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How to Be a Travel Writer
1. Understanding the Job Requirements 1-1. Be aware of the low pay of a travel writer. You may have fantasies of being sent around the world on assignments with a big commission, all your expenses paid, and endless days people watching in a European cafe. In fact, very few publications pay a travel writer’s expenses, especially if the travel writer is a freelancer and not a staff member for the publication. Many travel writers work for themselves as freelancers and work contract by contract, story by story. This means you may not have a steady income from travel writing and it can be difficult to make a high income when you are commissioned to write for a publication. Currently, rates for a 500-word article can range from $10 to $1,000. Often, seasoned writers with years of experience writing for big print publications will earn the higher end of the spectrum for one article. Many travel writers do not earn more than $25 - $300 an article. If you are able to land a big feature or a cover story, you will be paid more. However, it can be difficult to land the more lucrative stories and you will often have to write many articles on a regular basis to support yourself financially in this career. 1-2. Understand the difficulty of finding a full time position. Landing a full time job as a travel writer for a major travel publication requires years of experience and can be hard to come by even when you do build up a solid reputation in the industry. Many print publications are cutting back on staff as writing moves to online platforms. Instead, you will need to be willing to freelance as a writer as you build up your portfolio. This means you will have to pitch articles to multiple publications on a consistent basis and write many articles for very little pay, perhaps for several years. As a freelancer, you will also need to arrange your own travel accommodations, your itinerary and spend several days traveling on your own. To make travel writing your full time job, you will need to build up contacts and credentials in the industry. This can take several years of working from contract to contract until you make a name for yourself. Many travel writers work other, more sustainable jobs while they travel write on the side. 1-3. Remember the benefits of being a travel writer. With the low pay and unstable job security, it can be daunting to pursue a career in travel writing. But many travel writers take on this career because it allows them to experience places they have never seen before and to meet people they would have never met if they were not writing a story about a certain place or area. Often, travel writers are very passionate about their jobs and enjoy the sense of adventure and excitement that their career offers. It’s important that you are a curious and perceptive traveller who is comfortable roughing it when you have to. You should also be willing to pitch your ideas to an editor and be prepared to promote your work whenever possible. As a beginning travel writer, you will need to showcase writing talent and a zest for adventure, as well as an ability to sell your ideas and writing to editors. 2. Finding Your Niche in the Market 2-1. Read texts by successful travel writers in several genres. Today, travel writing is much more than publishing articles in a magazine or in a newspaper. Writers are publishing articles on blogs, online magazines, and other online platforms. Successful travel writers have found a certain niche, or angle, and ran with it, using their unique perspective to keep readers engaged and sell stories to editors. You should familiarize yourself with the market by reading several successful travel writers and bloggers, including: Travel writer Bill Bryson: Bryson is one of the most successful travel writers in the genre and is well respected in England for his travel book on English life, Notes on a Small Island, as well as his American travel book, The Lost Continent".Bryson is known for his dry and witty writing, and often combines memoir and travel writing in his work. Travel writer Kate Adie: Adie is a former BBC chief correspondent who covered war zones in the 1980s across the world. She has written an autobiographical book about her travels in dangerous places called The Kindness of Strangers that is popular among travel writers. Adie’s writing is characterized by dry humor, a knack for finding the absurd in a situation, and a strong grasp on travelling to foreign and often dangerous destinations. The Lazy Travelers Blog: This blog, started by two American best friends, recently won Best Travel Weblog at the 2014 Bloggies. Characterized by the tagline “conquering the globe one glass of wine at a time”, the bloggers explore local and overseas destinations with a casual, playful tone and focus on the average traveller who may want to see popular sites, eat good food, and find photography worthy spots in a new city. The EscapeArtistes Blog: This blog was a finalist for Best Travel Weblog at the 2014 Bloggies, and has the tagline “Postcards from the edge.” Written by a British mother, living with her young son in Bali, the blog explores life as an ex-pat as well as travelling with a young child through Asia and Europe. The writing style is friendly and full of dry wit, appealing to readers who are looking for a unique take on the standard travel blog. Crusoe the Celebrity Dachshund: This off beat blog is immensely popular online and features the travel adventures of a Dachshund named Crusoe, with the tagline: “The wiener dog who thinks he’s more of a celebrity than he really is (for now)." 2-2. Look at well regarded travel magazines. To get a better sense of the print market, read as many issues as possible of well regarded travel publications and note what types of articles are being published in these magazines. You may look at major travel publications like National Geographic, Travel and Leisure, Afar, and International Living. These are the big publications that can take years to break into and often they are some of the more high paying writing jobs. You may find a travel magazine that you enjoy and want to write for, or have a specific magazine in mind. Reading the publication before you pitch an article idea will also allow you to customize the pitch letter based on the tone and style of the publication. This could help your pitch to get noticed by the editor, as editors often pay more attention to a pitch that relates to the mandate of their publication. 2-3. Start travel blogging. Keep your chosen niche in mind when you start your travel blog and read up on how to start making money with your blog. Remember that readers are looking for content that is engaging, easy to access, and presents a unique spin on travel writing. Focus on three main elements: being professional, being useful, and being personal. Though your blog can have a casual, friendly tone, you should still treat it like a professional site and avoid using an ugly design. You should also edit every blog post for grammatical errors and spelling errors. Your blog should also serve a purpose and provide your readers with useful information about a location, an event, or a destination. Your reader will want to know what she can get from reading your blog and feel as though it is worth checking your blog on a daily basis. Finally, your blog should be personal and demonstrate your unique writing style or voice. Avoid formal language or complex sentence structure. Try to appeal to the average reader by using an open, accessible tone and playing to your unique perspective. 3. Building Your Credentials 3-1. Create an online presence. In the current digital age, it is essential that you maintain an online presence to promote your writing and showcase it to editors in the industry. You should have an online portfolio, a personal website, and/or a blog that you update regularly. Your portfolio or website should have your biography, a blog documenting your past traveling experiences and any upcoming travel, with lots of detailed write ups of your experiences, as well as social media feeds where you can promote and share your articles, photos and videos. Use your portfolio as a platform to engage readers, viewers, and editors in the industry. Linking to your website when you meet an editor or a possible writing contact will ensure someone is paying attention to your online persona and could lead to writing contracts or offers. 3-2. Write about your hometown or home city. One of the best ways to kick start your career is to focus on local events and activities in your hometown or city. Focus on a new interesting food craze in your town or a brand new music festival in your city. Writing about your hometown can give you access to material that is easy to cover, with very cheap travel fees. As a travel writer, you will need to be able to move past superficial descriptions of a place and see a place in an authentic and interesting way. Writing about things in your area will allow you to build a strong body of work around a certain niche or location and help you practice “seeing” a place from a deeper, more engaging perspective. One way you can create your own local writing prompts is to google your local place + “travel”. For example, “Reno travel”. Look at what comes up first in the search results and ask yourself if you could provide a well written article with more useful information. If the answer is yes, you may have found your first travel writing story. 3-3. Attend travel writing conferences and meet ups. While it is very important to network with contacts online, using your online presence you should also network offline by meeting face to face with individuals in the industry. Look for travel writing conferences in your area or close to your area. Search online for travel writer meet up groups that you can join. Focus on introducing yourself and asking more seasoned writers who they are working for and what they are currently working on. This will help to give you a sense of the current state of the industry and what types of stories editors are looking for. 4. Getting Published 4-1. Start small and local. Often, travel writers do not land full time positions at major publications as soon as they start out. Instead, you should focus on writing for local publications. If there is a 500-word article section, pitch an idea about a local event or activity. Focus on building your portfolio in small increments, as the more experience you gain, the better your writing will become. 4-2. Check the Jobs section of online classifieds sites. Many magazines will advertise for part time or full time writers in the Jobs section of Craigslist and Indeed.com. Small, local publications may also post ads for writers on these sites. Browse through the Jobs section for any calls for writers and try to pitch strong ideas to as many as possible. 4-3. Pitch original ideas Maintain a viable freelance presence by pitching your article ideas as often as possible. If you would like to write about a location that is off the beaten path, or unusual, you will need to have a good angle on the story. Often, readers will want to find out more about destinations they want to go to, and it can be hard to sell editors on an article about an unusual destination. If you decide to pitch an article idea, always follow the submission guidelines posted on the publication’s website or in their print publication. A good rule of thumb is to keep your pitch letters short, no more than two to three paragraphs, to show that you know the types of stories the publication publishes, and to have a good hook at the beginning of your letter to keep the editor engaged. You should also link to an online portfolio or website, and address the letter to the travel writing editor of the publication, not the editor-in-chief of the publication, to ensure the letter ends up in the right hands. Tips If you do any amount of traveling, you're likely to soon become interested in packing light to make things simpler and easier.
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Search online for travel writer meet up groups that you can join.\\nFocus on introducing yourself and asking more seasoned writers who they are working for and what they are currently working on. This will help to give you a sense of the current state of the industry and what types of stories editors are looking for.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Getting Published\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start small and local.\", \"描述\": \"Often, travel writers do not land full time positions at major publications as soon as they start out. Instead, you should focus on writing for local publications. If there is a 500-word article section, pitch an idea about a local event or activity. 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Often, readers will want to find out more about destinations they want to go to, and it can be hard to sell editors on an article about an unusual destination.\\nIf you decide to pitch an article idea, always follow the submission guidelines posted on the publication’s website or in their print publication.\\nA good rule of thumb is to keep your pitch letters short, no more than two to three paragraphs, to show that you know the types of stories the publication publishes, and to have a good hook at the beginning of your letter to keep the editor engaged. You should also link to an online portfolio or website, and address the letter to the travel writing editor of the publication, not the editor-in-chief of the publication, to ensure the letter ends up in the right hands.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you do any amount of traveling, you're likely to soon become interested in packing light to make things simpler and easier.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Trendy Teenage Girl
1. Working on Your Body and Clothing 1-1. Work on having flawless skin. One of the main things every teenage girl wishes for (if they aren't already blessed with it) is clear skin. The three main products you need for an effective skincare routine are a good cleanser, toner, and moisturizer that go with your skin type. There are five main kinds of skin types: Combination, Sensitive, Oily, Dry, and Normal. Match your skin type with the products below: If you have a skin type, you need moisturizing products! Start off with a good cleaner. Follow up with a moisturizing toner and finish it all off with a high-power moisturizing product. Try a good cleanser. Keep your moisturiser oil-free to avoid clogging your pores. On the other hand, if you have an skin type, go for a good cleanser and then a lightweight moisturiser. Lightweight means that it's oil-free and won't clog your pores. If you have a skin, go for a good cleanser and then a regular moisturiser. It should be oil-free and light. Keep things in moderation. If you're a lucky girl with a skin type, you're pretty much able to use whatever products you want. We'd suggest a good cleanser and a lightweight moisturiser. This way, your skin will be kept fresh and moisturized, but also control the amount of oil in your skin. If you have sensitive skin, you'll need to take extra precautions with your skincare products so that they won't irritate your skin. Go to a dermatologist to see what they recommend. If you have skin, you'll need quality products to maintain a good complexion! Products like Neutrogena SkiniD and Proactiv are effective for sensitive skin. Wash your face at least once a day. For oily and combination skinned people, it is recommended to wash it twice a day, and once for the rest of the skin types. Wet your hands. Take some cleanser and dispense a small amount in your hands. Rub your hands together to spread the cleanser. Stand over a sink, close your eyes, and rub the cleanser thoroughly on your skin for 30 seconds. Stop for 5 seconds to allow the cleanser to settle. Then, rinse it out with cold water--this will close the pores. Pat your skin dry with a clean towel. After, apply the toner with a cotton pad. Let it sit until it is completely dry, and then dot moisturizer on your chin, forehead, nose, cheeks, and the region between your nose and mouth. Rub each area in, making sure there is no residue left on your skin. 1-2. Get the makeup. One of the pleasures of being a girl (especially a beautiful and trendy girl) is wearing makeup! If you have great skin that isn't uneven, don't wear foundation or concealer! Learn to apply makeup, and to apply it well. Wear an amount that makes you happy. A good, simple makeup look that suits most girls are: In middle school, most girls don't wear too much makeup. At most, you could use mascara, clear lip gloss, and minimum clear brow gel and highlighter if you want. Use a concealer that matches your skin tone to cover any blemishes. Take an eyeshadow colour that makes your eyes pop and apply it to your eyelids. Line your lids with a black or dark-brown eyeliner. (Optional) Curl your eyelashes. Apply dark brown, clear, or black mascara. (Optional) Apply blush to your cheeks. Add light-coloured lipstick/lip gloss/lip balm to your lips. Try to match it with your natural lip colour, or go a few shades darker. 1-3. Use your natural beauty! You want to look good while wearing makeup, but you also want to look good when you have no makeup on at all! To zap a zit overnight, purchase a Zeno Hot Spot (they can run a bit expensive) or put a dab of toothpaste (regular, not gel) on the zit. It should disappear! To get rid of bags around eyes, take two thin, cold slices of cucumber or two frozen spoons. Place them over your eyelids and leave them there for 10 to 15 minutes. For super chapped lips, take a clean, warm towel and rub it over your lips for one minute. The dry skin should rub off. Then, apply lip balm. Drink eight 8-ounce glasses of water every day for clear and healthy skin. Exercise frequently to stay in shape. Be careful not to overwork yourself! Space your exercise regimen responsibly and give your body time to recover to avoid injury. 1-4. Don't forget your hair! No matter what length, color, or style your hair is, most people agree that the most attractive hair is moisturized, clean, and managed. Identify what problems you have most with your hair. Then, find a hairstyle you like. Preferably, it should go with your face shape, but go with what you feel. Visit a salon and ask some of the hairdressers for hairstyle suggestions. If you want, get highlights, low-lights, or a different hair colour! Wavy or straight hair is ideal if you want to be able to wear it down. For thicker or curlier hair, you can use a straightening iron. For extremely curly hair, try dutch braiding it. If you would like to add texture, you can get short feathery bangs, but not proper bangs. If you choose to get these bangs, you want little pieces so you can style them. There are so much different hairstyle options! Purchase some hair elastics, bobby pins that match your hair color, a couple of plastic headbands, some elastic headbands, mousse, and hairspray. If you don't already have one, splurge on a flat iron or curling iron, as well as a heat protectant. Straight, smooth hair is trendy and looks good on almost anyone. On the contrary, pretty, bouncy curls happen to be trendy and can completely alter your look. Try out different hairstyles and look at other people for inspiration! Speaking of hair, there's another kind of hair- facial and body hair. There are many ways to remove your hair, and no worries, if you don't want to, you don't have to. If you do, there are many different ways to remove those hairs! You can try waxing, plucking, depilatory creams, and shaving. A rule of thumb is to never shave your facial hair. This backfires and will cause your hair to grow back thicker, longer, and darker than before. Plus, it will be harder to remove in the long run. Consult your parents or your friends for further advice on hair removal. 1-5. Is tanning trendy? The answer is no. Pale is equally pretty than tanned and actually looks better on some people. But if you adore the way you look with sunkissed skin, use a faux tan. If you buy the right one you won't look orange. Jergens is one type of tanner that works well. 2. Having a Fit Attitude 2-1. You don't have to be mean to be trendy. In fact, being nice is probably the best thing you could do for yourself and the people around you. Just think about it! Would you rather be loved (pretend love, that is) because people are afraid of being bullied by you, or be loved because you're super nice? We think that it's a pretty easy choice. Always think before you speak. Words can really hurt people, and if you're the one saying them, that needs to stop! If you're the kind of person that blurts things out before thinking, Try to stop yourself. Before you speak, take a moment to think about how what you're about to say will affect others. If it will affect them negatively, don't say anything. Be honest but in a nice way! Honesty is super important in a trendy girl, and even in a good friend. We want you to be honest, but be kind about it. There's always a nicer way to say something! For example, if your friend got an awful haircut and asks you how it looks, say "It's nice, but it doesn't suit your pretty face as well as it should." Your friend might be taken aback initially, but will appreciate your honesty and will take the suggestions that you've made into consideration. However, always know when to draw the line of being honest and not being honest. Sometimes, little white lies are okay. Don't get trampled on! Stand your ground and make sure everyone knows that you won't get walked over! Friendship and relationships should always be at a green light. If it has turned yellow or red, then it's time to inspect if that person is really worth being in your life. 2-2. Be smart. Obviously, no one likes talking to a person who has no idea what they're talking about. Pay attention in class, no matter how boring, and talk with your friends outside of class or when the teacher says you can talk. Brush up on knowledge and keep your computer homepage on a website like Yahoo so you can see the latest news as you log in to your favorite websites. We know that being smart can be kind of 'nerdy' to some people, but better that then being labeled a 'stupid ditz'. 2-3. Respect others! If someone doesn't want to tell you something, you can't make them speak! Be a good listener, and try not to gossip about people. It's okay to look at celebrity magazines every once in a while, but keep in mind the difference between that and gossiping about peers. You've probably seen people being torn apart by rumors. Don't start them and you won't be involved with them. Also, pay attention and help out your parents. They are the ones that have raised you and taught you what you know. Respect them and they will more than likely listen to what you have to say. 2-4. Know when to walk away from anything. Know when to leave an argument, a situation, or even a relationship. Never take sides in an argument, even if you see one person's reason and not the other. If a friend comes to you for advice, give it, but don't give anything that could hurt others or hurt your friend. In fact, if they ask for advice, give them a word of encouragement and suggest a nudge towards figuring it out themselves. That way, no one can pinpoint something directly onto you. Know when to walk away from a situation if it's getting to risky or dangerous. Also, know when to walk out of a relationship, especially if your boyfriend/girlfriend is trying to convince you to do something that you don't want to do. 2-5. Be yourself. Do what you like to do. There will be people who get you down, but who's living your life? If you have a religion, believe in it strongly. If you don't, that's okay too. Respect everyone's beliefs and state your own too. Find some hobbies you like and stick to them. Remember that it's okay to be different, whether this means racially, sexually, intellectually, or whatever. Be confident and proud of yourself! 2-6. Be connected. Read good books and listen to music you enjoy. If you want, get an Instagram or Twitter, but never give out your info to strangers. Add only people you know. And don't say anything bad about anyone, especially on the Internet--there's a log somewhere out there that records what you say. Think before you type. 2-7. Be classic and trendy. You are going for a comfortable, nice style that is polished and pretty. So, you need to get some cool clothing. Some things you should have: A pair of dark wash skinny jeans. A pair of dark wash boyfriend/straight jeans. A pair of white, black or dark washed shorts A cute medium sized purse A pair of Converse in gray, black, or white. Some solid coloured crew neck, scoop neck, and V-neck plain tees. Some cute flowy tops with unique patterns, cuts, and fabrics that aren't too much to wear to school. 2-3 Cardigans in colours like navy blue, gray, white, black. Camis in solid colours. Cute tank tops and camis with patterns, buttons, detailing, and designs. 1-2 high-waisted skirts. A pair of flip-flops, T-strap sandals, or Gladiators. A pair of ballet flats. A cute pair of boots. They can be slouchy, UGGs, knockoffs, black booties, or whatever. Lots of necklaces and accessories! Things like long dangly necklaces, bangles, friendship bracelets, earrings, etc. -2 nice hoodies. A solid colored winter jacket. Solid and printed scarves. A usual, cool styled pants cost around $79-$199 2-8. What stores should you shop at? Some great stores that sell items like the ones above are Aeropostale, Abercrombie, Hollister, Delia's, Forever 21, Victoria's Secret PINK, Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe, Papaya, Target, Old Navy, Urban Outfitters, H&M, Rue 21, Nordstrom, Marshalls, TJ/TKMaxx, Ross, JCPenney, Macy's, Kohls, and even Walmart. Tips Your clothes don't have to be a designer! You can be a trendy girl that shops at Walmart! As long as your clothes are to your liking, then it doesn't matter! For more beauty tips, check out Google and other WikiHow guides. Warnings You don't need a boyfriend to be a trendy teen. Tanning beds and extreme sunbathing can give you premature wrinkles, age you, and give you skin cancer. Wouldn't you rather be pale than have cancer?
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Lightweight means that it's oil-free and won't clog your pores.\\nIf you have a skin, go for a good cleanser and then a regular moisturiser. It should be oil-free and light. Keep things in moderation.\\nIf you're a lucky girl with a skin type, you're pretty much able to use whatever products you want. We'd suggest a good cleanser and a lightweight moisturiser. This way, your skin will be kept fresh and moisturized, but also control the amount of oil in your skin.\\nIf you have sensitive skin, you'll need to take extra precautions with your skincare products so that they won't irritate your skin. Go to a dermatologist to see what they recommend.\\nIf you have skin, you'll need quality products to maintain a good complexion! Products like Neutrogena SkiniD and Proactiv are effective for sensitive skin.\\n Wash your face at least once a day. For oily and combination skinned people, it is recommended to wash it twice a day, and once for the rest of the skin types. Wet your hands. Take some cleanser and dispense a small amount in your hands. Rub your hands together to spread the cleanser. Stand over a sink, close your eyes, and rub the cleanser thoroughly on your skin for 30 seconds. Stop for 5 seconds to allow the cleanser to settle. Then, rinse it out with cold water--this will close the pores. Pat your skin dry with a clean towel. After, apply the toner with a cotton pad. Let it sit until it is completely dry, and then dot moisturizer on your chin, forehead, nose, cheeks, and the region between your nose and mouth. Rub each area in, making sure there is no residue left on your skin.\\n1-2. Get the makeup.\\nOne of the pleasures of being a girl (especially a beautiful and trendy girl) is wearing makeup! If you have great skin that isn't uneven, don't wear foundation or concealer! Learn to apply makeup, and to apply it well. Wear an amount that makes you happy. A good, simple makeup look that suits most girls are:\\nIn middle school, most girls don't wear too much makeup. At most, you could use mascara, clear lip gloss, and minimum clear brow gel and highlighter if you want.\\nUse a concealer that matches your skin tone to cover any blemishes.\\nTake an eyeshadow colour that makes your eyes pop and apply it to your eyelids.\\n\\nLine your lids with a black or dark-brown eyeliner.\\n(Optional) Curl your eyelashes.\\nApply dark brown, clear, or black mascara.\\n(Optional) Apply blush to your cheeks.\\nAdd light-coloured lipstick/lip gloss/lip balm to your lips. Try to match it with your natural lip colour, or go a few shades darker.\\n1-3. Use your natural beauty!\\nYou want to look good while wearing makeup, but you also want to look good when you have no makeup on at all!\\nTo zap a zit overnight, purchase a Zeno Hot Spot (they can run a bit expensive) or put a dab of toothpaste (regular, not gel) on the zit. It should disappear!\\nTo get rid of bags around eyes, take two thin, cold slices of cucumber or two frozen spoons. Place them over your eyelids and leave them there for 10 to 15 minutes.\\nFor super chapped lips, take a clean, warm towel and rub it over your lips for one minute. The dry skin should rub off. Then, apply lip balm.\\nDrink eight 8-ounce glasses of water every day for clear and healthy skin.\\nExercise frequently to stay in shape. Be careful not to overwork yourself! Space your exercise regimen responsibly and give your body time to recover to avoid injury.\\n1-4. Don't forget your hair!\\nNo matter what length, color, or style your hair is, most people agree that the most attractive hair is moisturized, clean, and managed. Identify what problems you have most with your hair. Then, find a hairstyle you like. Preferably, it should go with your face shape, but go with what you feel. Visit a salon and ask some of the hairdressers for hairstyle suggestions. If you want, get highlights, low-lights, or a different hair colour!\\nWavy or straight hair is ideal if you want to be able to wear it down.\\nFor thicker or curlier hair, you can use a straightening iron.\\nFor extremely curly hair, try dutch braiding it. If you would like to add texture, you can get short feathery bangs, but not proper bangs. If you choose to get these bangs, you want little pieces so you can style them.\\nThere are so much different hairstyle options! Purchase some hair elastics, bobby pins that match your hair color, a couple of plastic headbands, some elastic headbands, mousse, and hairspray. If you don't already have one, splurge on a flat iron or curling iron, as well as a heat protectant. Straight, smooth hair is trendy and looks good on almost anyone. On the contrary, pretty, bouncy curls happen to be trendy and can completely alter your look. Try out different hairstyles and look at other people for inspiration!\\nSpeaking of hair, there's another kind of hair- facial and body hair. There are many ways to remove your hair, and no worries, if you don't want to, you don't have to. If you do, there are many different ways to remove those hairs! You can try waxing, plucking, depilatory creams, and shaving. A rule of thumb is to never shave your facial hair. This backfires and will cause your hair to grow back thicker, longer, and darker than before. Plus, it will be harder to remove in the long run. Consult your parents or your friends for further advice on hair removal.\\n1-5. Is tanning trendy?\\nThe answer is no. Pale is equally pretty than tanned and actually looks better on some people. But if you adore the way you look with sunkissed skin, use a faux tan. If you buy the right one you won't look orange. Jergens is one type of tanner that works well.\\n2. Having a Fit Attitude\\n2-1. You don't have to be mean to be trendy.\\nIn fact, being nice is probably the best thing you could do for yourself and the people around you. Just think about it! Would you rather be loved (pretend love, that is) because people are afraid of being bullied by you, or be loved because you're super nice? We think that it's a pretty easy choice.\\nAlways think before you speak. Words can really hurt people, and if you're the one saying them, that needs to stop! If you're the kind of person that blurts things out before thinking, Try to stop yourself. Before you speak, take a moment to think about how what you're about to say will affect others. If it will affect them negatively, don't say anything.\\nBe honest but in a nice way! Honesty is super important in a trendy girl, and even in a good friend. We want you to be honest, but be kind about it. There's always a nicer way to say something! For example, if your friend got an awful haircut and asks you how it looks, say \\\"It's nice, but it doesn't suit your pretty face as well as it should.\\\" Your friend might be taken aback initially, but will appreciate your honesty and will take the suggestions that you've made into consideration. However, always know when to draw the line of being honest and not being honest. Sometimes, little white lies are okay.\\nDon't get trampled on! Stand your ground and make sure everyone knows that you won't get walked over! Friendship and relationships should always be at a green light. If it has turned yellow or red, then it's time to inspect if that person is really worth being in your life.\\n2-2. Be smart.\\nObviously, no one likes talking to a person who has no idea what they're talking about. Pay attention in class, no matter how boring, and talk with your friends outside of class or when the teacher says you can talk. Brush up on knowledge and keep your computer homepage on a website like Yahoo so you can see the latest news as you log in to your favorite websites. We know that being smart can be kind of 'nerdy' to some people, but better that then being labeled a 'stupid ditz'.\\n2-3. Respect others!\\nIf someone doesn't want to tell you something, you can't make them speak! Be a good listener, and try not to gossip about people. It's okay to look at celebrity magazines every once in a while, but keep in mind the difference between that and gossiping about peers. You've probably seen people being torn apart by rumors. Don't start them and you won't be involved with them. Also, pay attention and help out your parents. They are the ones that have raised you and taught you what you know. Respect them and they will more than likely listen to what you have to say.\\n2-4. Know when to walk away from anything.\\nKnow when to leave an argument, a situation, or even a relationship. Never take sides in an argument, even if you see one person's reason and not the other. If a friend comes to you for advice, give it, but don't give anything that could hurt others or hurt your friend. In fact, if they ask for advice, give them a word of encouragement and suggest a nudge towards figuring it out themselves. That way, no one can pinpoint something directly onto you. Know when to walk away from a situation if it's getting to risky or dangerous. Also, know when to walk out of a relationship, especially if your boyfriend/girlfriend is trying to convince you to do something that you don't want to do.\\n2-5. Be yourself.\\nDo what you like to do. There will be people who get you down, but who's living your life? If you have a religion, believe in it strongly. If you don't, that's okay too. Respect everyone's beliefs and state your own too. Find some hobbies you like and stick to them. Remember that it's okay to be different, whether this means racially, sexually, intellectually, or whatever. Be confident and proud of yourself!\\n2-6. Be connected.\\nRead good books and listen to music you enjoy. If you want, get an Instagram or Twitter, but never give out your info to strangers. Add only people you know. And don't say anything bad about anyone, especially on the Internet--there's a log somewhere out there that records what you say. Think before you type.\\n2-7. Be classic and trendy.\\nYou are going for a comfortable, nice style that is polished and pretty. So, you need to get some cool clothing. Some things you should have:\\nA pair of dark wash skinny jeans.\\nA pair of dark wash boyfriend/straight jeans.\\nA pair of white, black or dark washed shorts\\nA cute medium sized purse\\nA pair of Converse in gray, black, or white.\\nSome solid coloured crew neck, scoop neck, and V-neck plain tees.\\nSome cute flowy tops with unique patterns, cuts, and fabrics that aren't too much to wear to school.\\n2-3 Cardigans in colours like navy blue, gray, white, black.\\nCamis in solid colours.\\nCute tank tops and camis with patterns, buttons, detailing, and designs.\\n1-2 high-waisted skirts.\\nA pair of flip-flops, T-strap sandals, or Gladiators.\\nA pair of ballet flats.\\nA cute pair of boots. They can be slouchy, UGGs, knockoffs, black booties, or whatever.\\nLots of necklaces and accessories! Things like long dangly necklaces, bangles, friendship bracelets, earrings, etc.\\n-2 nice hoodies.\\nA solid colored winter jacket.\\nSolid and printed scarves.\\nA usual, cool styled pants cost around $79-$199\\n2-8. What stores should you shop at?\\nSome great stores that sell items like the ones above are Aeropostale, Abercrombie, Hollister, Delia's, Forever 21, Victoria's Secret PINK, Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe, Papaya, Target, Old Navy, Urban Outfitters, H&M, Rue 21, Nordstrom, Marshalls, TJ/TKMaxx, Ross, JCPenney, Macy's, Kohls, and even Walmart.\\nTips\\nYour clothes don't have to be a designer! You can be a trendy girl that shops at Walmart! As long as your clothes are to your liking, then it doesn't matter!\\nFor more beauty tips, check out Google and other WikiHow guides.\\nWarnings\\nYou don't need a boyfriend to be a trendy teen.\\nTanning beds and extreme sunbathing can give you premature wrinkles, age you, and give you skin cancer. Wouldn't you rather be pale than have cancer?\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Picture this: You're walking in the mall one weekend, and every store and dressing room you enter is filled with gorgeous teenage girls that totally have their look pulled together, laughing with their equally trendy friends. Everyone's eyes - including yours - are glued to them. Has this ever happened to you? Have you felt a little twinge of jealousy that they're having the time of their lives while looking carefree and flawless, whereas you're just a bystander? Why do you have to be a bystander when you can be one of those girls?\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Working on Your Body and Clothing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on having flawless skin.\", \"描述\": \"One of the main things every teenage girl wishes for (if they aren't already blessed with it) is clear skin. The three main products you need for an effective skincare routine are a good cleanser, toner, and moisturizer that go with your skin type. There are five main kinds of skin types: Combination, Sensitive, Oily, Dry, and Normal. Match your skin type with the products below:\\nIf you have a skin type, you need moisturizing products! Start off with a good cleaner. Follow up with a moisturizing toner and finish it all off with a high-power moisturizing product. Try a good cleanser. Keep your moisturiser oil-free to avoid clogging your pores.\\nOn the other hand, if you have an skin type, go for a good cleanser and then a lightweight moisturiser. Lightweight means that it's oil-free and won't clog your pores.\\nIf you have a skin, go for a good cleanser and then a regular moisturiser. It should be oil-free and light. Keep things in moderation.\\nIf you're a lucky girl with a skin type, you're pretty much able to use whatever products you want. We'd suggest a good cleanser and a lightweight moisturiser. This way, your skin will be kept fresh and moisturized, but also control the amount of oil in your skin.\\nIf you have sensitive skin, you'll need to take extra precautions with your skincare products so that they won't irritate your skin. Go to a dermatologist to see what they recommend.\\nIf you have skin, you'll need quality products to maintain a good complexion! Products like Neutrogena SkiniD and Proactiv are effective for sensitive skin.\\n Wash your face at least once a day. For oily and combination skinned people, it is recommended to wash it twice a day, and once for the rest of the skin types. Wet your hands. Take some cleanser and dispense a small amount in your hands. Rub your hands together to spread the cleanser. Stand over a sink, close your eyes, and rub the cleanser thoroughly on your skin for 30 seconds. Stop for 5 seconds to allow the cleanser to settle. Then, rinse it out with cold water--this will close the pores. Pat your skin dry with a clean towel. After, apply the toner with a cotton pad. Let it sit until it is completely dry, and then dot moisturizer on your chin, forehead, nose, cheeks, and the region between your nose and mouth. Rub each area in, making sure there is no residue left on your skin.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get the makeup.\", \"描述\": \"One of the pleasures of being a girl (especially a beautiful and trendy girl) is wearing makeup! If you have great skin that isn't uneven, don't wear foundation or concealer! Learn to apply makeup, and to apply it well. Wear an amount that makes you happy. A good, simple makeup look that suits most girls are:\\nIn middle school, most girls don't wear too much makeup. At most, you could use mascara, clear lip gloss, and minimum clear brow gel and highlighter if you want.\\nUse a concealer that matches your skin tone to cover any blemishes.\\nTake an eyeshadow colour that makes your eyes pop and apply it to your eyelids.\\n\\nLine your lids with a black or dark-brown eyeliner.\\n(Optional) Curl your eyelashes.\\nApply dark brown, clear, or black mascara.\\n(Optional) Apply blush to your cheeks.\\nAdd light-coloured lipstick/lip gloss/lip balm to your lips. Try to match it with your natural lip colour, or go a few shades darker.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use your natural beauty!\", \"描述\": \"You want to look good while wearing makeup, but you also want to look good when you have no makeup on at all!\\nTo zap a zit overnight, purchase a Zeno Hot Spot (they can run a bit expensive) or put a dab of toothpaste (regular, not gel) on the zit. It should disappear!\\nTo get rid of bags around eyes, take two thin, cold slices of cucumber or two frozen spoons. Place them over your eyelids and leave them there for 10 to 15 minutes.\\nFor super chapped lips, take a clean, warm towel and rub it over your lips for one minute. The dry skin should rub off. Then, apply lip balm.\\nDrink eight 8-ounce glasses of water every day for clear and healthy skin.\\nExercise frequently to stay in shape. Be careful not to overwork yourself! Space your exercise regimen responsibly and give your body time to recover to avoid injury.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't forget your hair!\", \"描述\": \"No matter what length, color, or style your hair is, most people agree that the most attractive hair is moisturized, clean, and managed. Identify what problems you have most with your hair. Then, find a hairstyle you like. Preferably, it should go with your face shape, but go with what you feel. Visit a salon and ask some of the hairdressers for hairstyle suggestions. If you want, get highlights, low-lights, or a different hair colour!\\nWavy or straight hair is ideal if you want to be able to wear it down.\\nFor thicker or curlier hair, you can use a straightening iron.\\nFor extremely curly hair, try dutch braiding it. If you would like to add texture, you can get short feathery bangs, but not proper bangs. If you choose to get these bangs, you want little pieces so you can style them.\\nThere are so much different hairstyle options! Purchase some hair elastics, bobby pins that match your hair color, a couple of plastic headbands, some elastic headbands, mousse, and hairspray. If you don't already have one, splurge on a flat iron or curling iron, as well as a heat protectant. Straight, smooth hair is trendy and looks good on almost anyone. On the contrary, pretty, bouncy curls happen to be trendy and can completely alter your look. Try out different hairstyles and look at other people for inspiration!\\nSpeaking of hair, there's another kind of hair- facial and body hair. There are many ways to remove your hair, and no worries, if you don't want to, you don't have to. If you do, there are many different ways to remove those hairs! You can try waxing, plucking, depilatory creams, and shaving. A rule of thumb is to never shave your facial hair. This backfires and will cause your hair to grow back thicker, longer, and darker than before. Plus, it will be harder to remove in the long run. Consult your parents or your friends for further advice on hair removal.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Is tanning trendy?\", \"描述\": \"The answer is no. Pale is equally pretty than tanned and actually looks better on some people. But if you adore the way you look with sunkissed skin, use a faux tan. If you buy the right one you won't look orange. Jergens is one type of tanner that works well.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Having a Fit Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You don't have to be mean to be trendy.\", \"描述\": \"In fact, being nice is probably the best thing you could do for yourself and the people around you. Just think about it! Would you rather be loved (pretend love, that is) because people are afraid of being bullied by you, or be loved because you're super nice? We think that it's a pretty easy choice.\\nAlways think before you speak. Words can really hurt people, and if you're the one saying them, that needs to stop! If you're the kind of person that blurts things out before thinking, Try to stop yourself. Before you speak, take a moment to think about how what you're about to say will affect others. If it will affect them negatively, don't say anything.\\nBe honest but in a nice way! Honesty is super important in a trendy girl, and even in a good friend. We want you to be honest, but be kind about it. There's always a nicer way to say something! For example, if your friend got an awful haircut and asks you how it looks, say \\\"It's nice, but it doesn't suit your pretty face as well as it should.\\\" Your friend might be taken aback initially, but will appreciate your honesty and will take the suggestions that you've made into consideration. However, always know when to draw the line of being honest and not being honest. Sometimes, little white lies are okay.\\nDon't get trampled on! Stand your ground and make sure everyone knows that you won't get walked over! Friendship and relationships should always be at a green light. If it has turned yellow or red, then it's time to inspect if that person is really worth being in your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be smart.\", \"描述\": \"Obviously, no one likes talking to a person who has no idea what they're talking about. Pay attention in class, no matter how boring, and talk with your friends outside of class or when the teacher says you can talk. Brush up on knowledge and keep your computer homepage on a website like Yahoo so you can see the latest news as you log in to your favorite websites. We know that being smart can be kind of 'nerdy' to some people, but better that then being labeled a 'stupid ditz'.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Respect others!\", \"描述\": \"If someone doesn't want to tell you something, you can't make them speak! Be a good listener, and try not to gossip about people. It's okay to look at celebrity magazines every once in a while, but keep in mind the difference between that and gossiping about peers. You've probably seen people being torn apart by rumors. Don't start them and you won't be involved with them. Also, pay attention and help out your parents. They are the ones that have raised you and taught you what you know. Respect them and they will more than likely listen to what you have to say.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know when to walk away from anything.\", \"描述\": \"Know when to leave an argument, a situation, or even a relationship. Never take sides in an argument, even if you see one person's reason and not the other. If a friend comes to you for advice, give it, but don't give anything that could hurt others or hurt your friend. In fact, if they ask for advice, give them a word of encouragement and suggest a nudge towards figuring it out themselves. That way, no one can pinpoint something directly onto you. Know when to walk away from a situation if it's getting to risky or dangerous. Also, know when to walk out of a relationship, especially if your boyfriend/girlfriend is trying to convince you to do something that you don't want to do.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Do what you like to do. There will be people who get you down, but who's living your life? If you have a religion, believe in it strongly. If you don't, that's okay too. Respect everyone's beliefs and state your own too. Find some hobbies you like and stick to them. Remember that it's okay to be different, whether this means racially, sexually, intellectually, or whatever. Be confident and proud of yourself!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be connected.\", \"描述\": \"Read good books and listen to music you enjoy. If you want, get an Instagram or Twitter, but never give out your info to strangers. Add only people you know. And don't say anything bad about anyone, especially on the Internet--there's a log somewhere out there that records what you say. Think before you type.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be classic and trendy.\", \"描述\": \"You are going for a comfortable, nice style that is polished and pretty. So, you need to get some cool clothing. Some things you should have:\\nA pair of dark wash skinny jeans.\\nA pair of dark wash boyfriend/straight jeans.\\nA pair of white, black or dark washed shorts\\nA cute medium sized purse\\nA pair of Converse in gray, black, or white.\\nSome solid coloured crew neck, scoop neck, and V-neck plain tees.\\nSome cute flowy tops with unique patterns, cuts, and fabrics that aren't too much to wear to school.\\n2-3 Cardigans in colours like navy blue, gray, white, black.\\nCamis in solid colours.\\nCute tank tops and camis with patterns, buttons, detailing, and designs.\\n1-2 high-waisted skirts.\\nA pair of flip-flops, T-strap sandals, or Gladiators.\\nA pair of ballet flats.\\nA cute pair of boots. They can be slouchy, UGGs, knockoffs, black booties, or whatever.\\nLots of necklaces and accessories! Things like long dangly necklaces, bangles, friendship bracelets, earrings, etc.\\n-2 nice hoodies.\\nA solid colored winter jacket.\\nSolid and printed scarves.\\nA usual, cool styled pants cost around $79-$199\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"What stores should you shop at?\", \"描述\": \"Some great stores that sell items like the ones above are Aeropostale, Abercrombie, Hollister, Delia's, Forever 21, Victoria's Secret PINK, Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe, Papaya, Target, Old Navy, Urban Outfitters, H&M, Rue 21, Nordstrom, Marshalls, TJ/TKMaxx, Ross, JCPenney, Macy's, Kohls, and even Walmart.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Your clothes don't have to be a designer! You can be a trendy girl that shops at Walmart! As long as your clothes are to your liking, then it doesn't matter!\\n\", \"For more beauty tips, check out Google and other WikiHow guides.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"You don't need a boyfriend to be a trendy teen.\\n\", \"Tanning beds and extreme sunbathing can give you premature wrinkles, age you, and give you skin cancer. Wouldn't you rather be pale than have cancer?\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Trip Sitter
1. Before the Trip 1-1. Do some research on the substance. Although trip sitters can be used with any sort of mind-altering substance, they are usually assigned when dealing with hallucinogens, which are classified into three groups: psychedelics, deliriants, and dissociatives. Educate both yourself and the user on the specific substance to know what the effects will be and the duration. Psychedelics, such as LSD, peyote, and psilocybin mushrooms, alter cognition and perception. Common effects include visual and auditory hallucinations, sensory changes, and feelings of happiness, euphoria, and relaxation. Deliriants, such as atropine, induce a state of delirium, characterized by vivid hallucinations, confusion, and stupor (a state of non-responsiveness). Dissociatives, such as ketamine, PCP, and DXM, cause the user to go into a state of dissociation (meaning one becomes detached from reality). Distortions in sight and sound are also present. Unwanted adverse effects common in all drug classes include nausea, anxiety, paranoia, fatigue, and irregularities in heart rate. 1-2. Know about the five levels of psychedelic experience. In Timothy Leary's book entitled, The Psychedelic Experience: A Manual Based on the Tibetan Book of the Dead, there are five levels that depend on the substance and dosage strength. : user feels relaxed and subtle visual enhancements can be observed, as well as music having a richer sound. Light doses of magic mushrooms and common doses of cannabis can bring on this level. : colours and visuals appear brighter and closed-eye hallucinations may appear as geometric 2-D patterns. Thought processes may be abstract and the user's train of thought may not be easily followed. This level is caused by strong doses of cannabis, light doses of LSD, and light to common doses of mushrooms. : open-eyed visuals become very obvious, with patterns and warped textures. Closing one's eyes brings on extremely vivid multidimensional geometric patterns. Time begins to become noticeably distorted and movement can be difficult. Brought on by common doses of LSD, mushrooms, and very high doses of cannabis. : Strong hallucinations as objects may morph into one another. Personification of objects may be observed, such as things speaking to the user. Ego death may occur, resulting in a loss of sense of identity. Time is no longer apparent. Strong synesthesia. Achieved with strong doses of LSD, mushrooms, and mescaline. : high-intensity experience; total disconnection with reality to the extent that attempting to explain the effects would be near impossible. Senses no longer function normally. The ego is completely gone. Extreme euphoria and enlightenment may occur and the user may feel a sense of complete oneness. Consuming salvia or extremely high doses of mushrooms or LSD brings on this level. 1-3. Ensure that the user's schedule is completely empty. Depending on the substance and dosage, the high may last for up to 8 hours. Aim for a weekend or a day when the user won't be bothered by unexpected phone calls or guests. Because some physiologic effects may still occur even after the high is gone, consider a date when the user doesn't have any plans or deadlines the next day. You wouldn't want the user to get high on Sunday, only to skip the very important meeting on Monday due to fatigue. 1-4. Create a proper set and setting. Keeping the user relaxed and comfortable will minimize the possibility of a bad trip. "" refers to the mindset of the user, such as thoughts, moods, and expectations of the experience. Because these substances alter how the user thinks and views the world, it's important for the user to have a relaxed state of mind prior to consumption. Address any concerns the user may have to prevent the possibility of a bad trip. "" is the physical and social environment surrounding the user. Negative experiences and feelings are less likely to occur if the user is located in an open, familiar, and relaxing environment, such as a bedroom. Do whatever it takes to make the room as comfortable as possible: adjust the lighting, change the temperature, or put on some music. 1-5. Consider filming the experience. Psychedelic drugs have the potential to widen the user's sense of self-awareness with the world and consciousness. Because psychedelic experiences are largely influenced on the drug, dosage, tolerance level, and personal expectations, trips can be quite vivid and extremely difficult to describe. Filming the trip allows both you and the user to easily discuss and reflect on the experience. 2. During the Trip 2-1. Choose whether you want to actively interact with the user or stay uninvolved. In some situations such as during psychedelic therapy, the user may engage in guided meditation with the sitter. In other cases, the mere presence of another person is enough to keep the user calm. 2-2. Have a supply of water nearby and encourage the user to keep hydrated. A common side effect is dry mouth. 2-3. Anticipate "the munchies" by preparing food. Many drugs, like cannabis, cause an increase in appetite and users often experience greater enjoyment of food. Savoury foods like pizza, sandwiches, and chicken wings are sure to enhance the experience. 2-4. Intervene if the user feels a bad trip coming on. Overwhelming fear, anxiety, and depression are signs of an unpleasant experience. Calm the user by reminding them that this experience was brought on by a mind-altering substance and it'll fade away in a matter of hours (or minutes). Because a person's thoughts can influence the nature of the experience, reassure the user that everything will be okay. Try to change their mood by telling them that they took this substance to have a good time and nothing bad will physically happen to them. Move the user to another relaxing location. If the weather is nice and sunny, go for a walk. A change of scenery should provide more reassurance. Know what situations you can and can't handle and consider calling for professional medical assistance if you need to. Hospitals provide a safe environment and doctors are able to administer sedatives to help the user calm down and become less agitated. 3. After the Trip 3-1. Discuss the experience. If it was being filmed, play back the recording. When practicing psychedelic therapy, integrate the experience into your notes and make connections as to how the experience changed the user's thoughts and cognition. 3-2. Monitor the aftereffects. Some users may still feel a bit anxious and paranoid after the drug's peak has passed. Dry mouth is a common aftereffect, so continue hydration. 3-3. Allow the user to rest. Fatigue and tiredness is common after a trip (for instance, cannabis indica has the potential to induce sleepiness after the initial high). Sleep will also bring the user back to sobriety. Tips Consider online music streaming services to find playlists with relaxing music. Respect the user's personal space. When communicating with the user, speak in a calm soothing voice. Maintain a non-judgmental attitude to keep the atmosphere positive. Warnings Under no circumstances should you consume the drug yourself while trip sitting. The safety of the user is your responsibility and you need to stay sober during the experience. Use caution when moving the user to another environment. The new setting may trigger anxiety and paranoia. Refrain from going to crowded places like a mall. Drug prohibition still exists and many of the substances listed in this article are illegal or controlled. Several drugs, such as DXM, can be harmful when used recreationally or in large amounts. As a trip sitter, you are responsible for making sure the user takes a safe dosage.
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This level is caused by strong doses of cannabis, light doses of LSD, and light to common doses of mushrooms.\\n: open-eyed visuals become very obvious, with patterns and warped textures. Closing one's eyes brings on extremely vivid multidimensional geometric patterns. Time begins to become noticeably distorted and movement can be difficult. Brought on by common doses of LSD, mushrooms, and very high doses of cannabis.\\n: Strong hallucinations as objects may morph into one another. Personification of objects may be observed, such as things speaking to the user. Ego death may occur, resulting in a loss of sense of identity. Time is no longer apparent. Strong synesthesia. Achieved with strong doses of LSD, mushrooms, and mescaline.\\n: high-intensity experience; total disconnection with reality to the extent that attempting to explain the effects would be near impossible. Senses no longer function normally. The ego is completely gone. Extreme euphoria and enlightenment may occur and the user may feel a sense of complete oneness. Consuming salvia or extremely high doses of mushrooms or LSD brings on this level.\\n1-3. Ensure that the user's schedule is completely empty.\\nDepending on the substance and dosage, the high may last for up to 8 hours. Aim for a weekend or a day when the user won't be bothered by unexpected phone calls or guests.\\nBecause some physiologic effects may still occur even after the high is gone, consider a date when the user doesn't have any plans or deadlines the next day. You wouldn't want the user to get high on Sunday, only to skip the very important meeting on Monday due to fatigue.\\n1-4. Create a proper set and setting.\\nKeeping the user relaxed and comfortable will minimize the possibility of a bad trip.\\n\\\"\\\" refers to the mindset of the user, such as thoughts, moods, and expectations of the experience. 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In other cases, the mere presence of another person is enough to keep the user calm.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have a supply of water nearby and encourage the user to keep hydrated.\", \"描述\": \"A common side effect is dry mouth.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Anticipate \\\"the munchies\\\" by preparing food.\", \"描述\": \"Many drugs, like cannabis, cause an increase in appetite and users often experience greater enjoyment of food. Savoury foods like pizza, sandwiches, and chicken wings are sure to enhance the experience.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Intervene if the user feels a bad trip coming on.\", \"描述\": \"Overwhelming fear, anxiety, and depression are signs of an unpleasant experience.\\nCalm the user by reminding them that this experience was brought on by a mind-altering substance and it'll fade away in a matter of hours (or minutes).\\nBecause a person's thoughts can influence the nature of the experience, reassure the user that everything will be okay. Try to change their mood by telling them that they took this substance to have a good time and nothing bad will physically happen to them.\\nMove the user to another relaxing location. If the weather is nice and sunny, go for a walk. A change of scenery should provide more reassurance.\\nKnow what situations you can and can't handle and consider calling for professional medical assistance if you need to. Hospitals provide a safe environment and doctors are able to administer sedatives to help the user calm down and become less agitated.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"After the Trip\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Discuss the experience.\", \"描述\": \"If it was being filmed, play back the recording.\\nWhen practicing psychedelic therapy, integrate the experience into your notes and make connections as to how the experience changed the user's thoughts and cognition.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Monitor the aftereffects.\", \"描述\": \"Some users may still feel a bit anxious and paranoid after the drug's peak has passed. Dry mouth is a common aftereffect, so continue hydration.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Allow the user to rest.\", \"描述\": \"Fatigue and tiredness is common after a trip (for instance, cannabis indica has the potential to induce sleepiness after the initial high). Sleep will also bring the user back to sobriety.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Consider online music streaming services to find playlists with relaxing music.\\n\", \"Respect the user's personal space.\\n\", \"When communicating with the user, speak in a calm soothing voice. Maintain a non-judgmental attitude to keep the atmosphere positive.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Under no circumstances should you consume the drug yourself while trip sitting. The safety of the user is your responsibility and you need to stay sober during the experience.\\n\", \"Use caution when moving the user to another environment. The new setting may trigger anxiety and paranoia. Refrain from going to crowded places like a mall.\\n\", \"Drug prohibition still exists and many of the substances listed in this article are illegal or controlled.\\n\", \"Several drugs, such as DXM, can be harmful when used recreationally or in large amounts. As a trip sitter, you are responsible for making sure the user takes a safe dosage.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Trophy Wife
1. Finding a Partner 1-1. Ask your friends to set you up. Despite the rise in internet dating, most couples still meet the old fashioned way: through mutual friends. If you're looking for a specific type of partner, choose the friends you think might have that connection and ask them to set you up with single friends who match your criteria. Be open to dating people outside your normal type, as you may find there's a spark with the person you least expect. 1-2. Find hobbies and activities. In order to meet the one, you first have to meet new people, and there's no better time than when you're both participating in a mutually loved activity. For example, if you love old movies, wouldn’t it be great to find a partner who shares that interest? And what better place to meet that person than a classic movie theater or film festival. If you like hiking, jogging, and being active outdoors, consider joining a running group or outdoor activity club. For fans of arts and culture, hit up local museums, art galleries, and the local theater. Foodies can have a great time meeting at gourmet cooking classes or restaurant openings. 1-3. Explore your options at work. The workplace is another popular and common place to meet a romantic partner, but if you’ve been at your job for a while and haven't found anybody, maybe it’s time to start getting involved socially with some of your co-workers. Go for after-work drinks, attend work parties, and get to know some of the people you work with. Even if you don’t find the one among your fellow employees, who knows who your co-workers will introduce you to! If it’s available to you, you can always try looking for a new job, especially if you're looking for a partner with a specific job or skillset. 1-4. Give internet dating a try. There are hundreds of online dating sites out there that cater to people who are looking for very specific partners, and you're bound to find one that can set you up with the kind of person you're seeking. For instance, there are dating websites and apps for people: Of various religions and faiths In different income brackets With certain hobbies or interests Who want specific types of relationships In different age ranges With different educational backgrounds 1-5. See what the nightlife has to offer. Clubs, bars, and social events are still a top way to meet prospective partners, and you can help increase your odds of finding the right partner by choosing locations where that type of person might go. For instance, if you're looking for someone who appreciates the finer things in life, choose upscale clubs and events instead of local pubs and house parties. 2. Getting a Prospective Partner to Notice You 2-1. Educate yourself. The notion of having a trophy wife involves having a partner that you're proud to introduce to friends and family. To be a trophy wife, therefore, you need to be intelligent, know what's going on in the world, and be able to carry on an intellectual conversation about a wide array of topics. Not only that, but you’ll easily attract potential partners if you can hold your own in a conversation, and you can help yourself by: Staying on top of current events, read at least one newspaper daily. Reading books and materials of all kinds, including fiction and non-fiction, features, history, political discourses, and classic literature. Looking up college courses that interest you, finding the reading lists, and borrowing those books from the library to read in your spare time. This is especially helpful if you don’t have the money for a formal education but are still interested in certain degrees. 2-2. Have your own goals. Being a strong and independent person are always attractive qualities in a prospective partner, which is why you need to have your own dreams and ambitions, and should set and work toward your own goals. Moreover, a prospective partner will find you much more interesting if you have stories to tell and big dreams for yourself. Your goals can involve things like: Traveling Volunteering Making a difference in the world Starting a business or foundation Education and learning Taking up certain hobbies 2-3. Work hard for your own success. When it comes to so-called trophy wives, more often than not the women involved in the marriage were successful and wealthy before they married their partners. But everybody measures success differently, and setting and achieving goals is a good way to determine your own personal success. Depending on your dreams, success may mean: Getting promoted to a certain position Landing a dream job with your favorite company Getting your own business or foundation off the ground Visiting specific countries or landmarks Obtaining a degree or diploma Having a certain amount of money saved away 2-4. Be charming, confident, and outgoing. Being fun, sociable, and easy to get along with will help you find the perfect partner, and it will make your partner even more eager to show you off to friends and family. Practice being charming, confident, personable, and fun to be around. Being charming doesn’t come naturally to everyone, but you can practice this by being kind, being a good listener, and don’t be afraid to tell interesting stories about yourself and the things you’ve done. For some people, part of the appeal of trophy partners is that they can inspire envy in others, so if you get along with everybody and are charming, successful, and confident, people will be attracted to you. 3. Keeping up Appearances 3-1. Practice good hygiene. Proper hygiene is a good habit for anybody because it means that you care for yourself and take care of your body. Proper hygiene doesn’t have to be an elaborate routine, but whether you're still looking for your perfect mate or have already tied the knot, good hygiene is paramount. Nonetheless, a good routine can be as simple as: Flossing and brushing your teeth at least twice daily Showering with soap daily and washing your hair with shampoo at least weekly Keeping your hands clean and your nails nicely manicured Wearing clean clothes Combing or styling your hair 3-2. Pamper yourself. Not only will frequent spa days keep you relaxed, but they’ll also ensure that your body is taken care of. Opt for treatments that involve keeping your hair, skin, and nails groomed and youthful, such as: Facial treatments Hot oil scalp treatments Manicures Pedicures 3-3. Take care of your body. Staying in shape, eating well, exercising, and keeping your body fit will make you healthier, more radiant, and will help keep you younger longer. Taking care of your body can also help attract a prospective romantic partner, and if you’ve already married then it also shows your partner that you care enough about the relationship to stay fit. To do this: Exercise at least three days a week Eat a balanced diet with lots of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains Drink water whenever you feel thirsty Get plenty of rest every night Look after yourself when you're sick 3-4. Dress for success. Fashion will always be a subjective notion, but by staying on top of current trends and keeping classically fashionable items in your wardrobe, you can dress to kill regardless of whether you're going to work, the gym, or a cocktail party. Not only that, but wearing nice clothes and looking good will attract the attention of others, and this will make you feel good, it will attract a possible romantic partner if you're still looking, and it can make your partner feel good too. Wear outfits that are flattering for your shape and colors that complement your skin. Read magazines and stay on top of what current fashions are. If you want people to notice your body, wear form fitting outfits that still leave plenty to the imagination. Some suggest that showing 40 percent skin is the perfect amount to attract a mate, so try dresses and skirts that stop at the knee or a little above, and clothes that show some of your torso and arms but not too much cleavage. 3-5. Appreciate the finer things in life. When you're wealthy and successful, you have the privilege of being able to spend more money on things you like. This makes it easier to stay on trend with current fashions, which is important for somebody who is supposed to be an icon for all things popular. And fashion doesn’t just have to do with clothes, as there are also trends with: Exercises, such as hot yoga Spa treatments Haute cuisine food and new restaurants Jewelry Cars and vehicles Neighborhoods to live in 4. Working Hard at the Relationship 4-1. Help your partner succeed as well. There can be no such thing as a trophy spouse without the partner in marriage, and part of a healthy marriage means that you support each other and help each other succeed in life, in your careers, and elsewhere. Ways you can help your partner succeed include: Being fun and sociable at meetings and parties for his work or friends. Complimenting him in front of his friends and colleagues, and always looking nice when you meet them. 4-2. Give and get what you need from your partner. Any marriage is a give and take relationship that involves love, compromise, and trust. On top of getting the love and support you need from your partner, you must also ensure that you provide encouragement, have faith in your partner, and be there when your partner needs help or support. Intimacy is also an important part of many romantic relationships, so even if your schedules are busy, always make time each other. 4-3. Enjoy your life together. Marriage is all about sharing your life with someone you love, and that means doing things, going places, meeting people, and making memories together. While you may both be busy, make time to enjoy your lives, which you can do by: Making time for friends and family Going traveling and vacationing together Having shared hobbies or past-times Having romantic date nights Getting out and seeing the world (or just your city) together
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And what better place to meet that person than a classic movie theater or film festival.\\nIf you like hiking, jogging, and being active outdoors, consider joining a running group or outdoor activity club.\\nFor fans of arts and culture, hit up local museums, art galleries, and the local theater.\\nFoodies can have a great time meeting at gourmet cooking classes or restaurant openings.\\n1-3. Explore your options at work.\\nThe workplace is another popular and common place to meet a romantic partner, but if you’ve been at your job for a while and haven't found anybody, maybe it’s time to start getting involved socially with some of your co-workers. Go for after-work drinks, attend work parties, and get to know some of the people you work with. Even if you don’t find the one among your fellow employees, who knows who your co-workers will introduce you to!\\nIf it’s available to you, you can always try looking for a new job, especially if you're looking for a partner with a specific job or skillset.\\n1-4. Give internet dating a try.\\nThere are hundreds of online dating sites out there that cater to people who are looking for very specific partners, and you're bound to find one that can set you up with the kind of person you're seeking. For instance, there are dating websites and apps for people:\\nOf various religions and faiths\\nIn different income brackets\\nWith certain hobbies or interests\\nWho want specific types of relationships\\nIn different age ranges\\nWith different educational backgrounds\\n1-5. See what the nightlife has to offer.\\nClubs, bars, and social events are still a top way to meet prospective partners, and you can help increase your odds of finding the right partner by choosing locations where that type of person might go.\\nFor instance, if you're looking for someone who appreciates the finer things in life, choose upscale clubs and events instead of local pubs and house parties.\\n2. Getting a Prospective Partner to Notice You\\n2-1. Educate yourself.\\nThe notion of having a trophy wife involves having a partner that you're proud to introduce to friends and family. To be a trophy wife, therefore, you need to be intelligent, know what's going on in the world, and be able to carry on an intellectual conversation about a wide array of topics. Not only that, but you’ll easily attract potential partners if you can hold your own in a conversation, and you can help yourself by:\\nStaying on top of current events, read at least one newspaper daily.\\nReading books and materials of all kinds, including fiction and non-fiction, features, history, political discourses, and classic literature.\\nLooking up college courses that interest you, finding the reading lists, and borrowing those books from the library to read in your spare time. This is especially helpful if you don’t have the money for a formal education but are still interested in certain degrees.\\n2-2. Have your own goals.\\nBeing a strong and independent person are always attractive qualities in a prospective partner, which is why you need to have your own dreams and ambitions, and should set and work toward your own goals. Moreover, a prospective partner will find you much more interesting if you have stories to tell and big dreams for yourself. 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Be charming, confident, and outgoing.\\nBeing fun, sociable, and easy to get along with will help you find the perfect partner, and it will make your partner even more eager to show you off to friends and family. Practice being charming, confident, personable, and fun to be around.\\nBeing charming doesn’t come naturally to everyone, but you can practice this by being kind, being a good listener, and don’t be afraid to tell interesting stories about yourself and the things you’ve done.\\nFor some people, part of the appeal of trophy partners is that they can inspire envy in others, so if you get along with everybody and are charming, successful, and confident, people will be attracted to you.\\n3. Keeping up Appearances\\n3-1. Practice good hygiene.\\nProper hygiene is a good habit for anybody because it means that you care for yourself and take care of your body. Proper hygiene doesn’t have to be an elaborate routine, but whether you're still looking for your perfect mate or have already tied the knot, good hygiene is paramount. Nonetheless, a good routine can be as simple as:\\nFlossing and brushing your teeth at least twice daily\\nShowering with soap daily and washing your hair with shampoo at least weekly\\nKeeping your hands clean and your nails nicely manicured\\nWearing clean clothes\\nCombing or styling your hair\\n3-2. Pamper yourself.\\nNot only will frequent spa days keep you relaxed, but they’ll also ensure that your body is taken care of. Opt for treatments that involve keeping your hair, skin, and nails groomed and youthful, such as:\\nFacial treatments\\nHot oil scalp treatments\\nManicures\\nPedicures\\n3-3. Take care of your body.\\nStaying in shape, eating well, exercising, and keeping your body fit will make you healthier, more radiant, and will help keep you younger longer. Taking care of your body can also help attract a prospective romantic partner, and if you’ve already married then it also shows your partner that you care enough about the relationship to stay fit. To do this:\\nExercise at least three days a week\\nEat a balanced diet with lots of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains\\nDrink water whenever you feel thirsty\\nGet plenty of rest every night\\nLook after yourself when you're sick\\n3-4. Dress for success.\\nFashion will always be a subjective notion, but by staying on top of current trends and keeping classically fashionable items in your wardrobe, you can dress to kill regardless of whether you're going to work, the gym, or a cocktail party. Not only that, but wearing nice clothes and looking good will attract the attention of others, and this will make you feel good, it will attract a possible romantic partner if you're still looking, and it can make your partner feel good too.\\nWear outfits that are flattering for your shape and colors that complement your skin.\\nRead magazines and stay on top of what current fashions are.\\nIf you want people to notice your body, wear form fitting outfits that still leave plenty to the imagination. Some suggest that showing 40 percent skin is the perfect amount to attract a mate, so try dresses and skirts that stop at the knee or a little above, and clothes that show some of your torso and arms but not too much cleavage.\\n3-5. Appreciate the finer things in life.\\nWhen you're wealthy and successful, you have the privilege of being able to spend more money on things you like. This makes it easier to stay on trend with current fashions, which is important for somebody who is supposed to be an icon for all things popular. And fashion doesn’t just have to do with clothes, as there are also trends with:\\nExercises, such as hot yoga\\nSpa treatments\\nHaute cuisine food and new restaurants\\nJewelry\\nCars and vehicles\\nNeighborhoods to live in\\n4. Working Hard at the Relationship\\n4-1. Help your partner succeed as well.\\nThere can be no such thing as a trophy spouse without the partner in marriage, and part of a healthy marriage means that you support each other and help each other succeed in life, in your careers, and elsewhere. Ways you can help your partner succeed include:\\nBeing fun and sociable at meetings and parties for his work or friends.\\nComplimenting him in front of his friends and colleagues, and always looking nice when you meet them.\\n4-2. Give and get what you need from your partner.\\nAny marriage is a give and take relationship that involves love, compromise, and trust. On top of getting the love and support you need from your partner, you must also ensure that you provide encouragement, have faith in your partner, and be there when your partner needs help or support.\\nIntimacy is also an important part of many romantic relationships, so even if your schedules are busy, always make time each other.\\n4-3. Enjoy your life together.\\nMarriage is all about sharing your life with someone you love, and that means doing things, going places, meeting people, and making memories together. While you may both be busy, make time to enjoy your lives, which you can do by:\\nMaking time for friends and family\\nGoing traveling and vacationing together\\nHaving shared hobbies or past-times\\nHaving romantic date nights\\nGetting out and seeing the world (or just your city) together\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The term “trophy wife” is often used in a derogatory sense to describe any married woman who’s young, attractive, who has expensive taste, and who’s married to a rich (and possibly older) man. However, most of the women labelled “trophy wives” are just as independently successful, ambitious, and wealthy as their partners. The idea of the trophy wife exists, therefore, because rich and good looking people tend to marry other rich and good looking people, but sexist assumptions, prejudices, and misconceptions lead people to believe that the woman must just be in it for the money. In reality, being a trophy spouse means being an impressive person, and you can achieve this by being attractive (in character, not just physical beauty), being educated and worldly, being successful, being fun and outgoing, and being a role model that any person would be proud to have as a friend, partner, or mentor.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Finding a Partner\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask your friends to set you up.\", \"描述\": \"Despite the rise in internet dating, most couples still meet the old fashioned way: through mutual friends. 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For instance, there are dating websites and apps for people:\\nOf various religions and faiths\\nIn different income brackets\\nWith certain hobbies or interests\\nWho want specific types of relationships\\nIn different age ranges\\nWith different educational backgrounds\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"See what the nightlife has to offer.\", \"描述\": \"Clubs, bars, and social events are still a top way to meet prospective partners, and you can help increase your odds of finding the right partner by choosing locations where that type of person might go.\\nFor instance, if you're looking for someone who appreciates the finer things in life, choose upscale clubs and events instead of local pubs and house parties.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting a Prospective Partner to Notice You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself.\", \"描述\": \"The notion of having a trophy wife involves having a partner that you're proud to introduce to friends and family. To be a trophy wife, therefore, you need to be intelligent, know what's going on in the world, and be able to carry on an intellectual conversation about a wide array of topics. Not only that, but you’ll easily attract potential partners if you can hold your own in a conversation, and you can help yourself by:\\nStaying on top of current events, read at least one newspaper daily.\\nReading books and materials of all kinds, including fiction and non-fiction, features, history, political discourses, and classic literature.\\nLooking up college courses that interest you, finding the reading lists, and borrowing those books from the library to read in your spare time. This is especially helpful if you don’t have the money for a formal education but are still interested in certain degrees.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have your own goals.\", \"描述\": \"Being a strong and independent person are always attractive qualities in a prospective partner, which is why you need to have your own dreams and ambitions, and should set and work toward your own goals. Moreover, a prospective partner will find you much more interesting if you have stories to tell and big dreams for yourself. Your goals can involve things like:\\nTraveling\\nVolunteering\\nMaking a difference in the world\\nStarting a business or foundation\\nEducation and learning\\nTaking up certain hobbies\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work hard for your own success.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to so-called trophy wives, more often than not the women involved in the marriage were successful and wealthy before they married their partners. But everybody measures success differently, and setting and achieving goals is a good way to determine your own personal success. Depending on your dreams, success may mean:\\nGetting promoted to a certain position\\nLanding a dream job with your favorite company\\nGetting your own business or foundation off the ground\\nVisiting specific countries or landmarks\\nObtaining a degree or diploma\\nHaving a certain amount of money saved away\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be charming, confident, and outgoing.\", \"描述\": \"Being fun, sociable, and easy to get along with will help you find the perfect partner, and it will make your partner even more eager to show you off to friends and family. Practice being charming, confident, personable, and fun to be around.\\nBeing charming doesn’t come naturally to everyone, but you can practice this by being kind, being a good listener, and don’t be afraid to tell interesting stories about yourself and the things you’ve done.\\nFor some people, part of the appeal of trophy partners is that they can inspire envy in others, so if you get along with everybody and are charming, successful, and confident, people will be attracted to you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keeping up Appearances\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"Proper hygiene is a good habit for anybody because it means that you care for yourself and take care of your body. Proper hygiene doesn’t have to be an elaborate routine, but whether you're still looking for your perfect mate or have already tied the knot, good hygiene is paramount. Nonetheless, a good routine can be as simple as:\\nFlossing and brushing your teeth at least twice daily\\nShowering with soap daily and washing your hair with shampoo at least weekly\\nKeeping your hands clean and your nails nicely manicured\\nWearing clean clothes\\nCombing or styling your hair\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pamper yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Not only will frequent spa days keep you relaxed, but they’ll also ensure that your body is taken care of. Opt for treatments that involve keeping your hair, skin, and nails groomed and youthful, such as:\\nFacial treatments\\nHot oil scalp treatments\\nManicures\\nPedicures\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take care of your body.\", \"描述\": \"Staying in shape, eating well, exercising, and keeping your body fit will make you healthier, more radiant, and will help keep you younger longer. Taking care of your body can also help attract a prospective romantic partner, and if you’ve already married then it also shows your partner that you care enough about the relationship to stay fit. To do this:\\nExercise at least three days a week\\nEat a balanced diet with lots of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains\\nDrink water whenever you feel thirsty\\nGet plenty of rest every night\\nLook after yourself when you're sick\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dress for success.\", \"描述\": \"Fashion will always be a subjective notion, but by staying on top of current trends and keeping classically fashionable items in your wardrobe, you can dress to kill regardless of whether you're going to work, the gym, or a cocktail party. Not only that, but wearing nice clothes and looking good will attract the attention of others, and this will make you feel good, it will attract a possible romantic partner if you're still looking, and it can make your partner feel good too.\\nWear outfits that are flattering for your shape and colors that complement your skin.\\nRead magazines and stay on top of what current fashions are.\\nIf you want people to notice your body, wear form fitting outfits that still leave plenty to the imagination. Some suggest that showing 40 percent skin is the perfect amount to attract a mate, so try dresses and skirts that stop at the knee or a little above, and clothes that show some of your torso and arms but not too much cleavage.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Appreciate the finer things in life.\", \"描述\": \"When you're wealthy and successful, you have the privilege of being able to spend more money on things you like. This makes it easier to stay on trend with current fashions, which is important for somebody who is supposed to be an icon for all things popular. And fashion doesn’t just have to do with clothes, as there are also trends with:\\nExercises, such as hot yoga\\nSpa treatments\\nHaute cuisine food and new restaurants\\nJewelry\\nCars and vehicles\\nNeighborhoods to live in\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Working Hard at the Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help your partner succeed as well.\", \"描述\": \"There can be no such thing as a trophy spouse without the partner in marriage, and part of a healthy marriage means that you support each other and help each other succeed in life, in your careers, and elsewhere. Ways you can help your partner succeed include:\\nBeing fun and sociable at meetings and parties for his work or friends.\\nComplimenting him in front of his friends and colleagues, and always looking nice when you meet them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Give and get what you need from your partner.\", \"描述\": \"Any marriage is a give and take relationship that involves love, compromise, and trust. On top of getting the love and support you need from your partner, you must also ensure that you provide encouragement, have faith in your partner, and be there when your partner needs help or support.\\nIntimacy is also an important part of many romantic relationships, so even if your schedules are busy, always make time each other.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enjoy your life together.\", \"描述\": \"Marriage is all about sharing your life with someone you love, and that means doing things, going places, meeting people, and making memories together. While you may both be busy, make time to enjoy your lives, which you can do by:\\nMaking time for friends and family\\nGoing traveling and vacationing together\\nHaving shared hobbies or past-times\\nHaving romantic date nights\\nGetting out and seeing the world (or just your city) together\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a VSCO Girl
1. Nailing the Look 1-1. Wear clothes that have a loose, beachy vibe. VSCO girls have a laid back attitude, and their clothes show it. Wear oversized t-shirts, sweaters, and tube tops, and pair them with comfy short shorts. Cuffed, high-waisted jeans are also VSCO-approved. 1-2. Opt for bright, colorful clothing. VSCO girls love pastels and bright, beachy colors, like pink, yellow, and light blue. Tie-dye is perfect too. Neutral colors like black and white can work too—you can always wear bright accessories to make up for the lack of color. 1-3. Wear scrunchies around your wrists as bracelets. Thick, fluffy hair scrunchies are a hallmark of the VSCO girl look. Choose a scrunchie color that matches your outfit to create a cohesive VSCO look, or wear multiple scrunchies in different colors. You don't even have to ever wear the scrunchies in your hair—they'll just be your new set of flashy bracelets. 1-4. Accesorize with shell necklaces. An iconic VSCO girl ensemble isn't complete without a shell necklace. Puka shell necklaces are most on-trend, but you can also wear metal jewelry that looks like shells. You can even make your own shell necklace. 1-5. Complete your outfit with a comfortable pair of shoes. True VSCO girls value comfort over fashion. Slip on a pair of Birkenstocks or Crocs, and you're ready to hit the beach. Even better if you pair them with socks. Slip-on skateboarding shoes, like Vans, are also big in the VSCO girl community. 2. Embracing the VSCO Lifestyle 2-1. Edit your selfies with the VSCO app. You can’t really call yourself a VSCO girl if you’re not editing your photos with the trend’s namesake app. Download the photo editor on your smartphone, and use it to add great filters to your selfies. Use the light pastel filters on the app to give your pictures a relaxed, beachy vibe. These filters will also highlight your lighter clothing, which will help capture your overall VSCO girl aesthetic. 2-2. Try out some VSCO slang. VSCO girls have their own way of talking. If something's funny, don't just laugh, say "sksksk." When you're shocked or surprised, throw a "and I oop" out there. Practice incorporating these slang words into your everyday speech. If your friend sends you a funny video or picture, you'll definitely want to reply with “sksksk.” You might say "and I oop" if your friend breaks the news that they're dating someone new. 2-3. Take lots of pictures with an instant camera. Follow in the footsteps of countless VSCO girls by getting yourself a Fujifilm or Polaroid camera. Bring it with you everywhere—you don't want to miss out on capturing your favorite memories with your friends. You can hang up all the pictures in your room. Instant pictures have that pastel, grainy quality to them that totally goes with the VSCO girl aesthetic. 2-4. Take good care of your skin. You want to stay looking young and fresh for all of your VSCO girl selfies. Wash your face twice a day and use products like facial spray to keep your skin smooth and hydrated. Don’t worry about having a complicated, multi-step skincare process. After all, true VSCO girls are relaxed and focused on living each day to the fullest. Don't forget to carry some lip balm with you—VSCO girls are never caught without it. Lip balm made from beeswax is a plus because it's all-natural. 2-5. Carry a reusable water bottle around with you. VSCO girls are environmentally conscious. Invest in a reusable water bottle (Hydro Flasks are super popular among VSCO girls) and a set of metal straws, and ditch plastic water bottles for good. Bonus points if you use reusable bags instead of plastic ones when you go grocery shopping. 3. Being a VSCO Girl on Social Media 3-1. Use the #VSCOgirl hashtag on all your posts. Whether it's your latest selfie at the beach or a message to your VSCO friends, don't forget to add the hashtag at the end. It might get your post more traffic, and you could end up meeting some other VSCO girls. 3-2. Post VSCO-themed selfies on Instagram. After applying a VSCO filter (or 2), upload your latest and greatest selfie to your Instagram profile. VSCO girls are always promoting their VSCO lifestyle. You could even make a separate account just for all your VSCO aesthetic pics. Don't forget to add #VSCOgirl to your post. 3-3. Make TikTok videos about being a VSCO girl. VSCO girls love TikTok. Make funny and trendy videos with your friends showing off your VSCO aesthetic. Your video could go viral, you never know! You can also make a YouTube channel to post your VSCO-themed vids on.
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How to Be a Vegan Teenager
1. Transitioning to a Vegan Diet 1-1. Talk to your parents and family. It's important to speak to your parents or family members about your desire to adopt a vegan diet and lifestyle. They might be interested in why you want to become a vegan in addition to possibly being worried about your overall health and wellness. Your parents or family might be somewhat unfamiliar with a vegan diet. It's commonly thought that it's difficult to eat enough protein or enough nutrients when following a vegan diet. You can see how this may worry your parents. Prior to bringing up the subject with your parents, spend some time researching veganism, the restrictions involved, foods you'll be able to eat, and how you think you'll be able to incorporate this eating pattern and lifestyle into your life. Present your argument for becoming a vegan to your parents in a calm, considerate tone. Share with them the reasons you feel it's important for you to become a vegan. Present any research or resources you've found to share with them. Consider transitioning to veganism in stages. Try first cutting back on meat, then moving to a vegetarian diet, then becoming vegan. It's also very important to listen to your parents' or family's concerns. Be open-minded and truly consider what they have to say. They have your best interests at heart. Show your parents a vegan cookbook or offer to cook everyone dinner one night. You can also show them a mock meal plan you've developed. Enter the meal plan into an app that tracks nutrients to prove you're eating a healthy and complete diet. 1-2. Read all labels. Become familiar with all food labels, especially in regards to processed or pre-made foods. Some items may look vegan when in reality they're not. For example, a vinaigrette that contains honey. Read over the ingredient label to make sure there are no animal products in your foods. For example, many baked goods are made with eggs and milk which are not included on a vegan diet. Other foods that may not be vegan are salad dressings or sauces. Choose pre-made foods that specifically say "vegan" on their label. This will help make it easier to choose different items. Also pay attention to labels for cosmetics, soaps, and other toiletries. Some companies still test their products on animals; vegans will not use these types of products. 1-3. Purchase vitamin and mineral supplements. Vegan diets can be a very healthy way of eating; however, vegan diets are not necessarily 100% complete in terms of the necessary vitamins and minerals you need. This is especially important for teenagers as you're still growing and developing; however, with adequate planning and a few vitamin or mineral supplements veganism for teens is an appropriate and healthy way of eating. One nutrient, in particular, is Vitamin B12. Without supplementation, a vegan diet contains little to no vitamin B12. This vitamin is typically found in animal products (like poultry, red meat or dairy items). A vegan diet completely removes all animal products and therefore has a high risk of not consuming adequate amounts of vitamin B12 which can lead to a deficiency. Choose to take a B12 supplement or choose foods like fortified vegan milks, meat substitutes or cereals that have adequate B12. Other nutrients to be aware of are calcium and Vitamin D. Both of these nutrients are essential for healthy bones and bone growth (much of which is occurring during adolescence.) Choose items like fortified juices or vegan milks, dark leafy greens, almonds, and tofu. Vitamin and mineral supplements are not meant to replace foods. Consume a balanced, nutritious diet and aim to meet 100% of your daily nutrient needs through foods. Supplements are just a "back up" to your diet. 2. Preparing Vegan Meals 2-1. Write up a meal plan. Writing out a weekly meal plan can help you make sure you're consuming a well-balanced diet. Again, vegan diets are more restrictive compared to a non-vegan diet and a little more thought needs to go into your weekly meals and snacks. Take an hour or two of your free time and write up your ideas for all meals and snacks. Share your ideas with your family, especially if you're not the one going grocery shopping or preparing the meals at home. Write up a list of your favorite vegan meals (or mostly vegan meals) that you or your family already consume. This might not only help your family, but can make the transition easier if you're already familiar with a few tasty meals that are vegan. You can rely on these as you learn new recipes and tips. If you're busy or on the go, plan for meals that are quick, or keep a shelf-stable vegan snack with you. Take it slowly! This is the most important thing to remember. Very few people can make the change from omnivore (or even vegetarian) to vegan overnight. Try eating vegan for one meal out of the day, and then two, and finally three. 2-2. Ask your parents to make you an appointment with a doctor or dietitian. Take your meal plan to your appointment for review. They can ensure you are getting everything you need nutritionally, give you ideas for meals, and make sure you stay healthy and thrive while living a vegan lifestyle. Ask them: "Am I accounting for all three meals, plus snacks?"; "Am I consuming enough calories at each meal?"; "Is my diet nutritionally adequate?" Quick and easy-to-prepare meals include: 100% whole wheat spaghetti with tomato sauce, broccoli and vegan meatballs; vegan quesadillas with vegan cheese, grilled vegetables, and black beans or a spinach salad with pan-fried tofu, vegetables, and your favorite salad dressing. 2-3. Go grocery shopping. Going to the market and stocking up on some essential vegan items will be important. Having items that will fit into your diet on hand will make it much easier to prepare and eat vegan meals. Talk to your parents — especially if they are the ones that are going to the grocery store and paying for the majority of the food in your household. Ask to tag along and add a few vegan items to the cart. Remember, you don't need a whole bunch of new or specialty items. You and your family might already have a fair amount of vegan items on hand at home. Items like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, beans, and nuts are all items that will fit well into a vegan diet. If you or your family has a fairly well-stocked kitchen, focus on purchasing alternate protein sources instead. Items like vegan cheese, tofu, tempeh, or meat substitutes are great sources of protein. 2-4. Consume adequate protein. One concern many people have with vegetarian or vegan diets is the ability to consume adequate protein. With a well-planned and well-balanced diet, vegans (even teenagers) should have no problem consuming adequate protein. Teenage boys generally need to consume around 52 g of protein daily and teenage girls need to consume around 46 g of protein daily. Choose a variety of protein sources throughout the day. Each different protein will offer different valuable nutrients. Vegan proteins to try or to incorporate into your diet include tofu, tempeh, seitan, beans, lentils, nuts, vegan cheese/yogurt, and nut-based or soy milks. Also give meat analogues or substitutes a try. If you try these items ensure that they are 100% vegan. They are made to taste somewhat and look like typical meat products. For example, there are "deli meats" and "bacon" that are 100% vegan. 2-5. Eat 100% whole grains each day. Whole grains contain all 3 parts of the grain: the germ, endosperm, and bran. All 3 parts offer various nutrients to your body. Fiber, nutrients and even protein are key nutrients found in 100% whole grains. For vegans, whole grains can offer a valuable source of protein. Whole grain foods include oats, brown rice, quinoa, 100% whole wheat pasta, corn, farro, millet, or barley. Try to minimize refined or processed grains. These types of grains have been stripped of all their nutritional value. Items like these are considered refined grains: white bread, white rice, and plain pasta. 2-6. Fill up your meals with fruits and vegetables. These naturally vegan foods are a great source of vitamins, minerals, and fiber. It's recommended to make 50% of all your meals a fruit or a vegetable. Choose a variety of fruits and vegetables each day and week. Having a large variety of these foods will help you consume a wider range of nutrients. 2-7. Eat plant sources of healthy fats. Omega-3 fats are healthy fats that are commonly found in some animal products. They should be included in a vegan diet from other sources. Vegan sources of healthy fats include: avocado, flaxseed, walnuts, tofu, soybeans, and walnuts. Try to incorporate a healthy fat at least one to two times per day. 3. Accounting for Lifestyle Factors 3-1. Pack your lunch and snacks. When transitioning to a vegan diet as a teenager, you have to take your lifestyle into consideration. Think about your school schedule, extracurricular activities, sports, and other events. Packing your lunch might be a necessary option. Many school cafeterias don't offer vegetarian or vegan meals. Packing your lunch each day may help make sure you have a good, nutritious meal that you'll enjoy and fits your vegan lifestyle. Vegan packed lunch options could include: Sliced veggies, hummus, and avocado on vegan pita bread; whole-wheat pasta tossed with broccoli, black olives, vegan meatballs, and tomato sauce; or vegan whole wheat bread with vegan cheese and vegan deli meat and 1 cup raw carrots. Packing vegan snacks can also make life a little easier - especially if you have after school activities. Vegan snacks can include soy yogurt and fruit; apple with peanut butter; or 1/3 cup of trail mix. It might also be smart to carry around dried or fresh fruit for a quick snack. They're great for a quick needed meal or snack. 3-2. Eat enough protein and carbs for active lifestyles or sports. Teenage athletes need a little more protein and carbohydrates than teens who are not participating in sports or other athletics. Consuming protein and complex carbs at every meal and snack can help make sure you consume your required daily amount. Athletes participating in endurance sports require 0.5 – 0.8 g per pound per day of protein. Moderate to heavy training requires 3 to 4.5 grams of carbohydrates per pound. Your doctor or dietitian can help you ensure you are meeting these amounts. Carbohydrates are the most important fuel — and are the only fuel that can be used for power moves. It might also be a good idea to have a snack before and after a sports game, practice or athletic event so you can fuel and recover better. 3-3. Consume adequate iron daily. Teenagers need to ensure they're consuming adequate iron daily. This is especially true for teenage girls and if they are menstruating. Ideally, aim for at least 15 mg iron daily for teenage girls. Teenage boys need around 11 mg of iron daily. Vegan foods that are high in iron include beans, dark greens, tofu, and some nuts. Consuming iron-rich foods with vitamin C rich food (like citrus fruit or OJ) can help increase the absorption of iron. Taking a daily multivitamin/multimineral can also help you meet the daily recommendations for iron in addition to a variety of other nutrients. If you are feeling fatigued all the time, it is likely that you are deficient in iron or another vitamin. Ask your primary care provider for blood work to ensure you are not lacking a necessary nutrient. 4. Building a Support System 4-1. Recognize support is important. A support group can not only help you answer questions as you transition to a vegan diet. It also can serve as emotional support and encouragement. The teen years are ones where most people are sensitive to wanting to fit in with their peers. Teasing or negative reactions to going vegan can be really upsetting. It’s important to have a support group, especially if your friends and family aren’t vegan. 4-2. Connect on social media. Social media is convenient because it can provide support anywhere, anytime. Join Facebook groups for vegan teens. Join regular Facebook vegan groups and seek out other vegan teenagers there. Follow vegan teenagers on YouTube and Instagram. Join the vegan subreddit on Reddit. See if vegan clubs at colleges and universities you attend (or plan on applying to) have social media sites you can follow or join. 4-3. Connect in your community. Interacting face to face with supportive people can make your vegan journey much better than going it alone. Your community may have vegan and almost-vegan teenagers and vegan adults who would be happy to provide you with support and encouragement. Some vegan teens who feel alone may be surprised to learn how many people similar to themselves are already in their community. Start a vegan and vegetarian club at school. Many vegetarians care about animals and would appreciate additional tips and education about vegan options. See if a vegan Meetup.com group exists in your area. Contact Vegan Outreach's Vegan Mentor Program. Vegan Outreach encourages people of all ages to sign up either to be a mentor or get a mentor. However, if you are between the ages of 13 and 17, they require a short email from one of your parents giving permission and stating your name and age. See if your local university or college has a vegan student group. (Even if you’re not already in college, some may welcome you to attend meetings.) If negative reactions to your choice to go vegan is causing you distress that interferes with your life, consider calling local therapists to ask if they’re vegan-friendly and treat teenagers. 4-4. Connect outside your community. Several options exist for connecting with supportive fellow vegans outside your community. Attend a vegan summer camp. Ask vegan animal advocacy organizations about internships. Don’t wait for official internship postings before reaching out to inquire about internship opportunities. Unless you are lucky enough to live in a city where an advocacy organization is located, you may need to do an internship remotely or travel. For summer internships, for example, some teens may stay temporarily with family or other trusted adults. Call the Animal Activist Hotline if needed. They provide supportive telephone and e-counseling, contacts for local and national activist resources, and referrals for psychotherapists who are sensitive to activists’ concerns. (For activists in the United States and Canada: (800) 705-0425 or by email at [email protected]). 4-5. Don’t give up. The only thing vegans have in common is their vegan lifestyle. Vegans have different personalities. Some are warm and supportive, whereas others are cold and critical. Don’t let unkind comments or criticism from anyone—including other vegans—get you down. Many vegans would love to support and encourage you in your vegan journey. Don’t give up until you find them! Tips While some believe there is no such thing as a "flexible" vegan if you are going to be a pure vegan, others choose to eliminate some or most of the animal products in their diet. You should not keep a narrow mindset on the definition of veganism. Some vegans follow a vegan diet but may use animal products, some accept refined sugar and others do not, and some even consume amounts of certified humane products. When going to a friend's house, they may not realize they have vegan food around. You can usually find a piece of fruit or a salad or sandwich with fresh vegetables on it. It also helps to carry vegan snacks with you or search the PETA website and find out which fast foods are vegan. Educating yourself and learning about this new diet and lifestyle pattern may make the transition easier. Get some books from your school library, and search around on the Internet. There are a variety of great resources available. Warnings Make sure you are getting all of your vitamins! Talk to a doctor and your parents before taking supplements. Ask about a multivitamin or supplements such as B-12 or iron. Always consult with your physician prior to making any large changes to your diet. Many foods that are vegan are not actually good for you. Just because a food doesn’t contain animal products, does not mean that it is automatically healthy. For example, potato chips, Airheads, Sour Patch Kids, Oreos, Hershey's syrup, etc. are all vegan.[14] X Research source
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Share with them the reasons you feel it's important for you to become a vegan. Present any research or resources you've found to share with them.\\nConsider transitioning to veganism in stages. Try first cutting back on meat, then moving to a vegetarian diet, then becoming vegan.\\nIt's also very important to listen to your parents' or family's concerns. Be open-minded and truly consider what they have to say. They have your best interests at heart.\\nShow your parents a vegan cookbook or offer to cook everyone dinner one night.\\nYou can also show them a mock meal plan you've developed. Enter the meal plan into an app that tracks nutrients to prove you're eating a healthy and complete diet.\\n1-2. Read all labels.\\nBecome familiar with all food labels, especially in regards to processed or pre-made foods. Some items may look vegan when in reality they're not. For example, a vinaigrette that contains honey. Read over the ingredient label to make sure there are no animal products in your foods.\\nFor example, many baked goods are made with eggs and milk which are not included on a vegan diet. Other foods that may not be vegan are salad dressings or sauces.\\nChoose pre-made foods that specifically say \\\"vegan\\\" on their label. This will help make it easier to choose different items.\\nAlso pay attention to labels for cosmetics, soaps, and other toiletries. Some companies still test their products on animals; vegans will not use these types of products.\\n1-3. Purchase vitamin and mineral supplements.\\nVegan diets can be a very healthy way of eating; however, vegan diets are not necessarily 100% complete in terms of the necessary vitamins and minerals you need. This is especially important for teenagers as you're still growing and developing; however, with adequate planning and a few vitamin or mineral supplements veganism for teens is an appropriate and healthy way of eating.\\nOne nutrient, in particular, is Vitamin B12. Without supplementation, a vegan diet contains little to no vitamin B12. This vitamin is typically found in animal products (like poultry, red meat or dairy items). A vegan diet completely removes all animal products and therefore has a high risk of not consuming adequate amounts of vitamin B12 which can lead to a deficiency. Choose to take a B12 supplement or choose foods like fortified vegan milks, meat substitutes or cereals that have adequate B12.\\nOther nutrients to be aware of are calcium and Vitamin D. Both of these nutrients are essential for healthy bones and bone growth (much of which is occurring during adolescence.) Choose items like fortified juices or vegan milks, dark leafy greens, almonds, and tofu.\\nVitamin and mineral supplements are not meant to replace foods. Consume a balanced, nutritious diet and aim to meet 100% of your daily nutrient needs through foods. Supplements are just a \\\"back up\\\" to your diet.\\n2. Preparing Vegan Meals\\n2-1. Write up a meal plan.\\nWriting out a weekly meal plan can help you make sure you're consuming a well-balanced diet. Again, vegan diets are more restrictive compared to a non-vegan diet and a little more thought needs to go into your weekly meals and snacks.\\nTake an hour or two of your free time and write up your ideas for all meals and snacks. Share your ideas with your family, especially if you're not the one going grocery shopping or preparing the meals at home.\\nWrite up a list of your favorite vegan meals (or mostly vegan meals) that you or your family already consume. This might not only help your family, but can make the transition easier if you're already familiar with a few tasty meals that are vegan. You can rely on these as you learn new recipes and tips.\\nIf you're busy or on the go, plan for meals that are quick, or keep a shelf-stable vegan snack with you.\\nTake it slowly! This is the most important thing to remember. Very few people can make the change from omnivore (or even vegetarian) to vegan overnight. Try eating vegan for one meal out of the day, and then two, and finally three.\\n2-2. Ask your parents to make you an appointment with a doctor or dietitian.\\nTake your meal plan to your appointment for review. They can ensure you are getting everything you need nutritionally, give you ideas for meals, and make sure you stay healthy and thrive while living a vegan lifestyle. \\nAsk them: \\\"Am I accounting for all three meals, plus snacks?\\\"; \\\"Am I consuming enough calories at each meal?\\\"; \\\"Is my diet nutritionally adequate?\\\"\\nQuick and easy-to-prepare meals include: 100% whole wheat spaghetti with tomato sauce, broccoli and vegan meatballs; vegan quesadillas with vegan cheese, grilled vegetables, and black beans or a spinach salad with pan-fried tofu, vegetables, and your favorite salad dressing.\\n2-3. Go grocery shopping.\\nGoing to the market and stocking up on some essential vegan items will be important. Having items that will fit into your diet on hand will make it much easier to prepare and eat vegan meals.\\nTalk to your parents — especially if they are the ones that are going to the grocery store and paying for the majority of the food in your household. Ask to tag along and add a few vegan items to the cart.\\nRemember, you don't need a whole bunch of new or specialty items. You and your family might already have a fair amount of vegan items on hand at home. Items like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, beans, and nuts are all items that will fit well into a vegan diet.\\nIf you or your family has a fairly well-stocked kitchen, focus on purchasing alternate protein sources instead. Items like vegan cheese, tofu, tempeh, or meat substitutes are great sources of protein.\\n2-4. Consume adequate protein.\\nOne concern many people have with vegetarian or vegan diets is the ability to consume adequate protein. With a well-planned and well-balanced diet, vegans (even teenagers) should have no problem consuming adequate protein.\\nTeenage boys generally need to consume around 52 g of protein daily and teenage girls need to consume around 46 g of protein daily.\\nChoose a variety of protein sources throughout the day. Each different protein will offer different valuable nutrients.\\nVegan proteins to try or to incorporate into your diet include tofu, tempeh, seitan, beans, lentils, nuts, vegan cheese/yogurt, and nut-based or soy milks.\\nAlso give meat analogues or substitutes a try. If you try these items ensure that they are 100% vegan. They are made to taste somewhat and look like typical meat products. For example, there are \\\"deli meats\\\" and \\\"bacon\\\" that are 100% vegan.\\n2-5. Eat 100% whole grains each day.\\nWhole grains contain all 3 parts of the grain: the germ, endosperm, and bran. All 3 parts offer various nutrients to your body. Fiber, nutrients and even protein are key nutrients found in 100% whole grains. For vegans, whole grains can offer a valuable source of protein.\\nWhole grain foods include oats, brown rice, quinoa, 100% whole wheat pasta, corn, farro, millet, or barley.\\nTry to minimize refined or processed grains. These types of grains have been stripped of all their nutritional value. Items like these are considered refined grains: white bread, white rice, and plain pasta.\\n2-6. Fill up your meals with fruits and vegetables.\\nThese naturally vegan foods are a great source of vitamins, minerals, and fiber. It's recommended to make 50% of all your meals a fruit or a vegetable.\\nChoose a variety of fruits and vegetables each day and week. Having a large variety of these foods will help you consume a wider range of nutrients.\\n2-7. Eat plant sources of healthy fats.\\nOmega-3 fats are healthy fats that are commonly found in some animal products. They should be included in a vegan diet from other sources.\\nVegan sources of healthy fats include: avocado, flaxseed, walnuts, tofu, soybeans, and walnuts.\\nTry to incorporate a healthy fat at least one to two times per day.\\n3. Accounting for Lifestyle Factors\\n3-1. Pack your lunch and snacks.\\nWhen transitioning to a vegan diet as a teenager, you have to take your lifestyle into consideration. Think about your school schedule, extracurricular activities, sports, and other events.\\nPacking your lunch might be a necessary option. Many school cafeterias don't offer vegetarian or vegan meals. Packing your lunch each day may help make sure you have a good, nutritious meal that you'll enjoy and fits your vegan lifestyle.\\nVegan packed lunch options could include: Sliced veggies, hummus, and avocado on vegan pita bread; whole-wheat pasta tossed with broccoli, black olives, vegan meatballs, and tomato sauce; or vegan whole wheat bread with vegan cheese and vegan deli meat and 1 cup raw carrots.\\nPacking vegan snacks can also make life a little easier - especially if you have after school activities. Vegan snacks can include soy yogurt and fruit; apple with peanut butter; or 1/3 cup of trail mix.\\nIt might also be smart to carry around dried or fresh fruit for a quick snack. They're great for a quick needed meal or snack.\\n3-2. Eat enough protein and carbs for active lifestyles or sports.\\nTeenage athletes need a little more protein and carbohydrates than teens who are not participating in sports or other athletics. Consuming protein and complex carbs at every meal and snack can help make sure you consume your required daily amount.\\nAthletes participating in endurance sports require 0.5 – 0.8 g per pound per day of protein. Moderate to heavy training requires 3 to 4.5 grams of carbohydrates per pound. Your doctor or dietitian can help you ensure you are meeting these amounts.\\nCarbohydrates are the most important fuel — and are the only fuel that can be used for power moves.\\nIt might also be a good idea to have a snack before and after a sports game, practice or athletic event so you can fuel and recover better.\\n3-3. Consume adequate iron daily.\\nTeenagers need to ensure they're consuming adequate iron daily. This is especially true for teenage girls and if they are menstruating.\\nIdeally, aim for at least 15 mg iron daily for teenage girls. Teenage boys need around 11 mg of iron daily.\\nVegan foods that are high in iron include beans, dark greens, tofu, and some nuts. Consuming iron-rich foods with vitamin C rich food (like citrus fruit or OJ) can help increase the absorption of iron. \\nTaking a daily multivitamin/multimineral can also help you meet the daily recommendations for iron in addition to a variety of other nutrients.\\nIf you are feeling fatigued all the time, it is likely that you are deficient in iron or another vitamin. Ask your primary care provider for blood work to ensure you are not lacking a necessary nutrient.\\n4. Building a Support System\\n4-1. Recognize support is important.\\nA support group can not only help you answer questions as you transition to a vegan diet. It also can serve as emotional support and encouragement. The teen years are ones where most people are sensitive to wanting to fit in with their peers. Teasing or negative reactions to going vegan can be really upsetting. It’s important to have a support group, especially if your friends and family aren’t vegan.\\n4-2. Connect on social media.\\nSocial media is convenient because it can provide support anywhere, anytime.\\nJoin Facebook groups for vegan teens.\\nJoin regular Facebook vegan groups and seek out other vegan teenagers there.\\nFollow vegan teenagers on YouTube and Instagram.\\nJoin the vegan subreddit on Reddit.\\nSee if vegan clubs at colleges and universities you attend (or plan on applying to) have social media sites you can follow or join.\\n4-3. Connect in your community.\\nInteracting face to face with supportive people can make your vegan journey much better than going it alone. Your community may have vegan and almost-vegan teenagers and vegan adults who would be happy to provide you with support and encouragement. Some vegan teens who feel alone may be surprised to learn how many people similar to themselves are already in their community.\\nStart a vegan and vegetarian club at school. Many vegetarians care about animals and would appreciate additional tips and education about vegan options.\\nSee if a vegan Meetup.com group exists in your area.\\nContact Vegan Outreach's Vegan Mentor Program. Vegan Outreach encourages people of all ages to sign up either to be a mentor or get a mentor. However, if you are between the ages of 13 and 17, they require a short email from one of your parents giving permission and stating your name and age. \\nSee if your local university or college has a vegan student group. (Even if you’re not already in college, some may welcome you to attend meetings.)\\nIf negative reactions to your choice to go vegan is causing you distress that interferes with your life, consider calling local therapists to ask if they’re vegan-friendly and treat teenagers.\\n4-4. Connect outside your community.\\nSeveral options exist for connecting with supportive fellow vegans outside your community.\\nAttend a vegan summer camp.\\nAsk vegan animal advocacy organizations about internships. Don’t wait for official internship postings before reaching out to inquire about internship opportunities. Unless you are lucky enough to live in a city where an advocacy organization is located, you may need to do an internship remotely or travel. For summer internships, for example, some teens may stay temporarily with family or other trusted adults.\\nCall the Animal Activist Hotline if needed. They provide supportive telephone and e-counseling, contacts for local and national activist resources, and referrals for psychotherapists who are sensitive to activists’ concerns. (For activists in the United States and Canada: (800) 705-0425 or by email at [email protected]).\\n4-5. Don’t give up.\\nThe only thing vegans have in common is their vegan lifestyle. Vegans have different personalities. Some are warm and supportive, whereas others are cold and critical. Don’t let unkind comments or criticism from anyone—including other vegans—get you down. Many vegans would love to support and encourage you in your vegan journey. Don’t give up until you find them!\\nTips\\nWhile some believe there is no such thing as a \\\"flexible\\\" vegan if you are going to be a pure vegan, others choose to eliminate some or most of the animal products in their diet. You should not keep a narrow mindset on the definition of veganism. Some vegans follow a vegan diet but may use animal products, some accept refined sugar and others do not, and some even consume amounts of certified humane products.\\nWhen going to a friend's house, they may not realize they have vegan food around. You can usually find a piece of fruit or a salad or sandwich with fresh vegetables on it. It also helps to carry vegan snacks with you or search the PETA website and find out which fast foods are vegan.\\nEducating yourself and learning about this new diet and lifestyle pattern may make the transition easier. Get some books from your school library, and search around on the Internet. There are a variety of great resources available.\\nWarnings\\nMake sure you are getting all of your vitamins! Talk to a doctor and your parents before taking supplements. Ask about a multivitamin or supplements such as B-12 or iron.\\nAlways consult with your physician prior to making any large changes to your diet.\\nMany foods that are vegan are not actually good for you. Just because a food doesn’t contain animal products, does not mean that it is automatically healthy. For example, potato chips, Airheads, Sour Patch Kids, Oreos, Hershey's syrup, etc. are all vegan.[14]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Veganism is a diet and lifestyle that about one million Americans and other people all over the world follow. Vegans do not use or consume any animals or animal-derived products. This includes not consuming honey and not purchasing or wearing clothing made from leather, wool, silk or fur. Transitioning to a vegan diet/lifestyle can be challenging for any age, but even more so for teenagers. Ensuring you eat a variety of foods in the right amounts and being aware of how to maintain a balanced vegan diet will be important to your success.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Transitioning to a Vegan Diet\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Talk to your parents and family.\", \"描述\": \"It's important to speak to your parents or family members about your desire to adopt a vegan diet and lifestyle. 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Other foods that may not be vegan are salad dressings or sauces.\\nChoose pre-made foods that specifically say \\\"vegan\\\" on their label. This will help make it easier to choose different items.\\nAlso pay attention to labels for cosmetics, soaps, and other toiletries. Some companies still test their products on animals; vegans will not use these types of products.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Purchase vitamin and mineral supplements.\", \"描述\": \"Vegan diets can be a very healthy way of eating; however, vegan diets are not necessarily 100% complete in terms of the necessary vitamins and minerals you need. This is especially important for teenagers as you're still growing and developing; however, with adequate planning and a few vitamin or mineral supplements veganism for teens is an appropriate and healthy way of eating.\\nOne nutrient, in particular, is Vitamin B12. Without supplementation, a vegan diet contains little to no vitamin B12. This vitamin is typically found in animal products (like poultry, red meat or dairy items). A vegan diet completely removes all animal products and therefore has a high risk of not consuming adequate amounts of vitamin B12 which can lead to a deficiency. Choose to take a B12 supplement or choose foods like fortified vegan milks, meat substitutes or cereals that have adequate B12.\\nOther nutrients to be aware of are calcium and Vitamin D. Both of these nutrients are essential for healthy bones and bone growth (much of which is occurring during adolescence.) Choose items like fortified juices or vegan milks, dark leafy greens, almonds, and tofu.\\nVitamin and mineral supplements are not meant to replace foods. Consume a balanced, nutritious diet and aim to meet 100% of your daily nutrient needs through foods. 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You can rely on these as you learn new recipes and tips.\\nIf you're busy or on the go, plan for meals that are quick, or keep a shelf-stable vegan snack with you.\\nTake it slowly! This is the most important thing to remember. Very few people can make the change from omnivore (or even vegetarian) to vegan overnight. Try eating vegan for one meal out of the day, and then two, and finally three.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask your parents to make you an appointment with a doctor or dietitian.\", \"描述\": \"Take your meal plan to your appointment for review. 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Packing your lunch each day may help make sure you have a good, nutritious meal that you'll enjoy and fits your vegan lifestyle.\\nVegan packed lunch options could include: Sliced veggies, hummus, and avocado on vegan pita bread; whole-wheat pasta tossed with broccoli, black olives, vegan meatballs, and tomato sauce; or vegan whole wheat bread with vegan cheese and vegan deli meat and 1 cup raw carrots.\\nPacking vegan snacks can also make life a little easier - especially if you have after school activities. Vegan snacks can include soy yogurt and fruit; apple with peanut butter; or 1/3 cup of trail mix.\\nIt might also be smart to carry around dried or fresh fruit for a quick snack. They're great for a quick needed meal or snack.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Eat enough protein and carbs for active lifestyles or sports.\", \"描述\": \"Teenage athletes need a little more protein and carbohydrates than teens who are not participating in sports or other athletics. 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Teenage boys need around 11 mg of iron daily.\\nVegan foods that are high in iron include beans, dark greens, tofu, and some nuts. Consuming iron-rich foods with vitamin C rich food (like citrus fruit or OJ) can help increase the absorption of iron. \\nTaking a daily multivitamin/multimineral can also help you meet the daily recommendations for iron in addition to a variety of other nutrients.\\nIf you are feeling fatigued all the time, it is likely that you are deficient in iron or another vitamin. Ask your primary care provider for blood work to ensure you are not lacking a necessary nutrient.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Building a Support System\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Recognize support is important.\", \"描述\": \"A support group can not only help you answer questions as you transition to a vegan diet. It also can serve as emotional support and encouragement. The teen years are ones where most people are sensitive to wanting to fit in with their peers. Teasing or negative reactions to going vegan can be really upsetting. It’s important to have a support group, especially if your friends and family aren’t vegan.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Connect on social media.\", \"描述\": \"Social media is convenient because it can provide support anywhere, anytime.\\nJoin Facebook groups for vegan teens.\\nJoin regular Facebook vegan groups and seek out other vegan teenagers there.\\nFollow vegan teenagers on YouTube and Instagram.\\nJoin the vegan subreddit on Reddit.\\nSee if vegan clubs at colleges and universities you attend (or plan on applying to) have social media sites you can follow or join.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Connect in your community.\", \"描述\": \"Interacting face to face with supportive people can make your vegan journey much better than going it alone. Your community may have vegan and almost-vegan teenagers and vegan adults who would be happy to provide you with support and encouragement. Some vegan teens who feel alone may be surprised to learn how many people similar to themselves are already in their community.\\nStart a vegan and vegetarian club at school. Many vegetarians care about animals and would appreciate additional tips and education about vegan options.\\nSee if a vegan Meetup.com group exists in your area.\\nContact Vegan Outreach's Vegan Mentor Program. Vegan Outreach encourages people of all ages to sign up either to be a mentor or get a mentor. However, if you are between the ages of 13 and 17, they require a short email from one of your parents giving permission and stating your name and age. \\nSee if your local university or college has a vegan student group. (Even if you’re not already in college, some may welcome you to attend meetings.)\\nIf negative reactions to your choice to go vegan is causing you distress that interferes with your life, consider calling local therapists to ask if they’re vegan-friendly and treat teenagers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Connect outside your community.\", \"描述\": \"Several options exist for connecting with supportive fellow vegans outside your community.\\nAttend a vegan summer camp.\\nAsk vegan animal advocacy organizations about internships. Don’t wait for official internship postings before reaching out to inquire about internship opportunities. Unless you are lucky enough to live in a city where an advocacy organization is located, you may need to do an internship remotely or travel. For summer internships, for example, some teens may stay temporarily with family or other trusted adults.\\nCall the Animal Activist Hotline if needed. They provide supportive telephone and e-counseling, contacts for local and national activist resources, and referrals for psychotherapists who are sensitive to activists’ concerns. (For activists in the United States and Canada: (800) 705-0425 or by email at [email protected]).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don’t give up.\", \"描述\": \"The only thing vegans have in common is their vegan lifestyle. Vegans have different personalities. Some are warm and supportive, whereas others are cold and critical. Don’t let unkind comments or criticism from anyone—including other vegans—get you down. Many vegans would love to support and encourage you in your vegan journey. Don’t give up until you find them!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"While some believe there is no such thing as a \\\"flexible\\\" vegan if you are going to be a pure vegan, others choose to eliminate some or most of the animal products in their diet. You should not keep a narrow mindset on the definition of veganism. Some vegans follow a vegan diet but may use animal products, some accept refined sugar and others do not, and some even consume amounts of certified humane products.\\n\", \"When going to a friend's house, they may not realize they have vegan food around. You can usually find a piece of fruit or a salad or sandwich with fresh vegetables on it. It also helps to carry vegan snacks with you or search the PETA website and find out which fast foods are vegan.\\n\", \"Educating yourself and learning about this new diet and lifestyle pattern may make the transition easier. Get some books from your school library, and search around on the Internet. There are a variety of great resources available.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Make sure you are getting all of your vitamins! Talk to a doctor and your parents before taking supplements. Ask about a multivitamin or supplements such as B-12 or iron.\\n\", \"Always consult with your physician prior to making any large changes to your diet.\\n\", \"Many foods that are vegan are not actually good for you. Just because a food doesn’t contain animal products, does not mean that it is automatically healthy. For example, potato chips, Airheads, Sour Patch Kids, Oreos, Hershey's syrup, etc. are all vegan.[14]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Very Cold and Quiet Person
1. Sending Signals to Others 1-1. Keep to yourself when you feel like doing so. Having friends and connecting with other people is emotionally healthy, but so is spending time alone. If you’re happier and healthier with more “me time” than others might be, that’s okay. When you need to interact even though you don’t really feel like doing so, organize your thoughts so you can keep the interaction as brief and basic as possible. If you’re not comfortable sitting in the middle of the crowd in school, look for a spot in the back of the room or another more isolated spot. Join the crowd when you want to. 1-2. Remain quiet when you want to be instead of feeling obligated to talk. There will be times when you have to talk to others, but don’t try to be talkative or even loud and boisterous just to “fit in” or please others. Being quiet most of the time, and being thoughtful and soft-spoken when you do communicate, will send out the message that you want to interact with others on your own terms. Pause and think before speaking. Consider whether a comment is really necessary. It is surprising how often being quiet is the best response. 1-3. Keep your opinions to yourself to avoid attracting attention. Expressing your opinions openly will draw attention and maybe even stir up trouble with other people. Save these opinions for close friends and family, or for times when you feel the urge to share them. Other people may see you as fascinatingly mysterious if you don’t share your feelings and opinions widely. 1-4. Use body language to let others know you want to be left alone. For instance, if you’re in the hallway between classes, lean against the wall with your arms crossed or in your pockets, and with the bottom of one foot resting up on the wall. This body language reveals a distanced attitude. Limit the amount of eye contact you make. Instead, look down at your feet or stare off into space. 1-5. Be quiet and introverted without being intentionally unpleasant. Go ahead and be silent when you want, but do speak when spoken to and use at least a mildly pleasant tone. There’s no reason to give the impression of being rude. If you want to give off any impression at all, it's best to seem mysterious. Being “very cold and quiet” doesn’t mean you have a free pass to treat other people like trash. You deserve to be able to be left alone, but other people deserve to be treated by you with basic dignity and respect. 2. Following Your Own Path 2-1. Stop trying to please others by ignoring your own wants. Be courteous to others, but stop choosing actions based on the sole criteria of whether those actions will please others. Learn to set boundaries on your time and availability so that others become aware of your limits. Sometimes, you just really need to say something like the following: “I’m sorry, but no, I can’t help you today. I really need some “me time” this afternoon.” You have no right to harm others through your actions or inaction, but you also shouldn’t feel guilty about prioritizing your own wants when possible. 2-2. Respond (or don’t respond) to others in the way you see fit. If a particular situation or someone else’s words or actions make you want to grin, smirk, or do nothing at all, follow your instincts. Accept your own honest feelings, actions, and words—or the lack thereof—as valid. That said, you must also accept others’ honest reactions to the ways in which you respond or don’t respond. Being yourself is more important than basing your actions on the opinions of others, but that doesn’t mean you’re free to be rude or spiteful. Don’t respond at all instead of being intentionally rude in your response. Others may still interpret your lack of response as rude, but that’s out of your control. 2-3. Identify what you want without factoring in others’ interpretations. When you’re trying to figure out what you truly want to be or do, don't concern yourself with how other people might interpret your actions. Eventually, you’ll have to factor in whether you’re unnecessarily bothering or harming others, but save that evaluation for later, after you’ve identified your path. For instance, focus first only on your own wants as you come to the realization that you want to quit your job and find something better suited to your personality. Only after you’ve identified this want should you consider how it might impact others around you. 2-4. Make time for quiet, thoughtful activities if they suit your introverted nature. For example, your classmates in school might want to go play football or swim or ice skate, but you might just want to read a good book. Reading is both an emotionally calming and mentally stimulating activity for many introverts, so don’t be ashamed to make it your leisure activity of choice. Journaling, writing creatively, and producing artwork are also activities that are often well-suited to introverts. However, don’t feel obligated to do only these things because you’re an introvert. If you want to go play football or ice skate, do it! 2-5. Keep people at your arm's length. Cold people don’t let anyone close enough to get to know them and they know a lot of ways to do it. When someone ask about themselves, they distract or change the conversation. It’s not necessarily because they dislike people, but they find it more difficult than most to be congenial or engaging. And if the coldness is soul-deep, they don’t feel enough interest in other people to justify showing any. They isolate themselves to avoid those who might want to get to know them. 3. Accepting and Improving Yourself 3-1. Embrace who you are first and foremost. You can’t control whether other people accept you as you are, but you can control whether you do. If, for instance, you’re naturally quiet and have a disinterested and indifferent attitude to many things in life, accept that as your truth. So long as you aren’t causing harm, there’s no reason you can’t be who you are and be proud about it. Instead of wishing you were different, take the time to really learn about yourself. Identify and celebrate the positives about “you being you,” and identify paths toward self-improvement when appropriate. Be self-centered. You are your own main focus. Cold people don’t have an easy time talking to other people, much less seeing life from someone else’s way. Be neither curious nor interested in other people. 3-2. Analyze yourself without harshly criticizing yourself. Learn to recognize your honest feelings and reactions, then decide which you want to keep and which you want to adjust. Make it your goal to be the best version of yourself. Don’t ignore your shortcomings, but also don’t berate yourself for having shortcomings. Identify them, learn from them, and strive to make improvements, but don’t try to completely change who you are. 3-3. Seek help toward self-improvement when you need it. Introverts, especially those who are both quiet and cold by nature, sometimes get labeled as “dark, “disturbed,” or even “dangerous.” These are rarely fair or true labels, but if you feel like your thoughts or actions aren’t good for your own wellbeing or the wellbeing of others, never be ashamed to seek professional help. Talk to your primary care doctor for referrals to mental health professionals. A good therapist won’t try to change who you are. Instead, they’ll use various techniques to help you bring out a healthier version of yourself. Tips If someone walks up to you and asks why you never talk, feel free to honestly answer, “That’s just the way I am.” If the question is delivered in an offensive or accusatory tone, consider adding something like, "Why is it any of your business?" Being an introvert doesn't mean you can't have friends. You may have fewer but deeper friendships, in fact. Warnings Some people may view you as simply "weird." Just remember that you can’t control others’ opinions of you.
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Being quiet most of the time, and being thoughtful and soft-spoken when you do communicate, will send out the message that you want to interact with others on your own terms.\\nPause and think before speaking. Consider whether a comment is really necessary. It is surprising how often being quiet is the best response.\\n1-3. Keep your opinions to yourself to avoid attracting attention.\\nExpressing your opinions openly will draw attention and maybe even stir up trouble with other people. Save these opinions for close friends and family, or for times when you feel the urge to share them.\\nOther people may see you as fascinatingly mysterious if you don’t share your feelings and opinions widely.\\n1-4. Use body language to let others know you want to be left alone.\\nFor instance, if you’re in the hallway between classes, lean against the wall with your arms crossed or in your pockets, and with the bottom of one foot resting up on the wall. This body language reveals a distanced attitude.\\nLimit the amount of eye contact you make. Instead, look down at your feet or stare off into space.\\n1-5. Be quiet and introverted without being intentionally unpleasant.\\nGo ahead and be silent when you want, but do speak when spoken to and use at least a mildly pleasant tone. There’s no reason to give the impression of being rude. If you want to give off any impression at all, it's best to seem mysterious.\\nBeing “very cold and quiet” doesn’t mean you have a free pass to treat other people like trash. You deserve to be able to be left alone, but other people deserve to be treated by you with basic dignity and respect.\\n2. Following Your Own Path\\n2-1. Stop trying to please others by ignoring your own wants.\\nBe courteous to others, but stop choosing actions based on the sole criteria of whether those actions will please others. Learn to set boundaries on your time and availability so that others become aware of your limits.\\nSometimes, you just really need to say something like the following: “I’m sorry, but no, I can’t help you today. I really need some “me time” this afternoon.”\\nYou have no right to harm others through your actions or inaction, but you also shouldn’t feel guilty about prioritizing your own wants when possible.\\n2-2. Respond (or don’t respond) to others in the way you see fit.\\nIf a particular situation or someone else’s words or actions make you want to grin, smirk, or do nothing at all, follow your instincts. Accept your own honest feelings, actions, and words—or the lack thereof—as valid. That said, you must also accept others’ honest reactions to the ways in which you respond or don’t respond.\\nBeing yourself is more important than basing your actions on the opinions of others, but that doesn’t mean you’re free to be rude or spiteful. Don’t respond at all instead of being intentionally rude in your response. Others may still interpret your lack of response as rude, but that’s out of your control.\\n2-3. Identify what you want without factoring in others’ interpretations.\\nWhen you’re trying to figure out what you truly want to be or do, don't concern yourself with how other people might interpret your actions. Eventually, you’ll have to factor in whether you’re unnecessarily bothering or harming others, but save that evaluation for later, after you’ve identified your path.\\nFor instance, focus first only on your own wants as you come to the realization that you want to quit your job and find something better suited to your personality. Only after you’ve identified this want should you consider how it might impact others around you.\\n2-4. Make time for quiet, thoughtful activities if they suit your introverted nature.\\nFor example, your classmates in school might want to go play football or swim or ice skate, but you might just want to read a good book. Reading is both an emotionally calming and mentally stimulating activity for many introverts, so don’t be ashamed to make it your leisure activity of choice.\\nJournaling, writing creatively, and producing artwork are also activities that are often well-suited to introverts. However, don’t feel obligated to do only these things because you’re an introvert. If you want to go play football or ice skate, do it!\\n2-5. Keep people at your arm's length.\\nCold people don’t let anyone close enough to get to know them and they know a lot of ways to do it. When someone ask about themselves, they distract or change the conversation. It’s not necessarily because they dislike people, but they find it more difficult than most to be congenial or engaging. And if the coldness is soul-deep, they don’t feel enough interest in other people to justify showing any. They isolate themselves to avoid those who might want to get to know them.\\n3. Accepting and Improving Yourself\\n3-1. Embrace who you are first and foremost.\\nYou can’t control whether other people accept you as you are, but you can control whether you do. If, for instance, you’re naturally quiet and have a disinterested and indifferent attitude to many things in life, accept that as your truth. So long as you aren’t causing harm, there’s no reason you can’t be who you are and be proud about it.\\nInstead of wishing you were different, take the time to really learn about yourself. Identify and celebrate the positives about “you being you,” and identify paths toward self-improvement when appropriate.\\nBe self-centered. You are your own main focus. Cold people don’t have an easy time talking to other people, much less seeing life from someone else’s way. Be neither curious nor interested in other people.\\n3-2. Analyze yourself without harshly criticizing yourself.\\nLearn to recognize your honest feelings and reactions, then decide which you want to keep and which you want to adjust. Make it your goal to be the best version of yourself.\\nDon’t ignore your shortcomings, but also don’t berate yourself for having shortcomings. Identify them, learn from them, and strive to make improvements, but don’t try to completely change who you are.\\n3-3. Seek help toward self-improvement when you need it.\\nIntroverts, especially those who are both quiet and cold by nature, sometimes get labeled as “dark, “disturbed,” or even “dangerous.” These are rarely fair or true labels, but if you feel like your thoughts or actions aren’t good for your own wellbeing or the wellbeing of others, never be ashamed to seek professional help.\\nTalk to your primary care doctor for referrals to mental health professionals.\\nA good therapist won’t try to change who you are. Instead, they’ll use various techniques to help you bring out a healthier version of yourself.\\nTips\\nIf someone walks up to you and asks why you never talk, feel free to honestly answer, “That’s just the way I am.” If the question is delivered in an offensive or accusatory tone, consider adding something like, \\\"Why is it any of your business?\\\"\\nBeing an introvert doesn't mean you can't have friends. You may have fewer but deeper friendships, in fact.\\nWarnings\\nSome people may view you as simply \\\"weird.\\\" Just remember that you can’t control others’ opinions of you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Some people who are introverts by nature spend their lives pretending to be outgoing extroverts in a misguided effort to please others. Introversion is nothing to be ashamed of, and it’s healthy for your wellbeing if you can accept yourself as you are. If you prefer to keep to yourself most of the time, send out signals—through what you say and don’t say, through body language, and so on—to let others know. Embrace your ability to live life on your own terms, but never use introversion as an excuse to be hostile towards others.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Sending Signals to Others\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep to yourself when you feel like doing so.\", \"描述\": \"Having friends and connecting with other people is emotionally healthy, but so is spending time alone. If you’re happier and healthier with more “me time” than others might be, that’s okay.\\nWhen you need to interact even though you don’t really feel like doing so, organize your thoughts so you can keep the interaction as brief and basic as possible.\\nIf you’re not comfortable sitting in the middle of the crowd in school, look for a spot in the back of the room or another more isolated spot. Join the crowd when you want to.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Remain quiet when you want to be instead of feeling obligated to talk.\", \"描述\": \"There will be times when you have to talk to others, but don’t try to be talkative or even loud and boisterous just to “fit in” or please others. Being quiet most of the time, and being thoughtful and soft-spoken when you do communicate, will send out the message that you want to interact with others on your own terms.\\nPause and think before speaking. Consider whether a comment is really necessary. It is surprising how often being quiet is the best response.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your opinions to yourself to avoid attracting attention.\", \"描述\": \"Expressing your opinions openly will draw attention and maybe even stir up trouble with other people. Save these opinions for close friends and family, or for times when you feel the urge to share them.\\nOther people may see you as fascinatingly mysterious if you don’t share your feelings and opinions widely.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use body language to let others know you want to be left alone.\", \"描述\": \"For instance, if you’re in the hallway between classes, lean against the wall with your arms crossed or in your pockets, and with the bottom of one foot resting up on the wall. This body language reveals a distanced attitude.\\nLimit the amount of eye contact you make. Instead, look down at your feet or stare off into space.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be quiet and introverted without being intentionally unpleasant.\", \"描述\": \"Go ahead and be silent when you want, but do speak when spoken to and use at least a mildly pleasant tone. There’s no reason to give the impression of being rude. If you want to give off any impression at all, it's best to seem mysterious.\\nBeing “very cold and quiet” doesn’t mean you have a free pass to treat other people like trash. You deserve to be able to be left alone, but other people deserve to be treated by you with basic dignity and respect.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Following Your Own Path\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stop trying to please others by ignoring your own wants.\", \"描述\": \"Be courteous to others, but stop choosing actions based on the sole criteria of whether those actions will please others. Learn to set boundaries on your time and availability so that others become aware of your limits.\\nSometimes, you just really need to say something like the following: “I’m sorry, but no, I can’t help you today. I really need some “me time” this afternoon.”\\nYou have no right to harm others through your actions or inaction, but you also shouldn’t feel guilty about prioritizing your own wants when possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Respond (or don’t respond) to others in the way you see fit.\", \"描述\": \"If a particular situation or someone else’s words or actions make you want to grin, smirk, or do nothing at all, follow your instincts. Accept your own honest feelings, actions, and words—or the lack thereof—as valid. That said, you must also accept others’ honest reactions to the ways in which you respond or don’t respond.\\nBeing yourself is more important than basing your actions on the opinions of others, but that doesn’t mean you’re free to be rude or spiteful. Don’t respond at all instead of being intentionally rude in your response. Others may still interpret your lack of response as rude, but that’s out of your control.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Identify what you want without factoring in others’ interpretations.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re trying to figure out what you truly want to be or do, don't concern yourself with how other people might interpret your actions. Eventually, you’ll have to factor in whether you’re unnecessarily bothering or harming others, but save that evaluation for later, after you’ve identified your path.\\nFor instance, focus first only on your own wants as you come to the realization that you want to quit your job and find something better suited to your personality. Only after you’ve identified this want should you consider how it might impact others around you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make time for quiet, thoughtful activities if they suit your introverted nature.\", \"描述\": \"For example, your classmates in school might want to go play football or swim or ice skate, but you might just want to read a good book. Reading is both an emotionally calming and mentally stimulating activity for many introverts, so don’t be ashamed to make it your leisure activity of choice.\\nJournaling, writing creatively, and producing artwork are also activities that are often well-suited to introverts. However, don’t feel obligated to do only these things because you’re an introvert. If you want to go play football or ice skate, do it!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep people at your arm's length.\", \"描述\": \"Cold people don’t let anyone close enough to get to know them and they know a lot of ways to do it. When someone ask about themselves, they distract or change the conversation. It’s not necessarily because they dislike people, but they find it more difficult than most to be congenial or engaging. And if the coldness is soul-deep, they don’t feel enough interest in other people to justify showing any. They isolate themselves to avoid those who might want to get to know them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Accepting and Improving Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Embrace who you are first and foremost.\", \"描述\": \"You can’t control whether other people accept you as you are, but you can control whether you do. If, for instance, you’re naturally quiet and have a disinterested and indifferent attitude to many things in life, accept that as your truth. So long as you aren’t causing harm, there’s no reason you can’t be who you are and be proud about it.\\nInstead of wishing you were different, take the time to really learn about yourself. Identify and celebrate the positives about “you being you,” and identify paths toward self-improvement when appropriate.\\nBe self-centered. You are your own main focus. Cold people don’t have an easy time talking to other people, much less seeing life from someone else’s way. Be neither curious nor interested in other people.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Analyze yourself without harshly criticizing yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Learn to recognize your honest feelings and reactions, then decide which you want to keep and which you want to adjust. Make it your goal to be the best version of yourself.\\nDon’t ignore your shortcomings, but also don’t berate yourself for having shortcomings. Identify them, learn from them, and strive to make improvements, but don’t try to completely change who you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Seek help toward self-improvement when you need it.\", \"描述\": \"Introverts, especially those who are both quiet and cold by nature, sometimes get labeled as “dark, “disturbed,” or even “dangerous.” These are rarely fair or true labels, but if you feel like your thoughts or actions aren’t good for your own wellbeing or the wellbeing of others, never be ashamed to seek professional help.\\nTalk to your primary care doctor for referrals to mental health professionals.\\nA good therapist won’t try to change who you are. Instead, they’ll use various techniques to help you bring out a healthier version of yourself.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If someone walks up to you and asks why you never talk, feel free to honestly answer, “That’s just the way I am.” If the question is delivered in an offensive or accusatory tone, consider adding something like, \\\"Why is it any of your business?\\\"\\n\", \"Being an introvert doesn't mean you can't have friends. You may have fewer but deeper friendships, in fact.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Some people may view you as simply \\\"weird.\\\" Just remember that you can’t control others’ opinions of you.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Virtuous Woman
1. Defining Beauty 1-1. Understand that true beauty lies within. True beauty is virtuous because true beauty develops out of good character and caring about the world. Before you consider looking virtuous, you need to look internally so that you actually become virtuous. True inner beauty and virtue go hand-in-hand. If you practice the life of a virtuous woman, you will also be a beautiful woman. Your beauty will be authentic, unique and self-expressive rather than conformist. 1-2. Let your outward beauty reflect your inward beauty. Maintaining inner beauty does not mean that you cannot look beautiful on the outside, as well. Beauty is harmonious, so if you are beautiful on the inside, you should take care of your body and treat it with enough respect so that others can glimpse your beauty, as well. According to St. Thomas Aquinas, the three characteristics of beauty are radiance, harmony, and wholeness. Beautiful things shine, and their radiance can be seen externally. For beauty to be complete, outward beauty must harmonize with inward beauty. In order for beauty to be whole, it should exist outwardly and inwardly. Your beauty shines in the way you treat yourself, others, and life itself. This does not mean that you need to be supermodel-pretty or hung up on your looks. It does mean that you should not be afraid to look your best. There is a certain amount of self-satisfaction one feels when looking in the mirror and liking what one sees. Loving yourself enough to strive for this sensation is a healthy and virtuous amount of outward beauty. 1-3. Do not use your outward beauty to replace or make up for inner beauty. A difficult task for women nowadays is balancing the fine line between looking their best while dressing modestly. A revealing outfit might temporarily attract men, but men of character are won over by women of virtue. While men are responsible for their own thoughts and actions, they are also visual beings and tend to be influenced easily by what they see. Being kind enough and respectful enough to yourself to attract the attention and self-image you want to attract. 1-4. Treat your body well. There is a certain amount of virtue in respecting your body and treating it well. Stay healthy by eating healthy foods. Of course, you can be a virtuous woman even if you are not in perfect shape or even if you indulge in the occasional piece of junk food. Respect is a virtue, however, and that includes self-respect. If you respect your body, you should at least try to care for it well enough to stay healthy and avoid exposing your body to things that are intentionally harmful, like drugs or abusive amounts of alcohol. Self-destructive behavior breeds more self-destructive behavior, so be wise enough to prevent it. If you do indulge, remember that the same mind that got you into trouble won't be the one to get you out of it. 2. Using Other Outward Virtues 2-1. Act in service to others. While you should not ignore your own needs, you should think highly of the needs of others and be there to take care of those needs when you can. An obvious example of service would be volunteering your time in a formal situation to help others. Less obvious, however, are informal ways you volunteer your time and energy. For example, a virtuous woman will be there for a friend who needs a shoulder to cry on, even if it means missing out on a favorite show or limited sale. 2-2. Be hospitable, generous, and kind. Kindness is about more than nice words and pleasant smiles. To be truly kind to someone, you need to approach that person with a giving spirit. To be kind means that you should be the sort of person whom others can turn to for positive words and actions. It is not enough to simply exchange a few nice words in passing. 2-3. Do not falter on your responsibilities. If you are given a task at school or work, finish it in a timely manner and without procrastinating. Another way to look at this principle is to label it as self-discipline. Even if no one is watching and you are able to procrastinate on a task or put less than your best effort into it, you should still do your best with it and complete the task promptly. True virtue is not found merely in the actions that others can see, but in the actions you perform when no one is looking. 2-4. Use your money and the earth's resources wisely. You can indulge occasionally, but on the whole, you should not be irresponsible with your money, spend it flippantly, or be wasteful. Frugality is a type of virtue which involves careful stewardship of resources and money. This does not mean that you should be stingy or cheap, though. It does mean that you should take care of your financial obligations before using your money on indulgences. In other words, you should not be spending money on an exotic vacation if it means leaving bills and loans unpaid. 2-5. Use your time wisely. Everyone needs time to relax, but overall, you should try to stay active rather than falling into lazy or slothful behavior. In short, you should be a good steward of the time that is allotted you. Take time to relax and recharge as needed, since you can only be at your best when you are sufficiently well-rested. Do not stay active simply for the sake of staying active, though. Be willing to do the work which needs to be done and take care to channel your efforts in ways that will most benefit you and those around you. Be not frivolous with your time. 3. Realizing Inward Virtue 3-1. Have faith. Traditionally, having faith refers to faith in God or some religious principle. If you do not believe in God, however, you can still exercise the principle of faith by being faithful in your pursuit of virtue. A biblical example of a virtuous woman is Ruth, who chose to follow the God of Israel in spite of the difficulty it brought her, when it would have been easier for her to return to Moab and worship the gods of her childhood. This story can teach a valuable lesson even if you do not practice faith in a biblical context. Ruth had committed herself to faith in the God of Israel and was ready to face the consequences, even though backing down would have been easier. You, too, should commit yourself to your faith—in God, or in the goodness of virtue—and remain faithful in spite of the challenges. 3-2. Keep your body pure. Another way to phrase this would be to respect your body. Treat your body as a treasure and do not give it away to just anyone. Traditionally, keeping your body pure means waiting until marriage before having sex. Nearly every major religion will agree on this point. Even if you have no religion to claim, the principle of purity still applies to you. Sex should be treated as something special that should only be cherished between two people in love. 3-3. Be receptive. Instead of stubbornly sticking to your own opinions regardless of whether they are right or wrong, you should be open to critique and advice. Weigh outside influence carefully to determine if it is beneficial or harmful and act accordingly. 3-4. Cultivate reason. Women tend to be very emotional beings, and the downside of emotion is that it can often blind or cripple reason. A virtuous woman accepts her emotions but uses reason to temper her reactions. Govern yourself by wisdom rather than by folly. This is a biblical principle taken from the Book of Proverbs, but it can be applied to your life even if you are not a Christian. You can listen to your heart for guidance, but ultimately, you must judge a situation with your mind, using the wisdom you have built up throughout your life to accurately assess things. 4. Displaying Virtue in the Home 4-1. Respect your parents. Your parents are responsible for bringing you into the world and raising you to become the woman you currently are. To be a virtuous woman, you need to show them respect by adhering to their rules during your youth and by continuing to listen and respect their ideas as an adult. If your parents mistreat you, of course, this is another matter altogether. You need to love yourself as well as your parents, and if the best thing for you is to get away from an abusive situation, doing so is the most virtuous action you can take. 4-2. Respect your husband, if applicable. If you are married, you need to love and listen to your husband. Your marriage is a partnership, and your husband is expected to respect you, as well, of course. You do not need to obey your husband's every command, but if you married a man of character, he will not want to do anything to cause you harm. As long as this is true, then you need to at least respect your husband by discussing points of disagreement and considering his perspective before mutually reaching a conclusion. Fidelity is another way for you to respect your husband. You need to be faithful to him, and must never cheat on him. 4-3. Be a loving mother, if applicable. If you have children, you must put their needs above your own. Raise them according to a virtuous example and help them to develop into virtuous men and women themselves. You need to nurture your children and attend to their needs, even when it means self-sacrifice on your part. For instance, a virtuous woman and mother will tend to her ill child even if it means catching the bug herself. You also need to discipline your children with care and wisdom so that they know the difference between right and wrong. 5. Developing Virtue 5-1. Orient yourself to the mean, not the extremes. This is a principle first discussed by Aristotle. Too much of a good thing can turn into something bad. Virtue can often be found in the middle ground, between two extremes of a characteristic. For example, take self-love. An extreme excess of this principle will result in narcissism, but an extreme deficiency will produce low self-esteem. You need to love and respect yourself to show love and respect to others, but you need to love yourself in moderation so that you do not get carried away. 5-2. Commit yourself to a virtuous life. If you really want to be a virtuous woman, you need to prepare yourself for a lifetime commitment. A virtuous life is not an act you can put on for a few days. True virtue is a lifestyle. 5-3. Practice virtue until it becomes habit. You can commit yourself to a virtuous life without becoming a perfectly virtuous woman overnight. The best way to create virtue in yourself is to practice virtuous behaviors so often that they become new habits. Do not be discouraged by past mistakes or mistakes you make along the way. Ultimately, if you practice principles of virtue long enough, they will become habits and characteristics of your overall person.
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Beautiful things shine, and their radiance can be seen externally. For beauty to be complete, outward beauty must harmonize with inward beauty. In order for beauty to be whole, it should exist outwardly and inwardly. Your beauty shines in the way you treat yourself, others, and life itself. \\nThis does not mean that you need to be supermodel-pretty or hung up on your looks. It does mean that you should not be afraid to look your best. There is a certain amount of self-satisfaction one feels when looking in the mirror and liking what one sees. Loving yourself enough to strive for this sensation is a healthy and virtuous amount of outward beauty.\\n1-3. Do not use your outward beauty to replace or make up for inner beauty.\\nA difficult task for women nowadays is balancing the fine line between looking their best while dressing modestly. \\nA revealing outfit might temporarily attract men, but men of character are won over by women of virtue.\\nWhile men are responsible for their own thoughts and actions, they are also visual beings and tend to be influenced easily by what they see. Being kind enough and respectful enough to yourself to attract the attention and self-image you want to attract.\\n1-4. Treat your body well.\\nThere is a certain amount of virtue in respecting your body and treating it well. Stay healthy by eating healthy foods.\\nOf course, you can be a virtuous woman even if you are not in perfect shape or even if you indulge in the occasional piece of junk food. Respect is a virtue, however, and that includes self-respect. If you respect your body, you should at least try to care for it well enough to stay healthy and avoid exposing your body to things that are intentionally harmful, like drugs or abusive amounts of alcohol. Self-destructive behavior breeds more self-destructive behavior, so be wise enough to prevent it. If you do indulge, remember that the same mind that got you into trouble won't be the one to get you out of it.\\n2. Using Other Outward Virtues\\n2-1. Act in service to others.\\nWhile you should not ignore your own needs, you should think highly of the needs of others and be there to take care of those needs when you can.\\nAn obvious example of service would be volunteering your time in a formal situation to help others. Less obvious, however, are informal ways you volunteer your time and energy. For example, a virtuous woman will be there for a friend who needs a shoulder to cry on, even if it means missing out on a favorite show or limited sale.\\n2-2. Be hospitable, generous, and kind.\\nKindness is about more than nice words and pleasant smiles. To be truly kind to someone, you need to approach that person with a giving spirit.\\nTo be kind means that you should be the sort of person whom others can turn to for positive words and actions. It is not enough to simply exchange a few nice words in passing.\\n2-3. Do not falter on your responsibilities.\\nIf you are given a task at school or work, finish it in a timely manner and without procrastinating.\\nAnother way to look at this principle is to label it as self-discipline. Even if no one is watching and you are able to procrastinate on a task or put less than your best effort into it, you should still do your best with it and complete the task promptly. True virtue is not found merely in the actions that others can see, but in the actions you perform when no one is looking.\\n2-4. Use your money and the earth's resources wisely.\\nYou can indulge occasionally, but on the whole, you should not be irresponsible with your money, spend it flippantly, or be wasteful. Frugality is a type of virtue which involves careful stewardship of resources and money.\\nThis does not mean that you should be stingy or cheap, though.\\nIt does mean that you should take care of your financial obligations before using your money on indulgences. In other words, you should not be spending money on an exotic vacation if it means leaving bills and loans unpaid.\\n2-5. Use your time wisely.\\nEveryone needs time to relax, but overall, you should try to stay active rather than falling into lazy or slothful behavior. In short, you should be a good steward of the time that is allotted you.\\nTake time to relax and recharge as needed, since you can only be at your best when you are sufficiently well-rested.\\nDo not stay active simply for the sake of staying active, though. Be willing to do the work which needs to be done and take care to channel your efforts in ways that will most benefit you and those around you. Be not frivolous with your time.\\n3. Realizing Inward Virtue\\n3-1. Have faith.\\nTraditionally, having faith refers to faith in God or some religious principle. If you do not believe in God, however, you can still exercise the principle of faith by being faithful in your pursuit of virtue.\\nA biblical example of a virtuous woman is Ruth, who chose to follow the God of Israel in spite of the difficulty it brought her, when it would have been easier for her to return to Moab and worship the gods of her childhood.\\nThis story can teach a valuable lesson even if you do not practice faith in a biblical context. Ruth had committed herself to faith in the God of Israel and was ready to face the consequences, even though backing down would have been easier. You, too, should commit yourself to your faith—in God, or in the goodness of virtue—and remain faithful in spite of the challenges.\\n3-2. Keep your body pure.\\nAnother way to phrase this would be to respect your body. Treat your body as a treasure and do not give it away to just anyone.\\nTraditionally, keeping your body pure means waiting until marriage before having sex. Nearly every major religion will agree on this point.\\nEven if you have no religion to claim, the principle of purity still applies to you. Sex should be treated as something special that should only be cherished between two people in love.\\n3-3. Be receptive.\\nInstead of stubbornly sticking to your own opinions regardless of whether they are right or wrong, you should be open to critique and advice. Weigh outside influence carefully to determine if it is beneficial or harmful and act accordingly.\\n3-4. Cultivate reason.\\nWomen tend to be very emotional beings, and the downside of emotion is that it can often blind or cripple reason. A virtuous woman accepts her emotions but uses reason to temper her reactions.\\nGovern yourself by wisdom rather than by folly. This is a biblical principle taken from the Book of Proverbs, but it can be applied to your life even if you are not a Christian. You can listen to your heart for guidance, but ultimately, you must judge a situation with your mind, using the wisdom you have built up throughout your life to accurately assess things.\\n4. Displaying Virtue in the Home\\n4-1. Respect your parents.\\nYour parents are responsible for bringing you into the world and raising you to become the woman you currently are. To be a virtuous woman, you need to show them respect by adhering to their rules during your youth and by continuing to listen and respect their ideas as an adult.\\nIf your parents mistreat you, of course, this is another matter altogether. You need to love yourself as well as your parents, and if the best thing for you is to get away from an abusive situation, doing so is the most virtuous action you can take.\\n4-2. Respect your husband, if applicable.\\nIf you are married, you need to love and listen to your husband. Your marriage is a partnership, and your husband is expected to respect you, as well, of course.\\nYou do not need to obey your husband's every command, but if you married a man of character, he will not want to do anything to cause you harm. As long as this is true, then you need to at least respect your husband by discussing points of disagreement and considering his perspective before mutually reaching a conclusion.\\nFidelity is another way for you to respect your husband. You need to be faithful to him, and must never cheat on him.\\n4-3. Be a loving mother, if applicable.\\nIf you have children, you must put their needs above your own. Raise them according to a virtuous example and help them to develop into virtuous men and women themselves.\\nYou need to nurture your children and attend to their needs, even when it means self-sacrifice on your part. For instance, a virtuous woman and mother will tend to her ill child even if it means catching the bug herself.\\nYou also need to discipline your children with care and wisdom so that they know the difference between right and wrong.\\n5. Developing Virtue\\n5-1. Orient yourself to the mean, not the extremes.\\nThis is a principle first discussed by Aristotle. Too much of a good thing can turn into something bad. Virtue can often be found in the middle ground, between two extremes of a characteristic.\\nFor example, take self-love. An extreme excess of this principle will result in narcissism, but an extreme deficiency will produce low self-esteem. You need to love and respect yourself to show love and respect to others, but you need to love yourself in moderation so that you do not get carried away.\\n5-2. Commit yourself to a virtuous life.\\nIf you really want to be a virtuous woman, you need to prepare yourself for a lifetime commitment. A virtuous life is not an act you can put on for a few days. True virtue is a lifestyle.\\n5-3. Practice virtue until it becomes habit.\\nYou can commit yourself to a virtuous life without becoming a perfectly virtuous woman overnight. The best way to create virtue in yourself is to practice virtuous behaviors so often that they become new habits.\\nDo not be discouraged by past mistakes or mistakes you make along the way. Ultimately, if you practice principles of virtue long enough, they will become habits and characteristics of your overall person.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The characteristics of a virtuous woman have been explored in religious texts and in the works of philosophers throughout the ages. While each source can vary on the exact details, there are a few common principles that most great thinkers agree on. If you are aiming to be a virtuous woman, here are a few principles you can review to get started.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Defining Beauty\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand that true beauty lies within.\", \"描述\": \"True beauty is virtuous because true beauty develops out of good character and caring about the world. Before you consider looking virtuous, you need to look internally so that you actually become virtuous.\\nTrue inner beauty and virtue go hand-in-hand. If you practice the life of a virtuous woman, you will also be a beautiful woman. Your beauty will be authentic, unique and self-expressive rather than conformist.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Let your outward beauty reflect your inward beauty.\", \"描述\": \"Maintaining inner beauty does not mean that you cannot look beautiful on the outside, as well. Beauty is harmonious, so if you are beautiful on the inside, you should take care of your body and treat it with enough respect so that others can glimpse your beauty, as well. \\nAccording to St. Thomas Aquinas, the three characteristics of beauty are radiance, harmony, and wholeness. Beautiful things shine, and their radiance can be seen externally. For beauty to be complete, outward beauty must harmonize with inward beauty. In order for beauty to be whole, it should exist outwardly and inwardly. Your beauty shines in the way you treat yourself, others, and life itself. \\nThis does not mean that you need to be supermodel-pretty or hung up on your looks. It does mean that you should not be afraid to look your best. There is a certain amount of self-satisfaction one feels when looking in the mirror and liking what one sees. Loving yourself enough to strive for this sensation is a healthy and virtuous amount of outward beauty.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do not use your outward beauty to replace or make up for inner beauty.\", \"描述\": \"A difficult task for women nowadays is balancing the fine line between looking their best while dressing modestly. \\nA revealing outfit might temporarily attract men, but men of character are won over by women of virtue.\\nWhile men are responsible for their own thoughts and actions, they are also visual beings and tend to be influenced easily by what they see. Being kind enough and respectful enough to yourself to attract the attention and self-image you want to attract.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Treat your body well.\", \"描述\": \"There is a certain amount of virtue in respecting your body and treating it well. Stay healthy by eating healthy foods.\\nOf course, you can be a virtuous woman even if you are not in perfect shape or even if you indulge in the occasional piece of junk food. Respect is a virtue, however, and that includes self-respect. If you respect your body, you should at least try to care for it well enough to stay healthy and avoid exposing your body to things that are intentionally harmful, like drugs or abusive amounts of alcohol. Self-destructive behavior breeds more self-destructive behavior, so be wise enough to prevent it. If you do indulge, remember that the same mind that got you into trouble won't be the one to get you out of it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using Other Outward Virtues\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Act in service to others.\", \"描述\": \"While you should not ignore your own needs, you should think highly of the needs of others and be there to take care of those needs when you can.\\nAn obvious example of service would be volunteering your time in a formal situation to help others. Less obvious, however, are informal ways you volunteer your time and energy. For example, a virtuous woman will be there for a friend who needs a shoulder to cry on, even if it means missing out on a favorite show or limited sale.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be hospitable, generous, and kind.\", \"描述\": \"Kindness is about more than nice words and pleasant smiles. To be truly kind to someone, you need to approach that person with a giving spirit.\\nTo be kind means that you should be the sort of person whom others can turn to for positive words and actions. It is not enough to simply exchange a few nice words in passing.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do not falter on your responsibilities.\", \"描述\": \"If you are given a task at school or work, finish it in a timely manner and without procrastinating.\\nAnother way to look at this principle is to label it as self-discipline. Even if no one is watching and you are able to procrastinate on a task or put less than your best effort into it, you should still do your best with it and complete the task promptly. True virtue is not found merely in the actions that others can see, but in the actions you perform when no one is looking.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use your money and the earth's resources wisely.\", \"描述\": \"You can indulge occasionally, but on the whole, you should not be irresponsible with your money, spend it flippantly, or be wasteful. Frugality is a type of virtue which involves careful stewardship of resources and money.\\nThis does not mean that you should be stingy or cheap, though.\\nIt does mean that you should take care of your financial obligations before using your money on indulgences. In other words, you should not be spending money on an exotic vacation if it means leaving bills and loans unpaid.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use your time wisely.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone needs time to relax, but overall, you should try to stay active rather than falling into lazy or slothful behavior. In short, you should be a good steward of the time that is allotted you.\\nTake time to relax and recharge as needed, since you can only be at your best when you are sufficiently well-rested.\\nDo not stay active simply for the sake of staying active, though. Be willing to do the work which needs to be done and take care to channel your efforts in ways that will most benefit you and those around you. Be not frivolous with your time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Realizing Inward Virtue\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have faith.\", \"描述\": \"Traditionally, having faith refers to faith in God or some religious principle. If you do not believe in God, however, you can still exercise the principle of faith by being faithful in your pursuit of virtue.\\nA biblical example of a virtuous woman is Ruth, who chose to follow the God of Israel in spite of the difficulty it brought her, when it would have been easier for her to return to Moab and worship the gods of her childhood.\\nThis story can teach a valuable lesson even if you do not practice faith in a biblical context. Ruth had committed herself to faith in the God of Israel and was ready to face the consequences, even though backing down would have been easier. You, too, should commit yourself to your faith—in God, or in the goodness of virtue—and remain faithful in spite of the challenges.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your body pure.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to phrase this would be to respect your body. Treat your body as a treasure and do not give it away to just anyone.\\nTraditionally, keeping your body pure means waiting until marriage before having sex. Nearly every major religion will agree on this point.\\nEven if you have no religion to claim, the principle of purity still applies to you. Sex should be treated as something special that should only be cherished between two people in love.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be receptive.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of stubbornly sticking to your own opinions regardless of whether they are right or wrong, you should be open to critique and advice. Weigh outside influence carefully to determine if it is beneficial or harmful and act accordingly.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cultivate reason.\", \"描述\": \"Women tend to be very emotional beings, and the downside of emotion is that it can often blind or cripple reason. A virtuous woman accepts her emotions but uses reason to temper her reactions.\\nGovern yourself by wisdom rather than by folly. 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How to Be a Visual Effects Artist
1. Building Your Skill Set 1-1. Get a bachelor’s degree. It is possible to become a VFX artist without a college degree, but the path is often easier with one. VFX artists usually major in fine arts, computer graphics, or animation. Choose a college with a reputation for strength in these areas and a reputation for good job placement for graduates. The availability of internships is another factor to consider. Out of the jobs advertised for VFX artists, a majority at any given time specify a bachelor’s degree as a minimum requirement for applicants. 1-2. Enroll in a studio-based program. Some studios offer short-term programs for people who want to learn more about VFX artistry without pursuing a college degree. Enrolling in these programs can be expensive as financial aid isn’t always offered, but they usually have the most cutting edge technology for you to learn from. 1-3. Train on a number of VFX computer programs. Although you may create some hand sketches, the majority of your work will be completed on the computer using the most up-to-date programs. Stay informed about the newest software advances by following VFX blogs and taking online computer tutorials. For example, VFX artists are expected to be well-versed in graphics and animation programs, such as Adobe Creative Suite and JavaScript. Clearly list every program that you can work with on your resume. 1-4. Watch online tutorials. Hop onto YouTube or another video service and search for VFX clip reels or demonstrations. Some of these videos will focus on a particular skill set, such as shading, which you then can practice on your own. Challenge yourself to mimic some of the more difficult tasks, or even try to improve upon the models used. 1-5. Nurture your artistic side. Take as many art and design classes as you can. Or, simply carry a sketch pad around with you to work on your basic animation skills. As you draw, consider factors such as lighting and framing. Even geometry skills can come in handy when creating a particular type of background or even a person’s face. Make a choice to become an observer of the world around you. Ask yourself: how could I capture the movement of the leaves? Or, in what situations do shadows appear? 1-6. Pay close attention to movies, television shows, and video games. Watch all of these creations with an eye for detail. Look for the techniques used and any original approaches that you see. Research the artists and see what their backgrounds are and contact them if you like. Find a shot in a movie or show that really speaks to you, and pause the TV right at that spot. Then, use whatever equipment you have to try to recreate that shot with a friend, paying special attention to the way the lighting influences the emotions and atmosphere in the scene. Study the dialogue itself when you're watching scenes, but also pay attention to how much of the scene uses dialogue, as well as how a message is conveyed when no one is talking. You might also study the blocking in shots, which is the way the actors move, as well as the way the shots are sequenced, which is the editing. 1-7. Develop a specialization. As you gain more experience, you’ll likely find yourself gravitating toward a certain aspect of design. This will become your “calling card” and directors and other professionals will seek you out for this type of work. To build your specialization, start choosing jobs with that emphasis and attend additional training seminars. For example, some VFX specialists focus on human character’s faces, animal figures, or city backgrounds. 2. Choosing a Career Path 2-1. Create a compelling reel or portfolio. This should be a short video showcasing the breadth and depth of your skills as an artist. Some choose to follow a storyline format while others cycle through a series of clips. Most college programs will give you time to create this work in your junior or senior years using professional grade equipment and software. Your reel is also a chance for you to showcase any unique skills that you possess, such as drawing or sculpting. Don’t be afraid to work with other artists to create your reel. Showing that you can collaborate well with others is something that studios often look for when hiring. 2-2. Land an internship. If you are enrolled in a VFX program, talk to your career counselors to see what opportunities might be available. If you are developing your skills on your own, reach out to studios to see if they have any spots for paid or unpaid interns. This will give a potential employer a chance to get to know you and might make it easier for them to hire you in the future. 2-3. Consider self-employment. Over half of VFX artists are their own bosses. Being a freelance designer gives you more control over your schedule and project selection. But, it also means that you will need to handle administrative tasks and could struggle with bringing in a consistent income. If this path interests you, it would be wise to take a few classes in marketing and accounting. Getting established is a hard struggle that many self-employed artists face. Choosing your own projects can mean that you’ll establish a specialty more quickly than you might in a large studio. However, affording the most recent design equipment may be tough, depending on how successful you are. 2-4. Sign on with a design company or studio. This is a more traditional option where you agree to full or part-time employment with an established company. Your work schedule and salary will very much depend on the prominence of the company and the types of projects that come in. However, you may get the opportunity to work on some big Hollywood blockbusters or top-rated television shows! Get your foot in the door of larger companies by serving as a junior 2D artist or runner. A junior artist will assist those with seniority by creating basic outlines for scenery and the like. A runner literally runs sketches and communications between the VFX team and a director, for example. 2-5. Move up to a supervisor position. With enough time, effort, and luck, you may get the chance to take on a leadership position for a project. As a supervisor, the final product that audiences see is your responsibility. You’ll take all of the raw images and make them fit together while working alongside the production team. 3. Navigating the Work Environment 3-1. Join a professional society. Networking is a great way to find new opportunities and exchange ideas. Start establishing your network as soon as you decide to become a VFX artist. Join an industry group, such as the Visual Effects Society (VES). If you can’t fully join, then simply follow their activities and attend events when you can. The VES has almost 3,400 members spread across the entire world. Their work ranges from video games to television. 3-2. Enjoy working with a team. Most VFX work situations will require that you communicate with a number of people as you complete a task. You may need to talk with directors, other VFX artists, and animators to create a unified vision for the final product. Taking communication courses in college is only one way you can learn how to communicate effectively. This also means that you will need to find ways to work with constructive criticism and feedback. Altering your final product based on information from the wider production team is often something that you just have to do. For example, a director might ask you to cut down a scene that you’ve spent weeks working on. Pitching your creative vision and ideas to others is also an important part of the process. If you can make a product more memorable in an advertisement, for instance, then the creative team probably wants to know. 3-3. Expect long work hours. Most VFX artists start work mid-morning and go until the late evening. Or, your shift could be an overnight one that ends in the early morning hours. The schedule very much depends on the deadlines that are looming and how the work is divided over time. You’ll want to be prepared for unpredictable timelines as a VFX artist. Partially due to the long hours, many VFX professionals describe their work setting as being pretty laid back in terms of dress and even behavior. 3-4. Spend time on a TV or film set. If you are considering working in the entertainment industry, try to get out of your office and away from your computer and head to the actual sets. This will give you a chance to see how the production team works together on the ground. Pay attention to how each person’s job feeds into the final product. Tips A great way to practice your skills is to select a photography and try to reproduce an exact copy or a version of it on your computer.[22] X Research source Warnings Try to keep aware of what controversies and debates are circulating in the VFX field. For example, read the VFX forums online to see if any particular studios are facing pay or overtime disputes.[23] X Research source
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Or, simply carry a sketch pad around with you to work on your basic animation skills. As you draw, consider factors such as lighting and framing. Even geometry skills can come in handy when creating a particular type of background or even a person’s face.\\nMake a choice to become an observer of the world around you. Ask yourself: how could I capture the movement of the leaves? Or, in what situations do shadows appear?\\n1-6. Pay close attention to movies, television shows, and video games.\\nWatch all of these creations with an eye for detail. Look for the techniques used and any original approaches that you see. Research the artists and see what their backgrounds are and contact them if you like.\\nFind a shot in a movie or show that really speaks to you, and pause the TV right at that spot. Then, use whatever equipment you have to try to recreate that shot with a friend, paying special attention to the way the lighting influences the emotions and atmosphere in the scene.\\nStudy the dialogue itself when you're watching scenes, but also pay attention to how much of the scene uses dialogue, as well as how a message is conveyed when no one is talking.\\nYou might also study the blocking in shots, which is the way the actors move, as well as the way the shots are sequenced, which is the editing.\\n1-7. Develop a specialization.\\nAs you gain more experience, you’ll likely find yourself gravitating toward a certain aspect of design. This will become your “calling card” and directors and other professionals will seek you out for this type of work. To build your specialization, start choosing jobs with that emphasis and attend additional training seminars.\\nFor example, some VFX specialists focus on human character’s faces, animal figures, or city backgrounds.\\n2. Choosing a Career Path\\n2-1. Create a compelling reel or portfolio.\\nThis should be a short video showcasing the breadth and depth of your skills as an artist. Some choose to follow a storyline format while others cycle through a series of clips. Most college programs will give you time to create this work in your junior or senior years using professional grade equipment and software.\\nYour reel is also a chance for you to showcase any unique skills that you possess, such as drawing or sculpting.\\nDon’t be afraid to work with other artists to create your reel. Showing that you can collaborate well with others is something that studios often look for when hiring.\\n2-2. Land an internship.\\nIf you are enrolled in a VFX program, talk to your career counselors to see what opportunities might be available. If you are developing your skills on your own, reach out to studios to see if they have any spots for paid or unpaid interns. This will give a potential employer a chance to get to know you and might make it easier for them to hire you in the future.\\n2-3. Consider self-employment.\\nOver half of VFX artists are their own bosses. Being a freelance designer gives you more control over your schedule and project selection. But, it also means that you will need to handle administrative tasks and could struggle with bringing in a consistent income.\\nIf this path interests you, it would be wise to take a few classes in marketing and accounting. Getting established is a hard struggle that many self-employed artists face.\\nChoosing your own projects can mean that you’ll establish a specialty more quickly than you might in a large studio. However, affording the most recent design equipment may be tough, depending on how successful you are.\\n2-4. Sign on with a design company or studio.\\nThis is a more traditional option where you agree to full or part-time employment with an established company. 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Join a professional society.\\nNetworking is a great way to find new opportunities and exchange ideas. Start establishing your network as soon as you decide to become a VFX artist. Join an industry group, such as the Visual Effects Society (VES). If you can’t fully join, then simply follow their activities and attend events when you can.\\nThe VES has almost 3,400 members spread across the entire world. Their work ranges from video games to television.\\n3-2. Enjoy working with a team.\\nMost VFX work situations will require that you communicate with a number of people as you complete a task. You may need to talk with directors, other VFX artists, and animators to create a unified vision for the final product. Taking communication courses in college is only one way you can learn how to communicate effectively.\\nThis also means that you will need to find ways to work with constructive criticism and feedback. 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1. Getting Started 1-1. Research existing vloggers. Before you create your own vlog, take a look at some existing content to get a feel for the format. Popular, high-end vloggers include people like Casey Neistat, Zoella, and Jenna Marbles, but try to find less popular vloggers as well—popular vloggers tend to have massive budgets for each vlog, so their end presentation isn't feasible for a first-time vlogger. Virtually every vlogger has some form of tutorial or advice on how to break into the world of vlogging. 1-2. Identify the type of vlogger you want to be. While vlogging is often considered to be a video summary of one's day or week, that doesn't have to be the case. You can vlog about anything you like, but common examples include the following: Food — "What I Eat in a Day" videos are extremely popular. As you might guess, this type of video involves showing your food preparation and final product for a day. Activities — If you don't have particularly eventful days, vlogging when you do something exciting (e.g., go hiking) is a feasible outlet. Beauty — Many vloggers have makeup- or cosmetics-based sections of their videos. If you like experimenting with different makeup looks, you can record your process as a vlog a few times per week. 1-3. Make sure you have the necessary equipment. Vlogging is fairly accessible in that it doesn't require a studio or intensive lighting, but you'll still need the following: Video camera — Anything from a smartphone to a full-blown video camera is acceptable. Make sure that your chosen video option supports HD (1080p) footage. Tripod — No one likes shaky footage. Buying a tripod for your camera, regardless of the camera's size, is crucial. Lighting — Not entirely necessary, but strongly recommended if you're filming anything indoors. A simple overhead lamp or a makeup light will usually suffice. Microphone — A directional microphone that attaches to your camera will pick up audio from whatever your camera is pointing at. This is optional if you're recording with a smartphone, but recommended for audio clarity's sake. 1-4. Figure out your intent before filming. It's important to know what you're trying to accomplish prior to pressing the "Record" button, so determine your goal for the finished product before you proceed. If your goal is simply to document your day, you can skip this step. 2. Creating Great Content 2-1. Make sure you film yourself in addition to your surroundings. Your vlog should contain both commentary and content shots, so it's a good idea to get your face in the shot from time to time. Vlogging is personal, so you may wish to keep your vlog free of commentary and face shots. If so, just keep future vlogs consistent with this presentation. 2-2. Ask questions. One way to keep your audience engaged is by walking up to strangers in the street, asking a question, and filming their responses. This isn't necessary, but it's a good starting point if you don't know what to film. Make sure you have consent to post any responses you receive before filming them. Keep your questions appropriate. You don't want anyone to think you're harassing them. 2-3. Include interesting or exciting events. Unless your commentary is interesting enough to keep your audience engaged throughout the entire vlog, you'll need to include shots of funny, pretty, or otherwise stimulating content. For example, if you're filming a hike, take a few minutes of footage of wildlife, scenery, or similar. Including cute animals or dramatic events in your vlog will almost always keep audiences engaged. Wandering around any city while recording for long enough will always yield something interesting. 2-4. Edit your vlog. How you edit your finished vlog is up to you; however, the goal should be to cut it down to a reasonable length (e.g., between 8 and 15 minutes) while making some of the longer parts more interesting to look at. Jump cuts, which involve identifying two interesting, back-to-back points in the vlog and then cutting the content between them, are essential when editing vlogs. You'll want to add music to virtually all of your vlogs. Speeding up sections to create a "time-lapse" effect can keep people interested during a lull in the action. 2-5. Upload the edited video. Where you upload your vlog is entirely up to you, though YouTube is a popular choice due to its prominence in the video community. Other choices include Facebook, Instagram, and Vimeo. If your vlog is over 10 minutes long, you'll need to verify your YouTube account before you can upload the vlog to YouTube. 3. Engaging Your Audience 3-1. Try to incorporate feedback into future videos. After posting your vlog, you may get some feedback from viewers. While not all feedback is useful (or actionable), pay attention if you notice a common theme among the feedback; this demonstrates that enough of the people who saw your vlog felt the same way that you should consider using their feedback in future vlogs. For example, if a few people mention that the music was too loud or obtrusive, try lowering the volume of music in future vlogs. 3-2. Create distinct vlogs every time. You can keep the same general formula for your vlog, but make sure you aren't simply copying your steps from the previous vlog. For example, if your last vlog involved going to a coffee shop in the afternoon and then visiting food carts, try to avoid both of these activities in the next few vlogs. 3-3. Establish a theme. Once you've created a few vlogs, you'll probably begin to see a trend taking shape. At this point, it's good to determine what that trend is and figure out how to continue it in future vlogs. This will ensure that the people who view your content know what to expect when you upload something, and you'll have a general framework for your content going forward. As with any form of expression, your vlogs will likely change over time. Knowing your general theme will help make this transition more gradual than if you're uploading without knowing what the overarching theme is. 3-4. Promote your vlogs. Once you have a few vlogs uploaded to your platform of choice, begin talking about them on other forms of social media (e.g., Facebook and Twitter). This is a good way to grow your vlogs' collective audience. An easy way to do this is by creating a Facebook page for your vlogs and then posting links to the vlogs there. You might even want to notify a few close friends whenever you post; if they enjoy your content, they may share it with their friends as well. Tips The sky is the limit when it comes to vlog content. If you feel comfortable being yourself in front of (or behind) the camera and you don't mind trying new things, you'll have the recipe for a great vlog. If you monetize your vlogs on YouTube, you can make money from any ads that play on it. You will have to become a YouTube partner in order to cash out. Warnings Never film in areas in which recording is prohibited. While most public spaces are okay to film in, make sure you respect the privacy of the people around you.
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As you might guess, this type of video involves showing your food preparation and final product for a day.\\nActivities — If you don't have particularly eventful days, vlogging when you do something exciting (e.g., go hiking) is a feasible outlet.\\nBeauty — Many vloggers have makeup- or cosmetics-based sections of their videos. If you like experimenting with different makeup looks, you can record your process as a vlog a few times per week.\\n1-3. Make sure you have the necessary equipment.\\nVlogging is fairly accessible in that it doesn't require a studio or intensive lighting, but you'll still need the following:\\n\\nVideo camera — Anything from a smartphone to a full-blown video camera is acceptable. Make sure that your chosen video option supports HD (1080p) footage.\\nTripod — No one likes shaky footage. Buying a tripod for your camera, regardless of the camera's size, is crucial.\\nLighting — Not entirely necessary, but strongly recommended if you're filming anything indoors. A simple overhead lamp or a makeup light will usually suffice.\\nMicrophone — A directional microphone that attaches to your camera will pick up audio from whatever your camera is pointing at. This is optional if you're recording with a smartphone, but recommended for audio clarity's sake.\\n1-4. Figure out your intent before filming.\\nIt's important to know what you're trying to accomplish prior to pressing the \\\"Record\\\" button, so determine your goal for the finished product before you proceed.\\nIf your goal is simply to document your day, you can skip this step.\\n2. Creating Great Content\\n2-1. Make sure you film yourself in addition to your surroundings.\\nYour vlog should contain both commentary and content shots, so it's a good idea to get your face in the shot from time to time.\\nVlogging is personal, so you may wish to keep your vlog free of commentary and face shots. If so, just keep future vlogs consistent with this presentation.\\n2-2. Ask questions.\\nOne way to keep your audience engaged is by walking up to strangers in the street, asking a question, and filming their responses. This isn't necessary, but it's a good starting point if you don't know what to film.\\nMake sure you have consent to post any responses you receive before filming them.\\nKeep your questions appropriate. You don't want anyone to think you're harassing them.\\n2-3. Include interesting or exciting events.\\nUnless your commentary is interesting enough to keep your audience engaged throughout the entire vlog, you'll need to include shots of funny, pretty, or otherwise stimulating content.\\nFor example, if you're filming a hike, take a few minutes of footage of wildlife, scenery, or similar.\\nIncluding cute animals or dramatic events in your vlog will almost always keep audiences engaged.\\nWandering around any city while recording for long enough will always yield something interesting.\\n2-4. Edit your vlog.\\nHow you edit your finished vlog is up to you; however, the goal should be to cut it down to a reasonable length (e.g., between 8 and 15 minutes) while making some of the longer parts more interesting to look at.\\nJump cuts, which involve identifying two interesting, back-to-back points in the vlog and then cutting the content between them, are essential when editing vlogs.\\nYou'll want to add music to virtually all of your vlogs.\\nSpeeding up sections to create a \\\"time-lapse\\\" effect can keep people interested during a lull in the action.\\n2-5. Upload the edited video.\\nWhere you upload your vlog is entirely up to you, though YouTube is a popular choice due to its prominence in the video community. Other choices include Facebook, Instagram, and Vimeo.\\nIf your vlog is over 10 minutes long, you'll need to verify your YouTube account before you can upload the vlog to YouTube.\\n3. Engaging Your Audience\\n3-1. Try to incorporate feedback into future videos.\\nAfter posting your vlog, you may get some feedback from viewers. While not all feedback is useful (or actionable), pay attention if you notice a common theme among the feedback; this demonstrates that enough of the people who saw your vlog felt the same way that you should consider using their feedback in future vlogs.\\nFor example, if a few people mention that the music was too loud or obtrusive, try lowering the volume of music in future vlogs.\\n3-2. Create distinct vlogs every time.\\nYou can keep the same general formula for your vlog, but make sure you aren't simply copying your steps from the previous vlog.\\nFor example, if your last vlog involved going to a coffee shop in the afternoon and then visiting food carts, try to avoid both of these activities in the next few vlogs.\\n3-3. Establish a theme.\\nOnce you've created a few vlogs, you'll probably begin to see a trend taking shape. At this point, it's good to determine what that trend is and figure out how to continue it in future vlogs. This will ensure that the people who view your content know what to expect when you upload something, and you'll have a general framework for your content going forward.\\nAs with any form of expression, your vlogs will likely change over time. Knowing your general theme will help make this transition more gradual than if you're uploading without knowing what the overarching theme is.\\n3-4. Promote your vlogs.\\nOnce you have a few vlogs uploaded to your platform of choice, begin talking about them on other forms of social media (e.g., Facebook and Twitter). This is a good way to grow your vlogs' collective audience.\\nAn easy way to do this is by creating a Facebook page for your vlogs and then posting links to the vlogs there.\\nYou might even want to notify a few close friends whenever you post; if they enjoy your content, they may share it with their friends as well.\\nTips\\nThe sky is the limit when it comes to vlog content. If you feel comfortable being yourself in front of (or behind) the camera and you don't mind trying new things, you'll have the recipe for a great vlog.\\nIf you monetize your vlogs on YouTube, you can make money from any ads that play on it. You will have to become a YouTube partner in order to cash out.\\nWarnings\\nNever film in areas in which recording is prohibited.\\nWhile most public spaces are okay to film in, make sure you respect the privacy of the people around you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"This wikiHow teaches you how to create video diaries (or \\\"vlogs\\\") for publication. Vlogging is a fairly free, open-ended form of entertainment, but there are a few components of any successful vlogger's routine that you should use.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Started\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Research existing vloggers.\", \"描述\": \"Before you create your own vlog, take a look at some existing content to get a feel for the format. Popular, high-end vloggers include people like Casey Neistat, Zoella, and Jenna Marbles, but try to find less popular vloggers as well—popular vloggers tend to have massive budgets for each vlog, so their end presentation isn't feasible for a first-time vlogger.\\nVirtually every vlogger has some form of tutorial or advice on how to break into the world of vlogging.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Identify the type of vlogger you want to be.\", \"描述\": \"While vlogging is often considered to be a video summary of one's day or week, that doesn't have to be the case. You can vlog about anything you like, but common examples include the following:\\n\\nFood — \\\"What I Eat in a Day\\\" videos are extremely popular. As you might guess, this type of video involves showing your food preparation and final product for a day.\\nActivities — If you don't have particularly eventful days, vlogging when you do something exciting (e.g., go hiking) is a feasible outlet.\\nBeauty — Many vloggers have makeup- or cosmetics-based sections of their videos. If you like experimenting with different makeup looks, you can record your process as a vlog a few times per week.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make sure you have the necessary equipment.\", \"描述\": \"Vlogging is fairly accessible in that it doesn't require a studio or intensive lighting, but you'll still need the following:\\n\\nVideo camera — Anything from a smartphone to a full-blown video camera is acceptable. Make sure that your chosen video option supports HD (1080p) footage.\\nTripod — No one likes shaky footage. Buying a tripod for your camera, regardless of the camera's size, is crucial.\\nLighting — Not entirely necessary, but strongly recommended if you're filming anything indoors. A simple overhead lamp or a makeup light will usually suffice.\\nMicrophone — A directional microphone that attaches to your camera will pick up audio from whatever your camera is pointing at. This is optional if you're recording with a smartphone, but recommended for audio clarity's sake.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Figure out your intent before filming.\", \"描述\": \"It's important to know what you're trying to accomplish prior to pressing the \\\"Record\\\" button, so determine your goal for the finished product before you proceed.\\nIf your goal is simply to document your day, you can skip this step.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Creating Great Content\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make sure you film yourself in addition to your surroundings.\", \"描述\": \"Your vlog should contain both commentary and content shots, so it's a good idea to get your face in the shot from time to time.\\nVlogging is personal, so you may wish to keep your vlog free of commentary and face shots. If so, just keep future vlogs consistent with this presentation.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"One way to keep your audience engaged is by walking up to strangers in the street, asking a question, and filming their responses. This isn't necessary, but it's a good starting point if you don't know what to film.\\nMake sure you have consent to post any responses you receive before filming them.\\nKeep your questions appropriate. You don't want anyone to think you're harassing them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Include interesting or exciting events.\", \"描述\": \"Unless your commentary is interesting enough to keep your audience engaged throughout the entire vlog, you'll need to include shots of funny, pretty, or otherwise stimulating content.\\nFor example, if you're filming a hike, take a few minutes of footage of wildlife, scenery, or similar.\\nIncluding cute animals or dramatic events in your vlog will almost always keep audiences engaged.\\nWandering around any city while recording for long enough will always yield something interesting.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Edit your vlog.\", \"描述\": \"How you edit your finished vlog is up to you; however, the goal should be to cut it down to a reasonable length (e.g., between 8 and 15 minutes) while making some of the longer parts more interesting to look at.\\nJump cuts, which involve identifying two interesting, back-to-back points in the vlog and then cutting the content between them, are essential when editing vlogs.\\nYou'll want to add music to virtually all of your vlogs.\\nSpeeding up sections to create a \\\"time-lapse\\\" effect can keep people interested during a lull in the action.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Upload the edited video.\", \"描述\": \"Where you upload your vlog is entirely up to you, though YouTube is a popular choice due to its prominence in the video community. 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How to Be a Waiter
1. Learning the Skills 1-1. Be charming. People come out to eat at a restaurant for more than the food. Eating out is an experience, and the wait staff is the most visible part of that experience. Can you chat up even the most dour and uncommunicative people at parties? Do you empathize with people easily? Are you quick with a joke and smile? If the answer is yes, you've got one of the necessary traits at waiting tables. You don't have to be a stand-up comedian, but you do need to be a good communicator. Quiet servers are often just as good as talkative ones, they just need to make sure they're communicating with body language, doing their job efficiently, and listening as well as they possibly can. 1-2. Be quick. Are you a good multitasker? Can you remember lists of things easily? Can you adapt quickly to changes and new situations? A member of the wait staff needs to be able to take orders, communicate with the back-of-house workers, and act as the "face" of the restaurant to the customers. It's a tall order, but it must be done quickly and efficiently for the restaurant to work properly. 1-3. Be strong. Carrying a tray of wobbly drinks and hot plates full of buffalo wings is difficult enough to do without spilling once, but after a long shift of serving rowdy football fans? It can be downright exhausting. If you're fit and healthy, being a member of the wait staff will be a much more comfortable transition. You don't have to be a bodybuilder, but it helps to be comfortable negotiating a crowded room while holding heavy objects safely and quickly. 1-4. Write clearly and use computers well. If the kitchen can't read your tickets, things will get messed up quickly. Keeping track of information and legibly recording your orders is a critical part of the process of the restaurant. The whole process starts with you. At the restaurant, you'll get specific details and learn how the system works, but in general you want to be familiar with the essentials. 2. Getting a Serving Job 2-1. Apply at restaurants that will train you. The upscale bistro downtown probably doesn't hire servers without experience. If you've never worked as a server before, chain restaurants like Chili's or Applebee's are a good way to start out, getting the training and experience you'll need to get a job where the tips will be great. You'll learn a lot about the way a restaurant works and the way to be a good server. 2-2. Get a resume together. If you don't have one already, focus on articulating the skills necessary for serving food in a restaurant. You'll need to be good at dealing with customers, working in a team-environment, and working quickly. Highlight similar work experience that illustrates these traits. If you've never worked before and hope to get a job as a server, you might focus on school successes and teamwork environments like sports in which you've thrived. Be positive and sell yourself. That's the job. 2-3. Talk to the manager. When you find a place that's hiring, ask to speak with the manager. A resume left with a bartender might end up getting lost, and anyway, the bartender isn't the one doing the hiring. Bring your resume and your enthusiasm. Tell them you'd be really excited to speak more about the position and that you're ready to start right away. Since being a server is about making a good first impression most of the time, treat getting the job like the job. Make a good first impression. 2-4. Anticipate the interview questions. Preparing answers to likely interview questions will ensure that you're not thrown for a loop in front of the manager and that you've thought through the responsibilities of the job. Some managers might ask, "What's your favorite thing on our menu?" or "If the kitchen ran out of fish, what would suggest as an alternative?" Brush up on the menu of the restaurant before hand by checking out Yelp or the restaurant's website. Be prepared to respond to disaster scenarios. Some managers might ask, "Someone gives you a fake ID to buy alcohol. What do you do?" or, more directly, "A customer is angry about their meal. What should you do?" Think through these scenarios and respond thoughtfully. Come with questions of your own. Usually, a good question like "What does someone need to be really successful here?" can leave an extremely good first impression on a manager. They'll often give you the chance to ask questions, which can be a missed opportunity in an interview. 3. Waiting Tables 3-1. Approach your table with a smile and a greeting. Introduce yourself and say your name clearly. "Hello, nice to see you. My name's ___. Here is/are your menu(s). Would you like to start off with a refreshing beverage from our bar?" Greet customers with a smile as they enter. Maintain balanced eye-contact, but avoid staring too much. Some customers are uncomfortable and will come to the restaurant in a variety of moods. Respond appropriately. As you seat them at their table, perhaps stir up small conversation as you proceed to take their drink orders. If they're not interested in chatting, leave it at that. 3-2. Take drink orders clockwise starting at your left. If children are present, ask for their beverages first, followed by ladies and then gentleman all following the left to right order. This is also the time to discuss the specials and any promotional deals the restaurant is offering at this time. When you have served their drinks, ask if they have any questions about the menu. Don't rush them unless they are late, and even then do it gently. If they are ready to order, take their order clockwise starting at the left and closest to you. If not, proceed to your next table. 3-3. When the main course is served, always ask, "May I get you anything else?" and give them a second to think about it. Check back again within five minutes with, "Are you enjoying everything?" Ask specifically about the host's dish: "How is your Steak?" Listen to their response and read their body language: many people are shy to speak up about problems, and they may blame that on you when it comes time to leave a tip. Bring out orders in their entirety. Never bring one guest's food without the other's, unless specially instructed otherwise (this may happen if one or more in the party plans to leave early). Normally, there shouldn't be any circumstance causing one part of an order be ready much later than another. If on occasion you foresee this happening and causing a problem, briefly explain the situation and ask how the customer would prefer handling this. 3-4. Clear any of the plates from the current course as soon as it is obvious the customer wants them to be removed. Always clear plates from the previous course completely before bringing plates from the next course to a table. Before clearing plates, be sure to ask politely if they are ready. Use a manner and tone consistent with both the atmosphere and the customer. Generally, "May I take this/these for you?" is good. Don't ask if they're obviously still eating. If someone is talking and has food on their plate, don't interrupt their story to ask if they're finished. Wait and come back. 3-5. When the main course is cleared, ask, "Would you like to see the dessert menu?" Asking gives them the chance to order more without having to make a special request for it. They'll be more likely to order dessert if you ask. Clear any complimentary breads and/or soup from before the main course before ordering the dessert course. 3-6. Take their payment. Inform your guest that you will prepare the payment for them, making change if they've paid in cash and processing the credit card if they're using one. Never ask if they want change or assume that the change is for your tip--just break the bills and quickly return with the change/receipt. When you return, thank them and say something like, "It's been nice to see you" , "Hope to see you again soon", OR if they seem to be lingering after their meal, just say "thank you", as they may need refills and such. 4. Making Good Tips 4-1. Make sure you are presentable before you leave for work. Always arrive at least 15 minutes before your scheduled shift, well-groomed and with clean clothes on. Wear clean shoes and socks. Your hair should be neat and washed, your nails clean, your uniform/clothes clean and modest. Apply limited quantities of makeup to show a natural & fresh look. 4-2. Watch for signals. If a table wants something they will glance around to look for you. Learn to stay alert as you walk the floor, without staring at your tables. Most customers will make eye contact as a signal that they need you. This can give them the feeling like you're paying attention without hovering over them. When their good food and conversation is over, they will start looking around at other diners or the walls. This can tell you when to clear plates, offer desserts or drop the check. 4-3. Talk less. Avoid going into eagle-hawk mode and badgering the customers. Customers hate to be ogled at or constantly interrupted in their conversation and meal, but will also need something every now and then. It's a delicate balance. Learn to gauge your customers quickly. If a couple seems tense and like they might be in the middle of an argument, it's probably not the time to ask "Celebrating something tonight?" or other breaking-the-ice questions. If a table seems like they're having a good time and are hesitant to leave, suggest drinks or coffee. If they feel like chatting, take a moment to chat. If not, leave them in their conversation. 4-4. Don't assume the man will pay. If it becomes directly known to you during their visit which guest will be paying, you may leave the check at the end of the table by him or her. Otherwise, leave the check in the middle of the table. Check is always face down. If it is inside a check envelope, lay it flat on the table. 4-5. Stay calm. When customers get nasty or rude, listen and communicate with them openly. Remember: it's a job, it isn't personal. If they're openly belligerent, disturbing other customers, or overtly drunk, grab the manager and let the boss deal with it. Tips If you do wear perfume or cologne, make sure you never put on too much. The smell can be overwhelming and drive guests out of the restaurant instead of tempting them to come in. Never try to hide a mistake from management - you'll only make the problem worse. Generally, in most restaurants, when an order is wrong (such as steak that is overcooked), the manager will usually bring the correct order back - but if you don't say something - the manager won't know! Acknowledge it promptly and let them help you resolve the situation. Never go to a table smelling like smoke. If you are allowed a cigarette break, follow it by washing your hands, rinsing your mouth and - when possible - decontaminating your clothing by spritzing yourself with a twist of lemon. Warnings Don't let one mistake trip you up the whole night. If you let one bad thing get to you, you'll slip up more and more. Just shake it off, take a breather, and move on. Talk to someone you like or respect and get it off your chest - "I screwed up! I'm sorry" lightens the burden as does the honest reply "You should have been here when I was doing your job!"
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A member of the wait staff needs to be able to take orders, communicate with the back-of-house workers, and act as the \\\"face\\\" of the restaurant to the customers. It's a tall order, but it must be done quickly and efficiently for the restaurant to work properly.\\n1-3. Be strong.\\nCarrying a tray of wobbly drinks and hot plates full of buffalo wings is difficult enough to do without spilling once, but after a long shift of serving rowdy football fans? It can be downright exhausting. If you're fit and healthy, being a member of the wait staff will be a much more comfortable transition. You don't have to be a bodybuilder, but it helps to be comfortable negotiating a crowded room while holding heavy objects safely and quickly.\\n1-4. Write clearly and use computers well.\\nIf the kitchen can't read your tickets, things will get messed up quickly. Keeping track of information and legibly recording your orders is a critical part of the process of the restaurant. The whole process starts with you.\\nAt the restaurant, you'll get specific details and learn how the system works, but in general you want to be familiar with the essentials.\\n2. Getting a Serving Job\\n2-1. Apply at restaurants that will train you.\\nThe upscale bistro downtown probably doesn't hire servers without experience. If you've never worked as a server before, chain restaurants like Chili's or Applebee's are a good way to start out, getting the training and experience you'll need to get a job where the tips will be great. You'll learn a lot about the way a restaurant works and the way to be a good server.\\n2-2. Get a resume together.\\nIf you don't have one already, focus on articulating the skills necessary for serving food in a restaurant. You'll need to be good at dealing with customers, working in a team-environment, and working quickly. Highlight similar work experience that illustrates these traits.\\nIf you've never worked before and hope to get a job as a server, you might focus on school successes and teamwork environments like sports in which you've thrived. Be positive and sell yourself. That's the job.\\n2-3. Talk to the manager.\\nWhen you find a place that's hiring, ask to speak with the manager. A resume left with a bartender might end up getting lost, and anyway, the bartender isn't the one doing the hiring.\\nBring your resume and your enthusiasm. Tell them you'd be really excited to speak more about the position and that you're ready to start right away. Since being a server is about making a good first impression most of the time, treat getting the job like the job. Make a good first impression.\\n2-4. Anticipate the interview questions.\\nPreparing answers to likely interview questions will ensure that you're not thrown for a loop in front of the manager and that you've thought through the responsibilities of the job.\\nSome managers might ask, \\\"What's your favorite thing on our menu?\\\" or \\\"If the kitchen ran out of fish, what would suggest as an alternative?\\\" Brush up on the menu of the restaurant before hand by checking out Yelp or the restaurant's website.\\nBe prepared to respond to disaster scenarios. Some managers might ask, \\\"Someone gives you a fake ID to buy alcohol. What do you do?\\\" or, more directly, \\\"A customer is angry about their meal. What should you do?\\\" Think through these scenarios and respond thoughtfully.\\nCome with questions of your own. Usually, a good question like \\\"What does someone need to be really successful here?\\\" can leave an extremely good first impression on a manager. They'll often give you the chance to ask questions, which can be a missed opportunity in an interview.\\n3. Waiting Tables\\n3-1. Approach your table with a smile and a greeting.\\nIntroduce yourself and say your name clearly. \\\"Hello, nice to see you. My name's ___. Here is/are your menu(s). Would you like to start off with a refreshing beverage from our bar?\\\" Greet customers with a smile as they enter.\\nMaintain balanced eye-contact, but avoid staring too much. Some customers are uncomfortable and will come to the restaurant in a variety of moods. Respond appropriately. As you seat them at their table, perhaps stir up small conversation as you proceed to take their drink orders. If they're not interested in chatting, leave it at that.\\n3-2. Take drink orders clockwise starting at your left.\\nIf children are present, ask for their beverages first, followed by ladies and then gentleman all following the left to right order.\\nThis is also the time to discuss the specials and any promotional deals the restaurant is offering at this time.\\nWhen you have served their drinks, ask if they have any questions about the menu. Don't rush them unless they are late, and even then do it gently. If they are ready to order, take their order clockwise starting at the left and closest to you. If not, proceed to your next table.\\n3-3. When the main course is served, always ask, \\\"May I get you anything else?\\\"\\nand give them a second to think about it. Check back again within five minutes with, \\\"Are you enjoying everything?\\\" Ask specifically about the host's dish: \\\"How is your Steak?\\\" Listen to their response and read their body language: many people are shy to speak up about problems, and they may blame that on you when it comes time to leave a tip.\\nBring out orders in their entirety. Never bring one guest's food without the other's, unless specially instructed otherwise (this may happen if one or more in the party plans to leave early). Normally, there shouldn't be any circumstance causing one part of an order be ready much later than another. If on occasion you foresee this happening and causing a problem, briefly explain the situation and ask how the customer would prefer handling this.\\n3-4. Clear any of the plates from the current course as soon as it is obvious the customer wants them to be removed.\\nAlways clear plates from the previous course completely before bringing plates from the next course to a table.\\nBefore clearing plates, be sure to ask politely if they are ready. Use a manner and tone consistent with both the atmosphere and the customer. Generally, \\\"May I take this/these for you?\\\" is good. Don't ask if they're obviously still eating. If someone is talking and has food on their plate, don't interrupt their story to ask if they're finished. Wait and come back.\\n3-5. When the main course is cleared, ask, \\\"Would you like to see the dessert menu?\\\"\\nAsking gives them the chance to order more without having to make a special request for it. They'll be more likely to order dessert if you ask.\\nClear any complimentary breads and/or soup from before the main course before ordering the dessert course.\\n3-6. Take their payment.\\nInform your guest that you will prepare the payment for them, making change if they've paid in cash and processing the credit card if they're using one. Never ask if they want change or assume that the change is for your tip--just break the bills and quickly return with the change/receipt.\\nWhen you return, thank them and say something like, \\\"It's been nice to see you\\\" , \\\"Hope to see you again soon\\\", OR if they seem to be lingering after their meal, just say \\\"thank you\\\", as they may need refills and such.\\n4. Making Good Tips\\n4-1. Make sure you are presentable before you leave for work.\\nAlways arrive at least 15 minutes before your scheduled shift, well-groomed and with clean clothes on. Wear clean shoes and socks. Your hair should be neat and washed, your nails clean, your uniform/clothes clean and modest. Apply limited quantities of makeup to show a natural & fresh look.\\n4-2. Watch for signals.\\nIf a table wants something they will glance around to look for you. Learn to stay alert as you walk the floor, without staring at your tables. Most customers will make eye contact as a signal that they need you. This can give them the feeling like you're paying attention without hovering over them.\\nWhen their good food and conversation is over, they will start looking around at other diners or the walls. This can tell you when to clear plates, offer desserts or drop the check.\\n4-3. Talk less.\\nAvoid going into eagle-hawk mode and badgering the customers. Customers hate to be ogled at or constantly interrupted in their conversation and meal, but will also need something every now and then. It's a delicate balance.\\nLearn to gauge your customers quickly. If a couple seems tense and like they might be in the middle of an argument, it's probably not the time to ask \\\"Celebrating something tonight?\\\" or other breaking-the-ice questions. If a table seems like they're having a good time and are hesitant to leave, suggest drinks or coffee. If they feel like chatting, take a moment to chat. If not, leave them in their conversation.\\n4-4. Don't assume the man will pay.\\nIf it becomes directly known to you during their visit which guest will be paying, you may leave the check at the end of the table by him or her. Otherwise, leave the check in the middle of the table. Check is always face down. If it is inside a check envelope, lay it flat on the table.\\n4-5. Stay calm.\\nWhen customers get nasty or rude, listen and communicate with them openly. Remember: it's a job, it isn't personal. If they're openly belligerent, disturbing other customers, or overtly drunk, grab the manager and let the boss deal with it.\\nTips\\nIf you do wear perfume or cologne, make sure you never put on too much. The smell can be overwhelming and drive guests out of the restaurant instead of tempting them to come in.\\nNever try to hide a mistake from management - you'll only make the problem worse. Generally, in most restaurants, when an order is wrong (such as steak that is overcooked), the manager will usually bring the correct order back - but if you don't say something - the manager won't know! Acknowledge it promptly and let them help you resolve the situation.\\nNever go to a table smelling like smoke. If you are allowed a cigarette break, follow it by washing your hands, rinsing your mouth and - when possible - decontaminating your clothing by spritzing yourself with a twist of lemon.\\nWarnings\\nDon't let one mistake trip you up the whole night. If you let one bad thing get to you, you'll slip up more and more. Just shake it off, take a breather, and move on. Talk to someone you like or respect and get it off your chest - \\\"I screwed up! I'm sorry\\\" lightens the burden as does the honest reply \\\"You should have been here when I was doing your job!\\\"\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"From Kelsey Grammar to Kelly Clarkson, many people got their career started off by waiting tables. Working in a restaurant environment is fast paced and lucrative work if you approach it correctly and develop the right skills. If you're personable, reliable, and a good multi-tasker, serving food in a restaurant can be a great short- or long-term opportunity. Follow our general advice below or find more specific help by checking out the sections listed below.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning the Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be charming.\", \"描述\": \"People come out to eat at a restaurant for more than the food. Eating out is an experience, and the wait staff is the most visible part of that experience. Can you chat up even the most dour and uncommunicative people at parties? Do you empathize with people easily? Are you quick with a joke and smile? If the answer is yes, you've got one of the necessary traits at waiting tables.\\nYou don't have to be a stand-up comedian, but you do need to be a good communicator. Quiet servers are often just as good as talkative ones, they just need to make sure they're communicating with body language, doing their job efficiently, and listening as well as they possibly can.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be quick.\", \"描述\": \"Are you a good multitasker? Can you remember lists of things easily? Can you adapt quickly to changes and new situations? A member of the wait staff needs to be able to take orders, communicate with the back-of-house workers, and act as the \\\"face\\\" of the restaurant to the customers. It's a tall order, but it must be done quickly and efficiently for the restaurant to work properly.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be strong.\", \"描述\": \"Carrying a tray of wobbly drinks and hot plates full of buffalo wings is difficult enough to do without spilling once, but after a long shift of serving rowdy football fans? It can be downright exhausting. If you're fit and healthy, being a member of the wait staff will be a much more comfortable transition. You don't have to be a bodybuilder, but it helps to be comfortable negotiating a crowded room while holding heavy objects safely and quickly.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Write clearly and use computers well.\", \"描述\": \"If the kitchen can't read your tickets, things will get messed up quickly. Keeping track of information and legibly recording your orders is a critical part of the process of the restaurant. The whole process starts with you.\\nAt the restaurant, you'll get specific details and learn how the system works, but in general you want to be familiar with the essentials.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting a Serving Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Apply at restaurants that will train you.\", \"描述\": \"The upscale bistro downtown probably doesn't hire servers without experience. If you've never worked as a server before, chain restaurants like Chili's or Applebee's are a good way to start out, getting the training and experience you'll need to get a job where the tips will be great. You'll learn a lot about the way a restaurant works and the way to be a good server.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get a resume together.\", \"描述\": \"If you don't have one already, focus on articulating the skills necessary for serving food in a restaurant. You'll need to be good at dealing with customers, working in a team-environment, and working quickly. Highlight similar work experience that illustrates these traits.\\nIf you've never worked before and hope to get a job as a server, you might focus on school successes and teamwork environments like sports in which you've thrived. Be positive and sell yourself. That's the job.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Talk to the manager.\", \"描述\": \"When you find a place that's hiring, ask to speak with the manager. A resume left with a bartender might end up getting lost, and anyway, the bartender isn't the one doing the hiring.\\nBring your resume and your enthusiasm. Tell them you'd be really excited to speak more about the position and that you're ready to start right away. Since being a server is about making a good first impression most of the time, treat getting the job like the job. Make a good first impression.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Anticipate the interview questions.\", \"描述\": \"Preparing answers to likely interview questions will ensure that you're not thrown for a loop in front of the manager and that you've thought through the responsibilities of the job.\\nSome managers might ask, \\\"What's your favorite thing on our menu?\\\" or \\\"If the kitchen ran out of fish, what would suggest as an alternative?\\\" Brush up on the menu of the restaurant before hand by checking out Yelp or the restaurant's website.\\nBe prepared to respond to disaster scenarios. Some managers might ask, \\\"Someone gives you a fake ID to buy alcohol. What do you do?\\\" or, more directly, \\\"A customer is angry about their meal. What should you do?\\\" Think through these scenarios and respond thoughtfully.\\nCome with questions of your own. Usually, a good question like \\\"What does someone need to be really successful here?\\\" can leave an extremely good first impression on a manager. They'll often give you the chance to ask questions, which can be a missed opportunity in an interview.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Waiting Tables\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Approach your table with a smile and a greeting.\", \"描述\": \"Introduce yourself and say your name clearly. \\\"Hello, nice to see you. My name's ___. Here is/are your menu(s). Would you like to start off with a refreshing beverage from our bar?\\\" Greet customers with a smile as they enter.\\nMaintain balanced eye-contact, but avoid staring too much. Some customers are uncomfortable and will come to the restaurant in a variety of moods. Respond appropriately. As you seat them at their table, perhaps stir up small conversation as you proceed to take their drink orders. If they're not interested in chatting, leave it at that.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take drink orders clockwise starting at your left.\", \"描述\": \"If children are present, ask for their beverages first, followed by ladies and then gentleman all following the left to right order.\\nThis is also the time to discuss the specials and any promotional deals the restaurant is offering at this time.\\nWhen you have served their drinks, ask if they have any questions about the menu. Don't rush them unless they are late, and even then do it gently. If they are ready to order, take their order clockwise starting at the left and closest to you. If not, proceed to your next table.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"When the main course is served, always ask, \\\"May I get you anything else?\\\"\", \"描述\": \"and give them a second to think about it. Check back again within five minutes with, \\\"Are you enjoying everything?\\\" Ask specifically about the host's dish: \\\"How is your Steak?\\\" Listen to their response and read their body language: many people are shy to speak up about problems, and they may blame that on you when it comes time to leave a tip.\\nBring out orders in their entirety. Never bring one guest's food without the other's, unless specially instructed otherwise (this may happen if one or more in the party plans to leave early). Normally, there shouldn't be any circumstance causing one part of an order be ready much later than another. If on occasion you foresee this happening and causing a problem, briefly explain the situation and ask how the customer would prefer handling this.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Clear any of the plates from the current course as soon as it is obvious the customer wants them to be removed.\", \"描述\": \"Always clear plates from the previous course completely before bringing plates from the next course to a table.\\nBefore clearing plates, be sure to ask politely if they are ready. Use a manner and tone consistent with both the atmosphere and the customer. Generally, \\\"May I take this/these for you?\\\" is good. Don't ask if they're obviously still eating. If someone is talking and has food on their plate, don't interrupt their story to ask if they're finished. Wait and come back.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"When the main course is cleared, ask, \\\"Would you like to see the dessert menu?\\\"\", \"描述\": \"Asking gives them the chance to order more without having to make a special request for it. They'll be more likely to order dessert if you ask.\\nClear any complimentary breads and/or soup from before the main course before ordering the dessert course.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take their payment.\", \"描述\": \"Inform your guest that you will prepare the payment for them, making change if they've paid in cash and processing the credit card if they're using one. Never ask if they want change or assume that the change is for your tip--just break the bills and quickly return with the change/receipt.\\nWhen you return, thank them and say something like, \\\"It's been nice to see you\\\" , \\\"Hope to see you again soon\\\", OR if they seem to be lingering after their meal, just say \\\"thank you\\\", as they may need refills and such.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Making Good Tips\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make sure you are presentable before you leave for work.\", \"描述\": \"Always arrive at least 15 minutes before your scheduled shift, well-groomed and with clean clothes on. Wear clean shoes and socks. Your hair should be neat and washed, your nails clean, your uniform/clothes clean and modest. Apply limited quantities of makeup to show a natural & fresh look.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Watch for signals.\", \"描述\": \"If a table wants something they will glance around to look for you. Learn to stay alert as you walk the floor, without staring at your tables. Most customers will make eye contact as a signal that they need you. This can give them the feeling like you're paying attention without hovering over them.\\nWhen their good food and conversation is over, they will start looking around at other diners or the walls. This can tell you when to clear plates, offer desserts or drop the check.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Talk less.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid going into eagle-hawk mode and badgering the customers. Customers hate to be ogled at or constantly interrupted in their conversation and meal, but will also need something every now and then. It's a delicate balance.\\nLearn to gauge your customers quickly. If a couple seems tense and like they might be in the middle of an argument, it's probably not the time to ask \\\"Celebrating something tonight?\\\" or other breaking-the-ice questions. If a table seems like they're having a good time and are hesitant to leave, suggest drinks or coffee. If they feel like chatting, take a moment to chat. If not, leave them in their conversation.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't assume the man will pay.\", \"描述\": \"If it becomes directly known to you during their visit which guest will be paying, you may leave the check at the end of the table by him or her. Otherwise, leave the check in the middle of the table. Check is always face down. If it is inside a check envelope, lay it flat on the table.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay calm.\", \"描述\": \"When customers get nasty or rude, listen and communicate with them openly. Remember: it's a job, it isn't personal. If they're openly belligerent, disturbing other customers, or overtly drunk, grab the manager and let the boss deal with it.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you do wear perfume or cologne, make sure you never put on too much. The smell can be overwhelming and drive guests out of the restaurant instead of tempting them to come in.\\n\", \"Never try to hide a mistake from management - you'll only make the problem worse. Generally, in most restaurants, when an order is wrong (such as steak that is overcooked), the manager will usually bring the correct order back - but if you don't say something - the manager won't know! Acknowledge it promptly and let them help you resolve the situation.\\n\", \"Never go to a table smelling like smoke. If you are allowed a cigarette break, follow it by washing your hands, rinsing your mouth and - when possible - decontaminating your clothing by spritzing yourself with a twist of lemon.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't let one mistake trip you up the whole night. If you let one bad thing get to you, you'll slip up more and more. Just shake it off, take a breather, and move on. Talk to someone you like or respect and get it off your chest - \\\"I screwed up! I'm sorry\\\" lightens the burden as does the honest reply \\\"You should have been here when I was doing your job!\\\"\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Walmart Door Greeter
1. Steps 1-1. Be sure to keep all distractions (smartphone, mp3 player, etc) at bay. Especially when management or a is walking around, you don't want them catching you playing around with a cell phone or MP3 player. 1-2. Be courteous, look at your customer when greeting them, and smile. You don't have to say "Welcome to Walmart!" if you think it sounds cheesy, instead, you can say "Hello, how are you?" or "how are you doing?" instead. 1-3. Familiarize yourself with sticker applying procedures. Throughout the day you may have to peel those little "happy faces" off the roll and applying them to various customers throughout the day. Your fingers/hands will likely take an abuse so make sure you properly stretch and exercise the fingers. NOTE: most customers will not want a sticker so your next option would be to tear a few off the roll of stickers. 1-4. Check receipts, especially if you notice a customer carrying an item that isn't contained in a bag. You should always check anyway, but , you don't want to stress yourself out if you miss a few customers here or there, this will happen and this is normal. Some rush out the door, some stop and hand you a receipt if you ask them, and some customers are angry either way, so be careful. 1-5. Use Express Returns in SMART to issue a return label if a customer has a return, provided you have an MC40 or TC70. If you do not have one of these, just write them up. Write your initials, the date, how many items they have and you should be golden. 1-6. When the store is not busy, you should work on keeping the vestibule (area between the two sets of doors) clean by cleaning the windows by the entrance doors, straightening nearby shelves, sweeping, etc. Basically whatever you can do to keep yourself from being bored. Remember that management will be watching you and, whatever you can do to help them out will be a really big help to them, because they have a lot of responsibility, so you should treat this job as important as any other. 1-7. Remember: you have it really easy, don't mess up! This is by far the easiest job in the store. You have it made, and you're making money to stand around, even more overnight. Not too shabby. It is going to get boring, but my suggestion to you would be to grin and bear it until something better comes your way. Tips Be sure to notice the regular customers who come often, as they will trust in you over time. Don't be shy! Always be friendly, greet as many people as you can, and be polite and humble in doing so. Always smile as customer enters upon premises even if they appear to be angry and do not smile at you. Warnings Always show up on time on your scheduled days, if you don't, you may be seen as unreliable by management and they may fire you, and you most certainly want to avoid that whenever possible, as other career opportunities within the store open up to you. NEVER give a customer an attitude, if they give you an attitude, especially when you check their receipt, tell them in a calm and polite manner that it is your job to do so, and that they can speak with management if they have an issue. You will get made fun of for doing this job, especially if you're a young adult (18-20's or so), so expect this. Just brush it off; it is going to happen often. DO NOT harass other greeters about the way they are doing their jobs, especially if they're older, so leave them alone, and treat others how you would like to be treated. Just talk to them and give them company, they have probably been lonely and need somebody to talk to about their day perhaps. Who knows what kinds of stories they may have during 1st-2nd shift transition. NEVER talk bad about anybody, especially your co-workers, because they will be the ones to complain to management if you do say anything negative to them.
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Check receipts, especially if you notice a customer carrying an item that isn't contained in a bag.\\nYou should always check anyway, but , you don't want to stress yourself out if you miss a few customers here or there, this will happen and this is normal. Some rush out the door, some stop and hand you a receipt if you ask them, and some customers are angry either way, so be careful.\\n1-5. Use Express Returns in SMART to issue a return label if a customer has a return, provided you have an MC40 or TC70.\\nIf you do not have one of these, just write them up. Write your initials, the date, how many items they have and you should be golden.\\n1-6. When the store is not busy, you should work on keeping the vestibule (area between the two sets of doors) clean by cleaning the windows by the entrance doors, straightening nearby shelves, sweeping, etc.\\nBasically whatever you can do to keep yourself from being bored. Remember that management will be watching you and, whatever you can do to help them out will be a really big help to them, because they have a lot of responsibility, so you should treat this job as important as any other.\\n1-7. Remember:\\nyou have it really easy, don't mess up! This is by far the easiest job in the store. You have it made, and you're making money to stand around, even more overnight. Not too shabby. It is going to get boring, but my suggestion to you would be to grin and bear it until something better comes your way.\\nTips\\nBe sure to notice the regular customers who come often, as they will trust in you over time.\\nDon't be shy! Always be friendly, greet as many people as you can, and be polite and humble in doing so.\\nAlways smile as customer enters upon premises even if they appear to be angry and do not smile at you.\\nWarnings\\nAlways show up on time on your scheduled days, if you don't, you may be seen as unreliable by management and they may fire you, and you most certainly want to avoid that whenever possible, as other career opportunities within the store open up to you.\\nNEVER give a customer an attitude, if they give you an attitude, especially when you check their receipt, tell them in a calm and polite manner that it is your job to do so, and that they can speak with management if they have an issue.\\nYou will get made fun of for doing this job, especially if you're a young adult (18-20's or so), so expect this. Just brush it off; it is going to happen often.\\nDO NOT harass other greeters about the way they are doing their jobs, especially if they're older, so leave them alone, and treat others how you would like to be treated. Just talk to them and give them company, they have probably been lonely and need somebody to talk to about their day perhaps. Who knows what kinds of stories they may have during 1st-2nd shift transition.\\nNEVER talk bad about anybody, especially your co-workers, because they will be the ones to complain to management if you do say anything negative to them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a Walmart people greeter can be a tough job. Especially overnight if you're working at a 24-hour Super Center. Depending on the amount of theft in your store your position may be called either People Greeter or Asset Protection Customer Host (APCH). The positions are very similar.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be sure to keep all distractions (smartphone, mp3 player, etc) at bay.\", \"描述\": \"Especially when management or a is walking around, you don't want them catching you playing around with a cell phone or MP3 player.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be courteous, look at your customer when greeting them, and smile.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to say \\\"Welcome to Walmart!\\\" if you think it sounds cheesy, instead, you can say \\\"Hello, how are you?\\\" or \\\"how are you doing?\\\" instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with sticker applying procedures.\", \"描述\": \"Throughout the day you may have to peel those little \\\"happy faces\\\" off the roll and applying them to various customers throughout the day. Your fingers/hands will likely take an abuse so make sure you properly stretch and exercise the fingers. NOTE: most customers will not want a sticker so your next option would be to tear a few off the roll of stickers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Check receipts, especially if you notice a customer carrying an item that isn't contained in a bag.\", \"描述\": \"You should always check anyway, but , you don't want to stress yourself out if you miss a few customers here or there, this will happen and this is normal. Some rush out the door, some stop and hand you a receipt if you ask them, and some customers are angry either way, so be careful.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use Express Returns in SMART to issue a return label if a customer has a return, provided you have an MC40 or TC70.\", \"描述\": \"If you do not have one of these, just write them up. Write your initials, the date, how many items they have and you should be golden.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"When the store is not busy, you should work on keeping the vestibule (area between the two sets of doors) clean by cleaning the windows by the entrance doors, straightening nearby shelves, sweeping, etc.\", \"描述\": \"Basically whatever you can do to keep yourself from being bored. Remember that management will be watching you and, whatever you can do to help them out will be a really big help to them, because they have a lot of responsibility, so you should treat this job as important as any other.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Remember:\", \"描述\": \"you have it really easy, don't mess up! This is by far the easiest job in the store. You have it made, and you're making money to stand around, even more overnight. Not too shabby. It is going to get boring, but my suggestion to you would be to grin and bear it until something better comes your way.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be sure to notice the regular customers who come often, as they will trust in you over time.\\n\", \"Don't be shy! Always be friendly, greet as many people as you can, and be polite and humble in doing so.\\n\", \"Always smile as customer enters upon premises even if they appear to be angry and do not smile at you.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Always show up on time on your scheduled days, if you don't, you may be seen as unreliable by management and they may fire you, and you most certainly want to avoid that whenever possible, as other career opportunities within the store open up to you.\\n\", \"NEVER give a customer an attitude, if they give you an attitude, especially when you check their receipt, tell them in a calm and polite manner that it is your job to do so, and that they can speak with management if they have an issue.\\n\", \"You will get made fun of for doing this job, especially if you're a young adult (18-20's or so), so expect this. Just brush it off; it is going to happen often.\\n\", \"DO NOT harass other greeters about the way they are doing their jobs, especially if they're older, so leave them alone, and treat others how you would like to be treated. Just talk to them and give them company, they have probably been lonely and need somebody to talk to about their day perhaps. Who knows what kinds of stories they may have during 1st-2nd shift transition.\\n\", \"NEVER talk bad about anybody, especially your co-workers, because they will be the ones to complain to management if you do say anything negative to them.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Warmer Person
1. Attitude and Personal Care 1-1. Nurture your self-esteem Face your insecurities, recognize your strengths, and learn to appreciate yourself for the good person you are. Watch your self talk, and treat yourself the way you'd treat a friend. (Would you call your friend stupid for doing poorly on a test? No? Then don't do it to yourself, because you deserve better). 1-2. Practice self care. It's hard to lift others up when you're barely staying afloat. Look out for your physical and psychological health so that you can feel energetic and grounded when other people need you. Eat well, take walks or do other forms of exercise, get at least 8 hours of sleep, and stay hydrated. This is all important to your well-being. Learn how to say no. It's important to set boundaries in your life, and stick by them. Even though it might feel tough, boundaries are an act of love—they allow you to breathe, and keep the relationship strong. Spend time doing things you love. Hang out with loved ones, work on your hobbies, and schedule relaxation time every day. 1-3. Present yourself well. Bathe regularly, wash your face, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and wear clean clothes. Looking good lets people know that you care about them enough to be your best for them. Wearing designer clothes, doing your hair, and wearing makeup are all optional. It's okay to do them if you like them, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing not to do them, either. 1-4. Think of things that you are thankful for. An attitude of gratitude will make you a happier, warmer person. When you're driving alone or reflecting on your day, focus on the good things in your life, and you will end up feeling better. Here are some ways to build a habit of thankfulness: At the end of every day, think of three positive things that happened. Reflect on why you're glad about them, and write them down if you wish. Keep a list of things you're grateful for. Add to it every day. Write a list of the good things in life (hot chocolate, rainbows, good friends, fuzzy animals, etc.). Add illustrations or photos if you feel like it. Then look through the list whenever you're having a bad time. 1-5. Think about all the things you love about your friends and family members. Write them down if you want to. Remind yourself often of why you care about them, and what makes them special. 2. Being With Others 2-1. Be open and approachable If you look approachable to others, they're more likely to hold a conversation with you. Be open, treat others with compassion, and prepare some conversations ahead of time to help you get to know others. See the above image as a prime example of how to not look open to conversation. 2-2. Celebrate other people's successes. A good friend is one who is there not only on the rainy days, but out enjoying the sunshine. Say "I'm happy for you!" and mean it. Recognize and appreciate other people's strengths, too. 2-3. Do good deeds. You should always do good things wherever you are. It doesn't matter how small they are—each tiny effort makes the world a happier place. Give kindness freely, and it will come back to you. 2-4. Get involved in a good cause. Choose something that will help a certain group of people: disaster victims, animals at shelters, disabled people fighting stigma, or campaigns that fight hunger. This will help you feel more satisfied with yourself, and lets you practice empathy and kindness along with learning, growing, and gaining new skills. 2-5. Tell others how much they matter to you. This doesn't necessarily mean taking them aside and launching into a monologue about how wonderful they are (although there's nothing wrong with that). You can also do it in little ways: compliments, smiles, listening about their interests, gifts, little things to make their lives easier, hugs, et cetera. Every day, resolve to show love to at least 3 people in some small way. 2-6. Know that it's okay not to be 100% warm all the time. Sometimes, people try to take advantage of your kindness, bully others, or spread hurtful information, and it is absolutely okay to be firm with them. You can even be rude if you have to. You have the right to assert your boundaries and protect others, and doing so does not make you less warm or less likable. It is an act of kindness and self care. "Turn the other cheek" is only good advice if the person's conscience will kick in and they will immediately realize that they were in the wrong. Sometimes people will slap the other cheek. In this case, passivity is not the answer, and you will get help or fight back. Sometimes, being firm is an act of kindness. For example, if your son is crying because he doesn't want to go to the doctor, capitulating will only hurt him: he won't get medical attention, and he'll learn that crying will get him out of anything he doesn't want to do. Tough love is okay in these circumstances. 2-7. Practice compassion. Whenever you see someone having a bad day or facing a problem, stop and think: "If I were in that situation, how could someone help me?" Offer help when someone is struggling, listen thoughtfully and patiently, and seek to understand before judging others.
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Even though it might feel tough, boundaries are an act of love—they allow you to breathe, and keep the relationship strong.\\nSpend time doing things you love. Hang out with loved ones, work on your hobbies, and schedule relaxation time every day.\\n1-3. Present yourself well.\\nBathe regularly, wash your face, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and wear clean clothes. Looking good lets people know that you care about them enough to be your best for them.\\nWearing designer clothes, doing your hair, and wearing makeup are all optional. It's okay to do them if you like them, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing not to do them, either.\\n1-4. Think of things that you are thankful for.\\nAn attitude of gratitude will make you a happier, warmer person. When you're driving alone or reflecting on your day, focus on the good things in your life, and you will end up feeling better. Here are some ways to build a habit of thankfulness:\\nAt the end of every day, think of three positive things that happened. Reflect on why you're glad about them, and write them down if you wish.\\nKeep a list of things you're grateful for. Add to it every day.\\nWrite a list of the good things in life (hot chocolate, rainbows, good friends, fuzzy animals, etc.). Add illustrations or photos if you feel like it. Then look through the list whenever you're having a bad time.\\n1-5. Think about all the things you love about your friends and family members.\\nWrite them down if you want to. Remind yourself often of why you care about them, and what makes them special.\\n2. Being With Others\\n2-1. Be open and approachable\\nIf you look approachable to others, they're more likely to hold a conversation with you. Be open, treat others with compassion, and prepare some conversations ahead of time to help you get to know others. See the above image as a prime example of how to not look open to conversation.\\n2-2. Celebrate other people's successes.\\nA good friend is one who is there not only on the rainy days, but out enjoying the sunshine. Say \\\"I'm happy for you!\\\" and mean it. Recognize and appreciate other people's strengths, too.\\n2-3. Do good deeds.\\nYou should always do good things wherever you are. It doesn't matter how small they are—each tiny effort makes the world a happier place. Give kindness freely, and it will come back to you.\\n2-4. Get involved in a good cause.\\nChoose something that will help a certain group of people: disaster victims, animals at shelters, disabled people fighting stigma, or campaigns that fight hunger. This will help you feel more satisfied with yourself, and lets you practice empathy and kindness along with learning, growing, and gaining new skills.\\n2-5. Tell others how much they matter to you.\\nThis doesn't necessarily mean taking them aside and launching into a monologue about how wonderful they are (although there's nothing wrong with that). You can also do it in little ways: compliments, smiles, listening about their interests, gifts, little things to make their lives easier, hugs, et cetera. Every day, resolve to show love to at least 3 people in some small way.\\n2-6. Know that it's okay not to be 100% warm all the time.\\nSometimes, people try to take advantage of your kindness, bully others, or spread hurtful information, and it is absolutely okay to be firm with them. You can even be rude if you have to. You have the right to assert your boundaries and protect others, and doing so does not make you less warm or less likable. It is an act of kindness and self care.\\n\\\"Turn the other cheek\\\" is only good advice if the person's conscience will kick in and they will immediately realize that they were in the wrong. Sometimes people will slap the other cheek. In this case, passivity is not the answer, and you will get help or fight back.\\nSometimes, being firm is an act of kindness. For example, if your son is crying because he doesn't want to go to the doctor, capitulating will only hurt him: he won't get medical attention, and he'll learn that crying will get him out of anything he doesn't want to do. Tough love is okay in these circumstances.\\n2-7. Practice compassion.\\nWhenever you see someone having a bad day or facing a problem, stop and think: \\\"If I were in that situation, how could someone help me?\\\" Offer help when someone is struggling, listen thoughtfully and patiently, and seek to understand before judging others.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to show people how much you care about them? Have you ever been called cold or aloof? This article will help you build stronger connections with others, and let them see that they matter to you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Attitude and Personal Care\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Nurture your self-esteem\", \"描述\": \"Face your insecurities, recognize your strengths, and learn to appreciate yourself for the good person you are. Watch your self talk, and treat yourself the way you'd treat a friend. (Would you call your friend stupid for doing poorly on a test? No? Then don't do it to yourself, because you deserve better).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice self care.\", \"描述\": \"It's hard to lift others up when you're barely staying afloat. Look out for your physical and psychological health so that you can feel energetic and grounded when other people need you.\\nEat well, take walks or do other forms of exercise, get at least 8 hours of sleep, and stay hydrated. This is all important to your well-being.\\nLearn how to say no. It's important to set boundaries in your life, and stick by them. Even though it might feel tough, boundaries are an act of love—they allow you to breathe, and keep the relationship strong.\\nSpend time doing things you love. Hang out with loved ones, work on your hobbies, and schedule relaxation time every day.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Present yourself well.\", \"描述\": \"Bathe regularly, wash your face, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and wear clean clothes. Looking good lets people know that you care about them enough to be your best for them.\\nWearing designer clothes, doing your hair, and wearing makeup are all optional. It's okay to do them if you like them, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing not to do them, either.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think of things that you are thankful for.\", \"描述\": \"An attitude of gratitude will make you a happier, warmer person. When you're driving alone or reflecting on your day, focus on the good things in your life, and you will end up feeling better. Here are some ways to build a habit of thankfulness:\\nAt the end of every day, think of three positive things that happened. Reflect on why you're glad about them, and write them down if you wish.\\nKeep a list of things you're grateful for. Add to it every day.\\nWrite a list of the good things in life (hot chocolate, rainbows, good friends, fuzzy animals, etc.). Add illustrations or photos if you feel like it. Then look through the list whenever you're having a bad time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Think about all the things you love about your friends and family members.\", \"描述\": \"Write them down if you want to. 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Give kindness freely, and it will come back to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get involved in a good cause.\", \"描述\": \"Choose something that will help a certain group of people: disaster victims, animals at shelters, disabled people fighting stigma, or campaigns that fight hunger. This will help you feel more satisfied with yourself, and lets you practice empathy and kindness along with learning, growing, and gaining new skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tell others how much they matter to you.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't necessarily mean taking them aside and launching into a monologue about how wonderful they are (although there's nothing wrong with that). You can also do it in little ways: compliments, smiles, listening about their interests, gifts, little things to make their lives easier, hugs, et cetera. 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How to Be a Well Groomed Indian Man
1. Steps 1-1. Take care of your skin. If women can do it, why can't we? It shows that you care about your image and after 20 years your skin will be better than most men your age. 1-2. Practice proper hygiene. Shower daily, brush and floss your teeth twice a day. 1-3. Work out. A good body can go a long way. It grabs the attention of the people around you and you will be physically fit as well. 1-4. Shave This not only applies to your face, but to other parts of your body too. Crazy back hair is a huge turn-off for a lot of people. If you do sport a beard, keep it well-trimmed. 1-5. Avoid bad breath. No one wants to kiss a guy with bad breath. Carry mints along in case of such emergencies. Chew gums after every meal to remove stains on your teeth. 1-6. Get rid of the uni-brow. Uni-brows are not very attractive, so if you have one, use a good pair of tweezers and pull out the hairs connecting your eyebrows. It will look neater. 1-7. Wear fitted clothes. This is key. A good-looking guy with sharp features could be overlooked if he wears clothes that don't fit him well. 1-8. Keep your hands and legs clean. Trim your fingernails and toenails. Make sure no dirt is under them. A dirty pair of hands leaves a very bad first impression. 1-9. Change your hairstyle. If you've been sporting the same hairstyle for the past ten years, it's time to look into some new trendy hair styles. Try them out! 1-10. Stand up straight! Don't slouch. A man with a good posture looks confident. 1-11. Make sure you smell nice. Use deodorant. For underarms, a roll-on is advised. As for cologne, don't wear too much of it. 1-12. Read men's magazines. These magazines have a lot of information about what's going on in the fashion world, so keep up to date with it. 1-13. Eat well. Don't eat a lot of junk food. Maintain a balanced diet that will benefit your health and your figure. 1-14. Polish your shoes. If they are funky, then see to it that they are once again in a good condition. 1-15. If you smoke or drink at all, do so only occasionally. However, it's better if you don't drink or smoke. 1-16. Try different styles of clothing. See what's best for you. 1-17. Use a firm handshake. When shaking hands with someone, look him or her in the eye and have a smile on your face. This leaves a great first impression. 1-18. Be systematic. Don't be shabby in your work or look. Take good care of your face and body and keep your desk clean. 1-19. Clear out your wallet. Don't fill your wallet up with receipts, coupons, credit cards, etc. Keep only the things that are necessary. Check if your wallet is wearing out. If it is, it's time to get a new one. 1-20. Sleep well. Get about 8-10 hours of sleep daily. This will keep you fresh and reduces the chance of dark circles under your eyes. 1-21. Take a bath every day, twice if it’s hot, and wear antiperspirant or deodorant to keep smelling fresh. Note that you can’t mask bad hygiene with deodorant though. 1-22. Use lotions and sunscreens designed for men to take care of your skin; softer skin is touched more often. 1-23. Brush your teeth regularly and invest in breath sprays or mints when you are leaving the house and eating out. 1-24. Watch the feet. Taking care of your feet and nails is also important, particularly considering the hot Indian weather you may want to wear flip-flops more often. Invest in a spa day to have them professionally groomed, and the same goes for your hands. Even if you don’t go to a spa, however, there is no excuse for dirty and unkempt feet. Dry your feet properly after showers to avoid athlete’s foot and smelly feet when you take off shoes. Wear absorbent cotton socks. 1-25. Shave the hair away. Hair in the nostrils, ears, wild chest hair and the unibrow are a complete faux pas. Now, we’re not suggesting that you wax every part of your body. The key is to keep things in check. Trim your eyebrows regularly and schedule an appointment to get that back hair removed. Trim your armpits and pubic region every so often before you take a bath. As for hair in the nose and ears, those should be removed completely, permanently if you can. 1-26. Smell great. Too much cologne is just as repugnant as body odor. You don’t have to use the whole bottle to smell amazing. Douse just a little in all the pulse places (throat and wrists) and the mission is accomplished. This is particularly true of the heavier and more long-lasting scents. 1-27. Keep abreast with the world of fashion. There are many men’s magazines on Indian fashion and what looks great on the modern Indian man: read them. You’ll earn extra points for knowing what is in Vogue and keeping with it. 1-28. Take extra care on your choice of watch, belt and shoes – those are the marks of true style in a man. Of course, you can always infuse your personal style into how you dress, and you don’t have to break a leg in keeping up. Ensure you are not stuck in the same duds you were wearing five years ago. Make sure that you always wear clean and well-pressed clothes. 1-29. Keep clean hair. Just because you are a man doesn't mean you should leave your hair dirty and flying around all over the place. Get regular haircuts and use good hair products to keep it clean, moisturized and glossy. Shampoo twice or three times a week and rinse properly, particularly if you use styling products. 1-30. Develop confidence. The well groomed Indian man must be self-assured and confident. Stand up and walk straight, shoulders back and chest out. Have a firm grip in your handshakes and speak clearly and with authority. Tips Spend a little extra and get into a good salon for your haircut. It's worth it. These are not just grooming tips, but also tips for being a better man. If you can follow them, you can go a long way. You don't have to spend a lot of money to look good. Just be confident in what you're wearing. Warnings Don't wear too much cologne as this will be overpowering and be a turn off to people.
{ "create_time": "20230517 10:53:33", "回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Take care of your skin.\\nIf women can do it, why can't we? It shows that you care about your image and after 20 years your skin will be better than most men your age.\\n1-2. Practice proper hygiene.\\nShower daily, brush and floss your teeth twice a day.\\n1-3. Work out.\\nA good body can go a long way. It grabs the attention of the people around you and you will be physically fit as well.\\n1-4. Shave\\nThis not only applies to your face, but to other parts of your body too. Crazy back hair is a huge turn-off for a lot of people. If you do sport a beard, keep it well-trimmed.\\n1-5. Avoid bad breath.\\nNo one wants to kiss a guy with bad breath. Carry mints along in case of such emergencies. Chew gums after every meal to remove stains on your teeth.\\n1-6. Get rid of the uni-brow.\\nUni-brows are not very attractive, so if you have one, use a good pair of tweezers and pull out the hairs connecting your eyebrows. It will look neater.\\n1-7. Wear fitted clothes.\\nThis is key. A good-looking guy with sharp features could be overlooked if he wears clothes that don't fit him well.\\n1-8. Keep your hands and legs clean.\\nTrim your fingernails and toenails. Make sure no dirt is under them. A dirty pair of hands leaves a very bad first impression.\\n1-9. Change your hairstyle.\\nIf you've been sporting the same hairstyle for the past ten years, it's time to look into some new trendy hair styles. Try them out!\\n1-10. Stand up straight!\\nDon't slouch. A man with a good posture looks confident.\\n1-11. Make sure you smell nice.\\nUse deodorant. For underarms, a roll-on is advised. As for cologne, don't wear too much of it.\\n1-12. Read men's magazines.\\nThese magazines have a lot of information about what's going on in the fashion world, so keep up to date with it.\\n1-13. Eat well.\\nDon't eat a lot of junk food. Maintain a balanced diet that will benefit your health and your figure.\\n1-14. Polish your shoes.\\nIf they are funky, then see to it that they are once again in a good condition.\\n1-15. If you smoke or drink at all, do so only occasionally.\\nHowever, it's better if you don't drink or smoke.\\n1-16. Try different styles of clothing.\\nSee what's best for you.\\n1-17. Use a firm handshake.\\nWhen shaking hands with someone, look him or her in the eye and have a smile on your face. This leaves a great first impression.\\n1-18. Be systematic.\\nDon't be shabby in your work or look. Take good care of your face and body and keep your desk clean.\\n1-19. Clear out your wallet.\\nDon't fill your wallet up with receipts, coupons, credit cards, etc. Keep only the things that are necessary. Check if your wallet is wearing out. If it is, it's time to get a new one.\\n1-20. Sleep well.\\nGet about 8-10 hours of sleep daily. This will keep you fresh and reduces the chance of dark circles under your eyes.\\n1-21. Take a bath every day, twice if it’s hot, and wear antiperspirant or deodorant to keep smelling fresh.\\nNote that you can’t mask bad hygiene with deodorant though.\\n1-22. Use lotions and sunscreens designed for men to take care of your skin; softer skin is touched more often.\\n\\n1-23. Brush your teeth regularly and invest in breath sprays or mints when you are leaving the house and eating out.\\n\\n1-24. Watch the feet.\\nTaking care of your feet and nails is also important, particularly considering the hot Indian weather you may want to wear flip-flops more often. Invest in a spa day to have them professionally groomed, and the same goes for your hands.\\nEven if you don’t go to a spa, however, there is no excuse for dirty and unkempt feet. Dry your feet properly after showers to avoid athlete’s foot and smelly feet when you take off shoes.\\nWear absorbent cotton socks.\\n1-25. Shave the hair away.\\nHair in the nostrils, ears, wild chest hair and the unibrow are a complete faux pas. Now, we’re not suggesting that you wax every part of your body. The key is to keep things in check.\\nTrim your eyebrows regularly and schedule an appointment to get that back hair removed.\\nTrim your armpits and pubic region every so often before you take a bath. As for hair in the nose and ears, those should be removed completely, permanently if you can.\\n1-26. Smell great.\\nToo much cologne is just as repugnant as body odor. You don’t have to use the whole bottle to smell amazing. Douse just a little in all the pulse places (throat and wrists) and the mission is accomplished. This is particularly true of the heavier and more long-lasting scents.\\n1-27. Keep abreast with the world of fashion.\\nThere are many men’s magazines on Indian fashion and what looks great on the modern Indian man: read them. You’ll earn extra points for knowing what is in Vogue and keeping with it.\\n1-28. Take extra care on your choice of watch, belt and shoes – those are the marks of true style in a man.\\nOf course, you can always infuse your personal style into how you dress, and you don’t have to break a leg in keeping up.\\nEnsure you are not stuck in the same duds you were wearing five years ago.\\nMake sure that you always wear clean and well-pressed clothes.\\n1-29. Keep clean hair.\\nJust because you are a man doesn't mean you should leave your hair dirty and flying around all over the place. Get regular haircuts and use good hair products to keep it clean, moisturized and glossy. Shampoo twice or three times a week and rinse properly, particularly if you use styling products.\\n1-30. Develop confidence.\\nThe well groomed Indian man must be self-assured and confident. Stand up and walk straight, shoulders back and chest out. Have a firm grip in your handshakes and speak clearly and with authority.\\nTips\\nSpend a little extra and get into a good salon for your haircut. It's worth it.\\nThese are not just grooming tips, but also tips for being a better man. If you can follow them, you can go a long way.\\nYou don't have to spend a lot of money to look good. Just be confident in what you're wearing.\\nWarnings\\nDon't wear too much cologne as this will be overpowering and be a turn off to people.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Gone are the days when grooming for men included nothing more than face shaving, a bath and well-pressed clothes. Indian men are facing a different ball game and it’s important to understand the rudiments and impress those around you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take care of your skin.\", \"描述\": \"If women can do it, why can't we? It shows that you care about your image and after 20 years your skin will be better than most men your age.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice proper hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"Shower daily, brush and floss your teeth twice a day.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work out.\", \"描述\": \"A good body can go a long way. It grabs the attention of the people around you and you will be physically fit as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Shave\", \"描述\": \"This not only applies to your face, but to other parts of your body too. Crazy back hair is a huge turn-off for a lot of people. If you do sport a beard, keep it well-trimmed.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid bad breath.\", \"描述\": \"No one wants to kiss a guy with bad breath. Carry mints along in case of such emergencies. Chew gums after every meal to remove stains on your teeth.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get rid of the uni-brow.\", \"描述\": \"Uni-brows are not very attractive, so if you have one, use a good pair of tweezers and pull out the hairs connecting your eyebrows. It will look neater.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Wear fitted clothes.\", \"描述\": \"This is key. A good-looking guy with sharp features could be overlooked if he wears clothes that don't fit him well.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Keep your hands and legs clean.\", \"描述\": \"Trim your fingernails and toenails. Make sure no dirt is under them. A dirty pair of hands leaves a very bad first impression.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Change your hairstyle.\", \"描述\": \"If you've been sporting the same hairstyle for the past ten years, it's time to look into some new trendy hair styles. Try them out!\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Stand up straight!\", \"描述\": \"Don't slouch. A man with a good posture looks confident.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Make sure you smell nice.\", \"描述\": \"Use deodorant. For underarms, a roll-on is advised. As for cologne, don't wear too much of it.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Read men's magazines.\", \"描述\": \"These magazines have a lot of information about what's going on in the fashion world, so keep up to date with it.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Eat well.\", \"描述\": \"Don't eat a lot of junk food. Maintain a balanced diet that will benefit your health and your figure.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Polish your shoes.\", \"描述\": \"If they are funky, then see to it that they are once again in a good condition.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"If you smoke or drink at all, do so only occasionally.\", \"描述\": \"However, it's better if you don't drink or smoke.\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Try different styles of clothing.\", \"描述\": \"See what's best for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 17, \"标题\": \"Use a firm handshake.\", \"描述\": \"When shaking hands with someone, look him or her in the eye and have a smile on your face. This leaves a great first impression.\"}, {\"编号\": 18, \"标题\": \"Be systematic.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be shabby in your work or look. Take good care of your face and body and keep your desk clean.\"}, {\"编号\": 19, \"标题\": \"Clear out your wallet.\", \"描述\": \"Don't fill your wallet up with receipts, coupons, credit cards, etc. Keep only the things that are necessary. Check if your wallet is wearing out. If it is, it's time to get a new one.\"}, {\"编号\": 20, \"标题\": \"Sleep well.\", \"描述\": \"Get about 8-10 hours of sleep daily. This will keep you fresh and reduces the chance of dark circles under your eyes.\"}, {\"编号\": 21, \"标题\": \"Take a bath every day, twice if it’s hot, and wear antiperspirant or deodorant to keep smelling fresh.\", \"描述\": \"Note that you can’t mask bad hygiene with deodorant though.\"}, {\"编号\": 22, \"标题\": \"Use lotions and sunscreens designed for men to take care of your skin; softer skin is touched more often.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 23, \"标题\": \"Brush your teeth regularly and invest in breath sprays or mints when you are leaving the house and eating out.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 24, \"标题\": \"Watch the feet.\", \"描述\": \"Taking care of your feet and nails is also important, particularly considering the hot Indian weather you may want to wear flip-flops more often. Invest in a spa day to have them professionally groomed, and the same goes for your hands.\\nEven if you don’t go to a spa, however, there is no excuse for dirty and unkempt feet. Dry your feet properly after showers to avoid athlete’s foot and smelly feet when you take off shoes.\\nWear absorbent cotton socks.\"}, {\"编号\": 25, \"标题\": \"Shave the hair away.\", \"描述\": \"Hair in the nostrils, ears, wild chest hair and the unibrow are a complete faux pas. Now, we’re not suggesting that you wax every part of your body. The key is to keep things in check.\\nTrim your eyebrows regularly and schedule an appointment to get that back hair removed.\\nTrim your armpits and pubic region every so often before you take a bath. As for hair in the nose and ears, those should be removed completely, permanently if you can.\"}, {\"编号\": 26, \"标题\": \"Smell great.\", \"描述\": \"Too much cologne is just as repugnant as body odor. You don’t have to use the whole bottle to smell amazing. Douse just a little in all the pulse places (throat and wrists) and the mission is accomplished. This is particularly true of the heavier and more long-lasting scents.\"}, {\"编号\": 27, \"标题\": \"Keep abreast with the world of fashion.\", \"描述\": \"There are many men’s magazines on Indian fashion and what looks great on the modern Indian man: read them. You’ll earn extra points for knowing what is in Vogue and keeping with it.\"}, {\"编号\": 28, \"标题\": \"Take extra care on your choice of watch, belt and shoes – those are the marks of true style in a man.\", \"描述\": \"Of course, you can always infuse your personal style into how you dress, and you don’t have to break a leg in keeping up.\\nEnsure you are not stuck in the same duds you were wearing five years ago.\\nMake sure that you always wear clean and well-pressed clothes.\"}, {\"编号\": 29, \"标题\": \"Keep clean hair.\", \"描述\": \"Just because you are a man doesn't mean you should leave your hair dirty and flying around all over the place. Get regular haircuts and use good hair products to keep it clean, moisturized and glossy. Shampoo twice or three times a week and rinse properly, particularly if you use styling products.\"}, {\"编号\": 30, \"标题\": \"Develop confidence.\", \"描述\": \"The well groomed Indian man must be self-assured and confident. Stand up and walk straight, shoulders back and chest out. Have a firm grip in your handshakes and speak clearly and with authority.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Spend a little extra and get into a good salon for your haircut. It's worth it.\\n\", \"These are not just grooming tips, but also tips for being a better man. If you can follow them, you can go a long way.\\n\", \"You don't have to spend a lot of money to look good. Just be confident in what you're wearing.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't wear too much cologne as this will be overpowering and be a turn off to people.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Well Rounded Teenager
1. Doing Well in School 1-1. Pay attention School may seem boring, but it is important to try to do well. Good grades will give you more options in the future. Make sure to jot down any homework or test deadlines when you get them so that you don't forget to complete them and prioritize your study deadlines. When it is recommended to write notes from your classes, write notes, as this is one of the best ways for informing your revision before writing essays and sitting exams. If there's something you don't understand, ask somebody! Read it through carefully again, and then if you still don't get it, ask a friend or a teacher. Despite what people might imply, there is never such a thing as a dumb question; it is better to get clarity than to stew in the dark, unenlightened. When you get home from school, do a quick recap on what you learned that day. This will help you for when you need to revise it as it cements the day's learning and is much easier than cramming at the last minute. And while it may not seem like it now, learning-as-you-go creates long-term remembering whereas cramming trains only short-term memory and prevents you from truly learning and having access to that information in the future. 1-2. Do your homework This sounds like a no-brainer, but doing your homework effectively doesn't just mean sloppily writing something down and handing it in. Do your best on every assignment, and as already stated, ask questions when you don't understand something. Plan a homework schedule so that you don't get yourself into a time crunch. 1-3. Build good relationships with your teachers. This is especially important in high school because you may need to ask a few of your favorite teachers to write recommendations for your college applications. The better they know you, the better those recommendations will be. But more than this, these people can serve as mentors and guides as you move through high school and you can learn much from their knowledge and experience. 2. Spending Time With Friends 2-1. Take your time to find the right friends The best friends are friends that you feel comfortable goofing off with and being serious with. You shouldn't have to change your personality to please them. Good friends can be hard to find, so remember that it's not uncommon to change your group of friends several times during your teenage years. 2-2. Watch out for peer pressure Many people experiment with a lot of things in high school and middle school, and it is important to learn how to say no to anything you are not comfortable with. Listen to your instincts and do what's right. Sometimes people pretend to be friends just to get you to do something they're unwilling to do themselves, such as steal things, buy drugs or cheat. None of these things are worth founding a relationship on, and if you're caught, it's you who gets into trouble and you'll find the so-called friendship fails instantly. 3. Spending Time With Family 3-1. Build a relationship with your parents Although it often seems as though they don't take you seriously, letting your parents know that they can trust you will usually lead to you having more freedom. Recognize that this is a hard time for your parents. Remember that they're not out to make your life miserable—while you feel like you should be treated like an adult, your parents are struggling with the realization that you're not their baby anymore. They are also likely to be struggling with working, paying a mortgage, raising your siblings as well as you and doing their best to be good parents. It's not an easy job, but you can make it easier by being understanding and friendly. 3-2. Get to know your siblings Your little sister might seem like the most annoying person in the world now, but you're likely going to spend the rest of your life with her. Plus, being at home will be much more fun when every night is like a sleepover with your best friend. 3-3. Help out around the house Some chores take less than five minutes to complete when many hands are applied to them, and your parents and siblings will be in a much better mood if there is one less thing for them to do. You can even morph chores into a fun way to spend time with your family by turning them into a contest. Try blasting music that everyone enjoys, or having a nice conversation while you work and setting time limits for completion. If you have winners for properly completed chores, prizes can include things like choosing the DVD or movie to watch as a family or choosing what gets cooked for dinner for that evening. When asked to do a task, do it. This can save many arguments around the house, and when the chores are done you're free to do whatever you want! Arguing can take up a lot of time and creates emotional friction that nobody wants to feel. 4. Spending Time With Yourself 4-1. Schedule some me-time. Life can get pretty busy as a teenager, but it's important that you spend time with yourself as well. 4-2. Figure out your hobbies and interests. Find something you love and make sure you do it regularly. This will allow you to be refreshed and happy when it comes to other parts of your life. Don't be surprised if your interests change in the space of months or years; that's natural while you're still working out what you enjoy most but don't try too hard. Just follow your interests to see where they lead and remain open-minded about new possibilities too. 4-3. Stay happy. Depression is a very common condition that tends to show up in your preteen or teenage years. Seek professional help if you think you may be depressed. You may or may not get family support to help you through (depending on your family circumstances) but don't let a lack of such support stop you from caring for your mental health; there is always someone who can help you sort out depressive or negative feelings and problems and the earlier you are treated, the easier it will be to recover and gain both confidence and resilience for a happier future. Allow yourself to goof off from time to time. Always trying to be serious or focused can make you feel unhappy. Give yourself space to do fun things regularly to balance your studies, activities, and relationships. 4-4. Listen to music This can help you relax and relieve some of the stress from a busy day at school or with friends. Music is a good way of expressing yourself too – if you don't already know how to play an instrument, consider learning one now, such as the guitar, piano or keyboard. And don't forget that your voice is an instrument too! 4-5. Learn ways to enjoy solitude. Learning to enjoy time spent alone is an important part of realizing that you're whole without another person. This can help to prevent the development of co-dependent relationships or to seek to make another person the source of your life's happiness. Solitude also helps you to learn more about what makes you tick as a person and what your life's values are. Some ways to find effective and enjoyable solitude include meditation, walks by yourself, writing in a journal and spending time with pets. 5. Taking Care of Yourself 5-1. Take care of yourself Wash your face, take regular showers, eat home cooked meals instead of ready-made ones, etc. Always make sure to brush your teeth 2-3 times a day. This will keep them clean and your breath smelling good. 5-2. Exercise You don't have to go crazy, but a little bit of physical activity each day, such as biking to school, will help keep both your body and mind healthy. 5-3. Eat well Eating too much or too little will make it hard to focus and cause you to do poorly in other areas. 5-4. Get enough sleep. Having about 9 hours sleep is the best thing to be doing, even on weekends; it will prepare you for school and make yourself feel better the following morning. Try to schedule each week so that you get your homework done at a reasonable hour. If you know you're going to have a lot on a given night, talk to your teacher about getting an extension, or even better, handing it in early. This will make your body more aware of what's going on, and will make any dreadful bags under your eyes disappear! 5-5. Wake up Make sure you have enough time to have some breakfast, wash your face, have a shower if you need to, etc. before school starts. Packing your bag and hanging up your outfit/uniform the night before will make everything a lot faster and more organized. Don't forget to lay out a clean pair of socks, underwear and a pair of shoes also! 6. Joining an Extracurricular Activity 6-1. Join Boy Scouts/Girl Scouts/4-H or similar programs and stick with it. These programs will give you a sense of community and teach you life skills. They also open up a range of opportunities that might not be offered at school or through your social networks, such as public speaking, drama, life or outdoor skills, etc. 6-2. Join a club. School clubs are a great way get involved without sacrificing things you're passionate about. They can also help you work out what sorts of hobbies and interests you enjoy most. Try a few over your teen years and don't be afraid to admit when one doesn't work for you and to keep looking. 6-3. Try for a sports team This will teach you how to work in a team, and you will become good friends with your team members. Alternatively, if team sports don't do it for you, at least find a sport that interests you be it athletics, triathlons, swimming, tennis, cycling or other more individual but still excellent sports. Even individual sports have team elements when you play on behalf of your school or region. Martial arts can be another excellent outlet for physical and mental development. They are also a good way of developing self-discipline. While it's a good idea to begin in one martial sport, it is possible to do more than one once you're proficient in your first martial art. 6-4. Consider volunteering. Another extracurricular activity that benefits both you and others is volunteering. Choose something you're passionate about and set regular times to help out. It might be something that fits in with a sport or activity you love too, so it doesn't have to be about over-stretching yourself. 7. Finding A Job While getting a job is a wonderful way to spend your extra time, don't feel like it's necessary. The things discussed above come first - relationships, studies, and extracurricular activities. A job is not worth sacrificing any of those aspects of your teen years, and it is very hard to juggle a lot of different responsibilities with a job. On the other hand, if you feel you can manage to fit in a part-time job with your other activities, getting a job will help show your parents that you are responsible, and can give you money to save or buy things that your parents can't spare the money for. Some common teenage jobs include: If you have little siblings, you can babysit them. If not, set signs over houses where anybody under 12 lives. You can usually make pretty good money babysitting, and this is a good weekend job that still lets you study or call friends on the phone once the children have gone to bed. If you don't feel comfortable being responsible for another person, a pet might be a way to start. Talk to your neighbors and family friends with pets, and let them know that you'd be happy to watch the pets when they go on vacation. The beauty of this job is that it will usually be periodic rather than every day. If you live in the country, don't forget that farmer neighbors might jump at the opportunity of the chance to take a little time off for a break knowing you're caring for their farm and animals. If there's a subject that you excel at, you can make money teaching it to others. Post signs around town with your contact information, talk to your friends and their younger siblings or ask your old teacher(s) if s/he can recommend you to parents of struggling children. Contact the YMCA or the director of your favorite childhood summer camp and ask when they hire camp counselor and if you can apply. Usually, people start hiring for the next summer from around January to March or April, depending on the size of the camp. Look into being a restaurant host/hostess, working in retail, or helping to coach a sport. Tips Always try to be a positive teenager. Make sure that everything is ready the night before, and that you have plenty of time and don't miss out on breakfast in the morning. Avoid conflicts with friends. If you feel you're getting negative attention from one person, try to stay away from them for a while and let them cool off. Warnings If you have difficulty with schoolwork, speak to the relevant teachers and ask for help. If you experience negative feelings, or you're subjected to abuse (emotional, physical or verbal), seek help from someone like a teacher, parent, friend, counselor or another neutral party. If there are problems at home, seek help from a counselor or someone else you trust outside of the home. Don't suffer in silence; nobody deserves to be at the center of constant harm.
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This will help you for when you need to revise it as it cements the day's learning and is much easier than cramming at the last minute. And while it may not seem like it now, learning-as-you-go creates long-term remembering whereas cramming trains only short-term memory and prevents you from truly learning and having access to that information in the future.\\n1-2. Do your homework\\nThis sounds like a no-brainer, but doing your homework effectively doesn't just mean sloppily writing something down and handing it in. Do your best on every assignment, and as already stated, ask questions when you don't understand something. Plan a homework schedule so that you don't get yourself into a time crunch.\\n1-3. Build good relationships with your teachers.\\nThis is especially important in high school because you may need to ask a few of your favorite teachers to write recommendations for your college applications. The better they know you, the better those recommendations will be. But more than this, these people can serve as mentors and guides as you move through high school and you can learn much from their knowledge and experience.\\n2. Spending Time With Friends\\n2-1. Take your time to find the right friends\\nThe best friends are friends that you feel comfortable goofing off with and being serious with. You shouldn't have to change your personality to please them. Good friends can be hard to find, so remember that it's not uncommon to change your group of friends several times during your teenage years.\\n2-2. Watch out for peer pressure\\nMany people experiment with a lot of things in high school and middle school, and it is important to learn how to say no to anything you are not comfortable with. Listen to your instincts and do what's right.\\nSometimes people pretend to be friends just to get you to do something they're unwilling to do themselves, such as steal things, buy drugs or cheat. None of these things are worth founding a relationship on, and if you're caught, it's you who gets into trouble and you'll find the so-called friendship fails instantly.\\n3. Spending Time With Family\\n3-1. Build a relationship with your parents\\nAlthough it often seems as though they don't take you seriously, letting your parents know that they can trust you will usually lead to you having more freedom.\\nRecognize that this is a hard time for your parents. Remember that they're not out to make your life miserable—while you feel like you should be treated like an adult, your parents are struggling with the realization that you're not their baby anymore. They are also likely to be struggling with working, paying a mortgage, raising your siblings as well as you and doing their best to be good parents. It's not an easy job, but you can make it easier by being understanding and friendly.\\n3-2. Get to know your siblings\\nYour little sister might seem like the most annoying person in the world now, but you're likely going to spend the rest of your life with her. Plus, being at home will be much more fun when every night is like a sleepover with your best friend.\\n3-3. Help out around the house\\nSome chores take less than five minutes to complete when many hands are applied to them, and your parents and siblings will be in a much better mood if there is one less thing for them to do. You can even morph chores into a fun way to spend time with your family by turning them into a contest. Try blasting music that everyone enjoys, or having a nice conversation while you work and setting time limits for completion. If you have winners for properly completed chores, prizes can include things like choosing the DVD or movie to watch as a family or choosing what gets cooked for dinner for that evening.\\nWhen asked to do a task, do it. This can save many arguments around the house, and when the chores are done you're free to do whatever you want! Arguing can take up a lot of time and creates emotional friction that nobody wants to feel.\\n4. Spending Time With Yourself\\n4-1. Schedule some me-time.\\nLife can get pretty busy as a teenager, but it's important that you spend time with yourself as well.\\n4-2. Figure out your hobbies and interests.\\nFind something you love and make sure you do it regularly. This will allow you to be refreshed and happy when it comes to other parts of your life. Don't be surprised if your interests change in the space of months or years; that's natural while you're still working out what you enjoy most but don't try too hard. Just follow your interests to see where they lead and remain open-minded about new possibilities too.\\n4-3. Stay happy.\\nDepression is a very common condition that tends to show up in your preteen or teenage years. Seek professional help if you think you may be depressed. You may or may not get family support to help you through (depending on your family circumstances) but don't let a lack of such support stop you from caring for your mental health; there is always someone who can help you sort out depressive or negative feelings and problems and the earlier you are treated, the easier it will be to recover and gain both confidence and resilience for a happier future.\\nAllow yourself to goof off from time to time. Always trying to be serious or focused can make you feel unhappy. Give yourself space to do fun things regularly to balance your studies, activities, and relationships.\\n4-4. Listen to music\\nThis can help you relax and relieve some of the stress from a busy day at school or with friends. Music is a good way of expressing yourself too – if you don't already know how to play an instrument, consider learning one now, such as the guitar, piano or keyboard. And don't forget that your voice is an instrument too!\\n4-5. Learn ways to enjoy solitude.\\nLearning to enjoy time spent alone is an important part of realizing that you're whole without another person. This can help to prevent the development of co-dependent relationships or to seek to make another person the source of your life's happiness. Solitude also helps you to learn more about what makes you tick as a person and what your life's values are. Some ways to find effective and enjoyable solitude include meditation, walks by yourself, writing in a journal and spending time with pets.\\n5. Taking Care of Yourself\\n5-1. Take care of yourself\\nWash your face, take regular showers, eat home cooked meals instead of ready-made ones, etc.\\nAlways make sure to brush your teeth 2-3 times a day. This will keep them clean and your breath smelling good.\\n5-2. Exercise\\nYou don't have to go crazy, but a little bit of physical activity each day, such as biking to school, will help keep both your body and mind healthy.\\n5-3. Eat well\\nEating too much or too little will make it hard to focus and cause you to do poorly in other areas.\\n5-4. Get enough sleep.\\nHaving about 9 hours sleep is the best thing to be doing, even on weekends; it will prepare you for school and make yourself feel better the following morning. Try to schedule each week so that you get your homework done at a reasonable hour. If you know you're going to have a lot on a given night, talk to your teacher about getting an extension, or even better, handing it in early. This will make your body more aware of what's going on, and will make any dreadful bags under your eyes disappear!\\n5-5. Wake up\\nMake sure you have enough time to have some breakfast, wash your face, have a shower if you need to, etc. before school starts.\\nPacking your bag and hanging up your outfit/uniform the night before will make everything a lot faster and more organized. Don't forget to lay out a clean pair of socks, underwear and a pair of shoes also!\\n6. Joining an Extracurricular Activity\\n6-1. Join Boy Scouts/Girl Scouts/4-H or similar programs and stick with it.\\nThese programs will give you a sense of community and teach you life skills. They also open up a range of opportunities that might not be offered at school or through your social networks, such as public speaking, drama, life or outdoor skills, etc.\\n6-2. Join a club.\\nSchool clubs are a great way get involved without sacrificing things you're passionate about. They can also help you work out what sorts of hobbies and interests you enjoy most. Try a few over your teen years and don't be afraid to admit when one doesn't work for you and to keep looking.\\n6-3. Try for a sports team\\nThis will teach you how to work in a team, and you will become good friends with your team members. Alternatively, if team sports don't do it for you, at least find a sport that interests you be it athletics, triathlons, swimming, tennis, cycling or other more individual but still excellent sports. Even individual sports have team elements when you play on behalf of your school or region.\\nMartial arts can be another excellent outlet for physical and mental development. They are also a good way of developing self-discipline. While it's a good idea to begin in one martial sport, it is possible to do more than one once you're proficient in your first martial art.\\n6-4. Consider volunteering.\\nAnother extracurricular activity that benefits both you and others is volunteering. Choose something you're passionate about and set regular times to help out. It might be something that fits in with a sport or activity you love too, so it doesn't have to be about over-stretching yourself.\\n7. Finding A Job\\nWhile getting a job is a wonderful way to spend your extra time, don't feel like it's necessary.\\nThe things discussed above come first - relationships, studies, and extracurricular activities. A job is not worth sacrificing any of those aspects of your teen years, and it is very hard to juggle a lot of different responsibilities with a job. On the other hand, if you feel you can manage to fit in a part-time job with your other activities, getting a job will help show your parents that you are responsible, and can give you money to save or buy things that your parents can't spare the money for. Some common teenage jobs include:\\n\\n If you have little siblings, you can babysit them. If not, set signs over houses where anybody under 12 lives. You can usually make pretty good money babysitting, and this is a good weekend job that still lets you study or call friends on the phone once the children have gone to bed.\\n If you don't feel comfortable being responsible for another person, a pet might be a way to start. Talk to your neighbors and family friends with pets, and let them know that you'd be happy to watch the pets when they go on vacation. The beauty of this job is that it will usually be periodic rather than every day. If you live in the country, don't forget that farmer neighbors might jump at the opportunity of the chance to take a little time off for a break knowing you're caring for their farm and animals.\\n If there's a subject that you excel at, you can make money teaching it to others. Post signs around town with your contact information, talk to your friends and their younger siblings or ask your old teacher(s) if s/he can recommend you to parents of struggling children.\\n Contact the YMCA or the director of your favorite childhood summer camp and ask when they hire camp counselor and if you can apply. Usually, people start hiring for the next summer from around January to March or April, depending on the size of the camp.\\n Look into being a restaurant host/hostess, working in retail, or helping to coach a sport.\\nTips\\nAlways try to be a positive teenager.\\nMake sure that everything is ready the night before, and that you have plenty of time and don't miss out on breakfast in the morning.\\nAvoid conflicts with friends. If you feel you're getting negative attention from one person, try to stay away from them for a while and let them cool off.\\nWarnings\\nIf you have difficulty with schoolwork, speak to the relevant teachers and ask for help.\\nIf you experience negative feelings, or you're subjected to abuse (emotional, physical or verbal), seek help from someone like a teacher, parent, friend, counselor or another neutral party. If there are problems at home, seek help from a counselor or someone else you trust outside of the home. Don't suffer in silence; nobody deserves to be at the center of constant harm.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a well-rounded teenager is a balancing act. Imagine you're in a circus and riding a unicycle. The ringmaster throws you one ball, and then two, then three and four, which you're expected to juggle all at once — while riding a unicycle. It's tough stuff, which is why so many people look for guidance during their teenage years. If you want to take a hold of your life again and be the person you want to be, here's some guidance.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Doing Well in School\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pay attention\", \"描述\": \"School may seem boring, but it is important to try to do well. Good grades will give you more options in the future. Make sure to jot down any homework or test deadlines when you get them so that you don't forget to complete them and prioritize your study deadlines. When it is recommended to write notes from your classes, write notes, as this is one of the best ways for informing your revision before writing essays and sitting exams.\\nIf there's something you don't understand, ask somebody! Read it through carefully again, and then if you still don't get it, ask a friend or a teacher. Despite what people might imply, there is never such a thing as a dumb question; it is better to get clarity than to stew in the dark, unenlightened.\\nWhen you get home from school, do a quick recap on what you learned that day. This will help you for when you need to revise it as it cements the day's learning and is much easier than cramming at the last minute. And while it may not seem like it now, learning-as-you-go creates long-term remembering whereas cramming trains only short-term memory and prevents you from truly learning and having access to that information in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do your homework\", \"描述\": \"This sounds like a no-brainer, but doing your homework effectively doesn't just mean sloppily writing something down and handing it in. Do your best on every assignment, and as already stated, ask questions when you don't understand something. Plan a homework schedule so that you don't get yourself into a time crunch.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Build good relationships with your teachers.\", \"描述\": \"This is especially important in high school because you may need to ask a few of your favorite teachers to write recommendations for your college applications. The better they know you, the better those recommendations will be. But more than this, these people can serve as mentors and guides as you move through high school and you can learn much from their knowledge and experience.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Spending Time With Friends\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take your time to find the right friends\", \"描述\": \"The best friends are friends that you feel comfortable goofing off with and being serious with. You shouldn't have to change your personality to please them. Good friends can be hard to find, so remember that it's not uncommon to change your group of friends several times during your teenage years.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Watch out for peer pressure\", \"描述\": \"Many people experiment with a lot of things in high school and middle school, and it is important to learn how to say no to anything you are not comfortable with. Listen to your instincts and do what's right.\\nSometimes people pretend to be friends just to get you to do something they're unwilling to do themselves, such as steal things, buy drugs or cheat. None of these things are worth founding a relationship on, and if you're caught, it's you who gets into trouble and you'll find the so-called friendship fails instantly.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spending Time With Family\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build a relationship with your parents\", \"描述\": \"Although it often seems as though they don't take you seriously, letting your parents know that they can trust you will usually lead to you having more freedom.\\nRecognize that this is a hard time for your parents. Remember that they're not out to make your life miserable—while you feel like you should be treated like an adult, your parents are struggling with the realization that you're not their baby anymore. They are also likely to be struggling with working, paying a mortgage, raising your siblings as well as you and doing their best to be good parents. It's not an easy job, but you can make it easier by being understanding and friendly.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get to know your siblings\", \"描述\": \"Your little sister might seem like the most annoying person in the world now, but you're likely going to spend the rest of your life with her. Plus, being at home will be much more fun when every night is like a sleepover with your best friend.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Help out around the house\", \"描述\": \"Some chores take less than five minutes to complete when many hands are applied to them, and your parents and siblings will be in a much better mood if there is one less thing for them to do. You can even morph chores into a fun way to spend time with your family by turning them into a contest. Try blasting music that everyone enjoys, or having a nice conversation while you work and setting time limits for completion. If you have winners for properly completed chores, prizes can include things like choosing the DVD or movie to watch as a family or choosing what gets cooked for dinner for that evening.\\nWhen asked to do a task, do it. This can save many arguments around the house, and when the chores are done you're free to do whatever you want! Arguing can take up a lot of time and creates emotional friction that nobody wants to feel.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Spending Time With Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Schedule some me-time.\", \"描述\": \"Life can get pretty busy as a teenager, but it's important that you spend time with yourself as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Figure out your hobbies and interests.\", \"描述\": \"Find something you love and make sure you do it regularly. This will allow you to be refreshed and happy when it comes to other parts of your life. Don't be surprised if your interests change in the space of months or years; that's natural while you're still working out what you enjoy most but don't try too hard. Just follow your interests to see where they lead and remain open-minded about new possibilities too.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stay happy.\", \"描述\": \"Depression is a very common condition that tends to show up in your preteen or teenage years. Seek professional help if you think you may be depressed. You may or may not get family support to help you through (depending on your family circumstances) but don't let a lack of such support stop you from caring for your mental health; there is always someone who can help you sort out depressive or negative feelings and problems and the earlier you are treated, the easier it will be to recover and gain both confidence and resilience for a happier future.\\nAllow yourself to goof off from time to time. Always trying to be serious or focused can make you feel unhappy. Give yourself space to do fun things regularly to balance your studies, activities, and relationships.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Listen to music\", \"描述\": \"This can help you relax and relieve some of the stress from a busy day at school or with friends. Music is a good way of expressing yourself too – if you don't already know how to play an instrument, consider learning one now, such as the guitar, piano or keyboard. And don't forget that your voice is an instrument too!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn ways to enjoy solitude.\", \"描述\": \"Learning to enjoy time spent alone is an important part of realizing that you're whole without another person. This can help to prevent the development of co-dependent relationships or to seek to make another person the source of your life's happiness. Solitude also helps you to learn more about what makes you tick as a person and what your life's values are. Some ways to find effective and enjoyable solitude include meditation, walks by yourself, writing in a journal and spending time with pets.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take care of yourself\", \"描述\": \"Wash your face, take regular showers, eat home cooked meals instead of ready-made ones, etc.\\nAlways make sure to brush your teeth 2-3 times a day. This will keep them clean and your breath smelling good.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Exercise\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to go crazy, but a little bit of physical activity each day, such as biking to school, will help keep both your body and mind healthy.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Eat well\", \"描述\": \"Eating too much or too little will make it hard to focus and cause you to do poorly in other areas.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep.\", \"描述\": \"Having about 9 hours sleep is the best thing to be doing, even on weekends; it will prepare you for school and make yourself feel better the following morning. Try to schedule each week so that you get your homework done at a reasonable hour. If you know you're going to have a lot on a given night, talk to your teacher about getting an extension, or even better, handing it in early. This will make your body more aware of what's going on, and will make any dreadful bags under your eyes disappear!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wake up\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you have enough time to have some breakfast, wash your face, have a shower if you need to, etc. before school starts.\\nPacking your bag and hanging up your outfit/uniform the night before will make everything a lot faster and more organized. Don't forget to lay out a clean pair of socks, underwear and a pair of shoes also!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Joining an Extracurricular Activity\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Join Boy Scouts/Girl Scouts/4-H or similar programs and stick with it.\", \"描述\": \"These programs will give you a sense of community and teach you life skills. They also open up a range of opportunities that might not be offered at school or through your social networks, such as public speaking, drama, life or outdoor skills, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Join a club.\", \"描述\": \"School clubs are a great way get involved without sacrificing things you're passionate about. They can also help you work out what sorts of hobbies and interests you enjoy most. Try a few over your teen years and don't be afraid to admit when one doesn't work for you and to keep looking.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try for a sports team\", \"描述\": \"This will teach you how to work in a team, and you will become good friends with your team members. Alternatively, if team sports don't do it for you, at least find a sport that interests you be it athletics, triathlons, swimming, tennis, cycling or other more individual but still excellent sports. Even individual sports have team elements when you play on behalf of your school or region.\\nMartial arts can be another excellent outlet for physical and mental development. They are also a good way of developing self-discipline. While it's a good idea to begin in one martial sport, it is possible to do more than one once you're proficient in your first martial art.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider volunteering.\", \"描述\": \"Another extracurricular activity that benefits both you and others is volunteering. Choose something you're passionate about and set regular times to help out. It might be something that fits in with a sport or activity you love too, so it doesn't have to be about over-stretching yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Finding A Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"While getting a job is a wonderful way to spend your extra time, don't feel like it's necessary.\", \"描述\": \"The things discussed above come first - relationships, studies, and extracurricular activities. A job is not worth sacrificing any of those aspects of your teen years, and it is very hard to juggle a lot of different responsibilities with a job. On the other hand, if you feel you can manage to fit in a part-time job with your other activities, getting a job will help show your parents that you are responsible, and can give you money to save or buy things that your parents can't spare the money for. Some common teenage jobs include:\\n\\n If you have little siblings, you can babysit them. If not, set signs over houses where anybody under 12 lives. You can usually make pretty good money babysitting, and this is a good weekend job that still lets you study or call friends on the phone once the children have gone to bed.\\n If you don't feel comfortable being responsible for another person, a pet might be a way to start. Talk to your neighbors and family friends with pets, and let them know that you'd be happy to watch the pets when they go on vacation. The beauty of this job is that it will usually be periodic rather than every day. If you live in the country, don't forget that farmer neighbors might jump at the opportunity of the chance to take a little time off for a break knowing you're caring for their farm and animals.\\n If there's a subject that you excel at, you can make money teaching it to others. Post signs around town with your contact information, talk to your friends and their younger siblings or ask your old teacher(s) if s/he can recommend you to parents of struggling children.\\n Contact the YMCA or the director of your favorite childhood summer camp and ask when they hire camp counselor and if you can apply. Usually, people start hiring for the next summer from around January to March or April, depending on the size of the camp.\\n Look into being a restaurant host/hostess, working in retail, or helping to coach a sport.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Always try to be a positive teenager.\\n\", \"Make sure that everything is ready the night before, and that you have plenty of time and don't miss out on breakfast in the morning.\\n\", \"Avoid conflicts with friends. If you feel you're getting negative attention from one person, try to stay away from them for a while and let them cool off.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If you have difficulty with schoolwork, speak to the relevant teachers and ask for help.\\n\", \"If you experience negative feelings, or you're subjected to abuse (emotional, physical or verbal), seek help from someone like a teacher, parent, friend, counselor or another neutral party. If there are problems at home, seek help from a counselor or someone else you trust outside of the home. Don't suffer in silence; nobody deserves to be at the center of constant harm.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Wholesome American Girl
1. Maintain good Hygiene. Wholesome girls are clean. Always shower and wash your face. Keep your skin and hair greaseless. Brush your teeth at least twice a day with whitening toothpaste for clean pearly whites. Clean hair, skin, teeth and nails are a must. 2. Wear natural makeup. Wholesome girls wear minimal cosmetics. It is important to wear as little makeup as possible while still maintaining a feminine look. The best way to do this is the "no makeup" makeup look. Apply brown gel eyeliner to the upper lash line following your eyes' natural wing. Next, apply one coat of brown or soft black mascara. Swirl a bit of light pink powder blush on the apples of your cheeks. Using a translucent powder, brighten under your eyes by applying a small amount on your dark circles. Still using the same powder, highlight your cheekbones and the bridge of your nose to give a healthy glow. Finish with some lip balm or natural pink lipstick. 3. Style your hair appropriately. Hair is one of the most important aspects of looking like a wholesome girl. Your hair should always be clean, shiny, and cut in a stylish way. Choose a low maintenance hairstyle that does not require hairspray or gel. Natural hair color is best but subtle highlights can be refreshing. 4. Be stylish. There are lots of fun outfits that suit a wholesome girl - all are elegant, cute and subtle. Think fun and functional, clothes you could run around town in and still look put together for school or a semi formal occasion. Jeans are the classic American fashion item - wear them with layered tops, a cute jacket, or your favorite sport team sweater. Don't go too saggy or skin tight. You want to look like a girl who is ready to have sensible fun. 5. Stay fit. Get involved in your own fitness. It is a big part of being wholesome. Partners want a girlfriend who can keep up physically - someone to work and play with. Find a sport or a solo activity that gives you the exercise you need. 6. Be smart. Smart about school, work, whatever. You have a brain, and this shouldn't be something that people wonder about so don't play dumb. Do your schoolwork and offer to help others with theirs. Think before you speak, and take time to consider your decisions. Don't be a brainless droid following the trends of society! The American spirit is one of independence, adventure, and intelligence! So study hard. 7. Make wholesome choices. Be cautious about drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes. Refrain from having sex. If you get really drunk you might say or do something embarrassing or harmful to yourself or others - not a desirable characteristic of a wholesome person. Same rule goes for drugs; do your research on the effects of drugs and see if the benefits are worth the risks. Avoid smoking. Wholesome girls smell clean and don't have black lungs or brown teeth, all of which are adverse effects of cigarettes. 8. Hang out with people who are low drama and gossip free. If you want to make good friends, or date a guy that is worth your time, try to cultivate healthy relationships with real people who share your interests and goals. People, for example, that don't stop to inspect their butts one hundred times a day, or try to start fights with chicks in the hall. Stay away from the chronic Myspace drama queens too - what you do online will inevitably come back to haunt your real life. Try getting a Facebook and befriend some college kids. That will help you seem cool and more mature. Tips Don't be afraid to spend time with your family. It is not "un-cool" to love your family! Guys appreciate girls who can hang out with their parents or siblings without World War 3 erupting. Think about how awkward it is when you go to a friend's house and she gets in a screaming match with her mom/dog/brother. Now multiply your feelings of awkwardness by 100 - this is how a guy feels when you whine and argue with your own family in front of him. Eat good food. Be smart with what you eat but don't let it control you too much. Know that what you put in your body will show on the outside. Don't be a jerk to guys, just because they are male! Stay away from judgmental attitudes towards men in general. Of course, your conscience will clue you in as to which types of males to avoid. But as a whole the other sex is not as stupid or helpless as many girls like to say they are. Warnings People might make fun of you for being a prude or whatever - but they don't understand that you are becoming a better person. Don't let other people get to you. If you act in a snotty way, none of this will apply. Wholesome girls love life, and love the people around them, even if it means avoiding the rude or nasty ones. Don't have a condescending attitude. You can subtly go elsewhere or change the subject if a rude or catty person is trying to dominate. If you are someone who can't have fun without partying, this may not be the way to go for you.
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Finish with some lip balm or natural pink lipstick.\\n3. Style your hair appropriately.\\nHair is one of the most important aspects of looking like a wholesome girl.\\nYour hair should always be clean, shiny, and cut in a stylish way. Choose a low maintenance hairstyle that does not require hairspray or gel. Natural hair color is best but subtle highlights can be refreshing.\\n4. Be stylish.\\nThere are lots of fun outfits that suit a wholesome girl - all are elegant, cute and subtle.\\nThink fun and functional, clothes you could run around town in and still look put together for school or a semi formal occasion. Jeans are the classic American fashion item - wear them with layered tops, a cute jacket, or your favorite sport team sweater. Don't go too saggy or skin tight. You want to look like a girl who is ready to have sensible fun.\\n5. Stay fit.\\nGet involved in your own fitness.\\nIt is a big part of being wholesome. Partners want a girlfriend who can keep up physically - someone to work and play with. Find a sport or a solo activity that gives you the exercise you need.\\n6. Be smart.\\nSmart about school, work, whatever.\\nYou have a brain, and this shouldn't be something that people wonder about so don't play dumb. Do your schoolwork and offer to help others with theirs. Think before you speak, and take time to consider your decisions. Don't be a brainless droid following the trends of society! The American spirit is one of independence, adventure, and intelligence! So study hard.\\n7. Make wholesome choices.\\nBe cautious about drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes.\\nRefrain from having sex. If you get really drunk you might say or do something embarrassing or harmful to yourself or others - not a desirable characteristic of a wholesome person. Same rule goes for drugs; do your research on the effects of drugs and see if the benefits are worth the risks. Avoid smoking. Wholesome girls smell clean and don't have black lungs or brown teeth, all of which are adverse effects of cigarettes.\\n8. Hang out with people who are low drama and gossip free.\\nIf you want to make good friends, or date a guy that is worth your time, try to cultivate healthy relationships with real people who share your interests and goals.\\nPeople, for example, that don't stop to inspect their butts one hundred times a day, or try to start fights with chicks in the hall. Stay away from the chronic Myspace drama queens too - what you do online will inevitably come back to haunt your real life. Try getting a Facebook and befriend some college kids. That will help you seem cool and more mature.\\nTips\\nDon't be afraid to spend time with your family. It is not \\\"un-cool\\\" to love your family! Guys appreciate girls who can hang out with their parents or siblings without World War 3 erupting. Think about how awkward it is when you go to a friend's house and she gets in a screaming match with her mom/dog/brother. Now multiply your feelings of awkwardness by 100 - this is how a guy feels when you whine and argue with your own family in front of him.\\nEat good food. Be smart with what you eat but don't let it control you too much. Know that what you put in your body will show on the outside.\\nDon't be a jerk to guys, just because they are male! Stay away from judgmental attitudes towards men in general. Of course, your conscience will clue you in as to which types of males to avoid. But as a whole the other sex is not as stupid or helpless as many girls like to say they are.\\nWarnings\\nPeople might make fun of you for being a prude or whatever - but they don't understand that you are becoming a better person. Don't let other people get to you.\\nIf you act in a snotty way, none of this will apply. Wholesome girls love life, and love the people around them, even if it means avoiding the rude or nasty ones. Don't have a condescending attitude. You can subtly go elsewhere or change the subject if a rude or catty person is trying to dominate.\\nIf you are someone who can't have fun without partying, this may not be the way to go for you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Looking for a way to have a clean reputation? Want to be appreciated? Wholesome, all American girls are the epitome of having great reputations. Now is the time to put your best face forward and show them how elegant and fun you really are! Read on...\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Maintain good Hygiene.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wholesome girls are clean.\", \"描述\": \"Always shower and wash your face. Keep your skin and hair greaseless. Brush your teeth at least twice a day with whitening toothpaste for clean pearly whites. Clean hair, skin, teeth and nails are a must.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear natural makeup.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wholesome girls wear minimal cosmetics.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to wear as little makeup as possible while still maintaining a feminine look. The best way to do this is the \\\"no makeup\\\" makeup look. Apply brown gel eyeliner to the upper lash line following your eyes' natural wing. Next, apply one coat of brown or soft black mascara. Swirl a bit of light pink powder blush on the apples of your cheeks. Using a translucent powder, brighten under your eyes by applying a small amount on your dark circles. Still using the same powder, highlight your cheekbones and the bridge of your nose to give a healthy glow. Finish with some lip balm or natural pink lipstick.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Style your hair appropriately.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hair is one of the most important aspects of looking like a wholesome girl.\", \"描述\": \"Your hair should always be clean, shiny, and cut in a stylish way. Choose a low maintenance hairstyle that does not require hairspray or gel. Natural hair color is best but subtle highlights can be refreshing.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be stylish.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"There are lots of fun outfits that suit a wholesome girl - all are elegant, cute and subtle.\", \"描述\": \"Think fun and functional, clothes you could run around town in and still look put together for school or a semi formal occasion. Jeans are the classic American fashion item - wear them with layered tops, a cute jacket, or your favorite sport team sweater. Don't go too saggy or skin tight. You want to look like a girl who is ready to have sensible fun.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay fit.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get involved in your own fitness.\", \"描述\": \"It is a big part of being wholesome. Partners want a girlfriend who can keep up physically - someone to work and play with. Find a sport or a solo activity that gives you the exercise you need.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be smart.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Smart about school, work, whatever.\", \"描述\": \"You have a brain, and this shouldn't be something that people wonder about so don't play dumb. Do your schoolwork and offer to help others with theirs. Think before you speak, and take time to consider your decisions. Don't be a brainless droid following the trends of society! The American spirit is one of independence, adventure, and intelligence! So study hard.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Make wholesome choices.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be cautious about drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes.\", \"描述\": \"Refrain from having sex. If you get really drunk you might say or do something embarrassing or harmful to yourself or others - not a desirable characteristic of a wholesome person. Same rule goes for drugs; do your research on the effects of drugs and see if the benefits are worth the risks. Avoid smoking. Wholesome girls smell clean and don't have black lungs or brown teeth, all of which are adverse effects of cigarettes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Hang out with people who are low drama and gossip free.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you want to make good friends, or date a guy that is worth your time, try to cultivate healthy relationships with real people who share your interests and goals.\", \"描述\": \"People, for example, that don't stop to inspect their butts one hundred times a day, or try to start fights with chicks in the hall. Stay away from the chronic Myspace drama queens too - what you do online will inevitably come back to haunt your real life. Try getting a Facebook and befriend some college kids. That will help you seem cool and more mature.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't be afraid to spend time with your family. It is not \\\"un-cool\\\" to love your family! Guys appreciate girls who can hang out with their parents or siblings without World War 3 erupting. 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How to Be a Witch
1. Learning about Witchcraft 1-1. Learn about different magic traditions. There's no central school of witchcraft, witchery, or spell-casting, which means that novices and non-practicioners often have a hard time figuring out what's real and what's fake. Becoming a witch is a personal journey that involves research, patience, study, and more research (seriously, for many witches, it's 20% spell casting, 80% taking notes). Depending on your interests, different schools of thought and traditions may be more appropriate or interesting. Some common styles of witchcraft include: Wicca and “green” witchcrafts are popular in the United States, often revolving around Gaia-study and nature-based spells and meditation. The earliest Wiccans were followers of Gerald Gardner, a British magic scholar in the 20th century, whose ideas and works were popularized in the 1950s and 1960s. If you've got an interest in crystals, the use of herbs, rituals, and essential oils, this might be right for you. Neo-paganism and Druidism, or other ancestral witches are interested in history and tradition, specifically practicing in accordance with the seasons and with rituals. If you want to get back to the source of "traditional" witchcraft, these styles might be right for you. Regional and esoteric witchcrafts, like Santeria, Stregheria, Fari, Pharmakos, and other cultural witchcrafts are also common, depending on where you live and your culture's traditions. If you've got a strong connection to place, research the local practices where you live. Keep in mind that some religions/practices are closed. " A culture or religion is considered “closed” if you are required to be born or formally initiated into it into order to be considered a part of that community or faith and to have the right to participate in their spiritual practices. Easy examples of this include some orthodox sects of major religions, i.e. some Hindu sects, and some various Native American religions and cultures. Wicca, in its traditional form, is considered closed, due to the fact that is it a mystery religion and formal initiation into a coven is required. (Neo-Wicca, on the other hand, is an offshoot that is much more open and accommodates solitary and uninitiated practitioners who follow Wiccan principles and practices.) The best way to know if a culture is closed is to ask someone who is part of the culture. Generally, as with so many other things in life, it is best to ask permission before picking up something that seems exotic or mystical. Secular Witchcraft, which is unaffiliated with any religion, philosophy, belief system, etc. Any person from any religion (or lack thereof) can practice secular witchcraft. There is also divination witches, who try to interpret the future, mostly with tea leaves and other things. Sea witches, contrary to popular belief, are actually gentle and docile people, always ready to help. They love being near the water, as in their name, and usually use sea shells or anything related to the beach in their magic. They are also closely related to astral witches, since they also use the moon for their practices, and astral witches use the stars and planets in their own magic. No one is prohibited from practicing witchcraft. Some people want to act as gatekeepers, but the truth is that other people don't get a say in your personal beliefs and practices, no matter what they say. There are Atheist witches, Christian witches, Jewish witches, Luciferian witches, Wiccan witches, agnostic witches, etc. The only person who can decide what works for you is you. You can be a lot of type of witches put together! You don't really have to be a fixed type, but a wanderer, and that is just perfectly fine 1-2. Learn from a wide variety of sources about different histories and traditions. One thing the novice witch will quickly learn is that every adept practices differently. There's no “bible” of witchcraft, no central guiding list of principles or rules for witches. Anything that claims to be is false. Your practice will be your own practice, no one else's, so it's important to take “expert” advice with a grain of salt. You can read some classics, but it should all go toward your own personal understanding of the arts and your own practice. Some classic authors and readings include: Aleister Crowley Colin Wilson's The Occult: A History Malleus Mallificarum, an ancient text on witchcraft Montague Summers' Witchcraft and Demonology Check out Wiccan writings by Gerald Gardner, Doreen Valiente and Scott Cunningham. Nigel Jackson, Nigel Pennick, Carlo Ginzburg, Robin Artisson, Gemma Gary, Andrew Chumbley, have written widely of traditional witchcraft. (Be aware that many books and/or authors are coming from a Wiccan/neo-pagan viewpoint. There is nothing wrong with this, but if you are looking for information on, for example, secular witchcraft- that is to say, witchcraft that is not associated with any religion, philosophy, belief system, etc., then books on Wiccan witchcraft won't be as helpful). Some authors are known to be, at best, problematic and mistaken, and at worst, willfully ignorant and deliberately misinformative. These authors often include historical inaccuracies (ranging from misunderstandings/misconceptions to outright lies), biased views on various subjects, and rampant cultural appropriation. Some authors to be wary of are: Silver RavenWolf, Raymond Buckland, Laurie Cabot, Margaret Murray, Edain McCoy, and D.J. Conway. If you do decide to read their works, be sure to fact-check anything and everything. These books can be useful, absolutely, but do your own independent research, and don't take anyone's word as gospel, no matter how popular they are. Also keep in mind that some authors, while their works are incredibly useful, have been dead for a while, and so their information is likely to be a little outdated. Scott Cunningham is a good example of this. His books can be very helpful and informative, but remember to round out your reading with other sources. 1-3. Develop personal goals for your practice. It can't be overstated: being a witch is a personal journey. There's no one way to go about doing it. This makes it important to learn what you can, take what you must, and write your own goals and your own path for yourself. It might be helpful to do some journaling, keeping a record of what it is you hope to explore, and what you hope to discover. A few guiding questions can be helping in getting started, but it's up to you to find the answers. What do you want from witchcraft? What types of spells and incantations do you hope to perform? What do you hope to learn about being a witch? How to do you hope that witchcraft can improve or change your life? 1-4. Watch out for fluff. Be wary of for-pay tutorials and online schemes. Developing a practice of witchcraft isn't something that can be communicated in 25 easy steps for only $39.95 from Hot Topic. Witchcraft isn't about following a pre-written list of rules and going from A to B to C in the proper order. It's a personal journey of discovery that is different for everyone. What it means to "be a witch" and to "practice witchcraft" will change drastically when you talk to different practitioners of magic. Try to take things with a grain of salt. If other witches don't want to help you learn, or disagree with a particular practice or reading that you find power in, talk to other witches. Find a group of like-minded practitioners and ignore the dissenters. 2. Casting and Using Spells 2-1. Collect the tools of the trade. To get started casting spells and practicing witchcraft, it's a good idea to get the basic tools. No, broomsticks and pointy hats are not necessary. Each witch will require different tools for performing particular spells, but the basics are more or less universal, though it should be stated that none of these items are required in order for you to be a witch. Select a wand. Wands are often selected for their personal connection to the witch. It's a simple matter of finding and charging a stick, but it's also much more than that. Spend a lot of time wandering the woods to find a short stick that works for you, that you feel some connection with. You'll know it when you find it. Don't feel like you aren't a "real" witch, though, if you don't use a wand or any other tool that another witch uses. Your practice is yours alone and no one else can tell you what works for you. Mortar and pestles are important objects for spell casting. Used to mix herbs and other ingredients into a heady potion, a mortar and pestle are available at any housewares store, and in most kitchens. Herbs. Witch hazel, mugwort, sage, lavender, and many other herbs are commonly used in witchcraft. Scott Cunningham's Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs is an essential guide for the novice witch. You can learn about the powers and the uses of many different common herbs and how to use them. Mineral spirit and salt. Used in cleansing and keeping your spell castings safe, mineral spirits and salts are common barriers against the world of the spirits. You can help to protect yourself by charging your tools with all-natural mineral spirits and circling yourself in salt. 2-2. Charge your magic tools. Wands, crystals, and other implements involved in heavy psychic incantations need to be cleansed thoroughly before and after spell castings. A good witch is in tune with her tools and keeps them charged and free of negative psychic energy. Use the traditions and techniques of your practice to charge and cleanse your tools. Different traditions will offer different techniques for accomplishing this, but in general, many witches use lunar energy to charge or cleanse wands, letting the stone absorb the energy of the moon by sitting out in the moonlight overnight. Wiping your wand down with mineral spirits is also a common practice to cleanse and clear out any bad psychic energy. 2-3. Cleanse the area. Spells and circles don't need to be cast in the middle of a dark wood at midnight, and magic rituals can be performed just as effectively in the comfort of your bedroom. Choose a safe space where you'll be comfortable and undisturbed. Select a place where you can remain uninterrupted for as long as it will take to complete the ritual. Meditate for several minutes, according to your practice. Offer a prayer of protection, requesting that evil spirits and negative energy stay away, and invite positivity and light into your circle. Meditate on the task to come. Light candles and prepare other objects that will be necessary for the ritual that you're going to perform. If other people are around to perform the ritual with you, gather together, hold hands, and complete the cleansing prayers together. Join as one. 2-4. Cast the circle Different traditions use different objects and methods for casting a circle, but it's not important whether you want to use candles, stones, chalk lines or sticks to create your spell-casting circle, what matters is intent. The circle is a physical or psychic barrier in your safe space, that will allow you to channel the deities, powers, and energies necessary to do your work. In many traditions, a circle must contain candles at each of the four cardinal directions–North, South, East, and West. It's also a good idea to keep a representative of each element in the circle with you. A handful of earth, a glass of water, the fire of a candle, and other elements should all be present. 2-5. Casting the spell. Welcome the elements and the deities you're invoking and state the Purpose of the ritual aloud. Specific invocations or prayers should be recited, and spells should be cast at this time. A comprehensive online database of spells can be found here. Raise and release the energy you're invoking. The purpose of a spell is to make your circle a conduit, through which you contact the unseen world of energies and spirits. When you connect with those energies, you've got to contact them safely and detach yourself from them safely as well. 2-6. Close the ritual safely. Thank the Deities (if present) for gracing you with their presence. Thank the elements for aiding you and supporting you in your spell. Close or open the circle, depending on your tradition. Wiccans practice what is called the Law of Three: "Evermind the Rule of Three, What Ye Sends Out Comes Back to Thee." The law of three states that anything you do comes back to you threefold. So please, be wise, and think about your actions and how they affect others. Keep in mind, though, that not all witches are Wiccan, and non-Wiccan witches are not required to believe in or follow Wiccan guidelines. Do not bash or bully anyone else for their practice just because it isn't the same as yours. 3. Developing Your Practice 3-1. Find a guide. Since it can be so overwhelming for the novice, it's important for witches who are just starting to explore the world of witchcraft to get help. Find other more experienced witches who will help tutor you in the dark arts, recommend readings, and show you a thing or two about spells. Never lie about your experience or your expertise in witchcraft. If you don't know a wand from a cauldron, don't Try to cast yourself as an experienced witch. Others will respect you less and will see through it. It's better to be honest about your knowledge and be willing to learn. 3-2. Keep your own Book of Shadows. When you first get started in practicing witchcraft, it's a good idea to start your own book of shadows. Again, it doesn't need to be bound in ancient leather and stained with goat blood–just get a composition book. Adorn it as you would a journal, with images you find powerful, moving, or full of witchy wisdom. Use the book to record spells, observations, and incantations as you pick them up from your readings and research. 3-3. Create an altar. An altar doesn't need to be elaborate, or feature the bleached skull of a 12th century mystic (although that would be awesome). An altar is simply a place where you will practice. It should prominently feature personal totems and inspirational objects, things that are essential to your practice. That may mean crystals, stones, herbs, pictures, and any number of other objects that are important to you. Adorn your alter with important objects. If you're a green witch, or a Wiccan, it might be a good idea to put laurels, dead flowers, dried herbs, and other natural things on your altar. Find stones that speak to you, strange seashells, or other objects of power and beauty. If you're a druid, or another type of traditional witch, keep lots of pictures of your family, your ancestors, on your altar. If you don't have any, include very old objects–photos of Civil War soldiers, or old pocket watches, things that remind you of the past and help you connect to it. 3-4. Practice rhythmically, with the seasons. Many (but not all) witches find it beneficial to be in tune with the changing of the seasons, and with the transitions from one phase to the next. Attune yourself to the moon's phases and practice your spell casting in accordance with the lunar changes, the equinox, and other essential signifiers of changing time. Get an astrological calendar and learn about the shifting planets. Pay attention to the changing of the seasons and your emotional, physical, and psychic responses. 3-5. Keep collecting magic objects. As your Book of Shadows grows and swells with spells, it's a good idea to keep your cabinets and your altar growing. Collect herbs and essential oils for use in your spell casting and keep growing your collection of powerful herb and oils. Practice using them and learning about their distinctive uses. Collect precious stones and crystals and meditate with them to find out which you connect with and which you can use in your practice. Herbs and stones are available for purchase, but it's a good idea to learn more about foraging and collecting fresh herbs to dry for yourself. Connecting your practice as much as you can with the earth is an excellent idea. Get a local field guide for greenery in your climate and go out frequently to find useful magick herbs. Go foraging around creek beds to find precious stones. Tips If you are interested in becoming a witch or Wiccan, trying to talk to one in person before you make any decisions. Try Witchvox.com. It's like Facebook for pagans. It's also excellent for finding local covens, should you wish to join one. Follow your intuition. If it feels right, go with it, if it doesn't don't. Your intuition is your most powerful tool. Remember that Wicca and Witchcraft are not the same. You will come across information that states otherwise but in general think of it this way: Wicca is a religion, Witchcraft is a skill. Witchcraft can be used alongside many different religions (or no religion at all) and appear in many different contexts, Wicca generally cannot. Warnings Stay positive. If you're feeling negative, try not to do too much magic. You attract what you give, meaning you may bring more negativity than positive energy if you have a negative state of mind. Know what you are doing or you could seriously injure yourself. Don't dabble with things you don't understand; especially spirits and the like.
{ "create_time": "20230517 10:53:33", "回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Learning about Witchcraft\\n1-1. Learn about different magic traditions.\\nThere's no central school of witchcraft, witchery, or spell-casting, which means that novices and non-practicioners often have a hard time figuring out what's real and what's fake. Becoming a witch is a personal journey that involves research, patience, study, and more research (seriously, for many witches, it's 20% spell casting, 80% taking notes). Depending on your interests, different schools of thought and traditions may be more appropriate or interesting. Some common styles of witchcraft include:\\nWicca and “green” witchcrafts are popular in the United States, often revolving around Gaia-study and nature-based spells and meditation. The earliest Wiccans were followers of Gerald Gardner, a British magic scholar in the 20th century, whose ideas and works were popularized in the 1950s and 1960s. If you've got an interest in crystals, the use of herbs, rituals, and essential oils, this might be right for you.\\nNeo-paganism and Druidism, or other ancestral witches are interested in history and tradition, specifically practicing in accordance with the seasons and with rituals. If you want to get back to the source of \\\"traditional\\\" witchcraft, these styles might be right for you.\\nRegional and esoteric witchcrafts, like Santeria, Stregheria, Fari, Pharmakos, and other cultural witchcrafts are also common, depending on where you live and your culture's traditions. If you've got a strong connection to place, research the local practices where you live.\\nKeep in mind that some religions/practices are closed. \\\" A culture or religion is considered “closed” if you are required to be born or formally initiated into it into order to be considered a part of that community or faith and to have the right to participate in their spiritual practices. Easy examples of this include some orthodox sects of major religions, i.e. some Hindu sects, and some various Native American religions and cultures. Wicca, in its traditional form, is considered closed, due to the fact that is it a mystery religion and formal initiation into a coven is required. (Neo-Wicca, on the other hand, is an offshoot that is much more open and accommodates solitary and uninitiated practitioners who follow Wiccan principles and practices.) The best way to know if a culture is closed is to ask someone who is part of the culture. Generally, as with so many other things in life, it is best to ask permission before picking up something that seems exotic or mystical.\\nSecular Witchcraft, which is unaffiliated with any religion, philosophy, belief system, etc. Any person from any religion (or lack thereof) can practice secular witchcraft.\\nThere is also divination witches, who try to interpret the future, mostly with tea leaves and other things.\\nSea witches, contrary to popular belief, are actually gentle and docile people, always ready to help. They love being near the water, as in their name, and usually use sea shells or anything related to the beach in their magic. They are also closely related to astral witches, since they also use the moon for their practices, and astral witches use the stars and planets in their own magic.\\n No one is prohibited from practicing witchcraft. Some people want to act as gatekeepers, but the truth is that other people don't get a say in your personal beliefs and practices, no matter what they say. There are Atheist witches, Christian witches, Jewish witches, Luciferian witches, Wiccan witches, agnostic witches, etc. The only person who can decide what works for you is you.\\nYou can be a lot of type of witches put together! You don't really have to be a fixed type, but a wanderer, and that is just perfectly fine\\n1-2. Learn from a wide variety of sources about different histories and traditions.\\nOne thing the novice witch will quickly learn is that every adept practices differently. There's no “bible” of witchcraft, no central guiding list of principles or rules for witches. Anything that claims to be is false. Your practice will be your own practice, no one else's, so it's important to take “expert” advice with a grain of salt. You can read some classics, but it should all go toward your own personal understanding of the arts and your own practice. Some classic authors and readings include:\\nAleister Crowley\\nColin Wilson's The Occult: A History\\n\\nMalleus Mallificarum, an ancient text on witchcraft\\nMontague Summers' Witchcraft and Demonology\\nCheck out Wiccan writings by Gerald Gardner, Doreen Valiente and Scott Cunningham.\\nNigel Jackson, Nigel Pennick, Carlo Ginzburg, Robin Artisson, Gemma Gary, Andrew Chumbley, have written widely of traditional witchcraft. (Be aware that many books and/or authors are coming from a Wiccan/neo-pagan viewpoint. There is nothing wrong with this, but if you are looking for information on, for example, secular witchcraft- that is to say, witchcraft that is not associated with any religion, philosophy, belief system, etc., then books on Wiccan witchcraft won't be as helpful).\\nSome authors are known to be, at best, problematic and mistaken, and at worst, willfully ignorant and deliberately misinformative. These authors often include historical inaccuracies (ranging from misunderstandings/misconceptions to outright lies), biased views on various subjects, and rampant cultural appropriation. Some authors to be wary of are: Silver RavenWolf, Raymond Buckland, Laurie Cabot, Margaret Murray, Edain McCoy, and D.J. Conway. If you do decide to read their works, be sure to fact-check anything and everything. These books can be useful, absolutely, but do your own independent research, and don't take anyone's word as gospel, no matter how popular they are.\\nAlso keep in mind that some authors, while their works are incredibly useful, have been dead for a while, and so their information is likely to be a little outdated. Scott Cunningham is a good example of this. His books can be very helpful and informative, but remember to round out your reading with other sources.\\n1-3. Develop personal goals for your practice.\\nIt can't be overstated: being a witch is a personal journey. There's no one way to go about doing it. This makes it important to learn what you can, take what you must, and write your own goals and your own path for yourself. It might be helpful to do some journaling, keeping a record of what it is you hope to explore, and what you hope to discover. A few guiding questions can be helping in getting started, but it's up to you to find the answers.\\nWhat do you want from witchcraft?\\nWhat types of spells and incantations do you hope to perform?\\nWhat do you hope to learn about being a witch?\\nHow to do you hope that witchcraft can improve or change your life?\\n1-4. Watch out for fluff.\\nBe wary of for-pay tutorials and online schemes. Developing a practice of witchcraft isn't something that can be communicated in 25 easy steps for only $39.95 from Hot Topic. Witchcraft isn't about following a pre-written list of rules and going from A to B to C in the proper order. It's a personal journey of discovery that is different for everyone. \\nWhat it means to \\\"be a witch\\\" and to \\\"practice witchcraft\\\" will change drastically when you talk to different practitioners of magic. Try to take things with a grain of salt. If other witches don't want to help you learn, or disagree with a particular practice or reading that you find power in, talk to other witches. Find a group of like-minded practitioners and ignore the dissenters.\\n2. Casting and Using Spells\\n2-1. Collect the tools of the trade.\\nTo get started casting spells and practicing witchcraft, it's a good idea to get the basic tools. No, broomsticks and pointy hats are not necessary. Each witch will require different tools for performing particular spells, but the basics are more or less universal, though it should be stated that none of these items are required in order for you to be a witch.\\n\\nSelect a wand. Wands are often selected for their personal connection to the witch. It's a simple matter of finding and charging a stick, but it's also much more than that. Spend a lot of time wandering the woods to find a short stick that works for you, that you feel some connection with. You'll know it when you find it. Don't feel like you aren't a \\\"real\\\" witch, though, if you don't use a wand or any other tool that another witch uses. Your practice is yours alone and no one else can tell you what works for you.\\nMortar and pestles are important objects for spell casting. Used to mix herbs and other ingredients into a heady potion, a mortar and pestle are available at any housewares store, and in most kitchens.\\nHerbs. Witch hazel, mugwort, sage, lavender, and many other herbs are commonly used in witchcraft. Scott Cunningham's Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs is an essential guide for the novice witch. You can learn about the powers and the uses of many different common herbs and how to use them.\\nMineral spirit and salt. Used in cleansing and keeping your spell castings safe, mineral spirits and salts are common barriers against the world of the spirits. You can help to protect yourself by charging your tools with all-natural mineral spirits and circling yourself in salt.\\n2-2. Charge your magic tools.\\nWands, crystals, and other implements involved in heavy psychic incantations need to be cleansed thoroughly before and after spell castings. A good witch is in tune with her tools and keeps them charged and free of negative psychic energy. Use the traditions and techniques of your practice to charge and cleanse your tools.\\nDifferent traditions will offer different techniques for accomplishing this, but in general, many witches use lunar energy to charge or cleanse wands, letting the stone absorb the energy of the moon by sitting out in the moonlight overnight. Wiping your wand down with mineral spirits is also a common practice to cleanse and clear out any bad psychic energy.\\n2-3. Cleanse the area.\\nSpells and circles don't need to be cast in the middle of a dark wood at midnight, and magic rituals can be performed just as effectively in the comfort of your bedroom. Choose a safe space where you'll be comfortable and undisturbed. Select a place where you can remain uninterrupted for as long as it will take to complete the ritual.\\nMeditate for several minutes, according to your practice. Offer a prayer of protection, requesting that evil spirits and negative energy stay away, and invite positivity and light into your circle. Meditate on the task to come.\\nLight candles and prepare other objects that will be necessary for the ritual that you're going to perform. If other people are around to perform the ritual with you, gather together, hold hands, and complete the cleansing prayers together. Join as one.\\n2-4. Cast the circle\\nDifferent traditions use different objects and methods for casting a circle, but it's not important whether you want to use candles, stones, chalk lines or sticks to create your spell-casting circle, what matters is intent. The circle is a physical or psychic barrier in your safe space, that will allow you to channel the deities, powers, and energies necessary to do your work.\\nIn many traditions, a circle must contain candles at each of the four cardinal directions–North, South, East, and West. It's also a good idea to keep a representative of each element in the circle with you. A handful of earth, a glass of water, the fire of a candle, and other elements should all be present.\\n2-5. Casting the spell.\\nWelcome the elements and the deities you're invoking and state the Purpose of the ritual aloud. Specific invocations or prayers should be recited, and spells should be cast at this time. A comprehensive online database of spells can be found here.\\nRaise and release the energy you're invoking. The purpose of a spell is to make your circle a conduit, through which you contact the unseen world of energies and spirits. When you connect with those energies, you've got to contact them safely and detach yourself from them safely as well.\\n2-6. Close the ritual safely.\\nThank the Deities (if present) for gracing you with their presence. Thank the elements for aiding you and supporting you in your spell. Close or open the circle, depending on your tradition.\\nWiccans practice what is called the Law of Three: \\\"Evermind the Rule of Three, What Ye Sends Out Comes Back to Thee.\\\" The law of three states that anything you do comes back to you threefold. So please, be wise, and think about your actions and how they affect others. Keep in mind, though, that not all witches are Wiccan, and non-Wiccan witches are not required to believe in or follow Wiccan guidelines. Do not bash or bully anyone else for their practice just because it isn't the same as yours.\\n3. Developing Your Practice\\n3-1. Find a guide.\\nSince it can be so overwhelming for the novice, it's important for witches who are just starting to explore the world of witchcraft to get help. Find other more experienced witches who will help tutor you in the dark arts, recommend readings, and show you a thing or two about spells.\\nNever lie about your experience or your expertise in witchcraft. If you don't know a wand from a cauldron, don't Try to cast yourself as an experienced witch. Others will respect you less and will see through it. It's better to be honest about your knowledge and be willing to learn.\\n3-2. Keep your own Book of Shadows.\\nWhen you first get started in practicing witchcraft, it's a good idea to start your own book of shadows. Again, it doesn't need to be bound in ancient leather and stained with goat blood–just get a composition book. Adorn it as you would a journal, with images you find powerful, moving, or full of witchy wisdom. Use the book to record spells, observations, and incantations as you pick them up from your readings and research.\\n3-3. Create an altar.\\nAn altar doesn't need to be elaborate, or feature the bleached skull of a 12th century mystic (although that would be awesome). An altar is simply a place where you will practice. It should prominently feature personal totems and inspirational objects, things that are essential to your practice. That may mean crystals, stones, herbs, pictures, and any number of other objects that are important to you. Adorn your alter with important objects.\\nIf you're a green witch, or a Wiccan, it might be a good idea to put laurels, dead flowers, dried herbs, and other natural things on your altar. Find stones that speak to you, strange seashells, or other objects of power and beauty.\\nIf you're a druid, or another type of traditional witch, keep lots of pictures of your family, your ancestors, on your altar. If you don't have any, include very old objects–photos of Civil War soldiers, or old pocket watches, things that remind you of the past and help you connect to it.\\n3-4. Practice rhythmically, with the seasons.\\nMany (but not all) witches find it beneficial to be in tune with the changing of the seasons, and with the transitions from one phase to the next. Attune yourself to the moon's phases and practice your spell casting in accordance with the lunar changes, the equinox, and other essential signifiers of changing time. Get an astrological calendar and learn about the shifting planets. Pay attention to the changing of the seasons and your emotional, physical, and psychic responses.\\n3-5. Keep collecting magic objects.\\nAs your Book of Shadows grows and swells with spells, it's a good idea to keep your cabinets and your altar growing. Collect herbs and essential oils for use in your spell casting and keep growing your collection of powerful herb and oils. Practice using them and learning about their distinctive uses. Collect precious stones and crystals and meditate with them to find out which you connect with and which you can use in your practice.\\nHerbs and stones are available for purchase, but it's a good idea to learn more about foraging and collecting fresh herbs to dry for yourself. Connecting your practice as much as you can with the earth is an excellent idea. Get a local field guide for greenery in your climate and go out frequently to find useful magick herbs. Go foraging around creek beds to find precious stones.\\nTips\\nIf you are interested in becoming a witch or Wiccan, trying to talk to one in person before you make any decisions. Try Witchvox.com. It's like Facebook for pagans. It's also excellent for finding local covens, should you wish to join one.\\nFollow your intuition. If it feels right, go with it, if it doesn't don't. Your intuition is your most powerful tool.\\nRemember that Wicca and Witchcraft are not the same. You will come across information that states otherwise but in general think of it this way: Wicca is a religion, Witchcraft is a skill. Witchcraft can be used alongside many different religions (or no religion at all) and appear in many different contexts, Wicca generally cannot.\\nWarnings\\nStay positive. If you're feeling negative, try not to do too much magic. You attract what you give, meaning you may bring more negativity than positive energy if you have a negative state of mind.\\nKnow what you are doing or you could seriously injure yourself.\\nDon't dabble with things you don't understand; especially spirits and the like.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Forget the pointy hats, broomsticks and corny incantations; there is a lot of misinformation spread about witches. A complex and personal practice, witchcraft is a method of folk magic, involving an in-depth knowledge of the natural world, the spiritual world and the self. If you've got a connection with those worlds and are unsatisfied by traditional beliefs, learning more about what it takes to be a witch might be right for you. It's a lifelong practice and journey.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning about Witchcraft\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn about different magic traditions.\", \"描述\": \"There's no central school of witchcraft, witchery, or spell-casting, which means that novices and non-practicioners often have a hard time figuring out what's real and what's fake. Becoming a witch is a personal journey that involves research, patience, study, and more research (seriously, for many witches, it's 20% spell casting, 80% taking notes). Depending on your interests, different schools of thought and traditions may be more appropriate or interesting. Some common styles of witchcraft include:\\nWicca and “green” witchcrafts are popular in the United States, often revolving around Gaia-study and nature-based spells and meditation. The earliest Wiccans were followers of Gerald Gardner, a British magic scholar in the 20th century, whose ideas and works were popularized in the 1950s and 1960s. If you've got an interest in crystals, the use of herbs, rituals, and essential oils, this might be right for you.\\nNeo-paganism and Druidism, or other ancestral witches are interested in history and tradition, specifically practicing in accordance with the seasons and with rituals. If you want to get back to the source of \\\"traditional\\\" witchcraft, these styles might be right for you.\\nRegional and esoteric witchcrafts, like Santeria, Stregheria, Fari, Pharmakos, and other cultural witchcrafts are also common, depending on where you live and your culture's traditions. If you've got a strong connection to place, research the local practices where you live.\\nKeep in mind that some religions/practices are closed. \\\" A culture or religion is considered “closed” if you are required to be born or formally initiated into it into order to be considered a part of that community or faith and to have the right to participate in their spiritual practices. Easy examples of this include some orthodox sects of major religions, i.e. some Hindu sects, and some various Native American religions and cultures. Wicca, in its traditional form, is considered closed, due to the fact that is it a mystery religion and formal initiation into a coven is required. (Neo-Wicca, on the other hand, is an offshoot that is much more open and accommodates solitary and uninitiated practitioners who follow Wiccan principles and practices.) The best way to know if a culture is closed is to ask someone who is part of the culture. Generally, as with so many other things in life, it is best to ask permission before picking up something that seems exotic or mystical.\\nSecular Witchcraft, which is unaffiliated with any religion, philosophy, belief system, etc. Any person from any religion (or lack thereof) can practice secular witchcraft.\\nThere is also divination witches, who try to interpret the future, mostly with tea leaves and other things.\\nSea witches, contrary to popular belief, are actually gentle and docile people, always ready to help. They love being near the water, as in their name, and usually use sea shells or anything related to the beach in their magic. They are also closely related to astral witches, since they also use the moon for their practices, and astral witches use the stars and planets in their own magic.\\n No one is prohibited from practicing witchcraft. Some people want to act as gatekeepers, but the truth is that other people don't get a say in your personal beliefs and practices, no matter what they say. There are Atheist witches, Christian witches, Jewish witches, Luciferian witches, Wiccan witches, agnostic witches, etc. The only person who can decide what works for you is you.\\nYou can be a lot of type of witches put together! You don't really have to be a fixed type, but a wanderer, and that is just perfectly fine\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn from a wide variety of sources about different histories and traditions.\", \"描述\": \"One thing the novice witch will quickly learn is that every adept practices differently. There's no “bible” of witchcraft, no central guiding list of principles or rules for witches. Anything that claims to be is false. Your practice will be your own practice, no one else's, so it's important to take “expert” advice with a grain of salt. You can read some classics, but it should all go toward your own personal understanding of the arts and your own practice. Some classic authors and readings include:\\nAleister Crowley\\nColin Wilson's The Occult: A History\\n\\nMalleus Mallificarum, an ancient text on witchcraft\\nMontague Summers' Witchcraft and Demonology\\nCheck out Wiccan writings by Gerald Gardner, Doreen Valiente and Scott Cunningham.\\nNigel Jackson, Nigel Pennick, Carlo Ginzburg, Robin Artisson, Gemma Gary, Andrew Chumbley, have written widely of traditional witchcraft. (Be aware that many books and/or authors are coming from a Wiccan/neo-pagan viewpoint. There is nothing wrong with this, but if you are looking for information on, for example, secular witchcraft- that is to say, witchcraft that is not associated with any religion, philosophy, belief system, etc., then books on Wiccan witchcraft won't be as helpful).\\nSome authors are known to be, at best, problematic and mistaken, and at worst, willfully ignorant and deliberately misinformative. These authors often include historical inaccuracies (ranging from misunderstandings/misconceptions to outright lies), biased views on various subjects, and rampant cultural appropriation. Some authors to be wary of are: Silver RavenWolf, Raymond Buckland, Laurie Cabot, Margaret Murray, Edain McCoy, and D.J. Conway. If you do decide to read their works, be sure to fact-check anything and everything. These books can be useful, absolutely, but do your own independent research, and don't take anyone's word as gospel, no matter how popular they are.\\nAlso keep in mind that some authors, while their works are incredibly useful, have been dead for a while, and so their information is likely to be a little outdated. Scott Cunningham is a good example of this. His books can be very helpful and informative, but remember to round out your reading with other sources.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Develop personal goals for your practice.\", \"描述\": \"It can't be overstated: being a witch is a personal journey. There's no one way to go about doing it. This makes it important to learn what you can, take what you must, and write your own goals and your own path for yourself. It might be helpful to do some journaling, keeping a record of what it is you hope to explore, and what you hope to discover. A few guiding questions can be helping in getting started, but it's up to you to find the answers.\\nWhat do you want from witchcraft?\\nWhat types of spells and incantations do you hope to perform?\\nWhat do you hope to learn about being a witch?\\nHow to do you hope that witchcraft can improve or change your life?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Watch out for fluff.\", \"描述\": \"Be wary of for-pay tutorials and online schemes. Developing a practice of witchcraft isn't something that can be communicated in 25 easy steps for only $39.95 from Hot Topic. Witchcraft isn't about following a pre-written list of rules and going from A to B to C in the proper order. It's a personal journey of discovery that is different for everyone. \\nWhat it means to \\\"be a witch\\\" and to \\\"practice witchcraft\\\" will change drastically when you talk to different practitioners of magic. Try to take things with a grain of salt. If other witches don't want to help you learn, or disagree with a particular practice or reading that you find power in, talk to other witches. Find a group of like-minded practitioners and ignore the dissenters.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Casting and Using Spells\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Collect the tools of the trade.\", \"描述\": \"To get started casting spells and practicing witchcraft, it's a good idea to get the basic tools. No, broomsticks and pointy hats are not necessary. Each witch will require different tools for performing particular spells, but the basics are more or less universal, though it should be stated that none of these items are required in order for you to be a witch.\\n\\nSelect a wand. Wands are often selected for their personal connection to the witch. It's a simple matter of finding and charging a stick, but it's also much more than that. Spend a lot of time wandering the woods to find a short stick that works for you, that you feel some connection with. You'll know it when you find it. Don't feel like you aren't a \\\"real\\\" witch, though, if you don't use a wand or any other tool that another witch uses. Your practice is yours alone and no one else can tell you what works for you.\\nMortar and pestles are important objects for spell casting. Used to mix herbs and other ingredients into a heady potion, a mortar and pestle are available at any housewares store, and in most kitchens.\\nHerbs. Witch hazel, mugwort, sage, lavender, and many other herbs are commonly used in witchcraft. Scott Cunningham's Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs is an essential guide for the novice witch. You can learn about the powers and the uses of many different common herbs and how to use them.\\nMineral spirit and salt. Used in cleansing and keeping your spell castings safe, mineral spirits and salts are common barriers against the world of the spirits. You can help to protect yourself by charging your tools with all-natural mineral spirits and circling yourself in salt.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Charge your magic tools.\", \"描述\": \"Wands, crystals, and other implements involved in heavy psychic incantations need to be cleansed thoroughly before and after spell castings. A good witch is in tune with her tools and keeps them charged and free of negative psychic energy. Use the traditions and techniques of your practice to charge and cleanse your tools.\\nDifferent traditions will offer different techniques for accomplishing this, but in general, many witches use lunar energy to charge or cleanse wands, letting the stone absorb the energy of the moon by sitting out in the moonlight overnight. Wiping your wand down with mineral spirits is also a common practice to cleanse and clear out any bad psychic energy.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cleanse the area.\", \"描述\": \"Spells and circles don't need to be cast in the middle of a dark wood at midnight, and magic rituals can be performed just as effectively in the comfort of your bedroom. Choose a safe space where you'll be comfortable and undisturbed. Select a place where you can remain uninterrupted for as long as it will take to complete the ritual.\\nMeditate for several minutes, according to your practice. Offer a prayer of protection, requesting that evil spirits and negative energy stay away, and invite positivity and light into your circle. Meditate on the task to come.\\nLight candles and prepare other objects that will be necessary for the ritual that you're going to perform. If other people are around to perform the ritual with you, gather together, hold hands, and complete the cleansing prayers together. Join as one.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cast the circle\", \"描述\": \"Different traditions use different objects and methods for casting a circle, but it's not important whether you want to use candles, stones, chalk lines or sticks to create your spell-casting circle, what matters is intent. The circle is a physical or psychic barrier in your safe space, that will allow you to channel the deities, powers, and energies necessary to do your work.\\nIn many traditions, a circle must contain candles at each of the four cardinal directions–North, South, East, and West. It's also a good idea to keep a representative of each element in the circle with you. A handful of earth, a glass of water, the fire of a candle, and other elements should all be present.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Casting the spell.\", \"描述\": \"Welcome the elements and the deities you're invoking and state the Purpose of the ritual aloud. Specific invocations or prayers should be recited, and spells should be cast at this time. A comprehensive online database of spells can be found here.\\nRaise and release the energy you're invoking. The purpose of a spell is to make your circle a conduit, through which you contact the unseen world of energies and spirits. When you connect with those energies, you've got to contact them safely and detach yourself from them safely as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Close the ritual safely.\", \"描述\": \"Thank the Deities (if present) for gracing you with their presence. Thank the elements for aiding you and supporting you in your spell. Close or open the circle, depending on your tradition.\\nWiccans practice what is called the Law of Three: \\\"Evermind the Rule of Three, What Ye Sends Out Comes Back to Thee.\\\" The law of three states that anything you do comes back to you threefold. So please, be wise, and think about your actions and how they affect others. Keep in mind, though, that not all witches are Wiccan, and non-Wiccan witches are not required to believe in or follow Wiccan guidelines. Do not bash or bully anyone else for their practice just because it isn't the same as yours.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Practice\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find a guide.\", \"描述\": \"Since it can be so overwhelming for the novice, it's important for witches who are just starting to explore the world of witchcraft to get help. Find other more experienced witches who will help tutor you in the dark arts, recommend readings, and show you a thing or two about spells.\\nNever lie about your experience or your expertise in witchcraft. If you don't know a wand from a cauldron, don't Try to cast yourself as an experienced witch. Others will respect you less and will see through it. It's better to be honest about your knowledge and be willing to learn.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your own Book of Shadows.\", \"描述\": \"When you first get started in practicing witchcraft, it's a good idea to start your own book of shadows. Again, it doesn't need to be bound in ancient leather and stained with goat blood–just get a composition book. Adorn it as you would a journal, with images you find powerful, moving, or full of witchy wisdom. Use the book to record spells, observations, and incantations as you pick them up from your readings and research.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create an altar.\", \"描述\": \"An altar doesn't need to be elaborate, or feature the bleached skull of a 12th century mystic (although that would be awesome). An altar is simply a place where you will practice. It should prominently feature personal totems and inspirational objects, things that are essential to your practice. That may mean crystals, stones, herbs, pictures, and any number of other objects that are important to you. Adorn your alter with important objects.\\nIf you're a green witch, or a Wiccan, it might be a good idea to put laurels, dead flowers, dried herbs, and other natural things on your altar. Find stones that speak to you, strange seashells, or other objects of power and beauty.\\nIf you're a druid, or another type of traditional witch, keep lots of pictures of your family, your ancestors, on your altar. If you don't have any, include very old objects–photos of Civil War soldiers, or old pocket watches, things that remind you of the past and help you connect to it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice rhythmically, with the seasons.\", \"描述\": \"Many (but not all) witches find it beneficial to be in tune with the changing of the seasons, and with the transitions from one phase to the next. Attune yourself to the moon's phases and practice your spell casting in accordance with the lunar changes, the equinox, and other essential signifiers of changing time. Get an astrological calendar and learn about the shifting planets. Pay attention to the changing of the seasons and your emotional, physical, and psychic responses.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep collecting magic objects.\", \"描述\": \"As your Book of Shadows grows and swells with spells, it's a good idea to keep your cabinets and your altar growing. Collect herbs and essential oils for use in your spell casting and keep growing your collection of powerful herb and oils. Practice using them and learning about their distinctive uses. Collect precious stones and crystals and meditate with them to find out which you connect with and which you can use in your practice.\\nHerbs and stones are available for purchase, but it's a good idea to learn more about foraging and collecting fresh herbs to dry for yourself. Connecting your practice as much as you can with the earth is an excellent idea. Get a local field guide for greenery in your climate and go out frequently to find useful magick herbs. Go foraging around creek beds to find precious stones.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you are interested in becoming a witch or Wiccan, trying to talk to one in person before you make any decisions. Try Witchvox.com. It's like Facebook for pagans. It's also excellent for finding local covens, should you wish to join one.\\n\", \"Follow your intuition. If it feels right, go with it, if it doesn't don't. Your intuition is your most powerful tool.\\n\", \"Remember that Wicca and Witchcraft are not the same. You will come across information that states otherwise but in general think of it this way: Wicca is a religion, Witchcraft is a skill. Witchcraft can be used alongside many different religions (or no religion at all) and appear in many different contexts, Wicca generally cannot.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Stay positive. If you're feeling negative, try not to do too much magic. You attract what you give, meaning you may bring more negativity than positive energy if you have a negative state of mind.\\n\", \"Know what you are doing or you could seriously injure yourself.\\n\", \"Don't dabble with things you don't understand; especially spirits and the like.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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1. Preparing to Testify 1-1. Review and organize. Consider the main points you plan to convey, bearing in mind that it may not be necessary to address every detail. The attorney(s) for the side you are testifying may help you determine what it most significant, but what you choose to include in your testimony is up to you. Create a physical and/or electronic file that may include notes or reminders, a timeline or sequence of events, hard or soft copy documents or receipts, and references to other items that may be useful as evidence, such as voice recordings, conversations, etc. Create a timeline or list of talking points as you work through your recollection of events and the physical or electronic documents or evidence associated with those events. If you have a number of pieces of evidence supporting your testimony, include a reference to them with your talking points. Initially include anyone or anything that will support your presentation. A simple school binder with tabs is sufficient for a less complicated topic. For more complex testimony, use of electronic tools such as PowerPoint, OneNote or Evergreen may be helpful. Remember that you can't use “hearsay” in your testimony. If you are a witness in a case, you can't relate second-hand information. For example, if your friend Joe told you that he heard the defendant Sarah say that she was going to rob a bank, this is inadmissible hearsay. You did not hear the defendant say she was going to rob the bank. 1-2. Remember that you can't automatically use your notes during testimony. In most cases in the United States, the Federal Rules of Evidence prohibit witnesses from reading their testimony from documents or notes. If your testimony is extremely long, complicated or highly technical (for example, an “expert witness” with highly technical scientific processes to explain), you may have access to notes. The attorneys will advise you beforehand if you will be able to use notes. If you forget what you want to convey during your testimony, you may be shown notes or documents to “refresh your memory.” These can be used only to remind you of something you once knew. You will have to return the document or notes before making your statement. If you use written documents or notes during your testimony, the other side and their attorney have the right to look at those documents. 1-3. Review your written statements. If you talked to the police, gave a deposition, met with the attorneys in the case, or otherwise said anything that was written down (or recorded), get copies and read them over. This will help refresh your memory of details you may have forgotten. You may also want to condense, edit or “hold in abeyance” certain points or items of evidence. To hold something in abeyance means to leave something undetermined until a future time when it may be necessary. For example, if you think a part of your testimony is irrelevant -- e.g., a personal anecdote in the middle of a statement about an incident you witnessed -- you can hold it in abeyance. Remember that if an attorney can point out a discrepancy between your court testimony and your previous statements, you can lose credibility with the jury. You will also be more persuasive if you can move confidently through the chain of events. Reviewing your statement will help refresh your memory of what you are testifying to. 1-4. Prepare with the attorney. Many people believe that it’s illegal for an attorney to prepare a witness ahead of time for the questions that will be asked in court — it's not. Attorneys should have at least a general idea of what their witnesses will testify to. Attorneys in the United States may prepare you as a witness using any or all of the following: Describing your role to you and explaining how to conduct yourself in the courtroom. Discussing your recollections and reviewing any statements you made. Telling you about other evidence and asking you to consider it as you think about your recollections. Going over the context of the case and how your testimony will fit into it. Reviewing other evidence that may be introduced in the case. Discussing probable questions from the other side that you may encounter. Noting when your testimony could be confusing, overlong, or unclear. Suggesting ways to communicate, such as “avoid jargon” or “use powerful language.” An attorney can't tell you what to say or what not to say or give you a script to memorize. These actions are ethics violations. If an adverse attorney is badgering you on this issue, the attorney is likely hoping you’ll say your attorney coached you on what to say (rather than your testimony being about things you personally know or witnessed). This should not be true, unless the attorney who prepared you committed an ethics violation; you should always feel free to say whatever is true in your testimony, regardless of preparation. However, it is not wrong to say that your attorney went over possible questions and reviewed your answers with you. 1-5. Practice your testimony. If you are a witness in a case where confidentiality is not an issue, try to present your case to a friend or relative who is not involved or familiar with the case. If you are not sure whether confidentiality is necessary, consult with the attorney who prepared you. If your statements seem confusing, contradictory or unpersuasive to someone who is already inclined to accept your point of view, go back to step 1. Review your list of key topics or timeline and the evidence you may have access to. Determine which points are most persuasive, and edit your talking points accordingly. At the same time, be prepared to address any related events or circumstances for which you have direct knowledge. 1-6. Avoid memorizing your testimony. It’s important to be comfortable with the details of your testimony. You want to convey confidence in what you say. However, attempting to memorize your testimony or talking points could make your testimony sound “pat” or rehearsed. Memorizing is different from rehearsing. Attorneys are allowed to rehearse testimony with their witnesses. This helps you prepare to handle hostile questions and become comfortable with your testimony. Trying to remember memorized wording during your live testimony could also make it more difficult for you to testify confidently. It could seem as though you are “making up” your testimony or are confused. 2. Preparing to Appear in Court 2-1. Familiarize yourself with the courthouse. Acquaint yourself with the building and the locations of the courtrooms, restrooms, coffee carts, etc., so you won’t feel lost on the day you come to testify. Remember that you will have to go through a metal detector and security checkpoint. Your bags may be searched or scanned. Do not bring any contraband or weapons to court. If you must bring prescription medications, make sure they are identifiable as such and that the prescriptions are current. If you can, sit in on a different trial and watch a few witnesses give testimony. This will help you understand how witness testimony works. It may help you feel more comfortable when you testify. 2-2. Avoid disturbances in your routine. For example, if you usually eat breakfast, don’t skip it just because you might be feeling nervous. Food is not allowed in a courtroom. It can take a long time for you to be called as a witness once you’ve arrived, so be prepared to wait. It’s also a good idea to avoid drugs, alcohol or excessive caffeine before you testify. Even simple cough syrup or allergy medications can leave you feeling foggy and disoriented. Caffeine can make you jittery. A jury will pick up on these signs, and it may influence their opinion of your testimony. 2-3. Dress your best Fairly or not, the judge and jury will form an opinion about you based on your appearance. This opinion will have an effect on whether they believe your testimony. Check with your court’s website, if possible; official dress codes are often posted. Wear “business attire,” such as what you might wear to church or a funeral. You do not have to invest in an expensive suit, but your clothes should be neat, clean and modest. Gender norms are usually strongly present within courtrooms. If you are a man, wear a suit and tie, or a button-up shirt and slacks. If you are a woman, wear a skirt and blouse or dress. Women should also avoid heavy makeup and distracting jewelry. You should avoid anything that is too informal or “alternative.” Do not wear flip-flops, sandals, tennis shoes or sneakers or scuffed shoes. Avoid clothing with slogans, printed words, or flashy designs or logos. Don't wear jeans, shorts, t-shirts, miniskirts, low-cut or see-through clothing, low-rise pants or similarly informal or revealing clothing. If you have tattoos, cover them as well as you can. Do not dye your hair an unusual color. Remove body modifications or piercings. Do not wear hats to court. Religious headgear, such as turbans, hijabs and kippahs, are allowed in courtrooms. 2-4. Contact the court office before your court appearance. It’s a good idea to check in with the appropriate offices before you come to court. Sometimes, cases can be rescheduled, dismissed or settled before you are even called as a witness. Call beforehand to make sure you appear at the right time and place. Call the prosecutor’s office if you are a witness in a criminal case. Call the assignment or court clerk’s office if you are a witness in a civil case. 2-5. Arrive on time. You will be told when and where to appear in court. You may receive a subpoena, which is a court order to appear in court to testify. You may be held in contempt of court if you are late or do not appear. Give yourself enough time to get to the courthouse. Remember that delays can happen. It may not be easy to find parking, or your public transit could run late. Make sure that you have plenty of time to arrive at the courthouse and be directed to where you’re going. 2-6. Avoid discussing the case with anyone in the courthouse. Jurors who may hear your testimony in the case could be in the same public areas of the courthouse as you are while you are waiting to give your testimony. You are not allowed to discuss the case with the judge or jury outside of your testimony so do not discuss the case or your testimony with anyone outside the courtroom. If someone approaches you and tries to discuss the case or intimidate you, contact the court staff. 3. Testifying in Court 3-1. Look at the jury. When answering questions, you should primarily look only at the jury or the attorney questioning you. If you look at anyone else, such as the defendant or someone in the gallery, it can seem as if you're seeking approval or checking to see how you should answer. This can hurt your credibility with the jury. Attorneys will often ask that you look at the jury during a direct examination (when your side’s attorney is doing the questioning). This helps the jury to focus on your testimony and build trust and rapport with you. Additionally, maintaining some kind of eye contact with the jury during cross-examination can reduce the effect of an aggressive opposing attorney who wants the jury’s attention on him or her, rather than you. If the judge speaks to you, of course, you should directly address the judge. 3-2. Pay attention. Listen attentively to the questions that are being asked. Do not let your attention wander. If you look as though you are bored or not listening, your testimony may not be as effective. Maintain good posture while on the witness stand. Sit up straight. Do not cross your arms or slouch. 3-3. Wait until the questioner is finished. Be careful to wait until the question is finished before answering. This is not a game show where it helps to buzz in early. Remember that a court reporter is tasked with transcribing the proceedings. If you’re talking over someone else, much of what you say may not make it onto the record. Ask for clarification when necessary. If you do not understand a question, ask for clarification. Do not answer a question unless you are certain you know the answer. 3-4. Answer directly. Answer only the question that is asked. Do not offer information that you were not asked for. Do not guess. If you do not know the answer to a question being asked, say that you do not know. It is especially important to avoid “volunteering” information during cross-examination. The opposing attorney may try to catch you in an inconsistency or confuse you. Focus more on being concise than providing every small detail. Don't “take the long way around” to the answer or include information that you did not directly see or hear. Doing so may make it seem like you are avoiding the question, or that you have something to hide. Do not use statements that convey absolute certainty, such as “Nothing else happened” or “That’s all that she said.” Instead, say “That’s all I recall.” You may end up recalling some additional detail later, and you don’t want to sound like you are lying. If you make a mistake, correct it immediately. Say “May I correct that?” You may be asked why you need to correct your statement. Explain honestly that you made a mistake. 3-5. Respond clearly and audibly. In many courtrooms, a microphone will record your testimony. Its purpose is not to amplify your voice. Speak loudly enough that the juror farthest from you can hear your answer. Don't answer with nods or head shakes, shrugs, a thumbs up or even an "uh-huh." Don't use slang, legal terminology or police lingo. Your testimony is being written down. For that to happen, you must speak clearly and unambiguously. Don’t use sarcasm or humor. It can be difficult to determine whether you are being serious or not. Humor is highly subjective, and others may not interpret your statements the way you intend them. Speak plainly and honestly. 3-6. Be polite and respectful. Address the attorneys as "Sir" or "Ma’am" and the judge as “Your Honor.” Don't interrupt the attorneys or be too quick to answer. Don't allow yourself to become angry, even if an attorney tries to provoke you. Angry witnesses may end up exaggerating. The judge and/or jury may not take your testimony seriously if you appear angry or emotional. Don't use obscene language unless you’re asked to repeat what you heard someone else say. 3-7. Tell the truth. No matter how you think it will sound or how much you think it will hurt your attorney's case, tell the absolute truth. Lies can be easily picked apart by the opposition, which can damage your credibility and taint everything else you said. Do not give your opinion of those involved or accused of being involved. Straying from factual statements can damage your credibility by making it seem like you are biased against one side. If questioned on your feelings toward the defendant, perhaps simply say you came forward as a witness to explain what you saw and heard, and you try not to judge anyone, including the defendant. 4. Handling Cross Examination 4-1. Protect your credibility. Cross examination can be nerve-wracking. The opposing attorney will try to discredit your testimony, or get you to say something that helps his or her side of the case. Be aware of how to handle yourself. Remember that the purpose of cross examination is to raise doubts about your testimony and point out inconsistencies. Do not take these efforts personally. Avoid exaggerating. Make specific, concrete statements. Avoid making broad or overly generalizing statements because they can damage your credibility. 4-2. Refrain from expanding on "yes or no" questions. The opposing attorney may try to ask you yes/no questions that do not need to be expanded on. Answer with a “yes” or “no.” Do not offer additional information. Trying to explain yourself when asked a yes or no question can be interpreted as dodging the question. Watch out for “leading” questions. You do not have to go along with the information in any question you are asked. For example, you might be asked, “Isn’t it true that you had had four beers when the incident happened?” If you drank only three beers, don't try to explain that. Simply reply “No.” It is in fact not true that you drank four beers. Answer the cross-examining attorney’s questions with “yes” or “no.” Your attorney can bring up any additional questions or ask for further explanation once cross examination is finished. 4-3. Correct any misinterpretations or mistakes. The opposing attorney may try to twist your words or lead you into a mistake. Remain calm, but explain that you did not say what the attorney claims you said. For example, you might answer that “The light was yellow when I saw car A hit car B.” The cross-examining attorney might say, “So you’re saying the light turned red.” Politely restate what you said: “No. I said that the light was yellow when I saw car A hit car B.” Correcting misinterpretations ensures that your testimony is accurate. It can also demonstrate to the jury that you are reasonable and attentive to detail. It may even make the cross-examining attorney look bad for trying to mislead you. You may be asked whether another witness was lying or telling the truth. Reply that you can’t know what another person might have witnessed or how another person might remember events. This is true, and it shows that you are careful to avoid guessing. 4-4. Remain calm. Cross examination may get aggressive or even hostile. Stay calm and answer politely. The jury will not trust you if you become angry or hostile. If you remain calm and polite when the attorney is aggressive, the jury will likely see the attorney as being unprofessional. You will not look bad, the attorney badgering you will. If you find yourself getting flustered or angry, pause and take a breath. Think about your answer before you give it. It is much better to take a moment and then answer a question truthfully than to answer hastily and accidentally get something wrong. 4-5. Admit if you do not remember. The cross examiner may ask you about a previous statement you made. If you do not remember, say that you do not recall and ask to see or hear the statement before testifying to its contents. It’s much better to ask to refresh your memory than to guess about what you said earlier. If you incorrectly state what you think the statement said, the opposing attorney may be able to make it look like you were lying. If you made a mistake earlier and the cross-examining attorney points that out, acknowledge the mistake. Do not get flustered; simply ask to correct it. Tips If your religion prohibits swearing oaths, you can instead give a solemn affirmation to tell the truth. Tell the bailiff that you would prefer to use the affirmation instead of the oath before you are sworn in as a witness.[49] X Research source Don’t be afraid to ask any attorney to repeat his/her question! If you are confused, state that you are confused by the question and ask the attorney to rephrase it. In a deposition, you will usually continue answering after an objection is made. During a trial, if an attorney raises an objection while you're answering a question in the courtroom, stop speaking immediately and wait until you’re told whether you can continue answering. Many times an objection results in an attorney having to withdraw or restate the question. Warnings If you're caught lying on the witness stand or in any statements or depositions you gave before the trial, you can face hefty fines and even go to jail.
{ "create_time": "20230517 10:53:33", "回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Preparing to Testify\\n1-1. Review and organize.\\nConsider the main points you plan to convey, bearing in mind that it may not be necessary to address every detail. The attorney(s) for the side you are testifying may help you determine what it most significant, but what you choose to include in your testimony is up to you. Create a physical and/or electronic file that may include notes or reminders, a timeline or sequence of events, hard or soft copy documents or receipts, and references to other items that may be useful as evidence, such as voice recordings, conversations, etc. \\nCreate a timeline or list of talking points as you work through your recollection of events and the physical or electronic documents or evidence associated with those events.\\nIf you have a number of pieces of evidence supporting your testimony, include a reference to them with your talking points. Initially include anyone or anything that will support your presentation.\\nA simple school binder with tabs is sufficient for a less complicated topic. For more complex testimony, use of electronic tools such as PowerPoint, OneNote or Evergreen may be helpful.\\nRemember that you can't use “hearsay” in your testimony. If you are a witness in a case, you can't relate second-hand information. For example, if your friend Joe told you that he heard the defendant Sarah say that she was going to rob a bank, this is inadmissible hearsay. You did not hear the defendant say she was going to rob the bank.\\n1-2. Remember that you can't automatically use your notes during testimony.\\nIn most cases in the United States, the Federal Rules of Evidence prohibit witnesses from reading their testimony from documents or notes. If your testimony is extremely long, complicated or highly technical (for example, an “expert witness” with highly technical scientific processes to explain), you may have access to notes. The attorneys will advise you beforehand if you will be able to use notes.\\nIf you forget what you want to convey during your testimony, you may be shown notes or documents to “refresh your memory.” These can be used only to remind you of something you once knew. You will have to return the document or notes before making your statement.\\nIf you use written documents or notes during your testimony, the other side and their attorney have the right to look at those documents.\\n1-3. Review your written statements.\\nIf you talked to the police, gave a deposition, met with the attorneys in the case, or otherwise said anything that was written down (or recorded), get copies and read them over. This will help refresh your memory of details you may have forgotten.\\nYou may also want to condense, edit or “hold in abeyance” certain points or items of evidence. To hold something in abeyance means to leave something undetermined until a future time when it may be necessary. For example, if you think a part of your testimony is irrelevant -- e.g., a personal anecdote in the middle of a statement about an incident you witnessed -- you can hold it in abeyance.\\nRemember that if an attorney can point out a discrepancy between your court testimony and your previous statements, you can lose credibility with the jury.\\nYou will also be more persuasive if you can move confidently through the chain of events. Reviewing your statement will help refresh your memory of what you are testifying to.\\n1-4. Prepare with the attorney.\\nMany people believe that it’s illegal for an attorney to prepare a witness ahead of time for the questions that will be asked in court — it's not. Attorneys should have at least a general idea of what their witnesses will testify to. Attorneys in the United States may prepare you as a witness using any or all of the following: \\nDescribing your role to you and explaining how to conduct yourself in the courtroom.\\nDiscussing your recollections and reviewing any statements you made.\\nTelling you about other evidence and asking you to consider it as you think about your recollections.\\nGoing over the context of the case and how your testimony will fit into it.\\nReviewing other evidence that may be introduced in the case.\\nDiscussing probable questions from the other side that you may encounter.\\nNoting when your testimony could be confusing, overlong, or unclear.\\nSuggesting ways to communicate, such as “avoid jargon” or “use powerful language.”\\nAn attorney can't tell you what to say or what not to say or give you a script to memorize. These actions are ethics violations.\\nIf an adverse attorney is badgering you on this issue, the attorney is likely hoping you’ll say your attorney coached you on what to say (rather than your testimony being about things you personally know or witnessed). This should not be true, unless the attorney who prepared you committed an ethics violation; you should always feel free to say whatever is true in your testimony, regardless of preparation. However, it is not wrong to say that your attorney went over possible questions and reviewed your answers with you.\\n1-5. Practice your testimony.\\nIf you are a witness in a case where confidentiality is not an issue, try to present your case to a friend or relative who is not involved or familiar with the case. If you are not sure whether confidentiality is necessary, consult with the attorney who prepared you.\\nIf your statements seem confusing, contradictory or unpersuasive to someone who is already inclined to accept your point of view, go back to step 1. Review your list of key topics or timeline and the evidence you may have access to. Determine which points are most persuasive, and edit your talking points accordingly.\\nAt the same time, be prepared to address any related events or circumstances for which you have direct knowledge.\\n1-6. Avoid memorizing your testimony.\\nIt’s important to be comfortable with the details of your testimony. You want to convey confidence in what you say. However, attempting to memorize your testimony or talking points could make your testimony sound “pat” or rehearsed.\\nMemorizing is different from rehearsing. Attorneys are allowed to rehearse testimony with their witnesses. This helps you prepare to handle hostile questions and become comfortable with your testimony.\\nTrying to remember memorized wording during your live testimony could also make it more difficult for you to testify confidently. It could seem as though you are “making up” your testimony or are confused.\\n2. Preparing to Appear in Court\\n2-1. Familiarize yourself with the courthouse.\\nAcquaint yourself with the building and the locations of the courtrooms, restrooms, coffee carts, etc., so you won’t feel lost on the day you come to testify.\\nRemember that you will have to go through a metal detector and security checkpoint. Your bags may be searched or scanned.\\nDo not bring any contraband or weapons to court. If you must bring prescription medications, make sure they are identifiable as such and that the prescriptions are current.\\nIf you can, sit in on a different trial and watch a few witnesses give testimony. This will help you understand how witness testimony works. It may help you feel more comfortable when you testify.\\n2-2. Avoid disturbances in your routine.\\nFor example, if you usually eat breakfast, don’t skip it just because you might be feeling nervous. Food is not allowed in a courtroom. It can take a long time for you to be called as a witness once you’ve arrived, so be prepared to wait.\\nIt’s also a good idea to avoid drugs, alcohol or excessive caffeine before you testify. Even simple cough syrup or allergy medications can leave you feeling foggy and disoriented. Caffeine can make you jittery. A jury will pick up on these signs, and it may influence their opinion of your testimony.\\n2-3. Dress your best\\nFairly or not, the judge and jury will form an opinion about you based on your appearance. This opinion will have an effect on whether they believe your testimony. Check with your court’s website, if possible; official dress codes are often posted.\\nWear “business attire,” such as what you might wear to church or a funeral. You do not have to invest in an expensive suit, but your clothes should be neat, clean and modest.\\nGender norms are usually strongly present within courtrooms. If you are a man, wear a suit and tie, or a button-up shirt and slacks. If you are a woman, wear a skirt and blouse or dress. Women should also avoid heavy makeup and distracting jewelry.\\nYou should avoid anything that is too informal or “alternative.” Do not wear flip-flops, sandals, tennis shoes or sneakers or scuffed shoes. Avoid clothing with slogans, printed words, or flashy designs or logos. Don't wear jeans, shorts, t-shirts, miniskirts, low-cut or see-through clothing, low-rise pants or similarly informal or revealing clothing.\\nIf you have tattoos, cover them as well as you can.\\nDo not dye your hair an unusual color.\\nRemove body modifications or piercings.\\nDo not wear hats to court. Religious headgear, such as turbans, hijabs and kippahs, are allowed in courtrooms.\\n2-4. Contact the court office before your court appearance.\\nIt’s a good idea to check in with the appropriate offices before you come to court. Sometimes, cases can be rescheduled, dismissed or settled before you are even called as a witness. Call beforehand to make sure you appear at the right time and place.\\nCall the prosecutor’s office if you are a witness in a criminal case.\\nCall the assignment or court clerk’s office if you are a witness in a civil case.\\n2-5. Arrive on time.\\nYou will be told when and where to appear in court. You may receive a subpoena, which is a court order to appear in court to testify. You may be held in contempt of court if you are late or do not appear.\\nGive yourself enough time to get to the courthouse. Remember that delays can happen. It may not be easy to find parking, or your public transit could run late. Make sure that you have plenty of time to arrive at the courthouse and be directed to where you’re going.\\n2-6. Avoid discussing the case with anyone in the courthouse.\\nJurors who may hear your testimony in the case could be in the same public areas of the courthouse as you are while you are waiting to give your testimony. You are not allowed to discuss the case with the judge or jury outside of your testimony so do not discuss the case or your testimony with anyone outside the courtroom.\\nIf someone approaches you and tries to discuss the case or intimidate you, contact the court staff.\\n3. Testifying in Court\\n3-1. Look at the jury.\\nWhen answering questions, you should primarily look only at the jury or the attorney questioning you. If you look at anyone else, such as the defendant or someone in the gallery, it can seem as if you're seeking approval or checking to see how you should answer. This can hurt your credibility with the jury.\\nAttorneys will often ask that you look at the jury during a direct examination (when your side’s attorney is doing the questioning). This helps the jury to focus on your testimony and build trust and rapport with you.\\nAdditionally, maintaining some kind of eye contact with the jury during cross-examination can reduce the effect of an aggressive opposing attorney who wants the jury’s attention on him or her, rather than you.\\nIf the judge speaks to you, of course, you should directly address the judge.\\n3-2. Pay attention.\\nListen attentively to the questions that are being asked. Do not let your attention wander. If you look as though you are bored or not listening, your testimony may not be as effective.\\nMaintain good posture while on the witness stand. Sit up straight. Do not cross your arms or slouch.\\n3-3. Wait until the questioner is finished.\\nBe careful to wait until the question is finished before answering. This is not a game show where it helps to buzz in early.\\nRemember that a court reporter is tasked with transcribing the proceedings. If you’re talking over someone else, much of what you say may not make it onto the record.\\nAsk for clarification when necessary. If you do not understand a question, ask for clarification. Do not answer a question unless you are certain you know the answer.\\n3-4. Answer directly.\\nAnswer only the question that is asked. Do not offer information that you were not asked for. Do not guess. If you do not know the answer to a question being asked, say that you do not know.\\nIt is especially important to avoid “volunteering” information during cross-examination. The opposing attorney may try to catch you in an inconsistency or confuse you.\\nFocus more on being concise than providing every small detail. Don't “take the long way around” to the answer or include information that you did not directly see or hear. Doing so may make it seem like you are avoiding the question, or that you have something to hide.\\nDo not use statements that convey absolute certainty, such as “Nothing else happened” or “That’s all that she said.” Instead, say “That’s all I recall.” You may end up recalling some additional detail later, and you don’t want to sound like you are lying.\\nIf you make a mistake, correct it immediately. Say “May I correct that?” You may be asked why you need to correct your statement. Explain honestly that you made a mistake.\\n3-5. Respond clearly and audibly.\\nIn many courtrooms, a microphone will record your testimony. Its purpose is not to amplify your voice. Speak loudly enough that the juror farthest from you can hear your answer.\\nDon't answer with nods or head shakes, shrugs, a thumbs up or even an \\\"uh-huh.\\\" Don't use slang, legal terminology or police lingo. Your testimony is being written down. For that to happen, you must speak clearly and unambiguously.\\nDon’t use sarcasm or humor. It can be difficult to determine whether you are being serious or not. Humor is highly subjective, and others may not interpret your statements the way you intend them. Speak plainly and honestly.\\n3-6. Be polite and respectful.\\nAddress the attorneys as \\\"Sir\\\" or \\\"Ma’am\\\" and the judge as “Your Honor.”\\nDon't interrupt the attorneys or be too quick to answer.\\nDon't allow yourself to become angry, even if an attorney tries to provoke you. Angry witnesses may end up exaggerating. The judge and/or jury may not take your testimony seriously if you appear angry or emotional.\\nDon't use obscene language unless you’re asked to repeat what you heard someone else say.\\n3-7. Tell the truth.\\nNo matter how you think it will sound or how much you think it will hurt your attorney's case, tell the absolute truth. Lies can be easily picked apart by the opposition, which can damage your credibility and taint everything else you said.\\nDo not give your opinion of those involved or accused of being involved. Straying from factual statements can damage your credibility by making it seem like you are biased against one side.\\nIf questioned on your feelings toward the defendant, perhaps simply say you came forward as a witness to explain what you saw and heard, and you try not to judge anyone, including the defendant.\\n4. Handling Cross Examination\\n4-1. Protect your credibility.\\nCross examination can be nerve-wracking. The opposing attorney will try to discredit your testimony, or get you to say something that helps his or her side of the case. Be aware of how to handle yourself.\\nRemember that the purpose of cross examination is to raise doubts about your testimony and point out inconsistencies. Do not take these efforts personally.\\nAvoid exaggerating. Make specific, concrete statements. Avoid making broad or overly generalizing statements because they can damage your credibility.\\n4-2. Refrain from expanding on \\\"yes or no\\\" questions.\\nThe opposing attorney may try to ask you yes/no questions that do not need to be expanded on. Answer with a “yes” or “no.” Do not offer additional information. Trying to explain yourself when asked a yes or no question can be interpreted as dodging the question.\\nWatch out for “leading” questions. You do not have to go along with the information in any question you are asked.\\nFor example, you might be asked, “Isn’t it true that you had had four beers when the incident happened?” If you drank only three beers, don't try to explain that. Simply reply “No.” It is in fact not true that you drank four beers.\\nAnswer the cross-examining attorney’s questions with “yes” or “no.” Your attorney can bring up any additional questions or ask for further explanation once cross examination is finished.\\n4-3. Correct any misinterpretations or mistakes.\\nThe opposing attorney may try to twist your words or lead you into a mistake. Remain calm, but explain that you did not say what the attorney claims you said.\\nFor example, you might answer that “The light was yellow when I saw car A hit car B.” The cross-examining attorney might say, “So you’re saying the light turned red.” Politely restate what you said: “No. I said that the light was yellow when I saw car A hit car B.”\\nCorrecting misinterpretations ensures that your testimony is accurate. It can also demonstrate to the jury that you are reasonable and attentive to detail. It may even make the cross-examining attorney look bad for trying to mislead you.\\nYou may be asked whether another witness was lying or telling the truth. Reply that you can’t know what another person might have witnessed or how another person might remember events. This is true, and it shows that you are careful to avoid guessing.\\n4-4. Remain calm.\\nCross examination may get aggressive or even hostile. Stay calm and answer politely. The jury will not trust you if you become angry or hostile.\\nIf you remain calm and polite when the attorney is aggressive, the jury will likely see the attorney as being unprofessional. You will not look bad, the attorney badgering you will.\\nIf you find yourself getting flustered or angry, pause and take a breath. Think about your answer before you give it. It is much better to take a moment and then answer a question truthfully than to answer hastily and accidentally get something wrong.\\n4-5. Admit if you do not remember.\\nThe cross examiner may ask you about a previous statement you made. If you do not remember, say that you do not recall and ask to see or hear the statement before testifying to its contents.\\nIt’s much better to ask to refresh your memory than to guess about what you said earlier. If you incorrectly state what you think the statement said, the opposing attorney may be able to make it look like you were lying.\\nIf you made a mistake earlier and the cross-examining attorney points that out, acknowledge the mistake. Do not get flustered; simply ask to correct it.\\nTips\\nIf your religion prohibits swearing oaths, you can instead give a solemn affirmation to tell the truth. Tell the bailiff that you would prefer to use the affirmation instead of the oath before you are sworn in as a witness.[49]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nDon’t be afraid to ask any attorney to repeat his/her question! If you are confused, state that you are confused by the question and ask the attorney to rephrase it.\\nIn a deposition, you will usually continue answering after an objection is made. During a trial, if an attorney raises an objection while you're answering a question in the courtroom, stop speaking immediately and wait until you’re told whether you can continue answering. Many times an objection results in an attorney having to withdraw or restate the question.\\nWarnings\\nIf you're caught lying on the witness stand or in any statements or depositions you gave before the trial, you can face hefty fines and even go to jail.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As a witness in court, you play a very important part of the legal process. In a criminal case, what you say and how you say it can keep an innocent person from going to jail or ensure that a guilty person is not set free to commit new crimes. In a civil lawsuit, your testimony will not usually send anyone to jail, but it can significantly affect fundamental legal rights. Taking the time to learn to be a good witness in court is crucial, because the jury will arrive at a verdict based on not only what you say, but on their impression of you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing to Testify\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Review and organize.\", \"描述\": \"Consider the main points you plan to convey, bearing in mind that it may not be necessary to address every detail. The attorney(s) for the side you are testifying may help you determine what it most significant, but what you choose to include in your testimony is up to you. Create a physical and/or electronic file that may include notes or reminders, a timeline or sequence of events, hard or soft copy documents or receipts, and references to other items that may be useful as evidence, such as voice recordings, conversations, etc. \\nCreate a timeline or list of talking points as you work through your recollection of events and the physical or electronic documents or evidence associated with those events.\\nIf you have a number of pieces of evidence supporting your testimony, include a reference to them with your talking points. Initially include anyone or anything that will support your presentation.\\nA simple school binder with tabs is sufficient for a less complicated topic. For more complex testimony, use of electronic tools such as PowerPoint, OneNote or Evergreen may be helpful.\\nRemember that you can't use “hearsay” in your testimony. If you are a witness in a case, you can't relate second-hand information. For example, if your friend Joe told you that he heard the defendant Sarah say that she was going to rob a bank, this is inadmissible hearsay. You did not hear the defendant say she was going to rob the bank.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Remember that you can't automatically use your notes during testimony.\", \"描述\": \"In most cases in the United States, the Federal Rules of Evidence prohibit witnesses from reading their testimony from documents or notes. If your testimony is extremely long, complicated or highly technical (for example, an “expert witness” with highly technical scientific processes to explain), you may have access to notes. The attorneys will advise you beforehand if you will be able to use notes.\\nIf you forget what you want to convey during your testimony, you may be shown notes or documents to “refresh your memory.” These can be used only to remind you of something you once knew. You will have to return the document or notes before making your statement.\\nIf you use written documents or notes during your testimony, the other side and their attorney have the right to look at those documents.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Review your written statements.\", \"描述\": \"If you talked to the police, gave a deposition, met with the attorneys in the case, or otherwise said anything that was written down (or recorded), get copies and read them over. This will help refresh your memory of details you may have forgotten.\\nYou may also want to condense, edit or “hold in abeyance” certain points or items of evidence. To hold something in abeyance means to leave something undetermined until a future time when it may be necessary. For example, if you think a part of your testimony is irrelevant -- e.g., a personal anecdote in the middle of a statement about an incident you witnessed -- you can hold it in abeyance.\\nRemember that if an attorney can point out a discrepancy between your court testimony and your previous statements, you can lose credibility with the jury.\\nYou will also be more persuasive if you can move confidently through the chain of events. Reviewing your statement will help refresh your memory of what you are testifying to.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Prepare with the attorney.\", \"描述\": \"Many people believe that it’s illegal for an attorney to prepare a witness ahead of time for the questions that will be asked in court — it's not. Attorneys should have at least a general idea of what their witnesses will testify to. Attorneys in the United States may prepare you as a witness using any or all of the following: \\nDescribing your role to you and explaining how to conduct yourself in the courtroom.\\nDiscussing your recollections and reviewing any statements you made.\\nTelling you about other evidence and asking you to consider it as you think about your recollections.\\nGoing over the context of the case and how your testimony will fit into it.\\nReviewing other evidence that may be introduced in the case.\\nDiscussing probable questions from the other side that you may encounter.\\nNoting when your testimony could be confusing, overlong, or unclear.\\nSuggesting ways to communicate, such as “avoid jargon” or “use powerful language.”\\nAn attorney can't tell you what to say or what not to say or give you a script to memorize. These actions are ethics violations.\\nIf an adverse attorney is badgering you on this issue, the attorney is likely hoping you’ll say your attorney coached you on what to say (rather than your testimony being about things you personally know or witnessed). This should not be true, unless the attorney who prepared you committed an ethics violation; you should always feel free to say whatever is true in your testimony, regardless of preparation. However, it is not wrong to say that your attorney went over possible questions and reviewed your answers with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice your testimony.\", \"描述\": \"If you are a witness in a case where confidentiality is not an issue, try to present your case to a friend or relative who is not involved or familiar with the case. If you are not sure whether confidentiality is necessary, consult with the attorney who prepared you.\\nIf your statements seem confusing, contradictory or unpersuasive to someone who is already inclined to accept your point of view, go back to step 1. Review your list of key topics or timeline and the evidence you may have access to. Determine which points are most persuasive, and edit your talking points accordingly.\\nAt the same time, be prepared to address any related events or circumstances for which you have direct knowledge.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid memorizing your testimony.\", \"描述\": \"It’s important to be comfortable with the details of your testimony. You want to convey confidence in what you say. However, attempting to memorize your testimony or talking points could make your testimony sound “pat” or rehearsed.\\nMemorizing is different from rehearsing. Attorneys are allowed to rehearse testimony with their witnesses. This helps you prepare to handle hostile questions and become comfortable with your testimony.\\nTrying to remember memorized wording during your live testimony could also make it more difficult for you to testify confidently. It could seem as though you are “making up” your testimony or are confused.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Preparing to Appear in Court\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with the courthouse.\", \"描述\": \"Acquaint yourself with the building and the locations of the courtrooms, restrooms, coffee carts, etc., so you won’t feel lost on the day you come to testify.\\nRemember that you will have to go through a metal detector and security checkpoint. Your bags may be searched or scanned.\\nDo not bring any contraband or weapons to court. If you must bring prescription medications, make sure they are identifiable as such and that the prescriptions are current.\\nIf you can, sit in on a different trial and watch a few witnesses give testimony. This will help you understand how witness testimony works. It may help you feel more comfortable when you testify.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid disturbances in your routine.\", \"描述\": \"For example, if you usually eat breakfast, don’t skip it just because you might be feeling nervous. Food is not allowed in a courtroom. It can take a long time for you to be called as a witness once you’ve arrived, so be prepared to wait.\\nIt’s also a good idea to avoid drugs, alcohol or excessive caffeine before you testify. Even simple cough syrup or allergy medications can leave you feeling foggy and disoriented. Caffeine can make you jittery. A jury will pick up on these signs, and it may influence their opinion of your testimony.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dress your best\", \"描述\": \"Fairly or not, the judge and jury will form an opinion about you based on your appearance. This opinion will have an effect on whether they believe your testimony. Check with your court’s website, if possible; official dress codes are often posted.\\nWear “business attire,” such as what you might wear to church or a funeral. You do not have to invest in an expensive suit, but your clothes should be neat, clean and modest.\\nGender norms are usually strongly present within courtrooms. If you are a man, wear a suit and tie, or a button-up shirt and slacks. If you are a woman, wear a skirt and blouse or dress. Women should also avoid heavy makeup and distracting jewelry.\\nYou should avoid anything that is too informal or “alternative.” Do not wear flip-flops, sandals, tennis shoes or sneakers or scuffed shoes. Avoid clothing with slogans, printed words, or flashy designs or logos. Don't wear jeans, shorts, t-shirts, miniskirts, low-cut or see-through clothing, low-rise pants or similarly informal or revealing clothing.\\nIf you have tattoos, cover them as well as you can.\\nDo not dye your hair an unusual color.\\nRemove body modifications or piercings.\\nDo not wear hats to court. Religious headgear, such as turbans, hijabs and kippahs, are allowed in courtrooms.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Contact the court office before your court appearance.\", \"描述\": \"It’s a good idea to check in with the appropriate offices before you come to court. Sometimes, cases can be rescheduled, dismissed or settled before you are even called as a witness. Call beforehand to make sure you appear at the right time and place.\\nCall the prosecutor’s office if you are a witness in a criminal case.\\nCall the assignment or court clerk’s office if you are a witness in a civil case.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Arrive on time.\", \"描述\": \"You will be told when and where to appear in court. You may receive a subpoena, which is a court order to appear in court to testify. You may be held in contempt of court if you are late or do not appear.\\nGive yourself enough time to get to the courthouse. Remember that delays can happen. It may not be easy to find parking, or your public transit could run late. Make sure that you have plenty of time to arrive at the courthouse and be directed to where you’re going.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid discussing the case with anyone in the courthouse.\", \"描述\": \"Jurors who may hear your testimony in the case could be in the same public areas of the courthouse as you are while you are waiting to give your testimony. You are not allowed to discuss the case with the judge or jury outside of your testimony so do not discuss the case or your testimony with anyone outside the courtroom.\\nIf someone approaches you and tries to discuss the case or intimidate you, contact the court staff.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Testifying in Court\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look at the jury.\", \"描述\": \"When answering questions, you should primarily look only at the jury or the attorney questioning you. If you look at anyone else, such as the defendant or someone in the gallery, it can seem as if you're seeking approval or checking to see how you should answer. This can hurt your credibility with the jury.\\nAttorneys will often ask that you look at the jury during a direct examination (when your side’s attorney is doing the questioning). This helps the jury to focus on your testimony and build trust and rapport with you.\\nAdditionally, maintaining some kind of eye contact with the jury during cross-examination can reduce the effect of an aggressive opposing attorney who wants the jury’s attention on him or her, rather than you.\\nIf the judge speaks to you, of course, you should directly address the judge.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pay attention.\", \"描述\": \"Listen attentively to the questions that are being asked. Do not let your attention wander. If you look as though you are bored or not listening, your testimony may not be as effective.\\nMaintain good posture while on the witness stand. Sit up straight. Do not cross your arms or slouch.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wait until the questioner is finished.\", \"描述\": \"Be careful to wait until the question is finished before answering. This is not a game show where it helps to buzz in early.\\nRemember that a court reporter is tasked with transcribing the proceedings. If you’re talking over someone else, much of what you say may not make it onto the record.\\nAsk for clarification when necessary. If you do not understand a question, ask for clarification. Do not answer a question unless you are certain you know the answer.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Answer directly.\", \"描述\": \"Answer only the question that is asked. Do not offer information that you were not asked for. Do not guess. If you do not know the answer to a question being asked, say that you do not know.\\nIt is especially important to avoid “volunteering” information during cross-examination. The opposing attorney may try to catch you in an inconsistency or confuse you.\\nFocus more on being concise than providing every small detail. Don't “take the long way around” to the answer or include information that you did not directly see or hear. Doing so may make it seem like you are avoiding the question, or that you have something to hide.\\nDo not use statements that convey absolute certainty, such as “Nothing else happened” or “That’s all that she said.” Instead, say “That’s all I recall.” You may end up recalling some additional detail later, and you don’t want to sound like you are lying.\\nIf you make a mistake, correct it immediately. Say “May I correct that?” You may be asked why you need to correct your statement. Explain honestly that you made a mistake.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Respond clearly and audibly.\", \"描述\": \"In many courtrooms, a microphone will record your testimony. Its purpose is not to amplify your voice. Speak loudly enough that the juror farthest from you can hear your answer.\\nDon't answer with nods or head shakes, shrugs, a thumbs up or even an \\\"uh-huh.\\\" Don't use slang, legal terminology or police lingo. Your testimony is being written down. For that to happen, you must speak clearly and unambiguously.\\nDon’t use sarcasm or humor. It can be difficult to determine whether you are being serious or not. Humor is highly subjective, and others may not interpret your statements the way you intend them. Speak plainly and honestly.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be polite and respectful.\", \"描述\": \"Address the attorneys as \\\"Sir\\\" or \\\"Ma’am\\\" and the judge as “Your Honor.”\\nDon't interrupt the attorneys or be too quick to answer.\\nDon't allow yourself to become angry, even if an attorney tries to provoke you. Angry witnesses may end up exaggerating. The judge and/or jury may not take your testimony seriously if you appear angry or emotional.\\nDon't use obscene language unless you’re asked to repeat what you heard someone else say.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Tell the truth.\", \"描述\": \"No matter how you think it will sound or how much you think it will hurt your attorney's case, tell the absolute truth. Lies can be easily picked apart by the opposition, which can damage your credibility and taint everything else you said.\\nDo not give your opinion of those involved or accused of being involved. Straying from factual statements can damage your credibility by making it seem like you are biased against one side.\\nIf questioned on your feelings toward the defendant, perhaps simply say you came forward as a witness to explain what you saw and heard, and you try not to judge anyone, including the defendant.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Handling Cross Examination\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Protect your credibility.\", \"描述\": \"Cross examination can be nerve-wracking. The opposing attorney will try to discredit your testimony, or get you to say something that helps his or her side of the case. Be aware of how to handle yourself.\\nRemember that the purpose of cross examination is to raise doubts about your testimony and point out inconsistencies. Do not take these efforts personally.\\nAvoid exaggerating. Make specific, concrete statements. Avoid making broad or overly generalizing statements because they can damage your credibility.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Refrain from expanding on \\\"yes or no\\\" questions.\", \"描述\": \"The opposing attorney may try to ask you yes/no questions that do not need to be expanded on. Answer with a “yes” or “no.” Do not offer additional information. Trying to explain yourself when asked a yes or no question can be interpreted as dodging the question.\\nWatch out for “leading” questions. You do not have to go along with the information in any question you are asked.\\nFor example, you might be asked, “Isn’t it true that you had had four beers when the incident happened?” If you drank only three beers, don't try to explain that. Simply reply “No.” It is in fact not true that you drank four beers.\\nAnswer the cross-examining attorney’s questions with “yes” or “no.” Your attorney can bring up any additional questions or ask for further explanation once cross examination is finished.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Correct any misinterpretations or mistakes.\", \"描述\": \"The opposing attorney may try to twist your words or lead you into a mistake. Remain calm, but explain that you did not say what the attorney claims you said.\\nFor example, you might answer that “The light was yellow when I saw car A hit car B.” The cross-examining attorney might say, “So you’re saying the light turned red.” Politely restate what you said: “No. I said that the light was yellow when I saw car A hit car B.”\\nCorrecting misinterpretations ensures that your testimony is accurate. It can also demonstrate to the jury that you are reasonable and attentive to detail. It may even make the cross-examining attorney look bad for trying to mislead you.\\nYou may be asked whether another witness was lying or telling the truth. Reply that you can’t know what another person might have witnessed or how another person might remember events. This is true, and it shows that you are careful to avoid guessing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Remain calm.\", \"描述\": \"Cross examination may get aggressive or even hostile. Stay calm and answer politely. The jury will not trust you if you become angry or hostile.\\nIf you remain calm and polite when the attorney is aggressive, the jury will likely see the attorney as being unprofessional. You will not look bad, the attorney badgering you will.\\nIf you find yourself getting flustered or angry, pause and take a breath. Think about your answer before you give it. It is much better to take a moment and then answer a question truthfully than to answer hastily and accidentally get something wrong.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Admit if you do not remember.\", \"描述\": \"The cross examiner may ask you about a previous statement you made. If you do not remember, say that you do not recall and ask to see or hear the statement before testifying to its contents.\\nIt’s much better to ask to refresh your memory than to guess about what you said earlier. If you incorrectly state what you think the statement said, the opposing attorney may be able to make it look like you were lying.\\nIf you made a mistake earlier and the cross-examining attorney points that out, acknowledge the mistake. Do not get flustered; simply ask to correct it.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If your religion prohibits swearing oaths, you can instead give a solemn affirmation to tell the truth. Tell the bailiff that you would prefer to use the affirmation instead of the oath before you are sworn in as a witness.[49]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Don’t be afraid to ask any attorney to repeat his/her question! If you are confused, state that you are confused by the question and ask the attorney to rephrase it.\\n\", \"In a deposition, you will usually continue answering after an objection is made. During a trial, if an attorney raises an objection while you're answering a question in the courtroom, stop speaking immediately and wait until you’re told whether you can continue answering. Many times an objection results in an attorney having to withdraw or restate the question.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If you're caught lying on the witness stand or in any statements or depositions you gave before the trial, you can face hefty fines and even go to jail.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Workaholic
1. Exceeding expectations 1-1. Ask for overtime. The most straightforward way to show a serious dedication to your work is to simply work more than the average employee. Though some companies have policies against giving overtime hours to employees, many will allow you to do so. If your company is receptive to the idea of you working overtime, ask your supervisor for permission right away. Not only will this show your boss that you're willing to go that all-important extra step to get the job done, but it will also give you a nice bump in your next paycheck. In the United States, the Fair Labor Standards Act (FLSA) dictates that employees that work more than 40 hours in a given week will receive at least one and a half times their base pay for the additional hours worked. Though individual states may have laws that differ, eligible employees are legally entitled to the federal one and a half rate if it is higher than state law allows. Note that overtime generally is only an option for hourly employees—salaried employees don't necessarily get paid more for working longer hours. If you're salaried, you may instead want to ask your supervisor for a bonus for performing extra work. 1-2. Pursue new projects without being asked. Generally, managers and supervisors love it when their employees take on additional responsibilities without being told to do so. Doing so shows initiative, intelligence, and ambition. If executed correctly, it can also make life easier for your boss which can earn you their respect as well as more tangible rewards. However, when pursuing new projects, be careful not to overstep your authority or embarrass other employees. Your goal is to be ambitious; not arrogant. Below are just a few ideas to get you started: Present your boss with a report detailing ways that have made your work more efficient, then suggest ways to use your ideas throughout the work place. Organize and run meetings to help you work effectively on other projects without bothering your boss. Brainstorm to create a list of strategies for increasing the company profits. Organize internal office events (birthday parties, holidays, and so on). 1-3. Engage in work place life. It's much, much easier to work effectively if you have a positive relationship with your colleagues. This means making an effort to have friendly, positive interactions with everyone on a regular basis. At the very least, you should strive to spend meal breaks with your coworkers on most days. Use these opportunities to get to know your coworkers through small talk and friendly conversation. If you can't think of anything to say, you can always ask about the food they're eating. If you find that you enjoy talking to your coworkers, you may want to invite them to spend time with you outside of work. For instance, you can invite them to get drinks with you, to play a game of golf (or your preferred sport), or to visit a mutual acquaintance. However, if you don't see yourself being a close friend to your coworkers, this isn't absolutely necessary. 1-4. Finish projects early. Work can often seem like one long chain of looming deadlines—daily duties need to be finished by the time you leave each day, minor projects need to be finished by the end of the week, major projects need to be finished by the end of the month, and so on. If you can manage to complete your work earlier than you're required to, not only will you make a great impression on your superiors, but you'll also give yourself a chance to take on additional responsibilities, which can in turn increase your profile at work. When your superiors are giving out promotions, they're likely to consider the hard-working, prompt employees first. Make sure you're at the top of their list by gaining a reputation for delivering high-quality work with a quick turnaround. While it's a great idea to make a habit of turning in projects early, be careful not to do this too much. If you turn in every single project early, your superiors may get the impression that they're not giving you enough to do and may increase your workload, making you work more for the same pay. If you can, try to focus on turning in only the most important, attention-grabbing projects early. 1-5. Consistently deliver more than expected. As noted above, most managers and supervisors respect hard work, ambition, and creativity. If you're looking to get ahead at work, there's hardly a better way to do it than by giving your managers more than what they expect. Doing this shows that you're serious about your commitment to your job and that you're a valuable employee who does more than others who deliver what is asked. However, as when attempting to finish projects early, you'll need to balance your ambition with the reality that consistently working extremely hard can be tremendously taxing on the body and mind. Try to reserve your absolute best efforts for important projects that are likely to be noticed and appreciated. Below are just a few ideas: If asked to present a report of internal company data, do your own independent research and extrapolate meaningful take-aways from your results. If asked to clean up a cluttered storeroom, develop your own system for organizing the items and write out directions so others can use the system. If sales figures for your company are slipping, develop and test your own sales techniques, then share them with your coworkers. 1-6. Bring your work home with you. When most people get home from a long day on the job, more work is the last thing they have on their mind. However, if you can stand to do so, occasionally doing additional work at home can separate you from the pack. This can be in the form of telecommuting to meetings from your home computer, doing additional research or analysis "homework" for important projects, taking important business calls, and more. If you have a family, you'll want to avoid doing excessive amounts of work at home. While a single person can get away with doing lots of extra work at home, the commitments of a family can make it difficult to devote your entire attention to your work when you're at home. The exception to this rule, of course, is if the nature of your job requires you to do most or all of your work from home. 2. Getting noticed 2-1. Dress for success. Though there are plenty of exceptions to the rule, in general, people are somewhat shallow, especially if they know you in a formal business context. If you dress in a serious, dignified manner, people (including your bosses and coworkers) are more likely to treat you seriously. This doesn't necessarily mean that you need to wear tailored suits to work every day—expensive is not always better. Unless you've got the cash for a seriously high-class wardrobe, you're probably better off sticking with one of the affordable yet dignified options below: - It's hard to go wrong with a plain pair of khakis or slacks and a modest dress shirt. For extra class, you may want to consider adding a jacket and a tie. If you work at a casual place of business (like an internet startup), you may be able to get away with an outfit as informal as a T-shirt and shorts. It is a good rule of thumb, though, to dress one station higher than your current position, that is—dress on a par with the most sartorial stylish of your bosses' colleagues. - A long-sleeved shirt and skirt combination works well in most offices. Conservative dresses are also a good option. Suits and pantsuits are smart choices for jobs that require you to interact with the public. While casual jobs may allow you to get away with a T-shirt and jeans, it is best to not go that route, or step it up a notch with a bit dressier attire. 2-2. Value the importance of all that you do. In addition to dressing to fit the part of a serious, dedicated employee, you'll want to ensure that your deportment also gives this impression. To a certain extent, others' opinions of you are shaped by your opinion of yourself. Thus, treating whatever you're doing at the moment as highly important is a great way to make other people in the office realize that you are important. Try adopting the following habits to ensure that people think of you as an indispensable employee: Walk briskly and with purpose, even if you're just heading to the cooler to get a drink of water. Articulate clearly and confidently. When you walk past people, greet them warmly, but keep walking. Sit up straight in your chair when at your desk. 2-3. Don't be afraid to express your opinions. For the most part, unless they have delicate egos, bosses appreciate receiving feedback from their employees—positive or negative. Offering your opinions occasionally shows that you're engaged in your job and that you care what happens to yourself and to the company. Depending on the company morale at your workplace, this can noticeably set you apart from the majority of employees. Below are a few ideas for when and where it's appropriate to express yourself: At company strategy meetings, offer ideas for how the company can make itself more competitive. Ask intelligent questions whenever you are unsure of how to proceed in your work. This can make you look especially good if you do so when others seem reluctant to pose their own questions (like during an awkward silence following a tense meeting). If you're unhappy about some aspect of your job, talk to your supervisor about changing it. However, don't be offended if you receive a "no". 2-4. Seek out challenges. Taking on new responsibilities at work can be quite challenging, especially before you've had time to adjust to a new role. However, if you're successfully able to perform your new duties, you'll be rewarded with recognition, a more important position at your business, and (possibly) more money. However, in seeking new responsibilities, be sure not to over-extend yourself by biting off more than you can chew. Make sure that you can handle the additional workload before taking on new responsibilities or you run the risk of having to ask for less work, which can be embarrassing on a professional level. If there aren't any obvious ways to expand your current responsibilities at work, try asking your supervisor directly for more responsibilities. There's a significant chance that she or he will be able to assign you additional work, and even if she or he can't, you'll be noticed for taking the initiative to ask for it. 2-5. Call attention to your efforts. If you work hard, you deserve to be recognized for it. However, in the hustle and bustle of the work week, good work can easily go unnoticed. Don't let your accomplishments get swept under the rug. Instead, look for excuses to showcase your efforts. Try to bring up successful projects in ways that make it clear that you are responsible for the success without seeming like a braggart. If you've actually done a good job, you have no need to be embarrassed by doing so. Below are just a few opportunities where you may have the opportunity to show off your good work: If you've completed a project and haven't received much recognition, try sharing it with others via a group email. You can easily pose your email as a mere "keeping everyone up to speed" message while ensuring that important coworkers and supervisors see your work. If you've completed a project that is relevant to a new project being discussed, bring up your old work as an example of how to proceed or as guidance for new areas of work to explore. 2-6. Be friendly, but not irreverent. Having an upbeat, positive attitude in the workplace isn't just a way to appear energetic and motivated to others, it's also a way to keep your own spirits up and make yourself a more effective worker. If you go out of your way to be friendly, you'll have an easier time interacting with other employees and they will also generally find it easier to work with you. This makes it easier to collaborate or ask for help on projects, thereby increasing your productivity. Finally, it's worth noting that you're more likely to receive rewards and promotions if you're well-liked. While you'll want to make an effort to be friendly, you'll want to stay away from touchy topics of conversation and racy humor. Getting a quick laugh isn't worth sabotaging your efforts by offending a coworker or showing a lack of sensitivity. 3. Fostering good work habits 3-1. Eliminate distractions while you work. There's no reason to spend hours and hours at work if you can't get anything done while you're working. Ensure that you're a productive worker by removing any and all distractions that might sidetrack your efforts to get your work done. Some ideas for eliminating some of the most common distractions for workers are listed below: Reduce the distraction of idle noise/chatter at the workplace by using headphones or earplugs or moving to a different work area. Cordially tell the persistent conversationalists that you're busy and will be able to talk when you're done. Alternatively, try placing a sign at your desk or work area politely notifying others not to disturb you. Install productivity add-ons and site-blocking programs to your browser to circumvent the tendency to pursue internet diversions (games, social media, and other time drains). 3-2. Set ambitious (but realistic) goals. If you're having trouble staying motivated to work hard, deciding on a specific goal and deadline can help you get out of the workday doldrums and focus on the task at hand. When choosing goals, be ambitious, but have a firm grasp of what you can and can't achieve in a given time frame. Setting goals that are out of your reach is setting yourself up for failure, which can cause you to feel like an under-achiever. It is likely that setting goals too high will end up hurting your morale and make it even more difficult to stay motivated in the long run. 3-3. Break big projects down into manageable parts. Sometimes, important projects can seem so large and intimidating that it's difficult to tell where to start. In these cases, it can be helpful to focus on some small but significant aspect of the project and complete this first. Completing this small part of the larger project gives you a sense of achievement that you can use to fuel your motivation as you continue to the rest of the project. You'll also have an idea of which parts of the project are likely to cause problems and can thus dedicate more effort to these things. For example, if you've been tasked with making a half-hour presentation to a group of high-level company employees, you might want to start by focusing on creating a thorough, detailed outline. Though the outline only represents a fraction of the work needed to prepare for the presentation, it can make the rest of the project easier by guiding your creation of slides, talking points, and so on. 3-4. Try to inspire greatness in others. Leadership is a skill that's desirable in nearly all professions. Supervisors look for employees who have natural leadership abilities when they're looking for employees to reward. Showing leadership at work can get you recognition, more important responsibilities, and even raises and promotions. To demonstrate leadership, make an effort to help others in their duties and to spearhead your own group projects. As noted above, you'll also want to ensure that your leadership is recognized by showing it to others and bringing it up at appropriate opportunities. If you have a reputation as a leader at your workplace, it's usually only a matter of time before you become an actual leader. Below are a few opportunities for leadership: Take advantage to opportunities to train new employees and help them become acquainted with their duties. Design your own project, then, with permission from your supervisors, enlist other employees to help you complete it. Make a point of leading the discussion during group meetings which have no designated leader. 4. Staying healthy and happy 4-1. Schedule time for breaks. Workaholics should spend much of their time working, but they shouldn't spend every second of their day working. Occasional breaks recharge your body and mind, ensuring that you're as sharp as possible throughout the day and increasing your long-term productivity. Additionally, breaks help you stay in a good mood, which can be an essential component of staying effective at your job, especially if you work face-to-face with customers. Don't skip your breaks to squeeze in a few more minutes of work—work smarter, not longer. It's worth noting that you may also be legally obligated to take breaks. In the United States, there are some federal laws dictating the types of breaks an employer is obligated to provide. However, state laws vary from state to state. For instance, in California, employees must take a 30-minute meal break if they work for more than five hours straight unless their total work for the day is less than six hours. 4-2. Don't work during time off. During vacations, sick days, days off, and family time, try to work as little as possible, if at all. The periods in which you're off of work are meant to allow you to recharge your energy reserves, reset your attitude, brighten your outlook, and recuperate from the grind of working hard. While some work may be unavoidable, devoting too much of your "off" time to work will short-circuit the restorative benefits you might have gained. To ensure that you're able to stay fully motivated when you're actually at work, allow yourself to enjoy your days off completely work-free. Keeping your schedule clear during your time off may mean doing additional work before you leave. If this is the case, do as much work as you can before your time off so that you'll be able to spend as little effort worrying about work as possible. 4-3. Get plenty of sleep. Nearly every part of a job is more difficult if you're not well-rested. Staying focused during meetings, keeping track of numerous projects, and ensuring your work gets done on time can be challenging when you haven't had sufficient rest. To avoid these problems, try to get a full night of sleep as often as possible (if not every night). Doing so makes it easier for you to stay focused on your work when it really counts—at your job. By keeping your immune system strong, adequate sleep also decreases the likelihood that you'll need to take time off of work because of illness. Though everyone's biological needs are different, most medical sources agree that adults generally need somewhere in the neighborhood of seven to nine hours of sleep on a regular basis for optimal health, mood, and mental function. 4-4. Maintain interests outside of work. Though work should be a big focus of a workaholic's life, it shouldn't be their only focus. Having friends and hobbies outside of your work life can help keep you motivated at work by keeping you from "burning out" from the routine of your job. More importantly, it's a way to enrich your life by increasing both the quality and variety of your experience. People aren't defined solely by the work they complete in their lifetime—they're also defined by the relationships they form, the fun they have, and, most especially, the love they share and the memories they create. Don't spend your entire life working. If you don't have something to work for, what's the point? Sometimes, people who devote most of their energy to their work have a difficult time making friends outside of work. If this is true for you, don't feel stressed, as this is not uncommon among workaholics. In such situations, you may find that enrolling in a singles club can help you make new connections on a busy schedule. 4-5. Find meaning in your job. Let's face it—not every job is a dream job. Sometimes, the things we do to support ourselves can be very, very different than the things we like to do to find personal fulfillment. However, it's almost always easier to work hard if you can find some reason to invest yourself in your job emotionally, even if the reason is a small one. Look for aspects of your job that give you satisfaction, allow you to take pride in your work, or make the world a better place in some small (but noticeable way). For instance, if you have a job that's often described as being relatively unimportant—working as a cook at a fast food restaurant, try to focus on the positive, satisfying aspects of the job. For instance, in your position, you're responsible for quickly satisfying hundreds of busy, working people every day. If you don't do a good job, you can easily put some of them in a foul mood, which may affect them in other areas of their life. On the other hand, if you take pride in your work and focus on doing a great job, you can help these hundreds of people have satisfying meals, which can in turn help them be the best that they can be at home and work. 4-6. Spend time with your family or significant other. This is something that many workaholics struggle to do and some fail to do entirely. The work/family balance is one that's sometimes difficult to manage even for people working normal 40 hour per week jobs. For people who work 70 hours per week, striking the right balance can be extremely challenging. However, your family is not something that you should neglect in order to devote extra time to work. Ultimately, the love of a happy family is much more fulfilling than the rewards offered from a demanding job. If you find yourself having to debate whether to spend a few nights every week with your spouse and children or to work extra-long hours to get the promotion you've been eyeing, recognize that your priorities are out of order. Even workaholics should strive to be loving spouses and parents, and sometimes this means shelving the work to make time for the things that really matter. 4-7. Motivate yourself. Just as it's easier to work hard if you can find satisfaction in your job, it's also easier to work if you give yourself something to work for. For a few lucky people, working is an extremely satisfying activity in and of itself. However, for most, it's often something to be done simply to support oneself and one's family. During the humdrum daily grind of work, it's easy to forget the end purpose of your work. Reminding yourself of the reason why you're working can help you focus and put in the extra effort it takes to get ahead when it really counts. For example, if you're working to support your children in a job you're not crazy about, you may find it helpful to place a few small pictures of them in your cubicle or work area. When you're having a hard time motivating yourself to stay late or take on an extra project, look at these pictures. They provide a handy reminder of exactly what you hope to achieve by working so hard. Tips Let your customers and co-workers know you will always be available for their needs. Warnings It is recommended you get eight hours of sleep even if you feel you can go with four. If your family is not understanding then you might have problems at home.
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Though individual states may have laws that differ, eligible employees are legally entitled to the federal one and a half rate if it is higher than state law allows.\\nNote that overtime generally is only an option for hourly employees—salaried employees don't necessarily get paid more for working longer hours. If you're salaried, you may instead want to ask your supervisor for a bonus for performing extra work.\\n1-2. Pursue new projects without being asked.\\nGenerally, managers and supervisors love it when their employees take on additional responsibilities without being told to do so. Doing so shows initiative, intelligence, and ambition. If executed correctly, it can also make life easier for your boss which can earn you their respect as well as more tangible rewards. However, when pursuing new projects, be careful not to overstep your authority or embarrass other employees. Your goal is to be ambitious; not arrogant. Below are just a few ideas to get you started: \\nPresent your boss with a report detailing ways that have made your work more efficient, then suggest ways to use your ideas throughout the work place.\\nOrganize and run meetings to help you work effectively on other projects without bothering your boss.\\nBrainstorm to create a list of strategies for increasing the company profits.\\nOrganize internal office events (birthday parties, holidays, and so on).\\n1-3. Engage in work place life.\\nIt's much, much easier to work effectively if you have a positive relationship with your colleagues. This means making an effort to have friendly, positive interactions with everyone on a regular basis. At the very least, you should strive to spend meal breaks with your coworkers on most days. Use these opportunities to get to know your coworkers through small talk and friendly conversation. If you can't think of anything to say, you can always ask about the food they're eating. \\nIf you find that you enjoy talking to your coworkers, you may want to invite them to spend time with you outside of work. For instance, you can invite them to get drinks with you, to play a game of golf (or your preferred sport), or to visit a mutual acquaintance. However, if you don't see yourself being a close friend to your coworkers, this isn't absolutely necessary.\\n1-4. Finish projects early.\\nWork can often seem like one long chain of looming deadlines—daily duties need to be finished by the time you leave each day, minor projects need to be finished by the end of the week, major projects need to be finished by the end of the month, and so on. If you can manage to complete your work earlier than you're required to, not only will you make a great impression on your superiors, but you'll also give yourself a chance to take on additional responsibilities, which can in turn increase your profile at work. When your superiors are giving out promotions, they're likely to consider the hard-working, prompt employees first. Make sure you're at the top of their list by gaining a reputation for delivering high-quality work with a quick turnaround. \\nWhile it's a great idea to make a habit of turning in projects early, be careful not to do this too much. If you turn in every single project early, your superiors may get the impression that they're not giving you enough to do and may increase your workload, making you work more for the same pay. If you can, try to focus on turning in only the most important, attention-grabbing projects early.\\n1-5. Consistently deliver more than expected.\\nAs noted above, most managers and supervisors respect hard work, ambition, and creativity. If you're looking to get ahead at work, there's hardly a better way to do it than by giving your managers more than what they expect. Doing this shows that you're serious about your commitment to your job and that you're a valuable employee who does more than others who deliver what is asked. However, as when attempting to finish projects early, you'll need to balance your ambition with the reality that consistently working extremely hard can be tremendously taxing on the body and mind. Try to reserve your absolute best efforts for important projects that are likely to be noticed and appreciated. Below are just a few ideas: \\nIf asked to present a report of internal company data, do your own independent research and extrapolate meaningful take-aways from your results.\\nIf asked to clean up a cluttered storeroom, develop your own system for organizing the items and write out directions so others can use the system.\\nIf sales figures for your company are slipping, develop and test your own sales techniques, then share them with your coworkers.\\n1-6. Bring your work home with you.\\nWhen most people get home from a long day on the job, more work is the last thing they have on their mind. However, if you can stand to do so, occasionally doing additional work at home can separate you from the pack. This can be in the form of telecommuting to meetings from your home computer, doing additional research or analysis \\\"homework\\\" for important projects, taking important business calls, and more.\\nIf you have a family, you'll want to avoid doing excessive amounts of work at home. While a single person can get away with doing lots of extra work at home, the commitments of a family can make it difficult to devote your entire attention to your work when you're at home. The exception to this rule, of course, is if the nature of your job requires you to do most or all of your work from home.\\n2. Getting noticed\\n2-1. Dress for success.\\nThough there are plenty of exceptions to the rule, in general, people are somewhat shallow, especially if they know you in a formal business context. If you dress in a serious, dignified manner, people (including your bosses and coworkers) are more likely to treat you seriously. This doesn't necessarily mean that you need to wear tailored suits to work every day—expensive is not always better. Unless you've got the cash for a seriously high-class wardrobe, you're probably better off sticking with one of the affordable yet dignified options below: \\n\\n - It's hard to go wrong with a plain pair of khakis or slacks and a modest dress shirt. For extra class, you may want to consider adding a jacket and a tie. If you work at a casual place of business (like an internet startup), you may be able to get away with an outfit as informal as a T-shirt and shorts. It is a good rule of thumb, though, to dress one station higher than your current position, that is—dress on a par with the most sartorial stylish of your bosses' colleagues.\\n - A long-sleeved shirt and skirt combination works well in most offices. Conservative dresses are also a good option. Suits and pantsuits are smart choices for jobs that require you to interact with the public. While casual jobs may allow you to get away with a T-shirt and jeans, it is best to not go that route, or step it up a notch with a bit dressier attire.\\n2-2. Value the importance of all that you do.\\nIn addition to dressing to fit the part of a serious, dedicated employee, you'll want to ensure that your deportment also gives this impression. To a certain extent, others' opinions of you are shaped by your opinion of yourself. Thus, treating whatever you're doing at the moment as highly important is a great way to make other people in the office realize that you are important. Try adopting the following habits to ensure that people think of you as an indispensable employee: \\nWalk briskly and with purpose, even if you're just heading to the cooler to get a drink of water.\\nArticulate clearly and confidently.\\nWhen you walk past people, greet them warmly, but keep walking.\\nSit up straight in your chair when at your desk.\\n2-3. Don't be afraid to express your opinions.\\nFor the most part, unless they have delicate egos, bosses appreciate receiving feedback from their employees—positive or negative. Offering your opinions occasionally shows that you're engaged in your job and that you care what happens to yourself and to the company. Depending on the company morale at your workplace, this can noticeably set you apart from the majority of employees. Below are a few ideas for when and where it's appropriate to express yourself: \\nAt company strategy meetings, offer ideas for how the company can make itself more competitive.\\nAsk intelligent questions whenever you are unsure of how to proceed in your work. This can make you look especially good if you do so when others seem reluctant to pose their own questions (like during an awkward silence following a tense meeting).\\nIf you're unhappy about some aspect of your job, talk to your supervisor about changing it. However, don't be offended if you receive a \\\"no\\\".\\n2-4. Seek out challenges.\\nTaking on new responsibilities at work can be quite challenging, especially before you've had time to adjust to a new role. However, if you're successfully able to perform your new duties, you'll be rewarded with recognition, a more important position at your business, and (possibly) more money. However, in seeking new responsibilities, be sure not to over-extend yourself by biting off more than you can chew. Make sure that you can handle the additional workload before taking on new responsibilities or you run the risk of having to ask for less work, which can be embarrassing on a professional level. \\nIf there aren't any obvious ways to expand your current responsibilities at work, try asking your supervisor directly for more responsibilities. There's a significant chance that she or he will be able to assign you additional work, and even if she or he can't, you'll be noticed for taking the initiative to ask for it.\\n2-5. Call attention to your efforts.\\nIf you work hard, you deserve to be recognized for it. However, in the hustle and bustle of the work week, good work can easily go unnoticed. Don't let your accomplishments get swept under the rug. Instead, look for excuses to showcase your efforts. Try to bring up successful projects in ways that make it clear that you are responsible for the success without seeming like a braggart. If you've actually done a good job, you have no need to be embarrassed by doing so. Below are just a few opportunities where you may have the opportunity to show off your good work: \\nIf you've completed a project and haven't received much recognition, try sharing it with others via a group email. You can easily pose your email as a mere \\\"keeping everyone up to speed\\\" message while ensuring that important coworkers and supervisors see your work.\\nIf you've completed a project that is relevant to a new project being discussed, bring up your old work as an example of how to proceed or as guidance for new areas of work to explore.\\n2-6. Be friendly, but not irreverent.\\nHaving an upbeat, positive attitude in the workplace isn't just a way to appear energetic and motivated to others, it's also a way to keep your own spirits up and make yourself a more effective worker. If you go out of your way to be friendly, you'll have an easier time interacting with other employees and they will also generally find it easier to work with you. This makes it easier to collaborate or ask for help on projects, thereby increasing your productivity. Finally, it's worth noting that you're more likely to receive rewards and promotions if you're well-liked. \\nWhile you'll want to make an effort to be friendly, you'll want to stay away from touchy topics of conversation and racy humor. Getting a quick laugh isn't worth sabotaging your efforts by offending a coworker or showing a lack of sensitivity.\\n3. Fostering good work habits\\n3-1. Eliminate distractions while you work.\\nThere's no reason to spend hours and hours at work if you can't get anything done while you're working. Ensure that you're a productive worker by removing any and all distractions that might sidetrack your efforts to get your work done. Some ideas for eliminating some of the most common distractions for workers are listed below: \\nReduce the distraction of idle noise/chatter at the workplace by using headphones or earplugs or moving to a different work area.\\nCordially tell the persistent conversationalists that you're busy and will be able to talk when you're done. Alternatively, try placing a sign at your desk or work area politely notifying others not to disturb you.\\nInstall productivity add-ons and site-blocking programs to your browser to circumvent the tendency to pursue internet diversions (games, social media, and other time drains).\\n3-2. Set ambitious (but realistic) goals.\\nIf you're having trouble staying motivated to work hard, deciding on a specific goal and deadline can help you get out of the workday doldrums and focus on the task at hand. When choosing goals, be ambitious, but have a firm grasp of what you can and can't achieve in a given time frame. Setting goals that are out of your reach is setting yourself up for failure, which can cause you to feel like an under-achiever. It is likely that setting goals too high will end up hurting your morale and make it even more difficult to stay motivated in the long run.\\n3-3. Break big projects down into manageable parts.\\nSometimes, important projects can seem so large and intimidating that it's difficult to tell where to start. In these cases, it can be helpful to focus on some small but significant aspect of the project and complete this first. Completing this small part of the larger project gives you a sense of achievement that you can use to fuel your motivation as you continue to the rest of the project. You'll also have an idea of which parts of the project are likely to cause problems and can thus dedicate more effort to these things. \\nFor example, if you've been tasked with making a half-hour presentation to a group of high-level company employees, you might want to start by focusing on creating a thorough, detailed outline. Though the outline only represents a fraction of the work needed to prepare for the presentation, it can make the rest of the project easier by guiding your creation of slides, talking points, and so on.\\n3-4. Try to inspire greatness in others.\\nLeadership is a skill that's desirable in nearly all professions. Supervisors look for employees who have natural leadership abilities when they're looking for employees to reward. Showing leadership at work can get you recognition, more important responsibilities, and even raises and promotions. To demonstrate leadership, make an effort to help others in their duties and to spearhead your own group projects. As noted above, you'll also want to ensure that your leadership is recognized by showing it to others and bringing it up at appropriate opportunities. If you have a reputation as a leader at your workplace, it's usually only a matter of time before you become an actual leader. Below are a few opportunities for leadership: \\nTake advantage to opportunities to train new employees and help them become acquainted with their duties.\\nDesign your own project, then, with permission from your supervisors, enlist other employees to help you complete it.\\nMake a point of leading the discussion during group meetings which have no designated leader.\\n4. Staying healthy and happy\\n4-1. Schedule time for breaks.\\nWorkaholics should spend much of their time working, but they shouldn't spend every second of their day working. Occasional breaks recharge your body and mind, ensuring that you're as sharp as possible throughout the day and increasing your long-term productivity. Additionally, breaks help you stay in a good mood, which can be an essential component of staying effective at your job, especially if you work face-to-face with customers. Don't skip your breaks to squeeze in a few more minutes of work—work smarter, not longer.\\nIt's worth noting that you may also be legally obligated to take breaks. In the United States, there are some federal laws dictating the types of breaks an employer is obligated to provide. However, state laws vary from state to state. For instance, in California, employees must take a 30-minute meal break if they work for more than five hours straight unless their total work for the day is less than six hours.\\n4-2. Don't work during time off.\\nDuring vacations, sick days, days off, and family time, try to work as little as possible, if at all. The periods in which you're off of work are meant to allow you to recharge your energy reserves, reset your attitude, brighten your outlook, and recuperate from the grind of working hard. While some work may be unavoidable, devoting too much of your \\\"off\\\" time to work will short-circuit the restorative benefits you might have gained.\\nTo ensure that you're able to stay fully motivated when you're actually at work, allow yourself to enjoy your days off completely work-free.\\nKeeping your schedule clear during your time off may mean doing additional work before you leave. If this is the case, do as much work as you can before your time off so that you'll be able to spend as little effort worrying about work as possible.\\n4-3. Get plenty of sleep.\\nNearly every part of a job is more difficult if you're not well-rested. Staying focused during meetings, keeping track of numerous projects, and ensuring your work gets done on time can be challenging when you haven't had sufficient rest. To avoid these problems, try to get a full night of sleep as often as possible (if not every night). Doing so makes it easier for you to stay focused on your work when it really counts—at your job. By keeping your immune system strong, adequate sleep also decreases the likelihood that you'll need to take time off of work because of illness.\\nThough everyone's biological needs are different, most medical sources agree that adults generally need somewhere in the neighborhood of seven to nine hours of sleep on a regular basis for optimal health, mood, and mental function.\\n4-4. Maintain interests outside of work.\\nThough work should be a big focus of a workaholic's life, it shouldn't be their only focus. Having friends and hobbies outside of your work life can help keep you motivated at work by keeping you from \\\"burning out\\\" from the routine of your job. More importantly, it's a way to enrich your life by increasing both the quality and variety of your experience. People aren't defined solely by the work they complete in their lifetime—they're also defined by the relationships they form, the fun they have, and, most especially, the love they share and the memories they create. Don't spend your entire life working. If you don't have something to work for, what's the point? \\nSometimes, people who devote most of their energy to their work have a difficult time making friends outside of work. If this is true for you, don't feel stressed, as this is not uncommon among workaholics. In such situations, you may find that enrolling in a singles club can help you make new connections on a busy schedule.\\n4-5. Find meaning in your job.\\nLet's face it—not every job is a dream job. Sometimes, the things we do to support ourselves can be very, very different than the things we like to do to find personal fulfillment. However, it's almost always easier to work hard if you can find some reason to invest yourself in your job emotionally, even if the reason is a small one. Look for aspects of your job that give you satisfaction, allow you to take pride in your work, or make the world a better place in some small (but noticeable way). \\nFor instance, if you have a job that's often described as being relatively unimportant—working as a cook at a fast food restaurant, try to focus on the positive, satisfying aspects of the job. For instance, in your position, you're responsible for quickly satisfying hundreds of busy, working people every day. If you don't do a good job, you can easily put some of them in a foul mood, which may affect them in other areas of their life. On the other hand, if you take pride in your work and focus on doing a great job, you can help these hundreds of people have satisfying meals, which can in turn help them be the best that they can be at home and work.\\n4-6. Spend time with your family or significant other.\\nThis is something that many workaholics struggle to do and some fail to do entirely. The work/family balance is one that's sometimes difficult to manage even for people working normal 40 hour per week jobs. For people who work 70 hours per week, striking the right balance can be extremely challenging. However, your family is not something that you should neglect in order to devote extra time to work. Ultimately, the love of a happy family is much more fulfilling than the rewards offered from a demanding job. If you find yourself having to debate whether to spend a few nights every week with your spouse and children or to work extra-long hours to get the promotion you've been eyeing, recognize that your priorities are out of order. Even workaholics should strive to be loving spouses and parents, and sometimes this means shelving the work to make time for the things that really matter.\\n4-7. Motivate yourself.\\nJust as it's easier to work hard if you can find satisfaction in your job, it's also easier to work if you give yourself something to work for. For a few lucky people, working is an extremely satisfying activity in and of itself. However, for most, it's often something to be done simply to support oneself and one's family. During the humdrum daily grind of work, it's easy to forget the end purpose of your work. Reminding yourself of the reason why you're working can help you focus and put in the extra effort it takes to get ahead when it really counts. \\nFor example, if you're working to support your children in a job you're not crazy about, you may find it helpful to place a few small pictures of them in your cubicle or work area. When you're having a hard time motivating yourself to stay late or take on an extra project, look at these pictures. They provide a handy reminder of exactly what you hope to achieve by working so hard.\\nTips\\nLet your customers and co-workers know you will always be available for their needs.\\nWarnings\\nIt is recommended you get eight hours of sleep even if you feel you can go with four.\\nIf your family is not understanding then you might have problems at home.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sometimes, the normal 9 to 5 grind just can't get you what you need from your career. If you're unsatisfied with your rate of advancement, want to earn more money, or want to start getting noticed as a leader, devote extra time and energy to your work. This is a surefire way to earn a reputation as someone who takes work seriously, but you must take care to balance your work life and personal life. Start with Step 1 below to learn how to get ahead at work while staying safe and sane.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Exceeding expectations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask for overtime.\", \"描述\": \"The most straightforward way to show a serious dedication to your work is to simply work more than the average employee. Though some companies have policies against giving overtime hours to employees, many will allow you to do so. If your company is receptive to the idea of you working overtime, ask your supervisor for permission right away. Not only will this show your boss that you're willing to go that all-important extra step to get the job done, but it will also give you a nice bump in your next paycheck.\\nIn the United States, the Fair Labor Standards Act (FLSA) dictates that employees that work more than 40 hours in a given week will receive at least one and a half times their base pay for the additional hours worked. Though individual states may have laws that differ, eligible employees are legally entitled to the federal one and a half rate if it is higher than state law allows.\\nNote that overtime generally is only an option for hourly employees—salaried employees don't necessarily get paid more for working longer hours. If you're salaried, you may instead want to ask your supervisor for a bonus for performing extra work.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pursue new projects without being asked.\", \"描述\": \"Generally, managers and supervisors love it when their employees take on additional responsibilities without being told to do so. Doing so shows initiative, intelligence, and ambition. If executed correctly, it can also make life easier for your boss which can earn you their respect as well as more tangible rewards. However, when pursuing new projects, be careful not to overstep your authority or embarrass other employees. Your goal is to be ambitious; not arrogant. Below are just a few ideas to get you started: \\nPresent your boss with a report detailing ways that have made your work more efficient, then suggest ways to use your ideas throughout the work place.\\nOrganize and run meetings to help you work effectively on other projects without bothering your boss.\\nBrainstorm to create a list of strategies for increasing the company profits.\\nOrganize internal office events (birthday parties, holidays, and so on).\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Engage in work place life.\", \"描述\": \"It's much, much easier to work effectively if you have a positive relationship with your colleagues. This means making an effort to have friendly, positive interactions with everyone on a regular basis. At the very least, you should strive to spend meal breaks with your coworkers on most days. Use these opportunities to get to know your coworkers through small talk and friendly conversation. If you can't think of anything to say, you can always ask about the food they're eating. \\nIf you find that you enjoy talking to your coworkers, you may want to invite them to spend time with you outside of work. For instance, you can invite them to get drinks with you, to play a game of golf (or your preferred sport), or to visit a mutual acquaintance. However, if you don't see yourself being a close friend to your coworkers, this isn't absolutely necessary.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Finish projects early.\", \"描述\": \"Work can often seem like one long chain of looming deadlines—daily duties need to be finished by the time you leave each day, minor projects need to be finished by the end of the week, major projects need to be finished by the end of the month, and so on. If you can manage to complete your work earlier than you're required to, not only will you make a great impression on your superiors, but you'll also give yourself a chance to take on additional responsibilities, which can in turn increase your profile at work. When your superiors are giving out promotions, they're likely to consider the hard-working, prompt employees first. Make sure you're at the top of their list by gaining a reputation for delivering high-quality work with a quick turnaround. \\nWhile it's a great idea to make a habit of turning in projects early, be careful not to do this too much. If you turn in every single project early, your superiors may get the impression that they're not giving you enough to do and may increase your workload, making you work more for the same pay. If you can, try to focus on turning in only the most important, attention-grabbing projects early.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consistently deliver more than expected.\", \"描述\": \"As noted above, most managers and supervisors respect hard work, ambition, and creativity. If you're looking to get ahead at work, there's hardly a better way to do it than by giving your managers more than what they expect. Doing this shows that you're serious about your commitment to your job and that you're a valuable employee who does more than others who deliver what is asked. However, as when attempting to finish projects early, you'll need to balance your ambition with the reality that consistently working extremely hard can be tremendously taxing on the body and mind. Try to reserve your absolute best efforts for important projects that are likely to be noticed and appreciated. Below are just a few ideas: \\nIf asked to present a report of internal company data, do your own independent research and extrapolate meaningful take-aways from your results.\\nIf asked to clean up a cluttered storeroom, develop your own system for organizing the items and write out directions so others can use the system.\\nIf sales figures for your company are slipping, develop and test your own sales techniques, then share them with your coworkers.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Bring your work home with you.\", \"描述\": \"When most people get home from a long day on the job, more work is the last thing they have on their mind. However, if you can stand to do so, occasionally doing additional work at home can separate you from the pack. This can be in the form of telecommuting to meetings from your home computer, doing additional research or analysis \\\"homework\\\" for important projects, taking important business calls, and more.\\nIf you have a family, you'll want to avoid doing excessive amounts of work at home. While a single person can get away with doing lots of extra work at home, the commitments of a family can make it difficult to devote your entire attention to your work when you're at home. The exception to this rule, of course, is if the nature of your job requires you to do most or all of your work from home.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting noticed\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress for success.\", \"描述\": \"Though there are plenty of exceptions to the rule, in general, people are somewhat shallow, especially if they know you in a formal business context. If you dress in a serious, dignified manner, people (including your bosses and coworkers) are more likely to treat you seriously. This doesn't necessarily mean that you need to wear tailored suits to work every day—expensive is not always better. Unless you've got the cash for a seriously high-class wardrobe, you're probably better off sticking with one of the affordable yet dignified options below: \\n\\n - It's hard to go wrong with a plain pair of khakis or slacks and a modest dress shirt. For extra class, you may want to consider adding a jacket and a tie. If you work at a casual place of business (like an internet startup), you may be able to get away with an outfit as informal as a T-shirt and shorts. It is a good rule of thumb, though, to dress one station higher than your current position, that is—dress on a par with the most sartorial stylish of your bosses' colleagues.\\n - A long-sleeved shirt and skirt combination works well in most offices. Conservative dresses are also a good option. Suits and pantsuits are smart choices for jobs that require you to interact with the public. While casual jobs may allow you to get away with a T-shirt and jeans, it is best to not go that route, or step it up a notch with a bit dressier attire.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Value the importance of all that you do.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to dressing to fit the part of a serious, dedicated employee, you'll want to ensure that your deportment also gives this impression. To a certain extent, others' opinions of you are shaped by your opinion of yourself. Thus, treating whatever you're doing at the moment as highly important is a great way to make other people in the office realize that you are important. Try adopting the following habits to ensure that people think of you as an indispensable employee: \\nWalk briskly and with purpose, even if you're just heading to the cooler to get a drink of water.\\nArticulate clearly and confidently.\\nWhen you walk past people, greet them warmly, but keep walking.\\nSit up straight in your chair when at your desk.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to express your opinions.\", \"描述\": \"For the most part, unless they have delicate egos, bosses appreciate receiving feedback from their employees—positive or negative. Offering your opinions occasionally shows that you're engaged in your job and that you care what happens to yourself and to the company. Depending on the company morale at your workplace, this can noticeably set you apart from the majority of employees. Below are a few ideas for when and where it's appropriate to express yourself: \\nAt company strategy meetings, offer ideas for how the company can make itself more competitive.\\nAsk intelligent questions whenever you are unsure of how to proceed in your work. This can make you look especially good if you do so when others seem reluctant to pose their own questions (like during an awkward silence following a tense meeting).\\nIf you're unhappy about some aspect of your job, talk to your supervisor about changing it. However, don't be offended if you receive a \\\"no\\\".\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Seek out challenges.\", \"描述\": \"Taking on new responsibilities at work can be quite challenging, especially before you've had time to adjust to a new role. However, if you're successfully able to perform your new duties, you'll be rewarded with recognition, a more important position at your business, and (possibly) more money. However, in seeking new responsibilities, be sure not to over-extend yourself by biting off more than you can chew. Make sure that you can handle the additional workload before taking on new responsibilities or you run the risk of having to ask for less work, which can be embarrassing on a professional level. \\nIf there aren't any obvious ways to expand your current responsibilities at work, try asking your supervisor directly for more responsibilities. There's a significant chance that she or he will be able to assign you additional work, and even if she or he can't, you'll be noticed for taking the initiative to ask for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Call attention to your efforts.\", \"描述\": \"If you work hard, you deserve to be recognized for it. However, in the hustle and bustle of the work week, good work can easily go unnoticed. Don't let your accomplishments get swept under the rug. Instead, look for excuses to showcase your efforts. Try to bring up successful projects in ways that make it clear that you are responsible for the success without seeming like a braggart. If you've actually done a good job, you have no need to be embarrassed by doing so. Below are just a few opportunities where you may have the opportunity to show off your good work: \\nIf you've completed a project and haven't received much recognition, try sharing it with others via a group email. You can easily pose your email as a mere \\\"keeping everyone up to speed\\\" message while ensuring that important coworkers and supervisors see your work.\\nIf you've completed a project that is relevant to a new project being discussed, bring up your old work as an example of how to proceed or as guidance for new areas of work to explore.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be friendly, but not irreverent.\", \"描述\": \"Having an upbeat, positive attitude in the workplace isn't just a way to appear energetic and motivated to others, it's also a way to keep your own spirits up and make yourself a more effective worker. If you go out of your way to be friendly, you'll have an easier time interacting with other employees and they will also generally find it easier to work with you. This makes it easier to collaborate or ask for help on projects, thereby increasing your productivity. Finally, it's worth noting that you're more likely to receive rewards and promotions if you're well-liked. \\nWhile you'll want to make an effort to be friendly, you'll want to stay away from touchy topics of conversation and racy humor. Getting a quick laugh isn't worth sabotaging your efforts by offending a coworker or showing a lack of sensitivity.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Fostering good work habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Eliminate distractions while you work.\", \"描述\": \"There's no reason to spend hours and hours at work if you can't get anything done while you're working. Ensure that you're a productive worker by removing any and all distractions that might sidetrack your efforts to get your work done. Some ideas for eliminating some of the most common distractions for workers are listed below: \\nReduce the distraction of idle noise/chatter at the workplace by using headphones or earplugs or moving to a different work area.\\nCordially tell the persistent conversationalists that you're busy and will be able to talk when you're done. Alternatively, try placing a sign at your desk or work area politely notifying others not to disturb you.\\nInstall productivity add-ons and site-blocking programs to your browser to circumvent the tendency to pursue internet diversions (games, social media, and other time drains).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Set ambitious (but realistic) goals.\", \"描述\": \"If you're having trouble staying motivated to work hard, deciding on a specific goal and deadline can help you get out of the workday doldrums and focus on the task at hand. When choosing goals, be ambitious, but have a firm grasp of what you can and can't achieve in a given time frame. Setting goals that are out of your reach is setting yourself up for failure, which can cause you to feel like an under-achiever. It is likely that setting goals too high will end up hurting your morale and make it even more difficult to stay motivated in the long run.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Break big projects down into manageable parts.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, important projects can seem so large and intimidating that it's difficult to tell where to start. In these cases, it can be helpful to focus on some small but significant aspect of the project and complete this first. Completing this small part of the larger project gives you a sense of achievement that you can use to fuel your motivation as you continue to the rest of the project. You'll also have an idea of which parts of the project are likely to cause problems and can thus dedicate more effort to these things. \\nFor example, if you've been tasked with making a half-hour presentation to a group of high-level company employees, you might want to start by focusing on creating a thorough, detailed outline. Though the outline only represents a fraction of the work needed to prepare for the presentation, it can make the rest of the project easier by guiding your creation of slides, talking points, and so on.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try to inspire greatness in others.\", \"描述\": \"Leadership is a skill that's desirable in nearly all professions. Supervisors look for employees who have natural leadership abilities when they're looking for employees to reward. Showing leadership at work can get you recognition, more important responsibilities, and even raises and promotions. To demonstrate leadership, make an effort to help others in their duties and to spearhead your own group projects. As noted above, you'll also want to ensure that your leadership is recognized by showing it to others and bringing it up at appropriate opportunities. If you have a reputation as a leader at your workplace, it's usually only a matter of time before you become an actual leader. Below are a few opportunities for leadership: \\nTake advantage to opportunities to train new employees and help them become acquainted with their duties.\\nDesign your own project, then, with permission from your supervisors, enlist other employees to help you complete it.\\nMake a point of leading the discussion during group meetings which have no designated leader.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Staying healthy and happy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Schedule time for breaks.\", \"描述\": \"Workaholics should spend much of their time working, but they shouldn't spend every second of their day working. Occasional breaks recharge your body and mind, ensuring that you're as sharp as possible throughout the day and increasing your long-term productivity. Additionally, breaks help you stay in a good mood, which can be an essential component of staying effective at your job, especially if you work face-to-face with customers. Don't skip your breaks to squeeze in a few more minutes of work—work smarter, not longer.\\nIt's worth noting that you may also be legally obligated to take breaks. In the United States, there are some federal laws dictating the types of breaks an employer is obligated to provide. However, state laws vary from state to state. For instance, in California, employees must take a 30-minute meal break if they work for more than five hours straight unless their total work for the day is less than six hours.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't work during time off.\", \"描述\": \"During vacations, sick days, days off, and family time, try to work as little as possible, if at all. The periods in which you're off of work are meant to allow you to recharge your energy reserves, reset your attitude, brighten your outlook, and recuperate from the grind of working hard. While some work may be unavoidable, devoting too much of your \\\"off\\\" time to work will short-circuit the restorative benefits you might have gained.\\nTo ensure that you're able to stay fully motivated when you're actually at work, allow yourself to enjoy your days off completely work-free.\\nKeeping your schedule clear during your time off may mean doing additional work before you leave. If this is the case, do as much work as you can before your time off so that you'll be able to spend as little effort worrying about work as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get plenty of sleep.\", \"描述\": \"Nearly every part of a job is more difficult if you're not well-rested. Staying focused during meetings, keeping track of numerous projects, and ensuring your work gets done on time can be challenging when you haven't had sufficient rest. To avoid these problems, try to get a full night of sleep as often as possible (if not every night). Doing so makes it easier for you to stay focused on your work when it really counts—at your job. By keeping your immune system strong, adequate sleep also decreases the likelihood that you'll need to take time off of work because of illness.\\nThough everyone's biological needs are different, most medical sources agree that adults generally need somewhere in the neighborhood of seven to nine hours of sleep on a regular basis for optimal health, mood, and mental function.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Maintain interests outside of work.\", \"描述\": \"Though work should be a big focus of a workaholic's life, it shouldn't be their only focus. Having friends and hobbies outside of your work life can help keep you motivated at work by keeping you from \\\"burning out\\\" from the routine of your job. More importantly, it's a way to enrich your life by increasing both the quality and variety of your experience. People aren't defined solely by the work they complete in their lifetime—they're also defined by the relationships they form, the fun they have, and, most especially, the love they share and the memories they create. Don't spend your entire life working. If you don't have something to work for, what's the point? \\nSometimes, people who devote most of their energy to their work have a difficult time making friends outside of work. If this is true for you, don't feel stressed, as this is not uncommon among workaholics. In such situations, you may find that enrolling in a singles club can help you make new connections on a busy schedule.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find meaning in your job.\", \"描述\": \"Let's face it—not every job is a dream job. Sometimes, the things we do to support ourselves can be very, very different than the things we like to do to find personal fulfillment. However, it's almost always easier to work hard if you can find some reason to invest yourself in your job emotionally, even if the reason is a small one. Look for aspects of your job that give you satisfaction, allow you to take pride in your work, or make the world a better place in some small (but noticeable way). \\nFor instance, if you have a job that's often described as being relatively unimportant—working as a cook at a fast food restaurant, try to focus on the positive, satisfying aspects of the job. For instance, in your position, you're responsible for quickly satisfying hundreds of busy, working people every day. If you don't do a good job, you can easily put some of them in a foul mood, which may affect them in other areas of their life. On the other hand, if you take pride in your work and focus on doing a great job, you can help these hundreds of people have satisfying meals, which can in turn help them be the best that they can be at home and work.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Spend time with your family or significant other.\", \"描述\": \"This is something that many workaholics struggle to do and some fail to do entirely. The work/family balance is one that's sometimes difficult to manage even for people working normal 40 hour per week jobs. For people who work 70 hours per week, striking the right balance can be extremely challenging. However, your family is not something that you should neglect in order to devote extra time to work. Ultimately, the love of a happy family is much more fulfilling than the rewards offered from a demanding job. If you find yourself having to debate whether to spend a few nights every week with your spouse and children or to work extra-long hours to get the promotion you've been eyeing, recognize that your priorities are out of order. Even workaholics should strive to be loving spouses and parents, and sometimes this means shelving the work to make time for the things that really matter.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Motivate yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Just as it's easier to work hard if you can find satisfaction in your job, it's also easier to work if you give yourself something to work for. For a few lucky people, working is an extremely satisfying activity in and of itself. However, for most, it's often something to be done simply to support oneself and one's family. During the humdrum daily grind of work, it's easy to forget the end purpose of your work. Reminding yourself of the reason why you're working can help you focus and put in the extra effort it takes to get ahead when it really counts. \\nFor example, if you're working to support your children in a job you're not crazy about, you may find it helpful to place a few small pictures of them in your cubicle or work area. When you're having a hard time motivating yourself to stay late or take on an extra project, look at these pictures. They provide a handy reminder of exactly what you hope to achieve by working so hard.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Let your customers and co-workers know you will always be available for their needs.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"It is recommended you get eight hours of sleep even if you feel you can go with four.\\n\", \"If your family is not understanding then you might have problems at home.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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1. Having an Open Mindset 1-1. Learn about your heritage. To be a global citizen, you must identify with a world community, but you should not lose your heritage or culture. Your heritage involves what cultures are present in your family history, what culture your family actively subscribes to, and what community you live in today. To learn about these, talk to your family, research your family history on the internet, and get to know more about your community by being active citizen. You can research your background on websites like Ancestry.com. Most websites that offer these services do charge a fee. Be an active community member by exploring its museums, making use of the library, and talking to members of the community. Ask your family what they consider their heritage to be. It is possible to have many different heritages in one family. Think about where you come from. For example, if you are a North American, you have many cultures within being a North American. You may be a North American, from the United States, who lives in Texas, but has a Mexican heritage. 1-2. Inquire about others’ backgrounds. Ask your friends, family members, or teachers, about their cultural backgrounds and what that means to them. This isn’t limited to people you know personally. You can also research the backgrounds of your favorite political or entertainment figures, whether they are current or historical. For example, you could ask “What would you consider your cultural background to be, and is it important in your daily life?” Before asking people about their background, make sure you tell them that you are trying to learn more about every culture. Be as polite and respectful as possible. Don’t push the subject if the other person doesn’t want to talk about it. 1-3. Learn about equality and inequality. Thinking that all people are equal goes beyond respect. To truly be a global citizen, you should believe that all people are equal regardless of their race or religion. A person who believes in equality believes that every person deserves healthcare, education, respect, and justice when wronged. Watch the news and read newspapers and history books to gain an understanding of inequality that has happened in the past and is happening in the present. To believe in equality, it is crucial to see where equality has not been achieved. You should also read history books to see how equality was achieved. For example, it is important to learn about the Civil Rights Movement in the 1960s, and the important figures involved in the movement, like Martin Luther King Jr. 2. Educating Yourself 2-1. Learn about current and past events. Visit the library, subscribe to newspapers, and watch the news. You may have learned about past events in history, but brush up on world history by visiting your library and checking out history books about different cultures. To understand where the world is today, you need to see how past events have influenced the present. It is just as, if not more, important to stay updated on events happening all throughout the world.. Some things to learn about are: Global policies (international treaties), programs, wars (past and present), tragedies, positive happenings, politics, and entertainment news from all over the word. Information can be found in your local library, on the internet, and on television. It is possible to find international news in your language. 2-2. Discover the values of other cultures. It is positive and necessary to respect the values of a global community, but it is also important to learn about them. Some values to learn about are human rights, poverty reduction, prevention of conflict between countries, and sustainable economic growth. These values can be learned by visiting your local library, watching the news, and searching specifically for the values country by country on an online search. Consider cultures that seem far removed from your own culture. If you are familiar with Western culture, consider learning about countries like South Korea, India, and China. If you are familiar with Eastern culture, consider learning about France, Canada, and Norway. You can also learn about countries like Brazil and Argentina. Other values like religion, entertainment, and manners can be learned in the same way, but you also can learn about them by talking to members of other cultures. 2-3. Read as much as possible. You will learn about values and events from reading, but you will learn about parts of the world you wouldn’t have thought about by reading. You can learn about your own and other cultures by reading books, both fiction and nonfiction. Reading will allow you to get a glimpse into someone’s mind that is not possible in any other way. You can look on websites like Goodreads and TasteKid for reading recommendations. 2-4. Learn another language. There are many benefits that come from learning a new language. It is the best way to get to know another culture, become more open-minded, and bridge cultural gaps. Learning another language can seem daunting, but it is possible with time and dedication. You can learn another language on your own, in a class, and with the help of a willing friend. Check out a language textbook from the library. A book may not help you become fluent in a language, but it is a good introduction to the basics and grammar. Look for classes in your community. Sometimes colleges will allow enrollment, but there are programs that offer language classes in the community. There are also classes offered online. Once you have some basics down, try communicating with people who are fluent in the language you have chosen to learn. You can ask people in your community, or try communicating with people online, as long as it is done safely. Make sure the other person is willing and happy to help. 2-5. Learn about your purchases. Unless you consciously buy locally, there is a large chance that many things you own and buy come from other places in the world. Globalization has made trade, importing, and exporting easier and more common than ever. It seems positive because it has made some products cheap, but it is negative because the conditions those products are being made aren’t always positive. Take a look at what you buy, see where they were made, and learn about the conditions they were made in. Some things you can search for are: What are the conditions for the employees at the factory where my shoes were made? Are the employees at this factory paid a living wage? Is the factory that made my olive oil ecologically responsible? Does the factory that made my t-shirt support gay rights? 2-6. Understand climate change. Being a global citizen goes beyond engaging with and understanding people. Learning about the environment we live in, and the ongoing climate change crisis is important, too. There are still people that refute climate change, but the evidence for it is prominent. You can do an online search to learn about climate change, watch documentaries, and read news that is focused specifically on the environment. To learn about what you can do to be more environmentally friendly, do an online search for The Environmental Protection Agency. Their website offers a list of things you can do in your daily life to limit greenhouse gas emissions. 3. Getting Involved in Your Community 3-1. Share and listen to stories. Being a part of the global community starts in your local community. Share stories about your background, and listen to the stories of others. You can ask friends, family members, and people you encounter at school, church, or work to share stories about their backgrounds. For example, if you are talking to someone from a different culture, you could ask “What is it like celebrating your biggest holiday? What is it like for you?” To a friend or family member, you could ask for a memory from their childhood. You can also turn to social media to listen to and share stories with a broader community of people. You can go to YouTube, Twitter, and Facebook to share and search for content. 3-2. Support art, music, and culture in your community. Getting involved in your community includes being curious about activities and possibilities. Search for art and music shows. Also, look for cultural fairs and exhibitions. You can go to your local theatre, venues, schools and cultural centers to ask for information about upcoming events. Spending time supporting your community both financially and with your time at events is a great way to actively be a community member. 3-3. Make new friends. Building and nurturing relationships is a vital part of being an active global community member. Make new friends with people from your culture, as well as other cultures. Start locally, and then you can build your connections globally through social media and pen pal programs. If you are in school, ask a classmate to join you in an activity. If you work, ask a coworker if they would like to accompany you to an event. Post and respond to the updates of others on social media. You can reach out to people in your community, or people from all over the world. Do not, however, share any personal information with strangers. Join a pen pal program. You can sign up on safe and secure websites to exchange letters or emails with another person from anywhere in the world. This is a good way to get to know about the daily life and values of another person from a different culture firsthand. A few pen pal programs are PenPal World, Mail friends, and International Pen Friends. 3-4. Volunteer locally. You don’t have to travel far to make a positive impact by volunteering. There are plenty of opportunities to volunteer within your community. You can volunteer at your local homeless shelter, senior center, or education center. Many people acting locally influences a global change. VolunteerMatch is a website that matches you with volunteer opportunities in your community. Enter your email, and you will receive a newsletter with volunteer opportunities in your community weekly. 3-5. Donate wisely. It’s okay if you do not have the means to donate, but if you do, donate your money wisely. Donating is a great way to support local and global causes, but there are many charities out there that do not use their funds honestly. Research any foundation before giving your money to it. A couple of trustworthy foundations are: The Life You Can Save. This is a website that recommends trustworthy charities: https://www.thelifeyoucansave.org/ Zidisha. This foundation is focused on microlending. Microlending is giving small amounts of money to a person or company with low or no interests rates. Money typically goes to businesses or people in the developing world: https://www.zidisha.org/ 3-6. Stand up against injustice. Injustice to people, animals, and the land has occurred all throughout history. Unfortunately, injustice still happens in the world today. A global community member should not stand passively by, but instead, stand up for anyone or anything that has been wronged. How active you want to be is your choice. Voice your opinion on social media. There are hashtags dedicated to specific causes. A few of those causes are #BlackLivesMatter and #YesAllWomen. Attend a peaceful protest for a cause you care about in your city. 4. Traveling to Other Places 4-1. Take a road trip. Seeing the world is part of being a global citizen. You don’t have to travel far to learn about other parts of the world. You can drive to the next town, state, or even country, if you live in an area where it is possible to do so. The important thing is that you observe and interact with the land, people, and local culture. 4-2. Teach in another community. It is enough to teach others in your community, but it is also an option to teach abroad. You can volunteer to teach abroad, or be paid to teach in another country. There are many programs out there that you can apply to to teach in the destination of your choice. Some programs require a specific degree, but others do not. The JET Programme is an organization that sends teachers to Japan to teach English. The TEFL program sends teachers to speak English in several countries. 4-3. Volunteer. You can volunteer to teach, but there are plenty of other options to volunteer if teaching is not your thing. Volunteering is great way to help others while enriching your own knowledge of other cultures. You can volunteer to work on a farm, build schools in developing countries, or spread your religion to others. The WWOOF programs sends volunteers to work on organic farms all over the world. Global Vision International is a program that has volunteer and internship opportunities all over the world in a range of programs, like animal care and education. International Volunteer HQ has programs all over the world in childcare, medical care, etc. Keep in mind that most volunteer programs require a fee. 4-4. Travel abroad. Traveling abroad can be expensive, but it is possible if you save your money over time and budget well. To spend less on travel, take low-cost airlines, buses, or trains. Avoid staying in expensive hotels. Instead, stay in an Airbnb apartment, or consider Couchsurfing, a website that offers a free place to stay. Shop at the local grocery store instead of eating out for every meal. You don’t have to travel extravagantly to get the most out of an experience abroad. Only stay in situations that you feel comfortable with. Connect through certified websites, and leave any situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. Tips Read New Internationalist. Becoming a world citizen requires a conscious effort. It is an ongoing, sometimes frustrating process, but it is worth it. Reach out to members of your community who come from other cultures, but do so in a respectful manner. Warnings Don’t stay in any situation that risks your safety. Learn and grow in a safe environment. Being out of your comfort zone and risking your safety are not the same. Friends, family, or other community members may disagree with your efforts to become a global citizen. This can be hurtful and frustrating, but sit down and talk to them about why you are making these efforts. Don’t spend all of your money in an effort to become an active community member. Money is not required to learn and be active. Budget wisely.
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Also, look for cultural fairs and exhibitions. You can go to your local theatre, venues, schools and cultural centers to ask for information about upcoming events. Spending time supporting your community both financially and with your time at events is a great way to actively be a community member.\\n3-3. Make new friends.\\nBuilding and nurturing relationships is a vital part of being an active global community member. Make new friends with people from your culture, as well as other cultures. Start locally, and then you can build your connections globally through social media and pen pal programs.\\nIf you are in school, ask a classmate to join you in an activity. If you work, ask a coworker if they would like to accompany you to an event.\\nPost and respond to the updates of others on social media. You can reach out to people in your community, or people from all over the world. Do not, however, share any personal information with strangers.\\nJoin a pen pal program. You can sign up on safe and secure websites to exchange letters or emails with another person from anywhere in the world. This is a good way to get to know about the daily life and values of another person from a different culture firsthand. A few pen pal programs are PenPal World, Mail friends, and International Pen Friends.\\n3-4. Volunteer locally.\\nYou don’t have to travel far to make a positive impact by volunteering. There are plenty of opportunities to volunteer within your community. You can volunteer at your local homeless shelter, senior center, or education center. Many people acting locally influences a global change.\\nVolunteerMatch is a website that matches you with volunteer opportunities in your community. Enter your email, and you will receive a newsletter with volunteer opportunities in your community weekly.\\n3-5. Donate wisely.\\nIt’s okay if you do not have the means to donate, but if you do, donate your money wisely. Donating is a great way to support local and global causes, but there are many charities out there that do not use their funds honestly. Research any foundation before giving your money to it. A couple of trustworthy foundations are:\\nThe Life You Can Save. This is a website that recommends trustworthy charities: https://www.thelifeyoucansave.org/\\nZidisha. This foundation is focused on microlending. Microlending is giving small amounts of money to a person or company with low or no interests rates. Money typically goes to businesses or people in the developing world: https://www.zidisha.org/\\n3-6. Stand up against injustice.\\nInjustice to people, animals, and the land has occurred all throughout history. Unfortunately, injustice still happens in the world today. A global community member should not stand passively by, but instead, stand up for anyone or anything that has been wronged. How active you want to be is your choice.\\nVoice your opinion on social media. There are hashtags dedicated to specific causes. A few of those causes are #BlackLivesMatter and #YesAllWomen.\\nAttend a peaceful protest for a cause you care about in your city.\\n4. Traveling to Other Places\\n4-1. Take a road trip.\\nSeeing the world is part of being a global citizen. You don’t have to travel far to learn about other parts of the world. You can drive to the next town, state, or even country, if you live in an area where it is possible to do so. The important thing is that you observe and interact with the land, people, and local culture.\\n4-2. Teach in another community.\\nIt is enough to teach others in your community, but it is also an option to teach abroad. You can volunteer to teach abroad, or be paid to teach in another country. There are many programs out there that you can apply to to teach in the destination of your choice. Some programs require a specific degree, but others do not.\\nThe JET Programme is an organization that sends teachers to Japan to teach English.\\nThe TEFL program sends teachers to speak English in several countries.\\n4-3. Volunteer.\\nYou can volunteer to teach, but there are plenty of other options to volunteer if teaching is not your thing. Volunteering is great way to help others while enriching your own knowledge of other cultures. You can volunteer to work on a farm, build schools in developing countries, or spread your religion to others.\\nThe WWOOF programs sends volunteers to work on organic farms all over the world.\\nGlobal Vision International is a program that has volunteer and internship opportunities all over the world in a range of programs, like animal care and education.\\nInternational Volunteer HQ has programs all over the world in childcare, medical care, etc.\\nKeep in mind that most volunteer programs require a fee.\\n4-4. Travel abroad.\\nTraveling abroad can be expensive, but it is possible if you save your money over time and budget well. To spend less on travel, take low-cost airlines, buses, or trains. Avoid staying in expensive hotels. Instead, stay in an Airbnb apartment, or consider Couchsurfing, a website that offers a free place to stay. Shop at the local grocery store instead of eating out for every meal. You don’t have to travel extravagantly to get the most out of an experience abroad.\\nOnly stay in situations that you feel comfortable with. Connect through certified websites, and leave any situation that makes you feel uncomfortable.\\nTips\\nRead New Internationalist.\\nBecoming a world citizen requires a conscious effort. It is an ongoing, sometimes frustrating process, but it is worth it.\\nReach out to members of your community who come from other cultures, but do so in a respectful manner.\\nWarnings\\nDon’t stay in any situation that risks your safety. Learn and grow in a safe environment. Being out of your comfort zone and risking your safety are not the same.\\nFriends, family, or other community members may disagree with your efforts to become a global citizen. This can be hurtful and frustrating, but sit down and talk to them about why you are making these efforts.\\nDon’t spend all of your money in an effort to become an active community member. Money is not required to learn and be active. Budget wisely.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a global citizen means identifying with an ever-growing global community and actively contributing to positive growth within the community. It is important to identify with a global community, but that doesn’t mean you have to travel far or abandon your personal identity. To become a global citizen, you should have an open mind, educate yourself, get involved in your community, and travel when possible.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having an Open Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn about your heritage.\", \"描述\": \"To be a global citizen, you must identify with a world community, but you should not lose your heritage or culture. Your heritage involves what cultures are present in your family history, what culture your family actively subscribes to, and what community you live in today. To learn about these, talk to your family, research your family history on the internet, and get to know more about your community by being active citizen. \\nYou can research your background on websites like Ancestry.com. Most websites that offer these services do charge a fee.\\nBe an active community member by exploring its museums, making use of the library, and talking to members of the community.\\nAsk your family what they consider their heritage to be. It is possible to have many different heritages in one family.\\nThink about where you come from. For example, if you are a North American, you have many cultures within being a North American. You may be a North American, from the United States, who lives in Texas, but has a Mexican heritage.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Inquire about others’ backgrounds.\", \"描述\": \"Ask your friends, family members, or teachers, about their cultural backgrounds and what that means to them. This isn’t limited to people you know personally. You can also research the backgrounds of your favorite political or entertainment figures, whether they are current or historical.\\nFor example, you could ask “What would you consider your cultural background to be, and is it important in your daily life?” Before asking people about their background, make sure you tell them that you are trying to learn more about every culture. Be as polite and respectful as possible. Don’t push the subject if the other person doesn’t want to talk about it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn about equality and inequality.\", \"描述\": \"Thinking that all people are equal goes beyond respect. To truly be a global citizen, you should believe that all people are equal regardless of their race or religion. A person who believes in equality believes that every person deserves healthcare, education, respect, and justice when wronged. Watch the news and read newspapers and history books to gain an understanding of inequality that has happened in the past and is happening in the present. To believe in equality, it is crucial to see where equality has not been achieved.\\nYou should also read history books to see how equality was achieved. For example, it is important to learn about the Civil Rights Movement in the 1960s, and the important figures involved in the movement, like Martin Luther King Jr.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Educating Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn about current and past events.\", \"描述\": \"Visit the library, subscribe to newspapers, and watch the news. You may have learned about past events in history, but brush up on world history by visiting your library and checking out history books about different cultures. To understand where the world is today, you need to see how past events have influenced the present. It is just as, if not more, important to stay updated on events happening all throughout the world..\\nSome things to learn about are: Global policies (international treaties), programs, wars (past and present), tragedies, positive happenings, politics, and entertainment news from all over the word. Information can be found in your local library, on the internet, and on television. It is possible to find international news in your language.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Discover the values of other cultures.\", \"描述\": \"It is positive and necessary to respect the values of a global community, but it is also important to learn about them. Some values to learn about are human rights, poverty reduction, prevention of conflict between countries, and sustainable economic growth. These values can be learned by visiting your local library, watching the news, and searching specifically for the values country by country on an online search.\\nConsider cultures that seem far removed from your own culture. If you are familiar with Western culture, consider learning about countries like South Korea, India, and China. If you are familiar with Eastern culture, consider learning about France, Canada, and Norway. You can also learn about countries like Brazil and Argentina.\\nOther values like religion, entertainment, and manners can be learned in the same way, but you also can learn about them by talking to members of other cultures.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Read as much as possible.\", \"描述\": \"You will learn about values and events from reading, but you will learn about parts of the world you wouldn’t have thought about by reading. You can learn about your own and other cultures by reading books, both fiction and nonfiction. Reading will allow you to get a glimpse into someone’s mind that is not possible in any other way.\\nYou can look on websites like Goodreads and TasteKid for reading recommendations.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn another language.\", \"描述\": \"There are many benefits that come from learning a new language. It is the best way to get to know another culture, become more open-minded, and bridge cultural gaps. Learning another language can seem daunting, but it is possible with time and dedication. You can learn another language on your own, in a class, and with the help of a willing friend.\\nCheck out a language textbook from the library. A book may not help you become fluent in a language, but it is a good introduction to the basics and grammar.\\nLook for classes in your community. Sometimes colleges will allow enrollment, but there are programs that offer language classes in the community. There are also classes offered online.\\nOnce you have some basics down, try communicating with people who are fluent in the language you have chosen to learn. You can ask people in your community, or try communicating with people online, as long as it is done safely. Make sure the other person is willing and happy to help.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn about your purchases.\", \"描述\": \"Unless you consciously buy locally, there is a large chance that many things you own and buy come from other places in the world. Globalization has made trade, importing, and exporting easier and more common than ever. It seems positive because it has made some products cheap, but it is negative because the conditions those products are being made aren’t always positive. Take a look at what you buy, see where they were made, and learn about the conditions they were made in. Some things you can search for are: \\nWhat are the conditions for the employees at the factory where my shoes were made?\\nAre the employees at this factory paid a living wage?\\nIs the factory that made my olive oil ecologically responsible?\\nDoes the factory that made my t-shirt support gay rights?\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Understand climate change.\", \"描述\": \"Being a global citizen goes beyond engaging with and understanding people. Learning about the environment we live in, and the ongoing climate change crisis is important, too. There are still people that refute climate change, but the evidence for it is prominent. You can do an online search to learn about climate change, watch documentaries, and read news that is focused specifically on the environment.\\nTo learn about what you can do to be more environmentally friendly, do an online search for The Environmental Protection Agency. Their website offers a list of things you can do in your daily life to limit greenhouse gas emissions.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting Involved in Your Community\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Share and listen to stories.\", \"描述\": \"Being a part of the global community starts in your local community. Share stories about your background, and listen to the stories of others. You can ask friends, family members, and people you encounter at school, church, or work to share stories about their backgrounds.\\nFor example, if you are talking to someone from a different culture, you could ask “What is it like celebrating your biggest holiday? What is it like for you?” To a friend or family member, you could ask for a memory from their childhood.\\nYou can also turn to social media to listen to and share stories with a broader community of people. You can go to YouTube, Twitter, and Facebook to share and search for content.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Support art, music, and culture in your community.\", \"描述\": \"Getting involved in your community includes being curious about activities and possibilities. Search for art and music shows. Also, look for cultural fairs and exhibitions. You can go to your local theatre, venues, schools and cultural centers to ask for information about upcoming events. Spending time supporting your community both financially and with your time at events is a great way to actively be a community member.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make new friends.\", \"描述\": \"Building and nurturing relationships is a vital part of being an active global community member. Make new friends with people from your culture, as well as other cultures. Start locally, and then you can build your connections globally through social media and pen pal programs.\\nIf you are in school, ask a classmate to join you in an activity. If you work, ask a coworker if they would like to accompany you to an event.\\nPost and respond to the updates of others on social media. You can reach out to people in your community, or people from all over the world. Do not, however, share any personal information with strangers.\\nJoin a pen pal program. You can sign up on safe and secure websites to exchange letters or emails with another person from anywhere in the world. This is a good way to get to know about the daily life and values of another person from a different culture firsthand. A few pen pal programs are PenPal World, Mail friends, and International Pen Friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Volunteer locally.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t have to travel far to make a positive impact by volunteering. There are plenty of opportunities to volunteer within your community. You can volunteer at your local homeless shelter, senior center, or education center. Many people acting locally influences a global change.\\nVolunteerMatch is a website that matches you with volunteer opportunities in your community. Enter your email, and you will receive a newsletter with volunteer opportunities in your community weekly.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Donate wisely.\", \"描述\": \"It’s okay if you do not have the means to donate, but if you do, donate your money wisely. Donating is a great way to support local and global causes, but there are many charities out there that do not use their funds honestly. Research any foundation before giving your money to it. A couple of trustworthy foundations are:\\nThe Life You Can Save. This is a website that recommends trustworthy charities: https://www.thelifeyoucansave.org/\\nZidisha. This foundation is focused on microlending. Microlending is giving small amounts of money to a person or company with low or no interests rates. Money typically goes to businesses or people in the developing world: https://www.zidisha.org/\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stand up against injustice.\", \"描述\": \"Injustice to people, animals, and the land has occurred all throughout history. Unfortunately, injustice still happens in the world today. A global community member should not stand passively by, but instead, stand up for anyone or anything that has been wronged. How active you want to be is your choice.\\nVoice your opinion on social media. There are hashtags dedicated to specific causes. A few of those causes are #BlackLivesMatter and #YesAllWomen.\\nAttend a peaceful protest for a cause you care about in your city.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Traveling to Other Places\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take a road trip.\", \"描述\": \"Seeing the world is part of being a global citizen. You don’t have to travel far to learn about other parts of the world. You can drive to the next town, state, or even country, if you live in an area where it is possible to do so. The important thing is that you observe and interact with the land, people, and local culture.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Teach in another community.\", \"描述\": \"It is enough to teach others in your community, but it is also an option to teach abroad. You can volunteer to teach abroad, or be paid to teach in another country. There are many programs out there that you can apply to to teach in the destination of your choice. Some programs require a specific degree, but others do not.\\nThe JET Programme is an organization that sends teachers to Japan to teach English.\\nThe TEFL program sends teachers to speak English in several countries.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Volunteer.\", \"描述\": \"You can volunteer to teach, but there are plenty of other options to volunteer if teaching is not your thing. Volunteering is great way to help others while enriching your own knowledge of other cultures. You can volunteer to work on a farm, build schools in developing countries, or spread your religion to others.\\nThe WWOOF programs sends volunteers to work on organic farms all over the world.\\nGlobal Vision International is a program that has volunteer and internship opportunities all over the world in a range of programs, like animal care and education.\\nInternational Volunteer HQ has programs all over the world in childcare, medical care, etc.\\nKeep in mind that most volunteer programs require a fee.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Travel abroad.\", \"描述\": \"Traveling abroad can be expensive, but it is possible if you save your money over time and budget well. To spend less on travel, take low-cost airlines, buses, or trains. Avoid staying in expensive hotels. Instead, stay in an Airbnb apartment, or consider Couchsurfing, a website that offers a free place to stay. 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This can be hurtful and frustrating, but sit down and talk to them about why you are making these efforts.\\n\", \"Don’t spend all of your money in an effort to become an active community member. Money is not required to learn and be active. Budget wisely.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Yogi
1. Steps 1-1. Practice yoga for health, inner peace, or enlightenment. You are a yogi or a yogini if you practice yoga for health, beauty, strength, relaxation, or healing. You are a yogi or yogini if you practice yoga for inner peace, happiness and enlightenment. You are a yogi or yogini if you are enlightened. Enlightenment means to live in God, in the light, in a cosmic consciousness. 1-2. Be a theist or an atheist. In modern yoga, your religion can be your preference. Yoga teaches the unity of all religions. You can be a Yogi and a Hindu, a Christian, a Muslim, a Buddhist or an Atheist. An Atheist can be a yogi, if he or she wants to realize inner peace and happiness. You can be a Christian yogi if you want. The most important Christian yogis were the Desert Fathers and Mothers . Their enlightened master was the Holy Antonius . 1-3. Practice yoga, meditation, and positive thinking. The three great books of yoga are the Yoga-Sutra from Patanjali, the Hatha-Yoga-Pradipika from Goraksha, and the Bhagawad Gita from Krishna. Therefore the basic yoga techniques are positive thinking (Patanjali), meditation (Patanjali), body work (Goraksha), praying (Krishna), and loving all beings (Krishna). 1-4. Learn the five basic features: truth, peace, love, self-discipline and happiness. Important modern yoga masters are Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Jaggi Vasudev , Swami Sivananda, Anandamayi Ma, Sai Baba, Amritanandamayi (Amma), and Mother Meera. They teach the basic features. 1-5. Get an initiation. It is a good idea to get an initiation from an enlightened master. He or she will open the doors of your enlightenment energy (kundalini-energy). However, realize that you have to practice and realize your enlightenment on your own. And have patience – enlightenment will appear when the time is right for you. 1-6. Purify yourself and become happy. Spiritually, human beings can be compared to onions. Tension and conflict must be dissolved layer by layer. When one layer is peeled away, the next quickly appears at the surface until the inner core is revealed. At this point, a lasting inner joy is found, and the yogi or yogini lives in the light (in spite of the reality that there is still much to be done). Tips There was once a woman who had two children. Her husband went to work during the day, and she cleaned the house, cooked the food and cared for the children. She had a good life. But it did not fulfill her. She lacked a deeper meaning to her life. Ultimately, she lacked deep happiness in her life. To do something for herself, she took part in a yoga class. She read a yoga book and learned that by yoga we can awaken our inner happiness. By practicing a lot of yoga, we can come into a life of light and lasting happiness. The woman decided to live as a yogini. From then on, she took all the freedom in her housewife life to do spiritual exercises. While cleaning, she thought mantras. When shopping, she did a walking meditation. Playing with her children she practiced karma yoga. Before falling asleep, she meditated. Thus she sparked further tensions during sleep. It's called Sleep Yoga. Every morning, she prayed to her enlightened Master. She made an hour yoga every day. She blocked her talkativeness and kept her spiritual energy. This is Mauni Yoga. She practised every day consistently on her spiritual path. After twelve years she was enlightened. Warnings Always stay in truth, love, peace, strength and happiness. Don't overtax or under tax your spiritual path. Practice as you feel comfortable. Proponents of yoga may claim it to be compatible with many belief systems and worldviews, but that isn't necessarily so. Be sure you investigate and understand whether or not becoming a yogi accords with what you already believe.
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Practice yoga, meditation, and positive thinking.\\nThe three great books of yoga are the Yoga-Sutra from Patanjali, the Hatha-Yoga-Pradipika from Goraksha, and the Bhagawad Gita from Krishna. Therefore the basic yoga techniques are positive thinking (Patanjali), meditation (Patanjali), body work (Goraksha), praying (Krishna), and loving all beings (Krishna).\\n1-4. Learn the five basic features:\\ntruth, peace, love, self-discipline and happiness. Important modern yoga masters are Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Jaggi Vasudev , Swami Sivananda, Anandamayi Ma, Sai Baba, Amritanandamayi (Amma), and Mother Meera. They teach the basic features.\\n1-5. Get an initiation.\\nIt is a good idea to get an initiation from an enlightened master. He or she will open the doors of your enlightenment energy (kundalini-energy). However, realize that you have to practice and realize your enlightenment on your own. And have patience – enlightenment will appear when the time is right for you.\\n1-6. Purify yourself and become happy.\\nSpiritually, human beings can be compared to onions. Tension and conflict must be dissolved layer by layer. When one layer is peeled away, the next quickly appears at the surface until the inner core is revealed. At this point, a lasting inner joy is found, and the yogi or yogini lives in the light (in spite of the reality that there is still much to be done).\\nTips\\nThere was once a woman who had two children. Her husband went to work during the day, and she cleaned the house, cooked the food and cared for the children. She had a good life. But it did not fulfill her. She lacked a deeper meaning to her life. Ultimately, she lacked deep happiness in her life. To do something for herself, she took part in a yoga class. She read a yoga book and learned that by yoga we can awaken our inner happiness. By practicing a lot of yoga, we can come into a life of light and lasting happiness. The woman decided to live as a yogini. From then on, she took all the freedom in her housewife life to do spiritual exercises. While cleaning, she thought mantras. When shopping, she did a walking meditation. Playing with her children she practiced karma yoga. Before falling asleep, she meditated. Thus she sparked further tensions during sleep. It's called Sleep Yoga. Every morning, she prayed to her enlightened Master. She made an hour yoga every day. She blocked her talkativeness and kept her spiritual energy. This is Mauni Yoga. She practised every day consistently on her spiritual path. After twelve years she was enlightened.\\nWarnings\\nAlways stay in truth, love, peace, strength and happiness. Don't overtax or under tax your spiritual path. Practice as you feel comfortable.\\nProponents of yoga may claim it to be compatible with many belief systems and worldviews, but that isn't necessarily so. Be sure you investigate and understand whether or not becoming a yogi accords with what you already believe.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Yoga refers to traditional physical and mental disciplines that originated in India. The word is associated with meditative practices in Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jainism. Major branches of yoga in Hindu philosophy include Raja Yoga (Patanjali, meditation and positive thinking), Karma Yoga (do good), Jnana Yoga (think about yourself), Bhakti Yoga (pray to God, the Guru or to your inner self), and Hatha Yoga (body exercises and meditation).\\nThe Sanskrit word \\\"yoga\\\" has many meanings, and is derived from the Sanskrit root \\\"yuj\\\", meaning \\\"to control\\\" (self discipline), \\\"to yoke\\\" (egolessness) or \\\"to unite\\\" (live in a cosmic consciousness). Someone who practices yoga or follows the yoga philosophy to a high level of attainment is called a yogi or yogini. Yogini is the feminine form. In the following steps, you will learn how to start your journey to becoming a yogi or yogini.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice yoga for health, inner peace, or enlightenment.\", \"描述\": \"You are a yogi or a yogini if you practice yoga for health, beauty, strength, relaxation, or healing. You are a yogi or yogini if you practice yoga for inner peace, happiness and enlightenment. You are a yogi or yogini if you are enlightened. Enlightenment means to live in God, in the light, in a cosmic consciousness.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be a theist or an atheist.\", \"描述\": \"In modern yoga, your religion can be your preference. Yoga teaches the unity of all religions. You can be a Yogi and a Hindu, a Christian, a Muslim, a Buddhist or an Atheist. An Atheist can be a yogi, if he or she wants to realize inner peace and happiness.\\nYou can be a Christian yogi if you want. 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He or she will open the doors of your enlightenment energy (kundalini-energy). However, realize that you have to practice and realize your enlightenment on your own. And have patience – enlightenment will appear when the time is right for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Purify yourself and become happy.\", \"描述\": \"Spiritually, human beings can be compared to onions. Tension and conflict must be dissolved layer by layer. When one layer is peeled away, the next quickly appears at the surface until the inner core is revealed. At this point, a lasting inner joy is found, and the yogi or yogini lives in the light (in spite of the reality that there is still much to be done).\"}], \"小提示\": [\"There was once a woman who had two children. Her husband went to work during the day, and she cleaned the house, cooked the food and cared for the children. She had a good life. But it did not fulfill her. She lacked a deeper meaning to her life. Ultimately, she lacked deep happiness in her life. To do something for herself, she took part in a yoga class. She read a yoga book and learned that by yoga we can awaken our inner happiness. By practicing a lot of yoga, we can come into a life of light and lasting happiness. The woman decided to live as a yogini. From then on, she took all the freedom in her housewife life to do spiritual exercises. While cleaning, she thought mantras. When shopping, she did a walking meditation. Playing with her children she practiced karma yoga. Before falling asleep, she meditated. Thus she sparked further tensions during sleep. It's called Sleep Yoga. Every morning, she prayed to her enlightened Master. She made an hour yoga every day. She blocked her talkativeness and kept her spiritual energy. This is Mauni Yoga. She practised every day consistently on her spiritual path. After twelve years she was enlightened.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Always stay in truth, love, peace, strength and happiness. Don't overtax or under tax your spiritual path. Practice as you feel comfortable.\\n\", \"Proponents of yoga may claim it to be compatible with many belief systems and worldviews, but that isn't necessarily so. Be sure you investigate and understand whether or not becoming a yogi accords with what you already believe.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a YouTube Star
1. Planning Your Video Content 1-1. Create a YouTube channel First things first, you’ll need to set up a free basic account, and click the upload link (upward facing arrow) at the upper right-hand side of the page. After this, you’ll see a prompt to create a channel. Follow the instructions that appear on the screen. If you have an account with Google, you're in luck, because you already have a YouTube account! Enter the same username and password you use to log into Gmail, Google+, etc. 1-2. Choose your camera. Any camera will work in the beginning, and you have tons of options. Webcams, cell phone cameras, or digital cameras are good choices. If you can afford it or want a higher quality image, consider buying something more sophisticated. Consumer-level video cameras can be found for under $300. If you’re really serious, invest in an HD video camera or even a high-end DSLR. These cameras produce crisp, high-quality videos that will have viewers coming back for more. Laptop, tablet, and desktop computers usually come with at least one free recording program installed. For Mac users, this is Quicktime. For Windows users, this is Windows Media Maker. 1-3. Focus on your best qualities. Make a list of your best attributes. Don’t be modest--write them all down! Use your amazing voice to become a singer. Take advantage of your debating skills to become an editorial presenter. Draw on your extensive knowledge of art history to become an online lecturer. Though it may be tricky, try to choose one quality to use as your brand. 1-4. Get a taste of what’s popular. Outsmart your browser by opening a window in Private or Incognito mode to see trending videos that aren’t based on your previous viewing habits. On the left-hand side of the page, click “Trending,” which is the second link. Videos listed under the headings “Trending” and “Shared and Liked” have the most views. Other ways of finding out what’s popular include: Asking your friends what they’re watching. Friends can be a great resource, and they’ll be happy to help. Checking your social media account to see what’s trending. Search phrases like “popular YouTube videos” using search engines like Google or Bing to see what pops up. 1-5. Think of something unique. Now that you know what’s out there, it’s time to take your YouTube game to the next level. No matter what you decide to do, you’ll have competition. Put on your creative thinking cap, and try to think of an angle that can make your channel stand out. Consider the age group and interests of your target audience. Ask yourself if your channel name is unique. Think about what you’d like to see on YouTube, but have trouble finding. Make sure you can make multiple videos on your concept. A one-video channel isn't much of a channel. Try to be unique, but also be authentic to yourself so your audience can feel a better connection with you. 1-6. Reach out to other YouTubers. Find YouTube stars whose channels are similar to yours, and ask them if they’d like to collaborate with you on a few videos. This can be pretty intimidating, but putting yourself out there is important to building your channel. You can do it! Tell them you really like their content, and that you’d like to work with them on a project. Pitch whatever ideas you have. You can send a private message like this: Click the username of the channel owner, which you can find below the title of the video. When you get to the channel page, click the “About” tab. At the upper right, click the “Send Message" button. Type your message, and click “Send.” Now, cross your fingers and wait for their response. 2. Optimizing Your Channel 2-1. Prepare to capture chance moments. Your smartphone or video camera should be your trusty companion--take it everywhere. Maybe you’ll get lucky and catch something hilarious that could eventually go viral. Maybe you’ll catch something more serious and help to bring justice to an innocent person. If the footage won’t work for your current project, save the file for later. Even if you don't have a plan, take the first step and just start posting content to your page so you can figure out what works and what doesn't for your audience. 2-2. Notice how popular YouTubers edit their videos. Good editing can take a channel to the next level. Pay attention to different camera angles, close-ups, and scene transitions. If your video focuses on your face for several minutes, mix it up with a few angle changes (from frontal to three-quarter, for example). If you’re doing a demonstration, get a nice close-up of the project you’re working on. Listen for background music or white noise in the soundtrack. Don’t stress about copying other YouTubers' editing styles exactly. Instead, they should give you an idea of where to put certain elements. 2-3. Set notifications. To keep your viewers updated on all the new and exciting content you’re producing, check your notification settings while you’re waiting for your video to upload. Set your channel to notify subscribers when you add new content. Click “Advanced Settings,” and scroll down to “Distribution Options.” The option “Notify Subscribers” should be checked automatically. If it’s not, check it! This way, everyone who subscribes to your channel will receive an email when you upload new content. On the other hand, if you decide to upload multiple videos at once, uncheck the notification box. Uploading 20 videos in one day will flood your poor subscribers’ inboxes with 20 emails. 2-4. Fix the captions. After you upload your video, you’ll have the chance to set and edit automatic captions. Take it. You can be the clearest speaker in the world, and automatic captions will still contain tons of mistakes. This is unfair to your deaf and hearing-impaired viewers. Take the time to read and correct the captions after you upload your video. Use this opportunity for a little viewer engagement! Ask them to let you know if they see any errors. 2-5. Interact with your audience. If you’re already replying to comments on your YouTube videos, you’re one step ahead of the game. Still, you’ll need to do more. Take the conversation to social media sites like Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook. Use specific hashtags on live chats to make it easier for your fans to find the discussion. Interacting shows your audience your care, plus all that social media activity can draw new viewers to your channel. You want to build a connection with people that actually lasts—the key is being yourself and never being the version of yourself that the world wants you to be. 3. Growing Your Audience 3-1. Don’t expect instant success. Few YouTubers become an instant hit with their first video. Although there are some exceptions--and hey, maybe you’ll be one--most have to work hard just to get their viewing stats into double digits. Be patient, and use every opportunity you have to promote your channel. With time and effort, you may start to see results. Stick with it. 3-2. Share your videos on social media. Below every video on YouTube is an arrow with the word “Share” next to it. This button should become your new best friend. Click it, and choose the icon of which website you’d like to post to. A pop-up window with a summary of your video will open. You can either edit the summary or leave it as it is. Just don’t alter the link! Websites like Twitter and Facebook will play the videos without having to open a new window or tab. 3-3. Enter YouTube contests. YouTube contests are a great way to promote your channel, plus they can be a ton of fun, too. Search the web or YouTube to see which channels are running contests. Find a contest that pertains to your channel, and read the rules. If the deadline gives you enough time to make a video, enter! Usually, viewers have to vote on how entertaining, educational, funny, etc. a video is. If viewers like your video, they’ll likely head over to your channel and subscribe. 3-4. Send an email. Contact all your friends and family members in your address book. Try something simple like, “Hey, everybody! Check out this video I posted to YouTube. Let me know what you think.” Chances are, they’ll forward the link to even more potential viewers. 3-5. Use tags. Tags make search engines use your videos as results when someone looks up certain terms.That funny cat video you’ve been watching likely has tags like “comedy,” “cats,” “cute,” etc. Make sure you stick to tags that accurately describe your video and channel. Don’t use inaccurate tags just to get more views. You’ll end up feeling dishonest, and disappointed viewers might leave negative comments. 3-6. Create your thumbnail By default, YouTube selects three stills from your video to use as the thumbnail image. If you’re not feeling any of the stills, create your own image. Take a selfie, a screenshot, or any other image that gives an eye-catching visual description of your video. Include a few lines of text that elaborate the image and flesh out the video’s title. 3-7. Take constructive criticism seriously. No first-time video is perfect, and what fun would it be if it were? Each video is a learning opportunity for you to get better. If a viewer praises you for your script delivery but noted that the background noise was distracting, look for free and easy ways to erase unnecessary audio. Make small improvements to each video along the way, and before you know it, you’ll have a sleek, professional looking channel. Tips Do what you like to do other people MIGHT like it too. Always be presentable and clean in your videos. Vlogs are good for longer lasting fame than viral. Warnings Don't post anything with copyrighted material. You cannot become a partner later on if your channel has copyrighted material on it. If you notice a comment that threatens you with violence, report it immediately. Chances are you’re not the only one this person has trolled and threatened. Not everyone is going to like your content, but you shouldn’t be made to feel unsafe by those who aren’t mature enough to accept this. Don't post anything obscene. It will be removed and your account will be deleted.
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A one-video channel isn't much of a channel.\\nTry to be unique, but also be authentic to yourself so your audience can feel a better connection with you.\\n1-6. Reach out to other YouTubers.\\nFind YouTube stars whose channels are similar to yours, and ask them if they’d like to collaborate with you on a few videos. This can be pretty intimidating, but putting yourself out there is important to building your channel. You can do it! Tell them you really like their content, and that you’d like to work with them on a project. Pitch whatever ideas you have. You can send a private message like this:\\nClick the username of the channel owner, which you can find below the title of the video.\\nWhen you get to the channel page, click the “About” tab.\\nAt the upper right, click the “Send Message\\\" button.\\nType your message, and click “Send.” Now, cross your fingers and wait for their response.\\n2. Optimizing Your Channel\\n2-1. Prepare to capture chance moments.\\nYour smartphone or video camera should be your trusty companion--take it everywhere. Maybe you’ll get lucky and catch something hilarious that could eventually go viral. Maybe you’ll catch something more serious and help to bring justice to an innocent person. If the footage won’t work for your current project, save the file for later.\\nEven if you don't have a plan, take the first step and just start posting content to your page so you can figure out what works and what doesn't for your audience.\\n2-2. Notice how popular YouTubers edit their videos.\\nGood editing can take a channel to the next level. Pay attention to different camera angles, close-ups, and scene transitions. If your video focuses on your face for several minutes, mix it up with a few angle changes (from frontal to three-quarter, for example). If you’re doing a demonstration, get a nice close-up of the project you’re working on. 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Instead, they should give you an idea of where to put certain elements.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set notifications.\", \"描述\": \"To keep your viewers updated on all the new and exciting content you’re producing, check your notification settings while you’re waiting for your video to upload. Set your channel to notify subscribers when you add new content. Click “Advanced Settings,” and scroll down to “Distribution Options.” The option “Notify Subscribers” should be checked automatically. If it’s not, check it! This way, everyone who subscribes to your channel will receive an email when you upload new content.\\nOn the other hand, if you decide to upload multiple videos at once, uncheck the notification box. Uploading 20 videos in one day will flood your poor subscribers’ inboxes with 20 emails.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Fix the captions.\", \"描述\": \"After you upload your video, you’ll have the chance to set and edit automatic captions. Take it. 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Click it, and choose the icon of which website you’d like to post to. A pop-up window with a summary of your video will open. You can either edit the summary or leave it as it is. Just don’t alter the link! Websites like Twitter and Facebook will play the videos without having to open a new window or tab.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enter YouTube contests.\", \"描述\": \"YouTube contests are a great way to promote your channel, plus they can be a ton of fun, too. Search the web or YouTube to see which channels are running contests. Find a contest that pertains to your channel, and read the rules. If the deadline gives you enough time to make a video, enter! Usually, viewers have to vote on how entertaining, educational, funny, etc. a video is. If viewers like your video, they’ll likely head over to your channel and subscribe.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Send an email.\", \"描述\": \"Contact all your friends and family members in your address book. Try something simple like, “Hey, everybody! 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How to Be a Young Adult
1. Moving Toward Stability 1-1. Accept the challenge. You’ve probably heard many grumpy adults tell you that your generation is ungrateful and immature. This attitude is, like your becoming a young adult, just another natural transition in life. Their generation (and each before it) was filled with 18 year olds who didn’t want to grow up. Though this transition has always been difficult for humans, it is still very important to accept the challenge. Life isn’t always enjoyable, but maturing proactively can make it a little easier. 1-2. Learn to respect your parents (or your guardian). This is important, firstly, because they are probably the most emotionally and financially equipped people to offer help when you need it. There are also larger reasons for respecting your parents. You have a lifelong bond that can be an incredible source of strength for everyone involved. Sure, you may have quarreled while you were growing up, but it’s time to do the adult thing and put your differences aside. 1-3. Find mentors. The emotional and daily struggles you have as a young adult have been around forever. You’re not the first person to experience them, so check in every now and then with an adult you look up to. They can help you through problems and offer advice on how to ‘be an adult’ in a given situation. Having a mentor to talk to is also an important part of maintaining mental health. The early adult years are when you are most susceptible to showing signs of mental illness. Let someone help you keep your blossoming feelings under control. 1-4. Research and explore career options. The key to surviving the work culture of the 21st century is forgetting the clichéd question “what do I want to do for the rest of my life?” Almost no one these days will work for one company their entire life, much less have anyone job title. Many jobs that are available right now might become obsolete in the future. The best thing to do at 18 years old is think about general tasks you enjoy, and environments you enjoy being in. See this guide for a detailed description of the process of choosing a career. For example, if you keep your room tidy and keep track of all your expenses, you may enjoy a job in logistics or data management. Your ideal work environment may be as simple as indoor or outdoor. Or, for example, if you enjoy concerts, you should look into careers in audio engineering or event planning. You shouldn’t forget about your teenage dreams and hobbies, but most people aren’t going to become successful rock stars. Consider putting off spending too much time on unrealistic dreams until they are a viable way to earn a living. If you do want to follow your dreams, you can try following your dreams in a more "scaled down" and realistic fashion. For example, you may want to become a rock star, but think about starting a band and playing in your local community at a local coffee shop or lounge, etc. Getting a part time job while you explore your career options is a great idea. Just don’t get complacent with a job that doesn’t fill you with self-respect just because it puts a few bucks in your pocket. 1-5. Look into ‘adult’ hobbies. It is important to have fun, but you should start thinking of ways to enjoy the world as an adult. There is a world of culture that you may have previously found dull or uninteresting. Now that you have matured some, try those activities again and see what all the rage is about – there is probably a reason ‘adult’ hobbies have been around so long. For example, try to spend less time watching cartoons and more time reading. Or, try going to a music concert that is not rock, hip hop or pop music. You don’t need to force yourself to tolerate activities you still don’t enjoy, but try to expose yourself to them and see how you like them. 1-6. Move into an apartment you can afford. If you live in an area that allows you to move out of your parents’ house, do it! You may have to have roommates the first few years, but see that as an opportunity. Unlike high school friends, who often move in opposite directions, the friends you make as a young adult are probably there to stay. Roommates you have as a young adult can become lifelong friends. You will learn to be mature and responsible. Check out this guide for more on choosing an apartment. Look at the neighborhood. You want to factor in accessibility, safety, public transportation, and nearby amenities. Make a budget. After rent, utilities, renter’s insurance, and any other housing related expenses, you shouldn’t be spending more than one-third of your monthly income. Find roommates at a similar place in life. You may be able to successfully live with older or younger roommates later, but keep your life more simple by rooming with like-minded people in this phase of your life. If you’re still in high school, you shouldn’t move into an apartment just yet – this advice is for a little later. 1-7. Make short-term and long-term goals. Think about where you want your life to be in five years. This will be important in giving your life a sense of direction, but don’t feel bound to it. As the saying goes, life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans. Therefore, write down where you want to be in a few months, or next year. This should be a smaller, more achievable goal that will make your daily life more enjoyable. Long-term goals involve personal relationships, whether or not to attend college, being in an ideal career or job title, etc. These should be something you strive for, so making a plan is a good idea. However, be aware that your plan will change. For example, marriage may happen when you don’t expect it to, and not happen when you want it to. Be ready to roll with the punches. Short term goals may simply be, for example, that you want to start a weekly exercise regimen by next summer. Or, you may want to simply get a part time job in the next couple months while you explore career options. 2. Being a Student in the Adult World 2-1. Ask for little to no allowance. Students can’t work enough to cover all college and living expenses in today’s economy. However, you should limit how much you’re in debt, both to banks and to your parents. Even though they may not expect you to pay them back, this ‘debt’ will linger in your subconscious. Start learning budgeting and pragmatism by limiting how financially dependent you are on your parents. 2-2. Accept advice from your parents. Your parents have been around longer than you have, and may have even attended college. Let them suggest time management and organizational skills while you are a student. Though they may not personally know your professors, they have come across many types of people in their life, and may have helpful advice for you. Parents may be a good source for relationship advice. Now that you’re a little older and more or less on your own, they may be able to identify with your relationship problems better than a few years ago. Seek advice from your parents about your resume. It is never too early to begin racking up experiences that will help you get jobs and promotions, so ask them what you should be doing in addition to school. 2-3. Go out and live your own life. Though listening to your parents is important, take this time to find yourself. Don’t simply parrot their opinions around your friends, and force yourself to emulate their daily routine. Do some critical thinking about what you believe and how you want to live your life. The more proud parents may not appreciate this, but they should respect you for it later in life. 2-4. Solve problems yourself. You will make mistakes as a young adult – everyone does. The important part is to solve the problems yourself, with as little aid from your parents as possible. Of course, it’s ok to ask their advice. However, calling your dad when you clog the dorm toilet is not a good way to solve the problem. Get a plunger and fix it yourself. This extends to much more serious problems than a clogged toilet. If you didn’t plan your budget well, and are running out of money a month too early, try to find a way to solve the problem. Consider getting a short-term part-time job or checking the classifieds for little gigs. 2-5. Treat classes and homework like your job. While you should be developing adult skills during your college years, the reason you’re there is to learn. Go to class on time, speak up, and respect the professor. They will be writing you recommendation letters in a few years. A high GPA can come in very handy down the road in ways you never expected. For example, if you decide to go back for a graduate degree later on, having put in the effort to get a 3.5 GPA instead of a 2.5 can be a real life saver. 2-6. Try out keeping ‘adult’ hours. Waking up at 6am-7am and going to bed at 10pm-11pm is not for everyone. However, this is a natural schedule most adults eventually gravitate toward. It is also the schedule you will probably need to abide by if you get a full time job one day. Make the transition easier on yourself by getting in this rhythm when you have fewer responsibilities early in the day. It is easy for many college students to schedule all classes in the late morning, at the earliest. Try giving yourself a reason to get up earlier in the day by signing up for the earlier courses instead. 2-7. Consider getting a part time job. If you are taking a full load of courses, this may not be very doable. However, it is a good way to make the burden of loan debt and borrowing money from your parents easier. It also builds your resume with actual work experience, even if it is unrelated to the career you envision. Finally, a job teaches you important interpersonal and time management skills that you will need for the rest of your life. 3. Developing Financial Responsibility 3-1. Get a job. If you don’t go to college immediately, you need to start building your personal wealth. It is a good idea to go ahead and get a part-time job, even as you search for something you would enjoy more. It is easy for job searches to drag on much longer than you intend, and you can always quit a little part-time job. Getting a job as a restaurant server is fairly easy, and quick turnover is expected in that industry. Other service industry jobs like cashiering are easy to get and relatively painless to quit. Who knows, this little job may open up a new world to you that you want to work in. 3-2. Be grateful for the work you have. In the internet age, machines do much of our work for us, limiting the number of jobs available. You may only have a crappy job right now, and think you deserve much more. You probably do deserve more, but look at this period as putting in your time. The best way to get promoted or impress your bosses is to put in a hard day’s work for your own sake if no one else’s. Look at the part-time job for what it is – a way to pay the bills and save up some money while you figure out what you want to do with the next part of your life. Try living day-to-day if you hate your job. If it was a beautiful day and a customer gave you positive feedback, put today in the ‘win column.’ Being grateful doesn’t mean you should accept your unenjoyable job indefinitely. Look around for openings at night, and apply to jobs you think you won’t get. If you don’t apply for these jobs, you’ll never have the possibility of getting lucky with a job offer from your dream company. 3-3. Start saving money Putting part of your paycheck into your savings account is going to be useful down the road when you want a house or car. The best way to save money is to keep track of all of your income and expenditures. Give yourself a weekly budget for food and outings, and stick to it. You can even itemize trips to see family and friends if you know how much you’ll spend on gas and food. If your paycheck doesn’t automatically subtract income tax, put away some money every month for this. You should be saving somewhere between 20% and 30%, depending on your tax bracket. 3-4. Consider getting a credit card. If you are relatively stable, this is a good way to build good credit. However, it is also a liability if you are a student or don’t make enough money to add an extra bill each month. After all, you build credit just by paying your other bills, like rent and your car payment. Since only half of people under 25 in many areas get credit cards, whether or not you should depends on your situation. Do some budgeting and ask your parents and mentors what they think. 3-5. Limit how often you go out. Getting out of your parents’ house means you have less supervision and only self-imposed curfews. It’s easy to start going out 4 nights a week, or more. However, this will likely become expensive and get in the way of performing well in your job. Furthermore, developing early alcohol dependence may set the stage for abuse later in life. Try not to go out more than once or twice a week. 3-6. Start buying more groceries. You were probably used to having free groceries at your parents’ house and going out to eat otherwise. This is an expensive and generally unhealthy way to live. Force yourself to buy groceries, and plan on cooking them at home to save money. Buy fresh fruits and vegetables. Starting adulthood with a healthy diet is important to form good habits and a good relationship with food. 3-7. Make coffee at home. This is more of a metaphor for making food or doing activities at home that are much more expensive elsewhere. You can, for example, pick up a deluxe coffee on your way to work one day. However, coffee by the pound is much cheaper, and can be made to taste better. As far as activities go, consider seeing movies at home rather than going to the movie theater every time, for example. The more you commit to outings, the more time and money you will lose. 4. Becoming a Role Model 4-1. Learn to be more self-sufficient. Too many young adults can’t perform basic household tasks. Fixing the toilet and checking the oil in your car are basic tasks you should know how to do. This can-do attitude will transfer into your workplace. You will find that your supervisors will be much more impressed with someone who knows how to do random little things that help the office from day to day. This could mean fixing a squeaky chair or identifying a serious problem with the company truck’s hydraulic system. Being handy at home also helps you avoid unnecessary repair expenses. 4-2. Take responsibility You don’t have the shelter of people treating you like a kid anymore. You will need to make decisions carefully and for good reason. Afterwards, accept the consequences whether they are positive or negative. Apologize if you made a mistake, but focus on not making that mistake again. Older adults will respect you for this. 4-3. Learn about the ‘status quo. ’ You may not agree with the way something is done, but ask your parents or mentors why it is the way it is. You don’t always need to blindly accept the world as it is. However, this is a ‘pick your battles’ situation. Reinventing the wheel every time you walk out the door will make it impossible for you to actually live your life. For example, you may not like paying local taxes. However, this is an important part of maintaining basic services and infrastructure. Get involved in local government to learn more about why the laws and regulations are the way they are. You also may not like that you are expected to get married and have children, especially in more conservative and family orientated communities (think small town and suburban America). Talk to your parents about how and why they eventually came to terms with having children. 4-4. Be active in your community. Part of being an adult is shaping a better future. This involves community service and caring about education. Volunteer at your local school or community center, or find a way to be a role model for a younger teen or child.< 4-5. Share what you’re good at. Your hobbies from childhood will not likely become your career, but that doesn’t mean you need to quit doing them. If you are good at a hobby, sharing it with the community is a good way to give back. Find ways to show the world your talents. For example, if you were in orchestra growing up, audition for community orchestras as an adult. Or, if you were in boy scouts, volunteer as a troop leader. If you are good at public speaking, volunteer to give children’s sermons at church, for example. 4-6. Dress like you respect yourself. Wearing more than sweats every day conveys a message to others and boosts your self-confidence.Of course, you shouldn’t be uncomfortable or dress in outdated attire. There are, nonetheless, noticeable perks of not being the laziest dresser in the room. Wear a basic pair of pants and shoes with laces on casual days, and emulate those around you at work. 4-7. Remember to laugh. After all this, it is important to remember that being an adult isn’t such serious business. Find hobbies that make you happy, and play! Sports, board games, and just running are perfectly acceptable activities for adults to have. Remember to really punch the clock at the end of the workday, and try to be a kid every once in a while. Turn off the TV. Passive activities like this don’t stimulate your brain, and are not as rewarding as other ways of having fun. 4-8. If you don’t know how to have fun, think of how you did it as a kid. Doing little craft projects or playing video games isn’t illegal now that you are an adult. Think about fun ways to exercise. Since you won’t have as much time to have fun and get exercise, combining the two is a good idea. Play sports in your community or find a running buddy. This will keep you from having to double book yourself for exercise and social events as well. Engage with fun art forms. Try out painting, or get into art house films. It is easy to turn art into a fun hobby.
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However, you should limit how much you’re in debt, both to banks and to your parents. Even though they may not expect you to pay them back, this ‘debt’ will linger in your subconscious. Start learning budgeting and pragmatism by limiting how financially dependent you are on your parents.\\n2-2. Accept advice from your parents.\\nYour parents have been around longer than you have, and may have even attended college. Let them suggest time management and organizational skills while you are a student. Though they may not personally know your professors, they have come across many types of people in their life, and may have helpful advice for you.\\nParents may be a good source for relationship advice. Now that you’re a little older and more or less on your own, they may be able to identify with your relationship problems better than a few years ago.\\nSeek advice from your parents about your resume. 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Get a plunger and fix it yourself.\\nThis extends to much more serious problems than a clogged toilet. If you didn’t plan your budget well, and are running out of money a month too early, try to find a way to solve the problem. Consider getting a short-term part-time job or checking the classifieds for little gigs.\\n2-5. Treat classes and homework like your job.\\nWhile you should be developing adult skills during your college years, the reason you’re there is to learn. Go to class on time, speak up, and respect the professor. They will be writing you recommendation letters in a few years. A high GPA can come in very handy down the road in ways you never expected.\\nFor example, if you decide to go back for a graduate degree later on, having put in the effort to get a 3.5 GPA instead of a 2.5 can be a real life saver.\\n2-6. Try out keeping ‘adult’ hours.\\nWaking up at 6am-7am and going to bed at 10pm-11pm is not for everyone. 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Get a job.\\nIf you don’t go to college immediately, you need to start building your personal wealth. It is a good idea to go ahead and get a part-time job, even as you search for something you would enjoy more. It is easy for job searches to drag on much longer than you intend, and you can always quit a little part-time job.\\nGetting a job as a restaurant server is fairly easy, and quick turnover is expected in that industry.\\nOther service industry jobs like cashiering are easy to get and relatively painless to quit.\\nWho knows, this little job may open up a new world to you that you want to work in.\\n3-2. Be grateful for the work you have.\\nIn the internet age, machines do much of our work for us, limiting the number of jobs available. You may only have a crappy job right now, and think you deserve much more. You probably do deserve more, but look at this period as putting in your time. 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Give yourself a weekly budget for food and outings, and stick to it. You can even itemize trips to see family and friends if you know how much you’ll spend on gas and food.\\nIf your paycheck doesn’t automatically subtract income tax, put away some money every month for this. You should be saving somewhere between 20% and 30%, depending on your tax bracket.\\n3-4. Consider getting a credit card.\\nIf you are relatively stable, this is a good way to build good credit. However, it is also a liability if you are a student or don’t make enough money to add an extra bill each month. After all, you build credit just by paying your other bills, like rent and your car payment. Since only half of people under 25 in many areas get credit cards, whether or not you should depends on your situation. Do some budgeting and ask your parents and mentors what they think.\\n3-5. Limit how often you go out.\\nGetting out of your parents’ house means you have less supervision and only self-imposed curfews. It’s easy to start going out 4 nights a week, or more. However, this will likely become expensive and get in the way of performing well in your job. Furthermore, developing early alcohol dependence may set the stage for abuse later in life. Try not to go out more than once or twice a week.\\n3-6. Start buying more groceries.\\nYou were probably used to having free groceries at your parents’ house and going out to eat otherwise. This is an expensive and generally unhealthy way to live. Force yourself to buy groceries, and plan on cooking them at home to save money.\\nBuy fresh fruits and vegetables. Starting adulthood with a healthy diet is important to form good habits and a good relationship with food.\\n3-7. Make coffee at home.\\nThis is more of a metaphor for making food or doing activities at home that are much more expensive elsewhere. You can, for example, pick up a deluxe coffee on your way to work one day. However, coffee by the pound is much cheaper, and can be made to taste better.\\nAs far as activities go, consider seeing movies at home rather than going to the movie theater every time, for example. The more you commit to outings, the more time and money you will lose.\\n4. Becoming a Role Model\\n4-1. Learn to be more self-sufficient.\\nToo many young adults can’t perform basic household tasks. Fixing the toilet and checking the oil in your car are basic tasks you should know how to do. This can-do attitude will transfer into your workplace. You will find that your supervisors will be much more impressed with someone who knows how to do random little things that help the office from day to day. \\nThis could mean fixing a squeaky chair or identifying a serious problem with the company truck’s hydraulic system.\\nBeing handy at home also helps you avoid unnecessary repair expenses.\\n4-2. Take responsibility\\nYou don’t have the shelter of people treating you like a kid anymore. You will need to make decisions carefully and for good reason. Afterwards, accept the consequences whether they are positive or negative. Apologize if you made a mistake, but focus on not making that mistake again. Older adults will respect you for this.\\n4-3. Learn about the ‘status quo.\\n’ You may not agree with the way something is done, but ask your parents or mentors why it is the way it is. You don’t always need to blindly accept the world as it is. However, this is a ‘pick your battles’ situation. Reinventing the wheel every time you walk out the door will make it impossible for you to actually live your life.\\nFor example, you may not like paying local taxes. However, this is an important part of maintaining basic services and infrastructure. Get involved in local government to learn more about why the laws and regulations are the way they are.\\nYou also may not like that you are expected to get married and have children, especially in more conservative and family orientated communities (think small town and suburban America). Talk to your parents about how and why they eventually came to terms with having children.\\n4-4. Be active in your community.\\nPart of being an adult is shaping a better future. This involves community service and caring about education. Volunteer at your local school or community center, or find a way to be a role model for a younger teen or child.<\\n4-5. Share what you’re good at.\\nYour hobbies from childhood will not likely become your career, but that doesn’t mean you need to quit doing them. If you are good at a hobby, sharing it with the community is a good way to give back. Find ways to show the world your talents.\\nFor example, if you were in orchestra growing up, audition for community orchestras as an adult.\\nOr, if you were in boy scouts, volunteer as a troop leader.\\nIf you are good at public speaking, volunteer to give children’s sermons at church, for example.\\n4-6. Dress like you respect yourself.\\nWearing more than sweats every day conveys a message to others and boosts your self-confidence.Of course, you shouldn’t be uncomfortable or dress in outdated attire. There are, nonetheless, noticeable perks of not being the laziest dresser in the room. Wear a basic pair of pants and shoes with laces on casual days, and emulate those around you at work.\\n4-7. Remember to laugh.\\nAfter all this, it is important to remember that being an adult isn’t such serious business. Find hobbies that make you happy, and play! Sports, board games, and just running are perfectly acceptable activities for adults to have. Remember to really punch the clock at the end of the workday, and try to be a kid every once in a while.\\nTurn off the TV. Passive activities like this don’t stimulate your brain, and are not as rewarding as other ways of having fun.\\n4-8. If you don’t know how to have fun, think of how you did it as a kid.\\nDoing little craft projects or playing video games isn’t illegal now that you are an adult.\\nThink about fun ways to exercise. Since you won’t have as much time to have fun and get exercise, combining the two is a good idea. Play sports in your community or find a running buddy. This will keep you from having to double book yourself for exercise and social events as well.\\nEngage with fun art forms. Try out painting, or get into art house films. It is easy to turn art into a fun hobby.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you feel like you're not really sure how to do this whole adulthood thing yet, you're definitely not alone. Transitioning from teenager to young adult is exciting, but it's also confusing and scary. The good news is that there's a bright light at the end of the tunnel. To help you reach it, we've rounded up tips to make transitioning into young adulthood easier, less overwhelming, and even fun.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Moving Toward Stability\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Accept the challenge.\", \"描述\": \"You’ve probably heard many grumpy adults tell you that your generation is ungrateful and immature. This attitude is, like your becoming a young adult, just another natural transition in life. Their generation (and each before it) was filled with 18 year olds who didn’t want to grow up. Though this transition has always been difficult for humans, it is still very important to accept the challenge. Life isn’t always enjoyable, but maturing proactively can make it a little easier.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn to respect your parents (or your guardian).\", \"描述\": \"This is important, firstly, because they are probably the most emotionally and financially equipped people to offer help when you need it. There are also larger reasons for respecting your parents. You have a lifelong bond that can be an incredible source of strength for everyone involved. Sure, you may have quarreled while you were growing up, but it’s time to do the adult thing and put your differences aside.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find mentors.\", \"描述\": \"The emotional and daily struggles you have as a young adult have been around forever. You’re not the first person to experience them, so check in every now and then with an adult you look up to. They can help you through problems and offer advice on how to ‘be an adult’ in a given situation.\\nHaving a mentor to talk to is also an important part of maintaining mental health. The early adult years are when you are most susceptible to showing signs of mental illness. Let someone help you keep your blossoming feelings under control.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Research and explore career options.\", \"描述\": \"The key to surviving the work culture of the 21st century is forgetting the clichéd question “what do I want to do for the rest of my life?” Almost no one these days will work for one company their entire life, much less have anyone job title. Many jobs that are available right now might become obsolete in the future. The best thing to do at 18 years old is think about general tasks you enjoy, and environments you enjoy being in. See this guide for a detailed description of the process of choosing a career.\\nFor example, if you keep your room tidy and keep track of all your expenses, you may enjoy a job in logistics or data management.\\nYour ideal work environment may be as simple as indoor or outdoor. Or, for example, if you enjoy concerts, you should look into careers in audio engineering or event planning.\\nYou shouldn’t forget about your teenage dreams and hobbies, but most people aren’t going to become successful rock stars. Consider putting off spending too much time on unrealistic dreams until they are a viable way to earn a living. If you do want to follow your dreams, you can try following your dreams in a more \\\"scaled down\\\" and realistic fashion. For example, you may want to become a rock star, but think about starting a band and playing in your local community at a local coffee shop or lounge, etc.\\nGetting a part time job while you explore your career options is a great idea. Just don’t get complacent with a job that doesn’t fill you with self-respect just because it puts a few bucks in your pocket.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Look into ‘adult’ hobbies.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to have fun, but you should start thinking of ways to enjoy the world as an adult. There is a world of culture that you may have previously found dull or uninteresting. Now that you have matured some, try those activities again and see what all the rage is about – there is probably a reason ‘adult’ hobbies have been around so long.\\nFor example, try to spend less time watching cartoons and more time reading.\\nOr, try going to a music concert that is not rock, hip hop or pop music.\\nYou don’t need to force yourself to tolerate activities you still don’t enjoy, but try to expose yourself to them and see how you like them.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Move into an apartment you can afford.\", \"描述\": \"If you live in an area that allows you to move out of your parents’ house, do it! You may have to have roommates the first few years, but see that as an opportunity. Unlike high school friends, who often move in opposite directions, the friends you make as a young adult are probably there to stay. Roommates you have as a young adult can become lifelong friends. You will learn to be mature and responsible. Check out this guide for more on choosing an apartment.\\nLook at the neighborhood. You want to factor in accessibility, safety, public transportation, and nearby amenities.\\nMake a budget. After rent, utilities, renter’s insurance, and any other housing related expenses, you shouldn’t be spending more than one-third of your monthly income.\\nFind roommates at a similar place in life. You may be able to successfully live with older or younger roommates later, but keep your life more simple by rooming with like-minded people in this phase of your life.\\nIf you’re still in high school, you shouldn’t move into an apartment just yet – this advice is for a little later.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Make short-term and long-term goals.\", \"描述\": \"Think about where you want your life to be in five years. This will be important in giving your life a sense of direction, but don’t feel bound to it. As the saying goes, life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans. Therefore, write down where you want to be in a few months, or next year. This should be a smaller, more achievable goal that will make your daily life more enjoyable.\\nLong-term goals involve personal relationships, whether or not to attend college, being in an ideal career or job title, etc. These should be something you strive for, so making a plan is a good idea. However, be aware that your plan will change. For example, marriage may happen when you don’t expect it to, and not happen when you want it to. Be ready to roll with the punches.\\nShort term goals may simply be, for example, that you want to start a weekly exercise regimen by next summer. Or, you may want to simply get a part time job in the next couple months while you explore career options.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being a Student in the Adult World\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask for little to no allowance.\", \"描述\": \"Students can’t work enough to cover all college and living expenses in today’s economy. However, you should limit how much you’re in debt, both to banks and to your parents. Even though they may not expect you to pay them back, this ‘debt’ will linger in your subconscious. Start learning budgeting and pragmatism by limiting how financially dependent you are on your parents.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Accept advice from your parents.\", \"描述\": \"Your parents have been around longer than you have, and may have even attended college. Let them suggest time management and organizational skills while you are a student. Though they may not personally know your professors, they have come across many types of people in their life, and may have helpful advice for you.\\nParents may be a good source for relationship advice. Now that you’re a little older and more or less on your own, they may be able to identify with your relationship problems better than a few years ago.\\nSeek advice from your parents about your resume. It is never too early to begin racking up experiences that will help you get jobs and promotions, so ask them what you should be doing in addition to school.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go out and live your own life.\", \"描述\": \"Though listening to your parents is important, take this time to find yourself. Don’t simply parrot their opinions around your friends, and force yourself to emulate their daily routine. Do some critical thinking about what you believe and how you want to live your life. The more proud parents may not appreciate this, but they should respect you for it later in life.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Solve problems yourself.\", \"描述\": \"You will make mistakes as a young adult – everyone does. The important part is to solve the problems yourself, with as little aid from your parents as possible. Of course, it’s ok to ask their advice. However, calling your dad when you clog the dorm toilet is not a good way to solve the problem. Get a plunger and fix it yourself.\\nThis extends to much more serious problems than a clogged toilet. If you didn’t plan your budget well, and are running out of money a month too early, try to find a way to solve the problem. Consider getting a short-term part-time job or checking the classifieds for little gigs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Treat classes and homework like your job.\", \"描述\": \"While you should be developing adult skills during your college years, the reason you’re there is to learn. Go to class on time, speak up, and respect the professor. They will be writing you recommendation letters in a few years. A high GPA can come in very handy down the road in ways you never expected.\\nFor example, if you decide to go back for a graduate degree later on, having put in the effort to get a 3.5 GPA instead of a 2.5 can be a real life saver.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try out keeping ‘adult’ hours.\", \"描述\": \"Waking up at 6am-7am and going to bed at 10pm-11pm is not for everyone. However, this is a natural schedule most adults eventually gravitate toward. It is also the schedule you will probably need to abide by if you get a full time job one day. Make the transition easier on yourself by getting in this rhythm when you have fewer responsibilities early in the day.\\nIt is easy for many college students to schedule all classes in the late morning, at the earliest. Try giving yourself a reason to get up earlier in the day by signing up for the earlier courses instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Consider getting a part time job.\", \"描述\": \"If you are taking a full load of courses, this may not be very doable. However, it is a good way to make the burden of loan debt and borrowing money from your parents easier. It also builds your resume with actual work experience, even if it is unrelated to the career you envision. Finally, a job teaches you important interpersonal and time management skills that you will need for the rest of your life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Financial Responsibility\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a job.\", \"描述\": \"If you don’t go to college immediately, you need to start building your personal wealth. It is a good idea to go ahead and get a part-time job, even as you search for something you would enjoy more. It is easy for job searches to drag on much longer than you intend, and you can always quit a little part-time job.\\nGetting a job as a restaurant server is fairly easy, and quick turnover is expected in that industry.\\nOther service industry jobs like cashiering are easy to get and relatively painless to quit.\\nWho knows, this little job may open up a new world to you that you want to work in.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be grateful for the work you have.\", \"描述\": \"In the internet age, machines do much of our work for us, limiting the number of jobs available. You may only have a crappy job right now, and think you deserve much more. You probably do deserve more, but look at this period as putting in your time. The best way to get promoted or impress your bosses is to put in a hard day’s work for your own sake if no one else’s.\\nLook at the part-time job for what it is – a way to pay the bills and save up some money while you figure out what you want to do with the next part of your life.\\nTry living day-to-day if you hate your job. If it was a beautiful day and a customer gave you positive feedback, put today in the ‘win column.’\\nBeing grateful doesn’t mean you should accept your unenjoyable job indefinitely. Look around for openings at night, and apply to jobs you think you won’t get. If you don’t apply for these jobs, you’ll never have the possibility of getting lucky with a job offer from your dream company.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start saving money\", \"描述\": \"Putting part of your paycheck into your savings account is going to be useful down the road when you want a house or car. The best way to save money is to keep track of all of your income and expenditures. Give yourself a weekly budget for food and outings, and stick to it. You can even itemize trips to see family and friends if you know how much you’ll spend on gas and food.\\nIf your paycheck doesn’t automatically subtract income tax, put away some money every month for this. You should be saving somewhere between 20% and 30%, depending on your tax bracket.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider getting a credit card.\", \"描述\": \"If you are relatively stable, this is a good way to build good credit. However, it is also a liability if you are a student or don’t make enough money to add an extra bill each month. After all, you build credit just by paying your other bills, like rent and your car payment. Since only half of people under 25 in many areas get credit cards, whether or not you should depends on your situation. Do some budgeting and ask your parents and mentors what they think.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Limit how often you go out.\", \"描述\": \"Getting out of your parents’ house means you have less supervision and only self-imposed curfews. It’s easy to start going out 4 nights a week, or more. However, this will likely become expensive and get in the way of performing well in your job. Furthermore, developing early alcohol dependence may set the stage for abuse later in life. Try not to go out more than once or twice a week.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Start buying more groceries.\", \"描述\": \"You were probably used to having free groceries at your parents’ house and going out to eat otherwise. This is an expensive and generally unhealthy way to live. Force yourself to buy groceries, and plan on cooking them at home to save money.\\nBuy fresh fruits and vegetables. Starting adulthood with a healthy diet is important to form good habits and a good relationship with food.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Make coffee at home.\", \"描述\": \"This is more of a metaphor for making food or doing activities at home that are much more expensive elsewhere. You can, for example, pick up a deluxe coffee on your way to work one day. However, coffee by the pound is much cheaper, and can be made to taste better.\\nAs far as activities go, consider seeing movies at home rather than going to the movie theater every time, for example. The more you commit to outings, the more time and money you will lose.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Role Model\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to be more self-sufficient.\", \"描述\": \"Too many young adults can’t perform basic household tasks. Fixing the toilet and checking the oil in your car are basic tasks you should know how to do. This can-do attitude will transfer into your workplace. You will find that your supervisors will be much more impressed with someone who knows how to do random little things that help the office from day to day. \\nThis could mean fixing a squeaky chair or identifying a serious problem with the company truck’s hydraulic system.\\nBeing handy at home also helps you avoid unnecessary repair expenses.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take responsibility\", \"描述\": \"You don’t have the shelter of people treating you like a kid anymore. You will need to make decisions carefully and for good reason. Afterwards, accept the consequences whether they are positive or negative. Apologize if you made a mistake, but focus on not making that mistake again. Older adults will respect you for this.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn about the ‘status quo.\", \"描述\": \"’ You may not agree with the way something is done, but ask your parents or mentors why it is the way it is. You don’t always need to blindly accept the world as it is. However, this is a ‘pick your battles’ situation. Reinventing the wheel every time you walk out the door will make it impossible for you to actually live your life.\\nFor example, you may not like paying local taxes. However, this is an important part of maintaining basic services and infrastructure. Get involved in local government to learn more about why the laws and regulations are the way they are.\\nYou also may not like that you are expected to get married and have children, especially in more conservative and family orientated communities (think small town and suburban America). Talk to your parents about how and why they eventually came to terms with having children.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be active in your community.\", \"描述\": \"Part of being an adult is shaping a better future. This involves community service and caring about education. Volunteer at your local school or community center, or find a way to be a role model for a younger teen or child.<\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Share what you’re good at.\", \"描述\": \"Your hobbies from childhood will not likely become your career, but that doesn’t mean you need to quit doing them. If you are good at a hobby, sharing it with the community is a good way to give back. Find ways to show the world your talents.\\nFor example, if you were in orchestra growing up, audition for community orchestras as an adult.\\nOr, if you were in boy scouts, volunteer as a troop leader.\\nIf you are good at public speaking, volunteer to give children’s sermons at church, for example.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Dress like you respect yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Wearing more than sweats every day conveys a message to others and boosts your self-confidence.Of course, you shouldn’t be uncomfortable or dress in outdated attire. There are, nonetheless, noticeable perks of not being the laziest dresser in the room. Wear a basic pair of pants and shoes with laces on casual days, and emulate those around you at work.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Remember to laugh.\", \"描述\": \"After all this, it is important to remember that being an adult isn’t such serious business. Find hobbies that make you happy, and play! Sports, board games, and just running are perfectly acceptable activities for adults to have. Remember to really punch the clock at the end of the workday, and try to be a kid every once in a while.\\nTurn off the TV. Passive activities like this don’t stimulate your brain, and are not as rewarding as other ways of having fun.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"If you don’t know how to have fun, think of how you did it as a kid.\", \"描述\": \"Doing little craft projects or playing video games isn’t illegal now that you are an adult.\\nThink about fun ways to exercise. Since you won’t have as much time to have fun and get exercise, combining the two is a good idea. Play sports in your community or find a running buddy. This will keep you from having to double book yourself for exercise and social events as well.\\nEngage with fun art forms. Try out painting, or get into art house films. It is easy to turn art into a fun hobby.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Youth Journalist
1. Steps 1-1. Start as a youth journalist, by walking around with a pencil, pad and at times a small camera. Watch for things that just happen and seem newsworthy. Make notes, and write it up on your computer when you get home. This type of curiosity will reveal whether you truly are interested in the field of journalism. 1-2. Watch the news. Get to know the journalists. Study their methods and how they both operate. Learn from them and from other sources. Strive to be the best in the field of your choice. 1-3. Show the ability to write and condense thoughts and facts. Start your own newspaper, even if it is about your family. Interview your aunt or uncle. Ask questions and take notes. If you write when you are young, your writing skills will develop along with your ability to interview. Both are important in the field of journalism. 1-4. Go to the library or book store. Ask to view the pictorial books and see how the journalist tells the story, with use of only photographs. 1-5. Join the school newspaper. That is a great way to find out if you are really interested in this field. Find a topic of interest, such as the poor lunches being served. Interview those that are responsible for menu selections, food quality and jot it all down in a notebook. Then research each link that has been provided to you. If you get satisfaction and enjoyment out of digging and delving into specific areas, then you are showing the ability of becoming a Journalist. 1-6. Realize that there are other areas of journalism. If you enjoy taking pictures with a camera, you might want to delve into the field of photojournalism. This is a very interesting journalistic field of of showing the news with the use of a camera. 1-7. Search the Internet and find out all you can about the journalism field. There are many different areas to choose from that might pique your interest, such as newspapers, TV, magazines or even photography, that you might find one particular area you would like to excel in. Tips Develop computer skills. Most journalists use computers as part of their daily work. Read and learn about famous journalists. Edward R. Morrow and Randolph Hearst are two journalists worth investigating. Be as professional as you can.
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Go to the library or book store.\\nAsk to view the pictorial books and see how the journalist tells the story, with use of only photographs.\\n1-5. Join the school newspaper.\\nThat is a great way to find out if you are really interested in this field. Find a topic of interest, such as the poor lunches being served. Interview those that are responsible for menu selections, food quality and jot it all down in a notebook. Then research each link that has been provided to you. If you get satisfaction and enjoyment out of digging and delving into specific areas, then you are showing the ability of becoming a Journalist.\\n1-6. Realize that there are other areas of journalism.\\nIf you enjoy taking pictures with a camera, you might want to delve into the field of photojournalism. This is a very interesting journalistic field of of showing the news with the use of a camera.\\n1-7. Search the Internet and find out all you can about the journalism field.\\nThere are many different areas to choose from that might pique your interest, such as newspapers, TV, magazines or even photography, that you might find one particular area you would like to excel in.\\nTips\\nDevelop computer skills. Most journalists use computers as part of their daily work.\\nRead and learn about famous journalists. Edward R. Morrow and Randolph Hearst are two journalists worth investigating.\\nBe as professional as you can.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you have a passion for telling stories, you might love getting practice as a youth journalist! Whether you're interested in writing, editing, or photographing your stories, we can help you get started!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start as a youth journalist, by walking around with a pencil, pad and at times a small camera.\", \"描述\": \"Watch for things that just happen and seem newsworthy. Make notes, and write it up on your computer when you get home. This type of curiosity will reveal whether you truly are interested in the field of journalism.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Watch the news.\", \"描述\": \"Get to know the journalists. Study their methods and how they both operate. Learn from them and from other sources. Strive to be the best in the field of your choice.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Show the ability to write and condense thoughts and facts.\", \"描述\": \"Start your own newspaper, even if it is about your family. Interview your aunt or uncle. Ask questions and take notes. If you write when you are young, your writing skills will develop along with your ability to interview. Both are important in the field of journalism.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go to the library or book store.\", \"描述\": \"Ask to view the pictorial books and see how the journalist tells the story, with use of only photographs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Join the school newspaper.\", \"描述\": \"That is a great way to find out if you are really interested in this field. Find a topic of interest, such as the poor lunches being served. Interview those that are responsible for menu selections, food quality and jot it all down in a notebook. Then research each link that has been provided to you. If you get satisfaction and enjoyment out of digging and delving into specific areas, then you are showing the ability of becoming a Journalist.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Realize that there are other areas of journalism.\", \"描述\": \"If you enjoy taking pictures with a camera, you might want to delve into the field of photojournalism. This is a very interesting journalistic field of of showing the news with the use of a camera.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Search the Internet and find out all you can about the journalism field.\", \"描述\": \"There are many different areas to choose from that might pique your interest, such as newspapers, TV, magazines or even photography, that you might find one particular area you would like to excel in.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Develop computer skills. Most journalists use computers as part of their daily work.\\n\", \"Read and learn about famous journalists. Edward R. Morrow and Randolph Hearst are two journalists worth investigating.\\n\", \"Be as professional as you can.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be a Zookeeper
1. Getting Educated 1-1. Learn about zoo keeping as a career. Before you start down the path to becoming a zoo keeper, you should know what a career in zoo keeping looks like. It is a demanding job, physically and emotionally, and you should make sure the career is right for you. Zoo keeping is a job that requires a great deal of physical labor. It is not a glamorous position and you will get dirty, sweaty, and tired at work. It also requires strength and flexibility. You must be able to lift at least 50 pounds. A zookeeper's schedule is somewhat erratic. Your shifts will vary from week to week and you will likely have to work many holidays. If you have a passion for animals, the job can be rewarding. The job does not, however, pay as much as many other professions that involve working with animals. On average, zoo keepers earn around $30,000 a year but pay does vary depending on your level of experience and the cost of living given a zoo's location. A zoo keeper performs a wide array of tasks each day. In addition to feeding animals, cleaning exhibits and cages, and training and observation there is general clerical work required. Zoo keepers have to write field notes and proposals and converse with guests and other workers at the zoo. 1-2. Know the alternatives to zoo keeping. Many people love the idea of working at a zoo, but the sheer amount of physical labor and unpredictable schedule of zoo keeping puts them off. However, there are a wide array of positions needed to keep a zoo running. Administrative positions include directors, managers, and coordinators. For these positions, you supervise projects the zoo is undertaking, plan and execute zoo policies, recruit and maintain staff and volunteers, and help make decisions about the zoo's future. Curators are responsible for creation and collection. General and animal curators manage the zoo's animal collection. Exhibit and educational curators create graphics for exhibits and plan and implement educational programs throughout the zoo. Marketing and fundraising positions focus on raising money for the zoo, managing sales, promoting the institution, and creating ad campaigns and public service announcements on behalf of the zoo. Zoologists and biologists are often staffed by a zoo to provide scientific and technical assistance in regards to maintaining an environment for the animals housed. You would also conduct research on certain species. Veterinarians and vet technicians are usually on staff at zoos to deal with the medical needs of the animals. 1-3. Seek out formal education. There are no specific qualifications or degree paths to becoming a zoo keeper, and requirements vary from zoo to zoo. However, the more education you have fields related to animals, wildlife, and biology the better. If you are in high school, there are programs throughout the country where local zoos allow students to enroll in cooperative learning. Check with your own school system or browse lists online. The American Association of Zookeepers is a great resource. Associate degrees and technical degrees targeting animal management and training, as well as zoological sciences, are a good option if you're looking to further your education beyond high school. These programs are usually 1 to 2 years. There are four year college programs that help you prepare for a career in zoo keeping. You can get a bachelor's degree in Zoo science, Zoo management, and Zoo education at some institutions. If your university does not offer a program specifically related to zoo keeping, a degree in Zoology, Biology, Wildlife Management, or Wildlife Ecology can be a great choice and increase your chance of getting hired by a zoo. 2. Gaining Experience 2-1. Volunteer with a zoo. Experience is important in any profession, but particularly vital in a field that requires as specific a skill set as zoo keeping. Volunteering can be a great start and can lead to internships and jobs down the road. Zoos usually have training sessions for volunteers. Safety is important when working with wild animals, so expect orientation to be more detailed for a zoo than for many other volunteer experiences. Schedules are generally flexible. You can volunteer on a set schedule, like bi-weekly or bi-monthly, or you can just volunteer for special events such as pregnancy watches and animal introductions. Make the most out of your volunteer experience. Ask questions and talk to zoo keepers about how they landed their position. Try to network and make connections you can use to land other positions later on. 2-2. Intern at a zoo. An internship looks great on a resume and provides solid, hands-on experience. While internships are great for any field, as zoo keeping requires a very specific skill set it's vital to gain internship experience on your path to becoming a zoo keeper. The American Association of Zoo Keepers has listings of internships online with AAZK-accredited institutions. Their database is a great starting point when browsing for positions. Zoo keeping internships are demanding. While many internships are part-time, a zoo keeping internship is typically 40 hours a week. You are expected to work weekends. The positions are usually unpaid, but you may get a small stipend or room and board. Internships usually last around three months. High school and college students often find it beneficial to take on an internship over the summer. 2-3. Gain certifications and technical skills. Zoo keeping requires a combination of hands-on and technical skills. Bolster your resume by getting certified for things like CPR and first aid and building a computer skill set. You can enroll in classes to get a first aid/CPR certification. As zoo keepers need to be ready for emergencies, this will set you ahead of other applications when applying for a job. Oftentimes, college courses provide CPR/first aid certification upon completion of the course. Look for classes that offer this, as you'll gain college credit as well as a valuable career skill. As a zoo keeper, you'll often be asked to write daily logs, take notes on animal behavior, and occasional give presentations to other staff members or guests. Proficiency in Microsoft Office programs, like Word, Excel, and PowerPoint, is a great resume builder. You can enroll in a computer studies course or try to teach yourself. 3. Finding a Job 3-1. Write your resume. A great resume is the first step to finding the perfect position, and a zoo keeper resume should highlight your experience, references, and education. Resumes should be written in a legible font that is modern is appearance. Avoid flowery, cursive choices and write in font size 10 or 12. While resumes should be relatively simple, tasteful colors, graphics, and borders can help you stand out of the pile. Try a monogram of your initials in the top corner or different colored fonts for the headers. Don't go for overly flashy fonts. Stick to dark blues and purples, colors that are easy to read. Include only the information that's relevant to the job you're applying for. A zoo does not need to know that you tended bar in college to make rent, but they will want to hear about how you volunteered at a local dairy farm on weekends during your senior year. Write in reverse chronological order. Start with your most recent experiences and work backwards. A good rule of thumb is that your best experience should be "above the fold." This refers to what you see on the front half of a folded paper. In other words, stack your most relevant work towards the top. Ask someone else to look over your resume, like a professor, former employer, friend, or family member. Not only can they offer suggested for tweaking the order and format, they can proofread for you. Many people become blind to their own typos when working on a document for a long time. 3-2. Know where to find jobs. The job search can be overwhelming and many people do not know where to look. Have a strategy plan for finding positions. The American Association of Zoo Keepers is probably your best option to start. They have a comprehensive list of openings in AAZK accredited zoos that is updated year round. Browse their list to see what is available and apply to any positions relevant to your skill set. Talk to previous employers. If you interned or volunteered at a zoo, you should contact them and ask about openings. Even if they have nothing at the moment, if they know you're looking they might reach out to you if a position opens in the future they might reach out to you. Call zoos near you to see if they are hiring. Send them your resume without prompting and tell them you're looking for employment. While they might not have a position right away, if they have your information on file they might contact you for future openings. 3-3. Be flexible in your search. You might not find your ideal position right away. Be willing to cope with change and less than favorable circumstances. Any job is good as it builds your resume and furthers your experience in the field. Zoo keepers work long hours and are expected to work holidays. If you are offered a position, be prepared for a large commitment. There are zoos all over the country, so you should widen your search to a variety of locations. You might have to relocate in order to obtain a job. Be prepared, financially and emotionally, for a potential move. Prepare yourself for a small starting salary. The salary for zoo keeping jobs is relatively low, and especially so if you're starting out. Know going in your budget will be tight, and be willing to work for less. Tips Zookeepers must be strong to work with animals. You should have a commitment to exercise and physical fitness if you want to enter this career. Many people work with animals due to shyness and discomfort around people, but networking is as vital to zoo keeping as any field. You'll need to maintain contact with people in the field to help your career, so push yourself out of your comfort zone in terms of social interaction. Find a kennel near your road and have pets of your own even if it is a fish or other small animal. This will help you get a good start to your animal career.
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On average, zoo keepers earn around $30,000 a year but pay does vary depending on your level of experience and the cost of living given a zoo's location.\\nA zoo keeper performs a wide array of tasks each day. In addition to feeding animals, cleaning exhibits and cages, and training and observation there is general clerical work required. Zoo keepers have to write field notes and proposals and converse with guests and other workers at the zoo.\\n1-2. Know the alternatives to zoo keeping.\\nMany people love the idea of working at a zoo, but the sheer amount of physical labor and unpredictable schedule of zoo keeping puts them off. However, there are a wide array of positions needed to keep a zoo running.\\nAdministrative positions include directors, managers, and coordinators. For these positions, you supervise projects the zoo is undertaking, plan and execute zoo policies, recruit and maintain staff and volunteers, and help make decisions about the zoo's future.\\nCurators are responsible for creation and collection. General and animal curators manage the zoo's animal collection. Exhibit and educational curators create graphics for exhibits and plan and implement educational programs throughout the zoo.\\nMarketing and fundraising positions focus on raising money for the zoo, managing sales, promoting the institution, and creating ad campaigns and public service announcements on behalf of the zoo.\\nZoologists and biologists are often staffed by a zoo to provide scientific and technical assistance in regards to maintaining an environment for the animals housed. You would also conduct research on certain species.\\nVeterinarians and vet technicians are usually on staff at zoos to deal with the medical needs of the animals.\\n1-3. Seek out formal education.\\nThere are no specific qualifications or degree paths to becoming a zoo keeper, and requirements vary from zoo to zoo. However, the more education you have fields related to animals, wildlife, and biology the better.\\nIf you are in high school, there are programs throughout the country where local zoos allow students to enroll in cooperative learning. Check with your own school system or browse lists online. The American Association of Zookeepers is a great resource.\\nAssociate degrees and technical degrees targeting animal management and training, as well as zoological sciences, are a good option if you're looking to further your education beyond high school. These programs are usually 1 to 2 years.\\nThere are four year college programs that help you prepare for a career in zoo keeping. 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You can volunteer on a set schedule, like bi-weekly or bi-monthly, or you can just volunteer for special events such as pregnancy watches and animal introductions.\\nMake the most out of your volunteer experience. Ask questions and talk to zoo keepers about how they landed their position. Try to network and make connections you can use to land other positions later on.\\n2-2. Intern at a zoo.\\nAn internship looks great on a resume and provides solid, hands-on experience. While internships are great for any field, as zoo keeping requires a very specific skill set it's vital to gain internship experience on your path to becoming a zoo keeper.\\nThe American Association of Zoo Keepers has listings of internships online with AAZK-accredited institutions. Their database is a great starting point when browsing for positions.\\nZoo keeping internships are demanding. While many internships are part-time, a zoo keeping internship is typically 40 hours a week. You are expected to work weekends.\\nThe positions are usually unpaid, but you may get a small stipend or room and board.\\nInternships usually last around three months. High school and college students often find it beneficial to take on an internship over the summer.\\n2-3. Gain certifications and technical skills.\\nZoo keeping requires a combination of hands-on and technical skills. Bolster your resume by getting certified for things like CPR and first aid and building a computer skill set.\\nYou can enroll in classes to get a first aid/CPR certification. As zoo keepers need to be ready for emergencies, this will set you ahead of other applications when applying for a job. Oftentimes, college courses provide CPR/first aid certification upon completion of the course. Look for classes that offer this, as you'll gain college credit as well as a valuable career skill.\\nAs a zoo keeper, you'll often be asked to write daily logs, take notes on animal behavior, and occasional give presentations to other staff members or guests. Proficiency in Microsoft Office programs, like Word, Excel, and PowerPoint, is a great resume builder. You can enroll in a computer studies course or try to teach yourself.\\n3. Finding a Job\\n3-1. Write your resume.\\nA great resume is the first step to finding the perfect position, and a zoo keeper resume should highlight your experience, references, and education.\\nResumes should be written in a legible font that is modern is appearance. Avoid flowery, cursive choices and write in font size 10 or 12.\\nWhile resumes should be relatively simple, tasteful colors, graphics, and borders can help you stand out of the pile. Try a monogram of your initials in the top corner or different colored fonts for the headers. 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Know where to find jobs.\\nThe job search can be overwhelming and many people do not know where to look. Have a strategy plan for finding positions.\\nThe American Association of Zoo Keepers is probably your best option to start. They have a comprehensive list of openings in AAZK accredited zoos that is updated year round. Browse their list to see what is available and apply to any positions relevant to your skill set.\\nTalk to previous employers. If you interned or volunteered at a zoo, you should contact them and ask about openings. Even if they have nothing at the moment, if they know you're looking they might reach out to you if a position opens in the future they might reach out to you.\\nCall zoos near you to see if they are hiring. Send them your resume without prompting and tell them you're looking for employment. While they might not have a position right away, if they have your information on file they might contact you for future openings.\\n3-3. Be flexible in your search.\\nYou might not find your ideal position right away. Be willing to cope with change and less than favorable circumstances. Any job is good as it builds your resume and furthers your experience in the field.\\nZoo keepers work long hours and are expected to work holidays. If you are offered a position, be prepared for a large commitment.\\nThere are zoos all over the country, so you should widen your search to a variety of locations. You might have to relocate in order to obtain a job. Be prepared, financially and emotionally, for a potential move.\\nPrepare yourself for a small starting salary. The salary for zoo keeping jobs is relatively low, and especially so if you're starting out. Know going in your budget will be tight, and be willing to work for less.\\nTips\\nZookeepers must be strong to work with animals. 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How to Be an Actress
1. Developing Your Skills 1-1. Join a theater group while you are in middle school or high school. If you are still in school, join the drama club. Look for announcements regarding drama club meetings, or ask your guidance counselor to help you connect with the correct faculty member to get you started. Then, attend all meetings and practices. This is a great way to learn fundamental acting skills and participate in your first plays or musicals. In drama club, you can learn things like different methods of acting, writing your own material, trying out different characters, and stage/costume design. In addition, consider majoring in theater or acting in college to continue your education. 1-2. Take an acting class or workshop outside of school. Look for small playhouses and theaters in your area, and research any workshops, classes, or training courses. Most communities have a local theater in the area, and many native actors offer ways to gain acting skills, such as summer workshops, personal lessons, or networking events. Make a selection based on what you want to learn, and sign up for the class online or in person. This is a great idea if you want to take up acting but did not join a drama club in school. Improvisation classes are a good place to start. Improvisational acting trains you to pay attention to cues and respond quickly. You'll learn to naturally react to others' prompts and silence your inner critic. When you advance past basic acting classes, you can take specialized classes for film or stage acting, which require different skills. Experiment with both to figure out which suits you best. 1-3. Research Acting has its own rich history, language, and terminology. To familiarize with the acting world, read history books and articles on acting, and look over the biographies of famous actors. In addition, read plays as a way to keep your passion going. For example, familiarize yourself with the Shakespeare classics and the Globe Theater. 1-4. People-watch A great way to expand your acting knowledge is to observe the people in your daily life. Take a second to watch others while at a coffee shop, restaurant, or running errands. Quickly watch others to get a sense of their mannerisms, facial expressions, and body language. Then, use this knowledge when acting to deliver an authentic performance. For example, you can watch a young child with a large ice cream cone. Pay attention to how their happiness is expressed across their face. Then, use these facial expressions when you act out a happy scene. Be careful not to stare or gawk at the person, as this will make them uncomfortable. 2. Preparing for an Audition 2-1. Get professional headshots A headshot is a photograph from the bust up used to help actors get auditions. Actors submit these along with their resume when applying to a certain position. Find a professional photographer, review their work, and explain that this is an acting headshot. When it’s time to take your picture, dress in neutral clothes and try a few different angles and poses. Typically, headshots are printed on standard 8.5 in × 11 in (22 cm × 28 cm) paper. Use the same size of paper for your resume. It looks more professional this way. In addition, get electronic copies of your headshots. Some agencies may ask you to email your resume and headshots. You want a professional, presentable photograph that displays your natural beauty. 2-2. Draft your resume When applying to auditions, you must submit a resume along with your headshots. Start your resume with your name, address, and contact information. Then, list your educational experiences, work experiences, and overall skills. Be sure to highlight any acting classes and workshops, and list all of the acting roles you’ve performed. If you’ve received any acting awards, list them as well. Adjust your resume for the particular jobs you want. For example, if you want a lead acting role, show all of your strengths supporting why you should be the lead role. 2-3. Use acting websites to help find gigs and get your name out there. There are websites available to host your professional acting information, such as your headshot and resume. Try sites such as ReelAct.com, and create a profile to get started. Then, upload your documents, and browse work in your area. To apply for a particular audition, click the “Apply now” link (or something similar). To view the ReelAct website, visit http://www.thereelact.com/. 2-4. Sign up to be a movie extra as a way to get your feet wet. If you aren’t quite ready for an audition but want to get some acting experience, search online for local movie extra auditions. These are listed on large casting sites such as Backstage, or local advertising sites such as Craigslist. Search for extra roles based on your location, and send your resume and headshot to apply. There are paid and volunteer movie extra positions. When you are first gaining experience, take any opportunity you can get! For instance, visit https://www.backstage.com/. 2-5. Network As you expand your acting career, you will meet many other actors, actresses, directors, set designers, and the list goes on. A great actress stays up-to-date with their network and what’s happening around them. This way, you can easily get involved and find new roles to audition for! For example, add all of your acting acquaintances on social media. Then, keep an eye on any upcoming casting calls or open auditions. 3. Getting the Part 3-1. Research the role so you understand the character and plot. Before the audition, research the particular character or role as much as you can. Read books or search online. This will help you get into character even before you start practicing lines. For example, if you are trying out for Desdemona's role in Othello, look up who she was, what she did in the play, and the historical significance of her character. 3-2. Memorize your lines Start memorizing your part as far in advance as you can. Memorize your lines or lyrics exactly as you will be performing them in the audition. Practice your lines over and over until you know it by heart. If you are unfamiliar with a word, look it up and familiarize yourself. If a part is particularly tricky, give yourself extra time to perfect it. 3-3. Practice sight reading so you are prepared for anything. Sight reading, or “cold reading,” is when you read material with little or no time to prepare in advance. During most acting auditions, you’ll be asked to cold read a piece, as well as deliver your own monologue. Practice auditioning with unfamiliar work to become comfortable with sight reading during your audition. For example, find an unfamiliar play and practice acting out loud. 3-4. Dress comfortably yet professionally in neutral, flattering clothing. Wear something you will feel comfortable and confident in. However, don’t pick clothing that grabs lots of attention. Avoid dressing in costume since you’ll be styled to fit the part after you get it. You want to look professional and neutral so you can fit any role. Avoid wearing bulky jewelry or choosing loose clothing. Wear shoes that are closed-toed, lightweight, and comfortable, like flats or sneakers. Do not wear flip-flops, as they look unprofessional. 3-5. Arrive at your audition early and be prepared when you get there. Before the audition, review the audition notice to make sure you know the audition guidelines. Then, show up to your audition at least 15 minutes early to show your initiative and time management. When you arrive, check in at the front desk, introduce yourself and the part you are auditioning for, and be ready to audition at any time. You never know the schedule the casting director is working with. Be prepared to answer questions about yourself and your schedule. For instance, the director may want to know what other roles you performed in or if you have specific training. They also may ask questions regarding how often you can practice and if you have any schedule disruptions. Expect to audition with the casting director, a cameraman, and a reader. There may be directors, producers, and associates in the room with you. Be prepared to audition in front of any number of people. 3-6. Act and speak with confidence in yourself. You’ve practiced the part, you’ve done the research, now it is time to show them what you can do! Act confidently as you arrive at the audition, and do the best you can. Speak with a self-assured tone when you introduce yourself and when you audition with the director. Remember, there will always be more auditions. If you don’t nail this one, it doesn't mean you aren’t a good actress. 3-7. Improvise Fake your lines if you forget them to show the director that you are flexible and adaptable. The director may not even notice. If they do, they likely will appreciate your creativity and ability to keep your performance going even under stress. 3-8. Be patient when waiting for a decision. In some cases, you'll hear a decision right away. However, directors live busy lives, so you could receive a call back in a few weeks or months. Don't worry if you don't get a call back immediately! It may take a bit before you hear a decision one way or another. It is not common to contact the director or casting agent about the status of your audition. They will contact you or your agent when they have reached a decision. Remember, just because you didn't make the part doesn't mean you can't be an actress. Keep practicing, try a new class, and look for different roles! 3-9. Hire an agent If you want to take your acting to the next level after you’ve acted in several parts, it is time to find an agent. These are professional networkers who keep up-to-date with upcoming performances and casting calls. To find an agent, search online or ask your network for recommendations. Then, agree on a set rate and draft a contract to reference in the future. A good talent agent is someone trustworthy, honest, and helpful. Tips Get ready for lots of hard work, practice, and dedication! Always be truthful about your experience level and background. If you mislead a casting agent or director, you won’t get the part. Be your true, authentic self. If you change your appearance or personality to fit the role, your acting may seem insincere and inauthentic. Warnings Act for the love of the craft, rather than for fame and fortune. An acting career doesn’t guarantee fame. Avoid sending multiple messages or emails to directors or casting agents. These individuals lead busy lives, and frequent communication can hurt your chances of getting the gig.
{ "create_time": "20230517 10:53:35", "回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Developing Your Skills\\n1-1. Join a theater group while you are in middle school or high school.\\nIf you are still in school, join the drama club. Look for announcements regarding drama club meetings, or ask your guidance counselor to help you connect with the correct faculty member to get you started. Then, attend all meetings and practices. This is a great way to learn fundamental acting skills and participate in your first plays or musicals.\\nIn drama club, you can learn things like different methods of acting, writing your own material, trying out different characters, and stage/costume design.\\nIn addition, consider majoring in theater or acting in college to continue your education.\\n1-2. Take an acting class or workshop outside of school.\\nLook for small playhouses and theaters in your area, and research any workshops, classes, or training courses. Most communities have a local theater in the area, and many native actors offer ways to gain acting skills, such as summer workshops, personal lessons, or networking events. Make a selection based on what you want to learn, and sign up for the class online or in person.\\nThis is a great idea if you want to take up acting but did not join a drama club in school.\\nImprovisation classes are a good place to start. Improvisational acting trains you to pay attention to cues and respond quickly. You'll learn to naturally react to others' prompts and silence your inner critic.\\nWhen you advance past basic acting classes, you can take specialized classes for film or stage acting, which require different skills. Experiment with both to figure out which suits you best.\\n1-3. Research\\nActing has its own rich history, language, and terminology. To familiarize with the acting world, read history books and articles on acting, and look over the biographies of famous actors. In addition, read plays as a way to keep your passion going.\\nFor example, familiarize yourself with the Shakespeare classics and the Globe Theater.\\n1-4. People-watch\\nA great way to expand your acting knowledge is to observe the people in your daily life. Take a second to watch others while at a coffee shop, restaurant, or running errands. Quickly watch others to get a sense of their mannerisms, facial expressions, and body language. Then, use this knowledge when acting to deliver an authentic performance.\\nFor example, you can watch a young child with a large ice cream cone. Pay attention to how their happiness is expressed across their face. Then, use these facial expressions when you act out a happy scene.\\nBe careful not to stare or gawk at the person, as this will make them uncomfortable.\\n2. Preparing for an Audition\\n2-1. Get professional headshots\\nA headshot is a photograph from the bust up used to help actors get auditions. Actors submit these along with their resume when applying to a certain position. Find a professional photographer, review their work, and explain that this is an acting headshot. When it’s time to take your picture, dress in neutral clothes and try a few different angles and poses.\\nTypically, headshots are printed on standard 8.5 in × 11 in (22 cm × 28 cm) paper. Use the same size of paper for your resume. It looks more professional this way.\\nIn addition, get electronic copies of your headshots. Some agencies may ask you to email your resume and headshots.\\nYou want a professional, presentable photograph that displays your natural beauty.\\n2-2. Draft your resume\\nWhen applying to auditions, you must submit a resume along with your headshots. Start your resume with your name, address, and contact information. Then, list your educational experiences, work experiences, and overall skills. Be sure to highlight any acting classes and workshops, and list all of the acting roles you’ve performed.\\nIf you’ve received any acting awards, list them as well.\\nAdjust your resume for the particular jobs you want. For example, if you want a lead acting role, show all of your strengths supporting why you should be the lead role.\\n2-3. Use acting websites to help find gigs and get your name out there.\\nThere are websites available to host your professional acting information, such as your headshot and resume. Try sites such as ReelAct.com, and create a profile to get started. Then, upload your documents, and browse work in your area.\\nTo apply for a particular audition, click the “Apply now” link (or something similar).\\nTo view the ReelAct website, visit http://www.thereelact.com/.\\n2-4. Sign up to be a movie extra as a way to get your feet wet.\\nIf you aren’t quite ready for an audition but want to get some acting experience, search online for local movie extra auditions. These are listed on large casting sites such as Backstage, or local advertising sites such as Craigslist. Search for extra roles based on your location, and send your resume and headshot to apply.\\nThere are paid and volunteer movie extra positions. When you are first gaining experience, take any opportunity you can get!\\nFor instance, visit https://www.backstage.com/.\\n2-5. Network\\nAs you expand your acting career, you will meet many other actors, actresses, directors, set designers, and the list goes on. A great actress stays up-to-date with their network and what’s happening around them. This way, you can easily get involved and find new roles to audition for!\\nFor example, add all of your acting acquaintances on social media. Then, keep an eye on any upcoming casting calls or open auditions.\\n3. Getting the Part\\n3-1. Research the role so you understand the character and plot.\\nBefore the audition, research the particular character or role as much as you can. Read books or search online. This will help you get into character even before you start practicing lines.\\nFor example, if you are trying out for Desdemona's role in Othello, look up who she was, what she did in the play, and the historical significance of her character.\\n3-2. Memorize your lines\\nStart memorizing your part as far in advance as you can. Memorize your lines or lyrics exactly as you will be performing them in the audition. Practice your lines over and over until you know it by heart.\\nIf you are unfamiliar with a word, look it up and familiarize yourself.\\nIf a part is particularly tricky, give yourself extra time to perfect it.\\n3-3. Practice sight reading so you are prepared for anything.\\nSight reading, or “cold reading,” is when you read material with little or no time to prepare in advance. During most acting auditions, you’ll be asked to cold read a piece, as well as deliver your own monologue. Practice auditioning with unfamiliar work to become comfortable with sight reading during your audition.\\nFor example, find an unfamiliar play and practice acting out loud.\\n3-4. Dress comfortably yet professionally in neutral, flattering clothing.\\nWear something you will feel comfortable and confident in. However, don’t pick clothing that grabs lots of attention. Avoid dressing in costume since you’ll be styled to fit the part after you get it. You want to look professional and neutral so you can fit any role.\\nAvoid wearing bulky jewelry or choosing loose clothing.\\nWear shoes that are closed-toed, lightweight, and comfortable, like flats or sneakers. Do not wear flip-flops, as they look unprofessional.\\n3-5. Arrive at your audition early and be prepared when you get there.\\nBefore the audition, review the audition notice to make sure you know the audition guidelines. Then, show up to your audition at least 15 minutes early to show your initiative and time management. When you arrive, check in at the front desk, introduce yourself and the part you are auditioning for, and be ready to audition at any time. You never know the schedule the casting director is working with.\\nBe prepared to answer questions about yourself and your schedule. For instance, the director may want to know what other roles you performed in or if you have specific training. They also may ask questions regarding how often you can practice and if you have any schedule disruptions.\\nExpect to audition with the casting director, a cameraman, and a reader. There may be directors, producers, and associates in the room with you. Be prepared to audition in front of any number of people.\\n3-6. Act and speak with confidence in yourself.\\nYou’ve practiced the part, you’ve done the research, now it is time to show them what you can do! Act confidently as you arrive at the audition, and do the best you can. Speak with a self-assured tone when you introduce yourself and when you audition with the director.\\nRemember, there will always be more auditions. If you don’t nail this one, it doesn't mean you aren’t a good actress.\\n3-7. Improvise\\nFake your lines if you forget them to show the director that you are flexible and adaptable. The director may not even notice. If they do, they likely will appreciate your creativity and ability to keep your performance going even under stress.\\n3-8. Be patient when waiting for a decision.\\nIn some cases, you'll hear a decision right away. However, directors live busy lives, so you could receive a call back in a few weeks or months. Don't worry if you don't get a call back immediately! It may take a bit before you hear a decision one way or another.\\nIt is not common to contact the director or casting agent about the status of your audition. They will contact you or your agent when they have reached a decision.\\nRemember, just because you didn't make the part doesn't mean you can't be an actress. Keep practicing, try a new class, and look for different roles!\\n3-9. Hire an agent\\nIf you want to take your acting to the next level after you’ve acted in several parts, it is time to find an agent. These are professional networkers who keep up-to-date with upcoming performances and casting calls. To find an agent, search online or ask your network for recommendations. Then, agree on a set rate and draft a contract to reference in the future.\\nA good talent agent is someone trustworthy, honest, and helpful.\\nTips\\nGet ready for lots of hard work, practice, and dedication!\\nAlways be truthful about your experience level and background. If you mislead a casting agent or director, you won’t get the part.\\nBe your true, authentic self. If you change your appearance or personality to fit the role, your acting may seem insincere and inauthentic.\\nWarnings\\nAct for the love of the craft, rather than for fame and fortune. An acting career doesn’t guarantee fame.\\nAvoid sending multiple messages or emails to directors or casting agents. These individuals lead busy lives, and frequent communication can hurt your chances of getting the gig.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Acting is a high-esteemed profession, though it takes dedication, practice, and talent to become a professional. Successful actresses are confident, driven, and determined. To become an actress, start by taking classes or workshops, research acting, and read plays. Then, find local theaters to audition for. After you’ve performed in a few roles, consider hiring an agent to help you improve your career. With patience and perseverance, you may become an actress.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Join a theater group while you are in middle school or high school.\", \"描述\": \"If you are still in school, join the drama club. Look for announcements regarding drama club meetings, or ask your guidance counselor to help you connect with the correct faculty member to get you started. Then, attend all meetings and practices. 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Quickly watch others to get a sense of their mannerisms, facial expressions, and body language. Then, use this knowledge when acting to deliver an authentic performance.\\nFor example, you can watch a young child with a large ice cream cone. Pay attention to how their happiness is expressed across their face. Then, use these facial expressions when you act out a happy scene.\\nBe careful not to stare or gawk at the person, as this will make them uncomfortable.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Preparing for an Audition\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get professional headshots\", \"描述\": \"A headshot is a photograph from the bust up used to help actors get auditions. Actors submit these along with their resume when applying to a certain position. Find a professional photographer, review their work, and explain that this is an acting headshot. When it’s time to take your picture, dress in neutral clothes and try a few different angles and poses.\\nTypically, headshots are printed on standard 8.5 in × 11 in (22 cm × 28 cm) paper. Use the same size of paper for your resume. It looks more professional this way.\\nIn addition, get electronic copies of your headshots. Some agencies may ask you to email your resume and headshots.\\nYou want a professional, presentable photograph that displays your natural beauty.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Draft your resume\", \"描述\": \"When applying to auditions, you must submit a resume along with your headshots. Start your resume with your name, address, and contact information. Then, list your educational experiences, work experiences, and overall skills. Be sure to highlight any acting classes and workshops, and list all of the acting roles you’ve performed.\\nIf you’ve received any acting awards, list them as well.\\nAdjust your resume for the particular jobs you want. 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Search for extra roles based on your location, and send your resume and headshot to apply.\\nThere are paid and volunteer movie extra positions. When you are first gaining experience, take any opportunity you can get!\\nFor instance, visit https://www.backstage.com/.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Network\", \"描述\": \"As you expand your acting career, you will meet many other actors, actresses, directors, set designers, and the list goes on. A great actress stays up-to-date with their network and what’s happening around them. This way, you can easily get involved and find new roles to audition for!\\nFor example, add all of your acting acquaintances on social media. Then, keep an eye on any upcoming casting calls or open auditions.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting the Part\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Research the role so you understand the character and plot.\", \"描述\": \"Before the audition, research the particular character or role as much as you can. 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How to Be an Aircraft Spotter
1. Steps 1-1. Make a decision as to the extent of aircraft that you might like to "spot". Although the often used term "plane spotting" refers to airplanes, the preferred term is "aircraft spotting" because you can observe and record any number of flying craft and not just airplanes. For example, helicopters, gliders, balloons, airships, and microlights can be included if wished. You might want to narrow the choices if you live somewhere that has an incredible amount of air traffic, such as London, Chicago, Frankfurt, etc., or you might want to include a wider range of aircraft if you're living in the middle of empty airspace where aircraft arrivals are not so frequent, such as the country, outback, or the Arctic region. It's really up to your time availability and personal interests. Start by doing some background research on aircraft spotting websites. There are many sites dedicated to aircraft spotting, from the amateur blog to the professional club-sponsored site, and they can all open up new ideas for your hobby. When searching for online information about aircraft spotting, also use the term "plane spotting", as it is used frequently as well. When looking for information online, also look for airports, aircraft manufacturers, airline information, flight pathways, etc., as these will provide you with a great deal of useful background information. You can limit the search to your own country, or check different sites from all around the world. Keep in mind that aviation photography is a hobby in its own right, and dovetails perfectly with aircraft spotting. So, if anyone questions your interest, you can always justify it by explaining that you are an aviation photography hobbyist as well! 1-2. Understand what is usually involved in aircraft spotting. Although you are free to spot aircraft in any way that pleases you, there are some standard practices that aircraft spotters tend to follow. In order to work out the type of aircraft, there are many indicators that assist the aircraft spotter in working this out. In addition, even where the type of plane is evident, there are still many other elements worth noting, including country of origin, age, and any special modifications. Things to note as an aircraft spotter include: Noting the type of plane. Its make, size, colors, and country of origin can all be of interest. Noting the plane's registration details. This might enable you to discern the delivery or launch dates of the particular aircraft, depending how much detail you want to go into. Noting any interesting artwork or insignia features on a plane (for example, some airlines like Qantas paint the tail wing, or the whole aircraft, using special artwork from renowned artists on certain planes). For military aircraft, camouflage markings are important and these will differ from country to country. There might also be squadron badges and code letters. Noting engine noise, vapor trails. Placement of wings - is it a monoplane, biplane, or triplane. How are the wings placed in relation to the fuselage, and how much do they sweep rearwards? Is it a recent aircraft, or a vintage model? Noting whether it has retractable wheels or a fixed undercarriage. Or is it a seaplane? Noting the speed. Noting cockpit placement. Noting the landing or take-off pattern of the plane. 1-3. Get some good gear. Here is your excuse to indulge in good quality gear guaranteed to enhance your aircraft spotting experience. Some items to consider include: Decent binoculars - for checking out incoming aircraft angles, for noting registration numbers, marks and details, for outdoing your mate at seeing things first, good binoculars are a must. You can also purchase a "spotting scope" instead of binoculars, if preferred. Digital camera, plus telescope lens, tripod, etc. - for photographic records of the aircraft you have spotted. This is especially important if you are keeping a personal digital album record of your spots, or if you're contributing your spots to a website. Fold-up chair, thermos flask, snack container, rug and warm clothing if cold, sunscreen and hat if hot, snacks and drinks - it's important to be comfortable and to keep well hydrated and fed! Manuals or guides if you want to work out what the aircraft is. You will need to consider both commercial aircraft manuals or guides and military aircraft manuals or guides unless you're not likely to see military aircraft, in which case, only commercial aircraft manuals will be needed. Ask at your local library or look online - some online auction sites can be a good source of such manuals, or sites dedicated to aircraft spotting. A dedicated notebook and decent all-weather pens for writing down the information you glean from spotting. A weatherproof notebook available from camping stores is a good idea. A safety jacket. While not essential, if you are able to spot somewhere that could potential be hazardous for you if you're not seen, consider getting a safety jacket. This might be useful even if your only hazardous element is crossing a very busy main road to get to your spotter's paradise. 1-4. Take a buddy. It's a lot more fun if you're doing this with someone you know and who appreciates your enthusiasm for aircraft spotting too. If you have a buddy, both of you can chat and set up your own spotting competitions between you. Take walkie-talkies and sit in different locations to see who can spot the registration first. Award yourself points, with the winner or loser shouting a meal or drink after the day's spotting, depending on how you like to play it! 1-5. Prepare yourself for an aircraft spotting trip. Initially, it is a good idea to team up with somebody who has already done aircraft spotting so that they can take you to the best places and give you pointers throughout the session. If not, look online, or ask around, to find suitable places to go aircraft spotting. Some airports or aviation associations are very helpful and suggest spotting places for enthusiasts. Always consider safety first. Don't go where you're not allowed. There are strict rules about getting too close to airports, even if they're not fenced off. On the whole, those rules are for your own safety but they're also about security, particularly in more security conscious countries. Set up your spotting area with consideration for existing spotters. If you are somewhere used traditionally for spotting, it's probably not wise to just assume it's OK to sit just anywhere. Ask for advice from the other spotters and they'll usually be very happy to make suggestions for you. 1-6. Start spotting. If you've already worked out from the previous steps what you're looking for, then start observing for those elements as you're spotting. Otherwise, you might to ease yourself into the aircraft spotting experience by simply observing everything initially and deciding from this experience which elements interest you most. This is why it can be helpful to have someone already well versed in spotting nearby, to give you hints and guidance so that you don't feel overwhelmed by the initial spotting experience. 1-7. Record your experiences once back at home. While on your outing, you will be taking notes and photos which will need sorting once back home. Plan to set aside some time to tidy up, collate and reference your findings. This might include: Selecting the best aircraft photos for uploading to a website. Noting significant features or things of interest that you saw during the aircraft spotting exercise. Tallying up the aircraft spotted. Marking down the aircraft you've not spotted before, as well as making notes of aircraft you still would like to be able to check off in the future. 1-8. Decide how far you want to take your new hobby. There are many possibilities and some of them may be more appealing than others. For starters, it is a good idea to consider how you feel about the following ideas as forming a part of your hobby, or not, as the case may be: Competing with other aircraft spotters. This can include joining a club or association and aiming to spot all types of aircraft in a class that is determined by the club or association. Creating your own website and uploading your photos of spots onto it, along with commentary. Uploading your photos of spots onto one of the many aircraft spotting websites already online. This can be a combination of competition and hobby if wished, or just serve as a source of displaying your photos as wished. If you do this, be sure to keep note of the date, time, and place of your spot, as many sites record the "last spot" of each aircraft as a way of keeping track of the aircraft for all interested viewers. Joining spotting mail lists. There are a number of these that you can join to be kept informed. There are now also Twitter accounts you can follow to keep up with spotting information. Find out if your local club or association, or your favorite aircraft spotting websites, have Twitter accounts that you can follow. Broadening your hobby to include what are "ancillary activities", such as listening to air traffic transmissions (this can be done using radio scanners but only where it is legal to do so). Packing your bags and getting on a plane to go and spot more planes somewhere else in the world. If you have spent time cultivating friendships with other aircraft spotting enthusiasts around the world, this can be a fun and exciting way to make holiday plans and to make new friends. There are plenty of sites dedicated to explaining where the best places for aircraft spotting are to be found around the world. Just be understanding that if you drag along the family though, they're unlikely to want to spend their holiday pursuing your passion, so have something more interesting planned for them! Visiting aviation museums around the world. This can also be adding to your aircraft spotting records, as you check off vintage and famous aircraft from different parts of the world. 1-9. Consider joining a club or association that supports and promotes aircraft spotting. A hobby is always a lot more fun when you share it with other like-minded enthusiasts and being part of an excited and active group is a great way to give real life to your hobby experience. For example, you can join the LAAS International as an aircraft enthusiast. 1-10. Be useful. As your hobby continues, if you notice anything that you believe should be passed on to airport officials, then be helpful and do so. This doesn't mean being a nuisance and trying to suppose you know their job better than they do, but some things that could be helpful include: Alerting airport officials if you notice any bird nesting or animal breeding activities near the airport or on it. Birds and animals can be a hazard for aircraft and it's a good idea to let airport officials know in case they haven't realized. Alerting airport officials if you notice any strange activities, or security breaches such as broken fences, etc. Don't be a vigilante though - just things that might be out of the ordinary. For example, in the UK there is a code of conduct in place for aircraft spotters introduced by aviation enthusiasts' club LAAS International, under which aircraft spotters are encouraged to report suspicious behavior. Tips This pastime isn't only for the guys – there are women aircraft spotters too, so it's wise not to make assumptions about the type of person who likes to spot aircraft.[7] X Research source Aoife Kiernan, Trials of a "Girly" Plane Spotter Did you know that there are even sites dedicated to telling you which airport hotels and which locations in the world are the best for spotting planes from? Here's yet another angle for you to add aircraft spotting to that well-earned vacation! Always have photo ID on you when spotting aircraft. This will help any security attendants or police to work out that you're harmless. Warnings Taking along your other half or kids could result in family irritation; be sensitive to their disinterest as the hours of looking up in the sky are not to everyone's taste. Get a reassurance from any family member taken along that they're genuinely interested in the experience. Aircraft spotting could get you into legal trouble with your country's government security and/or military authorities who could mistake your new hobby as reconnaissance by foreign spies or terrorists. For example, a lot has changed since the September 11th attacks and the resultant wars for the United States and some of the allied countries, and there are always some countries in the world with a suspicious mindset that won't tolerate anybody claiming they're innocently aircraft spotting. Know the rules of the country you're in and the airport you're spotting near before you start plane spotting - some places are far more understanding than others. Stay away from sensitive areas at airports. Follow all instructions from security or airport police. Always have photo ID with you. Take warm clothing/wrapping if it's cold. If you're in a country that's going through war, don't aircraft spot at all as a hobby because during war, it's a wartime espionage activity.
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There are many sites dedicated to aircraft spotting, from the amateur blog to the professional club-sponsored site, and they can all open up new ideas for your hobby.\\nWhen searching for online information about aircraft spotting, also use the term \\\"plane spotting\\\", as it is used frequently as well.\\nWhen looking for information online, also look for airports, aircraft manufacturers, airline information, flight pathways, etc., as these will provide you with a great deal of useful background information. You can limit the search to your own country, or check different sites from all around the world.\\nKeep in mind that aviation photography is a hobby in its own right, and dovetails perfectly with aircraft spotting. So, if anyone questions your interest, you can always justify it by explaining that you are an aviation photography hobbyist as well!\\n1-2. Understand what is usually involved in aircraft spotting.\\nAlthough you are free to spot aircraft in any way that pleases you, there are some standard practices that aircraft spotters tend to follow. In order to work out the type of aircraft, there are many indicators that assist the aircraft spotter in working this out. In addition, even where the type of plane is evident, there are still many other elements worth noting, including country of origin, age, and any special modifications. Things to note as an aircraft spotter include:\\nNoting the type of plane. Its make, size, colors, and country of origin can all be of interest.\\nNoting the plane's registration details. This might enable you to discern the delivery or launch dates of the particular aircraft, depending how much detail you want to go into.\\nNoting any interesting artwork or insignia features on a plane (for example, some airlines like Qantas paint the tail wing, or the whole aircraft, using special artwork from renowned artists on certain planes). For military aircraft, camouflage markings are important and these will differ from country to country. There might also be squadron badges and code letters.\\nNoting engine noise, vapor trails.\\nPlacement of wings - is it a monoplane, biplane, or triplane. How are the wings placed in relation to the fuselage, and how much do they sweep rearwards?\\nIs it a recent aircraft, or a vintage model?\\nNoting whether it has retractable wheels or a fixed undercarriage. Or is it a seaplane?\\nNoting the speed.\\nNoting cockpit placement.\\nNoting the landing or take-off pattern of the plane.\\n1-3. Get some good gear.\\nHere is your excuse to indulge in good quality gear guaranteed to enhance your aircraft spotting experience. Some items to consider include:\\nDecent binoculars - for checking out incoming aircraft angles, for noting registration numbers, marks and details, for outdoing your mate at seeing things first, good binoculars are a must. You can also purchase a \\\"spotting scope\\\" instead of binoculars, if preferred.\\nDigital camera, plus telescope lens, tripod, etc. - for photographic records of the aircraft you have spotted. This is especially important if you are keeping a personal digital album record of your spots, or if you're contributing your spots to a website.\\nFold-up chair, thermos flask, snack container, rug and warm clothing if cold, sunscreen and hat if hot, snacks and drinks - it's important to be comfortable and to keep well hydrated and fed!\\nManuals or guides if you want to work out what the aircraft is. You will need to consider both commercial aircraft manuals or guides and military aircraft manuals or guides unless you're not likely to see military aircraft, in which case, only commercial aircraft manuals will be needed. Ask at your local library or look online - some online auction sites can be a good source of such manuals, or sites dedicated to aircraft spotting.\\nA dedicated notebook and decent all-weather pens for writing down the information you glean from spotting. A weatherproof notebook available from camping stores is a good idea.\\nA safety jacket. While not essential, if you are able to spot somewhere that could potential be hazardous for you if you're not seen, consider getting a safety jacket. This might be useful even if your only hazardous element is crossing a very busy main road to get to your spotter's paradise.\\n1-4. Take a buddy.\\nIt's a lot more fun if you're doing this with someone you know and who appreciates your enthusiasm for aircraft spotting too. If you have a buddy, both of you can chat and set up your own spotting competitions between you. Take walkie-talkies and sit in different locations to see who can spot the registration first. Award yourself points, with the winner or loser shouting a meal or drink after the day's spotting, depending on how you like to play it!\\n1-5. Prepare yourself for an aircraft spotting trip.\\nInitially, it is a good idea to team up with somebody who has already done aircraft spotting so that they can take you to the best places and give you pointers throughout the session. If not, look online, or ask around, to find suitable places to go aircraft spotting. Some airports or aviation associations are very helpful and suggest spotting places for enthusiasts.\\nAlways consider safety first. Don't go where you're not allowed. There are strict rules about getting too close to airports, even if they're not fenced off. On the whole, those rules are for your own safety but they're also about security, particularly in more security conscious countries.\\nSet up your spotting area with consideration for existing spotters. If you are somewhere used traditionally for spotting, it's probably not wise to just assume it's OK to sit just anywhere. Ask for advice from the other spotters and they'll usually be very happy to make suggestions for you.\\n1-6. Start spotting.\\nIf you've already worked out from the previous steps what you're looking for, then start observing for those elements as you're spotting. Otherwise, you might to ease yourself into the aircraft spotting experience by simply observing everything initially and deciding from this experience which elements interest you most. This is why it can be helpful to have someone already well versed in spotting nearby, to give you hints and guidance so that you don't feel overwhelmed by the initial spotting experience.\\n1-7. Record your experiences once back at home.\\nWhile on your outing, you will be taking notes and photos which will need sorting once back home. Plan to set aside some time to tidy up, collate and reference your findings. This might include:\\nSelecting the best aircraft photos for uploading to a website.\\nNoting significant features or things of interest that you saw during the aircraft spotting exercise.\\nTallying up the aircraft spotted.\\nMarking down the aircraft you've not spotted before, as well as making notes of aircraft you still would like to be able to check off in the future.\\n1-8. Decide how far you want to take your new hobby.\\nThere are many possibilities and some of them may be more appealing than others. For starters, it is a good idea to consider how you feel about the following ideas as forming a part of your hobby, or not, as the case may be:\\nCompeting with other aircraft spotters. This can include joining a club or association and aiming to spot all types of aircraft in a class that is determined by the club or association.\\nCreating your own website and uploading your photos of spots onto it, along with commentary.\\nUploading your photos of spots onto one of the many aircraft spotting websites already online. This can be a combination of competition and hobby if wished, or just serve as a source of displaying your photos as wished. If you do this, be sure to keep note of the date, time, and place of your spot, as many sites record the \\\"last spot\\\" of each aircraft as a way of keeping track of the aircraft for all interested viewers.\\nJoining spotting mail lists. There are a number of these that you can join to be kept informed. There are now also Twitter accounts you can follow to keep up with spotting information. Find out if your local club or association, or your favorite aircraft spotting websites, have Twitter accounts that you can follow.\\nBroadening your hobby to include what are \\\"ancillary activities\\\", such as listening to air traffic transmissions (this can be done using radio scanners but only where it is legal to do so).\\nPacking your bags and getting on a plane to go and spot more planes somewhere else in the world. If you have spent time cultivating friendships with other aircraft spotting enthusiasts around the world, this can be a fun and exciting way to make holiday plans and to make new friends. There are plenty of sites dedicated to explaining where the best places for aircraft spotting are to be found around the world. Just be understanding that if you drag along the family though, they're unlikely to want to spend their holiday pursuing your passion, so have something more interesting planned for them!\\nVisiting aviation museums around the world. This can also be adding to your aircraft spotting records, as you check off vintage and famous aircraft from different parts of the world.\\n1-9. Consider joining a club or association that supports and promotes aircraft spotting.\\nA hobby is always a lot more fun when you share it with other like-minded enthusiasts and being part of an excited and active group is a great way to give real life to your hobby experience. For example, you can join the LAAS International as an aircraft enthusiast.\\n1-10. Be useful.\\nAs your hobby continues, if you notice anything that you believe should be passed on to airport officials, then be helpful and do so. This doesn't mean being a nuisance and trying to suppose you know their job better than they do, but some things that could be helpful include:\\nAlerting airport officials if you notice any bird nesting or animal breeding activities near the airport or on it. Birds and animals can be a hazard for aircraft and it's a good idea to let airport officials know in case they haven't realized.\\nAlerting airport officials if you notice any strange activities, or security breaches such as broken fences, etc. Don't be a vigilante though - just things that might be out of the ordinary. For example, in the UK there is a code of conduct in place for aircraft spotters introduced by aviation enthusiasts' club LAAS International, under which aircraft spotters are encouraged to report suspicious behavior.\\nTips\\nThis pastime isn't only for the guys – there are women aircraft spotters too, so it's wise not to make assumptions about the type of person who likes to spot aircraft.[7]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nAoife Kiernan, Trials of a \\\"Girly\\\" Plane Spotter\\nDid you know that there are even sites dedicated to telling you which airport hotels and which locations in the world are the best for spotting planes from? Here's yet another angle for you to add aircraft spotting to that well-earned vacation!\\nAlways have photo ID on you when spotting aircraft. This will help any security attendants or police to work out that you're harmless.\\nWarnings\\nTaking along your other half or kids could result in family irritation; be sensitive to their disinterest as the hours of looking up in the sky are not to everyone's taste. Get a reassurance from any family member taken along that they're genuinely interested in the experience.\\nAircraft spotting could get you into legal trouble with your country's government security and/or military authorities who could mistake your new hobby as reconnaissance by foreign spies or terrorists. For example, a lot has changed since the September 11th attacks and the resultant wars for the United States and some of the allied countries, and there are always some countries in the world with a suspicious mindset that won't tolerate anybody claiming they're innocently aircraft spotting. Know the rules of the country you're in and the airport you're spotting near before you start plane spotting - some places are far more understanding than others.\\nStay away from sensitive areas at airports. Follow all instructions from security or airport police. Always have photo ID with you.\\nTake warm clothing/wrapping if it's cold.\\nIf you're in a country that's going through war, don't aircraft spot at all as a hobby because during war, it's a wartime espionage activity.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Aircraft spotting, also known as plane spotting, is a popular pastime worldwide. As a hobby, it brings a number of enjoyable elements for the participant, including getting outdoors, making meticulous observations, \\\"collecting\\\" without creating clutter, having a good excuse to use your really fancy digital camera equipment, and finding a great way to get together with like-minded enthusiasts. Aircraft spotters have an eye for detail and are keen to find out as much as possible about aircraft. If you're keen about planes, flying, facts, and you remain constantly amazed by the ingenuity of human ability at getting a great tin bird up into the sky, aircraft spotting may just be the perfect hobby for you!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make a decision as to the extent of aircraft that you might like to \\\"spot\\\".\", \"描述\": \"Although the often used term \\\"plane spotting\\\" refers to airplanes, the preferred term is \\\"aircraft spotting\\\" because you can observe and record any number of flying craft and not just airplanes. For example, helicopters, gliders, balloons, airships, and microlights can be included if wished. You might want to narrow the choices if you live somewhere that has an incredible amount of air traffic, such as London, Chicago, Frankfurt, etc., or you might want to include a wider range of aircraft if you're living in the middle of empty airspace where aircraft arrivals are not so frequent, such as the country, outback, or the Arctic region. It's really up to your time availability and personal interests.\\nStart by doing some background research on aircraft spotting websites. There are many sites dedicated to aircraft spotting, from the amateur blog to the professional club-sponsored site, and they can all open up new ideas for your hobby.\\nWhen searching for online information about aircraft spotting, also use the term \\\"plane spotting\\\", as it is used frequently as well.\\nWhen looking for information online, also look for airports, aircraft manufacturers, airline information, flight pathways, etc., as these will provide you with a great deal of useful background information. You can limit the search to your own country, or check different sites from all around the world.\\nKeep in mind that aviation photography is a hobby in its own right, and dovetails perfectly with aircraft spotting. So, if anyone questions your interest, you can always justify it by explaining that you are an aviation photography hobbyist as well!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand what is usually involved in aircraft spotting.\", \"描述\": \"Although you are free to spot aircraft in any way that pleases you, there are some standard practices that aircraft spotters tend to follow. In order to work out the type of aircraft, there are many indicators that assist the aircraft spotter in working this out. In addition, even where the type of plane is evident, there are still many other elements worth noting, including country of origin, age, and any special modifications. Things to note as an aircraft spotter include:\\nNoting the type of plane. Its make, size, colors, and country of origin can all be of interest.\\nNoting the plane's registration details. This might enable you to discern the delivery or launch dates of the particular aircraft, depending how much detail you want to go into.\\nNoting any interesting artwork or insignia features on a plane (for example, some airlines like Qantas paint the tail wing, or the whole aircraft, using special artwork from renowned artists on certain planes). For military aircraft, camouflage markings are important and these will differ from country to country. There might also be squadron badges and code letters.\\nNoting engine noise, vapor trails.\\nPlacement of wings - is it a monoplane, biplane, or triplane. How are the wings placed in relation to the fuselage, and how much do they sweep rearwards?\\nIs it a recent aircraft, or a vintage model?\\nNoting whether it has retractable wheels or a fixed undercarriage. Or is it a seaplane?\\nNoting the speed.\\nNoting cockpit placement.\\nNoting the landing or take-off pattern of the plane.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get some good gear.\", \"描述\": \"Here is your excuse to indulge in good quality gear guaranteed to enhance your aircraft spotting experience. Some items to consider include:\\nDecent binoculars - for checking out incoming aircraft angles, for noting registration numbers, marks and details, for outdoing your mate at seeing things first, good binoculars are a must. You can also purchase a \\\"spotting scope\\\" instead of binoculars, if preferred.\\nDigital camera, plus telescope lens, tripod, etc. - for photographic records of the aircraft you have spotted. This is especially important if you are keeping a personal digital album record of your spots, or if you're contributing your spots to a website.\\nFold-up chair, thermos flask, snack container, rug and warm clothing if cold, sunscreen and hat if hot, snacks and drinks - it's important to be comfortable and to keep well hydrated and fed!\\nManuals or guides if you want to work out what the aircraft is. You will need to consider both commercial aircraft manuals or guides and military aircraft manuals or guides unless you're not likely to see military aircraft, in which case, only commercial aircraft manuals will be needed. Ask at your local library or look online - some online auction sites can be a good source of such manuals, or sites dedicated to aircraft spotting.\\nA dedicated notebook and decent all-weather pens for writing down the information you glean from spotting. A weatherproof notebook available from camping stores is a good idea.\\nA safety jacket. While not essential, if you are able to spot somewhere that could potential be hazardous for you if you're not seen, consider getting a safety jacket. This might be useful even if your only hazardous element is crossing a very busy main road to get to your spotter's paradise.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take a buddy.\", \"描述\": \"It's a lot more fun if you're doing this with someone you know and who appreciates your enthusiasm for aircraft spotting too. If you have a buddy, both of you can chat and set up your own spotting competitions between you. Take walkie-talkies and sit in different locations to see who can spot the registration first. Award yourself points, with the winner or loser shouting a meal or drink after the day's spotting, depending on how you like to play it!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Prepare yourself for an aircraft spotting trip.\", \"描述\": \"Initially, it is a good idea to team up with somebody who has already done aircraft spotting so that they can take you to the best places and give you pointers throughout the session. If not, look online, or ask around, to find suitable places to go aircraft spotting. Some airports or aviation associations are very helpful and suggest spotting places for enthusiasts.\\nAlways consider safety first. Don't go where you're not allowed. There are strict rules about getting too close to airports, even if they're not fenced off. On the whole, those rules are for your own safety but they're also about security, particularly in more security conscious countries.\\nSet up your spotting area with consideration for existing spotters. If you are somewhere used traditionally for spotting, it's probably not wise to just assume it's OK to sit just anywhere. Ask for advice from the other spotters and they'll usually be very happy to make suggestions for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Start spotting.\", \"描述\": \"If you've already worked out from the previous steps what you're looking for, then start observing for those elements as you're spotting. Otherwise, you might to ease yourself into the aircraft spotting experience by simply observing everything initially and deciding from this experience which elements interest you most. This is why it can be helpful to have someone already well versed in spotting nearby, to give you hints and guidance so that you don't feel overwhelmed by the initial spotting experience.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Record your experiences once back at home.\", \"描述\": \"While on your outing, you will be taking notes and photos which will need sorting once back home. Plan to set aside some time to tidy up, collate and reference your findings. This might include:\\nSelecting the best aircraft photos for uploading to a website.\\nNoting significant features or things of interest that you saw during the aircraft spotting exercise.\\nTallying up the aircraft spotted.\\nMarking down the aircraft you've not spotted before, as well as making notes of aircraft you still would like to be able to check off in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Decide how far you want to take your new hobby.\", \"描述\": \"There are many possibilities and some of them may be more appealing than others. For starters, it is a good idea to consider how you feel about the following ideas as forming a part of your hobby, or not, as the case may be:\\nCompeting with other aircraft spotters. This can include joining a club or association and aiming to spot all types of aircraft in a class that is determined by the club or association.\\nCreating your own website and uploading your photos of spots onto it, along with commentary.\\nUploading your photos of spots onto one of the many aircraft spotting websites already online. This can be a combination of competition and hobby if wished, or just serve as a source of displaying your photos as wished. If you do this, be sure to keep note of the date, time, and place of your spot, as many sites record the \\\"last spot\\\" of each aircraft as a way of keeping track of the aircraft for all interested viewers.\\nJoining spotting mail lists. There are a number of these that you can join to be kept informed. There are now also Twitter accounts you can follow to keep up with spotting information. Find out if your local club or association, or your favorite aircraft spotting websites, have Twitter accounts that you can follow.\\nBroadening your hobby to include what are \\\"ancillary activities\\\", such as listening to air traffic transmissions (this can be done using radio scanners but only where it is legal to do so).\\nPacking your bags and getting on a plane to go and spot more planes somewhere else in the world. If you have spent time cultivating friendships with other aircraft spotting enthusiasts around the world, this can be a fun and exciting way to make holiday plans and to make new friends. There are plenty of sites dedicated to explaining where the best places for aircraft spotting are to be found around the world. Just be understanding that if you drag along the family though, they're unlikely to want to spend their holiday pursuing your passion, so have something more interesting planned for them!\\nVisiting aviation museums around the world. This can also be adding to your aircraft spotting records, as you check off vintage and famous aircraft from different parts of the world.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Consider joining a club or association that supports and promotes aircraft spotting.\", \"描述\": \"A hobby is always a lot more fun when you share it with other like-minded enthusiasts and being part of an excited and active group is a great way to give real life to your hobby experience. For example, you can join the LAAS International as an aircraft enthusiast.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Be useful.\", \"描述\": \"As your hobby continues, if you notice anything that you believe should be passed on to airport officials, then be helpful and do so. This doesn't mean being a nuisance and trying to suppose you know their job better than they do, but some things that could be helpful include:\\nAlerting airport officials if you notice any bird nesting or animal breeding activities near the airport or on it. Birds and animals can be a hazard for aircraft and it's a good idea to let airport officials know in case they haven't realized.\\nAlerting airport officials if you notice any strange activities, or security breaches such as broken fences, etc. Don't be a vigilante though - just things that might be out of the ordinary. For example, in the UK there is a code of conduct in place for aircraft spotters introduced by aviation enthusiasts' club LAAS International, under which aircraft spotters are encouraged to report suspicious behavior.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"This pastime isn't only for the guys – there are women aircraft spotters too, so it's wise not to make assumptions about the type of person who likes to spot aircraft.[7]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nAoife Kiernan, Trials of a \\\"Girly\\\" Plane Spotter\\n\", \"Did you know that there are even sites dedicated to telling you which airport hotels and which locations in the world are the best for spotting planes from? Here's yet another angle for you to add aircraft spotting to that well-earned vacation!\\n\", \"Always have photo ID on you when spotting aircraft. This will help any security attendants or police to work out that you're harmless.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Taking along your other half or kids could result in family irritation; be sensitive to their disinterest as the hours of looking up in the sky are not to everyone's taste. Get a reassurance from any family member taken along that they're genuinely interested in the experience.\\n\", \"Aircraft spotting could get you into legal trouble with your country's government security and/or military authorities who could mistake your new hobby as reconnaissance by foreign spies or terrorists. For example, a lot has changed since the September 11th attacks and the resultant wars for the United States and some of the allied countries, and there are always some countries in the world with a suspicious mindset that won't tolerate anybody claiming they're innocently aircraft spotting. Know the rules of the country you're in and the airport you're spotting near before you start plane spotting - some places are far more understanding than others.\\n\", \"Stay away from sensitive areas at airports. Follow all instructions from security or airport police. Always have photo ID with you.\\n\", \"Take warm clothing/wrapping if it's cold.\\n\", \"If you're in a country that's going through war, don't aircraft spot at all as a hobby because during war, it's a wartime espionage activity.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an All Around Good Student
1. Take your notes by hand. Writing activates more regions in your brain and can boost memory. If you can, use a pen or pencil and a notebook as your main way to take notes in class. It might take a little longer to write them out by hand, but it may actually help you remember the information. Some classes, especially in college, may require you to bring a laptop to use during the class. But if you don’t need one, try ditching it and taking notes by hand instead. 2. Focus on 1 task at a time. Put away any distractions when you’re in class or studying. Studies show that when people aren’t distracted by their phones or email, they’re more productive and focused. Set your phone on silent and pack it away in your bag. If you’re using your computer in class, close any unrelated tabs and avoid the temptation to check your social media. Give your teacher your undivided attention. You’ll absorb more of the information and they’ll notice that you’re attentive and focused. 3. Organize all of your school materials. Keep everything in its place so you can stay on top of your studies. Organize your assignments and class information by subject. Put all of your materials in binders, notebooks, or folders so they’re kept together. It’s also helpful to periodically reorganize and clean out your backpack or bag to keep everything in order and get rid of things you don’t need anymore. Organization is a simple way to make your life as a student much easier. If it helps, keep all of your folders and materials in a large binder so everything is kept together. 4. Create a workspace for online classes. Help yourself stay focused. Whether you’re attending online school or taking virtual classes because of COVID-19, it’s important that you create an area that will help you focus and get your work done. Find a spot in your home that you can use and set up a desk with all of the supplies you’ll need. Put up some posters or decorations to make the space your own so you’re excited to use it for class. Make sure you have an outlet nearby and a solid internet connection so you can use your computer for class. 5. Participate in online forums for virtual classes. Actively engage and discuss the material with your classmates. If you’re taking an online or virtual class, check out the forum or discussion board where students can post assignments and questions. Participate in the discussions and ask questions if you aren’t sure about something. The more you can engage with the class, the more you’ll learn and the more your teacher will notice. For instance, if you’re unsure about a homework assignment, you can usually post on the forum or discussion board and ask people for help. You can also use the discussion board to put together study groups. Try posting and asking people if they’d like to study as a group. Some online classes may require you to post and respond on the discussion board, so don’t lose points by not participating! 6. Go to every class. Just by being there you’re already setting yourself up for success. It may seem like a no-brainer, but the truth is, going to class really is one of the most effective things you can do to be a good student. If you don’t miss class, you’ll stay up to speed on all of the new material and you’ll be able to ask questions about things that you aren’t sure of or that you find confusing. You’ll also get in the good graces of your teacher, which may come in handy if you need a deadline extension or help with an assignment. Try to get to class on time as well and sit somewhere where your teacher can see you. You don’t have to sit in the front row, but avoid hiding in the corner. The simple truth is that if you don’t show up for class, it’s much tougher to get good grades. 7. Do all of your homework and assignments. They’ll help you stay on top of the subjects you’re studying. Homework isn’t just a boring thing that you have to do to get a good grade. It’s actually really useful for retaining the knowledge you’re learning in class. It can also help identify any areas where you’re confused or that you’re struggling with. Do all of your homework so you can be as knowledgeable about the subject matter as possible. Plus, if you’re a student who completes all of their assignments on time, if you ever need an extension or maybe even a small bump in your grade, your teacher may be more willing to help you out. Try to do your assignments as soon as you can. For instance, if a report is due by Monday and you've had three weeks to do it, don't wait until Sunday the night before to get started. Try to work on it daily for a while until you are finished with the report. 8. Take advantage of extra credit opportunities. Give your grades a boost and get on your teacher’s good side. Check your class syllabus and keep your eyes peeled in class for any time your teacher mentions assignments you can do for extra credit. Sure, it may be work on top of what you’re already managing. But it’s totally worth the extra bump in your grade and the quality points you can earn with your teacher. 9. Create a schedule. Keep all of your life activities organized so you don’t feel overwhelmed. Just because you’re focused on your studies doesn’t mean you can’t hang out with friends or have any fun. The key is to find a balance. Use a calendar or planner to make a schedule that includes all of your activities such as work, classes, study time, free time, exercise, or whatever else you want to do. Stay on top of your schedule and you won’t be as stressed out. Check your class syllabus and add big tests and projects to your calendar so you can keep track of them as well. 10. Study in time chunks. Block out periods of time dedicated to focusing on studying. “Chunking” is the practice of focusing on specific things for set periods of time. Research suggests that 25-minute chunks are effective for studying and will help you retain the information and recall it later. Schedule times for you to focus specifically on studying. For example, rather than spending 1 day a week studying for 4 hours, break it down into 25-minute periods over a week. Chunking also makes studying feel more manageable and can keep you from feeling overwhelmed by the information. 11. Prepare for exams well ahead of time. If you know your stuff, you won’t be as nervous come test day. Stick to a consistent study schedule a few weeks ahead of any upcoming tests or exams. Concentrate your studies on the most significant topics first, then work your way into the smaller details. Try to summarize or outline the information that you learn in class and in your textbooks in your own words to make sure you fully understand it. When it’s time for your test, you’ll be as prepared as you can be. If you have access to old exams, try studying them to get an idea of what the test looks like. Look for study groups you can join to go over the material with other people if that’s helpful for you. 12. Get tutoring if you need it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Find out if your school offers tutoring services or look online for professional tutors you can hire to help you. Go over the material with your tutor and work with them to retain as much of it as possible. There’s nothing wrong with getting help from a tutor, and it can actually make a really big impact on your grades. Some schools offer tutoring programs that pair you with older students who are familiar with the material. 13. Get enough sleep each night. It’ll sharpen your focus and help you retain information. Sleep is important for your physical and mental health, and it’s important that you get enough of it every night so you’re able to focus the next day. Sleep also plays a role in memory and concentration, so it’s really important if you want to be a good student. Try to get at least 7 hours of restful sleep each night. 14. Eat a healthy diet. Give your body the fuel it needs to succeed. If you’re busy studying or you’re feeling stressed out, it’s tempting to reach for easy, tasty foods like junk food or processed snacks. But foods that are rich in sodium, sugar, and saturated fats can actually make your stress worse and may even affect how well you retain the information you study. Instead, stick to a healthy diet that includes lots of veggies and snack on foods that have been shown to improve memory such as yogurt, chocolate, and coffee. Tips If you don’t understand something, don't be afraid to ask the teacher.[17] X Expert Source Alicia OglesbyProfessional School Counselor Expert Interview. 29 October 2020. They actually really want you to do that! Warnings If you’re struggling with anxiety or depression over your grades, talk to a mental health professional such as a counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist.
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You’ll absorb more of the information and they’ll notice that you’re attentive and focused.\\n3. Organize all of your school materials.\\nKeep everything in its place so you can stay on top of your studies.\\nOrganize your assignments and class information by subject. Put all of your materials in binders, notebooks, or folders so they’re kept together. It’s also helpful to periodically reorganize and clean out your backpack or bag to keep everything in order and get rid of things you don’t need anymore.\\nOrganization is a simple way to make your life as a student much easier.\\nIf it helps, keep all of your folders and materials in a large binder so everything is kept together.\\n4. Create a workspace for online classes.\\nHelp yourself stay focused.\\nWhether you’re attending online school or taking virtual classes because of COVID-19, it’s important that you create an area that will help you focus and get your work done. Find a spot in your home that you can use and set up a desk with all of the supplies you’ll need.\\nPut up some posters or decorations to make the space your own so you’re excited to use it for class.\\nMake sure you have an outlet nearby and a solid internet connection so you can use your computer for class.\\n5. Participate in online forums for virtual classes.\\nActively engage and discuss the material with your classmates.\\nIf you’re taking an online or virtual class, check out the forum or discussion board where students can post assignments and questions. Participate in the discussions and ask questions if you aren’t sure about something. The more you can engage with the class, the more you’ll learn and the more your teacher will notice.\\nFor instance, if you’re unsure about a homework assignment, you can usually post on the forum or discussion board and ask people for help.\\nYou can also use the discussion board to put together study groups. Try posting and asking people if they’d like to study as a group.\\nSome online classes may require you to post and respond on the discussion board, so don’t lose points by not participating!\\n6. Go to every class.\\nJust by being there you’re already setting yourself up for success.\\nIt may seem like a no-brainer, but the truth is, going to class really is one of the most effective things you can do to be a good student. If you don’t miss class, you’ll stay up to speed on all of the new material and you’ll be able to ask questions about things that you aren’t sure of or that you find confusing. You’ll also get in the good graces of your teacher, which may come in handy if you need a deadline extension or help with an assignment.\\nTry to get to class on time as well and sit somewhere where your teacher can see you. 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Use a calendar or planner to make a schedule that includes all of your activities such as work, classes, study time, free time, exercise, or whatever else you want to do. Stay on top of your schedule and you won’t be as stressed out.\\nCheck your class syllabus and add big tests and projects to your calendar so you can keep track of them as well.\\n10. Study in time chunks.\\nBlock out periods of time dedicated to focusing on studying.\\n“Chunking” is the practice of focusing on specific things for set periods of time. Research suggests that 25-minute chunks are effective for studying and will help you retain the information and recall it later. Schedule times for you to focus specifically on studying.\\nFor example, rather than spending 1 day a week studying for 4 hours, break it down into 25-minute periods over a week.\\nChunking also makes studying feel more manageable and can keep you from feeling overwhelmed by the information.\\n11. Prepare for exams well ahead of time.\\nIf you know your stuff, you won’t be as nervous come test day.\\nStick to a consistent study schedule a few weeks ahead of any upcoming tests or exams. Concentrate your studies on the most significant topics first, then work your way into the smaller details. Try to summarize or outline the information that you learn in class and in your textbooks in your own words to make sure you fully understand it. When it’s time for your test, you’ll be as prepared as you can be.\\nIf you have access to old exams, try studying them to get an idea of what the test looks like.\\nLook for study groups you can join to go over the material with other people if that’s helpful for you.\\n12. Get tutoring if you need it.\\nDon’t be afraid to ask for help.\\nFind out if your school offers tutoring services or look online for professional tutors you can hire to help you. Go over the material with your tutor and work with them to retain as much of it as possible. There’s nothing wrong with getting help from a tutor, and it can actually make a really big impact on your grades.\\nSome schools offer tutoring programs that pair you with older students who are familiar with the material.\\n13. Get enough sleep each night.\\nIt’ll sharpen your focus and help you retain information.\\nSleep is important for your physical and mental health, and it’s important that you get enough of it every night so you’re able to focus the next day. Sleep also plays a role in memory and concentration, so it’s really important if you want to be a good student. Try to get at least 7 hours of restful sleep each night.\\n14. Eat a healthy diet.\\nGive your body the fuel it needs to succeed.\\nIf you’re busy studying or you’re feeling stressed out, it’s tempting to reach for easy, tasty foods like junk food or processed snacks. But foods that are rich in sodium, sugar, and saturated fats can actually make your stress worse and may even affect how well you retain the information you study. Instead, stick to a healthy diet that includes lots of veggies and snack on foods that have been shown to improve memory such as yogurt, chocolate, and coffee.\\nTips\\nIf you don’t understand something, don't be afraid to ask the teacher.[17]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nAlicia OglesbyProfessional School Counselor\\nExpert Interview. 29 October 2020.\\n\\n They actually really want you to do that!\\nWarnings\\nIf you’re struggling with anxiety or depression over your grades, talk to a mental health professional such as a counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"To be a good student, you may be willing to resort to the age-old trick of bringing your teacher an apple. While it may not hurt (who doesn’t like apples?), it may not be the best way to boost your grades. 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Find a spot in your home that you can use and set up a desk with all of the supplies you’ll need.\\nPut up some posters or decorations to make the space your own so you’re excited to use it for class.\\nMake sure you have an outlet nearby and a solid internet connection so you can use your computer for class.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Participate in online forums for virtual classes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Actively engage and discuss the material with your classmates.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re taking an online or virtual class, check out the forum or discussion board where students can post assignments and questions. Participate in the discussions and ask questions if you aren’t sure about something. The more you can engage with the class, the more you’ll learn and the more your teacher will notice.\\nFor instance, if you’re unsure about a homework assignment, you can usually post on the forum or discussion board and ask people for help.\\nYou can also use the discussion board to put together study groups. Try posting and asking people if they’d like to study as a group.\\nSome online classes may require you to post and respond on the discussion board, so don’t lose points by not participating!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Go to every class.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Just by being there you’re already setting yourself up for success.\", \"描述\": \"It may seem like a no-brainer, but the truth is, going to class really is one of the most effective things you can do to be a good student. If you don’t miss class, you’ll stay up to speed on all of the new material and you’ll be able to ask questions about things that you aren’t sure of or that you find confusing. You’ll also get in the good graces of your teacher, which may come in handy if you need a deadline extension or help with an assignment.\\nTry to get to class on time as well and sit somewhere where your teacher can see you. You don’t have to sit in the front row, but avoid hiding in the corner.\\nThe simple truth is that if you don’t show up for class, it’s much tougher to get good grades.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Do all of your homework and assignments.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"They’ll help you stay on top of the subjects you’re studying.\", \"描述\": \"Homework isn’t just a boring thing that you have to do to get a good grade. It’s actually really useful for retaining the knowledge you’re learning in class. It can also help identify any areas where you’re confused or that you’re struggling with. Do all of your homework so you can be as knowledgeable about the subject matter as possible.\\nPlus, if you’re a student who completes all of their assignments on time, if you ever need an extension or maybe even a small bump in your grade, your teacher may be more willing to help you out.\\nTry to do your assignments as soon as you can. For instance, if a report is due by Monday and you've had three weeks to do it, don't wait until Sunday the night before to get started. Try to work on it daily for a while until you are finished with the report.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Take advantage of extra credit opportunities.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your grades a boost and get on your teacher’s good side.\", \"描述\": \"Check your class syllabus and keep your eyes peeled in class for any time your teacher mentions assignments you can do for extra credit. Sure, it may be work on top of what you’re already managing. But it’s totally worth the extra bump in your grade and the quality points you can earn with your teacher.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Create a schedule.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep all of your life activities organized so you don’t feel overwhelmed.\", \"描述\": \"Just because you’re focused on your studies doesn’t mean you can’t hang out with friends or have any fun. The key is to find a balance. Use a calendar or planner to make a schedule that includes all of your activities such as work, classes, study time, free time, exercise, or whatever else you want to do. Stay on top of your schedule and you won’t be as stressed out.\\nCheck your class syllabus and add big tests and projects to your calendar so you can keep track of them as well.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Study in time chunks.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Block out periods of time dedicated to focusing on studying.\", \"描述\": \"“Chunking” is the practice of focusing on specific things for set periods of time. Research suggests that 25-minute chunks are effective for studying and will help you retain the information and recall it later. Schedule times for you to focus specifically on studying.\\nFor example, rather than spending 1 day a week studying for 4 hours, break it down into 25-minute periods over a week.\\nChunking also makes studying feel more manageable and can keep you from feeling overwhelmed by the information.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Prepare for exams well ahead of time.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you know your stuff, you won’t be as nervous come test day.\", \"描述\": \"Stick to a consistent study schedule a few weeks ahead of any upcoming tests or exams. Concentrate your studies on the most significant topics first, then work your way into the smaller details. Try to summarize or outline the information that you learn in class and in your textbooks in your own words to make sure you fully understand it. When it’s time for your test, you’ll be as prepared as you can be.\\nIf you have access to old exams, try studying them to get an idea of what the test looks like.\\nLook for study groups you can join to go over the material with other people if that’s helpful for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Get tutoring if you need it.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t be afraid to ask for help.\", \"描述\": \"Find out if your school offers tutoring services or look online for professional tutors you can hire to help you. Go over the material with your tutor and work with them to retain as much of it as possible. There’s nothing wrong with getting help from a tutor, and it can actually make a really big impact on your grades.\\nSome schools offer tutoring programs that pair you with older students who are familiar with the material.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep each night.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’ll sharpen your focus and help you retain information.\", \"描述\": \"Sleep is important for your physical and mental health, and it’s important that you get enough of it every night so you’re able to focus the next day. Sleep also plays a role in memory and concentration, so it’s really important if you want to be a good student. Try to get at least 7 hours of restful sleep each night.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Eat a healthy diet.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your body the fuel it needs to succeed.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re busy studying or you’re feeling stressed out, it’s tempting to reach for easy, tasty foods like junk food or processed snacks. But foods that are rich in sodium, sugar, and saturated fats can actually make your stress worse and may even affect how well you retain the information you study. Instead, stick to a healthy diet that includes lots of veggies and snack on foods that have been shown to improve memory such as yogurt, chocolate, and coffee.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you don’t understand something, don't be afraid to ask the teacher.[17]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nAlicia OglesbyProfessional School Counselor\\nExpert Interview. 29 October 2020.\\n\\n They actually really want you to do that!\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If you’re struggling with anxiety or depression over your grades, talk to a mental health professional such as a counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Altar Server in the Catholic Church
1. Steps 1-1. Prepare for the task. Before you arrive at your church, be sure to wear good clothes, such as a collared shirt and pants. However, in some albs, wearing a collared shirt is impractical. Wearing smart clothes is not imperative as the congregation cannot see what you are wearing. However, be sure to wear smart, presentable shoes that you can easily walk in without tripping, as the congregation probably will see these. Refrain from wearing trainers, high-heels or flip-flops. 1-2. Arrive at church at the very latest at least 20 minutes before the Mass begins (Make a visit to Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament in the Chapel). The earlier you arrive, the more time you will have to prepare. When you first arrive at the church, be sure to remove any gum or candy you have in your mouth. It would be distracting and disrespectful to be chewing or eating something before or during the Mass. (Note: You may not receive Holy Communion if you have consumed anything other than water one hour before Mass. If you do eat or drink something before Mass, you may wish to refrain from receiving Communion to avoid a Mortal Sin) If you will not be receiving Holy Communion, please do not serve. 1-3. Go to the Sacristy in your church that holds the altar serving albs or cassocks and cottas/surplices. Try not to talk loud, but whisper. Put on your alb correctly by buttoning it up or zipping it up all the way. Sometimes robes simply go on over your head. Albs are usually girdled with a cincture, so be sure to put one on that is not too long and not too short. Try to wear it at around the same length as the other servers, but if you are unsure, again, ask a member of the clergy. If any of the albs are ripped or torn, let the priest or deacon know. Remember to choose an alb that fits you, coming down to your shoes. 1-4. Decide who will be doing which jobs. Usually the Master of Ceremonies or deacon will decide this, but often the choice will fall on the most senior server available. If you are unsure which jobs need doing, ask the deacon or priest. 1-5. Wait for the priest or deacon and, on some occasions, the bishop to join you at the entry to the church. And once you process into Mass, please--NO TALKING DURING MASS. Always have your hands joined. The lead server should rotate the younger servers in different duties. Depending on your parish's traditions, different servers will lead the procession. Often it is the job of the cross bearer(crucifix), sometimes accompanied by the acolytes/candles, but a lot of the time, the cross bearer will lead. Don't start heading up the aisle until the priest tells you to or gives you a signal. Once you arrive at the sanctuary, genuflect if you are not carrying anything. If you are carrying a candle, bow your head before the altar not to tilt the candle forward, spilling hot wax. Next proceed to your seat, where you should stand. When going around the altar, make sure that you and your partner go around on alternate sides; one should go around the left of the altar, whilst the other should go around the right. 1-6. Stand at your seats singing during the opening hymn, which will have been sung during your procession up the aisle. After the hymn has concluded, the priest will welcome the congregation. After the Collect (opening prayer) you will sit down, as will the congregation. It's okay if you don't know the words, few servers sing at church, and Jesus and the people you serve with are the only ones who will hear it. If you don't know the words, sing the title or main verse over and over, or stand quietly. 1-7. During the homily, listen attentively to what the priest has to say. It usually relates to the scripture readings of the day, and carries important information about the Faith. 1-8. At the preparation of the gifts, sometimes called Offertory, bread and wine are brought to the altar. Sometimes a cross bearer goes down the central to accompany the gifts to the altar. Most of the time, the priest and deacon will go to the entrance to the sanctuary to receive the gifts and hand them back to the servers to place on the altar. Servers should stand at the side of the altar and give the deacon (or priest) water and wine from the cruet or jugs as appropriate. Then, with the water and towel, stand in the same place to allow the priest to wash his hands. 1-9. If bells are used, ring once at the epiclesis (when the priest calls down the Holy Spirit by extending his hands over the gifts), and three times each for the elevation of the Host and the chalice. Kneel after the Agnus Dei (Lamb of God). 1-10. Follow the local custom when receiving the Holy Communion. After receiving communion, servers will return to their seats. 1-11. After the priest or deacon sings or says the dismissal, all of the servers will move to the entrance to the sanctuary in their pairs, usually in the same order that they processed up in. Walk forward past the altar, giving enough room for the other servers and clergy to stand behind you before turning to face the altar. Everyone in the procession will genuflect (except if you are holding something in your hands. You may bow your head, however). Turn and process to the back of the church by walking up the main aisle. The priest and deacon will usually stop at the entry of the church to talk to the congregation as they leave. 1-12. Clean up. A server's job is not over at the end of Mass. Before hanging your robe back up, extinguish all of the candles using a candle snuffer to avoid blowing hot wax onto yourself, the altar or the floor. According to parish custom, the deacon/Master of Ceremonies may tell you if something extra needs to be done, or if something has been forgotten, e.g. preparing for another Mass. Hang up your alb neatly and cincture in their respective places. Tips When walking or sitting, hands should be held in one of two positions, locked together either at the chest or waist. Always go to the bathroom before mass. This is proper etiquette that is required. Hang up your vestments after using them. Do not dump them on the floor of the cupboard, which is disrespectful to your church custodians. Warnings If something goes wrong, don't show it! Act as if everything is going on as normal as the congregation will not notice. Remember to get a good night's sleep first - there's nothing worse for a congregation to look at than a tired server! Come properly dressed. Sneakers (trainers) are not usually accepted, but black sneakers may be as long as it is not a special occasion. Never wear shoes with flashing lights. When lighting candles or handling fire, keep the flame away from your vestments and hair. Albs can either catch fire or in some cases even melt and stick to your body, depending on their type.
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1. Anarchy Basics 1-1. Decide whether or not you want to support anarchism, planned chaos and policies of reverting to less structured life, or to absolute "government" controls with block and union committees (tribalism). This means studying, researching, and learning about anarchism. Reading some basic introductions to anarchism is the first step. Familiarize yourself with the ideas of some of the other most important anarchist theorists and writers. Read 19th century anarchist writers like Pierre Joseph Proudhon, Peter Kropotkin (The Conquest of Bread), Daniel De Leon, Mikhail Bakunin (God and the State), Alexander Berkman (The ABC of Communist-Anarchism), Josiah Warren and Benjamin Tucker. Read 20th century writers such as Emma Goldman (Anarchism and other Essays), Errico Malatesta (Anarchy), Alfredo Bonanno, Bob Black, (The Abolition of Work), Wolfi Landstreicher (Willful Disobedience), John Zerzan, Murray Bookchin, Crimethinc. Ex-Workers Collective (Recipes for Disaster), Daniel Guerin (Anarchism: From Theory to Practice, No Gods No Masters: An Anthology of Anarchism), Rudolf Rocker (Anarcho-Syndicalism: Theory and Practice), Colin Ward (Anarchism: A Very Short Introduction), Noam Chomsky (Chomsky on Anarchism). 1-2. Read up on the different schools of thought. There are dozens of different anarchist schools like: libertarian socialism, anarcho-communism, anarcho-capitalism, individualist anarchism, minarchism (minimal government powers), syndicalism (labor unions administrate and manage production), platformism (non-centralized communism), post-left anarchism, mutualism, indigenism (living off the land), anarcha-feminism, green anarchism, and others. 1-3. Familiarize yourself with the history of anarchism. Read about anarchist movements during the Spanish Revolution of 1936 (Orwell's Homage to Catalonia and Augustin Souchy's With the Peasants of Aragon are good starting points), the Makhnovist uprising in Ukraine, Paris in 1968, today's Black Blocs, and movement events such as WTO Seattle. 1-4. Understand and assess the negative connotations of anarchy. Take what you've learned about anarchism to reflect on those negative connotations. There are many negative stereotypes about anarchism. Many associate anarchism with violence, arson, and vandalism. Like with every system of thought, you will have to try to assess how people would create and enforce anarchism. 1-5. Familiarize yourself with the anarchists' symbols and flags. Like all political movements or social organizations, anarchists use symbols to identify themselves and their principles. These symbols vary based on place and have changed over time. The original “black flag” symbol emerged in the 1880s. Over one hundred years later, the circle “A” symbol became the predominant anarchist symbol. Others exist as well. 1-6. Learn about capitalism, Marxism, fascism, and other political ideologies. Know your “competition”. Know what is important in other systems of thought so you can emphasize how your viewpoint is preferable. Understand the arguments for government control, law and order. Know that statism is founded on the idea that human beings cannot effectively organize themselves on an egalitarian basis. They need a centralized state to defend against totalitarian governments, to police the populace to handle violence, gangs, and more generally to have law and morality and the systems of currency/money, trade and commerce/the economy in order to avoid war at international, national, state and local government levels, and group and individual conflict. 1-7. Take your time. You are developing a worldview. Don't rush into it because it is faddish or because you're bored. Carefully consider each thinker and each principle. What makes sense to you? 2. Lifestyle 2-1. Start with yourself, by living as an individual in your way. Take control over your own life to the greatest degree possible. Nobody owns you, but you live in a society. No authority over you is legitimate unless you violate the rights of others or voluntarily grant the authority to others in work, play or community governance, just as you should not have authority over others, if they don't consent to it. Think about your own relationships. Do you have equal relationships with your friends, family members, loved ones, and co-workers? If you have power over them and they have not consented to it, find a way to remedy the situation. Talk to them about your anarchist beliefs. Let them be. Explain that you wish to create an egalitarian relationship. 2-2. Consider your relationships with hierarchical authorities. Many anarchists have issues with the government, hierarchical religion, and large, regimented corporations. Think about your relationship to each one of these entities. Do you think that the government is too powerful? Do you think that the government intrudes on your life too much? Think about the steps you can take to reduce the government's presence in your own life. You can move to a new country where the government is less intrusive. You can go off the grid and evade the law. Or you can protest. See the following section. Many anarchists turn to atheism because they dislike the hierarchical structure of the church. Others choose to remain in their respective religions but reject this structure in favor of individual or small group meetings for worship. Some anarchists, particularly communists, collectivists, mutualists, and syndicalists, have a real problem working for corporations with several levels of managers. If this is you, consider quitting your job, unionizing and/or starting your own sole proprietorship type of business. Some even turn to collective farming. 2-3. Promote equality but realize that without laws and their enforcement by a government that it would depend on individual choices. Think about gender equality, sexual equality, racial equality, religious equality, equal opportunity, and pay equality that all use force of law versus individual choices. Assist those who are unfairly treated by the "system". Promote choosing and being dedicated to working in related career areas to build knowledge, experience and skills to get promotions. For example, help promote rights to equal wages in a chosen career, help promote racial diversity. Challenge these opportunities and what they offer to society. 2-4. Find other people who share the same belief. Find a community of people who believe some of the same things you do and live in a small, informal network of friends. You will need to rely on others. This is unavoidable. You can learn from each other, teach one another, and expand the network. To the extreme, others who proclaim the complete fracture of governing framework, and use anarchy (such as extreme libertarianism) to take the opportunity to convince people to believe they can use their "liberty" to remove many drug laws. They can avoid family-structure/marriage, parenthood, child-raising/supervision of children and much of traditional government/policing. So, instead, a community, much like a cult, would take responsibility for children in a communal "orphanage" as wards/foster children of the "community"/local arm of the state for life. 3. Promoting Anarchy 3-1. Learn to be persuasive. Spread the word. Stress what you have in common with those you speak to. You will be especially effective if your questions direct their answers toward your conclusions. Make sure they know that anarchism is not about chaos or smashing things, it is a political and social ideology that advocates self-organization and a non-hierarchical political and economic system rooted in Direct Democracy, Radical Democracy, or individualism depending on the type of anarchism. 3-2. Prepare to respond to accusations. Accusations of utopianism with examples of anarchy in action, most indigenous societies throughout history have been anarchist and even today there are many intentional communities that operate along anarchist lines - not always in the places you'd expect. The Amish, for instance, are a great example of non-ideological Anarchism in action. 3-3. Participate in protests, direct action, and grassroots organizations. But remember, protest changes nothing if there is no movement behind it. That means long hours of community organizing, sitting through meetings, and working with people who you probably disagree with and may not even like. It's not easy but if you really want to spread your message, it is necessary. You will probably have to make a lot of cold calls, put up flyers, and set up booths at local events in order to gain people's attention. If you truly believe in spreading your philosophy, these are all necessary actions. 3-4. Organize anarchist events/meetings. Lead by example. There are a lot of local events led by anarchist groups around the world. They range from informal meet and greets to book fairs and concerts. 3-5. Use social media to spread the word. There are some anarchists who disagree with the use of social media as it tends to support big social media corporations, using alternative social media could be a good choice if this is the case. In our social media age, you can find other people with similar interests easily. Search your social media platforms (Facebook, Reddit, 4chan, 8chan, YouTube, Google+, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Vine, Steam....etc.) for other like minded individuals. You can also help organize protests and other anarchist activities through social media. This is a great way to get free exposure for your movement.
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Read up on the different schools of thought.\\nThere are dozens of different anarchist schools like: libertarian socialism, anarcho-communism, anarcho-capitalism, individualist anarchism, minarchism (minimal government powers), syndicalism (labor unions administrate and manage production), platformism (non-centralized communism), post-left anarchism, mutualism, indigenism (living off the land), anarcha-feminism, green anarchism, and others.\\n1-3. Familiarize yourself with the history of anarchism.\\nRead about anarchist movements during the Spanish Revolution of 1936 (Orwell's Homage to Catalonia and Augustin Souchy's With the Peasants of Aragon are good starting points), the Makhnovist uprising in Ukraine, Paris in 1968, today's Black Blocs, and movement events such as WTO Seattle.\\n1-4. Understand and assess the negative connotations of anarchy.\\nTake what you've learned about anarchism to reflect on those negative connotations. There are many negative stereotypes about anarchism. Many associate anarchism with violence, arson, and vandalism. Like with every system of thought, you will have to try to assess how people would create and enforce anarchism.\\n1-5. Familiarize yourself with the anarchists' symbols and flags.\\nLike all political movements or social organizations, anarchists use symbols to identify themselves and their principles. These symbols vary based on place and have changed over time.\\nThe original “black flag” symbol emerged in the 1880s. Over one hundred years later, the circle “A” symbol became the predominant anarchist symbol. Others exist as well.\\n1-6. Learn about capitalism, Marxism, fascism, and other political ideologies.\\nKnow your “competition”. Know what is important in other systems of thought so you can emphasize how your viewpoint is preferable.\\nUnderstand the arguments for government control, law and order. Know that statism is founded on the idea that human beings cannot effectively organize themselves on an egalitarian basis. They need a centralized state to defend against totalitarian governments, to police the populace to handle violence, gangs, and more generally to have law and morality and the systems of currency/money, trade and commerce/the economy in order to avoid war at international, national, state and local government levels, and group and individual conflict.\\n1-7. Take your time.\\nYou are developing a worldview. Don't rush into it because it is faddish or because you're bored. Carefully consider each thinker and each principle. What makes sense to you?\\n2. Lifestyle\\n2-1. Start with yourself, by living as an individual in your way.\\nTake control over your own life to the greatest degree possible. Nobody owns you, but you live in a society. No authority over you is legitimate unless you violate the rights of others or voluntarily grant the authority to others in work, play or community governance, just as you should not have authority over others, if they don't consent to it.\\nThink about your own relationships. Do you have equal relationships with your friends, family members, loved ones, and co-workers? If you have power over them and they have not consented to it, find a way to remedy the situation. Talk to them about your anarchist beliefs. Let them be. Explain that you wish to create an egalitarian relationship.\\n2-2. Consider your relationships with hierarchical authorities.\\nMany anarchists have issues with the government, hierarchical religion, and large, regimented corporations. Think about your relationship to each one of these entities.\\nDo you think that the government is too powerful? Do you think that the government intrudes on your life too much? Think about the steps you can take to reduce the government's presence in your own life. You can move to a new country where the government is less intrusive. You can go off the grid and evade the law. Or you can protest. See the following section.\\nMany anarchists turn to atheism because they dislike the hierarchical structure of the church. Others choose to remain in their respective religions but reject this structure in favor of individual or small group meetings for worship.\\nSome anarchists, particularly communists, collectivists, mutualists, and syndicalists, have a real problem working for corporations with several levels of managers. If this is you, consider quitting your job, unionizing and/or starting your own sole proprietorship type of business. Some even turn to collective farming.\\n2-3. Promote equality but realize that without laws and their enforcement by a government that it would depend on individual choices.\\nThink about gender equality, sexual equality, racial equality, religious equality, equal opportunity, and pay equality that all use force of law versus individual choices.\\nAssist those who are unfairly treated by the \\\"system\\\". Promote choosing and being dedicated to working in related career areas to build knowledge, experience and skills to get promotions. For example, help promote rights to equal wages in a chosen career, help promote racial diversity. Challenge these opportunities and what they offer to society.\\n2-4. Find other people who share the same belief.\\nFind a community of people who believe some of the same things you do and live in a small, informal network of friends. You will need to rely on others. This is unavoidable. You can learn from each other, teach one another, and expand the network.\\nTo the extreme, others who proclaim the complete fracture of governing framework, and use anarchy (such as extreme libertarianism) to take the opportunity to convince people to believe they can use their \\\"liberty\\\" to remove many drug laws. They can avoid family-structure/marriage, parenthood, child-raising/supervision of children and much of traditional government/policing. So, instead, a community, much like a cult, would take responsibility for children in a communal \\\"orphanage\\\" as wards/foster children of the \\\"community\\\"/local arm of the state for life.\\n3. Promoting Anarchy\\n3-1. Learn to be persuasive.\\nSpread the word. Stress what you have in common with those you speak to. You will be especially effective if your questions direct their answers toward your conclusions. Make sure they know that anarchism is not about chaos or smashing things, it is a political and social ideology that advocates self-organization and a non-hierarchical political and economic system rooted in Direct Democracy, Radical Democracy, or individualism depending on the type of anarchism.\\n3-2. Prepare to respond to accusations.\\nAccusations of utopianism with examples of anarchy in action, most indigenous societies throughout history have been anarchist and even today there are many intentional communities that operate along anarchist lines - not always in the places you'd expect. The Amish, for instance, are a great example of non-ideological Anarchism in action.\\n3-3. Participate in protests, direct action, and grassroots organizations.\\nBut remember, protest changes nothing if there is no movement behind it. That means long hours of community organizing, sitting through meetings, and working with people who you probably disagree with and may not even like. It's not easy but if you really want to spread your message, it is necessary.\\nYou will probably have to make a lot of cold calls, put up flyers, and set up booths at local events in order to gain people's attention. If you truly believe in spreading your philosophy, these are all necessary actions.\\n3-4. Organize anarchist events/meetings.\\nLead by example. There are a lot of local events led by anarchist groups around the world. They range from informal meet and greets to book fairs and concerts.\\n3-5. Use social media to spread the word.\\nThere are some anarchists who disagree with the use of social media as it tends to support big social media corporations, using alternative social media could be a good choice if this is the case.\\nIn our social media age, you can find other people with similar interests easily. Search your social media platforms (Facebook, Reddit, 4chan, 8chan, YouTube, Google+, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Vine, Steam....etc.) for other like minded individuals.\\nYou can also help organize protests and other anarchist activities through social media. This is a great way to get free exposure for your movement.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"What does it mean to be an anarchist? In general, anarchists call for the abolition of the government and the dismantling of social hierarchies. Solidarity through a dream of unforced equality is the foundational principle of anarchism. Critics of anarchism depict many kinds of negative stereotypes of the concept - they picture angry, intimidating \\\"gangs\\\" defacing public and private property, groups shoplifting, looting stores, gang-like robbery, burglary, assaults, and creating general havoc. While certain violent groups have claimed to be anarchists, most avowed anarchists today advocate peaceful, anti-government protest.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Anarchy Basics\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide whether or not you want to support anarchism, planned chaos and policies of reverting to less structured life, or to absolute \\\"government\\\" controls with block and union committees (tribalism).\", \"描述\": \"This means studying, researching, and learning about anarchism. Reading some basic introductions to anarchism is the first step. Familiarize yourself with the ideas of some of the other most important anarchist theorists and writers.\\nRead 19th century anarchist writers like Pierre Joseph Proudhon, Peter Kropotkin (The Conquest of Bread), Daniel De Leon, Mikhail Bakunin (God and the State), Alexander Berkman (The ABC of Communist-Anarchism), Josiah Warren and Benjamin Tucker.\\nRead 20th century writers such as Emma Goldman (Anarchism and other Essays), Errico Malatesta (Anarchy), Alfredo Bonanno, Bob Black, (The Abolition of Work), Wolfi Landstreicher (Willful Disobedience), John Zerzan, Murray Bookchin, Crimethinc. Ex-Workers Collective (Recipes for Disaster), Daniel Guerin (Anarchism: From Theory to Practice, No Gods No Masters: An Anthology of Anarchism), Rudolf Rocker (Anarcho-Syndicalism: Theory and Practice), Colin Ward (Anarchism: A Very Short Introduction), Noam Chomsky (Chomsky on Anarchism).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read up on the different schools of thought.\", \"描述\": \"There are dozens of different anarchist schools like: libertarian socialism, anarcho-communism, anarcho-capitalism, individualist anarchism, minarchism (minimal government powers), syndicalism (labor unions administrate and manage production), platformism (non-centralized communism), post-left anarchism, mutualism, indigenism (living off the land), anarcha-feminism, green anarchism, and others.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with the history of anarchism.\", \"描述\": \"Read about anarchist movements during the Spanish Revolution of 1936 (Orwell's Homage to Catalonia and Augustin Souchy's With the Peasants of Aragon are good starting points), the Makhnovist uprising in Ukraine, Paris in 1968, today's Black Blocs, and movement events such as WTO Seattle.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand and assess the negative connotations of anarchy.\", \"描述\": \"Take what you've learned about anarchism to reflect on those negative connotations. There are many negative stereotypes about anarchism. Many associate anarchism with violence, arson, and vandalism. Like with every system of thought, you will have to try to assess how people would create and enforce anarchism.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with the anarchists' symbols and flags.\", \"描述\": \"Like all political movements or social organizations, anarchists use symbols to identify themselves and their principles. These symbols vary based on place and have changed over time.\\nThe original “black flag” symbol emerged in the 1880s. Over one hundred years later, the circle “A” symbol became the predominant anarchist symbol. Others exist as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn about capitalism, Marxism, fascism, and other political ideologies.\", \"描述\": \"Know your “competition”. Know what is important in other systems of thought so you can emphasize how your viewpoint is preferable.\\nUnderstand the arguments for government control, law and order. Know that statism is founded on the idea that human beings cannot effectively organize themselves on an egalitarian basis. They need a centralized state to defend against totalitarian governments, to police the populace to handle violence, gangs, and more generally to have law and morality and the systems of currency/money, trade and commerce/the economy in order to avoid war at international, national, state and local government levels, and group and individual conflict.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take your time.\", \"描述\": \"You are developing a worldview. Don't rush into it because it is faddish or because you're bored. Carefully consider each thinker and each principle. What makes sense to you?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start with yourself, by living as an individual in your way.\", \"描述\": \"Take control over your own life to the greatest degree possible. Nobody owns you, but you live in a society. No authority over you is legitimate unless you violate the rights of others or voluntarily grant the authority to others in work, play or community governance, just as you should not have authority over others, if they don't consent to it.\\nThink about your own relationships. Do you have equal relationships with your friends, family members, loved ones, and co-workers? If you have power over them and they have not consented to it, find a way to remedy the situation. Talk to them about your anarchist beliefs. Let them be. Explain that you wish to create an egalitarian relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider your relationships with hierarchical authorities.\", \"描述\": \"Many anarchists have issues with the government, hierarchical religion, and large, regimented corporations. Think about your relationship to each one of these entities.\\nDo you think that the government is too powerful? Do you think that the government intrudes on your life too much? Think about the steps you can take to reduce the government's presence in your own life. You can move to a new country where the government is less intrusive. You can go off the grid and evade the law. Or you can protest. See the following section.\\nMany anarchists turn to atheism because they dislike the hierarchical structure of the church. Others choose to remain in their respective religions but reject this structure in favor of individual or small group meetings for worship.\\nSome anarchists, particularly communists, collectivists, mutualists, and syndicalists, have a real problem working for corporations with several levels of managers. If this is you, consider quitting your job, unionizing and/or starting your own sole proprietorship type of business. Some even turn to collective farming.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Promote equality but realize that without laws and their enforcement by a government that it would depend on individual choices.\", \"描述\": \"Think about gender equality, sexual equality, racial equality, religious equality, equal opportunity, and pay equality that all use force of law versus individual choices.\\nAssist those who are unfairly treated by the \\\"system\\\". Promote choosing and being dedicated to working in related career areas to build knowledge, experience and skills to get promotions. For example, help promote rights to equal wages in a chosen career, help promote racial diversity. Challenge these opportunities and what they offer to society.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find other people who share the same belief.\", \"描述\": \"Find a community of people who believe some of the same things you do and live in a small, informal network of friends. You will need to rely on others. This is unavoidable. You can learn from each other, teach one another, and expand the network.\\nTo the extreme, others who proclaim the complete fracture of governing framework, and use anarchy (such as extreme libertarianism) to take the opportunity to convince people to believe they can use their \\\"liberty\\\" to remove many drug laws. They can avoid family-structure/marriage, parenthood, child-raising/supervision of children and much of traditional government/policing. So, instead, a community, much like a cult, would take responsibility for children in a communal \\\"orphanage\\\" as wards/foster children of the \\\"community\\\"/local arm of the state for life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Promoting Anarchy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to be persuasive.\", \"描述\": \"Spread the word. Stress what you have in common with those you speak to. You will be especially effective if your questions direct their answers toward your conclusions. Make sure they know that anarchism is not about chaos or smashing things, it is a political and social ideology that advocates self-organization and a non-hierarchical political and economic system rooted in Direct Democracy, Radical Democracy, or individualism depending on the type of anarchism.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prepare to respond to accusations.\", \"描述\": \"Accusations of utopianism with examples of anarchy in action, most indigenous societies throughout history have been anarchist and even today there are many intentional communities that operate along anarchist lines - not always in the places you'd expect. The Amish, for instance, are a great example of non-ideological Anarchism in action.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Participate in protests, direct action, and grassroots organizations.\", \"描述\": \"But remember, protest changes nothing if there is no movement behind it. 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How to Be an Army Ranger
1. Meeting the Basic Qualifications 1-1. Be a citizen of the United States. In order to become an Army Ranger, you’ll need to be a citizen of the United States. While you can join some branches of the United States military with a green card, green card holders are not eligible for the Ranger Regiment (also known as the 75th Regiment). As an Army Ranger, you’ll need to be able to obtain the minimum level of security clearance for Ranger duties. Without citizenship, you won’t be eligible for the level of Secret clearance required. 1-2. Serve in the United States Army and have active duty status. In order to qualify to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you must serve in the U.S. Army for at least 6 months. In addition, you must have active duty status to volunteer for the Ranger selection process. Members of the National Guard, Active Guard Reserve, or Army Reserve do not qualify to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment. 1-3. Receive a General Technical Score of 105 or higher. When you first enlist in the Army, one of the first things you’ll do is take the Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery (ASVAB) test, which is designed to help determine which Military Occupational Specialties (MOS) would be the best fit for you. You’ll need to receive at least a 105 on the General Technical component of the test to be able to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment. This component of the enlistment test assesses your word knowledge, paragraph comprehension, and arithmetic reasoning skills. 1-4. Obtain a PULHES of at least 111221 to prove your physical capability. If you want to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you’ll need to prove that you don’t have any physical or psychiatric obstacles that could prevent you from doing your duties. To do this, you must have at least a 111221 on the PULHES section of your soldier profile. Each number in a PULHES score describes one of the components of the examination, which include physical capacity/stamina (P), upper extremities (U), lower extremities (L), hearing and ears (H), eyes (E), and psychiatric (S). For the U.S. Army in general, receiving a 1 or 2 means that a soldier can be deployed, while a score of a 3 or 4 in any category prohibits a soldier from being deployed. To be a Ranger, you’ll need to receive a 1 for your physical capacity/stamina, a 1 for upper extremity strength, a 1 for lower extremity strength, a 2 for your hearing ability, a 2 for your eyesight, and a 1 for your psychiatric evaluation. 1-5. Avoid UCMJ or drug or alcohol related incidents for at least 24 months. In order to be able to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you’ll have to be a person in good standing according to Army standards. To be a person in good standing, you cannot have any pending Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) actions against you, or have had any drug or alcohol related incidents in the last 24 months. The UCMJ is the military justice system that handles criminal offenses under military law. In general, if you act against military law, you’ll be court-martialed and face trial in a military court. 1-6. Attain the minimum security clearance for Ranger duties. Because Rangers are often involved in highly classified military operations, all potential Rangers must be able to attain the minimum level of Secret clearance required of all Army Rangers. In order to obtain clearance, you have to be a citizen of the United States, have a position that necessitates clearance, and pass a background check. Depending on the level of clearance needed for your Ranger position, you may also need to undergo additional screening. How you’ll apply for security clearance will depend on what type of clearance you’ll need for the specific duties you’ll be performing as an Army Ranger. 2. Training to Become an Army Ranger 2-1. Sign an Option 40 contract if it’s available during the enlistment process. An Option 40 contract is an enlistment option that will put you on the track to train to join the Rangers. While there are other ways that you can become a Ranger, having an Option 40 contract is the only guaranteed route that initiates your training right when you enlist. There are a limited amount of Option 40 contracts available each year, and spots tend to fill up quickly. If you don’t receive an Option 40 contract during the enlistment process, you can attempt to volunteer to become a Ranger during Basic Combat Training, Advanced Individual Training, or while attending Airborne School. 2-2. Complete the Army’s Basic Combat Training. Also known as boot camp, Basic Combat Training is a training process required of all Army recruits, including potential Rangers. At boot camp, you’ll learn the traditions, tactics, and methods of becoming a soldier in the U.S. Army. While the time varies depending on your Military Occupational Specialty (MOS), Army Basic Combat Training generally lasts about 10 weeks. Your MOS is determined by the results of your Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery (ASVAB) test. 2-3. Go through Advanced Individual Training for a Ranger MOS. After completing Basic Combat Training, all potential Rangers are required to attend Advanced Individual Training to learn the skills necessary for their MOS. Advanced Individual Training is designed to give you hands-on training that will make you an expert in your given field. A few of the possible Advanced Individual Training schools include the Air Defense Artillery School, Infantry School, the Army Intelligence Center, the Aviation Logistics School, the Field Artillery School, and the Engineer School. If you did not get an Option 40 contract when you enlisted, you may be able to volunteer for the Rangers if you excel during Advanced Individual Training and if the Rangers are in need of someone with your MOS. Not all MOSs can qualify to volunteer for the Rangers. To see if your MOS qualifies, visit: https://www.benning.army.mil/tenant/75thranger/Specialties.html. 2-4. Graduate from the Army’s Airborne School. All potential Army Rangers are required to volunteer for and complete the Army’s Airborne School. The Airborne School lasts about 3 weeks, during which you’ll learn the techniques involved in parachuting from airplanes and landing safely. Potential Rangers are required to do at least 5 jumps during Airborne training, including at least 1 night jump, in order to graduate. 2-5. Pass the physical tests to qualify for RASP. In order to be a part of the Ranger selection process, you’ll first need to pass a series of tests that prove that you are physically able to handle the demands of Ranger training. Specifically, you’ll need to pass the Ranger Fitness Test, the Water Survival Assessment, and perform a 12 mile foot march while carrying a 35 pound rucksack and a weapon in under 3 hours. The Ranger Fitness Test includes 58 push-ups, 69 sit-ups, a 5 mile run in 40 minutes or less, and 6 pull-ups. 2-6. Attend RASP 1 or 2 to get assigned to a battalion. Completing the Ranger Assessment and Selection Program (RASP) is the final step to becoming an Army Ranger. If you’re an infantryman, you’ll be required to attend and complete RASP 1, while officers attend RASP 2. Both RASP 1 and 2 last approximately 8 weeks, during which you’ll learn the skills and tactics that you’ll need to operate as an Army Ranger. If you’re selected to join the Army Ranger Regiment after RASP, you’ll then be assigned to a battalion. The completion rate from RASP 1 and 2 is generally between 20% and 30%. 2-7. Complete Ranger School if you want a Ranger leadership position. If your goal is to land a leadership position in the Army Ranger Regiment, you’ll need to complete Ranger School as well. Ranger School consists of approximately 9 weeks of additional training to prepare you for leadership duties in the Ranger Regiment. Attending Ranger School is voluntarily. However, not all Rangers or Army soldiers will be able to attend Ranger School. In order to attend, you have to be one of the top recruits in your RASP class, or prove yourself as an Army Ranger over several months or years. 3. Working as an Army Ranger 3-1. Uphold the Ranger Creed to ensure the success of your missions. The Ranger Creed is a career and life guidebook developed to ensure the mental, moral, and physical preeminence of Army Rangers. The Ranger Creed mandates that Rangers maintain a level of discipline both on and off duty so that they can serve as role models for all U.S. Army personnel. To read the Ranger Creed in its entirety, visit: https://www.goarmy.com/ranger/about-the-rangers/ranger-creed.html#. 3-2. Conduct Special Operations Raids with your battalion. Special Operations Raids are raids conducted by Army Rangers for the purpose of seizing, destroying, or capturing enemy locations or materials. As a Ranger conducting a Special Operations Raid, you’ll generally use the element of surprise to raid enemy territory on behalf of the U.S. military. Because Special Operations Raids are generally highly classified, the Army doesn’t provide the public with information about how these raids will be conducted beforehand. Therefore, you’ll learn how to be involved in Special Operations Raids when you go through Ranger training. 3-3. Assist with Joint Forcible Entry operations. Joint Forcible Entry operations are the most common type of Army Ranger mission, so it’s likely this will be the type of mission you’ll be involved in the most. These operations generally include airfield seizures, such as those conducted during Operation Urgent Fury and Operation Just Cause. Operation Urgent Fury involved the U.S. invasion of Grenada, while Operation Just Cause refers to the U.S. invasion of Panama. 3-4. Go on special reconnaissance missions inside enemy territory. Along with Special Operations Raids and Joint Forcible Entry operations, gathering intelligence in enemy territory is also a hallmark of Army Ranger duties. These missions are often highly classified and involve the level of mental skill and physical demands that you’ll acquire during Ranger training.
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Obtain a PULHES of at least 111221 to prove your physical capability.\\nIf you want to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you’ll need to prove that you don’t have any physical or psychiatric obstacles that could prevent you from doing your duties. To do this, you must have at least a 111221 on the PULHES section of your soldier profile.\\nEach number in a PULHES score describes one of the components of the examination, which include physical capacity/stamina (P), upper extremities (U), lower extremities (L), hearing and ears (H), eyes (E), and psychiatric (S).\\nFor the U.S. Army in general, receiving a 1 or 2 means that a soldier can be deployed, while a score of a 3 or 4 in any category prohibits a soldier from being deployed.\\nTo be a Ranger, you’ll need to receive a 1 for your physical capacity/stamina, a 1 for upper extremity strength, a 1 for lower extremity strength, a 2 for your hearing ability, a 2 for your eyesight, and a 1 for your psychiatric evaluation.\\n1-5. Avoid UCMJ or drug or alcohol related incidents for at least 24 months.\\nIn order to be able to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you’ll have to be a person in good standing according to Army standards. To be a person in good standing, you cannot have any pending Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) actions against you, or have had any drug or alcohol related incidents in the last 24 months.\\nThe UCMJ is the military justice system that handles criminal offenses under military law. In general, if you act against military law, you’ll be court-martialed and face trial in a military court.\\n1-6. Attain the minimum security clearance for Ranger duties.\\nBecause Rangers are often involved in highly classified military operations, all potential Rangers must be able to attain the minimum level of Secret clearance required of all Army Rangers. 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While there are other ways that you can become a Ranger, having an Option 40 contract is the only guaranteed route that initiates your training right when you enlist.\\nThere are a limited amount of Option 40 contracts available each year, and spots tend to fill up quickly.\\nIf you don’t receive an Option 40 contract during the enlistment process, you can attempt to volunteer to become a Ranger during Basic Combat Training, Advanced Individual Training, or while attending Airborne School.\\n2-2. Complete the Army’s Basic Combat Training.\\nAlso known as boot camp, Basic Combat Training is a training process required of all Army recruits, including potential Rangers. At boot camp, you’ll learn the traditions, tactics, and methods of becoming a soldier in the U.S. Army.\\nWhile the time varies depending on your Military Occupational Specialty (MOS), Army Basic Combat Training generally lasts about 10 weeks. Your MOS is determined by the results of your Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery (ASVAB) test.\\n2-3. Go through Advanced Individual Training for a Ranger MOS.\\nAfter completing Basic Combat Training, all potential Rangers are required to attend Advanced Individual Training to learn the skills necessary for their MOS. Advanced Individual Training is designed to give you hands-on training that will make you an expert in your given field.\\nA few of the possible Advanced Individual Training schools include the Air Defense Artillery School, Infantry School, the Army Intelligence Center, the Aviation Logistics School, the Field Artillery School, and the Engineer School.\\nIf you did not get an Option 40 contract when you enlisted, you may be able to volunteer for the Rangers if you excel during Advanced Individual Training and if the Rangers are in need of someone with your MOS.\\nNot all MOSs can qualify to volunteer for the Rangers. To see if your MOS qualifies, visit: https://www.benning.army.mil/tenant/75thranger/Specialties.html.\\n2-4. Graduate from the Army’s Airborne School.\\nAll potential Army Rangers are required to volunteer for and complete the Army’s Airborne School. The Airborne School lasts about 3 weeks, during which you’ll learn the techniques involved in parachuting from airplanes and landing safely.\\nPotential Rangers are required to do at least 5 jumps during Airborne training, including at least 1 night jump, in order to graduate.\\n2-5. Pass the physical tests to qualify for RASP.\\nIn order to be a part of the Ranger selection process, you’ll first need to pass a series of tests that prove that you are physically able to handle the demands of Ranger training. Specifically, you’ll need to pass the Ranger Fitness Test, the Water Survival Assessment, and perform a 12 mile foot march while carrying a 35 pound rucksack and a weapon in under 3 hours.\\nThe Ranger Fitness Test includes 58 push-ups, 69 sit-ups, a 5 mile run in 40 minutes or less, and 6 pull-ups.\\n2-6. Attend RASP 1 or 2 to get assigned to a battalion.\\nCompleting the Ranger Assessment and Selection Program (RASP) is the final step to becoming an Army Ranger. If you’re an infantryman, you’ll be required to attend and complete RASP 1, while officers attend RASP 2. Both RASP 1 and 2 last approximately 8 weeks, during which you’ll learn the skills and tactics that you’ll need to operate as an Army Ranger.\\nIf you’re selected to join the Army Ranger Regiment after RASP, you’ll then be assigned to a battalion.\\nThe completion rate from RASP 1 and 2 is generally between 20% and 30%.\\n2-7. Complete Ranger School if you want a Ranger leadership position.\\nIf your goal is to land a leadership position in the Army Ranger Regiment, you’ll need to complete Ranger School as well. Ranger School consists of approximately 9 weeks of additional training to prepare you for leadership duties in the Ranger Regiment.\\nAttending Ranger School is voluntarily. However, not all Rangers or Army soldiers will be able to attend Ranger School. In order to attend, you have to be one of the top recruits in your RASP class, or prove yourself as an Army Ranger over several months or years.\\n3. Working as an Army Ranger\\n3-1. Uphold the Ranger Creed to ensure the success of your missions.\\nThe Ranger Creed is a career and life guidebook developed to ensure the mental, moral, and physical preeminence of Army Rangers. The Ranger Creed mandates that Rangers maintain a level of discipline both on and off duty so that they can serve as role models for all U.S. Army personnel.\\nTo read the Ranger Creed in its entirety, visit: https://www.goarmy.com/ranger/about-the-rangers/ranger-creed.html#.\\n3-2. Conduct Special Operations Raids with your battalion.\\nSpecial Operations Raids are raids conducted by Army Rangers for the purpose of seizing, destroying, or capturing enemy locations or materials. As a Ranger conducting a Special Operations Raid, you’ll generally use the element of surprise to raid enemy territory on behalf of the U.S. military.\\nBecause Special Operations Raids are generally highly classified, the Army doesn’t provide the public with information about how these raids will be conducted beforehand. Therefore, you’ll learn how to be involved in Special Operations Raids when you go through Ranger training.\\n3-3. Assist with Joint Forcible Entry operations.\\nJoint Forcible Entry operations are the most common type of Army Ranger mission, so it’s likely this will be the type of mission you’ll be involved in the most. These operations generally include airfield seizures, such as those conducted during Operation Urgent Fury and Operation Just Cause.\\nOperation Urgent Fury involved the U.S. invasion of Grenada, while Operation Just Cause refers to the U.S. invasion of Panama.\\n3-4. Go on special reconnaissance missions inside enemy territory.\\nAlong with Special Operations Raids and Joint Forcible Entry operations, gathering intelligence in enemy territory is also a hallmark of Army Ranger duties. These missions are often highly classified and involve the level of mental skill and physical demands that you’ll acquire during Ranger training.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The Army Rangers are a highly skilled special operations unit within the United States Army that carry out military missions across the globe. To be an Army Ranger, you’ll first need to meet the basic qualifications and enlist in the U.S. Army. Once you become a soldier, you must go through various training schools, as well as the Ranger selection process, to gain the necessary skills and experience needed to perform Ranger duties.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meeting the Basic Qualifications\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be a citizen of the United States.\", \"描述\": \"In order to become an Army Ranger, you’ll need to be a citizen of the United States. While you can join some branches of the United States military with a green card, green card holders are not eligible for the Ranger Regiment (also known as the 75th Regiment).\\nAs an Army Ranger, you’ll need to be able to obtain the minimum level of security clearance for Ranger duties. Without citizenship, you won’t be eligible for the level of Secret clearance required.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Serve in the United States Army and have active duty status.\", \"描述\": \"In order to qualify to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you must serve in the U.S. Army for at least 6 months. In addition, you must have active duty status to volunteer for the Ranger selection process.\\nMembers of the National Guard, Active Guard Reserve, or Army Reserve do not qualify to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Receive a General Technical Score of 105 or higher.\", \"描述\": \"When you first enlist in the Army, one of the first things you’ll do is take the Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery (ASVAB) test, which is designed to help determine which Military Occupational Specialties (MOS) would be the best fit for you. You’ll need to receive at least a 105 on the General Technical component of the test to be able to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment.\\nThis component of the enlistment test assesses your word knowledge, paragraph comprehension, and arithmetic reasoning skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Obtain a PULHES of at least 111221 to prove your physical capability.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you’ll need to prove that you don’t have any physical or psychiatric obstacles that could prevent you from doing your duties. To do this, you must have at least a 111221 on the PULHES section of your soldier profile.\\nEach number in a PULHES score describes one of the components of the examination, which include physical capacity/stamina (P), upper extremities (U), lower extremities (L), hearing and ears (H), eyes (E), and psychiatric (S).\\nFor the U.S. Army in general, receiving a 1 or 2 means that a soldier can be deployed, while a score of a 3 or 4 in any category prohibits a soldier from being deployed.\\nTo be a Ranger, you’ll need to receive a 1 for your physical capacity/stamina, a 1 for upper extremity strength, a 1 for lower extremity strength, a 2 for your hearing ability, a 2 for your eyesight, and a 1 for your psychiatric evaluation.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid UCMJ or drug or alcohol related incidents for at least 24 months.\", \"描述\": \"In order to be able to volunteer for the Ranger Regiment, you’ll have to be a person in good standing according to Army standards. To be a person in good standing, you cannot have any pending Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) actions against you, or have had any drug or alcohol related incidents in the last 24 months.\\nThe UCMJ is the military justice system that handles criminal offenses under military law. In general, if you act against military law, you’ll be court-martialed and face trial in a military court.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Attain the minimum security clearance for Ranger duties.\", \"描述\": \"Because Rangers are often involved in highly classified military operations, all potential Rangers must be able to attain the minimum level of Secret clearance required of all Army Rangers. In order to obtain clearance, you have to be a citizen of the United States, have a position that necessitates clearance, and pass a background check.\\nDepending on the level of clearance needed for your Ranger position, you may also need to undergo additional screening.\\nHow you’ll apply for security clearance will depend on what type of clearance you’ll need for the specific duties you’ll be performing as an Army Ranger.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Training to Become an Army Ranger\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Sign an Option 40 contract if it’s available during the enlistment process.\", \"描述\": \"An Option 40 contract is an enlistment option that will put you on the track to train to join the Rangers. While there are other ways that you can become a Ranger, having an Option 40 contract is the only guaranteed route that initiates your training right when you enlist.\\nThere are a limited amount of Option 40 contracts available each year, and spots tend to fill up quickly.\\nIf you don’t receive an Option 40 contract during the enlistment process, you can attempt to volunteer to become a Ranger during Basic Combat Training, Advanced Individual Training, or while attending Airborne School.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Complete the Army’s Basic Combat Training.\", \"描述\": \"Also known as boot camp, Basic Combat Training is a training process required of all Army recruits, including potential Rangers. At boot camp, you’ll learn the traditions, tactics, and methods of becoming a soldier in the U.S. Army.\\nWhile the time varies depending on your Military Occupational Specialty (MOS), Army Basic Combat Training generally lasts about 10 weeks. Your MOS is determined by the results of your Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery (ASVAB) test.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go through Advanced Individual Training for a Ranger MOS.\", \"描述\": \"After completing Basic Combat Training, all potential Rangers are required to attend Advanced Individual Training to learn the skills necessary for their MOS. Advanced Individual Training is designed to give you hands-on training that will make you an expert in your given field.\\nA few of the possible Advanced Individual Training schools include the Air Defense Artillery School, Infantry School, the Army Intelligence Center, the Aviation Logistics School, the Field Artillery School, and the Engineer School.\\nIf you did not get an Option 40 contract when you enlisted, you may be able to volunteer for the Rangers if you excel during Advanced Individual Training and if the Rangers are in need of someone with your MOS.\\nNot all MOSs can qualify to volunteer for the Rangers. To see if your MOS qualifies, visit: https://www.benning.army.mil/tenant/75thranger/Specialties.html.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Graduate from the Army’s Airborne School.\", \"描述\": \"All potential Army Rangers are required to volunteer for and complete the Army’s Airborne School. The Airborne School lasts about 3 weeks, during which you’ll learn the techniques involved in parachuting from airplanes and landing safely.\\nPotential Rangers are required to do at least 5 jumps during Airborne training, including at least 1 night jump, in order to graduate.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pass the physical tests to qualify for RASP.\", \"描述\": \"In order to be a part of the Ranger selection process, you’ll first need to pass a series of tests that prove that you are physically able to handle the demands of Ranger training. Specifically, you’ll need to pass the Ranger Fitness Test, the Water Survival Assessment, and perform a 12 mile foot march while carrying a 35 pound rucksack and a weapon in under 3 hours.\\nThe Ranger Fitness Test includes 58 push-ups, 69 sit-ups, a 5 mile run in 40 minutes or less, and 6 pull-ups.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Attend RASP 1 or 2 to get assigned to a battalion.\", \"描述\": \"Completing the Ranger Assessment and Selection Program (RASP) is the final step to becoming an Army Ranger. If you’re an infantryman, you’ll be required to attend and complete RASP 1, while officers attend RASP 2. Both RASP 1 and 2 last approximately 8 weeks, during which you’ll learn the skills and tactics that you’ll need to operate as an Army Ranger.\\nIf you’re selected to join the Army Ranger Regiment after RASP, you’ll then be assigned to a battalion.\\nThe completion rate from RASP 1 and 2 is generally between 20% and 30%.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Complete Ranger School if you want a Ranger leadership position.\", \"描述\": \"If your goal is to land a leadership position in the Army Ranger Regiment, you’ll need to complete Ranger School as well. Ranger School consists of approximately 9 weeks of additional training to prepare you for leadership duties in the Ranger Regiment.\\nAttending Ranger School is voluntarily. However, not all Rangers or Army soldiers will be able to attend Ranger School. In order to attend, you have to be one of the top recruits in your RASP class, or prove yourself as an Army Ranger over several months or years.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Working as an Army Ranger\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Uphold the Ranger Creed to ensure the success of your missions.\", \"描述\": \"The Ranger Creed is a career and life guidebook developed to ensure the mental, moral, and physical preeminence of Army Rangers. The Ranger Creed mandates that Rangers maintain a level of discipline both on and off duty so that they can serve as role models for all U.S. Army personnel.\\nTo read the Ranger Creed in its entirety, visit: https://www.goarmy.com/ranger/about-the-rangers/ranger-creed.html#.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Conduct Special Operations Raids with your battalion.\", \"描述\": \"Special Operations Raids are raids conducted by Army Rangers for the purpose of seizing, destroying, or capturing enemy locations or materials. As a Ranger conducting a Special Operations Raid, you’ll generally use the element of surprise to raid enemy territory on behalf of the U.S. military.\\nBecause Special Operations Raids are generally highly classified, the Army doesn’t provide the public with information about how these raids will be conducted beforehand. Therefore, you’ll learn how to be involved in Special Operations Raids when you go through Ranger training.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Assist with Joint Forcible Entry operations.\", \"描述\": \"Joint Forcible Entry operations are the most common type of Army Ranger mission, so it’s likely this will be the type of mission you’ll be involved in the most. These operations generally include airfield seizures, such as those conducted during Operation Urgent Fury and Operation Just Cause.\\nOperation Urgent Fury involved the U.S. invasion of Grenada, while Operation Just Cause refers to the U.S. invasion of Panama.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go on special reconnaissance missions inside enemy territory.\", \"描述\": \"Along with Special Operations Raids and Joint Forcible Entry operations, gathering intelligence in enemy territory is also a hallmark of Army Ranger duties. These missions are often highly classified and involve the level of mental skill and physical demands that you’ll acquire during Ranger training.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Artist Manager
1. Getting Your Foot in the Door 1-1. Build relationships. Many successful artist managers have started their careers through their personal connections. There’s no telling where you’ll come across a lead, so it’s important to cast your net as wide as possible. Keep in touch with old friends and start conversations with strangers. The more people you know, the likelier it is that you will hear about artists looking for management. Let people know you’re interested in becoming an artist manager, and keep your ears open for potential opportunities. 1-2. Enter the local scene. Many artist managers get their start in their business by working with local artists. If you’re interested in working with musicians, for example, try to get a job at a local concert house. Even if you’re not working in a music capacity right away, you’d have an opportunity to meet band members and managers and make contacts in the industry that may lead to amazing opportunities. Even poor-paying entry-level gigs can be an entryway to a career as an artist manager. 1-3. Intern for a management company. While usually unpaid, an internship at a management company can be an invaluable introduction to the field of artist management. While interning, you’d have countless opportunities to learn more about the field and meet experienced managers. An internship could lead to another internship or even a full-time position in the company. 1-4. Study a relevant degree in college. Many universities offer bachelor’s and master’s degrees in music business and other fields that have direct bearing on the type of work artist managers do. In a formal degree program, you’d study the financial, artistic, legal, and ethical issues that artist managers encounter on an everyday basis. Classes and extracurricular activities in such a program would also provide you with many chances to network with current and future professionals in the industry. Entrance requirements and tuition vary program to program, so you’ll want to do plenty of research before settling on a program. 2. Succeeding as an Artist Manager 2-1. Listen to the artist. An artist manager’s main objective is to help the artist achieve their goals, so it is important to know what those goals are. Make sure you’re on the same page. Prioritize their goals, and think of a strategies that further these goals. 2-2. Join a professional association. While artist management is a competitive business, there are many groups and associations that bring managers together to exchange knowledge and learn from one another. These associations give managers a venue to network, share ideas, and learn about trends in the field. These associations are a tremendous resource you should exploit. 2-3. Consume media to keep up with current trends. Follow artists and managers on social media. Read blogs by professionals in the industry. Participate in forums, and read industry-specific magazines. Absorbing up-to-date information is an important part of an artist manager’s job and will help you think of innovative ideas to help your artist(s).
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Even if you’re not working in a music capacity right away, you’d have an opportunity to meet band members and managers and make contacts in the industry that may lead to amazing opportunities.\\nEven poor-paying entry-level gigs can be an entryway to a career as an artist manager.\\n1-3. Intern for a management company.\\nWhile usually unpaid, an internship at a management company can be an invaluable introduction to the field of artist management. While interning, you’d have countless opportunities to learn more about the field and meet experienced managers. An internship could lead to another internship or even a full-time position in the company.\\n1-4. Study a relevant degree in college.\\nMany universities offer bachelor’s and master’s degrees in music business and other fields that have direct bearing on the type of work artist managers do. In a formal degree program, you’d study the financial, artistic, legal, and ethical issues that artist managers encounter on an everyday basis. Classes and extracurricular activities in such a program would also provide you with many chances to network with current and future professionals in the industry.\\nEntrance requirements and tuition vary program to program, so you’ll want to do plenty of research before settling on a program.\\n2. Succeeding as an Artist Manager\\n2-1. Listen to the artist.\\nAn artist manager’s main objective is to help the artist achieve their goals, so it is important to know what those goals are. Make sure you’re on the same page. Prioritize their goals, and think of a strategies that further these goals.\\n2-2. Join a professional association.\\nWhile artist management is a competitive business, there are many groups and associations that bring managers together to exchange knowledge and learn from one another. These associations give managers a venue to network, share ideas, and learn about trends in the field. These associations are a tremendous resource you should exploit.\\n2-3. Consume media to keep up with current trends.\\nFollow artists and managers on social media. Read blogs by professionals in the industry. Participate in forums, and read industry-specific magazines. Absorbing up-to-date information is an important part of an artist manager’s job and will help you think of innovative ideas to help your artist(s).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Artist managers are the link that connect artists to the world, guiding artists from obscurity to fame. From booking gigs to negotiating business deals and organizing tours, an artist manager has a hand in just about every aspect of an artist’s career. The job is hard work, and the path towards becoming a manager can be long and hard, but the career can be incredibly satisfying. The work of an artist manager varies by industry, but for all artist managers, no two days are ever the same.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Your Foot in the Door\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build relationships.\", \"描述\": \"Many successful artist managers have started their careers through their personal connections. There’s no telling where you’ll come across a lead, so it’s important to cast your net as wide as possible. Keep in touch with old friends and start conversations with strangers. The more people you know, the likelier it is that you will hear about artists looking for management. Let people know you’re interested in becoming an artist manager, and keep your ears open for potential opportunities.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Enter the local scene.\", \"描述\": \"Many artist managers get their start in their business by working with local artists. If you’re interested in working with musicians, for example, try to get a job at a local concert house. Even if you’re not working in a music capacity right away, you’d have an opportunity to meet band members and managers and make contacts in the industry that may lead to amazing opportunities.\\nEven poor-paying entry-level gigs can be an entryway to a career as an artist manager.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Intern for a management company.\", \"描述\": \"While usually unpaid, an internship at a management company can be an invaluable introduction to the field of artist management. While interning, you’d have countless opportunities to learn more about the field and meet experienced managers. An internship could lead to another internship or even a full-time position in the company.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Study a relevant degree in college.\", \"描述\": \"Many universities offer bachelor’s and master’s degrees in music business and other fields that have direct bearing on the type of work artist managers do. In a formal degree program, you’d study the financial, artistic, legal, and ethical issues that artist managers encounter on an everyday basis. Classes and extracurricular activities in such a program would also provide you with many chances to network with current and future professionals in the industry.\\nEntrance requirements and tuition vary program to program, so you’ll want to do plenty of research before settling on a program.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Succeeding as an Artist Manager\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to the artist.\", \"描述\": \"An artist manager’s main objective is to help the artist achieve their goals, so it is important to know what those goals are. Make sure you’re on the same page. Prioritize their goals, and think of a strategies that further these goals.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Join a professional association.\", \"描述\": \"While artist management is a competitive business, there are many groups and associations that bring managers together to exchange knowledge and learn from one another. These associations give managers a venue to network, share ideas, and learn about trends in the field. These associations are a tremendous resource you should exploit.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consume media to keep up with current trends.\", \"描述\": \"Follow artists and managers on social media. Read blogs by professionals in the industry. Participate in forums, and read industry-specific magazines. Absorbing up-to-date information is an important part of an artist manager’s job and will help you think of innovative ideas to help your artist(s).\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Assassin in Skyrim
1. Steps 1-1. Raise your Sneak skill. The higher your Sneak skill, the harder you are to detect and the more useful perks you can acquire. Sneaking without being detected raises the skill level, so practice often. Use invisibility spells or potions to help you sneak successfully. For example, the Shadow Stone grants a 60 second spell of invisibility that can be used once a day. You could also use the Thief Stone, southwest of Riverwood, which increases the speed of learning stealth skills by 20%. You can only activate each stone one at a time. Try sneaking around people who are sleeping - you're less likely to be detected! The Sneak skill trainers are Khayla (Adept) who can be found with the travelling Khajiit Caravans, Garvey (Expert) in Markarth and Delvin Mallory (Master) at the Thieves Guild, Riften. When you level up, allocate your Perks to Sneak skills such as Pickpocketing. 1-2. Use light armor. Light armor (Hide, Leather, Elven, Scale, and Glass armor) is less noisy than heavy armor, making sneaking easier. Some of the best armor sets in the game for assassins are given to the Dragonborn at various stages in the Dark Brotherhood and Thieves' Guild quest lines, for example, the Nightingale Armor. Raise your light armor skill, which increases the armor's effectiveness. You can do this by receiving damage while wearing light armor, or by using trainers or skill books. Light armor will be labeled as such when you look at your Items menu. 1-3. Make use of sneak attacks. If you're undetected, these can cause much more damage than regular attacks. Perks in the Sneak tree, for example, Deadly Aim or Assassin's Blade, can raise the damage multiplier even higher. A bow, as a ranged weapon, is perhaps the best choice for a sneak attack. Poison your weapon for even higher damage. If you're using a close-range weapon, such as a dagger, sneak up on the target. Make sure you go undetected (if you're sneaking and you're detected, there will be an open eye icon that says "detected") before you strike. You will get a bonus for not being detected. 1-4. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Always be prepared for open combat with a decent melee weapon (daggers are a great choice, as they can be used for effective stealth kills and close-up combat; swords are also useful, as is destruction magic). Always have extra potions and poisons handy. When you're trying out sneaking as a beginner, this step is important. Shooting someone will definitely make them charge at you with weapons. 1-5. Establish an escape route. If you're about to attempt a kill that will have overwhelming consequences, find the quickest way to get out of the area you kill your target. You cannot fast travel when being pursued by anything, so this is not an escape route option! 1-6. Keep an eye on your surroundings. Guards or witnesses could turn around corners at any second, and certain pathways or hard-to-reach areas may be helpful. Know who and what is around your character, and take advantage of things like high rock outcroppings above your target or access to a rooftop. 1-7. Invest in various perks. The Sneak, Light Armor, Archery, One-Handed, Lockpicking, and optionally some schools of magic should be your main skills. Perks for these skills will be very useful. 1-8. Stay undetected if you don't want to get caught. If you see the eye icon (which indicates whether NPCs are aware of you) open slowly, freeze. When the eye stops opening, quietly sneak into the shadows. 1-9. Join the Dark Brotherhood. The quests will allow you to practice your skills and technique and the rewards are well-suited for an assassin character build. Speak to Aventus Aretino in Windhelm to get started (you'll need to pick the lock to his house). Tips If you are scared of being caught when killing someone in the game, you could save before you carry out your kill. If you are caught red-handed in your act, you can revert back to that save before you commit the crime. Don't do this if you want immersion from the game, as you may find it immersion-breaking. The most useful Shouts for an assassin are Aura Whisper, which reveals nearby lifeforms (including sleeping genre) and effectively lets you see through walls, and Throw Voice, which can mislead enemies and get them to turn their backs to you. The Imperials' Power, Voice of the Emperor, calms all humans in the direction faced. You can use this to make a quick escape if you are low on health and have no chance of survival afterwards.
{ "create_time": "20230517 10:53:36", "回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Raise your Sneak skill.\\nThe higher your Sneak skill, the harder you are to detect and the more useful perks you can acquire. Sneaking without being detected raises the skill level, so practice often.\\nUse invisibility spells or potions to help you sneak successfully. For example, the Shadow Stone grants a 60 second spell of invisibility that can be used once a day.\\nYou could also use the Thief Stone, southwest of Riverwood, which increases the speed of learning stealth skills by 20%. You can only activate each stone one at a time.\\nTry sneaking around people who are sleeping - you're less likely to be detected!\\nThe Sneak skill trainers are Khayla (Adept) who can be found with the travelling Khajiit Caravans, Garvey (Expert) in Markarth and Delvin Mallory (Master) at the Thieves Guild, Riften.\\nWhen you level up, allocate your Perks to Sneak skills such as Pickpocketing.\\n1-2. Use light armor.\\nLight armor (Hide, Leather, Elven, Scale, and Glass armor) is less noisy than heavy armor, making sneaking easier. Some of the best armor sets in the game for assassins are given to the Dragonborn at various stages in the Dark Brotherhood and Thieves' Guild quest lines, for example, the Nightingale Armor.\\nRaise your light armor skill, which increases the armor's effectiveness. You can do this by receiving damage while wearing light armor, or by using trainers or skill books.\\nLight armor will be labeled as such when you look at your Items menu.\\n1-3. Make use of sneak attacks.\\nIf you're undetected, these can cause much more damage than regular attacks. Perks in the Sneak tree, for example, Deadly Aim or Assassin's Blade, can raise the damage multiplier even higher. A bow, as a ranged weapon, is perhaps the best choice for a sneak attack. Poison your weapon for even higher damage.\\nIf you're using a close-range weapon, such as a dagger, sneak up on the target. Make sure you go undetected (if you're sneaking and you're detected, there will be an open eye icon that says \\\"detected\\\") before you strike. You will get a bonus for not being detected.\\n1-4. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.\\nAlways be prepared for open combat with a decent melee weapon (daggers are a great choice, as they can be used for effective stealth kills and close-up combat; swords are also useful, as is destruction magic). Always have extra potions and poisons handy.\\nWhen you're trying out sneaking as a beginner, this step is important. Shooting someone will definitely make them charge at you with weapons.\\n1-5. Establish an escape route.\\nIf you're about to attempt a kill that will have overwhelming consequences, find the quickest way to get out of the area you kill your target.\\nYou cannot fast travel when being pursued by anything, so this is not an escape route option!\\n1-6. Keep an eye on your surroundings.\\nGuards or witnesses could turn around corners at any second, and certain pathways or hard-to-reach areas may be helpful. Know who and what is around your character, and take advantage of things like high rock outcroppings above your target or access to a rooftop.\\n1-7. Invest in various perks.\\nThe Sneak, Light Armor, Archery, One-Handed, Lockpicking, and optionally some schools of magic should be your main skills. Perks for these skills will be very useful.\\n1-8. Stay undetected if you don't want to get caught.\\nIf you see the eye icon (which indicates whether NPCs are aware of you) open slowly, freeze. When the eye stops opening, quietly sneak into the shadows.\\n1-9. Join the Dark Brotherhood.\\nThe quests will allow you to practice your skills and technique and the rewards are well-suited for an assassin character build. Speak to Aventus Aretino in Windhelm to get started (you'll need to pick the lock to his house).\\nTips\\nIf you are scared of being caught when killing someone in the game, you could save before you carry out your kill. If you are caught red-handed in your act, you can revert back to that save before you commit the crime. Don't do this if you want immersion from the game, as you may find it immersion-breaking.\\nThe most useful Shouts for an assassin are Aura Whisper, which reveals nearby lifeforms (including sleeping genre) and effectively lets you see through walls, and Throw Voice, which can mislead enemies and get them to turn their backs to you.\\nThe Imperials' Power, Voice of the Emperor, calms all humans in the direction faced. You can use this to make a quick escape if you are low on health and have no chance of survival afterwards.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"This article provides some advice for playing an assassin character in The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim. An assassin character build can deal lots of damage when used effectively. However, you have to be patient if you want to be an assassin; otherwise, you won't reap the benefits of sneaking, a slow pace of movement allowing you to be undetected.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Raise your Sneak skill.\", \"描述\": \"The higher your Sneak skill, the harder you are to detect and the more useful perks you can acquire. Sneaking without being detected raises the skill level, so practice often.\\nUse invisibility spells or potions to help you sneak successfully. For example, the Shadow Stone grants a 60 second spell of invisibility that can be used once a day.\\nYou could also use the Thief Stone, southwest of Riverwood, which increases the speed of learning stealth skills by 20%. You can only activate each stone one at a time.\\nTry sneaking around people who are sleeping - you're less likely to be detected!\\nThe Sneak skill trainers are Khayla (Adept) who can be found with the travelling Khajiit Caravans, Garvey (Expert) in Markarth and Delvin Mallory (Master) at the Thieves Guild, Riften.\\nWhen you level up, allocate your Perks to Sneak skills such as Pickpocketing.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use light armor.\", \"描述\": \"Light armor (Hide, Leather, Elven, Scale, and Glass armor) is less noisy than heavy armor, making sneaking easier. Some of the best armor sets in the game for assassins are given to the Dragonborn at various stages in the Dark Brotherhood and Thieves' Guild quest lines, for example, the Nightingale Armor.\\nRaise your light armor skill, which increases the armor's effectiveness. You can do this by receiving damage while wearing light armor, or by using trainers or skill books.\\nLight armor will be labeled as such when you look at your Items menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make use of sneak attacks.\", \"描述\": \"If you're undetected, these can cause much more damage than regular attacks. Perks in the Sneak tree, for example, Deadly Aim or Assassin's Blade, can raise the damage multiplier even higher. A bow, as a ranged weapon, is perhaps the best choice for a sneak attack. Poison your weapon for even higher damage.\\nIf you're using a close-range weapon, such as a dagger, sneak up on the target. Make sure you go undetected (if you're sneaking and you're detected, there will be an open eye icon that says \\\"detected\\\") before you strike. You will get a bonus for not being detected.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.\", \"描述\": \"Always be prepared for open combat with a decent melee weapon (daggers are a great choice, as they can be used for effective stealth kills and close-up combat; swords are also useful, as is destruction magic). Always have extra potions and poisons handy.\\nWhen you're trying out sneaking as a beginner, this step is important. Shooting someone will definitely make them charge at you with weapons.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Establish an escape route.\", \"描述\": \"If you're about to attempt a kill that will have overwhelming consequences, find the quickest way to get out of the area you kill your target.\\nYou cannot fast travel when being pursued by anything, so this is not an escape route option!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep an eye on your surroundings.\", \"描述\": \"Guards or witnesses could turn around corners at any second, and certain pathways or hard-to-reach areas may be helpful. Know who and what is around your character, and take advantage of things like high rock outcroppings above your target or access to a rooftop.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Invest in various perks.\", \"描述\": \"The Sneak, Light Armor, Archery, One-Handed, Lockpicking, and optionally some schools of magic should be your main skills. Perks for these skills will be very useful.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Stay undetected if you don't want to get caught.\", \"描述\": \"If you see the eye icon (which indicates whether NPCs are aware of you) open slowly, freeze. When the eye stops opening, quietly sneak into the shadows.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Join the Dark Brotherhood.\", \"描述\": \"The quests will allow you to practice your skills and technique and the rewards are well-suited for an assassin character build. Speak to Aventus Aretino in Windhelm to get started (you'll need to pick the lock to his house).\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you are scared of being caught when killing someone in the game, you could save before you carry out your kill. If you are caught red-handed in your act, you can revert back to that save before you commit the crime. Don't do this if you want immersion from the game, as you may find it immersion-breaking.\\n\", \"The most useful Shouts for an assassin are Aura Whisper, which reveals nearby lifeforms (including sleeping genre) and effectively lets you see through walls, and Throw Voice, which can mislead enemies and get them to turn their backs to you.\\n\", \"The Imperials' Power, Voice of the Emperor, calms all humans in the direction faced. You can use this to make a quick escape if you are low on health and have no chance of survival afterwards.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Assertive Woman
1. Behaving in an Assertive Fashion 1-1. Use assertive body language. Many women inadvertently use language that reads as submissive or shy. Try to be aware of how you carry yourself. A simple change in body language can make you feel and look more assertive. Hold your head high when talking to others. Make sure to maintain an upright position with your shoulders back and your feet equally apart. Hold eye contact with whoever you're talking to. When shaking hands, give a firm handshake. Other examples of submissive body language include sitting with your feet and legs crossed and tucked under your chair, arms pulled in with shoulders lowered, and moving very little. 1-2. Express your opinions without apologies or caveats. When expressing yourself, do so directly. Remind yourself you're entitled to your opinions and, when appropriate, you should share them. Practice being assertive by giving one opinion in every meeting (or class) you attend. This can help you become comfortable with asserting your thoughts. Do not hesitate to express yourself in any situation, and do not ask permission. In a business meeting, for example, don't say, "Can I offer a counterargument?" Instead, just put forth your argument. You should also avoid apologizing for your opinions, or adding caveats. Avoid qualifying statements, like, "I just wanted to say/I just think...", "I'm sorry, but...", and "I'm no expert, but I think..." Simply get straight to the meat of your opinion. Instead, say something like, "I don't agree with that point. I understand where you're coming from, but this is the route I think we should take." However, you don't have to lead like this if that isn't true to your heart. Times are changing, and the archetypal masculine form of leadership is no longer the only way to make yourself heard. 1-3. Make your requests clear. Part of being assertive is being clear with others. If you lack assertiveness, your messages may get muddled in apologies and poorly expressed statements. When you're requesting something from another person, strive to make this request as clear as possible. Do not make half-statements or add apologies to your requests. For example, do not say to a male colleague, "If you're not too busy today, would it be possible for you to make those revisions I asked for?" This can come off as a light request. It also may come off as passive-aggressive. Instead, make the request directly. Say something like, "I need those revisions done by the end of the day." 1-4. Acknowledge the perspective of others. Being assertive does not mean being aggressive. While you should feel free to assert yourself when necessary, make sure to take other people's opinions into account. Assertiveness means being comfortable enough with yourself and your opinions to allow others to disagree. However, there are many important ways to be in the world that aren't a heavy-handed forcing of dominance. Allow people to express contrary beliefs, just as you would expect them to allow you to assert yourself. Disagreement is often necessary to make the best possible decision. Try to show people you hear their requests without sounding like you're giving in or agreeing. For example, "I can understand why you feel that way. I have similar concerns, but I see a different solution here." 1-5. Learn to negotiate. One area in which many women can up their assertiveness is when negotiating salary or raises at work. During the hiring process, it is reported that 51.5 percent of men ask for more money while only 12.5 percent of women ask for more money. Your starting wage or salary determines raises and future salaries, not asserting your wants can cost you down the line. Do your research in terms of how much you should be making in your position. Look online, talk to recruiters, and ask people in your network who are in similar jobs. This concrete knowledge can help you ask for what you want and need. 2. Altering Your Mindset 2-1. Allow yourself to experience anger Many people, women especially, view anger as entirely negative. Your first response to feeling anger may be to try to tell yourself to get over it. Oftentimes, however, anger is necessary and healthy. When you feel anger, let yourself experience it rather than ignoring the emotion. You deserve to feel however you're feeling. Feelings do not have to be 100% rational, and you do not have to act on every sentiment you have. You do need to be able to acknowledge your emotions in a healthy fashion. When you feel angry, be mindful of the fact. Think something like, "I am feeling angry right now because Steve interrupted me in a meeting." Accept that you're feeling angry and allow yourself to experience the emotion until it passes. 2-2. Have a collaborative mindset. You should always be looking for solutions that make everyone happy, including yourself. When dealing with friends, family members, and co-workers, see situations through a collaborative lens. You can assert your needs, while also making sure everyone else's needs are met. This can help you find a healthy level of assertiveness that does not become aggression. For example, you're trying to pick a brunch place with your boyfriend and he's vetoed many of your suggestions. You may find his reasons somewhat petty, but hear his reasoning out. Instead of getting angry, suggest he find some places he may like to go. Then, the two of you can sit down together and select a place that works for you both. As long as you can express yourself in a way that feels true to you and people are hearing you, then you're doing great. 2-3. Step away from feelings of guilt. If you assert yourself, you may feel guilty afterwards. Many people are people pleasers by nature, and making a request may make you feel uneasy; however, remind yourself that your opinions and feelings matter. Try to quell any feelings of guilt you experience. Try to catch and alter negative thoughts. For example, you may find yourself thinking something like, "It was rude of me to tell my friend I can't watch her cat this weekend." Instead, think something like, "I have a very busy schedule right now, so it was wise of me not to take on unnecessary commitments." Remember, asserting yourself is not wrong. It's necessary to self-care and your basic emotional health. 2-4. Ignore other people's negativity. Women may be faced with a lot of negativity, and even name-calling, for being assertive. People may see you as shrill and unlikable if you assert your needs. Ignore these comments and criticisms. Remind yourself you are allowed to assert yourself, even if other people do not like it. If someone is intimidated by female strength, that is their problem. You do not need to deal with other people's insecurities. Do not internalize the negativity of those around you. Remind yourself of all the benefits you gain from being more assertive. If you get a lot of negativity, especially in a work or school environment, report it to someone. You can firmly let the person know you do not appreciate their language. Say something like, "It is not okay for you to talk to me like that, especially in a professional setting." 3. Breaking Out of Non-Assertive Patterns 3-1. Take small steps first. You cannot expect to change your behavioral patterns overnight. The road to becoming assertive is long, so start with small steps. Strive to change one small behavior a day. Pick small stakes decisions first. For example, if you disagree about the restaurant your friends chose for lunch, say so. Gradually, you can work your way up. For example, after a couple of weeks, vocally disagree with a colleague at a business meeting. 3-2. Learn to say "No. Just because you can do something does not mean you have to. Work on saying "No," when someone makes a request or asks for a favor. If you don't want to do something, don't do it. You have the right to prioritize your own health and wellbeing. You don't always need to give a reason. If a friend, say, asks you to give her a ride somewhere, just say something like, "No, I'm not able to do that." If you feel comfortable giving a reason, you can add something like, "I'm really busy today;" however, this is not necessary. If someone asks for a favor, they don't need to know why you said, "No." It may seem intimidating at first, but it will get easier with time. You don't need to feel obligated to take on work you do not have time for. Even if you could reasonably fit something into your schedule, it's important to have some downtime. 3-3. Stop letting others make decisions for you. Do not let another person call the shots. This is particularly common in very close relationships. You may, for example, always let your best friend pick a restaurant or always agree on watching a certain TV show with your partner. Learn to take turns. Have the other person let you make a decision from time to time. Assert yourself in a way that makes the other person feel valued, while at the same time expressing your own needs. For example, say something like, "I really love the bars you always pick for happy hour, but there are a few places I've been wanting to check out." 3-4. Watch how you end declarative statements. If you're nervous asserting yourself, you may end declarative statements by raising your pitch slightly. This can make them sound more like questions than statements. Make sure to be aware of your tone of voice and to make statements rather than asking questions. For example, do not say, "I think this solution would be best for our company?" Avoid the sound of a question mark at the end. Instead, firmly say, "I think this solution would be best for our company."
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Practice being assertive by giving one opinion in every meeting (or class) you attend. This can help you become comfortable with asserting your thoughts.\\nDo not hesitate to express yourself in any situation, and do not ask permission. In a business meeting, for example, don't say, \\\"Can I offer a counterargument?\\\" Instead, just put forth your argument.\\nYou should also avoid apologizing for your opinions, or adding caveats. Avoid qualifying statements, like, \\\"I just wanted to say/I just think...\\\", \\\"I'm sorry, but...\\\", and \\\"I'm no expert, but I think...\\\" Simply get straight to the meat of your opinion.\\nInstead, say something like, \\\"I don't agree with that point. I understand where you're coming from, but this is the route I think we should take.\\\"\\nHowever, you don't have to lead like this if that isn't true to your heart. Times are changing, and the archetypal masculine form of leadership is no longer the only way to make yourself heard.\\n1-3. Make your requests clear.\\nPart of being assertive is being clear with others. If you lack assertiveness, your messages may get muddled in apologies and poorly expressed statements. When you're requesting something from another person, strive to make this request as clear as possible.\\nDo not make half-statements or add apologies to your requests. For example, do not say to a male colleague, \\\"If you're not too busy today, would it be possible for you to make those revisions I asked for?\\\" This can come off as a light request. It also may come off as passive-aggressive. Instead, make the request directly. Say something like, \\\"I need those revisions done by the end of the day.\\\"\\n1-4. Acknowledge the perspective of others.\\nBeing assertive does not mean being aggressive. While you should feel free to assert yourself when necessary, make sure to take other people's opinions into account. Assertiveness means being comfortable enough with yourself and your opinions to allow others to disagree.\\nHowever, there are many important ways to be in the world that aren't a heavy-handed forcing of dominance.\\nAllow people to express contrary beliefs, just as you would expect them to allow you to assert yourself. Disagreement is often necessary to make the best possible decision.\\nTry to show people you hear their requests without sounding like you're giving in or agreeing. For example, \\\"I can understand why you feel that way. I have similar concerns, but I see a different solution here.\\\"\\n1-5. Learn to negotiate.\\nOne area in which many women can up their assertiveness is when negotiating salary or raises at work. During the hiring process, it is reported that 51.5 percent of men ask for more money while only 12.5 percent of women ask for more money. Your starting wage or salary determines raises and future salaries, not asserting your wants can cost you down the line.\\nDo your research in terms of how much you should be making in your position. Look online, talk to recruiters, and ask people in your network who are in similar jobs. This concrete knowledge can help you ask for what you want and need.\\n2. Altering Your Mindset\\n2-1. Allow yourself to experience anger\\nMany people, women especially, view anger as entirely negative. Your first response to feeling anger may be to try to tell yourself to get over it. Oftentimes, however, anger is necessary and healthy. When you feel anger, let yourself experience it rather than ignoring the emotion.\\nYou deserve to feel however you're feeling. Feelings do not have to be 100% rational, and you do not have to act on every sentiment you have. You do need to be able to acknowledge your emotions in a healthy fashion.\\nWhen you feel angry, be mindful of the fact. Think something like, \\\"I am feeling angry right now because Steve interrupted me in a meeting.\\\" Accept that you're feeling angry and allow yourself to experience the emotion until it passes.\\n2-2. Have a collaborative mindset.\\nYou should always be looking for solutions that make everyone happy, including yourself. When dealing with friends, family members, and co-workers, see situations through a collaborative lens. You can assert your needs, while also making sure everyone else's needs are met. This can help you find a healthy level of assertiveness that does not become aggression.\\nFor example, you're trying to pick a brunch place with your boyfriend and he's vetoed many of your suggestions. You may find his reasons somewhat petty, but hear his reasoning out.\\nInstead of getting angry, suggest he find some places he may like to go. Then, the two of you can sit down together and select a place that works for you both.\\nAs long as you can express yourself in a way that feels true to you and people are hearing you, then you're doing great.\\n2-3. Step away from feelings of guilt.\\nIf you assert yourself, you may feel guilty afterwards. Many people are people pleasers by nature, and making a request may make you feel uneasy; however, remind yourself that your opinions and feelings matter. Try to quell any feelings of guilt you experience.\\nTry to catch and alter negative thoughts. For example, you may find yourself thinking something like, \\\"It was rude of me to tell my friend I can't watch her cat this weekend.\\\" Instead, think something like, \\\"I have a very busy schedule right now, so it was wise of me not to take on unnecessary commitments.\\\"\\nRemember, asserting yourself is not wrong. It's necessary to self-care and your basic emotional health.\\n2-4. Ignore other people's negativity.\\nWomen may be faced with a lot of negativity, and even name-calling, for being assertive. People may see you as shrill and unlikable if you assert your needs. Ignore these comments and criticisms. Remind yourself you are allowed to assert yourself, even if other people do not like it.\\nIf someone is intimidated by female strength, that is their problem. You do not need to deal with other people's insecurities.\\nDo not internalize the negativity of those around you. Remind yourself of all the benefits you gain from being more assertive.\\nIf you get a lot of negativity, especially in a work or school environment, report it to someone. You can firmly let the person know you do not appreciate their language. Say something like, \\\"It is not okay for you to talk to me like that, especially in a professional setting.\\\"\\n3. Breaking Out of Non-Assertive Patterns\\n3-1. Take small steps first.\\nYou cannot expect to change your behavioral patterns overnight. The road to becoming assertive is long, so start with small steps. Strive to change one small behavior a day.\\nPick small stakes decisions first. For example, if you disagree about the restaurant your friends chose for lunch, say so.\\nGradually, you can work your way up. For example, after a couple of weeks, vocally disagree with a colleague at a business meeting.\\n3-2. Learn to say \\\"No.\\nJust because you can do something does not mean you have to. Work on saying \\\"No,\\\" when someone makes a request or asks for a favor. If you don't want to do something, don't do it. You have the right to prioritize your own health and wellbeing.\\nYou don't always need to give a reason. If a friend, say, asks you to give her a ride somewhere, just say something like, \\\"No, I'm not able to do that.\\\" If you feel comfortable giving a reason, you can add something like, \\\"I'm really busy today;\\\" however, this is not necessary. If someone asks for a favor, they don't need to know why you said, \\\"No.\\\"\\nIt may seem intimidating at first, but it will get easier with time. You don't need to feel obligated to take on work you do not have time for. Even if you could reasonably fit something into your schedule, it's important to have some downtime.\\n3-3. Stop letting others make decisions for you.\\nDo not let another person call the shots. This is particularly common in very close relationships. You may, for example, always let your best friend pick a restaurant or always agree on watching a certain TV show with your partner. Learn to take turns. Have the other person let you make a decision from time to time.\\nAssert yourself in a way that makes the other person feel valued, while at the same time expressing your own needs.\\nFor example, say something like, \\\"I really love the bars you always pick for happy hour, but there are a few places I've been wanting to check out.\\\"\\n3-4. Watch how you end declarative statements.\\nIf you're nervous asserting yourself, you may end declarative statements by raising your pitch slightly. This can make them sound more like questions than statements. Make sure to be aware of your tone of voice and to make statements rather than asking questions.\\nFor example, do not say, \\\"I think this solution would be best for our company?\\\" Avoid the sound of a question mark at the end. Instead, firmly say, \\\"I think this solution would be best for our company.\\\"\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you feel like other people don't take you seriously, you might need to practice speaking up for yourself more often. Our how-to guide will help you practice being more assertive—without coming across as pushy or aggressive.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Behaving in an Assertive Fashion\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use assertive body language.\", \"描述\": \"Many women inadvertently use language that reads as submissive or shy. Try to be aware of how you carry yourself. A simple change in body language can make you feel and look more assertive.\\nHold your head high when talking to others. Make sure to maintain an upright position with your shoulders back and your feet equally apart.\\nHold eye contact with whoever you're talking to. When shaking hands, give a firm handshake.\\nOther examples of submissive body language include sitting with your feet and legs crossed and tucked under your chair, arms pulled in with shoulders lowered, and moving very little.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Express your opinions without apologies or caveats.\", \"描述\": \"When expressing yourself, do so directly. Remind yourself you're entitled to your opinions and, when appropriate, you should share them. Practice being assertive by giving one opinion in every meeting (or class) you attend. This can help you become comfortable with asserting your thoughts.\\nDo not hesitate to express yourself in any situation, and do not ask permission. In a business meeting, for example, don't say, \\\"Can I offer a counterargument?\\\" Instead, just put forth your argument.\\nYou should also avoid apologizing for your opinions, or adding caveats. Avoid qualifying statements, like, \\\"I just wanted to say/I just think...\\\", \\\"I'm sorry, but...\\\", and \\\"I'm no expert, but I think...\\\" Simply get straight to the meat of your opinion.\\nInstead, say something like, \\\"I don't agree with that point. I understand where you're coming from, but this is the route I think we should take.\\\"\\nHowever, you don't have to lead like this if that isn't true to your heart. Times are changing, and the archetypal masculine form of leadership is no longer the only way to make yourself heard.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make your requests clear.\", \"描述\": \"Part of being assertive is being clear with others. If you lack assertiveness, your messages may get muddled in apologies and poorly expressed statements. When you're requesting something from another person, strive to make this request as clear as possible.\\nDo not make half-statements or add apologies to your requests. For example, do not say to a male colleague, \\\"If you're not too busy today, would it be possible for you to make those revisions I asked for?\\\" This can come off as a light request. It also may come off as passive-aggressive. Instead, make the request directly. Say something like, \\\"I need those revisions done by the end of the day.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Acknowledge the perspective of others.\", \"描述\": \"Being assertive does not mean being aggressive. While you should feel free to assert yourself when necessary, make sure to take other people's opinions into account. Assertiveness means being comfortable enough with yourself and your opinions to allow others to disagree.\\nHowever, there are many important ways to be in the world that aren't a heavy-handed forcing of dominance.\\nAllow people to express contrary beliefs, just as you would expect them to allow you to assert yourself. Disagreement is often necessary to make the best possible decision.\\nTry to show people you hear their requests without sounding like you're giving in or agreeing. For example, \\\"I can understand why you feel that way. I have similar concerns, but I see a different solution here.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn to negotiate.\", \"描述\": \"One area in which many women can up their assertiveness is when negotiating salary or raises at work. During the hiring process, it is reported that 51.5 percent of men ask for more money while only 12.5 percent of women ask for more money. Your starting wage or salary determines raises and future salaries, not asserting your wants can cost you down the line.\\nDo your research in terms of how much you should be making in your position. Look online, talk to recruiters, and ask people in your network who are in similar jobs. This concrete knowledge can help you ask for what you want and need.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Altering Your Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Allow yourself to experience anger\", \"描述\": \"Many people, women especially, view anger as entirely negative. Your first response to feeling anger may be to try to tell yourself to get over it. Oftentimes, however, anger is necessary and healthy. When you feel anger, let yourself experience it rather than ignoring the emotion.\\nYou deserve to feel however you're feeling. Feelings do not have to be 100% rational, and you do not have to act on every sentiment you have. You do need to be able to acknowledge your emotions in a healthy fashion.\\nWhen you feel angry, be mindful of the fact. Think something like, \\\"I am feeling angry right now because Steve interrupted me in a meeting.\\\" Accept that you're feeling angry and allow yourself to experience the emotion until it passes.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have a collaborative mindset.\", \"描述\": \"You should always be looking for solutions that make everyone happy, including yourself. When dealing with friends, family members, and co-workers, see situations through a collaborative lens. You can assert your needs, while also making sure everyone else's needs are met. This can help you find a healthy level of assertiveness that does not become aggression.\\nFor example, you're trying to pick a brunch place with your boyfriend and he's vetoed many of your suggestions. You may find his reasons somewhat petty, but hear his reasoning out.\\nInstead of getting angry, suggest he find some places he may like to go. Then, the two of you can sit down together and select a place that works for you both.\\nAs long as you can express yourself in a way that feels true to you and people are hearing you, then you're doing great.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Step away from feelings of guilt.\", \"描述\": \"If you assert yourself, you may feel guilty afterwards. Many people are people pleasers by nature, and making a request may make you feel uneasy; however, remind yourself that your opinions and feelings matter. Try to quell any feelings of guilt you experience.\\nTry to catch and alter negative thoughts. For example, you may find yourself thinking something like, \\\"It was rude of me to tell my friend I can't watch her cat this weekend.\\\" Instead, think something like, \\\"I have a very busy schedule right now, so it was wise of me not to take on unnecessary commitments.\\\"\\nRemember, asserting yourself is not wrong. It's necessary to self-care and your basic emotional health.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ignore other people's negativity.\", \"描述\": \"Women may be faced with a lot of negativity, and even name-calling, for being assertive. People may see you as shrill and unlikable if you assert your needs. Ignore these comments and criticisms. Remind yourself you are allowed to assert yourself, even if other people do not like it.\\nIf someone is intimidated by female strength, that is their problem. You do not need to deal with other people's insecurities.\\nDo not internalize the negativity of those around you. Remind yourself of all the benefits you gain from being more assertive.\\nIf you get a lot of negativity, especially in a work or school environment, report it to someone. You can firmly let the person know you do not appreciate their language. Say something like, \\\"It is not okay for you to talk to me like that, especially in a professional setting.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Breaking Out of Non-Assertive Patterns\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take small steps first.\", \"描述\": \"You cannot expect to change your behavioral patterns overnight. The road to becoming assertive is long, so start with small steps. Strive to change one small behavior a day.\\nPick small stakes decisions first. For example, if you disagree about the restaurant your friends chose for lunch, say so.\\nGradually, you can work your way up. For example, after a couple of weeks, vocally disagree with a colleague at a business meeting.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn to say \\\"No.\", \"描述\": \"Just because you can do something does not mean you have to. Work on saying \\\"No,\\\" when someone makes a request or asks for a favor. If you don't want to do something, don't do it. You have the right to prioritize your own health and wellbeing.\\nYou don't always need to give a reason. If a friend, say, asks you to give her a ride somewhere, just say something like, \\\"No, I'm not able to do that.\\\" If you feel comfortable giving a reason, you can add something like, \\\"I'm really busy today;\\\" however, this is not necessary. If someone asks for a favor, they don't need to know why you said, \\\"No.\\\"\\nIt may seem intimidating at first, but it will get easier with time. You don't need to feel obligated to take on work you do not have time for. Even if you could reasonably fit something into your schedule, it's important to have some downtime.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stop letting others make decisions for you.\", \"描述\": \"Do not let another person call the shots. This is particularly common in very close relationships. You may, for example, always let your best friend pick a restaurant or always agree on watching a certain TV show with your partner. Learn to take turns. Have the other person let you make a decision from time to time.\\nAssert yourself in a way that makes the other person feel valued, while at the same time expressing your own needs.\\nFor example, say something like, \\\"I really love the bars you always pick for happy hour, but there are a few places I've been wanting to check out.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Watch how you end declarative statements.\", \"描述\": \"If you're nervous asserting yourself, you may end declarative statements by raising your pitch slightly. This can make them sound more like questions than statements. Make sure to be aware of your tone of voice and to make statements rather than asking questions.\\nFor example, do not say, \\\"I think this solution would be best for our company?\\\" Avoid the sound of a question mark at the end. Instead, firmly say, \\\"I think this solution would be best for our company.\\\"\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Asset to Your Company
1. Improving Your Performance 1-1. Exceed expectations. At the company you work for, you will have a specific job role and this is how you make the company money. If you can't do your job well, you will lose customers and you may become a liability, meaning that you lose the company money. To ensure you do your job well, you must learn how to do it to the company's standards. Learn from other employees, get a mentor, enroll in training courses and be eager to learn as much as you can. The results you get at work are ultimately what you will be judged on. This is the most important part. The whole reason the company employs you is to perform in this job role. Do it correctly and do it well. Self-improvement and networking are important, but if your performance slips because of them, you won't be doing yourself any favors. Think about the company's return on investment (ROI) on you. How much money are you making for them in relation to your salary? Doing so will help frame your contributions and help you find ways to increase your measurable value. 1-2. Prioritize tasks. Organize your tasks from most critical to least. When you've determined the most important 20 percent of your tasks, mark them separately from the rest. Spend the majority of your time and effort working on these, leaving the others to be completed quickly when you need to. This will allow you to do your best work on the most important tasks, rather than spreading yourself thin over both critical and non-critical tasks. 1-3. Go the extra mile. Valuable employees don't stop working when the clock strikes five o'clock. If you have work to do on a project, stay later and get what you can done after hours. When you go home, bring your work with you and get it done around family time. Always be ready to respond to after-hours emails as well. This extra effort will get you noticed as a hard worker. Understand that this work is not overtime, which requires additional pay, but simply additional work with no expectation of additional pay. Going the extra mile should also apply to the quality of your work. Some people do a good job and leave it there, whereas others will offer to do extra. For example, some employees will offer to mentor, train new employees and suggest more efficient working procedures. Consider organizing charity and social events that bring company employees together and contribute to the community. Doing so will improve your reputation and the reputation of your company at the same time. 1-4. Become a self-starter. Companies often want their workers to be "self-starters," and for good reason. Employees who see problems and take the initiative to fix them save their bosses time and work by not waiting to be asked to fix that problem. Don't ask for approval before starting additional work or carrying out a customer request; just do it. If you have an idea of something that could add value to the company, approach your manager about it. 1-5. Be responsible. A valuable employee is one that can be counted on to consistently meet and exceed the demands of their position and managers. Provide reliable work and consistently meet your deadlines to gain the reputation of being a responsible employee. Responsibility also extends to your mistakes. When you mess up, own it by admitting the error and taking responsibility, then immediately working to find a solution. Overall, work to gain a reputation as someone your employer can count on. 2. Expanding Your Skills 2-1. Strive for expert status. Go beyond being good at your job; be the best at it. If you want to become truly invaluable to the company, become known as an expert in your field. Learn everything about your role first and strive to become excellent at every task you are required to do. Then, learn how to perform the tasks that your coworkers do that relate to your own. Look for extra details or facts that no one else knows. Keep up with industry news by reading trade publications and relevant news articles. By doing so, you will become the person that everyone comes to for information. You can cement your expert status by attaining industry or occupation-specific certifications, if available. 2-2. Acquire new skills. Having a wider skill set can make you more versatile, which can help you branch out in your current position and remain onboard if the company decides to lay off some workers. Look at gaining skills that your coworkers have, even if you don't need them for your job. These might include technical or vocational skills. To make yourself truly valuable, you could even try learning a second language. Just make sure to learn one that might be useful to your company; there's no point in learning Russian if your company primarily operates in the United States and Mexico. 2-3. Learn from a mentor. Find someone higher up than you in the company and make an effort to connect with them. This mentor can provide you with deeper knowledge of company operations and advice on how to thrive as an employee. Working with this person shows your superiors that you have a desire to learn and grow within the company. It can even get your name out there as an ambitious employee. 2-4. Build a robust network. A strong network is a valuable tool that can be used to strengthen your own value at work or increase your value to a future employer. Work to build up a network with your coworkers and in other departments at work. You should also look outwardly to clients and other members of your industry. Make and maintain strong relationships with these people. It's very valuable to be known as the employee with connections that can be used to solve problems. Work to build up your network both inside your company and outside. Attend work functions, conferences, and industry events to network with professionals in your industry. Then, be sure to regularly keep in touch with your contacts. Provide your contacts with favors without the expectation of having them returned. This is a good way to solidify your position with them and construct a strong network that you can use to further your own career. Another way to increase the strength of your network is to get published in the media or industry journals. This will get your name and your company's name out there, and may lead to greater recognition and increased business opportunities. 2-5. Be an active participant in company projects. Be innovative and bring something new to the company. Come up with new ideas that could possibly be implemented across the business. Just make sure that you get credit for your ideas. Otherwise, you may be helping your boss to succeed without moving up yourself. Focus on working effectively with your team or group, as these skills are crucial to displaying management potential and usefulness to the company. 2-6. Pursue formal education. Depending on your job, you may find it worthwhile to obtain higher education. For example, some positions may require a bachelor's degree or graduate degree, meaning that if you want to move up, you'll have to get the required education. Even if you don't need it for a certain position, a degree can make you a more competitive applicant for any role. In addition, it can educate you on how to increase your own knowledge and productivity. Make sure to weigh the costs of higher education versus the benefits; you don't want to be hurt by debt hanging over your head. Your company may give allowances for or provide continuing education for its employees. Talk to your supervisor and/or human resources for more information. You can also reduce your cost and time commitment for continuing education by studying online with a self-paced course. This will allow you to learn without interrupting your work schedule. 3. Displaying Excellence 3-1. Be punctual. If you start work at 9am, it is better to get into work at 8:45am. This way you have time to make yourself a quick drink and then be ready to start work on time. Time is money and an employee who turns up late on a regular basis may lose the company money. Ideally, you should arrive and begin work early, before other employees. Punctuality is the foundation of building trust. Your goal is to give the impression that you care more about the work you're doing than just fulfilling the basic requirements of the job. 3-2. Follow company policy. You should dress yourself and behave according to your company's policy, both inside and outside of the office. As an employee, you represents company. For example, if you are in an office, a shirt and tie may be required. If you are working on a building site, personal protection equipment may be required. Adhere to the company's standards for conduct in all instances. A company will always state the dress code, although there may be occasions where you are unsure on what to wear. For example, you may be attending a conference and are unsure whether to dress in a suit or go for a more casual look. In these cases, it is always best to look to a more senior member of staff and follow their example. Focus on maintaining your appearance by improving your personal hygiene and making sure that your clothes are always neat and clean. Having a professional appearance will lead to being taken more seriously at work. 3-3. Be aware of social media dangers. Social media is designed for sharing opinions. However, these days it's possible that your employer might see anything you post to a social media account. Accordingly, your posts should never include negative comments about the company, your managers, customers, or other employees. You should also avoid sharing any racist, insensitive, violent, or distasteful comments. A good rule of thumb is to never post anything that your mother would not appreciate. Never post sensitive company information on social media. Any post that is offensive or otherwise against company policy could result in your termination. 3-4. Act professionally. Your personal life should stay behind you when you enter the workplace. Even if things are a mess at home, don't let that show at work, and certainly don't bring it up or complain about it. You want to be known as someone who is positive and works hard, not someone who constantly has difficulties in their personal life. This will draw the wrong kind of attention to you. 3-5. Remain positive. It's important to be friendly with people at work. Your colleagues may need help at times and they may find it difficult to ask you for help if you are aggressive or unpleasant. Being personable helps to promote a good working environment. Strive to be the person that everyone enjoys working with. Never gossip or become involved in office politics, regardless of how you feel about a situation or coworker. 3-6. Stay healthy. To be at your best throughout the workday, you'll have to remember to maintain your own health. Staying active, eating well, and drinking enough water will give you the mental clarity that you need to perform. It will also contribute to your professional appearance and improve your mood. To improve your health, remember to bring healthy lunches and snacks to work and try taking a walk during the day.
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This extra effort will get you noticed as a hard worker.\\nUnderstand that this work is not overtime, which requires additional pay, but simply additional work with no expectation of additional pay.\\nGoing the extra mile should also apply to the quality of your work. Some people do a good job and leave it there, whereas others will offer to do extra.\\nFor example, some employees will offer to mentor, train new employees and suggest more efficient working procedures. Consider organizing charity and social events that bring company employees together and contribute to the community.\\nDoing so will improve your reputation and the reputation of your company at the same time.\\n1-4. Become a self-starter.\\nCompanies often want their workers to be \\\"self-starters,\\\" and for good reason. Employees who see problems and take the initiative to fix them save their bosses time and work by not waiting to be asked to fix that problem. 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This extra effort will get you noticed as a hard worker.\\nUnderstand that this work is not overtime, which requires additional pay, but simply additional work with no expectation of additional pay.\\nGoing the extra mile should also apply to the quality of your work. Some people do a good job and leave it there, whereas others will offer to do extra.\\nFor example, some employees will offer to mentor, train new employees and suggest more efficient working procedures. Consider organizing charity and social events that bring company employees together and contribute to the community.\\nDoing so will improve your reputation and the reputation of your company at the same time.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Become a self-starter.\", \"描述\": \"Companies often want their workers to be \\\"self-starters,\\\" and for good reason. Employees who see problems and take the initiative to fix them save their bosses time and work by not waiting to be asked to fix that problem. Don't ask for approval before starting additional work or carrying out a customer request; just do it. If you have an idea of something that could add value to the company, approach your manager about it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be responsible.\", \"描述\": \"A valuable employee is one that can be counted on to consistently meet and exceed the demands of their position and managers. Provide reliable work and consistently meet your deadlines to gain the reputation of being a responsible employee. Responsibility also extends to your mistakes. When you mess up, own it by admitting the error and taking responsibility, then immediately working to find a solution. Overall, work to gain a reputation as someone your employer can count on.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Expanding Your Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Strive for expert status.\", \"描述\": \"Go beyond being good at your job; be the best at it. If you want to become truly invaluable to the company, become known as an expert in your field. Learn everything about your role first and strive to become excellent at every task you are required to do. Then, learn how to perform the tasks that your coworkers do that relate to your own. Look for extra details or facts that no one else knows. \\nKeep up with industry news by reading trade publications and relevant news articles. By doing so, you will become the person that everyone comes to for information.\\nYou can cement your expert status by attaining industry or occupation-specific certifications, if available.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acquire new skills.\", \"描述\": \"Having a wider skill set can make you more versatile, which can help you branch out in your current position and remain onboard if the company decides to lay off some workers. Look at gaining skills that your coworkers have, even if you don't need them for your job. These might include technical or vocational skills. To make yourself truly valuable, you could even try learning a second language. \\nJust make sure to learn one that might be useful to your company; there's no point in learning Russian if your company primarily operates in the United States and Mexico.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn from a mentor.\", \"描述\": \"Find someone higher up than you in the company and make an effort to connect with them. This mentor can provide you with deeper knowledge of company operations and advice on how to thrive as an employee. Working with this person shows your superiors that you have a desire to learn and grow within the company. It can even get your name out there as an ambitious employee.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Build a robust network.\", \"描述\": \"A strong network is a valuable tool that can be used to strengthen your own value at work or increase your value to a future employer. Work to build up a network with your coworkers and in other departments at work. You should also look outwardly to clients and other members of your industry. Make and maintain strong relationships with these people. It's very valuable to be known as the employee with connections that can be used to solve problems.\\nWork to build up your network both inside your company and outside. Attend work functions, conferences, and industry events to network with professionals in your industry. Then, be sure to regularly keep in touch with your contacts.\\nProvide your contacts with favors without the expectation of having them returned. This is a good way to solidify your position with them and construct a strong network that you can use to further your own career.\\nAnother way to increase the strength of your network is to get published in the media or industry journals. This will get your name and your company's name out there, and may lead to greater recognition and increased business opportunities.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be an active participant in company projects.\", \"描述\": \"Be innovative and bring something new to the company. Come up with new ideas that could possibly be implemented across the business. Just make sure that you get credit for your ideas. Otherwise, you may be helping your boss to succeed without moving up yourself. \\nFocus on working effectively with your team or group, as these skills are crucial to displaying management potential and usefulness to the company.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Pursue formal education.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on your job, you may find it worthwhile to obtain higher education. For example, some positions may require a bachelor's degree or graduate degree, meaning that if you want to move up, you'll have to get the required education. Even if you don't need it for a certain position, a degree can make you a more competitive applicant for any role. In addition, it can educate you on how to increase your own knowledge and productivity. \\nMake sure to weigh the costs of higher education versus the benefits; you don't want to be hurt by debt hanging over your head.\\nYour company may give allowances for or provide continuing education for its employees. Talk to your supervisor and/or human resources for more information.\\nYou can also reduce your cost and time commitment for continuing education by studying online with a self-paced course. This will allow you to learn without interrupting your work schedule.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Displaying Excellence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be punctual.\", \"描述\": \"If you start work at 9am, it is better to get into work at 8:45am. This way you have time to make yourself a quick drink and then be ready to start work on time. Time is money and an employee who turns up late on a regular basis may lose the company money. Ideally, you should arrive and begin work early, before other employees. Punctuality is the foundation of building trust. Your goal is to give the impression that you care more about the work you're doing than just fulfilling the basic requirements of the job.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Follow company policy.\", \"描述\": \"You should dress yourself and behave according to your company's policy, both inside and outside of the office. As an employee, you represents company. For example, if you are in an office, a shirt and tie may be required. If you are working on a building site, personal protection equipment may be required. Adhere to the company's standards for conduct in all instances.\\nA company will always state the dress code, although there may be occasions where you are unsure on what to wear. For example, you may be attending a conference and are unsure whether to dress in a suit or go for a more casual look. In these cases, it is always best to look to a more senior member of staff and follow their example.\\nFocus on maintaining your appearance by improving your personal hygiene and making sure that your clothes are always neat and clean. Having a professional appearance will lead to being taken more seriously at work.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be aware of social media dangers.\", \"描述\": \"Social media is designed for sharing opinions. However, these days it's possible that your employer might see anything you post to a social media account. Accordingly, your posts should never include negative comments about the company, your managers, customers, or other employees. You should also avoid sharing any racist, insensitive, violent, or distasteful comments.\\nA good rule of thumb is to never post anything that your mother would not appreciate.\\nNever post sensitive company information on social media.\\nAny post that is offensive or otherwise against company policy could result in your termination.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Act professionally.\", \"描述\": \"Your personal life should stay behind you when you enter the workplace. Even if things are a mess at home, don't let that show at work, and certainly don't bring it up or complain about it. You want to be known as someone who is positive and works hard, not someone who constantly has difficulties in their personal life. This will draw the wrong kind of attention to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Remain positive.\", \"描述\": \"It's important to be friendly with people at work. Your colleagues may need help at times and they may find it difficult to ask you for help if you are aggressive or unpleasant. Being personable helps to promote a good working environment. Strive to be the person that everyone enjoys working with. Never gossip or become involved in office politics, regardless of how you feel about a situation or coworker.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stay healthy.\", \"描述\": \"To be at your best throughout the workday, you'll have to remember to maintain your own health. Staying active, eating well, and drinking enough water will give you the mental clarity that you need to perform. It will also contribute to your professional appearance and improve your mood. To improve your health, remember to bring healthy lunches and snacks to work and try taking a walk during the day.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Athletic Person
1. Participating in Sports 1-1. Find a sport that interests you. Take steps to become an athletic person by finding a fun sport to play. Depending on your own personal interests and strengths, this decision could vary. If you enjoy especially competitive games with a lot of running, consider soccer or rugby. If you enjoy strength-specific activities, try power lifting or wrestling. Take this quiz to see which sport is best for you: https://www.kentsport.org/get-active/find-your-sport. Research the sport to see if it’s right for you. Sports like basketball may seem fun, but they could be difficult if you’re on the shorter end of the height spectrum. Check here to see which sport is best for your body type: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-28062001. For example, more aggressive people might be interested in hockey or boxing, while less aggressive people might have more fun swimming. 1-2. Go to a local park or gym to practice the sport. Stay regimented in your exercise routine by incorporating a sport into your daily workouts. Check online to see if there are nice gyms or parks nearby where you can practice the sport of your choice. Depending on where you go, you might bump into someone with similar interests and athletic goals! 1-3. Buy some clothes that give you more breathing room while you exercise. Running shorts and yoga pants are great options to consider, as well as moisture-wicking shirts. Also, make sure you have comfortable sneakers or running shoes on whenever you exercise. Tank tops and wind resistant jackets are also great items to consider. 1-4. Join a local team or league. Sign up for a school or community team after you feel more comfortable in a certain sport. Playing on a community level helps you to pursue your athletic goals on a smaller level while also getting a better understanding of the sport in real If you get especially interested or engaged in a certain sport, consider looking into professional training options. 2. Maintaining a Healthy Diet 2-1. Incorporate lots of fruits and veggies into your diet. Take the time to eat plenty of produce each day. It’s recommended that you eat at least 4½ cups (790 g) of fruits and vegetables each day, which can be easily obtained with a proper shopping list. Include a variety of fresh foods in each meal to keep your body in tip-top shape for future athletic activities. At breakfast, consider adding banana slices or berries into your cereal bowl. Have a side salad with your lunch, or make yourself a cup of soup. Try adding cut up vegetables like onions and garlic when you’re making sauces and soups at home. 2-2. Eat a diet rich in protein. Eat lots of protein each day to keep your muscles, bones, and circulation in top condition. Being an athletic person requires you to build strength, and half of that battle comes in eating enough protein-rich foods. If you’re not sure where to start, aim for foods that don’t have a lot of saturated fat, like greek yogurt, fish, beans, chicken, and turkey. Throughout the day, try and make a tenth of your overall calorie count come from protein. 2-3. Take a multivitamin to get a lot of nutrients at once. Purchase some multivitamins if you’re having difficulty consuming enough of the right nutrients per day. Athletic individuals need to have their bodies running in top condition, which means getting enough of the necessary vitamins and minerals, like Vitamin A, C, and E. Try taking additional supplements if your vitamin levels are low in certain areas. Ask a doctor before taking any specific pills. Don’t go over the daily recommended dose of vitamins, as this can do more harm than good. 2-4. Opt for multi-grains instead of processed breads. Get more energy for an athletic lifestyle by making the switch to multi-grains. These grains make it much easier for you to consume a variety of nutrients, such as fiber, minerals, and vitamins. Multi-grains also help keep your GI tract in great condition. If you aren’t a fan of bread, consider eating multi-grains in different forms, like oatmeal. Eating multi-grains is also believed to lower blood pressure and cholesterol. 2-5. Drink plenty of water Stay hydrated throughout the day when adopting an athletic lifestyle. While everyone should be drinking lots of water throughout the day, athletes especially need it to keep their bodies hydrated and ready to go. Men should aim for 15.5 cups (3.7 liters) a day, while women should try for 11.5 cups (2.7 liters) per day. You can also stay hydrated by eating fluid-rich foods, like fruits. 3. Developing an Exercise Schedule 3-1. Focus on an area of your body you’d like to improve. Examine your body and see which parts could use the most care and attention. Being an athletic person involves having a healthy body that can participate in a lot of physical activities, so you have to start somewhere! Pick a part of your body you’d like to improve, be it your stomach, arms, or thighs. If you’d rather focus on all of your body at once, that’s fine, too! There are plenty of exercise methods that can work out your whole body. For instance, swimmers use their core and lower back muscles a lot, so focus on strengthening those muscles. If you’re looking into snowboarding, consider strengthening your lower leg and back muscles. 3-2. Exercise for 30 minutes at least 5 days per week. Decide when you want to exercise each day, and for how long. Being an athletic person won’t come overnight, and will require a lot of time, effort, and dedication. Aim for at least 5 30-minute workouts throughout the week to start getting your body in shape. Mark your exercise plan on a calendar, or invest in a pedometer so you can monitor your fitness throughout the day. Find a workout that is enjoyable. You'll have an easier time sticking with it if you don't dread it. 3-3. Create an exercise schedule for the week. Set a specific schedule for your workouts during the week. Not only will a schedule help you stay motivated, but it will be easier to ensure you exercise all of your major muscle groups. When you make out your schedule, include the type of exercise you want to do each day, such as aerobics, lifting, or leg presses. Make your fitness routine a lot more fun and motivating by inviting friends and family members to join your workouts. Also, there are some fun stretches and workout activities you can do with partners. Don’t make your schedule too rigorous, either— just like Rome wasn’t built in a day, athletic bodies don’t form overnight. Switch up your exercise activities to keep your workouts interesting. Aim to include different types of fitness into your exercise schedule each week, like strength, flexibility, balance, and stamina. Track your progress so you can continue challenging yourself.
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Go to a local park or gym to practice the sport.\\nStay regimented in your exercise routine by incorporating a sport into your daily workouts. Check online to see if there are nice gyms or parks nearby where you can practice the sport of your choice. Depending on where you go, you might bump into someone with similar interests and athletic goals!\\n1-3. Buy some clothes that give you more breathing room while you exercise.\\nRunning shorts and yoga pants are great options to consider, as well as moisture-wicking shirts. Also, make sure you have comfortable sneakers or running shoes on whenever you exercise.\\nTank tops and wind resistant jackets are also great items to consider.\\n1-4. Join a local team or league.\\nSign up for a school or community team after you feel more comfortable in a certain sport. 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Eat a diet rich in protein.\\nEat lots of protein each day to keep your muscles, bones, and circulation in top condition. Being an athletic person requires you to build strength, and half of that battle comes in eating enough protein-rich foods. If you’re not sure where to start, aim for foods that don’t have a lot of saturated fat, like greek yogurt, fish, beans, chicken, and turkey.\\nThroughout the day, try and make a tenth of your overall calorie count come from protein.\\n2-3. Take a multivitamin to get a lot of nutrients at once.\\nPurchase some multivitamins if you’re having difficulty consuming enough of the right nutrients per day. Athletic individuals need to have their bodies running in top condition, which means getting enough of the necessary vitamins and minerals, like Vitamin A, C, and E.\\nTry taking additional supplements if your vitamin levels are low in certain areas. 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By maintaining a healthy diet, developing an exercise schedule, and participating in sports, you’ll be ready to live a fulfilling, athletic life!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Participating in Sports\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find a sport that interests you.\", \"描述\": \"Take steps to become an athletic person by finding a fun sport to play. Depending on your own personal interests and strengths, this decision could vary. If you enjoy especially competitive games with a lot of running, consider soccer or rugby. If you enjoy strength-specific activities, try power lifting or wrestling. Take this quiz to see which sport is best for you: https://www.kentsport.org/get-active/find-your-sport.\\nResearch the sport to see if it’s right for you. Sports like basketball may seem fun, but they could be difficult if you’re on the shorter end of the height spectrum. 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How to Be an Attractive Girl
1. Attractive Appearance 1-1. Have good hygiene Cleanliness matters. Shower and wash your face every day for a bright complexion and clean hair. Brush your Teeth every night before bed for a beautiful smile. Also remember to use deodorant, and consider keeping some in your backpack if you tend to sweat. Apply facial sunscreen (SPF 30 or more) every day after washing your face so you can protect your skin. A facial sunscreen will not clog your pores. Some girls find that sweat and body odor are easier to manage if they shave their armpits. This is not required in order to be attractive, and you can decide what's best for you. Try out light perfume for a finishing touch. 1-2. Consider wearing makeup. Some girls like to wear a little makeup and others prefer the natural look. It's your choice. You may want concealer for acne, blush, lip gloss, and/or some eye makeup for fun. Feel free to experiment and find out what you like. There is no right or wrong with makeup. Try tricks that don't involve makeup, like dripping water on your eyelashes to make them clump together nicely, or brushing your lips with a toothbrush so they look fuller. 1-3. Play with your hair Experiment with different hairdos and accessories. Do you like ponytails, pigtails, braids, hair clips, ribbons, flowers, etc.? Some girls like to straighten or curl their hair, while others keep their natural texture. Figure out what works for you— up or down, fancy or simple. Find something that makes you happy and let your awesome hair shine. 1-4. Be creative and fun with your outfits. If you see something that you love, then wear it, no matter what the fashion magazines say. Wear colors and styles that make you feel happy, and the boost in mood will make you even more attractive. Try asking a family member or friend to help you pick out colors that complement your skin tone when shopping. It may help to learn what your body type is, so you can choose outfits that best show off your figure. 1-5. Remember that modesty doesn't determine beauty. You can look awesome in modest outfits or in more revealing ones. You decide what styles work best for you. Remember that clothes don't have moral value—modest clothes don't make you a "prude," and revealing clothes don't make you naughty or responsible for men's emotions. Dress in the way that makes you most comfortable and don't worry about it. Sometimes girls get harassed (followed, solicited, grabbed, remarked on, threatened) by boys or men. This is not caused by outfits, but by guys who refuse to control themselves and overstep the bounds of human decency. You deserve an environment free of harassment, so if this happens, tell a responsible adult. No matter what your outfit is, other people's awful behavior is not your fault. Harassment is serious and deserves to be treated as such. 1-6. Take good care of your body Get at least 8 hours of beauty sleep each night (9 or 10 is even better), fill at least 1/3 of your plate with fruits and veggies, and stay active. Try joining sports teams, going on a walk with your sister each evening, or going to the beach with friends. A healthy girl is a beautiful girl. 1-7. Keep a straight posture and look people in the eye. Posture matters not just because you look great, but because it'll help avoid backaches and other issues. When you walk, hold your head high, walk with a purpose, and let the world see that you're awesome. Practice a confident walk at home, and you'll start to really feel it, even if you don't consider yourself a confident person. If you're disabled, that's okay. If you can't make eye contact, try looking at their nose, mouth, necklace, eyebrows... whatever is comfortable to you. If you use a wheelchair or walk differently (crutches, toe-walking, etc.), just use the best posture you can and practice your confident grin. Disabled girls are also capable of looking awesome. 2. Attractive Attitude 2-1. Learn to be confident. Confidence will attract others and make people value what you have to say. Practice walking confidently and "power posing" at home. Make a list of your strongest traits. Surround yourself with pictures of awesome women like you. Throw out the beauty magazines. These feed insecurity, and you don't need that in your life. Recognize that your opinions and feelings are just as important as anyone else's. It's good to be nice, but it's not good to constantly defer to others and never express your wants. 2-2. Cultivate an attitude of cheer and appreciation. The feeling of gratitude plays a large role in happiness, so keep a journal of the things you're grateful for. Every night, write down 2 things you are thankful for today (e.g. "I'm thankful for my sister helping me with my homework" or "I'm thankful for the sunny weather"). Practice thanking people when they do nice things for you or your community. 2-3. Build strong relationships Hang out with your friends, be there for them when they need you, and practice good listening skills. Staying well-connected will improve your mental health, making you all the more confident and beautiful. Consider your friends, family members, and mentors. If you want to make friends, try joining clubs or volunteer opportunities where you can meet people like you. Or, reach out to a classmate or acquaintance. Don't be afraid to reach out when you need something! Remember, people like to be helpful, and being vulnerable allows them to show their true colors and be a great friend to you too. 2-4. Try volunteer work. Volunteering is a great way to give to the community and let your kindness shine. Try joining to help a cause you believe in, like feminism, antipoverty groups, disability rights, environmentalism, et cetera. This will help you feel like a productive citizen, and you can meet other nice people like yourself! 2-5. Work hard in school Intelligence and hard work are very attractive traits. Whether you're nerdy or not, education is an important aspect of your future, and potential significant others will be attracted to a girl who has the knowledge to provide for herself. Remember that girls can be great at STEM subject areas. There are many incredible women scientists, mathematicians, etc. who are left out of the history books. (Search the internet for "women in _____" and see for yourself!) There are tons of jobs in these fields, so you would be super attractive to employers. It's okay if you're low on natural ability. Hard work is more important than inborn intelligence in the long run. Do your best, try hard, and you'll be great! 2-6. Realize it's okay to be a little different. Everyone stands out in some little way—whether it's the size of their nose or their obvious disability accent. People tend not to care as much as you might think. (They may be too busy with their own troubles!) Don't let mean people make you feel ugly. Your big nose is elegant, your skin color is majestic, your curves are endearing, your body is powerful, your laugh is infectious, and you are worth getting to know. 2-7. Don't worry too much about what others think of you. Attractiveness is subjective, and nobody has the same definition. Focus most on your own health and happiness, let beauty come naturally, and don't worry if you happen to bump into naysayers along the way. Be the best you can be, and let the rest fall into place. Warnings Be careful when applying perfume, because too much could be unpleasant for people around you (especially autistic people and people with asthma). When in doubt, less is more.
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Wear colors and styles that make you feel happy, and the boost in mood will make you even more attractive. \\nTry asking a family member or friend to help you pick out colors that complement your skin tone when shopping.\\nIt may help to learn what your body type is, so you can choose outfits that best show off your figure.\\n1-5. Remember that modesty doesn't determine beauty.\\nYou can look awesome in modest outfits or in more revealing ones. You decide what styles work best for you. Remember that clothes don't have moral value—modest clothes don't make you a \\\"prude,\\\" and revealing clothes don't make you naughty or responsible for men's emotions. Dress in the way that makes you most comfortable and don't worry about it. \\nSometimes girls get harassed (followed, solicited, grabbed, remarked on, threatened) by boys or men. This is not caused by outfits, but by guys who refuse to control themselves and overstep the bounds of human decency. You deserve an environment free of harassment, so if this happens, tell a responsible adult. No matter what your outfit is, other people's awful behavior is not your fault. Harassment is serious and deserves to be treated as such.\\n1-6. Take good care of your body\\nGet at least 8 hours of beauty sleep each night (9 or 10 is even better), fill at least 1/3 of your plate with fruits and veggies, and stay active. Try joining sports teams, going on a walk with your sister each evening, or going to the beach with friends. A healthy girl is a beautiful girl.\\n1-7. Keep a straight posture and look people in the eye.\\nPosture matters not just because you look great, but because it'll help avoid backaches and other issues. When you walk, hold your head high, walk with a purpose, and let the world see that you're awesome. Practice a confident walk at home, and you'll start to really feel it, even if you don't consider yourself a confident person. \\nIf you're disabled, that's okay. 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Cultivate an attitude of cheer and appreciation.\\nThe feeling of gratitude plays a large role in happiness, so keep a journal of the things you're grateful for. Every night, write down 2 things you are thankful for today (e.g. \\\"I'm thankful for my sister helping me with my homework\\\" or \\\"I'm thankful for the sunny weather\\\"). Practice thanking people when they do nice things for you or your community.\\n2-3. Build strong relationships\\nHang out with your friends, be there for them when they need you, and practice good listening skills. Staying well-connected will improve your mental health, making you all the more confident and beautiful. Consider your friends, family members, and mentors. \\nIf you want to make friends, try joining clubs or volunteer opportunities where you can meet people like you. Or, reach out to a classmate or acquaintance.\\nDon't be afraid to reach out when you need something! 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1. Creating Your Best Look 1-1. Choose a hairstyle that’s easy to maintain or wear nice headscarves. Your hair frames your face, so styling it makes a big difference in how you look. Simply styling your hair can make a big impact, so it’s best to do it every day. Find a style that works great for your hair texture, time constraints, and preferences. As an alternative, you can create a stylish look with an attractive headscarf. 1-2. Opt for clean, well-fitting clothes that make you feel your best. You don’t need expensive, trendy fashions to look attractive. Just choose items that fit you well, rather than baggy, boxy clothes. Similarly, wear outfits you think look good on you because feeling great will make you look better. To ensure your clothes suit your body type, think about how you can balance the top and bottom of your body, like adding more volume on the top if you're wider on the bottom, or cinching in your waist if you're equally wide on top and bottom. A tailor can help you get the perfect fit, no matter what your body type is. 1-3. Express your personality through your clothing. When you're trying to identify your sense of style, think about your lifestyle, like what you do for work and what you do in your time off. Then, think about what you like and dislike when you see other people wearing it. That can help you figure out what will work for you in your daily life. For instance, you might wear a flower print if you’re feminine or leather if you’re a bit edgier. Wearing red clothing can catch people’s attention, so it makes a great power color for when you want to make a statement! 1-4. Apply makeup if you want to emphasize your features. For instance, eyeshadow and eyeliner can really make your eyes pop, while a bold lipstick can make your smile stand out. If you have blemishes or wrinkles you want to hide, foundation and concealer can help you get the look you want. Natural makeup is typically seen as more attractive. However, create a look that you enjoy because being true to yourself is what’s most important. 1-5. Wear a signature scent that makes you smell good. A pleasant scent is a subtle way to make people perceive you as more attractive. In addition to catching people’s interest, it shows people you take care of yourself. Plus, a good smell usually indicates good hygiene. If you don’t have a favorite fragrance, ask for samples at your local beauty store or counter. Then, try out different scents on your body, since your body chemistry will alter the scent of the perfume. 2. Exuding Confidence 2-1. Stand up straight so you have good posture. Good posture conveys that you’re confident and comfortable in your skin. To stand up straight, elongate your spine and roll your shoulders slightly back. Then, tilt your chin up and look straight forward. If you have bad posture, practice standing up straight in a mirror. Over time, your muscles will learn how to stand tall, and it will become a habit. 2-2. Use open body language, like leaning forward and making eye contact. Smiling also makes you appear confident and open. Additionally, when you’re standing, keep your arms open and down at your sides. This kind of body language invites people in, making you seem more attractive. Don’t feel like you need to smile if you don’t feel like it. However, smiling often will make people view you as more attractive. 2-3. Adopt a positive attitude. Positivity is one of the best ways to appear more attractive. To seem more positive, make a point to look on the bright side, even if you don’t feel optimistic at times. Similarly, encourage people and share the positive events from your life. For example, you might feel worried about how a group presentation will go. Rather than expressing that worry, you might say, “It’s been great working with everyone, and I’m so excited we get to share our product today!” If someone is feeling down, say, “I can tell you’re going through something difficult, but I believe you can make it through. You’ve been through hard times in the past, and they’ve only made you stronger.” When you’re chit-chatting with your friends, tell them stories about recent accomplishments, funny things your pet did, or goals you’re currently pursuing. 2-4. Dive into new experiences to show people you’re interesting. Taking risks and stepping outside your comfort zone will show people you’re an interesting, dynamic person. This makes you appear more attractive. Put yourself in the position to try something different by visiting new places and inviting your friends to do something different. For example, sing karaoke, take a dance class, go bungee jumping, skydive, audition for community theater, or go rock climbing. 2-5. Celebrate what’s unique about you. Spend time getting to know yourself so you can recognize what’s awesome about who you are. To do this, make a list of your talents, accomplishments, favorite things to do, goals, etc. You have a unique set of qualities that makes you special, so share them with the world. Don’t compare yourself to others, as this makes it easy to forget what’s amazing about you. 3. Showing Off Your Personality 3-1. Be friendly and kind when interacting with others. People are more attracted to you if you’re nice to them. Smile or say, “Hi” to people when you pass them. Similarly, memorize a set of questions you can ask someone to spark a conversation with anyone. Additionally, offer help if you notice someone who needs it. Acknowledging people and smiling at them is all it takes to seem friendly. If you’re not sure what kinds of questions to ask, you might use, “Seen any good movies lately?” “Any fun plans for the weekend?” or “How’s your week going so far?” 3-2. Engage in fun activities that you enjoy. When you’re having fun, you appear most attractive. Additionally, having hobbies makes you look like a more engaging, well-rounded person. It helps you be more interesting, which, in turn, makes you more attractive. For example, join a band, go bowling, write poetry, enjoy concerts, or join a recreational sports team. If you’re not sure what you like to do, try out different things until something feels right. As a side bonus, you’ll also boost your confidence when you do what you love! 3-3. Show off your unique or quirky interests. Being different makes you seem more alluring and attractive, so play up what separates you from the crowd. Maybe you have an obsession with pop-culture-inspired desserts or like to upcycle soda cans into jewelry. Whatever it is that you do, show it off! Being unique or quirky doesn’t mean that you’re the only one who does something, so don’t feel pressured to do something no else has ever done. For example, collecting typewriters is something unique, but you aren’t the only person who does it. 3-4. Show genuine interest in other people. People will be attracted to you if you seem to care about them. Ask them questions about themselves, and listen to their stories. When they share something with you, show your appreciation by acknowledging what they’ve shared and giving a kind response. For instance, let’s say someone told you a story about their vacation. You might say, “Wow, that trip sounds so fun. Thanks for sharing your travel recommendations with me.” 3-5. Talk positively about yourself rather than self-critiquing. No matter how exciting you are as a person, you can undo it all by being too critical of yourself. Instead of sharing your flaws, highlight what’s great about you. Similarly, tell stories that present you in your best life. This helps people see you at your best. For instance, don’t tell people you’re having a bad hair day. Instead, focus on something that’s going well. You might say, “I’m so proud of myself because I got to work 5 minutes early today.” Along this same line, accept compliments with grace instead of telling people why they’re wrong. If someone says, “You look great!” Say, “Thank you so much! I was just about to say the same thing about you!” 4. Practicing Self Care 4-1. Maintain good hygiene by showering daily. Keep your body clean by using soap and warm water when you bathe at least once a day. To continue smelling good, use deodorant, antiperspirant, or body powder to combat sweat and odor. Additionally, using lotion daily will keep your skin soft and smooth. If you get very sweaty, you might take more showers or use a body cleansing wipe to maintain your cleanliness. 4-2. Follow a skincare routine Wash your face with a mild cleanser in the morning and evening. Follow up with a face lotion or cream. Additionally, you can address your unique skin concerns with products like an eye cream for wrinkles or under-eye bags, acne cream for blemishes, or lip balm for dry, cracked lips. Never sleep in your makeup, as it’s very bad for your skin. Ideally, it’s best to use a lighter moisturizer during the day and a heavier cream at night. 4-3. Eat a healthy, balanced diet. Fill half of your plate with veggies, a quarter of your plate with lean protein, and a quarter of your plate with starch or grains. Then, snack on fresh fruits and veggies whenever you feel hungry between meals. Additionally, make sure you’re drinking about 8-12 glasses of water daily to stay hydrated. If you tend to overeat at mealtimes, try eating off smaller plates, which can make it appear that you have more food. Don’t try to cut out foods you enjoy, as that will make you miserable. Instead, add in your favorite foods in moderation, and look for healthier ways to make foods that don’t fit into your healthy eating plan. 4-4. Exercise Choose a fun exercise that you will keep doing. For example, you might try walking, jogging, dancing, aerobics, group gym classes, kickboxing, or swimming. Find what works for you! Don’t feel pressured to work out constantly or lose a bunch of weight all at one time. You can be attractive at any weight, so just focus on sustainably improving your health. 4-5. Do regular beauty treatments at home or a spa. Beauty treatments like face masks, massages, bath soaks, and pedicures can make you feel more beautiful. This makes them a great way to help you feel more attractive. If you’re budget conscious, doing your beauty treatments at home is a terrific option. However, it’s also fun to splurge sometimes and go to a spa. You don’t need a lot of money to do beauty treatments at home, so don’t let your budget become an obstacle. 4-6. Relieve stress so you can keep feeling your best. Stress is a normal part of life, but too much of it can be harmful. Not only can it wreak havoc on your skin and appetite, but stress can also affect your mood, making it hard for you to be your most attractive self. Say goodbye to stress by doing these relaxing activities: Talk to a friend. Play with your pet. Soak in a warm bath. Write in your journal. Color in an adult coloring book. Go for a nature walk. Watch a funny movie. Meditate for 10 minutes. Tips Focus on what makes you feel your best, not what you think others want from you. Not only will this make your life happier, but it will also help you have the most confidence. If someone makes you feel less attractive, spend less time with that person. They don’t have your best interests in mind and are likely struggling with their own issues with self-image. Everyone’s opinion about what makes someone attractive is different, so it’s okay if someone disagrees with you.
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Similarly, wear outfits you think look good on you because feeling great will make you look better.\\nTo ensure your clothes suit your body type, think about how you can balance the top and bottom of your body, like adding more volume on the top if you're wider on the bottom, or cinching in your waist if you're equally wide on top and bottom.\\nA tailor can help you get the perfect fit, no matter what your body type is.\\n1-3. Express your personality through your clothing.\\nWhen you're trying to identify your sense of style, think about your lifestyle, like what you do for work and what you do in your time off. Then, think about what you like and dislike when you see other people wearing it. 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Plus, a good smell usually indicates good hygiene.\\nIf you don’t have a favorite fragrance, ask for samples at your local beauty store or counter. Then, try out different scents on your body, since your body chemistry will alter the scent of the perfume.\\n2. Exuding Confidence\\n2-1. Stand up straight so you have good posture.\\nGood posture conveys that you’re confident and comfortable in your skin. To stand up straight, elongate your spine and roll your shoulders slightly back. Then, tilt your chin up and look straight forward.\\nIf you have bad posture, practice standing up straight in a mirror. Over time, your muscles will learn how to stand tall, and it will become a habit.\\n2-2. Use open body language, like leaning forward and making eye contact.\\nSmiling also makes you appear confident and open. Additionally, when you’re standing, keep your arms open and down at your sides. 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You’ve been through hard times in the past, and they’ve only made you stronger.”\\nWhen you’re chit-chatting with your friends, tell them stories about recent accomplishments, funny things your pet did, or goals you’re currently pursuing.\\n2-4. Dive into new experiences to show people you’re interesting.\\nTaking risks and stepping outside your comfort zone will show people you’re an interesting, dynamic person. This makes you appear more attractive. Put yourself in the position to try something different by visiting new places and inviting your friends to do something different.\\nFor example, sing karaoke, take a dance class, go bungee jumping, skydive, audition for community theater, or go rock climbing.\\n2-5. Celebrate what’s unique about you.\\nSpend time getting to know yourself so you can recognize what’s awesome about who you are. To do this, make a list of your talents, accomplishments, favorite things to do, goals, etc. You have a unique set of qualities that makes you special, so share them with the world.\\nDon’t compare yourself to others, as this makes it easy to forget what’s amazing about you.\\n3. Showing Off Your Personality\\n3-1. Be friendly and kind when interacting with others.\\nPeople are more attracted to you if you’re nice to them. Smile or say, “Hi” to people when you pass them. Similarly, memorize a set of questions you can ask someone to spark a conversation with anyone. Additionally, offer help if you notice someone who needs it.\\nAcknowledging people and smiling at them is all it takes to seem friendly.\\nIf you’re not sure what kinds of questions to ask, you might use, “Seen any good movies lately?” “Any fun plans for the weekend?” or “How’s your week going so far?”\\n3-2. Engage in fun activities that you enjoy.\\nWhen you’re having fun, you appear most attractive. Additionally, having hobbies makes you look like a more engaging, well-rounded person. It helps you be more interesting, which, in turn, makes you more attractive.\\nFor example, join a band, go bowling, write poetry, enjoy concerts, or join a recreational sports team.\\nIf you’re not sure what you like to do, try out different things until something feels right.\\nAs a side bonus, you’ll also boost your confidence when you do what you love!\\n3-3. Show off your unique or quirky interests.\\nBeing different makes you seem more alluring and attractive, so play up what separates you from the crowd. Maybe you have an obsession with pop-culture-inspired desserts or like to upcycle soda cans into jewelry. Whatever it is that you do, show it off!\\nBeing unique or quirky doesn’t mean that you’re the only one who does something, so don’t feel pressured to do something no else has ever done. For example, collecting typewriters is something unique, but you aren’t the only person who does it.\\n3-4. Show genuine interest in other people.\\nPeople will be attracted to you if you seem to care about them. Ask them questions about themselves, and listen to their stories. When they share something with you, show your appreciation by acknowledging what they’ve shared and giving a kind response.\\nFor instance, let’s say someone told you a story about their vacation. You might say, “Wow, that trip sounds so fun. Thanks for sharing your travel recommendations with me.”\\n3-5. Talk positively about yourself rather than self-critiquing.\\nNo matter how exciting you are as a person, you can undo it all by being too critical of yourself. Instead of sharing your flaws, highlight what’s great about you. Similarly, tell stories that present you in your best life. This helps people see you at your best.\\nFor instance, don’t tell people you’re having a bad hair day. Instead, focus on something that’s going well. You might say, “I’m so proud of myself because I got to work 5 minutes early today.”\\nAlong this same line, accept compliments with grace instead of telling people why they’re wrong. If someone says, “You look great!” Say, “Thank you so much! I was just about to say the same thing about you!”\\n4. Practicing Self Care\\n4-1. Maintain good hygiene by showering daily.\\nKeep your body clean by using soap and warm water when you bathe at least once a day. To continue smelling good, use deodorant, antiperspirant, or body powder to combat sweat and odor. Additionally, using lotion daily will keep your skin soft and smooth.\\nIf you get very sweaty, you might take more showers or use a body cleansing wipe to maintain your cleanliness.\\n4-2. Follow a skincare routine\\nWash your face with a mild cleanser in the morning and evening. Follow up with a face lotion or cream. 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How to Be an Author
1. Developing Your Writing Skills 1-1. Read everything you can This may not be what you want to hear when you want to hear about the exciting life of being an author, but reading will be the key to your success. Reading everything you can will not only help you develop your writing skills, give you more ideas for how to craft your work, and help you develop the patience you need to write a book of your own, but it will also give you a better sense of what is selling in the market. Set aside a few hours a day to read as many books as you can, and try to read widely in as many genres as you can. If you already have an idea of what genre you want to write in, whether it's science fiction or non-fiction, you should focus on reading books in that genre. However, to become more well read in general, you should read widely when you can. The more you read, the more you'll become attuned to common clichés. You want your book to stand out, so if you find ten books that are too much like it, you may have to find a different angle. When you find a book you really like, ask yourself what it is that makes it so special to you. Is it the ridiculous main character? The beautiful prose? The sense of place? The more you can pinpoint why you like a book, the sharper you'll be when you try to make your own work appeal to a wide audience. 1-2. Start small. If you want to be an author, then you will most likely have to start off by publishing a full length work of non-fiction or a novel. It's very difficult to sell a collection of short stories or essays as your first work. Having said that, it's also difficult to jump right into a novel or a full-length work of non-fiction. So, if fiction is your thing, try your hand at writing some short stories first to help yourself get a feel of the craft. If you're more into non-fiction, try to write a short essay before you jump into an entire work of non-fiction. This is not to say that short stories are somehow inferior to novels. Alice Munro, the winner of the 2013 Nobel Prize in Literature, never published a novel during the entire course of her illustrious career. Still, it is a lot harder to gain a reputation in short stories these days. Challenging yourself with small writing projects. By writing continuously you can learn and improve your creative writing skills. 1-3. Consider receiving a degree in writing. If you want to publish a work of literary fiction or non-fiction, then getting an M.A. or M.F.A. in Fiction or Non-Fiction is the typical route to follow. If you want to write something more commercial, such as a science fiction or romance novel, then this route is less necessary, though it can still be helpful. Getting a degree in creative writing can initiate you into the life of a writer, get you in a community of other like-minded writers who give helpful feedback, and will also give you two or three years to focus on your craft. Many successful writers who publish their books find work as teachers at M.F.A. or undergraduate writing programs. You'll need a degree in creative writing to do this, so if this is your end game, consider getting the degree. Getting a degree in creative writing can also help you get your foot in the door in terms of connections. You'll meet faculty members that may be able to help you publish your work or develop as a writer in other ways. The writing degree it not a direct path to success as a writer. But it can help you improve your craft significantly. 1-4. Get some feedback. If you've chosen to enroll in a writing program, then you'll be spending plenty of time at writing workshops, where you will receive ample feedback from your peers. You will have also worked independently with faculty and received feedback from them individually. But if you have not gone this route, then you should join a writing group in your community, take a writing workshop offered by a local community college or adult school, or even just ask a few trusted friends to take a look at your work. Though feedback should always be taken with a grain of salt, getting feedback will give you a better sense of where you stand. Getting feedback will help you realize if your work is publication ready, or if you have more work to do. You have to make sure that you're asking the right readers -- people who really get your work and know what you're about. 1-5. Start submitting your work to small publications. If you have some short stories or essays that you think are ready to be sent out into the world, then you should try your hand at submitting them to literary journals or journals that publish work in your genre, such as journals that specialize in historical fiction or romance. Check out duotrope.com to get an idea of all of the journals out there. All you have to do is get your manuscript in order and send a brief cover letter to the editor of the journal; after that, you play the waiting game. This will be your first exposure to something common to the writer: lots of rejection. Try not to take it personally and consider it a way of thickening your skin. Some journals charge a $2-3 fee for submitting your work. This is a pain, but it doesn't mean the journals are trying to rob you; they are often run on a shoestring budget. 2. Writing a Book 2-1. Generate an original idea. The first thing you have to do is to come up with an idea that will intrigue and excite people. You may have to start writing before you find your idea -- you may even write three hundred pages before you realize what your book is really about. Still, start with a general premise -- the story of a girl growing up in Ukraine during the Bolshevik revolution, a work of non-fiction about the growing importance of charter schools in America -- and see where you can take it. You may want to complete the whole book before you start thinking about how marketable your idea is. Still, it can help you to research the market on your topic before you begin. You may find that there is a book on your exact topic already out there and that you may have to tweak your idea a bit. 2-2. Choose a genre. Though genre-bending books are getting more and more popular -- such as the novels of Margaret Atwood, which blend literary fiction with science fiction, it can help you to work within a genre that helps you communicate your ideas. Once you know what your genre really is, you should be aware of all of the conventions within that genre, and you can start thinking about ways you want to turn those conventions on their head, or if you want to stick to its rules. Here are some popular genres you should consider: Non-fiction Science fiction Flash fiction Action stories Horror Mystery Romance Adventure Fantasy Political fiction 55 fiction Young Adult Fiction Middle Grade Fiction 2-3. Figure out the basics. This may be something you do as you go along, or you can have some of the basics figured out before you write a word. Here are some of the points you will have to consider as you write your book: Who: The main and/or Supporting character(s), The antagonist. Point of view: Will your book be written in first, second, or third person? Where: The location and time-era of your work, where they will travel over the course of the piece. What: The main idea or plot. Why: What the character will/hopes to accomplish. How: The methods they use to accomplish it. 2-4. Write a rough draft. In her classic book about writing, Bird by Bird, Anne Lamott writes about the importance of the terrible first draft." And that's exactly what you'll have to write: a truly awful, embarrassing, messy piece of writing that will contain the kernels of the final draft that you will write one day. You don't have to show the very first rough draft to anyone, but the important part will be knowing that you will have achieved something. Write without censoring yourself or worry about people will think. This is your time to get your ideas down; you can refine them later. After your first rough draft, keep on going. If you get lucky, you may be able to have something presentable after the first or second draft, or you may have to write five drafts before you think you've really figured it out. This can take a few months, a year, or even years, depending on how much time you have and how long it takes to develop your project. 2-5. Get some feedback once you're ready. Getting feedback too early can stifle your creativity and make you think that you're not taking your work in the right direction. But once you've written enough drafts of your book and are thinking about taking it out into the world, it's important to get some feedback to see where you're headed. Ask trusted friends who are critical and helpful readers, turn it in to a writing workshop, or ask an expert on the topic to take a look at it if you're writing non-fiction. If you've written a novel, you can try submitting some chapters to literary publications to get some feedback. Once you get some feedback you trust, work to address it. You may have to write another draft or two before you get it right. 2-6. Proofread your work. You won't get very far if you have a typo on the first page of your book. Once you feel like your work is really ready, then you should print it out and look for any typos, grammatical mistakes, repetitive phrasing, or any other errors that you want to remove from the book before you move forward with it. You may even try reading your work aloud to see if you catch any funny phrasing or misplaced commas. Proofreading is the final step to getting your novel in shape for publication. Though proofreading can help along the way, too, there's no reason to proofread rough drafts too closely because you may end up changing many of the sentences anyway. 3. Publishing the Book 3-1. Consider the route you want to take. There are three main routes you should take once you feel that you have a book that is ready to go out into the world. Here they are: The traditional route. This involves submitting your book to an agent, and having the agent submit your work to publishing houses. Most people will tell you an agent is necessary for getting your work published through a publishing house. Submit your work directly to the publishing house. You can forgo the agent and go straight to the publishing house (the ones that are willing to look at unsolicited manuscripts, anyway). But without an agent, this is very, very difficult to do. Self-publish. Self-publishing your work will get your book out in the world, but it's unlikely that the book will give you the attention you may be looking for if you want to live the life of a true author. But if your goal is to just get your work out there, then this is a great option. You can self-publish through an online service, a vanity press, or even just completely DIY. 3-2. Prepare your manuscript for submission. Whether you want to submit your book to a publishing house or a literary agent, there are a few basic conventions you should follow. Your manuscript should be double-spaced, in a readable font such as Times New Roman, have an appropriate cover page, and have pages numbered with your last name and the title of the work. You can also look online for more information about how to format your manuscript. If you're submitting directly to a publishing house, each one may have slightly different instructions for how your manuscript should look. 3-3. Submit your work to an agent. Don't just blindly submit to any agent who is open to reading solicited submissions. Use the Poets & Writers guide to agents or check out AgentQuery.com to find agents that are actively accepting new clients, open to and excited about work in your genre, and who are reported to actually respond to submissions. Your best bet is to check out agents who accept simultaneous submissions, so you can send out your book to 5 or so agents at a time instead of waiting six months from a fancy agent who never responds to you. To submit your work to an agent, you'll need to write a query letter, which will be a succinct cover letter that briefly describes the plot of your book, situates your book within the framework of the writer's market, and offers a few words of biographical information. Check each agent's submission guidelines. Some may only want to see the query letter first or may ask to see just the first two chapters. Don't send your manuscript to 20 agents at once. You may find that you get the same feedback over and over, which can help you make your work more exciting to agents. If you get rejected by an agent, you can't approach him again with the same book unless he asks for a revision, so make your chance count. The key word in this game is patience. It may be months before you hear back from an agent, so you will have to learn the art of waiting and avoid checking your email every three seconds if you don't want to go insane. 3-4. Sign with an agent. Woohoo! An agent has written that he or she is in love with your book and wants you to sign with her. Do you sign a contract ASAP? Absolutely not. You talk to the agent, ask a lot of questions, discuss his or her vision of the book, and make sure that he or she is legitimate and committed to selling your work. A legitimate agent never asks for money up front and will only receive a cut of the profit if he or she can sell your book. If you get an offer from an agent, it is perfectly okay to let the other agents who have your manuscript know and to see if they have an offer to give you as well. You'll be surprised to hear how quickly they'll get back to you once they know someone really wants you. Talk to the agent on the phone, or even meet in person, if it's geographically possible. It will help to get a sense of his or her personality, and to know if you two click or not. You and your agent don't have to be best friends, but you do have to be able to share ideas. Your agent should be, well, at least a little aggressive. This is the trait that will help get your book sold. Your agent should also be well-connected and should have impressive records of sales so he or she will know where to send your book. 3-5. Make a deal with a publisher. Once you've signed with the right agent, you will work vigorously, sometimes for a year or two, to revise the novel until the agent thinks it is "saleable." Then you'll prepare a package and the agent will take the book to the editors at different publishing houses, and you will hopefully get an offer from at least one of them. Sit back and wait for this stressful process to be over, and you will hopefully hear about a sale soon! If you get multiple offers, you and your agent will decide which is the best fit. 3-6. Work with the editor at the publishing house. Awesome, you signed with an editor at a publishing house! Get ready to see your book hit the shelves next week...not. Guess what's in store for you? Even more editing. The editor will have a vision for how the book will look, and you will also work on the small copyediting stuff too. This process will take a while too, usually at least a year between the time your book is sold and when it comes out. There will be other details to figure out, such as what your cover will look like, what blurbs you can get on the back of the book, and the people you acknowledge at the beginning or the end of the book. 3-7. See your book out in the world. Once you have worked with the editor and your book is deemed ready, you will see your book out on sale and in the stores. You will have been given a release date, and it's likely that you've been counting down until the day when your book hits the stores and the virtual Amazon shelves. Grab a hold of the physical copy, twirl around, and celebrate yourself! But your work is just beginning. 4. Living the Life of an Author 4-1. Don't quit your day job. Unless you've written a best-seller, it's unlikely that the book sale will get you a mansion and a Ferrari. Maybe you'll get a little spending money, and the ability to take some time off from your "real" job. Still, you should be prepared to keep your day job, or find part-time work, or even find work as a creative writing teacher if you have the degree and your book is successful enough. If you're really all about the life of an author, the most common route is to teach creative writing. But those jobs are hard to come by, and your published book has to really stand out if you do. You can also teach different summer workshops. If you get these gigs, they'll give you some extra spending money and the ability to travel to a great location. 4-2. Maintain an online presence. Being a true author will require you to maintain an online presence these days. Even if you're not tech savvy, you'll have to get the hang of promoting yourself online and developing your author persona online. Make a Facebook fan page for yourself; make your Facebook profile about promoting your book. Get a Twitter account and tweet about events related to your book. Make sure you have a website that is well-maintained and that all of your other online profiles link to it. Start a blog about the writer's life that you update as often as you can. Keep things fresh so people keep on reading. Don't feel guilty about shamelessly promoting yourself. Even if you have a publicist, your job will now be 50% writing, and 50% promoting yourself as a writer. Get used to it. 4-3. Go on the reading circuit. If you have a publicist and a successful book, then you will likely have a reading schedule for your book. You will travel across the state, or even the country, to read from your book, sign your book, and promote your book to your audience. You may read in tiny bookstores or a big Barnes and Noble (for as long as they exist, anyway). This will be a great way to meet more people, make connections, and to get people to actually buy your book. Promote your reading schedule on social media so people know where they can find you. 4-4. Network in the writing community. A writer is not an island. Make sure you go to the reading events of other writers, go to panel discussions or be a part of a panel if you are invited to do so, stay in touch with writers in your area, and generally make yourself known wherever you are. Meet other writers at writer's retreats, writing workshops, or in your institution if you belong to one. Get to know writers in your field and genre. They can help you get ahead. 4-5. Start working on your second book...and then the next one. You've published a book and are going on tour -- awesome. But this doesn't mean you can rest on your laurels, consider yourself done for a while, and toast to your own success for months. In fact, when you sell that first book, you may often tell the editors about the second book you're working on, or you may have to pitch your second book to your agent ASAP if you haven't already. The writer's job is never done, and if you really want to be an author, then you always have to be thinking about the next book. Don't worry if you don't have the idea for a second book all lined up. Just make a goal to write every day and soon enough, an idea will present itself. Tips Don't just give up in the middle of a story. It could turn out really good! If it helps why not draw the characters so you get a better idea of how to describe them? You could do the same for places. If you're stuck on where to start, read a book and see what kind of words professional authors use. Note their punctuation, paragraphs, description.
{ "create_time": "20230517 10:53:37", "回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Developing Your Writing Skills\\n1-1. Read everything you can\\nThis may not be what you want to hear when you want to hear about the exciting life of being an author, but reading will be the key to your success. Reading everything you can will not only help you develop your writing skills, give you more ideas for how to craft your work, and help you develop the patience you need to write a book of your own, but it will also give you a better sense of what is selling in the market. Set aside a few hours a day to read as many books as you can, and try to read widely in as many genres as you can.\\nIf you already have an idea of what genre you want to write in, whether it's science fiction or non-fiction, you should focus on reading books in that genre. However, to become more well read in general, you should read widely when you can.\\nThe more you read, the more you'll become attuned to common clichés. You want your book to stand out, so if you find ten books that are too much like it, you may have to find a different angle.\\nWhen you find a book you really like, ask yourself what it is that makes it so special to you. Is it the ridiculous main character? The beautiful prose? The sense of place? The more you can pinpoint why you like a book, the sharper you'll be when you try to make your own work appeal to a wide audience.\\n1-2. Start small.\\nIf you want to be an author, then you will most likely have to start off by publishing a full length work of non-fiction or a novel. It's very difficult to sell a collection of short stories or essays as your first work. Having said that, it's also difficult to jump right into a novel or a full-length work of non-fiction. So, if fiction is your thing, try your hand at writing some short stories first to help yourself get a feel of the craft. If you're more into non-fiction, try to write a short essay before you jump into an entire work of non-fiction.\\nThis is not to say that short stories are somehow inferior to novels. Alice Munro, the winner of the 2013 Nobel Prize in Literature, never published a novel during the entire course of her illustrious career. Still, it is a lot harder to gain a reputation in short stories these days.\\nChallenging yourself with small writing projects. By writing continuously you can learn and improve your creative writing skills.\\n1-3. Consider receiving a degree in writing.\\nIf you want to publish a work of literary fiction or non-fiction, then getting an M.A. or M.F.A. in Fiction or Non-Fiction is the typical route to follow. If you want to write something more commercial, such as a science fiction or romance novel, then this route is less necessary, though it can still be helpful. Getting a degree in creative writing can initiate you into the life of a writer, get you in a community of other like-minded writers who give helpful feedback, and will also give you two or three years to focus on your craft.\\nMany successful writers who publish their books find work as teachers at M.F.A. or undergraduate writing programs. You'll need a degree in creative writing to do this, so if this is your end game, consider getting the degree.\\nGetting a degree in creative writing can also help you get your foot in the door in terms of connections. You'll meet faculty members that may be able to help you publish your work or develop as a writer in other ways.\\nThe writing degree it not a direct path to success as a writer. But it can help you improve your craft significantly.\\n1-4. Get some feedback.\\nIf you've chosen to enroll in a writing program, then you'll be spending plenty of time at writing workshops, where you will receive ample feedback from your peers. You will have also worked independently with faculty and received feedback from them individually. But if you have not gone this route, then you should join a writing group in your community, take a writing workshop offered by a local community college or adult school, or even just ask a few trusted friends to take a look at your work.\\nThough feedback should always be taken with a grain of salt, getting feedback will give you a better sense of where you stand.\\nGetting feedback will help you realize if your work is publication ready, or if you have more work to do. You have to make sure that you're asking the right readers -- people who really get your work and know what you're about.\\n1-5. Start submitting your work to small publications.\\nIf you have some short stories or essays that you think are ready to be sent out into the world, then you should try your hand at submitting them to literary journals or journals that publish work in your genre, such as journals that specialize in historical fiction or romance. Check out duotrope.com to get an idea of all of the journals out there. All you have to do is get your manuscript in order and send a brief cover letter to the editor of the journal; after that, you play the waiting game.\\nThis will be your first exposure to something common to the writer: lots of rejection. Try not to take it personally and consider it a way of thickening your skin.\\nSome journals charge a $2-3 fee for submitting your work. This is a pain, but it doesn't mean the journals are trying to rob you; they are often run on a shoestring budget.\\n2. Writing a Book\\n2-1. Generate an original idea.\\nThe first thing you have to do is to come up with an idea that will intrigue and excite people. You may have to start writing before you find your idea -- you may even write three hundred pages before you realize what your book is really about. Still, start with a general premise -- the story of a girl growing up in Ukraine during the Bolshevik revolution, a work of non-fiction about the growing importance of charter schools in America -- and see where you can take it.\\nYou may want to complete the whole book before you start thinking about how marketable your idea is. Still, it can help you to research the market on your topic before you begin. You may find that there is a book on your exact topic already out there and that you may have to tweak your idea a bit.\\n2-2. Choose a genre.\\nThough genre-bending books are getting more and more popular -- such as the novels of Margaret Atwood, which blend literary fiction with science fiction, it can help you to work within a genre that helps you communicate your ideas. Once you know what your genre really is, you should be aware of all of the conventions within that genre, and you can start thinking about ways you want to turn those conventions on their head, or if you want to stick to its rules. Here are some popular genres you should consider:\\nNon-fiction\\nScience fiction\\n Flash fiction\\n Action stories\\nHorror\\nMystery\\nRomance\\nAdventure\\n Fantasy\\nPolitical fiction\\n55 fiction\\nYoung Adult Fiction\\nMiddle Grade Fiction\\n2-3. Figure out the basics.\\nThis may be something you do as you go along, or you can have some of the basics figured out before you write a word. Here are some of the points you will have to consider as you write your book:\\nWho: The main and/or Supporting character(s), The antagonist.\\nPoint of view: Will your book be written in first, second, or third person?\\nWhere: The location and time-era of your work, where they will travel over the course of the piece.\\nWhat: The main idea or plot.\\nWhy: What the character will/hopes to accomplish.\\nHow: The methods they use to accomplish it.\\n2-4. Write a rough draft.\\nIn her classic book about writing, Bird by Bird, Anne Lamott writes about the importance of the terrible first draft.\\\" And that's exactly what you'll have to write: a truly awful, embarrassing, messy piece of writing that will contain the kernels of the final draft that you will write one day. You don't have to show the very first rough draft to anyone, but the important part will be knowing that you will have achieved something. Write without censoring yourself or worry about people will think. This is your time to get your ideas down; you can refine them later.\\nAfter your first rough draft, keep on going. If you get lucky, you may be able to have something presentable after the first or second draft, or you may have to write five drafts before you think you've really figured it out. This can take a few months, a year, or even years, depending on how much time you have and how long it takes to develop your project.\\n2-5. Get some feedback once you're ready.\\nGetting feedback too early can stifle your creativity and make you think that you're not taking your work in the right direction. But once you've written enough drafts of your book and are thinking about taking it out into the world, it's important to get some feedback to see where you're headed. Ask trusted friends who are critical and helpful readers, turn it in to a writing workshop, or ask an expert on the topic to take a look at it if you're writing non-fiction.\\nIf you've written a novel, you can try submitting some chapters to literary publications to get some feedback.\\nOnce you get some feedback you trust, work to address it. You may have to write another draft or two before you get it right.\\n2-6. Proofread your work.\\nYou won't get very far if you have a typo on the first page of your book. Once you feel like your work is really ready, then you should print it out and look for any typos, grammatical mistakes, repetitive phrasing, or any other errors that you want to remove from the book before you move forward with it. You may even try reading your work aloud to see if you catch any funny phrasing or misplaced commas.\\nProofreading is the final step to getting your novel in shape for publication. Though proofreading can help along the way, too, there's no reason to proofread rough drafts too closely because you may end up changing many of the sentences anyway.\\n3. Publishing the Book\\n3-1. Consider the route you want to take.\\nThere are three main routes you should take once you feel that you have a book that is ready to go out into the world. Here they are:\\nThe traditional route. This involves submitting your book to an agent, and having the agent submit your work to publishing houses. Most people will tell you an agent is necessary for getting your work published through a publishing house.\\nSubmit your work directly to the publishing house. You can forgo the agent and go straight to the publishing house (the ones that are willing to look at unsolicited manuscripts, anyway). But without an agent, this is very, very difficult to do.\\nSelf-publish. Self-publishing your work will get your book out in the world, but it's unlikely that the book will give you the attention you may be looking for if you want to live the life of a true author. But if your goal is to just get your work out there, then this is a great option. You can self-publish through an online service, a vanity press, or even just completely DIY.\\n3-2. Prepare your manuscript for submission.\\nWhether you want to submit your book to a publishing house or a literary agent, there are a few basic conventions you should follow. Your manuscript should be double-spaced, in a readable font such as Times New Roman, have an appropriate cover page, and have pages numbered with your last name and the title of the work.\\nYou can also look online for more information about how to format your manuscript. If you're submitting directly to a publishing house, each one may have slightly different instructions for how your manuscript should look.\\n3-3. Submit your work to an agent.\\nDon't just blindly submit to any agent who is open to reading solicited submissions. Use the Poets & Writers guide to agents or check out AgentQuery.com to find agents that are actively accepting new clients, open to and excited about work in your genre, and who are reported to actually respond to submissions. Your best bet is to check out agents who accept simultaneous submissions, so you can send out your book to 5 or so agents at a time instead of waiting six months from a fancy agent who never responds to you.\\nTo submit your work to an agent, you'll need to write a query letter, which will be a succinct cover letter that briefly describes the plot of your book, situates your book within the framework of the writer's market, and offers a few words of biographical information.\\nCheck each agent's submission guidelines. Some may only want to see the query letter first or may ask to see just the first two chapters.\\nDon't send your manuscript to 20 agents at once. You may find that you get the same feedback over and over, which can help you make your work more exciting to agents. If you get rejected by an agent, you can't approach him again with the same book unless he asks for a revision, so make your chance count.\\nThe key word in this game is patience. It may be months before you hear back from an agent, so you will have to learn the art of waiting and avoid checking your email every three seconds if you don't want to go insane.\\n3-4. Sign with an agent.\\nWoohoo! An agent has written that he or she is in love with your book and wants you to sign with her. Do you sign a contract ASAP? Absolutely not. You talk to the agent, ask a lot of questions, discuss his or her vision of the book, and make sure that he or she is legitimate and committed to selling your work. A legitimate agent never asks for money up front and will only receive a cut of the profit if he or she can sell your book.\\nIf you get an offer from an agent, it is perfectly okay to let the other agents who have your manuscript know and to see if they have an offer to give you as well. You'll be surprised to hear how quickly they'll get back to you once they know someone really wants you.\\nTalk to the agent on the phone, or even meet in person, if it's geographically possible. It will help to get a sense of his or her personality, and to know if you two click or not.\\nYou and your agent don't have to be best friends, but you do have to be able to share ideas.\\nYour agent should be, well, at least a little aggressive. This is the trait that will help get your book sold.\\nYour agent should also be well-connected and should have impressive records of sales so he or she will know where to send your book.\\n3-5. Make a deal with a publisher.\\nOnce you've signed with the right agent, you will work vigorously, sometimes for a year or two, to revise the novel until the agent thinks it is \\\"saleable.\\\" Then you'll prepare a package and the agent will take the book to the editors at different publishing houses, and you will hopefully get an offer from at least one of them. Sit back and wait for this stressful process to be over, and you will hopefully hear about a sale soon!\\nIf you get multiple offers, you and your agent will decide which is the best fit.\\n3-6. Work with the editor at the publishing house.\\nAwesome, you signed with an editor at a publishing house! Get ready to see your book hit the shelves next week...not. Guess what's in store for you? Even more editing. The editor will have a vision for how the book will look, and you will also work on the small copyediting stuff too. This process will take a while too, usually at least a year between the time your book is sold and when it comes out.\\nThere will be other details to figure out, such as what your cover will look like, what blurbs you can get on the back of the book, and the people you acknowledge at the beginning or the end of the book.\\n3-7. See your book out in the world.\\nOnce you have worked with the editor and your book is deemed ready, you will see your book out on sale and in the stores. You will have been given a release date, and it's likely that you've been counting down until the day when your book hits the stores and the virtual Amazon shelves. Grab a hold of the physical copy, twirl around, and celebrate yourself! But your work is just beginning.\\n4. Living the Life of an Author\\n4-1. Don't quit your day job.\\nUnless you've written a best-seller, it's unlikely that the book sale will get you a mansion and a Ferrari. Maybe you'll get a little spending money, and the ability to take some time off from your \\\"real\\\" job. Still, you should be prepared to keep your day job, or find part-time work, or even find work as a creative writing teacher if you have the degree and your book is successful enough.\\nIf you're really all about the life of an author, the most common route is to teach creative writing. But those jobs are hard to come by, and your published book has to really stand out if you do.\\nYou can also teach different summer workshops. If you get these gigs, they'll give you some extra spending money and the ability to travel to a great location.\\n4-2. Maintain an online presence.\\nBeing a true author will require you to maintain an online presence these days. Even if you're not tech savvy, you'll have to get the hang of promoting yourself online and developing your author persona online. Make a Facebook fan page for yourself; make your Facebook profile about promoting your book. Get a Twitter account and tweet about events related to your book. Make sure you have a website that is well-maintained and that all of your other online profiles link to it.\\nStart a blog about the writer's life that you update as often as you can. Keep things fresh so people keep on reading.\\nDon't feel guilty about shamelessly promoting yourself. Even if you have a publicist, your job will now be 50% writing, and 50% promoting yourself as a writer. Get used to it.\\n4-3. Go on the reading circuit.\\nIf you have a publicist and a successful book, then you will likely have a reading schedule for your book. You will travel across the state, or even the country, to read from your book, sign your book, and promote your book to your audience. You may read in tiny bookstores or a big Barnes and Noble (for as long as they exist, anyway). This will be a great way to meet more people, make connections, and to get people to actually buy your book.\\nPromote your reading schedule on social media so people know where they can find you.\\n4-4. Network in the writing community.\\nA writer is not an island. Make sure you go to the reading events of other writers, go to panel discussions or be a part of a panel if you are invited to do so, stay in touch with writers in your area, and generally make yourself known wherever you are. Meet other writers at writer's retreats, writing workshops, or in your institution if you belong to one.\\nGet to know writers in your field and genre. They can help you get ahead.\\n4-5. Start working on your second book...and then the next one.\\nYou've published a book and are going on tour -- awesome. But this doesn't mean you can rest on your laurels, consider yourself done for a while, and toast to your own success for months. In fact, when you sell that first book, you may often tell the editors about the second book you're working on, or you may have to pitch your second book to your agent ASAP if you haven't already. The writer's job is never done, and if you really want to be an author, then you always have to be thinking about the next book.\\nDon't worry if you don't have the idea for a second book all lined up. Just make a goal to write every day and soon enough, an idea will present itself.\\nTips\\nDon't just give up in the middle of a story. It could turn out really good!\\nIf it helps why not draw the characters so you get a better idea of how to describe them? You could do the same for places.\\nIf you're stuck on where to start, read a book and see what kind of words professional authors use. Note their punctuation, paragraphs, description.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you really want to be an author, then you have to be prepared to spend many hours a day trying to generate original and exciting ideas. You may have to wake up before the crack of dawn before you start your \\\"real\\\" job. You may have to scribble your ideas on the train ride home. Some of these hours will be frustrating, but others will be more rewarding than you can imagine. And the feeling of writing a book and sending it out into the world can be one of the best in the world. Do you think you have what it takes to really be an author? Follow these steps to find out.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Writing Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read everything you can\", \"描述\": \"This may not be what you want to hear when you want to hear about the exciting life of being an author, but reading will be the key to your success. Reading everything you can will not only help you develop your writing skills, give you more ideas for how to craft your work, and help you develop the patience you need to write a book of your own, but it will also give you a better sense of what is selling in the market. Set aside a few hours a day to read as many books as you can, and try to read widely in as many genres as you can.\\nIf you already have an idea of what genre you want to write in, whether it's science fiction or non-fiction, you should focus on reading books in that genre. However, to become more well read in general, you should read widely when you can.\\nThe more you read, the more you'll become attuned to common clichés. You want your book to stand out, so if you find ten books that are too much like it, you may have to find a different angle.\\nWhen you find a book you really like, ask yourself what it is that makes it so special to you. Is it the ridiculous main character? The beautiful prose? The sense of place? The more you can pinpoint why you like a book, the sharper you'll be when you try to make your own work appeal to a wide audience.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start small.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be an author, then you will most likely have to start off by publishing a full length work of non-fiction or a novel. It's very difficult to sell a collection of short stories or essays as your first work. Having said that, it's also difficult to jump right into a novel or a full-length work of non-fiction. So, if fiction is your thing, try your hand at writing some short stories first to help yourself get a feel of the craft. If you're more into non-fiction, try to write a short essay before you jump into an entire work of non-fiction.\\nThis is not to say that short stories are somehow inferior to novels. Alice Munro, the winner of the 2013 Nobel Prize in Literature, never published a novel during the entire course of her illustrious career. Still, it is a lot harder to gain a reputation in short stories these days.\\nChallenging yourself with small writing projects. By writing continuously you can learn and improve your creative writing skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider receiving a degree in writing.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to publish a work of literary fiction or non-fiction, then getting an M.A. or M.F.A. in Fiction or Non-Fiction is the typical route to follow. If you want to write something more commercial, such as a science fiction or romance novel, then this route is less necessary, though it can still be helpful. Getting a degree in creative writing can initiate you into the life of a writer, get you in a community of other like-minded writers who give helpful feedback, and will also give you two or three years to focus on your craft.\\nMany successful writers who publish their books find work as teachers at M.F.A. or undergraduate writing programs. You'll need a degree in creative writing to do this, so if this is your end game, consider getting the degree.\\nGetting a degree in creative writing can also help you get your foot in the door in terms of connections. You'll meet faculty members that may be able to help you publish your work or develop as a writer in other ways.\\nThe writing degree it not a direct path to success as a writer. But it can help you improve your craft significantly.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get some feedback.\", \"描述\": \"If you've chosen to enroll in a writing program, then you'll be spending plenty of time at writing workshops, where you will receive ample feedback from your peers. You will have also worked independently with faculty and received feedback from them individually. But if you have not gone this route, then you should join a writing group in your community, take a writing workshop offered by a local community college or adult school, or even just ask a few trusted friends to take a look at your work.\\nThough feedback should always be taken with a grain of salt, getting feedback will give you a better sense of where you stand.\\nGetting feedback will help you realize if your work is publication ready, or if you have more work to do. You have to make sure that you're asking the right readers -- people who really get your work and know what you're about.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start submitting your work to small publications.\", \"描述\": \"If you have some short stories or essays that you think are ready to be sent out into the world, then you should try your hand at submitting them to literary journals or journals that publish work in your genre, such as journals that specialize in historical fiction or romance. Check out duotrope.com to get an idea of all of the journals out there. All you have to do is get your manuscript in order and send a brief cover letter to the editor of the journal; after that, you play the waiting game.\\nThis will be your first exposure to something common to the writer: lots of rejection. Try not to take it personally and consider it a way of thickening your skin.\\nSome journals charge a $2-3 fee for submitting your work. This is a pain, but it doesn't mean the journals are trying to rob you; they are often run on a shoestring budget.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Writing a Book\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Generate an original idea.\", \"描述\": \"The first thing you have to do is to come up with an idea that will intrigue and excite people. You may have to start writing before you find your idea -- you may even write three hundred pages before you realize what your book is really about. Still, start with a general premise -- the story of a girl growing up in Ukraine during the Bolshevik revolution, a work of non-fiction about the growing importance of charter schools in America -- and see where you can take it.\\nYou may want to complete the whole book before you start thinking about how marketable your idea is. Still, it can help you to research the market on your topic before you begin. You may find that there is a book on your exact topic already out there and that you may have to tweak your idea a bit.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose a genre.\", \"描述\": \"Though genre-bending books are getting more and more popular -- such as the novels of Margaret Atwood, which blend literary fiction with science fiction, it can help you to work within a genre that helps you communicate your ideas. Once you know what your genre really is, you should be aware of all of the conventions within that genre, and you can start thinking about ways you want to turn those conventions on their head, or if you want to stick to its rules. Here are some popular genres you should consider:\\nNon-fiction\\nScience fiction\\n Flash fiction\\n Action stories\\nHorror\\nMystery\\nRomance\\nAdventure\\n Fantasy\\nPolitical fiction\\n55 fiction\\nYoung Adult Fiction\\nMiddle Grade Fiction\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Figure out the basics.\", \"描述\": \"This may be something you do as you go along, or you can have some of the basics figured out before you write a word. Here are some of the points you will have to consider as you write your book:\\nWho: The main and/or Supporting character(s), The antagonist.\\nPoint of view: Will your book be written in first, second, or third person?\\nWhere: The location and time-era of your work, where they will travel over the course of the piece.\\nWhat: The main idea or plot.\\nWhy: What the character will/hopes to accomplish.\\nHow: The methods they use to accomplish it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Write a rough draft.\", \"描述\": \"In her classic book about writing, Bird by Bird, Anne Lamott writes about the importance of the terrible first draft.\\\" And that's exactly what you'll have to write: a truly awful, embarrassing, messy piece of writing that will contain the kernels of the final draft that you will write one day. You don't have to show the very first rough draft to anyone, but the important part will be knowing that you will have achieved something. Write without censoring yourself or worry about people will think. This is your time to get your ideas down; you can refine them later.\\nAfter your first rough draft, keep on going. If you get lucky, you may be able to have something presentable after the first or second draft, or you may have to write five drafts before you think you've really figured it out. This can take a few months, a year, or even years, depending on how much time you have and how long it takes to develop your project.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get some feedback once you're ready.\", \"描述\": \"Getting feedback too early can stifle your creativity and make you think that you're not taking your work in the right direction. But once you've written enough drafts of your book and are thinking about taking it out into the world, it's important to get some feedback to see where you're headed. Ask trusted friends who are critical and helpful readers, turn it in to a writing workshop, or ask an expert on the topic to take a look at it if you're writing non-fiction.\\nIf you've written a novel, you can try submitting some chapters to literary publications to get some feedback.\\nOnce you get some feedback you trust, work to address it. You may have to write another draft or two before you get it right.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Proofread your work.\", \"描述\": \"You won't get very far if you have a typo on the first page of your book. Once you feel like your work is really ready, then you should print it out and look for any typos, grammatical mistakes, repetitive phrasing, or any other errors that you want to remove from the book before you move forward with it. You may even try reading your work aloud to see if you catch any funny phrasing or misplaced commas.\\nProofreading is the final step to getting your novel in shape for publication. Though proofreading can help along the way, too, there's no reason to proofread rough drafts too closely because you may end up changing many of the sentences anyway.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Publishing the Book\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Consider the route you want to take.\", \"描述\": \"There are three main routes you should take once you feel that you have a book that is ready to go out into the world. Here they are:\\nThe traditional route. This involves submitting your book to an agent, and having the agent submit your work to publishing houses. Most people will tell you an agent is necessary for getting your work published through a publishing house.\\nSubmit your work directly to the publishing house. You can forgo the agent and go straight to the publishing house (the ones that are willing to look at unsolicited manuscripts, anyway). But without an agent, this is very, very difficult to do.\\nSelf-publish. Self-publishing your work will get your book out in the world, but it's unlikely that the book will give you the attention you may be looking for if you want to live the life of a true author. But if your goal is to just get your work out there, then this is a great option. You can self-publish through an online service, a vanity press, or even just completely DIY.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prepare your manuscript for submission.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you want to submit your book to a publishing house or a literary agent, there are a few basic conventions you should follow. Your manuscript should be double-spaced, in a readable font such as Times New Roman, have an appropriate cover page, and have pages numbered with your last name and the title of the work.\\nYou can also look online for more information about how to format your manuscript. If you're submitting directly to a publishing house, each one may have slightly different instructions for how your manuscript should look.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Submit your work to an agent.\", \"描述\": \"Don't just blindly submit to any agent who is open to reading solicited submissions. Use the Poets & Writers guide to agents or check out AgentQuery.com to find agents that are actively accepting new clients, open to and excited about work in your genre, and who are reported to actually respond to submissions. Your best bet is to check out agents who accept simultaneous submissions, so you can send out your book to 5 or so agents at a time instead of waiting six months from a fancy agent who never responds to you.\\nTo submit your work to an agent, you'll need to write a query letter, which will be a succinct cover letter that briefly describes the plot of your book, situates your book within the framework of the writer's market, and offers a few words of biographical information.\\nCheck each agent's submission guidelines. Some may only want to see the query letter first or may ask to see just the first two chapters.\\nDon't send your manuscript to 20 agents at once. You may find that you get the same feedback over and over, which can help you make your work more exciting to agents. If you get rejected by an agent, you can't approach him again with the same book unless he asks for a revision, so make your chance count.\\nThe key word in this game is patience. It may be months before you hear back from an agent, so you will have to learn the art of waiting and avoid checking your email every three seconds if you don't want to go insane.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Sign with an agent.\", \"描述\": \"Woohoo! An agent has written that he or she is in love with your book and wants you to sign with her. Do you sign a contract ASAP? Absolutely not. You talk to the agent, ask a lot of questions, discuss his or her vision of the book, and make sure that he or she is legitimate and committed to selling your work. A legitimate agent never asks for money up front and will only receive a cut of the profit if he or she can sell your book.\\nIf you get an offer from an agent, it is perfectly okay to let the other agents who have your manuscript know and to see if they have an offer to give you as well. You'll be surprised to hear how quickly they'll get back to you once they know someone really wants you.\\nTalk to the agent on the phone, or even meet in person, if it's geographically possible. It will help to get a sense of his or her personality, and to know if you two click or not.\\nYou and your agent don't have to be best friends, but you do have to be able to share ideas.\\nYour agent should be, well, at least a little aggressive. This is the trait that will help get your book sold.\\nYour agent should also be well-connected and should have impressive records of sales so he or she will know where to send your book.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make a deal with a publisher.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've signed with the right agent, you will work vigorously, sometimes for a year or two, to revise the novel until the agent thinks it is \\\"saleable.\\\" Then you'll prepare a package and the agent will take the book to the editors at different publishing houses, and you will hopefully get an offer from at least one of them. Sit back and wait for this stressful process to be over, and you will hopefully hear about a sale soon!\\nIf you get multiple offers, you and your agent will decide which is the best fit.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Work with the editor at the publishing house.\", \"描述\": \"Awesome, you signed with an editor at a publishing house! Get ready to see your book hit the shelves next week...not. Guess what's in store for you? Even more editing. The editor will have a vision for how the book will look, and you will also work on the small copyediting stuff too. This process will take a while too, usually at least a year between the time your book is sold and when it comes out.\\nThere will be other details to figure out, such as what your cover will look like, what blurbs you can get on the back of the book, and the people you acknowledge at the beginning or the end of the book.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"See your book out in the world.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have worked with the editor and your book is deemed ready, you will see your book out on sale and in the stores. You will have been given a release date, and it's likely that you've been counting down until the day when your book hits the stores and the virtual Amazon shelves. Grab a hold of the physical copy, twirl around, and celebrate yourself! But your work is just beginning.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Living the Life of an Author\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't quit your day job.\", \"描述\": \"Unless you've written a best-seller, it's unlikely that the book sale will get you a mansion and a Ferrari. Maybe you'll get a little spending money, and the ability to take some time off from your \\\"real\\\" job. Still, you should be prepared to keep your day job, or find part-time work, or even find work as a creative writing teacher if you have the degree and your book is successful enough.\\nIf you're really all about the life of an author, the most common route is to teach creative writing. But those jobs are hard to come by, and your published book has to really stand out if you do.\\nYou can also teach different summer workshops. If you get these gigs, they'll give you some extra spending money and the ability to travel to a great location.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain an online presence.\", \"描述\": \"Being a true author will require you to maintain an online presence these days. Even if you're not tech savvy, you'll have to get the hang of promoting yourself online and developing your author persona online. Make a Facebook fan page for yourself; make your Facebook profile about promoting your book. Get a Twitter account and tweet about events related to your book. Make sure you have a website that is well-maintained and that all of your other online profiles link to it.\\nStart a blog about the writer's life that you update as often as you can. Keep things fresh so people keep on reading.\\nDon't feel guilty about shamelessly promoting yourself. Even if you have a publicist, your job will now be 50% writing, and 50% promoting yourself as a writer. Get used to it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go on the reading circuit.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a publicist and a successful book, then you will likely have a reading schedule for your book. You will travel across the state, or even the country, to read from your book, sign your book, and promote your book to your audience. You may read in tiny bookstores or a big Barnes and Noble (for as long as they exist, anyway). This will be a great way to meet more people, make connections, and to get people to actually buy your book.\\nPromote your reading schedule on social media so people know where they can find you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Network in the writing community.\", \"描述\": \"A writer is not an island. Make sure you go to the reading events of other writers, go to panel discussions or be a part of a panel if you are invited to do so, stay in touch with writers in your area, and generally make yourself known wherever you are. Meet other writers at writer's retreats, writing workshops, or in your institution if you belong to one.\\nGet to know writers in your field and genre. They can help you get ahead.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start working on your second book...and then the next one.\", \"描述\": \"You've published a book and are going on tour -- awesome. But this doesn't mean you can rest on your laurels, consider yourself done for a while, and toast to your own success for months. In fact, when you sell that first book, you may often tell the editors about the second book you're working on, or you may have to pitch your second book to your agent ASAP if you haven't already. The writer's job is never done, and if you really want to be an author, then you always have to be thinking about the next book.\\nDon't worry if you don't have the idea for a second book all lined up. Just make a goal to write every day and soon enough, an idea will present itself.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't just give up in the middle of a story. It could turn out really good!\\n\", \"If it helps why not draw the characters so you get a better idea of how to describe them? You could do the same for places.\\n\", \"If you're stuck on where to start, read a book and see what kind of words professional authors use. Note their punctuation, paragraphs, description.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Awesome Kickball Player
1. Handling the pressure Relax. Don't put pressure on yourself all of the time. It's fine to be competitive but be realistic about what you can achieve. Also, while it is important work to improve on your weaknesses, it is more important to really focus on your strengths and bring those forth, as these will gain you the confidence to be a good player. 2. Better techniques 2-1. Run fast The fielding team will probably try to tag you out. 2-2. Kick the ball hard Try to drive the ball into the outfield for the possibility of extra bases. 2-3. Try to catch balls, especially when playing in the outfield. Don't let it slip out of your hands. 3. Kicking the ball 3-1. Kick with your toes pointing down. 3-2. Use the top part of your foot (laces). Kick the ball on the top of your shoe, it will go higher and farther. If you kick on the front of your shoe, it won't go high or very far. 3-3. When the pitcher pitches the ball observe if the ball bounces. If it does, that is good. When the ball is not touching the ground, kick it. 3-4. Aim for where there is a bad player or where there is nobody. 3-5. Kick as hard as you can. Kick with confidence. 4. Throwing the ball 4-1. Throw the ball to the nearest person. Or, if you can, throw it to one of the people near the pitcher. 4-2. Throw straight and don't bounce the ball. This can give a boost to the players running the bases. 4-3. Throw as best as you can. You can practice throwing at home or at a local park to improve your technique. 4-4. Catch the ball with your body instead of your hands. 5. Team spirit 5-1. Don't tell your teammates not to mess up. That sort of talk can make them nervous and they might fulfill it and mess up. 5-2. Support your teammates. If your teammate gets an out, don't make them mad by saying something mean. It can cause a lot of your teammates to get their head out of the game and mess up. Moreover, you'll get an out sometimes too, and you'd want your team having your back. 5-3. Expect the opposing team to try to unnerve you. That's their role, just as it's yours to do the same back. Don't be afraid of the other team. Ignore their tactics and just keep playing well. Tips Try your best. Don't let your other teammates do all the work. Play fair. No one wants to play with a cheater! Use variety. If you have kicked hard multiple times in a row, try throwing a soft kick in. This will confuse the other team and give you time to make it to a base. Warnings If some one is chasing you to tag you out, don't run backwards, because when they tag you, you're going to fall backwards onto the hard ground. Do not throw balls at anyone, if it misses they will run farther. Don't try sliding on blacktop. It hurts!
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When the pitcher pitches the ball observe if the ball bounces.\\nIf it does, that is good. When the ball is not touching the ground, kick it.\\n3-4. Aim for where there is a bad player or where there is nobody.\\n\\n3-5. Kick as hard as you can.\\nKick with confidence.\\n4. Throwing the ball\\n4-1. Throw the ball to the nearest person.\\nOr, if you can, throw it to one of the people near the pitcher.\\n4-2. Throw straight and don't bounce the ball.\\nThis can give a boost to the players running the bases.\\n4-3. Throw as best as you can.\\nYou can practice throwing at home or at a local park to improve your technique.\\n4-4. Catch the ball with your body instead of your hands.\\n\\n5. Team spirit\\n5-1. Don't tell your teammates not to mess up.\\nThat sort of talk can make them nervous and they might fulfill it and mess up.\\n5-2. Support your teammates.\\nIf your teammate gets an out, don't make them mad by saying something mean. It can cause a lot of your teammates to get their head out of the game and mess up. Moreover, you'll get an out sometimes too, and you'd want your team having your back.\\n5-3. Expect the opposing team to try to unnerve you.\\nThat's their role, just as it's yours to do the same back. Don't be afraid of the other team. Ignore their tactics and just keep playing well.\\nTips\\nTry your best. Don't let your other teammates do all the work.\\nPlay fair. No one wants to play with a cheater!\\nUse variety. If you have kicked hard multiple times in a row, try throwing a soft kick in. This will confuse the other team and give you time to make it to a base.\\nWarnings\\nIf some one is chasing you to tag you out, don't run backwards, because when they tag you, you're going to fall backwards onto the hard ground.\\nDo not throw balls at anyone, if it misses they will run farther.\\nDon't try sliding on blacktop. It hurts!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Kickball playing is fun but if you take it really seriously, you can turn fun into being an awesome player. Follow these suggestions to turn your love of kickball into a serious art. At the adult level, kickball is generally played with a cup in hand.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Handling the pressure\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Relax.\", \"描述\": \"Don't put pressure on yourself all of the time. It's fine to be competitive but be realistic about what you can achieve. Also, while it is important work to improve on your weaknesses, it is more important to really focus on your strengths and bring those forth, as these will gain you the confidence to be a good player.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Better techniques\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Run fast\", \"描述\": \"The fielding team will probably try to tag you out.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Kick the ball hard\", \"描述\": \"Try to drive the ball into the outfield for the possibility of extra bases.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try to catch balls, especially when playing in the outfield.\", \"描述\": \"Don't let it slip out of your hands.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Kicking the ball\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Kick with your toes pointing down.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use the top part of your foot (laces).\", \"描述\": \"Kick the ball on the top of your shoe, it will go higher and farther. If you kick on the front of your shoe, it won't go high or very far.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"When the pitcher pitches the ball observe if the ball bounces.\", \"描述\": \"If it does, that is good. When the ball is not touching the ground, kick it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Aim for where there is a bad player or where there is nobody.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Kick as hard as you can.\", \"描述\": \"Kick with confidence.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Throwing the ball\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Throw the ball to the nearest person.\", \"描述\": \"Or, if you can, throw it to one of the people near the pitcher.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Throw straight and don't bounce the ball.\", \"描述\": \"This can give a boost to the players running the bases.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Throw as best as you can.\", \"描述\": \"You can practice throwing at home or at a local park to improve your technique.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Catch the ball with your body instead of your hands.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Team spirit\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't tell your teammates not to mess up.\", \"描述\": \"That sort of talk can make them nervous and they might fulfill it and mess up.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Support your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"If your teammate gets an out, don't make them mad by saying something mean. It can cause a lot of your teammates to get their head out of the game and mess up. Moreover, you'll get an out sometimes too, and you'd want your team having your back.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Expect the opposing team to try to unnerve you.\", \"描述\": \"That's their role, just as it's yours to do the same back. Don't be afraid of the other team. Ignore their tactics and just keep playing well.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try your best. Don't let your other teammates do all the work.\\n\", \"Play fair. No one wants to play with a cheater!\\n\", \"Use variety. If you have kicked hard multiple times in a row, try throwing a soft kick in. This will confuse the other team and give you time to make it to a base.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If some one is chasing you to tag you out, don't run backwards, because when they tag you, you're going to fall backwards onto the hard ground.\\n\", \"Do not throw balls at anyone, if it misses they will run farther.\\n\", \"Don't try sliding on blacktop. It hurts!\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Eclectic Spirit
1. Steps 1-1. Have many interests. Being an eclectic spirit means having a lot of interests, or finding beauty in items/ thoughts/ experiences that are classically not appreciated. This can run the gamut. You can branch out by studying a subject that is not widely studied amongst your friends. And of that subject, be sure to dig deeply. If you are studying poetry, for example, maybe read the works by newer, or less famous, authors, too. Or perhaps you are involved in a particular activity that sets you apart from the rest, but you have to remember that you have to love this activity yourself, and you're not just participating in it because you want to be 'eccentric/eclectic'. 1-2. Ask yourself what you like, why you like it, what draws you to the experience or item, for example, and how to showcase it in your life. If you love writing, think of starting your own library of small works or publications of up-and-rising authors, or starting a collection of writing instruments that you can also make use of in your daily life, that you deeply appreciate. Even if you alone appreciate the items. That is the essence of eccentricity, it seems. The eccentric will act in a genuine manner - not dismayed by the actions of those around her/him. An eclectic will typically have a multitude of interests, and will be in constant reflection on these items, experiences, features of life. An eccentric eclectic will then typically have a vast and sundry array of interests, but will not camouflage/ hide her interests. She will live authentically. 1-3. Make contacts. Study everything. Try to see the relationships between all life, and the relationship between studies or topics that superficially seem very far removed. The way that I've acquired new interests, often, has been in 'linking' a new subject with an older subject that already fascinated me. 1-4. Do not take on an affected air. Be true to your own person. You can be highly eclectic and not dramatic. You can be eccentric in how you live - by living authentically - without acting. Eccentricity is so rare, partly, because most people are hiding who they are, or acting a role. Don't worry about appearing more or less eccentric or eclectic. Be open to new experiences (but don't necessarily 'embrace' everything!) Be open to the possibility of what a new experience will bring to your life, without necessarily HAVING to engage in this new way of being. For example, if a friend wants you to try yoga, try asking yourself "why? should I? I might like it" - don't necessarily say "no" off the hop. At the same time, if - and only after you've given a topic some thought - do not want to do something, don't force yourself to do it. 1-5. Keep authentic friends about you. Know the people who you associate with - or try to get to know them. And don't model behaviour and/or try to be like someone, no matter how clever, eclectic or 'open' if he/ she seems cruel or cutting. There is, for example, oftentimes huge debates over the subject of art - and what should be allowed in art, be allowed by an artist. One artist was found starving dogs for performance art. Now, despite the fact that this is a very 'different' way of trying to be artistic, the plain fact of the matter is that if you care AT ALL about animals, this story is horrifying. So it doesn't matter how unique, cutting edge, etc someone/ or something is... If it doesn't sit right in your soul, AVOID going down that path. 1-6. Know thyself, as the Delphians say. It is GREAT to develop new interests and be open to new experiences, but this doesn't mean you have to lose yourself, or that your personality has to change. If you are introverted and often a little shy, you can try to summon up a little courage and do something differently - say, go to an art gallery opening, or breach a conversation with a friendly looking peer. This does not mean that your essence is changing. If anything, by learning new stuff, reading more and LIVING more, you are simply going to learn more about yourself, too. Maybe the truest part of you...was simply hidden. 1-7. Don't worry about fashion or trends. They change so quickly, and what makes someone else's sense of colour/ style etc. more important - more valid - than your own?? If you love something, pursue it, and create your own fashion. A great way to do this is to go to thrift stores, and also learn how to make alterations with a sewing machine. Thrift stores carry such a wide array of styles in clothing, that you experiment. And because the prices are usually far lower - a 'mistake' purchase at a thrift store will cost far less than one made at a high end boutique, or even the mall. 1-8. Know that you don't have to clash either. Also, being eclectic doesn't mean that your style has to clash. On the contrary! The basis of eclecticism is that if something is very durable, and of high quality, well proportioned lines and a beautiful form - it will go with other well designed, beautiful items. Eclecticism doesn't mean going for odd pieces and hoping for the best. It means being appreciative of the beauty that has existed in various forms throughout history, and not ignoring or devaluing past contributions simply because they are of the past. 1-9. Embrace your inner child. The heart of an eccentric person is childlike. Not childish. An eccentric personality will be attracted to the natural splendor, just as is a small person, a child, before he or she becomes aware that others are watching, and tries to act differently. At the heart of an eccentric being is an egoless being. This is not the same thing as having no personality. Simply...not being egoistic - not being so full of yourself, as most adults are, that every word you speak is measured, and compared to the words of others. Or every purchase you make is with another person in mind, rather than yourself. If you are buying yourself an item of clothing - go with what you love, not what others TELL you THEY love. If someone else loves your style - terrific! That's great. Flattering, yes? But don't change your style to accommodate a parent, sibling, uber-controlling boyfriend etc. 1-10. Spend as little time as is possible around uber-controlling people. There are times, of course, when people who care about us will want to 'help' us. Maybe they can see that we are headed down a self destructive path, for example, and want to offer advice. It is always smart to listen, to question. But if someone has a history of trying to change you into a different person, simply because they hold an idealized form of who you are or could be - and the changes would be entirely superficial - try not to be swayed. Sometimes parents want their children to always remain "cute" or dependent. This is understandable, but not the best for YOU and your personal growth. If there is a character that you love, whose fashion style you love etc. - . This is not stealing. Very often you will find that you do not like a style of dress on your own being as much as you like it on the character. You may be totally infatuated, even, with a character and may aim to 'change' yourself to be more like the character. To a point, this isn't really harmful, because if there behavior is in sync with what you love and how you'd like to be (say, more confident, or more outspoken, or more carefree etc.) then it possibly is a positive change. But remember - you don't have to change every aspect of your behavior to have improvement. If you have traits that are holding you back, then work on those, but don't idolize another for being 'better' than you. A more confident person is not better than you, simply because she or he is more confident. Everyone has problems, or areas of their life on which they need to work. No one is perfect. 1-11. Ask yourself - everyday - how something can be made better. Made truer to your own person. Take personality quizzes on-line, such as the Kiersey or the Myers Briggs Personality Inventory or the Enneagram to learn more about your personality (but remember - you are much more than a 'type'). Look at ordinary objects in a new light. When is an old, mucky rain boot from your childhood NOT an object for the trash bin? When it can be made into a potter for vine plants! (Eccentric people were probably the first recyclers - they valued what others saw, often, as 'junk' and breathed new life into that which as often rejected). 1-12. Reconnect with your inner child. If you were a sensitive, warm, giving child - you probably are much like that, in essence, as an adolescent or an adult. Or what to be. But increased pressures such as school and work can make it hard for our real being to be known. Stress destroys. Instead, do something in accordance with how you - as a child - would have acted or given or been. If you have an old toy from childhood, that meant a lot to you, and that won't break your heart if you give it away - then give it away to someone, say a little child - that has nothing or needs the pick me up. Sometimes 'old' or worn objects, that obviously mean something to us - will then be seen as extra special, especially if the child is the recipient of the gift. A gift doesn't have to be 'new' or 'sterile' or in fresh packaging to be a gift, or to be meaningful. Since children are often the most eccentric, and eclectic - spend extra time with your younger siblings, younger cousins etc. Read them stories, and ask them questions. Ask them all sorts of questions, and listen to their different replies. They will often provide as the muse for change in your life. If you have no young siblings, no younger cousins etc., but are a young adult - think of becoming a mentor or helping out. If you are a teen, and too young to mentor - think of volunteering at a pound or local animal shelter. Animals are very authentic beings - they do what they want, according to their personality and take on things, and can be quite healing. 1-13. Write. Write anything you want! The more you write, the more you will crave to write. Free association writing is a neat exercise you can try as well. 1-14. Make a list of simple pleasures, and try to surround yourself with 'free beauty. A trip to the library. Changing how you take your coffee - adding brown sugar instead of Splenda, getting up early enough to see the sun rise, developing your own morning prayer or meditation ritual that only YOU know about, going to various churches or synagogues - even if you are an atheist - for a new, fresh take on being alive, watching clouds. In essence - being random!. Remember, what makes you different makes you beautiful. Tips Barter with a friend! Maybe you have something in your closest, your CD collection, or on your bookshelf that you don't love anymore, or never really loved. An impulse splurge, perhaps, on something that was never really 'you'. Barter with friends! Show them what you have, and if they have anything that they are not exceptionally close to - they may want to trade! This is a great way to see new films, wear different clothes, or hear fresh music - for absolutely free! Try new 'customs'. If you are not vegan, but you have a friend who is - ask them WHY they are vegan. Maybe you'll like their explanation, or way of looking at life. Try new vegan foods or cuisine, for example. Become a pen-pal to a person who speaks another language, but who is learning English. This way, you may learn more about the culture in which your new friend lives, and their customs, and you may have a fresh new way of looking at events in YOUR culture.* Warnings Being eclectic does not mean exposing yourself to everything. You can be open minded, without being foolish. You know what you do not like, and if something is gory, hateful, morbid etc. - no matter how 'artsy' or 'sophisticated' another argues it is, do not doubt yourself. Do not assume an artist, poet or 'sensitive' soul has a greater or better take on life than you! You do not have to become 'someone else' to be an eclectic at heart! Be open to the possibility that you may like learning about a different time period, a different style of dressing, a different sport or past-time etc. This doesn't mean you will necessarily adopt the new subject, but don't discount anything just because it's foreign to you.
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Ask yourself what you like, why you like it, what draws you to the experience or item, for example, and how to showcase it in your life.\\nIf you love writing, think of starting your own library of small works or publications of up-and-rising authors, or starting a collection of writing instruments that you can also make use of in your daily life, that you deeply appreciate. Even if you alone appreciate the items. That is the essence of eccentricity, it seems. The eccentric will act in a genuine manner - not dismayed by the actions of those around her/him. An eclectic will typically have a multitude of interests, and will be in constant reflection on these items, experiences, features of life. An eccentric eclectic will then typically have a vast and sundry array of interests, but will not camouflage/ hide her interests. She will live authentically.\\n1-3. Make contacts.\\nStudy everything. Try to see the relationships between all life, and the relationship between studies or topics that superficially seem very far removed. The way that I've acquired new interests, often, has been in 'linking' a new subject with an older subject that already fascinated me.\\n1-4. Do not take on an affected air.\\nBe true to your own person. You can be highly eclectic and not dramatic. You can be eccentric in how you live - by living authentically - without acting. Eccentricity is so rare, partly, because most people are hiding who they are, or acting a role. Don't worry about appearing more or less eccentric or eclectic. Be open to new experiences (but don't necessarily 'embrace' everything!) Be open to the possibility of what a new experience will bring to your life, without necessarily HAVING to engage in this new way of being. For example, if a friend wants you to try yoga, try asking yourself \\\"why? should I? I might like it\\\" - don't necessarily say \\\"no\\\" off the hop. At the same time, if - and only after you've given a topic some thought - do not want to do something, don't force yourself to do it.\\n1-5. Keep authentic friends about you.\\nKnow the people who you associate with - or try to get to know them. And don't model behaviour and/or try to be like someone, no matter how clever, eclectic or 'open' if he/ she seems cruel or cutting. There is, for example, oftentimes huge debates over the subject of art - and what should be allowed in art, be allowed by an artist. One artist was found starving dogs for performance art. Now, despite the fact that this is a very 'different' way of trying to be artistic, the plain fact of the matter is that if you care AT ALL about animals, this story is horrifying. So it doesn't matter how unique, cutting edge, etc someone/ or something is... If it doesn't sit right in your soul, AVOID going down that path.\\n1-6. Know thyself, as the Delphians say.\\nIt is GREAT to develop new interests and be open to new experiences, but this doesn't mean you have to lose yourself, or that your personality has to change. If you are introverted and often a little shy, you can try to summon up a little courage and do something differently - say, go to an art gallery opening, or breach a conversation with a friendly looking peer. This does not mean that your essence is changing. If anything, by learning new stuff, reading more and LIVING more, you are simply going to learn more about yourself, too. Maybe the truest part of you...was simply hidden.\\n1-7. Don't worry about fashion or trends.\\nThey change so quickly, and what makes someone else's sense of colour/ style etc. more important - more valid - than your own?? If you love something, pursue it, and create your own fashion. A great way to do this is to go to thrift stores, and also learn how to make alterations with a sewing machine. Thrift stores carry such a wide array of styles in clothing, that you experiment. And because the prices are usually far lower - a 'mistake' purchase at a thrift store will cost far less than one made at a high end boutique, or even the mall.\\n1-8. Know that you don't have to clash either.\\nAlso, being eclectic doesn't mean that your style has to clash. On the contrary! The basis of eclecticism is that if something is very durable, and of high quality, well proportioned lines and a beautiful form - it will go with other well designed, beautiful items. Eclecticism doesn't mean going for odd pieces and hoping for the best. It means being appreciative of the beauty that has existed in various forms throughout history, and not ignoring or devaluing past contributions simply because they are of the past.\\n1-9. Embrace your inner child.\\nThe heart of an eccentric person is childlike. Not childish. An eccentric personality will be attracted to the natural splendor, just as is a small person, a child, before he or she becomes aware that others are watching, and tries to act differently. At the heart of an eccentric being is an egoless being. This is not the same thing as having no personality. Simply...not being egoistic - not being so full of yourself, as most adults are, that every word you speak is measured, and compared to the words of others. Or every purchase you make is with another person in mind, rather than yourself. If you are buying yourself an item of clothing - go with what you love, not what others TELL you THEY love. If someone else loves your style - terrific! That's great. Flattering, yes? But don't change your style to accommodate a parent, sibling, uber-controlling boyfriend etc.\\n1-10. Spend as little time as is possible around uber-controlling people.\\nThere are times, of course, when people who care about us will want to 'help' us. Maybe they can see that we are headed down a self destructive path, for example, and want to offer advice. It is always smart to listen, to question. But if someone has a history of trying to change you into a different person, simply because they hold an idealized form of who you are or could be - and the changes would be entirely superficial - try not to be swayed. Sometimes parents want their children to always remain \\\"cute\\\" or dependent. This is understandable, but not the best for YOU and your personal growth.\\nIf there is a character that you love, whose fashion style you love etc. - . This is not stealing. Very often you will find that you do not like a style of dress on your own being as much as you like it on the character. You may be totally infatuated, even, with a character and may aim to 'change' yourself to be more like the character. To a point, this isn't really harmful, because if there behavior is in sync with what you love and how you'd like to be (say, more confident, or more outspoken, or more carefree etc.) then it possibly is a positive change. But remember - you don't have to change every aspect of your behavior to have improvement. If you have traits that are holding you back, then work on those, but don't idolize another for being 'better' than you. A more confident person is not better than you, simply because she or he is more confident. Everyone has problems, or areas of their life on which they need to work. No one is perfect.\\n1-11. Ask yourself - everyday - how something can be made better.\\nMade truer to your own person. Take personality quizzes on-line, such as the Kiersey or the Myers Briggs Personality Inventory or the Enneagram to learn more about your personality (but remember - you are much more than a 'type'). Look at ordinary objects in a new light. When is an old, mucky rain boot from your childhood NOT an object for the trash bin? When it can be made into a potter for vine plants! (Eccentric people were probably the first recyclers - they valued what others saw, often, as 'junk' and breathed new life into that which as often rejected).\\n1-12. Reconnect with your inner child.\\nIf you were a sensitive, warm, giving child - you probably are much like that, in essence, as an adolescent or an adult. Or what to be. But increased pressures such as school and work can make it hard for our real being to be known. Stress destroys. Instead, do something in accordance with how you - as a child - would have acted or given or been. If you have an old toy from childhood, that meant a lot to you, and that won't break your heart if you give it away - then give it away to someone, say a little child - that has nothing or needs the pick me up. Sometimes 'old' or worn objects, that obviously mean something to us - will then be seen as extra special, especially if the child is the recipient of the gift. A gift doesn't have to be 'new' or 'sterile' or in fresh packaging to be a gift, or to be meaningful.\\nSince children are often the most eccentric, and eclectic - spend extra time with your younger siblings, younger cousins etc. Read them stories, and ask them questions. Ask them all sorts of questions, and listen to their different replies. They will often provide as the muse for change in your life. If you have no young siblings, no younger cousins etc., but are a young adult - think of becoming a mentor or helping out. If you are a teen, and too young to mentor - think of volunteering at a pound or local animal shelter. Animals are very authentic beings - they do what they want, according to their personality and take on things, and can be quite healing.\\n1-13. Write.\\nWrite anything you want! The more you write, the more you will crave to write. Free association writing is a neat exercise you can try as well.\\n1-14. Make a list of simple pleasures, and try to surround yourself with 'free beauty.\\nA trip to the library. Changing how you take your coffee - adding brown sugar instead of Splenda, getting up early enough to see the sun rise, developing your own morning prayer or meditation ritual that only YOU know about, going to various churches or synagogues - even if you are an atheist - for a new, fresh take on being alive, watching clouds. In essence - being random!. Remember, what makes you different makes you beautiful.\\nTips\\nBarter with a friend! Maybe you have something in your closest, your CD collection, or on your bookshelf that you don't love anymore, or never really loved. An impulse splurge, perhaps, on something that was never really 'you'. Barter with friends! Show them what you have, and if they have anything that they are not exceptionally close to - they may want to trade! This is a great way to see new films, wear different clothes, or hear fresh music - for absolutely free!\\nTry new 'customs'. If you are not vegan, but you have a friend who is - ask them WHY they are vegan. Maybe you'll like their explanation, or way of looking at life. Try new vegan foods or cuisine, for example.\\nBecome a pen-pal to a person who speaks another language, but who is learning English. This way, you may learn more about the culture in which your new friend lives, and their customs, and you may have a fresh new way of looking at events in YOUR culture.*\\nWarnings\\nBeing eclectic does not mean exposing yourself to everything. You can be open minded, without being foolish. You know what you do not like, and if something is gory, hateful, morbid etc. - no matter how 'artsy' or 'sophisticated' another argues it is, do not doubt yourself. Do not assume an artist, poet or 'sensitive' soul has a greater or better take on life than you!\\nYou do not have to become 'someone else' to be an eclectic at heart! Be open to the possibility that you may like learning about a different time period, a different style of dressing, a different sport or past-time etc. This doesn't mean you will necessarily adopt the new subject, but don't discount anything just because it's foreign to you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you ever wanted to delight in a world of difference and unique being? Have you given consideration to aspects of yourself that are being overlooked or devalued? In this article, we'll show you how to embrace the philosophy of eclectic spirituality and make it work for you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have many interests.\", \"描述\": \"Being an eclectic spirit means having a lot of interests, or finding beauty in items/ thoughts/ experiences that are classically not appreciated. This can run the gamut. You can branch out by studying a subject that is not widely studied amongst your friends. And of that subject, be sure to dig deeply. If you are studying poetry, for example, maybe read the works by newer, or less famous, authors, too. Or perhaps you are involved in a particular activity that sets you apart from the rest, but you have to remember that you have to love this activity yourself, and you're not just participating in it because you want to be 'eccentric/eclectic'.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask yourself what you like, why you like it, what draws you to the experience or item, for example, and how to showcase it in your life.\", \"描述\": \"If you love writing, think of starting your own library of small works or publications of up-and-rising authors, or starting a collection of writing instruments that you can also make use of in your daily life, that you deeply appreciate. Even if you alone appreciate the items. That is the essence of eccentricity, it seems. The eccentric will act in a genuine manner - not dismayed by the actions of those around her/him. An eclectic will typically have a multitude of interests, and will be in constant reflection on these items, experiences, features of life. An eccentric eclectic will then typically have a vast and sundry array of interests, but will not camouflage/ hide her interests. She will live authentically.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make contacts.\", \"描述\": \"Study everything. Try to see the relationships between all life, and the relationship between studies or topics that superficially seem very far removed. The way that I've acquired new interests, often, has been in 'linking' a new subject with an older subject that already fascinated me.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do not take on an affected air.\", \"描述\": \"Be true to your own person. You can be highly eclectic and not dramatic. You can be eccentric in how you live - by living authentically - without acting. Eccentricity is so rare, partly, because most people are hiding who they are, or acting a role. Don't worry about appearing more or less eccentric or eclectic. Be open to new experiences (but don't necessarily 'embrace' everything!) Be open to the possibility of what a new experience will bring to your life, without necessarily HAVING to engage in this new way of being. For example, if a friend wants you to try yoga, try asking yourself \\\"why? should I? I might like it\\\" - don't necessarily say \\\"no\\\" off the hop. At the same time, if - and only after you've given a topic some thought - do not want to do something, don't force yourself to do it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep authentic friends about you.\", \"描述\": \"Know the people who you associate with - or try to get to know them. And don't model behaviour and/or try to be like someone, no matter how clever, eclectic or 'open' if he/ she seems cruel or cutting. There is, for example, oftentimes huge debates over the subject of art - and what should be allowed in art, be allowed by an artist. One artist was found starving dogs for performance art. Now, despite the fact that this is a very 'different' way of trying to be artistic, the plain fact of the matter is that if you care AT ALL about animals, this story is horrifying. So it doesn't matter how unique, cutting edge, etc someone/ or something is... If it doesn't sit right in your soul, AVOID going down that path.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Know thyself, as the Delphians say.\", \"描述\": \"It is GREAT to develop new interests and be open to new experiences, but this doesn't mean you have to lose yourself, or that your personality has to change. If you are introverted and often a little shy, you can try to summon up a little courage and do something differently - say, go to an art gallery opening, or breach a conversation with a friendly looking peer. This does not mean that your essence is changing. If anything, by learning new stuff, reading more and LIVING more, you are simply going to learn more about yourself, too. Maybe the truest part of you...was simply hidden.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Don't worry about fashion or trends.\", \"描述\": \"They change so quickly, and what makes someone else's sense of colour/ style etc. more important - more valid - than your own?? If you love something, pursue it, and create your own fashion. A great way to do this is to go to thrift stores, and also learn how to make alterations with a sewing machine. Thrift stores carry such a wide array of styles in clothing, that you experiment. And because the prices are usually far lower - a 'mistake' purchase at a thrift store will cost far less than one made at a high end boutique, or even the mall.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Know that you don't have to clash either.\", \"描述\": \"Also, being eclectic doesn't mean that your style has to clash. On the contrary! The basis of eclecticism is that if something is very durable, and of high quality, well proportioned lines and a beautiful form - it will go with other well designed, beautiful items. Eclecticism doesn't mean going for odd pieces and hoping for the best. It means being appreciative of the beauty that has existed in various forms throughout history, and not ignoring or devaluing past contributions simply because they are of the past.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Embrace your inner child.\", \"描述\": \"The heart of an eccentric person is childlike. Not childish. An eccentric personality will be attracted to the natural splendor, just as is a small person, a child, before he or she becomes aware that others are watching, and tries to act differently. At the heart of an eccentric being is an egoless being. This is not the same thing as having no personality. Simply...not being egoistic - not being so full of yourself, as most adults are, that every word you speak is measured, and compared to the words of others. Or every purchase you make is with another person in mind, rather than yourself. If you are buying yourself an item of clothing - go with what you love, not what others TELL you THEY love. If someone else loves your style - terrific! That's great. Flattering, yes? But don't change your style to accommodate a parent, sibling, uber-controlling boyfriend etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Spend as little time as is possible around uber-controlling people.\", \"描述\": \"There are times, of course, when people who care about us will want to 'help' us. Maybe they can see that we are headed down a self destructive path, for example, and want to offer advice. It is always smart to listen, to question. But if someone has a history of trying to change you into a different person, simply because they hold an idealized form of who you are or could be - and the changes would be entirely superficial - try not to be swayed. Sometimes parents want their children to always remain \\\"cute\\\" or dependent. This is understandable, but not the best for YOU and your personal growth.\\nIf there is a character that you love, whose fashion style you love etc. - . This is not stealing. Very often you will find that you do not like a style of dress on your own being as much as you like it on the character. You may be totally infatuated, even, with a character and may aim to 'change' yourself to be more like the character. To a point, this isn't really harmful, because if there behavior is in sync with what you love and how you'd like to be (say, more confident, or more outspoken, or more carefree etc.) then it possibly is a positive change. But remember - you don't have to change every aspect of your behavior to have improvement. If you have traits that are holding you back, then work on those, but don't idolize another for being 'better' than you. A more confident person is not better than you, simply because she or he is more confident. Everyone has problems, or areas of their life on which they need to work. No one is perfect.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Ask yourself - everyday - how something can be made better.\", \"描述\": \"Made truer to your own person. Take personality quizzes on-line, such as the Kiersey or the Myers Briggs Personality Inventory or the Enneagram to learn more about your personality (but remember - you are much more than a 'type'). Look at ordinary objects in a new light. When is an old, mucky rain boot from your childhood NOT an object for the trash bin? When it can be made into a potter for vine plants! (Eccentric people were probably the first recyclers - they valued what others saw, often, as 'junk' and breathed new life into that which as often rejected).\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Reconnect with your inner child.\", \"描述\": \"If you were a sensitive, warm, giving child - you probably are much like that, in essence, as an adolescent or an adult. Or what to be. But increased pressures such as school and work can make it hard for our real being to be known. Stress destroys. Instead, do something in accordance with how you - as a child - would have acted or given or been. If you have an old toy from childhood, that meant a lot to you, and that won't break your heart if you give it away - then give it away to someone, say a little child - that has nothing or needs the pick me up. Sometimes 'old' or worn objects, that obviously mean something to us - will then be seen as extra special, especially if the child is the recipient of the gift. A gift doesn't have to be 'new' or 'sterile' or in fresh packaging to be a gift, or to be meaningful.\\nSince children are often the most eccentric, and eclectic - spend extra time with your younger siblings, younger cousins etc. Read them stories, and ask them questions. Ask them all sorts of questions, and listen to their different replies. They will often provide as the muse for change in your life. If you have no young siblings, no younger cousins etc., but are a young adult - think of becoming a mentor or helping out. If you are a teen, and too young to mentor - think of volunteering at a pound or local animal shelter. Animals are very authentic beings - they do what they want, according to their personality and take on things, and can be quite healing.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Write.\", \"描述\": \"Write anything you want! The more you write, the more you will crave to write. Free association writing is a neat exercise you can try as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Make a list of simple pleasures, and try to surround yourself with 'free beauty.\", \"描述\": \"A trip to the library. Changing how you take your coffee - adding brown sugar instead of Splenda, getting up early enough to see the sun rise, developing your own morning prayer or meditation ritual that only YOU know about, going to various churches or synagogues - even if you are an atheist - for a new, fresh take on being alive, watching clouds. In essence - being random!. Remember, what makes you different makes you beautiful.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Barter with a friend! Maybe you have something in your closest, your CD collection, or on your bookshelf that you don't love anymore, or never really loved. An impulse splurge, perhaps, on something that was never really 'you'. Barter with friends! Show them what you have, and if they have anything that they are not exceptionally close to - they may want to trade! This is a great way to see new films, wear different clothes, or hear fresh music - for absolutely free!\\n\", \"Try new 'customs'. If you are not vegan, but you have a friend who is - ask them WHY they are vegan. Maybe you'll like their explanation, or way of looking at life. Try new vegan foods or cuisine, for example.\\n\", \"Become a pen-pal to a person who speaks another language, but who is learning English. This way, you may learn more about the culture in which your new friend lives, and their customs, and you may have a fresh new way of looking at events in YOUR culture.*\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Being eclectic does not mean exposing yourself to everything. You can be open minded, without being foolish. You know what you do not like, and if something is gory, hateful, morbid etc. - no matter how 'artsy' or 'sophisticated' another argues it is, do not doubt yourself. Do not assume an artist, poet or 'sensitive' soul has a greater or better take on life than you!\\n\", \"You do not have to become 'someone else' to be an eclectic at heart! Be open to the possibility that you may like learning about a different time period, a different style of dressing, a different sport or past-time etc. This doesn't mean you will necessarily adopt the new subject, but don't discount anything just because it's foreign to you.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Educated Person
1. Staying Informed 1-1. Follow the daily news. Find a newspaper that you like and read it daily. With the advent of the Internet, this has become a very easy task. Reading your local news is not enough, so try to absorb the news at regional, national and international levels, too. You want to know as much about the wider world as possible. You can even try reading several different daily newspapers. You might want to read commentaries on the news as well. Being aware of different opinions is important for creating a general overview of what is happening in the world. You should read a variety of publications. Don’t limit yourself to one country’s newspaper. Here are a few significant international publications: The India Times (India) Le Monde (France) The Asahi Shimbun (Japan) The New York Times (USA) The Guardian (UK) Washington Post (USA) 1-2. Take notes about key areas. Jot down notes about areas of the world that you are interested in. These notes can be a solid foundation for your later research. For example, let’s say that you have just read an article about ISIS. If you write down details about the countries ISIS occupies, such as Iraq and Libya, then you can find out more about how the current situation started. Stay critical. Do not necessarily take everything you read at face value. Notice the biases and omissions of different newspapers instead of simply taking in talking points. 1-3. Listen to news radio. Tune in to a radio broadcast of the news. The BBC and NPR are both good places to get solid world news. Since both are publicly funded, they may not be as biased as other news sources. News radio is also helpful because you will receive guidance on how to pronounce names of important regions and people. 1-4. Read current events magazines. Magazines like Harper’s Magazine, The Atlantic, The Economist, Der Spiegel, and The New Yorker are good places to find out about what’s happening in the world. You may be able to find copies at your local library. If not, you may have to subscribe to the magazines you enjoy. These periodicals will give you details about the events you have read or heard about in the news. They often run comprehensive articles that focus on a specific region or topic. These magazines have online versions as well. Peruse their archives and don’t simply focus on current news. A piece on classical music from the 1930s might lead you to a composer you’ve never heard of. The more of these articles you read, the more you will broaden your general knowledge. Writers in these magazines often write books as well. These books supply even more information about the topics that you have read about. 2. Appreciating Culture 2-1. Go to museums. Look at art pieces and engage with what you see. Take your time with several pieces. As you look at these art objects, consider what makes them special and unique. This will take time. Art appreciation involves unhurried contemplation. Engage with each art object using a different lens. A painting is different from a photograph. Don't look at a contemporary work in the same way that you would look at a classical one. A newer oil painting deserves a different consideration than one from three hundred years ago. Remember that periods matter, as do movements. Take a tour. The guide will pass along important details about significant pieces of artwork. Listen carefully, even if you have seen the piece before. You might learn something new about the artwork or the artist. See if they have informative print-outs. These can give you vital information about the museum’s collection. 2-2. Read literature. Immerse yourself in both contemporary and classic literature. Fiction can help you be more empathetic by portraying the perspectives of a wide assortment of people. Start with classic literature. For example, Plutarch’s Lives is a compendium of stories about Greek and Roman men who lived interesting lives. Each story examines both the positive and negative qualities of these men .Observe the characters in these stories, and absorb the lessons contained within these tales. 2-3. Read philosophy. Philosophy will give you the tools to discuss questions about morality and free will. By reading philosophy books, you will be able to examine your own life and thoughts more clearly. This can aid in decision-making. Read foundational works of philosophy. Start with Plato’s Republic. This fundamental work consists of dialogues between Socrates and his students as they attempt to figure out what the perfect society would consist of. As they design their hypothetical city, they discourse on free will, morality, and belief. 2-4. Take copious notes. When you read these books, keep a notepad handy so you can scribble down notes about the themes and ideas in these texts. You don’t want to get bogged down in every last detail, but writing down the most significant portions of what you’ve read is a great way to avoid becoming lost as you tackle these important works. 2-5. Watch films. See if you can find some art-house films. There are many excellent films in circulation. Take the opportunity to watch a few of them. If it helps, try to pick one director and watch as much of their filmography as possible. Then read criticism about films you have seen. Look for discussions about how that director decides to shoot and edit their films. Read criticism. You might enjoy magazines like Sight and Sound and Cahiers du Cinema(in French). Both have contemporary art-house film reviews and essays. They also publish articles by film scholars about older, classic films. The AV Club (online) is also a great resource on films both old and new. Individual critics’ websites can be helpful as well. 2-6. Listen to music. If you don’t already listen to a variety of musical genres, try embracing a type of music you haven’t listened to before. For example, if you mainly listen to rock music, try listening to classical. Or vice versa. Strive for a diverse range of musical tastes. This displays an openness and a willingness to explore. 3. Having Conversations 3-1. Talk with people who are reasonably well-educated. Get into conversations with those who have learned through school or work a great deal about life. Try to understand how they obtained their knowledge. Ask them questions about subjects you don’t know much about. Talk to people from a variety of professions. Education develops in various ways. An educated person realizes this. Your mechanic can be as knowledgeable as your professor. 3-2. Go to public lectures. Find out if a scholar or writer is giving a talk in your neighborhood. Go to the talk and listen to what they have to say. Often after a talk, a question-and-answer session is held. Not only will you learn about a subject, but you will also be able to ask the lecturer questions directly. Take accurate notes during the lecture. This will make it easier for you to come up with good, stimulating questions that will allow for an invigorating discussion. Don’t tire yourself writing down every word. Mark down just the key concepts and ideas. 3-3. Stay open-minded. During the course of your conversations, you may find yourself disagreeing with various people. Try to understand their viewpoints. This does not mean that you need to agree with everything you hear. This would be foolish. However, an educated person does not dismiss someone based on a disagreement. Actually, arguments and debates show that you are willing to entertain ideas that are different from your own. They help you to develop your own point of view. If you disagree with a perspective, you could say something like "I see why you would think this. However, I have a different take on the matter." 4. Behaving Well 4-1. Keep your composure. One mark of an educated person is a calm demeanor. Don’t be quick to anger. For example, don’t start screaming because someone has angered you. Instead, react calmly and try to resolve the issue. You don’t necessarily need to disguise your emotions. You might be angry, but don’t let that feeling affect the way you behave. If you find yourself becoming angry, try to center yourself. Meditation is a good way to do this. 4-2. Speak in a level tone of voice. Don’t raise your voice. You should communicate, but you do not want to be the loudest person in the room, as this can make it seem like you are trying to call attention to yourself. However, you don’t want to be too quiet either. If you are very quiet, you may seem timid. An educated person will aim to strike a balance in their speech. 4-3. Be humble. An educated person is well-mannered and gentle. Avoid bragging and arrogance. Contribute to the conversation with a point of view, but do this selectively. You don’t need to show off your learning in every social situation. 4-4. Ask questions. When you don't understand something, ask for an explanation. Don’t be afraid to do this. Show that you are willing to learn. It is better to make a mistake while learning something new than to remain in ignorance due to a fear of embarrassing yourself. An inquisitive mind is an intelligent one. If you did not understand a point, say: "Would you mind explaining your last point again?" Tips If you have free time, read a book or magazine. Write down interesting factoids. You can bring these up in conversation. Don't stick to one news source.
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Take notes about key areas.\\nJot down notes about areas of the world that you are interested in. These notes can be a solid foundation for your later research. For example, let’s say that you have just read an article about ISIS. If you write down details about the countries ISIS occupies, such as Iraq and Libya, then you can find out more about how the current situation started.\\nStay critical. Do not necessarily take everything you read at face value. Notice the biases and omissions of different newspapers instead of simply taking in talking points.\\n1-3. Listen to news radio.\\nTune in to a radio broadcast of the news. The BBC and NPR are both good places to get solid world news. Since both are publicly funded, they may not be as biased as other news sources. News radio is also helpful because you will receive guidance on how to pronounce names of important regions and people.\\n1-4. Read current events magazines.\\nMagazines like Harper’s Magazine, The Atlantic, The Economist, Der Spiegel, and The New Yorker are good places to find out about what’s happening in the world. You may be able to find copies at your local library. If not, you may have to subscribe to the magazines you enjoy. These periodicals will give you details about the events you have read or heard about in the news. They often run comprehensive articles that focus on a specific region or topic. \\nThese magazines have online versions as well. Peruse their archives and don’t simply focus on current news. A piece on classical music from the 1930s might lead you to a composer you’ve never heard of. The more of these articles you read, the more you will broaden your general knowledge.\\nWriters in these magazines often write books as well. These books supply even more information about the topics that you have read about.\\n2. Appreciating Culture\\n2-1. Go to museums.\\nLook at art pieces and engage with what you see. Take your time with several pieces. As you look at these art objects, consider what makes them special and unique. This will take time. Art appreciation involves unhurried contemplation.\\nEngage with each art object using a different lens. A painting is different from a photograph. Don't look at a contemporary work in the same way that you would look at a classical one. A newer oil painting deserves a different consideration than one from three hundred years ago. Remember that periods matter, as do movements.\\nTake a tour. The guide will pass along important details about significant pieces of artwork. Listen carefully, even if you have seen the piece before. You might learn something new about the artwork or the artist.\\nSee if they have informative print-outs. These can give you vital information about the museum’s collection.\\n2-2. Read literature.\\nImmerse yourself in both contemporary and classic literature. Fiction can help you be more empathetic by portraying the perspectives of a wide assortment of people. \\nStart with classic literature. For example, Plutarch’s Lives is a compendium of stories about Greek and Roman men who lived interesting lives. Each story examines both the positive and negative qualities of these men .Observe the characters in these stories, and absorb the lessons contained within these tales.\\n2-3. Read philosophy.\\nPhilosophy will give you the tools to discuss questions about morality and free will. By reading philosophy books, you will be able to examine your own life and thoughts more clearly. This can aid in decision-making.\\nRead foundational works of philosophy. Start with Plato’s Republic. This fundamental work consists of dialogues between Socrates and his students as they attempt to figure out what the perfect society would consist of. As they design their hypothetical city, they discourse on free will, morality, and belief.\\n2-4. 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The AV Club (online) is also a great resource on films both old and new. Individual critics’ websites can be helpful as well.\\n2-6. Listen to music.\\nIf you don’t already listen to a variety of musical genres, try embracing a type of music you haven’t listened to before. For example, if you mainly listen to rock music, try listening to classical. Or vice versa. Strive for a diverse range of musical tastes. This displays an openness and a willingness to explore.\\n3. Having Conversations\\n3-1. Talk with people who are reasonably well-educated.\\nGet into conversations with those who have learned through school or work a great deal about life. Try to understand how they obtained their knowledge. Ask them questions about subjects you don’t know much about. \\nTalk to people from a variety of professions. Education develops in various ways. An educated person realizes this. Your mechanic can be as knowledgeable as your professor.\\n3-2. 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You should communicate, but you do not want to be the loudest person in the room, as this can make it seem like you are trying to call attention to yourself. However, you don’t want to be too quiet either. If you are very quiet, you may seem timid. An educated person will aim to strike a balance in their speech.\\n4-3. Be humble.\\nAn educated person is well-mannered and gentle. Avoid bragging and arrogance. Contribute to the conversation with a point of view, but do this selectively. You don’t need to show off your learning in every social situation.\\n4-4. Ask questions.\\nWhen you don't understand something, ask for an explanation. Don’t be afraid to do this. Show that you are willing to learn. It is better to make a mistake while learning something new than to remain in ignorance due to a fear of embarrassing yourself.\\nAn inquisitive mind is an intelligent one. If you did not understand a point, say: \\\"Would you mind explaining your last point again?\\\"\\nTips\\nIf you have free time, read a book or magazine.\\nWrite down interesting factoids. You can bring these up in conversation.\\nDon't stick to one news source.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"An educated person is someone who comprehends that education is a lifelong process. Therefore, to become one, you need to work consistently at broadening your mind. Educated people are literate, cultured, and aware. They know what is happening in the world, appreciate the arts and comport themselves in a calm and comfortable manner.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Staying Informed\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Follow the daily news.\", \"描述\": \"Find a newspaper that you like and read it daily. With the advent of the Internet, this has become a very easy task. Reading your local news is not enough, so try to absorb the news at regional, national and international levels, too. You want to know as much about the wider world as possible. You can even try reading several different daily newspapers. You might want to read commentaries on the news as well. Being aware of different opinions is important for creating a general overview of what is happening in the world. \\nYou should read a variety of publications. Don’t limit yourself to one country’s newspaper. Here are a few significant international publications:\\nThe India Times (India)\\nLe Monde (France)\\nThe Asahi Shimbun (Japan)\\nThe New York Times (USA)\\nThe Guardian (UK)\\nWashington Post (USA)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take notes about key areas.\", \"描述\": \"Jot down notes about areas of the world that you are interested in. These notes can be a solid foundation for your later research. For example, let’s say that you have just read an article about ISIS. 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If not, you may have to subscribe to the magazines you enjoy. These periodicals will give you details about the events you have read or heard about in the news. They often run comprehensive articles that focus on a specific region or topic. \\nThese magazines have online versions as well. Peruse their archives and don’t simply focus on current news. A piece on classical music from the 1930s might lead you to a composer you’ve never heard of. The more of these articles you read, the more you will broaden your general knowledge.\\nWriters in these magazines often write books as well. These books supply even more information about the topics that you have read about.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Appreciating Culture\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go to museums.\", \"描述\": \"Look at art pieces and engage with what you see. Take your time with several pieces. As you look at these art objects, consider what makes them special and unique. This will take time. Art appreciation involves unhurried contemplation.\\nEngage with each art object using a different lens. A painting is different from a photograph. Don't look at a contemporary work in the same way that you would look at a classical one. A newer oil painting deserves a different consideration than one from three hundred years ago. Remember that periods matter, as do movements.\\nTake a tour. The guide will pass along important details about significant pieces of artwork. Listen carefully, even if you have seen the piece before. You might learn something new about the artwork or the artist.\\nSee if they have informative print-outs. These can give you vital information about the museum’s collection.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read literature.\", \"描述\": \"Immerse yourself in both contemporary and classic literature. Fiction can help you be more empathetic by portraying the perspectives of a wide assortment of people. \\nStart with classic literature. For example, Plutarch’s Lives is a compendium of stories about Greek and Roman men who lived interesting lives. Each story examines both the positive and negative qualities of these men .Observe the characters in these stories, and absorb the lessons contained within these tales.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Read philosophy.\", \"描述\": \"Philosophy will give you the tools to discuss questions about morality and free will. By reading philosophy books, you will be able to examine your own life and thoughts more clearly. This can aid in decision-making.\\nRead foundational works of philosophy. Start with Plato’s Republic. This fundamental work consists of dialogues between Socrates and his students as they attempt to figure out what the perfect society would consist of. As they design their hypothetical city, they discourse on free will, morality, and belief.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take copious notes.\", \"描述\": \"When you read these books, keep a notepad handy so you can scribble down notes about the themes and ideas in these texts. You don’t want to get bogged down in every last detail, but writing down the most significant portions of what you’ve read is a great way to avoid becoming lost as you tackle these important works.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Watch films.\", \"描述\": \"See if you can find some art-house films. There are many excellent films in circulation. Take the opportunity to watch a few of them. If it helps, try to pick one director and watch as much of their filmography as possible. Then read criticism about films you have seen. Look for discussions about how that director decides to shoot and edit their films. \\nRead criticism. You might enjoy magazines like Sight and Sound and Cahiers du Cinema(in French). 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Ask them questions about subjects you don’t know much about. \\nTalk to people from a variety of professions. Education develops in various ways. An educated person realizes this. Your mechanic can be as knowledgeable as your professor.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go to public lectures.\", \"描述\": \"Find out if a scholar or writer is giving a talk in your neighborhood. Go to the talk and listen to what they have to say. Often after a talk, a question-and-answer session is held. Not only will you learn about a subject, but you will also be able to ask the lecturer questions directly. \\nTake accurate notes during the lecture. This will make it easier for you to come up with good, stimulating questions that will allow for an invigorating discussion. Don’t tire yourself writing down every word. Mark down just the key concepts and ideas.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stay open-minded.\", \"描述\": \"During the course of your conversations, you may find yourself disagreeing with various people. Try to understand their viewpoints. This does not mean that you need to agree with everything you hear. This would be foolish. However, an educated person does not dismiss someone based on a disagreement. Actually, arguments and debates show that you are willing to entertain ideas that are different from your own. They help you to develop your own point of view. \\nIf you disagree with a perspective, you could say something like \\\"I see why you would think this. However, I have a different take on the matter.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Behaving Well\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your composure.\", \"描述\": \"One mark of an educated person is a calm demeanor. Don’t be quick to anger. For example, don’t start screaming because someone has angered you. Instead, react calmly and try to resolve the issue. You don’t necessarily need to disguise your emotions. You might be angry, but don’t let that feeling affect the way you behave. \\nIf you find yourself becoming angry, try to center yourself. Meditation is a good way to do this.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak in a level tone of voice.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t raise your voice. You should communicate, but you do not want to be the loudest person in the room, as this can make it seem like you are trying to call attention to yourself. However, you don’t want to be too quiet either. If you are very quiet, you may seem timid. An educated person will aim to strike a balance in their speech.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be humble.\", \"描述\": \"An educated person is well-mannered and gentle. Avoid bragging and arrogance. Contribute to the conversation with a point of view, but do this selectively. You don’t need to show off your learning in every social situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"When you don't understand something, ask for an explanation. Don’t be afraid to do this. Show that you are willing to learn. It is better to make a mistake while learning something new than to remain in ignorance due to a fear of embarrassing yourself.\\nAn inquisitive mind is an intelligent one. If you did not understand a point, say: \\\"Would you mind explaining your last point again?\\\"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you have free time, read a book or magazine.\\n\", \"Write down interesting factoids. You can bring these up in conversation.\\n\", \"Don't stick to one news source.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Effective Engineering Student
1. Steps 1-1. Go to class. Yes, every class. Falling behind in engineering school is almost impossible to recover from, so don’t miss class unless you absolutely have to. Try to never miss a class unless there is a mandatory event you have to go to or you are very sick. Make it a top priority to personalize your class schedule to fit your availability. If you are not a morning person, try not to schedule a lecture at 8 am! This is a key first step to success in engineering or any other major. 1-2. Be attentive in class. Put away your phone, and don't mess around on your laptop if you use it to take notes. Paying attention to the flow of a lecture allows you to have a firm and smooth understanding of all the course material. In fast-paced classes like calculus and chemistry, losing focus for even a minute can leave you completely lost. Make it a priority to focus for the entire class period, then let yourself unwind when the class concludes. Lecture classes are the easiest to get distracted from, especially those that last a long time, and especially when you're tired. If you can, try to arrive at class well-rested and free from other distractions. 1-3. Take good notes. It might seem like you'll remember everything later, but after a few lectures it can all become a blur. Good notes can be the key to refreshing your memory, working through problem sets and studying for exams. Don't waste time copying down everything the professor writes if it's already in your textbook. It's easy to become so focused on writing equations that you stop following the content of the lecture! Focus on capturing the professor's insights and examples that you can't find anywhere else. Consider whether to take notes on a laptop or in a notebook, depending on the class. When most of your notes are words, a laptop can be much faster. But when notes are mostly equations and drawings, a good old fashioned notebook and pencil may be easiest. Some people even take notes and make drawings on a tablet. Try different options to see what is fastest and least distracting for you. 1-4. Read material before class. Most people need to see something at least several times to learn it, so give yourself a head start! Make it a point to read the material that will be covered in lecture the day before. This gives you a foundation for what you'll hear in class and helps you feel more confident during a fast-paced lecture, so you can focus on deepening your understanding instead of trying to keep up with the basics. Prepare questions in advance for parts that confuse you. If the lecture doesn't clarify the concepts for you, ask your questions during class. 1-5. Ask questions. Professors are not perfect and every student learns differently, so there will be times you don't understand something. Asking questions is one way to take charge of your own learning and ensure you get the information you need to succeed. Interacting with your professors helps you engage with the material more deeply and get personalized assistance when you need it. In most cultures and classes, students ask questions by raising their hand and asking the professor directly during class. Asking questions in class can sometimes be intimidating, but don't be scared! If you are confused by something, chances are others in the class are too, and you will be doing them a favor by asking about it. It is your right to ask all the questions you need in order to learn the material. If you missed the chance to speak with your professor during class, attend their office hours to receive one on one help. In larger classes, teaching assistants may hold extra office hours or problem sessions. Attending these can be a great way to get extra help and learn from other students. 1-6. Study outside of class. A good rule of thumb is to look at the number of credit hours for your class, then spend the same number of hours per week studying outside of class. For example, if you are taking a four credit class then you should spend at least four hours per week reviewing material, re-writing notes, and doing homework. This is just a guideline; adjust based on how much time you need to learn the material well. This does not have to be all at one time; space out your study sessions to be more effective. 1-7. Surround yourself with other engineering students. Collaboration is a key part of being an engineer, so get involved and don't be afraid to ask for help. Get involved with the engineering student community. One good way is to join an engineering association in your school or community (ASME, ASCE, ASCHE, etc.). Find a study buddy or group. Whether you are quizzing each other, going over homework, or discussing questions about the lecture, studying with others is very valuable. The optimal size for a study group is around 3-5 people, but even one person makes a huge difference. You will learn from seeing how other students approach problems and think about questions, and explaining your own thoughts to others will solidify your understanding. Learn to work in teams. A lot of your work as an engineer will be team oriented. The sooner that you can surround yourself with others and learn to work in a team, the better. Being an engineer is hard! The more people you have in your support network, the easier it will be. The relationships you form can be great networking opportunities for the future. 1-8. Don’t stress out. There will be times in engineering school where you have 2-3 difficult exams in one week. Prepare yourself ahead of time and don’t panic, because stress lessens the effectiveness of your study time. As an engineering student you’re going to be put in stressful situations. Take study breaks to help you relax and give your mind a break so you can return to studying with more focus. Just remember that one exam or quiz isn’t going to define you as an engineer. Tips Many different engineering majors usually have the same prerequisite classes (math, chemistry, etc.), so attempt to find old textbooks from past students instead of paying full price for brand new ones.
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Make it a priority to focus for the entire class period, then let yourself unwind when the class concludes.\\nLecture classes are the easiest to get distracted from, especially those that last a long time, and especially when you're tired. If you can, try to arrive at class well-rested and free from other distractions.\\n1-3. Take good notes.\\nIt might seem like you'll remember everything later, but after a few lectures it can all become a blur. Good notes can be the key to refreshing your memory, working through problem sets and studying for exams.\\nDon't waste time copying down everything the professor writes if it's already in your textbook. It's easy to become so focused on writing equations that you stop following the content of the lecture! Focus on capturing the professor's insights and examples that you can't find anywhere else.\\nConsider whether to take notes on a laptop or in a notebook, depending on the class. When most of your notes are words, a laptop can be much faster. But when notes are mostly equations and drawings, a good old fashioned notebook and pencil may be easiest. Some people even take notes and make drawings on a tablet. Try different options to see what is fastest and least distracting for you.\\n1-4. Read material before class.\\nMost people need to see something at least several times to learn it, so give yourself a head start!\\nMake it a point to read the material that will be covered in lecture the day before. This gives you a foundation for what you'll hear in class and helps you feel more confident during a fast-paced lecture, so you can focus on deepening your understanding instead of trying to keep up with the basics.\\nPrepare questions in advance for parts that confuse you. If the lecture doesn't clarify the concepts for you, ask your questions during class.\\n1-5. Ask questions.\\nProfessors are not perfect and every student learns differently, so there will be times you don't understand something. Asking questions is one way to take charge of your own learning and ensure you get the information you need to succeed. Interacting with your professors helps you engage with the material more deeply and get personalized assistance when you need it.\\nIn most cultures and classes, students ask questions by raising their hand and asking the professor directly during class.\\nAsking questions in class can sometimes be intimidating, but don't be scared! If you are confused by something, chances are others in the class are too, and you will be doing them a favor by asking about it. It is your right to ask all the questions you need in order to learn the material.\\nIf you missed the chance to speak with your professor during class, attend their office hours to receive one on one help.\\nIn larger classes, teaching assistants may hold extra office hours or problem sessions. Attending these can be a great way to get extra help and learn from other students.\\n1-6. Study outside of class.\\nA good rule of thumb is to look at the number of credit hours for your class, then spend the same number of hours per week studying outside of class. For example, if you are taking a four credit class then you should spend at least four hours per week reviewing material, re-writing notes, and doing homework. This is just a guideline; adjust based on how much time you need to learn the material well.\\nThis does not have to be all at one time; space out your study sessions to be more effective.\\n1-7. Surround yourself with other engineering students.\\nCollaboration is a key part of being an engineer, so get involved and don't be afraid to ask for help.\\nGet involved with the engineering student community. One good way is to join an engineering association in your school or community (ASME, ASCE, ASCHE, etc.).\\nFind a study buddy or group. Whether you are quizzing each other, going over homework, or discussing questions about the lecture, studying with others is very valuable. The optimal size for a study group is around 3-5 people, but even one person makes a huge difference. You will learn from seeing how other students approach problems and think about questions, and explaining your own thoughts to others will solidify your understanding.\\nLearn to work in teams. A lot of your work as an engineer will be team oriented. The sooner that you can surround yourself with others and learn to work in a team, the better.\\nBeing an engineer is hard! 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How to Be an Effective Public Speaker
1. Preparing Your Speech 1-1. Know your audience. This includes the expected size of the audience, as well as their age, gender, educational background, and socioeconomic status. It’s also important to know their level of knowledge about the topic you’re presenting. Finally, consider how the audience views you and what they will likely expect to gain from your presentation. For example, will you be presenting to people who are relatively new to the topic, or are you speaking at a professional event where people will have some familiarity? You’ll need to adjust your material to fit their needs. You want to avoid talking over people’s heads, but you also want to avoid giving them a lot of information they already know. Similarly, your presentation will differ depending on how the audience views you. If they see you as an expert on the topic, your speech should convey that knowledge and authority. 1-2. Determine the appropriate tone for your speech. You can think about the tone of your speech as the mood of the speech. It will be determined by the audience, occasion, topic, and purpose of your speech. You’ll also want to consider your personality, as you’ll want to use a tone that’s natural for you. If your topic is serious in nature, you may use a grave tone. Alternatively, you might choose a humorous tone for a speech delivered at a celebratory dinner. Generally you can use a conversational tone for any speech, regardless of the topic or size of the audience. Most important is to be authentic! Keep in mind that you don't need to use the same tone for your entire speech. For example, your presentation may start out serious but end with a fun, interactive segment. In this case, you'd want to adjust your tone as the presentation progressed. 1-3. Conduct research, if necessary. If you’re already an expert on your topic, then you may be able to compose your speech from memory or from your own notes. However, it’s important to do research if there are any gaps in your knowledge. Keep in mind that the audience may notice those gaps and ask questions. Also, audience members may appreciate statistics and facts that back up your points. If you know a lot about your topic, you might want to start writing your speech before doing research. This way you won’t waste time reviewing information you already know. For example, a biologist may be able to give a speech about cell division without doing additional research. Similarly, you'd likely be able to write a speech for your parents' anniversary without conducting research. If you don’t know much about your topic, do a little research, and then start outlining your speech. For example, if you were giving a speech to celebrate a local landmark, you might want to look up the history of the landmark and important details before you start writing. 1-4. Outline your speech if desired. Many people find that outlining helps them organize their thoughts and create a well-crafted speech. First, write your thesis, purpose, or controlling thought at the top of the page. Then, write out your main supporting points. Finally, write the conclusion that you want the audience to draw. Stick to 3-5 main points in a single speech. Avoid providing so much information that the reader can’t retain it. After you have a basic outline, you can make notes about what you want to say under each bullet point. You don’t need to write full sentences. Just write down enough words for you to remember what you want to say. An example thesis for a speech might look like this: “In this new exhibit, the artist’s personal history and passion for color come together to recreate a world that the viewer can almost touch.” 1-5. Create a “hook” to engage your audience. A hook is a sentence or phrase that captures the audience’s attention. In many cases, it gives them a personal stake in what you have to say. Alternatively, it may set up a question that you will answer in your speech. What’s important is that you give the audience a reason to want to listen. Ideally, your hook should come within the first 30 seconds of your speech. For example, “Like you, I once struggled to organize my time. Now, I get more done in a day than I did in an entire week,” or “When I started my research, I asked myself one question: How can we achieve the impossible?” 1-6. Add anecdotes or jokes. Although the audience wants to hear your speech, people lose attention quickly. Stories, particularly personal ones, and jokes help hold their attention and make your speech more enjoyable. Additionally, they help people relate to you. Just be sure not to say anything offensive or inappropriate. Audiences love to hear personal stories! They are one of the best ways to make your speech engaging and to pull the audience in. For example, you might start a speech about your scientific research by telling a story about a mishap from your first day in the lab. You might open a training presentation at work with a joke about work meetings. 1-7. Anticipate audience questions. If you have an idea about what the audience might ask, you can provide those answers in your speech. This ensures that your audience gets what they want from your presentation. Additionally, it’ll prevent you from getting caught off-guard if there’s a question-and-answer session. Consider your audience again. What do they expect to get out of your speech? What is their knowledge level? Use this information to consider what kinds of questions they may ask. 1-8. Make presentation materials, such as note cards. Although you don’t want to simply read your speech, having notes can keep you on track and ensure that nothing gets skipped. It’s a good idea to write out your major points so that you can glance down for a reminder, if you need it. You may also want to jot down a few words to remind yourself of important concepts that you don’t want to forget. Don’t write out full sentences, as this is more likely to trip you up. Just write the key words. Note cards work well, but some people may prefer to print out an outline on paper. 1-9. Be flexible. Planning is a big help, but it’s impossible to foresee everything. Don’t let last-minute changes throw you off. You don’t have to follow your prepared speech exactly. For example, you may plan your speech for a group of experts but realize on the night of your presentation that the audience has less background knowledge than you expected. In this case, you could present less of the material you’d planned to share but provide more explanation so that a beginner will understand. 2. Practicing Your Delivery 2-1. Practice your speech in the mirror. It’s normal to be nervous before speaking in public, even if you’re used to it. You can alleviate your nervousness by practicing the speech beforehand. Give your speech out loud, preferably in front of a mirror. This will allow you to watch yourself so that you can practice how you’re going to stand, what gestures you’ll make, and any movements you’ll make. 2-2. Film yourself giving your speech. Filming yourself is even more helpful than practicing in the mirror because you can experience what the audience will see! As you watch the video, pretend that you are an audience member. Make notes about what you like about your presentation, as well as what you might like to change. You may want to film yourself more than once if you have things you want to work on. Alternatively, you could have your friend watch you practice the speech and then give a critique. 2-3. Time your speech. Your speech likely has a time limit, so you want to make sure that you fit within that window. Similarly, you don’t want to end your speech too early. Luckily, practice can ensure that your speech fits into your time slot. Use the timer on your phone, a clock, or a handheld timer to time your speech. Make adjustments as necessary. It’s best to practice your speech a few times before you start timing it, so that your delivery is smooth. At first, you might spend a few extra seconds here and there trying to remember what it is you wanted to say. 2-4. Memorize your main points. This will make it easier for you to deliver your speech. Additionally, it’ll ensure that you cover all of your material. Don’t try to memorize your whole speech. Not only is this difficult, but it can make your delivery a bit robotic. Knowing just the main points will keep your flow natural. 2-5. Practice using your visual aids, if you have them. Visual aids like PowerPoint, posters, or video presentations can support your speech, but they can also detract from your presentation if you experience a glitch. Incorporate them into your practice sessions so that you get used to transitioning through them without issue. Get used to presenting alongside your visual aids without reading directly from them, as people don't like being read to. Keep in mind that there may be technical issues and you may not be able to access a powerpoint or prezi. Make sure you can deliver your speech without these things, if necessary. 3. Giving Your Presentation 3-1. Mingle with the audience members before you give your speech. This gives you an opportunity to gauge their potential response so that you make adjustments in your delivery, such as omitting a joke. You can also get a better idea about what they hope to get from your speech. Finally, this allows the audience to see you as a person, making them more likely to relate positively to you. Stand by the door and greet people. Introduce yourself to people as they find their seats. If you’re sitting in the audience before your speech, talk to the people around you. 3-2. Review your notes before your speech. Glance over them once or twice on the day of your presentation. This will refresh your memory so that you are less likely to forget information. Don’t stress! Trust yourself to remember what you need to say. 3-3. Articulate your words. Speak in a slow, clear voice, taking the time to enunciate each word. At times, it can feel like you’re talking too slowly, but it actually makes it easier for the audience to follow your speech. It helps to breathe deeply as you’re giving your speech so that you’re less likely to talk too fast. 3-4. Use gestures to emphasize your points. This can include intentional hand movements and your movements on the stage. For example, you might want to use your fingers to indicate the point you’re on, or drive your hand down to emphasis a point. Use gestures that are natural for you, as forcing them will look fake. However, you should avoid nervous gestures. Make sure your movements are intentional, not a result of fidgeting. 3-5. Adjust to follow the audience’s reaction. Sometimes audiences react differently than you expected, and that’s okay. For example, they may not enjoy your humorous elements. If this happens, adjust your tone and delivery slightly to meet their reactions. For example, if your audience is laughing at your jokes, let the room quiet down before continuing. If they aren’t laughing, but are smiling or nodding, you don’t need to cut out your jokes. Recognize that larger audiences may provide more intense reactions than smaller ones, as people feel less self-conscious in large groups. If your audience seems to be lost, you might lighten your tone and give more explanations. 3-6. Use audio-visual aids only as needed. Unnecessary audio-visual aids can be distracting to audience members. This detracts from your speech. Don’t read from slides, as people don’t enjoy being read to. You can use audio-visual aids in fun ways to add to your presentation. For example, you might include a short video about the latest discoveries in your field. 3-7. Involve the audience. This is one of the best ways to keep your audience engaged. It can also help them remember more from your speech. You can do this by asking them to respond to you or allowing them to ask you questions. Ask the audience to repeat your key phrases. You could also get the audience to make a particular sound or gesture at certain points in the speech. Ask the audience to offer examples or suggestions. Take audience questions. 3-8. Be yourself. Although it might be tempting to adopt a persona, don’t try to be someone you aren’t. The audience is there to see you! Have the confidence to put a bit of yourself into your speech. Remember, it’s possible to give a professional speech and still be yourself. For example, if you are boisterous and lively in life, then be like that when you speak. However, don’t try to force yourself to act that way if it isn’t natural. 3-9. Calm yourself if you start to feel nervous. Feeling nervous before speaking in public is totally normal, so don't give yourself a hard time. If you start to feel nervous, you can try a few techniques for calming yourself down: Imagine your presentation going well. Focus on the purpose of your speech rather than your nervous feelings. Breathe deeply to calm yourself. Jog in place or wave your arms above your head to burn off nervous energy. Limit your caffeine consumption before you're scheduled to present. Tips Don't let being anxious or nervous lower your confidence. Embrace it by expressing it as excitement and enthusiasm. Remember that no one knows your speech but you. The audience have attended to hear you speak, so they are interested in what you have to say. Enjoy the experience of being the center of attention!
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Determine the appropriate tone for your speech.\\nYou can think about the tone of your speech as the mood of the speech. It will be determined by the audience, occasion, topic, and purpose of your speech. You’ll also want to consider your personality, as you’ll want to use a tone that’s natural for you.\\nIf your topic is serious in nature, you may use a grave tone. Alternatively, you might choose a humorous tone for a speech delivered at a celebratory dinner.\\nGenerally you can use a conversational tone for any speech, regardless of the topic or size of the audience. Most important is to be authentic!\\nKeep in mind that you don't need to use the same tone for your entire speech. For example, your presentation may start out serious but end with a fun, interactive segment. In this case, you'd want to adjust your tone as the presentation progressed.\\n1-3. Conduct research, if necessary.\\nIf you’re already an expert on your topic, then you may be able to compose your speech from memory or from your own notes. However, it’s important to do research if there are any gaps in your knowledge. Keep in mind that the audience may notice those gaps and ask questions. Also, audience members may appreciate statistics and facts that back up your points.\\nIf you know a lot about your topic, you might want to start writing your speech before doing research. This way you won’t waste time reviewing information you already know. For example, a biologist may be able to give a speech about cell division without doing additional research. Similarly, you'd likely be able to write a speech for your parents' anniversary without conducting research.\\nIf you don’t know much about your topic, do a little research, and then start outlining your speech. For example, if you were giving a speech to celebrate a local landmark, you might want to look up the history of the landmark and important details before you start writing.\\n1-4. Outline your speech if desired.\\nMany people find that outlining helps them organize their thoughts and create a well-crafted speech. First, write your thesis, purpose, or controlling thought at the top of the page. Then, write out your main supporting points. Finally, write the conclusion that you want the audience to draw.\\nStick to 3-5 main points in a single speech. Avoid providing so much information that the reader can’t retain it.\\nAfter you have a basic outline, you can make notes about what you want to say under each bullet point.\\nYou don’t need to write full sentences. Just write down enough words for you to remember what you want to say.\\nAn example thesis for a speech might look like this: “In this new exhibit, the artist’s personal history and passion for color come together to recreate a world that the viewer can almost touch.”\\n1-5. Create a “hook” to engage your audience.\\nA hook is a sentence or phrase that captures the audience’s attention. In many cases, it gives them a personal stake in what you have to say. Alternatively, it may set up a question that you will answer in your speech. What’s important is that you give the audience a reason to want to listen.\\nIdeally, your hook should come within the first 30 seconds of your speech.\\nFor example, “Like you, I once struggled to organize my time. Now, I get more done in a day than I did in an entire week,” or “When I started my research, I asked myself one question: How can we achieve the impossible?”\\n1-6. Add anecdotes or jokes.\\nAlthough the audience wants to hear your speech, people lose attention quickly. Stories, particularly personal ones, and jokes help hold their attention and make your speech more enjoyable. Additionally, they help people relate to you. Just be sure not to say anything offensive or inappropriate.\\nAudiences love to hear personal stories! They are one of the best ways to make your speech engaging and to pull the audience in.\\nFor example, you might start a speech about your scientific research by telling a story about a mishap from your first day in the lab.\\nYou might open a training presentation at work with a joke about work meetings.\\n1-7. Anticipate audience questions.\\nIf you have an idea about what the audience might ask, you can provide those answers in your speech. This ensures that your audience gets what they want from your presentation. Additionally, it’ll prevent you from getting caught off-guard if there’s a question-and-answer session.\\nConsider your audience again. What do they expect to get out of your speech? What is their knowledge level? Use this information to consider what kinds of questions they may ask.\\n1-8. Make presentation materials, such as note cards.\\nAlthough you don’t want to simply read your speech, having notes can keep you on track and ensure that nothing gets skipped. It’s a good idea to write out your major points so that you can glance down for a reminder, if you need it.\\nYou may also want to jot down a few words to remind yourself of important concepts that you don’t want to forget.\\nDon’t write out full sentences, as this is more likely to trip you up. Just write the key words.\\nNote cards work well, but some people may prefer to print out an outline on paper.\\n1-9. Be flexible.\\nPlanning is a big help, but it’s impossible to foresee everything. Don’t let last-minute changes throw you off. You don’t have to follow your prepared speech exactly.\\nFor example, you may plan your speech for a group of experts but realize on the night of your presentation that the audience has less background knowledge than you expected. In this case, you could present less of the material you’d planned to share but provide more explanation so that a beginner will understand.\\n2. Practicing Your Delivery\\n2-1. Practice your speech in the mirror.\\nIt’s normal to be nervous before speaking in public, even if you’re used to it. You can alleviate your nervousness by practicing the speech beforehand. Give your speech out loud, preferably in front of a mirror. This will allow you to watch yourself so that you can practice how you’re going to stand, what gestures you’ll make, and any movements you’ll make.\\n2-2. Film yourself giving your speech.\\nFilming yourself is even more helpful than practicing in the mirror because you can experience what the audience will see! As you watch the video, pretend that you are an audience member. Make notes about what you like about your presentation, as well as what you might like to change.\\nYou may want to film yourself more than once if you have things you want to work on.\\nAlternatively, you could have your friend watch you practice the speech and then give a critique.\\n2-3. Time your speech.\\nYour speech likely has a time limit, so you want to make sure that you fit within that window. Similarly, you don’t want to end your speech too early. Luckily, practice can ensure that your speech fits into your time slot. Use the timer on your phone, a clock, or a handheld timer to time your speech. Make adjustments as necessary.\\nIt’s best to practice your speech a few times before you start timing it, so that your delivery is smooth. At first, you might spend a few extra seconds here and there trying to remember what it is you wanted to say.\\n2-4. Memorize your main points.\\nThis will make it easier for you to deliver your speech. Additionally, it’ll ensure that you cover all of your material.\\nDon’t try to memorize your whole speech. Not only is this difficult, but it can make your delivery a bit robotic. Knowing just the main points will keep your flow natural.\\n2-5. Practice using your visual aids, if you have them.\\nVisual aids like PowerPoint, posters, or video presentations can support your speech, but they can also detract from your presentation if you experience a glitch. Incorporate them into your practice sessions so that you get used to transitioning through them without issue.\\nGet used to presenting alongside your visual aids without reading directly from them, as people don't like being read to.\\nKeep in mind that there may be technical issues and you may not be able to access a powerpoint or prezi. Make sure you can deliver your speech without these things, if necessary.\\n3. Giving Your Presentation\\n3-1. Mingle with the audience members before you give your speech.\\nThis gives you an opportunity to gauge their potential response so that you make adjustments in your delivery, such as omitting a joke. You can also get a better idea about what they hope to get from your speech. Finally, this allows the audience to see you as a person, making them more likely to relate positively to you.\\nStand by the door and greet people.\\nIntroduce yourself to people as they find their seats.\\nIf you’re sitting in the audience before your speech, talk to the people around you.\\n3-2. Review your notes before your speech.\\nGlance over them once or twice on the day of your presentation. This will refresh your memory so that you are less likely to forget information.\\nDon’t stress! Trust yourself to remember what you need to say.\\n3-3. Articulate your words.\\nSpeak in a slow, clear voice, taking the time to enunciate each word. At times, it can feel like you’re talking too slowly, but it actually makes it easier for the audience to follow your speech.\\nIt helps to breathe deeply as you’re giving your speech so that you’re less likely to talk too fast.\\n3-4. Use gestures to emphasize your points.\\nThis can include intentional hand movements and your movements on the stage. For example, you might want to use your fingers to indicate the point you’re on, or drive your hand down to emphasis a point. Use gestures that are natural for you, as forcing them will look fake.\\nHowever, you should avoid nervous gestures. Make sure your movements are intentional, not a result of fidgeting.\\n3-5. Adjust to follow the audience’s reaction.\\nSometimes audiences react differently than you expected, and that’s okay. For example, they may not enjoy your humorous elements. If this happens, adjust your tone and delivery slightly to meet their reactions.\\nFor example, if your audience is laughing at your jokes, let the room quiet down before continuing. If they aren’t laughing, but are smiling or nodding, you don’t need to cut out your jokes. Recognize that larger audiences may provide more intense reactions than smaller ones, as people feel less self-conscious in large groups.\\nIf your audience seems to be lost, you might lighten your tone and give more explanations.\\n3-6. Use audio-visual aids only as needed.\\nUnnecessary audio-visual aids can be distracting to audience members. This detracts from your speech.\\nDon’t read from slides, as people don’t enjoy being read to.\\nYou can use audio-visual aids in fun ways to add to your presentation. For example, you might include a short video about the latest discoveries in your field.\\n3-7. Involve the audience.\\nThis is one of the best ways to keep your audience engaged. It can also help them remember more from your speech. You can do this by asking them to respond to you or allowing them to ask you questions.\\nAsk the audience to repeat your key phrases.\\nYou could also get the audience to make a particular sound or gesture at certain points in the speech.\\nAsk the audience to offer examples or suggestions.\\nTake audience questions.\\n3-8. Be yourself.\\nAlthough it might be tempting to adopt a persona, don’t try to be someone you aren’t. The audience is there to see you! Have the confidence to put a bit of yourself into your speech. Remember, it’s possible to give a professional speech and still be yourself.\\nFor example, if you are boisterous and lively in life, then be like that when you speak. However, don’t try to force yourself to act that way if it isn’t natural.\\n3-9. Calm yourself if you start to feel nervous.\\nFeeling nervous before speaking in public is totally normal, so don't give yourself a hard time. If you start to feel nervous, you can try a few techniques for calming yourself down:\\nImagine your presentation going well.\\nFocus on the purpose of your speech rather than your nervous feelings.\\nBreathe deeply to calm yourself.\\nJog in place or wave your arms above your head to burn off nervous energy.\\nLimit your caffeine consumption before you're scheduled to present.\\nTips\\nDon't let being anxious or nervous lower your confidence. Embrace it by expressing it as excitement and enthusiasm.\\nRemember that no one knows your speech but you.\\nThe audience have attended to hear you speak, so they are interested in what you have to say. Enjoy the experience of being the center of attention!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Even accomplished public speakers worry about whether or not their presentation is effective. Fortunately, improving your effectiveness as a public speaker is very simple! To be an effective public speaker, prepare a well-developed speech that fits your audience. Then, practice your delivery prior to giving the speech. Finally, connect with the audience, articulate your words, and use gestures as you give your speech.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing Your Speech\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know your audience.\", \"描述\": \"This includes the expected size of the audience, as well as their age, gender, educational background, and socioeconomic status. It’s also important to know their level of knowledge about the topic you’re presenting. Finally, consider how the audience views you and what they will likely expect to gain from your presentation.\\nFor example, will you be presenting to people who are relatively new to the topic, or are you speaking at a professional event where people will have some familiarity? You’ll need to adjust your material to fit their needs. 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Avoid providing so much information that the reader can’t retain it.\\nAfter you have a basic outline, you can make notes about what you want to say under each bullet point.\\nYou don’t need to write full sentences. Just write down enough words for you to remember what you want to say.\\nAn example thesis for a speech might look like this: “In this new exhibit, the artist’s personal history and passion for color come together to recreate a world that the viewer can almost touch.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create a “hook” to engage your audience.\", \"描述\": \"A hook is a sentence or phrase that captures the audience’s attention. In many cases, it gives them a personal stake in what you have to say. Alternatively, it may set up a question that you will answer in your speech. What’s important is that you give the audience a reason to want to listen.\\nIdeally, your hook should come within the first 30 seconds of your speech.\\nFor example, “Like you, I once struggled to organize my time. 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How to Be an Effective Supervisor
1. Gaining Credibility 1-1. Have faith in yourself. One of the worst things you can do as a supervisor is to doubt your own abilities. If you're new to supervising others, recognize that you will probably make some mistakes along the way, but that does not mean you are not a good leader. Cut yourself a little slack, but then commit yourself to doing the best you can. Keep in mind that you were hired to be a supervisor because your boss believes that you are capable of doing the job! Now you just have to prove your boss right. Don't let yourself believe that bosses never make mistakes. Nobody expects you to be perfect except yourself. 1-2. Lead by example. It's important to give your employees a good example of model behavior. Just because you are in charge does not mean you no longer have to abide by the rules. If you are hard-working, committed, and ethical, your employees are more likely to be that way too. Remember not to let your new-found power go to your head. It's important to respect your employees if you want them to respect you in return. Your attitude is just as important as your actions. Always be friendly and professional. 1-3. Be consistent. It's important that your employees know what to expect out of you. Be sure to always lay out the rules and expectations to new employees and to enforce these policies consistently. If there are changes to the policy, make sure the employees understand them. Try to keep your emotions under control as much as possible. Always treat employees fairly, and don't favor one over another. 1-4. Be willing to change. Good supervisors can't be completely stuck in their ways. They need to be willing to recognize when a specific approach isn't working and make changes accordingly, even if it involves admitting that they were wrong. You also need to be able to adapt your management style to the needs of different employees. Some employees may flourish under hands-on management, while others may benefit from more freedom. It is your responsibility to recognize these needs and react accordingly. This does not mean that you should have different standards for different employees in the same role. While you may want to customize your approach to each employee's working style, you still must be consistent in your expectations and disciplinary measures. 1-5. Be accountable. As the supervisor, you are responsible for your whole team. If you miss a deadline or lose a client, don't point fingers and blame others for the mistake. Instead, evaluate the role you played, admit your own mistakes, and come up with a plan to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. 2. Getting the Most Out of Your Team 2-1. Communicate effectively. Communication is vital to good leadership. You need to communicate your expectations clearly, whether you're explaining a single project or reminding the entire team about the company's policies. Make sure you take the time to get to know all of your employees, and let them know that you are available to talk to them whenever necessary. Communication involves listening as well as talking, so be open to listening to whatever input your employees have for you. When you give workers your undivided attention, they feel respected and are more willing to listen to your guidance. Strictly giving orders without listening can erode worker commitment and enthusiasm. Avoid lecturing workers or sending directives by way of wordy emails. Think about the most important messages you want to convey and communicate them face-to-face or over the phone. Put thought into your email communications to ensure that they are clear, concise, and respectful. Regular meetings with employees will give you the opportunity to ask them about the projects they are working on, hear worker grievances and triumphs, discuss team successes, and brainstorm solutions to new problems. Always be responsive by answering your employees' emails and returning their calls promptly. Multitasking is very convenient in today's busy world, but sometimes it just doesn't work. Let your employees know that you value their time by putting all distractions aside when you meet with them. 2-2. Set reasonable expectations. You can't expect perfection out of your team, so be careful about over-criticizing or setting goals that are beyond reach. This will only discourage your employees. You can still expect excellence out of your employees, as long as that excellence is actually attainable. Take the time to talk to your employees about your expectations and get their feedback. If you encourage an honest discussion, your employees are more likely to let you know if your expectations seem unreasonable. You should have a good understanding of the work volume that already exists and the amount of time it will take your employees to finish a specific project before setting a deadline. If you don't have the right information, you risk over-committing your team. 2-3. Delegate responsibilities. As a supervisor, it's impossible for you to do everything yourself, so you need to be able to trust your employees to take care of things without you. You may have to give up a little control, but you will have more time to focus on your own responsibilities and you will be giving your employees the opportunity to flourish. Remember that you are still ultimately responsible for your employees' work, even if you delegate specific tasks to others. If you don't completely trust your employees to do the work on their own, establish some kind of review process until you think they can handle it. 2-4. Reward accomplishments. When an employee does a good job, it's important to acknowledge it! Give all of your employees credit for a job well done and let them know that their hard work is appreciated. Some supervisors feel threatened by successful employees, but this will only hinder your ability to be an effective supervisor. You should be proud of your high-performing employees, not jealous. 2-5. Encourage growth. One of your responsibilities as a supervisor is to unlock the potential of all of your employees. You can do this by offering constructive criticism and by looking for ways to allow them to take on new responsibilities or new roles within the organization. Pay attention to the unique talents and skills of each worker and utilize those strengths for the benefit of the project or company. For example, a worker may be excellent on the phones but a slow typist. Find opportunities for her to apply her phone skills to building company connections, selling products, or serving customers. Whenever possible, offer training to employees to help them learn new skills. A slow typist, for example, can be encouraged to take a typing class or be assigned additional typing tasks to improve her skills. Avoid drawing attention to weaknesses unnecessarily. Excessive focus on employee weaknesses can result in discouragement and low employee morale. Use employee reviews as an opportunity to both praise your employees for their strengths and to offer constructive criticism on what they can do better. Part of being an effective manager is assisting employees to transform their weaknesses into competencies. The first step is creating awareness of an area that needs improvement. Don't wait for your employee's next yearly review if you can offer some constructive criticism today! 2-6. Confront conflict. Supervisors have to deal with a lot of uncomfortable situations, from disputes between employees to layoffs. While it may be tempting to avoid dealing with these situations as much as possible, it's best to tackle them head-on instead. Your employees will not respect you if they see you as someone who runs away in the face of conflict. When having a difficult conversation with an employee, always focus on objective observations and avoid making accusations. 3. Meeting the Demands 3-1. Don't procrastinate. Procrastination is bad when employees do it, but it's even worse when supervisors do it. As a leader, you need to make a plan for tackling a project as soon as possible. 3-2. Find solutions. Instead of wasting your time complaining about the problems your organization or your department is facing, use that time to come up with a game plan. Keep in mind that long-term solutions are always better than short-term solutions, even if they are harder to implement. Being an effective problem solver means staying focused on the facts of the situation and thinking of creative solutions. Avoid focusing on emotions and blame. Think of the necessary steps for helping employees to regain composure and resume the task at hand. 3-3. Challenge yourself. Good leaders should always be looking for new ways to challenge themselves and their teams. This doesn't mean overwhelming your team or taking on more than you can handle, but it does mean stepping outside of your comfort zone every once in a while. Encourage employees to do the same by offering them the opportunity to work on projects that are unfamiliar to them. 3-4. Set goals. It's important that a leader have a good understanding of the department's goals and objectives, so take some time periodically to go over the projects your team is working on. Create specific deadlines or targets for your employees to help keep them on track and motivated. Be sure to listen to your team if they tell you the goals are not attainable. There's no reason a goal can't be modified. The better your sense is of how much your team has to accomplish in a certain amount of time, the better you will understand how much additional work they are actually able to take on. 3-5. Be supportive. The supervisor needs to be able to step in and help the team problem solve whenever necessary. Make sure your team knows that if they are ever having a problem with a project, you are available to help them figure it out. The importance of feedback cannot be overstated. Make sure you let your employees know how they are doing, whether good or bad. 3-6. Streamline processes. Create systems to save employees time on a task and/or to eliminate errors. Create documents that outline employee responsibilities and who is responsible for which tasks. Automate menial tasks whenever possible, encouraging employees to focus more on productive and engaging projects. 3-7. Be resilient. Not everything will go according to plan, and as a supervisor, you need to be okay with that. Try not to take failures too personally. Instead, learn from them and apply that knowledge to your next project so you can avoid the same mistakes. Keep in mind that negative energy will trickle down to your entire team, so be sure to set the right tone. Tips It's critical that your employees trust you, but that won't happen if you don't show them that you trust them too.[23] X Research source It's important to pick your battles. Supervisors face a lot of conflicts every day. Don't take yourself too seriously! You can still enjoy your job and encourage a fun work atmosphere.
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They need to be willing to recognize when a specific approach isn't working and make changes accordingly, even if it involves admitting that they were wrong.\\nYou also need to be able to adapt your management style to the needs of different employees. Some employees may flourish under hands-on management, while others may benefit from more freedom. It is your responsibility to recognize these needs and react accordingly.\\nThis does not mean that you should have different standards for different employees in the same role. While you may want to customize your approach to each employee's working style, you still must be consistent in your expectations and disciplinary measures.\\n1-5. Be accountable.\\nAs the supervisor, you are responsible for your whole team. If you miss a deadline or lose a client, don't point fingers and blame others for the mistake. Instead, evaluate the role you played, admit your own mistakes, and come up with a plan to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.\\n2. Getting the Most Out of Your Team\\n2-1. Communicate effectively.\\nCommunication is vital to good leadership. You need to communicate your expectations clearly, whether you're explaining a single project or reminding the entire team about the company's policies.\\nMake sure you take the time to get to know all of your employees, and let them know that you are available to talk to them whenever necessary.\\nCommunication involves listening as well as talking, so be open to listening to whatever input your employees have for you. When you give workers your undivided attention, they feel respected and are more willing to listen to your guidance. Strictly giving orders without listening can erode worker commitment and enthusiasm.\\nAvoid lecturing workers or sending directives by way of wordy emails. Think about the most important messages you want to convey and communicate them face-to-face or over the phone. Put thought into your email communications to ensure that they are clear, concise, and respectful.\\nRegular meetings with employees will give you the opportunity to ask them about the projects they are working on, hear worker grievances and triumphs, discuss team successes, and brainstorm solutions to new problems.\\nAlways be responsive by answering your employees' emails and returning their calls promptly.\\nMultitasking is very convenient in today's busy world, but sometimes it just doesn't work. Let your employees know that you value their time by putting all distractions aside when you meet with them.\\n2-2. Set reasonable expectations.\\nYou can't expect perfection out of your team, so be careful about over-criticizing or setting goals that are beyond reach. This will only discourage your employees.\\nYou can still expect excellence out of your employees, as long as that excellence is actually attainable.\\nTake the time to talk to your employees about your expectations and get their feedback. If you encourage an honest discussion, your employees are more likely to let you know if your expectations seem unreasonable.\\nYou should have a good understanding of the work volume that already exists and the amount of time it will take your employees to finish a specific project before setting a deadline. If you don't have the right information, you risk over-committing your team.\\n2-3. Delegate responsibilities.\\nAs a supervisor, it's impossible for you to do everything yourself, so you need to be able to trust your employees to take care of things without you. You may have to give up a little control, but you will have more time to focus on your own responsibilities and you will be giving your employees the opportunity to flourish.\\nRemember that you are still ultimately responsible for your employees' work, even if you delegate specific tasks to others. If you don't completely trust your employees to do the work on their own, establish some kind of review process until you think they can handle it.\\n2-4. Reward accomplishments.\\nWhen an employee does a good job, it's important to acknowledge it! Give all of your employees credit for a job well done and let them know that their hard work is appreciated.\\nSome supervisors feel threatened by successful employees, but this will only hinder your ability to be an effective supervisor. You should be proud of your high-performing employees, not jealous.\\n2-5. Encourage growth.\\nOne of your responsibilities as a supervisor is to unlock the potential of all of your employees. You can do this by offering constructive criticism and by looking for ways to allow them to take on new responsibilities or new roles within the organization.\\nPay attention to the unique talents and skills of each worker and utilize those strengths for the benefit of the project or company. For example, a worker may be excellent on the phones but a slow typist. Find opportunities for her to apply her phone skills to building company connections, selling products, or serving customers.\\nWhenever possible, offer training to employees to help them learn new skills. A slow typist, for example, can be encouraged to take a typing class or be assigned additional typing tasks to improve her skills.\\nAvoid drawing attention to weaknesses unnecessarily. Excessive focus on employee weaknesses can result in discouragement and low employee morale.\\nUse employee reviews as an opportunity to both praise your employees for their strengths and to offer constructive criticism on what they can do better. Part of being an effective manager is assisting employees to transform their weaknesses into competencies. The first step is creating awareness of an area that needs improvement.\\nDon't wait for your employee's next yearly review if you can offer some constructive criticism today!\\n2-6. Confront conflict.\\nSupervisors have to deal with a lot of uncomfortable situations, from disputes between employees to layoffs. While it may be tempting to avoid dealing with these situations as much as possible, it's best to tackle them head-on instead.\\nYour employees will not respect you if they see you as someone who runs away in the face of conflict.\\nWhen having a difficult conversation with an employee, always focus on objective observations and avoid making accusations.\\n3. Meeting the Demands\\n3-1. Don't procrastinate.\\nProcrastination is bad when employees do it, but it's even worse when supervisors do it. As a leader, you need to make a plan for tackling a project as soon as possible.\\n3-2. Find solutions.\\nInstead of wasting your time complaining about the problems your organization or your department is facing, use that time to come up with a game plan.\\nKeep in mind that long-term solutions are always better than short-term solutions, even if they are harder to implement.\\nBeing an effective problem solver means staying focused on the facts of the situation and thinking of creative solutions. Avoid focusing on emotions and blame. Think of the necessary steps for helping employees to regain composure and resume the task at hand.\\n3-3. Challenge yourself.\\nGood leaders should always be looking for new ways to challenge themselves and their teams. \\nThis doesn't mean overwhelming your team or taking on more than you can handle, but it does mean stepping outside of your comfort zone every once in a while. Encourage employees to do the same by offering them the opportunity to work on projects that are unfamiliar to them.\\n3-4. Set goals.\\nIt's important that a leader have a good understanding of the department's goals and objectives, so take some time periodically to go over the projects your team is working on. Create specific deadlines or targets for your employees to help keep them on track and motivated.\\nBe sure to listen to your team if they tell you the goals are not attainable. There's no reason a goal can't be modified.\\nThe better your sense is of how much your team has to accomplish in a certain amount of time, the better you will understand how much additional work they are actually able to take on.\\n3-5. Be supportive.\\nThe supervisor needs to be able to step in and help the team problem solve whenever necessary. Make sure your team knows that if they are ever having a problem with a project, you are available to help them figure it out.\\nThe importance of feedback cannot be overstated. Make sure you let your employees know how they are doing, whether good or bad.\\n3-6. Streamline processes.\\nCreate systems to save employees time on a task and/or to eliminate errors. Create documents that outline employee responsibilities and who is responsible for which tasks.\\nAutomate menial tasks whenever possible, encouraging employees to focus more on productive and engaging projects.\\n3-7. Be resilient.\\nNot everything will go according to plan, and as a supervisor, you need to be okay with that. Try not to take failures too personally. Instead, learn from them and apply that knowledge to your next project so you can avoid the same mistakes.\\nKeep in mind that negative energy will trickle down to your entire team, so be sure to set the right tone.\\nTips\\nIt's critical that your employees trust you, but that won't happen if you don't show them that you trust them too.[23]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nIt's important to pick your battles. Supervisors face a lot of conflicts every day.\\nDon't take yourself too seriously! 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How to Be an Efficient Restaurant Dishwasher
1. Before Your Shift 1-1. Come in a few minutes early and survey the station. At any restaurant, Fridays and Saturdays are the most popular days of the week for people dine out with family and friends. When you get in the back of the house, it's good to review the station before jumping in on the action. 1-2. Catch up. Put any clean dishes and utensils away and claim any dirty dishes from around the restaurant. Use the beginning part of your shift to get as far ahead as possible, as this will minimize unnecessary stacking later. 1-3. Check the dishwasher soap level. All automatic dishwasher machines are connected to a soap line and can be refilled using removable jugs or bottles. Ensure you have a full load or enough to get you through the shift. 1-4. Empty the food drains in the machine. Like sinks, dishwasher drains can handle so much food before creating problems, such as water overflowing. Especially working the second or third shift, you do not want the previous dishwasher's leftovers clogging your drain. 2. During Your Shift 2-1. Get a washing rhythm down. If you cannot create or stay with a rhythm, you will get stressed out. Dishwashers must handle just about any dish from the different sections of the restaurant: Servers and bussers may give you the typical plates, glasses, and utensils; the cooks might give you pans and pots; and the prep cooks may give you prep pans, cutting boards, whisks, and bowls. 2-2. Learn how to use the water sprayer efficiently. The sprayer will stop a lot of food from entering the machine, since you are pre-rinsing them. Avoid spending too much time on one rack, though. Establish the rhythm of going back and forth.—You should spend only a few seconds on a rack before pushing it. 2-3. Use the appropriate sponges. You could possibly get away using an abrasive wire sponge on a charred and greasy pan, but use a non-abrasive scrub on ceramic dishes. If you have an automatic dishwasher, push the item through the machine and allow the hot water loosen the food from the dish. If you are required to wash by hand, add hot, soapy water to the dish and set it aside for a few minutes to allow it to soak. 2-4. Get to know your food enemies. Never think the machine is going to do all the work for you. As you do your job, make a mental list of foods that needs to be scrubbed off in their entirety before putting sending the dish through the machine. Some foods include: Melted cheese Clam chowder and other chunky soups Egg yolk Sauces Mashed potatoes 2-5. Expect some unplanned demands. Cooks likely have a limited amount of saute pans to work with, so, if they need you to clean them, that should be your first priority.—The other dishes will have to be queued behind the high-priority dish of the moment. Maintain focus on other important things used in the restaurant, such as bread holders for servers and key utensils used by the prep cooks. Always keep an eye on the silverware: Knives are given out with meat dishes, bread, and baked potatoes; spoons are given out with coffee, ice cream, and other desserts. 2-6. Scrub all nooks and crannies. It's frustrating beyond belief to do so, but put yourself in a diner's view. - You would like the best and most enjoyable meal when you dine out, but what if you found your meal came on a plate with a smudge of leftover sauce from the previous diner? 2-7. Double check the dishes. Ensure dishes are whistle-clean before stacking or putting them on the side. If there are food remnants or stains, rewash the item. 2-8. Get the clean, sanitized dishes put away. Incorporate a rhythm of splitting up the clean dishes on every other run to different parts of the restaurant. Most-to-all restaurants have a rack, counter, or pushcart to stack dishes and utensils. 3. After Your Shift 3-1. Empty the dish machine food drains. If you are on a dinner shift, you must thoroughly clean all drains as much as you can. 3-2. Empty the sink drain. Treat the area as your own kitchen and clean it out as much as you can. 3-3. Put any dishes away. When you are finished rinsing your final load, this is typically when all servers, cooks, and bussers are gone. Depending on how exhausted and soaked you are, the first thing on your mind is liable to be: Bunch dishes in the easiest spots available, clock out, and hit the road. You must condition yourself to be patient and complete everything to near-perfection before walking out the door. Learn to persist in putting each and every item away in its appointed place, so your co-workers can easily find everything the next day. 3-4. Throw out the trash Garbage take-out usually lands on the dishwasher's list of things to do, although some restaurant establishments have cleaning crews that handle this responsibility. Be safe when doing so. Taking out restaurant trash is never the same as normal trash, as it will include wet food, water, and other items that will weigh the bags down . Use the proper lifting techniques (bending your knees) or get another person to help you lift. Refrain from twisting your spine while handling an over-heavy burden. Move your feet to turn your body appropriately. Tips Bring a drink to work or make a drink from the restaurant's soda machine, if allowed, before your shift starts. Keep a pace and avoid stressing. If you break into a stress moment, it can be hard to get out of it. Stop what you are doing and take a minute for a breather. Never be afraid to ask someone where something goes. Learn from it and it will become an instant habit. Warnings Avoid storing wet dishes without drying them or allowing them to air dry. This is known as wet-nesting, and may result in a safety code violation being issued against your restaurant during an inspection.
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Especially working the second or third shift, you do not want the previous dishwasher's leftovers clogging your drain.\\n2. During Your Shift\\n2-1. Get a washing rhythm down.\\nIf you cannot create or stay with a rhythm, you will get stressed out. Dishwashers must handle just about any dish from the different sections of the restaurant: Servers and bussers may give you the typical plates, glasses, and utensils; the cooks might give you pans and pots; and the prep cooks may give you prep pans, cutting boards, whisks, and bowls.\\n2-2. Learn how to use the water sprayer efficiently.\\nThe sprayer will stop a lot of food from entering the machine, since you are pre-rinsing them. Avoid spending too much time on one rack, though. Establish the rhythm of going back and forth.—You should spend only a few seconds on a rack before pushing it.\\n2-3. Use the appropriate sponges.\\nYou could possibly get away using an abrasive wire sponge on a charred and greasy pan, but use a non-abrasive scrub on ceramic dishes.\\nIf you have an automatic dishwasher, push the item through the machine and allow the hot water loosen the food from the dish.\\nIf you are required to wash by hand, add hot, soapy water to the dish and set it aside for a few minutes to allow it to soak.\\n2-4. Get to know your food enemies.\\nNever think the machine is going to do all the work for you. As you do your job, make a mental list of foods that needs to be scrubbed off in their entirety before putting sending the dish through the machine. Some foods include:\\nMelted cheese\\nClam chowder and other chunky soups\\nEgg yolk\\nSauces\\nMashed potatoes\\n2-5. Expect some unplanned demands.\\nCooks likely have a limited amount of saute pans to work with, so, if they need you to clean them, that should be your first priority.—The other dishes will have to be queued behind the high-priority dish of the moment. \\nMaintain focus on other important things used in the restaurant, such as bread holders for servers and key utensils used by the prep cooks. Always keep an eye on the silverware: Knives are given out with meat dishes, bread, and baked potatoes; spoons are given out with coffee, ice cream, and other desserts.\\n2-6. Scrub all nooks and crannies.\\nIt's frustrating beyond belief to do so, but put yourself in a diner's view. - You would like the best and most enjoyable meal when you dine out, but what if you found your meal came on a plate with a smudge of leftover sauce from the previous diner?\\n2-7. Double check the dishes.\\nEnsure dishes are whistle-clean before stacking or putting them on the side. If there are food remnants or stains, rewash the item.\\n2-8. Get the clean, sanitized dishes put away.\\nIncorporate a rhythm of splitting up the clean dishes on every other run to different parts of the restaurant. Most-to-all restaurants have a rack, counter, or pushcart to stack dishes and utensils.\\n3. After Your Shift\\n3-1. Empty the dish machine food drains.\\nIf you are on a dinner shift, you must thoroughly clean all drains as much as you can.\\n3-2. Empty the sink drain.\\nTreat the area as your own kitchen and clean it out as much as you can.\\n3-3. Put any dishes away.\\nWhen you are finished rinsing your final load, this is typically when all servers, cooks, and bussers are gone. Depending on how exhausted and soaked you are, the first thing on your mind is liable to be: Bunch dishes in the easiest spots available, clock out, and hit the road. You must condition yourself to be patient and complete everything to near-perfection before walking out the door. Learn to persist in putting each and every item away in its appointed place, so your co-workers can easily find everything the next day.\\n3-4. Throw out the trash\\nGarbage take-out usually lands on the dishwasher's list of things to do, although some restaurant establishments have cleaning crews that handle this responsibility.\\nBe safe when doing so. Taking out restaurant trash is never the same as normal trash, as it will include wet food, water, and other items that will weigh the bags down . Use the proper lifting techniques (bending your knees) or get another person to help you lift. Refrain from twisting your spine while handling an over-heavy burden. Move your feet to turn your body appropriately.\\nTips\\nBring a drink to work or make a drink from the restaurant's soda machine, if allowed, before your shift starts.\\nKeep a pace and avoid stressing. If you break into a stress moment, it can be hard to get out of it. 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How to Be an Efficient and Organized Secretary
1. Being Prepared 1-1. Be on time. Give yourself plenty of time to commute to the office and get to meetings or other appointments. Be early to give yourself time to prepare or just catch up on emails or other tasks. Try tracking the time it takes you to get to work every day to see what the true average is, and adjust your timing accordingly. Add a buffer time of 15 or 20 minutes to any given time, and even test out how long it takes to get somewhere in advance of going there for the first time. 1-2. Be clear mentally. Get plenty of rest so that your mind stays sharp and thinking efficiently. Have a cup of coffee or tea in the morning if you like, or whenever you need a boost. Take breaks and pause to reorganize your desk periodically. Get up from your desk or take a break from what you’re doing for 17 minutes after every 52 minutes, as studies show this makes for the best productivity. Do a few simple exercises, talk to coworkers, or just take a stroll around the office during this time. 1-3. Know the schedule. Familiarize yourself with the schedule for your boss, yourself, or any other employees you need to keep track of at the beginning of every day. Glance over the schedule periodically so you can save time when making appointments and avoid double-booking or other errors. Keep schedules and calendars open and available to pull up on your computer or phone at a moment’s notice so you can consult them and add appointments in right away. 1-4. Come to meetings with all materials. Show up to any appointment ready with materials and clear notes from previous meetings, and a device or notebook to take down minutes and other notes from the current meeting. Ask your boss about anything regarding your role in the meeting, including any special materials like forms or handouts that you can have ready to save time on preparing or printing later. Try sending out an agenda for the upcoming meeting, minutes from the last meeting, or any other relevant materials to all the attendees the morning of or night before. 1-5. Consider learning shorthand. Learn about different types of shorthand and ways to speed up your writing if you take a lot of notes by hand. Take a shorthand course to learn the characters and improve your speed. If you don’t often take notes by hand or you don’t want to learn shorthand, do a typing test. Set a timer for a minute and try typing out a typical email on your phone, tablet, laptop keyboard, and detached keyboard. Then count the number of words you typed on each device. Stick to the device with the highest word count when you need to take quick notes. 2. Getting Organized 2-1. Commit to lists and planners. Keep a planner, calendar, and to-do list and update them consistently. Keep them in easily seen and reached places, or have multiple that can be synced together. If you work well with pen and paper, keep a small planner or calendar that can fit in your pocket or purse so you always have it with you. Keep a pen attached if possible so you never have to fish around for one. Have a designated note pad for to-do lists at your desk, and cross things off as you go. If you work better with digital organization, use your phone’s calendar and reminder system to make appointments and receive notifications about them. Try apps like Wunderlist or Todoist to manage your tasks. 2-2. Sync your information. Make sure you always have notes and other materials with you by syncing calendars, lists, and files across all your devices, which nearly every modern app has the capability to do. Share tasks, documents, and notes with other secretaries, your boss, or other employees with project management software like Basecamp or Trello. Share documents and spreadsheets with Google Docs and use programs like Dropbox or Hightail to send files. 2-3. Color-code everything. Set up a color-coding system to help categorize all of your materials at a glance. Assign a color to each project, day, employee, or any way you want to delineate your work. Use highlighters and colored tabs or labels to mark up files, trays, and notebooks to easily locate the right information. Many web and mobile apps for email, calendars, and lists also allow you to assign a color to each item. 2-4. Clean up your inbox. Keep your email inbox clean and important information easy to access by filing an email into a folder right away, flagging or marking it as unread if you need to come back to it, or archiving or deleting it if you’re sure you no longer need it. Try making folders for each year, quarter, or month, or label them by project, employee, or type. Try to respond to, delete, or log the email's information elsewhere right away. Set schedules for yourself, like having all emails filed in appropriate folders by the end of the day, and cleaning out and dealing with everything left in your inbox by the end of the week. 2-5. Be consistent. Keep materials of the same type in a particular place, and designate notebooks and folders to specific projects. Have a specific notepad for phone memos, for example, that always stays by the phone so you never end up taking down someone’s name and number on a napkin. Keep meeting notes in a separate place from other notes so information doesn’t get mixed up and hard to find later. 2-6. Save paper and time. Avoid printing to save paper and opt for online forms or other documents so you can save time and resources. Fill out forms electronically if possible. Scan and save copies of paper files so they’re always available and don’t get damaged or lost. Circulate digital files, reminders, memos, and agendas instead of paper versions whenever possible. 2-7. Stock up on supplies. Never run out of important materials you use to be organized, like notepads, pens, envelopes, and stamps by buying or letting an office manager/purchaser know when you are on your last box or container of something rather than once they are all gone. Order supplies in bulk from a company like Quill to save money and avoid running out so quickly. Keep supplies organized at your desk or workspace. Use containers, trays, file folders, and other containers that are all labeled or colored for easy sorting. 3. Communicating Efficiently 3-1. Stick to scripts. Save time and energy by coming up with simple language to reuse for correspondence that you frequently repeat. Have several scripts available for different situations like emails, press releases, or phone calls, which you can copy, paste, and easily edit to suit the specific scenario. 3-2. Be a meticulous note-taker. Jot down notes on your phone, laptop, or notepad for every meeting, phone message, or other important conversation. Place or move these notes into specifically labeled physical or electronic folders so that you can refer to them later and have records of verbal communication that you may forget in the course of a busy day. 3-3. Be efficient and friendly on the phone. Practice your greeting and other important or common information you need to say over the phone. Have the list of phone extensions for your office right in front of you and work on committing them to memory so you can transfer calls quickly. Get to know the special features of your office phone, like sending someone straight to an employee’s voicemail or adding people into a conference call, so you can save time and avoid technical difficulties. 3-4. Check your grammar. Make sure that every form of written communication you send out is spell-checked and free of grammar and punctuation errors. Spend the extra few minutes to read over emails, agendas, and other correspondence to check that everything is correct and save the later time and embarrassment of having to issue corrections or answer emails from confused recipients. Turn on spell-check in the applications you use for documents, spreadsheets, and emails. Turn on this feature in your browser as well to catch any errors while typing on a webpage, especially when posting to the company’s website, social media accounts, or other official platforms. 3-5. Keep emails and voicemails short and sweet. State your purpose for calling or emailing in as few words as possible. Ask direct questions and repeat your name, company, phone number, and email when needed. Provide a time by which you expect or hope to hear back from them so you can deal with communication efficiently. 3-6. Confirm appointments and times. Make sure you’re on the same page and provide reminders by calling or emailing the day before or day-of to confirm appointments and other important engagements. Get back in touch with people you haven’t heard from by sending polite and succinct emails or phone messages to remind them you’re waiting on a response.
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Do a few simple exercises, talk to coworkers, or just take a stroll around the office during this time.\\n1-3. Know the schedule.\\nFamiliarize yourself with the schedule for your boss, yourself, or any other employees you need to keep track of at the beginning of every day. Glance over the schedule periodically so you can save time when making appointments and avoid double-booking or other errors.\\nKeep schedules and calendars open and available to pull up on your computer or phone at a moment’s notice so you can consult them and add appointments in right away.\\n1-4. Come to meetings with all materials.\\nShow up to any appointment ready with materials and clear notes from previous meetings, and a device or notebook to take down minutes and other notes from the current meeting. Ask your boss about anything regarding your role in the meeting, including any special materials like forms or handouts that you can have ready to save time on preparing or printing later.\\nTry sending out an agenda for the upcoming meeting, minutes from the last meeting, or any other relevant materials to all the attendees the morning of or night before.\\n1-5. Consider learning shorthand.\\nLearn about different types of shorthand and ways to speed up your writing if you take a lot of notes by hand. Take a shorthand course to learn the characters and improve your speed.\\nIf you don’t often take notes by hand or you don’t want to learn shorthand, do a typing test. Set a timer for a minute and try typing out a typical email on your phone, tablet, laptop keyboard, and detached keyboard. Then count the number of words you typed on each device. Stick to the device with the highest word count when you need to take quick notes.\\n2. Getting Organized\\n2-1. Commit to lists and planners.\\nKeep a planner, calendar, and to-do list and update them consistently. Keep them in easily seen and reached places, or have multiple that can be synced together.\\nIf you work well with pen and paper, keep a small planner or calendar that can fit in your pocket or purse so you always have it with you. Keep a pen attached if possible so you never have to fish around for one. Have a designated note pad for to-do lists at your desk, and cross things off as you go.\\nIf you work better with digital organization, use your phone’s calendar and reminder system to make appointments and receive notifications about them. Try apps like Wunderlist or Todoist to manage your tasks.\\n2-2. Sync your information.\\nMake sure you always have notes and other materials with you by syncing calendars, lists, and files across all your devices, which nearly every modern app has the capability to do.\\nShare tasks, documents, and notes with other secretaries, your boss, or other employees with project management software like Basecamp or Trello.\\nShare documents and spreadsheets with Google Docs and use programs like Dropbox or Hightail to send files.\\n2-3. Color-code everything.\\nSet up a color-coding system to help categorize all of your materials at a glance. Assign a color to each project, day, employee, or any way you want to delineate your work. Use highlighters and colored tabs or labels to mark up files, trays, and notebooks to easily locate the right information.\\nMany web and mobile apps for email, calendars, and lists also allow you to assign a color to each item.\\n2-4. Clean up your inbox.\\nKeep your email inbox clean and important information easy to access by filing an email into a folder right away, flagging or marking it as unread if you need to come back to it, or archiving or deleting it if you’re sure you no longer need it.\\nTry making folders for each year, quarter, or month, or label them by project, employee, or type. Try to respond to, delete, or log the email's information elsewhere right away. Set schedules for yourself, like having all emails filed in appropriate folders by the end of the day, and cleaning out and dealing with everything left in your inbox by the end of the week.\\n2-5. Be consistent.\\nKeep materials of the same type in a particular place, and designate notebooks and folders to specific projects. Have a specific notepad for phone memos, for example, that always stays by the phone so you never end up taking down someone’s name and number on a napkin. Keep meeting notes in a separate place from other notes so information doesn’t get mixed up and hard to find later.\\n2-6. Save paper and time.\\nAvoid printing to save paper and opt for online forms or other documents so you can save time and resources. Fill out forms electronically if possible. Scan and save copies of paper files so they’re always available and don’t get damaged or lost. Circulate digital files, reminders, memos, and agendas instead of paper versions whenever possible.\\n2-7. Stock up on supplies.\\nNever run out of important materials you use to be organized, like notepads, pens, envelopes, and stamps by buying or letting an office manager/purchaser know when you are on your last box or container of something rather than once they are all gone. Order supplies in bulk from a company like Quill to save money and avoid running out so quickly.\\nKeep supplies organized at your desk or workspace. Use containers, trays, file folders, and other containers that are all labeled or colored for easy sorting.\\n3. Communicating Efficiently\\n3-1. Stick to scripts.\\nSave time and energy by coming up with simple language to reuse for correspondence that you frequently repeat. Have several scripts available for different situations like emails, press releases, or phone calls, which you can copy, paste, and easily edit to suit the specific scenario.\\n3-2. Be a meticulous note-taker.\\nJot down notes on your phone, laptop, or notepad for every meeting, phone message, or other important conversation. Place or move these notes into specifically labeled physical or electronic folders so that you can refer to them later and have records of verbal communication that you may forget in the course of a busy day.\\n3-3. Be efficient and friendly on the phone.\\nPractice your greeting and other important or common information you need to say over the phone. Have the list of phone extensions for your office right in front of you and work on committing them to memory so you can transfer calls quickly.\\nGet to know the special features of your office phone, like sending someone straight to an employee’s voicemail or adding people into a conference call, so you can save time and avoid technical difficulties.\\n3-4. Check your grammar.\\nMake sure that every form of written communication you send out is spell-checked and free of grammar and punctuation errors. Spend the extra few minutes to read over emails, agendas, and other correspondence to check that everything is correct and save the later time and embarrassment of having to issue corrections or answer emails from confused recipients.\\nTurn on spell-check in the applications you use for documents, spreadsheets, and emails. Turn on this feature in your browser as well to catch any errors while typing on a webpage, especially when posting to the company’s website, social media accounts, or other official platforms.\\n3-5. Keep emails and voicemails short and sweet.\\nState your purpose for calling or emailing in as few words as possible. Ask direct questions and repeat your name, company, phone number, and email when needed. Provide a time by which you expect or hope to hear back from them so you can deal with communication efficiently.\\n3-6. Confirm appointments and times.\\nMake sure you’re on the same page and provide reminders by calling or emailing the day before or day-of to confirm appointments and other important engagements. Get back in touch with people you haven’t heard from by sending polite and succinct emails or phone messages to remind them you’re waiting on a response.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a good secretary means being prepared, efficient, and well organized. By improving and perfecting your communication and organization skills, you can become an expert secretary and an indispensable part of a team, making your employment more engaging, secure, and enjoyable.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Prepared\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be on time.\", \"描述\": \"Give yourself plenty of time to commute to the office and get to meetings or other appointments. Be early to give yourself time to prepare or just catch up on emails or other tasks.\\nTry tracking the time it takes you to get to work every day to see what the true average is, and adjust your timing accordingly. Add a buffer time of 15 or 20 minutes to any given time, and even test out how long it takes to get somewhere in advance of going there for the first time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be clear mentally.\", \"描述\": \"Get plenty of rest so that your mind stays sharp and thinking efficiently. Have a cup of coffee or tea in the morning if you like, or whenever you need a boost. Take breaks and pause to reorganize your desk periodically.\\nGet up from your desk or take a break from what you’re doing for 17 minutes after every 52 minutes, as studies show this makes for the best productivity. Do a few simple exercises, talk to coworkers, or just take a stroll around the office during this time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know the schedule.\", \"描述\": \"Familiarize yourself with the schedule for your boss, yourself, or any other employees you need to keep track of at the beginning of every day. Glance over the schedule periodically so you can save time when making appointments and avoid double-booking or other errors.\\nKeep schedules and calendars open and available to pull up on your computer or phone at a moment’s notice so you can consult them and add appointments in right away.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Come to meetings with all materials.\", \"描述\": \"Show up to any appointment ready with materials and clear notes from previous meetings, and a device or notebook to take down minutes and other notes from the current meeting. Ask your boss about anything regarding your role in the meeting, including any special materials like forms or handouts that you can have ready to save time on preparing or printing later.\\nTry sending out an agenda for the upcoming meeting, minutes from the last meeting, or any other relevant materials to all the attendees the morning of or night before.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider learning shorthand.\", \"描述\": \"Learn about different types of shorthand and ways to speed up your writing if you take a lot of notes by hand. Take a shorthand course to learn the characters and improve your speed.\\nIf you don’t often take notes by hand or you don’t want to learn shorthand, do a typing test. Set a timer for a minute and try typing out a typical email on your phone, tablet, laptop keyboard, and detached keyboard. Then count the number of words you typed on each device. Stick to the device with the highest word count when you need to take quick notes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting Organized\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Commit to lists and planners.\", \"描述\": \"Keep a planner, calendar, and to-do list and update them consistently. Keep them in easily seen and reached places, or have multiple that can be synced together.\\nIf you work well with pen and paper, keep a small planner or calendar that can fit in your pocket or purse so you always have it with you. Keep a pen attached if possible so you never have to fish around for one. Have a designated note pad for to-do lists at your desk, and cross things off as you go.\\nIf you work better with digital organization, use your phone’s calendar and reminder system to make appointments and receive notifications about them. Try apps like Wunderlist or Todoist to manage your tasks.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Sync your information.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you always have notes and other materials with you by syncing calendars, lists, and files across all your devices, which nearly every modern app has the capability to do.\\nShare tasks, documents, and notes with other secretaries, your boss, or other employees with project management software like Basecamp or Trello.\\nShare documents and spreadsheets with Google Docs and use programs like Dropbox or Hightail to send files.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Color-code everything.\", \"描述\": \"Set up a color-coding system to help categorize all of your materials at a glance. Assign a color to each project, day, employee, or any way you want to delineate your work. Use highlighters and colored tabs or labels to mark up files, trays, and notebooks to easily locate the right information.\\nMany web and mobile apps for email, calendars, and lists also allow you to assign a color to each item.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Clean up your inbox.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your email inbox clean and important information easy to access by filing an email into a folder right away, flagging or marking it as unread if you need to come back to it, or archiving or deleting it if you’re sure you no longer need it.\\nTry making folders for each year, quarter, or month, or label them by project, employee, or type. Try to respond to, delete, or log the email's information elsewhere right away. Set schedules for yourself, like having all emails filed in appropriate folders by the end of the day, and cleaning out and dealing with everything left in your inbox by the end of the week.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be consistent.\", \"描述\": \"Keep materials of the same type in a particular place, and designate notebooks and folders to specific projects. Have a specific notepad for phone memos, for example, that always stays by the phone so you never end up taking down someone’s name and number on a napkin. Keep meeting notes in a separate place from other notes so information doesn’t get mixed up and hard to find later.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Save paper and time.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid printing to save paper and opt for online forms or other documents so you can save time and resources. Fill out forms electronically if possible. Scan and save copies of paper files so they’re always available and don’t get damaged or lost. Circulate digital files, reminders, memos, and agendas instead of paper versions whenever possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Stock up on supplies.\", \"描述\": \"Never run out of important materials you use to be organized, like notepads, pens, envelopes, and stamps by buying or letting an office manager/purchaser know when you are on your last box or container of something rather than once they are all gone. Order supplies in bulk from a company like Quill to save money and avoid running out so quickly.\\nKeep supplies organized at your desk or workspace. Use containers, trays, file folders, and other containers that are all labeled or colored for easy sorting.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Communicating Efficiently\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stick to scripts.\", \"描述\": \"Save time and energy by coming up with simple language to reuse for correspondence that you frequently repeat. Have several scripts available for different situations like emails, press releases, or phone calls, which you can copy, paste, and easily edit to suit the specific scenario.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be a meticulous note-taker.\", \"描述\": \"Jot down notes on your phone, laptop, or notepad for every meeting, phone message, or other important conversation. Place or move these notes into specifically labeled physical or electronic folders so that you can refer to them later and have records of verbal communication that you may forget in the course of a busy day.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be efficient and friendly on the phone.\", \"描述\": \"Practice your greeting and other important or common information you need to say over the phone. Have the list of phone extensions for your office right in front of you and work on committing them to memory so you can transfer calls quickly.\\nGet to know the special features of your office phone, like sending someone straight to an employee’s voicemail or adding people into a conference call, so you can save time and avoid technical difficulties.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Check your grammar.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure that every form of written communication you send out is spell-checked and free of grammar and punctuation errors. Spend the extra few minutes to read over emails, agendas, and other correspondence to check that everything is correct and save the later time and embarrassment of having to issue corrections or answer emails from confused recipients.\\nTurn on spell-check in the applications you use for documents, spreadsheets, and emails. 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How to Be an Elegant and Mature Young Lady
1. Practicing Good Etiquette 1-1. Say please and thank you. These are the basics of good manners! You might be speaking to a teacher at school or a waiter at a restaurant, but you should always express your appreciation. Say “please” if you want something. Say “thank you” if you are given something. Say “no, thank you” if you want to refuse something. If someone gives you a gift, write them a thank you note to express your gratitude. 1-2. Learn how to excuse yourself. There are certain situations in which you will need to excuse yourself. You may need to leave the dinner table early, or you may need to take a call in another room. Do not just disappear without saying anything. This is extremely rude. Try saying one of the following. If you need to leave the dinner table, you may ask, “May I be excused?” If you need to use the restroom, simply say, “Excuse me. I’ll be right back.” You do not need to tell them where you are going. If your phone rings, say, “Excuse me. I need to take this call.” When you return, apologize to the other person, and explain that it was important. Only take the call if it is important. It is rude to be on your phone in social settings. 1-3. Practice good manners at the table. The dinner table is not the place to be reading your phone or texts. You should put away all distractions during a meal so that you can speak to the people you’re eating with. Eat most of what your host gives you, and at least try everything. If you have an allergy or special diet, try to tell your host as far in advance as possible. Wait for everyone to get their food before you start eating. If you’re visiting someone, you do not start eating until your host begins. At a restaurant, wait until everyone has been served their food. Chew slowly and quietly. Do not slurp noodles or soup. Ask for food to be passed for you. Do not reach over the table. Do not talk with your mouth full. Close your mouth while you eat. 1-4. Volunteer to help out when there is a need. Always offer your assistance when you notice that someone might need help. Ask if there is anything you can do, even if you are certain that the other person will say no. Some ways you can help include: Offer to help clean up after dinner. Bring a dish to parties and events. Drop off medicine to a sick friend. Drive an elderly family member around on their errands. 1-5. Dress appropriately. Maintain good hygiene by showering daily. Make sure that your clothes are clean and ironed. You should understand that different situations require different types of clothing. While jeans and a t-shirt may be fine for hanging out with friends, you should wear something nicer when at a wedding. There are certain guidelines you can follow while dressing: Formal events — such as weddings, award ceremonies, and some religious ceremonies —require a nice cocktail dress or gown. Your dress should be at least knee-length, if not longer. Heels or nice flats are required. Business formal (also known as business professional) includes tailored trousers, knee-length skirts, blazers, button-up shirts, and nice blouses. Heels are recommended. These would be worn in a corporate setting. Business casual includes nice khakis, black slacks, button-up shirts, knee-length skirts, and cardigans. You can wear heels or nice ballet flats. This is for a more informal office setting. Casual dress includes jeans, t-shirts, shorts, tank tops, short skirts, and sneakers. This should be worn when doing errands, hanging out with close friends, and during informal outdoor events. 1-6. Maintain good posture. It is proper to sit up straight when you are at dinner or in a meeting. Brace your shoulders back so that they form a straight line. Stretch your neck so that your head is looking straight forward. Do not slump your shoulders or hunch over while you sit or walk. When sitting, do not lean back on your chair. Make sure to cross your legs or keep them together when wearing a skirt. If you are having trouble correcting your posture, you can do some good core and back exercises. 2. Demonstrating Maturity 2-1. Keep your promises You should always do things that you said you would do. Keeping promises shows that you are trustworthy and dependable. If something has come up that prevents you from fulfilling your promise, call and explain the situation. Remember to show up for events that you signed up for. Be punctual. Arrive at places at the time you said you would. Show up to help out if you said that you could. 2-2. Avoid gossip No matter what you feel about other people, learn to keep these thoughts to yourself. It is never polite to gossip or insult others, even if they are not around to hear it. If someone has insulted you, try not to do the same to them. Take the high road by ignoring the behavior. Avoid correcting or criticizing others, especially people you do not know or are not close to. They may find this insulting. It is fine to vent about people now and then. Choose a trusted friend who will not gossip, or tell a family member about what is bothering you. Limit yourself to one or two people whom you trust with your secrets. 2-3. Practice forgiveness If someone has wronged you, it is good to forgive them. By holding a grudge, you will only lengthen your pain. If they apologize, tell them that you forgive them. If they don’t apologize, learn to let go of the grief by forgiving them in your heart. Wait until someone apologizes before you tell them that you forgive them. Try to understand their position. You can say something like "I understand where you are coming from. I want you to know that I forgive you, and I don't hold anything against you." 2-4. Maintain composure This doesn't mean you can't express emotion or be upset. Don't immediately react to things — if someone has made you angry, don't explode and tear into him. Take a deep breath and try to choose your words carefully. Be mindful of your tone and the volume of your voice. Try not to take insults or slights personally — if someone is being rude, that's his problem, not yours, and don't allow yourself to be manipulated to stooping to his level. If you feel that you are too angry or upset to continue the conversation, it's okay to say something like, "I can't have this conversation with you right now. I'm going to take a walk and we can resume this when we've both cooled down." 2-5. Learn how to say no Maturity and elegance do not mean that you let others walk all over you. You are not expected to do everything asked of you, and you can learn to say no in a polite but firm manner. You can start with an apology before explaining why you cannot do something. If you cannot help someone, you can say, “I’m so sorry, but I’m unable to help you with that. Let me know if there is anything I can do in the future.” If you can’t accept an invitation, you can say, “I’m sorry that I am missing the event. I would have loved to come, but I am busy that day.” If you are uncomfortable with the request, politely decline and say, “I don’t think it’s a right fit for me” or “I’m not sure that I’m the best person for that task.” 2-6. Apologize sincerely Everyone makes mistakes. Maybe you forgot to show up for a friend's birthday party, or maybe you insulted someone. Learn how to apologize. While it may be difficult to acknowledge that you were wrong, it is best to get over your pride. If possible, try to meet with them face to face to express how sorry you are. A phone call or written card are also nice ways to say sorry. Be sincere in your apology. A simple “I’m sorry” will work if you have nothing else to say. You can say something like, "I understand why you're angry. I want you to know how sorry I am. Please let me know how I can make it up to you." Do not make excuses, although you can offer an explanation if you think there was a misunderstanding. 2-7. Express sympathy If something bad has happened to another person, tell them how sorry you are. Offer to help in any way that you can. You can say, “I’m so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and your family. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I am here for you, even if you just need someone to talk to.” You may want to bring flowers to a funeral or donate money to a cause in the deceased's name. If someone is in the hospital, take time to visit them. Send a card to them afterwards to let them know that you are thinking of them. 3. Speaking with Grace 3-1. Pronounce your words clearly and slowly. Enunciation is very important for communication. When speaking, pace yourself. Pronounce every syllable. Do not slur or mumble your speech. Speaking too quickly will muddle your words, and it may cause the other person to misunderstand you. Use an appropriate volume. You do not want to yell while you speak, nor should you be so soft-spoken that the other person cannot hear you. As you speak, try to match the volume of the other person. 3-2. Think before you speak. Carefully consider the impact of your words before you say them. Understand whether or not someone might misunderstand you, or if they might take offense. Word your statements carefully so that your meaning is not mistaken. Avoid talking about politics and religion. These touchy subjects can cause disagreements between family and friends. 3-3. Work on becoming articulate and well-spoken. Try to stop saying "Um," and "Like," or other filler words and avoid using slang. Expand your vocabulary (try flashcards, reading the dictionary for fun, or signing up for a word of the day website to receive through your email) so that you can better express yourself. 3-4. Listen actively. If someone else is speaking, wait until they are finished with their idea before you respond. Do not interrupt or speak over others. There are certain things you can do to let the other person know that you are engaged in the conversation: Nod your head as they speak. Make eye contact. Occasionally repeat back what they said. This shows that you are actually paying attention to them and value what they're saying. 3-5. Avoid cursing. Cursing can be offensive and rude. While you may feel the need to replace curse words with more polite phrases, it is better to keep your anger to yourself if you are upset or startled. If you are having trouble with swearing, try keeping a swear jar where you put a dollar every time you curse. You should either donate this money or save it for an essential purchase. Tips Try not to care what others say about you. Learning how to be happy with yourself no matter who you are is one of the most mature things you can do. Be generous and courteous in all areas of life. This includes school, work, home, and at events. Always focus on the person you’re talking to. Do not read, surf the internet, or text message while someone is talking to you. Warnings Maturity doesn’t mean that you are perfect. It’s ok to be sad, angry, or upset. You are not burdening other people with your feelings when you come to them with a problem. No matter how rude someone else is acting, do not say anything. It is even ruder to call someone out in public.[15] X Research source
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It is even ruder to call someone out in public.[15]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Some people think that elegance is a lost art, but young women can still express a gracious air. Such behavior comes from using good manners and acting like a mature adult. By learning proper etiquette, you will become more generous, polite, and graceful. How you treat others is equally important. An elegant and mature young lady helps and treats others in a non-judgmental way. It is important to speak and stand with proper decorum. Even if you have not had etiquette training in the past, you can still act like a lady by learning some basic rules.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practicing Good Etiquette\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Say please and thank you.\", \"描述\": \"These are the basics of good manners! You might be speaking to a teacher at school or a waiter at a restaurant, but you should always express your appreciation.\\nSay “please” if you want something.\\nSay “thank you” if you are given something.\\nSay “no, thank you” if you want to refuse something.\\nIf someone gives you a gift, write them a thank you note to express your gratitude.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn how to excuse yourself.\", \"描述\": \"There are certain situations in which you will need to excuse yourself. You may need to leave the dinner table early, or you may need to take a call in another room. Do not just disappear without saying anything. This is extremely rude. Try saying one of the following.\\nIf you need to leave the dinner table, you may ask, “May I be excused?”\\nIf you need to use the restroom, simply say, “Excuse me. I’ll be right back.” You do not need to tell them where you are going.\\nIf your phone rings, say, “Excuse me. I need to take this call.” When you return, apologize to the other person, and explain that it was important. Only take the call if it is important. It is rude to be on your phone in social settings.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice good manners at the table.\", \"描述\": \"The dinner table is not the place to be reading your phone or texts. You should put away all distractions during a meal so that you can speak to the people you’re eating with.\\nEat most of what your host gives you, and at least try everything. If you have an allergy or special diet, try to tell your host as far in advance as possible.\\nWait for everyone to get their food before you start eating. If you’re visiting someone, you do not start eating until your host begins. At a restaurant, wait until everyone has been served their food.\\nChew slowly and quietly. Do not slurp noodles or soup.\\nAsk for food to be passed for you. Do not reach over the table.\\nDo not talk with your mouth full. Close your mouth while you eat.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Volunteer to help out when there is a need.\", \"描述\": \"Always offer your assistance when you notice that someone might need help. Ask if there is anything you can do, even if you are certain that the other person will say no. Some ways you can help include:\\nOffer to help clean up after dinner.\\nBring a dish to parties and events.\\nDrop off medicine to a sick friend.\\nDrive an elderly family member around on their errands.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dress appropriately.\", \"描述\": \"Maintain good hygiene by showering daily. Make sure that your clothes are clean and ironed. You should understand that different situations require different types of clothing. While jeans and a t-shirt may be fine for hanging out with friends, you should wear something nicer when at a wedding. There are certain guidelines you can follow while dressing:\\nFormal events — such as weddings, award ceremonies, and some religious ceremonies —require a nice cocktail dress or gown. Your dress should be at least knee-length, if not longer. Heels or nice flats are required.\\nBusiness formal (also known as business professional) includes tailored trousers, knee-length skirts, blazers, button-up shirts, and nice blouses. Heels are recommended. These would be worn in a corporate setting.\\nBusiness casual includes nice khakis, black slacks, button-up shirts, knee-length skirts, and cardigans. You can wear heels or nice ballet flats. This is for a more informal office setting.\\nCasual dress includes jeans, t-shirts, shorts, tank tops, short skirts, and sneakers. This should be worn when doing errands, hanging out with close friends, and during informal outdoor events.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Maintain good posture.\", \"描述\": \"It is proper to sit up straight when you are at dinner or in a meeting. Brace your shoulders back so that they form a straight line. Stretch your neck so that your head is looking straight forward. Do not slump your shoulders or hunch over while you sit or walk. When sitting, do not lean back on your chair.\\nMake sure to cross your legs or keep them together when wearing a skirt.\\nIf you are having trouble correcting your posture, you can do some good core and back exercises.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Demonstrating Maturity\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your promises\", \"描述\": \"You should always do things that you said you would do. Keeping promises shows that you are trustworthy and dependable. If something has come up that prevents you from fulfilling your promise, call and explain the situation. \\nRemember to show up for events that you signed up for.\\nBe punctual. Arrive at places at the time you said you would.\\nShow up to help out if you said that you could.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid gossip\", \"描述\": \"No matter what you feel about other people, learn to keep these thoughts to yourself. It is never polite to gossip or insult others, even if they are not around to hear it. If someone has insulted you, try not to do the same to them. Take the high road by ignoring the behavior. \\nAvoid correcting or criticizing others, especially people you do not know or are not close to. They may find this insulting.\\nIt is fine to vent about people now and then. Choose a trusted friend who will not gossip, or tell a family member about what is bothering you. Limit yourself to one or two people whom you trust with your secrets.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice forgiveness\", \"描述\": \"If someone has wronged you, it is good to forgive them. By holding a grudge, you will only lengthen your pain. If they apologize, tell them that you forgive them. If they don’t apologize, learn to let go of the grief by forgiving them in your heart. \\nWait until someone apologizes before you tell them that you forgive them. Try to understand their position. You can say something like \\\"I understand where you are coming from. I want you to know that I forgive you, and I don't hold anything against you.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Maintain composure\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean you can't express emotion or be upset. Don't immediately react to things — if someone has made you angry, don't explode and tear into him. Take a deep breath and try to choose your words carefully. Be mindful of your tone and the volume of your voice. Try not to take insults or slights personally — if someone is being rude, that's his problem, not yours, and don't allow yourself to be manipulated to stooping to his level.\\nIf you feel that you are too angry or upset to continue the conversation, it's okay to say something like, \\\"I can't have this conversation with you right now. I'm going to take a walk and we can resume this when we've both cooled down.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn how to say no\", \"描述\": \"Maturity and elegance do not mean that you let others walk all over you. You are not expected to do everything asked of you, and you can learn to say no in a polite but firm manner. You can start with an apology before explaining why you cannot do something. \\nIf you cannot help someone, you can say, “I’m so sorry, but I’m unable to help you with that. Let me know if there is anything I can do in the future.”\\nIf you can’t accept an invitation, you can say, “I’m sorry that I am missing the event. I would have loved to come, but I am busy that day.”\\nIf you are uncomfortable with the request, politely decline and say, “I don’t think it’s a right fit for me” or “I’m not sure that I’m the best person for that task.”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Apologize sincerely\", \"描述\": \"Everyone makes mistakes. Maybe you forgot to show up for a friend's birthday party, or maybe you insulted someone. Learn how to apologize. While it may be difficult to acknowledge that you were wrong, it is best to get over your pride. If possible, try to meet with them face to face to express how sorry you are. A phone call or written card are also nice ways to say sorry.\\nBe sincere in your apology. A simple “I’m sorry” will work if you have nothing else to say.\\nYou can say something like, \\\"I understand why you're angry. I want you to know how sorry I am. Please let me know how I can make it up to you.\\\"\\nDo not make excuses, although you can offer an explanation if you think there was a misunderstanding.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Express sympathy\", \"描述\": \"If something bad has happened to another person, tell them how sorry you are. Offer to help in any way that you can. \\nYou can say, “I’m so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and your family. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I am here for you, even if you just need someone to talk to.”\\nYou may want to bring flowers to a funeral or donate money to a cause in the deceased's name.\\nIf someone is in the hospital, take time to visit them.\\nSend a card to them afterwards to let them know that you are thinking of them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Speaking with Grace\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pronounce your words clearly and slowly.\", \"描述\": \"Enunciation is very important for communication. When speaking, pace yourself. Pronounce every syllable. Do not slur or mumble your speech. Speaking too quickly will muddle your words, and it may cause the other person to misunderstand you.\\nUse an appropriate volume. You do not want to yell while you speak, nor should you be so soft-spoken that the other person cannot hear you. As you speak, try to match the volume of the other person.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Think before you speak.\", \"描述\": \"Carefully consider the impact of your words before you say them. Understand whether or not someone might misunderstand you, or if they might take offense. Word your statements carefully so that your meaning is not mistaken. \\nAvoid talking about politics and religion. These touchy subjects can cause disagreements between family and friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work on becoming articulate and well-spoken.\", \"描述\": \"Try to stop saying \\\"Um,\\\" and \\\"Like,\\\" or other filler words and avoid using slang. Expand your vocabulary (try flashcards, reading the dictionary for fun, or signing up for a word of the day website to receive through your email) so that you can better express yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Listen actively.\", \"描述\": \"If someone else is speaking, wait until they are finished with their idea before you respond. Do not interrupt or speak over others. There are certain things you can do to let the other person know that you are engaged in the conversation:\\nNod your head as they speak.\\nMake eye contact.\\nOccasionally repeat back what they said. This shows that you are actually paying attention to them and value what they're saying.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid cursing.\", \"描述\": \"Cursing can be offensive and rude. While you may feel the need to replace curse words with more polite phrases, it is better to keep your anger to yourself if you are upset or startled. \\nIf you are having trouble with swearing, try keeping a swear jar where you put a dollar every time you curse. You should either donate this money or save it for an essential purchase.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try not to care what others say about you. Learning how to be happy with yourself no matter who you are is one of the most mature things you can do.\\n\", \"Be generous and courteous in all areas of life. This includes school, work, home, and at events.\\n\", \"Always focus on the person you’re talking to. Do not read, surf the internet, or text message while someone is talking to you.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Maturity doesn’t mean that you are perfect. It’s ok to be sad, angry, or upset. 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How to Be an Empathetic Friend
1. Focusing On Your Friend 1-1. Be an active listener. One of the best ways to show empathy to a friend is by listening to what they have to say. It can be easy to get caught up in your own thoughts during a conversation or to get distracted by other things in your environment while your friend is talking. However, a truly empathetic friend will listen actively and attentively to a friend in need. Make eye contact with your friend while they speak. Minimize distractions. Turn your cell phone off and/or put it away so you won't be tempted to check it while your friend is talking. Don't try to give advice and don't think about what you're going to say while your friend talks. Focus on simply listening attentively, nodding periodically to show that you're engaged. When your friend stops talking, ask open-ended questions about what your friend is going through. However, respect the fact that your friend may not want to talk about some things in detail. 1-2. Resist the urge to judge your friend. Real empathy requires you to set aside your judgments and accept another person as they are. That includes accepting that person's suffering for what it is and experiencing an emotional response to it. Remember that your friend doesn't need to feel worse about anything they're going through. As their friend, it's your duty to offer support and kindness. Imagine how you would feel if you opened up to your friend about something difficult and they made you feel judged or shamed. Take your imagined scenario a step further: instead of judgmental behavior, what type of behavior would actually help you during difficult times? 1-3. Reflect on what your friend says. Another way to show empathy while your friend speaks is to reflect out loud on what that friend has said. This can help show that you're concerned for your friend and that you're engaging with their thoughts and feelings. Don't repeat what's said word-for-word. This may come across as condescending or impersonal. Rephrase what your friend says back to them, then ask them follow up questions. For example, if your friend says that no one at work understands them, you might reflect by saying, "I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time. It sounds like you're having a hard time connecting with your coworkers - why do you think that is?" 1-4. Offer continued assistance. Sometimes a friend going through something difficult just needs someone they can talk to or vent about their problems. They may not be looking for advice or anything beyond the company of a reliable friend. Let your friend know that you're available if they need to talk or simply want to spend time together. Follow through on your offer if your friend needs you. Make yourself available as much as possible, especially if your friend is going through a difficult time. Continue to practice showing empathy every time you and your friend spend time together. 2. Cultivating Empathy 2-1. Get curious about others. In order to feel empathy for someone, you have to have a real interest in how that person feels. It makes sense, then, that one of the most important aspects of empathy is having a basic curiosity about other people and the lives they lead. Try taking note of other people's actions and body language. Eavesdrop on snippets of conversations when you're out in public places. Spend some time thinking about what other people are doing on a day-to-day basis. This can be done in fleeting moments. Make a point of noticing other drivers' faces and their expressions while you're stuck at a red light. Think about where those individuals are going, what they're doing, and what's going on in their lives right now. 2-2. Recognize what others need and want. Part of feeling empathy for someone entails being aware of their wellbeing as well as their needs and wants. If you're unfamiliar with recognizing others' needs and wants, you can start by practicing on people you know. If you notice that your friends or family members look upset, ask them what's wrong and what they need or want in that moment. You might be able to use contextual clues to determine what someone needs. For example, if someone is shivering, you can safely assume that they're cold and would like warmer clothing or shelter from the elements. You can also imagine yourself in someone else's condition and ask yourself, "What would I want or need in that moment?" This can help you better understand someone else's suffering. 2-3. Try caring for an animal. Having a general desire to help someone or something is generally considered an important component of empathy. Spending time with an animal makes you more likely to feel empathy for that animal and want to help it any way you can. For this reason, caring for an animal may actually help some individuals develop a stronger sense of empathy for other people. Try to spend some time volunteering at an animal shelter if you can. You can also try caring for an animal at home. Over time you may be able to build your empathy for others by deepening your concern for the animal. 2-4. Practice speaking in an empathetic voice. You may not always be aware of it, but how you say something is often just as important as what you actually say. If you're trying to become more empathetic, it may be helpful to train yourself to sound more caring and concerned when speaking to a friend. Use a recording device to tape yourself saying something empathetic like "I'm sorry that happened to you." Say your chosen empathetic phrase several times in different tones of voice and record each version. Listen to your recorded phrasings and determine which one would sound most consoling to you. Practice the phrasing you chose so that it comes more naturally to you in conversation. You may want to practice in front of a mirror so you can be aware of your facial expression, too. Practicing an empathetic voice and expression doesn't mean you're faking the emotions or being insincere. It's simply a way to become more aware of your own mannerisms and body language. 2-5. Be patient with yourself. Most people have the capacity to feel empathy for others, or to at least experience cognitive empathy (not feeling the same emotion, but recognizing that you need to show kindness to someone). However, empathy can come more easily to some people. If it doesn't come instantly to you, be patient and keep practicing. Recognize that some people have a hard time experiencing or expressing empathy due to a strong sense of individuality. Remember that this doesn't mean you're less capable than others; you may just need to spend more time and effort working on it. Be patient and keep practicing. In time you will develop the ability to show empathy to your friends, and even to other people you don't like or don't know. 3. Extending Empathy to People You Don't Like 3-1. Be aware of your thoughts and feelings. Often when you encounter someone you don't like, it's easy to feel angry or frustrated with that person. When feelings of anger arise, it can be incredibly difficult to transition into feeling empathy for that person. The key, then, is to try to catch yourself before that anger has fully blossomed. Notice any physical sensations you might be having when you encounter someone you don't like. For example, if you're frustrated, you might be feeling flush or experiencing a rapid heartbeat. By contrast, if you're feeling empathetic you might actually feel some degree of sadness. Whenever you catch yourself having thoughts or feelings that interfere with your ability to feel empathy, take a moment to breathe slowly and deeply. Concentrate on letting go of negative emotions and open yourself to the other person's feelings. Once you're calmer, you should be able to humanize the other person and at least see their struggles as relatable. It's okay if you don't feel empathetic immediately, but you should continue working on it if you want to develop a stronger sense of empathy. 3-2. Focus on what you have in common. One of the best ways to humanize someone you don't know or don't like is to consider how they're similar to you. Even though your lives are different, you still have the same basic needs and wants. Think about all the ways that an individual is probably similar to you. Like you, everyone you meet has hopes and dreams as well as fears and insecurities. If you look closely enough, you may even find some similarities between you and the person you're focusing on. 3-3. Walk a mile in the other person's shoes. In order to truly humanize someone, some individuals need to actually understand why a person feels, thinks, and behaves the way they do. One way to do this is by following the old adage of walking a mile in someone else's shoes. You can do this literally by trying out someone's hardships for a day, or figuratively by imagining the hardships of someone's life. Even if you haven't experienced what someone else is going through, you have the capacity to imagine what such an experience must be like. Try to relate someone's suffering to something you have experienced, then contextualize it to understand what that person is most likely going through. For example, while you may still have both parents, you have probably experienced the death of a grandparent, aunt/uncle, or another relative. As a result, you can imagine how much more intense it must be for someone to lose a parent.
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However, respect the fact that your friend may not want to talk about some things in detail.\\n1-2. Resist the urge to judge your friend.\\nReal empathy requires you to set aside your judgments and accept another person as they are. That includes accepting that person's suffering for what it is and experiencing an emotional response to it.\\nRemember that your friend doesn't need to feel worse about anything they're going through. As their friend, it's your duty to offer support and kindness.\\nImagine how you would feel if you opened up to your friend about something difficult and they made you feel judged or shamed.\\nTake your imagined scenario a step further: instead of judgmental behavior, what type of behavior would actually help you during difficult times?\\n1-3. Reflect on what your friend says.\\nAnother way to show empathy while your friend speaks is to reflect out loud on what that friend has said. This can help show that you're concerned for your friend and that you're engaging with their thoughts and feelings.\\nDon't repeat what's said word-for-word. This may come across as condescending or impersonal.\\nRephrase what your friend says back to them, then ask them follow up questions.\\nFor example, if your friend says that no one at work understands them, you might reflect by saying, \\\"I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time. It sounds like you're having a hard time connecting with your coworkers - why do you think that is?\\\"\\n1-4. Offer continued assistance.\\nSometimes a friend going through something difficult just needs someone they can talk to or vent about their problems. They may not be looking for advice or anything beyond the company of a reliable friend.\\nLet your friend know that you're available if they need to talk or simply want to spend time together.\\nFollow through on your offer if your friend needs you. Make yourself available as much as possible, especially if your friend is going through a difficult time.\\nContinue to practice showing empathy every time you and your friend spend time together.\\n2. Cultivating Empathy\\n2-1. Get curious about others.\\nIn order to feel empathy for someone, you have to have a real interest in how that person feels. It makes sense, then, that one of the most important aspects of empathy is having a basic curiosity about other people and the lives they lead.\\nTry taking note of other people's actions and body language. Eavesdrop on snippets of conversations when you're out in public places.\\nSpend some time thinking about what other people are doing on a day-to-day basis.\\nThis can be done in fleeting moments. Make a point of noticing other drivers' faces and their expressions while you're stuck at a red light.\\nThink about where those individuals are going, what they're doing, and what's going on in their lives right now.\\n2-2. Recognize what others need and want.\\nPart of feeling empathy for someone entails being aware of their wellbeing as well as their needs and wants. If you're unfamiliar with recognizing others' needs and wants, you can start by practicing on people you know.\\nIf you notice that your friends or family members look upset, ask them what's wrong and what they need or want in that moment.\\nYou might be able to use contextual clues to determine what someone needs. For example, if someone is shivering, you can safely assume that they're cold and would like warmer clothing or shelter from the elements.\\nYou can also imagine yourself in someone else's condition and ask yourself, \\\"What would I want or need in that moment?\\\" This can help you better understand someone else's suffering.\\n2-3. Try caring for an animal.\\nHaving a general desire to help someone or something is generally considered an important component of empathy. 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Be patient with yourself.\\nMost people have the capacity to feel empathy for others, or to at least experience cognitive empathy (not feeling the same emotion, but recognizing that you need to show kindness to someone). However, empathy can come more easily to some people. If it doesn't come instantly to you, be patient and keep practicing.\\nRecognize that some people have a hard time experiencing or expressing empathy due to a strong sense of individuality.\\nRemember that this doesn't mean you're less capable than others; you may just need to spend more time and effort working on it.\\nBe patient and keep practicing. In time you will develop the ability to show empathy to your friends, and even to other people you don't like or don't know.\\n3. Extending Empathy to People You Don't Like\\n3-1. Be aware of your thoughts and feelings.\\nOften when you encounter someone you don't like, it's easy to feel angry or frustrated with that person. When feelings of anger arise, it can be incredibly difficult to transition into feeling empathy for that person. The key, then, is to try to catch yourself before that anger has fully blossomed.\\nNotice any physical sensations you might be having when you encounter someone you don't like.\\nFor example, if you're frustrated, you might be feeling flush or experiencing a rapid heartbeat. By contrast, if you're feeling empathetic you might actually feel some degree of sadness.\\nWhenever you catch yourself having thoughts or feelings that interfere with your ability to feel empathy, take a moment to breathe slowly and deeply. Concentrate on letting go of negative emotions and open yourself to the other person's feelings.\\nOnce you're calmer, you should be able to humanize the other person and at least see their struggles as relatable. It's okay if you don't feel empathetic immediately, but you should continue working on it if you want to develop a stronger sense of empathy.\\n3-2. Focus on what you have in common.\\nOne of the best ways to humanize someone you don't know or don't like is to consider how they're similar to you. Even though your lives are different, you still have the same basic needs and wants.\\nThink about all the ways that an individual is probably similar to you.\\nLike you, everyone you meet has hopes and dreams as well as fears and insecurities.\\nIf you look closely enough, you may even find some similarities between you and the person you're focusing on.\\n3-3. Walk a mile in the other person's shoes.\\nIn order to truly humanize someone, some individuals need to actually understand why a person feels, thinks, and behaves the way they do. One way to do this is by following the old adage of walking a mile in someone else's shoes. 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If you want to become more empathetic, especially to your friends, you can practice developing empathy and becoming more understanding of others.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Focusing On Your Friend\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be an active listener.\", \"描述\": \"One of the best ways to show empathy to a friend is by listening to what they have to say. It can be easy to get caught up in your own thoughts during a conversation or to get distracted by other things in your environment while your friend is talking. However, a truly empathetic friend will listen actively and attentively to a friend in need.\\nMake eye contact with your friend while they speak.\\nMinimize distractions. Turn your cell phone off and/or put it away so you won't be tempted to check it while your friend is talking.\\nDon't try to give advice and don't think about what you're going to say while your friend talks.\\nFocus on simply listening attentively, nodding periodically to show that you're engaged.\\nWhen your friend stops talking, ask open-ended questions about what your friend is going through. However, respect the fact that your friend may not want to talk about some things in detail.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Resist the urge to judge your friend.\", \"描述\": \"Real empathy requires you to set aside your judgments and accept another person as they are. That includes accepting that person's suffering for what it is and experiencing an emotional response to it.\\nRemember that your friend doesn't need to feel worse about anything they're going through. As their friend, it's your duty to offer support and kindness.\\nImagine how you would feel if you opened up to your friend about something difficult and they made you feel judged or shamed.\\nTake your imagined scenario a step further: instead of judgmental behavior, what type of behavior would actually help you during difficult times?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Reflect on what your friend says.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to show empathy while your friend speaks is to reflect out loud on what that friend has said. This can help show that you're concerned for your friend and that you're engaging with their thoughts and feelings.\\nDon't repeat what's said word-for-word. This may come across as condescending or impersonal.\\nRephrase what your friend says back to them, then ask them follow up questions.\\nFor example, if your friend says that no one at work understands them, you might reflect by saying, \\\"I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time. It sounds like you're having a hard time connecting with your coworkers - why do you think that is?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Offer continued assistance.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes a friend going through something difficult just needs someone they can talk to or vent about their problems. They may not be looking for advice or anything beyond the company of a reliable friend.\\nLet your friend know that you're available if they need to talk or simply want to spend time together.\\nFollow through on your offer if your friend needs you. Make yourself available as much as possible, especially if your friend is going through a difficult time.\\nContinue to practice showing empathy every time you and your friend spend time together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cultivating Empathy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get curious about others.\", \"描述\": \"In order to feel empathy for someone, you have to have a real interest in how that person feels. It makes sense, then, that one of the most important aspects of empathy is having a basic curiosity about other people and the lives they lead.\\nTry taking note of other people's actions and body language. Eavesdrop on snippets of conversations when you're out in public places.\\nSpend some time thinking about what other people are doing on a day-to-day basis.\\nThis can be done in fleeting moments. Make a point of noticing other drivers' faces and their expressions while you're stuck at a red light.\\nThink about where those individuals are going, what they're doing, and what's going on in their lives right now.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Recognize what others need and want.\", \"描述\": \"Part of feeling empathy for someone entails being aware of their wellbeing as well as their needs and wants. If you're unfamiliar with recognizing others' needs and wants, you can start by practicing on people you know.\\nIf you notice that your friends or family members look upset, ask them what's wrong and what they need or want in that moment.\\nYou might be able to use contextual clues to determine what someone needs. For example, if someone is shivering, you can safely assume that they're cold and would like warmer clothing or shelter from the elements.\\nYou can also imagine yourself in someone else's condition and ask yourself, \\\"What would I want or need in that moment?\\\" This can help you better understand someone else's suffering.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try caring for an animal.\", \"描述\": \"Having a general desire to help someone or something is generally considered an important component of empathy. Spending time with an animal makes you more likely to feel empathy for that animal and want to help it any way you can. For this reason, caring for an animal may actually help some individuals develop a stronger sense of empathy for other people.\\nTry to spend some time volunteering at an animal shelter if you can. You can also try caring for an animal at home.\\nOver time you may be able to build your empathy for others by deepening your concern for the animal.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice speaking in an empathetic voice.\", \"描述\": \"You may not always be aware of it, but how you say something is often just as important as what you actually say. If you're trying to become more empathetic, it may be helpful to train yourself to sound more caring and concerned when speaking to a friend.\\nUse a recording device to tape yourself saying something empathetic like \\\"I'm sorry that happened to you.\\\"\\nSay your chosen empathetic phrase several times in different tones of voice and record each version.\\nListen to your recorded phrasings and determine which one would sound most consoling to you.\\nPractice the phrasing you chose so that it comes more naturally to you in conversation. You may want to practice in front of a mirror so you can be aware of your facial expression, too.\\nPracticing an empathetic voice and expression doesn't mean you're faking the emotions or being insincere. It's simply a way to become more aware of your own mannerisms and body language.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be patient with yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Most people have the capacity to feel empathy for others, or to at least experience cognitive empathy (not feeling the same emotion, but recognizing that you need to show kindness to someone). However, empathy can come more easily to some people. If it doesn't come instantly to you, be patient and keep practicing.\\nRecognize that some people have a hard time experiencing or expressing empathy due to a strong sense of individuality.\\nRemember that this doesn't mean you're less capable than others; you may just need to spend more time and effort working on it.\\nBe patient and keep practicing. In time you will develop the ability to show empathy to your friends, and even to other people you don't like or don't know.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Extending Empathy to People You Don't Like\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be aware of your thoughts and feelings.\", \"描述\": \"Often when you encounter someone you don't like, it's easy to feel angry or frustrated with that person. When feelings of anger arise, it can be incredibly difficult to transition into feeling empathy for that person. The key, then, is to try to catch yourself before that anger has fully blossomed.\\nNotice any physical sensations you might be having when you encounter someone you don't like.\\nFor example, if you're frustrated, you might be feeling flush or experiencing a rapid heartbeat. By contrast, if you're feeling empathetic you might actually feel some degree of sadness.\\nWhenever you catch yourself having thoughts or feelings that interfere with your ability to feel empathy, take a moment to breathe slowly and deeply. Concentrate on letting go of negative emotions and open yourself to the other person's feelings.\\nOnce you're calmer, you should be able to humanize the other person and at least see their struggles as relatable. It's okay if you don't feel empathetic immediately, but you should continue working on it if you want to develop a stronger sense of empathy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus on what you have in common.\", \"描述\": \"One of the best ways to humanize someone you don't know or don't like is to consider how they're similar to you. Even though your lives are different, you still have the same basic needs and wants.\\nThink about all the ways that an individual is probably similar to you.\\nLike you, everyone you meet has hopes and dreams as well as fears and insecurities.\\nIf you look closely enough, you may even find some similarities between you and the person you're focusing on.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Walk a mile in the other person's shoes.\", \"描述\": \"In order to truly humanize someone, some individuals need to actually understand why a person feels, thinks, and behaves the way they do. One way to do this is by following the old adage of walking a mile in someone else's shoes. You can do this literally by trying out someone's hardships for a day, or figuratively by imagining the hardships of someone's life.\\nEven if you haven't experienced what someone else is going through, you have the capacity to imagine what such an experience must be like.\\nTry to relate someone's suffering to something you have experienced, then contextualize it to understand what that person is most likely going through.\\nFor example, while you may still have both parents, you have probably experienced the death of a grandparent, aunt/uncle, or another relative. As a result, you can imagine how much more intense it must be for someone to lose a parent.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Encouragement to Someone Who Is Sick or Ill
1. Showing You Care With Your Words 1-1. Talk to your friend. Learn how to be a good listener and let your friend know that you are there for them if they want to vent about their condition or if they'd rather talk about something else. Either way, having someone to talk to can be a huge relief to someone who is ill. Be honest with your friend if you don't know what to say. Illness often makes people uncomfortable, and that's ok. What is important is for you to be present for your friend and offer your support. Tell your friend that you are there for her no matter what. 1-2. Send a card or make a phone call. If you can't be physically present with your friend, send a card or make a phone call. It's easy to send a text or make a Facebook post, but mail and phone calls feel more personal and will feel more thoughtful to the recipient. Consider writing a thoughtful letter. This can be easier if you are someone who doesn't know what to say around people who are in difficult situations. You can write a letter, and then take time to edit it and rewrite it if you feel like you haven't conveyed your feelings well. Focus on kind wishes, prayers for recovery, and good news that is unrelated to their illness. 1-3. Ask questions. While its important to respect your friend's privacy, if your friend is open to questions they can be a great way to learn more about her condition and to find out more ways that you can support her. You can research her illness online, but asking her questions is the only way to know how her condition affects her as an individual, and just as importantly, how she feels about what she is experiencing. 1-4. Talk to her children. If your friend has kids, they are probably feeling isolated, lonely, and confused. Depending on the severity of her illness, they may also be feeling scared, angry, and worried. They need someone to talk to, and if they know and trust you, you can serve as a mentor and friend to them during this time. Take them out for ice cream and let them talk to you. Don't force them to say more than they seem comfortable. Some children just need you there as a reassuring force in their lives, while others may want to pour out all their feelings to you. Be open to their lead, and follow up with them every few days or weeks, depending on how close you are. 2. Showing You Care With Your Actions 2-1. Visit. If your loved one or close friend is sick in the hospital or confined to their home, the most important way to encourage them is by being present. You can help to take their mind off of their illness and to maintain a semblance of normalcy during this hard time. Think about what you might do on your visit. If your friend likes to play card or board games, you might bring something along. If you have children, you might want to leave them at home, but you could ask them to draw a picture for your friend to help cheer her up. Be sure to call first and make sure it’s a good time, or schedule your visit in advance. Sometimes illnesses require extra care in planning for visits to schedule them around appointments, timing for medications, naps and early bedtime, and other contingencies. 2-2. Treat her like your friend. Someone with chronic or terminal illness lives with daily reminders that she is sick. What she needs is reminders that she is still the same person that you love and care about. Treat her the same as you would if she was not sick. Maintain regular contact. A chronic illness can be a true test of a friendship, and for your friendship to withstand the emotional and logistical challenges of the illness you must make a point to prioritize staying in touch. Someone who is undergoing treatment or confined to a hospital or their bed is often "out of sight, out of mind," so be sure that you put a note on your calendar to remember to reach out on a regular basis. Help her do the things that she normally enjoys. If your friend is living with chronic or terminal illness, its important that she still finds pleasure and joy in life. You can help by offering to take her out for their favorite activities. Don't be afraid to joke around or make plans for the future! This is still the same person that you know and love. 2-3. Support her and her family. If your friend has a family or even pets, this illness is probably even more stressful because not only does she have to worry about her own recovery or prognosis, but she has to worry about those who are depending on her. There are practical ways you can help to support her family through this time: Cook for them. This is a classic, tried-and-true way to support someone who is ill. Whether or not the ill person will be able to partake, cooking a home-cooked meal for her family will ease her burdens by letting her rest easy knowing her children, husband, or other dependents are well taken care of. Help her plan for their care. If your friend has small children, elderly parents, or others who depend on her, ask how you can be proactive in their care during her illness. For instance, she may need someone to visit and check up on her father, someone to walk the dog, or someone who can take the kids to and from school or pick them up from soccer practice. Sometimes planning for small logistical errands can be difficult for people suffering from illness, but having a trusted friend to help carry the burden can make a difference. Clean her house. Some people may be uncomfortable with this kind of support, so be sure to ask your friend first; but if your friend is open to it, ask her to let you commit to one day a week (or more, or less, whatever you are capable of offering) that you can come by and take care of chores. You can offer a specific chore that you know you are good at (mowing the lawn, doing the laundry, cleaning the kitchen, grocery shopping) or you can just let her tell you what will be most helpful. Ask her what she needs, and follow through. People often say "Let me know if you need help," but most people are too timid to ever reach out and take them up on that offer. Instead of making her get in touch with you when she needs something, call her and ask her what she needs. Tell her you're headed to the grocery store and wanted to know if you can pick something up for her, or ask her if there is a night this week that she needs any help around the house. Be specific, and be sincere in your willingness to help. Then follow through and do it- that's the most important part! 2-4. Send flowers or a fruit basket. If you can't be present, at least send a token of your affection so that your friend will know she is in your thoughts. Keep in mind if the illness might make your friend more susceptible to strong scents (some cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy, for instance, may not like a bouquet) and instead think of other things that might work like their favorite chocolate, a teddy bear, or balloons. Many hospitals offer a delivery service from the gift shop, so if your friend is an in-patient, consider purchasing a bouquet or balloon arrangement directly from there. Most hospitals list the phone number for their gift shops on their website, or try calling the hospital operator. Consider going in with mutual friends or co-workers to buy a nicer gift or flower arrangement. 2-5. Be yourself You are unique, and you don't need to pretend to be Mr. or Mrs. Fix It, or Do it all or Got the answer for everything. Just be yourself. Don't pretend to know the answers. Sometimes, even if you do, its best to let them figure some things out on their own. Also being yourself can involve your sense of humor; it can feel like treading on eggshells being with a sick person but if you're nervous or acting as though you don't know what to say you could make them feel uncomfortable so be your laughing, joking self (if that's the way you usually are). Be pleasant. You want to be as supportive and as comforting as possible. You want to lift their spirits up, not bog them down with gossip or negative opinions. Even wearing cheerfully colored clothes could brighten their day! 2-6. Make her feel needed. Sometimes asking advice or asking small favors can help someone with a chronic or terminal illness feel needed, which can give them some motivation to stay engaged. In many health conditions people's brains are as sharp as they ever were and thinking about other people's lives and problems can take their minds off their own for a while. Think about your friend's area of expertise, and ask any questions you have that might be relevant. For instance, if your friend is an avid gardener, and you've been meaning to put in your Spring beds, ask her advice on when to get started and what kind of mulch to use. 3. Knowing What Not to Do or Say 3-1. Watch out for common faux pas. There are a lot of cliches that people use when other people are going through hard times, and more often than not these common responses just feel insincere or painful to the recipient. Examples of what not to say include: "God will never give you more than you can handle," or its even-worse variation, "This is God's will." Sometimes well meaning people of faith say this phrase, and they may truly believe it, but it can feel very harsh to the recipient, especially if she is experiencing something that is very difficult or overwhelming. Also, the person may not believe in God. "I know how you feel." Sometimes people say this phrase to others who are going through hard times, and while its true that everyone has experienced trials in life, it's impossible to know how someone else is feeling. This phrase is even worse if its accompanied by personal anecdotes that really don't match the intensity of what the sufferer is experiencing. For example, if someone is facing the loss of a limb, don't equate it to the time that you broke your arm. It's not the same thing. However, if you have truly had an experience that is on par with the experience the sufferer is going through, it's ok to talk about and say "I've been through something similar." You'll be ok." This is a common phrase when people don't know what to say, and we often say it more as a wish than a statement of fact. In fact, you don't know if someone will be ok, and in many cases of chronic or terminal illness, the person will NOT be ok. They may die, or be condemned to a life of physical suffering. Saying they will be ok minimizes the experience they are having. "At least..." Don't minimize the person's suffering by suggesting they should be thankful that their situation isn't worse. 3-2. Don't complain about your own health problems. In particular, avoid discussing minor health issues such as a headache or a cold. This can vary depending on your relationship with the person and the length of their illness. If they are chronically ill, or a very close confidant, it is more likely to be appropriate to discuss things that you're going through. 3-3. Don't let fear of doing the wrong thing keep you from doing anything at all. While its true that its important to be sensitive to the feelings of someone who is sick, sometimes we overcompensate for our fear of doing the wrong thing by doing nothing at all. Its better to stick your foot in your mouth and apologize than it is to just ignore your sick friend altogether. If you do mess up and say something insensitive, just say, "I don't know why I said that. I really don't know what to say. This situation is just very hard." Your friend will understand. 3-4. Be considerate. Try to pay attention to your friend's cues so that you don't visit too frequently or overstay your welcome. When someone is extremely sick especially, it can be very difficult to carry on a conversation and they won't want to offend you so may over-tax themselves by trying to please you. If your friend seems distracted by television or her phone, or seems like she is struggling to fall asleep, those might be signs that she is growing tired of the visit. Don't take it personally! Just remember she is dealing with lot, both physically and emotionally, and it can be taxing. Be mindful of the time, and be sure that you don't extend your stay into mealtimes or other times that your friend may need to be alone. Ask if your friend would like you to pick up some food for them or cook them a meal if you plan to visit during mealtime. 4. Understanding Chronic Illness 4-1. Be sensitive to your friend's limitations. Educate yourself about their condition and treatment plan so that you are prepared for side effects, changes to their personality, or limits on their energy or stamina. Ask your friend about their condition, if they want to share, or take time to read about it online. Watch your friend's body language to understand how she is feeling and how her illness affects her ability to participate in activities, stay alert, and remain emotionally predictable. Be gentle and understanding if she does not act like her old self, and remember that she is carrying many heavy burdens. 4-2. Keep in mind effects on your friend's moods. Dealing with debilitating, chronic, or terminal illnesses very frequently results in depression and other problems, and sometimes the medications to treat illnesses also have side effects that can affect the mood. If your friend struggles with depressive thoughts, remind her that this illness is not her fault and that you will be there to support her no matter what happens. 4-3. Show empathy Try to place yourself in that person's situation. One day you might have a similar illness and you'll want people to be kind and sympathetic to you. Remember the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have others to do unto you. If you were ill with a similar condition, what types of daily activities would be a struggle? How might you feel emotionally? What type of support would you hope you friends would offer? Imagining yourself in their place can help you best determine how to help them. Tips If your friend suffers from a dangerous contagious disease, take precautions to avoid spreading germs such as wearing a surgical mask and keeping a fair distance from them. You can also video chat or call them on the phone to stay in touch and stay connected without risking catching illness.
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This can be easier if you are someone who doesn't know what to say around people who are in difficult situations. You can write a letter, and then take time to edit it and rewrite it if you feel like you haven't conveyed your feelings well. Focus on kind wishes, prayers for recovery, and good news that is unrelated to their illness.\\n1-3. Ask questions.\\nWhile its important to respect your friend's privacy, if your friend is open to questions they can be a great way to learn more about her condition and to find out more ways that you can support her.\\nYou can research her illness online, but asking her questions is the only way to know how her condition affects her as an individual, and just as importantly, how she feels about what she is experiencing.\\n1-4. Talk to her children.\\nIf your friend has kids, they are probably feeling isolated, lonely, and confused. Depending on the severity of her illness, they may also be feeling scared, angry, and worried. 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If you have children, you might want to leave them at home, but you could ask them to draw a picture for your friend to help cheer her up.\\nBe sure to call first and make sure it’s a good time, or schedule your visit in advance. Sometimes illnesses require extra care in planning for visits to schedule them around appointments, timing for medications, naps and early bedtime, and other contingencies.\\n2-2. Treat her like your friend.\\nSomeone with chronic or terminal illness lives with daily reminders that she is sick. What she needs is reminders that she is still the same person that you love and care about. Treat her the same as you would if she was not sick.\\nMaintain regular contact. A chronic illness can be a true test of a friendship, and for your friendship to withstand the emotional and logistical challenges of the illness you must make a point to prioritize staying in touch. Someone who is undergoing treatment or confined to a hospital or their bed is often \\\"out of sight, out of mind,\\\" so be sure that you put a note on your calendar to remember to reach out on a regular basis.\\nHelp her do the things that she normally enjoys. If your friend is living with chronic or terminal illness, its important that she still finds pleasure and joy in life. You can help by offering to take her out for their favorite activities.\\nDon't be afraid to joke around or make plans for the future! This is still the same person that you know and love.\\n2-3. Support her and her family.\\nIf your friend has a family or even pets, this illness is probably even more stressful because not only does she have to worry about her own recovery or prognosis, but she has to worry about those who are depending on her. There are practical ways you can help to support her family through this time:\\nCook for them. This is a classic, tried-and-true way to support someone who is ill. Whether or not the ill person will be able to partake, cooking a home-cooked meal for her family will ease her burdens by letting her rest easy knowing her children, husband, or other dependents are well taken care of.\\nHelp her plan for their care. If your friend has small children, elderly parents, or others who depend on her, ask how you can be proactive in their care during her illness. For instance, she may need someone to visit and check up on her father, someone to walk the dog, or someone who can take the kids to and from school or pick them up from soccer practice. Sometimes planning for small logistical errands can be difficult for people suffering from illness, but having a trusted friend to help carry the burden can make a difference.\\nClean her house. Some people may be uncomfortable with this kind of support, so be sure to ask your friend first; but if your friend is open to it, ask her to let you commit to one day a week (or more, or less, whatever you are capable of offering) that you can come by and take care of chores. You can offer a specific chore that you know you are good at (mowing the lawn, doing the laundry, cleaning the kitchen, grocery shopping) or you can just let her tell you what will be most helpful.\\nAsk her what she needs, and follow through. People often say \\\"Let me know if you need help,\\\" but most people are too timid to ever reach out and take them up on that offer. Instead of making her get in touch with you when she needs something, call her and ask her what she needs. Tell her you're headed to the grocery store and wanted to know if you can pick something up for her, or ask her if there is a night this week that she needs any help around the house. Be specific, and be sincere in your willingness to help. Then follow through and do it- that's the most important part!\\n2-4. Send flowers or a fruit basket.\\nIf you can't be present, at least send a token of your affection so that your friend will know she is in your thoughts.\\nKeep in mind if the illness might make your friend more susceptible to strong scents (some cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy, for instance, may not like a bouquet) and instead think of other things that might work like their favorite chocolate, a teddy bear, or balloons.\\nMany hospitals offer a delivery service from the gift shop, so if your friend is an in-patient, consider purchasing a bouquet or balloon arrangement directly from there. Most hospitals list the phone number for their gift shops on their website, or try calling the hospital operator.\\nConsider going in with mutual friends or co-workers to buy a nicer gift or flower arrangement.\\n2-5. Be yourself\\nYou are unique, and you don't need to pretend to be Mr. or Mrs. Fix It, or Do it all or Got the answer for everything. Just be yourself.\\nDon't pretend to know the answers. Sometimes, even if you do, its best to let them figure some things out on their own. Also being yourself can involve your sense of humor; it can feel like treading on eggshells being with a sick person but if you're nervous or acting as though you don't know what to say you could make them feel uncomfortable so be your laughing, joking self (if that's the way you usually are).\\nBe pleasant. You want to be as supportive and as comforting as possible. You want to lift their spirits up, not bog them down with gossip or negative opinions. Even wearing cheerfully colored clothes could brighten their day!\\n2-6. Make her feel needed.\\nSometimes asking advice or asking small favors can help someone with a chronic or terminal illness feel needed, which can give them some motivation to stay engaged.\\nIn many health conditions people's brains are as sharp as they ever were and thinking about other people's lives and problems can take their minds off their own for a while.\\nThink about your friend's area of expertise, and ask any questions you have that might be relevant. For instance, if your friend is an avid gardener, and you've been meaning to put in your Spring beds, ask her advice on when to get started and what kind of mulch to use.\\n3. Knowing What Not to Do or Say\\n3-1. Watch out for common faux pas.\\nThere are a lot of cliches that people use when other people are going through hard times, and more often than not these common responses just feel insincere or painful to the recipient. Examples of what not to say include:\\n\\\"God will never give you more than you can handle,\\\" or its even-worse variation, \\\"This is God's will.\\\" Sometimes well meaning people of faith say this phrase, and they may truly believe it, but it can feel very harsh to the recipient, especially if she is experiencing something that is very difficult or overwhelming. Also, the person may not believe in God.\\n\\\"I know how you feel.\\\" Sometimes people say this phrase to others who are going through hard times, and while its true that everyone has experienced trials in life, it's impossible to know how someone else is feeling. This phrase is even worse if its accompanied by personal anecdotes that really don't match the intensity of what the sufferer is experiencing. For example, if someone is facing the loss of a limb, don't equate it to the time that you broke your arm. It's not the same thing. However, if you have truly had an experience that is on par with the experience the sufferer is going through, it's ok to talk about and say \\\"I've been through something similar.\\\"\\nYou'll be ok.\\\" This is a common phrase when people don't know what to say, and we often say it more as a wish than a statement of fact. In fact, you don't know if someone will be ok, and in many cases of chronic or terminal illness, the person will NOT be ok. They may die, or be condemned to a life of physical suffering. Saying they will be ok minimizes the experience they are having.\\n\\\"At least...\\\" Don't minimize the person's suffering by suggesting they should be thankful that their situation isn't worse.\\n3-2. Don't complain about your own health problems.\\nIn particular, avoid discussing minor health issues such as a headache or a cold.\\nThis can vary depending on your relationship with the person and the length of their illness. If they are chronically ill, or a very close confidant, it is more likely to be appropriate to discuss things that you're going through.\\n3-3. Don't let fear of doing the wrong thing keep you from doing anything at all.\\nWhile its true that its important to be sensitive to the feelings of someone who is sick, sometimes we overcompensate for our fear of doing the wrong thing by doing nothing at all. Its better to stick your foot in your mouth and apologize than it is to just ignore your sick friend altogether.\\nIf you do mess up and say something insensitive, just say, \\\"I don't know why I said that. I really don't know what to say. This situation is just very hard.\\\" Your friend will understand.\\n3-4. Be considerate.\\nTry to pay attention to your friend's cues so that you don't visit too frequently or overstay your welcome. When someone is extremely sick especially, it can be very difficult to carry on a conversation and they won't want to offend you so may over-tax themselves by trying to please you.\\nIf your friend seems distracted by television or her phone, or seems like she is struggling to fall asleep, those might be signs that she is growing tired of the visit. Don't take it personally! Just remember she is dealing with lot, both physically and emotionally, and it can be taxing.\\nBe mindful of the time, and be sure that you don't extend your stay into mealtimes or other times that your friend may need to be alone. Ask if your friend would like you to pick up some food for them or cook them a meal if you plan to visit during mealtime.\\n4. Understanding Chronic Illness\\n4-1. Be sensitive to your friend's limitations.\\nEducate yourself about their condition and treatment plan so that you are prepared for side effects, changes to their personality, or limits on their energy or stamina.\\nAsk your friend about their condition, if they want to share, or take time to read about it online.\\nWatch your friend's body language to understand how she is feeling and how her illness affects her ability to participate in activities, stay alert, and remain emotionally predictable. Be gentle and understanding if she does not act like her old self, and remember that she is carrying many heavy burdens.\\n4-2. Keep in mind effects on your friend's moods.\\nDealing with debilitating, chronic, or terminal illnesses very frequently results in depression and other problems, and sometimes the medications to treat illnesses also have side effects that can affect the mood.\\nIf your friend struggles with depressive thoughts, remind her that this illness is not her fault and that you will be there to support her no matter what happens.\\n4-3. Show empathy\\nTry to place yourself in that person's situation. One day you might have a similar illness and you'll want people to be kind and sympathetic to you. Remember the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have others to do unto you.\\nIf you were ill with a similar condition, what types of daily activities would be a struggle? How might you feel emotionally? What type of support would you hope you friends would offer?\\nImagining yourself in their place can help you best determine how to help them.\\nTips\\nIf your friend suffers from a dangerous contagious disease, take precautions to avoid spreading germs such as wearing a surgical mask and keeping a fair distance from them. You can also video chat or call them on the phone to stay in touch and stay connected without risking catching illness.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If someone you know is sick or ill, it can be hard to see him or her suffer while you're helpless to do anything about it. Although there is probably nothing you can do about her condition, you can show your friend you care by doing and saying the right things to be an encouragement during this difficult time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Showing You Care With Your Words\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Talk to your friend.\", \"描述\": \"Learn how to be a good listener and let your friend know that you are there for them if they want to vent about their condition or if they'd rather talk about something else. Either way, having someone to talk to can be a huge relief to someone who is ill.\\nBe honest with your friend if you don't know what to say. Illness often makes people uncomfortable, and that's ok. What is important is for you to be present for your friend and offer your support. Tell your friend that you are there for her no matter what.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Send a card or make a phone call.\", \"描述\": \"If you can't be physically present with your friend, send a card or make a phone call. It's easy to send a text or make a Facebook post, but mail and phone calls feel more personal and will feel more thoughtful to the recipient.\\nConsider writing a thoughtful letter. This can be easier if you are someone who doesn't know what to say around people who are in difficult situations. You can write a letter, and then take time to edit it and rewrite it if you feel like you haven't conveyed your feelings well. Focus on kind wishes, prayers for recovery, and good news that is unrelated to their illness.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"While its important to respect your friend's privacy, if your friend is open to questions they can be a great way to learn more about her condition and to find out more ways that you can support her.\\nYou can research her illness online, but asking her questions is the only way to know how her condition affects her as an individual, and just as importantly, how she feels about what she is experiencing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Talk to her children.\", \"描述\": \"If your friend has kids, they are probably feeling isolated, lonely, and confused. Depending on the severity of her illness, they may also be feeling scared, angry, and worried. They need someone to talk to, and if they know and trust you, you can serve as a mentor and friend to them during this time.\\nTake them out for ice cream and let them talk to you. Don't force them to say more than they seem comfortable. Some children just need you there as a reassuring force in their lives, while others may want to pour out all their feelings to you. Be open to their lead, and follow up with them every few days or weeks, depending on how close you are.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Showing You Care With Your Actions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Visit.\", \"描述\": \"If your loved one or close friend is sick in the hospital or confined to their home, the most important way to encourage them is by being present. You can help to take their mind off of their illness and to maintain a semblance of normalcy during this hard time.\\nThink about what you might do on your visit. If your friend likes to play card or board games, you might bring something along. If you have children, you might want to leave them at home, but you could ask them to draw a picture for your friend to help cheer her up.\\nBe sure to call first and make sure it’s a good time, or schedule your visit in advance. Sometimes illnesses require extra care in planning for visits to schedule them around appointments, timing for medications, naps and early bedtime, and other contingencies.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Treat her like your friend.\", \"描述\": \"Someone with chronic or terminal illness lives with daily reminders that she is sick. What she needs is reminders that she is still the same person that you love and care about. Treat her the same as you would if she was not sick.\\nMaintain regular contact. A chronic illness can be a true test of a friendship, and for your friendship to withstand the emotional and logistical challenges of the illness you must make a point to prioritize staying in touch. Someone who is undergoing treatment or confined to a hospital or their bed is often \\\"out of sight, out of mind,\\\" so be sure that you put a note on your calendar to remember to reach out on a regular basis.\\nHelp her do the things that she normally enjoys. If your friend is living with chronic or terminal illness, its important that she still finds pleasure and joy in life. You can help by offering to take her out for their favorite activities.\\nDon't be afraid to joke around or make plans for the future! This is still the same person that you know and love.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Support her and her family.\", \"描述\": \"If your friend has a family or even pets, this illness is probably even more stressful because not only does she have to worry about her own recovery or prognosis, but she has to worry about those who are depending on her. There are practical ways you can help to support her family through this time:\\nCook for them. This is a classic, tried-and-true way to support someone who is ill. Whether or not the ill person will be able to partake, cooking a home-cooked meal for her family will ease her burdens by letting her rest easy knowing her children, husband, or other dependents are well taken care of.\\nHelp her plan for their care. If your friend has small children, elderly parents, or others who depend on her, ask how you can be proactive in their care during her illness. For instance, she may need someone to visit and check up on her father, someone to walk the dog, or someone who can take the kids to and from school or pick them up from soccer practice. Sometimes planning for small logistical errands can be difficult for people suffering from illness, but having a trusted friend to help carry the burden can make a difference.\\nClean her house. Some people may be uncomfortable with this kind of support, so be sure to ask your friend first; but if your friend is open to it, ask her to let you commit to one day a week (or more, or less, whatever you are capable of offering) that you can come by and take care of chores. You can offer a specific chore that you know you are good at (mowing the lawn, doing the laundry, cleaning the kitchen, grocery shopping) or you can just let her tell you what will be most helpful.\\nAsk her what she needs, and follow through. People often say \\\"Let me know if you need help,\\\" but most people are too timid to ever reach out and take them up on that offer. Instead of making her get in touch with you when she needs something, call her and ask her what she needs. Tell her you're headed to the grocery store and wanted to know if you can pick something up for her, or ask her if there is a night this week that she needs any help around the house. Be specific, and be sincere in your willingness to help. Then follow through and do it- that's the most important part!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Send flowers or a fruit basket.\", \"描述\": \"If you can't be present, at least send a token of your affection so that your friend will know she is in your thoughts.\\nKeep in mind if the illness might make your friend more susceptible to strong scents (some cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy, for instance, may not like a bouquet) and instead think of other things that might work like their favorite chocolate, a teddy bear, or balloons.\\nMany hospitals offer a delivery service from the gift shop, so if your friend is an in-patient, consider purchasing a bouquet or balloon arrangement directly from there. Most hospitals list the phone number for their gift shops on their website, or try calling the hospital operator.\\nConsider going in with mutual friends or co-workers to buy a nicer gift or flower arrangement.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be yourself\", \"描述\": \"You are unique, and you don't need to pretend to be Mr. or Mrs. Fix It, or Do it all or Got the answer for everything. Just be yourself.\\nDon't pretend to know the answers. Sometimes, even if you do, its best to let them figure some things out on their own. Also being yourself can involve your sense of humor; it can feel like treading on eggshells being with a sick person but if you're nervous or acting as though you don't know what to say you could make them feel uncomfortable so be your laughing, joking self (if that's the way you usually are).\\nBe pleasant. You want to be as supportive and as comforting as possible. You want to lift their spirits up, not bog them down with gossip or negative opinions. Even wearing cheerfully colored clothes could brighten their day!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make her feel needed.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes asking advice or asking small favors can help someone with a chronic or terminal illness feel needed, which can give them some motivation to stay engaged.\\nIn many health conditions people's brains are as sharp as they ever were and thinking about other people's lives and problems can take their minds off their own for a while.\\nThink about your friend's area of expertise, and ask any questions you have that might be relevant. For instance, if your friend is an avid gardener, and you've been meaning to put in your Spring beds, ask her advice on when to get started and what kind of mulch to use.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Knowing What Not to Do or Say\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Watch out for common faux pas.\", \"描述\": \"There are a lot of cliches that people use when other people are going through hard times, and more often than not these common responses just feel insincere or painful to the recipient. Examples of what not to say include:\\n\\\"God will never give you more than you can handle,\\\" or its even-worse variation, \\\"This is God's will.\\\" Sometimes well meaning people of faith say this phrase, and they may truly believe it, but it can feel very harsh to the recipient, especially if she is experiencing something that is very difficult or overwhelming. Also, the person may not believe in God.\\n\\\"I know how you feel.\\\" Sometimes people say this phrase to others who are going through hard times, and while its true that everyone has experienced trials in life, it's impossible to know how someone else is feeling. This phrase is even worse if its accompanied by personal anecdotes that really don't match the intensity of what the sufferer is experiencing. For example, if someone is facing the loss of a limb, don't equate it to the time that you broke your arm. It's not the same thing. However, if you have truly had an experience that is on par with the experience the sufferer is going through, it's ok to talk about and say \\\"I've been through something similar.\\\"\\nYou'll be ok.\\\" This is a common phrase when people don't know what to say, and we often say it more as a wish than a statement of fact. In fact, you don't know if someone will be ok, and in many cases of chronic or terminal illness, the person will NOT be ok. They may die, or be condemned to a life of physical suffering. Saying they will be ok minimizes the experience they are having.\\n\\\"At least...\\\" Don't minimize the person's suffering by suggesting they should be thankful that their situation isn't worse.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't complain about your own health problems.\", \"描述\": \"In particular, avoid discussing minor health issues such as a headache or a cold.\\nThis can vary depending on your relationship with the person and the length of their illness. If they are chronically ill, or a very close confidant, it is more likely to be appropriate to discuss things that you're going through.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't let fear of doing the wrong thing keep you from doing anything at all.\", \"描述\": \"While its true that its important to be sensitive to the feelings of someone who is sick, sometimes we overcompensate for our fear of doing the wrong thing by doing nothing at all. Its better to stick your foot in your mouth and apologize than it is to just ignore your sick friend altogether.\\nIf you do mess up and say something insensitive, just say, \\\"I don't know why I said that. I really don't know what to say. This situation is just very hard.\\\" Your friend will understand.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be considerate.\", \"描述\": \"Try to pay attention to your friend's cues so that you don't visit too frequently or overstay your welcome. When someone is extremely sick especially, it can be very difficult to carry on a conversation and they won't want to offend you so may over-tax themselves by trying to please you.\\nIf your friend seems distracted by television or her phone, or seems like she is struggling to fall asleep, those might be signs that she is growing tired of the visit. Don't take it personally! Just remember she is dealing with lot, both physically and emotionally, and it can be taxing.\\nBe mindful of the time, and be sure that you don't extend your stay into mealtimes or other times that your friend may need to be alone. Ask if your friend would like you to pick up some food for them or cook them a meal if you plan to visit during mealtime.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understanding Chronic Illness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be sensitive to your friend's limitations.\", \"描述\": \"Educate yourself about their condition and treatment plan so that you are prepared for side effects, changes to their personality, or limits on their energy or stamina.\\nAsk your friend about their condition, if they want to share, or take time to read about it online.\\nWatch your friend's body language to understand how she is feeling and how her illness affects her ability to participate in activities, stay alert, and remain emotionally predictable. 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How to Be an English Gentleman
1. Being Chivalrous 1-1. Show politeness to show your refinement. Being chivalrous seems outdated to many people. However, at it's base, chivalry just means being polite to other people. It doesn't even need to be based on gender. Politeness goes across all boundaries, and it's a large part of being an English gentleman, as English gentlemen are meant to be refined. In fact, it's right there in the title, gentleman. A contemporary English gentleman treats the women in his life with politeness and chivalry, while at the same time, recognizes that a woman is an independent, intelligent person. Be friendly and engaging to everyone you encounter. Make eye contact and smile. 1-2. Give up your seat if someone is standing. If someone is standing, particularly if it's someone who has less capability to stand for long periods, such as an elderly person, it's chivalrous to give your seat up. An English gentleman would never sit if someone near him needed a seat. Traditionally, gentlemen always gave up their seats for women in the room, but today, politeness dictates doing so for anyone who may need it. 1-3. Hold doors open for people. That is, never just let a door slam on someone behind you, no matter who they are. At least let them catch the door. A better option is to actually stand back and hold the door so they can pass through ahead of you. True English gentlemen put aside childish behavior, like not taking the time to hold open a door. 1-4. Take care of people. Of course, it's not your responsibility to take care of every problem for every single person in your life. However, part of being a gentleman is being willing to step up and help when you can do so. Take the time to figure out what people need, and offer help as you can. For instance, if you notice someone is struggling with their bags, offer to lend a hand. If a family member has a car break down, offer to come help. George Bernard Shaw noted that a true English gentleman gives more to the world and other people than he takes away. 1-5. Mean what you say, and say what you mean. If you've ever heard the term "a gentleman's agreement," then you understand the meaning behind this directive. An English gentleman's agreement relies on the fact that the two men are honorable and will hold to their word. The point is, if you give your word as a gentleman, you have a duty to follow through. In fact, the phrase "gentleman's agreement" appeared in print as early as 1821, in the British Parliamentary records, meaning the phrase originated with the British. 2. Acting Like a Modern Gentleman 2-1. Be on time. Punctuality is a gentlemanly value because it shows you value the time of the people around you. Therefore, to show you are a gentleman, make sure you are always where you will say you will be at the time you say you will be, with the exceptions of emergencies, of course. Being on time also includes calling when you say you will. 2-2. Take the embarrassment out of situations. That is, try to keep others at ease by making situations embarrassment-proof, if possible. For example, say you are at dinner with some friends who don't know to put their napkins in their laps. Instead of pointing it out or pointedly placing yours in your lap, leave your napkin on the table as they do, to avoid embarrassing them. The idea also holds for guests. Make it so the guest is always right and feels comfortable in your home. For instance, if they leave towels on the floor in the bathroom, don't say, "Why would you leave towels on the floor?" Just quietly pick them up, and put them in the laundry. Oscar Wilde defined an English gentleman as a person "who never hurts someone's feelings unintentionally," which is why this step helps to make you an English gentleman. 2-3. Get people to talk about themselves. A mark of a true gentleman is humility. That means not bragging about your accomplishments, as well as not hogging conversations. When having a conversation with someone, ask them questions to get them talking instead of going on and on about yourself. For example, you could say, "Tell me about yourself," "What do you do for a living?" "How was your day?" or "What have you been reading lately?" 2-4. Don't be showy with what you have. If you are a wealthy person, don't be showy about it. Don't flaunt the fact that you have wealth. Even if you aren't a wealthy person, try not to flaunt when you get something new. This idea goes back to putting others at ease, as showing a person what they don't have can make them uncomfortable. For instance, if you get a new car, don't post it all over social media. If someone mentions they got a new job, don't try to one-up them with your job or salary. Robert Smith Surtees, a 19th-century novelist and editor, noted that anyone who talks too much about being an English gentleman isn't one, and the same applies to being ostentatious. 2-5. Be fair. An English gentleman doesn't cheat his friends or his enemies. If you play a game, follow the rules, rather than ruthlessly trying to get away with cheating. Also, treat those around him with equal fairness. For instance, don't favor an employee at work just because you're better friends with that employee. Rather, base promotions on merit and hard work. 2-6. Try not to cause a fuss. As a guest, an English gentleman is polite and proper and always defers to his host. In other words, you should be the perfect guest. Don't make a fuss about what should be served at dinner, for instance. Rather, you should happily eat what's served at the meal, even if it's not your favorite food, with compliments to the chef. 2-7. Pay attention to potential problems. One way to put people at ease is to anticipate problems and take care of them before they come into play. For instance, if you know someone is down on their luck with finances, invite them to a more modest place you know they can afford when you have dinner with them. Even better, invite them over to your house for dinner. This type of consideration also applies to things that you know make people uncomfortable. For instance, if you know your friend prefers to have their back to the wall when out in public, always offer them that seat. 3. Learning Proper Values 3-1. Make generosity a part of your day-to-day life. Being generous doesn't mean that you need to give away handfuls of cash every day, though it can, of course, mean being open with the resources you have at your disposable. However, it also means being generous with your time, love, and support, in such a way that you make the people in your life feel like they are valued. In other words, make time for the people in your life. Tell them you like them, love them, and value them often. Show you care by acting out small kindnesses, such as having a cup of coffee ready when a person gets up, warming up the car ahead of time, or bringing someone flowers just because. Part of being generous is to give without expectation of it being reciprocated. Part of the definition of an English gentleman is one who is able to give more than he takes. 3-2. Stand your ground. When it comes to moral decisions, a gentleman will stand his ground. In other words, you don't take the easy way out by skirting the rules, nor would you bend on a decision if it would harm other people in some way. Basically, you need a moral code, and you need to stick to it. 3-3. Be a hard worker. While a strictly old-fashioned definition of an English gentleman would be someone who didn't work, a more modern definition usually means someone who is willing to work hard for the things he wants in life. It's an unwillingness to take "no" for an answer. You must be willing to overcome the obstacles that life throws at you with class and grace. 3-4. Consider traveling. While traveling does take some money, it provides you with invaluable lessons about the world, including how to get along with a wide variety of people from differing backgrounds. Learning about the world will only help you appreciate it more, as well as teach you the injustices you need to fight against. While English gentleman traditionally referred to a gentry class person, it now has the meaning of any well-bred, educated person. Traveling can help you achieve those qualities. 3-5. Speak the language. While speaking well isn't necessarily a value, it often does distinguish an English gentleman. An English gentleman phrases things in polite ways that may come off as slightly stilted to some ears, just because it's a bit formal. For instance, you might say "Pleased to meet your acquaintance," rather than "Nice to meet you." Be as natural as possible. Avoid putting on airs. Don't use profanity. 4. Dressing Like a Gentleman 4-1. Find a nice, slim-fitting jacket. A suit jacket can cover a wide variety of occasions, particularly if it's in a nice fabric. Pick one that's slim-fitting, as that's more the modern style. If you aren't sure where to begin, consider getting fitted at an upscale suit shop where they can measure you and find the right jacket for you. A jacket should be form-fitting at the shoulders, though it shouldn't be so snug that it makes the jacket ride up or down. If you don't have the funds for a brand-new jacket, you can pick up some really nice ones at thrift shops. The only problem is you'll need to spend some time hunting around to find one that fits you and that is made from a decent fabric. 4-2. Choose dressy pants. Traditionally, English gentlemen wore high-waisted pants. While the high-waisted part is optional, when wearing a suit jacket, pick an appropriate pair of trousers. They can be made from the same material as the jacket, or they can be made from a complementary neutral color for a more casual look. You can even get away with a nice pair of jeans, depending on the occasion. 4-3. Add a pair of suspenders. Nothing says old English style like a pair of suspenders. However, it's not just about looking good. Suspenders don't cut into your waist like a belt can do. You can find suspenders at almost any shop that sells suits, though you may also hunt around at your local thrift stores for a lucky find. 4-4. Consider a waistcoat. "Waistcoat" is just a fancy word for a suit vest, which goes under the suit jacket but over the suspenders. Like the suit jacket, it should be slim-fitting, hugging your shoulders and chest. You shouldn't have gaps at the shoulders. Of course, you still need room to breathe. Also, the buttons of a waistcoat should be buttoned, with the exception of the bottom button, which can be left undone. Usually, the waistcoat will match your jacket. Sometimes, they will be made out of the same material, though other times they will just match in color. 4-5. Add the details. A tie or bow-tie makes any jacket a little fancier, so pick one in a complimentary color, preferably of the hand-tied variety. You should also add a handkerchief that matches the tie in your jacket pocket. Cuff links also make a nice addition, adding a bit of subtle glamor. Shoes are also important. Pick a dressy shoe in a complementary color. Brogues are traditional English shoes and make a good choice if you can't decide. 4-6. Be yourself. While finding a good style is important, a gentleman is able to make his own style. In other words, it's not necessarily about finding the latest trend. Rather, it's about finding what works for you and then wearing it well. Part of wearing something well is to make sure everything you wear is in good condition (no holes or stains) and to wear it with confidence. Wear clean, pressed, well-fitting clothes. 4-7. Dress for the occasion. While it can be fun to dress the part of a well-dressed English gentleman, always keep the occasion in mind. Wearing a suit, tie, vest, and suspenders to an informal barbecue is going to look a little strange. In other words, keep it classy, but don't overdo it. On the other hand, if you're invited to an event that calls for black or white tie, make sure to dress that part, too. That is, dress up by wearing a tuxedo and the required white or black tie. Remember that part of being a gentleman is dressing appropriately for the occasion.
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An English gentleman would never sit if someone near him needed a seat. Traditionally, gentlemen always gave up their seats for women in the room, but today, politeness dictates doing so for anyone who may need it.\\n1-3. Hold doors open for people.\\nThat is, never just let a door slam on someone behind you, no matter who they are. At least let them catch the door. A better option is to actually stand back and hold the door so they can pass through ahead of you.\\nTrue English gentlemen put aside childish behavior, like not taking the time to hold open a door.\\n1-4. Take care of people.\\nOf course, it's not your responsibility to take care of every problem for every single person in your life. However, part of being a gentleman is being willing to step up and help when you can do so. Take the time to figure out what people need, and offer help as you can.\\nFor instance, if you notice someone is struggling with their bags, offer to lend a hand.\\nIf a family member has a car break down, offer to come help.\\nGeorge Bernard Shaw noted that a true English gentleman gives more to the world and other people than he takes away.\\n1-5. Mean what you say, and say what you mean.\\nIf you've ever heard the term \\\"a gentleman's agreement,\\\" then you understand the meaning behind this directive. An English gentleman's agreement relies on the fact that the two men are honorable and will hold to their word. The point is, if you give your word as a gentleman, you have a duty to follow through.\\nIn fact, the phrase \\\"gentleman's agreement\\\" appeared in print as early as 1821, in the British Parliamentary records, meaning the phrase originated with the British.\\n2. Acting Like a Modern Gentleman\\n2-1. Be on time.\\nPunctuality is a gentlemanly value because it shows you value the time of the people around you. Therefore, to show you are a gentleman, make sure you are always where you will say you will be at the time you say you will be, with the exceptions of emergencies, of course.\\nBeing on time also includes calling when you say you will.\\n2-2. Take the embarrassment out of situations.\\nThat is, try to keep others at ease by making situations embarrassment-proof, if possible. For example, say you are at dinner with some friends who don't know to put their napkins in their laps. Instead of pointing it out or pointedly placing yours in your lap, leave your napkin on the table as they do, to avoid embarrassing them.\\nThe idea also holds for guests. Make it so the guest is always right and feels comfortable in your home. For instance, if they leave towels on the floor in the bathroom, don't say, \\\"Why would you leave towels on the floor?\\\" Just quietly pick them up, and put them in the laundry.\\nOscar Wilde defined an English gentleman as a person \\\"who never hurts someone's feelings unintentionally,\\\" which is why this step helps to make you an English gentleman.\\n2-3. Get people to talk about themselves.\\nA mark of a true gentleman is humility. That means not bragging about your accomplishments, as well as not hogging conversations. When having a conversation with someone, ask them questions to get them talking instead of going on and on about yourself.\\nFor example, you could say, \\\"Tell me about yourself,\\\" \\\"What do you do for a living?\\\" \\\"How was your day?\\\" or \\\"What have you been reading lately?\\\"\\n2-4. Don't be showy with what you have.\\nIf you are a wealthy person, don't be showy about it. Don't flaunt the fact that you have wealth. Even if you aren't a wealthy person, try not to flaunt when you get something new. This idea goes back to putting others at ease, as showing a person what they don't have can make them uncomfortable.\\nFor instance, if you get a new car, don't post it all over social media. If someone mentions they got a new job, don't try to one-up them with your job or salary.\\nRobert Smith Surtees, a 19th-century novelist and editor, noted that anyone who talks too much about being an English gentleman isn't one, and the same applies to being ostentatious.\\n2-5. Be fair.\\nAn English gentleman doesn't cheat his friends or his enemies. If you play a game, follow the rules, rather than ruthlessly trying to get away with cheating. Also, treat those around him with equal fairness. For instance, don't favor an employee at work just because you're better friends with that employee. Rather, base promotions on merit and hard work.\\n2-6. Try not to cause a fuss.\\nAs a guest, an English gentleman is polite and proper and always defers to his host. In other words, you should be the perfect guest. Don't make a fuss about what should be served at dinner, for instance. Rather, you should happily eat what's served at the meal, even if it's not your favorite food, with compliments to the chef.\\n2-7. Pay attention to potential problems.\\nOne way to put people at ease is to anticipate problems and take care of them before they come into play. For instance, if you know someone is down on their luck with finances, invite them to a more modest place you know they can afford when you have dinner with them. Even better, invite them over to your house for dinner. This type of consideration also applies to things that you know make people uncomfortable. For instance, if you know your friend prefers to have their back to the wall when out in public, always offer them that seat.\\n3. Learning Proper Values\\n3-1. Make generosity a part of your day-to-day life.\\nBeing generous doesn't mean that you need to give away handfuls of cash every day, though it can, of course, mean being open with the resources you have at your disposable. However, it also means being generous with your time, love, and support, in such a way that you make the people in your life feel like they are valued.\\nIn other words, make time for the people in your life. Tell them you like them, love them, and value them often. Show you care by acting out small kindnesses, such as having a cup of coffee ready when a person gets up, warming up the car ahead of time, or bringing someone flowers just because.\\nPart of being generous is to give without expectation of it being reciprocated. Part of the definition of an English gentleman is one who is able to give more than he takes.\\n3-2. Stand your ground.\\nWhen it comes to moral decisions, a gentleman will stand his ground. In other words, you don't take the easy way out by skirting the rules, nor would you bend on a decision if it would harm other people in some way. Basically, you need a moral code, and you need to stick to it.\\n3-3. Be a hard worker.\\nWhile a strictly old-fashioned definition of an English gentleman would be someone who didn't work, a more modern definition usually means someone who is willing to work hard for the things he wants in life. It's an unwillingness to take \\\"no\\\" for an answer. You must be willing to overcome the obstacles that life throws at you with class and grace.\\n3-4. Consider traveling.\\nWhile traveling does take some money, it provides you with invaluable lessons about the world, including how to get along with a wide variety of people from differing backgrounds. Learning about the world will only help you appreciate it more, as well as teach you the injustices you need to fight against.\\nWhile English gentleman traditionally referred to a gentry class person, it now has the meaning of any well-bred, educated person. Traveling can help you achieve those qualities.\\n3-5. Speak the language.\\nWhile speaking well isn't necessarily a value, it often does distinguish an English gentleman. An English gentleman phrases things in polite ways that may come off as slightly stilted to some ears, just because it's a bit formal. For instance, you might say \\\"Pleased to meet your acquaintance,\\\" rather than \\\"Nice to meet you.\\\"\\nBe as natural as possible. Avoid putting on airs.\\nDon't use profanity.\\n4. Dressing Like a Gentleman\\n4-1. Find a nice, slim-fitting jacket.\\nA suit jacket can cover a wide variety of occasions, particularly if it's in a nice fabric. Pick one that's slim-fitting, as that's more the modern style. If you aren't sure where to begin, consider getting fitted at an upscale suit shop where they can measure you and find the right jacket for you.\\nA jacket should be form-fitting at the shoulders, though it shouldn't be so snug that it makes the jacket ride up or down.\\nIf you don't have the funds for a brand-new jacket, you can pick up some really nice ones at thrift shops. The only problem is you'll need to spend some time hunting around to find one that fits you and that is made from a decent fabric.\\n4-2. Choose dressy pants.\\nTraditionally, English gentlemen wore high-waisted pants. While the high-waisted part is optional, when wearing a suit jacket, pick an appropriate pair of trousers. They can be made from the same material as the jacket, or they can be made from a complementary neutral color for a more casual look. You can even get away with a nice pair of jeans, depending on the occasion.\\n4-3. Add a pair of suspenders.\\nNothing says old English style like a pair of suspenders. However, it's not just about looking good. Suspenders don't cut into your waist like a belt can do. You can find suspenders at almost any shop that sells suits, though you may also hunt around at your local thrift stores for a lucky find.\\n4-4. Consider a waistcoat.\\n\\\"Waistcoat\\\" is just a fancy word for a suit vest, which goes under the suit jacket but over the suspenders. Like the suit jacket, it should be slim-fitting, hugging your shoulders and chest. You shouldn't have gaps at the shoulders. Of course, you still need room to breathe. Also, the buttons of a waistcoat should be buttoned, with the exception of the bottom button, which can be left undone.\\nUsually, the waistcoat will match your jacket. Sometimes, they will be made out of the same material, though other times they will just match in color.\\n4-5. Add the details.\\nA tie or bow-tie makes any jacket a little fancier, so pick one in a complimentary color, preferably of the hand-tied variety. You should also add a handkerchief that matches the tie in your jacket pocket. Cuff links also make a nice addition, adding a bit of subtle glamor.\\nShoes are also important. Pick a dressy shoe in a complementary color. Brogues are traditional English shoes and make a good choice if you can't decide.\\n4-6. Be yourself.\\nWhile finding a good style is important, a gentleman is able to make his own style. In other words, it's not necessarily about finding the latest trend. Rather, it's about finding what works for you and then wearing it well. Part of wearing something well is to make sure everything you wear is in good condition (no holes or stains) and to wear it with confidence.\\nWear clean, pressed, well-fitting clothes.\\n4-7. Dress for the occasion.\\nWhile it can be fun to dress the part of a well-dressed English gentleman, always keep the occasion in mind. Wearing a suit, tie, vest, and suspenders to an informal barbecue is going to look a little strange. In other words, keep it classy, but don't overdo it.\\nOn the other hand, if you're invited to an event that calls for black or white tie, make sure to dress that part, too. That is, dress up by wearing a tuxedo and the required white or black tie.\\nRemember that part of being a gentleman is dressing appropriately for the occasion.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Traditionally, an English gentleman was the lowest rank of the gentry, similar to the French nobleman. Today, the term has come to mean someone who is courteous, true to his word, and well-styled, though the style is not the most important part of being a gentleman. Being chivalrous, putting people at ease, and learning proper values are more important.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Chivalrous\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show politeness to show your refinement.\", \"描述\": \"Being chivalrous seems outdated to many people. However, at it's base, chivalry just means being polite to other people. It doesn't even need to be based on gender. Politeness goes across all boundaries, and it's a large part of being an English gentleman, as English gentlemen are meant to be refined. In fact, it's right there in the title, gentleman.\\nA contemporary English gentleman treats the women in his life with politeness and chivalry, while at the same time, recognizes that a woman is an independent, intelligent person.\\nBe friendly and engaging to everyone you encounter. Make eye contact and smile.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Give up your seat if someone is standing.\", \"描述\": \"If someone is standing, particularly if it's someone who has less capability to stand for long periods, such as an elderly person, it's chivalrous to give your seat up. An English gentleman would never sit if someone near him needed a seat. Traditionally, gentlemen always gave up their seats for women in the room, but today, politeness dictates doing so for anyone who may need it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Hold doors open for people.\", \"描述\": \"That is, never just let a door slam on someone behind you, no matter who they are. At least let them catch the door. A better option is to actually stand back and hold the door so they can pass through ahead of you.\\nTrue English gentlemen put aside childish behavior, like not taking the time to hold open a door.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take care of people.\", \"描述\": \"Of course, it's not your responsibility to take care of every problem for every single person in your life. However, part of being a gentleman is being willing to step up and help when you can do so. Take the time to figure out what people need, and offer help as you can.\\nFor instance, if you notice someone is struggling with their bags, offer to lend a hand.\\nIf a family member has a car break down, offer to come help.\\nGeorge Bernard Shaw noted that a true English gentleman gives more to the world and other people than he takes away.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Mean what you say, and say what you mean.\", \"描述\": \"If you've ever heard the term \\\"a gentleman's agreement,\\\" then you understand the meaning behind this directive. An English gentleman's agreement relies on the fact that the two men are honorable and will hold to their word. The point is, if you give your word as a gentleman, you have a duty to follow through.\\nIn fact, the phrase \\\"gentleman's agreement\\\" appeared in print as early as 1821, in the British Parliamentary records, meaning the phrase originated with the British.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acting Like a Modern Gentleman\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be on time.\", \"描述\": \"Punctuality is a gentlemanly value because it shows you value the time of the people around you. Therefore, to show you are a gentleman, make sure you are always where you will say you will be at the time you say you will be, with the exceptions of emergencies, of course.\\nBeing on time also includes calling when you say you will.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take the embarrassment out of situations.\", \"描述\": \"That is, try to keep others at ease by making situations embarrassment-proof, if possible. For example, say you are at dinner with some friends who don't know to put their napkins in their laps. Instead of pointing it out or pointedly placing yours in your lap, leave your napkin on the table as they do, to avoid embarrassing them.\\nThe idea also holds for guests. Make it so the guest is always right and feels comfortable in your home. For instance, if they leave towels on the floor in the bathroom, don't say, \\\"Why would you leave towels on the floor?\\\" Just quietly pick them up, and put them in the laundry.\\nOscar Wilde defined an English gentleman as a person \\\"who never hurts someone's feelings unintentionally,\\\" which is why this step helps to make you an English gentleman.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get people to talk about themselves.\", \"描述\": \"A mark of a true gentleman is humility. That means not bragging about your accomplishments, as well as not hogging conversations. When having a conversation with someone, ask them questions to get them talking instead of going on and on about yourself.\\nFor example, you could say, \\\"Tell me about yourself,\\\" \\\"What do you do for a living?\\\" \\\"How was your day?\\\" or \\\"What have you been reading lately?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't be showy with what you have.\", \"描述\": \"If you are a wealthy person, don't be showy about it. Don't flaunt the fact that you have wealth. Even if you aren't a wealthy person, try not to flaunt when you get something new. This idea goes back to putting others at ease, as showing a person what they don't have can make them uncomfortable.\\nFor instance, if you get a new car, don't post it all over social media. If someone mentions they got a new job, don't try to one-up them with your job or salary.\\nRobert Smith Surtees, a 19th-century novelist and editor, noted that anyone who talks too much about being an English gentleman isn't one, and the same applies to being ostentatious.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be fair.\", \"描述\": \"An English gentleman doesn't cheat his friends or his enemies. If you play a game, follow the rules, rather than ruthlessly trying to get away with cheating. Also, treat those around him with equal fairness. For instance, don't favor an employee at work just because you're better friends with that employee. Rather, base promotions on merit and hard work.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try not to cause a fuss.\", \"描述\": \"As a guest, an English gentleman is polite and proper and always defers to his host. In other words, you should be the perfect guest. Don't make a fuss about what should be served at dinner, for instance. Rather, you should happily eat what's served at the meal, even if it's not your favorite food, with compliments to the chef.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to potential problems.\", \"描述\": \"One way to put people at ease is to anticipate problems and take care of them before they come into play. For instance, if you know someone is down on their luck with finances, invite them to a more modest place you know they can afford when you have dinner with them. Even better, invite them over to your house for dinner. This type of consideration also applies to things that you know make people uncomfortable. For instance, if you know your friend prefers to have their back to the wall when out in public, always offer them that seat.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learning Proper Values\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make generosity a part of your day-to-day life.\", \"描述\": \"Being generous doesn't mean that you need to give away handfuls of cash every day, though it can, of course, mean being open with the resources you have at your disposable. However, it also means being generous with your time, love, and support, in such a way that you make the people in your life feel like they are valued.\\nIn other words, make time for the people in your life. Tell them you like them, love them, and value them often. Show you care by acting out small kindnesses, such as having a cup of coffee ready when a person gets up, warming up the car ahead of time, or bringing someone flowers just because.\\nPart of being generous is to give without expectation of it being reciprocated. Part of the definition of an English gentleman is one who is able to give more than he takes.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stand your ground.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to moral decisions, a gentleman will stand his ground. In other words, you don't take the easy way out by skirting the rules, nor would you bend on a decision if it would harm other people in some way. Basically, you need a moral code, and you need to stick to it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be a hard worker.\", \"描述\": \"While a strictly old-fashioned definition of an English gentleman would be someone who didn't work, a more modern definition usually means someone who is willing to work hard for the things he wants in life. It's an unwillingness to take \\\"no\\\" for an answer. You must be willing to overcome the obstacles that life throws at you with class and grace.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider traveling.\", \"描述\": \"While traveling does take some money, it provides you with invaluable lessons about the world, including how to get along with a wide variety of people from differing backgrounds. Learning about the world will only help you appreciate it more, as well as teach you the injustices you need to fight against.\\nWhile English gentleman traditionally referred to a gentry class person, it now has the meaning of any well-bred, educated person. Traveling can help you achieve those qualities.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Speak the language.\", \"描述\": \"While speaking well isn't necessarily a value, it often does distinguish an English gentleman. An English gentleman phrases things in polite ways that may come off as slightly stilted to some ears, just because it's a bit formal. For instance, you might say \\\"Pleased to meet your acquaintance,\\\" rather than \\\"Nice to meet you.\\\"\\nBe as natural as possible. Avoid putting on airs.\\nDon't use profanity.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dressing Like a Gentleman\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find a nice, slim-fitting jacket.\", \"描述\": \"A suit jacket can cover a wide variety of occasions, particularly if it's in a nice fabric. Pick one that's slim-fitting, as that's more the modern style. If you aren't sure where to begin, consider getting fitted at an upscale suit shop where they can measure you and find the right jacket for you.\\nA jacket should be form-fitting at the shoulders, though it shouldn't be so snug that it makes the jacket ride up or down.\\nIf you don't have the funds for a brand-new jacket, you can pick up some really nice ones at thrift shops. The only problem is you'll need to spend some time hunting around to find one that fits you and that is made from a decent fabric.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose dressy pants.\", \"描述\": \"Traditionally, English gentlemen wore high-waisted pants. While the high-waisted part is optional, when wearing a suit jacket, pick an appropriate pair of trousers. They can be made from the same material as the jacket, or they can be made from a complementary neutral color for a more casual look. You can even get away with a nice pair of jeans, depending on the occasion.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Add a pair of suspenders.\", \"描述\": \"Nothing says old English style like a pair of suspenders. However, it's not just about looking good. Suspenders don't cut into your waist like a belt can do. You can find suspenders at almost any shop that sells suits, though you may also hunt around at your local thrift stores for a lucky find.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider a waistcoat.\", \"描述\": \"\\\"Waistcoat\\\" is just a fancy word for a suit vest, which goes under the suit jacket but over the suspenders. Like the suit jacket, it should be slim-fitting, hugging your shoulders and chest. You shouldn't have gaps at the shoulders. Of course, you still need room to breathe. Also, the buttons of a waistcoat should be buttoned, with the exception of the bottom button, which can be left undone.\\nUsually, the waistcoat will match your jacket. Sometimes, they will be made out of the same material, though other times they will just match in color.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Add the details.\", \"描述\": \"A tie or bow-tie makes any jacket a little fancier, so pick one in a complimentary color, preferably of the hand-tied variety. You should also add a handkerchief that matches the tie in your jacket pocket. Cuff links also make a nice addition, adding a bit of subtle glamor.\\nShoes are also important. Pick a dressy shoe in a complementary color. Brogues are traditional English shoes and make a good choice if you can't decide.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"描述\": \"While finding a good style is important, a gentleman is able to make his own style. In other words, it's not necessarily about finding the latest trend. Rather, it's about finding what works for you and then wearing it well. Part of wearing something well is to make sure everything you wear is in good condition (no holes or stains) and to wear it with confidence.\\nWear clean, pressed, well-fitting clothes.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Dress for the occasion.\", \"描述\": \"While it can be fun to dress the part of a well-dressed English gentleman, always keep the occasion in mind. Wearing a suit, tie, vest, and suspenders to an informal barbecue is going to look a little strange. In other words, keep it classy, but don't overdo it.\\nOn the other hand, if you're invited to an event that calls for black or white tie, make sure to dress that part, too. That is, dress up by wearing a tuxedo and the required white or black tie.\\nRemember that part of being a gentleman is dressing appropriately for the occasion.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Environmental Consultant
1. Steps 1-1. Earn a Bachelor of Science degree. Environmental consulting requires a sound basis in science, so choose a degree in biology, geology, chemistry or environmental science. In order to help increase your skills, you may want to pursue a minor degree in business, public relations, construction, education or communications. This may dictate your future internships or your role in an environmental consulting firm. 1-2. Seek an environmental consulting internship. While you are still in undergraduate studies, or taking a break for the summer, apply for internships with private or governmental consulting firms. This will give you the necessary experience and contacts that will help you get a job after college. Internships usually give you experience working on environmental projects. You may be asked to organize projects, write or assist on presentations, conduct research or laboratory work. 1-3. Get a job in a related field. Most consulting positions are available to people with 2 to 5 years of work experience. Apply for jobs as a technician or field consultant, so that you have experience in gathering, analyzing and processing environmental samples. Most jobs in environmental analysis or fieldwork are entry-level experience. You may need to work up the ladder at your job in order to expand your skill set. 1-4. Take your Graduate Record Examination (GRE). This test is taken by people who want to pursue graduate studies. Many positions available in the environmental consulting field are now going to people with master's degrees, so ensure you get good scores, especially on the science sections. 1-5. Earn a master's degree in environmental science. An additional 2 to 3 years of study should allow you to specialize in a specific type of environmental consulting, such as land-use planning, hazardous waste or air and environmental quality. Receiving a master's degree will make it easier to get a job and help you to command a higher salary. 1-6. Apply for jobs in governmental or private consulting. With relative work experience, a BS and MS, you will have the credentials needed for a consulting career. Apply for work with the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) or other government agencies. You can ensure companies or individuals are meeting environmental standards, and help to shape environmental policy. Apply for work with a private consulting firm. The largest job growth in the industry is currently within the private sector. The number of jobs available is likely to increase by 28 percent until 2018, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. The following are niches for green consulting: If you enjoy fieldwork, you can be a consultant that specializes in gathering data and creating geotechnical reports. If you enjoy investigation or analysis, then interpreting newly gathered and baseline data may be a good career path. If you have experience or enjoy public relations or communications, you can consult about environmental education. Governmental and private agencies often hire people to do research or public education projects. If you have a background in construction or architecture, you can specialize in the LEED (Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design) system. You can help individuals, businesses and agencies to build according to new green standards. If you want to write policy or work with the legislature, then you will want to move to a government hub, such as Washington D.C. You will need excellent law base and communications skills.
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Get a job in a related field.\\nMost consulting positions are available to people with 2 to 5 years of work experience. Apply for jobs as a technician or field consultant, so that you have experience in gathering, analyzing and processing environmental samples.\\nMost jobs in environmental analysis or fieldwork are entry-level experience. You may need to work up the ladder at your job in order to expand your skill set.\\n1-4. Take your Graduate Record Examination (GRE).\\nThis test is taken by people who want to pursue graduate studies. Many positions available in the environmental consulting field are now going to people with master's degrees, so ensure you get good scores, especially on the science sections.\\n1-5. Earn a master's degree in environmental science.\\nAn additional 2 to 3 years of study should allow you to specialize in a specific type of environmental consulting, such as land-use planning, hazardous waste or air and environmental quality. Receiving a master's degree will make it easier to get a job and help you to command a higher salary.\\n1-6. Apply for jobs in governmental or private consulting.\\nWith relative work experience, a BS and MS, you will have the credentials needed for a consulting career.\\nApply for work with the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) or other government agencies. You can ensure companies or individuals are meeting environmental standards, and help to shape environmental policy.\\nApply for work with a private consulting firm. The largest job growth in the industry is currently within the private sector. The number of jobs available is likely to increase by 28 percent until 2018, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. The following are niches for green consulting:\\nIf you enjoy fieldwork, you can be a consultant that specializes in gathering data and creating geotechnical reports. If you enjoy investigation or analysis, then interpreting newly gathered and baseline data may be a good career path.\\nIf you have experience or enjoy public relations or communications, you can consult about environmental education. Governmental and private agencies often hire people to do research or public education projects.\\nIf you have a background in construction or architecture, you can specialize in the LEED (Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design) system. You can help individuals, businesses and agencies to build according to new green standards.\\nIf you want to write policy or work with the legislature, then you will want to move to a government hub, such as Washington D.C. You will need excellent law base and communications skills.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Environmental employment is on the rise, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. People who test air and soil quality, do environmental audits, manage environments, monitor environmental standards and write environmental policies are normally called environmental consultants. They are hired by governments and businesses to ensure they are compliant and they are making green decisions to please their customers. People in the environmental consulting field are normally highly educated, analytic and experienced. If you are seeking an environmental consulting career, you should plan a scientific education with plenty of practice in the field. Find out how to be an environmental consultant.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Earn a Bachelor of Science degree.\", \"描述\": \"Environmental consulting requires a sound basis in science, so choose a degree in biology, geology, chemistry or environmental science.\\nIn order to help increase your skills, you may want to pursue a minor degree in business, public relations, construction, education or communications. This may dictate your future internships or your role in an environmental consulting firm.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Seek an environmental consulting internship.\", \"描述\": \"While you are still in undergraduate studies, or taking a break for the summer, apply for internships with private or governmental consulting firms. This will give you the necessary experience and contacts that will help you get a job after college.\\nInternships usually give you experience working on environmental projects. You may be asked to organize projects, write or assist on presentations, conduct research or laboratory work.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a job in a related field.\", \"描述\": \"Most consulting positions are available to people with 2 to 5 years of work experience. Apply for jobs as a technician or field consultant, so that you have experience in gathering, analyzing and processing environmental samples.\\nMost jobs in environmental analysis or fieldwork are entry-level experience. You may need to work up the ladder at your job in order to expand your skill set.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take your Graduate Record Examination (GRE).\", \"描述\": \"This test is taken by people who want to pursue graduate studies. Many positions available in the environmental consulting field are now going to people with master's degrees, so ensure you get good scores, especially on the science sections.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Earn a master's degree in environmental science.\", \"描述\": \"An additional 2 to 3 years of study should allow you to specialize in a specific type of environmental consulting, such as land-use planning, hazardous waste or air and environmental quality. Receiving a master's degree will make it easier to get a job and help you to command a higher salary.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Apply for jobs in governmental or private consulting.\", \"描述\": \"With relative work experience, a BS and MS, you will have the credentials needed for a consulting career.\\nApply for work with the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) or other government agencies. You can ensure companies or individuals are meeting environmental standards, and help to shape environmental policy.\\nApply for work with a private consulting firm. The largest job growth in the industry is currently within the private sector. The number of jobs available is likely to increase by 28 percent until 2018, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. The following are niches for green consulting:\\nIf you enjoy fieldwork, you can be a consultant that specializes in gathering data and creating geotechnical reports. If you enjoy investigation or analysis, then interpreting newly gathered and baseline data may be a good career path.\\nIf you have experience or enjoy public relations or communications, you can consult about environmental education. Governmental and private agencies often hire people to do research or public education projects.\\nIf you have a background in construction or architecture, you can specialize in the LEED (Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design) system. You can help individuals, businesses and agencies to build according to new green standards.\\nIf you want to write policy or work with the legislature, then you will want to move to a government hub, such as Washington D.C. You will need excellent law base and communications skills.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Escort's Favorite Client
1. Steps 1-1. Wherever you find your escort, research her. Does she have a website, does she have ads going back at least 6 months, does she have reviews (although some escorts do not like being reviewed)? Google her name and phone number or email before contacting her. Also expect her to want to screen you for her own safety; be respectful and provide whatever info she requires. 1-2. Be on time, or call if you will be more than 10 minutes late. Unless you are giving notice of a time change well in advance, expect to pay for the time you missed. If your 60 minute date was supposed to start at 7 and you get there at 7:15, STILL LEAVE AT 8. Please respect the escort's time and schedule, and don't linger. Even if the escort genuinely enjoyed the time with you, it is annoying and awkward if you overstay. If you want more time, ask and if she says yes, expect to pay for it at the rate previously discussed. 1-3. Know what's on menu in advance and do not deviate from it. Escorts use code words like, CIM, greek, GFE, PSE... google these before you call or email. 1-4. Never ever discuss sexual acts or money in person. For your own safety! If it is a sting, they will try to get you to say what you are there for out loud. When in doubt, kiss the girl or ask her to get more comfortable. If she complies, green light! 1-5. Money first always! If you must refer to it at any time, call it a gift. Do not hand the money directly to her, set it down where she can see it, or wherever you were told to beforehand, (often by the sink in the bathroom). 1-6. Be nice, treat her like a lady, and be respectful. She is a real person, you don't need to be intimidated and you certainly shouldn't feel superior either. 1-7. Don't feel like you need to blow her mind sexually. While noble, and very sweet, she is there for you. Do not hold back at the beginning because you want to last for her, this often ends in not being able to finish at all. Which nobody wants. You can take care of her after if you enjoy that, but no pressure here either. 1-8. Try to read her cues. She is a real woman with real likes and dislikes. Not everyone wants to be talked dirty to, or smash-cuddled post coitus. Some might love it though! 1-9. She will not be offended if you need to leave right after. Whether you need to get back to work, or just aren't into idle chit-chat and cuddling, do your thing. She will enjoy the extra down-time. If you have a genuine rapport or chemistry, or if you are just enjoying the company and a break from real life, then stay the whole time! She will be happy either way. 1-10. Tip! Always tip. No one care if it's $20 or $200, tip your escort. Unless she was terrible. Tipping lets the woman know that you liked her and that you appreciate her time and effort. This is especially important if you want to see the escort again. If you went for a twofer, then tip extra well! 1-11. Ask her if she would like to be reviewed. If yes, keep it simple, and do not fabricate. If you say she did something that she didn't, other clients may expect that same service in the future. 1-12. Always be clean. Very, very clean. If you just came from work or whatever, take a quick shower at the location. You don't want to be known as the 'Smegma-Guy'. 1-13. Bring wine or a gift. Escorts love this and you will go right to the front of the line, hopefully. Wine can help to get you both relaxed and comfortable, and is a good social lubricant when you have to make all the magic happen in an hour or two. You can ask in advance what she likes, and don't forget the glasses! Gift certificates are always a safe bet if you want to bring a gift, stores like Amazon, Victoria's Secret, Bath and Body, etc. If you know the escort well, you may want to give her more personalized gifts like lingerie, jewelry, and perfume. Bonus points if you buy her drinks/take her to dinner first, (while she is being compensated for her time at her usual rate). If you really enjoy her company and can afford to do this, this is the best way to make her feel special. Remember she is on the clock though, and do not ever ask her to meet for free. That is a line neither of you should cross. Tips Remember that sexual desire is part of human nature and nothing to be ashamed of. If you are older/have no time for dating/want to be discreet/or are socially awkward, there is no shame in seeing a beautiful girl and having it be a sure thing! It's just practical. A good escort takes care of herself, practices safely, vets clients, checks references, and gets tested frequently. Escorts are not dirty, unethical, slutty, addicted to drugs any other stereotype that people associate with us. They, like any other social group, have a range of personalities, preferences and vices. Escorts are regular people and chances are very high that you know women, (or men!), that are in the sex industry in one form or another. They often keep their professions very private because they can be judged harshly. Respect her personal life. If you give her your number, she will most likely not call you, and it has nothing to do with whether or not she 'really' likes you. She keeps her two worlds separate at all times. Warnings Don't fall in love with your escort. Always remember that even though the relationship is mutually pleasurable, and you enjoy each other's company, it is first and foremost a professional relationship. It is her job to make you feel good, and that can easily be confused with romantic love. Don't be that guy. It makes everyone feel bad. Do not expect an escort to just roll with your fetish. If you have something even slightly out of the ordinary in mind, ASK. Ask before the date if at all possible and if not, then ask upon meeting her. Be safe. If a girl will go bareback with you, you better believe she has done it with every guy before you. And never ever try to sneak it in. It's really disrespectful, and will often get you blacklisted. We know that condoms suck. We wish they didn't. They are a necessary evil though. If you can't finish with a condom on, there are other ways to finish It is not the end of the world and it happens all the time+. I do recommend that you try a female condom and see if that feels better to you. If it seems fishy, leave politely. Don't be paranoid though. Do your homework, be cautious and you will be fine. Do not say, "You should be paying ME for this! Har har." Everyone uses that joke. Good luck and happy birthday!
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Know what's on menu in advance and do not deviate from it.\\nEscorts use code words like, CIM, greek, GFE, PSE... google these before you call or email.\\n1-4. Never ever discuss sexual acts or money in person.\\nFor your own safety! If it is a sting, they will try to get you to say what you are there for out loud. When in doubt, kiss the girl or ask her to get more comfortable. If she complies, green light!\\n1-5. Money first always!\\nIf you must refer to it at any time, call it a gift. Do not hand the money directly to her, set it down where she can see it, or wherever you were told to beforehand, (often by the sink in the bathroom).\\n1-6. Be nice, treat her like a lady, and be respectful.\\nShe is a real person, you don't need to be intimidated and you certainly shouldn't feel superior either.\\n1-7. Don't feel like you need to blow her mind sexually.\\nWhile noble, and very sweet, she is there for you. Do not hold back at the beginning because you want to last for her, this often ends in not being able to finish at all. Which nobody wants. You can take care of her after if you enjoy that, but no pressure here either.\\n1-8. Try to read her cues.\\nShe is a real woman with real likes and dislikes. Not everyone wants to be talked dirty to, or smash-cuddled post coitus. Some might love it though!\\n1-9. She will not be offended if you need to leave right after.\\nWhether you need to get back to work, or just aren't into idle chit-chat and cuddling, do your thing. She will enjoy the extra down-time. If you have a genuine rapport or chemistry, or if you are just enjoying the company and a break from real life, then stay the whole time! She will be happy either way.\\n1-10. Tip!\\nAlways tip. No one care if it's $20 or $200, tip your escort. Unless she was terrible. Tipping lets the woman know that you liked her and that you appreciate her time and effort. This is especially important if you want to see the escort again. If you went for a twofer, then tip extra well!\\n1-11. Ask her if she would like to be reviewed.\\nIf yes, keep it simple, and do not fabricate. If you say she did something that she didn't, other clients may expect that same service in the future.\\n1-12. Always be clean.\\nVery, very clean. If you just came from work or whatever, take a quick shower at the location. You don't want to be known as the 'Smegma-Guy'.\\n1-13. Bring wine or a gift.\\nEscorts love this and you will go right to the front of the line, hopefully. Wine can help to get you both relaxed and comfortable, and is a good social lubricant when you have to make all the magic happen in an hour or two. You can ask in advance what she likes, and don't forget the glasses! Gift certificates are always a safe bet if you want to bring a gift, stores like Amazon, Victoria's Secret, Bath and Body, etc. If you know the escort well, you may want to give her more personalized gifts like lingerie, jewelry, and perfume.\\nBonus points if you buy her drinks/take her to dinner first, (while she is being compensated for her time at her usual rate). If you really enjoy her company and can afford to do this, this is the best way to make her feel special. Remember she is on the clock though, and do not ever ask her to meet for free. That is a line neither of you should cross.\\nTips\\nRemember that sexual desire is part of human nature and nothing to be ashamed of. If you are older/have no time for dating/want to be discreet/or are socially awkward, there is no shame in seeing a beautiful girl and having it be a sure thing! It's just practical.\\nA good escort takes care of herself, practices safely, vets clients, checks references, and gets tested frequently. Escorts are not dirty, unethical, slutty, addicted to drugs any other stereotype that people associate with us. They, like any other social group, have a range of personalities, preferences and vices. Escorts are regular people and chances are very high that you know women, (or men!), that are in the sex industry in one form or another. They often keep their professions very private because they can be judged harshly.\\nRespect her personal life. If you give her your number, she will most likely not call you, and it has nothing to do with whether or not she 'really' likes you. She keeps her two worlds separate at all times.\\nWarnings\\nDon't fall in love with your escort. Always remember that even though the relationship is mutually pleasurable, and you enjoy each other's company, it is first and foremost a professional relationship. It is her job to make you feel good, and that can easily be confused with romantic love. Don't be that guy. It makes everyone feel bad.\\nDo not expect an escort to just roll with your fetish. If you have something even slightly out of the ordinary in mind, ASK. Ask before the date if at all possible and if not, then ask upon meeting her.\\nBe safe. If a girl will go bareback with you, you better believe she has done it with every guy before you. And never ever try to sneak it in. It's really disrespectful, and will often get you blacklisted. We know that condoms suck. We wish they didn't. They are a necessary evil though. If you can't finish with a condom on, there are other ways to finish It is not the end of the world and it happens all the time+. I do recommend that you try a female condom and see if that feels better to you.\\nIf it seems fishy, leave politely. Don't be paranoid though. Do your homework, be cautious and you will be fine.\\nDo not say, \\\"You should be paying ME for this! Har har.\\\" Everyone uses that joke.\\nGood luck and happy birthday!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Learn the correct conduct when dealing with an escort. What and what not to do if you want to be a great client.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wherever you find your escort, research her.\", \"描述\": \"Does she have a website, does she have ads going back at least 6 months, does she have reviews (although some escorts do not like being reviewed)? Google her name and phone number or email before contacting her. Also expect her to want to screen you for her own safety; be respectful and provide whatever info she requires.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be on time, or call if you will be more than 10 minutes late.\", \"描述\": \"Unless you are giving notice of a time change well in advance, expect to pay for the time you missed. If your 60 minute date was supposed to start at 7 and you get there at 7:15, STILL LEAVE AT 8. 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I do recommend that you try a female condom and see if that feels better to you.\\n\", \"If it seems fishy, leave politely. Don't be paranoid though. Do your homework, be cautious and you will be fine.\\n\", \"Do not say, \\\"You should be paying ME for this! Har har.\\\" Everyone uses that joke.\\nGood luck and happy birthday!\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Excellent Employee
1. Doing an Excellent Job 1-1. Be on time. Punctuality is important. No one wants to work with am employee who's consistently late. Make sure you arrive to work, work meetings, and other obligations on time. "To be early is to be on time" should be a mantra you live by. Try to get to work 5 to 10 minutes early each day. Arrive at meetings a little before things are scheduled to start. This will show your boss that you take your obligations seriously. He or she will be impressed to see you always running a little ahead of schedule. In the morning, give yourself more time than you think you need to get ready. If you normally take 20 minutes to shower, give yourself half an hour. If you think breakfast will take about 15 minutes, set aside 20 minutes to eat. Always take more time than necessary for your commute. Things like traffic and train delays should not result in you running late to work. 1-2. Complete tasks on your own. Your boss wants an employee who can get the job done without excessive handholding or coddling. Strive to be autonomous in your work. Complete tasks on your own, without asking superiors for assistance. Pay attention during training. Take notes if necessary, and study them at home as if you were prepping for a big test. You want to know all the basics of how to do your job so you won't end up confused later on. If you're unsure of something, try to figure it out yourself first. Before going to a superior with a question, see if there's a way you can figure out the problem on your own. Is there an employee handbook that may answer your question? Can you search for potential solutions on the internet? If you're able to identify and solve a problem without asking for help, your boss will be impressed. However, you should ask questions if you're still unsure of something after searching for a solution on your own. While your boss wants employees that can work solo, you don't want to risk making a mistake. This could reflect more poorly on you than simply asking for help when you need it. Just try to minimize how often you come to your boss or other workers with an issue. 1-3. Adapt quickly to changes. Changes are a part of any office dynamic. Employees who are able to adapt to changes fast are very desirable. In the event of a change in policy or procedure, try to adjust to the new routine as quickly as possible. Ask questions and take notes when something new is being explained to you. Try to understand new information right away so you can smoothly get back to your job with changes in mind. Be willing to learn. Many employees will complain about, say, a new computer system at work. Try to be the employee with a positive, excited attitude regarding changes. See a shift in work dynamic as an opportunity to learn something new and diversify your resume. 1-4. Work hard. It seems obvious, but old-fashioned hardwork is among the most desirable qualities in a job candidate. When you're in the office, pay attention to your job. Focus all your energy on completing the task at hand in an efficient manner. Employers want employees who are hardworking and produce results. Work to see concrete results every day. Try to tune out distractions when you're at your desk working on a job or project. Avoid taking excessively long breaks or chatting with other employees when you should be working. Many employees feel schmoozing and getting close to higher ups is the way to the top. While being friendly with your boss can help, being a hard worker will help you get along with your boss more than casual conversation will. Focus on your work over the politics of the office. 1-5. Keep organized. Organization is the foundation of efficient work. Your boss will be impressed if you're a well-organized person, as your organizational skills will benefit your place of work. Keep a planner or calendar at your desk, keeping track of deadlines, meetings, and other aspects of your schedule. Set personal goals for yourself. If your boss assigns you a project, break the project down into chunks. Set manageable mini-deadlines for yourself in the weeks leading up to the project's final deadline. Stay up-to-date on e-mail, returning e-mails within 24 hours. It can help to make a list in a notebook of e-mails you need to return. When you have a spare 15 minutes, work on returning e-mails. 1-6. Pay attention to detail. If you've ever browsed a job-board, you'll know lots of employers say they're looking for someone "detail-oriented" to fill a position. This means employers want employees who are able to focus on work. In your own place of work, try to be a detailed-oriented employee. A good way to increase your attention to detail is by doing one task at a time. When you have a list of 10 things to do for a workday, do not think ahead when you're working on the first item on the list. If you need to call a client to set up a lunch meeting, all your energy should be focused on talking to that client. Make sure you get all the details down. What days are best for the client? What kind of food does he or she prefer? Does the client want you to bring anything to the meeting? Keep yourself in the present moment. If you start thinking about the press release you have to write when you get off the phone, you may forget important details. 2. Fostering the Right Attitude 2-1. Go into work with passion. It's hard to be an excellent employee if you lack passion. If you're simply suffering through work for 8 hours a day, this will show up in your attitude and performance in subtle ways. Try to go into work each day with a sense of passion and excitement. Focus on the positive aspects of your job. Say you're a copywriter for a non-profit. You may find some of the material you have to write a little silly or corny. However, think about the bigger picture. While the wording in a recent press release may sound saccharine to you, it could result in more donations, allowing your company to do more good in the world. Authentic passion is hard to fake. If you're in a job you do not feel strongly about, consider looking for a different job. It's very hard to be focused and committed when you feel you're in the wrong career. 2-2. Think creatively. Employers love employees who are able to creatively problem solve. In any given situation, you should be looking for new and innovative solutions. A creative employee is an invaluable asset to any company. Creativity can be hard to cultivate. However, there are ways to amp your creative side. As you go through your day-to-day tasks, periodically pause and think, "Is there a more efficient way I could be doing this?" You should always be on the lookout for creative solutions to office problems, finding ways to make things run smoother. Do not be shy. If you have an idea on how to improve things, approach your boss respectfully. Even if he or she passes on your idea, employers appreciate employees who take initiative. 2-3. Work on being upbeat. A positive attitude is contagious. Good employees come to work with a fresh perspective each day, eager to do their best. Try to come in each day feeling positive. This will reflect well on you and make you a valued employee. Try to have a "half glass full" mentality. Come to into work looking at each day as a new opportunity to grow, change, and learn. If you're in a bad mood, this will show up in your performance. Practicing self care outside of work can affect your personality. Strive to eat right, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep. If you're taking care of yourself physically, this will improve your emotional attitude. 2-4. Be honest. Many employees are inclined to talk themselves up to gain favor. While it's good to be confident, sometimes confidence veers on dishonestly. Be honest about yourself and your capabilities. Self-criticism provides you with an opportunity to grow and learn. Employers want ambitious employees who will push themselves to succeed. Do not be self-depreciating, however, as this can come off as having a negative attitude. If you don't know how to do a task, don't say, "I'm too stupid to figure that out." Instead, say something like, "I've never run Google Analytics before, but I would love the chance to learn how if you have a few minutes to show me." 2-5. Take risks. Employers want employees who will continue moving up. No one wants someone who's content to stay in the same position for years. Be bold and take risks. Write down a list of 10 things you would do at work if you knew failure was not a possibility. Then, try to complete that list anyway. Not all of your pursuits will be a roaring success, but chances are you will reach some goals along the way. Your boss will be impressed that you took the initiative to push yourself out of your usual comfort zone. 3. Interacting with Others 3-1. Help motivate others. You don't just want to focus on yourself at work. Make an effort to motivate other employees. Most jobs involve a lot of teamwork, so boosting morale is vital in a good employee. As stated, a positive attitude is contagious. If a co-worker seems down or off, try to put a positive spin on things. If everyone is stressed out because of a looming due date, say something like, "This is an opportunity to really test our dedication." Be willing to help others out. If you see someone who looks confused and lost, politely ask if they need a helping hand. You can help others achieve their goals by offering them guidance with their own work. 3-2. Advocate on behalf of your co-workers. Remember, teamwork is important. It isn't all about you. Your boss will be impressed if you act on your company's best interest rather than your own personal ambitions. If you're on a short list to go to a conference, but know a co-worker is more knowledgable on the subject, mention this to your boss. Say something like, "I know you're deciding between me and Natalie for that conference this fall. I appreciate being considered for the opportunity, but I think Natalie would do better than me." 3-3. Practice good communication skills. If you want to be an excellent employee, you need to be able to communicate effectively. When talking to your boss and co-workers, make sure you listen and are understood. Practice active listening. Smile, nod, and offer other non-verbal cues to indicate you're paying attention to the speaker. When the speaker finishes talking, reiterate what they just said to make sure you understood completely. Do not think of your response while another person is talking. Simply listen and try to understand. If you're having a conflict, think back to other times you had to navigate a difficult or awkward situation. How did you handle the situation? How did you help smooth out a conflict? Use the skills you learned from past personal or professional issues in the workplace. 3-4. Avoid office gossip. Gossiping says a lot more about you than it does about the other person. If you gossip about your boss or co-workers, people will view you as distrustful. There's also always a good chance what you say about someone in private can get back to that person. If you hear people gossiping, it's best to disengage. Offer non-committal responses like, "Sorry you feel that way" and simply move on. 3-5. Give credit to co-workers. Once again, show your boss and co-workers that you're willing to share the spotlight. Instead of being jealous at another person's accomplishments, give them credit. Success is not finite. If someone achieves something, instead of being envious offer them a sincere congratulations. Tips Dress for success. Coming to work in your nicest clothes can help you feel better about yourself, affecting your performance for the better.
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Complete tasks on your own.\\nYour boss wants an employee who can get the job done without excessive handholding or coddling. Strive to be autonomous in your work. Complete tasks on your own, without asking superiors for assistance.\\nPay attention during training. Take notes if necessary, and study them at home as if you were prepping for a big test. You want to know all the basics of how to do your job so you won't end up confused later on.\\nIf you're unsure of something, try to figure it out yourself first. Before going to a superior with a question, see if there's a way you can figure out the problem on your own. Is there an employee handbook that may answer your question? Can you search for potential solutions on the internet? If you're able to identify and solve a problem without asking for help, your boss will be impressed.\\nHowever, you should ask questions if you're still unsure of something after searching for a solution on your own. While your boss wants employees that can work solo, you don't want to risk making a mistake. This could reflect more poorly on you than simply asking for help when you need it. Just try to minimize how often you come to your boss or other workers with an issue.\\n1-3. Adapt quickly to changes.\\nChanges are a part of any office dynamic. Employees who are able to adapt to changes fast are very desirable. In the event of a change in policy or procedure, try to adjust to the new routine as quickly as possible.\\nAsk questions and take notes when something new is being explained to you. Try to understand new information right away so you can smoothly get back to your job with changes in mind.\\nBe willing to learn. Many employees will complain about, say, a new computer system at work. Try to be the employee with a positive, excited attitude regarding changes. See a shift in work dynamic as an opportunity to learn something new and diversify your resume.\\n1-4. Work hard.\\nIt seems obvious, but old-fashioned hardwork is among the most desirable qualities in a job candidate. When you're in the office, pay attention to your job. Focus all your energy on completing the task at hand in an efficient manner. Employers want employees who are hardworking and produce results.\\nWork to see concrete results every day. Try to tune out distractions when you're at your desk working on a job or project. Avoid taking excessively long breaks or chatting with other employees when you should be working.\\nMany employees feel schmoozing and getting close to higher ups is the way to the top. While being friendly with your boss can help, being a hard worker will help you get along with your boss more than casual conversation will. Focus on your work over the politics of the office.\\n1-5. Keep organized.\\nOrganization is the foundation of efficient work. Your boss will be impressed if you're a well-organized person, as your organizational skills will benefit your place of work.\\nKeep a planner or calendar at your desk, keeping track of deadlines, meetings, and other aspects of your schedule.\\nSet personal goals for yourself. If your boss assigns you a project, break the project down into chunks. Set manageable mini-deadlines for yourself in the weeks leading up to the project's final deadline.\\nStay up-to-date on e-mail, returning e-mails within 24 hours. It can help to make a list in a notebook of e-mails you need to return. When you have a spare 15 minutes, work on returning e-mails.\\n1-6. Pay attention to detail.\\nIf you've ever browsed a job-board, you'll know lots of employers say they're looking for someone \\\"detail-oriented\\\" to fill a position. This means employers want employees who are able to focus on work. In your own place of work, try to be a detailed-oriented employee.\\nA good way to increase your attention to detail is by doing one task at a time. When you have a list of 10 things to do for a workday, do not think ahead when you're working on the first item on the list.\\nIf you need to call a client to set up a lunch meeting, all your energy should be focused on talking to that client. Make sure you get all the details down. What days are best for the client? What kind of food does he or she prefer? Does the client want you to bring anything to the meeting? Keep yourself in the present moment. If you start thinking about the press release you have to write when you get off the phone, you may forget important details.\\n2. Fostering the Right Attitude\\n2-1. Go into work with passion.\\nIt's hard to be an excellent employee if you lack passion. If you're simply suffering through work for 8 hours a day, this will show up in your attitude and performance in subtle ways. Try to go into work each day with a sense of passion and excitement.\\nFocus on the positive aspects of your job. Say you're a copywriter for a non-profit. You may find some of the material you have to write a little silly or corny. However, think about the bigger picture. While the wording in a recent press release may sound saccharine to you, it could result in more donations, allowing your company to do more good in the world.\\nAuthentic passion is hard to fake. If you're in a job you do not feel strongly about, consider looking for a different job. It's very hard to be focused and committed when you feel you're in the wrong career.\\n2-2. Think creatively.\\nEmployers love employees who are able to creatively problem solve. In any given situation, you should be looking for new and innovative solutions. A creative employee is an invaluable asset to any company.\\nCreativity can be hard to cultivate. However, there are ways to amp your creative side. As you go through your day-to-day tasks, periodically pause and think, \\\"Is there a more efficient way I could be doing this?\\\" You should always be on the lookout for creative solutions to office problems, finding ways to make things run smoother.\\nDo not be shy. If you have an idea on how to improve things, approach your boss respectfully. Even if he or she passes on your idea, employers appreciate employees who take initiative.\\n2-3. Work on being upbeat.\\nA positive attitude is contagious. Good employees come to work with a fresh perspective each day, eager to do their best. Try to come in each day feeling positive. This will reflect well on you and make you a valued employee.\\nTry to have a \\\"half glass full\\\" mentality. Come to into work looking at each day as a new opportunity to grow, change, and learn. If you're in a bad mood, this will show up in your performance.\\nPracticing self care outside of work can affect your personality. Strive to eat right, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep. If you're taking care of yourself physically, this will improve your emotional attitude.\\n2-4. Be honest.\\nMany employees are inclined to talk themselves up to gain favor. While it's good to be confident, sometimes confidence veers on dishonestly. Be honest about yourself and your capabilities. Self-criticism provides you with an opportunity to grow and learn. Employers want ambitious employees who will push themselves to succeed.\\nDo not be self-depreciating, however, as this can come off as having a negative attitude. If you don't know how to do a task, don't say, \\\"I'm too stupid to figure that out.\\\" Instead, say something like, \\\"I've never run Google Analytics before, but I would love the chance to learn how if you have a few minutes to show me.\\\"\\n2-5. Take risks.\\nEmployers want employees who will continue moving up. No one wants someone who's content to stay in the same position for years. Be bold and take risks. Write down a list of 10 things you would do at work if you knew failure was not a possibility. Then, try to complete that list anyway. Not all of your pursuits will be a roaring success, but chances are you will reach some goals along the way. Your boss will be impressed that you took the initiative to push yourself out of your usual comfort zone.\\n3. Interacting with Others\\n3-1. Help motivate others.\\nYou don't just want to focus on yourself at work. Make an effort to motivate other employees. Most jobs involve a lot of teamwork, so boosting morale is vital in a good employee. \\nAs stated, a positive attitude is contagious. If a co-worker seems down or off, try to put a positive spin on things. If everyone is stressed out because of a looming due date, say something like, \\\"This is an opportunity to really test our dedication.\\\"\\nBe willing to help others out. If you see someone who looks confused and lost, politely ask if they need a helping hand. You can help others achieve their goals by offering them guidance with their own work.\\n3-2. Advocate on behalf of your co-workers.\\nRemember, teamwork is important. It isn't all about you. Your boss will be impressed if you act on your company's best interest rather than your own personal ambitions. If you're on a short list to go to a conference, but know a co-worker is more knowledgable on the subject, mention this to your boss. Say something like, \\\"I know you're deciding between me and Natalie for that conference this fall. I appreciate being considered for the opportunity, but I think Natalie would do better than me.\\\"\\n3-3. Practice good communication skills.\\nIf you want to be an excellent employee, you need to be able to communicate effectively. When talking to your boss and co-workers, make sure you listen and are understood. \\nPractice active listening. Smile, nod, and offer other non-verbal cues to indicate you're paying attention to the speaker. When the speaker finishes talking, reiterate what they just said to make sure you understood completely. Do not think of your response while another person is talking. Simply listen and try to understand.\\nIf you're having a conflict, think back to other times you had to navigate a difficult or awkward situation. How did you handle the situation? How did you help smooth out a conflict? Use the skills you learned from past personal or professional issues in the workplace.\\n3-4. Avoid office gossip.\\nGossiping says a lot more about you than it does about the other person. If you gossip about your boss or co-workers, people will view you as distrustful. There's also always a good chance what you say about someone in private can get back to that person. If you hear people gossiping, it's best to disengage. Offer non-committal responses like, \\\"Sorry you feel that way\\\" and simply move on.\\n3-5. Give credit to co-workers.\\nOnce again, show your boss and co-workers that you're willing to share the spotlight. Instead of being jealous at another person's accomplishments, give them credit. Success is not finite. If someone achieves something, instead of being envious offer them a sincere congratulations.\\nTips\\nDress for success. Coming to work in your nicest clothes can help you feel better about yourself, affecting your performance for the better.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There are a lot of reasons you may want to be an excellent employee. If you want to be considered for promotion, for example, you want to show your unique commitment to your job. In order to work on being a good employee, focus on doing a good job around the office. Come into work a positive attitude. Lastly, interact with other employees in a positive manner.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Doing an Excellent Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be on time.\", \"描述\": \"Punctuality is important. 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How to Be an Executor
1. Being Appointed Executor 1-1. Check if you are eligible. Though executors are often named in wills, sometimes no executor is named. In this situation, individuals will apply to become the executor. States have different rules regarding who may be appointed executor of an estate. However, most states require that the executor be legally capable of handling his or her own affairs and be at least the age of majority (typically 18). Additionally, some states may require that you be a citizen of the state. Most states also prohibit felons from acting as executors. 1-2. Request appointment. If you are eligible, contact the probate court by phone or in person and request the form necessary for appointment as executor from the clerk of court. Forms are often posted online at the court’s website. Forms vary from state to state, so be sure that you are filling out your state’s form. Alternately, if the will appoints you as executor and you wish to decline the position, then you can renounce the position by filing a petition with the court. You should ask the court clerk for the form. 1-3. Complete the form. Follow all instructions when completing the form. Avoid making these mistakes: not correctly notating the full name of the deceased not notarizing the form incorrectly completing the information asked for 1-4. Present a copy of the application to the probate court. Make the correct number of copies, including one for yourself. Take the application to the clerk’s office. No appointment should be necessary. You will probably have to pay a filing fee. Call ahead of time to ask the amount of the fee and acceptable methods of payment. 1-5. Notify other beneficiaries. You typically must inform the other beneficiaries that you are applying to be the executor. You can notify them by completing a “Notice of Application” form, which should be available from the court clerk. 1-6. Obtain a surety bond, if required. Some states require that the proposed executor post a surety bond. A surety bond is insurance against wrongdoing. Should the executor make a mistake, the insurer will compensate the beneficiaries. The bond can often be paid by estate assets. Sometimes, if the decedent stated in the will that the executor does not need a bond, then the bond can be waived. To obtain a surety bond, search online for a company that provides bonds in your area. You may also check with the court clerk. The clerk may have a list of reputable companies. The bond company will want to look at your credit history and possibly run a background check. 1-7. Attend the appointment hearing. The court will schedule a hearing to give interested parties a chance to object to the appointment. Usually, the hearing is a formality and no one objects to the executor’s appointment. If someone challenges your appointment, then the court will hold a hearing. At the hearing, each side will argue why they should be appointed executor. If you are being challenged, you should contact an attorney. In some states, the hearing can also be dispensed with if all interested parties (i.e., those who would inherit property) sign waivers. 1-8. Get the “Letters of Administration.” Once the court approves an executor, that person gets “Letters of Administration” or “Letters Testamentary.” These letters allow the executor to act on behalf of the estate. If you find that you no longer want to continue as the executor, then you should file a petition with the court, stating your reasons. If the court finds that you have “good cause,” then a successor executor will be named. Often, the successor executor is identified in the will. If not, the court will hold a hearing and consider other family members. 2. Preparing for Probate 2-1. Come up with a filing system. Because executors handle a lot of paper, you should establish a filing system upfront. This will help you not waste time looking for things. To create an effective filing system you should think about how you want to categorize documents. For executors, common categories will be: money owed by debtors, money owed to creditors, tax issues, court forms, and estate expenses. You will then create binders or hanging files for each of these categories. Once you have categories, you can then create sub categories. For example, under “Money owed to Creditors,” you can then sub-categorize based on the entity money was owed to: to a mortgage company, to an auto lender, to credit card companies, etc. Each of these sub-categories can then get an individual manila envelope in which you keep copies of bills, correspondence, or notes. Adjust your filing system to suit your needs as the probate process unfolds. 2-2. Find the will. If the decedent had a will, then try to find it. Search for wills in filing cabinets, desk drawers, and safety deposit boxes. Also ask the decedent’s lawyer, who may have kept the will. If you can’t find the will, you will have to proceed through probate using your state’s intestacy laws. Intestacy laws provide the default rules for how the estate should be distributed. Speak to an attorney about this. In some states, the person who has the will (the “custodian”) must take the will to the probate court or to the executor within 30 days (or less) of the decedent’s death. Failure to do this could result in the custodian being sued for damages. 2-3. Order a copy of the death certificate. You will need a number of official death certificates to serve as evidence of the death. The mortuary that handles the decedent’s funeral arrangements usually arranges for some certified death certificates. You should ask for at least 10. For more information on how to get copies of death certificates, visit wikiHow’s How to Acquire a Death Certificate. 2-4. Hire an attorney. It is extremely important to hire an attorney. Some states, like Florida, require an attorney to go through regular probate. In other states, you are strongly encouraged to have a lawyer, who can help you navigate the probate process and keep you from making mistakes. To find a probate attorney, contact your state’s bar association, which should run a referral service. When choosing an attorney, consider: Location. It is usually best to choose an attorney who practices in the state where the decedent lived. This person will have familiarity with the relevant estate laws and probate procedure. Expertise. Choose an attorney who specializes in probate work. Additionally, if the estate is particularly large, then choose an attorney who has experience in the particular type of estate that you will probate. For example, if you are dealing with complex trust instruments, then you may need to hire someone who is a trust expert. Personality. As the executor, you will be in frequent contact with the attorney. You should choose someone who you trust and like personally. 2-5. Hire an accountant. Hiring an accountant to manage estate funds ensures that the funds are handled correctly, which simplifies your job. Though not absolutely required, an accountant can make paying debts easy. An accountant also calculates and files the estate’s tax bills, which are often complicated. Consider hiring a Certified Public Accountant (CPA). A CPA often has more experience or education than a regular accountant. You should compare rates for accountants. Get an estimate from an accountant and then compare it to the rates offered by other CPAs in the area. 2-6. Hire a financial planner. You might want to consider hiring a financial planner, who can help you deal with the decedent’s accounts. Also, a financial planner can tell you how to close down accounts, cash them out, transfer them, or how to reinvest them. Anyone can use the title “financial planner.” You therefore need to gather recommendations. If you hire an attorney first, then the attorney can probably find you a reputable financial planner. 3. Notifying Organizations of the Testator’s Passing 3-1. Contact the Social Security Administration (SSA). If the decedent was receiving benefits from SSA, then contact the agency. You must contact them as soon as possible. If benefits are paid in error, then SSA will make you refund them, which can be a long and complicated process. Notify SSA over the phone or at a local SSA office. To find the office nearest you, use this office locator. Be sure to have a copy of the death certificate with you to present to SSA. Also contact Medicaid, if applicable. 3-2. Notify creditors. Normally, a decedent carries some form of debt, whether everyday bills or a mortgage. As the executor, you need to make a good faith effort to find creditors. Your attorney should also help you post notice in appropriate newspapers. This notice is necessary to allow creditors to come forward and make a claim against the estate for the amount of money they are owed. If a creditor does not step forward within the time specified by your state’s probate laws, then the estate cannot be charged for the debt. 3-3. Contact debtors. You also need to inform those who owed the decedent money that they should make payment to the estate. Be sure to send debtors a letter to this effect, and keep copies on file. Also check with your attorney to find out how long debtors have to pay the debts they owe the estate. Be sure to include this information in the letter you send. 3-4. Notify credit card companies. You will need to notify credit card companies that the decedent has passed. They will then close the accounts. After the accounts have been closed, you should destroy the credit cards. The credit card companies will later make a claim on the estate. You should pay them off when you pay off all of the estate’s debts, before distribution of assets to beneficiaries. 3-5. Notify pension providers. If the decedent was eligible for a pension, then you should notify the pension administrator. Sometimes, pension payments end on death, while in other situations a lump sum may be owed. 3-6. Contact banks. Write or call any bank that the decedent did business with. You will probably have to provide a copy of the certified death certificate as well as copies of your Letters of Administration or Letters Testamentary, especially if the decedent still has money in the accounts. 3-7. Contact insurance companies. Provide proper notification to any insurance company of the decedent’s death. This will insure the timely payment of funds to beneficiaries. Look through the decedent’s papers to see what life insurance policies he or she had. Also, you should contact other insurers so that payments can be halted. Common insurance policies include car, homeowner’s, dental, and health. Stopping those payments will save the estate money. 4. Probating the Estate 4-1. Identify estate assets. Before you can choose a method of estate administration, you need to locate assets owned by the decedent. Doing so will give you some idea of the size of the estate. Note, however, that not all property owned by the decedent is part of the estate. The following is typically excluded: life insurance pensions healthcare savings accounts property held in joint tenancy joint/survivor bank accounts POD (Payable on Death) bank accounts assets in certain types of trusts 4-2. Choose a method of administration. Once you have a general idea of the size of the estate, you should choose a method of administration. States offer many different kinds of administration. No administration. If the estate is small enough, most states allow the property to be distributed without going through probate. The size requirements vary. In Florida, you can avoid probate altogether if the assets are exempt from creditor claims or are sufficient to only cover funeral expenses. In California, you can avoid probate if the estate is valued at no more than $150,000 or property is valued at no more than $50,000. In this situation, property may be claimed by affidavit. “Simple” or “summary” probate. Most states also offer an informal probate procedure called “summary administration” or “simple” probate. To be eligible, the estate must be smaller than a certain amount. For example, in California an estate cannot be worth more than $150,000. In Florida, the maximum is $75,000. Formal probate. This is the best option for more complicated estates. It may also be the only option for estates that are too large to qualify for summary administration. 4-3. Prove that the will is valid. If there is a will, then you must prove that the will is valid. Usually, to prove the validity of a will, all you need is a statement to that effect from one or more of the witnesses who signed the will. Courts allow different kinds of statements: A “self-proving affidavit” that was signed by the witness in front of a notary when the will was signed. A sworn statement signed by the witness at the time probate is opened. A statement by the witness made in court. 4-4. Present other evidence of the will’s validity. If the witnesses to the will are no longer living, or cannot be found, then other evidence may be needed to prove that the will is valid. Your attorney will help you identify what kinds of evidence the court will accept. For example, courts will scrutinize the signature on the will and accept testimony from people familiar with the decedent’s signature in order to try and validate a will. 4-5. Collect the estate property. If estate property is in the hands of other people, then you need to collect it. You also have the duty as the executor to keep all property safe. 4-6. Appraise the estate. As executor, you need to figure out the value of the probate assets. This could potentially require that you hire an appraiser. To find an appraiser, search online. Type your city or county and “appraiser” into a web browser. Alternately, you could search the Yellow Pages. 4-7. Create an inventory of all estate property. This worksheet will list all of the decedent’s property and their corresponding values. An example of an inventory is available here. Also create an inventory of non-probate assets. You will want to know the value of the non-probate assets as well in case you are trying to divide up assets evenly between beneficiaries. 4-8. Determine which beneficiaries will get specific assets. The decedent’s will typically specifies what each beneficiary will receive: specific assets, money, or a percentage of the estate. Nevertheless, wills vary greatly in terms of how detailed they are in allocating property. This is often a source of conflict. As the executor, you must proceed with great care. Keep lines of communication open. Talk to all family members to find out who is interested in what property. A typical will does not name a beneficiary for each specific piece of personal property owned by the decedent. Accordingly, you will have to decide who gets what. If more than one person is interested in the same piece of property, and that piece of property is not given to anyone in the will, then you can hold a “family auction.” At the auction, all assets are given a monetary value and the names of beneficiaries are pulled out of a hat. People then choose a piece of property. The value of each object they claim is then deducted from what they would receive from the estate. 4-9. Open an estate bank account. You should set up an estate checking account and pay all debts from this account. Open it in the name of the estate. Using one account will make it easier to track money coming in and going out. Get a taxpayer ID. To open a bank account, you will need an ID number. You can apply online at www.irs.gov. You also must complete IRS Form SS-4. You can also call the IRS and request a tax ID number. If you do this, then you will fill out Form SS-4 and mail it in afterwards. Make sure all debts owed to the estate are paid into the account as well. Be sure never to mix estate and personal funds. You should not dip into the estate account to cover personal expenses. Use it only for the estate’s expenses. 4-10. Liquidate remaining estate property. If property is not specifically given to a beneficiary, and no one wants the actual item, then you will need to liquidate the property and distribute the proceeds to the beneficiaries. If real estate remains, you need to speak to a realtor. A realtor can help you get a piece of property ready to sell. Be sure to communicate with beneficiaries what the sale price will be, and listen to any recommendations they make. Research where you can sell personal property. For personal assets (like furniture, books, mementos, etc.), decide where it is best to sell them. If there are antiques or art, then ask the appraiser. For more every-day objects, like cookware and clothes, you can probably hold a yard sale. 4-11. Pay taxes. As the executor, you are responsible for paying taxes. The most common taxes will be income tax and estate tax. 4-12. Pay bills. You need to pay estate debts out of the estate’s assets. If the debts were small, or there was a lot of cash in the estate, then paying the debts should be easy for your accountant. Sometimes, however, you need to liquidate assets to cover debts. The executor pays reasonable funeral expenses first. Your state statute will designate the order in which you pay debts and disburse estate assets. You must follow the order outlined in the statute. 4-13. Get paid. You have the option of being compensated out of the estate for your work as executor (though you can also decline to get paid). Payment is set by statute and largely depends on the size of the estate. In Oregon, for example, executors are entitled to: 7% of the first $1,000 of the estate an additional 4% of any amount over $1,000 but less than $10,000 an additional 3% of any amount above $10,000 up to $50,000 an additional 2% of any amount over $50,000. Also, the executor is entitled to 1% of non-probate property, such as life insurance proceeds. 4-14. Deliver property to beneficiaries. Beneficiaries who were given specific pieces of property should be told when and how to collect it. If you need to deliver the property, then work with the beneficiary on how to deliver the property and how to pay for its delivery. As a final step, you then distribute the remainder of the estate. Often, this will consist of money once the estate has been liquidated. You should work with the beneficiaries to come to an agreement about when and how this money will be distributed. 4-15. Close the estate. Once all assets are distributed and all bills are paid, the estate can be closed. Keep in mind that the estate is not closed until you receive the final order from the court. You will probably have to file a petition with the court, so it is important to involve the estate’s attorney in this process. Once you receive the final disposition of the estate, make sure to keep a copy, along with copies of any other relevant paperwork. Consult with your estate’s attorney and accountant as to what paperwork you need to keep from the estate and for how long you need to keep it. Be sure to close any bank account that was opened in the estate’s name. Tips The amount of time required for probate varies. You should ask your lawyer. The fees for all professionals hired can be paid by the estate itself. Many states cap how much the attorney can charge in fees, which vary based on the size of the estate.
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Request appointment.\\nIf you are eligible, contact the probate court by phone or in person and request the form necessary for appointment as executor from the clerk of court.\\nForms are often posted online at the court’s website.\\nForms vary from state to state, so be sure that you are filling out your state’s form.\\nAlternately, if the will appoints you as executor and you wish to decline the position, then you can renounce the position by filing a petition with the court. You should ask the court clerk for the form.\\n1-3. Complete the form.\\nFollow all instructions when completing the form. Avoid making these mistakes:\\nnot correctly notating the full name of the deceased\\nnot notarizing the form\\nincorrectly completing the information asked for\\n1-4. Present a copy of the application to the probate court.\\nMake the correct number of copies, including one for yourself. Take the application to the clerk’s office. No appointment should be necessary.\\nYou will probably have to pay a filing fee. Call ahead of time to ask the amount of the fee and acceptable methods of payment.\\n1-5. Notify other beneficiaries.\\nYou typically must inform the other beneficiaries that you are applying to be the executor. You can notify them by completing a “Notice of Application” form, which should be available from the court clerk.\\n1-6. Obtain a surety bond, if required.\\nSome states require that the proposed executor post a surety bond. A surety bond is insurance against wrongdoing. Should the executor make a mistake, the insurer will compensate the beneficiaries. The bond can often be paid by estate assets.\\nSometimes, if the decedent stated in the will that the executor does not need a bond, then the bond can be waived.\\nTo obtain a surety bond, search online for a company that provides bonds in your area. You may also check with the court clerk. The clerk may have a list of reputable companies.\\nThe bond company will want to look at your credit history and possibly run a background check.\\n1-7. Attend the appointment hearing.\\nThe court will schedule a hearing to give interested parties a chance to object to the appointment. Usually, the hearing is a formality and no one objects to the executor’s appointment.\\nIf someone challenges your appointment, then the court will hold a hearing. At the hearing, each side will argue why they should be appointed executor. If you are being challenged, you should contact an attorney.\\nIn some states, the hearing can also be dispensed with if all interested parties (i.e., those who would inherit property) sign waivers.\\n1-8. Get the “Letters of Administration.”\\nOnce the court approves an executor, that person gets “Letters of Administration” or “Letters Testamentary.” These letters allow the executor to act on behalf of the estate.\\nIf you find that you no longer want to continue as the executor, then you should file a petition with the court, stating your reasons. If the court finds that you have “good cause,” then a successor executor will be named. Often, the successor executor is identified in the will. If not, the court will hold a hearing and consider other family members.\\n2. Preparing for Probate\\n2-1. Come up with a filing system.\\nBecause executors handle a lot of paper, you should establish a filing system upfront. This will help you not waste time looking for things.\\nTo create an effective filing system you should think about how you want to categorize documents. For executors, common categories will be: money owed by debtors, money owed to creditors, tax issues, court forms, and estate expenses. You will then create binders or hanging files for each of these categories.\\nOnce you have categories, you can then create sub categories. For example, under “Money owed to Creditors,” you can then sub-categorize based on the entity money was owed to: to a mortgage company, to an auto lender, to credit card companies, etc. Each of these sub-categories can then get an individual manila envelope in which you keep copies of bills, correspondence, or notes.\\nAdjust your filing system to suit your needs as the probate process unfolds.\\n2-2. Find the will.\\nIf the decedent had a will, then try to find it. Search for wills in filing cabinets, desk drawers, and safety deposit boxes. Also ask the decedent’s lawyer, who may have kept the will.\\nIf you can’t find the will, you will have to proceed through probate using your state’s intestacy laws. Intestacy laws provide the default rules for how the estate should be distributed. Speak to an attorney about this.\\nIn some states, the person who has the will (the “custodian”) must take the will to the probate court or to the executor within 30 days (or less) of the decedent’s death. Failure to do this could result in the custodian being sued for damages.\\n2-3. Order a copy of the death certificate.\\nYou will need a number of official death certificates to serve as evidence of the death. The mortuary that handles the decedent’s funeral arrangements usually arranges for some certified death certificates. You should ask for at least 10.\\nFor more information on how to get copies of death certificates, visit wikiHow’s How to Acquire a Death Certificate.\\n2-4. Hire an attorney.\\nIt is extremely important to hire an attorney. Some states, like Florida, require an attorney to go through regular probate. In other states, you are strongly encouraged to have a lawyer, who can help you navigate the probate process and keep you from making mistakes. To find a probate attorney, contact your state’s bar association, which should run a referral service. When choosing an attorney, consider:\\nLocation. It is usually best to choose an attorney who practices in the state where the decedent lived. This person will have familiarity with the relevant estate laws and probate procedure.\\nExpertise. Choose an attorney who specializes in probate work. Additionally, if the estate is particularly large, then choose an attorney who has experience in the particular type of estate that you will probate. For example, if you are dealing with complex trust instruments, then you may need to hire someone who is a trust expert.\\nPersonality. As the executor, you will be in frequent contact with the attorney. You should choose someone who you trust and like personally.\\n2-5. Hire an accountant.\\nHiring an accountant to manage estate funds ensures that the funds are handled correctly, which simplifies your job. Though not absolutely required, an accountant can make paying debts easy. An accountant also calculates and files the estate’s tax bills, which are often complicated.\\nConsider hiring a Certified Public Accountant (CPA). A CPA often has more experience or education than a regular accountant.\\nYou should compare rates for accountants. Get an estimate from an accountant and then compare it to the rates offered by other CPAs in the area.\\n2-6. Hire a financial planner.\\nYou might want to consider hiring a financial planner, who can help you deal with the decedent’s accounts. Also, a financial planner can tell you how to close down accounts, cash them out, transfer them, or how to reinvest them.\\nAnyone can use the title “financial planner.” You therefore need to gather recommendations. If you hire an attorney first, then the attorney can probably find you a reputable financial planner.\\n3. Notifying Organizations of the Testator’s Passing\\n3-1. Contact the Social Security Administration (SSA).\\nIf the decedent was receiving benefits from SSA, then contact the agency. You must contact them as soon as possible. If benefits are paid in error, then SSA will make you refund them, which can be a long and complicated process.\\nNotify SSA over the phone or at a local SSA office. To find the office nearest you, use this office locator.\\nBe sure to have a copy of the death certificate with you to present to SSA.\\nAlso contact Medicaid, if applicable.\\n3-2. Notify creditors.\\nNormally, a decedent carries some form of debt, whether everyday bills or a mortgage. As the executor, you need to make a good faith effort to find creditors.\\nYour attorney should also help you post notice in appropriate newspapers. 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You should pay them off when you pay off all of the estate’s debts, before distribution of assets to beneficiaries.\\n3-5. Notify pension providers.\\nIf the decedent was eligible for a pension, then you should notify the pension administrator. Sometimes, pension payments end on death, while in other situations a lump sum may be owed.\\n3-6. Contact banks.\\nWrite or call any bank that the decedent did business with. You will probably have to provide a copy of the certified death certificate as well as copies of your Letters of Administration or Letters Testamentary, especially if the decedent still has money in the accounts.\\n3-7. Contact insurance companies.\\nProvide proper notification to any insurance company of the decedent’s death. This will insure the timely payment of funds to beneficiaries. Look through the decedent’s papers to see what life insurance policies he or she had.\\nAlso, you should contact other insurers so that payments can be halted. 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The size requirements vary. In Florida, you can avoid probate altogether if the assets are exempt from creditor claims or are sufficient to only cover funeral expenses. In California, you can avoid probate if the estate is valued at no more than $150,000 or property is valued at no more than $50,000. In this situation, property may be claimed by affidavit.\\n“Simple” or “summary” probate. Most states also offer an informal probate procedure called “summary administration” or “simple” probate. To be eligible, the estate must be smaller than a certain amount. For example, in California an estate cannot be worth more than $150,000. In Florida, the maximum is $75,000.\\nFormal probate. This is the best option for more complicated estates. It may also be the only option for estates that are too large to qualify for summary administration.\\n4-3. Prove that the will is valid.\\nIf there is a will, then you must prove that the will is valid. Usually, to prove the validity of a will, all you need is a statement to that effect from one or more of the witnesses who signed the will. Courts allow different kinds of statements:\\nA “self-proving affidavit” that was signed by the witness in front of a notary when the will was signed.\\nA sworn statement signed by the witness at the time probate is opened.\\nA statement by the witness made in court.\\n4-4. Present other evidence of the will’s validity.\\nIf the witnesses to the will are no longer living, or cannot be found, then other evidence may be needed to prove that the will is valid. Your attorney will help you identify what kinds of evidence the court will accept. For example, courts will scrutinize the signature on the will and accept testimony from people familiar with the decedent’s signature in order to try and validate a will.\\n4-5. Collect the estate property.\\nIf estate property is in the hands of other people, then you need to collect it. You also have the duty as the executor to keep all property safe.\\n4-6. Appraise the estate.\\nAs executor, you need to figure out the value of the probate assets. This could potentially require that you hire an appraiser.\\nTo find an appraiser, search online. Type your city or county and “appraiser” into a web browser. Alternately, you could search the Yellow Pages.\\n4-7. Create an inventory of all estate property.\\nThis worksheet will list all of the decedent’s property and their corresponding values. An example of an inventory is available here.\\nAlso create an inventory of non-probate assets. You will want to know the value of the non-probate assets as well in case you are trying to divide up assets evenly between beneficiaries.\\n4-8. Determine which beneficiaries will get specific assets.\\nThe decedent’s will typically specifies what each beneficiary will receive: specific assets, money, or a percentage of the estate. Nevertheless, wills vary greatly in terms of how detailed they are in allocating property.\\nThis is often a source of conflict. As the executor, you must proceed with great care.\\nKeep lines of communication open. Talk to all family members to find out who is interested in what property. A typical will does not name a beneficiary for each specific piece of personal property owned by the decedent. Accordingly, you will have to decide who gets what.\\nIf more than one person is interested in the same piece of property, and that piece of property is not given to anyone in the will, then you can hold a “family auction.” At the auction, all assets are given a monetary value and the names of beneficiaries are pulled out of a hat. People then choose a piece of property. The value of each object they claim is then deducted from what they would receive from the estate.\\n4-9. Open an estate bank account.\\nYou should set up an estate checking account and pay all debts from this account. Open it in the name of the estate. Using one account will make it easier to track money coming in and going out.\\nGet a taxpayer ID. To open a bank account, you will need an ID number. You can apply online at www.irs.gov. You also must complete IRS Form SS-4.\\nYou can also call the IRS and request a tax ID number. If you do this, then you will fill out Form SS-4 and mail it in afterwards.\\nMake sure all debts owed to the estate are paid into the account as well.\\nBe sure never to mix estate and personal funds. You should not dip into the estate account to cover personal expenses. Use it only for the estate’s expenses.\\n4-10. Liquidate remaining estate property.\\nIf property is not specifically given to a beneficiary, and no one wants the actual item, then you will need to liquidate the property and distribute the proceeds to the beneficiaries.\\nIf real estate remains, you need to speak to a realtor. A realtor can help you get a piece of property ready to sell. Be sure to communicate with beneficiaries what the sale price will be, and listen to any recommendations they make.\\nResearch where you can sell personal property. For personal assets (like furniture, books, mementos, etc.), decide where it is best to sell them. If there are antiques or art, then ask the appraiser. For more every-day objects, like cookware and clothes, you can probably hold a yard sale.\\n4-11. Pay taxes.\\nAs the executor, you are responsible for paying taxes. The most common taxes will be income tax and estate tax.\\n4-12. Pay bills.\\nYou need to pay estate debts out of the estate’s assets. If the debts were small, or there was a lot of cash in the estate, then paying the debts should be easy for your accountant. Sometimes, however, you need to liquidate assets to cover debts.\\nThe executor pays reasonable funeral expenses first.\\nYour state statute will designate the order in which you pay debts and disburse estate assets. You must follow the order outlined in the statute.\\n4-13. Get paid.\\nYou have the option of being compensated out of the estate for your work as executor (though you can also decline to get paid). Payment is set by statute and largely depends on the size of the estate. In Oregon, for example, executors are entitled to:\\n7% of the first $1,000 of the estate\\nan additional 4% of any amount over $1,000 but less than $10,000\\nan additional 3% of any amount above $10,000 up to $50,000\\nan additional 2% of any amount over $50,000.\\nAlso, the executor is entitled to 1% of non-probate property, such as life insurance proceeds.\\n4-14. Deliver property to beneficiaries.\\nBeneficiaries who were given specific pieces of property should be told when and how to collect it. If you need to deliver the property, then work with the beneficiary on how to deliver the property and how to pay for its delivery.\\nAs a final step, you then distribute the remainder of the estate. Often, this will consist of money once the estate has been liquidated. You should work with the beneficiaries to come to an agreement about when and how this money will be distributed.\\n4-15. Close the estate.\\nOnce all assets are distributed and all bills are paid, the estate can be closed. Keep in mind that the estate is not closed until you receive the final order from the court.\\nYou will probably have to file a petition with the court, so it is important to involve the estate’s attorney in this process.\\nOnce you receive the final disposition of the estate, make sure to keep a copy, along with copies of any other relevant paperwork. Consult with your estate’s attorney and accountant as to what paperwork you need to keep from the estate and for how long you need to keep it.\\nBe sure to close any bank account that was opened in the estate’s name.\\nTips\\nThe amount of time required for probate varies. You should ask your lawyer.\\nThe fees for all professionals hired can be paid by the estate itself. Many states cap how much the attorney can charge in fees, which vary based on the size of the estate.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"An executor of a will is the person tasked to handle a deceased person's final wishes, whether it be financial distribution or property transfers. The executor is also in charge of making sure all debts incurred by the deceased are paid from the estate prior to the beneficiaries receiving their portion. As the executor, you will be in charge of handling the estate as it goes through probate, which is the official mechanism for transferring property from the decedent to surviving beneficiaries. Probate happens with or without a will.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Appointed Executor\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Check if you are eligible.\", \"描述\": \"Though executors are often named in wills, sometimes no executor is named. In this situation, individuals will apply to become the executor. States have different rules regarding who may be appointed executor of an estate. However, most states require that the executor be legally capable of handling his or her own affairs and be at least the age of majority (typically 18).\\nAdditionally, some states may require that you be a citizen of the state.\\nMost states also prohibit felons from acting as executors.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Request appointment.\", \"描述\": \"If you are eligible, contact the probate court by phone or in person and request the form necessary for appointment as executor from the clerk of court.\\nForms are often posted online at the court’s website.\\nForms vary from state to state, so be sure that you are filling out your state’s form.\\nAlternately, if the will appoints you as executor and you wish to decline the position, then you can renounce the position by filing a petition with the court. You should ask the court clerk for the form.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Complete the form.\", \"描述\": \"Follow all instructions when completing the form. Avoid making these mistakes:\\nnot correctly notating the full name of the deceased\\nnot notarizing the form\\nincorrectly completing the information asked for\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Present a copy of the application to the probate court.\", \"描述\": \"Make the correct number of copies, including one for yourself. Take the application to the clerk’s office. No appointment should be necessary.\\nYou will probably have to pay a filing fee. Call ahead of time to ask the amount of the fee and acceptable methods of payment.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Notify other beneficiaries.\", \"描述\": \"You typically must inform the other beneficiaries that you are applying to be the executor. You can notify them by completing a “Notice of Application” form, which should be available from the court clerk.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Obtain a surety bond, if required.\", \"描述\": \"Some states require that the proposed executor post a surety bond. A surety bond is insurance against wrongdoing. Should the executor make a mistake, the insurer will compensate the beneficiaries. The bond can often be paid by estate assets.\\nSometimes, if the decedent stated in the will that the executor does not need a bond, then the bond can be waived.\\nTo obtain a surety bond, search online for a company that provides bonds in your area. You may also check with the court clerk. The clerk may have a list of reputable companies.\\nThe bond company will want to look at your credit history and possibly run a background check.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Attend the appointment hearing.\", \"描述\": \"The court will schedule a hearing to give interested parties a chance to object to the appointment. Usually, the hearing is a formality and no one objects to the executor’s appointment.\\nIf someone challenges your appointment, then the court will hold a hearing. At the hearing, each side will argue why they should be appointed executor. If you are being challenged, you should contact an attorney.\\nIn some states, the hearing can also be dispensed with if all interested parties (i.e., those who would inherit property) sign waivers.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Get the “Letters of Administration.”\", \"描述\": \"Once the court approves an executor, that person gets “Letters of Administration” or “Letters Testamentary.” These letters allow the executor to act on behalf of the estate.\\nIf you find that you no longer want to continue as the executor, then you should file a petition with the court, stating your reasons. If the court finds that you have “good cause,” then a successor executor will be named. Often, the successor executor is identified in the will. If not, the court will hold a hearing and consider other family members.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Preparing for Probate\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Come up with a filing system.\", \"描述\": \"Because executors handle a lot of paper, you should establish a filing system upfront. This will help you not waste time looking for things.\\nTo create an effective filing system you should think about how you want to categorize documents. For executors, common categories will be: money owed by debtors, money owed to creditors, tax issues, court forms, and estate expenses. You will then create binders or hanging files for each of these categories.\\nOnce you have categories, you can then create sub categories. For example, under “Money owed to Creditors,” you can then sub-categorize based on the entity money was owed to: to a mortgage company, to an auto lender, to credit card companies, etc. Each of these sub-categories can then get an individual manila envelope in which you keep copies of bills, correspondence, or notes.\\nAdjust your filing system to suit your needs as the probate process unfolds.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find the will.\", \"描述\": \"If the decedent had a will, then try to find it. Search for wills in filing cabinets, desk drawers, and safety deposit boxes. Also ask the decedent’s lawyer, who may have kept the will.\\nIf you can’t find the will, you will have to proceed through probate using your state’s intestacy laws. Intestacy laws provide the default rules for how the estate should be distributed. Speak to an attorney about this.\\nIn some states, the person who has the will (the “custodian”) must take the will to the probate court or to the executor within 30 days (or less) of the decedent’s death. Failure to do this could result in the custodian being sued for damages.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Order a copy of the death certificate.\", \"描述\": \"You will need a number of official death certificates to serve as evidence of the death. The mortuary that handles the decedent’s funeral arrangements usually arranges for some certified death certificates. You should ask for at least 10.\\nFor more information on how to get copies of death certificates, visit wikiHow’s How to Acquire a Death Certificate.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hire an attorney.\", \"描述\": \"It is extremely important to hire an attorney. Some states, like Florida, require an attorney to go through regular probate. In other states, you are strongly encouraged to have a lawyer, who can help you navigate the probate process and keep you from making mistakes. To find a probate attorney, contact your state’s bar association, which should run a referral service. When choosing an attorney, consider:\\nLocation. It is usually best to choose an attorney who practices in the state where the decedent lived. This person will have familiarity with the relevant estate laws and probate procedure.\\nExpertise. Choose an attorney who specializes in probate work. Additionally, if the estate is particularly large, then choose an attorney who has experience in the particular type of estate that you will probate. For example, if you are dealing with complex trust instruments, then you may need to hire someone who is a trust expert.\\nPersonality. As the executor, you will be in frequent contact with the attorney. You should choose someone who you trust and like personally.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Hire an accountant.\", \"描述\": \"Hiring an accountant to manage estate funds ensures that the funds are handled correctly, which simplifies your job. Though not absolutely required, an accountant can make paying debts easy. An accountant also calculates and files the estate’s tax bills, which are often complicated.\\nConsider hiring a Certified Public Accountant (CPA). A CPA often has more experience or education than a regular accountant.\\nYou should compare rates for accountants. Get an estimate from an accountant and then compare it to the rates offered by other CPAs in the area.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Hire a financial planner.\", \"描述\": \"You might want to consider hiring a financial planner, who can help you deal with the decedent’s accounts. Also, a financial planner can tell you how to close down accounts, cash them out, transfer them, or how to reinvest them.\\nAnyone can use the title “financial planner.” You therefore need to gather recommendations. If you hire an attorney first, then the attorney can probably find you a reputable financial planner.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Notifying Organizations of the Testator’s Passing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Contact the Social Security Administration (SSA).\", \"描述\": \"If the decedent was receiving benefits from SSA, then contact the agency. You must contact them as soon as possible. If benefits are paid in error, then SSA will make you refund them, which can be a long and complicated process.\\nNotify SSA over the phone or at a local SSA office. To find the office nearest you, use this office locator.\\nBe sure to have a copy of the death certificate with you to present to SSA.\\nAlso contact Medicaid, if applicable.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Notify creditors.\", \"描述\": \"Normally, a decedent carries some form of debt, whether everyday bills or a mortgage. As the executor, you need to make a good faith effort to find creditors.\\nYour attorney should also help you post notice in appropriate newspapers. This notice is necessary to allow creditors to come forward and make a claim against the estate for the amount of money they are owed.\\nIf a creditor does not step forward within the time specified by your state’s probate laws, then the estate cannot be charged for the debt.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Contact debtors.\", \"描述\": \"You also need to inform those who owed the decedent money that they should make payment to the estate. Be sure to send debtors a letter to this effect, and keep copies on file.\\nAlso check with your attorney to find out how long debtors have to pay the debts they owe the estate. Be sure to include this information in the letter you send.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Notify credit card companies.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to notify credit card companies that the decedent has passed. They will then close the accounts. After the accounts have been closed, you should destroy the credit cards.\\nThe credit card companies will later make a claim on the estate. You should pay them off when you pay off all of the estate’s debts, before distribution of assets to beneficiaries.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Notify pension providers.\", \"描述\": \"If the decedent was eligible for a pension, then you should notify the pension administrator. Sometimes, pension payments end on death, while in other situations a lump sum may be owed.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Contact banks.\", \"描述\": \"Write or call any bank that the decedent did business with. You will probably have to provide a copy of the certified death certificate as well as copies of your Letters of Administration or Letters Testamentary, especially if the decedent still has money in the accounts.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Contact insurance companies.\", \"描述\": \"Provide proper notification to any insurance company of the decedent’s death. This will insure the timely payment of funds to beneficiaries. Look through the decedent’s papers to see what life insurance policies he or she had.\\nAlso, you should contact other insurers so that payments can be halted. Common insurance policies include car, homeowner’s, dental, and health. Stopping those payments will save the estate money.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Probating the Estate\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identify estate assets.\", \"描述\": \"Before you can choose a method of estate administration, you need to locate assets owned by the decedent. Doing so will give you some idea of the size of the estate. Note, however, that not all property owned by the decedent is part of the estate. The following is typically excluded:\\nlife insurance\\npensions\\nhealthcare savings accounts\\nproperty held in joint tenancy\\njoint/survivor bank accounts\\nPOD (Payable on Death) bank accounts\\nassets in certain types of trusts\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose a method of administration.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have a general idea of the size of the estate, you should choose a method of administration. States offer many different kinds of administration.\\nNo administration. If the estate is small enough, most states allow the property to be distributed without going through probate. The size requirements vary. In Florida, you can avoid probate altogether if the assets are exempt from creditor claims or are sufficient to only cover funeral expenses. In California, you can avoid probate if the estate is valued at no more than $150,000 or property is valued at no more than $50,000. In this situation, property may be claimed by affidavit.\\n“Simple” or “summary” probate. Most states also offer an informal probate procedure called “summary administration” or “simple” probate. To be eligible, the estate must be smaller than a certain amount. For example, in California an estate cannot be worth more than $150,000. In Florida, the maximum is $75,000.\\nFormal probate. This is the best option for more complicated estates. It may also be the only option for estates that are too large to qualify for summary administration.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Prove that the will is valid.\", \"描述\": \"If there is a will, then you must prove that the will is valid. Usually, to prove the validity of a will, all you need is a statement to that effect from one or more of the witnesses who signed the will. Courts allow different kinds of statements:\\nA “self-proving affidavit” that was signed by the witness in front of a notary when the will was signed.\\nA sworn statement signed by the witness at the time probate is opened.\\nA statement by the witness made in court.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Present other evidence of the will’s validity.\", \"描述\": \"If the witnesses to the will are no longer living, or cannot be found, then other evidence may be needed to prove that the will is valid. Your attorney will help you identify what kinds of evidence the court will accept. For example, courts will scrutinize the signature on the will and accept testimony from people familiar with the decedent’s signature in order to try and validate a will.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Collect the estate property.\", \"描述\": \"If estate property is in the hands of other people, then you need to collect it. You also have the duty as the executor to keep all property safe.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Appraise the estate.\", \"描述\": \"As executor, you need to figure out the value of the probate assets. This could potentially require that you hire an appraiser.\\nTo find an appraiser, search online. Type your city or county and “appraiser” into a web browser. Alternately, you could search the Yellow Pages.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Create an inventory of all estate property.\", \"描述\": \"This worksheet will list all of the decedent’s property and their corresponding values. An example of an inventory is available here.\\nAlso create an inventory of non-probate assets. You will want to know the value of the non-probate assets as well in case you are trying to divide up assets evenly between beneficiaries.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Determine which beneficiaries will get specific assets.\", \"描述\": \"The decedent’s will typically specifies what each beneficiary will receive: specific assets, money, or a percentage of the estate. Nevertheless, wills vary greatly in terms of how detailed they are in allocating property.\\nThis is often a source of conflict. As the executor, you must proceed with great care.\\nKeep lines of communication open. Talk to all family members to find out who is interested in what property. A typical will does not name a beneficiary for each specific piece of personal property owned by the decedent. Accordingly, you will have to decide who gets what.\\nIf more than one person is interested in the same piece of property, and that piece of property is not given to anyone in the will, then you can hold a “family auction.” At the auction, all assets are given a monetary value and the names of beneficiaries are pulled out of a hat. People then choose a piece of property. The value of each object they claim is then deducted from what they would receive from the estate.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Open an estate bank account.\", \"描述\": \"You should set up an estate checking account and pay all debts from this account. Open it in the name of the estate. Using one account will make it easier to track money coming in and going out.\\nGet a taxpayer ID. To open a bank account, you will need an ID number. You can apply online at www.irs.gov. You also must complete IRS Form SS-4.\\nYou can also call the IRS and request a tax ID number. If you do this, then you will fill out Form SS-4 and mail it in afterwards.\\nMake sure all debts owed to the estate are paid into the account as well.\\nBe sure never to mix estate and personal funds. You should not dip into the estate account to cover personal expenses. Use it only for the estate’s expenses.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Liquidate remaining estate property.\", \"描述\": \"If property is not specifically given to a beneficiary, and no one wants the actual item, then you will need to liquidate the property and distribute the proceeds to the beneficiaries.\\nIf real estate remains, you need to speak to a realtor. A realtor can help you get a piece of property ready to sell. Be sure to communicate with beneficiaries what the sale price will be, and listen to any recommendations they make.\\nResearch where you can sell personal property. For personal assets (like furniture, books, mementos, etc.), decide where it is best to sell them. If there are antiques or art, then ask the appraiser. For more every-day objects, like cookware and clothes, you can probably hold a yard sale.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Pay taxes.\", \"描述\": \"As the executor, you are responsible for paying taxes. The most common taxes will be income tax and estate tax.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Pay bills.\", \"描述\": \"You need to pay estate debts out of the estate’s assets. If the debts were small, or there was a lot of cash in the estate, then paying the debts should be easy for your accountant. Sometimes, however, you need to liquidate assets to cover debts.\\nThe executor pays reasonable funeral expenses first.\\nYour state statute will designate the order in which you pay debts and disburse estate assets. You must follow the order outlined in the statute.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Get paid.\", \"描述\": \"You have the option of being compensated out of the estate for your work as executor (though you can also decline to get paid). Payment is set by statute and largely depends on the size of the estate. In Oregon, for example, executors are entitled to:\\n7% of the first $1,000 of the estate\\nan additional 4% of any amount over $1,000 but less than $10,000\\nan additional 3% of any amount above $10,000 up to $50,000\\nan additional 2% of any amount over $50,000.\\nAlso, the executor is entitled to 1% of non-probate property, such as life insurance proceeds.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Deliver property to beneficiaries.\", \"描述\": \"Beneficiaries who were given specific pieces of property should be told when and how to collect it. If you need to deliver the property, then work with the beneficiary on how to deliver the property and how to pay for its delivery.\\nAs a final step, you then distribute the remainder of the estate. Often, this will consist of money once the estate has been liquidated. You should work with the beneficiaries to come to an agreement about when and how this money will be distributed.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Close the estate.\", \"描述\": \"Once all assets are distributed and all bills are paid, the estate can be closed. Keep in mind that the estate is not closed until you receive the final order from the court.\\nYou will probably have to file a petition with the court, so it is important to involve the estate’s attorney in this process.\\nOnce you receive the final disposition of the estate, make sure to keep a copy, along with copies of any other relevant paperwork. Consult with your estate’s attorney and accountant as to what paperwork you need to keep from the estate and for how long you need to keep it.\\nBe sure to close any bank account that was opened in the estate’s name.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"The amount of time required for probate varies. You should ask your lawyer.\\n\", \"The fees for all professionals hired can be paid by the estate itself. Many states cap how much the attorney can charge in fees, which vary based on the size of the estate.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Existentialist
1. Understanding Existentialism 1-1. Know the history of the movement. Existentialism is a philosophical movement grounded in a particular historical context, and transferring its tenets to today's cultural moment means understanding what it meant when it developed. It developed and flourished in Europe during the 1940s and 1950s, in a post-war context in which many people felt disillusioned with organized religion and society and felt like life had no real meaning or purpose. 1-2. Read up. Like all branches of philosophy, existentialism developed through the writings of prominent philosophers. Start by reading works of Jean-Paul Sartre, Simone de Beauvoir, Maurice Merleau-Ponty, and Albert Camus. While de Beauvoir wrote many works that are considered essential reading, The Second Sex is a great place to start. It is a critical look at society's gender roles, and garnered de Beauvoir a reputation as a founder of the feminist movement. Try Jean-Paul Sartre's book ' where he lays out the basics of existentialism. 1-3. Understand the basic precepts of existentialism. As a philosophy, existentialism is based on a major premise and several minor premises: The major premise of existentialism is that the meaning of existence and the nature of humanity cannot be truly understood through natural sciences (like biology and psychology) or by moral categories (found in religion and social codes) alone. Instead, meaning is found in authenticity. Ultimately, existentialism focuses on the human ways of existing. Existentialists believe there is no larger meaning or order to the universe or to our lives; that is, there is no destiny or fate, and your individual life has no pre-determined purpose. Still, people have complete free will and can make choices about their daily actions in order to make those actions meaningful and ordered despite the lack of meaning and order in the universe. Thus, life gains meaning by individuals ascribing meaning through authentic lives. 1-4. Remember that existentialism is not the same as nihilism. Nihilism states there is no purpose to life and there never can be whereas existentialism says you make your own. While many existentialist writings have themes of anxiety, hopelessness, and boredom, it is not because the writers did not see a purpose in life. It is because they were overwhelmed with the challenge of creating meaning in a world where meaning is not inherent, as well as frustrated with academic systems that ascribed purpose where, to their minds, it did not exist. 2. Applying Existentialism to Daily Life 2-1. Be authentic. Existentialism is all about being who you are outside of social norms, culture, religion, or other ideas of what you should be. Its about recognizing that you have the freedom to choose who you want to be and only you can make that choice. Of course, the problem with authenticity is knowing when you've actually achieved who you really are outside of society's expectations, versus when you are simply doing what you think looks or appears authentic to others-- which is exactly the opposite of what you should be trying for. When you make a choice about your self presentation or actions, ask, "Is this what I really want, or am I doing this because it will please someone else?" For instance, when you get dressed in the morning, are you choosing what you like, or what you think others will find sexy or cool? 2-2. Create. Find a passion and go after it, whether it be art like existential painter Jackson Pollock, writing like existential author Fyodor Dostoevsky, or philosophical inquiry. Being an existentialist means that you recognize the value in self-expression, so find a way to let your inner self be expressed on the outside. 2-3. Ponder. Existentialism is a habit of the mind, and involves considering questions about how individuals must live. Existentialists ponder questions about the meaning of life and death, whether or not there is a God and whether deity is involved in individual lives (nearly all existentialist philosophers believe there is no God, since there is no meaning or order), the meaning of friendship and love, and other questions that have to do with the individual. Existentialists also think about the importance of choice and personal responsibility. Existentialists are less worried about social or political issues like what the role of the state should be. 3. Letting Go of Contradictory Impulses 3-1. Make up your own mind. Existentialist philosophy holds that each person must create their own meaning, and in order for it to be authentic, it has to be something that you arrive at on your own rather than being coerced by others. Existentialists tend to believe there is no God, but some, like Kierkegaard or Dostoevsky, believed both in God and in free will and self-determination. The important thing is the freedom to choose what to believe. 3-2. Live and let live. A major application of existential philosophy is recognizing the inherent value in choice and self-identity, and allowing others to live authentic lives as well. Do not impose your moral or philosophical code on others. Let them live their own authentic lives, rather than trying to shape them into what you want them to be. Rather paradoxically, this means if they don't want to be existentialists, its not up to you to convince them. 3-3. Recognize the repercussions of your actions. One reason the philosophy is often associated with anxiety and hopelessness is because existentialist philosophers recognize that their actions have consequences and are not meaningless. Even though one may have good intentions, one always acts on limited knowledge and with limited truth, which means one's actions are always imperfect. We are nevertheless responsible for the consequences of our own actions, because there are no other agents to whom we can pass off responsibility. Any change you make in your life, whether it's positive or negative, will impact the other aspects of your life.
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It is a critical look at society's gender roles, and garnered de Beauvoir a reputation as a founder of the feminist movement.\\nTry Jean-Paul Sartre's book ' where he lays out the basics of existentialism.\\n1-3. Understand the basic precepts of existentialism.\\nAs a philosophy, existentialism is based on a major premise and several minor premises:\\nThe major premise of existentialism is that the meaning of existence and the nature of humanity cannot be truly understood through natural sciences (like biology and psychology) or by moral categories (found in religion and social codes) alone. Instead, meaning is found in authenticity.\\nUltimately, existentialism focuses on the human ways of existing.\\nExistentialists believe there is no larger meaning or order to the universe or to our lives; that is, there is no destiny or fate, and your individual life has no pre-determined purpose.\\nStill, people have complete free will and can make choices about their daily actions in order to make those actions meaningful and ordered despite the lack of meaning and order in the universe. Thus, life gains meaning by individuals ascribing meaning through authentic lives.\\n1-4. Remember that existentialism is not the same as nihilism.\\nNihilism states there is no purpose to life and there never can be whereas existentialism says you make your own.\\nWhile many existentialist writings have themes of anxiety, hopelessness, and boredom, it is not because the writers did not see a purpose in life. It is because they were overwhelmed with the challenge of creating meaning in a world where meaning is not inherent, as well as frustrated with academic systems that ascribed purpose where, to their minds, it did not exist.\\n2. Applying Existentialism to Daily Life\\n2-1. Be authentic.\\nExistentialism is all about being who you are outside of social norms, culture, religion, or other ideas of what you should be. Its about recognizing that you have the freedom to choose who you want to be and only you can make that choice.\\nOf course, the problem with authenticity is knowing when you've actually achieved who you really are outside of society's expectations, versus when you are simply doing what you think looks or appears authentic to others-- which is exactly the opposite of what you should be trying for. When you make a choice about your self presentation or actions, ask, \\\"Is this what I really want, or am I doing this because it will please someone else?\\\" For instance, when you get dressed in the morning, are you choosing what you like, or what you think others will find sexy or cool?\\n2-2. Create.\\nFind a passion and go after it, whether it be art like existential painter Jackson Pollock, writing like existential author Fyodor Dostoevsky, or philosophical inquiry.\\nBeing an existentialist means that you recognize the value in self-expression, so find a way to let your inner self be expressed on the outside.\\n2-3. Ponder.\\nExistentialism is a habit of the mind, and involves considering questions about how individuals must live.\\nExistentialists ponder questions about the meaning of life and death, whether or not there is a God and whether deity is involved in individual lives (nearly all existentialist philosophers believe there is no God, since there is no meaning or order), the meaning of friendship and love, and other questions that have to do with the individual.\\nExistentialists also think about the importance of choice and personal responsibility.\\nExistentialists are less worried about social or political issues like what the role of the state should be.\\n3. Letting Go of Contradictory Impulses\\n3-1. Make up your own mind.\\nExistentialist philosophy holds that each person must create their own meaning, and in order for it to be authentic, it has to be something that you arrive at on your own rather than being coerced by others.\\nExistentialists tend to believe there is no God, but some, like Kierkegaard or Dostoevsky, believed both in God and in free will and self-determination. The important thing is the freedom to choose what to believe.\\n3-2. Live and let live.\\nA major application of existential philosophy is recognizing the inherent value in choice and self-identity, and allowing others to live authentic lives as well.\\nDo not impose your moral or philosophical code on others. Let them live their own authentic lives, rather than trying to shape them into what you want them to be. Rather paradoxically, this means if they don't want to be existentialists, its not up to you to convince them.\\n3-3. Recognize the repercussions of your actions.\\nOne reason the philosophy is often associated with anxiety and hopelessness is because existentialist philosophers recognize that their actions have consequences and are not meaningless.\\nEven though one may have good intentions, one always acts on limited knowledge and with limited truth, which means one's actions are always imperfect. We are nevertheless responsible for the consequences of our own actions, because there are no other agents to whom we can pass off responsibility.\\nAny change you make in your life, whether it's positive or negative, will impact the other aspects of your life.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Existentialism is a philosophy and a mindset that emphasizes human freedom and responsibility. Existentialists posit that life has no predetermined meaning, so it's up to individuals to create their own meaning.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understanding Existentialism\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know the history of the movement.\", \"描述\": \"Existentialism is a philosophical movement grounded in a particular historical context, and transferring its tenets to today's cultural moment means understanding what it meant when it developed.\\nIt developed and flourished in Europe during the 1940s and 1950s, in a post-war context in which many people felt disillusioned with organized religion and society and felt like life had no real meaning or purpose.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read up.\", \"描述\": \"Like all branches of philosophy, existentialism developed through the writings of prominent philosophers. Start by reading works of Jean-Paul Sartre, Simone de Beauvoir, Maurice Merleau-Ponty, and Albert Camus.\\nWhile de Beauvoir wrote many works that are considered essential reading, The Second Sex is a great place to start. It is a critical look at society's gender roles, and garnered de Beauvoir a reputation as a founder of the feminist movement.\\nTry Jean-Paul Sartre's book ' where he lays out the basics of existentialism.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand the basic precepts of existentialism.\", \"描述\": \"As a philosophy, existentialism is based on a major premise and several minor premises:\\nThe major premise of existentialism is that the meaning of existence and the nature of humanity cannot be truly understood through natural sciences (like biology and psychology) or by moral categories (found in religion and social codes) alone. Instead, meaning is found in authenticity.\\nUltimately, existentialism focuses on the human ways of existing.\\nExistentialists believe there is no larger meaning or order to the universe or to our lives; that is, there is no destiny or fate, and your individual life has no pre-determined purpose.\\nStill, people have complete free will and can make choices about their daily actions in order to make those actions meaningful and ordered despite the lack of meaning and order in the universe. Thus, life gains meaning by individuals ascribing meaning through authentic lives.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Remember that existentialism is not the same as nihilism.\", \"描述\": \"Nihilism states there is no purpose to life and there never can be whereas existentialism says you make your own.\\nWhile many existentialist writings have themes of anxiety, hopelessness, and boredom, it is not because the writers did not see a purpose in life. It is because they were overwhelmed with the challenge of creating meaning in a world where meaning is not inherent, as well as frustrated with academic systems that ascribed purpose where, to their minds, it did not exist.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Applying Existentialism to Daily Life\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be authentic.\", \"描述\": \"Existentialism is all about being who you are outside of social norms, culture, religion, or other ideas of what you should be. Its about recognizing that you have the freedom to choose who you want to be and only you can make that choice.\\nOf course, the problem with authenticity is knowing when you've actually achieved who you really are outside of society's expectations, versus when you are simply doing what you think looks or appears authentic to others-- which is exactly the opposite of what you should be trying for. When you make a choice about your self presentation or actions, ask, \\\"Is this what I really want, or am I doing this because it will please someone else?\\\" For instance, when you get dressed in the morning, are you choosing what you like, or what you think others will find sexy or cool?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create.\", \"描述\": \"Find a passion and go after it, whether it be art like existential painter Jackson Pollock, writing like existential author Fyodor Dostoevsky, or philosophical inquiry.\\nBeing an existentialist means that you recognize the value in self-expression, so find a way to let your inner self be expressed on the outside.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ponder.\", \"描述\": \"Existentialism is a habit of the mind, and involves considering questions about how individuals must live.\\nExistentialists ponder questions about the meaning of life and death, whether or not there is a God and whether deity is involved in individual lives (nearly all existentialist philosophers believe there is no God, since there is no meaning or order), the meaning of friendship and love, and other questions that have to do with the individual.\\nExistentialists also think about the importance of choice and personal responsibility.\\nExistentialists are less worried about social or political issues like what the role of the state should be.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Letting Go of Contradictory Impulses\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make up your own mind.\", \"描述\": \"Existentialist philosophy holds that each person must create their own meaning, and in order for it to be authentic, it has to be something that you arrive at on your own rather than being coerced by others.\\nExistentialists tend to believe there is no God, but some, like Kierkegaard or Dostoevsky, believed both in God and in free will and self-determination. The important thing is the freedom to choose what to believe.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Live and let live.\", \"描述\": \"A major application of existential philosophy is recognizing the inherent value in choice and self-identity, and allowing others to live authentic lives as well.\\nDo not impose your moral or philosophical code on others. Let them live their own authentic lives, rather than trying to shape them into what you want them to be. Rather paradoxically, this means if they don't want to be existentialists, its not up to you to convince them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Recognize the repercussions of your actions.\", \"描述\": \"One reason the philosophy is often associated with anxiety and hopelessness is because existentialist philosophers recognize that their actions have consequences and are not meaningless.\\nEven though one may have good intentions, one always acts on limited knowledge and with limited truth, which means one's actions are always imperfect. We are nevertheless responsible for the consequences of our own actions, because there are no other agents to whom we can pass off responsibility.\\nAny change you make in your life, whether it's positive or negative, will impact the other aspects of your life.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Exotic Dancer
1. Steps 1-1. Realize that this is a job, not a lifestyle. You must be motivated and driven as with any occupation. Take it seriously, it's a job, not a night out or an opportunity to show off. Go in on time and make sure you behave professionally and in line with the rules of the club. You will also need to know the law and be familiar with following local, state, or federal laws as the apply in your location. Some clubs require a background check and fingerprints as well as ID and a social security or national insurance number. Be prepared to provide these. 1-2. Assess your fitness level. Are you in reasonably good physical shape? You should be healthy, and while clubs are generally looking for someone slim and toned, there is room for all types of body shapes. A lot of girls worry about not having the right shaped body parts, there is no set size or shape for an exotic dancer. 1-3. Get supplies. You should have heels, 4-inch at minimum. Ask the other dancers or the club owner what they like performers to wear. Many dancers start off with platform heeled shoes to aid stability. Remember, stiletto heel shoes make your legs look thinner, so they might be a better bet when picking out shoes. Not all exotic dancers want the focus to be on their legs. Wear footwear you feel is appropriate. You'll also need a g-string or thong made of sturdy material, probably. The exact details of what you may or may not be allowed to wear will vary depending on where you are working. Online shopping might provide better materials than those at a local boutique. The laws vary, so make sure you check. Make sure you are waxed from the neck down; shaving will NOT do, especially if you have darker hair. Specialist exotic dance venues and those in Europe may have different preferences regarding body hair. No everyone wants to see stubble, and waxing will eliminate razor bumps in the bikini area. If you cannot stand waxing or are in between waxes, you can use make up to help cover anything. You'll want to learn to apply makeup well. 1-4. Go for an audition. You can call the club and ask to set up an appointment to audition or simply stroll into the club of your choice (check the Strip Club List online for clubs in your area), and off you go. Make sure you are of age to dance erotically in your district. Some clubs have audition nights or amateur nights where you can go and try out. It is always best to call the club before and find out if this is their way. 1-5. Get a "stage name" for yourself. this will be your alter-ego for when you are at work. The most commonly used "stage names" are: Precious, Diamond, Barbie, Ferrari, etc. Instead of using one of the more common names listed, try being unique and think outside the box. Be creative with your "stage name". Come up with a name that is unlike all the rest. possibly one that no one else might possibly be using. 1-6. Know that prostitution, or "extras", have no place in a club. Moral judgments aside, it makes it harder for dancers to make money when this happens. Also you will be fired if the club finds out. Prostitution is a highly punishable crime in many areas and many clubs will have undercover cops. Make sure that you understand that even words can get you arrested even if you have no intentions of doing anything for extra money. YOU ARE AN ENTERTAINER, not a hooker. 1-7. Be mentally strong. Society can be very anti-sex worker, so because you are working in this field, it requires mental resilience. Customers will insult you, you may lose friends and family... but that reflects more on them than it does on you. Make sure you feel good about what you are doing and see it as a positive thing, this will allow you to stand strong against others. 1-8. Learn from others. When you start working, make sure you learn from the other girls and respect the way they work. Do not become overly friendly with them just to make more money, as they will see right through you! Expect that you will not do so well at first, but don't get disheartened. Learn one thing and get up and do it again but better! 1-9. Be safe and enjoy the scantily clad adventure! 1-10. Get a website. Getting a website of your own can make you much more popular and raise your tip value. Mention the clubs where you work, and customers will come in just to see you, and they will save their biggest tips for your show. Tips Get non-slip pads for the bottoms of your shoes. Having your own car is recommended. Exotic dancers get sexually harassed by rude fans and openly insulted by conservative people on a public bus. Do take a self-defense course for reasons described in the "Warnings" section. Warnings Making more money as an exotic dancer may encourage you to change your lifestyle. You might move to a more expensive apartment, for instance. Make your decisions knowingly- if you change your lifestyle, you may be locking yourself in to this career. Be prepared for hard choices should you change your mind. Don't assume that because there's two or three people offering you a ride, that it's therefore perfectly safe. Sexual assault often takes place with multiple accomplices. When it does, illicit substances, i.e. narcotics, are usually involved. Exotic dancers are considered, in most places, independent contractors. This means you should hire a tax accountant, keep all of your receipts (for waxing, work clothes, make-up, manicures and pedicures), and be sure that you keep track of your income. A notebook with a notation for each shift, the date, the hours and the amount of money you have made and paid out, is proof of income. You should get health insurance, in case something unexpected happens. If you hurt a knee or ankle, or any other health expense, not only will you be out of work, you'll be responsible for your medical expenses. You're making enough money- just do it! On very rare occasions, an exotic dancer may be the target of a sexual predator. But so can a nurse, a receptionist, a restaurant server, or any lady who works with patrons in a manner that, ideally, requires them to be warm, personable, friendly and often subservient. To appear less like a prospective victim, conduct yourself with self-confidence when not onstage. Many exotic dancers are married or have a steady boyfriend with whom they live. That can give a safety cushion should you decide to change jobs after all. Once you start earning a regular income get income protection. That is insurance that pays you if you cannot work e.g. if you break a leg. This is really important as you will be relying on your pay and you will be stuck if you money just stops. Prepare your mate for the possibility that you'll be making more money. There's no sure way to guarantee there won't be resentment because you're making more money for seemingly "playing around". It can come up unexpectedly, as something he/she "throws in your face" to hurt you. There are jobs that will reject you for having once been an exotic dancer, and you probably won't be able to conceal it from (for example) any private investigator. If you choose this path, be aware that it may come with a future price. Don't expect to be able to simply leave it off a resume and therefore have it be forgotten. But, be open about it and it can't "haunt" you. For the sake of your reputation and that of the club, avoid going off alone with an individual. Even if it's just your brother, people will gossip and ruin your good name. Yes, every exotic dancer definitely has a good name to uphold. You may need the trust and help of your co-workers one day. Earn a reputation for responsibility by upholding the honor of the establishment.
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Get supplies.\\nYou should have heels, 4-inch at minimum. Ask the other dancers or the club owner what they like performers to wear. Many dancers start off with platform heeled shoes to aid stability. Remember, stiletto heel shoes make your legs look thinner, so they might be a better bet when picking out shoes. Not all exotic dancers want the focus to be on their legs. Wear footwear you feel is appropriate. You'll also need a g-string or thong made of sturdy material, probably. The exact details of what you may or may not be allowed to wear will vary depending on where you are working. Online shopping might provide better materials than those at a local boutique. The laws vary, so make sure you check. Make sure you are waxed from the neck down; shaving will NOT do, especially if you have darker hair. Specialist exotic dance venues and those in Europe may have different preferences regarding body hair. No everyone wants to see stubble, and waxing will eliminate razor bumps in the bikini area. If you cannot stand waxing or are in between waxes, you can use make up to help cover anything. You'll want to learn to apply makeup well.\\n1-4. Go for an audition.\\nYou can call the club and ask to set up an appointment to audition or simply stroll into the club of your choice (check the Strip Club List online for clubs in your area), and off you go. Make sure you are of age to dance erotically in your district. Some clubs have audition nights or amateur nights where you can go and try out. It is always best to call the club before and find out if this is their way.\\n1-5. Get a \\\"stage name\\\" for yourself.\\nthis will be your alter-ego for when you are at work. The most commonly used \\\"stage names\\\" are: Precious, Diamond, Barbie, Ferrari, etc. Instead of using one of the more common names listed, try being unique and think outside the box. Be creative with your \\\"stage name\\\". Come up with a name that is unlike all the rest. possibly one that no one else might possibly be using.\\n1-6. Know that prostitution, or \\\"extras\\\", have no place in a club.\\nMoral judgments aside, it makes it harder for dancers to make money when this happens. Also you will be fired if the club finds out. Prostitution is a highly punishable crime in many areas and many clubs will have undercover cops. Make sure that you understand that even words can get you arrested even if you have no intentions of doing anything for extra money. YOU ARE AN ENTERTAINER, not a hooker.\\n1-7. Be mentally strong.\\nSociety can be very anti-sex worker, so because you are working in this field, it requires mental resilience. Customers will insult you, you may lose friends and family... but that reflects more on them than it does on you. Make sure you feel good about what you are doing and see it as a positive thing, this will allow you to stand strong against others.\\n1-8. Learn from others.\\nWhen you start working, make sure you learn from the other girls and respect the way they work. Do not become overly friendly with them just to make more money, as they will see right through you! Expect that you will not do so well at first, but don't get disheartened. Learn one thing and get up and do it again but better!\\n1-9. Be safe and enjoy the scantily clad adventure!\\n\\n1-10. Get a website.\\nGetting a website of your own can make you much more popular and raise your tip value. Mention the clubs where you work, and customers will come in just to see you, and they will save their biggest tips for your show.\\nTips\\nGet non-slip pads for the bottoms of your shoes.\\nHaving your own car is recommended. Exotic dancers get sexually harassed by rude fans and openly insulted by conservative people on a public bus.\\nDo take a self-defense course for reasons described in the \\\"Warnings\\\" section.\\nWarnings\\nMaking more money as an exotic dancer may encourage you to change your lifestyle. You might move to a more expensive apartment, for instance. Make your decisions knowingly- if you change your lifestyle, you may be locking yourself in to this career. Be prepared for hard choices should you change your mind.\\nDon't assume that because there's two or three people offering you a ride, that it's therefore perfectly safe. Sexual assault often takes place with multiple accomplices. When it does, illicit substances, i.e. narcotics, are usually involved.\\nExotic dancers are considered, in most places, independent contractors. This means you should hire a tax accountant, keep all of your receipts (for waxing, work clothes, make-up, manicures and pedicures), and be sure that you keep track of your income. A notebook with a notation for each shift, the date, the hours and the amount of money you have made and paid out, is proof of income.\\nYou should get health insurance, in case something unexpected happens. If you hurt a knee or ankle, or any other health expense, not only will you be out of work, you'll be responsible for your medical expenses. You're making enough money- just do it!\\nOn very rare occasions, an exotic dancer may be the target of a sexual predator. But so can a nurse, a receptionist, a restaurant server, or any lady who works with patrons in a manner that, ideally, requires them to be warm, personable, friendly and often subservient. To appear less like a prospective victim, conduct yourself with self-confidence when not onstage.\\nMany exotic dancers are married or have a steady boyfriend with whom they live. That can give a safety cushion should you decide to change jobs after all.\\nOnce you start earning a regular income get income protection. That is insurance that pays you if you cannot work e.g. if you break a leg. This is really important as you will be relying on your pay and you will be stuck if you money just stops.\\nPrepare your mate for the possibility that you'll be making more money. There's no sure way to guarantee there won't be resentment because you're making more money for seemingly \\\"playing around\\\". It can come up unexpectedly, as something he/she \\\"throws in your face\\\" to hurt you.\\nThere are jobs that will reject you for having once been an exotic dancer, and you probably won't be able to conceal it from (for example) any private investigator. If you choose this path, be aware that it may come with a future price. Don't expect to be able to simply leave it off a resume and therefore have it be forgotten. But, be open about it and it can't \\\"haunt\\\" you.\\nFor the sake of your reputation and that of the club, avoid going off alone with an individual. Even if it's just your brother, people will gossip and ruin your good name. Yes, every exotic dancer definitely has a good name to uphold. You may need the trust and help of your co-workers one day. Earn a reputation for responsibility by upholding the honor of the establishment.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you wanting to learn how you can become the exotic dancer of your dreams? Move down to Step 1 for the specifics.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Realize that this is a job, not a lifestyle.\", \"描述\": \"You must be motivated and driven as with any occupation. Take it seriously, it's a job, not a night out or an opportunity to show off. Go in on time and make sure you behave professionally and in line with the rules of the club. You will also need to know the law and be familiar with following local, state, or federal laws as the apply in your location. Some clubs require a background check and fingerprints as well as ID and a social security or national insurance number. Be prepared to provide these.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Assess your fitness level.\", \"描述\": \"Are you in reasonably good physical shape? You should be healthy, and while clubs are generally looking for someone slim and toned, there is room for all types of body shapes. A lot of girls worry about not having the right shaped body parts, there is no set size or shape for an exotic dancer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get supplies.\", \"描述\": \"You should have heels, 4-inch at minimum. Ask the other dancers or the club owner what they like performers to wear. Many dancers start off with platform heeled shoes to aid stability. Remember, stiletto heel shoes make your legs look thinner, so they might be a better bet when picking out shoes. Not all exotic dancers want the focus to be on their legs. Wear footwear you feel is appropriate. You'll also need a g-string or thong made of sturdy material, probably. The exact details of what you may or may not be allowed to wear will vary depending on where you are working. Online shopping might provide better materials than those at a local boutique. The laws vary, so make sure you check. Make sure you are waxed from the neck down; shaving will NOT do, especially if you have darker hair. Specialist exotic dance venues and those in Europe may have different preferences regarding body hair. No everyone wants to see stubble, and waxing will eliminate razor bumps in the bikini area. If you cannot stand waxing or are in between waxes, you can use make up to help cover anything. You'll want to learn to apply makeup well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go for an audition.\", \"描述\": \"You can call the club and ask to set up an appointment to audition or simply stroll into the club of your choice (check the Strip Club List online for clubs in your area), and off you go. Make sure you are of age to dance erotically in your district. Some clubs have audition nights or amateur nights where you can go and try out. It is always best to call the club before and find out if this is their way.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get a \\\"stage name\\\" for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"this will be your alter-ego for when you are at work. The most commonly used \\\"stage names\\\" are: Precious, Diamond, Barbie, Ferrari, etc. Instead of using one of the more common names listed, try being unique and think outside the box. Be creative with your \\\"stage name\\\". Come up with a name that is unlike all the rest. possibly one that no one else might possibly be using.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Know that prostitution, or \\\"extras\\\", have no place in a club.\", \"描述\": \"Moral judgments aside, it makes it harder for dancers to make money when this happens. Also you will be fired if the club finds out. Prostitution is a highly punishable crime in many areas and many clubs will have undercover cops. Make sure that you understand that even words can get you arrested even if you have no intentions of doing anything for extra money. YOU ARE AN ENTERTAINER, not a hooker.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be mentally strong.\", \"描述\": \"Society can be very anti-sex worker, so because you are working in this field, it requires mental resilience. Customers will insult you, you may lose friends and family... but that reflects more on them than it does on you. Make sure you feel good about what you are doing and see it as a positive thing, this will allow you to stand strong against others.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Learn from others.\", \"描述\": \"When you start working, make sure you learn from the other girls and respect the way they work. Do not become overly friendly with them just to make more money, as they will see right through you! Expect that you will not do so well at first, but don't get disheartened. Learn one thing and get up and do it again but better!\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be safe and enjoy the scantily clad adventure!\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Get a website.\", \"描述\": \"Getting a website of your own can make you much more popular and raise your tip value. Mention the clubs where you work, and customers will come in just to see you, and they will save their biggest tips for your show.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Get non-slip pads for the bottoms of your shoes.\\n\", \"Having your own car is recommended. Exotic dancers get sexually harassed by rude fans and openly insulted by conservative people on a public bus.\\n\", \"Do take a self-defense course for reasons described in the \\\"Warnings\\\" section.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Making more money as an exotic dancer may encourage you to change your lifestyle. You might move to a more expensive apartment, for instance. Make your decisions knowingly- if you change your lifestyle, you may be locking yourself in to this career. Be prepared for hard choices should you change your mind.\\n\", \"Don't assume that because there's two or three people offering you a ride, that it's therefore perfectly safe. Sexual assault often takes place with multiple accomplices. When it does, illicit substances, i.e. narcotics, are usually involved.\\n\", \"Exotic dancers are considered, in most places, independent contractors. This means you should hire a tax accountant, keep all of your receipts (for waxing, work clothes, make-up, manicures and pedicures), and be sure that you keep track of your income. A notebook with a notation for each shift, the date, the hours and the amount of money you have made and paid out, is proof of income.\\n\", \"You should get health insurance, in case something unexpected happens. If you hurt a knee or ankle, or any other health expense, not only will you be out of work, you'll be responsible for your medical expenses. You're making enough money- just do it!\\n\", \"On very rare occasions, an exotic dancer may be the target of a sexual predator. But so can a nurse, a receptionist, a restaurant server, or any lady who works with patrons in a manner that, ideally, requires them to be warm, personable, friendly and often subservient. To appear less like a prospective victim, conduct yourself with self-confidence when not onstage.\\n\", \"Many exotic dancers are married or have a steady boyfriend with whom they live. That can give a safety cushion should you decide to change jobs after all.\\n\", \"Once you start earning a regular income get income protection. That is insurance that pays you if you cannot work e.g. if you break a leg. This is really important as you will be relying on your pay and you will be stuck if you money just stops.\\n\", \"Prepare your mate for the possibility that you'll be making more money. There's no sure way to guarantee there won't be resentment because you're making more money for seemingly \\\"playing around\\\". It can come up unexpectedly, as something he/she \\\"throws in your face\\\" to hurt you.\\n\", \"There are jobs that will reject you for having once been an exotic dancer, and you probably won't be able to conceal it from (for example) any private investigator. If you choose this path, be aware that it may come with a future price. Don't expect to be able to simply leave it off a resume and therefore have it be forgotten. But, be open about it and it can't \\\"haunt\\\" you.\\n\", \"For the sake of your reputation and that of the club, avoid going off alone with an individual. Even if it's just your brother, people will gossip and ruin your good name. Yes, every exotic dancer definitely has a good name to uphold. You may need the trust and help of your co-workers one day. Earn a reputation for responsibility by upholding the honor of the establishment.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Expert Minecraft Player
1. Becoming an Expert at Minecraft in Survival Mode 1-1. Gather resources. When you first start a new game of Minecraft, you have nothing except a map. The first thing you want to do is gather wood. You can get wood from punching tree trunks. If there aren't any trees in the area you spawn, gather some dirt or sand blocks from the ground. Open your crafting menu and use the wood blocks to craft wooden plank blocks and sticks. You can craft wooden plank blocks and sticks without using a crafting table. 1-2. Build a shelter. A shelter can be used to protect you from hostile mobs. There are a few hostile mobs during the daytime, but most of them come out at night. A shelter is essential if you want to survive the first night. Your first shelter will most likely be temporary. Don't put too much time and effort into it. Just build a small shelter that protects you from all sides. It can be made out of wooden planks, dirt, sand or any material. When you decide on a permanent location, you can build a bigger and better shelter. 1-3. Craft tools Tools are essential in Minecraft. To craft tools, you will first need to craft a crafting table out of 4 wooden plank blocks in your inventory. Place the crafting table and open it. Use the panel on the left to view a list of all crafting recipes. Select a tool you want to craft. You need to have the ingredients in your inventory to craft an item. Start crafting the tools you need to survive and gather more materials. You can craft tools out of sticks as well as wood, stone, iron, gold, or diamond. Weapons made of wood are the weakest and will not last long. Stone tools are stronger than wood, and iron tools are stronger than stone. Tools made of diamond are the strongest. The following are some tools you will need to craft in order to survive: A sword can be used to fight off hostile mobs as well as slaughter animals for food. A pickaxe is used to mine stone and other minerals such as coal, iron, redstone, or diamond. Some minerals require a pickaxe made of a specific material to be mined. For example, iron ore requires a pickaxe made of stone or stronger to be mined. Diamond cannot be mined with anything less than an iron pickaxe. An axe makes it quicker to get wood from trees and can also be used as a weapon. A hoe can be used to till the soil so that you can plant crops and make a garden. A shovel can be used to dig. If you dig far enough underground, you can find stone and other minerals. Be careful not to dig straight down. You won't be able to escape if you run into danger. Dig at an angle. Torches are crafted from sticks and coal or charcoal. They can be placed on walls and provide light. This allows you to see at night and wards off hostile mobs. A chest can be used to store objects from your inventory. If you die, you will drop everything in your inventory and be forced to recover everything. Use a chest to store items you don't want to lose, but don't need to carry with you. To craft a bed, you will need some wool from sheep and some wooden plank blocks. A bed allows you to safely sleep through the night (all players need to be in their beds), as well as respawn from the last bed you slept in if you die. Place a bed in your shelter and sleep in it so that you respawn in your shelter if you die. Furnaces can be crafted out of cobblestone. Furnaces are used to cook food and smelt iron ore into iron blocks that can be used to make tools. Fishing rods are crafted from a stick and some string, which can be gathered from slaughtering a spider. Fishing rods can be used to catch fish, which can be used for food. A boat is crafted form wooden plank blocks and a shovel. It can be used to safely and quickly traverse rivers and waterways. 1-4. Find food Food is needed to survive in Minecraft. If your hunger meter is full, your health will replenish if you are injured. If your hunger meter runs out, you will start to lose health. You can get food by slaughtering animals and cooking their meat in a furnace, or by harvesting crops. You can also craft recipes from wheat, sugar cane, and other ingredients using a crafting table. 1-5. Explore. Exploration is one of the most fun aspects of Minecraft. When you start a new game of Minecraft, a map is the only thing you are given. Use the map to explore the world. The map will fill out the more you explore the world. Take note of anything of interest. This can include caves, villages, new biomes, or structures, or temples. Be careful not to lose your map. If you drop your map and lose it, you will need to craft a new one and start over again. Be careful not to wander too far from your shelter. Minecraft worlds are randomly generated and are virtually infinite in size. It's very easy to get lost in Minecraft. Keep note of your shelter’s coordinates by pressing the “fn” and “f3” keys together so you’ll know which direction to go if you get lost. 1-6. Set up a permanent home base. After you have explored the world a little bit, find a location to set up your permanent base. It should be an area with plenty of resources nearby. This could be near a village, or a large cave system, or in a rich biome such as a forest, jungles, or mountains. Once you find a suitable location, start constructing your permanent shelter. It can be constructed out of any material you want. The stronger the material, the better. It should be large enough to house your bed, several chests, a crafting table, furnace, and any other useful tools you want to use (anvil, brewing station, enchantment table). You may also want to take some time to add some decorations to your permanent home. 1-7. Go mining Mining is how you find some of the most valuable resources in Minecraft. This includes iron ore, redstone, gold ore, emerald, diamond, and more. The easiest way to mine is to find a cave and explore it. You can also dig your own mine with a shovel. Bring a stone or an iron pickaxe (preferably iron). Use the pickaxe to mine minerals from the stone blocks that have colored spots on them. Different colored spots correspond to different minerals. Blocks with black spots contain coal. Blocks with light yellow spots contain iron ore. Blocks with dark yellow spots contain gold ore. Blocks with light blue spots contain diamond. Blocks with green spots contain emerald. Blocks with dark blue spots contain lapis lazuli. Be careful. Caves are especially treacherous. They are full of hostile mobs, lava, and deadly drops. Don't bring anything into a cave that you don't need. It's also very easy to get lost in caves. You may even want to place a chest at the cave entrance to store your findings and things you want to keep. Bring lots of torches. Placing torches not only helps illuminate your path, but they can also act as breadcrumbs to help you find your way out of the cave. Be sure to collect the torches on your way out. Be careful around lava. With the exception of netherite, any items dropped in lava will not be recoverable. Obsidian is the hardest material in the game. Obsidian is formed with still lava touches still water. It can often be found in caves It requires a diamond pickaxe to mine. 1-8. Craft armor Armor is used to provide a little more protection. It can be crafted out of leather (from slaughtering cows), chainmail, iron, gold, or diamond using a crafting table. Armor consists of four pieces: a helmet, chest piece, pants, and shoes. Craft each piece individually and equip them in the inventory. 1-9. Build farms. One way to create a continuous supply of resources is to build farms. Gardens can be used to plant and grow crops. This provides you with an endless supply of wheat, carrots, potatoes, beetroot, pumpkins, melons, and more. You can also farm animals in Minecraft. Use fences to keep them enclosed and feed them to make them want to breed. When you have enough, you can slaughter them for meat or materials. 1-10. Tame animals There are many animals that you can tame in Minecraft. Horses and mules can be ridden when tamed. Llamas and mules can be used to transport chests. Wolves can be used as hunting partners. Cats can be used to keep creepers away. Use the following steps to tame animals in Minecraft: You can tame horses, mules, and llamas by attempting to mount them repeatedly. When they stop bucking you off and show hearts over their head, they have been tamed. You can craft a lead to walk them. Horses and mules must have a saddle equipped in order to ride them. Collect bones that are dropped when you kill skeleton archers. Give them to wolves to tame them. When hearts appear over their head and it's collar turns red, it has been tamed. Cats hang around villages. Give cats raw fish in order to tame them. When hearts appear over their head, they have been tamed. 1-11. Learn enchantments. Enchantments are a way for you to add bonuses and perks to your tools, weapons, and armor. You first need to craft an enchantment table from diamond, obsidian blocks, and a book. You can then use the enchanting table to make enchanted books. Then you need to craft an anvil out of three iron blocks and four iron bars. Use the anvil to make enchanted tools, weapons, and armor using your enchanted books. 1-12. Explore the Nether. In Minecraft, the Nether is a Hell-like dimension that is full of fire, lava, and many hostile mobs that can't be found in the regular Minecraft overworld. You can also find many minerals and materials that can't be found in the Minecraft overworld. Many of the ingredients needed to make potions can only be found in the Nether. To get to the Nether, you need to build a Nether portal out of obsidian blocks and then light it on fire using flint and steel. Then you can pass through the Nether portal to get the Nether and back again. 1-13. Learn to make potions. Potions can be used to add temporary status effects to you, mobs, or other players. Some effects are positive. Some are negative. Some potions can be consumed. Other potions can be thrown. To make potions, you first need to craft a brewing stand from cobblestone and a Blaze rod (found in the Nether). Then you need to craft a bottle out of glass. Then you can make potions from various ingredients and a glass bottle. 1-14. Beat Minecraft. For the most part, Minecraft is an open-ended game that never really ends. Many people aren't aware that it is actually possible to beat Minecraft. If you've mastered everything else Minecraft has to offer, you can craft an Eye of Ender and use it to find an Ender portal. Once you find one, place an Eye of Ender on each of the pedestals to activate the Ender portal. Pass through the Portal to reach the End. From there, you will need to slay the Ender Dragon to beat Minecraft. This is not an easy task, but if you can beat the Ender Dragon without cheating or switching to Creative mode, you are truly an expert at Minecraft. 2. Becoming an Expert at Building In Minecraft 2-1. Practice building in Creative Mode. Creative mode gives you an infinite supply of all blocks and resources. You don't have to worry about finding resources and crafting anything. Building a complex structure in Survival mode is an arduous task that takes forever. Use Creative Mode to make things easier. You will not be able to earn any achievements or trophies in Creative mode. Achievements and trophies will be disabled on a Survival mode game once it has been switched to Creative mode or cheats are activated. Be sure to keep your Survival mode games and Creative mode games as separate save files. When you create a new game in Minecraft, you have the option to make a under "World Type" in the Game Settings menu. This creates a flat world with no trees, water, hills, mountains, or caves. You may want to consider creating a flat world when building structures. That way you don't have to worry about landscaping before you start building. 2-2. Study other people's builds. One way to get ideas and inspiration for a new Minecraft build is to look at builds that other people have made. Download maps made by other people, as well as look at photos and YouTube videos online. Take note of the color scheme they use, what types of blocks they use and where. Pay attention to how roofs, pillars, and furniture are constructed. See what types of blocks are used to make different shapes and designs. Check out how lighting is used. Build up a collection of reference material for your own builds. 2-3. Make a sketch or model of your build. Before you start making an elaborate Minecraft build, it's a good idea to sketch your ideas on paper or build a model of them. You can use isometric paper to draw a 3D model of your build on paper. You can also use 3D modeling software, such as Google SketchUp, Blender 3D, or TinkerCAD to create a rough model of your structure. 2-4. Decide on a color scheme. Think about what colors you want your structure to have before you start building. It's a good idea to have a few complimentary colors and one contrasting color. For example, you may decide to make the walls a brick-red color with maybe some light shades of red here and there. Then you may want to make the roof an aqua-blue color or emerald green to contrast with the red. 2-5. Use basic blocks to build the bulk shape of your structures. When you first start making a structure, start with basic blocks that have bright colors. Use them to build the basic shape of your structure. Don't worry about adding slabs, stairs, or details just yet. Just build the bulk of the structure using basic blocks to get a feel of the shape and scale. You can add details later. 2-6. Break down larger shapes into smaller shapes. For example, if you are building a mansion, you may start by building a huge rectangle that is the size you want the mansion to be. Then you may want to add a smaller rectangle to the front where you want the entranceway to go. Then you may want to cut out or add another smaller rectangle on both sides where you want window wells to go. Then you may decide you want to create a diagonal shape around the corners of the roof or foundation. Then maybe you'll want to finish by adding some trim around all the edges. Then you can add a separate roof on top of all your rectangle shapes to get a complex roof shape. 2-7. Use a variety of blocks on your builds. Don't just use a single block type such as cobblestone, wooden planks, or brinks for all the walls on your build. Keep the color scheme complimentary, but use a variety of blocks with different textures that contrast with each other. If you are using cobblestone, you may want to use some smooth stone around the doors and windows or in between layers. Use a different color block for the roof and/or trim. Add some depth to your walls too. Don't just make each side a flat surface. Add some trim around the edges or windows. Add arches around doors or window seal below windows. 2-8. Use rows and columns of blocks to get different roof angles. It's easy to create a roof that is at a 45-degree angle by making blocks that staircase up 1 block at a time. You can make shallower angles by making blocks that staircase after rows or two or three. You can also make steeper angles by making blocks that staircase after columns or two or three. You can also use slabs and stair pieces to adjust the angle of a roof. 2-9. Use stairs, slabs, fences, and trap doors in creative ways. You don't have to use stair pieces just to make stairs. For example, you can place upside-down stair pieces to make a countertop or table. A trap door or pressure plate can also be used as a tabletop You can also use trapdoors to make window shutters or the armrests of a chair. You can add slabs to add an overhang below a roof or adjust the angle of a roof. You can use slabs and slabs placed at different angles to create all kinds of unique patterns. You can also stack fence posts to make a pole or create a hanging chandelier. You can make a chair by placing a single stair piece with two trap doors on both sides. 2-10. Learn redstone mechanics. In Minecraft, redstone works as a source of electricity or power. It can be used to make all kinds of mechanical contraptions. You can use redstone to make automatic lights and automatic doors. You can also make an elevator, or a drawbridge. There are all kinds of mechanisms you can make with redstone in Minecraft. People have even used redstone to build a functioning computer inside Minecraft. Tips Minecraft is more funs with friends. Try teaming up to survive or create in Minecraft.
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It can be made out of wooden planks, dirt, sand or any material. When you decide on a permanent location, you can build a bigger and better shelter.\\n1-3. Craft tools\\nTools are essential in Minecraft. To craft tools, you will first need to craft a crafting table out of 4 wooden plank blocks in your inventory. Place the crafting table and open it. Use the panel on the left to view a list of all crafting recipes. Select a tool you want to craft. You need to have the ingredients in your inventory to craft an item. Start crafting the tools you need to survive and gather more materials. You can craft tools out of sticks as well as wood, stone, iron, gold, or diamond. Weapons made of wood are the weakest and will not last long. Stone tools are stronger than wood, and iron tools are stronger than stone. Tools made of diamond are the strongest. The following are some tools you will need to craft in order to survive:\\n\\n A sword can be used to fight off hostile mobs as well as slaughter animals for food.\\n A pickaxe is used to mine stone and other minerals such as coal, iron, redstone, or diamond. Some minerals require a pickaxe made of a specific material to be mined. For example, iron ore requires a pickaxe made of stone or stronger to be mined. Diamond cannot be mined with anything less than an iron pickaxe.\\n An axe makes it quicker to get wood from trees and can also be used as a weapon.\\n A hoe can be used to till the soil so that you can plant crops and make a garden.\\n A shovel can be used to dig. If you dig far enough underground, you can find stone and other minerals. Be careful not to dig straight down. You won't be able to escape if you run into danger. Dig at an angle.\\n Torches are crafted from sticks and coal or charcoal. They can be placed on walls and provide light. This allows you to see at night and wards off hostile mobs.\\n A chest can be used to store objects from your inventory. If you die, you will drop everything in your inventory and be forced to recover everything. Use a chest to store items you don't want to lose, but don't need to carry with you.\\n To craft a bed, you will need some wool from sheep and some wooden plank blocks. A bed allows you to safely sleep through the night (all players need to be in their beds), as well as respawn from the last bed you slept in if you die. Place a bed in your shelter and sleep in it so that you respawn in your shelter if you die.\\n Furnaces can be crafted out of cobblestone. Furnaces are used to cook food and smelt iron ore into iron blocks that can be used to make tools.\\n Fishing rods are crafted from a stick and some string, which can be gathered from slaughtering a spider. Fishing rods can be used to catch fish, which can be used for food.\\n A boat is crafted form wooden plank blocks and a shovel. It can be used to safely and quickly traverse rivers and waterways.\\n1-4. Find food\\nFood is needed to survive in Minecraft. If your hunger meter is full, your health will replenish if you are injured. If your hunger meter runs out, you will start to lose health. You can get food by slaughtering animals and cooking their meat in a furnace, or by harvesting crops. You can also craft recipes from wheat, sugar cane, and other ingredients using a crafting table.\\n1-5. Explore.\\nExploration is one of the most fun aspects of Minecraft. When you start a new game of Minecraft, a map is the only thing you are given. Use the map to explore the world. The map will fill out the more you explore the world. Take note of anything of interest. This can include caves, villages, new biomes, or structures, or temples.\\nBe careful not to lose your map. If you drop your map and lose it, you will need to craft a new one and start over again.\\nBe careful not to wander too far from your shelter. Minecraft worlds are randomly generated and are virtually infinite in size. It's very easy to get lost in Minecraft.\\nKeep note of your shelter’s coordinates by pressing the “fn” and “f3” keys together so you’ll know which direction to go if you get lost.\\n1-6. Set up a permanent home base.\\nAfter you have explored the world a little bit, find a location to set up your permanent base. It should be an area with plenty of resources nearby. This could be near a village, or a large cave system, or in a rich biome such as a forest, jungles, or mountains. Once you find a suitable location, start constructing your permanent shelter. It can be constructed out of any material you want. The stronger the material, the better. It should be large enough to house your bed, several chests, a crafting table, furnace, and any other useful tools you want to use (anvil, brewing station, enchantment table). You may also want to take some time to add some decorations to your permanent home.\\n1-7. Go mining\\nMining is how you find some of the most valuable resources in Minecraft. This includes iron ore, redstone, gold ore, emerald, diamond, and more. The easiest way to mine is to find a cave and explore it. You can also dig your own mine with a shovel. Bring a stone or an iron pickaxe (preferably iron). Use the pickaxe to mine minerals from the stone blocks that have colored spots on them. Different colored spots correspond to different minerals.\\nBlocks with black spots contain coal. Blocks with light yellow spots contain iron ore. Blocks with dark yellow spots contain gold ore. Blocks with light blue spots contain diamond. Blocks with green spots contain emerald. Blocks with dark blue spots contain lapis lazuli.\\nBe careful. Caves are especially treacherous. They are full of hostile mobs, lava, and deadly drops. Don't bring anything into a cave that you don't need. It's also very easy to get lost in caves. You may even want to place a chest at the cave entrance to store your findings and things you want to keep.\\nBring lots of torches. Placing torches not only helps illuminate your path, but they can also act as breadcrumbs to help you find your way out of the cave. Be sure to collect the torches on your way out.\\nBe careful around lava. With the exception of netherite, any items dropped in lava will not be recoverable.\\nObsidian is the hardest material in the game. Obsidian is formed with still lava touches still water. It can often be found in caves It requires a diamond pickaxe to mine.\\n1-8. Craft armor\\nArmor is used to provide a little more protection. It can be crafted out of leather (from slaughtering cows), chainmail, iron, gold, or diamond using a crafting table. Armor consists of four pieces: a helmet, chest piece, pants, and shoes. Craft each piece individually and equip them in the inventory.\\n1-9. Build farms.\\nOne way to create a continuous supply of resources is to build farms. Gardens can be used to plant and grow crops. This provides you with an endless supply of wheat, carrots, potatoes, beetroot, pumpkins, melons, and more. You can also farm animals in Minecraft. Use fences to keep them enclosed and feed them to make them want to breed. When you have enough, you can slaughter them for meat or materials.\\n1-10. Tame animals\\nThere are many animals that you can tame in Minecraft. Horses and mules can be ridden when tamed. Llamas and mules can be used to transport chests. Wolves can be used as hunting partners. Cats can be used to keep creepers away. Use the following steps to tame animals in Minecraft:\\n\\n You can tame horses, mules, and llamas by attempting to mount them repeatedly. When they stop bucking you off and show hearts over their head, they have been tamed. You can craft a lead to walk them. Horses and mules must have a saddle equipped in order to ride them.\\n Collect bones that are dropped when you kill skeleton archers. Give them to wolves to tame them. When hearts appear over their head and it's collar turns red, it has been tamed.\\n Cats hang around villages. Give cats raw fish in order to tame them. When hearts appear over their head, they have been tamed.\\n1-11. Learn enchantments.\\nEnchantments are a way for you to add bonuses and perks to your tools, weapons, and armor. You first need to craft an enchantment table from diamond, obsidian blocks, and a book. You can then use the enchanting table to make enchanted books. Then you need to craft an anvil out of three iron blocks and four iron bars. Use the anvil to make enchanted tools, weapons, and armor using your enchanted books.\\n1-12. Explore the Nether.\\nIn Minecraft, the Nether is a Hell-like dimension that is full of fire, lava, and many hostile mobs that can't be found in the regular Minecraft overworld. You can also find many minerals and materials that can't be found in the Minecraft overworld. Many of the ingredients needed to make potions can only be found in the Nether. To get to the Nether, you need to build a Nether portal out of obsidian blocks and then light it on fire using flint and steel. Then you can pass through the Nether portal to get the Nether and back again.\\n1-13. Learn to make potions.\\nPotions can be used to add temporary status effects to you, mobs, or other players. Some effects are positive. Some are negative. Some potions can be consumed. Other potions can be thrown. To make potions, you first need to craft a brewing stand from cobblestone and a Blaze rod (found in the Nether). Then you need to craft a bottle out of glass. Then you can make potions from various ingredients and a glass bottle.\\n1-14. Beat Minecraft.\\nFor the most part, Minecraft is an open-ended game that never really ends. Many people aren't aware that it is actually possible to beat Minecraft. If you've mastered everything else Minecraft has to offer, you can craft an Eye of Ender and use it to find an Ender portal. Once you find one, place an Eye of Ender on each of the pedestals to activate the Ender portal. Pass through the Portal to reach the End. From there, you will need to slay the Ender Dragon to beat Minecraft. This is not an easy task, but if you can beat the Ender Dragon without cheating or switching to Creative mode, you are truly an expert at Minecraft.\\n2. Becoming an Expert at Building In Minecraft\\n2-1. Practice building in Creative Mode.\\nCreative mode gives you an infinite supply of all blocks and resources. You don't have to worry about finding resources and crafting anything. Building a complex structure in Survival mode is an arduous task that takes forever. Use Creative Mode to make things easier.\\nYou will not be able to earn any achievements or trophies in Creative mode. Achievements and trophies will be disabled on a Survival mode game once it has been switched to Creative mode or cheats are activated. Be sure to keep your Survival mode games and Creative mode games as separate save files.\\nWhen you create a new game in Minecraft, you have the option to make a under \\\"World Type\\\" in the Game Settings menu. This creates a flat world with no trees, water, hills, mountains, or caves. You may want to consider creating a flat world when building structures. That way you don't have to worry about landscaping before you start building.\\n2-2. Study other people's builds.\\nOne way to get ideas and inspiration for a new Minecraft build is to look at builds that other people have made. Download maps made by other people, as well as look at photos and YouTube videos online. Take note of the color scheme they use, what types of blocks they use and where. Pay attention to how roofs, pillars, and furniture are constructed. See what types of blocks are used to make different shapes and designs. Check out how lighting is used. Build up a collection of reference material for your own builds.\\n2-3. Make a sketch or model of your build.\\nBefore you start making an elaborate Minecraft build, it's a good idea to sketch your ideas on paper or build a model of them. You can use isometric paper to draw a 3D model of your build on paper. You can also use 3D modeling software, such as Google SketchUp, Blender 3D, or TinkerCAD to create a rough model of your structure.\\n2-4. Decide on a color scheme.\\nThink about what colors you want your structure to have before you start building. It's a good idea to have a few complimentary colors and one contrasting color. For example, you may decide to make the walls a brick-red color with maybe some light shades of red here and there. Then you may want to make the roof an aqua-blue color or emerald green to contrast with the red.\\n2-5. Use basic blocks to build the bulk shape of your structures.\\nWhen you first start making a structure, start with basic blocks that have bright colors. Use them to build the basic shape of your structure. Don't worry about adding slabs, stairs, or details just yet. Just build the bulk of the structure using basic blocks to get a feel of the shape and scale. You can add details later.\\n2-6. Break down larger shapes into smaller shapes.\\nFor example, if you are building a mansion, you may start by building a huge rectangle that is the size you want the mansion to be. Then you may want to add a smaller rectangle to the front where you want the entranceway to go. Then you may want to cut out or add another smaller rectangle on both sides where you want window wells to go. Then you may decide you want to create a diagonal shape around the corners of the roof or foundation. Then maybe you'll want to finish by adding some trim around all the edges. Then you can add a separate roof on top of all your rectangle shapes to get a complex roof shape.\\n2-7. Use a variety of blocks on your builds.\\nDon't just use a single block type such as cobblestone, wooden planks, or brinks for all the walls on your build. Keep the color scheme complimentary, but use a variety of blocks with different textures that contrast with each other. If you are using cobblestone, you may want to use some smooth stone around the doors and windows or in between layers. Use a different color block for the roof and/or trim. Add some depth to your walls too. Don't just make each side a flat surface. Add some trim around the edges or windows. Add arches around doors or window seal below windows.\\n2-8. Use rows and columns of blocks to get different roof angles.\\nIt's easy to create a roof that is at a 45-degree angle by making blocks that staircase up 1 block at a time. You can make shallower angles by making blocks that staircase after rows or two or three. You can also make steeper angles by making blocks that staircase after columns or two or three. You can also use slabs and stair pieces to adjust the angle of a roof.\\n2-9. Use stairs, slabs, fences, and trap doors in creative ways.\\nYou don't have to use stair pieces just to make stairs. For example, you can place upside-down stair pieces to make a countertop or table. A trap door or pressure plate can also be used as a tabletop You can also use trapdoors to make window shutters or the armrests of a chair. You can add slabs to add an overhang below a roof or adjust the angle of a roof. You can use slabs and slabs placed at different angles to create all kinds of unique patterns. You can also stack fence posts to make a pole or create a hanging chandelier. You can make a chair by placing a single stair piece with two trap doors on both sides.\\n2-10. Learn redstone mechanics.\\nIn Minecraft, redstone works as a source of electricity or power. It can be used to make all kinds of mechanical contraptions. You can use redstone to make automatic lights and automatic doors. You can also make an elevator, or a drawbridge. There are all kinds of mechanisms you can make with redstone in Minecraft. People have even used redstone to build a functioning computer inside Minecraft.\\nTips\\nMinecraft is more funs with friends. Try teaming up to survive or create in Minecraft.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Minecraft is one of the most popular games of all time. While the game may seem simple, it is deceptively deep. Minecraft is a game that has many aspects to it, including mining, hunting, surviving, and creating. Becoming an expert at Minecraft depends on what aspect of the game you want to become an expert at. Some players are excellent at playing the game in Survival mode, while other players are master builders who build amazing structures and worlds in Creative mode. This wikiHow teaches you how to be an expert at Minecraft.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Becoming an Expert at Minecraft in Survival Mode\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gather resources.\", \"描述\": \"When you first start a new game of Minecraft, you have nothing except a map. The first thing you want to do is gather wood. You can get wood from punching tree trunks. If there aren't any trees in the area you spawn, gather some dirt or sand blocks from the ground. Open your crafting menu and use the wood blocks to craft wooden plank blocks and sticks. You can craft wooden plank blocks and sticks without using a crafting table.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Build a shelter.\", \"描述\": \"A shelter can be used to protect you from hostile mobs. There are a few hostile mobs during the daytime, but most of them come out at night. A shelter is essential if you want to survive the first night. Your first shelter will most likely be temporary. Don't put too much time and effort into it. Just build a small shelter that protects you from all sides. It can be made out of wooden planks, dirt, sand or any material. When you decide on a permanent location, you can build a bigger and better shelter.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Craft tools\", \"描述\": \"Tools are essential in Minecraft. To craft tools, you will first need to craft a crafting table out of 4 wooden plank blocks in your inventory. Place the crafting table and open it. Use the panel on the left to view a list of all crafting recipes. Select a tool you want to craft. You need to have the ingredients in your inventory to craft an item. Start crafting the tools you need to survive and gather more materials. You can craft tools out of sticks as well as wood, stone, iron, gold, or diamond. Weapons made of wood are the weakest and will not last long. Stone tools are stronger than wood, and iron tools are stronger than stone. Tools made of diamond are the strongest. The following are some tools you will need to craft in order to survive:\\n\\n A sword can be used to fight off hostile mobs as well as slaughter animals for food.\\n A pickaxe is used to mine stone and other minerals such as coal, iron, redstone, or diamond. Some minerals require a pickaxe made of a specific material to be mined. For example, iron ore requires a pickaxe made of stone or stronger to be mined. Diamond cannot be mined with anything less than an iron pickaxe.\\n An axe makes it quicker to get wood from trees and can also be used as a weapon.\\n A hoe can be used to till the soil so that you can plant crops and make a garden.\\n A shovel can be used to dig. If you dig far enough underground, you can find stone and other minerals. Be careful not to dig straight down. You won't be able to escape if you run into danger. Dig at an angle.\\n Torches are crafted from sticks and coal or charcoal. They can be placed on walls and provide light. This allows you to see at night and wards off hostile mobs.\\n A chest can be used to store objects from your inventory. If you die, you will drop everything in your inventory and be forced to recover everything. Use a chest to store items you don't want to lose, but don't need to carry with you.\\n To craft a bed, you will need some wool from sheep and some wooden plank blocks. A bed allows you to safely sleep through the night (all players need to be in their beds), as well as respawn from the last bed you slept in if you die. Place a bed in your shelter and sleep in it so that you respawn in your shelter if you die.\\n Furnaces can be crafted out of cobblestone. Furnaces are used to cook food and smelt iron ore into iron blocks that can be used to make tools.\\n Fishing rods are crafted from a stick and some string, which can be gathered from slaughtering a spider. Fishing rods can be used to catch fish, which can be used for food.\\n A boat is crafted form wooden plank blocks and a shovel. It can be used to safely and quickly traverse rivers and waterways.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find food\", \"描述\": \"Food is needed to survive in Minecraft. If your hunger meter is full, your health will replenish if you are injured. If your hunger meter runs out, you will start to lose health. You can get food by slaughtering animals and cooking their meat in a furnace, or by harvesting crops. You can also craft recipes from wheat, sugar cane, and other ingredients using a crafting table.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Explore.\", \"描述\": \"Exploration is one of the most fun aspects of Minecraft. When you start a new game of Minecraft, a map is the only thing you are given. Use the map to explore the world. The map will fill out the more you explore the world. Take note of anything of interest. This can include caves, villages, new biomes, or structures, or temples.\\nBe careful not to lose your map. If you drop your map and lose it, you will need to craft a new one and start over again.\\nBe careful not to wander too far from your shelter. Minecraft worlds are randomly generated and are virtually infinite in size. It's very easy to get lost in Minecraft.\\nKeep note of your shelter’s coordinates by pressing the “fn” and “f3” keys together so you’ll know which direction to go if you get lost.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Set up a permanent home base.\", \"描述\": \"After you have explored the world a little bit, find a location to set up your permanent base. It should be an area with plenty of resources nearby. This could be near a village, or a large cave system, or in a rich biome such as a forest, jungles, or mountains. Once you find a suitable location, start constructing your permanent shelter. It can be constructed out of any material you want. The stronger the material, the better. It should be large enough to house your bed, several chests, a crafting table, furnace, and any other useful tools you want to use (anvil, brewing station, enchantment table). You may also want to take some time to add some decorations to your permanent home.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Go mining\", \"描述\": \"Mining is how you find some of the most valuable resources in Minecraft. This includes iron ore, redstone, gold ore, emerald, diamond, and more. The easiest way to mine is to find a cave and explore it. You can also dig your own mine with a shovel. Bring a stone or an iron pickaxe (preferably iron). Use the pickaxe to mine minerals from the stone blocks that have colored spots on them. Different colored spots correspond to different minerals.\\nBlocks with black spots contain coal. Blocks with light yellow spots contain iron ore. Blocks with dark yellow spots contain gold ore. Blocks with light blue spots contain diamond. Blocks with green spots contain emerald. Blocks with dark blue spots contain lapis lazuli.\\nBe careful. Caves are especially treacherous. They are full of hostile mobs, lava, and deadly drops. Don't bring anything into a cave that you don't need. It's also very easy to get lost in caves. You may even want to place a chest at the cave entrance to store your findings and things you want to keep.\\nBring lots of torches. Placing torches not only helps illuminate your path, but they can also act as breadcrumbs to help you find your way out of the cave. Be sure to collect the torches on your way out.\\nBe careful around lava. With the exception of netherite, any items dropped in lava will not be recoverable.\\nObsidian is the hardest material in the game. Obsidian is formed with still lava touches still water. It can often be found in caves It requires a diamond pickaxe to mine.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Craft armor\", \"描述\": \"Armor is used to provide a little more protection. It can be crafted out of leather (from slaughtering cows), chainmail, iron, gold, or diamond using a crafting table. Armor consists of four pieces: a helmet, chest piece, pants, and shoes. Craft each piece individually and equip them in the inventory.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Build farms.\", \"描述\": \"One way to create a continuous supply of resources is to build farms. Gardens can be used to plant and grow crops. This provides you with an endless supply of wheat, carrots, potatoes, beetroot, pumpkins, melons, and more. You can also farm animals in Minecraft. Use fences to keep them enclosed and feed them to make them want to breed. When you have enough, you can slaughter them for meat or materials.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Tame animals\", \"描述\": \"There are many animals that you can tame in Minecraft. Horses and mules can be ridden when tamed. Llamas and mules can be used to transport chests. Wolves can be used as hunting partners. Cats can be used to keep creepers away. Use the following steps to tame animals in Minecraft:\\n\\n You can tame horses, mules, and llamas by attempting to mount them repeatedly. When they stop bucking you off and show hearts over their head, they have been tamed. You can craft a lead to walk them. Horses and mules must have a saddle equipped in order to ride them.\\n Collect bones that are dropped when you kill skeleton archers. Give them to wolves to tame them. When hearts appear over their head and it's collar turns red, it has been tamed.\\n Cats hang around villages. Give cats raw fish in order to tame them. When hearts appear over their head, they have been tamed.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Learn enchantments.\", \"描述\": \"Enchantments are a way for you to add bonuses and perks to your tools, weapons, and armor. You first need to craft an enchantment table from diamond, obsidian blocks, and a book. You can then use the enchanting table to make enchanted books. Then you need to craft an anvil out of three iron blocks and four iron bars. Use the anvil to make enchanted tools, weapons, and armor using your enchanted books.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Explore the Nether.\", \"描述\": \"In Minecraft, the Nether is a Hell-like dimension that is full of fire, lava, and many hostile mobs that can't be found in the regular Minecraft overworld. You can also find many minerals and materials that can't be found in the Minecraft overworld. Many of the ingredients needed to make potions can only be found in the Nether. To get to the Nether, you need to build a Nether portal out of obsidian blocks and then light it on fire using flint and steel. Then you can pass through the Nether portal to get the Nether and back again.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Learn to make potions.\", \"描述\": \"Potions can be used to add temporary status effects to you, mobs, or other players. Some effects are positive. Some are negative. Some potions can be consumed. Other potions can be thrown. To make potions, you first need to craft a brewing stand from cobblestone and a Blaze rod (found in the Nether). Then you need to craft a bottle out of glass. Then you can make potions from various ingredients and a glass bottle.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Beat Minecraft.\", \"描述\": \"For the most part, Minecraft is an open-ended game that never really ends. Many people aren't aware that it is actually possible to beat Minecraft. If you've mastered everything else Minecraft has to offer, you can craft an Eye of Ender and use it to find an Ender portal. Once you find one, place an Eye of Ender on each of the pedestals to activate the Ender portal. Pass through the Portal to reach the End. From there, you will need to slay the Ender Dragon to beat Minecraft. This is not an easy task, but if you can beat the Ender Dragon without cheating or switching to Creative mode, you are truly an expert at Minecraft.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Becoming an Expert at Building In Minecraft\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice building in Creative Mode.\", \"描述\": \"Creative mode gives you an infinite supply of all blocks and resources. You don't have to worry about finding resources and crafting anything. Building a complex structure in Survival mode is an arduous task that takes forever. Use Creative Mode to make things easier.\\nYou will not be able to earn any achievements or trophies in Creative mode. Achievements and trophies will be disabled on a Survival mode game once it has been switched to Creative mode or cheats are activated. Be sure to keep your Survival mode games and Creative mode games as separate save files.\\nWhen you create a new game in Minecraft, you have the option to make a under \\\"World Type\\\" in the Game Settings menu. This creates a flat world with no trees, water, hills, mountains, or caves. You may want to consider creating a flat world when building structures. That way you don't have to worry about landscaping before you start building.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Study other people's builds.\", \"描述\": \"One way to get ideas and inspiration for a new Minecraft build is to look at builds that other people have made. Download maps made by other people, as well as look at photos and YouTube videos online. Take note of the color scheme they use, what types of blocks they use and where. Pay attention to how roofs, pillars, and furniture are constructed. See what types of blocks are used to make different shapes and designs. Check out how lighting is used. Build up a collection of reference material for your own builds.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make a sketch or model of your build.\", \"描述\": \"Before you start making an elaborate Minecraft build, it's a good idea to sketch your ideas on paper or build a model of them. You can use isometric paper to draw a 3D model of your build on paper. You can also use 3D modeling software, such as Google SketchUp, Blender 3D, or TinkerCAD to create a rough model of your structure.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide on a color scheme.\", \"描述\": \"Think about what colors you want your structure to have before you start building. It's a good idea to have a few complimentary colors and one contrasting color. For example, you may decide to make the walls a brick-red color with maybe some light shades of red here and there. Then you may want to make the roof an aqua-blue color or emerald green to contrast with the red.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use basic blocks to build the bulk shape of your structures.\", \"描述\": \"When you first start making a structure, start with basic blocks that have bright colors. Use them to build the basic shape of your structure. Don't worry about adding slabs, stairs, or details just yet. Just build the bulk of the structure using basic blocks to get a feel of the shape and scale. You can add details later.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Break down larger shapes into smaller shapes.\", \"描述\": \"For example, if you are building a mansion, you may start by building a huge rectangle that is the size you want the mansion to be. Then you may want to add a smaller rectangle to the front where you want the entranceway to go. Then you may want to cut out or add another smaller rectangle on both sides where you want window wells to go. Then you may decide you want to create a diagonal shape around the corners of the roof or foundation. Then maybe you'll want to finish by adding some trim around all the edges. Then you can add a separate roof on top of all your rectangle shapes to get a complex roof shape.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Use a variety of blocks on your builds.\", \"描述\": \"Don't just use a single block type such as cobblestone, wooden planks, or brinks for all the walls on your build. Keep the color scheme complimentary, but use a variety of blocks with different textures that contrast with each other. If you are using cobblestone, you may want to use some smooth stone around the doors and windows or in between layers. Use a different color block for the roof and/or trim. Add some depth to your walls too. Don't just make each side a flat surface. Add some trim around the edges or windows. Add arches around doors or window seal below windows.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Use rows and columns of blocks to get different roof angles.\", \"描述\": \"It's easy to create a roof that is at a 45-degree angle by making blocks that staircase up 1 block at a time. You can make shallower angles by making blocks that staircase after rows or two or three. You can also make steeper angles by making blocks that staircase after columns or two or three. You can also use slabs and stair pieces to adjust the angle of a roof.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Use stairs, slabs, fences, and trap doors in creative ways.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to use stair pieces just to make stairs. For example, you can place upside-down stair pieces to make a countertop or table. A trap door or pressure plate can also be used as a tabletop You can also use trapdoors to make window shutters or the armrests of a chair. You can add slabs to add an overhang below a roof or adjust the angle of a roof. You can use slabs and slabs placed at different angles to create all kinds of unique patterns. You can also stack fence posts to make a pole or create a hanging chandelier. You can make a chair by placing a single stair piece with two trap doors on both sides.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Learn redstone mechanics.\", \"描述\": \"In Minecraft, redstone works as a source of electricity or power. It can be used to make all kinds of mechanical contraptions. You can use redstone to make automatic lights and automatic doors. You can also make an elevator, or a drawbridge. There are all kinds of mechanisms you can make with redstone in Minecraft. People have even used redstone to build a functioning computer inside Minecraft.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Minecraft is more funs with friends. Try teaming up to survive or create in Minecraft.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Explorer
1. Exploring as an Amateur 1-1. Find an area to explore. This can be a hidden door in your house, the woods, a trail, or just your neighborhood. There are always new things to be found even in the most “normal” of places. Feeling adventurous? What does the Earth have to offer your explorations? Do you live close to the mountains, the jungle, or a forest? If it's possible, venture into this unmapped territory – just make sure you're prepared for the specific obstacles each different terrain presents! 1-2. Pack all your things in a backpack. You’ll need a water bottle, some snacks, a notebook and pen, a flashlight, a compass, and whatever else might be useful for your specific trip. More ideas will be listed in the "Things You'll Need" section! Again, each trip calls for different things. If you're going camping for an entire weekend, you'll need camping gear, a tent, and enough food and water. If you're just going for an afternoon, you can travel a lot lighter. Make sure you wear your backpack correctly – you wouldn't want to hurt your back halfway through exploring! It shouldn’t be too heavy, either. You'll wish you brought less as you carry it around, realizing it's just slowing you down. 1-3. Invite a friend along. Having a second person will help you feel safer ‘’and’’ you two can help each other – two sets of eyes are twice as powerful (and twice as quick). You may also need another set of hands for climbing trees, being on the lookout, or just to keep track of notes and directions. Make sure this friend is just as adventurous as you are. Someone who’s afraid of heights, bugs, or just doesn’t want to get their clothes dirty may end up slowing you down! Three or four people is okay too, but if you're just exploring for fun, you probably don't want too big of a party. When you hit more than four, it becomes a chore getting everyone on the same page. 1-4. Wear clothes appropriate for where you are exploring. Climbing through the woods in your backyard? You’ll want pants and tennis shoes to get through the dirt and to protect your legs from the brush and bramble. Exploring the beach? Bring boots for the sand, and don't forget the sunscreen! Make sure your friend knows what to wear, too! If they become miserable because they're not prepared, they might blame it on you. 1-5. If necessary, have a map of the area you are exploring. The last thing you want is to get lost and to turn your adventure into an emergency. You'll also want to see where you’ve been. That way, upon your return, you’ll be able to say exactly where you were and what you saw – and be able to retrace your steps when you want to recreate your awesome experience. If there is not a map of the area, make your own! It's fun, and makes you feel like a real explorer. You can make your own map of an area that is already mapped on the paper by adding extra details or correcting the map if it is out of date, too. 1-6. Study up on your surroundings. It’s a good idea to know what’s normal, what’s not, and to know what signs Mother Nature is giving you. Read up on star constellations, plants, weather signs, and always have a compass going in your head, too. Imagine going into a foreign country for the first time. You'll be a lot better off if you've done your research beforehand! This is especially important when it comes to things like poison ivy or bear tracks. You need to be able to say “Let’s turn around!” when the timing is right. Exploring can be dangerous, and the more knowledge you have, the better off you’ll be. 1-7. Set up camp. Exploring is more fun when you have more time. If at all possible, pick a spot to call "exploration headquarters." If you can go overnight, great! Set up your tent in a nice, firm, even spot of ground away from any visible animal roosts. From there, consider a few of the following activities: Animal tracking Plant, animal, and insect identification Rock and terrain studies Digging for fossils or old relics 2. Becoming a Professional Explorer 2-1. Read, study, and talk to other people. Knowing you want to be an explorer isn’t enough. You need to know what’s out there that could use exploring. To wrap your head around all the opportunities that await you on our little blue marble, read books about exotic, untapped lands. Study up on your geography and knowledge of other cultures. Talk to other people about their experiences and places they find interesting. The more you know, the more you’ll know exactly what you want to do and the more you’ll be prepared to do it. Exploring on the professional level isn't just about exploring – it's about finding something to add to the knowledge of the world. You need another idea that you want to work on. Do you want to present research? Write a book? Doing your research will help you refine this idea. 2-2. Settle on a project. All that reading and studying isn’t for nothing – now that you have a decent idea of what’s out there, you’ll need to choose where you want to explore. The winter-torn rivers of Siberia? The dusty huts of the Nagas people in southern Africa? What's more, what do you want to do with that project? Is it going to result in new irrigation for African tribes? Or is it going to be a novel on living in Arctic climes? The more unique and interesting your project, the easier it will be to get started. When the exploration is over, you'll still have this work to complete – and you'll be able to live your travels all over again in completing it. 2-3. Present your project to sponsors. Simply put, exploring costs money. Buckets and buckets of money, especially if you’re doing it long-term or need expensive supplies to get whatever it is you’re studying studied. Because of that, you’ll need to find sponsors, media partners, and kind souls to get your project afloat and to give it the validity it needs – when you get back, you want to share your work with others, not just have it be over! Kickstarter is a great website for this. It is full of people proposing projects just like yours, and people donate money to the causes they believe in. When you're finished, you give them a shout out in your best-selling novel, or get them first in line to your documentary premiere. You’ll need to sell it like it’s all or nothing. You’ll need to display to others your passion and be able to clearly state your vision, why it’s important, and what ground it breaks. The more you believe in your project, the more others will, too. 2-4. Prepare your body for the task. Most expeditions are going to be incredibly psychologically and physically taxing. Many explorers start intense workout regimens years before their project starts. That means weight-training, cardio, and changing up your diet. You'll be grateful you did when all is said and done! Be sure to train in accordance with your project. Will you be climbing trees or mountains? Get that upper arm strength top-notch. Trying to cover miles and miles of barren tundra every day? Start walking, jogging, and running daily. The more prepared you are, the more confident you'll feel during your trip. 2-5. Join groups and societies dedicated to exploring. Look into joining the Royal Geographical Society, the Explorers Club, Explorers Connect, Travelers Club and the Long Riders Guild (if you’re a bicyclist, of course) to pad your reputation as an explorer. These groups will not only be potential donors to your future explorations, but they’ll also be full of people that will be invaluable resources down the line. You'll need to pitch what you're doing to these groups, too, just like you did your sponsors. But by now, you're a pro. So long as they see your professionalism and dedication, you'll be welcome with open arms. 2-6. Be okay with people calling you crazy. Most people’s reaction to, “I’m going to spend the next year living on the banks of the Congo river with the pygmy people!” is going to be, to put it lightly, disbelief and critical judgment. They might think you’re insane, and that’s fine – most explorers are a little bit crazy. But they’re definitely never boring! The old adage that "they didn't say it would be easy; they said it would be worth it" definitely rings true here. You are quite literally taking the path less traveled, which plenty of people frown on. Don't let them get you down – this is doable. 2-7. Believe in yourself through thick and thin. This is a tough path to tread – in fact, you’ll literally be blazing your own trail. To get through all the naysayers, the paperwork, and the nights spent in a tent freezing your limbs off, you’re going to need to believe in yourself and your work, that you’re doing something that matters. Some days it will be the only thing that gets you through. Surround yourself with positive people to make it easier. Keep your family and friends close in the weeks beforehand to keep up your spirits and to keep the doubt at bay. It's very normal to think, "What am I getting myself into?!" but the doubt will fade as soon as you immerse yourself in your work. 3. Becoming a Master Explorer 3-1. Be a survivor There's no question about it: wherever you go, you're going to be in some serious uncharted area. You'll likely be alone in a type of situation you've never experienced before. How will you manage? With survival skills, of course. Learn the art of camouflage. In many situations, you'll need to blend in if for nothing else than to keep the wildlife from scurrying away from you so you can study it (in addition to protecting yourself!) Master how to build a fire. This one is pretty basic: you need heat and you need to cook food (at least to keep up your morale). You can also keep wild animals at bay if need be with fire. Be able to collect water. If your stash runs out, you'll be in dire straits unless you're able to collect water naturally. Knowing you have this as an option will let you breathe easier. Learn how to build shelter. To keep away from animals, bugs, and bad weather, you'll need a shelter. It will also be nice to have a place to call home. Master basic first aid. Whether it's a cut or a broken ankle, you are your own doctor. Master basic first aid, learning when and how certain medications are useful, in addition to learning how to splint or sterilize as need be. 3-2. Always be looking. It doesn’t matter if you’re in your own backyard or paddling through the islands of Papua New Guinea – a good explorer is always on the lookout. If you're not, you'll go through the time spent on your trip not coming back with a thing. This project is all about being attentive. If you're going with a team, make sure you're utilizing numbers as much as possible. Everyone should have their own area they're covering to make sure no stone goes unturned. 3-3. Alter your course on a whim. In exploring, it’s a good idea to have a plan. However, will you stick to that plan? Likely never. When you notice something intriguing that takes you away from it, go for it. It’s sometimes the littlest of things that lead to the biggest adventures. This is where your mapping and tracking skills will come in handy. When you go off course, you'll need to be able to get yourself back on it. Be sure you leave a trail you can take back, and/or plot your new course on a map as accurately as possible. 3-4. Take notes on your findings. What good is exploring if you come back and can’t fully remember what you’ve seen, heard, and done? You want to keep your memories as vivid as possible – so write it down! You'll need these for the project when you get back. Make charts, too. They're vivid and more illustrative of what it is you're experiencing – and they're quicker than writing out an essay about every little detail you're seeing. You can also reference these later to look for anomalies and patterns. Take time out of the day (or night) to do this. You don’t want to constantly have your head stuck in a book – or you might miss exactly what it is you went looking for. 3-5. Think about origins, patterns, and connections. Take a broken branch on the ground. On the outside, it’s pretty insignificant. But if you actually think about where it came from and how it got there, it can lead you to a number of conclusions. Is a wild animal nearby? Was there a fierce storm recently? Is the tree dying? Take even the smallest things, put them together, and you may find answers. This trip, in the end, will be about conclusions. You'll need to take everything you've seen and piece it together until it becomes one giant, coherent puzzle (ideally, of course). In piecing it together, you'll be able to see what sticks out and deserves attention. 3-6. Sit back and just observe once in a while. In addition to going out there with gusto and taking the world by storm, sometimes you just have to sit back and let it take you by storm. Be still. Observe. What are you starting to notice that you didn't before as the seconds creep by? Use all of your senses. Think of them one by one. What are you feeling on the bottoms of your feet, on the palms of your hands, and everywhere in between? What can you see, from the ground to the sky? What can you hear in the distance? Smell? Can you taste anything? Tips Take your chances! Check the weather forecast for the day to know what sort of extra clothes to pack for your expeditions. Before you set out on your adventure, make sure someone who is not going with you knows where you are headed. Warnings Do not go off exploring alone. There is strength in numbers. Should anything happen to you, you have a better chance of surviving unscathed when someone else is with you.
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If you're just going for an afternoon, you can travel a lot lighter.\\nMake sure you wear your backpack correctly – you wouldn't want to hurt your back halfway through exploring! It shouldn’t be too heavy, either. You'll wish you brought less as you carry it around, realizing it's just slowing you down.\\n1-3. Invite a friend along.\\nHaving a second person will help you feel safer ‘’and’’ you two can help each other – two sets of eyes are twice as powerful (and twice as quick). You may also need another set of hands for climbing trees, being on the lookout, or just to keep track of notes and directions.\\nMake sure this friend is just as adventurous as you are. Someone who’s afraid of heights, bugs, or just doesn’t want to get their clothes dirty may end up slowing you down!\\nThree or four people is okay too, but if you're just exploring for fun, you probably don't want too big of a party. When you hit more than four, it becomes a chore getting everyone on the same page.\\n1-4. Wear clothes appropriate for where you are exploring.\\nClimbing through the woods in your backyard? You’ll want pants and tennis shoes to get through the dirt and to protect your legs from the brush and bramble. Exploring the beach? Bring boots for the sand, and don't forget the sunscreen!\\nMake sure your friend knows what to wear, too! If they become miserable because they're not prepared, they might blame it on you.\\n1-5. If necessary, have a map of the area you are exploring.\\nThe last thing you want is to get lost and to turn your adventure into an emergency. You'll also want to see where you’ve been. That way, upon your return, you’ll be able to say exactly where you were and what you saw – and be able to retrace your steps when you want to recreate your awesome experience.\\nIf there is not a map of the area, make your own! It's fun, and makes you feel like a real explorer. You can make your own map of an area that is already mapped on the paper by adding extra details or correcting the map if it is out of date, too.\\n1-6. Study up on your surroundings.\\nIt’s a good idea to know what’s normal, what’s not, and to know what signs Mother Nature is giving you. Read up on star constellations, plants, weather signs, and always have a compass going in your head, too. Imagine going into a foreign country for the first time. You'll be a lot better off if you've done your research beforehand!\\nThis is especially important when it comes to things like poison ivy or bear tracks. You need to be able to say “Let’s turn around!” when the timing is right. Exploring can be dangerous, and the more knowledge you have, the better off you’ll be.\\n1-7. Set up camp.\\nExploring is more fun when you have more time. If at all possible, pick a spot to call \\\"exploration headquarters.\\\" If you can go overnight, great! Set up your tent in a nice, firm, even spot of ground away from any visible animal roosts. From there, consider a few of the following activities:\\nAnimal tracking\\nPlant, animal, and insect identification\\nRock and terrain studies\\nDigging for fossils or old relics\\n2. Becoming a Professional Explorer\\n2-1. Read, study, and talk to other people.\\nKnowing you want to be an explorer isn’t enough. You need to know what’s out there that could use exploring. To wrap your head around all the opportunities that await you on our little blue marble, read books about exotic, untapped lands. Study up on your geography and knowledge of other cultures. Talk to other people about their experiences and places they find interesting. The more you know, the more you’ll know exactly what you want to do and the more you’ll be prepared to do it.\\nExploring on the professional level isn't just about exploring – it's about finding something to add to the knowledge of the world. You need another idea that you want to work on. Do you want to present research? Write a book? Doing your research will help you refine this idea.\\n2-2. Settle on a project.\\nAll that reading and studying isn’t for nothing – now that you have a decent idea of what’s out there, you’ll need to choose where you want to explore. The winter-torn rivers of Siberia? The dusty huts of the Nagas people in southern Africa? What's more, what do you want to do with that project? Is it going to result in new irrigation for African tribes? Or is it going to be a novel on living in Arctic climes?\\nThe more unique and interesting your project, the easier it will be to get started. When the exploration is over, you'll still have this work to complete – and you'll be able to live your travels all over again in completing it.\\n2-3. Present your project to sponsors.\\nSimply put, exploring costs money. Buckets and buckets of money, especially if you’re doing it long-term or need expensive supplies to get whatever it is you’re studying studied. Because of that, you’ll need to find sponsors, media partners, and kind souls to get your project afloat and to give it the validity it needs – when you get back, you want to share your work with others, not just have it be over!\\nKickstarter is a great website for this. It is full of people proposing projects just like yours, and people donate money to the causes they believe in. When you're finished, you give them a shout out in your best-selling novel, or get them first in line to your documentary premiere.\\nYou’ll need to sell it like it’s all or nothing. You’ll need to display to others your passion and be able to clearly state your vision, why it’s important, and what ground it breaks. The more you believe in your project, the more others will, too.\\n2-4. Prepare your body for the task.\\nMost expeditions are going to be incredibly psychologically and physically taxing. Many explorers start intense workout regimens years before their project starts. That means weight-training, cardio, and changing up your diet. You'll be grateful you did when all is said and done!\\nBe sure to train in accordance with your project. Will you be climbing trees or mountains? Get that upper arm strength top-notch. Trying to cover miles and miles of barren tundra every day? Start walking, jogging, and running daily. The more prepared you are, the more confident you'll feel during your trip.\\n2-5. Join groups and societies dedicated to exploring.\\nLook into joining the Royal Geographical Society, the Explorers Club, Explorers Connect, Travelers Club and the Long Riders Guild (if you’re a bicyclist, of course) to pad your reputation as an explorer. These groups will not only be potential donors to your future explorations, but they’ll also be full of people that will be invaluable resources down the line.\\nYou'll need to pitch what you're doing to these groups, too, just like you did your sponsors. But by now, you're a pro. So long as they see your professionalism and dedication, you'll be welcome with open arms.\\n2-6. Be okay with people calling you crazy.\\nMost people’s reaction to, “I’m going to spend the next year living on the banks of the Congo river with the pygmy people!” is going to be, to put it lightly, disbelief and critical judgment. They might think you’re insane, and that’s fine – most explorers are a little bit crazy. But they’re definitely never boring!\\nThe old adage that \\\"they didn't say it would be easy; they said it would be worth it\\\" definitely rings true here. You are quite literally taking the path less traveled, which plenty of people frown on. Don't let them get you down – this is doable.\\n2-7. Believe in yourself through thick and thin.\\nThis is a tough path to tread – in fact, you’ll literally be blazing your own trail. To get through all the naysayers, the paperwork, and the nights spent in a tent freezing your limbs off, you’re going to need to believe in yourself and your work, that you’re doing something that matters. Some days it will be the only thing that gets you through.\\nSurround yourself with positive people to make it easier. Keep your family and friends close in the weeks beforehand to keep up your spirits and to keep the doubt at bay. It's very normal to think, \\\"What am I getting myself into?!\\\" but the doubt will fade as soon as you immerse yourself in your work.\\n3. Becoming a Master Explorer\\n3-1. Be a survivor\\nThere's no question about it: wherever you go, you're going to be in some serious uncharted area. You'll likely be alone in a type of situation you've never experienced before. How will you manage? With survival skills, of course.\\nLearn the art of camouflage. In many situations, you'll need to blend in if for nothing else than to keep the wildlife from scurrying away from you so you can study it (in addition to protecting yourself!)\\nMaster how to build a fire. This one is pretty basic: you need heat and you need to cook food (at least to keep up your morale). You can also keep wild animals at bay if need be with fire.\\nBe able to collect water. If your stash runs out, you'll be in dire straits unless you're able to collect water naturally. Knowing you have this as an option will let you breathe easier.\\nLearn how to build shelter. To keep away from animals, bugs, and bad weather, you'll need a shelter. It will also be nice to have a place to call home.\\nMaster basic first aid. Whether it's a cut or a broken ankle, you are your own doctor. Master basic first aid, learning when and how certain medications are useful, in addition to learning how to splint or sterilize as need be.\\n3-2. Always be looking.\\nIt doesn’t matter if you’re in your own backyard or paddling through the islands of Papua New Guinea – a good explorer is always on the lookout. If you're not, you'll go through the time spent on your trip not coming back with a thing. This project is all about being attentive.\\nIf you're going with a team, make sure you're utilizing numbers as much as possible. Everyone should have their own area they're covering to make sure no stone goes unturned.\\n3-3. Alter your course on a whim.\\nIn exploring, it’s a good idea to have a plan. However, will you stick to that plan? Likely never. When you notice something intriguing that takes you away from it, go for it. It’s sometimes the littlest of things that lead to the biggest adventures.\\nThis is where your mapping and tracking skills will come in handy. When you go off course, you'll need to be able to get yourself back on it. Be sure you leave a trail you can take back, and/or plot your new course on a map as accurately as possible.\\n3-4. Take notes on your findings.\\nWhat good is exploring if you come back and can’t fully remember what you’ve seen, heard, and done? You want to keep your memories as vivid as possible – so write it down! You'll need these for the project when you get back.\\nMake charts, too. They're vivid and more illustrative of what it is you're experiencing – and they're quicker than writing out an essay about every little detail you're seeing. You can also reference these later to look for anomalies and patterns.\\nTake time out of the day (or night) to do this. You don’t want to constantly have your head stuck in a book – or you might miss exactly what it is you went looking for.\\n3-5. Think about origins, patterns, and connections.\\nTake a broken branch on the ground. On the outside, it’s pretty insignificant. But if you actually think about where it came from and how it got there, it can lead you to a number of conclusions. Is a wild animal nearby? Was there a fierce storm recently? Is the tree dying? Take even the smallest things, put them together, and you may find answers.\\nThis trip, in the end, will be about conclusions. You'll need to take everything you've seen and piece it together until it becomes one giant, coherent puzzle (ideally, of course). In piecing it together, you'll be able to see what sticks out and deserves attention.\\n3-6. Sit back and just observe once in a while.\\nIn addition to going out there with gusto and taking the world by storm, sometimes you just have to sit back and let it take you by storm. Be still. Observe. What are you starting to notice that you didn't before as the seconds creep by?\\nUse all of your senses. Think of them one by one. What are you feeling on the bottoms of your feet, on the palms of your hands, and everywhere in between? What can you see, from the ground to the sky? What can you hear in the distance? Smell? Can you taste anything?\\nTips\\nTake your chances!\\nCheck the weather forecast for the day to know what sort of extra clothes to pack for your expeditions.\\nBefore you set out on your adventure, make sure someone who is not going with you knows where you are headed.\\nWarnings\\nDo not go off exploring alone. There is strength in numbers. Should anything happen to you, you have a better chance of surviving unscathed when someone else is with you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"All of us have a bit of an explorer within us. Whether you want to explore your neighborhood or make it your career, wikiHow has you covered. From packing your backpack to getting your next project funded, the world is at your feet. Let's go!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Exploring as an Amateur\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find an area to explore.\", \"描述\": \"This can be a hidden door in your house, the woods, a trail, or just your neighborhood. There are always new things to be found even in the most “normal” of places.\\nFeeling adventurous? What does the Earth have to offer your explorations? Do you live close to the mountains, the jungle, or a forest? If it's possible, venture into this unmapped territory – just make sure you're prepared for the specific obstacles each different terrain presents!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pack all your things in a backpack.\", \"描述\": \"You’ll need a water bottle, some snacks, a notebook and pen, a flashlight, a compass, and whatever else might be useful for your specific trip. More ideas will be listed in the \\\"Things You'll Need\\\" section!\\nAgain, each trip calls for different things. If you're going camping for an entire weekend, you'll need camping gear, a tent, and enough food and water. If you're just going for an afternoon, you can travel a lot lighter.\\nMake sure you wear your backpack correctly – you wouldn't want to hurt your back halfway through exploring! It shouldn’t be too heavy, either. You'll wish you brought less as you carry it around, realizing it's just slowing you down.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Invite a friend along.\", \"描述\": \"Having a second person will help you feel safer ‘’and’’ you two can help each other – two sets of eyes are twice as powerful (and twice as quick). You may also need another set of hands for climbing trees, being on the lookout, or just to keep track of notes and directions.\\nMake sure this friend is just as adventurous as you are. Someone who’s afraid of heights, bugs, or just doesn’t want to get their clothes dirty may end up slowing you down!\\nThree or four people is okay too, but if you're just exploring for fun, you probably don't want too big of a party. When you hit more than four, it becomes a chore getting everyone on the same page.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear clothes appropriate for where you are exploring.\", \"描述\": \"Climbing through the woods in your backyard? You’ll want pants and tennis shoes to get through the dirt and to protect your legs from the brush and bramble. Exploring the beach? Bring boots for the sand, and don't forget the sunscreen!\\nMake sure your friend knows what to wear, too! If they become miserable because they're not prepared, they might blame it on you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"If necessary, have a map of the area you are exploring.\", \"描述\": \"The last thing you want is to get lost and to turn your adventure into an emergency. You'll also want to see where you’ve been. That way, upon your return, you’ll be able to say exactly where you were and what you saw – and be able to retrace your steps when you want to recreate your awesome experience.\\nIf there is not a map of the area, make your own! It's fun, and makes you feel like a real explorer. You can make your own map of an area that is already mapped on the paper by adding extra details or correcting the map if it is out of date, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Study up on your surroundings.\", \"描述\": \"It’s a good idea to know what’s normal, what’s not, and to know what signs Mother Nature is giving you. Read up on star constellations, plants, weather signs, and always have a compass going in your head, too. Imagine going into a foreign country for the first time. You'll be a lot better off if you've done your research beforehand!\\nThis is especially important when it comes to things like poison ivy or bear tracks. You need to be able to say “Let’s turn around!” when the timing is right. Exploring can be dangerous, and the more knowledge you have, the better off you’ll be.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Set up camp.\", \"描述\": \"Exploring is more fun when you have more time. If at all possible, pick a spot to call \\\"exploration headquarters.\\\" If you can go overnight, great! Set up your tent in a nice, firm, even spot of ground away from any visible animal roosts. From there, consider a few of the following activities:\\nAnimal tracking\\nPlant, animal, and insect identification\\nRock and terrain studies\\nDigging for fossils or old relics\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Professional Explorer\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read, study, and talk to other people.\", \"描述\": \"Knowing you want to be an explorer isn’t enough. You need to know what’s out there that could use exploring. To wrap your head around all the opportunities that await you on our little blue marble, read books about exotic, untapped lands. Study up on your geography and knowledge of other cultures. Talk to other people about their experiences and places they find interesting. The more you know, the more you’ll know exactly what you want to do and the more you’ll be prepared to do it.\\nExploring on the professional level isn't just about exploring – it's about finding something to add to the knowledge of the world. You need another idea that you want to work on. Do you want to present research? Write a book? Doing your research will help you refine this idea.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Settle on a project.\", \"描述\": \"All that reading and studying isn’t for nothing – now that you have a decent idea of what’s out there, you’ll need to choose where you want to explore. The winter-torn rivers of Siberia? The dusty huts of the Nagas people in southern Africa? What's more, what do you want to do with that project? Is it going to result in new irrigation for African tribes? Or is it going to be a novel on living in Arctic climes?\\nThe more unique and interesting your project, the easier it will be to get started. When the exploration is over, you'll still have this work to complete – and you'll be able to live your travels all over again in completing it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Present your project to sponsors.\", \"描述\": \"Simply put, exploring costs money. Buckets and buckets of money, especially if you’re doing it long-term or need expensive supplies to get whatever it is you’re studying studied. Because of that, you’ll need to find sponsors, media partners, and kind souls to get your project afloat and to give it the validity it needs – when you get back, you want to share your work with others, not just have it be over!\\nKickstarter is a great website for this. It is full of people proposing projects just like yours, and people donate money to the causes they believe in. When you're finished, you give them a shout out in your best-selling novel, or get them first in line to your documentary premiere.\\nYou’ll need to sell it like it’s all or nothing. You’ll need to display to others your passion and be able to clearly state your vision, why it’s important, and what ground it breaks. The more you believe in your project, the more others will, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Prepare your body for the task.\", \"描述\": \"Most expeditions are going to be incredibly psychologically and physically taxing. Many explorers start intense workout regimens years before their project starts. That means weight-training, cardio, and changing up your diet. You'll be grateful you did when all is said and done!\\nBe sure to train in accordance with your project. Will you be climbing trees or mountains? Get that upper arm strength top-notch. Trying to cover miles and miles of barren tundra every day? Start walking, jogging, and running daily. The more prepared you are, the more confident you'll feel during your trip.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Join groups and societies dedicated to exploring.\", \"描述\": \"Look into joining the Royal Geographical Society, the Explorers Club, Explorers Connect, Travelers Club and the Long Riders Guild (if you’re a bicyclist, of course) to pad your reputation as an explorer. These groups will not only be potential donors to your future explorations, but they’ll also be full of people that will be invaluable resources down the line.\\nYou'll need to pitch what you're doing to these groups, too, just like you did your sponsors. But by now, you're a pro. So long as they see your professionalism and dedication, you'll be welcome with open arms.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be okay with people calling you crazy.\", \"描述\": \"Most people’s reaction to, “I’m going to spend the next year living on the banks of the Congo river with the pygmy people!” is going to be, to put it lightly, disbelief and critical judgment. They might think you’re insane, and that’s fine – most explorers are a little bit crazy. But they’re definitely never boring!\\nThe old adage that \\\"they didn't say it would be easy; they said it would be worth it\\\" definitely rings true here. You are quite literally taking the path less traveled, which plenty of people frown on. Don't let them get you down – this is doable.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Believe in yourself through thick and thin.\", \"描述\": \"This is a tough path to tread – in fact, you’ll literally be blazing your own trail. To get through all the naysayers, the paperwork, and the nights spent in a tent freezing your limbs off, you’re going to need to believe in yourself and your work, that you’re doing something that matters. Some days it will be the only thing that gets you through.\\nSurround yourself with positive people to make it easier. Keep your family and friends close in the weeks beforehand to keep up your spirits and to keep the doubt at bay. It's very normal to think, \\\"What am I getting myself into?!\\\" but the doubt will fade as soon as you immerse yourself in your work.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Master Explorer\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be a survivor\", \"描述\": \"There's no question about it: wherever you go, you're going to be in some serious uncharted area. You'll likely be alone in a type of situation you've never experienced before. How will you manage? With survival skills, of course.\\nLearn the art of camouflage. In many situations, you'll need to blend in if for nothing else than to keep the wildlife from scurrying away from you so you can study it (in addition to protecting yourself!)\\nMaster how to build a fire. This one is pretty basic: you need heat and you need to cook food (at least to keep up your morale). You can also keep wild animals at bay if need be with fire.\\nBe able to collect water. If your stash runs out, you'll be in dire straits unless you're able to collect water naturally. Knowing you have this as an option will let you breathe easier.\\nLearn how to build shelter. To keep away from animals, bugs, and bad weather, you'll need a shelter. It will also be nice to have a place to call home.\\nMaster basic first aid. Whether it's a cut or a broken ankle, you are your own doctor. Master basic first aid, learning when and how certain medications are useful, in addition to learning how to splint or sterilize as need be.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Always be looking.\", \"描述\": \"It doesn’t matter if you’re in your own backyard or paddling through the islands of Papua New Guinea – a good explorer is always on the lookout. If you're not, you'll go through the time spent on your trip not coming back with a thing. This project is all about being attentive.\\nIf you're going with a team, make sure you're utilizing numbers as much as possible. Everyone should have their own area they're covering to make sure no stone goes unturned.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Alter your course on a whim.\", \"描述\": \"In exploring, it’s a good idea to have a plan. However, will you stick to that plan? Likely never. When you notice something intriguing that takes you away from it, go for it. It’s sometimes the littlest of things that lead to the biggest adventures.\\nThis is where your mapping and tracking skills will come in handy. When you go off course, you'll need to be able to get yourself back on it. Be sure you leave a trail you can take back, and/or plot your new course on a map as accurately as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take notes on your findings.\", \"描述\": \"What good is exploring if you come back and can’t fully remember what you’ve seen, heard, and done? You want to keep your memories as vivid as possible – so write it down! You'll need these for the project when you get back.\\nMake charts, too. They're vivid and more illustrative of what it is you're experiencing – and they're quicker than writing out an essay about every little detail you're seeing. You can also reference these later to look for anomalies and patterns.\\nTake time out of the day (or night) to do this. You don’t want to constantly have your head stuck in a book – or you might miss exactly what it is you went looking for.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Think about origins, patterns, and connections.\", \"描述\": \"Take a broken branch on the ground. On the outside, it’s pretty insignificant. But if you actually think about where it came from and how it got there, it can lead you to a number of conclusions. Is a wild animal nearby? Was there a fierce storm recently? Is the tree dying? Take even the smallest things, put them together, and you may find answers.\\nThis trip, in the end, will be about conclusions. You'll need to take everything you've seen and piece it together until it becomes one giant, coherent puzzle (ideally, of course). 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How to Be an Extrovert
1. Put away your phone. Focus on socializing rather than looking at a screen. Checking your phone while you’re around other people can make you feel closed off and disinterested. Instead, set your phone on silent and keep it in your pocket or purse so you don’t get distracted by it. Stay fully engaged with the people you’re with, or branch out and introduce yourself to someone new if you’re somewhere alone. If you’re still really tempted to check your phone, leave it in your vehicle or ask a friend to hold it for you. You might feel a little uncomfortable at first since we’re so used to looking at our phones, but try your hardest and it will eventually feel easier. 2. Stand in the middle of the room. Put yourself out there to get involved in conversations. Standing near walls or the edges of a room can make it seem like you’re closed off from conversations. Instead, move closer to the center of the room where other people are gathering. Try to stick near groups of people that you’re interested in talking to so you’re able to get involved in their conversations. Move around the room frequently so you can interact with the most people. Try to hold your head up, keep your shoulders back, and smile. Walking around with open, friendly posture not only makes you look approachable, but helps you feel friendlier and more approachable, too. If you're feeling nervous, try visualizing yourself smiling and approaching someone before you actually do it. 3. Stay enthusiastic and energetic. Show your excitement to help you be more likable. When you interact with someone, be friendly and show genuine interest in them to come across as more energetic. Vary the tone of your voice when you talk to keep the conversation engaging. Maintain a positive attitude and the other person will usually respond the same way. Try listening to some fast-paced pump-up music before putting yourself in social situations to help boost your energy levels. People have different social energies, so make sure you adapt to them. For example, if someone doesn’t seem as energetic, stay positive but act a little more relaxed around them. 4. Speak up. Assert yourself so you can join in the conversation. Rather than keeping things to yourself or questioning what you want to say, insert yourself into the conversation. Raise your voice slightly so other people can hear what you’re saying. Try to avoid using filler words, like “um,” “uh,” or “I guess” since it might make you seem low energy and less excited to be a part of the conversation. If you have a hard time speaking up, try talking with a loud voice whenever you have the chance, like when you’re home by yourself or driving. That way, it’ll be easier to make your voice heard when you’re with a group of people. 5. Share personal interests. Talk about the things you like so people get to know you better. Don’t let the other person carry the conversation and speak over you. Instead, try to balance the conversation by sharing some of your own interests. After bringing them up, ask the other person what they’re interested in too. Try to find something you have in common with the other person so you can carry on a deeper conversation and get to know them better. For example, if someone asks you how your weekend was, avoid saying things like, “It was good,” or “Fine.” Instead, say something such as, “It was great! I finished watching Game of Thrones and I really loved it. Have you seen it?” If the person isn’t interested in the things you bring up, go back to having small talk before bringing up something else they might relate to. 6. Express your opinions. You’ll feel more satisfied if you feel like your voice is being heard. As an introvert, it can be really easy to stay quiet even if you disagree with something. Instead, mention how you personally feel about it with a firm voice without shutting down other people’s opinions. Ask the person questions about why they feel the way that they do and listen to their opinions as well. 7. Listen actively to others. Give others your full attention so they involve you in more conversations. As other people are talking, lean in closer to them and react to what they’re saying, such as nodding when you agree with something. Maintain your eye contact with the speaker and really think about what they’re saying. Avoid daydreaming or trying to think of the next thing you want to say since it distracts you from the points the other person is trying to make. When they finish talking, ask them some open-ended questions to clarify their points and learn more about what they’re saying. For example, you could ask, “How did that make you feel?” 8. Say yes to more invitations. Force yourself into new social situations you can enjoy with others. Set a time-frame, such as 1 week or 1 month, where you agree to do most of the things you’re asked to do. If someone asks if you want to meet up or come to a party, accept the invitation even if it’s not something you’d regularly get involved with. Make the best of the situation by socializing with others and opening yourself up to the new experience. You might just make new friends and discover a new hobby you really love. Avoid saying yes to things that are illegal or could put you in danger. 9. Try out new experiences. Expose yourself to things you normally wouldn’t do to practice being outgoing. It’s really easy to do things that make you feel comfortable, but you might be missing out on something you really love. Think about the things you want to achieve and keep your eyes open for new opportunities that are available to you. Make it a point to step out of your comfort zone frequently so you can meet new people and discover new passions. Look for places or experiences where people have similar interests as you. For example, try finding a book club if you love reading or attending a yoga class if you’re into fitness. 10. Set specific extroverted goals. Come up with some actionable steps you can take so you have a plan. If you only say “I’m going to be more outgoing,” you might get confused about what to do and feel overwhelmed. Instead, write down a list of specific actions you can take in your life that put you out of your comfort zone. Aim to do at least 1 extroverted thing every day. Some actions you could take include: Talking to 1 new person every day Engaging in conversation when someone talks to you Going out to lunch with a new person once a week Tips Watch how other extroverted people act so you can model your behavior off of them.[16] X Research source There’s nothing wrong with being introverted. Don’t feel the need to push yourself more than you’re comfortable with so you don’t get stressed out.[17] X Research source Warnings Give yourself some downtime between seeing other people so you have a chance to recharge and don’t develop social fatigue.[18] X Research source
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Avoid daydreaming or trying to think of the next thing you want to say since it distracts you from the points the other person is trying to make.\\nWhen they finish talking, ask them some open-ended questions to clarify their points and learn more about what they’re saying. For example, you could ask, “How did that make you feel?”\\n8. Say yes to more invitations.\\nForce yourself into new social situations you can enjoy with others.\\nSet a time-frame, such as 1 week or 1 month, where you agree to do most of the things you’re asked to do. If someone asks if you want to meet up or come to a party, accept the invitation even if it’s not something you’d regularly get involved with. Make the best of the situation by socializing with others and opening yourself up to the new experience. You might just make new friends and discover a new hobby you really love.\\nAvoid saying yes to things that are illegal or could put you in danger.\\n9. 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How to Be an Image Consultant
1. Training as an Image Consultant 1-1. Attend a workshop or course. While most colleges and universities don't offer a degree program to become an image consultant, there are often weekend workshops and short-term courses that last anywhere from four to 12 weeks to help prepare you for the career. They usually teach you what the job entails, as well as help you to develop the skills necessary to succeed in the field, such as how to conduct image consultations. Some workshops and courses offer a certificate upon completion, which can be a nice addition to your resume. If you can't find a workshop or course in your area, many online schools offer courses in the field, which can be a convenient alternative. 1-2. Take related classes. If you're planning to attend or are currently studying at a college, chances are good that your school doesn't offer a degree program in image consultancy. However, that doesn't mean that there aren't available courses that can help prepare you for your career. Majoring in Communications, Marketing, or other related fields can teach you a variety of skills that will help you as an image consultant. Taking art classes can also help you as image consultant because it can help you better understand color theory, which will come in handy when you're helping clients choose the most flattering shades for their hair, makeup, and clothing. Sewing classes can help you understand garment construction and how different fabrics work together. Psychology courses can help you develop skills for a career as an image consultant because you'll learn how to interpret clients' behavior and emotions so you can help them feel better about themselves. Fashion merchandising classes are a good idea if you're thinking about a career as an image consultant because it can help you develop a better understanding of fashion and style. 1-3. Gain experience in related jobs. You probably won't be able to land a job as an image consultant right away, but there are opportunities in related fields that can help give you valuable experience. You can develop some of the skills necessary to be a successful image consultant by working as a personal shopper or stylist at a department store, a beauty consultant at a makeup counter, or a hair stylist. Even working as a sales associate in clothing store can help prepare you. Many people who become image consultants start on a part-time basis, so they have a reliable income while they're working to build a client base. 2. Planning your Image Consultant Business 2-1. Decide on a specialty. It's common for image consultants to choose a particular type of service to provide. You might decide to specialize in fashion and style consulting, and help clients build a flattering wardrobe, as well as provide makeup and hair tips. You may choose to focus on etiquette and communication skills to help clients project a more confident, polished image. However, you may prefer to give advice on all facets of a person's image, providing style, etiquette, and communications assistance to help individuals become the complete package. You can also choose to specialize in certain types of clients, such as job seekers, executives, beauty pageant contestants, singles, or cancer survivors. Some image consultants choose to work exclusively with corporate clients instead of individuals, so they provide advice regarding employee uniforms, communications and body language for sales teams, and multicultural etiquette. 2-2. Develop strategic partnerships. While an image consultant needs to have knowledge of fashion, makeup, hair, and other image related topics, you may not have the necessary skills to help your clients actually make changes. For example, you might be able to help a client choose a new hair color and style, but you may not have the training to actually do the cut and color work. That's why it's important to develop partnerships with makeup artists, hair stylists, and personal trainers, who you can refer your clients to. In turn, these partners can recommend you to individuals who are interested in a complete makeover. You may also want to develop partnerships with dietitians, cosmetic surgeons, dentists, and vocal coaches. It's important to find partners whose skills you really trust, so it's best to work with individuals who you have personal experience with. For example, if you have a hair stylist who's always given you great cuts, ask her or him if s/he would like to partner with you. 2-3. Offer free makeovers. You need experience working with individuals to convince clients that you're qualified to help revamp their image. Start by offering friends and family free makeovers. For example, if you have a friend who's going to a school reunion, take her shopping for new clothes and provide tips for her makeup and hair. Make sure to take before and after photos of all of your makeovers too. If you don't have enough friends and family members who are interested in makeovers, consider offering your services to local charities, such as a homeless shelter where individuals might need tips preparing for job interviews. 3. Getting Clients 3-1. Create a portfolio. Prospective clients aren't just going to take your word for it when you tell them that you can successfully help them improve their image; they're going to want to see visual proof. That's why a portfolio of your successful makeovers is a must when you're trying to get clients. Even if you've only given free makeovers, before and after photos show potential clients what kind of results they can expect. Make sure that your portfolio has high quality photos. If possible, take them with a digital camera instead of the one on your phone. Pay attention to the lighting in your photos. You want prospective clients to be able to see all of the details in your makeovers. It's a good idea to have both a physical portfolio that you can bring to meetings with clients, and a digital version that you can send to potential clients who may not be willing to commit to a meeting. 3-2. Become certified. While it's not a necessity, being certified as an image consultant can give you credibility that makes prospective clients feel more comfortable. The Association of Image Consultants International (AICI) offers certification that informs clients that you've achieved a certain level of knowledge in the field and are committed to staying on top of new trends and developments. Becoming certified means that you can include the "AICI CIC" designation after your name on your resume, website, business cards, and other promotional materials. To become AICI certified, you're required to submit a portfolio which includes client evaluations and proof that you've performed 30 hours of work in the image field, along with other documentation. You also must sit for the AICI CIC Exam, which tests your knowledge of topics in the image field. 3-3. Start a website and social media accounts. When it comes to starting any kind of business, an online presence is a must because most prospective clients will start their search online. Create a website that contains contact information, your portfolio, bio, and client testimonials if possible. You should also establish Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media accounts to help promote your image consultancy business. It's a good idea to start a blog that focuses on image consultancy issues and tips. It can help you seem like an authority in the field. 3-4. Make up business cards. While a lot of people search for businesses online, some connections are still made by word of mouth. That's why it's a good idea to have business cards that you can pass out to potential clients. You might meet them at your other job, so it helps to have a card with all your contact info to pass on. You should also give some cards to your strategic partners, so they can give them to potential clients. Include your website and social media account information on your cards, so potential clients can check you out online. Tips Read magazines, newspapers, and watch the runways to keep on top of current trends.[14] X Expert Source Shelley GoldenPersonal Branding Image Consultant & Personal Stylist Expert Interview. 10 July 2020. It can take time to establish a client base for an image consultancy business. Patience is key -- that's why it's usually best not to start on a full-time basis. It's important to have the right personality to be an image consultant. You should be outgoing, enjoy helping others, communicate well, and have an interest in fashion and style.
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However, that doesn't mean that there aren't available courses that can help prepare you for your career. Majoring in Communications, Marketing, or other related fields can teach you a variety of skills that will help you as an image consultant.\\nTaking art classes can also help you as image consultant because it can help you better understand color theory, which will come in handy when you're helping clients choose the most flattering shades for their hair, makeup, and clothing.\\nSewing classes can help you understand garment construction and how different fabrics work together.\\nPsychology courses can help you develop skills for a career as an image consultant because you'll learn how to interpret clients' behavior and emotions so you can help them feel better about themselves.\\nFashion merchandising classes are a good idea if you're thinking about a career as an image consultant because it can help you develop a better understanding of fashion and style.\\n1-3. Gain experience in related jobs.\\nYou probably won't be able to land a job as an image consultant right away, but there are opportunities in related fields that can help give you valuable experience. You can develop some of the skills necessary to be a successful image consultant by working as a personal shopper or stylist at a department store, a beauty consultant at a makeup counter, or a hair stylist. Even working as a sales associate in clothing store can help prepare you.\\nMany people who become image consultants start on a part-time basis, so they have a reliable income while they're working to build a client base.\\n2. Planning your Image Consultant Business\\n2-1. Decide on a specialty.\\nIt's common for image consultants to choose a particular type of service to provide. You might decide to specialize in fashion and style consulting, and help clients build a flattering wardrobe, as well as provide makeup and hair tips. You may choose to focus on etiquette and communication skills to help clients project a more confident, polished image. However, you may prefer to give advice on all facets of a person's image, providing style, etiquette, and communications assistance to help individuals become the complete package.\\nYou can also choose to specialize in certain types of clients, such as job seekers, executives, beauty pageant contestants, singles, or cancer survivors.\\nSome image consultants choose to work exclusively with corporate clients instead of individuals, so they provide advice regarding employee uniforms, communications and body language for sales teams, and multicultural etiquette.\\n2-2. Develop strategic partnerships.\\nWhile an image consultant needs to have knowledge of fashion, makeup, hair, and other image related topics, you may not have the necessary skills to help your clients actually make changes. For example, you might be able to help a client choose a new hair color and style, but you may not have the training to actually do the cut and color work. That's why it's important to develop partnerships with makeup artists, hair stylists, and personal trainers, who you can refer your clients to. In turn, these partners can recommend you to individuals who are interested in a complete makeover.\\nYou may also want to develop partnerships with dietitians, cosmetic surgeons, dentists, and vocal coaches.\\nIt's important to find partners whose skills you really trust, so it's best to work with individuals who you have personal experience with. For example, if you have a hair stylist who's always given you great cuts, ask her or him if s/he would like to partner with you.\\n2-3. Offer free makeovers.\\nYou need experience working with individuals to convince clients that you're qualified to help revamp their image. Start by offering friends and family free makeovers. For example, if you have a friend who's going to a school reunion, take her shopping for new clothes and provide tips for her makeup and hair. Make sure to take before and after photos of all of your makeovers too.\\nIf you don't have enough friends and family members who are interested in makeovers, consider offering your services to local charities, such as a homeless shelter where individuals might need tips preparing for job interviews.\\n3. Getting Clients\\n3-1. Create a portfolio.\\nProspective clients aren't just going to take your word for it when you tell them that you can successfully help them improve their image; they're going to want to see visual proof. That's why a portfolio of your successful makeovers is a must when you're trying to get clients. Even if you've only given free makeovers, before and after photos show potential clients what kind of results they can expect.\\nMake sure that your portfolio has high quality photos. If possible, take them with a digital camera instead of the one on your phone.\\nPay attention to the lighting in your photos. You want prospective clients to be able to see all of the details in your makeovers.\\nIt's a good idea to have both a physical portfolio that you can bring to meetings with clients, and a digital version that you can send to potential clients who may not be willing to commit to a meeting.\\n3-2. Become certified.\\nWhile it's not a necessity, being certified as an image consultant can give you credibility that makes prospective clients feel more comfortable. The Association of Image Consultants International (AICI) offers certification that informs clients that you've achieved a certain level of knowledge in the field and are committed to staying on top of new trends and developments. Becoming certified means that you can include the \\\"AICI CIC\\\" designation after your name on your resume, website, business cards, and other promotional materials.\\nTo become AICI certified, you're required to submit a portfolio which includes client evaluations and proof that you've performed 30 hours of work in the image field, along with other documentation.\\nYou also must sit for the AICI CIC Exam, which tests your knowledge of topics in the image field.\\n3-3. Start a website and social media accounts.\\nWhen it comes to starting any kind of business, an online presence is a must because most prospective clients will start their search online. Create a website that contains contact information, your portfolio, bio, and client testimonials if possible. You should also establish Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media accounts to help promote your image consultancy business.\\nIt's a good idea to start a blog that focuses on image consultancy issues and tips. It can help you seem like an authority in the field.\\n3-4. Make up business cards.\\nWhile a lot of people search for businesses online, some connections are still made by word of mouth. That's why it's a good idea to have business cards that you can pass out to potential clients. You might meet them at your other job, so it helps to have a card with all your contact info to pass on. You should also give some cards to your strategic partners, so they can give them to potential clients.\\nInclude your website and social media account information on your cards, so potential clients can check you out online.\\nTips\\nRead magazines, newspapers, and watch the runways to keep on top of current trends.[14]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nShelley GoldenPersonal Branding Image Consultant & Personal Stylist\\nExpert Interview. 10 July 2020.\\nIt can take time to establish a client base for an image consultancy business. Patience is key -- that's why it's usually best not to start on a full-time basis.\\nIt's important to have the right personality to be an image consultant. You should be outgoing, enjoy helping others, communicate well, and have an interest in fashion and style.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"An image consultant helps individuals present the best possible image to the world by advising them on their wardrobe, hair, makeup, body language, etiquette, and communication skills. It is a job ideally suited for someone who is a people person and has an eye for fashion and style. Getting your start in the field can seem difficult, though, because there really isn't an established career path for the position. However, there is certain experience and training that can set you up for success in the industry if you're willing to put in the work.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Training as an Image Consultant\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Attend a workshop or course.\", \"描述\": \"While most colleges and universities don't offer a degree program to become an image consultant, there are often weekend workshops and short-term courses that last anywhere from four to 12 weeks to help prepare you for the career. They usually teach you what the job entails, as well as help you to develop the skills necessary to succeed in the field, such as how to conduct image consultations.\\nSome workshops and courses offer a certificate upon completion, which can be a nice addition to your resume.\\nIf you can't find a workshop or course in your area, many online schools offer courses in the field, which can be a convenient alternative.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take related classes.\", \"描述\": \"If you're planning to attend or are currently studying at a college, chances are good that your school doesn't offer a degree program in image consultancy. However, that doesn't mean that there aren't available courses that can help prepare you for your career. Majoring in Communications, Marketing, or other related fields can teach you a variety of skills that will help you as an image consultant.\\nTaking art classes can also help you as image consultant because it can help you better understand color theory, which will come in handy when you're helping clients choose the most flattering shades for their hair, makeup, and clothing.\\nSewing classes can help you understand garment construction and how different fabrics work together.\\nPsychology courses can help you develop skills for a career as an image consultant because you'll learn how to interpret clients' behavior and emotions so you can help them feel better about themselves.\\nFashion merchandising classes are a good idea if you're thinking about a career as an image consultant because it can help you develop a better understanding of fashion and style.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Gain experience in related jobs.\", \"描述\": \"You probably won't be able to land a job as an image consultant right away, but there are opportunities in related fields that can help give you valuable experience. You can develop some of the skills necessary to be a successful image consultant by working as a personal shopper or stylist at a department store, a beauty consultant at a makeup counter, or a hair stylist. Even working as a sales associate in clothing store can help prepare you.\\nMany people who become image consultants start on a part-time basis, so they have a reliable income while they're working to build a client base.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Planning your Image Consultant Business\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide on a specialty.\", \"描述\": \"It's common for image consultants to choose a particular type of service to provide. You might decide to specialize in fashion and style consulting, and help clients build a flattering wardrobe, as well as provide makeup and hair tips. You may choose to focus on etiquette and communication skills to help clients project a more confident, polished image. However, you may prefer to give advice on all facets of a person's image, providing style, etiquette, and communications assistance to help individuals become the complete package.\\nYou can also choose to specialize in certain types of clients, such as job seekers, executives, beauty pageant contestants, singles, or cancer survivors.\\nSome image consultants choose to work exclusively with corporate clients instead of individuals, so they provide advice regarding employee uniforms, communications and body language for sales teams, and multicultural etiquette.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop strategic partnerships.\", \"描述\": \"While an image consultant needs to have knowledge of fashion, makeup, hair, and other image related topics, you may not have the necessary skills to help your clients actually make changes. For example, you might be able to help a client choose a new hair color and style, but you may not have the training to actually do the cut and color work. That's why it's important to develop partnerships with makeup artists, hair stylists, and personal trainers, who you can refer your clients to. In turn, these partners can recommend you to individuals who are interested in a complete makeover.\\nYou may also want to develop partnerships with dietitians, cosmetic surgeons, dentists, and vocal coaches.\\nIt's important to find partners whose skills you really trust, so it's best to work with individuals who you have personal experience with. For example, if you have a hair stylist who's always given you great cuts, ask her or him if s/he would like to partner with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Offer free makeovers.\", \"描述\": \"You need experience working with individuals to convince clients that you're qualified to help revamp their image. Start by offering friends and family free makeovers. For example, if you have a friend who's going to a school reunion, take her shopping for new clothes and provide tips for her makeup and hair. 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Becoming certified means that you can include the \\\"AICI CIC\\\" designation after your name on your resume, website, business cards, and other promotional materials.\\nTo become AICI certified, you're required to submit a portfolio which includes client evaluations and proof that you've performed 30 hours of work in the image field, along with other documentation.\\nYou also must sit for the AICI CIC Exam, which tests your knowledge of topics in the image field.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start a website and social media accounts.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to starting any kind of business, an online presence is a must because most prospective clients will start their search online. Create a website that contains contact information, your portfolio, bio, and client testimonials if possible. 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How to Be an Independent Woman
1. Becoming Emotionally Independent 1-1. Get to know yourself. Being independent means being in charge of your own life and making your own decisions. In order to do that successfully, you need to understand who you really are. Knowing and loving yourself is the first step towards being capable of independence. Pay attention to your moods. Your emotions are important factors in how you make decisions, so monitor them. Be aware of what makes you happy and what is unsatisfying. Know how your environment affects you. Notice how you react in different settings or situations. Practices like meditation, breathing exercises, and gratitude journaling can help you learn more about yourself while becoming a more positive person. 1-2. Make your own choices. Making important decisions on your own is a key component of being an independent woman. In order to feel confident doing this, use careful consideration when making big choices. Remember, the best way to make a big decision is to balance what your heart wants with what your mind thinks is best. Make a list of the risks and rewards involved. When examining the list of all potential rewards against the risks, decide if the odds are in your favor or against you. Don't be afraid to ask for advice. You're still the one making the decision, even if you listen to input from someone you trust. Consider how you would feel if your decision were broadcast on the nightly news. Is this a decision you would be proud of? Does the decision compromise your values, character, or integrity? You may have to make an unpopular decision, but do what you feel is right an in line with these things. Understand what you can and can't control. Once you accept this, you can help focus on the things you can change in any situation. Focusing on things you can't control can make you feel anxious and overwhelmed. 1-3. Learn to self-soothe. Being an independent woman means being able to care for yourself emotionally. Learn to acknowledge your emotions. Be kind to yourself during times of stress or unhappiness. You deserve your own patience. This will be different for everyone, so find something small that you can do to calm yourself if you need to. If you're at work, try stepping back and taking a minute for yourself. Go to the restroom and splash some cool water on your face. Or log out of your e-mail for a minute and text a friend. Pets are great for helping you soothe yourself. If you have a cat, pet him. This will help you deal with your stress. 1-4. Be comfortable by yourself. Learning to enjoy your own company is a big part of being independent. You don't always have to depend on others in order to enjoy an activity. To get used to your own company, practice spending time by yourself – on purpose. Go to a movie by yourself. You won't have to worry about anyone talking during the previews or hogging the popcorn. Dine alone. Going to a restaurant by yourself can be intimidating. But you might find that it is very enjoyable. You get to choose the time and place, without having to worry about another person's appetite. If you fear you might be bored, take a book or magazine with you. 1-5. Create positive relationships. Being in a codependent relationship can greatly detract from your ability to be independent. Evaluate all of your relationships (personal, romantic, professional) and make sure that there is a give and take in each relationship. Make sure your needs are being met in each of your relationships. Try being more assertive in your relationships. Speak up if you feel that you are not being valued. Try to make more time for yourself and do some of the things you love, even when your partner has no interest in those things. This will allow you to balance being independent in your relationship with the time spent together. 2. Taking Charge of Your Finances 2-1. Track your spending Financial independence is an important part of being an independent woman. The first step to successfully manage your money is to figure out how much you are spending each month. Keep track of your spending for at least two months to get a clear idea of your output. Keep track of minor expenses as well as major ones. Chart how much you spend on rent, credit card payments, food, and transportation. You'll also want to note how much you spend on entertainment and socializing. Try using an app or an online banking system to make tracking your finances easy and accurate. 2-2. Find motivation. Figure out why it is so important to you to become independent. Do you want to own your own home? Be secure as you head into retirement? Write down whatever your financial priorities are. Visualizing your motivation will help you find the enthusiasm to start a steady financial regimen. If you're not sure what motivates you, commit to spending 1 week where you notice everything that makes you feel excited, engaged, or lit up. Write each of those things down, no matter how small. Then, you can go back and look at that list to see the things that really make you feel happy and motivated. 2-3. Make a budget. Allocate yourself a certain amount of money to spend in each area of your life. For example, factor it in if you know you like to see a movie once a week. Figure out a comfortable amount of money to both spend and save each week or month. Build some flexibility into your budget. This way you won't find yourself completely derailed if gas prices go up or your cat needs to make a trip to the vet. 2-4. Learn about investing. In order to be truly financially independent, you need to do some research and planning. Learn about investment and savings opportunities. If you feel it would help, seek the help of a professional financial planner or advisor. 2-5. Increase your income. Women typically make less money than men for doing the same job. Evaluate your professional value and determine whether it is an appropriate time to ask for a raise. There is a good chance you deserve one. Make a plan. Schedule a meeting with your boss to discuss your career goals and compensation. Be very clear about what you are asking for. Be open to negotiations. Remain calm and confident during the meeting. 3. Gaining Confidence in Yourself 3-1. Be yourself. A key component in being an independent woman is being confident with who you are. Part of that entails being true to yourself. Don't try to be a mirror image of other women. Figure out your own strengths and interests and focus on those. Don't fall victim to bad fashion trends. Looking your best will help you feel your best. Dress in a style that is flattering and makes you feel comfortable and confident. Avoid the pressure to conform to your gender. Many women feel certain pressures to look and act in certain ways simply because they are female, but you don't have to if you don't do or be anything considered "feminine" if you don't wan to. You do not have to wear make-up or dress a certain way. Likewise, you do not have to like stereotypical female activities such as shopping or romantic movies. 3-2. Face your fears. Maybe there is a specific fear that keeps you from being independent. Perhaps you are nervous about living alone or have general anxiety issues. You are not alone, and there are steps you can take to overcome your fears. Try exposure therapy. Exposing yourself to your fears in small doses has proven very effective. For example, if you suffer anxiety when meeting new people, ask a friend to go with you to a new social event. Gradually work up the nerve to attend by yourself. Seek professional help. If your anxieties are keeping you from becoming independent or achieving another goal, try seeing a mental health professional. Counseling can help reduce anxiety. 3-3. Accept help. Being independent means being in control of your choices, but it doesn't mean you can't rely on others. Women form strong bonds with friends and family members. Don't be afraid to ask for and accept help when you need it. Be specific when asking for help. Be honest about what you need, and allow someone give you assistance. 3-4. Think positively. A positive attitude will help you come across to others as a confident woman. It will also help you feel good about yourself, and give you the strength you need to be independent. Avoid negative thoughts. Instead, take time to compliment yourself each day. 3-5. Take responsibility for yourself. You are the only one who can truly change your life. Acknowledge that you are responsible for your own choices. Once you realize that you are in control, you will feel more confident. This will lead to increased independence. Tips Expand your social circle - different people will appeal to different parts of you. Ask for help when you need it - from a friend, family, or a therapist. Do new things - learn a sport, take up cooking.
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In order to feel confident doing this, use careful consideration when making big choices. Remember, the best way to make a big decision is to balance what your heart wants with what your mind thinks is best.\\nMake a list of the risks and rewards involved. When examining the list of all potential rewards against the risks, decide if the odds are in your favor or against you.\\nDon't be afraid to ask for advice. You're still the one making the decision, even if you listen to input from someone you trust.\\nConsider how you would feel if your decision were broadcast on the nightly news. Is this a decision you would be proud of?\\nDoes the decision compromise your values, character, or integrity? You may have to make an unpopular decision, but do what you feel is right an in line with these things.\\nUnderstand what you can and can't control. Once you accept this, you can help focus on the things you can change in any situation. Focusing on things you can't control can make you feel anxious and overwhelmed.\\n1-3. Learn to self-soothe.\\nBeing an independent woman means being able to care for yourself emotionally. Learn to acknowledge your emotions. Be kind to yourself during times of stress or unhappiness. You deserve your own patience. \\nThis will be different for everyone, so find something small that you can do to calm yourself if you need to. If you're at work, try stepping back and taking a minute for yourself. Go to the restroom and splash some cool water on your face. Or log out of your e-mail for a minute and text a friend.\\nPets are great for helping you soothe yourself. If you have a cat, pet him. This will help you deal with your stress.\\n1-4. Be comfortable by yourself.\\nLearning to enjoy your own company is a big part of being independent. You don't always have to depend on others in order to enjoy an activity. 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Or log out of your e-mail for a minute and text a friend.\\nPets are great for helping you soothe yourself. If you have a cat, pet him. This will help you deal with your stress.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be comfortable by yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Learning to enjoy your own company is a big part of being independent. You don't always have to depend on others in order to enjoy an activity. To get used to your own company, practice spending time by yourself – on purpose.\\nGo to a movie by yourself. You won't have to worry about anyone talking during the previews or hogging the popcorn.\\nDine alone. Going to a restaurant by yourself can be intimidating. But you might find that it is very enjoyable. You get to choose the time and place, without having to worry about another person's appetite. If you fear you might be bored, take a book or magazine with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create positive relationships.\", \"描述\": \"Being in a codependent relationship can greatly detract from your ability to be independent. Evaluate all of your relationships (personal, romantic, professional) and make sure that there is a give and take in each relationship. Make sure your needs are being met in each of your relationships. \\nTry being more assertive in your relationships. Speak up if you feel that you are not being valued.\\nTry to make more time for yourself and do some of the things you love, even when your partner has no interest in those things. This will allow you to balance being independent in your relationship with the time spent together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Taking Charge of Your Finances\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Track your spending\", \"描述\": \"Financial independence is an important part of being an independent woman. The first step to successfully manage your money is to figure out how much you are spending each month. Keep track of your spending for at least two months to get a clear idea of your output.\\nKeep track of minor expenses as well as major ones. Chart how much you spend on rent, credit card payments, food, and transportation. You'll also want to note how much you spend on entertainment and socializing.\\nTry using an app or an online banking system to make tracking your finances easy and accurate.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find motivation.\", \"描述\": \"Figure out why it is so important to you to become independent. Do you want to own your own home? Be secure as you head into retirement? Write down whatever your financial priorities are. Visualizing your motivation will help you find the enthusiasm to start a steady financial regimen.\\nIf you're not sure what motivates you, commit to spending 1 week where you notice everything that makes you feel excited, engaged, or lit up. Write each of those things down, no matter how small. Then, you can go back and look at that list to see the things that really make you feel happy and motivated.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make a budget.\", \"描述\": \"Allocate yourself a certain amount of money to spend in each area of your life. For example, factor it in if you know you like to see a movie once a week. Figure out a comfortable amount of money to both spend and save each week or month.\\nBuild some flexibility into your budget. This way you won't find yourself completely derailed if gas prices go up or your cat needs to make a trip to the vet.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn about investing.\", \"描述\": \"In order to be truly financially independent, you need to do some research and planning. Learn about investment and savings opportunities. If you feel it would help, seek the help of a professional financial planner or advisor.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Increase your income.\", \"描述\": \"Women typically make less money than men for doing the same job. Evaluate your professional value and determine whether it is an appropriate time to ask for a raise. There is a good chance you deserve one.\\nMake a plan. Schedule a meeting with your boss to discuss your career goals and compensation. Be very clear about what you are asking for.\\nBe open to negotiations.\\nRemain calm and confident during the meeting.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Gaining Confidence in Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"描述\": \"A key component in being an independent woman is being confident with who you are. Part of that entails being true to yourself. Don't try to be a mirror image of other women. Figure out your own strengths and interests and focus on those. \\nDon't fall victim to bad fashion trends. Looking your best will help you feel your best. Dress in a style that is flattering and makes you feel comfortable and confident.\\nAvoid the pressure to conform to your gender. Many women feel certain pressures to look and act in certain ways simply because they are female, but you don't have to if you don't do or be anything considered \\\"feminine\\\" if you don't wan to. You do not have to wear make-up or dress a certain way. Likewise, you do not have to like stereotypical female activities such as shopping or romantic movies.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Face your fears.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe there is a specific fear that keeps you from being independent. Perhaps you are nervous about living alone or have general anxiety issues. You are not alone, and there are steps you can take to overcome your fears.\\nTry exposure therapy. Exposing yourself to your fears in small doses has proven very effective. For example, if you suffer anxiety when meeting new people, ask a friend to go with you to a new social event. Gradually work up the nerve to attend by yourself.\\nSeek professional help. If your anxieties are keeping you from becoming independent or achieving another goal, try seeing a mental health professional. Counseling can help reduce anxiety.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Accept help.\", \"描述\": \"Being independent means being in control of your choices, but it doesn't mean you can't rely on others. Women form strong bonds with friends and family members. Don't be afraid to ask for and accept help when you need it.\\nBe specific when asking for help. Be honest about what you need, and allow someone give you assistance.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think positively.\", \"描述\": \"A positive attitude will help you come across to others as a confident woman. It will also help you feel good about yourself, and give you the strength you need to be independent. Avoid negative thoughts. Instead, take time to compliment yourself each day.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take responsibility for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"You are the only one who can truly change your life. Acknowledge that you are responsible for your own choices. Once you realize that you are in control, you will feel more confident. This will lead to increased independence.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Expand your social circle - different people will appeal to different parts of you.\\n\", \"Ask for help when you need it - from a friend, family, or a therapist.\\n\", \"Do new things - learn a sport, take up cooking.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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1. Developing a Healthy Perspective 1-1. Stop caring what others think. If you want to really move forward to become an individual, then you have to put aside your worries about what other people are thinking. You should want to be an individual just for yourself, not so the kids in your school think you’re awesome or that you stand out in some way. If you obsess over what other people are thinking, then you’ll never be able to really please yourself, because people are fickle and it’s impossible to please everyone. Of course, gossip hurts, and it’s hard to not be hurt by it. Still, if you hear gossip about yourself, just know that it’s coming from a person who is weak and insecure and that you know better than to stoop to that level. Try to surround yourself with people who are supportive of you rather than people who are going to judge you or drag you down. 1-2. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. As corny as it sounds, being an individual means being unabashedly yourself. It means not hiding your true feelings every time you go out in public, or acting like you’re perfect and refusing to acknowledge your flaws. It means being comfortable with presenting your flaws, quirks, and ideas to the world and feeling good about who you are. Of course, it can take time to get there, but you need to get in the habit of letting people see who you really are instead of acting like a person you think they’d rather talk to. Of course, it’s necessary to present slightly different sides of yourselves to different people. However, in general, you shouldn’t feel like you’re flipping a switch to act like a completely different version of yourself when you talk to different people. Override your fear and learn to trust the feeling that tells you who you're meant to be and where you're meant to go. 1-3. Don’t feel forced to be different. You may think that being an individual means wearing neon, playing a banjo, or just standing out in a room of 500 people, like “Where is Waldo?” However, it doesn’t actually mean that at all. You don’t need to be eccentric to be an individual; you just have to be happy being yourself, and asserting your own ideas and opinions. In fact, if you try too hard you may get the opposite effect, and may find yourself being less genuine than normal. If you like to wear low-key earth-toned clothes, for example, stick to the style that you like instead of thinking that you need to change your wardrobe to really be an individual. You don’t need to change your hair or makeup or to get a tattoo, either. Being an individual comes from the inside. Of course, everyone is different in some way, but not everyone is visibly different. If you are different for a cool reason that not everyone can see, like being able to speak 8 languages or being an awesome break dancer, then don’t be afraid to strut your stuff. 1-4. Build up your confidence. Though building your confidence up won’t happen overnight, you can take steps to working toward loving and accepting the person who you truly are. You can’t be an individual without having confidence in the person that you are, so you should work on finding things to be grateful for, focusing on your strengths, and working on asserting yourself and being positive in social interactions. The more you focus on building your confidence, the sooner you’ll become a true individual. One way to build up your confidence is to spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. It’s hard to be confident when your supposed “best friends” are always putting you down. Body language can go a long way in making you look and feel confident. Work on standing tall, looking people in the eye, and avoid folding your arms across your chest or staring at the ground. Just projecting confidence can make you feel much better about yourself. 1-5. Stick to your convictions. An important component of being an individual is sticking to your convictions and not letting other people make you change your opinions every time you get in a debate. Of course, it’s good to be open-minded and to be willing to learn from others, but you have to work on not being a pushover and showing people that you really mean what you say. Don’t let people pressure you into behavior you don’t respect, and work on sticking to your guns the next time your friends are trying to get you to change your mind. If you really don’t want to do something because you feel that it’s morally wrong, don’t give in to your friends or acquaintances simply because it’s more convenient. Learn to explain why you believe the behavior, such as underage drinking, is wrong, and then walk away from the situation. Don’t let someone else put you down and make your ideas feel small just because the person is louder, taller, or tougher than you. Work to have concrete examples and evidence to back up your ideas, and don’t be afraid to state them. If a caring friend is genuinely helping you see a new perspective of a situation, then be grateful for it and ask more questions. You should work on sticking to your convictions when you know there’s no changing your mind, but you don’t need to be stubborn. 1-6. Work on being more comfortable in your own skin. Another way to be an individual is to be happy and comfortable in your own skin. Work on developing a love for your body and mind, and make your presence known when you enter a room. If you hunch over, complain about yourself, or are uncomfortable talking to people, then you’ll project a lack of confidence and will come off as a person who isn’t happy filling his own shoes. Make a habit of loving inhabiting who you are, of being self-assured enough to state your opinions, and of learning to talk to new people without hesitation. People who are true individuals are comfortable in their own skins because they don’t care what other people think of them. If you look comfortable and happy with what you’re doing, then people will give you the respect you deserve. Get in touch with your inner child—what is it inside of you that really wants to come out? Once you discover that, find the courage to express that side of you. 1-7. Know that there is literally no one else like you in the world. This may sound silly, but if you want to change your perspective and work towards being an individual, then sometimes the best thing you can do is to stop and realize that there’s no other person in the world who has had the same upbringing, values, looks, and thoughts as you do and that you are truly unique and different. You may feel like there’s nothing that makes you stand out, but you have to remember that everyone is different in some way. Even if you have a twin brother, you are your own person and no one else can see the world exactly as you do. Be proud of that fact and own it. You may think that there’s something completely ordinary about you, such as having three siblings or speaking two languages, but to many people, these experiences can be quite extraordinary and you should be proud of them. Even if you may seem like everyone else from the outside, you can do the work to make other people realize that you have your own unique experiences and ideas to share. 2. Taking Action 2-1. Find a new hobby. One way to be an individual is to find something that you truly and deeply care about and to make an effort to really explore it. If you don’t know what you’re good at yet, then you should try to join more clubs at school, pick up a sport, or take a class in Japanese, creative writing, watercolor painting, tap dancing, or really anything at all that you’ve been wanting to try. Finding something that you love and sticking to it will help you boost your confidence while finding a new way to help you express yourself. Along with finding a new hobby, you can work to see if you can turn it into a passion. You may discover that you really want to be a writer, photographer, or dancer, and this will give you even more confidence and conviction in your abilities. 2-2. Explore your creative side. Not every person has to be creative to be an individual. However, exploring your creative faculties can open up new ideas and can make you feel more aware of new possibilities. Try your hand at writing a short story, a poem, a play, or even a novel, or work on writing a skit with your friends just for fun. Explore your artistic side and work on drawing, ceramics, oil painting, or charcoal sketching just to see what strikes your fancy. You don’t have to be particularly good at it, but you should be willing to try if you want to be an individual. Even if all you can draw are stick figures, exercising the creative part of your brain can help you see the world in a new, original way. This is a big part of being an individual. Being creative can also help you discover new ideas you didn’t know you had. You may never have thought about the world in a certain way until you tried your hand at writing short stories. 2-3. Accept challenges. Another way to be an individual is to step outside of your comfort zone and to accept the new challenges the world may bring. Volunteer in a new part of town; run for class president; apply for a job that you’re not sure you’re qualified for. Help your friend figure out a difficult project. When a challenge comes your way, don’t bat it away and stick to the things you know, but make an effort to try new things and to tackle new and difficult questions. True individuals are always growing and changing. They face challenges with fortitude and work to find the best way to succeed, no matter how difficult the circumstances are. Of course, if you’re overbooked, you don’t want to say yes to everything, either, or you’ll be too busy to grow as a person. But if you’re worried about trying something new because you think you might fail, then you should take up the challenge and see what you can do. 2-4. Spend more time with people you admire. Another way to be an individual is to surround yourself with independent thinkers whose ideas and ways of life you admire. You can learn a lot from people who are creative, interesting, and not afraid to be who they are. If you spend all of your time with followers or with people who don’t really have much to teach you about the world, then it’ll be harder for you to grow as an individual. This doesn’t mean you should ditch every person who you deem to be too boring for you, but it does mean that you should seek out people who challenge you and inspire you to be a better version of yourself. 2-5. Use your critical thinking skills. True individuals are critical thinkers. They evaluate every aspect of a situation before reaching a conclusion, and they use a large knowledge base to help them find the best approaches to tricky situations. They don’t accept everything they hear from their friends or on the radio and do their own research, making sure that they’re reaching the best conclusions instead of resorting to lazy or incomplete thinking. True individuals think outside the box and know that most situations are more complicated than they seem. They don’t accept everything they hear at face value, even if it’s coming from a person they respect. Individuals are always asking a lot of questions and aren’t afraid to admit when they don’t know an answer. They know that the best way to be informed is to question everything. Become more well-read. Read every book you can get your hands on, from the complete works of Virginia Woolf or Franz Kafka to contemporary non-fiction about historical events or modern science. The more you read, the more knowledge you gain, and the more information you have at your disposal. 2-6. Don’t do things to fit other people’s expectations. One of the reasons you may be struggling with becoming an individual is because you feel like you have to fit the expectations of your parents, friends, significant other, or society at large. If you truly want to be an individual, then you have to do what is best for yourself, not what your parents expect you to do. It can be hard to say no to people or to tell them that your goals are different from theirs, but this is the only way you can truly move forward. For example, if your parents want you to go to med school because you come from three generations of doctors but you’d rather study creative writing, be up front about it. You don’t want to fall into a life that doesn’t feel like your own. Of course, you shouldn’t go against all of the expectations of society just to be an individual, but because you really think you’re doing what’s best for you. For example, if you drop of out college, do it because you have a great reason for it, not because you think it would be rebellious. 3. Developing Your Individuality 3-1. Don’t try to fit a mold. If you want to be a true individual, then you can’t think of yourself as fitting a mold. You can’t just be preppy, a jock, a nerd, a hipster, or a regular frat guy, either. You have to be beyond categorization like that if you want to truly be a unique person. You can have elements of different molds of people, but you can’t be so easily able to be pinned down if you want to be a true individual. Instead of trying to be a certain type of person, work on developing qualities that you admire. You can hang out with a certain type of person, but you don’t have to worry about fitting in with that group or looking, talking, or dressing exactly like the people you’re friends with. Variety is the spice of life, and things will be pretty boring if you look like everyone else you hang out with. 3-2. Develop your authenticity. To be an individual, you have to be authentic. If people think you’re phony or putting on airs, they’ll be able to tell from a mile away. Instead of trying to be overly nice, wearing clothes that really aren’t you, or hanging out with people you don’t really like because you think it’ll make you more popular, you should work on being true to yourself, wearing what makes you feel comfortable, and not saying things just to please people if you really don’t believe a word you’re saying. Before you step out the door, take a look in the mirror. Do you recognize the person you’re looking at? If not, then you better give your look more consideration. Don’t give phony compliments just to suck up to people. Instead, tell them when you genuinely like something about them, even if you think it’s a bit offbeat. If you’re not being sincere, they’ll be able to tell. 3-3. Be more honest. To be an individual, you have to work on being an honest person who is comfortable with stating the truth, even when the circumstances are difficult. Avoid lying just to make yourself look better, to sugar coat the truth for your friends when they really need to hear it, or even to cheat in school or to get ahead in an unfair with. True individuals are genuine people who aren’t afraid of the truth and are comfortable enough with themselves to state it. Don’t lie about how much money you have, how much money you make, or about your material possessions in general. This won’t impress anyone and they’ll be able to tell that you’re trying too hard. Of course, telling a white lie, like not telling your friend her new haircut is too severe, is perfectly fine if you’re not hurting anyone. 3-4. Address the flaws you can address. If you want to be a true individual, then you have to be willing to improve yourself. You can’t be content with every aspect of yourself or you’ll never grow and improve. Though you should work on accepting the things you can’t change about yourself, you should make an effort to address the flaws you can address, so that you can be on your way to being a more honed version of yourself. Take it one step at a time. It doesn’t have to be anything major, at first. Maybe you’re always late to things. Make a goal to be on time to everything for a week, and then a month, and then make it a habit. Know that working on larger issues, such as trust issues, can take much longer than a few weeks. Still, making a plan to get there can help you grow faster. 3-5. Be more assertive. To be a true individual, you have to be able to assert yourself and be comfortable stating your ideas. Speak clearly, be articulate, and look people in the eye when you want to get your point across. Don’t let other people put you down or interrupt you, and stick to your beliefs while being open to other well-meaning suggestions. Don’t let people walk all over you and don’t get stuck doing something because you’re too nice to say no. Individuals know what they want and think and they aren’t afraid to make it known. If you feel really strongly about something, don’t let another person sway you just because you don’t want to hurt his feelings. Make your feelings clear, and have hard facts about why you feel a certain way. Work on saying no to people when you genuinely can’t or don’t want to do something. Be comfortable explaining that you’re too busy to take on more work and don’t let people make you feel bad about not doing more. Speak with conviction. Instead of starting sentences with, “I think that maybe…” or “It could be possibly that…” make firm statements like, “I will not work on another project with Karen.” 3-6. Learn to laugh at yourself. True individuals know not to take themselves too seriously and are comfortable poking fun at themselves at the right time. They are aware of their flaws and are okay with not being perfect, and they don’t make people feel like they have to walk on eggshells around them, either. If you want to be an individual, then you should be as comfortable laughing at yourself as you are asserting your beliefs. It’s okay not to be serious all the time; it doesn’t make you any less of an individual. True individuals are always growing and always learning. You can’t be a true individual if you’re so serious about yourself that you can’t even laugh at your own flaws or be self-aware enough to want to change. 3-7. Listen to your gut. Listening to your intuition is crucial if you want to be an individual. Sometimes, something like a job offer will look great on paper, and everyone will tell you that you should take it, but you may get a nagging feeling that you know it’s not really what you want to do with your life. If you really want to be an individual, then you have to work on knowing when you get a bad or good feeling about something and following those instincts instead of logic some of the time. Individuals are original thinkers. Though they think critically, read a lot, and use facts to back up their ideas, they are also able to trust themselves and sense when something isn’t quite right.
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Don’t feel forced to be different.\\nYou may think that being an individual means wearing neon, playing a banjo, or just standing out in a room of 500 people, like “Where is Waldo?” However, it doesn’t actually mean that at all. You don’t need to be eccentric to be an individual; you just have to be happy being yourself, and asserting your own ideas and opinions. In fact, if you try too hard you may get the opposite effect, and may find yourself being less genuine than normal.\\nIf you like to wear low-key earth-toned clothes, for example, stick to the style that you like instead of thinking that you need to change your wardrobe to really be an individual.\\nYou don’t need to change your hair or makeup or to get a tattoo, either. Being an individual comes from the inside.\\nOf course, everyone is different in some way, but not everyone is visibly different. If you are different for a cool reason that not everyone can see, like being able to speak 8 languages or being an awesome break dancer, then don’t be afraid to strut your stuff.\\n1-4. Build up your confidence.\\nThough building your confidence up won’t happen overnight, you can take steps to working toward loving and accepting the person who you truly are. You can’t be an individual without having confidence in the person that you are, so you should work on finding things to be grateful for, focusing on your strengths, and working on asserting yourself and being positive in social interactions. The more you focus on building your confidence, the sooner you’ll become a true individual.\\nOne way to build up your confidence is to spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. It’s hard to be confident when your supposed “best friends” are always putting you down.\\nBody language can go a long way in making you look and feel confident. 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Learn to explain why you believe the behavior, such as underage drinking, is wrong, and then walk away from the situation.\\nDon’t let someone else put you down and make your ideas feel small just because the person is louder, taller, or tougher than you. Work to have concrete examples and evidence to back up your ideas, and don’t be afraid to state them.\\nIf a caring friend is genuinely helping you see a new perspective of a situation, then be grateful for it and ask more questions. You should work on sticking to your convictions when you know there’s no changing your mind, but you don’t need to be stubborn.\\n1-6. Work on being more comfortable in your own skin.\\nAnother way to be an individual is to be happy and comfortable in your own skin. Work on developing a love for your body and mind, and make your presence known when you enter a room. If you hunch over, complain about yourself, or are uncomfortable talking to people, then you’ll project a lack of confidence and will come off as a person who isn’t happy filling his own shoes. Make a habit of loving inhabiting who you are, of being self-assured enough to state your opinions, and of learning to talk to new people without hesitation.\\nPeople who are true individuals are comfortable in their own skins because they don’t care what other people think of them. If you look comfortable and happy with what you’re doing, then people will give you the respect you deserve.\\nGet in touch with your inner child—what is it inside of you that really wants to come out? Once you discover that, find the courage to express that side of you.\\n1-7. Know that there is literally no one else like you in the world.\\nThis may sound silly, but if you want to change your perspective and work towards being an individual, then sometimes the best thing you can do is to stop and realize that there’s no other person in the world who has had the same upbringing, values, looks, and thoughts as you do and that you are truly unique and different. You may feel like there’s nothing that makes you stand out, but you have to remember that everyone is different in some way. Even if you have a twin brother, you are your own person and no one else can see the world exactly as you do. Be proud of that fact and own it.\\nYou may think that there’s something completely ordinary about you, such as having three siblings or speaking two languages, but to many people, these experiences can be quite extraordinary and you should be proud of them.\\nEven if you may seem like everyone else from the outside, you can do the work to make other people realize that you have your own unique experiences and ideas to share.\\n2. Taking Action\\n2-1. Find a new hobby.\\nOne way to be an individual is to find something that you truly and deeply care about and to make an effort to really explore it. If you don’t know what you’re good at yet, then you should try to join more clubs at school, pick up a sport, or take a class in Japanese, creative writing, watercolor painting, tap dancing, or really anything at all that you’ve been wanting to try. Finding something that you love and sticking to it will help you boost your confidence while finding a new way to help you express yourself.\\nAlong with finding a new hobby, you can work to see if you can turn it into a passion. You may discover that you really want to be a writer, photographer, or dancer, and this will give you even more confidence and conviction in your abilities.\\n2-2. Explore your creative side.\\nNot every person has to be creative to be an individual. However, exploring your creative faculties can open up new ideas and can make you feel more aware of new possibilities. Try your hand at writing a short story, a poem, a play, or even a novel, or work on writing a skit with your friends just for fun. Explore your artistic side and work on drawing, ceramics, oil painting, or charcoal sketching just to see what strikes your fancy. You don’t have to be particularly good at it, but you should be willing to try if you want to be an individual.\\nEven if all you can draw are stick figures, exercising the creative part of your brain can help you see the world in a new, original way. This is a big part of being an individual.\\nBeing creative can also help you discover new ideas you didn’t know you had. You may never have thought about the world in a certain way until you tried your hand at writing short stories.\\n2-3. Accept challenges.\\nAnother way to be an individual is to step outside of your comfort zone and to accept the new challenges the world may bring. Volunteer in a new part of town; run for class president; apply for a job that you’re not sure you’re qualified for. Help your friend figure out a difficult project. When a challenge comes your way, don’t bat it away and stick to the things you know, but make an effort to try new things and to tackle new and difficult questions.\\nTrue individuals are always growing and changing. They face challenges with fortitude and work to find the best way to succeed, no matter how difficult the circumstances are.\\nOf course, if you’re overbooked, you don’t want to say yes to everything, either, or you’ll be too busy to grow as a person. But if you’re worried about trying something new because you think you might fail, then you should take up the challenge and see what you can do.\\n2-4. Spend more time with people you admire.\\nAnother way to be an individual is to surround yourself with independent thinkers whose ideas and ways of life you admire. You can learn a lot from people who are creative, interesting, and not afraid to be who they are. If you spend all of your time with followers or with people who don’t really have much to teach you about the world, then it’ll be harder for you to grow as an individual.\\nThis doesn’t mean you should ditch every person who you deem to be too boring for you, but it does mean that you should seek out people who challenge you and inspire you to be a better version of yourself.\\n2-5. Use your critical thinking skills.\\nTrue individuals are critical thinkers. They evaluate every aspect of a situation before reaching a conclusion, and they use a large knowledge base to help them find the best approaches to tricky situations. They don’t accept everything they hear from their friends or on the radio and do their own research, making sure that they’re reaching the best conclusions instead of resorting to lazy or incomplete thinking.\\nTrue individuals think outside the box and know that most situations are more complicated than they seem. They don’t accept everything they hear at face value, even if it’s coming from a person they respect.\\nIndividuals are always asking a lot of questions and aren’t afraid to admit when they don’t know an answer. They know that the best way to be informed is to question everything.\\nBecome more well-read. Read every book you can get your hands on, from the complete works of Virginia Woolf or Franz Kafka to contemporary non-fiction about historical events or modern science. The more you read, the more knowledge you gain, and the more information you have at your disposal.\\n2-6. Don’t do things to fit other people’s expectations.\\nOne of the reasons you may be struggling with becoming an individual is because you feel like you have to fit the expectations of your parents, friends, significant other, or society at large. If you truly want to be an individual, then you have to do what is best for yourself, not what your parents expect you to do. It can be hard to say no to people or to tell them that your goals are different from theirs, but this is the only way you can truly move forward.\\nFor example, if your parents want you to go to med school because you come from three generations of doctors but you’d rather study creative writing, be up front about it. You don’t want to fall into a life that doesn’t feel like your own.\\nOf course, you shouldn’t go against all of the expectations of society just to be an individual, but because you really think you’re doing what’s best for you. For example, if you drop of out college, do it because you have a great reason for it, not because you think it would be rebellious.\\n3. Developing Your Individuality\\n3-1. Don’t try to fit a mold.\\nIf you want to be a true individual, then you can’t think of yourself as fitting a mold. You can’t just be preppy, a jock, a nerd, a hipster, or a regular frat guy, either. You have to be beyond categorization like that if you want to truly be a unique person. You can have elements of different molds of people, but you can’t be so easily able to be pinned down if you want to be a true individual. Instead of trying to be a certain type of person, work on developing qualities that you admire.\\nYou can hang out with a certain type of person, but you don’t have to worry about fitting in with that group or looking, talking, or dressing exactly like the people you’re friends with. Variety is the spice of life, and things will be pretty boring if you look like everyone else you hang out with.\\n3-2. Develop your authenticity.\\nTo be an individual, you have to be authentic. If people think you’re phony or putting on airs, they’ll be able to tell from a mile away. Instead of trying to be overly nice, wearing clothes that really aren’t you, or hanging out with people you don’t really like because you think it’ll make you more popular, you should work on being true to yourself, wearing what makes you feel comfortable, and not saying things just to please people if you really don’t believe a word you’re saying.\\nBefore you step out the door, take a look in the mirror. Do you recognize the person you’re looking at? If not, then you better give your look more consideration.\\nDon’t give phony compliments just to suck up to people. Instead, tell them when you genuinely like something about them, even if you think it’s a bit offbeat. If you’re not being sincere, they’ll be able to tell.\\n3-3. Be more honest.\\nTo be an individual, you have to work on being an honest person who is comfortable with stating the truth, even when the circumstances are difficult. Avoid lying just to make yourself look better, to sugar coat the truth for your friends when they really need to hear it, or even to cheat in school or to get ahead in an unfair with. True individuals are genuine people who aren’t afraid of the truth and are comfortable enough with themselves to state it.\\nDon’t lie about how much money you have, how much money you make, or about your material possessions in general. This won’t impress anyone and they’ll be able to tell that you’re trying too hard.\\nOf course, telling a white lie, like not telling your friend her new haircut is too severe, is perfectly fine if you’re not hurting anyone.\\n3-4. Address the flaws you can address.\\nIf you want to be a true individual, then you have to be willing to improve yourself. You can’t be content with every aspect of yourself or you’ll never grow and improve. Though you should work on accepting the things you can’t change about yourself, you should make an effort to address the flaws you can address, so that you can be on your way to being a more honed version of yourself.\\nTake it one step at a time. It doesn’t have to be anything major, at first. Maybe you’re always late to things. Make a goal to be on time to everything for a week, and then a month, and then make it a habit.\\nKnow that working on larger issues, such as trust issues, can take much longer than a few weeks. Still, making a plan to get there can help you grow faster.\\n3-5. Be more assertive.\\nTo be a true individual, you have to be able to assert yourself and be comfortable stating your ideas. Speak clearly, be articulate, and look people in the eye when you want to get your point across. Don’t let other people put you down or interrupt you, and stick to your beliefs while being open to other well-meaning suggestions. Don’t let people walk all over you and don’t get stuck doing something because you’re too nice to say no. Individuals know what they want and think and they aren’t afraid to make it known.\\nIf you feel really strongly about something, don’t let another person sway you just because you don’t want to hurt his feelings. Make your feelings clear, and have hard facts about why you feel a certain way.\\nWork on saying no to people when you genuinely can’t or don’t want to do something. Be comfortable explaining that you’re too busy to take on more work and don’t let people make you feel bad about not doing more.\\nSpeak with conviction. Instead of starting sentences with, “I think that maybe…” or “It could be possibly that…” make firm statements like, “I will not work on another project with Karen.”\\n3-6. Learn to laugh at yourself.\\nTrue individuals know not to take themselves too seriously and are comfortable poking fun at themselves at the right time. They are aware of their flaws and are okay with not being perfect, and they don’t make people feel like they have to walk on eggshells around them, either. If you want to be an individual, then you should be as comfortable laughing at yourself as you are asserting your beliefs. It’s okay not to be serious all the time; it doesn’t make you any less of an individual.\\nTrue individuals are always growing and always learning. You can’t be a true individual if you’re so serious about yourself that you can’t even laugh at your own flaws or be self-aware enough to want to change.\\n3-7. Listen to your gut.\\nListening to your intuition is crucial if you want to be an individual. Sometimes, something like a job offer will look great on paper, and everyone will tell you that you should take it, but you may get a nagging feeling that you know it’s not really what you want to do with your life. If you really want to be an individual, then you have to work on knowing when you get a bad or good feeling about something and following those instincts instead of logic some of the time.\\nIndividuals are original thinkers. Though they think critically, read a lot, and use facts to back up their ideas, they are also able to trust themselves and sense when something isn’t quite right.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It’s not always easy to be an individual, especially if you find yourself lost in peer pressure, confusing feedback, and loud personalities. However, if you make an effort to accept the person who you are while continuing to grow and evolve, then you’ll be on your way to discovering the person you were meant to be. Being an individual takes work and dedication, and it doesn’t mean you have to stick out in a crowd, either. Being a true individual means having convictions and not being afraid to go off the beaten path.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing a Healthy Perspective\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stop caring what others think.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to really move forward to become an individual, then you have to put aside your worries about what other people are thinking. You should want to be an individual just for yourself, not so the kids in your school think you’re awesome or that you stand out in some way. If you obsess over what other people are thinking, then you’ll never be able to really please yourself, because people are fickle and it’s impossible to please everyone.\\nOf course, gossip hurts, and it’s hard to not be hurt by it. Still, if you hear gossip about yourself, just know that it’s coming from a person who is weak and insecure and that you know better than to stoop to that level.\\nTry to surround yourself with people who are supportive of you rather than people who are going to judge you or drag you down.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t be afraid to be yourself.\", \"描述\": \"As corny as it sounds, being an individual means being unabashedly yourself. It means not hiding your true feelings every time you go out in public, or acting like you’re perfect and refusing to acknowledge your flaws. It means being comfortable with presenting your flaws, quirks, and ideas to the world and feeling good about who you are. Of course, it can take time to get there, but you need to get in the habit of letting people see who you really are instead of acting like a person you think they’d rather talk to.\\nOf course, it’s necessary to present slightly different sides of yourselves to different people. However, in general, you shouldn’t feel like you’re flipping a switch to act like a completely different version of yourself when you talk to different people.\\nOverride your fear and learn to trust the feeling that tells you who you're meant to be and where you're meant to go.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don’t feel forced to be different.\", \"描述\": \"You may think that being an individual means wearing neon, playing a banjo, or just standing out in a room of 500 people, like “Where is Waldo?” However, it doesn’t actually mean that at all. You don’t need to be eccentric to be an individual; you just have to be happy being yourself, and asserting your own ideas and opinions. In fact, if you try too hard you may get the opposite effect, and may find yourself being less genuine than normal.\\nIf you like to wear low-key earth-toned clothes, for example, stick to the style that you like instead of thinking that you need to change your wardrobe to really be an individual.\\nYou don’t need to change your hair or makeup or to get a tattoo, either. Being an individual comes from the inside.\\nOf course, everyone is different in some way, but not everyone is visibly different. If you are different for a cool reason that not everyone can see, like being able to speak 8 languages or being an awesome break dancer, then don’t be afraid to strut your stuff.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Build up your confidence.\", \"描述\": \"Though building your confidence up won’t happen overnight, you can take steps to working toward loving and accepting the person who you truly are. You can’t be an individual without having confidence in the person that you are, so you should work on finding things to be grateful for, focusing on your strengths, and working on asserting yourself and being positive in social interactions. The more you focus on building your confidence, the sooner you’ll become a true individual.\\nOne way to build up your confidence is to spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. It’s hard to be confident when your supposed “best friends” are always putting you down.\\nBody language can go a long way in making you look and feel confident. Work on standing tall, looking people in the eye, and avoid folding your arms across your chest or staring at the ground. Just projecting confidence can make you feel much better about yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stick to your convictions.\", \"描述\": \"An important component of being an individual is sticking to your convictions and not letting other people make you change your opinions every time you get in a debate. Of course, it’s good to be open-minded and to be willing to learn from others, but you have to work on not being a pushover and showing people that you really mean what you say. Don’t let people pressure you into behavior you don’t respect, and work on sticking to your guns the next time your friends are trying to get you to change your mind.\\nIf you really don’t want to do something because you feel that it’s morally wrong, don’t give in to your friends or acquaintances simply because it’s more convenient. Learn to explain why you believe the behavior, such as underage drinking, is wrong, and then walk away from the situation.\\nDon’t let someone else put you down and make your ideas feel small just because the person is louder, taller, or tougher than you. Work to have concrete examples and evidence to back up your ideas, and don’t be afraid to state them.\\nIf a caring friend is genuinely helping you see a new perspective of a situation, then be grateful for it and ask more questions. You should work on sticking to your convictions when you know there’s no changing your mind, but you don’t need to be stubborn.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Work on being more comfortable in your own skin.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to be an individual is to be happy and comfortable in your own skin. Work on developing a love for your body and mind, and make your presence known when you enter a room. If you hunch over, complain about yourself, or are uncomfortable talking to people, then you’ll project a lack of confidence and will come off as a person who isn’t happy filling his own shoes. Make a habit of loving inhabiting who you are, of being self-assured enough to state your opinions, and of learning to talk to new people without hesitation.\\nPeople who are true individuals are comfortable in their own skins because they don’t care what other people think of them. If you look comfortable and happy with what you’re doing, then people will give you the respect you deserve.\\nGet in touch with your inner child—what is it inside of you that really wants to come out? Once you discover that, find the courage to express that side of you.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Know that there is literally no one else like you in the world.\", \"描述\": \"This may sound silly, but if you want to change your perspective and work towards being an individual, then sometimes the best thing you can do is to stop and realize that there’s no other person in the world who has had the same upbringing, values, looks, and thoughts as you do and that you are truly unique and different. You may feel like there’s nothing that makes you stand out, but you have to remember that everyone is different in some way. Even if you have a twin brother, you are your own person and no one else can see the world exactly as you do. Be proud of that fact and own it.\\nYou may think that there’s something completely ordinary about you, such as having three siblings or speaking two languages, but to many people, these experiences can be quite extraordinary and you should be proud of them.\\nEven if you may seem like everyone else from the outside, you can do the work to make other people realize that you have your own unique experiences and ideas to share.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Taking Action\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find a new hobby.\", \"描述\": \"One way to be an individual is to find something that you truly and deeply care about and to make an effort to really explore it. If you don’t know what you’re good at yet, then you should try to join more clubs at school, pick up a sport, or take a class in Japanese, creative writing, watercolor painting, tap dancing, or really anything at all that you’ve been wanting to try. Finding something that you love and sticking to it will help you boost your confidence while finding a new way to help you express yourself.\\nAlong with finding a new hobby, you can work to see if you can turn it into a passion. You may discover that you really want to be a writer, photographer, or dancer, and this will give you even more confidence and conviction in your abilities.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Explore your creative side.\", \"描述\": \"Not every person has to be creative to be an individual. However, exploring your creative faculties can open up new ideas and can make you feel more aware of new possibilities. Try your hand at writing a short story, a poem, a play, or even a novel, or work on writing a skit with your friends just for fun. Explore your artistic side and work on drawing, ceramics, oil painting, or charcoal sketching just to see what strikes your fancy. You don’t have to be particularly good at it, but you should be willing to try if you want to be an individual.\\nEven if all you can draw are stick figures, exercising the creative part of your brain can help you see the world in a new, original way. This is a big part of being an individual.\\nBeing creative can also help you discover new ideas you didn’t know you had. You may never have thought about the world in a certain way until you tried your hand at writing short stories.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Accept challenges.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to be an individual is to step outside of your comfort zone and to accept the new challenges the world may bring. Volunteer in a new part of town; run for class president; apply for a job that you’re not sure you’re qualified for. Help your friend figure out a difficult project. When a challenge comes your way, don’t bat it away and stick to the things you know, but make an effort to try new things and to tackle new and difficult questions.\\nTrue individuals are always growing and changing. They face challenges with fortitude and work to find the best way to succeed, no matter how difficult the circumstances are.\\nOf course, if you’re overbooked, you don’t want to say yes to everything, either, or you’ll be too busy to grow as a person. But if you’re worried about trying something new because you think you might fail, then you should take up the challenge and see what you can do.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Spend more time with people you admire.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to be an individual is to surround yourself with independent thinkers whose ideas and ways of life you admire. You can learn a lot from people who are creative, interesting, and not afraid to be who they are. If you spend all of your time with followers or with people who don’t really have much to teach you about the world, then it’ll be harder for you to grow as an individual.\\nThis doesn’t mean you should ditch every person who you deem to be too boring for you, but it does mean that you should seek out people who challenge you and inspire you to be a better version of yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use your critical thinking skills.\", \"描述\": \"True individuals are critical thinkers. They evaluate every aspect of a situation before reaching a conclusion, and they use a large knowledge base to help them find the best approaches to tricky situations. They don’t accept everything they hear from their friends or on the radio and do their own research, making sure that they’re reaching the best conclusions instead of resorting to lazy or incomplete thinking.\\nTrue individuals think outside the box and know that most situations are more complicated than they seem. They don’t accept everything they hear at face value, even if it’s coming from a person they respect.\\nIndividuals are always asking a lot of questions and aren’t afraid to admit when they don’t know an answer. They know that the best way to be informed is to question everything.\\nBecome more well-read. Read every book you can get your hands on, from the complete works of Virginia Woolf or Franz Kafka to contemporary non-fiction about historical events or modern science. The more you read, the more knowledge you gain, and the more information you have at your disposal.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don’t do things to fit other people’s expectations.\", \"描述\": \"One of the reasons you may be struggling with becoming an individual is because you feel like you have to fit the expectations of your parents, friends, significant other, or society at large. If you truly want to be an individual, then you have to do what is best for yourself, not what your parents expect you to do. It can be hard to say no to people or to tell them that your goals are different from theirs, but this is the only way you can truly move forward.\\nFor example, if your parents want you to go to med school because you come from three generations of doctors but you’d rather study creative writing, be up front about it. You don’t want to fall into a life that doesn’t feel like your own.\\nOf course, you shouldn’t go against all of the expectations of society just to be an individual, but because you really think you’re doing what’s best for you. For example, if you drop of out college, do it because you have a great reason for it, not because you think it would be rebellious.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Individuality\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t try to fit a mold.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be a true individual, then you can’t think of yourself as fitting a mold. You can’t just be preppy, a jock, a nerd, a hipster, or a regular frat guy, either. You have to be beyond categorization like that if you want to truly be a unique person. You can have elements of different molds of people, but you can’t be so easily able to be pinned down if you want to be a true individual. Instead of trying to be a certain type of person, work on developing qualities that you admire.\\nYou can hang out with a certain type of person, but you don’t have to worry about fitting in with that group or looking, talking, or dressing exactly like the people you’re friends with. Variety is the spice of life, and things will be pretty boring if you look like everyone else you hang out with.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop your authenticity.\", \"描述\": \"To be an individual, you have to be authentic. If people think you’re phony or putting on airs, they’ll be able to tell from a mile away. Instead of trying to be overly nice, wearing clothes that really aren’t you, or hanging out with people you don’t really like because you think it’ll make you more popular, you should work on being true to yourself, wearing what makes you feel comfortable, and not saying things just to please people if you really don’t believe a word you’re saying.\\nBefore you step out the door, take a look in the mirror. Do you recognize the person you’re looking at? If not, then you better give your look more consideration.\\nDon’t give phony compliments just to suck up to people. Instead, tell them when you genuinely like something about them, even if you think it’s a bit offbeat. If you’re not being sincere, they’ll be able to tell.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be more honest.\", \"描述\": \"To be an individual, you have to work on being an honest person who is comfortable with stating the truth, even when the circumstances are difficult. Avoid lying just to make yourself look better, to sugar coat the truth for your friends when they really need to hear it, or even to cheat in school or to get ahead in an unfair with. True individuals are genuine people who aren’t afraid of the truth and are comfortable enough with themselves to state it.\\nDon’t lie about how much money you have, how much money you make, or about your material possessions in general. This won’t impress anyone and they’ll be able to tell that you’re trying too hard.\\nOf course, telling a white lie, like not telling your friend her new haircut is too severe, is perfectly fine if you’re not hurting anyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Address the flaws you can address.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be a true individual, then you have to be willing to improve yourself. You can’t be content with every aspect of yourself or you’ll never grow and improve. Though you should work on accepting the things you can’t change about yourself, you should make an effort to address the flaws you can address, so that you can be on your way to being a more honed version of yourself.\\nTake it one step at a time. It doesn’t have to be anything major, at first. Maybe you’re always late to things. Make a goal to be on time to everything for a week, and then a month, and then make it a habit.\\nKnow that working on larger issues, such as trust issues, can take much longer than a few weeks. Still, making a plan to get there can help you grow faster.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be more assertive.\", \"描述\": \"To be a true individual, you have to be able to assert yourself and be comfortable stating your ideas. Speak clearly, be articulate, and look people in the eye when you want to get your point across. Don’t let other people put you down or interrupt you, and stick to your beliefs while being open to other well-meaning suggestions. Don’t let people walk all over you and don’t get stuck doing something because you’re too nice to say no. Individuals know what they want and think and they aren’t afraid to make it known.\\nIf you feel really strongly about something, don’t let another person sway you just because you don’t want to hurt his feelings. Make your feelings clear, and have hard facts about why you feel a certain way.\\nWork on saying no to people when you genuinely can’t or don’t want to do something. Be comfortable explaining that you’re too busy to take on more work and don’t let people make you feel bad about not doing more.\\nSpeak with conviction. Instead of starting sentences with, “I think that maybe…” or “It could be possibly that…” make firm statements like, “I will not work on another project with Karen.”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn to laugh at yourself.\", \"描述\": \"True individuals know not to take themselves too seriously and are comfortable poking fun at themselves at the right time. They are aware of their flaws and are okay with not being perfect, and they don’t make people feel like they have to walk on eggshells around them, either. If you want to be an individual, then you should be as comfortable laughing at yourself as you are asserting your beliefs. It’s okay not to be serious all the time; it doesn’t make you any less of an individual.\\nTrue individuals are always growing and always learning. You can’t be a true individual if you’re so serious about yourself that you can’t even laugh at your own flaws or be self-aware enough to want to change.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Listen to your gut.\", \"描述\": \"Listening to your intuition is crucial if you want to be an individual. Sometimes, something like a job offer will look great on paper, and everyone will tell you that you should take it, but you may get a nagging feeling that you know it’s not really what you want to do with your life. If you really want to be an individual, then you have to work on knowing when you get a bad or good feeling about something and following those instincts instead of logic some of the time.\\nIndividuals are original thinkers. Though they think critically, read a lot, and use facts to back up their ideas, they are also able to trust themselves and sense when something isn’t quite right.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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Everything You Need to Know About Being an Ink Master Human Canvas
1. Can I apply to be a canvas on Ink Master? Yes, you can apply online to be a canvas on Ink Master. Simply head to Ink Master’s website and fill out an application with your name, number, and address. The application will ask you other questions, like how you would describe your personality and how many tattoos you have already. It will also ask you to describe the potential tattoo you’d like to receive and where on your body you’d want it. To fill out an application, head to https://www.castinginkmaster.com/human-canvas-application.html. Be sure to read the application fully, including the terms and conditions near the bottom, before submitting. Ink Master only reviews applications when they’re getting ready to shoot a new season. If the show is not currently casting, wait until they are to submit your application. 2. What are the requirements to be an Ink Master canvas? 2-1. You must be over 18 and a Canada local. Ink Master is only allowed to tattoo legal adults, so you have to be over 18 by the time the show is filming. And, since Ink Master is based in Canada, you need to be a Canadian citizen in order to participate. 2-2. You must be vaccinated against COVID-19. As of 2022, Ink Master is requiring all of its participants to be fully vaccinated. On the application, it will ask you if you’re vaccinated; and if you aren’t, it will ask you if you’re willing to be vaccinated if asked to participate. If you are not vaccinated and not willing to get vaccinated before filming, you will not be selected as a canvas. 3. Do Ink Master canvases pay for their tattoos? No, Ink Master canvases don’t have to pay for their tattoos. If you are selected to be on Ink Master, you will not have to pay your tattoo artist nor the producers of the show for your tattoo. That’s the beauty of Ink Master—you get tattooed free of charge! 4. Do Ink Master canvases get paid? No, Ink Master canvases do not get paid for their time. In the terms and conditions of the application, you’ll notice that human canvases do not get any monetary compensation. You will also not get reimbursed for any travel or accommodation costs that you have. 5. Did Ink Master get canceled? Yes, Ink Master was canceled in 2020, but is returning in 2022. The production shut down in 2020 for multiple reasons, one of which was the COVID-19 pandemic. However, the show has been picked up again by Paramount+ to air a new season. Tips Ink Master will only contact you if you’re selected to be on the show. If you don’t hear anything, it most likely means that they are not selecting you for this season. If you have any questions or concerns, reach out to Ink Master at [email protected].
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How to Be an Inventor
1. Being an Inventor for Kids 1-1. Get creative. If you want to be an inventor as a child, find ways to foster your creativity. Inventors know how to think outside the box and find new and innovative solutions to a variety of problems. You should look for ways to nurture your creative side. Give yourself time for spontaneous play. Put away the video games and sit alone in your room with a few basic toys, like stuffed animals and arts and craft supplies, each day. Read for pleasure. People who read a lot for pleasure tend to be vastly more creative than non-readers. Do artistic activities. Paint, color, sculpt with clay, write a poem, or do anything else that encourages creative thought. 1-2. Focus on STEM subjects in school. STEM stands for science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. These are all areas that are important if you want to be an inventor, as you'll need to have the expertise necessary to create your projects. In school, aim for a load heavy in STEM subjects. Take a lot of science courses in school. If your school offers advanced placement science courses, see if you can take these. You should also take courses on technology or engineering. See if your school offers classes on computer programming or courses like wood shop. Take a lot of high level math courses. A good knowledge of math is essential to becoming an inventor. 1-3. Join school clubs that will help you create. Learning from others is important to becoming an inventor, and there may be clubs in your school that encourage you to invent. Join a variety of after school clubs that will help you become an inventor. You could join a club like the Science Olympiads, where you'll learn a lot about science and technology. You could also try joining something like the chess club, which encourages logical thinking. In some schools, there are clubs where students work together on a single creation over the course of your semester. See if your school offers a club like this. 1-4. Practice hobbies that feed your imagination. Imagination is vital to becoming an inventor. Engage in a variety of hobbies that feed your imagination and allow you to develop the innovative mind of an inventor. Hobbies like baking sometimes require innovation. If you're out of cinnamon, for example, you'll have to improvise by finding a similar spice. Playing make-believe may seem like a waste of time, but it can actually nurture your imagination. If your characters get into difficult scenarios, you'll have to problem solve following the rules of your imaginary world. Take initiative in day-to-day moments to be creative. Look for pictures in the clouds. Make a poem about the afternoon rain. 2. Generating Ideas 2-1. Identify markets in need. To start, try to identify where there is a need for a new product. As an inventor, you should have an inquisitive mind. As you look at various products in your day-to-day life, identify gaps in the market. Look for places where there's room for improvement or innovation. Think about what market you're interested in. For example, if you're interested in music and electronics, think about what makes the iPod so desirable. Tap into what consumers want in a given market. Do people want to better themselves? Do they want entertainment, convenience? Each time you see someone enjoying a product or service, stop and ask yourself, "Why does this person use this service? What about this product is enjoyable to this person? What need is being met here?" 2-2. Think about what is missing. With any market, there's always something missing. The best inventors understand the fundamentals of a field and look for where it could be expanded. For example, the people who invented services like Uber and Lyft realized taxi services were no longer cutting it. People wanted a more personalized experience and craved the wide availability and convenience of calling a cab without having to make a phone call or find one on the street. Look into an existing market and ask yourself what is missing. Think about common complaints people have. Going back to the music example, what do your friends complain about regarding their iPods? What features do they want that are not currently provided by Apple? You can try asking friends to ascertain what's missing. For example, ask your friend, "If you could change one thing about your iPod, what would you change?" The answer could give you an idea for an invention for the music industry. 2-3. Expand on existing products. Some of the greatest inventions are simply expansions or innovations on existing products. Can you think of a new spin on an existing product or service? Can you find a way to make a longstanding, successful invention more convenient and desirable? If so, this may be a great product to try to invent and sell. Research the market before you begin. You want to ensure that your idea hasn't been done before. Someone may have tried your idea and found it unsuccessful for a various reasons. Ensure your idea is significantly different than existing ideas or products. If's too similar to something on the market, you could get in trouble for infringing on a copyright or patent. 2-4. Identify the skill set you need to get your idea off the ground. You may have a great idea, but do you have the skills necessary to produce it? Make a list of talents you need to create the product in question. If you do not have these talents yourself, you may have to dedicate some time to cultivating them before you get things rolling with your product. For example, you may have a stellar idea for a phone app, but little experience working with technology. You may have to take some coding classes for phone apps. 2-5. Do not be afraid to outsource. If you don't have all the skills you need, and do not want to take the time to develop them, do not be afraid to outsource. Inventors can rarely do everything they need to do in order to produce an invention. If you have certain weaknesses, that's okay. You can find others to help you in these areas. For example, if you don't know where to start on your phone app, find a freelance tech person online and see if they would be willing to do some of the work for you. You can also network with friends. If you have a friend who has a knack for building things, your friend may be willing to partner up with you to produce those hiking shoes. Whatever you do, make sure you sort out how to divide finances in the event your invention sells ahead of time. 3. Designing and Selling Your Products 3-1. Build a prototype. Once you've come up with an idea for an invention, you'll need to build a prototype. You can show this to prospective customers and buyers to generate interest in your product. You can also use a prototype as a model when you begin to build your physical product. Design software, like AutoDesk Inventor, can also help you build a digital prototype of your invention. While working digitally can help, try to make a small physical prototype. This will allow you to experience with materials and find the right combination to make your invention as solid as possible. 3-2. Cultivate interest for your idea. Once you have a solid prototype of your product, begin showing it off. There are a variety of ways you can generate interest in your idea. You want to look for potential investors and buyers. One way to build interest for your idea is to attend trade shows. You could even look into getting your own booth at a trade show and display your product. Another way to build interest is to network with other inventors and get a sense of what similar products are out there. You may have to tweak your product to give yourself an edge over the competition. Talk to a market research firm if it's within your budget. This can give you a sense of trends in the market you're working in, as well as general demographics. 3-3. Talk to a patent lawyer. If you believe you have a product that could potentially sell, contact a patent lawyer. You will want to get a patent on your product to make sure it doesn't get stolen by a competitor. It's vital to protect your intellectual property, especially if you think there's a market for it, so make sure you contact a patent lawyer. Search for a lawyer online, or in your local yellow pages, and make an appointment to discuss your product. Patent law is very complicated, so do not attempt to file a patent on your own unless you have extensive legal experience. If you have a friend who works in law, and who knows patent law, you may want to see if he or she will do some work for a discount price. Patents costs between $3,000 and $10,000 to file. While that may sound like a lot, if you've determined there's a market for your product it's well worth the cost. Patents take awhile to go through. It may take 3 years until you've successfully patented your product. Use this time to continue researching the market and tweaking your product to meet consumer needs. 3-4. Consider a fundraising campaign. It can be expensive to patent and market your product to the right audience. Consider doing an online marketing campaign through a site like Kickstarter or GoFundMe. In addition to giving the money necessary to get your product off the ground, this can also help generate public interest. Consider the best way to reach your target audience. Social media would work well for a younger audience, while an older audience may respond better to mass emails. Keep your audience up-to-date on your goals and let them know how close you are to reaching them. Tell your audience about your product and be honest about how the money will be used. People will be more likely to donate if they know where their money is going. Allow people to share information easily. A sidebar on your fundraising page will allow people to post details of your page to social media outlets like Facebook and Twitter. 3-5. Decide whether to sell your idea or make it yourself. After generating public interest and patenting your product, decide what you want to do with your idea. Investors usually either sell licenses of their products to larger companies, or create and sell products themselves. Figure out which path is right for you. If you want to sell the product yourself, consider whether you have the time and resources to do so. You may have to quit your job or reduce your hours. You should also weigh the costs of the resources it will take to build the product. The upside to selling your license is that you make money from royalties. You may not have to quit your current job, but you may give up a lot of money this route. On average, patent holders make about 2-7% of retail sales on their products. 4. Coping with Setbacks 4-1. Learn when to give up on bad ideas. Good inventors do not get too attached to their ideas. Not every idea you have will be a winner. Some ideas simply do not work. Be ready to give up on an idea if it's not practical. Be willing to detach yourself from your ideas. Do not personalize rejection. Some ideas simply do not work as well as others. Becoming an inventor is about numbers. The more ideas you have, the more likely you are to find one that works. 4-2. Keep your day job. Even if you think you have a solid idea, keep your day job. You want to make sure you have a steady source of income until you start regularly making money from an invention. In the world of inventing, a lot is left up to chance. Even if you think you have an investor in your idea, a lot of could still go wrong. It may take years before you have a successful invention, so keep your day job until then. 4-3. Take rejection with stride. Rejection will happen along the way to success. If you want to be an inventor, you need to learn to take rejection in stride. If you do not do so, you'll have trouble succeeding in the field. Rejection happens to everyone. Try to remember most successful people faced rejection at some point in their professional lives. Rejection is rarely personal. There are thousands of products on the market. Just because yours did not sell or appeal to anyone does not mean it was not a good idea. Warnings Make sure what you are making is not already copyrighted. You do not want to make an idea too similar to an existing product. Be very careful around tools such as the saw, or drill. Tools, if used incorrectly, can be very hazardous.
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Cultivate interest for your idea.\\nOnce you have a solid prototype of your product, begin showing it off. There are a variety of ways you can generate interest in your idea. You want to look for potential investors and buyers.\\nOne way to build interest for your idea is to attend trade shows. You could even look into getting your own booth at a trade show and display your product.\\nAnother way to build interest is to network with other inventors and get a sense of what similar products are out there. You may have to tweak your product to give yourself an edge over the competition.\\nTalk to a market research firm if it's within your budget. This can give you a sense of trends in the market you're working in, as well as general demographics.\\n3-3. Talk to a patent lawyer.\\nIf you believe you have a product that could potentially sell, contact a patent lawyer. You will want to get a patent on your product to make sure it doesn't get stolen by a competitor. 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Consider a fundraising campaign.\\nIt can be expensive to patent and market your product to the right audience. Consider doing an online marketing campaign through a site like Kickstarter or GoFundMe. In addition to giving the money necessary to get your product off the ground, this can also help generate public interest.\\nConsider the best way to reach your target audience. Social media would work well for a younger audience, while an older audience may respond better to mass emails.\\nKeep your audience up-to-date on your goals and let them know how close you are to reaching them.\\nTell your audience about your product and be honest about how the money will be used. People will be more likely to donate if they know where their money is going.\\nAllow people to share information easily. A sidebar on your fundraising page will allow people to post details of your page to social media outlets like Facebook and Twitter.\\n3-5. Decide whether to sell your idea or make it yourself.\\nAfter generating public interest and patenting your product, decide what you want to do with your idea. Investors usually either sell licenses of their products to larger companies, or create and sell products themselves. Figure out which path is right for you.\\nIf you want to sell the product yourself, consider whether you have the time and resources to do so. You may have to quit your job or reduce your hours. You should also weigh the costs of the resources it will take to build the product.\\nThe upside to selling your license is that you make money from royalties. You may not have to quit your current job, but you may give up a lot of money this route. On average, patent holders make about 2-7% of retail sales on their products.\\n4. Coping with Setbacks\\n4-1. Learn when to give up on bad ideas.\\nGood inventors do not get too attached to their ideas. Not every idea you have will be a winner. Some ideas simply do not work. Be ready to give up on an idea if it's not practical.\\nBe willing to detach yourself from your ideas. Do not personalize rejection. Some ideas simply do not work as well as others.\\nBecoming an inventor is about numbers. The more ideas you have, the more likely you are to find one that works.\\n4-2. Keep your day job.\\nEven if you think you have a solid idea, keep your day job. You want to make sure you have a steady source of income until you start regularly making money from an invention. In the world of inventing, a lot is left up to chance. Even if you think you have an investor in your idea, a lot of could still go wrong. It may take years before you have a successful invention, so keep your day job until then.\\n4-3. Take rejection with stride.\\nRejection will happen along the way to success. If you want to be an inventor, you need to learn to take rejection in stride. If you do not do so, you'll have trouble succeeding in the field.\\nRejection happens to everyone. Try to remember most successful people faced rejection at some point in their professional lives.\\nRejection is rarely personal. There are thousands of products on the market. Just because yours did not sell or appeal to anyone does not mean it was not a good idea.\\nWarnings\\nMake sure what you are making is not already copyrighted. You do not want to make an idea too similar to an existing product.\\nBe very careful around tools such as the saw, or drill. Tools, if used incorrectly, can be very hazardous.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many people love the idea of inventing products for a living. You'll get the opportunity to be your own boss and allow your creativity to bring you profit. However, being an inventor is difficult work. It can be hard to find items that will sell in a market that's already saturated with products. You'll have to spend a long time finding ideas for products consumers will need. From there, you'll need to design a prototype for your product and show it off to potential investors. You should also make sure to get your product patented as people begin to generate interest so your idea is safe from intellectual theft. Remember, becoming an inventor is a field ripe with rejection. Learn how to take setbacks in stride and come back stronger each time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being an Inventor for Kids\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get creative.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be an inventor as a child, find ways to foster your creativity. Inventors know how to think outside the box and find new and innovative solutions to a variety of problems. You should look for ways to nurture your creative side.\\nGive yourself time for spontaneous play. Put away the video games and sit alone in your room with a few basic toys, like stuffed animals and arts and craft supplies, each day.\\nRead for pleasure. People who read a lot for pleasure tend to be vastly more creative than non-readers.\\nDo artistic activities. Paint, color, sculpt with clay, write a poem, or do anything else that encourages creative thought.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus on STEM subjects in school.\", \"描述\": \"STEM stands for science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. These are all areas that are important if you want to be an inventor, as you'll need to have the expertise necessary to create your projects. In school, aim for a load heavy in STEM subjects.\\nTake a lot of science courses in school. If your school offers advanced placement science courses, see if you can take these.\\nYou should also take courses on technology or engineering. See if your school offers classes on computer programming or courses like wood shop.\\nTake a lot of high level math courses. A good knowledge of math is essential to becoming an inventor.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join school clubs that will help you create.\", \"描述\": \"Learning from others is important to becoming an inventor, and there may be clubs in your school that encourage you to invent. Join a variety of after school clubs that will help you become an inventor. \\nYou could join a club like the Science Olympiads, where you'll learn a lot about science and technology. You could also try joining something like the chess club, which encourages logical thinking.\\nIn some schools, there are clubs where students work together on a single creation over the course of your semester. See if your school offers a club like this.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice hobbies that feed your imagination.\", \"描述\": \"Imagination is vital to becoming an inventor. Engage in a variety of hobbies that feed your imagination and allow you to develop the innovative mind of an inventor.\\nHobbies like baking sometimes require innovation. If you're out of cinnamon, for example, you'll have to improvise by finding a similar spice.\\nPlaying make-believe may seem like a waste of time, but it can actually nurture your imagination. If your characters get into difficult scenarios, you'll have to problem solve following the rules of your imaginary world.\\nTake initiative in day-to-day moments to be creative. Look for pictures in the clouds. Make a poem about the afternoon rain.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Generating Ideas\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identify markets in need.\", \"描述\": \"To start, try to identify where there is a need for a new product. As an inventor, you should have an inquisitive mind. As you look at various products in your day-to-day life, identify gaps in the market. Look for places where there's room for improvement or innovation.\\nThink about what market you're interested in. For example, if you're interested in music and electronics, think about what makes the iPod so desirable.\\nTap into what consumers want in a given market. Do people want to better themselves? Do they want entertainment, convenience? Each time you see someone enjoying a product or service, stop and ask yourself, \\\"Why does this person use this service? What about this product is enjoyable to this person? What need is being met here?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Think about what is missing.\", \"描述\": \"With any market, there's always something missing. The best inventors understand the fundamentals of a field and look for where it could be expanded. For example, the people who invented services like Uber and Lyft realized taxi services were no longer cutting it. People wanted a more personalized experience and craved the wide availability and convenience of calling a cab without having to make a phone call or find one on the street. Look into an existing market and ask yourself what is missing.\\nThink about common complaints people have. Going back to the music example, what do your friends complain about regarding their iPods? What features do they want that are not currently provided by Apple?\\nYou can try asking friends to ascertain what's missing. For example, ask your friend, \\\"If you could change one thing about your iPod, what would you change?\\\" The answer could give you an idea for an invention for the music industry.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Expand on existing products.\", \"描述\": \"Some of the greatest inventions are simply expansions or innovations on existing products. Can you think of a new spin on an existing product or service? Can you find a way to make a longstanding, successful invention more convenient and desirable? If so, this may be a great product to try to invent and sell.\\nResearch the market before you begin. You want to ensure that your idea hasn't been done before. Someone may have tried your idea and found it unsuccessful for a various reasons.\\nEnsure your idea is significantly different than existing ideas or products. If's too similar to something on the market, you could get in trouble for infringing on a copyright or patent.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Identify the skill set you need to get your idea off the ground.\", \"描述\": \"You may have a great idea, but do you have the skills necessary to produce it? Make a list of talents you need to create the product in question. If you do not have these talents yourself, you may have to dedicate some time to cultivating them before you get things rolling with your product.\\nFor example, you may have a stellar idea for a phone app, but little experience working with technology. You may have to take some coding classes for phone apps.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Do not be afraid to outsource.\", \"描述\": \"If you don't have all the skills you need, and do not want to take the time to develop them, do not be afraid to outsource. Inventors can rarely do everything they need to do in order to produce an invention. If you have certain weaknesses, that's okay. You can find others to help you in these areas.\\nFor example, if you don't know where to start on your phone app, find a freelance tech person online and see if they would be willing to do some of the work for you.\\nYou can also network with friends. If you have a friend who has a knack for building things, your friend may be willing to partner up with you to produce those hiking shoes.\\nWhatever you do, make sure you sort out how to divide finances in the event your invention sells ahead of time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Designing and Selling Your Products\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build a prototype.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've come up with an idea for an invention, you'll need to build a prototype. You can show this to prospective customers and buyers to generate interest in your product. You can also use a prototype as a model when you begin to build your physical product. Design software, like AutoDesk Inventor, can also help you build a digital prototype of your invention.\\nWhile working digitally can help, try to make a small physical prototype. This will allow you to experience with materials and find the right combination to make your invention as solid as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cultivate interest for your idea.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have a solid prototype of your product, begin showing it off. There are a variety of ways you can generate interest in your idea. You want to look for potential investors and buyers.\\nOne way to build interest for your idea is to attend trade shows. You could even look into getting your own booth at a trade show and display your product.\\nAnother way to build interest is to network with other inventors and get a sense of what similar products are out there. You may have to tweak your product to give yourself an edge over the competition.\\nTalk to a market research firm if it's within your budget. This can give you a sense of trends in the market you're working in, as well as general demographics.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Talk to a patent lawyer.\", \"描述\": \"If you believe you have a product that could potentially sell, contact a patent lawyer. You will want to get a patent on your product to make sure it doesn't get stolen by a competitor. It's vital to protect your intellectual property, especially if you think there's a market for it, so make sure you contact a patent lawyer. Search for a lawyer online, or in your local yellow pages, and make an appointment to discuss your product.\\nPatent law is very complicated, so do not attempt to file a patent on your own unless you have extensive legal experience. If you have a friend who works in law, and who knows patent law, you may want to see if he or she will do some work for a discount price.\\nPatents costs between $3,000 and $10,000 to file. While that may sound like a lot, if you've determined there's a market for your product it's well worth the cost.\\nPatents take awhile to go through. It may take 3 years until you've successfully patented your product. Use this time to continue researching the market and tweaking your product to meet consumer needs.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider a fundraising campaign.\", \"描述\": \"It can be expensive to patent and market your product to the right audience. Consider doing an online marketing campaign through a site like Kickstarter or GoFundMe. In addition to giving the money necessary to get your product off the ground, this can also help generate public interest.\\nConsider the best way to reach your target audience. Social media would work well for a younger audience, while an older audience may respond better to mass emails.\\nKeep your audience up-to-date on your goals and let them know how close you are to reaching them.\\nTell your audience about your product and be honest about how the money will be used. People will be more likely to donate if they know where their money is going.\\nAllow people to share information easily. A sidebar on your fundraising page will allow people to post details of your page to social media outlets like Facebook and Twitter.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Decide whether to sell your idea or make it yourself.\", \"描述\": \"After generating public interest and patenting your product, decide what you want to do with your idea. Investors usually either sell licenses of their products to larger companies, or create and sell products themselves. Figure out which path is right for you.\\nIf you want to sell the product yourself, consider whether you have the time and resources to do so. You may have to quit your job or reduce your hours. You should also weigh the costs of the resources it will take to build the product.\\nThe upside to selling your license is that you make money from royalties. You may not have to quit your current job, but you may give up a lot of money this route. On average, patent holders make about 2-7% of retail sales on their products.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Coping with Setbacks\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn when to give up on bad ideas.\", \"描述\": \"Good inventors do not get too attached to their ideas. Not every idea you have will be a winner. Some ideas simply do not work. Be ready to give up on an idea if it's not practical.\\nBe willing to detach yourself from your ideas. Do not personalize rejection. Some ideas simply do not work as well as others.\\nBecoming an inventor is about numbers. The more ideas you have, the more likely you are to find one that works.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your day job.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you think you have a solid idea, keep your day job. You want to make sure you have a steady source of income until you start regularly making money from an invention. In the world of inventing, a lot is left up to chance. Even if you think you have an investor in your idea, a lot of could still go wrong. It may take years before you have a successful invention, so keep your day job until then.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take rejection with stride.\", \"描述\": \"Rejection will happen along the way to success. If you want to be an inventor, you need to learn to take rejection in stride. If you do not do so, you'll have trouble succeeding in the field.\\nRejection happens to everyone. Try to remember most successful people faced rejection at some point in their professional lives.\\nRejection is rarely personal. There are thousands of products on the market. Just because yours did not sell or appeal to anyone does not mean it was not a good idea.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"Make sure what you are making is not already copyrighted. You do not want to make an idea too similar to an existing product.\\n\", \"Be very careful around tools such as the saw, or drill. Tools, if used incorrectly, can be very hazardous.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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1. Gaining Education and Experience 1-1. Play football in high school. Start out playing football early, beginning in junior high or high school if you can. If you can't, volunteer to help out as a manager for the team. Most teams take on volunteers. All you have to do is ask. For instance, you could say to the coach, "Hi, coach. I know I didn't make the team, but I'd still like to help out. Is there a spot open for a volunteer?" 1-2. Begin working on a specialty in high school. Most coaches have a specialty. Whether you want to work on the offense or the defense, you'll find there are a range of coaching positions. You may want to develop a specialty based on a position you play, for instance, as you'll have first-hand knowledge. To develop a specialty, play or manage in one area if you can. Educate yourself on that specialty by reading up on it and taking related courses. 1-3. Work on a football-related bachelor's degree. Most coaches have a bachelor's degree of some kind. Pick a degree in a related field, such as kinesiology, exercise and sports medicine, nutrition and fitness, physiology, or physical education. A coaching degree is rarer, but you can use a college search engine to find schools that offer it. 1-4. Play college football. If possible, play for a college football team while you're an undergraduate. Most college coaches are looking for college-level experience in their graduate assistant coaches, and playing experience at the collegiate level can only help with other coaching positions. If you don't make the team, consider volunteering as a team manager to gain experience. Let your coaches know that you'd like to eventually be considered for a graduate assistant position, if that's your goal. 1-5. Apply to be an NFL intern. The NFL offers summer internships and positions in a junior rotational program. The summer internships last 8-9 weeks, while the junior rotational program lasts 6 to 9 months for each rotation. Both offer you a chance to work behind the scenes at the NFL. While these internships aren't coaching related necessarily, you'll gain invaluable insight into the NFL, which can benefit you in gaining a coaching job later. For both programs, you'll apply in your senior year. You'll need at least a 3.0 GPA for the summer program and at least a 3.2 for the rotational program. Apply on the NFL's website 1-6. Consider a graduate degree in a related field. While a graduate degree in coaching or a related field isn't required, it can give you an edge. Plus, it gives you an opportunity to apply to be a graduate assistant coach, which can help you get your foot in the door for a coaching position. 1-7. Apply to be a graduate assistant coach. If you're getting a master's degree at a university with a football program, you can be 1 of the 2 allowed graduate assistant coaches. You'll usually get free tuition out of the deal, but you'll have to put in as many as 100 hours per week. You'll only be able to hold this position for 2 to 3 seasons at most. Check on college websites for their job listings, as well as the job boards for the NCAA and NAIA. Don't be afraid to reach out to a program you love, and ask if they have a position for you. Typically, you'll apply for a graduate position before you enroll in the school, so you know for sure you have a job there. 2. Developing Your Coaching Skills 2-1. Read and learn from the best. As you're working towards being a coach, read books and listen to talks from the best. Try memoirs and how-to books from former coaches, such as Bill Wash's Finding the Winning Edge. Try to figure out what made them successful coaches, so you can apply the information when you start coaching. To find talks, check out YouTube videos by winning coaches. Attend any lectures offered by coaches in your area. 2-2. Examine what makes the other coaches good. As you work with other coaches, pay attention to how they lead. Look at how they treat the players, how they build strategies, and how they build team camaraderie. Learning from how others coach is a great way to pick up technique. Build good relationships with coaches. That way, when you see them do something you don't understand, you can ask them later why they made that decision. Learning their thought process will help you develop your own coaching strategies. 2-3. Go to coaching clinics. Coaching clinics can help you be a better coach. Both Glazier Clinics and the clinics put on by the American Football Coaches Association (AFCA) are highly respected. Plus, attending these clinics gives you a chance to network with others in the field. For instance, you can go to the AFCA's annual convention, which provides educational opportunities. The convention is usually in January. Membership dues range from $60 USD to $200 USD as of 2018, which includes the cost of the convention. You can also just pay for the convention, which ranges from $15 to $60 USD, plus travel. You don't need to be coaching currently to attend. Glazier Clinics, which are hosted across the United States and online, run $119 for a single year season pass, as of 2018. 3. Becoming a College Football Coach 3-1. Find jobs on a website devoted to college coaching positions. While you can find coaching jobs through typical avenues, you'll have an easier time using search engines specifically for college coaching jobs. For instance, Football Scoop has all levels of football coaching jobs, while both the NAIA and the NCAA have advertisement boards for college-level coaches. 3-2. Apply for less-prestigious coaching positions at first. You likely won't be able to land the high-powered coaching jobs right away. Start with smaller programs, such as programs in the NAIA, the NCAA DIII, or the National Junior College Athletic Association. If you start in these positions, you can build up a reputation as a solid coach and work your way up to tougher college programs. 3-3. Prepare to talk strategy at the interview. Once you land an interview, you have to be ready to do it well. Like any interview, you have to be ready to talk about what you'll bring to the job, which in football means strategy and coaching skills. Be ready to talk about you see the team moving forward and how you'll handle individual members of the team. It will be your job to inspire your team. Show your interviewers how you'll do that. Check out footage of the team ahead of time, so you can discuss what the team is doing well and where the team can do better. 3-4. Stay connected with past coaches. As you gain new jobs, maintain contact with those you've worked with in the past. Send out periodic emails, or call them to see how they're doing. They may know of job openings for you, so let them know when you're looking. Plus, if you stay in touch, you'll have good references for future jobs. 3-5. Apply your strategy to win games As you begin to coach, apply what you've learned in school and from other coaches to your own coaching strategy. When you make mistakes, analyze the situation to see what went wrong. Learn from those mistakes, and help your team do better the next time. For instance, analyzing film from other teams can be helpful, and you may have noticed coaches doing this in your past. Watch videos of a team to see how they play, and use that information to figure out what the biggest threats are. Adjust your team's play to help win the game. Alternatively, maybe you've noticed that your team is literally dropping the ball too much, which is what cost you a recent game. Focus on drills that encourage your team to hold on to the ball. 3-6. Continue to take coaching clinics. Be ready to keep learning, as there's always something new on the horizon. However, you don't have to take the same clinics over and over. Try higher-caliber clinics just for NCAA coaches, such as the NFL-NCAA Coaches Academy, which nominates NCAA coaches to take the clinic each year. 4. Coaching in the NFL 4-1. Coach in another professional league. Gain as much experience as you can at the professional level, such as working in the Canadian Football League. This league is a professional league. However, it's considered a stepping stone to the NFL, so it's easier to land a job in the CFL after working on a successful college program. 4-2. Apply for the Bill Walsh Diversity Coaching Fellowship for minorities. With this fellowship, you'll be hired for off-season training camps as an opportunity to observe and gain experience. The NFL recommends that each team hire 4 coaches each off-season. Use the application found at https://apps.nfl.net/pdsurvey/pd/billwalsh.aspx. The goal of this fellowship is to encourage and assist more minority coaches in obtaining NFL coaching positions. 4-3. Find coaching jobs in the NFL. Pay close attention to sports news to see which coaches are being fired or are leaving positions, which will help you know what positions are open. Websites like Football Scoop also have information on NFL job openings. Also, ask your contacts if they know of any open positions. Let people know you want to move up to the NFL. If you're coaching in a high-profile college position, NFL CEOs and managers are more likely to give you a chance. Let any contacts you have know that you'd like to move up to pro ball if possible. 4-4. Evaluate the team ahead of time. The managers, coaches, and CEOs are going to want you to be able to talk about the different players. They'll want to know what you think works and what doesn't work, so you'll need to be able to evaluate the team members individually. You'll need to spend hours looking at video of how the team plays so you can discuss them intelligently. An agent can help you evaluate players if you don't have the time. 4-5. Hire an agent. An agent is legal representation that helps you negotiate the best deal when you're interviewing and negotiating a contract. Bring your agent to the interview. It's standard practice, so the team management will be expecting it. Pick one based on recommendations from friends and colleagues. 4-6. Prepare yourself for an extensive interview. Most interviews will be at least 3 hours, but if things are going well, your interview may last well over 5 hours. They want to get to know you as a person, to get inside your head and figure out how you're going to coach. Be ready to talk about your strategies, such as how you plan to coach individuals and what you bring to the table in your specialty. Often, these long interviews are reserved for head coaches, and the head coach will decide who they want to work under them. Tips If you want to play before coaching, try to play in the NFL or a high-ranking college team. While not every NFL coach plays in the NFL, it can give you an edge to play at this level. The coaches will be familiar with you, and you'll have contacts all across the league to help you land a job.[20] X Research source
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Work on a football-related bachelor's degree.\\nMost coaches have a bachelor's degree of some kind. Pick a degree in a related field, such as kinesiology, exercise and sports medicine, nutrition and fitness, physiology, or physical education.\\nA coaching degree is rarer, but you can use a college search engine to find schools that offer it.\\n1-4. Play college football.\\nIf possible, play for a college football team while you're an undergraduate. Most college coaches are looking for college-level experience in their graduate assistant coaches, and playing experience at the collegiate level can only help with other coaching positions.\\nIf you don't make the team, consider volunteering as a team manager to gain experience.\\nLet your coaches know that you'd like to eventually be considered for a graduate assistant position, if that's your goal.\\n1-5. Apply to be an NFL intern.\\nThe NFL offers summer internships and positions in a junior rotational program. The summer internships last 8-9 weeks, while the junior rotational program lasts 6 to 9 months for each rotation. Both offer you a chance to work behind the scenes at the NFL.\\nWhile these internships aren't coaching related necessarily, you'll gain invaluable insight into the NFL, which can benefit you in gaining a coaching job later.\\nFor both programs, you'll apply in your senior year. You'll need at least a 3.0 GPA for the summer program and at least a 3.2 for the rotational program. Apply on the NFL's website\\n1-6. Consider a graduate degree in a related field.\\nWhile a graduate degree in coaching or a related field isn't required, it can give you an edge. Plus, it gives you an opportunity to apply to be a graduate assistant coach, which can help you get your foot in the door for a coaching position.\\n1-7. Apply to be a graduate assistant coach.\\nIf you're getting a master's degree at a university with a football program, you can be 1 of the 2 allowed graduate assistant coaches. You'll usually get free tuition out of the deal, but you'll have to put in as many as 100 hours per week.\\nYou'll only be able to hold this position for 2 to 3 seasons at most.\\nCheck on college websites for their job listings, as well as the job boards for the NCAA and NAIA. Don't be afraid to reach out to a program you love, and ask if they have a position for you.\\nTypically, you'll apply for a graduate position before you enroll in the school, so you know for sure you have a job there.\\n2. Developing Your Coaching Skills\\n2-1. Read and learn from the best.\\nAs you're working towards being a coach, read books and listen to talks from the best. Try memoirs and how-to books from former coaches, such as Bill Wash's Finding the Winning Edge. Try to figure out what made them successful coaches, so you can apply the information when you start coaching.\\nTo find talks, check out YouTube videos by winning coaches.\\nAttend any lectures offered by coaches in your area.\\n2-2. Examine what makes the other coaches good.\\nAs you work with other coaches, pay attention to how they lead. Look at how they treat the players, how they build strategies, and how they build team camaraderie. Learning from how others coach is a great way to pick up technique.\\nBuild good relationships with coaches. That way, when you see them do something you don't understand, you can ask them later why they made that decision. Learning their thought process will help you develop your own coaching strategies.\\n2-3. Go to coaching clinics.\\nCoaching clinics can help you be a better coach. Both Glazier Clinics and the clinics put on by the American Football Coaches Association (AFCA) are highly respected. Plus, attending these clinics gives you a chance to network with others in the field.\\nFor instance, you can go to the AFCA's annual convention, which provides educational opportunities. The convention is usually in January. Membership dues range from $60 USD to $200 USD as of 2018, which includes the cost of the convention. You can also just pay for the convention, which ranges from $15 to $60 USD, plus travel. You don't need to be coaching currently to attend.\\nGlazier Clinics, which are hosted across the United States and online, run $119 for a single year season pass, as of 2018.\\n3. Becoming a College Football Coach\\n3-1. Find jobs on a website devoted to college coaching positions.\\nWhile you can find coaching jobs through typical avenues, you'll have an easier time using search engines specifically for college coaching jobs.\\nFor instance, Football Scoop has all levels of football coaching jobs, while both the NAIA and the NCAA have advertisement boards for college-level coaches.\\n3-2. Apply for less-prestigious coaching positions at first.\\nYou likely won't be able to land the high-powered coaching jobs right away. Start with smaller programs, such as programs in the NAIA, the NCAA DIII, or the National Junior College Athletic Association.\\nIf you start in these positions, you can build up a reputation as a solid coach and work your way up to tougher college programs.\\n3-3. Prepare to talk strategy at the interview.\\nOnce you land an interview, you have to be ready to do it well. Like any interview, you have to be ready to talk about what you'll bring to the job, which in football means strategy and coaching skills. Be ready to talk about you see the team moving forward and how you'll handle individual members of the team.\\nIt will be your job to inspire your team. Show your interviewers how you'll do that.\\nCheck out footage of the team ahead of time, so you can discuss what the team is doing well and where the team can do better.\\n3-4. Stay connected with past coaches.\\nAs you gain new jobs, maintain contact with those you've worked with in the past. Send out periodic emails, or call them to see how they're doing. They may know of job openings for you, so let them know when you're looking. Plus, if you stay in touch, you'll have good references for future jobs.\\n3-5. Apply your strategy to win games\\nAs you begin to coach, apply what you've learned in school and from other coaches to your own coaching strategy. When you make mistakes, analyze the situation to see what went wrong. Learn from those mistakes, and help your team do better the next time.\\nFor instance, analyzing film from other teams can be helpful, and you may have noticed coaches doing this in your past. Watch videos of a team to see how they play, and use that information to figure out what the biggest threats are. Adjust your team's play to help win the game.\\nAlternatively, maybe you've noticed that your team is literally dropping the ball too much, which is what cost you a recent game. Focus on drills that encourage your team to hold on to the ball.\\n3-6. Continue to take coaching clinics.\\nBe ready to keep learning, as there's always something new on the horizon. However, you don't have to take the same clinics over and over. Try higher-caliber clinics just for NCAA coaches, such as the NFL-NCAA Coaches Academy, which nominates NCAA coaches to take the clinic each year.\\n4. Coaching in the NFL\\n4-1. Coach in another professional league.\\nGain as much experience as you can at the professional level, such as working in the Canadian Football League. This league is a professional league. However, it's considered a stepping stone to the NFL, so it's easier to land a job in the CFL after working on a successful college program.\\n4-2. Apply for the Bill Walsh Diversity Coaching Fellowship for minorities.\\nWith this fellowship, you'll be hired for off-season training camps as an opportunity to observe and gain experience. The NFL recommends that each team hire 4 coaches each off-season. Use the application found at https://apps.nfl.net/pdsurvey/pd/billwalsh.aspx.\\nThe goal of this fellowship is to encourage and assist more minority coaches in obtaining NFL coaching positions.\\n4-3. Find coaching jobs in the NFL.\\nPay close attention to sports news to see which coaches are being fired or are leaving positions, which will help you know what positions are open. Websites like Football Scoop also have information on NFL job openings.\\nAlso, ask your contacts if they know of any open positions.\\nLet people know you want to move up to the NFL. If you're coaching in a high-profile college position, NFL CEOs and managers are more likely to give you a chance. Let any contacts you have know that you'd like to move up to pro ball if possible.\\n4-4. Evaluate the team ahead of time.\\nThe managers, coaches, and CEOs are going to want you to be able to talk about the different players. They'll want to know what you think works and what doesn't work, so you'll need to be able to evaluate the team members individually. You'll need to spend hours looking at video of how the team plays so you can discuss them intelligently.\\nAn agent can help you evaluate players if you don't have the time.\\n4-5. Hire an agent.\\nAn agent is legal representation that helps you negotiate the best deal when you're interviewing and negotiating a contract. Bring your agent to the interview. It's standard practice, so the team management will be expecting it.\\nPick one based on recommendations from friends and colleagues.\\n4-6. Prepare yourself for an extensive interview.\\nMost interviews will be at least 3 hours, but if things are going well, your interview may last well over 5 hours. They want to get to know you as a person, to get inside your head and figure out how you're going to coach. Be ready to talk about your strategies, such as how you plan to coach individuals and what you bring to the table in your specialty.\\nOften, these long interviews are reserved for head coaches, and the head coach will decide who they want to work under them.\\nTips\\nIf you want to play before coaching, try to play in the NFL or a high-ranking college team. While not every NFL coach plays in the NFL, it can give you an edge to play at this level. The coaches will be familiar with you, and you'll have contacts all across the league to help you land a job.[20]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Becoming an NFL coach takes a lot of talent and ambition, plus quite a bit of luck. Start by gaining experience while you're in high school, and work on an undergraduate degree in a related field. Work up the ranks by applying to be a graduate assistant coach or apply for smaller coaching positions at the collegiate level. You can use your experience to move up the college coaching ladder, and hopefully, one day, to land a position in the NFL.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gaining Education and Experience\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Play football in high school.\", \"描述\": \"Start out playing football early, beginning in junior high or high school if you can. If you can't, volunteer to help out as a manager for the team. Most teams take on volunteers. All you have to do is ask.\\nFor instance, you could say to the coach, \\\"Hi, coach. I know I didn't make the team, but I'd still like to help out. Is there a spot open for a volunteer?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Begin working on a specialty in high school.\", \"描述\": \"Most coaches have a specialty. Whether you want to work on the offense or the defense, you'll find there are a range of coaching positions. You may want to develop a specialty based on a position you play, for instance, as you'll have first-hand knowledge.\\nTo develop a specialty, play or manage in one area if you can. Educate yourself on that specialty by reading up on it and taking related courses.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work on a football-related bachelor's degree.\", \"描述\": \"Most coaches have a bachelor's degree of some kind. Pick a degree in a related field, such as kinesiology, exercise and sports medicine, nutrition and fitness, physiology, or physical education.\\nA coaching degree is rarer, but you can use a college search engine to find schools that offer it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Play college football.\", \"描述\": \"If possible, play for a college football team while you're an undergraduate. Most college coaches are looking for college-level experience in their graduate assistant coaches, and playing experience at the collegiate level can only help with other coaching positions.\\nIf you don't make the team, consider volunteering as a team manager to gain experience.\\nLet your coaches know that you'd like to eventually be considered for a graduate assistant position, if that's your goal.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Apply to be an NFL intern.\", \"描述\": \"The NFL offers summer internships and positions in a junior rotational program. The summer internships last 8-9 weeks, while the junior rotational program lasts 6 to 9 months for each rotation. Both offer you a chance to work behind the scenes at the NFL.\\nWhile these internships aren't coaching related necessarily, you'll gain invaluable insight into the NFL, which can benefit you in gaining a coaching job later.\\nFor both programs, you'll apply in your senior year. You'll need at least a 3.0 GPA for the summer program and at least a 3.2 for the rotational program. Apply on the NFL's website\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Consider a graduate degree in a related field.\", \"描述\": \"While a graduate degree in coaching or a related field isn't required, it can give you an edge. Plus, it gives you an opportunity to apply to be a graduate assistant coach, which can help you get your foot in the door for a coaching position.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Apply to be a graduate assistant coach.\", \"描述\": \"If you're getting a master's degree at a university with a football program, you can be 1 of the 2 allowed graduate assistant coaches. You'll usually get free tuition out of the deal, but you'll have to put in as many as 100 hours per week.\\nYou'll only be able to hold this position for 2 to 3 seasons at most.\\nCheck on college websites for their job listings, as well as the job boards for the NCAA and NAIA. Don't be afraid to reach out to a program you love, and ask if they have a position for you.\\nTypically, you'll apply for a graduate position before you enroll in the school, so you know for sure you have a job there.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Coaching Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read and learn from the best.\", \"描述\": \"As you're working towards being a coach, read books and listen to talks from the best. Try memoirs and how-to books from former coaches, such as Bill Wash's Finding the Winning Edge. Try to figure out what made them successful coaches, so you can apply the information when you start coaching.\\nTo find talks, check out YouTube videos by winning coaches.\\nAttend any lectures offered by coaches in your area.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Examine what makes the other coaches good.\", \"描述\": \"As you work with other coaches, pay attention to how they lead. Look at how they treat the players, how they build strategies, and how they build team camaraderie. Learning from how others coach is a great way to pick up technique.\\nBuild good relationships with coaches. That way, when you see them do something you don't understand, you can ask them later why they made that decision. Learning their thought process will help you develop your own coaching strategies.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go to coaching clinics.\", \"描述\": \"Coaching clinics can help you be a better coach. Both Glazier Clinics and the clinics put on by the American Football Coaches Association (AFCA) are highly respected. Plus, attending these clinics gives you a chance to network with others in the field.\\nFor instance, you can go to the AFCA's annual convention, which provides educational opportunities. The convention is usually in January. Membership dues range from $60 USD to $200 USD as of 2018, which includes the cost of the convention. You can also just pay for the convention, which ranges from $15 to $60 USD, plus travel. You don't need to be coaching currently to attend.\\nGlazier Clinics, which are hosted across the United States and online, run $119 for a single year season pass, as of 2018.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Becoming a College Football Coach\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find jobs on a website devoted to college coaching positions.\", \"描述\": \"While you can find coaching jobs through typical avenues, you'll have an easier time using search engines specifically for college coaching jobs.\\nFor instance, Football Scoop has all levels of football coaching jobs, while both the NAIA and the NCAA have advertisement boards for college-level coaches.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Apply for less-prestigious coaching positions at first.\", \"描述\": \"You likely won't be able to land the high-powered coaching jobs right away. Start with smaller programs, such as programs in the NAIA, the NCAA DIII, or the National Junior College Athletic Association.\\nIf you start in these positions, you can build up a reputation as a solid coach and work your way up to tougher college programs.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Prepare to talk strategy at the interview.\", \"描述\": \"Once you land an interview, you have to be ready to do it well. Like any interview, you have to be ready to talk about what you'll bring to the job, which in football means strategy and coaching skills. Be ready to talk about you see the team moving forward and how you'll handle individual members of the team.\\nIt will be your job to inspire your team. Show your interviewers how you'll do that.\\nCheck out footage of the team ahead of time, so you can discuss what the team is doing well and where the team can do better.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay connected with past coaches.\", \"描述\": \"As you gain new jobs, maintain contact with those you've worked with in the past. Send out periodic emails, or call them to see how they're doing. They may know of job openings for you, so let them know when you're looking. Plus, if you stay in touch, you'll have good references for future jobs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Apply your strategy to win games\", \"描述\": \"As you begin to coach, apply what you've learned in school and from other coaches to your own coaching strategy. When you make mistakes, analyze the situation to see what went wrong. Learn from those mistakes, and help your team do better the next time.\\nFor instance, analyzing film from other teams can be helpful, and you may have noticed coaches doing this in your past. Watch videos of a team to see how they play, and use that information to figure out what the biggest threats are. Adjust your team's play to help win the game.\\nAlternatively, maybe you've noticed that your team is literally dropping the ball too much, which is what cost you a recent game. Focus on drills that encourage your team to hold on to the ball.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Continue to take coaching clinics.\", \"描述\": \"Be ready to keep learning, as there's always something new on the horizon. However, you don't have to take the same clinics over and over. Try higher-caliber clinics just for NCAA coaches, such as the NFL-NCAA Coaches Academy, which nominates NCAA coaches to take the clinic each year.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Coaching in the NFL\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Coach in another professional league.\", \"描述\": \"Gain as much experience as you can at the professional level, such as working in the Canadian Football League. This league is a professional league. However, it's considered a stepping stone to the NFL, so it's easier to land a job in the CFL after working on a successful college program.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Apply for the Bill Walsh Diversity Coaching Fellowship for minorities.\", \"描述\": \"With this fellowship, you'll be hired for off-season training camps as an opportunity to observe and gain experience. The NFL recommends that each team hire 4 coaches each off-season. Use the application found at https://apps.nfl.net/pdsurvey/pd/billwalsh.aspx.\\nThe goal of this fellowship is to encourage and assist more minority coaches in obtaining NFL coaching positions.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find coaching jobs in the NFL.\", \"描述\": \"Pay close attention to sports news to see which coaches are being fired or are leaving positions, which will help you know what positions are open. Websites like Football Scoop also have information on NFL job openings.\\nAlso, ask your contacts if they know of any open positions.\\nLet people know you want to move up to the NFL. If you're coaching in a high-profile college position, NFL CEOs and managers are more likely to give you a chance. Let any contacts you have know that you'd like to move up to pro ball if possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Evaluate the team ahead of time.\", \"描述\": \"The managers, coaches, and CEOs are going to want you to be able to talk about the different players. They'll want to know what you think works and what doesn't work, so you'll need to be able to evaluate the team members individually. You'll need to spend hours looking at video of how the team plays so you can discuss them intelligently.\\nAn agent can help you evaluate players if you don't have the time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Hire an agent.\", \"描述\": \"An agent is legal representation that helps you negotiate the best deal when you're interviewing and negotiating a contract. Bring your agent to the interview. It's standard practice, so the team management will be expecting it.\\nPick one based on recommendations from friends and colleagues.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Prepare yourself for an extensive interview.\", \"描述\": \"Most interviews will be at least 3 hours, but if things are going well, your interview may last well over 5 hours. They want to get to know you as a person, to get inside your head and figure out how you're going to coach. Be ready to talk about your strategies, such as how you plan to coach individuals and what you bring to the table in your specialty.\\nOften, these long interviews are reserved for head coaches, and the head coach will decide who they want to work under them.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you want to play before coaching, try to play in the NFL or a high-ranking college team. While not every NFL coach plays in the NFL, it can give you an edge to play at this level. The coaches will be familiar with you, and you'll have contacts all across the league to help you land a job.[20]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Obedient, Well Behaved Child
1. Respect 1-1. Understand that your parents are adults and you are a child. So they probably have more experience than you and this is why you should not obey, but just give a try to their tips. They have been kids too once and probably are just worried for you! Of course there are exceptions, but usually parents want the best for you and try to make sure you don't make their past errors. 1-2. Be more obedient. No, you don't have to obey all of their orders like a soldier. But, if they tell you to do your homework, do it, for example. And you don't have to follow everything to the letter. I recommend you to think a bit before doing that. If your mother tells you to wash the dishes, for example, they probably just would like you to help. 1-3. Accept that you are a child. You may not like this, but it's true, you are a child, even if you are intelligent. Adults will generally know more than you just because they have been around longer. 1-4. Do chores without being asked. If you can see that something needs doing, do it. If you overhear your mother complaining about having to do the dishes, give her a surprise and do them for her. This isn't about being obedient. You will need these when you grow up, and if you don't learn now, how are you supposed to live on your own? Do a nice thing to your parents, not for making them happy, but if you make others happy, you will feel a better person too. 1-5. Be respectful to your elders. Don't answer back, use bad language, or act bored when they are talking to you. You don't have to always be obedient, but be respectful. Not only to your elders, to everyone, even the bad kids in your school. You will earn respect from others too and feel happier, because you know you are doing the right thing. 1-6. Try to be forgiving. Parents are humans too and can make mistakes. Instead of snapping back at them or patronizing them, be mature and try to understand their situation. Ignore the aspects which you don't like and instead focus on what you like in them. 1-7. Be grateful. It is not easy to be a parent. As a child, we are not even aware of the hard times they may have gone through while raising us when we were infants and toddlers. Recognize their good qualities and appreciate them for all the good they have done for you. You should be grateful because they made you see this world. You know how hard and painful is pregnancy? And be grateful to everything in life, not only parents. Focus on the present and be grateful, you will feel better. 1-8. Treat siblings with love and respect if you have them. Treat them as you want them to treat you. If your siblings are younger, help them. When they want to play with you, play with them (unless you are doing chores or homework; then tell them no politely). They look up to you and admire you so set a good example. If your sibling(s) are older, then respect them and look up to them. They might not be your parents or even adults, but they are still your elders. 1-9. Do something nice for your parents. After all, they've been doing so much for you! A simple homemade gift or card works well. You can also do some chores. Actually a simple thanks works. They don't want much. Just, "thanks". 1-10. Get good marks and school reports if possible. Your parents will be happy if you get an A or a B, but actually you should want to get good grades for yourself! You don't get a mark for them, but for yourself. The marks are only a letter or a number. They show how much did you study or your engagement or your level. Pay attention in class and do your homework. Use a weekly planner, so you already know what you have to do! Study and work hard. Parents and teachers don't only look at your grades, they look if you studied or not. If you get a bad mark, don't worry. Just don't hide it from your parents, they will find out anyway. They care about your education, not your grades. Consider that studying is a privilege. Lots of children, especially girls, don't get access to education. Even if you don't go to a private school, you are still luckier than many children in the world. And, education will lead to better jobs and to a quality life, and of course to culture. It makes you more creative, more intelligent, and teaches you to not believe everything, to give you your own opinion, to not follow the wrong paths, to not repeat the same errors in history! It makes you understand more, know more, and see the world as it is. So, study for yourself, not for your parents and marks! 2. Grooming 2-1. Stop wearing clothing with offensive messages on them. Find your style: goth, dark academia, punk, preppy, kawaii, cottagecore, steampunk, VSCO, ulzzang, emo...and these are only a few! Or if you just want to wear jeans and T-shirt, go for it. You should start developing your own style. 2-2. Don't wear too much makeup, if your parents don't want you to. If you desperately want makeup, ask your parents nicely and give some reasons. If they say no, please don't throw tantrums or such, ask for the reason instead. Maybe your style needs makeup, in that case, if your parents allow it go for it! This isn't for your parents, this is for you. Make-up is fun, it makes you experiment and feel different, but if it becomes a mask that you can't leave, ask you some questions. And remember, everyone can be beautiful even without makeup! 2-3. Care for your personal hygiene and health. Parents/guardians shouldn't have to nag you to take a shower/bath. You should care about it for yourself, not them. Wash your face every day and brush your teeth every day. Tips Be mature, sensible and reliable. Keep your room tidy. Don't bully anyone even if everyone else does. Warnings Turn your phone off in class. Only take it to school if it is allowed in the school and also by your parents. Don't swear or speak ill of anyone. Don't get any kind of punishments in school, including being told off, so don't talk when the teacher's talking, don't forget equipment, and don't chew gum in class.
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Adults will generally know more than you just because they have been around longer.\\n1-4. Do chores without being asked.\\nIf you can see that something needs doing, do it. If you overhear your mother complaining about having to do the dishes, give her a surprise and do them for her.\\nThis isn't about being obedient. You will need these when you grow up, and if you don't learn now, how are you supposed to live on your own?\\nDo a nice thing to your parents, not for making them happy, but if you make others happy, you will feel a better person too.\\n1-5. Be respectful to your elders.\\nDon't answer back, use bad language, or act bored when they are talking to you.\\nYou don't have to always be obedient, but be respectful. Not only to your elders, to everyone, even the bad kids in your school. You will earn respect from others too and feel happier, because you know you are doing the right thing.\\n1-6. Try to be forgiving.\\nParents are humans too and can make mistakes. Instead of snapping back at them or patronizing them, be mature and try to understand their situation. Ignore the aspects which you don't like and instead focus on what you like in them.\\n1-7. Be grateful.\\nIt is not easy to be a parent. As a child, we are not even aware of the hard times they may have gone through while raising us when we were infants and toddlers. Recognize their good qualities and appreciate them for all the good they have done for you. You should be grateful because they made you see this world. You know how hard and painful is pregnancy? And be grateful to everything in life, not only parents. Focus on the present and be grateful, you will feel better.\\n1-8. Treat siblings with love and respect if you have them.\\nTreat them as you want them to treat you. If your siblings are younger, help them. When they want to play with you, play with them (unless you are doing chores or homework; then tell them no politely). They look up to you and admire you so set a good example. If your sibling(s) are older, then respect them and look up to them. They might not be your parents or even adults, but they are still your elders.\\n1-9. Do something nice for your parents.\\nAfter all, they've been doing so much for you! A simple homemade gift or card works well. You can also do some chores. Actually a simple thanks works. They don't want much. Just, \\\"thanks\\\".\\n1-10. Get good marks and school reports if possible.\\nYour parents will be happy if you get an A or a B, but actually you should want to get good grades for yourself! You don't get a mark for them, but for yourself. The marks are only a letter or a number. They show how much did you study or your engagement or your level.\\nPay attention in class and do your homework. Use a weekly planner, so you already know what you have to do!\\nStudy and work hard. Parents and teachers don't only look at your grades, they look if you studied or not.\\nIf you get a bad mark, don't worry. Just don't hide it from your parents, they will find out anyway. They care about your education, not your grades.\\nConsider that studying is a privilege. Lots of children, especially girls, don't get access to education. Even if you don't go to a private school, you are still luckier than many children in the world. And, education will lead to better jobs and to a quality life, and of course to culture. It makes you more creative, more intelligent, and teaches you to not believe everything, to give you your own opinion, to not follow the wrong paths, to not repeat the same errors in history! It makes you understand more, know more, and see the world as it is. So, study for yourself, not for your parents and marks!\\n2. Grooming\\n2-1. Stop wearing clothing with offensive messages on them.\\nFind your style: goth, dark academia, punk, preppy, kawaii, cottagecore, steampunk, VSCO, ulzzang, emo...and these are only a few! Or if you just want to wear jeans and T-shirt, go for it. You should start developing your own style.\\n2-2. Don't wear too much makeup, if your parents don't want you to.\\nIf you desperately want makeup, ask your parents nicely and give some reasons. If they say no, please don't throw tantrums or such, ask for the reason instead.\\nMaybe your style needs makeup, in that case, if your parents allow it go for it!\\nThis isn't for your parents, this is for you. Make-up is fun, it makes you experiment and feel different, but if it becomes a mask that you can't leave, ask you some questions. And remember, everyone can be beautiful even without makeup!\\n2-3. Care for your personal hygiene and health.\\nParents/guardians shouldn't have to nag you to take a shower/bath. You should care about it for yourself, not them. Wash your face every day and brush your teeth every day.\\nTips\\nBe mature, sensible and reliable.\\nKeep your room tidy.\\nDon't bully anyone even if everyone else does.\\nWarnings\\nTurn your phone off in class. Only take it to school if it is allowed in the school and also by your parents.\\nDon't swear or speak ill of anyone.\\nDon't get any kind of punishments in school, including being told off, so don't talk when the teacher's talking, don't forget equipment, and don't chew gum in class.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to be a better person? Do you hate that look of disappointment in your parents eyes? Or do your parents favour a more obedient, mature sibling and you want to be like them? Then it's time to respect your elders, not just because you will make them happier, but it will make for a more respectful environment.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Respect\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand that your parents are adults and you are a child.\", \"描述\": \"So they probably have more experience than you and this is why you should not obey, but just give a try to their tips. They have been kids too once and probably are just worried for you! Of course there are exceptions, but usually parents want the best for you and try to make sure you don't make their past errors.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be more obedient.\", \"描述\": \"No, you don't have to obey all of their orders like a soldier. But, if they tell you to do your homework, do it, for example. And you don't have to follow everything to the letter. I recommend you to think a bit before doing that. If your mother tells you to wash the dishes, for example, they probably just would like you to help.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Accept that you are a child.\", \"描述\": \"You may not like this, but it's true, you are a child, even if you are intelligent. Adults will generally know more than you just because they have been around longer.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do chores without being asked.\", \"描述\": \"If you can see that something needs doing, do it. If you overhear your mother complaining about having to do the dishes, give her a surprise and do them for her.\\nThis isn't about being obedient. You will need these when you grow up, and if you don't learn now, how are you supposed to live on your own?\\nDo a nice thing to your parents, not for making them happy, but if you make others happy, you will feel a better person too.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be respectful to your elders.\", \"描述\": \"Don't answer back, use bad language, or act bored when they are talking to you.\\nYou don't have to always be obedient, but be respectful. Not only to your elders, to everyone, even the bad kids in your school. You will earn respect from others too and feel happier, because you know you are doing the right thing.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try to be forgiving.\", \"描述\": \"Parents are humans too and can make mistakes. Instead of snapping back at them or patronizing them, be mature and try to understand their situation. Ignore the aspects which you don't like and instead focus on what you like in them.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be grateful.\", \"描述\": \"It is not easy to be a parent. As a child, we are not even aware of the hard times they may have gone through while raising us when we were infants and toddlers. Recognize their good qualities and appreciate them for all the good they have done for you. You should be grateful because they made you see this world. You know how hard and painful is pregnancy? And be grateful to everything in life, not only parents. Focus on the present and be grateful, you will feel better.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Treat siblings with love and respect if you have them.\", \"描述\": \"Treat them as you want them to treat you. If your siblings are younger, help them. When they want to play with you, play with them (unless you are doing chores or homework; then tell them no politely). They look up to you and admire you so set a good example. If your sibling(s) are older, then respect them and look up to them. They might not be your parents or even adults, but they are still your elders.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Do something nice for your parents.\", \"描述\": \"After all, they've been doing so much for you! A simple homemade gift or card works well. You can also do some chores. Actually a simple thanks works. They don't want much. Just, \\\"thanks\\\".\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Get good marks and school reports if possible.\", \"描述\": \"Your parents will be happy if you get an A or a B, but actually you should want to get good grades for yourself! You don't get a mark for them, but for yourself. The marks are only a letter or a number. They show how much did you study or your engagement or your level.\\nPay attention in class and do your homework. Use a weekly planner, so you already know what you have to do!\\nStudy and work hard. Parents and teachers don't only look at your grades, they look if you studied or not.\\nIf you get a bad mark, don't worry. Just don't hide it from your parents, they will find out anyway. They care about your education, not your grades.\\nConsider that studying is a privilege. Lots of children, especially girls, don't get access to education. Even if you don't go to a private school, you are still luckier than many children in the world. And, education will lead to better jobs and to a quality life, and of course to culture. It makes you more creative, more intelligent, and teaches you to not believe everything, to give you your own opinion, to not follow the wrong paths, to not repeat the same errors in history! It makes you understand more, know more, and see the world as it is. So, study for yourself, not for your parents and marks!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Grooming\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stop wearing clothing with offensive messages on them.\", \"描述\": \"Find your style: goth, dark academia, punk, preppy, kawaii, cottagecore, steampunk, VSCO, ulzzang, emo...and these are only a few! Or if you just want to wear jeans and T-shirt, go for it. You should start developing your own style.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't wear too much makeup, if your parents don't want you to.\", \"描述\": \"If you desperately want makeup, ask your parents nicely and give some reasons. If they say no, please don't throw tantrums or such, ask for the reason instead.\\nMaybe your style needs makeup, in that case, if your parents allow it go for it!\\nThis isn't for your parents, this is for you. Make-up is fun, it makes you experiment and feel different, but if it becomes a mask that you can't leave, ask you some questions. And remember, everyone can be beautiful even without makeup!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Care for your personal hygiene and health.\", \"描述\": \"Parents/guardians shouldn't have to nag you to take a shower/bath. You should care about it for yourself, not them. Wash your face every day and brush your teeth every day.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be mature, sensible and reliable.\\n\", \"Keep your room tidy.\\n\", \"Don't bully anyone even if everyone else does.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Turn your phone off in class. Only take it to school if it is allowed in the school and also by your parents.\\n\", \"Don't swear or speak ill of anyone.\\n\", \"Don't get any kind of punishments in school, including being told off, so don't talk when the teacher's talking, don't forget equipment, and don't chew gum in class.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Office Manager
1. Performing Daily Tasks 1-1. Keep a clean office. As the office manager, the cleanliness and safety of the office and your employees are your responsibility. This means getting an outside maintenance company to regularly clean the office or working with an internal cleaning crew to keep things clean. 1-2. Answer phone calls and respond to emails and voicemails. One of your main responsibilities as an office manager will be to answer and respond to customer and client phone calls. This means taking messages and delivering the messages to the appropriate people in your office. It will also mean answering questions and solving problems for the rest of your internal office staff. 1-3. Recruit and onboard new employees. As an office manager, it may be your responsibility to interview and recruit new employees. If you have to do this as part of your responsibilities, it's important that you build a process and get all the necessary paperwork signed and filled out by new hires. It might also be your duty as an office manager to train new hires and get them acclimated to the office. 1-4. Maintain an office budget. You may be tasked with creating and maintaining an office budget. This can range from simple office supplies like ink, paper, and pens to more complex expenses like payroll, utilities, equipment, and money for office design upgrades. Think of all of your potential expenses throughout the year and come up with a realistic estimate of how much everything will cost. You can ask to see previous year's budgets to understand what yours should consist of. 1-5. Handle customer complaints and comments. If there is a serious customer complaint, you may have to resolve it. When you do get feedback from clients, it's also important that you communicate it to the other departments in your office so that they can adjust their operations accordingly. If you see a reoccurring complaint, you know it's a common problem that may need greater action, like a change in the way you do things. 1-6. Create emergency procedures and follow regulations. Another way to ensure office safety is by making sure that everything is up to code and that there are no healthy or safety hazards in your office. If there are no emergency procedures in place in case of an emergency like fire or flood, you should work with management to develop them. You may also be tasked with training employees on how to evacuate the building and stay safe in case of such an emergency. 2. Building Useful Skills 2-1. Develop stellar communication. To be a good office manager, you'll need to develop clear and concise written and verbal communication in your office. As the leader, people will be looking up to you to set the standards for communication. Make sure that all of your commands are clear and try to be as detailed as possible when giving people instructions. Good communication also means being clear and concise in emails. Avoid shorthand and be detailed in your emails. Miscommunication between employees can create chaos and hurt your offices' productivity. Step in when employees have disagreements and resolve the problem. 2-2. Be able to adapt and multitask. Being agile and goal-oriented will help you as an office manager. Often, you'll be involved with multiple departments and could be contributing to more than one project at once. Roll with the punches and be ready to problem-solve any issues that your team might come across. As office manager, you'll need to drive your team to the end goal and that means dealing with any unexpected problems that could arise. Don't get bogged down and frustrated because it will set the mood for the rest of the office. Handle one thing at a time and troubleshoot issues as they come. 2-3. Stay organized. It's important that all of the projects that you're involved in stay separated and organized because you'll most likely take part in multiple projects simultaneously. As the manager, people will be relying on you to properly archive information and manage it in a way that is transparent to the other people working on the project. Keep good records, log everything you can, keep lists of what you need to do, and make sure that your staff has access to the information they need. Each project should have a dedicated folder and sometimes contain subfolders so that you can quickly and easily access information. 2-4. Keep a calm, positive attitude. A good office manager is calm under pressure and is constantly a source of motivation to their employees in the office. The more volatile your management style, the more chaotic the office will be. Keep a professional demeanor when it comes to your employees and clients, and be there for employees that need help or motivation. 3. Getting the Right Education and Experience 3-1. Graduate high school or get your GED. Typically, office manager positions require a minimum of a high school degree or a GED. If you want to be an office manager, make sure that you graduate high school first or take a course to get your GED. 3-2. Attain a higher degree. If you want to improve the chances of getting considered, an associate or bachelor's degree in business administration will make you stand out. If you want to be an office manager in a highly specialized or technical industry, a bachelor's or master's degree in that industry will vastly improve your chances of getting the job. 3-3. Get experience working in an office. Many office managers start as administrative or office assistants. To improve your chances of landing an office manager job, try to get experience ordering supplies, assisting another office administrator, doing customer service, performing facilities maintenance, or managing a team. These skills will transfer to an office manager role. 4. Getting the Job 4-1. Talk to your HR department to get promoted to office manager. If you already work in an office and there's a vacancy for an office manager position, you should schedule a meeting with HR and see if you can apply for the job. Some companies would rather hire office managers internally and this can be the opportunity you need to get your foot in the door. 4-2. Search online for job openings. Look at popular job boards and search for office manager positions. Try to find positions in industries that you already have experience in to maximize the chances of landing the job. 4-3. Submit your application and resume. Your resume should highlight any professional skills that you have and any technical, organizational, or administrative skills that you possess. Experience maintaining office equipment like database systems, computers, printers, and phones will come in handy. Analytical, finance, organization, and management skills are also beneficial for an office manager. Think of times when you had to organize and manage people in school projects if you don't have professional experience. 4-4. Go on interviews. When you interview, you'll likely be asked about your conflict resolution, organizational, and financial skills. Be ready to answer any applicable questions that could be thrown your way and make sure to emphasize your administrative knowledge and skill. If you're interviewing for an office manager in a highly technical field like medicine or engineering, be ready to answer any technical questions that may be thrown your way. Make sure to do your homework before the interview by doing plenty of research about the organization, role, interviewer, and anything else about the job that you aren't super well-versed in.
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As the leader, people will be looking up to you to set the standards for communication. Make sure that all of your commands are clear and try to be as detailed as possible when giving people instructions.\\nGood communication also means being clear and concise in emails. Avoid shorthand and be detailed in your emails.\\nMiscommunication between employees can create chaos and hurt your offices' productivity. Step in when employees have disagreements and resolve the problem.\\n2-2. Be able to adapt and multitask.\\nBeing agile and goal-oriented will help you as an office manager. Often, you'll be involved with multiple departments and could be contributing to more than one project at once. Roll with the punches and be ready to problem-solve any issues that your team might come across. As office manager, you'll need to drive your team to the end goal and that means dealing with any unexpected problems that could arise.\\nDon't get bogged down and frustrated because it will set the mood for the rest of the office.\\nHandle one thing at a time and troubleshoot issues as they come.\\n2-3. Stay organized.\\nIt's important that all of the projects that you're involved in stay separated and organized because you'll most likely take part in multiple projects simultaneously. As the manager, people will be relying on you to properly archive information and manage it in a way that is transparent to the other people working on the project. Keep good records, log everything you can, keep lists of what you need to do, and make sure that your staff has access to the information they need.\\nEach project should have a dedicated folder and sometimes contain subfolders so that you can quickly and easily access information.\\n2-4. Keep a calm, positive attitude.\\nA good office manager is calm under pressure and is constantly a source of motivation to their employees in the office. The more volatile your management style, the more chaotic the office will be. Keep a professional demeanor when it comes to your employees and clients, and be there for employees that need help or motivation.\\n3. Getting the Right Education and Experience\\n3-1. Graduate high school or get your GED.\\nTypically, office manager positions require a minimum of a high school degree or a GED. If you want to be an office manager, make sure that you graduate high school first or take a course to get your GED.\\n3-2. Attain a higher degree.\\nIf you want to improve the chances of getting considered, an associate or bachelor's degree in business administration will make you stand out. 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Search online for job openings.\\nLook at popular job boards and search for office manager positions. Try to find positions in industries that you already have experience in to maximize the chances of landing the job.\\n4-3. Submit your application and resume.\\nYour resume should highlight any professional skills that you have and any technical, organizational, or administrative skills that you possess. Experience maintaining office equipment like database systems, computers, printers, and phones will come in handy.\\nAnalytical, finance, organization, and management skills are also beneficial for an office manager.\\nThink of times when you had to organize and manage people in school projects if you don't have professional experience.\\n4-4. Go on interviews.\\nWhen you interview, you'll likely be asked about your conflict resolution, organizational, and financial skills. 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Luckily, with the right education, experience, and knowledge, you can become an office manager and thrive in the position.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Performing Daily Tasks\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep a clean office.\", \"描述\": \"As the office manager, the cleanliness and safety of the office and your employees are your responsibility. This means getting an outside maintenance company to regularly clean the office or working with an internal cleaning crew to keep things clean.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Answer phone calls and respond to emails and voicemails.\", \"描述\": \"One of your main responsibilities as an office manager will be to answer and respond to customer and client phone calls. This means taking messages and delivering the messages to the appropriate people in your office. 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How to Be an Openly Gay Christian
1. Finding Community 1-1. Find an affirming congregation. Find community in a church that affirms your orientation. There are congregations of even the most traditionally homophobic denominations that declare themselves "Affirming" or LGBTQ friendly. Acceptance and affirmation has grown among most U.S. Christian groups, and over half of U.S. Christians accept gay people. Search for churches in the Affirming Church Directory: http://www.gaychurch.org/find_a_church/ Most denominations have gay-friendly churches, but you might have luck with a UCC, Quaker, or Unitarian Universalist church. Look for churches that have LGBTQ affinity groups, Gay Straight Alliances, mentoring programs for queer youth, and diversity-affirming committees. Consider finding a church with an LGBTQ pastor. If there are no congregations near where you live, consider streaming online church services from a gay-affirming church and participating in related message boards. 1-2. Connect with other LGBTQ people of faith. It can feel like you have to choose between having a faith community and a queer community, but you don't! In the United States, almost half of gay and lesbian people identify as Christian, while many more belong to other faith traditions. Consider joining an interfaith group for gay people. 1-3. Join an online community. If you are living in an isolated area, or if you are unable or afraid to meet other gay Christians in person, look online. There are infinite message boards, social media groups, and websites for gay Christians. Just search for what you are looking for, make some friends, and ask all your burning questions. Find a general LGBTQ friendly message board and start a discussion about faith. 2. Coming Out 2-1. Come out to potential allies first. If you are working on coming out of the closet, start by talking to people who you think will support you. If you know any gay people, start with them. People who you know to be liberal, radical, open-minded, or simply thoughtful are also good candidates. If you don't know anyone like this, practice by talking it through with your online community. 2-2. Come out to your family. Be open about your orientation to your family if you safely can. You may want to talk to one family member first, or you may just want to talk to a few of your closest relatives as a group. Say something like "I need to tell you something I know about myself that you may not know. This is something that has been true about me my whole life, and while I've struggled with it, I've come to accept that it is part of who I am." Reassure them that you know what you are talking about, that you have always been gay, and that you are still a Christian. Offer helpful materials. Look for materials meant to support Christians with gay family members. Direct them to websites with resources for Christian parents: http://www.themarinfoundation.org/resources/resources-for-parents/ If you are a minor who lives at home and is financially dependent on your family, consider waiting to come out until you are able to support yourself. If you live with homophobic family members, have a backup plan before you come out, or if you fear being outed. Locate a shelter, or ask a relative or close friend if you can stay with them if you are left homeless. 2-3. Ask your pastor for help. Speak to your minister to see if you can count on them for support. If you are coming out to your family or members of your community, having your faith leader in your corner is essential. If your family attends a different church, consider speaking to their pastor. Only do this if you have attended the church before, or if you have your family's permission: otherwise they may feel violated. 3. Standing Up for Yourself 3-1. Assert your identity. One simple way to be openly gay is to refuse false labels. People who do not know your orientation or who refuse to accept it may refer to you as straight. Gently and firmly correct them. If they say, "Sondra is going to make some lucky man very happy someday," you can counter with, "I'm not attracted to men, actually. I might make some lucky woman very happy someday, though!" Be open about your relationships. Do not let people refer to your partner as your "friend." Say, "Ben is my best friend in the world, but he's my partner of four years. Please refer to him as my partner or my boyfriend." 3-2. Argue if it feels worth it. If your family members or close friends are engaging you on the topic but still have reservations, go ahead and argue with them. Listen to them respectfully, and ask them to do the same for you. If they say you're confused, rebelling, or have "chosen" to identify as gay, all you can do is say that you understand why they think that, but it's not true. Tell them they have to trust you. If they say you are sinning, you can explain why you think you aren't, but acknowledge that it is not for you or them to judge. If your family is worried that gay love is a sin, it's up to you how much you care to share with them. You don't have to say anything at all. If you are only planning on having sex within the bounds of marriage, or remaining abstinent altogether, you can offer that up as a kind of chastity the Bible supports. If you aren't, point out that the Bible is against all sorts of lust, and doesn't really account for most contemporary partnerships. Don't get sucked into endless arguments about the Bible and gay love with anyone who harasses you. You don't have to defend your orientation: you are who you are. 3-3. Counter Biblical arguments. While interpretation of the Bible varies over time and between denominations, many Christians rely on a few short passages to condemn gay people. You may want to point out the many passage of the Bible we don't follow to the letter, or you may want to engage them on the interpretation of the passages in question. Remind them that Genesis 19 is about the gang-rape of angels, and actual gay people are never mentioned in connection to Sodom. Point out that Romans 1:26-27 and Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13 are about teaching against worship of false gods, and that context may explain the language about gay sex. If they bring up I Corinthians 6:9 or I Timothy 1:10, tell them the translation of the Greek words "malakos" and "arsenokoites" as "gay" is controversial, as that meaning was rare when the words were most common. Remind them that Christianity is, at its core, about love and acceptance of one another and treating others with respect and dignity. 3-4. Be a good ally. Being a gay Christian can feel like enough work on its own. You may feel excluded from the broader LGBTQ community, or like your concerns aren't shared by many gay people. Learn to accept that you are a part of the broader queer community, and do your best to have empathy, compassion, and understanding of the diversity of concerns that encompasses. Don't be shy about your faith around other LGBTQ people. Remember, half of them are Christians, and a lot of the rest practice other faiths, are spiritual, or love people who are religious. Accept and affirm transgender individuals. They are the most vulnerable portion of the LGBTQ population. Apply intersectional thinking to your activism. As a gay Christian, you understand that no single identity category suffices to define one's position in the world. Consider the unique positions of LGBTQ people who are people of color, who are disabled, who are first-generation college students, who are refugees…
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Acceptance and affirmation has grown among most U.S. Christian groups, and over half of U.S. Christians accept gay people.\\nSearch for churches in the Affirming Church Directory: http://www.gaychurch.org/find_a_church/\\nMost denominations have gay-friendly churches, but you might have luck with a UCC, Quaker, or Unitarian Universalist church.\\nLook for churches that have LGBTQ affinity groups, Gay Straight Alliances, mentoring programs for queer youth, and diversity-affirming committees.\\nConsider finding a church with an LGBTQ pastor.\\nIf there are no congregations near where you live, consider streaming online church services from a gay-affirming church and participating in related message boards.\\n1-2. Connect with other LGBTQ people of faith.\\nIt can feel like you have to choose between having a faith community and a queer community, but you don't! In the United States, almost half of gay and lesbian people identify as Christian, while many more belong to other faith traditions.\\nConsider joining an interfaith group for gay people.\\n1-3. Join an online community.\\nIf you are living in an isolated area, or if you are unable or afraid to meet other gay Christians in person, look online. There are infinite message boards, social media groups, and websites for gay Christians. Just search for what you are looking for, make some friends, and ask all your burning questions.\\nFind a general LGBTQ friendly message board and start a discussion about faith.\\n2. Coming Out\\n2-1. Come out to potential allies first.\\nIf you are working on coming out of the closet, start by talking to people who you think will support you. If you know any gay people, start with them. People who you know to be liberal, radical, open-minded, or simply thoughtful are also good candidates.\\nIf you don't know anyone like this, practice by talking it through with your online community.\\n2-2. Come out to your family.\\nBe open about your orientation to your family if you safely can. You may want to talk to one family member first, or you may just want to talk to a few of your closest relatives as a group.\\nSay something like \\\"I need to tell you something I know about myself that you may not know. This is something that has been true about me my whole life, and while I've struggled with it, I've come to accept that it is part of who I am.\\\"\\nReassure them that you know what you are talking about, that you have always been gay, and that you are still a Christian.\\nOffer helpful materials. Look for materials meant to support Christians with gay family members.\\nDirect them to websites with resources for Christian parents: http://www.themarinfoundation.org/resources/resources-for-parents/\\nIf you are a minor who lives at home and is financially dependent on your family, consider waiting to come out until you are able to support yourself.\\nIf you live with homophobic family members, have a backup plan before you come out, or if you fear being outed. Locate a shelter, or ask a relative or close friend if you can stay with them if you are left homeless.\\n2-3. Ask your pastor for help.\\nSpeak to your minister to see if you can count on them for support. If you are coming out to your family or members of your community, having your faith leader in your corner is essential.\\nIf your family attends a different church, consider speaking to their pastor. Only do this if you have attended the church before, or if you have your family's permission: otherwise they may feel violated.\\n3. Standing Up for Yourself\\n3-1. Assert your identity.\\nOne simple way to be openly gay is to refuse false labels. People who do not know your orientation or who refuse to accept it may refer to you as straight. Gently and firmly correct them. If they say, \\\"Sondra is going to make some lucky man very happy someday,\\\" you can counter with, \\\"I'm not attracted to men, actually. I might make some lucky woman very happy someday, though!\\\"\\nBe open about your relationships. Do not let people refer to your partner as your \\\"friend.\\\" Say, \\\"Ben is my best friend in the world, but he's my partner of four years. Please refer to him as my partner or my boyfriend.\\\"\\n3-2. Argue if it feels worth it.\\nIf your family members or close friends are engaging you on the topic but still have reservations, go ahead and argue with them. Listen to them respectfully, and ask them to do the same for you.\\nIf they say you're confused, rebelling, or have \\\"chosen\\\" to identify as gay, all you can do is say that you understand why they think that, but it's not true. Tell them they have to trust you.\\nIf they say you are sinning, you can explain why you think you aren't, but acknowledge that it is not for you or them to judge.\\nIf your family is worried that gay love is a sin, it's up to you how much you care to share with them. You don't have to say anything at all.\\nIf you are only planning on having sex within the bounds of marriage, or remaining abstinent altogether, you can offer that up as a kind of chastity the Bible supports.\\nIf you aren't, point out that the Bible is against all sorts of lust, and doesn't really account for most contemporary partnerships.\\nDon't get sucked into endless arguments about the Bible and gay love with anyone who harasses you. You don't have to defend your orientation: you are who you are.\\n3-3. Counter Biblical arguments.\\nWhile interpretation of the Bible varies over time and between denominations, many Christians rely on a few short passages to condemn gay people. You may want to point out the many passage of the Bible we don't follow to the letter, or you may want to engage them on the interpretation of the passages in question.\\nRemind them that Genesis 19 is about the gang-rape of angels, and actual gay people are never mentioned in connection to Sodom.\\nPoint out that Romans 1:26-27 and Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13 are about teaching against worship of false gods, and that context may explain the language about gay sex.\\nIf they bring up I Corinthians 6:9 or I Timothy 1:10, tell them the translation of the Greek words \\\"malakos\\\" and \\\"arsenokoites\\\" as \\\"gay\\\" is controversial, as that meaning was rare when the words were most common.\\nRemind them that Christianity is, at its core, about love and acceptance of one another and treating others with respect and dignity.\\n3-4. Be a good ally.\\nBeing a gay Christian can feel like enough work on its own. You may feel excluded from the broader LGBTQ community, or like your concerns aren't shared by many gay people. Learn to accept that you are a part of the broader queer community, and do your best to have empathy, compassion, and understanding of the diversity of concerns that encompasses.\\nDon't be shy about your faith around other LGBTQ people. Remember, half of them are Christians, and a lot of the rest practice other faiths, are spiritual, or love people who are religious.\\nAccept and affirm transgender individuals. They are the most vulnerable portion of the LGBTQ population.\\nApply intersectional thinking to your activism. As a gay Christian, you understand that no single identity category suffices to define one's position in the world. Consider the unique positions of LGBTQ people who are people of color, who are disabled, who are first-generation college students, who are refugees…\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being open about your sexual orientation should be as easy as breathing, but in reality, it takes conscious effort and a little practice. First, consider what the Bible says about gay love, and truly decide if that is the path you wish to fight for. Learn all you can from strong Christian teachers, and see how it compares to what the gay community tells you about gay Christians. By allowing yourself to learn from strong leaders, you will be able to make the best decisions moving forward.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Finding Community\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find an affirming congregation.\", \"描述\": \"Find community in a church that affirms your orientation. There are congregations of even the most traditionally homophobic denominations that declare themselves \\\"Affirming\\\" or LGBTQ friendly. Acceptance and affirmation has grown among most U.S. Christian groups, and over half of U.S. Christians accept gay people.\\nSearch for churches in the Affirming Church Directory: http://www.gaychurch.org/find_a_church/\\nMost denominations have gay-friendly churches, but you might have luck with a UCC, Quaker, or Unitarian Universalist church.\\nLook for churches that have LGBTQ affinity groups, Gay Straight Alliances, mentoring programs for queer youth, and diversity-affirming committees.\\nConsider finding a church with an LGBTQ pastor.\\nIf there are no congregations near where you live, consider streaming online church services from a gay-affirming church and participating in related message boards.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Connect with other LGBTQ people of faith.\", \"描述\": \"It can feel like you have to choose between having a faith community and a queer community, but you don't! In the United States, almost half of gay and lesbian people identify as Christian, while many more belong to other faith traditions.\\nConsider joining an interfaith group for gay people.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join an online community.\", \"描述\": \"If you are living in an isolated area, or if you are unable or afraid to meet other gay Christians in person, look online. There are infinite message boards, social media groups, and websites for gay Christians. Just search for what you are looking for, make some friends, and ask all your burning questions.\\nFind a general LGBTQ friendly message board and start a discussion about faith.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Coming Out\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Come out to potential allies first.\", \"描述\": \"If you are working on coming out of the closet, start by talking to people who you think will support you. If you know any gay people, start with them. 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Look for materials meant to support Christians with gay family members.\\nDirect them to websites with resources for Christian parents: http://www.themarinfoundation.org/resources/resources-for-parents/\\nIf you are a minor who lives at home and is financially dependent on your family, consider waiting to come out until you are able to support yourself.\\nIf you live with homophobic family members, have a backup plan before you come out, or if you fear being outed. Locate a shelter, or ask a relative or close friend if you can stay with them if you are left homeless.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask your pastor for help.\", \"描述\": \"Speak to your minister to see if you can count on them for support. If you are coming out to your family or members of your community, having your faith leader in your corner is essential.\\nIf your family attends a different church, consider speaking to their pastor. 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1. Taking the Traditional Path to Ordination 1-1. Have a calling. Traditionally, ordained Christian ministers have felt a strong pull to become spiritual leaders. They are members of a particular Christian sect or church and believe that they are meant to serve their communities in the name of God. Services performed by ordained Christian ministers include: Performing baptisms. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/a\/a3\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet1-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet1-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/a\/a3\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet1-Version-2.jpg\/aid1045021-v4-728px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet1-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} Officiating weddings and funerals. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/11\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet2-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet2-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/1\/11\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet2-Version-2.jpg\/aid1045021-v4-728px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet2-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} Providing spiritual counseling. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/f\/fc\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet3-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet3-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/f\/fc\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet3-Version-2.jpg\/aid1045021-v4-728px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet3-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} Working as chaplains. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/3d\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet4-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet4-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/3\/3d\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet4-Version-2.jpg\/aid1045021-v4-728px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet4-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} Working as missionaries. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/5\/5d\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet5-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet5-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/5\/5d\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet5-Version-2.jpg\/aid1045021-v4-728px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet5-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} Founding new churches. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/36\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet6-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet6-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/3\/36\/Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet6-Version-2.jpg\/aid1045021-v4-728px-Be-an-Ordained-Minister-Step-1Bullet6-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} 1-2. Have a college degree. Traditionally-ordained ministers obtain their licenses through bible or seminary schools, which are effectively graduate programs. Like most graduate programs, entrance into theological programs requires a college degree. 1-3. Apply to bible school or seminary. Depending on the program, candidates will take courses in theology, philosophy, and other courses meant to provide preparation for a life devoted to religious service. A Master of Divinity degree is awarded at the end of the program. Becoming ordained as a minister through school was the most common path before online ordination became possible. Receiving ordination through school can take several years, and it can be quite expensive. In some cases, a church or religious community will sponsor a member who feels called to ministry. 1-4. Receive your ordained minister license. At the completion of the theological program, an ordained minister license will be granted. This grants you the legal ability to perform marriage ceremonies and other services that fall under the purview of ordained ministers. 1-5. Become a minister at a particular church. Churches perform their own ordination ceremonies after an application process has been completed. In most cases candidates will be expected to attend additional classes and undergo a presentation and interview process before ordination is granted by church officials. Ordination with a particular church typically means that the church will employ you for your services. In addition to conducting religious ceremonies, ministers affiliated with churches usually actively serve their communities by visiting the sick, holding educational programs, leading church trips and so on. 2. Getting Ordained Online 2-1. Have a purpose. People of all religious beliefs and levels of education are free to become ordained ministers. Most people pursue online ordination with a specific purpose in mind, such as an invitation to officiate a friend's wedding or preside over a funeral. 2-2. Find an organization that provides online ordination. There are hundreds of organizations to choose from, some religious, some not. The Universal Life Church, founded in the fifties, is one of the oldest and most popular sources of online ordained minister licenses. The Celebrant Foundation and Institute is a nonreligious organization has potential ministers take online classes on how to create a personal, meaningful wedding ceremony before they are granted ordained minister licenses. 2-3. Apply for ordination. Most online ordination applications are short and simple, and they're usually free. Expect to submit the following information: Your name, address, and email address. An optional reason for pursuing ordination. In some cases you may mail a written request for ordination to the address provided. 2-4. Wait for your ordination application to be approved. Your application will be reviewed by the organization, and you will receive an email if it is approved. Some organizations will send you an ordination certificate and handbook. Some organizations offer special packages with additional certificates and accessories. 3. Using your Ordained Minister License 3-1. Know your state laws. In some states, ordained ministers performing a wedding are required to file a copy of their credentials with the state or with the county clerk issuing the marriage license, you could also be asked to submit letters of approval or fulfill other requirements. 3-2. Perform ceremonies. Whether you're officiating a wedding or performing a funeral, make sure you know exactly what your role in the process should be, both legally and in your role as a spiritual or celebratory guide. If you don't sign the marriage certificate or fulfill other legal requirements, the marriage may be void.
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Most people pursue online ordination with a specific purpose in mind, such as an invitation to officiate a friend's wedding or preside over a funeral.\\n2-2. Find an organization that provides online ordination.\\nThere are hundreds of organizations to choose from, some religious, some not.\\nThe Universal Life Church, founded in the fifties, is one of the oldest and most popular sources of online ordained minister licenses.\\nThe Celebrant Foundation and Institute is a nonreligious organization has potential ministers take online classes on how to create a personal, meaningful wedding ceremony before they are granted ordained minister licenses.\\n2-3. Apply for ordination.\\nMost online ordination applications are short and simple, and they're usually free. Expect to submit the following information:\\nYour name, address, and email address.\\nAn optional reason for pursuing ordination.\\nIn some cases you may mail a written request for ordination to the address provided.\\n2-4. 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1. Steps 1-1. Decide that this is the right job for you. Some people think that it is easier to be secretary than treasurer or president, but many meeting veterans will tell you that the secretary's job is much more difficult. 1-2. Meet with the outgoing secretary if possible. Have him or her give you the previous meetings' minutes, correspondences, reports, administrative orders, etc. With any luck, these will already be well organized and ready for you to take them over; if not, read the next step. 1-3. Get a filing cabinet or a briefcase. These should be provided by your organization, but if they are not, buying used is a good first step and an excellent way to reduce unnecessary expenses on your part or on the part of your organization. There are many filing systems that can be employed for administrative documents like meeting minutes, by-laws and so on; read up on these and determine which is the easiest to follow and the cheapest to implement, and stick to that system. If you received the files in a disorganized mess, you don't want to leave them that way for the next secretary when your tenure is completed. 1-4. Learn that good organizational skills make a good secretary. If your organization's office is not well organized, this is something that should be addressed right away. Use the office to store all relevant documentation and try to employ the same filing system that you have used on your filing cabinet. 1-5. Go from small to big when organizing files and documents. Begin by filing all relevant documentation into a filing cabinet or briefcase, and then organize the entire office and organization using the same system, but on a larger scale. That will make the office very user friendly and afford a lot of peace of mind to you and your successor. 1-6. Develop good contacts and use them wisely. A friendly, professional demeanor is very important to an organization's secretary. You will learn very rapidly that most secretaries rely on an intricate network of friends and contacts to conduct day-to-day business. Tips By taking good meeting minutes and providing these in a timely fashion (a one hour meeting should have 1-2 pages of minutes maximum, and these should be submitted to the group for feedback within 5 business days) ensures that members of the organization are on the 'same page' and able to take more effective action sooner.[4] X Research source Always behave in a seemly, professional manner.[5] X Research source Plan ahead. It is the role of the secretary to coordinate company/organization events. You simply cannot run an event on a last-minute schedule. If you need to plan something last-minute, making the event less formal can ease the pressure for your guests and for yourself.[6] X Research source
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They need to be organized, hard working, intelligent, and possess excellent writing skills.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide that this is the right job for you.\", \"描述\": \"Some people think that it is easier to be secretary than treasurer or president, but many meeting veterans will tell you that the secretary's job is much more difficult.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Meet with the outgoing secretary if possible.\", \"描述\": \"Have him or her give you the previous meetings' minutes, correspondences, reports, administrative orders, etc. With any luck, these will already be well organized and ready for you to take them over; if not, read the next step.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a filing cabinet or a briefcase.\", \"描述\": \"These should be provided by your organization, but if they are not, buying used is a good first step and an excellent way to reduce unnecessary expenses on your part or on the part of your organization. There are many filing systems that can be employed for administrative documents like meeting minutes, by-laws and so on; read up on these and determine which is the easiest to follow and the cheapest to implement, and stick to that system. If you received the files in a disorganized mess, you don't want to leave them that way for the next secretary when your tenure is completed.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn that good organizational skills make a good secretary.\", \"描述\": \"If your organization's office is not well organized, this is something that should be addressed right away. Use the office to store all relevant documentation and try to employ the same filing system that you have used on your filing cabinet.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Go from small to big when organizing files and documents.\", \"描述\": \"Begin by filing all relevant documentation into a filing cabinet or briefcase, and then organize the entire office and organization using the same system, but on a larger scale. That will make the office very user friendly and afford a lot of peace of mind to you and your successor.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Develop good contacts and use them wisely.\", \"描述\": \"A friendly, professional demeanor is very important to an organization's secretary. You will learn very rapidly that most secretaries rely on an intricate network of friends and contacts to conduct day-to-day business.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"By taking good meeting minutes and providing these in a timely fashion (a one hour meeting should have 1-2 pages of minutes maximum, and these should be submitted to the group for feedback within 5 business days) ensures that members of the organization are on the 'same page' and able to take more effective action sooner.[4]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Always behave in a seemly, professional manner.[5]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Plan ahead. It is the role of the secretary to coordinate company/organization events. You simply cannot run an event on a last-minute schedule. If you need to plan something last-minute, making the event less formal can ease the pressure for your guests and for yourself.[6]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be an Otherkin Wiccan
1. Steps 1-1. Prepare for some negative reactions. Do not get angry at the negativity and realize that pagans who are not Otherkin themselves are accepting at best and indifferent at worst. Also, it seems that most of the negativity comes from the Internet, not face-to-face meetings. People are a lot more aggressive to others online than in person. Remember that it is your belief and you should stick to it. No amount of trash talking should make you question your belief 1-2. Understand the difference between Otherkin and Therian. Otherkins feel that they are nonhuman. They believe that deep down their mind is similar to a species whose existence hasn't been proved yet. Therians believe they are connected to a species whose presence is already known of. There are no secret rituals or magical spells. It is just a way of thinking and perception. Though many Otherkin do believe in magic and explain their current condition as a result of a spell cast on them a long time ago(when they were living their previous life). You must deeply feel that you are not human but some other creature, this feeling should be strong enough to make you feel uncomfortable when someone calls you human. 1-3. Know that Otherkin behave like rational human beings. Even if you identify yourself as an animal or a mythological creature, it does not mean that you are entirely different from the rest of mankind. A wolf therian does not bite people on sight, he merely feels more conscious about damage to the jungle and feels more deeply hurt when a wolf is harmed. Being Otherkin does not change anything. You keep living your normal life. Being Otherkin just colors your perception a little. Avoid making claims that you can turn into your kin's form. This is called "Physical shifts" and it's frowned upon in the Kin community because it is impossible. Making such claims can get you noted as a troll. 1-4. Understand and Believe in Reincarnation. Most (but not all) Otherkin believe in the form of reincarnation. They believe that their previous life as an animal influences their current human form, which those animalistic tendencies are carried over to this life. This can also be explained by Timothy Leary's eight-circuit model of consciousness, in which the first two circuits are animalistic in nature, while the third is human(it tends to categorize and label things), in Otherkin the third circuit is labeled the first two circuit as an animal within them. 1-5. Understand the Energy Model. Energy is a force which creates magic, which we can further shape and direct to do our bidding. We are made up of energy and that every person poses a unique “energy signature”. This signature can be changed to resonate with “elven” or “draconic” energies leading to some Otherkin identifying themselves as elves or dragons. 1-6. Join Otherkin Communities. Most Otherkin resources can be found online. Otherkins are fairly outgoing and participate in Wiccan gatherings. You should locate and participate in such communities, Tips Don't shove your beliefs down other people's throat. Every person has the right to believe what he/she may want to. Don't force your friends or family to follow your ideals. The Otherkin urge comes deep inside when you feel that you are not a human. It is not something which you can choose to follow. Warnings Many people, especially non-Wiccans, may ridicule your belief. But stand strong and know that you have the rest of the Wiccan community to support you.
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Though many Otherkin do believe in magic and explain their current condition as a result of a spell cast on them a long time ago(when they were living their previous life).\\nYou must deeply feel that you are not human but some other creature, this feeling should be strong enough to make you feel uncomfortable when someone calls you human.\\n1-3. Know that Otherkin behave like rational human beings.\\nEven if you identify yourself as an animal or a mythological creature, it does not mean that you are entirely different from the rest of mankind. A wolf therian does not bite people on sight, he merely feels more conscious about damage to the jungle and feels more deeply hurt when a wolf is harmed.\\nBeing Otherkin does not change anything. You keep living your normal life. Being Otherkin just colors your perception a little.\\nAvoid making claims that you can turn into your kin's form. This is called \\\"Physical shifts\\\" and it's frowned upon in the Kin community because it is impossible. Making such claims can get you noted as a troll.\\n1-4. Understand and Believe in Reincarnation.\\nMost (but not all) Otherkin believe in the form of reincarnation. They believe that their previous life as an animal influences their current human form, which those animalistic tendencies are carried over to this life.\\nThis can also be explained by Timothy Leary's eight-circuit model of consciousness, in which the first two circuits are animalistic in nature, while the third is human(it tends to categorize and label things), in Otherkin the third circuit is labeled the first two circuit as an animal within them.\\n1-5. Understand the Energy Model.\\nEnergy is a force which creates magic, which we can further shape and direct to do our bidding. We are made up of energy and that every person poses a unique “energy signature”. This signature can be changed to resonate with “elven” or “draconic” energies leading to some Otherkin identifying themselves as elves or dragons.\\n1-6. Join Otherkin Communities.\\nMost Otherkin resources can be found online. Otherkins are fairly outgoing and participate in Wiccan gatherings. You should locate and participate in such communities,\\nTips\\nDon't shove your beliefs down other people's throat. Every person has the right to believe what he/she may want to. Don't force your friends or family to follow your ideals.\\nThe Otherkin urge comes deep inside when you feel that you are not a human. It is not something which you can choose to follow.\\nWarnings\\nMany people, especially non-Wiccans, may ridicule your belief. But stand strong and know that you have the rest of the Wiccan community to support you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There is great diversity in the Wiccan religion which makes most practitioners open minded and accepting. The Otherkin Wiccans are a sub-religion among the Wiccan faith. Otherkin are people who, in some way, shape or form, identify as other than human. This article explains their belief and lifestyle so that you too can be an Otherkin.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare for some negative reactions.\", \"描述\": \"Do not get angry at the negativity and realize that pagans who are not Otherkin themselves are accepting at best and indifferent at worst. Also, it seems that most of the negativity comes from the Internet, not face-to-face meetings. People are a lot more aggressive to others online than in person.\\nRemember that it is your belief and you should stick to it. No amount of trash talking should make you question your belief\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand the difference between Otherkin and Therian.\", \"描述\": \"Otherkins feel that they are nonhuman. They believe that deep down their mind is similar to a species whose existence hasn't been proved yet. Therians believe they are connected to a species whose presence is already known of.\\nThere are no secret rituals or magical spells. It is just a way of thinking and perception. Though many Otherkin do believe in magic and explain their current condition as a result of a spell cast on them a long time ago(when they were living their previous life).\\nYou must deeply feel that you are not human but some other creature, this feeling should be strong enough to make you feel uncomfortable when someone calls you human.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know that Otherkin behave like rational human beings.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you identify yourself as an animal or a mythological creature, it does not mean that you are entirely different from the rest of mankind. A wolf therian does not bite people on sight, he merely feels more conscious about damage to the jungle and feels more deeply hurt when a wolf is harmed.\\nBeing Otherkin does not change anything. You keep living your normal life. Being Otherkin just colors your perception a little.\\nAvoid making claims that you can turn into your kin's form. This is called \\\"Physical shifts\\\" and it's frowned upon in the Kin community because it is impossible. Making such claims can get you noted as a troll.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand and Believe in Reincarnation.\", \"描述\": \"Most (but not all) Otherkin believe in the form of reincarnation. They believe that their previous life as an animal influences their current human form, which those animalistic tendencies are carried over to this life.\\nThis can also be explained by Timothy Leary's eight-circuit model of consciousness, in which the first two circuits are animalistic in nature, while the third is human(it tends to categorize and label things), in Otherkin the third circuit is labeled the first two circuit as an animal within them.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Understand the Energy Model.\", \"描述\": \"Energy is a force which creates magic, which we can further shape and direct to do our bidding. We are made up of energy and that every person poses a unique “energy signature”. This signature can be changed to resonate with “elven” or “draconic” energies leading to some Otherkin identifying themselves as elves or dragons.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Join Otherkin Communities.\", \"描述\": \"Most Otherkin resources can be found online. Otherkins are fairly outgoing and participate in Wiccan gatherings. You should locate and participate in such communities,\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't shove your beliefs down other people's throat. Every person has the right to believe what he/she may want to. Don't force your friends or family to follow your ideals.\\n\", \"The Otherkin urge comes deep inside when you feel that you are not a human. It is not something which you can choose to follow.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Many people, especially non-Wiccans, may ridicule your belief. But stand strong and know that you have the rest of the Wiccan community to support you.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be and Feel Beautiful All the Time
1. Build confidence. This will help with you understanding your natural beauty, in and out. Stand straight. Smile at yourself. Notice the positive things. It is all important. Embrace your flaws, but enhance your good features. Below are tips in order to help you. 2. Take care of your skin and body. Keep up with your personal hygiene. Shower every day or every second day to leave you smelling fresh and feeling renewed. Wash your body with good smelling body wash, and wash your hair appropriately. If you wash your hair too often, you may find it starts producing more oil to try and replenish the oil it lost. Clean your hair by massaging your scalp with shampoo using your fingertips. Then wash with conditioner for shine and to prevent tangling. Massage into your hair for 20 seconds and leave it in for 2 minutes. Ensure you apply deodorant soon after your shower, as that makes it most effective and allows it to absorb into the skin before you start to sweat. Wash your face regularly. This will unclog your pores and help get rid of acne. Use an appropriate cleanser for your skin type, and moisturise after. Moisturising will both replenish dry skin, and also calm oily skin by preventing it from producing excess oil. Don't forget to moisturise your elbows and knees and anywhere else that gets dry or flaky. Try a variety of products to find the ones that work best with your skin. 3. Fix your hair. One of the things we spend the most time on in the morning is our hair. Brush it regularly to prevent tangles and make it shine, but if you have curly hair, a wide tooth comb is best as it will prevent frizz. If possible, use a brush with natural bristles, such as boar bristles. This helps redistribute oils from your scalp down to the ends and makes your hair look shinier and smoother. Don't forget to gently massage or brush your scalp! This both improves bloodflow to allow hair growth, and prevents dandruff by exfoliating your scalp and removing dead skin. Get haircuts often to remove split ends, and try to find a hairstyle that works with your face and body shape. Minimise your use of hot tools. These can damage your hair by drying it out and ultimately cause split ends. If you curl your hair, try alternative heatless methods such as rollers, curlformers, or pincurls. If you straighten your hair, try wrapping it smooth against your head with pins while you sleep. If you still want to use hot tools, make sure you apply a good heat protectant first. 4. Apply tasteful makeup. Utilise different colours and styles to make you look your best. Be sure you don't apply so much that it becomes noticeable or cakey. Use dark colors to push backwards, and use light colors to pull forwards. Mask any features you don't like and accentuate the ones you do. 5. Exercise. Exercising not only tones your muscles and reduces body fat, but it also gets your blood flowing which improves your skin. Studies have also shown that people who exercise regularly are less likely to develop cardiovascular disease or diabetes. 6. Eat healthily. Eating fruits and vegetables give you the energy you need and make you look great. It improves your complexion too. Follow the suggested serving portions of the food pyramid and make sure you get the nutrients you need. If you're having trouble eating healthy, throw out most tempting foods and only have one night a week when you can eat some junk food. Remember to wash your hands before eating. In addition never forget to drink right amount of water. Staying hydrated can reduce bad breath, dry or flaky skin, chapped lips, and a variety of other issues. 7. Be yourself. Being a unique individual will make you more attractive. Accept the things that happen instead of considering yourself a victim of some force you cannot control. Life is not fair or unfair. You can think the glass is half empty or half full. Tips Get plenty of rest to help improve your skin and face. Smile. It gives you a boost of confidence and makes you look more inviting. You are you, and that is who you are meant to be. Don't try to be someone else. Warnings Losing weight does not mean having to starve yourself. Starvation can actually slow down your metabolism! Just remember to eat healthier foods. Don't go overboard on the exercising; you can really hurt yourself.
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Ensure you apply deodorant soon after your shower, as that makes it most effective and allows it to absorb into the skin before you start to sweat.\\nWash your face regularly. This will unclog your pores and help get rid of acne. Use an appropriate cleanser for your skin type, and moisturise after. Moisturising will both replenish dry skin, and also calm oily skin by preventing it from producing excess oil. Don't forget to moisturise your elbows and knees and anywhere else that gets dry or flaky. Try a variety of products to find the ones that work best with your skin.\\n3. Fix your hair.\\nOne of the things we spend the most time on in the morning is our hair.\\nBrush it regularly to prevent tangles and make it shine, but if you have curly hair, a wide tooth comb is best as it will prevent frizz. If possible, use a brush with natural bristles, such as boar bristles. This helps redistribute oils from your scalp down to the ends and makes your hair look shinier and smoother. Don't forget to gently massage or brush your scalp! This both improves bloodflow to allow hair growth, and prevents dandruff by exfoliating your scalp and removing dead skin. Get haircuts often to remove split ends, and try to find a hairstyle that works with your face and body shape.\\nMinimise your use of hot tools. These can damage your hair by drying it out and ultimately cause split ends. If you curl your hair, try alternative heatless methods such as rollers, curlformers, or pincurls. If you straighten your hair, try wrapping it smooth against your head with pins while you sleep. If you still want to use hot tools, make sure you apply a good heat protectant first.\\n4. Apply tasteful makeup.\\nUtilise different colours and styles to make you look your best.\\nBe sure you don't apply so much that it becomes noticeable or cakey. Use dark colors to push backwards, and use light colors to pull forwards. Mask any features you don't like and accentuate the ones you do.\\n5. Exercise.\\nExercising not only tones your muscles and reduces body fat, but it also gets your blood flowing which improves your skin.\\nStudies have also shown that people who exercise regularly are less likely to develop cardiovascular disease or diabetes.\\n6. Eat healthily.\\nEating fruits and vegetables give you the energy you need and make you look great.\\nIt improves your complexion too. Follow the suggested serving portions of the food pyramid and make sure you get the nutrients you need. If you're having trouble eating healthy, throw out most tempting foods and only have one night a week when you can eat some junk food. Remember to wash your hands before eating. In addition never forget to drink right amount of water. Staying hydrated can reduce bad breath, dry or flaky skin, chapped lips, and a variety of other issues.\\n7. Be yourself.\\nBeing a unique individual will make you more attractive.\\nAccept the things that happen instead of considering yourself a victim of some force you cannot control.\\nLife is not fair or unfair.\\nYou can think the glass is half empty or half full.\\nTips\\nGet plenty of rest to help improve your skin and face.\\nSmile. It gives you a boost of confidence and makes you look more inviting.\\nYou are you, and that is who you are meant to be. Don't try to be someone else.\\nWarnings\\nLosing weight does not mean having to starve yourself. Starvation can actually slow down your metabolism! Just remember to eat healthier foods.\\nDon't go overboard on the exercising; you can really hurt yourself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The first step to looking beautiful is feeling beautiful. This article can help you do both by allowing you to embrace your flaws while enhancing your best features.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build confidence.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This will help with you understanding your natural beauty, in and out.\", \"描述\": \"Stand straight. Smile at yourself. Notice the positive things. It is all important. Embrace your flaws, but enhance your good features. Below are tips in order to help you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take care of your skin and body.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep up with your personal hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"Shower every day or every second day to leave you smelling fresh and feeling renewed. Wash your body with good smelling body wash, and wash your hair appropriately. If you wash your hair too often, you may find it starts producing more oil to try and replenish the oil it lost. Clean your hair by massaging your scalp with shampoo using your fingertips. Then wash with conditioner for shine and to prevent tangling. Massage into your hair for 20 seconds and leave it in for 2 minutes. Ensure you apply deodorant soon after your shower, as that makes it most effective and allows it to absorb into the skin before you start to sweat.\\nWash your face regularly. This will unclog your pores and help get rid of acne. Use an appropriate cleanser for your skin type, and moisturise after. Moisturising will both replenish dry skin, and also calm oily skin by preventing it from producing excess oil. Don't forget to moisturise your elbows and knees and anywhere else that gets dry or flaky. Try a variety of products to find the ones that work best with your skin.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Fix your hair.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"One of the things we spend the most time on in the morning is our hair.\", \"描述\": \"Brush it regularly to prevent tangles and make it shine, but if you have curly hair, a wide tooth comb is best as it will prevent frizz. If possible, use a brush with natural bristles, such as boar bristles. This helps redistribute oils from your scalp down to the ends and makes your hair look shinier and smoother. Don't forget to gently massage or brush your scalp! This both improves bloodflow to allow hair growth, and prevents dandruff by exfoliating your scalp and removing dead skin. Get haircuts often to remove split ends, and try to find a hairstyle that works with your face and body shape.\\nMinimise your use of hot tools. These can damage your hair by drying it out and ultimately cause split ends. If you curl your hair, try alternative heatless methods such as rollers, curlformers, or pincurls. If you straighten your hair, try wrapping it smooth against your head with pins while you sleep. If you still want to use hot tools, make sure you apply a good heat protectant first.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Apply tasteful makeup.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Utilise different colours and styles to make you look your best.\", \"描述\": \"Be sure you don't apply so much that it becomes noticeable or cakey. Use dark colors to push backwards, and use light colors to pull forwards. Mask any features you don't like and accentuate the ones you do.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Exercise.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Exercising not only tones your muscles and reduces body fat, but it also gets your blood flowing which improves your skin.\", \"描述\": \"Studies have also shown that people who exercise regularly are less likely to develop cardiovascular disease or diabetes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Eat healthily.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Eating fruits and vegetables give you the energy you need and make you look great.\", \"描述\": \"It improves your complexion too. Follow the suggested serving portions of the food pyramid and make sure you get the nutrients you need. If you're having trouble eating healthy, throw out most tempting foods and only have one night a week when you can eat some junk food. Remember to wash your hands before eating. In addition never forget to drink right amount of water. Staying hydrated can reduce bad breath, dry or flaky skin, chapped lips, and a variety of other issues.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being a unique individual will make you more attractive.\", \"描述\": \"Accept the things that happen instead of considering yourself a victim of some force you cannot control.\\nLife is not fair or unfair.\\nYou can think the glass is half empty or half full.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Get plenty of rest to help improve your skin and face.\\n\", \"Smile. It gives you a boost of confidence and makes you look more inviting.\\n\", \"You are you, and that is who you are meant to be. Don't try to be someone else.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Losing weight does not mean having to starve yourself. Starvation can actually slow down your metabolism! Just remember to eat healthier foods.\\n\", \"Don't go overboard on the exercising; you can really hurt yourself.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be as Bright as Hermione Granger
1. Listen and stay alert in class. Pay attention even if it's a boring subject. Remember, Hermione listens in History of Magic - a subject no one else can listen to because it is so boring. One thing that works is to be interested in the subject. If you find the subject interesting, it is more likely that you will pay attention in class. 2. Be a student when in class. This point is important. When you go to class, try to forget about any friendship problems - even if it's a major fight with Harry and Ron because of your cat. 3. Take notes. Yes, in class just jot down bits and pieces of info. Just put in information that you don't know or that you think might come in handy when its time for revision before the exams. 4. Have a study planner or diary. Take note of all homework given that day, and when it is due. Mark any assignments coming up. 5. Study for tests. Studying can help you do well in tests and achieve your academic goals. 6. Be prepared for class. You know, be prepared like Hermione. Bring all your books, quills and parchment (not literally!) and any homework. 7. Be organized. Keep all your notes organised in advance for your next class. 8. Look properly dressed. Iron your school uniform or clothes, bathe, wash your face, and brush your teeth. How long does that take? Wear no makeup if you want to be like Hermione. If your hair is not cooperating, don't worry, Hermione has bushy hair too! 9. Help your friends without the answers. You know the answers but your friends don't! Hermione didn't give a full answer to Harry and Ron about Nicholas Flamel! She just said, "Not in the restricted section... Happy Christmas." Tips Have fun, and enjoy. Read other Harry Potter books so you can gain information about Hermione Granger. Read fiction as well as non fiction. For some, reading non fiction is hard, but believe it, it will do you good. Just start light and build up on it. Also, don't go overboard. This means not to drag your sleepy eyes over medicine when you are still at Hogwarts! Just read about general stuff - it will broaden your general knowledge. Reading the newspaper online for a few minutes every day will not only expand your knowledge about current affairs, but will enrich your vocabulary and provide good conversation starters! Warnings Just remember, you are studying and being a good student like Hermione. But, reality is that you're you and Hermione would never, ever change her personality to be a replica of her idol.
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Study for tests.\\nStudying can help you do well in tests and achieve your academic goals.\\n\\n6. Be prepared for class.\\nYou know, be prepared like Hermione.\\nBring all your books, quills and parchment (not literally!) and any homework.\\n7. Be organized.\\nKeep all your notes organised in advance for your next class.\\n\\n8. Look properly dressed.\\nIron your school uniform or clothes, bathe, wash your face, and brush your teeth.\\nHow long does that take? Wear no makeup if you want to be like Hermione. If your hair is not cooperating, don't worry, Hermione has bushy hair too!\\n9. Help your friends without the answers.\\nYou know the answers but your friends don't!\\nHermione didn't give a full answer to Harry and Ron about Nicholas Flamel! She just said, \\\"Not in the restricted section... Happy Christmas.\\\"\\nTips\\nHave fun, and enjoy.\\nRead other Harry Potter books so you can gain information about Hermione Granger.\\nRead fiction as well as non fiction. For some, reading non fiction is hard, but believe it, it will do you good. Just start light and build up on it. Also, don't go overboard. This means not to drag your sleepy eyes over medicine when you are still at Hogwarts! Just read about general stuff - it will broaden your general knowledge. Reading the newspaper online for a few minutes every day will not only expand your knowledge about current affairs, but will enrich your vocabulary and provide good conversation starters!\\nWarnings\\nJust remember, you are studying and being a good student like Hermione. But, reality is that you're you and Hermione would never, ever change her personality to be a replica of her idol.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Right, so everyone knows Hermione Granger and her genius-like traits! Everything seems to be so good about Hermione (which it is!) - she's loyal, kind, noble... and smart. How can you emulate these traits in your own life, though? We've got you covered—read on to learn how you can be a bit more like her, both in and out of the classroom.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen and stay alert in class.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pay attention even if it's a boring subject.\", \"描述\": \"Remember, Hermione listens in History of Magic - a subject no one else can listen to because it is so boring. One thing that works is to be interested in the subject. If you find the subject interesting, it is more likely that you will pay attention in class.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be a student when in class.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This point is important.\", \"描述\": \"When you go to class, try to forget about any friendship problems - even if it's a major fight with Harry and Ron because of your cat.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take notes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Yes, in class just jot down bits and pieces of info.\", \"描述\": \"Just put in information that you don't know or that you think might come in handy when its time for revision before the exams.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have a study planner or diary.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take note of all homework given that day, and when it is due.\", \"描述\": \"Mark any assignments coming up.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Study for tests.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Studying can help you do well in tests and achieve your academic goals.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be prepared for class.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You know, be prepared like Hermione.\", \"描述\": \"Bring all your books, quills and parchment (not literally!) and any homework.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be organized.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep all your notes organised in advance for your next class.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Look properly dressed.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Iron your school uniform or clothes, bathe, wash your face, and brush your teeth.\", \"描述\": \"How long does that take? Wear no makeup if you want to be like Hermione. If your hair is not cooperating, don't worry, Hermione has bushy hair too!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Help your friends without the answers.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You know the answers but your friends don't!\", \"描述\": \"Hermione didn't give a full answer to Harry and Ron about Nicholas Flamel! She just said, \\\"Not in the restricted section... Happy Christmas.\\\"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Have fun, and enjoy.\\n\", \"Read other Harry Potter books so you can gain information about Hermione Granger.\\n\", \"Read fiction as well as non fiction. For some, reading non fiction is hard, but believe it, it will do you good. Just start light and build up on it. Also, don't go overboard. This means not to drag your sleepy eyes over medicine when you are still at Hogwarts! Just read about general stuff - it will broaden your general knowledge. Reading the newspaper online for a few minutes every day will not only expand your knowledge about current affairs, but will enrich your vocabulary and provide good conversation starters!\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Just remember, you are studying and being a good student like Hermione. But, reality is that you're you and Hermione would never, ever change her personality to be a replica of her idol.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be at Peace
1. Releasing Negative Feelings 1-1. Release what you cannot control. This is the most important part of feeling at peace and the first place you should always start. 90% of the time, when we're worried about something or stressed out, the source of our angst is really something that we have no control over. All you can do in life is to try your best and then let fate take its course. If you can't affect the outcome then there is no point in worrying about something. This is tough to do, of course, and will take some practice. Mostly you just need to remind yourself to let go, but you can also do exercises by distracting yourself with other tasks while you wait out the thing that's making you upset. Remember that the behavior of other people is one of the biggest things that is outside of our control. 1-2. Find the humanity in all people. When other people make us angry, it is usually because we cannot understand why they're doing something that's making us angry. Instead of blowing up at someone or stressing yourself out, try to see things from their side of the table. Think about why they did what they did...and remember that we're all people with our own problems and our own dreams. For example, your husband may drive you crazy when he forgets to do the dishes. However, he doesn't forget them to be mean to you....forgetfulness is probably just a part of who he is, just like how you snore. 1-3. Forgive yourself. A huge source of worry in our lives comes from when we beat ourselves up. We really can be our own worst bully. Maybe you feel bad about forgetting to write a paper or maybe you're worried you said the wrong thing to your friend. No matter what you did, it's important to remember that you can't go back in time. Beating yourself up over something you can't change won't make things any better. All you can do is work to make the future better and improve yourself with time...which is something that everyone has to do. Remember, to err is human! 1-4. Forgive those who have wronged you. Just like you have to forgive yourself, you have to forgive other people too. For most of the same reasons even! Remember: this means truly forgiving them. Don't be passive aggressive or find ways to punish them later. Just let it go and find ways to work better together in the future! 1-5. Accept the transient nature of life. Everything is temporary in life. The only things that are eternal are the rising and setting of the sun. You have to remember this in all things that you do. Embrace the things you love and enjoy them while you can. Wait for the passing of difficult times. When we die, we don't take any of these trappings of life with us, so make sure that it's your soul that's fulfilled and let the rest of it just go however fate feels like going. 2. Building Positive Feelings 2-1. Be yourself. When we try to be someone that we're not, it adds tons of stress, guilt, and unhappiness to our lives. We can hope all we want to be a different person than we are, but that's not really how people work! You just have to be yourself and embrace the person that you are. Don't worry about what other people say or what they want you to be. It's not their life: it's yours. 2-2. Pursue what makes you happy. Life is all about getting to do things that bring you joy. When you live life really well, you perfectly balance doing the hard stuff, the fun stuff, and the stuff that helps others. Of course, some of us tend to focus too much on the hard stuff or we forget to take time out for ourselves. You have to pursue the things that make you happy, regardless of what other people think, or you will never feel fulfilled. 2-3. Take time out for yourself. Sometimes you need quiet time to focus on your own problems and decompress. It can be hard, in the loud mess that is life, to find time for this but it is very important for your own happiness and ability to handle the tough stuff in life. Try taking a weekend away at the library to read and relax. Sit alone for lunch sometimes to get away from the drama. 2-4. Help others. Helping others is one of the most powerful things we can do to give ourselves a sense of fulfillment and peace. Helping others give us a purpose and lets us feel like we accomplished something great. If you find that nothing else in life is giving you a sense of peace, try helping people in serious need. You can volunteer at a local soup kitchen or at your local community center, tutoring for adult literacy classes. 2-5. Create goals. Having a goal that you can work for can really help when you're feeling lost and aimless. Really, what's the point in life if you don't have something to work towards, right? Find something that you want for yourself and then figure out what you have to do to pursue it. You'll find a zen-like peace when you're working with all your soul devoted to a single goal. Have you always wanted to learn how to play the piano maybe? Maybe what you really want to do is have a child? 3. Calming Techniques 3-1. Listen to calming music. Music can help us calm down and find inner peace even in the most stressful of situations. Find music that works for you and then be ready to rock it at a moment's notice! One good chillout song is Ze Frank's "Chillout". What a surprise! MyNoise is another great source of relaxing music that can help you center yourself and find some inner peace. 3-2. Go for a walk or run. Going for a walk or run is another good way to calm yourself down. Getting exercise not only tires us out and lets us release tension, it also releases endorphins, which are the brain chemical that regulates our emotions. Go for a quick jog around the block if you find you're having a hard time. 3-3. Play with someone who knows how to have fun. Whether you're playing fetch with a dog or pirates with a five-year-old, having fun with someone who really knows how to embrace the joys of life can make a huge difference when you're having a tough time. 3-4. Avoid drama. Drama, either drama you cause or drama you find yourself in the middle of, can really get in the way of finding your inner peace. We tend to seek out drama because it makes life more exciting, but in order to find peace we have to make our lives more exciting by pursuing challenges instead. This is because the negative feelings associated with drama cannot create inner peace, which relies on positive feelings. If someone in your life is prone to just bringing the drama, try to cut them out as much as you can. 3-5. Do comforting activities. There are lots of great, basic comfort activities that you can do to calm down and find peace when you're starting to get a bit on edge. You can drink tea, watch a funny movie, meditate, light some incense, or any number of other calming rituals. These work based on personal preference, so just find one that works for you! 4. Finding Wisdom 4-1. Study the Stoics The Stoics were ancient philosophers who were pretty much the experts at being at peace. It is the whole point of their philosophy! Read up on the Stoic philosophy and the lives of the Stoic philosophers and see how you can apply their lessons to your own life. A Guide to the Good Life, by William B Irvine, is a great modern primer on Stoic philosophy. 4-2. Read a holy text. Holy texts, whether we're talking about the Bible or the Quran, can all teach us how to find peace by living more fulfilling lives. Even if you're not a religious person, there's plenty of wisdom to be found in the holy texts of cultures all over the world. You will find that almost all of them teach the same ideals! 4-3. Meet with a spiritual adviser. Spiritual advisers, such as priests and monks, can also help advise you on how to find inner peace. Even if you don't want a religious solution, they are experts in the soul and human mind and should be able to help you find productive, inspiring ways to improve your experience of life. 4-4. Take a cue from nature. Go sit out in a natural area nearby. Listen to the trees. Watch the animals. Do they seem worried about what their brother did last Christmas? Do the trees seem to notice when it starts to rain? No. Nature adapts and embraces every twist and turn in life and you should too. 4-5. Read books. There are a number of books and works by people who have really mastered this peace thing. Seek out some books that deal with the issues that cause you tension or go with some of the classics. Some authors that are known for the significant contributions to philosophy on this issue include: Joseph Campbell Alan Watts Tips Hang out with your friends and talk to them about what they do! Never let what anyone else says get to you. You will be more at peace if you thicken your skin a little.
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Find the humanity in all people.\\nWhen other people make us angry, it is usually because we cannot understand why they're doing something that's making us angry. Instead of blowing up at someone or stressing yourself out, try to see things from their side of the table. Think about why they did what they did...and remember that we're all people with our own problems and our own dreams.\\nFor example, your husband may drive you crazy when he forgets to do the dishes. However, he doesn't forget them to be mean to you....forgetfulness is probably just a part of who he is, just like how you snore.\\n1-3. Forgive yourself.\\nA huge source of worry in our lives comes from when we beat ourselves up. We really can be our own worst bully. Maybe you feel bad about forgetting to write a paper or maybe you're worried you said the wrong thing to your friend. No matter what you did, it's important to remember that you can't go back in time. Beating yourself up over something you can't change won't make things any better. All you can do is work to make the future better and improve yourself with time...which is something that everyone has to do.\\nRemember, to err is human!\\n1-4. Forgive those who have wronged you.\\nJust like you have to forgive yourself, you have to forgive other people too. For most of the same reasons even! Remember: this means truly forgiving them. Don't be passive aggressive or find ways to punish them later. Just let it go and find ways to work better together in the future!\\n1-5. Accept the transient nature of life.\\nEverything is temporary in life. The only things that are eternal are the rising and setting of the sun. You have to remember this in all things that you do. Embrace the things you love and enjoy them while you can. Wait for the passing of difficult times. When we die, we don't take any of these trappings of life with us, so make sure that it's your soul that's fulfilled and let the rest of it just go however fate feels like going.\\n2. Building Positive Feelings\\n2-1. Be yourself.\\nWhen we try to be someone that we're not, it adds tons of stress, guilt, and unhappiness to our lives. We can hope all we want to be a different person than we are, but that's not really how people work! You just have to be yourself and embrace the person that you are.\\nDon't worry about what other people say or what they want you to be. It's not their life: it's yours.\\n2-2. Pursue what makes you happy.\\nLife is all about getting to do things that bring you joy. When you live life really well, you perfectly balance doing the hard stuff, the fun stuff, and the stuff that helps others. Of course, some of us tend to focus too much on the hard stuff or we forget to take time out for ourselves. You have to pursue the things that make you happy, regardless of what other people think, or you will never feel fulfilled.\\n2-3. Take time out for yourself.\\nSometimes you need quiet time to focus on your own problems and decompress. It can be hard, in the loud mess that is life, to find time for this but it is very important for your own happiness and ability to handle the tough stuff in life.\\nTry taking a weekend away at the library to read and relax.\\nSit alone for lunch sometimes to get away from the drama.\\n2-4. Help others.\\nHelping others is one of the most powerful things we can do to give ourselves a sense of fulfillment and peace. Helping others give us a purpose and lets us feel like we accomplished something great. If you find that nothing else in life is giving you a sense of peace, try helping people in serious need.\\nYou can volunteer at a local soup kitchen or at your local community center, tutoring for adult literacy classes.\\n2-5. Create goals.\\nHaving a goal that you can work for can really help when you're feeling lost and aimless. Really, what's the point in life if you don't have something to work towards, right? Find something that you want for yourself and then figure out what you have to do to pursue it. You'll find a zen-like peace when you're working with all your soul devoted to a single goal.\\nHave you always wanted to learn how to play the piano maybe?\\nMaybe what you really want to do is have a child?\\n3. Calming Techniques\\n3-1. Listen to calming music.\\nMusic can help us calm down and find inner peace even in the most stressful of situations. Find music that works for you and then be ready to rock it at a moment's notice!\\nOne good chillout song is Ze Frank's \\\"Chillout\\\". What a surprise!\\nMyNoise is another great source of relaxing music that can help you center yourself and find some inner peace.\\n3-2. Go for a walk or run.\\nGoing for a walk or run is another good way to calm yourself down. Getting exercise not only tires us out and lets us release tension, it also releases endorphins, which are the brain chemical that regulates our emotions. Go for a quick jog around the block if you find you're having a hard time.\\n3-3. Play with someone who knows how to have fun.\\nWhether you're playing fetch with a dog or pirates with a five-year-old, having fun with someone who really knows how to embrace the joys of life can make a huge difference when you're having a tough time.\\n3-4. Avoid drama.\\nDrama, either drama you cause or drama you find yourself in the middle of, can really get in the way of finding your inner peace. We tend to seek out drama because it makes life more exciting, but in order to find peace we have to make our lives more exciting by pursuing challenges instead. 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Read a holy text.\\nHoly texts, whether we're talking about the Bible or the Quran, can all teach us how to find peace by living more fulfilling lives. Even if you're not a religious person, there's plenty of wisdom to be found in the holy texts of cultures all over the world. You will find that almost all of them teach the same ideals!\\n4-3. Meet with a spiritual adviser.\\nSpiritual advisers, such as priests and monks, can also help advise you on how to find inner peace. Even if you don't want a religious solution, they are experts in the soul and human mind and should be able to help you find productive, inspiring ways to improve your experience of life.\\n4-4. Take a cue from nature.\\nGo sit out in a natural area nearby. Listen to the trees. Watch the animals. Do they seem worried about what their brother did last Christmas? Do the trees seem to notice when it starts to rain? No. Nature adapts and embraces every twist and turn in life and you should too.\\n4-5. Read books.\\nThere are a number of books and works by people who have really mastered this peace thing. Seek out some books that deal with the issues that cause you tension or go with some of the classics. Some authors that are known for the significant contributions to philosophy on this issue include:\\nJoseph Campbell\\nAlan Watts\\nTips\\nHang out with your friends and talk to them about what they do!\\nNever let what anyone else says get to you. You will be more at peace if you thicken your skin a little.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Is feeling truly peaceful a pipe dream? Nope! With a little work, you can feel calm, cool, and collected (just like you deserve to). Happiness is on the horizon, and we're here to show you what to do. 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You just have to be yourself and embrace the person that you are.\\nDon't worry about what other people say or what they want you to be. It's not their life: it's yours.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pursue what makes you happy.\", \"描述\": \"Life is all about getting to do things that bring you joy. When you live life really well, you perfectly balance doing the hard stuff, the fun stuff, and the stuff that helps others. Of course, some of us tend to focus too much on the hard stuff or we forget to take time out for ourselves. You have to pursue the things that make you happy, regardless of what other people think, or you will never feel fulfilled.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take time out for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes you need quiet time to focus on your own problems and decompress. 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Find something that you want for yourself and then figure out what you have to do to pursue it. You'll find a zen-like peace when you're working with all your soul devoted to a single goal.\\nHave you always wanted to learn how to play the piano maybe?\\nMaybe what you really want to do is have a child?\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Calming Techniques\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to calming music.\", \"描述\": \"Music can help us calm down and find inner peace even in the most stressful of situations. Find music that works for you and then be ready to rock it at a moment's notice!\\nOne good chillout song is Ze Frank's \\\"Chillout\\\". What a surprise!\\nMyNoise is another great source of relaxing music that can help you center yourself and find some inner peace.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go for a walk or run.\", \"描述\": \"Going for a walk or run is another good way to calm yourself down. 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This is because the negative feelings associated with drama cannot create inner peace, which relies on positive feelings.\\nIf someone in your life is prone to just bringing the drama, try to cut them out as much as you can.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Do comforting activities.\", \"描述\": \"There are lots of great, basic comfort activities that you can do to calm down and find peace when you're starting to get a bit on edge. You can drink tea, watch a funny movie, meditate, light some incense, or any number of other calming rituals. These work based on personal preference, so just find one that works for you!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Finding Wisdom\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Study the Stoics\", \"描述\": \"The Stoics were ancient philosophers who were pretty much the experts at being at peace. It is the whole point of their philosophy! Read up on the Stoic philosophy and the lives of the Stoic philosophers and see how you can apply their lessons to your own life.\\nA Guide to the Good Life, by William B Irvine, is a great modern primer on Stoic philosophy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read a holy text.\", \"描述\": \"Holy texts, whether we're talking about the Bible or the Quran, can all teach us how to find peace by living more fulfilling lives. Even if you're not a religious person, there's plenty of wisdom to be found in the holy texts of cultures all over the world. You will find that almost all of them teach the same ideals!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Meet with a spiritual adviser.\", \"描述\": \"Spiritual advisers, such as priests and monks, can also help advise you on how to find inner peace. Even if you don't want a religious solution, they are experts in the soul and human mind and should be able to help you find productive, inspiring ways to improve your experience of life.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take a cue from nature.\", \"描述\": \"Go sit out in a natural area nearby. Listen to the trees. Watch the animals. Do they seem worried about what their brother did last Christmas? Do the trees seem to notice when it starts to rain? No. Nature adapts and embraces every twist and turn in life and you should too.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Read books.\", \"描述\": \"There are a number of books and works by people who have really mastered this peace thing. Seek out some books that deal with the issues that cause you tension or go with some of the classics. Some authors that are known for the significant contributions to philosophy on this issue include:\\nJoseph Campbell\\nAlan Watts\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Hang out with your friends and talk to them about what they do!\\n\", \"Never let what anyone else says get to you. You will be more at peace if you thicken your skin a little.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Radiate Feminine Energy to Attract a Man: 11 Foolproof Tips
1. Be true to yourself. Embrace who you are to radiate divine feminine energy. Ultimately, being true to yourself is one of the best ways to magnify your feminine power. Recognize your emotions, be confident, and follow the advice that resonates within your heart. If you blindly follow advice, you might actually distance yourself from your feminine energy (and in the process, start feeling unfulfilled)! Stand firm in your values and beliefs, and write down what you prioritize in life—never compromise who you are to fit an idea of what you think men want. To be your most authentic self, follow your intuition and don't be afraid to make mistakes. Remember that you know yourself better than anyone else. 2. Be open to receiving help. Accept help graciously While there’s nothing wrong with being self-sufficient, feminine energy focuses on receiving, while masculine energy is characterized by giving. When both energies are balanced, you feel a deeper sense of alignment and purpose, so be more receptive to compliments and ask for help to fully embrace your feminine side. Even if you don’t agree with a compliment, avoid disconfirming it. Instead, embrace your femininity and reply with a sincere, “Thank you.” If you’re naturally a giving person, think of receiving help as giving someone else the ability to do something for you (versus you submitting to them). 3. Be mysterious. Maintain a little mystery to leave him wanting more. While feminine energy is naturally mysterious, you can make small adjustments to your behavior to enhance your innate allure. To be mysterious, listen more than you speak, and reveal minimal information about yourself. When you keep your personal life private, it ignites a man’s curiosity, making you appear more attractive and aligned. Remember to choose your words wisely and speak with intent. To minimize the amount of information you share about yourself, respond vaguely. For example, if he asks you what you did the night before, you could say, “I had a fun time with friends” (instead of indulging him with every detail). 4. Stand up for yourself. Set healthy boundaries Instead of trying to please others, be sure to speak up if something isn’t okay with you. Setting boundaries allows you to be more aligned with your feminine side because you’re taking control of your life. And this shows men that you value yourself, boosting your confidence and attractiveness. While upholding a boundary may be difficult sometimes, express your limits in a clear and direct manner. While a boy may not listen to them, a real man will respect your decisions, no matter what. Make sure to clearly state what you expect out of the relationship in the beginning stages—how you deal with him on day one sets the tone for the rest of your time together. 5. Show him your appreciation. Reveal your feminine side by expressing appreciation often. Everyone wants to feel validated, so let a man know how much you appreciate him, especially if he does something for you. When you express gratitude, it allows you to tap into your nurturing side, increasing your femininity and attractiveness. And since appreciation boosts his self-esteem, he’ll want to do more things for you (giving you what you want). Depending on your relationship, express gratitude with a sincere compliment or give him a hug or kiss. If you want to catch a man off guard, compliment him out of the blue. Rather than saying he has nice eyes or a good smile, focus on complimenting his personality instead. 6. Exhibit feminine body language. Use friendly body language Men are equally as afraid of rejection as women, so use your femininity to establish a warm, inviting aura. Changing your posture can instantly make you seem more approachable, attracting a man’s attention from across the room. So the next time you're out in public, be mindful of your stance so you can appear more feminine and graceful. Instead of standing with your arms folded over your chest, keep your arms by your side to project a softer stance, and avoid fidgeting so you don’t give off a nervous, uncomfortable vibe. If you “talk with your hands,” try to limit your behavior or tone down your gestures. To speak with your hands in a fluid, feminine way, slow down your movements and keep them close to your body. 7. Embrace your sensuality. Indulge in your senses Since feminine energy encompasses feeling and being, you can embrace your femininity by slowing down and being more aware of your surroundings. Being sensual means getting out of your head and seeking pleasure from the outside world. So focus on the present moment and fully embrace it—allow yourself to feel all of your emotions and then your feminine energy will radiate from the inside-out. To become more sensual, you have to feel good about your body, so wear clothes that make you feel sexy and confident. Take the time to enjoy the sensation of a soft, silky fabric, and run your hands down your sides to appreciate the way your clothes conform to your body. 8. Bring out your playful side. Engage in flirty banter to show him your feminine side. When you’re having fun, it not only makes you feel better—it makes you look more confident and attractive. Being playful boosts your vibrational energy, allowing you to attract the things (or people) you want, so have a witty conversation to show let him know you don't take yourself too seriously. To be more playful, send him a saucy, unexpected text or casually touch him in public—brush against him when you walk by or gently place your hand on his thigh under the table. You can also be more flirty by laughing at his jokes and complimenting him regularly. 9. Prioritize self-care. Take care of yourself to appear more confident to men. When you fully rest and relax, you recharge your feminine energy and improve your well-being. While this is an excellent way to practice self-love, it also makes you more attractive to men because it shows off your nurturing, feminine side. Remember that self-care looks different to everyone. To some people, it may be getting a facial every week, while others consider it to be more of a mental practice. Whatever it may be to you, make sure to physically schedule time into your calendar to destress. 10. Be vulnerable. Open up to others to reclaim your feminine side. In order to fully embrace your femininity, you have to keep your heart open. Share your dreams, fears, and goals with a man to increase your attractiveness (and encourage him to do the same). Being vulnerable allows you to process your feelings and work through them, which is a huge component of the feminine divine. Instead of putting on a mask of perfection, let a man see the real you. Since men are conditioned to view vulnerability as a weakness, being honest stirs up feelings of safety. If you open up to him, it shows that you trust him (and increases his attraction to you). 11. Express your sensuality through dance. Dance with cyclical movements to amplify your feminine energy. While masculine energy is linear and logical, feminine energy is more fluid and dynamic.Learn some sexy moves to reveal your sensual side and get a man’s attention, focusing on circular motions to mimic the curves of the female form. When you dance, you’re embracing the essence of feminine energy, increasing your natural mystery and allure. If you really want to attract someone’s attention, try belly dancing—it incorporates empowering movements to make you feel more comfortable and confident in your own skin. For a sexy and playful vibe, try the salsa. Since it’s a partner dance, ask your partner (or soon-to-be partner) to join you and watch as they become entranced by your seductive steps.
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When you keep your personal life private, it ignites a man’s curiosity, making you appear more attractive and aligned.\\nRemember to choose your words wisely and speak with intent.\\nTo minimize the amount of information you share about yourself, respond vaguely. For example, if he asks you what you did the night before, you could say, “I had a fun time with friends” (instead of indulging him with every detail).\\n4. Stand up for yourself.\\nSet healthy boundaries\\nInstead of trying to please others, be sure to speak up if something isn’t okay with you. Setting boundaries allows you to be more aligned with your feminine side because you’re taking control of your life. And this shows men that you value yourself, boosting your confidence and attractiveness.\\nWhile upholding a boundary may be difficult sometimes, express your limits in a clear and direct manner. 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Embrace your sensuality.\\nIndulge in your senses\\nSince feminine energy encompasses feeling and being, you can embrace your femininity by slowing down and being more aware of your surroundings. Being sensual means getting out of your head and seeking pleasure from the outside world. So focus on the present moment and fully embrace it—allow yourself to feel all of your emotions and then your feminine energy will radiate from the inside-out.\\nTo become more sensual, you have to feel good about your body, so wear clothes that make you feel sexy and confident. Take the time to enjoy the sensation of a soft, silky fabric, and run your hands down your sides to appreciate the way your clothes conform to your body.\\n8. Bring out your playful side.\\nEngage in flirty banter to show him your feminine side.\\nWhen you’re having fun, it not only makes you feel better—it makes you look more confident and attractive. 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While feminine energy is all about receiving, masculine energy focuses on giving. So, men are naturally drawn to a woman who embraces her feminine side. In this article, we’ll teach you everything you need to know to create an inviting, feminine aura to attract any man you desire.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be true to yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Embrace who you are to radiate divine feminine energy.\", \"描述\": \"Ultimately, being true to yourself is one of the best ways to magnify your feminine power. Recognize your emotions, be confident, and follow the advice that resonates within your heart. 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How to Be in Your Happy Place
1. Practice meditation. Imagine yourself in a place where you were happy and content. Sometimes called “visualization,” meditation can be a really effective way to reduce anxiety and stress. Find a quiet place and sit in a comfortable position. Take some deep, slow breaths, breathing in through your nose and out of your mouth. Think about somewhere you’ve been that’s pleasant and calming. Think about sense memories of the place to help you connect to it. For instance, if you’re thinking about a vacation you took to a lake, you could think about how the wind felt and what the water looked and sounded like. Spend about 15 minutes or so meditating and keep taking slow, deep breaths. 2. Spend some time outside. Take a break and soak up some vitamin D. Go for a walk or a relaxing bike ride. The sun can work wonders for your mood. Plus, a little bit of exercise can make you feel better. It’s a simple way to give your mind and body a happy boost. It doesn’t have to be anything major. A nice 5 or 10-minute walk can make a big difference. 3. Find a beautiful place to take a break. Surround yourself with beauty. Make it a point to visit a space that gives you peace and happiness. Go somewhere like a botanical garden or a beautifully decorated room in your home—anywhere you think is beautiful. It can help you feel more relaxed and at peace. Try setting up a spot in your home that you can use to go to your happy place. You could start a flower garden in your yard or decorate a spare room so it feels beautiful and relaxing to you. 4. Do something you’re passionate about. Work on something that makes you happy. Going to your happy place doesn’t have to mean you aren’t working or busy. Sometimes, spending time interacting with something you’re passionate about can do the trick. Set aside some time each day to work on a task, project, or activity that makes you happy. For instance, if you love building things, you could start up a small craft project like building a table or a birdhouse. Spending some time each day working on your project can be your happy place. 5. Re-read one of your favorite books. Take a relaxing trip down memory lane. Reading a favorite book again can have a couple of benefits. The simple act of reading can be comforting and transport your mind to another, happier place. If you’re reading a book that you already love, you’ll be reminded about other times that you read it, which can make the experience even more enjoyable. For instance, if it’s been years since you read a Harry Potter book, you may find yourself instantly transported (or disapparated, if you will) back to a time when you were happily reading it for the first time. 6. Play around and have some fun. Playtime isn’t just for kids. It’s healthy for adults, too. It’s good for your body and your brain. But it’s easy to get caught up in your busy life and forget to make time to simply play around. Play is an activity that you do just for the sake of fun, like a card game, video game, or playing with a toy. Take at least a few minutes out of each day to dedicate to playtime. Play can be physical, too. You can shoot some basketball or kick a soccer ball around to get active and have some fun. Play can do a lot more than just make you feel happy. It’s actually a way to build community, keep your mind sharp, and spend time with people you love. 7. Hang out with friends to boost your mood. Share some laughs and memories. Call up an old friend to chat with them about what’s going on in your lives and reminisce about good times you’ve had together. You could also organize a get together or meet up to grab a cup of coffee or a bite to eat. Another option is to invite them over to your home so you can hang out and maybe watch a movie or something. Spending time with people that you love is a surefire way to go to your happy place. Consider reaching out to a friend you haven’t seen in a really long time. You can catch up on old happy memories and talk about new things in both of your lives. 8. Remember the acronym H-A-L-T (hungry, angry, lonely, or tired). Use it as a gentle reminder to bring yourself back into balance. It’s easy to get lost in the craziness of your daily life and forget to take care of some basic needs. Whenever you find yourself feeling stressed out or run down, think about HALT. Check-in with yourself to see if you’re meeting all of your needs. Take care of yourself and bring your happiness back into balance. For example, if you’re hungry, get something to eat! If you’re feeling super tired, take a moment to rest. If you’re really tense, spend a few minutes focusing on relaxing your muscles and relieving tension. 9. Freshen up your look. Give yourself a mini-makeover. Change up your hairstyle to give yourself a new look. Try on some new clothes or put on a new nail color to see how it looks. Take a risk and try a bolder look than what you normally go for, just keep it fun! Stepping out of your comfort zone can make you feel happier and more confident. You could even get a new haircut for a dramatic change. 10. Take a trip somewhere new. Travel to a place you’ve never seen before. It doesn’t have to be a big expensive trip to Paris or Bali. There are tons of places within an hour or so of where you live that you may not have ever been to. Take a day trip to find your happy place and soak in some new experiences. Grab a bite to eat and visit a local landmark or famous building. You also don’t have to travel to far. Try exploring areas in your own town. Maybe try a new restaurant or visit some shops you’ve never gone to before. 11. Do some volunteer work. Make yourself feel good while giving back. Try looking online for volunteer groups and opportunities in your area that you can sign up for. Commit whatever time and resources you can to volunteering. You can really make a difference by helping others and the pride you’ll feel can boost your own happiness. 12. Get physically active to improve your mood. Physical activity boosts endorphins that can make you feel happy. Go for a run or hit the gym for a solid workout. Get your blood pumping and make your mind and body feel better. Do physical activity that feels right for you and makes you feel good. Get some friends together and play a game of basketball or throw around a football. Check out a fun new dance class or visit a martial arts gym near you to get a great workout and learn a new skill. Try challenging yourself with something difficult such as a faster running pace or lifting a heavier weight than you normally do. The sense of accomplishment can take you right to your happy place. 13. Keep a journal to write for pleasure. Write a little bit every day to reflect on your life. Keep a journal next to your bed or in your desk. Spend a few minutes every day writing to get your thoughts out of your head and reflect on your day. Writing can be a relaxing experience that can make you feel better, and by thinking about your day, you can practice a form of meditation that can improve your mood. 14. Give yourself some technology-free time in the morning. Start your day with some time to yourself. Make yourself a nice breakfast and have a cup of coffee without checking your emails or phone. Enjoy the uninterrupted time. Give yourself at least 30 minutes of peaceful time with yourself to start your day off on the right foot. You could also use the time to do some meditation. 15. Set a big goal you hope to accomplish. Dream big and plan big this year. Give yourself something to look forward to whenever you’re feeling down or discouraged. Make a list of goals you hope to accomplish and break them down into smaller tasks you can work to complete. Set realistic deadlines for each task and stay focused on taking steps towards your larger goals. Thinking about your big plans can make you feel happier if you find yourself feeling down or discouraged. For instance, you could decide that you want to travel to Greece this year. Then, you can break down the steps you need to complete to make it happen such as budgeting, booking flights, finding hotels, and planning activities. Tips Look for guided meditation groups in your area you can join. Try activities like yoga or tai chi, which use movement and breathing to help calm your mind and body.
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It’s a simple way to give your mind and body a happy boost.\\nIt doesn’t have to be anything major. A nice 5 or 10-minute walk can make a big difference.\\n3. Find a beautiful place to take a break.\\nSurround yourself with beauty.\\nMake it a point to visit a space that gives you peace and happiness. Go somewhere like a botanical garden or a beautifully decorated room in your home—anywhere you think is beautiful. It can help you feel more relaxed and at peace.\\nTry setting up a spot in your home that you can use to go to your happy place. You could start a flower garden in your yard or decorate a spare room so it feels beautiful and relaxing to you.\\n4. Do something you’re passionate about.\\nWork on something that makes you happy.\\nGoing to your happy place doesn’t have to mean you aren’t working or busy. Sometimes, spending time interacting with something you’re passionate about can do the trick. Set aside some time each day to work on a task, project, or activity that makes you happy.\\nFor instance, if you love building things, you could start up a small craft project like building a table or a birdhouse. Spending some time each day working on your project can be your happy place.\\n5. Re-read one of your favorite books.\\nTake a relaxing trip down memory lane.\\nReading a favorite book again can have a couple of benefits. The simple act of reading can be comforting and transport your mind to another, happier place. If you’re reading a book that you already love, you’ll be reminded about other times that you read it, which can make the experience even more enjoyable.\\nFor instance, if it’s been years since you read a Harry Potter book, you may find yourself instantly transported (or disapparated, if you will) back to a time when you were happily reading it for the first time.\\n6. Play around and have some fun.\\nPlaytime isn’t just for kids.\\nIt’s healthy for adults, too. It’s good for your body and your brain. But it’s easy to get caught up in your busy life and forget to make time to simply play around. Play is an activity that you do just for the sake of fun, like a card game, video game, or playing with a toy. Take at least a few minutes out of each day to dedicate to playtime.\\nPlay can be physical, too. You can shoot some basketball or kick a soccer ball around to get active and have some fun.\\nPlay can do a lot more than just make you feel happy. It’s actually a way to build community, keep your mind sharp, and spend time with people you love.\\n7. Hang out with friends to boost your mood.\\nShare some laughs and memories.\\nCall up an old friend to chat with them about what’s going on in your lives and reminisce about good times you’ve had together. You could also organize a get together or meet up to grab a cup of coffee or a bite to eat. Another option is to invite them over to your home so you can hang out and maybe watch a movie or something. Spending time with people that you love is a surefire way to go to your happy place.\\nConsider reaching out to a friend you haven’t seen in a really long time. You can catch up on old happy memories and talk about new things in both of your lives.\\n8. Remember the acronym H-A-L-T (hungry, angry, lonely, or tired).\\nUse it as a gentle reminder to bring yourself back into balance.\\nIt’s easy to get lost in the craziness of your daily life and forget to take care of some basic needs. Whenever you find yourself feeling stressed out or run down, think about HALT. Check-in with yourself to see if you’re meeting all of your needs. Take care of yourself and bring your happiness back into balance.\\nFor example, if you’re hungry, get something to eat! If you’re feeling super tired, take a moment to rest. If you’re really tense, spend a few minutes focusing on relaxing your muscles and relieving tension.\\n9. Freshen up your look.\\nGive yourself a mini-makeover.\\nChange up your hairstyle to give yourself a new look. Try on some new clothes or put on a new nail color to see how it looks. Take a risk and try a bolder look than what you normally go for, just keep it fun! Stepping out of your comfort zone can make you feel happier and more confident.\\nYou could even get a new haircut for a dramatic change.\\n10. Take a trip somewhere new.\\nTravel to a place you’ve never seen before.\\nIt doesn’t have to be a big expensive trip to Paris or Bali. There are tons of places within an hour or so of where you live that you may not have ever been to. Take a day trip to find your happy place and soak in some new experiences.\\nGrab a bite to eat and visit a local landmark or famous building.\\nYou also don’t have to travel to far. Try exploring areas in your own town. Maybe try a new restaurant or visit some shops you’ve never gone to before.\\n11. Do some volunteer work.\\nMake yourself feel good while giving back.\\nTry looking online for volunteer groups and opportunities in your area that you can sign up for. Commit whatever time and resources you can to volunteering. You can really make a difference by helping others and the pride you’ll feel can boost your own happiness.\\n12. Get physically active to improve your mood.\\nPhysical activity boosts endorphins that can make you feel happy.\\nGo for a run or hit the gym for a solid workout. Get your blood pumping and make your mind and body feel better. Do physical activity that feels right for you and makes you feel good.\\nGet some friends together and play a game of basketball or throw around a football.\\nCheck out a fun new dance class or visit a martial arts gym near you to get a great workout and learn a new skill.\\nTry challenging yourself with something difficult such as a faster running pace or lifting a heavier weight than you normally do. The sense of accomplishment can take you right to your happy place.\\n13. Keep a journal to write for pleasure.\\nWrite a little bit every day to reflect on your life.\\nKeep a journal next to your bed or in your desk. Spend a few minutes every day writing to get your thoughts out of your head and reflect on your day. Writing can be a relaxing experience that can make you feel better, and by thinking about your day, you can practice a form of meditation that can improve your mood.\\n14. Give yourself some technology-free time in the morning.\\nStart your day with some time to yourself.\\nMake yourself a nice breakfast and have a cup of coffee without checking your emails or phone. Enjoy the uninterrupted time. Give yourself at least 30 minutes of peaceful time with yourself to start your day off on the right foot.\\nYou could also use the time to do some meditation.\\n15. Set a big goal you hope to accomplish.\\nDream big and plan big this year.\\nGive yourself something to look forward to whenever you’re feeling down or discouraged. Make a list of goals you hope to accomplish and break them down into smaller tasks you can work to complete. Set realistic deadlines for each task and stay focused on taking steps towards your larger goals. Thinking about your big plans can make you feel happier if you find yourself feeling down or discouraged.\\nFor instance, you could decide that you want to travel to Greece this year. Then, you can break down the steps you need to complete to make it happen such as budgeting, booking flights, finding hotels, and planning activities.\\nTips\\nLook for guided meditation groups in your area you can join.\\nTry activities like yoga or tai chi, which use movement and breathing to help calm your mind and body.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"We’ve all seen the image of a person sitting cross-legged with their eyes closed meditating. Meditation isn't the only way to get to your happy place though! There are plenty of things you can do to relax and mentally escape any stress or anxiety you’re dealing with. We’ve put together a handy list of things you can do to take a trip to your own personal happy place.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice meditation.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Imagine yourself in a place where you were happy and content.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes called “visualization,” meditation can be a really effective way to reduce anxiety and stress. 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How to Be in a Relationship Without Your Parents Knowing
1. Examining Why You Should Hide Your Relationship 1-1. Evaluate your priorities. Decide if it's actually a good idea to keep your relationship from your parents. Do your parents disapprove of your relationship because they are strict, protective or worrisome? Does culture, gender, religion, or an age difference factor into their disapproval? While your parents have the benefit of life experience, only you know what your relationship is worth to you. Talk to your friends and support system. Remember that if you keep your relationship a secret, the greater the potential problems will be when it comes to light. You have a support system to help guide you in the right direction. If you just don't think the relationship is serious enough yet and don't wish your parents to make a big deal of it, some of the following instructions may be excessive. Consider how your parents may feel if you exaggerated the need for secrecy; they may feel disappointed and wonder why don't you trust them. Take risks prevention if you really go ahead. For example, think about what would you do if you are caught by your parents, think about what would you do if your parents know you are owning a separate social media account/secret cell phone that makes use to communicate with your partner, think about what would you do if your dating relationship goes wrong, think about what would you do if you broke up, etc. Consider whether these risks/consequences are affordable. It is recommended to be honest if you are getting caught. Once you get caught, more lies would only make you get into greater trouble, damaging a family relationship. As for dating relationship goes wrong or challenges comes, you will need great mental and physical quality to afford it without any support from your parents. 1-2. Communicate with your partner. If you want to pursue your relationship despite knowing that your parents will disapprove, let your partner know why you think that this is the right course of action. Your partner may feel less important and bring resentment to your relationship if you don't clarify your stance. The longer you hide, the more difficult it is going to be. Your partner may have a valid argument if they have been through this situation before. For example, just because it is your first interracial relationship, it may not be the first time for your partner. They may have practical advice to help you understand where your parents are coming from and, above all else, having their support can help ease your stress. Your partner may also misunderstand the situation. Some people expect to be introduced at the start of a serious relationship, some are cool with waiting, and some do not wish to be introduced for quite some time. 1-3. Consider the opinions of your parents. It may be difficult to hear negative opinions about someone you care about, but sometimes your parents may have a better perspective on long-term outcomes. Depending on your dynamic with your parents, they may have trouble articulating their disapproval. Relationships with parents can be complicated. It may be difficult to be open and honest but keep your communication respectful so as not to escalate the situation. For example, while you may think that you are hiding your emotions, you actually may be coming off passive-aggressive or snarky. 1-4. Remember all healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and communication. Whether you are trying to strengthen your relationship with your partner or maintain the relationship with your parents, trust, respect and open transparency have to be present for a lasting relationship. If you plan on hiding your relationship, ask yourself why sacrificing your parent's trust is the only option. Physical and emotional well-being should not be sacrificed for anyone, including your parents or partner. Will your parents become physically or verbally abusive if they found out about your relationship? Is any aspect of your relationship conflict with your parents’ beliefs? If your parents’ disapproval is based on prejudice or if their reaction is abusive, seek professional help. Your mental and physical health is your first priority. 2. Overcoming Overbearing Parents 2-1. Be mature. Your parents will always be protective so show them that you are old enough to handle the responsibilities of a relationship. Firstly, show your parents that you are responsible and can follow all the rules. If your parents think you are too young for a relationship, be on time, do your chores, and study. If you can gain your parents' trust, then your parents will soon realize that you are mature enough to handle a relationship. 2-2. Understand the risks of sexual activity. Parents often forbid relationships for fear of unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted infection. Ensure that you and your partner truly understand these risks. There is a real possibility that if you are not prepared, and you do have an unwanted pregnancy (if pregnancy is a possibility) or contract an STD/STI, your parents may not be there to support you or just can't help you (e.g., they can help you with bringing up a child to some extent, if they wish to do so; but they can't cure HIV).You may not agree with your parents rules, but communicate with your partner and respect each other's boundaries to ensure you are both prepared and safe. Know that you should be respected by your significant other and that they should listen to your choices. Compromise is vital in a relationship, but this is one area where neither party should have to compromise their beliefs. Know that if you are eager to take the relationship to another level but your partner isn't ready, you must respect their choice. Never pressure your partner. 2-3. Avoid PDA moments. Be discreet about your affection. You never know who is watching. A trusted friend may accidentally tell your parents in passing, not knowing that your relationship is a secret. Stealing kisses in public and other forms of PDA may seem harmless but remember that if your parents find out, they may think that your relationship has already crossed further into the intimacy threshold. If you want to show affection towards each other, only do it in private. 2-4. Buy one new cell phone secretly. If it is possible to do so, owning a separate cell phone can help you in concealing information, but please remember that you must hide your new phone properly or you will be in trouble. If you are not able to buy one new phone, you may put a password in your original cell phone and computer if feasible. However, it is not advised to do so. Putting or changing a password on shared computer/cell phone may get suspicious, even some parents may ask you to unlock/undo the password set when they check your phone or use the family computer. Delete the messages on your phone when you sleep or leave your phone unattended. It is recommended to delete partly instead of all messages because you may get suspicious if the messaging history is blank. It is best to use Incognito mode on a browser when you are online. Otherwise, erase browsing history after you have been online. However, erasing browsing history may look suspicious if the browser history has never been erased on a shared device, but if you use Incognito mode, you don't need to worry about this. In case your parents check your phone, either don’t put your partner’s number on your phone or use your partner’s nickname/surname instead of their actual first name. It is also possible to use the different form of their name. For example, Brian becomes Brianna and Stephanie becomes Stephen. However, it is best to memorize your partner's contact information in your mind and don't put any of their contact information on your phone. 2-5. Tell your partner not to post anything on social media sites or send instant messages. If you have a social media account or use other instant messaging apps, your parents could check up on you or hear from someone else with access to your account. Create an alternate account that you can use to be romantic with your partner. This is a handy tool when dealing with long distance relationships. 2-6. Have a cover. The trustworthy friends take two jobs: Helping you on hiding the relationship and giving you advice on your relationship. They can support you on hiding the relationship such as collaborate on stories for your parents if you're on a date. Not only those friends can be a great cover-up for phone calls or texts, but they also act as an Intelligence Agency so that you can beat yourself to the punch to take prevention. For instance, you friends find out your parents would go to somewhere on someday, then you should take consideration before you want to meet with your partner. The another job of them is monitoring your relationship. You should acquire a political wisdom: The more voice, you make smarter decision. It is better to have more than one reliable friends so that you can listen to more than one voice if you have lots of resources to do this, even your friends could form a 'House'. However the biggest disadvantage is the larger social group, the greater chance of secret leakage even through they are royal. If your friends has concerns about your partner or refuses to continue being your alibi, heed their advice. It’s easy to think that one source is wrong, but if multiple sources are telling you not to continue your relationship, perhaps it’s best to listen to their logic. Using them as an excuse if they don't agree to it is unfair to your friend. 2-7. Hide gifts. It is best to hide all the gifts safely. It could be at the outside of your home at your trustworthy friend's home, rent storage, your partner's home, etc. It is strongly advised not to keep the gifts at your home because your parents could find these gifts easily if they are intended and diligent in scanning every corner of your house thoroughly. You're going to draw attention from your parents if you suddenly lock your closet or room. You can also agree to treat each other to lunches or movies rather than giving physical gifts. 3. Managing Collateral 3-1. Prevent your friends from commenting about your relationship with anyone. Whether it's telling people in passing or posting on each other's social media pages, convey how catastrophic it would be if their innocent comment made its way to your parents. Social media can be especially dangerous because you never know who is connected to whom. Ask your friends politely not to post any incriminating comments or pictures. It may be a wise idea not to let anyone take any pictures when you are in a group setting with your significant other. 3-2. Use multiple social media accounts. The great thing about social media is that the larger sites are free. Set up as many accounts as you need to cover your tracks. Remember your password and only log on when using a device not shared with your parents. 3-3. Set up a shell email account. Not only would a fake email account be advantageous because your parents won't recognize it, but you should also use it to set up your fake social media account. Remember that your parents can search for you on social media based on your email info. 3-4. Adjust your privacy settings on social media. All social media will give you an option to filter what information you share with the public. Go to the Settings Menu and set up your profile so that only you and your partner have access to it. You can also select a few friends to be able to view your profile if you deem them trustworthy. You will have the opportunity to filter your updates and postings so that you can block your parents from seeing. However, the best way to block your parents from seeing is not to post anything damaging at all. 3-5. Provide false information when creating shared social media accounts or when together in a public gathering. Remember that your parents can search social media sites via your date of birth, phone number, last name, school, or job. Don't make the mistake of creating a false account without ensuring every detail won't lead back to you. Change your profile name completely. Don't use your middle name, your name spelled backward, or the name of your dog. Anything remotely close to you may end up giving you away in the long run. It's better to exercise extreme caution. 3-6. Hide your emotions. If you get into an argument with your partner, try not to show your parents how angry or sad you are. Don't emote in public for it to get back to your parents. Find an outlet to release your emotions. It may be difficult to be unable to share your emotions, so research ways to prevent emotional outbursts. For example, taking up boxing may work to vent frustration while listening to upbeat music in headphones may be enough to cheer you up after an argument with your partner. Only you know how to handle your emotions. 3-7. Keep track of what you are telling everyone. If you are lying to a lot of people, it will become difficult to keep track of all the details. Keep your stories consistent and try to keep it as simple as possible. The more details you add, the more difficult it will be to remember them all. 3-8. Frame your partner as a platonic relationship. Don't let your parents get suspicious you are hiding a relationship from them by letting them know that you have a platonic relationship with your partner that demands your time. Introduce them openly and talk about them the same as any other platonic relationship in your life. For example, if you introduce them as your coworker, you can talk about work-related issues and meetings and how you and your partner have supported one another through deadlines. 3-9. Change your routine. Meet your partner at places that you would not normally go to and that your parents are not aware of. Change your social calendar so that you leave no chance of getting caught by your parents or someone who could tell your parents. Better yet, find out your parents' schedule. Not only will you be able to have peace-of-mind knowing where your parents are but you will also be able to meet your partner as far away from them as you can. 4. Dealing with a Difference in Age 4-1. Ask yourself if you feel like yourself around your partner. Your partner should accept you for who you are and your parents may not be able to see beyond the age difference. Once your parents see that your relationship is healthy and that you are a better person for it, it will be easier for them to see beyond the age gap. 4-2. Keep perspective. It’s easy to get swept up in the allure of dating someone older or younger than you. Look ahead and see if the age difference will affect you in any way. Your parents may be fearful that the age gap may widen as your relationship continues. A difference in age may be more of a big deal if you are younger. Your parents may be fearful that you are growing up too soon or that an older partner is taking advantage of you. A big age gap if you're a minor and your partner isn't may also be illegal if you're a minor. Take their perspective into account when continuing your relationship. 4-3. Understand any power dynamics. If your partner is your professor or boss, it’s prudent to know the rules. Your parents may rest easier knowing that everyone is protected from any legal actions. Understand that being in a teacher-pupil relationship can get the teacher fired and, depending on your age, even jailed. This is one relationship that is better to be put on hold - for both of you. If you truly love each other, you can wait until both of you can legally date, and you have graduated. 5. Dealing with Your Parents’ Different Values 5-1. Surround yourself with supportive people. If you must hide your relationship because of a difference in values -- whether religious or cultural -- seek the help of people who have been in similar situations. Bide time to help your parents and/or partner adjust to the situation. By surrounding yourself with caring and respectful people, you can rise above your parents’ closed-mindedness if they are unwilling to change. 5-2. Support your partner. Assure your partner that they are cared for and that you don’t agree with your parents but don’t want to lose your relationship with them. Build his confidence that your parents' opinions won’t hurt your relationship. Let them know that they are more important than your parent’s approval and that the secrecy is temporary. You don’t need to put a time limit, but it can be expected that your partner may give you an ultimatum. No one wants to be in a relationship that their partner is ashamed to be in. Be prepared to choose between telling your parents or losing your partner. 5-3. Don’t take a side. This isn’t about who is right or wrong, this is about how you define family and your own values. Everyone will have to learn to respect and accept one another if you want to have them in your life. Be strong in your own values and communicate respectfully that you are unwilling to compromise that. Hiding your relationship should not be permanent. It may take time for your parents to realize that only you know what’s best for you. If it means losing your parents, that is for them to decide. Being true to yourself is what's most important for your mental, emotional and physical health. Tips Try talking to your parents about what age they think is appropriate to have a partner. Tell your partner immediately if you must hide your relationship from your parents as soon as possible. It will save you some very unpleasant conversations. Make sure your partner understands the gravity of the situation; otherwise they may tell others. Warnings You will have to pay more attention to details to not get caught. Keeping up a lie can be very taxing. You may unintentionally reveal yourself. Lying to your parents may be extremely difficult. Understand that you may never be able to regain their trust if they find out. Don’t force yourself to go against your better judgment. You will not be able to ask your parents for comfort if the relationship ends or gets difficult. When no one knows where you are or who you are with, it makes it very hard to seek justice if a crime should occur. Often, if there is something to hide, there is something wrong. Be aware that keeping your social life hidden can be very dangerous. While hidden in secrecy, it leaves your parents unable to protect or defend you if something goes wrong.
{ "create_time": "20230517 10:53:42", "回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Examining Why You Should Hide Your Relationship\\n1-1. Evaluate your priorities.\\nDecide if it's actually a good idea to keep your relationship from your parents. Do your parents disapprove of your relationship because they are strict, protective or worrisome? Does culture, gender, religion, or an age difference factor into their disapproval? While your parents have the benefit of life experience, only you know what your relationship is worth to you.\\nTalk to your friends and support system. Remember that if you keep your relationship a secret, the greater the potential problems will be when it comes to light. You have a support system to help guide you in the right direction.\\nIf you just don't think the relationship is serious enough yet and don't wish your parents to make a big deal of it, some of the following instructions may be excessive. Consider how your parents may feel if you exaggerated the need for secrecy; they may feel disappointed and wonder why don't you trust them.\\nTake risks prevention if you really go ahead. For example, think about what would you do if you are caught by your parents, think about what would you do if your parents know you are owning a separate social media account/secret cell phone that makes use to communicate with your partner, think about what would you do if your dating relationship goes wrong, think about what would you do if you broke up, etc. Consider whether these risks/consequences are affordable. It is recommended to be honest if you are getting caught. Once you get caught, more lies would only make you get into greater trouble, damaging a family relationship. As for dating relationship goes wrong or challenges comes, you will need great mental and physical quality to afford it without any support from your parents.\\n1-2. Communicate with your partner.\\nIf you want to pursue your relationship despite knowing that your parents will disapprove, let your partner know why you think that this is the right course of action. Your partner may feel less important and bring resentment to your relationship if you don't clarify your stance. The longer you hide, the more difficult it is going to be.\\nYour partner may have a valid argument if they have been through this situation before. For example, just because it is your first interracial relationship, it may not be the first time for your partner. They may have practical advice to help you understand where your parents are coming from and, above all else, having their support can help ease your stress.\\nYour partner may also misunderstand the situation. Some people expect to be introduced at the start of a serious relationship, some are cool with waiting, and some do not wish to be introduced for quite some time.\\n1-3. Consider the opinions of your parents.\\nIt may be difficult to hear negative opinions about someone you care about, but sometimes your parents may have a better perspective on long-term outcomes. Depending on your dynamic with your parents, they may have trouble articulating their disapproval.\\nRelationships with parents can be complicated. It may be difficult to be open and honest but keep your communication respectful so as not to escalate the situation. For example, while you may think that you are hiding your emotions, you actually may be coming off passive-aggressive or snarky.\\n1-4. Remember all healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and communication.\\nWhether you are trying to strengthen your relationship with your partner or maintain the relationship with your parents, trust, respect and open transparency have to be present for a lasting relationship. If you plan on hiding your relationship, ask yourself why sacrificing your parent's trust is the only option. Physical and emotional well-being should not be sacrificed for anyone, including your parents or partner.\\nWill your parents become physically or verbally abusive if they found out about your relationship? Is any aspect of your relationship conflict with your parents’ beliefs? If your parents’ disapproval is based on prejudice or if their reaction is abusive, seek professional help. Your mental and physical health is your first priority.\\n2. Overcoming Overbearing Parents\\n2-1. Be mature.\\nYour parents will always be protective so show them that you are old enough to handle the responsibilities of a relationship. Firstly, show your parents that you are responsible and can follow all the rules. If your parents think you are too young for a relationship, be on time, do your chores, and study. If you can gain your parents' trust, then your parents will soon realize that you are mature enough to handle a relationship.\\n2-2. Understand the risks of sexual activity.\\nParents often forbid relationships for fear of unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted infection. Ensure that you and your partner truly understand these risks. There is a real possibility that if you are not prepared, and you do have an unwanted pregnancy (if pregnancy is a possibility) or contract an STD/STI, your parents may not be there to support you or just can't help you (e.g., they can help you with bringing up a child to some extent, if they wish to do so; but they can't cure HIV).You may not agree with your parents rules, but communicate with your partner and respect each other's boundaries to ensure you are both prepared and safe.\\nKnow that you should be respected by your significant other and that they should listen to your choices. Compromise is vital in a relationship, but this is one area where neither party should have to compromise their beliefs. Know that if you are eager to take the relationship to another level but your partner isn't ready, you must respect their choice. Never pressure your partner.\\n2-3. Avoid PDA moments.\\nBe discreet about your affection. You never know who is watching. A trusted friend may accidentally tell your parents in passing, not knowing that your relationship is a secret.\\nStealing kisses in public and other forms of PDA may seem harmless but remember that if your parents find out, they may think that your relationship has already crossed further into the intimacy threshold.\\nIf you want to show affection towards each other, only do it in private.\\n2-4. Buy one new cell phone secretly.\\nIf it is possible to do so, owning a separate cell phone can help you in concealing information, but please remember that you must hide your new phone properly or you will be in trouble. If you are not able to buy one new phone, you may put a password in your original cell phone and computer if feasible. However, it is not advised to do so. Putting or changing a password on shared computer/cell phone may get suspicious, even some parents may ask you to unlock/undo the password set when they check your phone or use the family computer.\\nDelete the messages on your phone when you sleep or leave your phone unattended. It is recommended to delete partly instead of all messages because you may get suspicious if the messaging history is blank.\\nIt is best to use Incognito mode on a browser when you are online. Otherwise, erase browsing history after you have been online. However, erasing browsing history may look suspicious if the browser history has never been erased on a shared device, but if you use Incognito mode, you don't need to worry about this.\\nIn case your parents check your phone, either don’t put your partner’s number on your phone or use your partner’s nickname/surname instead of their actual first name. It is also possible to use the different form of their name. For example, Brian becomes Brianna and Stephanie becomes Stephen. However, it is best to memorize your partner's contact information in your mind and don't put any of their contact information on your phone.\\n2-5. Tell your partner not to post anything on social media sites or send instant messages.\\nIf you have a social media account or use other instant messaging apps, your parents could check up on you or hear from someone else with access to your account. \\nCreate an alternate account that you can use to be romantic with your partner. This is a handy tool when dealing with long distance relationships.\\n2-6. Have a cover.\\nThe trustworthy friends take two jobs: Helping you on hiding the relationship and giving you advice on your relationship.\\nThey can support you on hiding the relationship such as collaborate on stories for your parents if you're on a date. Not only those friends can be a great cover-up for phone calls or texts, but they also act as an Intelligence Agency so that you can beat yourself to the punch to take prevention. For instance, you friends find out your parents would go to somewhere on someday, then you should take consideration before you want to meet with your partner.\\nThe another job of them is monitoring your relationship. You should acquire a political wisdom: The more voice, you make smarter decision. It is better to have more than one reliable friends so that you can listen to more than one voice if you have lots of resources to do this, even your friends could form a 'House'. However the biggest disadvantage is the larger social group, the greater chance of secret leakage even through they are royal. If your friends has concerns about your partner or refuses to continue being your alibi, heed their advice. It’s easy to think that one source is wrong, but if multiple sources are telling you not to continue your relationship, perhaps it’s best to listen to their logic. Using them as an excuse if they don't agree to it is unfair to your friend.\\n2-7. Hide gifts.\\nIt is best to hide all the gifts safely. It could be at the outside of your home at your trustworthy friend's home, rent storage, your partner's home, etc. It is strongly advised not to keep the gifts at your home because your parents could find these gifts easily if they are intended and diligent in scanning every corner of your house thoroughly. \\nYou're going to draw attention from your parents if you suddenly lock your closet or room.\\nYou can also agree to treat each other to lunches or movies rather than giving physical gifts.\\n3. Managing Collateral\\n3-1. Prevent your friends from commenting about your relationship with anyone.\\nWhether it's telling people in passing or posting on each other's social media pages, convey how catastrophic it would be if their innocent comment made its way to your parents. Social media can be especially dangerous because you never know who is connected to whom.\\nAsk your friends politely not to post any incriminating comments or pictures. It may be a wise idea not to let anyone take any pictures when you are in a group setting with your significant other.\\n3-2. Use multiple social media accounts.\\nThe great thing about social media is that the larger sites are free. Set up as many accounts as you need to cover your tracks. Remember your password and only log on when using a device not shared with your parents.\\n3-3. Set up a shell email account.\\nNot only would a fake email account be advantageous because your parents won't recognize it, but you should also use it to set up your fake social media account. Remember that your parents can search for you on social media based on your email info.\\n3-4. Adjust your privacy settings on social media.\\nAll social media will give you an option to filter what information you share with the public. Go to the Settings Menu and set up your profile so that only you and your partner have access to it. You can also select a few friends to be able to view your profile if you deem them trustworthy.\\nYou will have the opportunity to filter your updates and postings so that you can block your parents from seeing. However, the best way to block your parents from seeing is not to post anything damaging at all.\\n3-5. Provide false information when creating shared social media accounts or when together in a public gathering.\\nRemember that your parents can search social media sites via your date of birth, phone number, last name, school, or job. Don't make the mistake of creating a false account without ensuring every detail won't lead back to you.\\nChange your profile name completely. Don't use your middle name, your name spelled backward, or the name of your dog. Anything remotely close to you may end up giving you away in the long run. It's better to exercise extreme caution.\\n3-6. Hide your emotions.\\nIf you get into an argument with your partner, try not to show your parents how angry or sad you are. Don't emote in public for it to get back to your parents. Find an outlet to release your emotions. It may be difficult to be unable to share your emotions, so research ways to prevent emotional outbursts.\\nFor example, taking up boxing may work to vent frustration while listening to upbeat music in headphones may be enough to cheer you up after an argument with your partner. Only you know how to handle your emotions.\\n3-7. Keep track of what you are telling everyone.\\nIf you are lying to a lot of people, it will become difficult to keep track of all the details. Keep your stories consistent and try to keep it as simple as possible. The more details you add, the more difficult it will be to remember them all.\\n3-8. Frame your partner as a platonic relationship.\\nDon't let your parents get suspicious you are hiding a relationship from them by letting them know that you have a platonic relationship with your partner that demands your time. Introduce them openly and talk about them the same as any other platonic relationship in your life.\\nFor example, if you introduce them as your coworker, you can talk about work-related issues and meetings and how you and your partner have supported one another through deadlines.\\n3-9. Change your routine.\\nMeet your partner at places that you would not normally go to and that your parents are not aware of. Change your social calendar so that you leave no chance of getting caught by your parents or someone who could tell your parents. Better yet, find out your parents' schedule. Not only will you be able to have peace-of-mind knowing where your parents are but you will also be able to meet your partner as far away from them as you can.\\n4. Dealing with a Difference in Age\\n4-1. Ask yourself if you feel like yourself around your partner.\\nYour partner should accept you for who you are and your parents may not be able to see beyond the age difference. Once your parents see that your relationship is healthy and that you are a better person for it, it will be easier for them to see beyond the age gap.\\n4-2. Keep perspective.\\nIt’s easy to get swept up in the allure of dating someone older or younger than you. Look ahead and see if the age difference will affect you in any way. Your parents may be fearful that the age gap may widen as your relationship continues.\\nA difference in age may be more of a big deal if you are younger. Your parents may be fearful that you are growing up too soon or that an older partner is taking advantage of you. A big age gap if you're a minor and your partner isn't may also be illegal if you're a minor. Take their perspective into account when continuing your relationship.\\n4-3. Understand any power dynamics.\\nIf your partner is your professor or boss, it’s prudent to know the rules. Your parents may rest easier knowing that everyone is protected from any legal actions.\\nUnderstand that being in a teacher-pupil relationship can get the teacher fired and, depending on your age, even jailed. This is one relationship that is better to be put on hold - for both of you. If you truly love each other, you can wait until both of you can legally date, and you have graduated.\\n5. Dealing with Your Parents’ Different Values\\n5-1. Surround yourself with supportive people.\\nIf you must hide your relationship because of a difference in values -- whether religious or cultural -- seek the help of people who have been in similar situations. Bide time to help your parents and/or partner adjust to the situation. By surrounding yourself with caring and respectful people, you can rise above your parents’ closed-mindedness if they are unwilling to change.\\n5-2. Support your partner.\\nAssure your partner that they are cared for and that you don’t agree with your parents but don’t want to lose your relationship with them. Build his confidence that your parents' opinions won’t hurt your relationship. Let them know that they are more important than your parent’s approval and that the secrecy is temporary.\\nYou don’t need to put a time limit, but it can be expected that your partner may give you an ultimatum. No one wants to be in a relationship that their partner is ashamed to be in. Be prepared to choose between telling your parents or losing your partner.\\n5-3. Don’t take a side.\\nThis isn’t about who is right or wrong, this is about how you define family and your own values. Everyone will have to learn to respect and accept one another if you want to have them in your life. Be strong in your own values and communicate respectfully that you are unwilling to compromise that.\\nHiding your relationship should not be permanent. It may take time for your parents to realize that only you know what’s best for you. If it means losing your parents, that is for them to decide. Being true to yourself is what's most important for your mental, emotional and physical health.\\nTips\\nTry talking to your parents about what age they think is appropriate to have a partner.\\nTell your partner immediately if you must hide your relationship from your parents as soon as possible. It will save you some very unpleasant conversations.\\nMake sure your partner understands the gravity of the situation; otherwise they may tell others.\\nWarnings\\nYou will have to pay more attention to details to not get caught.\\nKeeping up a lie can be very taxing. You may unintentionally reveal yourself.\\nLying to your parents may be extremely difficult. Understand that you may never be able to regain their trust if they find out. Don’t force yourself to go against your better judgment.\\nYou will not be able to ask your parents for comfort if the relationship ends or gets difficult.\\nWhen no one knows where you are or who you are with, it makes it very hard to seek justice if a crime should occur.\\nOften, if there is something to hide, there is something wrong. Be aware that keeping your social life hidden can be very dangerous. While hidden in secrecy, it leaves your parents unable to protect or defend you if something goes wrong.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you have a relationship you want to hide from your parents? Whether you’re keeping it a secret because you’re too young or because your parents won’t approve, there are steps you can take to keep your relationship under wraps. Keep reading for tips on how to prevent your parents from finding out about your relationship, plus how to decide if keeping your partner a secret really is the best choice for your situation.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Examining Why You Should Hide Your Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Evaluate your priorities.\", \"描述\": \"Decide if it's actually a good idea to keep your relationship from your parents. Do your parents disapprove of your relationship because they are strict, protective or worrisome? Does culture, gender, religion, or an age difference factor into their disapproval? While your parents have the benefit of life experience, only you know what your relationship is worth to you.\\nTalk to your friends and support system. Remember that if you keep your relationship a secret, the greater the potential problems will be when it comes to light. You have a support system to help guide you in the right direction.\\nIf you just don't think the relationship is serious enough yet and don't wish your parents to make a big deal of it, some of the following instructions may be excessive. Consider how your parents may feel if you exaggerated the need for secrecy; they may feel disappointed and wonder why don't you trust them.\\nTake risks prevention if you really go ahead. For example, think about what would you do if you are caught by your parents, think about what would you do if your parents know you are owning a separate social media account/secret cell phone that makes use to communicate with your partner, think about what would you do if your dating relationship goes wrong, think about what would you do if you broke up, etc. Consider whether these risks/consequences are affordable. It is recommended to be honest if you are getting caught. Once you get caught, more lies would only make you get into greater trouble, damaging a family relationship. As for dating relationship goes wrong or challenges comes, you will need great mental and physical quality to afford it without any support from your parents.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicate with your partner.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to pursue your relationship despite knowing that your parents will disapprove, let your partner know why you think that this is the right course of action. Your partner may feel less important and bring resentment to your relationship if you don't clarify your stance. The longer you hide, the more difficult it is going to be.\\nYour partner may have a valid argument if they have been through this situation before. For example, just because it is your first interracial relationship, it may not be the first time for your partner. They may have practical advice to help you understand where your parents are coming from and, above all else, having their support can help ease your stress.\\nYour partner may also misunderstand the situation. Some people expect to be introduced at the start of a serious relationship, some are cool with waiting, and some do not wish to be introduced for quite some time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider the opinions of your parents.\", \"描述\": \"It may be difficult to hear negative opinions about someone you care about, but sometimes your parents may have a better perspective on long-term outcomes. Depending on your dynamic with your parents, they may have trouble articulating their disapproval.\\nRelationships with parents can be complicated. It may be difficult to be open and honest but keep your communication respectful so as not to escalate the situation. For example, while you may think that you are hiding your emotions, you actually may be coming off passive-aggressive or snarky.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Remember all healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and communication.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you are trying to strengthen your relationship with your partner or maintain the relationship with your parents, trust, respect and open transparency have to be present for a lasting relationship. If you plan on hiding your relationship, ask yourself why sacrificing your parent's trust is the only option. Physical and emotional well-being should not be sacrificed for anyone, including your parents or partner.\\nWill your parents become physically or verbally abusive if they found out about your relationship? Is any aspect of your relationship conflict with your parents’ beliefs? If your parents’ disapproval is based on prejudice or if their reaction is abusive, seek professional help. Your mental and physical health is your first priority.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Overcoming Overbearing Parents\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be mature.\", \"描述\": \"Your parents will always be protective so show them that you are old enough to handle the responsibilities of a relationship. Firstly, show your parents that you are responsible and can follow all the rules. If your parents think you are too young for a relationship, be on time, do your chores, and study. If you can gain your parents' trust, then your parents will soon realize that you are mature enough to handle a relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand the risks of sexual activity.\", \"描述\": \"Parents often forbid relationships for fear of unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted infection. Ensure that you and your partner truly understand these risks. There is a real possibility that if you are not prepared, and you do have an unwanted pregnancy (if pregnancy is a possibility) or contract an STD/STI, your parents may not be there to support you or just can't help you (e.g., they can help you with bringing up a child to some extent, if they wish to do so; but they can't cure HIV).You may not agree with your parents rules, but communicate with your partner and respect each other's boundaries to ensure you are both prepared and safe.\\nKnow that you should be respected by your significant other and that they should listen to your choices. Compromise is vital in a relationship, but this is one area where neither party should have to compromise their beliefs. Know that if you are eager to take the relationship to another level but your partner isn't ready, you must respect their choice. Never pressure your partner.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid PDA moments.\", \"描述\": \"Be discreet about your affection. You never know who is watching. A trusted friend may accidentally tell your parents in passing, not knowing that your relationship is a secret.\\nStealing kisses in public and other forms of PDA may seem harmless but remember that if your parents find out, they may think that your relationship has already crossed further into the intimacy threshold.\\nIf you want to show affection towards each other, only do it in private.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Buy one new cell phone secretly.\", \"描述\": \"If it is possible to do so, owning a separate cell phone can help you in concealing information, but please remember that you must hide your new phone properly or you will be in trouble. If you are not able to buy one new phone, you may put a password in your original cell phone and computer if feasible. However, it is not advised to do so. Putting or changing a password on shared computer/cell phone may get suspicious, even some parents may ask you to unlock/undo the password set when they check your phone or use the family computer.\\nDelete the messages on your phone when you sleep or leave your phone unattended. It is recommended to delete partly instead of all messages because you may get suspicious if the messaging history is blank.\\nIt is best to use Incognito mode on a browser when you are online. Otherwise, erase browsing history after you have been online. However, erasing browsing history may look suspicious if the browser history has never been erased on a shared device, but if you use Incognito mode, you don't need to worry about this.\\nIn case your parents check your phone, either don’t put your partner’s number on your phone or use your partner’s nickname/surname instead of their actual first name. It is also possible to use the different form of their name. For example, Brian becomes Brianna and Stephanie becomes Stephen. However, it is best to memorize your partner's contact information in your mind and don't put any of their contact information on your phone.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tell your partner not to post anything on social media sites or send instant messages.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a social media account or use other instant messaging apps, your parents could check up on you or hear from someone else with access to your account. \\nCreate an alternate account that you can use to be romantic with your partner. This is a handy tool when dealing with long distance relationships.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Have a cover.\", \"描述\": \"The trustworthy friends take two jobs: Helping you on hiding the relationship and giving you advice on your relationship.\\nThey can support you on hiding the relationship such as collaborate on stories for your parents if you're on a date. Not only those friends can be a great cover-up for phone calls or texts, but they also act as an Intelligence Agency so that you can beat yourself to the punch to take prevention. For instance, you friends find out your parents would go to somewhere on someday, then you should take consideration before you want to meet with your partner.\\nThe another job of them is monitoring your relationship. You should acquire a political wisdom: The more voice, you make smarter decision. It is better to have more than one reliable friends so that you can listen to more than one voice if you have lots of resources to do this, even your friends could form a 'House'. However the biggest disadvantage is the larger social group, the greater chance of secret leakage even through they are royal. If your friends has concerns about your partner or refuses to continue being your alibi, heed their advice. It’s easy to think that one source is wrong, but if multiple sources are telling you not to continue your relationship, perhaps it’s best to listen to their logic. Using them as an excuse if they don't agree to it is unfair to your friend.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Hide gifts.\", \"描述\": \"It is best to hide all the gifts safely. It could be at the outside of your home at your trustworthy friend's home, rent storage, your partner's home, etc. It is strongly advised not to keep the gifts at your home because your parents could find these gifts easily if they are intended and diligent in scanning every corner of your house thoroughly. \\nYou're going to draw attention from your parents if you suddenly lock your closet or room.\\nYou can also agree to treat each other to lunches or movies rather than giving physical gifts.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Managing Collateral\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prevent your friends from commenting about your relationship with anyone.\", \"描述\": \"Whether it's telling people in passing or posting on each other's social media pages, convey how catastrophic it would be if their innocent comment made its way to your parents. Social media can be especially dangerous because you never know who is connected to whom.\\nAsk your friends politely not to post any incriminating comments or pictures. It may be a wise idea not to let anyone take any pictures when you are in a group setting with your significant other.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use multiple social media accounts.\", \"描述\": \"The great thing about social media is that the larger sites are free. Set up as many accounts as you need to cover your tracks. Remember your password and only log on when using a device not shared with your parents.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set up a shell email account.\", \"描述\": \"Not only would a fake email account be advantageous because your parents won't recognize it, but you should also use it to set up your fake social media account. Remember that your parents can search for you on social media based on your email info.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Adjust your privacy settings on social media.\", \"描述\": \"All social media will give you an option to filter what information you share with the public. Go to the Settings Menu and set up your profile so that only you and your partner have access to it. You can also select a few friends to be able to view your profile if you deem them trustworthy.\\nYou will have the opportunity to filter your updates and postings so that you can block your parents from seeing. However, the best way to block your parents from seeing is not to post anything damaging at all.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Provide false information when creating shared social media accounts or when together in a public gathering.\", \"描述\": \"Remember that your parents can search social media sites via your date of birth, phone number, last name, school, or job. Don't make the mistake of creating a false account without ensuring every detail won't lead back to you.\\nChange your profile name completely. Don't use your middle name, your name spelled backward, or the name of your dog. Anything remotely close to you may end up giving you away in the long run. It's better to exercise extreme caution.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Hide your emotions.\", \"描述\": \"If you get into an argument with your partner, try not to show your parents how angry or sad you are. Don't emote in public for it to get back to your parents. Find an outlet to release your emotions. It may be difficult to be unable to share your emotions, so research ways to prevent emotional outbursts.\\nFor example, taking up boxing may work to vent frustration while listening to upbeat music in headphones may be enough to cheer you up after an argument with your partner. Only you know how to handle your emotions.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Keep track of what you are telling everyone.\", \"描述\": \"If you are lying to a lot of people, it will become difficult to keep track of all the details. Keep your stories consistent and try to keep it as simple as possible. The more details you add, the more difficult it will be to remember them all.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Frame your partner as a platonic relationship.\", \"描述\": \"Don't let your parents get suspicious you are hiding a relationship from them by letting them know that you have a platonic relationship with your partner that demands your time. Introduce them openly and talk about them the same as any other platonic relationship in your life.\\nFor example, if you introduce them as your coworker, you can talk about work-related issues and meetings and how you and your partner have supported one another through deadlines.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Change your routine.\", \"描述\": \"Meet your partner at places that you would not normally go to and that your parents are not aware of. Change your social calendar so that you leave no chance of getting caught by your parents or someone who could tell your parents. Better yet, find out your parents' schedule. Not only will you be able to have peace-of-mind knowing where your parents are but you will also be able to meet your partner as far away from them as you can.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dealing with a Difference in Age\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask yourself if you feel like yourself around your partner.\", \"描述\": \"Your partner should accept you for who you are and your parents may not be able to see beyond the age difference. Once your parents see that your relationship is healthy and that you are a better person for it, it will be easier for them to see beyond the age gap.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep perspective.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to get swept up in the allure of dating someone older or younger than you. Look ahead and see if the age difference will affect you in any way. Your parents may be fearful that the age gap may widen as your relationship continues.\\nA difference in age may be more of a big deal if you are younger. Your parents may be fearful that you are growing up too soon or that an older partner is taking advantage of you. A big age gap if you're a minor and your partner isn't may also be illegal if you're a minor. Take their perspective into account when continuing your relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand any power dynamics.\", \"描述\": \"If your partner is your professor or boss, it’s prudent to know the rules. Your parents may rest easier knowing that everyone is protected from any legal actions.\\nUnderstand that being in a teacher-pupil relationship can get the teacher fired and, depending on your age, even jailed. This is one relationship that is better to be put on hold - for both of you. If you truly love each other, you can wait until both of you can legally date, and you have graduated.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dealing with Your Parents’ Different Values\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with supportive people.\", \"描述\": \"If you must hide your relationship because of a difference in values -- whether religious or cultural -- seek the help of people who have been in similar situations. Bide time to help your parents and/or partner adjust to the situation. By surrounding yourself with caring and respectful people, you can rise above your parents’ closed-mindedness if they are unwilling to change.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Support your partner.\", \"描述\": \"Assure your partner that they are cared for and that you don’t agree with your parents but don’t want to lose your relationship with them. Build his confidence that your parents' opinions won’t hurt your relationship. Let them know that they are more important than your parent’s approval and that the secrecy is temporary.\\nYou don’t need to put a time limit, but it can be expected that your partner may give you an ultimatum. No one wants to be in a relationship that their partner is ashamed to be in. Be prepared to choose between telling your parents or losing your partner.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don’t take a side.\", \"描述\": \"This isn’t about who is right or wrong, this is about how you define family and your own values. Everyone will have to learn to respect and accept one another if you want to have them in your life. Be strong in your own values and communicate respectfully that you are unwilling to compromise that.\\nHiding your relationship should not be permanent. It may take time for your parents to realize that only you know what’s best for you. If it means losing your parents, that is for them to decide. Being true to yourself is what's most important for your mental, emotional and physical health.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try talking to your parents about what age they think is appropriate to have a partner.\\n\", \"Tell your partner immediately if you must hide your relationship from your parents as soon as possible. It will save you some very unpleasant conversations.\\n\", \"Make sure your partner understands the gravity of the situation; otherwise they may tell others.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"You will have to pay more attention to details to not get caught.\\n\", \"Keeping up a lie can be very taxing. You may unintentionally reveal yourself.\\n\", \"Lying to your parents may be extremely difficult. Understand that you may never be able to regain their trust if they find out. 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Starting Your First Relationship: 14 Tips to Build a Strong and Lasting Connection
1. Try new things together. Make some exciting memories together so you keep growing together. You might get bored of doing the same thing every time you hang out with your partner, so find new opportunities to keep things interesting. Look for activities that neither of you has done before and give them a chance. Enjoy your time together as you learn and experience it for the first time. Some things you can do include: Visiting a museum Cooking a new recipe Taking an art class Learning to dance 2. Surprise them with a gift. This lets your partner know that you were thinking about them. Whenever you stop at the store, pick up something that reminds you of your partner. You could buy their favorite candy, a magazine they always read, or even something they’ve said they wanted for a while. The next time you see them, give them the gift and let them know it was just because you were thinking of them. Don’t buy gifts only because you expect to get some in return. Buy a few things during a single trip and keep them hidden away. The next time your partner has a bad day, you’ll have a gift ready for them so they can cheer up. 3. Give them compliments. Brighten their day by saying what you admire about them. Everyone loves to hear compliments, so get used to saying a few to your partner every day so they feel loved. Start with a phrase like “I love” or “I value” to show your appreciation. Say a specific quality about your partner that’s genuine and positive so they know how you feel about them. For example, you could say something like, “I love getting lost in your eyes.” Compliments can be about characteristics as well. For example, you might say, “I appreciate how understanding you are.” 4. Plan some fun dates. Keep your connection strong by going out and spending time with each other. Try to plan at least one date night a week so you can get out of the house and do something fun together, and take turns planning dates so you both have the opportunity to pick some fun activities. There are so many options you can do, but a few fun date ideas you can try include: Having a picnic at a park Spending the day at the beach Seeing a movie Visiting a zoo Going ice skating Pretending you’re a tourist in your town and visiting all the small shops Taking a walk in a scenic spot Going to a farmer's market 5. Build up your physical intimacy. Showing your affection makes your bond so much stronger. As you get more comfortable with your partner, you’ll probably want to feel even closer to them. Take it slow at first and don’t feel pressured to go right into something like sex. When the time feels right, try holding their hand, snuggling up against them, giving them a big hug, or kissing them to show just how much you care! Rushing into sex or things you’re not comfortable with could have a negative impact on your intimacy later on. Always respect your partner’s boundaries. If there’s something they don’t like or don’t want to do, such as public displays of affection, listen to them and avoid doing it. 6. Communicate openly and honestly. Having deep talks builds a stronger connection and prevents misunderstandings. You can’t grow closer to someone if you don’t let them get to know you more. Make some time every day to chat and catch up about your days. Let your partner know what’s going on in your life and listen to them without interrupting while they talk with you. Don’t be afraid to open up about your hobbies, childhood, or life since it shows your partner you’re comfortable around them. It can be really hard to admit when you aren't happy something with something in the relationship, but talking about it is an important step to working through it as a couple. Remember that your partner isn’t a mind reader. They won’t know what you’re thinking or feeling for sure until you say something. If you do have to bring up a problem to your partner, try telling them what you think would fix it, as well. Then, you can listen to their ideas about how to work through it. 7. Treat them how you’d want to be treated. Only doing what one person wants could lead to a controlling relationship. Show your partner respect and they’ll want to do the same for you. Invest your time equally between what you want to do and what your partner wants to do so it stays balanced. Even though you may not want to do everything that they want to, find a way to compromise so you both feel satisfied. For example, you might take turns picking what movies you watch so it doesn’t feel one-sided. Look at things from your partner’s perspective so you can understand how they’re feeling better. 8. Celebrate their achievements. You and your partner feel happier when you get excited together. Whenever your partner succeeds, sincerely congratulate them and get pumped up with them. Do everything you can to keep the excitement alive and to make the rest of the day great, like going out to eat or watching their favorite movie. For example, if your partner did well on a test they were nervous about, you could say something like, “Honey that’s so awesome! You worked so hard and I’m so proud of you. Should we get some dinner to celebrate?” Couples that celebrate together are less likely to fight and have more satisfying relationships. 9. Be supportive of your partner. Show that you care for them even when they’re struggling. Just like you should celebrate during happy moments, be present when your partner’s having a bad day. Offer to listen to them if they need to vent, talk through how to manage a situation, or just be a shoulder for them to cry on. You don’t need to solve the problems they’re having, but you should at least still be there for them. Think about what you’d want from your partner if you were going through a tough situation so you can do the same. 10. Apologize when you’re wrong. You’ll build more trust and respect when you recognize the issue. Everyone makes mistakes, but you still have to take responsibility for them. Whenever you realize you said something wrong or hurtful to your partner, apologize to them. Be genuine as you let your partner know that you did something wrong and ask for their forgiveness. For example, if you got into a heated argument, you could say, “I realize I was acting defensive when you were trying to talk to me earlier, and I’m so sorry. I should have just listened without interrupting. Can you forgive me?” 11. Work through any conflicts together. Communicate your issues so you can learn and move on from them. Disagreements are normal in a relationship, so don’t get worried if there are some harder conversations. Take a breather to collect thoughts before talking it out. Clearly explain how you’re feeling and what made you feel that way. Give your full attention to your partner as they explain their side of it as well. Discuss some possible solutions to the problem that you can both agree on so you know what to do moving forward. Use “I” statements when you’re talking through an issue so you don’t shift the blame. For example, say, “I feel lonely because I don’t have a lot of time to see you during the week,” instead of, “You always spend time with friends instead of me.” Only focus on the current issue rather than talking about a lot of things at once. 12. Say “I love you” when you’re ready. Show that you’re caring and committed, but only when you’re sure of it. There’s never a “right” time to say those 3 words in a relationship, but ask yourself if it’s what you’re truly feeling. If you really do admire and love your partner, tell them face-to-face the first time so it’s the most meaningful. We know that it’s a little scary expressing your feelings, so it’s okay to wait until you think your partner will say it back, but you might just feel better letting it out. Don’t get discouraged if your partner doesn’t say it back immediately. They might just need a little more time to feel the same way. Wait until you’re in the relationship for at least a few weeks before saying “I love you,” since saying it too early could sound clingy or creepy. 13. Keep being yourself. You shouldn’t have to change who you are for the other person. You had your own life and goals before you started dating, so keep pursuing the things you wanted. Give yourself a few minutes every day to reflect on how you’re feeling and what you want to achieve. Take care of your needs completely, and don’t be afraid to talk about them with your partner so they can help out any way they can. You only need to do things that you want to do, so don’t feel pressured into a decision by your partner if it’s something you don’t agree with. 14. Make time for friends and hobbies. Split your time so you don’t feel burnt out on the relationship. Even though you may want to spend every minute with your partner, you still have to maintain your other friendships. Keep plans that you made with your friends and set aside some “me-time” so you can get some space to be alone too. Try to devote about 50% of your free time to see your partner, 30% to hang out with friends, and about 20% to be on your own. Try to make friends with your partner's friends, too! When they're around, strike up conversations with them to find out what you have in common and just be generally friendly and open with them. If your partner gets angry or jealous that you’re hanging out with other people, then it could be a warning sign of an unhealthy relationship. Tips It’s completely normal to feel a little stressed or anxious when you’re in a new relationship. Take a step back and think about why you’re feeling that way so you can talk it through with your partner.[25] X Research source Warnings Watch out for signs of an unhealthy relationship, such as your partner trying to control you, blaming you for things, or bullying you.[26] X Research source
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Say a specific quality about your partner that’s genuine and positive so they know how you feel about them.\\nFor example, you could say something like, “I love getting lost in your eyes.”\\nCompliments can be about characteristics as well. For example, you might say, “I appreciate how understanding you are.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Plan some fun dates.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your connection strong by going out and spending time with each other.\", \"描述\": \"Try to plan at least one date night a week so you can get out of the house and do something fun together, and take turns planning dates so you both have the opportunity to pick some fun activities. There are so many options you can do, but a few fun date ideas you can try include:\\nHaving a picnic at a park\\nSpending the day at the beach\\nSeeing a movie\\nVisiting a zoo\\nGoing ice skating\\nPretending you’re a tourist in your town and visiting all the small shops\\nTaking a walk in a scenic spot\\nGoing to a farmer's market\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Build up your physical intimacy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Showing your affection makes your bond so much stronger.\", \"描述\": \"As you get more comfortable with your partner, you’ll probably want to feel even closer to them. Take it slow at first and don’t feel pressured to go right into something like sex. When the time feels right, try holding their hand, snuggling up against them, giving them a big hug, or kissing them to show just how much you care!\\nRushing into sex or things you’re not comfortable with could have a negative impact on your intimacy later on.\\nAlways respect your partner’s boundaries. If there’s something they don’t like or don’t want to do, such as public displays of affection, listen to them and avoid doing it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Communicate openly and honestly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having deep talks builds a stronger connection and prevents misunderstandings.\", \"描述\": \"You can’t grow closer to someone if you don’t let them get to know you more. Make some time every day to chat and catch up about your days. Let your partner know what’s going on in your life and listen to them without interrupting while they talk with you. Don’t be afraid to open up about your hobbies, childhood, or life since it shows your partner you’re comfortable around them.\\nIt can be really hard to admit when you aren't happy something with something in the relationship, but talking about it is an important step to working through it as a couple.\\nRemember that your partner isn’t a mind reader. They won’t know what you’re thinking or feeling for sure until you say something.\\nIf you do have to bring up a problem to your partner, try telling them what you think would fix it, as well. Then, you can listen to their ideas about how to work through it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Treat them how you’d want to be treated.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Only doing what one person wants could lead to a controlling relationship.\", \"描述\": \"Show your partner respect and they’ll want to do the same for you. Invest your time equally between what you want to do and what your partner wants to do so it stays balanced. Even though you may not want to do everything that they want to, find a way to compromise so you both feel satisfied.\\nFor example, you might take turns picking what movies you watch so it doesn’t feel one-sided.\\nLook at things from your partner’s perspective so you can understand how they’re feeling better.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Celebrate their achievements.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You and your partner feel happier when you get excited together.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever your partner succeeds, sincerely congratulate them and get pumped up with them. Do everything you can to keep the excitement alive and to make the rest of the day great, like going out to eat or watching their favorite movie.\\nFor example, if your partner did well on a test they were nervous about, you could say something like, “Honey that’s so awesome! You worked so hard and I’m so proud of you. Should we get some dinner to celebrate?”\\nCouples that celebrate together are less likely to fight and have more satisfying relationships.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be supportive of your partner.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show that you care for them even when they’re struggling.\", \"描述\": \"Just like you should celebrate during happy moments, be present when your partner’s having a bad day. Offer to listen to them if they need to vent, talk through how to manage a situation, or just be a shoulder for them to cry on. You don’t need to solve the problems they’re having, but you should at least still be there for them.\\nThink about what you’d want from your partner if you were going through a tough situation so you can do the same.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Apologize when you’re wrong.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You’ll build more trust and respect when you recognize the issue.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone makes mistakes, but you still have to take responsibility for them. Whenever you realize you said something wrong or hurtful to your partner, apologize to them. Be genuine as you let your partner know that you did something wrong and ask for their forgiveness.\\nFor example, if you got into a heated argument, you could say, “I realize I was acting defensive when you were trying to talk to me earlier, and I’m so sorry. I should have just listened without interrupting. Can you forgive me?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Work through any conflicts together.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Communicate your issues so you can learn and move on from them.\", \"描述\": \"Disagreements are normal in a relationship, so don’t get worried if there are some harder conversations. Take a breather to collect thoughts before talking it out. Clearly explain how you’re feeling and what made you feel that way. Give your full attention to your partner as they explain their side of it as well. Discuss some possible solutions to the problem that you can both agree on so you know what to do moving forward.\\nUse “I” statements when you’re talking through an issue so you don’t shift the blame. For example, say, “I feel lonely because I don’t have a lot of time to see you during the week,” instead of, “You always spend time with friends instead of me.”\\nOnly focus on the current issue rather than talking about a lot of things at once.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Say “I love you” when you’re ready.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show that you’re caring and committed, but only when you’re sure of it.\", \"描述\": \"There’s never a “right” time to say those 3 words in a relationship, but ask yourself if it’s what you’re truly feeling. If you really do admire and love your partner, tell them face-to-face the first time so it’s the most meaningful. We know that it’s a little scary expressing your feelings, so it’s okay to wait until you think your partner will say it back, but you might just feel better letting it out.\\nDon’t get discouraged if your partner doesn’t say it back immediately. They might just need a little more time to feel the same way.\\nWait until you’re in the relationship for at least a few weeks before saying “I love you,” since saying it too early could sound clingy or creepy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Keep being yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You shouldn’t have to change who you are for the other person.\", \"描述\": \"You had your own life and goals before you started dating, so keep pursuing the things you wanted. Give yourself a few minutes every day to reflect on how you’re feeling and what you want to achieve. Take care of your needs completely, and don’t be afraid to talk about them with your partner so they can help out any way they can.\\nYou only need to do things that you want to do, so don’t feel pressured into a decision by your partner if it’s something you don’t agree with.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Make time for friends and hobbies.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Split your time so you don’t feel burnt out on the relationship.\", \"描述\": \"Even though you may want to spend every minute with your partner, you still have to maintain your other friendships. Keep plans that you made with your friends and set aside some “me-time” so you can get some space to be alone too. Try to devote about 50% of your free time to see your partner, 30% to hang out with friends, and about 20% to be on your own.\\nTry to make friends with your partner's friends, too! When they're around, strike up conversations with them to find out what you have in common and just be generally friendly and open with them.\\nIf your partner gets angry or jealous that you’re hanging out with other people, then it could be a warning sign of an unhealthy relationship.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"It’s completely normal to feel a little stressed or anxious when you’re in a new relationship. Take a step back and think about why you’re feeling that way so you can talk it through with your partner.[25]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Watch out for signs of an unhealthy relationship, such as your partner trying to control you, blaming you for things, or bullying you.[26]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be in a Relationship with a Narcissist
1. Praise their good behavior. Some people with NPD respond well to positive reinforcement. When your partner does something nice for you, thank them sincerely, and don’t be afraid to go a little overboard with the compliments. Be sure to really emphasize the good things they do in the relationship—the more you make them feel good about themselves, the more likely they are to repeat those things in the future. “Thanks again for making dinner last night. That food was so good, I’m surprised you haven’t had any formal training.” “You bought me flowers? That’s so sweet! You are so thoughtful and kind.” 2. Pick your battles. Not everything is worth arguing about in a relationship. While it’s normal for every couple to argue now and then, arguing with someone who has NPD usually isn’t productive. If your partner starts an argument with you, calmly tell them that you disagree, then deescalate the situation with neutral phrases. Getting defensive or fighting back will only add fuel to the fire. “That’s not exactly how I interpreted it, but we can agree to disagree.” “I think we got our wires crossed here. Can we start over?” Unfortunately, people with NPD don’t like apologizing, either. Even if they owe you an apology, it’s better just to move on instead of insisting they say “I’m sorry.” 3. Ask them about their feelings. People with NPD often have a tough time expressing themselves. Often, their strong emotions will come out with anger—yelling, name-calling, and blaming are all typical for someone with narcissism. You can try to mitigate these reactions by checking in with them often and seeing how they’re doing. Try asking leading questions, like: “How do you feel about that?” “How are you feeling today?” “Is this too much for you?” 4. Accept your partner for who they are. Unfortunately, a narcissist is not likely to change their ways. It’s okay to request that your partner makes little changes, like how often they do the dishes or where they put their dirty laundry. But your partner’s basic character traits and morals are probably here to stay. Try to acknowledge who your partner is now, flaws and all. If your partner has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, they may be able to change some of their ways with therapy. However, that’s a long process, and it can take a while for any changes to be made. 5. Ignore inflammatory or mean comments. Getting defensive or upset is what your partner wants. Many people with narcissistic personality disorder will tell you mean or offensive things about yourself to make you feel bad. Try not to give into what they’re saying, and let these comments roll off your back. Stay calm, and don’t respond in turn. If you don’t give them a reaction, they might stop trying to provoke you. You can also use sarcasm or humor to defuse the situation. Saying things like, “Wow,” or, “Nice one,” when someone insults you can really take the wind out of their sails. 6. Let go of the need for their approval. People with NPD only have the capacity to care about themselves. This is not to say that your partner doesn’t love you—but their version of love probably doesn’t include caring about your needs. It might be tough, but do your best to stop seeking their approval or their praise. Focus on making yourself happy, not your partner. Part of this may include keeping good news to yourself. For instance, if you tell your partner that you got a raise, they might get defensive and wonder why they themselves aren’t making more money (instead of being happy for you). 7. Set boundaries for yourself. Take back some control in the relationship by setting healthy boundaries. Typically, people with narcissistic personality disorder tend to push or violate people’s boundaries fairly often. Express your boundaries clearly, and be prepared to enforce consequences if they’re crossed. Otherwise, you may find your boundaries being pushed regularly. “If you yell at me or call me names again, I’m going to walk away.” “Snooping through my phone isn’t okay. If you feel like I’m being dishonest, talk to me about it instead of going behind my back.” 8. Put your needs first. Your partner probably wants you to put their needs above your own. However, they most likely wouldn’t do the same for you. It’s important to keep your mental, emotional, and physical needs at the forefront of your mind. Since your partner isn’t going to care about them, you have to advocate for yourself and for what you want. Let’s say your partner wants to move to the city, but you’re happy living where you are. Advocate for your own needs, and make it clear that you won’t move just to make your partner happy. This goes for small things, too. If your partner wants sushi for dinner but you hate seafood (and they know it), don’t let it slide. Advocate for yourself and get something that you actually like. 9. Focus on your own goals. Meeting your personal goals will make you feel happy and accomplished. If your partner can’t give you everything you need, you may have to create that happiness for yourself. Set goals for yourself and work toward achieving them all on your own—that way, you can look back on your life and be proud of everything you’ve accomplished. Want a career change? Make a plan to go back to school. Want to pick up a new hobby? Sign up for a class at your local community center. Want to make more friends? Join a club or a group near you. 10. Raise your own self-esteem. Your partner may try to lower your self-esteem as part of their disorder. Many people with NPD view their partners as “less than” them. It’s important that you know and acknowledge your own self-worth: you are worthy of love, kindness, and respect. Repeating these things to yourself can help you get through tough moments with your partner, especially if you two are arguing. Being in a relationship with someone who has NPD can be very difficult at times. If you’re struggling, consider talking to a mental health professional. 11. Lean on your support network. Your friends and family can give you the emotional support you need. Since your partner may not be capable of giving you everything you need in a relationship, look for others who can. Talk to your close friends and family members about what you’re going through, and turn to them in times of stress. Be sure to talk to people who really understand you and won’t judge you. If you don’t want to leave your partner, talking about what you're going through might make other people upset on your behalf. 12. Encourage your partner to go to therapy. People with narcissistic personality disorder can treat some of their symptoms. With long-term therapy and even medication, your partner may be able to change some of their ways. Talk to your partner and encourage them to get help, not only for yourself but also for them. “Have you ever thought about going to therapy? I think you might find that it really helps with your anxiety and stress.” “It might be helpful for you to talk to someone. You could tell them about what you’re going through and see if they have any advice for you.” Warnings If the relationship becomes too much for you to handle or if your partner becomes abusive, it may be time to end the relationship for your own safety.
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If your partner starts an argument with you, calmly tell them that you disagree, then deescalate the situation with neutral phrases. Getting defensive or fighting back will only add fuel to the fire.\\n“That’s not exactly how I interpreted it, but we can agree to disagree.”\\n“I think we got our wires crossed here. Can we start over?”\\nUnfortunately, people with NPD don’t like apologizing, either. Even if they owe you an apology, it’s better just to move on instead of insisting they say “I’m sorry.”\\n3. Ask them about their feelings.\\nPeople with NPD often have a tough time expressing themselves.\\nOften, their strong emotions will come out with anger—yelling, name-calling, and blaming are all typical for someone with narcissism. You can try to mitigate these reactions by checking in with them often and seeing how they’re doing. Try asking leading questions, like:\\n“How do you feel about that?”\\n“How are you feeling today?”\\n“Is this too much for you?”\\n4. Accept your partner for who they are.\\nUnfortunately, a narcissist is not likely to change their ways.\\nIt’s okay to request that your partner makes little changes, like how often they do the dishes or where they put their dirty laundry. But your partner’s basic character traits and morals are probably here to stay. Try to acknowledge who your partner is now, flaws and all.\\nIf your partner has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, they may be able to change some of their ways with therapy. However, that’s a long process, and it can take a while for any changes to be made.\\n5. Ignore inflammatory or mean comments.\\nGetting defensive or upset is what your partner wants.\\nMany people with narcissistic personality disorder will tell you mean or offensive things about yourself to make you feel bad. Try not to give into what they’re saying, and let these comments roll off your back. Stay calm, and don’t respond in turn. If you don’t give them a reaction, they might stop trying to provoke you.\\nYou can also use sarcasm or humor to defuse the situation. Saying things like, “Wow,” or, “Nice one,” when someone insults you can really take the wind out of their sails.\\n6. Let go of the need for their approval.\\nPeople with NPD only have the capacity to care about themselves.\\nThis is not to say that your partner doesn’t love you—but their version of love probably doesn’t include caring about your needs. It might be tough, but do your best to stop seeking their approval or their praise. Focus on making yourself happy, not your partner.\\nPart of this may include keeping good news to yourself. For instance, if you tell your partner that you got a raise, they might get defensive and wonder why they themselves aren’t making more money (instead of being happy for you).\\n7. Set boundaries for yourself.\\nTake back some control in the relationship by setting healthy boundaries.\\nTypically, people with narcissistic personality disorder tend to push or violate people’s boundaries fairly often. Express your boundaries clearly, and be prepared to enforce consequences if they’re crossed. Otherwise, you may find your boundaries being pushed regularly.\\n“If you yell at me or call me names again, I’m going to walk away.”\\n“Snooping through my phone isn’t okay. If you feel like I’m being dishonest, talk to me about it instead of going behind my back.”\\n8. Put your needs first.\\nYour partner probably wants you to put their needs above your own.\\nHowever, they most likely wouldn’t do the same for you. It’s important to keep your mental, emotional, and physical needs at the forefront of your mind. Since your partner isn’t going to care about them, you have to advocate for yourself and for what you want.\\nLet’s say your partner wants to move to the city, but you’re happy living where you are. Advocate for your own needs, and make it clear that you won’t move just to make your partner happy.\\nThis goes for small things, too. If your partner wants sushi for dinner but you hate seafood (and they know it), don’t let it slide. Advocate for yourself and get something that you actually like.\\n9. Focus on your own goals.\\nMeeting your personal goals will make you feel happy and accomplished.\\nIf your partner can’t give you everything you need, you may have to create that happiness for yourself. Set goals for yourself and work toward achieving them all on your own—that way, you can look back on your life and be proud of everything you’ve accomplished.\\nWant a career change? Make a plan to go back to school.\\nWant to pick up a new hobby? Sign up for a class at your local community center.\\nWant to make more friends? Join a club or a group near you.\\n10. Raise your own self-esteem.\\nYour partner may try to lower your self-esteem as part of their disorder.\\nMany people with NPD view their partners as “less than” them. It’s important that you know and acknowledge your own self-worth: you are worthy of love, kindness, and respect. Repeating these things to yourself can help you get through tough moments with your partner, especially if you two are arguing.\\nBeing in a relationship with someone who has NPD can be very difficult at times. If you’re struggling, consider talking to a mental health professional.\\n11. Lean on your support network.\\nYour friends and family can give you the emotional support you need.\\nSince your partner may not be capable of giving you everything you need in a relationship, look for others who can. Talk to your close friends and family members about what you’re going through, and turn to them in times of stress.\\nBe sure to talk to people who really understand you and won’t judge you. If you don’t want to leave your partner, talking about what you're going through might make other people upset on your behalf.\\n12. Encourage your partner to go to therapy.\\nPeople with narcissistic personality disorder can treat some of their symptoms.\\nWith long-term therapy and even medication, your partner may be able to change some of their ways. Talk to your partner and encourage them to get help, not only for yourself but also for them.\\n“Have you ever thought about going to therapy? I think you might find that it really helps with your anxiety and stress.”\\n“It might be helpful for you to talk to someone. You could tell them about what you’re going through and see if they have any advice for you.”\\nWarnings\\nIf the relationship becomes too much for you to handle or if your partner becomes abusive, it may be time to end the relationship for your own safety.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (or someone who is extremely self-absorbed) can sometimes feel very confusing. You love your partner for who they are, but their actions and their words can make it seem like they don’t care about you. Looking for advice online can be overwhelming, especially since many professionals simply recommend leaving. Fortunately, there are ways that you can make your relationship with a narcissist work out. 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But your partner’s basic character traits and morals are probably here to stay. Try to acknowledge who your partner is now, flaws and all.\\nIf your partner has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, they may be able to change some of their ways with therapy. However, that’s a long process, and it can take a while for any changes to be made.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ignore inflammatory or mean comments.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting defensive or upset is what your partner wants.\", \"描述\": \"Many people with narcissistic personality disorder will tell you mean or offensive things about yourself to make you feel bad. Try not to give into what they’re saying, and let these comments roll off your back. Stay calm, and don’t respond in turn. If you don’t give them a reaction, they might stop trying to provoke you.\\nYou can also use sarcasm or humor to defuse the situation. 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Advocate for yourself and get something that you actually like.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Focus on your own goals.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meeting your personal goals will make you feel happy and accomplished.\", \"描述\": \"If your partner can’t give you everything you need, you may have to create that happiness for yourself. Set goals for yourself and work toward achieving them all on your own—that way, you can look back on your life and be proud of everything you’ve accomplished.\\nWant a career change? Make a plan to go back to school.\\nWant to pick up a new hobby? Sign up for a class at your local community center.\\nWant to make more friends? Join a club or a group near you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Raise your own self-esteem.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your partner may try to lower your self-esteem as part of their disorder.\", \"描述\": \"Many people with NPD view their partners as “less than” them. It’s important that you know and acknowledge your own self-worth: you are worthy of love, kindness, and respect. Repeating these things to yourself can help you get through tough moments with your partner, especially if you two are arguing.\\nBeing in a relationship with someone who has NPD can be very difficult at times. If you’re struggling, consider talking to a mental health professional.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Lean on your support network.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your friends and family can give you the emotional support you need.\", \"描述\": \"Since your partner may not be capable of giving you everything you need in a relationship, look for others who can. Talk to your close friends and family members about what you’re going through, and turn to them in times of stress.\\nBe sure to talk to people who really understand you and won’t judge you. If you don’t want to leave your partner, talking about what you're going through might make other people upset on your behalf.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Encourage your partner to go to therapy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"People with narcissistic personality disorder can treat some of their symptoms.\", \"描述\": \"With long-term therapy and even medication, your partner may be able to change some of their ways. Talk to your partner and encourage them to get help, not only for yourself but also for them.\\n“Have you ever thought about going to therapy? I think you might find that it really helps with your anxiety and stress.”\\n“It might be helpful for you to talk to someone. You could tell them about what you’re going through and see if they have any advice for you.”\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"If the relationship becomes too much for you to handle or if your partner becomes abusive, it may be time to end the relationship for your own safety.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be on Advanced Server on Mobile Legends: Bang Bang
1. Steps 1-1. Check the requirements first. To join Advanced Server, you will need to live in Southeast Asia, have an MLBB account of Level 15 or higher, and a stable internet connection. 1-2. Bind your Original Server account. If you do not bind your account, you could lose your progress, so it's advisable to bind your account on Facebook, VK, or Moonton. 1-3. Note this. You aren't guaranteed to be on the server as it is specific to a limited amount of users. You can keep trying to join in, but your luck may hit yourself when you reach the server! 1-4. Join the server. To join the server, you will have to go to Customer Service (person with a headset). Then, scroll down the message until you see the Applying for the Advanced Server section. You will need to fill in the application form before joining. 1-5. Wait. Within a few days, you may see a red dot in the Customer Service button. This confirms that you can enter Advanced Server with the requirements finished. If you got rejected, a message will be left from Customer Service, stating that you didn't meet the requirements. Don't worry, as you can keep applying until you meet them. If you got accepted, you can get a switch button for your account, which can be located in Account Settings, and the Test Server button. Congrats on entering Advanced Server! For iOS users that fit the requirements, you may get an invitation email from Moonton via the in-game email system for active players. The link in the email will direct the user to download. Android users will irregularly get access to Advanced Server with special permits. If a permit is available, you may get the Switch Server button. Tips Avoid being repetitive with the application, as it worsens your chances to enter the server. Do note that Advanced Server is more of a test of new things, so bugs can occur on your side.
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How to Be on Love It or List It
1. Meeting the Basic Requirements 1-1. Set aside enough money for a renovation budget of at least $50,000. To be eligible for the show, you'll need to have the financial stability to support a renovation in your home. Unlike other shows, Love It or List It requires the homeowners to create a budget for their own renovations. Save the money that you need over time, or you can dip into your savings account to get the funds. 1-2. Clear your schedule for 5 days of filming over 6-7 weeks. To be considered for the show, you'll also need to have the availability to do a 6-7 week renovation. That means you'll have to find alternative lodging as your house gets renovated and may have to adjust your work schedule fit around renovations. Actual filming requires a minimum at least five full days of your time. 1-3. Reach a consensus with your family about being on the show. A big part of the drama of the show is the dynamic between families, so it's necessary that you have a family living in the same household. Share the idea with other people in the house, such as your spouse or children. Talk to them about how they would feel about being on the show. If someone in your house doesn't want to be on the show, you may have to reconsider. You can say something like "We've been complaining about our house for a while, and I was thinking we could submit an application for Love It or List It. What do you think?" 1-4. Understand what needs to be renovated. To be considered as a contestant on the show, you'll have to have some knowledge of your house's heating, plumbing, and electrical setup and what needs to be repaired or replaced. If you don't have much experience, call in a professional to do an evaluation of your house.While they are inspecting things, actively ask questions about how things work to get a better sense of things. You should also have some ideas in mind on what you'd want to do with your space, and how the design team can help you achieve it. 2. Applying to Love It or List It U.S.A. 2-1. Own a house in North Carolina. To be eligible for the show in the U.S., you'll need to own a house in NC that's within 45 minutes of the Raleigh-Durham Triangle. The show hasn't ventured out to other areas of the country, though it may in the future. 2-2. Fill out the application. You can fill out the form digitally using a program like Adobe Acrobat Reader, or you can print out the application and fill it in with pen or pencil. Fill out the application to be on the show by answering all of the questions to the best of your ability. Make sure to make your answers exciting and intriguing to increase your chances of getting on the show. 2-3. Take the necessary photographs. In addition to your application, you'll also need to attach pictures of your home and family. Make sure to use a camera that can take high-resolution photographs. Put your photos in an attachment if you're sending the application via e-mail or send them a CD if you are sending a physical application. The necessary photographs that you need include 3-5 photos of the exterior of the house and backyard, 3-5 photos of each of the interior rooms that need to be renovated, and 1-3 pictures of your family. If you are attaching the photos to an e-mail, make sure to put them in JPEG format. 2-4. E-mail or mail your application to Big Coat Media, United States. Once you've answered all of the questions accurately and taken the required photos, e-mail the application to [email protected] or send a physical copy to 811 9th Street, Suite 215, Durham, NC 27705. Once you've submitted your application, it will take anywhere from two weeks to a month to hear back from the show if you've been selected. 3. Applying to Love It or List It Canada 3-1. Own a house in Vancouver. To be eligible for the show in Canada, you'll need to own a house that's an hour away from Vancouver. This includes North Vancouver, West Vancouver, Burnaby, Richmond, Coquitlam, Port Moody, New Westminster, and Surrey. Use a map to determine if your house would qualify for the show. 3-2. Fill out the application. If you are trying to apply to the Vancouver Love It or List It, you'll have to fill out a specific application. Go through the form and answer all of the questions to the best of your knowledge. Make sure to inject your family's unique personality into the questionnaire. 3-3. Take photos of your house and family. Love It or List It will want to see your house to get an understanding of the potential renovations that may have to take place, as well as see what your family looks like. To complete the application, include 3-5 photos of the exterior of the house, 3-5 photos of each interior room that needs to be addressed, and 1-3 photos clearly showing your family. Do not use slideshows or online-only photo formats because they won't be accepted. 3-4. Mail or e-mail your application to Big Coat Media, Canada. You can print out your application and send it to a physical address at C/O Guest Casting, 2400 Boundary Road Burnaby, BC, V5M 3Z3 or you can e-mail your application to [email protected]. Typically it can take anywhere from two weeks to a month to hear a response from the show. 4. Increasing Your Chances of Being Cast 4-1. Create an audition video. While a testimonial video isn't a requirement for the application, having one will increase your chances of getting cast onto the show. Being on film will allow the casting directors to get a good sense of how you and your family will appear on the show and will give them a better idea of if your family would help create an interesting episode. If you are sending a physical application, you can send the video on a DVD or flash drive. 4-2. Be outgoing, energetic, opinionated, and fun. Casting directors are looking for people and families with personalities. If your family is unique or extraordinary in some way, make sure to play up that aspect. The show demands a level of drama and energetic and unique people can enhance the drama. Don't be shy when answering the questions and make sure to put your personality on the forefront. 4-3. Create a story. A major concept of Love It or List It is the idea that one of the homeowners wants to stay in the house while the other wants to move out. This drama helps build tension and emotion within the episode and is what casting directors are looking for. Make sure to play up this aspect, and include it within your application or any testimonial videos that you plan on sending. Stay wholesome and family-oriented, but create a real conflict of opinion about your house. 4-4. Write descriptive answers on your application. More is better but don't ramble on your application. Put yourself in the show creator's shoes and determine what you'd like to see on the next episode of Love It or List It. When answering the questions on the application, make sure to inject your family's quirky or different personality at all times. The more different you are, the more receptive casting directors will be. Avoid being vague or generic at all times.
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Reach a consensus with your family about being on the show.\\nA big part of the drama of the show is the dynamic between families, so it's necessary that you have a family living in the same household. Share the idea with other people in the house, such as your spouse or children. Talk to them about how they would feel about being on the show. If someone in your house doesn't want to be on the show, you may have to reconsider.\\nYou can say something like \\\"We've been complaining about our house for a while, and I was thinking we could submit an application for Love It or List It. What do you think?\\\"\\n1-4. Understand what needs to be renovated.\\nTo be considered as a contestant on the show, you'll have to have some knowledge of your house's heating, plumbing, and electrical setup and what needs to be repaired or replaced. If you don't have much experience, call in a professional to do an evaluation of your house.While they are inspecting things, actively ask questions about how things work to get a better sense of things.\\nYou should also have some ideas in mind on what you'd want to do with your space, and how the design team can help you achieve it.\\n2. Applying to Love It or List It U.S.A.\\n2-1. Own a house in North Carolina.\\nTo be eligible for the show in the U.S., you'll need to own a house in NC that's within 45 minutes of the Raleigh-Durham Triangle. The show hasn't ventured out to other areas of the country, though it may in the future.\\n2-2. Fill out the application.\\nYou can fill out the form digitally using a program like Adobe Acrobat Reader, or you can print out the application and fill it in with pen or pencil. Fill out the application to be on the show by answering all of the questions to the best of your ability. Make sure to make your answers exciting and intriguing to increase your chances of getting on the show.\\n2-3. Take the necessary photographs.\\nIn addition to your application, you'll also need to attach pictures of your home and family. Make sure to use a camera that can take high-resolution photographs. Put your photos in an attachment if you're sending the application via e-mail or send them a CD if you are sending a physical application.\\nThe necessary photographs that you need include 3-5 photos of the exterior of the house and backyard, 3-5 photos of each of the interior rooms that need to be renovated, and 1-3 pictures of your family.\\nIf you are attaching the photos to an e-mail, make sure to put them in JPEG format.\\n2-4. E-mail or mail your application to Big Coat Media, United States.\\nOnce you've answered all of the questions accurately and taken the required photos, e-mail the application to [email protected] or send a physical copy to 811 9th Street, Suite 215, Durham, NC 27705. Once you've submitted your application, it will take anywhere from two weeks to a month to hear back from the show if you've been selected.\\n3. Applying to Love It or List It Canada\\n3-1. Own a house in Vancouver.\\nTo be eligible for the show in Canada, you'll need to own a house that's an hour away from Vancouver. This includes North Vancouver, West Vancouver, Burnaby, Richmond, Coquitlam, Port Moody, New Westminster, and Surrey. Use a map to determine if your house would qualify for the show.\\n3-2. Fill out the application.\\nIf you are trying to apply to the Vancouver Love It or List It, you'll have to fill out a specific application. Go through the form and answer all of the questions to the best of your knowledge. Make sure to inject your family's unique personality into the questionnaire.\\n3-3. Take photos of your house and family.\\nLove It or List It will want to see your house to get an understanding of the potential renovations that may have to take place, as well as see what your family looks like. To complete the application, include 3-5 photos of the exterior of the house, 3-5 photos of each interior room that needs to be addressed, and 1-3 photos clearly showing your family.\\nDo not use slideshows or online-only photo formats because they won't be accepted.\\n3-4. Mail or e-mail your application to Big Coat Media, Canada.\\nYou can print out your application and send it to a physical address at C/O Guest Casting, 2400 Boundary Road Burnaby, BC, V5M 3Z3 or you can e-mail your application to [email protected]. Typically it can take anywhere from two weeks to a month to hear a response from the show.\\n4. Increasing Your Chances of Being Cast\\n4-1. Create an audition video.\\nWhile a testimonial video isn't a requirement for the application, having one will increase your chances of getting cast onto the show. Being on film will allow the casting directors to get a good sense of how you and your family will appear on the show and will give them a better idea of if your family would help create an interesting episode.\\nIf you are sending a physical application, you can send the video on a DVD or flash drive.\\n4-2. Be outgoing, energetic, opinionated, and fun.\\nCasting directors are looking for people and families with personalities. If your family is unique or extraordinary in some way, make sure to play up that aspect. The show demands a level of drama and energetic and unique people can enhance the drama. Don't be shy when answering the questions and make sure to put your personality on the forefront.\\n4-3. Create a story.\\nA major concept of Love It or List It is the idea that one of the homeowners wants to stay in the house while the other wants to move out. This drama helps build tension and emotion within the episode and is what casting directors are looking for. Make sure to play up this aspect, and include it within your application or any testimonial videos that you plan on sending. Stay wholesome and family-oriented, but create a real conflict of opinion about your house.\\n4-4. Write descriptive answers on your application.\\nMore is better but don't ramble on your application. Put yourself in the show creator's shoes and determine what you'd like to see on the next episode of Love It or List It. When answering the questions on the application, make sure to inject your family's quirky or different personality at all times. The more different you are, the more receptive casting directors will be. Avoid being vague or generic at all times.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you have a house that's crumbling and you need guidance, Love It or List It is the perfect show for you. This show follows a family or couple that's struggling with home ownership. With the help of experts, these families make the decision to either sell their house or to renovate it. Currently, the show is only available to those living near North Carolina or Vancouver. Applying to Love It or List It also requires that you follow a particular procedure, but that isn't the only thing that you'll need to get on the show. Through careful planning and proper execution, you can maximize your chances of being on the show.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meeting the Basic Requirements\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set aside enough money for a renovation budget of at least $50,000.\", \"描述\": \"To be eligible for the show, you'll need to have the financial stability to support a renovation in your home. Unlike other shows, Love It or List It requires the homeowners to create a budget for their own renovations. Save the money that you need over time, or you can dip into your savings account to get the funds.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Clear your schedule for 5 days of filming over 6-7 weeks.\", \"描述\": \"To be considered for the show, you'll also need to have the availability to do a 6-7 week renovation. That means you'll have to find alternative lodging as your house gets renovated and may have to adjust your work schedule fit around renovations. Actual filming requires a minimum at least five full days of your time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Reach a consensus with your family about being on the show.\", \"描述\": \"A big part of the drama of the show is the dynamic between families, so it's necessary that you have a family living in the same household. Share the idea with other people in the house, such as your spouse or children. Talk to them about how they would feel about being on the show. If someone in your house doesn't want to be on the show, you may have to reconsider.\\nYou can say something like \\\"We've been complaining about our house for a while, and I was thinking we could submit an application for Love It or List It. What do you think?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand what needs to be renovated.\", \"描述\": \"To be considered as a contestant on the show, you'll have to have some knowledge of your house's heating, plumbing, and electrical setup and what needs to be repaired or replaced. If you don't have much experience, call in a professional to do an evaluation of your house.While they are inspecting things, actively ask questions about how things work to get a better sense of things.\\nYou should also have some ideas in mind on what you'd want to do with your space, and how the design team can help you achieve it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Applying to Love It or List It U.S.A.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Own a house in North Carolina.\", \"描述\": \"To be eligible for the show in the U.S., you'll need to own a house in NC that's within 45 minutes of the Raleigh-Durham Triangle. The show hasn't ventured out to other areas of the country, though it may in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fill out the application.\", \"描述\": \"You can fill out the form digitally using a program like Adobe Acrobat Reader, or you can print out the application and fill it in with pen or pencil. 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Once you've submitted your application, it will take anywhere from two weeks to a month to hear back from the show if you've been selected.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Applying to Love It or List It Canada\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Own a house in Vancouver.\", \"描述\": \"To be eligible for the show in Canada, you'll need to own a house that's an hour away from Vancouver. This includes North Vancouver, West Vancouver, Burnaby, Richmond, Coquitlam, Port Moody, New Westminster, and Surrey. Use a map to determine if your house would qualify for the show.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fill out the application.\", \"描述\": \"If you are trying to apply to the Vancouver Love It or List It, you'll have to fill out a specific application. Go through the form and answer all of the questions to the best of your knowledge. 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The show demands a level of drama and energetic and unique people can enhance the drama. Don't be shy when answering the questions and make sure to put your personality on the forefront.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create a story.\", \"描述\": \"A major concept of Love It or List It is the idea that one of the homeowners wants to stay in the house while the other wants to move out. This drama helps build tension and emotion within the episode and is what casting directors are looking for. Make sure to play up this aspect, and include it within your application or any testimonial videos that you plan on sending. Stay wholesome and family-oriented, but create a real conflict of opinion about your house.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Write descriptive answers on your application.\", \"描述\": \"More is better but don't ramble on your application. Put yourself in the show creator's shoes and determine what you'd like to see on the next episode of Love It or List It. When answering the questions on the application, make sure to inject your family's quirky or different personality at all times. The more different you are, the more receptive casting directors will be. Avoid being vague or generic at all times.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be on Your Middle School's Sports Team
1. Practicing Your Sport 1-1. Find the sport you like best. If you aren’t sure what sport you want to play, try a few! PE class is usually a great opportunity to try new sports. You can also sign up for recreational leagues at local community centers, youth gyms, or parks. If you don’t have access to these organizations, you can also find other kids in the neighborhood who like to play most sports, such as basketball, soccer, baseball, or roller hockey. Don’t be shy to ask if you can play. Almost every sport is better with more players! 1-2. Get the right equipment. Start saving money, or ask your parents if they will help you get the right equipment for your sport. You can try bargaining with your parents. If you receive an allowance, suggest giving it up for a year in return for football equipment. Or offer a deal: “If you buy me soccer cleats I will do twice the chores I already do for two months.” Instead of buying new equipment, you can look into renting, or you can ask your school if you can borrow their equipment. Do a little research about what you'll need. If you want to play soccer, you’ll need shin guards. If you want to play roller hockey, you’ll need roller blades. If you want to play football, be sure to get the right protective equipment. 1-3. Practice, practice, practice. You’ll want to practice your sport as much as you can. No one gets good overnight. Set aside time a few days a week to play your sport with others, and if you can’t find anyone to play with, you can always practice alone. If you don’t have anyone to play with, there are a lot of sports you can play alone. For basketball, you can practice dribbling and shooting. For soccer, you can practice dribbling between cones, kicking the ball against a wall, or juggling. For hockey, you can practice skating with a hockey stick and a tennis ball. Even if it’s just you, it’s fun to pretend like you’re in a real game scenario, so use your imagination! 1-4. Exercise a lot. Stay active when you aren’t practicing your sport, even if this means running around the block a few times. Not only will it help you play your sport, but the coach will see you are in shape and are serious about the sport. 1-5. Eat healthy It’s important to eat well if you’re trying to get into shape. Cut back on the potato chips and load your plate with fresh fruit and vegetables. Cut out empty calories like cookies and replace them with nutrient-rich snacks like carrots or orange slices. Drink lots and lots of water. Water is like fuel for your body when you’re active. If you don’t have enough, you’ll feel tired and weak. 1-6. Watch older and better players. Watch games that your high school team has to see how they play. The more games you watch, the more you will know about the game. Feel free to talk to the players and ask them how they learned the sport. They will love to brag about themselves to you, and you might just learn some tricks along the way. 2. Showing up for Tryouts 2-1. Prepare yourself the day before. Be sure to get enough sleep the night before so that you have the energy to perform your best. If you have homework that needs to be done, try to catch up so that you aren’t worrying about it while you’re trying to get ready for tryouts. 2-2. Eat well and hydrate the day of. You’ll want to eat a lean meal rich in carbohydrates so that you’ll have the energy to stay active. You’ll also want to drink plenty of water throughout the day. Think of it like you’re storing up water to be all used when you’re running around. Don’t eat right before your tryouts. Eat a couple of hours before you need to tryout, so that you have time to digest your food. Avoid dairy products like milk or any fatty or fried foods before you are active. 2-3. Show up on time. Make sure you don’t get there late, or the coach will think you don’t really care about the team. If you get there early enough you can also have a chance to meet the coach, which will make them more likely to remember you and like you. 2-4. Introduce yourself to the coach. It’s important to make a good first impression, and the best way to do this is to introduce yourself so they know who you are: “Hi, I’m Elizabeth. Nice to meet you. I play forward. I’m excited to be on the team!” Not only will the coach decide who gets on the team, but once you’re on the team it will be important to maintain a good relationship with them. 2-5. Wear the right equipment or clothing. Wear the right clothing so that you can perform well and also so that you don’t stick out. If the coach asked you to bring a white shirt and you wear a red one, you’ll look out of place! 2-6. Bring plenty of water. Remember, tryouts will be a workout. You’ll need a lot of water to stay hydrated. Bring a big water bottle. 3. Giving It Your All 3-1. Be a team player. If your sport is a team sport, be sure to do what’s best for the team, not yourself. Sometimes this means passing the ball instead of keeping it, or shooting. While you want to show your skills, being a ball-hog will only show the coach that you aren’t good at being on a team! 3-2. Be respectful. If you accidentally knock someone down, help them back up. Remember, they will hopefully be on your team in the near future. And even if you both don’t make the team, you might be able to make some friends who share an interest with you. 3-3. Have fun. Remember, sports are just games, and games are supposed to be fun. The more fun you have at a sport, the better you will perform, and the better impression you will give the coach. If you make a mistake, that’s OK -- just keep playing! 3-4. Hope for the best. After you try out, you just have to wait and hope that you make the team. If you make it, great! Celebrate! If you don’t make the team, don’t worry -- you aren’t the only one. Sometimes tryouts can be really competitive, and what matters is that you tried, even if if it didn’t work out. Keep in mind that everyone has different skill levels. The sport you picked might not be the best fit for you, or it might not be the best fit for you at the time. You can always try again next year, or in high school. 3-5. Keep playing the sport if you like it. Just because you didn’t make the school team doesn’t mean you can’t keep playing the sport. Find a community league or a group of friends who like playing, and you can keep having fun without the pressure of being on a more competitive team. Tips Do your school work. If you do make the team and you don't do your school work then you could get kicked off the team. Be passionate about it. Sports can be fun and a great way to meet new people. Drink plenty of water. If it’s hot, drink even more than you think you need! Warnings Don't skip practice. Practice is the only way to get better. If you don't make it, keep your head up. There is always the next year or high school. Don't let the coach think that you will complain or moan when you can't play.
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Or offer a deal: “If you buy me soccer cleats I will do twice the chores I already do for two months.”\\nInstead of buying new equipment, you can look into renting, or you can ask your school if you can borrow their equipment.\\nDo a little research about what you'll need. If you want to play soccer, you’ll need shin guards. If you want to play roller hockey, you’ll need roller blades. If you want to play football, be sure to get the right protective equipment.\\n1-3. Practice, practice, practice.\\nYou’ll want to practice your sport as much as you can. No one gets good overnight. Set aside time a few days a week to play your sport with others, and if you can’t find anyone to play with, you can always practice alone.\\nIf you don’t have anyone to play with, there are a lot of sports you can play alone. For basketball, you can practice dribbling and shooting. For soccer, you can practice dribbling between cones, kicking the ball against a wall, or juggling. For hockey, you can practice skating with a hockey stick and a tennis ball. Even if it’s just you, it’s fun to pretend like you’re in a real game scenario, so use your imagination!\\n1-4. Exercise a lot.\\nStay active when you aren’t practicing your sport, even if this means running around the block a few times. Not only will it help you play your sport, but the coach will see you are in shape and are serious about the sport.\\n1-5. Eat healthy\\nIt’s important to eat well if you’re trying to get into shape. Cut back on the potato chips and load your plate with fresh fruit and vegetables. Cut out empty calories like cookies and replace them with nutrient-rich snacks like carrots or orange slices.\\nDrink lots and lots of water. Water is like fuel for your body when you’re active. If you don’t have enough, you’ll feel tired and weak.\\n1-6. Watch older and better players.\\nWatch games that your high school team has to see how they play. The more games you watch, the more you will know about the game. Feel free to talk to the players and ask them how they learned the sport. They will love to brag about themselves to you, and you might just learn some tricks along the way.\\n2. Showing up for Tryouts\\n2-1. Prepare yourself the day before.\\nBe sure to get enough sleep the night before so that you have the energy to perform your best. If you have homework that needs to be done, try to catch up so that you aren’t worrying about it while you’re trying to get ready for tryouts.\\n2-2. Eat well and hydrate the day of.\\nYou’ll want to eat a lean meal rich in carbohydrates so that you’ll have the energy to stay active. You’ll also want to drink plenty of water throughout the day. Think of it like you’re storing up water to be all used when you’re running around.\\nDon’t eat right before your tryouts. Eat a couple of hours before you need to tryout, so that you have time to digest your food. Avoid dairy products like milk or any fatty or fried foods before you are active.\\n2-3. Show up on time.\\nMake sure you don’t get there late, or the coach will think you don’t really care about the team. If you get there early enough you can also have a chance to meet the coach, which will make them more likely to remember you and like you.\\n2-4. Introduce yourself to the coach.\\nIt’s important to make a good first impression, and the best way to do this is to introduce yourself so they know who you are: “Hi, I’m Elizabeth. Nice to meet you. I play forward. I’m excited to be on the team!”\\nNot only will the coach decide who gets on the team, but once you’re on the team it will be important to maintain a good relationship with them.\\n2-5. Wear the right equipment or clothing.\\nWear the right clothing so that you can perform well and also so that you don’t stick out. If the coach asked you to bring a white shirt and you wear a red one, you’ll look out of place!\\n2-6. Bring plenty of water.\\nRemember, tryouts will be a workout. You’ll need a lot of water to stay hydrated. Bring a big water bottle.\\n3. Giving It Your All\\n3-1. Be a team player.\\nIf your sport is a team sport, be sure to do what’s best for the team, not yourself. Sometimes this means passing the ball instead of keeping it, or shooting. While you want to show your skills, being a ball-hog will only show the coach that you aren’t good at being on a team!\\n3-2. Be respectful.\\nIf you accidentally knock someone down, help them back up. Remember, they will hopefully be on your team in the near future. And even if you both don’t make the team, you might be able to make some friends who share an interest with you.\\n3-3. Have fun.\\nRemember, sports are just games, and games are supposed to be fun. The more fun you have at a sport, the better you will perform, and the better impression you will give the coach. If you make a mistake, that’s OK -- just keep playing!\\n3-4. Hope for the best.\\nAfter you try out, you just have to wait and hope that you make the team. If you make it, great! Celebrate! If you don’t make the team, don’t worry -- you aren’t the only one. Sometimes tryouts can be really competitive, and what matters is that you tried, even if if it didn’t work out.\\nKeep in mind that everyone has different skill levels. The sport you picked might not be the best fit for you, or it might not be the best fit for you at the time. You can always try again next year, or in high school.\\n3-5. Keep playing the sport if you like it.\\nJust because you didn’t make the school team doesn’t mean you can’t keep playing the sport. Find a community league or a group of friends who like playing, and you can keep having fun without the pressure of being on a more competitive team.\\nTips\\nDo your school work. If you do make the team and you don't do your school work then you could get kicked off the team.\\nBe passionate about it. Sports can be fun and a great way to meet new people.\\nDrink plenty of water. If it’s hot, drink even more than you think you need!\\nWarnings\\nDon't skip practice. Practice is the only way to get better.\\nIf you don't make it, keep your head up. There is always the next year or high school. Don't let the coach think that you will complain or moan when you can't play.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Trying out for a middle school sports team can seem intimidating at first, but don’t worry – you can do it! All it takes is determination. Work on getting in enough practice and improving your diet before you go to tryouts. Before going out for the team, make sure it’s a sport that you are really interested in. Once you make the team, you’ll be spending a lot of time playing it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practicing Your Sport\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find the sport you like best.\", \"描述\": \"If you aren’t sure what sport you want to play, try a few! 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How to Be the "It" Girl
1. Steps 1-1. Express yourself! Be who want to be and don't be afraid to show off your true self! Just make sure you don't come off as overly weird or strange in any way; don't be too loud either. People don't like those who don't know how to be quiet sometimes. 1-2. Love being you. You can't expect people to look up to you and adore you if you don't love yourself. Treat yourself like a goddess and always give yourself the best; however, know when to stop. If you act as though you are above everyone else, you can come across as a narcissistic person and nobody wants that. 1-3. Have a fun and unique vibe! Make sure that you are unpredictable but make it subtle. This will attract a lot of attention from everyone and make people want to know you better. 1-4. Wear gorgeous clothes. This is absolutely crucial. You need to dress in a very stylish way - just like a model off vogue magazine or the Chanel runway. Try to wear as much designer brands as you can, such as Tod's, Tory Burch, Chloe, Max Mara, Michael Kors, DKNY, Max Azria, L.L.Bean, Ralph Lauren, Miss Me, True Religion and J Crew. Save the designers such as Chanel, Yves Saint Laurent and Gucci for when you're a little older, because this may lead to people thinking that your clothes are knockoffs. If you can't afford these brands, try going to high end high street shops and find clothes that are reasonably priced but look very couture. If you still can't afford these brands, go to places that have nice clothing that is in style and your style. Go to places like Forever 21 and Zara. 1-5. Go all out on designer bags and jewelry. Tiffany and Co, Links of London, Wright and Teague, Pandora; anything that suits you! Remember, diamonds are a girls best friend! Try choosing finer jewelry rather than cheap $20 necklaces from Forever 21 or £10 necklaces from Topshop. As for bags, the best brands are Fendi, Ferragamo, Michael Kors, Yves Saint Laurent and Louis Vuitton. However, try to be as subtle as possible. Ensure that you grow a fairly large Fine Jewelry Collection and get a nice display case for it to protect it from any damage. Keep away from *shudder* Cubic Zirconia!! If your not all for the big purses, get a purse that is still a good brand but downsize them, get one that is smaller than the totes or the big fancy purses. 1-6. Don't be afraid to wear makeup! For most days, wear it natural but if it's a special event, wear something very elaborate and stunning. Make sure you get the best make up brands such as Chanel, Bobbi Brown, MAC, YSL and Dior because, after all, the It Girl deserves the best of the best (plus they are better for your skin compared to those cheap, toy make-up brands). Take care of your skin before applying make-up. Depending on how sensitive your skin is will also depend on how much make-up you are able to apply (before and after effects). If you are awful at doing make up, hire a professional make up artist instead. If you can't afford a professional, practice doing your make up and look up good tutorials on YouTube so you can get really good at it. 1-7. Get out and about and be a social butterfly! Hang around everyone one and make plans with them. Make sure that everyone knows who you are and you know who everyone is. You don't need to start picking members for your clique just yet though. 1-8. Keep away from blogs! You can read them but that's as far as it goes; do not create a blog! Some sour people may make fun of you with this. 1-9. Read magazines. Teen Vogue, Vogue, InStyle, Red and Grazia will give you hints, if your not quite sure what's in style and what's not. 1-10. Don't be afraid to ask guys out! However, don't be too easy and throw yourself at them. Make them run after you, begging for a little more of you. Whatever happens, just make sure you are not too forward! Those are the kind of people you keep well away from. Play hard to get and tease the guys that you like (again, make sure you watch out for the limitations). 1-11. Get good grades! If you don't already, work harder! You have to feel good about your intellect. Just don't go overboard. Getting good grades is definitely key because people know you know your stuff, teachers and other students appreciate it when a student knows what she needs to know and more. 1-12. Be nice, but not that nice. It's okay to be a little rough at times! It puts people in their place! Do not let mean bullies make you feel bad. 1-13. Create your own clique. This must consist of 2-4 other girls, excluding yourself. You must be the leader of the clique, and you may choose 2-4 of the following to be in your group: The Sweetheart, The Party Animal, The Prep, The Shy Girl, The Athletic One, The Fashion Obsessed One or The Quirky Kitsch One. Make sure that all of the people in your clique are pretty, intelligent and are faithful and nice to one another. These are your "best friends forever" whom you rule the school together with. These are the girls who always know what's up with you before anyone else. Make sure that no scrapes or wannabees get in though. 1-14. Eat healthy! The It Girl is NEVER chubby, so put that candy bar back on the shelf! Have a very healthy routine and try to get yourself into many sports in and around school. Never starve yourself. Tips Strut your stuff! Be a pro at putting on makeup in case people see you at the MAC counter. Be cool. Warnings Don't force yourself to do things that you don't want to do. If you don't want to do a thing or two on here, don't make yourself do it. Confidence and independence is the key to all beauty. Don't do whatever you want. There are limits to everything. Don't get into drugs or underage drinking. Being the It Girl is important, but if forced to choose, put school first. You can resume your position later. Don't be too mean! People will know you as the "Snobby Girl" rather than the "It Girl", and that is not what you're aiming for, is it?
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Try to wear as much designer brands as you can, such as Tod's, Tory Burch, Chloe, Max Mara, Michael Kors, DKNY, Max Azria, L.L.Bean, Ralph Lauren, Miss Me, True Religion and J Crew. Save the designers such as Chanel, Yves Saint Laurent and Gucci for when you're a little older, because this may lead to people thinking that your clothes are knockoffs.\\nIf you can't afford these brands, try going to high end high street shops and find clothes that are reasonably priced but look very couture. If you still can't afford these brands, go to places that have nice clothing that is in style and your style. Go to places like Forever 21 and Zara.\\n1-5. Go all out on designer bags and jewelry.\\nTiffany and Co, Links of London, Wright and Teague, Pandora; anything that suits you! Remember, diamonds are a girls best friend! Try choosing finer jewelry rather than cheap $20 necklaces from Forever 21 or £10 necklaces from Topshop. As for bags, the best brands are Fendi, Ferragamo, Michael Kors, Yves Saint Laurent and Louis Vuitton. However, try to be as subtle as possible.\\nEnsure that you grow a fairly large Fine Jewelry Collection and get a nice display case for it to protect it from any damage. Keep away from *shudder* Cubic Zirconia!! If your not all for the big purses, get a purse that is still a good brand but downsize them, get one that is smaller than the totes or the big fancy purses.\\n1-6. Don't be afraid to wear makeup!\\nFor most days, wear it natural but if it's a special event, wear something very elaborate and stunning. Make sure you get the best make up brands such as Chanel, Bobbi Brown, MAC, YSL and Dior because, after all, the It Girl deserves the best of the best (plus they are better for your skin compared to those cheap, toy make-up brands). Take care of your skin before applying make-up. Depending on how sensitive your skin is will also depend on how much make-up you are able to apply (before and after effects).\\nIf you are awful at doing make up, hire a professional make up artist instead. If you can't afford a professional, practice doing your make up and look up good tutorials on YouTube so you can get really good at it.\\n1-7. Get out and about and be a social butterfly!\\nHang around everyone one and make plans with them. Make sure that everyone knows who you are and you know who everyone is. You don't need to start picking members for your clique just yet though.\\n1-8. Keep away from blogs!\\nYou can read them but that's as far as it goes; do not create a blog! Some sour people may make fun of you with this.\\n1-9. Read magazines.\\nTeen Vogue, Vogue, InStyle, Red and Grazia will give you hints, if your not quite sure what's in style and what's not.\\n1-10. Don't be afraid to ask guys out!\\nHowever, don't be too easy and throw yourself at them. Make them run after you, begging for a little more of you. Whatever happens, just make sure you are not too forward! Those are the kind of people you keep well away from. Play hard to get and tease the guys that you like (again, make sure you watch out for the limitations).\\n1-11. Get good grades!\\nIf you don't already, work harder! You have to feel good about your intellect. Just don't go overboard. Getting good grades is definitely key because people know you know your stuff, teachers and other students appreciate it when a student knows what she needs to know and more.\\n1-12. Be nice, but not that nice.\\nIt's okay to be a little rough at times! It puts people in their place! Do not let mean bullies make you feel bad.\\n1-13. Create your own clique.\\nThis must consist of 2-4 other girls, excluding yourself. You must be the leader of the clique, and you may choose 2-4 of the following to be in your group: The Sweetheart, The Party Animal, The Prep, The Shy Girl, The Athletic One, The Fashion Obsessed One or The Quirky Kitsch One.\\nMake sure that all of the people in your clique are pretty, intelligent and are faithful and nice to one another. These are your \\\"best friends forever\\\" whom you rule the school together with. These are the girls who always know what's up with you before anyone else. Make sure that no scrapes or wannabees get in though.\\n1-14. Eat healthy!\\nThe It Girl is NEVER chubby, so put that candy bar back on the shelf! Have a very healthy routine and try to get yourself into many sports in and around school. Never starve yourself.\\nTips\\nStrut your stuff!\\nBe a pro at putting on makeup in case people see you at the MAC counter.\\nBe cool.\\nWarnings\\nDon't force yourself to do things that you don't want to do. If you don't want to do a thing or two on here, don't make yourself do it. Confidence and independence is the key to all beauty.\\nDon't do whatever you want. There are limits to everything. Don't get into drugs or underage drinking.\\nBeing the It Girl is important, but if forced to choose, put school first. You can resume your position later.\\nDon't be too mean! People will know you as the \\\"Snobby Girl\\\" rather than the \\\"It Girl\\\", and that is not what you're aiming for, is it?\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you always wanted to be the girl that everyone envies? The Alison DiLaurentis, the Regina George, the Massie Block, or the Blair Waldorf of your school? Are you wondering how to catch everyone's eye and stand out in a great way? Or do you just want everyone to look up to you and realize how amazing you are? Then here's the scoop: you can easily become that by following this article! Just scroll down, and you'll be that \\\"it\\\" girl! You don't need to do this over the summer, you can do it anywhere, anytime, any place...\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Express yourself!\", \"描述\": \"Be who want to be and don't be afraid to show off your true self! Just make sure you don't come off as overly weird or strange in any way; don't be too loud either. People don't like those who don't know how to be quiet sometimes.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Love being you.\", \"描述\": \"You can't expect people to look up to you and adore you if you don't love yourself. Treat yourself like a goddess and always give yourself the best; however, know when to stop. If you act as though you are above everyone else, you can come across as a narcissistic person and nobody wants that.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have a fun and unique vibe!\", \"描述\": \"Make sure that you are unpredictable but make it subtle. This will attract a lot of attention from everyone and make people want to know you better.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear gorgeous clothes.\", \"描述\": \"This is absolutely crucial. You need to dress in a very stylish way - just like a model off vogue magazine or the Chanel runway. Try to wear as much designer brands as you can, such as Tod's, Tory Burch, Chloe, Max Mara, Michael Kors, DKNY, Max Azria, L.L.Bean, Ralph Lauren, Miss Me, True Religion and J Crew. Save the designers such as Chanel, Yves Saint Laurent and Gucci for when you're a little older, because this may lead to people thinking that your clothes are knockoffs.\\nIf you can't afford these brands, try going to high end high street shops and find clothes that are reasonably priced but look very couture. If you still can't afford these brands, go to places that have nice clothing that is in style and your style. Go to places like Forever 21 and Zara.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Go all out on designer bags and jewelry.\", \"描述\": \"Tiffany and Co, Links of London, Wright and Teague, Pandora; anything that suits you! Remember, diamonds are a girls best friend! Try choosing finer jewelry rather than cheap $20 necklaces from Forever 21 or £10 necklaces from Topshop. As for bags, the best brands are Fendi, Ferragamo, Michael Kors, Yves Saint Laurent and Louis Vuitton. However, try to be as subtle as possible.\\nEnsure that you grow a fairly large Fine Jewelry Collection and get a nice display case for it to protect it from any damage. Keep away from *shudder* Cubic Zirconia!! If your not all for the big purses, get a purse that is still a good brand but downsize them, get one that is smaller than the totes or the big fancy purses.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to wear makeup!\", \"描述\": \"For most days, wear it natural but if it's a special event, wear something very elaborate and stunning. Make sure you get the best make up brands such as Chanel, Bobbi Brown, MAC, YSL and Dior because, after all, the It Girl deserves the best of the best (plus they are better for your skin compared to those cheap, toy make-up brands). Take care of your skin before applying make-up. Depending on how sensitive your skin is will also depend on how much make-up you are able to apply (before and after effects).\\nIf you are awful at doing make up, hire a professional make up artist instead. 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How to Be the "It" Girl in Middle School
1. Looking Your Best 1-1. Always have good hygiene! Being hygienic is the first step towards looking and feeling good. Consider shaving and plucking hair. This optional step can help prevent excess sweating. Shower every 1-2 days. Most girls shower daily in middle school. You should shower if you feel gross or your hair is oily, because it might mean you're smelly too. Wash your face using facial soap so it doesn't clog your pores. If you struggle with acne, try a special soap or face wipe. Wear deodorant every day. You can try a little perfume, but don't wear too much or it will bother people. 1-2. Start small with makeup if you're interested in it. Some girls start experimenting with makeup in middle school. If you're new to makeup, keep it natural at first. Other girls prefer not to mess with makeup. You can look pretty either way. If you try foundation, make sure it matches your skin color, and blend it carefully. If they don't have your color but have both a darker and a lighter color, then buy both and mix them together. For lipstick and lip gloss, start with something close to your natural lip color. 1-3. Play with your hair a little. Try messing with braids, ponytails, and accessories. This can be a fun way to experiment with your style. If you need ideas, try looking for tutorials online. 1-4. Dress nicely. Try picking clothes in colors that enhance your complexion. Pick clothes that are clean and well-fitting. Try learning the basics of how to match colors. Learning a little color theory can help you pick fun outfits. To look extra stylish, try pairing a loose piece of clothing with something tight. For example, you might wear a tighter top with a loose skirt and jacket. 1-5. Take care of yourself. Self-care is critical for looking good. Do what you can to keep yourself healthy and rested. The better you feel, the easier it will be to connect with people. Stay hydrated for better skin and health. Try to fill at least 1/3 of your plate with fruits and vegetables. A plant-based diet is good for you, so consider cutting back on meat and dairy. Limit your desserts to something small once a day. Try eating it slowly so you can savor it more. Exercise for a healthy glow. Find a few types of exercise you really enjoy. Try taking walks with friends or family regularly. Get lots of sleep. Your body and brain need rest to grow, so get 8-10 hours of sleep every night. Following a routine can help. This will help boost your mood and your brainpower too. 1-6. Avoid bad habits. Sleeplessness, drugs, alcohol, and other bad habits can harm your beauty and your health. Don't start relying on caffeine, especially at such a young age. If you're having trouble waking up in the morning, that means you aren't going to bed early enough. Don't start smoking or vaping. It's hard to be pretty if you and your clothes smell bad, and you can get health problems. Remember that marijuana is a drug too. You could face serious side effects, especially since you're still young and growing. Getting high can also make you do foolish things, and in the age of social media videos, those bad decisions can stick with you for a long time. 2. Being Friendly 2-1. Say nice things to other people. Most of all, people love to be treated well. Give people sincere compliments and be understanding to them when they stumble. People really remember those things. It makes them like you. When your friends are talking about someone else, choose your words kindly. Don't say anything that you wouldn't be okay with that person hearing. If you're mad, walk away before you say something you'd regret. 2-2. Be interested, not interesting. You can be the most interesting person in the world and have nobody like you. Instead, show interest in other people to make them happy. People love to talk about themselves and their favorite things. Ask questions. Taking a genuine interest in other people will give you and aura of approachability and make it easier to connect with people. 2-3. Ask for advice. People love to give advice because it makes them important. If you're unsure about something, or if you don't really care about the outcome, ask someone else what they think you should do. This makes them feel special. 2-4. Validate people's feelings Instead of telling people to stop being sad, try telling them it's okay to be sad. When people come to you with their feelings, they want to feel like you understand them. Here are some examples of things that can help people feel better. "I'm sorry to hear you're going through that." "That sounds really difficult." "Of course you felt nervous. Lots of people have trouble going up on stage like that." "I'm here for you." 2-5. Treat everyone with respect, even if you don't like them or agree with them. This includes older people like parents and teachers. However things go, speak to them with respect. This is a sign of maturity and it really impresses people. Skip bad habits like name-calling, needless arguing, and saying bad things about people behind their backs. If someone's behavior really bothers you, talk to them respectfully using "I" language to describe your feelings. See if you can find a resolution together. If using "I" language doesn't work, then maybe you need help from an adult. Find a trusted adult and let them know what's going on. Ask them if they can help you fix it. 2-6. Only try dating if you're interested. If you haven't found the right significant other yet, then don't pressure yourself. Everyone starts on a different timeline (and a few people never do, which is okay too). You should only start dating someone if you really like them and think it would be fun. Don't let friends pressure you, either. If they ask, say "Nobody has caught my eye yet" or "I don't think I'm ready." Don't date someone who doesn't respect you. If your date pressures you, calls you names, or treats you like dirt, then dump them. 2-7. Do your best to keep a positive attitude. Try keeping a gratitude journal and work on maintaining perspective when things go wrong. Remind yourself of the good things in life, and enjoy them when they come. Life isn't all good, so focus on the good when it happens. Make time for things that make you smile, even if it's as simple as watching a cute puppy video before bed. Of course, nobody is happy all the time. When you're upset, try asking your friends if they can be there for you. 3. Being Your Best 3-1. Do your best in school. If you work hard at school, people will think you have a bright future ahead of you. Stay awake and alert in class, and try to raise your hand often. (Most teachers love students who raise their hands, even if you don't always have the right answer.) Study for quizzes and tests. Try not to get anything lower than a C. If you're really struggling in school, don't keep it a secret. Instead, tell your teacher, family, or guidance counselor. Ask for help. They can help you make a plan. 3-2. Put time into your hobbies. Your hobbies will help you gain skills, and they also make you a little more interesting. Try joining a club or two related to the things you love. Make time to practice, either on your own or with friends. 3-3. Encourage other people to be their best. People don't just want to be impressed. They want other people to be impressed by them. Help your friends shine. Tips Listen to happy, upbeat music every once in a while to maintain positivity. Go to every school event you can! This will help you meet more people and make yourself known. Despite what you may see in the movies, causing trouble is not smart. Respect your peers and your teachers. Warnings Don't change yourself completely. Don't let rumors bother you. Stay within your comfort zone. And most importantly, be YOURSELF! Being an it-girl does not mean being popular and hot. Be who you want to be and don't let others bring you down.
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You can look pretty either way.\\nIf you try foundation, make sure it matches your skin color, and blend it carefully. If they don't have your color but have both a darker and a lighter color, then buy both and mix them together.\\nFor lipstick and lip gloss, start with something close to your natural lip color.\\n1-3. Play with your hair a little.\\nTry messing with braids, ponytails, and accessories. This can be a fun way to experiment with your style. If you need ideas, try looking for tutorials online.\\n1-4. Dress nicely.\\nTry picking clothes in colors that enhance your complexion. Pick clothes that are clean and well-fitting.\\nTry learning the basics of how to match colors. Learning a little color theory can help you pick fun outfits.\\nTo look extra stylish, try pairing a loose piece of clothing with something tight. For example, you might wear a tighter top with a loose skirt and jacket.\\n1-5. Take care of yourself.\\nSelf-care is critical for looking good. Do what you can to keep yourself healthy and rested. The better you feel, the easier it will be to connect with people.\\nStay hydrated for better skin and health.\\nTry to fill at least 1/3 of your plate with fruits and vegetables. A plant-based diet is good for you, so consider cutting back on meat and dairy.\\nLimit your desserts to something small once a day. Try eating it slowly so you can savor it more.\\nExercise for a healthy glow. Find a few types of exercise you really enjoy. Try taking walks with friends or family regularly.\\nGet lots of sleep. Your body and brain need rest to grow, so get 8-10 hours of sleep every night. Following a routine can help. This will help boost your mood and your brainpower too.\\n1-6. Avoid bad habits.\\nSleeplessness, drugs, alcohol, and other bad habits can harm your beauty and your health.\\nDon't start relying on caffeine, especially at such a young age. If you're having trouble waking up in the morning, that means you aren't going to bed early enough.\\nDon't start smoking or vaping. It's hard to be pretty if you and your clothes smell bad, and you can get health problems.\\nRemember that marijuana is a drug too. You could face serious side effects, especially since you're still young and growing. Getting high can also make you do foolish things, and in the age of social media videos, those bad decisions can stick with you for a long time.\\n2. Being Friendly\\n2-1. Say nice things to other people.\\nMost of all, people love to be treated well. Give people sincere compliments and be understanding to them when they stumble. People really remember those things. It makes them like you.\\nWhen your friends are talking about someone else, choose your words kindly. Don't say anything that you wouldn't be okay with that person hearing.\\nIf you're mad, walk away before you say something you'd regret.\\n2-2. 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For example, you might wear a tighter top with a loose skirt and jacket.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take care of yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Self-care is critical for looking good. Do what you can to keep yourself healthy and rested. The better you feel, the easier it will be to connect with people.\\nStay hydrated for better skin and health.\\nTry to fill at least 1/3 of your plate with fruits and vegetables. A plant-based diet is good for you, so consider cutting back on meat and dairy.\\nLimit your desserts to something small once a day. Try eating it slowly so you can savor it more.\\nExercise for a healthy glow. Find a few types of exercise you really enjoy. Try taking walks with friends or family regularly.\\nGet lots of sleep. Your body and brain need rest to grow, so get 8-10 hours of sleep every night. Following a routine can help. This will help boost your mood and your brainpower too.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid bad habits.\", \"描述\": \"Sleeplessness, drugs, alcohol, and other bad habits can harm your beauty and your health.\\nDon't start relying on caffeine, especially at such a young age. If you're having trouble waking up in the morning, that means you aren't going to bed early enough.\\nDon't start smoking or vaping. It's hard to be pretty if you and your clothes smell bad, and you can get health problems.\\nRemember that marijuana is a drug too. You could face serious side effects, especially since you're still young and growing. Getting high can also make you do foolish things, and in the age of social media videos, those bad decisions can stick with you for a long time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Friendly\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Say nice things to other people.\", \"描述\": \"Most of all, people love to be treated well. Give people sincere compliments and be understanding to them when they stumble. People really remember those things. It makes them like you.\\nWhen your friends are talking about someone else, choose your words kindly. Don't say anything that you wouldn't be okay with that person hearing.\\nIf you're mad, walk away before you say something you'd regret.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be interested, not interesting.\", \"描述\": \"You can be the most interesting person in the world and have nobody like you. Instead, show interest in other people to make them happy. People love to talk about themselves and their favorite things. Ask questions.\\nTaking a genuine interest in other people will give you and aura of approachability and make it easier to connect with people.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask for advice.\", \"描述\": \"People love to give advice because it makes them important. If you're unsure about something, or if you don't really care about the outcome, ask someone else what they think you should do. This makes them feel special.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Validate people's feelings\", \"描述\": \"Instead of telling people to stop being sad, try telling them it's okay to be sad. When people come to you with their feelings, they want to feel like you understand them. Here are some examples of things that can help people feel better.\\n\\\"I'm sorry to hear you're going through that.\\\"\\n\\\"That sounds really difficult.\\\"\\n\\\"Of course you felt nervous. Lots of people have trouble going up on stage like that.\\\"\\n\\\"I'm here for you.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Treat everyone with respect, even if you don't like them or agree with them.\", \"描述\": \"This includes older people like parents and teachers. However things go, speak to them with respect. This is a sign of maturity and it really impresses people.\\nSkip bad habits like name-calling, needless arguing, and saying bad things about people behind their backs.\\nIf someone's behavior really bothers you, talk to them respectfully using \\\"I\\\" language to describe your feelings. See if you can find a resolution together.\\nIf using \\\"I\\\" language doesn't work, then maybe you need help from an adult. Find a trusted adult and let them know what's going on. Ask them if they can help you fix it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Only try dating if you're interested.\", \"描述\": \"If you haven't found the right significant other yet, then don't pressure yourself. Everyone starts on a different timeline (and a few people never do, which is okay too). You should only start dating someone if you really like them and think it would be fun.\\nDon't let friends pressure you, either. If they ask, say \\\"Nobody has caught my eye yet\\\" or \\\"I don't think I'm ready.\\\"\\nDon't date someone who doesn't respect you. If your date pressures you, calls you names, or treats you like dirt, then dump them.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Do your best to keep a positive attitude.\", \"描述\": \"Try keeping a gratitude journal and work on maintaining perspective when things go wrong. Remind yourself of the good things in life, and enjoy them when they come. Life isn't all good, so focus on the good when it happens.\\nMake time for things that make you smile, even if it's as simple as watching a cute puppy video before bed.\\nOf course, nobody is happy all the time. When you're upset, try asking your friends if they can be there for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being Your Best\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do your best in school.\", \"描述\": \"If you work hard at school, people will think you have a bright future ahead of you. Stay awake and alert in class, and try to raise your hand often. (Most teachers love students who raise their hands, even if you don't always have the right answer.) Study for quizzes and tests.\\nTry not to get anything lower than a C.\\nIf you're really struggling in school, don't keep it a secret. Instead, tell your teacher, family, or guidance counselor. Ask for help. They can help you make a plan.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Put time into your hobbies.\", \"描述\": \"Your hobbies will help you gain skills, and they also make you a little more interesting. Try joining a club or two related to the things you love. Make time to practice, either on your own or with friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Encourage other people to be their best.\", \"描述\": \"People don't just want to be impressed. They want other people to be impressed by them. Help your friends shine.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Listen to happy, upbeat music every once in a while to maintain positivity.\\n\", \"Go to every school event you can! This will help you meet more people and make yourself known.\\n\", \"Despite what you may see in the movies, causing trouble is not smart. Respect your peers and your teachers.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't change yourself completely.\\n\", \"Don't let rumors bother you.\\n\", \"Stay within your comfort zone.\\n\", \"And most importantly, be YOURSELF! Being an it-girl does not mean being popular and hot. Be who you want to be and don't let others bring you down.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Alpha Female
1. Changing Your Attitude 1-1. Be confident in yourself. This first step is certainly the hardest, but it is the most important. You need to realize that you have opinions and ideas that are worth being heard. If you don't see yourself as valuable, worthy of respect, or competent, then no one else will. 1-2. Fake it until you make it. The fastest ways to build confidence in yourself is pretend in order to make your confidence believable. You want to convince yourself as well as everyone around you that you're self-assured and capable. 1-3. Make a list of your best traits. Determine what you like best about yourself and your best talents and skills. You might be a good listener, imaginative, or empathetic to friends. Leave that list somewhere you can read it every day to remind yourself. 1-4. Start by setting new goals for yourself. For example, push yourself to meet and network with three new people a day. You will become more comfortable with yourself around all sorts of people and develop a web of contacts. Once you've completed one goal, make a new one to work towards so that you're always pushing yourself to be more personable and popular. 1-5. Self-evaluate yourself but don't put yourself down in front of others. You want to be critical of yourself in a healthy way that helps you grow as a person. Avoid being negative though. Be careful to not beat yourself up to where you doubt yourself. Give yourself constructive criticism in private and not in front of others because that may tell them that you don't think of highly of yourself and neither should they. 1-6. Gain respect from those around you. As the alpha, you want people to recognize that you are important and worthy of their respect. This will not happen overnight; you will need to work on building relationships where people can see your integrity and honesty. Those two traits, as well as eloquence, charm, and a strong work ethic will help build up your character in people's eyes. Even though you want the majority of people to like you, there will be people who do not. The end goal though is for people to respect you, whether they agree with you or not. They may not like you as a friend or coworker, but make sure that they can't deny your honesty, passion, and strength. 1-7. Apologize only when it's needed. Obviously, if you insult or hurt someone or make a mistake, you need to own up to it. But don't apologize for things that you are not accountable for because you will be perceived as weak. Females can be especially susceptible to wanting to apologize for every inconvenience but you need to determine when situations require a "pardon me"or "I'm deeply sorry." 1-8. Stop making excuses. Take responsibility for your actions and own up to everything you do, whether it's an accomplishment or a mistake. This is the kind of honesty and integrity that people associate with good leaders. You don't want to blame situations or other people for your mistakes. 1-9. Stay positive under stress. If you want people to look to you in times of stability as well as crisis, you need to be the one who does not appear to be affected by stress and pessimism. You may need to set aside emotions in order to see clearly through the storm of chaos, whether it's a looming deadline at work or a friend comes to you for help in search of advice. Use humor to lift others out of the stress, whether it's sarcastic, dry, or sincere. 1-10. Know what you want and ask for it. First, you need to determine what you want out of life. That could be any number of things, such as a raise, a healthy and stable family, a great relationship, respect and power, or even just being happy overall. Then, once you know what it is you want to acquire, go after it. Do not be afraid. If you feel that you have a right to higher wages or respect from others, then don't hesitate. Be prepared to give an answer as to why you want something. You may not always have to negotiate or argue, but you want to be prepared. Speak clearly and firmly when asking. Hesitation is a sign of weakness. Be persistent and don't give up because your perseverance will be respected in the long run. Don't plead or whine because that comes across as weak. Instead, act like you will get what you want so that it will show others that you are serious about this goal or proposition. 2. Working/Communicating With Others 2-1. Take control of the room. Alpha females are like "social conductors." They have the ability to be the center of attention where people will listen to what they say and do. You don't have to be the loudest person in the room. No matter how much you say, make sure it is worth hearing. Your words have impact on the people who look up to you so take time to think before you speak. 2-2. Be the most interesting person in the group. Ask other people about themselves and be interested in them rather than turning the spotlight on yourself. If you want to be interesting, be interested in others. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and they will like you for listening to them. 2-3. Make your presence known. You want others to know when you're around and that the atmosphere of the room is different now that you've arrived. Practice walking into a room with your head held high, shoulders down, and a straight, firm walk. Act like you expect people to pay attention to you and they will. 2-4. Expand your circle of influence. Being an alpha female means that you can't be a loner. You want to be well-liked by everyone you meet and cultivate relationships that may one day lead to a future job promotion or an exciting party invitation. Don't forget to introduce people to each other. Take advantage of when you're the one person everyone knows in a group and introduce people. 2-5. Have many friends and acquaintances. You won't be best friends with the whole world, but you can make the effort to commit people's names to memory and learn something simple about them. When you remember them later, they'll like you because you made them feel important and memorable. However, remember to also have a close-knit group of friends and family on whom you can rely on to be your personal support system. 2-6. Support other women. Alpha female traits are steeped in feminist ideals such as the notion that women should be unified and stand together in society. Being alpha female does not mean that you put down other women and degrade them in order to elevate your own status. Instead, you should strive to create a strong group of women whether in your workplace or social life. Use your power and influence to help better others rather than isolating yourself. Take the time to get to know the women around you and learn to see their value. This can lead to mentorship. Mentoring other women is a great way to use your power for good. You have the ability to influence other people and develop their skills in the workplace or socially. You have the ability to cultivate the attitude of a group. It's better to develop a healthy bond with other women rather than surround yourself with those who would rather stir up contention and drama. 2-7. Maintain competition in your life. As alpha female, you need to stay at the top of your game. That may mean keeping up with the latest fashion trends or going the extra mile at work to make a good impression on your boss. As alpha female you need to avoid being stagnant. Push yourself to grow and learn about your job field, hobbies, or other interests. 2-8. Be self-reliant but don't do everything on your own. You should be capable of doing things for yourself and not be the damsel in distress in situations. This shows others that you are competent and don't need anyone. Just because you can fix a flat tire yourself or cook a meal for a party by yourself, doesn't mean that you can't recognize your your friends', family's, or coworkers' talents and abilities and get them involved. Asking others to come alongside of you and work together makes them feel needed and valued and they will look to you as the alpha. 3. Looking the Part 3-1. Dress to impress. You don't have to be decked out in a blazer, pencil skirt, and heels with a corner office to gain respect and attention from others. Dress to your own style and be consistent with it. Wear clothes that are presentable but that you also feel comfortable in in order to build your own confidence and communicate it to others. Invest in tailoring. Clothing that is too big or too tight will subconsciously show people that you don't know your own body and how to properly dress yourself. Pick out a few accessories that stand out. You can make people interested in you by choosing striking accessories such as a statement necklace or brightly colored shoes or purses. 3-2. Smile. This is a simple step but an important one. Smiling tells people that you are positive, are liable, and can be trusted. Appearing positive and well-groomed is a way to boost people's loyalty to you as the alpha. 3-3. Take care of your body. As an alpha female, people will look to you for direction in life so being healthy and fit is important. It's one way to set a positive example for the people under your influence as well as protect your body from the stress of life. Be careful not to conforming to popular fads and diet trends that may not work so that you are taking care of yourself and setting a good example for others. Tips Use your power to your advantage, but don't abuse it. Pay attention to the women in your life. If there's someone you respect and admire, pay attention to what she does and imitate the quality traits that she has. Or, on the other hand, there may be women in your life who you being taken advantage of or who conform. Learn what not to do from them, but you can also use your power to help their situation. Warnings Watch out for other alpha females. It's not impossible to coexist in the same environment, but it will be challenging because your power and influence may clash, resulting in disaster.
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You will become more comfortable with yourself around all sorts of people and develop a web of contacts. Once you've completed one goal, make a new one to work towards so that you're always pushing yourself to be more personable and popular.\\n1-5. Self-evaluate yourself but don't put yourself down in front of others.\\nYou want to be critical of yourself in a healthy way that helps you grow as a person. Avoid being negative though. Be careful to not beat yourself up to where you doubt yourself. Give yourself constructive criticism in private and not in front of others because that may tell them that you don't think of highly of yourself and neither should they.\\n1-6. Gain respect from those around you.\\nAs the alpha, you want people to recognize that you are important and worthy of their respect. This will not happen overnight; you will need to work on building relationships where people can see your integrity and honesty. Those two traits, as well as eloquence, charm, and a strong work ethic will help build up your character in people's eyes.\\nEven though you want the majority of people to like you, there will be people who do not. The end goal though is for people to respect you, whether they agree with you or not. They may not like you as a friend or coworker, but make sure that they can't deny your honesty, passion, and strength.\\n1-7. Apologize only when it's needed.\\nObviously, if you insult or hurt someone or make a mistake, you need to own up to it. But don't apologize for things that you are not accountable for because you will be perceived as weak. Females can be especially susceptible to wanting to apologize for every inconvenience but you need to determine when situations require a \\\"pardon me\\\"or \\\"I'm deeply sorry.\\\"\\n1-8. Stop making excuses.\\nTake responsibility for your actions and own up to everything you do, whether it's an accomplishment or a mistake. This is the kind of honesty and integrity that people associate with good leaders. You don't want to blame situations or other people for your mistakes.\\n1-9. Stay positive under stress.\\nIf you want people to look to you in times of stability as well as crisis, you need to be the one who does not appear to be affected by stress and pessimism. You may need to set aside emotions in order to see clearly through the storm of chaos, whether it's a looming deadline at work or a friend comes to you for help in search of advice. Use humor to lift others out of the stress, whether it's sarcastic, dry, or sincere.\\n1-10. Know what you want and ask for it.\\nFirst, you need to determine what you want out of life. That could be any number of things, such as a raise, a healthy and stable family, a great relationship, respect and power, or even just being happy overall. Then, once you know what it is you want to acquire, go after it.\\nDo not be afraid. 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Your words have impact on the people who look up to you so take time to think before you speak.\\n2-2. Be the most interesting person in the group.\\nAsk other people about themselves and be interested in them rather than turning the spotlight on yourself. If you want to be interesting, be interested in others. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and they will like you for listening to them.\\n2-3. Make your presence known.\\nYou want others to know when you're around and that the atmosphere of the room is different now that you've arrived. Practice walking into a room with your head held high, shoulders down, and a straight, firm walk. Act like you expect people to pay attention to you and they will.\\n2-4. Expand your circle of influence.\\nBeing an alpha female means that you can't be a loner. You want to be well-liked by everyone you meet and cultivate relationships that may one day lead to a future job promotion or an exciting party invitation. Don't forget to introduce people to each other. Take advantage of when you're the one person everyone knows in a group and introduce people.\\n2-5. Have many friends and acquaintances.\\nYou won't be best friends with the whole world, but you can make the effort to commit people's names to memory and learn something simple about them. When you remember them later, they'll like you because you made them feel important and memorable. However, remember to also have a close-knit group of friends and family on whom you can rely on to be your personal support system.\\n2-6. Support other women.\\nAlpha female traits are steeped in feminist ideals such as the notion that women should be unified and stand together in society. Being alpha female does not mean that you put down other women and degrade them in order to elevate your own status. 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Push yourself to grow and learn about your job field, hobbies, or other interests.\\n2-8. Be self-reliant but don't do everything on your own.\\nYou should be capable of doing things for yourself and not be the damsel in distress in situations. This shows others that you are competent and don't need anyone.\\nJust because you can fix a flat tire yourself or cook a meal for a party by yourself, doesn't mean that you can't recognize your your friends', family's, or coworkers' talents and abilities and get them involved.\\nAsking others to come alongside of you and work together makes them feel needed and valued and they will look to you as the alpha.\\n3. Looking the Part\\n3-1. Dress to impress.\\nYou don't have to be decked out in a blazer, pencil skirt, and heels with a corner office to gain respect and attention from others. Dress to your own style and be consistent with it. Wear clothes that are presentable but that you also feel comfortable in in order to build your own confidence and communicate it to others.\\nInvest in tailoring. Clothing that is too big or too tight will subconsciously show people that you don't know your own body and how to properly dress yourself.\\nPick out a few accessories that stand out. You can make people interested in you by choosing striking accessories such as a statement necklace or brightly colored shoes or purses.\\n3-2. Smile.\\nThis is a simple step but an important one. Smiling tells people that you are positive, are liable, and can be trusted. Appearing positive and well-groomed is a way to boost people's loyalty to you as the alpha.\\n3-3. Take care of your body.\\nAs an alpha female, people will look to you for direction in life so being healthy and fit is important. It's one way to set a positive example for the people under your influence as well as protect your body from the stress of life. 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An alpha female is a leader among her peers, whether it's at work, at home, or with friends. Even if you are a natural-born leader, you can still improve on your leadership and alpha status in all areas of your life. You can be the alpha female in the workplace as well as your own personal relationships.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Changing Your Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be confident in yourself.\", \"描述\": \"This first step is certainly the hardest, but it is the most important. You need to realize that you have opinions and ideas that are worth being heard. If you don't see yourself as valuable, worthy of respect, or competent, then no one else will.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fake it until you make it.\", \"描述\": \"The fastest ways to build confidence in yourself is pretend in order to make your confidence believable. 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They may not like you as a friend or coworker, but make sure that they can't deny your honesty, passion, and strength.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Apologize only when it's needed.\", \"描述\": \"Obviously, if you insult or hurt someone or make a mistake, you need to own up to it. But don't apologize for things that you are not accountable for because you will be perceived as weak. Females can be especially susceptible to wanting to apologize for every inconvenience but you need to determine when situations require a \\\"pardon me\\\"or \\\"I'm deeply sorry.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Stop making excuses.\", \"描述\": \"Take responsibility for your actions and own up to everything you do, whether it's an accomplishment or a mistake. This is the kind of honesty and integrity that people associate with good leaders. You don't want to blame situations or other people for your mistakes.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Stay positive under stress.\", \"描述\": \"If you want people to look to you in times of stability as well as crisis, you need to be the one who does not appear to be affected by stress and pessimism. You may need to set aside emotions in order to see clearly through the storm of chaos, whether it's a looming deadline at work or a friend comes to you for help in search of advice. Use humor to lift others out of the stress, whether it's sarcastic, dry, or sincere.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Know what you want and ask for it.\", \"描述\": \"First, you need to determine what you want out of life. That could be any number of things, such as a raise, a healthy and stable family, a great relationship, respect and power, or even just being happy overall. Then, once you know what it is you want to acquire, go after it.\\nDo not be afraid. If you feel that you have a right to higher wages or respect from others, then don't hesitate.\\nBe prepared to give an answer as to why you want something. You may not always have to negotiate or argue, but you want to be prepared.\\nSpeak clearly and firmly when asking. Hesitation is a sign of weakness. Be persistent and don't give up because your perseverance will be respected in the long run.\\nDon't plead or whine because that comes across as weak. Instead, act like you will get what you want so that it will show others that you are serious about this goal or proposition.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Working/Communicating With Others\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take control of the room.\", \"描述\": \"Alpha females are like \\\"social conductors.\\\" They have the ability to be the center of attention where people will listen to what they say and do.\\nYou don't have to be the loudest person in the room. No matter how much you say, make sure it is worth hearing. Your words have impact on the people who look up to you so take time to think before you speak.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be the most interesting person in the group.\", \"描述\": \"Ask other people about themselves and be interested in them rather than turning the spotlight on yourself. If you want to be interesting, be interested in others. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and they will like you for listening to them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make your presence known.\", \"描述\": \"You want others to know when you're around and that the atmosphere of the room is different now that you've arrived. Practice walking into a room with your head held high, shoulders down, and a straight, firm walk. Act like you expect people to pay attention to you and they will.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Expand your circle of influence.\", \"描述\": \"Being an alpha female means that you can't be a loner. You want to be well-liked by everyone you meet and cultivate relationships that may one day lead to a future job promotion or an exciting party invitation. Don't forget to introduce people to each other. Take advantage of when you're the one person everyone knows in a group and introduce people.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have many friends and acquaintances.\", \"描述\": \"You won't be best friends with the whole world, but you can make the effort to commit people's names to memory and learn something simple about them. When you remember them later, they'll like you because you made them feel important and memorable. However, remember to also have a close-knit group of friends and family on whom you can rely on to be your personal support system.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Support other women.\", \"描述\": \"Alpha female traits are steeped in feminist ideals such as the notion that women should be unified and stand together in society. Being alpha female does not mean that you put down other women and degrade them in order to elevate your own status. Instead, you should strive to create a strong group of women whether in your workplace or social life.\\nUse your power and influence to help better others rather than isolating yourself. Take the time to get to know the women around you and learn to see their value.\\nThis can lead to mentorship. Mentoring other women is a great way to use your power for good. You have the ability to influence other people and develop their skills in the workplace or socially.\\nYou have the ability to cultivate the attitude of a group. It's better to develop a healthy bond with other women rather than surround yourself with those who would rather stir up contention and drama.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Maintain competition in your life.\", \"描述\": \"As alpha female, you need to stay at the top of your game. That may mean keeping up with the latest fashion trends or going the extra mile at work to make a good impression on your boss. As alpha female you need to avoid being stagnant. Push yourself to grow and learn about your job field, hobbies, or other interests.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be self-reliant but don't do everything on your own.\", \"描述\": \"You should be capable of doing things for yourself and not be the damsel in distress in situations. This shows others that you are competent and don't need anyone.\\nJust because you can fix a flat tire yourself or cook a meal for a party by yourself, doesn't mean that you can't recognize your your friends', family's, or coworkers' talents and abilities and get them involved.\\nAsking others to come alongside of you and work together makes them feel needed and valued and they will look to you as the alpha.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Looking the Part\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress to impress.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to be decked out in a blazer, pencil skirt, and heels with a corner office to gain respect and attention from others. Dress to your own style and be consistent with it. Wear clothes that are presentable but that you also feel comfortable in in order to build your own confidence and communicate it to others.\\nInvest in tailoring. Clothing that is too big or too tight will subconsciously show people that you don't know your own body and how to properly dress yourself.\\nPick out a few accessories that stand out. You can make people interested in you by choosing striking accessories such as a statement necklace or brightly colored shoes or purses.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Smile.\", \"描述\": \"This is a simple step but an important one. Smiling tells people that you are positive, are liable, and can be trusted. Appearing positive and well-groomed is a way to boost people's loyalty to you as the alpha.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take care of your body.\", \"描述\": \"As an alpha female, people will look to you for direction in life so being healthy and fit is important. It's one way to set a positive example for the people under your influence as well as protect your body from the stress of life. Be careful not to conforming to popular fads and diet trends that may not work so that you are taking care of yourself and setting a good example for others.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Use your power to your advantage, but don't abuse it.\\n\", \"Pay attention to the women in your life. If there's someone you respect and admire, pay attention to what she does and imitate the quality traits that she has. Or, on the other hand, there may be women in your life who you being taken advantage of or who conform. Learn what not to do from them, but you can also use your power to help their situation.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Watch out for other alpha females. It's not impossible to coexist in the same environment, but it will be challenging because your power and influence may clash, resulting in disaster.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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1. Making It Happen 1-1. Practice. In Malcolm Gladwell's book, "Outliers," he talks about the 10,000 hour principle. That you don't get really, truly prodigal in something until you've practiced for 10,000 hours. He talks about how the Beatles were mediocre until they hit the 10,000 hour mark playing small German pubs. He talks about how Bill Gates spent nights in the computer lab for years on end before anyone else even thought to. To really be great at something, you got to put in the time. This is also a long-winded way of saying "be patient." You're not going to be the next Paul McCartney or Bill Gates overnight. Even they weren't! You're going to spend 1,000 hours being pretty terrible, the next 3,000 hours being okay, the next 4,000 hours being pretty good, and the last 1,999 being super until you finally get so amazing you can barely fathom your own superiority. Then you know -- so no need to time yourself. 1-2. Learn by doing. You've probably studied a foreign language. You've probably read textbooks, done exercises, watched videos, etc. and so forth ad infinitum. That gets you started, it gets the ball rolling, but the ball loses momentum with time. If you wanted to be fluent in that language, you'd move to the country. You'd actually do it. It's the same with any large idea. You can't watch a video. You can't just observe. You can't study it for years on end until you have a piece of paper. You have to go out there and do it. The next time someone offers you an opportunity and you're not sure whether to take it, don't listen to yourself and just do it. It doesn't matter if you're ill-prepared or unsure or doubtful of your abilities. Do it anyway. Turn that voice off; it's doing you more harm than good. Get your hands on whatever you can. Do you want to be an astronaut? Don't just read a book. Go to your nearest planetarium and stay until they ask you to leave and then do that every day until they know you by name and offer to show you around the back. Suck up to your professor until he breaks out the special telescope just for you. Just take action. Go. 1-3. Make sacrifices. Alright, here's a fact of life for you: There is not enough time in the day to have your cake and eat it, too. If you wanna ace all your Organic Chem tests, you can't spend every night in the bar with your friends. You will have to prioritize. You'll have to skip out on things you want to do to make time for the things you need to do. You'll need to spend hours upon hours building up your skills, which you can't do if you're doing anything else. There may come a time when instead of doing a sport, you pick up a part-time job. There will be weekends you need to spend in the library. There will be times when you can't go out with the hot guy or girl even when it's the only night they're in town. These things have to happen in order for you to be as good as you can possibly be. You have to think of it as you ultimately doing yourself a favor. Your future self, sure, but still yourself. 1-4. Fail. Make horrible, terrible, ugly mistakes. Get people hating you. Do things so differently that people think you're crazy. Fail so miserably that you come out the other side knowing exactly what not to do. Take pride in it. You're doing something. The only way to avoid criticism and failure is to do nothing. Making a target of yourself means you're doing something. You're living. Thus, failing is good. It is natural and it is right. If nothing else, it's strategizing and narrowing things down. When you have 10 possibilities and you know 9 of them don't work, guess what? 1-5. Practice self-analysis. At the end of the day, it's imperative you sit down and think about the day's events. What worked out? What didn't? What could you have done better? What are you glad you did and not so glad you didn't? If you don't step back to think about these things, to think about where you are, you'll never know where to go and how to get there. While it's important to analyze your successes (how can you recreate them?), it's doubly important to analyze your failures. This can get frustrating and demotivating to an extreme, but it must be done. Don't let it set you back! Remember: even a failure is progress. Being the best is about fine-tuning your skills. 1-6. Use other people to your advantage. You don't live in a vacuum. You have dozens of people around you that want to help. That can help. Everyone you know knows something you don't. Because of that, they can all help you -- even if it's in the tiniest of ways. Use their knowledge to put you on the fast track to being the best. Strength in numbers, after all. No one has ever gotten to where they are without help from other people. Not only will you avoid doing things that have already been done, but they can tell you ways they've tried that haven't worked, too. When you put your heads together, you automatically cut the work into parts. Being the best isn't about being the best all alone -- it's about being the best with what (and who) you have to work with. 1-7. Stay on track and keep moving forward. "Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there," is a quote attributed to Will Rogers. And a very, very insightful and truthful quote at that. In order to be the best, there's got to be constant progress. Constant practice. Constant self-analyzation. Constant teamwork. Constant determination. If you're doing what you love, you'll be happy. You'll know you're on the right track. If you keep on learning and challenging yourself, you'll know you're making progress. With time and effort, you'll keep getting better and better. Setbacks happen, failures can wreak havoc, but at the end of the day you'll still be pretty damn good. Once you hit 10,000 hours it doesn't mean you can stop! Did Steve Jobs stop when he made the iPod nano? NO. HE DIDN'T. If anything, your best work will come after the 10,000 hour mark. Don't you wanna see what you're capable of? 1-8. Be modest. When you become the cream of the crop, it's all too easy to look down on the Plebeians below you. You can become out of touch and, quite frankly, an ass. Don't do it! Think of all the people it took to get you where you are. How would you want to be treated? When it comes to most things, there will always be someone who is better than you. By the time you become better than them, there will be someone else in the picture. And if you are better than them at something, there's something else where they take the cake. Remember this. It's how you treat those below you that determines your character, not your equals. 2. Getting In the Zone 2-1. Get to know yourself. The fact of the matter is that you will always be you. Always. When you're someone you're not, eventually that person fades away and you return to you. This is the person you'll be working with, so get to know yourself! You'll be more comfortable in your own skin -- you'll be a better person, a better friend, a better boyfriend/girlfriend, a better employee, a better everything. You'll be less stressed and you'll be more confident. You'll know what you're working with and how to work it. Sold yet? Know that you are not your brand or what people think of you. This has nothing to do with anything. You will not be happy if you create an image that caters to the world around you and not to you. If you became the best lyrical soprano this side of Vienna, would that really matter if you truly wanted to the next John Lennon? No. So cater to no one. Find yourself and work with it. 2-2. Be original. There is no one else out there who is you. Therefore, you are the best you there is. But if you are trying to be someone or something else, that logic goes out the window. You become a second-rate copy of whatever it is you're trying to emulate. No matter who you are (or who you think you are), commit to it. This is the hand you've been dealt. Can't win if you don't play it. To be the best, you can't reinvent the wheel. You can't copy others. You have to do new, innovative things. You have to study biology when you want to become a computer scientist. You have to be yourself to avoid being someone else. Crystal clear? 2-3. Start thinking positively. For the rest of your life, you will be your greatest obstacle. You will be the reason you don't walk up to that sexy guy/girl, you will be the reason you don't ask for that raise, you will be the reason you do or do not succeed. Thinking positively opens the door to so many opportunities. When you think you're capable of something, you try. When you view lifelike shooting fish in a barrel, you aim the gun and shoot. When you get negative, you put down the gun, walk away from the barrel and go to bed with the covers over your head. No one ever became the best doing that. If positive thinking doesn't come naturally to you, make it a point to do it. Wake up in the morning, take a look in the mirror and say out loud, "I'm awesome. Today is going to be great and I'll get closer and closer to my goals." And when the negative thoughts start creeping up, squash 'em. You pick your thoughts, you know. 2-4. Get excited. You're about to be the best at whatever it is you choose to be the best at. If you cannot get excited about that, what can you become excited about? Exactly. So get excited! Start thinking in exclamation points! When you're excited, things happen. You get filled with inspiration, creativity, and drive. You practically burst at the seams with possibilities. So much about succeeding in the real world is about actually wanting it. Remember all the times you turned in a crappy project to your English teacher and got an A because the rest of the class' works were even worse? You got complacent and stopped caring. You lost your excitement. Heads up: Life ain't like that. You gotta stay excited to turn in those papers that are actually worth the A. The real world is full of valedictorians and go-getters that are turning in A papers, too. It'll be a lot easier to keep up if you're chomping at the bit. 2-5. Be open and flexible. There is no one path to greatness. You cannot say, "I'm going to go to school, get a job, fall madly in love, buy a house, knock out a few kids, and live happily ever after." For most of us, that's not exactly how it's going to work. If you want to be the best at something, you have to realize there's an entire web of possibilities in front of you. If you close your mind, you may not see the most direct way to your goals. So the next time you're sitting with your team and you're devising a project on say, how to get Lindsay Lohan to star in your next documentary for film school, don't laugh off Yoon's comment on tunneling into her swimming pool via her old babysitter's uncle's backyard. Remember when people thought Galileo was crazy, too? 2-6. Get competitive. If you don't have a drive to be the best, it'll never happen. And part of being the best means having a thirst for competition. How else will you know if you're the best unless you compare yourself to your peers? Compare yourself to your peers and win, that is. If you're not comfortable with competitions, contests, and races, sour news for you: that's gonna have to change. And the only way to do that is to immerse yourself full in. Once you get a handful of who's-the-best contests under your belt, they'll phase you less and less. And after a dozen, it'll feel like breathing. Don't go overboard. If you're the friend that turns everything into a competition, you'll soon find yourself friendless. Keep the contests to the skills that you're actually trying to master -- not life in general. 3. Channeling Your Potential 3-1. Choose something you're in love with. In case you weren't aware, you can't be better than everyone at everything. Even you are the best human being on the face of the Earth, you can't, by definition, be the best at, such as, winning and losing. So instead of spreading yourself thin, choose something that speaks to you. What's the first thing you want to be ridiculously awesome at? Odds are it popped into your head in about .3 seconds. Remember to be realistic. Don't aim to climb Mt. Everest if you don't have legs. While your mom was sort of right when she said, "You can be anything you put your mind to," she was sugar-coating it a bit for you. If you're capable of it, it can happen. Just remember that. 3-2. Find a mentor. Even the best need guidance. No baby learns how to walk, talk, and play without being shown. People are around you to help you grow. So whatever it is you want to be the best at, find someone who does it. They don't have to be the best, but they should be better than you. At least for right now. Having someone show you the ropes is so much easier -- and faster -- than learning it for yourself. When Bobby Fischer was 3, he didn't pick up an advanced chess book and start taking notes. He was handed a chess set and shown how to play. He worked with competitors to improve his game. He worked with friends to devise strategy. He studied under chess greats. Two heads are better than one, remember? 3-3. Get uncomfortable. You know what's scary? Trying things. You know what's scarier? Trying new things where you might fail. And this will be the rest of your life. To rise to the top, all that scary stuff will be involved. It will make you uncomfortable. But when it's uncomfortable, you know you're putting yourself out there, taking risks, accepting challenges, and improving. If it's easy, you're not going anywhere. Henry Ford had two failed companies before he succeeded. Steve Jobs had a lot of things under his belt before he truly hit success. There will be trials and tribulations; there will be failures; there will be times when you're unsure. You gotta go through with it anyway. 3-4. Decide. Wanting to be the best is all well and good, but it's not enough. You have to decide. Decide that it's what you're doing. There are no two ways around it. If you have a plan B, you might use it. What could plan B possibly consist of? Being slightly above average? No thank you. This "being the best" thing just is. It's not an idea, it's a not a goal, it just is. You just are. You are doing it. Done and done. Accept it. You've decided. Now it's only a matter of time. 3-5. Come up with ideas. You know that thing that you love? Well, how are you going to do it? Since you're well aware there are a dozen ways to go about it, which one's for you? Start brainstorming. Come up with six things that will propel you on your path to being incredible. Six things that get you on track. Once you have your six, pick one. Do it today. Let's say you want to be a famous actress. Your six things are taking an acting class, contacting an old friend of yours who did it, contacting your local theatre/acting agency, making a budget to save money for moving, planning a new workout routine, and scouring Craigslist and other postings in your area. How easy is it to do one of those things? Once you've done one, replace it. Always have six things on your list. 3-6. Balance yourself out. If you're spending 14 hours in your basement genetically engineering a man-eating plant, eating only Ramen noodles and drinking Kool-Aid, not showering and pulling out your hair, you're not the best you can be. Make sure other aspects of your life get attention too. Ideally, you want to be the best at everything, right? So that means looking the part, acting the part, being the part, and feeling the part. In other words, take care of yourself! It's hard to be the best when we don't feel the best. So shower, do your hair, throw on some clothes that say, "Here I am, world!" and get started being fantastic. Exercise, eat right, and get some sleep.
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Not only will you avoid doing things that have already been done, but they can tell you ways they've tried that haven't worked, too. When you put your heads together, you automatically cut the work into parts. Being the best isn't about being the best all alone -- it's about being the best with what (and who) you have to work with.\\n1-7. Stay on track and keep moving forward.\\n\\\"Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there,\\\" is a quote attributed to Will Rogers. And a very, very insightful and truthful quote at that. In order to be the best, there's got to be constant progress. Constant practice. Constant self-analyzation. Constant teamwork. Constant determination.\\nIf you're doing what you love, you'll be happy. You'll know you're on the right track. If you keep on learning and challenging yourself, you'll know you're making progress. With time and effort, you'll keep getting better and better. 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Getting In the Zone\\n2-1. Get to know yourself.\\nThe fact of the matter is that you will always be you. Always. When you're someone you're not, eventually that person fades away and you return to you. This is the person you'll be working with, so get to know yourself! You'll be more comfortable in your own skin -- you'll be a better person, a better friend, a better boyfriend/girlfriend, a better employee, a better everything. You'll be less stressed and you'll be more confident. You'll know what you're working with and how to work it. Sold yet?\\nKnow that you are not your brand or what people think of you. This has nothing to do with anything. You will not be happy if you create an image that caters to the world around you and not to you. If you became the best lyrical soprano this side of Vienna, would that really matter if you truly wanted to the next John Lennon? No. So cater to no one. Find yourself and work with it.\\n2-2. Be original.\\nThere is no one else out there who is you. Therefore, you are the best you there is. But if you are trying to be someone or something else, that logic goes out the window. You become a second-rate copy of whatever it is you're trying to emulate. No matter who you are (or who you think you are), commit to it. This is the hand you've been dealt. Can't win if you don't play it.\\nTo be the best, you can't reinvent the wheel. You can't copy others. You have to do new, innovative things. You have to study biology when you want to become a computer scientist. You have to be yourself to avoid being someone else. Crystal clear?\\n2-3. Start thinking positively.\\nFor the rest of your life, you will be your greatest obstacle. You will be the reason you don't walk up to that sexy guy/girl, you will be the reason you don't ask for that raise, you will be the reason you do or do not succeed. Thinking positively opens the door to so many opportunities. When you think you're capable of something, you try. When you view lifelike shooting fish in a barrel, you aim the gun and shoot. When you get negative, you put down the gun, walk away from the barrel and go to bed with the covers over your head. No one ever became the best doing that.\\nIf positive thinking doesn't come naturally to you, make it a point to do it. Wake up in the morning, take a look in the mirror and say out loud, \\\"I'm awesome. Today is going to be great and I'll get closer and closer to my goals.\\\" And when the negative thoughts start creeping up, squash 'em. You pick your thoughts, you know.\\n2-4. Get excited.\\nYou're about to be the best at whatever it is you choose to be the best at. If you cannot get excited about that, what can you become excited about? Exactly. So get excited! Start thinking in exclamation points! When you're excited, things happen. You get filled with inspiration, creativity, and drive. You practically burst at the seams with possibilities.\\nSo much about succeeding in the real world is about actually wanting it. Remember all the times you turned in a crappy project to your English teacher and got an A because the rest of the class' works were even worse? You got complacent and stopped caring. You lost your excitement. Heads up: Life ain't like that. You gotta stay excited to turn in those papers that are actually worth the A. The real world is full of valedictorians and go-getters that are turning in A papers, too. It'll be a lot easier to keep up if you're chomping at the bit.\\n2-5. Be open and flexible.\\nThere is no one path to greatness. You cannot say, \\\"I'm going to go to school, get a job, fall madly in love, buy a house, knock out a few kids, and live happily ever after.\\\" For most of us, that's not exactly how it's going to work. If you want to be the best at something, you have to realize there's an entire web of possibilities in front of you. If you close your mind, you may not see the most direct way to your goals.\\nSo the next time you're sitting with your team and you're devising a project on say, how to get Lindsay Lohan to star in your next documentary for film school, don't laugh off Yoon's comment on tunneling into her swimming pool via her old babysitter's uncle's backyard. Remember when people thought Galileo was crazy, too?\\n2-6. Get competitive.\\nIf you don't have a drive to be the best, it'll never happen. And part of being the best means having a thirst for competition. How else will you know if you're the best unless you compare yourself to your peers? Compare yourself to your peers and win, that is.\\nIf you're not comfortable with competitions, contests, and races, sour news for you: that's gonna have to change. And the only way to do that is to immerse yourself full in. Once you get a handful of who's-the-best contests under your belt, they'll phase you less and less. And after a dozen, it'll feel like breathing.\\nDon't go overboard. If you're the friend that turns everything into a competition, you'll soon find yourself friendless. Keep the contests to the skills that you're actually trying to master -- not life in general.\\n3. Channeling Your Potential\\n3-1. Choose something you're in love with.\\nIn case you weren't aware, you can't be better than everyone at everything. Even you are the best human being on the face of the Earth, you can't, by definition, be the best at, such as, winning and losing. So instead of spreading yourself thin, choose something that speaks to you. What's the first thing you want to be ridiculously awesome at? Odds are it popped into your head in about .3 seconds.\\nRemember to be realistic. Don't aim to climb Mt. Everest if you don't have legs. While your mom was sort of right when she said, \\\"You can be anything you put your mind to,\\\" she was sugar-coating it a bit for you. If you're capable of it, it can happen. Just remember that.\\n3-2. Find a mentor.\\nEven the best need guidance. No baby learns how to walk, talk, and play without being shown. People are around you to help you grow. So whatever it is you want to be the best at, find someone who does it. They don't have to be the best, but they should be better than you. At least for right now. Having someone show you the ropes is so much easier -- and faster -- than learning it for yourself.\\nWhen Bobby Fischer was 3, he didn't pick up an advanced chess book and start taking notes. He was handed a chess set and shown how to play. He worked with competitors to improve his game. He worked with friends to devise strategy. He studied under chess greats. Two heads are better than one, remember?\\n3-3. Get uncomfortable.\\nYou know what's scary? Trying things. You know what's scarier? Trying new things where you might fail. And this will be the rest of your life. To rise to the top, all that scary stuff will be involved. It will make you uncomfortable. But when it's uncomfortable, you know you're putting yourself out there, taking risks, accepting challenges, and improving. If it's easy, you're not going anywhere.\\nHenry Ford had two failed companies before he succeeded. Steve Jobs had a lot of things under his belt before he truly hit success. There will be trials and tribulations; there will be failures; there will be times when you're unsure. You gotta go through with it anyway.\\n3-4. Decide.\\nWanting to be the best is all well and good, but it's not enough. You have to decide. Decide that it's what you're doing. There are no two ways around it. If you have a plan B, you might use it. What could plan B possibly consist of? Being slightly above average? No thank you.\\nThis \\\"being the best\\\" thing just is. It's not an idea, it's a not a goal, it just is. You just are. You are doing it. Done and done. Accept it. You've decided. Now it's only a matter of time.\\n3-5. Come up with ideas.\\nYou know that thing that you love? Well, how are you going to do it? Since you're well aware there are a dozen ways to go about it, which one's for you? Start brainstorming. Come up with six things that will propel you on your path to being incredible. Six things that get you on track.\\nOnce you have your six, pick one. Do it today. Let's say you want to be a famous actress. Your six things are taking an acting class, contacting an old friend of yours who did it, contacting your local theatre/acting agency, making a budget to save money for moving, planning a new workout routine, and scouring Craigslist and other postings in your area. How easy is it to do one of those things? Once you've done one, replace it. Always have six things on your list.\\n3-6. Balance yourself out.\\nIf you're spending 14 hours in your basement genetically engineering a man-eating plant, eating only Ramen noodles and drinking Kool-Aid, not showering and pulling out your hair, you're not the best you can be. Make sure other aspects of your life get attention too. Ideally, you want to be the best at everything, right? So that means looking the part, acting the part, being the part, and feeling the part. In other words, take care of yourself!\\nIt's hard to be the best when we don't feel the best. So shower, do your hair, throw on some clothes that say, \\\"Here I am, world!\\\" and get started being fantastic. Exercise, eat right, and get some sleep.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to be the best at what you do or become the best version of yourself? Striving to be the best is a great opportunity to work on yourself, develop new skills and master the ones you've already learned, and gain more confidence. If you're not sure where to start, don't worry! We've put together some tips to help you become the best at anything or grow into the best version of yourself possible, starting today.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making It Happen\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice.\", \"描述\": \"In Malcolm Gladwell's book, \\\"Outliers,\\\" he talks about the 10,000 hour principle. That you don't get really, truly prodigal in something until you've practiced for 10,000 hours. He talks about how the Beatles were mediocre until they hit the 10,000 hour mark playing small German pubs. He talks about how Bill Gates spent nights in the computer lab for years on end before anyone else even thought to. To really be great at something, you got to put in the time.\\nThis is also a long-winded way of saying \\\"be patient.\\\" You're not going to be the next Paul McCartney or Bill Gates overnight. Even they weren't! You're going to spend 1,000 hours being pretty terrible, the next 3,000 hours being okay, the next 4,000 hours being pretty good, and the last 1,999 being super until you finally get so amazing you can barely fathom your own superiority. Then you know -- so no need to time yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn by doing.\", \"描述\": \"You've probably studied a foreign language. You've probably read textbooks, done exercises, watched videos, etc. and so forth ad infinitum. That gets you started, it gets the ball rolling, but the ball loses momentum with time. If you wanted to be fluent in that language, you'd move to the country. You'd actually do it. It's the same with any large idea. You can't watch a video. You can't just observe. You can't study it for years on end until you have a piece of paper. You have to go out there and do it.\\nThe next time someone offers you an opportunity and you're not sure whether to take it, don't listen to yourself and just do it. It doesn't matter if you're ill-prepared or unsure or doubtful of your abilities. Do it anyway. Turn that voice off; it's doing you more harm than good.\\nGet your hands on whatever you can. Do you want to be an astronaut? Don't just read a book. Go to your nearest planetarium and stay until they ask you to leave and then do that every day until they know you by name and offer to show you around the back. Suck up to your professor until he breaks out the special telescope just for you. Just take action. Go.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make sacrifices.\", \"描述\": \"Alright, here's a fact of life for you: There is not enough time in the day to have your cake and eat it, too. If you wanna ace all your Organic Chem tests, you can't spend every night in the bar with your friends. You will have to prioritize. You'll have to skip out on things you want to do to make time for the things you need to do. You'll need to spend hours upon hours building up your skills, which you can't do if you're doing anything else.\\nThere may come a time when instead of doing a sport, you pick up a part-time job. There will be weekends you need to spend in the library. There will be times when you can't go out with the hot guy or girl even when it's the only night they're in town. These things have to happen in order for you to be as good as you can possibly be. You have to think of it as you ultimately doing yourself a favor. Your future self, sure, but still yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Fail.\", \"描述\": \"Make horrible, terrible, ugly mistakes. Get people hating you. Do things so differently that people think you're crazy. Fail so miserably that you come out the other side knowing exactly what not to do. Take pride in it. You're doing something.\\nThe only way to avoid criticism and failure is to do nothing. Making a target of yourself means you're doing something. You're living. Thus, failing is good. It is natural and it is right. If nothing else, it's strategizing and narrowing things down. When you have 10 possibilities and you know 9 of them don't work, guess what?\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice self-analysis.\", \"描述\": \"At the end of the day, it's imperative you sit down and think about the day's events. What worked out? What didn't? What could you have done better? What are you glad you did and not so glad you didn't? If you don't step back to think about these things, to think about where you are, you'll never know where to go and how to get there.\\nWhile it's important to analyze your successes (how can you recreate them?), it's doubly important to analyze your failures. This can get frustrating and demotivating to an extreme, but it must be done. Don't let it set you back! Remember: even a failure is progress. Being the best is about fine-tuning your skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Use other people to your advantage.\", \"描述\": \"You don't live in a vacuum. You have dozens of people around you that want to help. That can help. Everyone you know knows something you don't. Because of that, they can all help you -- even if it's in the tiniest of ways. Use their knowledge to put you on the fast track to being the best. Strength in numbers, after all.\\nNo one has ever gotten to where they are without help from other people. Not only will you avoid doing things that have already been done, but they can tell you ways they've tried that haven't worked, too. When you put your heads together, you automatically cut the work into parts. Being the best isn't about being the best all alone -- it's about being the best with what (and who) you have to work with.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Stay on track and keep moving forward.\", \"描述\": \"\\\"Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there,\\\" is a quote attributed to Will Rogers. And a very, very insightful and truthful quote at that. In order to be the best, there's got to be constant progress. Constant practice. Constant self-analyzation. Constant teamwork. Constant determination.\\nIf you're doing what you love, you'll be happy. You'll know you're on the right track. If you keep on learning and challenging yourself, you'll know you're making progress. With time and effort, you'll keep getting better and better. Setbacks happen, failures can wreak havoc, but at the end of the day you'll still be pretty damn good.\\nOnce you hit 10,000 hours it doesn't mean you can stop! Did Steve Jobs stop when he made the iPod nano? NO. HE DIDN'T. If anything, your best work will come after the 10,000 hour mark. Don't you wanna see what you're capable of?\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be modest.\", \"描述\": \"When you become the cream of the crop, it's all too easy to look down on the Plebeians below you. You can become out of touch and, quite frankly, an ass. Don't do it! Think of all the people it took to get you where you are. How would you want to be treated?\\nWhen it comes to most things, there will always be someone who is better than you. By the time you become better than them, there will be someone else in the picture. And if you are better than them at something, there's something else where they take the cake. Remember this. It's how you treat those below you that determines your character, not your equals.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting In the Zone\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get to know yourself.\", \"描述\": \"The fact of the matter is that you will always be you. Always. When you're someone you're not, eventually that person fades away and you return to you. This is the person you'll be working with, so get to know yourself! You'll be more comfortable in your own skin -- you'll be a better person, a better friend, a better boyfriend/girlfriend, a better employee, a better everything. You'll be less stressed and you'll be more confident. You'll know what you're working with and how to work it. Sold yet?\\nKnow that you are not your brand or what people think of you. This has nothing to do with anything. You will not be happy if you create an image that caters to the world around you and not to you. If you became the best lyrical soprano this side of Vienna, would that really matter if you truly wanted to the next John Lennon? No. So cater to no one. Find yourself and work with it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be original.\", \"描述\": \"There is no one else out there who is you. Therefore, you are the best you there is. But if you are trying to be someone or something else, that logic goes out the window. You become a second-rate copy of whatever it is you're trying to emulate. No matter who you are (or who you think you are), commit to it. This is the hand you've been dealt. Can't win if you don't play it.\\nTo be the best, you can't reinvent the wheel. You can't copy others. You have to do new, innovative things. You have to study biology when you want to become a computer scientist. You have to be yourself to avoid being someone else. Crystal clear?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start thinking positively.\", \"描述\": \"For the rest of your life, you will be your greatest obstacle. You will be the reason you don't walk up to that sexy guy/girl, you will be the reason you don't ask for that raise, you will be the reason you do or do not succeed. Thinking positively opens the door to so many opportunities. When you think you're capable of something, you try. When you view lifelike shooting fish in a barrel, you aim the gun and shoot. When you get negative, you put down the gun, walk away from the barrel and go to bed with the covers over your head. No one ever became the best doing that.\\nIf positive thinking doesn't come naturally to you, make it a point to do it. Wake up in the morning, take a look in the mirror and say out loud, \\\"I'm awesome. Today is going to be great and I'll get closer and closer to my goals.\\\" And when the negative thoughts start creeping up, squash 'em. You pick your thoughts, you know.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get excited.\", \"描述\": \"You're about to be the best at whatever it is you choose to be the best at. If you cannot get excited about that, what can you become excited about? Exactly. So get excited! Start thinking in exclamation points! When you're excited, things happen. You get filled with inspiration, creativity, and drive. You practically burst at the seams with possibilities.\\nSo much about succeeding in the real world is about actually wanting it. Remember all the times you turned in a crappy project to your English teacher and got an A because the rest of the class' works were even worse? You got complacent and stopped caring. You lost your excitement. Heads up: Life ain't like that. You gotta stay excited to turn in those papers that are actually worth the A. The real world is full of valedictorians and go-getters that are turning in A papers, too. It'll be a lot easier to keep up if you're chomping at the bit.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be open and flexible.\", \"描述\": \"There is no one path to greatness. You cannot say, \\\"I'm going to go to school, get a job, fall madly in love, buy a house, knock out a few kids, and live happily ever after.\\\" For most of us, that's not exactly how it's going to work. If you want to be the best at something, you have to realize there's an entire web of possibilities in front of you. If you close your mind, you may not see the most direct way to your goals.\\nSo the next time you're sitting with your team and you're devising a project on say, how to get Lindsay Lohan to star in your next documentary for film school, don't laugh off Yoon's comment on tunneling into her swimming pool via her old babysitter's uncle's backyard. Remember when people thought Galileo was crazy, too?\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get competitive.\", \"描述\": \"If you don't have a drive to be the best, it'll never happen. And part of being the best means having a thirst for competition. How else will you know if you're the best unless you compare yourself to your peers? Compare yourself to your peers and win, that is.\\nIf you're not comfortable with competitions, contests, and races, sour news for you: that's gonna have to change. And the only way to do that is to immerse yourself full in. Once you get a handful of who's-the-best contests under your belt, they'll phase you less and less. And after a dozen, it'll feel like breathing.\\nDon't go overboard. If you're the friend that turns everything into a competition, you'll soon find yourself friendless. Keep the contests to the skills that you're actually trying to master -- not life in general.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Channeling Your Potential\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose something you're in love with.\", \"描述\": \"In case you weren't aware, you can't be better than everyone at everything. Even you are the best human being on the face of the Earth, you can't, by definition, be the best at, such as, winning and losing. So instead of spreading yourself thin, choose something that speaks to you. What's the first thing you want to be ridiculously awesome at? Odds are it popped into your head in about .3 seconds.\\nRemember to be realistic. Don't aim to climb Mt. Everest if you don't have legs. While your mom was sort of right when she said, \\\"You can be anything you put your mind to,\\\" she was sugar-coating it a bit for you. If you're capable of it, it can happen. Just remember that.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find a mentor.\", \"描述\": \"Even the best need guidance. No baby learns how to walk, talk, and play without being shown. People are around you to help you grow. So whatever it is you want to be the best at, find someone who does it. They don't have to be the best, but they should be better than you. At least for right now. Having someone show you the ropes is so much easier -- and faster -- than learning it for yourself.\\nWhen Bobby Fischer was 3, he didn't pick up an advanced chess book and start taking notes. He was handed a chess set and shown how to play. He worked with competitors to improve his game. He worked with friends to devise strategy. He studied under chess greats. Two heads are better than one, remember?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get uncomfortable.\", \"描述\": \"You know what's scary? Trying things. You know what's scarier? Trying new things where you might fail. And this will be the rest of your life. To rise to the top, all that scary stuff will be involved. It will make you uncomfortable. But when it's uncomfortable, you know you're putting yourself out there, taking risks, accepting challenges, and improving. If it's easy, you're not going anywhere.\\nHenry Ford had two failed companies before he succeeded. Steve Jobs had a lot of things under his belt before he truly hit success. There will be trials and tribulations; there will be failures; there will be times when you're unsure. You gotta go through with it anyway.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide.\", \"描述\": \"Wanting to be the best is all well and good, but it's not enough. You have to decide. Decide that it's what you're doing. There are no two ways around it. If you have a plan B, you might use it. What could plan B possibly consist of? Being slightly above average? No thank you.\\nThis \\\"being the best\\\" thing just is. It's not an idea, it's a not a goal, it just is. You just are. You are doing it. Done and done. Accept it. You've decided. Now it's only a matter of time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Come up with ideas.\", \"描述\": \"You know that thing that you love? Well, how are you going to do it? Since you're well aware there are a dozen ways to go about it, which one's for you? Start brainstorming. Come up with six things that will propel you on your path to being incredible. Six things that get you on track.\\nOnce you have your six, pick one. Do it today. Let's say you want to be a famous actress. Your six things are taking an acting class, contacting an old friend of yours who did it, contacting your local theatre/acting agency, making a budget to save money for moving, planning a new workout routine, and scouring Craigslist and other postings in your area. How easy is it to do one of those things? Once you've done one, replace it. Always have six things on your list.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Balance yourself out.\", \"描述\": \"If you're spending 14 hours in your basement genetically engineering a man-eating plant, eating only Ramen noodles and drinking Kool-Aid, not showering and pulling out your hair, you're not the best you can be. Make sure other aspects of your life get attention too. Ideally, you want to be the best at everything, right? So that means looking the part, acting the part, being the part, and feeling the part. In other words, take care of yourself!\\nIt's hard to be the best when we don't feel the best. So shower, do your hair, throw on some clothes that say, \\\"Here I am, world!\\\" and get started being fantastic. Exercise, eat right, and get some sleep.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Best Busser
1. Steps 1-1. Know the tables and who is sitting at them. When your server says 'clear table 24' or 'bring this to the lady with the glasses' you will be much better off if you can think of where you are going off of the top of your head and get to it without wandering around staring at everyone. 1-2. Keep an eye on the door. This allows you to know when a new table arrives and you can immediately pour the waters and bring the bread.  You can then also go into the kitchen and tell them 'two top!'(this means two customers at a table, four customers would be a 'four top').  The chefs like to keep a count on how many people they will be cooking for, and helping them earns you points in the kitchen. 1-3. Get on the good side of the chefs, they are the force behind the entire production. They make the goods. 1-4. Do the dirty work. On your first day, grab the dirty bus pan and take it back. Channel your inner tough gal/guy and dive into it as quickly as possible. Just go for it and empty that damn thing as quick as possible (in the dishes section of the kitchen), and then bring it back to home base (the busser station).  Especially if you are a girl, impress the male dishwashers with how fearless you are. 1-5. Don't brown nose, but keep up with your waitress/waiter. It is important to ask every ten minutes or so if she/he needs anything.  But do not bother the waitress/waiter.  Read their faces, if they make eye contact, casually ask if they need anything or if you could get someone's drinks for them.  Even if they don't need you, they like knowing that you are eager to help. 1-6. Be attentive, make rounds of the tables. Make sure that if there are cleared dishes sitting in front of people that you take them and put them in the bus pan.  If people need more water, pour it.  Scan the room for faces that may be asking you for something.  Often people ask bussers for things that their waiters have forgotten, be ready. 1-7. Do your sidework. Polish silverware, restock napkins and glasses, refill the ice machine.  There are different things in each restaurant that can be done when work is slow; do them.  Perfect them. If you have no free time, make sure they get done at the beginning of your shift or at the end when things are slowest.  Don't give anyone a reason to complain about you. 1-8. Deserve to be chill. After all the rounds are made and all of the sidework is done, relax.  When everyone is hanging out in the kitchen cracking jokes, join them.  Be part of the team, but earn it. Warnings If there is a glass that is impossible to get to do not reach for it.  Politely ask if it can be passed to you to fill. Do not forget about plates, nothing is worse than seeing your waitress/ waiter walking back to the kitchen with a plate that you should have been on top of.  If it happens, apologize but do not stress, you will get the next one.
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Do the dirty work.\\nOn your first day, grab the dirty bus pan and take it back. Channel your inner tough gal/guy and dive into it as quickly as possible. Just go for it and empty that damn thing as quick as possible (in the dishes section of the kitchen), and then bring it back to home base (the busser station).  Especially if you are a girl, impress the male dishwashers with how fearless you are.\\n1-5. Don't brown nose, but keep up with your waitress/waiter.\\nIt is important to ask every ten minutes or so if she/he needs anything.  But do not bother the waitress/waiter.  Read their faces, if they make eye contact, casually ask if they need anything or if you could get someone's drinks for them.  Even if they don't need you, they like knowing that you are eager to help.\\n1-6. Be attentive, make rounds of the tables.\\nMake sure that if there are cleared dishes sitting in front of people that you take them and put them in the bus pan.  If people need more water, pour it.  Scan the room for faces that may be asking you for something.  Often people ask bussers for things that their waiters have forgotten, be ready.\\n1-7. Do your sidework.\\nPolish silverware, restock napkins and glasses, refill the ice machine.  There are different things in each restaurant that can be done when work is slow; do them.  Perfect them. If you have no free time, make sure they get done at the beginning of your shift or at the end when things are slowest.  Don't give anyone a reason to complain about you.\\n1-8. Deserve to be chill.\\nAfter all the rounds are made and all of the sidework is done, relax.  When everyone is hanging out in the kitchen cracking jokes, join them.  Be part of the team, but earn it.\\nWarnings\\nIf there is a glass that is impossible to get to do not reach for it.  Politely ask if it can be passed to you to fill.\\nDo not forget about plates, nothing is worse than seeing your waitress/ waiter walking back to the kitchen with a plate that you should have been on top of.  If it happens, apologize but do not stress, you will get the next one.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"This is where you find out how to be the best busser in a restaurant.  Rise above the others and be the one the servers wish was working on their busiest nights. Once they ask you to work on Thanksgiving, you're in.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know the tables and who is sitting at them.\", \"描述\": \"When your server says 'clear table 24' or 'bring this to the lady with the glasses' you will be much better off if you can think of where you are going off of the top of your head and get to it without wandering around staring at everyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep an eye on the door.\", \"描述\": \"This allows you to know when a new table arrives and you can immediately pour the waters and bring the bread.  You can then also go into the kitchen and tell them 'two top!'(this means two customers at a table, four customers would be a 'four top').  The chefs like to keep a count on how many people they will be cooking for, and helping them earns you points in the kitchen.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get on the good side of the chefs, they are the force behind the entire production.\", \"描述\": \"They make the goods.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do the dirty work.\", \"描述\": \"On your first day, grab the dirty bus pan and take it back. Channel your inner tough gal/guy and dive into it as quickly as possible. Just go for it and empty that damn thing as quick as possible (in the dishes section of the kitchen), and then bring it back to home base (the busser station).  Especially if you are a girl, impress the male dishwashers with how fearless you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't brown nose, but keep up with your waitress/waiter.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to ask every ten minutes or so if she/he needs anything.  But do not bother the waitress/waiter.  Read their faces, if they make eye contact, casually ask if they need anything or if you could get someone's drinks for them.  Even if they don't need you, they like knowing that you are eager to help.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be attentive, make rounds of the tables.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure that if there are cleared dishes sitting in front of people that you take them and put them in the bus pan.  If people need more water, pour it.  Scan the room for faces that may be asking you for something.  Often people ask bussers for things that their waiters have forgotten, be ready.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Do your sidework.\", \"描述\": \"Polish silverware, restock napkins and glasses, refill the ice machine.  There are different things in each restaurant that can be done when work is slow; do them.  Perfect them. If you have no free time, make sure they get done at the beginning of your shift or at the end when things are slowest.  Don't give anyone a reason to complain about you.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Deserve to be chill.\", \"描述\": \"After all the rounds are made and all of the sidework is done, relax.  When everyone is hanging out in the kitchen cracking jokes, join them.  Be part of the team, but earn it.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"If there is a glass that is impossible to get to do not reach for it.  Politely ask if it can be passed to you to fill.\\n\", \"Do not forget about plates, nothing is worse than seeing your waitress/ waiter walking back to the kitchen with a plate that you should have been on top of.  If it happens, apologize but do not stress, you will get the next one.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Best Fourth Grade Teacher
1. Creating a Comfortable Learning Environment 1-1. Engage in conversations with students. Try to avoid lecturing to your students. They often have short attention spans and need a little help to remain in the present teaching moment. Encourage their input when you are teaching. This will help them participate more in their own education and will make them more confident about speaking up in class. Try to participate in conversations with your students even when you are not specifically teaching them. Allowing students to get to know you and showing them that you want to get to know them too makes them feel more comfortable in your class. 1-2. Ask questions. Try to make your students think as much as possible. Ask them questions about their life; ask them questions about the world around them; ask them questions about the things you read in class. The more questions you ask, the more they'll be forced to think about the topic and come up with their own answers. 1-3. Be flexible. Different students learn in different ways. It's important to acknowledge this and to allow for a certain amount of flexibility in your daily schedule. If students are clearly interested in a certain topic, spend a little more time on it than you had initially planned. If an activity you planned isn't going over well, switch to something else. Always try to choose the option that keeps the students as engaged as possible. Unplanned active learning is better than forcing students into an activity that isn't holding their interest. 1-4. Display student work. Students will be more engaged on a daily basis if they feel valued and rewarded. Make it a point to prominently display some of their artwork or other projects in your classroom so that they know you value what they do. This will help them feel proud of their accomplishments and want to continue the level of work that helped them get there. 1-5. Consider special strategies for teaching various subjects. Each subject is different and requires different methods of teaching. The longer you teach 4th grade, the more you'll figure out what works for you. But here are a couple of tips dealing with various subjects: English. 4th grade English involves a lot of vocabulary and spelling practice, in addition to reading and writing. One of the best ways to help improve students vocabulary and spelling is through good old fashioned worksheets and spelling tests. Include educational games like role plays, crossword, jumbled words and other games to make the students happy and enthused to participate. Social studies. A lot of what is learned in 4th grade social studies classes has to do with historical events, dates, people, and places. These topics can be hard to remember, so sometimes it can be helpful to show interesting educational videos that help students put a face with the name. Science. Science should be hands-on whenever possible to help students learn. Make students create a science project, make them draw out the phases of mitosis, or make them do anything else that gets them involved in the process. 2. Making Learning Fun 2-1. Use games as a means of learning. Everyone gets bored eventually during lecture-style learning moments. And elementary school children have a much shorter attention span than most older students, so this is not an effective teaching method to employ with 4th graders. Try employing games in your classroom to boost students' energy levels and to improve their active involvement in the learning process. There are many examples of educational games that you can find on the internet. Find some that you think your students will be interested in and adapt them to your particular topic/subject if necessary. As you use the games in class, you'll figure out what works and what doesn't. Then you can adjust the activities for the next time so that they are better suited for your specific teaching style and subject matter. Here are some helpful websites that have in-class games appropriate for 4th grade students: www.learninggamesforkids.com www.funbrain.com www.abcya.com www.knowledgeadventure.com www.education.com www.vocabulary.co.il www.jumpstart.com 2-2. Use rewards as incentives. Unfortunately, many 4th grade students have yet to discover the joy of learning for learning's sake. Try implementing a system of rewards that will motivate your students to stay on task and to complete projects satisfactorily. Note: Try to provide incentives for input activities (things that students put time into like reading and homework) rather than on output results (like grades and scores). This will be more effective because students can control how much time they spend on activities, but they may struggle more with achieving certain grade levels. So if you assign incentives based on something students feel is largely out of their control, like what grade they get on a project or assignment, they may become flustered with the incentive program and give up trying to achieve the incentives altogether. 2-3. Do a show and tell activity with your students. Most 4th grade students learn best by having hands on experience within the learning process. Ask your students to bring in an object they have in their house that relates to the topic you are currently studying. This will make them think about the subject matter and apply it to their own life in order to find a suitable item to bring to class. For example, if you're discussing Native American history, try to find an authentic arrowhead and show it to your class. Then ask your students to bring something from their own house that is related to Native American history in some way. They could bring a leather vest, a beaded purse, a toy horse, a picture of a hunting bow, or any other object related to the topic. 3. Providing Explicit Instructions 3-1. Be direct. Make sure that you provide clear, direct instructions when you are assigning a certain task to students. Don't assume that they'll read between the lines or infer something that you don't explicitly state. Tell them exactly what you want them to do and how you expect them to do it. 3-2. Show examples. Students can have many different learning styles. Some are visual learners, while others learn by doing. Whatever the case, you will have a variety of learning styles in your classroom and it is important to cater to them all. One of the easiest ways to do this is by showing examples to help your students practice whatever skill is being taught. Teaching them the skill, then showing them how to implement it is an effective way to make the skill stick. For example, if you are teaching your 4th grade students about multiplying fractions, it is important to teach them the problem solving method and then go over multiple examples with them. You can do this through worksheets in addition to problems on the board so that they have several ways to practice and learn the skill. 3-3. Go over the directions twice. Sometimes kids don't understand the directions the first time around. And realistically, it's always possible that kids will become distracted and missed what you said the first time altogether. So, make sure they are paying attention and repeat the directions a second time. 3-4. Allow your students time to ask questions. After giving your instructions, make sure that you provide enough time for your students to ask questions. That way, if something is unclear to them, they have time to ask for clarification. 4. Engaging Students with their Reading 4-1. Go to the library. The library is a great place to help students develop an interest in reading and learning. Allow them several trips to the library every week so that they can pick out their books, return old books, and just spend some time reading. 4-2. Provide ample in-class reading time. Let students have class time to just sit and read their books. You can decide if they have to read books just from the library or if they can bring books from home to read during this time. But the most important thing is to get students interested in reading and to give them time to do it in class. This will show them that reading is an important skill and will help them to develop stronger reading abilities over time. 4-3. Read a book as a class. Reading a book as a class can be a fun experience that everyone looks forward to each day. The students can discuss the book with each other since they are all reading the same book at the same time. This will also help improve their listening comprehension skills because they are practicing listening to something that is fun and doesn't feel like work to them, but will still build these listening skills so they can apply it to their schoolwork. 4-4. Make students practice. Studies have shown that children learn to read and write by reading and writing. So it is essential to give them time to practice these crucial skills in class and encourage them to reinforce these skills with homework and reading assignments. 5. Providing Structure through Class Routines 5-1. Make a schedule and stick to it. Students thrive when they are given routines to follow. Knowing what they will do each day at a certain time allows them a sense of stability that helps them to feel more comfortable in your classroom. 5-2. Consider pacing and stamina. It is important to think about how long students can sit still, how long students should go between snacks, how long certain activities should take, etc. Planning too much of one activity can mean drastically decreased productivity. It is often helpful to schedule a short snack break or recess to break up longer periods of required concentration. If you keep these things in mind, you'll be better prepared to structure effective lessons that work to balance active participation with periods of sitting and listening. 5-3. Schedule time for movement. Students need to be able to move around throughout the day. Getting their blood circulating with active movement can greatly increase their ability to concentrate and to stay energized as they work. Try building movement into your lessons. For example, structure your math lesson so that students must move from table to table to solve the problems. Tips Try to reward good behavior with some kind of system of benefits. Perhaps the reward will be a sticker on the board by their name or a build up to a larger reward like a classroom party.
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The more questions you ask, the more they'll be forced to think about the topic and come up with their own answers.\\n1-3. Be flexible.\\nDifferent students learn in different ways. It's important to acknowledge this and to allow for a certain amount of flexibility in your daily schedule. If students are clearly interested in a certain topic, spend a little more time on it than you had initially planned. If an activity you planned isn't going over well, switch to something else. Always try to choose the option that keeps the students as engaged as possible. Unplanned active learning is better than forcing students into an activity that isn't holding their interest.\\n1-4. Display student work.\\nStudents will be more engaged on a daily basis if they feel valued and rewarded. Make it a point to prominently display some of their artwork or other projects in your classroom so that they know you value what they do. This will help them feel proud of their accomplishments and want to continue the level of work that helped them get there.\\n1-5. Consider special strategies for teaching various subjects.\\nEach subject is different and requires different methods of teaching. The longer you teach 4th grade, the more you'll figure out what works for you. But here are a couple of tips dealing with various subjects:\\nEnglish. 4th grade English involves a lot of vocabulary and spelling practice, in addition to reading and writing. One of the best ways to help improve students vocabulary and spelling is through good old fashioned worksheets and spelling tests. Include educational games like role plays, crossword, jumbled words and other games to make the students happy and enthused to participate.\\nSocial studies. A lot of what is learned in 4th grade social studies classes has to do with historical events, dates, people, and places. These topics can be hard to remember, so sometimes it can be helpful to show interesting educational videos that help students put a face with the name.\\nScience. Science should be hands-on whenever possible to help students learn. Make students create a science project, make them draw out the phases of mitosis, or make them do anything else that gets them involved in the process.\\n2. Making Learning Fun\\n2-1. Use games as a means of learning.\\nEveryone gets bored eventually during lecture-style learning moments. And elementary school children have a much shorter attention span than most older students, so this is not an effective teaching method to employ with 4th graders. Try employing games in your classroom to boost students' energy levels and to improve their active involvement in the learning process.\\nThere are many examples of educational games that you can find on the internet. Find some that you think your students will be interested in and adapt them to your particular topic/subject if necessary. As you use the games in class, you'll figure out what works and what doesn't. Then you can adjust the activities for the next time so that they are better suited for your specific teaching style and subject matter. Here are some helpful websites that have in-class games appropriate for 4th grade students:\\nwww.learninggamesforkids.com\\nwww.funbrain.com\\nwww.abcya.com\\nwww.knowledgeadventure.com\\nwww.education.com\\nwww.vocabulary.co.il\\nwww.jumpstart.com\\n2-2. Use rewards as incentives.\\nUnfortunately, many 4th grade students have yet to discover the joy of learning for learning's sake. 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This will make them think about the subject matter and apply it to their own life in order to find a suitable item to bring to class.\\nFor example, if you're discussing Native American history, try to find an authentic arrowhead and show it to your class. Then ask your students to bring something from their own house that is related to Native American history in some way. They could bring a leather vest, a beaded purse, a toy horse, a picture of a hunting bow, or any other object related to the topic.\\n3. Providing Explicit Instructions\\n3-1. Be direct.\\nMake sure that you provide clear, direct instructions when you are assigning a certain task to students. Don't assume that they'll read between the lines or infer something that you don't explicitly state. Tell them exactly what you want them to do and how you expect them to do it.\\n3-2. Show examples.\\nStudents can have many different learning styles. Some are visual learners, while others learn by doing. Whatever the case, you will have a variety of learning styles in your classroom and it is important to cater to them all. One of the easiest ways to do this is by showing examples to help your students practice whatever skill is being taught. Teaching them the skill, then showing them how to implement it is an effective way to make the skill stick.\\nFor example, if you are teaching your 4th grade students about multiplying fractions, it is important to teach them the problem solving method and then go over multiple examples with them. You can do this through worksheets in addition to problems on the board so that they have several ways to practice and learn the skill.\\n3-3. Go over the directions twice.\\nSometimes kids don't understand the directions the first time around. And realistically, it's always possible that kids will become distracted and missed what you said the first time altogether. So, make sure they are paying attention and repeat the directions a second time.\\n3-4. Allow your students time to ask questions.\\nAfter giving your instructions, make sure that you provide enough time for your students to ask questions. That way, if something is unclear to them, they have time to ask for clarification.\\n4. Engaging Students with their Reading\\n4-1. Go to the library.\\nThe library is a great place to help students develop an interest in reading and learning. Allow them several trips to the library every week so that they can pick out their books, return old books, and just spend some time reading.\\n4-2. Provide ample in-class reading time.\\nLet students have class time to just sit and read their books. You can decide if they have to read books just from the library or if they can bring books from home to read during this time. But the most important thing is to get students interested in reading and to give them time to do it in class. This will show them that reading is an important skill and will help them to develop stronger reading abilities over time.\\n4-3. Read a book as a class.\\nReading a book as a class can be a fun experience that everyone looks forward to each day. The students can discuss the book with each other since they are all reading the same book at the same time. This will also help improve their listening comprehension skills because they are practicing listening to something that is fun and doesn't feel like work to them, but will still build these listening skills so they can apply it to their schoolwork.\\n4-4. Make students practice.\\nStudies have shown that children learn to read and write by reading and writing. So it is essential to give them time to practice these crucial skills in class and encourage them to reinforce these skills with homework and reading assignments.\\n5. Providing Structure through Class Routines\\n5-1. 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A lot of what is learned in 4th grade social studies classes has to do with historical events, dates, people, and places. These topics can be hard to remember, so sometimes it can be helpful to show interesting educational videos that help students put a face with the name.\\nScience. Science should be hands-on whenever possible to help students learn. Make students create a science project, make them draw out the phases of mitosis, or make them do anything else that gets them involved in the process.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making Learning Fun\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use games as a means of learning.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone gets bored eventually during lecture-style learning moments. And elementary school children have a much shorter attention span than most older students, so this is not an effective teaching method to employ with 4th graders. Try employing games in your classroom to boost students' energy levels and to improve their active involvement in the learning process.\\nThere are many examples of educational games that you can find on the internet. Find some that you think your students will be interested in and adapt them to your particular topic/subject if necessary. As you use the games in class, you'll figure out what works and what doesn't. Then you can adjust the activities for the next time so that they are better suited for your specific teaching style and subject matter. Here are some helpful websites that have in-class games appropriate for 4th grade students:\\nwww.learninggamesforkids.com\\nwww.funbrain.com\\nwww.abcya.com\\nwww.knowledgeadventure.com\\nwww.education.com\\nwww.vocabulary.co.il\\nwww.jumpstart.com\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use rewards as incentives.\", \"描述\": \"Unfortunately, many 4th grade students have yet to discover the joy of learning for learning's sake. Try implementing a system of rewards that will motivate your students to stay on task and to complete projects satisfactorily.\\nNote: Try to provide incentives for input activities (things that students put time into like reading and homework) rather than on output results (like grades and scores). This will be more effective because students can control how much time they spend on activities, but they may struggle more with achieving certain grade levels. So if you assign incentives based on something students feel is largely out of their control, like what grade they get on a project or assignment, they may become flustered with the incentive program and give up trying to achieve the incentives altogether.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do a show and tell activity with your students.\", \"描述\": \"Most 4th grade students learn best by having hands on experience within the learning process. Ask your students to bring in an object they have in their house that relates to the topic you are currently studying. This will make them think about the subject matter and apply it to their own life in order to find a suitable item to bring to class.\\nFor example, if you're discussing Native American history, try to find an authentic arrowhead and show it to your class. Then ask your students to bring something from their own house that is related to Native American history in some way. They could bring a leather vest, a beaded purse, a toy horse, a picture of a hunting bow, or any other object related to the topic.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Providing Explicit Instructions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be direct.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure that you provide clear, direct instructions when you are assigning a certain task to students. Don't assume that they'll read between the lines or infer something that you don't explicitly state. Tell them exactly what you want them to do and how you expect them to do it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show examples.\", \"描述\": \"Students can have many different learning styles. Some are visual learners, while others learn by doing. Whatever the case, you will have a variety of learning styles in your classroom and it is important to cater to them all. One of the easiest ways to do this is by showing examples to help your students practice whatever skill is being taught. Teaching them the skill, then showing them how to implement it is an effective way to make the skill stick.\\nFor example, if you are teaching your 4th grade students about multiplying fractions, it is important to teach them the problem solving method and then go over multiple examples with them. You can do this through worksheets in addition to problems on the board so that they have several ways to practice and learn the skill.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go over the directions twice.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes kids don't understand the directions the first time around. And realistically, it's always possible that kids will become distracted and missed what you said the first time altogether. So, make sure they are paying attention and repeat the directions a second time.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Allow your students time to ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"After giving your instructions, make sure that you provide enough time for your students to ask questions. That way, if something is unclear to them, they have time to ask for clarification.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Engaging Students with their Reading\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go to the library.\", \"描述\": \"The library is a great place to help students develop an interest in reading and learning. Allow them several trips to the library every week so that they can pick out their books, return old books, and just spend some time reading.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Provide ample in-class reading time.\", \"描述\": \"Let students have class time to just sit and read their books. You can decide if they have to read books just from the library or if they can bring books from home to read during this time. But the most important thing is to get students interested in reading and to give them time to do it in class. This will show them that reading is an important skill and will help them to develop stronger reading abilities over time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Read a book as a class.\", \"描述\": \"Reading a book as a class can be a fun experience that everyone looks forward to each day. The students can discuss the book with each other since they are all reading the same book at the same time. This will also help improve their listening comprehension skills because they are practicing listening to something that is fun and doesn't feel like work to them, but will still build these listening skills so they can apply it to their schoolwork.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make students practice.\", \"描述\": \"Studies have shown that children learn to read and write by reading and writing. So it is essential to give them time to practice these crucial skills in class and encourage them to reinforce these skills with homework and reading assignments.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Providing Structure through Class Routines\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make a schedule and stick to it.\", \"描述\": \"Students thrive when they are given routines to follow. Knowing what they will do each day at a certain time allows them a sense of stability that helps them to feel more comfortable in your classroom.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider pacing and stamina.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to think about how long students can sit still, how long students should go between snacks, how long certain activities should take, etc. Planning too much of one activity can mean drastically decreased productivity. It is often helpful to schedule a short snack break or recess to break up longer periods of required concentration. If you keep these things in mind, you'll be better prepared to structure effective lessons that work to balance active participation with periods of sitting and listening.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Schedule time for movement.\", \"描述\": \"Students need to be able to move around throughout the day. Getting their blood circulating with active movement can greatly increase their ability to concentrate and to stay energized as they work.\\nTry building movement into your lessons. For example, structure your math lesson so that students must move from table to table to solve the problems.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try to reward good behavior with some kind of system of benefits. Perhaps the reward will be a sticker on the board by their name or a build up to a larger reward like a classroom party.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Best Girl Ever
1. Taking care of your body 1-1. Look after yourself. Use basic grooming to stay clean and neat. Brush your hair regularly and keep it well washed. Brush your teeth at least twice a day. Avoid getting caught up in beauty regimes that suck away time you could be using more productively to play sport, read a book, get more sleep or invent a new life-changing product. Instead, find quick and easy ways that work best for your needs. Soap and water are just as good for keeping clean as any other product and they're cheaper and contain less unknown ingredients. Don't feel that you have to slather on shower gel, bath lotion or smelly products unless you really enjoy these items. 1-2. Stay in good shape. Join a sports team or just go for a run or jog every day or few days. Eat healthy, don't stuff yourself with junk food and sit at the computer all day. Eat seasonal foods; these are nutritionally better for you as they haven't been stored as long. Eat locally, the food won't have traveled as far and will also be nutritionally good for you. Find a sport or form of exercise that works for you. Don't assume that you have to use the gym, jog or do crossfit if you don't enjoy them. There are plenty of ways to stay active and feel good about what you're doing to stay fit. Look for your preferred ones and link up with friends who also enjoy the same activities. If you don't want to go outside to exercise, know that you still could do simple exercises at hone. You could to crunches, sit ups, push ups, curl ups and pull ups. You could also watch a fitness DVD and follow along with them. 1-3. Be informed about beauty products. Don't assume that you have to use them and always be informed about what the products are made from and what the ingredients might mean for your health and well-being. In some cases, products can cause allergic reactions, which is not healthy for you. Check out the Safe Cosmetics website at http://www.safecosmetics.org/ and the Skin Deep Cosmetics Database at http://www.ewg.org/skindeep/, so that you can make informed choices about the makeup products you choose to use. 2. Taking care of your mind 2-1. Keep your grades up. Have the best grades that you can by studying in a focused and purposeful manner. Try as hard as you can in school––never think "it's just a test." Instead, think "This is a test! What if it counts? Even if it doesn't count for much, I want to do the best that I can, for my own sake!" 2-2. Use your intellect. Learn to think critically, ask questions and assume nothing. The world is filled with polarized opinions that cause arguments daily, and much of this is wasteful rather than productive because it assumes there are only two sides to any argument, when in actual fact there is often a multitude of opinions, ideas and solutions. Seek them all out, so as to be well informed and fully aware. Learn to spot the difference between serious thinking and blabbermouths. Always find out the facts before reaching conclusions about people, situations and incidents. If your school doesn't cater to critical thinking, look for online courses from reputable universities and colleges that do. Take a course in your own time. 2-3. Be confident. Loving who you are and knowing that you're beautiful without having to change your body or yourself will help you to be more confident and self-assured. Say who you are and be what you say! Realize that over time, you may well change considerably and it's called maturing––such personal growth is normal as you continue to learn more about yourself, other people and the world in general. You are always a work in progress, so be prepared to be a lifelong learner. If anyone suggests you are being fake or insincere for changing over time, be careful not to confuse this with the natural changes every person undergoes and someone who is actually fickle enough to constantly change their mind. These are two very different things. Don't change for a boy, or to be friends with the "popular girls." Just be yourself. Make them like you for who you are. Not for you trying to act different. Just you! Any changes you do make should be made because you want to become the best that you can be, not because someone has criticized you. Learn to understand other people's motives. Not everyone has sincere or genuine reasons for suggesting you be a certain way. People have many reasons that are about themselves, such as jealousy, fear, a sense of living through someone else, etc. Don't be afraid to probe other people's motivations and only accept criticism that is fair judgment and relevant to improving yourself. 3. Taking care of your daily actions 3-1. Stay organized. Being organized is key to being the best girl ever. Even the prettiest and happiest girls can be caught up in clutter. Lay out your clothes every morning, make your bed, keep your room clean, and always have the project that is due ready for the next day at school! 3-2. Take up relaxation exercises to keep you calm. This might be yoga, meditation, swimming laps of the pool, going for a walk, etc. Do whatever helps you to find a calm space amid the busyness of your life. This will allow you to cope with times of stress better, such as during exams or relationship breakups. Relax. Daily meditation or affirmations can be useful for keeping you both relaxed and focused on the purpose that you've chosen for yourself. 4. Taking care of your relationships 4-1. Be likeable Be likeable by being best friends with everyone without preferring a clique. Try to be outgoing and happy, be a force for good around other people. Make friends, and stay busy. Not only will this make you the best, but it can increase your joy around other people and it can prevent stress. Avoid gossiping and the gossips. It's fine to share information and news with one another but don't embellish it and turn it into mean, thoughtless and unkind words about other people. You wouldn't like it if somebody insulted you so don't do it back. Someone day, it'll get back to them and it could easily also be you. Do not spread rumors––instead, stop such things in their tracks by demanding to know who would be so unkind to say such things and that you don't think there's an ounce of truth in secondhand news. Be a defender. Defend people who are in the weaker position by stating the obvious, that the bullying, thoughtless or mean person is being unkind, lacking in manners and is lacking in the facts. 4-2. Be involved. Keep up with trends, you don't have to follow them though. Just keep up with what's going on, keep up with the drama in school, just don't participate in it. Knowing what's going on will allow you to have your finger on the pulse, to avoid the drama and to be on top of anything that might affect you. 4-3. Listen to the things your parents say and ask of you. If you listen to them, they will appreciate your respect and will in turn listen to you as well. If you help your parents around the house and by being a good listener, they will treat you as responsible. This will benefit you greatly. Tips If you don't like a trend or don't want to do something popular girls are doing, you don't have to. You can still be popular and fun while keeping your own style. Haters will always exist. They are the insecure, the weak-minded, the intellectually lazy and they hang around in packs. Use their meanness to spur you onto to goodness, always. Don't take any of it personally––even if they hit a sore spot, realize they're just spotting in you what they cannot deal with inside of themselves. In other words, such persons are actually quite perceptive and therein lies something that eventually you can kindly suggest they may wish to attend to within themselves. Just be sure to wait for the right moment though, when it's going to have the greatest impact. Beware of people who claim you are "too sensitive", "too shy", "too loud" and goodness knows what else. Who made them the arbiter of the "ideal girl"? Their own prejudices, and nothing more. Brush it off, you're who you are and you're always striving to improve on that. Warnings Don't bully other people. It will only ruin someone else's self-respect and make you look bad. Don't ever boss people about because it will not help you in being a better person. There will always be jealous people who don't like the way you dress or what you do but you just have to ignore them and try to surround yourself with the people that you love.
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Eat healthy, don't stuff yourself with junk food and sit at the computer all day.\\nEat seasonal foods; these are nutritionally better for you as they haven't been stored as long. Eat locally, the food won't have traveled as far and will also be nutritionally good for you.\\nFind a sport or form of exercise that works for you. Don't assume that you have to use the gym, jog or do crossfit if you don't enjoy them. There are plenty of ways to stay active and feel good about what you're doing to stay fit. Look for your preferred ones and link up with friends who also enjoy the same activities.\\nIf you don't want to go outside to exercise, know that you still could do simple exercises at hone. You could to crunches, sit ups, push ups, curl ups and pull ups. You could also watch a fitness DVD and follow along with them.\\n1-3. Be informed about beauty products.\\nDon't assume that you have to use them and always be informed about what the products are made from and what the ingredients might mean for your health and well-being. In some cases, products can cause allergic reactions, which is not healthy for you. Check out the Safe Cosmetics website at http://www.safecosmetics.org/ and the Skin Deep Cosmetics Database at http://www.ewg.org/skindeep/, so that you can make informed choices about the makeup products you choose to use.\\n2. Taking care of your mind\\n2-1. Keep your grades up.\\nHave the best grades that you can by studying in a focused and purposeful manner. Try as hard as you can in school––never think \\\"it's just a test.\\\" Instead, think \\\"This is a test! What if it counts? Even if it doesn't count for much, I want to do the best that I can, for my own sake!\\\"\\n2-2. Use your intellect.\\nLearn to think critically, ask questions and assume nothing. The world is filled with polarized opinions that cause arguments daily, and much of this is wasteful rather than productive because it assumes there are only two sides to any argument, when in actual fact there is often a multitude of opinions, ideas and solutions. Seek them all out, so as to be well informed and fully aware. Learn to spot the difference between serious thinking and blabbermouths. Always find out the facts before reaching conclusions about people, situations and incidents.\\nIf your school doesn't cater to critical thinking, look for online courses from reputable universities and colleges that do. Take a course in your own time.\\n2-3. Be confident.\\nLoving who you are and knowing that you're beautiful without having to change your body or yourself will help you to be more confident and self-assured. \\nSay who you are and be what you say! Realize that over time, you may well change considerably and it's called maturing––such personal growth is normal as you continue to learn more about yourself, other people and the world in general. You are always a work in progress, so be prepared to be a lifelong learner. If anyone suggests you are being fake or insincere for changing over time, be careful not to confuse this with the natural changes every person undergoes and someone who is actually fickle enough to constantly change their mind. These are two very different things.\\nDon't change for a boy, or to be friends with the \\\"popular girls.\\\" Just be yourself. Make them like you for who you are. Not for you trying to act different. Just you! Any changes you do make should be made because you want to become the best that you can be, not because someone has criticized you.\\nLearn to understand other people's motives. Not everyone has sincere or genuine reasons for suggesting you be a certain way. People have many reasons that are about themselves, such as jealousy, fear, a sense of living through someone else, etc. Don't be afraid to probe other people's motivations and only accept criticism that is fair judgment and relevant to improving yourself.\\n3. Taking care of your daily actions\\n3-1. Stay organized.\\nBeing organized is key to being the best girl ever. Even the prettiest and happiest girls can be caught up in clutter. Lay out your clothes every morning, make your bed, keep your room clean, and always have the project that is due ready for the next day at school!\\n3-2. Take up relaxation exercises to keep you calm.\\nThis might be yoga, meditation, swimming laps of the pool, going for a walk, etc. Do whatever helps you to find a calm space amid the busyness of your life. This will allow you to cope with times of stress better, such as during exams or relationship breakups.\\nRelax. Daily meditation or affirmations can be useful for keeping you both relaxed and focused on the purpose that you've chosen for yourself.\\n4. Taking care of your relationships\\n4-1. Be likeable\\nBe likeable by being best friends with everyone without preferring a clique. Try to be outgoing and happy, be a force for good around other people. Make friends, and stay busy. Not only will this make you the best, but it can increase your joy around other people and it can prevent stress.\\nAvoid gossiping and the gossips. It's fine to share information and news with one another but don't embellish it and turn it into mean, thoughtless and unkind words about other people. You wouldn't like it if somebody insulted you so don't do it back. Someone day, it'll get back to them and it could easily also be you.\\nDo not spread rumors––instead, stop such things in their tracks by demanding to know who would be so unkind to say such things and that you don't think there's an ounce of truth in secondhand news.\\nBe a defender. Defend people who are in the weaker position by stating the obvious, that the bullying, thoughtless or mean person is being unkind, lacking in manners and is lacking in the facts.\\n4-2. Be involved.\\nKeep up with trends, you don't have to follow them though. Just keep up with what's going on, keep up with the drama in school, just don't participate in it. Knowing what's going on will allow you to have your finger on the pulse, to avoid the drama and to be on top of anything that might affect you.\\n4-3. Listen to the things your parents say and ask of you.\\nIf you listen to them, they will appreciate your respect and will in turn listen to you as well. If you help your parents around the house and by being a good listener, they will treat you as responsible. This will benefit you greatly.\\nTips\\nIf you don't like a trend or don't want to do something popular girls are doing, you don't have to. You can still be popular and fun while keeping your own style.\\nHaters will always exist. They are the insecure, the weak-minded, the intellectually lazy and they hang around in packs. Use their meanness to spur you onto to goodness, always. Don't take any of it personally––even if they hit a sore spot, realize they're just spotting in you what they cannot deal with inside of themselves. In other words, such persons are actually quite perceptive and therein lies something that eventually you can kindly suggest they may wish to attend to within themselves. Just be sure to wait for the right moment though, when it's going to have the greatest impact.\\nBeware of people who claim you are \\\"too sensitive\\\", \\\"too shy\\\", \\\"too loud\\\" and goodness knows what else. Who made them the arbiter of the \\\"ideal girl\\\"? Their own prejudices, and nothing more. Brush it off, you're who you are and you're always striving to improve on that.\\nWarnings\\nDon't bully other people. It will only ruin someone else's self-respect and make you look bad.\\nDon't ever boss people about because it will not help you in being a better person.\\nThere will always be jealous people who don't like the way you dress or what you do but you just have to ignore them and try to surround yourself with the people that you love.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being the best person in the world isn't really possible, because everyone loves someone, everyone is good at something, everyone is different and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However, aiming to be the closest you can to \\\"the best\\\" that you can be will ensure that your talents and abilities are brought forth.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Taking care of your body\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look after yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Use basic grooming to stay clean and neat. Brush your hair regularly and keep it well washed. Brush your teeth at least twice a day. Avoid getting caught up in beauty regimes that suck away time you could be using more productively to play sport, read a book, get more sleep or invent a new life-changing product. Instead, find quick and easy ways that work best for your needs.\\nSoap and water are just as good for keeping clean as any other product and they're cheaper and contain less unknown ingredients. 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What if it counts? Even if it doesn't count for much, I want to do the best that I can, for my own sake!\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use your intellect.\", \"描述\": \"Learn to think critically, ask questions and assume nothing. The world is filled with polarized opinions that cause arguments daily, and much of this is wasteful rather than productive because it assumes there are only two sides to any argument, when in actual fact there is often a multitude of opinions, ideas and solutions. Seek them all out, so as to be well informed and fully aware. Learn to spot the difference between serious thinking and blabbermouths. Always find out the facts before reaching conclusions about people, situations and incidents.\\nIf your school doesn't cater to critical thinking, look for online courses from reputable universities and colleges that do. Take a course in your own time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be confident.\", \"描述\": \"Loving who you are and knowing that you're beautiful without having to change your body or yourself will help you to be more confident and self-assured. \\nSay who you are and be what you say! Realize that over time, you may well change considerably and it's called maturing––such personal growth is normal as you continue to learn more about yourself, other people and the world in general. You are always a work in progress, so be prepared to be a lifelong learner. If anyone suggests you are being fake or insincere for changing over time, be careful not to confuse this with the natural changes every person undergoes and someone who is actually fickle enough to constantly change their mind. These are two very different things.\\nDon't change for a boy, or to be friends with the \\\"popular girls.\\\" Just be yourself. Make them like you for who you are. Not for you trying to act different. Just you! Any changes you do make should be made because you want to become the best that you can be, not because someone has criticized you.\\nLearn to understand other people's motives. Not everyone has sincere or genuine reasons for suggesting you be a certain way. People have many reasons that are about themselves, such as jealousy, fear, a sense of living through someone else, etc. Don't be afraid to probe other people's motivations and only accept criticism that is fair judgment and relevant to improving yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking care of your daily actions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stay organized.\", \"描述\": \"Being organized is key to being the best girl ever. Even the prettiest and happiest girls can be caught up in clutter. 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Just keep up with what's going on, keep up with the drama in school, just don't participate in it. Knowing what's going on will allow you to have your finger on the pulse, to avoid the drama and to be on top of anything that might affect you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to the things your parents say and ask of you.\", \"描述\": \"If you listen to them, they will appreciate your respect and will in turn listen to you as well. If you help your parents around the house and by being a good listener, they will treat you as responsible. This will benefit you greatly.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you don't like a trend or don't want to do something popular girls are doing, you don't have to. You can still be popular and fun while keeping your own style.\\n\", \"Haters will always exist. They are the insecure, the weak-minded, the intellectually lazy and they hang around in packs. Use their meanness to spur you onto to goodness, always. 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It will only ruin someone else's self-respect and make you look bad.\\n\", \"Don't ever boss people about because it will not help you in being a better person.\\n\", \"There will always be jealous people who don't like the way you dress or what you do but you just have to ignore them and try to surround yourself with the people that you love.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Best Gymnast in Your Level
1. Steps 1-1. Try throwing a few of your tricks at home depending on what level you are currently at. It's not as recommended to throw tricks like layouts and double pikes in your own home, for example anything more difficult than a back tuck shouldn't be performed outside of the gym for safety purposes. 1-2. Stretch, stretch and stretch some more! You want to perfect those splits, don't you? And once you're finally down, it's not over yet, you must perfect your splits kicks. Try going into over-splits by lifting one of your legs up and propping it on a high book or some piled books. 1-3. Do a lot of strength conditioning. Muscle for tumbling and bars doesn't build itself. To get stronger you should do push-ups, gymnastics crunches, lift weights, hold certain positions for longer. Do what they teach you at your classes. 1-4. Learn more about gymnastics. Once you get to competition, what good is it if you don't know what your scores mean? You should really read up on it and get to know your sport, the basics, tips, even observe how top elite gymnasts work. You don't need to work for as long as them, but certainly do some of the conditioning things they do. 1-5. Determine what type of gymnast you are. Are you a short, powerful Shawn Johnson or a long-lined, beautiful Nastia Liukin? This could help in determining what you'll be good at in gymnastics. 1-6. Practice specific things for specific events. Try some simple balances for beam. Hold up some handstands and hold splits for floor. Practice swinging from something - or maybe even just holding yourself up on a bar - for bars. For vault, practice your powerful running! If you just stride quickly up to the vault you'll realize soon enough you can't throw a trick. 1-7. Adopt a healthy diet. Try to cut most fatty foods and fizzy drinks from your diet. Just eat healthily - you don't need to start worrying about specific dietary changes until you are level 8/9/10/Elite. 1-8. Be nice to your fellow gymnasts and coaches. It's important people value you as an honorary member of your team. But DO NOT suck up to them - both gymnasts and coaches will notice when this happens and they do not like it! 1-9. Don't overwork yourself, although you need to practice for at least 15 - 30 minutes a day. You don't need to wake up with aching muscles every single day, that makes it ten times harder to stretch! Tips Make sure you stretch daily, even if for just quarter of an hour, not for hours in a single day weekly! Don't compare yourself to someone who is in level 10 if you're only in level 2. This could cause stress and even major injuries. Slowly build your way up to the top. Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day; in other words, you can't magically become the best overnight. Warnings Don't overwork yourself. You will only make it harder for yourself and tighten your muscles back up again. Do not do skills harder than a back tuck at home. You don't want to fall and injure yourself. Don't suck up to coaches or gymnasts. They will realize and will dislike you! To become a champion it is absolutely compulsory to have a coach and proper training. If you feel you aren't being trained properly have a talk with your parents and then the coach - but remember they may be strict and push you at times.
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Adopt a healthy diet.\\nTry to cut most fatty foods and fizzy drinks from your diet. Just eat healthily - you don't need to start worrying about specific dietary changes until you are level 8/9/10/Elite.\\n1-8. Be nice to your fellow gymnasts and coaches.\\nIt's important people value you as an honorary member of your team. But DO NOT suck up to them - both gymnasts and coaches will notice when this happens and they do not like it!\\n1-9. Don't overwork yourself, although you need to practice for at least 15 - 30 minutes a day.\\nYou don't need to wake up with aching muscles every single day, that makes it ten times harder to stretch!\\nTips\\nMake sure you stretch daily, even if for just quarter of an hour, not for hours in a single day weekly!\\nDon't compare yourself to someone who is in level 10 if you're only in level 2. This could cause stress and even major injuries.\\nSlowly build your way up to the top. Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day; in other words, you can't magically become the best overnight.\\nWarnings\\nDon't overwork yourself. You will only make it harder for yourself and tighten your muscles back up again.\\nDo not do skills harder than a back tuck at home. You don't want to fall and injure yourself.\\nDon't suck up to coaches or gymnasts. They will realize and will dislike you!\\nTo become a champion it is absolutely compulsory to have a coach and proper training. If you feel you aren't being trained properly have a talk with your parents and then the coach - but remember they may be strict and push you at times.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Wondering how you can improve, and possibly become one of the best gymnasts in your level? Be sure to aim for the top, you can certainly get close with this guide. 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How to Be the Best Person You Can Be
1. Being Your Best Self 1-1. Be strong. This means being independent and not expecting others to do your work for you. Be strong and when something bad happens, keep your chin up and fix the problem. If you can't fix the problem by yourself though or if you didn't create the problem, accept help to put the problem to an end before it escalates. Know when to cross the line on being dependent but also know that once in a while you're going to need to accept help and that is not a sign of weakness––that's what friends and family are for, right? Encourage yourself. If you are feeling unmotivated, motivate yourself with quotes, mind pictures, or positive words. The power of the word can go a long way. 1-2. Be educated. Have knowledge on what's going on around you...watch the news or read the newspaper every once in a while. It's never good to be in the dark about things when everyone else is in the light! On that same note, read and write, and get a good vocabulary. It's always good to be intelligent and knowledgeable about things and you never know when that information will become useful! Reading and writing is also a very fun way to pass the time and makes a great hobby. 1-3. Don't be so serious. Laugh at yourself once in a while! Take a joke and don't cry over spilled milk. If something bad happens, recognize the problem and try your best to fix it. If it's not going to effect you in two years, don't sweat it. Forget about it and move on. Smile often. If you don't feel good, then the people around you won't feel good. A way to make yourself feel good is to smile. If you smile regularly, people will smile back. When you smile, you feel warm inside, and that feels good. Smile! 1-4. Stop and smell the roses. What's the rush? As long as you're there, you might as well make the most of it especially if you won't ever be there again! Have fun and don't be rushing around all the time. If you see something you like, get it or spend as much time as possible there! Life isn't about running around and being stressed-and if you are you're not being the best person that you can possibly be and no one wants to be around a stressed hurried person. Calm down! 1-5. Be adventurous. Don't do anything stupid when you know you will get hurt or in huge trouble, but be willing to try new and fun things. Whether that means trying a food from a different country that you've never even heard of before or going rock climbing, do it and have a blast while you're at it! Whatever you're doing have fun at it...this also goes along with being open minded to new ideas or thoughts. 1-6. Find a hobby. Discover what makes you tick personally! That could be art, singing, playing an instrument, writing, learning, exercise, dance, collecting things, making movies, scrap booking, animals, etc. Find what you enjoy and love and rock it! If you love singing, take singing lessons or practice everyday! If you like dance join a dance or gymnastic group. If you like art, learn to draw or paint new things or create your own masterpieces! Get into something and share your creations with the world. If you're having trouble finding what you love, keep trying things until you find it! You're bound to find something. Here are some ideas for a hobby that you can try: Singing, dance, playing an instrument or making movies Art. scrap booking Writing and learning Collecting things Exercise, sports, fitness Animals, caring for them, learning about them Makeup, clothes, making clothes, doing hairstyles, etc. Keep searching and you're bound to find something that suits you exactly. 2. Keeping Up Appearances 2-1. Be different and don't care what others think about this. Don't be afraid to be a little out there; you might set a good example for others who wish to be true to themselves. Don't care what other people think of you, as they'll forget about that girl wearing the crazy unique outfit in less than 5 minutes anyway. Just be yourself and be the best you can be at it! 2-2. Have good hygiene. This means brushing your hair everyday and night, brushing your teeth twice a day or after every meal, showering daily, washing your face and wearing deodorant. Make sure when you brush your teeth/hair, you get every nook and cranny. Shower daily but do not wash your hair every day as this strips your hair of its natural oils and helps protect your hair. Wash your body daily and wash your hair every other day. Wash your face two times a day and avoid touching your face or getting anything greasy on it to reduce or completely avid acne. Wear deodorant and put it on once or more a day, depending on the heat and your activity level for the day. Put lotion on your dry spots such as your elbows or feet, and wash your hands daily (after you eat and before you eat, after handling something like an animal or bacteria, etc.) 2-3. Find your style and make it your own. Wear unique clothes that fit your style. Try to add something to standard clothing and make it your signature look. Some unique accessories and clothes are: feather earrings, beanie hats, long or unique necklaces, friendship or bangle bracelets, arm bracelets, sharp rings, etc. Find outfits that you like that fit your style and that you personally like. Find your style, rather that be indie, goth/emo, jock, popular/average, or hipster clothing. (You can also make your own style!) You can make DIY clothing or buy it, depending on what you prefer. Have fun with it! 3. Being a Force of Good Around Others 3-1. Be kind. Help others less fortunate than you! Whatever you do will come back to you, so why not make that a positive thing? If you see someone struggling with their groceries, lend a helping hand and help carry them or open the door for them. If your sister is crying in her room because her boyfriend just dumped her, lend your shoulder for crying on, listen to her problem and offer advice if asked. If you see a homeless person playing guitar with a money box begging for money for food that night, pay them some cash if you can or buy them a meal if you don't feel comfortable giving cash. Don't bully or harass people and don't insult others. Good people don't do things to hurt other people or start drama. 3-2. Help your community and be active. Join charities and clubs, clean up around the town, and donate money for churches, tips, anything that will help the town, etc. Donate clothes and/or canned food for those less fortunate than you. Help to improve your local environment. Pick up trash along the streets, or encourage recycling. Try to make your community a real community. Get everybody together and have fun! Hold a potluck. Have a swim party. Congratulate newlyweds, babies, and the birthday girl/boy/man/woman. 3-3. Be a social butterfly. Talk to people! If invited, go to parties or sleepovers. Talk to people, answer questions, communicate. If you're shy now is the time to step out of your comfort zone and get outgoing! If you have a troubling past that affects your ability to do this, seek a therapist or doctor's help and you may be able to get medicine (doctor)or just have someone to listen and offer advice to (therapist.) Don't be ashamed if you do have to do this, everyone needs help sometime and if you have a troublesome past it's crucial that you get help instead of keeping it bottled inside. You also may have social anxiety, in that case you should seek help from either a trusted friend or family member, therapist or doctor and you should *try* to get out of your comfort zone and socialize a little more even if it's hard at first. Tips Don't completely change something about you in order to be the best you can be...remember, being yourself is always the best! To avoid being called a poser/wannabe, don't completely change your personality or look in one day...it takes time for these things to change. However, starting good hygiene immediately is required!
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On that same note, read and write, and get a good vocabulary. It's always good to be intelligent and knowledgeable about things and you never know when that information will become useful! Reading and writing is also a very fun way to pass the time and makes a great hobby.\\n1-3. Don't be so serious.\\nLaugh at yourself once in a while! Take a joke and don't cry over spilled milk. If something bad happens, recognize the problem and try your best to fix it. If it's not going to effect you in two years, don't sweat it. Forget about it and move on.\\nSmile often. If you don't feel good, then the people around you won't feel good. A way to make yourself feel good is to smile. If you smile regularly, people will smile back. When you smile, you feel warm inside, and that feels good. Smile!\\n1-4. Stop and smell the roses.\\nWhat's the rush? As long as you're there, you might as well make the most of it especially if you won't ever be there again! Have fun and don't be rushing around all the time. If you see something you like, get it or spend as much time as possible there! Life isn't about running around and being stressed-and if you are you're not being the best person that you can possibly be and no one wants to be around a stressed hurried person. Calm down!\\n1-5. Be adventurous.\\nDon't do anything stupid when you know you will get hurt or in huge trouble, but be willing to try new and fun things. Whether that means trying a food from a different country that you've never even heard of before or going rock climbing, do it and have a blast while you're at it! Whatever you're doing have fun at it...this also goes along with being open minded to new ideas or thoughts.\\n1-6. Find a hobby.\\nDiscover what makes you tick personally! That could be art, singing, playing an instrument, writing, learning, exercise, dance, collecting things, making movies, scrap booking, animals, etc. Find what you enjoy and love and rock it! If you love singing, take singing lessons or practice everyday! If you like dance join a dance or gymnastic group. If you like art, learn to draw or paint new things or create your own masterpieces! Get into something and share your creations with the world. If you're having trouble finding what you love, keep trying things until you find it! You're bound to find something. Here are some ideas for a hobby that you can try:\\nSinging, dance, playing an instrument or making movies\\nArt. scrap booking\\nWriting and learning\\nCollecting things\\nExercise, sports, fitness\\nAnimals, caring for them, learning about them\\nMakeup, clothes, making clothes, doing hairstyles, etc.\\nKeep searching and you're bound to find something that suits you exactly.\\n2. Keeping Up Appearances\\n2-1. Be different and don't care what others think about this.\\nDon't be afraid to be a little out there; you might set a good example for others who wish to be true to themselves. Don't care what other people think of you, as they'll forget about that girl wearing the crazy unique outfit in less than 5 minutes anyway. Just be yourself and be the best you can be at it!\\n2-2. Have good hygiene.\\nThis means brushing your hair everyday and night, brushing your teeth twice a day or after every meal, showering daily, washing your face and wearing deodorant. Make sure when you brush your teeth/hair, you get every nook and cranny.\\nShower daily but do not wash your hair every day as this strips your hair of its natural oils and helps protect your hair.\\nWash your body daily and wash your hair every other day. Wash your face two times a day and avoid touching your face or getting anything greasy on it to reduce or completely avid acne.\\nWear deodorant and put it on once or more a day, depending on the heat and your activity level for the day. Put lotion on your dry spots such as your elbows or feet, and wash your hands daily (after you eat and before you eat, after handling something like an animal or bacteria, etc.)\\n2-3. Find your style and make it your own.\\nWear unique clothes that fit your style. Try to add something to standard clothing and make it your signature look. Some unique accessories and clothes are: feather earrings, beanie hats, long or unique necklaces, friendship or bangle bracelets, arm bracelets, sharp rings, etc. Find outfits that you like that fit your style and that you personally like. Find your style, rather that be indie, goth/emo, jock, popular/average, or hipster clothing. (You can also make your own style!) You can make DIY clothing or buy it, depending on what you prefer. Have fun with it!\\n3. Being a Force of Good Around Others\\n3-1. Be kind.\\nHelp others less fortunate than you! Whatever you do will come back to you, so why not make that a positive thing? If you see someone struggling with their groceries, lend a helping hand and help carry them or open the door for them. If your sister is crying in her room because her boyfriend just dumped her, lend your shoulder for crying on, listen to her problem and offer advice if asked. If you see a homeless person playing guitar with a money box begging for money for food that night, pay them some cash if you can or buy them a meal if you don't feel comfortable giving cash. Don't bully or harass people and don't insult others. Good people don't do things to hurt other people or start drama.\\n3-2. Help your community and be active.\\nJoin charities and clubs, clean up around the town, and donate money for churches, tips, anything that will help the town, etc. Donate clothes and/or canned food for those less fortunate than you.\\nHelp to improve your local environment. Pick up trash along the streets, or encourage recycling.\\nTry to make your community a real community. Get everybody together and have fun! Hold a potluck. Have a swim party. Congratulate newlyweds, babies, and the birthday girl/boy/man/woman.\\n3-3. Be a social butterfly.\\nTalk to people! If invited, go to parties or sleepovers. Talk to people, answer questions, communicate. If you're shy now is the time to step out of your comfort zone and get outgoing! If you have a troubling past that affects your ability to do this, seek a therapist or doctor's help and you may be able to get medicine (doctor)or just have someone to listen and offer advice to (therapist.) Don't be ashamed if you do have to do this, everyone needs help sometime and if you have a troublesome past it's crucial that you get help instead of keeping it bottled inside. You also may have social anxiety, in that case you should seek help from either a trusted friend or family member, therapist or doctor and you should *try* to get out of your comfort zone and socialize a little more even if it's hard at first.\\nTips\\nDon't completely change something about you in order to be the best you can be...remember, being yourself is always the best!\\nTo avoid being called a poser/wannabe, don't completely change your personality or look in one day...it takes time for these things to change. However, starting good hygiene immediately is required!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tired of not being the best you can be, but want to start striving to be the best? Being the best isn't just about outward appearances as some may think. 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Whatever you do will come back to you, so why not make that a positive thing? If you see someone struggling with their groceries, lend a helping hand and help carry them or open the door for them. If your sister is crying in her room because her boyfriend just dumped her, lend your shoulder for crying on, listen to her problem and offer advice if asked. If you see a homeless person playing guitar with a money box begging for money for food that night, pay them some cash if you can or buy them a meal if you don't feel comfortable giving cash. Don't bully or harass people and don't insult others. Good people don't do things to hurt other people or start drama.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Help your community and be active.\", \"描述\": \"Join charities and clubs, clean up around the town, and donate money for churches, tips, anything that will help the town, etc. Donate clothes and/or canned food for those less fortunate than you.\\nHelp to improve your local environment. Pick up trash along the streets, or encourage recycling.\\nTry to make your community a real community. Get everybody together and have fun! Hold a potluck. Have a swim party. Congratulate newlyweds, babies, and the birthday girl/boy/man/woman.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be a social butterfly.\", \"描述\": \"Talk to people! If invited, go to parties or sleepovers. Talk to people, answer questions, communicate. If you're shy now is the time to step out of your comfort zone and get outgoing! If you have a troubling past that affects your ability to do this, seek a therapist or doctor's help and you may be able to get medicine (doctor)or just have someone to listen and offer advice to (therapist.) Don't be ashamed if you do have to do this, everyone needs help sometime and if you have a troublesome past it's crucial that you get help instead of keeping it bottled inside. You also may have social anxiety, in that case you should seek help from either a trusted friend or family member, therapist or doctor and you should *try* to get out of your comfort zone and socialize a little more even if it's hard at first.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't completely change something about you in order to be the best you can be...remember, being yourself is always the best!\\n\", \"To avoid being called a poser/wannabe, don't completely change your personality or look in one day...it takes time for these things to change. However, starting good hygiene immediately is required!\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Best Student in Your Class
1. Getting the Most out of Learning 1-1. Get your brain and body ready to learn. You will learn best and have the easiest time in school if your body is ready to learn! There are lots of things that you can do to get your body ready. Try: Get lots of sleep. You'll need to get the right amount of sleep for your body if you want your brain to work at its best. You should feel alert through most of the day. If you find yourself needing to shut your eyes by lunch, you're not sleeping enough. For most people, you'll need about 8 hours of sleep. Your body can't work right if all you eat is junk like chips, candy, and hamburgers. If you want to be the best student you can be, eat your vegetables (like broccoli), some fruit, and lean proteins (like chicken and fish). Drink plenty of water. Your brain needs water in order to work right. In fact, your whole body needs water in order to work right. Drink several glasses of water a day but keep in mind that some people need more water than others. 1-2. Learn in a way that works for you Everyone learns best in different ways; this is called a learning style. Find a way that works for you and try to learn that way as much as you can. You'll have more control over this when you study at home, but you can also talk to your teacher about adjusting how the lessons are taught to include more variety for different style learners. For example, have you noticed that it's really easy for you to remember charts or pictures? This means you might be a visual learner, which means you should use more images and pictures in order to learn. An example of this would be if you drew yourself a chart to memorize the parts of speech. Maybe you've noticed that you have an easier time studying when you listen to music quietly or that you can't remember what your teacher wrote on the board but you can "hear" what they said in your head as if they were in the room now. This means you might be an auditory learner, which means you learn better with sound. An example of this would be if you record your teacher when they're talking so that you can listen to it while you do your homework or study. Maybe you've noticed that, during a lesson, you feel like you still want to pay attention but you really need to stand up or move around. Maybe you pace around your room while you study. This might mean that you are a kinesthetic learner, which means you learn better when you're doing things with your body. Try playing with a piece of clay in your hand while your teacher talks. 1-3. Pay attention. The best thing that you can do to become the best student in any class is to pay attention to when your teacher is talking. If you get distracted you might miss important information and you'll have a harder time understanding what to do or when you have to study later. If you're having trouble staying focused when your teacher is talking, try sitting in the front and participating more in the class. Raise your hand and ask questions when you don't understand something or when your teacher says something interesting and you want to know more about it. 1-4. Learn how to take notes. Taking notes effectively can be tricky, but it will make it much easier for you to learn and study, which means your grades will get better and your test scores will improve so you're the best student in your class. Just remember, you don't have to write down everything your teacher says. Just write down the most important things and the things you know you'll have a hard time remembering. 1-5. Do your homework on time and well. Even if you don't get very good grades on your homework, just doing it on time will help keep your grade up as much as possible. You should aim to make your homework marks the highest in the class or you're not really trying to be the best in your class. Beyond that, do as well on your homework as you can. When you don't understand it, ask someone for help! Your teacher might be able to set you up with a tutor or even help you themselves. Schedule enough time to actually get your homework done. This might mean watching less TV or spending less time with your friends but it will be worth it in the end. Getting a good environment to do homework will really help you to get it done. Go somewhere quiet where you don't have any distractions. If you can go to a library, that's a good spot. If you can't leave your house and the people you live with are noisy, try your bedroom. 1-6. Look for extra ways to learn. Learning stuff that isn't included in your classes can help you understand the information you do cover a lot better and it can also really impress your teacher. Pursuing information in a way that follows your interests can also help you stay focused in class. Look for more ways to learn about all of the subjects you study and you'll find that all of the school is more interesting and that you're more and more successful. For example, if you're studying American history, you can watch documentaries online to learn even more about the era you're learning about. You can learn by studying books from your local library and you can also learn a lot online. While Wikipedia isn't always accurate, it's usually pretty good. You can also find documentaries and educational videos on YouTube, like the popular shows Crash Course and TedTalks. These have a lot of information that your teacher or professor didn't explain it well enough for you. Learn when school is out of session too. Keep learning during the summer, on the weekends, and start preparing for your next year of school as early as you can by finding out what kind of stuff you'll study. As for the summers, just reviewing the information you already learned for just two or three hours three or four times over the course of the whole summer can help make sure that you're ready when the school year starts. 1-7. Study earlier. When you see the number of portions just before a test, you may get scared. One of the most effective ways to get better scores on tests is to start studying and preparing for the test as early as possible. Definitely don't leave it until the night before. Write down the possible questions that can come on the test and start jotting down key points. Try waking up a little early the morning of the test and skim through notes you made while you were studying. It can really help you grasp last-minute details, by review those notes one last time. The harder the test will be, the earlier you should start studying. Two or three weeks is usually a good starting point. 2. Being a Good Person 2-1. Make people feel good, not bad. Being the best student in a class is about more than just getting good grades. You should also work on being a good person. You don't want to be a bully or a class clown; that will not make you the best student in the class. Focus on making people feel good by giving them compliments and telling them when they do a good job. Don't be mean to people and tease them or say hurtful things. 2-2. Be helpful to everyone. Be a good person by helping people when you can. If you know how to do something or you have an easier way of doing it, show them how. Don't make yourself seem smarter or better, just be nice and friendly. You can also do small nice things, like holding a door open for them or helping them carry something heavy. For example, if someone was gone for a few days, offer to help them get caught up and share your notes with them. 2-3. Be respectful to people, even when they're being mean. Even when people are mean to you, you should still be respectful. Don't shout at them or physically hurt them. Don't call them names or cut in front of them in line, just to spite them. Simply ignore them and treat them like you would treat anyone else. Be respectful to people by not talking over them and definitely giving them a chance to talk if they want to. Respect their opinions and don't worry if they think a little bit differently than you. You should also let people be themselves and don't make them feel bad for being unique or different. 2-4. Stay calm. When you're in class, stay as calm as you can. Don't run around and disrupt people. You should also try not to get stressed when school gets tough. This is bad for you and it might also cause you to lash out at other people. Help yourself calm down by breathing slowly. Remind yourself that everything will be okay. You're strong enough to do this! Avoid worrying about perfect grades. Perfect grades really only matter your last year and a half of high school and then when you're in college (if you plan on going to graduate school later). Otherwise, just focus on learning the material as well as you can and don't worry about the numbers or letters that your teacher assigns. Knowing the material is more important than getting a grade. 2-5. Make things fun for everyone. Try to help everyone have fun. Be enthusiastic and positive when you're in class. This excitement to learn will make everyone feel more okay about learning. It might even get some people to show excitement when they wouldn't normally let other people see that they care. For example, you might start learning about the planets in your science class. Find a cool picture of your favorite planet and show it to other people, then challenge them to find a cool picture of their favorite planet. 2-6. Be yourself! Most importantly, be yourself. You can't be the best person you can possibly be if you're pretending to be someone else. Do the things that make you happy. Share the things that you love. Be friends with the people that get you and make you feel good about yourself. Don't worry about what other people think. The truth is that years from now, you won't even remember half of their names. If they don't think you're the coolest person now, you're not going to care in five or six years. What you will care about is how unhappy you are that you didn't do things that made you happy. 3. Making Your Teacher Happy 3-1. Be respectful. If you want to make your teacher happy, being respectful is really the best way to start. Especially if other students are disrespectful, you'll stand out and quickly become their favorite. You can do things like: Don't be disruptive. Don't pass notes, talk to your friends, make jokes, or move around too much while your teacher is talking. Although it's fine to joke around with your teacher if they like it. Just don't do it too much or your teacher might get frustrated. Be punctual (on time or even early) and definitely don't skip their class. When you're talking to them, be polite. Address them as Ma'am or Sir and use words like please and thank you. Be serious when you use the words and don't let them feel like you're making fun of them by talking like this. If they don't like it, you should stop. 3-2. Ask questions. Teachers like it when students ask questions. There are a few reasons for this. First of all, it tells them that you're paying attention. Second, it shows them that you think they're interesting and that you're enjoying the subject (even if you're not). Third, it makes them feel smart and helpful. Everyone likes to feel smart and helpful. Ask questions when you have them and you'll find your teacher liking you more and more. For example, if your teacher is talking about chemistry and Avogadro's number, ask them how they memorize the number. As a warning, however, try not to ask pointless questions. You don't want to ask a question just so you have a question to ask. Eventually, this will annoy your teacher and they'll think that you're doing it just for the attention. Do not ask personal questions or something that is important only to you. You can ask about homework, pop quiz dates or something that does not bother you alone or if you don't understand. "What pages do we have to read for tomorrow?" and "Ma'am, is there a better method to memorize this?" will be appropriate. "Why did I get a D?" and " Ma'am, which boy band is the hottest according to you?" are definite nos. "Ma'am, do you have a boyfriend?" type of questions that are related to personal relationships of teachers are not to be asked at any cost. Teachers get ticked due to this and can get you suspended. 3-3. Ask for help. You might think that asking your teacher for help will make them mad because it makes you look stupid. This couldn't be further from the truth. Asking for help actually makes you look smart and it will make your teacher happy. When you ask questions, your teacher knows that you'll work hard and understand what they're teaching much better. They'll be proud of you for taking the initiative to get the help you know you need. For example, if there's a math test coming up in a few weeks, and you know that you didn't fully understand how to divide fractions, then ask your teacher if they can go over the instructions with you one more time and do two or three problems with you until you understand it. Say something like, "Mr. Green, I'm having a hard time with the homework. For some reason, the genitive case is just really hard for me to get. Can we maybe meet after school or during lunch, so you can try explaining it in a different way?" 3-4. Be a helpful student. Be a student that not only keeps out of trouble but also makes the classroom a kinder place. This is about more than just starting fights and arguments (although you shouldn't do those things either). This is also about being a person that helps solves problems when they come up. For instance: You remind others (without being bossy or rude) to keep to classroom rules. If a fight breaks out, you immediately get the nearest teacher, or diffuse the fight, or whatever is appropriate to the situation. You help the teacher with tasks such as handing out papers, materials, making copies, helping a student with a question, or whatever is appropriate. You help classmates who are having problems. If a peer is clearly upset, you try to help him. You open the door for a teacher wheeling the AV cart. You do not pass on ugly rumors, even if it is juicy gossip. 3-5. Stay on top of your work. Do your homework on time. Get study guides and ask for help at least two weeks before a test, and not two or three days before. Take notes. When your teacher sees you working hard, even if you're not the smartest and even if you don't get the best test scores, they'll still like you best. Reward yourself and take regular breaks whenever you study or do homework to help you stay motivated! If you need some extra motivation to study for a test, ask a friend to study with you. It will make studying more enjoyable and fun. Tips Walk around in your room while reading out loud or teaching someone (like your little brother). That's the protége effect. You learn better when you teach someone![17] X Trustworthy Source PubMed Central Journal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health Go to source Don't be shy. When teachers ask you a question use the opportunity and answer confidently, even if you are not sure if it is the right answer. The teacher will notice your self-confidence and thus you will get closer to being one of the top students. Keep your cool during exams. Being nervous can make you forget the lessons you had revised. Take rest, have a healthy breakfast before attending any test. Warnings Don't overwhelm yourself with work. Life is not just about school work! Remember that you are human too. Don't brag. Many people with high marks like to brag. Show your marks to others, if they ask, but do not brag. If you cheat, there is a good chance that you will get caught and if a teacher sees you are cheating, he/she will change his/her mind about you. There is a fine line between being a genuinely helpful student, and one that is an over-enthusiastic "goody-two-shoes" that is overly dependent on the teacher's praise and attention. Be sure to let others also help the teacher.
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They'll be proud of you for taking the initiative to get the help you know you need.\\nFor example, if there's a math test coming up in a few weeks, and you know that you didn't fully understand how to divide fractions, then ask your teacher if they can go over the instructions with you one more time and do two or three problems with you until you understand it.\\nSay something like, \\\"Mr. Green, I'm having a hard time with the homework. For some reason, the genitive case is just really hard for me to get. Can we maybe meet after school or during lunch, so you can try explaining it in a different way?\\\"\\n3-4. Be a helpful student.\\nBe a student that not only keeps out of trouble but also makes the classroom a kinder place. This is about more than just starting fights and arguments (although you shouldn't do those things either). This is also about being a person that helps solves problems when they come up. For instance: \\nYou remind others (without being bossy or rude) to keep to classroom rules.\\nIf a fight breaks out, you immediately get the nearest teacher, or diffuse the fight, or whatever is appropriate to the situation.\\nYou help the teacher with tasks such as handing out papers, materials, making copies, helping a student with a question, or whatever is appropriate.\\nYou help classmates who are having problems. If a peer is clearly upset, you try to help him. You open the door for a teacher wheeling the AV cart. You do not pass on ugly rumors, even if it is juicy gossip.\\n3-5. Stay on top of your work.\\nDo your homework on time. Get study guides and ask for help at least two weeks before a test, and not two or three days before. Take notes. When your teacher sees you working hard, even if you're not the smartest and even if you don't get the best test scores, they'll still like you best.\\nReward yourself and take regular breaks whenever you study or do homework to help you stay motivated!\\nIf you need some extra motivation to study for a test, ask a friend to study with you. It will make studying more enjoyable and fun.\\nTips\\nWalk around in your room while reading out loud or teaching someone (like your little brother). That's the protége effect. You learn better when you teach someone![17]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nPubMed Central\\nJournal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health\\nGo to source\\nDon't be shy. When teachers ask you a question use the opportunity and answer confidently, even if you are not sure if it is the right answer. The teacher will notice your self-confidence and thus you will get closer to being one of the top students.\\nKeep your cool during exams. Being nervous can make you forget the lessons you had revised. Take rest, have a healthy breakfast before attending any test.\\nWarnings\\nDon't overwhelm yourself with work. Life is not just about school work! Remember that you are human too.\\nDon't brag. Many people with high marks like to brag. Show your marks to others, if they ask, but do not brag.\\nIf you cheat, there is a good chance that you will get caught and if a teacher sees you are cheating, he/she will change his/her mind about you.\\nThere is a fine line between being a genuinely helpful student, and one that is an over-enthusiastic \\\"goody-two-shoes\\\" that is overly dependent on the teacher's praise and attention. Be sure to let others also help the teacher.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to impress your teacher? Do you want to impress your parents? Do you want to impress your friends? Maybe you just want to get the most out of your school year. Whatever your reason for wanting to be the best student in your class, there are a couple of different ways you're going to want to improve yourself. Being the best student in any class great is about more than just making the grade; it's also being a good person and showing your teacher that you take their class seriously.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting the Most out of Learning\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get your brain and body ready to learn.\", \"描述\": \"You will learn best and have the easiest time in school if your body is ready to learn! There are lots of things that you can do to get your body ready. Try:\\nGet lots of sleep. You'll need to get the right amount of sleep for your body if you want your brain to work at its best. You should feel alert through most of the day. If you find yourself needing to shut your eyes by lunch, you're not sleeping enough. For most people, you'll need about 8 hours of sleep.\\nYour body can't work right if all you eat is junk like chips, candy, and hamburgers. If you want to be the best student you can be, eat your vegetables (like broccoli), some fruit, and lean proteins (like chicken and fish).\\nDrink plenty of water. Your brain needs water in order to work right. In fact, your whole body needs water in order to work right. Drink several glasses of water a day but keep in mind that some people need more water than others.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn in a way that works for you\", \"描述\": \"Everyone learns best in different ways; this is called a learning style. Find a way that works for you and try to learn that way as much as you can. You'll have more control over this when you study at home, but you can also talk to your teacher about adjusting how the lessons are taught to include more variety for different style learners.\\nFor example, have you noticed that it's really easy for you to remember charts or pictures? This means you might be a visual learner, which means you should use more images and pictures in order to learn. An example of this would be if you drew yourself a chart to memorize the parts of speech.\\nMaybe you've noticed that you have an easier time studying when you listen to music quietly or that you can't remember what your teacher wrote on the board but you can \\\"hear\\\" what they said in your head as if they were in the room now. This means you might be an auditory learner, which means you learn better with sound. An example of this would be if you record your teacher when they're talking so that you can listen to it while you do your homework or study.\\nMaybe you've noticed that, during a lesson, you feel like you still want to pay attention but you really need to stand up or move around. Maybe you pace around your room while you study. This might mean that you are a kinesthetic learner, which means you learn better when you're doing things with your body. Try playing with a piece of clay in your hand while your teacher talks.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pay attention.\", \"描述\": \"The best thing that you can do to become the best student in any class is to pay attention to when your teacher is talking. If you get distracted you might miss important information and you'll have a harder time understanding what to do or when you have to study later.\\nIf you're having trouble staying focused when your teacher is talking, try sitting in the front and participating more in the class. Raise your hand and ask questions when you don't understand something or when your teacher says something interesting and you want to know more about it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn how to take notes.\", \"描述\": \"Taking notes effectively can be tricky, but it will make it much easier for you to learn and study, which means your grades will get better and your test scores will improve so you're the best student in your class. Just remember, you don't have to write down everything your teacher says. Just write down the most important things and the things you know you'll have a hard time remembering.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Do your homework on time and well.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you don't get very good grades on your homework, just doing it on time will help keep your grade up as much as possible. You should aim to make your homework marks the highest in the class or you're not really trying to be the best in your class. Beyond that, do as well on your homework as you can. When you don't understand it, ask someone for help! Your teacher might be able to set you up with a tutor or even help you themselves.\\nSchedule enough time to actually get your homework done. This might mean watching less TV or spending less time with your friends but it will be worth it in the end.\\nGetting a good environment to do homework will really help you to get it done. Go somewhere quiet where you don't have any distractions. If you can go to a library, that's a good spot. If you can't leave your house and the people you live with are noisy, try your bedroom.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Look for extra ways to learn.\", \"描述\": \"Learning stuff that isn't included in your classes can help you understand the information you do cover a lot better and it can also really impress your teacher. Pursuing information in a way that follows your interests can also help you stay focused in class. Look for more ways to learn about all of the subjects you study and you'll find that all of the school is more interesting and that you're more and more successful.\\nFor example, if you're studying American history, you can watch documentaries online to learn even more about the era you're learning about.\\nYou can learn by studying books from your local library and you can also learn a lot online. While Wikipedia isn't always accurate, it's usually pretty good. You can also find documentaries and educational videos on YouTube, like the popular shows Crash Course and TedTalks. These have a lot of information that your teacher or professor didn't explain it well enough for you.\\nLearn when school is out of session too. Keep learning during the summer, on the weekends, and start preparing for your next year of school as early as you can by finding out what kind of stuff you'll study. As for the summers, just reviewing the information you already learned for just two or three hours three or four times over the course of the whole summer can help make sure that you're ready when the school year starts.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Study earlier.\", \"描述\": \"When you see the number of portions just before a test, you may get scared. One of the most effective ways to get better scores on tests is to start studying and preparing for the test as early as possible. Definitely don't leave it until the night before.\\nWrite down the possible questions that can come on the test and start jotting down key points. Try waking up a little early the morning of the test and skim through notes you made while you were studying. It can really help you grasp last-minute details, by review those notes one last time. The harder the test will be, the earlier you should start studying. Two or three weeks is usually a good starting point.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being a Good Person\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make people feel good, not bad.\", \"描述\": \"Being the best student in a class is about more than just getting good grades. You should also work on being a good person. You don't want to be a bully or a class clown; that will not make you the best student in the class. Focus on making people feel good by giving them compliments and telling them when they do a good job. Don't be mean to people and tease them or say hurtful things.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be helpful to everyone.\", \"描述\": \"Be a good person by helping people when you can. If you know how to do something or you have an easier way of doing it, show them how. Don't make yourself seem smarter or better, just be nice and friendly. You can also do small nice things, like holding a door open for them or helping them carry something heavy.\\nFor example, if someone was gone for a few days, offer to help them get caught up and share your notes with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be respectful to people, even when they're being mean.\", \"描述\": \"Even when people are mean to you, you should still be respectful. Don't shout at them or physically hurt them. Don't call them names or cut in front of them in line, just to spite them. Simply ignore them and treat them like you would treat anyone else.\\nBe respectful to people by not talking over them and definitely giving them a chance to talk if they want to. Respect their opinions and don't worry if they think a little bit differently than you. You should also let people be themselves and don't make them feel bad for being unique or different.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay calm.\", \"描述\": \"When you're in class, stay as calm as you can. Don't run around and disrupt people. You should also try not to get stressed when school gets tough. This is bad for you and it might also cause you to lash out at other people.\\nHelp yourself calm down by breathing slowly. Remind yourself that everything will be okay. You're strong enough to do this!\\nAvoid worrying about perfect grades. Perfect grades really only matter your last year and a half of high school and then when you're in college (if you plan on going to graduate school later). Otherwise, just focus on learning the material as well as you can and don't worry about the numbers or letters that your teacher assigns. Knowing the material is more important than getting a grade.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make things fun for everyone.\", \"描述\": \"Try to help everyone have fun. Be enthusiastic and positive when you're in class. This excitement to learn will make everyone feel more okay about learning. It might even get some people to show excitement when they wouldn't normally let other people see that they care.\\nFor example, you might start learning about the planets in your science class. Find a cool picture of your favorite planet and show it to other people, then challenge them to find a cool picture of their favorite planet.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be yourself!\", \"描述\": \"Most importantly, be yourself. You can't be the best person you can possibly be if you're pretending to be someone else. Do the things that make you happy. Share the things that you love. Be friends with the people that get you and make you feel good about yourself. Don't worry about what other people think. The truth is that years from now, you won't even remember half of their names. If they don't think you're the coolest person now, you're not going to care in five or six years. What you will care about is how unhappy you are that you didn't do things that made you happy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Making Your Teacher Happy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be respectful.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to make your teacher happy, being respectful is really the best way to start. Especially if other students are disrespectful, you'll stand out and quickly become their favorite. You can do things like:\\nDon't be disruptive. Don't pass notes, talk to your friends, make jokes, or move around too much while your teacher is talking. Although it's fine to joke around with your teacher if they like it. Just don't do it too much or your teacher might get frustrated.\\nBe punctual (on time or even early) and definitely don't skip their class.\\nWhen you're talking to them, be polite. Address them as Ma'am or Sir and use words like please and thank you. Be serious when you use the words and don't let them feel like you're making fun of them by talking like this. If they don't like it, you should stop.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"Teachers like it when students ask questions. There are a few reasons for this. First of all, it tells them that you're paying attention. Second, it shows them that you think they're interesting and that you're enjoying the subject (even if you're not). Third, it makes them feel smart and helpful. Everyone likes to feel smart and helpful. Ask questions when you have them and you'll find your teacher liking you more and more.\\nFor example, if your teacher is talking about chemistry and Avogadro's number, ask them how they memorize the number.\\nAs a warning, however, try not to ask pointless questions. You don't want to ask a question just so you have a question to ask. Eventually, this will annoy your teacher and they'll think that you're doing it just for the attention.\\nDo not ask personal questions or something that is important only to you. You can ask about homework, pop quiz dates or something that does not bother you alone or if you don't understand. \\\"What pages do we have to read for tomorrow?\\\" and \\\"Ma'am, is there a better method to memorize this?\\\" will be appropriate. \\\"Why did I get a D?\\\" and \\\" Ma'am, which boy band is the hottest according to you?\\\" are definite nos. \\\"Ma'am, do you have a boyfriend?\\\" type of questions that are related to personal relationships of teachers are not to be asked at any cost. Teachers get ticked due to this and can get you suspended.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask for help.\", \"描述\": \"You might think that asking your teacher for help will make them mad because it makes you look stupid. This couldn't be further from the truth. Asking for help actually makes you look smart and it will make your teacher happy. When you ask questions, your teacher knows that you'll work hard and understand what they're teaching much better. They'll be proud of you for taking the initiative to get the help you know you need.\\nFor example, if there's a math test coming up in a few weeks, and you know that you didn't fully understand how to divide fractions, then ask your teacher if they can go over the instructions with you one more time and do two or three problems with you until you understand it.\\nSay something like, \\\"Mr. Green, I'm having a hard time with the homework. For some reason, the genitive case is just really hard for me to get. Can we maybe meet after school or during lunch, so you can try explaining it in a different way?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be a helpful student.\", \"描述\": \"Be a student that not only keeps out of trouble but also makes the classroom a kinder place. This is about more than just starting fights and arguments (although you shouldn't do those things either). This is also about being a person that helps solves problems when they come up. For instance: \\nYou remind others (without being bossy or rude) to keep to classroom rules.\\nIf a fight breaks out, you immediately get the nearest teacher, or diffuse the fight, or whatever is appropriate to the situation.\\nYou help the teacher with tasks such as handing out papers, materials, making copies, helping a student with a question, or whatever is appropriate.\\nYou help classmates who are having problems. If a peer is clearly upset, you try to help him. You open the door for a teacher wheeling the AV cart. You do not pass on ugly rumors, even if it is juicy gossip.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay on top of your work.\", \"描述\": \"Do your homework on time. Get study guides and ask for help at least two weeks before a test, and not two or three days before. Take notes. 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1. Figure out what makes you happy. What do you really want to do with your life? Maybe you want to get your dream job and live across the globe. Maybe you want to have kids and settle down in a big house in the country. Maybe you want to become an artist and share your craft with the world. Whatever it is, you should keep it at the forefront of your mind as you go along the path to be the best you can be. Not everyone has a dream or a huge goal in life, and that’s okay. Your dream might be becoming financially stable and living a happy life. Whatever works for you is what you should strive toward. Pursuing your dreams won’t happen in a day, and that’s okay. However, if you identify what your overarching goal is, you can break it down into smaller ones and work toward it over time. 2. Set goals for yourself. Make them specific and actionable so you know you can meet them. Sit down and write out a list of things you’d like to get done in the next few months or years. For example, going to the dentist twice a year is a specific and achievable goal. On the other hand, improving your health is too broad and vague. You could also have goals like, “Go running twice a week,” “Apply for a new job by the end of the year,” or “Spend time with family members at least once a month.” 3. Exercise and eat well. When you feel good physically, you’ll feel good emotionally. Take control of your health by sticking to a balanced diet, getting enough rest, and exercising regularly. Drink a lot of water to stay hydrated, and visit the doctor to take care of any underlying health problems you might have. Being healthy doesn’t necessarily mean you need to lose weight or get ripped. It just means that you feel good in your body and you’re confident in your own physical wellbeing. 4. Practice self-care. Lower your stress levels with a bit of pampering. Self-care doesn’t have to mean a luxurious bubble bath or spa day—you can try meditating, doing yoga, going for a run, or reading a good book. Try to do something every day that makes you feel good simply because you like it. You could also try journaling, painting, listening to new music, taking a nature walk, or playing with a pet. 5. Say no to things you don’t have time for. You can also say no to things that don’t make you happy. Only put things on your to-do list that you actually have the time (and the will) to do. If you have more work than you can handle, you’ll probably feel overwhelmed and stretched thin. For example, if your child's teacher requests that you direct the school Christmas play but you know that you are especially busy at Christmas time, feel confident saying “no.” 6. Try new things. New experiences make you feel better about life. Visit a new country that you’ve been dying to go to. When you get out and explore the world, you’re going to feel more well-rounded. Try not to let the fear of the unknown stop you from any opportunity. Trying new things can be intimidating, but it’s important to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. 7. Work on your weaknesses. What’s something you’re not super great at? Maybe you get nervous about public speaking or you aren’t the best driver. Make it a goal to better yourself and turn your weaknesses into strengths instead of hindrances. For example, if you’re nervous about public speaking, you could take a public speaking class to practice. If you aren’t the best cook, buy a few cookbooks and look up tutorials online for some basic recipes. 8. Keep a journal. Track your progress as you grow. Set aside 10 to 15 minutes every day to jot down how you’re feeling, what you did that day, and what you’re excited about. It’s okay if you skip a day or two here or there—try to keep the habit up as much as you can. After a couple of months, look back and read some old entries that you made. You might be surprised at how far you’ve come. 9. Learn from your mistakes. You’re going to fail every now and then, and that’s okay. If you mess up or stumble, take a moment to think about what you learned. In the future, you can use your lesson to avoid the same mistakes and stay on the right path. For example, maybe you applied for a promotion in your workplace and you didn’t get it. You might have learned that you need more on-the-job experience before applying to a management position. Or, maybe you went back to school and failed one of your classes. Now you know how to manage your time better and that you need to dedicate more time to studying. 10. Take constructive criticism. Well-meaning criticism can help you improve your life. It’s easy to get defensive or be offended when you hear something negative about yourself—however, try to use it as a learning opportunity. If someone means well and they’re trying to help you, consider taking what they said as an opportunity to learn and grow. For example, your boss might tell you that your presentation lacked conviction. You can use that criticism to make your next one more personal and convincing. 11. Keep a positive attitude. Being an optimist means looking at the bright side of things. If you keep a positive attitude, you can reduce your stress and improve your outlook on life. If you catch yourself thinking something negative, challenge it with a positive thought. For example, if you catch yourself thinking, “I’ve never done this before,” replace it with, “This is a good opportunity to learn.” Or, if you catch yourself thinking, “There’s no way this will work,” try thinking, “I can try to make this work.” 12. Surround yourself with positive people. Find friends and family members who will support your journey. If you admire them and think they’re good role models, they’re probably good people. If you find yourself getting down or thinking negatively after spending time with someone, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship. You might also consider why you admire certain people. What qualities do they possess that you would like to have? You can try to incorporate them into your daily life. 13. Treat your friends with kindness. Our relationships can define who we are. Just like you’d want your friends to be kind to you, you should aim to be loving and supportive toward them. Be a shoulder to lean on, push them to achieve their goals, and lift them up in times of stress. Think about someone in your life who’s been there for you. Try to emulate them when you talk to your loved ones. Tips Being the best you can be takes time. Try not to get discouraged if you have a few setbacks every now and then.
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Set goals for yourself.\\nMake them specific and actionable so you know you can meet them.\\nSit down and write out a list of things you’d like to get done in the next few months or years. For example, going to the dentist twice a year is a specific and achievable goal. On the other hand, improving your health is too broad and vague.\\nYou could also have goals like, “Go running twice a week,” “Apply for a new job by the end of the year,” or “Spend time with family members at least once a month.”\\n3. Exercise and eat well.\\nWhen you feel good physically, you’ll feel good emotionally.\\nTake control of your health by sticking to a balanced diet, getting enough rest, and exercising regularly. Drink a lot of water to stay hydrated, and visit the doctor to take care of any underlying health problems you might have.\\nBeing healthy doesn’t necessarily mean you need to lose weight or get ripped. It just means that you feel good in your body and you’re confident in your own physical wellbeing.\\n4. Practice self-care.\\nLower your stress levels with a bit of pampering.\\nSelf-care doesn’t have to mean a luxurious bubble bath or spa day—you can try meditating, doing yoga, going for a run, or reading a good book. Try to do something every day that makes you feel good simply because you like it.\\nYou could also try journaling, painting, listening to new music, taking a nature walk, or playing with a pet.\\n5. Say no to things you don’t have time for.\\nYou can also say no to things that don’t make you happy.\\nOnly put things on your to-do list that you actually have the time (and the will) to do. If you have more work than you can handle, you’ll probably feel overwhelmed and stretched thin.\\nFor example, if your child's teacher requests that you direct the school Christmas play but you know that you are especially busy at Christmas time, feel confident saying “no.”\\n6. Try new things.\\nNew experiences make you feel better about life.\\nVisit a new country that you’ve been dying to go to. When you get out and explore the world, you’re going to feel more well-rounded. Try not to let the fear of the unknown stop you from any opportunity.\\nTrying new things can be intimidating, but it’s important to push yourself outside of your comfort zone.\\n7. Work on your weaknesses.\\nWhat’s something you’re not super great at?\\nMaybe you get nervous about public speaking or you aren’t the best driver. Make it a goal to better yourself and turn your weaknesses into strengths instead of hindrances.\\nFor example, if you’re nervous about public speaking, you could take a public speaking class to practice.\\nIf you aren’t the best cook, buy a few cookbooks and look up tutorials online for some basic recipes.\\n8. Keep a journal.\\nTrack your progress as you grow.\\nSet aside 10 to 15 minutes every day to jot down how you’re feeling, what you did that day, and what you’re excited about. It’s okay if you skip a day or two here or there—try to keep the habit up as much as you can.\\nAfter a couple of months, look back and read some old entries that you made. You might be surprised at how far you’ve come.\\n9. Learn from your mistakes.\\nYou’re going to fail every now and then, and that’s okay.\\nIf you mess up or stumble, take a moment to think about what you learned. In the future, you can use your lesson to avoid the same mistakes and stay on the right path.\\nFor example, maybe you applied for a promotion in your workplace and you didn’t get it. You might have learned that you need more on-the-job experience before applying to a management position.\\nOr, maybe you went back to school and failed one of your classes. Now you know how to manage your time better and that you need to dedicate more time to studying.\\n10. Take constructive criticism.\\nWell-meaning criticism can help you improve your life.\\nIt’s easy to get defensive or be offended when you hear something negative about yourself—however, try to use it as a learning opportunity. If someone means well and they’re trying to help you, consider taking what they said as an opportunity to learn and grow.\\nFor example, your boss might tell you that your presentation lacked conviction. You can use that criticism to make your next one more personal and convincing.\\n11. Keep a positive attitude.\\nBeing an optimist means looking at the bright side of things.\\nIf you keep a positive attitude, you can reduce your stress and improve your outlook on life. If you catch yourself thinking something negative, challenge it with a positive thought.\\nFor example, if you catch yourself thinking, “I’ve never done this before,” replace it with, “This is a good opportunity to learn.”\\nOr, if you catch yourself thinking, “There’s no way this will work,” try thinking, “I can try to make this work.”\\n12. Surround yourself with positive people.\\nFind friends and family members who will support your journey.\\nIf you admire them and think they’re good role models, they’re probably good people. If you find yourself getting down or thinking negatively after spending time with someone, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship.\\nYou might also consider why you admire certain people. What qualities do they possess that you would like to have? You can try to incorporate them into your daily life.\\n13. Treat your friends with kindness.\\nOur relationships can define who we are.\\nJust like you’d want your friends to be kind to you, you should aim to be loving and supportive toward them. Be a shoulder to lean on, push them to achieve their goals, and lift them up in times of stress.\\nThink about someone in your life who’s been there for you. Try to emulate them when you talk to your loved ones.\\nTips\\nBeing the best you can be takes time. Try not to get discouraged if you have a few setbacks every now and then.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Most people would like to be the best possible version of themselves, but everyone has a different concept of what that looks like. Although it might be hard to define, there are a few concrete steps you can take to improve your life every day. Read through these tips and tricks to learn how you can become the happiest version of yourself.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Figure out what makes you happy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"What do you really want to do with your life?\", \"描述\": \"Maybe you want to get your dream job and live across the globe. Maybe you want to have kids and settle down in a big house in the country. Maybe you want to become an artist and share your craft with the world. Whatever it is, you should keep it at the forefront of your mind as you go along the path to be the best you can be.\\nNot everyone has a dream or a huge goal in life, and that’s okay. Your dream might be becoming financially stable and living a happy life. Whatever works for you is what you should strive toward.\\nPursuing your dreams won’t happen in a day, and that’s okay. However, if you identify what your overarching goal is, you can break it down into smaller ones and work toward it over time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Set goals for yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make them specific and actionable so you know you can meet them.\", \"描述\": \"Sit down and write out a list of things you’d like to get done in the next few months or years. For example, going to the dentist twice a year is a specific and achievable goal. On the other hand, improving your health is too broad and vague.\\nYou could also have goals like, “Go running twice a week,” “Apply for a new job by the end of the year,” or “Spend time with family members at least once a month.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Exercise and eat well.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"When you feel good physically, you’ll feel good emotionally.\", \"描述\": \"Take control of your health by sticking to a balanced diet, getting enough rest, and exercising regularly. Drink a lot of water to stay hydrated, and visit the doctor to take care of any underlying health problems you might have.\\nBeing healthy doesn’t necessarily mean you need to lose weight or get ripped. It just means that you feel good in your body and you’re confident in your own physical wellbeing.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice self-care.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Lower your stress levels with a bit of pampering.\", \"描述\": \"Self-care doesn’t have to mean a luxurious bubble bath or spa day—you can try meditating, doing yoga, going for a run, or reading a good book. Try to do something every day that makes you feel good simply because you like it.\\nYou could also try journaling, painting, listening to new music, taking a nature walk, or playing with a pet.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Say no to things you don’t have time for.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You can also say no to things that don’t make you happy.\", \"描述\": \"Only put things on your to-do list that you actually have the time (and the will) to do. If you have more work than you can handle, you’ll probably feel overwhelmed and stretched thin.\\nFor example, if your child's teacher requests that you direct the school Christmas play but you know that you are especially busy at Christmas time, feel confident saying “no.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try new things.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"New experiences make you feel better about life.\", \"描述\": \"Visit a new country that you’ve been dying to go to. When you get out and explore the world, you’re going to feel more well-rounded. Try not to let the fear of the unknown stop you from any opportunity.\\nTrying new things can be intimidating, but it’s important to push yourself outside of your comfort zone.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Work on your weaknesses.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"What’s something you’re not super great at?\", \"描述\": \"Maybe you get nervous about public speaking or you aren’t the best driver. Make it a goal to better yourself and turn your weaknesses into strengths instead of hindrances.\\nFor example, if you’re nervous about public speaking, you could take a public speaking class to practice.\\nIf you aren’t the best cook, buy a few cookbooks and look up tutorials online for some basic recipes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Keep a journal.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Track your progress as you grow.\", \"描述\": \"Set aside 10 to 15 minutes every day to jot down how you’re feeling, what you did that day, and what you’re excited about. It’s okay if you skip a day or two here or there—try to keep the habit up as much as you can.\\nAfter a couple of months, look back and read some old entries that you made. You might be surprised at how far you’ve come.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Learn from your mistakes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You’re going to fail every now and then, and that’s okay.\", \"描述\": \"If you mess up or stumble, take a moment to think about what you learned. In the future, you can use your lesson to avoid the same mistakes and stay on the right path.\\nFor example, maybe you applied for a promotion in your workplace and you didn’t get it. You might have learned that you need more on-the-job experience before applying to a management position.\\nOr, maybe you went back to school and failed one of your classes. Now you know how to manage your time better and that you need to dedicate more time to studying.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Take constructive criticism.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Well-meaning criticism can help you improve your life.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to get defensive or be offended when you hear something negative about yourself—however, try to use it as a learning opportunity. If someone means well and they’re trying to help you, consider taking what they said as an opportunity to learn and grow.\\nFor example, your boss might tell you that your presentation lacked conviction. You can use that criticism to make your next one more personal and convincing.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Keep a positive attitude.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being an optimist means looking at the bright side of things.\", \"描述\": \"If you keep a positive attitude, you can reduce your stress and improve your outlook on life. If you catch yourself thinking something negative, challenge it with a positive thought.\\nFor example, if you catch yourself thinking, “I’ve never done this before,” replace it with, “This is a good opportunity to learn.”\\nOr, if you catch yourself thinking, “There’s no way this will work,” try thinking, “I can try to make this work.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with positive people.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find friends and family members who will support your journey.\", \"描述\": \"If you admire them and think they’re good role models, they’re probably good people. If you find yourself getting down or thinking negatively after spending time with someone, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship.\\nYou might also consider why you admire certain people. What qualities do they possess that you would like to have? You can try to incorporate them into your daily life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Treat your friends with kindness.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Our relationships can define who we are.\", \"描述\": \"Just like you’d want your friends to be kind to you, you should aim to be loving and supportive toward them. Be a shoulder to lean on, push them to achieve their goals, and lift them up in times of stress.\\nThink about someone in your life who’s been there for you. Try to emulate them when you talk to your loved ones.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Being the best you can be takes time. Try not to get discouraged if you have a few setbacks every now and then.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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1. Establishing Good Habits 1-1. Prioritize. Ask yourself what is most important to you in life. Consider which values, activities, and people matter to you the most. Commit to spending your time and energy on your biggest priorities, and avoid wasting time on things that don't really matter to you. To determine your priorities, think about which aspects of your life you could live without, and which are essential to your happiness. For instance, you might realize that watching TV isn't a priority for you, but spending more time with your family is. 1-2. Identify harmful habits. As humans, it is normal for us to be imperfect and to have poor habits. In order to be the best version of ourselves, we need to identify any bad habits that we do have, and eliminate them. There are some bad habits that are more obvious than others, such as smoking or drinking. However, there are other bad habits that are not so obvious. For example, you might lead an inactive lifestyle, where you sit all day and do not exercise often. You may have irregular sleeping patterns that affect your mood and health, or you may engage in negative self-talk that lowers your self-esteem. Once you are able to identify your bad habits, visualize how you want to be, and set goals to help you get there. For example, perhaps you want to lose weight. Instead of sitting on the couch all day watching television you could go for a daily walk in the park. If you feel sluggish and fatigued all of the time, you can create a sleep schedule that states when you go to bed and when you wake up. 1-3. Practice healthy habits. Taking care of your physical and mental health is a key component of self-development. Stay physically healthy by eating a varied, nutritious diet, getting some exercise every day, and sleeping eight hours every night. To maintain good mental health, meditate regularly and learn to manage your stress in a positive way. A few good ways to manage stress include setting healthy boundaries, doing deep breathing exercises, and writing in a journal. Good habits develop over time with repetition and self-determination. You will need to be consistent and persistent in your attempts, especially if you are trying to replace a bad habit with a good one. 1-4. Set goals. Think about what you want to achieve, both in your personal life and at work or school. Then find ways to make it happen. As you achieve your goals, set new ones to work towards. Set goals that are SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-bound. For instance, instead of setting a vague goal like “write a novel,” you could set a goal to write a 60,000-word rough draft in two months. 1-5. Avoid procrastination. Get important tasks done right away instead of leaving them until the last minute. Limit your access to time-wasting activities until you've checked everything off your to-do list for the day. For instance, if you're tempted to play video games in your room, do your homework at the library instead. If you have an ongoing problem with procrastination, you may find it helpful to ask yourself what you're really trying to avoid, and why. 1-6. Gain other perspectives. Whether you have bad behavioral habits (such as spending too much money) or mental habits (like insecurity or low self-esteem), try reaching out to others to gain a different perspective on the situation. Tell them how you feel and how you would like to improve yourself. Choose someone you trust who has good qualities that you admire and respect. Make sure that this person will validate your need for change. They should give you valuable advice and not just tell you to “get over it.” 1-7. Treat other people well. Be courteous and polite when you interact with others. Lend a hand if someone around you needs help. Avoid putting other people down or gossiping. For instance, if you have a new co-worker, show them around and make them feel welcome. Use good manners all the time, even when you're stressed or feeling down. 2. Overcoming Setbacks 2-1. Keep a positive mindset. Instead of letting a failure get you down for weeks, think about what you learned from it. Remind yourself that no one is successful all the time, and setbacks are a necessary part of making progress in life. Maintain a positive mindset by developing a list of affirmations to repeat whenever you start to doubt yourself. These might include sayings like "I can do anything I put my mind to" or "Everyone was once a beginner." 2-2. Forgive yourself and others. Wallowing in negative emotions will only make it harder for you to move past a setback. Even if a setback was completely your fault, don't dwell on it or beat yourself up. Instead, make a plan for how you'll do better next time. Then move on. For instance, if you failed a difficult college class, you might resolve to improve your study habits and then re-take the class. Another method for self-forgiveness is talking about it. Many times when you feel guilty about something, you keep the misdeed to yourself, where it only grows larger and more negative in your head. Tell someone you trust what you did and be willing to receive their support. 2-3. Take small steps forward. The best way to get over a setback is to start making progress again. Think of some small, actionable steps you can take to get back on track. Then put them into practice. For instance, if you lost your job, you could start moving forward again by making a list of other jobs you want to apply for. 3. Growing as a Person 3-1. Take full responsibility for your life. Own your personality and your choices. If you make a mistake, admit it right away and do your best to fix it. Avoid blaming your misfortunes on other people. While you can't always control what happens to you, you can control how you react. 3-2. Become open-minded. You cannot expect yourself to improve or make drastic changes if you constantly stay within your comfort zone. You may be close-minded if you refuse to consider new ideas, have ritualized thinking, remain stuck in habitual patterns, or have fear and low expectations. Try to become more open-minded. Take the time to self-reflect and expand your awareness. Release judgmental thoughts, prejudices, and stereotyping of others. Become tolerant of others. Learn from them, and try to see their perspective as if you were in their shoes or were looking through their eyes. 3-3. Stay true to yourself. As the ancient Greeks said, “Know thyself.” Focus on the values and goals that are most important to you, and use them to guide your decisions. Don't let other people pressure you into going against your principles or giving up on your hopes for the future. For example, if you encounter a situation in which you feel disconnected from your own values, pause. Ask yourself, "Am I doing this for me or for them? Does this align with my values?" Go through this process each time to make sure you're being true to yourself. 3-4. Learn. Self-actualized people are lifelong learners. Get into the habit of educating yourself about world events and topics you're interested in. Books, radio programs, newspapers, and documentaries are all good tools for incorporating learning into your daily routine. Try listening to audiobooks during your commute, or watch a documentary instead of a TV show to unwind after work. 3-5. Try new things. To keep growing as a person, it's important to have new experiences. Get outside your comfort zone on a regular basis by doing things you've never done before, whether that means trying a new-to-you food, listening to a genre of music you're unfamiliar with, or traveling to a different part of the world. 3-6. Help other people. As you work on reaching your full potential, help others reach theirs, too. Consider volunteering for a good cause, mentoring a younger person, or just reaching out to a friend who needs a hand. Selfless acts of charity and kindness can help you step away from your own self-absorption and see the world from a different perspective. Plus, when you help those who are less fortunate than you, you add a deposit into your personal "I feel good about me" account.
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However, there are other bad habits that are not so obvious.\\nFor example, you might lead an inactive lifestyle, where you sit all day and do not exercise often. You may have irregular sleeping patterns that affect your mood and health, or you may engage in negative self-talk that lowers your self-esteem.\\nOnce you are able to identify your bad habits, visualize how you want to be, and set goals to help you get there. For example, perhaps you want to lose weight. Instead of sitting on the couch all day watching television you could go for a daily walk in the park. If you feel sluggish and fatigued all of the time, you can create a sleep schedule that states when you go to bed and when you wake up.\\n1-3. Practice healthy habits.\\nTaking care of your physical and mental health is a key component of self-development. Stay physically healthy by eating a varied, nutritious diet, getting some exercise every day, and sleeping eight hours every night. To maintain good mental health, meditate regularly and learn to manage your stress in a positive way.\\nA few good ways to manage stress include setting healthy boundaries, doing deep breathing exercises, and writing in a journal.\\nGood habits develop over time with repetition and self-determination. You will need to be consistent and persistent in your attempts, especially if you are trying to replace a bad habit with a good one.\\n1-4. Set goals.\\nThink about what you want to achieve, both in your personal life and at work or school. Then find ways to make it happen. As you achieve your goals, set new ones to work towards.\\nSet goals that are SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-bound.\\nFor instance, instead of setting a vague goal like “write a novel,” you could set a goal to write a 60,000-word rough draft in two months.\\n1-5. Avoid procrastination.\\nGet important tasks done right away instead of leaving them until the last minute. Limit your access to time-wasting activities until you've checked everything off your to-do list for the day.\\nFor instance, if you're tempted to play video games in your room, do your homework at the library instead.\\nIf you have an ongoing problem with procrastination, you may find it helpful to ask yourself what you're really trying to avoid, and why.\\n1-6. Gain other perspectives.\\nWhether you have bad behavioral habits (such as spending too much money) or mental habits (like insecurity or low self-esteem), try reaching out to others to gain a different perspective on the situation. Tell them how you feel and how you would like to improve yourself.\\nChoose someone you trust who has good qualities that you admire and respect. Make sure that this person will validate your need for change. They should give you valuable advice and not just tell you to “get over it.”\\n1-7. Treat other people well.\\nBe courteous and polite when you interact with others. Lend a hand if someone around you needs help. Avoid putting other people down or gossiping.\\nFor instance, if you have a new co-worker, show them around and make them feel welcome.\\nUse good manners all the time, even when you're stressed or feeling down.\\n2. Overcoming Setbacks\\n2-1. Keep a positive mindset.\\nInstead of letting a failure get you down for weeks, think about what you learned from it. Remind yourself that no one is successful all the time, and setbacks are a necessary part of making progress in life.\\nMaintain a positive mindset by developing a list of affirmations to repeat whenever you start to doubt yourself. These might include sayings like \\\"I can do anything I put my mind to\\\" or \\\"Everyone was once a beginner.\\\"\\n2-2. Forgive yourself and others.\\nWallowing in negative emotions will only make it harder for you to move past a setback. Even if a setback was completely your fault, don't dwell on it or beat yourself up. 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Get outside your comfort zone on a regular basis by doing things you've never done before, whether that means trying a new-to-you food, listening to a genre of music you're unfamiliar with, or traveling to a different part of the world.\\n3-6. Help other people.\\nAs you work on reaching your full potential, help others reach theirs, too. Consider volunteering for a good cause, mentoring a younger person, or just reaching out to a friend who needs a hand.\\nSelfless acts of charity and kindness can help you step away from your own self-absorption and see the world from a different perspective. Plus, when you help those who are less fortunate than you, you add a deposit into your personal \\\"I feel good about me\\\" account.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you living up to your full potential? Everyone is born with unique gifts and strengths, and when you make the most of your abilities, you'll improve your relationships, do better at work, and feel more fulfilled in your day-to-day life. 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These might include sayings like \\\"I can do anything I put my mind to\\\" or \\\"Everyone was once a beginner.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Forgive yourself and others.\", \"描述\": \"Wallowing in negative emotions will only make it harder for you to move past a setback. Even if a setback was completely your fault, don't dwell on it or beat yourself up. Instead, make a plan for how you'll do better next time. Then move on.\\nFor instance, if you failed a difficult college class, you might resolve to improve your study habits and then re-take the class.\\nAnother method for self-forgiveness is talking about it. Many times when you feel guilty about something, you keep the misdeed to yourself, where it only grows larger and more negative in your head. Tell someone you trust what you did and be willing to receive their support.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take small steps forward.\", \"描述\": \"The best way to get over a setback is to start making progress again. Think of some small, actionable steps you can take to get back on track. Then put them into practice.\\nFor instance, if you lost your job, you could start moving forward again by making a list of other jobs you want to apply for.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Growing as a Person\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take full responsibility for your life.\", \"描述\": \"Own your personality and your choices. If you make a mistake, admit it right away and do your best to fix it. Avoid blaming your misfortunes on other people.\\nWhile you can't always control what happens to you, you can control how you react.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Become open-minded.\", \"描述\": \"You cannot expect yourself to improve or make drastic changes if you constantly stay within your comfort zone. You may be close-minded if you refuse to consider new ideas, have ritualized thinking, remain stuck in habitual patterns, or have fear and low expectations. Try to become more open-minded.\\nTake the time to self-reflect and expand your awareness. Release judgmental thoughts, prejudices, and stereotyping of others.\\nBecome tolerant of others. Learn from them, and try to see their perspective as if you were in their shoes or were looking through their eyes.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stay true to yourself.\", \"描述\": \"As the ancient Greeks said, “Know thyself.” Focus on the values and goals that are most important to you, and use them to guide your decisions. Don't let other people pressure you into going against your principles or giving up on your hopes for the future.\\nFor example, if you encounter a situation in which you feel disconnected from your own values, pause. Ask yourself, \\\"Am I doing this for me or for them? Does this align with my values?\\\" Go through this process each time to make sure you're being true to yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn.\", \"描述\": \"Self-actualized people are lifelong learners. Get into the habit of educating yourself about world events and topics you're interested in. Books, radio programs, newspapers, and documentaries are all good tools for incorporating learning into your daily routine.\\nTry listening to audiobooks during your commute, or watch a documentary instead of a TV show to unwind after work.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try new things.\", \"描述\": \"To keep growing as a person, it's important to have new experiences. Get outside your comfort zone on a regular basis by doing things you've never done before, whether that means trying a new-to-you food, listening to a genre of music you're unfamiliar with, or traveling to a different part of the world.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Help other people.\", \"描述\": \"As you work on reaching your full potential, help others reach theirs, too. Consider volunteering for a good cause, mentoring a younger person, or just reaching out to a friend who needs a hand.\\nSelfless acts of charity and kindness can help you step away from your own self-absorption and see the world from a different perspective. Plus, when you help those who are less fortunate than you, you add a deposit into your personal \\\"I feel good about me\\\" account.\"}]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Bigger Person
1. Address how the argument is going to affect the both of you later on. Make sure to include key points such as stress, anger, and irritability. 2. Breathe deeply and count to a certain number in your head. Breathing and counting help you avoid retaliating in anger. 3. Understand why people argue. People argue because they don't want to feel defeated by their "opponent." If you realize that, the opponent's feeling of victory or success in each argument will fade as you continue to act like you don't care, you'll be less hesitant to stop the argument. 4. Ignore the person and walk away. Exiting the conversation is a good option if all else fails. Tips Being the bigger person is knowing when to stop and walk away. The trigger lies in knowing what is worth arguing for. Let the silence fight some of your unworthy battles. Smile at the person after arguing so that they feel like their efforts really couldn't make a dent in you. Even when you are addressing the person or just turning around, don't show a negative attitude, because then, they would know that their harassment really does affect you. Warnings Your efforts may make the situation worse because the person might dislike you even more because of your strength. If so, apologize (no matter how much you don't want to) and start from a clean slate.
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How to Be the Coolest Girl at a House Party
1. Standing Out in the Crowd 1-1. Ask if the host needs anything. Ask if you can bring anything to the party, and then bring it. If you become consistently known for bringing cool things to parties, people will be excited when they know you’re attending. If the party involves food, consider making something delicious that will become your signature dish that people want you to bring every time you attend a party. Sometimes, you might want to stand out by getting a certain person to notice you. If you want to get on the host's good side, then asking how to help out will probably make you their favorite guest super quickly. 1-2. Stand in the center of the room. Upon your arrival to the party, grab a few friends and make your way to the center of the room. Standing in the center of the room will make it look like you’re the center of attention, and it will draw people to you. If you arrive alone and don’t know anyone, move towards the center of the room and see if you can start a conversation with anyone, or join any existing conversations. Also make sure to hold your head up high, maintain good posture, and look confident. People who come across as fun and sure of themselves attract a ton of people at parties. 1-3. Know how to join a conversation. Joining an ongoing conversation between a group of people at a party can be a bit daunting. There are a few different ways in which you can do this: Walk up to a group, listen in for a minute or two, and then contribute if/when it makes sense to do so. Only contribute if you have something interesting to say. If you know nothing about the topic, you can ask a question instead. Introduce yourself to the group. If you do this while people are talking about something else, make it quick and then return the focus to the conversation they were having: “Hi I’m just wandering around introducing myself to people. I’m Jane. Please go on with the conversation!” If you're feeling extra brave, offer a new perspective to immediately steal the show. For example, you can say, "What you said about rom-coms is so interesting! I actually believe a lot of them can be pretty thought-provoking." Talk to one person in the group first. If you notice someone standing on the sidelines of a large group and not really engaging in conversation, introduce yourself to them and talk to them for a while before turning your attention to the group. 1-4. Know when you’re welcome. At a party it’s important to read people, particularly when you're trying to join conversations. If you try to join a group conversation, it’s possible that the group won’t be receptive to you. An unreceptive group may politely say hello and then return to their conversation without making space for you. If they do this, just move on to another group or person. Remember that it might not be personal. They could be having a somewhat private conversation that they don’t feel comfortable sharing with new people. Another thing that could happen is that the group receives you but doesn’t actively include you in the conversation. In this case they’ll likely make space for you and look at you and smile now and then. In this case, you need to make an effort to contribute. 1-5. Dress to stand out from the crowd. If you want people to notice you, dress to get noticed. This could mean showing off your shoulders at a holiday party, where most people are wearing sweaters, or wearing a brightly colored dress in a room full of little black dresses (LBDs). Dress to stand out, but don’t dress outside of your comfort zone. Exploring different styles is okay, but most of all it’s important to stay true to who you are. 1-6. Smile At a party you of course want to seem friendly and approachable, but smiling all the time may make you look insincere. Instead, keep a smaller smile on your face and reserve your big smiles for greetings. Smiling big when you say hi to people will make them feel special, like they’re the reason you’re smiling. 1-7. Be a bit touchy-feely. Casually touching someone’s arm while talking to them can make them feel good, leading them to like you more. Seeing you touch that person may make others want your attention more, too. If you’re not a touchy-feely person, you might skip this step. It’s important to stay true to who you are. That said, you may want to try it out even if it does feel weird at first, just to see if it’s something you’re comfortable with. Pay attention to who you touch. Some people do not like being touched by other people. If someone seems uncomfortable when you touch them, don’t do it again. 1-8. Pay attention to your posture. Good standing posture means having a straight back, squared shoulders, your chest out, your stomach in, your feet forward, and your hips and knees in a neutral position. A good posture shows confidence. Just be sure that you’re not overdoing it, otherwise you may look overly stiff or snobby, especially if your chin is raised too high, with your nose up in the air. If you’re sitting in a chair, if possible, move one of your elbows so that it rests atop the back of the chair. This will cause you to lean back a bit and make you look more confident. A standing version of this is to lean on a counter with one arm. 1-9. Have open, positive body language. Avoid shielding yourself by crossing your arms or holding your drink in front of you. If you’re holding a drink, holding it off to the side will show of your wrists and midsection, making you look open and confident. When you're talking to people, use positive, non-judgemental body language: smile; keep your chin down so that it doesn’t look like you’re turning your nose up at them; stand at a slight angle (a full frontal posture might feel dominating or insulting to some people); keep your palms up; and elevate your eyebrows while you talk. Avoid negative body language such as slouching, crossing your arms across your chest, furrowing your brow, or tightening your lips. Playing with your hair too much will make you look nervous, and make others nervous, too. 1-10. Circulate. Don’t get stuck in one place for too long. Unless you’re deep in conversation, aim to change where you’re standing every 10 to 15 minutes. This will open you up to meeting new people and will also give any admirers the opportunity to view you from different angles. 2. Being Likeable 2-1. Don’t be a flake. Don’t leave it to the last minute to confirm unless you have a real reason to do that. Leaving the host hanging for a response is inconsiderate, and if they’re planning on food or party favors, it could end up with you missing out. 2-2. Make people feel at ease. Having a healthy, friendly posture and a small, warm smile on your face are good ways to make people feel at ease. When you seem to be at ease yourself, this will make it easier for people to be comfortable around you. Other things you can do: Encourage people to talk about themselves by asking questions and actively listening. Receive what they say respectfully and without judgement, even if you disagree. Acknowledge any similarities between the two of you, as this will build a common rapport. Just be careful that you’re not one-upping them — for example, if you both had the same test at school, agree that it was hard, but don’t brag about the A+ you got. If you want to talk to your crush or maybe someone new, make them feel at ease by saying you’re just on your way out but you wanted to say hi. If they know you’ll be leaving soon, they won’t feel nervous about talking to you for too long, and will be more likely to engage in conversation with you. 2-3. Be consistent. If people know that you are consistently fun and pleasant to be around, they’re more likely to approach you at a party. Your close friends are around enough to see all sides of you, but strangers won’t know you’re having an off day, so it’s important to be on at a party. Have you ever stopped going to a restaurant because of the inconsistent quality of their food? When it’s good, it’s wonderful, but when it’s bad, it’s bad, and since it’s not consistent, it’s no longer worth the risk of going there. It’s the same with people and personalities. The more often people see you and become familiar with you, the more warmly they'll feel about you and even work up the courage to approach you. If you build a good reputation for yourself and start to become a "regular," people will start to get excited at the idea of running into you. So, keep going to house parties and eventually, you'll probably build a little fan base. 2-4. Be an active listener. When people are talking, don’t interrupt. As you listen to what they say, nod and make short comments (e.g., “yes” or “go on”) that show you’re listening. When they’re done, repeat the gist of what they said and ask follow-up questions. When others are speaking, resist the urge to think about what you’re going to say next. Try to stay focused on what the person in front of you is saying instead. 2-5. Ask for thoughts and opinions. A great way to build a bond with someone is to ask for their thoughts and opinions, and then listen non-judgementally to what they have to say. Ask follow-up questions. If someone says something you don’t agree with, try not to get insulted or argue right away. Instead, tell them you never thought of it that way, and ask them to explain further. If the person expresses an opinion that offends you, consider whether you need to let them know that. For the most part, if someone is bigoted, it will be difficult to change their mind and probably not worth your time. Just politely excuse yourself and move on. 2-6. Ask for advice. Appealing to another person’s expertise is a way to show your respect for them and to gain their confidence. If you know someone is experienced with something you’re interested in, ask them for advice on things. Just make sure that your questions are sincere. You don’t want to seem like you’re asking just to make conversation. Maybe don’t ask a doctor about an illness you have if you meet one at a party. They’re not there to work. You can, however, ask them what they do with difficult patients or about how difficult med school might have been, particularly if you want advice on scheduling your own time. 2-7. Drop the ego. Put your own thoughts and needs aside when you’re listening to others. Resist the urge to correct them if you think they’re wrong, and definitely don’t one-up them with your own story. It will just feel like you’re trying to compete with them, and this will look worse on you than it does on them, even if they’re wrong. 2-8. Offer sincere compliments. Maybe you like a dress someone is wearing, or you love their hair cut. Tell them! Just make sure that you’re honest about what you compliment them on.If you're the first one to break the ice, people will see you as bold and fun. If you compliment them right off the bat, then you'll definitely win them over. 2-9. Be the best version of yourself. If you’re usually awkward in social situations, it may feel like you have to act like someone else in order to have fun at a party. Try not to think of it as acting as someone else; instead, think of it as acting as the best version of yourself. It can feel a bit uncomfortable to practise new skills. You might even feel like you’re faking it, but this is where the saying “fake it till you make it” rings true. With time those skills will become second nature, and you’ll be happy you took the time to practise them. 3. Being Interesting 3-1. Be positive. If you’re always miserable, chances are, people won’t want to talk to you. Try to be positive and friendly, especially when you’re talking to people you don’t know very well. Avoid complaining too much or gossiping negatively about anyone. Your listeners are more likely to associate the things you’re complaining about with you than with who/what you’re complaining about. 3-2. Ask questions. This is related to being a good listener. You can be the center of attention without talking everyone’s ears off. Listen to people. Ask questions about what they say. Encouraging people to talk about themselves will make them feel special and they will likely remember the conversation as being an interesting one. If you’re stuck for conversation, try asking someone about what sort of hobbies they have or what they’ve recently been up to. If you know anything about the subject they’re talking about, share your experience without interrupting and without trying to one-up the person. If you don’t know anything about what they’re talking about, ask questions. 3-3. Have a few good stories. Choose a few stories that you know entertain people, and rehearse them to ensure that you don’t bore your audience while you try to remember details or go off on tangents. Some experts recommend having three good stories. Just make sure that you switch them up every now and then so that people don’t catch you telling the same ones over and over again. Tailor your stories to the party. The stories you tell at a career-oriented party will likely be different from the ones you tell at a party full of your close friends. Stories about people are recommended. 3-4. Be concise and straightforward. Whenever you’re talking, keep in mind that people have shorter attention spans than ever before. For this reason, try to keep your comments and stories short and to the point. If no one is asking questions about what you’re saying, you might be boring them. If you’re generally a bit of a rambler, and you realize you’re doing it at a party, stop and check in with your audience to make sure they’re still following you. If your listener begins to look restless or bored (checking their watch or phone, or looking around the room), stop yourself and apologize for being too chatty, and ask them something about themselves. 3-5. Be a charismatic speaker. Studies have shown that body language, emotion and voice count for far more than the words you say. For this reason it’s important to hone your public speaking skills and body language. When you speak, be passionate. This doesn’t mean shouting or speaking loudly. It means, emphasizing your words with gestures and by changing the tone of your voice. 3-6. Gather interesting life experiences. To be interesting, do interesting things. Follow your passions, take up a hobby, involve yourself with people who excite and inspire you. It makes it a lot easier to make a lot of friends quickly if you chat about your hobbies. Plus, once you all find out that you love the same activities, you can make time to meet up at a group later. People will love that you brought everyone together. 4. Looking Your Best 4-1. Have good hygiene Bathe, wash your hair, brush your teeth, clip and file your nails, and wear deodorant. Unless you struggle with a medical condition, having good hygiene will keep you smelling nice. Some medical conditions can cause people to smell bad even when they have good hygiene. If you think you might suffer from such a condition, see your doctor. You might consider using a whitening toothpaste while brushing your teeth. People with straight, white teeth are often thought to be more attractive than those without. 4-2. Maintain a healthy diet. When you drink enough water and eat healthy, unprocessed foods, it shows in your appearance. Unless you have underlying health conditions, a healthy diet should keep your skin, hair, and body looking good. Note that there are a range of healthy body types. Having a healthy diet won’t necessarily make you thin if you are naturally a bit larger, but it will keep you feeling healthy and energized, and able to do things to keep your body as lean and toned as possible. It may be tempting to stop eating or purge in order to lose weight, but please be kind to yourself and resist doing these things. They are not only extremely dangerous for your body; they are also emotionally stressful. If you think you may have an eating disorder, there are many resources available for you to get help. Look online or consult your doctor to learn more about resources in your area. 4-3. Style your hair. Find a style for your hair that complements your face and your outfit. If you’re wearing casual clothes, keep your hair more casual; if you’re going more formal, a more formal hair style will be nice. Ultimately how you style your hair depends on your own tastes. Sporting a new style is a great way to get noticed at a party, especially if it’s very different from what you’d normally do with your hair. 4-4. Do your makeup. It’s not necessary to wear makeup to look good, but it can be fun to add a little boost to your natural look. If you want to keep it low-key, try just giving your skin a creamy glow and topping it with some mascara and a nude lip color. If you want to go more dramatic — for example, with a smokey eye or vibrant red lipstick — make sure that you makeup matches your outfit. You probably don’t want to look like Morticia Addams in blue jeans and a white T-shirt (although that could be funny). 4-5. Have smooth, healthy-looking lips A study has found that women’s lips are the most attractive part of their body, particularly when they’re painted red. 4-6. Dress in clothes Which clothes look best on you will depend on your body type — for example, if you’re smaller on top and larger on the bottom (a “pear-shaped body”), wearing tops that accentuate your shoulders will help your body look more balanced. 4-7. Accessorize Accessorizing is a great way to add interest to your outfit, particularly if you can’t afford to buy new clothes all the time. It can also help you look more polished. As an example, you can spice up a little black dress with colorful earrings and a bracelet, and maybe draw those colors out by wearing shoes that match. Tips More important than people liking you is you liking yourself, so never do anything that compromises your beliefs about what is right and wrong. All of the things in this article will help make you someone that people enjoy being around at a party. If you’re worried about being the coolest girl at a house party, though, chances are you never will be. Focus on having fun, and stop comparing yourself to others. Warnings Do not accept drinks from people you don’t know, and do not leave your drinks unattended. This goes for any drink — whether it’s alcohol or even just a glass of water. People may put drugs in your drink which could cause you harm, so it’s important to always keep an eye on your drink. If you’re of a drinking age, be careful that you don’t overindulge. Getting wasted and misbehaving are not going to make you look cool to others. If you use a whitening toothpaste to whiten your teeth, be aware that it can damage your enamel. If you’re unsure of whether a whitening toothpaste is right for you, ask your dentist.[44] X Trustworthy Source Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals Go to source
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If you do this while people are talking about something else, make it quick and then return the focus to the conversation they were having: “Hi I’m just wandering around introducing myself to people. I’m Jane. Please go on with the conversation!”\\nIf you're feeling extra brave, offer a new perspective to immediately steal the show. For example, you can say, \\\"What you said about rom-coms is so interesting! I actually believe a lot of them can be pretty thought-provoking.\\\"\\nTalk to one person in the group first. If you notice someone standing on the sidelines of a large group and not really engaging in conversation, introduce yourself to them and talk to them for a while before turning your attention to the group.\\n1-4. Know when you’re welcome.\\nAt a party it’s important to read people, particularly when you're trying to join conversations. If you try to join a group conversation, it’s possible that the group won’t be receptive to you.\\nAn unreceptive group may politely say hello and then return to their conversation without making space for you. If they do this, just move on to another group or person. Remember that it might not be personal. They could be having a somewhat private conversation that they don’t feel comfortable sharing with new people.\\nAnother thing that could happen is that the group receives you but doesn’t actively include you in the conversation. In this case they’ll likely make space for you and look at you and smile now and then. In this case, you need to make an effort to contribute.\\n1-5. Dress to stand out from the crowd.\\nIf you want people to notice you, dress to get noticed. This could mean showing off your shoulders at a holiday party, where most people are wearing sweaters, or wearing a brightly colored dress in a room full of little black dresses (LBDs).\\nDress to stand out, but don’t dress outside of your comfort zone. Exploring different styles is okay, but most of all it’s important to stay true to who you are.\\n1-6. Smile\\nAt a party you of course want to seem friendly and approachable, but smiling all the time may make you look insincere. Instead, keep a smaller smile on your face and reserve your big smiles for greetings.\\nSmiling big when you say hi to people will make them feel special, like they’re the reason you’re smiling.\\n1-7. Be a bit touchy-feely.\\nCasually touching someone’s arm while talking to them can make them feel good, leading them to like you more. Seeing you touch that person may make others want your attention more, too.\\nIf you’re not a touchy-feely person, you might skip this step. It’s important to stay true to who you are. That said, you may want to try it out even if it does feel weird at first, just to see if it’s something you’re comfortable with.\\nPay attention to who you touch. Some people do not like being touched by other people. If someone seems uncomfortable when you touch them, don’t do it again.\\n1-8. Pay attention to your posture.\\nGood standing posture means having a straight back, squared shoulders, your chest out, your stomach in, your feet forward, and your hips and knees in a neutral position.\\nA good posture shows confidence. Just be sure that you’re not overdoing it, otherwise you may look overly stiff or snobby, especially if your chin is raised too high, with your nose up in the air.\\nIf you’re sitting in a chair, if possible, move one of your elbows so that it rests atop the back of the chair. This will cause you to lean back a bit and make you look more confident. A standing version of this is to lean on a counter with one arm.\\n1-9. Have open, positive body language.\\nAvoid shielding yourself by crossing your arms or holding your drink in front of you. If you’re holding a drink, holding it off to the side will show of your wrists and midsection, making you look open and confident.\\nWhen you're talking to people, use positive, non-judgemental body language: smile; keep your chin down so that it doesn’t look like you’re turning your nose up at them; stand at a slight angle (a full frontal posture might feel dominating or insulting to some people); keep your palms up; and elevate your eyebrows while you talk.\\nAvoid negative body language such as slouching, crossing your arms across your chest, furrowing your brow, or tightening your lips. Playing with your hair too much will make you look nervous, and make others nervous, too.\\n1-10. Circulate.\\nDon’t get stuck in one place for too long. Unless you’re deep in conversation, aim to change where you’re standing every 10 to 15 minutes.\\nThis will open you up to meeting new people and will also give any admirers the opportunity to view you from different angles.\\n2. Being Likeable\\n2-1. Don’t be a flake.\\nDon’t leave it to the last minute to confirm unless you have a real reason to do that. Leaving the host hanging for a response is inconsiderate, and if they’re planning on food or party favors, it could end up with you missing out.\\n2-2. Make people feel at ease.\\nHaving a healthy, friendly posture and a small, warm smile on your face are good ways to make people feel at ease. When you seem to be at ease yourself, this will make it easier for people to be comfortable around you. Other things you can do:\\nEncourage people to talk about themselves by asking questions and actively listening. Receive what they say respectfully and without judgement, even if you disagree.\\nAcknowledge any similarities between the two of you, as this will build a common rapport. Just be careful that you’re not one-upping them — for example, if you both had the same test at school, agree that it was hard, but don’t brag about the A+ you got.\\nIf you want to talk to your crush or maybe someone new, make them feel at ease by saying you’re just on your way out but you wanted to say hi. If they know you’ll be leaving soon, they won’t feel nervous about talking to you for too long, and will be more likely to engage in conversation with you.\\n2-3. Be consistent.\\nIf people know that you are consistently fun and pleasant to be around, they’re more likely to approach you at a party. Your close friends are around enough to see all sides of you, but strangers won’t know you’re having an off day, so it’s important to be on at a party.\\nHave you ever stopped going to a restaurant because of the inconsistent quality of their food? When it’s good, it’s wonderful, but when it’s bad, it’s bad, and since it’s not consistent, it’s no longer worth the risk of going there. It’s the same with people and personalities.\\nThe more often people see you and become familiar with you, the more warmly they'll feel about you and even work up the courage to approach you.\\nIf you build a good reputation for yourself and start to become a \\\"regular,\\\" people will start to get excited at the idea of running into you. So, keep going to house parties and eventually, you'll probably build a little fan base.\\n2-4. Be an active listener.\\nWhen people are talking, don’t interrupt. As you listen to what they say, nod and make short comments (e.g., “yes” or “go on”) that show you’re listening. When they’re done, repeat the gist of what they said and ask follow-up questions.\\nWhen others are speaking, resist the urge to think about what you’re going to say next. Try to stay focused on what the person in front of you is saying instead.\\n2-5. Ask for thoughts and opinions.\\nA great way to build a bond with someone is to ask for their thoughts and opinions, and then listen non-judgementally to what they have to say. Ask follow-up questions.\\nIf someone says something you don’t agree with, try not to get insulted or argue right away. Instead, tell them you never thought of it that way, and ask them to explain further.\\nIf the person expresses an opinion that offends you, consider whether you need to let them know that. For the most part, if someone is bigoted, it will be difficult to change their mind and probably not worth your time. Just politely excuse yourself and move on.\\n2-6. Ask for advice.\\nAppealing to another person’s expertise is a way to show your respect for them and to gain their confidence. If you know someone is experienced with something you’re interested in, ask them for advice on things.\\nJust make sure that your questions are sincere. You don’t want to seem like you’re asking just to make conversation.\\nMaybe don’t ask a doctor about an illness you have if you meet one at a party. They’re not there to work. You can, however, ask them what they do with difficult patients or about how difficult med school might have been, particularly if you want advice on scheduling your own time.\\n2-7. Drop the ego.\\nPut your own thoughts and needs aside when you’re listening to others. Resist the urge to correct them if you think they’re wrong, and definitely don’t one-up them with your own story. It will just feel like you’re trying to compete with them, and this will look worse on you than it does on them, even if they’re wrong.\\n2-8. Offer sincere compliments.\\nMaybe you like a dress someone is wearing, or you love their hair cut. Tell them! Just make sure that you’re honest about what you compliment them on.If you're the first one to break the ice, people will see you as bold and fun. If you compliment them right off the bat, then you'll definitely win them over.\\n2-9. Be the best version of yourself.\\nIf you’re usually awkward in social situations, it may feel like you have to act like someone else in order to have fun at a party. Try not to think of it as acting as someone else; instead, think of it as acting as the best version of yourself.\\nIt can feel a bit uncomfortable to practise new skills. You might even feel like you’re faking it, but this is where the saying “fake it till you make it” rings true. With time those skills will become second nature, and you’ll be happy you took the time to practise them.\\n3. Being Interesting\\n3-1. Be positive.\\nIf you’re always miserable, chances are, people won’t want to talk to you. Try to be positive and friendly, especially when you’re talking to people you don’t know very well.\\nAvoid complaining too much or gossiping negatively about anyone. Your listeners are more likely to associate the things you’re complaining about with you than with who/what you’re complaining about.\\n3-2. Ask questions.\\nThis is related to being a good listener. You can be the center of attention without talking everyone’s ears off. Listen to people. Ask questions about what they say.\\nEncouraging people to talk about themselves will make them feel special and they will likely remember the conversation as being an interesting one.\\nIf you’re stuck for conversation, try asking someone about what sort of hobbies they have or what they’ve recently been up to.\\nIf you know anything about the subject they’re talking about, share your experience without interrupting and without trying to one-up the person. If you don’t know anything about what they’re talking about, ask questions.\\n3-3. Have a few good stories.\\nChoose a few stories that you know entertain people, and rehearse them to ensure that you don’t bore your audience while you try to remember details or go off on tangents.\\nSome experts recommend having three good stories. Just make sure that you switch them up every now and then so that people don’t catch you telling the same ones over and over again.\\nTailor your stories to the party. The stories you tell at a career-oriented party will likely be different from the ones you tell at a party full of your close friends. Stories about people are recommended.\\n3-4. Be concise and straightforward.\\nWhenever you’re talking, keep in mind that people have shorter attention spans than ever before.\\n For this reason, try to keep your comments and stories short and to the point.\\nIf no one is asking questions about what you’re saying, you might be boring them.\\nIf you’re generally a bit of a rambler, and you realize you’re doing it at a party, stop and check in with your audience to make sure they’re still following you.\\nIf your listener begins to look restless or bored (checking their watch or phone, or looking around the room), stop yourself and apologize for being too chatty, and ask them something about themselves.\\n3-5. Be a charismatic speaker.\\nStudies have shown that body language, emotion and voice count for far more than the words you say. For this reason it’s important to hone your public speaking skills and body language.\\nWhen you speak, be passionate. This doesn’t mean shouting or speaking loudly. It means, emphasizing your words with gestures and by changing the tone of your voice.\\n3-6. Gather interesting life experiences.\\nTo be interesting, do interesting things. Follow your passions, take up a hobby, involve yourself with people who excite and inspire you.\\nIt makes it a lot easier to make a lot of friends quickly if you chat about your hobbies. Plus, once you all find out that you love the same activities, you can make time to meet up at a group later. People will love that you brought everyone together.\\n4. Looking Your Best\\n4-1. Have good hygiene\\nBathe, wash your hair, brush your teeth, clip and file your nails, and wear deodorant. Unless you struggle with a medical condition, having good hygiene will keep you smelling nice.\\nSome medical conditions can cause people to smell bad even when they have good hygiene. If you think you might suffer from such a condition, see your doctor.\\nYou might consider using a whitening toothpaste while brushing your teeth. People with straight, white teeth are often thought to be more attractive than those without.\\n4-2. Maintain a healthy diet.\\nWhen you drink enough water and eat healthy, unprocessed foods, it shows in your appearance. Unless you have underlying health conditions, a healthy diet should keep your skin, hair, and body looking good.\\nNote that there are a range of healthy body types. Having a healthy diet won’t necessarily make you thin if you are naturally a bit larger, but it will keep you feeling healthy and energized, and able to do things to keep your body as lean and toned as possible.\\nIt may be tempting to stop eating or purge in order to lose weight, but please be kind to yourself and resist doing these things. They are not only extremely dangerous for your body; they are also emotionally stressful.\\nIf you think you may have an eating disorder, there are many resources available for you to get help. Look online or consult your doctor to learn more about resources in your area.\\n4-3. Style your hair.\\nFind a style for your hair that complements your face and your outfit. If you’re wearing casual clothes, keep your hair more casual; if you’re going more formal, a more formal hair style will be nice.\\nUltimately how you style your hair depends on your own tastes. Sporting a new style is a great way to get noticed at a party, especially if it’s very different from what you’d normally do with your hair.\\n4-4. Do your makeup.\\nIt’s not necessary to wear makeup to look good, but it can be fun to add a little boost to your natural look. If you want to keep it low-key, try just giving your skin a creamy glow and topping it with some mascara and a nude lip color.\\nIf you want to go more dramatic — for example, with a smokey eye or vibrant red lipstick — make sure that you makeup matches your outfit. You probably don’t want to look like Morticia Addams in blue jeans and a white T-shirt (although that could be funny).\\n4-5. Have smooth, healthy-looking lips\\nA study has found that women’s lips are the most attractive part of their body, particularly when they’re painted red.\\n4-6. Dress in clothes\\nWhich clothes look best on you will depend on your body type — for example, if you’re smaller on top and larger on the bottom (a “pear-shaped body”), wearing tops that accentuate your shoulders will help your body look more balanced.\\n4-7. Accessorize\\nAccessorizing is a great way to add interest to your outfit, particularly if you can’t afford to buy new clothes all the time. It can also help you look more polished.\\nAs an example, you can spice up a little black dress with colorful earrings and a bracelet, and maybe draw those colors out by wearing shoes that match.\\nTips\\nMore important than people liking you is you liking yourself, so never do anything that compromises your beliefs about what is right and wrong.\\nAll of the things in this article will help make you someone that people enjoy being around at a party. If you’re worried about being the coolest girl at a house party, though, chances are you never will be. Focus on having fun, and stop comparing yourself to others.\\nWarnings\\nDo not accept drinks from people you don’t know, and do not leave your drinks unattended. This goes for any drink — whether it’s alcohol or even just a glass of water. People may put drugs in your drink which could cause you harm, so it’s important to always keep an eye on your drink.\\nIf you’re of a drinking age, be careful that you don’t overindulge. Getting wasted and misbehaving are not going to make you look cool to others.\\nIf you use a whitening toothpaste to whiten your teeth, be aware that it can damage your enamel. If you’re unsure of whether a whitening toothpaste is right for you, ask your dentist.[44]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nMayo Clinic\\nEducational website from one of the world's leading hospitals\\nGo to source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you want to be the coolest girl at a house party, chances are, you won’t be. The reason for this is that you’re already too concerned with what others think of you. Instead of worrying about how you'll compare with others at the party, go there with the intention to have fun. If you’re being friendly, interesting, and looking your best, you’re sure to stand out and make a great impression.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Standing Out in the Crowd\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask if the host needs anything.\", \"描述\": \"Ask if you can bring anything to the party, and then bring it. If you become consistently known for bringing cool things to parties, people will be excited when they know you’re attending.\\nIf the party involves food, consider making something delicious that will become your signature dish that people want you to bring every time you attend a party.\\nSometimes, you might want to stand out by getting a certain person to notice you. If you want to get on the host's good side, then asking how to help out will probably make you their favorite guest super quickly.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stand in the center of the room.\", \"描述\": \"Upon your arrival to the party, grab a few friends and make your way to the center of the room. Standing in the center of the room will make it look like you’re the center of attention, and it will draw people to you.\\nIf you arrive alone and don’t know anyone, move towards the center of the room and see if you can start a conversation with anyone, or join any existing conversations.\\nAlso make sure to hold your head up high, maintain good posture, and look confident. People who come across as fun and sure of themselves attract a ton of people at parties.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know how to join a conversation.\", \"描述\": \"Joining an ongoing conversation between a group of people at a party can be a bit daunting. There are a few different ways in which you can do this:\\nWalk up to a group, listen in for a minute or two, and then contribute if/when it makes sense to do so. Only contribute if you have something interesting to say. If you know nothing about the topic, you can ask a question instead.\\nIntroduce yourself to the group. If you do this while people are talking about something else, make it quick and then return the focus to the conversation they were having: “Hi I’m just wandering around introducing myself to people. I’m Jane. Please go on with the conversation!”\\nIf you're feeling extra brave, offer a new perspective to immediately steal the show. For example, you can say, \\\"What you said about rom-coms is so interesting! I actually believe a lot of them can be pretty thought-provoking.\\\"\\nTalk to one person in the group first. If you notice someone standing on the sidelines of a large group and not really engaging in conversation, introduce yourself to them and talk to them for a while before turning your attention to the group.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know when you’re welcome.\", \"描述\": \"At a party it’s important to read people, particularly when you're trying to join conversations. If you try to join a group conversation, it’s possible that the group won’t be receptive to you.\\nAn unreceptive group may politely say hello and then return to their conversation without making space for you. If they do this, just move on to another group or person. Remember that it might not be personal. They could be having a somewhat private conversation that they don’t feel comfortable sharing with new people.\\nAnother thing that could happen is that the group receives you but doesn’t actively include you in the conversation. In this case they’ll likely make space for you and look at you and smile now and then. In this case, you need to make an effort to contribute.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dress to stand out from the crowd.\", \"描述\": \"If you want people to notice you, dress to get noticed. This could mean showing off your shoulders at a holiday party, where most people are wearing sweaters, or wearing a brightly colored dress in a room full of little black dresses (LBDs).\\nDress to stand out, but don’t dress outside of your comfort zone. Exploring different styles is okay, but most of all it’s important to stay true to who you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Smile\", \"描述\": \"At a party you of course want to seem friendly and approachable, but smiling all the time may make you look insincere. Instead, keep a smaller smile on your face and reserve your big smiles for greetings.\\nSmiling big when you say hi to people will make them feel special, like they’re the reason you’re smiling.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be a bit touchy-feely.\", \"描述\": \"Casually touching someone’s arm while talking to them can make them feel good, leading them to like you more. Seeing you touch that person may make others want your attention more, too.\\nIf you’re not a touchy-feely person, you might skip this step. It’s important to stay true to who you are. That said, you may want to try it out even if it does feel weird at first, just to see if it’s something you’re comfortable with.\\nPay attention to who you touch. Some people do not like being touched by other people. If someone seems uncomfortable when you touch them, don’t do it again.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to your posture.\", \"描述\": \"Good standing posture means having a straight back, squared shoulders, your chest out, your stomach in, your feet forward, and your hips and knees in a neutral position.\\nA good posture shows confidence. Just be sure that you’re not overdoing it, otherwise you may look overly stiff or snobby, especially if your chin is raised too high, with your nose up in the air.\\nIf you’re sitting in a chair, if possible, move one of your elbows so that it rests atop the back of the chair. This will cause you to lean back a bit and make you look more confident. A standing version of this is to lean on a counter with one arm.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Have open, positive body language.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid shielding yourself by crossing your arms or holding your drink in front of you. If you’re holding a drink, holding it off to the side will show of your wrists and midsection, making you look open and confident.\\nWhen you're talking to people, use positive, non-judgemental body language: smile; keep your chin down so that it doesn’t look like you’re turning your nose up at them; stand at a slight angle (a full frontal posture might feel dominating or insulting to some people); keep your palms up; and elevate your eyebrows while you talk.\\nAvoid negative body language such as slouching, crossing your arms across your chest, furrowing your brow, or tightening your lips. Playing with your hair too much will make you look nervous, and make others nervous, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Circulate.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t get stuck in one place for too long. Unless you’re deep in conversation, aim to change where you’re standing every 10 to 15 minutes.\\nThis will open you up to meeting new people and will also give any admirers the opportunity to view you from different angles.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Likeable\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t be a flake.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t leave it to the last minute to confirm unless you have a real reason to do that. Leaving the host hanging for a response is inconsiderate, and if they’re planning on food or party favors, it could end up with you missing out.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make people feel at ease.\", \"描述\": \"Having a healthy, friendly posture and a small, warm smile on your face are good ways to make people feel at ease. When you seem to be at ease yourself, this will make it easier for people to be comfortable around you. Other things you can do:\\nEncourage people to talk about themselves by asking questions and actively listening. Receive what they say respectfully and without judgement, even if you disagree.\\nAcknowledge any similarities between the two of you, as this will build a common rapport. Just be careful that you’re not one-upping them — for example, if you both had the same test at school, agree that it was hard, but don’t brag about the A+ you got.\\nIf you want to talk to your crush or maybe someone new, make them feel at ease by saying you’re just on your way out but you wanted to say hi. If they know you’ll be leaving soon, they won’t feel nervous about talking to you for too long, and will be more likely to engage in conversation with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be consistent.\", \"描述\": \"If people know that you are consistently fun and pleasant to be around, they’re more likely to approach you at a party. Your close friends are around enough to see all sides of you, but strangers won’t know you’re having an off day, so it’s important to be on at a party.\\nHave you ever stopped going to a restaurant because of the inconsistent quality of their food? When it’s good, it’s wonderful, but when it’s bad, it’s bad, and since it’s not consistent, it’s no longer worth the risk of going there. It’s the same with people and personalities.\\nThe more often people see you and become familiar with you, the more warmly they'll feel about you and even work up the courage to approach you.\\nIf you build a good reputation for yourself and start to become a \\\"regular,\\\" people will start to get excited at the idea of running into you. So, keep going to house parties and eventually, you'll probably build a little fan base.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be an active listener.\", \"描述\": \"When people are talking, don’t interrupt. As you listen to what they say, nod and make short comments (e.g., “yes” or “go on”) that show you’re listening. When they’re done, repeat the gist of what they said and ask follow-up questions.\\nWhen others are speaking, resist the urge to think about what you’re going to say next. Try to stay focused on what the person in front of you is saying instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ask for thoughts and opinions.\", \"描述\": \"A great way to build a bond with someone is to ask for their thoughts and opinions, and then listen non-judgementally to what they have to say. Ask follow-up questions.\\nIf someone says something you don’t agree with, try not to get insulted or argue right away. Instead, tell them you never thought of it that way, and ask them to explain further.\\nIf the person expresses an opinion that offends you, consider whether you need to let them know that. For the most part, if someone is bigoted, it will be difficult to change their mind and probably not worth your time. Just politely excuse yourself and move on.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask for advice.\", \"描述\": \"Appealing to another person’s expertise is a way to show your respect for them and to gain their confidence. If you know someone is experienced with something you’re interested in, ask them for advice on things.\\nJust make sure that your questions are sincere. You don’t want to seem like you’re asking just to make conversation.\\nMaybe don’t ask a doctor about an illness you have if you meet one at a party. They’re not there to work. You can, however, ask them what they do with difficult patients or about how difficult med school might have been, particularly if you want advice on scheduling your own time.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Drop the ego.\", \"描述\": \"Put your own thoughts and needs aside when you’re listening to others. Resist the urge to correct them if you think they’re wrong, and definitely don’t one-up them with your own story. It will just feel like you’re trying to compete with them, and this will look worse on you than it does on them, even if they’re wrong.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Offer sincere compliments.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe you like a dress someone is wearing, or you love their hair cut. Tell them! Just make sure that you’re honest about what you compliment them on.If you're the first one to break the ice, people will see you as bold and fun. If you compliment them right off the bat, then you'll definitely win them over.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be the best version of yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re usually awkward in social situations, it may feel like you have to act like someone else in order to have fun at a party. Try not to think of it as acting as someone else; instead, think of it as acting as the best version of yourself.\\nIt can feel a bit uncomfortable to practise new skills. You might even feel like you’re faking it, but this is where the saying “fake it till you make it” rings true. With time those skills will become second nature, and you’ll be happy you took the time to practise them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being Interesting\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be positive.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re always miserable, chances are, people won’t want to talk to you. Try to be positive and friendly, especially when you’re talking to people you don’t know very well.\\nAvoid complaining too much or gossiping negatively about anyone. Your listeners are more likely to associate the things you’re complaining about with you than with who/what you’re complaining about.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"This is related to being a good listener. You can be the center of attention without talking everyone’s ears off. Listen to people. Ask questions about what they say.\\nEncouraging people to talk about themselves will make them feel special and they will likely remember the conversation as being an interesting one.\\nIf you’re stuck for conversation, try asking someone about what sort of hobbies they have or what they’ve recently been up to.\\nIf you know anything about the subject they’re talking about, share your experience without interrupting and without trying to one-up the person. If you don’t know anything about what they’re talking about, ask questions.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have a few good stories.\", \"描述\": \"Choose a few stories that you know entertain people, and rehearse them to ensure that you don’t bore your audience while you try to remember details or go off on tangents.\\nSome experts recommend having three good stories. Just make sure that you switch them up every now and then so that people don’t catch you telling the same ones over and over again.\\nTailor your stories to the party. The stories you tell at a career-oriented party will likely be different from the ones you tell at a party full of your close friends. Stories about people are recommended.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be concise and straightforward.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever you’re talking, keep in mind that people have shorter attention spans than ever before.\\n For this reason, try to keep your comments and stories short and to the point.\\nIf no one is asking questions about what you’re saying, you might be boring them.\\nIf you’re generally a bit of a rambler, and you realize you’re doing it at a party, stop and check in with your audience to make sure they’re still following you.\\nIf your listener begins to look restless or bored (checking their watch or phone, or looking around the room), stop yourself and apologize for being too chatty, and ask them something about themselves.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be a charismatic speaker.\", \"描述\": \"Studies have shown that body language, emotion and voice count for far more than the words you say. For this reason it’s important to hone your public speaking skills and body language.\\nWhen you speak, be passionate. This doesn’t mean shouting or speaking loudly. It means, emphasizing your words with gestures and by changing the tone of your voice.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Gather interesting life experiences.\", \"描述\": \"To be interesting, do interesting things. Follow your passions, take up a hobby, involve yourself with people who excite and inspire you.\\nIt makes it a lot easier to make a lot of friends quickly if you chat about your hobbies. Plus, once you all find out that you love the same activities, you can make time to meet up at a group later. People will love that you brought everyone together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Looking Your Best\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have good hygiene\", \"描述\": \"Bathe, wash your hair, brush your teeth, clip and file your nails, and wear deodorant. Unless you struggle with a medical condition, having good hygiene will keep you smelling nice.\\nSome medical conditions can cause people to smell bad even when they have good hygiene. If you think you might suffer from such a condition, see your doctor.\\nYou might consider using a whitening toothpaste while brushing your teeth. People with straight, white teeth are often thought to be more attractive than those without.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain a healthy diet.\", \"描述\": \"When you drink enough water and eat healthy, unprocessed foods, it shows in your appearance. Unless you have underlying health conditions, a healthy diet should keep your skin, hair, and body looking good.\\nNote that there are a range of healthy body types. Having a healthy diet won’t necessarily make you thin if you are naturally a bit larger, but it will keep you feeling healthy and energized, and able to do things to keep your body as lean and toned as possible.\\nIt may be tempting to stop eating or purge in order to lose weight, but please be kind to yourself and resist doing these things. They are not only extremely dangerous for your body; they are also emotionally stressful.\\nIf you think you may have an eating disorder, there are many resources available for you to get help. Look online or consult your doctor to learn more about resources in your area.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Style your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Find a style for your hair that complements your face and your outfit. If you’re wearing casual clothes, keep your hair more casual; if you’re going more formal, a more formal hair style will be nice.\\nUltimately how you style your hair depends on your own tastes. Sporting a new style is a great way to get noticed at a party, especially if it’s very different from what you’d normally do with your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do your makeup.\", \"描述\": \"It’s not necessary to wear makeup to look good, but it can be fun to add a little boost to your natural look. If you want to keep it low-key, try just giving your skin a creamy glow and topping it with some mascara and a nude lip color.\\nIf you want to go more dramatic — for example, with a smokey eye or vibrant red lipstick — make sure that you makeup matches your outfit. You probably don’t want to look like Morticia Addams in blue jeans and a white T-shirt (although that could be funny).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have smooth, healthy-looking lips\", \"描述\": \"A study has found that women’s lips are the most attractive part of their body, particularly when they’re painted red.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Dress in clothes\", \"描述\": \"Which clothes look best on you will depend on your body type — for example, if you’re smaller on top and larger on the bottom (a “pear-shaped body”), wearing tops that accentuate your shoulders will help your body look more balanced.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Accessorize\", \"描述\": \"Accessorizing is a great way to add interest to your outfit, particularly if you can’t afford to buy new clothes all the time. It can also help you look more polished.\\nAs an example, you can spice up a little black dress with colorful earrings and a bracelet, and maybe draw those colors out by wearing shoes that match.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"More important than people liking you is you liking yourself, so never do anything that compromises your beliefs about what is right and wrong.\\n\", \"All of the things in this article will help make you someone that people enjoy being around at a party. If you’re worried about being the coolest girl at a house party, though, chances are you never will be. Focus on having fun, and stop comparing yourself to others.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Do not accept drinks from people you don’t know, and do not leave your drinks unattended. This goes for any drink — whether it’s alcohol or even just a glass of water. People may put drugs in your drink which could cause you harm, so it’s important to always keep an eye on your drink.\\n\", \"If you’re of a drinking age, be careful that you don’t overindulge. Getting wasted and misbehaving are not going to make you look cool to others.\\n\", \"If you use a whitening toothpaste to whiten your teeth, be aware that it can damage your enamel. If you’re unsure of whether a whitening toothpaste is right for you, ask your dentist.[44]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nMayo Clinic\\nEducational website from one of the world's leading hospitals\\nGo to source\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Cute and Hot Teen (Girls)
1. Dressing the Part 1-1. Find your personal style. Look through magazines and fashion websites to identify some of the style icons you relate to the most. Then, when you're shopping for clothes and accessories, choose pieces that will help you get the look you're going for. When you know what style suits you the best, you'll be cuter—and hotter. For instance, if you have more of a classic style, you might look to icons like Audrey Hebpurn, Michelle Obama, and Lily Collins. Opt for polished pieces like button-down shirts and A-line dresses. Also, stick to timeless accessories like pearl earrings, tennis bracelets, and loafers or flats. If your style is more bohemian, look for inspiration from figures like Stevie Nicks, Chaka Khan, and the Olsen Twins. For instance, you might wear flared jeans with a flowy top, sandals, and a long scarf, or you might opt for a belted maxi dress with sneakers, a floppy hat, and layered necklaces. If you consider yourself more daring and edgy, borrow inspiration from style icons like Rihanna, Zendaya, and Kylie Jenner. Mix and match your favorite pieces to create a look that's all your own. For instance, you might pair an oversized sweatshirt with a destroyed denim skirt, a cool pair of sneakers, and aviator sunglasses for a bold, unique outfit. 1-2. Choose colors that flatter your skin tone. To find the colors that look best on you, take a good look at your skin. In addition to your complexion, or the shade of your skin, your skin tone is also determined by your undertones, which can be warm, cool, or neutral. Try looking at the veins under the skin on your wrist. If they look blue or purple, your skin tone is cool. If they're green, your skin tone is warm, and if they're purple, your skin tone is neutral. If you have a warm skin tone, try wearing earth tones and warm shades like gold, mustard, beige, olive green, magenta, and chocolate brown. If your skin tone is cool, try wearing turquoise, rose pink, lilac, and cool neutrals like white and grey. If you have a neutral skin tone, you're lucky—you can wear pretty much any color you like! 1-3. Wear clothes that fit you neatly. No matter what your style is, opt for clothing that skims close to your body without being too baggy or too tight. If your clothes are too tight, you'll look and feel uncomfortable, and it can be unflattering. If you wear something that's too big, you'll hide your figure, so you won't look as hot as if your clothing fits well. To ensure your clothes fit well, try them on before you make a purchase. Don't just go by the number that's on the label—inconsistent sizing across the fashion industry means that you might wear very different sizes across different brands, or even within the same store. If you're deliberately wearing an item that's too big, try to balance it out so you can still show off your figure. For instance, wear a large sweater with leggings or skinny jeans, or belt a flowy maxi dress around the smallest part of your waist. If you have an item that fits well for the most part but is just a little off, consider having it professionally altered. For instance, you can hem a pair of jeans to the right length, or have a dress taken in to fit your waist . 1-4. Show a little skin, but not too much. Being hot means being comfortable in your own skin, but if you want to balance cute and hot, you may not want to take that too far. If you're wearing one piece that's more revealing, opt for pieces that provide more coverage for the rest of your body. For instance, if you wear a crop top that shows your midriff, you might pair that with high-waisted jeans. If you're wearing short shorts, you could wear a flowy, high-necked blouse. 1-5. Use accessories to jazz up any outfit. Sometimes it just takes a small detail to take a look from basic to amazing. Pick accessories that show off your personal style. However, try to keep your accessories balanced so they don't overwhelm your look. For instance, you might wear a stack of bangles and a cool ring to dress up your casual jeans-and-tee look. A long necklace, a pair of pretty earrings, and ankle boots will take a sweater-and-legging combo to the next level. 2. Doing Your Hair and Makeup 2-1. Wash your face If you want to look your best, it's important to keep your skin healthy and glowing. Use a cleanser that's formulated for your skin type. Work the cleanser into a lather, then massage it into your face in a circular motion. When you're finished, rinse your face thoroughly and pat it dry. Follow that by applying a lightweight facial moisturizer. For instance, if you have oily, acne-prone skin, you might use a foaming cleanser with salicylic acid to help fight breakouts. Then, you might use a lightweight water-based moisturizer that won't clog your pores. If your skin tends to be dry, use a moisturizing face wash and a hydrating facial cream. 2-2. Use concealer and foundation to hide blemishes and smooth out your complexion. While you don't have to wear makeup to be cute, it can be helpful if you have any skin concerns you want to hide. Use your fingers, a brush, or a makeup sponge to dab a little concealer on any blemishes or dark spots, or under your eyes if you have dark circles. Then, apply a light layer of foundation if you need to cover up any redness on your cheeks, nose, forehead, or chin. Apply your foundation to the center of your face, then blend it outwards for the most natural look. The best way to match your foundation to your skin tone is to go to a beauty store and ask a consultant to help you. If you have oily skin, tend to sweat, or live in a humid climate, you can apply a thin layer of primer to your skin before your concealer and foundation. This can help keep it in place longer. 2-3. Set your makeup with powder to keep it in place. Once you've applied your foundation and concealer, use a brush or a powder puff to dust on translucent or tinted powder. This will help create a smooth base for the rest of your makeup, and it will also help set your makeup to help it last longer. Make sure your powder matches your foundation perfectly if it's tinted. 2-4. Brush on a little blush to make your cheeks look rosy and full. When you apply blush to the fullest part of your cheeks, it can give you a soft glow that's essential to looking cute. Swirl a blush brush across your brush palette, then apply the blush to the tops of your cheeks in a circular motion. Try using a rosy pink or peach-colored blush for a cute, youthful look. 2-5. Use mascara, eyeliner, and eyeshadow to accentuate your eyes. Try showing off your eyes by dusting on a light layer of neutral eyeshadow onto your lids. Then, blend a slightly darker color into the crease. Line along your lash lines with an eyeliner that's close to the color of your eyelashes, then swipe brown or black mascara onto your lashes to make them look longer and thicker. If you're having a day where you want to channel more cute than hot, keep your eyeshadow subtle and use a lighter-hued eyeliner. For days when you're feeling a little more glam, use a darker eyeshadow color in your crease, and opt for darker eyeliner. 2-6. Wear lip gloss or lipstick to draw attention to your mouth. If the rest of your face is made up, it can look a little unbalanced if you don't wear anything on your lips. If you're going for more of a subtle look, apply a light layer of lip gloss or wear a nude-colored lipstick. For days when you're feeling bold, wear a brightly-colored or dark lipstick, instead. Experiment with different shades to see the ones you like best! For instance, you'll never know that you look great in bright red lipstick unless you try it on, first. 2-7. Style your hair each day. You don't necessarily have to spend hours straightening or curling your hair each day to look hot, but do take at least a little time to detangle and style your hair. Wash your hair every 2-3 days to keep it clean, and experiment with different hair styles and hair accessories to see what suits your style and face shape the best! For instance, if your hair is long, you might wear it down in loose waves or tight curls, up in a messy bun, or braided down your back. If you have short hair, you might wear a headband or a pretty barrette. For medium-length hair, trying wearing it half-up, half-down, styled with a side part, or pinned into a low bun. 3. Having the Right Persona 3-1. Be outgoing and friendly. You can be cute and still be shy, but coming across as hot usually takes a big dose of confidence. Smile and look people in the eyes when you greet them, and try to strike up conversations with a lot of different people throughout the day. When others see you being outgoing, you'll instantly seem hotter, just because of how self-assured you look! Try to talk to people from all different social groups—don't just limit yourself to people who are like you! If you really want to give off hot-girl vibes, imagine that you're flirting with the people you're talking to. For instance, you might lightly touch someone on the shoulder when they're talking. However, don't go too far with this, since you don't want anyone to get the idea that you like them if you really don't. 3-2. Act like you're confident even when you don't feel that way. You don't necessarily have to feel confident every second of the day to come across that way. Project confidence by sitting or standing with your back straight, shoulders back, and head up. When you're talking to someone, speak in a clear, steady voice, and take a few moments to think about what you're going to say first so you can deliver it with conviction. Not only can these simple tricks help you look more confident, but they can actually make you feel more self-assured, as well! 3-3. Be kind towards others. Just like having confidence is a major key to seeming hot, being kind is essential to coming across as cute. Avoid gossiping or talking bad about other people. Instead, look for ways to speak well of others, be friendly toward people who might not have a lot of friends, and be helpful whenever you see someone in need. For instance, if someone drops their notebook and papers fly all over the hallway, don't laugh at them or step on their papers. Instead, take a moment to help them gather everything up. 3-4. Stay busy with extracurriculars. Cute, hot teenagers always seem to have somewhere to go, so don't just stay cooped up in your room after school. Try joining clubs, sports teams, or groups that match up with your interests. You'll get a chance to know people you might not have met otherwise, and pursuing what you love can help you look and feel more confident. For instance, if you love movies, you might join your school's film club. If you're always asking questions, the newspaper might be perfect for you. In addition to helping you make new friends, extracurriculars look great on a college application! Tips Remember, it's okay for your style to change from day-to-day as you explore what you like! If you want your look to be cute and innocent one day and sultry and hot the next, that's totally fine.
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Don't just go by the number that's on the label—inconsistent sizing across the fashion industry means that you might wear very different sizes across different brands, or even within the same store.\\nIf you're deliberately wearing an item that's too big, try to balance it out so you can still show off your figure. For instance, wear a large sweater with leggings or skinny jeans, or belt a flowy maxi dress around the smallest part of your waist.\\nIf you have an item that fits well for the most part but is just a little off, consider having it professionally altered. For instance, you can hem a pair of jeans to the right length, or have a dress taken in to fit your waist .\\n1-4. Show a little skin, but not too much.\\nBeing hot means being comfortable in your own skin, but if you want to balance cute and hot, you may not want to take that too far. 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Work the cleanser into a lather, then massage it into your face in a circular motion. When you're finished, rinse your face thoroughly and pat it dry. Follow that by applying a lightweight facial moisturizer.\\nFor instance, if you have oily, acne-prone skin, you might use a foaming cleanser with salicylic acid to help fight breakouts. Then, you might use a lightweight water-based moisturizer that won't clog your pores.\\nIf your skin tends to be dry, use a moisturizing face wash and a hydrating facial cream.\\n2-2. Use concealer and foundation to hide blemishes and smooth out your complexion.\\nWhile you don't have to wear makeup to be cute, it can be helpful if you have any skin concerns you want to hide. Use your fingers, a brush, or a makeup sponge to dab a little concealer on any blemishes or dark spots, or under your eyes if you have dark circles. 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Brush on a little blush to make your cheeks look rosy and full.\\nWhen you apply blush to the fullest part of your cheeks, it can give you a soft glow that's essential to looking cute. Swirl a blush brush across your brush palette, then apply the blush to the tops of your cheeks in a circular motion.\\nTry using a rosy pink or peach-colored blush for a cute, youthful look.\\n2-5. Use mascara, eyeliner, and eyeshadow to accentuate your eyes.\\nTry showing off your eyes by dusting on a light layer of neutral eyeshadow onto your lids. Then, blend a slightly darker color into the crease. Line along your lash lines with an eyeliner that's close to the color of your eyelashes, then swipe brown or black mascara onto your lashes to make them look longer and thicker.\\nIf you're having a day where you want to channel more cute than hot, keep your eyeshadow subtle and use a lighter-hued eyeliner.\\nFor days when you're feeling a little more glam, use a darker eyeshadow color in your crease, and opt for darker eyeliner.\\n2-6. Wear lip gloss or lipstick to draw attention to your mouth.\\nIf the rest of your face is made up, it can look a little unbalanced if you don't wear anything on your lips. If you're going for more of a subtle look, apply a light layer of lip gloss or wear a nude-colored lipstick. For days when you're feeling bold, wear a brightly-colored or dark lipstick, instead.\\nExperiment with different shades to see the ones you like best! For instance, you'll never know that you look great in bright red lipstick unless you try it on, first.\\n2-7. Style your hair each day.\\nYou don't necessarily have to spend hours straightening or curling your hair each day to look hot, but do take at least a little time to detangle and style your hair. Wash your hair every 2-3 days to keep it clean, and experiment with different hair styles and hair accessories to see what suits your style and face shape the best!\\nFor instance, if your hair is long, you might wear it down in loose waves or tight curls, up in a messy bun, or braided down your back.\\nIf you have short hair, you might wear a headband or a pretty barrette.\\nFor medium-length hair, trying wearing it half-up, half-down, styled with a side part, or pinned into a low bun.\\n3. Having the Right Persona\\n3-1. Be outgoing and friendly.\\nYou can be cute and still be shy, but coming across as hot usually takes a big dose of confidence. Smile and look people in the eyes when you greet them, and try to strike up conversations with a lot of different people throughout the day. 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In addition to your complexion, or the shade of your skin, your skin tone is also determined by your undertones, which can be warm, cool, or neutral. Try looking at the veins under the skin on your wrist. If they look blue or purple, your skin tone is cool. If they're green, your skin tone is warm, and if they're purple, your skin tone is neutral.\\nIf you have a warm skin tone, try wearing earth tones and warm shades like gold, mustard, beige, olive green, magenta, and chocolate brown.\\nIf your skin tone is cool, try wearing turquoise, rose pink, lilac, and cool neutrals like white and grey.\\nIf you have a neutral skin tone, you're lucky—you can wear pretty much any color you like!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear clothes that fit you neatly.\", \"描述\": \"No matter what your style is, opt for clothing that skims close to your body without being too baggy or too tight. If your clothes are too tight, you'll look and feel uncomfortable, and it can be unflattering. If you wear something that's too big, you'll hide your figure, so you won't look as hot as if your clothing fits well.\\nTo ensure your clothes fit well, try them on before you make a purchase. Don't just go by the number that's on the label—inconsistent sizing across the fashion industry means that you might wear very different sizes across different brands, or even within the same store.\\nIf you're deliberately wearing an item that's too big, try to balance it out so you can still show off your figure. For instance, wear a large sweater with leggings or skinny jeans, or belt a flowy maxi dress around the smallest part of your waist.\\nIf you have an item that fits well for the most part but is just a little off, consider having it professionally altered. For instance, you can hem a pair of jeans to the right length, or have a dress taken in to fit your waist .\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Show a little skin, but not too much.\", \"描述\": \"Being hot means being comfortable in your own skin, but if you want to balance cute and hot, you may not want to take that too far. If you're wearing one piece that's more revealing, opt for pieces that provide more coverage for the rest of your body.\\nFor instance, if you wear a crop top that shows your midriff, you might pair that with high-waisted jeans. If you're wearing short shorts, you could wear a flowy, high-necked blouse.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use accessories to jazz up any outfit.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes it just takes a small detail to take a look from basic to amazing. Pick accessories that show off your personal style. However, try to keep your accessories balanced so they don't overwhelm your look.\\nFor instance, you might wear a stack of bangles and a cool ring to dress up your casual jeans-and-tee look.\\nA long necklace, a pair of pretty earrings, and ankle boots will take a sweater-and-legging combo to the next level.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Doing Your Hair and Makeup\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wash your face\", \"描述\": \"If you want to look your best, it's important to keep your skin healthy and glowing. Use a cleanser that's formulated for your skin type. Work the cleanser into a lather, then massage it into your face in a circular motion. When you're finished, rinse your face thoroughly and pat it dry. Follow that by applying a lightweight facial moisturizer.\\nFor instance, if you have oily, acne-prone skin, you might use a foaming cleanser with salicylic acid to help fight breakouts. Then, you might use a lightweight water-based moisturizer that won't clog your pores.\\nIf your skin tends to be dry, use a moisturizing face wash and a hydrating facial cream.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use concealer and foundation to hide blemishes and smooth out your complexion.\", \"描述\": \"While you don't have to wear makeup to be cute, it can be helpful if you have any skin concerns you want to hide. Use your fingers, a brush, or a makeup sponge to dab a little concealer on any blemishes or dark spots, or under your eyes if you have dark circles. Then, apply a light layer of foundation if you need to cover up any redness on your cheeks, nose, forehead, or chin.\\nApply your foundation to the center of your face, then blend it outwards for the most natural look.\\nThe best way to match your foundation to your skin tone is to go to a beauty store and ask a consultant to help you.\\nIf you have oily skin, tend to sweat, or live in a humid climate, you can apply a thin layer of primer to your skin before your concealer and foundation. This can help keep it in place longer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set your makeup with powder to keep it in place.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've applied your foundation and concealer, use a brush or a powder puff to dust on translucent or tinted powder. This will help create a smooth base for the rest of your makeup, and it will also help set your makeup to help it last longer.\\nMake sure your powder matches your foundation perfectly if it's tinted.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Brush on a little blush to make your cheeks look rosy and full.\", \"描述\": \"When you apply blush to the fullest part of your cheeks, it can give you a soft glow that's essential to looking cute. Swirl a blush brush across your brush palette, then apply the blush to the tops of your cheeks in a circular motion.\\nTry using a rosy pink or peach-colored blush for a cute, youthful look.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use mascara, eyeliner, and eyeshadow to accentuate your eyes.\", \"描述\": \"Try showing off your eyes by dusting on a light layer of neutral eyeshadow onto your lids. Then, blend a slightly darker color into the crease. Line along your lash lines with an eyeliner that's close to the color of your eyelashes, then swipe brown or black mascara onto your lashes to make them look longer and thicker.\\nIf you're having a day where you want to channel more cute than hot, keep your eyeshadow subtle and use a lighter-hued eyeliner.\\nFor days when you're feeling a little more glam, use a darker eyeshadow color in your crease, and opt for darker eyeliner.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Wear lip gloss or lipstick to draw attention to your mouth.\", \"描述\": \"If the rest of your face is made up, it can look a little unbalanced if you don't wear anything on your lips. If you're going for more of a subtle look, apply a light layer of lip gloss or wear a nude-colored lipstick. For days when you're feeling bold, wear a brightly-colored or dark lipstick, instead.\\nExperiment with different shades to see the ones you like best! For instance, you'll never know that you look great in bright red lipstick unless you try it on, first.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Style your hair each day.\", \"描述\": \"You don't necessarily have to spend hours straightening or curling your hair each day to look hot, but do take at least a little time to detangle and style your hair. Wash your hair every 2-3 days to keep it clean, and experiment with different hair styles and hair accessories to see what suits your style and face shape the best!\\nFor instance, if your hair is long, you might wear it down in loose waves or tight curls, up in a messy bun, or braided down your back.\\nIf you have short hair, you might wear a headband or a pretty barrette.\\nFor medium-length hair, trying wearing it half-up, half-down, styled with a side part, or pinned into a low bun.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Having the Right Persona\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be outgoing and friendly.\", \"描述\": \"You can be cute and still be shy, but coming across as hot usually takes a big dose of confidence. Smile and look people in the eyes when you greet them, and try to strike up conversations with a lot of different people throughout the day. When others see you being outgoing, you'll instantly seem hotter, just because of how self-assured you look!\\nTry to talk to people from all different social groups—don't just limit yourself to people who are like you!\\nIf you really want to give off hot-girl vibes, imagine that you're flirting with the people you're talking to. For instance, you might lightly touch someone on the shoulder when they're talking. However, don't go too far with this, since you don't want anyone to get the idea that you like them if you really don't.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Act like you're confident even when you don't feel that way.\", \"描述\": \"You don't necessarily have to feel confident every second of the day to come across that way. Project confidence by sitting or standing with your back straight, shoulders back, and head up. When you're talking to someone, speak in a clear, steady voice, and take a few moments to think about what you're going to say first so you can deliver it with conviction.\\nNot only can these simple tricks help you look more confident, but they can actually make you feel more self-assured, as well!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be kind towards others.\", \"描述\": \"Just like having confidence is a major key to seeming hot, being kind is essential to coming across as cute. Avoid gossiping or talking bad about other people. Instead, look for ways to speak well of others, be friendly toward people who might not have a lot of friends, and be helpful whenever you see someone in need.\\nFor instance, if someone drops their notebook and papers fly all over the hallway, don't laugh at them or step on their papers. Instead, take a moment to help them gather everything up.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay busy with extracurriculars.\", \"描述\": \"Cute, hot teenagers always seem to have somewhere to go, so don't just stay cooped up in your room after school. Try joining clubs, sports teams, or groups that match up with your interests. You'll get a chance to know people you might not have met otherwise, and pursuing what you love can help you look and feel more confident.\\nFor instance, if you love movies, you might join your school's film club. If you're always asking questions, the newspaper might be perfect for you.\\nIn addition to helping you make new friends, extracurriculars look great on a college application!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Remember, it's okay for your style to change from day-to-day as you explore what you like! If you want your look to be cute and innocent one day and sultry and hot the next, that's totally fine.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Cutest Couple Ever (for Teens and Tweens)
1. Interacting in Public 1-1. Go out on dates. Going out together provides a fun way to spend time together outside of school, and an added bonus is that you may be seen by classmates. Go to the park and walk, play sports, or play on the playground like you did as kids. Go to museums and learn new things together. Whether or not you can drive and if you have any money to spend will determine the range of dates you can go on together. Going to a fancy dinner can be fun but may not be practical. 1-2. Be active together. Working out or playing sports together gives you a new way to be together besides hanging out at home or school. If your school has a fitness center, work out as a couple after school. Play co-ed intramurals or on club sports teams outside of school. Being active together can be as simple as walking or shooting baskets at the park. When people see that you care about your health and you enjoy exercising together, they will see your cuteness in a new way. 1-3. Mingle as a couple at parties. When you show up to a bonfire or weekly social event, stick together and mingle with the other guests as a couple. Rather than separating to find your own friends, sticking together shows you can still be a couple in a group of people. Visit groups of each person’s friends so that you both still get to talk to who you want to. It’s okay to split up and get a little alone time, but when you stay together it is easier for people to see how cute you are. 1-4. Pick up a new hobby together. Hobbies give you a chance to do something fun and bond through that activity. Your communication will improve because talking during an activity is easier than sitting face to face. Telling people you took a dance class together or hiked the local national park will impress them. Do winter sports like skiing, snowboarding or snowmobiling. Take an art class at the community center. Go to a martial arts studio and practice self-defense together. You don’t necessarily have to start a new hobby. Find something that you both like doing and do it together instead of separately. 2. Showing Affection 2-1. Hold hands in public. Hold hands while you walk through the halls at school. Hold hands while you sit at sporting events. Sit by each other on the bus and hold hands while you ride. Anytime you are around your friends or in public, hold hands so people know you are a couple. Holding hands can be an exciting step in the early stages of a relationship. In middle school and high school, people who are holding hands are almost always seen as a couple. 2-2. Use special nicknames in front of other people. Come up with cute nicknames that reveal something about your relationship. Use these names when you are calling to each other across the room or when you talk on the phone. Nicknames can be simple like sweetie, pumpkin, honeybunch, or love. Make your nicknames more specific by incorporating your real names. For example, on How I Met Your Mother, Marshall and Lily call each other Marshmallow and Lilypad. 2-3. Hug each other often. When you first see each other in the morning, make a habit of giving each other a big, long hug. People will start to notice this as your morning routine. Hug each other in between class and anytime you leave each other for the day. Go out of your way to hug each other and let people see you hugging. Hug each other for longer than you ever hug someone who is just a friend. 2-4. Pass notes at school. Pass notes when you see each other in the hall. Reading them will entertain you during class. Find sneaky ways to pass your notes during class, like rolling the note up and putting it inside a pen. Put a note in a gum wrapper and pass it. You might get caught, so don’t include anything too private in your notes. If the teacher catches you and reads your note, you might be embarrassed if you write secrets. 3. Dressing as a Couple 3-1. Trade clothes with each other. Find a t-shirt, letterman’s jacket, or sweatshirt that has your name on it and give it to your boyfriend or girlfriend. Trading clothing with your name on it is a great way to be a cute couple. Trade clothing even if it doesn’t have your name on it. You’ll feel closer to each other and people will notice. If you are very different in size, this may not always work. Small people can wear big clothes, but big people in small clothes might look silly rather than cute. If you want to wear your partner’s clothes, even if they are tight, though, go for it. 3-2. Choose each other’s outfits for a week. When the school semester is dragging on, or you are bored in the hot days of summer, pick out each other’s clothes and wear what your partner chooses. Have fun styling each other in fancy or silly outfits. Make each other look good and increase your cuteness as a couple. Pick a theme for each day like what you’d wear to a fancy dinner, how’d you dress on a day off, or an unfashionable, mismatched outfit for something silly. Make a deal that you have to wear whatever you pick out for each other. Be sure to tell people that you styled each other that week. 3-3. Dress in matching costumes for parties or dress up days. Any chance you get to wear a costume is a perfect opportunity to match. Select a famous character couple from a book, TV, or movie. Dress up as different versions of the same character or theme. Be sure it’s obvious that your costumes go together. Look at costumes that people have already designed or come up with an original idea and design it yourself. For example, you could dress up as Ash and Pikachu from Pokemon, Red Riding Hood and the Wolf, or a slice of pizza and the pizza delivery guy. 3-4. Coordinate your outfits. Look through each other’s closets and find outfits that match. If you have the exact same shirt, like from a club or sports team, this always works. Choose similar color schemes or patterns that make you look great together. The main goal is to be on the same level of fanciness in your attire. If one person wears a nice dress and the other wears sweatpants, it’s not really matching. Wear jeans and flannels, your fanciest outfit, or matching tracksuits. Warnings If you act super cute as a couple all the time, your friends may get annoyed or jealous. If your school has rules about physical contact between couples, be sure not to get caught hugging or holding hands.
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Play co-ed intramurals or on club sports teams outside of school.\\nBeing active together can be as simple as walking or shooting baskets at the park.\\nWhen people see that you care about your health and you enjoy exercising together, they will see your cuteness in a new way.\\n1-3. Mingle as a couple at parties.\\nWhen you show up to a bonfire or weekly social event, stick together and mingle with the other guests as a couple. Rather than separating to find your own friends, sticking together shows you can still be a couple in a group of people.\\nVisit groups of each person’s friends so that you both still get to talk to who you want to.\\nIt’s okay to split up and get a little alone time, but when you stay together it is easier for people to see how cute you are.\\n1-4. Pick up a new hobby together.\\nHobbies give you a chance to do something fun and bond through that activity. Your communication will improve because talking during an activity is easier than sitting face to face. Telling people you took a dance class together or hiked the local national park will impress them.\\nDo winter sports like skiing, snowboarding or snowmobiling. Take an art class at the community center. Go to a martial arts studio and practice self-defense together.\\nYou don’t necessarily have to start a new hobby. Find something that you both like doing and do it together instead of separately.\\n2. Showing Affection\\n2-1. Hold hands in public.\\nHold hands while you walk through the halls at school. Hold hands while you sit at sporting events. Sit by each other on the bus and hold hands while you ride. Anytime you are around your friends or in public, hold hands so people know you are a couple.\\nHolding hands can be an exciting step in the early stages of a relationship. In middle school and high school, people who are holding hands are almost always seen as a couple.\\n2-2. Use special nicknames in front of other people.\\nCome up with cute nicknames that reveal something about your relationship. Use these names when you are calling to each other across the room or when you talk on the phone.\\nNicknames can be simple like sweetie, pumpkin, honeybunch, or love. Make your nicknames more specific by incorporating your real names. For example, on How I Met Your Mother, Marshall and Lily call each other Marshmallow and Lilypad.\\n2-3. Hug each other often.\\nWhen you first see each other in the morning, make a habit of giving each other a big, long hug. People will start to notice this as your morning routine. Hug each other in between class and anytime you leave each other for the day.\\nGo out of your way to hug each other and let people see you hugging. Hug each other for longer than you ever hug someone who is just a friend.\\n2-4. Pass notes at school.\\nPass notes when you see each other in the hall. Reading them will entertain you during class. Find sneaky ways to pass your notes during class, like rolling the note up and putting it inside a pen. Put a note in a gum wrapper and pass it.\\nYou might get caught, so don’t include anything too private in your notes. If the teacher catches you and reads your note, you might be embarrassed if you write secrets.\\n3. Dressing as a Couple\\n3-1. Trade clothes with each other.\\nFind a t-shirt, letterman’s jacket, or sweatshirt that has your name on it and give it to your boyfriend or girlfriend. Trading clothing with your name on it is a great way to be a cute couple. Trade clothing even if it doesn’t have your name on it. You’ll feel closer to each other and people will notice.\\nIf you are very different in size, this may not always work. Small people can wear big clothes, but big people in small clothes might look silly rather than cute. If you want to wear your partner’s clothes, even if they are tight, though, go for it.\\n3-2. Choose each other’s outfits for a week.\\nWhen the school semester is dragging on, or you are bored in the hot days of summer, pick out each other’s clothes and wear what your partner chooses. Have fun styling each other in fancy or silly outfits. Make each other look good and increase your cuteness as a couple.\\nPick a theme for each day like what you’d wear to a fancy dinner, how’d you dress on a day off, or an unfashionable, mismatched outfit for something silly.\\nMake a deal that you have to wear whatever you pick out for each other. Be sure to tell people that you styled each other that week.\\n3-3. Dress in matching costumes for parties or dress up days.\\nAny chance you get to wear a costume is a perfect opportunity to match. Select a famous character couple from a book, TV, or movie. Dress up as different versions of the same character or theme. Be sure it’s obvious that your costumes go together.\\nLook at costumes that people have already designed or come up with an original idea and design it yourself.\\nFor example, you could dress up as Ash and Pikachu from Pokemon, Red Riding Hood and the Wolf, or a slice of pizza and the pizza delivery guy.\\n3-4. Coordinate your outfits.\\nLook through each other’s closets and find outfits that match. If you have the exact same shirt, like from a club or sports team, this always works. Choose similar color schemes or patterns that make you look great together.\\nThe main goal is to be on the same level of fanciness in your attire. If one person wears a nice dress and the other wears sweatpants, it’s not really matching.\\nWear jeans and flannels, your fanciest outfit, or matching tracksuits.\\nWarnings\\nIf you act super cute as a couple all the time, your friends may get annoyed or jealous.\\nIf your school has rules about physical contact between couples, be sure not to get caught hugging or holding hands.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a couple as an adolescent or teen can be a lot of fun. There are almost limitless ways to show people you are a couple and to be cute doing it. Wearing matching outfits is an easy way to be cute as a couple. Be sure to do things together in public like exercising or sticking together at parties. Cute couples are never afraid to show affection by hugging, using cute names, or holding hands wherever they go.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Interacting in Public\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go out on dates.\", \"描述\": \"Going out together provides a fun way to spend time together outside of school, and an added bonus is that you may be seen by classmates. Go to the park and walk, play sports, or play on the playground like you did as kids. Go to museums and learn new things together.\\nWhether or not you can drive and if you have any money to spend will determine the range of dates you can go on together. Going to a fancy dinner can be fun but may not be practical.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be active together.\", \"描述\": \"Working out or playing sports together gives you a new way to be together besides hanging out at home or school. If your school has a fitness center, work out as a couple after school. Play co-ed intramurals or on club sports teams outside of school.\\nBeing active together can be as simple as walking or shooting baskets at the park.\\nWhen people see that you care about your health and you enjoy exercising together, they will see your cuteness in a new way.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Mingle as a couple at parties.\", \"描述\": \"When you show up to a bonfire or weekly social event, stick together and mingle with the other guests as a couple. Rather than separating to find your own friends, sticking together shows you can still be a couple in a group of people.\\nVisit groups of each person’s friends so that you both still get to talk to who you want to.\\nIt’s okay to split up and get a little alone time, but when you stay together it is easier for people to see how cute you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pick up a new hobby together.\", \"描述\": \"Hobbies give you a chance to do something fun and bond through that activity. Your communication will improve because talking during an activity is easier than sitting face to face. Telling people you took a dance class together or hiked the local national park will impress them.\\nDo winter sports like skiing, snowboarding or snowmobiling. Take an art class at the community center. Go to a martial arts studio and practice self-defense together.\\nYou don’t necessarily have to start a new hobby. Find something that you both like doing and do it together instead of separately.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Showing Affection\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hold hands in public.\", \"描述\": \"Hold hands while you walk through the halls at school. Hold hands while you sit at sporting events. Sit by each other on the bus and hold hands while you ride. Anytime you are around your friends or in public, hold hands so people know you are a couple.\\nHolding hands can be an exciting step in the early stages of a relationship. 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Be sure to tell people that you styled each other that week.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dress in matching costumes for parties or dress up days.\", \"描述\": \"Any chance you get to wear a costume is a perfect opportunity to match. Select a famous character couple from a book, TV, or movie. Dress up as different versions of the same character or theme. Be sure it’s obvious that your costumes go together.\\nLook at costumes that people have already designed or come up with an original idea and design it yourself.\\nFor example, you could dress up as Ash and Pikachu from Pokemon, Red Riding Hood and the Wolf, or a slice of pizza and the pizza delivery guy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Coordinate your outfits.\", \"描述\": \"Look through each other’s closets and find outfits that match. If you have the exact same shirt, like from a club or sports team, this always works. Choose similar color schemes or patterns that make you look great together.\\nThe main goal is to be on the same level of fanciness in your attire. If one person wears a nice dress and the other wears sweatpants, it’s not really matching.\\nWear jeans and flannels, your fanciest outfit, or matching tracksuits.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"If you act super cute as a couple all the time, your friends may get annoyed or jealous.\\n\", \"If your school has rules about physical contact between couples, be sure not to get caught hugging or holding hands.\\n\"]}]}}", "问题明细": "", "扩展字段": "" }
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How to Be the Favorite Camp Counselor
1. Becoming The Favorite Counselor 1-1. Treat your campers as individuals. As soon as your campers arrive you should start getting to know them as individuals and people. Getting to know your campers can help you interact with them better and build a great relationship between the two of you. Your campers will greatly appreciate your interest in their life and will start to view you favorably. Learn your campers personal interests and engage with them. Take a moment to discover each of your campers personalities. Don't be afraid to share some of your own personality and interests with your campers. 1-2. Handle difficult campers carefully. There may be a time when your campers don't want to do something you had in mind, such as cleaning chores. Being too forceful or direct with these campers will only hurt your relationship and cause them to view you with less respect. Keep some of the following points in mind when dealing with a difficult camper: If a camper is distracted or doing something other than what they should be you can try joining them for a moment before redirecting them to the task at hand. For example, if they are watching a video on their phone instead of cleaning, watch the video with them for a moment before asking them to clean. Simple and clear instructions for activities are appreciated by campers. Avoid giving negative commands such as “Don't do this”. It will be ineffective and cause the camper to view you negatively. 1-3. Inspire instead of order. It's all too easy to simply issue commands to your campers. However, they are unlikely to respect you if you don't demonstrate the same qualities and actions that you demand of them. Always make sure you are engaging in the same activities and attitudes that you want your campers to exhibit in order to build respect and earn their trust. Telling your campers to do something or hold an attitude without doing so yourself can cause your them to view you less favorably. Always exhibit the actions and attitudes that you want your campers to display in order to build a better relationship. 1-4. Take a break. Even though you want to be the camper's favorite counselor it can be a good idea to let other counselors take over for a while. Allowing other counselors to step in can give you a break, allow you to refresh, and you may be able to learn some new techniques from your co-counselor. Taking a break can also let your campers have some rest and look forward to your return. Sharing your campers with other counselors can create a better camping experience for your campers. 1-5. Extend kindness to your campers. Campers may be away from their homes for the first time in their life and may be feeling unsure or uneasy at camp. Showing some kindness and empathy to your campers can help make them feel comfortable with you and at camp. Take some time to make them feel welcome, safe, and demonstrate that they have a friend in you. Always be available to listen to your campers concerns. Take time to speak with your campers one-on-one to build rapport. Your campers should feel like they can come to you with any issue. Demonstrating kindness will go a long way in becoming their favorite counselor. 2. Being An Effective Counselor 2-1. Effectively communicate with the campers. The main way in which you will relate and work with your campers is through communication. Using open, supportive, and caring language with your campers can help create bond between you and them, leaving a lasting impression and allowing you to become their favorite camp counselor. Offer plenty of praise to your campers. Speak with all of your campers equally. Don't favor one camper or another. Practice active listening, rephrasing you camper's concerns as a summarized question. For example “So you are uncomfortable swimming in the lake?” Make each camper feel like they are being cared for and listened to. 2-2. Be a good role model. Part of being your campers favorite counselor is acting as a great role model. By embodying desirable qualities and attitudes yourself you can help bring them out in your campers as well. Always act as an excellent role model to foster great relationships between you and your campers. Have a good sense of humor and laugh easily. Let your campers know that you trust them. Try to keep a positive and upbeat attitude even in challenging situations. Don't be afraid to admit a mistake, apologize or not know something. 2-3. Demonstrate leadership. In order to earn the trust and respect of your campers you will need to demonstrate strong leadership qualities. By showing your confidence and strength as a leader you can help your campers feel confident themselves, allowing you to be viewed as their favorite camp counselor. Review the following characteristics of a good leader: Put the needs of others before their own. Treat everyone fairly and justly. Be respectful of everyone. Good leaders are responsible people. Practice honesty. Show enthusiasm. Ease tension in the group and encourages teamwork. 3. Meeting The Requirements 3-1. Have the required personal characteristics. Part of being a good camp counselor and a person that the campers enjoy being around is demonstrating certain personal characteristics. By showing your own personable and caring nature you can help bring that out in the campers as well. Review some of the following characteristics that a good camp counselor can express: Honesty. Openness to others and ideas even when in disagreement. Sensitivity to others feelings and thoughts. Encourage and inspire others. Avoid gossip and keep communications open. 3-2. Understand the duties. Part of being a likable and effective camp counselor is fulfilling your duties required by that role. Many of the roles that are required of a camp counselor will help keep your campers happy, safe, and entertained during their time staying with you at camp. You will be responsible for the safety of your campers. You and your campers will need to follow camp rules and directions. Create and stay on schedules. Practice problem solving. 3-3. Attend training. Don't worry if your haven't had any training or experience. Some summer camps will offer training before your campers arrive. The training provided by the camp will help you do your best in your role as camp counselor. As an example, you can expect to learn in some of the following ways from your training course: You will observe other camp counselors in action. You will learn how to participate with campers. Discuss your experience and learn how to communicate with all types of campers. You will be able to get plenty of practice learning your new skills as a camp counselor. Tips Becoming well liked involves you demonstrating the qualities of a well liked person. Treating your campers with respect, honesty, and fairness will help foster a great relationship. Be a genuine person, demonstrating personal integrity.
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Keep some of the following points in mind when dealing with a difficult camper:\\nIf a camper is distracted or doing something other than what they should be you can try joining them for a moment before redirecting them to the task at hand.\\nFor example, if they are watching a video on their phone instead of cleaning, watch the video with them for a moment before asking them to clean.\\nSimple and clear instructions for activities are appreciated by campers.\\nAvoid giving negative commands such as “Don't do this”. It will be ineffective and cause the camper to view you negatively.\\n1-3. Inspire instead of order.\\nIt's all too easy to simply issue commands to your campers. However, they are unlikely to respect you if you don't demonstrate the same qualities and actions that you demand of them. Always make sure you are engaging in the same activities and attitudes that you want your campers to exhibit in order to build respect and earn their trust.\\nTelling your campers to do something or hold an attitude without doing so yourself can cause your them to view you less favorably.\\nAlways exhibit the actions and attitudes that you want your campers to display in order to build a better relationship.\\n1-4. Take a break.\\nEven though you want to be the camper's favorite counselor it can be a good idea to let other counselors take over for a while. Allowing other counselors to step in can give you a break, allow you to refresh, and you may be able to learn some new techniques from your co-counselor. Taking a break can also let your campers have some rest and look forward to your return.\\nSharing your campers with other counselors can create a better camping experience for your campers.\\n1-5. Extend kindness to your campers.\\nCampers may be away from their homes for the first time in their life and may be feeling unsure or uneasy at camp. Showing some kindness and empathy to your campers can help make them feel comfortable with you and at camp. Take some time to make them feel welcome, safe, and demonstrate that they have a friend in you.\\nAlways be available to listen to your campers concerns.\\nTake time to speak with your campers one-on-one to build rapport.\\nYour campers should feel like they can come to you with any issue.\\nDemonstrating kindness will go a long way in becoming their favorite counselor.\\n2. Being An Effective Counselor\\n2-1. Effectively communicate with the campers.\\nThe main way in which you will relate and work with your campers is through communication. Using open, supportive, and caring language with your campers can help create bond between you and them, leaving a lasting impression and allowing you to become their favorite camp counselor.\\nOffer plenty of praise to your campers.\\nSpeak with all of your campers equally. Don't favor one camper or another.\\nPractice active listening, rephrasing you camper's concerns as a summarized question. For example “So you are uncomfortable swimming in the lake?”\\nMake each camper feel like they are being cared for and listened to.\\n2-2. Be a good role model.\\nPart of being your campers favorite counselor is acting as a great role model. By embodying desirable qualities and attitudes yourself you can help bring them out in your campers as well. Always act as an excellent role model to foster great relationships between you and your campers.\\nHave a good sense of humor and laugh easily.\\nLet your campers know that you trust them.\\nTry to keep a positive and upbeat attitude even in challenging situations.\\nDon't be afraid to admit a mistake, apologize or not know something.\\n2-3. Demonstrate leadership.\\nIn order to earn the trust and respect of your campers you will need to demonstrate strong leadership qualities. By showing your confidence and strength as a leader you can help your campers feel confident themselves, allowing you to be viewed as their favorite camp counselor. Review the following characteristics of a good leader:\\nPut the needs of others before their own.\\nTreat everyone fairly and justly.\\nBe respectful of everyone.\\nGood leaders are responsible people.\\nPractice honesty.\\nShow enthusiasm.\\nEase tension in the group and encourages teamwork.\\n3. Meeting The Requirements\\n3-1. Have the required personal characteristics.\\nPart of being a good camp counselor and a person that the campers enjoy being around is demonstrating certain personal characteristics. By showing your own personable and caring nature you can help bring that out in the campers as well. Review some of the following characteristics that a good camp counselor can express:\\nHonesty.\\nOpenness to others and ideas even when in disagreement.\\nSensitivity to others feelings and thoughts.\\nEncourage and inspire others.\\nAvoid gossip and keep communications open.\\n3-2. Understand the duties.\\nPart of being a likable and effective camp counselor is fulfilling your duties required by that role. Many of the roles that are required of a camp counselor will help keep your campers happy, safe, and entertained during their time staying with you at camp.\\nYou will be responsible for the safety of your campers.\\nYou and your campers will need to follow camp rules and directions.\\nCreate and stay on schedules.\\nPractice problem solving.\\n3-3. Attend training.\\nDon't worry if your haven't had any training or experience. Some summer camps will offer training before your campers arrive. The training provided by the camp will help you do your best in your role as camp counselor. 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