimples, and blackheads are normal.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone gets them at some point in their lives. Some people get them sooner than others. If you find yourself burdened with acne, there are a few things you can do to make it less severe:\\nTry not to pick or pop your pimples. This will cause them to bleed, and you may get scars.\\nWash your face twice a day. This will help get rid of acne-causing bacteria. If you wear makeup, be sure to wash it off before you go to bed.\\nBuy some pimple cream from the drug store. Keep in mind that these creams may take some time to work. Don't use more than directed; this won't make the pimples disappear faster.\\nAsk your parents if you can see a dermatologist if you have severe acne. Most pimple creams will do the job, but some people might need something stronger. A dermatologist may help you find the right product, or give you a prescription.\\nConsider covering some pimples up with concealer. Everyone gets pimples, but if they really lower your confidence, you can dab on a little concealer over them to make them less noticeable.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Your Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Buy the right products for your hair type.\", \"描述\": \"There are many types of hair, and therefore, there are various solutions for various hair types. If your hair looks frizzy, matte, or just not that great, take a look at your shampoo and conditioner bottles. Are you using a shampoo that matches your hair type? If not, try to get a shampoo that says it's for your hair type (such as curly, dry, colored, and so forth), and see if that helps.\\nIf you have dry hair, look for products that say \\\"hydrating\\\" or \\\"moisturizing.\\\" Try not to wash your hair every day. Instead, wash it every two to three days.\\nIf you have oily hair, look for a clarifying shampoo, or something that says its meant for oily hair. Try leaving the shampoo on your scalp for up to five minutes. When it comes to conditioner, only use it on the ends of your hair.\\nIf you have thin, limp hair, look for a volumizing shampoo. It will make your hair appear thicker and give it extra body.\\nIf you dye your hair, get a shampoo that says it's for \\\"colored hair.\\\" It will help your dye job last longer. It will also take care of your hair and help keep it soft; most hair dyes are very harsh and drying on hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make sure that you are washing and brushing your hair properly.\", \"描述\": \"How you wash and brush your hair will affect how it looks in the end. Here are some tips on how to get your hair to look its best:\\nWash your hair no more than three times a week. The more often you wash it, the more oil it will produce.\\nUse warm or lukewarm water instead of hot water. Hot water will cause your hair to lose moisture and frizz. Consider rinsing your hair with cool water; this will seal the hair cuticle, reduce frizz, and make it shiny.\\nMake sure you are leaving the conditioner in your hair long enough. Most brands needs to be left for three to five minutes, but you might want to check the label on the back of the bottle.\\nBrush or comb your hair when it is almost dry. Start from the ends first, and work your way up towards the roots. Wet hair is very stretchy, and snaps easily.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know how to tame annoying frizz.\", \"描述\": \"Curly hair can be beautiful, but it can also get frizzy and unruly. It tangles easily and gets in your face when you are trying to work. Here are some things you can try to bring out the natural beauty of your curls:\\nDon't use a hairbrush. This usually is what causes frizz. Instead, use a wide-toothed comb when your hair is dry. If you must brush your hair, do it only when it's wet.\\nTry adding in a little bit of Argan oil or coconut oil to your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know how to take care of split ends.\", \"描述\": \"There is no way to permanently seal the split ends together; however, you can temporarily seal them with a split end mending cream. Simply apply some of the cream to your split ends. The only way to get rid of split ends, however, is to trim your hair. If you don't do this, the damage will continue to creep up the hair shaft.\\nTry not to over-brush your hair. Also, try to use less heat-styling (such as straightening or curling). If you must straighten or curl your hair, be sure to use a heat protecting spray.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use curling irons, flat irons, and hairdryers with care.\", \"描述\": \"When you are using a hairdryer, use a medium-heat setting instead of a high one. Hold the nozzle 6 to 8 inches (15.2 to 20.3 cm) (15.24 to 20.32 inches) away from your head. Also, be sure to use a heat protecting sprays if you are going to straighten or curl your hair. There is nothing wrong with straightening or curling your hair, but it is very important to use a heat protecting spray on your hair before doing so. If you don't, you will fry your hair, and make it brittle and dry.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Know what to do on bad hair days.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone gets one at some point or another, and they can be pretty embarrassing. If your hair just doesn't want to behave, no matter what you do, try putting it in a braid or wearing a hat over it. It will look chic and cute, and keep you from feeling too embarrassed or self-conscious.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Use the right styling products to get the right look.\", \"描述\": \"There are a few things you can add to your hair to make it look glossy and shiny. Here are some ideas:\\nUse a smoothing cream or oil if your have frizz. This will tame your hair, and let your natural curls or waves show through.\\nUse a small amount of hair oil, such as Argan oil or coconut oil, if you have dull hair and want to add some shine back to it.\\nUse some gel or mousse to bring if you have curly hair, and want to bring out your spirals and ringlets. The gel or mousse will help your curls keep their shape and texture.\\nIf you have straight hair or want to blow dry your hair straight, spray your hair down with a heat protecting spray. Use a nozzle attachment on your hairdryer, and aim the nozzle downwards when drying.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Experiment with different hairstyles.\", \"描述\": \"Your hair frames your face, and can also highlight certain features. Play around with various methods of styling to see what you like. There are at least 15 Ways to Have a Simple Hairstyle for School.\\nFind out what type of face shape you have. This can help you determine what sort of haircut might look best on you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Knowing Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think about what you consider to be pretty.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone has their own ideas of what is pretty and what isn't -- and these ideas even change amongst different countries. When reading this article, you should consider what you think is pretty. If you think that wild, curly hair is pretty, then go for it. Don't be afraid to be yourself and set your own standards.\\nRemember that true beauty comes from the inside and uniqueness is also beautiful. If you've only believed that beauty was physical before, redefine this idea and contemplate the possibilities.\\nAt the same time, try to set realistic expectations. For example, instead of drastically trying to change your figure, skin color, or hair, try to accept the way you look first. Take good care of your hair and skin and focus on the parts you do like about yourself (such as your eyes or your curly hair).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Believe in your own beauty.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, people can be their own worst critics. Take a moment and treat yourself like a friend -- would you be as harsh on yourself? What are your best qualities (both inside and out)?\\nMaybe you value certain features about yourself because they are inherited from a loved one. Accept yourself as you are, and recognize that you are not perfect -- but no one is, it's human.\\nAppreciate your uniqueness, develop the qualities you want that you have control over (such as your personality, intelligence, and health), and trust that your beauty will grow day by day.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Being Pretty on the Inside\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know that beauty also comes from the inside.\", \"描述\": \"Even the prettiest girl can lose friends if she is mean, manipulative, or uncaring. At the same time, the plainest girl can find many friends if they are kind, fair, and thoughtful. This section will give you a few tips on how to let your inner beauty shine through.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Smile often.\", \"描述\": \"A scowl or frown can make anyone look unpleasant and intimidating. A friendly smile, however, can make any face look brighter and approachable.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be polite.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure to say \\\"please,\\\" when asking for something, and \\\"thank you,\\\" when you get it. Also, if you need to get past someone, say \\\"excuse me.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Show that you care for others.\", \"描述\": \"If you notice your friend or classmate looking sad, ask them what's wrong or if they'd like to talk about it. If they do start to talk, listen to them attentively. Even if their problems are not ones you may be able to connect with, they will recognize that you care. They will see this as a beautiful quality about you.\\nYou can also show that you care by volunteering at homes for the elderly, soup kitchens, or animal shelters.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try to be more positive and supportive.\", \"描述\": \"The more positive and supportive you are, the better you will feel about yourself. You may even stop focusing on your flaws (such as that annoying pimple that keeps popping up) and start seeing the good things about yourself. Here are some ways you can be more positive:\\nIf something doesn't turn out the way you liked, try to find something good about the situation. You can also consider what you can do to improve the situation next time. Oftentimes, the lesson you take away will be more valuable than a favorable outcome. By focusing on the benefits, you can strengthen your perspective.\\nIn unforeseeable circumstances, see if you can adapt to the situation and make the most out of it. For instance, if it rains on the day of the picnic you spent all week planning, see if you can bring it inside. You could even set up a movie or bring out a few board games to play with your friends.\\nIf your friend is really excited about something, try to share their excitement. You can also ask them questions about it to show that you are interested.\\nIf your friend is really good at something, try to encourage them. For example, if your friend is good at drawing, tell them that their drawing is really good and that you really like their style.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't be a bully and don't encourage bullying.\", \"描述\": \"Putting someone down will never make you feel better about yourself or accomplish anything worthwhile. In reality, the more you make fun of others, the worse you will feel about yourself. Sometimes, the bullying might even come back to you. You could really hurt someone, and make them feel really bad about themselves.\\nInstead, ask yourself what it is that would make you consider bullying or participating in it -- are there internal issues you may need to work through? Are you trying to feel accepted by the bully? Is the person being bullied or their actions symbolic of something or someone that you dislike? Perhaps they reflect a quality about yourself that you neglect or wish could be better.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Work and study hard.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you don't get good grades or score the most goals on your team, people will notice if you try hard. They will appreciate your efforts and look up to you. Developing your intelligence will also open many doors (such as opportunities) for you.\\nTry to do well in school. Find a subject that you really like or are passionate about, and try to do the best you can in it. You might even get people asking you for help in that subject. Even if there is a subject that is not your strength, give it attention. You may be noticed for your diligence and/or find people that want to help you or work together.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't forget about your hobbies and talents.\", \"描述\": \"If you like to draw, then consider taking some art classes. If you like to sing and dance, consider trying out for the school play. Building an arsenal of skills will help you cultivate who you are as a person.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Learn about the world around you.\", \"描述\": \"Look around the familiar and see if you notice anything new or different today - was there something you weren't aware of before? Try to explore different places, cultures, topics, and look for similarities and differences. Being curious and building your knowledge is not only a fun thing to do, but you will find a treasure trove of intrigue that will connect you with others in ways you would never imagine possible.\\nRead more. Read the news (both domestic and worldwide) and see what you can learn. Read literature, poetry, or non-fiction, and take a dive into someone else's life or ideas.\\nListen to what other people have to say. Listen to the radio, podcasts, and listen more closely to the people around you. 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1. Steps
1-1. Take care of your appearance.
This is very important. Keep a neutral exterior at first, in prefer to prevent people from prejudging you.
1-2. Keep yourself clean.
Have good body hygiene, be fresh, and stay clean. Nobody will want to talk to you after a whiff of body odor. Brush your teeth at least twice a day, wash your hair everyday and take a shower at least four times in a week.
Shower regularly. Take a shower every one or two days, depending on the weather and the level of activity you've undertaken. Always shower after a heavy workout, though.
Some girls have to wash their hair everyday because it's naturally greasy, and some girls only every other day. Find out what's right for you.
Tuck your hair up under a shower cap. Do so if you wish to take a shower but feel your hair doesn't need a wash.
Smell sweet. Use scented hair or body products in the shower, and use some body lotion in order to keep your skin soft. Spray yourself lightly with perfume or body mists. You may wish to buy coordinated scents to maximize the effect. Whilst a faint smell is lovely, beware of overdoing it, especially at school. Less is more.
No amount of 'smellies' can successfully mask the smell of sweat. Use a good antiperspirant to prevent sweating. You may wish to top off with a deodorant which will mask the smell of your sweat.
1-3. Make sure you are wearing clean clothes, underwear, socks and bras.
If you wear a uniform, you may not need to wash your jumper, trousers, or skirt more than once a week. However, you should remember to change your shirt everyday or every other day.
1-4. Take care of your skin.
Get rid of acne or pimples if you have any. Use a daily facial cleanser to reduce or prevent acne. Choose one which complements your natural skin type: normal, dry, sensitive, oily or combined. Follow up with a moisturizer as facial cleansers tend to be drying.
Experiment with different products to find what best suits you. Talk to a pharmacist about the products on offer. However, give each product a fortnight or so before you expect to see any real effect.
If you find that you have a lot of problems with spots, visit your doctor. They may prescribe certain medications to help clear it up.
1-5. Consider some makeup to accentuate your natural features!
Use light, natural tones for school. In addition, save the bright colors for parties.
Use a close to your complexion foundation or for a lighter feel, a tinted moisturizer. Apply concealer under the eyes and on pimples. Pat it on, and don't rub it in. Afterwards, lightly dab on face powder to cover your face, and blend in your foundation with your concealer.
Remember to remove all makeup every night. Otherwise, it will clog your pores and cause acne.
1-6. Apply eye makeup.
This showcases your lovely eyes and suited for your eye color. Choose what works for you best. If you prefer only to wear lip gloss and concealer, then do that.
If you have blue eyes, there are several shadow shades that will work for you. Shades in the brown, light pink and violet families work best generally. Also, try rich browns, golds, warm taupe, soft peaches, and pretty lilacs.
For eyeliner, go with a brown shade or dark brown to keep it subtle and soft. You want to look as if you woke up that way. With mascara, use brown or brown/black mascara, or even clear mascara to look the most natural.
"Decorate" your green eyes. Violet and plum eye shadow shades are best for green eyes. Warmer colors like deep purples, mauve, lilacs, and medium pinks are also good choices. Browns, bronzes, golds, coppers, and deep greens will also compliment your eye color.
For eyeliner, try a dark brown, hunter green, or plum shade. Black eyeliner can often be too overwhelming. However, if you think it can look nice, then use it. Your mascara should be brownish black too. Use black mascara sparingly.
Complement your brown eyes. Brown eyes are some of the easiest to complement. This eye color can get away with greens, golds, browns, pinks, blues, grays and purples. Earthy colors tend to look the best for neutral looks.
Black eyeliner will work nicely with brown eyes. Use some black mascara to open and brighten the eyes.
Complement hazel eyes. Shades of pale pink, light purple and baby blush look great with hazel eyes. Use some shimmer on your lids to bring out the twinkle in your eyes. Hazel eyes stand out with deep greens, lavenders and shades with soft yellow undertones. To bring out the gold in your eyes, choose golden based eye shadows.
To bring out the green specks in your eyes, choose a brighter green shade like emerald and apply in three different intensities.
To bring out the blue specks in your eyes, go with purple in three different shades. To highlight the brown base of your hazel eyes stick with natural shades of brown. This will give you that "do-like" appearance.
To bring out the green and blue specks with a more natural look, go with soft natural shades paired with dark green or blue liner and black mascara.
1-7. Keep your lips moist and soft.
This way, you won't need to lick them all day. Exfoliate your lips once every 2 weeks with a homemade scrub or one bought from the store.
Use a medicated lip balm or chap-stick of your choice. Do this in order to keep them smooth and supple. Apply your favorite lip gloss/lip tint on top, in order to get sheer and shiny lips. Lip glosses come in many sweet flavors. Do not lick them off!
1-8. Decide on how best to manage body or facial hair.
If you wish to remove hair from your arms or legs, try shaving, waxing or using a hair removal cream.
Try shaving if you haven't already. Use a shaving cream with a razor to remove hair. Buy a woman's razor to avoid nicking yourself. Sensitive razors are available for shavings your underarms and bikini area. If you are afraid of cutting yourself, try a depilatory cream or lotion.
1-9. Try waxing.
Waxing is the longest term solution available to most teenage girls. If you wish to start waxing, find a reputable practitioner or try it yourself at home. Follow the instructions carefully to ensure the best experience and results.
1-10. Don't use body hair removal creams on your face.
They cause pimples and bumps.
1-11. Use an eyebrow comb, and brush it back to groom your eyebrows.
Any stray hairs should be plucked away. Straight eyebrows tend to look more youthful, arched eyebrows look more mature and grown up.
If your eyebrows are thin and undefined, use an eyebrow pencil, or matte eyeshadow. Use it close to your eyebrow color to color them in. Use a pencil/shadow at least 2 shades lighter then your hair. Never use black; it looks far too harsh, even on black eyebrows.
1-12. Wash your hair two times a week; do this in order to avoid stripping your hair of its natural oils.
Dry hair is more prone to damage and breakage.
Use a high quality shampoo and conditioner, then apply your styling products.
If your hair gets very oily and you feel like you have to shampoo your hair everyday, invest in a dry shampoo from a local beauty supply store. If your hair is more textured (curly or wavy) shampoo your hair once to twice a week, and use a conditioner on your no-shampoo days. Every hair type deserves personalized care; curly hair has different needs to straight or wavy hair.
If you want to add something interesting, try coloring your hair; do not use anything too bold or different. Don't go from black to platinum blonde, you may be labeled as unoriginal or fake.
Do soft, subtle shades about one to two shades lighter for a complete dye. For highlights or a soft ombre, you can temporarily try different colors of your choice. Nothing too out of the ordinary, especially at private schools.
1-13. Try not to alter your hair too much with heat appliances or chemicals daily, your natural hair will suffer and get terrible heat damage.
Once in a while heat manipulation isn't too bad.
Always use a heat protestant to avoid damaging your hair too much. If you prefer using no heat, there are tons of heat-less ways to differently style your hair on YouTube. You can even get new hairstyle tutorials to try.
For example, use a french braid, fishtail, waterfall, heat-less waves, creative ponytails and buns, etc. Style it differently everyday. A little accessory makes a difference.
1-14. Try new hairstyles.
Try curling your hair sometimes for loose waves, or scrunching it for a wet beach look. You can also straighten it for a sleek look, and try different ponytail and bun styles with varied headbands.
1-15. Check your dress code before applying these tips.
If your new school allows you to wear whatever you please, make it your own. Wear plenty of cute tops with skirts and jeans. Simple cardigans, sweaters, and jackets can dress up or down an outfit.
1-16. Wear comfortable shoes.
Never pick style over comfort. Cute wedges, ballerina flats, sandals (if your school allows it), and sneakers (if you're the sporty type) can always make your outfit look great.
Wear what your school allows. If you have a skirt that you feel is a bit too long, Roll it up a bit, but no more than two to four inches above the knee. The school will know and the people will confront you in front of the whole class. How embarrassing!
Try untucking your school shirt, and unbuttoning the first two buttons, which is usually above your cleavage. But, if you can't do anything to alter the uniform due to strict teachers, leave the uniform alone.
1-17. Add pretty accessories.
Try jewelry, a pretty headband, and a cute tote bag. Wear the expected socks or shoes. Most private schools have a designated color, such as brown or black.
1-18. Wear cute shoes.
For black shoes, wear ballerina flats, low heels, Toms, Sperrys, or Converses/Vans, or Mary Janes. Many of those shoes come in different color options.
1-19. Keep your nails well groomed, like the rest of your body.
If you aren't allowed to wear nail polish, just put on a clear polish. If you are then experiment, and try fun and funky colors ranging from red to white, green to blue. Try anything! If you want to look simple, and a bit more matured, you can also try a pretty french manicure on your natural nails or acrylic/gel.
1-20. Be careful with activities you may do if you get long acrylic nails.
The nails can snag, and make your natural nail brittle and weak. Weigh out the pros and cons.
1-21. Keep good attitude.
At every class, try to sit and talk to someone new, don't be rude to anyone it can come back and nip you in the bottom.
On the first week of school, just tag along. Don't try to be friends with anyone just yet. Find a person to help you adapt to class. She will be a good friend to you, so don't stop talking to her when you get popular.
1-22. Figure out the popular kids.
That's the easiest way to become popular, or if they are mean. You don't want to turn into that then stay with the kids you met in classes.
If you gain more friends and are confident enough, try joining the school council, or even president. Don't be fake and try to like everything they like, you still want to be yourself right? And what fun would it be anyway if you weren't yourself?
1-23. Get on social networking websites.
Try Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, etc. You can add friends on those websites. Try hanging out in places they would normally be at. ex: Starbucks/Caribou, school gym, mall, etc. Ask to sit with them, Be prepared for a solid "No". They might not exactly trust you yet. If they say "yes" then your right on track.
Soak up their trends, gossip, and everything else. Do not distribute it, though.
They might not even care for your opinion right now, as they might not even consider you a friend.
You can get into conflicts with others for gossiping about them.
If you tell a secret of theirs to someone else they won't trust you anymore. You'll be at square one again, so don't get too overconfident and forget who you are.
1-24. Don't be afraid to initiate things.
You'll know when you did everything correctly when they have a party/sleepover that they invite you to, That means they like you. They won't just invite anyone to their house, right? If they have any plans and choose to invite you, that will seal the deal.
If you aren't invited, don't be too disappointed, maybe you'll have to initiate interactions. You can invite her (leader of clique), and her only to your house. She might accept.
Keep the conversations light and flowing. Do fun things like prank call people, watch movies, bake things, do nails, makeup, facials, and hair. Don't feel restricted to only be at your place. If your old enough you could plan it on a night that has a party, you could get ready at your place, (Hair, makeup, cute outfits) and have a blast at the party. Afterwards, you could come home and do something else interesting.
The next time you can invite the others, but if you feel like you have to always initiate conversations and she never tries to talk to you either, then maybe it isn't even worth it. She may also be hard to convince or trust people as a close friend.
Don't share your beliefs and deep secrets yet, focus a little on her for now so she can build your trust as well as you, so you can be certain she doesn't distribute your secrets and beliefs either.
1-25. If you don't like the kids, but still want to be popular, then make your own clique.
To have a clique find a few people you feel the most connection with and make a group with them.
1-26. Smile
Be yourself, and honest. Don't lie or brag, Nobody likes a liar!
Tips
If this article doesn't help, then maybe you shouldn't try so hard. Give it some time, what goes around comes back around! Being popular doesn't define who you are as a person anyway!
Plus as a bonus, you'll have tons of different friends from different cliques/backgrounds to converse with and learn new things about. Sometimes just that is enough! Less is more in the end.
Try not to end up sitting alone during lunch, You don't want to be a loner. Try to get someone to sit with.
Make other friends on the side as well, you don't want to make it seem like she's the only friend you have and can spend time with. You don't have to be exactly close with them, But speak to them. Hang out with them sometimes and do things with them on the weekends.
Warnings
Don't wear anything offensive. And don't look like you just rolled in school just after waking up and failing to handle your hygiene. If you have a uniform, then dress it up.
Be nice to everyone, You never know who will end up best friends with!
Don't use Depilatory Creams or Lotion if you have sensitive skin, it may irritate your skin.
Discontinue use straight away if any product causes you any soreness or irritation.
Don't turn into a wannabe, they look the part but can't act it out. Those kids will try anything to be popular. And people dislike them for such, Remember to always be the unique, you! There isn't a thing better than that, It's better being yourself and not being popular then sacrificing your true behavior for a bunch of "popular" kids. Popularity isn't just about being the prettiest or being the funniest. It's about knowing a lot of people, And building a relationship with other kids gets you noticed a lot. So don't think that popularity is always like how it is on television(Though it might be at your school) Just don't let it become your top priority.
Don't steal her from her friends, They could end up hating you for that. Include her friends in activities you will take part in.
Don't cluster up to popular kids too much, they'll get annoyed and you won't become popular!
Don't pluck your brows too much at this age group. Just remove any stray hairs, and set with an eyebrow gel.
Don't use Veet or Nair on your face unless you want unnecessary bumps and pimples.
Don't spend so much time on being social and popular that you neglect your grades, No one wants to be friends with a person with bad grades especially at a private school where that is one of the more important qualities.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Take care of your appearance.\\nThis is very important. Keep a neutral exterior at first, in prefer to prevent people from prejudging you.\\n1-2. Keep yourself clean.\\nHave good body hygiene, be fresh, and stay clean. Nobody will want to talk to you after a whiff of body odor. Brush your teeth at least twice a day, wash your hair everyday and take a shower at least four times in a week.\\nShower regularly. Take a shower every one or two days, depending on the weather and the level of activity you've undertaken. Always shower after a heavy workout, though.\\nSome girls have to wash their hair everyday because it's naturally greasy, and some girls only every other day. Find out what's right for you.\\nTuck your hair up under a shower cap. Do so if you wish to take a shower but feel your hair doesn't need a wash.\\n\\nSmell sweet. Use scented hair or body products in the shower, and use some body lotion in order to keep your skin soft. Spray yourself lightly with perfume or body mists. You may wish to buy coordinated scents to maximize the effect. Whilst a faint smell is lovely, beware of overdoing it, especially at school. Less is more.\\nNo amount of 'smellies' can successfully mask the smell of sweat. Use a good antiperspirant to prevent sweating. You may wish to top off with a deodorant which will mask the smell of your sweat.\\n1-3. Make sure you are wearing clean clothes, underwear, socks and bras.\\nIf you wear a uniform, you may not need to wash your jumper, trousers, or skirt more than once a week. However, you should remember to change your shirt everyday or every other day.\\n1-4. Take care of your skin.\\nGet rid of acne or pimples if you have any. Use a daily facial cleanser to reduce or prevent acne. Choose one which complements your natural skin type: normal, dry, sensitive, oily or combined. Follow up with a moisturizer as facial cleansers tend to be drying.\\nExperiment with different products to find what best suits you. Talk to a pharmacist about the products on offer. However, give each product a fortnight or so before you expect to see any real effect.\\nIf you find that you have a lot of problems with spots, visit your doctor. They may prescribe certain medications to help clear it up.\\n1-5. Consider some makeup to accentuate your natural features!\\nUse light, natural tones for school. In addition, save the bright colors for parties.\\nUse a close to your complexion foundation or for a lighter feel, a tinted moisturizer. Apply concealer under the eyes and on pimples. Pat it on, and don't rub it in. Afterwards, lightly dab on face powder to cover your face, and blend in your foundation with your concealer.\\nRemember to remove all makeup every night. Otherwise, it will clog your pores and cause acne.\\n1-6. Apply eye makeup.\\nThis showcases your lovely eyes and suited for your eye color. Choose what works for you best. If you prefer only to wear lip gloss and concealer, then do that.\\nIf you have blue eyes, there are several shadow shades that will work for you. Shades in the brown, light pink and violet families work best generally. Also, try rich browns, golds, warm taupe, soft peaches, and pretty lilacs.\\nFor eyeliner, go with a brown shade or dark brown to keep it subtle and soft. You want to look as if you woke up that way. With mascara, use brown or brown/black mascara, or even clear mascara to look the most natural.\\n\\\"Decorate\\\" your green eyes. Violet and plum eye shadow shades are best for green eyes. Warmer colors like deep purples, mauve, lilacs, and medium pinks are also good choices. Browns, bronzes, golds, coppers, and deep greens will also compliment your eye color.\\nFor eyeliner, try a dark brown, hunter green, or plum shade. Black eyeliner can often be too overwhelming. However, if you think it can look nice, then use it. Your mascara should be brownish black too. Use black mascara sparingly.\\nComplement your brown eyes. Brown eyes are some of the easiest to complement. This eye color can get away with greens, golds, browns, pinks, blues, grays and purples. Earthy colors tend to look the best for neutral looks.\\nBlack eyeliner will work nicely with brown eyes. Use some black mascara to open and brighten the eyes.\\nComplement hazel eyes. Shades of pale pink, light purple and baby blush look great with hazel eyes. Use some shimmer on your lids to bring out the twinkle in your eyes. Hazel eyes stand out with deep greens, lavenders and shades with soft yellow undertones. To bring out the gold in your eyes, choose golden based eye shadows.\\nTo bring out the green specks in your eyes, choose a brighter green shade like emerald and apply in three different intensities.\\nTo bring out the blue specks in your eyes, go with purple in three different shades. To highlight the brown base of your hazel eyes stick with natural shades of brown. This will give you that \\\"do-like\\\" appearance.\\nTo bring out the green and blue specks with a more natural look, go with soft natural shades paired with dark green or blue liner and black mascara.\\n1-7. Keep your lips moist and soft.\\nThis way, you won't need to lick them all day. Exfoliate your lips once every 2 weeks with a homemade scrub or one bought from the store.\\nUse a medicated lip balm or chap-stick of your choice. Do this in order to keep them smooth and supple. Apply your favorite lip gloss/lip tint on top, in order to get sheer and shiny lips. Lip glosses come in many sweet flavors. Do not lick them off!\\n1-8. Decide on how best to manage body or facial hair.\\nIf you wish to remove hair from your arms or legs, try shaving, waxing or using a hair removal cream.\\nTry shaving if you haven't already. Use a shaving cream with a razor to remove hair. Buy a woman's razor to avoid nicking yourself. Sensitive razors are available for shavings your underarms and bikini area. If you are afraid of cutting yourself, try a depilatory cream or lotion.\\n1-9. Try waxing.\\nWaxing is the longest term solution available to most teenage girls. If you wish to start waxing, find a reputable practitioner or try it yourself at home. Follow the instructions carefully to ensure the best experience and results.\\n1-10. Don't use body hair removal creams on your face.\\nThey cause pimples and bumps.\\n1-11. Use an eyebrow comb, and brush it back to groom your eyebrows.\\nAny stray hairs should be plucked away. Straight eyebrows tend to look more youthful, arched eyebrows look more mature and grown up.\\nIf your eyebrows are thin and undefined, use an eyebrow pencil, or matte eyeshadow. Use it close to your eyebrow color to color them in. Use a pencil/shadow at least 2 shades lighter then your hair. Never use black; it looks far too harsh, even on black eyebrows.\\n1-12. Wash your hair two times a week; do this in order to avoid stripping your hair of its natural oils.\\nDry hair is more prone to damage and breakage.\\nUse a high quality shampoo and conditioner, then apply your styling products.\\nIf your hair gets very oily and you feel like you have to shampoo your hair everyday, invest in a dry shampoo from a local beauty supply store. If your hair is more textured (curly or wavy) shampoo your hair once to twice a week, and use a conditioner on your no-shampoo days. Every hair type deserves personalized care; curly hair has different needs to straight or wavy hair.\\nIf you want to add something interesting, try coloring your hair; do not use anything too bold or different. Don't go from black to platinum blonde, you may be labeled as unoriginal or fake.\\nDo soft, subtle shades about one to two shades lighter for a complete dye. For highlights or a soft ombre, you can temporarily try different colors of your choice. Nothing too out of the ordinary, especially at private schools.\\n1-13. Try not to alter your hair too much with heat appliances or chemicals daily, your natural hair will suffer and get terrible heat damage.\\nOnce in a while heat manipulation isn't too bad.\\nAlways use a heat protestant to avoid damaging your hair too much. If you prefer using no heat, there are tons of heat-less ways to differently style your hair on YouTube. You can even get new hairstyle tutorials to try.\\nFor example, use a french braid, fishtail, waterfall, heat-less waves, creative ponytails and buns, etc. Style it differently everyday. A little accessory makes a difference.\\n1-14. Try new hairstyles.\\nTry curling your hair sometimes for loose waves, or scrunching it for a wet beach look. You can also straighten it for a sleek look, and try different ponytail and bun styles with varied headbands.\\n1-15. Check your dress code before applying these tips.\\nIf your new school allows you to wear whatever you please, make it your own. Wear plenty of cute tops with skirts and jeans. Simple cardigans, sweaters, and jackets can dress up or down an outfit.\\n1-16. Wear comfortable shoes.\\nNever pick style over comfort. Cute wedges, ballerina flats, sandals (if your school allows it), and sneakers (if you're the sporty type) can always make your outfit look great.\\nWear what your school allows. If you have a skirt that you feel is a bit too long, Roll it up a bit, but no more than two to four inches above the knee. The school will know and the people will confront you in front of the whole class. How embarrassing!\\nTry untucking your school shirt, and unbuttoning the first two buttons, which is usually above your cleavage. But, if you can't do anything to alter the uniform due to strict teachers, leave the uniform alone.\\n1-17. Add pretty accessories.\\nTry jewelry, a pretty headband, and a cute tote bag. Wear the expected socks or shoes. Most private schools have a designated color, such as brown or black.\\n1-18. Wear cute shoes.\\nFor black shoes, wear ballerina flats, low heels, Toms, Sperrys, or Converses/Vans, or Mary Janes. Many of those shoes come in different color options.\\n1-19. Keep your nails well groomed, like the rest of your body.\\nIf you aren't allowed to wear nail polish, just put on a clear polish. If you are then experiment, and try fun and funky colors ranging from red to white, green to blue. Try anything! If you want to look simple, and a bit more matured, you can also try a pretty french manicure on your natural nails or acrylic/gel.\\n1-20. Be careful with activities you may do if you get long acrylic nails.\\nThe nails can snag, and make your natural nail brittle and weak. Weigh out the pros and cons.\\n1-21. Keep good attitude.\\nAt every class, try to sit and talk to someone new, don't be rude to anyone it can come back and nip you in the bottom.\\nOn the first week of school, just tag along. Don't try to be friends with anyone just yet. Find a person to help you adapt to class. She will be a good friend to you, so don't stop talking to her when you get popular.\\n1-22. Figure out the popular kids.\\nThat's the easiest way to become popular, or if they are mean. You don't want to turn into that then stay with the kids you met in classes.\\nIf you gain more friends and are confident enough, try joining the school council, or even president. Don't be fake and try to like everything they like, you still want to be yourself right? And what fun would it be anyway if you weren't yourself?\\n1-23. Get on social networking websites.\\nTry Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, etc. You can add friends on those websites. Try hanging out in places they would normally be at. ex: Starbucks/Caribou, school gym, mall, etc. Ask to sit with them, Be prepared for a solid \\\"No\\\". They might not exactly trust you yet. If they say \\\"yes\\\" then your right on track.\\nSoak up their trends, gossip, and everything else. Do not distribute it, though.\\nThey might not even care for your opinion right now, as they might not even consider you a friend.\\nYou can get into conflicts with others for gossiping about them.\\nIf you tell a secret of theirs to someone else they won't trust you anymore. You'll be at square one again, so don't get too overconfident and forget who you are.\\n1-24. Don't be afraid to initiate things.\\nYou'll know when you did everything correctly when they have a party/sleepover that they invite you to, That means they like you. They won't just invite anyone to their house, right? If they have any plans and choose to invite you, that will seal the deal.\\nIf you aren't invited, don't be too disappointed, maybe you'll have to initiate interactions. You can invite her (leader of clique), and her only to your house. She might accept.\\nKeep the conversations light and flowing. Do fun things like prank call people, watch movies, bake things, do nails, makeup, facials, and hair. Don't feel restricted to only be at your place. If your old enough you could plan it on a night that has a party, you could get ready at your place, (Hair, makeup, cute outfits) and have a blast at the party. Afterwards, you could come home and do something else interesting.\\nThe next time you can invite the others, but if you feel like you have to always initiate conversations and she never tries to talk to you either, then maybe it isn't even worth it. She may also be hard to convince or trust people as a close friend.\\nDon't share your beliefs and deep secrets yet, focus a little on her for now so she can build your trust as well as you, so you can be certain she doesn't distribute your secrets and beliefs either.\\n1-25. If you don't like the kids, but still want to be popular, then make your own clique.\\nTo have a clique find a few people you feel the most connection with and make a group with them.\\n1-26. Smile\\nBe yourself, and honest. Don't lie or brag, Nobody likes a liar!\\nTips\\nIf this article doesn't help, then maybe you shouldn't try so hard. Give it some time, what goes around comes back around! Being popular doesn't define who you are as a person anyway!\\nPlus as a bonus, you'll have tons of different friends from different cliques/backgrounds to converse with and learn new things about. Sometimes just that is enough! Less is more in the end.\\nTry not to end up sitting alone during lunch, You don't want to be a loner. Try to get someone to sit with.\\nMake other friends on the side as well, you don't want to make it seem like she's the only friend you have and can spend time with. You don't have to be exactly close with them, But speak to them. Hang out with them sometimes and do things with them on the weekends.\\nWarnings\\nDon't wear anything offensive. And don't look like you just rolled in school just after waking up and failing to handle your hygiene. If you have a uniform, then dress it up.\\nBe nice to everyone, You never know who will end up best friends with!\\nDon't use Depilatory Creams or Lotion if you have sensitive skin, it may irritate your skin.\\nDiscontinue use straight away if any product causes you any soreness or irritation.\\nDon't turn into a wannabe, they look the part but can't act it out. Those kids will try anything to be popular. And people dislike them for such, Remember to always be the unique, you! There isn't a thing better than that, It's better being yourself and not being popular then sacrificing your true behavior for a bunch of \\\"popular\\\" kids. Popularity isn't just about being the prettiest or being the funniest. It's about knowing a lot of people, And building a relationship with other kids gets you noticed a lot. So don't think that popularity is always like how it is on television(Though it might be at your school) Just don't let it become your top priority.\\nDon't steal her from her friends, They could end up hating you for that. Include her friends in activities you will take part in.\\nDon't cluster up to popular kids too much, they'll get annoyed and you won't become popular!\\nDon't pluck your brows too much at this age group. Just remove any stray hairs, and set with an eyebrow gel.\\nDon't use Veet or Nair on your face unless you want unnecessary bumps and pimples.\\nDon't spend so much time on being social and popular that you neglect your grades, No one wants to be friends with a person with bad grades especially at a private school where that is one of the more important qualities.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to become popular at your new school? Were you unpopular at your old school, and feel the need to change that? Well, keep on reading! There is no accurate way to become popular but if you want to know how to be popular, you are at the right place.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take care of your appearance.\", \"描述\": \"This is very important. Keep a neutral exterior at first, in prefer to prevent people from prejudging you.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep yourself clean.\", \"描述\": \"Have good body hygiene, be fresh, and stay clean. Nobody will want to talk to you after a whiff of body odor. Brush your teeth at least twice a day, wash your hair everyday and take a shower at least four times in a week.\\nShower regularly. Take a shower every one or two days, depending on the weather and the level of activity you've undertaken. Always shower after a heavy workout, though.\\nSome girls have to wash their hair everyday because it's naturally greasy, and some girls only every other day. Find out what's right for you.\\nTuck your hair up under a shower cap. Do so if you wish to take a shower but feel your hair doesn't need a wash.\\n\\nSmell sweet. Use scented hair or body products in the shower, and use some body lotion in order to keep your skin soft. Spray yourself lightly with perfume or body mists. You may wish to buy coordinated scents to maximize the effect. Whilst a faint smell is lovely, beware of overdoing it, especially at school. Less is more.\\nNo amount of 'smellies' can successfully mask the smell of sweat. Use a good antiperspirant to prevent sweating. You may wish to top off with a deodorant which will mask the smell of your sweat.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make sure you are wearing clean clothes, underwear, socks and bras.\", \"描述\": \"If you wear a uniform, you may not need to wash your jumper, trousers, or skirt more than once a week. However, you should remember to change your shirt everyday or every other day.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take care of your skin.\", \"描述\": \"Get rid of acne or pimples if you have any. Use a daily facial cleanser to reduce or prevent acne. Choose one which complements your natural skin type: normal, dry, sensitive, oily or combined. Follow up with a moisturizer as facial cleansers tend to be drying.\\nExperiment with different products to find what best suits you. Talk to a pharmacist about the products on offer. However, give each product a fortnight or so before you expect to see any real effect.\\nIf you find that you have a lot of problems with spots, visit your doctor. They may prescribe certain medications to help clear it up.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider some makeup to accentuate your natural features!\", \"描述\": \"Use light, natural tones for school. In addition, save the bright colors for parties.\\nUse a close to your complexion foundation or for a lighter feel, a tinted moisturizer. Apply concealer under the eyes and on pimples. Pat it on, and don't rub it in. Afterwards, lightly dab on face powder to cover your face, and blend in your foundation with your concealer.\\nRemember to remove all makeup every night. Otherwise, it will clog your pores and cause acne.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Apply eye makeup.\", \"描述\": \"This showcases your lovely eyes and suited for your eye color. Choose what works for you best. If you prefer only to wear lip gloss and concealer, then do that.\\nIf you have blue eyes, there are several shadow shades that will work for you. Shades in the brown, light pink and violet families work best generally. Also, try rich browns, golds, warm taupe, soft peaches, and pretty lilacs.\\nFor eyeliner, go with a brown shade or dark brown to keep it subtle and soft. You want to look as if you woke up that way. With mascara, use brown or brown/black mascara, or even clear mascara to look the most natural.\\n\\\"Decorate\\\" your green eyes. Violet and plum eye shadow shades are best for green eyes. Warmer colors like deep purples, mauve, lilacs, and medium pinks are also good choices. Browns, bronzes, golds, coppers, and deep greens will also compliment your eye color.\\nFor eyeliner, try a dark brown, hunter green, or plum shade. Black eyeliner can often be too overwhelming. However, if you think it can look nice, then use it. Your mascara should be brownish black too. Use black mascara sparingly.\\nComplement your brown eyes. Brown eyes are some of the easiest to complement. This eye color can get away with greens, golds, browns, pinks, blues, grays and purples. Earthy colors tend to look the best for neutral looks.\\nBlack eyeliner will work nicely with brown eyes. Use some black mascara to open and brighten the eyes.\\nComplement hazel eyes. Shades of pale pink, light purple and baby blush look great with hazel eyes. Use some shimmer on your lids to bring out the twinkle in your eyes. Hazel eyes stand out with deep greens, lavenders and shades with soft yellow undertones. To bring out the gold in your eyes, choose golden based eye shadows.\\nTo bring out the green specks in your eyes, choose a brighter green shade like emerald and apply in three different intensities.\\nTo bring out the blue specks in your eyes, go with purple in three different shades. To highlight the brown base of your hazel eyes stick with natural shades of brown. This will give you that \\\"do-like\\\" appearance.\\nTo bring out the green and blue specks with a more natural look, go with soft natural shades paired with dark green or blue liner and black mascara.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Keep your lips moist and soft.\", \"描述\": \"This way, you won't need to lick them all day. Exfoliate your lips once every 2 weeks with a homemade scrub or one bought from the store.\\nUse a medicated lip balm or chap-stick of your choice. Do this in order to keep them smooth and supple. Apply your favorite lip gloss/lip tint on top, in order to get sheer and shiny lips. Lip glosses come in many sweet flavors. Do not lick them off!\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Decide on how best to manage body or facial hair.\", \"描述\": \"If you wish to remove hair from your arms or legs, try shaving, waxing or using a hair removal cream.\\nTry shaving if you haven't already. Use a shaving cream with a razor to remove hair. Buy a woman's razor to avoid nicking yourself. Sensitive razors are available for shavings your underarms and bikini area. If you are afraid of cutting yourself, try a depilatory cream or lotion.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Try waxing.\", \"描述\": \"Waxing is the longest term solution available to most teenage girls. If you wish to start waxing, find a reputable practitioner or try it yourself at home. Follow the instructions carefully to ensure the best experience and results.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Don't use body hair removal creams on your face.\", \"描述\": \"They cause pimples and bumps.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Use an eyebrow comb, and brush it back to groom your eyebrows.\", \"描述\": \"Any stray hairs should be plucked away. Straight eyebrows tend to look more youthful, arched eyebrows look more mature and grown up.\\nIf your eyebrows are thin and undefined, use an eyebrow pencil, or matte eyeshadow. Use it close to your eyebrow color to color them in. Use a pencil/shadow at least 2 shades lighter then your hair. Never use black; it looks far too harsh, even on black eyebrows.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Wash your hair two times a week; do this in order to avoid stripping your hair of its natural oils.\", \"描述\": \"Dry hair is more prone to damage and breakage.\\nUse a high quality shampoo and conditioner, then apply your styling products.\\nIf your hair gets very oily and you feel like you have to shampoo your hair everyday, invest in a dry shampoo from a local beauty supply store. If your hair is more textured (curly or wavy) shampoo your hair once to twice a week, and use a conditioner on your no-shampoo days. Every hair type deserves personalized care; curly hair has different needs to straight or wavy hair.\\nIf you want to add something interesting, try coloring your hair; do not use anything too bold or different. Don't go from black to platinum blonde, you may be labeled as unoriginal or fake.\\nDo soft, subtle shades about one to two shades lighter for a complete dye. For highlights or a soft ombre, you can temporarily try different colors of your choice. Nothing too out of the ordinary, especially at private schools.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Try not to alter your hair too much with heat appliances or chemicals daily, your natural hair will suffer and get terrible heat damage.\", \"描述\": \"Once in a while heat manipulation isn't too bad.\\nAlways use a heat protestant to avoid damaging your hair too much. If you prefer using no heat, there are tons of heat-less ways to differently style your hair on YouTube. You can even get new hairstyle tutorials to try.\\nFor example, use a french braid, fishtail, waterfall, heat-less waves, creative ponytails and buns, etc. Style it differently everyday. A little accessory makes a difference.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Try new hairstyles.\", \"描述\": \"Try curling your hair sometimes for loose waves, or scrunching it for a wet beach look. You can also straighten it for a sleek look, and try different ponytail and bun styles with varied headbands.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Check your dress code before applying these tips.\", \"描述\": \"If your new school allows you to wear whatever you please, make it your own. Wear plenty of cute tops with skirts and jeans. Simple cardigans, sweaters, and jackets can dress up or down an outfit.\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Wear comfortable shoes.\", \"描述\": \"Never pick style over comfort. Cute wedges, ballerina flats, sandals (if your school allows it), and sneakers (if you're the sporty type) can always make your outfit look great.\\nWear what your school allows. If you have a skirt that you feel is a bit too long, Roll it up a bit, but no more than two to four inches above the knee. The school will know and the people will confront you in front of the whole class. How embarrassing!\\nTry untucking your school shirt, and unbuttoning the first two buttons, which is usually above your cleavage. But, if you can't do anything to alter the uniform due to strict teachers, leave the uniform alone.\"}, {\"编号\": 17, \"标题\": \"Add pretty accessories.\", \"描述\": \"Try jewelry, a pretty headband, and a cute tote bag. Wear the expected socks or shoes. Most private schools have a designated color, such as brown or black.\"}, {\"编号\": 18, \"标题\": \"Wear cute shoes.\", \"描述\": \"For black shoes, wear ballerina flats, low heels, Toms, Sperrys, or Converses/Vans, or Mary Janes. Many of those shoes come in different color options.\"}, {\"编号\": 19, \"标题\": \"Keep your nails well groomed, like the rest of your body.\", \"描述\": \"If you aren't allowed to wear nail polish, just put on a clear polish. If you are then experiment, and try fun and funky colors ranging from red to white, green to blue. Try anything! If you want to look simple, and a bit more matured, you can also try a pretty french manicure on your natural nails or acrylic/gel.\"}, {\"编号\": 20, \"标题\": \"Be careful with activities you may do if you get long acrylic nails.\", \"描述\": \"The nails can snag, and make your natural nail brittle and weak. Weigh out the pros and cons.\"}, {\"编号\": 21, \"标题\": \"Keep good attitude.\", \"描述\": \"At every class, try to sit and talk to someone new, don't be rude to anyone it can come back and nip you in the bottom.\\nOn the first week of school, just tag along. Don't try to be friends with anyone just yet. Find a person to help you adapt to class. She will be a good friend to you, so don't stop talking to her when you get popular.\"}, {\"编号\": 22, \"标题\": \"Figure out the popular kids.\", \"描述\": \"That's the easiest way to become popular, or if they are mean. You don't want to turn into that then stay with the kids you met in classes.\\nIf you gain more friends and are confident enough, try joining the school council, or even president. Don't be fake and try to like everything they like, you still want to be yourself right? And what fun would it be anyway if you weren't yourself?\"}, {\"编号\": 23, \"标题\": \"Get on social networking websites.\", \"描述\": \"Try Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, etc. You can add friends on those websites. Try hanging out in places they would normally be at. ex: Starbucks/Caribou, school gym, mall, etc. Ask to sit with them, Be prepared for a solid \\\"No\\\". They might not exactly trust you yet. If they say \\\"yes\\\" then your right on track.\\nSoak up their trends, gossip, and everything else. Do not distribute it, though.\\nThey might not even care for your opinion right now, as they might not even consider you a friend.\\nYou can get into conflicts with others for gossiping about them.\\nIf you tell a secret of theirs to someone else they won't trust you anymore. You'll be at square one again, so don't get too overconfident and forget who you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 24, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to initiate things.\", \"描述\": \"You'll know when you did everything correctly when they have a party/sleepover that they invite you to, That means they like you. They won't just invite anyone to their house, right? If they have any plans and choose to invite you, that will seal the deal.\\nIf you aren't invited, don't be too disappointed, maybe you'll have to initiate interactions. You can invite her (leader of clique), and her only to your house. She might accept.\\nKeep the conversations light and flowing. Do fun things like prank call people, watch movies, bake things, do nails, makeup, facials, and hair. Don't feel restricted to only be at your place. If your old enough you could plan it on a night that has a party, you could get ready at your place, (Hair, makeup, cute outfits) and have a blast at the party. Afterwards, you could come home and do something else interesting.\\nThe next time you can invite the others, but if you feel like you have to always initiate conversations and she never tries to talk to you either, then maybe it isn't even worth it. She may also be hard to convince or trust people as a close friend.\\nDon't share your beliefs and deep secrets yet, focus a little on her for now so she can build your trust as well as you, so you can be certain she doesn't distribute your secrets and beliefs either.\"}, {\"编号\": 25, \"标题\": \"If you don't like the kids, but still want to be popular, then make your own clique.\", \"描述\": \"To have a clique find a few people you feel the most connection with and make a group with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 26, \"标题\": \"Smile\", \"描述\": \"Be yourself, and honest. Don't lie or brag, Nobody likes a liar!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If this article doesn't help, then maybe you shouldn't try so hard. Give it some time, what goes around comes back around! Being popular doesn't define who you are as a person anyway!\\nPlus as a bonus, you'll have tons of different friends from different cliques/backgrounds to converse with and learn new things about. Sometimes just that is enough! Less is more in the end.\\n\", \"Try not to end up sitting alone during lunch, You don't want to be a loner. Try to get someone to sit with.\\n\", \"Make other friends on the side as well, you don't want to make it seem like she's the only friend you have and can spend time with. You don't have to be exactly close with them, But speak to them. Hang out with them sometimes and do things with them on the weekends.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't wear anything offensive. And don't look like you just rolled in school just after waking up and failing to handle your hygiene. If you have a uniform, then dress it up.\\n\", \"Be nice to everyone, You never know who will end up best friends with!\\n\", \"Don't use Depilatory Creams or Lotion if you have sensitive skin, it may irritate your skin.\\n\", \"Discontinue use straight away if any product causes you any soreness or irritation.\\n\", \"Don't turn into a wannabe, they look the part but can't act it out. Those kids will try anything to be popular. And people dislike them for such, Remember to always be the unique, you! There isn't a thing better than that, It's better being yourself and not being popular then sacrificing your true behavior for a bunch of \\\"popular\\\" kids. Popularity isn't just about being the prettiest or being the funniest. It's about knowing a lot of people, And building a relationship with other kids gets you noticed a lot. So don't think that popularity is always like how it is on television(Though it might be at your school) Just don't let it become your top priority.\\n\", \"Don't steal her from her friends, They could end up hating you for that. Include her friends in activities you will take part in.\\n\", \"Don't cluster up to popular kids too much, they'll get annoyed and you won't become popular!\\n\", \"Don't pluck your brows too much at this age group. Just remove any stray hairs, and set with an eyebrow gel.\\n\", \"Don't use Veet or Nair on your face unless you want unnecessary bumps and pimples.\\n\", \"Don't spend so much time on being social and popular that you neglect your grades, No one wants to be friends with a person with bad grades especially at a private school where that is one of the more important qualities.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Primary School Teacher
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1. Getting the Training and Certification
1-1. Have the right skill set.
It takes a certain kind of person to work well with young children, where classroom management is just as important passing on knowledge. If you don’t approach teaching with the right skill set and attitude, you will not enjoy the job, and have difficulty getting work.
Enjoy being around children. Teaching young kids isn’t for everyone, so you’ll need to be prepared to spend your whole day with them. Children aren't always the clearest at explaining themselves. You will need to be a good listener, and able to understand their perspective and what they are trying to say.
Have good organizational and time management skills. These are important not only for governing yourself, but also helping to pass them on to your students.
Be attentive. Especially when working with young children, you need to be able to pay attention and predict dangerous situations, keeping an eye out for their safety.
You will need imagination and creativity to get in touch with your students, and make them want to learn.
If you have additional skill in an outside area of knowledge, like music, art, or sport, that will give you another advantage in applying for jobs and reaching your students.
1-2. Decide the age group you want to work with.
Primary schools around the world are usually divided into several stages based on age that follow national and local curriculum standards. You’ve probably already decided what ages you are most comfortable working with, but it is good to know when you start looking and applying for jobs.
1-3. Get a bachelors degree.
All teachers need an undergraduate degree from an accredited higher education provider in your country of residence. If you want to teach at the primary school level, majoring in Education or getting a bachelor of education degree (BEd) is the best program for when you start school.
You can certainly study other subjects in college. Degrees in specific subject areas that you will cover as a teacher, like English, science, or mathematics, will increase your chances of being selected for postgraduate courses. Application committees will examine other degrees to see if they are relevant to teaching primary-age students.
A Masters degree can give you a bump in pay, but you don't need this type of degree to become a teacher.
1-4. Get a medical examination.
Before you start a teacher training program, you may need to take a fitness exam. If you have a learning disability, this is a good place to list it or find out, as most programs will be able to adjust the learning and examination style to account for this.
1-5. Get certified as a teacher.
Most countries around the world require additional certification before becoming a teacher for any grade. Requirements and programs for certification vary as depending on where you live, so make sure you are familiar with national and regional laws. If you aren’t certified, or in the process of getting certified, schools won’t hire you.
In the United States, each state controls requirements for teacher certification, and those will vary depending on the state. In each case, the state will expect you to demonstrate an understanding of the state’s subject material standards, as well as best practices for teaching young children.
In the United Kingdom, Qualified Teacher Status (QTS) is necessary to be hired as a teacher. In Scotland, the same rank is referred to as a Teaching Qualification (TQ). The easiest way to get QTS is to get a BEd or BA/BSc with QTS. If you did not do that in college, you will need a Postgraduate Certificate in Education (PGCE). You can receive this through a graduate school, School-Centered Initial Teacher Training (SCITT), or the Teach First programme.
You'll have to take extra steps to work at a private school—it depends on what the school wants.
1-6. Pass the certification test.
Once you have finished coursework, you will need to pass a government issued skills tests in your subject area. In addition to testing your knowledge of the subject matter, you will also be asked questions that deal with the teaching profession, as well as analyze real information you will encounter in the classroom.
1-7. Get classroom experience.
Before you enter teacher training, you will need some time in the classroom. There really is no substitute for time in the classroom when preparing for a teacher career. Most degree or certificate programs will provide experience as part of their training, and every bit you can get before starting will make you a more attractive candidate.
One good way to get some classroom experience is to volunteer in local schools. In addition to showing your desire to become a teacher, it can also give you additional experiences to reference when you apply for a job. Talk to your local school and see if they will let you shadow a teacher, or volunteer as an unofficial classroom assistant.
If you can’t get to a school to volunteer, there are other areas you can work with young children that will give you good experiences you can translate to the classroom. These include mentoring, summer play and camps, Scouting, and Sunday schools.
2. Getting a Job and Maintaining Your Credentials
2-1. Look for jobs.
Once you know what kind of job you would like to have, you will need to get hired by a school. Teaching positions are advertised in the usual places, including in the local papers and online job sites. In addition, you can also learn about job openings through word of mouth.
If you are interested in working in a particular school district, their website would be a good place to look for specific openings they might have.
The more flexible you can be with your location, the more jobs will be open to you. To maximize your chances, you will need to be willing to move to a variety of places to land a primary school teaching job.
If you achieved QTS through a SCITT program, chances are the school was training you for a specific position, so you are probably likely to get that job, at least as a career-starter.
Because of the higher staff turnover, there will likely be more jobs available in inner city schools.
You're going to have to jump through more hoops if you're working for a private school.
2-2. Prepare for your interview.
Before getting hired you will need to interview with people at the school. Think of it as an opportunity to explain your strengths as a candidate, and how your training and experience will make you a good teacher. With a little preparation, you can be prepared to give good answers to questions interviewers will likely give you.
Your interview will probably cover trends and issues in the teaching profession. Make sure you are familiar with the big issues and some of the key buzz words. Research the school you are interviewing at ahead of time to see if there are certain issues important to them, and make sure to mention them while talking to the school.
This is a good opportunity to talk about your past classroom experiences. You don’t want to just list them. Instead, be prepared to explain specific instances that were helpful in developing your philosophy in the classroom, or making you want to become a primary school teacher.
Look for things you like about the school, and find opportunities to bring them up. Even a simple idea like “I really like what you are doing with classroom development, I think it’s a really good idea” can be helpful. It shows that you know something about the school, and tells the interviewers that you would be a good fit for them.
2-3. Continue with professional development classes.
Getting hired and starting with a class is just the beginning of your training as a teacher. Most teachers are encouraged to get additional training. This will help them see new trends in educational theory and practice, as well as new programs and technology to help students learn.
If you are a newly qualified teacher, that is you only recently passed your exams, you will serve a probationary period. This will involve monitoring and support, and a designated tutor who will help to identify areas for improvement. Following these suggestions will make you a better instructor to your students, and a better colleague to other teachers.
Schools will likely highlight and offer continuing professional development classes based on the position you hold, or any positions you wish to rise to. These classes will usually take place at your school on designated teacher training days, or on off-site training centers.
2-4. Keep your certification.
In the United States, your teacher certification will regularly come up for renewal. There are a variety of state and federal requirements involving continuing education and professional development in order to maintain your certification. Keep an eye on what you need to do, and make sure you keep up with the standards.
3. Doing Well in the Classroom
3-1. Be yourself in the classroom.
You probably got into teaching primary school because you have a passion for working with younger children as they start their education. Make sure your students know that you are there to help them, and that they can approach you with any question or problem.
While you will need to enforce discipline, you should ignore silly advice such as “don’t smile until Christmas.” Let your students see your energy and enthusiasm for learning, and they may learn to love it with you.
3-2. Keep your expectations clear.
As you create assignments and discipline your class, make sure everyone is clear about what is expected. That way there aren’t any surprises when you give out grades or punishment, and students can learn good behaviors.
Make sure you explain your rules and expectations on the first day, and review during the first week. You can even send those rules and expectations home to parents so they are also clear on what you are expecting from the class.
Just remember that this is your class. Your students will probably come from a variety of backgrounds and have had many different teachers with different rules before you. That’s fine, but you don’t have to follow those rules if you don’t want to.
3-3. Help your students with organization.
Primary school can be a difficult time for students because not only are they learning new academic material, but they are also learning real organizational skills. Many of them will not know what to do. Take time during class to show students how to organize their materials and keep their desk clean.
3-4. Talk to other teachers.
Teaching is a job that only gets easier with experience. The best resource you will have for resolving student issues are those who have been through it before. Compare notes on individual students, behavioral issues, assignments, projects, or anything else that might improve the classroom experience for both you and your students.
You should familiarize yourself with the teachers your students have had in the years before you. Those instructors will have additional insight into behavior, strengths, and weaknesses.
This is also important because the other teachers are your colleagues, the people you will see not just every day, but every school year as well. Having a good relationship with them will make it easier and more fun to come in every day.
3-5. Learn your school’s behavior policies.
Discipline will be an important part of your day when dealing with school children. Make sure you know and are familiar with your school’s guidelines for dealing with disruptive or unruly students.
In most cases, you will be able to deal with discipline issues yourself rather than get administrators involved. This will be tough at first, but can get easier as you see the same kinds of problems, and figure out the best ways to deal with them.
Look for opportunities to turn misbehavior into a teachable moment. Talk to the student about how they could've behaved differently, and help them look at the bigger picture.
3-6. Get to know the parents.
Your students’ parents will have a strong influence on their ability to do well in school. In addition, they may well know the most about their child’s learning abilities, and other parts of the kid’s personality that you won’t always pick up in the classroom. Getting along well with parents will make your job easier.
Regular parent-teacher conferences can be an important part of keeping parents involved with their student’s well being, and giving you an insight into your student’s home life. Instead of just telling the parents about how they are doing in school, make sure you ask about what kids have said about the class, or if there are particular thoughts the parents might have about their child’s progress.
Look for regular opportunities to get parents involved with their children. Ask for volunteers for the classroom. It can even be something as simple as standing outside the door when parents arrive for drop-off and pick-up to chat with them briefly, or inviting them into the classroom for a minute after school to see some of their child’s work.
3-7. Be patient with yourself.
Not every lesson will be great, and not every student will get all the material perfectly. As a new teacher, you will need experience to guide you for the best ways to reach as many of your students as possible. Don’t let your own self-worth and confidence suffer because of a few bad days.
It can also be helpful to remember that you will have successes every day as well. Make sure you take note of them, and reward yourself when they happen.
Tips
Be prepared to work. Being a teacher isn't about working forty hours a week, then going home to do something else. You have to mark student homework, write their reports, prepare future assignments, and speak to their parents. You will probably work upwards of 50 hours a week during the school year.
While the summer off for vacation sounds great, remember that you will be using that time to prepare for the next school year. That is the best time for continuing education classes, as well as trying to fix the things that didn't go well from the previous year.
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Especially when working with young children, you need to be able to pay attention and predict dangerous situations, keeping an eye out for their safety.\\nYou will need imagination and creativity to get in touch with your students, and make them want to learn.\\nIf you have additional skill in an outside area of knowledge, like music, art, or sport, that will give you another advantage in applying for jobs and reaching your students.\\n1-2. Decide the age group you want to work with.\\nPrimary schools around the world are usually divided into several stages based on age that follow national and local curriculum standards. You’ve probably already decided what ages you are most comfortable working with, but it is good to know when you start looking and applying for jobs.\\n1-3. Get a bachelors degree.\\nAll teachers need an undergraduate degree from an accredited higher education provider in your country of residence. If you want to teach at the primary school level, majoring in Education or getting a bachelor of education degree (BEd) is the best program for when you start school.\\nYou can certainly study other subjects in college. Degrees in specific subject areas that you will cover as a teacher, like English, science, or mathematics, will increase your chances of being selected for postgraduate courses. Application committees will examine other degrees to see if they are relevant to teaching primary-age students.\\nA Masters degree can give you a bump in pay, but you don't need this type of degree to become a teacher.\\n1-4. Get a medical examination.\\nBefore you start a teacher training program, you may need to take a fitness exam. If you have a learning disability, this is a good place to list it or find out, as most programs will be able to adjust the learning and examination style to account for this.\\n1-5. Get certified as a teacher.\\nMost countries around the world require additional certification before becoming a teacher for any grade. Requirements and programs for certification vary as depending on where you live, so make sure you are familiar with national and regional laws. If you aren’t certified, or in the process of getting certified, schools won’t hire you.\\nIn the United States, each state controls requirements for teacher certification, and those will vary depending on the state. In each case, the state will expect you to demonstrate an understanding of the state’s subject material standards, as well as best practices for teaching young children.\\nIn the United Kingdom, Qualified Teacher Status (QTS) is necessary to be hired as a teacher. In Scotland, the same rank is referred to as a Teaching Qualification (TQ). The easiest way to get QTS is to get a BEd or BA/BSc with QTS. If you did not do that in college, you will need a Postgraduate Certificate in Education (PGCE). You can receive this through a graduate school, School-Centered Initial Teacher Training (SCITT), or the Teach First programme.\\nYou'll have to take extra steps to work at a private school—it depends on what the school wants.\\n1-6. Pass the certification test.\\nOnce you have finished coursework, you will need to pass a government issued skills tests in your subject area. In addition to testing your knowledge of the subject matter, you will also be asked questions that deal with the teaching profession, as well as analyze real information you will encounter in the classroom.\\n1-7. Get classroom experience.\\nBefore you enter teacher training, you will need some time in the classroom. There really is no substitute for time in the classroom when preparing for a teacher career. Most degree or certificate programs will provide experience as part of their training, and every bit you can get before starting will make you a more attractive candidate.\\nOne good way to get some classroom experience is to volunteer in local schools. In addition to showing your desire to become a teacher, it can also give you additional experiences to reference when you apply for a job. Talk to your local school and see if they will let you shadow a teacher, or volunteer as an unofficial classroom assistant.\\nIf you can’t get to a school to volunteer, there are other areas you can work with young children that will give you good experiences you can translate to the classroom. These include mentoring, summer play and camps, Scouting, and Sunday schools.\\n2. Getting a Job and Maintaining Your Credentials\\n2-1. Look for jobs.\\nOnce you know what kind of job you would like to have, you will need to get hired by a school. Teaching positions are advertised in the usual places, including in the local papers and online job sites. In addition, you can also learn about job openings through word of mouth.\\nIf you are interested in working in a particular school district, their website would be a good place to look for specific openings they might have.\\nThe more flexible you can be with your location, the more jobs will be open to you. To maximize your chances, you will need to be willing to move to a variety of places to land a primary school teaching job.\\nIf you achieved QTS through a SCITT program, chances are the school was training you for a specific position, so you are probably likely to get that job, at least as a career-starter.\\nBecause of the higher staff turnover, there will likely be more jobs available in inner city schools.\\nYou're going to have to jump through more hoops if you're working for a private school.\\n2-2. Prepare for your interview.\\nBefore getting hired you will need to interview with people at the school. Think of it as an opportunity to explain your strengths as a candidate, and how your training and experience will make you a good teacher. With a little preparation, you can be prepared to give good answers to questions interviewers will likely give you.\\nYour interview will probably cover trends and issues in the teaching profession. Make sure you are familiar with the big issues and some of the key buzz words. Research the school you are interviewing at ahead of time to see if there are certain issues important to them, and make sure to mention them while talking to the school.\\nThis is a good opportunity to talk about your past classroom experiences. You don’t want to just list them. Instead, be prepared to explain specific instances that were helpful in developing your philosophy in the classroom, or making you want to become a primary school teacher.\\nLook for things you like about the school, and find opportunities to bring them up. Even a simple idea like “I really like what you are doing with classroom development, I think it’s a really good idea” can be helpful. It shows that you know something about the school, and tells the interviewers that you would be a good fit for them.\\n2-3. Continue with professional development classes.\\nGetting hired and starting with a class is just the beginning of your training as a teacher. Most teachers are encouraged to get additional training. This will help them see new trends in educational theory and practice, as well as new programs and technology to help students learn.\\nIf you are a newly qualified teacher, that is you only recently passed your exams, you will serve a probationary period. This will involve monitoring and support, and a designated tutor who will help to identify areas for improvement. Following these suggestions will make you a better instructor to your students, and a better colleague to other teachers.\\nSchools will likely highlight and offer continuing professional development classes based on the position you hold, or any positions you wish to rise to. These classes will usually take place at your school on designated teacher training days, or on off-site training centers.\\n2-4. Keep your certification.\\nIn the United States, your teacher certification will regularly come up for renewal. There are a variety of state and federal requirements involving continuing education and professional development in order to maintain your certification. Keep an eye on what you need to do, and make sure you keep up with the standards.\\n3. Doing Well in the Classroom\\n3-1. Be yourself in the classroom.\\nYou probably got into teaching primary school because you have a passion for working with younger children as they start their education. Make sure your students know that you are there to help them, and that they can approach you with any question or problem.\\nWhile you will need to enforce discipline, you should ignore silly advice such as “don’t smile until Christmas.” Let your students see your energy and enthusiasm for learning, and they may learn to love it with you.\\n3-2. Keep your expectations clear.\\nAs you create assignments and discipline your class, make sure everyone is clear about what is expected. That way there aren’t any surprises when you give out grades or punishment, and students can learn good behaviors.\\nMake sure you explain your rules and expectations on the first day, and review during the first week. You can even send those rules and expectations home to parents so they are also clear on what you are expecting from the class.\\nJust remember that this is your class. Your students will probably come from a variety of backgrounds and have had many different teachers with different rules before you. That’s fine, but you don’t have to follow those rules if you don’t want to.\\n3-3. Help your students with organization.\\nPrimary school can be a difficult time for students because not only are they learning new academic material, but they are also learning real organizational skills. Many of them will not know what to do. Take time during class to show students how to organize their materials and keep their desk clean.\\n3-4. Talk to other teachers.\\nTeaching is a job that only gets easier with experience. The best resource you will have for resolving student issues are those who have been through it before. Compare notes on individual students, behavioral issues, assignments, projects, or anything else that might improve the classroom experience for both you and your students.\\nYou should familiarize yourself with the teachers your students have had in the years before you. Those instructors will have additional insight into behavior, strengths, and weaknesses.\\nThis is also important because the other teachers are your colleagues, the people you will see not just every day, but every school year as well. Having a good relationship with them will make it easier and more fun to come in every day.\\n3-5. Learn your school’s behavior policies.\\nDiscipline will be an important part of your day when dealing with school children. Make sure you know and are familiar with your school’s guidelines for dealing with disruptive or unruly students.\\nIn most cases, you will be able to deal with discipline issues yourself rather than get administrators involved. This will be tough at first, but can get easier as you see the same kinds of problems, and figure out the best ways to deal with them.\\nLook for opportunities to turn misbehavior into a teachable moment. Talk to the student about how they could've behaved differently, and help them look at the bigger picture.\\n3-6. Get to know the parents.\\nYour students’ parents will have a strong influence on their ability to do well in school. In addition, they may well know the most about their child’s learning abilities, and other parts of the kid’s personality that you won’t always pick up in the classroom. Getting along well with parents will make your job easier.\\nRegular parent-teacher conferences can be an important part of keeping parents involved with their student’s well being, and giving you an insight into your student’s home life. Instead of just telling the parents about how they are doing in school, make sure you ask about what kids have said about the class, or if there are particular thoughts the parents might have about their child’s progress.\\nLook for regular opportunities to get parents involved with their children. Ask for volunteers for the classroom. It can even be something as simple as standing outside the door when parents arrive for drop-off and pick-up to chat with them briefly, or inviting them into the classroom for a minute after school to see some of their child’s work.\\n3-7. Be patient with yourself.\\nNot every lesson will be great, and not every student will get all the material perfectly. As a new teacher, you will need experience to guide you for the best ways to reach as many of your students as possible. Don’t let your own self-worth and confidence suffer because of a few bad days.\\nIt can also be helpful to remember that you will have successes every day as well. Make sure you take note of them, and reward yourself when they happen.\\nTips\\nBe prepared to work. Being a teacher isn't about working forty hours a week, then going home to do something else. You have to mark student homework, write their reports, prepare future assignments, and speak to their parents. You will probably work upwards of 50 hours a week during the school year.\\nWhile the summer off for vacation sounds great, remember that you will be using that time to prepare for the next school year. That is the best time for continuing education classes, as well as trying to fix the things that didn't go well from the previous year.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Teaching at a primary school means working with young children on basic educational skills. It can be a very difficult, but also a very rewarding profession. If you think you are ready to teach children the basics of education, and inspire them into becoming lifelong learners, then you should look into become a primary school teacher.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting the Training and Certification\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have the right skill set.\", \"描述\": \"It takes a certain kind of person to work well with young children, where classroom management is just as important passing on knowledge. If you don’t approach teaching with the right skill set and attitude, you will not enjoy the job, and have difficulty getting work.\\nEnjoy being around children. Teaching young kids isn’t for everyone, so you’ll need to be prepared to spend your whole day with them. Children aren't always the clearest at explaining themselves. You will need to be a good listener, and able to understand their perspective and what they are trying to say.\\nHave good organizational and time management skills. 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You’ve probably already decided what ages you are most comfortable working with, but it is good to know when you start looking and applying for jobs.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a bachelors degree.\", \"描述\": \"All teachers need an undergraduate degree from an accredited higher education provider in your country of residence. If you want to teach at the primary school level, majoring in Education or getting a bachelor of education degree (BEd) is the best program for when you start school.\\nYou can certainly study other subjects in college. Degrees in specific subject areas that you will cover as a teacher, like English, science, or mathematics, will increase your chances of being selected for postgraduate courses. Application committees will examine other degrees to see if they are relevant to teaching primary-age students.\\nA Masters degree can give you a bump in pay, but you don't need this type of degree to become a teacher.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a medical examination.\", \"描述\": \"Before you start a teacher training program, you may need to take a fitness exam. If you have a learning disability, this is a good place to list it or find out, as most programs will be able to adjust the learning and examination style to account for this.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get certified as a teacher.\", \"描述\": \"Most countries around the world require additional certification before becoming a teacher for any grade. Requirements and programs for certification vary as depending on where you live, so make sure you are familiar with national and regional laws. If you aren’t certified, or in the process of getting certified, schools won’t hire you.\\nIn the United States, each state controls requirements for teacher certification, and those will vary depending on the state. In each case, the state will expect you to demonstrate an understanding of the state’s subject material standards, as well as best practices for teaching young children.\\nIn the United Kingdom, Qualified Teacher Status (QTS) is necessary to be hired as a teacher. In Scotland, the same rank is referred to as a Teaching Qualification (TQ). The easiest way to get QTS is to get a BEd or BA/BSc with QTS. If you did not do that in college, you will need a Postgraduate Certificate in Education (PGCE). You can receive this through a graduate school, School-Centered Initial Teacher Training (SCITT), or the Teach First programme.\\nYou'll have to take extra steps to work at a private school—it depends on what the school wants.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Pass the certification test.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have finished coursework, you will need to pass a government issued skills tests in your subject area. In addition to testing your knowledge of the subject matter, you will also be asked questions that deal with the teaching profession, as well as analyze real information you will encounter in the classroom.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get classroom experience.\", \"描述\": \"Before you enter teacher training, you will need some time in the classroom. There really is no substitute for time in the classroom when preparing for a teacher career. Most degree or certificate programs will provide experience as part of their training, and every bit you can get before starting will make you a more attractive candidate.\\nOne good way to get some classroom experience is to volunteer in local schools. In addition to showing your desire to become a teacher, it can also give you additional experiences to reference when you apply for a job. Talk to your local school and see if they will let you shadow a teacher, or volunteer as an unofficial classroom assistant.\\nIf you can’t get to a school to volunteer, there are other areas you can work with young children that will give you good experiences you can translate to the classroom. These include mentoring, summer play and camps, Scouting, and Sunday schools.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting a Job and Maintaining Your Credentials\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look for jobs.\", \"描述\": \"Once you know what kind of job you would like to have, you will need to get hired by a school. Teaching positions are advertised in the usual places, including in the local papers and online job sites. In addition, you can also learn about job openings through word of mouth.\\nIf you are interested in working in a particular school district, their website would be a good place to look for specific openings they might have.\\nThe more flexible you can be with your location, the more jobs will be open to you. To maximize your chances, you will need to be willing to move to a variety of places to land a primary school teaching job.\\nIf you achieved QTS through a SCITT program, chances are the school was training you for a specific position, so you are probably likely to get that job, at least as a career-starter.\\nBecause of the higher staff turnover, there will likely be more jobs available in inner city schools.\\nYou're going to have to jump through more hoops if you're working for a private school.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prepare for your interview.\", \"描述\": \"Before getting hired you will need to interview with people at the school. Think of it as an opportunity to explain your strengths as a candidate, and how your training and experience will make you a good teacher. With a little preparation, you can be prepared to give good answers to questions interviewers will likely give you.\\nYour interview will probably cover trends and issues in the teaching profession. Make sure you are familiar with the big issues and some of the key buzz words. Research the school you are interviewing at ahead of time to see if there are certain issues important to them, and make sure to mention them while talking to the school.\\nThis is a good opportunity to talk about your past classroom experiences. You don’t want to just list them. Instead, be prepared to explain specific instances that were helpful in developing your philosophy in the classroom, or making you want to become a primary school teacher.\\nLook for things you like about the school, and find opportunities to bring them up. Even a simple idea like “I really like what you are doing with classroom development, I think it’s a really good idea” can be helpful. It shows that you know something about the school, and tells the interviewers that you would be a good fit for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Continue with professional development classes.\", \"描述\": \"Getting hired and starting with a class is just the beginning of your training as a teacher. Most teachers are encouraged to get additional training. This will help them see new trends in educational theory and practice, as well as new programs and technology to help students learn.\\nIf you are a newly qualified teacher, that is you only recently passed your exams, you will serve a probationary period. This will involve monitoring and support, and a designated tutor who will help to identify areas for improvement. Following these suggestions will make you a better instructor to your students, and a better colleague to other teachers.\\nSchools will likely highlight and offer continuing professional development classes based on the position you hold, or any positions you wish to rise to. These classes will usually take place at your school on designated teacher training days, or on off-site training centers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep your certification.\", \"描述\": \"In the United States, your teacher certification will regularly come up for renewal. There are a variety of state and federal requirements involving continuing education and professional development in order to maintain your certification. Keep an eye on what you need to do, and make sure you keep up with the standards.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Doing Well in the Classroom\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be yourself in the classroom.\", \"描述\": \"You probably got into teaching primary school because you have a passion for working with younger children as they start their education. Make sure your students know that you are there to help them, and that they can approach you with any question or problem.\\nWhile you will need to enforce discipline, you should ignore silly advice such as “don’t smile until Christmas.” Let your students see your energy and enthusiasm for learning, and they may learn to love it with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your expectations clear.\", \"描述\": \"As you create assignments and discipline your class, make sure everyone is clear about what is expected. That way there aren’t any surprises when you give out grades or punishment, and students can learn good behaviors.\\nMake sure you explain your rules and expectations on the first day, and review during the first week. You can even send those rules and expectations home to parents so they are also clear on what you are expecting from the class.\\nJust remember that this is your class. Your students will probably come from a variety of backgrounds and have had many different teachers with different rules before you. That’s fine, but you don’t have to follow those rules if you don’t want to.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Help your students with organization.\", \"描述\": \"Primary school can be a difficult time for students because not only are they learning new academic material, but they are also learning real organizational skills. Many of them will not know what to do. Take time during class to show students how to organize their materials and keep their desk clean.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Talk to other teachers.\", \"描述\": \"Teaching is a job that only gets easier with experience. The best resource you will have for resolving student issues are those who have been through it before. Compare notes on individual students, behavioral issues, assignments, projects, or anything else that might improve the classroom experience for both you and your students.\\nYou should familiarize yourself with the teachers your students have had in the years before you. Those instructors will have additional insight into behavior, strengths, and weaknesses.\\nThis is also important because the other teachers are your colleagues, the people you will see not just every day, but every school year as well. Having a good relationship with them will make it easier and more fun to come in every day.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn your school’s behavior policies.\", \"描述\": \"Discipline will be an important part of your day when dealing with school children. Make sure you know and are familiar with your school’s guidelines for dealing with disruptive or unruly students.\\nIn most cases, you will be able to deal with discipline issues yourself rather than get administrators involved. This will be tough at first, but can get easier as you see the same kinds of problems, and figure out the best ways to deal with them.\\nLook for opportunities to turn misbehavior into a teachable moment. Talk to the student about how they could've behaved differently, and help them look at the bigger picture.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get to know the parents.\", \"描述\": \"Your students’ parents will have a strong influence on their ability to do well in school. In addition, they may well know the most about their child’s learning abilities, and other parts of the kid’s personality that you won’t always pick up in the classroom. Getting along well with parents will make your job easier.\\nRegular parent-teacher conferences can be an important part of keeping parents involved with their student’s well being, and giving you an insight into your student’s home life. Instead of just telling the parents about how they are doing in school, make sure you ask about what kids have said about the class, or if there are particular thoughts the parents might have about their child’s progress.\\nLook for regular opportunities to get parents involved with their children. Ask for volunteers for the classroom. It can even be something as simple as standing outside the door when parents arrive for drop-off and pick-up to chat with them briefly, or inviting them into the classroom for a minute after school to see some of their child’s work.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be patient with yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Not every lesson will be great, and not every student will get all the material perfectly. As a new teacher, you will need experience to guide you for the best ways to reach as many of your students as possible. Don’t let your own self-worth and confidence suffer because of a few bad days.\\nIt can also be helpful to remember that you will have successes every day as well. Make sure you take note of them, and reward yourself when they happen.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be prepared to work. Being a teacher isn't about working forty hours a week, then going home to do something else. You have to mark student homework, write their reports, prepare future assignments, and speak to their parents. You will probably work upwards of 50 hours a week during the school year.\\n\", \"While the summer off for vacation sounds great, remember that you will be using that time to prepare for the next school year. That is the best time for continuing education classes, as well as trying to fix the things that didn't go well from the previous year.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Entering Private Investigation as Your First Career
1-1. Research the requirements in your area.
Almost all US states and many countries require a certain level of education or experience to earn a private investigator license. The information below will help you qualify in most cases, but it's best to check the law in the area where you plan to work.
A criminal record disqualifies you in almost every region. Even in area without licensing, your potential employers may run a background check on you.
The United Kingdom currently has no requirements, but this is expected to change soon.
1-2. Study applicable subjects in college (recommended).
Many regions do not require a four-year degree, but it is still highly recommended for anyone without relevant work experience. Complete a two- or four-year degree in criminal law, criminal justice, or police science.
Alternatively, study accounting or a related field to qualify for a position as a corporate investigator. These investigators mostly investigate allegations of fraud and embezzlement.
Even in areas where a degree is optional, this may count toward work experience requirements. In California, for example, a law degree or four-year police science degree eliminates 2,000 hours.
1-3. Evaluate your character traits.
Your idea of PI work is probably a lot more glamorous than the real thing. Most of your work will involve online research, surveillance, and preparing records for court presentations. This takes someone with particular skills and temperament:
Excellent observation skills
Good spoken and written communication skills, to help you work with clients and present to juries
Quick decision-making skills and resourcefulness
Moderate technological skills, particularly online research and surveillance technology
Ability to handle occasional high-stress situations, physical and mental demands, and long, unusual work hours
1-4. Prepare for boredom.
You may think of being a PI as working in a smoky, dark office in a sketchy area of town while damsels in distress line up at your door. In reality, you'll be spending hours in your parked car in the middle of suburbia unable to make a run to Taco Bell even though you're starving because Joe Schmo could come out at any minute. You'll get bored.
You'll also get super tired. If staying awake isn't your thing, this isn't the job for you. Your best friends will be late night coffee stops, energy drinks, and the front seat of your car. Hope it's comfy!
This is not a job that allows for multitasking. Even if you are hiding behind a tree trying to snap that photo for hours on end, you can't exactly read a book or play Bejeweled while you wait. It requires focus for extended periods of time -- sometimes extended periods of time doing absolutely nothing but waiting. If you're good at waiting without going crazy, you'll make a great PI.
1-5. Get stealthy.
While it depends on the specific line of work you get into, odds are you'll get a case at least here and there where you have to be sneaky. Wherever you go, you need to blend in. Being loud and proud won't get you anywhere on your case.
For some cases, you need to be so stealthy even dogs won't sniff you out. In others, you need to be as "normal" as possible to obtain information and appear trustworthy. A large part of the battle will be in recognizing just what you need to do and how you need to come off. But whatever it is, you need to hide your intentions. Practice your lying skills to get started.
1-6. Take training courses (recommended).
As valuable as a criminal justice degree can be, it may not cover the practical side of surveillance and database access. Experienced PIs say that hands-on training is the most important step for someone entering the field. Many courses are relatively cheap and only last a few days.
Choose a course accredited by a national accrediting organization, or by a professional organization of investigators.
Alternatively, contact local, independent private eye agencies and ask to shadow an investigator. A second car can come in handy on surveillance, so it's not too hard to convince them.
1-7. Apply to entry level positions.
Existing detective agencies often have open entry-level positions, although this might not involve a steady paycheck. The agency should provide on-the-job training until you gain enough experience to become a proper private investigator. This typically takes a few years.
You can also qualify for your license through other routes, such as law enforcement, military police work, claims adjustment, or debt collection.
In some states, your activities will be limited until you qualify for a license.
1-8. Get your license.
If a license is required in your area, take the exam as soon as you qualify. Your license will permit you to work as a private investigator, with the right to access certain databases and perform surveillance. You may continue to work for a private agency, or apply to PI jobs at corporations, government agencies, and law firms.
In most US States, the Department of Public Safety handles these licenses.
2. Switching to a Private Investigation Career
2-1. Know your job prospects.
Job growth in the investigation career is about average, but you may face tough competition from high numbers of retirees from the police and military. The median annual wage of an investigator is roughly $44,500 in the US, and £17,500 in the UK.
2-2. Understand the stress of the job.
Most private investigators rely entirely on clients for their income, so you must have the budgeting resolve to save up for dry months. The effect on your domestic life may be even more severe: when you do have work, you may be called to a 12 hour session at the drop of a hat. Expect to give up many evenings, weekends, and holidays, so you can conduct surveillance during your target's free time. Finally, you must be able to handle physical and emotional stress, including from the occasional dangerous situation.
Some specialties involve less surveillance and somewhat better hours. Keep reading for more information.
2-3. Consider your experience.
Roughly 50% of private investigators are former policemen and 20% are former military. You'll need similar chops if you don't want to work your way up from the bottom, but there are several other routes into the field:
Law-related work
Investigative journalism
Insurance claims adjustment
Debt collection
2-4. Get a license to investigate.
Most US states and many other countries require a license before you can work as a private investigator. You can usually waive the experience requirement if you spent at least a few years in one of the careers listed above. Typically, you will need to pass an exam, and sometimes a short training course.
In the US, contact your state or city Department of Public Safety to find out more.
2-5. Find a focus.
Private investigators can examine everything from arson to identity theft. If you can, draw on particular experience or skills to specialize in one or more areas. This can lead to more full-time employment opportunities, or create a reputation that attracts clients. Here are a few common specialties:
Surveillance jobs most commonly involve worker's compensation, unfaithful spouses, recurring theft, missing person searches, or vandalism.
If you have a background in law, law firms may hire you to assist with trial work, including acquiring information and presenting to juries.
Computer skill can make you desirable as a computer forensics investigator, recovering and analyzing deleted emails and other digital data.
Accounting experience prepares you for corporate jobs involving fraud, embezzlement, asset recovery, and other financial transactions.
2-6. Prepare materials.
For starters, you'll need reliable transportation and a decently fast computer. You can't track someone down with the local library computers and the city bus. You'll probably also want a good camera, recording equipment, and — depending on the job — camouflage clothes.
Guns are not as common as you might think in most types of PI work. If your region allows PIs to carry weapons, and you're willing to accept more dangerous jobs, consider firearm training and a weapons permit.
2-7. Find consistent employment.
Depending on your exact experience, you may be able to land a full time job in one of the specialties listed above. Working for a detective agency is another option, and the on-the-job training it provides can be invaluable even if you have law enforcement training. Seek clients among insurance companies and attorneys as well as private individuals.
Although one in four PIs are self-employed, we don't recommend starting a business until you have at least a few years of experience.
2-8. Know what's legal and what isn't.
As a PI, you're toeing the line when it comes to the tactics you're employing to catch your perp. Just because you're a PI doesn't mean you can break the law. Stay safe (and employed) and get familiar with the laws.
Pretexting (the act of pretending to be someone else to obtain information) is generally viewed as only unethical. However, it is illegal in the US if you pretend to be a government official or use your identity to obtain phone or bank records.
Wiretapping is generally illegal.
Surveillance is typically legal (especially if the police have been notified).
Breaking and entering is definitely not legal.
Citizen arrest laws vary by area.
2-9. Work toward certifications.
There are about fifteen professional certifications that you can earn to prove your qualifications in various subfields of investigation. These typically require at least two years of experience and passing an exam. A few examples of organizations that offer certification are the National Association of Legal Investigators, ASIS International, and the National Association of Fraud Examiners. As long as you keep your training up to date, you can use the certification and title to attract clients.
A "certificate" is not a professional "certification." Certificates are generally awarded for short training courses. The training can be useful, but it does not carry the same cachet.
Tips
Most private investigators rarely or never carry guns. Their job is to find information, not to confront criminals.[13]
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If you do work in a more dangerous specialty, get a weapon permit and handgun.
Women investigators are on a major rise in some countries. Many employers value them for their tendency to create less suspicion in the people they follow.[14]
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Some states require PIs to have liability insurance.
Warnings
A private investigator may incur dangerous or stressful situations. It is not a run-of-the-mill desk job!
The work hours can be long and non-traditional; it can take a toll on you and your family.
This job can be incredibly high-stress. If you have heart issues, you may need to reconsider your career aspirations.
If the person who you're spying on identifies you, that person or a family member or friend may attack you.
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Complete a two- or four-year degree in criminal law, criminal justice, or police science.\\nAlternatively, study accounting or a related field to qualify for a position as a corporate investigator. These investigators mostly investigate allegations of fraud and embezzlement.\\nEven in areas where a degree is optional, this may count toward work experience requirements. In California, for example, a law degree or four-year police science degree eliminates 2,000 hours.\\n1-3. Evaluate your character traits.\\nYour idea of PI work is probably a lot more glamorous than the real thing. Most of your work will involve online research, surveillance, and preparing records for court presentations. This takes someone with particular skills and temperament:\\nExcellent observation skills\\nGood spoken and written communication skills, to help you work with clients and present to juries\\nQuick decision-making skills and resourcefulness\\nModerate technological skills, particularly online research and surveillance technology\\nAbility to handle occasional high-stress situations, physical and mental demands, and long, unusual work hours\\n1-4. Prepare for boredom.\\nYou may think of being a PI as working in a smoky, dark office in a sketchy area of town while damsels in distress line up at your door. In reality, you'll be spending hours in your parked car in the middle of suburbia unable to make a run to Taco Bell even though you're starving because Joe Schmo could come out at any minute. You'll get bored.\\nYou'll also get super tired. If staying awake isn't your thing, this isn't the job for you. Your best friends will be late night coffee stops, energy drinks, and the front seat of your car. Hope it's comfy!\\nThis is not a job that allows for multitasking. Even if you are hiding behind a tree trying to snap that photo for hours on end, you can't exactly read a book or play Bejeweled while you wait. It requires focus for extended periods of time -- sometimes extended periods of time doing absolutely nothing but waiting. If you're good at waiting without going crazy, you'll make a great PI.\\n1-5. Get stealthy.\\nWhile it depends on the specific line of work you get into, odds are you'll get a case at least here and there where you have to be sneaky. Wherever you go, you need to blend in. Being loud and proud won't get you anywhere on your case.\\nFor some cases, you need to be so stealthy even dogs won't sniff you out. In others, you need to be as \\\"normal\\\" as possible to obtain information and appear trustworthy. A large part of the battle will be in recognizing just what you need to do and how you need to come off. But whatever it is, you need to hide your intentions. Practice your lying skills to get started.\\n1-6. Take training courses (recommended).\\nAs valuable as a criminal justice degree can be, it may not cover the practical side of surveillance and database access. Experienced PIs say that hands-on training is the most important step for someone entering the field. Many courses are relatively cheap and only last a few days.\\nChoose a course accredited by a national accrediting organization, or by a professional organization of investigators.\\nAlternatively, contact local, independent private eye agencies and ask to shadow an investigator. A second car can come in handy on surveillance, so it's not too hard to convince them.\\n1-7. Apply to entry level positions.\\nExisting detective agencies often have open entry-level positions, although this might not involve a steady paycheck. The agency should provide on-the-job training until you gain enough experience to become a proper private investigator. This typically takes a few years.\\nYou can also qualify for your license through other routes, such as law enforcement, military police work, claims adjustment, or debt collection.\\nIn some states, your activities will be limited until you qualify for a license.\\n1-8. Get your license.\\nIf a license is required in your area, take the exam as soon as you qualify. Your license will permit you to work as a private investigator, with the right to access certain databases and perform surveillance. You may continue to work for a private agency, or apply to PI jobs at corporations, government agencies, and law firms.\\nIn most US States, the Department of Public Safety handles these licenses.\\n2. Switching to a Private Investigation Career\\n2-1. Know your job prospects.\\nJob growth in the investigation career is about average, but you may face tough competition from high numbers of retirees from the police and military. The median annual wage of an investigator is roughly $44,500 in the US, and £17,500 in the UK.\\n2-2. Understand the stress of the job.\\nMost private investigators rely entirely on clients for their income, so you must have the budgeting resolve to save up for dry months. The effect on your domestic life may be even more severe: when you do have work, you may be called to a 12 hour session at the drop of a hat. Expect to give up many evenings, weekends, and holidays, so you can conduct surveillance during your target's free time. Finally, you must be able to handle physical and emotional stress, including from the occasional dangerous situation.\\nSome specialties involve less surveillance and somewhat better hours. Keep reading for more information.\\n2-3. Consider your experience.\\nRoughly 50% of private investigators are former policemen and 20% are former military. You'll need similar chops if you don't want to work your way up from the bottom, but there are several other routes into the field:\\nLaw-related work\\nInvestigative journalism\\nInsurance claims adjustment\\nDebt collection\\n2-4. Get a license to investigate.\\nMost US states and many other countries require a license before you can work as a private investigator. You can usually waive the experience requirement if you spent at least a few years in one of the careers listed above. Typically, you will need to pass an exam, and sometimes a short training course.\\nIn the US, contact your state or city Department of Public Safety to find out more.\\n2-5. Find a focus.\\nPrivate investigators can examine everything from arson to identity theft. If you can, draw on particular experience or skills to specialize in one or more areas. This can lead to more full-time employment opportunities, or create a reputation that attracts clients. Here are a few common specialties:\\nSurveillance jobs most commonly involve worker's compensation, unfaithful spouses, recurring theft, missing person searches, or vandalism.\\nIf you have a background in law, law firms may hire you to assist with trial work, including acquiring information and presenting to juries.\\nComputer skill can make you desirable as a computer forensics investigator, recovering and analyzing deleted emails and other digital data.\\nAccounting experience prepares you for corporate jobs involving fraud, embezzlement, asset recovery, and other financial transactions.\\n2-6. Prepare materials.\\nFor starters, you'll need reliable transportation and a decently fast computer. You can't track someone down with the local library computers and the city bus. You'll probably also want a good camera, recording equipment, and — depending on the job — camouflage clothes.\\nGuns are not as common as you might think in most types of PI work. If your region allows PIs to carry weapons, and you're willing to accept more dangerous jobs, consider firearm training and a weapons permit.\\n2-7. Find consistent employment.\\nDepending on your exact experience, you may be able to land a full time job in one of the specialties listed above. Working for a detective agency is another option, and the on-the-job training it provides can be invaluable even if you have law enforcement training. Seek clients among insurance companies and attorneys as well as private individuals.\\nAlthough one in four PIs are self-employed, we don't recommend starting a business until you have at least a few years of experience.\\n2-8. Know what's legal and what isn't.\\nAs a PI, you're toeing the line when it comes to the tactics you're employing to catch your perp. Just because you're a PI doesn't mean you can break the law. Stay safe (and employed) and get familiar with the laws.\\nPretexting (the act of pretending to be someone else to obtain information) is generally viewed as only unethical. However, it is illegal in the US if you pretend to be a government official or use your identity to obtain phone or bank records.\\nWiretapping is generally illegal.\\nSurveillance is typically legal (especially if the police have been notified).\\nBreaking and entering is definitely not legal.\\nCitizen arrest laws vary by area.\\n2-9. Work toward certifications.\\nThere are about fifteen professional certifications that you can earn to prove your qualifications in various subfields of investigation. These typically require at least two years of experience and passing an exam. A few examples of organizations that offer certification are the National Association of Legal Investigators, ASIS International, and the National Association of Fraud Examiners. As long as you keep your training up to date, you can use the certification and title to attract clients.\\nA \\\"certificate\\\" is not a professional \\\"certification.\\\" Certificates are generally awarded for short training courses. The training can be useful, but it does not carry the same cachet.\\nTips\\nMost private investigators rarely or never carry guns. Their job is to find information, not to confront criminals.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n If you do work in a more dangerous specialty, get a weapon permit and handgun.\\nWomen investigators are on a major rise in some countries. Many employers value them for their tendency to create less suspicion in the people they follow.[14]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nSome states require PIs to have liability insurance.\\nWarnings\\nA private investigator may incur dangerous or stressful situations. It is not a run-of-the-mill desk job!\\nThe work hours can be long and non-traditional; it can take a toll on you and your family.\\nThis job can be incredibly high-stress. If you have heart issues, you may need to reconsider your career aspirations.\\nIf the person who you're spying on identifies you, that person or a family member or friend may attack you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Private investigators, or PIs, are private citizens with various types of training and experience. Investigators gather evidence in civil and criminal cases for lawyers, insurance companies and suspicious spouses, among others. While it's not as glorious as the TV shows make it out to be, it can still be an exciting career.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Entering Private Investigation as Your First Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Research the requirements in your area.\", \"描述\": \"Almost all US states and many countries require a certain level of education or experience to earn a private investigator license. The information below will help you qualify in most cases, but it's best to check the law in the area where you plan to work.\\nA criminal record disqualifies you in almost every region. Even in area without licensing, your potential employers may run a background check on you.\\nThe United Kingdom currently has no requirements, but this is expected to change soon.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Study applicable subjects in college (recommended).\", \"描述\": \"Many regions do not require a four-year degree, but it is still highly recommended for anyone without relevant work experience. Complete a two- or four-year degree in criminal law, criminal justice, or police science.\\nAlternatively, study accounting or a related field to qualify for a position as a corporate investigator. These investigators mostly investigate allegations of fraud and embezzlement.\\nEven in areas where a degree is optional, this may count toward work experience requirements. In California, for example, a law degree or four-year police science degree eliminates 2,000 hours.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Evaluate your character traits.\", \"描述\": \"Your idea of PI work is probably a lot more glamorous than the real thing. Most of your work will involve online research, surveillance, and preparing records for court presentations. This takes someone with particular skills and temperament:\\nExcellent observation skills\\nGood spoken and written communication skills, to help you work with clients and present to juries\\nQuick decision-making skills and resourcefulness\\nModerate technological skills, particularly online research and surveillance technology\\nAbility to handle occasional high-stress situations, physical and mental demands, and long, unusual work hours\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Prepare for boredom.\", \"描述\": \"You may think of being a PI as working in a smoky, dark office in a sketchy area of town while damsels in distress line up at your door. In reality, you'll be spending hours in your parked car in the middle of suburbia unable to make a run to Taco Bell even though you're starving because Joe Schmo could come out at any minute. You'll get bored.\\nYou'll also get super tired. If staying awake isn't your thing, this isn't the job for you. Your best friends will be late night coffee stops, energy drinks, and the front seat of your car. Hope it's comfy!\\nThis is not a job that allows for multitasking. Even if you are hiding behind a tree trying to snap that photo for hours on end, you can't exactly read a book or play Bejeweled while you wait. It requires focus for extended periods of time -- sometimes extended periods of time doing absolutely nothing but waiting. If you're good at waiting without going crazy, you'll make a great PI.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get stealthy.\", \"描述\": \"While it depends on the specific line of work you get into, odds are you'll get a case at least here and there where you have to be sneaky. Wherever you go, you need to blend in. Being loud and proud won't get you anywhere on your case.\\nFor some cases, you need to be so stealthy even dogs won't sniff you out. In others, you need to be as \\\"normal\\\" as possible to obtain information and appear trustworthy. A large part of the battle will be in recognizing just what you need to do and how you need to come off. But whatever it is, you need to hide your intentions. Practice your lying skills to get started.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take training courses (recommended).\", \"描述\": \"As valuable as a criminal justice degree can be, it may not cover the practical side of surveillance and database access. Experienced PIs say that hands-on training is the most important step for someone entering the field. Many courses are relatively cheap and only last a few days.\\nChoose a course accredited by a national accrediting organization, or by a professional organization of investigators.\\nAlternatively, contact local, independent private eye agencies and ask to shadow an investigator. A second car can come in handy on surveillance, so it's not too hard to convince them.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Apply to entry level positions.\", \"描述\": \"Existing detective agencies often have open entry-level positions, although this might not involve a steady paycheck. The agency should provide on-the-job training until you gain enough experience to become a proper private investigator. This typically takes a few years.\\nYou can also qualify for your license through other routes, such as law enforcement, military police work, claims adjustment, or debt collection.\\nIn some states, your activities will be limited until you qualify for a license.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Get your license.\", \"描述\": \"If a license is required in your area, take the exam as soon as you qualify. Your license will permit you to work as a private investigator, with the right to access certain databases and perform surveillance. You may continue to work for a private agency, or apply to PI jobs at corporations, government agencies, and law firms.\\nIn most US States, the Department of Public Safety handles these licenses.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Switching to a Private Investigation Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know your job prospects.\", \"描述\": \"Job growth in the investigation career is about average, but you may face tough competition from high numbers of retirees from the police and military. The median annual wage of an investigator is roughly $44,500 in the US, and £17,500 in the UK.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand the stress of the job.\", \"描述\": \"Most private investigators rely entirely on clients for their income, so you must have the budgeting resolve to save up for dry months. The effect on your domestic life may be even more severe: when you do have work, you may be called to a 12 hour session at the drop of a hat. Expect to give up many evenings, weekends, and holidays, so you can conduct surveillance during your target's free time. Finally, you must be able to handle physical and emotional stress, including from the occasional dangerous situation.\\nSome specialties involve less surveillance and somewhat better hours. Keep reading for more information.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider your experience.\", \"描述\": \"Roughly 50% of private investigators are former policemen and 20% are former military. You'll need similar chops if you don't want to work your way up from the bottom, but there are several other routes into the field:\\nLaw-related work\\nInvestigative journalism\\nInsurance claims adjustment\\nDebt collection\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a license to investigate.\", \"描述\": \"Most US states and many other countries require a license before you can work as a private investigator. You can usually waive the experience requirement if you spent at least a few years in one of the careers listed above. Typically, you will need to pass an exam, and sometimes a short training course.\\nIn the US, contact your state or city Department of Public Safety to find out more.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find a focus.\", \"描述\": \"Private investigators can examine everything from arson to identity theft. If you can, draw on particular experience or skills to specialize in one or more areas. This can lead to more full-time employment opportunities, or create a reputation that attracts clients. Here are a few common specialties:\\nSurveillance jobs most commonly involve worker's compensation, unfaithful spouses, recurring theft, missing person searches, or vandalism.\\nIf you have a background in law, law firms may hire you to assist with trial work, including acquiring information and presenting to juries.\\nComputer skill can make you desirable as a computer forensics investigator, recovering and analyzing deleted emails and other digital data.\\nAccounting experience prepares you for corporate jobs involving fraud, embezzlement, asset recovery, and other financial transactions.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Prepare materials.\", \"描述\": \"For starters, you'll need reliable transportation and a decently fast computer. You can't track someone down with the local library computers and the city bus. You'll probably also want a good camera, recording equipment, and — depending on the job — camouflage clothes.\\nGuns are not as common as you might think in most types of PI work. If your region allows PIs to carry weapons, and you're willing to accept more dangerous jobs, consider firearm training and a weapons permit.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Find consistent employment.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on your exact experience, you may be able to land a full time job in one of the specialties listed above. Working for a detective agency is another option, and the on-the-job training it provides can be invaluable even if you have law enforcement training. Seek clients among insurance companies and attorneys as well as private individuals.\\nAlthough one in four PIs are self-employed, we don't recommend starting a business until you have at least a few years of experience.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Know what's legal and what isn't.\", \"描述\": \"As a PI, you're toeing the line when it comes to the tactics you're employing to catch your perp. Just because you're a PI doesn't mean you can break the law. Stay safe (and employed) and get familiar with the laws.\\nPretexting (the act of pretending to be someone else to obtain information) is generally viewed as only unethical. However, it is illegal in the US if you pretend to be a government official or use your identity to obtain phone or bank records.\\nWiretapping is generally illegal.\\nSurveillance is typically legal (especially if the police have been notified).\\nBreaking and entering is definitely not legal.\\nCitizen arrest laws vary by area.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Work toward certifications.\", \"描述\": \"There are about fifteen professional certifications that you can earn to prove your qualifications in various subfields of investigation. These typically require at least two years of experience and passing an exam. A few examples of organizations that offer certification are the National Association of Legal Investigators, ASIS International, and the National Association of Fraud Examiners. 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1. How are players recruited to play professionally?
1-1. Most young players are scouted to play in college.
If you’re a talented high school hoopster, coaches for college teams may eye you up for their team. They’ll watch how you play and see how you conduct yourself on and off the court to make sure you’re a good fit in their team. From there, the coach could offer you a scholarship or a position on the team so you can play at a higher level.
Only 2% of high school basketball players continue playing once they reach college, so work really hard on your game to build your skills.
1-2. College athletes attend drafts to join professional teams.
During a draft, professional teams take turns selecting their top picks of college players to sign. If you play really well in college and get the attention of the professional coaches, there’s a chance they may select you and offer you a contract.
2. How do I get noticed by basketball scouts?
2-1. Post highlight videos online.
Whenever you’re in a basketball game, ask one of your friends or parents to record you play. Try to get footage from each game for the entire season. Look for the plays that best showcase your talent and ability as a player. Use video-editing software to string the clips together so you can send them off to potential coaches. Share the videos on your social media accounts to gain even more online exposure.
Try making an Instagram or YouTube account dedicated to your basketball career so you post videos of your most impressive plays. That way, you’re more likely to gain exposure and could open the door to entirely new opportunities.
2-2. Ask your coach to reach out for you.
Talk to your coach about your dreams to play professionally and ask them if they have any connections to college scouts or coaches. Your coach will send them an email or give them a call to discuss your potential future. Your coach will give their honest opinion and put in a good word for you so you’re more likely to get noticed.
Always maintain a good relationship with your coach so they’re more likely to talk you up.
3. Do I have to go to college to play pro basketball?
No, but playing college ball increases your chances.
Since NCAA teams are more likely to play televised games and earn more recognition, you have a better shot at getting discovered. You’ll also get used to being under more pressure while you’re playing, so it helps build up a strong mentality you need to be a professional.
There are a variety of programs to get involved in. Even if you don’t play for one of the Big 5 conferences in college, you can still get good experience at a division 2 or 3 school.
You’ll get the most exposure if you play for division 1 in the NCAA since they are normally the games shown on TV and from the most prominent schools.
Look into schools in the Big 10, Big 12, or Pac 12 since they have prominent basketball programs.
4. How do I become eligible for a draft?
4-1. Declare your eligibility if you’re at least 19 and 1 year out of high school.
Anyone can declare eligibility as long as they’re 19 at the beginning of the draft year and a basketball season has passed since they’ve graduated. Send a letter to the NBA commissioner 60 days before the draft date, and include your name, the state where you’re eligible, and a request for the draft entry application. Fill out and return the application once you receive it in order to be considered in the draft pick.
Address your letter to:Office of the General Counsel at the NBA645 Fifth Ave.New York, NY 10022.
You can check your application status about 2 weeks after you submit the application on http://www.draftexpress.com/. If you don’t see your name on the list, contact the NBA offices to confirm your application status.
While the draft is open to anyone, you have the best chances if you’re an active player.
4-2. You’re automatically eligible if you finished 4 years of college.
You don’t need to formally declare your eligibility to the NBA if you went through college and played basketball. If you didn’t attend college but 4 years have passed since you graduated high school, you also are automatically considered for the draft.
You have the best shot at getting drafted if you played for your college team throughout your time in school.
4-3. Show off your skills at the draft combine training in Chicago.
This is one of your last shots to make an impression on scouts and coaches before the draft pick. At the combine, they’ll measure your height and weight as well as run skills tests for things like strength and vertical leap. You also have the chance to run basketball drills to showcase your abilities and convince NBA personnel that you’re a good addition to their team.
You do not have to attend the combine if you don’t want to if you’re worried about getting injured or are confident in your ability. Some top draft picks in previous years didn’t attend the combine.
5. How many players are drafted each year?
5-1. The NBA drafts 60 new players into the league.
Each year, the 30 NBA teams each get 1 draft pick per round for 2 total rounds. The order the teams pick is based on the team’s regular season record so the worst teams get the earliest picks and the teams that made it to the playoffs choose last.
5-2. The WNBA draft selects 36 players.
The teams in the WNBA pick 1 player each round for a total of 3 rounds. Since there are fewer players and teams, you may have a harder time getting selected during the draft since it’s more competitive.
6. Can I play professionally if I’m not picked during the draft?
6-1. A team could still offer to sign you as a free agent.
Don’t get discouraged if you aren’t picked during a draft since you then become a free agent, which means any team can ask you to play for them. A team’s coach might still be interested in you based on your skills and ask you to attend their training camps. If they’re impressed by you, they may even sign you to their team. Maintain a good and positive attitude since you never know when the opportunity could arise.
Once you’re a rookie free agent, you can sign with any team of your choice if they offer it to you.
6-2. Try out for the G-League to play in the minors.
The G-League is the NBA’s official minor league that helps prepare players to move up to play for the majors. Sometimes, a team will reach out to you directly and ask you to join their G-League affiliate. Otherwise, G-League teams hold tryouts during the off-season and invite 4 people to their training camp to play. Check if there’s a G-League team near you and inquire when they host open tryouts.
As of the 2019-20 season, there are 28 teams in the G-League across the United States.
6-3. You could return to college ball and try for next year’s draft.
If you’re still enrolled in college, reach out to your school’s athletic director before the Monday that’s right after the draft. Let them know that you want to return to the team and continue playing. As long as you’re not signed with a team and aren’t represented by an agent, you’ll be able to go back to the NCAA and continue playing with your team.
If you aren’t enrolled in college, then you may have a chance to play overseas in the Euroleague for countries like Spain, Slovenia, France, or Croatia.
7. How tall do I have to be to play basketball?
7-1. Most men players are taller than 6 ft (1.8 m).
The average height for men is about 6 ⁄4 feet (1.9 m). If you’re taller than that, your chances at going pro are even higher as a forward or center. While you still might be able to play basketball if you’re shorter, you might have a harder time against the other players you’re up against.
7-2. Women players average around 5 ⁄2 ft (1.7 m).
Coaches tend to seek people that are at least this height as a point guard or shooting guard. Taller players are more likely to play as a forward or center. If you’re shorter, you still have a chance at going pro if you’re a skilled player, but you’ll have a lot tougher competition going forward.
8. What are the chances of becoming a professional player?
8-1. About 1.2% of men’s college players go pro.
Since there are only 60 draft slots every year, many people who play basketball in high school or college don’t end up making it to the major leagues. Even though it’s tough to make it, you’ll have the best chances as long as you keep persevering and improving on your skills.
If you’re open to competing in the G-League or with overseas teams, there’s a 21% chance that you could go pro.
8-2. Around 0.8% of women’s college athletes go on to the majors.
Because the WNBA has fewer draft slots, there’s a lot more competition when you’re trying to go pro out of college. While your chances are slimmer, that doesn’t mean you should give up on your dream to play. Keep working hard on developing your skills and improving at the game so you put your best foot forward.
9. How do I become a better player?
9-1. Learn the game front to back.
If you aren’t familiar with all the rules of basketball, read all of the official regulations you need to follow during a game so you have a better understanding of the sport. Watch basketball games on TV or find old highlights online so you learn the flow of the game and how players interact with one another. You can also find videos online that break down positions and strategies to help you improve your game.
Pay attention to the markings on the court, the flow of the game, and what moves are considered fouls to increase your basketball IQ.
9-2. Join a basketball team as soon as you can.
Start playing basketball from a young age so you have a lot of time to develop your skills. Look for youth leagues in your area or try out for your school’s basketball team to learn from coaches, develop team skills, and get experience playing the game.
9-3. Be a good sport and team player.
All the members of a basketball team are important to the game, so don’t hog the ball while you’re playing. Involve all of your team members on the court and communicate with them so you’re all working together. Since professional scouts also look at your sportsmanship, remain calm when you’re under pressure and focus on the plays you’re making.
It’s okay to get upset at a bad call or play, but move on from it quickly so it doesn’t affect the rest of your game.
Being unsportsmanlike could lead to mistakes or bad decisions on the court that could cost you the game.
10. How can I train for basketball?
10-1. Practice basketball drills as much as possible.
Master the basics of basketball by working on your ball handling and shooting. Take time out of each day to practice dribbling, shooting from different spots, and positioning. If you can practice with other players, focus on skills like rebounds, passes, and defensive maneuvers so you feel more confident on the court.
If you’re already on a team, your coach will run through drills during practice, but make sure you also work on them in your free time as well so you can perfect and master each one.
Put in 100% effort whenever you practice. Whenever you get critiqued on your form or drills, don’t get discouraged. Instead, really focus on what you’ve been told and do your best to improve.
10-2. Do strength training to build up muscle.
Focus on exercises that build up muscle groups you’ll use during a game, like your legs, arms, and chest. Some good exercises to add to your regular routine include squat jumps, lunges, shoulder presses, dips, dumbbell presses, and planks. You should also try to incorporate sprints and vertical jumps to increase your speed and agility while you play.
Workout during basketball season and in the off-season so you stay fit and ready to play.
10-3. Attend basketball camps to learn skills and gain exposure.
Basketball camps run for all age groups, so research what runs during the summer in your area. Camps allow you to work with coaches to help you improve your drills, gain experience playing games, and get used to playing with a team. Sometimes, recruiters and college scouts also attend camps to find talented players to add to their teams.
Tips
Talk to your coaches regularly about your goals and ask what areas you can improve on so you can keep working toward your dream.
Warnings
Don’t get discouraged if you don’t make it professionally as a player since it takes a lot of luck and only a few people are drafted every year.
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Show off your skills at the draft combine training in Chicago.\\nThis is one of your last shots to make an impression on scouts and coaches before the draft pick. At the combine, they’ll measure your height and weight as well as run skills tests for things like strength and vertical leap. You also have the chance to run basketball drills to showcase your abilities and convince NBA personnel that you’re a good addition to their team.\\nYou do not have to attend the combine if you don’t want to if you’re worried about getting injured or are confident in your ability. Some top draft picks in previous years didn’t attend the combine.\\n5. How many players are drafted each year?\\n5-1. The NBA drafts 60 new players into the league.\\nEach year, the 30 NBA teams each get 1 draft pick per round for 2 total rounds. The order the teams pick is based on the team’s regular season record so the worst teams get the earliest picks and the teams that made it to the playoffs choose last.\\n5-2. The WNBA draft selects 36 players.\\nThe teams in the WNBA pick 1 player each round for a total of 3 rounds. Since there are fewer players and teams, you may have a harder time getting selected during the draft since it’s more competitive.\\n6. Can I play professionally if I’m not picked during the draft?\\n6-1. A team could still offer to sign you as a free agent.\\nDon’t get discouraged if you aren’t picked during a draft since you then become a free agent, which means any team can ask you to play for them. A team’s coach might still be interested in you based on your skills and ask you to attend their training camps. If they’re impressed by you, they may even sign you to their team. Maintain a good and positive attitude since you never know when the opportunity could arise.\\nOnce you’re a rookie free agent, you can sign with any team of your choice if they offer it to you.\\n6-2. Try out for the G-League to play in the minors.\\nThe G-League is the NBA’s official minor league that helps prepare players to move up to play for the majors. Sometimes, a team will reach out to you directly and ask you to join their G-League affiliate. Otherwise, G-League teams hold tryouts during the off-season and invite 4 people to their training camp to play. Check if there’s a G-League team near you and inquire when they host open tryouts.\\nAs of the 2019-20 season, there are 28 teams in the G-League across the United States.\\n6-3. You could return to college ball and try for next year’s draft.\\nIf you’re still enrolled in college, reach out to your school’s athletic director before the Monday that’s right after the draft. Let them know that you want to return to the team and continue playing. As long as you’re not signed with a team and aren’t represented by an agent, you’ll be able to go back to the NCAA and continue playing with your team.\\nIf you aren’t enrolled in college, then you may have a chance to play overseas in the Euroleague for countries like Spain, Slovenia, France, or Croatia.\\n7. How tall do I have to be to play basketball?\\n7-1. Most men players are taller than 6 ft (1.8 m).\\nThe average height for men is about 6 ⁄4 feet (1.9 m). If you’re taller than that, your chances at going pro are even higher as a forward or center. While you still might be able to play basketball if you’re shorter, you might have a harder time against the other players you’re up against.\\n7-2. Women players average around 5 ⁄2 ft (1.7 m).\\nCoaches tend to seek people that are at least this height as a point guard or shooting guard. Taller players are more likely to play as a forward or center. If you’re shorter, you still have a chance at going pro if you’re a skilled player, but you’ll have a lot tougher competition going forward.\\n8. What are the chances of becoming a professional player?\\n8-1. About 1.2% of men’s college players go pro.\\nSince there are only 60 draft slots every year, many people who play basketball in high school or college don’t end up making it to the major leagues. Even though it’s tough to make it, you’ll have the best chances as long as you keep persevering and improving on your skills.\\nIf you’re open to competing in the G-League or with overseas teams, there’s a 21% chance that you could go pro.\\n8-2. Around 0.8% of women’s college athletes go on to the majors.\\nBecause the WNBA has fewer draft slots, there’s a lot more competition when you’re trying to go pro out of college. While your chances are slimmer, that doesn’t mean you should give up on your dream to play. Keep working hard on developing your skills and improving at the game so you put your best foot forward.\\n9. How do I become a better player?\\n9-1. Learn the game front to back.\\nIf you aren’t familiar with all the rules of basketball, read all of the official regulations you need to follow during a game so you have a better understanding of the sport. Watch basketball games on TV or find old highlights online so you learn the flow of the game and how players interact with one another. You can also find videos online that break down positions and strategies to help you improve your game.\\nPay attention to the markings on the court, the flow of the game, and what moves are considered fouls to increase your basketball IQ.\\n9-2. Join a basketball team as soon as you can.\\nStart playing basketball from a young age so you have a lot of time to develop your skills. Look for youth leagues in your area or try out for your school’s basketball team to learn from coaches, develop team skills, and get experience playing the game.\\n9-3. Be a good sport and team player.\\nAll the members of a basketball team are important to the game, so don’t hog the ball while you’re playing. Involve all of your team members on the court and communicate with them so you’re all working together. Since professional scouts also look at your sportsmanship, remain calm when you’re under pressure and focus on the plays you’re making.\\nIt’s okay to get upset at a bad call or play, but move on from it quickly so it doesn’t affect the rest of your game.\\nBeing unsportsmanlike could lead to mistakes or bad decisions on the court that could cost you the game.\\n10. How can I train for basketball?\\n10-1. Practice basketball drills as much as possible.\\nMaster the basics of basketball by working on your ball handling and shooting. Take time out of each day to practice dribbling, shooting from different spots, and positioning. If you can practice with other players, focus on skills like rebounds, passes, and defensive maneuvers so you feel more confident on the court.\\nIf you’re already on a team, your coach will run through drills during practice, but make sure you also work on them in your free time as well so you can perfect and master each one.\\nPut in 100% effort whenever you practice. Whenever you get critiqued on your form or drills, don’t get discouraged. Instead, really focus on what you’ve been told and do your best to improve.\\n10-2. Do strength training to build up muscle.\\nFocus on exercises that build up muscle groups you’ll use during a game, like your legs, arms, and chest. Some good exercises to add to your regular routine include squat jumps, lunges, shoulder presses, dips, dumbbell presses, and planks. You should also try to incorporate sprints and vertical jumps to increase your speed and agility while you play.\\nWorkout during basketball season and in the off-season so you stay fit and ready to play.\\n10-3. Attend basketball camps to learn skills and gain exposure.\\nBasketball camps run for all age groups, so research what runs during the summer in your area. Camps allow you to work with coaches to help you improve your drills, gain experience playing games, and get used to playing with a team. Sometimes, recruiters and college scouts also attend camps to find talented players to add to their teams.\\nTips\\nTalk to your coaches regularly about your goals and ask what areas you can improve on so you can keep working toward your dream.\\nWarnings\\nDon’t get discouraged if you don’t make it professionally as a player since it takes a lot of luck and only a few people are drafted every year.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you love shooting hoops and have skills on the basketball court, you might wonder how you can get paid to play as a professional. Even if you’re the most passionate player you know, it still takes a lot of hard work and luck to make money from basketball. Luckily, there are some things you can do to up your chances and be the best player. 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From there, the coach could offer you a scholarship or a position on the team so you can play at a higher level.\\nOnly 2% of high school basketball players continue playing once they reach college, so work really hard on your game to build your skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"College athletes attend drafts to join professional teams.\", \"描述\": \"During a draft, professional teams take turns selecting their top picks of college players to sign. If you play really well in college and get the attention of the professional coaches, there’s a chance they may select you and offer you a contract.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"How do I get noticed by basketball scouts?\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Post highlight videos online.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever you’re in a basketball game, ask one of your friends or parents to record you play. Try to get footage from each game for the entire season. Look for the plays that best showcase your talent and ability as a player. Use video-editing software to string the clips together so you can send them off to potential coaches. Share the videos on your social media accounts to gain even more online exposure.\\nTry making an Instagram or YouTube account dedicated to your basketball career so you post videos of your most impressive plays. That way, you’re more likely to gain exposure and could open the door to entirely new opportunities.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask your coach to reach out for you.\", \"描述\": \"Talk to your coach about your dreams to play professionally and ask them if they have any connections to college scouts or coaches. Your coach will send them an email or give them a call to discuss your potential future. Your coach will give their honest opinion and put in a good word for you so you’re more likely to get noticed.\\nAlways maintain a good relationship with your coach so they’re more likely to talk you up.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do I have to go to college to play pro basketball?\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"No, but playing college ball increases your chances.\", \"描述\": \"Since NCAA teams are more likely to play televised games and earn more recognition, you have a better shot at getting discovered. You’ll also get used to being under more pressure while you’re playing, so it helps build up a strong mentality you need to be a professional.\\nThere are a variety of programs to get involved in. Even if you don’t play for one of the Big 5 conferences in college, you can still get good experience at a division 2 or 3 school.\\nYou’ll get the most exposure if you play for division 1 in the NCAA since they are normally the games shown on TV and from the most prominent schools.\\nLook into schools in the Big 10, Big 12, or Pac 12 since they have prominent basketball programs.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"How do I become eligible for a draft?\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Declare your eligibility if you’re at least 19 and 1 year out of high school.\", \"描述\": \"Anyone can declare eligibility as long as they’re 19 at the beginning of the draft year and a basketball season has passed since they’ve graduated. Send a letter to the NBA commissioner 60 days before the draft date, and include your name, the state where you’re eligible, and a request for the draft entry application. Fill out and return the application once you receive it in order to be considered in the draft pick.\\nAddress your letter to:Office of the General Counsel at the NBA645 Fifth Ave.New York, NY 10022.\\nYou can check your application status about 2 weeks after you submit the application on http://www.draftexpress.com/. If you don’t see your name on the list, contact the NBA offices to confirm your application status.\\nWhile the draft is open to anyone, you have the best chances if you’re an active player.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"You’re automatically eligible if you finished 4 years of college.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t need to formally declare your eligibility to the NBA if you went through college and played basketball. 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1. Improving through Playing
1-1. Engage in regular play.
Playing frequently against other players will not only expose you to different play-styles, it will also familiarize you with the thousands of unique cards that have been printed and could potentially be used against you. Regular play will teach you how to best respond to in-game developments with your tournament deck(s) and common scenarios that occur in the various styles of tournament play.
When practicing, focus on the quality of your play over mere quantity. If you are distracted, it's not likely you'll play your best game or take away as much as you would if you were rested, focused, and in a good mental state.
Make mental notes of your game as you play. Turning points are especially important, as these will help you evaluate things like the timing of your plays, the best instances to use certain strategies, and more.
Online play has created an invaluable resource to serious Magic players. Even if you live in an area where local, regional, national, or international tournaments aren't accessible, with an Internet connection you can easily practice against other players.
Speaking of local, regional, national, and international tournaments, these are vital events where you can test your skill as a planeswalker. You'll also be able to watch games between other pros during your free moments, which will give you a chance to scope out their cards and strategies.
1-2. Make every play to your own advantage.
Each of your tournament decks should have a goal that actively works against your opponent. Every play you make should be a step towards achieving that goal. Even if you feel out of your depth or hopelessly at a disadvantage, a lucky draw could keep you in the game or poorly timed execution by your opponent could return the advantage to you.
The goal of your deck shouldn't be too narrow or broad. For example, simply removing an opponent's creature from play could blind you to the larger strategic goals of your opponent, while "playing to win" doesn't give you a firm plan with which you can undo your enemy.
Having a goal for you deck and knowing it well will also make your deck more versatile. There may be slight modifications you can make to your normal play-style that throws a wrench into the machinations of the opposition. Try to keep an open mind to every way possible you might achieve the goal of your deck.
1-3. Target technical errors.
In the heat of the moment, even veteran players can make poor judgement calls. A minor oversight can lose you in-game tempo or allow your adversary the wiggle room he needs to execute his own strategy. Mistakes can lead you to being overly hard on yourself, but each of these is an opportunity for you to learn more.
Take special note of instances where you notice you could have done something better. Analyze these to learn the signs and indicators that might tip you off next time you are in a similar situation. Predictive play can undo an opponent before he even gets a chance to make his move.
Technical errors will also help you learn the most optimal order in which you should execute your strategy. Different situations may require you to alter your order of play. By recognizing enemy moves before they happen and adjusting your own strategy to compensate, you'll stand the best chance of winning possible.
1-4. Identify areas of weakness in your deck.
Consistent losses in the same fashion might indicate a flaw in the build of your deck. An improper distribution of card types could make your chances of drawing the cards you need for victory unlikely. You might also notice that you're always regretting a certain card in your deck; these cards can often be exchanged for ones that are more helpful.
Some of your tournament decks might simply be ill-equipped to handle certain strategies. If you find your deck has an Achilles heel, consider ways you might protect yourself from this disadvantage. If you find this is impossible, you should evaluate whether or not that particular deck is worth taking to tournament.
Your in-game experiences can reveal unexpected flaws in your deck. Some cards and strategies work well on paper, but that doesn't always mean these work the best in real life.
2. Researching to Improve Your Play
2-1. Study new strategies and play-styles.
There are plenty of online resources, like Channel Fireball, that analyze strategies, probabilities, techniques, and more. You can also learn variations of your own strategy and the strategies of others by watching how players execute these at tournaments.
You should also be aware of changes in rules and requirements. You may have to rethink your strategy if a previously disallowed card or card type is permitted in the format of tournament play you specialize, like constructed or limited matches.
Weigh your deck strategy against other dominant strategies that pros advocate. If you find your deck strategy can't hold its own against those of advanced players, you may need to make adjustments or even start from scratch.
After spending time, effort, and money building your deck to achieve a certain goal or enact a certain strategy, it can be difficult admitting it isn't good enough to go toe-to-toe with other pros. The hallmark of a true pro is adaptability; never be too proud to optimize your play-style.
2-2. Cultivate humility actively.
Even if you diligently analyze every game you play and note technical errors and deck weaknesses, if you are pretentious and look down on other players you may overlook game changing details. Even lower tier players may have strategies you need to account for, although these may be inexpertly executed.
Many serious player of Magic, sharing the same passion for the game you do, can become valuable allies and advisers. Never hesitate to ask questions, and always demonstrate good sportsmanship.
2-3. Architect your deck to compensate for deficiencies.
Now that you've done your research and gauged your strategy against those of other top-tier players, you'll need to hunt for the right cards to neutralize the strategies that might undo your own. This can be an expensive and time intensive challenge. First:
Use online card catalogs to find your ideal deck. Some of these cards may be ultra-rare or outside of your price range. However, there might be ways you can accomplish the same effect as these "super-cards" with combinations of more accessible cards. Rank these from most to least important. Then...
Begin gathering the components of your ideal deck. You may find you need to start with the cheapest, most accessible cards. You might then use these to win money at regional tournaments and reinvest the prize money in the more expensive, less accessible cards. On the other hand, you might find you need to save up and purchase a super-card that's a lynch pin of your strategy. In either case, don't forget to...
Play-test changes to your deck. This can be a painful experience. After going to the effort of attaining a super-card, finding out in a play-test that it simply does not work can be heartbreaking. However, keep in mind the card will still have value to other players. Even if this card doesn't work out, you can sell it or trade it to help you get the cards you need.
2-4. Review the criteria to become a pro-player.
There are many routes you can take to reach the pro circuit and the Pro Tour Hall of Fame, and which of these is right for you will depend on your individual situation. You may be limited by finances, travel restrictions, or the need for a chaperon in the event you are a minor. However, the three main ways you can qualify for pro-play include:
Earning 33 match points, which is equal to winning 11 of 16 rounds, in previous year's Pro Tour.
Qualifying for the pro-tour through official qualifier tournaments (PTQ). This may also require placing in the tournament or making the point requirement for a Regional Pro Tour Qualifiers (RPTQ).
Winning enough points or entering the single elimination stage in an official Grand Prix. In the event you are playing in a Grand Prix with less than 1200 players, you may be required to place in the top four.
NOTE: the qualifying rules can change considerably from year to year. Be sure to check the official Magic: The Gathering qualifying conditions on the Wizards of the Coast homepage.
3. Honing Your Mental State
3-1. Accept bad luck without letting it cloud your judgement.
Even the best build deck can be undone by a string of bad draws. Luck of the draw is a definite contributing factor in any of your games, and letting bad luck sour your mood can result in poor play in the instances you do have control.
The same is true for good luck. If you are having a phenomenal string of wins, any pro will tell you -- you're having a string of good luck. Which isn't to say you haven't worked hard to build your deck and plan your strategy, but overconfidence can lead to serious blunders.
If you find that you get overly emotional during games, or if you find that high tension games get the better of you, you might try meditation or other self-calming techniques. A surge of adrenaline can lead to a hasty mistake; learn to control adrenaline.
3-2. Prevent burnout with planned breaks.
Although most pros relate the importance of "living, breathing, and eating" Magic to quickly improve your game, playing too much without rest can ruin your drive. Many successful competitive players relate how they organize their tournament and practice schedules to make time for other hobbies, family, and romance, and you should too. Your hard work will be even more meaningful when it pays off if you have someone to share it with!
Before plunging headlong into the pro-circuit, you may want to use a trial run to see how you hold up. You may find the travel and practice schedule too intense, in which case you might decide not to invest as much time and money into Magic, instead keeping it as a hobby.
The drive to become the very best is an important factor for any top-tier player in any professional sport. However, if this gets out of hand, it can have a serious negative impact on your life. Be sure you are taking time to relax and unwind in whatever way you find most valuable.
3-3. Understand the ebb and flow of interest.
This does not mean that you should give up your practice schedule when the going gets tough or that you'll eventually get bored with Magic. This does mean that there will be times, as with any sport, when you feel you are on a plateau or that you are stuck in a boring cycle. Many professional athletes experience this; the difference between a pro and a dabbler is that a pro never gives up.
Tips
You might want to read articles written by pro Magic players online to get an inside look at the pro circuit and see if this kind of lifestyle is right for you.
Join a local tournament to help you get more comfortable with the professional scene.
Battle when ever you can this not only helps your experience but it also helps your improve your deck.
Warnings
Tournament quality decks can be quite expensive, depending on the format of play you take part in. Some decks could run from $100 - $500, and specially formatted decks could exceed well over $1000.[17]
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Improving through Playing\\n1-1. Engage in regular play.\\nPlaying frequently against other players will not only expose you to different play-styles, it will also familiarize you with the thousands of unique cards that have been printed and could potentially be used against you. Regular play will teach you how to best respond to in-game developments with your tournament deck(s) and common scenarios that occur in the various styles of tournament play.\\nWhen practicing, focus on the quality of your play over mere quantity. If you are distracted, it's not likely you'll play your best game or take away as much as you would if you were rested, focused, and in a good mental state.\\nMake mental notes of your game as you play. Turning points are especially important, as these will help you evaluate things like the timing of your plays, the best instances to use certain strategies, and more.\\nOnline play has created an invaluable resource to serious Magic players. Even if you live in an area where local, regional, national, or international tournaments aren't accessible, with an Internet connection you can easily practice against other players.\\nSpeaking of local, regional, national, and international tournaments, these are vital events where you can test your skill as a planeswalker. You'll also be able to watch games between other pros during your free moments, which will give you a chance to scope out their cards and strategies.\\n1-2. Make every play to your own advantage.\\nEach of your tournament decks should have a goal that actively works against your opponent. Every play you make should be a step towards achieving that goal. Even if you feel out of your depth or hopelessly at a disadvantage, a lucky draw could keep you in the game or poorly timed execution by your opponent could return the advantage to you.\\nThe goal of your deck shouldn't be too narrow or broad. For example, simply removing an opponent's creature from play could blind you to the larger strategic goals of your opponent, while \\\"playing to win\\\" doesn't give you a firm plan with which you can undo your enemy.\\nHaving a goal for you deck and knowing it well will also make your deck more versatile. There may be slight modifications you can make to your normal play-style that throws a wrench into the machinations of the opposition. Try to keep an open mind to every way possible you might achieve the goal of your deck.\\n1-3. Target technical errors.\\nIn the heat of the moment, even veteran players can make poor judgement calls. A minor oversight can lose you in-game tempo or allow your adversary the wiggle room he needs to execute his own strategy. Mistakes can lead you to being overly hard on yourself, but each of these is an opportunity for you to learn more.\\nTake special note of instances where you notice you could have done something better. Analyze these to learn the signs and indicators that might tip you off next time you are in a similar situation. Predictive play can undo an opponent before he even gets a chance to make his move.\\nTechnical errors will also help you learn the most optimal order in which you should execute your strategy. Different situations may require you to alter your order of play. By recognizing enemy moves before they happen and adjusting your own strategy to compensate, you'll stand the best chance of winning possible.\\n1-4. Identify areas of weakness in your deck.\\nConsistent losses in the same fashion might indicate a flaw in the build of your deck. An improper distribution of card types could make your chances of drawing the cards you need for victory unlikely. You might also notice that you're always regretting a certain card in your deck; these cards can often be exchanged for ones that are more helpful.\\nSome of your tournament decks might simply be ill-equipped to handle certain strategies. If you find your deck has an Achilles heel, consider ways you might protect yourself from this disadvantage. If you find this is impossible, you should evaluate whether or not that particular deck is worth taking to tournament.\\nYour in-game experiences can reveal unexpected flaws in your deck. Some cards and strategies work well on paper, but that doesn't always mean these work the best in real life.\\n2. Researching to Improve Your Play\\n2-1. Study new strategies and play-styles.\\nThere are plenty of online resources, like Channel Fireball, that analyze strategies, probabilities, techniques, and more. You can also learn variations of your own strategy and the strategies of others by watching how players execute these at tournaments.\\nYou should also be aware of changes in rules and requirements. You may have to rethink your strategy if a previously disallowed card or card type is permitted in the format of tournament play you specialize, like constructed or limited matches.\\nWeigh your deck strategy against other dominant strategies that pros advocate. If you find your deck strategy can't hold its own against those of advanced players, you may need to make adjustments or even start from scratch.\\nAfter spending time, effort, and money building your deck to achieve a certain goal or enact a certain strategy, it can be difficult admitting it isn't good enough to go toe-to-toe with other pros. The hallmark of a true pro is adaptability; never be too proud to optimize your play-style.\\n2-2. Cultivate humility actively.\\nEven if you diligently analyze every game you play and note technical errors and deck weaknesses, if you are pretentious and look down on other players you may overlook game changing details. Even lower tier players may have strategies you need to account for, although these may be inexpertly executed.\\nMany serious player of Magic, sharing the same passion for the game you do, can become valuable allies and advisers. Never hesitate to ask questions, and always demonstrate good sportsmanship.\\n2-3. Architect your deck to compensate for deficiencies.\\nNow that you've done your research and gauged your strategy against those of other top-tier players, you'll need to hunt for the right cards to neutralize the strategies that might undo your own. This can be an expensive and time intensive challenge. First:\\nUse online card catalogs to find your ideal deck. Some of these cards may be ultra-rare or outside of your price range. However, there might be ways you can accomplish the same effect as these \\\"super-cards\\\" with combinations of more accessible cards. Rank these from most to least important. Then...\\nBegin gathering the components of your ideal deck. You may find you need to start with the cheapest, most accessible cards. You might then use these to win money at regional tournaments and reinvest the prize money in the more expensive, less accessible cards. On the other hand, you might find you need to save up and purchase a super-card that's a lynch pin of your strategy. In either case, don't forget to...\\nPlay-test changes to your deck. This can be a painful experience. After going to the effort of attaining a super-card, finding out in a play-test that it simply does not work can be heartbreaking. However, keep in mind the card will still have value to other players. Even if this card doesn't work out, you can sell it or trade it to help you get the cards you need.\\n2-4. Review the criteria to become a pro-player.\\nThere are many routes you can take to reach the pro circuit and the Pro Tour Hall of Fame, and which of these is right for you will depend on your individual situation. You may be limited by finances, travel restrictions, or the need for a chaperon in the event you are a minor. However, the three main ways you can qualify for pro-play include:\\nEarning 33 match points, which is equal to winning 11 of 16 rounds, in previous year's Pro Tour.\\nQualifying for the pro-tour through official qualifier tournaments (PTQ). This may also require placing in the tournament or making the point requirement for a Regional Pro Tour Qualifiers (RPTQ).\\nWinning enough points or entering the single elimination stage in an official Grand Prix. In the event you are playing in a Grand Prix with less than 1200 players, you may be required to place in the top four.\\nNOTE: the qualifying rules can change considerably from year to year. Be sure to check the official Magic: The Gathering qualifying conditions on the Wizards of the Coast homepage.\\n3. Honing Your Mental State\\n3-1. Accept bad luck without letting it cloud your judgement.\\nEven the best build deck can be undone by a string of bad draws. Luck of the draw is a definite contributing factor in any of your games, and letting bad luck sour your mood can result in poor play in the instances you do have control.\\nThe same is true for good luck. If you are having a phenomenal string of wins, any pro will tell you -- you're having a string of good luck. Which isn't to say you haven't worked hard to build your deck and plan your strategy, but overconfidence can lead to serious blunders.\\nIf you find that you get overly emotional during games, or if you find that high tension games get the better of you, you might try meditation or other self-calming techniques. A surge of adrenaline can lead to a hasty mistake; learn to control adrenaline.\\n3-2. Prevent burnout with planned breaks.\\nAlthough most pros relate the importance of \\\"living, breathing, and eating\\\" Magic to quickly improve your game, playing too much without rest can ruin your drive. Many successful competitive players relate how they organize their tournament and practice schedules to make time for other hobbies, family, and romance, and you should too. Your hard work will be even more meaningful when it pays off if you have someone to share it with!\\nBefore plunging headlong into the pro-circuit, you may want to use a trial run to see how you hold up. You may find the travel and practice schedule too intense, in which case you might decide not to invest as much time and money into Magic, instead keeping it as a hobby.\\nThe drive to become the very best is an important factor for any top-tier player in any professional sport. However, if this gets out of hand, it can have a serious negative impact on your life. Be sure you are taking time to relax and unwind in whatever way you find most valuable.\\n3-3. Understand the ebb and flow of interest.\\nThis does not mean that you should give up your practice schedule when the going gets tough or that you'll eventually get bored with Magic. This does mean that there will be times, as with any sport, when you feel you are on a plateau or that you are stuck in a boring cycle. Many professional athletes experience this; the difference between a pro and a dabbler is that a pro never gives up.\\nTips\\nYou might want to read articles written by pro Magic players online to get an inside look at the pro circuit and see if this kind of lifestyle is right for you.\\nJoin a local tournament to help you get more comfortable with the professional scene.\\nBattle when ever you can this not only helps your experience but it also helps your improve your deck.\\nWarnings\\nTournament quality decks can be quite expensive, depending on the format of play you take part in. Some decks could run from $100 - $500, and specially formatted decks could exceed well over $1000.[17]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a pro at Magic: The Gathering isn't simply about enjoying a card game with your friends. Like most professional sports, it involves practice, dedicated study, and participation in what many professionals describe as a \\\"grueling\\\" tournament schedule. However, if you feel like the professional circuit of the Magic playing card game is the place for you, by improving through playing, research, and mental discipline, you could rise through the ranks of players and make a name for yourself in the Pro Tour Hall of Fame.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving through Playing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Engage in regular play.\", \"描述\": \"Playing frequently against other players will not only expose you to different play-styles, it will also familiarize you with the thousands of unique cards that have been printed and could potentially be used against you. Regular play will teach you how to best respond to in-game developments with your tournament deck(s) and common scenarios that occur in the various styles of tournament play.\\nWhen practicing, focus on the quality of your play over mere quantity. If you are distracted, it's not likely you'll play your best game or take away as much as you would if you were rested, focused, and in a good mental state.\\nMake mental notes of your game as you play. Turning points are especially important, as these will help you evaluate things like the timing of your plays, the best instances to use certain strategies, and more.\\nOnline play has created an invaluable resource to serious Magic players. Even if you live in an area where local, regional, national, or international tournaments aren't accessible, with an Internet connection you can easily practice against other players.\\nSpeaking of local, regional, national, and international tournaments, these are vital events where you can test your skill as a planeswalker. You'll also be able to watch games between other pros during your free moments, which will give you a chance to scope out their cards and strategies.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make every play to your own advantage.\", \"描述\": \"Each of your tournament decks should have a goal that actively works against your opponent. Every play you make should be a step towards achieving that goal. Even if you feel out of your depth or hopelessly at a disadvantage, a lucky draw could keep you in the game or poorly timed execution by your opponent could return the advantage to you.\\nThe goal of your deck shouldn't be too narrow or broad. For example, simply removing an opponent's creature from play could blind you to the larger strategic goals of your opponent, while \\\"playing to win\\\" doesn't give you a firm plan with which you can undo your enemy.\\nHaving a goal for you deck and knowing it well will also make your deck more versatile. There may be slight modifications you can make to your normal play-style that throws a wrench into the machinations of the opposition. Try to keep an open mind to every way possible you might achieve the goal of your deck.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Target technical errors.\", \"描述\": \"In the heat of the moment, even veteran players can make poor judgement calls. A minor oversight can lose you in-game tempo or allow your adversary the wiggle room he needs to execute his own strategy. Mistakes can lead you to being overly hard on yourself, but each of these is an opportunity for you to learn more.\\nTake special note of instances where you notice you could have done something better. Analyze these to learn the signs and indicators that might tip you off next time you are in a similar situation. Predictive play can undo an opponent before he even gets a chance to make his move.\\nTechnical errors will also help you learn the most optimal order in which you should execute your strategy. Different situations may require you to alter your order of play. By recognizing enemy moves before they happen and adjusting your own strategy to compensate, you'll stand the best chance of winning possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Identify areas of weakness in your deck.\", \"描述\": \"Consistent losses in the same fashion might indicate a flaw in the build of your deck. An improper distribution of card types could make your chances of drawing the cards you need for victory unlikely. You might also notice that you're always regretting a certain card in your deck; these cards can often be exchanged for ones that are more helpful.\\nSome of your tournament decks might simply be ill-equipped to handle certain strategies. If you find your deck has an Achilles heel, consider ways you might protect yourself from this disadvantage. If you find this is impossible, you should evaluate whether or not that particular deck is worth taking to tournament.\\nYour in-game experiences can reveal unexpected flaws in your deck. Some cards and strategies work well on paper, but that doesn't always mean these work the best in real life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Researching to Improve Your Play\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Study new strategies and play-styles.\", \"描述\": \"There are plenty of online resources, like Channel Fireball, that analyze strategies, probabilities, techniques, and more. You can also learn variations of your own strategy and the strategies of others by watching how players execute these at tournaments.\\nYou should also be aware of changes in rules and requirements. You may have to rethink your strategy if a previously disallowed card or card type is permitted in the format of tournament play you specialize, like constructed or limited matches.\\nWeigh your deck strategy against other dominant strategies that pros advocate. If you find your deck strategy can't hold its own against those of advanced players, you may need to make adjustments or even start from scratch.\\nAfter spending time, effort, and money building your deck to achieve a certain goal or enact a certain strategy, it can be difficult admitting it isn't good enough to go toe-to-toe with other pros. The hallmark of a true pro is adaptability; never be too proud to optimize your play-style.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cultivate humility actively.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you diligently analyze every game you play and note technical errors and deck weaknesses, if you are pretentious and look down on other players you may overlook game changing details. Even lower tier players may have strategies you need to account for, although these may be inexpertly executed.\\nMany serious player of Magic, sharing the same passion for the game you do, can become valuable allies and advisers. Never hesitate to ask questions, and always demonstrate good sportsmanship.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Architect your deck to compensate for deficiencies.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you've done your research and gauged your strategy against those of other top-tier players, you'll need to hunt for the right cards to neutralize the strategies that might undo your own. This can be an expensive and time intensive challenge. First:\\nUse online card catalogs to find your ideal deck. Some of these cards may be ultra-rare or outside of your price range. However, there might be ways you can accomplish the same effect as these \\\"super-cards\\\" with combinations of more accessible cards. Rank these from most to least important. Then...\\nBegin gathering the components of your ideal deck. You may find you need to start with the cheapest, most accessible cards. You might then use these to win money at regional tournaments and reinvest the prize money in the more expensive, less accessible cards. On the other hand, you might find you need to save up and purchase a super-card that's a lynch pin of your strategy. In either case, don't forget to...\\nPlay-test changes to your deck. This can be a painful experience. After going to the effort of attaining a super-card, finding out in a play-test that it simply does not work can be heartbreaking. However, keep in mind the card will still have value to other players. Even if this card doesn't work out, you can sell it or trade it to help you get the cards you need.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Review the criteria to become a pro-player.\", \"描述\": \"There are many routes you can take to reach the pro circuit and the Pro Tour Hall of Fame, and which of these is right for you will depend on your individual situation. You may be limited by finances, travel restrictions, or the need for a chaperon in the event you are a minor. However, the three main ways you can qualify for pro-play include:\\nEarning 33 match points, which is equal to winning 11 of 16 rounds, in previous year's Pro Tour.\\nQualifying for the pro-tour through official qualifier tournaments (PTQ). This may also require placing in the tournament or making the point requirement for a Regional Pro Tour Qualifiers (RPTQ).\\nWinning enough points or entering the single elimination stage in an official Grand Prix. In the event you are playing in a Grand Prix with less than 1200 players, you may be required to place in the top four.\\nNOTE: the qualifying rules can change considerably from year to year. Be sure to check the official Magic: The Gathering qualifying conditions on the Wizards of the Coast homepage.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Honing Your Mental State\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Accept bad luck without letting it cloud your judgement.\", \"描述\": \"Even the best build deck can be undone by a string of bad draws. Luck of the draw is a definite contributing factor in any of your games, and letting bad luck sour your mood can result in poor play in the instances you do have control.\\nThe same is true for good luck. If you are having a phenomenal string of wins, any pro will tell you -- you're having a string of good luck. Which isn't to say you haven't worked hard to build your deck and plan your strategy, but overconfidence can lead to serious blunders.\\nIf you find that you get overly emotional during games, or if you find that high tension games get the better of you, you might try meditation or other self-calming techniques. A surge of adrenaline can lead to a hasty mistake; learn to control adrenaline.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prevent burnout with planned breaks.\", \"描述\": \"Although most pros relate the importance of \\\"living, breathing, and eating\\\" Magic to quickly improve your game, playing too much without rest can ruin your drive. Many successful competitive players relate how they organize their tournament and practice schedules to make time for other hobbies, family, and romance, and you should too. Your hard work will be even more meaningful when it pays off if you have someone to share it with!\\nBefore plunging headlong into the pro-circuit, you may want to use a trial run to see how you hold up. You may find the travel and practice schedule too intense, in which case you might decide not to invest as much time and money into Magic, instead keeping it as a hobby.\\nThe drive to become the very best is an important factor for any top-tier player in any professional sport. However, if this gets out of hand, it can have a serious negative impact on your life. Be sure you are taking time to relax and unwind in whatever way you find most valuable.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand the ebb and flow of interest.\", \"描述\": \"This does not mean that you should give up your practice schedule when the going gets tough or that you'll eventually get bored with Magic. 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1. Starting a Blog
1-1. Be an expert on a topic you enjoy talking about.
A large audience won’t want to hear about your day-to-day life, but they will read if you are passionate about something. Use what you know well to your advantage to create content that is interesting to a reader.
Make sure what you’re writing about isn’t too niche. For example, if you are interested in balloon twisting, make sure the audience of balloon-twisters who will read your content is large enough.
1-2. Determine if you want to write opinions, reviews, or essays.
Each of these styles will cater to a different audience when it comes time to post your blog. Consider what category you fall into as a blogger, and stay consistent with your style.
Opinion blogs like Huffington Post attract many political readers.
Reviews will help potential product buyers understand how you felt about a product to help base their decisions.
Essays can be stories or anecdotes that are relatable to an audience.
1-3. Pick a blogging website to start on.
Websites like Wordpress or Blogger help provide setups for a novice or an experienced blogger wanting to become professional. These sites will give you tools and options, like editing metadata to help your blog succeed.
1-4. Purchase your own domain name.
Domains are usually around $15 for a year of hosting through GoDaddy or Hover. Having your own domain name will help you look more professional and will allow an easy link for your audience to type in to access your posts.
When deciding on a domain name, consider using your name or something related to the topic you are talking about.
When choosing a hosting service, make sure to evaluate their up-times and the speed they provide. Many will have these statistics available from their home page.
2. Maintaining Your Posts
2-1. Write posts every day.
Consider your blog as a job you need to upkeep every day. Audiences won’t want to wait months in between blog posts, so provide them with new content daily to keep site traffic up and your readers interested.
It’s a smart idea to write blog posts ahead of time and save them as drafts to publish when you need them.
2-2. Use clear and specific post titles.
To help search engine optimization (SEO), try to use concise titles to explain what your post is discussing. There’s a reason many articles start out “10 Things You Didn’t Know About ______”.
Use keywords and phrases that are commonly typed in on search engines to help visibility for your blog.
2-3. Include images in your posts to draw reader attention.
Using pictures related to your content will help break up large blocks of text and also keep a reader intrigued in what you have to say. Include 2-3 images per post if you can.
Make sure to properly credit the image sources if they are not your own photos.
2-4. Limit your posts to 2,500 words.
Readers want to get the most out of their time, so try to use each word to its full advantage. 2,500 words is a length that is manageable to read in one sitting and will seem filled with more information than a blog post that only has 1,000 words.
2-5. Link to other bloggers to support your ideas.
Linking to other blogs will help back up your views and provide more content for your reader. Readers will expect to receive credible information in your posts and will help you avoid plagiarizing other bloggers.
Link back to older posts you’ve written to help prove your point and get traffic moving on posts that may otherwise go on forgotten.
2-6. Promote your blog through social media.
Create a presence for your blog through Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to promote your new content. Your goal is to build a large audience of readers, so use hashtags with keywords related to your blog to help move it forward.
Don’t worry about being an annoying presence to your friends as you do this. Consider promoting your blog as building your business.
3. Earning Money on Your Content
3-1. Use Google AdSense on your site to run ads.
Adsense helps place contextual ads on your blog page that helps you earn money when they receive clicks. AdSense through Google requires an account and a sign-up, and it can be added directly to your website from there.
Google analyzes the content of your blog and will post related advertisements for your readers.
When starting a blog, consider having ads right when you start out. This way, it won’t become a shock when ads appear on your blog later on.
3-2. Link affiliates to your website to earn money per click.
Recommend a product on your blog that will earn you money when people sign up using the affiliate link. You can sign up through many companies to set an affiliate link, such as Amazon or Target that can help you earn revenue.
3-3. Consider finding a business to write blogs for.
If building your own business through a personal blog isn’t right for you, search on job boards like Indeed or Monster to find businesses looking for blogging services. Many companies are looking for writers for their original content.
3-4. Know that it takes time to build an audience and revenue.
Earning money on a blog is not an overnight process. Finding interested readers for your blog may take some time, so be patient and continue writing. The more content that you are able to crank out, the more eyes you may get on your blog.
Continue working another job as you get your blog off the ground to help you stay steady with your finances.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Starting a Blog\\n1-1. Be an expert on a topic you enjoy talking about.\\nA large audience won’t want to hear about your day-to-day life, but they will read if you are passionate about something. Use what you know well to your advantage to create content that is interesting to a reader.\\nMake sure what you’re writing about isn’t too niche. For example, if you are interested in balloon twisting, make sure the audience of balloon-twisters who will read your content is large enough.\\n1-2. Determine if you want to write opinions, reviews, or essays.\\nEach of these styles will cater to a different audience when it comes time to post your blog. Consider what category you fall into as a blogger, and stay consistent with your style.\\nOpinion blogs like Huffington Post attract many political readers.\\nReviews will help potential product buyers understand how you felt about a product to help base their decisions.\\nEssays can be stories or anecdotes that are relatable to an audience.\\n1-3. Pick a blogging website to start on.\\nWebsites like Wordpress or Blogger help provide setups for a novice or an experienced blogger wanting to become professional. These sites will give you tools and options, like editing metadata to help your blog succeed.\\n1-4. Purchase your own domain name.\\nDomains are usually around $15 for a year of hosting through GoDaddy or Hover. Having your own domain name will help you look more professional and will allow an easy link for your audience to type in to access your posts.\\nWhen deciding on a domain name, consider using your name or something related to the topic you are talking about.\\nWhen choosing a hosting service, make sure to evaluate their up-times and the speed they provide. Many will have these statistics available from their home page.\\n2. Maintaining Your Posts\\n2-1. Write posts every day.\\nConsider your blog as a job you need to upkeep every day. Audiences won’t want to wait months in between blog posts, so provide them with new content daily to keep site traffic up and your readers interested.\\nIt’s a smart idea to write blog posts ahead of time and save them as drafts to publish when you need them.\\n2-2. Use clear and specific post titles.\\nTo help search engine optimization (SEO), try to use concise titles to explain what your post is discussing. There’s a reason many articles start out “10 Things You Didn’t Know About ______”.\\nUse keywords and phrases that are commonly typed in on search engines to help visibility for your blog.\\n2-3. Include images in your posts to draw reader attention.\\nUsing pictures related to your content will help break up large blocks of text and also keep a reader intrigued in what you have to say. Include 2-3 images per post if you can.\\nMake sure to properly credit the image sources if they are not your own photos.\\n2-4. Limit your posts to 2,500 words.\\nReaders want to get the most out of their time, so try to use each word to its full advantage. 2,500 words is a length that is manageable to read in one sitting and will seem filled with more information than a blog post that only has 1,000 words.\\n2-5. Link to other bloggers to support your ideas.\\nLinking to other blogs will help back up your views and provide more content for your reader. Readers will expect to receive credible information in your posts and will help you avoid plagiarizing other bloggers.\\nLink back to older posts you’ve written to help prove your point and get traffic moving on posts that may otherwise go on forgotten.\\n2-6. Promote your blog through social media.\\nCreate a presence for your blog through Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to promote your new content. Your goal is to build a large audience of readers, so use hashtags with keywords related to your blog to help move it forward.\\nDon’t worry about being an annoying presence to your friends as you do this. Consider promoting your blog as building your business.\\n3. Earning Money on Your Content\\n3-1. Use Google AdSense on your site to run ads.\\nAdsense helps place contextual ads on your blog page that helps you earn money when they receive clicks. AdSense through Google requires an account and a sign-up, and it can be added directly to your website from there.\\nGoogle analyzes the content of your blog and will post related advertisements for your readers.\\nWhen starting a blog, consider having ads right when you start out. This way, it won’t become a shock when ads appear on your blog later on.\\n3-2. Link affiliates to your website to earn money per click.\\nRecommend a product on your blog that will earn you money when people sign up using the affiliate link. You can sign up through many companies to set an affiliate link, such as Amazon or Target that can help you earn revenue.\\n3-3. Consider finding a business to write blogs for.\\nIf building your own business through a personal blog isn’t right for you, search on job boards like Indeed or Monster to find businesses looking for blogging services. Many companies are looking for writers for their original content.\\n3-4. Know that it takes time to build an audience and revenue.\\nEarning money on a blog is not an overnight process. Finding interested readers for your blog may take some time, so be patient and continue writing. The more content that you are able to crank out, the more eyes you may get on your blog.\\nContinue working another job as you get your blog off the ground to help you stay steady with your finances.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Blogging is a fun pastime to entertain and inform a large audience. If you’re feeling serious about your blog or looking to make money by starting one, the market is easy to access for you to step into. Make a commitment and start blogging today, and you can see the rewards pay off!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Starting a Blog\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be an expert on a topic you enjoy talking about.\", \"描述\": \"A large audience won’t want to hear about your day-to-day life, but they will read if you are passionate about something. Use what you know well to your advantage to create content that is interesting to a reader.\\nMake sure what you’re writing about isn’t too niche. For example, if you are interested in balloon twisting, make sure the audience of balloon-twisters who will read your content is large enough.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Determine if you want to write opinions, reviews, or essays.\", \"描述\": \"Each of these styles will cater to a different audience when it comes time to post your blog. Consider what category you fall into as a blogger, and stay consistent with your style.\\nOpinion blogs like Huffington Post attract many political readers.\\nReviews will help potential product buyers understand how you felt about a product to help base their decisions.\\nEssays can be stories or anecdotes that are relatable to an audience.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pick a blogging website to start on.\", \"描述\": \"Websites like Wordpress or Blogger help provide setups for a novice or an experienced blogger wanting to become professional. These sites will give you tools and options, like editing metadata to help your blog succeed.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Purchase your own domain name.\", \"描述\": \"Domains are usually around $15 for a year of hosting through GoDaddy or Hover. Having your own domain name will help you look more professional and will allow an easy link for your audience to type in to access your posts.\\nWhen deciding on a domain name, consider using your name or something related to the topic you are talking about.\\nWhen choosing a hosting service, make sure to evaluate their up-times and the speed they provide. Many will have these statistics available from their home page.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintaining Your Posts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Write posts every day.\", \"描述\": \"Consider your blog as a job you need to upkeep every day. Audiences won’t want to wait months in between blog posts, so provide them with new content daily to keep site traffic up and your readers interested.\\nIt’s a smart idea to write blog posts ahead of time and save them as drafts to publish when you need them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use clear and specific post titles.\", \"描述\": \"To help search engine optimization (SEO), try to use concise titles to explain what your post is discussing. There’s a reason many articles start out “10 Things You Didn’t Know About ______”.\\nUse keywords and phrases that are commonly typed in on search engines to help visibility for your blog.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Include images in your posts to draw reader attention.\", \"描述\": \"Using pictures related to your content will help break up large blocks of text and also keep a reader intrigued in what you have to say. Include 2-3 images per post if you can.\\nMake sure to properly credit the image sources if they are not your own photos.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Limit your posts to 2,500 words.\", \"描述\": \"Readers want to get the most out of their time, so try to use each word to its full advantage. 2,500 words is a length that is manageable to read in one sitting and will seem filled with more information than a blog post that only has 1,000 words.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Link to other bloggers to support your ideas.\", \"描述\": \"Linking to other blogs will help back up your views and provide more content for your reader. Readers will expect to receive credible information in your posts and will help you avoid plagiarizing other bloggers.\\nLink back to older posts you’ve written to help prove your point and get traffic moving on posts that may otherwise go on forgotten.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Promote your blog through social media.\", \"描述\": \"Create a presence for your blog through Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to promote your new content. Your goal is to build a large audience of readers, so use hashtags with keywords related to your blog to help move it forward.\\nDon’t worry about being an annoying presence to your friends as you do this. Consider promoting your blog as building your business.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Earning Money on Your Content\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use Google AdSense on your site to run ads.\", \"描述\": \"Adsense helps place contextual ads on your blog page that helps you earn money when they receive clicks. 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1. Developing Your Writing Skills
1-1. Understand the realities of content writing.
Before you plunge into a content writing career, it's important to be aware of the facts. Most writers graduate with a degree or certificate in content writing and are quick to learn the realities of the industry, including:
Low pay. Most content writing positions do not pay well, especially entry level writing positions. Small newspapers or publications are often good places to start in terms of gaining experience and contacts. But often, the compensation will be $10-$12 an hour. The average salary for content writers in the United States is $40,000 a year. Higher paying positions in the content writing field include project managers, online researchers, and proposal writers. However, you will need higher levels of experience to qualify for these positions.
Lack of creative license. Though you may think content writing will give you a chance to showcase your creativity and rousing ability with words, in fact, most content writing is seen as a way to sell a product or simply inform a reader of the facts. In a content writer role, you will likely be writing about dry or dull topics, though you may get a chance to also write copy for more engaging projects on occasion. Your employer will dictate the topics you write about, and you will need to learn to be flexible and engaged on even the most obscure or boring subjects, regardless of your personal preference.
Quick turnarounds. When you write for an employer, on their timeline, you will need to be able to write fast and write well. This is especially true for writers just breaking into content writing. Often, your project will come with an expected words per hour, or article per hour, as well as strict deadlines. You will not have time to labor over every word or turn of phrase. Instead, you will need to produce content fast and at a constant rate.
1-2. Consider a technical writing certificate.
Technical writing is a type of content writing that focuses on communicating technical material through manuals, reports, and online documents. This could be a how to guide, a safety manual for a worksite, or a document on a process or procedure. There is a growing demand for technical writers who can explain complex procedures to the average reader.
Most technical writing programs are accelerated and take one to two years to complete. These programs will focus on improving your organizational skills, your project management skills, your ability to create user guides and documents, and your ability to write content for online formats.
Check your local college or university for a technical writing certificate program. Look at the faculty of the program to confirm you are being taught by professionals in the field or working content writers who are familiar with the demands of the writing industry. Certificate programs can be beneficial for writers who are new to content writing or technical writing.
1-3. Take a content writing class online.
Some professional content writers argue that academic programs may be too basic or general for individuals who already have some writing experience or an existing English degree. If you feel you are already a skillful writer, you will likely need technical writing skills that you can gain through a content writing class online.
To get technical writing tools, get a subscription to a site like Lynda.com for $25 and go through the courses on Illustrator, Captivate, Photoshop, and other Adobe products.
To gain knowledge on tech-comm based programs like Flare, Robohelp, or Framemaker, you may need to look at other institutions online for classes on these programs.
1-4. Use an existing degree to get into content writing.
An English degree, or other writing and reading focused degree, can be used to get into content writing, especially if you feel you have strong writing skills. Consider how well you did in your English classes, writing essays, book reports, and other assignments. Would you be willing to spend hours a day writing on a variety of topics for an employer? Could your existing writing skills translate into more professional writing for an employer?
You may want to supplement your existing degree with a content writing course, or a technical writing tutorial online.
2. Networking and Building Experience
2-1. Look into internships.
While you are doing your degree, start looking for internship opportunities at local publications in your area. Some publications may offer summer positions to gain experience in the field and a taste of the professional writing world.
You may also want to consider doing an internship at a publication you hope to work for full time in the future to make connections with editors and other writers at the publication. Many of these internships will likely not be paid, at least not at first. Be prepared to receive compensation in the form of connections and contacts. But be wary of being taken advantage of as free labor. If you feel uncomfortable working for free, try to find internships that pay.
A database of writing internships can be found here: http://www.writersweekly.com/markets_and_jobs.php.
2-2. Join the Professional Writers Alliance.
The PWA is a member based organization that acts as a “virtual learning hall” for professional writers. They offer writing and career resources, tools, tutorials, and connections to other professional writers.
There is a fee to join the PWA, but it is significantly lower than other writing associations and many successful copywriters and content writers are members of the PWA.
2-3. Find a mentor.
Talk to the professors in your program, the editors at publications you are interning at or are trying to write for, or other writers in a content writing organization or alliance. A mentor is someone who has extensive experience in the content writing industry and can impart valuable professional knowledge and career advice.
There are also professional content writers who offer mentorship, for a fee. Often the best mentors are ones you can get the know personally and work with closely on a one on one basis. Before you sign up for a mentorship online, look for possible mentors in your workplace or your academic program.
2-4. Practice article writing.
Learn how to write a newspaper article and how to write a wikiHow article. As a professional content writer, you may find a position that focuses on journalistic article style writing, or more educational how to writing. Study the form, structure, voice, and tone of each type of article so you are familiar with both types.
Choose an existing wikiHow article that seems well written and well researched. Create your own version of the article, for example, How to Write a Screenplay, and then compare your version to the existing, professional version online. Note the organization of the article, the tone and voice of the article, and the examples used in the article.
Use a newspaper article from a local publication or an online publication and break it down based on the upside triangle structure of a typical newspaper article. Does the article conform to the traditional structure or does it use a different structure or form? Does the writer seem credible and believable? Does the article use reputable sources and quotes to support any arguments in the article?
3. Finding a Writing Position
3-1. Get familiar with the content writer pay scale.
Many content writers starting out in their careers are not sure how much they should be paid per word. Most publications pay by word, or by hour, with a certain word count expectation. On average, content writers should be paid no less than $0.02 per a word, but may not reach more than $1 a word. Salaried positions are different, as you will be paid a yearly rate for a certain amount of work. It can be difficult to get a salaried position fresh out of graduation or when you're just starting out. Most content writers will start out working per word, or per hour.
You may start out in a position that pays $17-$20 an hour, and if you write fast, this may translate to $0.03 per a word. This is fine as a starting wage, and often, the expected rate in the content writing industry.
As you gain more experience and become a faster writer, your writing opportunities may average $0.03 - $0.10 per a word. This can translate into a healthy hourly rate. However, you will make more money by pitching to clients directly, rather than relying on job boards or databases for clients.
3-2. Customize your resume and cover letter.
If you decide to go a more traditional route and apply for a permanent content writing position at a writing based agency or organization, you will need to customize your resume and cover letter to fit the position. This will show your employer that you noted the skills outlined in the job posting and that you can fulfill the expectations of the position.
Read articles on how to create a resume and how to create a cover letter. Focus on including the requirements of the position in your cover letter and how you can fulfill these requirements.
3-3. Don't be afraid to take entry level positions.
As you start out, you may need to take on low paying writing positions to gain experience and build your portfolio. These may be small freelance gigs, at a low rate for a set amount of words, or this may be a permanent content writing position at a company for a low salary.
As you complete each content writing gig, or as you gain more experience in a permanent position, add each article or piece of writing to an online portfolio. This will then help you network for other writing projects and positions in the future. With enough clips and contacts, you may then be able to freelance and work for yourself as a content writer.
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Though you may think content writing will give you a chance to showcase your creativity and rousing ability with words, in fact, most content writing is seen as a way to sell a product or simply inform a reader of the facts. In a content writer role, you will likely be writing about dry or dull topics, though you may get a chance to also write copy for more engaging projects on occasion. Your employer will dictate the topics you write about, and you will need to learn to be flexible and engaged on even the most obscure or boring subjects, regardless of your personal preference.\\nQuick turnarounds. When you write for an employer, on their timeline, you will need to be able to write fast and write well. This is especially true for writers just breaking into content writing. Often, your project will come with an expected words per hour, or article per hour, as well as strict deadlines. You will not have time to labor over every word or turn of phrase. Instead, you will need to produce content fast and at a constant rate.\\n1-2. Consider a technical writing certificate.\\nTechnical writing is a type of content writing that focuses on communicating technical material through manuals, reports, and online documents. This could be a how to guide, a safety manual for a worksite, or a document on a process or procedure. There is a growing demand for technical writers who can explain complex procedures to the average reader.\\nMost technical writing programs are accelerated and take one to two years to complete. These programs will focus on improving your organizational skills, your project management skills, your ability to create user guides and documents, and your ability to write content for online formats.\\nCheck your local college or university for a technical writing certificate program. Look at the faculty of the program to confirm you are being taught by professionals in the field or working content writers who are familiar with the demands of the writing industry. Certificate programs can be beneficial for writers who are new to content writing or technical writing.\\n1-3. Take a content writing class online.\\nSome professional content writers argue that academic programs may be too basic or general for individuals who already have some writing experience or an existing English degree. If you feel you are already a skillful writer, you will likely need technical writing skills that you can gain through a content writing class online.\\nTo get technical writing tools, get a subscription to a site like Lynda.com for $25 and go through the courses on Illustrator, Captivate, Photoshop, and other Adobe products.\\nTo gain knowledge on tech-comm based programs like Flare, Robohelp, or Framemaker, you may need to look at other institutions online for classes on these programs.\\n1-4. Use an existing degree to get into content writing.\\nAn English degree, or other writing and reading focused degree, can be used to get into content writing, especially if you feel you have strong writing skills. Consider how well you did in your English classes, writing essays, book reports, and other assignments. Would you be willing to spend hours a day writing on a variety of topics for an employer? 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Customize your resume and cover letter.\\nIf you decide to go a more traditional route and apply for a permanent content writing position at a writing based agency or organization, you will need to customize your resume and cover letter to fit the position. This will show your employer that you noted the skills outlined in the job posting and that you can fulfill the expectations of the position.\\nRead articles on how to create a resume and how to create a cover letter. Focus on including the requirements of the position in your cover letter and how you can fulfill these requirements.\\n3-3. Don't be afraid to take entry level positions.\\nAs you start out, you may need to take on low paying writing positions to gain experience and build your portfolio. These may be small freelance gigs, at a low rate for a set amount of words, or this may be a permanent content writing position at a company for a low salary.\\nAs you complete each content writing gig, or as you gain more experience in a permanent position, add each article or piece of writing to an online portfolio. This will then help you network for other writing projects and positions in the future. With enough clips and contacts, you may then be able to freelance and work for yourself as a content writer.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Professional content writers create written content for a living. A professional writer should be competent and skillful, and they should be engaged in writing as their main paid occupation. As a content writer, you may write content on a variety of topics for a variety of organizations, from popular websites to scientific and technical print documents or manuals. 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Create your own version of the article, for example, How to Write a Screenplay, and then compare your version to the existing, professional version online. Note the organization of the article, the tone and voice of the article, and the examples used in the article.\\nUse a newspaper article from a local publication or an online publication and break it down based on the upside triangle structure of a typical newspaper article. Does the article conform to the traditional structure or does it use a different structure or form? Does the writer seem credible and believable? Does the article use reputable sources and quotes to support any arguments in the article?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Finding a Writing Position\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get familiar with the content writer pay scale.\", \"描述\": \"Many content writers starting out in their careers are not sure how much they should be paid per word. Most publications pay by word, or by hour, with a certain word count expectation. On average, content writers should be paid no less than $0.02 per a word, but may not reach more than $1 a word. Salaried positions are different, as you will be paid a yearly rate for a certain amount of work. It can be difficult to get a salaried position fresh out of graduation or when you're just starting out. Most content writers will start out working per word, or per hour.\\nYou may start out in a position that pays $17-$20 an hour, and if you write fast, this may translate to $0.03 per a word. This is fine as a starting wage, and often, the expected rate in the content writing industry.\\nAs you gain more experience and become a faster writer, your writing opportunities may average $0.03 - $0.10 per a word. This can translate into a healthy hourly rate. However, you will make more money by pitching to clients directly, rather than relying on job boards or databases for clients.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Customize your resume and cover letter.\", \"描述\": \"If you decide to go a more traditional route and apply for a permanent content writing position at a writing based agency or organization, you will need to customize your resume and cover letter to fit the position. This will show your employer that you noted the skills outlined in the job posting and that you can fulfill the expectations of the position.\\nRead articles on how to create a resume and how to create a cover letter. Focus on including the requirements of the position in your cover letter and how you can fulfill these requirements.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to take entry level positions.\", \"描述\": \"As you start out, you may need to take on low paying writing positions to gain experience and build your portfolio. These may be small freelance gigs, at a low rate for a set amount of words, or this may be a permanent content writing position at a company for a low salary.\\nAs you complete each content writing gig, or as you gain more experience in a permanent position, add each article or piece of writing to an online portfolio. This will then help you network for other writing projects and positions in the future. With enough clips and contacts, you may then be able to freelance and work for yourself as a content writer.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Joining the Industry
1-1. Join a reputable escort agency if you’re new to the industry.
Working for a reputable escort agency gives you a much stronger sense of safety and security than working on your own. Look online, talk to other escorts, or contact your local sex worker advocacy group for agency recommendations. Visit several different agencies and ask any questions you may have before you sign up so that you find one that suits you.
Although the agency will take a portion of your income, the advantages of being safe, having your bookings handled, and having your clients screened first all outweigh the cost.
A reputable agency will respect your limits and boundaries, provide a safe and hygienic working environment, and will be willing to answer any questions you may have. Reputable agencies will also provide security at the establishment. If possible, it can also help to talk to an escort who works there to get another perspective.
1-2. Pick a first and last name for your escort identity.
Having a unique name helps to advertise your services effectively and to protect your true identity. Before you settle on a name, check online first that there are no other local escorts using the same name to avoid any confusion and miscommunication. Use the same name throughout all of your advertising platforms to maintain consistency.
You will often be allowed to use a fake name for sexual health procedures so that you can stay anonymous. This helps to further protect your identity and to maintain your privacy.
Some first names for escorts are quite common, so it's a good idea to have a last name too so that your clients can recognize you.
1-3. Set up online profiles to advertise your services.
Escorts often do all of their own marketing and advertising. Use a search engine to find the escort websites that are prominent in your region or country. Sign up to the websites and then write up a short statement about yourself that's warm and approachable. Try to advertise with multiple escorting websites to increase your marketing reach.
Some websites may require a physical description of yourself with different body measurements such as clothing size.
Whether or not your profile can include the services that you offer depends on the laws in your region.
1-4. Get professional, high-quality photographs taken to promote yourself.
The photos that you use play a huge role in your advertising. Look for professional photography services online or ask for recommendations from other escorts. Then contact the photographer and arrange for a session. Before your session, decide whether you are comfortable showing your face in your photos or not.
Your agency may be able to provide you with professional photos.
It's recommended that you get your photos taken by a professional, as they know what lighting, angles, and photography styles to use to portray the image that you want.
2. Operating within the Law
2-1. Find out the laws in your region or country before you begin working.
The laws and regulations about escorting differ between locations, which can result in large differences within the industry. In some areas, prostitution is illegal but other types of escorting such as companionship are legal. Contact your local escort or sex worker advocacy group for specific information about your region. Ask for information about your rights at the same time so that you are prepared to work in the industry.
For example, the services that you can offer, where you can work, and what information you have to disclose to police on request depends entirely on your location.
2-2. Get a business licence if your region or country requires one.
In some locations, you are only allowed to provide escorting services if you have applied for and received a business license. Find out through your local escort or sex worker advocacy group if you need a licence to work in your location. Contact your governmental business licensing authority and fill out the application form. Then submit the application form and wait for a response before you begin working.
If you have a business licence, this means that you work as an independent contractor. You don’t get health, vacation, or retirement benefits.
2-3. Pay your taxes based on your income.
Tax rates and systems differ between locations, so check how taxes operate where you are before you begin working. Find tax information such as how much to pay and when on your government website. In most situations, declare your income at the end of the tax year and pay the income tax at the specified rate. It can be helpful to work with an accountant if you need help paying your taxes.
Alternatively, contact an escort or sex worker advocacy group in your area to get the best tax advice for your location.
Even if escorting is illegal in your location, it’s still recommended that you pay your taxes to avoid any penalties.
3. Working in the Industry
3-1. Dress professionally and arrive on time to meet clients.
Regardless of the type of escorting services that you provide, providing a professional service is key. If you are attending an event with a client, make sure that you ask what the dress code is first so that you know what sort of attire is appropriate to wear. Whether you are meeting the client at their home or in a public space, make sure that you have planned your travel arrangements well in advance so that you aren’t late.
For females, long or knee-length dresses are usually best for high rise events. If the event is more casual, try a halter or backless dress. For males, a collared shirt is a good option for most events.
3-2. Maintain a polite, professional conduct at all times.
How you treat your clients plays a big part in your success as a professional escort. Be courteous, polite, and warm with every client, yet remember to also remain assertive and in control of the situation. Try to build rapport with your clients so that they are more likely to work with you again.
Another important part of building a good relationship with your clients is simply listening to them. Many clients will just want to talk and to enjoy spending time with you, with other services having a less important role.
3-3. Take payments upfront before you begin working.
With any escorting service, it’s important that you are paid before you begin working. Request the payment straight after introducing yourself to the client. You can either take cash or credit payments depending on what you feel comfortable with. If the client does not have the payment or refuses to pay you, leave straight away.
It’s best not to wait until after you have finished working, as otherwise, the client may reveal that they don’t have money to pay you.
3-4. Remain assertive with your clients and specify your boundaries.
It’s important to be entirely transparent about your boundaries with every client before you begin working. Explain the services that you do and don’t provide, the cost for each service, and the length of time that each service takes. Always stick to your own rules and limits, and never let yourself be persuaded or controlled by a client.
Never be afraid to say no to a client and always remember that you are the one who has the final say.
4. Staying Safe
4-1. Use protection for all sexual services that you provide.
Protection is the best way to keep yourself safe while you are working. Always use either male or female condoms depending on the type of service you are offering and use lubricant to help prevent the condoms from breaking. Before you work with any client, do a quick visual examination to check for any signs of STIs such as genital swelling, rashes, or discharge.
Some escort agencies will screen and check your clients for STIs before you work with them.
4-2. Get 3-4 sexual health checks per year to keep yourself safe.
It’s important to get checked for STIs regularly so that you can stay healthy, even if you haven’t had unprotected sex. Attend sexual health checks at your local sexual health clinic or doctor’s office and follow any necessary treatment plans.
Getting checked 3-4 times per year is only a recommendation. Each escort agency will usually have a specific requirement for how often you need to get tested.
Sexual health checks usually involve blood tests and swab tests.
4-3. Take care of your physical health to prevent yourself from getting sick.
You need to be physically well and healthy to be a good professional escort. Eat plenty of nutritious food like fruits and vegetables and drink water to stay hydrated. Regular physical activity can also help to keep you in shape and to boost your mood.
4-4. Build a network of escorts you trust to maintain your mental health.
Escorting can be mentally exhausting or difficult from time-to-time, especially with the associated stigma. Take care of your mental health to ensure that you stay well. Talk to other escorts that you trust and don’t be afraid to take a step back from the industry if you feel like you can’t cope.
If you are having serious problems with your mental health that you are struggling to deal with on your own, contact your local sex worker advocacy group for support.
4-5. Leave any situation immediately if you feel unsafe.
If a client’s behavior is abusive, threatening, or violent, leave the situation as soon as you can safely do so. Contact your agency and your local police authority immediately. Similarly, if a client refuses to wear protection, leave the situation. Although you need to reimburse the client’s payment if you leave, it’s best to lose some money and to get yourself safely out of a dangerous situation.
If you work for an agency, there will usually be a bouncer at the establishment who has been hired to help protect you.
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Pick a first and last name for your escort identity.\\nHaving a unique name helps to advertise your services effectively and to protect your true identity. Before you settle on a name, check online first that there are no other local escorts using the same name to avoid any confusion and miscommunication. Use the same name throughout all of your advertising platforms to maintain consistency.\\nYou will often be allowed to use a fake name for sexual health procedures so that you can stay anonymous. This helps to further protect your identity and to maintain your privacy.\\nSome first names for escorts are quite common, so it's a good idea to have a last name too so that your clients can recognize you.\\n1-3. Set up online profiles to advertise your services.\\nEscorts often do all of their own marketing and advertising. Use a search engine to find the escort websites that are prominent in your region or country. Sign up to the websites and then write up a short statement about yourself that's warm and approachable. Try to advertise with multiple escorting websites to increase your marketing reach.\\nSome websites may require a physical description of yourself with different body measurements such as clothing size.\\nWhether or not your profile can include the services that you offer depends on the laws in your region.\\n1-4. Get professional, high-quality photographs taken to promote yourself.\\nThe photos that you use play a huge role in your advertising. Look for professional photography services online or ask for recommendations from other escorts. Then contact the photographer and arrange for a session. Before your session, decide whether you are comfortable showing your face in your photos or not.\\nYour agency may be able to provide you with professional photos.\\nIt's recommended that you get your photos taken by a professional, as they know what lighting, angles, and photography styles to use to portray the image that you want.\\n2. Operating within the Law\\n2-1. Find out the laws in your region or country before you begin working.\\nThe laws and regulations about escorting differ between locations, which can result in large differences within the industry. In some areas, prostitution is illegal but other types of escorting such as companionship are legal. Contact your local escort or sex worker advocacy group for specific information about your region. Ask for information about your rights at the same time so that you are prepared to work in the industry.\\nFor example, the services that you can offer, where you can work, and what information you have to disclose to police on request depends entirely on your location.\\n2-2. Get a business licence if your region or country requires one.\\nIn some locations, you are only allowed to provide escorting services if you have applied for and received a business license. Find out through your local escort or sex worker advocacy group if you need a licence to work in your location. Contact your governmental business licensing authority and fill out the application form. Then submit the application form and wait for a response before you begin working.\\nIf you have a business licence, this means that you work as an independent contractor. You don’t get health, vacation, or retirement benefits.\\n2-3. Pay your taxes based on your income.\\nTax rates and systems differ between locations, so check how taxes operate where you are before you begin working. Find tax information such as how much to pay and when on your government website. In most situations, declare your income at the end of the tax year and pay the income tax at the specified rate. It can be helpful to work with an accountant if you need help paying your taxes.\\nAlternatively, contact an escort or sex worker advocacy group in your area to get the best tax advice for your location.\\nEven if escorting is illegal in your location, it’s still recommended that you pay your taxes to avoid any penalties.\\n3. Working in the Industry\\n3-1. Dress professionally and arrive on time to meet clients.\\nRegardless of the type of escorting services that you provide, providing a professional service is key. If you are attending an event with a client, make sure that you ask what the dress code is first so that you know what sort of attire is appropriate to wear. Whether you are meeting the client at their home or in a public space, make sure that you have planned your travel arrangements well in advance so that you aren’t late.\\nFor females, long or knee-length dresses are usually best for high rise events. If the event is more casual, try a halter or backless dress. For males, a collared shirt is a good option for most events.\\n3-2. Maintain a polite, professional conduct at all times.\\nHow you treat your clients plays a big part in your success as a professional escort. Be courteous, polite, and warm with every client, yet remember to also remain assertive and in control of the situation. Try to build rapport with your clients so that they are more likely to work with you again.\\nAnother important part of building a good relationship with your clients is simply listening to them. Many clients will just want to talk and to enjoy spending time with you, with other services having a less important role.\\n3-3. Take payments upfront before you begin working.\\nWith any escorting service, it’s important that you are paid before you begin working. Request the payment straight after introducing yourself to the client. You can either take cash or credit payments depending on what you feel comfortable with. If the client does not have the payment or refuses to pay you, leave straight away.\\nIt’s best not to wait until after you have finished working, as otherwise, the client may reveal that they don’t have money to pay you.\\n3-4. Remain assertive with your clients and specify your boundaries.\\nIt’s important to be entirely transparent about your boundaries with every client before you begin working. Explain the services that you do and don’t provide, the cost for each service, and the length of time that each service takes. Always stick to your own rules and limits, and never let yourself be persuaded or controlled by a client.\\nNever be afraid to say no to a client and always remember that you are the one who has the final say.\\n4. Staying Safe\\n4-1. Use protection for all sexual services that you provide.\\nProtection is the best way to keep yourself safe while you are working. Always use either male or female condoms depending on the type of service you are offering and use lubricant to help prevent the condoms from breaking. Before you work with any client, do a quick visual examination to check for any signs of STIs such as genital swelling, rashes, or discharge.\\nSome escort agencies will screen and check your clients for STIs before you work with them.\\n4-2. Get 3-4 sexual health checks per year to keep yourself safe.\\nIt’s important to get checked for STIs regularly so that you can stay healthy, even if you haven’t had unprotected sex. Attend sexual health checks at your local sexual health clinic or doctor’s office and follow any necessary treatment plans.\\nGetting checked 3-4 times per year is only a recommendation. Each escort agency will usually have a specific requirement for how often you need to get tested.\\nSexual health checks usually involve blood tests and swab tests.\\n4-3. Take care of your physical health to prevent yourself from getting sick.\\nYou need to be physically well and healthy to be a good professional escort. Eat plenty of nutritious food like fruits and vegetables and drink water to stay hydrated. Regular physical activity can also help to keep you in shape and to boost your mood.\\n4-4. Build a network of escorts you trust to maintain your mental health.\\nEscorting can be mentally exhausting or difficult from time-to-time, especially with the associated stigma. Take care of your mental health to ensure that you stay well. Talk to other escorts that you trust and don’t be afraid to take a step back from the industry if you feel like you can’t cope.\\nIf you are having serious problems with your mental health that you are struggling to deal with on your own, contact your local sex worker advocacy group for support.\\n4-5. Leave any situation immediately if you feel unsafe.\\nIf a client’s behavior is abusive, threatening, or violent, leave the situation as soon as you can safely do so. Contact your agency and your local police authority immediately. Similarly, if a client refuses to wear protection, leave the situation. Although you need to reimburse the client’s payment if you leave, it’s best to lose some money and to get yourself safely out of a dangerous situation.\\nIf you work for an agency, there will usually be a bouncer at the establishment who has been hired to help protect you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Professional escorts provide their clients with undivided time and attention in return for payment. Their work can range from companionship to sexual services. To get into the industry, find a reputable agency that you feel comfortable working with and start marketing your services using online platforms. While you’re working, it’s important to be professional at all times and to operate within the law. Minimize risks by always using protection and leaving any situations where you feel unsafe.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Joining the Industry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Join a reputable escort agency if you’re new to the industry.\", \"描述\": \"Working for a reputable escort agency gives you a much stronger sense of safety and security than working on your own. Look online, talk to other escorts, or contact your local sex worker advocacy group for agency recommendations. 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Try to advertise with multiple escorting websites to increase your marketing reach.\\nSome websites may require a physical description of yourself with different body measurements such as clothing size.\\nWhether or not your profile can include the services that you offer depends on the laws in your region.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get professional, high-quality photographs taken to promote yourself.\", \"描述\": \"The photos that you use play a huge role in your advertising. Look for professional photography services online or ask for recommendations from other escorts. Then contact the photographer and arrange for a session. Before your session, decide whether you are comfortable showing your face in your photos or not.\\nYour agency may be able to provide you with professional photos.\\nIt's recommended that you get your photos taken by a professional, as they know what lighting, angles, and photography styles to use to portray the image that you want.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Operating within the Law\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find out the laws in your region or country before you begin working.\", \"描述\": \"The laws and regulations about escorting differ between locations, which can result in large differences within the industry. In some areas, prostitution is illegal but other types of escorting such as companionship are legal. Contact your local escort or sex worker advocacy group for specific information about your region. 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It can be helpful to work with an accountant if you need help paying your taxes.\\nAlternatively, contact an escort or sex worker advocacy group in your area to get the best tax advice for your location.\\nEven if escorting is illegal in your location, it’s still recommended that you pay your taxes to avoid any penalties.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Working in the Industry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress professionally and arrive on time to meet clients.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of the type of escorting services that you provide, providing a professional service is key. If you are attending an event with a client, make sure that you ask what the dress code is first so that you know what sort of attire is appropriate to wear. Whether you are meeting the client at their home or in a public space, make sure that you have planned your travel arrangements well in advance so that you aren’t late.\\nFor females, long or knee-length dresses are usually best for high rise events. 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Contact your agency and your local police authority immediately. Similarly, if a client refuses to wear protection, leave the situation. Although you need to reimburse the client’s payment if you leave, it’s best to lose some money and to get yourself safely out of a dangerous situation.\\nIf you work for an agency, there will usually be a bouncer at the establishment who has been hired to help protect you.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Meditate on why you want this.
Make sure that this is actually something you want to do.
Not for the fame, but because you have a true, and strong passion for music! It's going to take a lot of hard work. Don't just do it for money or to show off.
2. Take singing lessons.
A formal education in singing will help you improve dramatically.
It does not matter how naturally talented or terrible you might be; lessons will teach you a lot and help you improve your voice.
3. Collaborate with others.
Look for other artists to work with.
If you want to be in a band or group, you’ll need to look for other dedicated trustworthy musicians that have the same creative vision that you do and will feel comfortable creatively collaborating with. If you choose the wrong band mates that can lead to serious issues down the road.
4. Practice in front of an audience.
This will get you comfortable performing and get you feedback.
Once you feel a comfortable with your voice, you need to get use to singing in front of others, start singing around people you are already somewhat familiar with and comfortably around like at a school choir, or church.
5. Get some exposure.
Sign up for some public singing events or competitions.
Now you need to start getting comfortable around strangers: (1) Go to your local fair and ask them if they have open slots for you to perform. (2) If there are any business near by that have open mic nights, go for that. (3) If your lucky and live in a bigger city you can just perform on the street, or maybe a concert venue.
6. Network.
Make connections to get your foot in the door.
This might not really work as well if you live in a smaller town. Become friends with people at concert venues, you might end up opening for another 'bigger' band, and could make even more connections.
7. Record a demo.
A demo tape will help you share your work with others.
Start recording demos. You can even use a program called Garage-band on a MAC.
8. Promote yourself.
Get the word out in your hometown and on social media.
Start promoting yourself like there's no tomorrow. Tell friends and family members, make fliers for upcoming gigs, make a Myspace, a Facebook, a twitter, a live journal, and a YouTube account anything that can reach a lot of people upload your music and attempt to add as many people as possible!
9. Send your work to record labels.
The more ears on your music, the more likely you’ll get signed.
Don't get discouraged if/when you are rejected, keep trying! And remember record labels DO NOT want to hear something that's already been done, be original.
10. Stay persistent.
Keep on going!
Keep playing shows (tour if possible), promoting yourself, sending out demos, and making your fan base grow! Labels like to see that you are taking the initiative.
11. Be true to yourself.
Stick to your path and don’t compromise for others.
Do not let your label control who you are after you have signed a recording contract. Fight for your creative vision because if you don't, well that's just not good..
Tips
Make sure that when you start working with other people (manager, band mates, crew, etc..) that they are dedicated and respectable people. If not then you will most likely run into some problems.
Don't do this for the money, do it because you love singing.
If you really love singing, go for it!
Warnings
Actually read the contract before you sign on to a record label.
If you do not stand up for yourself your label will control you.
Get a good voice teacher, if not they can mess up your voice.
Don't get your hopes up too high but work hard!
Watch out for scams! You should not have to pay a penny to anyone until you start making money!
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How to Be a Professional Teacher
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1. Looking and Acting Like a True Professional
1-1. Project a neat and clean look with your clothes and styling.
You may have more flexibility in your attire than previous generations of teachers—a male teacher may not be expected to wear a jacket and tie, for instance. No matter the dress code (or lack thereof) at your school, though, focus on maintaining a professional look. Come to work looking the part of a teacher, not trying to dress like your students.
Your clothing doesn’t have to be stuffy and buttoned-up, but aim for modest, clean, wrinkle- and damage-free clothes.
You might pair a skirt or slacks with a blouse or sweater, for instance, or wear slacks and a collared shirt with either a sweater or a jacket and perhaps a tie.
When it comes to personal grooming, try not to look like you just rolled out of bed or like you’re heading out to a club.
1-2. Behave professionally in public.
Students and the community at large will see you as a teacher even when you’re not working, so make sure you represent your school and profession well in your daily life. Be someone who others can respect no matter the situation.
To name an extreme example, getting into drunken brawls on your free time will cause community members to lose respect not only for you, but perhaps also for the profession at large.
Don’t bad-mouth the school or gossip about school employees or students.
1-3. Maintain professionalism on social media.
Social media can be a great way for you to connect with students, parents, and colleagues, but it can also be a gateway to unprofessional or even inappropriate behavior. You should keep your personal and professional social media profiles separate, and keep stringent privacy settings for each.
As a general rule of thumb, don’t say anything on social media that you wouldn’t say in the classroom.
Resist the temptation to get overly chatty or to overshare on social media. Retain a degree of professional distance in your dealings with students and others in your capacity as a teacher.
Don't post photos of your students on social media without their consent and their parent or guardian's consent.
Check if your school has social media guidelines or policies in place.
1-4. Prepare thoroughly for each day of teaching.
Check your planner the evening before and get ready for the following day. Professional teachers plan thoroughly for every lesson and class. Then, they stick to their work program and assessment schedule.
This ensures that syllabus content is covered, and also the necessary skills for their students' longer-term success in their specific subject or learning area.
A professional teacher’s workday doesn’t end with the school bell at the end of the day, and it always starts before the morning bell the next day.
1-5. Come to work on time every day.
A professional teacher understands the need to start the day well, every day. The first impression you make each morning sets the tone for the rest of the day.
Arrive early enough that you have time to get all your papers and lesson plans in order, and so you can get yourself mentally prepared to start the day right.
1-6. Follow the procedures and the protocols expected at your school.
True professionals, in any field, embrace the corporate identity and values, and model these for the clients. In the case of a teacher, that means being a “team player” with your fellow teachers and the school administration, and projecting this shared focus to your students.
Even if you have doubts or differences of opinion with the corporate identity or procedures at your school, don’t let this bleed into your teaching.
1-7. Don’t miss deadlines or fall behind on your grading.
Professionals keep their work up to date and plan ahead. If you’re always pushing deadlines back or making promises you can’t keep, you’ll lose respect in the eyes of your students and peers.
When it comes to grading, a 3-day rule of thumb is a good starting point for shorter assignments and non-essay tests. For longer assignments, stick to a 2-week turnaround. If you take too long to hand back tests and so on, the students may lose interest in the task and their results by the time you return their work.
1-8. Embrace change and give new methods a chance.
Don’t be a doomsayer and throw cold water on new ideas or suggestions for positive change. Instead of vocalizing negative thoughts like "That will never work at this school," respectfully note any concerns you may have but show your willingness to try out something different.
Don’t immediately discount suggestions or new ideas from students as well. Let them know that their opinions and perspectives are valued.
1-9. Seek new subject knowledge to share with your students.
Take continuing education courses to keep yourself mentally stimulated. Your renewed enthusiasm for your subject will be rewarded by increased student interest and enthusiasm for the subject itself.
A true professional--as a teacher or in any other career--never stops learning.
Also make sure you keep abreast of education policy and legislation.
1-10. Be passionate, positive, and enthusiastic about your work.
Never act like it’s a chore to be in the classroom, even if it feels that way from time to time. Instead, project positivity and enthusiasm for your students.
If you need a positivity boost yourself, take some time each morning or between classes to remind yourself why you got into teaching and what you get out of it.
Retain this positive enthusiasm beyond the classroom as well. For instance, a professional teacher will not create negativity in a staff room or engage in mindless gossip.
1-11. Attend professional development courses to gain new skills.
Professional teachers are constantly learning and sharing what they know. Learn about the latest pedagogical theories and practices, as well as the tools of the trade. Be open to trying new ideas to help your students learn and thrive.
Just as you learn from other teachers, they can learn from you. Share what you learn from your experiences and classes with other teachers, especially those on your team.
2. Running a Classroom Like a Pro
2-1. Take charge of your classroom.
Respect your students, and demand the same respect from them. Clearly lay out your rules for classroom behavior, and enforce them consistently. Don’t shout or lose your cool—remain calm and collected, and be clear on what needs to happen. When necessary, involve the school administration for serious discipline issues.
Your job isn’t to be your students’ friend or the most-liked teacher. You are a mentor who is there to impart knowledge and model professional behavior.
2-2. Put safety first.
Remember that, as a professional teacher, you are offering a service to the students and the school community. You are duty-bound to take your "in loco parentis" role seriously. Explain why certain rules are in place and follow all institutional risk management procedures.
Whether you’re teaching a gym class or in the chemistry lab, clearly lay out the safety rules and hold everyone to them at all times. Don’t waver in a misguided attempt to appear more likeable or “cool.”
2-3. Make excellence your goal.
Constantly provide benchmarks for improvement for your students. Give praise when it is due, and compassionate yet constructive feedback when it’s needed. Encourage and support those who are in need of help, and find creative ways to assist them to improve their grades.
Create an environment in which everyone (including you) is expected to do their best, is praised when they do so, and is supported when they fall short of excellence.
2-4. Take pride in the process and products of your teaching.
Make sure your lessons, notes, and handouts are professionally presented—that is, neat, clear, easy-to-follow, and without simple errors or typos. Take a moment to consider how you’d grade your own efforts—if they’d be anything other than passing with flying colors, increase your effort.
A professional teacher should never feel like they ought to re-do a piece of work because its presentation is shoddy.
2-5. Take responsibility for your student's results.
In the end, it’s up to your students to put in the work and effort to get their best grades. As a professional teacher, though, you should accept that the grades your students achieve are, at least in part, a reflection on you. Accept that there is room for improvement on both sides—the students’ and yours.
Don’t just throw up your hands and say that a student’s poor grades are because they’re lazy or don’t care about the material. Take it as a personal challenge to find ways to engage them in the subject.
2-6. Simplify your lessons to focus on the key components.
Good teachers make it easy to understand complicated things. Use examples, models, pictures, hands-on activities, real-life connections, and so on. Find ways for your students to relate to the material.
However, “simple” doesn’t mean “too easy” or “created without care.” Whittling down complex topics into simpler lessons is a challenge that takes time and effort to master.
Pick the brains of fellow teachers who you respect for their ability to bring focus and simplicity to their teaching.
2-7. Keep your students’ attention through enthusiasm and self-awareness.
You shouldn’t expect your students to be excited about learning something if you don’t seem excited to be teaching it. Let your passion shine through in the classroom, and some of it will rub off on your students.
With this enthusiasm, explain to your students why the knowledge you convey is important, and how they can apply what they learn in their daily lives. Then they are more likely to remember what you teach.
3. Connecting with Students, Parents, and Colleagues
3-1. Inspire others’ trust right from the start.
Create a good first impression from day one of the academic year. Be prepared, enthusiastic, and serious about success.
Be someone who students, parents, colleagues, and administrators can believe in.
If you’ve made a poor impression on someone for some reason, work hard to change it.
3-2. Treat your students with respect.
Never publicly humiliate or belittle your students. Do not discuss their results or grades in front of others. Don't personalise issues with students.
Never yell at your students or shame them in front of their peers. Instead, encourage them to take part in setting your classroom norms, which include respect for all.
Leave their family, background, religion, behavior, and personal circumstances out of public disciplinary processes and discussions.
3-3. Model respectful behavior for your students.
Your students can learn a lot about what you expect from them by watching you. Always show a respectful attitude toward students, fellow staff members, your school, your subject, and yourself. They will pick up on your respectful attitude, making it easy to gain their respect.
Use a calm, respectful tone when addressing students and staff.
If you teach multiple classes, don't complain about one class to another. Your students talk to each other, so students in the other class will find out.
3-4. Take an interest in every child.
The better you get to know your students, the more influence you will have on their attitude towards learning, and on their lives in general. Don’t play favorites or deem anyone beyond helping—your job as a professional is to teach everyone in the class.
Make sure you don’t forget about the students in the middle—that is, the ones who don’t wow you with their successes or frustrate you with their lack of interest.
Remember that your job is to connect with each student as a mentor, though. You don’t need to, and shouldn’t try to, become their friend.
3-5. Maintain confidentiality.
A professional teacher will use students' personal information to help them achieve their potential. Confidential information will not be disclosed as gossip, or used as a weapon against a student. Likewise, non-classroom information, like the content of staff meetings, should be treated in the strictest of confidence.
You could end up in legal trouble or lose your teaching license for disclosing confidential information.
However, also make sure you know when you are mandated by law to disclose confidential information. For instance, if you are told or suspect that a child is being abused, you may be legally required to report this to the authorities.
3-6. Consult parents and welcome their involvement.
Include parents in the educational process and encourage their support of the school's disciplinary processes and procedures. Be polite and calm when dealing with parents. Remind them that every discussion about the child needs to be undertaken with the child's best interests at heart.
You can’t force parents to get involved in their child’s education, but you can be as welcoming as possible. At the same time, be patient with parents who are perhaps too involved, and try to nudge them in the right direction.
3-7. Support your colleagues and school management.
Show that you’re a “team player” by prioritizing the needs of the institution as a whole. Remember that you are one person in a group of professionals who should, ideally, share a common goal and vision.
There will inevitably be differences of opinion, of course, and relations between teachers and administrators can get particularly frosty during contract negotiations.
However, don’t lose sight of the fact that your focus should be on the well-being of the school and its students.
Warnings
As a teacher, and a professional, you are likely to be judged by your words and actions. At all times, in your interactions with children, parents, and members of the public, practice self-restraint, self-control, and assertiveness in declaring that all you do is in the best interests of the children in your care.
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Behave professionally in public.\\nStudents and the community at large will see you as a teacher even when you’re not working, so make sure you represent your school and profession well in your daily life. Be someone who others can respect no matter the situation.\\nTo name an extreme example, getting into drunken brawls on your free time will cause community members to lose respect not only for you, but perhaps also for the profession at large.\\nDon’t bad-mouth the school or gossip about school employees or students.\\n1-3. Maintain professionalism on social media.\\nSocial media can be a great way for you to connect with students, parents, and colleagues, but it can also be a gateway to unprofessional or even inappropriate behavior. You should keep your personal and professional social media profiles separate, and keep stringent privacy settings for each.\\nAs a general rule of thumb, don’t say anything on social media that you wouldn’t say in the classroom.\\nResist the temptation to get overly chatty or to overshare on social media. Retain a degree of professional distance in your dealings with students and others in your capacity as a teacher.\\nDon't post photos of your students on social media without their consent and their parent or guardian's consent.\\nCheck if your school has social media guidelines or policies in place.\\n1-4. Prepare thoroughly for each day of teaching.\\nCheck your planner the evening before and get ready for the following day. Professional teachers plan thoroughly for every lesson and class. Then, they stick to their work program and assessment schedule.\\nThis ensures that syllabus content is covered, and also the necessary skills for their students' longer-term success in their specific subject or learning area.\\nA professional teacher’s workday doesn’t end with the school bell at the end of the day, and it always starts before the morning bell the next day.\\n1-5. Come to work on time every day.\\nA professional teacher understands the need to start the day well, every day. The first impression you make each morning sets the tone for the rest of the day.\\nArrive early enough that you have time to get all your papers and lesson plans in order, and so you can get yourself mentally prepared to start the day right.\\n1-6. Follow the procedures and the protocols expected at your school.\\nTrue professionals, in any field, embrace the corporate identity and values, and model these for the clients. In the case of a teacher, that means being a “team player” with your fellow teachers and the school administration, and projecting this shared focus to your students.\\nEven if you have doubts or differences of opinion with the corporate identity or procedures at your school, don’t let this bleed into your teaching.\\n1-7. Don’t miss deadlines or fall behind on your grading.\\nProfessionals keep their work up to date and plan ahead. If you’re always pushing deadlines back or making promises you can’t keep, you’ll lose respect in the eyes of your students and peers.\\nWhen it comes to grading, a 3-day rule of thumb is a good starting point for shorter assignments and non-essay tests. For longer assignments, stick to a 2-week turnaround. If you take too long to hand back tests and so on, the students may lose interest in the task and their results by the time you return their work.\\n1-8. Embrace change and give new methods a chance.\\nDon’t be a doomsayer and throw cold water on new ideas or suggestions for positive change. Instead of vocalizing negative thoughts like \\\"That will never work at this school,\\\" respectfully note any concerns you may have but show your willingness to try out something different.\\nDon’t immediately discount suggestions or new ideas from students as well. Let them know that their opinions and perspectives are valued.\\n1-9. Seek new subject knowledge to share with your students.\\nTake continuing education courses to keep yourself mentally stimulated. Your renewed enthusiasm for your subject will be rewarded by increased student interest and enthusiasm for the subject itself.\\nA true professional--as a teacher or in any other career--never stops learning.\\nAlso make sure you keep abreast of education policy and legislation.\\n1-10. Be passionate, positive, and enthusiastic about your work.\\nNever act like it’s a chore to be in the classroom, even if it feels that way from time to time. Instead, project positivity and enthusiasm for your students.\\nIf you need a positivity boost yourself, take some time each morning or between classes to remind yourself why you got into teaching and what you get out of it.\\nRetain this positive enthusiasm beyond the classroom as well. For instance, a professional teacher will not create negativity in a staff room or engage in mindless gossip.\\n1-11. Attend professional development courses to gain new skills.\\nProfessional teachers are constantly learning and sharing what they know. Learn about the latest pedagogical theories and practices, as well as the tools of the trade. Be open to trying new ideas to help your students learn and thrive.\\nJust as you learn from other teachers, they can learn from you. Share what you learn from your experiences and classes with other teachers, especially those on your team.\\n2. Running a Classroom Like a Pro\\n2-1. Take charge of your classroom.\\nRespect your students, and demand the same respect from them. Clearly lay out your rules for classroom behavior, and enforce them consistently. Don’t shout or lose your cool—remain calm and collected, and be clear on what needs to happen. When necessary, involve the school administration for serious discipline issues.\\nYour job isn’t to be your students’ friend or the most-liked teacher. You are a mentor who is there to impart knowledge and model professional behavior.\\n2-2. Put safety first.\\nRemember that, as a professional teacher, you are offering a service to the students and the school community. You are duty-bound to take your \\\"in loco parentis\\\" role seriously. Explain why certain rules are in place and follow all institutional risk management procedures.\\nWhether you’re teaching a gym class or in the chemistry lab, clearly lay out the safety rules and hold everyone to them at all times. Don’t waver in a misguided attempt to appear more likeable or “cool.”\\n2-3. Make excellence your goal.\\nConstantly provide benchmarks for improvement for your students. Give praise when it is due, and compassionate yet constructive feedback when it’s needed. Encourage and support those who are in need of help, and find creative ways to assist them to improve their grades.\\nCreate an environment in which everyone (including you) is expected to do their best, is praised when they do so, and is supported when they fall short of excellence.\\n2-4. Take pride in the process and products of your teaching.\\nMake sure your lessons, notes, and handouts are professionally presented—that is, neat, clear, easy-to-follow, and without simple errors or typos. Take a moment to consider how you’d grade your own efforts—if they’d be anything other than passing with flying colors, increase your effort.\\nA professional teacher should never feel like they ought to re-do a piece of work because its presentation is shoddy.\\n2-5. Take responsibility for your student's results.\\nIn the end, it’s up to your students to put in the work and effort to get their best grades. As a professional teacher, though, you should accept that the grades your students achieve are, at least in part, a reflection on you. Accept that there is room for improvement on both sides—the students’ and yours. \\nDon’t just throw up your hands and say that a student’s poor grades are because they’re lazy or don’t care about the material. Take it as a personal challenge to find ways to engage them in the subject.\\n2-6. Simplify your lessons to focus on the key components.\\nGood teachers make it easy to understand complicated things. Use examples, models, pictures, hands-on activities, real-life connections, and so on. Find ways for your students to relate to the material.\\nHowever, “simple” doesn’t mean “too easy” or “created without care.” Whittling down complex topics into simpler lessons is a challenge that takes time and effort to master.\\nPick the brains of fellow teachers who you respect for their ability to bring focus and simplicity to their teaching.\\n2-7. Keep your students’ attention through enthusiasm and self-awareness.\\nYou shouldn’t expect your students to be excited about learning something if you don’t seem excited to be teaching it. Let your passion shine through in the classroom, and some of it will rub off on your students.\\nWith this enthusiasm, explain to your students why the knowledge you convey is important, and how they can apply what they learn in their daily lives. Then they are more likely to remember what you teach.\\n3. Connecting with Students, Parents, and Colleagues\\n3-1. Inspire others’ trust right from the start.\\nCreate a good first impression from day one of the academic year. Be prepared, enthusiastic, and serious about success.\\nBe someone who students, parents, colleagues, and administrators can believe in.\\nIf you’ve made a poor impression on someone for some reason, work hard to change it.\\n3-2. Treat your students with respect.\\nNever publicly humiliate or belittle your students. Do not discuss their results or grades in front of others. Don't personalise issues with students.\\nNever yell at your students or shame them in front of their peers. Instead, encourage them to take part in setting your classroom norms, which include respect for all.\\nLeave their family, background, religion, behavior, and personal circumstances out of public disciplinary processes and discussions.\\n3-3. Model respectful behavior for your students.\\nYour students can learn a lot about what you expect from them by watching you. Always show a respectful attitude toward students, fellow staff members, your school, your subject, and yourself. They will pick up on your respectful attitude, making it easy to gain their respect.\\nUse a calm, respectful tone when addressing students and staff.\\nIf you teach multiple classes, don't complain about one class to another. Your students talk to each other, so students in the other class will find out.\\n3-4. Take an interest in every child.\\nThe better you get to know your students, the more influence you will have on their attitude towards learning, and on their lives in general. Don’t play favorites or deem anyone beyond helping—your job as a professional is to teach everyone in the class.\\nMake sure you don’t forget about the students in the middle—that is, the ones who don’t wow you with their successes or frustrate you with their lack of interest.\\nRemember that your job is to connect with each student as a mentor, though. You don’t need to, and shouldn’t try to, become their friend.\\n3-5. Maintain confidentiality.\\nA professional teacher will use students' personal information to help them achieve their potential. Confidential information will not be disclosed as gossip, or used as a weapon against a student. Likewise, non-classroom information, like the content of staff meetings, should be treated in the strictest of confidence.\\nYou could end up in legal trouble or lose your teaching license for disclosing confidential information.\\nHowever, also make sure you know when you are mandated by law to disclose confidential information. For instance, if you are told or suspect that a child is being abused, you may be legally required to report this to the authorities.\\n3-6. Consult parents and welcome their involvement.\\nInclude parents in the educational process and encourage their support of the school's disciplinary processes and procedures. Be polite and calm when dealing with parents. Remind them that every discussion about the child needs to be undertaken with the child's best interests at heart.\\nYou can’t force parents to get involved in their child’s education, but you can be as welcoming as possible. At the same time, be patient with parents who are perhaps too involved, and try to nudge them in the right direction.\\n3-7. Support your colleagues and school management.\\nShow that you’re a “team player” by prioritizing the needs of the institution as a whole. Remember that you are one person in a group of professionals who should, ideally, share a common goal and vision.\\nThere will inevitably be differences of opinion, of course, and relations between teachers and administrators can get particularly frosty during contract negotiations.\\nHowever, don’t lose sight of the fact that your focus should be on the well-being of the school and its students.\\nWarnings\\nAs a teacher, and a professional, you are likely to be judged by your words and actions. At all times, in your interactions with children, parents, and members of the public, practice self-restraint, self-control, and assertiveness in declaring that all you do is in the best interests of the children in your care.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You can join the teaching profession by completing the required training and certification, but becoming a professional teacher means something more than that. Being a professional means conducting yourself according to the highest standards, giving your best effort inside and outside the classroom, and building relationships based on mutual respect. So, if you aspire to become a teacher, aim to be a good one; and if you want to be a good teacher, make sure to act like a professional.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Looking and Acting Like a True Professional\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Project a neat and clean look with your clothes and styling.\", \"描述\": \"You may have more flexibility in your attire than previous generations of teachers—a male teacher may not be expected to wear a jacket and tie, for instance. No matter the dress code (or lack thereof) at your school, though, focus on maintaining a professional look. Come to work looking the part of a teacher, not trying to dress like your students.\\nYour clothing doesn’t have to be stuffy and buttoned-up, but aim for modest, clean, wrinkle- and damage-free clothes.\\nYou might pair a skirt or slacks with a blouse or sweater, for instance, or wear slacks and a collared shirt with either a sweater or a jacket and perhaps a tie.\\nWhen it comes to personal grooming, try not to look like you just rolled out of bed or like you’re heading out to a club.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Behave professionally in public.\", \"描述\": \"Students and the community at large will see you as a teacher even when you’re not working, so make sure you represent your school and profession well in your daily life. Be someone who others can respect no matter the situation.\\nTo name an extreme example, getting into drunken brawls on your free time will cause community members to lose respect not only for you, but perhaps also for the profession at large.\\nDon’t bad-mouth the school or gossip about school employees or students.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintain professionalism on social media.\", \"描述\": \"Social media can be a great way for you to connect with students, parents, and colleagues, but it can also be a gateway to unprofessional or even inappropriate behavior. You should keep your personal and professional social media profiles separate, and keep stringent privacy settings for each.\\nAs a general rule of thumb, don’t say anything on social media that you wouldn’t say in the classroom.\\nResist the temptation to get overly chatty or to overshare on social media. Retain a degree of professional distance in your dealings with students and others in your capacity as a teacher.\\nDon't post photos of your students on social media without their consent and their parent or guardian's consent.\\nCheck if your school has social media guidelines or policies in place.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Prepare thoroughly for each day of teaching.\", \"描述\": \"Check your planner the evening before and get ready for the following day. Professional teachers plan thoroughly for every lesson and class. Then, they stick to their work program and assessment schedule.\\nThis ensures that syllabus content is covered, and also the necessary skills for their students' longer-term success in their specific subject or learning area.\\nA professional teacher’s workday doesn’t end with the school bell at the end of the day, and it always starts before the morning bell the next day.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Come to work on time every day.\", \"描述\": \"A professional teacher understands the need to start the day well, every day. The first impression you make each morning sets the tone for the rest of the day.\\nArrive early enough that you have time to get all your papers and lesson plans in order, and so you can get yourself mentally prepared to start the day right.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Follow the procedures and the protocols expected at your school.\", \"描述\": \"True professionals, in any field, embrace the corporate identity and values, and model these for the clients. In the case of a teacher, that means being a “team player” with your fellow teachers and the school administration, and projecting this shared focus to your students.\\nEven if you have doubts or differences of opinion with the corporate identity or procedures at your school, don’t let this bleed into your teaching.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Don’t miss deadlines or fall behind on your grading.\", \"描述\": \"Professionals keep their work up to date and plan ahead. If you’re always pushing deadlines back or making promises you can’t keep, you’ll lose respect in the eyes of your students and peers.\\nWhen it comes to grading, a 3-day rule of thumb is a good starting point for shorter assignments and non-essay tests. For longer assignments, stick to a 2-week turnaround. If you take too long to hand back tests and so on, the students may lose interest in the task and their results by the time you return their work.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Embrace change and give new methods a chance.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t be a doomsayer and throw cold water on new ideas or suggestions for positive change. Instead of vocalizing negative thoughts like \\\"That will never work at this school,\\\" respectfully note any concerns you may have but show your willingness to try out something different.\\nDon’t immediately discount suggestions or new ideas from students as well. Let them know that their opinions and perspectives are valued.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Seek new subject knowledge to share with your students.\", \"描述\": \"Take continuing education courses to keep yourself mentally stimulated. Your renewed enthusiasm for your subject will be rewarded by increased student interest and enthusiasm for the subject itself.\\nA true professional--as a teacher or in any other career--never stops learning.\\nAlso make sure you keep abreast of education policy and legislation.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Be passionate, positive, and enthusiastic about your work.\", \"描述\": \"Never act like it’s a chore to be in the classroom, even if it feels that way from time to time. Instead, project positivity and enthusiasm for your students.\\nIf you need a positivity boost yourself, take some time each morning or between classes to remind yourself why you got into teaching and what you get out of it.\\nRetain this positive enthusiasm beyond the classroom as well. 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1. Tweaking Your Behavior
1-1. Make eye contact
As a proper young lady, it’s important that you let people know that they have your undivided attention when you greet them and when you’re having a conversation. Making eye contact shows the person that you’re talking to that you’re listening and that you respect what they have to say.
This is particularly important when you’re meeting someone new. By making eye contact, you’ll appear warm and friendly and make them feel more at ease.
1-2. Speak kindly and focus on the positive traits of others.
Gossip is often mean-spirited and can be very hurtful, so it’s best to avoid participating in gossip as much as possible. While gossiping with your friends can be tempting, consider how you’d feel if you were the subject of gossip. If you know that you’d be hurt by something that you or your friends are saying, try to avoid saying it.
Instead of gossiping, try to focus on other people’s positive qualities. Even if you don’t particularly enjoy someone’s company, there are surely a few things about them that you like or admire.
This is especially important when you’re communicating through email, text, or social media, as your words can easily be reproduced and hurt someone.
1-3. Be humble about your accomplishments.
While it’s important that you feel proud of your accomplishments, avoid bragging excessively about what you have or what you’ve done. People will likely find out about your accomplishments over time – you don’t need to brag in order to get credit and feel proud of yourself.
For example, if you recently got accepted into a prestigious art school, avoid bringing it up to people in casual conversation. Instead, you can let people know when they ask you what you’re doing next year, or what’s new with you.
As a proper young lady, it’s particularly important that you avoid bragging about material things that you own. This is quite unbecoming and often makes the person you’re talking to feel bad if they can’t afford what you have.
1-4. Avoid using rude or shocking language.
The language you use when you talk to people represents who you are and what you care about. Therefore, it’s important that you avoid using rude language that may offend people and make you seem abrasive or brash. In addition, try to avoid saying anything off-kilter or potentially offensive for the sake of shock value. You don’t need to shock people to get them to think highly of you. In fact, it will likely do quite the opposite.
For example, avoid using curse words in social situations, particularly when you are the guest at someone’s house.
While you may have a funny story about a wild night out, for example, save these stories for private conversations with close friends.
1-5. Say please and thank you whenever it’s appropriate.
This simple gesture is one of the easiest ways for you to act like a proper young lady. Saying please and thank you when someone offers you something will show your appreciation and demonstrate that you are a polite, gracious, and respectful.
Once you start saying please and thank you, you’ll eventually get in the habit of doing so all the time, making this a particularly easy way to act like a proper young lady.
1-6. Maintain a level, polite tone of voice.
Regardless of who you’re talking to or what you’re talking about, try to avoid raising your voice to draw attention to yourself or make a point. Instead, try to speak evenly, clearly, and articulately. People will be much more likely to be receptive to what you’re saying, and you won’t come off as rude or obnoxious.
This is particularly important when you disagree with someone. You don’t need to raise your voice to prove you’re right. Instead, try to calmly explain your point of view.
1-7. Educate yourself on important current events.
As a proper young lady, it’s important that you’re able to have conversations with people about a wide variety of topic. Therefore, try to read or watch the news every morning so that you stay up-to-date on important current events.
It will also make you feel more confident when you talk to others if you’re able to make informed, intelligent contributions to the conversation.
1-8. Be honest and stick to your word.
Being honest and dependable are both crucial attributes for you to have if you want to be considered a proper young woman. While it’s important that you’re always polite and avoid getting involved in confrontational situations, it’s also important that you are honest with people, and follow through when you make commitments.
It would be difficult for others to respect you as a proper young lady if you aren’t honest and dependable.
2. Working on Your Appearance
2-1. Wear clothing that covers your cleavage and backside.
As a proper young lady, go for pieces of clothing in flattering cuts that provide a bit more coverage. Clothing is one of the ways that you outwardly express yourself. By choosing pieces in classic cuts that aren’t overly showy, you’ll send the message that you are a self-respecting, proper young lady.
A midi dress or skirt with a demure, ruffled top is a great option for fancier social events.
For everyday wear, try a pair of well-tailored jeans with a classic boat-neck sweater or silk tank with a blazer on top.
2-2. Avoid poor quality clothing.
Instead of trying to find cheaper versions of designer or expensive items, opt for clothing that is well-cut and made of good quality fabrics. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on your clothing to look like a lady. Stylish, classic, high-quality clothing will make you look much more respectable and confident.
Check out the sales rack at upscale department stores and keep an eye out for good deals.
You can find nice clothing at thrift stores, too! Always check details like stitching and focus on finding pieces that are well-made.
2-3. Keep your nails clean and manicured.
Even if you don’t like to wear nail polish, keeping your nails clean and manicured will show people that you take care of yourself and use proper hygiene. Plus, if you’re hosting or serving at an event, people will appreciate the fact that your hands and nails are clean when you’re handling food and drinks and shaking their hands.
If you’re low on time, buffing your nails is a quick and easy way to make your nails look clean, shiny, and presentable.
2-4. Maintain good posture
Whether you’re walking or sitting down, try to always remember to keep your shoulders back and your head held high. This will help you maintain good posture and appear poised and self-assured.
Maintaining good posture will help you stand or sit taller, which will help you garner respect from those around you.
2-5. Smile at others to make them feel comfortable approaching you.
As a proper young lady, your goal is to appear both approachable and self-confident. Making a point to smile at people will make people feel more comfortable talking to you, and will outwardly display your kind and gracious nature.
2-6. Consider what your social media posts will say about you.
As a proper young lady, it’s important that you carefully consider what you choose to post on social media. While posting pictures of things you like and are passionate about is great, make sure that the image truly sends the message about you that you want it to.
As a general rule of thumb, if you wouldn’t feel comfortable showing your grandmother the picture you’re debating, it’s likely that it’s not very proper.
2-7. Avoid wearing too much makeup.
Instead of trying to cover up features that you aren’t crazy about, try to use makeup sparingly to enhance your best features. As a proper young lady, your goal is to bring positive attention to yourself, and present yourself in a respectable manner. Therefore, it’s best to avoid wearing too much makeup, which can make you look like your trying too hard and bring unwanted attention.
For daily activities, keep your makeup minimal with a lightweight foundation, blush, mascara, and lip gloss.
3. Developing Proper Dinner and Party Etiquette
3-1. Engage in conversation with other people at social events.
Whenever you’re at a dinner, wedding, or any other social event, do your best to engage in conversation with a variety of people present at the event. Even if you’re shy, try to introduce yourself to 1 or 2 new people. This will help you build self-confidence and let other people know that you are gracious and interested in meeting new people.
Avoid looking at your phone as much as possible, as this will send the message that you’re bored and have something more important to do.
Ask people questions about themselves to make them feel like you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them.
3-2. Avoid drinking too much at social functions.
While it’s fine to enjoy a glass of wine or two, make sure that you don’t allow yourself to be overserved at social events. The more you drink, the more difficult it will be for you to act like the proper young lady you are. It’s perfectly acceptable to decline additional drinks if you start to feel like your abilities are impaired.
If you feel like you’ve had a bit too much to drink, make sure that you eat plenty of food and drink plenty of water, or politely excuse yourself and leave.
3-3. Use proper table manners when you eat in public.
To be a proper young lady, it’s essential that you learn and use some of the basics of proper table etiquette. While some elements of proper behavior change over time, having good table manners is always an important way to show that you are polite and respectful. Here are a few of the basics of table etiquette you should use:
Always place your napkin in your lap when you sit down at the table.
Wait until everyone at the table has been served before you start eating.
Pass food trays and dishes to your right when being served family-style.
Never talk with food in your mouth. Instead, chew and swallow all your food before speaking at the table.
3-4. Bring a dish or gift when you are a guest in someone’s home.
Whether you’re attending a large party or small dinner party, avoid showing up empty-handed whenever possible. Even if you only bring a side dish or a small plant, offering something to the host or hostess will let them know how much you appreciate the invitation.
If you’re going to be a guest in someone’s home for a holiday or other celebratory event, consider bringing a gift that is on-theme. For example, if you’re going to a Christmas dinner, you could bring a festive ornament or poinsettia plant.
3-5. Keep your food and eating preferences to yourself at the table.
If you don’t like something that’s being served, you don’t need to announce it to the host or hostess or any other guests. Instead, just politely decline and pass the dish to the next guest.
If someone asks you if you want something specifically that you don’t eat, you can respond politely by saying, “No thank you, but it looks lovely!”
3-6. Avoid bickering about important issues in lighthearted social settings.
While it’s important that you express your views on important subjects, there is a time and a place for such conversations. Arguing with another guest at a dinner party about politics, for example, can be unproductive and rude. Instead, try to stick to positive, pleasant topics when you’re at a social event.
If someone says something that you disagree with or find offensive, you can always approach them later in private without making a scene at a party or at the dinner table.
3-7. Compliment the host or hostess’s home or decorating skills.
When you attend a social event, make sure that you find the host or hostess before the end of the event to both thank them and pay them a compliment. They likely put a lot of effort into making their home or other event space welcoming and beautiful, and it will mean a lot to them if you acknowledge that.
For example, if it’s your first time visiting someone’s house, try saying to them, “I absolutely love your home. I feel so welcome here.” That way, you’ll be able to compliment both their décor sense and their hospitality.
3-8. Offer to help clean up when you’re a guest at a dinner party.
Being polite and helpful are two of the most important elements of being a proper young lady. While the host or hostess will likely decline, they’ll surely appreciate your gracious offer to help clean up.
By showing your appreciation and willingness to help, they and other guests will be more likely to want to invite you to functions in the future.
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Even if you don’t particularly enjoy someone’s company, there are surely a few things about them that you like or admire.\\nThis is especially important when you’re communicating through email, text, or social media, as your words can easily be reproduced and hurt someone.\\n1-3. Be humble about your accomplishments.\\nWhile it’s important that you feel proud of your accomplishments, avoid bragging excessively about what you have or what you’ve done. People will likely find out about your accomplishments over time – you don’t need to brag in order to get credit and feel proud of yourself.\\nFor example, if you recently got accepted into a prestigious art school, avoid bringing it up to people in casual conversation. Instead, you can let people know when they ask you what you’re doing next year, or what’s new with you.\\nAs a proper young lady, it’s particularly important that you avoid bragging about material things that you own. This is quite unbecoming and often makes the person you’re talking to feel bad if they can’t afford what you have.\\n1-4. Avoid using rude or shocking language.\\nThe language you use when you talk to people represents who you are and what you care about. Therefore, it’s important that you avoid using rude language that may offend people and make you seem abrasive or brash. In addition, try to avoid saying anything off-kilter or potentially offensive for the sake of shock value. You don’t need to shock people to get them to think highly of you. In fact, it will likely do quite the opposite.\\nFor example, avoid using curse words in social situations, particularly when you are the guest at someone’s house.\\nWhile you may have a funny story about a wild night out, for example, save these stories for private conversations with close friends.\\n1-5. Say please and thank you whenever it’s appropriate.\\nThis simple gesture is one of the easiest ways for you to act like a proper young lady. Saying please and thank you when someone offers you something will show your appreciation and demonstrate that you are a polite, gracious, and respectful.\\nOnce you start saying please and thank you, you’ll eventually get in the habit of doing so all the time, making this a particularly easy way to act like a proper young lady.\\n1-6. Maintain a level, polite tone of voice.\\nRegardless of who you’re talking to or what you’re talking about, try to avoid raising your voice to draw attention to yourself or make a point. Instead, try to speak evenly, clearly, and articulately. People will be much more likely to be receptive to what you’re saying, and you won’t come off as rude or obnoxious.\\nThis is particularly important when you disagree with someone. You don’t need to raise your voice to prove you’re right. Instead, try to calmly explain your point of view.\\n1-7. Educate yourself on important current events.\\nAs a proper young lady, it’s important that you’re able to have conversations with people about a wide variety of topic. Therefore, try to read or watch the news every morning so that you stay up-to-date on important current events.\\nIt will also make you feel more confident when you talk to others if you’re able to make informed, intelligent contributions to the conversation.\\n1-8. Be honest and stick to your word.\\nBeing honest and dependable are both crucial attributes for you to have if you want to be considered a proper young woman. While it’s important that you’re always polite and avoid getting involved in confrontational situations, it’s also important that you are honest with people, and follow through when you make commitments.\\nIt would be difficult for others to respect you as a proper young lady if you aren’t honest and dependable.\\n2. Working on Your Appearance\\n2-1. Wear clothing that covers your cleavage and backside.\\nAs a proper young lady, go for pieces of clothing in flattering cuts that provide a bit more coverage. Clothing is one of the ways that you outwardly express yourself. By choosing pieces in classic cuts that aren’t overly showy, you’ll send the message that you are a self-respecting, proper young lady.\\nA midi dress or skirt with a demure, ruffled top is a great option for fancier social events.\\nFor everyday wear, try a pair of well-tailored jeans with a classic boat-neck sweater or silk tank with a blazer on top.\\n2-2. Avoid poor quality clothing.\\nInstead of trying to find cheaper versions of designer or expensive items, opt for clothing that is well-cut and made of good quality fabrics. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on your clothing to look like a lady. Stylish, classic, high-quality clothing will make you look much more respectable and confident.\\nCheck out the sales rack at upscale department stores and keep an eye out for good deals.\\nYou can find nice clothing at thrift stores, too! Always check details like stitching and focus on finding pieces that are well-made.\\n2-3. Keep your nails clean and manicured.\\nEven if you don’t like to wear nail polish, keeping your nails clean and manicured will show people that you take care of yourself and use proper hygiene. Plus, if you’re hosting or serving at an event, people will appreciate the fact that your hands and nails are clean when you’re handling food and drinks and shaking their hands.\\nIf you’re low on time, buffing your nails is a quick and easy way to make your nails look clean, shiny, and presentable.\\n2-4. Maintain good posture\\nWhether you’re walking or sitting down, try to always remember to keep your shoulders back and your head held high. This will help you maintain good posture and appear poised and self-assured.\\nMaintaining good posture will help you stand or sit taller, which will help you garner respect from those around you.\\n2-5. Smile at others to make them feel comfortable approaching you.\\nAs a proper young lady, your goal is to appear both approachable and self-confident. Making a point to smile at people will make people feel more comfortable talking to you, and will outwardly display your kind and gracious nature.\\n2-6. Consider what your social media posts will say about you.\\nAs a proper young lady, it’s important that you carefully consider what you choose to post on social media. While posting pictures of things you like and are passionate about is great, make sure that the image truly sends the message about you that you want it to.\\nAs a general rule of thumb, if you wouldn’t feel comfortable showing your grandmother the picture you’re debating, it’s likely that it’s not very proper.\\n2-7. Avoid wearing too much makeup.\\nInstead of trying to cover up features that you aren’t crazy about, try to use makeup sparingly to enhance your best features. As a proper young lady, your goal is to bring positive attention to yourself, and present yourself in a respectable manner. Therefore, it’s best to avoid wearing too much makeup, which can make you look like your trying too hard and bring unwanted attention.\\nFor daily activities, keep your makeup minimal with a lightweight foundation, blush, mascara, and lip gloss.\\n3. Developing Proper Dinner and Party Etiquette\\n3-1. Engage in conversation with other people at social events.\\nWhenever you’re at a dinner, wedding, or any other social event, do your best to engage in conversation with a variety of people present at the event. Even if you’re shy, try to introduce yourself to 1 or 2 new people. This will help you build self-confidence and let other people know that you are gracious and interested in meeting new people.\\nAvoid looking at your phone as much as possible, as this will send the message that you’re bored and have something more important to do.\\nAsk people questions about themselves to make them feel like you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them.\\n3-2. Avoid drinking too much at social functions.\\nWhile it’s fine to enjoy a glass of wine or two, make sure that you don’t allow yourself to be overserved at social events. The more you drink, the more difficult it will be for you to act like the proper young lady you are. It’s perfectly acceptable to decline additional drinks if you start to feel like your abilities are impaired.\\nIf you feel like you’ve had a bit too much to drink, make sure that you eat plenty of food and drink plenty of water, or politely excuse yourself and leave.\\n3-3. Use proper table manners when you eat in public.\\nTo be a proper young lady, it’s essential that you learn and use some of the basics of proper table etiquette. While some elements of proper behavior change over time, having good table manners is always an important way to show that you are polite and respectful. Here are a few of the basics of table etiquette you should use:\\nAlways place your napkin in your lap when you sit down at the table.\\nWait until everyone at the table has been served before you start eating.\\nPass food trays and dishes to your right when being served family-style.\\nNever talk with food in your mouth. Instead, chew and swallow all your food before speaking at the table.\\n3-4. Bring a dish or gift when you are a guest in someone’s home.\\nWhether you’re attending a large party or small dinner party, avoid showing up empty-handed whenever possible. Even if you only bring a side dish or a small plant, offering something to the host or hostess will let them know how much you appreciate the invitation.\\nIf you’re going to be a guest in someone’s home for a holiday or other celebratory event, consider bringing a gift that is on-theme. For example, if you’re going to a Christmas dinner, you could bring a festive ornament or poinsettia plant.\\n3-5. Keep your food and eating preferences to yourself at the table.\\nIf you don’t like something that’s being served, you don’t need to announce it to the host or hostess or any other guests. Instead, just politely decline and pass the dish to the next guest.\\nIf someone asks you if you want something specifically that you don’t eat, you can respond politely by saying, “No thank you, but it looks lovely!”\\n3-6. Avoid bickering about important issues in lighthearted social settings.\\nWhile it’s important that you express your views on important subjects, there is a time and a place for such conversations. Arguing with another guest at a dinner party about politics, for example, can be unproductive and rude. Instead, try to stick to positive, pleasant topics when you’re at a social event.\\nIf someone says something that you disagree with or find offensive, you can always approach them later in private without making a scene at a party or at the dinner table.\\n3-7. Compliment the host or hostess’s home or decorating skills.\\nWhen you attend a social event, make sure that you find the host or hostess before the end of the event to both thank them and pay them a compliment. They likely put a lot of effort into making their home or other event space welcoming and beautiful, and it will mean a lot to them if you acknowledge that.\\nFor example, if it’s your first time visiting someone’s house, try saying to them, “I absolutely love your home. I feel so welcome here.” That way, you’ll be able to compliment both their décor sense and their hospitality.\\n3-8. Offer to help clean up when you’re a guest at a dinner party.\\nBeing polite and helpful are two of the most important elements of being a proper young lady. While the host or hostess will likely decline, they’ll surely appreciate your gracious offer to help clean up.\\nBy showing your appreciation and willingness to help, they and other guests will be more likely to want to invite you to functions in the future.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a proper young lady involves having good manners, a positive attitude, and treating others with respect. While some elements of decorum have changed over time, many remain useful ways for you to express generosity, and grace. To be a proper young lady, you can tweak your behavior, work on your appearance, and develop proper dinner and party etiquette to help you become more respectable, self-confident, and polite.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tweaking Your Behavior\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make eye contact\", \"描述\": \"As a proper young lady, it’s important that you let people know that they have your undivided attention when you greet them and when you’re having a conversation. Making eye contact shows the person that you’re talking to that you’re listening and that you respect what they have to say.\\nThis is particularly important when you’re meeting someone new. By making eye contact, you’ll appear warm and friendly and make them feel more at ease.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak kindly and focus on the positive traits of others.\", \"描述\": \"Gossip is often mean-spirited and can be very hurtful, so it’s best to avoid participating in gossip as much as possible. While gossiping with your friends can be tempting, consider how you’d feel if you were the subject of gossip. If you know that you’d be hurt by something that you or your friends are saying, try to avoid saying it.\\nInstead of gossiping, try to focus on other people’s positive qualities. Even if you don’t particularly enjoy someone’s company, there are surely a few things about them that you like or admire.\\nThis is especially important when you’re communicating through email, text, or social media, as your words can easily be reproduced and hurt someone.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be humble about your accomplishments.\", \"描述\": \"While it’s important that you feel proud of your accomplishments, avoid bragging excessively about what you have or what you’ve done. People will likely find out about your accomplishments over time – you don’t need to brag in order to get credit and feel proud of yourself.\\nFor example, if you recently got accepted into a prestigious art school, avoid bringing it up to people in casual conversation. Instead, you can let people know when they ask you what you’re doing next year, or what’s new with you.\\nAs a proper young lady, it’s particularly important that you avoid bragging about material things that you own. This is quite unbecoming and often makes the person you’re talking to feel bad if they can’t afford what you have.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Avoid using rude or shocking language.\", \"描述\": \"The language you use when you talk to people represents who you are and what you care about. Therefore, it’s important that you avoid using rude language that may offend people and make you seem abrasive or brash. In addition, try to avoid saying anything off-kilter or potentially offensive for the sake of shock value. You don’t need to shock people to get them to think highly of you. In fact, it will likely do quite the opposite.\\nFor example, avoid using curse words in social situations, particularly when you are the guest at someone’s house.\\nWhile you may have a funny story about a wild night out, for example, save these stories for private conversations with close friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Say please and thank you whenever it’s appropriate.\", \"描述\": \"This simple gesture is one of the easiest ways for you to act like a proper young lady. Saying please and thank you when someone offers you something will show your appreciation and demonstrate that you are a polite, gracious, and respectful.\\nOnce you start saying please and thank you, you’ll eventually get in the habit of doing so all the time, making this a particularly easy way to act like a proper young lady.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Maintain a level, polite tone of voice.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of who you’re talking to or what you’re talking about, try to avoid raising your voice to draw attention to yourself or make a point. Instead, try to speak evenly, clearly, and articulately. People will be much more likely to be receptive to what you’re saying, and you won’t come off as rude or obnoxious.\\nThis is particularly important when you disagree with someone. You don’t need to raise your voice to prove you’re right. 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This will help you maintain good posture and appear poised and self-assured.\\nMaintaining good posture will help you stand or sit taller, which will help you garner respect from those around you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Smile at others to make them feel comfortable approaching you.\", \"描述\": \"As a proper young lady, your goal is to appear both approachable and self-confident. Making a point to smile at people will make people feel more comfortable talking to you, and will outwardly display your kind and gracious nature.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Consider what your social media posts will say about you.\", \"描述\": \"As a proper young lady, it’s important that you carefully consider what you choose to post on social media. While posting pictures of things you like and are passionate about is great, make sure that the image truly sends the message about you that you want it to.\\nAs a general rule of thumb, if you wouldn’t feel comfortable showing your grandmother the picture you’re debating, it’s likely that it’s not very proper.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Avoid wearing too much makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of trying to cover up features that you aren’t crazy about, try to use makeup sparingly to enhance your best features. As a proper young lady, your goal is to bring positive attention to yourself, and present yourself in a respectable manner. Therefore, it’s best to avoid wearing too much makeup, which can make you look like your trying too hard and bring unwanted attention.\\nFor daily activities, keep your makeup minimal with a lightweight foundation, blush, mascara, and lip gloss.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Proper Dinner and Party Etiquette\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Engage in conversation with other people at social events.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever you’re at a dinner, wedding, or any other social event, do your best to engage in conversation with a variety of people present at the event. Even if you’re shy, try to introduce yourself to 1 or 2 new people. This will help you build self-confidence and let other people know that you are gracious and interested in meeting new people.\\nAvoid looking at your phone as much as possible, as this will send the message that you’re bored and have something more important to do.\\nAsk people questions about themselves to make them feel like you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid drinking too much at social functions.\", \"描述\": \"While it’s fine to enjoy a glass of wine or two, make sure that you don’t allow yourself to be overserved at social events. The more you drink, the more difficult it will be for you to act like the proper young lady you are. 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1. Keeping Your Relationship Strong
1-1. Ask your partner what they want from you.
If you want to know what your partner expects from you, and how you can best protect them, be direct. Ask your partner, “Do you think I am protective of what we have together?” or “Do you think I am overprotective?”
Listen carefully to your partner’s answer. If you are confused or have follow-up questions, ask for more information when your partner has finished speaking.
If your partner expresses that you could be more protective and caring, take proactive steps to show that you care. For instance, if your partner indicates that you seem unconcerned when others flirt with them, explain why you react the way you do.
You could explain that you feel so confident in your relationship that you do not feel obligated to fend off other people who are flirtatious with your partner. Do not be defensive or passive-aggressive when explaining yourself. Explain your perspective in a calm, measured way and refer only to your own actions and beliefs.
For instance, do not respond to your partner’s expectation that you will be more protective by arguing that because he or she is not protective, you do not need to be either.
If your partner thinks you’re overprotective, take proactive steps to reduce your overprotective behaviors. For instance, if you scrutinize and over-analyze the messages she gets on social media, or designate which of her friends she can see, she might be concerned that you’re being overprotective. Adjust your behavior appropriately.
1-2. Send your partner thoughtful messages throughout the day.
Use text messages and emails to remind your partner that you care about and miss them. For instance, you might send a short message like, “Thinking of you,” or “Hope you’re having a great day.”
If you know your partner has a rough time ahead or is facing a serious challenge refer to it in your short, thoughtful message. For instance, if your partner has a test later, you could write, “Good luck on your test!”
Don’t overdo it. One or two brief, spontaneous messages a day is enough. More than that might be perceived of as clingy.
1-3. Touch your partner non-sexually.
While sex is an important part of your physical relationship with your partner, it is only one part. Nonsexual touching can inspire feelings of affection and provide small opportunities for bonding. Showing you care is as important as saying you care.
When you wake up in the morning give your partner a big hug and a peck on the cheek.
If your partner is sitting or laying down watching TV, give them a squeeze on the shoulder as you pass by.
After your partner comes home from work, offer to give them a back rub to relieve the day’s tension.
1-4. Spend time with people who support your relationship.
If a certain friend or family member is constantly pressuring you in overt or subtle ways to leave your partner, limit the time you spend with them. For instance, perhaps your mother makes sniping comments about your partner like, “She doesn’t have much of an education, does she?” You might have a friend who insists, “You could do much better.” You should respond to these situations by defending your partner. Tell the individual in question, “I’m in a loving and committed relationship. I wish that you could see how happy my partner makes me.” Explain to the friend or family member that you love and are committed to your partner. Encourage your partner to do the same.
Sometimes friends and family have serious concerns about our choice in romantic partners. Listen carefully to the issues your family and friends are concerned about regarding your partner. If many people have similar or overlapping concerns, you might be in a bad or abusive relationship.
Do not complain publicly about your partner. If you have issues with your partner, work them out one-on-one behind closed doors.
1-5. Take pride in your relationship.
Go out in public with your partner. Instead of spending every night inside watching TV and eating dinner, go on dates. For instance, you could go to dinner in a nice restaurant and see a film together. You could go downtown and go shopping, or just enjoy walking around. Use your imagination to concoct a fun date you can do with your partner.
Celebrate your relationship on social media. Post happy pictures of you and your partner doing fun things together. Update your personal information to reflect the fact that you’re in a relationship.
Tell friends and family about fun things you and your partner did together. For instance, if your coworkers inquire as to what you’ve been up to, say, “My partner and I went to the park this weekend. It was great fun,” or “My partner and I had a barbecue in our backyard. We really enjoyed it.”
1-6. Encourage your partner to maintain their health.
Good health is the cornerstone of a good life. If your partner is not exercising enough -- or too much -- express your concerns in a loving way.
You could say, “I am concerned about your health. I want us to have a long, happy life together. Let’s work together to stay healthy.” Encourage your partner to get fit with an invitation such as, “Let’s go for a bike ride.” You might also say, “There’s a new gym nearby. Let’s check it out this weekend.”
Partners who work out together tend to improve the quality of their relationship. Take a walk after dinner or a bike ride at the park with your partner. Not only will be burning calories, but you’ll get to bond with your partner.
Besides working out regularly, eating right is an important component of good health. Go shopping with your partner so you can both buy things that you want to eat together. Choose healthy foods like vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Avoid processed, packaged foods loaded with salt, sugar, and fat.
2. Ensuring Your Partner Feels Safe and Comfortable
2-1. Learn a martial art.
There are many martial arts from many different countries. While no martial art will prepare you for every possible situation you could face, they will give you the training and muscle memory to adapt to bad situations, assess the severity of various threats, and react quickly.
If possible, train in multiple martial arts. The more self-defense knowledge you have, the better equipped you will be to protect your partner when the time comes.
If you can’t do martial arts, learn some basic self-defense techniques. Stomping an aggressor’s foot or kicking them in the groin before fleeing (with your partner) is a standard way to escape danger.
2-2. Work out.
While working out is a great way to stay healthy and fit, you can also build strength in order to keep your partner safe.
Focus on building upper body strength with sit-ups, chin-ups, push-ups, bench presses and dumbbell exercises. When the time comes for a confrontation, you’ll be ready.
Working out also impresses your partner. Healthy and fit people tend to be perceived as more attractive and likable.
2-3. Use caution when you’re with your partner.
For instance, if you normally walk home from work through a rough part of town, avoid that stretch when walking home from work with your partner. Go a few blocks out of your way to limit your exposure to potential crime or violence.
Wrap your arm around your partner whenever they seem concerned about people or places in the vicinity. This will reassure them that you’ll protect them. If someone is whistling or catcalling your partner, pull your partner close so that they feel stronger.
2-4. Keep an eye out for potentially bad situations.
Imagine you and your partner are out on the town. You’re out with a group of friends. While you and your buddies are sitting comfortably in a booth, your partner goes out on the floor to dance with some friends. You notice a group of people near your partner who are getting rowdy, or somebody heckling her or him without any apparent reason. While you might be riled up and alarmed by this, don't step in straight away. Allow him or her the space to handle it but monitor the situation closely. Go to your partner’s defense if you feel it's needed.
2-5. Only use violence as a last resort.
There are times when protecting the one you love mean resorting to violence. But most of the time, there are other options available. You should start by attempting to de-escalate any bad situation. For instance, if someone is speaking or acting aggressively toward your partner, intervene by apologizing. Tell the aggressor, “We’re sorry, it was just a mistake. We’ll be going now.” Then, make your exit.
Do not insult the aggressor or up the ante by threatening them. Challenging the aggressor will only make them more likely to hurt your partner, or you.
If the aggressor doesn’t let you leave or pursues you, call the police. Report the situation and follow their directions. Stay cognizant of the aggressor during the entire exchange, and watch for signs that they might strike. Defend yourself if necessary.
If an aggressor pulls a weapon on you, do not struggle with them or attempt to wrest it from their grasp. You could end up getting your partner or another bystander hurt.
3. Dealing With Romantic Competition
3-1. Don’t be jealous.
Remember, your partner is dating you. Just because they are getting attention from other people doesn’t mean they are reciprocating the advances.
Jealousy in small amounts is normal and demonstrates that you care about your partner.
If your partner does choose someone else, take comfort in the fact that they are not the one for you. The right one for you, after all, is the one who stays committed to you. For that reason, again, there is no reason to be jealous.
3-2. Gently but firmly dismiss individuals who approach your partner.
Politely go up to your partner and greet them. Ask them to introduce you to their “friend.” Your partner should reply something like, “He/She was just leaving.” At this point, hopefully, the would-be suitor realizes that your partner has a boyfriend and will cease their flirtation.
Depending on your partner's personality, they may be willing and able to shake off these people off themselves. If so, let them handle it, while keeping an eye on the situation in case the person refuses to listen to your partner.
3-3. Ward off persistent creeps and perverts.
If your partner feels ogled or is getting unwanted attention, they will rightly feel very uncomfortable. Not only is it rude and invasive, but it can make your partner feel unsafe.
Tell your partner when you notice this happening and reassure them that you're aware of it and are prepared to say something if needed.
Stay alert for guys or girls who make pests of themselves. Call them out on their leering if needed, politely and firmly. For instance, tell them, “Leave them alone. They don't deserve your leering.”
However, be careful to realize that if your partner is attractive, it's only natural for others to look, so learn to spot the difference between this curious and appreciative gazing and menacing leering.
Don't go overboard if someone just throws an appreciative glance at your partner once and then goes on their way.
3-4. Enforce your partner's boundaries.
Pay close attention to what your partner is and isn't okay with, and ask if need be. If someone is crossing your partner's boundaries, you are the backup. You can add weight to their words with a frown, glare, or a verbal reminder that "She said no."
You may need to do this with creeps, but also sometimes people you trust. For example, if a friend keeps pestering your partner to talk about something she doesn't want to, you can give a small frown and say "They said they don't want to talk about it. Let it drop."
Pay close attention to your partner's boundaries with you, too. If your partner says no to something, or they don't seem comfortable, listen to their wishes. No one should do things which your partner is uncomfortable with, including you.
4. Avoiding Overprotective Behavior
4-1. Ask yourself why you’re getting overprotective.
If your partner is not giving you enough attention, you might feel neglected. You will probably feel jealous that she is talking with others instead of you. In that case, express your concerns to your partner. Arrange a date night or special time when you can regularly be together one-on-one. This will ensure you both find enough time to spend together.
Try to compromise with your partner to find a comfortable amount of time you can be together each day.
If you were cheated on by your partner before, you might also become overprotective as a result. Perhaps you start trying to keep an eye on him/her. However, this is unhealthy, not to mention impossible. Rebuilding trust takes time, and overprotective behavior will slow the process.
4-2. Admit your anxieties to your partner.
For instance, you might feel worried that your partner is not attracted to you as much as they used to be. You might think your partner does not want you around anymore. If you feel these things, express them to your partner. Often, being reassured that your partner is still interested in you can alleviate your stress and reduce your need to be overprotective of him or her.
4-3. Confront your own lack of confidence.
Low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence can lead to unhealthy attachments and overprotective behavior. Build your self-confidence each day by taking care of your appearance. Dress well and maintain good hygiene. Eat a balanced diet and get 60-90 minutes of exercise each day. In time, you will feel more comfortable with yourself and not need to be so overprotective of your partner.
Make three lists: one of your strengths, one of your achievements, and one of things you admire about yourself. Consult your partner and other friends about what they think belongs on each list. Refer to it regularly when feel down about yourself.
If you suffer from long-term insecurity about your personal prospects, consult a psychologist. Psychologists are trained to help you work through personal problems and identify causes which may lie deep in your past.
4-4. Respect your partner’s boundaries.
For instance, do not snoop into their text messages or emails. If you are suspicious that your partner is cheating on you, confront them with your concerns directly. Don’t go behind your partner’s back to discover what they’re saying to their friends or coworkers.
If they ask for alone time or don’t want to go out every time you offer them an invitation, don’t take it personally. Everyone needs alone time.
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Explain your perspective in a calm, measured way and refer only to your own actions and beliefs.\\nFor instance, do not respond to your partner’s expectation that you will be more protective by arguing that because he or she is not protective, you do not need to be either.\\nIf your partner thinks you’re overprotective, take proactive steps to reduce your overprotective behaviors. For instance, if you scrutinize and over-analyze the messages she gets on social media, or designate which of her friends she can see, she might be concerned that you’re being overprotective. Adjust your behavior appropriately.\\n1-2. Send your partner thoughtful messages throughout the day.\\nUse text messages and emails to remind your partner that you care about and miss them. For instance, you might send a short message like, “Thinking of you,” or “Hope you’re having a great day.” \\nIf you know your partner has a rough time ahead or is facing a serious challenge refer to it in your short, thoughtful message. For instance, if your partner has a test later, you could write, “Good luck on your test!”\\nDon’t overdo it. One or two brief, spontaneous messages a day is enough. More than that might be perceived of as clingy.\\n1-3. Touch your partner non-sexually.\\nWhile sex is an important part of your physical relationship with your partner, it is only one part. Nonsexual touching can inspire feelings of affection and provide small opportunities for bonding. Showing you care is as important as saying you care.\\nWhen you wake up in the morning give your partner a big hug and a peck on the cheek.\\nIf your partner is sitting or laying down watching TV, give them a squeeze on the shoulder as you pass by.\\nAfter your partner comes home from work, offer to give them a back rub to relieve the day’s tension.\\n1-4. Spend time with people who support your relationship.\\nIf a certain friend or family member is constantly pressuring you in overt or subtle ways to leave your partner, limit the time you spend with them. For instance, perhaps your mother makes sniping comments about your partner like, “She doesn’t have much of an education, does she?” You might have a friend who insists, “You could do much better.” You should respond to these situations by defending your partner. Tell the individual in question, “I’m in a loving and committed relationship. I wish that you could see how happy my partner makes me.” Explain to the friend or family member that you love and are committed to your partner. Encourage your partner to do the same.\\nSometimes friends and family have serious concerns about our choice in romantic partners. Listen carefully to the issues your family and friends are concerned about regarding your partner. If many people have similar or overlapping concerns, you might be in a bad or abusive relationship.\\nDo not complain publicly about your partner. If you have issues with your partner, work them out one-on-one behind closed doors.\\n1-5. Take pride in your relationship.\\nGo out in public with your partner. Instead of spending every night inside watching TV and eating dinner, go on dates. For instance, you could go to dinner in a nice restaurant and see a film together. You could go downtown and go shopping, or just enjoy walking around. Use your imagination to concoct a fun date you can do with your partner.\\nCelebrate your relationship on social media. Post happy pictures of you and your partner doing fun things together. Update your personal information to reflect the fact that you’re in a relationship.\\nTell friends and family about fun things you and your partner did together. For instance, if your coworkers inquire as to what you’ve been up to, say, “My partner and I went to the park this weekend. It was great fun,” or “My partner and I had a barbecue in our backyard. We really enjoyed it.”\\n1-6. Encourage your partner to maintain their health.\\nGood health is the cornerstone of a good life. If your partner is not exercising enough -- or too much -- express your concerns in a loving way. \\nYou could say, “I am concerned about your health. I want us to have a long, happy life together. Let’s work together to stay healthy.” Encourage your partner to get fit with an invitation such as, “Let’s go for a bike ride.” You might also say, “There’s a new gym nearby. Let’s check it out this weekend.”\\nPartners who work out together tend to improve the quality of their relationship. Take a walk after dinner or a bike ride at the park with your partner. Not only will be burning calories, but you’ll get to bond with your partner.\\nBesides working out regularly, eating right is an important component of good health. Go shopping with your partner so you can both buy things that you want to eat together. Choose healthy foods like vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Avoid processed, packaged foods loaded with salt, sugar, and fat.\\n2. Ensuring Your Partner Feels Safe and Comfortable\\n2-1. Learn a martial art.\\nThere are many martial arts from many different countries. While no martial art will prepare you for every possible situation you could face, they will give you the training and muscle memory to adapt to bad situations, assess the severity of various threats, and react quickly.\\nIf possible, train in multiple martial arts. The more self-defense knowledge you have, the better equipped you will be to protect your partner when the time comes.\\nIf you can’t do martial arts, learn some basic self-defense techniques. Stomping an aggressor’s foot or kicking them in the groin before fleeing (with your partner) is a standard way to escape danger.\\n2-2. Work out.\\nWhile working out is a great way to stay healthy and fit, you can also build strength in order to keep your partner safe.\\n Focus on building upper body strength with sit-ups, chin-ups, push-ups, bench presses and dumbbell exercises. When the time comes for a confrontation, you’ll be ready.\\nWorking out also impresses your partner. Healthy and fit people tend to be perceived as more attractive and likable.\\n2-3. Use caution when you’re with your partner.\\nFor instance, if you normally walk home from work through a rough part of town, avoid that stretch when walking home from work with your partner. Go a few blocks out of your way to limit your exposure to potential crime or violence.\\nWrap your arm around your partner whenever they seem concerned about people or places in the vicinity. This will reassure them that you’ll protect them. If someone is whistling or catcalling your partner, pull your partner close so that they feel stronger.\\n2-4. Keep an eye out for potentially bad situations.\\nImagine you and your partner are out on the town. You’re out with a group of friends. While you and your buddies are sitting comfortably in a booth, your partner goes out on the floor to dance with some friends. You notice a group of people near your partner who are getting rowdy, or somebody heckling her or him without any apparent reason. While you might be riled up and alarmed by this, don't step in straight away. Allow him or her the space to handle it but monitor the situation closely. Go to your partner’s defense if you feel it's needed.\\n2-5. Only use violence as a last resort.\\nThere are times when protecting the one you love mean resorting to violence. But most of the time, there are other options available. You should start by attempting to de-escalate any bad situation. For instance, if someone is speaking or acting aggressively toward your partner, intervene by apologizing. Tell the aggressor, “We’re sorry, it was just a mistake. We’ll be going now.” Then, make your exit.\\nDo not insult the aggressor or up the ante by threatening them. Challenging the aggressor will only make them more likely to hurt your partner, or you.\\nIf the aggressor doesn’t let you leave or pursues you, call the police. Report the situation and follow their directions. Stay cognizant of the aggressor during the entire exchange, and watch for signs that they might strike. Defend yourself if necessary.\\nIf an aggressor pulls a weapon on you, do not struggle with them or attempt to wrest it from their grasp. You could end up getting your partner or another bystander hurt.\\n3. Dealing With Romantic Competition\\n3-1. Don’t be jealous.\\nRemember, your partner is dating you. Just because they are getting attention from other people doesn’t mean they are reciprocating the advances.\\nJealousy in small amounts is normal and demonstrates that you care about your partner.\\nIf your partner does choose someone else, take comfort in the fact that they are not the one for you. The right one for you, after all, is the one who stays committed to you. 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Not only is it rude and invasive, but it can make your partner feel unsafe.\\nTell your partner when you notice this happening and reassure them that you're aware of it and are prepared to say something if needed.\\nStay alert for guys or girls who make pests of themselves. Call them out on their leering if needed, politely and firmly. For instance, tell them, “Leave them alone. They don't deserve your leering.”\\nHowever, be careful to realize that if your partner is attractive, it's only natural for others to look, so learn to spot the difference between this curious and appreciative gazing and menacing leering.\\nDon't go overboard if someone just throws an appreciative glance at your partner once and then goes on their way.\\n3-4. Enforce your partner's boundaries.\\nPay close attention to what your partner is and isn't okay with, and ask if need be. If someone is crossing your partner's boundaries, you are the backup. You can add weight to their words with a frown, glare, or a verbal reminder that \\\"She said no.\\\"\\nYou may need to do this with creeps, but also sometimes people you trust. For example, if a friend keeps pestering your partner to talk about something she doesn't want to, you can give a small frown and say \\\"They said they don't want to talk about it. Let it drop.\\\"\\nPay close attention to your partner's boundaries with you, too. If your partner says no to something, or they don't seem comfortable, listen to their wishes. No one should do things which your partner is uncomfortable with, including you.\\n4. Avoiding Overprotective Behavior\\n4-1. Ask yourself why you’re getting overprotective.\\nIf your partner is not giving you enough attention, you might feel neglected. You will probably feel jealous that she is talking with others instead of you. In that case, express your concerns to your partner. Arrange a date night or special time when you can regularly be together one-on-one. This will ensure you both find enough time to spend together.\\nTry to compromise with your partner to find a comfortable amount of time you can be together each day.\\nIf you were cheated on by your partner before, you might also become overprotective as a result. Perhaps you start trying to keep an eye on him/her. However, this is unhealthy, not to mention impossible. Rebuilding trust takes time, and overprotective behavior will slow the process.\\n4-2. Admit your anxieties to your partner.\\nFor instance, you might feel worried that your partner is not attracted to you as much as they used to be. You might think your partner does not want you around anymore. If you feel these things, express them to your partner. Often, being reassured that your partner is still interested in you can alleviate your stress and reduce your need to be overprotective of him or her.\\n4-3. Confront your own lack of confidence.\\nLow self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence can lead to unhealthy attachments and overprotective behavior. Build your self-confidence each day by taking care of your appearance. Dress well and maintain good hygiene. Eat a balanced diet and get 60-90 minutes of exercise each day. In time, you will feel more comfortable with yourself and not need to be so overprotective of your partner.\\nMake three lists: one of your strengths, one of your achievements, and one of things you admire about yourself. Consult your partner and other friends about what they think belongs on each list. Refer to it regularly when feel down about yourself.\\nIf you suffer from long-term insecurity about your personal prospects, consult a psychologist. Psychologists are trained to help you work through personal problems and identify causes which may lie deep in your past.\\n4-4. Respect your partner’s boundaries.\\nFor instance, do not snoop into their text messages or emails. If you are suspicious that your partner is cheating on you, confront them with your concerns directly. Don’t go behind your partner’s back to discover what they’re saying to their friends or coworkers.\\nIf they ask for alone time or don’t want to go out every time you offer them an invitation, don’t take it personally. Everyone needs alone time.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a protective boyfriend involves being considerate, thoughtful and ready to ensure the safety of your lover. Avoid being jealous and desperate and you’ll show your partner that you are capable of protecting them.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keeping Your Relationship Strong\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask your partner what they want from you.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to know what your partner expects from you, and how you can best protect them, be direct. 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Challenging the aggressor will only make them more likely to hurt your partner, or you.\\nIf the aggressor doesn’t let you leave or pursues you, call the police. Report the situation and follow their directions. Stay cognizant of the aggressor during the entire exchange, and watch for signs that they might strike. Defend yourself if necessary.\\nIf an aggressor pulls a weapon on you, do not struggle with them or attempt to wrest it from their grasp. You could end up getting your partner or another bystander hurt.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dealing With Romantic Competition\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t be jealous.\", \"描述\": \"Remember, your partner is dating you. Just because they are getting attention from other people doesn’t mean they are reciprocating the advances.\\nJealousy in small amounts is normal and demonstrates that you care about your partner.\\nIf your partner does choose someone else, take comfort in the fact that they are not the one for you. The right one for you, after all, is the one who stays committed to you. For that reason, again, there is no reason to be jealous.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Gently but firmly dismiss individuals who approach your partner.\", \"描述\": \"Politely go up to your partner and greet them. Ask them to introduce you to their “friend.” Your partner should reply something like, “He/She was just leaving.” At this point, hopefully, the would-be suitor realizes that your partner has a boyfriend and will cease their flirtation.\\nDepending on your partner's personality, they may be willing and able to shake off these people off themselves. If so, let them handle it, while keeping an eye on the situation in case the person refuses to listen to your partner.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ward off persistent creeps and perverts.\", \"描述\": \"If your partner feels ogled or is getting unwanted attention, they will rightly feel very uncomfortable. Not only is it rude and invasive, but it can make your partner feel unsafe.\\nTell your partner when you notice this happening and reassure them that you're aware of it and are prepared to say something if needed.\\nStay alert for guys or girls who make pests of themselves. Call them out on their leering if needed, politely and firmly. For instance, tell them, “Leave them alone. They don't deserve your leering.”\\nHowever, be careful to realize that if your partner is attractive, it's only natural for others to look, so learn to spot the difference between this curious and appreciative gazing and menacing leering.\\nDon't go overboard if someone just throws an appreciative glance at your partner once and then goes on their way.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Enforce your partner's boundaries.\", \"描述\": \"Pay close attention to what your partner is and isn't okay with, and ask if need be. If someone is crossing your partner's boundaries, you are the backup. You can add weight to their words with a frown, glare, or a verbal reminder that \\\"She said no.\\\"\\nYou may need to do this with creeps, but also sometimes people you trust. For example, if a friend keeps pestering your partner to talk about something she doesn't want to, you can give a small frown and say \\\"They said they don't want to talk about it. Let it drop.\\\"\\nPay close attention to your partner's boundaries with you, too. If your partner says no to something, or they don't seem comfortable, listen to their wishes. No one should do things which your partner is uncomfortable with, including you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Avoiding Overprotective Behavior\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask yourself why you’re getting overprotective.\", \"描述\": \"If your partner is not giving you enough attention, you might feel neglected. You will probably feel jealous that she is talking with others instead of you. In that case, express your concerns to your partner. Arrange a date night or special time when you can regularly be together one-on-one. This will ensure you both find enough time to spend together.\\nTry to compromise with your partner to find a comfortable amount of time you can be together each day.\\nIf you were cheated on by your partner before, you might also become overprotective as a result. Perhaps you start trying to keep an eye on him/her. However, this is unhealthy, not to mention impossible. Rebuilding trust takes time, and overprotective behavior will slow the process.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Admit your anxieties to your partner.\", \"描述\": \"For instance, you might feel worried that your partner is not attracted to you as much as they used to be. You might think your partner does not want you around anymore. If you feel these things, express them to your partner. Often, being reassured that your partner is still interested in you can alleviate your stress and reduce your need to be overprotective of him or her.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Confront your own lack of confidence.\", \"描述\": \"Low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence can lead to unhealthy attachments and overprotective behavior. Build your self-confidence each day by taking care of your appearance. Dress well and maintain good hygiene. Eat a balanced diet and get 60-90 minutes of exercise each day. In time, you will feel more comfortable with yourself and not need to be so overprotective of your partner.\\nMake three lists: one of your strengths, one of your achievements, and one of things you admire about yourself. Consult your partner and other friends about what they think belongs on each list. Refer to it regularly when feel down about yourself.\\nIf you suffer from long-term insecurity about your personal prospects, consult a psychologist. Psychologists are trained to help you work through personal problems and identify causes which may lie deep in your past.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Respect your partner’s boundaries.\", \"描述\": \"For instance, do not snoop into their text messages or emails. If you are suspicious that your partner is cheating on you, confront them with your concerns directly. Don’t go behind your partner’s back to discover what they’re saying to their friends or coworkers.\\nIf they ask for alone time or don’t want to go out every time you offer them an invitation, don’t take it personally. Everyone needs alone time.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Learn about conservatives whether you think you might agree or disagree with them.
Watch the news, read books on differing views, go on their websites. Nobody will take you seriously if you don't know the details on issues, or for whom you are voting. Be informed. Conservative conduct with good morals, lowering government spending and maintaining freedom while avoiding riotous and wild living are all conservative ideals.
1-2. Speak about and defend your decisions on issues nicely.
Find several issues you believe in, and discuss them intelligently when the conversation turns to politics.
1-3. Think about what being a conservative means to you.
Why did you choose this over other political ideals or topics? What makes your side's pro-growth economics and life issues better than the rest?
1-4. Be ready to support candidates who believe as you do.
Do you want to support the conservative words found on the money in the USA, In God We Trust, and such candidates as have pro-life beliefs? Those are not just words, but can be important concepts. They may be forgotten, opposed or taken for granted as a "slogan" or "private matters" by more liberal people, but you can seek a candidate who stands and honors your rights such as freedom of speech.
1-5. Stay unprejudiced—be fair minded.
If there is an alleged conservative scandal, don't dismiss it by saying, "Oh, they wouldn't do that!". Likewise, don't immediately assume a scandal on the opposite side is true as well. Get the facts first.
1-6. Be aware of current good news and events and the trends of legislation and court decisions that may badly affect the conservative way of life.
Some things seem like simply personal choices, but they may degrade/degenerate into no choice for the next generation (as it becomes "settled".).
1-7. Listen thoughtfully and carefully to people.
Don't get riled up listening to other speak. As American society tends to swing more to the left, so people will try to deride anything conservative while conveniently omitting the positive aspects of certain ideals. It's important to learn to defend your views intelligently. Every political system has problematic areas that need changing, but work for improvements, not lowering of standards.
1-8. Don't let other people's opinions sway your ideals.
Examine and stay true to your decisions and point of view.
1-9. Don't be afraid of improvements.
Despite the earlier steps, if you think conservatives have not improved enough for your liking, feel free to get involved; adopt other views or support and vote for your ideals.
1-10. Stand up for political or religious absolutes, tell the "Truth" and support traditional ideals, with traditional family values, with freedom from oppression by government.
In all things, you have many reasons for being a proud conservative.
Tips
The more conservative (or less socialist) party is not necessarily called the "conservative, democratic or republican" party. Don't be stuck on a party name.
Read lots of material about the better ideals of conservatism and how to maintain or improve the a way of life, the private business sector, and to save money in government while interfering less in the private sector.
Politics and religions often are not that personal to the devotees, but the options may be held in a very outgoing form, and one may want to "convert you"--instead of saying: "Leave me alone!"
Warnings
Don't get caught up in minute details (20 second sound bites) that the news is focusing on; look at the bigger picture for your whole city, county or country, not just one minor aspect.
Don't bring up politics unless you find that the other person is willing to talk about it.
Lastly, don't forget that you can still be conservative while supporting liberal views or other political views. Your dominant views or majority of your views can be conservative for you to be classified as conservative. Being conservative should not mean you encourage wrong ideas and unfair policies just because it has been that way in tradition, for instance, forcing females to be against abortion. Part of being intelligent and maintaining moral values is discarding wrong ideas that have been practiced in history and keeping right ideas. Whatever your political ideas are, always support what is right and just, which is the ultimate goal of law.
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Be ready to support candidates who believe as you do.\\nDo you want to support the conservative words found on the money in the USA, In God We Trust, and such candidates as have pro-life beliefs? Those are not just words, but can be important concepts. They may be forgotten, opposed or taken for granted as a \\\"slogan\\\" or \\\"private matters\\\" by more liberal people, but you can seek a candidate who stands and honors your rights such as freedom of speech.\\n1-5. Stay unprejudiced—be fair minded.\\nIf there is an alleged conservative scandal, don't dismiss it by saying, \\\"Oh, they wouldn't do that!\\\". Likewise, don't immediately assume a scandal on the opposite side is true as well. Get the facts first.\\n1-6. Be aware of current good news and events and the trends of legislation and court decisions that may badly affect the conservative way of life.\\nSome things seem like simply personal choices, but they may degrade/degenerate into no choice for the next generation (as it becomes \\\"settled\\\".).\\n1-7. Listen thoughtfully and carefully to people.\\nDon't get riled up listening to other speak. As American society tends to swing more to the left, so people will try to deride anything conservative while conveniently omitting the positive aspects of certain ideals. It's important to learn to defend your views intelligently. Every political system has problematic areas that need changing, but work for improvements, not lowering of standards.\\n1-8. Don't let other people's opinions sway your ideals.\\nExamine and stay true to your decisions and point of view.\\n1-9. Don't be afraid of improvements.\\nDespite the earlier steps, if you think conservatives have not improved enough for your liking, feel free to get involved; adopt other views or support and vote for your ideals.\\n1-10. Stand up for political or religious absolutes, tell the \\\"Truth\\\" and support traditional ideals, with traditional family values, with freedom from oppression by government.\\nIn all things, you have many reasons for being a proud conservative.\\nTips\\nThe more conservative (or less socialist) party is not necessarily called the \\\"conservative, democratic or republican\\\" party. Don't be stuck on a party name.\\nRead lots of material about the better ideals of conservatism and how to maintain or improve the a way of life, the private business sector, and to save money in government while interfering less in the private sector.\\nPolitics and religions often are not that personal to the devotees, but the options may be held in a very outgoing form, and one may want to \\\"convert you\\\"--instead of saying: \\\"Leave me alone!\\\"\\nWarnings\\nDon't get caught up in minute details (20 second sound bites) that the news is focusing on; look at the bigger picture for your whole city, county or country, not just one minor aspect.\\nDon't bring up politics unless you find that the other person is willing to talk about it.\\nLastly, don't forget that you can still be conservative while supporting liberal views or other political views. Your dominant views or majority of your views can be conservative for you to be classified as conservative. Being conservative should not mean you encourage wrong ideas and unfair policies just because it has been that way in tradition, for instance, forcing females to be against abortion. Part of being intelligent and maintaining moral values is discarding wrong ideas that have been practiced in history and keeping right ideas. Whatever your political ideas are, always support what is right and just, which is the ultimate goal of law.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Politics, like religion, can be influential, and often controversial -- impacting many areas of life, yet people say that discussing politics is private like some abnormality, or taboo topic. That is not logical and is not the conservative view: Go ahead and discuss politics with people who want to, but don't force people to talk politics with you if they don't want to. No matter where you reside, conservative virtues can play a large part in your outlook on life. Be happy about those things, publicly... It is involving and engaging. Be proud and passionate about your point of view.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn about conservatives whether you think you might agree or disagree with them.\", \"描述\": \"Watch the news, read books on differing views, go on their websites. Nobody will take you seriously if you don't know the details on issues, or for whom you are voting. Be informed. Conservative conduct with good morals, lowering government spending and maintaining freedom while avoiding riotous and wild living are all conservative ideals.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak about and defend your decisions on issues nicely.\", \"描述\": \"Find several issues you believe in, and discuss them intelligently when the conversation turns to politics.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Think about what being a conservative means to you.\", \"描述\": \"Why did you choose this over other political ideals or topics? 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How to Be a Proverbs 31 Wife
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1. Steps
1-1. Make your spouse's life better than it was before.
Proverbs 31:10-12 says, "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her, and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."
It is interesting that it says, "A wife of noble character who can find?" meaning that it is very rare. But if you are such a wife, you are worth far more than rubies! That is some incentive to become a wife of rare quality, yes? If you are worth far more than rubies, then you are highly prized. That is always a good thing when it comes to marriage.
Why does her spouse have confidence in her? Because she causes good, not harm; she is a good person. Her spouse knows that she won't cheat or abandon the family, because she has integrity. She will work hard, show her love, and talk about problems when they arise instead of hiding them.
Contrast this with another verse in Proverbs, "[It is] better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." (Proverbs 21:9) Don't pick fights. Bring up problems respectfully, without taking out your frustrations on your spouse. Obviously, if you try to fight with your partner all the time, that would cause harm and not good. So seek to address problems respectfully and constructively.
1-2. Take good care of your family.
Proverbs 31:13-15 says, "She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants."
The modern equivalent would mean working hard on whatever your job for the family is. Depending on the division of labor in your family, you may have a career and/or chores at home. Stay on top of your responsibilities. Don't let work pile up. Ask for help if you need it.
It is interesting that it says, "She gets up while it is still night." This is a reality for any mother with small children already, but the idea is to selflessly help your family as much as you can. Do what you can to meet the needs of your family, especially any children who can't care for themselves yet. Of course, you still need to make sure you're getting enough rest; you're not helpful to anyone if you're physically or emotionally exhausted.
Talk to your spouse about what to do if you feel overwhelmed by your responsibilities. You may need to re-allocate the work, or even hire help with cooking and cleaning. Problem solve together on how you can ensure that the work gets done without exhausting anyone.
1-3. Be wise with your money.
Proverbs 31:16 says, "She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard." Make great decisions when it comes to what you purchase. In our modern day, don't get fooled by advertisers who want to sell you anything and everything. Consider what you buy before you buy it, in everything. Be a good steward with your money and what you choose to buy.
You may not literally plant a vineyard, but you can make money in other ways. Write, make jewelry, tutor, or find another way to make extra money if you can. You can also learn about the stock market and buy some index funds for long-term gain.
There is a comical quote that says, "Lucky is the man who can make more than his wife spends." But seriously, don't overspend. Divorce is often caused by arguments over money. Think before you spend. Big purchases should only be made if both spouses agree.
Verse 27 says she "does not eat the bread of idleness." Don't waste your time and be idle, doing nothing. There are plenty of jobs that you can do from home, if you are a stay at home mom, such as telemarketing, sewing, writing, and graphic design. You could even make a little extra income by selling stuff you no longer need or want (like toys your kids have outgrown, books and DVDs you've already read, electronics you've replaced, etc.) on eBay. Try to make good use of your time and be productive.
1-4. Be a hard worker.
Proverbs 31:17 says, "She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks." Find things to do to help your family. The Bible says, "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters." (Colossians 3:23) You are working to serve your spouse and children, but primarily you are working to serve God. You may think at times that your family doesn't deserve your hard work, but you are not working for them, per se; you are working for God. Serve God by serving the needy and your family and children, teaching them to serve others.
Some say that motherhood is the most thankless job because you never get a promotion or public recognition. You just do all your tasks humbly and quietly. This is why some women get frustrated about the work they have to do. Always remember, you are working unto God. God will reward you for what you do, don't worry.
Jesus said in Matthew 6:19, "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal." There may not be many rewards in this life, but you are building treasures in heaven with everything you do for your family.
1 Cor. 3:14-15 says, "If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss but yet will be saved—even though only as one escaping through the flames." Whatever we build on the foundation of Jesus in our lives is what we will be rewarded for in heaven, even if it doesn't last. Every selfless deed, every act of love, we will be rewarded for in heaven someday.
Of course, knowing that God will reward you doesn't mean you should suffer in silence. It's okay to say "Sometimes I feel unappreciated" or "I get overwhelmed at times and I need more help around the house." Be assertive if things aren't going well.
1-5. Be a generous and kind person.
Proverbs 31:21 says, "She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy." Find ways to help others in your everyday life. Do it regardless of whether other people can see.
Try donating money and old clothes to charity.
Try volunteering at a food kitchen, tutoring center for disadvantaged students, homeless shelter, animal shelter, hospital, or other place dedicated to helping people in need.
Avoid judging people who are in bad situations, even if they made mistakes. Instead, ask them how you can help.
Vote mindfully. Never vote for politicians who would disenfranchise the oppressed.
1-6. Dress well, without worrying too much about it.
Verse 22 does say, "She is clothed in fine linen and purple." So this Proverbs 31 woman is well dressed. But keep in mind verse 30, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." The most important thing to keep attractive is your heart. Beauty is fleeting. Everyone ages, but you will have your heart and your character as long as you are alive. Work on cultivating your inner beauty more than your physical beauty.
1-7. Speak respectfully of your spouse.
Verse 23 says, "Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land." Don't gossip about your spouse and insult their character. Speak in such a way about him to others so that others will respect him.
Know the difference between gossiping and asking for advice. Criticizing your spouse is bad. Confidentially asking for help solving a marital issue can be all right. There is a big difference between saying "My husband is so selfish" and "How do I approach my husband about my frustration with this issue?"
Of course, this does not apply if you have an abusive spouse. Do not lie to protect the reputation of a cruel man. Tell other people what is happening, and ask them to help you. Your safety, and the safety of your children (if you have any) comes first.
1-8. Be a confident woman.
Verse 25 says, "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come." Believe in your own strength and abilities. Trust that God has your future in the palm of his hand, then you can "laugh at the days to come." Be a woman of faith, not fear.
1-9. Be wise and give advice where needed.
Verse 26 says, "She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue." In order to teach your children, seek to grow in wisdom. Read books. Listen to sermons. Read the Bible as much as you can. Pray for wisdom.
When someone is upset, validate their feelings and listen closely to their sorrows. This can make them feel much better.
1-10. Expect respect from your children and spouse.
Verse 28 and 29 say, "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.' " Treat them with respect, and expect them to do the same to you. Each one of you was created by God, and each one of you deserves to be treated with basic dignity.
If they call you names or disrespect you, nip it in the bud. Say "You may not talk to me that way" or "I'm leaving. Come back when you can speak to me respectfully."
People tend to show respect for people who show respect from them. Treat your family respectfully, without losing control of your temper or calling names. (Take a break if necessary.) Avoid harsh punishments, and discipline fairly and compassionately.
1-11. Do not take on more than you can handle.
Although God will help you, God helps those who help themselves. If you take on what you know you can't handle, God may not help you with that. This could be having children when you know you can't provide for them, or don't want them (which would mean it would take an emotional toll on you greater than you can handle), taking on a greater workload than you can take, etc.
Say how you feel. It's okay to say "I'm overwhelmed" or "I've taken on more than I can handle." Reach out to others for assistance and advice.
Tips
Listen to what God says about how to be a woman, mother and wife rather than what the world says.
Women in the Jewish faith also try to aspire to live up the ideal of Proverbs 31, only they refer to it as being "a Woman of Valour."
Solomon's inspiration for the Good Wife was his own mother, Bath Sheba.
Warnings
Don't overwork yourself in your role as a mother or wife. Learn to take care of yourself too, because you can't take care of others well, unless you also take care of yourself.
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She will work hard, show her love, and talk about problems when they arise instead of hiding them.\\nContrast this with another verse in Proverbs, \\\"[It is] better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.\\\" (Proverbs 21:9) Don't pick fights. Bring up problems respectfully, without taking out your frustrations on your spouse. Obviously, if you try to fight with your partner all the time, that would cause harm and not good. So seek to address problems respectfully and constructively.\\n1-2. Take good care of your family.\\nProverbs 31:13-15 says, \\\"She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.\\\"\\nThe modern equivalent would mean working hard on whatever your job for the family is. Depending on the division of labor in your family, you may have a career and/or chores at home. Stay on top of your responsibilities. Don't let work pile up. Ask for help if you need it.\\nIt is interesting that it says, \\\"She gets up while it is still night.\\\" This is a reality for any mother with small children already, but the idea is to selflessly help your family as much as you can. Do what you can to meet the needs of your family, especially any children who can't care for themselves yet. Of course, you still need to make sure you're getting enough rest; you're not helpful to anyone if you're physically or emotionally exhausted.\\nTalk to your spouse about what to do if you feel overwhelmed by your responsibilities. You may need to re-allocate the work, or even hire help with cooking and cleaning. Problem solve together on how you can ensure that the work gets done without exhausting anyone.\\n1-3. Be wise with your money.\\nProverbs 31:16 says, \\\"She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.\\\" Make great decisions when it comes to what you purchase. In our modern day, don't get fooled by advertisers who want to sell you anything and everything. Consider what you buy before you buy it, in everything. Be a good steward with your money and what you choose to buy.\\nYou may not literally plant a vineyard, but you can make money in other ways. Write, make jewelry, tutor, or find another way to make extra money if you can. You can also learn about the stock market and buy some index funds for long-term gain.\\nThere is a comical quote that says, \\\"Lucky is the man who can make more than his wife spends.\\\" But seriously, don't overspend. Divorce is often caused by arguments over money. Think before you spend. Big purchases should only be made if both spouses agree.\\nVerse 27 says she \\\"does not eat the bread of idleness.\\\" Don't waste your time and be idle, doing nothing. There are plenty of jobs that you can do from home, if you are a stay at home mom, such as telemarketing, sewing, writing, and graphic design. You could even make a little extra income by selling stuff you no longer need or want (like toys your kids have outgrown, books and DVDs you've already read, electronics you've replaced, etc.) on eBay. Try to make good use of your time and be productive.\\n1-4. Be a hard worker.\\nProverbs 31:17 says, \\\"She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.\\\" Find things to do to help your family. The Bible says, \\\"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.\\\" (Colossians 3:23) You are working to serve your spouse and children, but primarily you are working to serve God. You may think at times that your family doesn't deserve your hard work, but you are not working for them, per se; you are working for God. Serve God by serving the needy and your family and children, teaching them to serve others.\\nSome say that motherhood is the most thankless job because you never get a promotion or public recognition. You just do all your tasks humbly and quietly. This is why some women get frustrated about the work they have to do. Always remember, you are working unto God. God will reward you for what you do, don't worry.\\nJesus said in Matthew 6:19, \\\"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.\\\" There may not be many rewards in this life, but you are building treasures in heaven with everything you do for your family.\\n1 Cor. 3:14-15 says, \\\"If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss but yet will be saved—even though only as one escaping through the flames.\\\" Whatever we build on the foundation of Jesus in our lives is what we will be rewarded for in heaven, even if it doesn't last. Every selfless deed, every act of love, we will be rewarded for in heaven someday.\\nOf course, knowing that God will reward you doesn't mean you should suffer in silence. It's okay to say \\\"Sometimes I feel unappreciated\\\" or \\\"I get overwhelmed at times and I need more help around the house.\\\" Be assertive if things aren't going well.\\n1-5. Be a generous and kind person.\\nProverbs 31:21 says, \\\"She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.\\\" Find ways to help others in your everyday life. Do it regardless of whether other people can see. \\nTry donating money and old clothes to charity.\\nTry volunteering at a food kitchen, tutoring center for disadvantaged students, homeless shelter, animal shelter, hospital, or other place dedicated to helping people in need.\\nAvoid judging people who are in bad situations, even if they made mistakes. Instead, ask them how you can help.\\nVote mindfully. Never vote for politicians who would disenfranchise the oppressed.\\n1-6. Dress well, without worrying too much about it.\\nVerse 22 does say, \\\"She is clothed in fine linen and purple.\\\" So this Proverbs 31 woman is well dressed. But keep in mind verse 30, \\\"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.\\\" The most important thing to keep attractive is your heart. Beauty is fleeting. Everyone ages, but you will have your heart and your character as long as you are alive. Work on cultivating your inner beauty more than your physical beauty.\\n1-7. Speak respectfully of your spouse.\\nVerse 23 says, \\\"Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.\\\" Don't gossip about your spouse and insult their character. Speak in such a way about him to others so that others will respect him. \\nKnow the difference between gossiping and asking for advice. Criticizing your spouse is bad. Confidentially asking for help solving a marital issue can be all right. There is a big difference between saying \\\"My husband is so selfish\\\" and \\\"How do I approach my husband about my frustration with this issue?\\\"\\nOf course, this does not apply if you have an abusive spouse. Do not lie to protect the reputation of a cruel man. Tell other people what is happening, and ask them to help you. Your safety, and the safety of your children (if you have any) comes first.\\n1-8. Be a confident woman.\\nVerse 25 says, \\\"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.\\\" Believe in your own strength and abilities. Trust that God has your future in the palm of his hand, then you can \\\"laugh at the days to come.\\\" Be a woman of faith, not fear.\\n1-9. Be wise and give advice where needed.\\nVerse 26 says, \\\"She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.\\\" In order to teach your children, seek to grow in wisdom. Read books. Listen to sermons. Read the Bible as much as you can. Pray for wisdom.\\nWhen someone is upset, validate their feelings and listen closely to their sorrows. This can make them feel much better.\\n1-10. Expect respect from your children and spouse.\\nVerse 28 and 29 say, \\\"Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.' \\\" Treat them with respect, and expect them to do the same to you. Each one of you was created by God, and each one of you deserves to be treated with basic dignity. \\nIf they call you names or disrespect you, nip it in the bud. Say \\\"You may not talk to me that way\\\" or \\\"I'm leaving. Come back when you can speak to me respectfully.\\\"\\nPeople tend to show respect for people who show respect from them. Treat your family respectfully, without losing control of your temper or calling names. (Take a break if necessary.) Avoid harsh punishments, and discipline fairly and compassionately.\\n1-11. Do not take on more than you can handle.\\nAlthough God will help you, God helps those who help themselves. If you take on what you know you can't handle, God may not help you with that. This could be having children when you know you can't provide for them, or don't want them (which would mean it would take an emotional toll on you greater than you can handle), taking on a greater workload than you can take, etc. \\nSay how you feel. It's okay to say \\\"I'm overwhelmed\\\" or \\\"I've taken on more than I can handle.\\\" Reach out to others for assistance and advice.\\nTips\\nListen to what God says about how to be a woman, mother and wife rather than what the world says.\\nWomen in the Jewish faith also try to aspire to live up the ideal of Proverbs 31, only they refer to it as being \\\"a Woman of Valour.\\\"\\nSolomon's inspiration for the Good Wife was his own mother, Bath Sheba.\\nWarnings\\nDon't overwork yourself in your role as a mother or wife. Learn to take care of yourself too, because you can't take care of others well, unless you also take care of yourself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The Bible has a few passages that advise wives on how be a great wife. The most famous one is Proverbs 31. Here are some tips from this passage on how to be a wonderful wife and mother.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make your spouse's life better than it was before.\", \"描述\": \"Proverbs 31:10-12 says, \\\"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her, and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.\\\"\\nIt is interesting that it says, \\\"A wife of noble character who can find?\\\" meaning that it is very rare. But if you are such a wife, you are worth far more than rubies! That is some incentive to become a wife of rare quality, yes? If you are worth far more than rubies, then you are highly prized. That is always a good thing when it comes to marriage.\\nWhy does her spouse have confidence in her? Because she causes good, not harm; she is a good person. Her spouse knows that she won't cheat or abandon the family, because she has integrity. She will work hard, show her love, and talk about problems when they arise instead of hiding them.\\nContrast this with another verse in Proverbs, \\\"[It is] better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.\\\" (Proverbs 21:9) Don't pick fights. Bring up problems respectfully, without taking out your frustrations on your spouse. Obviously, if you try to fight with your partner all the time, that would cause harm and not good. So seek to address problems respectfully and constructively.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take good care of your family.\", \"描述\": \"Proverbs 31:13-15 says, \\\"She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.\\\"\\nThe modern equivalent would mean working hard on whatever your job for the family is. Depending on the division of labor in your family, you may have a career and/or chores at home. Stay on top of your responsibilities. Don't let work pile up. Ask for help if you need it.\\nIt is interesting that it says, \\\"She gets up while it is still night.\\\" This is a reality for any mother with small children already, but the idea is to selflessly help your family as much as you can. Do what you can to meet the needs of your family, especially any children who can't care for themselves yet. Of course, you still need to make sure you're getting enough rest; you're not helpful to anyone if you're physically or emotionally exhausted.\\nTalk to your spouse about what to do if you feel overwhelmed by your responsibilities. You may need to re-allocate the work, or even hire help with cooking and cleaning. Problem solve together on how you can ensure that the work gets done without exhausting anyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be wise with your money.\", \"描述\": \"Proverbs 31:16 says, \\\"She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.\\\" Make great decisions when it comes to what you purchase. In our modern day, don't get fooled by advertisers who want to sell you anything and everything. Consider what you buy before you buy it, in everything. Be a good steward with your money and what you choose to buy.\\nYou may not literally plant a vineyard, but you can make money in other ways. Write, make jewelry, tutor, or find another way to make extra money if you can. You can also learn about the stock market and buy some index funds for long-term gain.\\nThere is a comical quote that says, \\\"Lucky is the man who can make more than his wife spends.\\\" But seriously, don't overspend. Divorce is often caused by arguments over money. Think before you spend. Big purchases should only be made if both spouses agree.\\nVerse 27 says she \\\"does not eat the bread of idleness.\\\" Don't waste your time and be idle, doing nothing. There are plenty of jobs that you can do from home, if you are a stay at home mom, such as telemarketing, sewing, writing, and graphic design. You could even make a little extra income by selling stuff you no longer need or want (like toys your kids have outgrown, books and DVDs you've already read, electronics you've replaced, etc.) on eBay. 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God will reward you for what you do, don't worry.\\nJesus said in Matthew 6:19, \\\"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.\\\" There may not be many rewards in this life, but you are building treasures in heaven with everything you do for your family.\\n1 Cor. 3:14-15 says, \\\"If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss but yet will be saved—even though only as one escaping through the flames.\\\" Whatever we build on the foundation of Jesus in our lives is what we will be rewarded for in heaven, even if it doesn't last. Every selfless deed, every act of love, we will be rewarded for in heaven someday.\\nOf course, knowing that God will reward you doesn't mean you should suffer in silence. It's okay to say \\\"Sometimes I feel unappreciated\\\" or \\\"I get overwhelmed at times and I need more help around the house.\\\" Be assertive if things aren't going well.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be a generous and kind person.\", \"描述\": \"Proverbs 31:21 says, \\\"She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.\\\" Find ways to help others in your everyday life. Do it regardless of whether other people can see. \\nTry donating money and old clothes to charity.\\nTry volunteering at a food kitchen, tutoring center for disadvantaged students, homeless shelter, animal shelter, hospital, or other place dedicated to helping people in need.\\nAvoid judging people who are in bad situations, even if they made mistakes. Instead, ask them how you can help.\\nVote mindfully. 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1. Understanding the Lifestyle
1-1. Have the state of mind.
Punk means to not care what other people say when it comes to pop culture. Punks encourage standing out from the crowd. . It's based off music and "do it yourself" attitudes. It's associated with rebellion and anti-establishment.
Read up on classic punk topics like resisting tyranny, DIY, rebellion, anti-authoritarianism anarchism and violence. The more you know, the more easily you'll be able to express yourself.
Find interesting ways to express what you know and why you think it's important. There is a difference between complaining about authority figures and being against the structure that allows for authority in the first place.
Talk to like-minded people and different-minded people. You need to talk to both to really get comfortable with your own perspective. Also, if you're only talking to like-minded people, how will you deliver your radical message to those that need it most?
1-2. Find your scene.
Get to know other people who have the same beliefs. This way you'll feel comfortable exploring your punk side without judgement or conflict from squares.
Go to some punk concerts. Some venues put up posters - check your local telephone poles.
If you have an Instagram account, set it up with a punk or heavy metal theme. That way you can get more friends who are punks, even if you don't know them.
Be unapologetically you. If you're autistic, stim in public. If you're LGBT, wear your colors loudly and proudly.
Choose a punk music scene. It doesn't matter what music they do. Either punk rock, hardcore punk, or Oi!
Choose a regional punk scene you're affiliated with, such as The Detroit Scene, The California punk scene or the Boston music scene.
Figure out where punks in your area meet, be it a specific corner or landmark. Punks usually don't meet at establishments unless it's for the sake of music - they try to use public space as much as possible.
If all else fails, ask another punk on the street when the next gig is.
Don't be afraid to admit that you're new to all of this. Everyone was new once, and they will probably understand. If you are friendly, people will like you whether or not you know every punk band on earth and have all the typical clothes.
Join a punk online community. Here, you can meet other punks worldwide, trade MP3s, find shows or discover new bands.
If you choose your favorite regional scene, you have do some research.
1-3. Avoid consumerism.
Punks are very resourceful. Find new ways to enjoy yourself without giving your money to big corporations.
Enjoy the outdoors, be it hiking a mountain or enjoying the park with your friends.
Make or join a community garden. You can grow vegetables and cool plants and you won't have to buy them from any establishments
Learn to cook. Not only is it an enjoyable way to spend your time but it also saves money - more for you, less for the establishment. Negative Approach vocalist John Brannon doesn't only earn his music career, but he got another job as a chef.
Find free events through friends, the websites of venues you like or using local event forums.
Get crafty. For each item you craft, you haven't supported a store that sells a similar manufactured version.
Visit the mall or a big-box store only when necessity demands it. Even things like furniture can be found for free with sites like craigslist.org and freecycle.org. If you must buy something, try to find it used first. It'll be cheaper for you and a little more anti-establishment.
2. Focusing on Outward Appearances
2-1. Express your attitude through your clothing.
Punk clothing is iconic because it captures a unique sense of rebellion and individualism. Let that anti-establishment attitude show in your outfits.
Punks are known for being unique - don't let yourself worry that you don't look like punk. Wear what you want, make sure its relatively alternative, and you'll fit in with any punk crowd.
Make your own clothes if possible. Invest in a sewing machine. This way you can create truly unique looks without supporting the establishment.
DIY (do it yourself). A lot of punk clothing has a DIY look to it. For a punk, it's always better to remake something old than support consumerism and buy something new.
2-2. Start out with some punk staples.
If you're at a loss on how to build a punk wardrobe, here are some items to consider:
Skinny jeans or cargo jeans
Black leather jackets or denim vests
Studded or spiked clothing and bracelets
Safety pins
Pin-on buttons (side note: use tape if you put them on backpacks, or they may fall off)
Mostly black clothes
Tartan, camouflage, animal print and blood stains.
Ripped clothing held together with safety pins
Band T-shirts
Punk band patches
Black shirts
Spiky hair, Mohawks or dyed hair
Leather (or pleather) jackets with band patches, safety pins, or painted-on details such as an anarchy symbol.
Bondage pants, or pants with added embellishments such as zippers going up the back of the legs, chains, metal rings, or other add-ons.
Bullet belts
Fishnets
Classic accessories can include arm warmers, studded belts, bullet belts, and wristbands with pyramid studs, stars or spikes.
2-3. Customize some of the shirts or jackets you buy.
This is similar to remaking, but with an eye for little touches that express your unique viewpoints. Maybe by cutting off the sleeves, sewing political patches on, or just cutting the neckline, or back differently – these are all things that the traditional person wouldn't dare try - especially not for aesthetic effect.
Rip or cut out a section of clothing, and replace it with a row of safety pins holding the fabric together, or expose your layers.
Stencil band names or symbols onto your clothes yourself.
Sew some patches on your jacket.
Distress your own denim. Use scissors or an x-acto knife to make cuts, or run sandpaper over the fabric to make it look worn out.
Strategically drip bleach onto jeans or T-shirts to make interesting patterns, or make them look more worn-in.
2-4. Find punk footwear.
Consider that you may be walking more given your punk lifestyle, since its pretty common that punks ditch private transport whenever possible. You need a sturdy, long lasting pair of shoes, or two, but you need to obtain them in an a-traditional way.
Boots - for men and women. Boots are often dark and are usually the best choice: they last a long time, you can find them on the cheap and the aesthetic works with the rest of your clothes.
Stay away from shoe brands. Because commercialism and materialism are frowned upon by punks, a lot of them choose to buy boots from the army surplus store.
Common punk shoes include black boots, Dr. Martens, Converse and some skate shoes like Draven and T.U.Ks. Note that because these are owned by corporations, some punks refuse to buy from them despite the aesthetic and you may run into people who disagree with your shoe choice.
Thrift stores are a good place to buy cheap shoes and boots, and then you don't have to think about whether your money is going to a multinational corporation.
2-5. Get the hairstyle.
Spike it up, or even put it in a mohawk. You can also dye it.
Both males and females can sport a mohawk, and (though a primarily 'guy' hairstyle) some girls can pull off a Devilock nicely. Research the different kinds and think about what best expresses you. You might want a fanned Mohawk, Bihawk, Trihawk, "bitch" handles, or even liberty spikes.
If you're worried about fitting into a conservative work situation, there's always the "Fauxhawk" (a wider strip of stand up hair that can be combed down to hide the shaved sides of your head). Be warned, though, his style is sometimes frowned upon by other punks since the look can adapt to the mainstream world so well.
Although it is most common for punks to have hair no longer than chin length, long hair is acceptable if you want to be a punk. Remember: It's about breaking away from expectations and "The Norm"
Having random things - such as beads, ribbons and ties - in your hair also makes you stand out if that's what you're going for.
There has also been a variety of 80s haircuts and even dreadlocks that have made appearances in punk subculture. Dreadlocks are often frowned upon by punks if they are on a white person because this can be considered cultural appropriation. Racism is NOT Punk.
Consider dying your hair. You could go jet black, platinum blonde, bright red, or some unnatural color like green or blue. Whatever you choose, be prepared to stick with it for a while (or try a temporary dye first).
If you don't want to hassle with complicated hairstyles, shave your head. This is a huge message to others: you don't need to do what others do! A shaved head has always been a classic punk look, and can be used for both men and women.
2-6. Get some piercings and tattoos.
Body modification is another outlet that punks use to identify themselves.
You will see many punks with their ears gauged with rings, often to quite large sizes.
Septum and lip piercings can be used for any gender.
With tattoos, you will see a wide variety of images. A lot of punks sport their favorite band logos, or have spiderwebs on their elbows (please be aware that in the UK at least, spiderwebs on the elbow signify that you have been in prison). Straightedge punks sometimes have X's on each fist. Old-school-style tattoos (Sailor Jerry, for example) are also very popular, especially for chest pieces and sleeves.
Just remember whatever tattoo you choose, it will be there forever! Make sure that you choose something that reflects your personality, not just a current band that you like!
2-7. Be patient with your style.
Many people will tell you to avoid going from preppy to punk in one step, or that it's best if you ease into being punk or you may appear like a poser. This is kind of true, but there is no way to go from not punk to punk overnight. You can't buy knowledge of punk music and you can't get an entire punk wardrobe without searching hard. Go to shows, introduce yourself to other punks, and gradually your style will develop from there.
3. Enjoying Punk Music
3-1. Go to punk shows to see bands live whenever you can.
It is a large part of being a punk. The energy is amazing. You do not have to get in the mosh pit but it is fun to watch. Play safe and have fun. Get to know your local scene, you will probably see the same people and bands at shows over time.
3-2. Familiarize yourself with the music, new and old.
There are many different types of Punk music, and it is important to remember that not every punk listens to every band here. A lot of Punks focus on one era of this music genre as the style of music has radically changed over time. This is a list of each era of Punk music, and some bands that influenced it.
3-3. Try some of the genres of punk:
Punk rock - Overall, it is loud hard rock music with electric guitars playing power chords, energetic drum beats, heavy bass and began in the movement of rebellion, DIY and anti-establishment. Normal punk rock: Ramones, the Clash, Sex Pistols, The Rezillos, Green Day (mostly old), Alkaline Trio, Rancid and Against Me!.
Anarcho-Punk - Punk rock that promotes Anarchism. Bands that are influenced are Rudimentary Peni, Anti-Flag, Against All Authority, Code 13, The Mob, Political Asylum and the Bus Station Loonies
Modern punk - Against Me!, 4th Curtis, Gallows, Dropkick Murphys, Title Fight, etc.
Celtic punk - Punk with some Irish instruments. E.g.: Dropkick Murphys, Flogging Molly, the Briggs
Hardcore punk (or hardcore): Faster and more harder punk with vocals usually lacking melody. E.g.: Black Flag, Minor Threat, Negative Approach, Necros, The Meatmen, Bad Brains, Gallows, Poison Idea, Suicidal Tendencies (although they are mostly crossover thrash), AFI (early), Conflict, Rise Against, Agnostic Front, Kill Your Idols, etc.
Punk Blues - A subgenre of Garage Rock and Punk Rock. Using acoustic guitars and percussions and harmonicas along with electric guitars, bass, and drums. Bands are Laughing Hyenas, Soledad Brothers, Knoxville Girls, Mule and Pussy Galore.
Beatdown hardcore (or moshcore/beatdown/youth crew/tough guy hardcore) - Hardcore punk made heavier with some more intense, shouted vocals and low-chugging breakdowns. Often traditional metalcore bands (Hatebreed, Converge, I Am War, Earth Crisis, Unit 731, Bury Your Dead) get called hardcore. Metalcore is much heavier than tough guy hardcore and has elements of metal in it. Beatdown bands: Madball, Agnostic Front (later), Youth of Today, Death Before Dishonor, etc. Bands of the genre who have played also metalcore include Terror, Vision of Disorder and Stick to Your Guns.
Oi! - Often misconceived as a racist genre, it isn't. Oi! is far from racism.That is Rock Against Communism. Oi! is a punk genre in the scene of punks and skinheads (not racist ones) that were simple, pub-friendly, treble guitar-based and had some blues-influence. E.g.: Cockney Rejects, Sham 69, Skrewdriver (first album; before racism), 4-Skins, the Business, The Exploited, UK Subs, etc.
Crust punk - Fast, insane and metal-influenced punk rock, born in the 1980s in England. Bands are Amebix and Electro Hippies. Often bands wore all black, wore black leather and denim, slogans, patches and dreadlocks.
Thrashcore - Fast, insane and blast beats-filled hardcore began in the early 1980s. Bands include DRI, Raw Power and Electro Hippies.
D-beat - Heavy metal influenced hardcore with some metal traits but still pure hardcore. The genre was played by bands like Discharge. The drumming was also extremely aggressive.
Queercore - Hardcore punk that supported gay people and gay rights - Bands include the Dicks and Big Boys.
Street punk - Began in the UK82 era (1980s) of punk. It is a hardcore punk style that had catchy choruses, chants, lyrics usually on anti-establishment/rebellion/politics/etc, short guitar solos and usually had bands who wore black leather jackets and clothes, denim vests, lots of studs and patches, skinny or tight jeans, plaid pants, black combat boots and multi-colored mohawks. Bands include The Exploited, the Casualties, Clit 45, GBH, Cheap Sex, the Virus, Street Dogs, etc.
Powerviolence - Most of it is punk. It often has influences from hardcore, crust, thrashcore and grindcore. It is usually extremely chaotic thrashcore with shouting and screaming and usually really short songs. Bands include Iron Lung and Spazz.
Ska punk - Punk with some ska influences - E.g.: Rancid, Against All Authority, Operation Ivy and Banda Bassotti
Skate punk - Fast punk rock with lots of guitar riffs, sometimes solos, singing and a raw tone. It is enjoyed by punks and skaters. Bands include MxPx, NoFX, Blink-182 (1992-1997; before Travis joined), Bone Brigade, Guttermouth, Pennywise and was pioneered by Suicidal Tendencies. Bands also often have comedy lyrics.
Melodic hardcore - Like hardcore punk, but has melodic vocals and instrumentation. Bands include Rise Against,Bad Religion, and The Descendants.
Horror punk - A goth-punk style with a dark sound and horror-themed lyrics. Bands sometimes are seen wearing black, big and shock-stylized makeup, all black, leather, studs, and the hair put into devilocks (not to be confused with emo hair). E.g.: Misfits, Balzac, AFI (1998-2000), Murderdolls, etc.
Deathrock - Some type of goth-punk music which is extremely dark, atmospheric and has haunting or gloomy lyrics and themes. Bands include Christian Death and Alien Sex Fiend.
Post-punk - Punk, but more complex, introverted and experimental. Bands include Joy Division, the Clash, The Cure (early) Siouxsie & the Banshees, L-Seven and Easy Action (one with John Brannon).
3-4. Acknowledge derivatives of punk or fusion genres.
They aren't punk, but stem from it. A lot of people call it punk while some argue that they aren't.
Emo - A type of music derived from punk/alternative with melody and emotional lyrics. Originally it was short for emotive hardcore, and was influenced by hardcore punk and post-hardcore. It later got reinvented for a non-punk sound and for an alternative/indie/poppy sound. At first it was bands like Rites of Spring, The Hated and Embrace. Later, it became Jawbreaker, Sunny Day Real Estate, Jimmy Eat World, the Get Up Kids, American Football and Drive Like Jehu. Now, it is bands like Senses Fail, My Chemical Romance, From First to Last, Snowing, Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, Thursday, Paramore,Saves the Day,Modern Baseball,Dashboard Confessional and the Used.
Screamo - A subgenre of emo, only harsher and has some screams in it. At first it was bands like Pg 99, I Hate Myself, Orchid (not the metal band) and Saetia. Now it is bands like I Would Set Myself on Fire for You, Underoath, Thursday and Alexisonfire.
Pop punk - A loud pop rock style with power chords and punk influences. It has catchy choruses, pop melodies, happy melodies, usually teenage-tinged lyrics and was influenced by bands like Descendants, Green Day, Ramones, Screeching Weasel, The Offspring and Bad Religion. Bands include Sum 41, Blink-182, Good Charlotte,All,Neckdeep, Lit, Jimmy Eat World, Man Overboard, New Found Glory, Yellowcard, Motion City Soundtrack, Millencolin, and Fall Out Boy.
Rapcore - An interesting genre that fuses hip hop and hardcore punk, often considered a subgenre of rap rock or nu metal. Bands mainly include Zebrahead, Rage Against the Machine, and Biohazard (though they are mostly a heavy metal band).
Folk Punk - A sweet combination of folk and punk, often using more acoustic instruments ( violins, harmonicas, trumpets, upright bass). Not always as fast-paced as a lot of punk genres, and has more of a saddened tone to the lyrics. The Pogues popularized the genre in the late 80's but even still it is viewed as an underground sub-genre. Some great groups include, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Wingnut Dishwasher's Union, Johnny Hobo and The Freight Trains, Ramshackle Glory, Mantits, Neutral Milk Hotel and Charles Manson.
Nu Metal - Heavy metal style with either screaming, singing or rapping vocals. Bands who are in involved are Slipknot (early), Korn, and Molotov (although they do rap metal)
4. Finding More Information
4-1. Ready yourself for a punk hairstyle?
4-2. Don a punk style as a girl.
4-3. Take your punk look to Prom.
4-4. Try steampunk style.
4-5. Start making your own punk music.
4-6. Punk out your wardrobe.
5.
Learn bands geared towards punk.
Alkaline Trio
Ramones
Action Swingers
Sex Pistols
The Clash
Blondie
Minor Threat
4th Curtis
Satan's Rats
Rancid
Green Day
Against All Authority!
Anti-Nowhere League
Bad Brains
Negative Approach
Necros
Laughing Hyenas
The Rezillos
Gorilla Biscuits
Crass
The Exploited
AFI
Oxymoron
Fugazi
GBH
Guttermouth
The Offspring
Blink-182 (every thing before the self-titled album)
Siouxsie and the Banshees
45 Grave
Killing Joke
Joy Division
The Casualties
Clit 45
Anti-Flag
Black Flag
Gallows
Title Fight
MxPx
Bone Brigade
The Runaways
Dead Kennedys
Street Dogs
Bad Religion
Rise Against
NoFX
Social Distortion
Aiden
Murderdolls
The Creepshow
Calabrese
The Misfits
Samhain
Scream
Gray Matter
The Descendants
Screeching Weasel
Teenage Bottlerocket
Dropkick Murphys
Hot Water Music
Discharge
DRI
Suicidal Tendencies
Balzac
The Vandals
Skrewdriver
Against Me!
The 4-Skins
The Business
Cockney Rejects
Conflict
UK Subs
Blitz
Anti-Heroes
Blood on Blood
Agnostic Front
Madball
Comeback Kid
Death Before Dishonor
Terror
Antidote
Youth of Today
The Queers
The Dicks
Jawbreaker
Buzzcocks
Millencolin
Pennywise
Cock Sparrer
The Partisans
Sham 69
Cro-mags
Beastie Boys ( a few EPs before rap).
Chaos UK
Flogging Molly
Operation Ivy
The Damned
Blanks 77
Less Than Jake
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Understanding the Lifestyle\\n1-1. Have the state of mind.\\nPunk means to not care what other people say when it comes to pop culture. Punks encourage standing out from the crowd. . It's based off music and \\\"do it yourself\\\" attitudes. It's associated with rebellion and anti-establishment.\\nRead up on classic punk topics like resisting tyranny, DIY, rebellion, anti-authoritarianism anarchism and violence. The more you know, the more easily you'll be able to express yourself.\\nFind interesting ways to express what you know and why you think it's important. There is a difference between complaining about authority figures and being against the structure that allows for authority in the first place.\\nTalk to like-minded people and different-minded people. You need to talk to both to really get comfortable with your own perspective. Also, if you're only talking to like-minded people, how will you deliver your radical message to those that need it most?\\n1-2. Find your scene.\\nGet to know other people who have the same beliefs. This way you'll feel comfortable exploring your punk side without judgement or conflict from squares.\\nGo to some punk concerts. Some venues put up posters - check your local telephone poles.\\nIf you have an Instagram account, set it up with a punk or heavy metal theme. That way you can get more friends who are punks, even if you don't know them.\\nBe unapologetically you. If you're autistic, stim in public. If you're LGBT, wear your colors loudly and proudly.\\nChoose a punk music scene. It doesn't matter what music they do. Either punk rock, hardcore punk, or Oi!\\nChoose a regional punk scene you're affiliated with, such as The Detroit Scene, The California punk scene or the Boston music scene.\\nFigure out where punks in your area meet, be it a specific corner or landmark. Punks usually don't meet at establishments unless it's for the sake of music - they try to use public space as much as possible.\\nIf all else fails, ask another punk on the street when the next gig is.\\nDon't be afraid to admit that you're new to all of this. Everyone was new once, and they will probably understand. If you are friendly, people will like you whether or not you know every punk band on earth and have all the typical clothes.\\nJoin a punk online community. Here, you can meet other punks worldwide, trade MP3s, find shows or discover new bands.\\nIf you choose your favorite regional scene, you have do some research.\\n1-3. Avoid consumerism.\\nPunks are very resourceful. Find new ways to enjoy yourself without giving your money to big corporations.\\nEnjoy the outdoors, be it hiking a mountain or enjoying the park with your friends.\\nMake or join a community garden. You can grow vegetables and cool plants and you won't have to buy them from any establishments\\nLearn to cook. Not only is it an enjoyable way to spend your time but it also saves money - more for you, less for the establishment. Negative Approach vocalist John Brannon doesn't only earn his music career, but he got another job as a chef.\\nFind free events through friends, the websites of venues you like or using local event forums.\\nGet crafty. For each item you craft, you haven't supported a store that sells a similar manufactured version.\\nVisit the mall or a big-box store only when necessity demands it. Even things like furniture can be found for free with sites like craigslist.org and freecycle.org. If you must buy something, try to find it used first. It'll be cheaper for you and a little more anti-establishment.\\n2. Focusing on Outward Appearances\\n2-1. Express your attitude through your clothing.\\nPunk clothing is iconic because it captures a unique sense of rebellion and individualism. Let that anti-establishment attitude show in your outfits.\\nPunks are known for being unique - don't let yourself worry that you don't look like punk. Wear what you want, make sure its relatively alternative, and you'll fit in with any punk crowd.\\nMake your own clothes if possible. Invest in a sewing machine. This way you can create truly unique looks without supporting the establishment.\\nDIY (do it yourself). A lot of punk clothing has a DIY look to it. For a punk, it's always better to remake something old than support consumerism and buy something new.\\n2-2. Start out with some punk staples.\\nIf you're at a loss on how to build a punk wardrobe, here are some items to consider:\\nSkinny jeans or cargo jeans\\nBlack leather jackets or denim vests\\nStudded or spiked clothing and bracelets\\nSafety pins\\nPin-on buttons (side note: use tape if you put them on backpacks, or they may fall off)\\nMostly black clothes\\nTartan, camouflage, animal print and blood stains.\\nRipped clothing held together with safety pins\\nBand T-shirts\\nPunk band patches\\nBlack shirts\\nSpiky hair, Mohawks or dyed hair\\nLeather (or pleather) jackets with band patches, safety pins, or painted-on details such as an anarchy symbol.\\nBondage pants, or pants with added embellishments such as zippers going up the back of the legs, chains, metal rings, or other add-ons.\\nBullet belts\\nFishnets\\nClassic accessories can include arm warmers, studded belts, bullet belts, and wristbands with pyramid studs, stars or spikes.\\n2-3. Customize some of the shirts or jackets you buy.\\nThis is similar to remaking, but with an eye for little touches that express your unique viewpoints. Maybe by cutting off the sleeves, sewing political patches on, or just cutting the neckline, or back differently – these are all things that the traditional person wouldn't dare try - especially not for aesthetic effect.\\nRip or cut out a section of clothing, and replace it with a row of safety pins holding the fabric together, or expose your layers.\\nStencil band names or symbols onto your clothes yourself.\\nSew some patches on your jacket.\\nDistress your own denim. Use scissors or an x-acto knife to make cuts, or run sandpaper over the fabric to make it look worn out.\\nStrategically drip bleach onto jeans or T-shirts to make interesting patterns, or make them look more worn-in.\\n2-4. Find punk footwear.\\nConsider that you may be walking more given your punk lifestyle, since its pretty common that punks ditch private transport whenever possible. You need a sturdy, long lasting pair of shoes, or two, but you need to obtain them in an a-traditional way.\\nBoots - for men and women. Boots are often dark and are usually the best choice: they last a long time, you can find them on the cheap and the aesthetic works with the rest of your clothes.\\nStay away from shoe brands. Because commercialism and materialism are frowned upon by punks, a lot of them choose to buy boots from the army surplus store.\\nCommon punk shoes include black boots, Dr. Martens, Converse and some skate shoes like Draven and T.U.Ks. Note that because these are owned by corporations, some punks refuse to buy from them despite the aesthetic and you may run into people who disagree with your shoe choice.\\nThrift stores are a good place to buy cheap shoes and boots, and then you don't have to think about whether your money is going to a multinational corporation.\\n2-5. Get the hairstyle.\\nSpike it up, or even put it in a mohawk. You can also dye it.\\nBoth males and females can sport a mohawk, and (though a primarily 'guy' hairstyle) some girls can pull off a Devilock nicely. Research the different kinds and think about what best expresses you. You might want a fanned Mohawk, Bihawk, Trihawk, \\\"bitch\\\" handles, or even liberty spikes.\\nIf you're worried about fitting into a conservative work situation, there's always the \\\"Fauxhawk\\\" (a wider strip of stand up hair that can be combed down to hide the shaved sides of your head). Be warned, though, his style is sometimes frowned upon by other punks since the look can adapt to the mainstream world so well.\\nAlthough it is most common for punks to have hair no longer than chin length, long hair is acceptable if you want to be a punk. Remember: It's about breaking away from expectations and \\\"The Norm\\\"\\nHaving random things - such as beads, ribbons and ties - in your hair also makes you stand out if that's what you're going for.\\nThere has also been a variety of 80s haircuts and even dreadlocks that have made appearances in punk subculture. Dreadlocks are often frowned upon by punks if they are on a white person because this can be considered cultural appropriation. Racism is NOT Punk.\\nConsider dying your hair. You could go jet black, platinum blonde, bright red, or some unnatural color like green or blue. Whatever you choose, be prepared to stick with it for a while (or try a temporary dye first).\\nIf you don't want to hassle with complicated hairstyles, shave your head. This is a huge message to others: you don't need to do what others do! A shaved head has always been a classic punk look, and can be used for both men and women.\\n2-6. Get some piercings and tattoos.\\nBody modification is another outlet that punks use to identify themselves.\\nYou will see many punks with their ears gauged with rings, often to quite large sizes.\\nSeptum and lip piercings can be used for any gender.\\nWith tattoos, you will see a wide variety of images. A lot of punks sport their favorite band logos, or have spiderwebs on their elbows (please be aware that in the UK at least, spiderwebs on the elbow signify that you have been in prison). Straightedge punks sometimes have X's on each fist. Old-school-style tattoos (Sailor Jerry, for example) are also very popular, especially for chest pieces and sleeves.\\nJust remember whatever tattoo you choose, it will be there forever! Make sure that you choose something that reflects your personality, not just a current band that you like!\\n2-7. Be patient with your style.\\nMany people will tell you to avoid going from preppy to punk in one step, or that it's best if you ease into being punk or you may appear like a poser. This is kind of true, but there is no way to go from not punk to punk overnight. You can't buy knowledge of punk music and you can't get an entire punk wardrobe without searching hard. Go to shows, introduce yourself to other punks, and gradually your style will develop from there.\\n3. Enjoying Punk Music\\n3-1. Go to punk shows to see bands live whenever you can.\\nIt is a large part of being a punk. The energy is amazing. You do not have to get in the mosh pit but it is fun to watch. Play safe and have fun. Get to know your local scene, you will probably see the same people and bands at shows over time.\\n3-2. Familiarize yourself with the music, new and old.\\nThere are many different types of Punk music, and it is important to remember that not every punk listens to every band here. A lot of Punks focus on one era of this music genre as the style of music has radically changed over time. This is a list of each era of Punk music, and some bands that influenced it.\\n3-3. Try some of the genres of punk:\\nPunk rock - Overall, it is loud hard rock music with electric guitars playing power chords, energetic drum beats, heavy bass and began in the movement of rebellion, DIY and anti-establishment. Normal punk rock: Ramones, the Clash, Sex Pistols, The Rezillos, Green Day (mostly old), Alkaline Trio, Rancid and Against Me!.\\nAnarcho-Punk - Punk rock that promotes Anarchism. Bands that are influenced are Rudimentary Peni, Anti-Flag, Against All Authority, Code 13, The Mob, Political Asylum and the Bus Station Loonies\\nModern punk - Against Me!, 4th Curtis, Gallows, Dropkick Murphys, Title Fight, etc.\\nCeltic punk - Punk with some Irish instruments. E.g.: Dropkick Murphys, Flogging Molly, the Briggs\\nHardcore punk (or hardcore): Faster and more harder punk with vocals usually lacking melody. E.g.: Black Flag, Minor Threat, Negative Approach, Necros, The Meatmen, Bad Brains, Gallows, Poison Idea, Suicidal Tendencies (although they are mostly crossover thrash), AFI (early), Conflict, Rise Against, Agnostic Front, Kill Your Idols, etc.\\nPunk Blues - A subgenre of Garage Rock and Punk Rock. Using acoustic guitars and percussions and harmonicas along with electric guitars, bass, and drums. Bands are Laughing Hyenas, Soledad Brothers, Knoxville Girls, Mule and Pussy Galore.\\nBeatdown hardcore (or moshcore/beatdown/youth crew/tough guy hardcore) - Hardcore punk made heavier with some more intense, shouted vocals and low-chugging breakdowns. Often traditional metalcore bands (Hatebreed, Converge, I Am War, Earth Crisis, Unit 731, Bury Your Dead) get called hardcore. Metalcore is much heavier than tough guy hardcore and has elements of metal in it. Beatdown bands: Madball, Agnostic Front (later), Youth of Today, Death Before Dishonor, etc. Bands of the genre who have played also metalcore include Terror, Vision of Disorder and Stick to Your Guns.\\nOi! - Often misconceived as a racist genre, it isn't. Oi! is far from racism.That is Rock Against Communism. Oi! is a punk genre in the scene of punks and skinheads (not racist ones) that were simple, pub-friendly, treble guitar-based and had some blues-influence. E.g.: Cockney Rejects, Sham 69, Skrewdriver (first album; before racism), 4-Skins, the Business, The Exploited, UK Subs, etc.\\nCrust punk - Fast, insane and metal-influenced punk rock, born in the 1980s in England. Bands are Amebix and Electro Hippies. Often bands wore all black, wore black leather and denim, slogans, patches and dreadlocks.\\nThrashcore - Fast, insane and blast beats-filled hardcore began in the early 1980s. Bands include DRI, Raw Power and Electro Hippies.\\nD-beat - Heavy metal influenced hardcore with some metal traits but still pure hardcore. The genre was played by bands like Discharge. The drumming was also extremely aggressive.\\nQueercore - Hardcore punk that supported gay people and gay rights - Bands include the Dicks and Big Boys.\\nStreet punk - Began in the UK82 era (1980s) of punk. It is a hardcore punk style that had catchy choruses, chants, lyrics usually on anti-establishment/rebellion/politics/etc, short guitar solos and usually had bands who wore black leather jackets and clothes, denim vests, lots of studs and patches, skinny or tight jeans, plaid pants, black combat boots and multi-colored mohawks. Bands include The Exploited, the Casualties, Clit 45, GBH, Cheap Sex, the Virus, Street Dogs, etc.\\nPowerviolence - Most of it is punk. It often has influences from hardcore, crust, thrashcore and grindcore. It is usually extremely chaotic thrashcore with shouting and screaming and usually really short songs. Bands include Iron Lung and Spazz.\\nSka punk - Punk with some ska influences - E.g.: Rancid, Against All Authority, Operation Ivy and Banda Bassotti\\nSkate punk - Fast punk rock with lots of guitar riffs, sometimes solos, singing and a raw tone. It is enjoyed by punks and skaters. Bands include MxPx, NoFX, Blink-182 (1992-1997; before Travis joined), Bone Brigade, Guttermouth, Pennywise and was pioneered by Suicidal Tendencies. Bands also often have comedy lyrics.\\nMelodic hardcore - Like hardcore punk, but has melodic vocals and instrumentation. Bands include Rise Against,Bad Religion, and The Descendants.\\nHorror punk - A goth-punk style with a dark sound and horror-themed lyrics. Bands sometimes are seen wearing black, big and shock-stylized makeup, all black, leather, studs, and the hair put into devilocks (not to be confused with emo hair). E.g.: Misfits, Balzac, AFI (1998-2000), Murderdolls, etc.\\nDeathrock - Some type of goth-punk music which is extremely dark, atmospheric and has haunting or gloomy lyrics and themes. Bands include Christian Death and Alien Sex Fiend.\\nPost-punk - Punk, but more complex, introverted and experimental. Bands include Joy Division, the Clash, The Cure (early) Siouxsie & the Banshees, L-Seven and Easy Action (one with John Brannon).\\n3-4. Acknowledge derivatives of punk or fusion genres.\\nThey aren't punk, but stem from it. A lot of people call it punk while some argue that they aren't.\\nEmo - A type of music derived from punk/alternative with melody and emotional lyrics. Originally it was short for emotive hardcore, and was influenced by hardcore punk and post-hardcore. It later got reinvented for a non-punk sound and for an alternative/indie/poppy sound. At first it was bands like Rites of Spring, The Hated and Embrace. Later, it became Jawbreaker, Sunny Day Real Estate, Jimmy Eat World, the Get Up Kids, American Football and Drive Like Jehu. Now, it is bands like Senses Fail, My Chemical Romance, From First to Last, Snowing, Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, Thursday, Paramore,Saves the Day,Modern Baseball,Dashboard Confessional and the Used.\\nScreamo - A subgenre of emo, only harsher and has some screams in it. At first it was bands like Pg 99, I Hate Myself, Orchid (not the metal band) and Saetia. Now it is bands like I Would Set Myself on Fire for You, Underoath, Thursday and Alexisonfire.\\nPop punk - A loud pop rock style with power chords and punk influences. It has catchy choruses, pop melodies, happy melodies, usually teenage-tinged lyrics and was influenced by bands like Descendants, Green Day, Ramones, Screeching Weasel, The Offspring and Bad Religion. Bands include Sum 41, Blink-182, Good Charlotte,All,Neckdeep, Lit, Jimmy Eat World, Man Overboard, New Found Glory, Yellowcard, Motion City Soundtrack, Millencolin, and Fall Out Boy.\\nRapcore - An interesting genre that fuses hip hop and hardcore punk, often considered a subgenre of rap rock or nu metal. Bands mainly include Zebrahead, Rage Against the Machine, and Biohazard (though they are mostly a heavy metal band).\\nFolk Punk - A sweet combination of folk and punk, often using more acoustic instruments ( violins, harmonicas, trumpets, upright bass). Not always as fast-paced as a lot of punk genres, and has more of a saddened tone to the lyrics. The Pogues popularized the genre in the late 80's but even still it is viewed as an underground sub-genre. Some great groups include, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Wingnut Dishwasher's Union, Johnny Hobo and The Freight Trains, Ramshackle Glory, Mantits, Neutral Milk Hotel and Charles Manson.\\nNu Metal - Heavy metal style with either screaming, singing or rapping vocals. Bands who are in involved are Slipknot (early), Korn, and Molotov (although they do rap metal)\\n4. Finding More Information\\n4-1. Ready yourself for a punk hairstyle?\\n\\n4-2. Don a punk style as a girl.\\n\\n4-3. Take your punk look to Prom.\\n\\n4-4. Try steampunk style.\\n\\n4-5. Start making your own punk music.\\n\\n4-6. Punk out your wardrobe.\\n\\n5. \\nLearn bands geared towards punk.\\nAlkaline Trio\\nRamones\\nAction Swingers\\nSex Pistols\\nThe Clash\\nBlondie\\nMinor Threat\\n4th Curtis\\nSatan's Rats\\nRancid\\nGreen Day\\nAgainst All Authority!\\nAnti-Nowhere League\\nBad Brains\\nNegative Approach\\nNecros\\nLaughing Hyenas\\nThe Rezillos\\nGorilla Biscuits\\nCrass\\nThe Exploited\\nAFI\\nOxymoron\\nFugazi\\nGBH\\nGuttermouth\\nThe Offspring\\nBlink-182 (every thing before the self-titled album)\\nSiouxsie and the Banshees\\n45 Grave\\nKilling Joke\\nJoy Division\\nThe Casualties\\nClit 45\\nAnti-Flag\\nBlack Flag\\nGallows\\nTitle Fight\\nMxPx\\nBone Brigade\\nThe Runaways\\nDead Kennedys\\nStreet Dogs\\nBad Religion\\nRise Against\\nNoFX\\nSocial Distortion\\nAiden\\nMurderdolls\\nThe Creepshow\\nCalabrese\\nThe Misfits\\nSamhain\\nScream\\nGray Matter\\nThe Descendants\\nScreeching Weasel\\nTeenage Bottlerocket\\nDropkick Murphys\\nHot Water Music\\nDischarge\\nDRI\\nSuicidal Tendencies\\nBalzac\\nThe Vandals\\nSkrewdriver\\nAgainst Me!\\nThe 4-Skins\\nThe Business\\nCockney Rejects\\nConflict\\nUK Subs\\nBlitz\\nAnti-Heroes\\nBlood on Blood\\nAgnostic Front\\nMadball\\nComeback Kid\\nDeath Before Dishonor\\nTerror\\nAntidote\\nYouth of Today\\nThe Queers\\nThe Dicks\\nJawbreaker\\nBuzzcocks\\nMillencolin\\nPennywise\\nCock Sparrer\\nThe Partisans\\nSham 69\\nCro-mags\\nBeastie Boys ( a few EPs before rap).\\nChaos UK\\nFlogging Molly\\nOperation Ivy\\nThe Damned\\nBlanks 77\\nLess Than Jake\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're a fierce individualist who has a bone to pick with the profit-driven world, you might be a punk. Here's a quick primer on punk fashion, lifestyle and music.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understanding the Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have the state of mind.\", \"描述\": \"Punk means to not care what other people say when it comes to pop culture. Punks encourage standing out from the crowd. . It's based off music and \\\"do it yourself\\\" attitudes. It's associated with rebellion and anti-establishment.\\nRead up on classic punk topics like resisting tyranny, DIY, rebellion, anti-authoritarianism anarchism and violence. The more you know, the more easily you'll be able to express yourself.\\nFind interesting ways to express what you know and why you think it's important. There is a difference between complaining about authority figures and being against the structure that allows for authority in the first place.\\nTalk to like-minded people and different-minded people. You need to talk to both to really get comfortable with your own perspective. Also, if you're only talking to like-minded people, how will you deliver your radical message to those that need it most?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find your scene.\", \"描述\": \"Get to know other people who have the same beliefs. This way you'll feel comfortable exploring your punk side without judgement or conflict from squares.\\nGo to some punk concerts. Some venues put up posters - check your local telephone poles.\\nIf you have an Instagram account, set it up with a punk or heavy metal theme. That way you can get more friends who are punks, even if you don't know them.\\nBe unapologetically you. If you're autistic, stim in public. If you're LGBT, wear your colors loudly and proudly.\\nChoose a punk music scene. It doesn't matter what music they do. Either punk rock, hardcore punk, or Oi!\\nChoose a regional punk scene you're affiliated with, such as The Detroit Scene, The California punk scene or the Boston music scene.\\nFigure out where punks in your area meet, be it a specific corner or landmark. Punks usually don't meet at establishments unless it's for the sake of music - they try to use public space as much as possible.\\nIf all else fails, ask another punk on the street when the next gig is.\\nDon't be afraid to admit that you're new to all of this. Everyone was new once, and they will probably understand. If you are friendly, people will like you whether or not you know every punk band on earth and have all the typical clothes.\\nJoin a punk online community. Here, you can meet other punks worldwide, trade MP3s, find shows or discover new bands.\\nIf you choose your favorite regional scene, you have do some research.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid consumerism.\", \"描述\": \"Punks are very resourceful. Find new ways to enjoy yourself without giving your money to big corporations.\\nEnjoy the outdoors, be it hiking a mountain or enjoying the park with your friends.\\nMake or join a community garden. You can grow vegetables and cool plants and you won't have to buy them from any establishments\\nLearn to cook. Not only is it an enjoyable way to spend your time but it also saves money - more for you, less for the establishment. Negative Approach vocalist John Brannon doesn't only earn his music career, but he got another job as a chef.\\nFind free events through friends, the websites of venues you like or using local event forums.\\nGet crafty. For each item you craft, you haven't supported a store that sells a similar manufactured version.\\nVisit the mall or a big-box store only when necessity demands it. Even things like furniture can be found for free with sites like craigslist.org and freecycle.org. If you must buy something, try to find it used first. It'll be cheaper for you and a little more anti-establishment.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focusing on Outward Appearances\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Express your attitude through your clothing.\", \"描述\": \"Punk clothing is iconic because it captures a unique sense of rebellion and individualism. Let that anti-establishment attitude show in your outfits.\\nPunks are known for being unique - don't let yourself worry that you don't look like punk. Wear what you want, make sure its relatively alternative, and you'll fit in with any punk crowd.\\nMake your own clothes if possible. Invest in a sewing machine. This way you can create truly unique looks without supporting the establishment.\\nDIY (do it yourself). A lot of punk clothing has a DIY look to it. For a punk, it's always better to remake something old than support consumerism and buy something new.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start out with some punk staples.\", \"描述\": \"If you're at a loss on how to build a punk wardrobe, here are some items to consider:\\nSkinny jeans or cargo jeans\\nBlack leather jackets or denim vests\\nStudded or spiked clothing and bracelets\\nSafety pins\\nPin-on buttons (side note: use tape if you put them on backpacks, or they may fall off)\\nMostly black clothes\\nTartan, camouflage, animal print and blood stains.\\nRipped clothing held together with safety pins\\nBand T-shirts\\nPunk band patches\\nBlack shirts\\nSpiky hair, Mohawks or dyed hair\\nLeather (or pleather) jackets with band patches, safety pins, or painted-on details such as an anarchy symbol.\\nBondage pants, or pants with added embellishments such as zippers going up the back of the legs, chains, metal rings, or other add-ons.\\nBullet belts\\nFishnets\\nClassic accessories can include arm warmers, studded belts, bullet belts, and wristbands with pyramid studs, stars or spikes.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Customize some of the shirts or jackets you buy.\", \"描述\": \"This is similar to remaking, but with an eye for little touches that express your unique viewpoints. Maybe by cutting off the sleeves, sewing political patches on, or just cutting the neckline, or back differently – these are all things that the traditional person wouldn't dare try - especially not for aesthetic effect.\\nRip or cut out a section of clothing, and replace it with a row of safety pins holding the fabric together, or expose your layers.\\nStencil band names or symbols onto your clothes yourself.\\nSew some patches on your jacket.\\nDistress your own denim. Use scissors or an x-acto knife to make cuts, or run sandpaper over the fabric to make it look worn out.\\nStrategically drip bleach onto jeans or T-shirts to make interesting patterns, or make them look more worn-in.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find punk footwear.\", \"描述\": \"Consider that you may be walking more given your punk lifestyle, since its pretty common that punks ditch private transport whenever possible. You need a sturdy, long lasting pair of shoes, or two, but you need to obtain them in an a-traditional way.\\nBoots - for men and women. Boots are often dark and are usually the best choice: they last a long time, you can find them on the cheap and the aesthetic works with the rest of your clothes.\\nStay away from shoe brands. Because commercialism and materialism are frowned upon by punks, a lot of them choose to buy boots from the army surplus store.\\nCommon punk shoes include black boots, Dr. Martens, Converse and some skate shoes like Draven and T.U.Ks. Note that because these are owned by corporations, some punks refuse to buy from them despite the aesthetic and you may run into people who disagree with your shoe choice.\\nThrift stores are a good place to buy cheap shoes and boots, and then you don't have to think about whether your money is going to a multinational corporation.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get the hairstyle.\", \"描述\": \"Spike it up, or even put it in a mohawk. You can also dye it.\\nBoth males and females can sport a mohawk, and (though a primarily 'guy' hairstyle) some girls can pull off a Devilock nicely. Research the different kinds and think about what best expresses you. You might want a fanned Mohawk, Bihawk, Trihawk, \\\"bitch\\\" handles, or even liberty spikes.\\nIf you're worried about fitting into a conservative work situation, there's always the \\\"Fauxhawk\\\" (a wider strip of stand up hair that can be combed down to hide the shaved sides of your head). Be warned, though, his style is sometimes frowned upon by other punks since the look can adapt to the mainstream world so well.\\nAlthough it is most common for punks to have hair no longer than chin length, long hair is acceptable if you want to be a punk. Remember: It's about breaking away from expectations and \\\"The Norm\\\"\\nHaving random things - such as beads, ribbons and ties - in your hair also makes you stand out if that's what you're going for.\\nThere has also been a variety of 80s haircuts and even dreadlocks that have made appearances in punk subculture. Dreadlocks are often frowned upon by punks if they are on a white person because this can be considered cultural appropriation. Racism is NOT Punk.\\nConsider dying your hair. You could go jet black, platinum blonde, bright red, or some unnatural color like green or blue. Whatever you choose, be prepared to stick with it for a while (or try a temporary dye first).\\nIf you don't want to hassle with complicated hairstyles, shave your head. This is a huge message to others: you don't need to do what others do! A shaved head has always been a classic punk look, and can be used for both men and women.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get some piercings and tattoos.\", \"描述\": \"Body modification is another outlet that punks use to identify themselves.\\nYou will see many punks with their ears gauged with rings, often to quite large sizes.\\nSeptum and lip piercings can be used for any gender.\\nWith tattoos, you will see a wide variety of images. A lot of punks sport their favorite band logos, or have spiderwebs on their elbows (please be aware that in the UK at least, spiderwebs on the elbow signify that you have been in prison). Straightedge punks sometimes have X's on each fist. Old-school-style tattoos (Sailor Jerry, for example) are also very popular, especially for chest pieces and sleeves.\\nJust remember whatever tattoo you choose, it will be there forever! Make sure that you choose something that reflects your personality, not just a current band that you like!\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be patient with your style.\", \"描述\": \"Many people will tell you to avoid going from preppy to punk in one step, or that it's best if you ease into being punk or you may appear like a poser. This is kind of true, but there is no way to go from not punk to punk overnight. You can't buy knowledge of punk music and you can't get an entire punk wardrobe without searching hard. Go to shows, introduce yourself to other punks, and gradually your style will develop from there.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enjoying Punk Music\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go to punk shows to see bands live whenever you can.\", \"描述\": \"It is a large part of being a punk. The energy is amazing. You do not have to get in the mosh pit but it is fun to watch. Play safe and have fun. Get to know your local scene, you will probably see the same people and bands at shows over time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with the music, new and old.\", \"描述\": \"There are many different types of Punk music, and it is important to remember that not every punk listens to every band here. A lot of Punks focus on one era of this music genre as the style of music has radically changed over time. This is a list of each era of Punk music, and some bands that influenced it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try some of the genres of punk:\", \"描述\": \"Punk rock - Overall, it is loud hard rock music with electric guitars playing power chords, energetic drum beats, heavy bass and began in the movement of rebellion, DIY and anti-establishment. Normal punk rock: Ramones, the Clash, Sex Pistols, The Rezillos, Green Day (mostly old), Alkaline Trio, Rancid and Against Me!.\\nAnarcho-Punk - Punk rock that promotes Anarchism. Bands that are influenced are Rudimentary Peni, Anti-Flag, Against All Authority, Code 13, The Mob, Political Asylum and the Bus Station Loonies\\nModern punk - Against Me!, 4th Curtis, Gallows, Dropkick Murphys, Title Fight, etc.\\nCeltic punk - Punk with some Irish instruments. E.g.: Dropkick Murphys, Flogging Molly, the Briggs\\nHardcore punk (or hardcore): Faster and more harder punk with vocals usually lacking melody. E.g.: Black Flag, Minor Threat, Negative Approach, Necros, The Meatmen, Bad Brains, Gallows, Poison Idea, Suicidal Tendencies (although they are mostly crossover thrash), AFI (early), Conflict, Rise Against, Agnostic Front, Kill Your Idols, etc.\\nPunk Blues - A subgenre of Garage Rock and Punk Rock. Using acoustic guitars and percussions and harmonicas along with electric guitars, bass, and drums. Bands are Laughing Hyenas, Soledad Brothers, Knoxville Girls, Mule and Pussy Galore.\\nBeatdown hardcore (or moshcore/beatdown/youth crew/tough guy hardcore) - Hardcore punk made heavier with some more intense, shouted vocals and low-chugging breakdowns. Often traditional metalcore bands (Hatebreed, Converge, I Am War, Earth Crisis, Unit 731, Bury Your Dead) get called hardcore. Metalcore is much heavier than tough guy hardcore and has elements of metal in it. Beatdown bands: Madball, Agnostic Front (later), Youth of Today, Death Before Dishonor, etc. Bands of the genre who have played also metalcore include Terror, Vision of Disorder and Stick to Your Guns.\\nOi! - Often misconceived as a racist genre, it isn't. Oi! is far from racism.That is Rock Against Communism. Oi! is a punk genre in the scene of punks and skinheads (not racist ones) that were simple, pub-friendly, treble guitar-based and had some blues-influence. E.g.: Cockney Rejects, Sham 69, Skrewdriver (first album; before racism), 4-Skins, the Business, The Exploited, UK Subs, etc.\\nCrust punk - Fast, insane and metal-influenced punk rock, born in the 1980s in England. Bands are Amebix and Electro Hippies. Often bands wore all black, wore black leather and denim, slogans, patches and dreadlocks.\\nThrashcore - Fast, insane and blast beats-filled hardcore began in the early 1980s. Bands include DRI, Raw Power and Electro Hippies.\\nD-beat - Heavy metal influenced hardcore with some metal traits but still pure hardcore. The genre was played by bands like Discharge. The drumming was also extremely aggressive.\\nQueercore - Hardcore punk that supported gay people and gay rights - Bands include the Dicks and Big Boys.\\nStreet punk - Began in the UK82 era (1980s) of punk. It is a hardcore punk style that had catchy choruses, chants, lyrics usually on anti-establishment/rebellion/politics/etc, short guitar solos and usually had bands who wore black leather jackets and clothes, denim vests, lots of studs and patches, skinny or tight jeans, plaid pants, black combat boots and multi-colored mohawks. Bands include The Exploited, the Casualties, Clit 45, GBH, Cheap Sex, the Virus, Street Dogs, etc.\\nPowerviolence - Most of it is punk. It often has influences from hardcore, crust, thrashcore and grindcore. It is usually extremely chaotic thrashcore with shouting and screaming and usually really short songs. Bands include Iron Lung and Spazz.\\nSka punk - Punk with some ska influences - E.g.: Rancid, Against All Authority, Operation Ivy and Banda Bassotti\\nSkate punk - Fast punk rock with lots of guitar riffs, sometimes solos, singing and a raw tone. It is enjoyed by punks and skaters. Bands include MxPx, NoFX, Blink-182 (1992-1997; before Travis joined), Bone Brigade, Guttermouth, Pennywise and was pioneered by Suicidal Tendencies. Bands also often have comedy lyrics.\\nMelodic hardcore - Like hardcore punk, but has melodic vocals and instrumentation. Bands include Rise Against,Bad Religion, and The Descendants.\\nHorror punk - A goth-punk style with a dark sound and horror-themed lyrics. Bands sometimes are seen wearing black, big and shock-stylized makeup, all black, leather, studs, and the hair put into devilocks (not to be confused with emo hair). E.g.: Misfits, Balzac, AFI (1998-2000), Murderdolls, etc.\\nDeathrock - Some type of goth-punk music which is extremely dark, atmospheric and has haunting or gloomy lyrics and themes. Bands include Christian Death and Alien Sex Fiend.\\nPost-punk - Punk, but more complex, introverted and experimental. Bands include Joy Division, the Clash, The Cure (early) Siouxsie & the Banshees, L-Seven and Easy Action (one with John Brannon).\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Acknowledge derivatives of punk or fusion genres.\", \"描述\": \"They aren't punk, but stem from it. A lot of people call it punk while some argue that they aren't.\\nEmo - A type of music derived from punk/alternative with melody and emotional lyrics. Originally it was short for emotive hardcore, and was influenced by hardcore punk and post-hardcore. It later got reinvented for a non-punk sound and for an alternative/indie/poppy sound. At first it was bands like Rites of Spring, The Hated and Embrace. Later, it became Jawbreaker, Sunny Day Real Estate, Jimmy Eat World, the Get Up Kids, American Football and Drive Like Jehu. Now, it is bands like Senses Fail, My Chemical Romance, From First to Last, Snowing, Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, Thursday, Paramore,Saves the Day,Modern Baseball,Dashboard Confessional and the Used.\\nScreamo - A subgenre of emo, only harsher and has some screams in it. At first it was bands like Pg 99, I Hate Myself, Orchid (not the metal band) and Saetia. Now it is bands like I Would Set Myself on Fire for You, Underoath, Thursday and Alexisonfire.\\nPop punk - A loud pop rock style with power chords and punk influences. It has catchy choruses, pop melodies, happy melodies, usually teenage-tinged lyrics and was influenced by bands like Descendants, Green Day, Ramones, Screeching Weasel, The Offspring and Bad Religion. Bands include Sum 41, Blink-182, Good Charlotte,All,Neckdeep, Lit, Jimmy Eat World, Man Overboard, New Found Glory, Yellowcard, Motion City Soundtrack, Millencolin, and Fall Out Boy.\\nRapcore - An interesting genre that fuses hip hop and hardcore punk, often considered a subgenre of rap rock or nu metal. Bands mainly include Zebrahead, Rage Against the Machine, and Biohazard (though they are mostly a heavy metal band).\\nFolk Punk - A sweet combination of folk and punk, often using more acoustic instruments ( violins, harmonicas, trumpets, upright bass). Not always as fast-paced as a lot of punk genres, and has more of a saddened tone to the lyrics. The Pogues popularized the genre in the late 80's but even still it is viewed as an underground sub-genre. Some great groups include, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Wingnut Dishwasher's Union, Johnny Hobo and The Freight Trains, Ramshackle Glory, Mantits, Neutral Milk Hotel and Charles Manson.\\nNu Metal - Heavy metal style with either screaming, singing or rapping vocals. Bands who are in involved are Slipknot (early), Korn, and Molotov (although they do rap metal)\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Finding More Information\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ready yourself for a punk hairstyle?\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don a punk style as a girl.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take your punk look to Prom.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try steampunk style.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start making your own punk music.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Punk out your wardrobe.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn bands geared towards punk.\", \"描述\": \"Alkaline Trio\\nRamones\\nAction Swingers\\nSex Pistols\\nThe Clash\\nBlondie\\nMinor Threat\\n4th Curtis\\nSatan's Rats\\nRancid\\nGreen Day\\nAgainst All Authority!\\nAnti-Nowhere League\\nBad Brains\\nNegative Approach\\nNecros\\nLaughing Hyenas\\nThe Rezillos\\nGorilla Biscuits\\nCrass\\nThe Exploited\\nAFI\\nOxymoron\\nFugazi\\nGBH\\nGuttermouth\\nThe Offspring\\nBlink-182 (every thing before the self-titled album)\\nSiouxsie and the Banshees\\n45 Grave\\nKilling Joke\\nJoy Division\\nThe Casualties\\nClit 45\\nAnti-Flag\\nBlack Flag\\nGallows\\nTitle Fight\\nMxPx\\nBone Brigade\\nThe Runaways\\nDead Kennedys\\nStreet Dogs\\nBad Religion\\nRise Against\\nNoFX\\nSocial Distortion\\nAiden\\nMurderdolls\\nThe Creepshow\\nCalabrese\\nThe Misfits\\nSamhain\\nScream\\nGray Matter\\nThe Descendants\\nScreeching Weasel\\nTeenage Bottlerocket\\nDropkick Murphys\\nHot Water Music\\nDischarge\\nDRI\\nSuicidal Tendencies\\nBalzac\\nThe Vandals\\nSkrewdriver\\nAgainst Me!\\nThe 4-Skins\\nThe Business\\nCockney Rejects\\nConflict\\nUK Subs\\nBlitz\\nAnti-Heroes\\nBlood on Blood\\nAgnostic Front\\nMadball\\nComeback Kid\\nDeath Before Dishonor\\nTerror\\nAntidote\\nYouth of Today\\nThe Queers\\nThe Dicks\\nJawbreaker\\nBuzzcocks\\nMillencolin\\nPennywise\\nCock Sparrer\\nThe Partisans\\nSham 69\\nCro-mags\\nBeastie Boys ( a few EPs before rap).\\nChaos UK\\nFlogging Molly\\nOperation Ivy\\nThe Damned\\nBlanks 77\\nLess Than Jake\"}]}]}}",
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1. Learning About The Quaker Faith
1-1. Do your research.
Read blogs, articles, & books and watch videos on Quakers. Quakers have values such as resolving conflicts by peaceful means, being truthful at all times, upholding justice and equality for everyone, and treating everyone with respect.
1-2. There are two kinds of Quakers in the U.S.:
unprogrammed Friends, whose worship is based in silence that is only broken when someone is given a message to share by the Spirit; and programmed Friends, whose pastor plans the worship service with a sermon, hymns, readings, and a period of silent worship. Programmed Quakers are Christian and are part of either Friends United Meeting or Evangelical Friends International. They call a local congregation a meeting or a church. Unprogrammed Quakers in North America are a mixture of Christians, people who do not identify with one group or another, and some non-theists. Most are part of Friends General Conference. They call a local congregation a meeting.
1-3. Understand how Quakers view God.
The core experiences of Quakers are direct encounters with God, also called the Divine, Light Within, Christ, Spirit, Seed, higher power, and Inward Teacher. Quakers believe that all human beings should have a relationship with God, and there is a “little of God in everyone”. Recognize the differences between Quakerism and other Christian denominations.
1-4. Ask questions.
Begin by asking yourself why you are interested in Quakerism. Take a look at your own morals and values. Do they fit with Quakerism?
1-5. Find a Quaker meeting or church close to you.
For North America, there is a listing of Quaker meetings and churches at fwccamericas.org/visitation/find-friends.aspx. You can also search for QuakerFinder, which lists mostly unprogrammed meetings in North America. For other parts of the world, go to https://fwcc.world/.
1-6. Participate in the worship.
Try more than one, if available. Quaker worship is designed to let God teach and transform the worshipers.
1-7. Talk to the members of the meeting or church.
Ask them to share their experiences about being a Quaker with you. What has been the most rewarding part of being a Quaker for them?
1-8. Attend worship services regularly.
In an unprogrammed meeting, join in silent waiting during the Quaker worship service by sitting in silence with the group. Expect that one or more people will feel moved by the Spirit to break the silence and share what has been placed on their hearts, though this does not always happen.
1-9. If the meeting allows it, attend business meetings to learn how Quakers make group decisions based on the inspiration of the Spirit.
These community gatherings are usually held once a month.
2. Joining a Quaker Meeting
Write a letter to the clerk of the meeting expressing your interest in joining.
State in your letter why you would like to be a member. You will be asked to share your spiritual journey with a "clearness committee." This is also a time for you to ask questions. The clearness committee will make a recommendation to business meeting whether or not you are ready to become a member.
3. Becoming An Active Quaker
3-1. Get involved in the Quaker meeting.
Participate regularly in worship and business meetings. Talk to the Nominating Committee about serving on a committee.
3-2. Make time for prayer and contemplation in your life.
Find a quiet place to open yourself to God, also known as the Divine, Light Within, Christ, Spirit, Seed, or Inward Teacher. Listen and pay attention to anything that comes to you. Tell others in the meeting about it and ask if they think you have heard right.
Tip: If you have difficulty starting a conversation with God during prayer, you can use set prayers or images or recite a passage from the Bible or other spiritual writings to help.
4. Mastering The Quaker Way of Life
4-1. Learn what it feels like to receive a nudge from the Divine, and be ready to act on it.
If you are at all in doubt that the action is being prompted by the Divine, ask the meeting for a clearness committee to help you discern where the impulse comes from.
4-2. Be loving to others.
Practice making others feel valued and respected. This means giving support and prayers to anyone who is sick, struggling spiritually, or adjusting to major life changes such as the loss of a loved one, a new move, or a new career venture. Be patient with others. Always be truthful, and refrain from judging others when you do not know their situation.
4-3. Make God-centered decisions.
Seek God's input in your daily decision-making. Focus on living a life that God and the Quaker community would be pleased with. Pray and meditate before making a life-altering decision, such as when to get married, or whether or not to change careers or relocate. Keep the community up-to-speed with both your personal desires and struggles as well as anything you feel God has shared with you.
Tips
Pray and meditate daily. Being a Quaker should be a part of your everyday life.
Have "Quaker grace" before every meal by silently giving thanks.
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They call a local congregation a meeting.\\n1-3. Understand how Quakers view God.\\nThe core experiences of Quakers are direct encounters with God, also called the Divine, Light Within, Christ, Spirit, Seed, higher power, and Inward Teacher. Quakers believe that all human beings should have a relationship with God, and there is a “little of God in everyone”. Recognize the differences between Quakerism and other Christian denominations.\\n1-4. Ask questions.\\nBegin by asking yourself why you are interested in Quakerism. Take a look at your own morals and values. Do they fit with Quakerism?\\n1-5. Find a Quaker meeting or church close to you.\\nFor North America, there is a listing of Quaker meetings and churches at fwccamericas.org/visitation/find-friends.aspx. You can also search for QuakerFinder, which lists mostly unprogrammed meetings in North America. For other parts of the world, go to https://fwcc.world/.\\n1-6. Participate in the worship.\\nTry more than one, if available. Quaker worship is designed to let God teach and transform the worshipers.\\n1-7. Talk to the members of the meeting or church.\\nAsk them to share their experiences about being a Quaker with you. What has been the most rewarding part of being a Quaker for them?\\n1-8. Attend worship services regularly.\\nIn an unprogrammed meeting, join in silent waiting during the Quaker worship service by sitting in silence with the group. Expect that one or more people will feel moved by the Spirit to break the silence and share what has been placed on their hearts, though this does not always happen.\\n1-9. If the meeting allows it, attend business meetings to learn how Quakers make group decisions based on the inspiration of the Spirit.\\nThese community gatherings are usually held once a month.\\n2. Joining a Quaker Meeting\\nWrite a letter to the clerk of the meeting expressing your interest in joining.\\nState in your letter why you would like to be a member. You will be asked to share your spiritual journey with a \\\"clearness committee.\\\" This is also a time for you to ask questions. The clearness committee will make a recommendation to business meeting whether or not you are ready to become a member.\\n3. Becoming An Active Quaker\\n3-1. Get involved in the Quaker meeting.\\nParticipate regularly in worship and business meetings. Talk to the Nominating Committee about serving on a committee.\\n3-2. Make time for prayer and contemplation in your life.\\nFind a quiet place to open yourself to God, also known as the Divine, Light Within, Christ, Spirit, Seed, or Inward Teacher. Listen and pay attention to anything that comes to you. Tell others in the meeting about it and ask if they think you have heard right. \\nTip: If you have difficulty starting a conversation with God during prayer, you can use set prayers or images or recite a passage from the Bible or other spiritual writings to help.\\n4. Mastering The Quaker Way of Life\\n4-1. Learn what it feels like to receive a nudge from the Divine, and be ready to act on it.\\nIf you are at all in doubt that the action is being prompted by the Divine, ask the meeting for a clearness committee to help you discern where the impulse comes from.\\n4-2. Be loving to others.\\nPractice making others feel valued and respected. This means giving support and prayers to anyone who is sick, struggling spiritually, or adjusting to major life changes such as the loss of a loved one, a new move, or a new career venture. Be patient with others. Always be truthful, and refrain from judging others when you do not know their situation.\\n4-3. Make God-centered decisions.\\nSeek God's input in your daily decision-making. Focus on living a life that God and the Quaker community would be pleased with. Pray and meditate before making a life-altering decision, such as when to get married, or whether or not to change careers or relocate. Keep the community up-to-speed with both your personal desires and struggles as well as anything you feel God has shared with you.\\nTips\\nPray and meditate daily. Being a Quaker should be a part of your everyday life.\\nHave \\\"Quaker grace\\\" before every meal by silently giving thanks.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Quakers are spiritual people who actively seek a connection with the Divine as modeled by Jesus. The official name of the denomination is \\\"The Religious Society of Friends”. They are also known informally as Quakers or Friends. The religious movement began in England in the 1650s. To become a Quaker, one needs to worship with a Quaker meeting and participate in its community life and decisions. It also helps to understand the origin of the Quaker movement and live into the experiences and actions that are important to Quakers.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning About The Quaker Faith\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do your research.\", \"描述\": \"Read blogs, articles, & books and watch videos on Quakers. Quakers have values such as resolving conflicts by peaceful means, being truthful at all times, upholding justice and equality for everyone, and treating everyone with respect.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"There are two kinds of Quakers in the U.S.:\", \"描述\": \"unprogrammed Friends, whose worship is based in silence that is only broken when someone is given a message to share by the Spirit; and programmed Friends, whose pastor plans the worship service with a sermon, hymns, readings, and a period of silent worship. Programmed Quakers are Christian and are part of either Friends United Meeting or Evangelical Friends International. They call a local congregation a meeting or a church. Unprogrammed Quakers in North America are a mixture of Christians, people who do not identify with one group or another, and some non-theists. Most are part of Friends General Conference. They call a local congregation a meeting.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand how Quakers view God.\", \"描述\": \"The core experiences of Quakers are direct encounters with God, also called the Divine, Light Within, Christ, Spirit, Seed, higher power, and Inward Teacher. Quakers believe that all human beings should have a relationship with God, and there is a “little of God in everyone”. Recognize the differences between Quakerism and other Christian denominations.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"Begin by asking yourself why you are interested in Quakerism. Take a look at your own morals and values. Do they fit with Quakerism?\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find a Quaker meeting or church close to you.\", \"描述\": \"For North America, there is a listing of Quaker meetings and churches at fwccamericas.org/visitation/find-friends.aspx. You can also search for QuakerFinder, which lists mostly unprogrammed meetings in North America. For other parts of the world, go to https://fwcc.world/.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Participate in the worship.\", \"描述\": \"Try more than one, if available. Quaker worship is designed to let God teach and transform the worshipers.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Talk to the members of the meeting or church.\", \"描述\": \"Ask them to share their experiences about being a Quaker with you. What has been the most rewarding part of being a Quaker for them?\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Attend worship services regularly.\", \"描述\": \"In an unprogrammed meeting, join in silent waiting during the Quaker worship service by sitting in silence with the group. 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The clearness committee will make a recommendation to business meeting whether or not you are ready to become a member.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Becoming An Active Quaker\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get involved in the Quaker meeting.\", \"描述\": \"Participate regularly in worship and business meetings. Talk to the Nominating Committee about serving on a committee.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make time for prayer and contemplation in your life.\", \"描述\": \"Find a quiet place to open yourself to God, also known as the Divine, Light Within, Christ, Spirit, Seed, or Inward Teacher. Listen and pay attention to anything that comes to you. 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1. Becoming Rational
1-1. Become solution-oriented.
To start thinking rationally, you should start to value coming up with solutions to the problems you encounter all day long. For example, when you can't find a parking spot, stop your car and think about the layout of the parking lot instead of getting angry. Instead of reacting to problems, start solving them.
1-2. Recognize flaws in your thinking.
A rational human being is one who recognizes their own flaws and tries to achieve balance in their thinking. If you are on the road to becoming a rational thinker, you probably started out not being very focused on the way your thoughts work. Get into the habit of checking your thoughts for accuracy to make sure they are realistic.
Try writing some of your thoughts down on paper and running them by someone you trust to get a different perspective. If you have a hard time staying rational, then you may want to consider seeing a therapist.
If you don’t admit to having problems in your thinking, you can’t practice your reasoning skills. Recognizing flaws in your thought processes shows where you have room to grow.
For example, you should start to notice when you make false assumptions or jump to wrong conclusions.
A false assumption might be, “That person I’ve never met must be stuck up because they didn’t say hello back when I greeted them.” They may have just not heard you.
1-3. Question your purposes and goals.
To recognize flaws in your thinking, you must question why you do things. You should also analyze your goals in the moment. Are you doing something because you want a specific result? Is that result selfish? Will it hurt someone else? This type of reasoning will help you recognize your biases and prejudices.
You should also start to apply standards to your thoughts. Strive for accurate, clear, logical thoughts.
This means that you should start to value logical reasoning.
For example, you may start to talk to others about how important it is to reason with yourself.
Another sign you are becoming more rational is recognizing when others fail to follow a logical process.
For instance, you might hear someone say, “That guy is so rude! He didn’t even smile back when I greeted.” Instead of agreeing, you see that this person didn’t think about all the possibilities, such as that the “guy” did not see them.
1-4. Be mindful of emotions.
Another step toward becoming rational is pausing to reflect when you feel negative emotions. Realize that emotions are not necessarily positive or negative; they happen to everyone. Also remember that, although thoughts and experiences often cause emotions, sometimes emotions happen for no reason at all.
Ask yourself, "Which emotion am I feeling?"
And, "Which negative thoughts or experiences have led me to feel this way?"
1-5. Keep a journal to analyze your thoughts.
To assist you in analyzing your thoughts, it is helpful to verbalize them in written form. Start to keep a journal in which you write your thoughts about situations that you care deeply about. Detail what you did in these situations. Later, look at what you wrote and analyze your motives.
Make sure that you write only about situations that you have strong emotions about.
Be very specific in detailing both what occurred and what your thoughts were in the situation.
Ask yourself, “What have I learned about myself?”
“What would I do differently? What will I do differently if the situation repeats itself?”
1-6. Adjust your thinking to make it more effective.
Change the way you think in response to the flaws you recognize. You are now on a journey of constant analysis. Your task now is to watch how you think and ensure that your actions are not selfish or shortsighted.
Evaluate the way that you think on a regular basis.
When you repeatedly feel negative emotions in spite of an effort to be rational, you may need to try a new approach.
2. Being Happy
2-1. Develop close friendships.
Building strong relationships with other people can make you feel happier and less depressed. Friends can lift you out of a negative mood. Having someone to share your experience with helps you feel less negative.
Being a friend to someone else, such as being a listening ear, can also make you feel more happy.
Build friendships by meeting new people, being friendly, and persevering through obstacles.
Engage in a spiritual pursuit because it will help you feel connected to something beyond yourself. A church, synagogue, mosque, or temple will also present you with a strong social network.
2-2. Be kind to others.
Being kind is good for making you happy. People who care for others on a regular basis have a better sense of well-being. You can be kind to others in a variety of ways.
You can be kind directly to others by helping someone who needs it, like serving food at a soup kitchen or moving boxes for a friend.
You can be kind indirectly by donating money.
Look for people who need help or look like they need cheering up.
2-3. Be thankful.
Thinking about positive things in your daily life can boost your joy and make you feel better. Directly thanking other people for their kindness also makes you feel happier. Start making a daily list of things you are thankful for.
Make it a habit to write thank you cards for gifts throughout the year.
You might want to start a diary or journal with a list of things you are thankful for. Add to this list each morning to give your day an extra sense of happiness.
2-4. Stay involved in exercise.
Staying healthy is directly tied to feeling happy. Exercise in particular boosts a sense of happiness, mainly because of the endorphins that are released when you exert energy. Exercise also increases your sense of physical growth, making you feel good about yourself.
For example, going for a morning jog can set up you up for a happy, positive day.
Exercise forces you to set and achieve goals, perhaps many in one exercise session. Achieving goals gives you a sense of accomplishment, which promotes positive feelings.
2-5. Become content
Many people think that getting more of what they want will make them feel happy. However, experts have observed that after our basic needs are met, more money or items does not add to a sense of well-being. In other words, ceasing to desire additional things will lead to a sense of happiness.
To add to a sense of contentment, stop feeling guilty and beating yourself up. If you feel bad about something you have done, ask the people involved to forgive you. Then forgive yourself and stop thinking about it.
Take stock of the items in your life. If you have a sense of needing more things, consider changing your mindset so that you feel happy with simple things.
Simple things you could focus on include eating dinner with your family, gardening, or listening to music.
3. Maintaining a Productive Lifestyle
3-1. Make schedule changes to save time.
There are many things you can do with your schedule to help you get more done in the day. Start by practicing good sleep habits so that you can get up an hour earlier than you used to each morning.
Take breaks every few hours to renew your focus.
3-2. Plan out your week ahead of time.
Making a plan for the week before it begins will help you eliminate tasks that take away from your goals. Take Sunday night and make a schedule for each day of the upcoming week.
Planning for all five weekdays means you don’t waste time each morning deciding what to do that day.
Having a weekly plan also allows you to avoid wasting time on things that are not part of your personal goals.
Maintain firm boundaries by saying “no.”
Set out clear goals for each day and prioritize them so you don’t waste time.
3-3. Minimize distractions when you’re working.
Think about what things usually cause you to stop working. Is it alerts on your phone? Emails? Being able to overhear coworker conversations? The key to focus is eliminating distractions, so take action to get rid of small things that draw your attention away from important tasks.
Turn off your phone for specific blocks of time each day.
Turn email alerts off and only check your email at set times.
3-4. Organize different areas of your life.
Being productive isn’t just about the workplace. To be productive in general, you need to get organized. Is your house a mess? Figure out where to store each and every item. Get rid of clutter. Organize your work desk.
Organizing also saves time, saves money, and reduces stress.
Tips
Put these three concepts together. For example, question your thinking throughout each day to stay rational. At the same time, stick to a tight schedule each day, and include friends in that schedule. This way, you’ll be rational, happy, and productive all at once.
Accept that you have limitations. You are probably able to do many great deeds, but you cannot do everything.
Warnings
These three attributes—being rational, happy, and productive—will take time to develop. Don’t beat yourself up for not instantly becoming good at all three of these things.
Others may not understand what you’re doing by questioning your thinking or saying “no” in order to stay productive. Explain yourself and don’t worry about what other people think.
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If you have a hard time staying rational, then you may want to consider seeing a therapist.\\nIf you don’t admit to having problems in your thinking, you can’t practice your reasoning skills. Recognizing flaws in your thought processes shows where you have room to grow.\\nFor example, you should start to notice when you make false assumptions or jump to wrong conclusions.\\nA false assumption might be, “That person I’ve never met must be stuck up because they didn’t say hello back when I greeted them.” They may have just not heard you.\\n1-3. Question your purposes and goals.\\nTo recognize flaws in your thinking, you must question why you do things. You should also analyze your goals in the moment. Are you doing something because you want a specific result? Is that result selfish? Will it hurt someone else? This type of reasoning will help you recognize your biases and prejudices.\\nYou should also start to apply standards to your thoughts. Strive for accurate, clear, logical thoughts.\\nThis means that you should start to value logical reasoning.\\nFor example, you may start to talk to others about how important it is to reason with yourself.\\nAnother sign you are becoming more rational is recognizing when others fail to follow a logical process.\\nFor instance, you might hear someone say, “That guy is so rude! He didn’t even smile back when I greeted.” Instead of agreeing, you see that this person didn’t think about all the possibilities, such as that the “guy” did not see them.\\n1-4. Be mindful of emotions.\\nAnother step toward becoming rational is pausing to reflect when you feel negative emotions. Realize that emotions are not necessarily positive or negative; they happen to everyone. Also remember that, although thoughts and experiences often cause emotions, sometimes emotions happen for no reason at all.\\nAsk yourself, \\\"Which emotion am I feeling?\\\"\\nAnd, \\\"Which negative thoughts or experiences have led me to feel this way?\\\"\\n1-5. Keep a journal to analyze your thoughts.\\nTo assist you in analyzing your thoughts, it is helpful to verbalize them in written form. Start to keep a journal in which you write your thoughts about situations that you care deeply about. Detail what you did in these situations. Later, look at what you wrote and analyze your motives.\\nMake sure that you write only about situations that you have strong emotions about.\\nBe very specific in detailing both what occurred and what your thoughts were in the situation.\\nAsk yourself, “What have I learned about myself?”\\n“What would I do differently? What will I do differently if the situation repeats itself?”\\n1-6. Adjust your thinking to make it more effective.\\nChange the way you think in response to the flaws you recognize. You are now on a journey of constant analysis. Your task now is to watch how you think and ensure that your actions are not selfish or shortsighted. \\nEvaluate the way that you think on a regular basis.\\nWhen you repeatedly feel negative emotions in spite of an effort to be rational, you may need to try a new approach.\\n2. Being Happy\\n2-1. Develop close friendships.\\nBuilding strong relationships with other people can make you feel happier and less depressed. Friends can lift you out of a negative mood. Having someone to share your experience with helps you feel less negative.\\nBeing a friend to someone else, such as being a listening ear, can also make you feel more happy.\\nBuild friendships by meeting new people, being friendly, and persevering through obstacles.\\nEngage in a spiritual pursuit because it will help you feel connected to something beyond yourself. A church, synagogue, mosque, or temple will also present you with a strong social network.\\n2-2. Be kind to others.\\nBeing kind is good for making you happy. People who care for others on a regular basis have a better sense of well-being. You can be kind to others in a variety of ways.\\nYou can be kind directly to others by helping someone who needs it, like serving food at a soup kitchen or moving boxes for a friend.\\nYou can be kind indirectly by donating money.\\nLook for people who need help or look like they need cheering up.\\n2-3. Be thankful.\\nThinking about positive things in your daily life can boost your joy and make you feel better. Directly thanking other people for their kindness also makes you feel happier. Start making a daily list of things you are thankful for.\\nMake it a habit to write thank you cards for gifts throughout the year.\\nYou might want to start a diary or journal with a list of things you are thankful for. Add to this list each morning to give your day an extra sense of happiness.\\n2-4. Stay involved in exercise.\\nStaying healthy is directly tied to feeling happy. Exercise in particular boosts a sense of happiness, mainly because of the endorphins that are released when you exert energy. Exercise also increases your sense of physical growth, making you feel good about yourself.\\nFor example, going for a morning jog can set up you up for a happy, positive day.\\nExercise forces you to set and achieve goals, perhaps many in one exercise session. Achieving goals gives you a sense of accomplishment, which promotes positive feelings.\\n2-5. Become content\\nMany people think that getting more of what they want will make them feel happy. However, experts have observed that after our basic needs are met, more money or items does not add to a sense of well-being. In other words, ceasing to desire additional things will lead to a sense of happiness.\\nTo add to a sense of contentment, stop feeling guilty and beating yourself up. If you feel bad about something you have done, ask the people involved to forgive you. Then forgive yourself and stop thinking about it.\\nTake stock of the items in your life. If you have a sense of needing more things, consider changing your mindset so that you feel happy with simple things.\\nSimple things you could focus on include eating dinner with your family, gardening, or listening to music.\\n3. Maintaining a Productive Lifestyle\\n3-1. Make schedule changes to save time.\\nThere are many things you can do with your schedule to help you get more done in the day. Start by practicing good sleep habits so that you can get up an hour earlier than you used to each morning.\\nTake breaks every few hours to renew your focus.\\n3-2. Plan out your week ahead of time.\\nMaking a plan for the week before it begins will help you eliminate tasks that take away from your goals. Take Sunday night and make a schedule for each day of the upcoming week.\\nPlanning for all five weekdays means you don’t waste time each morning deciding what to do that day.\\nHaving a weekly plan also allows you to avoid wasting time on things that are not part of your personal goals.\\nMaintain firm boundaries by saying “no.”\\nSet out clear goals for each day and prioritize them so you don’t waste time.\\n3-3. Minimize distractions when you’re working.\\nThink about what things usually cause you to stop working. Is it alerts on your phone? Emails? Being able to overhear coworker conversations? The key to focus is eliminating distractions, so take action to get rid of small things that draw your attention away from important tasks.\\nTurn off your phone for specific blocks of time each day.\\nTurn email alerts off and only check your email at set times.\\n3-4. Organize different areas of your life.\\nBeing productive isn’t just about the workplace. To be productive in general, you need to get organized. Is your house a mess? Figure out where to store each and every item. Get rid of clutter. Organize your work desk.\\nOrganizing also saves time, saves money, and reduces stress.\\nTips\\nPut these three concepts together. For example, question your thinking throughout each day to stay rational. At the same time, stick to a tight schedule each day, and include friends in that schedule. This way, you’ll be rational, happy, and productive all at once.\\nAccept that you have limitations. You are probably able to do many great deeds, but you cannot do everything.\\nWarnings\\nThese three attributes—being rational, happy, and productive—will take time to develop. Don’t beat yourself up for not instantly becoming good at all three of these things.\\nOthers may not understand what you’re doing by questioning your thinking or saying “no” in order to stay productive. Explain yourself and don’t worry about what other people think.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being rational, happy, and productive are things that most humans want to be. While none of us is perfect or ever will be, it can be useful to make some changes to become better people. Question your thinking to be more rational. Make friends and give more to become happier. Eliminate distractions and set clear goals to be more productive. Eventually you will be a rational, happy, and productive human being.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Becoming Rational\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Become solution-oriented.\", \"描述\": \"To start thinking rationally, you should start to value coming up with solutions to the problems you encounter all day long. For example, when you can't find a parking spot, stop your car and think about the layout of the parking lot instead of getting angry. Instead of reacting to problems, start solving them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Recognize flaws in your thinking.\", \"描述\": \"A rational human being is one who recognizes their own flaws and tries to achieve balance in their thinking. If you are on the road to becoming a rational thinker, you probably started out not being very focused on the way your thoughts work. Get into the habit of checking your thoughts for accuracy to make sure they are realistic.\\nTry writing some of your thoughts down on paper and running them by someone you trust to get a different perspective. If you have a hard time staying rational, then you may want to consider seeing a therapist.\\nIf you don’t admit to having problems in your thinking, you can’t practice your reasoning skills. Recognizing flaws in your thought processes shows where you have room to grow.\\nFor example, you should start to notice when you make false assumptions or jump to wrong conclusions.\\nA false assumption might be, “That person I’ve never met must be stuck up because they didn’t say hello back when I greeted them.” They may have just not heard you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Question your purposes and goals.\", \"描述\": \"To recognize flaws in your thinking, you must question why you do things. You should also analyze your goals in the moment. Are you doing something because you want a specific result? Is that result selfish? Will it hurt someone else? This type of reasoning will help you recognize your biases and prejudices.\\nYou should also start to apply standards to your thoughts. Strive for accurate, clear, logical thoughts.\\nThis means that you should start to value logical reasoning.\\nFor example, you may start to talk to others about how important it is to reason with yourself.\\nAnother sign you are becoming more rational is recognizing when others fail to follow a logical process.\\nFor instance, you might hear someone say, “That guy is so rude! He didn’t even smile back when I greeted.” Instead of agreeing, you see that this person didn’t think about all the possibilities, such as that the “guy” did not see them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be mindful of emotions.\", \"描述\": \"Another step toward becoming rational is pausing to reflect when you feel negative emotions. 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What will I do differently if the situation repeats itself?”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Adjust your thinking to make it more effective.\", \"描述\": \"Change the way you think in response to the flaws you recognize. You are now on a journey of constant analysis. Your task now is to watch how you think and ensure that your actions are not selfish or shortsighted. \\nEvaluate the way that you think on a regular basis.\\nWhen you repeatedly feel negative emotions in spite of an effort to be rational, you may need to try a new approach.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Happy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop close friendships.\", \"描述\": \"Building strong relationships with other people can make you feel happier and less depressed. Friends can lift you out of a negative mood. Having someone to share your experience with helps you feel less negative.\\nBeing a friend to someone else, such as being a listening ear, can also make you feel more happy.\\nBuild friendships by meeting new people, being friendly, and persevering through obstacles.\\nEngage in a spiritual pursuit because it will help you feel connected to something beyond yourself. A church, synagogue, mosque, or temple will also present you with a strong social network.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be kind to others.\", \"描述\": \"Being kind is good for making you happy. People who care for others on a regular basis have a better sense of well-being. You can be kind to others in a variety of ways.\\nYou can be kind directly to others by helping someone who needs it, like serving food at a soup kitchen or moving boxes for a friend.\\nYou can be kind indirectly by donating money.\\nLook for people who need help or look like they need cheering up.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be thankful.\", \"描述\": \"Thinking about positive things in your daily life can boost your joy and make you feel better. Directly thanking other people for their kindness also makes you feel happier. Start making a daily list of things you are thankful for.\\nMake it a habit to write thank you cards for gifts throughout the year.\\nYou might want to start a diary or journal with a list of things you are thankful for. Add to this list each morning to give your day an extra sense of happiness.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay involved in exercise.\", \"描述\": \"Staying healthy is directly tied to feeling happy. Exercise in particular boosts a sense of happiness, mainly because of the endorphins that are released when you exert energy. Exercise also increases your sense of physical growth, making you feel good about yourself.\\nFor example, going for a morning jog can set up you up for a happy, positive day.\\nExercise forces you to set and achieve goals, perhaps many in one exercise session. Achieving goals gives you a sense of accomplishment, which promotes positive feelings.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Become content\", \"描述\": \"Many people think that getting more of what they want will make them feel happy. However, experts have observed that after our basic needs are met, more money or items does not add to a sense of well-being. In other words, ceasing to desire additional things will lead to a sense of happiness.\\nTo add to a sense of contentment, stop feeling guilty and beating yourself up. If you feel bad about something you have done, ask the people involved to forgive you. Then forgive yourself and stop thinking about it.\\nTake stock of the items in your life. If you have a sense of needing more things, consider changing your mindset so that you feel happy with simple things.\\nSimple things you could focus on include eating dinner with your family, gardening, or listening to music.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintaining a Productive Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make schedule changes to save time.\", \"描述\": \"There are many things you can do with your schedule to help you get more done in the day. Start by practicing good sleep habits so that you can get up an hour earlier than you used to each morning.\\nTake breaks every few hours to renew your focus.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Plan out your week ahead of time.\", \"描述\": \"Making a plan for the week before it begins will help you eliminate tasks that take away from your goals. Take Sunday night and make a schedule for each day of the upcoming week.\\nPlanning for all five weekdays means you don’t waste time each morning deciding what to do that day.\\nHaving a weekly plan also allows you to avoid wasting time on things that are not part of your personal goals.\\nMaintain firm boundaries by saying “no.”\\nSet out clear goals for each day and prioritize them so you don’t waste time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Minimize distractions when you’re working.\", \"描述\": \"Think about what things usually cause you to stop working. Is it alerts on your phone? Emails? Being able to overhear coworker conversations? 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1. Develop a Personality
1-1. Be yourself.
Looks are important, but not nearly as important as being who you are. Learn to be less concerned with how you come off to other people and more concerned with having fun, joking around, talking about your interests, and doing what you want to do. If you can make anybody laugh, that's a great start.
Don't be ashamed to let people see what makes you unique. If you're into birdwatching, cool. But if you want to hide that you're into birdwatching, then you're not being cool at all.
Don't hide where you came from. If you're from the South and have a Southern drawl, don't try to hide it because you live up North. People will appreciate that you're different.
Don't act too cool to care. If you really care who wins the baseball game that night, show it. Don't act like nothing matters to you just to be cool.
Always be yourself. You can try to improve parts of your personality, but being authentic means not being afraid to be who you are.
1-2. Be charming.
If you want to be a really cool guy, then you have to know how to charm everyone in your presence. A charming person walks confidently into a room and can talk to anyone he passes with ease, humor, and a smile on his face. You should be able to flatter an eighty-year-old woman or crack up an eight-year-old boy; to be truly charming, you need the magic touch that lets you make everyone feel at ease in your presence.
To charm a person, show more of an interest in him than in talking about yourself. Ask about a person's interests or feelings and nod intently and make eye contact to show that you actually care.
To be charming, remember a person's name when you meet him, and always use it the next time you see him.
Laugh easily. Charming people are always laughing or making other people laugh. Don't be afraid to gently tease a person who is receptive to it.
1-3. Be witty.
Being witty is a part of being cool. If you want to be a really cool guy, then you have to be able to make people laugh, to speak on your toes, and to maintain a light and winning banter with almost anyone who calms your way. To be witty, you also have to be sharp, and to offer incisive and clever comments at the right moment.
If someone says something funny, don't just laugh -- answer back with a funny comment of your own.
Watch other witty people you admire, from comedians to your funny uncle, to see if you can pick up on their tricks.
You'll need perfect timing to be witty. Deliver your jokes when everyone is listening and loudly enough for everyone to hear. If you make a joke too quietly or when someone else is talking, it won't be cool if you try it again.
1-4. Be social.
Don't be fooled by the movies. Cool guys don't pose in the parking lot on their motorcycle until they're surrounded by women. Call up people, make plans, take risks, and make friends that you can trust and respect. If you're social and hang out with a lot of people, then you'll look cool because you have a variety of friends.
Accept invitations. Don't turn people down just because you don't think it will be "cool" to show up somewhere.
Don't always be social. Though it's great to hang out with others, give yourself some time to do your own thing and develop your personality.
Be friendly -- to everyone. Don't only be social and nice to the cool kids -- truly cool people are cool with everyone.
1-5. Be confident.
You could be amazingly good looking, but people won't notice you if you speak timidly or have slouched posture. Hold your head up and your chest out, and look everyone in the eye. Work on your self esteem to get rid of any problems you may have with insecurity. This is not an overnight process, but you won't gain respect from others until you respect yourself.
Walk tall with your head high, showing that you're proud of who you are.
Speak clearly and slowly enough so that everyone hears what you have to say.
Make eye contact when you talk to people. This shows that you're comfortable with yourself.
Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. This shows that you're even more confident. You don't have to be self-deprecating to be able to laugh at yourself sometime.
1-6. Show an interest in others.
Who wants to hear someone talk about himself all the time? Find out what your friends are interested in or working on and ask them about it. This will earn you a reputation as someone who is caring and considerate.
When you talk to someone, ask, "How are you?" This shows that you actually care about the person.
Ask a person about his interests. People love talking about their interests, and will think you're cool for caring enough to ask.
1-7. Be positive.
You don't have to give everyone a thumbs up or grin like a fool to be positive. Being positive just means being upbeat, looking for the good in things, and talking about the things that make you happy instead of bringing people down. Nobody likes a person who is negative and constantly complaining, so you should avoid doing so when you can. Instead, focus on the positive things, and you'll see how quickly people think you're cool.
Every time you hear yourself saying something negative, say three positive things to counter what you've just said.
It's okay to complain or be negative once in a while if you're really feeling upset or annoyed. Just don't make it a habit.
If someone else is being negative, you can also make that person feel better by making him see the good side of things and by making him laugh. People will appreciate your ability to make them feel better. That's very cool.
1-8. Don't put people down.
You may think it's cool to make fun of people who are less cool than you, or calling people "losers" because they don't meet your standards of coolness. However, putting people down doesn't make you look better -- instead, it makes you look insecure and desperate to make other people look bad so people see you in a more favorable light.
Instead of putting people down, you can tease or playfully poke fun at your friends. They'll tease you back and you'll both have fun, instead of entering a storm cloud of negativity.
2. Develop Your Interests
2-1. Read a book.
Read several books. Always have a good book at home that you are reading. Books can be a great icebreaker and can stimulate conversation at parties. Plus, someone who is well-read is always attractive. The more you read, the more you know, and the more you'll develop a unique perspective on the world.
If people call you a nerd, just laugh it off. Anything is cool if you make it cool.
Reading will also make it easier for you to talk to a variety of people, not just one narrow social circle. Truly cool people can talk to almost anyone.
2-2. Keep up on current events.
You don't need to tear through several newspapers per day, but having a basic understanding of what's going on in the world will give you a reputation of being smart and knowledgeable, both of which are attractive qualities. This process can be as simple as going on Google News and reading two or three of the biggest stories each day.
You don't have to sound like a know-it-all to bring up something interesting and relevant. People will think it's cool that you have time to think about the world -- not just yourself.
If you have no idea what's going on in the world, you'll look clueless -- and that's just not cool.
2-3. Get physically active.
Being physically fit and active is already cool. Even if you're not a big athlete, going to the gym or running can get your blood flowing and can improve your physique. Being physically active will also develop your confidence, which is very cool.
Sports are also a great way to make new friends and bond with other people. Join a sports team or two in your school, and see how many new friends you make.
Physical activity also releases endorphins which make you feel better, improving your overall mood and making you more appealing to hang out with.
2-4. Pursue your interests.
Whether you join a club at school or take a screenwriting class in your community, doing something that you love will not only make you more interesting, but it can help you make new friends. Don't be shy about pursuing your interests, even if some of the things you love may not be traditionally considered to be "cool."
If you join a club, you can eventually have a leadership position in the organization, which is very cool.
2-5. Pick up a skill.
The more you can do, the cooler you'll be. Learn how to fix a car, build a table, finish a deck, or even to cook the perfect steak. If you have a skill, you'll not only be useful to others, but people will think it's cool that you took the initiative to do something.
Once you've mastered a skill, you can even teach it to someone else. Now that's cool.
2-6. Develop your interests by yourself.
Though certain interests, like team sports, can be developed better in groups, part of being cool is being able to spend time learning things on your own. Anyone who is comfortable spending time by himself and who even likes spending time by himself is much cooler than a person who is so socially eager that he's desperate to always be hanging out with people.
Spend time learning to play the guitar, picking up a new language, or just writing down your thoughts in a journal. This will help you figure out who you are and you'll become cooler in the process.
If you're always around, people will take you for granted. But if you're sometimes busy because you're catching up on some alone time, then people will appreciate you more when you're around.
3. Make a Good Impression
3-1. Have the right body language.
Though being cool should come from within, people can make assumptions about you if your body language indicates that you're insecure and unsure of yourself. To have cool body language, just stand tall, keep your head high and your shoulders open, showing that you're proud to be taking up space.
Don't hunch over, or you'll look like you're cowering.
Don't cross your arms over your chest, or you'll look uncomfortable and insecure. Instead, keep your arms at your sides or use them to gesture as you speak.
Don't fidget with your hands or your clothes, or you'll look insecure.
3-2. Maintain good hygiene.
Have you ever met a cool guy who reeks of sweat and never brushes his teeth? Didn't think so. Shower everyday, use deodorant to cover up body odor, brush and floss your teeth twice a day and wash your hair regularly. Carry some mints or gum around with you to get rid of bad breath. Be sure to also wash your clothes regularly.
3-3. Look after your skin.
Wash your face with warm water and rub on some moisturizer afterwards. If you have dry skin, moisturize with a product meant for dry skin. Avoid products with fragrances if your skin is sensitive. For oily and combination skin, use a moisturizer without alcohol and that is meant for oily/combination skin. For acne problems, Clearasil offers a number of products ranging from face washes to pimple creams.
Watch what you eat and drink. A healthy diet and drinking lots of water is also great for your complexion. Oily and greasy foods will make your complexion more oily and greasy, too.
3-4. Be assertive.
Don't be afraid to take up space when you sit or when you move around. Don't be afraid to be louder, even though it will create some social pressure. When you speak, slow down your words to show that you value what you're saying and you're not worried that you'll get cut off. Make good and fearless eye contact.
At the same time, know when to let other people take center stage. You can't assert yourself 100% of the time.
3-5. Have cool style.
Make sure your clothes fit properly and actually look good on you. Try to find colors or patterns that especially look good with your skin tone, and wear them most. Even a simple wardrobe like a t-shirt and jeans is fine as long as it fits and suits you.
If you need to go shopping for clothes, invest in only a few items of clothing of more expensive, higher quality clothing instead of buying lots of mediocre and cheap clothes. An example is Hollister.
Experiment with different styles, and try to find the one that plays off of your strengths and identity, whether you're preppy or going for more of a rocker or hipster look.
Having cool style means wearing what you love no matter how ridiculous you may look. If people make fun of your clothes and you stop wearing them just to please people, then you're not being cool.
3-6. Style your hair.
Just because you have nice clothes doesn't mean you can forget about your hair. Make sure it's in a style that suits you and that is comfortable and easy to maintain. Wash your hair regularly, and if it's short, try different hairstyles.
If you need to get a haircut or want a new style, the best method is to splurge on an expert hair stylist once, take a picture of that haircut, and get it done at cheaper places later on. If they style your hair in a certain way that you like, have them show you how to recreate that look on your own.
3-7. Don't forget to smile.
You may think that it's not cool to smile, or that only dorks grin from ear to ear for no reason, but quite the opposite is true. If you're nice and smile at people, they'll feel welcomed and will want to get to know you. If you're too cool to say hi, then you'll just be hanging out by yourself in the corner while everyone else has a good time.
A smile makes a lasting impression. Even if people don't know you well, they'll like you if you smile at them. And if you don't smile at them, they'll think you're a jerk or a grouch before they even get to know you.
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Don't smoke. People hate smoke blowing in their face. It leads to bad breath, makes your clothes smell like smoke and is unhealthy overall.[4]
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People love to hang out with cool guys because they make them feel good, laugh and smile.
Don't be afraid of anything. Be spontaneous!
Warnings
Do not hit on every woman you encounter. This will leave you with a negative reputation.
Know that not everyone will like you, its normal. You can't please everyone. Be sure to accept people who reject you for whatever reason it is.
Copying other people's style is okay, but only on the path to developing your own personal style. Any personal style or behavior that you have originally came from your observing other people, but eventually you should pick and choose what you want to adopt as your own.
Do not get caught up in pettiness or rivalries. The best solution is to ignore this kind of drama and move onto something more worth your time.
Cool guys don't put other people down to feel better about themselves. Even if these types of people are popular at one point, they will eventually lose friends and respect.[5]
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Don't be afraid to gently tease a person who is receptive to it.\\n1-3. Be witty.\\nBeing witty is a part of being cool. If you want to be a really cool guy, then you have to be able to make people laugh, to speak on your toes, and to maintain a light and winning banter with almost anyone who calms your way. To be witty, you also have to be sharp, and to offer incisive and clever comments at the right moment.\\nIf someone says something funny, don't just laugh -- answer back with a funny comment of your own.\\nWatch other witty people you admire, from comedians to your funny uncle, to see if you can pick up on their tricks.\\nYou'll need perfect timing to be witty. Deliver your jokes when everyone is listening and loudly enough for everyone to hear. If you make a joke too quietly or when someone else is talking, it won't be cool if you try it again.\\n1-4. Be social.\\nDon't be fooled by the movies. 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People love talking about their interests, and will think you're cool for caring enough to ask.\\n1-7. Be positive.\\nYou don't have to give everyone a thumbs up or grin like a fool to be positive. Being positive just means being upbeat, looking for the good in things, and talking about the things that make you happy instead of bringing people down. Nobody likes a person who is negative and constantly complaining, so you should avoid doing so when you can. Instead, focus on the positive things, and you'll see how quickly people think you're cool.\\nEvery time you hear yourself saying something negative, say three positive things to counter what you've just said.\\nIt's okay to complain or be negative once in a while if you're really feeling upset or annoyed. Just don't make it a habit.\\nIf someone else is being negative, you can also make that person feel better by making him see the good side of things and by making him laugh. 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Pursue your interests.\\nWhether you join a club at school or take a screenwriting class in your community, doing something that you love will not only make you more interesting, but it can help you make new friends. Don't be shy about pursuing your interests, even if some of the things you love may not be traditionally considered to be \\\"cool.\\\"\\nIf you join a club, you can eventually have a leadership position in the organization, which is very cool.\\n2-5. Pick up a skill.\\nThe more you can do, the cooler you'll be. Learn how to fix a car, build a table, finish a deck, or even to cook the perfect steak. If you have a skill, you'll not only be useful to others, but people will think it's cool that you took the initiative to do something.\\nOnce you've mastered a skill, you can even teach it to someone else. Now that's cool.\\n2-6. Develop your interests by yourself.\\nThough certain interests, like team sports, can be developed better in groups, part of being cool is being able to spend time learning things on your own. Anyone who is comfortable spending time by himself and who even likes spending time by himself is much cooler than a person who is so socially eager that he's desperate to always be hanging out with people.\\nSpend time learning to play the guitar, picking up a new language, or just writing down your thoughts in a journal. This will help you figure out who you are and you'll become cooler in the process.\\nIf you're always around, people will take you for granted. But if you're sometimes busy because you're catching up on some alone time, then people will appreciate you more when you're around.\\n3. Make a Good Impression\\n3-1. Have the right body language.\\nThough being cool should come from within, people can make assumptions about you if your body language indicates that you're insecure and unsure of yourself. To have cool body language, just stand tall, keep your head high and your shoulders open, showing that you're proud to be taking up space.\\nDon't hunch over, or you'll look like you're cowering.\\nDon't cross your arms over your chest, or you'll look uncomfortable and insecure. Instead, keep your arms at your sides or use them to gesture as you speak.\\nDon't fidget with your hands or your clothes, or you'll look insecure.\\n3-2. Maintain good hygiene.\\nHave you ever met a cool guy who reeks of sweat and never brushes his teeth? Didn't think so. Shower everyday, use deodorant to cover up body odor, brush and floss your teeth twice a day and wash your hair regularly. Carry some mints or gum around with you to get rid of bad breath. Be sure to also wash your clothes regularly.\\n3-3. Look after your skin.\\nWash your face with warm water and rub on some moisturizer afterwards. If you have dry skin, moisturize with a product meant for dry skin. Avoid products with fragrances if your skin is sensitive. For oily and combination skin, use a moisturizer without alcohol and that is meant for oily/combination skin. For acne problems, Clearasil offers a number of products ranging from face washes to pimple creams.\\nWatch what you eat and drink. A healthy diet and drinking lots of water is also great for your complexion. Oily and greasy foods will make your complexion more oily and greasy, too.\\n3-4. Be assertive.\\nDon't be afraid to take up space when you sit or when you move around. Don't be afraid to be louder, even though it will create some social pressure. When you speak, slow down your words to show that you value what you're saying and you're not worried that you'll get cut off. Make good and fearless eye contact.\\nAt the same time, know when to let other people take center stage. You can't assert yourself 100% of the time.\\n3-5. Have cool style.\\nMake sure your clothes fit properly and actually look good on you. Try to find colors or patterns that especially look good with your skin tone, and wear them most. Even a simple wardrobe like a t-shirt and jeans is fine as long as it fits and suits you.\\nIf you need to go shopping for clothes, invest in only a few items of clothing of more expensive, higher quality clothing instead of buying lots of mediocre and cheap clothes. An example is Hollister.\\nExperiment with different styles, and try to find the one that plays off of your strengths and identity, whether you're preppy or going for more of a rocker or hipster look.\\nHaving cool style means wearing what you love no matter how ridiculous you may look. If people make fun of your clothes and you stop wearing them just to please people, then you're not being cool.\\n3-6. Style your hair.\\nJust because you have nice clothes doesn't mean you can forget about your hair. Make sure it's in a style that suits you and that is comfortable and easy to maintain. Wash your hair regularly, and if it's short, try different hairstyles.\\nIf you need to get a haircut or want a new style, the best method is to splurge on an expert hair stylist once, take a picture of that haircut, and get it done at cheaper places later on. If they style your hair in a certain way that you like, have them show you how to recreate that look on your own.\\n3-7. Don't forget to smile.\\nYou may think that it's not cool to smile, or that only dorks grin from ear to ear for no reason, but quite the opposite is true. If you're nice and smile at people, they'll feel welcomed and will want to get to know you. If you're too cool to say hi, then you'll just be hanging out by yourself in the corner while everyone else has a good time.\\nA smile makes a lasting impression. Even if people don't know you well, they'll like you if you smile at them. And if you don't smile at them, they'll think you're a jerk or a grouch before they even get to know you.\\nTips\\nDon't smoke. People hate smoke blowing in their face. It leads to bad breath, makes your clothes smell like smoke and is unhealthy overall.[4]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nCenters for Disease Control and Prevention\\nMain public health institute for the US, run by the Dept. of Health and Human Services\\nGo to source\\nPeople love to hang out with cool guys because they make them feel good, laugh and smile.\\nDon't be afraid of anything. Be spontaneous!\\nWarnings\\nDo not hit on every woman you encounter. This will leave you with a negative reputation.\\nKnow that not everyone will like you, its normal. You can't please everyone. Be sure to accept people who reject you for whatever reason it is.\\nCopying other people's style is okay, but only on the path to developing your own personal style. Any personal style or behavior that you have originally came from your observing other people, but eventually you should pick and choose what you want to adopt as your own.\\nDo not get caught up in pettiness or rivalries. The best solution is to ignore this kind of drama and move onto something more worth your time.\\nCool guys don't put other people down to feel better about themselves. Even if these types of people are popular at one point, they will eventually lose friends and respect.[5]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It's not easy to be a really cool guy. To be cool, you have to be an individual, not care what people think, and treat others with kindness and respect without seeming too eager. But if you really want to be cool, you do have to pay attention to your looks, develop a unique and engaging personality, and project a cool image to the world. If you want to know how to be a really cool guy, just follow these steps.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop a Personality\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Looks are important, but not nearly as important as being who you are. Learn to be less concerned with how you come off to other people and more concerned with having fun, joking around, talking about your interests, and doing what you want to do. If you can make anybody laugh, that's a great start.\\nDon't be ashamed to let people see what makes you unique. If you're into birdwatching, cool. But if you want to hide that you're into birdwatching, then you're not being cool at all.\\nDon't hide where you came from. If you're from the South and have a Southern drawl, don't try to hide it because you live up North. People will appreciate that you're different.\\nDon't act too cool to care. If you really care who wins the baseball game that night, show it. Don't act like nothing matters to you just to be cool.\\nAlways be yourself. You can try to improve parts of your personality, but being authentic means not being afraid to be who you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be charming.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be a really cool guy, then you have to know how to charm everyone in your presence. A charming person walks confidently into a room and can talk to anyone he passes with ease, humor, and a smile on his face. You should be able to flatter an eighty-year-old woman or crack up an eight-year-old boy; to be truly charming, you need the magic touch that lets you make everyone feel at ease in your presence.\\nTo charm a person, show more of an interest in him than in talking about yourself. Ask about a person's interests or feelings and nod intently and make eye contact to show that you actually care.\\nTo be charming, remember a person's name when you meet him, and always use it the next time you see him.\\nLaugh easily. Charming people are always laughing or making other people laugh. Don't be afraid to gently tease a person who is receptive to it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be witty.\", \"描述\": \"Being witty is a part of being cool. If you want to be a really cool guy, then you have to be able to make people laugh, to speak on your toes, and to maintain a light and winning banter with almost anyone who calms your way. To be witty, you also have to be sharp, and to offer incisive and clever comments at the right moment.\\nIf someone says something funny, don't just laugh -- answer back with a funny comment of your own.\\nWatch other witty people you admire, from comedians to your funny uncle, to see if you can pick up on their tricks.\\nYou'll need perfect timing to be witty. Deliver your jokes when everyone is listening and loudly enough for everyone to hear. If you make a joke too quietly or when someone else is talking, it won't be cool if you try it again.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be social.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be fooled by the movies. Cool guys don't pose in the parking lot on their motorcycle until they're surrounded by women. Call up people, make plans, take risks, and make friends that you can trust and respect. If you're social and hang out with a lot of people, then you'll look cool because you have a variety of friends.\\nAccept invitations. Don't turn people down just because you don't think it will be \\\"cool\\\" to show up somewhere.\\nDon't always be social. Though it's great to hang out with others, give yourself some time to do your own thing and develop your personality.\\nBe friendly -- to everyone. Don't only be social and nice to the cool kids -- truly cool people are cool with everyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be confident.\", \"描述\": \"You could be amazingly good looking, but people won't notice you if you speak timidly or have slouched posture. Hold your head up and your chest out, and look everyone in the eye. Work on your self esteem to get rid of any problems you may have with insecurity. This is not an overnight process, but you won't gain respect from others until you respect yourself.\\nWalk tall with your head high, showing that you're proud of who you are.\\nSpeak clearly and slowly enough so that everyone hears what you have to say.\\nMake eye contact when you talk to people. This shows that you're comfortable with yourself.\\nDon't be afraid to laugh at yourself. This shows that you're even more confident. You don't have to be self-deprecating to be able to laugh at yourself sometime.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Show an interest in others.\", \"描述\": \"Who wants to hear someone talk about himself all the time? Find out what your friends are interested in or working on and ask them about it. This will earn you a reputation as someone who is caring and considerate.\\nWhen you talk to someone, ask, \\\"How are you?\\\" This shows that you actually care about the person.\\nAsk a person about his interests. People love talking about their interests, and will think you're cool for caring enough to ask.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be positive.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to give everyone a thumbs up or grin like a fool to be positive. Being positive just means being upbeat, looking for the good in things, and talking about the things that make you happy instead of bringing people down. Nobody likes a person who is negative and constantly complaining, so you should avoid doing so when you can. Instead, focus on the positive things, and you'll see how quickly people think you're cool.\\nEvery time you hear yourself saying something negative, say three positive things to counter what you've just said.\\nIt's okay to complain or be negative once in a while if you're really feeling upset or annoyed. Just don't make it a habit.\\nIf someone else is being negative, you can also make that person feel better by making him see the good side of things and by making him laugh. People will appreciate your ability to make them feel better. That's very cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't put people down.\", \"描述\": \"You may think it's cool to make fun of people who are less cool than you, or calling people \\\"losers\\\" because they don't meet your standards of coolness. However, putting people down doesn't make you look better -- instead, it makes you look insecure and desperate to make other people look bad so people see you in a more favorable light.\\nInstead of putting people down, you can tease or playfully poke fun at your friends. They'll tease you back and you'll both have fun, instead of entering a storm cloud of negativity.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop Your Interests\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read a book.\", \"描述\": \"Read several books. Always have a good book at home that you are reading. Books can be a great icebreaker and can stimulate conversation at parties. Plus, someone who is well-read is always attractive. The more you read, the more you know, and the more you'll develop a unique perspective on the world.\\nIf people call you a nerd, just laugh it off. Anything is cool if you make it cool.\\nReading will also make it easier for you to talk to a variety of people, not just one narrow social circle. Truly cool people can talk to almost anyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep up on current events.\", \"描述\": \"You don't need to tear through several newspapers per day, but having a basic understanding of what's going on in the world will give you a reputation of being smart and knowledgeable, both of which are attractive qualities. This process can be as simple as going on Google News and reading two or three of the biggest stories each day.\\nYou don't have to sound like a know-it-all to bring up something interesting and relevant. People will think it's cool that you have time to think about the world -- not just yourself.\\nIf you have no idea what's going on in the world, you'll look clueless -- and that's just not cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get physically active.\", \"描述\": \"Being physically fit and active is already cool. Even if you're not a big athlete, going to the gym or running can get your blood flowing and can improve your physique. Being physically active will also develop your confidence, which is very cool.\\nSports are also a great way to make new friends and bond with other people. Join a sports team or two in your school, and see how many new friends you make.\\nPhysical activity also releases endorphins which make you feel better, improving your overall mood and making you more appealing to hang out with.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pursue your interests.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you join a club at school or take a screenwriting class in your community, doing something that you love will not only make you more interesting, but it can help you make new friends. Don't be shy about pursuing your interests, even if some of the things you love may not be traditionally considered to be \\\"cool.\\\"\\nIf you join a club, you can eventually have a leadership position in the organization, which is very cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pick up a skill.\", \"描述\": \"The more you can do, the cooler you'll be. Learn how to fix a car, build a table, finish a deck, or even to cook the perfect steak. If you have a skill, you'll not only be useful to others, but people will think it's cool that you took the initiative to do something.\\nOnce you've mastered a skill, you can even teach it to someone else. Now that's cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Develop your interests by yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Though certain interests, like team sports, can be developed better in groups, part of being cool is being able to spend time learning things on your own. Anyone who is comfortable spending time by himself and who even likes spending time by himself is much cooler than a person who is so socially eager that he's desperate to always be hanging out with people.\\nSpend time learning to play the guitar, picking up a new language, or just writing down your thoughts in a journal. This will help you figure out who you are and you'll become cooler in the process.\\nIf you're always around, people will take you for granted. But if you're sometimes busy because you're catching up on some alone time, then people will appreciate you more when you're around.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make a Good Impression\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have the right body language.\", \"描述\": \"Though being cool should come from within, people can make assumptions about you if your body language indicates that you're insecure and unsure of yourself. To have cool body language, just stand tall, keep your head high and your shoulders open, showing that you're proud to be taking up space.\\nDon't hunch over, or you'll look like you're cowering.\\nDon't cross your arms over your chest, or you'll look uncomfortable and insecure. Instead, keep your arms at your sides or use them to gesture as you speak.\\nDon't fidget with your hands or your clothes, or you'll look insecure.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"Have you ever met a cool guy who reeks of sweat and never brushes his teeth? Didn't think so. Shower everyday, use deodorant to cover up body odor, brush and floss your teeth twice a day and wash your hair regularly. Carry some mints or gum around with you to get rid of bad breath. Be sure to also wash your clothes regularly.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look after your skin.\", \"描述\": \"Wash your face with warm water and rub on some moisturizer afterwards. If you have dry skin, moisturize with a product meant for dry skin. Avoid products with fragrances if your skin is sensitive. For oily and combination skin, use a moisturizer without alcohol and that is meant for oily/combination skin. For acne problems, Clearasil offers a number of products ranging from face washes to pimple creams.\\nWatch what you eat and drink. A healthy diet and drinking lots of water is also great for your complexion. Oily and greasy foods will make your complexion more oily and greasy, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be assertive.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be afraid to take up space when you sit or when you move around. Don't be afraid to be louder, even though it will create some social pressure. When you speak, slow down your words to show that you value what you're saying and you're not worried that you'll get cut off. Make good and fearless eye contact.\\nAt the same time, know when to let other people take center stage. You can't assert yourself 100% of the time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have cool style.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure your clothes fit properly and actually look good on you. Try to find colors or patterns that especially look good with your skin tone, and wear them most. Even a simple wardrobe like a t-shirt and jeans is fine as long as it fits and suits you.\\nIf you need to go shopping for clothes, invest in only a few items of clothing of more expensive, higher quality clothing instead of buying lots of mediocre and cheap clothes. An example is Hollister.\\nExperiment with different styles, and try to find the one that plays off of your strengths and identity, whether you're preppy or going for more of a rocker or hipster look.\\nHaving cool style means wearing what you love no matter how ridiculous you may look. If people make fun of your clothes and you stop wearing them just to please people, then you're not being cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Style your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Just because you have nice clothes doesn't mean you can forget about your hair. Make sure it's in a style that suits you and that is comfortable and easy to maintain. Wash your hair regularly, and if it's short, try different hairstyles.\\nIf you need to get a haircut or want a new style, the best method is to splurge on an expert hair stylist once, take a picture of that haircut, and get it done at cheaper places later on. If they style your hair in a certain way that you like, have them show you how to recreate that look on your own.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Don't forget to smile.\", \"描述\": \"You may think that it's not cool to smile, or that only dorks grin from ear to ear for no reason, but quite the opposite is true. If you're nice and smile at people, they'll feel welcomed and will want to get to know you. If you're too cool to say hi, then you'll just be hanging out by yourself in the corner while everyone else has a good time.\\nA smile makes a lasting impression. Even if people don't know you well, they'll like you if you smile at them. 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1. Thinking Like a Rebel
1-1. Hold unpopular views on political and social issues.
A central part of being a rebel is to develop views that go against popular, traditional views.
Musical rebels like Kurt Cobain and Tupac Shakur based much of their work and philosophies on fighting the establishment, defying expectations of their peers, and acting the opposite of others' expectations. They did what they felt, said what they believed, and didn't care about what others thought.
The United States and other free countries were founded on unpopular beliefs. In the 1960s during the civil rights movement, interracial marriage was deemed illegal in certain states. Segregated marriage was a popular belief and is now considered wrong. The people who fought against it are now credited as being upholders of freedom and thinkers who were ahead of their time.
Remember that "popular" is relative. People at your school may believe partying and doing drugs is the popular social norm. Defy this norm by being clean and proudly advertising that to others.
1-2. Question popular and common beliefs.
Part of holding unpopular views is to question things that most people believe at face value.
The French scientist Georges Cuvier tried to convince people that African-Americans were not as smart as Caucasians because of their skull shape and size. His student, Friedrich Tiedemann, questioned this theory and showed that there was no scientific evidence to support this commonly accepted "truth."
Questioning your beliefs and the beliefs of others is difficult, but rewarding work. Remember that accepting things at face value is common among people because it is the easiest. When you question things, you will naturally stand out from the pack because the act of questioning tends to be rare.
Questioning things isn't just a way to stand out, it is a way to arrive at the truth. When you question things that turn out to be true, you will be held in high regard by your peers. Most people in the 16th century believed that the Earth was flat. Pythagoras, the person who proved the opposite, is now revered in both science and mathematics.
1-3. Know that some conformity is normal.
You don't have to be completely different from everyone around you to be a rebel. Following trends is part of being human, and actually helps us navigate everyday life.
Musicians like Kurt Cobain and Tupac Shakur are credited as being some of the most rebellious artists in their respective genres. Still, they tended to dress and behave in ways that were similar to their peers.
Most people aren't even aware of when they are conforming. Following others is a natural process, but that doesn't mean that you can't consciously notice when you are following others and decide to do otherwise.
You might notice that on the path to being a rebel, you'll find that there are others who share and believe in similar views. This isn't uncommon, and is often the way movements and revolutions start.
1-4. Think of rebellion as a movement, not just an attitude.
Being a rebel involves taking physical action, not just holding and believing in unpopular views.
Even if you're determined to be a rebel without a cause, you will need to show others that you're your own person.
You don't have to hurt other people's feelings or say outlandish things to be a rebel. Being a rebel simply means displaying behaviors that are uncommon or unpopular.
For example, it may be popular and common for your peers to play football and wear letterman jackets on campus. Do the opposite by wearing torn jeans and obscure band t-shirts.
2. Acting Like a Rebel
2-1. Put your own spin on the rules or on common behavior.
You don't necessarily have to break the rules to be a rebel. All you have to do is act in a way that stands out from what's common.
For example, if you play sports and have a letterman jacket, stand out from your athletic peers by removing the sleeves of your letterman and wearing it like a vest.
If you are required to call teachers proper names like "Mr. Moser" or "Mrs. LaGuerta," put a playful spin on it by calling them "Mr. Most-definitely" or "Mrs. L."
If your school requires you to wear a uniform, like a pair of trousers and a smart collared shirt, throw some personality into your wardrobe by leaving your shirt untucked. Or, you could tuck your shirt into trousers with holes at the knees.
If your peers tend to walk slowly while looking down at their phones, grab some attention by skipping through the hallways on campus. Strut proudly, sing a song while skipping, swing your arms like a gorilla. People tend to remember things that are unusual or difficult to understand.
2-2. Speak your mind, especially when others are afraid to.
Speaking your mind doesn't mean just blurting out whatever you are thinking at a given moment. It means advocating for your opinions and beliefs, especially on issues you feel strongly about.
You may feel that your cafeteria is severely lacking in yummy foods like burgers and tacos. Tell the school administration that they should include more foods that teenagers enjoy.
If you can't rally up people to present your case, do it by yourself. Having numbers may be a powerful way of showing people that you mean business, but it isn't the only way. As long as you provide solid evidence for your beliefs, you should be fine (for example, good tasting foods help learning because they increase serotonin levels, and high serotonin is essential for memory).
If your school is hosting a poetry slam, write some spoken word about how the cafeteria food sucks. Paint a picture of foods that you want to eat at school, and hang it on people's lockers. Sing a song during lunch break about people's choice of what to put in their bodies. Art is a great way of getting people to see the merits of your views and expressing yourself in creative ways.
2-3. Do what you want to do, not what people expect from you.
Doing what's in your heart may possibly be at the ultimate core of what it means to be a rebel.
If you feel an uncontrollable urge to dance, join the dance squad or dance feverishly in the quad during lunchtime. If you like to argue with people about their beliefs, join the debating club and pick people apart in a structured, diplomatic manner. Rebelling isn't just about using your voice, it's about using your body.
Find something you are truly passionate about and align your actions with that passion. If you hate animal cruelty, picket the school cafeteria queue for hamburgers with signs of cute baby calves. Rebels with a specific cause tend to be the most prominent and memorable.
2-4. Dress outrageously.
Making a spectacle of yourself is a great way to make people do a double-take. Dare to grab hold of people's attention from everyday, mundane routines.
Outrageous is subjective. If your school tends to have multiple people who sport mohawks and ripped jeans, dress in a rock/preppy fashion. Wear a long sleeved collared shirt with the sleeves ripped off. Wear dress slacks with holes in them. Wear a tie that is loose and extremely loud.
Rebellion is all about contradiction. If you can create contradiction within your wardrobe, people might notice you even more. For example, wear a mohawk but also wear thick framed glasses. Wear a pair of worn sneakers with a business skirt. Throw a nice blazer over a Black Sabbath t-shirt and jeans.
Sport accessories that are strange but relevant to your personality. If you love teddy bears, have a teddy bear keyring attached to your keys but dye the fur your favorite colors. Dye your hair blue to match your outfit. Don't be afraid to clash and look "weird" to others.
2-5. Shrug off people's negative opinions about you.
Focus on "doing you," not on pleasing others.
It will be common for people to mock and tease you for being different. Though you shouldn't lay down and accept their cruelty, you should also not take any of what they say to heart. People tend to fear things that are strange or different.
If you find yourself being mocked and teased for being unusual, flaunt what makes you weird and embrace it. Write "weird" or "strange" on a t-shirt and wear it to school. When people see that those words don't affect you, they'll know they don't have any power over you and will find calling you those names useless.
If people call you really hurtful or offensive things, tell a teacher. The reason people tease others is to "get them in line," and is probably a remnant of the evolutionary behavior to regulate the group. Still, you shouldn't have to experience hurtful things for wanting to be different.
2-6. Stand up for your beliefs and for people who share them.
Shrugging off ridicule is a great trait to have, but knowing when to advocate for yourself and others is also very critical.
Don't let people tease you for being different. You don't have to fight them physically or verbally. A simple "leave me alone, I'm not hurting anybody" is enough.
Teachers may tell you to act, dress, or behave a certain way because it is "part of the rules." If it genuinely is part of the rules, you may be better off obeying them. If your teacher is simply telling to behave a certain way because it is the norm, tell your teacher that you're not breaking any rules.
If you see someone who looks, acts, and believes the things you do, ally yourself with them. Rebels don't have to be lone wolves. Having a friend with similar beliefs and attitudes is a great way to expand on what makes you a rebel and come up with rebellious ways to express yourself.
3. Rebelling Responsibly
3-1. Pick your battles wisely.
You don't have to fight the school administration over cafeteria items. Maybe freedoms of expression, like the right to wear certain band t-shirts or play certain music, is a more valued issue.
If doing a certain action - like questioning your teacher when she tells you to tuck in your shirt - means getting sent to the principal's office and possibly getting expelled, choose whether or not you believe enough in that action to bear the consequences.
Fight for issues that matter the most to you. You may be a fan of Led Zeppelin, but maybe being a vegetarian is more important. Forego your plea for "rock music during lunchtime" for "more menu alternatives other than meat."
3-2. Know the difference between rebellion and recklessness.
If your actions have a possibility of seriously hurting yourself or others, avoid doing them. Rebellion is about standing out; you don't need to do harmful things to do so.
It's normal for teenagers to be curious and to experiment. If you truly are curious and want to experiment with alcohol, drugs, or sex, be safe and cautious. Know that you don't have to do these things in order to be thought of as a rebel.
Remember that being a rebel means fighting conformity. Within your rebellious group, you may still face peer pressure to experiment with drugs or alcohol. If that is something you truly don't feel comfortable doing, don't do it. Tell your friends that you're "being an even bigger rebel" by not following them.
Some people think that being a rebel means damaging or vandalizing property. You don't have to be infamous in order to be a rebel. If you want to express yourself visually, decorate your own property with spray paint, stickers, and permanent markers.
3-3. Remember that your actions always have consequences.
If being a rebel to you means constantly disobeying rules and fighting with other students, know that there are other consequences besides being "known" as a rebel.
You don't have to be violent and unruly to be a rebel. Sure, you can talk tough and walk with your chin up, but you don't have to harm people to be noticed. Being a rebel is about being original, and demeaning others to gain popularity is too common among many people.
Decide whether being expelled and losing an opportunity at an education is really worth being a rebel. Many political rebels like Tupac Shakur, Malcolm X, and Mahatma Gandhi were focused on getting an education as a form of rebellion. As the old saying goes, "knowledge is power," and being a rebel is about showing individual power.
Tips
Remember that regardless of what anyone else says, the key to rebellion is your attitude and not your dress sense. You can rebel just as well wearing a Disney Princess costume as if you were wearing something that looks as though it's been plucked from the Sex Pistols' wardrobe. In fact what you wear is only part of rebellion, and thus a rebel doesn't mean you have to be a jerk. Tons of rebels (including goth and punk kids) hang out with the normal, nice people of the world.
Remember that getting arrested can ruin your life. Be smart. Actions like stealing something as small as a Candy Bar, or wallet, can get you in big trouble. And chances are, you won't want to be a rebel forever. Chances are, you'll grow up, look back and feel really regretful about your decisions in the past.
Even though looks aren't everything, good clothes to wear are leather jackets and jeans. You can even dye your hair if you want to.
Warnings
You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. Don't do something stupid just because your friends are doing it.
Always be prepared for the consequences of this lifestyle. People will try to stereotype you for being how you want to be.
Don't try too hard to be a rebel. If you're trying too much then it isn't coming naturally so you should stop.
Don't get too out of control unless you really want to.
Don't force yourself to be a rebel because it's cool. If you don't enjoy defying things and you think you feel like you'd rather live inside the lines, do that. If you force yourself to be a rebel, things could go wrong, and you could be tagged a poser immediately.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Thinking Like a Rebel\\n1-1. Hold unpopular views on political and social issues.\\nA central part of being a rebel is to develop views that go against popular, traditional views.\\nMusical rebels like Kurt Cobain and Tupac Shakur based much of their work and philosophies on fighting the establishment, defying expectations of their peers, and acting the opposite of others' expectations. They did what they felt, said what they believed, and didn't care about what others thought.\\nThe United States and other free countries were founded on unpopular beliefs. In the 1960s during the civil rights movement, interracial marriage was deemed illegal in certain states. Segregated marriage was a popular belief and is now considered wrong. The people who fought against it are now credited as being upholders of freedom and thinkers who were ahead of their time.\\nRemember that \\\"popular\\\" is relative. People at your school may believe partying and doing drugs is the popular social norm. Defy this norm by being clean and proudly advertising that to others.\\n1-2. Question popular and common beliefs.\\nPart of holding unpopular views is to question things that most people believe at face value.\\nThe French scientist Georges Cuvier tried to convince people that African-Americans were not as smart as Caucasians because of their skull shape and size. His student, Friedrich Tiedemann, questioned this theory and showed that there was no scientific evidence to support this commonly accepted \\\"truth.\\\"\\nQuestioning your beliefs and the beliefs of others is difficult, but rewarding work. Remember that accepting things at face value is common among people because it is the easiest. When you question things, you will naturally stand out from the pack because the act of questioning tends to be rare.\\nQuestioning things isn't just a way to stand out, it is a way to arrive at the truth. When you question things that turn out to be true, you will be held in high regard by your peers. Most people in the 16th century believed that the Earth was flat. Pythagoras, the person who proved the opposite, is now revered in both science and mathematics.\\n1-3. Know that some conformity is normal.\\nYou don't have to be completely different from everyone around you to be a rebel. Following trends is part of being human, and actually helps us navigate everyday life.\\nMusicians like Kurt Cobain and Tupac Shakur are credited as being some of the most rebellious artists in their respective genres. Still, they tended to dress and behave in ways that were similar to their peers.\\nMost people aren't even aware of when they are conforming. Following others is a natural process, but that doesn't mean that you can't consciously notice when you are following others and decide to do otherwise.\\nYou might notice that on the path to being a rebel, you'll find that there are others who share and believe in similar views. This isn't uncommon, and is often the way movements and revolutions start.\\n1-4. Think of rebellion as a movement, not just an attitude.\\nBeing a rebel involves taking physical action, not just holding and believing in unpopular views.\\nEven if you're determined to be a rebel without a cause, you will need to show others that you're your own person.\\nYou don't have to hurt other people's feelings or say outlandish things to be a rebel. Being a rebel simply means displaying behaviors that are uncommon or unpopular.\\nFor example, it may be popular and common for your peers to play football and wear letterman jackets on campus. Do the opposite by wearing torn jeans and obscure band t-shirts.\\n2. Acting Like a Rebel\\n2-1. Put your own spin on the rules or on common behavior.\\nYou don't necessarily have to break the rules to be a rebel. All you have to do is act in a way that stands out from what's common.\\nFor example, if you play sports and have a letterman jacket, stand out from your athletic peers by removing the sleeves of your letterman and wearing it like a vest.\\nIf you are required to call teachers proper names like \\\"Mr. Moser\\\" or \\\"Mrs. LaGuerta,\\\" put a playful spin on it by calling them \\\"Mr. Most-definitely\\\" or \\\"Mrs. L.\\\"\\nIf your school requires you to wear a uniform, like a pair of trousers and a smart collared shirt, throw some personality into your wardrobe by leaving your shirt untucked. Or, you could tuck your shirt into trousers with holes at the knees.\\nIf your peers tend to walk slowly while looking down at their phones, grab some attention by skipping through the hallways on campus. Strut proudly, sing a song while skipping, swing your arms like a gorilla. People tend to remember things that are unusual or difficult to understand.\\n2-2. Speak your mind, especially when others are afraid to.\\nSpeaking your mind doesn't mean just blurting out whatever you are thinking at a given moment. It means advocating for your opinions and beliefs, especially on issues you feel strongly about.\\nYou may feel that your cafeteria is severely lacking in yummy foods like burgers and tacos. Tell the school administration that they should include more foods that teenagers enjoy.\\nIf you can't rally up people to present your case, do it by yourself. Having numbers may be a powerful way of showing people that you mean business, but it isn't the only way. As long as you provide solid evidence for your beliefs, you should be fine (for example, good tasting foods help learning because they increase serotonin levels, and high serotonin is essential for memory).\\nIf your school is hosting a poetry slam, write some spoken word about how the cafeteria food sucks. Paint a picture of foods that you want to eat at school, and hang it on people's lockers. Sing a song during lunch break about people's choice of what to put in their bodies. Art is a great way of getting people to see the merits of your views and expressing yourself in creative ways.\\n2-3. Do what you want to do, not what people expect from you.\\nDoing what's in your heart may possibly be at the ultimate core of what it means to be a rebel.\\nIf you feel an uncontrollable urge to dance, join the dance squad or dance feverishly in the quad during lunchtime. If you like to argue with people about their beliefs, join the debating club and pick people apart in a structured, diplomatic manner. Rebelling isn't just about using your voice, it's about using your body.\\nFind something you are truly passionate about and align your actions with that passion. If you hate animal cruelty, picket the school cafeteria queue for hamburgers with signs of cute baby calves. Rebels with a specific cause tend to be the most prominent and memorable.\\n2-4. Dress outrageously.\\nMaking a spectacle of yourself is a great way to make people do a double-take. Dare to grab hold of people's attention from everyday, mundane routines.\\nOutrageous is subjective. If your school tends to have multiple people who sport mohawks and ripped jeans, dress in a rock/preppy fashion. Wear a long sleeved collared shirt with the sleeves ripped off. Wear dress slacks with holes in them. Wear a tie that is loose and extremely loud.\\nRebellion is all about contradiction. If you can create contradiction within your wardrobe, people might notice you even more. For example, wear a mohawk but also wear thick framed glasses. Wear a pair of worn sneakers with a business skirt. Throw a nice blazer over a Black Sabbath t-shirt and jeans.\\nSport accessories that are strange but relevant to your personality. If you love teddy bears, have a teddy bear keyring attached to your keys but dye the fur your favorite colors. Dye your hair blue to match your outfit. Don't be afraid to clash and look \\\"weird\\\" to others.\\n2-5. Shrug off people's negative opinions about you.\\nFocus on \\\"doing you,\\\" not on pleasing others.\\nIt will be common for people to mock and tease you for being different. Though you shouldn't lay down and accept their cruelty, you should also not take any of what they say to heart. People tend to fear things that are strange or different.\\nIf you find yourself being mocked and teased for being unusual, flaunt what makes you weird and embrace it. Write \\\"weird\\\" or \\\"strange\\\" on a t-shirt and wear it to school. When people see that those words don't affect you, they'll know they don't have any power over you and will find calling you those names useless.\\nIf people call you really hurtful or offensive things, tell a teacher. The reason people tease others is to \\\"get them in line,\\\" and is probably a remnant of the evolutionary behavior to regulate the group. Still, you shouldn't have to experience hurtful things for wanting to be different.\\n2-6. Stand up for your beliefs and for people who share them.\\nShrugging off ridicule is a great trait to have, but knowing when to advocate for yourself and others is also very critical.\\nDon't let people tease you for being different. You don't have to fight them physically or verbally. A simple \\\"leave me alone, I'm not hurting anybody\\\" is enough.\\nTeachers may tell you to act, dress, or behave a certain way because it is \\\"part of the rules.\\\" If it genuinely is part of the rules, you may be better off obeying them. If your teacher is simply telling to behave a certain way because it is the norm, tell your teacher that you're not breaking any rules.\\nIf you see someone who looks, acts, and believes the things you do, ally yourself with them. Rebels don't have to be lone wolves. Having a friend with similar beliefs and attitudes is a great way to expand on what makes you a rebel and come up with rebellious ways to express yourself.\\n3. Rebelling Responsibly\\n3-1. Pick your battles wisely.\\nYou don't have to fight the school administration over cafeteria items. Maybe freedoms of expression, like the right to wear certain band t-shirts or play certain music, is a more valued issue.\\nIf doing a certain action - like questioning your teacher when she tells you to tuck in your shirt - means getting sent to the principal's office and possibly getting expelled, choose whether or not you believe enough in that action to bear the consequences.\\nFight for issues that matter the most to you. You may be a fan of Led Zeppelin, but maybe being a vegetarian is more important. Forego your plea for \\\"rock music during lunchtime\\\" for \\\"more menu alternatives other than meat.\\\"\\n3-2. Know the difference between rebellion and recklessness.\\nIf your actions have a possibility of seriously hurting yourself or others, avoid doing them. Rebellion is about standing out; you don't need to do harmful things to do so.\\nIt's normal for teenagers to be curious and to experiment. If you truly are curious and want to experiment with alcohol, drugs, or sex, be safe and cautious. Know that you don't have to do these things in order to be thought of as a rebel.\\nRemember that being a rebel means fighting conformity. Within your rebellious group, you may still face peer pressure to experiment with drugs or alcohol. If that is something you truly don't feel comfortable doing, don't do it. Tell your friends that you're \\\"being an even bigger rebel\\\" by not following them.\\nSome people think that being a rebel means damaging or vandalizing property. You don't have to be infamous in order to be a rebel. If you want to express yourself visually, decorate your own property with spray paint, stickers, and permanent markers.\\n3-3. Remember that your actions always have consequences.\\nIf being a rebel to you means constantly disobeying rules and fighting with other students, know that there are other consequences besides being \\\"known\\\" as a rebel.\\nYou don't have to be violent and unruly to be a rebel. Sure, you can talk tough and walk with your chin up, but you don't have to harm people to be noticed. Being a rebel is about being original, and demeaning others to gain popularity is too common among many people.\\nDecide whether being expelled and losing an opportunity at an education is really worth being a rebel. Many political rebels like Tupac Shakur, Malcolm X, and Mahatma Gandhi were focused on getting an education as a form of rebellion. As the old saying goes, \\\"knowledge is power,\\\" and being a rebel is about showing individual power.\\nTips\\nRemember that regardless of what anyone else says, the key to rebellion is your attitude and not your dress sense. You can rebel just as well wearing a Disney Princess costume as if you were wearing something that looks as though it's been plucked from the Sex Pistols' wardrobe. In fact what you wear is only part of rebellion, and thus a rebel doesn't mean you have to be a jerk. Tons of rebels (including goth and punk kids) hang out with the normal, nice people of the world.\\nRemember that getting arrested can ruin your life. Be smart. Actions like stealing something as small as a Candy Bar, or wallet, can get you in big trouble. And chances are, you won't want to be a rebel forever. Chances are, you'll grow up, look back and feel really regretful about your decisions in the past.\\nEven though looks aren't everything, good clothes to wear are leather jackets and jeans. You can even dye your hair if you want to.\\nWarnings\\nYou don't need to prove yourself to anyone. Don't do something stupid just because your friends are doing it.\\nAlways be prepared for the consequences of this lifestyle. People will try to stereotype you for being how you want to be.\\nDon't try too hard to be a rebel. If you're trying too much then it isn't coming naturally so you should stop.\\nDon't get too out of control unless you really want to.\\nDon't force yourself to be a rebel because it's cool. If you don't enjoy defying things and you think you feel like you'd rather live inside the lines, do that. If you force yourself to be a rebel, things could go wrong, and you could be tagged a poser immediately.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The author Albert Camus once said, \\\"I rebel, therefore I exist.\\\" Rebelling is more than just standing out from the pack, it's establishing your identity and making others notice you. If you're sick of following the herd and feeling ordinary, follow these steps to become a known rebel.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Thinking Like a Rebel\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hold unpopular views on political and social issues.\", \"描述\": \"A central part of being a rebel is to develop views that go against popular, traditional views.\\nMusical rebels like Kurt Cobain and Tupac Shakur based much of their work and philosophies on fighting the establishment, defying expectations of their peers, and acting the opposite of others' expectations. They did what they felt, said what they believed, and didn't care about what others thought.\\nThe United States and other free countries were founded on unpopular beliefs. In the 1960s during the civil rights movement, interracial marriage was deemed illegal in certain states. Segregated marriage was a popular belief and is now considered wrong. The people who fought against it are now credited as being upholders of freedom and thinkers who were ahead of their time.\\nRemember that \\\"popular\\\" is relative. People at your school may believe partying and doing drugs is the popular social norm. Defy this norm by being clean and proudly advertising that to others.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Question popular and common beliefs.\", \"描述\": \"Part of holding unpopular views is to question things that most people believe at face value.\\nThe French scientist Georges Cuvier tried to convince people that African-Americans were not as smart as Caucasians because of their skull shape and size. His student, Friedrich Tiedemann, questioned this theory and showed that there was no scientific evidence to support this commonly accepted \\\"truth.\\\"\\nQuestioning your beliefs and the beliefs of others is difficult, but rewarding work. Remember that accepting things at face value is common among people because it is the easiest. When you question things, you will naturally stand out from the pack because the act of questioning tends to be rare.\\nQuestioning things isn't just a way to stand out, it is a way to arrive at the truth. When you question things that turn out to be true, you will be held in high regard by your peers. Most people in the 16th century believed that the Earth was flat. Pythagoras, the person who proved the opposite, is now revered in both science and mathematics.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know that some conformity is normal.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to be completely different from everyone around you to be a rebel. Following trends is part of being human, and actually helps us navigate everyday life.\\nMusicians like Kurt Cobain and Tupac Shakur are credited as being some of the most rebellious artists in their respective genres. Still, they tended to dress and behave in ways that were similar to their peers.\\nMost people aren't even aware of when they are conforming. Following others is a natural process, but that doesn't mean that you can't consciously notice when you are following others and decide to do otherwise.\\nYou might notice that on the path to being a rebel, you'll find that there are others who share and believe in similar views. This isn't uncommon, and is often the way movements and revolutions start.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think of rebellion as a movement, not just an attitude.\", \"描述\": \"Being a rebel involves taking physical action, not just holding and believing in unpopular views.\\nEven if you're determined to be a rebel without a cause, you will need to show others that you're your own person.\\nYou don't have to hurt other people's feelings or say outlandish things to be a rebel. Being a rebel simply means displaying behaviors that are uncommon or unpopular.\\nFor example, it may be popular and common for your peers to play football and wear letterman jackets on campus. Do the opposite by wearing torn jeans and obscure band t-shirts.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acting Like a Rebel\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Put your own spin on the rules or on common behavior.\", \"描述\": \"You don't necessarily have to break the rules to be a rebel. All you have to do is act in a way that stands out from what's common.\\nFor example, if you play sports and have a letterman jacket, stand out from your athletic peers by removing the sleeves of your letterman and wearing it like a vest.\\nIf you are required to call teachers proper names like \\\"Mr. Moser\\\" or \\\"Mrs. LaGuerta,\\\" put a playful spin on it by calling them \\\"Mr. Most-definitely\\\" or \\\"Mrs. L.\\\"\\nIf your school requires you to wear a uniform, like a pair of trousers and a smart collared shirt, throw some personality into your wardrobe by leaving your shirt untucked. Or, you could tuck your shirt into trousers with holes at the knees.\\nIf your peers tend to walk slowly while looking down at their phones, grab some attention by skipping through the hallways on campus. Strut proudly, sing a song while skipping, swing your arms like a gorilla. People tend to remember things that are unusual or difficult to understand.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak your mind, especially when others are afraid to.\", \"描述\": \"Speaking your mind doesn't mean just blurting out whatever you are thinking at a given moment. It means advocating for your opinions and beliefs, especially on issues you feel strongly about.\\nYou may feel that your cafeteria is severely lacking in yummy foods like burgers and tacos. Tell the school administration that they should include more foods that teenagers enjoy.\\nIf you can't rally up people to present your case, do it by yourself. Having numbers may be a powerful way of showing people that you mean business, but it isn't the only way. As long as you provide solid evidence for your beliefs, you should be fine (for example, good tasting foods help learning because they increase serotonin levels, and high serotonin is essential for memory).\\nIf your school is hosting a poetry slam, write some spoken word about how the cafeteria food sucks. Paint a picture of foods that you want to eat at school, and hang it on people's lockers. Sing a song during lunch break about people's choice of what to put in their bodies. Art is a great way of getting people to see the merits of your views and expressing yourself in creative ways.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do what you want to do, not what people expect from you.\", \"描述\": \"Doing what's in your heart may possibly be at the ultimate core of what it means to be a rebel.\\nIf you feel an uncontrollable urge to dance, join the dance squad or dance feverishly in the quad during lunchtime. If you like to argue with people about their beliefs, join the debating club and pick people apart in a structured, diplomatic manner. Rebelling isn't just about using your voice, it's about using your body.\\nFind something you are truly passionate about and align your actions with that passion. If you hate animal cruelty, picket the school cafeteria queue for hamburgers with signs of cute baby calves. Rebels with a specific cause tend to be the most prominent and memorable.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dress outrageously.\", \"描述\": \"Making a spectacle of yourself is a great way to make people do a double-take. Dare to grab hold of people's attention from everyday, mundane routines.\\nOutrageous is subjective. If your school tends to have multiple people who sport mohawks and ripped jeans, dress in a rock/preppy fashion. Wear a long sleeved collared shirt with the sleeves ripped off. Wear dress slacks with holes in them. Wear a tie that is loose and extremely loud.\\nRebellion is all about contradiction. If you can create contradiction within your wardrobe, people might notice you even more. For example, wear a mohawk but also wear thick framed glasses. Wear a pair of worn sneakers with a business skirt. Throw a nice blazer over a Black Sabbath t-shirt and jeans.\\nSport accessories that are strange but relevant to your personality. If you love teddy bears, have a teddy bear keyring attached to your keys but dye the fur your favorite colors. Dye your hair blue to match your outfit. Don't be afraid to clash and look \\\"weird\\\" to others.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Shrug off people's negative opinions about you.\", \"描述\": \"Focus on \\\"doing you,\\\" not on pleasing others.\\nIt will be common for people to mock and tease you for being different. Though you shouldn't lay down and accept their cruelty, you should also not take any of what they say to heart. People tend to fear things that are strange or different.\\nIf you find yourself being mocked and teased for being unusual, flaunt what makes you weird and embrace it. Write \\\"weird\\\" or \\\"strange\\\" on a t-shirt and wear it to school. When people see that those words don't affect you, they'll know they don't have any power over you and will find calling you those names useless.\\nIf people call you really hurtful or offensive things, tell a teacher. The reason people tease others is to \\\"get them in line,\\\" and is probably a remnant of the evolutionary behavior to regulate the group. Still, you shouldn't have to experience hurtful things for wanting to be different.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stand up for your beliefs and for people who share them.\", \"描述\": \"Shrugging off ridicule is a great trait to have, but knowing when to advocate for yourself and others is also very critical.\\nDon't let people tease you for being different. You don't have to fight them physically or verbally. A simple \\\"leave me alone, I'm not hurting anybody\\\" is enough.\\nTeachers may tell you to act, dress, or behave a certain way because it is \\\"part of the rules.\\\" If it genuinely is part of the rules, you may be better off obeying them. If your teacher is simply telling to behave a certain way because it is the norm, tell your teacher that you're not breaking any rules.\\nIf you see someone who looks, acts, and believes the things you do, ally yourself with them. Rebels don't have to be lone wolves. Having a friend with similar beliefs and attitudes is a great way to expand on what makes you a rebel and come up with rebellious ways to express yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Rebelling Responsibly\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick your battles wisely.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to fight the school administration over cafeteria items. Maybe freedoms of expression, like the right to wear certain band t-shirts or play certain music, is a more valued issue.\\nIf doing a certain action - like questioning your teacher when she tells you to tuck in your shirt - means getting sent to the principal's office and possibly getting expelled, choose whether or not you believe enough in that action to bear the consequences.\\nFight for issues that matter the most to you. You may be a fan of Led Zeppelin, but maybe being a vegetarian is more important. Forego your plea for \\\"rock music during lunchtime\\\" for \\\"more menu alternatives other than meat.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know the difference between rebellion and recklessness.\", \"描述\": \"If your actions have a possibility of seriously hurting yourself or others, avoid doing them. Rebellion is about standing out; you don't need to do harmful things to do so.\\nIt's normal for teenagers to be curious and to experiment. If you truly are curious and want to experiment with alcohol, drugs, or sex, be safe and cautious. Know that you don't have to do these things in order to be thought of as a rebel.\\nRemember that being a rebel means fighting conformity. Within your rebellious group, you may still face peer pressure to experiment with drugs or alcohol. If that is something you truly don't feel comfortable doing, don't do it. Tell your friends that you're \\\"being an even bigger rebel\\\" by not following them.\\nSome people think that being a rebel means damaging or vandalizing property. You don't have to be infamous in order to be a rebel. If you want to express yourself visually, decorate your own property with spray paint, stickers, and permanent markers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remember that your actions always have consequences.\", \"描述\": \"If being a rebel to you means constantly disobeying rules and fighting with other students, know that there are other consequences besides being \\\"known\\\" as a rebel.\\nYou don't have to be violent and unruly to be a rebel. Sure, you can talk tough and walk with your chin up, but you don't have to harm people to be noticed. Being a rebel is about being original, and demeaning others to gain popularity is too common among many people.\\nDecide whether being expelled and losing an opportunity at an education is really worth being a rebel. Many political rebels like Tupac Shakur, Malcolm X, and Mahatma Gandhi were focused on getting an education as a form of rebellion. As the old saying goes, \\\"knowledge is power,\\\" and being a rebel is about showing individual power.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Remember that regardless of what anyone else says, the key to rebellion is your attitude and not your dress sense. You can rebel just as well wearing a Disney Princess costume as if you were wearing something that looks as though it's been plucked from the Sex Pistols' wardrobe. In fact what you wear is only part of rebellion, and thus a rebel doesn't mean you have to be a jerk. Tons of rebels (including goth and punk kids) hang out with the normal, nice people of the world.\\n\", \"Remember that getting arrested can ruin your life. Be smart. Actions like stealing something as small as a Candy Bar, or wallet, can get you in big trouble. And chances are, you won't want to be a rebel forever. Chances are, you'll grow up, look back and feel really regretful about your decisions in the past.\\n\", \"Even though looks aren't everything, good clothes to wear are leather jackets and jeans. You can even dye your hair if you want to.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. Don't do something stupid just because your friends are doing it.\\n\", \"Always be prepared for the consequences of this lifestyle. People will try to stereotype you for being how you want to be.\\n\", \"Don't try too hard to be a rebel. If you're trying too much then it isn't coming naturally so you should stop.\\n\", \"Don't get too out of control unless you really want to.\\n\", \"Don't force yourself to be a rebel because it's cool. If you don't enjoy defying things and you think you feel like you'd rather live inside the lines, do that. If you force yourself to be a rebel, things could go wrong, and you could be tagged a poser immediately.\\n\"]}]}}",
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