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How to Be a Recluse
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1. Spending Time Alone
1-1. Prepare yourself for some fear.
Spending time alone is scary for many people. In our modern era, we're more interconnected than ever. If you want to take some time to be reclusive, there will be an adjustment period. You may feel scared or confused when you first begin spending time alone.
Try to push past any negative thoughts as you begin transitioning into spending more time alone. Remind yourself that you may feel some discomfort at first. However, also remember the benefits of alone time. You may be able to effectively work through certain problems or focus on certain creative pursuits if you give yourself time alone. These benefits are probably worth the initial adjustment period.
If you feel very afraid at the notion of spending time alone, consider the root of this fear. Are you afraid of loneliness or is there something deeper at play. Bad past experiences can sometimes make a person hesitant to spend time alone. You may not want to let your thoughts wander to negative aspects of your past.
1-2. Explore new hobbies.
Use your alone time wisely. It's easy to fall into a rut if you're choosing to keep your free time all to yourself. Instead of binge watching TV shows or sleeping all day, try to take up some new hobbies. Choose hobbies you can do by yourself.
A lot of your initial aversion to alone time may stem from boredom. If you don't have a lot to fill your time, you may feel very bored or frustrated when you're alone. Taking up a hobby can help combat boredom. You'll have something to do with your newfound free time.
Remember, a hobby does not necessarily have to constitute a passion. Many people are wary to try solitary hobbies like drawing, painting, music, or writing. However, you're not trying to be a concert pianist. You're just trying to play the piano in your free time for your own amusement.
1-3. Get creative.
Many people choose the life of a recluse to fuel their own creativity. Without the distractions of socialization, you can focus more on your own creative work. If you're a writer, painter, sculptor, or any other creative type, use your reclusive nature to better your work.
Alone time forces you to think deeply. The most interesting art, writing, and music asks difficult questions about the nature of human existence. If you're constantly filling your time with distractions, this can inhibit your creativity as it stops you from considering deeper aspects of existence. If you're alone, you'll have more time to ponder.
You can also take your alone time as an opportunity to learn things that will enhance your work. If you're writing a memoir, for example, learning from other authors is important. If you've never had time to read all of Proust's work, your newfound life as a recluse can allow you to do so.
1-4. Disconnect from technology.
If you want to be reclusive, you need to disconnect significantly. This means avoiding your phone and computer, as these devices allow you to connect with others. It's a bad idea to completely cut yourself off. If there's an emergency, for example, it's important to be able to get help. However, try to consciously disconnect from technology for a bit each day. Set aside a few hours each day to turn off your smart phone and power down your laptop. Take this time to simply be alone with your thoughts.
1-5. Think back to childhood.
Part of what makes being alone hard is that troublesome, unwanted thoughts can creep in if we're alone for too long. You need to have some ability to self-soothe. Thinking back to your childhood can help. As children are frequently navigating new and difficult thoughts for the first time, they often have better self-soothing rituals than adults.
Try to remember how you relaxed as a child. Even silly rituals, like daydreaming, can be helpful to relax if you spend a lot of time alone.
If you had a happy childhood, you're more likely to be good at self-soothing. If your basic needs were met as a child, you viewed the world as a mostly safe, trustworthy place. However, if your needs were not met as a child, you feel insecure in the world. You may have a need to bring others into your space in order to soothe yourself.
If your childhood was unstable, consider seeing a psychiatrist to talk through these rituals. It may be harder to be reclusive if you lack the ability to soothe yourself.
1-6. Spend time outdoors.
Many reclusive people have a fondness for nature. The free space of nature enhances your ability to be alone with your thoughts. It can remove certain temptations, like modern technology, that prohibit your ability to embrace solitude.
Many people enjoy activities like hiking and camping alone. As long as you're experienced enough to understand safety precautions, look into taking an occasional weekend hiking or camping trip by yourself.
However, if you're not an experienced outdoors type, camping alone may be dangerous. Instead, try going for long walks in the woods by yourself. If you live in a rural area, just sitting in your backyard can help you feel alone in nature.
2. Sustaining Yourself
2-1. Find work you can do at home.
If you want to be a recluse, you may be hesitant about working outside of your home. With modern technology, there are many jobs can you can easily do from home if you have a laptop and an internet connection.
Freelance writing jobs are often done at home. There are also many jobs, like transcription work, that can be done from home. Many companies hire web designers to work from their own house. Also, a lot of call center type jobs are handled at home. You can be a customer service representative at your own house, taking calls on behalf of a business as they come in.
If you have a specialized skill set, consider working for yourself. This does not necessarily mean starting your own business. You could do freelance work from home for clients. If you have a writing degree, for example, you could look into freelance editing.
2-2. Find creative ways to shop.
If you want to become particularly reclusive, you may be hesitant to leave your home even for things like grocery and clothes shopping. If this is the case, find creative ways to stay at home.
In the modern world, almost everything you need can be ordered online. Clothing, books, food, and other items can be ordered from websites like Amazon. You may cringe at the delivery fees, but remember you're staying home most of the time. While you may spend $10 for shipping and handling, you're not spending money on gas or public transportation.
If you don't want to order everything online, consider avoiding people in other ways. You could shop during hours of the day where stores are unlikely to be crowded. For example, try going clothes shopping at 1 o'clock in the afternoon on a weekday. As most people are working, you may be less likely to run into other people.
2-3. Stay connected to some people.
If you want to be a recluse, you may feel you have to cut people out of your life entirely. However, this is not the case. In fact, a reclusive lifestyle may not be sustainable if you cut out all your friends and social contacts.
Strong relationships can help you feel more secure about spending time alone. Even if you enjoy spending time alone, it's important to be able to have someone to call if you need it. Everyone needs support on occasion. In the event of a major emergency or setback, you should be able to have at least one person to rely on for support.
Try to deepen existing relationships before committing to a reclusive life. Spend more time talking to friends and family members. Be willing to share intimate secrets to your social contacts. If you have a few very close friends, you'll feel more secure in the fact your solitude is a choice rather than a necessity.
2-4. Manage stress.
If you're going to be spending a lot of time alone, stress management is important. Troubling thoughts may be harder to avoid if you have a lot of time to yourself.
As stated, have someone you can call in the event you are feeling very stressed or down. You do not have to socialize frequently if you don't want to, but having at least a few contacts for social support is important.
Practice stress-reducing activities, like meditation, deep breathing, and yoga.
Exercise regularly. Having a regular exercise regimen can help you manage negative emotions. Strive for 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity a week or 75 minutes of intense aerobic activity.
3. Avoiding Pitfalls
3-1. Consider your mental health.
Being reclusive has many benefits. However, a tendency to avoid social situations can be a symptom of an underlying mental health disorder. Cutting yourself off from others can increase feelings of depression, anxiety, and isolation. If you feel sad, anxious, or otherwise unhappy most of the time, make an appointment with a mental health professional for assessment.
You can find a therapist by asking your regular doctor for a referral. You can also find a list of providers in your network through your insurance.
If you're a college student, you may be entitled to free counseling through your university.
3-2. Stay away from mindless consumption.
Mindless consumption is common if you're spending a lot of time alone. Without social events as a distraction, you may overeat, binge watch television, or play video games for hours. This can stave off some of the positive benefits of solitude. You won't consider the deeper questions if you're constantly immersed in a video game world, for example. Try to engage in entertainment and food in moderation.
It can help to make a schedule for yourself. You can try to get up and go to bed at the same time each day. You can also strive to limit your video game time to, say, an hour a day.
If mindless eating is a problem for you, try to keep track of the calories you're consuming. Log what you're eating and when. If you find yourself gaining weight, try reducing your caloric consumption.
3-3. Ask for help if you need it.
When spending time alone, you may confront unpleasant realities. You may be forced to think about aspects of your life that are frightening to face. Ask for help when you need it. If the loneliness is becoming overwhelming, call a trusted friend or family member. There are many benefits to solitude. However, everyone needs help now and then. Do not hesitate to reach out to others when you are in need.
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You may not want to let your thoughts wander to negative aspects of your past.\\n1-2. Explore new hobbies.\\nUse your alone time wisely. It's easy to fall into a rut if you're choosing to keep your free time all to yourself. Instead of binge watching TV shows or sleeping all day, try to take up some new hobbies. Choose hobbies you can do by yourself.\\nA lot of your initial aversion to alone time may stem from boredom. If you don't have a lot to fill your time, you may feel very bored or frustrated when you're alone. Taking up a hobby can help combat boredom. You'll have something to do with your newfound free time.\\nRemember, a hobby does not necessarily have to constitute a passion. Many people are wary to try solitary hobbies like drawing, painting, music, or writing. However, you're not trying to be a concert pianist. You're just trying to play the piano in your free time for your own amusement.\\n1-3. Get creative.\\nMany people choose the life of a recluse to fuel their own creativity. Without the distractions of socialization, you can focus more on your own creative work. If you're a writer, painter, sculptor, or any other creative type, use your reclusive nature to better your work.\\nAlone time forces you to think deeply. The most interesting art, writing, and music asks difficult questions about the nature of human existence. If you're constantly filling your time with distractions, this can inhibit your creativity as it stops you from considering deeper aspects of existence. If you're alone, you'll have more time to ponder.\\nYou can also take your alone time as an opportunity to learn things that will enhance your work. If you're writing a memoir, for example, learning from other authors is important. If you've never had time to read all of Proust's work, your newfound life as a recluse can allow you to do so.\\n1-4. Disconnect from technology.\\nIf you want to be reclusive, you need to disconnect significantly. This means avoiding your phone and computer, as these devices allow you to connect with others. It's a bad idea to completely cut yourself off. If there's an emergency, for example, it's important to be able to get help. However, try to consciously disconnect from technology for a bit each day. Set aside a few hours each day to turn off your smart phone and power down your laptop. Take this time to simply be alone with your thoughts.\\n1-5. Think back to childhood.\\nPart of what makes being alone hard is that troublesome, unwanted thoughts can creep in if we're alone for too long. You need to have some ability to self-soothe. Thinking back to your childhood can help. As children are frequently navigating new and difficult thoughts for the first time, they often have better self-soothing rituals than adults.\\nTry to remember how you relaxed as a child. Even silly rituals, like daydreaming, can be helpful to relax if you spend a lot of time alone.\\nIf you had a happy childhood, you're more likely to be good at self-soothing. If your basic needs were met as a child, you viewed the world as a mostly safe, trustworthy place. However, if your needs were not met as a child, you feel insecure in the world. You may have a need to bring others into your space in order to soothe yourself.\\nIf your childhood was unstable, consider seeing a psychiatrist to talk through these rituals. It may be harder to be reclusive if you lack the ability to soothe yourself.\\n1-6. Spend time outdoors.\\nMany reclusive people have a fondness for nature. The free space of nature enhances your ability to be alone with your thoughts. It can remove certain temptations, like modern technology, that prohibit your ability to embrace solitude.\\nMany people enjoy activities like hiking and camping alone. As long as you're experienced enough to understand safety precautions, look into taking an occasional weekend hiking or camping trip by yourself.\\nHowever, if you're not an experienced outdoors type, camping alone may be dangerous. Instead, try going for long walks in the woods by yourself. If you live in a rural area, just sitting in your backyard can help you feel alone in nature.\\n2. Sustaining Yourself\\n2-1. Find work you can do at home.\\nIf you want to be a recluse, you may be hesitant about working outside of your home. With modern technology, there are many jobs can you can easily do from home if you have a laptop and an internet connection.\\nFreelance writing jobs are often done at home. There are also many jobs, like transcription work, that can be done from home. Many companies hire web designers to work from their own house. Also, a lot of call center type jobs are handled at home. You can be a customer service representative at your own house, taking calls on behalf of a business as they come in.\\nIf you have a specialized skill set, consider working for yourself. This does not necessarily mean starting your own business. You could do freelance work from home for clients. If you have a writing degree, for example, you could look into freelance editing.\\n2-2. Find creative ways to shop.\\nIf you want to become particularly reclusive, you may be hesitant to leave your home even for things like grocery and clothes shopping. If this is the case, find creative ways to stay at home.\\nIn the modern world, almost everything you need can be ordered online. Clothing, books, food, and other items can be ordered from websites like Amazon. You may cringe at the delivery fees, but remember you're staying home most of the time. While you may spend $10 for shipping and handling, you're not spending money on gas or public transportation.\\nIf you don't want to order everything online, consider avoiding people in other ways. You could shop during hours of the day where stores are unlikely to be crowded. For example, try going clothes shopping at 1 o'clock in the afternoon on a weekday. As most people are working, you may be less likely to run into other people.\\n2-3. Stay connected to some people.\\nIf you want to be a recluse, you may feel you have to cut people out of your life entirely. However, this is not the case. In fact, a reclusive lifestyle may not be sustainable if you cut out all your friends and social contacts.\\nStrong relationships can help you feel more secure about spending time alone. Even if you enjoy spending time alone, it's important to be able to have someone to call if you need it. Everyone needs support on occasion. In the event of a major emergency or setback, you should be able to have at least one person to rely on for support.\\nTry to deepen existing relationships before committing to a reclusive life. Spend more time talking to friends and family members. Be willing to share intimate secrets to your social contacts. If you have a few very close friends, you'll feel more secure in the fact your solitude is a choice rather than a necessity.\\n2-4. Manage stress.\\nIf you're going to be spending a lot of time alone, stress management is important. Troubling thoughts may be harder to avoid if you have a lot of time to yourself.\\nAs stated, have someone you can call in the event you are feeling very stressed or down. You do not have to socialize frequently if you don't want to, but having at least a few contacts for social support is important.\\nPractice stress-reducing activities, like meditation, deep breathing, and yoga.\\nExercise regularly. Having a regular exercise regimen can help you manage negative emotions. Strive for 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity a week or 75 minutes of intense aerobic activity.\\n3. Avoiding Pitfalls\\n3-1. Consider your mental health.\\nBeing reclusive has many benefits. However, a tendency to avoid social situations can be a symptom of an underlying mental health disorder. Cutting yourself off from others can increase feelings of depression, anxiety, and isolation. If you feel sad, anxious, or otherwise unhappy most of the time, make an appointment with a mental health professional for assessment.\\nYou can find a therapist by asking your regular doctor for a referral. You can also find a list of providers in your network through your insurance.\\nIf you're a college student, you may be entitled to free counseling through your university.\\n3-2. Stay away from mindless consumption.\\nMindless consumption is common if you're spending a lot of time alone. Without social events as a distraction, you may overeat, binge watch television, or play video games for hours. This can stave off some of the positive benefits of solitude. You won't consider the deeper questions if you're constantly immersed in a video game world, for example. Try to engage in entertainment and food in moderation.\\nIt can help to make a schedule for yourself. You can try to get up and go to bed at the same time each day. You can also strive to limit your video game time to, say, an hour a day.\\nIf mindless eating is a problem for you, try to keep track of the calories you're consuming. Log what you're eating and when. If you find yourself gaining weight, try reducing your caloric consumption.\\n3-3. Ask for help if you need it.\\nWhen spending time alone, you may confront unpleasant realities. You may be forced to think about aspects of your life that are frightening to face. Ask for help when you need it. 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How to Be a Renaissance Person
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1. Reading up on Key Topics
1-1. Make a list of your strong and weak academic subjects.
To be a Renaissance person, you should have a little bit of knowledge about pretty much every academic subject. This includes math, world history, science (physics, biology, and chemistry), reading, and writing. Figure out which spots you’re already strong in, and then focus on building up the other ones.
1-2. Fill any gaps in your knowledge.
Find some introductory textbooks for those subjects where you need some help. Check your library or go to the bookstore and see what they’ve got in stock. You can also order books online.
Public schools in your area might also have textbooks they’d be willing to lend you over the summer.
1-3. Read several newspapers to stay aware of current events.
Renaissance people don’t just bury themselves in old textbooks, they’re aware of what’s going on in the world around them! Read lots of well-respected newspapers to keep aware of new and important developments happening around the world.
Reading newspapers is also a great way to stay informed of new discoveries in science, history, and math.
For English-speaking newspapers in the United States, try the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal. Look at the Guardian for a paper based in the United Kingdom.
If it’s in your budget to subscribe to a daily paper, do so. If not, you can usually read several articles from popular newspapers based in the United States and elsewhere for free each month.
1-4. Look up lists of new and old books you should read.
Reading teaches you new words and makes you think about the world in new and different ways. Don’t just stick to the classics, however. Go online to find suggestions of great books written both recently and a long (sometimes long, long) time ago.
Goodreads.com and Amazon both provide suggestion lists of books that you should read before you die. The New York Times Book Review also releases yearly “best book” picks that can keep you updated on the good new releases.
1-5. Get familiar with opposing points of view.
Renaissance people are well rounded and can think about issues from lots of different sides. If there’s a hot-button debate going on in your town, state, or country, take the time to read up on both sides. Wait until you have as much information as possible before deciding on your own position.
This might require you to read sources produced by different news outlets, politicians, or experts.
For example, to get a good picture of the debate about climate change, you can look at what different politicians around the world are saying and doing about the issue. Be sure to look at people from different parties. Run a Google search to find easy-to-read scientific studies. Finally, check out coverage from news outlets with different political leanings (such as Fox News and MSNBC in the U.S.).
1-6. Study a map of the world to think globally.
If the only country you can point out on a map is your own, spend some time learning world geography. This knowledge will help you better understand global history, as well as current political conflicts and environmental concerns.
It’s also a good idea to know the capitals and major cities of countries around the world.
1-7. Learn a new language.
Learn to communicate with people outside the country where you were born. Renaissance people are travelers and explorers (even if they can’t afford to actually visit other countries).
If you speak another language, read a newspaper or listen to the news in that language! It’s a great way to build your skill and expose yourself to another perspective.
2. Staying Fit
2-1. Commit to an exercise plan.
Renaissance people spend time balancing the needs of their mind with those of their body. Stay healthy by exercising regularly. If you’ve never exercised before, now’s a great time to start!
Try to exercise for at least 20-30 minutes each day. Make this workout hard enough to get your heart pumping.
Jogging is great exercise. Try going for a 20-minute jog three-four times per week, and taking a walk or hike on your off days.
You may want to join a gym. This membership gives you access to lots of classes, weight rooms, and machines that could motivate you to really commit to your plan.
2-2. Have a healthy, balanced diet.
It’s not enough to exercise. If you want to keep up good health, it’s important to eat right. Use your diet to get all the essential nutrients you need, and try to limit the good-tasting (but not-so-good-for-you) sweets.
Stick with lean meats such as chicken and fish. Go heavy on the fruits and veggies, and make sure you’re also eating food from each food group.
Make your own meals instead of eating out. This will help you control exactly what you’re eating. Try simple recipes like baked chicken and spinach salad.
2-3. Drink plenty of water.
Drinking lots of water helps your body function better. It’ll keep you focused during the day. If you’re drinking water, you’re also probably avoiding unhealthy liquids like soda and sugar-filled energy drinks.
Drink enough water so that you’re never thirsty, or about 8 glasses of water per day.
2-4. Sleep for at least 8 hours each night.
Sleep keeps stress under control, and it’s critical for good health. If you don’t get enough sleep, you’re going to feel too tired to work out. You also won’t want to go grocery shopping or cook for yourself, which could lead to a few not-so-healthy meals.
To get better sleep, avoid nicotine, caffeine, and heavy foods for the last few hours before you head to bed. You should also limit your daytime naps to about 20 or 30 minutes. Try to stick to the same sleep schedule each night.
3. Learning about the Arts
3-1. Take stock of any creative abilities you have.
If you’ve ever played an instrument or shown some talent for drawing, revisit those skills. Maybe you never stopped. Renaissance people spend time working on their creative sides, so get ready to develop any existing talent you’ve got.
3-2. Practice frequently if you’ve already got artistic skills.
The only way to be good at music or art is to spend lots of time practicing. Look for free time in your schedule and fill those spots with practice sessions.
You may be able to take 20 minutes during your lunch hour to practice. You can also practice after you’ve eaten dinner at night during the weekdays. Add a longer practice session on your off days. Try to practice at least 4-5 days per week, for about 20 minutes to an hour each day.
3-3. Learn new artistic skills.
If you’ve never sang a note or picked up a paintbrush, don’t despair! It’s never too late to start. Figure out what artistic skill (or skills!) most appeals to you and start learning.
Gardening, cooking, writing, baking, photography, website design… the list of things that qualify as art goes on and on. Find your passion and have fun with it.
Take an art or music class in school if you’re a student. If not (and it fits into your budget), sign up for one at a local community college. You can also find guided tutorials online or at bookstores for learning artistic crafts or musical instruments.
If you’re hoping to get into music, look for a community choir or band that accepts beginners. This is a great way to meet people and develop your creativity.
3-4. Go to museums, cultural centers, and shows.
Get inspired by what past artists have produced. Attend concerts and art shows to see what’s being put other there now by fellow artists. These events will teach you new things about the people and world around you.
Observing other artists can also help you decide on your own style. You may start out by imitating something you like, and then you’ll slowly start to create your own special artwork.
Craft shows and local fairs are also great events for experiencing art and culture. These may even let you see the folksy side of art that you can’t get in all museums.
4. Having a Balanced Schedule
4-1. Read for at least 20 minutes a day.
If you’ve decided to be a Renaissance person, you’ve got a long reading list ahead of you. You don’t have to read everything in a day. Start small, and spend 20 minutes reading something different each day.
You can alternate days to get through the various textbooks, novels, newspapers, etc. that you’re reading.
If you have time and you want to, read for longer! The more hours you dedicate to becoming a Renaissance person, the farther along you’ll get on your quest.
4-2. Schedule a few hours on your off day for exercise.
Since you won’t necessarily have time to work out on days when you have a full school or workday, take advantage of down time. Plan to do your more intense workouts on those days.
Even on busy days, 10-15 minutes of exercise is better than zero minutes.
4-3. Listen to podcasts or audiobooks when you’re on the move.
Travel time can be used for learning, too! Turn your commute into a classroom by picking audio content that interests you. This’ll help you start and end your workday on the right foot.
Try NPR’s Politics Podcast for an in-depth review of the American political scene. The Skeptics’ Guide to the Universe is a fun way to learn about science, and it promotes critical thinking. The Moth is also an interesting option for those interested in literature and storytelling.
4-4. Make art instead of vegging out in front of the TV.
Since your artwork may feel like a hobby or something you do for fun, it could be harder to find time for this than for exercise or reading. Use the time you’d usually spend relaxing in front a mindless show or movie to relax productively.
4-5. Use your off-days to explore and see new things.
Renaissance people are curious and always looking for new ways to learn. Get out there and explore. When a new museum or restaurant opens up in your town, be the first through the doors.
Tips
Remember that being a Renaissance person is something that could take a lifetime. Don’t get stressed out trying to be perfectly well rounded by next Tuesday.
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Read lots of well-respected newspapers to keep aware of new and important developments happening around the world.\\nReading newspapers is also a great way to stay informed of new discoveries in science, history, and math.\\nFor English-speaking newspapers in the United States, try the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal. Look at the Guardian for a paper based in the United Kingdom.\\nIf it’s in your budget to subscribe to a daily paper, do so. If not, you can usually read several articles from popular newspapers based in the United States and elsewhere for free each month.\\n1-4. Look up lists of new and old books you should read.\\nReading teaches you new words and makes you think about the world in new and different ways. Don’t just stick to the classics, however. Go online to find suggestions of great books written both recently and a long (sometimes long, long) time ago.\\nGoodreads.com and Amazon both provide suggestion lists of books that you should read before you die. The New York Times Book Review also releases yearly “best book” picks that can keep you updated on the good new releases.\\n1-5. Get familiar with opposing points of view.\\nRenaissance people are well rounded and can think about issues from lots of different sides. If there’s a hot-button debate going on in your town, state, or country, take the time to read up on both sides. Wait until you have as much information as possible before deciding on your own position.\\nThis might require you to read sources produced by different news outlets, politicians, or experts.\\nFor example, to get a good picture of the debate about climate change, you can look at what different politicians around the world are saying and doing about the issue. Be sure to look at people from different parties. Run a Google search to find easy-to-read scientific studies. Finally, check out coverage from news outlets with different political leanings (such as Fox News and MSNBC in the U.S.).\\n1-6. Study a map of the world to think globally.\\nIf the only country you can point out on a map is your own, spend some time learning world geography. This knowledge will help you better understand global history, as well as current political conflicts and environmental concerns.\\nIt’s also a good idea to know the capitals and major cities of countries around the world.\\n1-7. Learn a new language.\\nLearn to communicate with people outside the country where you were born. Renaissance people are travelers and explorers (even if they can’t afford to actually visit other countries).\\nIf you speak another language, read a newspaper or listen to the news in that language! It’s a great way to build your skill and expose yourself to another perspective.\\n2. Staying Fit\\n2-1. Commit to an exercise plan.\\nRenaissance people spend time balancing the needs of their mind with those of their body. Stay healthy by exercising regularly. If you’ve never exercised before, now’s a great time to start! \\nTry to exercise for at least 20-30 minutes each day. Make this workout hard enough to get your heart pumping.\\nJogging is great exercise. Try going for a 20-minute jog three-four times per week, and taking a walk or hike on your off days.\\nYou may want to join a gym. This membership gives you access to lots of classes, weight rooms, and machines that could motivate you to really commit to your plan.\\n2-2. Have a healthy, balanced diet.\\nIt’s not enough to exercise. If you want to keep up good health, it’s important to eat right. Use your diet to get all the essential nutrients you need, and try to limit the good-tasting (but not-so-good-for-you) sweets.\\nStick with lean meats such as chicken and fish. Go heavy on the fruits and veggies, and make sure you’re also eating food from each food group.\\nMake your own meals instead of eating out. This will help you control exactly what you’re eating. Try simple recipes like baked chicken and spinach salad.\\n2-3. Drink plenty of water.\\nDrinking lots of water helps your body function better. It’ll keep you focused during the day. If you’re drinking water, you’re also probably avoiding unhealthy liquids like soda and sugar-filled energy drinks.\\nDrink enough water so that you’re never thirsty, or about 8 glasses of water per day.\\n2-4. Sleep for at least 8 hours each night.\\nSleep keeps stress under control, and it’s critical for good health. If you don’t get enough sleep, you’re going to feel too tired to work out. You also won’t want to go grocery shopping or cook for yourself, which could lead to a few not-so-healthy meals.\\nTo get better sleep, avoid nicotine, caffeine, and heavy foods for the last few hours before you head to bed. You should also limit your daytime naps to about 20 or 30 minutes. Try to stick to the same sleep schedule each night.\\n3. Learning about the Arts\\n3-1. 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Schedule a few hours on your off day for exercise.\\nSince you won’t necessarily have time to work out on days when you have a full school or workday, take advantage of down time. Plan to do your more intense workouts on those days.\\nEven on busy days, 10-15 minutes of exercise is better than zero minutes.\\n4-3. Listen to podcasts or audiobooks when you’re on the move.\\nTravel time can be used for learning, too! Turn your commute into a classroom by picking audio content that interests you. This’ll help you start and end your workday on the right foot.\\nTry NPR’s Politics Podcast for an in-depth review of the American political scene. The Skeptics’ Guide to the Universe is a fun way to learn about science, and it promotes critical thinking. The Moth is also an interesting option for those interested in literature and storytelling.\\n4-4. 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1. Getting Qualified in High School and College
1-1. Get on your high school's newspaper.
If you have a flair for writing and your grammar is top-shelf, be active in your school's newspaper – or any other writing program they have, for that matter. The sooner your resume starts beefing up, the better. Even if you're writing the school lunch menu, it counts.
Looking for a job in high school? Get a job at a local newspaper, even if it is sorting out their mail. When you come back home for summers, you may be looking at a promotion to something more along the lines of what you're looking for, and it'll be easy to sink into.
When your extracurriculars match up to your passion and the field you want to break into, you'll stand out as a candidate for your desired program.
1-2. Go to college with a double major, if possible.
Plenty of journalists don't have journalism degrees – if you're naturally a good writer, you've got the hard part covered. But it does make everything a bit easier, so do consider getting an undergrad in journalism...but also something else. Something else a bit more tangible (your parents might call it “practical”). This way when you write, you have an area of expertise you can actually write about.
Anything is good, but studying technology is probably best. If you know HTML, CSS, Photoshop, Javascript, and everything in between, you won't have to stay in print media (which is, to be frank, a dying art). Computer science and related fields will give you a leg up into digital media.
Landing an awesome journalism gig is hard. What's more, if you have a double major, you have a back up should you need it.
Consider getting a minor instead, if a double major is for some reason unfeasible.
1-3. Work on your campus newspaper, radio, or with other news outlets.
One of the greatest things about college is that there are so many opportunities. If you're not jiving with your campus newspaper, there's half a dozen other resources you can be a part of. Get your hands on something in line with your interests. It doesn't have to be perfect now; it just has to be a start.
There are likely groups that you don't even realize could give you writing and reporting opportunities. Many groups have newsletters and publicity people whose job is to get the name of the organization out there. That could be you.
If you're very active and involved in your community, then you'll stand out to colleges because you're so driven and work with others so well.
1-4. Take a gap year if you'd like.
Truth be told, going to college and majoring in journalism sounds like the platform you need to become a journalist, but often it's not. Having that background doesn't mean your writing is good, it doesn't mean you have interesting things to say, and it doesn't mean you have the connections you need. So take a gap year. Why? You can go abroad, find interesting stories, learn about different cultures and write about it.
This will give you great material should you be looking for freelance gigs. You'll essentially be a location reporter doing international news. What's more, the competition in the West is intense. If you go to a different country with different language and cultural skills, it'll be easier to land a gig to pad that resume.
Another plus? It'll help you learn a foreign language. When you go to apply for real adult jobs, saying you can speak another language is a definite perk.
1-5. Consider getting your MA or a postgraduate diploma in journalism.
After you've gotten your BA to set up your knowledge base and you've taken a year off to get experiences, hone your craft, and just take time to settle into the fact that yes, this is what you want to do, think about going back to school to get your master's or a postgraduate diploma. Most take 9 months to a year, but each program varies.
Remember, this isn't 100% necessary. Plenty people do it the hard way and just put in the work, building up their portfolio, and trying to make connections. If more education doesn't apply to you, don't stress. There are other ways.
Look for a program that's nationally recognized. For example, in the UK, you'd be looking for a program that's affiliated with the National Council for the Training of Journalists, or the NCTJ.
There are also shorter courses you can take affiliated with major institutions that only last a couple of months. They give you a certificate at the end, showing everyone that you have the basic skills to cut it out there in the field.
2. Starting Out in Your Career
2-1. Find an internship.
You gotta walk before you can run, you know? Spend a couple of months dedicated to finding the best internship possible – preferably one that's paying. The bigger and better the reputation of the company, the further you'll start ahead when you're looking for a full-time, salaried gig.
Most companies go on to hire from their intern pool. If you can't get a full-time paying gig initially, consider an internship to get your foot in the door.
2-2. Do some freelance writing.
A great way to build up your portfolio and to get your fingers into a lot of pies is to do freelance writing. There are hundreds of websites out there that are constantly looking for good material. Why shouldn't it be from you?
You will have to pitch ideas to various editors; they won't be handed to you. Find out the name of the editor of the department you want to work for, and shoot them an email. Link them to some of you work and give them a full-fledged picture of what you want to write. If the bait is good, they'll bite. And that's money in your pocket and possibly a byline for your name.
2-3. Keep up your digital presence.
Being a reporter anymore does not mean just writing. It means having a website, designing your blog, making videos, and being present on online. You're not just a writer, you're your own brand. This is you making yourself a full-fledged force in the journalism community.
It seems silly, but put effort into getting a following on Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, and all those other trendy websites that show the world how popular you are. The wider your digital presence, the more you will be taken seriously.
2-4. Dabble in editing and other related duties, too.
To round out your skillset, it's a good idea to do a bit of everything. It's not detracting from the job you want, it's ensuring you'll get it and keep it later. If an opportunity arises that involves photo, video, copy editing, marketing, or broadcasting, go for it. You're just making yourself more valuable to the organization you're working for now and any organization you'll work for in the future.
At certain jobs, this will be requested of you. Many journalists find themselves in one department and end up helping out their coworkers in others. You could get asked to do a radio interview, fill in for a TV broadcaster, or edit some footage for a friend who's running behind. They're great opportunities to improve your skills.
2-5. Land a job at a newspaper, magazine, radio or TV station.
Now's the moment: you're officially a tried-and-true reporter. Even if it's for a town of 3,000 people, you're still a reporter. Now you get to sit back, drink your coffee at 10 o'clock at night, and shuffle around hysterically trying to meet that deadline. Ah, the dream.
A good reporter has three kinds of source material: by researching the written record, interviewing those involved, and observing the events at hand. When at all possible, have all these sources available to make your news engaging and full of vivid detail.
Alternatively, consider an internship, which will provide valuable "field experience" and allow you to understand your industry at a deeper level.
2-6. Relocate to a larger market.
The most gigs are in concentrated, large urban areas. That means the easiest way to get the job of your dreams is to be in Los Angeles, San Francisco, Chicago, New York, London, Paris, or any other mecca of art and entertainment. While it's a good idea to start out small, know that you'll probably have to relocate at some point to truly do what you envision yourself doing.
Some people do choose to start in these larger markets, and sometimes it works for them. If you have the money and the means, it's worth giving a shot – just know you're starting out against some of the fiercest competition in the world.
2-7. Work your way up.
The more and more experience you get, the wider and wider your reputation, and the bigger and more impressive your portfolio, the more and more doors will open for you. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is your career. But with time, it will bloom.
That is, it will bloom if you're constantly looking for opportunities. Always keep your eyes peeled for the next big story and for the next big story for you. Doors don't open themselves, you know. Opportunities have to be created.
3. Honing Your Skills
3-1. Know how to get a good interview.
One time, Vivienne Leigh (the star of Gone with the Wind) was asked in an interview, "Sooo...what part are you playing?" Needless to say, the interview ended there. To get a good interview, there's work involved beforehand. Here are some basics:
Research the person you're interviewing. Know what you're interviewing them about, their interests, and even how this lines up with yours.
Dress for the occasion. If you're just meeting for coffee on a Monday morning, you can be casual. Dress how you think they'll be dressing.
Make conversation. Don't bust out your pad and paper immediately. Be friendly and casual. This way you'll get to their true personality, not some papered version of them.
3-2. Constantly improve your writing.
This doesn't only mean your writing should get better and better (though it should), it also means your writing should get more and more adaptable. Imagine if the writers for Saturday Night Live wrote the New York Times. Different platforms require different skills. Yours should be as varied.
This means when there's an opening in the broadcasting department of a local TV station, you're on it, because you've got the writing skills. But when there's a position coming available as an editor of a local magazine, you can do that, too. Most people can't.
3-3. Get comfortable with all aspects of reporting.
It's well into the 21st century now – reporters aren't just writing: they're tweeting, blogging, making videos, and going on air. They're maintaining a news presence 24/7 and always reading what others are writing, too. To stay viable, it's necessary. Devote your "free time" to these ideas to fully immerse yourself in the world of journalism.
3-4. Establish relationships with others in the business.
Just as with any industry, a lot of the time it's about who you know, not what you know. With each job you take (even if it's sorting mail), take advantage of the relationships you have there. Get to know people. Make friends. Your career may depend on them later.
A large part of this industry is truly about being relate-able and friendly. You have to be friendly to make connections, friendly with interviews, and relate-able on TV and through the written word. In short, people have to like you. Which brings us to...
4. Having the Personality
4-1. Get a rush from crazy hours and a crazy schedule.
Often being a reporter doesn't mean your boss determines your hours, the news determines your hours. When a big story breaks, you've got to be on it. Time is of the essence and it can be rapid-fire. If this type of thing thrills you, you're perfect for the job.
Your schedule over time will be a little wacky, too. You'll end up working over holidays, weekends, in the middle of the night – and then sometimes there will be slumps where it feels like nothing is going on. This is just how it is. There isn't anything quite like it.
4-2. Handle the limelight (and the criticism) with grace.
Whenever your name gets put into a print and something is associated with it, someone is likely to get in an uproar about it. Whether it's good publicity or bad publicity, it's important to stay well-grounded, down-to-earth, and positive. With time, it'll just brush off your shoulders.
The Internet is the world's greatest platform for negative comments. It's important to realize that everyone has different opinions and not everyone is going to agree with you. Take others' words with a grain of salt. If your company likes your work, you're probably okay.
4-3. Develop ways to cope with stress.
In a recent report, "journalist" was the "worst career" one could choose. Why's that? Well, considering how much stress you're under, it does not pay well enough. There likely won't be six figures on that paycheck of yours to justify the insane schedule and the negative criticism, so you'll have to develop ways to cope. If it's your dream, it's worth it.
Be sure to always be conscious of your stress levels. If you feel it building up, add yoga, meditation, or even a night devoted to a glass of wine and a good book to your routine. If you're stressed, your work life and your home life will suffer, so it's best avoided.
4-4. Know how you come off.
Especially if you're on TV, though also if you're in print, it's incredibly important to know how you're viewed. This can change what you say, how you say it, and, in the end, make you a more successful journalist.
Ideally, you're aiming for straightforward, likeable, and articulate, amongst other positive qualities. And the only way to work on your weak spots is if you know what they are. The more self-awareness you have, the easier it will be to tweak your performance.
4-5. Be courageous, relentless, and open-minded.
It takes a very specific kind of person to be a great journalist. It's hard work and most people aren't cut out for it. Here are just a few qualities a successful journalist has – do you have them, too?
They are courageous. They need to seek out a story, taking risks with interviews and publishing their name to a piece they know not everyone will like.
They are relentless. A story doesn't develop on its own. They often do months of research just for one idea.
They are open-minded. A good news story comes from an angle that hasn't been explored. To see that angle, they think outside of the box.
Tips
If you're a student, school newspapers are a great chance to see if you'd really like this job.
Warnings
Reporters always say the truth. Don't lie or cheat in your articles; you could even face legal consequences.
Don't think it'll take a day to become a reporter; it takes patience and hard work.
Don't badger people to interview them just because you want to realize your dream!
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But it does make everything a bit easier, so do consider getting an undergrad in journalism...but also something else. Something else a bit more tangible (your parents might call it “practical”). This way when you write, you have an area of expertise you can actually write about.\\nAnything is good, but studying technology is probably best. If you know HTML, CSS, Photoshop, Javascript, and everything in between, you won't have to stay in print media (which is, to be frank, a dying art). Computer science and related fields will give you a leg up into digital media.\\nLanding an awesome journalism gig is hard. What's more, if you have a double major, you have a back up should you need it.\\nConsider getting a minor instead, if a double major is for some reason unfeasible.\\n1-3. Work on your campus newspaper, radio, or with other news outlets.\\nOne of the greatest things about college is that there are so many opportunities. If you're not jiving with your campus newspaper, there's half a dozen other resources you can be a part of. Get your hands on something in line with your interests. It doesn't have to be perfect now; it just has to be a start.\\nThere are likely groups that you don't even realize could give you writing and reporting opportunities. Many groups have newsletters and publicity people whose job is to get the name of the organization out there. That could be you.\\nIf you're very active and involved in your community, then you'll stand out to colleges because you're so driven and work with others so well.\\n1-4. Take a gap year if you'd like.\\nTruth be told, going to college and majoring in journalism sounds like the platform you need to become a journalist, but often it's not. Having that background doesn't mean your writing is good, it doesn't mean you have interesting things to say, and it doesn't mean you have the connections you need. So take a gap year. Why? You can go abroad, find interesting stories, learn about different cultures and write about it.\\nThis will give you great material should you be looking for freelance gigs. You'll essentially be a location reporter doing international news. What's more, the competition in the West is intense. If you go to a different country with different language and cultural skills, it'll be easier to land a gig to pad that resume.\\nAnother plus? It'll help you learn a foreign language. When you go to apply for real adult jobs, saying you can speak another language is a definite perk.\\n1-5. Consider getting your MA or a postgraduate diploma in journalism.\\nAfter you've gotten your BA to set up your knowledge base and you've taken a year off to get experiences, hone your craft, and just take time to settle into the fact that yes, this is what you want to do, think about going back to school to get your master's or a postgraduate diploma. Most take 9 months to a year, but each program varies.\\nRemember, this isn't 100% necessary. Plenty people do it the hard way and just put in the work, building up their portfolio, and trying to make connections. If more education doesn't apply to you, don't stress. There are other ways.\\nLook for a program that's nationally recognized. For example, in the UK, you'd be looking for a program that's affiliated with the National Council for the Training of Journalists, or the NCTJ.\\nThere are also shorter courses you can take affiliated with major institutions that only last a couple of months. They give you a certificate at the end, showing everyone that you have the basic skills to cut it out there in the field.\\n2. Starting Out in Your Career\\n2-1. Find an internship.\\nYou gotta walk before you can run, you know? Spend a couple of months dedicated to finding the best internship possible – preferably one that's paying. The bigger and better the reputation of the company, the further you'll start ahead when you're looking for a full-time, salaried gig.\\nMost companies go on to hire from their intern pool. If you can't get a full-time paying gig initially, consider an internship to get your foot in the door.\\n2-2. Do some freelance writing.\\nA great way to build up your portfolio and to get your fingers into a lot of pies is to do freelance writing. There are hundreds of websites out there that are constantly looking for good material. Why shouldn't it be from you?\\nYou will have to pitch ideas to various editors; they won't be handed to you. Find out the name of the editor of the department you want to work for, and shoot them an email. Link them to some of you work and give them a full-fledged picture of what you want to write. If the bait is good, they'll bite. And that's money in your pocket and possibly a byline for your name.\\n2-3. Keep up your digital presence.\\nBeing a reporter anymore does not mean just writing. It means having a website, designing your blog, making videos, and being present on online. You're not just a writer, you're your own brand. This is you making yourself a full-fledged force in the journalism community.\\nIt seems silly, but put effort into getting a following on Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, and all those other trendy websites that show the world how popular you are. The wider your digital presence, the more you will be taken seriously.\\n2-4. Dabble in editing and other related duties, too.\\nTo round out your skillset, it's a good idea to do a bit of everything. It's not detracting from the job you want, it's ensuring you'll get it and keep it later. If an opportunity arises that involves photo, video, copy editing, marketing, or broadcasting, go for it. You're just making yourself more valuable to the organization you're working for now and any organization you'll work for in the future.\\nAt certain jobs, this will be requested of you. Many journalists find themselves in one department and end up helping out their coworkers in others. You could get asked to do a radio interview, fill in for a TV broadcaster, or edit some footage for a friend who's running behind. They're great opportunities to improve your skills.\\n2-5. Land a job at a newspaper, magazine, radio or TV station.\\nNow's the moment: you're officially a tried-and-true reporter. Even if it's for a town of 3,000 people, you're still a reporter. Now you get to sit back, drink your coffee at 10 o'clock at night, and shuffle around hysterically trying to meet that deadline. Ah, the dream.\\nA good reporter has three kinds of source material: by researching the written record, interviewing those involved, and observing the events at hand. When at all possible, have all these sources available to make your news engaging and full of vivid detail.\\nAlternatively, consider an internship, which will provide valuable \\\"field experience\\\" and allow you to understand your industry at a deeper level.\\n2-6. Relocate to a larger market.\\nThe most gigs are in concentrated, large urban areas. That means the easiest way to get the job of your dreams is to be in Los Angeles, San Francisco, Chicago, New York, London, Paris, or any other mecca of art and entertainment. While it's a good idea to start out small, know that you'll probably have to relocate at some point to truly do what you envision yourself doing.\\nSome people do choose to start in these larger markets, and sometimes it works for them. If you have the money and the means, it's worth giving a shot – just know you're starting out against some of the fiercest competition in the world.\\n2-7. Work your way up.\\nThe more and more experience you get, the wider and wider your reputation, and the bigger and more impressive your portfolio, the more and more doors will open for you. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is your career. But with time, it will bloom.\\nThat is, it will bloom if you're constantly looking for opportunities. Always keep your eyes peeled for the next big story and for the next big story for you. Doors don't open themselves, you know. Opportunities have to be created.\\n3. Honing Your Skills\\n3-1. Know how to get a good interview.\\nOne time, Vivienne Leigh (the star of Gone with the Wind) was asked in an interview, \\\"Sooo...what part are you playing?\\\" Needless to say, the interview ended there. To get a good interview, there's work involved beforehand. Here are some basics:\\nResearch the person you're interviewing. Know what you're interviewing them about, their interests, and even how this lines up with yours.\\nDress for the occasion. If you're just meeting for coffee on a Monday morning, you can be casual. Dress how you think they'll be dressing.\\nMake conversation. Don't bust out your pad and paper immediately. Be friendly and casual. This way you'll get to their true personality, not some papered version of them.\\n3-2. Constantly improve your writing.\\nThis doesn't only mean your writing should get better and better (though it should), it also means your writing should get more and more adaptable. Imagine if the writers for Saturday Night Live wrote the New York Times. Different platforms require different skills. Yours should be as varied.\\nThis means when there's an opening in the broadcasting department of a local TV station, you're on it, because you've got the writing skills. But when there's a position coming available as an editor of a local magazine, you can do that, too. Most people can't.\\n3-3. Get comfortable with all aspects of reporting.\\nIt's well into the 21st century now – reporters aren't just writing: they're tweeting, blogging, making videos, and going on air. They're maintaining a news presence 24/7 and always reading what others are writing, too. To stay viable, it's necessary. Devote your \\\"free time\\\" to these ideas to fully immerse yourself in the world of journalism.\\n3-4. Establish relationships with others in the business.\\nJust as with any industry, a lot of the time it's about who you know, not what you know. With each job you take (even if it's sorting mail), take advantage of the relationships you have there. Get to know people. Make friends. Your career may depend on them later.\\nA large part of this industry is truly about being relate-able and friendly. You have to be friendly to make connections, friendly with interviews, and relate-able on TV and through the written word. In short, people have to like you. Which brings us to...\\n4. Having the Personality\\n4-1. Get a rush from crazy hours and a crazy schedule.\\nOften being a reporter doesn't mean your boss determines your hours, the news determines your hours. When a big story breaks, you've got to be on it. Time is of the essence and it can be rapid-fire. If this type of thing thrills you, you're perfect for the job.\\nYour schedule over time will be a little wacky, too. You'll end up working over holidays, weekends, in the middle of the night – and then sometimes there will be slumps where it feels like nothing is going on. This is just how it is. There isn't anything quite like it.\\n4-2. Handle the limelight (and the criticism) with grace.\\nWhenever your name gets put into a print and something is associated with it, someone is likely to get in an uproar about it. Whether it's good publicity or bad publicity, it's important to stay well-grounded, down-to-earth, and positive. With time, it'll just brush off your shoulders.\\nThe Internet is the world's greatest platform for negative comments. It's important to realize that everyone has different opinions and not everyone is going to agree with you. Take others' words with a grain of salt. If your company likes your work, you're probably okay.\\n4-3. Develop ways to cope with stress.\\nIn a recent report, \\\"journalist\\\" was the \\\"worst career\\\" one could choose. Why's that? Well, considering how much stress you're under, it does not pay well enough. There likely won't be six figures on that paycheck of yours to justify the insane schedule and the negative criticism, so you'll have to develop ways to cope. If it's your dream, it's worth it.\\nBe sure to always be conscious of your stress levels. If you feel it building up, add yoga, meditation, or even a night devoted to a glass of wine and a good book to your routine. If you're stressed, your work life and your home life will suffer, so it's best avoided.\\n4-4. Know how you come off.\\nEspecially if you're on TV, though also if you're in print, it's incredibly important to know how you're viewed. This can change what you say, how you say it, and, in the end, make you a more successful journalist.\\nIdeally, you're aiming for straightforward, likeable, and articulate, amongst other positive qualities. And the only way to work on your weak spots is if you know what they are. The more self-awareness you have, the easier it will be to tweak your performance.\\n4-5. Be courageous, relentless, and open-minded.\\nIt takes a very specific kind of person to be a great journalist. It's hard work and most people aren't cut out for it. Here are just a few qualities a successful journalist has – do you have them, too?\\nThey are courageous. They need to seek out a story, taking risks with interviews and publishing their name to a piece they know not everyone will like.\\nThey are relentless. A story doesn't develop on its own. They often do months of research just for one idea.\\nThey are open-minded. A good news story comes from an angle that hasn't been explored. To see that angle, they think outside of the box.\\nTips\\nIf you're a student, school newspapers are a great chance to see if you'd really like this job.\\nWarnings\\nReporters always say the truth. Don't lie or cheat in your articles; you could even face legal consequences.\\nDon't think it'll take a day to become a reporter; it takes patience and hard work.\\nDon't badger people to interview them just because you want to realize your dream!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a reporter encompasses so many things. You could be the face of a news station, a regular contributor to a magazine or newspaper, or you could be tweeting and blogging as your own brand of news sourcing. If any and all of this sounds good to you, with a little hard work it could be your future.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Qualified in High School and College\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get on your high school's newspaper.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a flair for writing and your grammar is top-shelf, be active in your school's newspaper – or any other writing program they have, for that matter. The sooner your resume starts beefing up, the better. Even if you're writing the school lunch menu, it counts.\\nLooking for a job in high school? Get a job at a local newspaper, even if it is sorting out their mail. When you come back home for summers, you may be looking at a promotion to something more along the lines of what you're looking for, and it'll be easy to sink into.\\nWhen your extracurriculars match up to your passion and the field you want to break into, you'll stand out as a candidate for your desired program.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go to college with a double major, if possible.\", \"描述\": \"Plenty of journalists don't have journalism degrees – if you're naturally a good writer, you've got the hard part covered. But it does make everything a bit easier, so do consider getting an undergrad in journalism...but also something else. Something else a bit more tangible (your parents might call it “practical”). This way when you write, you have an area of expertise you can actually write about.\\nAnything is good, but studying technology is probably best. If you know HTML, CSS, Photoshop, Javascript, and everything in between, you won't have to stay in print media (which is, to be frank, a dying art). Computer science and related fields will give you a leg up into digital media.\\nLanding an awesome journalism gig is hard. What's more, if you have a double major, you have a back up should you need it.\\nConsider getting a minor instead, if a double major is for some reason unfeasible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work on your campus newspaper, radio, or with other news outlets.\", \"描述\": \"One of the greatest things about college is that there are so many opportunities. If you're not jiving with your campus newspaper, there's half a dozen other resources you can be a part of. Get your hands on something in line with your interests. It doesn't have to be perfect now; it just has to be a start.\\nThere are likely groups that you don't even realize could give you writing and reporting opportunities. Many groups have newsletters and publicity people whose job is to get the name of the organization out there. That could be you.\\nIf you're very active and involved in your community, then you'll stand out to colleges because you're so driven and work with others so well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take a gap year if you'd like.\", \"描述\": \"Truth be told, going to college and majoring in journalism sounds like the platform you need to become a journalist, but often it's not. Having that background doesn't mean your writing is good, it doesn't mean you have interesting things to say, and it doesn't mean you have the connections you need. So take a gap year. Why? You can go abroad, find interesting stories, learn about different cultures and write about it.\\nThis will give you great material should you be looking for freelance gigs. You'll essentially be a location reporter doing international news. What's more, the competition in the West is intense. If you go to a different country with different language and cultural skills, it'll be easier to land a gig to pad that resume.\\nAnother plus? It'll help you learn a foreign language. When you go to apply for real adult jobs, saying you can speak another language is a definite perk.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider getting your MA or a postgraduate diploma in journalism.\", \"描述\": \"After you've gotten your BA to set up your knowledge base and you've taken a year off to get experiences, hone your craft, and just take time to settle into the fact that yes, this is what you want to do, think about going back to school to get your master's or a postgraduate diploma. Most take 9 months to a year, but each program varies.\\nRemember, this isn't 100% necessary. Plenty people do it the hard way and just put in the work, building up their portfolio, and trying to make connections. If more education doesn't apply to you, don't stress. 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If you can't get a full-time paying gig initially, consider an internship to get your foot in the door.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do some freelance writing.\", \"描述\": \"A great way to build up your portfolio and to get your fingers into a lot of pies is to do freelance writing. There are hundreds of websites out there that are constantly looking for good material. Why shouldn't it be from you?\\nYou will have to pitch ideas to various editors; they won't be handed to you. Find out the name of the editor of the department you want to work for, and shoot them an email. Link them to some of you work and give them a full-fledged picture of what you want to write. If the bait is good, they'll bite. And that's money in your pocket and possibly a byline for your name.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep up your digital presence.\", \"描述\": \"Being a reporter anymore does not mean just writing. It means having a website, designing your blog, making videos, and being present on online. You're not just a writer, you're your own brand. This is you making yourself a full-fledged force in the journalism community.\\nIt seems silly, but put effort into getting a following on Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, and all those other trendy websites that show the world how popular you are. The wider your digital presence, the more you will be taken seriously.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dabble in editing and other related duties, too.\", \"描述\": \"To round out your skillset, it's a good idea to do a bit of everything. It's not detracting from the job you want, it's ensuring you'll get it and keep it later. If an opportunity arises that involves photo, video, copy editing, marketing, or broadcasting, go for it. You're just making yourself more valuable to the organization you're working for now and any organization you'll work for in the future.\\nAt certain jobs, this will be requested of you. Many journalists find themselves in one department and end up helping out their coworkers in others. You could get asked to do a radio interview, fill in for a TV broadcaster, or edit some footage for a friend who's running behind. They're great opportunities to improve your skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Land a job at a newspaper, magazine, radio or TV station.\", \"描述\": \"Now's the moment: you're officially a tried-and-true reporter. Even if it's for a town of 3,000 people, you're still a reporter. Now you get to sit back, drink your coffee at 10 o'clock at night, and shuffle around hysterically trying to meet that deadline. Ah, the dream.\\nA good reporter has three kinds of source material: by researching the written record, interviewing those involved, and observing the events at hand. When at all possible, have all these sources available to make your news engaging and full of vivid detail.\\nAlternatively, consider an internship, which will provide valuable \\\"field experience\\\" and allow you to understand your industry at a deeper level.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Relocate to a larger market.\", \"描述\": \"The most gigs are in concentrated, large urban areas. That means the easiest way to get the job of your dreams is to be in Los Angeles, San Francisco, Chicago, New York, London, Paris, or any other mecca of art and entertainment. While it's a good idea to start out small, know that you'll probably have to relocate at some point to truly do what you envision yourself doing.\\nSome people do choose to start in these larger markets, and sometimes it works for them. If you have the money and the means, it's worth giving a shot – just know you're starting out against some of the fiercest competition in the world.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Work your way up.\", \"描述\": \"The more and more experience you get, the wider and wider your reputation, and the bigger and more impressive your portfolio, the more and more doors will open for you. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is your career. But with time, it will bloom.\\nThat is, it will bloom if you're constantly looking for opportunities. Always keep your eyes peeled for the next big story and for the next big story for you. Doors don't open themselves, you know. Opportunities have to be created.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Honing Your Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know how to get a good interview.\", \"描述\": \"One time, Vivienne Leigh (the star of Gone with the Wind) was asked in an interview, \\\"Sooo...what part are you playing?\\\" Needless to say, the interview ended there. To get a good interview, there's work involved beforehand. Here are some basics:\\nResearch the person you're interviewing. Know what you're interviewing them about, their interests, and even how this lines up with yours.\\nDress for the occasion. If you're just meeting for coffee on a Monday morning, you can be casual. Dress how you think they'll be dressing.\\nMake conversation. Don't bust out your pad and paper immediately. Be friendly and casual. This way you'll get to their true personality, not some papered version of them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Constantly improve your writing.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't only mean your writing should get better and better (though it should), it also means your writing should get more and more adaptable. Imagine if the writers for Saturday Night Live wrote the New York Times. Different platforms require different skills. Yours should be as varied.\\nThis means when there's an opening in the broadcasting department of a local TV station, you're on it, because you've got the writing skills. But when there's a position coming available as an editor of a local magazine, you can do that, too. Most people can't.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get comfortable with all aspects of reporting.\", \"描述\": \"It's well into the 21st century now – reporters aren't just writing: they're tweeting, blogging, making videos, and going on air. They're maintaining a news presence 24/7 and always reading what others are writing, too. To stay viable, it's necessary. Devote your \\\"free time\\\" to these ideas to fully immerse yourself in the world of journalism.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Establish relationships with others in the business.\", \"描述\": \"Just as with any industry, a lot of the time it's about who you know, not what you know. With each job you take (even if it's sorting mail), take advantage of the relationships you have there. Get to know people. Make friends. Your career may depend on them later.\\nA large part of this industry is truly about being relate-able and friendly. You have to be friendly to make connections, friendly with interviews, and relate-able on TV and through the written word. In short, people have to like you. Which brings us to...\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Having the Personality\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a rush from crazy hours and a crazy schedule.\", \"描述\": \"Often being a reporter doesn't mean your boss determines your hours, the news determines your hours. When a big story breaks, you've got to be on it. Time is of the essence and it can be rapid-fire. If this type of thing thrills you, you're perfect for the job.\\nYour schedule over time will be a little wacky, too. You'll end up working over holidays, weekends, in the middle of the night – and then sometimes there will be slumps where it feels like nothing is going on. This is just how it is. There isn't anything quite like it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Handle the limelight (and the criticism) with grace.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever your name gets put into a print and something is associated with it, someone is likely to get in an uproar about it. Whether it's good publicity or bad publicity, it's important to stay well-grounded, down-to-earth, and positive. With time, it'll just brush off your shoulders.\\nThe Internet is the world's greatest platform for negative comments. It's important to realize that everyone has different opinions and not everyone is going to agree with you. Take others' words with a grain of salt. If your company likes your work, you're probably okay.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Develop ways to cope with stress.\", \"描述\": \"In a recent report, \\\"journalist\\\" was the \\\"worst career\\\" one could choose. Why's that? Well, considering how much stress you're under, it does not pay well enough. There likely won't be six figures on that paycheck of yours to justify the insane schedule and the negative criticism, so you'll have to develop ways to cope. If it's your dream, it's worth it.\\nBe sure to always be conscious of your stress levels. If you feel it building up, add yoga, meditation, or even a night devoted to a glass of wine and a good book to your routine. If you're stressed, your work life and your home life will suffer, so it's best avoided.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know how you come off.\", \"描述\": \"Especially if you're on TV, though also if you're in print, it's incredibly important to know how you're viewed. This can change what you say, how you say it, and, in the end, make you a more successful journalist.\\nIdeally, you're aiming for straightforward, likeable, and articulate, amongst other positive qualities. And the only way to work on your weak spots is if you know what they are. The more self-awareness you have, the easier it will be to tweak your performance.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be courageous, relentless, and open-minded.\", \"描述\": \"It takes a very specific kind of person to be a great journalist. It's hard work and most people aren't cut out for it. Here are just a few qualities a successful journalist has – do you have them, too?\\nThey are courageous. They need to seek out a story, taking risks with interviews and publishing their name to a piece they know not everyone will like.\\nThey are relentless. A story doesn't develop on its own. They often do months of research just for one idea.\\nThey are open-minded. A good news story comes from an angle that hasn't been explored. To see that angle, they think outside of the box.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you're a student, school newspapers are a great chance to see if you'd really like this job.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Reporters always say the truth. Don't lie or cheat in your articles; you could even face legal consequences.\\n\", \"Don't think it'll take a day to become a reporter; it takes patience and hard work.\\n\", \"Don't badger people to interview them just because you want to realize your dream!\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Getting the Necessary Experience and Skills
1-1. Earn at least 40 undergraduate credits.
To become an RA, you must first earn at least 40 undergraduate credits at your chosen university or college. Many RAs start off as first year undergraduate students and then apply for the position for the second year of their degree. Doing one year of full time classes will allow you to earn the required credits for the position.
Some institutions may require less undergraduate credits to apply for the position. Check the listed requirements for the position to determine the number of credits you will need to apply.
Most institutions will require you to have a cumulative G.P.A. of 2.75 at the time of your application. The G.P.A. requirements may vary based on your institution’s requirements for RAs, so be sure to check their specific guidelines.
You may also be required to live in student housing for at least one year in order to apply to be an RA. This could be a dormitory or other student housing on campus. Living for one year in student housing will allow you to get a good sense of the atmosphere of student housing and make connections with your peers.
1-2. Learn the key tasks and expectations of the position.
As an RA, you will be expected to develop community spirit in the residence halls by creating or adding to social programs and events for students. You will also need to be willing to lay down the law when necessary and report any incidents or issues among residents. In your role, you will act as a source of information for students and perform administrative tasks.
As an RA, you will need to attend weekly staff meetings and hold regular floor meetings with the residents. You will also need to post information relating to the residence hall on bulletin boards or online forums.
You will also need to be knowledgeable about the institution’s policies and procedures as well as campus resources.
1-3. Note the interpersonal aspects of the position.
RAs are also expected to be the leaders or role models in the residence halls. You will need to be comfortable with being a role model and enforcing the rules of the residence hall. The position is very interpersonal, as you will need to be willing to respond to student issues and conflicts in a professional, helpful way.
Another key aspect of the position is developing community in the residence hall. This means you must make an effort to connect with the residents and get students involved in social events in the residence hall. You will act as a leader in building community spirit and creating connections between residents in the hall.
You should also have good listening and communication skills, as you will need to take the time to talk and listen to the residents. You will be expected to get to know the residents and create social programs or events for them.
1-4. Understand the “on-duty” tasks of the position.
As an RA, you will be expected to perform several “on-duty” tasks. You may be required to be on-duty as a staff member for a set number of days in the semester, depending on your institution’s requirements. When you are on-duty, you will need to be on campus or close to campus so you can be easy to locate in the event of an issue.
When you are on-duty, you will need to be prepared to respond to any emergencies or incidents in the residence halls and be able to mediate and resolve any conflicts among the residents. For example, you may need to respond to students who are over-intoxicated. You may also need to mediate physical or verbal altercations between residents.
You will also need to write up and submit incident reports for any issues you addressed as an RA when on-duty.
1-5. Be prepared to mediate any issues or conflicts.
As an RA, you will also need to be prepared to mediate any conflicts or issues in the residence hall. You will need to act as the problem solver, the listener, and the mediator for students. When a resident has a dispute with another resident or an issue with the residence hall, they will likely come to you. It is your job to be a good listener and work with them to come up with a good solution.
You may end up dealing with mental crises as well, such as residents who struggle with depression, drug addiction, eating disorders, or alcohol poisoning. You may need to contact your supervisor or speak to a counselor to get advice on how to handle these mental issues with students.
Keep in mind you may end up being the bad guy in certain situations, especially when you have to lay down the law and deal with a resident’s poor behavior. This is to be expected and considered part of your job. You are not there to judge anyone, only to enforce the rules of the residence hall and make living in the dorm enjoyable for everyone.
1-6. Keep in mind the perks of being an RA.
Being an RA is a job, and like any job, you will need to dedicate time and hard work to the position. But there are several perks to being an RA and they could make the position worth pursuing. You should weigh the perks of the position against the expectations of the position to ensure it is the right fit for you.
As an RA, you will have your own private room, paid for in full or partially by the institution during your time of employment. Depending on the institution, you may also receive a monthly stipend.
You also get experience as a mentor in higher education and learn how to be a good role model to students. These perks may be ideal if you are planning on pursuing a career in higher education and/or working with young people. Having RA experience on your resume can look good to potential employers.
2. Applying for the Position
2-1. Complete the application.
Depending on your institution, you may apply for the position through an online application or by dropping off an application in person. You should check the deadline for the application, which may vary from November to January, depending on your institution.
You will need to submit a cover letter and a resume as part of your application. Make sure you emphasize any leadership roles or mentoring roles you have held in the past, through an employer or in a volunteer position. You should also include any positions or roles that demonstrate your organizational skills and your communication skills.
You may need two professional references as part of your application. Try to choose references who can vouch for your leadership skills and your ability to be responsible and accountable.
2-2. Prepare for the interview
Once your application is processed, you may be called in for an interview for the position. You should be well prepared for the interview so it goes well and you can put your best self forward. Make sure you understand the expectations of the position and feel confident that you can fulfill many, if not all, of them.
You should also be dressed appropriately, appearing well groomed and put together. Your overall appearance should be neat and clean. You should bring an extra copy of your resume and cover letter as well as a copy of your references.
You should be prepared to field questions about your leadership skills and your people skills. You may have to answer questions about how you would handle a conflict between residents and how you would get residents engaged in community events or programs.
Try to project open body language, where you maintain eye contact with the interviewer and position your body towards them. You should nod and smile to show them you are listening and try to answer any of their questions concisely and clearly. Make sure you ask any follow up questions you may have to show you are engaged and interested.
2-3. Get the training schedule.
If your interview goes well, you may be invited to do training for the RA position. Training for the position will likely be mandatory and may be scheduled during the summer, so be prepared to sacrifice your summertime to get ready for the position.
The training process for RAs is often extensive and detailed. This will ensure you are well-prepared for the role and do not feel overwhelmed or stressed in your new position.
3. Doing Well in the Position
3-1. Make yourself available to students.
As an RA, you will be expected to be available for students who live in the residence hall as much as possible. Issues, conflicts, and incidents could occur at any moment, and it is your job address them. You may end up spending a lot of time in your dorm room or in the residence hall, when you are not in class, so you can be available for residents. You should be prepared to make yourself available for students and be willing to engage with students on a regular basis.
You may end up creating a “Where am I?” board on your door so students know where you are and how they can reach you. This will allow you to let students know if you are “available”, “in class”, “at a meeting”, “asleep”, or “out of the room.”
3-2. Try to be a good role model.
You will be expected to follow the rules of the residence hall and set a good example for the residents. You should act like a leader and a good role model by always following the rules in the dorm and following protocol. This is a major requirement of the position and you should try to act like a good role model whenever possible.
Bear in mind that though you are expected to be a good role model, you are also human. Though you may try to always set a good example, you may make mistakes. You may forget a meeting with a resident or accidentally screw up some paperwork. If this happens, apologize, make amends, and move forward. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to always be perfect, because you likely won’t be and that’s okay.
3-3. Plan engaging events and programs.
You will also be responsible for planning social events and programs in the residence hall to create a sense of community and connection. This could be fun, get to know you events like a “mocktail hour” event or an ice cream social in the residence hall. You may also plan events that relate to the institution directly, such as a homecoming football game party or a first week of class hang out. You will be responsible for making the events fun and engaging to students.
Keep in mind it may be challenging to get students to participate in events and programming, especially if they are overwhelmed with school and other commitments. You may need to be a bit of a cheerleader and rally students to participate in events you are planning.
You should also ask your residents what they would like to as an event or program. Making events that fit their needs and wants could bring up the level attendance and the amount of fun they have.
3-4. Avoid playing favorites.
You may end up making friends with residents, especially if you are in the same age range and spend so much time living together. It’s natural that you may make friends and having close relationships with residents is a good thing. But you should be wary of playing favorites and showing preference for a particular resident because you are friends. Try to stay impartial and fair as an RA.
Remember that if your friendship with a resident is really meaningful and real, they will respect your position as the RA. You should be friendly and open to all residents in the dorm, but you should also try to maintain a certain boundary so you do not end up showing preference to certain residents.
3-5. Practice self-care and get support from your staff.
Being an RA can be stressful, especially if you are also trying to balance a full course load and other commitments. You should make sure you practice self-care as an RA and try to devote some time to yourself. This may be a quick nap between classes and on-duty time as an RA. Or you may try to read alone in your room with the door closed for 10-15 minutes before bed to get some "you" time. Fitting self-care into your schedule will be an important part of staying calm and balanced as an RA.
You should also get support from the other staff in the residence hall. This could be other RAs on your floor or your supervisor. Reach out to them if you need help with a resident issue or if you just want to destress and blow off steam after a long day.
You should lean on the resources offered at the university as well. Get in touch with the Residence Dean if you have a resident issue you cannot handle on your own or if you feel you need some guidance as an RA.
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This could be a dormitory or other student housing on campus. Living for one year in student housing will allow you to get a good sense of the atmosphere of student housing and make connections with your peers.\\n1-2. Learn the key tasks and expectations of the position.\\nAs an RA, you will be expected to develop community spirit in the residence halls by creating or adding to social programs and events for students. You will also need to be willing to lay down the law when necessary and report any incidents or issues among residents. In your role, you will act as a source of information for students and perform administrative tasks.\\nAs an RA, you will need to attend weekly staff meetings and hold regular floor meetings with the residents. You will also need to post information relating to the residence hall on bulletin boards or online forums.\\nYou will also need to be knowledgeable about the institution’s policies and procedures as well as campus resources.\\n1-3. Note the interpersonal aspects of the position.\\nRAs are also expected to be the leaders or role models in the residence halls. You will need to be comfortable with being a role model and enforcing the rules of the residence hall. The position is very interpersonal, as you will need to be willing to respond to student issues and conflicts in a professional, helpful way.\\nAnother key aspect of the position is developing community in the residence hall. This means you must make an effort to connect with the residents and get students involved in social events in the residence hall. You will act as a leader in building community spirit and creating connections between residents in the hall.\\nYou should also have good listening and communication skills, as you will need to take the time to talk and listen to the residents. You will be expected to get to know the residents and create social programs or events for them.\\n1-4. Understand the “on-duty” tasks of the position.\\nAs an RA, you will be expected to perform several “on-duty” tasks. You may be required to be on-duty as a staff member for a set number of days in the semester, depending on your institution’s requirements. When you are on-duty, you will need to be on campus or close to campus so you can be easy to locate in the event of an issue.\\nWhen you are on-duty, you will need to be prepared to respond to any emergencies or incidents in the residence halls and be able to mediate and resolve any conflicts among the residents. For example, you may need to respond to students who are over-intoxicated. You may also need to mediate physical or verbal altercations between residents.\\nYou will also need to write up and submit incident reports for any issues you addressed as an RA when on-duty.\\n1-5. Be prepared to mediate any issues or conflicts.\\nAs an RA, you will also need to be prepared to mediate any conflicts or issues in the residence hall. You will need to act as the problem solver, the listener, and the mediator for students. When a resident has a dispute with another resident or an issue with the residence hall, they will likely come to you. It is your job to be a good listener and work with them to come up with a good solution.\\nYou may end up dealing with mental crises as well, such as residents who struggle with depression, drug addiction, eating disorders, or alcohol poisoning. You may need to contact your supervisor or speak to a counselor to get advice on how to handle these mental issues with students.\\nKeep in mind you may end up being the bad guy in certain situations, especially when you have to lay down the law and deal with a resident’s poor behavior. This is to be expected and considered part of your job. You are not there to judge anyone, only to enforce the rules of the residence hall and make living in the dorm enjoyable for everyone.\\n1-6. Keep in mind the perks of being an RA.\\nBeing an RA is a job, and like any job, you will need to dedicate time and hard work to the position. But there are several perks to being an RA and they could make the position worth pursuing. You should weigh the perks of the position against the expectations of the position to ensure it is the right fit for you.\\nAs an RA, you will have your own private room, paid for in full or partially by the institution during your time of employment. Depending on the institution, you may also receive a monthly stipend.\\nYou also get experience as a mentor in higher education and learn how to be a good role model to students. These perks may be ideal if you are planning on pursuing a career in higher education and/or working with young people. Having RA experience on your resume can look good to potential employers.\\n2. Applying for the Position\\n2-1. Complete the application.\\nDepending on your institution, you may apply for the position through an online application or by dropping off an application in person. You should check the deadline for the application, which may vary from November to January, depending on your institution.\\nYou will need to submit a cover letter and a resume as part of your application. Make sure you emphasize any leadership roles or mentoring roles you have held in the past, through an employer or in a volunteer position. You should also include any positions or roles that demonstrate your organizational skills and your communication skills.\\nYou may need two professional references as part of your application. Try to choose references who can vouch for your leadership skills and your ability to be responsible and accountable.\\n2-2. Prepare for the interview\\nOnce your application is processed, you may be called in for an interview for the position. You should be well prepared for the interview so it goes well and you can put your best self forward. Make sure you understand the expectations of the position and feel confident that you can fulfill many, if not all, of them.\\nYou should also be dressed appropriately, appearing well groomed and put together. Your overall appearance should be neat and clean. You should bring an extra copy of your resume and cover letter as well as a copy of your references.\\nYou should be prepared to field questions about your leadership skills and your people skills. You may have to answer questions about how you would handle a conflict between residents and how you would get residents engaged in community events or programs.\\nTry to project open body language, where you maintain eye contact with the interviewer and position your body towards them. You should nod and smile to show them you are listening and try to answer any of their questions concisely and clearly. Make sure you ask any follow up questions you may have to show you are engaged and interested.\\n2-3. Get the training schedule.\\nIf your interview goes well, you may be invited to do training for the RA position. Training for the position will likely be mandatory and may be scheduled during the summer, so be prepared to sacrifice your summertime to get ready for the position.\\nThe training process for RAs is often extensive and detailed. This will ensure you are well-prepared for the role and do not feel overwhelmed or stressed in your new position.\\n3. Doing Well in the Position\\n3-1. Make yourself available to students.\\nAs an RA, you will be expected to be available for students who live in the residence hall as much as possible. Issues, conflicts, and incidents could occur at any moment, and it is your job address them. You may end up spending a lot of time in your dorm room or in the residence hall, when you are not in class, so you can be available for residents. You should be prepared to make yourself available for students and be willing to engage with students on a regular basis.\\nYou may end up creating a “Where am I?” board on your door so students know where you are and how they can reach you. This will allow you to let students know if you are “available”, “in class”, “at a meeting”, “asleep”, or “out of the room.”\\n3-2. Try to be a good role model.\\nYou will be expected to follow the rules of the residence hall and set a good example for the residents. You should act like a leader and a good role model by always following the rules in the dorm and following protocol. This is a major requirement of the position and you should try to act like a good role model whenever possible.\\nBear in mind that though you are expected to be a good role model, you are also human. Though you may try to always set a good example, you may make mistakes. You may forget a meeting with a resident or accidentally screw up some paperwork. If this happens, apologize, make amends, and move forward. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to always be perfect, because you likely won’t be and that’s okay.\\n3-3. Plan engaging events and programs.\\nYou will also be responsible for planning social events and programs in the residence hall to create a sense of community and connection. This could be fun, get to know you events like a “mocktail hour” event or an ice cream social in the residence hall. You may also plan events that relate to the institution directly, such as a homecoming football game party or a first week of class hang out. You will be responsible for making the events fun and engaging to students.\\nKeep in mind it may be challenging to get students to participate in events and programming, especially if they are overwhelmed with school and other commitments. You may need to be a bit of a cheerleader and rally students to participate in events you are planning.\\nYou should also ask your residents what they would like to as an event or program. Making events that fit their needs and wants could bring up the level attendance and the amount of fun they have.\\n3-4. Avoid playing favorites.\\nYou may end up making friends with residents, especially if you are in the same age range and spend so much time living together. It’s natural that you may make friends and having close relationships with residents is a good thing. But you should be wary of playing favorites and showing preference for a particular resident because you are friends. Try to stay impartial and fair as an RA.\\nRemember that if your friendship with a resident is really meaningful and real, they will respect your position as the RA. You should be friendly and open to all residents in the dorm, but you should also try to maintain a certain boundary so you do not end up showing preference to certain residents.\\n3-5. Practice self-care and get support from your staff.\\nBeing an RA can be stressful, especially if you are also trying to balance a full course load and other commitments. You should make sure you practice self-care as an RA and try to devote some time to yourself. This may be a quick nap between classes and on-duty time as an RA. Or you may try to read alone in your room with the door closed for 10-15 minutes before bed to get some \\\"you\\\" time. Fitting self-care into your schedule will be an important part of staying calm and balanced as an RA.\\nYou should also get support from the other staff in the residence hall. This could be other RAs on your floor or your supervisor. Reach out to them if you need help with a resident issue or if you just want to destress and blow off steam after a long day.\\nYou should lean on the resources offered at the university as well. Get in touch with the Residence Dean if you have a resident issue you cannot handle on your own or if you feel you need some guidance as an RA.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A resident assistant is responsible for monitoring and supporting undergraduates in college housing on campus. As a resident assistant, or RA, you are also expected to be a role model for your peers and incoming students. Among the perks of becoming an RA is discounted room and board at the university and experience as a mentor in higher education. But the path to becoming an RA requires gaining the necessary experience and skills as well as submitting a strong application for the position. You should then strive to do well in the position once you become an RA.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting the Necessary Experience and Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Earn at least 40 undergraduate credits.\", \"描述\": \"To become an RA, you must first earn at least 40 undergraduate credits at your chosen university or college. Many RAs start off as first year undergraduate students and then apply for the position for the second year of their degree. Doing one year of full time classes will allow you to earn the required credits for the position.\\nSome institutions may require less undergraduate credits to apply for the position. Check the listed requirements for the position to determine the number of credits you will need to apply.\\nMost institutions will require you to have a cumulative G.P.A. of 2.75 at the time of your application. 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In your role, you will act as a source of information for students and perform administrative tasks.\\nAs an RA, you will need to attend weekly staff meetings and hold regular floor meetings with the residents. You will also need to post information relating to the residence hall on bulletin boards or online forums.\\nYou will also need to be knowledgeable about the institution’s policies and procedures as well as campus resources.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Note the interpersonal aspects of the position.\", \"描述\": \"RAs are also expected to be the leaders or role models in the residence halls. You will need to be comfortable with being a role model and enforcing the rules of the residence hall. The position is very interpersonal, as you will need to be willing to respond to student issues and conflicts in a professional, helpful way.\\nAnother key aspect of the position is developing community in the residence hall. This means you must make an effort to connect with the residents and get students involved in social events in the residence hall. You will act as a leader in building community spirit and creating connections between residents in the hall.\\nYou should also have good listening and communication skills, as you will need to take the time to talk and listen to the residents. You will be expected to get to know the residents and create social programs or events for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand the “on-duty” tasks of the position.\", \"描述\": \"As an RA, you will be expected to perform several “on-duty” tasks. You may be required to be on-duty as a staff member for a set number of days in the semester, depending on your institution’s requirements. When you are on-duty, you will need to be on campus or close to campus so you can be easy to locate in the event of an issue.\\nWhen you are on-duty, you will need to be prepared to respond to any emergencies or incidents in the residence halls and be able to mediate and resolve any conflicts among the residents. For example, you may need to respond to students who are over-intoxicated. You may also need to mediate physical or verbal altercations between residents.\\nYou will also need to write up and submit incident reports for any issues you addressed as an RA when on-duty.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be prepared to mediate any issues or conflicts.\", \"描述\": \"As an RA, you will also need to be prepared to mediate any conflicts or issues in the residence hall. You will need to act as the problem solver, the listener, and the mediator for students. When a resident has a dispute with another resident or an issue with the residence hall, they will likely come to you. It is your job to be a good listener and work with them to come up with a good solution.\\nYou may end up dealing with mental crises as well, such as residents who struggle with depression, drug addiction, eating disorders, or alcohol poisoning. You may need to contact your supervisor or speak to a counselor to get advice on how to handle these mental issues with students.\\nKeep in mind you may end up being the bad guy in certain situations, especially when you have to lay down the law and deal with a resident’s poor behavior. This is to be expected and considered part of your job. You are not there to judge anyone, only to enforce the rules of the residence hall and make living in the dorm enjoyable for everyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep in mind the perks of being an RA.\", \"描述\": \"Being an RA is a job, and like any job, you will need to dedicate time and hard work to the position. But there are several perks to being an RA and they could make the position worth pursuing. You should weigh the perks of the position against the expectations of the position to ensure it is the right fit for you.\\nAs an RA, you will have your own private room, paid for in full or partially by the institution during your time of employment. Depending on the institution, you may also receive a monthly stipend.\\nYou also get experience as a mentor in higher education and learn how to be a good role model to students. These perks may be ideal if you are planning on pursuing a career in higher education and/or working with young people. Having RA experience on your resume can look good to potential employers.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Applying for the Position\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Complete the application.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on your institution, you may apply for the position through an online application or by dropping off an application in person. You should check the deadline for the application, which may vary from November to January, depending on your institution.\\nYou will need to submit a cover letter and a resume as part of your application. Make sure you emphasize any leadership roles or mentoring roles you have held in the past, through an employer or in a volunteer position. You should also include any positions or roles that demonstrate your organizational skills and your communication skills.\\nYou may need two professional references as part of your application. Try to choose references who can vouch for your leadership skills and your ability to be responsible and accountable.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prepare for the interview\", \"描述\": \"Once your application is processed, you may be called in for an interview for the position. You should be well prepared for the interview so it goes well and you can put your best self forward. 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How to Be a Responsible Breeder of French Bulldog Puppies
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1. Finding Foundation Stock to Breed
1-1. Select the right female.
If you are looking to breed, you should start by obtaining a healthy bitch (female) puppy from a reputable breeder. The French Bulldog Club of America (FBDCA) has a registry of vetted breeder who are pledged to adhere to the breed standard and a rigorous code of ethics.
You want to choose a female who has parents that are registered with the American Kennel Club, have health certifications that show they’re free from genetic defects, and come with established pedigrees so that you’re sure of their quality lineage.
When you're choosing a breeder, talk to multiple people to make sure they provide quality care to their animals. The breeder should also allow you to see both parents of the puppy you're considering.
1-2. Find the right stud.
Generally, you will seek out the services of a male dog rather than owning one yourself. You can search for a good sire at dog shows, with reputable breeders, and in breed publications where studs are advertised.
Choose a male with characteristics that you’d like to combine with your female. For instance, he might have a desirable color that complements your female or traits that would address one of her deficiencies, such as a small skull.
Always ask for photos, an official pedigree, and health certifications when considering a stud. It’s also important to inquire about the litters that they’ve sired so that you can assess if they breed well.
Never breed dogs that are closely related to avoid genetic defects; however, dogs that are distantly related (for instance, they have a shared great uncle) often produce well together.
1-3. Set the terms for breeding.
You can always negotiate, but the stud’s owner will generally lay out the initial terms for when, where, and how their dog will mate with yours. Figure out if you will use natural or artificial insemination, where the mating will take place, and how much the stud’s owner will charge for his services.
2. Breeding Your Puppies
2-1. Make sure the mother is healthy.
Take her for a veterinary check-up before she comes into season to improve her chances of a healthy pregnancy. She should have had her canine distemper and parvovirus vaccinations within the last 12 months and be covered for the time of her pregnancy. Check to be sure that she is free of intestinal worms, heartworms, and other diseases or parasites that could affect her puppies.
It’s also a good idea to start giving your bitch prenatal supplements, including folic acid, iodine, and vitamin E.
2-2. Track your female’s fertility cycle.
You will need to know when your bitch is in season in order to effectively breed her. You can tell that she’s in heat when she starts spotting and displaying irritable behavior. About five days into her season, start bringing her to the vet to test to see if she’s ovulating.
There’s usually a two to three day window when she’ll be at peak fertility. Vets can use vaginal smears and progesterone testing to confirm when she’s ready to mate. Then, you just need to make sure that your stud is ready to perform his duty.
2-3. Mate your female and male.
As soon as your vet confirms that your bitch is ovulating, it’s time to do the breeding. You can arrange to do this in person with monitored natural intercourse or through artificial insemination with the help of a vet. To enhance the chances of pregnancy, inseminate your bitch two times on two different days, doing so either on consecutive days or waiting a day in between.
If you choose to do the former, arrange whether you’ll go to the stud or whether he’ll come to you. Make sure that their breeding is closely monitored to prevent any potential aggression. Many breeders do not favor natural breeding because of the risks of violence and infection.
If you choose to go for artificial insemination, have the stud’s chilled semen sent to your vet.
Be sure to keep track of the breeding days so that you can better estimate your female’s due date.
2-4. Pamper the mother.
The pregnancy will generally take around 60 – 68 days. During that time, keep your expectant dog clean, well-hydrated, and well-nourished. Be sure that she’s eating a complete and balanced food that’s high in protein and fat, plus fortified with vitamins and minerals, especially folic acid and calcium for the sake of embryonic development.
Keep the mother on her regular amount of food in the first half of the pregnancy as weight gain at this stage can increase the risk of whelping difficulties.
Some breeders recommend feeding the mother half an ounce of raw liver (pork, beef, or venison) each day in addition to their kibble. Some breeders also suggest switching the mother over from adult to puppy food around the fifth week of their pregnancy and through nursing to ensure they’re getting the vitamins and minerals necessary for puppy development.
Sometimes mothers get morning sickness and aren’t inclined to eat. If you find that’s the case, tempt her with something she likes to eat. Bland foods like chicken and rice are often safe bets.
2-5. Confirm your dog’s pregnancy.
It’s often hard to tell if your female has a litter on board or not. Inseminations are generally only 70% successful, and she won’t start showing until seven weeks, if at all. You can determine if she’s pregnant by going to the vet.
The vet can use a Relaxin blood test from 25+ days, a sonogram from 28+ days, and an xray from 45+ days from the first day of breeding to confirm if your bitch is pregnant.
Even if you think she’s not pregnant, always be sure to check. Sometimes small litters are difficult to detect.
2-6. Arrange for a c-section.
Natural birth is difficult for French Bulldogs because of the pups’ large heads and the mother’s small pelvis and labored breathing. More than 80% of French Bulldogs cannot or should not give birth naturally due to the risk of puppy fatalities and of maternal uterine damage, infections, and death. Keep track of when your bitch is due, and have an experienced vet on-call who is ready to deliver the litter by caesarean section.
French Bulldogs puppies generally gestate for between 59 – 63 days from the time of breeding. You can generally gauge the onset of labor by the mother’s behavior (discomfort, agitation, lack of appetite, and/or nesting behavior) and by taking her rectal temperature. If you notice it drops by at least a degree, that’s a good sign that she has gone into labor.
After the c-section, be sure to monitor the incision for discharge or infections. If you notice any discharge, clean it with hydrogen peroxide. If it continues or you notice significant redness and swelling, take her to the vet immediately. Note that other spotting and discharge is normal for a dog for a few days after birth.
2-7. Limit the litters for each female.
Due to the trauma of the birthing process for French Bulldogs, it’s important not to put bitches through too many pregnancies. Stick to 2-4 litters per mother, and stop breeding her immediately if pregnancy is compromising her health or if she’s producing stock with defects.
3. Caring for and Selling Your Puppies
3-1. Set up a whelping box.
It should be a rectangular box with walls high enough to keep the puppies in. The recommended dimensions are 32” x 16” and at least 12” in height. It should also have soft, clean bedding and a source of heat.
Keep the box protected from any disturbances, especially quarantined away from other dogs or animals.
The bedding should be soft and uneven, such as an egg-crate foam with towels on top. This will prevent your puppies from developing flat chests or splayed legs.
Use an adjustable heat lamp to keep your puppies warm. The climate in the box should be kept around 95°F (53°C) during the first week, 85°F (29.4°C) the second, and at 75°F (23.9°C) from then on. Be sure to adjust the temperature according to the puppies’ behavior. If all of them are huddled under the lamp, turn it up. If all of them are huddled on the opposite side from the lamp, turn it down.
3-2. Monitor your pups’ arrival.
Put the litter in the whelping box with their mother and keep constant watch over them for the first few hours to ensure that your bitch is prepared to assume her motherly duties. Sometimes moms can be aggressive, even towards their own offspring. As soon as you see her relax and start cleaning her pups and allowing them to feed, you can be sure that she has acknowledged them as her babies.
3-3. Make sure the litter is well-fed.
Immediately after they’re born, puppies need to feed every two to four hours. Sometimes they can be slow on the uptake. If they’re not finding their mom’s nipple, squeeze it and lead them to the drop of milk.
If they’re still unable to feed naturally or the mother is not producing enough milk, bottle feed the puppies with a high-quality puppy formula like Esbilac.
3-4. Make sure that the puppies are urinating and defecating.
French Bulldog pups aren’t born knowing how to pee and poo. Their mom will generally stimulate these behaviors by licking their genitals and anus after each mealtime. If they do not, you will have to simulate her motherly duty.
Use a cotton ball dipped in warm water to rub the appropriate places after the puppies have fed.
3-5. Wean the puppies.
Start weaning the litter off of breast milk as soon as their teeth begin to appear, around four weeks. Take them from liquid to solid food slowly, eventually removing their mother during feeding times to ensure that they don’t go for her milk.
Start by bowl feeding them with a high-quality puppy formula like Esbilac. Then, mix in some finely ground, high-quality puppy kibble to create a mushy gruel. Gradually add more finely ground dry puppy food with each meal, increasing its thickness until they’re ready for plain dry food.
Introduce dry food alongside mush to encourage puppies to start eating it by choice. They should be able to eat kibble by the time they’re six weeks.
3-6. Start selling your puppies at eight weeks.
Ideally, you’ll hand over each puppy when it’s between eight and 10 weeks old. This is old enough for your puppy to be healthy and well-socialized but still young enough to not have attachment problems that would make it more difficult to adjust to a new home.
3-7. Take your puppies to the vet.
The vet should have checked the puppies immediately after the c-section to ensure they were all healthy and free from obvious defects. After that, take the puppies in to start their vaccination cycle at six weeks.
The whole litter should have a “5 in 1” vaccination (for canine distemper, hepatitis, coronavirus, parainfluenza, and parvovirus) every three weeks until they’re 16 weeks old. They should also have a rabies vaccine at 12+ weeks.
The new owners will generally take care of many of these; just be sure that they know they need to register the puppy with a vet right away and continue the cycle of vaccines and parasite control.
3-8. Register your puppies with the American Kennel Club.
As soon as they’re born, fill out a form that provides information about the parents, and the AKC will send you individual registration forms for each pup. AKC registration will show prospective buyers that you have certified purebred dogs for sale.
You can do this via mail or online. Expect a two to six week turnaround time.
3-9. Be accountable to your buyers.
Show your puppies with their mother in the facility where they were raised. Be able to produce pedigrees and health certifications for both parents that show they have been screened for common defects, and provide health guarantees for your puppies.
French Bulldogs are susceptible to multiple genetic disorders. Responsible breeders will have their parent dogs screened for common defects, including brachycephalic airway syndrome, spinal malformations, hip and reproductive issues, and be able to produce independent certification from a vet that their stock tested negative.
The parents’ health screening results should also be registered in the Canine Health Information Center database so that owners can look it up for verification.
It’s also a good idea to become a registered breeder with the French Bulldog Club of America to gain referrals and show that you adhere to a strict code of ethics with regards to breeding.
3-10. Vet potential owners before selling your puppies.
Discuss the French Bulldog’s needs and temperament with prospective buyers, and inquire about their desires and lifestyle to ensure that they align. Visit their home to make sure that it’s a good environment for the puppy. Make sure that they're ready to be committed pet owners.
3-11. Create a written sales agreement.
Signing a contract to seal the deal will establish you as a credible and transparent breeder while protecting the interests of you, the owner(s), and the puppy.
Make sure that the document includes contact information for both parties, the names and American Kennel Club registration numbers for both parents, a description of the puppy, and a health guarantee clause that stipulates that a puppy can be returned for a full refund if any health issues are found upon an immediate veterinary screening.
Many breeders also include a clause specifying that a puppy must be returned to them if the owners are no longer able to care for it.
Tips
Breeding is a time-consuming process. Before you start, be sure that you’re ready to commit to caring for the mother throughout her pregnancy and be constantly with the puppies for the first few weeks after they’re born.
Warnings
Don’t expect to make a profit from breeding French Bulldogs. You might, but you are bound to be disappointed if you set out to do so. Sometimes whole litters can be lost, and the time and expense of raising puppies can outweigh their hefty price tags.
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About five days into her season, start bringing her to the vet to test to see if she’s ovulating.\\nThere’s usually a two to three day window when she’ll be at peak fertility. Vets can use vaginal smears and progesterone testing to confirm when she’s ready to mate. Then, you just need to make sure that your stud is ready to perform his duty.\\n2-3. Mate your female and male.\\nAs soon as your vet confirms that your bitch is ovulating, it’s time to do the breeding. You can arrange to do this in person with monitored natural intercourse or through artificial insemination with the help of a vet. To enhance the chances of pregnancy, inseminate your bitch two times on two different days, doing so either on consecutive days or waiting a day in between.\\nIf you choose to do the former, arrange whether you’ll go to the stud or whether he’ll come to you. Make sure that their breeding is closely monitored to prevent any potential aggression. Many breeders do not favor natural breeding because of the risks of violence and infection.\\nIf you choose to go for artificial insemination, have the stud’s chilled semen sent to your vet.\\nBe sure to keep track of the breeding days so that you can better estimate your female’s due date.\\n2-4. Pamper the mother.\\nThe pregnancy will generally take around 60 – 68 days. During that time, keep your expectant dog clean, well-hydrated, and well-nourished. Be sure that she’s eating a complete and balanced food that’s high in protein and fat, plus fortified with vitamins and minerals, especially folic acid and calcium for the sake of embryonic development.\\nKeep the mother on her regular amount of food in the first half of the pregnancy as weight gain at this stage can increase the risk of whelping difficulties.\\nSome breeders recommend feeding the mother half an ounce of raw liver (pork, beef, or venison) each day in addition to their kibble. Some breeders also suggest switching the mother over from adult to puppy food around the fifth week of their pregnancy and through nursing to ensure they’re getting the vitamins and minerals necessary for puppy development.\\nSometimes mothers get morning sickness and aren’t inclined to eat. If you find that’s the case, tempt her with something she likes to eat. Bland foods like chicken and rice are often safe bets.\\n2-5. Confirm your dog’s pregnancy.\\nIt’s often hard to tell if your female has a litter on board or not. Inseminations are generally only 70% successful, and she won’t start showing until seven weeks, if at all. You can determine if she’s pregnant by going to the vet.\\nThe vet can use a Relaxin blood test from 25+ days, a sonogram from 28+ days, and an xray from 45+ days from the first day of breeding to confirm if your bitch is pregnant.\\nEven if you think she’s not pregnant, always be sure to check. Sometimes small litters are difficult to detect.\\n2-6. Arrange for a c-section.\\nNatural birth is difficult for French Bulldogs because of the pups’ large heads and the mother’s small pelvis and labored breathing. More than 80% of French Bulldogs cannot or should not give birth naturally due to the risk of puppy fatalities and of maternal uterine damage, infections, and death. Keep track of when your bitch is due, and have an experienced vet on-call who is ready to deliver the litter by caesarean section.\\nFrench Bulldogs puppies generally gestate for between 59 – 63 days from the time of breeding. You can generally gauge the onset of labor by the mother’s behavior (discomfort, agitation, lack of appetite, and/or nesting behavior) and by taking her rectal temperature. If you notice it drops by at least a degree, that’s a good sign that she has gone into labor.\\nAfter the c-section, be sure to monitor the incision for discharge or infections. If you notice any discharge, clean it with hydrogen peroxide. If it continues or you notice significant redness and swelling, take her to the vet immediately. Note that other spotting and discharge is normal for a dog for a few days after birth.\\n2-7. Limit the litters for each female.\\nDue to the trauma of the birthing process for French Bulldogs, it’s important not to put bitches through too many pregnancies. Stick to 2-4 litters per mother, and stop breeding her immediately if pregnancy is compromising her health or if she’s producing stock with defects.\\n3. Caring for and Selling Your Puppies\\n3-1. Set up a whelping box.\\nIt should be a rectangular box with walls high enough to keep the puppies in. The recommended dimensions are 32” x 16” and at least 12” in height. It should also have soft, clean bedding and a source of heat.\\nKeep the box protected from any disturbances, especially quarantined away from other dogs or animals.\\nThe bedding should be soft and uneven, such as an egg-crate foam with towels on top. This will prevent your puppies from developing flat chests or splayed legs.\\nUse an adjustable heat lamp to keep your puppies warm. The climate in the box should be kept around 95°F (53°C) during the first week, 85°F (29.4°C) the second, and at 75°F (23.9°C) from then on. Be sure to adjust the temperature according to the puppies’ behavior. If all of them are huddled under the lamp, turn it up. If all of them are huddled on the opposite side from the lamp, turn it down.\\n3-2. Monitor your pups’ arrival.\\nPut the litter in the whelping box with their mother and keep constant watch over them for the first few hours to ensure that your bitch is prepared to assume her motherly duties. Sometimes moms can be aggressive, even towards their own offspring. As soon as you see her relax and start cleaning her pups and allowing them to feed, you can be sure that she has acknowledged them as her babies.\\n3-3. Make sure the litter is well-fed.\\nImmediately after they’re born, puppies need to feed every two to four hours. Sometimes they can be slow on the uptake. If they’re not finding their mom’s nipple, squeeze it and lead them to the drop of milk.\\nIf they’re still unable to feed naturally or the mother is not producing enough milk, bottle feed the puppies with a high-quality puppy formula like Esbilac.\\n3-4. Make sure that the puppies are urinating and defecating.\\nFrench Bulldog pups aren’t born knowing how to pee and poo. Their mom will generally stimulate these behaviors by licking their genitals and anus after each mealtime. If they do not, you will have to simulate her motherly duty.\\nUse a cotton ball dipped in warm water to rub the appropriate places after the puppies have fed.\\n3-5. Wean the puppies.\\nStart weaning the litter off of breast milk as soon as their teeth begin to appear, around four weeks. Take them from liquid to solid food slowly, eventually removing their mother during feeding times to ensure that they don’t go for her milk.\\nStart by bowl feeding them with a high-quality puppy formula like Esbilac. Then, mix in some finely ground, high-quality puppy kibble to create a mushy gruel. Gradually add more finely ground dry puppy food with each meal, increasing its thickness until they’re ready for plain dry food.\\nIntroduce dry food alongside mush to encourage puppies to start eating it by choice. They should be able to eat kibble by the time they’re six weeks.\\n3-6. Start selling your puppies at eight weeks.\\nIdeally, you’ll hand over each puppy when it’s between eight and 10 weeks old. This is old enough for your puppy to be healthy and well-socialized but still young enough to not have attachment problems that would make it more difficult to adjust to a new home.\\n3-7. Take your puppies to the vet.\\nThe vet should have checked the puppies immediately after the c-section to ensure they were all healthy and free from obvious defects. After that, take the puppies in to start their vaccination cycle at six weeks.\\nThe whole litter should have a “5 in 1” vaccination (for canine distemper, hepatitis, coronavirus, parainfluenza, and parvovirus) every three weeks until they’re 16 weeks old. They should also have a rabies vaccine at 12+ weeks.\\nThe new owners will generally take care of many of these; just be sure that they know they need to register the puppy with a vet right away and continue the cycle of vaccines and parasite control.\\n3-8. Register your puppies with the American Kennel Club.\\nAs soon as they’re born, fill out a form that provides information about the parents, and the AKC will send you individual registration forms for each pup. AKC registration will show prospective buyers that you have certified purebred dogs for sale.\\nYou can do this via mail or online. Expect a two to six week turnaround time.\\n3-9. Be accountable to your buyers.\\nShow your puppies with their mother in the facility where they were raised. Be able to produce pedigrees and health certifications for both parents that show they have been screened for common defects, and provide health guarantees for your puppies.\\nFrench Bulldogs are susceptible to multiple genetic disorders. Responsible breeders will have their parent dogs screened for common defects, including brachycephalic airway syndrome, spinal malformations, hip and reproductive issues, and be able to produce independent certification from a vet that their stock tested negative.\\nThe parents’ health screening results should also be registered in the Canine Health Information Center database so that owners can look it up for verification.\\nIt’s also a good idea to become a registered breeder with the French Bulldog Club of America to gain referrals and show that you adhere to a strict code of ethics with regards to breeding.\\n3-10. Vet potential owners before selling your puppies.\\nDiscuss the French Bulldog’s needs and temperament with prospective buyers, and inquire about their desires and lifestyle to ensure that they align. Visit their home to make sure that it’s a good environment for the puppy. Make sure that they're ready to be committed pet owners.\\n3-11. Create a written sales agreement.\\nSigning a contract to seal the deal will establish you as a credible and transparent breeder while protecting the interests of you, the owner(s), and the puppy.\\nMake sure that the document includes contact information for both parties, the names and American Kennel Club registration numbers for both parents, a description of the puppy, and a health guarantee clause that stipulates that a puppy can be returned for a full refund if any health issues are found upon an immediate veterinary screening.\\nMany breeders also include a clause specifying that a puppy must be returned to them if the owners are no longer able to care for it.\\nTips\\nBreeding is a time-consuming process. Before you start, be sure that you’re ready to commit to caring for the mother throughout her pregnancy and be constantly with the puppies for the first few weeks after they’re born.\\nWarnings\\nDon’t expect to make a profit from breeding French Bulldogs. You might, but you are bound to be disappointed if you set out to do so. Sometimes whole litters can be lost, and the time and expense of raising puppies can outweigh their hefty price tags.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"French Bulldogs have been around for more than a century but have recently become one of the most popular breeds because of their low-maintenance, city-friendly lifestyles and loving personalities. Small, playful, and intelligent, these lap dogs are known for their adorable short muzzles and bat ears. Since they’re so in-demand, many breeders have taken to cheap, irresponsible methods of generating the most puppies and the most cash. Conscientious and reputable breeders of French Bulldogs will always put the dogs before profit by practicing good breeding techniques, taking good care of their litters, and being rigorous in their interactions with customers.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Finding Foundation Stock to Breed\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Select the right female.\", \"描述\": \"If you are looking to breed, you should start by obtaining a healthy bitch (female) puppy from a reputable breeder. The French Bulldog Club of America (FBDCA) has a registry of vetted breeder who are pledged to adhere to the breed standard and a rigorous code of ethics.\\nYou want to choose a female who has parents that are registered with the American Kennel Club, have health certifications that show they’re free from genetic defects, and come with established pedigrees so that you’re sure of their quality lineage.\\nWhen you're choosing a breeder, talk to multiple people to make sure they provide quality care to their animals. The breeder should also allow you to see both parents of the puppy you're considering.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find the right stud.\", \"描述\": \"Generally, you will seek out the services of a male dog rather than owning one yourself. You can search for a good sire at dog shows, with reputable breeders, and in breed publications where studs are advertised.\\nChoose a male with characteristics that you’d like to combine with your female. For instance, he might have a desirable color that complements your female or traits that would address one of her deficiencies, such as a small skull.\\nAlways ask for photos, an official pedigree, and health certifications when considering a stud. It’s also important to inquire about the litters that they’ve sired so that you can assess if they breed well.\\nNever breed dogs that are closely related to avoid genetic defects; however, dogs that are distantly related (for instance, they have a shared great uncle) often produce well together.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set the terms for breeding.\", \"描述\": \"You can always negotiate, but the stud’s owner will generally lay out the initial terms for when, where, and how their dog will mate with yours. Figure out if you will use natural or artificial insemination, where the mating will take place, and how much the stud’s owner will charge for his services.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Breeding Your Puppies\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make sure the mother is healthy.\", \"描述\": \"Take her for a veterinary check-up before she comes into season to improve her chances of a healthy pregnancy. She should have had her canine distemper and parvovirus vaccinations within the last 12 months and be covered for the time of her pregnancy. Check to be sure that she is free of intestinal worms, heartworms, and other diseases or parasites that could affect her puppies.\\nIt’s also a good idea to start giving your bitch prenatal supplements, including folic acid, iodine, and vitamin E.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Track your female’s fertility cycle.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to know when your bitch is in season in order to effectively breed her. You can tell that she’s in heat when she starts spotting and displaying irritable behavior. About five days into her season, start bringing her to the vet to test to see if she’s ovulating.\\nThere’s usually a two to three day window when she’ll be at peak fertility. Vets can use vaginal smears and progesterone testing to confirm when she’s ready to mate. Then, you just need to make sure that your stud is ready to perform his duty.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Mate your female and male.\", \"描述\": \"As soon as your vet confirms that your bitch is ovulating, it’s time to do the breeding. You can arrange to do this in person with monitored natural intercourse or through artificial insemination with the help of a vet. To enhance the chances of pregnancy, inseminate your bitch two times on two different days, doing so either on consecutive days or waiting a day in between.\\nIf you choose to do the former, arrange whether you’ll go to the stud or whether he’ll come to you. Make sure that their breeding is closely monitored to prevent any potential aggression. Many breeders do not favor natural breeding because of the risks of violence and infection.\\nIf you choose to go for artificial insemination, have the stud’s chilled semen sent to your vet.\\nBe sure to keep track of the breeding days so that you can better estimate your female’s due date.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pamper the mother.\", \"描述\": \"The pregnancy will generally take around 60 – 68 days. During that time, keep your expectant dog clean, well-hydrated, and well-nourished. Be sure that she’s eating a complete and balanced food that’s high in protein and fat, plus fortified with vitamins and minerals, especially folic acid and calcium for the sake of embryonic development.\\nKeep the mother on her regular amount of food in the first half of the pregnancy as weight gain at this stage can increase the risk of whelping difficulties.\\nSome breeders recommend feeding the mother half an ounce of raw liver (pork, beef, or venison) each day in addition to their kibble. Some breeders also suggest switching the mother over from adult to puppy food around the fifth week of their pregnancy and through nursing to ensure they’re getting the vitamins and minerals necessary for puppy development.\\nSometimes mothers get morning sickness and aren’t inclined to eat. If you find that’s the case, tempt her with something she likes to eat. Bland foods like chicken and rice are often safe bets.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Confirm your dog’s pregnancy.\", \"描述\": \"It’s often hard to tell if your female has a litter on board or not. Inseminations are generally only 70% successful, and she won’t start showing until seven weeks, if at all. You can determine if she’s pregnant by going to the vet.\\nThe vet can use a Relaxin blood test from 25+ days, a sonogram from 28+ days, and an xray from 45+ days from the first day of breeding to confirm if your bitch is pregnant.\\nEven if you think she’s not pregnant, always be sure to check. Sometimes small litters are difficult to detect.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Arrange for a c-section.\", \"描述\": \"Natural birth is difficult for French Bulldogs because of the pups’ large heads and the mother’s small pelvis and labored breathing. More than 80% of French Bulldogs cannot or should not give birth naturally due to the risk of puppy fatalities and of maternal uterine damage, infections, and death. Keep track of when your bitch is due, and have an experienced vet on-call who is ready to deliver the litter by caesarean section.\\nFrench Bulldogs puppies generally gestate for between 59 – 63 days from the time of breeding. You can generally gauge the onset of labor by the mother’s behavior (discomfort, agitation, lack of appetite, and/or nesting behavior) and by taking her rectal temperature. If you notice it drops by at least a degree, that’s a good sign that she has gone into labor.\\nAfter the c-section, be sure to monitor the incision for discharge or infections. If you notice any discharge, clean it with hydrogen peroxide. If it continues or you notice significant redness and swelling, take her to the vet immediately. Note that other spotting and discharge is normal for a dog for a few days after birth.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Limit the litters for each female.\", \"描述\": \"Due to the trauma of the birthing process for French Bulldogs, it’s important not to put bitches through too many pregnancies. Stick to 2-4 litters per mother, and stop breeding her immediately if pregnancy is compromising her health or if she’s producing stock with defects.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Caring for and Selling Your Puppies\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set up a whelping box.\", \"描述\": \"It should be a rectangular box with walls high enough to keep the puppies in. The recommended dimensions are 32” x 16” and at least 12” in height. It should also have soft, clean bedding and a source of heat.\\nKeep the box protected from any disturbances, especially quarantined away from other dogs or animals.\\nThe bedding should be soft and uneven, such as an egg-crate foam with towels on top. This will prevent your puppies from developing flat chests or splayed legs.\\nUse an adjustable heat lamp to keep your puppies warm. The climate in the box should be kept around 95°F (53°C) during the first week, 85°F (29.4°C) the second, and at 75°F (23.9°C) from then on. Be sure to adjust the temperature according to the puppies’ behavior. If all of them are huddled under the lamp, turn it up. If all of them are huddled on the opposite side from the lamp, turn it down.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Monitor your pups’ arrival.\", \"描述\": \"Put the litter in the whelping box with their mother and keep constant watch over them for the first few hours to ensure that your bitch is prepared to assume her motherly duties. Sometimes moms can be aggressive, even towards their own offspring. As soon as you see her relax and start cleaning her pups and allowing them to feed, you can be sure that she has acknowledged them as her babies.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make sure the litter is well-fed.\", \"描述\": \"Immediately after they’re born, puppies need to feed every two to four hours. Sometimes they can be slow on the uptake. If they’re not finding their mom’s nipple, squeeze it and lead them to the drop of milk.\\nIf they’re still unable to feed naturally or the mother is not producing enough milk, bottle feed the puppies with a high-quality puppy formula like Esbilac.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make sure that the puppies are urinating and defecating.\", \"描述\": \"French Bulldog pups aren’t born knowing how to pee and poo. Their mom will generally stimulate these behaviors by licking their genitals and anus after each mealtime. If they do not, you will have to simulate her motherly duty.\\nUse a cotton ball dipped in warm water to rub the appropriate places after the puppies have fed.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wean the puppies.\", \"描述\": \"Start weaning the litter off of breast milk as soon as their teeth begin to appear, around four weeks. Take them from liquid to solid food slowly, eventually removing their mother during feeding times to ensure that they don’t go for her milk.\\nStart by bowl feeding them with a high-quality puppy formula like Esbilac. Then, mix in some finely ground, high-quality puppy kibble to create a mushy gruel. Gradually add more finely ground dry puppy food with each meal, increasing its thickness until they’re ready for plain dry food.\\nIntroduce dry food alongside mush to encourage puppies to start eating it by choice. They should be able to eat kibble by the time they’re six weeks.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Start selling your puppies at eight weeks.\", \"描述\": \"Ideally, you’ll hand over each puppy when it’s between eight and 10 weeks old. This is old enough for your puppy to be healthy and well-socialized but still young enough to not have attachment problems that would make it more difficult to adjust to a new home.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take your puppies to the vet.\", \"描述\": \"The vet should have checked the puppies immediately after the c-section to ensure they were all healthy and free from obvious defects. After that, take the puppies in to start their vaccination cycle at six weeks.\\nThe whole litter should have a “5 in 1” vaccination (for canine distemper, hepatitis, coronavirus, parainfluenza, and parvovirus) every three weeks until they’re 16 weeks old. They should also have a rabies vaccine at 12+ weeks.\\nThe new owners will generally take care of many of these; just be sure that they know they need to register the puppy with a vet right away and continue the cycle of vaccines and parasite control.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Register your puppies with the American Kennel Club.\", \"描述\": \"As soon as they’re born, fill out a form that provides information about the parents, and the AKC will send you individual registration forms for each pup. AKC registration will show prospective buyers that you have certified purebred dogs for sale.\\nYou can do this via mail or online. Expect a two to six week turnaround time.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be accountable to your buyers.\", \"描述\": \"Show your puppies with their mother in the facility where they were raised. 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1. Respecting Yourself and Others Online
1-1. Behave with etiquette while online.
Practice digital etiquette by following the proper standards of conduct and procedure online. Model appropriate behavior when online, and be willing to teach and discuss digital etiquette with others, both online and in person. Most importantly: Be polite! Actively seek to present a positive image of yourself online. Appropriate digital etiquette also requires that you:
Reduce your sarcasm. Since facial expressions and body language cannot be conveyed via text, sarcastic comments can easily be perceived negatively.
Do not escalate disagreements. Do not use harsh, crass, or aggressive language.
Do not take part in cyber-bulling. Speak up when you witness cyber-bullying. Support the target of the harassment, and acknowledge that those users who are bullying are behaving inappropriately.
1-2. Exchange information properly.
Digital communication, or the electronic exchange of information and correspondence, is rapidly becoming the main form of communication between one another. Take care, however, with what you post online. Do not share personal information electronically with people you do not know and on websites you do not trust. Understand that some forms of communication are more appropriate to undertake in person. Specifically:
Do not post about your vacation plans, your income, and anything that might endanger you or someone else in any way.
Do not post about your personal feelings regarding your job or a relationship. Have emotional or important conversations in private with the other people involved.
1-3. Follow the law.
There are specific legal rights and restrictions governing the use of electronic technologies. Know that you are legally accountable for your online behavior. Educate yourself about copyright and fair use policies if you are unsure of the legality with which you want to acquire any form of media available online. Be especially careful using peer-to-peer (P2P) sharing services. More specifically:
Do not steal money, intellectual property, or someone else’s identity.
Do not damage other people’s work, identity, or online property.
Do not download music or movies that were made available illegally.
Do not create destructive malware, programs, or websites.
Do not send spam.
2. Advocating for Digital Citizenship Awareness
2-1. Advocate the use of new technologies.
Work to improve digital literacy by learning and teaching others about the availability and uses of new technology. Recognize that new technologies are emerging with greater and greater frequency. Being a responsible digital citizen requires we know how to use these technologies appropriately. Furthermore, recognize that teachers now need continual training on how to properly use technology in the classroom. Ensure that your children and those children in the school nearest your home are digitally literate by calling and asking whether they have a plan to increase students’ digital literacy. There are several curricula and lesson plans available online to help guide educators.
The New York City Department of Education has made a comprehensive guide called “Citizenship in the Digital Age” that includes lesson plans for grades K-12.
2-2. Ensure digital access.
Digital access refers to the degree to which people are able to participate electronically in society. Be welcoming when interacting with others online. There are also more active ways to advocate for the increase of digital access for all people, regardless of socioeconomic status, abilities, and physical location. An important policy issue today is providing equitable access to technology for all students, and there are many organizations working to achieve this goal. Here are a few other ways you can help increase digital access:
Lobby your local politicians to prioritize public access to the internet and the availability of computer equipment for public use. Support those politicians and community organizers work for these causes.
Contribute your unused technological equipment to your local library or a school that can use it.
Volunteer with an organization that works to increase digital access.
2-3. Recognize your own and others’ rights and responsibilities.
Digital rights and responsibilities help to shape and ensure the freedoms that everyone should be able to enjoy online. Note that rights come with responsibilities. Be aware of you own rights and responsibilities in the location and network you are using, and share this information with others if they are not behaving accordingly. This knowledge includes the degree of your freedom of speech and your freedom to visit most public websites. Respect everyone you interact with online, and ensure that your own rights are not being violated.
Contribute to positive, respectful conversations about your rights and responsibilities as a digital citizen to help define the proper use of new technologies as society progresses.
3. Protecting Yourself Online
3-1. Maintain digital security.
Take precautions with your technological equipment and online behavior to protect yourself as well as the material you share online. Be especially cautious with information associated with your identity. These are all important measure to operate with digital security:
Install virus protection on the equipment you use to go online.
Be cautious when opening up email attachments and clicking links.
Back up your data, preferably in multiple safe locations.
Use a surge protector to protect your equipment from more tangible dangers such as electrical surges during increment weather, etc.
3-2. Pay attention to your health.
Though you may not picture sitting at a computer as dangerous or unhealthy, your health and wellness are effected by your digital lifestyle. Be aware of the physical and psychological effects of operating in a digital world. Protect yourself from these dangers, and encourage others to stay aware as well. Some risks involved with heavy use of computers and other online devices include:
Carpal tunnel syndrome.
Eye strain.
Poor posture.
Internet addiction.
Repetitive stress syndrome.
3-3. Engage in digital commerce responsibly.
Digital commerce encapsulates purchasing and selling goods and services online. Be aware of the risks associated with this practice. Make only well-informed and safe decisions before engaging in online transactions. Many goods and services available online are not lawfully allowed to be possessed in certain countries. Be sure that any transactions you take part in are legal and legitimate.
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Exchange information properly.\\nDigital communication, or the electronic exchange of information and correspondence, is rapidly becoming the main form of communication between one another. Take care, however, with what you post online. Do not share personal information electronically with people you do not know and on websites you do not trust. Understand that some forms of communication are more appropriate to undertake in person. Specifically:\\nDo not post about your vacation plans, your income, and anything that might endanger you or someone else in any way.\\nDo not post about your personal feelings regarding your job or a relationship. Have emotional or important conversations in private with the other people involved.\\n1-3. Follow the law.\\nThere are specific legal rights and restrictions governing the use of electronic technologies. Know that you are legally accountable for your online behavior. Educate yourself about copyright and fair use policies if you are unsure of the legality with which you want to acquire any form of media available online. Be especially careful using peer-to-peer (P2P) sharing services. More specifically:\\nDo not steal money, intellectual property, or someone else’s identity.\\nDo not damage other people’s work, identity, or online property.\\nDo not download music or movies that were made available illegally.\\nDo not create destructive malware, programs, or websites.\\nDo not send spam.\\n2. Advocating for Digital Citizenship Awareness\\n2-1. Advocate the use of new technologies.\\nWork to improve digital literacy by learning and teaching others about the availability and uses of new technology. Recognize that new technologies are emerging with greater and greater frequency. Being a responsible digital citizen requires we know how to use these technologies appropriately. Furthermore, recognize that teachers now need continual training on how to properly use technology in the classroom. Ensure that your children and those children in the school nearest your home are digitally literate by calling and asking whether they have a plan to increase students’ digital literacy. There are several curricula and lesson plans available online to help guide educators.\\nThe New York City Department of Education has made a comprehensive guide called “Citizenship in the Digital Age” that includes lesson plans for grades K-12.\\n2-2. Ensure digital access.\\nDigital access refers to the degree to which people are able to participate electronically in society. Be welcoming when interacting with others online. There are also more active ways to advocate for the increase of digital access for all people, regardless of socioeconomic status, abilities, and physical location. An important policy issue today is providing equitable access to technology for all students, and there are many organizations working to achieve this goal. Here are a few other ways you can help increase digital access:\\nLobby your local politicians to prioritize public access to the internet and the availability of computer equipment for public use. Support those politicians and community organizers work for these causes.\\nContribute your unused technological equipment to your local library or a school that can use it.\\nVolunteer with an organization that works to increase digital access.\\n2-3. Recognize your own and others’ rights and responsibilities.\\nDigital rights and responsibilities help to shape and ensure the freedoms that everyone should be able to enjoy online. Note that rights come with responsibilities. Be aware of you own rights and responsibilities in the location and network you are using, and share this information with others if they are not behaving accordingly. This knowledge includes the degree of your freedom of speech and your freedom to visit most public websites. Respect everyone you interact with online, and ensure that your own rights are not being violated.\\nContribute to positive, respectful conversations about your rights and responsibilities as a digital citizen to help define the proper use of new technologies as society progresses.\\n3. Protecting Yourself Online\\n3-1. Maintain digital security.\\nTake precautions with your technological equipment and online behavior to protect yourself as well as the material you share online. Be especially cautious with information associated with your identity. These are all important measure to operate with digital security:\\n\\nInstall virus protection on the equipment you use to go online.\\nBe cautious when opening up email attachments and clicking links.\\nBack up your data, preferably in multiple safe locations.\\nUse a surge protector to protect your equipment from more tangible dangers such as electrical surges during increment weather, etc.\\n3-2. Pay attention to your health.\\nThough you may not picture sitting at a computer as dangerous or unhealthy, your health and wellness are effected by your digital lifestyle. Be aware of the physical and psychological effects of operating in a digital world. Protect yourself from these dangers, and encourage others to stay aware as well. Some risks involved with heavy use of computers and other online devices include:\\n\\nCarpal tunnel syndrome.\\nEye strain.\\nPoor posture.\\nInternet addiction.\\nRepetitive stress syndrome.\\n3-3. Engage in digital commerce responsibly.\\nDigital commerce encapsulates purchasing and selling goods and services online. Be aware of the risks associated with this practice. Make only well-informed and safe decisions before engaging in online transactions. Many goods and services available online are not lawfully allowed to be possessed in certain countries. Be sure that any transactions you take part in are legal and legitimate.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a responsible digital citizen means using technology appropriately and operating online safely and knowledgeably. The concept of digital citizenship is becoming more and more recognized as people communicate, shop, and share information online. Because of this, there's more need than ever to practice responsible habits. 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1. Keeping Your Dog Healthy
1-1. Provide your dog with healthy food.
Get recommendations from your vet or breeder as to which foods work best for your dog’s breed. The type and amount will vary according to your pet’s age, weight, and activity level, so be sure to consult the packaging for the correct serving sizes.
A dog’s digestion will be healthiest if you give them a consistent diet. If you do change your dog’s food, introduce the new kind gradually by mixing it in with the old at first.
Keep in mind that how much you feed your dog is almost as important as what you feed them. Overfeeding can lead to obesity, which increases the risk of heart disease, diabetes, and arthritis.
Since you want to feed your dog a set amount, it’s best to control their feeding times rather than letting them graze throughout the day. Establish meal times once or twice a day to give your dog a sense of routine.
Monitor your dog’s treats. It’s always wonderful to reward your canine companions with treats, but be sure that you’re adjusting their normal food intake accordingly. If you feed your dog a bone, reduce the amount of kibble they’ll get for dinner.
1-2. Make sure your dog always has access to water.
Hydration is critical for your dog’s nutrition, digestion, and joint health. It’s also critical for the regulation of their body temperature. Your dog should always have a dish of fresh, clean water available, even at night.
If you go on car trips or outings, take water with you for your dog.
Be sure to clean your dog’s food bowl and water dish regularly to prevent mold, dirt, and bacteria from building up.
1-3. Clean your dog’s teeth.
Regularly brush your dog’s teeth and give them canine dental products, like hard biscuits and dental chews to improve their oral hygiene. Toys that allow them to chew, like rope or nylon bones, will also help keep their teeth clean and gums healthy.
Brush your dog’s teeth daily. This will prevent bad breath, tartar buildup, and bacterial infections. You can lift their lips to expose their teeth and brush them as would your own.
To be the most effective, use an angled brush that’s specially designed for dogs. Always stick to toothpaste made for canines since the fluoride found in most human toothpastes is poisonous to dogs.
1-4. Keep your dog at a healthy weight.
It’s your job to monitor your pet’s food intake and feed them an appropriate amount for their size and ideal weight. While it may seem cruel to deny your dog the food that they’re begging for, letting your dog get obese is more cruel since it compromises their health and well-being.
If your dog is overweight, ask your vet to recommend a diet to help get them get back to an appropriate weight.
1-5. Avoid giving your dog “people food” or medicine.
Canines have very different nutritional needs than humans, so stick to feeding them dog food to ensure they’re getting a healthy and well-balanced diet. They also have different medical needs, so never assume that the remedies that work for us will work for them.
Be aware that many of our common food items are poisonous or even lethal to dogs, like raisins, grapes, mushrooms, onions, macadamia nuts, caffeine, chocolate (especially dark chocolate and baking chocolate), alcoholic beverages, dairy products such as milk, and citrus fruits such as oranges.
Only give your dog medicines that have been explicitly prescribed or approved by a vet. Many human drugs—over-the-counter or prescription—can kill your dog. For instance, aspirin may be given to a dog if your vet tells you it is alright and tells you the proper dosage. But acetaminophen and ibuprofen are highly poisonous for your pooch.
Have a canine first aid kit on hand to address your dog’s medical needs. You can either buy one or put one together yourself. Make sure it includes basic supplies like a pet first-aid book, self-cling bandages, gauze pads, an antibacterial ointment or antiseptic wipes, disposable gloves, scissors, and tweezers.
1-6. Register your dog with a veterinary clinic.
Having an established veterinarian-owner-patient relationship with regular check-ups will help ensure that your dog is as healthy as possible and up-to-date with their vaccinations and parasite control.
When searching for a vet, be sure to choose one that is nearby to where you live and has good online reviews.
Go to your vet regularly to minimize your dog’s risk of contracting and spreading dangerous diseases (like rabies or kennel cough) or parasites (like fleas and heartworm). Your vet will keep records to remind you when preventative treatments need to be administered.
How often you should visit the vet will depend on the health and age of your dog. Puppies will need several appointments in their first year, but a normal, healthy adult dog can generally get by with an annual check-up. Senior dogs who are pushing ten years of age should probably go in at least twice a year.
Your vet can also help you decide when it’s time to let go. When your pet is stuck in a cycle of incurable suffering due to sickness or old age, the best thing you can do for them is to seek your vet’s help to end your pet's life humanely.
1-7. Neuter or spay your dog.
Responsible dog owners will control their pet’s reproduction. Neuter or spay your dog as soon as your vet recommends doing so to prevent unwanted litters adding to the numbers in shelters as well as adolescent behavior problems that arise from sex hormones.
Alternative options are available, too, such as Vasectomy, Neutering, Tubal Ligation and Ovary-Sparing Spay (OSS). While harder to come by, they come with less long term health risks than spaying and neutering. Spaying and neutering comes with many associated health risks such as different types of cancers, orthopedic disorders and cardiac hemangiosarcoma.
The recovery time from the procedure should be relatively short. You'll just need to keep your dog relaxed and prevent them from licking their wound while they heal.
2. Creating a Safe Environment
2-1. Create a space suited to your dog.
Dogs need appropriate shelter. At minimum, that means space to move around, climate control, and clean bedding.
Start by picking a dog that’s suited to the space you have. For instance, it’s not a good idea to get an active, territorial breed, like a German Shepard, if you live in a studio apartment. Don’t get a high-energy dog like a Border Collie if you don’t have a yard or nearby field where it can run around.
Keep your dog warm in cold weather and cool in hot weather. Because of their fur and limited perspiration, dogs are easily affected by the heat. Never leave them in a car or place without shade. If it feels too cold for you to be outside, it's too cold for your dog to be outside as well.
Give your dog a designated place to sleep, whether it be a blanket, dog bed, or crate. If you choose to use a crate, be sure that it’s just big enough for your dog to stand up, sit, lie down, and turn around in.
When you first bring a new puppy home, it is especially important to have a specific area available only for your puppy. If there are other pets in the home, such as a cat, it is crucial to keep them separated for at least one to two weeks. During that time, they will adjust to each other by scent and will be less likely to provoke each other later.
2-2. Make your home safe.
“Dog-proof” your house before your pet arrives. That means moving anything that’s valuable and/or breakable out of their reach, blocking access to any area you want to be dog-free, and securely storing any potentially toxic substances.
Keep garbage cans either out-of-reach (in a low cabinet or in a closed pantry), or make them impossible to get into (using a can with a closed lid). Dogs are often attracted to eating garbage. If you don’t deny them access to it, it’ll create a mess for you to clean up and health problems for them.
Keep cleaning agents and other poisonous household substances, like antifreeze, out-of-reach.
2-3. Let your dog out regularly.
Grown-up dogs need to urinate at least every 8 to 10 hours; puppies every few hours. Besides taking your pet on walks, get in the habit of letting them out first thing in the morning, directly before bed, and after mealtimes. Doing so will keep them healthy and your floors safe from accidents.
Make regular stops if you take your dog on a long road trip, so that he can get out for some exercise and have a drink of water. Never leave your dog unattended in the car!
2-4. Make your yard secure.
It’s essential to let your dog out, so be sure that the outside is safe for their sake and contained for the sake of your neighbors. Outdoor areas should have a controlled border, established by physical or invisible fencing. Keep dangerous tools (like axes) and substances (like fertilizer) in locked storage.
Check for holes in the fences or gates, especially if you have a small dog. If you have a puppy, you might want to put wire over gates with gaps in them as very small dogs may be able to fit through the bars.
Some plants, like poinsettias or holly bushes, are poisonous to dogs. Do an online search for which species are toxic to canines, and then keep them out of reach or remove them to keep your dog safe.
2-5. Get the proper supplies.
At the very least, you’ll need a food dish, water bowl, collar and/or harness, leash, toys, and bedding. Many people also get a carrier case and crate. Local pet shops can help you pick the most appropriate supplies for your breed of dog.
3. Taking Responsibility for Your Dog
3-1. Tag and microchip your dog.
These identification services are available through most vets and are essential to your dog’s safety. If you ever lose them, local authorities will be easily able to track you down if your information is up-to-date in the associated databases.
3-2. Monitor your dog’s behavior.
You are responsible for ensuring that your dog doesn’t have a negative impact on other people or animals.
Besides being sure that your dog is under control and supervised at all times when in public, responsible dog owners will get to know their pet’s patterns of behavior so that they can anticipate any issues. For instance, if you notice that your dog growls at strollers, give them a wide berth whenever possible until your dog grows more comfortable with them.
It’s always the best policy to avoid putting your dog in situations that you know will make them uncomfortable. For example, if your dog is suspicious of or aggressive towards other dogs, it’s not a good idea to let them loose in a crowded dog park because that is not setting them up to behave well.
3-3. Socialize your dog
Gradually introduce your dog to new people and environments. Exposing them to a variety of people and places will help them be more comfortable with the world around them.
Socialization is a slow process, so don’t ask too much of your dog all at once. For instance, if you’re dog has not been in crowds before, it’s not a good idea to take them to an outdoor carnival. You want them to continuously learn more about the world, but you don’t want to overwhelm them.
When your dog remains calm with new people and settings, reward their good behavior with praise and/or treats.
3-4. Train your dog
Obedience training and socialization classes can help ensure that your dog will become a well-mannered family and community member. Training will strengthen your bond with your pet, prevent or correct unwanted behaviors, and create a well-balanced, happy pooch.
At the very least, every dog should know basic commands, including "sit," "stay," "lie down," "come," and "heel." You might see variations on these command phrases, but the behaviors that they need to learn are the same: responding to you immediately, exercising self-control, staying in a given position, coming at your request, and walking well on a leash.
Ask your vet, local animal shelter, breeder, or fellow dog owners for trainer recommendations.
Positive reinforcement, like rewarding your dog with treats or praise when it does something right, is the most effective training method.
Contract a trainer via phone or visit their website to verify their qualifications. Make sure that the trainer you pick has significant experience, can offer good references, and uses humane methods of “positive reinforcement.” Never go to a trainer whose methods involve physical restraint or violence.
3-5. Pick up after your dog.
Make sure that your canine is leaving no trace on the environment. Always dispose of your dog's waste in the proper manner and immediately address other damage they might cause, for instance, by filling in any holes they may dig.
Use a bag to pick up your dog’s feces and dispose of it right away in an authorized trash receptacle. Consider using biodegradable bags to minimize your environmental impact.
Besides being considerate to your neighbors, cleaning up waste helps prevent the spread of disease.
3-6. Keep your dog leashed in public at all times.
This will prevent your dog from running away, chasing animals, or jumping on other dogs or people.
Oftentimes, local law insists that you keep your dog on a leash, so you risk fines if you don’t observe it. Be sure you’re familiar with the dog-related regulations in your area.
If you’d like to let your dog loose, find an off-lead dog park where they can run free.
4. Ensuring Your Dog’s Happiness
4-1. Be a devoted, consistent friend.
Dogs are social creatures, and you’re the center of their universe. They don’t like to be left alone all day. If you’re going to have one as a pet, be sure that you plan on being around more often than not. It’s not fair to your dog to leave them unattended for long periods and may lead to behavioral issues like aggression and anxiety.
Many pet owners who work during the day get a companion pet for their dogs so that they can keep each other company. You should also consider having a friend or family member visit your pooch, taking them to doggy daycare, or hiring a dog-walker to get your pet out of the house.
4-2. Exercise your dog
Your dog needs daily exercise for the sake of their health and well-being. Play with them, and take them for at least one, but preferably two, walks a day to ensure they’re getting enough physical and mental stimulation.
Without proper exercise, your dog will become bored and many behavior problems may arise (like chewing, excessive barking, jumping, and hyperactivity).
Play with your dog. Canines have instincts to chew, fetch, chase, hunt, spar, dig, and herd. Help them exercise these instincts in constructive ways through supervised play. For instance, if your dog loves to hunt things, get them a toy that they can safely chase after, like a wooly chew toy at the end of a long rope. That way, your dog can act on their instinct while keeping them away from real animals and at a safe distance from you.
4-3. Give your dog mental exercise.
Besides working their bodies, you should work your dog’s mind. This means giving them specific tasks (like fetching or finding something) and rewarding them for completing them (with praise and/or treats).
Most breeds love to have jobs. Giving them work to do will make them more alert and boost their sense of well-being.
4-4. Groom your dog
Besides brushing them regularly, you’ll need to occasionally bathe your dog, keep their toe nails clipped, and see that their coat is neatly trimmed. You can consult with an expert to learn how to do these tricky processes yourself or go to a professional groomer to get the job done.
Comb your dog’s coat at least once a week (or more for long-haired dogs) to control shedding and keep their fur from getting tangled and matted. Brushing can also help clean your dog’s skin and distribute its natural oils. Be sure to use a brush that’s appropriate for your dog’s size and hair length.
Only bathe your dog when it’s absolutely necessary. Frequent washing can dry out the natural oils in their skins, leaving your pet with constant itches and rashes. When you do, use a mild dog shampoo and warm water. Since dogs have sensitive ears, only wash them from the neck down.
Keep your dog’s nails short to keep them comfortable and avoid them scratching up your house. Be sure to consult with a groomer or vet about how to clip your dog’s nails before you do it yourself. It’s a tricky process that can easily harm your pet if you do it wrong, so learn the right method from an expert or leave it to a trained professional.
Some canines are more high-maintenance than others. If you have a breed that requires grooming, like a Poodle or Pekingese, make sure you have a regular appointment set up with a professional groomer.
Tips
Many of the above tips vary depending on your dog breed. Be sure to look into the specific needs of your dog’s breed.
Professional, certified, trainers have invested hundreds of hours in education and observation and can offer correct steps to correct issues.
Knowing your dog's fears and dislikes will help you prevent the fear from developing into aggression. Responsible owners proactively protect their dogs and prevent them from being placed in situations where the dog feels the need to protect itself.
Warnings
Having a dog is a huge commitment. Don’t get one unless you are prepared to take good care of them for their entire life.
Always supervise your dog when it’s around children. If you can't physically keep your dog in line of sight with children, then separate them.
A dog isn't a person, so don’t treat them like one. They are an entirely different species with their own anatomy, psychology, instincts, and intelligence. Respect them for who and what they are. Learning to do this will take you very far in being able to train, relate to, and understand them. You can't make a dog happy if you can't work with it at its own level.
Never, ever leave your dog in the car, with or without the windows down.
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Toys that allow them to chew, like rope or nylon bones, will also help keep their teeth clean and gums healthy.\\n\\nBrush your dog’s teeth daily. This will prevent bad breath, tartar buildup, and bacterial infections. You can lift their lips to expose their teeth and brush them as would your own.\\nTo be the most effective, use an angled brush that’s specially designed for dogs. Always stick to toothpaste made for canines since the fluoride found in most human toothpastes is poisonous to dogs.\\n1-4. Keep your dog at a healthy weight.\\nIt’s your job to monitor your pet’s food intake and feed them an appropriate amount for their size and ideal weight. While it may seem cruel to deny your dog the food that they’re begging for, letting your dog get obese is more cruel since it compromises their health and well-being.\\nIf your dog is overweight, ask your vet to recommend a diet to help get them get back to an appropriate weight.\\n1-5. Avoid giving your dog “people food” or medicine.\\nCanines have very different nutritional needs than humans, so stick to feeding them dog food to ensure they’re getting a healthy and well-balanced diet. They also have different medical needs, so never assume that the remedies that work for us will work for them.\\nBe aware that many of our common food items are poisonous or even lethal to dogs, like raisins, grapes, mushrooms, onions, macadamia nuts, caffeine, chocolate (especially dark chocolate and baking chocolate), alcoholic beverages, dairy products such as milk, and citrus fruits such as oranges.\\nOnly give your dog medicines that have been explicitly prescribed or approved by a vet. Many human drugs—over-the-counter or prescription—can kill your dog. For instance, aspirin may be given to a dog if your vet tells you it is alright and tells you the proper dosage. But acetaminophen and ibuprofen are highly poisonous for your pooch.\\nHave a canine first aid kit on hand to address your dog’s medical needs. You can either buy one or put one together yourself. Make sure it includes basic supplies like a pet first-aid book, self-cling bandages, gauze pads, an antibacterial ointment or antiseptic wipes, disposable gloves, scissors, and tweezers.\\n1-6. Register your dog with a veterinary clinic.\\nHaving an established veterinarian-owner-patient relationship with regular check-ups will help ensure that your dog is as healthy as possible and up-to-date with their vaccinations and parasite control.\\nWhen searching for a vet, be sure to choose one that is nearby to where you live and has good online reviews.\\nGo to your vet regularly to minimize your dog’s risk of contracting and spreading dangerous diseases (like rabies or kennel cough) or parasites (like fleas and heartworm). Your vet will keep records to remind you when preventative treatments need to be administered.\\nHow often you should visit the vet will depend on the health and age of your dog. Puppies will need several appointments in their first year, but a normal, healthy adult dog can generally get by with an annual check-up. Senior dogs who are pushing ten years of age should probably go in at least twice a year.\\nYour vet can also help you decide when it’s time to let go. When your pet is stuck in a cycle of incurable suffering due to sickness or old age, the best thing you can do for them is to seek your vet’s help to end your pet's life humanely.\\n1-7. Neuter or spay your dog.\\nResponsible dog owners will control their pet’s reproduction. Neuter or spay your dog as soon as your vet recommends doing so to prevent unwanted litters adding to the numbers in shelters as well as adolescent behavior problems that arise from sex hormones.\\nAlternative options are available, too, such as Vasectomy, Neutering, Tubal Ligation and Ovary-Sparing Spay (OSS). While harder to come by, they come with less long term health risks than spaying and neutering. Spaying and neutering comes with many associated health risks such as different types of cancers, orthopedic disorders and cardiac hemangiosarcoma.\\nThe recovery time from the procedure should be relatively short. You'll just need to keep your dog relaxed and prevent them from licking their wound while they heal.\\n2. Creating a Safe Environment\\n2-1. Create a space suited to your dog.\\nDogs need appropriate shelter. At minimum, that means space to move around, climate control, and clean bedding.\\nStart by picking a dog that’s suited to the space you have. For instance, it’s not a good idea to get an active, territorial breed, like a German Shepard, if you live in a studio apartment. Don’t get a high-energy dog like a Border Collie if you don’t have a yard or nearby field where it can run around.\\nKeep your dog warm in cold weather and cool in hot weather. Because of their fur and limited perspiration, dogs are easily affected by the heat. Never leave them in a car or place without shade. If it feels too cold for you to be outside, it's too cold for your dog to be outside as well.\\nGive your dog a designated place to sleep, whether it be a blanket, dog bed, or crate. If you choose to use a crate, be sure that it’s just big enough for your dog to stand up, sit, lie down, and turn around in.\\nWhen you first bring a new puppy home, it is especially important to have a specific area available only for your puppy. If there are other pets in the home, such as a cat, it is crucial to keep them separated for at least one to two weeks. During that time, they will adjust to each other by scent and will be less likely to provoke each other later.\\n2-2. Make your home safe.\\n“Dog-proof” your house before your pet arrives. That means moving anything that’s valuable and/or breakable out of their reach, blocking access to any area you want to be dog-free, and securely storing any potentially toxic substances.\\nKeep garbage cans either out-of-reach (in a low cabinet or in a closed pantry), or make them impossible to get into (using a can with a closed lid). Dogs are often attracted to eating garbage. If you don’t deny them access to it, it’ll create a mess for you to clean up and health problems for them.\\nKeep cleaning agents and other poisonous household substances, like antifreeze, out-of-reach.\\n2-3. Let your dog out regularly.\\nGrown-up dogs need to urinate at least every 8 to 10 hours; puppies every few hours. Besides taking your pet on walks, get in the habit of letting them out first thing in the morning, directly before bed, and after mealtimes. Doing so will keep them healthy and your floors safe from accidents.\\nMake regular stops if you take your dog on a long road trip, so that he can get out for some exercise and have a drink of water. Never leave your dog unattended in the car!\\n2-4. Make your yard secure.\\nIt’s essential to let your dog out, so be sure that the outside is safe for their sake and contained for the sake of your neighbors. Outdoor areas should have a controlled border, established by physical or invisible fencing. Keep dangerous tools (like axes) and substances (like fertilizer) in locked storage.\\nCheck for holes in the fences or gates, especially if you have a small dog. If you have a puppy, you might want to put wire over gates with gaps in them as very small dogs may be able to fit through the bars.\\nSome plants, like poinsettias or holly bushes, are poisonous to dogs. Do an online search for which species are toxic to canines, and then keep them out of reach or remove them to keep your dog safe.\\n2-5. Get the proper supplies.\\nAt the very least, you’ll need a food dish, water bowl, collar and/or harness, leash, toys, and bedding. Many people also get a carrier case and crate. Local pet shops can help you pick the most appropriate supplies for your breed of dog.\\n3. Taking Responsibility for Your Dog\\n3-1. Tag and microchip your dog.\\nThese identification services are available through most vets and are essential to your dog’s safety. If you ever lose them, local authorities will be easily able to track you down if your information is up-to-date in the associated databases.\\n3-2. Monitor your dog’s behavior.\\nYou are responsible for ensuring that your dog doesn’t have a negative impact on other people or animals.\\nBesides being sure that your dog is under control and supervised at all times when in public, responsible dog owners will get to know their pet’s patterns of behavior so that they can anticipate any issues. For instance, if you notice that your dog growls at strollers, give them a wide berth whenever possible until your dog grows more comfortable with them.\\nIt’s always the best policy to avoid putting your dog in situations that you know will make them uncomfortable. For example, if your dog is suspicious of or aggressive towards other dogs, it’s not a good idea to let them loose in a crowded dog park because that is not setting them up to behave well.\\n3-3. Socialize your dog\\nGradually introduce your dog to new people and environments. Exposing them to a variety of people and places will help them be more comfortable with the world around them.\\nSocialization is a slow process, so don’t ask too much of your dog all at once. For instance, if you’re dog has not been in crowds before, it’s not a good idea to take them to an outdoor carnival. You want them to continuously learn more about the world, but you don’t want to overwhelm them.\\nWhen your dog remains calm with new people and settings, reward their good behavior with praise and/or treats.\\n3-4. Train your dog\\nObedience training and socialization classes can help ensure that your dog will become a well-mannered family and community member. Training will strengthen your bond with your pet, prevent or correct unwanted behaviors, and create a well-balanced, happy pooch.\\nAt the very least, every dog should know basic commands, including \\\"sit,\\\" \\\"stay,\\\" \\\"lie down,\\\" \\\"come,\\\" and \\\"heel.\\\" You might see variations on these command phrases, but the behaviors that they need to learn are the same: responding to you immediately, exercising self-control, staying in a given position, coming at your request, and walking well on a leash.\\nAsk your vet, local animal shelter, breeder, or fellow dog owners for trainer recommendations.\\nPositive reinforcement, like rewarding your dog with treats or praise when it does something right, is the most effective training method.\\nContract a trainer via phone or visit their website to verify their qualifications. Make sure that the trainer you pick has significant experience, can offer good references, and uses humane methods of “positive reinforcement.” Never go to a trainer whose methods involve physical restraint or violence.\\n3-5. Pick up after your dog.\\nMake sure that your canine is leaving no trace on the environment. Always dispose of your dog's waste in the proper manner and immediately address other damage they might cause, for instance, by filling in any holes they may dig.\\nUse a bag to pick up your dog’s feces and dispose of it right away in an authorized trash receptacle. Consider using biodegradable bags to minimize your environmental impact.\\nBesides being considerate to your neighbors, cleaning up waste helps prevent the spread of disease.\\n3-6. Keep your dog leashed in public at all times.\\nThis will prevent your dog from running away, chasing animals, or jumping on other dogs or people.\\nOftentimes, local law insists that you keep your dog on a leash, so you risk fines if you don’t observe it. Be sure you’re familiar with the dog-related regulations in your area.\\nIf you’d like to let your dog loose, find an off-lead dog park where they can run free.\\n4. Ensuring Your Dog’s Happiness\\n4-1. Be a devoted, consistent friend.\\nDogs are social creatures, and you’re the center of their universe. They don’t like to be left alone all day. If you’re going to have one as a pet, be sure that you plan on being around more often than not. It’s not fair to your dog to leave them unattended for long periods and may lead to behavioral issues like aggression and anxiety.\\nMany pet owners who work during the day get a companion pet for their dogs so that they can keep each other company. You should also consider having a friend or family member visit your pooch, taking them to doggy daycare, or hiring a dog-walker to get your pet out of the house.\\n4-2. Exercise your dog\\nYour dog needs daily exercise for the sake of their health and well-being. Play with them, and take them for at least one, but preferably two, walks a day to ensure they’re getting enough physical and mental stimulation.\\nWithout proper exercise, your dog will become bored and many behavior problems may arise (like chewing, excessive barking, jumping, and hyperactivity).\\nPlay with your dog. Canines have instincts to chew, fetch, chase, hunt, spar, dig, and herd. Help them exercise these instincts in constructive ways through supervised play. For instance, if your dog loves to hunt things, get them a toy that they can safely chase after, like a wooly chew toy at the end of a long rope. That way, your dog can act on their instinct while keeping them away from real animals and at a safe distance from you.\\n4-3. Give your dog mental exercise.\\nBesides working their bodies, you should work your dog’s mind. This means giving them specific tasks (like fetching or finding something) and rewarding them for completing them (with praise and/or treats).\\nMost breeds love to have jobs. Giving them work to do will make them more alert and boost their sense of well-being.\\n4-4. Groom your dog\\nBesides brushing them regularly, you’ll need to occasionally bathe your dog, keep their toe nails clipped, and see that their coat is neatly trimmed. You can consult with an expert to learn how to do these tricky processes yourself or go to a professional groomer to get the job done.\\nComb your dog’s coat at least once a week (or more for long-haired dogs) to control shedding and keep their fur from getting tangled and matted. Brushing can also help clean your dog’s skin and distribute its natural oils. Be sure to use a brush that’s appropriate for your dog’s size and hair length.\\nOnly bathe your dog when it’s absolutely necessary. Frequent washing can dry out the natural oils in their skins, leaving your pet with constant itches and rashes. When you do, use a mild dog shampoo and warm water. Since dogs have sensitive ears, only wash them from the neck down.\\nKeep your dog’s nails short to keep them comfortable and avoid them scratching up your house. Be sure to consult with a groomer or vet about how to clip your dog’s nails before you do it yourself. It’s a tricky process that can easily harm your pet if you do it wrong, so learn the right method from an expert or leave it to a trained professional.\\nSome canines are more high-maintenance than others. If you have a breed that requires grooming, like a Poodle or Pekingese, make sure you have a regular appointment set up with a professional groomer.\\nTips\\nMany of the above tips vary depending on your dog breed. Be sure to look into the specific needs of your dog’s breed.\\nProfessional, certified, trainers have invested hundreds of hours in education and observation and can offer correct steps to correct issues.\\nKnowing your dog's fears and dislikes will help you prevent the fear from developing into aggression. Responsible owners proactively protect their dogs and prevent them from being placed in situations where the dog feels the need to protect itself.\\nWarnings\\nHaving a dog is a huge commitment. Don’t get one unless you are prepared to take good care of them for their entire life.\\nAlways supervise your dog when it’s around children. If you can't physically keep your dog in line of sight with children, then separate them.\\nA dog isn't a person, so don’t treat them like one. They are an entirely different species with their own anatomy, psychology, instincts, and intelligence. Respect them for who and what they are. Learning to do this will take you very far in being able to train, relate to, and understand them. You can't make a dog happy if you can't work with it at its own level.\\nNever, ever leave your dog in the car, with or without the windows down.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"When canines are well cared for, they can be loyal companions and beloved additions to families. Make the most of that one-of-a-kind relationship by knowing and doing what’s best for your pet. Being a responsible dog owner means keeping your dog happy, healthy, and safe by taking care of their basic dietary, medical, physical, and psychological needs. It also means monitoring your dog’s behavior and environmental impact in public spaces so that you and your pooch are good members of your community.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keeping Your Dog Healthy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Provide your dog with healthy food.\", \"描述\": \"Get recommendations from your vet or breeder as to which foods work best for your dog’s breed. The type and amount will vary according to your pet’s age, weight, and activity level, so be sure to consult the packaging for the correct serving sizes.\\nA dog’s digestion will be healthiest if you give them a consistent diet. If you do change your dog’s food, introduce the new kind gradually by mixing it in with the old at first.\\nKeep in mind that how much you feed your dog is almost as important as what you feed them. Overfeeding can lead to obesity, which increases the risk of heart disease, diabetes, and arthritis.\\nSince you want to feed your dog a set amount, it’s best to control their feeding times rather than letting them graze throughout the day. Establish meal times once or twice a day to give your dog a sense of routine.\\nMonitor your dog’s treats. It’s always wonderful to reward your canine companions with treats, but be sure that you’re adjusting their normal food intake accordingly. If you feed your dog a bone, reduce the amount of kibble they’ll get for dinner.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make sure your dog always has access to water.\", \"描述\": \"Hydration is critical for your dog’s nutrition, digestion, and joint health. It’s also critical for the regulation of their body temperature. Your dog should always have a dish of fresh, clean water available, even at night.\\nIf you go on car trips or outings, take water with you for your dog.\\nBe sure to clean your dog’s food bowl and water dish regularly to prevent mold, dirt, and bacteria from building up.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Clean your dog’s teeth.\", \"描述\": \"Regularly brush your dog’s teeth and give them canine dental products, like hard biscuits and dental chews to improve their oral hygiene. Toys that allow them to chew, like rope or nylon bones, will also help keep their teeth clean and gums healthy.\\n\\nBrush your dog’s teeth daily. This will prevent bad breath, tartar buildup, and bacterial infections. You can lift their lips to expose their teeth and brush them as would your own.\\nTo be the most effective, use an angled brush that’s specially designed for dogs. Always stick to toothpaste made for canines since the fluoride found in most human toothpastes is poisonous to dogs.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep your dog at a healthy weight.\", \"描述\": \"It’s your job to monitor your pet’s food intake and feed them an appropriate amount for their size and ideal weight. While it may seem cruel to deny your dog the food that they’re begging for, letting your dog get obese is more cruel since it compromises their health and well-being.\\nIf your dog is overweight, ask your vet to recommend a diet to help get them get back to an appropriate weight.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid giving your dog “people food” or medicine.\", \"描述\": \"Canines have very different nutritional needs than humans, so stick to feeding them dog food to ensure they’re getting a healthy and well-balanced diet. They also have different medical needs, so never assume that the remedies that work for us will work for them.\\nBe aware that many of our common food items are poisonous or even lethal to dogs, like raisins, grapes, mushrooms, onions, macadamia nuts, caffeine, chocolate (especially dark chocolate and baking chocolate), alcoholic beverages, dairy products such as milk, and citrus fruits such as oranges.\\nOnly give your dog medicines that have been explicitly prescribed or approved by a vet. Many human drugs—over-the-counter or prescription—can kill your dog. For instance, aspirin may be given to a dog if your vet tells you it is alright and tells you the proper dosage. But acetaminophen and ibuprofen are highly poisonous for your pooch.\\nHave a canine first aid kit on hand to address your dog’s medical needs. You can either buy one or put one together yourself. Make sure it includes basic supplies like a pet first-aid book, self-cling bandages, gauze pads, an antibacterial ointment or antiseptic wipes, disposable gloves, scissors, and tweezers.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Register your dog with a veterinary clinic.\", \"描述\": \"Having an established veterinarian-owner-patient relationship with regular check-ups will help ensure that your dog is as healthy as possible and up-to-date with their vaccinations and parasite control.\\nWhen searching for a vet, be sure to choose one that is nearby to where you live and has good online reviews.\\nGo to your vet regularly to minimize your dog’s risk of contracting and spreading dangerous diseases (like rabies or kennel cough) or parasites (like fleas and heartworm). Your vet will keep records to remind you when preventative treatments need to be administered.\\nHow often you should visit the vet will depend on the health and age of your dog. Puppies will need several appointments in their first year, but a normal, healthy adult dog can generally get by with an annual check-up. Senior dogs who are pushing ten years of age should probably go in at least twice a year.\\nYour vet can also help you decide when it’s time to let go. When your pet is stuck in a cycle of incurable suffering due to sickness or old age, the best thing you can do for them is to seek your vet’s help to end your pet's life humanely.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Neuter or spay your dog.\", \"描述\": \"Responsible dog owners will control their pet’s reproduction. Neuter or spay your dog as soon as your vet recommends doing so to prevent unwanted litters adding to the numbers in shelters as well as adolescent behavior problems that arise from sex hormones.\\nAlternative options are available, too, such as Vasectomy, Neutering, Tubal Ligation and Ovary-Sparing Spay (OSS). While harder to come by, they come with less long term health risks than spaying and neutering. Spaying and neutering comes with many associated health risks such as different types of cancers, orthopedic disorders and cardiac hemangiosarcoma.\\nThe recovery time from the procedure should be relatively short. You'll just need to keep your dog relaxed and prevent them from licking their wound while they heal.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Creating a Safe Environment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create a space suited to your dog.\", \"描述\": \"Dogs need appropriate shelter. At minimum, that means space to move around, climate control, and clean bedding.\\nStart by picking a dog that’s suited to the space you have. For instance, it’s not a good idea to get an active, territorial breed, like a German Shepard, if you live in a studio apartment. Don’t get a high-energy dog like a Border Collie if you don’t have a yard or nearby field where it can run around.\\nKeep your dog warm in cold weather and cool in hot weather. Because of their fur and limited perspiration, dogs are easily affected by the heat. Never leave them in a car or place without shade. If it feels too cold for you to be outside, it's too cold for your dog to be outside as well.\\nGive your dog a designated place to sleep, whether it be a blanket, dog bed, or crate. If you choose to use a crate, be sure that it’s just big enough for your dog to stand up, sit, lie down, and turn around in.\\nWhen you first bring a new puppy home, it is especially important to have a specific area available only for your puppy. If there are other pets in the home, such as a cat, it is crucial to keep them separated for at least one to two weeks. During that time, they will adjust to each other by scent and will be less likely to provoke each other later.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make your home safe.\", \"描述\": \"“Dog-proof” your house before your pet arrives. That means moving anything that’s valuable and/or breakable out of their reach, blocking access to any area you want to be dog-free, and securely storing any potentially toxic substances.\\nKeep garbage cans either out-of-reach (in a low cabinet or in a closed pantry), or make them impossible to get into (using a can with a closed lid). Dogs are often attracted to eating garbage. If you don’t deny them access to it, it’ll create a mess for you to clean up and health problems for them.\\nKeep cleaning agents and other poisonous household substances, like antifreeze, out-of-reach.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let your dog out regularly.\", \"描述\": \"Grown-up dogs need to urinate at least every 8 to 10 hours; puppies every few hours. Besides taking your pet on walks, get in the habit of letting them out first thing in the morning, directly before bed, and after mealtimes. Doing so will keep them healthy and your floors safe from accidents.\\nMake regular stops if you take your dog on a long road trip, so that he can get out for some exercise and have a drink of water. Never leave your dog unattended in the car!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make your yard secure.\", \"描述\": \"It’s essential to let your dog out, so be sure that the outside is safe for their sake and contained for the sake of your neighbors. Outdoor areas should have a controlled border, established by physical or invisible fencing. Keep dangerous tools (like axes) and substances (like fertilizer) in locked storage.\\nCheck for holes in the fences or gates, especially if you have a small dog. If you have a puppy, you might want to put wire over gates with gaps in them as very small dogs may be able to fit through the bars.\\nSome plants, like poinsettias or holly bushes, are poisonous to dogs. Do an online search for which species are toxic to canines, and then keep them out of reach or remove them to keep your dog safe.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get the proper supplies.\", \"描述\": \"At the very least, you’ll need a food dish, water bowl, collar and/or harness, leash, toys, and bedding. Many people also get a carrier case and crate. Local pet shops can help you pick the most appropriate supplies for your breed of dog.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking Responsibility for Your Dog\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tag and microchip your dog.\", \"描述\": \"These identification services are available through most vets and are essential to your dog’s safety. If you ever lose them, local authorities will be easily able to track you down if your information is up-to-date in the associated databases.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Monitor your dog’s behavior.\", \"描述\": \"You are responsible for ensuring that your dog doesn’t have a negative impact on other people or animals.\\nBesides being sure that your dog is under control and supervised at all times when in public, responsible dog owners will get to know their pet’s patterns of behavior so that they can anticipate any issues. For instance, if you notice that your dog growls at strollers, give them a wide berth whenever possible until your dog grows more comfortable with them.\\nIt’s always the best policy to avoid putting your dog in situations that you know will make them uncomfortable. For example, if your dog is suspicious of or aggressive towards other dogs, it’s not a good idea to let them loose in a crowded dog park because that is not setting them up to behave well.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Socialize your dog\", \"描述\": \"Gradually introduce your dog to new people and environments. Exposing them to a variety of people and places will help them be more comfortable with the world around them.\\nSocialization is a slow process, so don’t ask too much of your dog all at once. For instance, if you’re dog has not been in crowds before, it’s not a good idea to take them to an outdoor carnival. You want them to continuously learn more about the world, but you don’t want to overwhelm them.\\nWhen your dog remains calm with new people and settings, reward their good behavior with praise and/or treats.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Train your dog\", \"描述\": \"Obedience training and socialization classes can help ensure that your dog will become a well-mannered family and community member. Training will strengthen your bond with your pet, prevent or correct unwanted behaviors, and create a well-balanced, happy pooch.\\nAt the very least, every dog should know basic commands, including \\\"sit,\\\" \\\"stay,\\\" \\\"lie down,\\\" \\\"come,\\\" and \\\"heel.\\\" You might see variations on these command phrases, but the behaviors that they need to learn are the same: responding to you immediately, exercising self-control, staying in a given position, coming at your request, and walking well on a leash.\\nAsk your vet, local animal shelter, breeder, or fellow dog owners for trainer recommendations.\\nPositive reinforcement, like rewarding your dog with treats or praise when it does something right, is the most effective training method.\\nContract a trainer via phone or visit their website to verify their qualifications. Make sure that the trainer you pick has significant experience, can offer good references, and uses humane methods of “positive reinforcement.” Never go to a trainer whose methods involve physical restraint or violence.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pick up after your dog.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure that your canine is leaving no trace on the environment. Always dispose of your dog's waste in the proper manner and immediately address other damage they might cause, for instance, by filling in any holes they may dig.\\nUse a bag to pick up your dog’s feces and dispose of it right away in an authorized trash receptacle. Consider using biodegradable bags to minimize your environmental impact.\\nBesides being considerate to your neighbors, cleaning up waste helps prevent the spread of disease.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep your dog leashed in public at all times.\", \"描述\": \"This will prevent your dog from running away, chasing animals, or jumping on other dogs or people.\\nOftentimes, local law insists that you keep your dog on a leash, so you risk fines if you don’t observe it. Be sure you’re familiar with the dog-related regulations in your area.\\nIf you’d like to let your dog loose, find an off-lead dog park where they can run free.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ensuring Your Dog’s Happiness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be a devoted, consistent friend.\", \"描述\": \"Dogs are social creatures, and you’re the center of their universe. They don’t like to be left alone all day. If you’re going to have one as a pet, be sure that you plan on being around more often than not. It’s not fair to your dog to leave them unattended for long periods and may lead to behavioral issues like aggression and anxiety.\\nMany pet owners who work during the day get a companion pet for their dogs so that they can keep each other company. You should also consider having a friend or family member visit your pooch, taking them to doggy daycare, or hiring a dog-walker to get your pet out of the house.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Exercise your dog\", \"描述\": \"Your dog needs daily exercise for the sake of their health and well-being. Play with them, and take them for at least one, but preferably two, walks a day to ensure they’re getting enough physical and mental stimulation.\\nWithout proper exercise, your dog will become bored and many behavior problems may arise (like chewing, excessive barking, jumping, and hyperactivity).\\nPlay with your dog. Canines have instincts to chew, fetch, chase, hunt, spar, dig, and herd. Help them exercise these instincts in constructive ways through supervised play. For instance, if your dog loves to hunt things, get them a toy that they can safely chase after, like a wooly chew toy at the end of a long rope. That way, your dog can act on their instinct while keeping them away from real animals and at a safe distance from you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give your dog mental exercise.\", \"描述\": \"Besides working their bodies, you should work your dog’s mind. This means giving them specific tasks (like fetching or finding something) and rewarding them for completing them (with praise and/or treats).\\nMost breeds love to have jobs. Giving them work to do will make them more alert and boost their sense of well-being.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Groom your dog\", \"描述\": \"Besides brushing them regularly, you’ll need to occasionally bathe your dog, keep their toe nails clipped, and see that their coat is neatly trimmed. 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It’s a tricky process that can easily harm your pet if you do it wrong, so learn the right method from an expert or leave it to a trained professional.\\nSome canines are more high-maintenance than others. If you have a breed that requires grooming, like a Poodle or Pekingese, make sure you have a regular appointment set up with a professional groomer.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Many of the above tips vary depending on your dog breed. Be sure to look into the specific needs of your dog’s breed.\\n\", \"Professional, certified, trainers have invested hundreds of hours in education and observation and can offer correct steps to correct issues.\\n\", \"Knowing your dog's fears and dislikes will help you prevent the fear from developing into aggression. Responsible owners proactively protect their dogs and prevent them from being placed in situations where the dog feels the need to protect itself.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Having a dog is a huge commitment. 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1. Being a Good Role Model
1-1. Be respectful toward your parents and show appreciation toward them.
Your siblings will probably look to you to see how they should treat your parents, so try to set a good example by being appreciative and kind whenever you can. For instance, try not to complain when your parents ask you to do chores, help them with tasks like putting away groceries, and say "Thank you" when they take you and your siblings out to dinner.
In addition to showing your siblings how they should act, this will likely help you have a closer relationship with your parents!
Try to do this whether your siblings are watching or not. If you're disrespectful to your parents when your siblings aren't around, they still might pick up on your attitude or hear your parents talking about it later.
If you disagree with your parents, don't shout, roll your eyes, or call them names. Instead, wait until you've calmed down, then ask your parents if you can talk about whatever you're upset about.
1-2. Model polite behavior in front of your siblings.
Although it's always important to be courteous, when your siblings are around, try to be extra conscious of being polite. For instance, try to remember to say things like, "Please," "Thank you," and "Excuse me" whenever it's appropriate. Often, your siblings will pick up on this without even realizing it, just because you do it.
Other examples of polite behavior include not interrupting when other people are talking, offering to help others if they need it, and having good table manners.
1-3. Help out around your home.
One great way to be a responsible older sister is to show your younger siblings the importance of being a good helper in your home. That might mean helping your parents do laundry, tidying up your room, getting your siblings ready for school, or setting the table before dinner, for instance. Whatever you do to help, try to do it with a cheerful attitude to inspire your younger siblings to do the same.
Try to do these things just for the sake of being helpful, not because you expect any kind of reward for doing it.
If you're not sure what you can do to help, try asking one of your parents for ideas. For instance, you might say, "Hey Mom, I know you're really busy. Is there anything I could do to help you with dinner?"
1-4. Apologize
Everyone messes up sometimes, so don't worry about being a perfect big sister. If you do something wrong, own up to it. Say you're sorry, and accept any consequences for your actions. That way, your younger siblings will know that it's okay to make mistakes, as long as you try to fix them and do better next time.
For instance, if you're running late for school and you shout at your little sister because she asks to borrow a headband, when you get home you might give her a hug and say something like, "I'm sorry I yelled at you. I was feeling stressed out and I shouldn't have taken it out on you."
1-5. Study hard if you're still in school.
Getting a good education is important for your own future, but it can also impact your siblings' futures, as well. If they see you prioritizing your schoolwork, they may be more inclined to study hard as well, since they'll feel like they need to live up to your example.
One great way to be a responsible big sister is to help your siblings with their homework. Chances are, you'll already know the information, and you may be able to explain it to them in a new way that helps it make more sense.
1-6. Show empathy for people who are in need.
It's easy sometimes to just focus on your own life or your family. However, take some time to put yourself in other peoples' shoes. Even if you don't feel like there's anything you can do to help, something as small as being kind to someone can help shape how your younger siblings see the world. In fact, it may make a bigger difference than even your own parents' attitude toward others.
For instance, if you see someone drop a handful of coins, stop and help pick them up. This simple act of kindness can mean a lot to someone who might already be having a bad day.
1-7. Avoid risky behaviors that your siblings might copy.
While it's natural that you're going to want to live your own life, try to avoid things could get you into trouble. When you're faced with a temptation, take a moment to think about what your siblings would think if they saw you. Even if they're not around when you do it, the consequences could still affect them, and they may be more likely to follow down the same path.
For instance, don't start smoking, or quit if you already do. If you're a smoker, your younger siblings may be more likely to smoke as well.
2. Having a Good Relationship with Your Siblings
2-1. Love your siblings for who they are.
Even if you're raised in a very similar way, you and your siblings are all individuals, and you each have your own personalities. Instead of thinking that your siblings should be more like you, accept them for exactly who they are. That will help you have a closer relationship now, as well as in the future when you're all living your own lives.
In addition, avoid comparing yourself to your siblings. For instance, if your little brother is an amazing piano player and you're not, don't feel like there's anything wrong with you. Instead, focus on finding your own talent.
2-2. Be patient
Younger siblings often seem like they know exactly which buttons to press to make you mad in a matter of seconds. However, they're usually just doing this to get a reaction out of you, and the attention that follows. When they're doing that, take a deep breath to stay calm, then try to redirect them to something positive.
For instance, if your brother is copying everything you say, instead of getting really annoyed, try saying something like, "Are you bored? Let's write a song together!"
2-3. Find things you can enjoy doing together.
It can sometimes seem hard to find things that you and your siblings can do together, especially if there's a large age gap between you. However, as the eldest sister, try to take on the responsibility of finding a new hobby or activity to try together.
For instance, you teach your siblings how to play a board game, go outside and play ball, or do an art project together.
This will give you and your siblings valuable bonding time together, which may make it easier to get along in the long run.
2-4. Tell your siblings they can come to you with their problems.
Try to be the kind of person your siblings can trust with their problems or secrets. Let them know that you're there to listen, and when they talk to you, give them your full attention whenever it's possible. Then, give them advice that you think will help them.
For instance, if one of your little sisters likes a boy at school, let her know that she can tell you about him. Then, don't tease her about the boy or tell anyone else about her crush.
2-5. Allow your siblings to be there for you too.
It can sometimes feel a little strange to be open with someone who's much younger than you, but if you want a close relationship with your siblings, you have to be willing to lean on them. If you're having a hard time, talk to your sibling about it in an age-appropriate way. It might just make you feel better!
For instance, if you're feeling overwhelmed by managing your schoolwork and all of your after-school activities, try opening up to your little sister about it. You might be surprised by the insight she can offer!
2-6. Be mature during conflicts with your siblings.
Even if you try your best to be patient, it's almost inevitable that you'll fight with your siblings at some point. However, it's easy to say and do hurtful things when you're mad, so it's best to walk away if you can. Once you feel yourself starting to heat up, take a few deep breaths, then ask if you can have some time alone. When you feel more calm, you can try to talk to your sibling about what happened, if you'd like.
For instance, if your brother was horseplaying and accidentally tore your sweater, you might want to yell at him or even hit him. However, it's important to calm yourself down, then later, explain that he really upset you by being careless.
Sometimes, your younger siblings might not respect your need for privacy or space. If that happens, ask an adult to intervene, put on a pair of headphones, or shut yourself in the bathroom for a few minutes.
2-7. Ask an adult for help if you don't feel you can handle a situation.
Asking for help when you need it actually makes you seem more responsible, so it's an important part of being a good big sister. If your sibling tells you that they're having a problem that an adult needs to fix, for instance, you should go to your parents or someone else you trust. It's also a good idea to find an adult if your sibling threatens or hits you, or if an argument gets out of hand and you need help resolving it.
Immediately go to an adult if your sibling or someone else is in danger. For example, you should tell an adult if your sibling is being bullied, threatens self-harm, or tells you that one of their friends is being abused.
Your sibling might be mad at you if you go to an adult, but hopefully, they'll appreciate it as they get older and reflect on the experience.
Tips
You don't have to be perfect or get along with your siblings all the time to be a responsible big sister. Just try to do your best!
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Instead, wait until you've calmed down, then ask your parents if you can talk about whatever you're upset about.\\n1-2. Model polite behavior in front of your siblings.\\nAlthough it's always important to be courteous, when your siblings are around, try to be extra conscious of being polite. For instance, try to remember to say things like, \\\"Please,\\\" \\\"Thank you,\\\" and \\\"Excuse me\\\" whenever it's appropriate. Often, your siblings will pick up on this without even realizing it, just because you do it.\\nOther examples of polite behavior include not interrupting when other people are talking, offering to help others if they need it, and having good table manners.\\n1-3. Help out around your home.\\nOne great way to be a responsible older sister is to show your younger siblings the importance of being a good helper in your home. That might mean helping your parents do laundry, tidying up your room, getting your siblings ready for school, or setting the table before dinner, for instance. Whatever you do to help, try to do it with a cheerful attitude to inspire your younger siblings to do the same.\\nTry to do these things just for the sake of being helpful, not because you expect any kind of reward for doing it.\\nIf you're not sure what you can do to help, try asking one of your parents for ideas. For instance, you might say, \\\"Hey Mom, I know you're really busy. Is there anything I could do to help you with dinner?\\\"\\n1-4. Apologize\\nEveryone messes up sometimes, so don't worry about being a perfect big sister. If you do something wrong, own up to it. Say you're sorry, and accept any consequences for your actions. That way, your younger siblings will know that it's okay to make mistakes, as long as you try to fix them and do better next time.\\nFor instance, if you're running late for school and you shout at your little sister because she asks to borrow a headband, when you get home you might give her a hug and say something like, \\\"I'm sorry I yelled at you. I was feeling stressed out and I shouldn't have taken it out on you.\\\"\\n1-5. Study hard if you're still in school.\\nGetting a good education is important for your own future, but it can also impact your siblings' futures, as well. If they see you prioritizing your schoolwork, they may be more inclined to study hard as well, since they'll feel like they need to live up to your example. \\nOne great way to be a responsible big sister is to help your siblings with their homework. Chances are, you'll already know the information, and you may be able to explain it to them in a new way that helps it make more sense.\\n1-6. 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Even if they're not around when you do it, the consequences could still affect them, and they may be more likely to follow down the same path. \\nFor instance, don't start smoking, or quit if you already do. If you're a smoker, your younger siblings may be more likely to smoke as well.\\n2. Having a Good Relationship with Your Siblings\\n2-1. Love your siblings for who they are.\\nEven if you're raised in a very similar way, you and your siblings are all individuals, and you each have your own personalities. Instead of thinking that your siblings should be more like you, accept them for exactly who they are. That will help you have a closer relationship now, as well as in the future when you're all living your own lives.\\nIn addition, avoid comparing yourself to your siblings. For instance, if your little brother is an amazing piano player and you're not, don't feel like there's anything wrong with you. Instead, focus on finding your own talent.\\n2-2. Be patient\\nYounger siblings often seem like they know exactly which buttons to press to make you mad in a matter of seconds. However, they're usually just doing this to get a reaction out of you, and the attention that follows. When they're doing that, take a deep breath to stay calm, then try to redirect them to something positive.\\nFor instance, if your brother is copying everything you say, instead of getting really annoyed, try saying something like, \\\"Are you bored? Let's write a song together!\\\"\\n2-3. Find things you can enjoy doing together.\\nIt can sometimes seem hard to find things that you and your siblings can do together, especially if there's a large age gap between you. However, as the eldest sister, try to take on the responsibility of finding a new hobby or activity to try together.\\nFor instance, you teach your siblings how to play a board game, go outside and play ball, or do an art project together.\\nThis will give you and your siblings valuable bonding time together, which may make it easier to get along in the long run.\\n2-4. Tell your siblings they can come to you with their problems.\\nTry to be the kind of person your siblings can trust with their problems or secrets. Let them know that you're there to listen, and when they talk to you, give them your full attention whenever it's possible. Then, give them advice that you think will help them.\\nFor instance, if one of your little sisters likes a boy at school, let her know that she can tell you about him. Then, don't tease her about the boy or tell anyone else about her crush.\\n2-5. Allow your siblings to be there for you too.\\nIt can sometimes feel a little strange to be open with someone who's much younger than you, but if you want a close relationship with your siblings, you have to be willing to lean on them. If you're having a hard time, talk to your sibling about it in an age-appropriate way. It might just make you feel better!\\nFor instance, if you're feeling overwhelmed by managing your schoolwork and all of your after-school activities, try opening up to your little sister about it. You might be surprised by the insight she can offer!\\n2-6. Be mature during conflicts with your siblings.\\nEven if you try your best to be patient, it's almost inevitable that you'll fight with your siblings at some point. However, it's easy to say and do hurtful things when you're mad, so it's best to walk away if you can. Once you feel yourself starting to heat up, take a few deep breaths, then ask if you can have some time alone. When you feel more calm, you can try to talk to your sibling about what happened, if you'd like.\\nFor instance, if your brother was horseplaying and accidentally tore your sweater, you might want to yell at him or even hit him. However, it's important to calm yourself down, then later, explain that he really upset you by being careless.\\nSometimes, your younger siblings might not respect your need for privacy or space. If that happens, ask an adult to intervene, put on a pair of headphones, or shut yourself in the bathroom for a few minutes.\\n2-7. Ask an adult for help if you don't feel you can handle a situation.\\nAsking for help when you need it actually makes you seem more responsible, so it's an important part of being a good big sister. If your sibling tells you that they're having a problem that an adult needs to fix, for instance, you should go to your parents or someone else you trust. 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If they see you prioritizing your schoolwork, they may be more inclined to study hard as well, since they'll feel like they need to live up to your example. \\nOne great way to be a responsible big sister is to help your siblings with their homework. Chances are, you'll already know the information, and you may be able to explain it to them in a new way that helps it make more sense.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Show empathy for people who are in need.\", \"描述\": \"It's easy sometimes to just focus on your own life or your family. However, take some time to put yourself in other peoples' shoes. Even if you don't feel like there's anything you can do to help, something as small as being kind to someone can help shape how your younger siblings see the world. In fact, it may make a bigger difference than even your own parents' attitude toward others.\\nFor instance, if you see someone drop a handful of coins, stop and help pick them up. 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Instead of thinking that your siblings should be more like you, accept them for exactly who they are. That will help you have a closer relationship now, as well as in the future when you're all living your own lives.\\nIn addition, avoid comparing yourself to your siblings. For instance, if your little brother is an amazing piano player and you're not, don't feel like there's anything wrong with you. Instead, focus on finding your own talent.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be patient\", \"描述\": \"Younger siblings often seem like they know exactly which buttons to press to make you mad in a matter of seconds. However, they're usually just doing this to get a reaction out of you, and the attention that follows. When they're doing that, take a deep breath to stay calm, then try to redirect them to something positive.\\nFor instance, if your brother is copying everything you say, instead of getting really annoyed, try saying something like, \\\"Are you bored? 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For example, you should tell an adult if your sibling is being bullied, threatens self-harm, or tells you that one of their friends is being abused.\\nYour sibling might be mad at you if you go to an adult, but hopefully, they'll appreciate it as they get older and reflect on the experience.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You don't have to be perfect or get along with your siblings all the time to be a responsible big sister. Just try to do your best!\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Disciplining and Setting Boundaries for Your Kids
1-1. Set firm household rules and behavioral standards.
Children will be easily confused if a certain behavior is acceptable one day and forbidden the next. So, be sure that children understand the types of behavior you expect from them in any given setting. Clarify to your children also that they will be disciplined if they break these rules.
Household rules could take the form of written instructions. For example, write: “No hitting other people, no complaining, no TV watching before homework is finished, and no name-calling.”
Teaching your children empathy from a young age will help you more easily enforce your behavioral standards. Help them view their actions from an empathetic point-of-view. You could say, "How do you think it makes your sister feel when you hit her?" or "How do you think Daddy feels when you say hurtful things?"
1-2. Set boundaries for the ways your kids treat you.
Boundaries help kids respect you and will ensure that you have the privacy and respect that you need. Useful personal boundaries include: not allowing children to interrupt you, not allowing kids to walk into a room you’re in without knocking first, and not permitting kids to boss you around. For your children, having firm boundaries in place will help them better understand ways in which they can and cannot treat and talk to you.
The issue of boundaries becomes increasingly important as kids age. Teens are more likely to try to push the boundaries or disobey rules in ways you may not notice.
Remind teens who act out that it’s still against household boundaries to, for example, swear in the house or come home past curfew.
1-3. Provide consistent and rational discipline.
As much as parents may dislike disciplining their children, it must be done when a child acts out or misbehaves. As a responsible parent, make sure to never discipline or punish your child purely out of anger. Also be sure that whatever discipline you dole out fits the crime. Giving arbitrary or punitive punishments may reduce the amount of trust that your child puts in you.
For example, if your child gets their shoes muddy on a walk home from school, it would be arbitrary to spank the child or send them to bed without dinner.
Instead, try requiring the child to wash their shoes in the bathtub before having a snack or watching TV.
1-4. Demonstrate flexibility and accommodate your kids’ needs.
While parenting does require making some firm rules, there’s no value in being inflexible. Adjust your parenting style if you need to. So, if you’ve set some ground rules for your children that they continually break, think of ways to improve upon the rules. Or, if you feel disappointed in your kids, think of ways you can relax your expectations or be more accommodating of kids’ natural limitations.
For example, if your child is past the age at which most learn to read, don’t get upset or frustrated with your kid, or feel like you’re a failure as a parent.
Keep in mind that children progress at different rates.
Being flexible also means adjusting your rules as your child gets older to reflect their changing needs. For example, you might allow them to go to bed later or play games with more mature ratings.
1-5. Protect the kids, especially when they’re young.
As a responsible parent, it’s your job to watch over your children and make sure they’re physically safe. Especially when kids are young, keep a close watch on them and do not let them, for example, wander into a street. Steer kids away from situations that you know are dangerous, and describe ways that they can tell they’re potentially in danger. As kids age, you can do things like ask them if they’re being bullied at school and make sure that they know how to call 911 if they’re in danger and you’re not nearby.
Protect very young kids by covering outlets, securely locking cabinets and drawers, and keeping them away from flights of stairs.
As children age, they should be given more freedom and responsibility. You can still watch over teenagers, for example, by suggesting that they not participate in activities that seem dangerous or sketchy.
As a responsible parent, it’s okay to say something like, “I respect your ability to make your own decisions. But in this case, I think you should reconsider the plans you’ve made; they sound dangerous.”
1-6. Meet your own emotional and personal needs.
Parenting is a draining job, and it’s important that you don’t exhaust yourself trying to accommodate your children’s every request. Take some time for yourself on a weekly basis. Make sure to forgive yourself for any parenting mistakes that you make. It’s okay to not be a perfect parent, and it’s healthy to still maintain social relationships, even if it means spending time away from your kids once or twice a week.
For example, if your children ask you to drive them to the movies after you’ve had a draining day at work, it’s perfectly fine to say, “Not tonight, guys. I’ve had a tough day and need some time to myself. I’m going to take a bath, why don’t you just watch a movie on TV instead.”
If you’re raising your kids together with a partner, intentionally spend time together with them every couple of weeks.
2. Communicating with Children and Instilling Values
2-1. Model positive behavior and responsibility for your children.
Children are always watching their parents, and they’ll be inclined to repeat the types of behaviors that they see you modeling. Make sure that the ways you act and treat others in front of your kids are consistent with the types of verbal instructions you give them. As a responsible parent, you need to hold yourself to a high standard of behavior and encourage your kid to do likewise.
For example, your kids will notice if you encourage them to treat others with kindness, then lash out in road rage whenever you’re behind the wheel.
2-2. Communicate openly and listen attentively.
As a parent, sometimes it’s easy to put off communicating with your children. However, to be a responsible parent, you need to let your children know the reasons behind your thoughts and decisions. This also means that you’ll need to listen to your children when they express their feelings, thoughts, or desires to you.
Try saying something like, “Hey, I know you were unhappy that I made you go to bed early last night. But, I only did that since you had school early today and I knew you’d be too tired to enjoy it if you stayed up late.”
Whenever possible, offer reasonable options for your child. You could say, "I know you don't want to go to bed early, but you need to be rested for school tomorrow. How about you stay up late on Saturday, and we invite your friend for a sleepover?"
You can periodically tell your kids something like, “It feels like we’ve all been very busy lately. I’m sorry we haven’t talked much, how are things going in your life? What’s new?”
2-3. Spend quality time together on a daily basis.
For busy adults, it can be difficult to find the time to sit down and play with the kids. However, part of being a responsible parent is spending time together as a family. Focusing your attention on your kids will allow you to get to know them better (and vice versa), will build trust, and show that you want to be a part of your child’s life. Ways to spend quality time with kids include:
Ask them about their day and their social groups.
Play a board game or a video game with them for an hour.
Read to the kids and cuddle before going to bed.
Take them on a family road trip or to a local attraction over a weekend.
Take a family walk after dinner.
Eat breakfast and dinner together.
2-4. Instill a value system in your kids.
As part of responsible parenting, you need to teach your kids that there are certain core values that they should observe and believe in. These values can be subjective, but will help your child develop a sense of ethics and of personal values. Instill these values through verbal discussion and also through living them out in your daily life. This combination will cement the values in your children’s minds.
For example, you can teach your children that it’s wrong to lie and that it’s wrong to hurt other people.
Be aware, of course, that your kids may depart from this value system as they grow older. As long as they still treat themselves and others well, as a responsible parent, you need to let the kids grow and develop their own beliefs and values.
It goes without saying that these beliefs do not need to be religious. That’s fine if you choose to bring your child up in a religious household. It’s also fine if you choose to bring your child up without religion. Either way, they’ll still need to be taught positive values.
3. Fostering Love and Affection with Your Children
3-1. Praise your children for things they do well.
Positive reinforcement is an important aspect of responsible parenting. Praising your kids for doing something well—whether it’s chores, schoolwork, or just showing acts of kindness—will reinforce and encourage this type of behavior better than negative reinforcement of behaviors you dislike. Try to find 1 thing to praise your child for every day.
For example, try to avoid saying things like, “You forgot to take out the trash again! No dessert for a week.”
Instead, say things like, “I noticed that you made your bed this morning without having to be asked. Thank you, it makes me so happy when you do that!”
3-2. Help your child develop healthy self-esteem.
As a responsible parent, it falls to you to help your children think well of themselves and view themselves as having worth and independence. To raise their self-esteem, take an interest in what your child talks to you about, and use your words and actions to show that you think they’re an interesting, smart, funny person.
Say something like, “I love that sculpture you made for me in art class! You’re so good at making art. I love how talented you are!”
Self-esteem is not the same thing as being rude, cocky, or arrogant. If your child starts to act entitled or feels as if they’re better than others, remind them that it’s important to be humble about their gifts and skills.
3-3. Encourage them to make their own decisions.
As children get older, being a part of the decision-making process in matters that affect their lives encourages healthy development and growth. Once children are past the age of 4 or 5, you can help foster their independence by allowing them to make some decisions for themselves. Remind kids that they have well-developed decision-making skills, and encourage them to put these skills to use. This will help them realize that poor decisions have negative consequences, but also that they are capable of making good decisions with positive outcomes.
For example, if a young child is debating attending a friend’s birthday party, say something like, “You know, this isn’t a decision that I can make for you. But, I know how good you are at making decisions. What do you think the right thing to do is?”
Of course, be reasonable when allowing kids to make decisions. Consider the child’s maturity level and age when allowing them to make a decision.
Allowing a 6-year-old to choose whether or not they go to school would be unwise. However, you could allow a 6-year-old to choose what they wear to school each day.
3-4. Meet your children’s emotional needs with love and affection.
Children have a variety of emotional needs, and it’s part of your responsibility to meet them. For example, pay attention to your child’s moods. If they’re unhappy, ask them what’s wrong, and talk to them about solving the problem. Or, if your child has become generally anxious, depressed, or angry in recent months, you can help meet their needs by reaching out to a counselor or child therapist.
Meeting a child’s needs involves knowing how much time you should spend with them. Infants and young children crave constant attention. As kids age, and especially by the time they’re teenagers, they will need much less of your time.
3-5. Treat kids with respect and ask for respect in return.
Kids are often immature and silly. However, if you treat them with disrespect, scorn, or sarcasm, they may develop poor self-esteem and think little of themselves. Instead, show your kids that you respect them: talk to them as equals, listen closely when they present ideas, and praise their successes. When your kids see you showing them respect and taking them seriously as people, they‘ll be more inclined to show you respect in return.
This means that, even if your kids present ideas to you that are silly or impractical, you should still take them seriously.
For example, if your teen child suggests that they be allowed to stay up until midnight every night, don’t laugh in their face. Instead say, “You know, I liked staying up late at your age, too. I think midnight is a little impractical, but let’s talk and find a bedtime we both agree on.”
3-6. Avoid negatively comparing your kids to other children.
Negative comparisons can make a child feel worthless or let them believe that you prefer other children to them. Rather, focus on highlighting what makes your child special, without making comparisons to their peers. Even if some of their peers far exceed them in emotional maturity, athletic ability, or academic prowess, never make a negative comparison in an attempt to motivate your child.
For example, avoid saying, “Your friend Sara always brings home excellent grades on her report card. I wish you would do the same thing.”
Instead, try saying, “I’m impressed that you got a B+ in Geography, I know you worked really hard in that class! As long as you do your best, I’ll always be proud.”
Tips
When keeping very young children safe, you’ll need to do things like: keep all medicine and poisonous substances out of reach and remove any choking hazards from your child’s reach.[19]
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Even if some of their peers far exceed them in emotional maturity, athletic ability, or academic prowess, never make a negative comparison in an attempt to motivate your child.\\nFor example, avoid saying, “Your friend Sara always brings home excellent grades on her report card. I wish you would do the same thing.”\\nInstead, try saying, “I’m impressed that you got a B+ in Geography, I know you worked really hard in that class! As long as you do your best, I’ll always be proud.”\\nTips\\nWhen keeping very young children safe, you’ll need to do things like: keep all medicine and poisonous substances out of reach and remove any choking hazards from your child’s reach.[19]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a parent involves many responsibilities; you need to feed and clothe your kids, discipline them when they need it, and nurture their personalities and interests. The rewards for responsible parenting, though, are immense. You’ll be able to watch your children blossom and gain self-confidence, while respecting others and developing personal values. As a responsible parent, you need to care for your child’s safety and well-being, give them a value system to rely on, and spend quality time with them. This kind of responsible parenting strategy will help you raise a mature, loving, safe, and thoughtful child.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Disciplining and Setting Boundaries for Your Kids\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set firm household rules and behavioral standards.\", \"描述\": \"Children will be easily confused if a certain behavior is acceptable one day and forbidden the next. So, be sure that children understand the types of behavior you expect from them in any given setting. Clarify to your children also that they will be disciplined if they break these rules.\\nHousehold rules could take the form of written instructions. 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You could say, \\\"I know you don't want to go to bed early, but you need to be rested for school tomorrow. How about you stay up late on Saturday, and we invite your friend for a sleepover?\\\"\\nYou can periodically tell your kids something like, “It feels like we’ve all been very busy lately. I’m sorry we haven’t talked much, how are things going in your life? What’s new?”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spend quality time together on a daily basis.\", \"描述\": \"For busy adults, it can be difficult to find the time to sit down and play with the kids. However, part of being a responsible parent is spending time together as a family. Focusing your attention on your kids will allow you to get to know them better (and vice versa), will build trust, and show that you want to be a part of your child’s life. Ways to spend quality time with kids include:\\nAsk them about their day and their social groups.\\nPlay a board game or a video game with them for an hour.\\nRead to the kids and cuddle before going to bed.\\nTake them on a family road trip or to a local attraction over a weekend.\\nTake a family walk after dinner.\\nEat breakfast and dinner together.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Instill a value system in your kids.\", \"描述\": \"As part of responsible parenting, you need to teach your kids that there are certain core values that they should observe and believe in. These values can be subjective, but will help your child develop a sense of ethics and of personal values. Instill these values through verbal discussion and also through living them out in your daily life. This combination will cement the values in your children’s minds.\\nFor example, you can teach your children that it’s wrong to lie and that it’s wrong to hurt other people.\\nBe aware, of course, that your kids may depart from this value system as they grow older. As long as they still treat themselves and others well, as a responsible parent, you need to let the kids grow and develop their own beliefs and values.\\nIt goes without saying that these beliefs do not need to be religious. That’s fine if you choose to bring your child up in a religious household. It’s also fine if you choose to bring your child up without religion. Either way, they’ll still need to be taught positive values.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Fostering Love and Affection with Your Children\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Praise your children for things they do well.\", \"描述\": \"Positive reinforcement is an important aspect of responsible parenting. Praising your kids for doing something well—whether it’s chores, schoolwork, or just showing acts of kindness—will reinforce and encourage this type of behavior better than negative reinforcement of behaviors you dislike. Try to find 1 thing to praise your child for every day.\\nFor example, try to avoid saying things like, “You forgot to take out the trash again! No dessert for a week.”\\nInstead, say things like, “I noticed that you made your bed this morning without having to be asked. Thank you, it makes me so happy when you do that!”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Help your child develop healthy self-esteem.\", \"描述\": \"As a responsible parent, it falls to you to help your children think well of themselves and view themselves as having worth and independence. To raise their self-esteem, take an interest in what your child talks to you about, and use your words and actions to show that you think they’re an interesting, smart, funny person.\\nSay something like, “I love that sculpture you made for me in art class! You’re so good at making art. I love how talented you are!”\\nSelf-esteem is not the same thing as being rude, cocky, or arrogant. If your child starts to act entitled or feels as if they’re better than others, remind them that it’s important to be humble about their gifts and skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Encourage them to make their own decisions.\", \"描述\": \"As children get older, being a part of the decision-making process in matters that affect their lives encourages healthy development and growth. Once children are past the age of 4 or 5, you can help foster their independence by allowing them to make some decisions for themselves. 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1. Bringing a Pet Home
1-1. Select a pet that fits your living space and circumstances.
One of the most responsible things you can do is to view pet parenthood as a commitment. Every pet is unique, so not all pets are suitable for potential parents. The size of your living space matters as well as the resources you have available to care for a pet. Consider how much time and energy you have to commit to a new pet.
Pets differ a lot between breeds. For instance, a Chihuahua requires less space and exercise than a big dog like a Great Dane. Factor in the food costs, messes, and vet costs different breeds have.
Exotic animals like parrots and big lizards are pretty expensive and often require roomy cages. Smaller animals, including hamsters and fish like guppies, are good choices for beginners.
Keep in mind other people you live with, particularly children. Some dogs are better family pets than others. Animals like birds often bond with one person and may bite others.
1-2. Find a responsible shelter or rescue to get a pet.
Once you have an idea of what kind of pet you want, look for pets in your area. Read about these places online, then tour the facility to make sure they treat animals well. Ask sellers questions, including about the adoption fee. Then, spend time meeting some of the animals to judge their temperament.
For pedigree pets, talk to the breeder. Ask about the dog's history and view its living conditions. A responsible breeder will be able to give you extensive documentation about the dog's background.
Read reviews from other customers along with the shelter or rescue's mission statement, but don't adopt until you have had a chance to visit the place in person.
There are pet-finding services online that allow you to search for animals in your area. Choose a reputable site where shelters and rescues list their pets, such as Petfinder at https://www.petfinder.com//
Take care of any paperwork you get when adopting a pet. Store important documents in a safe location in your home.
1-3. Choose a pet and come up with a name for it.
Once you pick a pet to care for, the fun of being a pet parent begins. Come up with a name that fits your pet. Find inspiration in your pet's appearance and personality or try adopting a name you heard elsewhere, such as on TV. Pick a name as soon as possible so other people know what to call it.
For some animals, such as dogs and cats, you will need the name to legally register your pet with the local government. Veterinarian offices also ask for a name to keep track of your pet's health.
Don't rush while choosing a pet. Looking is difficult when you see a wide range of cute pets to choose from. Responsible pet parents wait until they're sure they have found the right pet for them.
2. Creating a Safe Environment
2-1. Remove harmful and fragile objects from your pet's play space.
You may hear other pet parents talk of “dog-proofing” or “cat-proofing” their home. Part of being a parent is protecting your pet from danger, which includes sharp objects, exposed cords, toxic plants, and anything else it can swallow. Pets are very curious, so put away breakable items and block off areas that are off-limits.
Any type of pet has the potential to do damage to your home. Rabbits, hamsters, birds, and even lizards may damage valuable clothing, electric wires, and other items.
Create safe spaces and play areas. For example, plants like azaleas and tulips are toxic to curious cats and dogs, so don't leave them out for your pet to explore.
2-2. Install fences and cages to contain your pet at home.
Backyard fences are great limiters for dogs. If you have an existing fence, check it over to ensure your dog can't escape. If you don't have a fenced yard, use a leash to let your pet outside. For other animals, including birds, reptiles, amphibians, and rodents, get a solid cage with plenty of play space. If you're keeping fish, choose a big tank that holds plenty of water and find a level surface to set it on.
Clear out space for cages and tanks. They need to be set on stable surfaces out of reach from children or other pets.
Know your pet's needs before placing their cage. Some pets, like parrots, like being close to the activity. Others, like prey species and fearful animals, need a quiet corner to rest in.
Crates are safe for dogs and cats when you need to leave home, but give your pet plenty of exercise and attention once you are able to let it out.
2-3. Create safe bedding out of blankets or other material.
Your new pet needs a place to sleep. Many pet stores sell pet beds for cats and dogs, but you can also stack blankets and pillows for them. Other types of pets need substrates covering the bottom of their habitats. Common substrates include newspaper, wood shavings, and dirt.
If you keep reptiles and amphibians, research your pet's natural habitat. Pet supply stores sell clean substrates. Hermit crabs like sand, for instance. Geckos like dirt, but iguanas and snakes often appreciate newspaper.
Aspen wood shavings are perfect for many snakes and rodents. Rodents and rabbits also like paper and hay.
Birds stay on perches, but line the bottom of bird cages with clean newspaper. Change the lining when it gets dirty or shredded.
Use aquarium gravel and soil substrates for fish. Clean the gravel out with an aquarium vacuum about twice a month.
3. Completing Registration and Safety Plans
3-1. Submit registration and identification forms for your pet.
If you have a dog or cat, print out a name tag to put on its collar. Most pet stores have tag printing services that make this quick and easy. For all types of animals, fill out adoption papers or registration forms according to the laws in your area.
Many areas require you to register with the government as a pet owner. Dogs, cats, and exotic animals often need to be registered even if you aren't keeping them as service animals. Ask the shelter or rescue agency what forms you need to complete to become an official pet parent.
Shelters and rescue agencies will often help you fill out registration forms. If you're still unsure what you need to do, ask them or get information at your local Animal Control office.
Consider getting a microchip for your dog or cat to track it in case it gets out. Veterinarians will also put a microchip in a pet bird or put a tracking band over its leg.
3-2. Choose a carrier or harness big enough to transport your pet.
You never know when you will need to take your pet outside, so be prepared in advance. For most pets, all you need to do is buy a carrier that provides enough space for your pet to rest comfortably. For pets that don't fit in crates, get a safety harness for your car to keep your pet safe while you're transporting them. Have a carrier or harness available in case you need to take your pet to the vet.
Pet supply stores sell plastic crates and fabric carriers. Crates are good for most animals, including birds, lizards, and rodents that would destroy soft carriers.
For fish, you will need to get a plastic bag or small fish bowl. Fill it with water from the tank and get your fish back in its regular habitat as soon as possible.
3-3. Take your pet to a trusted veterinarian when it is sick.
When you first bring your pet home, look around your area for good veterinarians. Make sure they are trained to treat the type of pet you own. Take your pet in for any required vaccinations and establish a yearly check-up schedule. Whenever you notice your pet acting unusually, schedule an earlier appointment.
Don't forget to get your dog or cat spayed or neutered if the shelter or rescue didn't take care of it for you!
Search for vet offices online to view credentials and customer reviews. Look for an office you feel comfortable taking your pet to.
The longer you live with your pet, the more you recognize how it acts during an ordinary day. Any behaviors out of the ordinary are signs that something is wrong. For instance, your pet may stop drinking water when it's sick.
3-4. Come up with a plan in case of a natural disaster.
Think of places to take your pet in case you are unable to leave them at home. Many pets end up getting left behind during emergencies. You can avoid this by finding out where the emergency shelters are in your area. Also, look for pet-friendly hotels and friends and family members who don't mind letting you visit with your pet.
Some community shelters don't accept pets. Make sure you know which shelters are safe for pets. You likely won't get a chance to do this if you get caught in a sudden emergency like a flood.
Prepare yourself well for whatever emergencies your community is prone to. Keep important documents like pet identification, immunization, and ID tags in a waterproof container to take with you.
3-5. Establish a contact plan in case you are unable to care for your pet.
A sudden change of plans, such as an illness, may prevent you from taking care of your pet. Have a plan and discuss it with people you know, including your friends, family members, and anyone living with you. Pick a few trusted people to check up on your precious pet and even take care of it as needed.
Come up with some basic ideas, such as who will care for your pet and where it will stay.
Sometimes plans are difficult to remember during busy, stressful times, so remind others of the plan until you are certain they know what to do.
4. Handling Your Pet's Needs
4-1. Feed your pet a healthy diet.
Care for your pet's health by purchasing a quality food and avoiding excessive treats. The dietary needs of your pet depend on its size and species. Healthy dog and cat kibble, for instance, consists of few grains and lots of meat. Read food labels carefully and limit fattening treats to keep your pet well-nourished.
Pets like birds and rodents often eat pellets supplemented with fruits and vegetables. Rabbits and similar animals need plenty of hay to supplement their diet.
For meat-eating animals like snakes and lizards, you can purchase mealworms and other small insects at pet supply stores. Snakes eat mice, while many lizards also need leafy greens and some vegetables.
Fish flakes are fine for fish, although you still need to avoid overfeeding them. Fish need a small amount of flakes about twice a day.
Look for pet food that has ingredients you recognize and can pronounce.
4-2. Provide clean water at all times for your pet.
No matter what kind of pet you have, it needs plenty of water. For most pets, set up a bowl and refill it every day. Rinse it out with soap and water to keep it clean. If you have a pet like a hamster, hang a water bottle inside the cage.
If you leave your pet outside, make sure they have an accessible source of water at all times, especially during warm weather.
Fish need fresh water, so remember to clean fish tanks and bowls every couple of weeks. Have a filtration system in your fish habitat to keep the water fresh. Treat fresh water with conditioner to make it safe for your fish.
4-3. Bathe your pets if they get dirty.
Most pets keep themselves clean, so you don't need to worry too much about bathing. Dogs are the most likely type of pet to get dirty and require a bath about every 3 months. Wash your pet with warm water and a species-specific shampoo from the pet store. Use a flea shampoo to remove unwanted guests from dogs and cats.
Cats, birds, reptiles, amphibians, rabbits, and |rodents all bathe themselves. If you see your bird or lizard in its water bowl, for example, it is cleaning itself. Some animals, such as birds and bearded dragons, also enjoy warm baths outside of their cages.
Bathe sick or dirty animals with a mild soap and small amounts of water. Animals that are unused to water, such as rabbits, will get scared and stressed if you immerse them.
Fish live in water, so they practically bathe themselves! Fish don't require special treatment unless they look sick, such as if you notice parasites to pull off them. Keep them clean by keeping the tank clean.
4-4. Groom your pet by brushing its fur or trimming its nails.
Brush out furry pets as often as once a day to eliminate mats and remove shed hair. Dogs, cats, birds, and some lizards also need to have their nails clipped to a safe size. Look for the colored vein inside the nail to avoid nicking it. Give your pet a nice treat for making it through the grooming session.
Metal pet combs work well for grooming pet hair. They aren't as bendable and flimsy as most plastic combs.
The kind of nail clipping tool you need differs slightly depending on the type of pet you have. Visit a pet supply store to get the right tool. For lizards and some birds, you can even adapt human nail clippers.
4-5. Use dental products to keep teeth and beaks clean.
If you have a dog or a cat, clean its teeth yourself to cut down on costs. Brush your pet's teeth once a day with a toothbrush and toothpaste, if possible. Also, give your pet chewable items like dental treats or chew toys and offer hay to rabbits and rodents.
Rabbits and rodents like hamsters chew on toys and food to grind their teeth down. Birds hone their beaks on perches. Without the proper equipment, teeth and beaks overgrow, leading to health problems.
5. Socializing Your Pet
5-1. Buy toys to keep your pet stimulated.
Caring for a pet involves more than its physical health. Pets love to play, but some pets need a selection of toys to stay stimulated. Most pets enjoy having chewable toys, toys they can chase, and toys that dispense treats. Look for toys that make noise and keep your pet engaged even when you're not around.
If you're handy with crafts, try making your own toys, such as a puzzle box for birds or a platform for hamsters.
Fish like exploring, so try putting a colorful background behind the fish tank. Then, put plants, a plastic shipwreck, and other toys in the aquarium gravel. Move the toys on occasion to keep your fish happy.
5-2. Show your pet plenty of affection by playing with it.
To be a good pet parent, spend as much time as you can with your pet. Play with it as much as possible. If it likes physical attention, try letting it come near you, petting it, or giving it a belly rub. Every pet tolerates affection differently, so find activities that your pet enjoys.
Some pets don't like to be handled much. Many reptiles and rodents, for instance, don't like to be held for very long. If it doesn't like being held, it might like toys or let you feed it.
Not all cats like to be held or touched a lot. It's important to read your cat's signals so you don't get scratched or bitten.
For example, play fetch with your dog or bird. Dangle a toy for your cat to chase. Take other types of pets out of their cages and tanks to spend time with them.
5-3. Train your pet with treats and praise.
Being a pet parent involves teaching your pet how you want it to behave. Your pet won't know at first, especially if it is very young. To train your pet the right way, offer it a treat when it does what you want it to do to reinforce the good behavior. Scolding and hitting it is mean and usually doesn't help your pet learn.
Train dogs and cats to do tricks, stop making noise, or stay out of trouble, for instance. Go slowly, rewarding your pet with a treat or click each time they make progress. Keep in mind that younger pets are easier to train than older ones.
Remember to toilet train your pet, such as by teaching your dog to go outside or your cat to use a litterbox.
Other animals are also trainable. For example, birds and lizards can even be toilet trained if you're patient.
5-4. Introduce your pets to new experiences and other people slowly.
Pets need time to adapt to new situations. Your pet may be a little timid, especially when you first bring it home. Keep it in a quiet space and don't force it to interact. Gradually expose it to the new situation until it grows comfortable enough to approach.
Know your pet. Some pets are better alone. Some types of fish, for instance, do better alone in a tank.
Using treats helps entice a pet to approach a new situation. You may need to work slowly, giving your pet a treat each time it looks at the new thing or steps towards it, for instance.
Always supervise your pet while it socializes. Pets get startled just like you might in a new situation. This often leads to bites or scratches.
Tips
Do as much research as possible before bringing home a new pet. Figure out your pet's needs and do your best to meet them.
For many pets, chewing is a natural behavior and punishing it doesn't help. Provide chew toys, especially for young pets like puppies.
Sometimes you need to show a pet what you want it to do, such as crawling through a pet door. Find creative ways to teach your pet, such as by standing outside the door and calling to it.
Warnings
As soon as you get a pet, it becomes your responsibility. Make sure you're ready for all that being a pet parent entails.
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Other types of pets need substrates covering the bottom of their habitats. Common substrates include newspaper, wood shavings, and dirt.\\nIf you keep reptiles and amphibians, research your pet's natural habitat. Pet supply stores sell clean substrates. Hermit crabs like sand, for instance. Geckos like dirt, but iguanas and snakes often appreciate newspaper.\\nAspen wood shavings are perfect for many snakes and rodents. Rodents and rabbits also like paper and hay.\\nBirds stay on perches, but line the bottom of bird cages with clean newspaper. Change the lining when it gets dirty or shredded.\\nUse aquarium gravel and soil substrates for fish. Clean the gravel out with an aquarium vacuum about twice a month.\\n3. Completing Registration and Safety Plans\\n3-1. Submit registration and identification forms for your pet.\\nIf you have a dog or cat, print out a name tag to put on its collar. Most pet stores have tag printing services that make this quick and easy. For all types of animals, fill out adoption papers or registration forms according to the laws in your area.\\nMany areas require you to register with the government as a pet owner. Dogs, cats, and exotic animals often need to be registered even if you aren't keeping them as service animals. Ask the shelter or rescue agency what forms you need to complete to become an official pet parent.\\nShelters and rescue agencies will often help you fill out registration forms. If you're still unsure what you need to do, ask them or get information at your local Animal Control office.\\nConsider getting a microchip for your dog or cat to track it in case it gets out. Veterinarians will also put a microchip in a pet bird or put a tracking band over its leg.\\n3-2. Choose a carrier or harness big enough to transport your pet.\\nYou never know when you will need to take your pet outside, so be prepared in advance. For most pets, all you need to do is buy a carrier that provides enough space for your pet to rest comfortably. For pets that don't fit in crates, get a safety harness for your car to keep your pet safe while you're transporting them. Have a carrier or harness available in case you need to take your pet to the vet.\\nPet supply stores sell plastic crates and fabric carriers. Crates are good for most animals, including birds, lizards, and rodents that would destroy soft carriers.\\nFor fish, you will need to get a plastic bag or small fish bowl. Fill it with water from the tank and get your fish back in its regular habitat as soon as possible.\\n3-3. Take your pet to a trusted veterinarian when it is sick.\\nWhen you first bring your pet home, look around your area for good veterinarians. Make sure they are trained to treat the type of pet you own. Take your pet in for any required vaccinations and establish a yearly check-up schedule. Whenever you notice your pet acting unusually, schedule an earlier appointment.\\nDon't forget to get your dog or cat spayed or neutered if the shelter or rescue didn't take care of it for you!\\nSearch for vet offices online to view credentials and customer reviews. Look for an office you feel comfortable taking your pet to.\\nThe longer you live with your pet, the more you recognize how it acts during an ordinary day. Any behaviors out of the ordinary are signs that something is wrong. For instance, your pet may stop drinking water when it's sick.\\n3-4. Come up with a plan in case of a natural disaster.\\nThink of places to take your pet in case you are unable to leave them at home. Many pets end up getting left behind during emergencies. You can avoid this by finding out where the emergency shelters are in your area. Also, look for pet-friendly hotels and friends and family members who don't mind letting you visit with your pet.\\nSome community shelters don't accept pets. Make sure you know which shelters are safe for pets. You likely won't get a chance to do this if you get caught in a sudden emergency like a flood.\\nPrepare yourself well for whatever emergencies your community is prone to. Keep important documents like pet identification, immunization, and ID tags in a waterproof container to take with you.\\n3-5. Establish a contact plan in case you are unable to care for your pet.\\nA sudden change of plans, such as an illness, may prevent you from taking care of your pet. Have a plan and discuss it with people you know, including your friends, family members, and anyone living with you. Pick a few trusted people to check up on your precious pet and even take care of it as needed.\\nCome up with some basic ideas, such as who will care for your pet and where it will stay.\\nSometimes plans are difficult to remember during busy, stressful times, so remind others of the plan until you are certain they know what to do.\\n4. Handling Your Pet's Needs\\n4-1. Feed your pet a healthy diet.\\nCare for your pet's health by purchasing a quality food and avoiding excessive treats. The dietary needs of your pet depend on its size and species. Healthy dog and cat kibble, for instance, consists of few grains and lots of meat. Read food labels carefully and limit fattening treats to keep your pet well-nourished.\\nPets like birds and rodents often eat pellets supplemented with fruits and vegetables. Rabbits and similar animals need plenty of hay to supplement their diet.\\nFor meat-eating animals like snakes and lizards, you can purchase mealworms and other small insects at pet supply stores. Snakes eat mice, while many lizards also need leafy greens and some vegetables.\\nFish flakes are fine for fish, although you still need to avoid overfeeding them. Fish need a small amount of flakes about twice a day.\\nLook for pet food that has ingredients you recognize and can pronounce.\\n4-2. Provide clean water at all times for your pet.\\nNo matter what kind of pet you have, it needs plenty of water. For most pets, set up a bowl and refill it every day. Rinse it out with soap and water to keep it clean. If you have a pet like a hamster, hang a water bottle inside the cage. \\nIf you leave your pet outside, make sure they have an accessible source of water at all times, especially during warm weather.\\nFish need fresh water, so remember to clean fish tanks and bowls every couple of weeks. Have a filtration system in your fish habitat to keep the water fresh. Treat fresh water with conditioner to make it safe for your fish.\\n4-3. Bathe your pets if they get dirty.\\nMost pets keep themselves clean, so you don't need to worry too much about bathing. Dogs are the most likely type of pet to get dirty and require a bath about every 3 months. Wash your pet with warm water and a species-specific shampoo from the pet store. Use a flea shampoo to remove unwanted guests from dogs and cats.\\nCats, birds, reptiles, amphibians, rabbits, and |rodents all bathe themselves. If you see your bird or lizard in its water bowl, for example, it is cleaning itself. Some animals, such as birds and bearded dragons, also enjoy warm baths outside of their cages.\\nBathe sick or dirty animals with a mild soap and small amounts of water. Animals that are unused to water, such as rabbits, will get scared and stressed if you immerse them.\\nFish live in water, so they practically bathe themselves! Fish don't require special treatment unless they look sick, such as if you notice parasites to pull off them. Keep them clean by keeping the tank clean.\\n4-4. Groom your pet by brushing its fur or trimming its nails.\\nBrush out furry pets as often as once a day to eliminate mats and remove shed hair. Dogs, cats, birds, and some lizards also need to have their nails clipped to a safe size. Look for the colored vein inside the nail to avoid nicking it. Give your pet a nice treat for making it through the grooming session.\\nMetal pet combs work well for grooming pet hair. They aren't as bendable and flimsy as most plastic combs.\\nThe kind of nail clipping tool you need differs slightly depending on the type of pet you have. Visit a pet supply store to get the right tool. For lizards and some birds, you can even adapt human nail clippers.\\n4-5. Use dental products to keep teeth and beaks clean.\\nIf you have a dog or a cat, clean its teeth yourself to cut down on costs. Brush your pet's teeth once a day with a toothbrush and toothpaste, if possible. Also, give your pet chewable items like dental treats or chew toys and offer hay to rabbits and rodents.\\nRabbits and rodents like hamsters chew on toys and food to grind their teeth down. Birds hone their beaks on perches. Without the proper equipment, teeth and beaks overgrow, leading to health problems.\\n5. Socializing Your Pet\\n5-1. Buy toys to keep your pet stimulated.\\nCaring for a pet involves more than its physical health. Pets love to play, but some pets need a selection of toys to stay stimulated. Most pets enjoy having chewable toys, toys they can chase, and toys that dispense treats. Look for toys that make noise and keep your pet engaged even when you're not around.\\nIf you're handy with crafts, try making your own toys, such as a puzzle box for birds or a platform for hamsters.\\nFish like exploring, so try putting a colorful background behind the fish tank. Then, put plants, a plastic shipwreck, and other toys in the aquarium gravel. Move the toys on occasion to keep your fish happy.\\n5-2. Show your pet plenty of affection by playing with it.\\nTo be a good pet parent, spend as much time as you can with your pet. Play with it as much as possible. If it likes physical attention, try letting it come near you, petting it, or giving it a belly rub. Every pet tolerates affection differently, so find activities that your pet enjoys.\\nSome pets don't like to be handled much. Many reptiles and rodents, for instance, don't like to be held for very long. If it doesn't like being held, it might like toys or let you feed it.\\nNot all cats like to be held or touched a lot. It's important to read your cat's signals so you don't get scratched or bitten.\\nFor example, play fetch with your dog or bird. Dangle a toy for your cat to chase. Take other types of pets out of their cages and tanks to spend time with them.\\n5-3. Train your pet with treats and praise.\\nBeing a pet parent involves teaching your pet how you want it to behave. Your pet won't know at first, especially if it is very young. To train your pet the right way, offer it a treat when it does what you want it to do to reinforce the good behavior. Scolding and hitting it is mean and usually doesn't help your pet learn.\\nTrain dogs and cats to do tricks, stop making noise, or stay out of trouble, for instance. Go slowly, rewarding your pet with a treat or click each time they make progress. Keep in mind that younger pets are easier to train than older ones.\\nRemember to toilet train your pet, such as by teaching your dog to go outside or your cat to use a litterbox.\\nOther animals are also trainable. For example, birds and lizards can even be toilet trained if you're patient.\\n5-4. Introduce your pets to new experiences and other people slowly.\\nPets need time to adapt to new situations. Your pet may be a little timid, especially when you first bring it home. Keep it in a quiet space and don't force it to interact. Gradually expose it to the new situation until it grows comfortable enough to approach.\\nKnow your pet. Some pets are better alone. Some types of fish, for instance, do better alone in a tank.\\nUsing treats helps entice a pet to approach a new situation. You may need to work slowly, giving your pet a treat each time it looks at the new thing or steps towards it, for instance.\\nAlways supervise your pet while it socializes. Pets get startled just like you might in a new situation. This often leads to bites or scratches.\\nTips\\nDo as much research as possible before bringing home a new pet. Figure out your pet's needs and do your best to meet them.\\nFor many pets, chewing is a natural behavior and punishing it doesn't help. Provide chew toys, especially for young pets like puppies.\\nSometimes you need to show a pet what you want it to do, such as crawling through a pet door. Find creative ways to teach your pet, such as by standing outside the door and calling to it.\\nWarnings\\nAs soon as you get a pet, it becomes your responsibility. Make sure you're ready for all that being a pet parent entails.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Whether you're getting a family pet or a companion for yourself, caring for a pet is a big responsibility. Pets are family and depend on their owners to raise them and spend time with them. Like any children, pets have a wide range of needs, from physical health and safety to mental stimulation and attention. After you choose the right kind of pet, prepare your home for it and make the adoption official. Care for your pet with food, fun, and plenty of attention to be the best pet parent you can be.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Bringing a Pet Home\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Select a pet that fits your living space and circumstances.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most responsible things you can do is to view pet parenthood as a commitment. Every pet is unique, so not all pets are suitable for potential parents. The size of your living space matters as well as the resources you have available to care for a pet. Consider how much time and energy you have to commit to a new pet.\\nPets differ a lot between breeds. For instance, a Chihuahua requires less space and exercise than a big dog like a Great Dane. Factor in the food costs, messes, and vet costs different breeds have.\\nExotic animals like parrots and big lizards are pretty expensive and often require roomy cages. Smaller animals, including hamsters and fish like guppies, are good choices for beginners.\\nKeep in mind other people you live with, particularly children. Some dogs are better family pets than others. Animals like birds often bond with one person and may bite others.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find a responsible shelter or rescue to get a pet.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have an idea of what kind of pet you want, look for pets in your area. Read about these places online, then tour the facility to make sure they treat animals well. Ask sellers questions, including about the adoption fee. Then, spend time meeting some of the animals to judge their temperament.\\nFor pedigree pets, talk to the breeder. Ask about the dog's history and view its living conditions. A responsible breeder will be able to give you extensive documentation about the dog's background.\\nRead reviews from other customers along with the shelter or rescue's mission statement, but don't adopt until you have had a chance to visit the place in person.\\nThere are pet-finding services online that allow you to search for animals in your area. Choose a reputable site where shelters and rescues list their pets, such as Petfinder at https://www.petfinder.com//\\nTake care of any paperwork you get when adopting a pet. Store important documents in a safe location in your home.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose a pet and come up with a name for it.\", \"描述\": \"Once you pick a pet to care for, the fun of being a pet parent begins. Come up with a name that fits your pet. Find inspiration in your pet's appearance and personality or try adopting a name you heard elsewhere, such as on TV. Pick a name as soon as possible so other people know what to call it.\\nFor some animals, such as dogs and cats, you will need the name to legally register your pet with the local government. Veterinarian offices also ask for a name to keep track of your pet's health.\\nDon't rush while choosing a pet. Looking is difficult when you see a wide range of cute pets to choose from. Responsible pet parents wait until they're sure they have found the right pet for them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Creating a Safe Environment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remove harmful and fragile objects from your pet's play space.\", \"描述\": \"You may hear other pet parents talk of “dog-proofing” or “cat-proofing” their home. Part of being a parent is protecting your pet from danger, which includes sharp objects, exposed cords, toxic plants, and anything else it can swallow. Pets are very curious, so put away breakable items and block off areas that are off-limits.\\nAny type of pet has the potential to do damage to your home. Rabbits, hamsters, birds, and even lizards may damage valuable clothing, electric wires, and other items.\\nCreate safe spaces and play areas. For example, plants like azaleas and tulips are toxic to curious cats and dogs, so don't leave them out for your pet to explore.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Install fences and cages to contain your pet at home.\", \"描述\": \"Backyard fences are great limiters for dogs. If you have an existing fence, check it over to ensure your dog can't escape. If you don't have a fenced yard, use a leash to let your pet outside. For other animals, including birds, reptiles, amphibians, and rodents, get a solid cage with plenty of play space. If you're keeping fish, choose a big tank that holds plenty of water and find a level surface to set it on.\\nClear out space for cages and tanks. They need to be set on stable surfaces out of reach from children or other pets.\\nKnow your pet's needs before placing their cage. Some pets, like parrots, like being close to the activity. Others, like prey species and fearful animals, need a quiet corner to rest in.\\nCrates are safe for dogs and cats when you need to leave home, but give your pet plenty of exercise and attention once you are able to let it out.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create safe bedding out of blankets or other material.\", \"描述\": \"Your new pet needs a place to sleep. Many pet stores sell pet beds for cats and dogs, but you can also stack blankets and pillows for them. Other types of pets need substrates covering the bottom of their habitats. Common substrates include newspaper, wood shavings, and dirt.\\nIf you keep reptiles and amphibians, research your pet's natural habitat. Pet supply stores sell clean substrates. Hermit crabs like sand, for instance. Geckos like dirt, but iguanas and snakes often appreciate newspaper.\\nAspen wood shavings are perfect for many snakes and rodents. Rodents and rabbits also like paper and hay.\\nBirds stay on perches, but line the bottom of bird cages with clean newspaper. Change the lining when it gets dirty or shredded.\\nUse aquarium gravel and soil substrates for fish. Clean the gravel out with an aquarium vacuum about twice a month.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Completing Registration and Safety Plans\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Submit registration and identification forms for your pet.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a dog or cat, print out a name tag to put on its collar. Most pet stores have tag printing services that make this quick and easy. For all types of animals, fill out adoption papers or registration forms according to the laws in your area.\\nMany areas require you to register with the government as a pet owner. Dogs, cats, and exotic animals often need to be registered even if you aren't keeping them as service animals. Ask the shelter or rescue agency what forms you need to complete to become an official pet parent.\\nShelters and rescue agencies will often help you fill out registration forms. If you're still unsure what you need to do, ask them or get information at your local Animal Control office.\\nConsider getting a microchip for your dog or cat to track it in case it gets out. Veterinarians will also put a microchip in a pet bird or put a tracking band over its leg.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose a carrier or harness big enough to transport your pet.\", \"描述\": \"You never know when you will need to take your pet outside, so be prepared in advance. For most pets, all you need to do is buy a carrier that provides enough space for your pet to rest comfortably. For pets that don't fit in crates, get a safety harness for your car to keep your pet safe while you're transporting them. Have a carrier or harness available in case you need to take your pet to the vet.\\nPet supply stores sell plastic crates and fabric carriers. Crates are good for most animals, including birds, lizards, and rodents that would destroy soft carriers.\\nFor fish, you will need to get a plastic bag or small fish bowl. Fill it with water from the tank and get your fish back in its regular habitat as soon as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take your pet to a trusted veterinarian when it is sick.\", \"描述\": \"When you first bring your pet home, look around your area for good veterinarians. Make sure they are trained to treat the type of pet you own. Take your pet in for any required vaccinations and establish a yearly check-up schedule. Whenever you notice your pet acting unusually, schedule an earlier appointment.\\nDon't forget to get your dog or cat spayed or neutered if the shelter or rescue didn't take care of it for you!\\nSearch for vet offices online to view credentials and customer reviews. Look for an office you feel comfortable taking your pet to.\\nThe longer you live with your pet, the more you recognize how it acts during an ordinary day. Any behaviors out of the ordinary are signs that something is wrong. For instance, your pet may stop drinking water when it's sick.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Come up with a plan in case of a natural disaster.\", \"描述\": \"Think of places to take your pet in case you are unable to leave them at home. Many pets end up getting left behind during emergencies. You can avoid this by finding out where the emergency shelters are in your area. Also, look for pet-friendly hotels and friends and family members who don't mind letting you visit with your pet.\\nSome community shelters don't accept pets. Make sure you know which shelters are safe for pets. You likely won't get a chance to do this if you get caught in a sudden emergency like a flood.\\nPrepare yourself well for whatever emergencies your community is prone to. Keep important documents like pet identification, immunization, and ID tags in a waterproof container to take with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Establish a contact plan in case you are unable to care for your pet.\", \"描述\": \"A sudden change of plans, such as an illness, may prevent you from taking care of your pet. Have a plan and discuss it with people you know, including your friends, family members, and anyone living with you. Pick a few trusted people to check up on your precious pet and even take care of it as needed.\\nCome up with some basic ideas, such as who will care for your pet and where it will stay.\\nSometimes plans are difficult to remember during busy, stressful times, so remind others of the plan until you are certain they know what to do.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Handling Your Pet's Needs\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Feed your pet a healthy diet.\", \"描述\": \"Care for your pet's health by purchasing a quality food and avoiding excessive treats. The dietary needs of your pet depend on its size and species. Healthy dog and cat kibble, for instance, consists of few grains and lots of meat. Read food labels carefully and limit fattening treats to keep your pet well-nourished.\\nPets like birds and rodents often eat pellets supplemented with fruits and vegetables. Rabbits and similar animals need plenty of hay to supplement their diet.\\nFor meat-eating animals like snakes and lizards, you can purchase mealworms and other small insects at pet supply stores. Snakes eat mice, while many lizards also need leafy greens and some vegetables.\\nFish flakes are fine for fish, although you still need to avoid overfeeding them. Fish need a small amount of flakes about twice a day.\\nLook for pet food that has ingredients you recognize and can pronounce.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Provide clean water at all times for your pet.\", \"描述\": \"No matter what kind of pet you have, it needs plenty of water. For most pets, set up a bowl and refill it every day. Rinse it out with soap and water to keep it clean. If you have a pet like a hamster, hang a water bottle inside the cage. \\nIf you leave your pet outside, make sure they have an accessible source of water at all times, especially during warm weather.\\nFish need fresh water, so remember to clean fish tanks and bowls every couple of weeks. Have a filtration system in your fish habitat to keep the water fresh. Treat fresh water with conditioner to make it safe for your fish.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Bathe your pets if they get dirty.\", \"描述\": \"Most pets keep themselves clean, so you don't need to worry too much about bathing. Dogs are the most likely type of pet to get dirty and require a bath about every 3 months. Wash your pet with warm water and a species-specific shampoo from the pet store. Use a flea shampoo to remove unwanted guests from dogs and cats.\\nCats, birds, reptiles, amphibians, rabbits, and |rodents all bathe themselves. If you see your bird or lizard in its water bowl, for example, it is cleaning itself. Some animals, such as birds and bearded dragons, also enjoy warm baths outside of their cages.\\nBathe sick or dirty animals with a mild soap and small amounts of water. Animals that are unused to water, such as rabbits, will get scared and stressed if you immerse them.\\nFish live in water, so they practically bathe themselves! Fish don't require special treatment unless they look sick, such as if you notice parasites to pull off them. Keep them clean by keeping the tank clean.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Groom your pet by brushing its fur or trimming its nails.\", \"描述\": \"Brush out furry pets as often as once a day to eliminate mats and remove shed hair. Dogs, cats, birds, and some lizards also need to have their nails clipped to a safe size. Look for the colored vein inside the nail to avoid nicking it. Give your pet a nice treat for making it through the grooming session.\\nMetal pet combs work well for grooming pet hair. They aren't as bendable and flimsy as most plastic combs.\\nThe kind of nail clipping tool you need differs slightly depending on the type of pet you have. Visit a pet supply store to get the right tool. For lizards and some birds, you can even adapt human nail clippers.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use dental products to keep teeth and beaks clean.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a dog or a cat, clean its teeth yourself to cut down on costs. Brush your pet's teeth once a day with a toothbrush and toothpaste, if possible. Also, give your pet chewable items like dental treats or chew toys and offer hay to rabbits and rodents.\\nRabbits and rodents like hamsters chew on toys and food to grind their teeth down. Birds hone their beaks on perches. Without the proper equipment, teeth and beaks overgrow, leading to health problems.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Socializing Your Pet\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Buy toys to keep your pet stimulated.\", \"描述\": \"Caring for a pet involves more than its physical health. Pets love to play, but some pets need a selection of toys to stay stimulated. Most pets enjoy having chewable toys, toys they can chase, and toys that dispense treats. Look for toys that make noise and keep your pet engaged even when you're not around.\\nIf you're handy with crafts, try making your own toys, such as a puzzle box for birds or a platform for hamsters.\\nFish like exploring, so try putting a colorful background behind the fish tank. Then, put plants, a plastic shipwreck, and other toys in the aquarium gravel. Move the toys on occasion to keep your fish happy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show your pet plenty of affection by playing with it.\", \"描述\": \"To be a good pet parent, spend as much time as you can with your pet. Play with it as much as possible. If it likes physical attention, try letting it come near you, petting it, or giving it a belly rub. Every pet tolerates affection differently, so find activities that your pet enjoys.\\nSome pets don't like to be handled much. Many reptiles and rodents, for instance, don't like to be held for very long. If it doesn't like being held, it might like toys or let you feed it.\\nNot all cats like to be held or touched a lot. It's important to read your cat's signals so you don't get scratched or bitten.\\nFor example, play fetch with your dog or bird. Dangle a toy for your cat to chase. Take other types of pets out of their cages and tanks to spend time with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Train your pet with treats and praise.\", \"描述\": \"Being a pet parent involves teaching your pet how you want it to behave. Your pet won't know at first, especially if it is very young. To train your pet the right way, offer it a treat when it does what you want it to do to reinforce the good behavior. Scolding and hitting it is mean and usually doesn't help your pet learn.\\nTrain dogs and cats to do tricks, stop making noise, or stay out of trouble, for instance. Go slowly, rewarding your pet with a treat or click each time they make progress. Keep in mind that younger pets are easier to train than older ones.\\nRemember to toilet train your pet, such as by teaching your dog to go outside or your cat to use a litterbox.\\nOther animals are also trainable. 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1. Succeeding In School
1-1. Attend class ready to learn each day.
You should think of your role as a student similar to the way your parents and other adults approach work. In many ways, school is a sort of training ground for the work ethic and personal responsibilities that you'll need to develop in order to live successfully as an adult. You wouldn't last very long at a job if you were constantly unprepared, late, or calling in sick, so start taking school just as seriously.
Show up to every class on time and always come prepared. Make sure you've done the homework and reading assignments, and that you have everything you'll need for class that day.
Sit in the front of the class room and be involved in class. Listen actively, respond to questions, and ask questions if there's any material you're confused or uncertain about.
1-2. Take good notes that are organized and written out clearly.
Your notes are the building blocks of your study sessions later in the semester. Without strong notes, you may end up doing very poorly on your exams. Start by doing the reading every night and coming to class with a working knowledge of the material you'll be discussing that day.
Start each day's notes on a fresh page in your notebook and write down the date and most recent reading assignment. This will help you track the material as you prepare for exams.
Write anything that your instructor puts on the board. These notes are usually very important and often quoted verbatim on quizzes or tests.
You don't have to write out every word your instructor says - this may not even be possible, depending on the class. Instead, write down the major points, like any important names, dates, events, relevant details, and results/implications.
Try to develop a system of abbreviations that works for you. Writing your notes in short-hand can help you take notes faster and with greater efficiency.
1-3. Rewrite your notes.
It can help to rewrite the day's notes later in the day in a separate notebook. Rewriting helps you process the information and can help you have a cleaner, more organized set of notes from which to study.
You may also find questions or inconsistencies in the days' notes that you can ask your teacher to clarify the next day.
1-4. Study your notes and readings every day.
In addition to rewriting your notes from class, it's important to review those notes and build off of them as you complete that class's reading assignments. Some studies suggest that reviewing your notes within 24 hours of class can significantly improve your retention of that information.
Try writing questions in your notes. Interrogating the material, rather than simply glossing over it, will help you commit that information to memory and develop stronger critical-thinking skills.
2. Being Responsible Outside of Class
2-1. Manage your time wisely
Managing your time will significantly help you become a better student and a more-productive worker. Time-management skills are highly valued by teachers and employers alike, and they can help ensure that you never miss a deadline or fail to prepare for an exam.
Use a calendar or planner to help you keep track of deadlines, appointments, and other obligations.
Don't procrastinate. You won't actually buy yourself any time, and you'll just be even more stressed later on.
Break your tasks down into smaller, more manageable parts. This can help make a big project much easier to accomplish.
Have a timeline for the things you need to accomplish and work on those tasks in a logical order. Decide which tasks are a priority and which tasks/projects need to be completed before the next can be started.
2-2. Study for tests and exams ahead of time.
Every instructor designs exams differently. If your teacher hasn't specified how he or she arranges tests/exams and which material will be covered, you'll need to ask your teacher outside of class. That way you'll be able to adequately prepare for the test more efficiently.
Start studying early. Avoid procrastinating and cramming right before a test/exam.
Try to understand the material both broadly and precisely. Start out with the general concept and work towards understanding the details of each subject.
Test yourself as you study to determine which subject areas need more work. Use flash cards to review terms/names/dates, then design a self-quiz to see if you have a firm grasp on the material.
2-3. Get help if your grades fall behind.
Whether you missed an important class, have trouble with certain concepts, or are dealing with a stressful family emergency, there's a chance that your grades might slip at some point. If this happens, it's important to get help right away. Remember that you don't have to resign yourself to bad grades if you're proactive and dedicated to your studies.
Keep track of your grade in the course and recognize patterns of poor grades. Your instructor may not address your grades unless you bring them up.
Start meeting with your teacher first to get some extra help. If you feel like you need more support, talk to your school counselor.
Try working with a tutor if you're really struggling with an important concept. You may be able to find a tutor through your school, or you can find one in your area by searching online.
Start studying for tests or quizzes two weeks in advance or as soon as you're notified. Start studying for midterms or finals at least six weeks ahead.
2-4. Take responsibility for your words and actions.
If you fail to finish your homework, turn in a paper on time, or show up to your job on time, it's no one's fault but your own. Accepting responsibility is a major mark of maturity, in part because owning your obligations can help you stay focused and committed to what needs to be done in the future.
Give credit for any sources you use in your homework and assignments. Never plagiarize or steal intellectual/creative property from others.
Finish your assignments on time, and give yourself a few extra days to review the final product and make any necessary revisions.
Respect the ideas, beliefs, and opinions of others, even if you disagree with them. Everyone deserves respect as well as a support, welcoming environment where they can learn.
Always conduct yourself in a respectful and appropriate manner, and never make excuses for your behavior. Taking responsibility involves both the good and the bad outcomes of your choices.
2-5. Work part time if you can.
Holding down a job while you're a student can be tricky, no matter what level of education you're at. It requires a lot of time management and prioritization. However, it's ultimately a very rewarding experience that can teach you a lot of fiscal responsibility while giving you a little extra spending money to have fun with your friends. Even if you can't realistically work full time, having a part-time job can still teach you a lot and prepare you for future responsibilities.
Find a job that's willing to work with your school schedule. Not all employers are flexible, so let them know up front that your education is a priority.
Manage your time. Make sure you don't put off homework or projects until after work, as you may be too tired to do homework after a long shift.
Try to stay balanced. Make some time on weekends or after school on weekdays to do fun things you enjoy like spending time with friends.
Figure out a realistic budget that balances your expenses against your income and stick to that budget.
You can find budget planning help online, or by talking to a guidance counselor at your school.
3. Planning For Your Future
3-1. Decide on a career that's both fulfilling and practical.
As you think about your future after you graduate, you'll need to begin setting your sights on a career. The main factors you should consider are whether you would enjoy working a given job day after day and whether that job can realistically sustain you. Look into employment statistics for that job, average starting salaries, any additional training/certification you may need, and whether you would need to relocate in order to work that job.
You can find current information on many different careers by reading through the Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) website. You can also try talking to working professionals in the field you're considering.
3-2. Think carefully before taking out any loans.
Whether you're planning for college or are currently attending college, you may be looking into student loans. Loans are a great way to pay for your education, but they often come with steep interest rates that can saddle you with debt for years to come. Before you take out any loans or renew your existing loans, think about the long-term costs and look for other options that might be more financially sound.
The general rule of thumb for students is that any loans you'll need to repay each month should not exceed eight percent of your anticipated gross monthly income.
Think about what your anticipated career is, and look into what someone just entering that field can realistically expect to make each month in their first year of employment.
If you're in college or planning on attending college, look into financial aid that you won't have to repay. For example, try to get any grants, scholarships, and work-study positions your school offers.
If you won't be able to afford your loan repayment, think about other alternatives to taking out a loan. You can work a second job, try to pay off your finances in installments, or ask a trusted friend or relative to lend you the money.
3-3. Look for networking and/or internship opportunities.
Internships are a great way to gain valuable skills while you're still in school. Both internships and networking events can often lead to employment opportunities once you've established yourself and made connections in your desired field.
Many schools offer internships to students. If not, you can find internships in your area by searching online or reading through the classifieds section in your local paper.
Find out about networking events by joining relevant clubs and talking to working professionals in your desired field.
4. Living a Healthy Lifestyle
4-1. Eat a balanced, nutritious diet.
Eating a balanced diet is essential for building strong muscles and bones, maintaining a healthy weight, and having enough energy to get through the day. A healthy meal should balance fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and low-fat or fat-free dairy. You should also try to avoid saturated fat, sodium, and sugar.
Girls under age 13 should aim for around 2,000 calories each day, while boys in the same age range should aim for approximately 2,200 calories.
Girls ages 14 to 18 should be getting approximately 2,300 calories each day, while boys in that age range should be getting around 3,000 calories.
Students age 19 and up should aim for around 2,400 calories each day for women and around 3,000 calories each day for men.
4-2. Make exercise a priority.
It's generally recommended that adolescents should get at least one hour of physical activity each day, with the majority of that time devoted to moderate- to high-intensity aerobic exercise.
Adolescents should also engage in muscle-strengthening exercise sessions at least three days each week, though many aerobic activities build muscle while working the cardiovascular system.
Bicycle riding, jumping rope, walking, jogging/running, and most organized sports are excellent forms of exercise for adolescents and young adults.
If you're pressed for time, even just 20 to 30 minutes of vigorous walking or jogging can help relieve stress and burn calories.
4-3. Get a good night's sleep every night.
It's essential for growing bodies to get enough sleep and to get quality sleep every night. Teenagers generally need 8 to 10 hours of sleep each night, though some may need even more sleep. Young adults between the ages of 18 and 25 generally need seven to nine hours of sleep each night, though some may need up to 11 hours of sleep. Listen to your body and adjust your schedule if you're chronically tired or easily fatigued.
Avoid caffeine in the afternoon and evening to get a better night's sleep. Alcohol can also disrupt your sleep, so try to drink in moderation (if you're of legal drinking age) or avoid alcohol altogether.
Turn off all electronic devices, including cellphones, tablets, computers, and televisions, at least 30 minutes before bed. The glow of electronic screens can disrupt your body's production of melatonin, making it harder to sleep at night.
Find something relaxing to do before bed every night, such as reading, meditation, or exercise. Be aware, though, that exercise may wake some people up, and might be best reserved for the morning.
Stick to the same sleep schedule every day, even on weekends and days off. That means going to bed at the same time each night and getting up at the same time every morning.
4-4. Live a sober, healthy lifestyle.
Drugs and alcohol can impair your ability to succeed in school, affect your performance at work, and potentially get you into trouble with the law. Many people end up making poor decisions while under the influence of drugs and alcohol, and prolonged use can lead to dependence, addiction, and other health problems.
4-5. Avoid smoking and other forms of tobacco.
Tobacco is often used as a stress reliever, but it is actually a stimulant. Tobacco use can affect your ability to sleep at night, and prolonged use can lead to serious health problems like cancer and respiratory ailments.
Even second-hand smoke from others can cause health problems over time. It's best to avoid smoke altogether to protect your health.
Tips
When your teacher is talking, pay attention to what he or she is saying so you don't miss any important information.
Respect the teacher. Teachers don't like disrespectful students, and your grades may suffer as a result.
Make friends with serious students who like to study; this may help you study more effectively.
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Before you take out any loans or renew your existing loans, think about the long-term costs and look for other options that might be more financially sound.\\nThe general rule of thumb for students is that any loans you'll need to repay each month should not exceed eight percent of your anticipated gross monthly income.\\nThink about what your anticipated career is, and look into what someone just entering that field can realistically expect to make each month in their first year of employment.\\nIf you're in college or planning on attending college, look into financial aid that you won't have to repay. For example, try to get any grants, scholarships, and work-study positions your school offers.\\nIf you won't be able to afford your loan repayment, think about other alternatives to taking out a loan. You can work a second job, try to pay off your finances in installments, or ask a trusted friend or relative to lend you the money.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look for networking and/or internship opportunities.\", \"描述\": \"Internships are a great way to gain valuable skills while you're still in school. Both internships and networking events can often lead to employment opportunities once you've established yourself and made connections in your desired field.\\nMany schools offer internships to students. If not, you can find internships in your area by searching online or reading through the classifieds section in your local paper.\\nFind out about networking events by joining relevant clubs and talking to working professionals in your desired field.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Living a Healthy Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Eat a balanced, nutritious diet.\", \"描述\": \"Eating a balanced diet is essential for building strong muscles and bones, maintaining a healthy weight, and having enough energy to get through the day. A healthy meal should balance fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and low-fat or fat-free dairy. You should also try to avoid saturated fat, sodium, and sugar.\\nGirls under age 13 should aim for around 2,000 calories each day, while boys in the same age range should aim for approximately 2,200 calories.\\nGirls ages 14 to 18 should be getting approximately 2,300 calories each day, while boys in that age range should be getting around 3,000 calories.\\nStudents age 19 and up should aim for around 2,400 calories each day for women and around 3,000 calories each day for men.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make exercise a priority.\", \"描述\": \"It's generally recommended that adolescents should get at least one hour of physical activity each day, with the majority of that time devoted to moderate- to high-intensity aerobic exercise.\\n Adolescents should also engage in muscle-strengthening exercise sessions at least three days each week, though many aerobic activities build muscle while working the cardiovascular system.\\nBicycle riding, jumping rope, walking, jogging/running, and most organized sports are excellent forms of exercise for adolescents and young adults.\\nIf you're pressed for time, even just 20 to 30 minutes of vigorous walking or jogging can help relieve stress and burn calories.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a good night's sleep every night.\", \"描述\": \"It's essential for growing bodies to get enough sleep and to get quality sleep every night. Teenagers generally need 8 to 10 hours of sleep each night, though some may need even more sleep. Young adults between the ages of 18 and 25 generally need seven to nine hours of sleep each night, though some may need up to 11 hours of sleep. Listen to your body and adjust your schedule if you're chronically tired or easily fatigued.\\nAvoid caffeine in the afternoon and evening to get a better night's sleep. Alcohol can also disrupt your sleep, so try to drink in moderation (if you're of legal drinking age) or avoid alcohol altogether.\\nTurn off all electronic devices, including cellphones, tablets, computers, and televisions, at least 30 minutes before bed. The glow of electronic screens can disrupt your body's production of melatonin, making it harder to sleep at night.\\nFind something relaxing to do before bed every night, such as reading, meditation, or exercise. Be aware, though, that exercise may wake some people up, and might be best reserved for the morning.\\nStick to the same sleep schedule every day, even on weekends and days off. That means going to bed at the same time each night and getting up at the same time every morning.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Live a sober, healthy lifestyle.\", \"描述\": \"Drugs and alcohol can impair your ability to succeed in school, affect your performance at work, and potentially get you into trouble with the law. Many people end up making poor decisions while under the influence of drugs and alcohol, and prolonged use can lead to dependence, addiction, and other health problems.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid smoking and other forms of tobacco.\", \"描述\": \"Tobacco is often used as a stress reliever, but it is actually a stimulant. Tobacco use can affect your ability to sleep at night, and prolonged use can lead to serious health problems like cancer and respiratory ailments.\\nEven second-hand smoke from others can cause health problems over time. It's best to avoid smoke altogether to protect your health.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"When your teacher is talking, pay attention to what he or she is saying so you don't miss any important information.\\n\", \"Respect the teacher. Teachers don't like disrespectful students, and your grades may suffer as a result.\\n\", \"Make friends with serious students who like to study; this may help you study more effectively.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Responsible Teen
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1. Keep your room clean and organized.
Take care of your things and clean up after yourself.
If your parents are still picking up after you or cleaning your room, they probably don't think you can handle other obligations like having a job or looking after a car. Prove that you can look after your things by organizing your room and keeping it tidy. Your parents will probably be impressed and grateful that you're caring for your belongings.
Don't forget that showing responsibility also means respecting other people's things. If you've got siblings, always ask before you want to borrow something and take really good care of it if you do.
2. Help out around your home.
Contribute without being asked to demonstrate responsibility.
If your parents have to nag you to do chores, they might think you're not ready for more independence. To earn their respect, find ways to help out without being asked. You might not think they'll notice, but over time, they'll realize that you're contributing. You can also ask them for things you can do that will show you're responsible.
For example, if you know the trash always has to go to the curb on Tuesdays, move it out there the night before without being told. Try to do things that will help your parents and family out.
3. Work toward good grades.
Make an effort to study and turn in your homework.
Yes, homework can be a hassle, but doing it will help you stay on track in class. Going to your classes and learning the material is one of the best ways to prove you're responsible—after all, good grades show that you're attending class, staying engaged, doing homework, and taking exams. This might seem like a lot of pressure, but remember that your teachers and counselors want you to succeed!
If you're struggling with schoolwork, reach out to your teacher or counselor for help. You might need to work on your time management skills to fit in studying time with extracurricular activities and a part-time job, for instance.
4. Get a part-time or summer job.
You'll earn skills, experience, and money while proving responsibility.
Your first job is a huge milestone! It shows that you can manage your time, take on work responsibilities, and that you're challenging yourself. During the school year, try not to work more than 10-15 hours a week so you still have time for homework or extracurriculars. You may want to work more during the summer if you're saving up or just have more time.
Getting a job in high school also gives you valuable work experience. You can put this on a resume and learn about what kind of jobs you like.
5. Avoid drugs and alcohol.
These are risky activities that show poor judgment and can lead to addiction.
You'll prove that you're a really responsible teen if you turn down drugs and alcohol. Unfortunately, you might find yourself in a situation where someone's really pushing it on you. If you can't avoid the person, here are a few ways you can turn them down:
Let them know you're the designated driver and that you need to be sober.
Explain that you don't use drugs or alcohol because you're on a sports team or have to work later, for instance.
Bring your own non-alcoholic drink and let them know you're fine.
Tell them your parents will be checking on you when you get home.
Be clear that you don't use drugs or alcohol.
6. Protect yourself and your online identity.
Keep yourself safe and don't put yourself in risky situations.
You might have rules that you're expected to follow—a curfew, rules about when you're allowed to drive, or places you can go with friends, for instance. Your parents probably have these rules to keep you safe! Keep your personal safety in mind when you're going places or meeting up with friends and don't let your guard down when you're online—be cautious about sharing personal information and change your profile settings to private.
It's almost impossible to remove something from the internet, so think twice before you post something and never share things that could compromise or embarrass you.
7. Think before you act.
Consider the consequences before you do or say something you might regret.
It's really easy to respond quickly at the moment and say or do something you regret, especially if you're arguing with friends or your family. If you start getting angry, take a few seconds to think about why you're upset and ways you could react. Consider the consequences of each reaction before you decide.
For example, if your parent tells you that you can't go over to a friend's house, you might finish chores and then ask again instead of throwing a fit or getting into an argument with them.
It's okay to be upset! However, if you don't think can react without getting angry and saying something you regret, give yourself some space to process things. Then, once you've cooled off, go back and talk with the person.
8. Have an open line of communication with your parents.
When you're a teenager, it can feel hard to talk, but make it a priority.
You don't have to be best friends, but it's important to let them know what's going on in your life and how you're doing. Your parents will appreciate you letting them be involved in your life.
If you get in the habit of just checking in with your parents about everyday things, it will be easier to have more serious conversations later on.
Don't forget to ask about how things are going with your parents and take the time to listen. This shows them that you're considerate and growing up.
9. Discuss responsibilities and privileges.
Have a talk if you think you deserve more independence.
It can be hard for parents to step back and give their teenagers more freedom, but if you feel like you deserve more privileges, sit down with them to talk about it. Be respectful and tell them what responsible things you've done to earn more freedom.
For example, you might say, "I've raised my grades in two of my classes and I worked all summer. I think I'm responsible enough to have a later curfew. What do you think?"
Don't demand more privileges or freedoms just because it's what your friends have. Remember, you've got to show your parents that you've earned their respect.
10. Practice good hygiene.
Bathe and wash your hair regularly so you're clean and smell nice.
When you go through puberty, you might notice your hair becomes oilier, your skin is prone to breakouts, and your sweat has a stronger odor. This just means that you should wash your face daily, shower or bathe frequently, and wash your hair often.
It's probably a good idea to start using deodorant which can keep you smelling fresh throughout the day, especially if you exercise.
If you have acne, you may want to start a simple skincare regimen to manage oil and treat blemishes. Wash your skin twice a day with an oil-free cleanser and keep it moisturized. Pick up a few acne spot treatments that contain benzoyl peroxide or salicylic acid to treat annoying pimples.
Wear clean clothes and to show you're really responsible, wash your dirty clothes.
11. Take care of your own health.
Make your own doctor and dentist appointments to get regular care.
Show your parents that you're growing up and taking steps to look after yourself. To show you're responsible, talk with your parents about scheduling your own doctor and dentist appointments.
If you need to get a ride from your parent, check the appointment with them before you book so you know they can drive you.
Health care can be confusing! If you have questions about medical care or insurance, ask your parent to help clear things up. This shows your guardian that you're serious about managing your health.
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You might not think they'll notice, but over time, they'll realize that you're contributing. You can also ask them for things you can do that will show you're responsible.\\nFor example, if you know the trash always has to go to the curb on Tuesdays, move it out there the night before without being told. Try to do things that will help your parents and family out.\\n3. Work toward good grades.\\nMake an effort to study and turn in your homework.\\nYes, homework can be a hassle, but doing it will help you stay on track in class. Going to your classes and learning the material is one of the best ways to prove you're responsible—after all, good grades show that you're attending class, staying engaged, doing homework, and taking exams. This might seem like a lot of pressure, but remember that your teachers and counselors want you to succeed!\\nIf you're struggling with schoolwork, reach out to your teacher or counselor for help. You might need to work on your time management skills to fit in studying time with extracurricular activities and a part-time job, for instance.\\n4. Get a part-time or summer job.\\nYou'll earn skills, experience, and money while proving responsibility.\\nYour first job is a huge milestone! It shows that you can manage your time, take on work responsibilities, and that you're challenging yourself. During the school year, try not to work more than 10-15 hours a week so you still have time for homework or extracurriculars. You may want to work more during the summer if you're saving up or just have more time.\\nGetting a job in high school also gives you valuable work experience. You can put this on a resume and learn about what kind of jobs you like.\\n5. Avoid drugs and alcohol.\\nThese are risky activities that show poor judgment and can lead to addiction.\\nYou'll prove that you're a really responsible teen if you turn down drugs and alcohol. Unfortunately, you might find yourself in a situation where someone's really pushing it on you. If you can't avoid the person, here are a few ways you can turn them down:\\nLet them know you're the designated driver and that you need to be sober.\\nExplain that you don't use drugs or alcohol because you're on a sports team or have to work later, for instance.\\nBring your own non-alcoholic drink and let them know you're fine.\\nTell them your parents will be checking on you when you get home.\\nBe clear that you don't use drugs or alcohol.\\n6. Protect yourself and your online identity.\\nKeep yourself safe and don't put yourself in risky situations.\\nYou might have rules that you're expected to follow—a curfew, rules about when you're allowed to drive, or places you can go with friends, for instance. Your parents probably have these rules to keep you safe! Keep your personal safety in mind when you're going places or meeting up with friends and don't let your guard down when you're online—be cautious about sharing personal information and change your profile settings to private.\\nIt's almost impossible to remove something from the internet, so think twice before you post something and never share things that could compromise or embarrass you.\\n7. Think before you act.\\nConsider the consequences before you do or say something you might regret.\\nIt's really easy to respond quickly at the moment and say or do something you regret, especially if you're arguing with friends or your family. If you start getting angry, take a few seconds to think about why you're upset and ways you could react. Consider the consequences of each reaction before you decide.\\nFor example, if your parent tells you that you can't go over to a friend's house, you might finish chores and then ask again instead of throwing a fit or getting into an argument with them.\\nIt's okay to be upset! However, if you don't think can react without getting angry and saying something you regret, give yourself some space to process things. Then, once you've cooled off, go back and talk with the person.\\n8. Have an open line of communication with your parents.\\nWhen you're a teenager, it can feel hard to talk, but make it a priority.\\nYou don't have to be best friends, but it's important to let them know what's going on in your life and how you're doing. Your parents will appreciate you letting them be involved in your life.\\nIf you get in the habit of just checking in with your parents about everyday things, it will be easier to have more serious conversations later on.\\nDon't forget to ask about how things are going with your parents and take the time to listen. This shows them that you're considerate and growing up.\\n9. Discuss responsibilities and privileges.\\nHave a talk if you think you deserve more independence.\\nIt can be hard for parents to step back and give their teenagers more freedom, but if you feel like you deserve more privileges, sit down with them to talk about it. Be respectful and tell them what responsible things you've done to earn more freedom.\\nFor example, you might say, \\\"I've raised my grades in two of my classes and I worked all summer. I think I'm responsible enough to have a later curfew. What do you think?\\\"\\nDon't demand more privileges or freedoms just because it's what your friends have. 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1. Improving Your Voice
1-1. Learn how to control your voice.
Becoming a rock singer requires more vocal control than singing karaoke in a bar. You need to learn how to control the pitch and tone of your voice.
Sing from the stomach instead of the throat. Singing from the throat is like a speaker without a box. You don´t get the fullness of the sound. It will sound squeaky when you try to hit some good notes, especially the high ones. So, mainly use the throat as a conduit. Work on hitting high notes.
Diaphragm pressure is the key to creating the heavier vocals used by rock singers. Your diaphragm controls the air that goes through your vocal chords. Some pressure in your diaphragm can push just enough air through your vocal chords to get that heavy grit out.
Practice changing the pitch. Experiment with opening and closing your throat, lips, and teeth to see how much control you have over the sound. Closing your throat can add harshness or grit, while opening it can increase volume and improve timbre. Lips and teeth affect not only the character (what phonics you make) but also how the vibration of your vocal chords is translated into the air around you.
1-2. Study the fundamentals of rock music and singing.
As you become more controlled and proficient in using your voice, try to expand your musical vocabulary by learning about the basics of music and singing.
Vocal warm-ups, scales, intervals, and timbre are all helpful things to familiarize yourself with but remember the first rule of rock: do it your way. Choose your style of rock.
Abandon musical lyricism, tone, and articulation. Rock singing should be rather ambiguous in rhythm, lyrics, and pitch. That is the essence of hard rock.
1-3. Get a voice coach.
Don't try to learn from a cd or machine. Get a great teacher. Many professional rock singers have done so. A voice coach will help you develop your voice and can give you tips in how to protect your voice.
Rock has a vast array of voice styles and methods. An experienced coach can appropriately assess your improvement. A coach will help you improve your vocal range.
There are no shortcuts. It takes a long time to learn to sing well. You might have natural talent, but that will take you only so far. You have to have a solid technique to have a stable career. That is why there are so many "flash in the pan" performers. They have no technique, and their voices crash and burn quickly.
1-4. Exercise to strengthen your voice.
You do have to be able to hold enough breath to push a note loud enough for a microphone or audience to hear it.
Focusing on core exercises such as abdominal, chest, and back muscles will help you tighten your core in order to focus on your breath.
Cardio exercise such as biking, jogging, jump rope, and even brisk walking can improve the amount of breath you have for holding notes and can also help a lot if you're an active singer who does a lot of jumping around or headbanging while singing.
Take care of your voice. While some singers can smoke and drink and sound like rock stars, that approach might not work for you. It's important to know the limitations of your own voice because nothing is worse than running your voice ragged before your band finishes its first set.
1-5. Learn your vocal range.
Everybody has a different vocal range, but most male singers fall into the categories of either bass, baritone or tenor, while most females have either a contralto, mezzo soprano or soprano vocal range.
Some people have ranges that extend further than these categories. Learning your vocal range is very important because you need to know your limits.
Oftentimes, your default conversational pitch is towards the lower end of your singing range.
Learn how to scream. Develop a screaming-yelling style to your singing voice. Most rock singers do not utilize the same technique as pop stars do: instead of smooth transitions and mild sounds, they go for the more scream-like voice, making it sound more passionate. Try yelling parts of any rock lyrics without utilizing vocal notes and then replicating that feeling while singing.
2. Becoming a Great Musician
2-1. Learn an instrument and become a good musician first.
Singers have a bad reputation for being bad musicians. Don’t fall into that trap. Be a good to great musician. Anything less, and you're wasting your time and everyone else's.
Master the electric guitar. That’s a staple in rock bands. Or study piano. Also know how to read music; even better, know how to write music as well.
Be realistic about your talent. If your voice isn’t what you want it to be, learn an instrument instead. Parents are rarely realistic about their children's talent.
Have persistence and patience. Don't be in a hurry. It takes time. Perform in small venues until you are used to performing. Being a solid performer takes practice. Get a thick skin. Be prepared for what you might feel is vicious criticism. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t make it big right away. Expect to face a lot of rejection.
2-2. Write your own songs.
If you want to become a rock celebrity with your band like blink-182, Angels & Airwaves, or NOFX, then you need to have songwriting chops.
Each of those artists has written unique songs and did not get famous off of singing covers. Perform your own songs.
Learn the music fundamentally. Your complete understanding of the notes and rhythms must be solid before you can work on stylizing your performance and songs.
2-3. Start a rock band.
You’re not going to be a rock singer if you don’t get out there and play. Rock bands have many parts to them: Lead singer, drummer, bassist, guitarist.
There is no substitute for practicing a lot and then performing. Start out small: perform for family and friends.
It would also help if you performed to a group consisting of an individual or individuals who know how to sing rock. After you perform, ask for suggestions and feedback. How can I become better? What do I need to tweak?
2-4. Create a demo tape.
If you're serious about becoming a rock star, you will have to create a demo recording so that producers can hear what you sound like when your voice is mixed on a professional quality CD. These are essential for those hoping to make commercial music.
Use only your best songs on it - four to six at the most. The format used depends on who's getting it, and the type of equipment they have. Keep it simple. Start with your absolute best song.
Make sure to label your demo. That way if it gets passed around, no one will forget that the great rock music on it belongs to you. Choose strong lyrics, and make sure the audio has strong clarity.
You might want to think about getting an agent as well. However, be realistic; of the many thousands vying for stardom, only a few make it, so have a back-up plan and perhaps a day job.
2-5. Put feeling into your singing.
Rock is more than screaming. It’s about feeling. It’s about putting your opinions, emotions and beliefs into music. Sing what you believe and feel.
If you want to become a rock singer, sing with a passion. Let the words and the tune flow out of your heart. Let the pain, happiness, anger, sadness, anxiety, stress and hopefulness out. Let all your living emotions reach the maximum and explode from you.
Let the music flow through your bloodstream. Listen to what you are making and enjoy it. Use your life in your music. Sing what you know so the emotions feel real.
Audiences can tell when you're covering up your true emotions and being fake, and they will dislike it. Rather than smiling to show that everything is okay and that you're a performer with a capital P, be at least as relaxed and authentic as you would be when hanging out with a close friend.
3. Getting the Rock Singer Vibe
3-1. Showcase your individuality.
Rock aesthetics is built around the concept of individuality and rejection of conformity. Therefore, if you are setting out to emulate a singer or style you already like, you may set yourself back considerably in your learning process.
The beginnings and history of rock and roll (which over time "split" into what we now call rock and R&B) are replete with artists who made the most of a limited set of tools. Minimalism and sparse resources have always been a cornerstone of the genre. So first and foremost, trust yourself. You have the rock inside you, and no one needs to tell you how to let it out.
Find what you do well, and stick with it. You may not have to "try" to make your voice unique. Try to sing in the way that is most comfortable for you. This is going to allow you to sing the strongest and longest your voice will allow.
If you can only scream, then be the screamer in the band! If you can only hit falsetto notes, then play that into your style. If you feel like you can only sing really low notes, then stick to where your voice is comfortable. A lot of beginning rock singers waste their time trying to emulate their heroes.
3-2. Listen to more rock music.
Try studying the vocal techniques of the singer in the song you are listening to. Is he/she singing putting more emphasis on the higher notes? The lower notes? Are the noises coming from the back of the singer's throat or from the front of the mouth?
Try mimicking specific notes and the way these are sung, as this will help you develop that rock technique.
A lot of people say they want to learn how to sing rock but in the end of the day they never actually listen to rock music. Listening to rock music constantly can familiarize you with the beats.
3-3. Get the wardrobe and hair.
If you want to be a rock singer, you shouldn’t dress like a country singer. You need to master the look, while still keeping true to your own individuality.
Male rock singers often wear ripped jeans, ripped T-shirts, scuffed hair, black makeup around the eyes, spiked collars and spray painted black leather jackets.
A typical female rock singer’s wardrobe might involve dark colors like black and purple, mini-skirts, T-shirts, leather jackets, boots, spiked bracelets, and long teased hair. Avoid pastels.
3-4. Develop a stage persona.
The key is confidence. You need to be confident to project both voice and personality when on stage. This may be easier thought about than done––you may wish to join drama class or a club to help you to develop presence before testing yourself in the stage environment playing music.
Strong stage presences are about transparency and a lack of deceit.
In some cases, depending on the band you're fronting, it may become more important to be a good entertainer than it is to be a good singer. It won't always be this way though, as it depends on the combination of singing and presentation of your band. You need to interpret the music on stage.
Practice your posture. It may not seem like it, but good posture is essential to both good singing and great stage presence. Bad posture can cramp the sound leaving your body and can cause people to think you'd rather shrink to the back of the stage than take it front and center.
Tips
Get noticed. Start trying out for talent shows, karaoke at your school or other places.
Smoking could damage your voice and your health in the long run. If you want to be a great singer, quit smoking.
Don't drink or eat sugary foods and drink a lot of water. This will help your voice sound the best,straining will damage your voice so try not to do it.
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Closing your throat can add harshness or grit, while opening it can increase volume and improve timbre. Lips and teeth affect not only the character (what phonics you make) but also how the vibration of your vocal chords is translated into the air around you.\\n1-2. Study the fundamentals of rock music and singing.\\nAs you become more controlled and proficient in using your voice, try to expand your musical vocabulary by learning about the basics of music and singing.\\nVocal warm-ups, scales, intervals, and timbre are all helpful things to familiarize yourself with but remember the first rule of rock: do it your way. Choose your style of rock.\\nAbandon musical lyricism, tone, and articulation. Rock singing should be rather ambiguous in rhythm, lyrics, and pitch. That is the essence of hard rock.\\n1-3. Get a voice coach.\\nDon't try to learn from a cd or machine. Get a great teacher. Many professional rock singers have done so. A voice coach will help you develop your voice and can give you tips in how to protect your voice.\\nRock has a vast array of voice styles and methods. An experienced coach can appropriately assess your improvement. A coach will help you improve your vocal range.\\nThere are no shortcuts. It takes a long time to learn to sing well. You might have natural talent, but that will take you only so far. You have to have a solid technique to have a stable career. That is why there are so many \\\"flash in the pan\\\" performers. They have no technique, and their voices crash and burn quickly.\\n1-4. Exercise to strengthen your voice.\\nYou do have to be able to hold enough breath to push a note loud enough for a microphone or audience to hear it.\\nFocusing on core exercises such as abdominal, chest, and back muscles will help you tighten your core in order to focus on your breath.\\nCardio exercise such as biking, jogging, jump rope, and even brisk walking can improve the amount of breath you have for holding notes and can also help a lot if you're an active singer who does a lot of jumping around or headbanging while singing.\\nTake care of your voice. While some singers can smoke and drink and sound like rock stars, that approach might not work for you. It's important to know the limitations of your own voice because nothing is worse than running your voice ragged before your band finishes its first set.\\n1-5. Learn your vocal range.\\nEverybody has a different vocal range, but most male singers fall into the categories of either bass, baritone or tenor, while most females have either a contralto, mezzo soprano or soprano vocal range.\\nSome people have ranges that extend further than these categories. Learning your vocal range is very important because you need to know your limits.\\nOftentimes, your default conversational pitch is towards the lower end of your singing range.\\nLearn how to scream. Develop a screaming-yelling style to your singing voice. Most rock singers do not utilize the same technique as pop stars do: instead of smooth transitions and mild sounds, they go for the more scream-like voice, making it sound more passionate. Try yelling parts of any rock lyrics without utilizing vocal notes and then replicating that feeling while singing.\\n2. Becoming a Great Musician\\n2-1. Learn an instrument and become a good musician first.\\nSingers have a bad reputation for being bad musicians. Don’t fall into that trap. Be a good to great musician. Anything less, and you're wasting your time and everyone else's.\\nMaster the electric guitar. That’s a staple in rock bands. Or study piano. Also know how to read music; even better, know how to write music as well.\\nBe realistic about your talent. If your voice isn’t what you want it to be, learn an instrument instead. Parents are rarely realistic about their children's talent.\\nHave persistence and patience. Don't be in a hurry. It takes time. Perform in small venues until you are used to performing. Being a solid performer takes practice. Get a thick skin. Be prepared for what you might feel is vicious criticism. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t make it big right away. Expect to face a lot of rejection.\\n2-2. Write your own songs.\\nIf you want to become a rock celebrity with your band like blink-182, Angels & Airwaves, or NOFX, then you need to have songwriting chops.\\nEach of those artists has written unique songs and did not get famous off of singing covers. Perform your own songs.\\nLearn the music fundamentally. Your complete understanding of the notes and rhythms must be solid before you can work on stylizing your performance and songs.\\n2-3. Start a rock band.\\nYou’re not going to be a rock singer if you don’t get out there and play. Rock bands have many parts to them: Lead singer, drummer, bassist, guitarist.\\nThere is no substitute for practicing a lot and then performing. Start out small: perform for family and friends.\\nIt would also help if you performed to a group consisting of an individual or individuals who know how to sing rock. After you perform, ask for suggestions and feedback. How can I become better? What do I need to tweak?\\n2-4. Create a demo tape.\\nIf you're serious about becoming a rock star, you will have to create a demo recording so that producers can hear what you sound like when your voice is mixed on a professional quality CD. These are essential for those hoping to make commercial music.\\nUse only your best songs on it - four to six at the most. The format used depends on who's getting it, and the type of equipment they have. Keep it simple. Start with your absolute best song.\\nMake sure to label your demo. That way if it gets passed around, no one will forget that the great rock music on it belongs to you. Choose strong lyrics, and make sure the audio has strong clarity.\\nYou might want to think about getting an agent as well. However, be realistic; of the many thousands vying for stardom, only a few make it, so have a back-up plan and perhaps a day job.\\n2-5. Put feeling into your singing.\\nRock is more than screaming. It’s about feeling. It’s about putting your opinions, emotions and beliefs into music. Sing what you believe and feel.\\nIf you want to become a rock singer, sing with a passion. Let the words and the tune flow out of your heart. Let the pain, happiness, anger, sadness, anxiety, stress and hopefulness out. Let all your living emotions reach the maximum and explode from you.\\nLet the music flow through your bloodstream. Listen to what you are making and enjoy it. Use your life in your music. Sing what you know so the emotions feel real.\\nAudiences can tell when you're covering up your true emotions and being fake, and they will dislike it. Rather than smiling to show that everything is okay and that you're a performer with a capital P, be at least as relaxed and authentic as you would be when hanging out with a close friend.\\n3. Getting the Rock Singer Vibe\\n3-1. Showcase your individuality.\\nRock aesthetics is built around the concept of individuality and rejection of conformity. Therefore, if you are setting out to emulate a singer or style you already like, you may set yourself back considerably in your learning process.\\nThe beginnings and history of rock and roll (which over time \\\"split\\\" into what we now call rock and R&B) are replete with artists who made the most of a limited set of tools. Minimalism and sparse resources have always been a cornerstone of the genre. So first and foremost, trust yourself. You have the rock inside you, and no one needs to tell you how to let it out.\\nFind what you do well, and stick with it. You may not have to \\\"try\\\" to make your voice unique. Try to sing in the way that is most comfortable for you. This is going to allow you to sing the strongest and longest your voice will allow.\\nIf you can only scream, then be the screamer in the band! If you can only hit falsetto notes, then play that into your style. If you feel like you can only sing really low notes, then stick to where your voice is comfortable. A lot of beginning rock singers waste their time trying to emulate their heroes.\\n3-2. Listen to more rock music.\\nTry studying the vocal techniques of the singer in the song you are listening to. Is he/she singing putting more emphasis on the higher notes? The lower notes? Are the noises coming from the back of the singer's throat or from the front of the mouth?\\nTry mimicking specific notes and the way these are sung, as this will help you develop that rock technique.\\nA lot of people say they want to learn how to sing rock but in the end of the day they never actually listen to rock music. Listening to rock music constantly can familiarize you with the beats.\\n3-3. Get the wardrobe and hair.\\nIf you want to be a rock singer, you shouldn’t dress like a country singer. You need to master the look, while still keeping true to your own individuality.\\nMale rock singers often wear ripped jeans, ripped T-shirts, scuffed hair, black makeup around the eyes, spiked collars and spray painted black leather jackets.\\nA typical female rock singer’s wardrobe might involve dark colors like black and purple, mini-skirts, T-shirts, leather jackets, boots, spiked bracelets, and long teased hair. Avoid pastels.\\n3-4. Develop a stage persona.\\nThe key is confidence. You need to be confident to project both voice and personality when on stage. This may be easier thought about than done––you may wish to join drama class or a club to help you to develop presence before testing yourself in the stage environment playing music.\\nStrong stage presences are about transparency and a lack of deceit.\\nIn some cases, depending on the band you're fronting, it may become more important to be a good entertainer than it is to be a good singer. It won't always be this way though, as it depends on the combination of singing and presentation of your band. You need to interpret the music on stage.\\nPractice your posture. It may not seem like it, but good posture is essential to both good singing and great stage presence. Bad posture can cramp the sound leaving your body and can cause people to think you'd rather shrink to the back of the stage than take it front and center.\\nTips\\nGet noticed. Start trying out for talent shows, karaoke at your school or other places.\\nSmoking could damage your voice and your health in the long run. If you want to be a great singer, quit smoking.\\nDon't drink or eat sugary foods and drink a lot of water. This will help your voice sound the best,straining will damage your voice so try not to do it.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If your passion is possibly singing rock, you can develop your voice and create a vibe. With hard work and a lot of luck, you might even be discovered and make a living as a rock singer. If you want to be a rock singer, you need to become a great musician and work on your voice first. It's partly natural talent, but it takes a lot more than that.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving Your Voice\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn how to control your voice.\", \"描述\": \"Becoming a rock singer requires more vocal control than singing karaoke in a bar. You need to learn how to control the pitch and tone of your voice.\\nSing from the stomach instead of the throat. Singing from the throat is like a speaker without a box. You don´t get the fullness of the sound. It will sound squeaky when you try to hit some good notes, especially the high ones. So, mainly use the throat as a conduit. Work on hitting high notes.\\nDiaphragm pressure is the key to creating the heavier vocals used by rock singers. 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1. Act confidently.
Role models have faith in their own capabilities without being arrogant.
Being confident revolves around knowing your self-worth and your strengths, while arrogance centers on feelings of self-importance. Good role models know how to believe in themselves without putting themselves on a pedestal. Try:
Taking the lead on a project that matches your skillset
Politely correcting a co-worker when they share incorrect information
Bringing an idea to your boss or manager
2. Address your weaknesses.
Role models aren’t afraid to approach their weaknesses in a new way.
Despite popular belief, a role model isn’t flawless and perfect at everything they do. Instead, they take steps to understand what their weak points are, and then work to improve themselves in the future. You might:
Ask a superior for advice on how to handle a tough project
Say “no” to new commitments if you already have a full schedule
Ask a tech-savvy co-worker to walk you through a feature in Photoshop
3. Respect everyone around you.
Respect earns you other people’s trust and admiration.
A good role model makes an effort to empathize with their peers, care about their struggles, and treat others the way they’d like to be treated. Think of it this way–if your words or actions don’t meet the Golden Rule, then they probably aren’t what a role model would do. You could try:
Waiting for your turn to speak
Offering a helping hand
Apologizing if you mess up during a project
Thanking someone for their time
4. Prioritize good communication.
Good role models know how to talk to their teammates.
They’ll share feedback directly, email a peer when they need something, and say exactly what’s on their mind. A poor role model, on the other hand, might communicate passive-aggressively, or force their co-workers to read between the lines instead of just being direct. Here are some ways you can make the most out of your own communication:
Practice active listening skills
Sit or stand with a relaxed, open posture
Compliment someone on a job well done
5. Share constructive feedback.
Role models give their peers plenty of opportunities to improve.
Take a moment to acknowledge how hard your teammate has worked, and let them know how they can make their next draft or revision even stronger. Keep your tone clear, kind, and direct, so your peer completely understands how to do an even better job in the future. You might say:
“I appreciate all the hard work you put into this draft. Would you mind giving it another read-through for small errors and typos?”
“Your eye contact felt a bit spotty during the presentation. I totally get where you’re coming from–I find that it helps to look at different people when I’m speaking to a crowd.”
6. Push yourself to keep learning.
A true role model always wants to improve and is never satisfied with complacency.
Pay close attention to both your peers and superiors and see how they do things. Is there anything you can learn from them? Is there any way you can apply their skills and work ethic to your own? The more you’re willing to learn and grow, the more of a role model you’ll be to the people around you.
If you’d really like to go the extra mile, enroll in a class or degree program that’s related to your career path.
You might practice using a difficult piece of software over the weekend so you feel more comfortable with it during the workweek.
7. Admit when you do something wrong.
Role models embrace transparency, not perfection.
Own any mistakes that you made and take responsibility for any of the aftermath. Honesty and accountability are way more important than having a perfect track record. Try saying:
“I completely underestimated how long that task was going to take. I’m so sorry for making you wait!”
“I’m really sorry, guys. This one’s on me.”
“I take full responsibility for what happened here. You have every right to be upset.”
8. Set high goals.
True role models expect great things from both themselves and their peers.
Remind your teammates that they’re capable of really great things, and they can accomplish just about anything if they put their minds to it. Here are a few ideas:
“I’m hoping to finish this assignment by the end of the week.”
“It would be great if we could submit this project by next Wednesday.”
“I know that we can get this done by the deadline.”
Make sure that your goals are still manageable, though! Always be honest with yourself about what you're able to complete in a given timeframe.
9. Live life with integrity.
A good role model thrives on fairness and honesty.
Treat everyone equally, and don’t give out special favors to a certain handful of people. Your peers are more likely to look up to you if you give everyone the same opportunities. If you notice someone acting or behaving unfairly, don’t be afraid to call them out, either! True integrity involves holding everyone accountable, including yourself.
For example, don’t offer to proofread one co-worker’s writing but refuse to help another. Instead, wait until you have enough time to help multiple people at once.
Don’t tell one co-worker about a cool new work opportunity but leave your other, equally-qualified teammate in the dark.
10. Carry your weight.
Role models always work as a team and never leave their work to someone else.
Always offer to do your fair share of the work during a group assignment or project, and make sure that everyone else is pulling their weight, too. The more reliable and dependable you are, the more your peers will look up to you further down the line.
For instance, you might finish your assignment for a group project several days before the deadline instead of waiting until the last second.
11. Enjoy your day-to-day work.
Role models embrace their job even when things are slow.
They aren’t counting down the hours until they leave for the day; instead, they make the most of every minute they’re at work until it’s time to clock out. This doesn’t mean that you have to love every aspect of your job, though! Just focus on the aspects of your work that you like the most, and get your enjoyment from there.
Enjoying your job actually helps you get more satisfaction in the long run.
Try breaking down tasks into manageable chunks, and then completing each manageable chunk before moving onto the next one. This might help you feel more productive and in-the-zone during the workday!
12. Approach life with optimism.
Optimism offers more opportunities for growth than pessimism.
Being a good role model is all about learning how to roll with the punches and make the best out of a bad situation. Focus on resiliency instead of negativity–your peers will appreciative the positivity, and may even take a page out of your book. Try approaching a negative situation one of these ways:
“It stinks that we didn’t meet our monthly goal, but now we’re ahead of the game for the next month!”
“We might not have made as much money as we hoped, but now we can make a more targeted marketing strategy toward our customers.”
13. Welcome new ideas.
A good role model trusts their team’s innovations.
Embrace good ideas as you hear them, and encourage your teammates to make them into a reality. Believing and trusting in the people around you is actually a key part of being a role model. You could say:
“That’s a fantastic idea, Jenn. I really think you should bring that up at the next team meeting!”
“I love that idea, Markus. How about you give it a try for a week or so and let me know how things are going?”
14. Be yourself.
Great role models are unapologetically themselves.
Focus on the qualities that make you special–not what other people expect you to be. There will always be someone who doesn’t quite vibe with your way of doing things, and that’s okay! Being a good role model is all about answering to yourself, not to the people around you. You could:
Share a funny pun or corny joke with a peer
Wear your favorite outfit to work, even if it isn’t super stylish
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I totally get where you’re coming from–I find that it helps to look at different people when I’m speaking to a crowd.”\\n6. Push yourself to keep learning.\\nA true role model always wants to improve and is never satisfied with complacency.\\nPay close attention to both your peers and superiors and see how they do things. Is there anything you can learn from them? Is there any way you can apply their skills and work ethic to your own? The more you’re willing to learn and grow, the more of a role model you’ll be to the people around you.\\nIf you’d really like to go the extra mile, enroll in a class or degree program that’s related to your career path.\\nYou might practice using a difficult piece of software over the weekend so you feel more comfortable with it during the workweek.\\n7. Admit when you do something wrong.\\nRole models embrace transparency, not perfection.\\nOwn any mistakes that you made and take responsibility for any of the aftermath. 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I really think you should bring that up at the next team meeting!”\\n“I love that idea, Markus. How about you give it a try for a week or so and let me know how things are going?”\\n14. Be yourself.\\nGreat role models are unapologetically themselves.\\nFocus on the qualities that make you special–not what other people expect you to be. There will always be someone who doesn’t quite vibe with your way of doing things, and that’s okay! Being a good role model is all about answering to yourself, not to the people around you. You could:\\nShare a funny pun or corny joke with a peer\\nWear your favorite outfit to work, even if it isn’t super stylish\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a role model is a big responsibility, especially when you’re on the job. How can you set a great example for your peers without setting impossible expectations for yourself? Don’t worry–you’ve come to the right place. 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1. Showing Maturity
1-1. Work on your self-confidence.
Try going about your daily tasks with a confident, positive energy. Work to meet your goals. Chances are your younger relative already looks up to you. By putting your best foot forward in your daily life, you can help be a good role model.
1-2. Keep your word.
One of the most important things that you can teach a child is being reliable as an adult. Many young kids may not have parents or other relatives that are dependable. Adults may promise one thing and then do something else. They may not be there on time, or at all.
When you make plans to spend time with your niece or nephew for example, be there when you said you'd show up. Set aside time to be with them. If a friend invites to do something else, prioritize your time with your niece or nephew first.
If your young cousin has a soccer match coming up, and you agreed to go, then make sure to put that down on a calendar. If something else comes up, make sure to contact them at least a day in advance to let them know you're not coming. Avoid accidentally forgetting to show up.
1-3. Instill core values.
As a role model, you are a source of wisdom and inspiration. You help others to understand what matters in life. Many children may have role models like professional athletes, singers, or actresses, but they also need real-life role models that help them to understand morals and ethics.
Talk with them about real-life people that you admire, and what qualities make those role models special.
Give your younger relatives examples of people who have made an impact for good. Use examples of people in your community. Sometimes historical figures can also provide a good perspective.
Demonstrate to them what responsibility, respect, and integrity look like. Take this to heart in your own daily actions. If you're taking a trip to the store with your younger relatives, think about ways you can model behaviors of respect when interacting with other shoppers, or when making purchases that show responsibility.
1-4. Treat mistakes as an opportunity for growth.
Help your younger relatives think of mistakes as an opportunity to become a better and stronger person. Talk about times you've made mistakes and in the past and let them know what you've learned. By seeing how you've grown from the experience, your relative will learn that it's okay to make mistakes in life.
For example, you could say. “When I messed up at the recital, I thought my life was over. Turns out, band really isn't my thing. Taking time off from band really enabled me to discover my love for painting. I've met lots of new people and created cool work that I am proud of.”
1-5. Use your past failings as life lessons for younger relatives.
For example, let's say that you got in trouble back in high school for skipping classes to hang out with friends. Explain to them the consequences of your behavior. Maybe you got disciplined by the school administration? Or had low grades that semester? Tell them how you overcame the situation and what you learned.
If you're having some arguments with your relatives, think about how you would react if your younger relatives were in the room. Be calm and focus on ways to be mature in your opinions when talking with your family members.
Talk with your young relatives about mistakes that you or others have made. Ask them how they might have handled the situation themselves.
For example, you could approach a topic about mistakes in this way—"What do think about when getting caught for being tardy to class? I used to get sent to detention after being late three times. How do you think you'd handle the situation after being late?"
2. Being Selfless
2-1. Accept others.
Focus on similarities rather than differences between you and your relatives. Even if you don't have similar lifestyles or upbringing, there may be ways to connect them in a loving and accepting way. Give other people the benefit of the doubt, rather than assuming the worst.
For example, let's say that your relatives watch certain TV shows or love certain video games. Maybe you have a different taste in things. Be willing to try these new things that they enjoy.
Let them be “the teacher” about certain things they like. Consider asking them things like, "I see you like playing this video game. Tell me about some of the characters you like. What kinds of powers do they have?"
Avoid being negative about certain activities just because they are kid-oriented. Let's say you're in high school and you are hanging out with your eight year old cousin who wants to play with dolls. Avoid making them feel bad about what they like even if you think that playing with dolls isn't fun or cool.
2-2. Show commitment to your community.
If you've got some one-on-one time with your younger relatives, or maybe you're baby-sitting them, consider taking them to different places other than just shops or play places. If you're active in your own community through small business, local government, or the creative arts, show them what you do.
For example, let's say that you're an artist, and they are planning to show your art class's works at a local community center. Consider taking them to see the community center and the art work.
Explore local history with your younger relatives. Maybe there are old factories, stores, parks, or museums in your town that highlight what life was like many years ago. Help them to appreciate their community through history.
Teach them to appreciate and respect others in their community.
2-3. Be an emotional support.
Being a role model may also mean giving your support and undivided attention when you're available and able to do so. Some young kids may have difficulty coping with stressors at school or at work. Focus on what they need and talk about what's bothering them.
Use active listening skills. Keep good eye contact. Provide validation if they're talking about something difficult for them. Consider saying, “It sounds like that's difficult” or “That's a tough situation.”
Provide reassurance that they have support through you and others. Open up about what you can do to help or what support you can offer. Consider saying, "I know you're going through a difficult time. Just know that I'm here for you. You can come to me if you need to talk about anything."
Give hugs when they're hurting. Give high-fives when they do something well. This helps to build their confidence.
2-4. Make them feel safe.
Give young children a “secure base” where they can feel safe. If you're visiting your younger relatives, and their home life is chaotic, then find other places such as your home or safe public places that make them feel secure. And vice versa, if they are anxious when in public, find out ways to make them feel protected in those public spaces.
With young children under 10, keep a watchful eye on where they are and what they're doing particularly in public spaces. Don't let them wander too far without supervision.
Avoid taking them to places that may involve vulgar behavior or make them feel uncomfortable.
Don't have them watch movies or TV that is mature in its content, particularly if it is scary or violent.
3. Inspiring Creativity
3-1. Inspire others with what interests you.
Role models help others to find their passions. If you show your excitement about sports, art, cooking, or something else, you can help others be inspired too. Share your interests with your younger relatives. Find ways for them to be involved.
If you love to play basketball, get your younger relatives to join you. They may not able to play at the level you're at, but you can help to teach them the basics.
If you love to bake, ask your younger relatives to help out. Have patience that it may take them more time to learn, but they will be rewarded by helping.
Take them to events where they can learn about different careers, hobbies, and cultures. Consider things like a local food festival or craft fair in your area.
3-2. Do activities that promote confidence and personal growth.
Find activities that are fun but challenging. Find things that are age appropriate. Be confident in what you're doing with them. Make them feel special by including them in something that you both can enjoy.
If they're under 6, find toys and activities that help them to learn basic problem-solving and creative thinking skills like building something out of wooden blocks or learning how to do basic dance steps.
If they're under 12, find activities that might involve exploring the outdoors or teaching them how to build or make something using craft supplies.
If they are teenagers, it may involve helping with a class project, taking them to a local art show, or volunteering together with a local non-profit.
3-3. Laugh and have fun.
Be a friend to your younger relatives. Don't act like you're smarter or better than them. Make them feel at ease.
If they do something childish or mess up in some way, don't laugh at them or make them feel judged.
It's better to be laughing together and finding something you both can share. Show them silly cat videos online or other silly, age appropriate things.
Take this time to remember what it was like to be their age.
Warnings
Remember that kids repeat what they see and hear. Be mindful of that. Avoid using vulgar language or swearing.
Don't try to be entirely perfect all the time, it can cause jealousy issues in young children and is unrealistic
Avoid talking about sex, violence, or traumatic events, particularly if they are younger than teenagers. If they bring up the subjects themselves, be delicate in how you talk with them. Even if they act or talk in a mature way, they are still children.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Showing Maturity\\n1-1. Work on your self-confidence.\\nTry going about your daily tasks with a confident, positive energy. Work to meet your goals. Chances are your younger relative already looks up to you. By putting your best foot forward in your daily life, you can help be a good role model.\\n1-2. Keep your word.\\nOne of the most important things that you can teach a child is being reliable as an adult. Many young kids may not have parents or other relatives that are dependable. Adults may promise one thing and then do something else. They may not be there on time, or at all.\\nWhen you make plans to spend time with your niece or nephew for example, be there when you said you'd show up. Set aside time to be with them. If a friend invites to do something else, prioritize your time with your niece or nephew first.\\nIf your young cousin has a soccer match coming up, and you agreed to go, then make sure to put that down on a calendar. If something else comes up, make sure to contact them at least a day in advance to let them know you're not coming. Avoid accidentally forgetting to show up.\\n1-3. Instill core values.\\nAs a role model, you are a source of wisdom and inspiration. You help others to understand what matters in life. Many children may have role models like professional athletes, singers, or actresses, but they also need real-life role models that help them to understand morals and ethics.\\nTalk with them about real-life people that you admire, and what qualities make those role models special.\\nGive your younger relatives examples of people who have made an impact for good. Use examples of people in your community. Sometimes historical figures can also provide a good perspective.\\nDemonstrate to them what responsibility, respect, and integrity look like. Take this to heart in your own daily actions. If you're taking a trip to the store with your younger relatives, think about ways you can model behaviors of respect when interacting with other shoppers, or when making purchases that show responsibility.\\n1-4. Treat mistakes as an opportunity for growth.\\nHelp your younger relatives think of mistakes as an opportunity to become a better and stronger person. Talk about times you've made mistakes and in the past and let them know what you've learned. By seeing how you've grown from the experience, your relative will learn that it's okay to make mistakes in life. \\nFor example, you could say. “When I messed up at the recital, I thought my life was over. Turns out, band really isn't my thing. Taking time off from band really enabled me to discover my love for painting. I've met lots of new people and created cool work that I am proud of.”\\n1-5. Use your past failings as life lessons for younger relatives.\\nFor example, let's say that you got in trouble back in high school for skipping classes to hang out with friends. Explain to them the consequences of your behavior. Maybe you got disciplined by the school administration? Or had low grades that semester? Tell them how you overcame the situation and what you learned.\\nIf you're having some arguments with your relatives, think about how you would react if your younger relatives were in the room. Be calm and focus on ways to be mature in your opinions when talking with your family members.\\nTalk with your young relatives about mistakes that you or others have made. Ask them how they might have handled the situation themselves.\\nFor example, you could approach a topic about mistakes in this way—\\\"What do think about when getting caught for being tardy to class? I used to get sent to detention after being late three times. How do you think you'd handle the situation after being late?\\\"\\n2. Being Selfless\\n2-1. Accept others.\\nFocus on similarities rather than differences between you and your relatives. Even if you don't have similar lifestyles or upbringing, there may be ways to connect them in a loving and accepting way. Give other people the benefit of the doubt, rather than assuming the worst.\\nFor example, let's say that your relatives watch certain TV shows or love certain video games. Maybe you have a different taste in things. Be willing to try these new things that they enjoy.\\nLet them be “the teacher” about certain things they like. Consider asking them things like, \\\"I see you like playing this video game. Tell me about some of the characters you like. What kinds of powers do they have?\\\"\\nAvoid being negative about certain activities just because they are kid-oriented. Let's say you're in high school and you are hanging out with your eight year old cousin who wants to play with dolls. Avoid making them feel bad about what they like even if you think that playing with dolls isn't fun or cool.\\n2-2. Show commitment to your community.\\nIf you've got some one-on-one time with your younger relatives, or maybe you're baby-sitting them, consider taking them to different places other than just shops or play places. If you're active in your own community through small business, local government, or the creative arts, show them what you do.\\nFor example, let's say that you're an artist, and they are planning to show your art class's works at a local community center. Consider taking them to see the community center and the art work.\\nExplore local history with your younger relatives. Maybe there are old factories, stores, parks, or museums in your town that highlight what life was like many years ago. Help them to appreciate their community through history.\\nTeach them to appreciate and respect others in their community.\\n2-3. Be an emotional support.\\nBeing a role model may also mean giving your support and undivided attention when you're available and able to do so. Some young kids may have difficulty coping with stressors at school or at work. Focus on what they need and talk about what's bothering them.\\nUse active listening skills. Keep good eye contact. Provide validation if they're talking about something difficult for them. Consider saying, “It sounds like that's difficult” or “That's a tough situation.”\\nProvide reassurance that they have support through you and others. Open up about what you can do to help or what support you can offer. Consider saying, \\\"I know you're going through a difficult time. Just know that I'm here for you. You can come to me if you need to talk about anything.\\\"\\nGive hugs when they're hurting. Give high-fives when they do something well. This helps to build their confidence.\\n2-4. Make them feel safe.\\nGive young children a “secure base” where they can feel safe. If you're visiting your younger relatives, and their home life is chaotic, then find other places such as your home or safe public places that make them feel secure. And vice versa, if they are anxious when in public, find out ways to make them feel protected in those public spaces.\\nWith young children under 10, keep a watchful eye on where they are and what they're doing particularly in public spaces. Don't let them wander too far without supervision.\\nAvoid taking them to places that may involve vulgar behavior or make them feel uncomfortable.\\nDon't have them watch movies or TV that is mature in its content, particularly if it is scary or violent.\\n3. Inspiring Creativity\\n3-1. Inspire others with what interests you.\\nRole models help others to find their passions. If you show your excitement about sports, art, cooking, or something else, you can help others be inspired too. Share your interests with your younger relatives. Find ways for them to be involved.\\nIf you love to play basketball, get your younger relatives to join you. They may not able to play at the level you're at, but you can help to teach them the basics.\\nIf you love to bake, ask your younger relatives to help out. Have patience that it may take them more time to learn, but they will be rewarded by helping.\\nTake them to events where they can learn about different careers, hobbies, and cultures. Consider things like a local food festival or craft fair in your area.\\n3-2. Do activities that promote confidence and personal growth.\\nFind activities that are fun but challenging. Find things that are age appropriate. Be confident in what you're doing with them. Make them feel special by including them in something that you both can enjoy.\\nIf they're under 6, find toys and activities that help them to learn basic problem-solving and creative thinking skills like building something out of wooden blocks or learning how to do basic dance steps.\\nIf they're under 12, find activities that might involve exploring the outdoors or teaching them how to build or make something using craft supplies.\\nIf they are teenagers, it may involve helping with a class project, taking them to a local art show, or volunteering together with a local non-profit.\\n3-3. Laugh and have fun.\\nBe a friend to your younger relatives. Don't act like you're smarter or better than them. Make them feel at ease.\\nIf they do something childish or mess up in some way, don't laugh at them or make them feel judged.\\nIt's better to be laughing together and finding something you both can share. Show them silly cat videos online or other silly, age appropriate things.\\nTake this time to remember what it was like to be their age.\\nWarnings\\nRemember that kids repeat what they see and hear. Be mindful of that. Avoid using vulgar language or swearing.\\nDon't try to be entirely perfect all the time, it can cause jealousy issues in young children and is unrealistic\\nAvoid talking about sex, violence, or traumatic events, particularly if they are younger than teenagers. If they bring up the subjects themselves, be delicate in how you talk with them. Even if they act or talk in a mature way, they are still children.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Young kids look up to older relatives because they want to act and be like adults, too. Through your actions and words, you can model what good behavior looks like. Younger relatives are impressionable. By demonstrating strength, maturity, and reliability, you can help them become stronger, happier, and kinder. Show them how to be giving to others by lending a caring ear and listening to their concerns. Be passionate about what you enjoy doing so that they feel inspired to do great things.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Showing Maturity\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on your self-confidence.\", \"描述\": \"Try going about your daily tasks with a confident, positive energy. Work to meet your goals. Chances are your younger relative already looks up to you. By putting your best foot forward in your daily life, you can help be a good role model.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep your word.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most important things that you can teach a child is being reliable as an adult. Many young kids may not have parents or other relatives that are dependable. Adults may promise one thing and then do something else. They may not be there on time, or at all.\\nWhen you make plans to spend time with your niece or nephew for example, be there when you said you'd show up. Set aside time to be with them. If a friend invites to do something else, prioritize your time with your niece or nephew first.\\nIf your young cousin has a soccer match coming up, and you agreed to go, then make sure to put that down on a calendar. If something else comes up, make sure to contact them at least a day in advance to let them know you're not coming. Avoid accidentally forgetting to show up.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Instill core values.\", \"描述\": \"As a role model, you are a source of wisdom and inspiration. You help others to understand what matters in life. Many children may have role models like professional athletes, singers, or actresses, but they also need real-life role models that help them to understand morals and ethics.\\nTalk with them about real-life people that you admire, and what qualities make those role models special.\\nGive your younger relatives examples of people who have made an impact for good. Use examples of people in your community. Sometimes historical figures can also provide a good perspective.\\nDemonstrate to them what responsibility, respect, and integrity look like. Take this to heart in your own daily actions. If you're taking a trip to the store with your younger relatives, think about ways you can model behaviors of respect when interacting with other shoppers, or when making purchases that show responsibility.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Treat mistakes as an opportunity for growth.\", \"描述\": \"Help your younger relatives think of mistakes as an opportunity to become a better and stronger person. Talk about times you've made mistakes and in the past and let them know what you've learned. By seeing how you've grown from the experience, your relative will learn that it's okay to make mistakes in life. \\nFor example, you could say. “When I messed up at the recital, I thought my life was over. Turns out, band really isn't my thing. Taking time off from band really enabled me to discover my love for painting. I've met lots of new people and created cool work that I am proud of.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use your past failings as life lessons for younger relatives.\", \"描述\": \"For example, let's say that you got in trouble back in high school for skipping classes to hang out with friends. Explain to them the consequences of your behavior. Maybe you got disciplined by the school administration? Or had low grades that semester? Tell them how you overcame the situation and what you learned.\\nIf you're having some arguments with your relatives, think about how you would react if your younger relatives were in the room. Be calm and focus on ways to be mature in your opinions when talking with your family members.\\nTalk with your young relatives about mistakes that you or others have made. Ask them how they might have handled the situation themselves.\\nFor example, you could approach a topic about mistakes in this way—\\\"What do think about when getting caught for being tardy to class? I used to get sent to detention after being late three times. How do you think you'd handle the situation after being late?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Selfless\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Accept others.\", \"描述\": \"Focus on similarities rather than differences between you and your relatives. Even if you don't have similar lifestyles or upbringing, there may be ways to connect them in a loving and accepting way. Give other people the benefit of the doubt, rather than assuming the worst.\\nFor example, let's say that your relatives watch certain TV shows or love certain video games. Maybe you have a different taste in things. Be willing to try these new things that they enjoy.\\nLet them be “the teacher” about certain things they like. Consider asking them things like, \\\"I see you like playing this video game. Tell me about some of the characters you like. What kinds of powers do they have?\\\"\\nAvoid being negative about certain activities just because they are kid-oriented. Let's say you're in high school and you are hanging out with your eight year old cousin who wants to play with dolls. Avoid making them feel bad about what they like even if you think that playing with dolls isn't fun or cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show commitment to your community.\", \"描述\": \"If you've got some one-on-one time with your younger relatives, or maybe you're baby-sitting them, consider taking them to different places other than just shops or play places. If you're active in your own community through small business, local government, or the creative arts, show them what you do.\\nFor example, let's say that you're an artist, and they are planning to show your art class's works at a local community center. Consider taking them to see the community center and the art work.\\nExplore local history with your younger relatives. Maybe there are old factories, stores, parks, or museums in your town that highlight what life was like many years ago. Help them to appreciate their community through history.\\nTeach them to appreciate and respect others in their community.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be an emotional support.\", \"描述\": \"Being a role model may also mean giving your support and undivided attention when you're available and able to do so. Some young kids may have difficulty coping with stressors at school or at work. Focus on what they need and talk about what's bothering them.\\nUse active listening skills. Keep good eye contact. Provide validation if they're talking about something difficult for them. Consider saying, “It sounds like that's difficult” or “That's a tough situation.”\\nProvide reassurance that they have support through you and others. Open up about what you can do to help or what support you can offer. Consider saying, \\\"I know you're going through a difficult time. Just know that I'm here for you. You can come to me if you need to talk about anything.\\\"\\nGive hugs when they're hurting. Give high-fives when they do something well. This helps to build their confidence.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make them feel safe.\", \"描述\": \"Give young children a “secure base” where they can feel safe. If you're visiting your younger relatives, and their home life is chaotic, then find other places such as your home or safe public places that make them feel secure. And vice versa, if they are anxious when in public, find out ways to make them feel protected in those public spaces.\\nWith young children under 10, keep a watchful eye on where they are and what they're doing particularly in public spaces. Don't let them wander too far without supervision.\\nAvoid taking them to places that may involve vulgar behavior or make them feel uncomfortable.\\nDon't have them watch movies or TV that is mature in its content, particularly if it is scary or violent.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Inspiring Creativity\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Inspire others with what interests you.\", \"描述\": \"Role models help others to find their passions. If you show your excitement about sports, art, cooking, or something else, you can help others be inspired too. Share your interests with your younger relatives. Find ways for them to be involved.\\nIf you love to play basketball, get your younger relatives to join you. They may not able to play at the level you're at, but you can help to teach them the basics.\\nIf you love to bake, ask your younger relatives to help out. 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Make them feel special by including them in something that you both can enjoy.\\nIf they're under 6, find toys and activities that help them to learn basic problem-solving and creative thinking skills like building something out of wooden blocks or learning how to do basic dance steps.\\nIf they're under 12, find activities that might involve exploring the outdoors or teaching them how to build or make something using craft supplies.\\nIf they are teenagers, it may involve helping with a class project, taking them to a local art show, or volunteering together with a local non-profit.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Laugh and have fun.\", \"描述\": \"Be a friend to your younger relatives. Don't act like you're smarter or better than them. Make them feel at ease.\\nIf they do something childish or mess up in some way, don't laugh at them or make them feel judged.\\nIt's better to be laughing together and finding something you both can share. Show them silly cat videos online or other silly, age appropriate things.\\nTake this time to remember what it was like to be their age.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"Remember that kids repeat what they see and hear. Be mindful of that. Avoid using vulgar language or swearing.\\n\", \"Don't try to be entirely perfect all the time, it can cause jealousy issues in young children and is unrealistic\\n\", \"Avoid talking about sex, violence, or traumatic events, particularly if they are younger than teenagers. If they bring up the subjects themselves, be delicate in how you talk with them. Even if they act or talk in a mature way, they are still children.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Roman Pagan
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1. Steps
1-1. Read a well-written, recent introduction to the cultus deorum, such as An Introduction to Roman Religion by John Scheid or Dictionary of Roman Religion by Lesley Adkins and Roy A.
Adkins.
1-2. Make a lararium
1-3. Make a Roman calendar
1-4. Read Cicero's "On Duties", especially book 3.
It is not long, and in it Cicero tells some ideas about living an ethical life. These ideas were later incorporated into Christian thinking!
1-5. Learn about the "Numa Tradition".
This was considered by the ancients themselves as the purest, most reverent form of the cultus deorum. This tradition forbade blood sacrifice. Roman authors that tell us about the Numa tradition include Pliny the Elder, Festus, Cicero, and Plutarch.
1-6. Spend a few minutes at your lararium each day.
Even if you don't perform any rituals there, it will remind you that the gods are always present in your world.
1-7. Learn the basics of Roman ritual.
One of the most important ancient writers for ritual is Cato the Elder in de Agri Cultura.
1-8. Put photos of your ancestors on your lararium.
1-9. Find Cultus Deorum groups and activities in your area.
Tips
Don't focus on a single "patron" deity. Romans were polytheists. More than that, their world was filled with natural gods. You too can learn to see the divine in the world around you.
The idea of "exclusivity" is not part of Roman paganism, so you can still practice any other religion you want.
Educated Romans liked to connect Roman gods with Greek gods. They are similar in some ways, but there are also very important differences. Don't confuse them.
Warnings
Forget everything you learned about Romans through watching movies. Hollywood makes entertainments, not documentaries.
Never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. "Orgies" of any sort are not part of the cultus deorum, for example. Avoid anyone who insists they are.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Read a well-written, recent introduction to the cultus deorum, such as An Introduction to Roman Religion by John Scheid or Dictionary of Roman Religion by Lesley Adkins and Roy A.\\nAdkins.\\n1-2. Make a lararium\\n\\n1-3. Make a Roman calendar\\n\\n1-4. Read Cicero's \\\"On Duties\\\", especially book 3.\\nIt is not long, and in it Cicero tells some ideas about living an ethical life. These ideas were later incorporated into Christian thinking!\\n1-5. Learn about the \\\"Numa Tradition\\\".\\nThis was considered by the ancients themselves as the purest, most reverent form of the cultus deorum. This tradition forbade blood sacrifice. Roman authors that tell us about the Numa tradition include Pliny the Elder, Festus, Cicero, and Plutarch.\\n1-6. Spend a few minutes at your lararium each day.\\nEven if you don't perform any rituals there, it will remind you that the gods are always present in your world.\\n1-7. Learn the basics of Roman ritual.\\nOne of the most important ancient writers for ritual is Cato the Elder in de Agri Cultura.\\n1-8. Put photos of your ancestors on your lararium.\\n\\n1-9. Find Cultus Deorum groups and activities in your area.\\n\\nTips\\nDon't focus on a single \\\"patron\\\" deity. Romans were polytheists. More than that, their world was filled with natural gods. You too can learn to see the divine in the world around you.\\nThe idea of \\\"exclusivity\\\" is not part of Roman paganism, so you can still practice any other religion you want.\\nEducated Romans liked to connect Roman gods with Greek gods. They are similar in some ways, but there are also very important differences. Don't confuse them.\\nWarnings\\nForget everything you learned about Romans through watching movies. Hollywood makes entertainments, not documentaries.\\nNever do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. \\\"Orgies\\\" of any sort are not part of the cultus deorum, for example. Avoid anyone who insists they are.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The religion of ancient Rome is called in Latin \\\"Cultus Deorum\\\". The means roughly \\\"care of the Gods\\\". (\\\"Cultus\\\" is related to the English words \\\"cult\\\", \\\"culture\\\" and \\\"cultivate\\\".) People who follow the reconstruction of this religion often call themselves \\\"Cultores\\\" (\\\"cool-TOR-ace\\\"), or \\\"Cultor\\\" in the singular. This guide assumes that you are familiar with how to be a Recon pagan.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read a well-written, recent introduction to the cultus deorum, such as An Introduction to Roman Religion by John Scheid or Dictionary of Roman Religion by Lesley Adkins and Roy A.\", \"描述\": \"Adkins.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a lararium\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make a Roman calendar\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Read Cicero's \\\"On Duties\\\", especially book 3.\", \"描述\": \"It is not long, and in it Cicero tells some ideas about living an ethical life. These ideas were later incorporated into Christian thinking!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn about the \\\"Numa Tradition\\\".\", \"描述\": \"This was considered by the ancients themselves as the purest, most reverent form of the cultus deorum. This tradition forbade blood sacrifice. Roman authors that tell us about the Numa tradition include Pliny the Elder, Festus, Cicero, and Plutarch.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Spend a few minutes at your lararium each day.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you don't perform any rituals there, it will remind you that the gods are always present in your world.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Learn the basics of Roman ritual.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most important ancient writers for ritual is Cato the Elder in de Agri Cultura.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Put photos of your ancestors on your lararium.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Find Cultus Deorum groups and activities in your area.\", \"描述\": \"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't focus on a single \\\"patron\\\" deity. Romans were polytheists. More than that, their world was filled with natural gods. You too can learn to see the divine in the world around you.\\n\", \"The idea of \\\"exclusivity\\\" is not part of Roman paganism, so you can still practice any other religion you want.\\n\", \"Educated Romans liked to connect Roman gods with Greek gods. They are similar in some ways, but there are also very important differences. Don't confuse them.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Forget everything you learned about Romans through watching movies. Hollywood makes entertainments, not documentaries.\\n\", \"Never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. \\\"Orgies\\\" of any sort are not part of the cultus deorum, for example. Avoid anyone who insists they are.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Romantic Boyfriend over Text
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1. “Good morning hon ❤️”
Give your S.O. a great start to their day with a quick text.
Your partner will feel so special knowing you thought of them right away in the morning. Let them know how much they mean to you and wish them a good rest of their day so they smile as soon as they wake up.
“I hope your day is as amazing as you are 😘”
“Wishing I could wake up next to you! Have an amazing day!”
2. “You’ve been on my mind all day.”
Check in during the day whenever you think about your partner.
Mention how much you’ve been distracted or caught up because you can’t get them out of your head. When your partner hears that you’re always thinking about them, it can really take their breath away.
“Hey you ❤️ Just wanted to let you know that I’ve been thinking of you today”
“I’m having a hard time getting anything done today because you’re the only thing on my mind.”
3. “This makes me think of you.”
Your partner will love knowing when a little thing reminds you of them.
Share a picture, meme, song, or video that sparks up thoughts of your S.O. Talk about why it feels so special to your relationship and how it brings back all of the good memories that you’ve made together.
“This is my favorite song 💕 I always picture us dancing together when I hear it.”
“Look where I am right now! I can’t stop thinking about our first date here 🥰”
4. “I already miss your smile.”
Tell your partner what you’re looking forward to next time you meet.
Mention something specific that you miss about your partner so it sounds more sincere. Give them a reminder that they’re your favorite person and that you just want to be with them.
“We’ve barely been apart and I’m missing cuddling up to you like crazy.”
“I just want to hug you so tight right now!”
5. “I can’t wait to see you again.”
Let them know how pumped up you are to spend time with them.
If you don’t get a chance to see your S.O. every day, keep the momentum going by setting up the next date. Confess how much you’re looking forward to it and come up with a plan so you can keep bonding and building up your connection in person.
“I’m so excited for our next date! I have something so special planned 😊”
“When do I get to see your beautiful face again? 😉”
6. “Am I in heaven? Because you’re an angel.”
Use a little humor while you’re flirting to show off your goofy side.
Even a cheesy line can make your S.O. melt when they read it. Try to use a few puns or sweet one-liners to make your partner laugh and show that you care. Don’t be afraid to get a little creative with your texts so you can stand out from the rest.
“Are you tired? Because you’ve been running through my head all day.”
“You’re giving me a sugar rush because you are just too sweet! 🍬”
7. “You are the most amazing person I’ve met.”
Your partner will always appreciate a genuine compliment.
Reflect on all the things you love about your partner and pick a few things to bring up. Reach out whenever you want to just send an occasional text and remind them how special they are.
“I’ve never met someone as caring and compassionate as you 💕 ”
“Has anyone told you how incredible and sweet you are today?”
8. “I’m so inspired by you!”
Explain how your partner has made you improve to boost their mood.
Think about all of the incredible things that your S.O. has done or accomplished, and mention something that had a real impact on you. It might just be from how they handled a situation, how they’re passionate about something, or how much you admire them.
“You really make me want to be a better person, and I love you for that ❤️”
“I’m so lucky I’m with someone that I can look up to.”
9. “Thanks for always being there for me.”
Tell your partner that you notice everything they do for you.
If you have a really supportive partner, don’t let it all go unnoticed. Remind them of something that they do for you that you appreciate. That way, they know that you recognize that they’re putting effort into the relationship and it means a lot to you.
“You make me feel so safe and loved when I’m with you 🥰”
“You always know just what to say! I appreciate it sooo much ❤️”
10. “I still feel butterflies when I’m with you.”
Let your partner know that you still feel sparks from when you first met.
Even as you keep bonding and growing closer, it’s still normal to feel those first-date jitters with your person. Mentioning it to your partner is a really cute way to say that you’re still in love and are just as excited about the future as you were about meeting them.
“After all this time, you’re still as incredible as the day I met you ❤️”
“My heart still skips a beat when I get a message from you!”
11. “Words can’t describe how much I love you!”
Express your feelings clearly to make your partner feel warm and fuzzy.
There are so many different ways to say “I love you,” so get a little bit creative with how you word it. Even if you think it sounds a little cheesy, your partner will really appreciate how sincere you’re being.
“I fall more in love with you every single day 🥰”
“I never knew I could love anyone this much until you came into my life 💕”
12. “You’re the only person I want to be with.”
Make a commitment if you’re in it for the long term.
As your relationship keeps growing, talk about what you’re looking forward to in the future. Saying that you don’t see yourself with anyone else really shows your S.O. that you’re taking your relationship seriously and are excited for that next step in life together.
“I can’t imagine spending time with anyone else in the world 💕”
“I’m so excited to keep making memories with you.”
Tips
Take your time to thoughtfully respond to your partner when they message you back to show them that you really care.[4]
X
Expert Source
John KeeganDating Coach
Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
Pepper a few emojis into your texts, such as ❤️, 😘, or 🥰, to really show off how you’re feeling.
Warnings
Be careful not to come on too strong or demanding if you’re in a new relationship so you don’t make your partner feel uncomfortable.[5]
X
Expert Source
John KeeganDating Coach
Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
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1. Having Romantic Conversations
1-1. Tell the other person how they make you feel.
Sometimes the best way to be romantic through words is to tell the other person how you feel about them. What makes you love to be around them? What do they do that you can’t get enough of? Especially in an established relationship, these little reminders can fall by the wayside, so sprinkling a few into conversations can make you both feel a little more loved.
Say something genuine, like “Whenever I’m with you, you make me feel like the only girl in the room,” or, “You always go the extra mile to make me feel special. I love that so much.”
1-2. Talk about things that your partner loves.
Showing that you’re interested in the things they love can make them feel special and important, and give you lots of things to talk about. Whether you’re in a relationship or just talking to a crush, talking about their interests is a great way to start a conversation that you know they’ll be invested in.
If you don’t know much about their interests, do a little research. Pay attention to the things they spend their free time on and see what you can learn about them.
For example, if they love sports, you could learn about their favorite team and talk about how they’re doing this season. If they like to travel, ask them what places they’d love to visit. If they’re interested in music, listen to their favorite band or genre and talk about it.
1-3. Give them compliments to make them feel special and loved.
Complimenting someone you have a relationship with or are interested in can really ramp up the romance. Don’t shy away from compliments on their appearance—making them feel attractive is a huge part of creating a romantic vibe—but compliment deeper parts of their personality as well. Show them how much you admire and appreciate them.
You could compliment their looks by saying something like, “I know it’s cheesy, but when I look at you, you kind of take my breath away,” or, “I just can’t stop looking at you tonight.”
You could also compliment their personality by saying something like, “I’ve never met someone who makes me laugh like you do,” or “I love the way you’re always helping other people.”
1-4. Make the other person laugh with teasing and inside jokes.
Laughing with another person can help you feel closer to them, solidifying your bond and showing that you both enjoy being around each other. It’s even better when the laughing comes from light teasing or even inside jokes, which both show how well you know each other and how comfortable you are together.
For example, you could reference inside jokes by saying, “I always think about that time we got lost walking your dog… remember?” or, “This dinner reminds me of our first date… Remember how nervous we were? You could barely even talk!”
1-5. Share secrets with each other.
When you share something private or even secret, you’re showing a deep level of trust in the other person. That can lead to a deeper romantic connection, creating a special bond between you and showing the other person that you feel connected to them in a unique way.
You could say something like, “I’ve never told this to anyone else, but…”
You and your partner could even share secrets back and forth, making a kind of game out of it to take the pressure off. For every secret you tell, they share one too.
2. Being Physically Romantic and Flirty
2-1. Wear cute, flattering clothes.
Wearing clothes that make you look and feel good will help you feel confident and flirtatious, which is a great way to show your romantic side. You can even take it a step further by paying attention to what kind of clothes your partner or crush likes best on you and wearing them more often.
If the other person ever compliments something about your look, such as your clothes or hairstyle, try to repeat the style later.
You could even suggest they go shopping with you to help you pick out clothes they’d like to see you in.
2-2. Make eye contact with the other person and give them your full attention.
Giving someone your undivided attention doesn’t sound like much, but it can actually mean a lot. Put down your phone, turn off the TV, and really listen to what the other person says. Turn your body towards them and make eye contact to show that what they’re saying is important to you.
Showing them you’re really listening and invested in your time together is a crucial step to creating a deep, romantic connection.
2-3. Touch your partner casually and often, during day-to-day activities.
Showing physical affection in small, gentle ways can remind the other person that you love and appreciate their body. Keep your gestures simple, soft and genuine to let them know that you want to be close to them.
2-4. Dance together to get physically and emotionally closer.
Dancing with your partner or the person you’re interested in will make you feel more connected to each other, both physically and emotionally. You don’t have to be at a club, dance hall, or school dance, either—turn on some music when you’re hanging out at home and ask them to dance.
You could say, “This is such a good song. Come dance with me!”
2-5. Offer a massage or cuddles.
Creating a romantic mood is all about getting closer, and cuddling together or even giving the other person a massage is a great way to relax and show your affection. Put on some music or even turn on a favorite TV show while you curl up together or lay out on the couch, or offer to massage their neck or back while they sit at the table.
You could say something like, “I know you had a really rough day. Let me give you a massage to help you relax,” or, “Let’s cuddle up and watch the last few episodes tonight. Want me to make popcorn?”
2-6. Try getting intimate in new ways.
If you’re looking to be more romantic in the bedroom, try doing something new together. Ask him about his fantasies and share your own, or try roleplay. Letting your guard down in terms of physical intimacy can bring you to a new level of closeness.
You don’t have to play out your fantasies, if you’re not comfortable with it. Sometimes just talking about them can help you feel closer, or put you in a more romantic mood.
3. Doing Romantic Things
3-1. Leave a sweet, genuine note for your partner.
Put a short letter on their computer or backpack just telling him that you care about them, or are looking forward to seeing them later. Leaving something small like this for them to find can really make their day, and show that you’re thinking about them in a sweet, romantic way.
You could write them something longer or keep it short and sweet. Try saying something like, “You looked great today! Can’t wait to see you later,” or “I’ll be thinking about you all day today.”
3-2. Surprise your partner with a nice dinner, a gift, or a weekend away.
Surprises big and small are a great way to show your romantic side to a crush or partner. Give them a small gift, treat them to dinner or dessert, or go bigger with a night or weekend away. Just showing that you put in the time and effort to surprise them is romantic in and of itself, no matter the size of the gift.
3-3. Frame a picture of the two of you together.
In the digital age, printing and framing a photo of you with your partner shows that that memory means a lot to you—and by extension, that the person means a lot to you, too. It’s something they can put up to remind them of a great time you had together, which keeps you on their mind in a sweet, romantic way.
You can give the photo as a gift or surprise them with it.
3-4. Do a new activity together.
Sharing new experiences with someone you care about can really bring you closer together and foster a deep, romantic connection. Suggest some things you’d both enjoy and be positive and excited when you try them together. Be open to their suggestions, too!
You could try an activity together, like snorkeling, painting, or an exercise class, or traveling to a new place together. It could even be as simple as cooking a meal together, or trying a new kind of food. Spontaneity is key!
3-5. Cook a meal with each other.
Making a meal together, whether it’s a big dinner or a casual lunch, is a way for you to work with your partner to create something delicious. The best part? You get to enjoy it together afterwards! Pick out a dish that both of you love and set up a time to whip it up together.
Be patient with each other and don’t expect it to turn out perfectly. The point is to have fun and enjoy your time together!
Choose a meal that’s simple but tasty, like spaghetti, baked chicken and veggies, or steak.
3-6. Have an adventure together.
You don’t have to take a long flight or spend a lot of money to have a romantic adventure with your partner! Getting away—even if it’s not that far away—is a great way to get both of you out of your regular routines, creating a perfect atmosphere for romance and a deeper connection. Try something like:
Going camping or hiking nearby
Booking a night at a nearby hotel for a “staycation”
Taking a beach trip and trying a new water sport, like kayaking or paddle-boarding
Saving up together for a special trip
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Turn your body towards them and make eye contact to show that what they’re saying is important to you.\\nShowing them you’re really listening and invested in your time together is a crucial step to creating a deep, romantic connection.\\n2-3. Touch your partner casually and often, during day-to-day activities.\\nShowing physical affection in small, gentle ways can remind the other person that you love and appreciate their body. Keep your gestures simple, soft and genuine to let them know that you want to be close to them.\\n2-4. Dance together to get physically and emotionally closer.\\nDancing with your partner or the person you’re interested in will make you feel more connected to each other, both physically and emotionally. You don’t have to be at a club, dance hall, or school dance, either—turn on some music when you’re hanging out at home and ask them to dance.\\nYou could say, “This is such a good song. Come dance with me!”\\n2-5. Offer a massage or cuddles.\\nCreating a romantic mood is all about getting closer, and cuddling together or even giving the other person a massage is a great way to relax and show your affection. Put on some music or even turn on a favorite TV show while you curl up together or lay out on the couch, or offer to massage their neck or back while they sit at the table.\\nYou could say something like, “I know you had a really rough day. Let me give you a massage to help you relax,” or, “Let’s cuddle up and watch the last few episodes tonight. Want me to make popcorn?”\\n2-6. Try getting intimate in new ways.\\nIf you’re looking to be more romantic in the bedroom, try doing something new together. Ask him about his fantasies and share your own, or try roleplay. Letting your guard down in terms of physical intimacy can bring you to a new level of closeness.\\nYou don’t have to play out your fantasies, if you’re not comfortable with it. Sometimes just talking about them can help you feel closer, or put you in a more romantic mood.\\n3. Doing Romantic Things\\n3-1. Leave a sweet, genuine note for your partner.\\nPut a short letter on their computer or backpack just telling him that you care about them, or are looking forward to seeing them later. Leaving something small like this for them to find can really make their day, and show that you’re thinking about them in a sweet, romantic way.\\nYou could write them something longer or keep it short and sweet. Try saying something like, “You looked great today! Can’t wait to see you later,” or “I’ll be thinking about you all day today.”\\n3-2. Surprise your partner with a nice dinner, a gift, or a weekend away.\\nSurprises big and small are a great way to show your romantic side to a crush or partner. Give them a small gift, treat them to dinner or dessert, or go bigger with a night or weekend away. Just showing that you put in the time and effort to surprise them is romantic in and of itself, no matter the size of the gift.\\n3-3. Frame a picture of the two of you together.\\nIn the digital age, printing and framing a photo of you with your partner shows that that memory means a lot to you—and by extension, that the person means a lot to you, too. It’s something they can put up to remind them of a great time you had together, which keeps you on their mind in a sweet, romantic way.\\nYou can give the photo as a gift or surprise them with it.\\n3-4. Do a new activity together.\\nSharing new experiences with someone you care about can really bring you closer together and foster a deep, romantic connection. Suggest some things you’d both enjoy and be positive and excited when you try them together. Be open to their suggestions, too!\\nYou could try an activity together, like snorkeling, painting, or an exercise class, or traveling to a new place together. It could even be as simple as cooking a meal together, or trying a new kind of food. Spontaneity is key!\\n3-5. Cook a meal with each other.\\nMaking a meal together, whether it’s a big dinner or a casual lunch, is a way for you to work with your partner to create something delicious. The best part? You get to enjoy it together afterwards! Pick out a dish that both of you love and set up a time to whip it up together.\\nBe patient with each other and don’t expect it to turn out perfectly. The point is to have fun and enjoy your time together!\\nChoose a meal that’s simple but tasty, like spaghetti, baked chicken and veggies, or steak.\\n3-6. Have an adventure together.\\nYou don’t have to take a long flight or spend a lot of money to have a romantic adventure with your partner! Getting away—even if it’s not that far away—is a great way to get both of you out of your regular routines, creating a perfect atmosphere for romance and a deeper connection. Try something like:\\nGoing camping or hiking nearby\\nBooking a night at a nearby hotel for a “staycation”\\nTaking a beach trip and trying a new water sport, like kayaking or paddle-boarding\\nSaving up together for a special trip\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being romantic can foster a deep connection with a partner or crush, but it can feel awkward or unnatural when you’re just starting out. Being romantic starts with being confident in yourself, then showing the other person how they make you feel and how much you care about them. Whether you’re creating that connection physically or emotionally—or both!—being more romantic will help you both feel happier and more fulfilled together.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having Romantic Conversations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tell the other person how they make you feel.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes the best way to be romantic through words is to tell the other person how you feel about them. What makes you love to be around them? What do they do that you can’t get enough of? Especially in an established relationship, these little reminders can fall by the wayside, so sprinkling a few into conversations can make you both feel a little more loved. \\nSay something genuine, like “Whenever I’m with you, you make me feel like the only girl in the room,” or, “You always go the extra mile to make me feel special. I love that so much.”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Talk about things that your partner loves.\", \"描述\": \"Showing that you’re interested in the things they love can make them feel special and important, and give you lots of things to talk about. Whether you’re in a relationship or just talking to a crush, talking about their interests is a great way to start a conversation that you know they’ll be invested in.\\nIf you don’t know much about their interests, do a little research. Pay attention to the things they spend their free time on and see what you can learn about them.\\nFor example, if they love sports, you could learn about their favorite team and talk about how they’re doing this season. If they like to travel, ask them what places they’d love to visit. If they’re interested in music, listen to their favorite band or genre and talk about it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give them compliments to make them feel special and loved.\", \"描述\": \"Complimenting someone you have a relationship with or are interested in can really ramp up the romance. Don’t shy away from compliments on their appearance—making them feel attractive is a huge part of creating a romantic vibe—but compliment deeper parts of their personality as well. Show them how much you admire and appreciate them.\\nYou could compliment their looks by saying something like, “I know it’s cheesy, but when I look at you, you kind of take my breath away,” or, “I just can’t stop looking at you tonight.”\\nYou could also compliment their personality by saying something like, “I’ve never met someone who makes me laugh like you do,” or “I love the way you’re always helping other people.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make the other person laugh with teasing and inside jokes.\", \"描述\": \"Laughing with another person can help you feel closer to them, solidifying your bond and showing that you both enjoy being around each other. It’s even better when the laughing comes from light teasing or even inside jokes, which both show how well you know each other and how comfortable you are together.\\nFor example, you could reference inside jokes by saying, “I always think about that time we got lost walking your dog… remember?” or, “This dinner reminds me of our first date… Remember how nervous we were? You could barely even talk!”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Share secrets with each other.\", \"描述\": \"When you share something private or even secret, you’re showing a deep level of trust in the other person. That can lead to a deeper romantic connection, creating a special bond between you and showing the other person that you feel connected to them in a unique way.\\nYou could say something like, “I’ve never told this to anyone else, but…”\\nYou and your partner could even share secrets back and forth, making a kind of game out of it to take the pressure off. For every secret you tell, they share one too.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Physically Romantic and Flirty\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear cute, flattering clothes.\", \"描述\": \"Wearing clothes that make you look and feel good will help you feel confident and flirtatious, which is a great way to show your romantic side. You can even take it a step further by paying attention to what kind of clothes your partner or crush likes best on you and wearing them more often.\\nIf the other person ever compliments something about your look, such as your clothes or hairstyle, try to repeat the style later.\\nYou could even suggest they go shopping with you to help you pick out clothes they’d like to see you in.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make eye contact with the other person and give them your full attention.\", \"描述\": \"Giving someone your undivided attention doesn’t sound like much, but it can actually mean a lot. Put down your phone, turn off the TV, and really listen to what the other person says. Turn your body towards them and make eye contact to show that what they’re saying is important to you.\\nShowing them you’re really listening and invested in your time together is a crucial step to creating a deep, romantic connection.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Touch your partner casually and often, during day-to-day activities.\", \"描述\": \"Showing physical affection in small, gentle ways can remind the other person that you love and appreciate their body. Keep your gestures simple, soft and genuine to let them know that you want to be close to them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dance together to get physically and emotionally closer.\", \"描述\": \"Dancing with your partner or the person you’re interested in will make you feel more connected to each other, both physically and emotionally. 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1. Communicating with Your Spouse
1-1. Tell your spouse how happy you are that you’re together.
There are about a bajillion ways to do so, and the dialogue you share with your spouse will likely dictate the specifics. That said, there are few things you can say that have particularly romantic potency.
Tell your spouse you love them every day.
Add to your “I love you,” with something like, “I’m so glad we married one another.”
Stop whatever you’re doing for a moment and make eye contact to ensure that the statement is genuinely given and fully received.
Give your spouse a call, unexpectedly, just to tell them you love them.
1-2. Send your spouse a love letter.
Even when you and your spouse are happy together and doing well, it’s easy to end up talking more about what needs to be done, and less about how great you are together. Write a letter to lay out how much you appreciate your partnership together.
Start with something about your spouse that made you fall in love with them.
Remind them why you wanted to marry them. Include something specific, such as, “I knew I wanted to marry you when________.”
Articulate your appreciation. Include something along the lines of, “I deeply appreciate you and everything you do for us.”
1-3. Convey your excitement to see your spouse.
When you're looking forward to seeing your spouse again after a day at work or a trip apart, be sure to show and articulate that excitement. Though you may want to avoid approaching them with the exuberance of the family pet, be sure to greet your spouse as soon as you're reunited with both verbal and physical affection.
Keep it simple if you want, but be sure to greet your spouse after time apart.
Not only do you want to convey your affection, but greeting a spouse when they return home sets the tone for a positive, loving evening together.
1-4. Ask your spouse for tips.
You can do so subtly, by asking them about things you’ve done before that made them feel especially loved. Based on their response, plan a similarly romantic gesture soon!
Alternatively, be explicit. Say something like, “Hey, is there anything I can do for you today?”
Though seemingly simple, reminding your spouse that you’re there for them, and that you want them to be happy, is deeply romantic.
2. Shaking Things Up
2-1. Leave love notes.
You don’t have to write a full on letter to romance your spouse. Sometimes just a quick compliment or declaration of affection will make their day by letting them know you planned ahead to convey your love unexpectedly.
Leave a sticky note on their computer so they’ll find it later in the day.
Refer to an inside joke or affectionate nickname in a note to bring your connection to one another to mind, even when you’re apart.
For added effect, include a throwback reference to an old nickname you used when you first started falling in love.
2-2. Develop your own secret codes.
Propose gestures or phrases that are code for more romantic messages, and use these gestures to communicate in sensitive environments.
For instance, a double-tap with your toe beneath the table can mean, “You look incredibly attractive right now.”
Propose these codes during pillow talk sessions or on car rides, for deployment during family dinners or parent-teacher conferences.
Include codes for more meaningful messages too, such as “I’ve got your back” and, of course, “Just reminding you how much I love you.”
2-3. Draw something ridiculous somewhere they’ll see it.
Shoot to catch them during a tedious task, to supplement a normal part of their day with a romance-induced smile. For instance, if your spouse eats eggs every day, draw silly faces on every egg in the carton with a non-toxic marker.
Silliness is the key here - it can be incredibly gratifying to make your partner smile, or even laugh, for no reason whatsoever.
2-4. Send flowers out of the blue.
Face it: flowers aren’t the most original romantic gesture. You don’t want to be sending flowers for every birthday, anniversary, and hallmark holiday. Only send flowers occasionally, on days they’ll never see it coming.
2-5. Start the day flirtatiously.
Mornings tend to be a whirlwind of preparation, responsibility, and hustle. Start your day together less seriously, with a playful pinch on your spouse’s booty, or a dramatic, drawn out kiss.
Say good morning. Even better: “Good morning beautiful.”
Give goodbye kisses like you mean it. A quick kiss can certainly convey affection, but a dozen seconds of locked-in lipping sends a far more romantic message to your spouse.
3. Sharing Responsibilities and Supporting Each Other
3-1. Beat your spouse to the chores.
In a partnership, you share the responsibilities for doing the household chores. Doing the dishes and cleaning the bathroom aren’t that fun, but they need to get done. Before your spouse gets home, take care of everything – both the chores you usually do and those they do too.
Declutter the bedroom. If you don’t have a bunch of time but want to increase the comfort of your shared space, spend a few minutes tidying up the bedroom.
Make it sexy. It’s not 1955 - forget the old “have dinner ready when they get home.” Sure, you can have dinner ready, but strip down to your skivvies and get a head start on the dishes so they come home to an especially exciting scene in the kitchen. Dinner can wait.
3-2. Get up and make the coffee.
This requires absolutely no explanation; if your spouse drinks coffee, this act of daily necessity will go straight to their heart in more ways than one.
Go the extra step and do something for your spouse that will help them get ready for the day. Waking up to a loving gesture from a partner sends a powerful message about how much you care about them.
3-3. Remember to hold hands.
There’s really nothing like it - both in terms of romance and support. Whether on a walk around the block or just sitting in front of the video entertainment system, grab your spouse’s hand, give it a heartfelt squeeze, and hold it for a while.
Though hand-holding can simply be a subtle romantic gesture, it also tangibly tells your spouse that you're there for them. Alternatively, quietly hug your spouse when you're know they're struggling.
3-4. Articulate your support on tough days.
If your spouse has been stressed lately, or you know they’re up against a particularly challenging task, offer your support with a text or email.
Keep it short and sweet, so as not to distract them. Just let them know they have your support.
Thank them too, for their support when you’re going through a rough patch. Say something like, “Hey, thanks for being there for me right now. It’s been rough – but being with you makes it all better.”
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Write a letter to lay out how much you appreciate your partnership together.\\nStart with something about your spouse that made you fall in love with them.\\nRemind them why you wanted to marry them. Include something specific, such as, “I knew I wanted to marry you when________.”\\nArticulate your appreciation. Include something along the lines of, “I deeply appreciate you and everything you do for us.”\\n1-3. Convey your excitement to see your spouse.\\nWhen you're looking forward to seeing your spouse again after a day at work or a trip apart, be sure to show and articulate that excitement. Though you may want to avoid approaching them with the exuberance of the family pet, be sure to greet your spouse as soon as you're reunited with both verbal and physical affection.\\nKeep it simple if you want, but be sure to greet your spouse after time apart.\\nNot only do you want to convey your affection, but greeting a spouse when they return home sets the tone for a positive, loving evening together.\\n1-4. Ask your spouse for tips.\\nYou can do so subtly, by asking them about things you’ve done before that made them feel especially loved. Based on their response, plan a similarly romantic gesture soon!\\nAlternatively, be explicit. Say something like, “Hey, is there anything I can do for you today?”\\nThough seemingly simple, reminding your spouse that you’re there for them, and that you want them to be happy, is deeply romantic.\\n2. Shaking Things Up\\n2-1. Leave love notes.\\nYou don’t have to write a full on letter to romance your spouse. Sometimes just a quick compliment or declaration of affection will make their day by letting them know you planned ahead to convey your love unexpectedly. \\nLeave a sticky note on their computer so they’ll find it later in the day.\\nRefer to an inside joke or affectionate nickname in a note to bring your connection to one another to mind, even when you’re apart.\\nFor added effect, include a throwback reference to an old nickname you used when you first started falling in love.\\n2-2. Develop your own secret codes.\\nPropose gestures or phrases that are code for more romantic messages, and use these gestures to communicate in sensitive environments.\\nFor instance, a double-tap with your toe beneath the table can mean, “You look incredibly attractive right now.”\\nPropose these codes during pillow talk sessions or on car rides, for deployment during family dinners or parent-teacher conferences.\\nInclude codes for more meaningful messages too, such as “I’ve got your back” and, of course, “Just reminding you how much I love you.”\\n2-3. Draw something ridiculous somewhere they’ll see it.\\nShoot to catch them during a tedious task, to supplement a normal part of their day with a romance-induced smile. For instance, if your spouse eats eggs every day, draw silly faces on every egg in the carton with a non-toxic marker.\\nSilliness is the key here - it can be incredibly gratifying to make your partner smile, or even laugh, for no reason whatsoever.\\n2-4. Send flowers out of the blue.\\nFace it: flowers aren’t the most original romantic gesture. You don’t want to be sending flowers for every birthday, anniversary, and hallmark holiday. Only send flowers occasionally, on days they’ll never see it coming.\\n2-5. Start the day flirtatiously.\\nMornings tend to be a whirlwind of preparation, responsibility, and hustle. Start your day together less seriously, with a playful pinch on your spouse’s booty, or a dramatic, drawn out kiss. \\nSay good morning. Even better: “Good morning beautiful.”\\nGive goodbye kisses like you mean it. A quick kiss can certainly convey affection, but a dozen seconds of locked-in lipping sends a far more romantic message to your spouse.\\n3. Sharing Responsibilities and Supporting Each Other\\n3-1. Beat your spouse to the chores.\\nIn a partnership, you share the responsibilities for doing the household chores. Doing the dishes and cleaning the bathroom aren’t that fun, but they need to get done. Before your spouse gets home, take care of everything – both the chores you usually do and those they do too.\\nDeclutter the bedroom. If you don’t have a bunch of time but want to increase the comfort of your shared space, spend a few minutes tidying up the bedroom.\\nMake it sexy. It’s not 1955 - forget the old “have dinner ready when they get home.” Sure, you can have dinner ready, but strip down to your skivvies and get a head start on the dishes so they come home to an especially exciting scene in the kitchen. Dinner can wait.\\n3-2. Get up and make the coffee.\\nThis requires absolutely no explanation; if your spouse drinks coffee, this act of daily necessity will go straight to their heart in more ways than one.\\nGo the extra step and do something for your spouse that will help them get ready for the day. Waking up to a loving gesture from a partner sends a powerful message about how much you care about them.\\n3-3. 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Include something along the lines of, “I deeply appreciate you and everything you do for us.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Convey your excitement to see your spouse.\", \"描述\": \"When you're looking forward to seeing your spouse again after a day at work or a trip apart, be sure to show and articulate that excitement. Though you may want to avoid approaching them with the exuberance of the family pet, be sure to greet your spouse as soon as you're reunited with both verbal and physical affection.\\nKeep it simple if you want, but be sure to greet your spouse after time apart.\\nNot only do you want to convey your affection, but greeting a spouse when they return home sets the tone for a positive, loving evening together.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask your spouse for tips.\", \"描述\": \"You can do so subtly, by asking them about things you’ve done before that made them feel especially loved. Based on their response, plan a similarly romantic gesture soon!\\nAlternatively, be explicit. Say something like, “Hey, is there anything I can do for you today?”\\nThough seemingly simple, reminding your spouse that you’re there for them, and that you want them to be happy, is deeply romantic.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Shaking Things Up\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Leave love notes.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t have to write a full on letter to romance your spouse. Sometimes just a quick compliment or declaration of affection will make their day by letting them know you planned ahead to convey your love unexpectedly. \\nLeave a sticky note on their computer so they’ll find it later in the day.\\nRefer to an inside joke or affectionate nickname in a note to bring your connection to one another to mind, even when you’re apart.\\nFor added effect, include a throwback reference to an old nickname you used when you first started falling in love.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop your own secret codes.\", \"描述\": \"Propose gestures or phrases that are code for more romantic messages, and use these gestures to communicate in sensitive environments.\\nFor instance, a double-tap with your toe beneath the table can mean, “You look incredibly attractive right now.”\\nPropose these codes during pillow talk sessions or on car rides, for deployment during family dinners or parent-teacher conferences.\\nInclude codes for more meaningful messages too, such as “I’ve got your back” and, of course, “Just reminding you how much I love you.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Draw something ridiculous somewhere they’ll see it.\", \"描述\": \"Shoot to catch them during a tedious task, to supplement a normal part of their day with a romance-induced smile. For instance, if your spouse eats eggs every day, draw silly faces on every egg in the carton with a non-toxic marker.\\nSilliness is the key here - it can be incredibly gratifying to make your partner smile, or even laugh, for no reason whatsoever.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Send flowers out of the blue.\", \"描述\": \"Face it: flowers aren’t the most original romantic gesture. You don’t want to be sending flowers for every birthday, anniversary, and hallmark holiday. Only send flowers occasionally, on days they’ll never see it coming.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start the day flirtatiously.\", \"描述\": \"Mornings tend to be a whirlwind of preparation, responsibility, and hustle. Start your day together less seriously, with a playful pinch on your spouse’s booty, or a dramatic, drawn out kiss. \\nSay good morning. Even better: “Good morning beautiful.”\\nGive goodbye kisses like you mean it. A quick kiss can certainly convey affection, but a dozen seconds of locked-in lipping sends a far more romantic message to your spouse.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sharing Responsibilities and Supporting Each Other\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Beat your spouse to the chores.\", \"描述\": \"In a partnership, you share the responsibilities for doing the household chores. Doing the dishes and cleaning the bathroom aren’t that fun, but they need to get done. Before your spouse gets home, take care of everything – both the chores you usually do and those they do too.\\nDeclutter the bedroom. If you don’t have a bunch of time but want to increase the comfort of your shared space, spend a few minutes tidying up the bedroom.\\nMake it sexy. It’s not 1955 - forget the old “have dinner ready when they get home.” Sure, you can have dinner ready, but strip down to your skivvies and get a head start on the dishes so they come home to an especially exciting scene in the kitchen. Dinner can wait.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get up and make the coffee.\", \"描述\": \"This requires absolutely no explanation; if your spouse drinks coffee, this act of daily necessity will go straight to their heart in more ways than one.\\nGo the extra step and do something for your spouse that will help them get ready for the day. Waking up to a loving gesture from a partner sends a powerful message about how much you care about them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remember to hold hands.\", \"描述\": \"There’s really nothing like it - both in terms of romance and support. Whether on a walk around the block or just sitting in front of the video entertainment system, grab your spouse’s hand, give it a heartfelt squeeze, and hold it for a while.\\nThough hand-holding can simply be a subtle romantic gesture, it also tangibly tells your spouse that you're there for them. Alternatively, quietly hug your spouse when you're know they're struggling.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Articulate your support on tough days.\", \"描述\": \"If your spouse has been stressed lately, or you know they’re up against a particularly challenging task, offer your support with a text or email.\\nKeep it short and sweet, so as not to distract them. Just let them know they have your support.\\nThank them too, for their support when you’re going through a rough patch. Say something like, “Hey, thanks for being there for me right now. It’s been rough – but being with you makes it all better.”\"}]}]}}",
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1. Girls
1-1. Get the hair.
Scene hair can either be short or long, but often the longer hair has a bit of volume to it. Scene hair has to resist being bland. It's one of the most important aspects of your appearance.
Dye it and/or put some color into it. Dye your hair black or blonde, or maybe both: blonde streaks inside a sea of black. Add flourishes of pink or purple to round out the look.
Tease and/or straighten it. Tease it (especially in the back) to add a lot of volume to your coiffure. Straightened hair is a must for those with curly or wavy hair. The straighter the better.
Don't shy away from hair extensions if you feel you need them. Some scenesters think that hair extensions are a must.
Add a little flourish like a hair band, beret, or flower, especially if it has some color.
1-2. Get the makeup.
Scene makeup is characterized by bright, daring colors contrasting with the ever-present black or dark-blue eyeliner. Maybe you have glittery eyeshadow; maybe you darken the outline of your eyebrows. Whatever you do, don't forget the eyeliner!
Your makeup is your big opportunity to "feminize" your appearance. Because dressing scene won't distinguish you too much from guys, don't be afraid to go a bit overboard here. Dramatic, bold makeup is definitely what's called for.
1-3. Go for bright, flashy clothes.
Striped clothing is definitely in style, as is plaid (although try not to get too boring). Don't abuse the thrift store racks (you're not a hipster), but don't shy away from used clothes. Some different options that you might consider wearing:
Striped black and pink top; a tight pink skirt with a blue bandana wrapped around your waist; ripped electric blue leggings; and pink flats (ballet shoes work well).
Purple leopard print top; white overall shorts with the strap(s) undone; black tights; and scuffy, white slip-on Vans.
Handmade silk-screened band tee; skin-tight purple (or black) skinny jeans; pyramid stud belt (although they are slowly becoming too popular); and huge sunglasses.
1-4. Rock the accessories.
The accessories really complete the scene look, so be sure not to forget them. Oversized is really part of the fashion. Accessories include:
Sunny-Gs. Your sunglasses will come in two sizes: big and really big. In fact, the bigger the better. Aviator glasses are acceptable.
Jewelry. Bracelets, necklaces, body art, and piercings are all the rage. Stick with jewelry that has an edgy, ironic, or cartoonish feel to it.
Hats. Hats look great on scene girls (although not so much for scene guys). Choose big hats that don't necessarily match with the rest of your outfit. Special props goes to hats that no one has yet.
1-5. Get your clothes at stores with bright colored clothes and flashy stuff.
Try Rue 21, Banana Republic, Aeropostale and even others similar. Don't try Hot Topic unless you search for musical merch or find some bright clothes. Scene people wear bright colors and preppy clothes. They don't wear dark clothes and pocket chains.
2. Guys
2-1. Dress like you mean it.
Scene guys, let's face it, spend a lot of time perfecting the look. They care about fashion, and about their fashion making a statement. They don't want to look like your average Joe on the side of the street. Their unique dress is part of their overall mentality.
2-2. Have straight hair.
Hair should always be pin straight, and possibly teased. You're lucky if you have straight hair! If it isn't straight, blow-dry it after showers and brush it. Make it dry after showers so curls are prevented. You could use a straightener, but many guys don't do it, so don't feel forced to do it.
Get the bangs. If it's one thing that epitomizes the scene look for boys, it's the shaggy, layered bangs. They are absolutely essential. Look around for inspiration.
Start off with natural hair colors, and dye around it. You probably want the base of your hair to be dark or blond or brown, so dye the whole mane a dark color and fill in highlights (maybe blonde, maybe platinum, maybe purple) around it.
2-3. Pull off the clothes effortlessly.
You're going to be dressing quite differently from how most guys dress, so you have to pull it off with confidence and verve. The clothes that you'll fit into your standard rotation include:
Tight jeans or slim-fit jeans. Wearing jeans is good, but they should be tight or even slim. If you can't fit into skinny jeans, just wear tights. Don't force yourself to fit into something to skinny.
Bright shirts, cartoon shirts and striped shirts. These are the staple of your tops. Brights and stripes really rule the day here. The occasional plaid isn't too bad.
Skater shoes like slip-on vans or chucks. Bright colors are a good idea. Chucks might be a little over-worn at this point, so think about getting some vans.
2-4. Put on some sunglasses.
Guys usually will get party shades, like what Brokencyde wear.
2-5. Get a piercing or tattoo.
Get some ink or piercings in visible places to let people know that you are hardcore and/or a deep person. that many scenesters choose to get henna tattoos or "make" their own using permanent marker; if you're unsure about getting a tattoo, remember that it's permanent and that you can't change your mind afterward.
2-6. Try on some ear plugs.
2-7. Get your clothes at stores with bright colored clothes and flashy stuff.
Try Rue 21, Banana Republic, Aeropostale and even others similar. Don't try Hot Topic unless you search for musical merch or find some bright clothes. Scene people wear bright colors and preppy clothes. They don't wear dark clothes and pocket chains.
3. Acting Scene
3-1. Type like you don't care.
Add extra letters to the end of words. Typing like a scene kid has no grammar or spelling rules. Use unusual amounts of emoticons and <3's. Some example include: D= :3 ^_^ and c:
Some examples of how you might type:
"ZOMG dats HxC." = "Oh my god, that's hardcore."
"Srsly, i don't caaaare if he liks me. hes got to shutup." = "Seriously, I don't care if he likes me. He has to shut up."
3-2. Create the perfect xX"SceneName"Xx.
This point of your name is to convey that you are both scene and creative. Scene names do not follow any spelling or grammar rules that regular names do. This doesn't mean that they don't follow their own rules, guidelines and/or basic themes:
Play with a phrase. Take a fantasy story like Alice in Wonderland and change it so that people believe you are cultured and clever, like AllisonWonderland.
Make an alliteration. Think of an adjective you would like associated with you like brutal, homicidal or catastrophic, and add it to your name. If it's not an alliteration, force it by misspelling the adjective, like KatastrophicKatie.
Add some X's. It's just a xXfunXx way to look more scene. But always balance out the x's so that there is the same number of x's on both sides of your name.
Ignore grammar rules. Try adding incorrect punctuation!, avoiding spacingwordsproperly, and using upper and lowercase letters intErchAngEably.
3-3. Become friends with everyone you know, and then some.
Social media profiles are judged by sheer volume of "friends" someone has. That means: If you met someone briefly, add them. If you went to middle school with them, add them. If you have a mutual friend, add them. If you like the same band, add them. If you have the same pose in your profile picture, add them. If you are from the state, add them. And so on.
Flirt with everyone you friended. If someone adds you, be sure to thank them for the add. Then be sure to mention that they are cute and that you are interested, whether it is through a comment on a picture, a wall post, or in a private message.
3-4. Set a profile picture of "yourself".
The photo shouldn't actually be a picture of you, so much as a picture of part of you. Here are some typical picture tricks to get the perfect scene profile photo:
Cut yourself out of the photo. Don't feel the need to include your entire face or body. Just your eye and bangs, just your body or just your mouth is enough of a photo to help someone identify you.
Use a mirror. Extra scene points are giving for using your iPhone to take the picture. This lets everyone know that you: 1) Took the photo yourself, and 2) that you spent a lot of money on your camera or smart phone.
Rotate the camera/photo. A basic straight on shot isn't creative. Everyone takes pictures like that. Angle the camera, or move it so that people have to struggle to find your in your hair. It makes your profile picture so much more interesting.
Set the camera on a table and bend over/sit at your computer. Ever bored and have nothing to do at the computer? Take pictures. This is like the exact opposite of suggestion 2, so much so that it's ironic and creative that you didn't rotate the camera.
Don't look at the camera! Look down, look up, look to the left, look to the right, just don't look at the camera.
Hide behind your hair. Unlike other people, scene kids care about two parts of their bodies: their eyes and their hair. This should be the focal point of the picture. So don't distract people with your face.
Filter your pictures. Change your picture to black and white, faded-vintage, blurred or color tinted settings to achieve the scene look.
Write on your hand. Write a quote, your name, or a heart on your hand and hold it up for the camera. Everyone thinks this is cute.
Do a creative face. Smile, stick your tongue out, look like your contemplating, just be creative! Don't do a boring smile, everyone smiles in pictures!
3-5. List as many bands as you can under "music" as you can.
If you have even heard a song by that band, add them. It's important to showcase your wide taste in and vast knowledge of music. The more music you include, the more "scene" you will look.
Go for obscure, not-yet-popular music. Scene kids, like hipsters, adore the idea of having liked a band before they were cool. It means they're on the cutting edge, a trendsetter. If this means resurrecting a once-popular band that has since fallen into obscurity, that's ok too.
3-6. Go to a lot of "shows."
Music shows are important to the scene culture. Go to as many as you can. If there is a concert within a 60 mile (97 km) radius, try to go. Update your status to let people know that you are really into music. Don't forget to take pictures to prove that you went. Pictures should be of the stage and mob pits. It's not important that you are actually in the pictures.
3-7. Update your status.
Constantly update your status to tell people that you are bored, what's bothering you, that you feel like chatting, or that you are off to a show. People wouldn't have become friends with you if they didn't want constant updates on your life.
3-8. Get the attitude.
The right scene attitude will do a lot to help you fit in and distinguish yourself as a true scenester. Because you dress the way that you do, expect to get a lot of grief from other people, especially older folks. Brush it off. A scene kid isn't interested in getting approval from random haters, much less from adults (although s/he isn't that rebellious). To master the attitude:
Be carefree. You are who you are and you know it. You're happy with yourself, so you wear your badges with confidence and style.
Don't be rude. Scenesters don't really have a chip on their shoulders like some hipsters do. Whether it's to someone's parents or a friend in your circle, you seek to be pleasant and easy-going, even if you're being teased.
4. Music
Listen to "scene" music.
"Scene" music includes Dot Dot Curve, Brokencyde, Owl City, Blood on the Dance Floor, Millionaires, Scene Kidz, Breathe Carolina, 3!OH3, Family Force 5, I Set My Friends on Fire and Jeffree Star.
Other than the likes of 3!OH3 or Breathe Carolina, try electronicore, too. Electronicore fuses electro-pop with melodic metalcore and stuff. Try stuff like Attack! Attack, I See Stars, Memphis May Fire, Enter Shikari, Woe is Me, Capture the Crown, Make Me Famous and Abandon All Ships. You can also try bands like Pierce the Veil if you want. Electropop and dance-pop is recommended, too. Even these artists and groups sometimes cite pop stars as influences or even appear on a compilation series called "Punk Goes Pop". Try Katy Perry, Carly Rae Jepsen or Nicki Minaj. You could also try dubstep and house/techno/dance/etc like Skrillex, Knife Party and deadmau5.
There are many bands or artists mislabeled as scene. Many people think deathcore, for example, is scene. It isn't. Deathcore is a hybrid of death metal (Cannibal Corpse, Suffocation, Brain Drill, Dying Fetus) and metalcore (Hatebreed, Converge, While She Sleeps). Metalcore fuses metal music with beatdown hardcore (Death Before Dishonor, Madball, Comeback Kid). Metal, death metal and hardcore punk all have nothing to do with the scene style. Many think this because of the appearances of a few deathcore bands. However, a band that shows the typical image of a deathcore band would be Rose Funeral, Oceano, The Red Chord or Despised Icon. Also, here is some other music mislabeled as scene:
Hollywood Undead - Obviously rap rock
Asking Alexandria - Metalcore/synthcore
iwrestledabearonce - Experimental mathcore
Falling in Reverse - Glam metal/easycore
The Devil Wears Prada - Melodic metalcore
Suicide Silence - deathcore
Black Veil Brides - Glam rock
Of Mice & Men - Metalcore
All Time Low - Pop rock
Paramore - Emo pop
Tips
Realize that some people will hate you.
Make sure that you are very careful with your hair. Use a thermal protection spray applied in your hair before straightening or curling it. Don't shampoo too much and deep condition regularly or your hair will most likely be in horrible shape after a little while. It's also nice to buy lots of hairspray.
Don't throw away all your preppy clothes! You can use long sleeved shirts, plain t-shirts and shirt-dresses for layering.
Warnings
Don't lie about what you like and don't like. If you have never/barely listened to a particular band (or you just don't like them), don't lie and say you have just because it's the "scene" thing to do; no one likes a liar. If you buy a band shirt or claim a band as your favorite, you should be able to name at least three songs by them off the top of your head.
Be prepared to have haters. Some people out there are against "scene kids" and will swear, name call and possibly bash you for just walking around the street. It depends on what kind of area you live in. And definitely don't lash back out on them, just protect your self if needed. But you most likely will never get much more than funny looks or mean comments, so don't worry too much about this, just be aware it is possible.
Never act stuck-up, conceited, rude, or all-powerful to anyone, regardless of whether they're into the scene or not. Confidence is key, not arrogance. People will just think you're annoying, and will not see you as you truly are.
Don't dye or tease your hair too often or else you can damage it. If you ignore this, your hair may become wiry and fried. To help keep your hair healthy deep condition it regularly."
Don't take this "scene" thing too seriously.
Don't buy a lot of your clothes from Hot Topic; That store has mostly dark clothing. Scene people wear bright colors and usually are like a cross between preps, "emos", socialites, etc.
An addition to that, it is VERY important that you remain yourself. Labeling yourself as only "scene" is a huge mistake. Be true to yourself and be an individual; be unique. The most important thing about being part of scene culture is individuality. It does not matter if it is in the "Style Guidelines" Don't try to act like someone you're not.
Don't try hard to be scene. Scene is a subculture, like any other, with its own aesthetic, which either fits you, or it doesn't. You don't have to try to be scene if you aren't genuinely interested in it. Those who truly are scene don't have to try to be so, because they are already Scene. If the fashion doesn't appeal to you, don't wear it, if the music doesn't appeal to you, don't listen to it. Trying hard to be part of any subculture is the essence of being a poseur. Be yourself, do not try to fit yourself to conform to any subculture, only consider yourself part of a subculture if it fits you.
The first and most important guideline to maintaining your scene status is to never ever EVER refer to yourself as a scene kid! It is an an irreversible mistake if you do it; you will be forever known as a poseur, and no genuine scene kid will ever take you seriously again. You have been warned. If someone calls you a scene kid to annoy you, don't scoff or get defensive; just brush it off.
Don't confuse scene with scenester. A scenester is a person a person who tries very hard to fit the stereotype of a social, artistic, or musical scene or subculture, more or less a poseur, whereas the scene people are their own unique subculture, which emphasizes creativity and uniqueness.
Don't copy other people. All it will do is 1.) get people mad at you, and 2.) make you look like a fake and you guessed it- a poseur. 3.)There's no point. Being creative is one of the main points of being scene. If you don't want to be creative or expressive at all why do you want to be scene?
There is a difference between emo and scene. Emo is a sub-genre of hardcore punk referring to bands like The Promise Ring, Silverstein, Rites of Spring, Sunny Day Real Estate, Cap'n Jazz, Drive Like Jehu and The Starting Line. Fans of this genre usually label themselves hardcore or punk, but "emo" are risen to be a self using term instead of an insult, what it first came about as. Original emo fashion included sweaters, messenger bags, horn rimmed glasses and band D.I.Y. but the newer emo fashion consists of converse, eyeliner, band shirts, dyed black straightened hair and studded/pyramid belts. Scene fashion has layered, teased and dyed into multiple colours hair, sometimes with coontails with neon jeans, colourful vans/converse and accessories of bows or glasses. People think scene is just a "brighter version of emo" but this is incorrect - they both have different histories.
Know when to use intentionally incorrect spelling. Using intentionally incorrect spelling and grammar is not acceptable for things such as school assignments or legal documents.
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Maybe you have glittery eyeshadow; maybe you darken the outline of your eyebrows. Whatever you do, don't forget the eyeliner!\\nYour makeup is your big opportunity to \\\"feminize\\\" your appearance. Because dressing scene won't distinguish you too much from guys, don't be afraid to go a bit overboard here. Dramatic, bold makeup is definitely what's called for.\\n1-3. Go for bright, flashy clothes.\\nStriped clothing is definitely in style, as is plaid (although try not to get too boring). Don't abuse the thrift store racks (you're not a hipster), but don't shy away from used clothes. Some different options that you might consider wearing:\\nStriped black and pink top; a tight pink skirt with a blue bandana wrapped around your waist; ripped electric blue leggings; and pink flats (ballet shoes work well).\\nPurple leopard print top; white overall shorts with the strap(s) undone; black tights; and scuffy, white slip-on Vans.\\nHandmade silk-screened band tee; skin-tight purple (or black) skinny jeans; pyramid stud belt (although they are slowly becoming too popular); and huge sunglasses.\\n1-4. Rock the accessories.\\nThe accessories really complete the scene look, so be sure not to forget them. Oversized is really part of the fashion. Accessories include:\\nSunny-Gs. Your sunglasses will come in two sizes: big and really big. In fact, the bigger the better. Aviator glasses are acceptable.\\nJewelry. Bracelets, necklaces, body art, and piercings are all the rage. Stick with jewelry that has an edgy, ironic, or cartoonish feel to it.\\nHats. Hats look great on scene girls (although not so much for scene guys). Choose big hats that don't necessarily match with the rest of your outfit. Special props goes to hats that no one has yet.\\n1-5. Get your clothes at stores with bright colored clothes and flashy stuff.\\nTry Rue 21, Banana Republic, Aeropostale and even others similar. Don't try Hot Topic unless you search for musical merch or find some bright clothes. Scene people wear bright colors and preppy clothes. They don't wear dark clothes and pocket chains.\\n2. Guys\\n2-1. Dress like you mean it.\\nScene guys, let's face it, spend a lot of time perfecting the look. They care about fashion, and about their fashion making a statement. They don't want to look like your average Joe on the side of the street. Their unique dress is part of their overall mentality.\\n2-2. Have straight hair.\\nHair should always be pin straight, and possibly teased. You're lucky if you have straight hair! If it isn't straight, blow-dry it after showers and brush it. Make it dry after showers so curls are prevented. You could use a straightener, but many guys don't do it, so don't feel forced to do it.\\nGet the bangs. If it's one thing that epitomizes the scene look for boys, it's the shaggy, layered bangs. They are absolutely essential. Look around for inspiration.\\nStart off with natural hair colors, and dye around it. You probably want the base of your hair to be dark or blond or brown, so dye the whole mane a dark color and fill in highlights (maybe blonde, maybe platinum, maybe purple) around it.\\n2-3. Pull off the clothes effortlessly.\\nYou're going to be dressing quite differently from how most guys dress, so you have to pull it off with confidence and verve. The clothes that you'll fit into your standard rotation include:\\nTight jeans or slim-fit jeans. Wearing jeans is good, but they should be tight or even slim. If you can't fit into skinny jeans, just wear tights. Don't force yourself to fit into something to skinny.\\nBright shirts, cartoon shirts and striped shirts. These are the staple of your tops. Brights and stripes really rule the day here. The occasional plaid isn't too bad.\\nSkater shoes like slip-on vans or chucks. Bright colors are a good idea. Chucks might be a little over-worn at this point, so think about getting some vans.\\n2-4. Put on some sunglasses.\\nGuys usually will get party shades, like what Brokencyde wear.\\n2-5. Get a piercing or tattoo.\\nGet some ink or piercings in visible places to let people know that you are hardcore and/or a deep person. that many scenesters choose to get henna tattoos or \\\"make\\\" their own using permanent marker; if you're unsure about getting a tattoo, remember that it's permanent and that you can't change your mind afterward.\\n2-6. Try on some ear plugs.\\n\\n2-7. Get your clothes at stores with bright colored clothes and flashy stuff.\\nTry Rue 21, Banana Republic, Aeropostale and even others similar. Don't try Hot Topic unless you search for musical merch or find some bright clothes. Scene people wear bright colors and preppy clothes. They don't wear dark clothes and pocket chains.\\n3. Acting Scene\\n3-1. Type like you don't care.\\nAdd extra letters to the end of words. Typing like a scene kid has no grammar or spelling rules. Use unusual amounts of emoticons and <3's. Some example include: D= :3 ^_^ and c:\\nSome examples of how you might type:\\n\\n\\\"ZOMG dats HxC.\\\" = \\\"Oh my god, that's hardcore.\\\"\\n\\\"Srsly, i don't caaaare if he liks me. hes got to shutup.\\\" = \\\"Seriously, I don't care if he likes me. He has to shut up.\\\"\\n3-2. Create the perfect xX\\\"SceneName\\\"Xx.\\nThis point of your name is to convey that you are both scene and creative. Scene names do not follow any spelling or grammar rules that regular names do. This doesn't mean that they don't follow their own rules, guidelines and/or basic themes:\\nPlay with a phrase. Take a fantasy story like Alice in Wonderland and change it so that people believe you are cultured and clever, like AllisonWonderland.\\nMake an alliteration. Think of an adjective you would like associated with you like brutal, homicidal or catastrophic, and add it to your name. If it's not an alliteration, force it by misspelling the adjective, like KatastrophicKatie.\\nAdd some X's. It's just a xXfunXx way to look more scene. But always balance out the x's so that there is the same number of x's on both sides of your name.\\nIgnore grammar rules. Try adding incorrect punctuation!, avoiding spacingwordsproperly, and using upper and lowercase letters intErchAngEably.\\n3-3. Become friends with everyone you know, and then some.\\nSocial media profiles are judged by sheer volume of \\\"friends\\\" someone has. That means: If you met someone briefly, add them. If you went to middle school with them, add them. If you have a mutual friend, add them. If you like the same band, add them. If you have the same pose in your profile picture, add them. If you are from the state, add them. And so on.\\nFlirt with everyone you friended. If someone adds you, be sure to thank them for the add. Then be sure to mention that they are cute and that you are interested, whether it is through a comment on a picture, a wall post, or in a private message.\\n3-4. Set a profile picture of \\\"yourself\\\".\\nThe photo shouldn't actually be a picture of you, so much as a picture of part of you. Here are some typical picture tricks to get the perfect scene profile photo:\\nCut yourself out of the photo. Don't feel the need to include your entire face or body. Just your eye and bangs, just your body or just your mouth is enough of a photo to help someone identify you.\\nUse a mirror. Extra scene points are giving for using your iPhone to take the picture. This lets everyone know that you: 1) Took the photo yourself, and 2) that you spent a lot of money on your camera or smart phone.\\nRotate the camera/photo. A basic straight on shot isn't creative. Everyone takes pictures like that. Angle the camera, or move it so that people have to struggle to find your in your hair. It makes your profile picture so much more interesting.\\nSet the camera on a table and bend over/sit at your computer. Ever bored and have nothing to do at the computer? Take pictures. This is like the exact opposite of suggestion 2, so much so that it's ironic and creative that you didn't rotate the camera.\\nDon't look at the camera! Look down, look up, look to the left, look to the right, just don't look at the camera.\\nHide behind your hair. Unlike other people, scene kids care about two parts of their bodies: their eyes and their hair. This should be the focal point of the picture. So don't distract people with your face.\\nFilter your pictures. Change your picture to black and white, faded-vintage, blurred or color tinted settings to achieve the scene look.\\nWrite on your hand. Write a quote, your name, or a heart on your hand and hold it up for the camera. Everyone thinks this is cute.\\nDo a creative face. Smile, stick your tongue out, look like your contemplating, just be creative! Don't do a boring smile, everyone smiles in pictures!\\n3-5. List as many bands as you can under \\\"music\\\" as you can.\\nIf you have even heard a song by that band, add them. It's important to showcase your wide taste in and vast knowledge of music. The more music you include, the more \\\"scene\\\" you will look.\\nGo for obscure, not-yet-popular music. Scene kids, like hipsters, adore the idea of having liked a band before they were cool. It means they're on the cutting edge, a trendsetter. If this means resurrecting a once-popular band that has since fallen into obscurity, that's ok too.\\n3-6. Go to a lot of \\\"shows.\\\"\\nMusic shows are important to the scene culture. Go to as many as you can. If there is a concert within a 60 mile (97 km) radius, try to go. Update your status to let people know that you are really into music. Don't forget to take pictures to prove that you went. Pictures should be of the stage and mob pits. It's not important that you are actually in the pictures.\\n3-7. Update your status.\\nConstantly update your status to tell people that you are bored, what's bothering you, that you feel like chatting, or that you are off to a show. People wouldn't have become friends with you if they didn't want constant updates on your life.\\n3-8. Get the attitude.\\nThe right scene attitude will do a lot to help you fit in and distinguish yourself as a true scenester. Because you dress the way that you do, expect to get a lot of grief from other people, especially older folks. Brush it off. A scene kid isn't interested in getting approval from random haters, much less from adults (although s/he isn't that rebellious). To master the attitude:\\nBe carefree. You are who you are and you know it. You're happy with yourself, so you wear your badges with confidence and style.\\nDon't be rude. Scenesters don't really have a chip on their shoulders like some hipsters do. Whether it's to someone's parents or a friend in your circle, you seek to be pleasant and easy-going, even if you're being teased.\\n4. Music\\nListen to \\\"scene\\\" music.\\n\\\"Scene\\\" music includes Dot Dot Curve, Brokencyde, Owl City, Blood on the Dance Floor, Millionaires, Scene Kidz, Breathe Carolina, 3!OH3, Family Force 5, I Set My Friends on Fire and Jeffree Star.\\nOther than the likes of 3!OH3 or Breathe Carolina, try electronicore, too. Electronicore fuses electro-pop with melodic metalcore and stuff. Try stuff like Attack! Attack, I See Stars, Memphis May Fire, Enter Shikari, Woe is Me, Capture the Crown, Make Me Famous and Abandon All Ships. You can also try bands like Pierce the Veil if you want. Electropop and dance-pop is recommended, too. Even these artists and groups sometimes cite pop stars as influences or even appear on a compilation series called \\\"Punk Goes Pop\\\". Try Katy Perry, Carly Rae Jepsen or Nicki Minaj. You could also try dubstep and house/techno/dance/etc like Skrillex, Knife Party and deadmau5.\\nThere are many bands or artists mislabeled as scene. Many people think deathcore, for example, is scene. It isn't. Deathcore is a hybrid of death metal (Cannibal Corpse, Suffocation, Brain Drill, Dying Fetus) and metalcore (Hatebreed, Converge, While She Sleeps). Metalcore fuses metal music with beatdown hardcore (Death Before Dishonor, Madball, Comeback Kid). Metal, death metal and hardcore punk all have nothing to do with the scene style. Many think this because of the appearances of a few deathcore bands. However, a band that shows the typical image of a deathcore band would be Rose Funeral, Oceano, The Red Chord or Despised Icon. Also, here is some other music mislabeled as scene:\\nHollywood Undead - Obviously rap rock\\nAsking Alexandria - Metalcore/synthcore\\niwrestledabearonce - Experimental mathcore\\nFalling in Reverse - Glam metal/easycore\\nThe Devil Wears Prada - Melodic metalcore\\nSuicide Silence - deathcore\\nBlack Veil Brides - Glam rock\\nOf Mice & Men - Metalcore\\nAll Time Low - Pop rock\\nParamore - Emo pop\\nTips\\nRealize that some people will hate you.\\nMake sure that you are very careful with your hair. Use a thermal protection spray applied in your hair before straightening or curling it. Don't shampoo too much and deep condition regularly or your hair will most likely be in horrible shape after a little while. It's also nice to buy lots of hairspray.\\nDon't throw away all your preppy clothes! You can use long sleeved shirts, plain t-shirts and shirt-dresses for layering.\\nWarnings\\nDon't lie about what you like and don't like. If you have never/barely listened to a particular band (or you just don't like them), don't lie and say you have just because it's the \\\"scene\\\" thing to do; no one likes a liar. If you buy a band shirt or claim a band as your favorite, you should be able to name at least three songs by them off the top of your head.\\nBe prepared to have haters. Some people out there are against \\\"scene kids\\\" and will swear, name call and possibly bash you for just walking around the street. It depends on what kind of area you live in. And definitely don't lash back out on them, just protect your self if needed. But you most likely will never get much more than funny looks or mean comments, so don't worry too much about this, just be aware it is possible.\\nNever act stuck-up, conceited, rude, or all-powerful to anyone, regardless of whether they're into the scene or not. Confidence is key, not arrogance. People will just think you're annoying, and will not see you as you truly are.\\nDon't dye or tease your hair too often or else you can damage it. If you ignore this, your hair may become wiry and fried. To help keep your hair healthy deep condition it regularly.\\\"\\nDon't take this \\\"scene\\\" thing too seriously.\\nDon't buy a lot of your clothes from Hot Topic; That store has mostly dark clothing. Scene people wear bright colors and usually are like a cross between preps, \\\"emos\\\", socialites, etc.\\nAn addition to that, it is VERY important that you remain yourself. Labeling yourself as only \\\"scene\\\" is a huge mistake. Be true to yourself and be an individual; be unique. The most important thing about being part of scene culture is individuality. It does not matter if it is in the \\\"Style Guidelines\\\" Don't try to act like someone you're not.\\nDon't try hard to be scene. Scene is a subculture, like any other, with its own aesthetic, which either fits you, or it doesn't. You don't have to try to be scene if you aren't genuinely interested in it. Those who truly are scene don't have to try to be so, because they are already Scene. If the fashion doesn't appeal to you, don't wear it, if the music doesn't appeal to you, don't listen to it. Trying hard to be part of any subculture is the essence of being a poseur. Be yourself, do not try to fit yourself to conform to any subculture, only consider yourself part of a subculture if it fits you.\\nThe first and most important guideline to maintaining your scene status is to never ever EVER refer to yourself as a scene kid! It is an an irreversible mistake if you do it; you will be forever known as a poseur, and no genuine scene kid will ever take you seriously again. You have been warned. If someone calls you a scene kid to annoy you, don't scoff or get defensive; just brush it off.\\nDon't confuse scene with scenester. A scenester is a person a person who tries very hard to fit the stereotype of a social, artistic, or musical scene or subculture, more or less a poseur, whereas the scene people are their own unique subculture, which emphasizes creativity and uniqueness.\\nDon't copy other people. All it will do is 1.) get people mad at you, and 2.) make you look like a fake and you guessed it- a poseur. 3.)There's no point. Being creative is one of the main points of being scene. If you don't want to be creative or expressive at all why do you want to be scene?\\nThere is a difference between emo and scene. Emo is a sub-genre of hardcore punk referring to bands like The Promise Ring, Silverstein, Rites of Spring, Sunny Day Real Estate, Cap'n Jazz, Drive Like Jehu and The Starting Line. Fans of this genre usually label themselves hardcore or punk, but \\\"emo\\\" are risen to be a self using term instead of an insult, what it first came about as. Original emo fashion included sweaters, messenger bags, horn rimmed glasses and band D.I.Y. but the newer emo fashion consists of converse, eyeliner, band shirts, dyed black straightened hair and studded/pyramid belts. Scene fashion has layered, teased and dyed into multiple colours hair, sometimes with coontails with neon jeans, colourful vans/converse and accessories of bows or glasses. People think scene is just a \\\"brighter version of emo\\\" but this is incorrect - they both have different histories.\\nKnow when to use intentionally incorrect spelling. Using intentionally incorrect spelling and grammar is not acceptable for things such as school assignments or legal documents.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Scene people, it's sometimes said that is worn within bright colors, crazy hair fringes and tight or skinny neon jeans. Scene people are only as scene as their social networking profile pages. So it's important to not only look and act scene, but to also prove you are scene online. Use this wikiHow to guide to teach yourself how to be a scene kid in no time at all.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Girls\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the hair.\", \"描述\": \"Scene hair can either be short or long, but often the longer hair has a bit of volume to it. Scene hair has to resist being bland. It's one of the most important aspects of your appearance.\\nDye it and/or put some color into it. Dye your hair black or blonde, or maybe both: blonde streaks inside a sea of black. Add flourishes of pink or purple to round out the look.\\nTease and/or straighten it. Tease it (especially in the back) to add a lot of volume to your coiffure. Straightened hair is a must for those with curly or wavy hair. The straighter the better.\\nDon't shy away from hair extensions if you feel you need them. Some scenesters think that hair extensions are a must.\\nAdd a little flourish like a hair band, beret, or flower, especially if it has some color.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get the makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Scene makeup is characterized by bright, daring colors contrasting with the ever-present black or dark-blue eyeliner. Maybe you have glittery eyeshadow; maybe you darken the outline of your eyebrows. Whatever you do, don't forget the eyeliner!\\nYour makeup is your big opportunity to \\\"feminize\\\" your appearance. Because dressing scene won't distinguish you too much from guys, don't be afraid to go a bit overboard here. Dramatic, bold makeup is definitely what's called for.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go for bright, flashy clothes.\", \"描述\": \"Striped clothing is definitely in style, as is plaid (although try not to get too boring). Don't abuse the thrift store racks (you're not a hipster), but don't shy away from used clothes. Some different options that you might consider wearing:\\nStriped black and pink top; a tight pink skirt with a blue bandana wrapped around your waist; ripped electric blue leggings; and pink flats (ballet shoes work well).\\nPurple leopard print top; white overall shorts with the strap(s) undone; black tights; and scuffy, white slip-on Vans.\\nHandmade silk-screened band tee; skin-tight purple (or black) skinny jeans; pyramid stud belt (although they are slowly becoming too popular); and huge sunglasses.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Rock the accessories.\", \"描述\": \"The accessories really complete the scene look, so be sure not to forget them. Oversized is really part of the fashion. Accessories include:\\nSunny-Gs. Your sunglasses will come in two sizes: big and really big. In fact, the bigger the better. Aviator glasses are acceptable.\\nJewelry. Bracelets, necklaces, body art, and piercings are all the rage. Stick with jewelry that has an edgy, ironic, or cartoonish feel to it.\\nHats. Hats look great on scene girls (although not so much for scene guys). Choose big hats that don't necessarily match with the rest of your outfit. Special props goes to hats that no one has yet.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get your clothes at stores with bright colored clothes and flashy stuff.\", \"描述\": \"Try Rue 21, Banana Republic, Aeropostale and even others similar. Don't try Hot Topic unless you search for musical merch or find some bright clothes. Scene people wear bright colors and preppy clothes. They don't wear dark clothes and pocket chains.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Guys\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dress like you mean it.\", \"描述\": \"Scene guys, let's face it, spend a lot of time perfecting the look. They care about fashion, and about their fashion making a statement. They don't want to look like your average Joe on the side of the street. Their unique dress is part of their overall mentality.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have straight hair.\", \"描述\": \"Hair should always be pin straight, and possibly teased. You're lucky if you have straight hair! If it isn't straight, blow-dry it after showers and brush it. Make it dry after showers so curls are prevented. You could use a straightener, but many guys don't do it, so don't feel forced to do it.\\nGet the bangs. If it's one thing that epitomizes the scene look for boys, it's the shaggy, layered bangs. They are absolutely essential. Look around for inspiration.\\nStart off with natural hair colors, and dye around it. You probably want the base of your hair to be dark or blond or brown, so dye the whole mane a dark color and fill in highlights (maybe blonde, maybe platinum, maybe purple) around it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pull off the clothes effortlessly.\", \"描述\": \"You're going to be dressing quite differently from how most guys dress, so you have to pull it off with confidence and verve. The clothes that you'll fit into your standard rotation include:\\nTight jeans or slim-fit jeans. Wearing jeans is good, but they should be tight or even slim. If you can't fit into skinny jeans, just wear tights. Don't force yourself to fit into something to skinny.\\nBright shirts, cartoon shirts and striped shirts. These are the staple of your tops. Brights and stripes really rule the day here. The occasional plaid isn't too bad.\\nSkater shoes like slip-on vans or chucks. Bright colors are a good idea. Chucks might be a little over-worn at this point, so think about getting some vans.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Put on some sunglasses.\", \"描述\": \"Guys usually will get party shades, like what Brokencyde wear.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get a piercing or tattoo.\", \"描述\": \"Get some ink or piercings in visible places to let people know that you are hardcore and/or a deep person. that many scenesters choose to get henna tattoos or \\\"make\\\" their own using permanent marker; if you're unsure about getting a tattoo, remember that it's permanent and that you can't change your mind afterward.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try on some ear plugs.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get your clothes at stores with bright colored clothes and flashy stuff.\", \"描述\": \"Try Rue 21, Banana Republic, Aeropostale and even others similar. Don't try Hot Topic unless you search for musical merch or find some bright clothes. Scene people wear bright colors and preppy clothes. They don't wear dark clothes and pocket chains.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Acting Scene\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Type like you don't care.\", \"描述\": \"Add extra letters to the end of words. Typing like a scene kid has no grammar or spelling rules. Use unusual amounts of emoticons and <3's. Some example include: D= :3 ^_^ and c:\\nSome examples of how you might type:\\n\\n\\\"ZOMG dats HxC.\\\" = \\\"Oh my god, that's hardcore.\\\"\\n\\\"Srsly, i don't caaaare if he liks me. hes got to shutup.\\\" = \\\"Seriously, I don't care if he likes me. He has to shut up.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create the perfect xX\\\"SceneName\\\"Xx.\", \"描述\": \"This point of your name is to convey that you are both scene and creative. Scene names do not follow any spelling or grammar rules that regular names do. This doesn't mean that they don't follow their own rules, guidelines and/or basic themes:\\nPlay with a phrase. Take a fantasy story like Alice in Wonderland and change it so that people believe you are cultured and clever, like AllisonWonderland.\\nMake an alliteration. Think of an adjective you would like associated with you like brutal, homicidal or catastrophic, and add it to your name. If it's not an alliteration, force it by misspelling the adjective, like KatastrophicKatie.\\nAdd some X's. It's just a xXfunXx way to look more scene. But always balance out the x's so that there is the same number of x's on both sides of your name.\\nIgnore grammar rules. Try adding incorrect punctuation!, avoiding spacingwordsproperly, and using upper and lowercase letters intErchAngEably.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Become friends with everyone you know, and then some.\", \"描述\": \"Social media profiles are judged by sheer volume of \\\"friends\\\" someone has. That means: If you met someone briefly, add them. If you went to middle school with them, add them. If you have a mutual friend, add them. If you like the same band, add them. If you have the same pose in your profile picture, add them. If you are from the state, add them. And so on.\\nFlirt with everyone you friended. If someone adds you, be sure to thank them for the add. Then be sure to mention that they are cute and that you are interested, whether it is through a comment on a picture, a wall post, or in a private message.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Set a profile picture of \\\"yourself\\\".\", \"描述\": \"The photo shouldn't actually be a picture of you, so much as a picture of part of you. Here are some typical picture tricks to get the perfect scene profile photo:\\nCut yourself out of the photo. Don't feel the need to include your entire face or body. Just your eye and bangs, just your body or just your mouth is enough of a photo to help someone identify you.\\nUse a mirror. Extra scene points are giving for using your iPhone to take the picture. This lets everyone know that you: 1) Took the photo yourself, and 2) that you spent a lot of money on your camera or smart phone.\\nRotate the camera/photo. A basic straight on shot isn't creative. Everyone takes pictures like that. Angle the camera, or move it so that people have to struggle to find your in your hair. It makes your profile picture so much more interesting.\\nSet the camera on a table and bend over/sit at your computer. Ever bored and have nothing to do at the computer? Take pictures. This is like the exact opposite of suggestion 2, so much so that it's ironic and creative that you didn't rotate the camera.\\nDon't look at the camera! Look down, look up, look to the left, look to the right, just don't look at the camera.\\nHide behind your hair. Unlike other people, scene kids care about two parts of their bodies: their eyes and their hair. This should be the focal point of the picture. So don't distract people with your face.\\nFilter your pictures. Change your picture to black and white, faded-vintage, blurred or color tinted settings to achieve the scene look.\\nWrite on your hand. Write a quote, your name, or a heart on your hand and hold it up for the camera. Everyone thinks this is cute.\\nDo a creative face. Smile, stick your tongue out, look like your contemplating, just be creative! Don't do a boring smile, everyone smiles in pictures!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"List as many bands as you can under \\\"music\\\" as you can.\", \"描述\": \"If you have even heard a song by that band, add them. It's important to showcase your wide taste in and vast knowledge of music. The more music you include, the more \\\"scene\\\" you will look.\\nGo for obscure, not-yet-popular music. Scene kids, like hipsters, adore the idea of having liked a band before they were cool. It means they're on the cutting edge, a trendsetter. If this means resurrecting a once-popular band that has since fallen into obscurity, that's ok too.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Go to a lot of \\\"shows.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"Music shows are important to the scene culture. Go to as many as you can. If there is a concert within a 60 mile (97 km) radius, try to go. Update your status to let people know that you are really into music. Don't forget to take pictures to prove that you went. Pictures should be of the stage and mob pits. It's not important that you are actually in the pictures.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Update your status.\", \"描述\": \"Constantly update your status to tell people that you are bored, what's bothering you, that you feel like chatting, or that you are off to a show. People wouldn't have become friends with you if they didn't want constant updates on your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Get the attitude.\", \"描述\": \"The right scene attitude will do a lot to help you fit in and distinguish yourself as a true scenester. Because you dress the way that you do, expect to get a lot of grief from other people, especially older folks. Brush it off. A scene kid isn't interested in getting approval from random haters, much less from adults (although s/he isn't that rebellious). To master the attitude:\\nBe carefree. You are who you are and you know it. You're happy with yourself, so you wear your badges with confidence and style.\\nDon't be rude. Scenesters don't really have a chip on their shoulders like some hipsters do. Whether it's to someone's parents or a friend in your circle, you seek to be pleasant and easy-going, even if you're being teased.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Music\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to \\\"scene\\\" music.\", \"描述\": \"\\\"Scene\\\" music includes Dot Dot Curve, Brokencyde, Owl City, Blood on the Dance Floor, Millionaires, Scene Kidz, Breathe Carolina, 3!OH3, Family Force 5, I Set My Friends on Fire and Jeffree Star.\\nOther than the likes of 3!OH3 or Breathe Carolina, try electronicore, too. Electronicore fuses electro-pop with melodic metalcore and stuff. Try stuff like Attack! Attack, I See Stars, Memphis May Fire, Enter Shikari, Woe is Me, Capture the Crown, Make Me Famous and Abandon All Ships. You can also try bands like Pierce the Veil if you want. Electropop and dance-pop is recommended, too. Even these artists and groups sometimes cite pop stars as influences or even appear on a compilation series called \\\"Punk Goes Pop\\\". Try Katy Perry, Carly Rae Jepsen or Nicki Minaj. You could also try dubstep and house/techno/dance/etc like Skrillex, Knife Party and deadmau5.\\nThere are many bands or artists mislabeled as scene. Many people think deathcore, for example, is scene. It isn't. Deathcore is a hybrid of death metal (Cannibal Corpse, Suffocation, Brain Drill, Dying Fetus) and metalcore (Hatebreed, Converge, While She Sleeps). Metalcore fuses metal music with beatdown hardcore (Death Before Dishonor, Madball, Comeback Kid). Metal, death metal and hardcore punk all have nothing to do with the scene style. Many think this because of the appearances of a few deathcore bands. However, a band that shows the typical image of a deathcore band would be Rose Funeral, Oceano, The Red Chord or Despised Icon. Also, here is some other music mislabeled as scene:\\nHollywood Undead - Obviously rap rock\\nAsking Alexandria - Metalcore/synthcore\\niwrestledabearonce - Experimental mathcore\\nFalling in Reverse - Glam metal/easycore\\nThe Devil Wears Prada - Melodic metalcore\\nSuicide Silence - deathcore\\nBlack Veil Brides - Glam rock\\nOf Mice & Men - Metalcore\\nAll Time Low - Pop rock\\nParamore - Emo pop\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Realize that some people will hate you.\\n\", \"Make sure that you are very careful with your hair. Use a thermal protection spray applied in your hair before straightening or curling it. Don't shampoo too much and deep condition regularly or your hair will most likely be in horrible shape after a little while. It's also nice to buy lots of hairspray.\\n\", \"Don't throw away all your preppy clothes! You can use long sleeved shirts, plain t-shirts and shirt-dresses for layering.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't lie about what you like and don't like. If you have never/barely listened to a particular band (or you just don't like them), don't lie and say you have just because it's the \\\"scene\\\" thing to do; no one likes a liar. If you buy a band shirt or claim a band as your favorite, you should be able to name at least three songs by them off the top of your head.\\n\", \"Be prepared to have haters. Some people out there are against \\\"scene kids\\\" and will swear, name call and possibly bash you for just walking around the street. It depends on what kind of area you live in. And definitely don't lash back out on them, just protect your self if needed. But you most likely will never get much more than funny looks or mean comments, so don't worry too much about this, just be aware it is possible.\\n\", \"Never act stuck-up, conceited, rude, or all-powerful to anyone, regardless of whether they're into the scene or not. Confidence is key, not arrogance. People will just think you're annoying, and will not see you as you truly are.\\n\", \"Don't dye or tease your hair too often or else you can damage it. If you ignore this, your hair may become wiry and fried. To help keep your hair healthy deep condition it regularly.\\\"\\n\", \"Don't take this \\\"scene\\\" thing too seriously.\\n\", \"Don't buy a lot of your clothes from Hot Topic; That store has mostly dark clothing. Scene people wear bright colors and usually are like a cross between preps, \\\"emos\\\", socialites, etc.\\n\", \"An addition to that, it is VERY important that you remain yourself. Labeling yourself as only \\\"scene\\\" is a huge mistake. Be true to yourself and be an individual; be unique. The most important thing about being part of scene culture is individuality. It does not matter if it is in the \\\"Style Guidelines\\\" Don't try to act like someone you're not.\\n\", \"Don't try hard to be scene. Scene is a subculture, like any other, with its own aesthetic, which either fits you, or it doesn't. You don't have to try to be scene if you aren't genuinely interested in it. Those who truly are scene don't have to try to be so, because they are already Scene. If the fashion doesn't appeal to you, don't wear it, if the music doesn't appeal to you, don't listen to it. Trying hard to be part of any subculture is the essence of being a poseur. Be yourself, do not try to fit yourself to conform to any subculture, only consider yourself part of a subculture if it fits you.\\n\", \"The first and most important guideline to maintaining your scene status is to never ever EVER refer to yourself as a scene kid! It is an an irreversible mistake if you do it; you will be forever known as a poseur, and no genuine scene kid will ever take you seriously again. You have been warned. If someone calls you a scene kid to annoy you, don't scoff or get defensive; just brush it off.\\n\", \"Don't confuse scene with scenester. A scenester is a person a person who tries very hard to fit the stereotype of a social, artistic, or musical scene or subculture, more or less a poseur, whereas the scene people are their own unique subculture, which emphasizes creativity and uniqueness.\\n\", \"Don't copy other people. All it will do is 1.) get people mad at you, and 2.) make you look like a fake and you guessed it- a poseur. 3.)There's no point. Being creative is one of the main points of being scene. If you don't want to be creative or expressive at all why do you want to be scene?\\n\", \"There is a difference between emo and scene. Emo is a sub-genre of hardcore punk referring to bands like The Promise Ring, Silverstein, Rites of Spring, Sunny Day Real Estate, Cap'n Jazz, Drive Like Jehu and The Starting Line. Fans of this genre usually label themselves hardcore or punk, but \\\"emo\\\" are risen to be a self using term instead of an insult, what it first came about as. Original emo fashion included sweaters, messenger bags, horn rimmed glasses and band D.I.Y. but the newer emo fashion consists of converse, eyeliner, band shirts, dyed black straightened hair and studded/pyramid belts. Scene fashion has layered, teased and dyed into multiple colours hair, sometimes with coontails with neon jeans, colourful vans/converse and accessories of bows or glasses. People think scene is just a \\\"brighter version of emo\\\" but this is incorrect - they both have different histories.\\n\", \"Know when to use intentionally incorrect spelling. Using intentionally incorrect spelling and grammar is not acceptable for things such as school assignments or legal documents.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Get the right bra.
Measure yourself correctly. Bra sizing is a complicated thing that even trips up many cisgender females - 8 out of 10 women are wearing the wrong size! The average woman is a D-cup (though will most likely wear a B or C) so keep that in mind when sizing yourself.
1-2. Measure yourself very tightly before wearing a fake bra (though still with room to breathe) around your chest, add 2 to this number, and add another 1 if it's an odd number.
This is your band size.
Once you've got your band size, just buy a bra with a cup size that looks good on your frame (if you're unsure, just get a C or D cup) and stuff it with tissues or something.
1-3. Disguise your crotch.
If you've been on estrogen for a while and have a smaller-sized area, great. If not, you could Tuck and Tape.
1-4. Figure out what to do with your hair.
Stereotypically, scene girls have very heavily teased, poofy, dyed hair. This is actually less than amazing for your hair and is often looked down upon by scenesters. However, if you're going to be a convincing scene transgender girl, you Require long, layered hair. While doing too much with your hair isn't a good idea, scene hair's not supposed to lie completely flat on your head. Being a long-haired girl is great because you can just mess around with your hair, see what looks good, looks bad and looks just plain horrible. However, if your hair is curly, you're going to NEED a straightener. No arguing. Put that teaser down! You shouldn't need it. It really frays your hair. Do it on special occasions only. Dye is excellent to help you pass-no green or dark colors, though. Stick with pink and purple unless your face is highly feminine. Light blond is also a good color on its own - it's mostly the scene girls who do that! Leopard spots and zebra stripes in your hair are both scene and feminine.
1-5. Find a top you like.
Scene girls often wear outlandish, happy and above all feminine T-shirts. This is very helpful for you. Scene clothes are quite close-fitting. With your padded bra, this isn't much of an issue and is a great way to show off that feminine chest!
1-6. Flaunt your scene style but in a feminine way.
Stay away from brass knuckles, and if you Need to wear skulls, use cutesy skulls. Hello, Kitty characters and diamonds score extra scene points, as well as being very feminine. The best possible scene slogans are those that say cute core, glamour, or "haters make me famous." Avoid anything saying brutal or rawr.
1-7. Spend some time shopping to find the right pants.
Now here comes the issue. Scenester pants are, and always will be skinny jeans. Skinny jeans are a death sentence for transgender girls and seem to gain pleasure out of stopping you from passing. If you can, find pants tight in the legs and loose in the pelvis. Tell everyone where you got them from. If you have feminine hips, you can definitely get away with skinny jeans. Medium hip-wise, and you can wear them so long as they're white or similar light colors. It'll make those hips look bigger. Slim hips, and you might want to wear medium-tight pants. Maybe you wouldn't look totally scene, but you'll be an individual! If you can find jeans that have sparkles, animal print, or hearts, or that are pink, wear them - these are feminine things!
1-8. Put on that makeup!
Girls gotta love makeup, and so do scene girls! And scene guys, for that matter. For everyday wear, start with a cover-up and foundation, then put on dark eyeliner to make those beautiful eyes of yours pop out. Smear on a little white eyeshadow, some mascara, a bit of cheek highlighter, and pink lip gloss/lipstick (sparkly if you want to feel extra-special) and you're done.
1-9. Never forget the accessories.
Scene girls love accessories. Just remember to never go out too much of a good thing is a bad thing. NEVER wear belts-they'll draw attention to your crotch-BAD IDEA for trans girls. Gauntlets are also out since they make your bone structure look bigger and the spikes look masculine. Stick with necklaces and bracelets. As Coco Chanel taught us-always take off one accessory before you leave the house. Looking tacky is bad, bad, BAD, and can stop you from passing.
1-10. Consider getting pierced.
Piercings are a good friend, but a bad enemy. Lip piercings are both quite feminine and very scene-most scene girls have them, so they're a good choice. Belly button piercings aren't very scenic, but EXTREMELY feminine. With the right stud, they can look quiet scene. Definitely stay away from septum piercings unless you have a very feminine face-they're painful and a bit masculine (though somewhat scene). Of course, make sure you have pierced ears. Don't gauge your ears, though, since it's mostly guys who do that.
1-11. Realize that any tattoo is a permanent thing.
Laser surgery will keep the raised scar. If you still really, really want a tattoo, get something very feminine-such as a unicorn-tattooed somewhere inconspicuous.
1-12. Show who you are.
Are you openly bi or lesbian? If you're openly transgender and also fall somewhere to the right of the Kinsey Scale, you would've told your parents the same time you became open about your gender identity? Anyway, flaunt it, but in a feminine way. Wear a female on a female symbol, a female on a female/male symbol, or a lipstick lesbian flag.
1-13. Love yourself.
As Lady Gaga sang, "Rejoice and love yourself today, 'cause baby you were born this way.". Girl, you've come a long way in admitting this to yourself and probably family. Be happy. And always look on the bright side of life. It's what scenesters do.
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Find a top you like.\\nScene girls often wear outlandish, happy and above all feminine T-shirts. This is very helpful for you. Scene clothes are quite close-fitting. With your padded bra, this isn't much of an issue and is a great way to show off that feminine chest!\\n1-6. Flaunt your scene style but in a feminine way.\\nStay away from brass knuckles, and if you Need to wear skulls, use cutesy skulls. Hello, Kitty characters and diamonds score extra scene points, as well as being very feminine. The best possible scene slogans are those that say cute core, glamour, or \\\"haters make me famous.\\\" Avoid anything saying brutal or rawr.\\n1-7. Spend some time shopping to find the right pants.\\nNow here comes the issue. Scenester pants are, and always will be skinny jeans. Skinny jeans are a death sentence for transgender girls and seem to gain pleasure out of stopping you from passing. If you can, find pants tight in the legs and loose in the pelvis. 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Just remember to never go out too much of a good thing is a bad thing. NEVER wear belts-they'll draw attention to your crotch-BAD IDEA for trans girls. Gauntlets are also out since they make your bone structure look bigger and the spikes look masculine. Stick with necklaces and bracelets. As Coco Chanel taught us-always take off one accessory before you leave the house. Looking tacky is bad, bad, BAD, and can stop you from passing.\\n1-10. Consider getting pierced.\\nPiercings are a good friend, but a bad enemy. Lip piercings are both quite feminine and very scene-most scene girls have them, so they're a good choice. Belly button piercings aren't very scenic, but EXTREMELY feminine. With the right stud, they can look quiet scene. Definitely stay away from septum piercings unless you have a very feminine face-they're painful and a bit masculine (though somewhat scene). Of course, make sure you have pierced ears. Don't gauge your ears, though, since it's mostly guys who do that.\\n1-11. Realize that any tattoo is a permanent thing.\\nLaser surgery will keep the raised scar. If you still really, really want a tattoo, get something very feminine-such as a unicorn-tattooed somewhere inconspicuous.\\n1-12. Show who you are.\\nAre you openly bi or lesbian? If you're openly transgender and also fall somewhere to the right of the Kinsey Scale, you would've told your parents the same time you became open about your gender identity? Anyway, flaunt it, but in a feminine way. Wear a female on a female symbol, a female on a female/male symbol, or a lipstick lesbian flag.\\n1-13. Love yourself.\\nAs Lady Gaga sang, \\\"Rejoice and love yourself today, 'cause baby you were born this way.\\\". Girl, you've come a long way in admitting this to yourself and probably family. Be happy. And always look on the bright side of life. It's what scenesters do.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being scene is quite fun and popular, but quite complicated for transgender girls. 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1. Unlocking the Job
1-1. Hit level 30 as a Arcanist and level 15 as a Conjurer.
1-2. Go see the Arcanist guild in Limsa Lominsa and accept the next class quest.
At the end of the quest, you will receive a Soul Crystal.
1-3. Go into your inventory.
Click on the bottom-right slot, and equip the Soul of a Scholar to switch to the Scholar job; you must be an Arcanist when you try to equip it.
2. Using Skills and Stats
2-1. Get to know your skills and the effects that they have.
Below are several skills that you will definitely be using throughout your time as a Scholar (this list will also include several of the Arcanist class skills, for maximum understanding).
Physick: Your basic healing skill, obtained at level 4 and the the most efficient in basic healing. It has a potency of 400 (the same as the White Mages/Conjurer's Cure I). It costs minimal MP, and is used whenever the tank is starting to lose HP.
Summon I: Obtained at level 4, this skill is used to summon the Arcanist's, Scholar's, and Summoner's first pet. For a Scholar, this pet is Eos. This spell should always be cast AS SOON as you enter any dungeon, or even out in the field! Without your pet, as a Scholar, you're healing will be noticeably less effective!
Aetherflow: Obtained at level 6. It restores 20% of your MP. Also, at level 8, 20, and 40, you obtain a Trait to give you stacks of Aetherdam, which is required to cast certain spells. (One cast gives max stacks of Aetherflow.)
Energy Drain: Level 8 skill that drains deals damage to the enemy with a potency of 150, along with giving you 50% of the damage dealt as HP, and a small amount of MP. Usually used when you're running low on MP during intense fights.
Summon II: Obtained from the level 15 Arcanist quest, this will summon the Arcanist's, Scholar's, and Summoner's second pet. For a Scholar, this pet is Selene. The same rules as with Summon I apply here.
Resurrection: Level 22 skill. Revives the target in a weakened state (Stats reduced for several minutes).
Eye for an Eye: Level 34 Arcanist skill. Puts a barrier around the target with an effect of "20% chance that when barrier is struck, the striker will deal 10% less damage for 20s."
Adloquium: Level 30 Scholar skill, used for healing. It has a potency of 300, but also gives a status effect on the target when casted. It will absorb up to the amount of damage you healed. Ex: If you were to heal someone for 100 HP, the next 100 HP damage they would take would be negated. Also, if the heal is a critical, it will absorb up to double the damage the target would take.
Succor: Level 35 Scholar healing skill. It has a healing potency of 150 and is an AoE spell. It has the same effect as Adloquium, except without the critical effect. Useful if the party is taking minor damage.
Leeches: Level 40 Scholar healing skill. It removes one harmful status effect from the target. Ex: Burn, poison, Windburn.
Sacred Soil: Level 45 Scholar AoE damage prevention spell. It reduces all damage within the effective area by 10%. It also has a 20% chance of making the next Succor cost no MP. Requires a stack of Aetherflow to cast.
Lustrate: Level 50 Scholar healing skill. It restores 25% of the targets maximum HP. Very helpful for whenever the (main) tank is running extremely low on HP, due to its instant cast time and fast cool-down time (1.0 seconds). Requires a single stack of Aetherflow to cast it (meaning it can be cast three times within the span of several seconds!). It should only be used sparingly, in emergency situations, due to the 1 minute reload time of Aetherflow.
2-2. Know your cross-class skills.
These are the more important cross-class skills for when you're running dungeons:
Protect: Level 8 Conjurer skill. Decreases physical damage taken. An essential to help reduce the damage taken in a dungeon. (If there is a White Mage, allow them to cast it instead, due to their added Shell effect.)
Swiftcast: Level 26 Thaumaturge skill. Another essential skill for when you need to cast resurrection, due to it's long cast time. This skill makes the next spell cast instantly, basically negating the cast time.
2-3. Mainly pump stats into the Mind stat to ensure maximum healing.
If needed, put a few into Piety for extra MP.
3. Using Pets
3-1. Know your pets.
The second most important thing to being a Scholar is your pets, and making sure you know how they work. First comes the pets themselves, then the skills.
Eos - Summoned using the Summon I skill. She provides more healing then the other pet, and her buffs are revolved around that. She is helpful for when you need extra healing with you (Note: Both pets do have the Embrace healing skill).
Selene - Summoned using the Summon II skill. She has support skills to boost certain aspects of your party (namely, Skill & Spell speed).
3-2. Use the pet skills!
Please note, before you can order your pet to use skills, you must use the "Obey" command (Look in your skills if it isn't set to your hotbar, or press R1 if on PS3/4 to switch to the pet hotbar when it is summoned).
Eos
Embrace - Healing skill with a potency of 300. It's like psychic, but for your pet. And somewhat weaker.
Whispering Dawn - Restores the HP of all allies in range (15y) for 21 seconds, with a potency of 100.
Fey Covenant - Increases the Magic Defense of all allies in range (15y) by 20% for 20 seconds.
Fey Illumination - Increases the amount of HP everyone heals (when they cast a healing spell.) Within range of the spell (15y) by 20% for 20 seconds.
Selene
Embrace - Healing skill with a potency of 300. The exact same skill as what Eos has.
Silent Dawn - Silences (prevents a target from casting spells) for 1 second.
Fey Glow - Increases the spell speed for all nearby allies (15y) by 30% for 30 seconds.
Fey Light - Increases the skill speed for all nearby allies (15y) by 30% for 30 seconds.
Fey Glow and Fey Light cannot be active at the same time.
4. Using Macros
Use Macros to your advantage.
If you don't know how to open the Macros menu, press the Escape button, and move to the right menu; click "User Macros" (If using controller, press the Start button, head to the right-most menu option, and go down to "User Macros".) These are several of the macros that will help you through your journey!
To make both you and your pet heal at the same time.
/micon "Physick"
/ac "Physick" <t>
/pac "Embrace" <t>
For both Swiftcast and Resurrection
/micon "Resurrection"
/ac "Swiftcast" <wait>
/ac "Resurrection" <t>
For all three of your DoT skills
/micon "Bio"
/ac "Bio II" <t>
/wait 3
/ac "Miasma" <t>
/wait 3
/ac "Bio" <t>
Tips
Terms to know:
DoT: Damage over time
AoE: Area of Effect
Buff: A beneficial status effect, whether on an enemy or an ally.
If there are ever two Scholars in your party, make sure that both of you do not use the same pet. It's much more helpful if someone can buff the party and someone else focuses on keeping everyone alive (though obviously, both Scholars will be healing to make sure no one dies).
Warnings
Scholar can be a tough class to play when in a raid or Primal battle. Make sure you know how to play the class, and how each skill works for maximum effectiveness in battle.
Currently, everything mentioned within this guide is PRE patch 2.5. This guide will be updated after the first expansion has released to reflect any new changes made.
If there is anything you don't agree with, please tell me what it is and why via e-mail. Or, feel free to add it in/fix it yourself.
You can NOT use both Eos and Selene at the same time! Make sure to choose which one will suit your needs at the time better when preparing to summon.
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It costs minimal MP, and is used whenever the tank is starting to lose HP.\\nSummon I: Obtained at level 4, this skill is used to summon the Arcanist's, Scholar's, and Summoner's first pet. For a Scholar, this pet is Eos. This spell should always be cast AS SOON as you enter any dungeon, or even out in the field! Without your pet, as a Scholar, you're healing will be noticeably less effective!\\nAetherflow: Obtained at level 6. It restores 20% of your MP. Also, at level 8, 20, and 40, you obtain a Trait to give you stacks of Aetherdam, which is required to cast certain spells. (One cast gives max stacks of Aetherflow.)\\nEnergy Drain: Level 8 skill that drains deals damage to the enemy with a potency of 150, along with giving you 50% of the damage dealt as HP, and a small amount of MP. Usually used when you're running low on MP during intense fights.\\nSummon II: Obtained from the level 15 Arcanist quest, this will summon the Arcanist's, Scholar's, and Summoner's second pet. For a Scholar, this pet is Selene. The same rules as with Summon I apply here.\\nResurrection: Level 22 skill. Revives the target in a weakened state (Stats reduced for several minutes).\\nEye for an Eye: Level 34 Arcanist skill. Puts a barrier around the target with an effect of \\\"20% chance that when barrier is struck, the striker will deal 10% less damage for 20s.\\\"\\nAdloquium: Level 30 Scholar skill, used for healing. It has a potency of 300, but also gives a status effect on the target when casted. It will absorb up to the amount of damage you healed. Ex: If you were to heal someone for 100 HP, the next 100 HP damage they would take would be negated. Also, if the heal is a critical, it will absorb up to double the damage the target would take.\\nSuccor: Level 35 Scholar healing skill. It has a healing potency of 150 and is an AoE spell. It has the same effect as Adloquium, except without the critical effect. Useful if the party is taking minor damage.\\nLeeches: Level 40 Scholar healing skill. It removes one harmful status effect from the target. Ex: Burn, poison, Windburn.\\nSacred Soil: Level 45 Scholar AoE damage prevention spell. It reduces all damage within the effective area by 10%. It also has a 20% chance of making the next Succor cost no MP. Requires a stack of Aetherflow to cast.\\nLustrate: Level 50 Scholar healing skill. It restores 25% of the targets maximum HP. Very helpful for whenever the (main) tank is running extremely low on HP, due to its instant cast time and fast cool-down time (1.0 seconds). Requires a single stack of Aetherflow to cast it (meaning it can be cast three times within the span of several seconds!). It should only be used sparingly, in emergency situations, due to the 1 minute reload time of Aetherflow.\\n2-2. Know your cross-class skills.\\nThese are the more important cross-class skills for when you're running dungeons:\\nProtect: Level 8 Conjurer skill. Decreases physical damage taken. An essential to help reduce the damage taken in a dungeon. (If there is a White Mage, allow them to cast it instead, due to their added Shell effect.)\\nSwiftcast: Level 26 Thaumaturge skill. Another essential skill for when you need to cast resurrection, due to it's long cast time. This skill makes the next spell cast instantly, basically negating the cast time.\\n2-3. Mainly pump stats into the Mind stat to ensure maximum healing.\\nIf needed, put a few into Piety for extra MP.\\n3. Using Pets\\n3-1. Know your pets.\\nThe second most important thing to being a Scholar is your pets, and making sure you know how they work. First comes the pets themselves, then the skills.\\nEos - Summoned using the Summon I skill. She provides more healing then the other pet, and her buffs are revolved around that. She is helpful for when you need extra healing with you (Note: Both pets do have the Embrace healing skill).\\nSelene - Summoned using the Summon II skill. She has support skills to boost certain aspects of your party (namely, Skill & Spell speed).\\n3-2. Use the pet skills!\\nPlease note, before you can order your pet to use skills, you must use the \\\"Obey\\\" command (Look in your skills if it isn't set to your hotbar, or press R1 if on PS3/4 to switch to the pet hotbar when it is summoned).\\nEos\\nEmbrace - Healing skill with a potency of 300. It's like psychic, but for your pet. And somewhat weaker.\\nWhispering Dawn - Restores the HP of all allies in range (15y) for 21 seconds, with a potency of 100.\\nFey Covenant - Increases the Magic Defense of all allies in range (15y) by 20% for 20 seconds.\\nFey Illumination - Increases the amount of HP everyone heals (when they cast a healing spell.) Within range of the spell (15y) by 20% for 20 seconds.\\n\\nSelene\\nEmbrace - Healing skill with a potency of 300. The exact same skill as what Eos has.\\nSilent Dawn - Silences (prevents a target from casting spells) for 1 second.\\nFey Glow - Increases the spell speed for all nearby allies (15y) by 30% for 30 seconds.\\nFey Light - Increases the skill speed for all nearby allies (15y) by 30% for 30 seconds.\\nFey Glow and Fey Light cannot be active at the same time.\\n4. Using Macros\\nUse Macros to your advantage.\\nIf you don't know how to open the Macros menu, press the Escape button, and move to the right menu; click \\\"User Macros\\\" (If using controller, press the Start button, head to the right-most menu option, and go down to \\\"User Macros\\\".) These are several of the macros that will help you through your journey!\\nTo make both you and your pet heal at the same time.\\n/micon \\\"Physick\\\"\\n/ac \\\"Physick\\\" <t>\\n/pac \\\"Embrace\\\" <t>\\n\\nFor both Swiftcast and Resurrection\\n/micon \\\"Resurrection\\\"\\n/ac \\\"Swiftcast\\\" <wait>\\n/ac \\\"Resurrection\\\" <t>\\n\\nFor all three of your DoT skills\\n/micon \\\"Bio\\\"\\n/ac \\\"Bio II\\\" <t>\\n/wait 3\\n/ac \\\"Miasma\\\" <t>\\n/wait 3\\n/ac \\\"Bio\\\" <t>\\nTips\\nTerms to know:\\n\\nDoT: Damage over time\\nAoE: Area of Effect\\nBuff: A beneficial status effect, whether on an enemy or an ally.\\nIf there are ever two Scholars in your party, make sure that both of you do not use the same pet. It's much more helpful if someone can buff the party and someone else focuses on keeping everyone alive (though obviously, both Scholars will be healing to make sure no one dies).\\nWarnings\\nScholar can be a tough class to play when in a raid or Primal battle. Make sure you know how to play the class, and how each skill works for maximum effectiveness in battle.\\nCurrently, everything mentioned within this guide is PRE patch 2.5. This guide will be updated after the first expansion has released to reflect any new changes made.\\nIf there is anything you don't agree with, please tell me what it is and why via e-mail. Or, feel free to add it in/fix it yourself.\\nYou can NOT use both Eos and Selene at the same time! Make sure to choose which one will suit your needs at the time better when preparing to summon.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a healer in video games may seem very easy, but there are many things that make them tough to play as, especially at higher levels when there are more numbers flying around the screen! This article will give some insight into how a Scholar plays, along with a few tips for Macros you can use to enhance your play style.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Unlocking the Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hit level 30 as a Arcanist and level 15 as a Conjurer.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go see the Arcanist guild in Limsa Lominsa and accept the next class quest.\", \"描述\": \"At the end of the quest, you will receive a Soul Crystal.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go into your inventory.\", \"描述\": \"Click on the bottom-right slot, and equip the Soul of a Scholar to switch to the Scholar job; you must be an Arcanist when you try to equip it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using Skills and Stats\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get to know your skills and the effects that they have.\", \"描述\": \"Below are several skills that you will definitely be using throughout your time as a Scholar (this list will also include several of the Arcanist class skills, for maximum understanding).\\nPhysick: Your basic healing skill, obtained at level 4 and the the most efficient in basic healing. It has a potency of 400 (the same as the White Mages/Conjurer's Cure I). It costs minimal MP, and is used whenever the tank is starting to lose HP.\\nSummon I: Obtained at level 4, this skill is used to summon the Arcanist's, Scholar's, and Summoner's first pet. For a Scholar, this pet is Eos. This spell should always be cast AS SOON as you enter any dungeon, or even out in the field! Without your pet, as a Scholar, you're healing will be noticeably less effective!\\nAetherflow: Obtained at level 6. It restores 20% of your MP. Also, at level 8, 20, and 40, you obtain a Trait to give you stacks of Aetherdam, which is required to cast certain spells. (One cast gives max stacks of Aetherflow.)\\nEnergy Drain: Level 8 skill that drains deals damage to the enemy with a potency of 150, along with giving you 50% of the damage dealt as HP, and a small amount of MP. Usually used when you're running low on MP during intense fights.\\nSummon II: Obtained from the level 15 Arcanist quest, this will summon the Arcanist's, Scholar's, and Summoner's second pet. For a Scholar, this pet is Selene. The same rules as with Summon I apply here.\\nResurrection: Level 22 skill. Revives the target in a weakened state (Stats reduced for several minutes).\\nEye for an Eye: Level 34 Arcanist skill. Puts a barrier around the target with an effect of \\\"20% chance that when barrier is struck, the striker will deal 10% less damage for 20s.\\\"\\nAdloquium: Level 30 Scholar skill, used for healing. It has a potency of 300, but also gives a status effect on the target when casted. It will absorb up to the amount of damage you healed. Ex: If you were to heal someone for 100 HP, the next 100 HP damage they would take would be negated. Also, if the heal is a critical, it will absorb up to double the damage the target would take.\\nSuccor: Level 35 Scholar healing skill. It has a healing potency of 150 and is an AoE spell. It has the same effect as Adloquium, except without the critical effect. Useful if the party is taking minor damage.\\nLeeches: Level 40 Scholar healing skill. It removes one harmful status effect from the target. Ex: Burn, poison, Windburn.\\nSacred Soil: Level 45 Scholar AoE damage prevention spell. It reduces all damage within the effective area by 10%. It also has a 20% chance of making the next Succor cost no MP. Requires a stack of Aetherflow to cast.\\nLustrate: Level 50 Scholar healing skill. It restores 25% of the targets maximum HP. Very helpful for whenever the (main) tank is running extremely low on HP, due to its instant cast time and fast cool-down time (1.0 seconds). Requires a single stack of Aetherflow to cast it (meaning it can be cast three times within the span of several seconds!). It should only be used sparingly, in emergency situations, due to the 1 minute reload time of Aetherflow.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know your cross-class skills.\", \"描述\": \"These are the more important cross-class skills for when you're running dungeons:\\nProtect: Level 8 Conjurer skill. Decreases physical damage taken. An essential to help reduce the damage taken in a dungeon. (If there is a White Mage, allow them to cast it instead, due to their added Shell effect.)\\nSwiftcast: Level 26 Thaumaturge skill. Another essential skill for when you need to cast resurrection, due to it's long cast time. This skill makes the next spell cast instantly, basically negating the cast time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Mainly pump stats into the Mind stat to ensure maximum healing.\", \"描述\": \"If needed, put a few into Piety for extra MP.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Using Pets\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know your pets.\", \"描述\": \"The second most important thing to being a Scholar is your pets, and making sure you know how they work. First comes the pets themselves, then the skills.\\nEos - Summoned using the Summon I skill. She provides more healing then the other pet, and her buffs are revolved around that. She is helpful for when you need extra healing with you (Note: Both pets do have the Embrace healing skill).\\nSelene - Summoned using the Summon II skill. She has support skills to boost certain aspects of your party (namely, Skill & Spell speed).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use the pet skills!\", \"描述\": \"Please note, before you can order your pet to use skills, you must use the \\\"Obey\\\" command (Look in your skills if it isn't set to your hotbar, or press R1 if on PS3/4 to switch to the pet hotbar when it is summoned).\\nEos\\nEmbrace - Healing skill with a potency of 300. It's like psychic, but for your pet. And somewhat weaker.\\nWhispering Dawn - Restores the HP of all allies in range (15y) for 21 seconds, with a potency of 100.\\nFey Covenant - Increases the Magic Defense of all allies in range (15y) by 20% for 20 seconds.\\nFey Illumination - Increases the amount of HP everyone heals (when they cast a healing spell.) Within range of the spell (15y) by 20% for 20 seconds.\\n\\nSelene\\nEmbrace - Healing skill with a potency of 300. The exact same skill as what Eos has.\\nSilent Dawn - Silences (prevents a target from casting spells) for 1 second.\\nFey Glow - Increases the spell speed for all nearby allies (15y) by 30% for 30 seconds.\\nFey Light - Increases the skill speed for all nearby allies (15y) by 30% for 30 seconds.\\nFey Glow and Fey Light cannot be active at the same time.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Using Macros\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use Macros to your advantage.\", \"描述\": \"If you don't know how to open the Macros menu, press the Escape button, and move to the right menu; click \\\"User Macros\\\" (If using controller, press the Start button, head to the right-most menu option, and go down to \\\"User Macros\\\".) These are several of the macros that will help you through your journey!\\nTo make both you and your pet heal at the same time.\\n/micon \\\"Physick\\\"\\n/ac \\\"Physick\\\" <t>\\n/pac \\\"Embrace\\\" <t>\\n\\nFor both Swiftcast and Resurrection\\n/micon \\\"Resurrection\\\"\\n/ac \\\"Swiftcast\\\" <wait>\\n/ac \\\"Resurrection\\\" <t>\\n\\nFor all three of your DoT skills\\n/micon \\\"Bio\\\"\\n/ac \\\"Bio II\\\" <t>\\n/wait 3\\n/ac \\\"Miasma\\\" <t>\\n/wait 3\\n/ac \\\"Bio\\\" <t>\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Terms to know:\\n\\nDoT: Damage over time\\nAoE: Area of Effect\\nBuff: A beneficial status effect, whether on an enemy or an ally.\\n\", \"If there are ever two Scholars in your party, make sure that both of you do not use the same pet. It's much more helpful if someone can buff the party and someone else focuses on keeping everyone alive (though obviously, both Scholars will be healing to make sure no one dies).\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Scholar can be a tough class to play when in a raid or Primal battle. Make sure you know how to play the class, and how each skill works for maximum effectiveness in battle.\\n\", \"Currently, everything mentioned within this guide is PRE patch 2.5. This guide will be updated after the first expansion has released to reflect any new changes made.\\n\", \"If there is anything you don't agree with, please tell me what it is and why via e-mail. Or, feel free to add it in/fix it yourself.\\n\", \"You can NOT use both Eos and Selene at the same time! Make sure to choose which one will suit your needs at the time better when preparing to summon.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Wooing Your Crush
1-1. Start out with a simple card.
This is the easiest and most personal way to make contact with your crush as their secret admirer. You can either buy stationery or create your own personalized card that will contain your romantic message.
The first time you contact your crush as their Secret Admirer, you want to make it clear what your purpose is. Pick out a Valentine's day card or when making your own use reds and pinks to accentuate the romantic theme.
1-2. Write a thoughtful message to your crush.
Write clearly and to the point. Explain in your own words how you think they're fantastic and why you admire them so much.
Don't talk about yourself. This is their time to shine and you're making that happen by telling them why you think they're so special.
Don't simply say “I like your hair” or other generic platitudes. You want to be sincere, unique, and specific.
1-3. Disguise your handwriting.
Even your handwriting is an detail that might give away your identity. For example, if you sit beside them in class or in meetings, they may know what your penmanship looks like. Since you're writing a love note, go ahead and also take the time to make your script elegant and legible.
If you normally write in print, then try writing in cursive. Or vice versa if you usually write everything in cursive.
If you're worried that your handwriting is illegible and your message will be lost, then use a computer to type your message and pick a fun font.
1-4. Sign both their name and yours.
Make sure that their name is visible on the card. That way, if the card is delivered in error there's a better chance it will make its way back to your crush. You don't want to send a heartfelt note and then find out that they never received it.
Obviously you don't want to use your real name. Instead, pick a fun pseudonym like the classic “Secret Admirer” or “Your Valentine's Day Cupid.”
Make sure you are comfortable with revealing yourself to your crush if you want to use your real name.If you use your real name then you're only an admirer and not a secret one.
1-5. Give them gifts.
Depending on your research, your crush may prefer daffodils to roses, or maybe they love chocolate chip cookies and that would be a perfect surprise on a tough Monday morning. Determine what you could give them to make their day a little brighter and attach your card.
Don't get too personal. Jewelry, lingerie, expensive items, or photos are better for when you're dating this person, not when you're trying to get a relationship started.
1-6. Deliver your card or gift.
This is the trickiest part of being a Secret Admirer. You need to get your card or gift to this person without them knowing it was you. Sneak notes in their locker, gym bag, car window, or mailbox. Pick a location that your crush frequents regularly so that they see it. You could also enlist a friend to be the deliverer. The more anonymous you can be the better.
Timing is everything. You can either start leaving notes and gifts for your crush leading up to Valentine's Day or you could use the whole holiday to lavish them with gifts and messages throughout the day.
If you choose to start wooing your crush before V-Day, keep your displays of affection to one a day so that you don't spook your crush.
1-7. Do thoughtful acts of kindness for them.
You don't just have to give physical gifts to your crush. For example, if you know they'll be occupied all day, you could wash their car and leave a small note on the windshield from their “Secret Admirer.” If you know this person well, you can find out what their needs are and help them out.
1-8. Plan a scavenger hunt for your crush.
Instead of giving a gift or as a way to deliver a gift or card, you could create a scavenger hunt for them on Valentine's Day. This method is also a great way to lead your crush to you on the big day.
Start by slipping your crush a note with the first clue.
Write clues that aren't so vague that they can't figure them out and leave them in relatively nearby places. You don't want your crush running town all day so try and keep things within your school or neighborhood.
With each clue, leave a small gift like a flowers or chocolates.
Leave the biggest gift or most personal gesture for the end. Their excitement will build during the hunt and you want to save the biggest surprise for the grand finale.
1-9. Drop clues to hint at your identity.
You want to pique your crush's curiosity just a little bit. For example, in a note you could say that you love seeing them at the same coffee shop you go to every morning, or that you loved their presentation in class the other day.
2. Revealing Your Identity
2-1. Pick a time to reveal yourself.
Unless you want to string your crush along forever, you need to be brave and tell them who you are. At some point they're going to want to know who is responsible for all of the sweet things you've done for them. Choose a convenient time for both you and your crush. For example, plan on meeting them after their last class of the day for the big reveal.
Listen to what they've been saying about their secret admirer. If it sounds like they're excited to find out who it is, then it's time to reveal yourself.
If they don't seem interested, you may want to stop. You can't control another person's feelings and you should be respectful if they're feeling creeped out.
2-2. Choose a public place.
Coffee shops, parks, and restaurants are all good starts because there will be people around but not so many that you won't have privacy. Remember, you don't want to scare your crush away so pick somewhere relaxing. A bench in a park can be a beautiful setting, but a dark movie theatre will make you seem like a stalker and not an admirer.
2-3. Tell your crush where and how to find you.
You could write a note that says something like “I'll be wearing a red shirt and sunglasses.” Even though you're trying to convey an air of mystery, you need to be clear in your directions so that your crush can actually identify you.
2-4. Introduce yourself as their Secret Admirer.
If you're already involved in this person's life, they may recognize you. However, this is your moment to show them that you're their mysterious and sweet admirer. After the big reveal, follow up by asking them on an official date so that you can continue to get to know each other.
3. Getting to Know Your Crush
3-1. Learn more about your crush.
Chances are, you know this person a little bit already. You probably have a few reason already as to why you admire them. However, you will need to know a few more details in order to do things for them and not get caught.
3-2. Talk to their friends and family.
If you don't know your crush too well, survey the people who are close to them. You can either ask innocent questions in a conversation or ask them outright what your crush likes and dislikes, or what their class schedule looks like.
Be careful when talking with friends and family or your crush. If your crush starts to ask around trying to find out your identity, a friend might accidentally slip up. For example, they could comment that you've been asking about your crush a lot and then your cover would be blown.
It may be better to tell the people you're surveying that you're going to be your crush's secret admirer if you think they can keep a secret. That way, you have someone on the inside who can help you out.
3-3. Take note of their schedule.
You shouldn't know when they brush their teeth every day, but it's good to know if they're busy in gym class or in a meeting. That way you can plan when you're going to leave little surprises for them without being seen or getting caught.
3-4. Avoid getting to know them too well.
In other words, don't be creepy. If you need to do a little research to find out their favorite candy, that's fine. But don't dig so deep that you find out their shoe size and their pet's name. Do some preliminary research so that you can deliver them heartfelt notes, but you should really get to know them personally once you reveal your identity.
3-5. Make a plan.
Decide what your end goal is. If you want to go on a date with this person on Valentine's Day, then you need to start wooing them a few weeks before. Or if you want to just surprise them for one day, you can create a more elaborate, one-time plan. For instance, you could have your crush go on a day-long scavenger hunt on Valentine's Day that leads up to them meeting you that evening for a date.
Warnings
Avoid sending notes and gifts to someone in a relationship. You don't want to be the cause of confusion or a break-up.
Don't stalk your crush. Following them around or sneaking around when you're not delivering a note or gift is bordering on stalking. Make sure that you never do anything illegal while trying to be secretive.
Don't be too over zealous and accidentally blow your cover. Try to play it cool around them even though you know a secret they don't.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Wooing Your Crush\\n1-1. Start out with a simple card.\\nThis is the easiest and most personal way to make contact with your crush as their secret admirer. You can either buy stationery or create your own personalized card that will contain your romantic message.\\nThe first time you contact your crush as their Secret Admirer, you want to make it clear what your purpose is. Pick out a Valentine's day card or when making your own use reds and pinks to accentuate the romantic theme.\\n1-2. Write a thoughtful message to your crush.\\nWrite clearly and to the point. Explain in your own words how you think they're fantastic and why you admire them so much.\\nDon't talk about yourself. This is their time to shine and you're making that happen by telling them why you think they're so special.\\nDon't simply say “I like your hair” or other generic platitudes. You want to be sincere, unique, and specific.\\n1-3. Disguise your handwriting.\\nEven your handwriting is an detail that might give away your identity. For example, if you sit beside them in class or in meetings, they may know what your penmanship looks like. Since you're writing a love note, go ahead and also take the time to make your script elegant and legible.\\nIf you normally write in print, then try writing in cursive. Or vice versa if you usually write everything in cursive.\\nIf you're worried that your handwriting is illegible and your message will be lost, then use a computer to type your message and pick a fun font.\\n1-4. Sign both their name and yours.\\nMake sure that their name is visible on the card. That way, if the card is delivered in error there's a better chance it will make its way back to your crush. You don't want to send a heartfelt note and then find out that they never received it.\\nObviously you don't want to use your real name. Instead, pick a fun pseudonym like the classic “Secret Admirer” or “Your Valentine's Day Cupid.”\\nMake sure you are comfortable with revealing yourself to your crush if you want to use your real name.If you use your real name then you're only an admirer and not a secret one.\\n1-5. Give them gifts.\\nDepending on your research, your crush may prefer daffodils to roses, or maybe they love chocolate chip cookies and that would be a perfect surprise on a tough Monday morning. Determine what you could give them to make their day a little brighter and attach your card.\\nDon't get too personal. Jewelry, lingerie, expensive items, or photos are better for when you're dating this person, not when you're trying to get a relationship started.\\n1-6. Deliver your card or gift.\\nThis is the trickiest part of being a Secret Admirer. You need to get your card or gift to this person without them knowing it was you. Sneak notes in their locker, gym bag, car window, or mailbox. Pick a location that your crush frequents regularly so that they see it. You could also enlist a friend to be the deliverer. The more anonymous you can be the better.\\nTiming is everything. You can either start leaving notes and gifts for your crush leading up to Valentine's Day or you could use the whole holiday to lavish them with gifts and messages throughout the day.\\nIf you choose to start wooing your crush before V-Day, keep your displays of affection to one a day so that you don't spook your crush.\\n1-7. Do thoughtful acts of kindness for them.\\nYou don't just have to give physical gifts to your crush. For example, if you know they'll be occupied all day, you could wash their car and leave a small note on the windshield from their “Secret Admirer.” If you know this person well, you can find out what their needs are and help them out.\\n1-8. Plan a scavenger hunt for your crush.\\nInstead of giving a gift or as a way to deliver a gift or card, you could create a scavenger hunt for them on Valentine's Day. This method is also a great way to lead your crush to you on the big day.\\nStart by slipping your crush a note with the first clue.\\nWrite clues that aren't so vague that they can't figure them out and leave them in relatively nearby places. You don't want your crush running town all day so try and keep things within your school or neighborhood.\\nWith each clue, leave a small gift like a flowers or chocolates.\\nLeave the biggest gift or most personal gesture for the end. Their excitement will build during the hunt and you want to save the biggest surprise for the grand finale.\\n1-9. Drop clues to hint at your identity.\\nYou want to pique your crush's curiosity just a little bit. For example, in a note you could say that you love seeing them at the same coffee shop you go to every morning, or that you loved their presentation in class the other day.\\n2. Revealing Your Identity\\n2-1. Pick a time to reveal yourself.\\nUnless you want to string your crush along forever, you need to be brave and tell them who you are. At some point they're going to want to know who is responsible for all of the sweet things you've done for them. Choose a convenient time for both you and your crush. For example, plan on meeting them after their last class of the day for the big reveal.\\nListen to what they've been saying about their secret admirer. If it sounds like they're excited to find out who it is, then it's time to reveal yourself.\\nIf they don't seem interested, you may want to stop. You can't control another person's feelings and you should be respectful if they're feeling creeped out.\\n2-2. Choose a public place.\\nCoffee shops, parks, and restaurants are all good starts because there will be people around but not so many that you won't have privacy. Remember, you don't want to scare your crush away so pick somewhere relaxing. A bench in a park can be a beautiful setting, but a dark movie theatre will make you seem like a stalker and not an admirer.\\n2-3. Tell your crush where and how to find you.\\nYou could write a note that says something like “I'll be wearing a red shirt and sunglasses.” Even though you're trying to convey an air of mystery, you need to be clear in your directions so that your crush can actually identify you.\\n2-4. Introduce yourself as their Secret Admirer.\\nIf you're already involved in this person's life, they may recognize you. However, this is your moment to show them that you're their mysterious and sweet admirer. After the big reveal, follow up by asking them on an official date so that you can continue to get to know each other.\\n3. Getting to Know Your Crush\\n3-1. Learn more about your crush.\\nChances are, you know this person a little bit already. You probably have a few reason already as to why you admire them. However, you will need to know a few more details in order to do things for them and not get caught.\\n3-2. Talk to their friends and family.\\nIf you don't know your crush too well, survey the people who are close to them. You can either ask innocent questions in a conversation or ask them outright what your crush likes and dislikes, or what their class schedule looks like.\\nBe careful when talking with friends and family or your crush. If your crush starts to ask around trying to find out your identity, a friend might accidentally slip up. For example, they could comment that you've been asking about your crush a lot and then your cover would be blown.\\nIt may be better to tell the people you're surveying that you're going to be your crush's secret admirer if you think they can keep a secret. That way, you have someone on the inside who can help you out.\\n3-3. Take note of their schedule.\\nYou shouldn't know when they brush their teeth every day, but it's good to know if they're busy in gym class or in a meeting. That way you can plan when you're going to leave little surprises for them without being seen or getting caught.\\n3-4. Avoid getting to know them too well.\\nIn other words, don't be creepy. If you need to do a little research to find out their favorite candy, that's fine. But don't dig so deep that you find out their shoe size and their pet's name. Do some preliminary research so that you can deliver them heartfelt notes, but you should really get to know them personally once you reveal your identity.\\n3-5. Make a plan.\\nDecide what your end goal is. If you want to go on a date with this person on Valentine's Day, then you need to start wooing them a few weeks before. Or if you want to just surprise them for one day, you can create a more elaborate, one-time plan. For instance, you could have your crush go on a day-long scavenger hunt on Valentine's Day that leads up to them meeting you that evening for a date.\\nWarnings\\nAvoid sending notes and gifts to someone in a relationship. You don't want to be the cause of confusion or a break-up.\\nDon't stalk your crush. Following them around or sneaking around when you're not delivering a note or gift is bordering on stalking. Make sure that you never do anything illegal while trying to be secretive.\\nDon't be too over zealous and accidentally blow your cover. Try to play it cool around them even though you know a secret they don't.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Valentine's Day is a great time for the chance to be someone's mysterious secret admirer. 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Explain in your own words how you think they're fantastic and why you admire them so much.\\nDon't talk about yourself. This is their time to shine and you're making that happen by telling them why you think they're so special.\\nDon't simply say “I like your hair” or other generic platitudes. You want to be sincere, unique, and specific.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Disguise your handwriting.\", \"描述\": \"Even your handwriting is an detail that might give away your identity. For example, if you sit beside them in class or in meetings, they may know what your penmanship looks like. Since you're writing a love note, go ahead and also take the time to make your script elegant and legible.\\nIf you normally write in print, then try writing in cursive. Or vice versa if you usually write everything in cursive.\\nIf you're worried that your handwriting is illegible and your message will be lost, then use a computer to type your message and pick a fun font.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Sign both their name and yours.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure that their name is visible on the card. That way, if the card is delivered in error there's a better chance it will make its way back to your crush. You don't want to send a heartfelt note and then find out that they never received it.\\nObviously you don't want to use your real name. Instead, pick a fun pseudonym like the classic “Secret Admirer” or “Your Valentine's Day Cupid.”\\nMake sure you are comfortable with revealing yourself to your crush if you want to use your real name.If you use your real name then you're only an admirer and not a secret one.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give them gifts.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on your research, your crush may prefer daffodils to roses, or maybe they love chocolate chip cookies and that would be a perfect surprise on a tough Monday morning. Determine what you could give them to make their day a little brighter and attach your card.\\nDon't get too personal. Jewelry, lingerie, expensive items, or photos are better for when you're dating this person, not when you're trying to get a relationship started.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Deliver your card or gift.\", \"描述\": \"This is the trickiest part of being a Secret Admirer. You need to get your card or gift to this person without them knowing it was you. Sneak notes in their locker, gym bag, car window, or mailbox. Pick a location that your crush frequents regularly so that they see it. You could also enlist a friend to be the deliverer. The more anonymous you can be the better.\\nTiming is everything. You can either start leaving notes and gifts for your crush leading up to Valentine's Day or you could use the whole holiday to lavish them with gifts and messages throughout the day.\\nIf you choose to start wooing your crush before V-Day, keep your displays of affection to one a day so that you don't spook your crush.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Do thoughtful acts of kindness for them.\", \"描述\": \"You don't just have to give physical gifts to your crush. For example, if you know they'll be occupied all day, you could wash their car and leave a small note on the windshield from their “Secret Admirer.” If you know this person well, you can find out what their needs are and help them out.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Plan a scavenger hunt for your crush.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of giving a gift or as a way to deliver a gift or card, you could create a scavenger hunt for them on Valentine's Day. This method is also a great way to lead your crush to you on the big day.\\nStart by slipping your crush a note with the first clue.\\nWrite clues that aren't so vague that they can't figure them out and leave them in relatively nearby places. You don't want your crush running town all day so try and keep things within your school or neighborhood.\\nWith each clue, leave a small gift like a flowers or chocolates.\\nLeave the biggest gift or most personal gesture for the end. 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1. Building Spy Skills
1-1. Be charismatic.
James Bond isn't a great secret agent because he was the strongest, sneakiest, or the smartest. What he lacks in traditional action-hero skills, he makes up for in his ability to adapt to himself to the situation and the setting. He oozes charisma. A great secret agent has to be able to charm complete strangers, manipulating them to do what you want. If your target is playing high-stakes poker in Morocco, you've got to be able chat your way past the doorman, ante up, and charm your way into the game. How do you do it? Charisma.
To practice, work on getting phone numbers from strangers in public. Chat up people you don't know and work your way into their graces. Practice your witty one-offs, pithy comebacks, and all-around good-natured charm.
1-2. Spend time perfecting your acting skills with different kinds of people.
Go places you might not be welcome and try to fit in and learn everything you can from the locals. Can you pretend to be a southern mill worker, struggling to make ends meet? Can you pretend to be a French-Canadian diplomat? What about a singer-songwriter from Belize? A good secret agent says yes.
Learn about both high and low culture. If you've got to embed with French dignitaries who are operating illegal smuggling operations, you've got to be able to talk French wine and opera with the best of them. You also might be expected to sneak into an oil derrick and be comfortable next to hard-drinking roughnecks, which means you better know at least one George Jones song off the top of your head.
1-3. Learn to detect lies and learn to tell lies.
If a secret agent gets caught by security guards at midnight hiding in the records room with a flashlight, he must come up with an excuse or an escape in the blink of an eye and make that lie believable. Likewise, if you're the one finding the suspicious behavior, you've got to be able to find the lie quickly and efficiently. Learning to detect lies can help make you a better liar as well.
Watch body language. Liars tend to fold up, keeping their limbs in and their body away from others, symbolizing discomfort. People telling the truth will "spread out" more.
Liars will avoid contractions, re-start sentences, and often repeat the question verbatim as a way of stalling and coming up with a suitable answer. To avoid the need for this, practice your excuse and your lie ahead of time so you won't have to stall and give yourself away.
Relax when you're telling a lie. If you know you're going to have to tell a fib, calm down. Most lie detection occurs because someone gets agitated and anxious. If you're relaxed, your lie will seem more like truth.
1-4. Stay in shape and be athletic.
A secret agent might need to scramble over barbed wire fences, hang precipitously from the landing gear of a helicopter, or sneak through the sewage system of Nestle. Or, you know, at least run really fast. If you want to hang tough in the espionage racket, get in shape and be physically fit for duty.
Focus on cardio more than strength-building exercises. Most secret agents don't look like Schwarzenegger, but might need to run like an Olympic sprinter to get away from guard dogs, security guards, or other lackeys.
The secret weapon of the secret agent might just be yoga. The ability to control your body, to twist and turn through narrow corridors and be all-around physically fit? Secret agent yoga fits the bill.
1-5. Learn to fight.
If things break down, a good secret agent needs to be able to throw down in a fight. You don't want to end up being captured and interrogated by your targets in the back of some shadowy warehouse, and you won't need to worry about it if you can defend yourself with your fists and feet.
To fight properly jump on the balls of your feet and have a hand guarding your solar plexus (chest) and one on front of you ready to punch. When someone comes at you either dodge or block. If you are a beginner, try to dodge and block while moving so if you can't do one you will hopefully stop the kick/punch thanks to the other (or both). If you want to know in full detail how to fight, try out Taekwondo, Aikido, Judo or Karate.
Hit with your second knuckle, not your third. You ideally want to strike with the point of your first two knuckles, driving them into the middle of your opponent's face (the nose and eyes) or solar plexus. Punch straight and punch hard.
1-6. Learn to speak many different languages.
If you're going to go undercover all over the world, you've got to be comfortable speaking the language of your assignment. This is especially true for corporate espionage, and true for select locations in official government agencies, mostly places experiencing turmoil in which agents may be embedded. In-demand languages for secret agents include:
Arabic
Farsi
Russian
Mandarin
Pashto
1-7. Learn to read lips.
One of the most important languages and skills for a young secret agent to learn is the skill of reading body language. Learning to identify information someone's giving up even when they don't realize it is an essential skill for the secret agent.
You can practice this at home by watching a DVD on mute with the subtitles on to get used to the mouth shapes. Then turn the subtitles off and see if you can interpret what the characters are saying. Go to coffee shops and other public places and practice your eavesdropping skills.
2. Joining an Intelligence Organization
2-1. Get an advanced degree in business, foreign languages, or law enforcement.
There's no such thing as an uneducated secret agent. Secret agents don't just sign up straight out of high school, or get plucked from obscurity for their surveillance skills. For most government agencies that employ field agents, at least a bachelor's degree is required and an advanced degree preferred.
Field agents have degrees in all sorts of fields, but language skills, international and policy law, and business administration are all sought-out in particular. You need to study something that will have you involved with global politics. Military experience is also valuable.
In the US, you might try to get an internship with the CIA as a student. Competitive intern programs are available for students studying foreign policy or law enforcement, and the agency tends to hire from this pool of applicants in the long run. If you hope to embed as an undercover agent in the future, this can be an excellent stepping stone.
2-2. Fill out an application with a governmental intelligence agency.
To make your secret agent status official, it's likely that you'll need to get a job working for your government in a covert capacity. While there are many different careers available with organizations like the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) in the United States, covert agents are typically involved in what is called "Clandestine Service." The application is available on the CIA website, found here.
To fill out the application, you'll need to create an account, then search for job openings within the agency. Questions about your background, your education, and your familiarity with foreign policy will be included on the application. You'll also typically need to agree to a background check and go in for a polygraph examination before moving forward with the process.
2-3. Submit to a background check.
To work as a secret agency, you need to have an exceedingly clean record. If you have any felony arrests, or even misdemeanors, your application will likely be flagged and discarded before you even have an opportunity to prove yourself as a reliable agent. There will likely be several hundred applicants for any given job opening, so this is especially critical if you want to succeed.
To give yourself the best possibility of being accepted, stay out of trouble. A polygraph test will be administered to check the accuracy of your claims, and a drug screen will also probably be a part of any application, so you'll also need to stay away from illegal substances and be sober. Any psychological issues, legal issues, or interpersonal quirks can keep you from getting the job. It's a tough gig.
We're talking about the CIA, here, so it's likely that they'll be able to do some deep research. If you called in a bomb threat when you were a senior in high school as a prank, but never got caught, expect something from your past to be brought up in the meeting. No slip-ups.
2-4. Streamline your life.
If you're lucky enough to be one of the few who work in some capacity for a governmental agency, congratulations! But now the real work begins. It's likely that you'll have to uproot your life on a regular basis, moving around between countries, always on call. Are you up for the challenge?
try to keep a minimum amount of possessions and live a relatively spartan existence. Don't keep anything around that you're not willing to walk out on in a minute flat, if trouble comes calling. Excess connections and responsibilities can be a liability. Make your job your life. You're a secret agent, after all!
Being a spy can make interpersonal and romantic relationships very difficult. It's likely that you won't even be able to tell your friends and family about what you do for a living. Will they be ok with this? Will you?
2-5. Consider making yourself available for industrial or corporate espionage.
There are more than one kind of secret agent, so if you have a less than clean record but a good set of espionage skills, you might consider getting into corporate espionage, working for a large corporation to spy on other corporations and report back.
If you don't work for the government, it might be a good idea to start working as a private investigator to build up a reputation as a reliable sneaker and spying agent. This resume can make you attractive to corporations who might want to learn the secrets of their competition.
Corporate espionage, while not strictly speaking illegal, can get you into a lot of trouble if you sign a non-disclosure agreement. Likely, you'll need to work as a double-agent, working for two different companies at once and reporting back to the other about what's going on.
3. Going Undercover
3-1. Learn about the cultures and political climate of the places you'll be embedded.
Once you find out where you're going to be stationed and what you're going to be looking for, collecting, or attempting to facilitate, it's critical that you learn everything you can about the political climate that you'll be wandering into. If you're going to the United Arab Emirates to spy on an oil tycoon, you'll need to treat that job very differently than if you're going to South Florida to work your way in with a militant group.
Study the contemporary landscape as well as the deep history. Learn about the people and the culture, trying to get a sense of the zeitgeist of the people who live there. What makes them tick? How are they different than you?
Learn the geography as well. If you're in Iraq and you need to know how long it takes to get from Baghdad to Kuwait and back before nightfall, you don't want to be messing around on an iPhone trying to figure it out.
3-2. Get a good cover story and make local contacts.
It's likely that you'll be set up with a new fake identity when you're going into the field. Maybe you're going to be a fruit executive working for Dole in Southeast Asia, scouting possible locations for a new operation. The general sketch will be provided, but the specific details of your life will need to be teased out by you.
Treat it like an actor would. Your life may depend on it. Any details that you include about yourself that might be borrowed from your own life could lead potential enemies into digging a little deeper into your history and finding out the truth.
For most jobs, you'll need to find someone to vouch for you and help you get familiar with the local customs, who may or may not know your status as a secret agent. If they do, it's also a good idea to do as much as possible to make your own contacts and work your way into the local landscape.
3-3. Get to know your target.
Keep your enemy close. For the most part, you won't be spying on your targets from a distance, looking through binoculars at shadowy deals going down. You'll be meeting with them face-to-face, swiping their hard drive and making a clean get-away. For this reason, it's absolutely critical that you work your way into your target's good graces.
Learn everything you can about their habits, their likes, and their dislikes. If you find out the general who's dealing dope on the side has a taste for high-end single-malt Scotch, all it might take to get an invitation to dinner is a bottle of Laphroaig.
If you're working on tailing a target, keep your distance and plan a good escape if things go awry. Getting caught while following a target on a grocery-run isn't doing anyone any good.
3-4. Blend in.
If you want to spy, you should blend in with crowds and communities so it seem like you belong. If you're spying on a location, have a good reason to be there. Wear common clothing for the location, which is not easily identifiable. Avoid attracting attention.
Take your time before you start getting into your shadowy doings. For most jobs, you'll be expected not to do anything daring or fancy anyway. You'll mostly just be hanging out and "keeping an eye on things." Don't rush into things and make a mess of the situation. Hang back and treat learning to blend in as your primary goal.
3-5. Stay aware of your surroundings at all times.
Don't get too comfortable. Learn to think on your feet and be resourceful in any kind of situation. Try to practice new, useful ways to use items you carry with you, or replace them with other ones that cover a broader range of useful functionality. Here's a wide range of skills that might come in handy as a secret agent:
fix an engine
throw a knife
repair a radio
unlock handcuffs
3-6. Gather intelligence.
Keep an eye out for anything out of the ordinary, anything that shakes up the routine of your target, your location, or the situation. Even if you're not sure why, it's probably important to get back in touch with the agency back home and report what's going on and what your suspicions are about the targets.
Use your gut instincts and work hard to hone your intuition while you're in the field. In your entire career, it's likely that you'll never catch someone on a wiretap saying, "We're going to bring in the cocaine tomorrow at noon." Criminals aren't stupid, and you've got to learn to look for patterns in behavior and "read" the people you're trailing to learn what it is you want to know.
3-7. Get the hardware and software of the pros.
Spy and Surveillance gadgets can be essential to the job, and it's likely you'll end up using high-tech equipment as your eyes and ears. Bugs are as small as a microchip these days, and you'll likely be briefed on how to use them before you go into the field. Depending on the nature of your assignment, you might have to set aside a considerable amount of time to monitor these surveillance media, as well, so get ready for a lot of long hours sitting by and listening to static, or listening to the CEO of the weapons complex talk about horses with his concubine.
3-8. Prepare a "go" bag.
A good secret agent always has a bag with essentials packed up around so in case of emergency is ready to take. Include a type of survival kit, all weather clothing, and an emergency transponder in case you need to disappear into the night to escape your enemies, but the good guys need to know where to find you.
Tips
Control your emotions.
Be aware that people who are too nice to you may know more about you than you know they do.
Learn to read lips very well before hand.
Warnings
Remember to maintain S.A, or Situation awareness.
This is not like James Bond or Inspector Gadget! Real secret agents lose their lives daily!
Your self awareness and ego MUST be under control.
You must be aware of relevant laws and not do anything illegal, or you may be in big trouble with the police.
If you carry a weapon in public places you could get in big trouble with the police, so don't carry something that could actually harm someone more than a small bump or bruise people around you!
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Building Spy Skills\\n1-1. Be charismatic.\\nJames Bond isn't a great secret agent because he was the strongest, sneakiest, or the smartest. What he lacks in traditional action-hero skills, he makes up for in his ability to adapt to himself to the situation and the setting. He oozes charisma. A great secret agent has to be able to charm complete strangers, manipulating them to do what you want. If your target is playing high-stakes poker in Morocco, you've got to be able chat your way past the doorman, ante up, and charm your way into the game. How do you do it? Charisma.\\nTo practice, work on getting phone numbers from strangers in public. Chat up people you don't know and work your way into their graces. Practice your witty one-offs, pithy comebacks, and all-around good-natured charm.\\n1-2. Spend time perfecting your acting skills with different kinds of people.\\nGo places you might not be welcome and try to fit in and learn everything you can from the locals. Can you pretend to be a southern mill worker, struggling to make ends meet? Can you pretend to be a French-Canadian diplomat? What about a singer-songwriter from Belize? A good secret agent says yes.\\nLearn about both high and low culture. If you've got to embed with French dignitaries who are operating illegal smuggling operations, you've got to be able to talk French wine and opera with the best of them. You also might be expected to sneak into an oil derrick and be comfortable next to hard-drinking roughnecks, which means you better know at least one George Jones song off the top of your head.\\n1-3. Learn to detect lies and learn to tell lies.\\nIf a secret agent gets caught by security guards at midnight hiding in the records room with a flashlight, he must come up with an excuse or an escape in the blink of an eye and make that lie believable. Likewise, if you're the one finding the suspicious behavior, you've got to be able to find the lie quickly and efficiently. Learning to detect lies can help make you a better liar as well.\\nWatch body language. Liars tend to fold up, keeping their limbs in and their body away from others, symbolizing discomfort. People telling the truth will \\\"spread out\\\" more.\\nLiars will avoid contractions, re-start sentences, and often repeat the question verbatim as a way of stalling and coming up with a suitable answer. To avoid the need for this, practice your excuse and your lie ahead of time so you won't have to stall and give yourself away.\\nRelax when you're telling a lie. If you know you're going to have to tell a fib, calm down. Most lie detection occurs because someone gets agitated and anxious. If you're relaxed, your lie will seem more like truth.\\n1-4. Stay in shape and be athletic.\\nA secret agent might need to scramble over barbed wire fences, hang precipitously from the landing gear of a helicopter, or sneak through the sewage system of Nestle. Or, you know, at least run really fast. If you want to hang tough in the espionage racket, get in shape and be physically fit for duty.\\nFocus on cardio more than strength-building exercises. Most secret agents don't look like Schwarzenegger, but might need to run like an Olympic sprinter to get away from guard dogs, security guards, or other lackeys.\\nThe secret weapon of the secret agent might just be yoga. The ability to control your body, to twist and turn through narrow corridors and be all-around physically fit? Secret agent yoga fits the bill.\\n1-5. Learn to fight.\\nIf things break down, a good secret agent needs to be able to throw down in a fight. You don't want to end up being captured and interrogated by your targets in the back of some shadowy warehouse, and you won't need to worry about it if you can defend yourself with your fists and feet.\\nTo fight properly jump on the balls of your feet and have a hand guarding your solar plexus (chest) and one on front of you ready to punch. When someone comes at you either dodge or block. If you are a beginner, try to dodge and block while moving so if you can't do one you will hopefully stop the kick/punch thanks to the other (or both). If you want to know in full detail how to fight, try out Taekwondo, Aikido, Judo or Karate.\\nHit with your second knuckle, not your third. You ideally want to strike with the point of your first two knuckles, driving them into the middle of your opponent's face (the nose and eyes) or solar plexus. Punch straight and punch hard.\\n1-6. Learn to speak many different languages.\\nIf you're going to go undercover all over the world, you've got to be comfortable speaking the language of your assignment. This is especially true for corporate espionage, and true for select locations in official government agencies, mostly places experiencing turmoil in which agents may be embedded. In-demand languages for secret agents include:\\nArabic\\nFarsi\\nRussian\\nMandarin\\nPashto\\n1-7. Learn to read lips.\\nOne of the most important languages and skills for a young secret agent to learn is the skill of reading body language. Learning to identify information someone's giving up even when they don't realize it is an essential skill for the secret agent.\\nYou can practice this at home by watching a DVD on mute with the subtitles on to get used to the mouth shapes. Then turn the subtitles off and see if you can interpret what the characters are saying. Go to coffee shops and other public places and practice your eavesdropping skills.\\n2. Joining an Intelligence Organization\\n2-1. Get an advanced degree in business, foreign languages, or law enforcement.\\nThere's no such thing as an uneducated secret agent. Secret agents don't just sign up straight out of high school, or get plucked from obscurity for their surveillance skills. For most government agencies that employ field agents, at least a bachelor's degree is required and an advanced degree preferred.\\nField agents have degrees in all sorts of fields, but language skills, international and policy law, and business administration are all sought-out in particular. You need to study something that will have you involved with global politics. Military experience is also valuable.\\nIn the US, you might try to get an internship with the CIA as a student. Competitive intern programs are available for students studying foreign policy or law enforcement, and the agency tends to hire from this pool of applicants in the long run. If you hope to embed as an undercover agent in the future, this can be an excellent stepping stone.\\n2-2. Fill out an application with a governmental intelligence agency.\\nTo make your secret agent status official, it's likely that you'll need to get a job working for your government in a covert capacity. While there are many different careers available with organizations like the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) in the United States, covert agents are typically involved in what is called \\\"Clandestine Service.\\\" The application is available on the CIA website, found here.\\nTo fill out the application, you'll need to create an account, then search for job openings within the agency. Questions about your background, your education, and your familiarity with foreign policy will be included on the application. You'll also typically need to agree to a background check and go in for a polygraph examination before moving forward with the process.\\n2-3. Submit to a background check.\\nTo work as a secret agency, you need to have an exceedingly clean record. If you have any felony arrests, or even misdemeanors, your application will likely be flagged and discarded before you even have an opportunity to prove yourself as a reliable agent. There will likely be several hundred applicants for any given job opening, so this is especially critical if you want to succeed.\\nTo give yourself the best possibility of being accepted, stay out of trouble. A polygraph test will be administered to check the accuracy of your claims, and a drug screen will also probably be a part of any application, so you'll also need to stay away from illegal substances and be sober. Any psychological issues, legal issues, or interpersonal quirks can keep you from getting the job. It's a tough gig.\\nWe're talking about the CIA, here, so it's likely that they'll be able to do some deep research. If you called in a bomb threat when you were a senior in high school as a prank, but never got caught, expect something from your past to be brought up in the meeting. No slip-ups.\\n2-4. Streamline your life.\\nIf you're lucky enough to be one of the few who work in some capacity for a governmental agency, congratulations! But now the real work begins. It's likely that you'll have to uproot your life on a regular basis, moving around between countries, always on call. Are you up for the challenge?\\ntry to keep a minimum amount of possessions and live a relatively spartan existence. Don't keep anything around that you're not willing to walk out on in a minute flat, if trouble comes calling. Excess connections and responsibilities can be a liability. Make your job your life. You're a secret agent, after all!\\nBeing a spy can make interpersonal and romantic relationships very difficult. It's likely that you won't even be able to tell your friends and family about what you do for a living. Will they be ok with this? Will you?\\n2-5. Consider making yourself available for industrial or corporate espionage.\\nThere are more than one kind of secret agent, so if you have a less than clean record but a good set of espionage skills, you might consider getting into corporate espionage, working for a large corporation to spy on other corporations and report back.\\nIf you don't work for the government, it might be a good idea to start working as a private investigator to build up a reputation as a reliable sneaker and spying agent. This resume can make you attractive to corporations who might want to learn the secrets of their competition.\\nCorporate espionage, while not strictly speaking illegal, can get you into a lot of trouble if you sign a non-disclosure agreement. Likely, you'll need to work as a double-agent, working for two different companies at once and reporting back to the other about what's going on.\\n3. Going Undercover\\n3-1. Learn about the cultures and political climate of the places you'll be embedded.\\nOnce you find out where you're going to be stationed and what you're going to be looking for, collecting, or attempting to facilitate, it's critical that you learn everything you can about the political climate that you'll be wandering into. If you're going to the United Arab Emirates to spy on an oil tycoon, you'll need to treat that job very differently than if you're going to South Florida to work your way in with a militant group.\\nStudy the contemporary landscape as well as the deep history. Learn about the people and the culture, trying to get a sense of the zeitgeist of the people who live there. What makes them tick? How are they different than you?\\nLearn the geography as well. If you're in Iraq and you need to know how long it takes to get from Baghdad to Kuwait and back before nightfall, you don't want to be messing around on an iPhone trying to figure it out.\\n3-2. Get a good cover story and make local contacts.\\nIt's likely that you'll be set up with a new fake identity when you're going into the field. Maybe you're going to be a fruit executive working for Dole in Southeast Asia, scouting possible locations for a new operation. The general sketch will be provided, but the specific details of your life will need to be teased out by you.\\nTreat it like an actor would. Your life may depend on it. Any details that you include about yourself that might be borrowed from your own life could lead potential enemies into digging a little deeper into your history and finding out the truth.\\nFor most jobs, you'll need to find someone to vouch for you and help you get familiar with the local customs, who may or may not know your status as a secret agent. If they do, it's also a good idea to do as much as possible to make your own contacts and work your way into the local landscape.\\n3-3. Get to know your target.\\nKeep your enemy close. For the most part, you won't be spying on your targets from a distance, looking through binoculars at shadowy deals going down. You'll be meeting with them face-to-face, swiping their hard drive and making a clean get-away. For this reason, it's absolutely critical that you work your way into your target's good graces.\\nLearn everything you can about their habits, their likes, and their dislikes. If you find out the general who's dealing dope on the side has a taste for high-end single-malt Scotch, all it might take to get an invitation to dinner is a bottle of Laphroaig.\\nIf you're working on tailing a target, keep your distance and plan a good escape if things go awry. Getting caught while following a target on a grocery-run isn't doing anyone any good.\\n3-4. Blend in.\\nIf you want to spy, you should blend in with crowds and communities so it seem like you belong. If you're spying on a location, have a good reason to be there. Wear common clothing for the location, which is not easily identifiable. Avoid attracting attention.\\nTake your time before you start getting into your shadowy doings. For most jobs, you'll be expected not to do anything daring or fancy anyway. You'll mostly just be hanging out and \\\"keeping an eye on things.\\\" Don't rush into things and make a mess of the situation. Hang back and treat learning to blend in as your primary goal.\\n3-5. Stay aware of your surroundings at all times.\\nDon't get too comfortable. Learn to think on your feet and be resourceful in any kind of situation. Try to practice new, useful ways to use items you carry with you, or replace them with other ones that cover a broader range of useful functionality. Here's a wide range of skills that might come in handy as a secret agent:\\nfix an engine\\nthrow a knife\\nrepair a radio\\nunlock handcuffs\\n3-6. Gather intelligence.\\nKeep an eye out for anything out of the ordinary, anything that shakes up the routine of your target, your location, or the situation. Even if you're not sure why, it's probably important to get back in touch with the agency back home and report what's going on and what your suspicions are about the targets.\\nUse your gut instincts and work hard to hone your intuition while you're in the field. In your entire career, it's likely that you'll never catch someone on a wiretap saying, \\\"We're going to bring in the cocaine tomorrow at noon.\\\" Criminals aren't stupid, and you've got to learn to look for patterns in behavior and \\\"read\\\" the people you're trailing to learn what it is you want to know.\\n3-7. Get the hardware and software of the pros.\\nSpy and Surveillance gadgets can be essential to the job, and it's likely you'll end up using high-tech equipment as your eyes and ears. Bugs are as small as a microchip these days, and you'll likely be briefed on how to use them before you go into the field. Depending on the nature of your assignment, you might have to set aside a considerable amount of time to monitor these surveillance media, as well, so get ready for a lot of long hours sitting by and listening to static, or listening to the CEO of the weapons complex talk about horses with his concubine.\\n3-8. Prepare a \\\"go\\\" bag.\\nA good secret agent always has a bag with essentials packed up around so in case of emergency is ready to take. Include a type of survival kit, all weather clothing, and an emergency transponder in case you need to disappear into the night to escape your enemies, but the good guys need to know where to find you.\\nTips\\nControl your emotions.\\nBe aware that people who are too nice to you may know more about you than you know they do.\\nLearn to read lips very well before hand.\\nWarnings\\nRemember to maintain S.A, or Situation awareness.\\nThis is not like James Bond or Inspector Gadget! Real secret agents lose their lives daily!\\nYour self awareness and ego MUST be under control.\\nYou must be aware of relevant laws and not do anything illegal, or you may be in big trouble with the police.\\nIf you carry a weapon in public places you could get in big trouble with the police, so don't carry something that could actually harm someone more than a small bump or bruise people around you!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Secret agents may be all around us, working for government agencies, corporate entities, and private organizations to collect information and report back. If you want to trade in secrets, and you think you've got what it takes to be a good field agent, you can learn how to build the real skills necessary to get the job done right, as well as how to join up with an intelligence agency, and do field work the right way. See Step 1 for more information.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Building Spy Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be charismatic.\", \"描述\": \"James Bond isn't a great secret agent because he was the strongest, sneakiest, or the smartest. What he lacks in traditional action-hero skills, he makes up for in his ability to adapt to himself to the situation and the setting. He oozes charisma. A great secret agent has to be able to charm complete strangers, manipulating them to do what you want. If your target is playing high-stakes poker in Morocco, you've got to be able chat your way past the doorman, ante up, and charm your way into the game. How do you do it? Charisma.\\nTo practice, work on getting phone numbers from strangers in public. Chat up people you don't know and work your way into their graces. Practice your witty one-offs, pithy comebacks, and all-around good-natured charm.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Spend time perfecting your acting skills with different kinds of people.\", \"描述\": \"Go places you might not be welcome and try to fit in and learn everything you can from the locals. Can you pretend to be a southern mill worker, struggling to make ends meet? Can you pretend to be a French-Canadian diplomat? What about a singer-songwriter from Belize? A good secret agent says yes.\\nLearn about both high and low culture. If you've got to embed with French dignitaries who are operating illegal smuggling operations, you've got to be able to talk French wine and opera with the best of them. You also might be expected to sneak into an oil derrick and be comfortable next to hard-drinking roughnecks, which means you better know at least one George Jones song off the top of your head.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn to detect lies and learn to tell lies.\", \"描述\": \"If a secret agent gets caught by security guards at midnight hiding in the records room with a flashlight, he must come up with an excuse or an escape in the blink of an eye and make that lie believable. Likewise, if you're the one finding the suspicious behavior, you've got to be able to find the lie quickly and efficiently. Learning to detect lies can help make you a better liar as well.\\nWatch body language. Liars tend to fold up, keeping their limbs in and their body away from others, symbolizing discomfort. People telling the truth will \\\"spread out\\\" more.\\nLiars will avoid contractions, re-start sentences, and often repeat the question verbatim as a way of stalling and coming up with a suitable answer. To avoid the need for this, practice your excuse and your lie ahead of time so you won't have to stall and give yourself away.\\nRelax when you're telling a lie. If you know you're going to have to tell a fib, calm down. Most lie detection occurs because someone gets agitated and anxious. If you're relaxed, your lie will seem more like truth.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay in shape and be athletic.\", \"描述\": \"A secret agent might need to scramble over barbed wire fences, hang precipitously from the landing gear of a helicopter, or sneak through the sewage system of Nestle. Or, you know, at least run really fast. If you want to hang tough in the espionage racket, get in shape and be physically fit for duty.\\nFocus on cardio more than strength-building exercises. Most secret agents don't look like Schwarzenegger, but might need to run like an Olympic sprinter to get away from guard dogs, security guards, or other lackeys.\\nThe secret weapon of the secret agent might just be yoga. The ability to control your body, to twist and turn through narrow corridors and be all-around physically fit? Secret agent yoga fits the bill.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn to fight.\", \"描述\": \"If things break down, a good secret agent needs to be able to throw down in a fight. You don't want to end up being captured and interrogated by your targets in the back of some shadowy warehouse, and you won't need to worry about it if you can defend yourself with your fists and feet.\\nTo fight properly jump on the balls of your feet and have a hand guarding your solar plexus (chest) and one on front of you ready to punch. When someone comes at you either dodge or block. If you are a beginner, try to dodge and block while moving so if you can't do one you will hopefully stop the kick/punch thanks to the other (or both). If you want to know in full detail how to fight, try out Taekwondo, Aikido, Judo or Karate.\\nHit with your second knuckle, not your third. You ideally want to strike with the point of your first two knuckles, driving them into the middle of your opponent's face (the nose and eyes) or solar plexus. Punch straight and punch hard.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn to speak many different languages.\", \"描述\": \"If you're going to go undercover all over the world, you've got to be comfortable speaking the language of your assignment. This is especially true for corporate espionage, and true for select locations in official government agencies, mostly places experiencing turmoil in which agents may be embedded. In-demand languages for secret agents include:\\nArabic\\nFarsi\\nRussian\\nMandarin\\nPashto\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Learn to read lips.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most important languages and skills for a young secret agent to learn is the skill of reading body language. Learning to identify information someone's giving up even when they don't realize it is an essential skill for the secret agent.\\nYou can practice this at home by watching a DVD on mute with the subtitles on to get used to the mouth shapes. Then turn the subtitles off and see if you can interpret what the characters are saying. Go to coffee shops and other public places and practice your eavesdropping skills.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Joining an Intelligence Organization\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get an advanced degree in business, foreign languages, or law enforcement.\", \"描述\": \"There's no such thing as an uneducated secret agent. Secret agents don't just sign up straight out of high school, or get plucked from obscurity for their surveillance skills. For most government agencies that employ field agents, at least a bachelor's degree is required and an advanced degree preferred.\\nField agents have degrees in all sorts of fields, but language skills, international and policy law, and business administration are all sought-out in particular. You need to study something that will have you involved with global politics. Military experience is also valuable.\\nIn the US, you might try to get an internship with the CIA as a student. Competitive intern programs are available for students studying foreign policy or law enforcement, and the agency tends to hire from this pool of applicants in the long run. If you hope to embed as an undercover agent in the future, this can be an excellent stepping stone.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fill out an application with a governmental intelligence agency.\", \"描述\": \"To make your secret agent status official, it's likely that you'll need to get a job working for your government in a covert capacity. While there are many different careers available with organizations like the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) in the United States, covert agents are typically involved in what is called \\\"Clandestine Service.\\\" The application is available on the CIA website, found here.\\nTo fill out the application, you'll need to create an account, then search for job openings within the agency. Questions about your background, your education, and your familiarity with foreign policy will be included on the application. You'll also typically need to agree to a background check and go in for a polygraph examination before moving forward with the process.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Submit to a background check.\", \"描述\": \"To work as a secret agency, you need to have an exceedingly clean record. If you have any felony arrests, or even misdemeanors, your application will likely be flagged and discarded before you even have an opportunity to prove yourself as a reliable agent. There will likely be several hundred applicants for any given job opening, so this is especially critical if you want to succeed.\\nTo give yourself the best possibility of being accepted, stay out of trouble. A polygraph test will be administered to check the accuracy of your claims, and a drug screen will also probably be a part of any application, so you'll also need to stay away from illegal substances and be sober. Any psychological issues, legal issues, or interpersonal quirks can keep you from getting the job. It's a tough gig.\\nWe're talking about the CIA, here, so it's likely that they'll be able to do some deep research. If you called in a bomb threat when you were a senior in high school as a prank, but never got caught, expect something from your past to be brought up in the meeting. No slip-ups.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Streamline your life.\", \"描述\": \"If you're lucky enough to be one of the few who work in some capacity for a governmental agency, congratulations! But now the real work begins. It's likely that you'll have to uproot your life on a regular basis, moving around between countries, always on call. Are you up for the challenge?\\ntry to keep a minimum amount of possessions and live a relatively spartan existence. Don't keep anything around that you're not willing to walk out on in a minute flat, if trouble comes calling. Excess connections and responsibilities can be a liability. Make your job your life. You're a secret agent, after all!\\nBeing a spy can make interpersonal and romantic relationships very difficult. It's likely that you won't even be able to tell your friends and family about what you do for a living. Will they be ok with this? Will you?\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider making yourself available for industrial or corporate espionage.\", \"描述\": \"There are more than one kind of secret agent, so if you have a less than clean record but a good set of espionage skills, you might consider getting into corporate espionage, working for a large corporation to spy on other corporations and report back.\\nIf you don't work for the government, it might be a good idea to start working as a private investigator to build up a reputation as a reliable sneaker and spying agent. This resume can make you attractive to corporations who might want to learn the secrets of their competition.\\nCorporate espionage, while not strictly speaking illegal, can get you into a lot of trouble if you sign a non-disclosure agreement. Likely, you'll need to work as a double-agent, working for two different companies at once and reporting back to the other about what's going on.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Going Undercover\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn about the cultures and political climate of the places you'll be embedded.\", \"描述\": \"Once you find out where you're going to be stationed and what you're going to be looking for, collecting, or attempting to facilitate, it's critical that you learn everything you can about the political climate that you'll be wandering into. If you're going to the United Arab Emirates to spy on an oil tycoon, you'll need to treat that job very differently than if you're going to South Florida to work your way in with a militant group.\\nStudy the contemporary landscape as well as the deep history. Learn about the people and the culture, trying to get a sense of the zeitgeist of the people who live there. What makes them tick? How are they different than you?\\nLearn the geography as well. If you're in Iraq and you need to know how long it takes to get from Baghdad to Kuwait and back before nightfall, you don't want to be messing around on an iPhone trying to figure it out.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get a good cover story and make local contacts.\", \"描述\": \"It's likely that you'll be set up with a new fake identity when you're going into the field. Maybe you're going to be a fruit executive working for Dole in Southeast Asia, scouting possible locations for a new operation. The general sketch will be provided, but the specific details of your life will need to be teased out by you.\\nTreat it like an actor would. Your life may depend on it. Any details that you include about yourself that might be borrowed from your own life could lead potential enemies into digging a little deeper into your history and finding out the truth.\\nFor most jobs, you'll need to find someone to vouch for you and help you get familiar with the local customs, who may or may not know your status as a secret agent. If they do, it's also a good idea to do as much as possible to make your own contacts and work your way into the local landscape.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get to know your target.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your enemy close. For the most part, you won't be spying on your targets from a distance, looking through binoculars at shadowy deals going down. You'll be meeting with them face-to-face, swiping their hard drive and making a clean get-away. For this reason, it's absolutely critical that you work your way into your target's good graces.\\nLearn everything you can about their habits, their likes, and their dislikes. If you find out the general who's dealing dope on the side has a taste for high-end single-malt Scotch, all it might take to get an invitation to dinner is a bottle of Laphroaig.\\nIf you're working on tailing a target, keep your distance and plan a good escape if things go awry. Getting caught while following a target on a grocery-run isn't doing anyone any good.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Blend in.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to spy, you should blend in with crowds and communities so it seem like you belong. If you're spying on a location, have a good reason to be there. Wear common clothing for the location, which is not easily identifiable. Avoid attracting attention.\\nTake your time before you start getting into your shadowy doings. For most jobs, you'll be expected not to do anything daring or fancy anyway. You'll mostly just be hanging out and \\\"keeping an eye on things.\\\" Don't rush into things and make a mess of the situation. Hang back and treat learning to blend in as your primary goal.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay aware of your surroundings at all times.\", \"描述\": \"Don't get too comfortable. Learn to think on your feet and be resourceful in any kind of situation. Try to practice new, useful ways to use items you carry with you, or replace them with other ones that cover a broader range of useful functionality. Here's a wide range of skills that might come in handy as a secret agent:\\nfix an engine\\nthrow a knife\\nrepair a radio\\nunlock handcuffs\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Gather intelligence.\", \"描述\": \"Keep an eye out for anything out of the ordinary, anything that shakes up the routine of your target, your location, or the situation. Even if you're not sure why, it's probably important to get back in touch with the agency back home and report what's going on and what your suspicions are about the targets.\\nUse your gut instincts and work hard to hone your intuition while you're in the field. In your entire career, it's likely that you'll never catch someone on a wiretap saying, \\\"We're going to bring in the cocaine tomorrow at noon.\\\" Criminals aren't stupid, and you've got to learn to look for patterns in behavior and \\\"read\\\" the people you're trailing to learn what it is you want to know.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get the hardware and software of the pros.\", \"描述\": \"Spy and Surveillance gadgets can be essential to the job, and it's likely you'll end up using high-tech equipment as your eyes and ears. Bugs are as small as a microchip these days, and you'll likely be briefed on how to use them before you go into the field. Depending on the nature of your assignment, you might have to set aside a considerable amount of time to monitor these surveillance media, as well, so get ready for a lot of long hours sitting by and listening to static, or listening to the CEO of the weapons complex talk about horses with his concubine.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Prepare a \\\"go\\\" bag.\", \"描述\": \"A good secret agent always has a bag with essentials packed up around so in case of emergency is ready to take. Include a type of survival kit, all weather clothing, and an emergency transponder in case you need to disappear into the night to escape your enemies, but the good guys need to know where to find you.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Control your emotions.\\n\", \"Be aware that people who are too nice to you may know more about you than you know they do.\\n\", \"Learn to read lips very well before hand.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Remember to maintain S.A, or Situation awareness.\\n\", \"This is not like James Bond or Inspector Gadget! Real secret agents lose their lives daily!\\n\", \"Your self awareness and ego MUST be under control.\\n\", \"You must be aware of relevant laws and not do anything illegal, or you may be in big trouble with the police.\\n\", \"If you carry a weapon in public places you could get in big trouble with the police, so don't carry something that could actually harm someone more than a small bump or bruise people around you!\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Learn the basics.
Give yourself a foundation with basic art skills.
Art fundamentals, like perspective, anatomy, and composition are important building blocks in your art career. These skills may seem basic, but they’ll make a big difference in your future art pieces.
2. Read and watch tutorials.
YouTube videos and art-related articles can be great stepping stones.
As you first get started, Google specific art skills or concepts that you’d like to focus on. Videos and articles are easy, free ways to hone your craft.
You might search “oil painting techniques” or “how to draw hands” online.
3. Sign up for online classes.
Pick an online class that fits your art niche.
From traditional sketches to digital art, there are tons of classes out there that can help you refine specific art skill sets. Search online for classes run by professional artists—these are great, hands-on ways to improve your skills.
A lot of professional classes cost money. However, some universities offer free art classes.
Sites like Udemy and Skillshare are great places to find online classes.
4. Start with small projects.
Recreate simple subjects on a small canvas.
Don’t try to make a large, complicated painting or portrait right off the bat. Instead, grab a small canvas and work from there—this will be a lot easier and much less overwhelming than following an in-depth tutorial for a big painting.
An 8 by 8 in (20 by 20 cm) canvas is a great place to start.
5. Study other artists.
Look at well-known art pieces and see what techniques are used.
Don’t directly copy or trace another artist’s work; instead, focus on the specific brush techniques they used, and how they layered and blended different aspects of their work.
Iconic artists, like Da Vinci and Van Gogh, are great to reference and learn from.
6. Practice regularly.
Dedicate time to your craft every day.
It’s okay if your schedule is jam-packed. Even a half-hour of drawing each day can help you improve and grow!
7. Document all your art.
Post your art on social media.
A social media account, like Twitter or Instagram, is a great way to chart your starting point and an even greater way to track your progress. Once you’ve created a lot of art, you might even compare your older works to your newer ones and see what’s changed.
8. Join the art community.
The art community is a great way to connect with other artists.
Network with artists on social media, or enter art competitions and exhibitions. You might also interact with other artists through forums and demonstrations.
9. Ask for feedback.
A second pair of eyes can be a big help.
Ask a friend or art acquaintance to take a look at your artwork. They can help point out areas of improvement, so you know what to focus on in the future.
10. Go easy on yourself.
Don’t compare your art to other artists.
Becoming a self-taught artist is a long journey. Instead, love and accept your art for what it is instead of expecting it to be of professional caliber right away.
Tips
Being a self-taught artist comes with its share of challenges, but you’re in good company. Well-known artists like Vincent Van Gogh, Henri Rousseau, and Frida Kahlo were all self-taught.[16]
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1. Caring for Your Personal Hygiene
1-1. Take a daily shower to clean your body.
Try to bathe in the morning or evening each day so stay clean and hygienic throughout the entire day. Use a good-smelling body wash and shampoo, and scrub your entire body well with a washcloth or loofah. Focus on areas that tend to get the most dirty or smelly, such as your armpits, feet, and groin so you stay clean.
If you don’t have time to shower, you can wet a washcloth in the sink and scrub areas of your body that smell.
Change the towel and washcloth you’re using at least once a week so you aren’t spreading bacteria back on your body.
1-2. Wash
As a teenager, you may be more prone to developing blemishes or acne on your face. Wet your face with warm water and lather an exfoliating face wash into your skin. Work the wash into your skin completely before rinsing it off with warm water. Splash your face with cold water when you’re finished to help close your pores and prevent dirt from getting in them.
Try to wash your face at least twice a day to keep your skin healthy.
If you have severe breakouts or acne, you can also try benzoyl peroxide, salicylic acid, or topical retinoids to help treat them.
1-3. Wear deodorant to prevent sweating and odors.
Search for a deodorant that also contains an antiperspirant, which blocks sweat from forming under your arms. Rub the deodorant on your armpits 2–3 times before you put on a shirt so you can smell better and stay dry. Usually, you only need to apply deodorant once a day, but you may need to use more if you’re active.
Keep deodorant in your backpack or locker if you’re worried about it wearing off during the day.
Apply deodorant right after you shower so you put it on clean skin.
1-4. Brush your teeth
Try to brush your teeth for 2 minutes in the morning and at night to keep your teeth and gums healthy. Work in short back and forth or circular motions on your teeth and gums. Make sure you clean all of the areas inside your mouth so you don’t leave any harmful bacteria behind.
Use a tongue scraper to help get rid of bacteria that causes bad breath.
Floss between your teeth once per day to help get rid of bacteria that are stuck there.
1-5. Shave
Wet your face with warm water and work shaving cream or gel into your skin so it’s easier to cut. Pull a razor along the direction your facial hair grows so you’re less likely to develop skin irritation. Rinse your razor off regularly so it doesn’t get clogged with hair or cream. Make sure to shave all areas of your face so you don’t leave behind stray hairs.
If you want to keep your facial hair and let it grow, use an electric trimmer or facial hair scissors so you can cut long hairs.
Try to stay clean-shaven if your facial hair doesn’t grow in fully or it comes in patches. That way, you still have a nice appearance without looking unkempt.
1-6. Cut and style your hair so it looks clean.
Find a hairstyle that you like and works well for your type of hair, and have a professional salon cut it for you. Take care of your hair by combing it regularly to get rid of tangles and washing it when you shower. Put in styling products, such as gels or pomades, to maintain the style throughout the entire day. Try a few different hairstyles to see what looks and feels the best for you.
Some popular clean hairstyles you can try include undercuts, pompadours, quiffs, and crew cuts.
Make regular haircut appointments so your hair doesn’t look overgrown or shaggy.
2. Looking Your Best
2-1. Wear clothes that you’re comfortable in and fit you well.
Try to find shirts that are tight-fitting and are snug against your body so they accentuate your features better. Look for pants that aren’t baggy at the bottoms of the legs and fit around your waist without them slipping. Try on any clothes before you buy them and check how you look in a mirror to see if it’s something that fits you well or matches your style.
Ask for someone else’s honest opinion if you aren’t sure how an outfit looks on you.
Try layering your outfits to seem more stylish. For example, you may wear a T-shirt with a button-up shirt and cardigan.
Pay attention to fashion trends at your school or online so you can incorporate them into your outfit.
Don’t let other people dictate what clothes you wear. All that matters is that you find clothes that you’re comfortable and confident wearing.
As you put your outfits together, choose clothes that compliment your skin tone, hair, and eye color.
It can be helpful to work with a stylist to get clarity on what colors, cuts, prints, and fabrics best compliment you.
2-2. Put on accessories to help you seem more stylish.
Common accessories you can wear include ties, watches, bracelets, necklaces, or rings. Look for items that match clothes or outfits that you already wear so you can incorporate them into your regular style. Aim to wear 1–2 accessories each day to help other people notice you more, and rotate which ones you put on so you don’t get tired of wearing the same thing all of the time.
You don’t need to accessorize if you don’t want to.
Avoid wearing a lot of accessories at the same time since it could be distracting to the rest of your look.
You can add a little extra swagger to your outfit by incorporating fun, bold, and playful accessories like statement shoes and cuffs.
2-3. Smile
People are usually attracted to smiling since they make you seem more friendly and personable. Pay attention to your facial expressions throughout the day and while you’re interacting with people to see if you’re smiling. Try to think of something that makes you happy to help make your smile feel more genuine. You can choose to smile with a closed or open mouth.
Practice smiling in front of a mirror so you don’t feel self-conscious smiling often in public.
2-4. Maintain good posture to help you seem more confident.
Keep your back and neck straight rather than hunched over. Relax your shoulders as much as you can so you don’t seem tense and push your chest out slightly to seem more muscular. If you need to check your phone, hold it up to eye level rather than bending your neck down since it can make your posture worse.
Good posture can also prevent any aches or pains in your back or neck.
Check your posture in a mirror so you can see how it changes the way your body looks.
2-5. Exercise
You can either do bodyweight exercises or use workout equipment for additional weight and resistance. Try to work out 3–4 times per week for at least 30 minutes at a time so you can burn fat and strengthen your muscles. Focus on different muscle groups, such as arms, legs, chest, back, and abs, with each workout so you stay toned and avoid overworking specific areas.
If your school has exercise equipment, see what hours they’re available so you can use them.
Easy exercises you can try are push-ups, sit-ups, arm curls, and squats.
Include cardio exercises, such as walking or jogging, at least 2–3 times per week in your routine.
2-6. Eat healthy meals so you can stay fit.
Limit the amount of sugary or salty treats you have since they can make you gain weight and don’t offer a lot of nutrients. Instead, try to incorporate more fruits, vegetables, and complex carbs so your body gets healthy vitamins and minerals. Enjoy lean proteins, such as fish, chicken, nuts, and soy, rather than those that are high in fat since they aren’t as good for you.
Pay attention to the portion sizes of your food so you don’t overeat.
Stay hydrated by drinking about 6–8 fluid ounces (180–240 ml) of water each day.
It’s okay to have an unhealthy snack every so often, but don’t make it a regular habit.
3. Developing an Attractive Personality
3-1. Be yourself so you can have good self-esteem.
Don’t try to change how you look or act just to try and impress other people since it may not come across as genuine. Try your best at everything you do and know that it’s okay if things don’t go perfectly the way you planned. Avoid comparing yourself to other people and focus on the things that you enjoy doing and make you unique.
Surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself rather than people that bring you down.
3-2. Act confident around others.
Confident people seem more engaged and assertive, so it can make you seem more attractive to other people. When you make a decision, avoid backing out or changing your position on it randomly since it may make you seem like you’re unsure. Practice being confident by talking to people you haven’t reached out to, making eye contact, and trying new things.
Avoid being overly apologetic since it can make you seem uncertain or anxious.
Don’t compare yourself to other people since you don’t know what they may also be dealing with.
Confidence comes from looking and feeling confident in your own skin. When you get dressed, focus on accentuating your best assets. Whatever is your best feature, make that the key focus of your look and pair down the rest of your outfit.
3-3. Treat other people politely and respectfully.
Others are usually more attracted to people that are caring rather than those who are rude. Give people your full attention while you’re talking to them and avoid getting distracted. Use your manners when you’re interacting with them by using “please” and “thank you” when you need to. Try helping others out without them asking if you notice them struggling with something.
Avoid talking about people behind their backs or making fun of them since it can make you seem uncaring.
3-4. Have an optimistic attitude so you seem more positive.
People who have a positive outlook on life seem more attractive than others with a negative attitude. Look at the bright side of each situation so you can find things to be happy about. Practice smiling throughout the day to make it seem like you’re happy and have a positive attitude. If you have a negative experience, focus on what you learned from it and how you can apply it to your life in the future.
For example, if you fail a test, you can reframe it to focus on tough questions that you answered correctly. Then you can plan on studying more for future tests.
It’s normal to feel sad or upset sometimes, but don’t let it affect your entire mood.
3-5. Focus on the other person when you have conversations.
Actively listen to the other person while they’re talking by maintaining eye contact with them and nodding along with them. Try to repeat words they’ve used in the conversation to show them that you’re listening and paying attention to them. Ask the other person questions so you can get to know them better and make them feel cared about.
Spend more time listening than trying to talk over someone else, since it can make you seem rude or self-centered.
Avoid bragging about things since it could be a turn-off to other people.
Open up to people that you trust so you can get to know them on a more personal level.
3-6. Be outgoing so you’re open to trying new things.
Say yes to things that you wouldn’t normally do or try a new activity that you’ve never done before so you can try something new. Look for new opportunities that you can try at your school or in your community, and give them a chance to see if you enjoy them. You can also try reaching out to new people that you haven’t talked to before and starting a conversation with them.
3-7. Look for new hobbies to seem more interesting to other people.
People who have interests and hobbies they care about tend to be more attractive to others. If you already have a hobby, make sure you set aside time so you can focus on it throughout the week. If you want to find a new hobby, ask your friends what they like to do and see if you can join them. You can also look for groups or clubs at your school that sound interesting to see if it’s something that you want to learn.
Look for a variety of different hobbies so you can learn a lot of new skills.
Developing new hobbies can also help you meet more people with similar interests.
Tips
Make small changes to your appearance and personality rather than trying to change everything all at once since you may not seem genuine.
Warnings
Don’t act rude or impolite around other people since they may not want to spend time around you.
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Try to work out 3–4 times per week for at least 30 minutes at a time so you can burn fat and strengthen your muscles. Focus on different muscle groups, such as arms, legs, chest, back, and abs, with each workout so you stay toned and avoid overworking specific areas.\\nIf your school has exercise equipment, see what hours they’re available so you can use them.\\nEasy exercises you can try are push-ups, sit-ups, arm curls, and squats.\\nInclude cardio exercises, such as walking or jogging, at least 2–3 times per week in your routine.\\n2-6. Eat healthy meals so you can stay fit.\\nLimit the amount of sugary or salty treats you have since they can make you gain weight and don’t offer a lot of nutrients. Instead, try to incorporate more fruits, vegetables, and complex carbs so your body gets healthy vitamins and minerals. 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Act confident around others.\\nConfident people seem more engaged and assertive, so it can make you seem more attractive to other people. When you make a decision, avoid backing out or changing your position on it randomly since it may make you seem like you’re unsure. Practice being confident by talking to people you haven’t reached out to, making eye contact, and trying new things.\\nAvoid being overly apologetic since it can make you seem uncertain or anxious.\\nDon’t compare yourself to other people since you don’t know what they may also be dealing with.\\nConfidence comes from looking and feeling confident in your own skin. When you get dressed, focus on accentuating your best assets. Whatever is your best feature, make that the key focus of your look and pair down the rest of your outfit.\\n3-3. Treat other people politely and respectfully.\\nOthers are usually more attracted to people that are caring rather than those who are rude. 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Then you can plan on studying more for future tests.\\nIt’s normal to feel sad or upset sometimes, but don’t let it affect your entire mood.\\n3-5. Focus on the other person when you have conversations.\\nActively listen to the other person while they’re talking by maintaining eye contact with them and nodding along with them. Try to repeat words they’ve used in the conversation to show them that you’re listening and paying attention to them. Ask the other person questions so you can get to know them better and make them feel cared about.\\nSpend more time listening than trying to talk over someone else, since it can make you seem rude or self-centered.\\nAvoid bragging about things since it could be a turn-off to other people.\\nOpen up to people that you trust so you can get to know them on a more personal level.\\n3-6. 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Pull a razor along the direction your facial hair grows so you’re less likely to develop skin irritation. Rinse your razor off regularly so it doesn’t get clogged with hair or cream. Make sure to shave all areas of your face so you don’t leave behind stray hairs.\\nIf you want to keep your facial hair and let it grow, use an electric trimmer or facial hair scissors so you can cut long hairs.\\nTry to stay clean-shaven if your facial hair doesn’t grow in fully or it comes in patches. That way, you still have a nice appearance without looking unkempt.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Cut and style your hair so it looks clean.\", \"描述\": \"Find a hairstyle that you like and works well for your type of hair, and have a professional salon cut it for you. Take care of your hair by combing it regularly to get rid of tangles and washing it when you shower. Put in styling products, such as gels or pomades, to maintain the style throughout the entire day. Try a few different hairstyles to see what looks and feels the best for you.\\nSome popular clean hairstyles you can try include undercuts, pompadours, quiffs, and crew cuts.\\nMake regular haircut appointments so your hair doesn’t look overgrown or shaggy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Looking Your Best\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear clothes that you’re comfortable in and fit you well.\", \"描述\": \"Try to find shirts that are tight-fitting and are snug against your body so they accentuate your features better. Look for pants that aren’t baggy at the bottoms of the legs and fit around your waist without them slipping. Try on any clothes before you buy them and check how you look in a mirror to see if it’s something that fits you well or matches your style.\\nAsk for someone else’s honest opinion if you aren’t sure how an outfit looks on you.\\nTry layering your outfits to seem more stylish. For example, you may wear a T-shirt with a button-up shirt and cardigan.\\nPay attention to fashion trends at your school or online so you can incorporate them into your outfit.\\nDon’t let other people dictate what clothes you wear. All that matters is that you find clothes that you’re comfortable and confident wearing.\\nAs you put your outfits together, choose clothes that compliment your skin tone, hair, and eye color.\\nIt can be helpful to work with a stylist to get clarity on what colors, cuts, prints, and fabrics best compliment you.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Put on accessories to help you seem more stylish.\", \"描述\": \"Common accessories you can wear include ties, watches, bracelets, necklaces, or rings. Look for items that match clothes or outfits that you already wear so you can incorporate them into your regular style. 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You can choose to smile with a closed or open mouth.\\nPractice smiling in front of a mirror so you don’t feel self-conscious smiling often in public.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Maintain good posture to help you seem more confident.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your back and neck straight rather than hunched over. Relax your shoulders as much as you can so you don’t seem tense and push your chest out slightly to seem more muscular. If you need to check your phone, hold it up to eye level rather than bending your neck down since it can make your posture worse.\\nGood posture can also prevent any aches or pains in your back or neck.\\nCheck your posture in a mirror so you can see how it changes the way your body looks.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Exercise\", \"描述\": \"You can either do bodyweight exercises or use workout equipment for additional weight and resistance. Try to work out 3–4 times per week for at least 30 minutes at a time so you can burn fat and strengthen your muscles. 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1. Educating Yourself About Being a Shaolin Monk
1-1. Educate yourself about what it means to be a Shaolin Monk.
Before you do anything, you need to read extensively about what it actually means to be a Shaolin Monk. This includes the duties, responsibilities, requirements, and other qualifications that Shaolin Monks must have. Kung Fu is studied, not to teach fighting, but to discipline the body and for the beauty of emulating the movements of the animals, which brings you into harmony with nature. There are many books you can read that will teach you about the philosophy, about Buddhism and about meditation.
Understand the history of Shaolin Kung Fu, and its 1500 years of development.
Know that not all Shaolin monks are the greatest warriors. They are essentially Buddhist monks who have studied the technique of Shaolin.
Understand the strict requirements that Shaolin Monks are held to today.
Understand the philosophy and spiritual aspects of Shaolin Kung Fu.
1-2. Understand that Shaolin Kung Fu is not just about fighting.
Shaolin is a complete worldview and lifestyle geared toward creating a balanced and strong individual who is at ease with his or her world. The martial arts aspects of Kung Fu are just physical manifestations of a complete spirituality that you will need to learn and live by as a Shaolin Monk.
Shaolin Kung Fu is an outcropping of Buddhism.
Shaolin Kung Fu requires intense training, self-control, and self-reflection.
Shaolin Monks must possess a complete and utter dedication to their way of life.
1-3. Learn about Buddhism.
Buddhism is the basic foundation of Shaolin spirituality. In order to truly understand what it means to be a Shaolin monk, you need to also understand what it means to live as a Buddhist. Before you continue on your path to become a Shaolin Monk, you should dedicate yourself to learning about Buddhism. If the idea of being a Buddhist excites you, continue on your path.
2. Embracing Shaolin Buddhism
2-1. Commit yourself to Buddhism.
Now that you’ve learned the basics and understand what it means to be a Shaolin Monk and what it means to be a Buddhist, you need to make the life choice to commit yourself to living as a Buddhist. This is your first real step in your journey toward becoming a Shaolin Monk. As a Buddhist, you will have to life by “The Four Noble Truths.”
Suffering is a part of life.
Desire for physical positions and pleasures is one of the greatest causes of suffering.
We can escape suffering by rejecting desire.
We can find happiness or “Nirvana” by following a specific path in our daily life (the 8-Fold Path).
2-2. Follow the 8-Fold Path on a daily basis.
The 8-Fold Path is really the nuts and bolts of Buddhist and Shaolin daily existence. The path is intended to overhaul how you live and how you see the world. It will change your interactions with your friends, family, and with strangers. For more information, visit: http://www.buddha101.com/p_path.htm
2-3. Alter your diet.
You need to embrace a diet that is in line with Buddhism and Shaolin Kung Fu. These dietary requirements are part of both Buddhist belief and Shaolin commitment to self-control and self-restraint. They might be very challenging for many people.
Reduce how much you eat. Avoid overeating at all costs.
Eliminate meat completely from your diet.
Cut out simple carbohydrates.
Consume raw food. While some monks do this for every meal, you should begin with one meal.
3. Becoming a Shaolin Monk
3-1. Locate Shaolin teachers or monks in your area.
Depending on where you are, there might be practitioners of Shaolin Kung Fu in your area. These teachers will be your best resource for learning more about Shaolin Kung Fu and the steps you will need to take to get on the path toward being a Shaolin Monk. For those in the United States, there are a number of Shaolin temples and organizations that will be helpful. It is highly recommended that you talk to one of these teachers or monks before you continue your path to becoming a monk yourself. Consider:
The USA Shaolin Temple in New York City.
Other regional Kung Fu Centers.
If you don’t have a practitioner in your area, you might have to travel.
3-2. Try to enroll as a disciple at a temple in your area.
After your preliminary education, visiting a shaolin temple will be your next step on the path to becoming a Shaolin monk. Here, you will meet individuals who have trained as disciples of Shaolin. The masters at many temples in the United States received their training at the principle Shaolin in China. However, training at a temple in the United States will probably not be as immersive and complete as training in China.
3-3. Consider traveling to China to study at a Shaolin Temple.
If you don’t want to train at a temple in your home country, you can travel to China. China is the home of Shaolin Kung Fu, and as a result there are many Shaolin Temples there that take in students. Learning in China can be the best way to move toward becoming a Shaolin Monk. But consider the following:
Training is full time. You won’t be able to work, socialize outside the Temple, or spend much time doing much else. Your life will be devoted to training.
It could be costly to travel and train at a temple.
There are a wide range of Shaolin Temples in China, varying on quality, so do your homework before you decide to make the trip.
3-4. Gain acceptance as a disciple at a Shaolin Temple.
The most important part of becoming a monk is gaining acceptance into a training program at a temple. If you can meet up to the rigorous requirements of the program, you’ll eventually be graduated as a Shaolin Monk. After you’ve been graduated, you’ll find a place as one of many types of monk. Types of monk include:
Clerical monks. These are monks that perform the day to day religious rites.
Scholarly monks. These are monks who commit themselves to knowledge and scholarship.
Warrior monks. These are monks who focus on the martial arts aspect of Shaolin.
3-5. Adhere to the strict requirements of Buddhism.
After you’ve graduated as a monk, you’re going to have to adhere to strict requirements of Buddhism. Your life will completely change. There are a lot of things you’ll have to give up and a lot of things you won’t be able to do anymore. Consider:
Shaolin Monks commit to a life of celibacy.
Shaolin Monks can’t consume animal meat.
Shaolin Monks don’t drink or smoke cigarettes.
Shaolin Monks reject a life based on material possessions, conspicuous consumption, and consumer culture.
3-6. Think about taking the path of a Lay Monk.
There are some Shaolin monks who have been trained as monks but do not adhere to the strict requirements of Buddhism—these are lay monks. Being a Shaolin Lay Monk might be right for you if you can’t commit your entire life to such requirements.
Lay Monks can marry and hold down an outside job.
Lay Monks may smoke or drink cigarettes sometimes.
Lay Monks might even eat meat.
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Try to enroll as a disciple at a temple in your area.\\nAfter your preliminary education, visiting a shaolin temple will be your next step on the path to becoming a Shaolin monk. Here, you will meet individuals who have trained as disciples of Shaolin. The masters at many temples in the United States received their training at the principle Shaolin in China. However, training at a temple in the United States will probably not be as immersive and complete as training in China.\\n3-3. Consider traveling to China to study at a Shaolin Temple.\\nIf you don’t want to train at a temple in your home country, you can travel to China. China is the home of Shaolin Kung Fu, and as a result there are many Shaolin Temples there that take in students. Learning in China can be the best way to move toward becoming a Shaolin Monk. But consider the following:\\nTraining is full time. You won’t be able to work, socialize outside the Temple, or spend much time doing much else. Your life will be devoted to training.\\nIt could be costly to travel and train at a temple.\\nThere are a wide range of Shaolin Temples in China, varying on quality, so do your homework before you decide to make the trip.\\n3-4. Gain acceptance as a disciple at a Shaolin Temple.\\nThe most important part of becoming a monk is gaining acceptance into a training program at a temple. If you can meet up to the rigorous requirements of the program, you’ll eventually be graduated as a Shaolin Monk. After you’ve been graduated, you’ll find a place as one of many types of monk. Types of monk include:\\nClerical monks. These are monks that perform the day to day religious rites.\\nScholarly monks. These are monks who commit themselves to knowledge and scholarship.\\nWarrior monks. These are monks who focus on the martial arts aspect of Shaolin.\\n3-5. Adhere to the strict requirements of Buddhism.\\nAfter you’ve graduated as a monk, you’re going to have to adhere to strict requirements of Buddhism. Your life will completely change. There are a lot of things you’ll have to give up and a lot of things you won’t be able to do anymore. Consider:\\nShaolin Monks commit to a life of celibacy.\\nShaolin Monks can’t consume animal meat.\\nShaolin Monks don’t drink or smoke cigarettes.\\nShaolin Monks reject a life based on material possessions, conspicuous consumption, and consumer culture.\\n3-6. Think about taking the path of a Lay Monk.\\nThere are some Shaolin monks who have been trained as monks but do not adhere to the strict requirements of Buddhism—these are lay monks. Being a Shaolin Lay Monk might be right for you if you can’t commit your entire life to such requirements.\\nLay Monks can marry and hold down an outside job.\\nLay Monks may smoke or drink cigarettes sometimes.\\nLay Monks might even eat meat.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Shaolin Kung Fu is one of the most respected and revered martial arts traditions in the world. The practitioners of Shaolin Kung Fu, Shaolin Monks, are esteemed as some of the most committed warriors, too. However, Shaolin Kung Fu is much more than just a martial art. It is part of a complete spirituality that is grounded in Buddhism. The path of a Shaolin Monk, if you choose to follow it, will require you to completely change your life. Shaolin Monks give up much, restrain themselves from typical pleasures that we take for granted, and have lives completely dedicated to their faith.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educating Yourself About Being a Shaolin Monk\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself about what it means to be a Shaolin Monk.\", \"描述\": \"Before you do anything, you need to read extensively about what it actually means to be a Shaolin Monk. This includes the duties, responsibilities, requirements, and other qualifications that Shaolin Monks must have. Kung Fu is studied, not to teach fighting, but to discipline the body and for the beauty of emulating the movements of the animals, which brings you into harmony with nature. There are many books you can read that will teach you about the philosophy, about Buddhism and about meditation.\\nUnderstand the history of Shaolin Kung Fu, and its 1500 years of development.\\nKnow that not all Shaolin monks are the greatest warriors. They are essentially Buddhist monks who have studied the technique of Shaolin.\\nUnderstand the strict requirements that Shaolin Monks are held to today.\\nUnderstand the philosophy and spiritual aspects of Shaolin Kung Fu.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand that Shaolin Kung Fu is not just about fighting.\", \"描述\": \"Shaolin is a complete worldview and lifestyle geared toward creating a balanced and strong individual who is at ease with his or her world. The martial arts aspects of Kung Fu are just physical manifestations of a complete spirituality that you will need to learn and live by as a Shaolin Monk.\\nShaolin Kung Fu is an outcropping of Buddhism.\\nShaolin Kung Fu requires intense training, self-control, and self-reflection.\\nShaolin Monks must possess a complete and utter dedication to their way of life.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn about Buddhism.\", \"描述\": \"Buddhism is the basic foundation of Shaolin spirituality. In order to truly understand what it means to be a Shaolin monk, you need to also understand what it means to live as a Buddhist. Before you continue on your path to become a Shaolin Monk, you should dedicate yourself to learning about Buddhism. If the idea of being a Buddhist excites you, continue on your path.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Embracing Shaolin Buddhism\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Commit yourself to Buddhism.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you’ve learned the basics and understand what it means to be a Shaolin Monk and what it means to be a Buddhist, you need to make the life choice to commit yourself to living as a Buddhist. This is your first real step in your journey toward becoming a Shaolin Monk. As a Buddhist, you will have to life by “The Four Noble Truths.”\\nSuffering is a part of life.\\nDesire for physical positions and pleasures is one of the greatest causes of suffering.\\nWe can escape suffering by rejecting desire.\\nWe can find happiness or “Nirvana” by following a specific path in our daily life (the 8-Fold Path).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Follow the 8-Fold Path on a daily basis.\", \"描述\": \"The 8-Fold Path is really the nuts and bolts of Buddhist and Shaolin daily existence. The path is intended to overhaul how you live and how you see the world. It will change your interactions with your friends, family, and with strangers. For more information, visit: http://www.buddha101.com/p_path.htm\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Alter your diet.\", \"描述\": \"You need to embrace a diet that is in line with Buddhism and Shaolin Kung Fu. These dietary requirements are part of both Buddhist belief and Shaolin commitment to self-control and self-restraint. They might be very challenging for many people.\\nReduce how much you eat. Avoid overeating at all costs.\\nEliminate meat completely from your diet.\\nCut out simple carbohydrates.\\nConsume raw food. While some monks do this for every meal, you should begin with one meal.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Becoming a Shaolin Monk\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Locate Shaolin teachers or monks in your area.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on where you are, there might be practitioners of Shaolin Kung Fu in your area. These teachers will be your best resource for learning more about Shaolin Kung Fu and the steps you will need to take to get on the path toward being a Shaolin Monk. For those in the United States, there are a number of Shaolin temples and organizations that will be helpful. It is highly recommended that you talk to one of these teachers or monks before you continue your path to becoming a monk yourself. Consider:\\nThe USA Shaolin Temple in New York City.\\nOther regional Kung Fu Centers.\\nIf you don’t have a practitioner in your area, you might have to travel.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try to enroll as a disciple at a temple in your area.\", \"描述\": \"After your preliminary education, visiting a shaolin temple will be your next step on the path to becoming a Shaolin monk. Here, you will meet individuals who have trained as disciples of Shaolin. The masters at many temples in the United States received their training at the principle Shaolin in China. However, training at a temple in the United States will probably not be as immersive and complete as training in China.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider traveling to China to study at a Shaolin Temple.\", \"描述\": \"If you don’t want to train at a temple in your home country, you can travel to China. China is the home of Shaolin Kung Fu, and as a result there are many Shaolin Temples there that take in students. 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Being a Shaolin Lay Monk might be right for you if you can’t commit your entire life to such requirements.\\nLay Monks can marry and hold down an outside job.\\nLay Monks may smoke or drink cigarettes sometimes.\\nLay Monks might even eat meat.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Understanding Expectations
1-1. Keep the situation to yourself.
It is important to keep the relationship as much of a secret as possible. Ideally, only you and your partner should know about the relationship. Your closest friend may find out about it, but try to avoid telling anyone else about your status as a side chick. Do not tag your partner on social media, and do not invite the person to holiday gatherings or vacations.
It may be tempting to tell people about your relationship—especially if feelings get involved. Decide if you are willing to maintain a relationship that can’t be celebrated with friends and family.
1-2. Expect plans to change.
Understand that your partner has a significant other that they have to put first. It is likely that your partner will go to great lengths to keep their partner from finding out about you, so expect plans to change at the spur of the moment. You might have plans for dinner, but your partner may cancel at the last minute if their significant other needs them.
It will not help to express frustration over canceled plans. Canceled plans will probably be a common occurrence.
1-3. Don’t ask about where the relationship is going.
Your partner has not left their significant other for a reason. There could be many reason for this. For example, your partner may have built a life with their partner that would be difficult to get out of. Or, your partner wants a future with their significant other and just wants to be with you for a fun and relaxing time. Avoid asking about where the relationship is going. You may be disappointed with the answer.
If you do want to be in a relationship with a future, consider moving on to someone that can put you first.
1-4. Focus on your time with your partner.
Try not to think about the past or future. Focus on the present. Enjoy the time you have with your partner. When you are apart, don’t think about or ask what is going on with them.
1-5. Avoid falling in love.
It is completely natural to develop feelings for someone that you are having a romantic relationship with. Falling in love, however, will likely end up in heartache. Try to keep your feelings light, even if it seems difficult to do. Feelings can’t be controlled, but make an effort to not fully invest in the relationship.
If you do fall in love, bring it up to your partner. If they react negatively, it may be best to move on. You can tell them, “I think I’m starting to develop strong feelings for you. Do you feel the same? If not, how do you feel about what I’ve just said?”
2. Maintaining Boundaries
2-1. Give your partner space.
Don’t always be the first to text or seek them out. The person likely doesn't want to have more than one main significant other. They already have one, and your role is to be something different. You should be a person they come to for a good time. Give your partner breathing room when you are not together.
Go out with your friends. Have a good time. Don't worry about checking in with them every five minutes, or they will start to think you want something more.
2-2. Keep things interesting.
When he texts you, keep the conversation interesting. A side chick's main responsibility is to keep things fun and exciting. Giving him short answers and acting uninterested will make him wish he were doing something else, or even just hanging out with his main partner. Tell them funny stories. Ask how they are feeling. Surprise them with plan for something to do.
Try to maintain a positive attitude. An escape from reality is likely a large part of why your partner is with you.
2-3. Don't ask questions.
Consider your time together as the only time that your partner is your business. You shouldn’t ask questions like "Where were you?" or "Why didn’t you call me?" and "Why are you always so busy?” if you expect to keep the relationship going. These are not your concerns.
You got yourself into this situation, and there's no point in acting jealous or surprised when you already knew the score getting into it. Jealousy will only make the situation more difficult for both parties involved.
2-4. Don't expect to spend holidays with your partner.
If the person cares enough, they might celebrate these events with you the day before or after, but for the most part, don’t expect anything like a gift or acknowledgment. These days are usually saved and reserved for the main partner. It may be safe to text him to wish them a happy New Year/Christmas/birthday, but a phone call should not be made.
Do not try to contact them on Valentine’s Day.
3. Considering Implications
3-1. Be safe when it comes to sexual matters.
Your partner is likely still having sexual relations with their significant other. They may or may not be using protection with their main partner. If you are having sexual relations with them, make sure to be safe. Use contraceptives that work best for you. Get tested immediately if you fear that your sexual health is at risk.
Ask your partner if they have a history with STDs. This may be a sensitive topic to bring up, but it’s an important one. Ask if they have ever been tested for sexually transmitted diseases. If they say no, ask if they would be willing to be tested. You can offer to be tested with them.
3-2. Anticipate getting caught.
Most cases of cheating get found out eventually. Don’t be surprised if your partner ends their relationship with you suddenly, or if you are contacted by their main partner. Go into the relationship knowing that you will eventually be found out, and it can’t last forever. Decide how you will react if you are caught.
Do not react in a disrespectful manner if you are contacted by their main partner. Their significant other is probably feeling hurt and betrayed, and it is not their fault that they have been cheated on.
3-3. Realize who you may be hurting.
It’s very unlikely that all parties will leave the situation without being hurt. You, your partner, and their significant other will probably be very hurt when the situation is revealed. Decide if you are willing to hurt yourself and other people. Understand that you may be playing a role in breaking up a relationship or family.
3-4. Consider the future.
Is this relationship a fling that is not meant to last long, or is it something that you want to maintain for as long as possible? It is important to stay in the present while with your partner, but at some point, you have to consider your future. Think about where you would like to see yourself in the next stage of your life. If it is not as a side chick, then it is best to end the relationship.
Keep in mind that if the situation comes out, it could hurt your career (if the person is a coworker) and your relationships with friends and family.
3-5. Get out if you're not happy.
A secretive relationship will take an emotional toll on you eventually. Do not stay in the situation if you begin to feel unhappy. Your well-being comes first. Express to your partner that you are unhappy and would like a change. If they do not offer a solution, don’t stick around with the hope that things will improve.
Something you can say to your partner is “I’m starting to feel uncomfortable in this situation, and I’m not as happy as I used to be. Is there anything we can do to solve this problem, or is it better that I move on?”
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Understanding Expectations\\n1-1. Keep the situation to yourself.\\nIt is important to keep the relationship as much of a secret as possible. Ideally, only you and your partner should know about the relationship. Your closest friend may find out about it, but try to avoid telling anyone else about your status as a side chick. Do not tag your partner on social media, and do not invite the person to holiday gatherings or vacations.\\nIt may be tempting to tell people about your relationship—especially if feelings get involved. Decide if you are willing to maintain a relationship that can’t be celebrated with friends and family.\\n1-2. Expect plans to change.\\nUnderstand that your partner has a significant other that they have to put first. It is likely that your partner will go to great lengths to keep their partner from finding out about you, so expect plans to change at the spur of the moment. You might have plans for dinner, but your partner may cancel at the last minute if their significant other needs them.\\nIt will not help to express frustration over canceled plans. Canceled plans will probably be a common occurrence.\\n1-3. Don’t ask about where the relationship is going.\\nYour partner has not left their significant other for a reason. There could be many reason for this. For example, your partner may have built a life with their partner that would be difficult to get out of. Or, your partner wants a future with their significant other and just wants to be with you for a fun and relaxing time. Avoid asking about where the relationship is going. You may be disappointed with the answer.\\nIf you do want to be in a relationship with a future, consider moving on to someone that can put you first.\\n1-4. Focus on your time with your partner.\\nTry not to think about the past or future. Focus on the present. Enjoy the time you have with your partner. When you are apart, don’t think about or ask what is going on with them.\\n1-5. Avoid falling in love.\\nIt is completely natural to develop feelings for someone that you are having a romantic relationship with. Falling in love, however, will likely end up in heartache. Try to keep your feelings light, even if it seems difficult to do. Feelings can’t be controlled, but make an effort to not fully invest in the relationship.\\nIf you do fall in love, bring it up to your partner. If they react negatively, it may be best to move on. You can tell them, “I think I’m starting to develop strong feelings for you. Do you feel the same? If not, how do you feel about what I’ve just said?”\\n2. Maintaining Boundaries\\n2-1. Give your partner space.\\nDon’t always be the first to text or seek them out. The person likely doesn't want to have more than one main significant other. They already have one, and your role is to be something different. You should be a person they come to for a good time. Give your partner breathing room when you are not together.\\nGo out with your friends. Have a good time. Don't worry about checking in with them every five minutes, or they will start to think you want something more.\\n2-2. Keep things interesting.\\nWhen he texts you, keep the conversation interesting. A side chick's main responsibility is to keep things fun and exciting. Giving him short answers and acting uninterested will make him wish he were doing something else, or even just hanging out with his main partner. Tell them funny stories. Ask how they are feeling. Surprise them with plan for something to do.\\nTry to maintain a positive attitude. An escape from reality is likely a large part of why your partner is with you.\\n2-3. Don't ask questions.\\nConsider your time together as the only time that your partner is your business. You shouldn’t ask questions like \\\"Where were you?\\\" or \\\"Why didn’t you call me?\\\" and \\\"Why are you always so busy?” if you expect to keep the relationship going. These are not your concerns.\\nYou got yourself into this situation, and there's no point in acting jealous or surprised when you already knew the score getting into it. Jealousy will only make the situation more difficult for both parties involved.\\n2-4. Don't expect to spend holidays with your partner.\\nIf the person cares enough, they might celebrate these events with you the day before or after, but for the most part, don’t expect anything like a gift or acknowledgment. These days are usually saved and reserved for the main partner. It may be safe to text him to wish them a happy New Year/Christmas/birthday, but a phone call should not be made.\\nDo not try to contact them on Valentine’s Day.\\n3. Considering Implications\\n3-1. Be safe when it comes to sexual matters.\\nYour partner is likely still having sexual relations with their significant other. They may or may not be using protection with their main partner. If you are having sexual relations with them, make sure to be safe. Use contraceptives that work best for you. Get tested immediately if you fear that your sexual health is at risk.\\nAsk your partner if they have a history with STDs. This may be a sensitive topic to bring up, but it’s an important one. Ask if they have ever been tested for sexually transmitted diseases. If they say no, ask if they would be willing to be tested. You can offer to be tested with them.\\n3-2. Anticipate getting caught.\\nMost cases of cheating get found out eventually. Don’t be surprised if your partner ends their relationship with you suddenly, or if you are contacted by their main partner. Go into the relationship knowing that you will eventually be found out, and it can’t last forever. Decide how you will react if you are caught.\\nDo not react in a disrespectful manner if you are contacted by their main partner. Their significant other is probably feeling hurt and betrayed, and it is not their fault that they have been cheated on.\\n3-3. Realize who you may be hurting.\\nIt’s very unlikely that all parties will leave the situation without being hurt. You, your partner, and their significant other will probably be very hurt when the situation is revealed. Decide if you are willing to hurt yourself and other people. Understand that you may be playing a role in breaking up a relationship or family.\\n3-4. Consider the future.\\nIs this relationship a fling that is not meant to last long, or is it something that you want to maintain for as long as possible? It is important to stay in the present while with your partner, but at some point, you have to consider your future. Think about where you would like to see yourself in the next stage of your life. If it is not as a side chick, then it is best to end the relationship.\\nKeep in mind that if the situation comes out, it could hurt your career (if the person is a coworker) and your relationships with friends and family.\\n3-5. Get out if you're not happy.\\nA secretive relationship will take an emotional toll on you eventually. Do not stay in the situation if you begin to feel unhappy. Your well-being comes first. Express to your partner that you are unhappy and would like a change. If they do not offer a solution, don’t stick around with the hope that things will improve.\\nSomething you can say to your partner is “I’m starting to feel uncomfortable in this situation, and I’m not as happy as I used to be. Is there anything we can do to solve this problem, or is it better that I move on?”\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're a side chick who wants to keep up a relationship with a person who has a main partner, then it is important to know what to expect. You can't expect the relationship to be more than what it is—a way for both of you to have a good time and not worry about where the relationship is going. Becoming a side chick is risky for everyone involved. Take time to consider your emotions and how you would feel about the main partner finding out about you. To be a side chick, you should learn what to expect, what it takes to be a side chick, and reflect on the implications of your actions.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understanding Expectations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep the situation to yourself.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to keep the relationship as much of a secret as possible. Ideally, only you and your partner should know about the relationship. Your closest friend may find out about it, but try to avoid telling anyone else about your status as a side chick. Do not tag your partner on social media, and do not invite the person to holiday gatherings or vacations.\\nIt may be tempting to tell people about your relationship—especially if feelings get involved. Decide if you are willing to maintain a relationship that can’t be celebrated with friends and family.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Expect plans to change.\", \"描述\": \"Understand that your partner has a significant other that they have to put first. It is likely that your partner will go to great lengths to keep their partner from finding out about you, so expect plans to change at the spur of the moment. You might have plans for dinner, but your partner may cancel at the last minute if their significant other needs them.\\nIt will not help to express frustration over canceled plans. Canceled plans will probably be a common occurrence.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don’t ask about where the relationship is going.\", \"描述\": \"Your partner has not left their significant other for a reason. There could be many reason for this. For example, your partner may have built a life with their partner that would be difficult to get out of. Or, your partner wants a future with their significant other and just wants to be with you for a fun and relaxing time. Avoid asking about where the relationship is going. You may be disappointed with the answer.\\nIf you do want to be in a relationship with a future, consider moving on to someone that can put you first.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Focus on your time with your partner.\", \"描述\": \"Try not to think about the past or future. Focus on the present. Enjoy the time you have with your partner. When you are apart, don’t think about or ask what is going on with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid falling in love.\", \"描述\": \"It is completely natural to develop feelings for someone that you are having a romantic relationship with. Falling in love, however, will likely end up in heartache. Try to keep your feelings light, even if it seems difficult to do. Feelings can’t be controlled, but make an effort to not fully invest in the relationship.\\nIf you do fall in love, bring it up to your partner. If they react negatively, it may be best to move on. You can tell them, “I think I’m starting to develop strong feelings for you. Do you feel the same? If not, how do you feel about what I’ve just said?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintaining Boundaries\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your partner space.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t always be the first to text or seek them out. The person likely doesn't want to have more than one main significant other. They already have one, and your role is to be something different. You should be a person they come to for a good time. Give your partner breathing room when you are not together.\\nGo out with your friends. Have a good time. Don't worry about checking in with them every five minutes, or they will start to think you want something more.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep things interesting.\", \"描述\": \"When he texts you, keep the conversation interesting. A side chick's main responsibility is to keep things fun and exciting. Giving him short answers and acting uninterested will make him wish he were doing something else, or even just hanging out with his main partner. Tell them funny stories. Ask how they are feeling. Surprise them with plan for something to do.\\nTry to maintain a positive attitude. An escape from reality is likely a large part of why your partner is with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"Consider your time together as the only time that your partner is your business. You shouldn’t ask questions like \\\"Where were you?\\\" or \\\"Why didn’t you call me?\\\" and \\\"Why are you always so busy?” if you expect to keep the relationship going. These are not your concerns.\\nYou got yourself into this situation, and there's no point in acting jealous or surprised when you already knew the score getting into it. Jealousy will only make the situation more difficult for both parties involved.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't expect to spend holidays with your partner.\", \"描述\": \"If the person cares enough, they might celebrate these events with you the day before or after, but for the most part, don’t expect anything like a gift or acknowledgment. These days are usually saved and reserved for the main partner. It may be safe to text him to wish them a happy New Year/Christmas/birthday, but a phone call should not be made.\\nDo not try to contact them on Valentine’s Day.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Considering Implications\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be safe when it comes to sexual matters.\", \"描述\": \"Your partner is likely still having sexual relations with their significant other. They may or may not be using protection with their main partner. If you are having sexual relations with them, make sure to be safe. Use contraceptives that work best for you. Get tested immediately if you fear that your sexual health is at risk.\\nAsk your partner if they have a history with STDs. This may be a sensitive topic to bring up, but it’s an important one. Ask if they have ever been tested for sexually transmitted diseases. If they say no, ask if they would be willing to be tested. You can offer to be tested with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Anticipate getting caught.\", \"描述\": \"Most cases of cheating get found out eventually. Don’t be surprised if your partner ends their relationship with you suddenly, or if you are contacted by their main partner. Go into the relationship knowing that you will eventually be found out, and it can’t last forever. Decide how you will react if you are caught.\\nDo not react in a disrespectful manner if you are contacted by their main partner. Their significant other is probably feeling hurt and betrayed, and it is not their fault that they have been cheated on.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Realize who you may be hurting.\", \"描述\": \"It’s very unlikely that all parties will leave the situation without being hurt. You, your partner, and their significant other will probably be very hurt when the situation is revealed. Decide if you are willing to hurt yourself and other people. Understand that you may be playing a role in breaking up a relationship or family.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider the future.\", \"描述\": \"Is this relationship a fling that is not meant to last long, or is it something that you want to maintain for as long as possible? It is important to stay in the present while with your partner, but at some point, you have to consider your future. Think about where you would like to see yourself in the next stage of your life. If it is not as a side chick, then it is best to end the relationship.\\nKeep in mind that if the situation comes out, it could hurt your career (if the person is a coworker) and your relationships with friends and family.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get out if you're not happy.\", \"描述\": \"A secretive relationship will take an emotional toll on you eventually. Do not stay in the situation if you begin to feel unhappy. Your well-being comes first. Express to your partner that you are unhappy and would like a change. If they do not offer a solution, don’t stick around with the hope that things will improve.\\nSomething you can say to your partner is “I’m starting to feel uncomfortable in this situation, and I’m not as happy as I used to be. Is there anything we can do to solve this problem, or is it better that I move on?”\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a Sikh
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1. Steps
1-1. Know what it means to be a Sikh.
Sikhs have an obligation to pray daily, work hard, and share with those in need.
1-2. Understand the definition.
The word Sikh means disciple or student. Sikhs are the students of their ten teachers (or Gurus) who compiled their teachings into a unique collection of divine scriptures, called the Guru Granth Sahib.
1-3. Learn of the religion.
Six Gurus wrote the Guru Granth Sahib, but it contains the writings of the Gurus and other religious teachers. The Guru Granth Sahib is considered a Living Guru.
1-4. Unite the past and present beliefs.
There are, however, writings by followers of Sikhism from past and present that are worthwhile reading.
1-5. Go to a temple.
If you live in India, it will be easy for you to attend a Gurdwara or Sikh temple. However outside India, attending a Gurdwara might be more difficult, unless you live in a large city. If you live near a Gurdwara, visit the local Granthi/Sikh custodian who can provide more information on the Sikh path.
1-6. Do not eat ritually killed meat.
Some Sikhs are vegetarian because they have a great respect for animals. However, Sikhs are not bound to be vegetarian according to the Sikh Code of Conduct. The Sikh Code of Conduct states that ritually slaughtered meat or Kosher/Halal is forbidden.
When Sikhs attend a Gurdwara, only vegetarian food is served. Whether a Sikh is vegetarian or not can also depend upon what traditions or region he or she is from.
1-7. Acknowledge the pervading spirit.
Observe that there is only one all-pervading spirit (known as Akal or Ek Onkaar) that is formless and timeless. It is also almost difficult to know but not impossible. Akal is only realized through self knowledge, Sikhs therefore place emphasis on meditation to understand Akal.
Sikhs aim to become one with Akal in order to end the cycle of birth and death, while not withdrawing from society.
1-8. Meditate.
Sikhs also meditate for the purpose of realizing truth, as Akal (timeless spirit) is truth and truth is Akal. Sikhs know Akal through meditation, so they know truth through meditation. Guru Nanak said truth is only attainable through self realization.
Self realization thus leads to enlightenment and ends the cycle of birth, death and rebirth.
1-9. Understand the five distractions.
These are ego, anger, greed, lust and attachment. Sikhs believe these five distractions prevent one from achieving union with God, which is the ultimate goal. If you are to lead a good life free from suffering, you must avoid the five distractions.
1-10. Learn the teachings of Guru Nanak.
He taught that one can only achieve union through devotion to Akal. Guru Nanak stated that rites, pilgrimages and asceticism and fasting are meaningless; devotion should come inwardly. Sikhs therefore should try to balance work, charity and worship. Sikhs have an optimistic view of life, a spirit of chardi kala.
Sikhs also believe that they should defend and protect the rights of others. They should never endorse a class system, sexism, racism, or other stereotypes that support inequality.
1-11. Embrace charity.
Charity is very important to Sikhs who balance charity along with work and worship. Charity is part of the Sikh belief in defending others and that can also mean defending others from poverty.
1-12. Partake in ritual recitations.
Sikhs often recite parts of the Guru Granth Sahib daily and before/after certain activities. The part of the Guru Granth Sahib depends on the activity and is supposed to strengthen faith.
1-13. Celebrate your faith.
Sikhs have a number of festivals. As a Sikh you attend these festivals as a sign of faith and to strengthen faith. Here are some Sikh festivals taken from Wikipedia, though there are more.
Gurpurab are celebrations or commemorations based on the lives of the Sikh Gurus. They tend to be either birthdays or celebrations of Sikh martyrdom. All ten Gurus have Gurpurabs on the Nanakshahi calendar, but it is Guru Nanak Dev and Guru Gobind Singh who have a gurpurab that is widely celebrated in Gurdwaras and Sikh homes. The martyrdoms are also known as a shaheedi Gurpurab, which mark the martyrdom anniversary of Guru Arjan Dev and Guru Tegh Bahadur.
Vaisakhi or Baisakhi normally occurs on 13 April and marks rebirth, the beginning of the new spring year and the end of the harvest. Sikhs celebrate it because on Vaisakhi in 1699, Guru Gobind Singh (the tenth guru) laid down the Foundation of the Khalsa as an Independent Sikh Identity.
Bandi Chhor Divas celebrates Guru Hargobind's release from the Gwalior Fort, with 52 innocent Hindu kings who were also imprisoned by Jahangir, on 26 October 1619.
Hola Mohalla occurs the day after Holi and is when the Khalsa Panth gather at Anandpur Sahib and display their warrior skills, including fighting and riding.
1-14. Pray.
Sikhs pray once in the morning and twice in the evening consecutively, sometimes done in the Gurudwara and sometimes done at home. Names of the morning and evening prayers are below.
Morning prayers include: Japji Sahib, Jaap Sahib, Tav Prasad Savaiye, Chaupai Sahib, Anand Sahib
Evening prayer: Rehras Sahib
Bedtime prayer: Sohila Sahib
Here is a link to recordings of prayers: http://sgpc.net/live-kirtan-sri-harmandir-sahib-96-kbps/
1-15. Take part in a Sikh baptism.
When a Sikh takes Amrit, he/she becomes pure or Khalsa. Khalsa members adhere to the five K's.
Tips
The Five K's are kesh (uncut hair), kaṅghā (small comb), kaṛā (circular iron bracelet), kirpān (dagger), and kacchā (special undergarment). The Five Ks have both practical and symbolic purposes.[6]
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If you live near a Gurdwara, visit the local Granthi/Sikh custodian who can provide more information on the Sikh path.\\n1-6. Do not eat ritually killed meat.\\nSome Sikhs are vegetarian because they have a great respect for animals. However, Sikhs are not bound to be vegetarian according to the Sikh Code of Conduct. The Sikh Code of Conduct states that ritually slaughtered meat or Kosher/Halal is forbidden.\\nWhen Sikhs attend a Gurdwara, only vegetarian food is served. Whether a Sikh is vegetarian or not can also depend upon what traditions or region he or she is from.\\n1-7. Acknowledge the pervading spirit.\\nObserve that there is only one all-pervading spirit (known as Akal or Ek Onkaar) that is formless and timeless. It is also almost difficult to know but not impossible. Akal is only realized through self knowledge, Sikhs therefore place emphasis on meditation to understand Akal. \\nSikhs aim to become one with Akal in order to end the cycle of birth and death, while not withdrawing from society.\\n1-8. Meditate.\\nSikhs also meditate for the purpose of realizing truth, as Akal (timeless spirit) is truth and truth is Akal. Sikhs know Akal through meditation, so they know truth through meditation. Guru Nanak said truth is only attainable through self realization.\\nSelf realization thus leads to enlightenment and ends the cycle of birth, death and rebirth.\\n1-9. Understand the five distractions.\\nThese are ego, anger, greed, lust and attachment. Sikhs believe these five distractions prevent one from achieving union with God, which is the ultimate goal. If you are to lead a good life free from suffering, you must avoid the five distractions.\\n1-10. Learn the teachings of Guru Nanak.\\nHe taught that one can only achieve union through devotion to Akal. Guru Nanak stated that rites, pilgrimages and asceticism and fasting are meaningless; devotion should come inwardly. Sikhs therefore should try to balance work, charity and worship. Sikhs have an optimistic view of life, a spirit of chardi kala.\\nSikhs also believe that they should defend and protect the rights of others. They should never endorse a class system, sexism, racism, or other stereotypes that support inequality.\\n1-11. Embrace charity.\\nCharity is very important to Sikhs who balance charity along with work and worship. Charity is part of the Sikh belief in defending others and that can also mean defending others from poverty.\\n1-12. Partake in ritual recitations.\\nSikhs often recite parts of the Guru Granth Sahib daily and before/after certain activities. The part of the Guru Granth Sahib depends on the activity and is supposed to strengthen faith.\\n1-13. Celebrate your faith.\\nSikhs have a number of festivals. As a Sikh you attend these festivals as a sign of faith and to strengthen faith. Here are some Sikh festivals taken from Wikipedia, though there are more.\\nGurpurab are celebrations or commemorations based on the lives of the Sikh Gurus. They tend to be either birthdays or celebrations of Sikh martyrdom. All ten Gurus have Gurpurabs on the Nanakshahi calendar, but it is Guru Nanak Dev and Guru Gobind Singh who have a gurpurab that is widely celebrated in Gurdwaras and Sikh homes. The martyrdoms are also known as a shaheedi Gurpurab, which mark the martyrdom anniversary of Guru Arjan Dev and Guru Tegh Bahadur.\\nVaisakhi or Baisakhi normally occurs on 13 April and marks rebirth, the beginning of the new spring year and the end of the harvest. Sikhs celebrate it because on Vaisakhi in 1699, Guru Gobind Singh (the tenth guru) laid down the Foundation of the Khalsa as an Independent Sikh Identity.\\nBandi Chhor Divas celebrates Guru Hargobind's release from the Gwalior Fort, with 52 innocent Hindu kings who were also imprisoned by Jahangir, on 26 October 1619.\\nHola Mohalla occurs the day after Holi and is when the Khalsa Panth gather at Anandpur Sahib and display their warrior skills, including fighting and riding.\\n1-14. Pray.\\nSikhs pray once in the morning and twice in the evening consecutively, sometimes done in the Gurudwara and sometimes done at home. Names of the morning and evening prayers are below.\\nMorning prayers include: Japji Sahib, Jaap Sahib, Tav Prasad Savaiye, Chaupai Sahib, Anand Sahib\\nEvening prayer: Rehras Sahib\\nBedtime prayer: Sohila Sahib\\nHere is a link to recordings of prayers: http://sgpc.net/live-kirtan-sri-harmandir-sahib-96-kbps/\\n1-15. 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You will come to know it through seeking knowledge and learning.\\\" \\n\\nIn addition, Sikhs are to lead moral lives, earn their living through hard work and honest means, and to share with others through charitable contributions and work. \\n\\nA Sikh is to lead a wholesome family life, and look for God through his deeds rather than removing himself from society.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know what it means to be a Sikh.\", \"描述\": \"Sikhs have an obligation to pray daily, work hard, and share with those in need.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand the definition.\", \"描述\": \"The word Sikh means disciple or student. Sikhs are the students of their ten teachers (or Gurus) who compiled their teachings into a unique collection of divine scriptures, called the Guru Granth Sahib.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn of the religion.\", \"描述\": \"Six Gurus wrote the Guru Granth Sahib, but it contains the writings of the Gurus and other religious teachers. The Guru Granth Sahib is considered a Living Guru.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Unite the past and present beliefs.\", \"描述\": \"There are, however, writings by followers of Sikhism from past and present that are worthwhile reading.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Go to a temple.\", \"描述\": \"If you live in India, it will be easy for you to attend a Gurdwara or Sikh temple. However outside India, attending a Gurdwara might be more difficult, unless you live in a large city. If you live near a Gurdwara, visit the local Granthi/Sikh custodian who can provide more information on the Sikh path.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Do not eat ritually killed meat.\", \"描述\": \"Some Sikhs are vegetarian because they have a great respect for animals. However, Sikhs are not bound to be vegetarian according to the Sikh Code of Conduct. The Sikh Code of Conduct states that ritually slaughtered meat or Kosher/Halal is forbidden.\\nWhen Sikhs attend a Gurdwara, only vegetarian food is served. Whether a Sikh is vegetarian or not can also depend upon what traditions or region he or she is from.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Acknowledge the pervading spirit.\", \"描述\": \"Observe that there is only one all-pervading spirit (known as Akal or Ek Onkaar) that is formless and timeless. It is also almost difficult to know but not impossible. Akal is only realized through self knowledge, Sikhs therefore place emphasis on meditation to understand Akal. \\nSikhs aim to become one with Akal in order to end the cycle of birth and death, while not withdrawing from society.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Meditate.\", \"描述\": \"Sikhs also meditate for the purpose of realizing truth, as Akal (timeless spirit) is truth and truth is Akal. Sikhs know Akal through meditation, so they know truth through meditation. Guru Nanak said truth is only attainable through self realization.\\nSelf realization thus leads to enlightenment and ends the cycle of birth, death and rebirth.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Understand the five distractions.\", \"描述\": \"These are ego, anger, greed, lust and attachment. Sikhs believe these five distractions prevent one from achieving union with God, which is the ultimate goal. 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How to Be a Simple Person
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1. Steps
1-1. Use correct posture.
If you slouch all the time, you will have back problems in the future.
1-2. Find the easiest way of doing things.
If something can be easy, do it in the simplest way. Don't take 15 steps to solve a problem that requires 2 steps to solve. Now this doesn't means that the simplest way is always easy - work smarter, not harder.
1-3. Think before you speak.
If you don't have anything to say, then don't say anything. If you do have anything to say, think about what you're saying to avoid making further embarrassment and stupidity of yourself.
1-4. Be sensible.
Simple people are the most productive people because they have the 5 life senses (book sense, common sense, street sense, fashion sense, and business sense). Not everyone is going to have these senses in equal amounts, but try to improve yourself in all of them.
1-5. Dress simply.
Don't go for anything too colorful or too dull. If it's a formal event, wear some dark slacks, a decent white dress shirt, a red tie, and some black dress shoes. It's as simple as wearing a T-shirt and blue jeans. But your style is you.
1-6. Have some manners.
It won't kill you and good manners will take you very far in life.
1-7. Don't be a coward
Stand up for what you believe in. Simple people also think before mental and physical argument.
1-8. Have a good attitude.
This is by far the most important thing to have. A good attitude is worth more than a billion dollars. If a simple person is told to do something, he does it, but he doesn't get pushed in the wrong direction either. He doesn't get used or taken advantage of.
1-9. Be independent.
You can try to get things done by yourself such as cleaning your bedroom, doing your homework, maybe cooking or cleaning. This will show you are responsible and independent.
1-10. Stick to good morals and values.
Don't drink, smoke, do drugs or party all night. These things aren't important, they won't help your future-and they're definitely not good for you or your health. Stay away from it! If moderate alcohol use is traditional in your family, ask an adult for advice on responsible drinking. Stick to a curfew hour even if your parents haven't set one for you, like always be home by midnight or earlier. (This is an example of good business sense.)
Tips
Common sense means attitude, behavior, and sense of understanding.
Book sense means smarts you would learn at school.
Business sense means manners and work ethic.
Warnings
Everyone is equal, but some people have got better senses than others. A person with book sense might not have common sense. And a person with both might not have fashion sense or something like that. You won't be perfect!
Even though you're simple does not mean that you have to be boring. You are still you, just more simple.
Avoid drastic changes in your life. That may be repulsive to your friends and family.
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If it's a formal event, wear some dark slacks, a decent white dress shirt, a red tie, and some black dress shoes. It's as simple as wearing a T-shirt and blue jeans. But your style is you.\\n1-6. Have some manners.\\nIt won't kill you and good manners will take you very far in life.\\n1-7. Don't be a coward\\nStand up for what you believe in. Simple people also think before mental and physical argument.\\n1-8. Have a good attitude.\\nThis is by far the most important thing to have. A good attitude is worth more than a billion dollars. If a simple person is told to do something, he does it, but he doesn't get pushed in the wrong direction either. He doesn't get used or taken advantage of.\\n1-9. Be independent.\\nYou can try to get things done by yourself such as cleaning your bedroom, doing your homework, maybe cooking or cleaning. This will show you are responsible and independent.\\n1-10. Stick to good morals and values.\\nDon't drink, smoke, do drugs or party all night. These things aren't important, they won't help your future-and they're definitely not good for you or your health. Stay away from it! If moderate alcohol use is traditional in your family, ask an adult for advice on responsible drinking. Stick to a curfew hour even if your parents haven't set one for you, like always be home by midnight or earlier. (This is an example of good business sense.)\\nTips\\nCommon sense means attitude, behavior, and sense of understanding.\\nBook sense means smarts you would learn at school.\\nBusiness sense means manners and work ethic.\\nWarnings\\nEveryone is equal, but some people have got better senses than others. A person with book sense might not have common sense. And a person with both might not have fashion sense or something like that. You won't be perfect!\\nEven though you're simple does not mean that you have to be boring. You are still you, just more simple.\\nAvoid drastic changes in your life. That may be repulsive to your friends and family.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tired of leading a complicated life? Well, a simple person is happy and is more of a comfortable personality that deals with being the ideal person. A simple person relies on five life senses: book, common, street, fashion, and business.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use correct posture.\", \"描述\": \"If you slouch all the time, you will have back problems in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find the easiest way of doing things.\", \"描述\": \"If something can be easy, do it in the simplest way. Don't take 15 steps to solve a problem that requires 2 steps to solve. Now this doesn't means that the simplest way is always easy - work smarter, not harder.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Think before you speak.\", \"描述\": \"If you don't have anything to say, then don't say anything. If you do have anything to say, think about what you're saying to avoid making further embarrassment and stupidity of yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be sensible.\", \"描述\": \"Simple people are the most productive people because they have the 5 life senses (book sense, common sense, street sense, fashion sense, and business sense). Not everyone is going to have these senses in equal amounts, but try to improve yourself in all of them.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dress simply.\", \"描述\": \"Don't go for anything too colorful or too dull. If it's a formal event, wear some dark slacks, a decent white dress shirt, a red tie, and some black dress shoes. It's as simple as wearing a T-shirt and blue jeans. But your style is you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Have some manners.\", \"描述\": \"It won't kill you and good manners will take you very far in life.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Don't be a coward\", \"描述\": \"Stand up for what you believe in. 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1. Developing Your Musical Skills
1-1. Learn to read music.
Before you can sing or write songs successfully, you must learn how to read music. That will allow you to understand the pitch, speed, and rhythm of a song, so you can see how other songwriters have put their songs together and eventually craft songs of your own.
If you’re already a student, see if your school offers a music theory class that can help you pick up all of the basics, including how to read specific notes and decipher the beat.
If you’re not in school, your local community college or continuing education program may offer an introductory music course.
There are a variety of online programs that can help you learn to read music. Many are free, but you can also pay for courses that provide more personal instruction.
Some singer songwriters receive a more formal education by attending an arts college or performing arts conservatory with dedicated music programs, such as The Juilliard School or the Berklee College of Music. It isn’t necessary, but a formal degree may open other career paths to you if songwriting doesn’t work out, such as teaching music.
1-2. Take up an instrument.
Most songwriters play an instrument, which they use to help them develop melodies and chords when they’re writing songs. In most cases, they use either a guitar or a piano to accompany them, which gives them more flexibility as a performer. You can technically use any instrument to help you write a song though! Choose an instrument that you have an interest in, so you’ll be motivated to put the work in to master it.
If you have the opportunity to learn an instrument as part of your school’s band or orchestra program, go for it. It’s a chance to get hands on instruction without having to pay for it.
You can take private lessons to learn how to play the guitar, piano, or another instrument. Visit your local music store to ask about learning -- the store may offer classes or have a bulletin board where teachers can provide their contact details.
It’s possible to learn an instrument without a teacher. There are online programs and videos that can provide effective instruction if you’re willing to make an effort.
1-3. Work with a singing teacher/coach.
If you plan to sing your own songs, you want to ensure that your voice is as strong as possible. While practice can help you get better, working with a vocal teacher or coach can provide valuable feedback that improves your singing. A teacher can help correct pitch problems, vocal fatigue issues during performances or rehearsals, poor breath control, and even a lack of confidence.
Private vocal lessons can be fairly expensive, so it’s important to set a budget and shop around until you find a teacher who you can afford.
If you want to be sure to find a qualified vocal teacher, visit the National Association of Teachers of Singing website. They provide a search engine that allows you to find vocal teachers in your area who meet the association’s standards.
If you’re on a budget, your local music store is an ideal place to look for a vocal teacher. You may find graduate students and instructors who only teach part-time, so they don’t charge as much as full-time teachers.
1-4. Perform in front of a crowd.
When you’re trying to become a singer songwriter, your goal is eventually performing in front of large audiences. Before you start pursuing the career, it’s important to know that you’re comfortable singing and performing in front of a crowd. If you're a student, you might join your school chorus or glee club. You can also participate in your church’s choir or find another singing group in your area that you can join. Look for any opportunity to gain experience singing in front of others.
If you don’t have any opportunities to join a singing group, find ways to perform on your own. Sign up for a local talent show or gather some friends and family that you can perform for. Even participating in karaoke night at your favorite restaurant or bar can help you become more comfortable in front of a crowd.
2. Writing Your Own Songs
2-1. Listen to a variety of genres.
Before you start to write your songs, it helps to listen other songwriters’ work so you can get a feel for what makes a successful song. Don’t just listen to songs in the genre that you enjoy, though. You can learn something from every type of song, so analyze pop, rock, country, rap, folk, dance, and other types of music and see what you like about each song.
Pay close attention to the lyrics of the songs that you listen to. See which ones move you emotionally, so you can try to figure out how to create a similar effect with your own music.
2-2. Study song composition.
When you listen to music, pay attention to the composition of the songs. Composition refers to how the songs are put together. Most songs typically feature two to three verses and two to three choruses. The verses tell the story or set the scene for your song, while the chorus is a simple, repetitive section that usually draws the listener in. As you listen to a song, try to break it down into these components.
Some songs contain a bridge in addition to the verses and chorus. A bridge is usually a section that helps take the song in a new direction. In many cases, it’s instrumental and may feature changes in key, tempo, chords, or instrumentation. The common layout for a song with a bridge is: verse, chorus, verse, chorus, bridge, chorus.
In some cases, a song may contain a pre-chorus, which serves a transition between the verses and the chorus.
Some songs features intros and outros, which help establish and expand the song’s main theme. It can be comprised solely of instrumentals or feature a combination of vocals and instruments.
It may help to print out the lyrics or purchase the sheet music for some songs. That way, you can diagram the songs and label each section as what it is.
2-3. Keep a journal.
The best songs are ones that are rooted in personal observations and emotions. You’ll find inspiration for your songs in the things that you see around you and the experiences in your life, so it helps to write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal. Your entries don’t have to be fully formed lyrics -- just get your feelings down and you can develop them into catchy lyrics later.
Carry your journal with you all the time. You never know when an idea for a song or specific lyric will hit you.
Sometimes, it’s easier to sing an idea that comes to you. Use a recording app on your phone to hum a chorus or melody line that you come up with suddenly.
2-4. Decide the best approach for your song.
There is no right way to compose a song. Some songwriters start with the lyrics and then put a melody or chords to the words. Others start with a melody or chord progression and then add the lyrics later. See which approach feels most natural for you, and go to work writing your song.
If you have a specific story or idea that you want to convey in your song, it may be best to start with the lyrics.
If you want to capture a certain mood, starting with the melody or chords may be a better approach.
When you’re trying to figure out a chord progression for your song, just play chords that you think sound good together. In music theory, there are certain chords that are commonly played together, but you’ll never know if a progression will work until you play it.
When you’re having trouble coming up with lyrics, it’s okay to hum nonsense words or syllables until you establish a basic melody for the song.
2-5. Record your song(s).
Once you’ve finished writing the song and you’ve practiced it, it’s time to make a recorded version of it. By recording it, you’ll be able to listen back to it to see if there’s any room for improvement, but you’ll also have a version that you can post online for exposure, or send to record companies as a demo.
If you have the money to book a session at a professional recording studio, that is definitely the best option. Do an online search for studios in your area.
If you don’t have the budget for a professional recording session or don’t have any studio nearby, don’t worry. You can make a strong recording with a good quality microphone and the right computer software at home.
3. Getting Exposure as a Singer Songwriter
3-1. Copyright your music.
Once you write some songs that you’re proud of, it’s important to protect them before you start performing or sharing them with the public. As soon as you’ve produced the final written version of your song, you can register your song with the U.S. Copyright Office to ensure that no one else can claim ownership of it.
You’ll also need a recorded version of the song. It doesn’t have to be a professional recording from a studio, though. You can use a rough demo version.
3-2. Perform at open mike nights.
After you’ve written at least one song that you’re happy with, it’s time to start singing it in front of an audience. Look for open mike nights at clubs, bars, and coffee shops in your area where you can test out your new songs, and gain more experience performing your material in front of a crowd.
In addition to open mike nights, keep an eye out for talent shows and music festivals in your area that might allow you to perform your songs.
3-3. Enter songwriting contests.
If you want to get more exposure and see how your songwriting compares to other artists’ work, you may want to enter a songwriting contest. Not only may you win money or other prizes that can help fund your singer songwriter career, you may also make contacts in the music industry that can help you advance.
There are a variety of different contests for songwriting, such as the John Lennon Songwriting Contest and the International Songwriting Competition. Some may be geared toward specific genres, though, so be sure to find one that’s a good fit for your song(s).
Do an online search to find songwriting competitions that you may want to enter. In some cases, you may be better off entering local contests because you won’t be competing against as many other songwriters.
3-4. Post your music to social media.
Another way to get more visibility as a singer songwriter is to share your music via social media apps, such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. YouTube is probably the best tool -- create an account and make videos of yourself singing your original songs. Through the other social media apps, you can share them with friends, family, and potential fans, who will hopefully share them with more people so you can create a larger following.
You can also use social media to advertise performances. The more people that you help bring to an open mike night, festival, or other venue, the more of a commodity you’ll seem to booking agents and music industry executives.
It’s also a good idea to create a website for yourself and your music. There are a variety of website building sites that make it easy to create a site even if you’re not a computer expert. A fee may be required, though.
3-5. Submit your songs to an online music catalog.
When TV shows, commercial companies, and other business need music, they often consult online music catalogs. You can submit your songs to these catalogs so companies can listen to your music and see if it’s a fit for what they need. It’s a good way to break into the industry because it will be cheaper to use an aspiring songwriter’s music than to use a successful, popular musician.
Some online catalogs charge a fee to list your songs, so be sure to read the fine print to know what you’re in for.
3-6. Contact music labels.
Some record companies accept unsolicited demos from aspiring singer songwriters, so you can send them recordings of your songs to see if they’re interested. The best way to identify companies that you should contact is to consider the labels that represent sing songwriters with a similar style to yours. Do an online search for the company, and see what their submission policy is.
If you’re going to be sending a demo to a record label, you should have a professional recording of your music. Wait until you have the money to buy studio time and produce a high quality demo before contacting a record company.
Tips
Patience is a virtue for a singer songwriter. It can take a long time to build a successful career, so be sure that you have another way to earn money while you’re trying to establish yourself.
Get as much feedback as possible on your songs and singing style from your friends, family members, music teachers, and fellow musicians, so you can continually improve. Be receptive to constructive criticism too -- it takes a thick skin to make it in the music business.
To keep your songwriting skills sharp, you should always be working on new songs. Keep an eye out for inspiration whenever it may strike.
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Even participating in karaoke night at your favorite restaurant or bar can help you become more comfortable in front of a crowd.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Writing Your Own Songs\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to a variety of genres.\", \"描述\": \"Before you start to write your songs, it helps to listen other songwriters’ work so you can get a feel for what makes a successful song. Don’t just listen to songs in the genre that you enjoy, though. You can learn something from every type of song, so analyze pop, rock, country, rap, folk, dance, and other types of music and see what you like about each song.\\nPay close attention to the lyrics of the songs that you listen to. See which ones move you emotionally, so you can try to figure out how to create a similar effect with your own music.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Study song composition.\", \"描述\": \"When you listen to music, pay attention to the composition of the songs. Composition refers to how the songs are put together. 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Use a recording app on your phone to hum a chorus or melody line that you come up with suddenly.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide the best approach for your song.\", \"描述\": \"There is no right way to compose a song. Some songwriters start with the lyrics and then put a melody or chords to the words. Others start with a melody or chord progression and then add the lyrics later. See which approach feels most natural for you, and go to work writing your song.\\nIf you have a specific story or idea that you want to convey in your song, it may be best to start with the lyrics.\\nIf you want to capture a certain mood, starting with the melody or chords may be a better approach.\\nWhen you’re trying to figure out a chord progression for your song, just play chords that you think sound good together. In music theory, there are certain chords that are commonly played together, but you’ll never know if a progression will work until you play it.\\nWhen you’re having trouble coming up with lyrics, it’s okay to hum nonsense words or syllables until you establish a basic melody for the song.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Record your song(s).\", \"描述\": \"Once you’ve finished writing the song and you’ve practiced it, it’s time to make a recorded version of it. By recording it, you’ll be able to listen back to it to see if there’s any room for improvement, but you’ll also have a version that you can post online for exposure, or send to record companies as a demo.\\nIf you have the money to book a session at a professional recording studio, that is definitely the best option. Do an online search for studios in your area.\\nIf you don’t have the budget for a professional recording session or don’t have any studio nearby, don’t worry. You can make a strong recording with a good quality microphone and the right computer software at home.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting Exposure as a Singer Songwriter\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Copyright your music.\", \"描述\": \"Once you write some songs that you’re proud of, it’s important to protect them before you start performing or sharing them with the public. As soon as you’ve produced the final written version of your song, you can register your song with the U.S. Copyright Office to ensure that no one else can claim ownership of it.\\nYou’ll also need a recorded version of the song. It doesn’t have to be a professional recording from a studio, though. You can use a rough demo version.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Perform at open mike nights.\", \"描述\": \"After you’ve written at least one song that you’re happy with, it’s time to start singing it in front of an audience. Look for open mike nights at clubs, bars, and coffee shops in your area where you can test out your new songs, and gain more experience performing your material in front of a crowd.\\nIn addition to open mike nights, keep an eye out for talent shows and music festivals in your area that might allow you to perform your songs.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enter songwriting contests.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to get more exposure and see how your songwriting compares to other artists’ work, you may want to enter a songwriting contest. Not only may you win money or other prizes that can help fund your singer songwriter career, you may also make contacts in the music industry that can help you advance.\\nThere are a variety of different contests for songwriting, such as the John Lennon Songwriting Contest and the International Songwriting Competition. Some may be geared toward specific genres, though, so be sure to find one that’s a good fit for your song(s).\\nDo an online search to find songwriting competitions that you may want to enter. In some cases, you may be better off entering local contests because you won’t be competing against as many other songwriters.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Post your music to social media.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to get more visibility as a singer songwriter is to share your music via social media apps, such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. YouTube is probably the best tool -- create an account and make videos of yourself singing your original songs. Through the other social media apps, you can share them with friends, family, and potential fans, who will hopefully share them with more people so you can create a larger following.\\nYou can also use social media to advertise performances. The more people that you help bring to an open mike night, festival, or other venue, the more of a commodity you’ll seem to booking agents and music industry executives.\\nIt’s also a good idea to create a website for yourself and your music. There are a variety of website building sites that make it easy to create a site even if you’re not a computer expert. A fee may be required, though.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Submit your songs to an online music catalog.\", \"描述\": \"When TV shows, commercial companies, and other business need music, they often consult online music catalogs. You can submit your songs to these catalogs so companies can listen to your music and see if it’s a fit for what they need. 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1. Dressing Like a Skater Girl
1-1. Wear cool, comfortable clothing.
Skateboarding is exercise, so chances are you’ll get hot. Clothing that keeps you cool will help you feel comfortable while you skate. Most skaters wear jeans and cotton t-shirts. You could also layer a long sleeve t-shirt under a short sleeve t-shirt if the weather gets cool.
Cotton is a good, lightweight, breathable material to wear when skating. Wear a heavier cotton on your bottom half in case you fall – like jeans.
1-2. Avoid tight clothing that restricts your range of motion.
You want your clothes to be a little form-fitting, mostly so they don’t get in the way of your skating. But if you wear anything too tight, you won’t be able to bend and move the way you need to.
The jeans that were made popular by skaters in the 90s were usually wide leg. Now, straight jeans that aren't too tight are the style. Either one is fine as long as you can move in them.
You should also avoid pants that are too long – they might get stuck in your wheels!
1-3. Wear graphic tees.
A lot of skaters wear graphic t-shirts. They help show who you are in a big, bright, hard-to-ignore way. You don't have to pick a particular image on your t-shirt, just something that feels right to you.
1-4. Wear hoodies.
Part of the skater girl look is wearing a hoodie sweatshirt. You can choose any kind you want, but sticking to hoodies with skater clothing brand logos on them will make you seem more legit.
1-5. Wear skater shoes.
Skateboarding shoes are flat-soled shoes give your feet the most contact with your board and therefore give you more control. When you’re skating, wear skating shoes when you can, and at the very least, flat shoes with comfortable soles. Look for shoes that are flat and smooth on the bottom, like Converse or Vans.
1-6. Keep your hair out of your face.
When you’re skating, you need to be able to see where you’re going. You can wear your hair in a ponytail, pin it back, or wear a hat.
1-7. Buy shoes and clothes from iconic skate brands.
A big part of being a skater girl is looking like one. That means wearing shoes and clothes from skater brands. Other skaters tend to wear these clothes and they're also tailored to allow for skaters' movement.
Some great skater brands are Vans, DC, Nike (especially their basketball line), and Etnies.
2. Acting Like a Skater Girl
2-1. Visit skate parks.
There are a lot of skate parks out there, with different types of obstacles and ramps. To act like a skater girl, hang out there! You can practice your own skating and watch people with more experience skate. It’s a good way to learn.
A lot of cities have skate parks in them, so check your city's website for a list of skate parks. You can also ask your friends who already skate which parks they hang out in.
2-2. Make friends who skate.
While you’re at the skate park, start a conversation with other skaters. Tell them you’re just starting out and you’re hoping to get any pointers. It’s a good way to get better at skating and make friends.
2-3. Follow pro skaters.
When you're at the skate park or hanging out with your skater friends, chances are the topic of pro skaters will come up. Follow pro skaters so you can contribute to the conversation, but also so you can learn new tricks. Watching the X-Games is a great way to get started on following pro skateboarders.
2-4. Defend yourself from critics.
Some skaters might feel a little threatened by new skaters, and criticize you for not being able to skate. In that situation, it's best to remember that every skater had a point when they couldn't skate, and directly confront them about what they said.
For example, you might hear someone say "Look at this poser! She can't even skate!" at the skate park. Turn around and say to the person, "Oh, I didn't realize you were a perfect skater the first time you ever tried!" Just getting a response is usually enough to shut the critics up.
2-5. Take a friend with you to the skate park.
If you're really nervous about going to a skate park alone, ask a friend to go with you. It should be someone who is also interested in learning to skate, or who already knows how. It can make you feel more comfortable as you learn.
When you ask a friend to go with you, tell them why. You can say something like "I really want to start skating, but I'm a little nervous about going alone. Would you go with me?"
3. Learning How to Skateboard
3-1. Relax your body.
You need to use pretty much your whole body to control your skateboard. If you’re too tense, you won’t have as much control, and you might injure yourself. Keep your arms loose at your sides and your knees slightly bent.
3-2. Place your left foot at the front of the board.
Your foot should be on the front axle of your board – this is usually called the “sweet spot” on a skateboard. It should also line up with the board so that your foot is facing the end of the board, not the edge.
If you’re left-handed, reverse these instructions so that your right foot is at the front of the board.
3-3. Push off gently with your back foot (everyone has a different foot that goes at the front of the board pick the one that feels comfortable for you this may take a while.
) . Using your back foot, push against the ground so that you move your board forward slightly. Once you get some speed built up, twist your front foot so it’s sideways on your board in riding mode, and then pick your back foot up and place it on the board side ways at the back of the board while you ride.
Learning how to do this can take a long time because it requires a lot of balance. Practice it over and over until you feel comfortable with the move. Then you can add more speed.
If you can't get your foot totally perpendicular on the board, that's okay! Even if you can get your foot slightly turned, that's a step in the right direction.
3-4. Use your feet to control your direction.
Once both of your feet are on your board, you can use them to control the direction of the board. Lean forward slightly and press your toes down to move the board to the right. Lean back slightly and press your heels down to move the board to the left.
3-5. Stop the board by dragging your foot.
You can drag your right foot on the ground if you want to slow down or stop your board. As you get more experience, you can also press down on the back of your board with your right foot to flip the board up and stop your forward motion.
3-6. Land some basic tricks.
If you want to be taken seriously as a skater, being able to land a few basic tricks will give you some serious cred.
Kickturning is a good way to turn your board if you don't have the space or time to turn by changing your weight distribution. Press down slightly on your back wheels so you're balancing there, and use you front foot to push the front of the board to the left or right. This will change your direction pretty quickly.
Tips
Skating takes time, especially if you want to learn tricks, so be patient and most importantly have fun!
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Either one is fine as long as you can move in them.\\nYou should also avoid pants that are too long – they might get stuck in your wheels!\\n1-3. Wear graphic tees.\\nA lot of skaters wear graphic t-shirts. They help show who you are in a big, bright, hard-to-ignore way. You don't have to pick a particular image on your t-shirt, just something that feels right to you.\\n1-4. Wear hoodies.\\nPart of the skater girl look is wearing a hoodie sweatshirt. You can choose any kind you want, but sticking to hoodies with skater clothing brand logos on them will make you seem more legit.\\n1-5. Wear skater shoes.\\nSkateboarding shoes are flat-soled shoes give your feet the most contact with your board and therefore give you more control. When you’re skating, wear skating shoes when you can, and at the very least, flat shoes with comfortable soles. Look for shoes that are flat and smooth on the bottom, like Converse or Vans.\\n1-6. Keep your hair out of your face.\\nWhen you’re skating, you need to be able to see where you’re going. You can wear your hair in a ponytail, pin it back, or wear a hat.\\n1-7. Buy shoes and clothes from iconic skate brands.\\nA big part of being a skater girl is looking like one. That means wearing shoes and clothes from skater brands. Other skaters tend to wear these clothes and they're also tailored to allow for skaters' movement.\\nSome great skater brands are Vans, DC, Nike (especially their basketball line), and Etnies.\\n2. Acting Like a Skater Girl\\n2-1. Visit skate parks.\\nThere are a lot of skate parks out there, with different types of obstacles and ramps. To act like a skater girl, hang out there! You can practice your own skating and watch people with more experience skate. It’s a good way to learn.\\nA lot of cities have skate parks in them, so check your city's website for a list of skate parks. You can also ask your friends who already skate which parks they hang out in.\\n2-2. Make friends who skate.\\nWhile you’re at the skate park, start a conversation with other skaters. Tell them you’re just starting out and you’re hoping to get any pointers. It’s a good way to get better at skating and make friends.\\n2-3. Follow pro skaters.\\nWhen you're at the skate park or hanging out with your skater friends, chances are the topic of pro skaters will come up. Follow pro skaters so you can contribute to the conversation, but also so you can learn new tricks. Watching the X-Games is a great way to get started on following pro skateboarders.\\n2-4. Defend yourself from critics.\\nSome skaters might feel a little threatened by new skaters, and criticize you for not being able to skate. 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It should also line up with the board so that your foot is facing the end of the board, not the edge.\\nIf you’re left-handed, reverse these instructions so that your right foot is at the front of the board.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Push off gently with your back foot (everyone has a different foot that goes at the front of the board pick the one that feels comfortable for you this may take a while.\", \"描述\": \") . Using your back foot, push against the ground so that you move your board forward slightly. Once you get some speed built up, twist your front foot so it’s sideways on your board in riding mode, and then pick your back foot up and place it on the board side ways at the back of the board while you ride.\\nLearning how to do this can take a long time because it requires a lot of balance. Practice it over and over until you feel comfortable with the move. Then you can add more speed.\\nIf you can't get your foot totally perpendicular on the board, that's okay! Even if you can get your foot slightly turned, that's a step in the right direction.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use your feet to control your direction.\", \"描述\": \"Once both of your feet are on your board, you can use them to control the direction of the board. Lean forward slightly and press your toes down to move the board to the right. Lean back slightly and press your heels down to move the board to the left.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stop the board by dragging your foot.\", \"描述\": \"You can drag your right foot on the ground if you want to slow down or stop your board. 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1. Being Smart in School
1-1. Listen by clearing your mind and focusing on the teacher.
To learn from teachers, you must pay close attention. Start by turning off what your brain is saying. You may be thinking about what you had for lunch or what your best friend said. Try to push those thoughts away and put your attention on what the teacher is saying. You may want to turn your head slightly toward them to remind you to listen.
As you listen, try to put what the teacher is saying in your own words. That's called summarizing, and it helps you remember what's being said.
It can help to take notes. Write down what the teacher is saying in your own words. Don't try to get every word down, as you won't be able to keep up. Just get down the big, important ideas.
1-2. Ask questions when you have them.
Everyone has questions, even smart girls! In fact, the smartest people often ask the most questions because they want to learn. If you don't understand something in class or you want to know more, don't be afraid to put your hand up.
Someone else probably has the same question, too, so you're helping your classmates out!
1-3. Put in the hours to learn the subject outside of school.
Working hard is a big part of being smart. If you're not getting a concept, practice it for a little bit each day until you get it. By continuing to work on it, you'll eventually have that "Aha!" moment where things become clear.
Set aside time each day to work on the concepts you don't understand, even if you've already moved on in class.
If you're having trouble, don't be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes, it just takes someone explaining something a little differently for you to get it. You could talk to your teacher, a friend who understands the material, or your parents. You could even go online to see if you can find a tutorial to help you understand it better.
1-4. Read as often and as much as you can.
Reading is essential to your learning process. It's how you'll be able to absorb information in many subjects. That means that the better you're able to read and comprehend, the easier you'll be able to pick up new ideas!
It doesn't really matter what you're reading, as long as you're reading. Read comic books, novels, picture books, and magazines, or whatever else you like!
1-5. Speak up to show your confidence.
It can be scary to say what you're thinking at times, but if you use a soft, mumbling voice, people won't take you as seriously. Speak up in a strong, confident voice! You'll feel more confident, and you'll convince other people of your sincerity, too.
Try practicing in front of the mirror. Work on saying things in a voice people can hear, saying your words clearly and distinctly.
1-6. Grow your thinking skills outside of school by finding problems to solve.
When you work your brain muscles more, you get better at solving problems. Try to put your smarts to work outside school by building things, figuring out how things work, and trying to repair things that break. You can take that problem-solving right back to school!
For instance, maybe your kid sister broke one of her favorite toys. Look around the house to figure out if you can find a way to fix it!
Don't try to fix appliances on your own, as electricity is very dangerous!
2. Exploring New Interests
2-1. Follow what you love.
Maybe you're a girl who loves dinosaurs or one who's into princesses. Maybe you love both, or maybe you like bugs! Whatever you love, learn more about it. Get library books to learn more or go online to find out more. Exploring what you love is a great way to learn and grow.
If your city has a museum featuring something you're interested in, ask your parents to take you!
2-2. Work hard to learn new things by persistently practicing your new skill.
Learning something new can take some hard work, but if put in the hard work and learn it, you prove to yourself you can do it. Tackle new things to prove to yourself that you're smart, brave, and persistent! Tell yourself you can do it and then keep at it until you do.
Learn a new card trick, for instance, or ask a parent to show you how to cook something new in the kitchen. Keep practicing until you can do it on your own! If the first thing you cook is terrible, keep trying until you make something edible, even delicious.
You could also take up a new hobby, such as chess, painting, or ballet, or try a new sport. Join a new club or even just get your friends together to try something! Working with other people will inspire you to keep at it.
2-3. Learn it's okay to make mistakes.
As a girl, you may feel like you have to be the best at everything the first time you do it. Here's a secret, though: no one's perfect at something the first time they do it. You're going to make mistakes, and that's okay. You're still a smart kid! Just learn from your mistakes and apply it so you get better.
For instance, maybe you want to build a robot. Great! Maybe your first attempt isn't so great though, and it falls apart. Figure out why it fell apart and use that knowledge to build your next robot! You didn't fail; you're just learning how to do better.
2-4. Practice skills instead of reading about them.
You learn some by reading about how to do something. However, you learn a lot more by actually trying it out. Read a book or watch a video about what you want to do, but then, go out and try it yourself. The more active you are in learning something, the better your brain will remember it.
So, for instance, if you're trying to learn how to make a friendship bracelet, look it up in a book or online first, but then try it out yourself.
2-5. Join the band or the choir to improve your mental skills.
Kids who learn how to read music and then play a musical instrument or sing actually help develop their brains! Join a class or organization at your school where you can learn how to play. If that's not an option, try learning how to read music from online videos and tutorials!
You could also ask your parents to get you music lessons.
2-6. Don't forget to leave time for play.
You don't need to be trying to make yourself smarter all the time. Give yourself some downtime to play your favorite game or just make up a story or draw a picture. These activities may seem trivial, but they let your brain rest while, at the same time, opening up your imagination!
3. Practicing Healthy Habits
3-1. Keep your body healthy by getting 30-60 minutes of exercise most days of the week.
A healthy body equals a healthy brain! You don't have to join an organized sports team to get active. You could go play basketball with your friends, go for a swim, or play at the park. Just get your body moving!
3-2. Fuel your brain with healthy food.
Your brain needs good food and nutrients to work right! At meals, aim to fill up half your plate with veggies. Then eat some healthy protein, like chicken and fish, and whole grains, like brown rice or whole wheat pasta. Talk to your parents about eating healthier if they cook for you.
You could say, "I'd really like to start eating healthier. What can I do to help make healthier meals for us?"
3-3. Go to bed on time.
This sounds boring, but you have to get enough sleep for your brain to develop properly. If you're 13 or younger, you need at least 9 to 11 hours every night, and if you're over 13, you need at least 8 to 10 hours every night. If you wake up feeling tired and find yourself dozing off during the day, you need to get more sleep!
If you have trouble falling asleep, turn off your screens an hour before bed. The blue light from smartphones, tablets, and other screens tells your brain to stay awake! Also, sleep with your phone away from your bed with the notifications turned off.
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If you don't understand something in class or you want to know more, don't be afraid to put your hand up.\\nSomeone else probably has the same question, too, so you're helping your classmates out!\\n1-3. Put in the hours to learn the subject outside of school.\\nWorking hard is a big part of being smart. If you're not getting a concept, practice it for a little bit each day until you get it. By continuing to work on it, you'll eventually have that \\\"Aha!\\\" moment where things become clear.\\nSet aside time each day to work on the concepts you don't understand, even if you've already moved on in class.\\nIf you're having trouble, don't be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes, it just takes someone explaining something a little differently for you to get it. You could talk to your teacher, a friend who understands the material, or your parents. You could even go online to see if you can find a tutorial to help you understand it better.\\n1-4. Read as often and as much as you can.\\nReading is essential to your learning process. It's how you'll be able to absorb information in many subjects. That means that the better you're able to read and comprehend, the easier you'll be able to pick up new ideas!\\nIt doesn't really matter what you're reading, as long as you're reading. Read comic books, novels, picture books, and magazines, or whatever else you like!\\n1-5. Speak up to show your confidence.\\nIt can be scary to say what you're thinking at times, but if you use a soft, mumbling voice, people won't take you as seriously. Speak up in a strong, confident voice! You'll feel more confident, and you'll convince other people of your sincerity, too.\\nTry practicing in front of the mirror. Work on saying things in a voice people can hear, saying your words clearly and distinctly.\\n1-6. Grow your thinking skills outside of school by finding problems to solve.\\nWhen you work your brain muscles more, you get better at solving problems. Try to put your smarts to work outside school by building things, figuring out how things work, and trying to repair things that break. You can take that problem-solving right back to school!\\nFor instance, maybe your kid sister broke one of her favorite toys. Look around the house to figure out if you can find a way to fix it!\\nDon't try to fix appliances on your own, as electricity is very dangerous!\\n2. Exploring New Interests\\n2-1. Follow what you love.\\nMaybe you're a girl who loves dinosaurs or one who's into princesses. Maybe you love both, or maybe you like bugs! Whatever you love, learn more about it. Get library books to learn more or go online to find out more. Exploring what you love is a great way to learn and grow.\\nIf your city has a museum featuring something you're interested in, ask your parents to take you!\\n2-2. Work hard to learn new things by persistently practicing your new skill.\\nLearning something new can take some hard work, but if put in the hard work and learn it, you prove to yourself you can do it. Tackle new things to prove to yourself that you're smart, brave, and persistent! Tell yourself you can do it and then keep at it until you do.\\nLearn a new card trick, for instance, or ask a parent to show you how to cook something new in the kitchen. Keep practicing until you can do it on your own! If the first thing you cook is terrible, keep trying until you make something edible, even delicious.\\nYou could also take up a new hobby, such as chess, painting, or ballet, or try a new sport. Join a new club or even just get your friends together to try something! Working with other people will inspire you to keep at it.\\n2-3. Learn it's okay to make mistakes.\\nAs a girl, you may feel like you have to be the best at everything the first time you do it. Here's a secret, though: no one's perfect at something the first time they do it. You're going to make mistakes, and that's okay. You're still a smart kid! Just learn from your mistakes and apply it so you get better.\\nFor instance, maybe you want to build a robot. Great! Maybe your first attempt isn't so great though, and it falls apart. Figure out why it fell apart and use that knowledge to build your next robot! You didn't fail; you're just learning how to do better.\\n2-4. Practice skills instead of reading about them.\\nYou learn some by reading about how to do something. However, you learn a lot more by actually trying it out. Read a book or watch a video about what you want to do, but then, go out and try it yourself. 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Practicing Healthy Habits\\n3-1. Keep your body healthy by getting 30-60 minutes of exercise most days of the week.\\nA healthy body equals a healthy brain! You don't have to join an organized sports team to get active. You could go play basketball with your friends, go for a swim, or play at the park. Just get your body moving!\\n3-2. Fuel your brain with healthy food.\\nYour brain needs good food and nutrients to work right! At meals, aim to fill up half your plate with veggies. Then eat some healthy protein, like chicken and fish, and whole grains, like brown rice or whole wheat pasta. Talk to your parents about eating healthier if they cook for you.\\nYou could say, \\\"I'd really like to start eating healthier. What can I do to help make healthier meals for us?\\\"\\n3-3. Go to bed on time.\\nThis sounds boring, but you have to get enough sleep for your brain to develop properly. 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1. Fulfill your academic obligations.
Do not skip out on your homework and study hard.
The entire point of school is to make you as smart as possible! Complete all of your math, language arts, history, and science homework. Put your best foot forward at school and never hesitate to ask questions.
2. Prioritize your tasks.
Complete the most important things first.
This helps because you might need to do an important project and you decide to go and play basketball and you rush your teacher will tell you that this work has not been improved.
3. Plan ahead.
The more prepared you are for the day, the easier things will be.
Get a notebook or small digital planner to write down your daily homework assignments and write down the due dates for tests and papers. Get a weekly planner with your class schedule and plan your activities. Get a monthly calendar to write down birthdays and big events. Write down what classes you have, when to do homework and what your homework is, dates, when you are hanging out with friends etc. all in your planner.
4. Be happy.
What’s the point of being smart if you aren’t enjoying it?
Do things you love in your spare time and pursue your passions. The better your mood is, the easier it will be to pursue your goal of being intelligent.
5. Keep an open mind.
Smart people tend to be flexible and inclusive.
You do not have to agree with them but remember everybody has something to teach you. Keep an open mind. The more intelligent you are the more questions you will ask of your friends, teachers and parents. It is great for social conversations too but don't do it in class.
Tips
Learn everyday for at least 15 minutes.
Don't be jealous about other people's lives.
Take your time and learn.
Warnings
Try very hard to enjoy learning.
Don't reveal your weakness
Don't cheat. It's not worth it.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Fulfill your academic obligations.\\nDo not skip out on your homework and study hard.\\nThe entire point of school is to make you as smart as possible! Complete all of your math, language arts, history, and science homework. Put your best foot forward at school and never hesitate to ask questions.\\n2. Prioritize your tasks.\\nComplete the most important things first.\\nThis helps because you might need to do an important project and you decide to go and play basketball and you rush your teacher will tell you that this work has not been improved.\\n3. Plan ahead.\\nThe more prepared you are for the day, the easier things will be.\\nGet a notebook or small digital planner to write down your daily homework assignments and write down the due dates for tests and papers. Get a weekly planner with your class schedule and plan your activities. Get a monthly calendar to write down birthdays and big events. Write down what classes you have, when to do homework and what your homework is, dates, when you are hanging out with friends etc. all in your planner.\\n4. Be happy.\\nWhat’s the point of being smart if you aren’t enjoying it?\\nDo things you love in your spare time and pursue your passions. The better your mood is, the easier it will be to pursue your goal of being intelligent.\\n5. Keep an open mind.\\nSmart people tend to be flexible and inclusive.\\nYou do not have to agree with them but remember everybody has something to teach you. Keep an open mind. The more intelligent you are the more questions you will ask of your friends, teachers and parents. It is great for social conversations too but don't do it in class.\\nTips\\nLearn everyday for at least 15 minutes.\\nDon't be jealous about other people's lives.\\nTake your time and learn.\\nWarnings\\nTry very hard to enjoy learning.\\nDon't reveal your weakness\\nDon't cheat. It's not worth it.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you’re interested in improving and maintaining your intelligence, you may be wondering what kind of habits you should be building. So long as you’re willing to put the work in, there’s no reason you can’t be your smartest self. In this article, we’ll break down everything you’ll need to do if you want to be as smart as you can be.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Fulfill your academic obligations.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do not skip out on your homework and study hard.\", \"描述\": \"The entire point of school is to make you as smart as possible! Complete all of your math, language arts, history, and science homework. Put your best foot forward at school and never hesitate to ask questions.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prioritize your tasks.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Complete the most important things first.\", \"描述\": \"This helps because you might need to do an important project and you decide to go and play basketball and you rush your teacher will tell you that this work has not been improved.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Plan ahead.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The more prepared you are for the day, the easier things will be.\", \"描述\": \"Get a notebook or small digital planner to write down your daily homework assignments and write down the due dates for tests and papers. Get a weekly planner with your class schedule and plan your activities. Get a monthly calendar to write down birthdays and big events. Write down what classes you have, when to do homework and what your homework is, dates, when you are hanging out with friends etc. all in your planner.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be happy.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"What’s the point of being smart if you aren’t enjoying it?\", \"描述\": \"Do things you love in your spare time and pursue your passions. The better your mood is, the easier it will be to pursue your goal of being intelligent.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep an open mind.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Smart people tend to be flexible and inclusive.\", \"描述\": \"You do not have to agree with them but remember everybody has something to teach you. Keep an open mind. The more intelligent you are the more questions you will ask of your friends, teachers and parents. It is great for social conversations too but don't do it in class.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Learn everyday for at least 15 minutes.\\n\", \"Don't be jealous about other people's lives.\\n\", \"Take your time and learn.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Try very hard to enjoy learning.\\n\", \"Don't reveal your weakness\\n\", \"Don't cheat. It's not worth it.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Setting Yourself Up for Success
1-1. Organize all your school materials.
Whether it's two weeks before school or two weeks before school ends, organize your materials. This means your folders, your binders, all your papers, and everything you need for every class. Being organized makes the actual work so much easier. Here are a few ideas:
Buy binders for every class. On the inner flap, put the syllabus. Then start organizing your homework and the sheets your teacher gives you in chronological order, if possible.
Keep specific materials you need (markers, scissors, etc.) organized by class. Every binder should have a pen and a highlighter, too.
Throw some stuff out! If your locker looks like a paper hurricane just hit it, clean it out! The less stuff you have to sort through to get to what you want, the more time you save to do other, more important things.
1-2. Make yourself a "study space."
You know how they say never to work in bed? That's because if you work in bed, it suddenly becomes a place for work and not for sleep – we associate activities with where we do them. To take advantage of this, make a place at home just for studying. When you get there, your mind will go into the studying zone automatically, because it's the only association it has with that place.
Have you ever heard of context-dependent memory? That's when your memory finds it easier to recall things in the place where it learned them. So if you study there one night, studying there the next will make it easier to recall what you studied before!
If you can, have more than one study space – the library, at a friend's house, etc. Research says that the more places you study, the more connections your brain has and the easier it is to remember the facts you study.
1-3. Get your textbooks early.
Most teachers (from 6th grade to college) will supply you with a list of books needed for the year before the school year starts, or at least at the very beginning. Get this list and get on getting your textbooks. Then, ruffle through them and get familiar with how they're set up. Start reading the first chapters as soon as possible, whether it's assigned or not.
If your teacher doesn't give you this list, ask! He or she will be very impressed with the initiative you took and how seriously you're taking their class. You may become a favorite!
1-4. Ask about supplementary readings, too.
Your teacher probably has a book or two he or she didn't put on the list, but almost did. This book can make for good supplemental reading, which will help you understand whatever it is you're studying and give you a fuller picture.
This is true for everything from math to history to art. There's always more reading you can do to wrap your mind around a topic, regardless of what it is.
1-5. Talk to your teachers about what they're looking for.
Start a conversation with your teachers about their class. What do they emphasize (participation, originality, reading, etc.)? What will make it easiest to succeed? Do they do extra credit? Do they do a lot of group work? Will there be a lot of writing in class? Knowing these things can help you understand what's expected of you.
This also establishes a relationship with your teacher from early on. You'll be the one who cares about their grade and is trying their best. When grading time rolls around and you're at an A- on the edge of an A, your teacher may give you the benefit of the doubt because you're a good student and bump you up to an A!
2. Staying on Top Every Day
2-1. Make note-taking fun and memorable.
If you're writing down every single word your teacher says, A) you're going to get so bored and B) you're going to have far too many notes to go over at home. Instead, stick to the important stuff and make it fun! Here are a few ideas:
Turn sentences into charts or pictures. Germany in 1941 was 60% Jewish? Turn it into a pie chart. It'll be easier to see in your notes, too.
Use mnemonics to help you remember. What are the colors of the rainbow? Why, Roy G. Biv of course! (Richard Of York Gave Battle In Vain)
Use highlighters. The more color your notes have, the more fun they'll be to read. Develop a color-coding system to help you find stuff quicker, too.
2-2. Do the reading the night before.
Most students seem to either not do the readings at all or sort of skim them during class while the teacher is talking about them. Don't be that student! Whether it seems important or not, always do the reading before class. In class you'll know exactly what's going on for when your teacher ends up calling your name.
If you don't know what the reading was, look at your syllabus. There's a reason it should be in the front flap of your binder – it should have listed every piece of homework or reading and when it's going to be talked about. A quick look at that piece of paper and you'll know exactly what to do.
2-3. Don't put off your homework!
Homework is important.If you want to actually understand your homework, do it thoroughly, and get the best grade on it possible, you can't do it on the ride to school the morning of. When you get home that night, sit down and get it over with. Then you can go watch TV, play video games, and not worry about it the next morning.
If you have a long time to do a certain piece of homework, that means it's probably bigger than usual and important. Do a bit each day after you get it – that way the work is spread out and you don't feel swamped.
2-4. Go to class every day – and pay attention, too.
Lots of teachers give points just for showing up. Why give those points up when all you have to do is walk in the door? But beyond that, lots of teachers give participation points, too. Raise your hand even if you don't know the answer – your teacher will appreciate you trying your hardest.
Besides, if the teacher thinks you're not paying attention, she might ask you a question and you might not know how to answer because you have not been paying attention! The less you embarrass yourself, the better!
2-5. Set yourself goals.
Everybody needs something to work towards. If you don't have goals, you won't know what it is you want to get done. To motivate yourself, make concrete goals you can reach for. Straight As? An hour of studying each night? X number of pages read throughout the week? They can be whatever you think would keep you going.
Talk to your parents about how they can help or reward you. If you get all straight As, could you get that video game you've been hoping for? Extended curfew? You need all the motivation you can get!
2-6. Get a tutor
School is hard, especially when you have other things to balance in your life, too. Sometimes even smart kids need a tutor. Talk to your teacher, counselor, or parents about getting a tutor to help you get awesome grades and focus. Sometimes older students do it for their school credit for free, too.
You can also ask your older siblings or parents to help you, too, if they're good at a certain subject. Just make sure they wouldn't distract you and can actually help you get work done.
3. Acing Tests and Projects
3-1. Work in a study group
Studies have shown that students that work in groups of 3-4 (no more) get better test results than those who study alone or in large groups. So grab 2-3 friends and make plans for studying. It'll be more fun than studying alone, anyway!
Make sure the people you're studying with are good students that care. You don't want to be working with a few people who just want to mess around during your "study group" time.
Have everyone bring snacks and think of a few things to talk about. Make a rough schedule of what you're going to cover and delegate a person as that week's group leader, so they can help keep everyone on track.
If it's a Friday night and you have a test in a class on the following Monday, gather up 2-3 of your friends that are in your class and quiz each other. If a person gets a correct answer, then they get 2 points, if they get a wrong answer, they get 1 point taken away. Whoever gets the most points at the end of the study session get to pick a movie to watch!
3-2. Start studying or working well beforehand.
Whether it's a big test or project, the last thing you want is to have to do it all in the 1 or 2 days before its due. Start on it a week or two beforehand to make sure you have plenty of time in case things were to go wrong. Better safe than sorry!
When it comes to tests, you should be studying a little bit every day about a week or so beforehand. The more days you spend studying, the more times your brain has to recall it, making the connections in your brain stronger and more reliable. Spending 20 minutes a night studying each subject is more effective than sitting down for three hours and cramming before a test.
3-3. Ask about extra credit.
Some teachers have great extra credit policies, where you can do a little extra work that can get tacked onto your test or project score. If you're looking for a little extra nudge in the right direction, talk to your teacher about doing extra credit. It can't hurt!
And other times this extra credit will just be tacked onto your year-end score. That's good, too! With extra-credit, you really can't go wrong.
3-4. Don't bother cramming!
The verdict is in: cramming for tests makes your scores worse. Why? Your brain can't function on little to no sleep, making it impossible to remember what you've studied all night for. So don't do it! You can study a bit in the morning if you absolutely have to.
Your body needs sleep (7-9 hours, depending on your specific preferences). A lot of being a good student is about taking care of yourself, too! So skip the cramming, go to sleep, and eat a healthy breakfast. Studies show eating a good breakfast can power your brain and get you better grades, too!
3-5. Take breaks more often than you think.
If you want to learn something, it makes sense to think, "study, study, and study some more until you have it down." In actuality, that's not how it works – our brains literally fry. If you take breaks (10 minutes every hour), your attention and memory is improved. So when you're studying for that big exam, take breaks! You'll actually be doing your grades a favor!
During your break, grab a handful of blueberries, nuts, broccoli, or even dark chocolate for a brain boost. Snacking can give you more energy if you're feeling a little fatigued, too.
3-6. Keep your materials with you wherever you go.
You know those 10 minutes you spent today waiting for the bus? The few minutes you had before each class yesterday? Those are all little opportunities you could be using to study. And it all adds up! So keep materials like flashcards with you that you can bust out at any given time.
This is especially good if you have a friend with you during this time you can study with. You can each give each other a few flash cards and quiz each other. When you're reading and talking about the information, it becomes more solidified in your mind.
4. Being an Ideal Student
4-1. Volunteer in your free time.
To be a "smart" student, that means you'll be smart about college and your resume, too! In today's day and age, you've got to have it all, and a great way to do that is to volunteer. It shows prospective colleges and employers that you're not only smart, but you're a good person, too! Here's a few places to consider:
Hospitals
Nursing homes
Homeless, battered women's, or children's shelters
Animal shelters
Soup kitchens
Churches
4-2. Participate in athletics and drama, music, or art.
On top of having great grades and volunteering, the ideal student is involved in extracurriculars – both athletics and drama, music or art. This shows that you're well-balanced and can do it all. Most kids can't!
No one said you had to be good at these things. If you're a star basketball player, take an art class or try out for the school play. If you're in the school choir and can't throw a ball to save your life, try out for the soccer team. It's only for a season!
4-3. Join a group or club.
On top of everything else, consider joining a group or club that speaks to something you care about. Does your school have an environmental club? LGTBAU group? A creative writer's group? Join! This shows you take an active part in your school when it comes to things you care about.
What's more, these are some of the easiest organizations to find leadership roles. Saying you're the "president' of something is pretty impressive!
4-4. Take different kinds of classes.
Not only does taking different kinds of classes show the world that you have many interests and are good at lots of things, it's a load off on you, too! Imagine taking 8 math classes and nothing else – you'd be pretty fried. So mix it up with your core classes like English and math, and then add in some interesting ones like history or robotics, and some fun ones, like cooking or woodshop, too.
If your school doesn't have a class you want to take, a lot of schools have partnership programs where you can take the class at a different school or local community college. And if you're in high school, you may even be able to get college credit!
4-5. If your school doesn't have an activity, start it!
Plenty of small schools (and some large ones) are lacking in certain activities. Either the funding has been cut or the draw just wasn't there before. If you see a hole in your school's extracurricular offerings that could be filled, talk to your principal about starting something. The fact that you started an entire organization on your own is incredibly impressive! Here are a few ideas:
A school-wide recycling program
A thespian, chess, or writer's club
LGTBAU group
Pre-SAT or ACT study organization
Technology club
Tips
If you think you have some extra time in your hand, don't waste it. Study ahead so you know what's going on in class.
Before studying, do meditation to keep a free mind.
If you're really struggling in a certain subject, get a tutor!
Warnings
Don't give out answers when having a quiz or an exam.
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That's because if you work in bed, it suddenly becomes a place for work and not for sleep – we associate activities with where we do them. To take advantage of this, make a place at home just for studying. When you get there, your mind will go into the studying zone automatically, because it's the only association it has with that place.\\nHave you ever heard of context-dependent memory? That's when your memory finds it easier to recall things in the place where it learned them. So if you study there one night, studying there the next will make it easier to recall what you studied before!\\nIf you can, have more than one study space – the library, at a friend's house, etc. Research says that the more places you study, the more connections your brain has and the easier it is to remember the facts you study.\\n1-3. Get your textbooks early.\\nMost teachers (from 6th grade to college) will supply you with a list of books needed for the year before the school year starts, or at least at the very beginning. Get this list and get on getting your textbooks. Then, ruffle through them and get familiar with how they're set up. Start reading the first chapters as soon as possible, whether it's assigned or not.\\nIf your teacher doesn't give you this list, ask! He or she will be very impressed with the initiative you took and how seriously you're taking their class. You may become a favorite!\\n1-4. Ask about supplementary readings, too.\\nYour teacher probably has a book or two he or she didn't put on the list, but almost did. This book can make for good supplemental reading, which will help you understand whatever it is you're studying and give you a fuller picture.\\nThis is true for everything from math to history to art. There's always more reading you can do to wrap your mind around a topic, regardless of what it is.\\n1-5. Talk to your teachers about what they're looking for.\\nStart a conversation with your teachers about their class. What do they emphasize (participation, originality, reading, etc.)? What will make it easiest to succeed? Do they do extra credit? Do they do a lot of group work? Will there be a lot of writing in class? Knowing these things can help you understand what's expected of you.\\nThis also establishes a relationship with your teacher from early on. You'll be the one who cares about their grade and is trying their best. When grading time rolls around and you're at an A- on the edge of an A, your teacher may give you the benefit of the doubt because you're a good student and bump you up to an A!\\n2. Staying on Top Every Day\\n2-1. Make note-taking fun and memorable.\\nIf you're writing down every single word your teacher says, A) you're going to get so bored and B) you're going to have far too many notes to go over at home. Instead, stick to the important stuff and make it fun! Here are a few ideas:\\nTurn sentences into charts or pictures. Germany in 1941 was 60% Jewish? Turn it into a pie chart. It'll be easier to see in your notes, too.\\nUse mnemonics to help you remember. What are the colors of the rainbow? Why, Roy G. Biv of course! (Richard Of York Gave Battle In Vain)\\nUse highlighters. The more color your notes have, the more fun they'll be to read. Develop a color-coding system to help you find stuff quicker, too.\\n2-2. Do the reading the night before.\\nMost students seem to either not do the readings at all or sort of skim them during class while the teacher is talking about them. Don't be that student! Whether it seems important or not, always do the reading before class. In class you'll know exactly what's going on for when your teacher ends up calling your name.\\nIf you don't know what the reading was, look at your syllabus. There's a reason it should be in the front flap of your binder – it should have listed every piece of homework or reading and when it's going to be talked about. A quick look at that piece of paper and you'll know exactly what to do.\\n2-3. Don't put off your homework!\\nHomework is important.If you want to actually understand your homework, do it thoroughly, and get the best grade on it possible, you can't do it on the ride to school the morning of. When you get home that night, sit down and get it over with. Then you can go watch TV, play video games, and not worry about it the next morning.\\nIf you have a long time to do a certain piece of homework, that means it's probably bigger than usual and important. Do a bit each day after you get it – that way the work is spread out and you don't feel swamped.\\n2-4. Go to class every day – and pay attention, too.\\nLots of teachers give points just for showing up. Why give those points up when all you have to do is walk in the door? But beyond that, lots of teachers give participation points, too. Raise your hand even if you don't know the answer – your teacher will appreciate you trying your hardest.\\nBesides, if the teacher thinks you're not paying attention, she might ask you a question and you might not know how to answer because you have not been paying attention! The less you embarrass yourself, the better!\\n2-5. Set yourself goals.\\nEverybody needs something to work towards. If you don't have goals, you won't know what it is you want to get done. To motivate yourself, make concrete goals you can reach for. Straight As? An hour of studying each night? X number of pages read throughout the week? They can be whatever you think would keep you going.\\nTalk to your parents about how they can help or reward you. If you get all straight As, could you get that video game you've been hoping for? Extended curfew? You need all the motivation you can get!\\n2-6. Get a tutor\\nSchool is hard, especially when you have other things to balance in your life, too. Sometimes even smart kids need a tutor. Talk to your teacher, counselor, or parents about getting a tutor to help you get awesome grades and focus. Sometimes older students do it for their school credit for free, too.\\nYou can also ask your older siblings or parents to help you, too, if they're good at a certain subject. Just make sure they wouldn't distract you and can actually help you get work done.\\n3. Acing Tests and Projects\\n3-1. Work in a study group\\nStudies have shown that students that work in groups of 3-4 (no more) get better test results than those who study alone or in large groups. So grab 2-3 friends and make plans for studying. It'll be more fun than studying alone, anyway!\\nMake sure the people you're studying with are good students that care. You don't want to be working with a few people who just want to mess around during your \\\"study group\\\" time.\\nHave everyone bring snacks and think of a few things to talk about. Make a rough schedule of what you're going to cover and delegate a person as that week's group leader, so they can help keep everyone on track.\\nIf it's a Friday night and you have a test in a class on the following Monday, gather up 2-3 of your friends that are in your class and quiz each other. If a person gets a correct answer, then they get 2 points, if they get a wrong answer, they get 1 point taken away. Whoever gets the most points at the end of the study session get to pick a movie to watch!\\n3-2. Start studying or working well beforehand.\\nWhether it's a big test or project, the last thing you want is to have to do it all in the 1 or 2 days before its due. Start on it a week or two beforehand to make sure you have plenty of time in case things were to go wrong. Better safe than sorry!\\nWhen it comes to tests, you should be studying a little bit every day about a week or so beforehand. The more days you spend studying, the more times your brain has to recall it, making the connections in your brain stronger and more reliable. Spending 20 minutes a night studying each subject is more effective than sitting down for three hours and cramming before a test.\\n3-3. Ask about extra credit.\\nSome teachers have great extra credit policies, where you can do a little extra work that can get tacked onto your test or project score. If you're looking for a little extra nudge in the right direction, talk to your teacher about doing extra credit. It can't hurt!\\nAnd other times this extra credit will just be tacked onto your year-end score. That's good, too! With extra-credit, you really can't go wrong.\\n3-4. Don't bother cramming!\\nThe verdict is in: cramming for tests makes your scores worse. Why? Your brain can't function on little to no sleep, making it impossible to remember what you've studied all night for. So don't do it! You can study a bit in the morning if you absolutely have to.\\nYour body needs sleep (7-9 hours, depending on your specific preferences). A lot of being a good student is about taking care of yourself, too! So skip the cramming, go to sleep, and eat a healthy breakfast. Studies show eating a good breakfast can power your brain and get you better grades, too!\\n3-5. Take breaks more often than you think.\\nIf you want to learn something, it makes sense to think, \\\"study, study, and study some more until you have it down.\\\" In actuality, that's not how it works – our brains literally fry. If you take breaks (10 minutes every hour), your attention and memory is improved. So when you're studying for that big exam, take breaks! You'll actually be doing your grades a favor!\\nDuring your break, grab a handful of blueberries, nuts, broccoli, or even dark chocolate for a brain boost. Snacking can give you more energy if you're feeling a little fatigued, too.\\n3-6. Keep your materials with you wherever you go.\\nYou know those 10 minutes you spent today waiting for the bus? The few minutes you had before each class yesterday? Those are all little opportunities you could be using to study. And it all adds up! So keep materials like flashcards with you that you can bust out at any given time.\\nThis is especially good if you have a friend with you during this time you can study with. You can each give each other a few flash cards and quiz each other. When you're reading and talking about the information, it becomes more solidified in your mind.\\n4. Being an Ideal Student\\n4-1. Volunteer in your free time.\\nTo be a \\\"smart\\\" student, that means you'll be smart about college and your resume, too! In today's day and age, you've got to have it all, and a great way to do that is to volunteer. It shows prospective colleges and employers that you're not only smart, but you're a good person, too! Here's a few places to consider:\\nHospitals\\nNursing homes\\nHomeless, battered women's, or children's shelters\\nAnimal shelters\\nSoup kitchens\\nChurches\\n4-2. Participate in athletics and drama, music, or art.\\nOn top of having great grades and volunteering, the ideal student is involved in extracurriculars – both athletics and drama, music or art. This shows that you're well-balanced and can do it all. Most kids can't!\\nNo one said you had to be good at these things. If you're a star basketball player, take an art class or try out for the school play. If you're in the school choir and can't throw a ball to save your life, try out for the soccer team. It's only for a season!\\n4-3. Join a group or club.\\nOn top of everything else, consider joining a group or club that speaks to something you care about. Does your school have an environmental club? LGTBAU group? A creative writer's group? Join! This shows you take an active part in your school when it comes to things you care about.\\nWhat's more, these are some of the easiest organizations to find leadership roles. Saying you're the \\\"president' of something is pretty impressive!\\n4-4. Take different kinds of classes.\\nNot only does taking different kinds of classes show the world that you have many interests and are good at lots of things, it's a load off on you, too! Imagine taking 8 math classes and nothing else – you'd be pretty fried. So mix it up with your core classes like English and math, and then add in some interesting ones like history or robotics, and some fun ones, like cooking or woodshop, too.\\nIf your school doesn't have a class you want to take, a lot of schools have partnership programs where you can take the class at a different school or local community college. And if you're in high school, you may even be able to get college credit!\\n4-5. If your school doesn't have an activity, start it!\\nPlenty of small schools (and some large ones) are lacking in certain activities. Either the funding has been cut or the draw just wasn't there before. If you see a hole in your school's extracurricular offerings that could be filled, talk to your principal about starting something. The fact that you started an entire organization on your own is incredibly impressive! Here are a few ideas:\\nA school-wide recycling program\\nA thespian, chess, or writer's club\\nLGTBAU group\\nPre-SAT or ACT study organization\\nTechnology club\\nTips\\nIf you think you have some extra time in your hand, don't waste it. Study ahead so you know what's going on in class.\\nBefore studying, do meditation to keep a free mind.\\nIf you're really struggling in a certain subject, get a tutor!\\nWarnings\\nDon't give out answers when having a quiz or an exam.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It's easy to fall behind in school whether you're smart or not – it's a lot of work! To be a smart student – a student who knows how to study and how to succeed – you've got to start from day one. With the right studying tactics and a few tricks up your sleeve, this student will be you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Setting Yourself Up for Success\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Organize all your school materials.\", \"描述\": \"Whether it's two weeks before school or two weeks before school ends, organize your materials. This means your folders, your binders, all your papers, and everything you need for every class. Being organized makes the actual work so much easier. Here are a few ideas:\\nBuy binders for every class. On the inner flap, put the syllabus. Then start organizing your homework and the sheets your teacher gives you in chronological order, if possible.\\nKeep specific materials you need (markers, scissors, etc.) organized by class. Every binder should have a pen and a highlighter, too.\\nThrow some stuff out! If your locker looks like a paper hurricane just hit it, clean it out! The less stuff you have to sort through to get to what you want, the more time you save to do other, more important things.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make yourself a \\\"study space.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"You know how they say never to work in bed? That's because if you work in bed, it suddenly becomes a place for work and not for sleep – we associate activities with where we do them. To take advantage of this, make a place at home just for studying. When you get there, your mind will go into the studying zone automatically, because it's the only association it has with that place.\\nHave you ever heard of context-dependent memory? That's when your memory finds it easier to recall things in the place where it learned them. So if you study there one night, studying there the next will make it easier to recall what you studied before!\\nIf you can, have more than one study space – the library, at a friend's house, etc. Research says that the more places you study, the more connections your brain has and the easier it is to remember the facts you study.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get your textbooks early.\", \"描述\": \"Most teachers (from 6th grade to college) will supply you with a list of books needed for the year before the school year starts, or at least at the very beginning. Get this list and get on getting your textbooks. Then, ruffle through them and get familiar with how they're set up. Start reading the first chapters as soon as possible, whether it's assigned or not.\\nIf your teacher doesn't give you this list, ask! He or she will be very impressed with the initiative you took and how seriously you're taking their class. You may become a favorite!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask about supplementary readings, too.\", \"描述\": \"Your teacher probably has a book or two he or she didn't put on the list, but almost did. This book can make for good supplemental reading, which will help you understand whatever it is you're studying and give you a fuller picture.\\nThis is true for everything from math to history to art. There's always more reading you can do to wrap your mind around a topic, regardless of what it is.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Talk to your teachers about what they're looking for.\", \"描述\": \"Start a conversation with your teachers about their class. What do they emphasize (participation, originality, reading, etc.)? What will make it easiest to succeed? Do they do extra credit? Do they do a lot of group work? Will there be a lot of writing in class? Knowing these things can help you understand what's expected of you.\\nThis also establishes a relationship with your teacher from early on. You'll be the one who cares about their grade and is trying their best. When grading time rolls around and you're at an A- on the edge of an A, your teacher may give you the benefit of the doubt because you're a good student and bump you up to an A!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Staying on Top Every Day\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make note-taking fun and memorable.\", \"描述\": \"If you're writing down every single word your teacher says, A) you're going to get so bored and B) you're going to have far too many notes to go over at home. Instead, stick to the important stuff and make it fun! Here are a few ideas:\\nTurn sentences into charts or pictures. Germany in 1941 was 60% Jewish? Turn it into a pie chart. It'll be easier to see in your notes, too.\\nUse mnemonics to help you remember. What are the colors of the rainbow? Why, Roy G. Biv of course! (Richard Of York Gave Battle In Vain)\\nUse highlighters. The more color your notes have, the more fun they'll be to read. Develop a color-coding system to help you find stuff quicker, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do the reading the night before.\", \"描述\": \"Most students seem to either not do the readings at all or sort of skim them during class while the teacher is talking about them. Don't be that student! Whether it seems important or not, always do the reading before class. In class you'll know exactly what's going on for when your teacher ends up calling your name.\\nIf you don't know what the reading was, look at your syllabus. There's a reason it should be in the front flap of your binder – it should have listed every piece of homework or reading and when it's going to be talked about. A quick look at that piece of paper and you'll know exactly what to do.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't put off your homework!\", \"描述\": \"Homework is important.If you want to actually understand your homework, do it thoroughly, and get the best grade on it possible, you can't do it on the ride to school the morning of. When you get home that night, sit down and get it over with. Then you can go watch TV, play video games, and not worry about it the next morning.\\nIf you have a long time to do a certain piece of homework, that means it's probably bigger than usual and important. Do a bit each day after you get it – that way the work is spread out and you don't feel swamped.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go to class every day – and pay attention, too.\", \"描述\": \"Lots of teachers give points just for showing up. Why give those points up when all you have to do is walk in the door? But beyond that, lots of teachers give participation points, too. Raise your hand even if you don't know the answer – your teacher will appreciate you trying your hardest.\\nBesides, if the teacher thinks you're not paying attention, she might ask you a question and you might not know how to answer because you have not been paying attention! The less you embarrass yourself, the better!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Set yourself goals.\", \"描述\": \"Everybody needs something to work towards. If you don't have goals, you won't know what it is you want to get done. To motivate yourself, make concrete goals you can reach for. Straight As? An hour of studying each night? X number of pages read throughout the week? They can be whatever you think would keep you going.\\nTalk to your parents about how they can help or reward you. If you get all straight As, could you get that video game you've been hoping for? Extended curfew? You need all the motivation you can get!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get a tutor\", \"描述\": \"School is hard, especially when you have other things to balance in your life, too. Sometimes even smart kids need a tutor. Talk to your teacher, counselor, or parents about getting a tutor to help you get awesome grades and focus. Sometimes older students do it for their school credit for free, too.\\nYou can also ask your older siblings or parents to help you, too, if they're good at a certain subject. Just make sure they wouldn't distract you and can actually help you get work done.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Acing Tests and Projects\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work in a study group\", \"描述\": \"Studies have shown that students that work in groups of 3-4 (no more) get better test results than those who study alone or in large groups. So grab 2-3 friends and make plans for studying. It'll be more fun than studying alone, anyway!\\nMake sure the people you're studying with are good students that care. You don't want to be working with a few people who just want to mess around during your \\\"study group\\\" time.\\nHave everyone bring snacks and think of a few things to talk about. Make a rough schedule of what you're going to cover and delegate a person as that week's group leader, so they can help keep everyone on track.\\nIf it's a Friday night and you have a test in a class on the following Monday, gather up 2-3 of your friends that are in your class and quiz each other. If a person gets a correct answer, then they get 2 points, if they get a wrong answer, they get 1 point taken away. Whoever gets the most points at the end of the study session get to pick a movie to watch!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start studying or working well beforehand.\", \"描述\": \"Whether it's a big test or project, the last thing you want is to have to do it all in the 1 or 2 days before its due. Start on it a week or two beforehand to make sure you have plenty of time in case things were to go wrong. Better safe than sorry!\\nWhen it comes to tests, you should be studying a little bit every day about a week or so beforehand. The more days you spend studying, the more times your brain has to recall it, making the connections in your brain stronger and more reliable. Spending 20 minutes a night studying each subject is more effective than sitting down for three hours and cramming before a test.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask about extra credit.\", \"描述\": \"Some teachers have great extra credit policies, where you can do a little extra work that can get tacked onto your test or project score. If you're looking for a little extra nudge in the right direction, talk to your teacher about doing extra credit. It can't hurt!\\nAnd other times this extra credit will just be tacked onto your year-end score. That's good, too! With extra-credit, you really can't go wrong.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't bother cramming!\", \"描述\": \"The verdict is in: cramming for tests makes your scores worse. Why? Your brain can't function on little to no sleep, making it impossible to remember what you've studied all night for. So don't do it! You can study a bit in the morning if you absolutely have to.\\nYour body needs sleep (7-9 hours, depending on your specific preferences). A lot of being a good student is about taking care of yourself, too! So skip the cramming, go to sleep, and eat a healthy breakfast. Studies show eating a good breakfast can power your brain and get you better grades, too!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take breaks more often than you think.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to learn something, it makes sense to think, \\\"study, study, and study some more until you have it down.\\\" In actuality, that's not how it works – our brains literally fry. If you take breaks (10 minutes every hour), your attention and memory is improved. So when you're studying for that big exam, take breaks! You'll actually be doing your grades a favor!\\nDuring your break, grab a handful of blueberries, nuts, broccoli, or even dark chocolate for a brain boost. Snacking can give you more energy if you're feeling a little fatigued, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep your materials with you wherever you go.\", \"描述\": \"You know those 10 minutes you spent today waiting for the bus? The few minutes you had before each class yesterday? Those are all little opportunities you could be using to study. 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1. Building Your Collection
1-1. Have a sneaker budget in place.
Buying shoes is an expensive hobby. Before you jump right in, you should be certain that you can afford to start amassing a footwear collection. Develop a budget that will allow you to set aside a certain amount of money every month or couple of months to spend on new shoes. If need be, find a second job and use the extra income to support your hobby.
Name brand sneakers often run for as much as a few hundred dollars per pair.
If you’re serious about the lifestyle, consider getting a job at a sneaker store. Not only will you be surrounded by the thing you love most, you’ll also be earning extra money and be eligible for employee discounts.
1-2. Start buying shoes regularly.
Snatch up as many eye-catching pairs of sneakers as you can. Be on the lookout constantly for new brands, styles and colorways. Buy the latest models when they premier to stay current and show people that you have style. Buying and showing off new shoes is what being a sneakerhead is all about, so the more pairs you buy, the more impressive your stockpile will be.
Shopping malls usually have at least one or two stores that carry the latest fashions in athletic and streetwear.
Look for deals online through websites like Zappos and 6pm, where you can buy shoes for discounted rates and save on shipping.
1-3. Hunt for bargains on all-time favorites.
Every sneakerhead's collection is going to contain a few staples. Browse thrift shops and other discount clothing retailers to track down timeless models like Jordans, Reebok Classics or Air Force 1s for unbeatable prices. Since these vintage sneakers are older, they're more likely to turn up in places that most sneakerheads wouldn't think to go looking.
See if your area has any consignment stores that deal specifically with footwear.
The sneakers you find in these places may not be brand new, but after a thorough restoration job no one will be likely to tell the difference.
1-4. Decide on a favorite brand or style.
After they’ve been collecting for a while, most sneakerheads develop a preference for a particular brand or type of shoe. Certain designers and models are fashionable among shoe collectors, but there are no “best” brands. If you like it and it looks good on you, buy it. No two sneakerheads’ closets are identical. Once you start to refine your tastes, your collection will start to take on its own unique personality.
Your collection might be made up mostly of hi-top basketball shoes, for instance, or you might gravitate toward lower profile designs like skate shoes.
There is a lot of territorial competition between fans of Nike, Adidas, Reebok, etc., but it’s all in good fun. Any model could have a potential place in your collection.
1-5. Show off your hottest sneakers.
There’s no point in buying a bunch of shoes if you’re just going to keep them in the closet. Be sure to take your new kicks out for a spin every so often to give them a little play. Match up the day’s outfit with a killer pair of sneakers and let the people around you see what style is all about. You might never wear the same pair two days in a row!
Share choice selections for your friends and followers on Instagram to admire.
Sporting flashy footwear will always get people talking.
1-6. Sell shoes when they get old.
Once your hottest sneakers are past their prime, put them up for sale to recoup money for new pairs. Take them to a consignment shop, if you're just looking to get rid of them, or post a notice online through a site like Ebay or Craigslist. If they're still in good condition, try selling them directly to another sneakerhead, who will have a better idea of what they're worth.
Getting as much as you can out of your old shoes can make it easier for you to afford new ones.
The better care you take of your sneakers, the easier it will be to fetch a decent price for them later on. Before attempting to sell shoes you no longer want, make sure you clean them, pack them up with all included accessories and, if possible, return them to their original box.
2. Taking Care of Your Shoes
2-1. Keep your shoes clean.
Clean your shoes after wearing them to prevent them from showing signs of dirt and wear. Combine a small amount of water with a mild liquid detergent or shoe cleaning solution and lightly scrub away dingy and discolored areas. Wet a washcloth and wipe away any dirt and debris clinging to the shoes’ outsoles. By taking good care of your sneakers and keeping them clean, you can ensure that they stay fresh and vibrant for as long as possible.
Look for specially-designed brushes online or in shoe stores that can be used to clean and polish delicate materials like suede.
Treat dirt and other stains immediately to keep them from setting in.
2-2. Cycle out the pairs you wear often.
The more you wear a particular pair of shoes, the faster that pair will wear out. Try not to lace up the same pair of shoes every day. Select a different pair every couple of days to minimize stress, foot contact and exposure to the elements. When you’re not wearing a pair, give it a gentle wipe down and store it somewhere cool and dry.
Store your sneakers in their original boxes, or stash them somewhere that’s climate-controlled and away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures. Too much sunlight can cause colors to fade, while especially hot or cold temperatures can degrade the materials that the shoes are made from.
Choose your footwear carefully for a given day. It might not be a good idea to wear a pair of leather or suede sneakers if the forecast is calling for rain, and black hi-tops will be less comfortable on hotter days than low cut, breathable shoes of a lighter shade.
2-3. Designate shoes for different purposes.
Give each pair of shoes a function, and only use that pair for its intended purpose. For instance, you might have a pair that you only work out in, another pair for that you use exclusively for hiking or slip on when you’re going to get dirty, etc. That way, you won’t be using every pair as all-purpose footwear, and you’ll be able to keep them in pristine condition.
Consider buying two pairs of your favorite shoes—one to wear around and another to put on display.
Pick out an older pair to serve as “throwaway” shoes that you don’t mind getting dirty or beating up.
2-4. Store or display your collection.
Set aside a little closet space to organize your shoes, or buy a shelf or rack so that you can exhibit them out in the open. Many shoe aficionados are proud of the collections they’ve put together and like to keep a few of their best pairs where they can be seen. If you’re going to own them, you might as well put them on display proudly.
Look for inexpensive storage racks and shelves that you can convert and use to highlight some of your favorite acquisitions.
3. Staying Current with New Releases
3-1. Find out when new models are coming out.
Pay attention to brand marketing to learn about new models that are in production and when they’ll be available for purchase. Keep an ear to the ground when searching for your next purchase in stores or online. Big releases tend to get a lot of hype before they drop, and if you want to be on the front line of the sneaker game, you should make sure you’re in a position to hear about them.
The big brands often run features on anticipated new models on their websites which include detailed photos, specs and release dates.
In some cases, you may have to act fast to get a coveted spot on a waiting list if a new release is expected to sell out quickly.
3-2. Check with local stores for new arrivals.
Know where the shoe stores are in your area and pay them regular visits to track down deals on your most desired gear. You can also frequent lifestyle shops like Zumiez, Journeys and Vans for new stock and competitive pricing. The people that work in these stores are often sneakerheads themselves, and they’ll be able to tell you anything you want to know about contemporary styles.
Befriending store employees and being a loyal customer may land you exclusive benefits, such as special discounts and opportunities to buy models hot off the assembly line before their official release dates.
3-3. Talk to other sneakerheads.
Become friends with other people who have a passion for shoes. You can converse about the ins and outs of your favorite brands, share your excitement about new designs in the works and even buy, sell or trade from your collections. Other sneakerheads will be able to bring their own unique style preferences and expertise to the discussion. They might even know something you don’t.
Pay attention to what the people around you are wearing on their feet. If you spot somebody boasting a rare or expensive model, they may just be a fellow sneakerhead.
If you don’t know any other sneakerheads where you live, take to social media groups, message boards or shoe blogs to meet others with the same interests.
3-4. Browse the internet for sneaker news and info.
Sign up for an email newsletter on the manufacturer’s website or follow the big companies on social media to get the latest on their upcoming shoe lines. Websites like Hypebeast, High Snobiety and The Drop Date all specialize in providing news, reviews and sneak peeks for sneakerheads, along with links to places where you can buy hot releases online. In today’s fast-moving consumer society, the internet will be your best resource for keeping up with shoe culture.
Take advantage of deals, catalogs and pre-order promotions that you can only find online.
Tips
Set up a shoes fund that you can use to finance new purchases withing dipping into your living expenses.
Store your sneakers in shoe bags if you've thrown away the original boxes.
Build your reputation as a sneakerhead on Instagram. In some situations, companies will pay people or provide them with free shoes for promotional purposes.
Warnings
If you don't carefully maintain the shoes in your collection, the materials can begin to degrade and fall apart.
Be aware of rape(paying unreasonably above retail), unauthorized pairs, and untrustworthy websites.
Don't spend all your money on shoes. Make sure that your other financial responsibilities are taken care of before treating yourself to a new pair.
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Buy the latest models when they premier to stay current and show people that you have style. Buying and showing off new shoes is what being a sneakerhead is all about, so the more pairs you buy, the more impressive your stockpile will be.\\nShopping malls usually have at least one or two stores that carry the latest fashions in athletic and streetwear.\\nLook for deals online through websites like Zappos and 6pm, where you can buy shoes for discounted rates and save on shipping.\\n1-3. Hunt for bargains on all-time favorites.\\nEvery sneakerhead's collection is going to contain a few staples. Browse thrift shops and other discount clothing retailers to track down timeless models like Jordans, Reebok Classics or Air Force 1s for unbeatable prices. Since these vintage sneakers are older, they're more likely to turn up in places that most sneakerheads wouldn't think to go looking.\\nSee if your area has any consignment stores that deal specifically with footwear.\\nThe sneakers you find in these places may not be brand new, but after a thorough restoration job no one will be likely to tell the difference.\\n1-4. Decide on a favorite brand or style.\\nAfter they’ve been collecting for a while, most sneakerheads develop a preference for a particular brand or type of shoe. Certain designers and models are fashionable among shoe collectors, but there are no “best” brands. If you like it and it looks good on you, buy it. No two sneakerheads’ closets are identical. Once you start to refine your tastes, your collection will start to take on its own unique personality.\\nYour collection might be made up mostly of hi-top basketball shoes, for instance, or you might gravitate toward lower profile designs like skate shoes.\\nThere is a lot of territorial competition between fans of Nike, Adidas, Reebok, etc., but it’s all in good fun. Any model could have a potential place in your collection.\\n1-5. Show off your hottest sneakers.\\nThere’s no point in buying a bunch of shoes if you’re just going to keep them in the closet. Be sure to take your new kicks out for a spin every so often to give them a little play. Match up the day’s outfit with a killer pair of sneakers and let the people around you see what style is all about. You might never wear the same pair two days in a row!\\nShare choice selections for your friends and followers on Instagram to admire.\\nSporting flashy footwear will always get people talking.\\n1-6. 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Combine a small amount of water with a mild liquid detergent or shoe cleaning solution and lightly scrub away dingy and discolored areas. Wet a washcloth and wipe away any dirt and debris clinging to the shoes’ outsoles. By taking good care of your sneakers and keeping them clean, you can ensure that they stay fresh and vibrant for as long as possible.\\nLook for specially-designed brushes online or in shoe stores that can be used to clean and polish delicate materials like suede.\\nTreat dirt and other stains immediately to keep them from setting in.\\n2-2. Cycle out the pairs you wear often.\\nThe more you wear a particular pair of shoes, the faster that pair will wear out. Try not to lace up the same pair of shoes every day. Select a different pair every couple of days to minimize stress, foot contact and exposure to the elements. When you’re not wearing a pair, give it a gentle wipe down and store it somewhere cool and dry.\\nStore your sneakers in their original boxes, or stash them somewhere that’s climate-controlled and away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures. Too much sunlight can cause colors to fade, while especially hot or cold temperatures can degrade the materials that the shoes are made from.\\nChoose your footwear carefully for a given day. It might not be a good idea to wear a pair of leather or suede sneakers if the forecast is calling for rain, and black hi-tops will be less comfortable on hotter days than low cut, breathable shoes of a lighter shade.\\n2-3. Designate shoes for different purposes.\\nGive each pair of shoes a function, and only use that pair for its intended purpose. For instance, you might have a pair that you only work out in, another pair for that you use exclusively for hiking or slip on when you’re going to get dirty, etc. That way, you won’t be using every pair as all-purpose footwear, and you’ll be able to keep them in pristine condition.\\nConsider buying two pairs of your favorite shoes—one to wear around and another to put on display.\\nPick out an older pair to serve as “throwaway” shoes that you don’t mind getting dirty or beating up.\\n2-4. Store or display your collection.\\nSet aside a little closet space to organize your shoes, or buy a shelf or rack so that you can exhibit them out in the open. Many shoe aficionados are proud of the collections they’ve put together and like to keep a few of their best pairs where they can be seen. If you’re going to own them, you might as well put them on display proudly.\\nLook for inexpensive storage racks and shelves that you can convert and use to highlight some of your favorite acquisitions.\\n3. Staying Current with New Releases\\n3-1. Find out when new models are coming out.\\nPay attention to brand marketing to learn about new models that are in production and when they’ll be available for purchase. Keep an ear to the ground when searching for your next purchase in stores or online. Big releases tend to get a lot of hype before they drop, and if you want to be on the front line of the sneaker game, you should make sure you’re in a position to hear about them.\\nThe big brands often run features on anticipated new models on their websites which include detailed photos, specs and release dates.\\nIn some cases, you may have to act fast to get a coveted spot on a waiting list if a new release is expected to sell out quickly.\\n3-2. Check with local stores for new arrivals.\\nKnow where the shoe stores are in your area and pay them regular visits to track down deals on your most desired gear. You can also frequent lifestyle shops like Zumiez, Journeys and Vans for new stock and competitive pricing. The people that work in these stores are often sneakerheads themselves, and they’ll be able to tell you anything you want to know about contemporary styles.\\nBefriending store employees and being a loyal customer may land you exclusive benefits, such as special discounts and opportunities to buy models hot off the assembly line before their official release dates.\\n3-3. Talk to other sneakerheads.\\nBecome friends with other people who have a passion for shoes. You can converse about the ins and outs of your favorite brands, share your excitement about new designs in the works and even buy, sell or trade from your collections. Other sneakerheads will be able to bring their own unique style preferences and expertise to the discussion. They might even know something you don’t.\\nPay attention to what the people around you are wearing on their feet. If you spot somebody boasting a rare or expensive model, they may just be a fellow sneakerhead.\\nIf you don’t know any other sneakerheads where you live, take to social media groups, message boards or shoe blogs to meet others with the same interests.\\n3-4. Browse the internet for sneaker news and info.\\nSign up for an email newsletter on the manufacturer’s website or follow the big companies on social media to get the latest on their upcoming shoe lines. Websites like Hypebeast, High Snobiety and The Drop Date all specialize in providing news, reviews and sneak peeks for sneakerheads, along with links to places where you can buy hot releases online. In today’s fast-moving consumer society, the internet will be your best resource for keeping up with shoe culture.\\nTake advantage of deals, catalogs and pre-order promotions that you can only find online.\\nTips\\nSet up a shoes fund that you can use to finance new purchases withing dipping into your living expenses.\\nStore your sneakers in shoe bags if you've thrown away the original boxes.\\nBuild your reputation as a sneakerhead on Instagram. In some situations, companies will pay people or provide them with free shoes for promotional purposes.\\nWarnings\\nIf you don't carefully maintain the shoes in your collection, the materials can begin to degrade and fall apart.\\nBe aware of rape(paying unreasonably above retail), unauthorized pairs, and untrustworthy websites.\\nDon't spend all your money on shoes. Make sure that your other financial responsibilities are taken care of before treating yourself to a new pair.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"“Sneakerhead” is a term used to describe people who love and collect shoes, especially those with sleek, athletic designs (“sneakers,” AKA trainers). Individual style preferences differ among sneakerheads, but a few things they all have in common are a passion for functional footwear, a deep knowledge of different brands, models and designs and an extensive personal collection. If you’re the kind of person that has more athletic shoes than you know what to do with, you’re already on your way to becoming a certified sneakerhead.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Building Your Collection\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have a sneaker budget in place.\", \"描述\": \"Buying shoes is an expensive hobby. Before you jump right in, you should be certain that you can afford to start amassing a footwear collection. Develop a budget that will allow you to set aside a certain amount of money every month or couple of months to spend on new shoes. If need be, find a second job and use the extra income to support your hobby.\\nName brand sneakers often run for as much as a few hundred dollars per pair.\\nIf you’re serious about the lifestyle, consider getting a job at a sneaker store. Not only will you be surrounded by the thing you love most, you’ll also be earning extra money and be eligible for employee discounts.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start buying shoes regularly.\", \"描述\": \"Snatch up as many eye-catching pairs of sneakers as you can. Be on the lookout constantly for new brands, styles and colorways. Buy the latest models when they premier to stay current and show people that you have style. Buying and showing off new shoes is what being a sneakerhead is all about, so the more pairs you buy, the more impressive your stockpile will be.\\nShopping malls usually have at least one or two stores that carry the latest fashions in athletic and streetwear.\\nLook for deals online through websites like Zappos and 6pm, where you can buy shoes for discounted rates and save on shipping.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Hunt for bargains on all-time favorites.\", \"描述\": \"Every sneakerhead's collection is going to contain a few staples. Browse thrift shops and other discount clothing retailers to track down timeless models like Jordans, Reebok Classics or Air Force 1s for unbeatable prices. Since these vintage sneakers are older, they're more likely to turn up in places that most sneakerheads wouldn't think to go looking.\\nSee if your area has any consignment stores that deal specifically with footwear.\\nThe sneakers you find in these places may not be brand new, but after a thorough restoration job no one will be likely to tell the difference.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide on a favorite brand or style.\", \"描述\": \"After they’ve been collecting for a while, most sneakerheads develop a preference for a particular brand or type of shoe. Certain designers and models are fashionable among shoe collectors, but there are no “best” brands. If you like it and it looks good on you, buy it. No two sneakerheads’ closets are identical. Once you start to refine your tastes, your collection will start to take on its own unique personality.\\nYour collection might be made up mostly of hi-top basketball shoes, for instance, or you might gravitate toward lower profile designs like skate shoes.\\nThere is a lot of territorial competition between fans of Nike, Adidas, Reebok, etc., but it’s all in good fun. Any model could have a potential place in your collection.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Show off your hottest sneakers.\", \"描述\": \"There’s no point in buying a bunch of shoes if you’re just going to keep them in the closet. Be sure to take your new kicks out for a spin every so often to give them a little play. Match up the day’s outfit with a killer pair of sneakers and let the people around you see what style is all about. You might never wear the same pair two days in a row!\\nShare choice selections for your friends and followers on Instagram to admire.\\nSporting flashy footwear will always get people talking.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Sell shoes when they get old.\", \"描述\": \"Once your hottest sneakers are past their prime, put them up for sale to recoup money for new pairs. Take them to a consignment shop, if you're just looking to get rid of them, or post a notice online through a site like Ebay or Craigslist. If they're still in good condition, try selling them directly to another sneakerhead, who will have a better idea of what they're worth.\\nGetting as much as you can out of your old shoes can make it easier for you to afford new ones.\\nThe better care you take of your sneakers, the easier it will be to fetch a decent price for them later on. 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1. Improving Your Long Distance Accuracy
1-1. Familiarize yourself with your weapon.
Everything becomes difficult under stress, which is exactly why a sniper must become intimately familiar with their weapon. Cleaning and maintaining your rifle of choice is only a portion of becoming familiar with it. You will also need to practice with it enough to learn what types of failures you may be able to expect and how to address them in a field situation. This can only be done by firing the weapon regularly and learning how it handles different situations.
Many military snipers sleep with their weapons in field environments. The rifle has to feel like an extension of yourself in order to maximizing your effectiveness with the weapon.
Handling your weapon often will make leveling the rifle and capturing good sight picture a matter of muscle memory, allowing you to focus on your environment instead of your actions.
There are many types of rifles a sniper may use that include different firing mechanisms and ammunition, based on the situation and the sniper’s preference.
1-2. Get comfortable adjusting windage, elevation and parallax.
When using a rifle scope there are three adjustments you can make to help ensure your rounds impact the target. The windage adjusts your target’s impact point on the horizontal axis while the elevation will adjust it on vertical one. The parallax adjusts the reticle in your scope’s depth in relation to the target and is not a common adjustment in other forms of sport or competitive shooting.
When firing, practice making adjustments to the parallax, windage and the elevation to gain a better understanding of how each adjustment affects the impact point of your round.
There are many different variations of rifle scopes that allow you to make adjustments in different ways and in different increments. Use one scope as your primary optic until you are as comfortable with it as you are with your weapon.
1-3. Practice good trigger control.
At a distance, pulling a trigger can throw your round off course and result in missing your target. Instead, squeeze the trigger with slow steady pressure until it releases a round. Once the weapon fires, do not immediately release the trigger. Instead, hold it for a one count before letting go.
Try counting down from five slowly as you squeeze the trigger to ensure you do not pull the trigger and shift the weapon.
Shifting a fraction of an inch at the point of the weapon can result in missing by inches or even feet at the target.
1-4. Utilize proper breath control.
Your breathing can also have a dramatic effect on the accuracy of your rounds at a distance. In order to fire accurately at long distances, you will need to learn to fire the weapon during the natural pause between exhaling a breath and inhaling a new one. This practice is referred to as “breath control.”
Breath out slowly and squeeze the trigger in between breaths.
Firing during inhaling or exhaling could shift the weapon slightly, sending it off course.
1-5. Take wind movement around your target into account.
The windage setting on your rifle scope allows you to compensate for cross winds traveling from left to right or vice versa. However, snipers are often firing at distances that can make wind a bigger issue for concern. If the wind is blowing slightly where you are, but far stronger at the point of the target, it may throw off the round. Use binoculars to look for signs of strong wind around your target, and adjust your windage left or right to compensate.
If the wind is blowing around you and the target in the same direction, you may need to adjust the windage further than usual to compensate for the wind the round will pass through on the way to the target.
Wind traveling in an opposing direction may require reducing your adjustment, as the wind traveling left to right at the target may negate some of the effect of wind traveling right to left around you.
1-6. Practice as often and as much with your sidearm as your primary weapon system.
Snipers are trained to utilize cover to conceal their location from the enemy once in position, but getting to and from that position can be extremely dangerous. The nature of sniper rifles makes them less effective at close and medium range combat, due to long barrels, different firing mechanisms, and large optics in the way of your line of sight. Snipers carry sidearms, or pistols, to use in close quarters situations when their rifles would be less effective.
You should become as familiar and effective with your sidearm as you are with your primary weapon, as it will be your first line of defense in close quarters combat.
Proper marksmanship fundamentals affect pistol accuracy as well as the rifle, but it may take more practice to get accustomed to firing a pistol under stress due to a lack of stability and shorter barrel.
1-7. Learn to properly utilize cover and concealment.
Cover and concealment are two different methods of protecting yourself from the enemy that are best when used together. Cover places actual objects between you and the enemy to stop enemy gunfire from reaching you. Concealment hides your presence from the enemy. When moving, stay conscious of things around you that may provide cover in the event of an enemy engagement. Wear dark or camouflaged clothing to aid in your concealment from the enemy.
Common forms of concealment utilized by snipers include face paint, camouflage and even incorporating the fauna and plant life in the area by placing it on or attaching it to their clothing.
Proper concealment should stop incoming gunfire. Large rocks, buildings and thick trees could all serve as cover. However, car doors, drywall or plywood will not stop rounds and should not be utilized as cover.
2. Observing Your Environment
2-1. Establish an environmental baseline.
Being a sniper is not all about firing at long distance targets; snipers are often responsible for gathering reconnaissance and general operations beyond fortified front lines. Because of the danger of being alone or in small groups with very little support, it’s imperative that a sniper learn to quickly establish environmental norms for their situation. Be conscious of your environment and the sights, sounds and activities that should be normal so you can more readily identify things that aren’t.
In a city, the environmental baseline would likely include the sounds of traffic, lots of people conversing, and crowded streets.
In a wooded area, the sounds of insects, wind in the trees and far off highways may create the baseline.
Pay attention to your surroundings and use previous experiences to inform you as to what to expect.
2-2. Take note of abnormal behavior.
Once you have determined what the environmental baseline is, you can begin to asses any abnormal behavior or circumstances in the area around you. If the insects in the forest suddenly stop making noise, or traffic in the city is suddenly interrupted it likely means there is something out of the ordinary going on. In day to day life, it’s normal to tell yourself that sound you heard was nothing to worry about, but as a sniper forward of enemy lines, you can’t afford to make such assumptions.
The tendency to think abnormal things going on will work out fine is called the “normalcy bias” and it can prevent you from reacting to dangerous situations quickly enough.
If you notice something out of the ordinary, make note of it but don’t focus all of your attention on it.
2-3. Avoid locking your focus on specific things.
Combatting the normalcy bias requires an intense focus on your surroundings, but it’s important not to allow that focus to linger too long on any one thing. If you devote your full attention to one thing in your field of view, you may not notice other risks developing around you. Make note of things you notice, but continue to survey your surroundings for other threats. Focusing on one thing to the detriment of noticing others is referred to as “focus lock.”
With your attention held by a possible target in front of you, you may not notice other threats forming behind you.
Like driving in a car, you don’t stare at the guard rail hoping not to hit it, but you maintain your awareness of it while looking at the road ahead of you.
2-4. Try to predict upcoming events around you.
Use the expertise you develop from forming environmental baselines, combatting the normalcy bias and avoiding focus lock to begin to predict the behaviors of people around you. As you observe others, you will find that behavior often fits patterns. By identifying these patterns (such as taxi cabs stopping more frequently than other cars, people jogging when crossing busy streets instead of walking and so forth) you can begin to predict events around you. Once you can form an educated prediction of what should occur in the near future, you will be better prepared to identify risks if things change.
By predicting the actions of those in your field of view, you will notice unusual behavior from individuals sooner than by strictly observing them.
The more you observe and predict, the better you will become at picking out unusual circumstances.
2-5. Trust your gut.
As a sniper, you will often work in pairs or small groups with very little outside support. Sometimes, you or someone you are with may develop a “bad feeling” about a situation that may be difficult to articulate. Don’t simply disregard these feelings, as your body may be interpreting information you haven’t consciously considered yet. If you or your partner has a bad feeling about your location or situation, it’s often best to act on that feeling.
You may have unconsciously noticed something that increases the risk factor of your current situation, but failed to consciously consider it.
Finding a new vantage point is always better than compromising the mission or losing your life because you disregarded your gut feeling.
3. Developing Mental and Physical Toughness
3-1. Stay calm.
The vast majority of a day in the life of sniper in the field is waiting. This time, often spent alone or with one other person, is often silent and in some cases even moving can compromise your position and put you and your team at risk. It is essential to stay calm as a sniper, whether its during movement to or from an objective, while waiting to conduct reconnaissance, or in the face of the enemy.
Keeping a cool head will allow you to properly utilize your training and expertise to handle the situation at hand.
There are many stories of snipers being surrounded by enemies in combat situations that survived because of their ability to remain calm and concealed as the enemy passed.
3-2. Maintain focus on the objective at hand.
With all the waiting around one is apt to do as a sniper, it can be easy to lose sight of what you’re there to be doing. After three days of seeing nothing, your mind may begin to wander instead of remaining focused on your objective. Combat this loss of focus by frequently reminding yourself of your objectives and how important it is to your team’s safety that you stay attentive.
Getting too comfortable and allowing your mind to drift is a form of complacency. Complacency kills in a combat zone, as you must always be aware of your surroundings.
Mission accomplishment is, and should always be, the number one priority of a sniper.
3-3. Train your body for the rigors of combat.
Although there may be hours of waiting around, being a sniper also means moments of extreme physical stress. Because of this, physical fitness is paramount for a sniper. Covering ground quickly to put you and your team in a better position to achieve your objectives, or to get to an extraction point means having the cardiovascular strength to run quickly for extended periods of time. Carrying all of the gear necessary for your mission will also require physical strength. Developing a strong body will help you to adjust to stressful combat situations, recover from injuries, and aid team members if they are injured.
Snipers must be among the most physically fit combatants on the battlefield.
Incorporate a good deal of running and some weight training into your workout regimen as a sniper.
3-4. Distance yourself emotionally.
Being a sniper in a combat zone will likely mean having to make the decision to end a life. There is no universal strategy for coping with this choice, or the feelings that may arise as a result. However, distancing yourself from your target emotionally can help to lessen the emotional repercussions of killing another person in defense of your country.
Chris Kyle, a highly decorated Navy sniper, often taught people to focus on the lives they were saving by engaging the enemy, rather than on the lives of the enemy that they were taking.
Although you may spend a significant amount of time observing your target, it’s important not to allow yourself to become attached to them.
3-5. Practice often and with intensity.
Being a sniper means long periods of inaction followed by infrequent and extremely intense moments of action. It can be difficult to predict how a person may react in a firefight, but you can minimize the chances that you will make a mistake by practicing every element of your craft frequently and with the same intensity you might in an actual firefight. This includes firing your weapon, exercising and learning new skills. By practicing as though you are in a combat situation, you will be better prepared to handle one when it arises.
Just like playing sports, frequent practice can help you to do the things you need to do even when the situation around you is hectic.
By training how you would perform in a real scenario, you can help your body adjust to the stresses of combat ahead of time.
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Instead, hold it for a one count before letting go.\\nTry counting down from five slowly as you squeeze the trigger to ensure you do not pull the trigger and shift the weapon.\\nShifting a fraction of an inch at the point of the weapon can result in missing by inches or even feet at the target.\\n1-4. Utilize proper breath control.\\nYour breathing can also have a dramatic effect on the accuracy of your rounds at a distance. In order to fire accurately at long distances, you will need to learn to fire the weapon during the natural pause between exhaling a breath and inhaling a new one. This practice is referred to as “breath control.”\\nBreath out slowly and squeeze the trigger in between breaths.\\nFiring during inhaling or exhaling could shift the weapon slightly, sending it off course.\\n1-5. Take wind movement around your target into account.\\nThe windage setting on your rifle scope allows you to compensate for cross winds traveling from left to right or vice versa. However, snipers are often firing at distances that can make wind a bigger issue for concern. If the wind is blowing slightly where you are, but far stronger at the point of the target, it may throw off the round. Use binoculars to look for signs of strong wind around your target, and adjust your windage left or right to compensate.\\nIf the wind is blowing around you and the target in the same direction, you may need to adjust the windage further than usual to compensate for the wind the round will pass through on the way to the target.\\nWind traveling in an opposing direction may require reducing your adjustment, as the wind traveling left to right at the target may negate some of the effect of wind traveling right to left around you.\\n1-6. Practice as often and as much with your sidearm as your primary weapon system.\\nSnipers are trained to utilize cover to conceal their location from the enemy once in position, but getting to and from that position can be extremely dangerous. The nature of sniper rifles makes them less effective at close and medium range combat, due to long barrels, different firing mechanisms, and large optics in the way of your line of sight. Snipers carry sidearms, or pistols, to use in close quarters situations when their rifles would be less effective.\\nYou should become as familiar and effective with your sidearm as you are with your primary weapon, as it will be your first line of defense in close quarters combat.\\nProper marksmanship fundamentals affect pistol accuracy as well as the rifle, but it may take more practice to get accustomed to firing a pistol under stress due to a lack of stability and shorter barrel.\\n1-7. Learn to properly utilize cover and concealment.\\nCover and concealment are two different methods of protecting yourself from the enemy that are best when used together. Cover places actual objects between you and the enemy to stop enemy gunfire from reaching you. Concealment hides your presence from the enemy. When moving, stay conscious of things around you that may provide cover in the event of an enemy engagement. Wear dark or camouflaged clothing to aid in your concealment from the enemy.\\nCommon forms of concealment utilized by snipers include face paint, camouflage and even incorporating the fauna and plant life in the area by placing it on or attaching it to their clothing.\\nProper concealment should stop incoming gunfire. Large rocks, buildings and thick trees could all serve as cover. However, car doors, drywall or plywood will not stop rounds and should not be utilized as cover.\\n2. Observing Your Environment\\n2-1. Establish an environmental baseline.\\nBeing a sniper is not all about firing at long distance targets; snipers are often responsible for gathering reconnaissance and general operations beyond fortified front lines. Because of the danger of being alone or in small groups with very little support, it’s imperative that a sniper learn to quickly establish environmental norms for their situation. Be conscious of your environment and the sights, sounds and activities that should be normal so you can more readily identify things that aren’t.\\nIn a city, the environmental baseline would likely include the sounds of traffic, lots of people conversing, and crowded streets.\\nIn a wooded area, the sounds of insects, wind in the trees and far off highways may create the baseline.\\nPay attention to your surroundings and use previous experiences to inform you as to what to expect.\\n2-2. Take note of abnormal behavior.\\nOnce you have determined what the environmental baseline is, you can begin to asses any abnormal behavior or circumstances in the area around you. If the insects in the forest suddenly stop making noise, or traffic in the city is suddenly interrupted it likely means there is something out of the ordinary going on. In day to day life, it’s normal to tell yourself that sound you heard was nothing to worry about, but as a sniper forward of enemy lines, you can’t afford to make such assumptions.\\nThe tendency to think abnormal things going on will work out fine is called the “normalcy bias” and it can prevent you from reacting to dangerous situations quickly enough.\\nIf you notice something out of the ordinary, make note of it but don’t focus all of your attention on it.\\n2-3. Avoid locking your focus on specific things.\\nCombatting the normalcy bias requires an intense focus on your surroundings, but it’s important not to allow that focus to linger too long on any one thing. If you devote your full attention to one thing in your field of view, you may not notice other risks developing around you. Make note of things you notice, but continue to survey your surroundings for other threats. Focusing on one thing to the detriment of noticing others is referred to as “focus lock.”\\nWith your attention held by a possible target in front of you, you may not notice other threats forming behind you.\\nLike driving in a car, you don’t stare at the guard rail hoping not to hit it, but you maintain your awareness of it while looking at the road ahead of you.\\n2-4. Try to predict upcoming events around you.\\nUse the expertise you develop from forming environmental baselines, combatting the normalcy bias and avoiding focus lock to begin to predict the behaviors of people around you. As you observe others, you will find that behavior often fits patterns. By identifying these patterns (such as taxi cabs stopping more frequently than other cars, people jogging when crossing busy streets instead of walking and so forth) you can begin to predict events around you. Once you can form an educated prediction of what should occur in the near future, you will be better prepared to identify risks if things change.\\nBy predicting the actions of those in your field of view, you will notice unusual behavior from individuals sooner than by strictly observing them.\\nThe more you observe and predict, the better you will become at picking out unusual circumstances.\\n2-5. Trust your gut.\\nAs a sniper, you will often work in pairs or small groups with very little outside support. Sometimes, you or someone you are with may develop a “bad feeling” about a situation that may be difficult to articulate. Don’t simply disregard these feelings, as your body may be interpreting information you haven’t consciously considered yet. If you or your partner has a bad feeling about your location or situation, it’s often best to act on that feeling.\\nYou may have unconsciously noticed something that increases the risk factor of your current situation, but failed to consciously consider it.\\nFinding a new vantage point is always better than compromising the mission or losing your life because you disregarded your gut feeling.\\n3. Developing Mental and Physical Toughness\\n3-1. Stay calm.\\nThe vast majority of a day in the life of sniper in the field is waiting. This time, often spent alone or with one other person, is often silent and in some cases even moving can compromise your position and put you and your team at risk. It is essential to stay calm as a sniper, whether its during movement to or from an objective, while waiting to conduct reconnaissance, or in the face of the enemy.\\nKeeping a cool head will allow you to properly utilize your training and expertise to handle the situation at hand.\\nThere are many stories of snipers being surrounded by enemies in combat situations that survived because of their ability to remain calm and concealed as the enemy passed.\\n3-2. Maintain focus on the objective at hand.\\nWith all the waiting around one is apt to do as a sniper, it can be easy to lose sight of what you’re there to be doing. After three days of seeing nothing, your mind may begin to wander instead of remaining focused on your objective. Combat this loss of focus by frequently reminding yourself of your objectives and how important it is to your team’s safety that you stay attentive.\\nGetting too comfortable and allowing your mind to drift is a form of complacency. Complacency kills in a combat zone, as you must always be aware of your surroundings.\\nMission accomplishment is, and should always be, the number one priority of a sniper.\\n3-3. Train your body for the rigors of combat.\\nAlthough there may be hours of waiting around, being a sniper also means moments of extreme physical stress. Because of this, physical fitness is paramount for a sniper. Covering ground quickly to put you and your team in a better position to achieve your objectives, or to get to an extraction point means having the cardiovascular strength to run quickly for extended periods of time. Carrying all of the gear necessary for your mission will also require physical strength. Developing a strong body will help you to adjust to stressful combat situations, recover from injuries, and aid team members if they are injured.\\nSnipers must be among the most physically fit combatants on the battlefield.\\nIncorporate a good deal of running and some weight training into your workout regimen as a sniper.\\n3-4. Distance yourself emotionally.\\nBeing a sniper in a combat zone will likely mean having to make the decision to end a life. There is no universal strategy for coping with this choice, or the feelings that may arise as a result. However, distancing yourself from your target emotionally can help to lessen the emotional repercussions of killing another person in defense of your country.\\nChris Kyle, a highly decorated Navy sniper, often taught people to focus on the lives they were saving by engaging the enemy, rather than on the lives of the enemy that they were taking.\\nAlthough you may spend a significant amount of time observing your target, it’s important not to allow yourself to become attached to them.\\n3-5. Practice often and with intensity.\\nBeing a sniper means long periods of inaction followed by infrequent and extremely intense moments of action. It can be difficult to predict how a person may react in a firefight, but you can minimize the chances that you will make a mistake by practicing every element of your craft frequently and with the same intensity you might in an actual firefight. This includes firing your weapon, exercising and learning new skills. By practicing as though you are in a combat situation, you will be better prepared to handle one when it arises.\\nJust like playing sports, frequent practice can help you to do the things you need to do even when the situation around you is hectic.\\nBy training how you would perform in a real scenario, you can help your body adjust to the stresses of combat ahead of time.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Although movies tend to focus on the action, the vast majority of what it takes to be a sniper is mental. The ability to operate effectively in high stress situations, manage your emotions and value mission accomplishment above all else are as integral to a sniper’s success as their proficiency with a weapon. Becoming a sniper takes years of training, both mental and physical, and as a result their skills are highly sought after in the military and law enforcement. If you have a serious interest in becoming a sniper, you should consider serving in the armed forces or pursuing a career as a police officer.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving Your Long Distance Accuracy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with your weapon.\", \"描述\": \"Everything becomes difficult under stress, which is exactly why a sniper must become intimately familiar with their weapon. Cleaning and maintaining your rifle of choice is only a portion of becoming familiar with it. You will also need to practice with it enough to learn what types of failures you may be able to expect and how to address them in a field situation. This can only be done by firing the weapon regularly and learning how it handles different situations.\\nMany military snipers sleep with their weapons in field environments. The rifle has to feel like an extension of yourself in order to maximizing your effectiveness with the weapon.\\nHandling your weapon often will make leveling the rifle and capturing good sight picture a matter of muscle memory, allowing you to focus on your environment instead of your actions.\\nThere are many types of rifles a sniper may use that include different firing mechanisms and ammunition, based on the situation and the sniper’s preference.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get comfortable adjusting windage, elevation and parallax.\", \"描述\": \"When using a rifle scope there are three adjustments you can make to help ensure your rounds impact the target. The windage adjusts your target’s impact point on the horizontal axis while the elevation will adjust it on vertical one. The parallax adjusts the reticle in your scope’s depth in relation to the target and is not a common adjustment in other forms of sport or competitive shooting.\\nWhen firing, practice making adjustments to the parallax, windage and the elevation to gain a better understanding of how each adjustment affects the impact point of your round.\\nThere are many different variations of rifle scopes that allow you to make adjustments in different ways and in different increments. Use one scope as your primary optic until you are as comfortable with it as you are with your weapon.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice good trigger control.\", \"描述\": \"At a distance, pulling a trigger can throw your round off course and result in missing your target. Instead, squeeze the trigger with slow steady pressure until it releases a round. Once the weapon fires, do not immediately release the trigger. Instead, hold it for a one count before letting go.\\nTry counting down from five slowly as you squeeze the trigger to ensure you do not pull the trigger and shift the weapon.\\nShifting a fraction of an inch at the point of the weapon can result in missing by inches or even feet at the target.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Utilize proper breath control.\", \"描述\": \"Your breathing can also have a dramatic effect on the accuracy of your rounds at a distance. In order to fire accurately at long distances, you will need to learn to fire the weapon during the natural pause between exhaling a breath and inhaling a new one. This practice is referred to as “breath control.”\\nBreath out slowly and squeeze the trigger in between breaths.\\nFiring during inhaling or exhaling could shift the weapon slightly, sending it off course.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take wind movement around your target into account.\", \"描述\": \"The windage setting on your rifle scope allows you to compensate for cross winds traveling from left to right or vice versa. However, snipers are often firing at distances that can make wind a bigger issue for concern. If the wind is blowing slightly where you are, but far stronger at the point of the target, it may throw off the round. Use binoculars to look for signs of strong wind around your target, and adjust your windage left or right to compensate.\\nIf the wind is blowing around you and the target in the same direction, you may need to adjust the windage further than usual to compensate for the wind the round will pass through on the way to the target.\\nWind traveling in an opposing direction may require reducing your adjustment, as the wind traveling left to right at the target may negate some of the effect of wind traveling right to left around you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Practice as often and as much with your sidearm as your primary weapon system.\", \"描述\": \"Snipers are trained to utilize cover to conceal their location from the enemy once in position, but getting to and from that position can be extremely dangerous. The nature of sniper rifles makes them less effective at close and medium range combat, due to long barrels, different firing mechanisms, and large optics in the way of your line of sight. Snipers carry sidearms, or pistols, to use in close quarters situations when their rifles would be less effective.\\nYou should become as familiar and effective with your sidearm as you are with your primary weapon, as it will be your first line of defense in close quarters combat.\\nProper marksmanship fundamentals affect pistol accuracy as well as the rifle, but it may take more practice to get accustomed to firing a pistol under stress due to a lack of stability and shorter barrel.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Learn to properly utilize cover and concealment.\", \"描述\": \"Cover and concealment are two different methods of protecting yourself from the enemy that are best when used together. Cover places actual objects between you and the enemy to stop enemy gunfire from reaching you. Concealment hides your presence from the enemy. When moving, stay conscious of things around you that may provide cover in the event of an enemy engagement. Wear dark or camouflaged clothing to aid in your concealment from the enemy.\\nCommon forms of concealment utilized by snipers include face paint, camouflage and even incorporating the fauna and plant life in the area by placing it on or attaching it to their clothing.\\nProper concealment should stop incoming gunfire. Large rocks, buildings and thick trees could all serve as cover. However, car doors, drywall or plywood will not stop rounds and should not be utilized as cover.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Observing Your Environment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Establish an environmental baseline.\", \"描述\": \"Being a sniper is not all about firing at long distance targets; snipers are often responsible for gathering reconnaissance and general operations beyond fortified front lines. Because of the danger of being alone or in small groups with very little support, it’s imperative that a sniper learn to quickly establish environmental norms for their situation. Be conscious of your environment and the sights, sounds and activities that should be normal so you can more readily identify things that aren’t.\\nIn a city, the environmental baseline would likely include the sounds of traffic, lots of people conversing, and crowded streets.\\nIn a wooded area, the sounds of insects, wind in the trees and far off highways may create the baseline.\\nPay attention to your surroundings and use previous experiences to inform you as to what to expect.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take note of abnormal behavior.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have determined what the environmental baseline is, you can begin to asses any abnormal behavior or circumstances in the area around you. If the insects in the forest suddenly stop making noise, or traffic in the city is suddenly interrupted it likely means there is something out of the ordinary going on. In day to day life, it’s normal to tell yourself that sound you heard was nothing to worry about, but as a sniper forward of enemy lines, you can’t afford to make such assumptions.\\nThe tendency to think abnormal things going on will work out fine is called the “normalcy bias” and it can prevent you from reacting to dangerous situations quickly enough.\\nIf you notice something out of the ordinary, make note of it but don’t focus all of your attention on it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid locking your focus on specific things.\", \"描述\": \"Combatting the normalcy bias requires an intense focus on your surroundings, but it’s important not to allow that focus to linger too long on any one thing. If you devote your full attention to one thing in your field of view, you may not notice other risks developing around you. Make note of things you notice, but continue to survey your surroundings for other threats. Focusing on one thing to the detriment of noticing others is referred to as “focus lock.”\\nWith your attention held by a possible target in front of you, you may not notice other threats forming behind you.\\nLike driving in a car, you don’t stare at the guard rail hoping not to hit it, but you maintain your awareness of it while looking at the road ahead of you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try to predict upcoming events around you.\", \"描述\": \"Use the expertise you develop from forming environmental baselines, combatting the normalcy bias and avoiding focus lock to begin to predict the behaviors of people around you. As you observe others, you will find that behavior often fits patterns. By identifying these patterns (such as taxi cabs stopping more frequently than other cars, people jogging when crossing busy streets instead of walking and so forth) you can begin to predict events around you. Once you can form an educated prediction of what should occur in the near future, you will be better prepared to identify risks if things change.\\nBy predicting the actions of those in your field of view, you will notice unusual behavior from individuals sooner than by strictly observing them.\\nThe more you observe and predict, the better you will become at picking out unusual circumstances.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Trust your gut.\", \"描述\": \"As a sniper, you will often work in pairs or small groups with very little outside support. Sometimes, you or someone you are with may develop a “bad feeling” about a situation that may be difficult to articulate. Don’t simply disregard these feelings, as your body may be interpreting information you haven’t consciously considered yet. If you or your partner has a bad feeling about your location or situation, it’s often best to act on that feeling.\\nYou may have unconsciously noticed something that increases the risk factor of your current situation, but failed to consciously consider it.\\nFinding a new vantage point is always better than compromising the mission or losing your life because you disregarded your gut feeling.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Mental and Physical Toughness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stay calm.\", \"描述\": \"The vast majority of a day in the life of sniper in the field is waiting. This time, often spent alone or with one other person, is often silent and in some cases even moving can compromise your position and put you and your team at risk. It is essential to stay calm as a sniper, whether its during movement to or from an objective, while waiting to conduct reconnaissance, or in the face of the enemy.\\nKeeping a cool head will allow you to properly utilize your training and expertise to handle the situation at hand.\\nThere are many stories of snipers being surrounded by enemies in combat situations that survived because of their ability to remain calm and concealed as the enemy passed.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain focus on the objective at hand.\", \"描述\": \"With all the waiting around one is apt to do as a sniper, it can be easy to lose sight of what you’re there to be doing. After three days of seeing nothing, your mind may begin to wander instead of remaining focused on your objective. Combat this loss of focus by frequently reminding yourself of your objectives and how important it is to your team’s safety that you stay attentive.\\nGetting too comfortable and allowing your mind to drift is a form of complacency. Complacency kills in a combat zone, as you must always be aware of your surroundings.\\nMission accomplishment is, and should always be, the number one priority of a sniper.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Train your body for the rigors of combat.\", \"描述\": \"Although there may be hours of waiting around, being a sniper also means moments of extreme physical stress. Because of this, physical fitness is paramount for a sniper. Covering ground quickly to put you and your team in a better position to achieve your objectives, or to get to an extraction point means having the cardiovascular strength to run quickly for extended periods of time. Carrying all of the gear necessary for your mission will also require physical strength. 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By practicing as though you are in a combat situation, you will be better prepared to handle one when it arises.\\nJust like playing sports, frequent practice can help you to do the things you need to do even when the situation around you is hectic.\\nBy training how you would perform in a real scenario, you can help your body adjust to the stresses of combat ahead of time.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Being a Social Snob
1-1. Have high standards for everything.
As you begin your journey into snobbery, you must first know that being a snob means being selective. You must have standards about everything, such as how your steak is prepared to which grocery store you shop in. Be picky about your lifestyle because being a snob is to know and be vocal about the best life has to offer.
1-2. Buy things with the intent of impressing people.
It doesn’t matter exactly what you purchase because everywhere you go the standards for fine living can change. What matters is that your possessions are what other people deem as valuable.
Brand name items are an easy way to show status because most people recognize them as expensive and exclusive.
Food, alcohol, cars, and even pets are other options for show status.
Learn to appreciate the finer things in life. Snobbery is also an enjoyment of quality beverages or the classiest art museum around. Not because they necessarily have a large price tag, but because effort and time went into making a good product.
Only buy authentic items. Faux fur, leather, or gems will eventually be spotted and you don’t want to be caught as a fraud.
1-3. Wear clothing and jewelry that reflects your snobbery.
You don’t need to be flashy and loud with your fashion statements. In fact, being obnoxiously plastered in designer labels and logos can be seen as tacky and trying too hard. To be a snob you need to dress better than everyone around you.
Aim for a clean, classic look. Black and white, pearls, diamonds, gold, and silver are all universally recognized as colors and materials of status and wealth. Incorporate these into your wardrobe.
Be careful not to go overboard on accessorizing. Overloading yourself with too much jewelry or customizing your car with undercarriage lights and a spoiler are ways to get attention, but they don’t reflect the tastefulness of being a snob.
Simplicity goes a long way.
Keep yourself groomed. A perfect outfit can be ruined by torn-up nail beds or bad breath. You need to maintain your elite status and bad hygiene is the fastest way to jeopardize it.
1-4. Hang out around people in the elite crowd.
Again, you want to give off an appearance of status and one way is to intentionally spend your time with those who have it. Your goal is to blend in with the elite crowd. Your appearance, manners, and attitude will help, but you have to actually associate yourself with other snobs.
1-5. Spend time in strategic public places.
Where you shop and eat is important because if you are a snob, then only the absolute best establishments are good enough for you. Being a snob requires an audience to be complete, even if it’s composed of strangers. The exclusive rooftop bar in New York City is a more suitable place to be than the McDonald’s on the corner of Times Square.
Join a country club, attend events with the powerful people in your community, or become a member of a community club with other snobs.
High-end boutiques are a great place to meet women of wealth as well as simultaneously stay on top of the latest fashion trends.
By rubbing elbows with other people of status in their element, you’ll also learn the dos and don’ts of your particular social circle.
1-6. Cultivate manners that set you apart.
Treat everyone, regardless of their station in life, with respect. Many snobs have a reputation for acting snotty and uppity towards people of a lower class or social status. Though you want to appear to be the smartest and best-dressed, it does not mean that you have to step on other people to rise to the top.
Refer to others by their title and proper names and expect the same. If you don’t receive the same respect back, correct people so that everyone will know how to treat you.
Don’t swear. Vulgar language is not appropriate in most settings and will taint your image of class.
A fake accent is easy to spot, so don’t force yourself to speak unnaturally. However, you should work on using proper grammar and word pronunciation to appear well-educated.
1-7. Be cultured and communicate your knowledge.
Expand your knowledge of art, food, music, politics, and language so that you have an education on a variety of topics. This will help you participate in any conversation and appear intelligent, even if you only have a basic understanding of the topic. People of status often have an impressive education background, for example they may have attended an Ivy League school. Even if you have not, being well-read will help you connect with the upper academic echelon.
Learn a new word every day so that you can build a vocabulary that will impress people.
Take up a hobby that’s physical. Tennis, golf, and other games are great ways to socialize with other snobs as well as stay in shape.
1-8. Manage your money wisely.
Being a snob does mean spending money on high-quality, big ticket items. However, you only need to spend your money on the best options. Be strategic and have one outstanding car rather than several medium quality cars. Or, spend your money on one expensive, designer little black dress instead of buying a closet full of jeans and t-shirts.
At first, you may not own a lot. But remember quality is better than quantity.
Being smart with your money shows that you are picky and that your money is in fact valuable; you refuse to spend your money on anything but the absolute best.
2. Being a Snob About Your Interests
2-1. Have a specific interest or hobby.
If you don’t already have a special thing that you like to do in your free time, pick something that you think is fun. A lot of classic snobby interests include film (not movies), wine and cheese, literature, coffee, or fashion. However, you can be a snob about anything as long as you have an attitude of exclusivity.
Being exclusive about your interest means knowing what is good, bad, and the inbetween. As a snob, connoisseur, or enthusiast, you will want to be vocal about what is the best and what is to be avoided.
Collecting things is a great way to become a snob. For example, it would be impossible to collect every coin or stamp ever made. However, there are some that are more rare or valuable than others which is a standard that makes them better than the rest.
2-2. Be an expert in your field.
Be the person who everyone can come to with a question in regards to your interest or hobby. You want to be the one that knows everything about how coffee is made, the best methods for brewing, and all about the bean varieties. The worst kinds of snobs are those who talk as if they know everything in order to seem superior but can’t back up their claims.
Be careful about having an air of superiority.
There’s a fine line between being a know-it-all and being the best source of information on a topic. In order to walk that line, humility is the key.
Take the time to do extra research in order to stay up-to-date on the latest trends and newest information.
2-3. Build an impressive vocabulary.
You need to be able to “talk shop” with other enthusiasts. For example, if you’re going to be a motorcycle snob, you need to be able to discuss the differences and benefits between a four-stroke and two-stroke engine. In addition, being able to use complex terms and technical jargon, even among people who know nothing about your craft, will impress them with your intelligence and proficiency.
2-4. Spend time doing what you like.
In order to become an expert on anything, you need to invest your free time in studying and practicing your craft. If you want to be a connoisseur of cheese, be prepared to eat a lot of cheese. You’ll have to in order to compare and contrast different types and flavors in order to discover the best and the worst. All snobs need to construct a standard of what is the best your particular interest has to offer.
2-5. Attend events centered around your interest or hobby.
This will give you exposure to new ideas or methods. Snobs can often be close-minded because of their pickiness. You still want to hold high standards, but exploring new options will help you develop your tastes and convictions about things.
Libraries and convention centers often hold conferences or events for hobbyists.
Bars and wine shops often have tastings or flights available for you to compare different products.
Being involved in the community is also a great way to meet other snobs in your field.
2-6. Be critical of yourself and others.
Don’t compromise on your standards for good art or a fantastic meal. Rate your experiences as you go to maintain consistency. However, be critical but not condescending. You will alienate yourself and you will lose your credibility. Impress people with your extensive knowledge but avoid acting like another person is beneath you because they are less knowledgeable.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Being a Social Snob\\n1-1. Have high standards for everything.\\nAs you begin your journey into snobbery, you must first know that being a snob means being selective. You must have standards about everything, such as how your steak is prepared to which grocery store you shop in. Be picky about your lifestyle because being a snob is to know and be vocal about the best life has to offer.\\n1-2. Buy things with the intent of impressing people.\\nIt doesn’t matter exactly what you purchase because everywhere you go the standards for fine living can change. What matters is that your possessions are what other people deem as valuable.\\nBrand name items are an easy way to show status because most people recognize them as expensive and exclusive.\\nFood, alcohol, cars, and even pets are other options for show status.\\nLearn to appreciate the finer things in life. Snobbery is also an enjoyment of quality beverages or the classiest art museum around. Not because they necessarily have a large price tag, but because effort and time went into making a good product.\\nOnly buy authentic items. Faux fur, leather, or gems will eventually be spotted and you don’t want to be caught as a fraud.\\n1-3. Wear clothing and jewelry that reflects your snobbery.\\nYou don’t need to be flashy and loud with your fashion statements. In fact, being obnoxiously plastered in designer labels and logos can be seen as tacky and trying too hard. To be a snob you need to dress better than everyone around you.\\nAim for a clean, classic look. Black and white, pearls, diamonds, gold, and silver are all universally recognized as colors and materials of status and wealth. Incorporate these into your wardrobe.\\nBe careful not to go overboard on accessorizing. Overloading yourself with too much jewelry or customizing your car with undercarriage lights and a spoiler are ways to get attention, but they don’t reflect the tastefulness of being a snob.\\nSimplicity goes a long way.\\nKeep yourself groomed. A perfect outfit can be ruined by torn-up nail beds or bad breath. You need to maintain your elite status and bad hygiene is the fastest way to jeopardize it.\\n1-4. Hang out around people in the elite crowd.\\nAgain, you want to give off an appearance of status and one way is to intentionally spend your time with those who have it. Your goal is to blend in with the elite crowd. Your appearance, manners, and attitude will help, but you have to actually associate yourself with other snobs.\\n1-5. Spend time in strategic public places.\\nWhere you shop and eat is important because if you are a snob, then only the absolute best establishments are good enough for you. Being a snob requires an audience to be complete, even if it’s composed of strangers. The exclusive rooftop bar in New York City is a more suitable place to be than the McDonald’s on the corner of Times Square.\\nJoin a country club, attend events with the powerful people in your community, or become a member of a community club with other snobs.\\nHigh-end boutiques are a great place to meet women of wealth as well as simultaneously stay on top of the latest fashion trends.\\nBy rubbing elbows with other people of status in their element, you’ll also learn the dos and don’ts of your particular social circle.\\n1-6. Cultivate manners that set you apart.\\nTreat everyone, regardless of their station in life, with respect. Many snobs have a reputation for acting snotty and uppity towards people of a lower class or social status. Though you want to appear to be the smartest and best-dressed, it does not mean that you have to step on other people to rise to the top.\\nRefer to others by their title and proper names and expect the same. If you don’t receive the same respect back, correct people so that everyone will know how to treat you.\\nDon’t swear. Vulgar language is not appropriate in most settings and will taint your image of class.\\nA fake accent is easy to spot, so don’t force yourself to speak unnaturally. However, you should work on using proper grammar and word pronunciation to appear well-educated.\\n1-7. Be cultured and communicate your knowledge.\\nExpand your knowledge of art, food, music, politics, and language so that you have an education on a variety of topics. This will help you participate in any conversation and appear intelligent, even if you only have a basic understanding of the topic. People of status often have an impressive education background, for example they may have attended an Ivy League school. Even if you have not, being well-read will help you connect with the upper academic echelon.\\nLearn a new word every day so that you can build a vocabulary that will impress people.\\nTake up a hobby that’s physical. Tennis, golf, and other games are great ways to socialize with other snobs as well as stay in shape.\\n1-8. Manage your money wisely.\\nBeing a snob does mean spending money on high-quality, big ticket items. However, you only need to spend your money on the best options. Be strategic and have one outstanding car rather than several medium quality cars. Or, spend your money on one expensive, designer little black dress instead of buying a closet full of jeans and t-shirts.\\nAt first, you may not own a lot. But remember quality is better than quantity.\\nBeing smart with your money shows that you are picky and that your money is in fact valuable; you refuse to spend your money on anything but the absolute best.\\n2. Being a Snob About Your Interests\\n2-1. Have a specific interest or hobby.\\nIf you don’t already have a special thing that you like to do in your free time, pick something that you think is fun. A lot of classic snobby interests include film (not movies), wine and cheese, literature, coffee, or fashion. However, you can be a snob about anything as long as you have an attitude of exclusivity.\\nBeing exclusive about your interest means knowing what is good, bad, and the inbetween. As a snob, connoisseur, or enthusiast, you will want to be vocal about what is the best and what is to be avoided.\\nCollecting things is a great way to become a snob. For example, it would be impossible to collect every coin or stamp ever made. However, there are some that are more rare or valuable than others which is a standard that makes them better than the rest.\\n2-2. Be an expert in your field.\\nBe the person who everyone can come to with a question in regards to your interest or hobby. You want to be the one that knows everything about how coffee is made, the best methods for brewing, and all about the bean varieties. The worst kinds of snobs are those who talk as if they know everything in order to seem superior but can’t back up their claims.\\nBe careful about having an air of superiority.\\nThere’s a fine line between being a know-it-all and being the best source of information on a topic. In order to walk that line, humility is the key.\\nTake the time to do extra research in order to stay up-to-date on the latest trends and newest information.\\n2-3. Build an impressive vocabulary.\\nYou need to be able to “talk shop” with other enthusiasts. For example, if you’re going to be a motorcycle snob, you need to be able to discuss the differences and benefits between a four-stroke and two-stroke engine. In addition, being able to use complex terms and technical jargon, even among people who know nothing about your craft, will impress them with your intelligence and proficiency.\\n2-4. Spend time doing what you like.\\nIn order to become an expert on anything, you need to invest your free time in studying and practicing your craft. If you want to be a connoisseur of cheese, be prepared to eat a lot of cheese. You’ll have to in order to compare and contrast different types and flavors in order to discover the best and the worst. All snobs need to construct a standard of what is the best your particular interest has to offer.\\n2-5. Attend events centered around your interest or hobby.\\nThis will give you exposure to new ideas or methods. Snobs can often be close-minded because of their pickiness. You still want to hold high standards, but exploring new options will help you develop your tastes and convictions about things.\\nLibraries and convention centers often hold conferences or events for hobbyists.\\nBars and wine shops often have tastings or flights available for you to compare different products.\\nBeing involved in the community is also a great way to meet other snobs in your field.\\n2-6. Be critical of yourself and others.\\nDon’t compromise on your standards for good art or a fantastic meal. Rate your experiences as you go to maintain consistency. However, be critical but not condescending. You will alienate yourself and you will lose your credibility. Impress people with your extensive knowledge but avoid acting like another person is beneath you because they are less knowledgeable.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a snob, or more appropriately an elitist, is about cultivating a lifestyle that shows that you know what's best. As a snob you need standards to live by: which is the best car to drive, the most fashionable clothing, or the most impressive bottle of wine to bring to a dinner party. You need to look like a snob as well as cultivate an attitude to go with it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being a Social Snob\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have high standards for everything.\", \"描述\": \"As you begin your journey into snobbery, you must first know that being a snob means being selective. You must have standards about everything, such as how your steak is prepared to which grocery store you shop in. Be picky about your lifestyle because being a snob is to know and be vocal about the best life has to offer.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Buy things with the intent of impressing people.\", \"描述\": \"It doesn’t matter exactly what you purchase because everywhere you go the standards for fine living can change. What matters is that your possessions are what other people deem as valuable.\\nBrand name items are an easy way to show status because most people recognize them as expensive and exclusive.\\nFood, alcohol, cars, and even pets are other options for show status.\\nLearn to appreciate the finer things in life. Snobbery is also an enjoyment of quality beverages or the classiest art museum around. Not because they necessarily have a large price tag, but because effort and time went into making a good product.\\nOnly buy authentic items. Faux fur, leather, or gems will eventually be spotted and you don’t want to be caught as a fraud.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear clothing and jewelry that reflects your snobbery.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t need to be flashy and loud with your fashion statements. In fact, being obnoxiously plastered in designer labels and logos can be seen as tacky and trying too hard. To be a snob you need to dress better than everyone around you.\\nAim for a clean, classic look. Black and white, pearls, diamonds, gold, and silver are all universally recognized as colors and materials of status and wealth. Incorporate these into your wardrobe.\\nBe careful not to go overboard on accessorizing. Overloading yourself with too much jewelry or customizing your car with undercarriage lights and a spoiler are ways to get attention, but they don’t reflect the tastefulness of being a snob.\\nSimplicity goes a long way.\\nKeep yourself groomed. A perfect outfit can be ruined by torn-up nail beds or bad breath. You need to maintain your elite status and bad hygiene is the fastest way to jeopardize it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hang out around people in the elite crowd.\", \"描述\": \"Again, you want to give off an appearance of status and one way is to intentionally spend your time with those who have it. Your goal is to blend in with the elite crowd. Your appearance, manners, and attitude will help, but you have to actually associate yourself with other snobs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Spend time in strategic public places.\", \"描述\": \"Where you shop and eat is important because if you are a snob, then only the absolute best establishments are good enough for you. Being a snob requires an audience to be complete, even if it’s composed of strangers. The exclusive rooftop bar in New York City is a more suitable place to be than the McDonald’s on the corner of Times Square.\\nJoin a country club, attend events with the powerful people in your community, or become a member of a community club with other snobs.\\nHigh-end boutiques are a great place to meet women of wealth as well as simultaneously stay on top of the latest fashion trends.\\nBy rubbing elbows with other people of status in their element, you’ll also learn the dos and don’ts of your particular social circle.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Cultivate manners that set you apart.\", \"描述\": \"Treat everyone, regardless of their station in life, with respect. Many snobs have a reputation for acting snotty and uppity towards people of a lower class or social status. Though you want to appear to be the smartest and best-dressed, it does not mean that you have to step on other people to rise to the top.\\nRefer to others by their title and proper names and expect the same. If you don’t receive the same respect back, correct people so that everyone will know how to treat you.\\nDon’t swear. Vulgar language is not appropriate in most settings and will taint your image of class.\\nA fake accent is easy to spot, so don’t force yourself to speak unnaturally. However, you should work on using proper grammar and word pronunciation to appear well-educated.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be cultured and communicate your knowledge.\", \"描述\": \"Expand your knowledge of art, food, music, politics, and language so that you have an education on a variety of topics. This will help you participate in any conversation and appear intelligent, even if you only have a basic understanding of the topic. People of status often have an impressive education background, for example they may have attended an Ivy League school. Even if you have not, being well-read will help you connect with the upper academic echelon.\\nLearn a new word every day so that you can build a vocabulary that will impress people.\\nTake up a hobby that’s physical. Tennis, golf, and other games are great ways to socialize with other snobs as well as stay in shape.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Manage your money wisely.\", \"描述\": \"Being a snob does mean spending money on high-quality, big ticket items. However, you only need to spend your money on the best options. Be strategic and have one outstanding car rather than several medium quality cars. Or, spend your money on one expensive, designer little black dress instead of buying a closet full of jeans and t-shirts.\\nAt first, you may not own a lot. 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For example, it would be impossible to collect every coin or stamp ever made. However, there are some that are more rare or valuable than others which is a standard that makes them better than the rest.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be an expert in your field.\", \"描述\": \"Be the person who everyone can come to with a question in regards to your interest or hobby. You want to be the one that knows everything about how coffee is made, the best methods for brewing, and all about the bean varieties. The worst kinds of snobs are those who talk as if they know everything in order to seem superior but can’t back up their claims.\\nBe careful about having an air of superiority.\\nThere’s a fine line between being a know-it-all and being the best source of information on a topic. In order to walk that line, humility is the key.\\nTake the time to do extra research in order to stay up-to-date on the latest trends and newest information.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Build an impressive vocabulary.\", \"描述\": \"You need to be able to “talk shop” with other enthusiasts. For example, if you’re going to be a motorcycle snob, you need to be able to discuss the differences and benefits between a four-stroke and two-stroke engine. In addition, being able to use complex terms and technical jargon, even among people who know nothing about your craft, will impress them with your intelligence and proficiency.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Spend time doing what you like.\", \"描述\": \"In order to become an expert on anything, you need to invest your free time in studying and practicing your craft. If you want to be a connoisseur of cheese, be prepared to eat a lot of cheese. 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Rate your experiences as you go to maintain consistency. However, be critical but not condescending. You will alienate yourself and you will lose your credibility. Impress people with your extensive knowledge but avoid acting like another person is beneath you because they are less knowledgeable.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Learning the Rules
1-1. Learn the basic rules of soccer.
Before you can develop yourself into a goalie, you should know the rules of soccer. These rules and regulations are discussed by and decided upon by the International Football Association Board (IFAB), which is a committee within the Fédération Internationale de Football Association (FIFA). FIFA governs every aspect of the game of internationally.
FIFA publishes the official book of rules and regulations for soccer. It is updated regularly and the current version has 140 pages. You can find a copy of the rules and regulations of soccer at http://www.fifa.com/mm/document/affederation/generic/81/42/36/lawsofthegame_2010_11_e.pdf .
The IAFB has established and recognized 17 standard and universal laws of soccer. This is because the FIFA rules and regulations often differ between countries and organizations. In addition, the FIFA rule book might be too complex for beginning players to understand.
The 17 laws cover the following topics: the field of play, the soccer, the number of players, the players’ equipment, the referee, the assistant referees, the duration of the match, the start and restart of play, the ball in and out of play, the method of scoring, offside, fouls and misconduct, free kicks, penalty kicks, the throw in, goal kicks, and corner kicks. You can access the specifics of each of the seventeen standard laws at http://www.syossetsoccer.org/home/683808.html.
You can read more about how to play soccer at How to Play Soccer.
1-2. Learn the rules of being a goalie.
Each player on a soccer field, from forwards to midfielders to the goalie, has a specific set of rules and regulations related to their position. Knowing these laws will help you be a better goalie and teammate.
1-3. Learn about goalkeeper equipment.
Beyond the standard equipment any soccer player needs including cleats/soccer and football boots, shin guards/pads, and a jersey, a goalkeeper must also follow the regulations on gear specific to his position on the field. From goalkeeper gloves to a special jersey, the equipment helps other players identify the goalie on the field.
Goalies must wear a uniform, long socks, shin guards, and soccer cleats.
FIFA regulations also require that a goalie’s equipment be distinctive from other players and the officials to identify his position on the field. For example, most goalies will wear a team jersey that is a different color from the rest of the players.
Goalies also wear special gloves to help them grip the ball and protect their hands from shots on goal. You can find out more about goalie gloves at Size and Take Care of Goalkeeper Gloves.
1-4. Get the proper equipment to be a goalie.
Before you start playing and training as a goalie, purchase the proper equipment. From gloves to cleats and shin guards, each piece of equipment will ensure that you are prepared to play your best and safest.
You need the following equipment to play: goalkeeper gloves, cleats/football/soccer boots, shin guards/shinpads, socks, and a jersey.
Goalie gloves, which are made of thick leather, cushion your hands when you catch or stop shots on goal. They also help you grip the ball better.
Cleats/Soccer boots are special sneakers for soccer. They have hard stud on the bottom of the shoe that allows you to grip the turf on the field more effectively.
Shin guards protect your lower leg bones from being kicked by the hard cleats, which can be not only painful, but also injure you. You must wear socks that cover your shin guards completely, which also helps keep them in place.
A goalie jersey may have padding in the shoulder and hip areas to protect you from the force of direct shots on goal. If you play for a team, it will often provide you with a proper goalie jersey for your team.
You can purchase all of the necessary soccer equipment at specialty sports stores or even at an online retailer such as Soccerpro.com or Footy.com.
1-5. Know where and how a goalie may play the soccer ball.
It’s important for a goalkeeper to know where on the field he may play, from kicking the ball to throwing it with his hands. Knowing these rules will keep him from violating any of the rules of the game.
A goalkeeper may leave the goal box to join outfield players for defensive purposes, which often happens when a team needs to attack its opponents using full force.
The goalie may grip the soccer ball when he within his own penalty area. In certain situations, such a when a teammate deliberately kicks him the ball, he cannot handle.
If the goalie commits such violations, the referees will grant the opposing team with an indirect free kick, which may be close to the goal.
A goalkeeper may not control the soccer ball for more than six seconds. If he violates the rule, the opposing team are granted an indirect free kick.
The rules consider possession whenever the goalie is holding the ball with his hands, or if the ball somewhere between his body and the ground.
Goalies may take penalty kicks and participate in penalty shootouts.
Coaches may substitute a goalkeeper so long as play follows the regulations for player substitution.
If an opposing player is making a penalty kick, the goalie must remain not only on his goal line but also in between the goalposts. He may make any movement as long as he does not move forward before the ball is kicked.
A goalie may be given a red card for violating the rules of the game. In this case, any outfield player or a substitute goalie can take over for the ejected goalkeeper.
1-6. Learn rules specific to your country or organization.
Because there are rules that govern soccer matches specific to certain countries and organizations, learn any differences there may be in your country or the organization for which you play. This will keep you from making mistakes that could cost your team the match.
For example, some organizations may require you to wear goalkeeper gloves whereas FIFA allows individual goalies to choose if they want to wear gloves.
2. Playing with a Team
2-1. Pay close attention to the game.
As a goalie, you are in the unique position among your teammates that you can see the entire field of play. By paying close to the game at all times, you not only help your team gain advantages, but also ensure that you’re prepared to defend the goal if the opposing team charges it.
Always keep your eye on the ball, even if it’s at the other end of the field. You wouldn’t want to be surprised if it is kicked to your end of the field.
2-2. Communicate with your teammates.
Since a goalie can see the entire field of play in soccer, it is important for him to effectively communicate what he sees to his teammates. This will help them know which opponents to watch or any patterns of play. The goalie can also provide motivation for tired or lagging teammates.
Tell your teammates about certain opponents or patterns of play either during a time out or while they’re on the field. It’s important that they know these things because it not only helps them on the field, but also will help them do their job defending you and the goal area.
You can also develop and use hand gesture to cue your teammates about opponents or your own planned course of action.
Don't shout at your teammates too often. Be specific, concise, and decisive in your suggestions, but deliver the message in a polite manner. Remember, that you’re not the coach.
2-3. Be aggressive and anticipate players coming down the field.
If an opposing player is charging down the field to take a shot on goal, your job as goalie is to anticipate what move he’s going to make and then aggressively defend the goal. How you react in these situations can the difference between a save and the other team scoring.
Charge oncoming players to cut down the angle of their kicks and to make yourself bigger. Charging is also a useful tool to intimidate opposing players.
Moving your legs and standing on the tips of your toes will help you react more quickly to incoming plays. Those few split seconds often make a big difference in the outcome of a situation.
Make yourself larger inside the goal to intimidate charging players. You can do this by raising your hands above your head or holding them out to your side. This is also a psychological trick used to make a kicker unsure of where he is kicking the ball.
Reading the body language of players coming down the field. For example, if you notice a player planting his foot to kick, you can easily anticipate that the ball will follow the trajectory of the shot. Watching a player’s eyes can also give you cues about where he plans to kick the ball.
2-4. Attack every ball that comes at you.
Any ball traveling in the direction of the goalie can end up between the goal posts. It’s important to actively anticipate and attack any ball that comes towards you so that you don’t give the other team easy goals. Meaning, even if it is kicked higher than your height, jump!
2-5. Save shots on goal using your hands and feet.
There are different ways to defend the goal area from catching the ball to kicking it or punching it out over the net. Choosing which defense strategy you use will depend on how the ball is approaching the goal area.
Catch the ball when you can. This will give you the option to punt it towards your teammates, giving them a chance at a goal.
When you catch a ball to save it from going in the goal, you have two options of how to play it: you can either throw it back to your teammates with your hands or directly kick it to one of your teammates further down the field.
There are times when it is not practical to catch the ball, for example if it is kicked too high or too fast. In these cases, you can deflect the ball with the palm of your hand or the tips of your fingers, or you can punch it over the net.
Kick the ball without first catching it only in an emergency situation, such as an immediate threat to the goal area.
If a ball is low to the ground or approaching you at a flat angle, dive for it and then get up quickly.
Get up quickly if you dive, catch or kick a ball. You never know when you'll need to make a second save.
3. Training Your Body and Your Mind
3-1. Train your cardiovascular system.
Soccer is a fast-moving sport that requires a lot of running over the course of a 90-plus minute game. Even though you’re guarding the goal and may not be running as much as a forward, you still must be physically fit and prepare to run quickly in and out of the goal box and even on the field.
Running is one of the most important activities for a soccer player and a goalie. Aim to run at a decent pace for at least 90 minutes to ensure that your body is able to handle the rigors of the game.
You’ll also need to sprint in and out of the goal area to protect it from shots and potential shots on goal. It’s a good idea to train for this by running sprinting drills. For example, you could do 10 sprints of 100 meters (330 ft) so your body is prepared to accelerate quickly in and out of the goal.
3-2. Do strength training.
As a goalie, you need to be able to clear the ball from the goal area by both kicking and throwing it. In order to do this most effectively, you need to have strong legs and arms, which you can train with weight exercises.
Doing cardio work like running will strengthen your legs, but doing leg-specific weight exercises will increase your strength. Consider exercises such as squats, lunges, and leg presses, all of which will train your entire leg.
Since being a goalie also requires you to use your arms and hands, doing exercises to increase your upper body strength is also important. Consider exercises such as shoulder presses, bicep curls, chest presses, and wrist curls. Using an implement such as the Gripmaster will strengthen your fingers and wrists.
You can also consider strength and flexibility training exercises such as yoga. Top international teams such as Bayern München practice yoga not only to augment their strength training exercises, but also to increase flexibility and refine fine motor skills. In addition, yoga can train you to focus and relax more effectively.
3-3. Work on your fine and gross motor skills.
Being a successful soccer player and goalie requires more than being able to kick or throw a ball. Remember, a goalie is no different than a field player except that he is allowed to use his hands inside the goal box. You’ll need to train your fine and gross motor skills to most effectively handle the ball with your hands and feet.
To train fine and gross motor skills on your feet and legs, do drills that focus on activities such as dribbling a soccer ball going in different directions and punting it at different distances from your goal posts. For punts to clear a ball from the goal, practice having your planted foot and body face in the direction you want the ball to travel.
You should also train for the two basic steps a goalie uses: the shuffle and the crossover. Galloping sideways will train you for shuffling, while turning your legs in opposite directions from your hips will train you for doing a crossover.
As a goalie, you’ll also need to train your hands for greater dexterity with the balls. Throwing and catching drills with your coaches or teammates will help you develop handwork skills.
3-4. Speed up your reaction times.
A goalie must be able to anticipate the opposing players’ move and react accordingly. Drills can help you speed up your reaction times, which may be the difference between effectively defending a shot on goal or failing to stop it before it enters the goal.
One good exercise to train your reaction times is to kick a soccer ball at a wall with different parts of your foot and then trying to stop it from getting past your body.
3-5. Learn how to anticipate opposing players’ moves.
One of the primary jobs of a goalie is to understand the mindset of opposing players and anticipate their moves. By learning how to read opposing players’ moves, you will be able to more effectively anticipate what move they are about to make, which will help you block shots on goal and determine the course of the game.
Playing soccer often will give you the practical experience to read the moves of other players. Often, there are patterns of play that you can detect from this.
Watching videos of other goalies and players can highlight additional tactics to help you more effectively anticipate the moves of both offensive and defensive players and then determine the proper course of play.
One good drill to help you anticipate a player’s move is to practice mock shootouts and penalty kicks with a friend or your teammates. Even working with a couple of cones as a goal will help you practice this skill.
Practice your dive to save a ball on a bed or soft mattress.
3-6. Understand how geometric principles can enhance your technique.
Part of being a goalie is anticipating shots on goal, which can come at different speeds and angles. Having a basic understanding that geometric and mathematical principles dictate where a ball will land can help you to more effectively anticipate plays.
Always try to close angles so that an opposing player does not have many options from where they can shoot. For example, if the player is charging from the right, don't stand in the middle of the goal. Instead, face the ball with your body and stand close to the right post.
A good rule of thumb for positioning yourself properly to angles is to pretend that there is a string extending from the ball to the very center of the goal. You want to position yourself on that string.
If a ball is kicked flat to the ground directly towards you, don't just reach your hands downward. Rather, hold your entire body low to the ground, which will allow you to dive forward if necessary.
If an opposing player is making a penalty shot, you also need to block the angle. Looking for cues in a player’s eyes or at his feet could help you figure out which angle to block.
3-7. Strengthen your mental stamina.
Playing on a soccer team, including as a goalie, requires that you have mental strength to get through the ups and downs of games. By working on your mental stamina, you can successfully navigate any obstacles that might be present not only at a game, but also within your team.
It’s important to know that everything will never go perfectly in a game, or even in a practice. You need to be emotionally flexible and resilient in order to quickly rebound from setbacks so that they do not become a hindrance for your team.
Having confidence in your skills will also help boost your mental stamina. This can come from knowing that you’ve trained hard or that you have a very strong and supportive team.
Cognitive exercises like pep talks and seeing the positive in any situation also strengthen your mind and prepare you for games. Visualization, which is where you envision a play without actually going through it, is another effective exercise.
Talking to a sports therapist or psychologist can help you identify and in turn strengthen your game. For example, you may always feel guilty when your team loses. But soccer is a team sport and realizing that perhaps the fault isn’t always yours, and maybe with the defensive players, will help you be a stronger player.
Tips
Listen to your team and communicate with them. Soccer is a collaborative sport, so you need to interact with your team to plan how to stop the offense.
Diving is key. Learn how to predict the opponents move and just keep your eyes on the ball and follow its movement.
Scan the pitch, there may be opponents at a very dangerous place, then warn your teammates or get ready to save the ball!
Warnings
When you’re playing, take care of your head. Many goalkeepers are injured in one-on-one collisions or by heading balls.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Learning the Rules\\n1-1. Learn the basic rules of soccer.\\nBefore you can develop yourself into a goalie, you should know the rules of soccer. These rules and regulations are discussed by and decided upon by the International Football Association Board (IFAB), which is a committee within the Fédération Internationale de Football Association (FIFA). FIFA governs every aspect of the game of internationally.\\nFIFA publishes the official book of rules and regulations for soccer. It is updated regularly and the current version has 140 pages. You can find a copy of the rules and regulations of soccer at http://www.fifa.com/mm/document/affederation/generic/81/42/36/lawsofthegame_2010_11_e.pdf .\\nThe IAFB has established and recognized 17 standard and universal laws of soccer. This is because the FIFA rules and regulations often differ between countries and organizations. In addition, the FIFA rule book might be too complex for beginning players to understand.\\nThe 17 laws cover the following topics: the field of play, the soccer, the number of players, the players’ equipment, the referee, the assistant referees, the duration of the match, the start and restart of play, the ball in and out of play, the method of scoring, offside, fouls and misconduct, free kicks, penalty kicks, the throw in, goal kicks, and corner kicks. You can access the specifics of each of the seventeen standard laws at http://www.syossetsoccer.org/home/683808.html.\\nYou can read more about how to play soccer at How to Play Soccer.\\n1-2. Learn the rules of being a goalie.\\nEach player on a soccer field, from forwards to midfielders to the goalie, has a specific set of rules and regulations related to their position. Knowing these laws will help you be a better goalie and teammate.\\n1-3. Learn about goalkeeper equipment.\\nBeyond the standard equipment any soccer player needs including cleats/soccer and football boots, shin guards/pads, and a jersey, a goalkeeper must also follow the regulations on gear specific to his position on the field. From goalkeeper gloves to a special jersey, the equipment helps other players identify the goalie on the field.\\nGoalies must wear a uniform, long socks, shin guards, and soccer cleats.\\nFIFA regulations also require that a goalie’s equipment be distinctive from other players and the officials to identify his position on the field. For example, most goalies will wear a team jersey that is a different color from the rest of the players.\\nGoalies also wear special gloves to help them grip the ball and protect their hands from shots on goal. You can find out more about goalie gloves at Size and Take Care of Goalkeeper Gloves.\\n1-4. Get the proper equipment to be a goalie.\\nBefore you start playing and training as a goalie, purchase the proper equipment. From gloves to cleats and shin guards, each piece of equipment will ensure that you are prepared to play your best and safest.\\nYou need the following equipment to play: goalkeeper gloves, cleats/football/soccer boots, shin guards/shinpads, socks, and a jersey.\\nGoalie gloves, which are made of thick leather, cushion your hands when you catch or stop shots on goal. They also help you grip the ball better.\\nCleats/Soccer boots are special sneakers for soccer. They have hard stud on the bottom of the shoe that allows you to grip the turf on the field more effectively.\\nShin guards protect your lower leg bones from being kicked by the hard cleats, which can be not only painful, but also injure you. You must wear socks that cover your shin guards completely, which also helps keep them in place.\\nA goalie jersey may have padding in the shoulder and hip areas to protect you from the force of direct shots on goal. If you play for a team, it will often provide you with a proper goalie jersey for your team.\\nYou can purchase all of the necessary soccer equipment at specialty sports stores or even at an online retailer such as Soccerpro.com or Footy.com.\\n1-5. Know where and how a goalie may play the soccer ball.\\nIt’s important for a goalkeeper to know where on the field he may play, from kicking the ball to throwing it with his hands. Knowing these rules will keep him from violating any of the rules of the game.\\nA goalkeeper may leave the goal box to join outfield players for defensive purposes, which often happens when a team needs to attack its opponents using full force.\\nThe goalie may grip the soccer ball when he within his own penalty area. In certain situations, such a when a teammate deliberately kicks him the ball, he cannot handle.\\nIf the goalie commits such violations, the referees will grant the opposing team with an indirect free kick, which may be close to the goal.\\nA goalkeeper may not control the soccer ball for more than six seconds. If he violates the rule, the opposing team are granted an indirect free kick.\\nThe rules consider possession whenever the goalie is holding the ball with his hands, or if the ball somewhere between his body and the ground.\\nGoalies may take penalty kicks and participate in penalty shootouts.\\nCoaches may substitute a goalkeeper so long as play follows the regulations for player substitution.\\nIf an opposing player is making a penalty kick, the goalie must remain not only on his goal line but also in between the goalposts. He may make any movement as long as he does not move forward before the ball is kicked.\\nA goalie may be given a red card for violating the rules of the game. In this case, any outfield player or a substitute goalie can take over for the ejected goalkeeper.\\n1-6. Learn rules specific to your country or organization.\\nBecause there are rules that govern soccer matches specific to certain countries and organizations, learn any differences there may be in your country or the organization for which you play. This will keep you from making mistakes that could cost your team the match.\\nFor example, some organizations may require you to wear goalkeeper gloves whereas FIFA allows individual goalies to choose if they want to wear gloves.\\n2. Playing with a Team\\n2-1. Pay close attention to the game.\\nAs a goalie, you are in the unique position among your teammates that you can see the entire field of play. By paying close to the game at all times, you not only help your team gain advantages, but also ensure that you’re prepared to defend the goal if the opposing team charges it.\\nAlways keep your eye on the ball, even if it’s at the other end of the field. You wouldn’t want to be surprised if it is kicked to your end of the field.\\n2-2. Communicate with your teammates.\\nSince a goalie can see the entire field of play in soccer, it is important for him to effectively communicate what he sees to his teammates. This will help them know which opponents to watch or any patterns of play. The goalie can also provide motivation for tired or lagging teammates.\\nTell your teammates about certain opponents or patterns of play either during a time out or while they’re on the field. It’s important that they know these things because it not only helps them on the field, but also will help them do their job defending you and the goal area.\\nYou can also develop and use hand gesture to cue your teammates about opponents or your own planned course of action.\\nDon't shout at your teammates too often. Be specific, concise, and decisive in your suggestions, but deliver the message in a polite manner. Remember, that you’re not the coach.\\n2-3. Be aggressive and anticipate players coming down the field.\\nIf an opposing player is charging down the field to take a shot on goal, your job as goalie is to anticipate what move he’s going to make and then aggressively defend the goal. How you react in these situations can the difference between a save and the other team scoring.\\nCharge oncoming players to cut down the angle of their kicks and to make yourself bigger. Charging is also a useful tool to intimidate opposing players.\\nMoving your legs and standing on the tips of your toes will help you react more quickly to incoming plays. Those few split seconds often make a big difference in the outcome of a situation.\\nMake yourself larger inside the goal to intimidate charging players. You can do this by raising your hands above your head or holding them out to your side. This is also a psychological trick used to make a kicker unsure of where he is kicking the ball.\\nReading the body language of players coming down the field. For example, if you notice a player planting his foot to kick, you can easily anticipate that the ball will follow the trajectory of the shot. Watching a player’s eyes can also give you cues about where he plans to kick the ball.\\n2-4. Attack every ball that comes at you.\\nAny ball traveling in the direction of the goalie can end up between the goal posts. It’s important to actively anticipate and attack any ball that comes towards you so that you don’t give the other team easy goals. Meaning, even if it is kicked higher than your height, jump!\\n2-5. Save shots on goal using your hands and feet.\\nThere are different ways to defend the goal area from catching the ball to kicking it or punching it out over the net. Choosing which defense strategy you use will depend on how the ball is approaching the goal area.\\nCatch the ball when you can. This will give you the option to punt it towards your teammates, giving them a chance at a goal.\\nWhen you catch a ball to save it from going in the goal, you have two options of how to play it: you can either throw it back to your teammates with your hands or directly kick it to one of your teammates further down the field.\\nThere are times when it is not practical to catch the ball, for example if it is kicked too high or too fast. In these cases, you can deflect the ball with the palm of your hand or the tips of your fingers, or you can punch it over the net.\\nKick the ball without first catching it only in an emergency situation, such as an immediate threat to the goal area.\\nIf a ball is low to the ground or approaching you at a flat angle, dive for it and then get up quickly.\\nGet up quickly if you dive, catch or kick a ball. You never know when you'll need to make a second save.\\n3. Training Your Body and Your Mind\\n3-1. Train your cardiovascular system.\\nSoccer is a fast-moving sport that requires a lot of running over the course of a 90-plus minute game. Even though you’re guarding the goal and may not be running as much as a forward, you still must be physically fit and prepare to run quickly in and out of the goal box and even on the field.\\nRunning is one of the most important activities for a soccer player and a goalie. Aim to run at a decent pace for at least 90 minutes to ensure that your body is able to handle the rigors of the game.\\nYou’ll also need to sprint in and out of the goal area to protect it from shots and potential shots on goal. It’s a good idea to train for this by running sprinting drills. For example, you could do 10 sprints of 100 meters (330 ft) so your body is prepared to accelerate quickly in and out of the goal.\\n3-2. Do strength training.\\nAs a goalie, you need to be able to clear the ball from the goal area by both kicking and throwing it. In order to do this most effectively, you need to have strong legs and arms, which you can train with weight exercises.\\nDoing cardio work like running will strengthen your legs, but doing leg-specific weight exercises will increase your strength. Consider exercises such as squats, lunges, and leg presses, all of which will train your entire leg.\\nSince being a goalie also requires you to use your arms and hands, doing exercises to increase your upper body strength is also important. Consider exercises such as shoulder presses, bicep curls, chest presses, and wrist curls. Using an implement such as the Gripmaster will strengthen your fingers and wrists.\\nYou can also consider strength and flexibility training exercises such as yoga. Top international teams such as Bayern München practice yoga not only to augment their strength training exercises, but also to increase flexibility and refine fine motor skills. In addition, yoga can train you to focus and relax more effectively.\\n3-3. Work on your fine and gross motor skills.\\nBeing a successful soccer player and goalie requires more than being able to kick or throw a ball. Remember, a goalie is no different than a field player except that he is allowed to use his hands inside the goal box. You’ll need to train your fine and gross motor skills to most effectively handle the ball with your hands and feet.\\nTo train fine and gross motor skills on your feet and legs, do drills that focus on activities such as dribbling a soccer ball going in different directions and punting it at different distances from your goal posts. For punts to clear a ball from the goal, practice having your planted foot and body face in the direction you want the ball to travel.\\nYou should also train for the two basic steps a goalie uses: the shuffle and the crossover. Galloping sideways will train you for shuffling, while turning your legs in opposite directions from your hips will train you for doing a crossover.\\nAs a goalie, you’ll also need to train your hands for greater dexterity with the balls. Throwing and catching drills with your coaches or teammates will help you develop handwork skills.\\n3-4. Speed up your reaction times.\\nA goalie must be able to anticipate the opposing players’ move and react accordingly. Drills can help you speed up your reaction times, which may be the difference between effectively defending a shot on goal or failing to stop it before it enters the goal.\\nOne good exercise to train your reaction times is to kick a soccer ball at a wall with different parts of your foot and then trying to stop it from getting past your body.\\n3-5. Learn how to anticipate opposing players’ moves.\\nOne of the primary jobs of a goalie is to understand the mindset of opposing players and anticipate their moves. By learning how to read opposing players’ moves, you will be able to more effectively anticipate what move they are about to make, which will help you block shots on goal and determine the course of the game.\\nPlaying soccer often will give you the practical experience to read the moves of other players. Often, there are patterns of play that you can detect from this.\\nWatching videos of other goalies and players can highlight additional tactics to help you more effectively anticipate the moves of both offensive and defensive players and then determine the proper course of play.\\nOne good drill to help you anticipate a player’s move is to practice mock shootouts and penalty kicks with a friend or your teammates. Even working with a couple of cones as a goal will help you practice this skill.\\nPractice your dive to save a ball on a bed or soft mattress.\\n3-6. Understand how geometric principles can enhance your technique.\\nPart of being a goalie is anticipating shots on goal, which can come at different speeds and angles. Having a basic understanding that geometric and mathematical principles dictate where a ball will land can help you to more effectively anticipate plays.\\nAlways try to close angles so that an opposing player does not have many options from where they can shoot. For example, if the player is charging from the right, don't stand in the middle of the goal. Instead, face the ball with your body and stand close to the right post.\\nA good rule of thumb for positioning yourself properly to angles is to pretend that there is a string extending from the ball to the very center of the goal. You want to position yourself on that string.\\nIf a ball is kicked flat to the ground directly towards you, don't just reach your hands downward. Rather, hold your entire body low to the ground, which will allow you to dive forward if necessary.\\nIf an opposing player is making a penalty shot, you also need to block the angle. Looking for cues in a player’s eyes or at his feet could help you figure out which angle to block.\\n3-7. Strengthen your mental stamina.\\nPlaying on a soccer team, including as a goalie, requires that you have mental strength to get through the ups and downs of games. By working on your mental stamina, you can successfully navigate any obstacles that might be present not only at a game, but also within your team.\\nIt’s important to know that everything will never go perfectly in a game, or even in a practice. You need to be emotionally flexible and resilient in order to quickly rebound from setbacks so that they do not become a hindrance for your team.\\nHaving confidence in your skills will also help boost your mental stamina. This can come from knowing that you’ve trained hard or that you have a very strong and supportive team.\\nCognitive exercises like pep talks and seeing the positive in any situation also strengthen your mind and prepare you for games. Visualization, which is where you envision a play without actually going through it, is another effective exercise.\\nTalking to a sports therapist or psychologist can help you identify and in turn strengthen your game. For example, you may always feel guilty when your team loses. But soccer is a team sport and realizing that perhaps the fault isn’t always yours, and maybe with the defensive players, will help you be a stronger player.\\nTips\\nListen to your team and communicate with them. Soccer is a collaborative sport, so you need to interact with your team to plan how to stop the offense.\\nDiving is key. Learn how to predict the opponents move and just keep your eyes on the ball and follow its movement.\\nScan the pitch, there may be opponents at a very dangerous place, then warn your teammates or get ready to save the ball!\\nWarnings\\nWhen you’re playing, take care of your head. Many goalkeepers are injured in one-on-one collisions or by heading balls.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you want to be a goalie, you need a wide variety of skills. Your job is not only to be a good, motivational teammate as well as the last line of defense in a game, but also to properly organize plays, and hinder plays that could become shots on goal. You also need to have mental and physical strength to play a 90-plus minute match\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning the Rules\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn the basic rules of soccer.\", \"描述\": \"Before you can develop yourself into a goalie, you should know the rules of soccer. These rules and regulations are discussed by and decided upon by the International Football Association Board (IFAB), which is a committee within the Fédération Internationale de Football Association (FIFA). FIFA governs every aspect of the game of internationally.\\nFIFA publishes the official book of rules and regulations for soccer. It is updated regularly and the current version has 140 pages. You can find a copy of the rules and regulations of soccer at http://www.fifa.com/mm/document/affederation/generic/81/42/36/lawsofthegame_2010_11_e.pdf .\\nThe IAFB has established and recognized 17 standard and universal laws of soccer. This is because the FIFA rules and regulations often differ between countries and organizations. In addition, the FIFA rule book might be too complex for beginning players to understand.\\nThe 17 laws cover the following topics: the field of play, the soccer, the number of players, the players’ equipment, the referee, the assistant referees, the duration of the match, the start and restart of play, the ball in and out of play, the method of scoring, offside, fouls and misconduct, free kicks, penalty kicks, the throw in, goal kicks, and corner kicks. You can access the specifics of each of the seventeen standard laws at http://www.syossetsoccer.org/home/683808.html.\\nYou can read more about how to play soccer at How to Play Soccer.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn the rules of being a goalie.\", \"描述\": \"Each player on a soccer field, from forwards to midfielders to the goalie, has a specific set of rules and regulations related to their position. Knowing these laws will help you be a better goalie and teammate.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn about goalkeeper equipment.\", \"描述\": \"Beyond the standard equipment any soccer player needs including cleats/soccer and football boots, shin guards/pads, and a jersey, a goalkeeper must also follow the regulations on gear specific to his position on the field. From goalkeeper gloves to a special jersey, the equipment helps other players identify the goalie on the field.\\nGoalies must wear a uniform, long socks, shin guards, and soccer cleats.\\nFIFA regulations also require that a goalie’s equipment be distinctive from other players and the officials to identify his position on the field. For example, most goalies will wear a team jersey that is a different color from the rest of the players.\\nGoalies also wear special gloves to help them grip the ball and protect their hands from shots on goal. You can find out more about goalie gloves at Size and Take Care of Goalkeeper Gloves.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get the proper equipment to be a goalie.\", \"描述\": \"Before you start playing and training as a goalie, purchase the proper equipment. From gloves to cleats and shin guards, each piece of equipment will ensure that you are prepared to play your best and safest.\\nYou need the following equipment to play: goalkeeper gloves, cleats/football/soccer boots, shin guards/shinpads, socks, and a jersey.\\nGoalie gloves, which are made of thick leather, cushion your hands when you catch or stop shots on goal. They also help you grip the ball better.\\nCleats/Soccer boots are special sneakers for soccer. They have hard stud on the bottom of the shoe that allows you to grip the turf on the field more effectively.\\nShin guards protect your lower leg bones from being kicked by the hard cleats, which can be not only painful, but also injure you. You must wear socks that cover your shin guards completely, which also helps keep them in place.\\nA goalie jersey may have padding in the shoulder and hip areas to protect you from the force of direct shots on goal. If you play for a team, it will often provide you with a proper goalie jersey for your team.\\nYou can purchase all of the necessary soccer equipment at specialty sports stores or even at an online retailer such as Soccerpro.com or Footy.com.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Know where and how a goalie may play the soccer ball.\", \"描述\": \"It’s important for a goalkeeper to know where on the field he may play, from kicking the ball to throwing it with his hands. Knowing these rules will keep him from violating any of the rules of the game.\\nA goalkeeper may leave the goal box to join outfield players for defensive purposes, which often happens when a team needs to attack its opponents using full force.\\nThe goalie may grip the soccer ball when he within his own penalty area. In certain situations, such a when a teammate deliberately kicks him the ball, he cannot handle.\\nIf the goalie commits such violations, the referees will grant the opposing team with an indirect free kick, which may be close to the goal.\\nA goalkeeper may not control the soccer ball for more than six seconds. If he violates the rule, the opposing team are granted an indirect free kick.\\nThe rules consider possession whenever the goalie is holding the ball with his hands, or if the ball somewhere between his body and the ground.\\nGoalies may take penalty kicks and participate in penalty shootouts.\\nCoaches may substitute a goalkeeper so long as play follows the regulations for player substitution.\\nIf an opposing player is making a penalty kick, the goalie must remain not only on his goal line but also in between the goalposts. He may make any movement as long as he does not move forward before the ball is kicked.\\nA goalie may be given a red card for violating the rules of the game. In this case, any outfield player or a substitute goalie can take over for the ejected goalkeeper.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn rules specific to your country or organization.\", \"描述\": \"Because there are rules that govern soccer matches specific to certain countries and organizations, learn any differences there may be in your country or the organization for which you play. This will keep you from making mistakes that could cost your team the match.\\nFor example, some organizations may require you to wear goalkeeper gloves whereas FIFA allows individual goalies to choose if they want to wear gloves.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Playing with a Team\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pay close attention to the game.\", \"描述\": \"As a goalie, you are in the unique position among your teammates that you can see the entire field of play. By paying close to the game at all times, you not only help your team gain advantages, but also ensure that you’re prepared to defend the goal if the opposing team charges it.\\nAlways keep your eye on the ball, even if it’s at the other end of the field. You wouldn’t want to be surprised if it is kicked to your end of the field.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicate with your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"Since a goalie can see the entire field of play in soccer, it is important for him to effectively communicate what he sees to his teammates. This will help them know which opponents to watch or any patterns of play. The goalie can also provide motivation for tired or lagging teammates.\\nTell your teammates about certain opponents or patterns of play either during a time out or while they’re on the field. It’s important that they know these things because it not only helps them on the field, but also will help them do their job defending you and the goal area.\\nYou can also develop and use hand gesture to cue your teammates about opponents or your own planned course of action.\\nDon't shout at your teammates too often. Be specific, concise, and decisive in your suggestions, but deliver the message in a polite manner. Remember, that you’re not the coach.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be aggressive and anticipate players coming down the field.\", \"描述\": \"If an opposing player is charging down the field to take a shot on goal, your job as goalie is to anticipate what move he’s going to make and then aggressively defend the goal. How you react in these situations can the difference between a save and the other team scoring.\\nCharge oncoming players to cut down the angle of their kicks and to make yourself bigger. Charging is also a useful tool to intimidate opposing players.\\nMoving your legs and standing on the tips of your toes will help you react more quickly to incoming plays. Those few split seconds often make a big difference in the outcome of a situation.\\nMake yourself larger inside the goal to intimidate charging players. You can do this by raising your hands above your head or holding them out to your side. This is also a psychological trick used to make a kicker unsure of where he is kicking the ball.\\nReading the body language of players coming down the field. For example, if you notice a player planting his foot to kick, you can easily anticipate that the ball will follow the trajectory of the shot. Watching a player’s eyes can also give you cues about where he plans to kick the ball.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Attack every ball that comes at you.\", \"描述\": \"Any ball traveling in the direction of the goalie can end up between the goal posts. It’s important to actively anticipate and attack any ball that comes towards you so that you don’t give the other team easy goals. Meaning, even if it is kicked higher than your height, jump!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Save shots on goal using your hands and feet.\", \"描述\": \"There are different ways to defend the goal area from catching the ball to kicking it or punching it out over the net. Choosing which defense strategy you use will depend on how the ball is approaching the goal area.\\nCatch the ball when you can. This will give you the option to punt it towards your teammates, giving them a chance at a goal.\\nWhen you catch a ball to save it from going in the goal, you have two options of how to play it: you can either throw it back to your teammates with your hands or directly kick it to one of your teammates further down the field.\\nThere are times when it is not practical to catch the ball, for example if it is kicked too high or too fast. In these cases, you can deflect the ball with the palm of your hand or the tips of your fingers, or you can punch it over the net.\\nKick the ball without first catching it only in an emergency situation, such as an immediate threat to the goal area.\\nIf a ball is low to the ground or approaching you at a flat angle, dive for it and then get up quickly.\\nGet up quickly if you dive, catch or kick a ball. You never know when you'll need to make a second save.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Training Your Body and Your Mind\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Train your cardiovascular system.\", \"描述\": \"Soccer is a fast-moving sport that requires a lot of running over the course of a 90-plus minute game. Even though you’re guarding the goal and may not be running as much as a forward, you still must be physically fit and prepare to run quickly in and out of the goal box and even on the field.\\nRunning is one of the most important activities for a soccer player and a goalie. Aim to run at a decent pace for at least 90 minutes to ensure that your body is able to handle the rigors of the game.\\nYou’ll also need to sprint in and out of the goal area to protect it from shots and potential shots on goal. It’s a good idea to train for this by running sprinting drills. For example, you could do 10 sprints of 100 meters (330 ft) so your body is prepared to accelerate quickly in and out of the goal.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do strength training.\", \"描述\": \"As a goalie, you need to be able to clear the ball from the goal area by both kicking and throwing it. In order to do this most effectively, you need to have strong legs and arms, which you can train with weight exercises.\\nDoing cardio work like running will strengthen your legs, but doing leg-specific weight exercises will increase your strength. Consider exercises such as squats, lunges, and leg presses, all of which will train your entire leg.\\nSince being a goalie also requires you to use your arms and hands, doing exercises to increase your upper body strength is also important. Consider exercises such as shoulder presses, bicep curls, chest presses, and wrist curls. Using an implement such as the Gripmaster will strengthen your fingers and wrists.\\nYou can also consider strength and flexibility training exercises such as yoga. Top international teams such as Bayern München practice yoga not only to augment their strength training exercises, but also to increase flexibility and refine fine motor skills. In addition, yoga can train you to focus and relax more effectively.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work on your fine and gross motor skills.\", \"描述\": \"Being a successful soccer player and goalie requires more than being able to kick or throw a ball. Remember, a goalie is no different than a field player except that he is allowed to use his hands inside the goal box. You’ll need to train your fine and gross motor skills to most effectively handle the ball with your hands and feet.\\nTo train fine and gross motor skills on your feet and legs, do drills that focus on activities such as dribbling a soccer ball going in different directions and punting it at different distances from your goal posts. For punts to clear a ball from the goal, practice having your planted foot and body face in the direction you want the ball to travel.\\nYou should also train for the two basic steps a goalie uses: the shuffle and the crossover. Galloping sideways will train you for shuffling, while turning your legs in opposite directions from your hips will train you for doing a crossover.\\nAs a goalie, you’ll also need to train your hands for greater dexterity with the balls. Throwing and catching drills with your coaches or teammates will help you develop handwork skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Speed up your reaction times.\", \"描述\": \"A goalie must be able to anticipate the opposing players’ move and react accordingly. Drills can help you speed up your reaction times, which may be the difference between effectively defending a shot on goal or failing to stop it before it enters the goal.\\nOne good exercise to train your reaction times is to kick a soccer ball at a wall with different parts of your foot and then trying to stop it from getting past your body.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn how to anticipate opposing players’ moves.\", \"描述\": \"One of the primary jobs of a goalie is to understand the mindset of opposing players and anticipate their moves. By learning how to read opposing players’ moves, you will be able to more effectively anticipate what move they are about to make, which will help you block shots on goal and determine the course of the game.\\nPlaying soccer often will give you the practical experience to read the moves of other players. Often, there are patterns of play that you can detect from this.\\nWatching videos of other goalies and players can highlight additional tactics to help you more effectively anticipate the moves of both offensive and defensive players and then determine the proper course of play.\\nOne good drill to help you anticipate a player’s move is to practice mock shootouts and penalty kicks with a friend or your teammates. Even working with a couple of cones as a goal will help you practice this skill.\\nPractice your dive to save a ball on a bed or soft mattress.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Understand how geometric principles can enhance your technique.\", \"描述\": \"Part of being a goalie is anticipating shots on goal, which can come at different speeds and angles. Having a basic understanding that geometric and mathematical principles dictate where a ball will land can help you to more effectively anticipate plays.\\nAlways try to close angles so that an opposing player does not have many options from where they can shoot. For example, if the player is charging from the right, don't stand in the middle of the goal. Instead, face the ball with your body and stand close to the right post.\\nA good rule of thumb for positioning yourself properly to angles is to pretend that there is a string extending from the ball to the very center of the goal. You want to position yourself on that string.\\nIf a ball is kicked flat to the ground directly towards you, don't just reach your hands downward. Rather, hold your entire body low to the ground, which will allow you to dive forward if necessary.\\nIf an opposing player is making a penalty shot, you also need to block the angle. Looking for cues in a player’s eyes or at his feet could help you figure out which angle to block.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Strengthen your mental stamina.\", \"描述\": \"Playing on a soccer team, including as a goalie, requires that you have mental strength to get through the ups and downs of games. By working on your mental stamina, you can successfully navigate any obstacles that might be present not only at a game, but also within your team.\\nIt’s important to know that everything will never go perfectly in a game, or even in a practice. 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1. Practicing Socialism in Your Community
1-1. Talk to people from all backgrounds.
There are many branches and philosophies within socialism, but one major focus is co-operation and opposition to many hierarchies, such as those based on money, social class, or race. Seek out people you wouldn't normally get a chance to meet, especially people employed in low-paying jobs or struggling at the bottom of these hierarchies. This doesn't make you a socialist, but it may teach you a more realistic and detailed understanding of the social experiences socialism seeks to eliminate.
Understand that most socialists desire to restructure society to eliminate this type of suffering, not just to alleviate it with private charity.
1-2. Campaign against inequality.
Socialism has long been associated with fighting oppression of all types, not just those types based on economics or class divides.
Consider learning about and involving yourself in movements that work to end anti-immigrant hatred, racism, and discrimination based on sex, gender, or sexuality. Even movements that are rarely discussed in mainstream society, such as the campaign against inhumane prison conditions, have been championed by socialists for over a century.
Consider joining an organization that educates people on these topics protests them, and/or helps oppressed people.
Speak out when you witness discrimination occur. File a discrimination charge against employers when appropriate, following these guidelines for the U.S. or the E.U.
1-3. Make changes in your workplace.
If you work at a small business or are well-respected at your workplace, you may be in a position to argue for an equal payment structure, or for giving lower-status employees a chance to contribute ideas and assist in decision-making. Even if you are not in a position to accomplish this, you may be able to start a petition or lawsuit against oppressive management decisions, such as mistreatment of employees or discriminatory hiring practices.
Small business owners looking to retire or move on may be convinced to sell their business to their employees. While this can take on several different forms depending on the legal path the owner decides to take, this can be the basis for a full worker co-operative, or at least a more equal system in which the current employees share the profits between them.
1-4. Unionize your workplace
Historically, the relationship between trade unions and socialists has been controversial, with a long history of both co-operation and strife. However, even if you join an anti-socialist labor union, you may find non-socialist allies for certain common goals, such as workers' rights.
1-5. Work from within the union.
Many unions, ironically, are organized in top-down, privilege-based hierarchies, or are ineffective at defending their members' labour rights. If you are working on the union staff, and demonstrating that you are a serious and effective union member, you may be able to alter this situation. Note that arguing socialism may be less effective than training all union members in union operations, and encouraging them to involve themselves in meetings and strategy discussions.
Some socialist organizations recommend working in the rank-and-file of the union staff for six months before trying to make big changes.
1-6. Start a co-operative living or working arrangement.
There are many types of co-operatives, but the basic idea is a community that makes decisions and shares benefits on an equal basis. This could be a group of friends who distribute income and resources evenly, or a more worker co-operative in which all workers have equal decision making power in a business-like entity.
2. Joining Larger Socialist Movements
2-1. Join a socialist organization.
Read about the philosophy and methods of several organizations before joining, as they may vary widely from your own socialist ideals. One broad, international coalition where you can find many socialist organizations is the Progressive Alliance.
In the United States, consider the radical International Socialist Organization, or the moderate Democratic Socialists of America.
In Canada, try the New Democratic Party, or the more radical Fightback
In many European nations, socialist or socialist-sympathizing parties hold seats in national parliaments, as well as the E.U. parliament.
In Latin America, the Foro de Sao Paulo involves many socialist organizations. Cuba is the only current socialist state in the Americas, but socialist guerilla fighters called FARC are currently fighting in Columbia.
In Asia and Africa, there are many socialist movements, typically on the regional or national level. For example, several Naxalite groups associated with the (Maoist) Communist Party of India are currently engaged in guerrilla warfare in that country.
2-2. Campaign for socialist causes within another movement.
More moderate socialists sometimes prefer to support candidates for other parties or pressure non-socialists in power. Joining or temporarily working with a more widely recognized progressive organization may give you a chance to have a more far-reaching effect.
This strategy is most common in the United States, where socialists rarely succeed in elections.
2-3. Attend international socialist gatherings.
Consider travelling to see an international socialist or progressive conference. These often include people from a wide variety of socialist philosophies, allowing you to discuss the topic and make connections.
Look for announcements about possible repeats of conferences such as Socialism, Marxism, and World Social Forum.
The Left Forum is a progressive, academic-focused convention in New York with socialist roots.
3. Learning About Socialism
3-1. Read introductory works.
Socialism is a complex philosophy and has inspired many interpretations, courses of action, and related ideas. If you are not familiar with its history and basic ideas, try starting with a book written as an introduction to the topic, such as the following:
Introducing Marxism by Rius, an informative, humorous guide in comic book format
Introduction to Socialism by Leo Huberman and Paul Sweezy, socialist intellectuals writing in 1968
Introducing Marxism by Rupert Woodfin
Marx's Kapital for Beginners by David N. Smith and Phil Evans
Marx: A Very Short Introduction by Peter Singer
Socialism: A Very Short Introduction by Michael Newman
3-2. Read Marx and Engels.
Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels, in 19th century Germany, collaborated on texts which are considered fundamental to socialist philosophy, especially Das Kapital. The Communist Manifesto, a much shorter book, is a good summary of their philosophy and social-economic analysis.
Many Marxist and socialist texts can be found online for free, for example at the Marxist Internet Archive.
3-3. Read other major figures.
There are many socialist factions, often grouped into several umbrellas. Some of the most influential socialist movements follow the writings and actions of Vladimir Lenin and Leon Trotsky. These figures represent a wide range of socialist theory, some directly opposed to each other.
3-4. Look for other socialist authors.
There are many other socialist authors, writing from many different perspectives, nations, and time periods. Find works by Fidel Castro, Harpal Brar, Ella Rule, Claudia Jones, Angela Davis, Rosa Luxemburg and Bhagat Singh, or read introductory works about them.
3-5. Read socialist newspapers and magazines.
Socialist news sources often have a more international focus than other media and can be a good opportunity to find out about various socialist perspectives on current effects. Examples include The Proletarian Online, Cuba Solidarity Campaign, Massalijn, Lalkar, Liberation News, The Green Left Weekly, Indymedia, Red Pepper, Socialist Worker, Socialist Review, International Socialist, New Internationalist, and New Left Review, New Politics.
Tips
The Marxist Internet Archive has a section for beginners, among many other resources.
Warnings
Keep in mind that many people equate socialism with anarchism and communism. If you wish to discuss socialism, you may have to explain the differences often.
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Start a co-operative living or working arrangement.\\nThere are many types of co-operatives, but the basic idea is a community that makes decisions and shares benefits on an equal basis. This could be a group of friends who distribute income and resources evenly, or a more worker co-operative in which all workers have equal decision making power in a business-like entity.\\n2. Joining Larger Socialist Movements\\n2-1. Join a socialist organization.\\nRead about the philosophy and methods of several organizations before joining, as they may vary widely from your own socialist ideals. 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1. Developing Good Social Graces
1-1. Speak politely to others.
Be thoughtful during everyday conversations and choose words that show respect and consideration. Using simple, polite phrases like “please” and “thank you” may not seem like a huge deal. However, these basic social graces are a big part of being classy and sophisticated.
For example, when you meet someone for the first time, don’t just say “Hi.” Shake their hand and say something like, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”
1-2. Be kind and considerate in your actions.
Look for simple ways to be kind and helpful in your day-to-day interactions with other people. This can include simple actions like giving someone a sincere compliment, holding open a door, or offering to help tidy up after a meal.
Part of being considerate is being punctual and reliable. If you’re ever unable to meet an obligation or be somewhere on time, let the other person know and apologize to them right away.
Although it can be frustrating if you feel like your kindness is not appreciated, practice being kind for its own sake. Don’t expect or demand anything in return.
1-3. Develop strong listening skills.
Taking time to actively listen to others is not only gracious and considerate, but will also help you be a better communicator. When someone else is speaking, give them your full attention. Make eye contact and let them finish what they have to say before you respond.
Try asking questions or rephrasing what the other person said to make sure you understand them.
You can show that you are listening by nodding or using verbal cues, such as “Right,” “Mm-hm,” or “I understand.”
1-4. Avoid excessive slang and cursing.
There’s nothing wrong with cursing or using slang and informal language when you’re goofing around with your friends. But when you’re trying make your image more sophisticated, keep your speech clear and clean.
For example, if someone asks you if you’re going to an event, don’t say, “Oh yeah, I’ll totes be there, it’s gonna be awesome!” Instead, try something like, “Yes, I’ll be there. I’m looking forward to it!”
1-5. Try to keep your cool if you have an argument.
It’s natural to get upset and have disagreements with others from time to time. If you get into a confrontation, keep it classy by being the bigger person. Do your best to stay calm and avoid lashing out or putting the other person down.
If you’re struggling to stay calm, excuse yourself and go take a few deep breaths before you continue the conversation.
Use “I” language to let the other person know how their actions affect you without attacking or blaming them. For example, say something like, “When you show up late to our study sessions, I don’t feel like my time is being respected.”
1-6. Practice good etiquette in social situations.
Whether you’re at the dinner table or attending a school dance, do your best to use appropriate manners for the setting. If you’re not familiar with the situation, take time to study proper etiquette beforehand.
For example, if you’ve been invited to a formal dinner, find out about the dress code before you go.
Brush up on modern etiquette for a variety of situations with a book like Classy: Exceptional Advice for the Extremely Modern Lady by Derek Blasberg.
2. Becoming More Cultured
2-1. Read books on lots of subjects.
Reading is a great way to learn new things, expand your horizons, and become more sophisticated. It will also give you an edge in social situations, since you’ll always be able to talk about what you’ve been reading! Make it a goal to read books in a variety of genres, including fiction, non-fiction, and classic literature.
Don’t just stick to literary classics or books you think you “should” be reading. Read about whatever you find interesting!
2-2. Take time to learn something new every day.
Building your knowledge and skills will help you become a more cultured and sophisticated person. Try reading an article about an unfamiliar subject each day, taking a few minutes to get caught up on current events, or working on a new skill.
You can also try signing up for classes on subjects you find interesting. If you’re not in school, look for classes you can take online, at a community center, or at a local college or university.
Try taking up a new hobby, like painting, crocheting, archery, or rock climbing.
2-3. Get to know people from different backgrounds.
Step outside of your own familiar setting by spending time with people from different cultures and social backgrounds. Try getting to know people of different ages, too. You may be surprised by what you can learn from them!
Traveling is a great way to get to know people from other cultures, but it’s not always practical or affordable. If you can’t travel, try connecting with a pen pal from another country.
2-4. Try new foods.
A big part of becoming cultured is getting out of your comfort zone and experiencing new things. Try new foods from different cultures to expand your horizons and develop a more sophisticated palate.
Visit a restaurant that serves a kind of food you’ve never tried, or invite a friend from another cultural background to swap recipes with you.
Eating new foods is a great way to learn about other cultures and connect with other people who share your interest in good cuisine!
2-5. Learn to appreciate the arts.
Make time to learn about some artists or styles you’re unfamiliar with, or learn more about art you already know and admire. Cultivating an interest in the arts, whether visual or performance-based, will help make you a more well-rounded and sophisticated person.
Try visiting a museum or art gallery, going to the theater, or attending a dance performance.
Taking a class about art history or criticism can help you understand and appreciate the arts on a deeper level.
3. Creating a Sophisticated Look
3-1. Wear neat, well-fitting clothes.
To look sophisticated and put-together, dress in clothes that are clean, wrinkle-free, and flattering. If you’re not sure how to pick clothes that fit you properly, go to a tailor or a lingerie store for advice and a professional measurement.
You don’t need expensive designer clothes to look sophisticated. Wearing clothes that look tidy and fit you well is more important!
Structured pieces, like a fitted blazer or an A-line skirt, can give you a classic, elegant look.
3-2. Dress appropriately for every occasion.
Whether you’re attending a school dance, going on a job interview, or having dinner with family friends, choosing the right attire can make a big difference in the impression you make. Choose clothes that are modest and not too dressy or casual for the occasion.
For example, if you’re going to a formal wedding, a silk dress (knee-length or longer) or pantsuit would be a good choice. Just avoid wearing anything white or overly flashy so you don’t upstage the bride!
For a job interview, a suit is a good bet, but you can also look sophisticated and put-together with a blouse, pencil skirt, and fitted jacket.
3-3. Keep your style simple and timeless.
Stick to a simple, minimalist style to help keep your wardrobe from becoming quickly outdated. Choose a few basic, high-quality clothing pieces in neutral colors. To liven up your look, pair your neutral wardrobe staples with some bold accessories.
For example, you might pair a classic little black dress with a colorful, chunky statement necklace.
Simple pieces in solid colors are great for mixing and matching to create a variety of different outfits.
3-4. Choose a flattering and elegant hairstyle.
Put a little effort into styling your hair each day. This will give you a tidy and well-groomed appearance. Your hair is likely to be one of the first things that other people notice about your appearance, so choose a style that reflects your cool, sophisticated side. For example:
Go for a short haircut if you want to look more confident and professional.
A sleek updo is a great way to create an elegant look, especially for a special occasion.
Your hair color can also affect how others perceive you. For instance, studies show that many people see brunettes as more serious and mysterious than blondes or redheads.
3-5. Put on some subtle makeup if you like.
While wearing makeup isn’t a must, it can help you look more stylish and sophisticated. To create a simple, classic effect, put on some mascara, blush, and a bold lipstick.
If you’re going for a radiant, glowing look, stick to highlighters and eyeshadows with a subtle shimmer rather than obvious glitter.
3-6. Practice good personal hygiene.
Keeping yourself clean, tidy, and nice-smelling will definitely help you maintain your sophisticated image. Shower daily and establish good skin and hair care routines to keep yourself looking your best. Remember to care for your nails, too.
Having well-manicured nails can make a big difference to your overall appearance. Keep your nails relatively short or medium in length, and stick to clear or nude polish for a classy and mature look.
3-7. Adopt proper posture.
To make yourself look more confident and poised, stand tall, keep your head up, and push your shoulders back. In addition to helping you appear more sophisticated, having good posture will also prevent wear and tear on your body as you get older.
If you spend a lot of time in front of computers or other devices with screens, keep them at eye level to prevent hunching.
Doing yoga can improve your posture, strengthen your joints and muscles, and help you become more attuned to what your body is doing.
Tips
Don't be afraid of being a little bit edgy. Remember you don't have to be a proper Victorian woman to be sophisticated. You can be both sophisticated and edgy at the same time.
Don't be afraid to wear whatever you want sometimes. You can still occasionally wear things like hoodies and crop tops and still be sophisticated at the same time. Remember being sophisticated is more about your attitude than about how you dress.
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1. Steps
1-1. Educate yourself in the arts:
Develop an interest in music other than the current Top 40: classical pieces, opera, and early jazz. Bach, Mozart, Tchaikovsky, Wagner, and of course Beethoven are great composers to start with. In the way of popular music, the Universal Music Group publishes a series of CD compilations called 20th Century Masters, which accolades "the best of" great modern artists, such as Louis Armstrong and Chet Baker.
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Read regularly, especially the news and literary classics. Know what is happening in the news (subscribe to and skim through TIME magazine or The Economist) and read contemporary novels geared towards society and your generation. Read poetry and also visit book stores and pick up novels by the great authors. (Tolstoy, Dickens, Hemingway, etc. are all respected but look for things that interest you.)
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Get a basic understanding of the visual arts, including painting, sculpture, and architecture. Learn about aesthetics, art theory, criticism, and other related topics. Travel to see famous paintings and buildings in person if you can spare the expense.
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Attend presentations of the performing arts, such as theater plays, ballets and operas.
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Learn about the art of film. Purchase a movie guide. Rent (and possibly buy) films of all genres. The cable channel Turner Classic Movies generally airs unedited, commercial-free classics, and The Criterion Collection distributes digitally restored DVDs of authoritative motion pictures.
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Pick up side interests in other arts that pique your curiosity, such as, for example, culinary art (cooking and cuisine), decorative arts (furniture arrangement), and calligraphy (handwriting).
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1-2. Get rid of the dusty books from middle school on your shelf.
1-3. Always serve drinks which are chilled appropriately.
1-4. Find good grooming products (excluding hair products beyond shampoo and conditioner).
1-5. Always tip, no matter what the service.
1-6. Hold doors open for people, and thank people who hold doors open for you.
1-7. Always wear a watch and on your left wrist; not a Timex, (if you can afford it) something Swiss.
1-8. Mature your wardrobe; stores which are targeted towards a younger audience (Hollister, American Eagle) become less appropriate as you grow older.
1-9. Look into staples of culture such as a good-fitting white button-down or an Armani sport coat.
If you can't afford a designer sport coat, check out higher-end mall stores which sell tailored, classic looks. Banana Republic, Brooks Brothers and Calvin Klein are good starts. Go with a neutral color.
If you want to appear more mature, wear clothes that fit properly.
Make sure that your clothes are pressed, and not wrinkled.
You want to make sure that you look presentable, and dress appropriately for the occasion.
1-10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and make eye contact.
Do not break the other person's hand.
1-11. Become a wine connoisseur, take wine classes, and go to wine tastings.
It takes time but being able to pair wines is a well respected talent.
1-12. Becoming a food connoisseur is almost as equally import as appreciating good wine.
Try something new when you go to a restaurant. Never order anything cooked over medium!
1-13. Understand quality cigars for lively occasion and smoke when appropriate.
If you smoke, do not smoke cigarettes unless others openly are smokers. Consider a cigarette case, but eschew the out-of-place cigarette holder. If a non-smoker, don't be shy in letting the other person know such.
1-14. Be a gentleman.
Bodily functions such as flatulence should be conducted as privately as possible; if it is obvious, excuse yourself.
1-15. Don't put your elbows on the dinner table.
1-16. Invest in good soaps and other items to help with a clean smell.
A good cologne goes a long way, but do not apply too much.
1-17. Visit traveling museum exhibits as they come near you or take a day trip to your nearest larger city to see the art museums or other must see collections.
1-18. Never pick your nose in public.
Excuse yourself to the restroom if you must. Carry a handkerchief if possible. Buy them in packs and carry a clean one every day. Like underwear, these mustn't be reused without washing.
1-19. Keep eye contact when you converse with a potential partner of either gender.
Make sure not to stare.
1-20. Remain focused on the conversation and avoid speaking about yourself.
1-21. Be more attentive to the partner in your life.
A subtle stroke on the arm or holding him/her by the small of the back makes him/her feel connected, but be appropriate and use discretion with physical contact.
1-22. Practice introducing yourself to others in the mirror.
Sometimes, a simple vocal exercise in the morning facilitates easier conversation during the day.
1-23. Practice your smile.
You know which smile of yours looks good and which one is goofy.
1-24. Be ready to network.
If you have business cards, carry them with you.
1-25. Keep your place clean.
Living as if you are still in college is not manly. (If you are still in college, it's that much more impressive to keep a well-groomed dwelling).
1-26. Update any social networking pages.
Remove drunken photos and photos that aren't flattering. Also remove photos of friends behaving badly. You can now be guilty by association.
Monitor the post your friends send to you and delete anything that could appear too risqué or inappropriate.
Abstain from friends that are too provocative, such as the the obviously fake profiles of lingerie-clad women who send friend requests out to thousands of men.
Remove yourself from groups that are no longer appropriate for your new image. Replace them with more social or economic associates.
Adjust your background images and pick something non-offensive and more mature. The same goes for any headlines or positioning statements about yourself.
Remove excessive personal information and never include an annual salary. Misleading information seems immature and it really isn't anyone's business anyway.
1-27. Stop hanging out in college bars, seedy sports joints and dive clubs.
The real movers and shakers will pay higher covers and higher drink prices to be seen with a better class of people.
Instead, get your friends to ditch the casual t-shirts and get dressed up to meet you at higher end locations. Remember, it isn't about getting wasted with your friends anymore, it's about being seen, networking and getting to know other people.
1-28. Be more selective with your beverage choices.
Your days of getting the most cheap beer for the buck is gone!
Instead of going for low quality domestic beers you should look to nice imported beers or a classic cocktail like vodka tonics, martinis, or a well drink.
Try some different cocktails and find one you like and can sip. Not all bars have a great wine selection so you should have a backup cocktail preference.
As your income increases you can improve your preference to higher quality beverages and top shelf cocktails.
Avoid getting into drinking contest. Shots are for getting very intoxicated quickly. The more sophisticated male will be content with enjoying the beverages and spending time with old friends and making new ones. Hopefully you will even remember these friends and be able to plan future meet ups.
If you're in a place known for an excellent imported beer selection you should try the beer. Ask the bartender or server for their recommendation. If the restaurant is known for wine or their vast collection of quality liquors you should discuss it with someone who knows. Don't be afraid to discuss the menu. Make notes in your phone when you find something you really like.
1-29. Being sophisticated and cultured doesn't mean showing off from outside.
You should be a gentleman from within too. Keep your thoughts clean like you clean yourself.
Tips
When you act the part, you must believe in yourself. Most people can sense a lie. Have confidence in yourself and others will have confidence in you.
Think of all your good qualities, making a list in your head. Use those to your advantage; subtly show them off in social interactions.
Warnings
Don't pretend to know information when you really don't. You'll appear like a fake. Instead, ask engaging questions and expand your knowledge.
Changing your look and image will take an investment of money. Watch your spending and shop wisely to avoid getting into debt.
You may be maturing faster than some of your friends. It is common for friends to lose touch around this time. In many cases you'll reconnect when your ideals begin to match again.
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Go with a neutral color.\\nIf you want to appear more mature, wear clothes that fit properly.\\nMake sure that your clothes are pressed, and not wrinkled.\\nYou want to make sure that you look presentable, and dress appropriately for the occasion.\\n1-10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and make eye contact.\\nDo not break the other person's hand.\\n1-11. Become a wine connoisseur, take wine classes, and go to wine tastings.\\nIt takes time but being able to pair wines is a well respected talent.\\n1-12. Becoming a food connoisseur is almost as equally import as appreciating good wine.\\nTry something new when you go to a restaurant. Never order anything cooked over medium!\\n1-13. Understand quality cigars for lively occasion and smoke when appropriate.\\nIf you smoke, do not smoke cigarettes unless others openly are smokers. Consider a cigarette case, but eschew the out-of-place cigarette holder. If a non-smoker, don't be shy in letting the other person know such.\\n1-14. Be a gentleman.\\nBodily functions such as flatulence should be conducted as privately as possible; if it is obvious, excuse yourself.\\n1-15. Don't put your elbows on the dinner table.\\n\\n1-16. Invest in good soaps and other items to help with a clean smell.\\nA good cologne goes a long way, but do not apply too much.\\n1-17. Visit traveling museum exhibits as they come near you or take a day trip to your nearest larger city to see the art museums or other must see collections.\\n\\n1-18. Never pick your nose in public.\\nExcuse yourself to the restroom if you must. Carry a handkerchief if possible. Buy them in packs and carry a clean one every day. Like underwear, these mustn't be reused without washing.\\n1-19. Keep eye contact when you converse with a potential partner of either gender.\\nMake sure not to stare.\\n1-20. Remain focused on the conversation and avoid speaking about yourself.\\n\\n1-21. Be more attentive to the partner in your life.\\nA subtle stroke on the arm or holding him/her by the small of the back makes him/her feel connected, but be appropriate and use discretion with physical contact.\\n1-22. Practice introducing yourself to others in the mirror.\\nSometimes, a simple vocal exercise in the morning facilitates easier conversation during the day.\\n1-23. Practice your smile.\\nYou know which smile of yours looks good and which one is goofy.\\n1-24. Be ready to network.\\nIf you have business cards, carry them with you.\\n1-25. Keep your place clean.\\nLiving as if you are still in college is not manly. (If you are still in college, it's that much more impressive to keep a well-groomed dwelling).\\n1-26. Update any social networking pages.\\nRemove drunken photos and photos that aren't flattering. Also remove photos of friends behaving badly. You can now be guilty by association.\\nMonitor the post your friends send to you and delete anything that could appear too risqué or inappropriate.\\nAbstain from friends that are too provocative, such as the the obviously fake profiles of lingerie-clad women who send friend requests out to thousands of men.\\nRemove yourself from groups that are no longer appropriate for your new image. Replace them with more social or economic associates.\\nAdjust your background images and pick something non-offensive and more mature. The same goes for any headlines or positioning statements about yourself.\\nRemove excessive personal information and never include an annual salary. Misleading information seems immature and it really isn't anyone's business anyway.\\n1-27. Stop hanging out in college bars, seedy sports joints and dive clubs.\\nThe real movers and shakers will pay higher covers and higher drink prices to be seen with a better class of people.\\nInstead, get your friends to ditch the casual t-shirts and get dressed up to meet you at higher end locations. Remember, it isn't about getting wasted with your friends anymore, it's about being seen, networking and getting to know other people.\\n1-28. Be more selective with your beverage choices.\\nYour days of getting the most cheap beer for the buck is gone!\\nInstead of going for low quality domestic beers you should look to nice imported beers or a classic cocktail like vodka tonics, martinis, or a well drink.\\nTry some different cocktails and find one you like and can sip. Not all bars have a great wine selection so you should have a backup cocktail preference.\\nAs your income increases you can improve your preference to higher quality beverages and top shelf cocktails.\\nAvoid getting into drinking contest. Shots are for getting very intoxicated quickly. The more sophisticated male will be content with enjoying the beverages and spending time with old friends and making new ones. Hopefully you will even remember these friends and be able to plan future meet ups.\\nIf you're in a place known for an excellent imported beer selection you should try the beer. Ask the bartender or server for their recommendation. If the restaurant is known for wine or their vast collection of quality liquors you should discuss it with someone who knows. Don't be afraid to discuss the menu. Make notes in your phone when you find something you really like.\\n1-29. Being sophisticated and cultured doesn't mean showing off from outside.\\nYou should be a gentleman from within too. Keep your thoughts clean like you clean yourself.\\nTips\\nWhen you act the part, you must believe in yourself. Most people can sense a lie. Have confidence in yourself and others will have confidence in you.\\nThink of all your good qualities, making a list in your head. Use those to your advantage; subtly show them off in social interactions.\\nWarnings\\nDon't pretend to know information when you really don't. You'll appear like a fake. Instead, ask engaging questions and expand your knowledge.\\nChanging your look and image will take an investment of money. Watch your spending and shop wisely to avoid getting into debt.\\nYou may be maturing faster than some of your friends. It is common for friends to lose touch around this time. In many cases you'll reconnect when your ideals begin to match again.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The transition from being a young adult to being a young professional can be daunting. It may be time to grow up and shed your teen or Frat Boy ways. Here are tips on developing the cultured and sophisticated image you'll need to network, move ahead professionally and make a positive social impression.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself in the arts:\", \"描述\": \"Develop an interest in music other than the current Top 40: classical pieces, opera, and early jazz. Bach, Mozart, Tchaikovsky, Wagner, and of course Beethoven are great composers to start with. 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Banana Republic, Brooks Brothers and Calvin Klein are good starts. Go with a neutral color.\\nIf you want to appear more mature, wear clothes that fit properly.\\nMake sure that your clothes are pressed, and not wrinkled.\\nYou want to make sure that you look presentable, and dress appropriately for the occasion.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"When shaking hands, grip firmly and make eye contact.\", \"描述\": \"Do not break the other person's hand.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Become a wine connoisseur, take wine classes, and go to wine tastings.\", \"描述\": \"It takes time but being able to pair wines is a well respected talent.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Becoming a food connoisseur is almost as equally import as appreciating good wine.\", \"描述\": \"Try something new when you go to a restaurant. Never order anything cooked over medium!\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Understand quality cigars for lively occasion and smoke when appropriate.\", \"描述\": \"If you smoke, do not smoke cigarettes unless others openly are smokers. Consider a cigarette case, but eschew the out-of-place cigarette holder. If a non-smoker, don't be shy in letting the other person know such.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Be a gentleman.\", \"描述\": \"Bodily functions such as flatulence should be conducted as privately as possible; if it is obvious, excuse yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Don't put your elbows on the dinner table.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Invest in good soaps and other items to help with a clean smell.\", \"描述\": \"A good cologne goes a long way, but do not apply too much.\"}, {\"编号\": 17, \"标题\": \"Visit traveling museum exhibits as they come near you or take a day trip to your nearest larger city to see the art museums or other must see collections.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 18, \"标题\": \"Never pick your nose in public.\", \"描述\": \"Excuse yourself to the restroom if you must. Carry a handkerchief if possible. Buy them in packs and carry a clean one every day. Like underwear, these mustn't be reused without washing.\"}, {\"编号\": 19, \"标题\": \"Keep eye contact when you converse with a potential partner of either gender.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure not to stare.\"}, {\"编号\": 20, \"标题\": \"Remain focused on the conversation and avoid speaking about yourself.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 21, \"标题\": \"Be more attentive to the partner in your life.\", \"描述\": \"A subtle stroke on the arm or holding him/her by the small of the back makes him/her feel connected, but be appropriate and use discretion with physical contact.\"}, {\"编号\": 22, \"标题\": \"Practice introducing yourself to others in the mirror.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, a simple vocal exercise in the morning facilitates easier conversation during the day.\"}, {\"编号\": 23, \"标题\": \"Practice your smile.\", \"描述\": \"You know which smile of yours looks good and which one is goofy.\"}, {\"编号\": 24, \"标题\": \"Be ready to network.\", \"描述\": \"If you have business cards, carry them with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 25, \"标题\": \"Keep your place clean.\", \"描述\": \"Living as if you are still in college is not manly. (If you are still in college, it's that much more impressive to keep a well-groomed dwelling).\"}, {\"编号\": 26, \"标题\": \"Update any social networking pages.\", \"描述\": \"Remove drunken photos and photos that aren't flattering. Also remove photos of friends behaving badly. You can now be guilty by association.\\nMonitor the post your friends send to you and delete anything that could appear too risqué or inappropriate.\\nAbstain from friends that are too provocative, such as the the obviously fake profiles of lingerie-clad women who send friend requests out to thousands of men.\\nRemove yourself from groups that are no longer appropriate for your new image. Replace them with more social or economic associates.\\nAdjust your background images and pick something non-offensive and more mature. The same goes for any headlines or positioning statements about yourself.\\nRemove excessive personal information and never include an annual salary. Misleading information seems immature and it really isn't anyone's business anyway.\"}, {\"编号\": 27, \"标题\": \"Stop hanging out in college bars, seedy sports joints and dive clubs.\", \"描述\": \"The real movers and shakers will pay higher covers and higher drink prices to be seen with a better class of people.\\nInstead, get your friends to ditch the casual t-shirts and get dressed up to meet you at higher end locations. Remember, it isn't about getting wasted with your friends anymore, it's about being seen, networking and getting to know other people.\"}, {\"编号\": 28, \"标题\": \"Be more selective with your beverage choices.\", \"描述\": \"Your days of getting the most cheap beer for the buck is gone!\\nInstead of going for low quality domestic beers you should look to nice imported beers or a classic cocktail like vodka tonics, martinis, or a well drink.\\nTry some different cocktails and find one you like and can sip. Not all bars have a great wine selection so you should have a backup cocktail preference.\\nAs your income increases you can improve your preference to higher quality beverages and top shelf cocktails.\\nAvoid getting into drinking contest. Shots are for getting very intoxicated quickly. The more sophisticated male will be content with enjoying the beverages and spending time with old friends and making new ones. Hopefully you will even remember these friends and be able to plan future meet ups.\\nIf you're in a place known for an excellent imported beer selection you should try the beer. Ask the bartender or server for their recommendation. If the restaurant is known for wine or their vast collection of quality liquors you should discuss it with someone who knows. Don't be afraid to discuss the menu. Make notes in your phone when you find something you really like.\"}, {\"编号\": 29, \"标题\": \"Being sophisticated and cultured doesn't mean showing off from outside.\", \"描述\": \"You should be a gentleman from within too. Keep your thoughts clean like you clean yourself.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"When you act the part, you must believe in yourself. Most people can sense a lie. Have confidence in yourself and others will have confidence in you.\\n\", \"Think of all your good qualities, making a list in your head. Use those to your advantage; subtly show them off in social interactions.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't pretend to know information when you really don't. You'll appear like a fake. Instead, ask engaging questions and expand your knowledge.\\n\", \"Changing your look and image will take an investment of money. Watch your spending and shop wisely to avoid getting into debt.\\n\", \"You may be maturing faster than some of your friends. It is common for friends to lose touch around this time. In many cases you'll reconnect when your ideals begin to match again.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Meeting the Requirements
1-1. Have a bachelor's degree.
Most universities or sorority houses will prefer that you have a bachelor's degree, or at the very least, the professional experience equivalent of a bachelor's degree. To be a sorority mother, you'll need to have more experience than the girls your supervising, which is why most schools require that you be finished with your bachelor's degree first.
Usually, it doesn't matter what degree you have, as long as you have one.
However, a degree in management or psychology would be good choices.
1-2. Be a single woman.
Most sorority houses will not hire a guy to be the house director because they feel like a woman can relate to the girls better. In addition, it may make it easier to be a single woman, as you will be living in the house with the girls, and most places frown on having a live-in spouse.
1-3. Be a jill-of-all-trades.
To be a sorority mom, you will need to manage the house, deal with any staff, provide support for the girls, and help manage the meals. That means you need to know how to manage staff, counsel people, provide guidance, and have plans in place for emergencies.
Beyond planning meals, you may also be responsible for buying food and sticking to a household budget.
You may also be responsible for household inventories each year.
You may also need to know how to do basic maintenance on the house.
2. Developing the Right Skills
2-1. Work on your professional hospitality skills.
Part of running a sorority house is working with staff and managing them, much like you would at a small motel. You not only manage staff, you also help plan events and make sure the house has the appropriate food and menus. Therefore, having experience in these areas can help you get a job in this field, as well as do a good job.
For instance, having experience in restaurant management or event planning can be useful.
If you've never worked in these fields, consider taking a training course at your local community college.
2-2. Understand basic computer skills.
To perform this job, you need to have basic computer skills, such as being able to work with Microsoft Office and QuickBooks, as well as be able to manage an email account and browse the Internet. If you don't have these skills, most libraries offer classes to anyone who needs them for free.
2-3. Learn diplomacy.
Sometimes being a sorority mother puts you in a difficult position because you are between the sorority's board and the current members. In other words, you need to learn how to deal with difficult situations in a tactful manner, which can be difficult when you're in the middle.
One way to learn diplomacy is to take a class in counseling, as the skills you learn there will help you when you find yourself in a hard situation.
Learn the basics of diplomacy. For instance, if you are diplomatic, you'll look at facts rather than feelings, be honest but gentle, avoid spreading gossip or negative ideas, and get to know people so you aren't quick to make a snap judgment.
2-4. Know some psychology or counseling skills.
When living in a sorority, the girls are going to come to you with problems. You need to be able to advise them or at least help them find a solution for themselves. Knowing some basic counseling skills can help you help them. Consider taking a class in counseling to improve your skills.
2-5. Have a passion for young adults.
While it helps to have worked with college-age students before, it's essential to enjoy working with this age group. You'll not only be working with people of this age, you'll be living with them, and they will look up to you as a mentor.
To mentor young adults, you need to be mature enough to rise above their problems. You need to be able to listen to what they're going through without getting sucked into their drama.
If you're not sure if you would like this age group, consider taking a class at a local community college as a way of interacting with them.
3. Applying for a Position
3-1. Find job listings.
Many times, you'll find listing for this job on university websites. The positions may be listed with the regular university jobs, but sometimes, they are listed on the pages about Greek life in addition to or in place of the main job listings.
You can also use websites dedicated to sorority moms to find jobs or post resumes, such as this one: http://www.sororitymom.com/jobs/.
Look for jobs on the national websites for the sororities, as well as national job search sites.
3-2. Send in your information.
You will need to send in a cover letter and a resume and have a background check. You may also need to fill out an application. In some cases, you will send it to one organization on campus that will pass the information along, while in other cases, you'll send it directly to the sorority's board. The job listing should tell you what to do.
On your resume, make sure to point out any positions you held in the past where you showed leadership or management skills or worked with young adults.
3-3. Interview for the position.
Most boards are looking for someone who's smart and capable but who also has the enthusiasm to work with young adults. It will probably help if you were in a sorority in college, but that's not an absolute requirement.
In other words, it's important to show enthusiasm when talking about working with college students. Smile and show with your tone of voice that you are looking forward to it, in addition to what you're saying.
3-4. Move in.
Know what your living arrangement is ahead of time. You will likely have a small apartment to yourself, which may or may not have a kitchen. In addition, you may be required to work all year, while in other places, you may only work 9 to 10 months out of the year. You may need to find a different place to live in the summer, for instance.
3-5. Know who will cause you the most problems.
Often, you'll have more trouble with the the board than the students. The students may come to you with problems and issues, but the board will be the one telling you how they expect things to be run. That may not be true for every chapter, but it can make life more difficult for you at times.
It can be good to sit down with both the board and the students (at separate times) to learn how things should be run and what's expected of you. You may run into a lot of unspoken rules that you'll need to learn to follow.
3-6. Learn the rules.
As a sorority mom, you will need to know a lot of rules, from university policy to house and sorority rules. You'll also need to know about the plans you need to set in motion in case of an emergency. Spend some time reading up on all these policies when you first enter the position.
3-7. Set some boundaries.
While you need to be there for the girls, that doesn't mean you need to be on call 24 hours a day for every little thing. For instance, you can set sleep hours where the girls must leave you alone unless it is an emergency. Also, though you need to accommodate food allergies and religious preferences, you may need to make it clear that you won't cater to every picky person.
3-8. Find support.
When doing this job, you'll likely move to a new community, and you'll be living on a campus. You'll need the support of other people, if just to vent once and awhile. You might try befriending other house moms on campus or even professors who understand how rewarding and challenging it can be at times.
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Be a jill-of-all-trades.\\nTo be a sorority mom, you will need to manage the house, deal with any staff, provide support for the girls, and help manage the meals. That means you need to know how to manage staff, counsel people, provide guidance, and have plans in place for emergencies.\\nBeyond planning meals, you may also be responsible for buying food and sticking to a household budget.\\nYou may also be responsible for household inventories each year.\\nYou may also need to know how to do basic maintenance on the house.\\n2. Developing the Right Skills\\n2-1. Work on your professional hospitality skills.\\nPart of running a sorority house is working with staff and managing them, much like you would at a small motel. You not only manage staff, you also help plan events and make sure the house has the appropriate food and menus. Therefore, having experience in these areas can help you get a job in this field, as well as do a good job.\\nFor instance, having experience in restaurant management or event planning can be useful.\\nIf you've never worked in these fields, consider taking a training course at your local community college.\\n2-2. Understand basic computer skills.\\nTo perform this job, you need to have basic computer skills, such as being able to work with Microsoft Office and QuickBooks, as well as be able to manage an email account and browse the Internet. If you don't have these skills, most libraries offer classes to anyone who needs them for free.\\n2-3. Learn diplomacy.\\nSometimes being a sorority mother puts you in a difficult position because you are between the sorority's board and the current members. In other words, you need to learn how to deal with difficult situations in a tactful manner, which can be difficult when you're in the middle.\\nOne way to learn diplomacy is to take a class in counseling, as the skills you learn there will help you when you find yourself in a hard situation.\\nLearn the basics of diplomacy. For instance, if you are diplomatic, you'll look at facts rather than feelings, be honest but gentle, avoid spreading gossip or negative ideas, and get to know people so you aren't quick to make a snap judgment.\\n2-4. Know some psychology or counseling skills.\\nWhen living in a sorority, the girls are going to come to you with problems. You need to be able to advise them or at least help them find a solution for themselves. Knowing some basic counseling skills can help you help them. Consider taking a class in counseling to improve your skills.\\n2-5. Have a passion for young adults.\\nWhile it helps to have worked with college-age students before, it's essential to enjoy working with this age group. You'll not only be working with people of this age, you'll be living with them, and they will look up to you as a mentor.\\nTo mentor young adults, you need to be mature enough to rise above their problems. You need to be able to listen to what they're going through without getting sucked into their drama.\\nIf you're not sure if you would like this age group, consider taking a class at a local community college as a way of interacting with them.\\n3. Applying for a Position\\n3-1. Find job listings.\\nMany times, you'll find listing for this job on university websites. The positions may be listed with the regular university jobs, but sometimes, they are listed on the pages about Greek life in addition to or in place of the main job listings.\\nYou can also use websites dedicated to sorority moms to find jobs or post resumes, such as this one: http://www.sororitymom.com/jobs/.\\nLook for jobs on the national websites for the sororities, as well as national job search sites.\\n3-2. Send in your information.\\nYou will need to send in a cover letter and a resume and have a background check. You may also need to fill out an application. In some cases, you will send it to one organization on campus that will pass the information along, while in other cases, you'll send it directly to the sorority's board. The job listing should tell you what to do.\\nOn your resume, make sure to point out any positions you held in the past where you showed leadership or management skills or worked with young adults.\\n3-3. Interview for the position.\\nMost boards are looking for someone who's smart and capable but who also has the enthusiasm to work with young adults. It will probably help if you were in a sorority in college, but that's not an absolute requirement.\\nIn other words, it's important to show enthusiasm when talking about working with college students. Smile and show with your tone of voice that you are looking forward to it, in addition to what you're saying.\\n3-4. Move in.\\nKnow what your living arrangement is ahead of time. You will likely have a small apartment to yourself, which may or may not have a kitchen. In addition, you may be required to work all year, while in other places, you may only work 9 to 10 months out of the year. You may need to find a different place to live in the summer, for instance.\\n3-5. Know who will cause you the most problems.\\nOften, you'll have more trouble with the the board than the students. 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For instance, you can set sleep hours where the girls must leave you alone unless it is an emergency. Also, though you need to accommodate food allergies and religious preferences, you may need to make it clear that you won't cater to every picky person.\\n3-8. Find support.\\nWhen doing this job, you'll likely move to a new community, and you'll be living on a campus. You'll need the support of other people, if just to vent once and awhile. You might try befriending other house moms on campus or even professors who understand how rewarding and challenging it can be at times.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A sorority mother or housing director is the chaperone and supervisor of a house of sorority girls. In this position, you'll be responsible for the house, as well as for mentoring and helping the girls in the house. You'll need to meet certain requirements and have certain skills before applying for this position.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meeting the Requirements\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have a bachelor's degree.\", \"描述\": \"Most universities or sorority houses will prefer that you have a bachelor's degree, or at the very least, the professional experience equivalent of a bachelor's degree. To be a sorority mother, you'll need to have more experience than the girls your supervising, which is why most schools require that you be finished with your bachelor's degree first.\\nUsually, it doesn't matter what degree you have, as long as you have one.\\nHowever, a degree in management or psychology would be good choices.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be a single woman.\", \"描述\": \"Most sorority houses will not hire a guy to be the house director because they feel like a woman can relate to the girls better. In addition, it may make it easier to be a single woman, as you will be living in the house with the girls, and most places frown on having a live-in spouse.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be a jill-of-all-trades.\", \"描述\": \"To be a sorority mom, you will need to manage the house, deal with any staff, provide support for the girls, and help manage the meals. That means you need to know how to manage staff, counsel people, provide guidance, and have plans in place for emergencies.\\nBeyond planning meals, you may also be responsible for buying food and sticking to a household budget.\\nYou may also be responsible for household inventories each year.\\nYou may also need to know how to do basic maintenance on the house.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing the Right Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on your professional hospitality skills.\", \"描述\": \"Part of running a sorority house is working with staff and managing them, much like you would at a small motel. You not only manage staff, you also help plan events and make sure the house has the appropriate food and menus. Therefore, having experience in these areas can help you get a job in this field, as well as do a good job.\\nFor instance, having experience in restaurant management or event planning can be useful.\\nIf you've never worked in these fields, consider taking a training course at your local community college.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand basic computer skills.\", \"描述\": \"To perform this job, you need to have basic computer skills, such as being able to work with Microsoft Office and QuickBooks, as well as be able to manage an email account and browse the Internet. If you don't have these skills, most libraries offer classes to anyone who needs them for free.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn diplomacy.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes being a sorority mother puts you in a difficult position because you are between the sorority's board and the current members. In other words, you need to learn how to deal with difficult situations in a tactful manner, which can be difficult when you're in the middle.\\nOne way to learn diplomacy is to take a class in counseling, as the skills you learn there will help you when you find yourself in a hard situation.\\nLearn the basics of diplomacy. For instance, if you are diplomatic, you'll look at facts rather than feelings, be honest but gentle, avoid spreading gossip or negative ideas, and get to know people so you aren't quick to make a snap judgment.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know some psychology or counseling skills.\", \"描述\": \"When living in a sorority, the girls are going to come to you with problems. You need to be able to advise them or at least help them find a solution for themselves. Knowing some basic counseling skills can help you help them. Consider taking a class in counseling to improve your skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have a passion for young adults.\", \"描述\": \"While it helps to have worked with college-age students before, it's essential to enjoy working with this age group. You'll not only be working with people of this age, you'll be living with them, and they will look up to you as a mentor.\\nTo mentor young adults, you need to be mature enough to rise above their problems. You need to be able to listen to what they're going through without getting sucked into their drama.\\nIf you're not sure if you would like this age group, consider taking a class at a local community college as a way of interacting with them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Applying for a Position\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find job listings.\", \"描述\": \"Many times, you'll find listing for this job on university websites. The positions may be listed with the regular university jobs, but sometimes, they are listed on the pages about Greek life in addition to or in place of the main job listings.\\nYou can also use websites dedicated to sorority moms to find jobs or post resumes, such as this one: http://www.sororitymom.com/jobs/.\\nLook for jobs on the national websites for the sororities, as well as national job search sites.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Send in your information.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to send in a cover letter and a resume and have a background check. You may also need to fill out an application. In some cases, you will send it to one organization on campus that will pass the information along, while in other cases, you'll send it directly to the sorority's board. The job listing should tell you what to do.\\nOn your resume, make sure to point out any positions you held in the past where you showed leadership or management skills or worked with young adults.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Interview for the position.\", \"描述\": \"Most boards are looking for someone who's smart and capable but who also has the enthusiasm to work with young adults. It will probably help if you were in a sorority in college, but that's not an absolute requirement.\\nIn other words, it's important to show enthusiasm when talking about working with college students. Smile and show with your tone of voice that you are looking forward to it, in addition to what you're saying.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Move in.\", \"描述\": \"Know what your living arrangement is ahead of time. You will likely have a small apartment to yourself, which may or may not have a kitchen. In addition, you may be required to work all year, while in other places, you may only work 9 to 10 months out of the year. You may need to find a different place to live in the summer, for instance.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Know who will cause you the most problems.\", \"描述\": \"Often, you'll have more trouble with the the board than the students. The students may come to you with problems and issues, but the board will be the one telling you how they expect things to be run. That may not be true for every chapter, but it can make life more difficult for you at times.\\nIt can be good to sit down with both the board and the students (at separate times) to learn how things should be run and what's expected of you. You may run into a lot of unspoken rules that you'll need to learn to follow.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn the rules.\", \"描述\": \"As a sorority mom, you will need to know a lot of rules, from university policy to house and sorority rules. You'll also need to know about the plans you need to set in motion in case of an emergency. Spend some time reading up on all these policies when you first enter the position.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Set some boundaries.\", \"描述\": \"While you need to be there for the girls, that doesn't mean you need to be on call 24 hours a day for every little thing. For instance, you can set sleep hours where the girls must leave you alone unless it is an emergency. Also, though you need to accommodate food allergies and religious preferences, you may need to make it clear that you won't cater to every picky person.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Find support.\", \"描述\": \"When doing this job, you'll likely move to a new community, and you'll be living on a campus. You'll need the support of other people, if just to vent once and awhile. You might try befriending other house moms on campus or even professors who understand how rewarding and challenging it can be at times.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Playing Sports
1-1. Pick a sport you enjoy and learn the basics.
Try a sport you've never played before or go with one you know already. Do some research on the rules, equipment, and number of players. Consider the sport's overall difficulty, required supplies, and practice location to narrow your options. Make your choice based on what seems the most fun and easy to pick up!
Popular sports include soccer, basketball, softball, track and field, cross country, field hockey, volleyball, and gymnastics.
For example, if you've never played hockey, trying to pick up ice hockey may be more challenging than field hockey, since you will need ice skates and protective gear.
Try playing multiple sports! You can even play on non-professional, community teams.
1-2. Purchase your gear so you can start to play!
Search online for things like "Basketball gear" or "Field hockey supplies" to find out what equipment you need to play. Then, purchase your gear at a sports store, either online or in person. You will need proper footwear, protective gear, and a ball for most sports.
For example, buy cleats, shin guards, socks, and a soccer ball to pick up soccer. If you want to play softball, buy a glove, bat, and softball.
You can also ask employees at sporting stores to help you gather gear.
1-3. Practice playing the sport in your free time to strengthen your skills.
Learn the basics by watching online tutorials and games. Practice your moves in your backyard, or visit a local park, gym, or YMCA and recruit your friends or family to play with you! You may need to practice for a bit to develop your skills, so don't fret if you don't get the hang of it right away.
For example, to learn volleyball, practice how to spike, bump, and serve. Try out playing opponents across the net.
If you aren't enjoying the game after practicing a sport for a while, try a different sport!
1-4. Try out for a local school or community team when you feel confident.
Search online for things like “Local soccer team,” or “Community girls softball” to find teams to try out for. Look for both school and community teams. Research how competitive each tryout may be to narrow your options. When you find a team in your area that seems to match your skill level, try out for the team!
For example, if you just started playing basketball, a community team based on your age group may be a better starting place than the varsity team at your high school.
Instructions and information about how and when to try out for the team should be available on each team's website. If not, look for a contact number and call for more information.
If you aren't quite confident enough to try out, keep practicing! Play with your friends, watch sporting games, and look into online tutorials.
1-5. Attend each practice on time.
After you make the team, expand upon your skills during weekly practices. Make sure you are always on time for each practice and that you attend as many practices as you can. This will continue to develop your skills and show your reliability and accountability to your coach and teammates.
Occasional absences happen, like if you are sick or if there is a family emergency. Let your coach know as soon as you can if you know you will not make it to a practice.
If your schedule allows it, you can show up 10-15 minutes early. This shows your coaches you care about being on time, and it will give you a few minutes to chat with other girls on your team.
1-6. Stop playing and notify your coach, parents, or doctor if you are injured.
Playing through an injury can make the damage worse. If you are injured during a practice or game, stop playing, sit on the sideline, and assess the damage. Go to your doctor or the hospital if your injuries are serious, like if you hit your head, strain a muscle, or break a bone. Make sure you give yourself adequate time to heal!
Healing time will vary based on injury. Your doctor will let you know an approximate heal time. They will also stabilize your injury, like wrapping your knee for ligament damage.
You can prevent injuries by stretching, using proper form, and taking breaks when needed.
2. Getting a Sporty Look
2-1. Apply minimal or no makeup for a natural look.
Between workouts, practices, and games, sporty girls don't have time for makeup! Go natural and don't wear any makeup. If you want to wear a little, you can wear a little mascara or a matte lipgloss.
You can also dust a little bit of compact foundation to even out your skin tone.
Sporty girls don't wear much makeup because they may sweat it off in gym class or at practice. Makeup and sweat can lead to clogged pores and acne.
2-2. Tie your hair in a ponytail for a sporty style.
You likely tie your hair up for workouts and practices, so just rock it as your daily style. You'll have more time to squeeze in another warm-up stretch! Pull your hair back at the top of your head, and secure your hair with a hair tie.
Ponytails make cute, sporty styles for a variety of hair lengths.
If your hair is really long, feel free to braid your ponytail so it's sort of loose.
2-3. Put on an elastic or cotton headband if you want to hold your hair back.
Headbands keep your hair out of your face and hide frizz and stray hairs. Grab a colorful, patterned, or neutral headband, in either stretchy elastic or soft cotton materials. Place the headband onto your head, and push it back about 0.25–0.5 inches (0.64–1.27 cm) past your hairline.
You can wear elastic headbands during practices and games. Try cotton headbands for day-to-day looks.
Headbands are great to keep your hair back if your hair is short and can't fit in a ponytail.
2-4. Wear jerseys, T-shirts, and crew neck sweatshirts for a sporty style.
Wear sports jerseys of your favorite players or your own jerseys from previous teams or seasons. Pick out other baggy style T-shirts for a tomboy look. Purchase crewneck long sleeve shirts and sweatshirts for thicker layers.
Sporty brands include Under Armor, Nike, Adidas, and Champion, to name a few. Most major department stores have an athletics section you can shop from as well.
2-5. Wear athletic leggings and shorts to match your active life.
Leggings are super comfortable and great for on-the-go girls. Style them with jerseys, T-shirts, or sweatshirts. Wear athletic or gym shorts on warm days. Both leggings and shorts come in solid colors and funky patterns. You can easily wear these to school, when running errands, or to practice!
You can get athletic leggings in cotton or cotton-polyester-lycra combination. Cotton leggings are a bit softer, and the blends are quick-drying for sweaty workouts.
2-6. Wear sporty shoes like Converse or sneakers.
Sporty girls live active, on-to-go lifestyles, and their feet must be comfy! Purchase athletic footwear for your sports, like cleats or running shoes. Then, get a pair of daily shoes like Nikes, Adidas, or Reebok. You can also go for sporty sandals like Chacos.
You can choose shoes in bright colors! Sneakers come in all sorts of colors like pink and neon, and patterns, like polka dots, and zig-zags.
3. Leading a Healthy, Sporty Lifestyle
3-1. Eat 3 healthy meals a day.
Healthy foods will keep your body fueled with the nutrients and minerals it needs. Eat meals with lots of fruits, vegetables, protein, and whole grains, and eat 3 meals a day. Aim for at least 5 servings of vegetables and 4 servings of fruit.
Avoid foods high in cholesterol, salt, fat, and sugar, like junk food, fast food, candy, and soda.
3-2. Drink about 8 to 10 glasses (2 L) of water each day.
Carry a water bottle with you throughout your day, and refill it at water fountains as you finish it. Keeping hydrated is required for active girls!
Make sure you drink extra water on days you have practice or games. Drink water until you don't feel thirsty. The amount will vary depending on how much you sweat, though you can drink around 4 cups (1 L). Your body will thank you!
3-3. Exercise
Sporty girls work out nearly every day, between practice and gym time. Stretch before and after your workouts to keep your muscles flexible and prevent injury. Do aerobic exercise to get your blood pumping every day for 30-90 minutes. You can also work on your balance, speed, and endurance.
Try things like swimming, basketball, and running.
You can take a work-out class or recruit a friend to be your gym buddy.
3-4. Sleep about 8-10 hours a day.
You need proper sleep to stay alert and do your best, either in school or during a game. Lack of sleep results in slower response time and low energy. Go to bed early, and set your alarm for at least 8 hours after you go to sleep.
Avoid exercising 2-3 hours (or more) before bed. It can be difficult to sleep if you just worked out or came back from a late game.
3-5. Get an annual physical from your doctor to monitor your health.
Your doctor can check your growth and nutrient levels to make sure you are healthy. Ask your doctor for tips on stretching, exercise, and healthy foods.
3-6. Make friends with other sporty girls.
In addition to your other friends, you can befriend the other girls on your team since you have a common interest. Introduce yourself, and talk to them before and after practice. You can watch sports games together and talk about your favorite players.
You can also make friends with other girls who go to your gym.
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Then, purchase your gear at a sports store, either online or in person. You will need proper footwear, protective gear, and a ball for most sports.\\nFor example, buy cleats, shin guards, socks, and a soccer ball to pick up soccer. If you want to play softball, buy a glove, bat, and softball.\\nYou can also ask employees at sporting stores to help you gather gear.\\n1-3. Practice playing the sport in your free time to strengthen your skills.\\nLearn the basics by watching online tutorials and games. Practice your moves in your backyard, or visit a local park, gym, or YMCA and recruit your friends or family to play with you! You may need to practice for a bit to develop your skills, so don't fret if you don't get the hang of it right away.\\nFor example, to learn volleyball, practice how to spike, bump, and serve. Try out playing opponents across the net.\\nIf you aren't enjoying the game after practicing a sport for a while, try a different sport!\\n1-4. Try out for a local school or community team when you feel confident.\\nSearch online for things like “Local soccer team,” or “Community girls softball” to find teams to try out for. Look for both school and community teams. Research how competitive each tryout may be to narrow your options. When you find a team in your area that seems to match your skill level, try out for the team!\\nFor example, if you just started playing basketball, a community team based on your age group may be a better starting place than the varsity team at your high school.\\nInstructions and information about how and when to try out for the team should be available on each team's website. If not, look for a contact number and call for more information.\\nIf you aren't quite confident enough to try out, keep practicing! Play with your friends, watch sporting games, and look into online tutorials.\\n1-5. Attend each practice on time.\\nAfter you make the team, expand upon your skills during weekly practices. Make sure you are always on time for each practice and that you attend as many practices as you can. This will continue to develop your skills and show your reliability and accountability to your coach and teammates.\\nOccasional absences happen, like if you are sick or if there is a family emergency. Let your coach know as soon as you can if you know you will not make it to a practice.\\nIf your schedule allows it, you can show up 10-15 minutes early. This shows your coaches you care about being on time, and it will give you a few minutes to chat with other girls on your team.\\n1-6. Stop playing and notify your coach, parents, or doctor if you are injured.\\nPlaying through an injury can make the damage worse. If you are injured during a practice or game, stop playing, sit on the sideline, and assess the damage. Go to your doctor or the hospital if your injuries are serious, like if you hit your head, strain a muscle, or break a bone. Make sure you give yourself adequate time to heal!\\nHealing time will vary based on injury. Your doctor will let you know an approximate heal time. They will also stabilize your injury, like wrapping your knee for ligament damage.\\nYou can prevent injuries by stretching, using proper form, and taking breaks when needed.\\n2. Getting a Sporty Look\\n2-1. Apply minimal or no makeup for a natural look.\\nBetween workouts, practices, and games, sporty girls don't have time for makeup! Go natural and don't wear any makeup. If you want to wear a little, you can wear a little mascara or a matte lipgloss.\\nYou can also dust a little bit of compact foundation to even out your skin tone.\\nSporty girls don't wear much makeup because they may sweat it off in gym class or at practice. Makeup and sweat can lead to clogged pores and acne.\\n2-2. Tie your hair in a ponytail for a sporty style.\\nYou likely tie your hair up for workouts and practices, so just rock it as your daily style. You'll have more time to squeeze in another warm-up stretch! Pull your hair back at the top of your head, and secure your hair with a hair tie.\\nPonytails make cute, sporty styles for a variety of hair lengths.\\nIf your hair is really long, feel free to braid your ponytail so it's sort of loose.\\n2-3. Put on an elastic or cotton headband if you want to hold your hair back.\\nHeadbands keep your hair out of your face and hide frizz and stray hairs. Grab a colorful, patterned, or neutral headband, in either stretchy elastic or soft cotton materials. Place the headband onto your head, and push it back about 0.25–0.5 inches (0.64–1.27 cm) past your hairline.\\nYou can wear elastic headbands during practices and games. Try cotton headbands for day-to-day looks.\\nHeadbands are great to keep your hair back if your hair is short and can't fit in a ponytail.\\n2-4. Wear jerseys, T-shirts, and crew neck sweatshirts for a sporty style.\\nWear sports jerseys of your favorite players or your own jerseys from previous teams or seasons. Pick out other baggy style T-shirts for a tomboy look. Purchase crewneck long sleeve shirts and sweatshirts for thicker layers.\\nSporty brands include Under Armor, Nike, Adidas, and Champion, to name a few. Most major department stores have an athletics section you can shop from as well.\\n2-5. Wear athletic leggings and shorts to match your active life.\\nLeggings are super comfortable and great for on-the-go girls. Style them with jerseys, T-shirts, or sweatshirts. Wear athletic or gym shorts on warm days. Both leggings and shorts come in solid colors and funky patterns. You can easily wear these to school, when running errands, or to practice!\\nYou can get athletic leggings in cotton or cotton-polyester-lycra combination. Cotton leggings are a bit softer, and the blends are quick-drying for sweaty workouts.\\n2-6. Wear sporty shoes like Converse or sneakers.\\nSporty girls live active, on-to-go lifestyles, and their feet must be comfy! Purchase athletic footwear for your sports, like cleats or running shoes. Then, get a pair of daily shoes like Nikes, Adidas, or Reebok. You can also go for sporty sandals like Chacos. \\nYou can choose shoes in bright colors! Sneakers come in all sorts of colors like pink and neon, and patterns, like polka dots, and zig-zags.\\n3. Leading a Healthy, Sporty Lifestyle\\n3-1. Eat 3 healthy meals a day.\\nHealthy foods will keep your body fueled with the nutrients and minerals it needs. Eat meals with lots of fruits, vegetables, protein, and whole grains, and eat 3 meals a day. Aim for at least 5 servings of vegetables and 4 servings of fruit.\\nAvoid foods high in cholesterol, salt, fat, and sugar, like junk food, fast food, candy, and soda.\\n3-2. Drink about 8 to 10 glasses (2 L) of water each day.\\nCarry a water bottle with you throughout your day, and refill it at water fountains as you finish it. Keeping hydrated is required for active girls!\\nMake sure you drink extra water on days you have practice or games. Drink water until you don't feel thirsty. The amount will vary depending on how much you sweat, though you can drink around 4 cups (1 L). Your body will thank you!\\n3-3. Exercise\\nSporty girls work out nearly every day, between practice and gym time. Stretch before and after your workouts to keep your muscles flexible and prevent injury. Do aerobic exercise to get your blood pumping every day for 30-90 minutes. You can also work on your balance, speed, and endurance.\\nTry things like swimming, basketball, and running.\\nYou can take a work-out class or recruit a friend to be your gym buddy.\\n3-4. Sleep about 8-10 hours a day.\\nYou need proper sleep to stay alert and do your best, either in school or during a game. Lack of sleep results in slower response time and low energy. Go to bed early, and set your alarm for at least 8 hours after you go to sleep.\\nAvoid exercising 2-3 hours (or more) before bed. It can be difficult to sleep if you just worked out or came back from a late game.\\n3-5. Get an annual physical from your doctor to monitor your health.\\nYour doctor can check your growth and nutrient levels to make sure you are healthy. Ask your doctor for tips on stretching, exercise, and healthy foods.\\n3-6. Make friends with other sporty girls.\\nIn addition to your other friends, you can befriend the other girls on your team since you have a common interest. Introduce yourself, and talk to them before and after practice. You can watch sports games together and talk about your favorite players.\\nYou can also make friends with other girls who go to your gym.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sporty girls are healthy, active, and low-maintenance. They eat healthy foods, drink lots of water, and get plenty of sleep. Pick up a sport you like, and try out for a team. To get a sporty look, wear jerseys, T-shirts, crew necks, leggings, and athletic shorts. Go for a neutral makeup look, throw your hair up in a ponytail, and you'll be ready for the game!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Playing Sports\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick a sport you enjoy and learn the basics.\", \"描述\": \"Try a sport you've never played before or go with one you know already. Do some research on the rules, equipment, and number of players. Consider the sport's overall difficulty, required supplies, and practice location to narrow your options. Make your choice based on what seems the most fun and easy to pick up!\\nPopular sports include soccer, basketball, softball, track and field, cross country, field hockey, volleyball, and gymnastics.\\nFor example, if you've never played hockey, trying to pick up ice hockey may be more challenging than field hockey, since you will need ice skates and protective gear.\\nTry playing multiple sports! You can even play on non-professional, community teams.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Purchase your gear so you can start to play!\", \"描述\": \"Search online for things like \\\"Basketball gear\\\" or \\\"Field hockey supplies\\\" to find out what equipment you need to play. Then, purchase your gear at a sports store, either online or in person. You will need proper footwear, protective gear, and a ball for most sports.\\nFor example, buy cleats, shin guards, socks, and a soccer ball to pick up soccer. If you want to play softball, buy a glove, bat, and softball.\\nYou can also ask employees at sporting stores to help you gather gear.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice playing the sport in your free time to strengthen your skills.\", \"描述\": \"Learn the basics by watching online tutorials and games. Practice your moves in your backyard, or visit a local park, gym, or YMCA and recruit your friends or family to play with you! You may need to practice for a bit to develop your skills, so don't fret if you don't get the hang of it right away.\\nFor example, to learn volleyball, practice how to spike, bump, and serve. Try out playing opponents across the net.\\nIf you aren't enjoying the game after practicing a sport for a while, try a different sport!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try out for a local school or community team when you feel confident.\", \"描述\": \"Search online for things like “Local soccer team,” or “Community girls softball” to find teams to try out for. Look for both school and community teams. Research how competitive each tryout may be to narrow your options. When you find a team in your area that seems to match your skill level, try out for the team!\\nFor example, if you just started playing basketball, a community team based on your age group may be a better starting place than the varsity team at your high school.\\nInstructions and information about how and when to try out for the team should be available on each team's website. If not, look for a contact number and call for more information.\\nIf you aren't quite confident enough to try out, keep practicing! Play with your friends, watch sporting games, and look into online tutorials.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Attend each practice on time.\", \"描述\": \"After you make the team, expand upon your skills during weekly practices. Make sure you are always on time for each practice and that you attend as many practices as you can. This will continue to develop your skills and show your reliability and accountability to your coach and teammates.\\nOccasional absences happen, like if you are sick or if there is a family emergency. Let your coach know as soon as you can if you know you will not make it to a practice.\\nIf your schedule allows it, you can show up 10-15 minutes early. This shows your coaches you care about being on time, and it will give you a few minutes to chat with other girls on your team.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stop playing and notify your coach, parents, or doctor if you are injured.\", \"描述\": \"Playing through an injury can make the damage worse. If you are injured during a practice or game, stop playing, sit on the sideline, and assess the damage. Go to your doctor or the hospital if your injuries are serious, like if you hit your head, strain a muscle, or break a bone. Make sure you give yourself adequate time to heal!\\nHealing time will vary based on injury. Your doctor will let you know an approximate heal time. They will also stabilize your injury, like wrapping your knee for ligament damage.\\nYou can prevent injuries by stretching, using proper form, and taking breaks when needed.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting a Sporty Look\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Apply minimal or no makeup for a natural look.\", \"描述\": \"Between workouts, practices, and games, sporty girls don't have time for makeup! Go natural and don't wear any makeup. If you want to wear a little, you can wear a little mascara or a matte lipgloss.\\nYou can also dust a little bit of compact foundation to even out your skin tone.\\nSporty girls don't wear much makeup because they may sweat it off in gym class or at practice. Makeup and sweat can lead to clogged pores and acne.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tie your hair in a ponytail for a sporty style.\", \"描述\": \"You likely tie your hair up for workouts and practices, so just rock it as your daily style. You'll have more time to squeeze in another warm-up stretch! Pull your hair back at the top of your head, and secure your hair with a hair tie.\\nPonytails make cute, sporty styles for a variety of hair lengths.\\nIf your hair is really long, feel free to braid your ponytail so it's sort of loose.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Put on an elastic or cotton headband if you want to hold your hair back.\", \"描述\": \"Headbands keep your hair out of your face and hide frizz and stray hairs. Grab a colorful, patterned, or neutral headband, in either stretchy elastic or soft cotton materials. Place the headband onto your head, and push it back about 0.25–0.5 inches (0.64–1.27 cm) past your hairline.\\nYou can wear elastic headbands during practices and games. Try cotton headbands for day-to-day looks.\\nHeadbands are great to keep your hair back if your hair is short and can't fit in a ponytail.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear jerseys, T-shirts, and crew neck sweatshirts for a sporty style.\", \"描述\": \"Wear sports jerseys of your favorite players or your own jerseys from previous teams or seasons. Pick out other baggy style T-shirts for a tomboy look. Purchase crewneck long sleeve shirts and sweatshirts for thicker layers.\\nSporty brands include Under Armor, Nike, Adidas, and Champion, to name a few. Most major department stores have an athletics section you can shop from as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wear athletic leggings and shorts to match your active life.\", \"描述\": \"Leggings are super comfortable and great for on-the-go girls. Style them with jerseys, T-shirts, or sweatshirts. Wear athletic or gym shorts on warm days. Both leggings and shorts come in solid colors and funky patterns. You can easily wear these to school, when running errands, or to practice!\\nYou can get athletic leggings in cotton or cotton-polyester-lycra combination. Cotton leggings are a bit softer, and the blends are quick-drying for sweaty workouts.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Wear sporty shoes like Converse or sneakers.\", \"描述\": \"Sporty girls live active, on-to-go lifestyles, and their feet must be comfy! Purchase athletic footwear for your sports, like cleats or running shoes. Then, get a pair of daily shoes like Nikes, Adidas, or Reebok. You can also go for sporty sandals like Chacos. \\nYou can choose shoes in bright colors! Sneakers come in all sorts of colors like pink and neon, and patterns, like polka dots, and zig-zags.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Leading a Healthy, Sporty Lifestyle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Eat 3 healthy meals a day.\", \"描述\": \"Healthy foods will keep your body fueled with the nutrients and minerals it needs. Eat meals with lots of fruits, vegetables, protein, and whole grains, and eat 3 meals a day. Aim for at least 5 servings of vegetables and 4 servings of fruit.\\nAvoid foods high in cholesterol, salt, fat, and sugar, like junk food, fast food, candy, and soda.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Drink about 8 to 10 glasses (2 L) of water each day.\", \"描述\": \"Carry a water bottle with you throughout your day, and refill it at water fountains as you finish it. Keeping hydrated is required for active girls!\\nMake sure you drink extra water on days you have practice or games. Drink water until you don't feel thirsty. The amount will vary depending on how much you sweat, though you can drink around 4 cups (1 L). Your body will thank you!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Exercise\", \"描述\": \"Sporty girls work out nearly every day, between practice and gym time. Stretch before and after your workouts to keep your muscles flexible and prevent injury. Do aerobic exercise to get your blood pumping every day for 30-90 minutes. You can also work on your balance, speed, and endurance.\\nTry things like swimming, basketball, and running.\\nYou can take a work-out class or recruit a friend to be your gym buddy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Sleep about 8-10 hours a day.\", \"描述\": \"You need proper sleep to stay alert and do your best, either in school or during a game. Lack of sleep results in slower response time and low energy. Go to bed early, and set your alarm for at least 8 hours after you go to sleep.\\nAvoid exercising 2-3 hours (or more) before bed. It can be difficult to sleep if you just worked out or came back from a late game.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get an annual physical from your doctor to monitor your health.\", \"描述\": \"Your doctor can check your growth and nutrient levels to make sure you are healthy. Ask your doctor for tips on stretching, exercise, and healthy foods.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make friends with other sporty girls.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to your other friends, you can befriend the other girls on your team since you have a common interest. Introduce yourself, and talk to them before and after practice. You can watch sports games together and talk about your favorite players.\\nYou can also make friends with other girls who go to your gym.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Creating a Spy Team
1-1. Organize your team.
Spying is safer and more fun with two or more people. Your teammates can back you up and can help complete your mission faster (with the right group, of course!). If you decide to be alone, that’s okay, too. Secrets can definitely be kept a lot easier when it’s just you.
If you do decide to form a team, you should have one teammate who knows a lot about technology, such as computer shortcuts and knowledge of gadgets. The tech member can also make maps, plans, charts, and notes about the secret mission.
Being clever doesn't hurt either. If you have a friend that’s great at thinking outside of the box and is quick on his or her feet, add them to the mix.
Sometimes it's good to have a teammate that's strong, like for heavy lifting or hard tasks that involve strength. But don't let just anyone into your team; you need skilled spies, not grunt men.
Having a younger sibling is always helpful too, because they can usually out cute any foe you might come across- or to infiltrate the enemy's hideout, because they are smaller and a lot more trustworthy because of their age.
1-2. Set up a hierarchy for your team.
Make sure each of your members has a purpose. They'll feel like they're a valuable part of the team, too, if they have a specific role. Here’s the basic positions you should have filled:
A captain who is in charge of the team
A vice captain to help the captain make decisions and take their place if they are ill
A tech person in charge of the computer, surveillance equipment, and maps, etc.
A few general spies who go out in the field to do most of the spying
Make sure there are other spies at the base ready to back you up on your mission. Also, have another spy at a computer to write things down and get and record information.
1-3. Equip your team members with your spy gadgets.
Remember, being a spy team means helping each other through thick and thin. If you have a few gadgets to your name, dish them out evenly. The more successful your team is, the more successful you and the mission are.
Everyone needs a way to report back to the base. It could be a cell phone, a walkie talkie, or even just a whistle – if they get in trouble, someone can come running. They also need whatever devices would help them debunk their case, like a camera.
1-4. Get the right gear and equipment, too.
For a successful mission, you need equipment. The bigger your team is, the more you’ll need communication devices, too. Consider taking the following with you on your next mission:
Intercoms
Cell phones
Video equipment
iPods and other communication devices
Walkie talkies
Whistles
Cameras
2. Training as a Spy
2-1. Practice using your gadgets.
Do several practice runs in a different location than the actual mission to test and get used to your gadgets and clothes. This way, you will know the shortcuts and limits of your equipment. It can also help you predict what problems will likely arise.
Make sure everyone knows how to use the devices and is comfortable with them. If someone doesn't like using the computer, for example, send them out into the field. You want them doing a job they like, after all.
2-2. Dress the part.
Two things to consider: you either want to go totally spy-worthy or totally incognito. It’s more fun to dress like a spy, but sometimes it makes more sense to blend in. Which is appropriate for your next mission?
You might need special clothes like gloves and boots to make your missions possible. Wear dark colors, and don’t forget hats, too.
If you don’t want to be suspected of being up to no good, wear your ordinary clothes. That way you’re just a few kids having fun.
2-3. Learn to code data.
Encrypt your written messages with a simple code. They can be as simple as substituting a letter for another or you can use numbers for letter or makeup entirely new symbols that correspond to the alphabet. An advanced method (and harder to decrypt) would be to flip the word backward and substitute the letters. You might even want to write the code in invisible ink.
Why is this useful? You don't want anyone figuring out your classified information, right? Should someone (like a pesky sibling) "accidentally" go through your stuff, you want them not to suspect anything. Or if they do suspect something, you want them to have no idea what they've seen.
2-4. Practice escaping from places.
A locked room? Not a problem. A tree? Easy. A crowded room? Don’t even worry about it. You and your spy team can escape from just about anywhere – including sticky situations.
Never use elevators – if you get trapped in one, you’re trapped. Stairs allow for more exits.
It will be easier to escape places (and to sneak into them) if you learn how to pick locks.
Work on ways to talk your way out of things, too. Practice being confronted by a parent or someone with authority and use your sweetest words to talk your way out of it.
2-5. Get used to talking in different voices.
This could also help with disguising, especially if your mission is in public, you’re around people you know, and you need to talk to your team. If you can disguise your voice, no one will suspect it’s you.
This will mainly be helpful if you're using cell phones or walkie-talkies. Code names are a necessity, too!
3. Establishing Mission Protocol
3-1. Choose your mission.
For example, you might figure out where your guardians hid something, figure out the password to a friend’s club, or find out which neighborhood dog has been dirtying your dad's prized lawn. There's no mission too small, either.
Don't know of a mission? Keep your eyes and ears peeled. You'll hear someone complaining of something or talking about a problem they have they need solved. That's when your team can jump right in.
3-2. Gather intelligence beforehand
Scout out the surroundings of your mission's location for any hiding spots or escape routes. Make a map and take notes, denoting where everyone will be posted and what they will do. Just like the Boy Scouts, you should always be prepared.
Make a backup plan or two. When plan A and B go terribly, terribly wrong, your team still knows how to handle the pressure with plan C. And be sure that whatever happens, everyone stays safe!
3-3. Station each member at their posts.
Each member should have a communication device, preferably with headsets, as to minimize noise. When everyone is ready, commence the mission. They all go to their spots and begin their career as a trained spy kid.
Make sure they all know the rules. When can they go to the bathroom? When do they switch posts? At what time is everyone meeting back up and where?
3-4. Don't be seen or heard.
Have a good hiding spot for each member, such as a large tree, bushes, or boulders. Also, you can inconspicuously have a teammate casually stroll by, with a book or something in hand. Don't do this too much, though, or it will seem suspicious.
If you're incognito, dressed as a normal kid, make sure you're acting normal, too. What would a normal kid do at the park? He or she probably would make noise, laughing and playing around. You can also be suspicious by being too quiet.
3-5. Cover your tracks.
Make sure you and your teammates don't leave anything behind. Destroy any footprints on dirt or mud, (and destroy any accidental fingerprints if you notice some). All papers at the scene should be recycled and definitely no clothing or anything else personal left for curious eyes to find.
Cover your digital tracks, too. Delete any text messages, emails, or phone calls made about the mission. Though it's likely no one will see these, it's always better to be safe than sorry.
3-6. Rendezvous after the mission with your team.
There should be a meeting place after the mission to gather information from each team member. The team should then brainstorm, determining if another mission is necessary or if this one can be considered case closed.
If members don't show up, return to your posts and try to find where the missing member is. If necessary, get out of spy mode and go looking for them openly. Have one or two people stay at the base in case they come back on their own.
4. Keeping Your Spying a Secret
4-1. Store any information in a secure place.
The last thing you want is all of your retrieved intelligence and data compromised by a non-spy discovering what you’ve found. Make sure you put it in a place no one will think of to go but you. But you also want a place that's easy to remember.
Try a locked box or a password-protected computer.
Are there are secret locations in or around your house, like under a loose floor board, that no one knows about but you? This also makes good storage space.
4-2. Act naturally around those you’re “spying” on.
Don't avoid the enemy; if you do, they'll think something's up. Try your best to act normal and make sure you meet as if nothing happened.
If you've discovered information that they need to know (like which dog is digging up the yard), present this information as calmly and as casually as possible. You didn't go on a secret ops mission with your team – you just happened to be walking by when you saw Mr. Fluffy doing the deed.
4-3. Have an alibi
If the enemy finds out what you are doing or sees you spying, make sure you have a backup plan to explain what you’re doing there. Or if you get asked later where you were while you were gone, be ready with details. You sure don't want to be caught spying!
Keep it as close to the truth as possible. Say something like, "I was there out with my friends (your team) and we were playing a game in the park. It's like hide and seek, but advanced. It's too difficult to explain; there are lots of rules. You wouldn't like it anyway.
4-4. Do not tell any non-spies what you’re up to.
Only friends who are being initiated into the program should be told about your activities. Otherwise, keep it secret and low key. Some might be jealous and some might blab your secret. The fewer people who know, the better.
Be careful in initiating in new team members. Make sure they're trustworthy and up to the challenge before they become a spy kid with you. Your team needs to be all top-notch, honest, talented spies.
Tips
You can create ID codes for agents to identify themselves to each other so they don't have to use names.
If you have a large group and you get a call from somebody important in the spy world, record the call or put it on speaker phone so you can share it with your group.
Bring a spy bag with you to keep all your gadgets in. Keep your gadgets in working order; they should operate at night or in a dark place.
Warnings
Have a route to go to if the mission fails.
Make sure that everyone in your team is happy with the hierarchy otherwise you may lose some people from your team.
It's a good idea to have a cover story, for example: Oh we were just playing hide and seek.
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But don't let just anyone into your team; you need skilled spies, not grunt men.\\nHaving a younger sibling is always helpful too, because they can usually out cute any foe you might come across- or to infiltrate the enemy's hideout, because they are smaller and a lot more trustworthy because of their age.\\n1-2. Set up a hierarchy for your team.\\nMake sure each of your members has a purpose. They'll feel like they're a valuable part of the team, too, if they have a specific role. Here’s the basic positions you should have filled:\\nA captain who is in charge of the team\\nA vice captain to help the captain make decisions and take their place if they are ill\\nA tech person in charge of the computer, surveillance equipment, and maps, etc.\\nA few general spies who go out in the field to do most of the spying\\nMake sure there are other spies at the base ready to back you up on your mission. 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Practice using your gadgets.\\nDo several practice runs in a different location than the actual mission to test and get used to your gadgets and clothes. This way, you will know the shortcuts and limits of your equipment. It can also help you predict what problems will likely arise.\\nMake sure everyone knows how to use the devices and is comfortable with them. If someone doesn't like using the computer, for example, send them out into the field. You want them doing a job they like, after all.\\n2-2. Dress the part.\\nTwo things to consider: you either want to go totally spy-worthy or totally incognito. It’s more fun to dress like a spy, but sometimes it makes more sense to blend in. Which is appropriate for your next mission?\\nYou might need special clothes like gloves and boots to make your missions possible. Wear dark colors, and don’t forget hats, too.\\nIf you don’t want to be suspected of being up to no good, wear your ordinary clothes. That way you’re just a few kids having fun.\\n2-3. Learn to code data.\\nEncrypt your written messages with a simple code. They can be as simple as substituting a letter for another or you can use numbers for letter or makeup entirely new symbols that correspond to the alphabet. An advanced method (and harder to decrypt) would be to flip the word backward and substitute the letters. You might even want to write the code in invisible ink.\\nWhy is this useful? You don't want anyone figuring out your classified information, right? Should someone (like a pesky sibling) \\\"accidentally\\\" go through your stuff, you want them not to suspect anything. Or if they do suspect something, you want them to have no idea what they've seen.\\n2-4. Practice escaping from places.\\nA locked room? Not a problem. A tree? Easy. A crowded room? Don’t even worry about it. You and your spy team can escape from just about anywhere – including sticky situations.\\nNever use elevators – if you get trapped in one, you’re trapped. Stairs allow for more exits.\\nIt will be easier to escape places (and to sneak into them) if you learn how to pick locks.\\nWork on ways to talk your way out of things, too. Practice being confronted by a parent or someone with authority and use your sweetest words to talk your way out of it.\\n2-5. Get used to talking in different voices.\\nThis could also help with disguising, especially if your mission is in public, you’re around people you know, and you need to talk to your team. If you can disguise your voice, no one will suspect it’s you.\\nThis will mainly be helpful if you're using cell phones or walkie-talkies. Code names are a necessity, too!\\n3. Establishing Mission Protocol\\n3-1. Choose your mission.\\nFor example, you might figure out where your guardians hid something, figure out the password to a friend’s club, or find out which neighborhood dog has been dirtying your dad's prized lawn. There's no mission too small, either.\\nDon't know of a mission? Keep your eyes and ears peeled. You'll hear someone complaining of something or talking about a problem they have they need solved. That's when your team can jump right in.\\n3-2. Gather intelligence beforehand\\nScout out the surroundings of your mission's location for any hiding spots or escape routes. Make a map and take notes, denoting where everyone will be posted and what they will do. Just like the Boy Scouts, you should always be prepared.\\nMake a backup plan or two. When plan A and B go terribly, terribly wrong, your team still knows how to handle the pressure with plan C. And be sure that whatever happens, everyone stays safe!\\n3-3. Station each member at their posts.\\nEach member should have a communication device, preferably with headsets, as to minimize noise. When everyone is ready, commence the mission. They all go to their spots and begin their career as a trained spy kid.\\nMake sure they all know the rules. When can they go to the bathroom? When do they switch posts? At what time is everyone meeting back up and where?\\n3-4. Don't be seen or heard.\\nHave a good hiding spot for each member, such as a large tree, bushes, or boulders. Also, you can inconspicuously have a teammate casually stroll by, with a book or something in hand. Don't do this too much, though, or it will seem suspicious.\\nIf you're incognito, dressed as a normal kid, make sure you're acting normal, too. What would a normal kid do at the park? He or she probably would make noise, laughing and playing around. You can also be suspicious by being too quiet.\\n3-5. Cover your tracks.\\nMake sure you and your teammates don't leave anything behind. Destroy any footprints on dirt or mud, (and destroy any accidental fingerprints if you notice some). All papers at the scene should be recycled and definitely no clothing or anything else personal left for curious eyes to find.\\nCover your digital tracks, too. Delete any text messages, emails, or phone calls made about the mission. Though it's likely no one will see these, it's always better to be safe than sorry.\\n3-6. Rendezvous after the mission with your team.\\nThere should be a meeting place after the mission to gather information from each team member. The team should then brainstorm, determining if another mission is necessary or if this one can be considered case closed.\\nIf members don't show up, return to your posts and try to find where the missing member is. If necessary, get out of spy mode and go looking for them openly. Have one or two people stay at the base in case they come back on their own.\\n4. Keeping Your Spying a Secret\\n4-1. Store any information in a secure place.\\nThe last thing you want is all of your retrieved intelligence and data compromised by a non-spy discovering what you’ve found. Make sure you put it in a place no one will think of to go but you. But you also want a place that's easy to remember.\\nTry a locked box or a password-protected computer.\\nAre there are secret locations in or around your house, like under a loose floor board, that no one knows about but you? This also makes good storage space.\\n4-2. Act naturally around those you’re “spying” on.\\nDon't avoid the enemy; if you do, they'll think something's up. Try your best to act normal and make sure you meet as if nothing happened.\\nIf you've discovered information that they need to know (like which dog is digging up the yard), present this information as calmly and as casually as possible. You didn't go on a secret ops mission with your team – you just happened to be walking by when you saw Mr. Fluffy doing the deed.\\n4-3. Have an alibi\\nIf the enemy finds out what you are doing or sees you spying, make sure you have a backup plan to explain what you’re doing there. Or if you get asked later where you were while you were gone, be ready with details. You sure don't want to be caught spying!\\nKeep it as close to the truth as possible. Say something like, \\\"I was there out with my friends (your team) and we were playing a game in the park. It's like hide and seek, but advanced. It's too difficult to explain; there are lots of rules. You wouldn't like it anyway.\\n4-4. Do not tell any non-spies what you’re up to.\\nOnly friends who are being initiated into the program should be told about your activities. Otherwise, keep it secret and low key. Some might be jealous and some might blab your secret. The fewer people who know, the better.\\nBe careful in initiating in new team members. Make sure they're trustworthy and up to the challenge before they become a spy kid with you. Your team needs to be all top-notch, honest, talented spies.\\nTips\\nYou can create ID codes for agents to identify themselves to each other so they don't have to use names.\\nIf you have a large group and you get a call from somebody important in the spy world, record the call or put it on speaker phone so you can share it with your group.\\nBring a spy bag with you to keep all your gadgets in. Keep your gadgets in working order; they should operate at night or in a dark place.\\nWarnings\\nHave a route to go to if the mission fails.\\nMake sure that everyone in your team is happy with the hierarchy otherwise you may lose some people from your team.\\nIt's a good idea to have a cover story, for example: Oh we were just playing hide and seek.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Spying may be fun and exciting, but it's not easy! A good spy kid is hard to find. To be the next undercover agent, you'll need to get trained, create a team, learn mission protocol, hide the evidence and enhance your spying technique through various spy activities!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating a Spy Team\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Organize your team.\", \"描述\": \"Spying is safer and more fun with two or more people. Your teammates can back you up and can help complete your mission faster (with the right group, of course!). If you decide to be alone, that’s okay, too. Secrets can definitely be kept a lot easier when it’s just you.\\nIf you do decide to form a team, you should have one teammate who knows a lot about technology, such as computer shortcuts and knowledge of gadgets. The tech member can also make maps, plans, charts, and notes about the secret mission.\\nBeing clever doesn't hurt either. If you have a friend that’s great at thinking outside of the box and is quick on his or her feet, add them to the mix.\\nSometimes it's good to have a teammate that's strong, like for heavy lifting or hard tasks that involve strength. But don't let just anyone into your team; you need skilled spies, not grunt men.\\nHaving a younger sibling is always helpful too, because they can usually out cute any foe you might come across- or to infiltrate the enemy's hideout, because they are smaller and a lot more trustworthy because of their age.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Set up a hierarchy for your team.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure each of your members has a purpose. They'll feel like they're a valuable part of the team, too, if they have a specific role. Here’s the basic positions you should have filled:\\nA captain who is in charge of the team\\nA vice captain to help the captain make decisions and take their place if they are ill\\nA tech person in charge of the computer, surveillance equipment, and maps, etc.\\nA few general spies who go out in the field to do most of the spying\\nMake sure there are other spies at the base ready to back you up on your mission. Also, have another spy at a computer to write things down and get and record information.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Equip your team members with your spy gadgets.\", \"描述\": \"Remember, being a spy team means helping each other through thick and thin. If you have a few gadgets to your name, dish them out evenly. The more successful your team is, the more successful you and the mission are.\\nEveryone needs a way to report back to the base. It could be a cell phone, a walkie talkie, or even just a whistle – if they get in trouble, someone can come running. They also need whatever devices would help them debunk their case, like a camera.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get the right gear and equipment, too.\", \"描述\": \"For a successful mission, you need equipment. The bigger your team is, the more you’ll need communication devices, too. Consider taking the following with you on your next mission:\\nIntercoms\\nCell phones\\nVideo equipment\\niPods and other communication devices\\nWalkie talkies\\nWhistles\\nCameras\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Training as a Spy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice using your gadgets.\", \"描述\": \"Do several practice runs in a different location than the actual mission to test and get used to your gadgets and clothes. This way, you will know the shortcuts and limits of your equipment. It can also help you predict what problems will likely arise.\\nMake sure everyone knows how to use the devices and is comfortable with them. If someone doesn't like using the computer, for example, send them out into the field. You want them doing a job they like, after all.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dress the part.\", \"描述\": \"Two things to consider: you either want to go totally spy-worthy or totally incognito. It’s more fun to dress like a spy, but sometimes it makes more sense to blend in. Which is appropriate for your next mission?\\nYou might need special clothes like gloves and boots to make your missions possible. Wear dark colors, and don’t forget hats, too.\\nIf you don’t want to be suspected of being up to no good, wear your ordinary clothes. That way you’re just a few kids having fun.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn to code data.\", \"描述\": \"Encrypt your written messages with a simple code. They can be as simple as substituting a letter for another or you can use numbers for letter or makeup entirely new symbols that correspond to the alphabet. An advanced method (and harder to decrypt) would be to flip the word backward and substitute the letters. You might even want to write the code in invisible ink.\\nWhy is this useful? You don't want anyone figuring out your classified information, right? Should someone (like a pesky sibling) \\\"accidentally\\\" go through your stuff, you want them not to suspect anything. Or if they do suspect something, you want them to have no idea what they've seen.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice escaping from places.\", \"描述\": \"A locked room? Not a problem. A tree? Easy. A crowded room? Don’t even worry about it. You and your spy team can escape from just about anywhere – including sticky situations.\\nNever use elevators – if you get trapped in one, you’re trapped. Stairs allow for more exits.\\nIt will be easier to escape places (and to sneak into them) if you learn how to pick locks.\\nWork on ways to talk your way out of things, too. Practice being confronted by a parent or someone with authority and use your sweetest words to talk your way out of it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get used to talking in different voices.\", \"描述\": \"This could also help with disguising, especially if your mission is in public, you’re around people you know, and you need to talk to your team. If you can disguise your voice, no one will suspect it’s you.\\nThis will mainly be helpful if you're using cell phones or walkie-talkies. Code names are a necessity, too!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Establishing Mission Protocol\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose your mission.\", \"描述\": \"For example, you might figure out where your guardians hid something, figure out the password to a friend’s club, or find out which neighborhood dog has been dirtying your dad's prized lawn. There's no mission too small, either.\\nDon't know of a mission? Keep your eyes and ears peeled. You'll hear someone complaining of something or talking about a problem they have they need solved. That's when your team can jump right in.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Gather intelligence beforehand\", \"描述\": \"Scout out the surroundings of your mission's location for any hiding spots or escape routes. Make a map and take notes, denoting where everyone will be posted and what they will do. Just like the Boy Scouts, you should always be prepared.\\nMake a backup plan or two. When plan A and B go terribly, terribly wrong, your team still knows how to handle the pressure with plan C. And be sure that whatever happens, everyone stays safe!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Station each member at their posts.\", \"描述\": \"Each member should have a communication device, preferably with headsets, as to minimize noise. When everyone is ready, commence the mission. They all go to their spots and begin their career as a trained spy kid.\\nMake sure they all know the rules. When can they go to the bathroom? When do they switch posts? At what time is everyone meeting back up and where?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't be seen or heard.\", \"描述\": \"Have a good hiding spot for each member, such as a large tree, bushes, or boulders. Also, you can inconspicuously have a teammate casually stroll by, with a book or something in hand. Don't do this too much, though, or it will seem suspicious.\\nIf you're incognito, dressed as a normal kid, make sure you're acting normal, too. What would a normal kid do at the park? He or she probably would make noise, laughing and playing around. You can also be suspicious by being too quiet.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Cover your tracks.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you and your teammates don't leave anything behind. Destroy any footprints on dirt or mud, (and destroy any accidental fingerprints if you notice some). All papers at the scene should be recycled and definitely no clothing or anything else personal left for curious eyes to find.\\nCover your digital tracks, too. Delete any text messages, emails, or phone calls made about the mission. Though it's likely no one will see these, it's always better to be safe than sorry.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Rendezvous after the mission with your team.\", \"描述\": \"There should be a meeting place after the mission to gather information from each team member. The team should then brainstorm, determining if another mission is necessary or if this one can be considered case closed.\\nIf members don't show up, return to your posts and try to find where the missing member is. If necessary, get out of spy mode and go looking for them openly. Have one or two people stay at the base in case they come back on their own.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keeping Your Spying a Secret\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Store any information in a secure place.\", \"描述\": \"The last thing you want is all of your retrieved intelligence and data compromised by a non-spy discovering what you’ve found. Make sure you put it in a place no one will think of to go but you. But you also want a place that's easy to remember.\\nTry a locked box or a password-protected computer.\\nAre there are secret locations in or around your house, like under a loose floor board, that no one knows about but you? This also makes good storage space.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Act naturally around those you’re “spying” on.\", \"描述\": \"Don't avoid the enemy; if you do, they'll think something's up. Try your best to act normal and make sure you meet as if nothing happened.\\nIf you've discovered information that they need to know (like which dog is digging up the yard), present this information as calmly and as casually as possible. You didn't go on a secret ops mission with your team – you just happened to be walking by when you saw Mr. Fluffy doing the deed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have an alibi\", \"描述\": \"If the enemy finds out what you are doing or sees you spying, make sure you have a backup plan to explain what you’re doing there. Or if you get asked later where you were while you were gone, be ready with details. You sure don't want to be caught spying!\\nKeep it as close to the truth as possible. Say something like, \\\"I was there out with my friends (your team) and we were playing a game in the park. It's like hide and seek, but advanced. It's too difficult to explain; there are lots of rules. You wouldn't like it anyway.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do not tell any non-spies what you’re up to.\", \"描述\": \"Only friends who are being initiated into the program should be told about your activities. Otherwise, keep it secret and low key. Some might be jealous and some might blab your secret. The fewer people who know, the better.\\nBe careful in initiating in new team members. Make sure they're trustworthy and up to the challenge before they become a spy kid with you. Your team needs to be all top-notch, honest, talented spies.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You can create ID codes for agents to identify themselves to each other so they don't have to use names.\\n\", \"If you have a large group and you get a call from somebody important in the spy world, record the call or put it on speaker phone so you can share it with your group.\\n\", \"Bring a spy bag with you to keep all your gadgets in. Keep your gadgets in working order; they should operate at night or in a dark place.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Have a route to go to if the mission fails.\\n\", \"Make sure that everyone in your team is happy with the hierarchy otherwise you may lose some people from your team.\\n\", \"It's a good idea to have a cover story, for example: Oh we were just playing hide and seek.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Gaining Theatre Experience
1-1. Take theatre classes.
Theatre classes aren’t just for budding actors. See if your local community college offers classes in touring production, stage lighting, or theatre management. You can also get a degree in stage management, theatre practice, or technical theatre. Whether you take one class or many, you’ll learn invaluable skills and tips for managing a production.
1-2. Volunteer at a theatre.
To gain valuable experience, volunteer at your local high school, playhouse, or theatre. They are always looking for people to help make their production a success. They don't pay much (or none at all), so go into it with an open mind and open heart. You’ll get to be part of a production and make connections with others who have a love for theatre.
This is a great learning opportunity for someone who is older but looking to break into stage management. Volunteering allows you to work with more experienced people and gain knowledge of the industry.
1-3. Try out every position.
In order to become a stage manager, it is essential that you know how to do every job in the theatre. Work on the set, coordinate costumes, help with hair and makeup, become a prop master, assist the director, and learn how to work the rigging, stage lighting, and audio equipment.
If you don’t have any theatre experience, try becoming a stagehand or spotlight operator first. You’ll work closely with the stage manager and learn what’s required for that role.
2. Getting a Stage Managing Job
2-1. Apply for an internship.
Many large companies, like Disney Theatrical Group, offer internships for students. Taking a position like this can help you get your foot in the door and increase your chances of landing a job as a stage manager. Not only will you get to see amazing productions and work with professionals, there is also a chance you could get hired on permanently.
2-2. Apply at local theatres.
Research theatres and playhouses in your area and visit each one. Bring your resume as well as any referrals or letters of recommendation, and inquire about stage management openings. If there are none, ask the person you speak to if they know of any openings.
2-3. See if there’s an opening at a school near you.
Middle schools, high school, colleges, and universities usually have theatre departments. Visit all the schools in your area and see if they have any openings for stage managers. This would be a great position for someone who enjoys working with kids. Make sure you are prepared for your visit by dressing professionally and bringing your credentials with you.
2-4. Apply at music venues.
Concert halls and other music venues, even outdoor rock and roll shows, also require stage directors. If you can’t find an opening at a theatre, try managing the stage for music productions. Many of the responsibilities, such as overseeing artists and keeping track of show times, will be similar. Plus, you’ll gain experience to add to your resume.
2-5. Network.
Networking is a great way to find a job. Make connections with other people in the industry, especially from past productions you have worked on. If you show your coworkers that you are dedicated and knowledgeable, they may refer you when they hear of a stage manager position available.
Reach out to people you already know in the industry. Ask for recommendations or referrals.
Attend as many productions as possible. Stick around after the performance and introduce yourself to members of the cast and crew, when appropriate.
3. Putting Your Best Foot Forward
3-1. Wear black and dress conservatively.
Wearing black is a must in all theaters; it keeps the crew from being too visible on the wings of the stage. Dressing conservatively is a must for all professional jobs, so be sure not to wear anything too showy or revealing -- you want to blend in, not stand out. Invest in several black tops and pants so you will always have a clean supply.
3-2. Dedicate your time.
A stage manager is a very demanding job, time-wise. You need to have enough time in your schedule to be early to every single event, whether it be a meeting, rehearsal, dress rehearsal, or a performance. You’ll also need to set up for every event, as well as clean up afterwards.
3-3. Be assertive
Stage managers have a lot of people and things to keep track of. You must remain calm, cool, and collected. However, stand your ground when needed to make sure that things are progressing as they should be. Be assertive, but polite to the cast, crew, and guests.
Express yourself directly and openly. Don’t be afraid to tell others how you feel, or how you think they are doing in their own roles. Give specific examples of ways they can improve, and be sure to praise them when they follow your advice. Be firm but still friendly.
3-4. Provide great customer service.
Guests coming to see the production need to be treated well so they have the best possible experience. Though you will likely be busy with numerous other things, take guest’s requests or complaints seriously and do your best to attend to them.
For instance, if someone complains about gum on the floor, assure them it will be taken care of immediately, and then get someone from your crew or the house management crew to clean it up if you are in a tight spot.
If someone approaches you during a break in the performance and tells you they are unable to hear the dialogue or music, take steps to rectify the situation. Adjust the audio for that section of the theatre if others in the area are having similar trouble. You could also offer the person another seat in a different section, if possible.
3-5. Improve your leadership skills
Stage managers are in charge of the entire production, so you must be a good leader for this job. You’ll need to know how to delegate tasks and manage other people. Stage managers must be patient, calm, and level-headed, especially when things go wrong.
To be a great leader, you need to be an active listener. When someone is speaking with you, give them your undivided attention and make eye contact. Don’t interrupt or judge them, but do try to understand where they are coming from.
Great leaders also take responsibility for their actions. Own up to any mistakes you make, and realize that as the stage manager you will be responsible for mistakes that other people make as well. Make sure someone is able to effectively complete a task before delegating it.
3-6. Communicate clearly
You’ll need to be able to communicate well with a variety of people on the cast and crew. Not only will you be in charge of the stage crew, you’ll also have to communicate with the director, choreographer, and actors. Stage managers also schedule meetings and call times, take notes during meetings, and write up rehearsal reports.
Speak clearly and assertively to everyone you encounter. You should also be specific when making requests to others in order to avoid confusion.
Body language is also a part of communication. Demonstrate friendliness and approachability by using open body language, such as smiling and angling toward people who are speaking. Avoid frowning, crossing your arms, and fidgeting.
3-7. Stay organized
There are many things for a stage manager to take care of and coordinate, so you’ll need to be organized. Keep a notebook for each production to jot down rehearsal and call times, contact info for the cast and crew, blocking notations from the director, etc.
Pay attention to the details. You’ll need to keep track of everything from the names of the understudies to the quality of the gel sheets for the stage lights.
You can also make to-do lists, set deadlines for tasks, and multitask in order to get everything accomplished on time.
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Volunteering allows you to work with more experienced people and gain knowledge of the industry.\\n1-3. Try out every position.\\nIn order to become a stage manager, it is essential that you know how to do every job in the theatre. Work on the set, coordinate costumes, help with hair and makeup, become a prop master, assist the director, and learn how to work the rigging, stage lighting, and audio equipment.\\nIf you don’t have any theatre experience, try becoming a stagehand or spotlight operator first. You’ll work closely with the stage manager and learn what’s required for that role.\\n2. Getting a Stage Managing Job\\n2-1. Apply for an internship.\\nMany large companies, like Disney Theatrical Group, offer internships for students. Taking a position like this can help you get your foot in the door and increase your chances of landing a job as a stage manager. Not only will you get to see amazing productions and work with professionals, there is also a chance you could get hired on permanently.\\n2-2. Apply at local theatres.\\nResearch theatres and playhouses in your area and visit each one. Bring your resume as well as any referrals or letters of recommendation, and inquire about stage management openings. If there are none, ask the person you speak to if they know of any openings.\\n2-3. See if there’s an opening at a school near you.\\nMiddle schools, high school, colleges, and universities usually have theatre departments. Visit all the schools in your area and see if they have any openings for stage managers. This would be a great position for someone who enjoys working with kids. Make sure you are prepared for your visit by dressing professionally and bringing your credentials with you.\\n2-4. Apply at music venues.\\nConcert halls and other music venues, even outdoor rock and roll shows, also require stage directors. If you can’t find an opening at a theatre, try managing the stage for music productions. Many of the responsibilities, such as overseeing artists and keeping track of show times, will be similar. Plus, you’ll gain experience to add to your resume.\\n2-5. Network.\\nNetworking is a great way to find a job. Make connections with other people in the industry, especially from past productions you have worked on. If you show your coworkers that you are dedicated and knowledgeable, they may refer you when they hear of a stage manager position available.\\nReach out to people you already know in the industry. Ask for recommendations or referrals.\\nAttend as many productions as possible. Stick around after the performance and introduce yourself to members of the cast and crew, when appropriate.\\n3. Putting Your Best Foot Forward\\n3-1. Wear black and dress conservatively.\\nWearing black is a must in all theaters; it keeps the crew from being too visible on the wings of the stage. Dressing conservatively is a must for all professional jobs, so be sure not to wear anything too showy or revealing -- you want to blend in, not stand out. Invest in several black tops and pants so you will always have a clean supply.\\n3-2. Dedicate your time.\\nA stage manager is a very demanding job, time-wise. You need to have enough time in your schedule to be early to every single event, whether it be a meeting, rehearsal, dress rehearsal, or a performance. You’ll also need to set up for every event, as well as clean up afterwards.\\n3-3. Be assertive\\nStage managers have a lot of people and things to keep track of. You must remain calm, cool, and collected. However, stand your ground when needed to make sure that things are progressing as they should be. Be assertive, but polite to the cast, crew, and guests.\\nExpress yourself directly and openly. Don’t be afraid to tell others how you feel, or how you think they are doing in their own roles. Give specific examples of ways they can improve, and be sure to praise them when they follow your advice. Be firm but still friendly.\\n3-4. Provide great customer service.\\nGuests coming to see the production need to be treated well so they have the best possible experience. Though you will likely be busy with numerous other things, take guest’s requests or complaints seriously and do your best to attend to them.\\nFor instance, if someone complains about gum on the floor, assure them it will be taken care of immediately, and then get someone from your crew or the house management crew to clean it up if you are in a tight spot.\\nIf someone approaches you during a break in the performance and tells you they are unable to hear the dialogue or music, take steps to rectify the situation. Adjust the audio for that section of the theatre if others in the area are having similar trouble. You could also offer the person another seat in a different section, if possible.\\n3-5. Improve your leadership skills\\nStage managers are in charge of the entire production, so you must be a good leader for this job. You’ll need to know how to delegate tasks and manage other people. Stage managers must be patient, calm, and level-headed, especially when things go wrong.\\nTo be a great leader, you need to be an active listener. When someone is speaking with you, give them your undivided attention and make eye contact. Don’t interrupt or judge them, but do try to understand where they are coming from.\\nGreat leaders also take responsibility for their actions. Own up to any mistakes you make, and realize that as the stage manager you will be responsible for mistakes that other people make as well. Make sure someone is able to effectively complete a task before delegating it.\\n3-6. Communicate clearly\\nYou’ll need to be able to communicate well with a variety of people on the cast and crew. Not only will you be in charge of the stage crew, you’ll also have to communicate with the director, choreographer, and actors. Stage managers also schedule meetings and call times, take notes during meetings, and write up rehearsal reports.\\nSpeak clearly and assertively to everyone you encounter. You should also be specific when making requests to others in order to avoid confusion.\\nBody language is also a part of communication. Demonstrate friendliness and approachability by using open body language, such as smiling and angling toward people who are speaking. Avoid frowning, crossing your arms, and fidgeting.\\n3-7. Stay organized\\nThere are many things for a stage manager to take care of and coordinate, so you’ll need to be organized. Keep a notebook for each production to jot down rehearsal and call times, contact info for the cast and crew, blocking notations from the director, etc.\\nPay attention to the details. You’ll need to keep track of everything from the names of the understudies to the quality of the gel sheets for the stage lights.\\nYou can also make to-do lists, set deadlines for tasks, and multitask in order to get everything accomplished on time.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a part of a live performing art production can be very exciting and fulfilling. A stage manager is in charge of the entire production, and must know the ins and outs of every production they oversee. A stage manager must know how to do every job in the production. Strong leadership and communication skills are also important. Once you have the necessary skills, you can apply at local schools and colleges, theatres and playhouses, as well as concert halls and music venues.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gaining Theatre Experience\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take theatre classes.\", \"描述\": \"Theatre classes aren’t just for budding actors. 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Not only will you get to see amazing productions and work with professionals, there is also a chance you could get hired on permanently.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Apply at local theatres.\", \"描述\": \"Research theatres and playhouses in your area and visit each one. Bring your resume as well as any referrals or letters of recommendation, and inquire about stage management openings. If there are none, ask the person you speak to if they know of any openings.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"See if there’s an opening at a school near you.\", \"描述\": \"Middle schools, high school, colleges, and universities usually have theatre departments. Visit all the schools in your area and see if they have any openings for stage managers. This would be a great position for someone who enjoys working with kids. 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Stick around after the performance and introduce yourself to members of the cast and crew, when appropriate.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Putting Your Best Foot Forward\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear black and dress conservatively.\", \"描述\": \"Wearing black is a must in all theaters; it keeps the crew from being too visible on the wings of the stage. Dressing conservatively is a must for all professional jobs, so be sure not to wear anything too showy or revealing -- you want to blend in, not stand out. Invest in several black tops and pants so you will always have a clean supply.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dedicate your time.\", \"描述\": \"A stage manager is a very demanding job, time-wise. You need to have enough time in your schedule to be early to every single event, whether it be a meeting, rehearsal, dress rehearsal, or a performance. 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Stage managers must be patient, calm, and level-headed, especially when things go wrong.\\nTo be a great leader, you need to be an active listener. When someone is speaking with you, give them your undivided attention and make eye contact. Don’t interrupt or judge them, but do try to understand where they are coming from.\\nGreat leaders also take responsibility for their actions. Own up to any mistakes you make, and realize that as the stage manager you will be responsible for mistakes that other people make as well. Make sure someone is able to effectively complete a task before delegating it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Communicate clearly\", \"描述\": \"You’ll need to be able to communicate well with a variety of people on the cast and crew. Not only will you be in charge of the stage crew, you’ll also have to communicate with the director, choreographer, and actors. Stage managers also schedule meetings and call times, take notes during meetings, and write up rehearsal reports.\\nSpeak clearly and assertively to everyone you encounter. You should also be specific when making requests to others in order to avoid confusion.\\nBody language is also a part of communication. Demonstrate friendliness and approachability by using open body language, such as smiling and angling toward people who are speaking. Avoid frowning, crossing your arms, and fidgeting.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Stay organized\", \"描述\": \"There are many things for a stage manager to take care of and coordinate, so you’ll need to be organized. Keep a notebook for each production to jot down rehearsal and call times, contact info for the cast and crew, blocking notations from the director, etc.\\nPay attention to the details. 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1. Developing Talent
1-1. Find a talent that suits your natural abilities
If you want to be a star, you've got to specialize. What will be the thing that people recognize you for? What's the skill, ability, or talent that will take you to the top? Think about what things come easiest to you, and listen to other people for advice to find your star-making quality.
Are you a gifted athlete? When you and your friends get together to play sports, are you always the first picked, or the one to score the most points? If so, you might have the makings of a sports star.
Do you love music? Do you enjoy singing, playing an instrument, or dancing to music, you might have the makings of a pop star, a singer, or a rock star.
Do you have the gift of gab? Are you a convincing and organizing presence, a leader among your friends? Does everyone listen to what you have to say? If so, you might have the makings of a politician.
Do love to pretend? Do you enjoy movies, plays, and television? Do people ever tell you that you have a dramatic presence? If you're a good actor or actress, movie stardom might be in the cards.
1-2. Find a coach
Developing your talents into a star-level degree of skill will require help. Whether you want to go pro in acting or sports, politics or music, you've got to get insider info and learn to hone your skills from an expert in the field. Start taking acting or music lessons. Get private coaching for the sport you play. Secure an internship with a local politician, or volunteer for the campaign. Learn everything you can from people who know more than you.
Find role-models as well in your field. If you want to be an actor, which actors do you look up to? Who would you like to emulate? Find someone to model your career after.
1-3. Study your craft.
Whether you do it under the guidance of a coach or go it alone, honing your craft is going to take lots and lots of work. For stars, studying the craft should be a 24/7 occupation. Even if you're flipping burgers, you should be rehearsing your lines. Even if you're just taking the bus to school, you should be going over your practice routines.
Absorb all the media that you can. Watch classic movies or listen to the type of music you hope to make.
1-4. Practice.
Develop a regular practice schedule and devote as much of your free time as possible to improving your talents in your star-making venture. Budding politicians need to practice speeches and public speaking. Musicians need to practice scales. Actors need to rehearse lines and study scenes. Pop stars need to work on their dance moves. Athletes need to train.
Be careful to focus on the proper things. For an actor, it can be tempting to get caught up in superficial things. Updating your social networking, checking TMZ, and other gossip rags isn't "practicing" for being a star. It's wasting time. Study your craft, not the other stuff.
2. Marketing Your Skills
2-1. Get an entry-level job in the industry.
The first and in many ways the most challenging aspect of being a star is to get noticed. Make the initial contacts with the people who matter in your industry by starting out on the bottom. Just get your foot in the door and have the confidence that your talent will carry you the rest of the way.
Want to crack into making movies and get your name in lights? Get a job working as a gaffer. Seat-filling, extra-work, and tech-crew stuff is all a common part of Hollywood. You may want to act, eventually, but if you could put your skills to work as a make-up artist, as a back-up cameraman, as a lighting crew member, you'll be that much closer, and you'll be working.
Politicians generally start out working for other campaigns. Volunteer your time for politicians you believe in and make contacts that will help you in your political career.
Athletes should work in coaching, or work in stadiums fulfilling other jobs. Work as an usher to get into the games for free, or work the concessions. Tear tickets at Yankee stadium and you may be on the infield someday.
Musicians would do well to work for and with other bands. Learn to run live sound and help out at a venue, or get a job selling merch for a band you like. Be a roadie and learn what life on tour is like. Stay close to the action.
2-2. Start networking
As you work your way into the industry, make sure to stay in touch with everyone you meet on the way up. Try to meet people who are in the same boat as you, aspiring musicians, actors, politicians, or other athletes, who are at the same level as you are and who have similar goals. Help support each other and celebrate your friends' successes and accomplishments. Work together on your mutual goals.
Stardom can get pretty competitive, and it's true that there's not a whole lot of room at the top. But getting locked into petty rivalries can bring you down a lot quicker than it can lift you up. Be positive.
Make yourself easy to get in touch with. Start a LinkedIn page or a professional social networking "fan" page for yourself so you can keep your industry contacts and your personal contacts separated and more manageable.
2-3. Take the work you can get.
A job stumping for a politician you don't particularly like in Des Moines? A third-string job on a team that's the worst in the league? An ad for hemorrhoid cream? These might not sound like ideal situations for a budding star, but work is work. Think of it as building experiences that'll make for a great rags-to-riches story somewhere down the road.
Use each opportunity as a chance to prove yourself and to transcend the circumstances with your star-making abilities. Be the star you are.
2-4. Be a professional.
Amateurs show up to an audition half-prepared, hungover, barely getting it together; movie stars show up well-rested, rehearsed, and ready to get the scene done. Rock stars don't party the night before the show, rock stars make sure they'll be on point for a great performance. Go into every job with professionalism and poise. Behave as if you belong there. Act like a professional, and you'll act like a star.
2-5. Get an agent
Making all the contacts you need to in the industry can be very difficult to do alone. In most entertainment fields and in politics as well, you'll need to get in touch with an agent who can help to represent you and set you up with auditions, contacts, and jobs while you focus on the more important work of being the best you can be.
Usually, agents will take a percentage of what you make, but sometimes not at first. You may have to be willing to make periodic installments to pay your agent to get you to work at first. Be judicious in picking an agent who'll work with you and get you the contacts and the work that you need.
2-6. Recognize the breaks when they come.
Whether or not you believe in fate, it's true that a star needs to learn to recognize the breaks when they come and embrace every opportunity as a chance to increase their star power. Check your ego at the door every now and then and give yourself the chance to succeed. A single opportunity may be the difference between regular work and full-on stardom.
A small, one-line part in a movie with a well-respected director may seem like a pittance, but it means you're working with the best. That's an opportunity.
An opening gig for a big band might seem like a step down if you've been touring on your own, but the chance to open for a hero? That comes along once in a lifetime.
3. Handling Stardom
3-1. Continue challenging yourself in your work.
Once you've climbed and scrabbled your way to the top, it's important to stay busy. Celebrities come and go, grabbing their 15 minutes of fame and disappearing just as quickly. But real stars can learn to negotiate their careers to string it into a lifetime of challenging, engaging, and exciting work that people will enjoy watching and living vicariously through for years to come.
If you’re an actor, take on diverse roles and do things that will challenge your fans’ conception of you as a performer. Think of Sean Penn in Milk, Daniel Day-Lewis in My Left Foot, and Charlize Theron in Monster.
If you’re a musician or another kind of performer, challenge yourself to keep the consistency of your music high. Take time on your recordings and on your performances. Don't go for the cheap and commercial buck.
If you're a politician, diversify your interests and be willing to change with the times. Embrace causes that will have you on the right side of history, rather than chasing votes with minute-by-minute opinion poles. Have integrity.
If you're an athlete, stay focused on keeping in shape and keeping your game at the highest possible level. Don't get distracted by clubbing, updating your social networking, or doing things that happen off the field. Be the best.
3-2. Maintain a healthy relationship with the media.
Stardom can be a heavy crown to bear and even strong and talented people can fold under the spotlight. Learning to negotiate stardom is a challenge that you should seek head-on and come to terms with as quickly as possible. Learn to share your time in exchange for your celebrity.
Learn the name of the reporters you work with on a regular basis and talk to them as you'd talk to anyone. Don't get a big head about the "little" people. If you're followed by paparazzi, give them five minutes of time in exchange for some privacy later on in the night. Throw the dogs a bone.
Public flame-outs, like those which Charlie Sheen, John Edwards, and Chad "Ocho-Cinco" Johnson have suffered, are difficult to bounce back from. Learn to recognize when you might need a break to avoid destroying your career.
3-3. Take time away from the spotlight.
Bright lights CAN melt stars. Let yourself rest up, relax, and spend time away from the center of attention so you can come back to your career as a star rested and prepared to do the work that got you there.
If you've been making blockbusters, go somewhere and do a small play that you believe in. Dedicate everything you've got to the intricacies and the art. Record your next album remotely in a far-away studio instead of downtown L.A.
3-4. Stay healthy.
Stardom means fast-living, staying always on the move, sleeping little, and running yourself ragged. It can be very difficult for some people to eat right, avoid drugs and alcohol, and maintain a healthy relationship with sleep. Schedule regular doctor visits and consult a nutritionist to make sure that you're getting enough vitamins and nutrients in your busy life, and that you're being the most healthy version of yourself.
Tips
Keep your ego in check while you climb to the top.[14]
X
Trustworthy Source
Harvard Business Review
Online and print journal covering topics related to business management practices
Go to source
Warnings
Fame comes to people who devote their energy into their craft, not into becoming famous. Be a star for the right reasons.
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Do you enjoy movies, plays, and television? Do people ever tell you that you have a dramatic presence? If you're a good actor or actress, movie stardom might be in the cards.\\n1-2. Find a coach\\nDeveloping your talents into a star-level degree of skill will require help. Whether you want to go pro in acting or sports, politics or music, you've got to get insider info and learn to hone your skills from an expert in the field. Start taking acting or music lessons. Get private coaching for the sport you play. Secure an internship with a local politician, or volunteer for the campaign. Learn everything you can from people who know more than you.\\nFind role-models as well in your field. If you want to be an actor, which actors do you look up to? Who would you like to emulate? Find someone to model your career after.\\n1-3. Study your craft.\\nWhether you do it under the guidance of a coach or go it alone, honing your craft is going to take lots and lots of work. 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Volunteer your time for politicians you believe in and make contacts that will help you in your political career.\\nAthletes should work in coaching, or work in stadiums fulfilling other jobs. Work as an usher to get into the games for free, or work the concessions. Tear tickets at Yankee stadium and you may be on the infield someday.\\nMusicians would do well to work for and with other bands. Learn to run live sound and help out at a venue, or get a job selling merch for a band you like. Be a roadie and learn what life on tour is like. Stay close to the action.\\n2-2. Start networking\\nAs you work your way into the industry, make sure to stay in touch with everyone you meet on the way up. Try to meet people who are in the same boat as you, aspiring musicians, actors, politicians, or other athletes, who are at the same level as you are and who have similar goals. Help support each other and celebrate your friends' successes and accomplishments. Work together on your mutual goals.\\nStardom can get pretty competitive, and it's true that there's not a whole lot of room at the top. But getting locked into petty rivalries can bring you down a lot quicker than it can lift you up. Be positive.\\nMake yourself easy to get in touch with. Start a LinkedIn page or a professional social networking \\\"fan\\\" page for yourself so you can keep your industry contacts and your personal contacts separated and more manageable.\\n2-3. Take the work you can get.\\nA job stumping for a politician you don't particularly like in Des Moines? A third-string job on a team that's the worst in the league? An ad for hemorrhoid cream? These might not sound like ideal situations for a budding star, but work is work. Think of it as building experiences that'll make for a great rags-to-riches story somewhere down the road.\\nUse each opportunity as a chance to prove yourself and to transcend the circumstances with your star-making abilities. Be the star you are.\\n2-4. Be a professional.\\nAmateurs show up to an audition half-prepared, hungover, barely getting it together; movie stars show up well-rested, rehearsed, and ready to get the scene done. Rock stars don't party the night before the show, rock stars make sure they'll be on point for a great performance. Go into every job with professionalism and poise. Behave as if you belong there. Act like a professional, and you'll act like a star.\\n2-5. Get an agent\\nMaking all the contacts you need to in the industry can be very difficult to do alone. In most entertainment fields and in politics as well, you'll need to get in touch with an agent who can help to represent you and set you up with auditions, contacts, and jobs while you focus on the more important work of being the best you can be.\\nUsually, agents will take a percentage of what you make, but sometimes not at first. You may have to be willing to make periodic installments to pay your agent to get you to work at first. Be judicious in picking an agent who'll work with you and get you the contacts and the work that you need.\\n2-6. Recognize the breaks when they come.\\nWhether or not you believe in fate, it's true that a star needs to learn to recognize the breaks when they come and embrace every opportunity as a chance to increase their star power. Check your ego at the door every now and then and give yourself the chance to succeed. A single opportunity may be the difference between regular work and full-on stardom.\\nA small, one-line part in a movie with a well-respected director may seem like a pittance, but it means you're working with the best. That's an opportunity.\\nAn opening gig for a big band might seem like a step down if you've been touring on your own, but the chance to open for a hero? That comes along once in a lifetime.\\n3. Handling Stardom\\n3-1. Continue challenging yourself in your work.\\nOnce you've climbed and scrabbled your way to the top, it's important to stay busy. Celebrities come and go, grabbing their 15 minutes of fame and disappearing just as quickly. But real stars can learn to negotiate their careers to string it into a lifetime of challenging, engaging, and exciting work that people will enjoy watching and living vicariously through for years to come.\\nIf you’re an actor, take on diverse roles and do things that will challenge your fans’ conception of you as a performer. Think of Sean Penn in Milk, Daniel Day-Lewis in My Left Foot, and Charlize Theron in Monster.\\nIf you’re a musician or another kind of performer, challenge yourself to keep the consistency of your music high. Take time on your recordings and on your performances. Don't go for the cheap and commercial buck.\\nIf you're a politician, diversify your interests and be willing to change with the times. Embrace causes that will have you on the right side of history, rather than chasing votes with minute-by-minute opinion poles. Have integrity.\\nIf you're an athlete, stay focused on keeping in shape and keeping your game at the highest possible level. Don't get distracted by clubbing, updating your social networking, or doing things that happen off the field. Be the best.\\n3-2. Maintain a healthy relationship with the media.\\nStardom can be a heavy crown to bear and even strong and talented people can fold under the spotlight. Learning to negotiate stardom is a challenge that you should seek head-on and come to terms with as quickly as possible. Learn to share your time in exchange for your celebrity.\\nLearn the name of the reporters you work with on a regular basis and talk to them as you'd talk to anyone. Don't get a big head about the \\\"little\\\" people. If you're followed by paparazzi, give them five minutes of time in exchange for some privacy later on in the night. 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Schedule regular doctor visits and consult a nutritionist to make sure that you're getting enough vitamins and nutrients in your busy life, and that you're being the most healthy version of yourself.\\nTips\\nKeep your ego in check while you climb to the top.[14]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nHarvard Business Review\\nOnline and print journal covering topics related to business management practices\\nGo to source\\nWarnings\\nFame comes to people who devote their energy into their craft, not into becoming famous. Be a star for the right reasons.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you ready for your close-up? Being a star takes a lot more than luck. You can learn to recognize and develop your natural talents into the skills that will allow you to climb the ladder of your craft toward stardom. With hard work, career management, and self-promotion, you can give yourself a chance for fame and fortune. 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You may want to act, eventually, but if you could put your skills to work as a make-up artist, as a back-up cameraman, as a lighting crew member, you'll be that much closer, and you'll be working.\\nPoliticians generally start out working for other campaigns. Volunteer your time for politicians you believe in and make contacts that will help you in your political career.\\nAthletes should work in coaching, or work in stadiums fulfilling other jobs. Work as an usher to get into the games for free, or work the concessions. Tear tickets at Yankee stadium and you may be on the infield someday.\\nMusicians would do well to work for and with other bands. Learn to run live sound and help out at a venue, or get a job selling merch for a band you like. Be a roadie and learn what life on tour is like. Stay close to the action.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start networking\", \"描述\": \"As you work your way into the industry, make sure to stay in touch with everyone you meet on the way up. Try to meet people who are in the same boat as you, aspiring musicians, actors, politicians, or other athletes, who are at the same level as you are and who have similar goals. Help support each other and celebrate your friends' successes and accomplishments. Work together on your mutual goals.\\nStardom can get pretty competitive, and it's true that there's not a whole lot of room at the top. But getting locked into petty rivalries can bring you down a lot quicker than it can lift you up. Be positive.\\nMake yourself easy to get in touch with. Start a LinkedIn page or a professional social networking \\\"fan\\\" page for yourself so you can keep your industry contacts and your personal contacts separated and more manageable.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take the work you can get.\", \"描述\": \"A job stumping for a politician you don't particularly like in Des Moines? A third-string job on a team that's the worst in the league? An ad for hemorrhoid cream? These might not sound like ideal situations for a budding star, but work is work. Think of it as building experiences that'll make for a great rags-to-riches story somewhere down the road.\\nUse each opportunity as a chance to prove yourself and to transcend the circumstances with your star-making abilities. Be the star you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be a professional.\", \"描述\": \"Amateurs show up to an audition half-prepared, hungover, barely getting it together; movie stars show up well-rested, rehearsed, and ready to get the scene done. Rock stars don't party the night before the show, rock stars make sure they'll be on point for a great performance. Go into every job with professionalism and poise. Behave as if you belong there. Act like a professional, and you'll act like a star.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get an agent\", \"描述\": \"Making all the contacts you need to in the industry can be very difficult to do alone. In most entertainment fields and in politics as well, you'll need to get in touch with an agent who can help to represent you and set you up with auditions, contacts, and jobs while you focus on the more important work of being the best you can be.\\nUsually, agents will take a percentage of what you make, but sometimes not at first. You may have to be willing to make periodic installments to pay your agent to get you to work at first. Be judicious in picking an agent who'll work with you and get you the contacts and the work that you need.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Recognize the breaks when they come.\", \"描述\": \"Whether or not you believe in fate, it's true that a star needs to learn to recognize the breaks when they come and embrace every opportunity as a chance to increase their star power. Check your ego at the door every now and then and give yourself the chance to succeed. A single opportunity may be the difference between regular work and full-on stardom.\\nA small, one-line part in a movie with a well-respected director may seem like a pittance, but it means you're working with the best. That's an opportunity.\\nAn opening gig for a big band might seem like a step down if you've been touring on your own, but the chance to open for a hero? That comes along once in a lifetime.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Handling Stardom\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Continue challenging yourself in your work.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've climbed and scrabbled your way to the top, it's important to stay busy. Celebrities come and go, grabbing their 15 minutes of fame and disappearing just as quickly. But real stars can learn to negotiate their careers to string it into a lifetime of challenging, engaging, and exciting work that people will enjoy watching and living vicariously through for years to come.\\nIf you’re an actor, take on diverse roles and do things that will challenge your fans’ conception of you as a performer. Think of Sean Penn in Milk, Daniel Day-Lewis in My Left Foot, and Charlize Theron in Monster.\\nIf you’re a musician or another kind of performer, challenge yourself to keep the consistency of your music high. Take time on your recordings and on your performances. Don't go for the cheap and commercial buck.\\nIf you're a politician, diversify your interests and be willing to change with the times. Embrace causes that will have you on the right side of history, rather than chasing votes with minute-by-minute opinion poles. Have integrity.\\nIf you're an athlete, stay focused on keeping in shape and keeping your game at the highest possible level. Don't get distracted by clubbing, updating your social networking, or doing things that happen off the field. Be the best.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain a healthy relationship with the media.\", \"描述\": \"Stardom can be a heavy crown to bear and even strong and talented people can fold under the spotlight. Learning to negotiate stardom is a challenge that you should seek head-on and come to terms with as quickly as possible. Learn to share your time in exchange for your celebrity.\\nLearn the name of the reporters you work with on a regular basis and talk to them as you'd talk to anyone. Don't get a big head about the \\\"little\\\" people. If you're followed by paparazzi, give them five minutes of time in exchange for some privacy later on in the night. Throw the dogs a bone.\\nPublic flame-outs, like those which Charlie Sheen, John Edwards, and Chad \\\"Ocho-Cinco\\\" Johnson have suffered, are difficult to bounce back from. Learn to recognize when you might need a break to avoid destroying your career.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take time away from the spotlight.\", \"描述\": \"Bright lights CAN melt stars. Let yourself rest up, relax, and spend time away from the center of attention so you can come back to your career as a star rested and prepared to do the work that got you there.\\nIf you've been making blockbusters, go somewhere and do a small play that you believe in. Dedicate everything you've got to the intricacies and the art. Record your next album remotely in a far-away studio instead of downtown L.A.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay healthy.\", \"描述\": \"Stardom means fast-living, staying always on the move, sleeping little, and running yourself ragged. It can be very difficult for some people to eat right, avoid drugs and alcohol, and maintain a healthy relationship with sleep. 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1. Defining Your Role
1-1. Talk to your partner about dividing responsibilities.
Make sure you’re both on the same page when it comes to your duties and expectations. Do they expect you to have dinner ready when they come home? What about housework and other chores? Gray areas can lead to arguments, so work together in advance to divide and conquer responsibilities.
For example, maybe you'll cook dinner on the weekdays, and they can cover the weekends. Maybe they work from home 1 or 2 days a week and could handle those nights, too.
You could team up and do daily chores as a family. After dinner, they could do the dishes, you could put food away and, if they're old enough, your youngster can wipe down the table and counters.
1-2. Come up with a consistent parenting strategy.
Work with your spouse to set consistent rules and consequences for your kids. Discuss parenting decisions together whenever possible, and offer each other assurance that you’re equal co-parents.
Sometimes, a working spouse may feel left out of the decision-making process. Creating a clear parenting strategy together can help you both adapt to your roles and prevent disagreements.
For instance, decide bedtimes, set rules about watching TV or playing video games, try to anticipate potential misbehavior, and establish punishments for specific broken rules.
Unless a situation needs immediate attention, try to hold off on making any big parenting decisions without getting your partner’s input.
1-3. Seize opportunities to become a better nurturer.
Adapting to a new role as a full-time parent is tough, and the many details of childcare can seem overwhelming. Don’t feel insecure if you're nervous, and be open to advice from your partner and other loved ones. You could also try reading parenting books and articles or attending classes.
All parents, whether male or female, make mistakes, and there’s no such thing as a perfect superdad or supermom. Don’t be hard on yourself if you need pointers on changing diapers or testing the temperature of formula.
Men who are more confident in their parenting skills tend to be happier about their roles as full-time parents.
1-4. Embrace your role and take pride in your work.
While the number of stay at home dads is increasing, you still might encounter stigma. Don’t get caught up in social norms or gender expectations. Remind yourself that being a dad is hard, important work.
Whether being a full-time parent is a personal choice or a matter of finances, try not to worry about what other people think about your decision. Take pride in the fact that you’ve stepped up to the plate for your family.
1-5. Be honest with your partner if you feel insecure about your role.
Stay at home dads often miss their careers, think that being a full-time parent isn’t masculine, or feel that their working partner has more power in the relationship. It’s better to deal with these feelings than to bottle them up, so be open with your spouse if you’re unhappy.
Venting and getting a pep talk from your partner might do the trick. For example, you might say, “I need to be honest about how I’ve been feeling lately. I love being a dad, but I miss working, and I get insecure whenever I have to answer the question, ‘What do you do for work?’”
While these feelings are normal, remember that being a stay at home parent doesn’t have anything to do with masculinity or femininity. If anything, caring for your kids makes you even more of a man.
2. Establishing a Routine
2-1. Get your kids used to a set schedule.
Children thrive when they have a predictable schedule, and it’ll be easier to wrangle your rascals if you stick to a routine. Your agenda will depend on your child's age and your specific needs. Just try to schedule meals, naps, playtime, bedtime, and other parts of their routine at the same times every day.
If you have an infant or toddler, for instance, they might get up at 7:00 a.m. You might feed them shortly thereafter, then get them dressed and brush their teeth. A late morning routine might include playtime or arts and crafts, and you might try to work a bit while keeping an eye on them.
After lunch at noon, they’ll nap for at least an hour (a younger toddler will probably need 2 daily naps), then have an afternoon snack.
Running around outside, going to a playground, dancing, or another form of exercise can come next so they can burn off some energy. That way, it might be easier to get dinner ready, feed them, bathe them, and get them ready for bed.
2-2. Plan on unforeseen disruptions to your routine.
A set schedule is an helpful guide, but expect to find creative ways to handle disturbances on a daily basis. Life will throw curve balls like diaper disasters, temper tantrums, cases of the sniffles, and random errands. Keep your cool, handle each situation as it arises, and get back on track when you can.
Suppose your child is sick. They’re cranky, it’s a 20-minute struggle every time you give them medicine, you’ve spent all day trying to soothe them, the house is a mess, and you didn’t have time to make dinner. Stay calm, order delivery, tidy up as best you can, and try to get some rest.
If your kids can communicate, it’s helpful to keep them in the loop about changes to the routine. You might say, “I know we usually play with blocks and draw pictures in the morning, but we have to run some errands today. Don’t worry, it’ll be like an adventure!”
2-3. Be open to advice, but figure out what works for you.
If your partner previously stayed at home and you’re switching roles, their tips and tricks might help keep you sane. You’ll likely find that other friends and loved ones will also eagerly offer advice. Listen and learn, but establish a routine that works best for you and your kids.
Don’t worry if you do things a little differently than your spouse. Maybe they had time for daily trips to the park, but you work from home and can’t spare the extra 45 minutes to drive to and from the park. You can go to the park now and then, and find other ways to keep your kids active on a daily basis.
2-4. Schedule uninterrupted office time if you work from home.
If you’re one of the many stay at home dads who work from home, you still need distraction-free time to be productive. Work with your partner to find blocks of time when they can take over parenting duties.
For example, your office hours might be before they leave for work in the morning and after dinner. On the weekends, your partner could spend quality time with the kids while you squeeze in a few hours of work.
2-5. Work with your spouse to manage any changes in the schedule.
When things come up, team up with your partner to find a win-win solution. Have a talk ahead of time, and come up with a plan to tackle blips in the routine.
Suppose you work from home and have a conference call at 5:30 p.m. Let your partner know; they might be able to come home early to watch the kids or grab some take out since you won’t have time to make dinner.
If your partner has to work late, they should let you know so you can plan the kids’ evening routine accordingly.
3. Overcoming Obstacles
3-1. Treat mistakes as learning opportunities.
Some stay at home dads feel pressured to be perfect in order to prove that they’re competent caregivers. Remember that no parent is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Instead of getting down on yourself if you mess something up, brush it off and seize the opportunity to learn.
Maybe you’re not great at brushing your child’s hair, or you just can’t figure out how to put them down for a nap. Don’t get down on yourself. There’s a learning curve, and you’ll get the hang of it in time.
3-2. Maintain your physical and mental health.
More often than not, you might find yourself exhausted, with spit-up stains on your shirt, and in dire need of a shave. That’s totally normal, but do your best to see to your own needs as best you can. You’ll burn out if you don’t take care of yourself, so try not to run yourself ragged.
Eat a healthy diet packed with fruits and veggies, whole grains, lean protein sources, and dairy products (or calcium-rich dairy alternatives).
Do your best to get as much as sleep as you can. While it might seem impossible, aim for 7 to 9 hours each night. If you’re short on rest, try sleeping when your child sleeps or naps.
Stay physically active, and get some exercise every day. A 30-minute jog around the neighborhood after dinner or before your partner leaves for work could also provide valuable me-time.
3-3. Set aside time for yourself whenever possible.
Being a dad is a 24/7 job, but you’re still a human being, and you need some personal time. Try to find a few minutes every day to take a breather. In the long run, keeping up with your own hobbies and interests can help you be a better father and partner.
If you love to read, grab a good book and read a few chapters while your child naps. Maybe a sibling or friend has kids, too. They could take your tykes for an afternoon, and you could return the favor another day.
3-4. Join a stay at home dads group.
Spending most of your time at the house and being the only dad at the playground or on play dates can get lonely. Even though stay at home dads are more common, you might not know anyone in the same shoes as you. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways you can connect with other full-time dads.
Try looking for a local dad group on the National At-Home Dad Network: http://athomedad.org.
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Discuss parenting decisions together whenever possible, and offer each other assurance that you’re equal co-parents.\\nSometimes, a working spouse may feel left out of the decision-making process. Creating a clear parenting strategy together can help you both adapt to your roles and prevent disagreements.\\nFor instance, decide bedtimes, set rules about watching TV or playing video games, try to anticipate potential misbehavior, and establish punishments for specific broken rules.\\nUnless a situation needs immediate attention, try to hold off on making any big parenting decisions without getting your partner’s input.\\n1-3. Seize opportunities to become a better nurturer.\\nAdapting to a new role as a full-time parent is tough, and the many details of childcare can seem overwhelming. Don’t feel insecure if you're nervous, and be open to advice from your partner and other loved ones. 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Be honest with your partner if you feel insecure about your role.\\nStay at home dads often miss their careers, think that being a full-time parent isn’t masculine, or feel that their working partner has more power in the relationship. It’s better to deal with these feelings than to bottle them up, so be open with your spouse if you’re unhappy.\\nVenting and getting a pep talk from your partner might do the trick. For example, you might say, “I need to be honest about how I’ve been feeling lately. I love being a dad, but I miss working, and I get insecure whenever I have to answer the question, ‘What do you do for work?’”\\nWhile these feelings are normal, remember that being a stay at home parent doesn’t have anything to do with masculinity or femininity. If anything, caring for your kids makes you even more of a man.\\n2. Establishing a Routine\\n2-1. 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Treat mistakes as learning opportunities.\\nSome stay at home dads feel pressured to be perfect in order to prove that they’re competent caregivers. Remember that no parent is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Instead of getting down on yourself if you mess something up, brush it off and seize the opportunity to learn.\\nMaybe you’re not great at brushing your child’s hair, or you just can’t figure out how to put them down for a nap. Don’t get down on yourself. There’s a learning curve, and you’ll get the hang of it in time.\\n3-2. Maintain your physical and mental health.\\nMore often than not, you might find yourself exhausted, with spit-up stains on your shirt, and in dire need of a shave. That’s totally normal, but do your best to see to your own needs as best you can. 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A late morning routine might include playtime or arts and crafts, and you might try to work a bit while keeping an eye on them.\\nAfter lunch at noon, they’ll nap for at least an hour (a younger toddler will probably need 2 daily naps), then have an afternoon snack.\\nRunning around outside, going to a playground, dancing, or another form of exercise can come next so they can burn off some energy. That way, it might be easier to get dinner ready, feed them, bathe them, and get them ready for bed.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Plan on unforeseen disruptions to your routine.\", \"描述\": \"A set schedule is an helpful guide, but expect to find creative ways to handle disturbances on a daily basis. Life will throw curve balls like diaper disasters, temper tantrums, cases of the sniffles, and random errands. Keep your cool, handle each situation as it arises, and get back on track when you can.\\nSuppose your child is sick. They’re cranky, it’s a 20-minute struggle every time you give them medicine, you’ve spent all day trying to soothe them, the house is a mess, and you didn’t have time to make dinner. Stay calm, order delivery, tidy up as best you can, and try to get some rest.\\nIf your kids can communicate, it’s helpful to keep them in the loop about changes to the routine. You might say, “I know we usually play with blocks and draw pictures in the morning, but we have to run some errands today. Don’t worry, it’ll be like an adventure!”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be open to advice, but figure out what works for you.\", \"描述\": \"If your partner previously stayed at home and you’re switching roles, their tips and tricks might help keep you sane. You’ll likely find that other friends and loved ones will also eagerly offer advice. Listen and learn, but establish a routine that works best for you and your kids.\\nDon’t worry if you do things a little differently than your spouse. Maybe they had time for daily trips to the park, but you work from home and can’t spare the extra 45 minutes to drive to and from the park. You can go to the park now and then, and find other ways to keep your kids active on a daily basis.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Schedule uninterrupted office time if you work from home.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re one of the many stay at home dads who work from home, you still need distraction-free time to be productive. Work with your partner to find blocks of time when they can take over parenting duties.\\nFor example, your office hours might be before they leave for work in the morning and after dinner. On the weekends, your partner could spend quality time with the kids while you squeeze in a few hours of work.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Work with your spouse to manage any changes in the schedule.\", \"描述\": \"When things come up, team up with your partner to find a win-win solution. Have a talk ahead of time, and come up with a plan to tackle blips in the routine.\\nSuppose you work from home and have a conference call at 5:30 p.m. Let your partner know; they might be able to come home early to watch the kids or grab some take out since you won’t have time to make dinner.\\nIf your partner has to work late, they should let you know so you can plan the kids’ evening routine accordingly.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Overcoming Obstacles\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Treat mistakes as learning opportunities.\", \"描述\": \"Some stay at home dads feel pressured to be perfect in order to prove that they’re competent caregivers. Remember that no parent is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Instead of getting down on yourself if you mess something up, brush it off and seize the opportunity to learn.\\nMaybe you’re not great at brushing your child’s hair, or you just can’t figure out how to put them down for a nap. Don’t get down on yourself. There’s a learning curve, and you’ll get the hang of it in time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain your physical and mental health.\", \"描述\": \"More often than not, you might find yourself exhausted, with spit-up stains on your shirt, and in dire need of a shave. That’s totally normal, but do your best to see to your own needs as best you can. You’ll burn out if you don’t take care of yourself, so try not to run yourself ragged.\\nEat a healthy diet packed with fruits and veggies, whole grains, lean protein sources, and dairy products (or calcium-rich dairy alternatives).\\nDo your best to get as much as sleep as you can. While it might seem impossible, aim for 7 to 9 hours each night. If you’re short on rest, try sleeping when your child sleeps or naps.\\nStay physically active, and get some exercise every day. A 30-minute jog around the neighborhood after dinner or before your partner leaves for work could also provide valuable me-time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set aside time for yourself whenever possible.\", \"描述\": \"Being a dad is a 24/7 job, but you’re still a human being, and you need some personal time. Try to find a few minutes every day to take a breather. In the long run, keeping up with your own hobbies and interests can help you be a better father and partner.\\nIf you love to read, grab a good book and read a few chapters while your child naps. Maybe a sibling or friend has kids, too. They could take your tykes for an afternoon, and you could return the favor another day.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Join a stay at home dads group.\", \"描述\": \"Spending most of your time at the house and being the only dad at the playground or on play dates can get lonely. Even though stay at home dads are more common, you might not know anyone in the same shoes as you. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways you can connect with other full-time dads.\\nTry looking for a local dad group on the National At-Home Dad Network: http://athomedad.org.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Budgeting to be a Stay at Home Mom
1-1. Calculate your expenses and create a budget.
Figure out whether or not you and your family can live off of one income. Write out everything you spend in a month, including food, rent or mortgage, car payments, household items, and entertainment. Then, subtract that cost from your partner’s income.
1-2. Cut down on expenses.
If your partner’s income isn’t enough to keep your family going, try narrowing down what you can do without. Cut down on things like take-out meals, vacations, and luxury items to tighten up your budget. You might also consider moving to a smaller home or a cheaper neighborhood.
Get creative about the things you can cut back on. For example, if you and your partner both own cars, could you sell 1 and share the remaining car?
1-3. Set aside money for an emergency fund.
It’s always good to have a nest egg to fall back on just in case. As you plan out your financials, be sure to set aside some money just in case someone’s car breaks down or you or your partner have to pay off medical bills.
Experts typically recommend setting aside 6 months' worth of income just to be safe.
1-4. Plan to save for retirement.
When you quit your job, you won’t be contributing to a 401(k) anymore. To substitute for that, plan on contributing to an IRA or a similar account to build up your retirement fund for the future.
If you aren’t sure how much you should be saving for retirement every year, talk to a financial advisor.
1-5. Weigh the cost of child care against staying at home.
For some families, putting their children in child care would actually cost more than the salary they’d make by working. Look into child care in your area, then compare that to the money you’d make at your job. If child care is more expensive than your salary, then it’s probably a good idea to be a stay at home mom.
Some cities may also have long wait lists for child care, which could be a barrier for you. If you can’t get your kids into child care until a few years from now, it might be worth it to stay home with them.
1-6. Pay off your debts first.
Unfortunately, a high debt-to-income ratio doesn’t leave a lot of wiggle room in your budget. If you and your partner have a lot of debt to pay off, focus on putting money toward those debts before you go down to a single income.
To get out of debt quickly, pay off the debts with the highest interest rates first.
1-7. Find a part-time or work-from-home job.
Some stay at home moms quit their full-time jobs, but then get part-time or work-from-home jobs instead. If you need supplemental income while staying at home with the kids, consider looking for a job with a flexible schedule that lets you work on your own time.
Find a remote job by looking at networks like Flexjobs or We Work Remotely. Or, search “remote” on your local job board.
If you have a full-time job now, talk to your supervisor about going part-time or working from home.
2. Thriving as a Stay at Home Mom
2-1. Create a schedule for you and your kids.
Keeping a routine will help keep your days and weeks organized (and less overwhelming). It’s fine to deviate from the plan every now and then, but in general, try to make a rough schedule that revolves around nap and meal times.
If your kids are in school, you can plan out what you’d like to get done while you have the house to yourself.
2-2. Get out of the house once a week.
It’s easy to get stuck in a routine of not leaving your home for days on end. To improve your mental health and keep your spirits up, head out of the house at least once a week. Take your kids to a playgroup, head to the library, or go sit on a bench at the park. The more you can talk to other people, the better.
Even just taking a walk around the block can be enough to clear your mind and help you feel great.
2-3. Make other mom friends.
Being a stay at home mom can get lonely, especially if you don’t know any other moms. Reach out to friends who have children or talk to other moms while you’re at the park or playgroup. Talk about your experience as a stay at home mom, and commiserate with other women who are doing the exact same thing as you are.
If you don’t know any other moms in your area, try posting on your local Facebook or Nextdoor mom groups.
2-4. Expect a messy house sometimes.
When you’re at home, it’s easy to think you’ll have all the time in the world to clean up. However, sometimes life gets in the way, and that’s okay! If the kitchen is dirty and the laundry basket is overflowing, don’t worry—that’s a normal part of stay at home mom life.
2-5. Have go-to meals on hand.
There are going to be days when you don’t want to (or don’t have time to) cook every meal. To make breakfast, lunch, and dinner a little easier, try meal prepping at the beginning of the week. Make easy lunches and dinners that you can reheat for yourself and your kids every day. Great meal prep recipes to try include:
Chicken breast and veggies
Soup
Casserole
2-6. Think about what you’ve done, not what’s left to do.
As a stay at home mom, it can sometimes feel like you’re drawing in to-do lists. When life gets overwhelming, try to focus on all the accomplishments you have made rather than what needs to get done.
For instance, maybe you didn’t have time to clean the house today. On the flip side, you made your kids a healthy meal and took them to the park to play.
Or, maybe you didn’t make it to the grocery store. However, you had time to play with your kids instead of letting them watch TV in the afternoon.
2-7. Take a break every once in a while.
Make time to practice self-care to keep your spirits up. Being a stay at home mom can be tough, and you deserve a break. Whether it’s sitting in your car with a cup of coffee or going out to dinner with a friend, be sure to let yourself rest and relax whenever you can.
Even quick, little things that boost your mood count as self-care. If you don’t have time for a long relaxation session, try playing your favorite song in the car or picking up coffee instead of making it at home.
Make time for your hobbies, too. Give yourself time to be creative and do what you love to avoid feeling burnt out.
2-8. Think of you and your partner as a team.
When one partner works and the other stays at home, it shifts the dynamics of the household. Remember that you and your partner are working together for the good of the household, and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need to.
Be clear about what your partner’s role is as a co-parent. Talk about household chores and other responsibilities. Are you comfortable taking over all the household tasks, or would you prefer that your partner pitches in, too?
2-9. Exercise regularly.
Get your body moving to lift your spirits. Exercise is a proven way to boost your mood and keep your body healthy. It can be tough to work exercise into a busy schedule, but try to do it a couple of times a week.
Don’t have time to leave the house? Do at-home workouts while the kids are napping or playing.
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1. Getting Started
1-1. Go to a good college.
It used to be that anyone with a knack for numbers and a lot of friends could become a successful stockbroker. Not so anymore! If you want to stay competitive, you'll need to get your degree. Economics, finance, mathematics, accounting, or business management are all good fields to get your undergrad degree in. And the better college you go to the more prospects you'll have later in the game!
Especially if you're going to grad school, keep your grades up. The better your grades, the more -- and better -- schools will open up to you. Not to mention knowing what you're doing when you hit the exchange floor!
1-2. Look into internships.
Some brokerages hire interns during their last year of college. Hit up your campus' "Investment Club" -- or start one if it doesn't yet exist! Getting that dream internship could make your path to being a billionaire a lot easier.
This is your best bet if you're not looking to get your MBA and want to get going as quickly as possible. But know that relaxing is totally a viable option. Plenty of people take a couple of years off, go back to get their MBA and get in the game a little bit later. Also: people are more likely to trust a 28-year-old with their money than a 22-year-old, so feel free to keep that red solo cup and package of ramen in your hand for a second or two more.
1-3. Consider getting your MBA.
Alright, so having an MBA isn't necessary per se, but if you want to rise to the cream of the crop, having an MBA will put you at the top of that prospective employee stack you're bound to find yourself in eventually. More and more people are getting them, making them par for the course. This step could aid in job advancement, larger signing bonuses, and higher compensation.
Again, feel free to take a few years off between undergrad and your MBA. Getting some viable work experience (even if it's menial labor at a bank or a firm) will make your options grow tenfold as well. Showing that you already have a grasp on what you're doing or want to do will get programs to take you more seriously.
1-4. Educate yourself.
Read. Watch. Expose yourself. Learn. This is a field where you can very much make yourself better on your own time. So read books! Watch financial news shows. Follow different stocks and see what rises and what falls. While Joe is off breeding ferrets and Jim is playing football, you'll be ensuring that you walk out of school with a six-figure income to start.
Try William Bernstein's "The Four Pillars of Investing: Lessons for Building a Winning Portfolio," or Mark Hebner's "Index Funds: The 12-Step Program for Active Investors." The Wall Street Journal or NY Times financial section won't hurt either!
You probably know a half a dozen people who at least dabble in investments. Ask them about what they know! The only reason you need an education now is that that's the current academic trend. Back in the day, it was just people who took an active interest in it. So tap into all your resources as soon as you can, as often as you can.
1-5. Start your own investment portfolio.
When you get old enough, start taking care of some of your own money (if you're under 18, it will have to be in your parent's name). Work with a family member who's doing it and see how you can start building proof of your know-how. If you wouldn't trust you with your own money, why should someone else trust you with theirs?!
2. Planning Your Future
2-1. Consider your options.
There are three paths your career could take:
. This would be working at a firm like Merrill Lynch or Morgan Stanley. In order to succeed here, you must be very sales-oriented. They will set you up with a space, get you trained and give you a salary to start off until you pass the trial period.
. Charles Schwab or Fidelity are two examples of discount brokers. If you're more service-oriented, this is for you. You will generally always be on salary, making less commission, but mainly assisting those who come to you, buying and selling but not giving advice.
This is pretty straightforward -- you work at a bank. The bank's customers come to you to buy fixed annuities and to make other, often more conservative, choices.
Discount brokers generally have to know a little bit about everything (rollovers, stock options, margin accounting, derivatives, bond ladders, etc.), whereas full-service brokers usually specialize in one area, like IRA rollovers or employee stock options.
Full-service brokers are responsible for finding their own clients. However, they also are given workspace and a salary to start off. With discount brokers, you pay your overhead costs and make less commission. It's really a give and take.
2-2. Research firms.
If you've narrowed it down to what type of broker you want to be, you'll still need to decide on which firms you want to apply to. Just like a pair of pants (one that you'll be wearing for decades), it needs to fit you just right. The main thing to consider? Size.
A big firm can often offer you a competitive training package, making you feel more firm in your grounding and alleviate your financial start-up woes. However, you may feel like you're a teeny fish drowning in a large pond.
A small firm can give you the attention you desire and feel more personable (in addition to offering a higher commission rate), but they may not be able to offer you the clientele or training of a larger program.
2-3. Get trained at a firm.
You'll need to get a few months' on-the-job training before you can take your license and be a full-fledged stockbroker, but you can still get to work. It all depends on where you're employed. Some may call it an internship, some will just consider it pre-training, some will offer more money than others. Whatever form yours takes, it's a necessary step pre-examination.
3. Getting Fully Qualified
3-1. Take your mandatory exams.
There are two basic tests you must take:
. Formally known as the General Securities Registered Representative Examination. This test is given by the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA) and is the most difficult test you will take (lasting 6 hours). After passing it, you'll be a "registered representative," or stockbroker. You have the authority to sell all securities and investments except for real estate, life insurance, and commodities futures. It costs $290.00 currently.
. This one is just about conducting business and the various laws that govern transactions. It's a lot shorter (75 minutes) and much easier. This one costs $96.00
3-2. Consider taking other exams to specialize.
They're not exactly necessary, but they do make it so nothing is off-limits to you. Those exceptions mentioned in the Series 7? Those go away once these tests are passed.
. Your firm may require you to become a "Registered Investment Adviser." You must take the 65 for them to use professional management platforms.
. Just a combination of the 63 and 65.
. This test is required to sell commodities futures contracts.
. To sell managed futures funds, you'll need to take this test. It's usually obtained in lieu of the 3.
3-3. If you're in the UK, know that the testing process is completely different.
The Series tests just aren't a thing. Across the pond, you could have either a CFA Society UK Level 4 Certificate in Investment Management, a CISI Level 4 Diploma in Investment Advice, a CISI Level 7 Master's in Wealth Management, a Fellow or Associate of the Faculty or Institute of Actuaries, or a Manchester Metropolitan University BA (Hons) in Financial Services, Planning and Management.
3-4. Handle the piles of paperwork.
After your exams are in the bag, you'll need to complete your registration with FINRA/NFA, and register with the Securities Commission of each state that you plan on working in. Here are the basics:
Pass a background check (anything beyond a minor traffic violation may disqualify you)
Get a fingerprint card
Complete paperwork for both state and federal levels
3-5. Meet quotas and get past your first year.
If only the hard part were over. Now that you're a legitimate broker, you’ve got to meet expectations. Depending on your firm, they'll probably give you six months to a year of a base salary to give you time to build up your clientele. This will be the hardest part. In fact, many take several years before they're really comfortable. It's stressful, but it's worth it.
The majority of people who drop out drop out now. The money doesn't come in like they want to, they're not good salesmen, they can't stand the long hours prospecting, they get dropped because they don't make enough for the firm, whatever. If you can get over this hump, you're golden.
3-6. Take continuing education courses.
In order to maintain your license, you'll need to attend seminars and take continuing education classes. Your employer will facilitate this for you. Just keep up! The market is constantly changing.
4. Succeeding in Your Career
4-1. Build your client base.
Once more, there are three traditional ways you can do this:
Cold calling or door-knocking. You literally grab the phone book (those surprisingly do still exist) and start making phone calls with a smile plastered on your face. You could also get a list of names from the county clerk for a neighborhood and go door-knocking. Yes, dogs may chase you.
A list of possible clients. You can either buy these from a marketing firm or your employer may give them to you. Considerably better than being accused of trespassing.
Going through your own network. Hitting up friends, friends of friends, long lost uncles of friends of friends, joining exchange clubs and various organizations to hit their members, etc.
4-2. Get over the learning curve.
Quite obviously, the stock market is not a 2 + 2 = 4 kind of place. There are a billion factors going on at once that you have to learn to account for. You'll be giving people advice and risking their hard earn money. There's quite a lot to get used to. Quite a lot being a vast understatement, of course.
The amount of money you bring home will increase with each year. The easier your job gets, the more money you'll make, surprisingly enough. It's really getting the ball rolling that's the hardest part.
Initially you'll be working all the time. Whenever you can get to clients, you'll be working. That means nights, weekends, and holidays. But when you have a firm client base, you'll find yourself working 6 hour days and taking time off whenever you need. It just could take years to get there.
4-3. Get used to the constant sales pressure.
You'll be meeting quotas from day one. If you don't get people to cave to your salesmanship, your job is on the line. Until you have a bank of people you can depend on to invest with you, the pressure will be on 24/7. It can be quite a lot for some people.
Again, if you're not a super salesman, a discount broker or bank broker may be more up your alley. Sales is not for everyone. You could also start at a bank or discount, build your network, and then go to a full-service broker.
4-4. Get persuasive.
Your entire job is about getting people to trust you. To trust you with their hard-earned money. That's asking a lot! Not to mention you'll probably be a complete stranger. How are you even going to get your foot in the door?
This is where getting a mentor comes in handy. There are psychological tricks of the trade that all the pros use to keep people from quite literally hanging up on them or banging the door in their faces. Needless to say, you'll develop quite the thick skin.
4-5. Effectively communicate.
Let's put it simply: you're going to know a lot of terms and concepts that the average Joe doesn't. That's how you have a job. Instead of rolling around all those acronyms and concepts that people don't understand, you'll need to get on their level. Can you take everything you know and make accessible to everyone? Hope so!
4-6. Work for an independent broker.
Raymond James or LPL Financial are two examples of independent brokers. They offer virtually every project and their employees see payouts in the range of 80-95% (full-service may start you out at around 40% at the beginning of your career, working your way up slowly but surely).
You need an established client base to do this. A very, very large client base. For this reason, CPAs and tax preparers often have a leg up in this department. It's something to aspire to, for sure. After a while in the game, this is a definite possibility.
Tips
Both FINRA and the NASAA require scores of 70%, except for the Series 7, 63 and 65, which have passing rates of 72%; the Series 66 has a passing score of 75%.[13]
X
Research source
Brokers can also pursue certification as a Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA) after working four years and passing three exams.
Warnings
A stockbroker career is very competitive and stressful, resulting in a high turnover.
Many brokerage firms prefer to hire brokers who have demonstrated success in other financial fields.
Stockbrokers and sales agents often work more than 40 hours per week, including evenings and weekends.
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Getting that dream internship could make your path to being a billionaire a lot easier.\\nThis is your best bet if you're not looking to get your MBA and want to get going as quickly as possible. But know that relaxing is totally a viable option. Plenty of people take a couple of years off, go back to get their MBA and get in the game a little bit later. Also: people are more likely to trust a 28-year-old with their money than a 22-year-old, so feel free to keep that red solo cup and package of ramen in your hand for a second or two more.\\n1-3. Consider getting your MBA.\\nAlright, so having an MBA isn't necessary per se, but if you want to rise to the cream of the crop, having an MBA will put you at the top of that prospective employee stack you're bound to find yourself in eventually. More and more people are getting them, making them par for the course. This step could aid in job advancement, larger signing bonuses, and higher compensation.\\nAgain, feel free to take a few years off between undergrad and your MBA. Getting some viable work experience (even if it's menial labor at a bank or a firm) will make your options grow tenfold as well. Showing that you already have a grasp on what you're doing or want to do will get programs to take you more seriously.\\n1-4. Educate yourself.\\nRead. Watch. Expose yourself. Learn. This is a field where you can very much make yourself better on your own time. So read books! Watch financial news shows. Follow different stocks and see what rises and what falls. While Joe is off breeding ferrets and Jim is playing football, you'll be ensuring that you walk out of school with a six-figure income to start.\\nTry William Bernstein's \\\"The Four Pillars of Investing: Lessons for Building a Winning Portfolio,\\\" or Mark Hebner's \\\"Index Funds: The 12-Step Program for Active Investors.\\\" The Wall Street Journal or NY Times financial section won't hurt either!\\nYou probably know a half a dozen people who at least dabble in investments. Ask them about what they know! The only reason you need an education now is that that's the current academic trend. Back in the day, it was just people who took an active interest in it. So tap into all your resources as soon as you can, as often as you can.\\n1-5. Start your own investment portfolio.\\nWhen you get old enough, start taking care of some of your own money (if you're under 18, it will have to be in your parent's name). Work with a family member who's doing it and see how you can start building proof of your know-how. If you wouldn't trust you with your own money, why should someone else trust you with theirs?!\\n2. Planning Your Future\\n2-1. Consider your options.\\nThere are three paths your career could take:\\n\\n. This would be working at a firm like Merrill Lynch or Morgan Stanley. In order to succeed here, you must be very sales-oriented. They will set you up with a space, get you trained and give you a salary to start off until you pass the trial period.\\n. Charles Schwab or Fidelity are two examples of discount brokers. If you're more service-oriented, this is for you. You will generally always be on salary, making less commission, but mainly assisting those who come to you, buying and selling but not giving advice.\\n\\n This is pretty straightforward -- you work at a bank. The bank's customers come to you to buy fixed annuities and to make other, often more conservative, choices.\\nDiscount brokers generally have to know a little bit about everything (rollovers, stock options, margin accounting, derivatives, bond ladders, etc.), whereas full-service brokers usually specialize in one area, like IRA rollovers or employee stock options.\\nFull-service brokers are responsible for finding their own clients. However, they also are given workspace and a salary to start off. With discount brokers, you pay your overhead costs and make less commission. It's really a give and take.\\n2-2. Research firms.\\nIf you've narrowed it down to what type of broker you want to be, you'll still need to decide on which firms you want to apply to. Just like a pair of pants (one that you'll be wearing for decades), it needs to fit you just right. The main thing to consider? Size.\\nA big firm can often offer you a competitive training package, making you feel more firm in your grounding and alleviate your financial start-up woes. However, you may feel like you're a teeny fish drowning in a large pond.\\nA small firm can give you the attention you desire and feel more personable (in addition to offering a higher commission rate), but they may not be able to offer you the clientele or training of a larger program.\\n2-3. Get trained at a firm.\\nYou'll need to get a few months' on-the-job training before you can take your license and be a full-fledged stockbroker, but you can still get to work. It all depends on where you're employed. Some may call it an internship, some will just consider it pre-training, some will offer more money than others. Whatever form yours takes, it's a necessary step pre-examination.\\n3. Getting Fully Qualified\\n3-1. Take your mandatory exams.\\nThere are two basic tests you must take:\\n\\n. Formally known as the General Securities Registered Representative Examination. This test is given by the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA) and is the most difficult test you will take (lasting 6 hours). After passing it, you'll be a \\\"registered representative,\\\" or stockbroker. You have the authority to sell all securities and investments except for real estate, life insurance, and commodities futures. It costs $290.00 currently.\\n\\n. This one is just about conducting business and the various laws that govern transactions. It's a lot shorter (75 minutes) and much easier. This one costs $96.00\\n3-2. Consider taking other exams to specialize.\\nThey're not exactly necessary, but they do make it so nothing is off-limits to you. Those exceptions mentioned in the Series 7? Those go away once these tests are passed.\\n\\n. Your firm may require you to become a \\\"Registered Investment Adviser.\\\" You must take the 65 for them to use professional management platforms.\\n. Just a combination of the 63 and 65.\\n. This test is required to sell commodities futures contracts.\\n. To sell managed futures funds, you'll need to take this test. It's usually obtained in lieu of the 3.\\n3-3. If you're in the UK, know that the testing process is completely different.\\nThe Series tests just aren't a thing. Across the pond, you could have either a CFA Society UK Level 4 Certificate in Investment Management, a CISI Level 4 Diploma in Investment Advice, a CISI Level 7 Master's in Wealth Management, a Fellow or Associate of the Faculty or Institute of Actuaries, or a Manchester Metropolitan University BA (Hons) in Financial Services, Planning and Management.\\n3-4. Handle the piles of paperwork.\\nAfter your exams are in the bag, you'll need to complete your registration with FINRA/NFA, and register with the Securities Commission of each state that you plan on working in. Here are the basics:\\nPass a background check (anything beyond a minor traffic violation may disqualify you)\\nGet a fingerprint card\\nComplete paperwork for both state and federal levels\\n3-5. Meet quotas and get past your first year.\\nIf only the hard part were over. Now that you're a legitimate broker, you’ve got to meet expectations. Depending on your firm, they'll probably give you six months to a year of a base salary to give you time to build up your clientele. This will be the hardest part. In fact, many take several years before they're really comfortable. It's stressful, but it's worth it.\\nThe majority of people who drop out drop out now. The money doesn't come in like they want to, they're not good salesmen, they can't stand the long hours prospecting, they get dropped because they don't make enough for the firm, whatever. If you can get over this hump, you're golden.\\n3-6. Take continuing education courses.\\nIn order to maintain your license, you'll need to attend seminars and take continuing education classes. Your employer will facilitate this for you. Just keep up! The market is constantly changing.\\n4. Succeeding in Your Career\\n4-1. Build your client base.\\nOnce more, there are three traditional ways you can do this:\\nCold calling or door-knocking. You literally grab the phone book (those surprisingly do still exist) and start making phone calls with a smile plastered on your face. You could also get a list of names from the county clerk for a neighborhood and go door-knocking. Yes, dogs may chase you.\\nA list of possible clients. You can either buy these from a marketing firm or your employer may give them to you. Considerably better than being accused of trespassing.\\nGoing through your own network. Hitting up friends, friends of friends, long lost uncles of friends of friends, joining exchange clubs and various organizations to hit their members, etc.\\n4-2. Get over the learning curve.\\nQuite obviously, the stock market is not a 2 + 2 = 4 kind of place. There are a billion factors going on at once that you have to learn to account for. You'll be giving people advice and risking their hard earn money. There's quite a lot to get used to. Quite a lot being a vast understatement, of course.\\nThe amount of money you bring home will increase with each year. The easier your job gets, the more money you'll make, surprisingly enough. It's really getting the ball rolling that's the hardest part.\\nInitially you'll be working all the time. Whenever you can get to clients, you'll be working. That means nights, weekends, and holidays. But when you have a firm client base, you'll find yourself working 6 hour days and taking time off whenever you need. It just could take years to get there.\\n4-3. Get used to the constant sales pressure.\\nYou'll be meeting quotas from day one. If you don't get people to cave to your salesmanship, your job is on the line. Until you have a bank of people you can depend on to invest with you, the pressure will be on 24/7. It can be quite a lot for some people.\\nAgain, if you're not a super salesman, a discount broker or bank broker may be more up your alley. Sales is not for everyone. You could also start at a bank or discount, build your network, and then go to a full-service broker.\\n4-4. Get persuasive.\\nYour entire job is about getting people to trust you. To trust you with their hard-earned money. That's asking a lot! Not to mention you'll probably be a complete stranger. How are you even going to get your foot in the door?\\nThis is where getting a mentor comes in handy. There are psychological tricks of the trade that all the pros use to keep people from quite literally hanging up on them or banging the door in their faces. Needless to say, you'll develop quite the thick skin.\\n4-5. Effectively communicate.\\nLet's put it simply: you're going to know a lot of terms and concepts that the average Joe doesn't. That's how you have a job. Instead of rolling around all those acronyms and concepts that people don't understand, you'll need to get on their level. Can you take everything you know and make accessible to everyone? Hope so!\\n4-6. Work for an independent broker.\\nRaymond James or LPL Financial are two examples of independent brokers. They offer virtually every project and their employees see payouts in the range of 80-95% (full-service may start you out at around 40% at the beginning of your career, working your way up slowly but surely).\\nYou need an established client base to do this. A very, very large client base. For this reason, CPAs and tax preparers often have a leg up in this department. It's something to aspire to, for sure. After a while in the game, this is a definite possibility.\\nTips\\nBoth FINRA and the NASAA require scores of 70%, except for the Series 7, 63 and 65, which have passing rates of 72%; the Series 66 has a passing score of 75%.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nBrokers can also pursue certification as a Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA) after working four years and passing three exams.\\nWarnings\\nA stockbroker career is very competitive and stressful, resulting in a high turnover.\\nMany brokerage firms prefer to hire brokers who have demonstrated success in other financial fields.\\nStockbrokers and sales agents often work more than 40 hours per week, including evenings and weekends.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Did you just finish watching Wall Street? Well, being a stockbroker doesn't involve that much glitz and glam, but it's pretty awesome. A stockbroker is a financial adviser who counsels clients (corporations or individuals) on appropriate investments to fit their abilities and goals. To be a stockbroker, one must work for a brokerage house -- buying and selling stocks on the stock market is limited to members of the stock exchange. A broker is also known as a securities sales agent or securities and commodities sales agent. Here's everything you need to know!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Started\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go to a good college.\", \"描述\": \"It used to be that anyone with a knack for numbers and a lot of friends could become a successful stockbroker. Not so anymore! If you want to stay competitive, you'll need to get your degree. Economics, finance, mathematics, accounting, or business management are all good fields to get your undergrad degree in. And the better college you go to the more prospects you'll have later in the game!\\nEspecially if you're going to grad school, keep your grades up. The better your grades, the more -- and better -- schools will open up to you. Not to mention knowing what you're doing when you hit the exchange floor!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look into internships.\", \"描述\": \"Some brokerages hire interns during their last year of college. Hit up your campus' \\\"Investment Club\\\" -- or start one if it doesn't yet exist! Getting that dream internship could make your path to being a billionaire a lot easier.\\nThis is your best bet if you're not looking to get your MBA and want to get going as quickly as possible. But know that relaxing is totally a viable option. Plenty of people take a couple of years off, go back to get their MBA and get in the game a little bit later. 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Showing that you already have a grasp on what you're doing or want to do will get programs to take you more seriously.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Read. Watch. Expose yourself. Learn. This is a field where you can very much make yourself better on your own time. So read books! Watch financial news shows. Follow different stocks and see what rises and what falls. While Joe is off breeding ferrets and Jim is playing football, you'll be ensuring that you walk out of school with a six-figure income to start.\\nTry William Bernstein's \\\"The Four Pillars of Investing: Lessons for Building a Winning Portfolio,\\\" or Mark Hebner's \\\"Index Funds: The 12-Step Program for Active Investors.\\\" The Wall Street Journal or NY Times financial section won't hurt either!\\nYou probably know a half a dozen people who at least dabble in investments. Ask them about what they know! The only reason you need an education now is that that's the current academic trend. Back in the day, it was just people who took an active interest in it. So tap into all your resources as soon as you can, as often as you can.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start your own investment portfolio.\", \"描述\": \"When you get old enough, start taking care of some of your own money (if you're under 18, it will have to be in your parent's name). Work with a family member who's doing it and see how you can start building proof of your know-how. If you wouldn't trust you with your own money, why should someone else trust you with theirs?!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Planning Your Future\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Consider your options.\", \"描述\": \"There are three paths your career could take:\\n\\n. This would be working at a firm like Merrill Lynch or Morgan Stanley. In order to succeed here, you must be very sales-oriented. They will set you up with a space, get you trained and give you a salary to start off until you pass the trial period.\\n. Charles Schwab or Fidelity are two examples of discount brokers. If you're more service-oriented, this is for you. You will generally always be on salary, making less commission, but mainly assisting those who come to you, buying and selling but not giving advice.\\n\\n This is pretty straightforward -- you work at a bank. The bank's customers come to you to buy fixed annuities and to make other, often more conservative, choices.\\nDiscount brokers generally have to know a little bit about everything (rollovers, stock options, margin accounting, derivatives, bond ladders, etc.), whereas full-service brokers usually specialize in one area, like IRA rollovers or employee stock options.\\nFull-service brokers are responsible for finding their own clients. However, they also are given workspace and a salary to start off. With discount brokers, you pay your overhead costs and make less commission. 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This test is given by the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA) and is the most difficult test you will take (lasting 6 hours). After passing it, you'll be a \\\"registered representative,\\\" or stockbroker. You have the authority to sell all securities and investments except for real estate, life insurance, and commodities futures. It costs $290.00 currently.\\n\\n. This one is just about conducting business and the various laws that govern transactions. It's a lot shorter (75 minutes) and much easier. This one costs $96.00\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider taking other exams to specialize.\", \"描述\": \"They're not exactly necessary, but they do make it so nothing is off-limits to you. Those exceptions mentioned in the Series 7? Those go away once these tests are passed.\\n\\n. Your firm may require you to become a \\\"Registered Investment Adviser.\\\" You must take the 65 for them to use professional management platforms.\\n. Just a combination of the 63 and 65.\\n. This test is required to sell commodities futures contracts.\\n. To sell managed futures funds, you'll need to take this test. It's usually obtained in lieu of the 3.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"If you're in the UK, know that the testing process is completely different.\", \"描述\": \"The Series tests just aren't a thing. Across the pond, you could have either a CFA Society UK Level 4 Certificate in Investment Management, a CISI Level 4 Diploma in Investment Advice, a CISI Level 7 Master's in Wealth Management, a Fellow or Associate of the Faculty or Institute of Actuaries, or a Manchester Metropolitan University BA (Hons) in Financial Services, Planning and Management.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Handle the piles of paperwork.\", \"描述\": \"After your exams are in the bag, you'll need to complete your registration with FINRA/NFA, and register with the Securities Commission of each state that you plan on working in. Here are the basics:\\nPass a background check (anything beyond a minor traffic violation may disqualify you)\\nGet a fingerprint card\\nComplete paperwork for both state and federal levels\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Meet quotas and get past your first year.\", \"描述\": \"If only the hard part were over. Now that you're a legitimate broker, you’ve got to meet expectations. Depending on your firm, they'll probably give you six months to a year of a base salary to give you time to build up your clientele. This will be the hardest part. In fact, many take several years before they're really comfortable. It's stressful, but it's worth it.\\nThe majority of people who drop out drop out now. The money doesn't come in like they want to, they're not good salesmen, they can't stand the long hours prospecting, they get dropped because they don't make enough for the firm, whatever. If you can get over this hump, you're golden.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take continuing education courses.\", \"描述\": \"In order to maintain your license, you'll need to attend seminars and take continuing education classes. Your employer will facilitate this for you. Just keep up! The market is constantly changing.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Succeeding in Your Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build your client base.\", \"描述\": \"Once more, there are three traditional ways you can do this:\\nCold calling or door-knocking. You literally grab the phone book (those surprisingly do still exist) and start making phone calls with a smile plastered on your face. You could also get a list of names from the county clerk for a neighborhood and go door-knocking. Yes, dogs may chase you.\\nA list of possible clients. You can either buy these from a marketing firm or your employer may give them to you. Considerably better than being accused of trespassing.\\nGoing through your own network. Hitting up friends, friends of friends, long lost uncles of friends of friends, joining exchange clubs and various organizations to hit their members, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get over the learning curve.\", \"描述\": \"Quite obviously, the stock market is not a 2 + 2 = 4 kind of place. There are a billion factors going on at once that you have to learn to account for. You'll be giving people advice and risking their hard earn money. There's quite a lot to get used to. Quite a lot being a vast understatement, of course.\\nThe amount of money you bring home will increase with each year. The easier your job gets, the more money you'll make, surprisingly enough. It's really getting the ball rolling that's the hardest part.\\nInitially you'll be working all the time. Whenever you can get to clients, you'll be working. That means nights, weekends, and holidays. But when you have a firm client base, you'll find yourself working 6 hour days and taking time off whenever you need. It just could take years to get there.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get used to the constant sales pressure.\", \"描述\": \"You'll be meeting quotas from day one. If you don't get people to cave to your salesmanship, your job is on the line. Until you have a bank of people you can depend on to invest with you, the pressure will be on 24/7. It can be quite a lot for some people.\\nAgain, if you're not a super salesman, a discount broker or bank broker may be more up your alley. Sales is not for everyone. You could also start at a bank or discount, build your network, and then go to a full-service broker.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get persuasive.\", \"描述\": \"Your entire job is about getting people to trust you. To trust you with their hard-earned money. That's asking a lot! Not to mention you'll probably be a complete stranger. How are you even going to get your foot in the door?\\nThis is where getting a mentor comes in handy. There are psychological tricks of the trade that all the pros use to keep people from quite literally hanging up on them or banging the door in their faces. Needless to say, you'll develop quite the thick skin.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Effectively communicate.\", \"描述\": \"Let's put it simply: you're going to know a lot of terms and concepts that the average Joe doesn't. That's how you have a job. Instead of rolling around all those acronyms and concepts that people don't understand, you'll need to get on their level. Can you take everything you know and make accessible to everyone? Hope so!\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Work for an independent broker.\", \"描述\": \"Raymond James or LPL Financial are two examples of independent brokers. They offer virtually every project and their employees see payouts in the range of 80-95% (full-service may start you out at around 40% at the beginning of your career, working your way up slowly but surely).\\nYou need an established client base to do this. A very, very large client base. For this reason, CPAs and tax preparers often have a leg up in this department. It's something to aspire to, for sure. After a while in the game, this is a definite possibility.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Both FINRA and the NASAA require scores of 70%, except for the Series 7, 63 and 65, which have passing rates of 72%; the Series 66 has a passing score of 75%.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Brokers can also pursue certification as a Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA) after working four years and passing three exams.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"A stockbroker career is very competitive and stressful, resulting in a high turnover.\\n\", \"Many brokerage firms prefer to hire brokers who have demonstrated success in other financial fields.\\n\", \"Stockbrokers and sales agents often work more than 40 hours per week, including evenings and weekends.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Learning the Music
1-1. Choose an instrument that you already play for your performance.
People on the street are more likely to stop if you're playing an instrument well and can make it sound good. If you already know how to play a specific instrument, then focus your time and energy practicing your technique so you can get a better sound and play more fluidly. Try different playing techniques so you can continue to learn and master your instrument.
You can play music on the street with any instrument you want as long as you're able to play it well.
1-2. Play a loud instrument so people can hear you over other noises.
Smaller instruments, like the ukulele and violin, may not cut through the sound of a large crowd or a busy street so it may be difficult to hear. If you don't already play an instrument, find something that makes a loud noise, such as a trumpet, saxophone, drum, or electric guitar. Learn the instrument as well as you can so you can perform well when you find a place to set up.
If you're unfamiliar with the instrument, consider taking lessons so you can learn proper techniques.
1-3. Sing if you don't know how to play an instrument.
If you can't play an instrument and aren't able to find one, you can always sing instead. Look for a microphone and a small amp you can use while you're performing so your voice stands out from the rest of the crowd. Practice singing your favorite songs as well as scales so you can improve your vocal control and technique.
You don't need a microphone to sing on the street if you already have a loud and strong voice.
See if other performers want to get together so you can form a street band.
1-4. Learn popular music that a lot of people will recognize.
Popular music is easily recognizable and makes it easier for a crowd to jam along with you. See what songs are currently popular on the radio so you can find the chords and lyrics for them. Look for classic songs that many people would know as well, such as hits from the 80s and 90s, so people can sing along and grow more interested in your performance.
If you're playing a percussion instrument like drums, then you may not be able to play popular music as well as someone who can play guitar or sing. Instead, you may practice difficult rhythms from songs you already know or play your drums along to music in the background.
1-5. Plan at least an hour of songs to play so your material stays fresh.
When people hear you play the same song over and over again, they're less likely to watch or tip. Make sure you prepare a variety of songs to play so you're able to keep playing without repeating any. Write down all of the songs you know and organize them however you want so they flow well into one another.
It's okay to start repeating songs if the crowd you originally played them for has already left.
2. Finding the Right Location
2-1. Get a permit or license from the city if it requires one.
Some cities require a busking, or street performing, license before you're able to play your instrument legally public. Check your local laws online to see if you need to fill out an application for the permit. Submit the application along with the payment required and wait to hear back from the city. If they approve your permit, then you can start playing whenever you want to.
Some cities don't require busking licenses at all so you're able to play without getting in any trouble.
You may need to renew your permit yearly, but it depends on where you live.
Don't play your instrument on the street if you haven't gotten a permit since you could get fined.
2-2. Choose a busy place in your city to set up so the most people can hear you.
Check for areas that have a lot of tourists, bars, restaurants, or people walking around since they'll have the most foot traffic. Scope out a few different places around the city so you have options to choose from and can try out new locations. Write down a few of the locations and how many performers you see in the area so you can figure out what sort of competition you have.
Set up your space away from other street performers so you don't interfere with them.
2-3. Wait until evenings or weekends to perform to get the most foot traffic.
Streets don't usually get busy throughout the day unless it's a weekend or after normal work hours. Wait until at least 4 or 5 PM on the weekdays before choosing a place to set up so you don't waste time on empty streets. Depending on the businesses in your area, you may be able to have foot traffic late in the night. Check out the busy places in your city at different times during the weekends and evenings to see when they're the busiest.
Days before and after holidays may also be busy since people may have off of work or school.
2-4. Ask businesses if it's okay for you to play in front of them.
Even though you have a permit from the city, be courteous to the businesses you set up next to and ask them if they're okay with you performing. If they are okay with your performance, then you can set up outside so you don't block the door or the rest of the sidewalk. If they aren't okay with it, then smile and thank them anyway before finding a new location.
Don't argue with any businesses if they don't want you to play so you don't get in any trouble.
If you need to plug in any microphones or amps, ask if they have an available outlet that you could plug into.
3. Performing Your Set
3-1. Place a large tray or bucket in front of you for tips.
Use a container that's large enough to hold your money throughout the night so it doesn't overflow. Make sure the tray is deep enough where money won't blow away in the wind. Place the tray in front of the area where you're performing and label it “Tips” or something similar so people know where to put their money.
Put a bit of cash in your container before you play to make it look like others have already seen you perform so more people are likely to tip you.
Remove any large bills or big wads of cash as soon as you can so it's less likely to get stolen.
3-2. Play your music loudly so people are drawn to your performance.
Stand up straight so you're visible while you're performing. Turn up the volume or play the instrument as loud as possible to cut through the noise of the crowd and make your music more prominent. Check that you stay in tune and sound good from a distance so people are more likely to be drawn toward you.
Singing or playing loudly may put stress on your voice and instrument, so take frequent breaks and stay hydrated.
3-3. Take popular song requests if you know a lot of songs.
If you know a lot of popular songs, interact with your crowd to see what they want to hear next. Listen to their suggestions and songs that you're able to play and haven't done recently in your set. Be enthusiastic about the song while you're playing it and involve the crowd while you sing to get them excited and more likely to leave a tip.
Don't ask for suggestions from the audience if you do not know a lot of songs.
3-4. Thank your audience no matter how the performance went.
Once you finish a song, thank the crowd for listening to your music and let you know that you appreciate them spending time listening to you. Let the crowd know that you have a container for tips if they enjoyed your performance. Tell them that you're going to be playing for a little longer if they want to stay and listen.
Always say thank you when a person gives you a tip to show that you're grateful.
Tips
Have fun while you're performing! Other people will be more likely to watch or tip if they see that you're enjoying your performance as well.
Warnings
Always be respectful if you're asked to leave a location so you don't get in trouble.
Don't perform on the street without a permit if your city requires one since you may need to pay a fine otherwise.
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Learn the instrument as well as you can so you can perform well when you find a place to set up.\\nIf you're unfamiliar with the instrument, consider taking lessons so you can learn proper techniques.\\n1-3. Sing if you don't know how to play an instrument.\\nIf you can't play an instrument and aren't able to find one, you can always sing instead. Look for a microphone and a small amp you can use while you're performing so your voice stands out from the rest of the crowd. Practice singing your favorite songs as well as scales so you can improve your vocal control and technique.\\nYou don't need a microphone to sing on the street if you already have a loud and strong voice.\\nSee if other performers want to get together so you can form a street band.\\n1-4. Learn popular music that a lot of people will recognize.\\nPopular music is easily recognizable and makes it easier for a crowd to jam along with you. See what songs are currently popular on the radio so you can find the chords and lyrics for them. Look for classic songs that many people would know as well, such as hits from the 80s and 90s, so people can sing along and grow more interested in your performance.\\nIf you're playing a percussion instrument like drums, then you may not be able to play popular music as well as someone who can play guitar or sing. Instead, you may practice difficult rhythms from songs you already know or play your drums along to music in the background.\\n1-5. Plan at least an hour of songs to play so your material stays fresh.\\nWhen people hear you play the same song over and over again, they're less likely to watch or tip. Make sure you prepare a variety of songs to play so you're able to keep playing without repeating any. Write down all of the songs you know and organize them however you want so they flow well into one another.\\nIt's okay to start repeating songs if the crowd you originally played them for has already left.\\n2. Finding the Right Location\\n2-1. Get a permit or license from the city if it requires one.\\nSome cities require a busking, or street performing, license before you're able to play your instrument legally public. Check your local laws online to see if you need to fill out an application for the permit. Submit the application along with the payment required and wait to hear back from the city. If they approve your permit, then you can start playing whenever you want to.\\nSome cities don't require busking licenses at all so you're able to play without getting in any trouble.\\nYou may need to renew your permit yearly, but it depends on where you live.\\nDon't play your instrument on the street if you haven't gotten a permit since you could get fined.\\n2-2. Choose a busy place in your city to set up so the most people can hear you.\\nCheck for areas that have a lot of tourists, bars, restaurants, or people walking around since they'll have the most foot traffic. Scope out a few different places around the city so you have options to choose from and can try out new locations. Write down a few of the locations and how many performers you see in the area so you can figure out what sort of competition you have.\\nSet up your space away from other street performers so you don't interfere with them.\\n2-3. Wait until evenings or weekends to perform to get the most foot traffic.\\nStreets don't usually get busy throughout the day unless it's a weekend or after normal work hours. Wait until at least 4 or 5 PM on the weekdays before choosing a place to set up so you don't waste time on empty streets. Depending on the businesses in your area, you may be able to have foot traffic late in the night. Check out the busy places in your city at different times during the weekends and evenings to see when they're the busiest.\\nDays before and after holidays may also be busy since people may have off of work or school.\\n2-4. Ask businesses if it's okay for you to play in front of them.\\nEven though you have a permit from the city, be courteous to the businesses you set up next to and ask them if they're okay with you performing. If they are okay with your performance, then you can set up outside so you don't block the door or the rest of the sidewalk. If they aren't okay with it, then smile and thank them anyway before finding a new location.\\nDon't argue with any businesses if they don't want you to play so you don't get in any trouble.\\nIf you need to plug in any microphones or amps, ask if they have an available outlet that you could plug into.\\n3. Performing Your Set\\n3-1. Place a large tray or bucket in front of you for tips.\\nUse a container that's large enough to hold your money throughout the night so it doesn't overflow. Make sure the tray is deep enough where money won't blow away in the wind. Place the tray in front of the area where you're performing and label it “Tips” or something similar so people know where to put their money.\\nPut a bit of cash in your container before you play to make it look like others have already seen you perform so more people are likely to tip you.\\nRemove any large bills or big wads of cash as soon as you can so it's less likely to get stolen.\\n3-2. Play your music loudly so people are drawn to your performance.\\nStand up straight so you're visible while you're performing. Turn up the volume or play the instrument as loud as possible to cut through the noise of the crowd and make your music more prominent. Check that you stay in tune and sound good from a distance so people are more likely to be drawn toward you.\\nSinging or playing loudly may put stress on your voice and instrument, so take frequent breaks and stay hydrated.\\n3-3. Take popular song requests if you know a lot of songs.\\nIf you know a lot of popular songs, interact with your crowd to see what they want to hear next. Listen to their suggestions and songs that you're able to play and haven't done recently in your set. Be enthusiastic about the song while you're playing it and involve the crowd while you sing to get them excited and more likely to leave a tip.\\nDon't ask for suggestions from the audience if you do not know a lot of songs.\\n3-4. Thank your audience no matter how the performance went.\\nOnce you finish a song, thank the crowd for listening to your music and let you know that you appreciate them spending time listening to you. Let the crowd know that you have a container for tips if they enjoyed your performance. Tell them that you're going to be playing for a little longer if they want to stay and listen.\\nAlways say thank you when a person gives you a tip to show that you're grateful.\\nTips\\nHave fun while you're performing! Other people will be more likely to watch or tip if they see that you're enjoying your performance as well.\\nWarnings\\nAlways be respectful if you're asked to leave a location so you don't get in trouble.\\nDon't perform on the street without a permit if your city requires one since you may need to pay a fine otherwise.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Playing music on the street is a great way to earn money on the side and have fun doing it. On a night with a lot of foot traffic, you can make close to $100 USD if the crowd likes you. When you want to start performing, choose an instrument that's loud enough for people to hear and learn songs they can sing along to. After you find a place to perform, set up for the crowd and start playing your tunes.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning the Music\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose an instrument that you already play for your performance.\", \"描述\": \"People on the street are more likely to stop if you're playing an instrument well and can make it sound good. If you already know how to play a specific instrument, then focus your time and energy practicing your technique so you can get a better sound and play more fluidly. Try different playing techniques so you can continue to learn and master your instrument.\\nYou can play music on the street with any instrument you want as long as you're able to play it well.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Play a loud instrument so people can hear you over other noises.\", \"描述\": \"Smaller instruments, like the ukulele and violin, may not cut through the sound of a large crowd or a busy street so it may be difficult to hear. 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1. Setting Rules
1-1. Make it clear what the rules are.
When you set rules, explain them to the entire household. You can even post certain rules on the fridge. This will help your children understand how to act in the house and why you are disciplining them when they get in trouble. Children should realize that they are in trouble because of their bad behavior. Some good rules to set include:
Hold an adult’s hand while you cross the street. Don’t go near the stove while someone is cooking.
Always say please and thank you. Wait your turn in line.
Share your toys. Don’t push other kids. Don't call other people names.
Put away toys when you are done with them. Don’t touch the thermostat. Clean your dishes when you are done with them.
Be home by curfew. Call if you will be late. Get permission if you are going to a friend’s house after school. No drinking alcohol.
1-2. Establish responsibilities in the household.
Everybody in the household should contribute in some way. You can do this by setting up a chore wheel in the kitchen or by giving everybody a certain responsibility in the house. In addition to cleaning their own rooms, children should help with the house chores. Even toddlers can do age-appropriate chores, such as picking up toys and clothes from the floor. It is up to you whether or not you pay your children an allowance for their chores. Chores include:
Keeping their bedroom(s) clean and neat
Feeding pets
Washing the dishes after dinner
Washing their own clothes
Dusting and vacuuming
Mowing the lawn
1-3. Enforce rules consistently.
When your children break a rule, they should be disciplined. Do not let them off the hook once but punish them another time. This will make your rules seem flexible or negotiable. For minor rule breaks, a firm talking may solve the issue, but you should still remind them that the rules are in place for a reason.
While consistency is good, you might change the discipline if your child has been honest with you about breaking a rule. Explain to them that you appreciate them coming to you. This is especially important with teenagers, so that they are willing to come to you when they are in trouble.
1-4. Respect your spouse’s rules.
If you are raising your children with your spouse, be sure that they agree with your rules. They should also enforce these same rules. If children realize that one parent is more lenient than another, they will start to find loopholes in the house rules. If your spouse establishes a certain rule, you should enforce it as well.
If you are divorced or if your child’s other parent has a separate household, you should both agree on some common rules. Establish what rules are the most important. This will give your children some consistency. If you cannot agree on rules, you should ask a counselor to mediate for you.
1-5. Re-evaluate the rules.
As your children grow up, they need different rules and responsibilities. You may even decide to trust them with more liberties than they had when they were younger. Periodically, examine your household rules and whether they are working or not. Adjust them as needed.
Make sure to explain rule changes to children. You might say, "Now that you are older, I expect that you will help take care of the dog more" or "Since you can drive now, I want you to know that you have a new curfew of 9 o clock."
2. Disciplining Children
2-1. Use a calm, firm voice.
You can raise your voice, but avoid yelling at your children. You will find that you are becoming more upset than they are. Instead, use a stern but level tone that indicates you are not pleased. This will demonstrate that you are in control.
If you are upset, angry, or unable to keep calm, do not discipline your child yet. Find a quiet, safe room where you can become level-headed first. With very young children, however, you may need to discipline them immediately.
2-2. Show them the consequences of their actions.
Effective discipline shows children that their actions have consequences. This will prepare them for the difficult choices they may have to make later in life. There are two types of consequence-based punishment. These are:
When your children break a rule, you create a consequence by punishing them. This is effective on young children under the age of five who might not yet realize the effect of their actions. For example, if your toddler throws a tantrum, put them in time-out.
In non-dangerous situations, you let your children make a mistake and learn from the consequences that occur as a result. You can start doing this when your child is a toddler up through their teens. For example, if an older child does not do their homework, do not help them with it. Instead, let them get in trouble at school. After school, discuss with them the effect of their actions, and let them know that you expect better from them in the future.
2-3. Take away games, toys, and privileges.
If your children consistently break the rules, you should take away something they enjoy for a brief period of time. Do this immediately after they break the rule. Only take away the privilege for a certain period of time. When you return it, make it clear that if they misbehave again, it will be taken away again.
For younger children, you might threaten to take away a bedtime story or morning cartoons.
Older children might respond better if you temporarily take away a video game console or TV time.
If you have a teenager, you might want to take away their cell phone and Internet access for non-school related matters.
Never take away something the child needs. For example, do not take away meals, but you can take away desserts.
While you might sometimes put your child in time-outs during special events, make sure that your child can still socialize, even when they misbehave. Childhood is an important time to learn social skills.
2-4. Put younger children in time out.
Set a certain area in your house to be the official “time out” spot. Warn your children that they will be put there if they do not follow the rules. When they do get sent there, set a time limit. One minute per year of age is a good measure. Do not let them leave before the time is up.
2-5. Ground teenagers.
For teenagers, being grounded is the social equivalent of time out. You have taken away their ability to go out with friends. This can be effective to discipline your teenager if done correctly. Set a reasonable time period that they will be grounded for. They should not be grounded for more than a few days.
If your teenager has a birthday party or a dance coming up, warn them that their bad behavior may prevent them from going. If they want to go, they will have to make it up to you, either by taking on more chores or writing an apologetic letter to you.
Do not strip away all of their privileges at once. You may find your teenager is acting out more because they have nothing left to lose.
3. Communicating With Your Children
3-1. Explain why your rules are important.
Children are not born with an innate sense of rules. They may not understand why you have such rules in place. Explain that you are trying to teach them important lessons about the world. Let them know in a kind manner that you love them, which is why you want them to help them learn how to survive in life.
You can say, “We have rules in this house because we love you and we want you to be successful. You will always find that there are rules in life, and it’s important for you to learn how to live by them.”
3-2. Learn to say no.
Children and teenagers often like to test their boundaries. They may plead or cry, but you should be firm in saying no when you do not want them to do or have something. If they respond with a tantrum, stand firm. Do not give in, or else you reward their behavior.
Instead of telling your children that they cannot do or have something, tell them instead what they can do. For example, instead of saying, “No ice cream before dinner,” say, “you can have an apple instead.”
You might try to explain why you said no. For example, “You have to wear your coat outside, or you could get sick.”
You can explain the reason why you said no once or twice, but do not repeat yourself constantly if your child keeps asking.
Older children might try to reason with you to convince you to change your mind. If they are respectful and rational, you might consider giving in. This does not make you weak. Rather, it rewards them for reacting in a mature manner instead of throwing a fit.
3-3. Use positive reinforcement.
When your children do something right, praise them. They will quickly learn what acceptable behavior is. Your children will associate good behavior with positive attention. Furthermore, by not constantly scolding them, you will develop a stronger relationship with your child.
For example, when they say please and thank you to a server at a restaurant, you can say, “I’m so proud of your good manners.”
You can also give your child rewards when they have done well. For example, you can say, "I'm so proud of how well you have been doing in school that I am going to take you out to ice cream."
3-4. Avoid name calling.
Being a strict mom does not mean you have to insult or swear at your child. Name calling can be harmful to a child’s self-esteem, and it will not encourage them to improve their attitude.
If you feel yourself getting irrationally angry at your children, try to calm yourself down. Take a deep breath. Count to five before speaking to your child. Leave the room for a few minutes if you need to.
Tips
Be consistent in how you apply the rules. Do not punish one child for something if another child got away with it.
Always discuss with your children why they are being disciplined. Let them know how they can avoid this in the future. Remind them that you still love them.
Warnings
Do not let your anger get the best of you. Remember that you are in control at all times.
Do not use physical punishment. There are many long-term effects that can negatively impact your child. It may also be considered child abuse in some areas.
If your older children are sneaking out or if you suspect that they have started abusing drugs or alcohol, you may wish to start speaking to a family counselor for help.
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Establish responsibilities in the household.\\nEverybody in the household should contribute in some way. You can do this by setting up a chore wheel in the kitchen or by giving everybody a certain responsibility in the house. In addition to cleaning their own rooms, children should help with the house chores. Even toddlers can do age-appropriate chores, such as picking up toys and clothes from the floor. It is up to you whether or not you pay your children an allowance for their chores. Chores include:\\nKeeping their bedroom(s) clean and neat\\nFeeding pets\\nWashing the dishes after dinner\\nWashing their own clothes\\nDusting and vacuuming\\nMowing the lawn\\n1-3. Enforce rules consistently.\\nWhen your children break a rule, they should be disciplined. Do not let them off the hook once but punish them another time. This will make your rules seem flexible or negotiable. For minor rule breaks, a firm talking may solve the issue, but you should still remind them that the rules are in place for a reason.\\nWhile consistency is good, you might change the discipline if your child has been honest with you about breaking a rule. Explain to them that you appreciate them coming to you. This is especially important with teenagers, so that they are willing to come to you when they are in trouble.\\n1-4. Respect your spouse’s rules.\\nIf you are raising your children with your spouse, be sure that they agree with your rules. They should also enforce these same rules. If children realize that one parent is more lenient than another, they will start to find loopholes in the house rules. If your spouse establishes a certain rule, you should enforce it as well.\\nIf you are divorced or if your child’s other parent has a separate household, you should both agree on some common rules. Establish what rules are the most important. This will give your children some consistency. If you cannot agree on rules, you should ask a counselor to mediate for you.\\n1-5. Re-evaluate the rules.\\nAs your children grow up, they need different rules and responsibilities. You may even decide to trust them with more liberties than they had when they were younger. Periodically, examine your household rules and whether they are working or not. Adjust them as needed.\\nMake sure to explain rule changes to children. You might say, \\\"Now that you are older, I expect that you will help take care of the dog more\\\" or \\\"Since you can drive now, I want you to know that you have a new curfew of 9 o clock.\\\"\\n2. Disciplining Children\\n2-1. Use a calm, firm voice.\\nYou can raise your voice, but avoid yelling at your children. You will find that you are becoming more upset than they are. Instead, use a stern but level tone that indicates you are not pleased. 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You can start doing this when your child is a toddler up through their teens. For example, if an older child does not do their homework, do not help them with it. Instead, let them get in trouble at school. After school, discuss with them the effect of their actions, and let them know that you expect better from them in the future.\\n2-3. Take away games, toys, and privileges.\\nIf your children consistently break the rules, you should take away something they enjoy for a brief period of time. Do this immediately after they break the rule. Only take away the privilege for a certain period of time. 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For example, instead of saying, “No ice cream before dinner,” say, “you can have an apple instead.”\\nYou might try to explain why you said no. For example, “You have to wear your coat outside, or you could get sick.”\\nYou can explain the reason why you said no once or twice, but do not repeat yourself constantly if your child keeps asking.\\nOlder children might try to reason with you to convince you to change your mind. If they are respectful and rational, you might consider giving in. This does not make you weak. Rather, it rewards them for reacting in a mature manner instead of throwing a fit.\\n3-3. Use positive reinforcement.\\nWhen your children do something right, praise them. They will quickly learn what acceptable behavior is. Your children will associate good behavior with positive attention. Furthermore, by not constantly scolding them, you will develop a stronger relationship with your child.\\nFor example, when they say please and thank you to a server at a restaurant, you can say, “I’m so proud of your good manners.”\\nYou can also give your child rewards when they have done well. For example, you can say, \\\"I'm so proud of how well you have been doing in school that I am going to take you out to ice cream.\\\"\\n3-4. Avoid name calling.\\nBeing a strict mom does not mean you have to insult or swear at your child. Name calling can be harmful to a child’s self-esteem, and it will not encourage them to improve their attitude.\\nIf you feel yourself getting irrationally angry at your children, try to calm yourself down. Take a deep breath. Count to five before speaking to your child. Leave the room for a few minutes if you need to.\\nTips\\nBe consistent in how you apply the rules. Do not punish one child for something if another child got away with it.\\nAlways discuss with your children why they are being disciplined. Let them know how they can avoid this in the future. Remind them that you still love them.\\nWarnings\\nDo not let your anger get the best of you. Remember that you are in control at all times.\\nDo not use physical punishment. There are many long-term effects that can negatively impact your child. It may also be considered child abuse in some areas.\\nIf your older children are sneaking out or if you suspect that they have started abusing drugs or alcohol, you may wish to start speaking to a family counselor for help.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A strict mom enforces rules so that their children grow up to be respectful, polite, and successful. You need set clear rules in the household with consistent disciplinary action if your children break the rules. Being strict is not just about discipline, however. 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1. Practicing Assertiveness
1-1. Put your basic needs first.
When you notice yourself needing something whether it is intimacy, affection, or attention, give yourself what you need. If you need attention, take a day to pamper yourself in some way or reach out to someone you love. If you need intimacy, spend time writing in a journal or exploring nature. If you need affection, give yourself affection by thinking about what you love about yourself or taking yourself out for dinner and a movie. The more easily you can meet your own emotional needs, the healthier your relationships will be because you will know and understand yourself and be better able to express yourself to your partner.
It's great to take care of other people. But don't let that take away from your own core needs. You can't pour from an empty cup, and you can't help others if you aren't taking care of yourself.
1-2. Don't compare yourself to other women.
Having a female role model to look up to is great. Just be careful that you don’t fall into jealousy. Although jealousy is natural to some degree, western society tends to exacerbate female jealousy through advertisements and films that feature unrealistic standards.
Remember, it's not fair to compare someone else's highlights reel to your bloopers. Every woman struggles with something behind the scenes.
This jealousy and “catty-ness” is called "relational aggression." Studies have shown that media plays an important role in modeling relational aggression in women. Women who are victims of relational aggression are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem and feel rejected and lonely. The result is a culture of women who feel insecure and unhappy with themselves.
Recognize when you experience jealousy. The first step to overcoming jealousy is to recognize when you are experiencing it. If you find yourself reading a magazine and comparing your own body to those of the models, stop for a moment. Do you compare everyone you see in the street to magazine models? Probably not, so spare yourself that judgment too. Models are people who happen to have features that make a good fit for what magazines are looking for, and they are people who are dedicating their lives to modeling as a job. They are no "better" or "worse" than you.
1-3. Set clear boundaries
Set clear boundaries that prioritize your own needs. For example, set boundaries with regards to as how much time you spend with someone, or the kinds of criticisms you are not willing to hear. Be sure you have other things going on in your life outside of any romantic relationship, whether it is school, work, friends, a fitness routine, or your family.
Set clear boundaries with the individual and communicate to this person your need to be your own independent person. Once the boundaries have been discussed, stick to them.
1-4. Stand up for yourself
Whether you are a man or a woman, you will have to learn to fend for yourself in the real world if you want to avoid being taken advantage of. You must learn how to stand up for yourself at school, at work, and in your social life. Work on asserting yourself. Don’t be ashamed or apologetic about asserting yourself. Assertiveness is the middle ground between passivity and aggression.
People who are effectively assertive are more happy in relationships and have higher self-esteem.
Use “I” statements. These types of statements are less accusatory, and instead they convey that you are taking responsibility for your own actions and feelings. For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” you can say, “I feel ignored when you constantly check your phone while talking to me.”
Learn to say no. Put your own needs first instead of always trying to accommodate other people first. If someone keeps asking to borrow money, for example, you can decline their request. If a friend keeps borrowing your car, you can tell her that the car is not available for her anymore.
1-5. Believe in yourself.
When you believe in your abilities and your achievements, then you will convey strength. Pursue what you need and want. When you lack confidence or play the victim, you risk letting others walk all over you instead of getting what you need and want.
1-6. Let people know when they have hurt your feelings.
If somebody betrays you in any way, be sure to let him or her know. It can be difficult to share your emotions, especially when you feel hurt or angry. But telling the other person how you feel may help prevent the person from repeating the behavior in the future.
For example, you might say, “I felt hurt when you said my article was biased. I'd be happy to listen and incorporate feedback, but I can't do anything with name-calling.”
1-7. Address disrespectful and offensive comments.
If you hear somebody making a sexist, racist, or otherwise disrespectful comment, don't let it slide. This doesn't necessarily mean engaging in an argument. Calmly tell the person that what he or she said is not appreciated.
"Please don't talk about other women like that."
"Could we please avoid negative comments about Muslims?"
"I'm leaving. I don't participate in conversations with that type of demeaning language."
"Why do you feel that way?"
1-8. Learn to recognize codependency.
If you are co-dependent, you might find that the relationship defines your life. You might obsessively think about the other person and wait to make a decision until you’ve checked with him or her. Strive to overcome codependency by staying alert for the following signs:
Low self-esteem
People pleasing
Poor boundaries
Reactivity
Caretaking
Control
Dysfunctional communication
Obsessions
Dependency
Denial
Problems with intimacy
Painful emotions.
1-9. Embrace the uniqueness of yourself and others.
Try to cultivate compassion and happiness for the fact that everyone is talented and gifted in her own way, including you! Every woman has her own best assets, whether it is her math skills, painting abilities, or leadership skills. Embrace the skills and resources you have and love yourself for having them.
If you think someone is talented, let them know.
2. Taking Charge of Your Sexuality
2-1. Learn to be comfortable with your body, the way it is right now.
A lot of women have some degree of discomfort with how they look physically, especially when naked. It can be difficult to become more comfortable with how you look, but try focusing on a part of your body that you like. Think about different parts of your body and how they look right for your body.
Focus less on what your body looks like, and more on what it can do.
If your partner is critical of how you look, assert yourself by telling them that you find their comments unsupportive.
2-2. Communicate your needs and wants to your partner.
This includes both emotional and physical things. Loving yourself and honoring your sexuality means telling your partner what you like and what is off limits.
You can say something like, “I like when you touch me there,” or “I like when we cuddle after sex.”
If something is uncomfortable, say so. "I'm not comfortable with that" or "That hurts" are very reasonable things to say.
2-3. Honor your sexuality.
Don't be ashamed of wanting to have a sexual side. Empower yourself to embrace your own sexuality in whatever form it takes, and choose partners who facilitate and uphold healthy sexual practices.
2-4. Don't be afraid to say no.
Saying no isn't just for avoiding evil people who want to hurt you. It's also important to say no to well-meaning people who might not know what your comfort zone is. You can say no anytime someone wants to do something that you'd rather not do. Be honest. To turn down a date, try "I'm flattered, but not interested." In other situations, you can say things like "No thanks," "I don't like that," "I'm not ready for that yet," or whatever feels true in the situation.
Politely saying no almost always works. If someone ignores it, you may have to be firm.
If someone repeatedly ignores a no, go ahead and make a scene. Yelp or recoil from their touch. Start crying, loudly, and ask why they won't leave you alone. This is a perfectly reasonable reaction to someone who ignores a polite "no" and it puts them on the spot for not respecting your boundaries.
If someone forces themselves on you, reach out for help. Society has taught women to feel ashamed or embarrassed for being molested or assaulted, even going so far as to claim that some women are "asking for it.” Dealing with sexual harassment or assault can be traumatic. Seek help from your support network.
2-5. Report sexual harassment in the workplace or at school.
Remember that reporting these kinds of acts is not just for your own good; it could prevent the person from harassing others in the future.
3. Taking Care of Your Health
3-1. Get enough exercise.
Staying in shape improves your overall health, your mood, and your energy levels, which will improve your performance in all aspects of your life. Regular exercise can help prevent disease such as heart disease, cancer and diabetes and it can also help with management of chronic disorders like asthma or back pain.
Everyone is different, so make sure to discuss with your doctor what kind of exercise goals are safe for you.
You don't have to be an Olympic champion to be in good shape. Go for a jog around the neighborhood, take your dog for a walk, or go for a bike ride. Even gardening can be good exercise.
3-2. Eat healthy, nutritious foods.
A healthy diet, like exercise, can help prevent disease and increase your mood and energy. Everyone is different and can have varying dietary requirements. Talk with your doctor or a certified nutritionist to develop a plan appropriate for you.
As a general rule, eat lots of fresh vegetables and fruits. Eat whole grains and proteins. Avoid processed and fried foods, and cut down on refined sugars.
Consider taking multivitamins too for an extra boost.
3-3. Get enough sleep.
Sleep deprivation can affect your health and mood. Aim to get at least seven or eight hours of sleep so that you can function at your best every day.
3-4. Understand your health.
Personal strength is manifested physically, mentally, and emotionally. If you want to be a strong, independent woman, you need look no further than your own body. Cisgender women and men face different health risks and challenges because of biological differences.
In past years, medical research used to focus on cisgender men alone. For example, knowledge of heart attacks was based on how they usually present in men, when they are often different in women. Thankfully, medical research is quickly catching up and using more women as subjects in studies. Now that this information is more readily available, it’s important that strong, independent women utilize it!
3-5. Stay on top of your medical needs.
Get regular checkups with your doctor and talk about any concerns. Follow their advice to the best of your ability. If you take medication, follow the instructions and use alarms or pill organizers to help you stay consistent.
Some doctors don't take women's health problems seriously. It's okay to get a second opinion if your doctor isn't listening. For example, maybe one doctor says you just need to lose weight to solve your incapacitating period pain, but the next one finds and diagnoses the issue.
Beware online rumors that circulate based on vague personal anecdotes and no research evidence. The internet rumor mill can spread lots of myths and conspiracy theories about health. If you're unsure about anything, check research-backed sources or ask your personal doctor.
4. Managing Your Finances
4-1. Work on managing your money to make you as financially independent as possible.
The independence that comes with your ability to earn your own income, start your own bank account, and buy your own property is something women have been (and still are, in some parts of the world) deprived of. Every adult needs to take ownership of their money and use it wisely.
Take a money management course, or learn the basics online.
Make a budget for yourself so that you can meet your necessary expenses.
Ideally, adults should have an emergency fund. It should be able to cover at least 3-6 months of living expenses.
Save about 10-20% of your income.
Avoid risky investments. If you have money to invest, put it in index funds, which tend to be more stable and often beat the price of inflation over time.
4-2. Don’t be afraid to ask for a raise.
Women are less likely than men to ask for a raise. When they do ask for a raise, they ask for less money than a man typically would. Fall back on your assertiveness training and don’t be afraid to ask for the raise that you deserve.
5. Following Your Passions
5-1. Study what you want to study.
Don’t let societal norms influence which subject(s) you chose to study. Often society pushes women into certain fields (English, the fine arts, teaching, nursing and other “helping” subjects), while men are pushed into other fields such as science, math, and technology.
More and more schools are pushing for women’s greater involvement in STEM subjects (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) because the number of women in these fields is extremely low despite the fact that there is plenty of interest. If you are interested in physics, go for it! If computers make you happy, dive in and learn all you can about technology. Don’t let prescribed gender roles interfere with you desire to learn more about a particular subject.
By all means, follow your favorite subject. If you like music, follow that. If you like math, follow that.
5-2. Become a lifelong learner.
Remember that not all education has to be formal (i.e. attained through an institution like a university). Keep up with current events in politics, science and technology, read books (both fiction and non-fiction), learn another language, watch documentaries, and so on. Aspire to learn about new subjects throughout your life.
5-3. Embrace your own style
Being an independent woman means dressing the way you want, regardless of what people around you are telling you to wear. Use fashion as a way to express your mood, your taste, and your creativity.
Many times throughout history, women’s fashion choices have been dependent on the social and cultural norms of the time period. At one point in US history, tightly pulled corsets were the norm and it was a social taboo for women to wear pants. We live in an era in which women have much more freedom of choice for their clothing and dress. Embrace that freedom!
If you want to put in extra effort to look fab, learn how to dress to highlight your body type as well as your personal taste.
5-4. Focus on the type of life you want to lead.
Think about the goals, relationships, and lifestyle that sound right for you. This might be different from what your family (or society) expects from you. But this is your life, so you should live it the way you want.
Some women want to be president. Others want quiet, simple lives full of hobbies and family time. Neither of these are wrong.
Fulfilling your potential is nice, but it's not an obligation. Build a life that you enjoy.
6. Contributing to Your Community
6-1. Give to others.
One of the best ways you can exert your strength is to give back to those who are less fortunate than you. You don't have to be rich or affluent to make a positive impact in your community, so start small. In a 2010 study on volunteering and “giving back” to the community it was found that, of those who participated in the study, 68% had better physical health, 89% had increased sense of self-worth and well-being, and 73% experienced reduced stress levels than participants who did not “give back.”
6-2. Consider volunteering in your community.
Nonprofit organizations in your community will welcome volunteers and support. Identify what issues you are most passionate about, such as animals, the arts, children, sports, etc. Choose a place that you enjoy and feel like you’re making a difference.
For example, volunteer at a soup kitchen, your local SPCA, or other community development program.
Research a charity before getting involved with it. Some groups are considered to do more harm than good.
6-3. Practice random acts of kindness.
You don't have to become a formal volunteer to give back. If you see somebody in need, then help them. Even as small an act can brighten someone’s day. For example, help someone carry groceries or hold open the door for someone.
6-4. Support other women.
Too often, women are shamed, judged, and put down by other women. Instead, women can uplift each other and empower every woman to be exactly who she is without judgement or comment.
Uplift other women and support their dreams. Be there for them when they struggle.
This doesn't mean you have to get along with every woman or that you need to support a woman when she does something harmful. In those cases, aim for being polite and fair.
6-5. Educate other women and girls about being strong and independent.
Teach them about being assertive, building leadership skills, loving themselves, and standing up for themselves and others. Be a good role model for them.
Be a mentor for a girls’ organization in your community. For example, this might be a young girl who participates in a sport that you like, or it might be a high school senior getting ready to go to college.
Tips
Finding an inspiring female role model to look up to can help you find the inspiration you need to feel more independent. This woman can be a family member, a feminist or other activist, artist, writer, or politician.
Women are often expected to please other people. While there's nothing wrong with this in isolation, pleasing people should be reciprocal. Sometimes it may be a good idea to ask people what they can do for you or think about what you find attractive rather than focusing on how you can please other people.
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Don't compare yourself to other women.\\nHaving a female role model to look up to is great. Just be careful that you don’t fall into jealousy. Although jealousy is natural to some degree, western society tends to exacerbate female jealousy through advertisements and films that feature unrealistic standards. \\nRemember, it's not fair to compare someone else's highlights reel to your bloopers. Every woman struggles with something behind the scenes.\\nThis jealousy and “catty-ness” is called \\\"relational aggression.\\\" Studies have shown that media plays an important role in modeling relational aggression in women. Women who are victims of relational aggression are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem and feel rejected and lonely. The result is a culture of women who feel insecure and unhappy with themselves.\\nRecognize when you experience jealousy. The first step to overcoming jealousy is to recognize when you are experiencing it. If you find yourself reading a magazine and comparing your own body to those of the models, stop for a moment. Do you compare everyone you see in the street to magazine models? Probably not, so spare yourself that judgment too. Models are people who happen to have features that make a good fit for what magazines are looking for, and they are people who are dedicating their lives to modeling as a job. They are no \\\"better\\\" or \\\"worse\\\" than you.\\n1-3. Set clear boundaries\\nSet clear boundaries that prioritize your own needs. For example, set boundaries with regards to as how much time you spend with someone, or the kinds of criticisms you are not willing to hear. Be sure you have other things going on in your life outside of any romantic relationship, whether it is school, work, friends, a fitness routine, or your family. \\nSet clear boundaries with the individual and communicate to this person your need to be your own independent person. Once the boundaries have been discussed, stick to them.\\n1-4. Stand up for yourself\\nWhether you are a man or a woman, you will have to learn to fend for yourself in the real world if you want to avoid being taken advantage of. You must learn how to stand up for yourself at school, at work, and in your social life. Work on asserting yourself. Don’t be ashamed or apologetic about asserting yourself. Assertiveness is the middle ground between passivity and aggression. \\nPeople who are effectively assertive are more happy in relationships and have higher self-esteem.\\n\\nUse “I” statements. These types of statements are less accusatory, and instead they convey that you are taking responsibility for your own actions and feelings. For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” you can say, “I feel ignored when you constantly check your phone while talking to me.”\\nLearn to say no. Put your own needs first instead of always trying to accommodate other people first. If someone keeps asking to borrow money, for example, you can decline their request. If a friend keeps borrowing your car, you can tell her that the car is not available for her anymore.\\n1-5. Believe in yourself.\\nWhen you believe in your abilities and your achievements, then you will convey strength. Pursue what you need and want. When you lack confidence or play the victim, you risk letting others walk all over you instead of getting what you need and want.\\n1-6. Let people know when they have hurt your feelings.\\nIf somebody betrays you in any way, be sure to let him or her know. It can be difficult to share your emotions, especially when you feel hurt or angry. But telling the other person how you feel may help prevent the person from repeating the behavior in the future. \\nFor example, you might say, “I felt hurt when you said my article was biased. I'd be happy to listen and incorporate feedback, but I can't do anything with name-calling.”\\n1-7. Address disrespectful and offensive comments.\\nIf you hear somebody making a sexist, racist, or otherwise disrespectful comment, don't let it slide. This doesn't necessarily mean engaging in an argument. Calmly tell the person that what he or she said is not appreciated. \\n\\\"Please don't talk about other women like that.\\\"\\n\\\"Could we please avoid negative comments about Muslims?\\\"\\n\\\"I'm leaving. I don't participate in conversations with that type of demeaning language.\\\"\\n\\\"Why do you feel that way?\\\"\\n1-8. Learn to recognize codependency.\\nIf you are co-dependent, you might find that the relationship defines your life. You might obsessively think about the other person and wait to make a decision until you’ve checked with him or her. Strive to overcome codependency by staying alert for the following signs: \\nLow self-esteem\\nPeople pleasing\\nPoor boundaries\\nReactivity\\nCaretaking\\nControl\\nDysfunctional communication\\nObsessions\\nDependency\\nDenial\\nProblems with intimacy\\nPainful emotions.\\n1-9. Embrace the uniqueness of yourself and others.\\nTry to cultivate compassion and happiness for the fact that everyone is talented and gifted in her own way, including you! Every woman has her own best assets, whether it is her math skills, painting abilities, or leadership skills. Embrace the skills and resources you have and love yourself for having them. \\nIf you think someone is talented, let them know.\\n2. Taking Charge of Your Sexuality\\n2-1. Learn to be comfortable with your body, the way it is right now.\\nA lot of women have some degree of discomfort with how they look physically, especially when naked. It can be difficult to become more comfortable with how you look, but try focusing on a part of your body that you like. Think about different parts of your body and how they look right for your body. \\nFocus less on what your body looks like, and more on what it can do.\\nIf your partner is critical of how you look, assert yourself by telling them that you find their comments unsupportive.\\n2-2. Communicate your needs and wants to your partner.\\nThis includes both emotional and physical things. Loving yourself and honoring your sexuality means telling your partner what you like and what is off limits. \\nYou can say something like, “I like when you touch me there,” or “I like when we cuddle after sex.”\\nIf something is uncomfortable, say so. \\\"I'm not comfortable with that\\\" or \\\"That hurts\\\" are very reasonable things to say.\\n2-3. Honor your sexuality.\\nDon't be ashamed of wanting to have a sexual side. Empower yourself to embrace your own sexuality in whatever form it takes, and choose partners who facilitate and uphold healthy sexual practices.\\n2-4. Don't be afraid to say no.\\nSaying no isn't just for avoiding evil people who want to hurt you. It's also important to say no to well-meaning people who might not know what your comfort zone is. You can say no anytime someone wants to do something that you'd rather not do. Be honest. To turn down a date, try \\\"I'm flattered, but not interested.\\\" In other situations, you can say things like \\\"No thanks,\\\" \\\"I don't like that,\\\" \\\"I'm not ready for that yet,\\\" or whatever feels true in the situation. \\nPolitely saying no almost always works. If someone ignores it, you may have to be firm.\\nIf someone repeatedly ignores a no, go ahead and make a scene. Yelp or recoil from their touch. Start crying, loudly, and ask why they won't leave you alone. This is a perfectly reasonable reaction to someone who ignores a polite \\\"no\\\" and it puts them on the spot for not respecting your boundaries.\\nIf someone forces themselves on you, reach out for help. Society has taught women to feel ashamed or embarrassed for being molested or assaulted, even going so far as to claim that some women are \\\"asking for it.” Dealing with sexual harassment or assault can be traumatic. Seek help from your support network.\\n2-5. Report sexual harassment in the workplace or at school.\\nRemember that reporting these kinds of acts is not just for your own good; it could prevent the person from harassing others in the future.\\n3. Taking Care of Your Health\\n3-1. Get enough exercise.\\nStaying in shape improves your overall health, your mood, and your energy levels, which will improve your performance in all aspects of your life. Regular exercise can help prevent disease such as heart disease, cancer and diabetes and it can also help with management of chronic disorders like asthma or back pain.\\nEveryone is different, so make sure to discuss with your doctor what kind of exercise goals are safe for you.\\nYou don't have to be an Olympic champion to be in good shape. Go for a jog around the neighborhood, take your dog for a walk, or go for a bike ride. Even gardening can be good exercise.\\n3-2. Eat healthy, nutritious foods.\\nA healthy diet, like exercise, can help prevent disease and increase your mood and energy. Everyone is different and can have varying dietary requirements. Talk with your doctor or a certified nutritionist to develop a plan appropriate for you. \\nAs a general rule, eat lots of fresh vegetables and fruits. Eat whole grains and proteins. Avoid processed and fried foods, and cut down on refined sugars.\\nConsider taking multivitamins too for an extra boost.\\n3-3. Get enough sleep.\\nSleep deprivation can affect your health and mood. Aim to get at least seven or eight hours of sleep so that you can function at your best every day.\\n3-4. Understand your health.\\nPersonal strength is manifested physically, mentally, and emotionally. If you want to be a strong, independent woman, you need look no further than your own body. Cisgender women and men face different health risks and challenges because of biological differences. \\nIn past years, medical research used to focus on cisgender men alone. For example, knowledge of heart attacks was based on how they usually present in men, when they are often different in women. Thankfully, medical research is quickly catching up and using more women as subjects in studies. Now that this information is more readily available, it’s important that strong, independent women utilize it!\\n3-5. Stay on top of your medical needs.\\nGet regular checkups with your doctor and talk about any concerns. Follow their advice to the best of your ability. If you take medication, follow the instructions and use alarms or pill organizers to help you stay consistent. \\nSome doctors don't take women's health problems seriously. It's okay to get a second opinion if your doctor isn't listening. For example, maybe one doctor says you just need to lose weight to solve your incapacitating period pain, but the next one finds and diagnoses the issue.\\nBeware online rumors that circulate based on vague personal anecdotes and no research evidence. The internet rumor mill can spread lots of myths and conspiracy theories about health. If you're unsure about anything, check research-backed sources or ask your personal doctor.\\n4. Managing Your Finances\\n4-1. Work on managing your money to make you as financially independent as possible.\\nThe independence that comes with your ability to earn your own income, start your own bank account, and buy your own property is something women have been (and still are, in some parts of the world) deprived of. Every adult needs to take ownership of their money and use it wisely. \\nTake a money management course, or learn the basics online.\\nMake a budget for yourself so that you can meet your necessary expenses.\\nIdeally, adults should have an emergency fund. It should be able to cover at least 3-6 months of living expenses.\\nSave about 10-20% of your income.\\nAvoid risky investments. If you have money to invest, put it in index funds, which tend to be more stable and often beat the price of inflation over time.\\n4-2. Don’t be afraid to ask for a raise.\\nWomen are less likely than men to ask for a raise. When they do ask for a raise, they ask for less money than a man typically would. Fall back on your assertiveness training and don’t be afraid to ask for the raise that you deserve.\\n5. Following Your Passions\\n5-1. Study what you want to study.\\nDon’t let societal norms influence which subject(s) you chose to study. Often society pushes women into certain fields (English, the fine arts, teaching, nursing and other “helping” subjects), while men are pushed into other fields such as science, math, and technology.\\nMore and more schools are pushing for women’s greater involvement in STEM subjects (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) because the number of women in these fields is extremely low despite the fact that there is plenty of interest. If you are interested in physics, go for it! If computers make you happy, dive in and learn all you can about technology. Don’t let prescribed gender roles interfere with you desire to learn more about a particular subject.\\nBy all means, follow your favorite subject. If you like music, follow that. If you like math, follow that.\\n5-2. Become a lifelong learner.\\nRemember that not all education has to be formal (i.e. attained through an institution like a university). Keep up with current events in politics, science and technology, read books (both fiction and non-fiction), learn another language, watch documentaries, and so on. Aspire to learn about new subjects throughout your life.\\n5-3. Embrace your own style\\nBeing an independent woman means dressing the way you want, regardless of what people around you are telling you to wear. Use fashion as a way to express your mood, your taste, and your creativity. \\nMany times throughout history, women’s fashion choices have been dependent on the social and cultural norms of the time period. At one point in US history, tightly pulled corsets were the norm and it was a social taboo for women to wear pants. We live in an era in which women have much more freedom of choice for their clothing and dress. Embrace that freedom!\\nIf you want to put in extra effort to look fab, learn how to dress to highlight your body type as well as your personal taste.\\n5-4. Focus on the type of life you want to lead.\\nThink about the goals, relationships, and lifestyle that sound right for you. This might be different from what your family (or society) expects from you. But this is your life, so you should live it the way you want. \\nSome women want to be president. Others want quiet, simple lives full of hobbies and family time. Neither of these are wrong.\\nFulfilling your potential is nice, but it's not an obligation. Build a life that you enjoy.\\n6. Contributing to Your Community\\n6-1. Give to others.\\nOne of the best ways you can exert your strength is to give back to those who are less fortunate than you. You don't have to be rich or affluent to make a positive impact in your community, so start small. In a 2010 study on volunteering and “giving back” to the community it was found that, of those who participated in the study, 68% had better physical health, 89% had increased sense of self-worth and well-being, and 73% experienced reduced stress levels than participants who did not “give back.”\\n6-2. Consider volunteering in your community.\\nNonprofit organizations in your community will welcome volunteers and support. Identify what issues you are most passionate about, such as animals, the arts, children, sports, etc. Choose a place that you enjoy and feel like you’re making a difference. \\nFor example, volunteer at a soup kitchen, your local SPCA, or other community development program.\\nResearch a charity before getting involved with it. Some groups are considered to do more harm than good.\\n6-3. Practice random acts of kindness.\\nYou don't have to become a formal volunteer to give back. If you see somebody in need, then help them. Even as small an act can brighten someone’s day. For example, help someone carry groceries or hold open the door for someone.\\n6-4. Support other women.\\nToo often, women are shamed, judged, and put down by other women. Instead, women can uplift each other and empower every woman to be exactly who she is without judgement or comment. \\nUplift other women and support their dreams. Be there for them when they struggle.\\nThis doesn't mean you have to get along with every woman or that you need to support a woman when she does something harmful. In those cases, aim for being polite and fair.\\n6-5. Educate other women and girls about being strong and independent.\\nTeach them about being assertive, building leadership skills, loving themselves, and standing up for themselves and others. Be a good role model for them. \\nBe a mentor for a girls’ organization in your community. For example, this might be a young girl who participates in a sport that you like, or it might be a high school senior getting ready to go to college.\\nTips\\nFinding an inspiring female role model to look up to can help you find the inspiration you need to feel more independent. This woman can be a family member, a feminist or other activist, artist, writer, or politician.\\nWomen are often expected to please other people. While there's nothing wrong with this in isolation, pleasing people should be reciprocal. Sometimes it may be a good idea to ask people what they can do for you or think about what you find attractive rather than focusing on how you can please other people.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a strong, independent woman means that you are able to find happiness on your own. You have self-confidence without having to rely on another person or society for validation. It means emotional independence and being able to have healthy relationships with others without falling into co-dependent patterns. It means learning to express who you are at your core, whether you are shy and soft-spoken or loud and assertive. You don’t need to try fitting a certain mold. Read on to learn how to embrace the woman you are and who you want to become.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practicing Assertiveness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Put your basic needs first.\", \"描述\": \"When you notice yourself needing something whether it is intimacy, affection, or attention, give yourself what you need. If you need attention, take a day to pamper yourself in some way or reach out to someone you love. If you need intimacy, spend time writing in a journal or exploring nature. If you need affection, give yourself affection by thinking about what you love about yourself or taking yourself out for dinner and a movie. The more easily you can meet your own emotional needs, the healthier your relationships will be because you will know and understand yourself and be better able to express yourself to your partner. \\nIt's great to take care of other people. But don't let that take away from your own core needs. You can't pour from an empty cup, and you can't help others if you aren't taking care of yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't compare yourself to other women.\", \"描述\": \"Having a female role model to look up to is great. Just be careful that you don’t fall into jealousy. Although jealousy is natural to some degree, western society tends to exacerbate female jealousy through advertisements and films that feature unrealistic standards. \\nRemember, it's not fair to compare someone else's highlights reel to your bloopers. Every woman struggles with something behind the scenes.\\nThis jealousy and “catty-ness” is called \\\"relational aggression.\\\" Studies have shown that media plays an important role in modeling relational aggression in women. Women who are victims of relational aggression are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem and feel rejected and lonely. The result is a culture of women who feel insecure and unhappy with themselves.\\nRecognize when you experience jealousy. The first step to overcoming jealousy is to recognize when you are experiencing it. If you find yourself reading a magazine and comparing your own body to those of the models, stop for a moment. Do you compare everyone you see in the street to magazine models? Probably not, so spare yourself that judgment too. Models are people who happen to have features that make a good fit for what magazines are looking for, and they are people who are dedicating their lives to modeling as a job. They are no \\\"better\\\" or \\\"worse\\\" than you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set clear boundaries\", \"描述\": \"Set clear boundaries that prioritize your own needs. For example, set boundaries with regards to as how much time you spend with someone, or the kinds of criticisms you are not willing to hear. Be sure you have other things going on in your life outside of any romantic relationship, whether it is school, work, friends, a fitness routine, or your family. \\nSet clear boundaries with the individual and communicate to this person your need to be your own independent person. Once the boundaries have been discussed, stick to them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stand up for yourself\", \"描述\": \"Whether you are a man or a woman, you will have to learn to fend for yourself in the real world if you want to avoid being taken advantage of. You must learn how to stand up for yourself at school, at work, and in your social life. Work on asserting yourself. Don’t be ashamed or apologetic about asserting yourself. Assertiveness is the middle ground between passivity and aggression. \\nPeople who are effectively assertive are more happy in relationships and have higher self-esteem.\\n\\nUse “I” statements. These types of statements are less accusatory, and instead they convey that you are taking responsibility for your own actions and feelings. For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” you can say, “I feel ignored when you constantly check your phone while talking to me.”\\nLearn to say no. Put your own needs first instead of always trying to accommodate other people first. If someone keeps asking to borrow money, for example, you can decline their request. If a friend keeps borrowing your car, you can tell her that the car is not available for her anymore.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Believe in yourself.\", \"描述\": \"When you believe in your abilities and your achievements, then you will convey strength. Pursue what you need and want. When you lack confidence or play the victim, you risk letting others walk all over you instead of getting what you need and want.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Let people know when they have hurt your feelings.\", \"描述\": \"If somebody betrays you in any way, be sure to let him or her know. It can be difficult to share your emotions, especially when you feel hurt or angry. But telling the other person how you feel may help prevent the person from repeating the behavior in the future. \\nFor example, you might say, “I felt hurt when you said my article was biased. I'd be happy to listen and incorporate feedback, but I can't do anything with name-calling.”\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Address disrespectful and offensive comments.\", \"描述\": \"If you hear somebody making a sexist, racist, or otherwise disrespectful comment, don't let it slide. This doesn't necessarily mean engaging in an argument. Calmly tell the person that what he or she said is not appreciated. \\n\\\"Please don't talk about other women like that.\\\"\\n\\\"Could we please avoid negative comments about Muslims?\\\"\\n\\\"I'm leaving. I don't participate in conversations with that type of demeaning language.\\\"\\n\\\"Why do you feel that way?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Learn to recognize codependency.\", \"描述\": \"If you are co-dependent, you might find that the relationship defines your life. You might obsessively think about the other person and wait to make a decision until you’ve checked with him or her. Strive to overcome codependency by staying alert for the following signs: \\nLow self-esteem\\nPeople pleasing\\nPoor boundaries\\nReactivity\\nCaretaking\\nControl\\nDysfunctional communication\\nObsessions\\nDependency\\nDenial\\nProblems with intimacy\\nPainful emotions.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Embrace the uniqueness of yourself and others.\", \"描述\": \"Try to cultivate compassion and happiness for the fact that everyone is talented and gifted in her own way, including you! Every woman has her own best assets, whether it is her math skills, painting abilities, or leadership skills. Embrace the skills and resources you have and love yourself for having them. \\nIf you think someone is talented, let them know.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Taking Charge of Your Sexuality\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to be comfortable with your body, the way it is right now.\", \"描述\": \"A lot of women have some degree of discomfort with how they look physically, especially when naked. It can be difficult to become more comfortable with how you look, but try focusing on a part of your body that you like. Think about different parts of your body and how they look right for your body. \\nFocus less on what your body looks like, and more on what it can do.\\nIf your partner is critical of how you look, assert yourself by telling them that you find their comments unsupportive.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicate your needs and wants to your partner.\", \"描述\": \"This includes both emotional and physical things. Loving yourself and honoring your sexuality means telling your partner what you like and what is off limits. \\nYou can say something like, “I like when you touch me there,” or “I like when we cuddle after sex.”\\nIf something is uncomfortable, say so. \\\"I'm not comfortable with that\\\" or \\\"That hurts\\\" are very reasonable things to say.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Honor your sexuality.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be ashamed of wanting to have a sexual side. Empower yourself to embrace your own sexuality in whatever form it takes, and choose partners who facilitate and uphold healthy sexual practices.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid to say no.\", \"描述\": \"Saying no isn't just for avoiding evil people who want to hurt you. It's also important to say no to well-meaning people who might not know what your comfort zone is. You can say no anytime someone wants to do something that you'd rather not do. Be honest. To turn down a date, try \\\"I'm flattered, but not interested.\\\" In other situations, you can say things like \\\"No thanks,\\\" \\\"I don't like that,\\\" \\\"I'm not ready for that yet,\\\" or whatever feels true in the situation. \\nPolitely saying no almost always works. If someone ignores it, you may have to be firm.\\nIf someone repeatedly ignores a no, go ahead and make a scene. Yelp or recoil from their touch. Start crying, loudly, and ask why they won't leave you alone. This is a perfectly reasonable reaction to someone who ignores a polite \\\"no\\\" and it puts them on the spot for not respecting your boundaries.\\nIf someone forces themselves on you, reach out for help. Society has taught women to feel ashamed or embarrassed for being molested or assaulted, even going so far as to claim that some women are \\\"asking for it.” Dealing with sexual harassment or assault can be traumatic. Seek help from your support network.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Report sexual harassment in the workplace or at school.\", \"描述\": \"Remember that reporting these kinds of acts is not just for your own good; it could prevent the person from harassing others in the future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Your Health\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get enough exercise.\", \"描述\": \"Staying in shape improves your overall health, your mood, and your energy levels, which will improve your performance in all aspects of your life. Regular exercise can help prevent disease such as heart disease, cancer and diabetes and it can also help with management of chronic disorders like asthma or back pain.\\nEveryone is different, so make sure to discuss with your doctor what kind of exercise goals are safe for you.\\nYou don't have to be an Olympic champion to be in good shape. Go for a jog around the neighborhood, take your dog for a walk, or go for a bike ride. Even gardening can be good exercise.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Eat healthy, nutritious foods.\", \"描述\": \"A healthy diet, like exercise, can help prevent disease and increase your mood and energy. Everyone is different and can have varying dietary requirements. Talk with your doctor or a certified nutritionist to develop a plan appropriate for you. \\nAs a general rule, eat lots of fresh vegetables and fruits. Eat whole grains and proteins. Avoid processed and fried foods, and cut down on refined sugars.\\nConsider taking multivitamins too for an extra boost.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep.\", \"描述\": \"Sleep deprivation can affect your health and mood. Aim to get at least seven or eight hours of sleep so that you can function at your best every day.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand your health.\", \"描述\": \"Personal strength is manifested physically, mentally, and emotionally. If you want to be a strong, independent woman, you need look no further than your own body. Cisgender women and men face different health risks and challenges because of biological differences. \\nIn past years, medical research used to focus on cisgender men alone. For example, knowledge of heart attacks was based on how they usually present in men, when they are often different in women. Thankfully, medical research is quickly catching up and using more women as subjects in studies. Now that this information is more readily available, it’s important that strong, independent women utilize it!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stay on top of your medical needs.\", \"描述\": \"Get regular checkups with your doctor and talk about any concerns. Follow their advice to the best of your ability. If you take medication, follow the instructions and use alarms or pill organizers to help you stay consistent. \\nSome doctors don't take women's health problems seriously. It's okay to get a second opinion if your doctor isn't listening. For example, maybe one doctor says you just need to lose weight to solve your incapacitating period pain, but the next one finds and diagnoses the issue.\\nBeware online rumors that circulate based on vague personal anecdotes and no research evidence. The internet rumor mill can spread lots of myths and conspiracy theories about health. If you're unsure about anything, check research-backed sources or ask your personal doctor.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Managing Your Finances\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on managing your money to make you as financially independent as possible.\", \"描述\": \"The independence that comes with your ability to earn your own income, start your own bank account, and buy your own property is something women have been (and still are, in some parts of the world) deprived of. Every adult needs to take ownership of their money and use it wisely. \\nTake a money management course, or learn the basics online.\\nMake a budget for yourself so that you can meet your necessary expenses.\\nIdeally, adults should have an emergency fund. It should be able to cover at least 3-6 months of living expenses.\\nSave about 10-20% of your income.\\nAvoid risky investments. If you have money to invest, put it in index funds, which tend to be more stable and often beat the price of inflation over time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t be afraid to ask for a raise.\", \"描述\": \"Women are less likely than men to ask for a raise. When they do ask for a raise, they ask for less money than a man typically would. Fall back on your assertiveness training and don’t be afraid to ask for the raise that you deserve.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Following Your Passions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Study what you want to study.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t let societal norms influence which subject(s) you chose to study. Often society pushes women into certain fields (English, the fine arts, teaching, nursing and other “helping” subjects), while men are pushed into other fields such as science, math, and technology.\\nMore and more schools are pushing for women’s greater involvement in STEM subjects (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) because the number of women in these fields is extremely low despite the fact that there is plenty of interest. If you are interested in physics, go for it! If computers make you happy, dive in and learn all you can about technology. Don’t let prescribed gender roles interfere with you desire to learn more about a particular subject.\\nBy all means, follow your favorite subject. If you like music, follow that. If you like math, follow that.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Become a lifelong learner.\", \"描述\": \"Remember that not all education has to be formal (i.e. attained through an institution like a university). Keep up with current events in politics, science and technology, read books (both fiction and non-fiction), learn another language, watch documentaries, and so on. Aspire to learn about new subjects throughout your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Embrace your own style\", \"描述\": \"Being an independent woman means dressing the way you want, regardless of what people around you are telling you to wear. Use fashion as a way to express your mood, your taste, and your creativity. \\nMany times throughout history, women’s fashion choices have been dependent on the social and cultural norms of the time period. At one point in US history, tightly pulled corsets were the norm and it was a social taboo for women to wear pants. We live in an era in which women have much more freedom of choice for their clothing and dress. Embrace that freedom!\\nIf you want to put in extra effort to look fab, learn how to dress to highlight your body type as well as your personal taste.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Focus on the type of life you want to lead.\", \"描述\": \"Think about the goals, relationships, and lifestyle that sound right for you. This might be different from what your family (or society) expects from you. But this is your life, so you should live it the way you want. \\nSome women want to be president. Others want quiet, simple lives full of hobbies and family time. Neither of these are wrong.\\nFulfilling your potential is nice, but it's not an obligation. Build a life that you enjoy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Contributing to Your Community\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give to others.\", \"描述\": \"One of the best ways you can exert your strength is to give back to those who are less fortunate than you. You don't have to be rich or affluent to make a positive impact in your community, so start small. In a 2010 study on volunteering and “giving back” to the community it was found that, of those who participated in the study, 68% had better physical health, 89% had increased sense of self-worth and well-being, and 73% experienced reduced stress levels than participants who did not “give back.”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider volunteering in your community.\", \"描述\": \"Nonprofit organizations in your community will welcome volunteers and support. Identify what issues you are most passionate about, such as animals, the arts, children, sports, etc. Choose a place that you enjoy and feel like you’re making a difference. \\nFor example, volunteer at a soup kitchen, your local SPCA, or other community development program.\\nResearch a charity before getting involved with it. Some groups are considered to do more harm than good.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice random acts of kindness.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to become a formal volunteer to give back. If you see somebody in need, then help them. Even as small an act can brighten someone’s day. For example, help someone carry groceries or hold open the door for someone.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Support other women.\", \"描述\": \"Too often, women are shamed, judged, and put down by other women. Instead, women can uplift each other and empower every woman to be exactly who she is without judgement or comment. \\nUplift other women and support their dreams. Be there for them when they struggle.\\nThis doesn't mean you have to get along with every woman or that you need to support a woman when she does something harmful. 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1. Planning Your Campaign
1-1. Check campaign requirements.
Your school might require that student council candidates have a certain GPA or be in a certain grade. Make sure you check these requirements well ahead of launching your campaign. Start by checking in with the student council faculty advisor, who will know what these requirements are.
1-2. Think about why you want to run.
Once you know you're eligible, spend some time thinking about why you'd make a good student council Vice President. Do you have a firm position about cafeteria food? The number of school dances every year? Thinking about this ahead of time will help you when it comes time to planning your campaign.
1-3. Find out what students want and need.
Your campaign will be the most successful if you can demonstrate that it's focused on the same things your classmates care about. Promising free ice cream every Wednesday sounds like a good idea, but might not be a priority for the rest of your class.
Put out a survey. A good way to find out what your classmates want is to give them a survey to fill out. You can make it open-ended, with questions like "What improvement do you most want to see in our school?" or more specific, by asking them to choose from a variety of options.
Talk to other students. You can also speak to your classmates in person about what they want to see happen in your school. Try starting with your friends. You can say something like "I really want to run for student council Vice President, but to be a good one, I need to know what everyone wants from their VP. What do you want to see your VP do? What would you like to change about the school?"
1-4. Develop a platform.
Use the information you get from your classmates to create a platform. This means deciding what you want to do as Vice President. Maybe your classmates worry about eating too much junk food. Part of your platform could be increasing the healthy options in the cafeteria. The more your platform corresponds to what your classmates have said, the better.
1-5. Make a plan for executing your platform.
You need to have a plan to make your platform a reality or else your classmates will think you're just full of hot air! If your platform includes stocking the cafeteria with healthier foods, you might plan to meet with the school nurse to identify healthier options, and then with the principal to propose and implement these changes.
1-6. Come up with a campaign slogan.
You can't share your platform and plans on one poster, which is why a campaign slogan is so important. It should reflect why you're running and what you believe in. Remember, it might be the only thing your classmates hear about you, so you want it to be good.
Your campaign slogan can be funny or serious, but it should be simple. Something like "Jane Seymour for Vice President" will work. So will something like "The most interesting man in the world doesn't vote for student council often. But when he does, he votes for Jane!"
1-7. Find volunteers to help you.
You can't make and hang posters, pass out flyers, and talk to other students all by yourself. Ask a few friends if they're willing to help you campaign! You can say something like "I really want to run for student council Vice President, but I won't be able to do it alone. Would you be willing to help me with my campaign?" Or you can ask for more specific help like "Would you be willing to help me hang my campaign posters?"
2. Campaigning
2-1. Spread the word.
If you've put the effort into running for vice president, you don't want to just hope that someone will vote for you. There are a lot of ways to get the word out that you're running and why
Make posters. Your posters can be as simple or as flashy as you like. It might help to see what others are doing and then do the opposite – if everyone is making bright, bold, flashy posters, make a simpler but still easily noticeable poster. If everyone else is going plain, go bright! This will help you stand out.
Make a handout. Your classmates will be seeing a lot of posters during the campaign, so consider making a small handout to give to them, too. This should have your name, your slogan, and why you're running. But make sure your school allows these first – some schools only allow posters!
2-2. Write a winning speech.
The most important part of your campaign will come when you're asked to give a speech in front of your class or school, describing why they should vote for you. There are a few tips for writing a winning speech that you should follow!
Start by introducing yourself! You can say “Hi! My name is Jane and I'm running for Student Council Vice President!” Not everyone knows who you are, so introducing yourself is a good first step, and keeping it simple will help them remember you.
Tell them why you're qualified to be Vice President. This is why thinking about these things ahead of time is helpful! You need to tell your class/school what will make you a good Vice President. You can say something like, “I'm a junior so I have experience knowing what the school needs” or “I've served as Student Council Secretary so I already know how it works!”
Explain your platform and how you plan to execute it. This should be short and to the point: list the main thing you want to address and how you plan to address it. You can leave a lot of the detail to your handouts and conversations you have with your classmates.
End with your slogan. Ending your speech with your slogan helps your classmates link the posters they see in the hallway to you and your plans.
2-3. Deliver your speech.
When you give your speech, make sure you deliver it in such a way that makes it easy to follow and leaves an impression. Your speech shouldn't be too long - only 2 to 3 minutes at most. Short and sweet is best!
3. Surviving Election Day
3-1. Stay calm.
It's a big day, but freaking out or having a meltdown won't inspire confidence in the classmates who are voting for you. Stay calm – don't yell at people to vote for you, don't question people about who they voted for, and don't panic and say nasty things about your opponents.
3-2. Dress appropriately.
This bears repeating because it's as important when you give your speech as it is when people vote for you! Wear something nice to school on election day. A lot of people won't decide until the last minute who they're voting for, and seeing you already looking the part can change their minds!
You don't have to wear something super formal, but you should at least look professional. Try wearing a jacket and some nice pants. Your hair should look neat. It might not be fair, but we all get judged by our appearance. If you look like you take your campaign seriously, other people will take you seriously, too.
3-3. Be friendly.
Shake hands with people as they vote. Smile at them in the hallways. It's important to be kind to all types of students, not just the popular kids. People will vote for someone who is nice to them before they'll vote for the school bully.
4. Being Vice President
4-1. Follow up on the election.
If you are elected, there are a few things you should do immediately after the election before you get to work as VP!
Thank your volunteers. Make sure you say thank you to everyone who helped with your campaign. You can do this in person or you can write thank you notes. Or you can do both!
Remove campaign material. Take down your posters and clean up any of your handouts that might still be lying around. This is especially important if your school has rules about when this needs to be accomplished.
Congratulate your opponents. Whether you win or not, you should thank the people you ran against. This will help you maintain a good reputation if you decide to run again for another position or if you run for reelection in the same position. And it's also good manners!
4-2. Keep up with your responsibilities.
The VP's responsibilities vary from school to school, but you will likely be responsible for running student council meetings in the President's absence. You might also be in charge of specific committees. Make sure you're going to all of the meetings and checking in with the President!
4-3. Speak up at meetings.
You ran on specific promises to your classmates. You can ask to add items to student council meeting agendas that focus on the issues in your platform. You can also speak up during meetings to make sure your voice is heard on all issues.
4-4. Check in frequently.
Don't ignore your classmates once you get elected! Check in with them regularly to make sure they're happy with what the student council, and you in particular, are doing. You can do this in face-to-face conversations by simply asking "What do you think of the job we're/I'm doing?" Or you can issue new surveys that ask the same thing.
Tips
You are in control, don't let others push you around.
Don't trash other campaigns - it will make you look bad! Even if you do win after doing this, you'll lose a lot of respect.
Be confident! Don't keep saying to yourself, "I'm not going to get the job" or "I can't do this job" if you're elected. If you believe you can, you will!
Warnings
Never do anything that will cause damage to your campaign or your role as Vice President. Stay healthy, don't fight with your classmates, and avoid detention. Any of these actions can disrupt your campaign and get you kicked out of office.
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It might help to see what others are doing and then do the opposite – if everyone is making bright, bold, flashy posters, make a simpler but still easily noticeable poster. If everyone else is going plain, go bright! This will help you stand out.\\nMake a handout. Your classmates will be seeing a lot of posters during the campaign, so consider making a small handout to give to them, too. This should have your name, your slogan, and why you're running. But make sure your school allows these first – some schools only allow posters!\\n2-2. Write a winning speech.\\nThe most important part of your campaign will come when you're asked to give a speech in front of your class or school, describing why they should vote for you. There are a few tips for writing a winning speech that you should follow!\\nStart by introducing yourself! You can say “Hi! My name is Jane and I'm running for Student Council Vice President!” Not everyone knows who you are, so introducing yourself is a good first step, and keeping it simple will help them remember you.\\nTell them why you're qualified to be Vice President. This is why thinking about these things ahead of time is helpful! You need to tell your class/school what will make you a good Vice President. You can say something like, “I'm a junior so I have experience knowing what the school needs” or “I've served as Student Council Secretary so I already know how it works!”\\nExplain your platform and how you plan to execute it. This should be short and to the point: list the main thing you want to address and how you plan to address it. You can leave a lot of the detail to your handouts and conversations you have with your classmates.\\nEnd with your slogan. Ending your speech with your slogan helps your classmates link the posters they see in the hallway to you and your plans.\\n2-3. Deliver your speech.\\nWhen you give your speech, make sure you deliver it in such a way that makes it easy to follow and leaves an impression. Your speech shouldn't be too long - only 2 to 3 minutes at most. Short and sweet is best!\\n3. Surviving Election Day\\n3-1. Stay calm.\\nIt's a big day, but freaking out or having a meltdown won't inspire confidence in the classmates who are voting for you. Stay calm – don't yell at people to vote for you, don't question people about who they voted for, and don't panic and say nasty things about your opponents.\\n3-2. Dress appropriately.\\nThis bears repeating because it's as important when you give your speech as it is when people vote for you! Wear something nice to school on election day. A lot of people won't decide until the last minute who they're voting for, and seeing you already looking the part can change their minds!\\nYou don't have to wear something super formal, but you should at least look professional. Try wearing a jacket and some nice pants. Your hair should look neat. It might not be fair, but we all get judged by our appearance. If you look like you take your campaign seriously, other people will take you seriously, too.\\n3-3. Be friendly.\\nShake hands with people as they vote. Smile at them in the hallways. It's important to be kind to all types of students, not just the popular kids. People will vote for someone who is nice to them before they'll vote for the school bully.\\n4. Being Vice President\\n4-1. Follow up on the election.\\nIf you are elected, there are a few things you should do immediately after the election before you get to work as VP!\\nThank your volunteers. Make sure you say thank you to everyone who helped with your campaign. You can do this in person or you can write thank you notes. Or you can do both!\\nRemove campaign material. Take down your posters and clean up any of your handouts that might still be lying around. This is especially important if your school has rules about when this needs to be accomplished.\\nCongratulate your opponents. Whether you win or not, you should thank the people you ran against. This will help you maintain a good reputation if you decide to run again for another position or if you run for reelection in the same position. And it's also good manners!\\n4-2. Keep up with your responsibilities.\\nThe VP's responsibilities vary from school to school, but you will likely be responsible for running student council meetings in the President's absence. You might also be in charge of specific committees. Make sure you're going to all of the meetings and checking in with the President!\\n4-3. Speak up at meetings.\\nYou ran on specific promises to your classmates. You can ask to add items to student council meeting agendas that focus on the issues in your platform. You can also speak up during meetings to make sure your voice is heard on all issues.\\n4-4. Check in frequently.\\nDon't ignore your classmates once you get elected! Check in with them regularly to make sure they're happy with what the student council, and you in particular, are doing. You can do this in face-to-face conversations by simply asking \\\"What do you think of the job we're/I'm doing?\\\" Or you can issue new surveys that ask the same thing.\\nTips\\nYou are in control, don't let others push you around.\\nDon't trash other campaigns - it will make you look bad! Even if you do win after doing this, you'll lose a lot of respect.\\nBe confident! Don't keep saying to yourself, \\\"I'm not going to get the job\\\" or \\\"I can't do this job\\\" if you're elected. If you believe you can, you will!\\nWarnings\\nNever do anything that will cause damage to your campaign or your role as Vice President. Stay healthy, don't fight with your classmates, and avoid detention. Any of these actions can disrupt your campaign and get you kicked out of office.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Student council vice president is a pretty sweet role. You get to work closely with the president to implement changes that will really impact your school, participate in fun student council sponsored events, and step in and take charge of everything whenever the president isn’t available. Before you can enjoy all of these perks, you need to run a successful campaign and get elected! Don’t worry—this article will walk you through everything you need to know to start your campaign, get elected, and be an awesome VP for your school.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Planning Your Campaign\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Check campaign requirements.\", \"描述\": \"Your school might require that student council candidates have a certain GPA or be in a certain grade. Make sure you check these requirements well ahead of launching your campaign. Start by checking in with the student council faculty advisor, who will know what these requirements are.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Think about why you want to run.\", \"描述\": \"Once you know you're eligible, spend some time thinking about why you'd make a good student council Vice President. Do you have a firm position about cafeteria food? The number of school dances every year? Thinking about this ahead of time will help you when it comes time to planning your campaign.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find out what students want and need.\", \"描述\": \"Your campaign will be the most successful if you can demonstrate that it's focused on the same things your classmates care about. Promising free ice cream every Wednesday sounds like a good idea, but might not be a priority for the rest of your class.\\nPut out a survey. A good way to find out what your classmates want is to give them a survey to fill out. You can make it open-ended, with questions like \\\"What improvement do you most want to see in our school?\\\" or more specific, by asking them to choose from a variety of options.\\nTalk to other students. You can also speak to your classmates in person about what they want to see happen in your school. Try starting with your friends. You can say something like \\\"I really want to run for student council Vice President, but to be a good one, I need to know what everyone wants from their VP. What do you want to see your VP do? What would you like to change about the school?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Develop a platform.\", \"描述\": \"Use the information you get from your classmates to create a platform. This means deciding what you want to do as Vice President. Maybe your classmates worry about eating too much junk food. Part of your platform could be increasing the healthy options in the cafeteria. The more your platform corresponds to what your classmates have said, the better.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make a plan for executing your platform.\", \"描述\": \"You need to have a plan to make your platform a reality or else your classmates will think you're just full of hot air! If your platform includes stocking the cafeteria with healthier foods, you might plan to meet with the school nurse to identify healthier options, and then with the principal to propose and implement these changes.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Come up with a campaign slogan.\", \"描述\": \"You can't share your platform and plans on one poster, which is why a campaign slogan is so important. It should reflect why you're running and what you believe in. Remember, it might be the only thing your classmates hear about you, so you want it to be good.\\nYour campaign slogan can be funny or serious, but it should be simple. Something like \\\"Jane Seymour for Vice President\\\" will work. So will something like \\\"The most interesting man in the world doesn't vote for student council often. But when he does, he votes for Jane!\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Find volunteers to help you.\", \"描述\": \"You can't make and hang posters, pass out flyers, and talk to other students all by yourself. Ask a few friends if they're willing to help you campaign! You can say something like \\\"I really want to run for student council Vice President, but I won't be able to do it alone. Would you be willing to help me with my campaign?\\\" Or you can ask for more specific help like \\\"Would you be willing to help me hang my campaign posters?\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Campaigning\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spread the word.\", \"描述\": \"If you've put the effort into running for vice president, you don't want to just hope that someone will vote for you. There are a lot of ways to get the word out that you're running and why\\nMake posters. Your posters can be as simple or as flashy as you like. It might help to see what others are doing and then do the opposite – if everyone is making bright, bold, flashy posters, make a simpler but still easily noticeable poster. If everyone else is going plain, go bright! This will help you stand out.\\nMake a handout. Your classmates will be seeing a lot of posters during the campaign, so consider making a small handout to give to them, too. This should have your name, your slogan, and why you're running. But make sure your school allows these first – some schools only allow posters!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Write a winning speech.\", \"描述\": \"The most important part of your campaign will come when you're asked to give a speech in front of your class or school, describing why they should vote for you. There are a few tips for writing a winning speech that you should follow!\\nStart by introducing yourself! You can say “Hi! 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1. Developing the Skills
1-1. Develop a wide range of skills.
Specializing can definitely help you land a gig -- if you're an expert martial artist, gymnast, or rock climber, that's great. But the more you know how to do, the more likely you'll be to wow stunt coordinators and to be perfect for roles that require multiple skills. If you want to be a stunt man, then chances are, you're already experienced in a field or two. Here are the most common skills that stunt men can possess:
Fighting: Expert level skills in boxing, combat, or a martial art.
Falling: The ability to fall from a variety of heights, some of which are over three stories high, and the ability to use trampolines.
Riding and driving: High-level skills as a precision driver of cars or motorcycles, or expert level horseback riding skills.
Agility and strength: Superior gymnastics or rock-climbing skills.
Water skills: High level skills in scuba diving, underwater stunts, or advanced swimming.
Miscellaneous sport: A superior skill level in tumbling, fencing, or wirework.
1-2. Know the lingo.
If you want to sound like you know what you're talking about when you start your career as a stunt man, then you have to know the terms associated with the career. If a stunt director starts talking about wirework and you have a blank look on your face, you won't get very far. Here's what you need to know:
Wirework: The ability to expertly use rigs, harnesses, and vests to perform aerial stunts, which include flying or falling action sequences.
Tumbling: Performing gymnastics feats safely without using specialized equipment. These include front and back handsprings, somersaults, shoulder rolls, break falls, dive rolls, round-off back and front handsprings, and cartwheels.
High falls: The ability to fall from three stories or higher, while landing on a box catcher or an airbag, without hurting yourself. You should be familiar with a variety of falls, such as twisting falls, headers, and step outs.
Swordplay: Skillfully using swords, foils, or blades while in combat. This includes fencing or choreographed fight scenes.
Horsework: The ability to ride horses skillfully and safely while performing stunts such as falling, jumping onto a horse, and engaging in swordplay while riding.
Air ram: A device that uses compressed air and hydraulics to catapult a stunt person into the air. It's usually used to create the effect of an explosion, propelling the stunt person through the air as he is flying forward, backward, or somersaulting.
1-3. Consider going to school for specialized training.
Though you don't need a bachelor's degree or formal training in any one arena to be a stunt person, it certainly couldn't hurt. You may already be a pro in certain areas from racing motorcycles to being a black belt in karate, but if you want to improve your skill set, then you should find a reputable school in your area, such as Rick Seaman's stunt driving school, which can help give you an edge.
These programs will not guarantee you a job and some may cost a pretty penny, but if you need to hone your skills, this may be the safest way to do so.
1-4. Have a mentor.
Though going to school to brush up on your skills or to gain new skills is a great way to improve your abilities and make yourself a more marketable and appealing stunt man, another great way to improve your chances of getting hired is to find a mentor. If there is a stunt man you admire, whether it's a stunt driver like Steve Kelso or Andy Gill or a Stunt Director like Spiro Razatos, then you would be very privileged to be able to get under his or her tutelage.
This doesn't mean you should annoy famous stunt men, but that if you are around them or find a way to know them, you would benefit greatly if you could ask them for advice on improving your skills. Often, this part can come later, after you've gotten your foot in the door; you won't have much luck finding a mentor in the stunt business if you have no experience whatsoever, unless you have some powerful connections.
2. Landing a Job
2-1. Get a headshot.
If you want to be taken seriously as a professional, then you'll need to get an 8 x 10 inch black and white headshot. You may need to invest some money in a professional photographer, or be careful about finding a trusted and talented friend with a stellar camera, but it will be worth it. You won't be taken seriously if all you have is a selfie or a cheap Polaroid, so make sure to follow through on this part. A good headshot can help you look like a professional, and can also help stunt coordinators or producers see whether you have the look they want.
A headshot is like your business card as a stunt man; if you don't have one readily available, then how do you expect people you meet in the business to remember you?
2-2. Build your résumé.
You may think that you don't need a résumé to be a stunt man because so much of the work is physical, but that's not the case. You should treat your career just like any other, where a résumé is crucial to helping the people who are hiring you to figure out if you're good for the part. The most important thing is remember is that you have to be honest. Don't try to impress people by saying you have skills you don't really possess, or you will be in trouble -- and even possibly in danger -- if you're picked for the role. Here are some important elements that you should list on your résumé:
Your height, weight, shoe size, and any other physical measurements
Your union affiliation (more on this later)
Film and TV credits (if you have any)
A list of skills or special abilities, such as rock climbing, scuba diving, boxing, or martial arts
2-3. Join a union.
If you want to find work as a stunt man, then you have to join a union, so that you can be legally hired to perform in films, music videos, or television. In America, the two major unions are the Screen Actors Guild (SAG), which is the more prestigious of the two, or the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists. In England, you will have to join the Join Industry Stunt Committee's Stunt Register (JISC); look into the guilds in your country if these do not apply to you.
Getting into a guild is hard work. One way you can get in, if you're lucky, is to get waved in in case a stunt coordinator isn't able to find a person with the combination of skills and build that you have to do a certain job (for example, if you're four foot five and can climb a mountain).
Another way of getting in is to try to get work on a SAG or other union film as an extra for at least three separate days. Get an extras voucher after every day and turn in those three vouchers to make yourself eligible to join a union -- though this still doesn't guarantee that you'll get to join.
2-4. Land your first gig.
If you get lucky, you can land a gig with a great headshot and impressive résumé on a non-union project. But if you want to hit the big leagues and find work on a union project, then you have to obtain a production list from the union you've joined; this will contain all of the local union productions that are shooting near you; you will have to sent the stunt coordinator your headshot, résumé, and a brief letter, and hope to get picked for the job.
Even if you don't get picked, the coordinator will have your résumé on file for future gigs.
While you're waiting for a call, you should try to get some more experience on (union-only) sets, to get a feel for what the job is like.
2-5. Be patient.
You may not land your first gig right away. Or you may get lucky and land your first gig, and then there's the months-long radio silence before you hear from a producer again. That's perfectly natural. This is an extremely hard business to break in to, especially if you don't have any connections, and waiting is part of the game. Though you should continue to put yourself out there, you should be prepared to find other work in the meantime, and to stay motivated to succeed, even if you haven't gotten a gig in a while.
2-6. Consider another career in your field.
Being a stunt man is exciting work, but you may not be able to do it forever, whether you're becoming prone to injury, getting older, or just no longer wanting to be part of a risky profession. If you're tired of being a stunt man or a stunt driver but you've gained a lot of experience, then you don't have to quit your field completely; instead, you can find a way to take a more management-related role while still staying in the stunt world. Here are some other roles you can take on:
Stunt rigger: To be a stunt rigger, you should not only be an experienced stunt performer, but you should have an understanding of the mechanics of stunt equipment. You should have safety as your first priority, and will perform a variety of tasks, from testing and tearing down stunt equipment on the set to arranging landing pads for falls and positioning wires and harnesses correctly.
Stunt coordinator: This is the head of the stunt department, the person who works closely with the director to create the action sequences in the film, or even to suggest alternative stunt scenarios when it is necessary. The stunt coordinator designs the desired stunts, hires the stunt crew, manages the budget, and makes sure all of the stunts are performed safely.
Second unit director: The person in charge of filming the stunt scenes, as opposed to the stunt coordinator, who is responsible for staging the actual stunts. As the second unit director, you will film scenes of the stunt performers in action as well as exterior shots of the scenes which can be used in post-production. Although these directors may have experience in stunt work, then must also be experienced in filming and directing.
3. Succeeding in Your Career
3-1. Follow directions.
You may think that your best chance of success comes from showing off, trying to impress the film crew, and boasting about all of your additional skills. Once you've become a veteran stunt man, then sure, you will have more leeway, and you may even be consulted as a stunt coordinator or producer, but when you're trying to get your foot in the door, it's important to be as agreeable as possible.
You want to be remembered as someone who is easy to work with. Why? So you can get hired again.
When you're following directions, it's important to be polite and reasonable when you interact with the crew. If you genuinely have a question about how a stunt should be performed, ask away, but don't nitpick everything that's happening or slow down the process.
3-2. Be prepared for long hours.
Being a stunt person doesn't mean falling out of a helicopter for three takes and then calling it a day. It can mean over 14 hours on a set, working nights, and staying mentally and physically alert throughout the process. This is a full-time job, and once you start landing enough gigs, you must be able to commit to the time that you'll need to succeed in your role. In the beginning, you may be juggling other work along with stunt work, but if you've hit the big leagues, you must be ready to give it your all.
This means that you'll need endurance to succeed at the job. If you get winded after an our of fighting or feel ready for a nap after rock climbing for an afternoon, then you need to build up your mental and physical strength.
3-3. Be prepared to travel.
If you're a true stunt man, then you won't be spending your life filming within a thirty mile radius of your comfy home, not even if you live in Hollywood, CA. You'll be traveling to the Caribbean to film a jet-skiing sequence. You might find yourself in Peru to shoot a rock climbing scene. You might even be in Germany for a high-speed car chase. This means long hours on airplanes, and needing to get over jet lag before you hit those jet-skiis. Sure, this will be exciting, thrilling work, but you'll need to be prepared for all of the travel it involves.
As you get older, all of the traveling may become more difficult because you'll have to find a way to make time for your family, if you have one.
3-4. Stay physically strong.
Most stunt men are at the peak of their careers between their 20s and 40s, which means that you have to stay in the best possible shape during these years. This means not engaging in risky behavior, whether you're on the job or hanging out with friends, and avoiding overindulgence in food or drink, which can wear down your body and make you feel horrible when you show up to work. Eat healthy, get enough rest, and make sure to exercise as often as you can, doing a mixture of cardiovascular and strength training, so you're fit enough to do the job.
Another way to stay strong is to continue to brush up on your skills, whether you're practicing karate or swimming.
If you want to stay physically strong, then you have to keep your mind strong, too. You can't let the dangers of the job get to you and you have to stay focused and positive if you want to succeed in the long run.
3-5. Be a master at risk management.
Being a stunt man doesn't mean recklessly jumping out of three story windows, playing with fire, or crashing a motorcycle into a tree because you weren't careful. Stunt men have families, drive, and exciting careers, which means that they love what they do and want to stay alive to continue doing it. When you get training on how to fall without hurting yourself, drive without crashing, and swim without drowning, etc, you should heed those words carefully, and not go out of bounds to show off if it means risking your life.
A study conducted by the University of Illinois at Chicago showed that there were 37 fatalities on film or TV sets between 1980-1989 by stunt men and women alone; a study by the Screen Actors Guild (SAG) showed that 4,998 of its members were injured between the years of 1982-1986, mostly because of stunts. This is a risky business, and you need to stay rational and focused if you don't want to become a statistic.
Something can always go wrong, on the set of a Harry Potter movie, Daniel Radcliffe's stunt double David Holmes was left paralyzed and suffered serious spine injures, after a test run for a flying scene went wrong. He is set to spend the rest of his life in a wheelchair.
Even if you don't get hurt while demonstrating reckless behavior, you don't want to develop a reputation for being reckless, or no one will want to work with you. What producer would want the reputation of having a stunt man die or fall to serious injury on his set?
You need to work on your risk-management skills, not your risk-taking skills. Being a good stunt man is all about being safe, not risking your life.
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Here are the most common skills that stunt men can possess:\\n\\nFighting: Expert level skills in boxing, combat, or a martial art.\\nFalling: The ability to fall from a variety of heights, some of which are over three stories high, and the ability to use trampolines.\\nRiding and driving: High-level skills as a precision driver of cars or motorcycles, or expert level horseback riding skills.\\nAgility and strength: Superior gymnastics or rock-climbing skills.\\nWater skills: High level skills in scuba diving, underwater stunts, or advanced swimming.\\nMiscellaneous sport: A superior skill level in tumbling, fencing, or wirework.\\n1-2. Know the lingo.\\nIf you want to sound like you know what you're talking about when you start your career as a stunt man, then you have to know the terms associated with the career. If a stunt director starts talking about wirework and you have a blank look on your face, you won't get very far. Here's what you need to know:\\n\\nWirework: The ability to expertly use rigs, harnesses, and vests to perform aerial stunts, which include flying or falling action sequences.\\nTumbling: Performing gymnastics feats safely without using specialized equipment. These include front and back handsprings, somersaults, shoulder rolls, break falls, dive rolls, round-off back and front handsprings, and cartwheels.\\nHigh falls: The ability to fall from three stories or higher, while landing on a box catcher or an airbag, without hurting yourself. You should be familiar with a variety of falls, such as twisting falls, headers, and step outs.\\nSwordplay: Skillfully using swords, foils, or blades while in combat. This includes fencing or choreographed fight scenes.\\nHorsework: The ability to ride horses skillfully and safely while performing stunts such as falling, jumping onto a horse, and engaging in swordplay while riding.\\nAir ram: A device that uses compressed air and hydraulics to catapult a stunt person into the air. It's usually used to create the effect of an explosion, propelling the stunt person through the air as he is flying forward, backward, or somersaulting.\\n1-3. Consider going to school for specialized training.\\nThough you don't need a bachelor's degree or formal training in any one arena to be a stunt person, it certainly couldn't hurt. You may already be a pro in certain areas from racing motorcycles to being a black belt in karate, but if you want to improve your skill set, then you should find a reputable school in your area, such as Rick Seaman's stunt driving school, which can help give you an edge.\\nThese programs will not guarantee you a job and some may cost a pretty penny, but if you need to hone your skills, this may be the safest way to do so.\\n1-4. Have a mentor.\\nThough going to school to brush up on your skills or to gain new skills is a great way to improve your abilities and make yourself a more marketable and appealing stunt man, another great way to improve your chances of getting hired is to find a mentor. If there is a stunt man you admire, whether it's a stunt driver like Steve Kelso or Andy Gill or a Stunt Director like Spiro Razatos, then you would be very privileged to be able to get under his or her tutelage.\\nThis doesn't mean you should annoy famous stunt men, but that if you are around them or find a way to know them, you would benefit greatly if you could ask them for advice on improving your skills. Often, this part can come later, after you've gotten your foot in the door; you won't have much luck finding a mentor in the stunt business if you have no experience whatsoever, unless you have some powerful connections.\\n2. Landing a Job\\n2-1. Get a headshot.\\nIf you want to be taken seriously as a professional, then you'll need to get an 8 x 10 inch black and white headshot. You may need to invest some money in a professional photographer, or be careful about finding a trusted and talented friend with a stellar camera, but it will be worth it. You won't be taken seriously if all you have is a selfie or a cheap Polaroid, so make sure to follow through on this part. A good headshot can help you look like a professional, and can also help stunt coordinators or producers see whether you have the look they want.\\nA headshot is like your business card as a stunt man; if you don't have one readily available, then how do you expect people you meet in the business to remember you?\\n2-2. Build your résumé.\\nYou may think that you don't need a résumé to be a stunt man because so much of the work is physical, but that's not the case. You should treat your career just like any other, where a résumé is crucial to helping the people who are hiring you to figure out if you're good for the part. The most important thing is remember is that you have to be honest. Don't try to impress people by saying you have skills you don't really possess, or you will be in trouble -- and even possibly in danger -- if you're picked for the role. Here are some important elements that you should list on your résumé:\\nYour height, weight, shoe size, and any other physical measurements\\nYour union affiliation (more on this later)\\nFilm and TV credits (if you have any)\\nA list of skills or special abilities, such as rock climbing, scuba diving, boxing, or martial arts\\n2-3. Join a union.\\nIf you want to find work as a stunt man, then you have to join a union, so that you can be legally hired to perform in films, music videos, or television. In America, the two major unions are the Screen Actors Guild (SAG), which is the more prestigious of the two, or the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists. In England, you will have to join the Join Industry Stunt Committee's Stunt Register (JISC); look into the guilds in your country if these do not apply to you.\\nGetting into a guild is hard work. One way you can get in, if you're lucky, is to get waved in in case a stunt coordinator isn't able to find a person with the combination of skills and build that you have to do a certain job (for example, if you're four foot five and can climb a mountain).\\nAnother way of getting in is to try to get work on a SAG or other union film as an extra for at least three separate days. Get an extras voucher after every day and turn in those three vouchers to make yourself eligible to join a union -- though this still doesn't guarantee that you'll get to join.\\n2-4. Land your first gig.\\nIf you get lucky, you can land a gig with a great headshot and impressive résumé on a non-union project. But if you want to hit the big leagues and find work on a union project, then you have to obtain a production list from the union you've joined; this will contain all of the local union productions that are shooting near you; you will have to sent the stunt coordinator your headshot, résumé, and a brief letter, and hope to get picked for the job.\\nEven if you don't get picked, the coordinator will have your résumé on file for future gigs.\\nWhile you're waiting for a call, you should try to get some more experience on (union-only) sets, to get a feel for what the job is like.\\n2-5. Be patient.\\nYou may not land your first gig right away. Or you may get lucky and land your first gig, and then there's the months-long radio silence before you hear from a producer again. That's perfectly natural. This is an extremely hard business to break in to, especially if you don't have any connections, and waiting is part of the game. Though you should continue to put yourself out there, you should be prepared to find other work in the meantime, and to stay motivated to succeed, even if you haven't gotten a gig in a while.\\n2-6. Consider another career in your field.\\nBeing a stunt man is exciting work, but you may not be able to do it forever, whether you're becoming prone to injury, getting older, or just no longer wanting to be part of a risky profession. If you're tired of being a stunt man or a stunt driver but you've gained a lot of experience, then you don't have to quit your field completely; instead, you can find a way to take a more management-related role while still staying in the stunt world. Here are some other roles you can take on:\\n\\nStunt rigger: To be a stunt rigger, you should not only be an experienced stunt performer, but you should have an understanding of the mechanics of stunt equipment. You should have safety as your first priority, and will perform a variety of tasks, from testing and tearing down stunt equipment on the set to arranging landing pads for falls and positioning wires and harnesses correctly.\\nStunt coordinator: This is the head of the stunt department, the person who works closely with the director to create the action sequences in the film, or even to suggest alternative stunt scenarios when it is necessary. The stunt coordinator designs the desired stunts, hires the stunt crew, manages the budget, and makes sure all of the stunts are performed safely.\\nSecond unit director: The person in charge of filming the stunt scenes, as opposed to the stunt coordinator, who is responsible for staging the actual stunts. As the second unit director, you will film scenes of the stunt performers in action as well as exterior shots of the scenes which can be used in post-production. Although these directors may have experience in stunt work, then must also be experienced in filming and directing.\\n3. Succeeding in Your Career\\n3-1. Follow directions.\\nYou may think that your best chance of success comes from showing off, trying to impress the film crew, and boasting about all of your additional skills. Once you've become a veteran stunt man, then sure, you will have more leeway, and you may even be consulted as a stunt coordinator or producer, but when you're trying to get your foot in the door, it's important to be as agreeable as possible.\\nYou want to be remembered as someone who is easy to work with. Why? So you can get hired again.\\nWhen you're following directions, it's important to be polite and reasonable when you interact with the crew. If you genuinely have a question about how a stunt should be performed, ask away, but don't nitpick everything that's happening or slow down the process.\\n3-2. Be prepared for long hours.\\nBeing a stunt person doesn't mean falling out of a helicopter for three takes and then calling it a day. It can mean over 14 hours on a set, working nights, and staying mentally and physically alert throughout the process. This is a full-time job, and once you start landing enough gigs, you must be able to commit to the time that you'll need to succeed in your role. In the beginning, you may be juggling other work along with stunt work, but if you've hit the big leagues, you must be ready to give it your all.\\nThis means that you'll need endurance to succeed at the job. If you get winded after an our of fighting or feel ready for a nap after rock climbing for an afternoon, then you need to build up your mental and physical strength.\\n3-3. Be prepared to travel.\\nIf you're a true stunt man, then you won't be spending your life filming within a thirty mile radius of your comfy home, not even if you live in Hollywood, CA. You'll be traveling to the Caribbean to film a jet-skiing sequence. You might find yourself in Peru to shoot a rock climbing scene. You might even be in Germany for a high-speed car chase. This means long hours on airplanes, and needing to get over jet lag before you hit those jet-skiis. Sure, this will be exciting, thrilling work, but you'll need to be prepared for all of the travel it involves.\\nAs you get older, all of the traveling may become more difficult because you'll have to find a way to make time for your family, if you have one.\\n3-4. Stay physically strong.\\nMost stunt men are at the peak of their careers between their 20s and 40s, which means that you have to stay in the best possible shape during these years. This means not engaging in risky behavior, whether you're on the job or hanging out with friends, and avoiding overindulgence in food or drink, which can wear down your body and make you feel horrible when you show up to work. Eat healthy, get enough rest, and make sure to exercise as often as you can, doing a mixture of cardiovascular and strength training, so you're fit enough to do the job.\\nAnother way to stay strong is to continue to brush up on your skills, whether you're practicing karate or swimming.\\nIf you want to stay physically strong, then you have to keep your mind strong, too. You can't let the dangers of the job get to you and you have to stay focused and positive if you want to succeed in the long run.\\n3-5. Be a master at risk management.\\nBeing a stunt man doesn't mean recklessly jumping out of three story windows, playing with fire, or crashing a motorcycle into a tree because you weren't careful. Stunt men have families, drive, and exciting careers, which means that they love what they do and want to stay alive to continue doing it. When you get training on how to fall without hurting yourself, drive without crashing, and swim without drowning, etc, you should heed those words carefully, and not go out of bounds to show off if it means risking your life.\\nA study conducted by the University of Illinois at Chicago showed that there were 37 fatalities on film or TV sets between 1980-1989 by stunt men and women alone; a study by the Screen Actors Guild (SAG) showed that 4,998 of its members were injured between the years of 1982-1986, mostly because of stunts. This is a risky business, and you need to stay rational and focused if you don't want to become a statistic.\\nSomething can always go wrong, on the set of a Harry Potter movie, Daniel Radcliffe's stunt double David Holmes was left paralyzed and suffered serious spine injures, after a test run for a flying scene went wrong. He is set to spend the rest of his life in a wheelchair.\\nEven if you don't get hurt while demonstrating reckless behavior, you don't want to develop a reputation for being reckless, or no one will want to work with you. What producer would want the reputation of having a stunt man die or fall to serious injury on his set?\\nYou need to work on your risk-management skills, not your risk-taking skills. Being a good stunt man is all about being safe, not risking your life.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Water skiing, climbing the side of a building, engaging in a street fight or a karate face-off etc. are cool and exciting enough on their own, but imagine having these thrilling actions being part of your career. Sounds good right? If so, then you may be the perfect stunt man (or stunt woman). However, being a stunt man isn't about taking risks and living on the edge -- it's about managing risks, staying physically healthy, and, well, doing your job.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing the Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop a wide range of skills.\", \"描述\": \"Specializing can definitely help you land a gig -- if you're an expert martial artist, gymnast, or rock climber, that's great. But the more you know how to do, the more likely you'll be to wow stunt coordinators and to be perfect for roles that require multiple skills. If you want to be a stunt man, then chances are, you're already experienced in a field or two. Here are the most common skills that stunt men can possess:\\n\\nFighting: Expert level skills in boxing, combat, or a martial art.\\nFalling: The ability to fall from a variety of heights, some of which are over three stories high, and the ability to use trampolines.\\nRiding and driving: High-level skills as a precision driver of cars or motorcycles, or expert level horseback riding skills.\\nAgility and strength: Superior gymnastics or rock-climbing skills.\\nWater skills: High level skills in scuba diving, underwater stunts, or advanced swimming.\\nMiscellaneous sport: A superior skill level in tumbling, fencing, or wirework.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know the lingo.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to sound like you know what you're talking about when you start your career as a stunt man, then you have to know the terms associated with the career. If a stunt director starts talking about wirework and you have a blank look on your face, you won't get very far. Here's what you need to know:\\n\\nWirework: The ability to expertly use rigs, harnesses, and vests to perform aerial stunts, which include flying or falling action sequences.\\nTumbling: Performing gymnastics feats safely without using specialized equipment. These include front and back handsprings, somersaults, shoulder rolls, break falls, dive rolls, round-off back and front handsprings, and cartwheels.\\nHigh falls: The ability to fall from three stories or higher, while landing on a box catcher or an airbag, without hurting yourself. You should be familiar with a variety of falls, such as twisting falls, headers, and step outs.\\nSwordplay: Skillfully using swords, foils, or blades while in combat. This includes fencing or choreographed fight scenes.\\nHorsework: The ability to ride horses skillfully and safely while performing stunts such as falling, jumping onto a horse, and engaging in swordplay while riding.\\nAir ram: A device that uses compressed air and hydraulics to catapult a stunt person into the air. It's usually used to create the effect of an explosion, propelling the stunt person through the air as he is flying forward, backward, or somersaulting.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider going to school for specialized training.\", \"描述\": \"Though you don't need a bachelor's degree or formal training in any one arena to be a stunt person, it certainly couldn't hurt. You may already be a pro in certain areas from racing motorcycles to being a black belt in karate, but if you want to improve your skill set, then you should find a reputable school in your area, such as Rick Seaman's stunt driving school, which can help give you an edge.\\nThese programs will not guarantee you a job and some may cost a pretty penny, but if you need to hone your skills, this may be the safest way to do so.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have a mentor.\", \"描述\": \"Though going to school to brush up on your skills or to gain new skills is a great way to improve your abilities and make yourself a more marketable and appealing stunt man, another great way to improve your chances of getting hired is to find a mentor. If there is a stunt man you admire, whether it's a stunt driver like Steve Kelso or Andy Gill or a Stunt Director like Spiro Razatos, then you would be very privileged to be able to get under his or her tutelage.\\nThis doesn't mean you should annoy famous stunt men, but that if you are around them or find a way to know them, you would benefit greatly if you could ask them for advice on improving your skills. Often, this part can come later, after you've gotten your foot in the door; you won't have much luck finding a mentor in the stunt business if you have no experience whatsoever, unless you have some powerful connections.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Landing a Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a headshot.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be taken seriously as a professional, then you'll need to get an 8 x 10 inch black and white headshot. You may need to invest some money in a professional photographer, or be careful about finding a trusted and talented friend with a stellar camera, but it will be worth it. You won't be taken seriously if all you have is a selfie or a cheap Polaroid, so make sure to follow through on this part. A good headshot can help you look like a professional, and can also help stunt coordinators or producers see whether you have the look they want.\\nA headshot is like your business card as a stunt man; if you don't have one readily available, then how do you expect people you meet in the business to remember you?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Build your résumé.\", \"描述\": \"You may think that you don't need a résumé to be a stunt man because so much of the work is physical, but that's not the case. You should treat your career just like any other, where a résumé is crucial to helping the people who are hiring you to figure out if you're good for the part. The most important thing is remember is that you have to be honest. Don't try to impress people by saying you have skills you don't really possess, or you will be in trouble -- and even possibly in danger -- if you're picked for the role. Here are some important elements that you should list on your résumé:\\nYour height, weight, shoe size, and any other physical measurements\\nYour union affiliation (more on this later)\\nFilm and TV credits (if you have any)\\nA list of skills or special abilities, such as rock climbing, scuba diving, boxing, or martial arts\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Join a union.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to find work as a stunt man, then you have to join a union, so that you can be legally hired to perform in films, music videos, or television. In America, the two major unions are the Screen Actors Guild (SAG), which is the more prestigious of the two, or the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists. In England, you will have to join the Join Industry Stunt Committee's Stunt Register (JISC); look into the guilds in your country if these do not apply to you.\\nGetting into a guild is hard work. One way you can get in, if you're lucky, is to get waved in in case a stunt coordinator isn't able to find a person with the combination of skills and build that you have to do a certain job (for example, if you're four foot five and can climb a mountain).\\nAnother way of getting in is to try to get work on a SAG or other union film as an extra for at least three separate days. Get an extras voucher after every day and turn in those three vouchers to make yourself eligible to join a union -- though this still doesn't guarantee that you'll get to join.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Land your first gig.\", \"描述\": \"If you get lucky, you can land a gig with a great headshot and impressive résumé on a non-union project. But if you want to hit the big leagues and find work on a union project, then you have to obtain a production list from the union you've joined; this will contain all of the local union productions that are shooting near you; you will have to sent the stunt coordinator your headshot, résumé, and a brief letter, and hope to get picked for the job.\\nEven if you don't get picked, the coordinator will have your résumé on file for future gigs.\\nWhile you're waiting for a call, you should try to get some more experience on (union-only) sets, to get a feel for what the job is like.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be patient.\", \"描述\": \"You may not land your first gig right away. Or you may get lucky and land your first gig, and then there's the months-long radio silence before you hear from a producer again. That's perfectly natural. This is an extremely hard business to break in to, especially if you don't have any connections, and waiting is part of the game. Though you should continue to put yourself out there, you should be prepared to find other work in the meantime, and to stay motivated to succeed, even if you haven't gotten a gig in a while.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Consider another career in your field.\", \"描述\": \"Being a stunt man is exciting work, but you may not be able to do it forever, whether you're becoming prone to injury, getting older, or just no longer wanting to be part of a risky profession. If you're tired of being a stunt man or a stunt driver but you've gained a lot of experience, then you don't have to quit your field completely; instead, you can find a way to take a more management-related role while still staying in the stunt world. Here are some other roles you can take on:\\n\\nStunt rigger: To be a stunt rigger, you should not only be an experienced stunt performer, but you should have an understanding of the mechanics of stunt equipment. You should have safety as your first priority, and will perform a variety of tasks, from testing and tearing down stunt equipment on the set to arranging landing pads for falls and positioning wires and harnesses correctly.\\nStunt coordinator: This is the head of the stunt department, the person who works closely with the director to create the action sequences in the film, or even to suggest alternative stunt scenarios when it is necessary. The stunt coordinator designs the desired stunts, hires the stunt crew, manages the budget, and makes sure all of the stunts are performed safely.\\nSecond unit director: The person in charge of filming the stunt scenes, as opposed to the stunt coordinator, who is responsible for staging the actual stunts. As the second unit director, you will film scenes of the stunt performers in action as well as exterior shots of the scenes which can be used in post-production. Although these directors may have experience in stunt work, then must also be experienced in filming and directing.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Succeeding in Your Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Follow directions.\", \"描述\": \"You may think that your best chance of success comes from showing off, trying to impress the film crew, and boasting about all of your additional skills. Once you've become a veteran stunt man, then sure, you will have more leeway, and you may even be consulted as a stunt coordinator or producer, but when you're trying to get your foot in the door, it's important to be as agreeable as possible.\\nYou want to be remembered as someone who is easy to work with. Why? So you can get hired again.\\nWhen you're following directions, it's important to be polite and reasonable when you interact with the crew. If you genuinely have a question about how a stunt should be performed, ask away, but don't nitpick everything that's happening or slow down the process.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be prepared for long hours.\", \"描述\": \"Being a stunt person doesn't mean falling out of a helicopter for three takes and then calling it a day. It can mean over 14 hours on a set, working nights, and staying mentally and physically alert throughout the process. This is a full-time job, and once you start landing enough gigs, you must be able to commit to the time that you'll need to succeed in your role. In the beginning, you may be juggling other work along with stunt work, but if you've hit the big leagues, you must be ready to give it your all.\\nThis means that you'll need endurance to succeed at the job. If you get winded after an our of fighting or feel ready for a nap after rock climbing for an afternoon, then you need to build up your mental and physical strength.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be prepared to travel.\", \"描述\": \"If you're a true stunt man, then you won't be spending your life filming within a thirty mile radius of your comfy home, not even if you live in Hollywood, CA. You'll be traveling to the Caribbean to film a jet-skiing sequence. You might find yourself in Peru to shoot a rock climbing scene. You might even be in Germany for a high-speed car chase. This means long hours on airplanes, and needing to get over jet lag before you hit those jet-skiis. Sure, this will be exciting, thrilling work, but you'll need to be prepared for all of the travel it involves.\\nAs you get older, all of the traveling may become more difficult because you'll have to find a way to make time for your family, if you have one.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay physically strong.\", \"描述\": \"Most stunt men are at the peak of their careers between their 20s and 40s, which means that you have to stay in the best possible shape during these years. This means not engaging in risky behavior, whether you're on the job or hanging out with friends, and avoiding overindulgence in food or drink, which can wear down your body and make you feel horrible when you show up to work. Eat healthy, get enough rest, and make sure to exercise as often as you can, doing a mixture of cardiovascular and strength training, so you're fit enough to do the job.\\nAnother way to stay strong is to continue to brush up on your skills, whether you're practicing karate or swimming.\\nIf you want to stay physically strong, then you have to keep your mind strong, too. You can't let the dangers of the job get to you and you have to stay focused and positive if you want to succeed in the long run.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be a master at risk management.\", \"描述\": \"Being a stunt man doesn't mean recklessly jumping out of three story windows, playing with fire, or crashing a motorcycle into a tree because you weren't careful. Stunt men have families, drive, and exciting careers, which means that they love what they do and want to stay alive to continue doing it. When you get training on how to fall without hurting yourself, drive without crashing, and swim without drowning, etc, you should heed those words carefully, and not go out of bounds to show off if it means risking your life.\\nA study conducted by the University of Illinois at Chicago showed that there were 37 fatalities on film or TV sets between 1980-1989 by stunt men and women alone; a study by the Screen Actors Guild (SAG) showed that 4,998 of its members were injured between the years of 1982-1986, mostly because of stunts. This is a risky business, and you need to stay rational and focused if you don't want to become a statistic.\\nSomething can always go wrong, on the set of a Harry Potter movie, Daniel Radcliffe's stunt double David Holmes was left paralyzed and suffered serious spine injures, after a test run for a flying scene went wrong. 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1. Exploring Fashion
1-1. Discover your fashion icons.
A great way to develop your own personal style is to explore the style of others. This will help you figure out your tastes—what you love, what you dislike, and what you’d like to try.
Fashion bloggers, celebrities, and designers are great people to look to when exploring fashion. Which celebrity do you think always looks well-dressed?
Keep track of your fashion icons' looks and interests on social media sites, such as Instagram and Pinterest
1-2. Create a fashion scrapbook.
This can be online via sites like Pinterest or Clothia, or using a physical scrapbook, into which you could paste print-outs and magazine cut-outs. Consider organizing your pages in some way. For example:
By what you'd wear during each season, such as spring, summer, and winter.
By different garment type, such as jackets, boots, and dresses.
By purpose and occasion, such as work, formal, and casual.
1-3. Consider who you are
As you explore fashion, consider whether a theme emerges when you look at your favorite items. Are you often choosing punky looking outfits? Maybe you’re more into a retro style like ‘70s rockstar or ‘50s pin-up, or maybe you’re more of a minimalist.
Think about what the things you like say about you, and about how you can express who you are through the things you wear.
If you’re an outgoing actor who loves to dress up, you might wear bright colors and chunky accessories, for example.
1-4. Don’t be a carbon copy.
As you start out it might feel overwhelming to put together a great outfit, and it may be tempting to just copy other people’s outfits. Try to keep your look more unique by doing variations on what you see elsewhere.
For example, you might do the same silhouette as someone else did, but with different colours or patterns.
Alternatively, you can use the same colors, but different pieces. For example, instead of wearing a white blouse, a blue skirt, and tan heels, try a white shirt, blue jeans, and tan boots.
Add individuality to your outfit by using different accessories, such as bags, belts, hats, or jewelry. For example, instead of using fancy gold jewelry, you could try rustic wood jewelry.
1-5. Pay attention to how people wear things.
Ever seen those “who wore it better” photos? People rarely wear the same clothes in the same way. In addition, they’ll often pair their clothes with different hairstyles and accessories. For example:
One person might wear a loose-fitting blouse untucked over skinny jeans with a pair of thigh-high boots.
Another person might wear the same blouse tucked into the same skinny jeans, but with the sleeves rolled up and a pair of chunky ankle boots.
1-6. Don’t be a snob.
Stylish people can put together great outfits no matter what store they’re in. Don’t limit yourself to the big brand stores. Check out thrift, vintage, and discount shops to see if you can find any treasures.
Consider the corporate ethics of the stores that you shop in, especially if you're trying to be politically and environmentally conscious.
For example you could shop exclusively at stores that use naturally-sourced materials and donate their proceeds to different organizations.
1-7. Stay true to yourself.
It’s important to step outside of your comfort zone and try new things, but don’t do so at the expense of your self-confidence. Only wear what makes you feel like the best version of yourself.
Pick clothes that fit your lifestyle. For instance, if you're really active and have to run a lot of errands, you might want to go for fashionable sneakers rather than super high heels.
For example, if you don't feel comfortable dressing "sexy" in tight jeans and low-cut tops, then you don't have to.
Set a style for yourself. If you like vintage-inspired clothing, then go for it! Part of being stylish is being unique!
1-8. Be confident
Confidence is as important to style as what you’re wearing. Ever heard the saying “don’t let the clothes wear you”? If you lack confidence, you might not be able to pull off the stylish clothes that you love.
Work on feeling good about yourself no matter how you look, and no matter what hangups you may have about your body.
2. Building a Stylish Wardrobe
2-1. Choose a few classic staples to build your wardrobe around.
Style experts build their closets around a few key pieces—all in neutral colors—that can be combined to make the majority of their outfits. Nearly all of them list the same basic pieces:
white, long-sleeved, button-down dress shirts, neutral-colored crew-neck sweaters, and neutral-colored V-neck T-shirts.
slim-legged black slacks, dark blue skinny jeans, and neutral-colored pencil skirts.
little black dress in whatever shape best fits your body type.
basic black pumps, black or brown ankle boots, and nude or black ballet flats.
black blazers, beige or black trench coats, and black or neutral-colored motorcycle jackets.
2-2. Have a signature silhouette.
Narrow your style down to a set of silhouettes that suit your body. This will help focus your choices and make it easier to buy new clothes and put together outfits.
Once you know what you look best in, stick to that silhouette and buy variations on it.
Your silhouette might be tight pants with chunky boots and loose-fitting tops, or high-waisted skirts and dainty heels.
2-3. Consider your daily routine.
When buying clothes, shoes, and accessories keep in mind how you spend your days. This will ensure that you actually wear what you buy.
For example, teacher will need a completely different wardrobe (e.g., slacks, pencil skirts, sweaters and flats) than a waitress at a fancy restaurant (e.g., cocktail dresses and heels).
2-4. Clean out your wardrobe.
Remove everything that doesn’t match your current style tastes. If something doesn’t fit you properly, donate it or have it tailored. Make sure that you feel great in everything that’s in your closet.
Be picky. Get rid of anything that you don’t feel good in. It's just taking up space and making it more difficult to compose stylish outfits.
2-5. Spice up your outfits with accessories.
Belts, handbags, and statement necklaces are a great way to spice up your classic clothing pieces.
Take a little black dress from day to night by switching your flats for heels, and adding a big statement necklace.
2-6. Don’t forget about hats, belts, and bags.
Earrings and necklaces aren’t the only things you can use to boost your style.
Cinch in your waist and add a retro look to a plain little black dress by combining it with a vintage brown belt and handbag.
Wide-brimmed hats have enjoyed popularity for a while now. They’re a great way to dress up most outfits, and are often seen paired with maxi dresses or skinny jeans and blazers.
2-7. Invest in a pair of sunglasses.
Another must-have accessory for the stylishly minded is sunglasses. Generally big aviators and cat’s eye sunglasses have been popular over the past few years, but you need to choose what looks best on your face.
Stand at a sunglasses rack and try on all the different styles. Who knows? Maybe you look best in a pair of small circular sunnies like John Lennon wore.
3. Trying Specific Tricks
3-1. Keep it neutral.
If you’re worried about what colors to go with, start with a neutral palette like black, grey, beige, and white, and then incorporate a few punchy items as you go.
For example, pair a vibrant green blouse with a black pencil skirt and black blazer.
Alternatively, complement a little black dress with a chunky, colorful statement necklace.
3-2. Experiment with monochromatic outfits.
Monochromatic outfits, or outfits all in one color, can be really eye-catching. Try putting together an outfit in all one color—popular choices are red or white, but really it depends on what looks best with your skin and hair.
All black is a safe bet (although maybe a bit too safe!) and can go easily from casual to chic.
3-3. Always wear accessories.
Classic fashion advice is to go minimalistic on the clothing and silhouettes and then amp them up with accessories like a scarf or belt. Adding an unexpected accessory that doesn’t obviously go with your outfit can give it an extra punch. For example:
Pair a feminine cardigan and fitted pencil skirt with a chunky watch and spiky ear studs.
Spice up a plain, loose-fitting black shirt, black skinny jeans and black chunky ankle boots with a chunky gold chain necklace and diamond (or diamond-like) ear studs.
Add a pop of color to an all-white ensemble with a colorful silk scarf a pair of silver hoops.
3-4. Play up your favorite attributes.
Show off those long legs, accentuate that small waist or full bust, or choose a color that makes your eyes pop (or do all three!). Whatever you like best about your body, choose things that show that off.
For example, make your legs look longer with a miniskirt or skinny jeans and heels in the same color.
Alternatively, if you want to bring out your blue-grey eyes, add a blue-grey scarf to your outfit.
3-5. Don’t be too put together.
Leave that shirt partly untucked, or wear a pair of casual shoes with dressy slacks and a blazer. Looking too put together might make you look like you’re trying too hard, which can make you look less stylish.
3-6. Be stylish no matter what you’re doing.
Stylish people always look stylish, whether they’re in their pyjamas, having low-key hangouts with friends, or out for a night on the town. With the right styling, you can look stylish even in skinny jeans and a T-shirt.
For example, pair black skinny jeans and a white V-neck T-shirt with a grey scarf, charcoal ankle boots, a black blazer, and silver hoop earrings.
3-7. Be well-groomed.
Having great-looking hair, eyebrows, skin, and nails will immediately boost your stylishness by making you look more put together.
3-8. Ensure that you’re comfortable.
No matter what you wear, make sure you feel comfortable in what you’re wearing. This will immediately boost your stylishness by making you look at ease in what you’re wearing.
Heels won’t accentuate an outfit if you look like you’re drunk or injured while you try to walk in them.
Tips
Some experts say that limiting how often they shop actually helps them keep a trimmer and more stylish closet. One supermodel claims to only shop 4 times a year, and to only buy 2 good pieces each season.[23]
X
Research source
Heels are a great way to add a little instant style boost to your outfit.[24]
X
Research source
Right now (early 2016) it’s popular to wear shoes that don’t obviously complement your outfit, for example, chunky leather shoes instead of ballet flats with a pair of fitted slacks or a miniskirt.[25]
X
Research source
Warnings
If you love a trend but are on a budget, save money by shopping at cheaper shops like Forever21 or H&M. Trendy items aren’t meant to be worn for more than 1 or 2 seasons, so it doesn’t make sense for you to spend a lot of money on them.
If you go to school/still live with your parents, make sure that they are okay with the clothes and makeup that you want to wear before you buy it.
Only buy clothes and shoes that fit and feel comfortable. If you’re not comfortable in them, you won’t wear them. They’ll just add clutter to your closet and make it more difficult to put outfits together.
Avoid impulse purchases, which will only clutter your wardrobe and take money away from your fashion budget.[26]
X
Research source
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Consider who you are\\nAs you explore fashion, consider whether a theme emerges when you look at your favorite items. Are you often choosing punky looking outfits? Maybe you’re more into a retro style like ‘70s rockstar or ‘50s pin-up, or maybe you’re more of a minimalist.\\nThink about what the things you like say about you, and about how you can express who you are through the things you wear.\\nIf you’re an outgoing actor who loves to dress up, you might wear bright colors and chunky accessories, for example.\\n1-4. Don’t be a carbon copy.\\nAs you start out it might feel overwhelming to put together a great outfit, and it may be tempting to just copy other people’s outfits. Try to keep your look more unique by doing variations on what you see elsewhere.\\nFor example, you might do the same silhouette as someone else did, but with different colours or patterns.\\nAlternatively, you can use the same colors, but different pieces. For example, instead of wearing a white blouse, a blue skirt, and tan heels, try a white shirt, blue jeans, and tan boots.\\nAdd individuality to your outfit by using different accessories, such as bags, belts, hats, or jewelry. For example, instead of using fancy gold jewelry, you could try rustic wood jewelry.\\n1-5. Pay attention to how people wear things.\\nEver seen those “who wore it better” photos? People rarely wear the same clothes in the same way. In addition, they’ll often pair their clothes with different hairstyles and accessories. For example:\\nOne person might wear a loose-fitting blouse untucked over skinny jeans with a pair of thigh-high boots.\\nAnother person might wear the same blouse tucked into the same skinny jeans, but with the sleeves rolled up and a pair of chunky ankle boots.\\n1-6. Don’t be a snob.\\nStylish people can put together great outfits no matter what store they’re in. Don’t limit yourself to the big brand stores. Check out thrift, vintage, and discount shops to see if you can find any treasures.\\nConsider the corporate ethics of the stores that you shop in, especially if you're trying to be politically and environmentally conscious.\\nFor example you could shop exclusively at stores that use naturally-sourced materials and donate their proceeds to different organizations.\\n1-7. Stay true to yourself.\\nIt’s important to step outside of your comfort zone and try new things, but don’t do so at the expense of your self-confidence. Only wear what makes you feel like the best version of yourself.\\nPick clothes that fit your lifestyle. For instance, if you're really active and have to run a lot of errands, you might want to go for fashionable sneakers rather than super high heels.\\nFor example, if you don't feel comfortable dressing \\\"sexy\\\" in tight jeans and low-cut tops, then you don't have to.\\nSet a style for yourself. If you like vintage-inspired clothing, then go for it! Part of being stylish is being unique!\\n1-8. Be confident\\nConfidence is as important to style as what you’re wearing. Ever heard the saying “don’t let the clothes wear you”? If you lack confidence, you might not be able to pull off the stylish clothes that you love.\\nWork on feeling good about yourself no matter how you look, and no matter what hangups you may have about your body.\\n2. Building a Stylish Wardrobe\\n2-1. Choose a few classic staples to build your wardrobe around.\\nStyle experts build their closets around a few key pieces—all in neutral colors—that can be combined to make the majority of their outfits. Nearly all of them list the same basic pieces:\\n\\n white, long-sleeved, button-down dress shirts, neutral-colored crew-neck sweaters, and neutral-colored V-neck T-shirts.\\n slim-legged black slacks, dark blue skinny jeans, and neutral-colored pencil skirts.\\n little black dress in whatever shape best fits your body type.\\n basic black pumps, black or brown ankle boots, and nude or black ballet flats.\\n black blazers, beige or black trench coats, and black or neutral-colored motorcycle jackets.\\n2-2. Have a signature silhouette.\\nNarrow your style down to a set of silhouettes that suit your body. This will help focus your choices and make it easier to buy new clothes and put together outfits.\\nOnce you know what you look best in, stick to that silhouette and buy variations on it.\\nYour silhouette might be tight pants with chunky boots and loose-fitting tops, or high-waisted skirts and dainty heels.\\n2-3. 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Generally big aviators and cat’s eye sunglasses have been popular over the past few years, but you need to choose what looks best on your face.\\nStand at a sunglasses rack and try on all the different styles. Who knows? Maybe you look best in a pair of small circular sunnies like John Lennon wore.\\n3. Trying Specific Tricks\\n3-1. Keep it neutral.\\nIf you’re worried about what colors to go with, start with a neutral palette like black, grey, beige, and white, and then incorporate a few punchy items as you go.\\nFor example, pair a vibrant green blouse with a black pencil skirt and black blazer.\\nAlternatively, complement a little black dress with a chunky, colorful statement necklace.\\n3-2. Experiment with monochromatic outfits.\\nMonochromatic outfits, or outfits all in one color, can be really eye-catching. Try putting together an outfit in all one color—popular choices are red or white, but really it depends on what looks best with your skin and hair.\\nAll black is a safe bet (although maybe a bit too safe!) and can go easily from casual to chic.\\n3-3. Always wear accessories.\\nClassic fashion advice is to go minimalistic on the clothing and silhouettes and then amp them up with accessories like a scarf or belt. Adding an unexpected accessory that doesn’t obviously go with your outfit can give it an extra punch. For example:\\nPair a feminine cardigan and fitted pencil skirt with a chunky watch and spiky ear studs.\\nSpice up a plain, loose-fitting black shirt, black skinny jeans and black chunky ankle boots with a chunky gold chain necklace and diamond (or diamond-like) ear studs.\\nAdd a pop of color to an all-white ensemble with a colorful silk scarf a pair of silver hoops.\\n3-4. Play up your favorite attributes.\\nShow off those long legs, accentuate that small waist or full bust, or choose a color that makes your eyes pop (or do all three!). Whatever you like best about your body, choose things that show that off.\\nFor example, make your legs look longer with a miniskirt or skinny jeans and heels in the same color.\\nAlternatively, if you want to bring out your blue-grey eyes, add a blue-grey scarf to your outfit.\\n3-5. Don’t be too put together.\\nLeave that shirt partly untucked, or wear a pair of casual shoes with dressy slacks and a blazer. Looking too put together might make you look like you’re trying too hard, which can make you look less stylish.\\n3-6. Be stylish no matter what you’re doing.\\nStylish people always look stylish, whether they’re in their pyjamas, having low-key hangouts with friends, or out for a night on the town. 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Whatever you like best about your body, choose things that show that off.\\nFor example, make your legs look longer with a miniskirt or skinny jeans and heels in the same color.\\nAlternatively, if you want to bring out your blue-grey eyes, add a blue-grey scarf to your outfit.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don’t be too put together.\", \"描述\": \"Leave that shirt partly untucked, or wear a pair of casual shoes with dressy slacks and a blazer. Looking too put together might make you look like you’re trying too hard, which can make you look less stylish.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be stylish no matter what you’re doing.\", \"描述\": \"Stylish people always look stylish, whether they’re in their pyjamas, having low-key hangouts with friends, or out for a night on the town. With the right styling, you can look stylish even in skinny jeans and a T-shirt.\\nFor example, pair black skinny jeans and a white V-neck T-shirt with a grey scarf, charcoal ankle boots, a black blazer, and silver hoop earrings.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be well-groomed.\", \"描述\": \"Having great-looking hair, eyebrows, skin, and nails will immediately boost your stylishness by making you look more put together.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Ensure that you’re comfortable.\", \"描述\": \"No matter what you wear, make sure you feel comfortable in what you’re wearing. This will immediately boost your stylishness by making you look at ease in what you’re wearing.\\nHeels won’t accentuate an outfit if you look like you’re drunk or injured while you try to walk in them.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Some experts say that limiting how often they shop actually helps them keep a trimmer and more stylish closet. One supermodel claims to only shop 4 times a year, and to only buy 2 good pieces each season.[23]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Heels are a great way to add a little instant style boost to your outfit.[24]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Right now (early 2016) it’s popular to wear shoes that don’t obviously complement your outfit, for example, chunky leather shoes instead of ballet flats with a pair of fitted slacks or a miniskirt.[25]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If you love a trend but are on a budget, save money by shopping at cheaper shops like Forever21 or H&M. Trendy items aren’t meant to be worn for more than 1 or 2 seasons, so it doesn’t make sense for you to spend a lot of money on them.\\n\", \"If you go to school/still live with your parents, make sure that they are okay with the clothes and makeup that you want to wear before you buy it.\\n\", \"Only buy clothes and shoes that fit and feel comfortable. If you’re not comfortable in them, you won’t wear them. They’ll just add clutter to your closet and make it more difficult to put outfits together.\\n\", \"Avoid impulse purchases, which will only clutter your wardrobe and take money away from your fashion budget.[26]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Get the basics.
You don't have to go out and buy all new stuff if you have these clothes already.
Hand-me-downs, donations and charity stores can be sources of stylish clothes:
Tank tops, strapless tops, crop tops
T-Shirts, especially with cute designs and patterns
Jackets, boleros, blazers and vests
Dresses for very hot days and for formal events
Jeans, capris pants, leggings
Accessories.
Skirts, shorts
Cute Swimsuit(s): Bikini, Tankini, One-piece or two-piece!
Sandals and other shoes.
2. Get the right fit.
Know how to put clothes together.
Make sure all your clothes fit you correctly, suit you, suit your shape and make you feel comfortable.
3. Accessorize.
Even when you just have a plain tee with jeans, you'll look great with a cute hairband, bangles, a belt or any other item you feel like adding.
4. Consider perfume.
It's okay if you just smell like your nice soap or shampoo.
But, if you don't like it, do you have a choice? Perfume your way out. Deodorant works too if you want to smell fresh after gym or on a hot day.
5. Wear cute shoes.
Wear shoes with a cute design and make sure they are comfortable to wear.
Converse or vans are great for day, and small heels are fab when you are dressing up.
6. Keep your hair groomed.
Keep your hair nice-looking.
Try a new hairstyle when you feel like it. If you plan to use hair straightener or curler, try not to do it regularly, because it might damage and burn your hair.
7. Wear natural makeup.
If your parents allow you to wear makeup don't overdo it!
Just some mascara, foundation (or BB cream works great), lip gloss, blush MAYBE (sometimes it looks unnatural so if you do just try a pink or rosy blush), and some eyeshadow. If you want (and your parents allow) get some white eyeliner and put it on the corner of your eyes.
8. Take care of your skin.
You don't need to whiten it, but try avoiding bruises and scratches.
Use lotion if your hands or legs ever get dry. If you have dark/thick body hair, you may want to start shaving.
9. Wash your hair.
Keep your hair dandruff-free and wash it every other day for grease-free, glossy locks.
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Consider perfume.\\nIt's okay if you just smell like your nice soap or shampoo.\\nBut, if you don't like it, do you have a choice? Perfume your way out. Deodorant works too if you want to smell fresh after gym or on a hot day.\\n5. Wear cute shoes.\\nWear shoes with a cute design and make sure they are comfortable to wear.\\nConverse or vans are great for day, and small heels are fab when you are dressing up.\\n6. Keep your hair groomed.\\nKeep your hair nice-looking.\\nTry a new hairstyle when you feel like it. If you plan to use hair straightener or curler, try not to do it regularly, because it might damage and burn your hair.\\n7. Wear natural makeup.\\nIf your parents allow you to wear makeup don't overdo it!\\nJust some mascara, foundation (or BB cream works great), lip gloss, blush MAYBE (sometimes it looks unnatural so if you do just try a pink or rosy blush), and some eyeshadow. If you want (and your parents allow) get some white eyeliner and put it on the corner of your eyes.\\n8. Take care of your skin.\\nYou don't need to whiten it, but try avoiding bruises and scratches.\\nUse lotion if your hands or legs ever get dry. If you have dark/thick body hair, you may want to start shaving.\\n9. Wash your hair.\\nKeep your hair dandruff-free and wash it every other day for grease-free, glossy locks.\\n\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tweens, nowadays, frequently consider themselves to be very stylish and fashionable. What's fashionable for those aged 10 to 12 varies around the world but if you think you're outdated, get some help from this article.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the basics.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You don't have to go out and buy all new stuff if you have these clothes already.\", \"描述\": \"Hand-me-downs, donations and charity stores can be sources of stylish clothes:\\nTank tops, strapless tops, crop tops\\nT-Shirts, especially with cute designs and patterns\\nJackets, boleros, blazers and vests\\nDresses for very hot days and for formal events\\nJeans, capris pants, leggings\\nAccessories.\\nSkirts, shorts\\nCute Swimsuit(s): Bikini, Tankini, One-piece or two-piece!\\nSandals and other shoes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get the right fit.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know how to put clothes together.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure all your clothes fit you correctly, suit you, suit your shape and make you feel comfortable.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Accessorize.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Even when you just have a plain tee with jeans, you'll look great with a cute hairband, bangles, a belt or any other item you feel like adding.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider perfume.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It's okay if you just smell like your nice soap or shampoo.\", \"描述\": \"But, if you don't like it, do you have a choice? 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If you want (and your parents allow) get some white eyeliner and put it on the corner of your eyes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Take care of your skin.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You don't need to whiten it, but try avoiding bruises and scratches.\", \"描述\": \"Use lotion if your hands or legs ever get dry. If you have dark/thick body hair, you may want to start shaving.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Wash your hair.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your hair dandruff-free and wash it every other day for grease-free, glossy locks.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a Successful Business Owner
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1. Focus and Mindset
1-1. Start a business that you're passionate about and knowledgeable in.
That knowledge can come from either prior work experience or a personal hobby that you're ready to turn into a career. Even if a business idea seems highly profitable in theory, don't start that business unless your heart is in it. While profit is important, it likely won't keep you coming in early every day and driving growth.
For example, imagine you have experience making coffee as a barista or waiter and want to turn your passion for good coffee into a small business. You would already know a good amount about the industry and be able to apply not only your knowledge but your passion to your work.
1-2. Start with a well-defined purpose.
While the financial benefits of business ownership can be great, most successful business owners don't start with money in mind. To get your business off the ground, you'll need a clear purpose. This purpose should be something more intangible than money, like giving back to your community by creating jobs, solving a problem that you see in your daily life, or pursuing a passion. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't also strive for profitability, just that your primary goal should be the achievement of a greater purpose.
For our coffee shop example, your purpose would be serving the perfect cup of coffee to every customer. Alternately, it could be to form a community in your coffee shop where people can meet and spend time with friends.
1-3. Understand your customer.
Before you get started, take some time to do market research and get to know your customers and your industry. The U.S. Small Business Administration provides a great deal of information on which services and products are in demand. You will also want to think about who will be buying your product or using your service and learn the best way to appeal to this population.
With the coffee shop, ask yourself: Am I trying to appeal to "coffee snobs" who don't mind waiting five minutes for their pour-over? Or is my focus on the people who are on their way to work and want to grab a cup and run? Or both? Understanding the people you plan to serve can help you serve them better.
1-4. Find a first step instead of a destination.
You should always start with a business model that can be up and running quickly on a low budget. Too many small businesses start with grandiose goals that will require a large amount of startup capital and investors. However, successful businesses will have a model that can be used on a smaller scale. This proves to potential investors that your idea is a valid way of making money, and increases your odds of ever getting investment money (if that's what you're looking for).
For example, imagine that in our example, you want to start a large operation that sources, imports, roasts, and packages its own coffee beans that are then either sold or served to customers at its coffee shops. Rather than seeking huge contributions from investors to buy all of this equipment, you should start with a small coffee shop first, then maybe try sourcing and importing beans, and work up from there to build a brand.
1-5. Create a support network.
One of the most important parts of successful business ownership is getting over your own ego and seeking help. Your biggest sources of advice are going to be your group of business associates and other professionals that share your goals. Surround yourself with knowledgeable and successful people and feed off of their ideas and enthusiasm.
Also seek general small business tips online; the web is a goldmine of information. Just be sure your information is from a reliable source.
1-6. Find a mentor.
A good mentor in this case is someone who has already run or is running a successful business of their own. A good example would be a family member or family friend that has been successful in business. This mentor can help you with anything from knowing how to manage your employees to properly filing your taxes. Because their knowledge comes from direct experience, they're able to help you more personally than any other source could.
While your mentor doesn't have to have founded the same type of business you are starting, it would help. For example, another coffee shop founder would be the best source of information in our coffee shop example, but a restaurateur could also be of significant help.
2. Efficient Operations
2-1. Focus only on your primary operations at first.
That is, avoid being caught up in every business opportunity that comes your way. It's better to be perfect at one thing than mediocre at five. This applies as much to making decisions to diversify your business as it does to deciding to take on additional projects for yourself outside of your primary business. Focusing on one thing will allow you to commit all of your resources there and be more productive in that endeavor.
Continuing with our example, imagine that you see another coffee shop making money by selling customized coffee-related merchandise. This may make you want to jump into this market as well. However, doing so before establishing your primary objective, making coffee, would introduce significant risk, and may detract from your ability to focus on coffee quality.
2-2. Focus on cash flow, not profit.
While making a profit should certainly be one of your goals, it should not be your main focus when you are starting out. Cash flow is far more important — many small businesses run out of money before they have even been around long enough to generate a profit, and must close their doors. Pay careful attention to your overhead costs and sales during the first years, and let profit take a backseat.
2-3. Keep detailed records.
In order to be successful, you'll have to make a habit of recording each and every expense and revenue that your company has, as well as every dollar that flows through it. By knowing where exactly your money is coming in and where it's going, you're more capable of recognizing financial difficulties before they arise. In addition, doing this will give you a better idea of where exactly you can make cuts to expenses or increases to revenues.
For example, in our example, you would keep detailed records of how much coffee you bought and sold in a given month and what you paid for it. This could you help you identify if, for example, the price of coffee beans was steadily increasing and help you plan whether or not to raise your own prices or consider switching suppliers.
2-4. Limit expenses as much as possible.
While this may seem obvious, just try to think of areas where you could generate the same effect by spending less money. Consider using pre-owned equipment, finding cheaper forms of advertising (for example, fliers rather than newspaper ads), or negotiating better payment terms with suppliers or customers to save a few dollars here and there. Try to maintain very low spending habits and only spent money when and where you absolutely have to.
In our example, this could mean starting out with used coffee grinders (as long as they still functioned well) and trying to get as many supplies as possible from the same supplier (cups, lids, straws, etc.).
2-5. Consider supply chain efficiency.
Your costs, and therefore your profits, depend on a successful supply chain organization. By fostering good relationships with your suppliers, organizing deliveries, and consistently providing customers with timely service, you can increase your profitability and reputation. Successful supply chain management can also help you eliminate any part of your business with wasted resources, like raw materials or labor.
For example, our example coffee shop would want to be on good terms with its coffee bean supplier and have an organized supply chain structure for a number of reasons. This is especially crucial for ensuring that you never run out of coffee, but could also mean that you could get more consistent deliveries, try new types of coffee bean when they become available, or negotiate lower prices.
2-6. Consider finding strategic partners.
Much like a good mentor, a strategic partner can provide you the boost you need to grow your business. Foster strategic partnerships by reaching out to businesses you think could benefit yours, whether they are suppliers, technology providers, or complementary businesses. A good relationship with another company can provide you both free advertising, lower your costs of doing business, or allow you to expand to new markets, depending on the partners you choose.
For example, your coffee shop could benefit from a strategic relationship with a supplier that gives you access to discounts or new products. Alternately, a strategic partner in a complementary business, such as a pastry shop, could help you both reach new customers and increase your revenues. This could be done either through recommending each other or by offering product's from your partner's business and vice-versa.
2-7. Be responsible when it comes to debt.
It's very important that you realistically assess your ability to pay back any debt that you take on. While starting and running a business is always risk, try to minimize your liabilities by only taking out as much as you absolutely need. And when you do take on debt, be sure to structure your cash flows such that you are paying it off as quickly as possible. Prioritize debt repayment before you do anything else.
For example, if you took out $20,000 to get your coffee shop started, don't think about expanding your product offerings or upgrading your coffee grinders until you've paid that loan back.
3. Marketing and Growth
3-1. Perfect your business pitch.
Have a 30-second speech ready that explains your business as briefly and efficiently as possible, including information about your purpose, your service/products, and your goals. Having a practiced pitch that you can rattle off to anyone can help you in situations where you're trying to make a sale to a customer as well as it can when you're trying to bring an investor on board. If you can't explain your business in this short time, your business plan needs refining.
For your coffee shop, you'd want to explain what you do (sell coffee), your services (the drinks you offer), what makes you special (maybe the coffee you serve is rare or locally roasted), and what you plan to do next (expand to another location, new products, etc.).
3-2. Earn a reputation for good service.
Earning a positive reputation is like free advertising; your customers will spread the word of your business to friends and come back frequently. Treat each and every sale like the success or failure of your business depends on it. This also means that you should be consistent with every action your business takes and every interaction with customers.
For your coffee shop, this may mean throwing out a burnt batch of coffee so that your customers are always served the absolutely best product you can offer.
3-3. Watch your competition closely.
You should always look to your competitors for ideas, especially when you're starting out. Chances are, they're doing something right. If you can figure out what that is, you can implement it in your own business and avoid the trial-and-error they probably went through to get there.
One of the best ways to do this when you're starting out is to examine your competitors' pricing strategies. In our coffee shop example, it would be much simpler to price your coffee similarly to competitors rather than to experiment with different prices on your own.
3-4. Always be looking for growth opportunities.
Once you've gotten established, you should always be on the lookout for places you can expand. Whether that means moving to a larger storefront, increasing manufacturing space, or opening a new location will depend on your business and goals. Successful business owners realize that one of the primary opponents to long-term growth is remaining stagnant. This means taking the risk of expansion rather than resting on your laurels at one, original location.
For our coffee example, maybe there is a nearby area that you find is underserved by coffee shops. Once your primary location is up and running smoothly, you should investigate opening a new shop in that area. This could also mean moving up from a small stand to a full coffee shop, depending on your circumstances.
3-5. Diversify your income streams.
Another way to increase the value of your business is by seeking out other areas where you can make money. Assuming you've already established your primary business, look around and see where you could offer a different service or product. Maybe your customers frequently visit your store for one item and then immediately go to another store for a different item. Find out what that other item is and offer it.
Some easy diversification options for your coffee shop would be offering pastries, sandwiches, or books for purchase.
Tips
Be prepared with 6 months worth of working capital in your business.
Pay all insurances up for the year, (I.e., liability, etc.) as soon as possible.
This article serves primarily as a guide for the business owner in getting the most out of their business. For more detailed guides that cover the minute details of starting a business, see how to start a small business and how to run a small business.
Warnings
You can lose money if you are personally invested in your company.
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This purpose should be something more intangible than money, like giving back to your community by creating jobs, solving a problem that you see in your daily life, or pursuing a passion. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't also strive for profitability, just that your primary goal should be the achievement of a greater purpose.\\nFor our coffee shop example, your purpose would be serving the perfect cup of coffee to every customer. Alternately, it could be to form a community in your coffee shop where people can meet and spend time with friends.\\n1-3. Understand your customer.\\nBefore you get started, take some time to do market research and get to know your customers and your industry. The U.S. Small Business Administration provides a great deal of information on which services and products are in demand. You will also want to think about who will be buying your product or using your service and learn the best way to appeal to this population.\\nWith the coffee shop, ask yourself: Am I trying to appeal to \\\"coffee snobs\\\" who don't mind waiting five minutes for their pour-over? Or is my focus on the people who are on their way to work and want to grab a cup and run? Or both? Understanding the people you plan to serve can help you serve them better.\\n1-4. Find a first step instead of a destination.\\nYou should always start with a business model that can be up and running quickly on a low budget. Too many small businesses start with grandiose goals that will require a large amount of startup capital and investors. However, successful businesses will have a model that can be used on a smaller scale. This proves to potential investors that your idea is a valid way of making money, and increases your odds of ever getting investment money (if that's what you're looking for).\\nFor example, imagine that in our example, you want to start a large operation that sources, imports, roasts, and packages its own coffee beans that are then either sold or served to customers at its coffee shops. Rather than seeking huge contributions from investors to buy all of this equipment, you should start with a small coffee shop first, then maybe try sourcing and importing beans, and work up from there to build a brand.\\n1-5. Create a support network.\\nOne of the most important parts of successful business ownership is getting over your own ego and seeking help. Your biggest sources of advice are going to be your group of business associates and other professionals that share your goals. 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Focus on cash flow, not profit.\\nWhile making a profit should certainly be one of your goals, it should not be your main focus when you are starting out. Cash flow is far more important — many small businesses run out of money before they have even been around long enough to generate a profit, and must close their doors. Pay careful attention to your overhead costs and sales during the first years, and let profit take a backseat.\\n2-3. Keep detailed records.\\nIn order to be successful, you'll have to make a habit of recording each and every expense and revenue that your company has, as well as every dollar that flows through it. By knowing where exactly your money is coming in and where it's going, you're more capable of recognizing financial difficulties before they arise. In addition, doing this will give you a better idea of where exactly you can make cuts to expenses or increases to revenues.\\nFor example, in our example, you would keep detailed records of how much coffee you bought and sold in a given month and what you paid for it. This could you help you identify if, for example, the price of coffee beans was steadily increasing and help you plan whether or not to raise your own prices or consider switching suppliers.\\n2-4. Limit expenses as much as possible.\\nWhile this may seem obvious, just try to think of areas where you could generate the same effect by spending less money. Consider using pre-owned equipment, finding cheaper forms of advertising (for example, fliers rather than newspaper ads), or negotiating better payment terms with suppliers or customers to save a few dollars here and there. Try to maintain very low spending habits and only spent money when and where you absolutely have to.\\nIn our example, this could mean starting out with used coffee grinders (as long as they still functioned well) and trying to get as many supplies as possible from the same supplier (cups, lids, straws, etc.).\\n2-5. Consider supply chain efficiency.\\nYour costs, and therefore your profits, depend on a successful supply chain organization. By fostering good relationships with your suppliers, organizing deliveries, and consistently providing customers with timely service, you can increase your profitability and reputation. Successful supply chain management can also help you eliminate any part of your business with wasted resources, like raw materials or labor.\\nFor example, our example coffee shop would want to be on good terms with its coffee bean supplier and have an organized supply chain structure for a number of reasons. This is especially crucial for ensuring that you never run out of coffee, but could also mean that you could get more consistent deliveries, try new types of coffee bean when they become available, or negotiate lower prices.\\n2-6. Consider finding strategic partners.\\nMuch like a good mentor, a strategic partner can provide you the boost you need to grow your business. Foster strategic partnerships by reaching out to businesses you think could benefit yours, whether they are suppliers, technology providers, or complementary businesses. A good relationship with another company can provide you both free advertising, lower your costs of doing business, or allow you to expand to new markets, depending on the partners you choose.\\nFor example, your coffee shop could benefit from a strategic relationship with a supplier that gives you access to discounts or new products. Alternately, a strategic partner in a complementary business, such as a pastry shop, could help you both reach new customers and increase your revenues. This could be done either through recommending each other or by offering product's from your partner's business and vice-versa.\\n2-7. Be responsible when it comes to debt.\\nIt's very important that you realistically assess your ability to pay back any debt that you take on. While starting and running a business is always risk, try to minimize your liabilities by only taking out as much as you absolutely need. And when you do take on debt, be sure to structure your cash flows such that you are paying it off as quickly as possible. Prioritize debt repayment before you do anything else.\\nFor example, if you took out $20,000 to get your coffee shop started, don't think about expanding your product offerings or upgrading your coffee grinders until you've paid that loan back.\\n3. Marketing and Growth\\n3-1. Perfect your business pitch.\\nHave a 30-second speech ready that explains your business as briefly and efficiently as possible, including information about your purpose, your service/products, and your goals. Having a practiced pitch that you can rattle off to anyone can help you in situations where you're trying to make a sale to a customer as well as it can when you're trying to bring an investor on board. If you can't explain your business in this short time, your business plan needs refining.\\nFor your coffee shop, you'd want to explain what you do (sell coffee), your services (the drinks you offer), what makes you special (maybe the coffee you serve is rare or locally roasted), and what you plan to do next (expand to another location, new products, etc.).\\n3-2. Earn a reputation for good service.\\nEarning a positive reputation is like free advertising; your customers will spread the word of your business to friends and come back frequently. Treat each and every sale like the success or failure of your business depends on it. This also means that you should be consistent with every action your business takes and every interaction with customers.\\nFor your coffee shop, this may mean throwing out a burnt batch of coffee so that your customers are always served the absolutely best product you can offer.\\n3-3. Watch your competition closely.\\nYou should always look to your competitors for ideas, especially when you're starting out. Chances are, they're doing something right. If you can figure out what that is, you can implement it in your own business and avoid the trial-and-error they probably went through to get there.\\nOne of the best ways to do this when you're starting out is to examine your competitors' pricing strategies. In our coffee shop example, it would be much simpler to price your coffee similarly to competitors rather than to experiment with different prices on your own.\\n3-4. Always be looking for growth opportunities.\\nOnce you've gotten established, you should always be on the lookout for places you can expand. Whether that means moving to a larger storefront, increasing manufacturing space, or opening a new location will depend on your business and goals. Successful business owners realize that one of the primary opponents to long-term growth is remaining stagnant. This means taking the risk of expansion rather than resting on your laurels at one, original location.\\nFor our coffee example, maybe there is a nearby area that you find is underserved by coffee shops. Once your primary location is up and running smoothly, you should investigate opening a new shop in that area. This could also mean moving up from a small stand to a full coffee shop, depending on your circumstances.\\n3-5. Diversify your income streams.\\nAnother way to increase the value of your business is by seeking out other areas where you can make money. Assuming you've already established your primary business, look around and see where you could offer a different service or product. Maybe your customers frequently visit your store for one item and then immediately go to another store for a different item. Find out what that other item is and offer it.\\nSome easy diversification options for your coffee shop would be offering pastries, sandwiches, or books for purchase.\\nTips\\nBe prepared with 6 months worth of working capital in your business.\\nPay all insurances up for the year, (I.e., liability, etc.) as soon as possible.\\nThis article serves primarily as a guide for the business owner in getting the most out of their business. For more detailed guides that cover the minute details of starting a business, see how to start a small business and how to run a small business.\\nWarnings\\nYou can lose money if you are personally invested in your company.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Most business owners will tell you that starting a business is both one of the most challenging and most rewarding ways to earn a living. Being a successful business owner requires a large amount of hard work and dedication, but also generally relies on a set of personal qualities and business practices that are common characteristics of successful entrepreneurs. These characteristics lie as much in a business's founding principles as in its day-to-day operations and dictate every decision the entrepreneur makes. By following these guidelines, you can up your chances of founding a successful business or getting your existing business back on track.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Focus and Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start a business that you're passionate about and knowledgeable in.\", \"描述\": \"That knowledge can come from either prior work experience or a personal hobby that you're ready to turn into a career. Even if a business idea seems highly profitable in theory, don't start that business unless your heart is in it. While profit is important, it likely won't keep you coming in early every day and driving growth.\\nFor example, imagine you have experience making coffee as a barista or waiter and want to turn your passion for good coffee into a small business. You would already know a good amount about the industry and be able to apply not only your knowledge but your passion to your work.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start with a well-defined purpose.\", \"描述\": \"While the financial benefits of business ownership can be great, most successful business owners don't start with money in mind. To get your business off the ground, you'll need a clear purpose. This purpose should be something more intangible than money, like giving back to your community by creating jobs, solving a problem that you see in your daily life, or pursuing a passion. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't also strive for profitability, just that your primary goal should be the achievement of a greater purpose.\\nFor our coffee shop example, your purpose would be serving the perfect cup of coffee to every customer. Alternately, it could be to form a community in your coffee shop where people can meet and spend time with friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand your customer.\", \"描述\": \"Before you get started, take some time to do market research and get to know your customers and your industry. The U.S. Small Business Administration provides a great deal of information on which services and products are in demand. You will also want to think about who will be buying your product or using your service and learn the best way to appeal to this population.\\nWith the coffee shop, ask yourself: Am I trying to appeal to \\\"coffee snobs\\\" who don't mind waiting five minutes for their pour-over? Or is my focus on the people who are on their way to work and want to grab a cup and run? Or both? Understanding the people you plan to serve can help you serve them better.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find a first step instead of a destination.\", \"描述\": \"You should always start with a business model that can be up and running quickly on a low budget. Too many small businesses start with grandiose goals that will require a large amount of startup capital and investors. However, successful businesses will have a model that can be used on a smaller scale. This proves to potential investors that your idea is a valid way of making money, and increases your odds of ever getting investment money (if that's what you're looking for).\\nFor example, imagine that in our example, you want to start a large operation that sources, imports, roasts, and packages its own coffee beans that are then either sold or served to customers at its coffee shops. Rather than seeking huge contributions from investors to buy all of this equipment, you should start with a small coffee shop first, then maybe try sourcing and importing beans, and work up from there to build a brand.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create a support network.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most important parts of successful business ownership is getting over your own ego and seeking help. Your biggest sources of advice are going to be your group of business associates and other professionals that share your goals. Surround yourself with knowledgeable and successful people and feed off of their ideas and enthusiasm.\\nAlso seek general small business tips online; the web is a goldmine of information. Just be sure your information is from a reliable source.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Find a mentor.\", \"描述\": \"A good mentor in this case is someone who has already run or is running a successful business of their own. A good example would be a family member or family friend that has been successful in business. This mentor can help you with anything from knowing how to manage your employees to properly filing your taxes. Because their knowledge comes from direct experience, they're able to help you more personally than any other source could.\\nWhile your mentor doesn't have to have founded the same type of business you are starting, it would help. For example, another coffee shop founder would be the best source of information in our coffee shop example, but a restaurateur could also be of significant help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Efficient Operations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Focus only on your primary operations at first.\", \"描述\": \"That is, avoid being caught up in every business opportunity that comes your way. It's better to be perfect at one thing than mediocre at five. This applies as much to making decisions to diversify your business as it does to deciding to take on additional projects for yourself outside of your primary business. Focusing on one thing will allow you to commit all of your resources there and be more productive in that endeavor.\\nContinuing with our example, imagine that you see another coffee shop making money by selling customized coffee-related merchandise. This may make you want to jump into this market as well. However, doing so before establishing your primary objective, making coffee, would introduce significant risk, and may detract from your ability to focus on coffee quality.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus on cash flow, not profit.\", \"描述\": \"While making a profit should certainly be one of your goals, it should not be your main focus when you are starting out. Cash flow is far more important — many small businesses run out of money before they have even been around long enough to generate a profit, and must close their doors. Pay careful attention to your overhead costs and sales during the first years, and let profit take a backseat.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep detailed records.\", \"描述\": \"In order to be successful, you'll have to make a habit of recording each and every expense and revenue that your company has, as well as every dollar that flows through it. By knowing where exactly your money is coming in and where it's going, you're more capable of recognizing financial difficulties before they arise. In addition, doing this will give you a better idea of where exactly you can make cuts to expenses or increases to revenues.\\nFor example, in our example, you would keep detailed records of how much coffee you bought and sold in a given month and what you paid for it. This could you help you identify if, for example, the price of coffee beans was steadily increasing and help you plan whether or not to raise your own prices or consider switching suppliers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Limit expenses as much as possible.\", \"描述\": \"While this may seem obvious, just try to think of areas where you could generate the same effect by spending less money. Consider using pre-owned equipment, finding cheaper forms of advertising (for example, fliers rather than newspaper ads), or negotiating better payment terms with suppliers or customers to save a few dollars here and there. Try to maintain very low spending habits and only spent money when and where you absolutely have to.\\nIn our example, this could mean starting out with used coffee grinders (as long as they still functioned well) and trying to get as many supplies as possible from the same supplier (cups, lids, straws, etc.).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider supply chain efficiency.\", \"描述\": \"Your costs, and therefore your profits, depend on a successful supply chain organization. By fostering good relationships with your suppliers, organizing deliveries, and consistently providing customers with timely service, you can increase your profitability and reputation. Successful supply chain management can also help you eliminate any part of your business with wasted resources, like raw materials or labor.\\nFor example, our example coffee shop would want to be on good terms with its coffee bean supplier and have an organized supply chain structure for a number of reasons. This is especially crucial for ensuring that you never run out of coffee, but could also mean that you could get more consistent deliveries, try new types of coffee bean when they become available, or negotiate lower prices.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Consider finding strategic partners.\", \"描述\": \"Much like a good mentor, a strategic partner can provide you the boost you need to grow your business. Foster strategic partnerships by reaching out to businesses you think could benefit yours, whether they are suppliers, technology providers, or complementary businesses. A good relationship with another company can provide you both free advertising, lower your costs of doing business, or allow you to expand to new markets, depending on the partners you choose.\\nFor example, your coffee shop could benefit from a strategic relationship with a supplier that gives you access to discounts or new products. 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1. Preparing Yourself for Women Specific Challenges
1-1. Read about successful women.
There are many successful career women out there - in business and in other fields. Researching and learning about their background and career paths will help to motivate and inspire you. Reading their stories will give an idea of what the path to success looks like and what obstacles you might encounter along the way.
The web is a great resource for researching successful business women. There are some interesting and insightful articles on websites such as Forbes and Harvard Business School.
You can also read the memoirs or biographies of a number of successful women and gain an insight into their professional experiences - both good and bad.
An excellent example of one such memoir is "Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead" by Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook. She discusses issues such as the low level of women in corporate and governmental leadership roles, the pay inequalities faced by women in the workplace and the difficulty of balancing career ambitions with raising a family. She encourages young, female graduates to "believe in themselves, raise their hands, sit at the table, take risks and support each other."
Anne-Marie Slaughter is a Princeton professor who rose to prominence in 2012 when she wrote an article in The Atlantic titled “Why Women Still Can't Have It All,” a frank assessment of her difficulty balancing her work as director of policy planning at the State Department for Hillary Clinton with her responsibilities as the mother of two sons. In the article, she argued for “changing social policies and bending career tracks to accommodate our choices” rather than expecting women to simply run themselves ragged in order to play by the current rules of the workplace.
Former Secretary of State and potential 2016 presidential candidate Hillary Clinton has long been an advocate of women's rights. Clinton has emphasized the need to extend family and medical leave and to encourage women and girls to pursue careers in math and science. She says: "We need to empower women here at home to participate fully in our economy and our society. We need to make equal pay a reality." Many will argue that Hillary Clinton is actually not a very good example. This is because not only is she not a business woman, but she is also under the threat of investigation.
1-2. Research women in your field.
No matter what field you're in, there are sure to be successful women who've paved the way for others. Finding out about successful women in your particular field will give you a better idea of what a typical career path might look like and highlight some practical steps you can take to become successful.
Research what schools the women in your field went to, what internships they did, whether they worked abroad, where they got their first job, and any other information regarding their career path.
Figure out what these women did right, then use that knowledge to work out a career plan of your own.
1-3. Consider a field with fewer women in it.
Historically, women have been underrepresented in fields such as science, engineering, technology, mathematics and computer science. By pursuing a career in one of these areas, a woman may benefit from certain incentives designed to encourage more women to enter these fields, such as scholarship programs and grants.
1-4. Determine how to balance work and family.
Perhaps the greatest concern for women in the workforce is how to balance work and family life. Women are usually in their key childbearing years while simultaneously trying to advance their career and climb the corporate ladder.
Surveys have shown that most women leave their jobs due to caretaking conflicts or workplace climates which are hostile to the demands of parenthood.
The best way to ensure a balance between work and family is to find a company which offers a combination of parent-friendly policies such as paid maternity leave, company-sponsored childcare, flexible scheduling, family healthcare benefits and paternity leave.
1-5. Overcome pay inequality.
Despite making fantastic progress in terms of the number of women in the workforce and the proportion of those who go on to reach managerial and executive positions, there is still a long way to go, especially when it comes to equal pay. The frustrating truth is that women earn significantly less than men, for the same work. Although factors such as education or the decision to have a child can affect pay levels, the main problem is that women consistently undervalue themselves and fail to effectively negotiate with employers for higher salaries. In order to overcome pay inequality, you should:
Do your homework. Find out what other people (men and women), with the same qualifications and in similar positions, are earning.
Learn how to negotiate. Once you know your value, you should work on selling your qualifications, skills and achievements. Never undersell yourself. Don't offer a salary figure first, and provide a salary range if you are pressed about it.
Never say yes to an offer immediately. Think of the first number they provide as an "initial offer" and continue to negotiate if you feel you are being undervalued.
Realize that you are entitled to ask for a raise. If you are already in a job where you feel that your contributions are undervalued, or you find out that a colleague is being paid more for the same work, don't be afraid to ask for a raise. Just be sure to build a convincing case: do your homework and find out the salary range for similar roles both within and outside the company. Be prepared to talk about your positive contributions to the company including any recent successes or problems you have solved. Highlight any positive feedback you have received from others on your team.
1-6. Be confident.
Having confidence in yourself and your abilities is essential in becoming a successful businesswoman. People will view you as you portray yourself. If you project confidence, people will believe that you are confident.
Self-doubt is natural, but don't let it overwhelm you. Remember that you are where you are because you're good at what you do.
Project confidence through your body language. You can do this by standing tall and keeping your head held high. Greet people with a firm handshake and a smile. Most importantly of all, make eye contact with the person you're speaking to. Try not to glance at them before quickly looking away, remember to hold their gaze, as this is a sure sign of confidence. If you have to address a room of people, try to make eye contact with every person in the room for at least a second or two.
If you're having a bad day where your confidence feels shaken, try to reassure yourself using positive affirmations. It may feel silly, but looking at yourself in the mirror and repeating something like "I am great at what I do" or "I am determined to reach the top" can really help you to rediscover your confidence and determination.
1-7. Be assertive.
One of the most enduring stereotypes about women in business is that they are weak and emotional. The best way to overcome these stereotypes is to disprove them. In order to gain respect as a formidable businesswoman, it is important to be assertive.
You can convey assertiveness through both your speech and your actions - have confidence in your decisions and don't second-guess yourself. Speak authoritatively, in a clear, confident manner and people will have no reason to doubt your decisions.
When faced with criticism, try to be as rational and collected as possible. Consider what has been said and decide whether you can use the criticism constructively or whether you should just disregard it. Whatever you do, don't let it be a trigger which causes you to doubt yourself and your abilities.
1-8. Handle criticism well.
The capacity to handle criticism and grow from it is a very important aspect of success. However, there is a big difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. You need to learn how to recognize and handle each of them.
Destructive criticism is a comment or accusation designed to hurt your self-esteem. It is not intended to help you or allow you to see what you did wrong and improve on it. An example of destructive criticism would be a coworker saying "How could you be so stupid?" or "What were you thinking?" The best way to deal with this type of criticism is simply to ignore it.
Constructive criticism, on the other hand, usually has a good intention behind it. It is intended to help you to improve and should be viewed as a positive. An example of constructive criticism would be: "Thanks for your report. It was a good effort, but I think it could benefit from more statistics to support your findings." The best way to handle this type of criticism is to thank the person for their feedback and to use their comments to improve your work in the future.
2. General Steps to Success
2-1. Find your passion in life and follow it.
In order to reach the top, you need to be passionate about what you do. Think about it. It's so much easier to motivate yourself to work hard when you're energized and excited by what you're doing.
The road to success is long and has its fair share of ups and downs. Working towards something you're passionate about will give you strength during the tough times and added satisfaction during the good.
If you're not sure where your passions lie, think about going to see a career coach or a good psychologist. They will help you to identify your strengths and weaknesses and gain a clearer vision of your life goals.
Remember that not everyone has a pre-existing passion, it may take some time to find yours. It is also possible to become passionate about a job, with enough hard work and dedication.
2-2. Be organized.
Success is the result of long-term planning and daily action. Good organization helps you gain control of your time so you can plan and complete the tasks needed to achieve your goals.
Focus on what's important. Remind yourself of your long-term goals and revise them when necessary.
Learn to prioritize. Decide what your goals are each day, then set daily priorities in order to achieve your goals.
Finish one task before you start another. Multi-tasking is overrated. Focus 100% of your attention on every task you set your mind to, whether it's responding to emails or filling out paperwork. This reduces the chances of you making a mistake or overlooking something important.
2-3. Network
Networking can be very helpful to your career. Networking is about making connections and building enduring, mutually beneficial relationships with other professionals. It enables you to find out about exciting career opportunities, learn of new developments in your field or discover the solution to a problem you face at work.
Networking is all about communication — making phone calls, conducting information interviews, writing letters or connecting through online networking sites.
Once you have made contact with a person, it is important to try to develop a relationship with them, to keep in contact with them and to help them with any requests or favors they might have. You never know what they might be able to help you with in the future!
One of the best ways to network successfully is to do informational interviews. This is where you organize to informally meet with a senior colleague or other professional for lunch or coffee in order to ask questions, gain valuable information and insights and create business relationships. Once the meeting is over, thank them for their time, ask for a business card and try to stay in touch.
Remember: no matter how hard you work, unless you're aware of an opportunity, you're not going to get a shot at it. Your network will open up opportunities for you and your career, both now and in the years to come.
2-4. Be creative.
Creativity is a word that's thrown around a lot in the world of business. Employees are expected to "think creatively" and come up with "creative solutions" to the obstacles they face at work. But what does being creative really mean? Creativity is essentially whole-brain thinking - requiring the imagination and intuition of the right side of the brain, combined with the logic, strategic thinking and critical analysis of the left. It involves coming up with innovative, yet effective ways to deal with the problems you encounter and providing a unique perspective on the world around you.
When faced with a problem at work, use a blank sheet of paper, start thinking about possible solutions, and write down anything that pops into your mind. Try to free your mind from the shackles of reality and practicality. Allow your brain to think freely and to make associations you wouldn't normally make. Creative thinking requires thinking outside the box.
Become more playful in your work. Use images and colors when writing reports. Use toys or props to stimulate creative thinking. Give a presentation from the back of the room. Break away from convention in order to think creatively.
2-5. Get a good education.
An education from a high-ranking university can be instrumental in getting you to where you want to be in life. Completing increasingly advanced levels of education shows that you have a drive and commitment to learn and apply information, ideas, theories, and formulas to achieve a variety of tasks and goals.
Attending a good school will not only provide you with the necessary knowledge and skills required for your chosen career, it will also allow you to compete for the best positions on the job market. Some of the most prestigious positions will only accept graduates from top level schools.
Attending a good school will also provide you with an excellent opportunity to make contacts and interact with the best people in your field.
2-6. Be willing to learn.
Don't be afraid to admit that you don't know everything. It is important to know where your weaknesses lie and to constantly seek to improve them. Even when you are confident in your abilities, you should always seek to boost your skills.
Learn as much as you can from the people around you, read books to increase your knowledge and go to workshops to improve decision-making or interpersonal skills.
Find a mentor. A mentor is someone, usually with a bit more experience than you, who knows the trade, offers advice, and helps you in your pursuit of success.
2-7. Be willing to work hard.
Regardless of how many opportunities come your way, how much experience or how good of an education you have, the number one key to success is hard work. Nobody makes it to the top of their game without putting in long hours and making sacrifices in order to reach their goals. If you're finding it tough, just remind yourself that the rewards will be worth the effort.
Stay away from distractions. It's difficult to focus on work 100% of the time, but when you're aiming for the top it's important to minimize distractions as much as possible. It's important to take some personal time now and again, but aim to be focused and efficient whenever you're in work mode.
Surround yourself with motivated and successful people. By surrounding yourself with other like-minded people you'll be forced to set yourself very high standards and to work extra hard in order to stand out.
2-8. Stay persistent.
In order to succeed, you need persistence. You need to fall on your face, then get back up and try again. Success doesn't come easy, it takes consistency and determination.
Don't be afraid to fail. Failure can be a good thing, if it helps you to learn from your mistakes.
If you begin to feel demoralized, remind yourself of everything you've achieved already and how far you've come. Remember that your greatest achievement might be just around the corner!
2-9. Be brave.
Being a successful business woman means you have to constantly push yourself beyond your comfort zone, take risks and be fearless in pursuit of your goals. Each individual success will increase your confidence and encourage you to strive for more. Even when things don't go as planned, remember that it's not the end of the world and you can do better next time round. Be strong, confident and brave and you will soon reap the rewards.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Preparing Yourself for Women Specific Challenges\\n1-1. Read about successful women.\\nThere are many successful career women out there - in business and in other fields. Researching and learning about their background and career paths will help to motivate and inspire you. Reading their stories will give an idea of what the path to success looks like and what obstacles you might encounter along the way.\\nThe web is a great resource for researching successful business women. There are some interesting and insightful articles on websites such as Forbes and Harvard Business School.\\nYou can also read the memoirs or biographies of a number of successful women and gain an insight into their professional experiences - both good and bad.\\n\\n An excellent example of one such memoir is \\\"Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead\\\" by Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook. She discusses issues such as the low level of women in corporate and governmental leadership roles, the pay inequalities faced by women in the workplace and the difficulty of balancing career ambitions with raising a family. She encourages young, female graduates to \\\"believe in themselves, raise their hands, sit at the table, take risks and support each other.\\\"\\n\\n Anne-Marie Slaughter is a Princeton professor who rose to prominence in 2012 when she wrote an article in The Atlantic titled “Why Women Still Can't Have It All,” a frank assessment of her difficulty balancing her work as director of policy planning at the State Department for Hillary Clinton with her responsibilities as the mother of two sons. In the article, she argued for “changing social policies and bending career tracks to accommodate our choices” rather than expecting women to simply run themselves ragged in order to play by the current rules of the workplace.\\n\\n Former Secretary of State and potential 2016 presidential candidate Hillary Clinton has long been an advocate of women's rights. Clinton has emphasized the need to extend family and medical leave and to encourage women and girls to pursue careers in math and science. She says: \\\"We need to empower women here at home to participate fully in our economy and our society. We need to make equal pay a reality.\\\" Many will argue that Hillary Clinton is actually not a very good example. This is because not only is she not a business woman, but she is also under the threat of investigation.\\n1-2. Research women in your field.\\nNo matter what field you're in, there are sure to be successful women who've paved the way for others. Finding out about successful women in your particular field will give you a better idea of what a typical career path might look like and highlight some practical steps you can take to become successful.\\nResearch what schools the women in your field went to, what internships they did, whether they worked abroad, where they got their first job, and any other information regarding their career path.\\nFigure out what these women did right, then use that knowledge to work out a career plan of your own.\\n1-3. Consider a field with fewer women in it.\\nHistorically, women have been underrepresented in fields such as science, engineering, technology, mathematics and computer science. By pursuing a career in one of these areas, a woman may benefit from certain incentives designed to encourage more women to enter these fields, such as scholarship programs and grants.\\n1-4. Determine how to balance work and family.\\nPerhaps the greatest concern for women in the workforce is how to balance work and family life. Women are usually in their key childbearing years while simultaneously trying to advance their career and climb the corporate ladder.\\nSurveys have shown that most women leave their jobs due to caretaking conflicts or workplace climates which are hostile to the demands of parenthood.\\nThe best way to ensure a balance between work and family is to find a company which offers a combination of parent-friendly policies such as paid maternity leave, company-sponsored childcare, flexible scheduling, family healthcare benefits and paternity leave.\\n1-5. Overcome pay inequality.\\nDespite making fantastic progress in terms of the number of women in the workforce and the proportion of those who go on to reach managerial and executive positions, there is still a long way to go, especially when it comes to equal pay. The frustrating truth is that women earn significantly less than men, for the same work. Although factors such as education or the decision to have a child can affect pay levels, the main problem is that women consistently undervalue themselves and fail to effectively negotiate with employers for higher salaries. In order to overcome pay inequality, you should:\\nDo your homework. Find out what other people (men and women), with the same qualifications and in similar positions, are earning.\\nLearn how to negotiate. Once you know your value, you should work on selling your qualifications, skills and achievements. Never undersell yourself. Don't offer a salary figure first, and provide a salary range if you are pressed about it.\\nNever say yes to an offer immediately. Think of the first number they provide as an \\\"initial offer\\\" and continue to negotiate if you feel you are being undervalued.\\nRealize that you are entitled to ask for a raise. If you are already in a job where you feel that your contributions are undervalued, or you find out that a colleague is being paid more for the same work, don't be afraid to ask for a raise. Just be sure to build a convincing case: do your homework and find out the salary range for similar roles both within and outside the company. Be prepared to talk about your positive contributions to the company including any recent successes or problems you have solved. Highlight any positive feedback you have received from others on your team.\\n1-6. Be confident.\\nHaving confidence in yourself and your abilities is essential in becoming a successful businesswoman. People will view you as you portray yourself. If you project confidence, people will believe that you are confident.\\nSelf-doubt is natural, but don't let it overwhelm you. Remember that you are where you are because you're good at what you do.\\nProject confidence through your body language. You can do this by standing tall and keeping your head held high. Greet people with a firm handshake and a smile. Most importantly of all, make eye contact with the person you're speaking to. Try not to glance at them before quickly looking away, remember to hold their gaze, as this is a sure sign of confidence. If you have to address a room of people, try to make eye contact with every person in the room for at least a second or two.\\nIf you're having a bad day where your confidence feels shaken, try to reassure yourself using positive affirmations. It may feel silly, but looking at yourself in the mirror and repeating something like \\\"I am great at what I do\\\" or \\\"I am determined to reach the top\\\" can really help you to rediscover your confidence and determination.\\n1-7. Be assertive.\\nOne of the most enduring stereotypes about women in business is that they are weak and emotional. The best way to overcome these stereotypes is to disprove them. In order to gain respect as a formidable businesswoman, it is important to be assertive.\\nYou can convey assertiveness through both your speech and your actions - have confidence in your decisions and don't second-guess yourself. Speak authoritatively, in a clear, confident manner and people will have no reason to doubt your decisions.\\nWhen faced with criticism, try to be as rational and collected as possible. Consider what has been said and decide whether you can use the criticism constructively or whether you should just disregard it. Whatever you do, don't let it be a trigger which causes you to doubt yourself and your abilities.\\n1-8. Handle criticism well.\\nThe capacity to handle criticism and grow from it is a very important aspect of success. However, there is a big difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. You need to learn how to recognize and handle each of them.\\nDestructive criticism is a comment or accusation designed to hurt your self-esteem. It is not intended to help you or allow you to see what you did wrong and improve on it. An example of destructive criticism would be a coworker saying \\\"How could you be so stupid?\\\" or \\\"What were you thinking?\\\" The best way to deal with this type of criticism is simply to ignore it.\\nConstructive criticism, on the other hand, usually has a good intention behind it. It is intended to help you to improve and should be viewed as a positive. An example of constructive criticism would be: \\\"Thanks for your report. It was a good effort, but I think it could benefit from more statistics to support your findings.\\\" The best way to handle this type of criticism is to thank the person for their feedback and to use their comments to improve your work in the future.\\n2. General Steps to Success\\n2-1. Find your passion in life and follow it.\\nIn order to reach the top, you need to be passionate about what you do. Think about it. It's so much easier to motivate yourself to work hard when you're energized and excited by what you're doing.\\nThe road to success is long and has its fair share of ups and downs. Working towards something you're passionate about will give you strength during the tough times and added satisfaction during the good.\\nIf you're not sure where your passions lie, think about going to see a career coach or a good psychologist. They will help you to identify your strengths and weaknesses and gain a clearer vision of your life goals.\\nRemember that not everyone has a pre-existing passion, it may take some time to find yours. It is also possible to become passionate about a job, with enough hard work and dedication.\\n2-2. Be organized.\\nSuccess is the result of long-term planning and daily action. Good organization helps you gain control of your time so you can plan and complete the tasks needed to achieve your goals.\\nFocus on what's important. Remind yourself of your long-term goals and revise them when necessary.\\nLearn to prioritize. Decide what your goals are each day, then set daily priorities in order to achieve your goals.\\nFinish one task before you start another. Multi-tasking is overrated. Focus 100% of your attention on every task you set your mind to, whether it's responding to emails or filling out paperwork. This reduces the chances of you making a mistake or overlooking something important.\\n2-3. Network\\nNetworking can be very helpful to your career. Networking is about making connections and building enduring, mutually beneficial relationships with other professionals. It enables you to find out about exciting career opportunities, learn of new developments in your field or discover the solution to a problem you face at work.\\nNetworking is all about communication — making phone calls, conducting information interviews, writing letters or connecting through online networking sites.\\nOnce you have made contact with a person, it is important to try to develop a relationship with them, to keep in contact with them and to help them with any requests or favors they might have. You never know what they might be able to help you with in the future!\\nOne of the best ways to network successfully is to do informational interviews. This is where you organize to informally meet with a senior colleague or other professional for lunch or coffee in order to ask questions, gain valuable information and insights and create business relationships. Once the meeting is over, thank them for their time, ask for a business card and try to stay in touch.\\nRemember: no matter how hard you work, unless you're aware of an opportunity, you're not going to get a shot at it. Your network will open up opportunities for you and your career, both now and in the years to come.\\n2-4. Be creative.\\nCreativity is a word that's thrown around a lot in the world of business. Employees are expected to \\\"think creatively\\\" and come up with \\\"creative solutions\\\" to the obstacles they face at work. But what does being creative really mean? Creativity is essentially whole-brain thinking - requiring the imagination and intuition of the right side of the brain, combined with the logic, strategic thinking and critical analysis of the left. It involves coming up with innovative, yet effective ways to deal with the problems you encounter and providing a unique perspective on the world around you.\\nWhen faced with a problem at work, use a blank sheet of paper, start thinking about possible solutions, and write down anything that pops into your mind. Try to free your mind from the shackles of reality and practicality. Allow your brain to think freely and to make associations you wouldn't normally make. Creative thinking requires thinking outside the box.\\nBecome more playful in your work. Use images and colors when writing reports. Use toys or props to stimulate creative thinking. Give a presentation from the back of the room. Break away from convention in order to think creatively.\\n2-5. Get a good education.\\nAn education from a high-ranking university can be instrumental in getting you to where you want to be in life. Completing increasingly advanced levels of education shows that you have a drive and commitment to learn and apply information, ideas, theories, and formulas to achieve a variety of tasks and goals.\\nAttending a good school will not only provide you with the necessary knowledge and skills required for your chosen career, it will also allow you to compete for the best positions on the job market. Some of the most prestigious positions will only accept graduates from top level schools.\\nAttending a good school will also provide you with an excellent opportunity to make contacts and interact with the best people in your field.\\n2-6. Be willing to learn.\\nDon't be afraid to admit that you don't know everything. It is important to know where your weaknesses lie and to constantly seek to improve them. Even when you are confident in your abilities, you should always seek to boost your skills.\\nLearn as much as you can from the people around you, read books to increase your knowledge and go to workshops to improve decision-making or interpersonal skills.\\nFind a mentor. A mentor is someone, usually with a bit more experience than you, who knows the trade, offers advice, and helps you in your pursuit of success.\\n2-7. Be willing to work hard.\\nRegardless of how many opportunities come your way, how much experience or how good of an education you have, the number one key to success is hard work. Nobody makes it to the top of their game without putting in long hours and making sacrifices in order to reach their goals. If you're finding it tough, just remind yourself that the rewards will be worth the effort.\\nStay away from distractions. It's difficult to focus on work 100% of the time, but when you're aiming for the top it's important to minimize distractions as much as possible. It's important to take some personal time now and again, but aim to be focused and efficient whenever you're in work mode.\\nSurround yourself with motivated and successful people. By surrounding yourself with other like-minded people you'll be forced to set yourself very high standards and to work extra hard in order to stand out.\\n2-8. Stay persistent.\\nIn order to succeed, you need persistence. You need to fall on your face, then get back up and try again. Success doesn't come easy, it takes consistency and determination.\\nDon't be afraid to fail. Failure can be a good thing, if it helps you to learn from your mistakes.\\nIf you begin to feel demoralized, remind yourself of everything you've achieved already and how far you've come. Remember that your greatest achievement might be just around the corner!\\n2-9. Be brave.\\nBeing a successful business woman means you have to constantly push yourself beyond your comfort zone, take risks and be fearless in pursuit of your goals. Each individual success will increase your confidence and encourage you to strive for more. Even when things don't go as planned, remember that it's not the end of the world and you can do better next time round. Be strong, confident and brave and you will soon reap the rewards.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"All over the world, women are shattering glass ceilings and proving that they have what it takes to be successful business leaders. Here is some practical advice for becoming a successful business woman.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing Yourself for Women Specific Challenges\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read about successful women.\", \"描述\": \"There are many successful career women out there - in business and in other fields. Researching and learning about their background and career paths will help to motivate and inspire you. Reading their stories will give an idea of what the path to success looks like and what obstacles you might encounter along the way.\\nThe web is a great resource for researching successful business women. There are some interesting and insightful articles on websites such as Forbes and Harvard Business School.\\nYou can also read the memoirs or biographies of a number of successful women and gain an insight into their professional experiences - both good and bad.\\n\\n An excellent example of one such memoir is \\\"Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead\\\" by Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook. She discusses issues such as the low level of women in corporate and governmental leadership roles, the pay inequalities faced by women in the workplace and the difficulty of balancing career ambitions with raising a family. She encourages young, female graduates to \\\"believe in themselves, raise their hands, sit at the table, take risks and support each other.\\\"\\n\\n Anne-Marie Slaughter is a Princeton professor who rose to prominence in 2012 when she wrote an article in The Atlantic titled “Why Women Still Can't Have It All,” a frank assessment of her difficulty balancing her work as director of policy planning at the State Department for Hillary Clinton with her responsibilities as the mother of two sons. In the article, she argued for “changing social policies and bending career tracks to accommodate our choices” rather than expecting women to simply run themselves ragged in order to play by the current rules of the workplace.\\n\\n Former Secretary of State and potential 2016 presidential candidate Hillary Clinton has long been an advocate of women's rights. Clinton has emphasized the need to extend family and medical leave and to encourage women and girls to pursue careers in math and science. She says: \\\"We need to empower women here at home to participate fully in our economy and our society. We need to make equal pay a reality.\\\" Many will argue that Hillary Clinton is actually not a very good example. This is because not only is she not a business woman, but she is also under the threat of investigation.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Research women in your field.\", \"描述\": \"No matter what field you're in, there are sure to be successful women who've paved the way for others. Finding out about successful women in your particular field will give you a better idea of what a typical career path might look like and highlight some practical steps you can take to become successful.\\nResearch what schools the women in your field went to, what internships they did, whether they worked abroad, where they got their first job, and any other information regarding their career path.\\nFigure out what these women did right, then use that knowledge to work out a career plan of your own.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider a field with fewer women in it.\", \"描述\": \"Historically, women have been underrepresented in fields such as science, engineering, technology, mathematics and computer science. By pursuing a career in one of these areas, a woman may benefit from certain incentives designed to encourage more women to enter these fields, such as scholarship programs and grants.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Determine how to balance work and family.\", \"描述\": \"Perhaps the greatest concern for women in the workforce is how to balance work and family life. Women are usually in their key childbearing years while simultaneously trying to advance their career and climb the corporate ladder.\\nSurveys have shown that most women leave their jobs due to caretaking conflicts or workplace climates which are hostile to the demands of parenthood.\\nThe best way to ensure a balance between work and family is to find a company which offers a combination of parent-friendly policies such as paid maternity leave, company-sponsored childcare, flexible scheduling, family healthcare benefits and paternity leave.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Overcome pay inequality.\", \"描述\": \"Despite making fantastic progress in terms of the number of women in the workforce and the proportion of those who go on to reach managerial and executive positions, there is still a long way to go, especially when it comes to equal pay. The frustrating truth is that women earn significantly less than men, for the same work. Although factors such as education or the decision to have a child can affect pay levels, the main problem is that women consistently undervalue themselves and fail to effectively negotiate with employers for higher salaries. In order to overcome pay inequality, you should:\\nDo your homework. Find out what other people (men and women), with the same qualifications and in similar positions, are earning.\\nLearn how to negotiate. Once you know your value, you should work on selling your qualifications, skills and achievements. Never undersell yourself. Don't offer a salary figure first, and provide a salary range if you are pressed about it.\\nNever say yes to an offer immediately. Think of the first number they provide as an \\\"initial offer\\\" and continue to negotiate if you feel you are being undervalued.\\nRealize that you are entitled to ask for a raise. If you are already in a job where you feel that your contributions are undervalued, or you find out that a colleague is being paid more for the same work, don't be afraid to ask for a raise. Just be sure to build a convincing case: do your homework and find out the salary range for similar roles both within and outside the company. Be prepared to talk about your positive contributions to the company including any recent successes or problems you have solved. Highlight any positive feedback you have received from others on your team.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be confident.\", \"描述\": \"Having confidence in yourself and your abilities is essential in becoming a successful businesswoman. People will view you as you portray yourself. If you project confidence, people will believe that you are confident.\\nSelf-doubt is natural, but don't let it overwhelm you. Remember that you are where you are because you're good at what you do.\\nProject confidence through your body language. You can do this by standing tall and keeping your head held high. Greet people with a firm handshake and a smile. Most importantly of all, make eye contact with the person you're speaking to. Try not to glance at them before quickly looking away, remember to hold their gaze, as this is a sure sign of confidence. If you have to address a room of people, try to make eye contact with every person in the room for at least a second or two.\\nIf you're having a bad day where your confidence feels shaken, try to reassure yourself using positive affirmations. It may feel silly, but looking at yourself in the mirror and repeating something like \\\"I am great at what I do\\\" or \\\"I am determined to reach the top\\\" can really help you to rediscover your confidence and determination.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be assertive.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most enduring stereotypes about women in business is that they are weak and emotional. The best way to overcome these stereotypes is to disprove them. In order to gain respect as a formidable businesswoman, it is important to be assertive.\\nYou can convey assertiveness through both your speech and your actions - have confidence in your decisions and don't second-guess yourself. Speak authoritatively, in a clear, confident manner and people will have no reason to doubt your decisions.\\nWhen faced with criticism, try to be as rational and collected as possible. Consider what has been said and decide whether you can use the criticism constructively or whether you should just disregard it. Whatever you do, don't let it be a trigger which causes you to doubt yourself and your abilities.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Handle criticism well.\", \"描述\": \"The capacity to handle criticism and grow from it is a very important aspect of success. However, there is a big difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. You need to learn how to recognize and handle each of them.\\nDestructive criticism is a comment or accusation designed to hurt your self-esteem. It is not intended to help you or allow you to see what you did wrong and improve on it. An example of destructive criticism would be a coworker saying \\\"How could you be so stupid?\\\" or \\\"What were you thinking?\\\" The best way to deal with this type of criticism is simply to ignore it.\\nConstructive criticism, on the other hand, usually has a good intention behind it. It is intended to help you to improve and should be viewed as a positive. An example of constructive criticism would be: \\\"Thanks for your report. It was a good effort, but I think it could benefit from more statistics to support your findings.\\\" The best way to handle this type of criticism is to thank the person for their feedback and to use their comments to improve your work in the future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"General Steps to Success\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find your passion in life and follow it.\", \"描述\": \"In order to reach the top, you need to be passionate about what you do. Think about it. It's so much easier to motivate yourself to work hard when you're energized and excited by what you're doing.\\nThe road to success is long and has its fair share of ups and downs. Working towards something you're passionate about will give you strength during the tough times and added satisfaction during the good.\\nIf you're not sure where your passions lie, think about going to see a career coach or a good psychologist. They will help you to identify your strengths and weaknesses and gain a clearer vision of your life goals.\\nRemember that not everyone has a pre-existing passion, it may take some time to find yours. It is also possible to become passionate about a job, with enough hard work and dedication.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be organized.\", \"描述\": \"Success is the result of long-term planning and daily action. Good organization helps you gain control of your time so you can plan and complete the tasks needed to achieve your goals.\\nFocus on what's important. Remind yourself of your long-term goals and revise them when necessary.\\nLearn to prioritize. Decide what your goals are each day, then set daily priorities in order to achieve your goals.\\nFinish one task before you start another. Multi-tasking is overrated. Focus 100% of your attention on every task you set your mind to, whether it's responding to emails or filling out paperwork. This reduces the chances of you making a mistake or overlooking something important.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Network\", \"描述\": \"Networking can be very helpful to your career. Networking is about making connections and building enduring, mutually beneficial relationships with other professionals. It enables you to find out about exciting career opportunities, learn of new developments in your field or discover the solution to a problem you face at work.\\nNetworking is all about communication — making phone calls, conducting information interviews, writing letters or connecting through online networking sites.\\nOnce you have made contact with a person, it is important to try to develop a relationship with them, to keep in contact with them and to help them with any requests or favors they might have. You never know what they might be able to help you with in the future!\\nOne of the best ways to network successfully is to do informational interviews. This is where you organize to informally meet with a senior colleague or other professional for lunch or coffee in order to ask questions, gain valuable information and insights and create business relationships. Once the meeting is over, thank them for their time, ask for a business card and try to stay in touch.\\nRemember: no matter how hard you work, unless you're aware of an opportunity, you're not going to get a shot at it. Your network will open up opportunities for you and your career, both now and in the years to come.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be creative.\", \"描述\": \"Creativity is a word that's thrown around a lot in the world of business. Employees are expected to \\\"think creatively\\\" and come up with \\\"creative solutions\\\" to the obstacles they face at work. But what does being creative really mean? Creativity is essentially whole-brain thinking - requiring the imagination and intuition of the right side of the brain, combined with the logic, strategic thinking and critical analysis of the left. It involves coming up with innovative, yet effective ways to deal with the problems you encounter and providing a unique perspective on the world around you.\\nWhen faced with a problem at work, use a blank sheet of paper, start thinking about possible solutions, and write down anything that pops into your mind. Try to free your mind from the shackles of reality and practicality. Allow your brain to think freely and to make associations you wouldn't normally make. Creative thinking requires thinking outside the box.\\nBecome more playful in your work. Use images and colors when writing reports. Use toys or props to stimulate creative thinking. Give a presentation from the back of the room. Break away from convention in order to think creatively.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get a good education.\", \"描述\": \"An education from a high-ranking university can be instrumental in getting you to where you want to be in life. Completing increasingly advanced levels of education shows that you have a drive and commitment to learn and apply information, ideas, theories, and formulas to achieve a variety of tasks and goals.\\nAttending a good school will not only provide you with the necessary knowledge and skills required for your chosen career, it will also allow you to compete for the best positions on the job market. Some of the most prestigious positions will only accept graduates from top level schools.\\nAttending a good school will also provide you with an excellent opportunity to make contacts and interact with the best people in your field.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be willing to learn.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be afraid to admit that you don't know everything. It is important to know where your weaknesses lie and to constantly seek to improve them. Even when you are confident in your abilities, you should always seek to boost your skills.\\nLearn as much as you can from the people around you, read books to increase your knowledge and go to workshops to improve decision-making or interpersonal skills.\\nFind a mentor. A mentor is someone, usually with a bit more experience than you, who knows the trade, offers advice, and helps you in your pursuit of success.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be willing to work hard.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of how many opportunities come your way, how much experience or how good of an education you have, the number one key to success is hard work. Nobody makes it to the top of their game without putting in long hours and making sacrifices in order to reach their goals. If you're finding it tough, just remind yourself that the rewards will be worth the effort.\\nStay away from distractions. It's difficult to focus on work 100% of the time, but when you're aiming for the top it's important to minimize distractions as much as possible. It's important to take some personal time now and again, but aim to be focused and efficient whenever you're in work mode.\\nSurround yourself with motivated and successful people. By surrounding yourself with other like-minded people you'll be forced to set yourself very high standards and to work extra hard in order to stand out.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Stay persistent.\", \"描述\": \"In order to succeed, you need persistence. You need to fall on your face, then get back up and try again. Success doesn't come easy, it takes consistency and determination.\\nDon't be afraid to fail. Failure can be a good thing, if it helps you to learn from your mistakes.\\nIf you begin to feel demoralized, remind yourself of everything you've achieved already and how far you've come. Remember that your greatest achievement might be just around the corner!\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be brave.\", \"描述\": \"Being a successful business woman means you have to constantly push yourself beyond your comfort zone, take risks and be fearless in pursuit of your goals. Each individual success will increase your confidence and encourage you to strive for more. Even when things don't go as planned, remember that it's not the end of the world and you can do better next time round. Be strong, confident and brave and you will soon reap the rewards.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Doing Well in Class
1-1. Go to class.
Don't rely on a "magic number" of classes you can miss and still do well. Each missed class represents missed content and missed discussion. Some professors weigh participation into your final grade calculation. Even if attendance isn't required, however, you will make a good impression on your professor and TA if you show up to class.
Only miss class if you are genuinely sick—too sick to get anything worthwhile out of the lecture.
If you need some incentive, consider the cost of each class hour. The average yearly cost of tuition at a public university is $9,139. Given a 15-week semester with 4 classes each semester, you pay over $25 per class hour for the privilege of being taught. Not going to class is basically the same as setting twenty-five bucks on fire. Would you do that?
1-2. Take notes
Your memory is never as good as you think it is. There will probably be plenty of things taking up space in your mind while at school. Taking good notes will keep you engaged in classroom activities (lectures and discussion) and give you a good basis when studying for exams.
For classes that are organized around clear, logically ordered topics, such as history or biology, the Cornell method can help you prioritize the most important information.
If note-taking and focusing in class aren't your strong suits, talk to your professor about the possibility of recording their lectures. That way, you'll be able to review each class when it comes time to study for your exams.
1-3. Participate in class.
Ask questions of your instructors, give answers if they ask questions, and contribute to discussion sections. Taking an active part in the class will keep you involved with the material, and help you better understand what the instructor needs you to know.
Sitting in front, or at least not in the back, will make it easier to pay attention and put you front and center for the professor to see.
1-4. Take time to study.
Success in college relies on you preparing outside of class, so spend time reviewing your notes and reading the textbook for each session. When you study, find a quiet space and cut off outside distractions. A good rule of thumb is to spend two hours studying for each hour you spend in class.
Study groups—working with other students in your class—can be helpful, but also go off-track easily. Make sure you find a study group that reviews the material, and spends most of its time actually studying, rather than chatting.
Don't cram! Part of being a successful college student is doing more than passing tests; it's retaining the useful information for the real world. When you cram, you might remember enough to pass your exam, but chances are high that you'll forget most of it in a day or two. When you're spending tens of thousands of dollars to learn this stuff, actually remembering it for later is a smart investment.
Spacing out your study sessions over a few days is the best way to make sure you remember the material later. Rather than spending a 9-hour marathon studying for a test, for example, start a few days early and study for 1-2 hours each day for 3 or 4 days in a row. If you can plan well ahead of time, it's even better to space your studying out over a period of weeks.
1-5. Avoid procrastinating.
No professor ever complained about her students finishing an assignment early. Setting aside time to complete one task will give ease your stress level, and make it more likely to complete others on time.
On occasion, you may need to stay up all night to finish an assignment. Procrastinating will only make doing so more likely, and doing work early can help you get more regular sleep.
Set yourself regular performance goals, such as writing 200 words a day on your essay or studying six math problems. These small goals seem easy to do so you're less likely to procrastinate on them. However, the accomplishments will pile up fast.
Try to avoid guilting yourself into your work. Extrinsic motivation, such as "I ought to do this so my parents don't get mad at me," isn't as strong as intrinsic motivation, such as "I want to do well on that exam so that my good grades will help me get into medical school." Setting positive goals for yourself and reminding yourself that your work will help you achieve them can help crush procrastination.
1-6. Communicate with your instructor.
Your professors want you to do well in class, so feel free to ask questions about the material. Every professor has open office hours, so stop by to introduce yourself, ask about the class, or discuss your grades. This can allow them to learn more about you, your strengths and weaknesses, and provide better feedback for improving your work.
Don't forget about your TAs. Many of them are quite knowledgeable about the subject as well. In a large class it will likely be them, not the professor, doing most of the grading.
It's best if you can set the foundation for communication early. If the first time your professor hears from you is the night before your midterm exam halfway through the semester, she may not take you as seriously as she would have if you'd come early and often to ask questions.
1-7. Be confident.
Most students' attitude towards a class dictates their success. Believe you can learn the material and be successful, and you will increase your chances of succeeding. Don't think about how difficult things are, but how you are going to overcome those difficulties.
If you're naturally shy or worried about sharing your opinions in class, remind yourself that your professor wants you to learn. In general, classrooms are a "safe space" for people to share their opinions, ask questions, and have discussions. Try not to worry about sounding silly if you ask a question—chances are, many of your classmates have the same question but are too afraid to ask. You can be the trailblazer!
2. Enjoying the Social Scene
2-1. Get involved in a team or club.
You won't always be able to follow your passions in the classroom. Find groups and activities that you enjoy, or maybe involve practical applications for your academic work. These events are also a great way to meet new people and make friends.
2-2. Attend on-campus events.
Colleges have access to a nearly unmatched variety of cultural, intellectual, and athletic events that are available to students. Take advantage of these, and take part in the cultural life of the school, some of which you may never have the opportunity to do again.
2-3. Organize your time.
Unlike in high school, no one will be tracking you and your activities in college, so you will have to do that yourself. Give each event and assignment a priority based on timing, and its importance to achieving your ultimate goals. Your schedule should not just be about academic work, so include time for personal activities and interests.
One thing you may discover is that your schedule is too overloaded between class, work, social events, and other activities. Organizing your schedule can sometimes mean knowing when to cut things out.
2-4. Make friends.
Studies suggest that being a freshman is incredibly stressful. It can do a number on your mental health. One of the best ways to make sure you're successful in college is to make friends with a variety of diverse people—and to commit to hanging out with them.
Making a strong social network in college is also linked to better work performance later in life.
This doesn't mean you should spend every night partying and ditching class and homework. Instead, strive for a healthy balance. You can even get your friends involved in class and other school activities, such as a sport or debate team.
2-5. Decide whether (and when) to participate in Greek Life.
At many colleges and universities, Greek life—a system of fraternities and sororities students can join—is a major part of student experience. While being part of Greek life can have many benefits, such as socialization and support networks, it can also involve a significant time commitment. This can be particularly stressful your freshman year, when you are already adjusting to many new experiences. Some experts recommend that you wait until your sophomore year to "rush" or join a fraternity or sorority. That way, you'll already have a firm academic foundation.
3. Preparing for Graduation
3-1. Choose the right classes.
Pick courses that interest you, and make you excited to learn. This will lead you to interesting and rewarding work, rather than simply chasing easy classes.
Avoid picking a major right away. Unless you are completely sure that you want to go into a particular field, there is no benefit to declaring right away. Sample classes in a variety of fields, and learn what kind of work each major requires.
3-2. Keep track of your progress.
You want to graduate on time, so make sure you have fulfilled all requirements for the school and your major. You will need to have enough credit hours, and high enough grades. Keep an eye out for non-academic items like physical fitness requirements.
Most colleges and universities have a "degree progress" calculator you can find online, but if not, talk with your adviser.
3-3. Don't go for the "easy A."
College should be difficult, and you should be prepared to deal with failure, or at least not succeeding as much as you did in high school. Your life after college will not be about the grades you got in school, but the ways you learned to deal with disappointment.
3-4. Use your school's career services office.
Every school has one. Find out what kinds of work graduates from your school and your major go into. These places can also provide help with creating a resume, filling out job applications, and other helpful hints for what comes next.
3-5. Find internships and other professional work.
If possible, find something that will let you apply what you are learning in a work environment. You can gain valuable professional experience for afterwards.
Tips
Don't forget to take lots of breaks and reward yourself during your homework and study sessions. This will help you stay motivated.[14]
X
Expert Source
Alexander Ruiz, M.Ed.Educational Consultant
Expert Interview. 18 June 2020.
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1. Having What it Takes to Become Captain
1-1. Develop a thorough understanding of the game.
Study the basic rules and regulations, as well as more advanced plays and theories, until you know them like the back of your hand. Whereas the duties of guiding the team fall to the coaching staff in most other sports, the captain of a cricket team is largely responsible for calling the shots. For this reason, it’s imperative that you have a good grasp of the intricacies of the sport.
Chances are that you’re already quite familiar with the sport if you’re in the running for team captain (or hope to be soon). However, there’s always more to learn.
Become a devoted student of the game—attend regional events, watch televised matches, and read books on gameplay and psychology. Everything you take in will become a part of your tool set.
1-2. Keep a cool head in stressful situations.
There are a thousand things that can go wrong during a game of cricket. As a leader and example to your fellow players, it’s your job to prepare as best you can for the sorts of challenges and setbacks you can predict, and to learn to overcome the ones you can’t. If you crack when the stakes are high, your teammates may lose motivation and feel like they’ve been hung out to dry.
Don't become panicked or frustrated when the opposing team has a sizable lead. Just concentrate on the next play, then the next, then the next, one at a time. Fixating on too many things at once will only leave your energy and attention divided.
Mental strength is perhaps the single most important attribute that a cricket captain can possess. After all, no amount of talent will lead you to victory if you’re already defeated in your own mind.
1-3. Know your teammates’ unique strengths and skills.
Watch your fellow players closely and make a note of where they play their best game. Not only is this essential for establishing the batting order, it will also allow you to implement winning tactics on the fly. For example, if your best bowler has a tendency to choke under pressure, knowing when to swap them out could mean the difference between a win and a loss.
It’s also helpful to recognize when another player may have a better grasp of strategy than you do. If you’re not very good at putting together a backup plan when a play goes awry but one of your teammates is, asking them for their advice will be in everyone’s best interest.
One common mistake that skippers make is thinking that they have to manage everything themselves. It’s much wiser to treat each aspect of the game as a collaborative effort, including captaincy.
1-4. Be prepared to stand by, and live with, your decisions.
As team captain, much of the responsibility for the successes and failures of the team rests on your shoulders. This means that you must be willing to accept the outcome of the direction you provide, for better or for worse. You’ll have good games and bad games. Try to take them both in stride with a sense of humility.
Learn to trust your gut when it comes to making calls that you’re uncertain about. It will rarely lead you astray.
Resist the urge to blame your teammates when things don’t work out the way you’d hoped. This will only make you look petty and self-centered, which is not how a good leader should be.
2. Leading Your Team to Victory
2-1. Use the pre-game toss to gain an early advantage for your team.
If you have lots of capable bowlers, you might choose to rack up as many runs as possible while the pitch is still nice and smooth, knowing you can make up ground later on if need be. In other cases, you may opt to bowl while you’ve got a clear path ahead of you and plenty of daylight left. It’s always wise to consider the condition of the pitch when making your decision.
In recent years, some leagues have begun doing away with the traditional coin toss, instead giving the visiting team the privilege of choosing their first play.
2-2. Play with the same focus and intensity you expect from your teammates.
All the best cricket captains lead by example. Whenever your time comes to bat or bowl, give it everything you’ve got. A consistently solid performance will earn your team’s respect and fuel their desire to win.
One of a skipper’s unofficial duties is to inspire and motivate their fellow players. There’s no better way to do this than to put in a rousing performance each and every time you take to the pitch.
You don’t have to be a star player to be a great cricket captain. In fact, some of the best skippers of all time have been average players who just happened to have a head for planning, strategizing, and organizing managing manpower.
2-3. Rotate players judiciously when needed.
When you find yourself in a situation where you need to adjust the batting order or cut a player from the lineup, try to do it in a tactful way to prevent clashing egos or hurt feelings. Communicate your reasons to the players involved clearly, and be ready to back up your decision with cold, hard stats and figures.
Assure your teammates that your personal feelings haven’t factored into your decision, and that you’re only doing what you think is best for the team.
If you give a player reason to believe that they’ve been dropped or rotated unfairly, they may accuse you of playing favorites or engaging in team politics, which is not something you want to have to deal with.
2-4. Be willing to give newer players a fair chance.
There are skippers who prefer to always play the “best” batsmen and bowlers. However, this approach can easily backfire as the most active players grow tired and lose focus. You never know when a well-timed lineup change could revitalize your team and give them the energy they need to steal or maintain the lead.
The irony of never letting someone play because you don’t think they’re good enough is that they’ll never have the opportunity to improve.
If you’re worried about a poor performance affecting your chances of winning, assign young and less experienced players to batting positions 7-11 in innings where mistakes are less likely to have disastrous repercussions.
3. Showcasing the Necessary Leadership Skills
3-1. Conduct yourself in a professional manner at all times.
A cricket team’s captain is expected to be a paragon of sportsmanship both on and off the field. Always be polite and courteous, and make it your goal to show as much respect to members of the opposing team as you do to your own coach and fellow players.
It’s especially important to make sure you’re on your best behavior during pre- and post-game interviews, special events, and other occasions where you’re interacting with the public.
In many ways, the captain is the face of the team. If people don’t think very highly of you, your team’s image may suffer, as well.
3-2. Be open to input from your teammates.
Make time for your fellow players and encourage them to come to you with questions, concerns, critiques, and suggestions for how to make the team better. At the end of the day, cricket is a team sport, and it takes more than one player to take a team running like a well-oiled machine.
Your teammates are likely to have valuable insights to share, since they each occupy a unique position in relation to the other players and therefore have a unique perspective on the way matches unfold.
Just because you’re receptive to outside ideas doesn’t mean you always have to put them into practice. Weigh the feedback you get carefully and determine whether it’s actually beneficial before figuring out what to do with it.
3-3. Resolve conflicts within your team quickly and fairly.
Nothing saps morale and sabotages performance like in-fighting. Whenever a confrontation arises between your teammates, be the one to step in and keep the peace. Work with all parties involved to reach a compromise that everyone can live with, or if necessary, ask them to put aside their differences long enough for you to finish the game.
Do your best to avoid looking like you’re choosing sides, even if you think one side is clearly in the right. Doing so could alienate one of your players, and a single weak link is all it takes to break the chain.
3-4. Make enjoying the game a top priority.
Even though a good cricket captain has to know how to keep players focused and in-line, there is such a thing as being too strict. If you’re the high-strung type, you may need to loosen up a bit and get back in touch with the things that made you fall in love with the sport in the first place. There’s no point in playing if no one is having fun.
Keep in mind that not all cricket enthusiasts take the game as seriously as others, especially if your team is part of an amateur league. Many will just be happy to be outside and play their favorite game.
Think of having fun as a strategy in itself, if you need to. The better a time your teammates are having, the better they’re likely to perform.
Tips
Above all else, you must be determined and willing to hustle hard. Captain is a coveted position on most cricket teams. As such, it could take many long months or years for you to realize your dream of being promoted.
Show up to every practice, and do everything that your fellow players do once you’re there. If you’re going to be the anchoring force for the team, they need to feel like you’re one of them.
Stay hungry and play every game as though you’re competing for top ranking, even if you’ve already secured it. Never allow yourself to be satisfied with “good enough.”
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As a leader and example to your fellow players, it’s your job to prepare as best you can for the sorts of challenges and setbacks you can predict, and to learn to overcome the ones you can’t. If you crack when the stakes are high, your teammates may lose motivation and feel like they’ve been hung out to dry.\\nDon't become panicked or frustrated when the opposing team has a sizable lead. Just concentrate on the next play, then the next, then the next, one at a time. Fixating on too many things at once will only leave your energy and attention divided.\\nMental strength is perhaps the single most important attribute that a cricket captain can possess. After all, no amount of talent will lead you to victory if you’re already defeated in your own mind.\\n1-3. Know your teammates’ unique strengths and skills.\\nWatch your fellow players closely and make a note of where they play their best game. Not only is this essential for establishing the batting order, it will also allow you to implement winning tactics on the fly. For example, if your best bowler has a tendency to choke under pressure, knowing when to swap them out could mean the difference between a win and a loss.\\nIt’s also helpful to recognize when another player may have a better grasp of strategy than you do. If you’re not very good at putting together a backup plan when a play goes awry but one of your teammates is, asking them for their advice will be in everyone’s best interest.\\nOne common mistake that skippers make is thinking that they have to manage everything themselves. It’s much wiser to treat each aspect of the game as a collaborative effort, including captaincy.\\n1-4. Be prepared to stand by, and live with, your decisions.\\nAs team captain, much of the responsibility for the successes and failures of the team rests on your shoulders. This means that you must be willing to accept the outcome of the direction you provide, for better or for worse. You’ll have good games and bad games. Try to take them both in stride with a sense of humility.\\nLearn to trust your gut when it comes to making calls that you’re uncertain about. It will rarely lead you astray.\\nResist the urge to blame your teammates when things don’t work out the way you’d hoped. This will only make you look petty and self-centered, which is not how a good leader should be.\\n2. Leading Your Team to Victory\\n2-1. Use the pre-game toss to gain an early advantage for your team.\\nIf you have lots of capable bowlers, you might choose to rack up as many runs as possible while the pitch is still nice and smooth, knowing you can make up ground later on if need be. In other cases, you may opt to bowl while you’ve got a clear path ahead of you and plenty of daylight left. It’s always wise to consider the condition of the pitch when making your decision.\\nIn recent years, some leagues have begun doing away with the traditional coin toss, instead giving the visiting team the privilege of choosing their first play.\\n2-2. Play with the same focus and intensity you expect from your teammates.\\nAll the best cricket captains lead by example. Whenever your time comes to bat or bowl, give it everything you’ve got. A consistently solid performance will earn your team’s respect and fuel their desire to win.\\nOne of a skipper’s unofficial duties is to inspire and motivate their fellow players. There’s no better way to do this than to put in a rousing performance each and every time you take to the pitch.\\nYou don’t have to be a star player to be a great cricket captain. In fact, some of the best skippers of all time have been average players who just happened to have a head for planning, strategizing, and organizing managing manpower.\\n2-3. Rotate players judiciously when needed.\\nWhen you find yourself in a situation where you need to adjust the batting order or cut a player from the lineup, try to do it in a tactful way to prevent clashing egos or hurt feelings. Communicate your reasons to the players involved clearly, and be ready to back up your decision with cold, hard stats and figures.\\nAssure your teammates that your personal feelings haven’t factored into your decision, and that you’re only doing what you think is best for the team.\\nIf you give a player reason to believe that they’ve been dropped or rotated unfairly, they may accuse you of playing favorites or engaging in team politics, which is not something you want to have to deal with.\\n2-4. Be willing to give newer players a fair chance.\\nThere are skippers who prefer to always play the “best” batsmen and bowlers. However, this approach can easily backfire as the most active players grow tired and lose focus. You never know when a well-timed lineup change could revitalize your team and give them the energy they need to steal or maintain the lead.\\nThe irony of never letting someone play because you don’t think they’re good enough is that they’ll never have the opportunity to improve.\\nIf you’re worried about a poor performance affecting your chances of winning, assign young and less experienced players to batting positions 7-11 in innings where mistakes are less likely to have disastrous repercussions.\\n3. Showcasing the Necessary Leadership Skills\\n3-1. Conduct yourself in a professional manner at all times.\\nA cricket team’s captain is expected to be a paragon of sportsmanship both on and off the field. Always be polite and courteous, and make it your goal to show as much respect to members of the opposing team as you do to your own coach and fellow players.\\nIt’s especially important to make sure you’re on your best behavior during pre- and post-game interviews, special events, and other occasions where you’re interacting with the public.\\nIn many ways, the captain is the face of the team. If people don’t think very highly of you, your team’s image may suffer, as well.\\n3-2. Be open to input from your teammates.\\nMake time for your fellow players and encourage them to come to you with questions, concerns, critiques, and suggestions for how to make the team better. At the end of the day, cricket is a team sport, and it takes more than one player to take a team running like a well-oiled machine.\\nYour teammates are likely to have valuable insights to share, since they each occupy a unique position in relation to the other players and therefore have a unique perspective on the way matches unfold.\\nJust because you’re receptive to outside ideas doesn’t mean you always have to put them into practice. Weigh the feedback you get carefully and determine whether it’s actually beneficial before figuring out what to do with it.\\n3-3. Resolve conflicts within your team quickly and fairly.\\nNothing saps morale and sabotages performance like in-fighting. Whenever a confrontation arises between your teammates, be the one to step in and keep the peace. Work with all parties involved to reach a compromise that everyone can live with, or if necessary, ask them to put aside their differences long enough for you to finish the game.\\nDo your best to avoid looking like you’re choosing sides, even if you think one side is clearly in the right. Doing so could alienate one of your players, and a single weak link is all it takes to break the chain.\\n3-4. Make enjoying the game a top priority.\\nEven though a good cricket captain has to know how to keep players focused and in-line, there is such a thing as being too strict. If you’re the high-strung type, you may need to loosen up a bit and get back in touch with the things that made you fall in love with the sport in the first place. There’s no point in playing if no one is having fun.\\nKeep in mind that not all cricket enthusiasts take the game as seriously as others, especially if your team is part of an amateur league. Many will just be happy to be outside and play their favorite game.\\nThink of having fun as a strategy in itself, if you need to. The better a time your teammates are having, the better they’re likely to perform.\\nTips\\nAbove all else, you must be determined and willing to hustle hard. Captain is a coveted position on most cricket teams. As such, it could take many long months or years for you to realize your dream of being promoted.\\nShow up to every practice, and do everything that your fellow players do once you’re there. If you’re going to be the anchoring force for the team, they need to feel like you’re one of them.\\nStay hungry and play every game as though you’re competing for top ranking, even if you’ve already secured it. Never allow yourself to be satisfied with “good enough.”\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"In the sport of cricket, the main role of the captain is to act as a sort of intermediary between the coaching staff and the rest of the team. Unlike other sports, a cricket captain is part player, part coach, and must be able to successfully balance the various pressures that come with the dual responsibilities. Excelling as a cricket captain requires you to have a thorough understanding of how the game is played, a knack for strategizing, and the ability to lead your teammates both on and off the field.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having What it Takes to Become Captain\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop a thorough understanding of the game.\", \"描述\": \"Study the basic rules and regulations, as well as more advanced plays and theories, until you know them like the back of your hand. Whereas the duties of guiding the team fall to the coaching staff in most other sports, the captain of a cricket team is largely responsible for calling the shots. For this reason, it’s imperative that you have a good grasp of the intricacies of the sport.\\nChances are that you’re already quite familiar with the sport if you’re in the running for team captain (or hope to be soon). However, there’s always more to learn.\\nBecome a devoted student of the game—attend regional events, watch televised matches, and read books on gameplay and psychology. Everything you take in will become a part of your tool set.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep a cool head in stressful situations.\", \"描述\": \"There are a thousand things that can go wrong during a game of cricket. As a leader and example to your fellow players, it’s your job to prepare as best you can for the sorts of challenges and setbacks you can predict, and to learn to overcome the ones you can’t. If you crack when the stakes are high, your teammates may lose motivation and feel like they’ve been hung out to dry.\\nDon't become panicked or frustrated when the opposing team has a sizable lead. Just concentrate on the next play, then the next, then the next, one at a time. Fixating on too many things at once will only leave your energy and attention divided.\\nMental strength is perhaps the single most important attribute that a cricket captain can possess. After all, no amount of talent will lead you to victory if you’re already defeated in your own mind.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know your teammates’ unique strengths and skills.\", \"描述\": \"Watch your fellow players closely and make a note of where they play their best game. Not only is this essential for establishing the batting order, it will also allow you to implement winning tactics on the fly. For example, if your best bowler has a tendency to choke under pressure, knowing when to swap them out could mean the difference between a win and a loss.\\nIt’s also helpful to recognize when another player may have a better grasp of strategy than you do. 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1. Starting Your Career in School
1-1. Prepare early.
You should try to get an early start if your goal is to be an engineer, during middle school and high school if you can. Engineers need a grounding in math and science, so plan your schedule around these subjects. Load up on the right classes and enroll in activities that will give you an edge when college admissions roll around.
Make sure to take basic math courses like Algebra I &II, Geometry, Trigonometry, Pre-Calculus, and Calculus. Take science courses like Chemistry, Biology, and Physics, too.
Take as many advanced placement or honors classes as possible in these subjects. Success in honors courses will help you get into the program of your choice in college, while preparing you for the work required of engineers.
Get involved in extracurricular activities, too. Go to a math or science camp in the summer, for example, or join the robotics club at your school. There are also regional, state, and nation-wide engineering competitions. Do anything that will give you a wider foundation.
1-2. Choose a good college.
Most major universities have engineering programs. Demand is also fairly high, so you’ll probably be able to get a good job even without a degree from a top-tier school like Caltech or MIT. Still, there are factors to consider when applying.
Ideally, pick a school with a good reputation for engineering. All colleges are not created equal, and some programs are weaker than others. A degree from Western Michigan University is OK, but you’d do better at the more highly regarded University of Michigan or Michigan Tech.
Some colleges perform better in certain fields of engineering. Purdue and Michigan State University have excellent agricultural engineering programs, for instance, but are weaker in fields like civil and electrical engineering.
Engineers earn about $72,000 out of school, but you’ll still want to keep your tuition and debt as low as you can. A solid state school like Illinois Urbana-Champaign might be a better choice than an elite, pricy college like Stanford: $15,000 in-state costs vs. $46,000.
You might also look at location (i.e. are you willing to move away from home?) and which colleges offer internships and industry coops, which will give you early on-the-job experience.
1-3. Shoot for success in college.
Just like high school, it’s important to get good marks in your coursework in college and to build up your resume with an eye to the future. Take the required coursework, see what sort of work suits you best, network, and get involved in extracurricular activities.
All the usual advice for school applies: attend lecture and lab, take notes, do your homework, set up a study routine, and apply yourself.
Try to participate in engineering-related activities, like your university’s engineering club or math and science competitions. These experiences will help you to get experience working with teams and in informal leadership roles.
Consider taking a business class. Engineers don’t just need to be technically proficient, but also able to navigate business relationships with clients, lawyers, and regulatory officials. It may also help you network.
Keep busy all year round. If you want to be successful, you shouldn’t expect to spend the summers sitting around. Use them to get practical experience, either working or as an intern.
2. Picking a Field
2-1. Choose a major.
At some point, either before or during college, you’ll need to put thought into what KIND of engineer you want to be. There are dozens of fields and subfields in engineering, from aerospace and chemical to nuclear and mining. Each field offers different kinds of work and job possibilities.
Do your research. Be aware of the possible fields outside of the major areas of electronic, mechanical, civil, and chemical engineering.
You might want to think about what fields will be hiring. At the moment, it looks like renewal resources and energy have a bright future and will create lots of high-income jobs.
But the future can be unpredictable. Think also about what gets you excited. Do you like to write code in your spare time? Maybe computer engineering is a good choice for you. Like tinkering? You could be a great mechanical engineer.
Keep in mind that your field can affect where you eventually live and work. For instance, many chemical and petrochemical engineering jobs are near oil and natural gas deposits. As an aerospace engineer you might have to move to the major industry hubs in Texas or Florida.
2-2. Know the major engineering disciplines.
Engineering is split into four main fields or disciplines: civil, chemical, electrical, and mechanical. Each of these disciplines is split again into all sorts of subfields. In deciding on your major and field, take a close look at each of the four.
For example, civil engineers create the built environment of modern civilization, i.e. bridges, roads, airports, energy systems, etc. They might also be involved in mining, transit, or traffic engineering, or in designing a better car door or more durable road surface.
Chemical engineers deal with materials and material processes – the production, transport, and transformation of materials. In this field you might work for the petro or energy industry or develop new processes to make polymers or drugs. Chemical engineers do much of their work in labs.
Mechanical engineers get products from idea to the marketplace. They use physics and math to understand all the forces that go into a product and its production and try to find the best way to build it and prevent failures.
Electrical engineers apply physics and the math of electricity, electronics, and electromagnetism to electrical systems and processes. They might design electrical components, build communications networks, or work for computer or utilities companies.
2-3. Remember other subfields, too!
There are countless subfields within the four big disciplines, as well. A chemical engineer can also be a paper engineer, for example, involved in the processes that turn raw materials into paper and ink. A mechanical engineer can be a marine or aerospace engineer, designing ships, planes, or spacecraft.
There are even subfields that “engineer” people. Industrial engineers study how people work, using modeling and time-studies to make processes more efficient and productive.
2-4. Get an internship.
One of the most important things you can do to cement your field in college is to complete an internship. One or more internships will look good to employers in the private sphere. They will also give you a first-hand taste of the field, letting you see whether or not it is really for you.
Start early. Internships are competitive. Visit your college’s career and internship center to find out about opportunities. Put together a resume and copies of your college transcripts for applications.
Think about your interests and possible locations. Are you willing to take an internship in an area outside of your ideal focus? Are you willing to move for the summer?
Cultivate relationships with professors. Network and get to know your instructors. Employers may ask for one or two professional references and you will need their support.
Let’s reiterate: internships in engineering are HUGE. In fact, one just might start your career. About 80% of employers see them as a source for full-time hires.
3. Getting an Engineering Job
3-1. Get your professional licensing.
Once you graduate from college with an engineering degree, the next step is to work toward professional certification. First, you should take the Fundamentals of Engineering (FE) exam. This test is given by the National Council of Examiners for Engineering and Surveying (NCEES) and gives you the right to present yourself as an engineer. A passing mark also lets you work as an independent consultant and can be an advantage on in the job hunt.
The FE is a computer-based exam tailored to your discipline. You should prep for the test, because it’s not easy: 116 multiple choice questions in an allotted time of 6 hours.
After you’ve passed the FE exam and worked in the field for four years, you’ll be eligible to take the professional engineering (PE) exam. Once you complete this step, you’ll be a certified professional engineer and can expect more trust and responsibility from clients.
3-2. Start applying for jobs.
Even though engineers are in high demand, finding a job won’t necessarily be easy. Prepare yourself for the long-haul. Take the application process seriously, prepare, and tailor your materials to each job.
To find opportunities, search company websites and attend career fairs at your college. Apply to jobs in your field and any others you might be qualified for and enjoy.
Put thought into your resume. Tweak it to highlight your academic and personal strengths, software proficiencies, and concrete accomplishments. Make sure that the resume looks crisp, clean, and professional.
Polish your online presence. This means removing any damaging material from Facebook, Instagram, and other social media accounts while building up a positive presence. Create a LinkedIn account or perhaps even a slick, professional website.
Tailor applications to each job. Employers won’t waste time on a generic cover letter. Make sure to do your research. Know what the company does, what the job entails, and anticipate what they’re looking for – then, sell yourself as someone who fills that gap.
3-3. Sail through the interviews.
Get ready for a series of formal and informal talks and interviews before you get the job, both over the phone and in person. These interviews are your chance to sink or swim. If you prepare ahead of time, however, you are sure to have a higher rate of success.
Research and study before each interview. The interviewers will want to see that you understand what their company does and what the job requires. They are also looking for signs that you can fill the role.
Try to anticipate. Based on what you know about the job, what questions do you think that the interviewers will ask? Form answers to these beforehand.
Interviews can take a variety of shapes. It might be a question and answer session. Or, the interviewers could ask you to talk about situations: i.e., “Tell us about a time when others resisted a procedure you introduced. How did you respond? How did you gain support?” The latter is a popular method right now.
Another format is the case approach. Here, the interviewers will present a hypothetical problem and ask you to solve it, step-by-step.
A few companies use a “stress” test to gauge how you react to difficult situations. They will ask aggressive questions, interrupt, and change topic suddenly to judge how you handle it. The key is not to get rattled.
Always have follow-up questions, i.e. “What are your firm’s priorities for the next five years?” “What is the greatest challenge that you’re facing right now?” or “How do you measure success? Can you give me some examples?” This shows you have put thought into the company and interview.
4. Staying Current in the Field
4-1. Do outside research.
Like most science fields, engineering as a profession is constantly evolving. To be a good engineer, it’s important to stay current with developments in the field. Read up on the kind of engineering you practice, for example, and stay abreast of the latest trends.
Consider subscribing to a professional magazine, like Engineering, Mechanical Engineering, or Engineering and Technology.
Join a professional organization like the National Society for Professional Engineers and make the newsletters required reading, as well.
4-2. Engage in professional development.
Staying current means practicing the science. Work on an idea you have outside of work or ask your boss if you can try something new in a project.
If you have an exceptionally innovative idea, you can apply for grants offered by organizations that support this kind of work – like those offered by the National Science Foundation.
Be aware of professional certification opportunities in your subfield, too. For instance, industrial engineers can take Lean Manufacturing Certification courses, which advise on how to limit waste in manufacturing processes and supply chains.
4-3. Publish.
Not all engineers need to publish scientific papers. But, you’re more than welcome to try if you’re ambitious or just have an interesting and innovative idea. Write up your idea or case-study and submit it to an engineering magazine or scholarly journal.
Try titles like the International Journal of Engineering Science, the Journal of Engineering, or the International Journal for Plasticity.
Publishing your paper will usually mean a double-blind peer review. This means that the journal sends your paper out to one or more experts for feedback. You don’t know who they are, and they don’t know who you are.
Expect to wait. Peer-review and publishing can take as long as a year. You’ll probably have to revise the paper, even if it’s conditionally accepted (revise and resubmit). It will take several more months to appear in print, but it’s well worth the wait!
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There are also regional, state, and nation-wide engineering competitions. Do anything that will give you a wider foundation.\\n1-2. Choose a good college.\\nMost major universities have engineering programs. Demand is also fairly high, so you’ll probably be able to get a good job even without a degree from a top-tier school like Caltech or MIT. Still, there are factors to consider when applying.\\nIdeally, pick a school with a good reputation for engineering. All colleges are not created equal, and some programs are weaker than others. A degree from Western Michigan University is OK, but you’d do better at the more highly regarded University of Michigan or Michigan Tech.\\nSome colleges perform better in certain fields of engineering. Purdue and Michigan State University have excellent agricultural engineering programs, for instance, but are weaker in fields like civil and electrical engineering.\\nEngineers earn about $72,000 out of school, but you’ll still want to keep your tuition and debt as low as you can. A solid state school like Illinois Urbana-Champaign might be a better choice than an elite, pricy college like Stanford: $15,000 in-state costs vs. $46,000.\\nYou might also look at location (i.e. are you willing to move away from home?) and which colleges offer internships and industry coops, which will give you early on-the-job experience.\\n1-3. Shoot for success in college.\\nJust like high school, it’s important to get good marks in your coursework in college and to build up your resume with an eye to the future. Take the required coursework, see what sort of work suits you best, network, and get involved in extracurricular activities.\\nAll the usual advice for school applies: attend lecture and lab, take notes, do your homework, set up a study routine, and apply yourself.\\nTry to participate in engineering-related activities, like your university’s engineering club or math and science competitions. These experiences will help you to get experience working with teams and in informal leadership roles.\\nConsider taking a business class. Engineers don’t just need to be technically proficient, but also able to navigate business relationships with clients, lawyers, and regulatory officials. It may also help you network.\\nKeep busy all year round. If you want to be successful, you shouldn’t expect to spend the summers sitting around. Use them to get practical experience, either working or as an intern.\\n2. Picking a Field\\n2-1. Choose a major.\\nAt some point, either before or during college, you’ll need to put thought into what KIND of engineer you want to be. There are dozens of fields and subfields in engineering, from aerospace and chemical to nuclear and mining. Each field offers different kinds of work and job possibilities.\\nDo your research. Be aware of the possible fields outside of the major areas of electronic, mechanical, civil, and chemical engineering.\\nYou might want to think about what fields will be hiring. At the moment, it looks like renewal resources and energy have a bright future and will create lots of high-income jobs.\\nBut the future can be unpredictable. Think also about what gets you excited. Do you like to write code in your spare time? Maybe computer engineering is a good choice for you. Like tinkering? You could be a great mechanical engineer.\\nKeep in mind that your field can affect where you eventually live and work. For instance, many chemical and petrochemical engineering jobs are near oil and natural gas deposits. As an aerospace engineer you might have to move to the major industry hubs in Texas or Florida.\\n2-2. Know the major engineering disciplines.\\nEngineering is split into four main fields or disciplines: civil, chemical, electrical, and mechanical. Each of these disciplines is split again into all sorts of subfields. In deciding on your major and field, take a close look at each of the four.\\nFor example, civil engineers create the built environment of modern civilization, i.e. bridges, roads, airports, energy systems, etc. They might also be involved in mining, transit, or traffic engineering, or in designing a better car door or more durable road surface.\\nChemical engineers deal with materials and material processes – the production, transport, and transformation of materials. In this field you might work for the petro or energy industry or develop new processes to make polymers or drugs. Chemical engineers do much of their work in labs.\\nMechanical engineers get products from idea to the marketplace. They use physics and math to understand all the forces that go into a product and its production and try to find the best way to build it and prevent failures.\\nElectrical engineers apply physics and the math of electricity, electronics, and electromagnetism to electrical systems and processes. They might design electrical components, build communications networks, or work for computer or utilities companies.\\n2-3. Remember other subfields, too!\\nThere are countless subfields within the four big disciplines, as well. A chemical engineer can also be a paper engineer, for example, involved in the processes that turn raw materials into paper and ink. A mechanical engineer can be a marine or aerospace engineer, designing ships, planes, or spacecraft.\\nThere are even subfields that “engineer” people. Industrial engineers study how people work, using modeling and time-studies to make processes more efficient and productive.\\n2-4. Get an internship.\\nOne of the most important things you can do to cement your field in college is to complete an internship. One or more internships will look good to employers in the private sphere. They will also give you a first-hand taste of the field, letting you see whether or not it is really for you.\\nStart early. Internships are competitive. Visit your college’s career and internship center to find out about opportunities. Put together a resume and copies of your college transcripts for applications.\\nThink about your interests and possible locations. Are you willing to take an internship in an area outside of your ideal focus? Are you willing to move for the summer?\\nCultivate relationships with professors. Network and get to know your instructors. Employers may ask for one or two professional references and you will need their support.\\nLet’s reiterate: internships in engineering are HUGE. In fact, one just might start your career. About 80% of employers see them as a source for full-time hires.\\n3. Getting an Engineering Job\\n3-1. Get your professional licensing.\\nOnce you graduate from college with an engineering degree, the next step is to work toward professional certification. First, you should take the Fundamentals of Engineering (FE) exam. This test is given by the National Council of Examiners for Engineering and Surveying (NCEES) and gives you the right to present yourself as an engineer. A passing mark also lets you work as an independent consultant and can be an advantage on in the job hunt.\\nThe FE is a computer-based exam tailored to your discipline. You should prep for the test, because it’s not easy: 116 multiple choice questions in an allotted time of 6 hours.\\nAfter you’ve passed the FE exam and worked in the field for four years, you’ll be eligible to take the professional engineering (PE) exam. Once you complete this step, you’ll be a certified professional engineer and can expect more trust and responsibility from clients.\\n3-2. Start applying for jobs.\\nEven though engineers are in high demand, finding a job won’t necessarily be easy. Prepare yourself for the long-haul. Take the application process seriously, prepare, and tailor your materials to each job.\\nTo find opportunities, search company websites and attend career fairs at your college. Apply to jobs in your field and any others you might be qualified for and enjoy.\\nPut thought into your resume. Tweak it to highlight your academic and personal strengths, software proficiencies, and concrete accomplishments. Make sure that the resume looks crisp, clean, and professional.\\nPolish your online presence. This means removing any damaging material from Facebook, Instagram, and other social media accounts while building up a positive presence. Create a LinkedIn account or perhaps even a slick, professional website.\\nTailor applications to each job. Employers won’t waste time on a generic cover letter. Make sure to do your research. Know what the company does, what the job entails, and anticipate what they’re looking for – then, sell yourself as someone who fills that gap.\\n3-3. Sail through the interviews.\\nGet ready for a series of formal and informal talks and interviews before you get the job, both over the phone and in person. These interviews are your chance to sink or swim. If you prepare ahead of time, however, you are sure to have a higher rate of success.\\nResearch and study before each interview. The interviewers will want to see that you understand what their company does and what the job requires. They are also looking for signs that you can fill the role.\\nTry to anticipate. Based on what you know about the job, what questions do you think that the interviewers will ask? Form answers to these beforehand.\\nInterviews can take a variety of shapes. It might be a question and answer session. Or, the interviewers could ask you to talk about situations: i.e., “Tell us about a time when others resisted a procedure you introduced. How did you respond? How did you gain support?” The latter is a popular method right now.\\nAnother format is the case approach. Here, the interviewers will present a hypothetical problem and ask you to solve it, step-by-step.\\nA few companies use a “stress” test to gauge how you react to difficult situations. They will ask aggressive questions, interrupt, and change topic suddenly to judge how you handle it. The key is not to get rattled.\\nAlways have follow-up questions, i.e. “What are your firm’s priorities for the next five years?” “What is the greatest challenge that you’re facing right now?” or “How do you measure success? Can you give me some examples?” This shows you have put thought into the company and interview.\\n4. Staying Current in the Field\\n4-1. Do outside research.\\nLike most science fields, engineering as a profession is constantly evolving. To be a good engineer, it’s important to stay current with developments in the field. Read up on the kind of engineering you practice, for example, and stay abreast of the latest trends.\\nConsider subscribing to a professional magazine, like Engineering, Mechanical Engineering, or Engineering and Technology.\\nJoin a professional organization like the National Society for Professional Engineers and make the newsletters required reading, as well.\\n4-2. Engage in professional development.\\nStaying current means practicing the science. Work on an idea you have outside of work or ask your boss if you can try something new in a project.\\nIf you have an exceptionally innovative idea, you can apply for grants offered by organizations that support this kind of work – like those offered by the National Science Foundation.\\nBe aware of professional certification opportunities in your subfield, too. For instance, industrial engineers can take Lean Manufacturing Certification courses, which advise on how to limit waste in manufacturing processes and supply chains.\\n4-3. Publish.\\nNot all engineers need to publish scientific papers. But, you’re more than welcome to try if you’re ambitious or just have an interesting and innovative idea. Write up your idea or case-study and submit it to an engineering magazine or scholarly journal.\\nTry titles like the International Journal of Engineering Science, the Journal of Engineering, or the International Journal for Plasticity.\\nPublishing your paper will usually mean a double-blind peer review. This means that the journal sends your paper out to one or more experts for feedback. You don’t know who they are, and they don’t know who you are.\\nExpect to wait. Peer-review and publishing can take as long as a year. You’ll probably have to revise the paper, even if it’s conditionally accepted (revise and resubmit). It will take several more months to appear in print, but it’s well worth the wait!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Engineers make society function. They design our roads, our transit, our communications, our lives – you could say there’s an engineer behind everything in your life. Engineering can also be rewarding and pays well. It is, in fact, one of the best paying jobs out of college today. How to become one, though? To be successful in the field, you’ll need to prepare well for college, specialize in one of the many subfields, and work hard to land that coveted job.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Starting Your Career in School\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare early.\", \"描述\": \"You should try to get an early start if your goal is to be an engineer, during middle school and high school if you can. Engineers need a grounding in math and science, so plan your schedule around these subjects. Load up on the right classes and enroll in activities that will give you an edge when college admissions roll around.\\nMake sure to take basic math courses like Algebra I &II, Geometry, Trigonometry, Pre-Calculus, and Calculus. Take science courses like Chemistry, Biology, and Physics, too.\\nTake as many advanced placement or honors classes as possible in these subjects. Success in honors courses will help you get into the program of your choice in college, while preparing you for the work required of engineers.\\nGet involved in extracurricular activities, too. Go to a math or science camp in the summer, for example, or join the robotics club at your school. There are also regional, state, and nation-wide engineering competitions. Do anything that will give you a wider foundation.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose a good college.\", \"描述\": \"Most major universities have engineering programs. Demand is also fairly high, so you’ll probably be able to get a good job even without a degree from a top-tier school like Caltech or MIT. Still, there are factors to consider when applying.\\nIdeally, pick a school with a good reputation for engineering. All colleges are not created equal, and some programs are weaker than others. 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Be aware of the possible fields outside of the major areas of electronic, mechanical, civil, and chemical engineering.\\nYou might want to think about what fields will be hiring. At the moment, it looks like renewal resources and energy have a bright future and will create lots of high-income jobs.\\nBut the future can be unpredictable. Think also about what gets you excited. Do you like to write code in your spare time? Maybe computer engineering is a good choice for you. Like tinkering? You could be a great mechanical engineer.\\nKeep in mind that your field can affect where you eventually live and work. For instance, many chemical and petrochemical engineering jobs are near oil and natural gas deposits. As an aerospace engineer you might have to move to the major industry hubs in Texas or Florida.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know the major engineering disciplines.\", \"描述\": \"Engineering is split into four main fields or disciplines: civil, chemical, electrical, and mechanical. 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Employers may ask for one or two professional references and you will need their support.\\nLet’s reiterate: internships in engineering are HUGE. In fact, one just might start your career. About 80% of employers see them as a source for full-time hires.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting an Engineering Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get your professional licensing.\", \"描述\": \"Once you graduate from college with an engineering degree, the next step is to work toward professional certification. First, you should take the Fundamentals of Engineering (FE) exam. This test is given by the National Council of Examiners for Engineering and Surveying (NCEES) and gives you the right to present yourself as an engineer. A passing mark also lets you work as an independent consultant and can be an advantage on in the job hunt.\\nThe FE is a computer-based exam tailored to your discipline. You should prep for the test, because it’s not easy: 116 multiple choice questions in an allotted time of 6 hours.\\nAfter you’ve passed the FE exam and worked in the field for four years, you’ll be eligible to take the professional engineering (PE) exam. Once you complete this step, you’ll be a certified professional engineer and can expect more trust and responsibility from clients.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start applying for jobs.\", \"描述\": \"Even though engineers are in high demand, finding a job won’t necessarily be easy. Prepare yourself for the long-haul. Take the application process seriously, prepare, and tailor your materials to each job.\\nTo find opportunities, search company websites and attend career fairs at your college. Apply to jobs in your field and any others you might be qualified for and enjoy.\\nPut thought into your resume. Tweak it to highlight your academic and personal strengths, software proficiencies, and concrete accomplishments. 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1. Having the Right Attitude
1-1. Love what you do.
Passion is the single most important ingredient for a successful business. If you don't love what you do, entrepreneurship will be a constant grind that ends in defeat. As the owner of your own business, you have to go all in. You can't do that unless you love your company.
Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Have your business play to your strengths. For instance, if you specialize in cooking and customer service, start a restaurant! If you're more mathematically oriented, go into accounting or engineering. If you're a people person, start your own party planning business!
Make a list of your passions. If you love baseball, running, watching sports, and going to the gym, consider starting a personal training business.
If you are already an entrepreneur, ask yourself if you love what you do. Be honest with yourself. If you truly do love your work, your determination will be reaffirmed. If you're struggling and don't like the kind of work your business does, consider changing your company to align with your interests or starting over from scratch.
1-2. Take your work seriously by giving your business your full attention and effort.
Be determined to succeed. A positive mindset will lead to positive results. Running your own business is more than a full time job. It's your life. You need to be committed or you won't make it.
Be prepared to work harder than you've ever worked before. Starting a company from the ground up requires an enormous effort. You need to be committed if you hope to succeed.
Have a mindset of working as hard as possible. This will be stressful, but especially at the beginning, there's no time off. You need to work constantly to grow your business. Otherwise, somebody else is working harder than you and they'll succeed rather than you.
Work from home. Answer emails and make calls even when you're out of the office.
Make sure you take time off too, though. It can be tempting to work 24/7. The trick is to be at 100 percent when you work. Working harder is better than working longer. To be at your best, you need time off. Take a short vacation if you're feeling burned out. Take time to stretch your legs and relax during the work day. Take lunch breaks every day.
1-3. Be organized.
Organization is key to being efficient with your time. This doesn't just mean keeping your paperwork and files in order. You have to have systems and routines in place to accomplish daily tasks.
To-do lists are a great way to stay organized.
Create a calendar that has everything on it. This is more efficient than separate calendars for separate activities. Include work, social, and family events into your calendar. Keep it up to date, and check it regularly.
Budget your time wisely. You should look to fill the entire day with productive work, punctuated by short breaks. Don't waste time on a fool's errand or a long shot.
1-4. Don't be afraid to innovate.
Tap in to you inner creativity and trust your intuition. A big part of what sets successful businesses apart is that the owners are trail blazers. You can't just follow in everyone else's footsteps. At some point, you have to set yourself apart from the pack.
You need to take risks to be successful. You won't always have all the information or all the resources necessary to make a decision. Go out on a limb and trust that you'll make the right choice.
Brainstorm and come up with new solutions. Try your own method of fundraising or your own approach to managing employees. Better yet, come up with a new product entirely.
1-5. Be willing to listen and learn.
This is essential, because you don't know everything. Build relationships with industry professionals and take their advice to heart. Work closely with your business partners and employees, and ask them for the input. Even if you don't take it, they'll appreciate the sentiment.
Good leaders always ask for help. You need to accept that you don't know everything, and you can be a better leader with the collective knowledge of your friends and coworkers.
Try to find a mentor in your industry to help you along the way.
1-6. Invest in yourself.
All the best entrepreneurs take time and money to better themselves and become experts in their fields. Buy your market's best books and journals, and read about the market every day. Attend business seminars and constantly educate yourself. Practice the relevant skills and take classes.
Money should be no object when investing in yourself. Those investments will always have the biggest returns in the long run.
You should, however, balance time spend on yourself and time spent on your business. Your business should come first in the short term, but self-investment should focus on the long term.
1-7. Be an exemplary leader.
Project a positive image and it will pervade your company. You are the standard bearer for your business. How you act determines how people perceive your business. Go out of your way to make sure your image is professional and welcoming.
Go out of your way to make a good first impression. This is especially important when meeting with investors or industry leaders.
Be encouraging and positive. This positivity will trickle down to the rest of your company.
Be accessible. Have an open-door policy, and encourage people to come talk to you about anything and everything.
Always dress for the part. This is essential for your image. Look and act professional at all times.
Have a top-notch office if possible. If you work from home, have meetings in a public place like a coffee shop or library instead.
1-8. Be prepared to face failure and adversity.
Eight out of ten small businesses fail. The odds are against you, and you're sure to face adversity. To come out successful, you need tenacity and determination. Don't be afraid to take risks. You need to be relentless and fearless to overcome the challenges ahead.
If you aren't that kind of person, being an entrepreneur may not be for you.
Find motivation to keep going. Have a personal mantra, a pump up song, a person in your life to push you, or an inner flame that keeps you going. Whatever it is, you need to be strong and motivated.
If you fail, get up and try again. It may take you a couple tries to get a successful business off the ground. Don't be discouraged if you fail the first time.
2. Building Your Business
2-1. Self-promote your business.
Have a perfect elevator pitch that you can confidently give anyone. This 30-second business pitch should be one of the first things you make. Give the pitch to anybody who will listen. Talk about your business constantly, and always look to share your vision. Your confidence and enthusiasm will spread and hopefully attract investors and strong business allies.
Be careful not to go over the top with your self-promotion. This can easily become obnoxious. Be tasteful with your pitch.
Practice your elevator pitch in a mirror. Perfect it, and constantly add to it as your business changes. Keep it short and concise, but convey as much information as possible. Make it compelling and interesting. Remember, you're trying to sell your business!
2-2. Build a strong business team.
Choose your co-founders and employees carefully. As a rule of thumb, hire slowly but fire fast. You should trust your business team entirely, and they should be highly competent and share your passion and vision for the company.
For your first partners, trust is the most important factor.
Communication is key. Maintain open lines of communication with everyone on your team.
2-3. Build a loyal customer and client base.
These relationships are among your most important. Keep in contact with them and be as friendly as possible. Always follow up with your clients after a meeting. Make them feel wanted and part of the team, and they'll give you their full support in return.
Remember, the customer is always right. Bend over backwards to give them what they want.
Keep in touch with your clients. Let them know when you're making a big business decision or if you're changing the direction of the company. Ask for their advice make them feel like they're an integral part of the company.
Your first clients are your most important. Treat them like it. Give them the VIP treatment, and they'll stay loyal to you and your company.
Get to know your customers. Spend time with them outside of a business capacity. Become their friend, and they'll become loyal customers.
Remember that no matter how good your product is, no matter how strong your business team is, and no matter how hard you work, your business is nothing without clients. They always come first.
2-4. Attract investors to support your business.
Every person you meet is a potential investor. Build strong relationships with people who sound interested in your business, especially those who are industry professionals and known investors. Network constantly to build your pool of potential investors.
Prove your business works. Even if it isn't profitable yet, show that your idea is sound. Build off small successes to build support. People are much more likely to invest in an established company than an idea.
Remember, investors invest in people. If they trust you and like you, they're much more likely to invest.
Establish a diverse pool of investors. If all your investors are the same kind of person, your company is built on shaky ground. Aim to diversify.
Inspire confidence and positive thinking in your investors. Your company is sure to face challenges. You want investors who can weather the storm, not investors who jump at the first sign of trouble.
2-5. Invest in a professional work space.
You may start your business from home, but eventually you need a real office. Your work space should impress clients and investors, and it should give you a comfortable work environment.
Aim to be as professional as possible. The more legitimate your business looks, the more likely you are to be taken seriously.
Organize your office. This helps it look professional and it helps your business' efficiency.
2-6. Take full advantage of technology.
A fledgling business with two employees can compete with a behemoth company by using technology wisely. Make use of the internet and a variety of apps to be as efficient and competitive as possible.
Don't be afraid to invest in building a strong technological infrastructure. Buy top-notch computers and industry products to keep an edge on the competition. Just be careful not to blow money on flashy but unnecessary equipment.
3. Keeping Your Business Running
3-1. Differentiate your product from the market.
A cookie-cutter product doesn't make for successful entrepreneurship. You need to have a unique product to make it in the long run. Look at the market and carve out a niche for your business.
Ask yourself what the value of your product is. Find a way for it to provide value that no other product can.
A small innovation on an existing product is a great way to differentiate yourself.
Your product isn't necessarily what has to be distinct. It can be the structure of your company or the way you go about fundraising and networking. Whatever it is, you have to do something different to make it as an entrepreneur.
3-2. Maintain constant communication.
This is true in all aspects of your business. Failure to communicate is one of the main reasons businesses fail. Communicate the value of your company to investors and consumers and communicate on company matters with your partners.
Maintain real dialogue with your clients. Communicate through whatever channel is best for them. If you don't keep a dialogue running, they might leave you. If your clients leave you, your company will fail.
Be clear, concise, and compelling with your customers. You don't want to waste their time.
There's no such thing as too much communication with your business partners. Keep them in the loop as much as you can.
There will, of course, be some decisions that you should make unilaterally without communicating. Keep those to an absolute minimum though.
3-3. Keep your company up-to-date with industry trends.
Your business has to keep up with rapid changes in the market in order to maintain a competitive advantage.
If you decide to change directions to keep up with a trend, do so quickly. Long, drawn-out changes will only hurt your business.
See trends as an opportunity. As the saying goes, the trend is your friend.
Organize your company so it can survive rapid changes. Be sure to communicate any changes to your clients and investors.
3-4. Avoid founder dysfunction by treating people with respect.
A frequent cause of business failure is a breakdown from the top. The founder has a scandal or does something to lose the trust of their clients. A classic example of this is Lance Armstrong. Don't make the mistake of thinking your business can make up for your lack of character.
Remember that investors are investing in you, not your company.
Identify areas of weakness and work to correct them. If you have trouble relating to people, work on your communication skills. If you have a tendency for benders or illicit activities, you must stop them before you become an entrepreneur. Investors always do a background check.
Do everything you can to be likable and respectable. Conduct yourself with dignity, and treat your business partners with respect.
3-5. Be sure to lock down a profitable business model.
You don't have to do this right away, but if you want your company to be successful in the long run, you need to have a proven revenue stream. Look at what similar companies did to make a profit and use their business model as a blueprint.
Don't worry if you aren't profitable at the beginning. You will rarely start off making a profit. Spend your money building up an infrastructure and creating a great product, and investors will keep you afloat.
Emphasize to your investors that the profits will come. Make sure you have a realistic plan for how to do that though.
It doesn't matter how good your product is, if you aren't making a profit, your investors will eventually lose faith and your business will fail.
Have a plan from the beginning on how to make your company turn a profit.
3-6. Reinvest profits back in to the company.
Once the profits start rolling in, it can be tempting to take them as a bonus for all your hard work. Resist that temptation. Reinvest your profits to build your company.
Think about the long run. Most businesses fail, so you should do everything you can to make sure that doesn't happen to your business.
To grow your company, invest profits in marketing and sales.
Tips
Manage your time wisely. You don't have time to do everything. Prioritize your tasks and delegate responsibility.[25]
X
Research source
Communication is the key to success.[26]
X
Research source
Invest heavily in yourself. Even if your business fails, you'll be better prepared for you next venture.
Warnings
Don't invest your own money in your business unless you have to. Be prepared to lose money if your company fails.
Eight out of ten small businesses fail. Be prepared for failure.
Being an entrepreneur takes a lot of time and energy, and it could be for nothing in the end.
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If you're struggling and don't like the kind of work your business does, consider changing your company to align with your interests or starting over from scratch.\\n1-2. Take your work seriously by giving your business your full attention and effort.\\nBe determined to succeed. A positive mindset will lead to positive results. Running your own business is more than a full time job. It's your life. You need to be committed or you won't make it.\\nBe prepared to work harder than you've ever worked before. Starting a company from the ground up requires an enormous effort. You need to be committed if you hope to succeed.\\nHave a mindset of working as hard as possible. This will be stressful, but especially at the beginning, there's no time off. You need to work constantly to grow your business. Otherwise, somebody else is working harder than you and they'll succeed rather than you.\\nWork from home. Answer emails and make calls even when you're out of the office.\\nMake sure you take time off too, though. It can be tempting to work 24/7. The trick is to be at 100 percent when you work. Working harder is better than working longer. To be at your best, you need time off. Take a short vacation if you're feeling burned out. Take time to stretch your legs and relax during the work day. Take lunch breaks every day.\\n1-3. Be organized.\\nOrganization is key to being efficient with your time. This doesn't just mean keeping your paperwork and files in order. You have to have systems and routines in place to accomplish daily tasks.\\nTo-do lists are a great way to stay organized.\\nCreate a calendar that has everything on it. This is more efficient than separate calendars for separate activities. Include work, social, and family events into your calendar. Keep it up to date, and check it regularly.\\nBudget your time wisely. You should look to fill the entire day with productive work, punctuated by short breaks. Don't waste time on a fool's errand or a long shot.\\n1-4. Don't be afraid to innovate.\\nTap in to you inner creativity and trust your intuition. A big part of what sets successful businesses apart is that the owners are trail blazers. You can't just follow in everyone else's footsteps. At some point, you have to set yourself apart from the pack.\\nYou need to take risks to be successful. You won't always have all the information or all the resources necessary to make a decision. Go out on a limb and trust that you'll make the right choice.\\nBrainstorm and come up with new solutions. Try your own method of fundraising or your own approach to managing employees. Better yet, come up with a new product entirely.\\n1-5. Be willing to listen and learn.\\nThis is essential, because you don't know everything. Build relationships with industry professionals and take their advice to heart. Work closely with your business partners and employees, and ask them for the input. Even if you don't take it, they'll appreciate the sentiment.\\nGood leaders always ask for help. You need to accept that you don't know everything, and you can be a better leader with the collective knowledge of your friends and coworkers.\\nTry to find a mentor in your industry to help you along the way.\\n1-6. Invest in yourself.\\nAll the best entrepreneurs take time and money to better themselves and become experts in their fields. Buy your market's best books and journals, and read about the market every day. Attend business seminars and constantly educate yourself. Practice the relevant skills and take classes.\\nMoney should be no object when investing in yourself. Those investments will always have the biggest returns in the long run.\\nYou should, however, balance time spend on yourself and time spent on your business. Your business should come first in the short term, but self-investment should focus on the long term.\\n1-7. Be an exemplary leader.\\nProject a positive image and it will pervade your company. You are the standard bearer for your business. How you act determines how people perceive your business. Go out of your way to make sure your image is professional and welcoming.\\nGo out of your way to make a good first impression. This is especially important when meeting with investors or industry leaders.\\nBe encouraging and positive. This positivity will trickle down to the rest of your company.\\nBe accessible. Have an open-door policy, and encourage people to come talk to you about anything and everything.\\nAlways dress for the part. This is essential for your image. Look and act professional at all times.\\nHave a top-notch office if possible. If you work from home, have meetings in a public place like a coffee shop or library instead.\\n1-8. Be prepared to face failure and adversity.\\nEight out of ten small businesses fail. The odds are against you, and you're sure to face adversity. To come out successful, you need tenacity and determination. Don't be afraid to take risks. You need to be relentless and fearless to overcome the challenges ahead.\\nIf you aren't that kind of person, being an entrepreneur may not be for you.\\nFind motivation to keep going. Have a personal mantra, a pump up song, a person in your life to push you, or an inner flame that keeps you going. Whatever it is, you need to be strong and motivated.\\nIf you fail, get up and try again. It may take you a couple tries to get a successful business off the ground. Don't be discouraged if you fail the first time.\\n2. Building Your Business\\n2-1. Self-promote your business.\\nHave a perfect elevator pitch that you can confidently give anyone. This 30-second business pitch should be one of the first things you make. Give the pitch to anybody who will listen. Talk about your business constantly, and always look to share your vision. Your confidence and enthusiasm will spread and hopefully attract investors and strong business allies.\\nBe careful not to go over the top with your self-promotion. This can easily become obnoxious. Be tasteful with your pitch.\\nPractice your elevator pitch in a mirror. Perfect it, and constantly add to it as your business changes. Keep it short and concise, but convey as much information as possible. Make it compelling and interesting. Remember, you're trying to sell your business!\\n2-2. Build a strong business team.\\nChoose your co-founders and employees carefully. As a rule of thumb, hire slowly but fire fast. You should trust your business team entirely, and they should be highly competent and share your passion and vision for the company.\\nFor your first partners, trust is the most important factor.\\nCommunication is key. Maintain open lines of communication with everyone on your team.\\n2-3. Build a loyal customer and client base.\\nThese relationships are among your most important. Keep in contact with them and be as friendly as possible. Always follow up with your clients after a meeting. Make them feel wanted and part of the team, and they'll give you their full support in return.\\nRemember, the customer is always right. Bend over backwards to give them what they want.\\nKeep in touch with your clients. Let them know when you're making a big business decision or if you're changing the direction of the company. Ask for their advice make them feel like they're an integral part of the company.\\nYour first clients are your most important. Treat them like it. Give them the VIP treatment, and they'll stay loyal to you and your company.\\nGet to know your customers. Spend time with them outside of a business capacity. Become their friend, and they'll become loyal customers.\\nRemember that no matter how good your product is, no matter how strong your business team is, and no matter how hard you work, your business is nothing without clients. They always come first.\\n2-4. Attract investors to support your business.\\nEvery person you meet is a potential investor. Build strong relationships with people who sound interested in your business, especially those who are industry professionals and known investors. Network constantly to build your pool of potential investors.\\nProve your business works. Even if it isn't profitable yet, show that your idea is sound. Build off small successes to build support. People are much more likely to invest in an established company than an idea.\\nRemember, investors invest in people. If they trust you and like you, they're much more likely to invest.\\nEstablish a diverse pool of investors. If all your investors are the same kind of person, your company is built on shaky ground. Aim to diversify.\\nInspire confidence and positive thinking in your investors. Your company is sure to face challenges. You want investors who can weather the storm, not investors who jump at the first sign of trouble.\\n2-5. Invest in a professional work space.\\nYou may start your business from home, but eventually you need a real office. Your work space should impress clients and investors, and it should give you a comfortable work environment.\\nAim to be as professional as possible. The more legitimate your business looks, the more likely you are to be taken seriously.\\nOrganize your office. This helps it look professional and it helps your business' efficiency.\\n2-6. Take full advantage of technology.\\nA fledgling business with two employees can compete with a behemoth company by using technology wisely. Make use of the internet and a variety of apps to be as efficient and competitive as possible.\\nDon't be afraid to invest in building a strong technological infrastructure. Buy top-notch computers and industry products to keep an edge on the competition. Just be careful not to blow money on flashy but unnecessary equipment.\\n3. Keeping Your Business Running\\n3-1. Differentiate your product from the market.\\nA cookie-cutter product doesn't make for successful entrepreneurship. You need to have a unique product to make it in the long run. Look at the market and carve out a niche for your business.\\nAsk yourself what the value of your product is. Find a way for it to provide value that no other product can.\\nA small innovation on an existing product is a great way to differentiate yourself.\\nYour product isn't necessarily what has to be distinct. It can be the structure of your company or the way you go about fundraising and networking. Whatever it is, you have to do something different to make it as an entrepreneur.\\n3-2. Maintain constant communication.\\nThis is true in all aspects of your business. Failure to communicate is one of the main reasons businesses fail. Communicate the value of your company to investors and consumers and communicate on company matters with your partners.\\nMaintain real dialogue with your clients. Communicate through whatever channel is best for them. If you don't keep a dialogue running, they might leave you. If your clients leave you, your company will fail.\\nBe clear, concise, and compelling with your customers. You don't want to waste their time.\\nThere's no such thing as too much communication with your business partners. Keep them in the loop as much as you can.\\nThere will, of course, be some decisions that you should make unilaterally without communicating. Keep those to an absolute minimum though.\\n3-3. Keep your company up-to-date with industry trends.\\nYour business has to keep up with rapid changes in the market in order to maintain a competitive advantage.\\nIf you decide to change directions to keep up with a trend, do so quickly. Long, drawn-out changes will only hurt your business.\\nSee trends as an opportunity. As the saying goes, the trend is your friend.\\nOrganize your company so it can survive rapid changes. Be sure to communicate any changes to your clients and investors.\\n3-4. Avoid founder dysfunction by treating people with respect.\\nA frequent cause of business failure is a breakdown from the top. The founder has a scandal or does something to lose the trust of their clients. A classic example of this is Lance Armstrong. Don't make the mistake of thinking your business can make up for your lack of character.\\nRemember that investors are investing in you, not your company.\\nIdentify areas of weakness and work to correct them. If you have trouble relating to people, work on your communication skills. If you have a tendency for benders or illicit activities, you must stop them before you become an entrepreneur. Investors always do a background check.\\nDo everything you can to be likable and respectable. Conduct yourself with dignity, and treat your business partners with respect.\\n3-5. Be sure to lock down a profitable business model.\\nYou don't have to do this right away, but if you want your company to be successful in the long run, you need to have a proven revenue stream. Look at what similar companies did to make a profit and use their business model as a blueprint.\\nDon't worry if you aren't profitable at the beginning. You will rarely start off making a profit. Spend your money building up an infrastructure and creating a great product, and investors will keep you afloat.\\nEmphasize to your investors that the profits will come. Make sure you have a realistic plan for how to do that though.\\nIt doesn't matter how good your product is, if you aren't making a profit, your investors will eventually lose faith and your business will fail.\\nHave a plan from the beginning on how to make your company turn a profit.\\n3-6. Reinvest profits back in to the company.\\nOnce the profits start rolling in, it can be tempting to take them as a bonus for all your hard work. Resist that temptation. Reinvest your profits to build your company.\\nThink about the long run. Most businesses fail, so you should do everything you can to make sure that doesn't happen to your business.\\nTo grow your company, invest profits in marketing and sales.\\nTips\\nManage your time wisely. You don't have time to do everything. Prioritize your tasks and delegate responsibility.[25]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nCommunication is the key to success.[26]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nInvest heavily in yourself. Even if your business fails, you'll be better prepared for you next venture.\\nWarnings\\nDon't invest your own money in your business unless you have to. Be prepared to lose money if your company fails.\\nEight out of ten small businesses fail. Be prepared for failure.\\nBeing an entrepreneur takes a lot of time and energy, and it could be for nothing in the end.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being an entrepreneur is exciting and potentially highly profitable, but you also have to be willing to take huge risks and learn from your mistakes. You're not in this alone, though. Our how-to guide will walk you through everything from the qualities you need to be an entrepreneur through the tips you need to succeed once you get started!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having the Right Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Love what you do.\", \"描述\": \"Passion is the single most important ingredient for a successful business. If you don't love what you do, entrepreneurship will be a constant grind that ends in defeat. As the owner of your own business, you have to go all in. You can't do that unless you love your company.\\nMake a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Have your business play to your strengths. For instance, if you specialize in cooking and customer service, start a restaurant! If you're more mathematically oriented, go into accounting or engineering. If you're a people person, start your own party planning business!\\nMake a list of your passions. If you love baseball, running, watching sports, and going to the gym, consider starting a personal training business.\\nIf you are already an entrepreneur, ask yourself if you love what you do. Be honest with yourself. If you truly do love your work, your determination will be reaffirmed. 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Answer emails and make calls even when you're out of the office.\\nMake sure you take time off too, though. It can be tempting to work 24/7. The trick is to be at 100 percent when you work. Working harder is better than working longer. To be at your best, you need time off. Take a short vacation if you're feeling burned out. Take time to stretch your legs and relax during the work day. Take lunch breaks every day.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be organized.\", \"描述\": \"Organization is key to being efficient with your time. This doesn't just mean keeping your paperwork and files in order. You have to have systems and routines in place to accomplish daily tasks.\\nTo-do lists are a great way to stay organized.\\nCreate a calendar that has everything on it. This is more efficient than separate calendars for separate activities. Include work, social, and family events into your calendar. Keep it up to date, and check it regularly.\\nBudget your time wisely. 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Let them know when you're making a big business decision or if you're changing the direction of the company. Ask for their advice make them feel like they're an integral part of the company.\\nYour first clients are your most important. Treat them like it. Give them the VIP treatment, and they'll stay loyal to you and your company.\\nGet to know your customers. Spend time with them outside of a business capacity. Become their friend, and they'll become loyal customers.\\nRemember that no matter how good your product is, no matter how strong your business team is, and no matter how hard you work, your business is nothing without clients. They always come first.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Attract investors to support your business.\", \"描述\": \"Every person you meet is a potential investor. Build strong relationships with people who sound interested in your business, especially those who are industry professionals and known investors. Network constantly to build your pool of potential investors.\\nProve your business works. Even if it isn't profitable yet, show that your idea is sound. Build off small successes to build support. People are much more likely to invest in an established company than an idea.\\nRemember, investors invest in people. If they trust you and like you, they're much more likely to invest.\\nEstablish a diverse pool of investors. If all your investors are the same kind of person, your company is built on shaky ground. Aim to diversify.\\nInspire confidence and positive thinking in your investors. Your company is sure to face challenges. You want investors who can weather the storm, not investors who jump at the first sign of trouble.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Invest in a professional work space.\", \"描述\": \"You may start your business from home, but eventually you need a real office. Your work space should impress clients and investors, and it should give you a comfortable work environment.\\nAim to be as professional as possible. The more legitimate your business looks, the more likely you are to be taken seriously.\\nOrganize your office. This helps it look professional and it helps your business' efficiency.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take full advantage of technology.\", \"描述\": \"A fledgling business with two employees can compete with a behemoth company by using technology wisely. Make use of the internet and a variety of apps to be as efficient and competitive as possible.\\nDon't be afraid to invest in building a strong technological infrastructure. Buy top-notch computers and industry products to keep an edge on the competition. Just be careful not to blow money on flashy but unnecessary equipment.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keeping Your Business Running\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Differentiate your product from the market.\", \"描述\": \"A cookie-cutter product doesn't make for successful entrepreneurship. You need to have a unique product to make it in the long run. Look at the market and carve out a niche for your business.\\nAsk yourself what the value of your product is. Find a way for it to provide value that no other product can.\\nA small innovation on an existing product is a great way to differentiate yourself.\\nYour product isn't necessarily what has to be distinct. It can be the structure of your company or the way you go about fundraising and networking. Whatever it is, you have to do something different to make it as an entrepreneur.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain constant communication.\", \"描述\": \"This is true in all aspects of your business. Failure to communicate is one of the main reasons businesses fail. Communicate the value of your company to investors and consumers and communicate on company matters with your partners.\\nMaintain real dialogue with your clients. Communicate through whatever channel is best for them. If you don't keep a dialogue running, they might leave you. If your clients leave you, your company will fail.\\nBe clear, concise, and compelling with your customers. You don't want to waste their time.\\nThere's no such thing as too much communication with your business partners. Keep them in the loop as much as you can.\\nThere will, of course, be some decisions that you should make unilaterally without communicating. Keep those to an absolute minimum though.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your company up-to-date with industry trends.\", \"描述\": \"Your business has to keep up with rapid changes in the market in order to maintain a competitive advantage.\\nIf you decide to change directions to keep up with a trend, do so quickly. Long, drawn-out changes will only hurt your business.\\nSee trends as an opportunity. As the saying goes, the trend is your friend.\\nOrganize your company so it can survive rapid changes. Be sure to communicate any changes to your clients and investors.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Avoid founder dysfunction by treating people with respect.\", \"描述\": \"A frequent cause of business failure is a breakdown from the top. The founder has a scandal or does something to lose the trust of their clients. A classic example of this is Lance Armstrong. Don't make the mistake of thinking your business can make up for your lack of character.\\nRemember that investors are investing in you, not your company.\\nIdentify areas of weakness and work to correct them. If you have trouble relating to people, work on your communication skills. If you have a tendency for benders or illicit activities, you must stop them before you become an entrepreneur. Investors always do a background check.\\nDo everything you can to be likable and respectable. Conduct yourself with dignity, and treat your business partners with respect.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be sure to lock down a profitable business model.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to do this right away, but if you want your company to be successful in the long run, you need to have a proven revenue stream. Look at what similar companies did to make a profit and use their business model as a blueprint.\\nDon't worry if you aren't profitable at the beginning. You will rarely start off making a profit. Spend your money building up an infrastructure and creating a great product, and investors will keep you afloat.\\nEmphasize to your investors that the profits will come. Make sure you have a realistic plan for how to do that though.\\nIt doesn't matter how good your product is, if you aren't making a profit, your investors will eventually lose faith and your business will fail.\\nHave a plan from the beginning on how to make your company turn a profit.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Reinvest profits back in to the company.\", \"描述\": \"Once the profits start rolling in, it can be tempting to take them as a bonus for all your hard work. Resist that temptation. Reinvest your profits to build your company.\\nThink about the long run. Most businesses fail, so you should do everything you can to make sure that doesn't happen to your business.\\nTo grow your company, invest profits in marketing and sales.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Manage your time wisely. You don't have time to do everything. 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How to Be a Successful Gambler
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1. Refining Your Play Style
1-1. Narrow down your specialty.
Rather than dividing your attention between poker, craps, roulette, football, and horse racing, pick one or two outlets and devote yourself to learning everything you can about them. If you’re stretched too thin, it will be harder to give each game the attention it deserves.
There are hundreds of different games and sports to bet on, each with its own unique set of rules.
1-2. Devise a logical system.
Once you’ve decided on your forté, you can begin figuring out what you need to do in order to win consistently. Your personal system might involve strategies like betting low, only taking certain odds, or quitting after a predetermined number of wins. For the most part, this will be a matter of understanding the odds and taking them into account when making a wager.
Games like blackjack and roulette, for instance, are all about making predictions based on probability. Games like poker, on the other hand, allow players to use deception and cunning to gain the advantage.
1-3. Keep a record of your wins and losses.
For every bet you place or hand you play, write down the outcome. This will allow you to track your progress over time and determine what’s working and what isn’t. Eventually, you’ll pick up on trends that can serve as valuable clues for how to polish your game.
Make your entries detailed—include the game, date, odds, and stakes, along with your thoughts on how the game went and what you could do differently next time.
A meticulous gambling journal can also double as a ledger and help you calculate your winnings.
1-4. Play as much as possible to improve your skills.
Practice your game of choice by setting up mock runs. Try to predict the outcome of a race or sporting event without putting any actual money on it, or sit in on a few low-stakes hands of cards with friends. Taking the monetary aspect out of the equation will allow you to gain valuable experience in a risk-free environment.
Online games can be a good way to stay sharp when you're unable to make it to the casino. Just make sure there's not a real buy-in required to play.
For a more realistic simulation, try betting with hypothetical money. That way, you can keep score to see how much you would have won or loss in a real game.
2. Money Management Tips
2-1. Start with a sizable bankroll.
Before you buy your way into a game, you should have enough money to play without second guessing every move you make. When your funds are small, every loss will hurt, and you’ll begin to make decisions out of fear. Having a bit of a cushion will allow you to keep your mind on the game and not on your shrinking stack of chips.
For the sake of your wallet, it’s a good idea to keep your bankroll small until you’ve built up enough experience to have a shot at higher stakes games.
In you’re a talented enough player, you may be able to find someone else to finance you in exchange for a portion of your winnings.
2-2. Establish a win goal.
Come up with a definite, realistic amount that you hope to win. Define your win goal in clear terms. Tell yourself, “My objective is to win at least $500 in five hands,” or “I want to end the day up $1,200.” When you reach your target, walk away. By playing it safe and building your winnings patiently, you’ll be able to maintain control over the game.
Don’t get greedy. A session should only last until you’ve reached either your win goal or lost your maximum bet.
Keep in mind that the probability of losing goes up the longer you play.
2-3. Set a loss limit.
A firm loss limit will prevent you from betting more than you can afford. Your loss limit is the amount of money you can safely afford to lose on a particular day, hand, or table. Once you’ve lost this amount, the game is over—no exceptions.
Name a loss limit somewhere between 1-5% of your total bankroll. This will give you plenty of opportunities to win in small increments and avenge your losses without putting yourself in unnecessary danger.
As long as you stick to your loss limit, you’ll never have to worry about going broke.
2-4. Open a separate account exclusively for gambling.
The ability to control, preserve, and build the money you start out with is essential for finding success as a gambler. With a dedicated account, you'll be able to play without worrying about dipping into your savings. This will allow you to keep your gambling pursuits and your everyday life separate.
Rather than being tempted by the possibility of a big payout, focus on minimizing your losses. The money will then come naturally as you continue to win.
Never take money out of your personal account to finance your gambling stakes.
2-5. Draw up a gambling budget.
Set aside a specific amount each month the way you would for your rent, groceries and other expenses. Start with a conservative figure until you become confident in your ability to win consistently, at which point you can begin adding to it by a little each go-around. Remember, responsibilities come first.
Put your winnings toward bills and other necessities, or spend them on a night out on the town.
3. Winning Habits
3-1. Stay focused.
If you want to win, you have to keep your wits about you. While you’re playing, imagine that nothing else in the world exists. Stressing out about work or going over your plans for the weekend could end up costing you.
Eliminate as many outside distractions as possible. Silence your cell phone, and try to tune out the commotion going on around you.
Take breaks frequently. This will give you a chance to clear your head so you can come back strong.
3-2. Quit while you’re ahead.
Any gambler worth their salt will tell you that the secret to success is recognizing when it’s time to quit. After winning big two or three times, you can be sure that your fortunes are about to shift. That’s when you should cash in your chips and call it a day.
The longer you keep playing, the more the odds begin to favor the house.
Resist the temptation to “chase your losses.” Otherwise, you’re only setting yourself up to lose even more.
3-3. Be willing to take a risk.
While playing it safe is usually the wisest course, sometimes you have to take a leap of faith in order to come out on top. This could mean wagering your entire loss limit on 5/1 odds, or refusing to fold a mediocre hand when the pot has grown to an unprecedented size. If you’ve weighed all the possible outcomes carefully, there’s a good chance that your confidence will be rewarded.
The best time to take risks is when you’re down by a little but stand to win a lot.
Even when laying it all on the line, your actions should be calculated, not rash. Never rush into a losing situation out of desperation.
3-4. Learn to deal with losing.
Every gambler dreams of a big payout, but the reality is that losses are inevitable. Sometimes things just won’t go your way. The sooner you can accept that fact, the less it will affect your confidence.
The key is to view losses not as setbacks, but as opportunities to learn from your mistakes or start over with more favorable odds.
Tips
Start reading books on gambling theory and strategy to brush up on your understanding of how games are won.
Don’t be discouraged if you don’t make a fortune right away. Like anything else, gambling is a skill that can be honed with enough practice.
Leave your ego out of it. Feeling like you’ve got something to prove will only get you into trouble.
Warnings
Never gamble while intoxicated. Alcohol impairs your judgment and ability to make split-second decisions, which could end up costing you big.
Gambling can easily go from an exciting pastime to a compulsive habit. If you think you might be developing a gambling addiction, seek professional counseling.
Be wary of “double-or-nothing” stakes. While you could end up multiplying your winnings, you’re more likely to lose a big portion of your bankroll and walk away with nothing to show for your efforts.
Never chase losses. You might end up spending more than you could win.
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Games like poker, on the other hand, allow players to use deception and cunning to gain the advantage.\\n1-3. Keep a record of your wins and losses.\\nFor every bet you place or hand you play, write down the outcome. This will allow you to track your progress over time and determine what’s working and what isn’t. Eventually, you’ll pick up on trends that can serve as valuable clues for how to polish your game.\\nMake your entries detailed—include the game, date, odds, and stakes, along with your thoughts on how the game went and what you could do differently next time.\\nA meticulous gambling journal can also double as a ledger and help you calculate your winnings.\\n1-4. Play as much as possible to improve your skills.\\nPractice your game of choice by setting up mock runs. Try to predict the outcome of a race or sporting event without putting any actual money on it, or sit in on a few low-stakes hands of cards with friends. Taking the monetary aspect out of the equation will allow you to gain valuable experience in a risk-free environment.\\nOnline games can be a good way to stay sharp when you're unable to make it to the casino. Just make sure there's not a real buy-in required to play.\\nFor a more realistic simulation, try betting with hypothetical money. That way, you can keep score to see how much you would have won or loss in a real game.\\n2. Money Management Tips\\n2-1. Start with a sizable bankroll.\\nBefore you buy your way into a game, you should have enough money to play without second guessing every move you make. When your funds are small, every loss will hurt, and you’ll begin to make decisions out of fear. Having a bit of a cushion will allow you to keep your mind on the game and not on your shrinking stack of chips.\\nFor the sake of your wallet, it’s a good idea to keep your bankroll small until you’ve built up enough experience to have a shot at higher stakes games.\\nIn you’re a talented enough player, you may be able to find someone else to finance you in exchange for a portion of your winnings.\\n2-2. Establish a win goal.\\nCome up with a definite, realistic amount that you hope to win. Define your win goal in clear terms. Tell yourself, “My objective is to win at least $500 in five hands,” or “I want to end the day up $1,200.” When you reach your target, walk away. By playing it safe and building your winnings patiently, you’ll be able to maintain control over the game. \\nDon’t get greedy. A session should only last until you’ve reached either your win goal or lost your maximum bet.\\nKeep in mind that the probability of losing goes up the longer you play.\\n2-3. Set a loss limit.\\nA firm loss limit will prevent you from betting more than you can afford. Your loss limit is the amount of money you can safely afford to lose on a particular day, hand, or table. Once you’ve lost this amount, the game is over—no exceptions.\\nName a loss limit somewhere between 1-5% of your total bankroll. This will give you plenty of opportunities to win in small increments and avenge your losses without putting yourself in unnecessary danger.\\nAs long as you stick to your loss limit, you’ll never have to worry about going broke.\\n2-4. Open a separate account exclusively for gambling.\\nThe ability to control, preserve, and build the money you start out with is essential for finding success as a gambler. With a dedicated account, you'll be able to play without worrying about dipping into your savings. This will allow you to keep your gambling pursuits and your everyday life separate.\\nRather than being tempted by the possibility of a big payout, focus on minimizing your losses. The money will then come naturally as you continue to win.\\nNever take money out of your personal account to finance your gambling stakes.\\n2-5. Draw up a gambling budget.\\nSet aside a specific amount each month the way you would for your rent, groceries and other expenses. Start with a conservative figure until you become confident in your ability to win consistently, at which point you can begin adding to it by a little each go-around. Remember, responsibilities come first. \\nPut your winnings toward bills and other necessities, or spend them on a night out on the town.\\n3. Winning Habits\\n3-1. Stay focused.\\nIf you want to win, you have to keep your wits about you. While you’re playing, imagine that nothing else in the world exists. Stressing out about work or going over your plans for the weekend could end up costing you.\\nEliminate as many outside distractions as possible. Silence your cell phone, and try to tune out the commotion going on around you.\\nTake breaks frequently. This will give you a chance to clear your head so you can come back strong.\\n3-2. Quit while you’re ahead.\\nAny gambler worth their salt will tell you that the secret to success is recognizing when it’s time to quit. After winning big two or three times, you can be sure that your fortunes are about to shift. That’s when you should cash in your chips and call it a day.\\nThe longer you keep playing, the more the odds begin to favor the house.\\nResist the temptation to “chase your losses.” Otherwise, you’re only setting yourself up to lose even more.\\n3-3. Be willing to take a risk.\\nWhile playing it safe is usually the wisest course, sometimes you have to take a leap of faith in order to come out on top. This could mean wagering your entire loss limit on 5/1 odds, or refusing to fold a mediocre hand when the pot has grown to an unprecedented size. If you’ve weighed all the possible outcomes carefully, there’s a good chance that your confidence will be rewarded.\\nThe best time to take risks is when you’re down by a little but stand to win a lot.\\nEven when laying it all on the line, your actions should be calculated, not rash. Never rush into a losing situation out of desperation.\\n3-4. Learn to deal with losing.\\nEvery gambler dreams of a big payout, but the reality is that losses are inevitable. Sometimes things just won’t go your way. The sooner you can accept that fact, the less it will affect your confidence.\\nThe key is to view losses not as setbacks, but as opportunities to learn from your mistakes or start over with more favorable odds.\\nTips\\nStart reading books on gambling theory and strategy to brush up on your understanding of how games are won.\\nDon’t be discouraged if you don’t make a fortune right away. Like anything else, gambling is a skill that can be honed with enough practice.\\nLeave your ego out of it. Feeling like you’ve got something to prove will only get you into trouble.\\nWarnings\\nNever gamble while intoxicated. Alcohol impairs your judgment and ability to make split-second decisions, which could end up costing you big.\\nGambling can easily go from an exciting pastime to a compulsive habit. If you think you might be developing a gambling addiction, seek professional counseling.\\nBe wary of “double-or-nothing” stakes. While you could end up multiplying your winnings, you’re more likely to lose a big portion of your bankroll and walk away with nothing to show for your efforts.\\nNever chase losses. You might end up spending more than you could win.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"For some people, winning big at the casino is a daydream. For others, it’s just a normal night at work. The thing that separates the pros from the amateurs is the ability to weigh many different variables at once, and the discipline to avoid taking unnecessary risks. Once you’ve chosen your preferred game and set clear limits on the amount you stand to win or lose, you’ll be able to come up with a strategy that maximizes your chances of coming out ahead.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Refining Your Play Style\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Narrow down your specialty.\", \"描述\": \"Rather than dividing your attention between poker, craps, roulette, football, and horse racing, pick one or two outlets and devote yourself to learning everything you can about them. If you’re stretched too thin, it will be harder to give each game the attention it deserves.\\nThere are hundreds of different games and sports to bet on, each with its own unique set of rules.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Devise a logical system.\", \"描述\": \"Once you’ve decided on your forté, you can begin figuring out what you need to do in order to win consistently. 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1. Steps
1-1. Make good use of your agenda.
They give it to you for a reason. Don't only write homework, but make sure to write down other stuff you'll need to remember (like games, practices, study sessions, etc.). In order to be a successful high school student, you need to have the ability to stay on top of all your activities. Use your agenda to stay organized and follow through with your plans.
Use your agenda to set time limits. If you're spending more than an hour on that math assignment, you're clearly not getting it, and are only hurting yourself. Stop, put it aside, move on to other homework. Come back to it later and if you still don't get it, explain what happened to your teacher. Chances are, they'll be happy to help and not dock your grade. Just make sure you've made an attempt to do the work.
1-2. Stay organized.
Make sure you have all the supplies you need. It may help to have one 3-ring binder with pockets for each class (maybe only a folder for an elective class) with loose-leaf paper and dividers if they help. If your teacher likes to lecture, have a spiral or composition notebook for notes and jot down pictures and thoughts to help you remember- the pages are less likely to rip out than loose-leaf. Keep papers in chronological order- they'll be easier to find later when studying.
If your binder starts to get full, transfer old papers into another binder to keep at home. This way you won't have to lug them around, but they will be there when studying for midterms and finals.
1-3. Remember that school is important.
You don't have to be the nerd who holes himself/herself up in his/her bedroom Friday night or reads gigantic books in the corner of the room to be considered someone who takes school seriously. The truth is, school is important. You need it to have a good resume, and you need it to get into a good college and later get a good career that will support you for the rest of your life, but even though you decide not to go to college, school does help a lot socially and intellectually.
It's important to have fun and have lots of extracurricular activities, but school should always be your number one priority. That being said, never take homework, tests, and quizzes lightly! Note that extracurricular activities are also good with college resumes as well.
1-4. Enjoy school
Balance is the key. You can be someone who makes straight A's in all advanced classes, but if you have zero extracurricular activities in your application for college, you will have a much more difficult time getting accepted. It's just not attractive either way.
Keep on top of your schoolwork but make sure you let your hair down a little sometimes to join a few clubs consistently throughout your high school years. You won't regret it.
1-5. Get involved at your school.
You don't have to wear spirit colors everyday or be a cheerleader to do this. All you need to do is to stay on top of things; current events, who won the basketball game last Friday, attending school functions like dances and variety shows, keeping up with plans your student council has for the school and those kinds of activities.
Just like keeping up with current events and politics is important, so is being active at your campus. Not only will it bond you with other people, but it's always good to have a collective unity over a student body. It shows that you care about the learning environment that you're in that you support all the organizations at your school.
1-6. Take part in a sport.
It's easy to forget to stay in shape when the workload starts piling up, so joining a team at your school makes it one less worry in your schedule; it's already incorporated in your daily routine. If you're going for all three seasons, that's great, but make sure you're being realistic with your time.
If you're taking all honors classes, for example, and you know you're going to have a heck of a lot of homework, you may want to consider taking a season off. Try your hardest at both your sport and your schoolwork and you should be more than great- you're healthy and on top of your schoolwork.
1-7. Explore hobby interests and find a club that encourages your interests.
Not being an athlete is no excuse for not having something to do after school. If you're into art, join the art club. Music, and join the orchestra or a band. Join something and be sure to stick with it for a long time; it looks good on college applications.
If you're not into any of your school's clubs, ask your principal to start a new one. Most likely he/she will say yes and it's just one quick and easy process into a initiating a new activity at your school.
1-8. Think ahead about university.
As soon as you begin sophomore year, start visiting universities. You don't need to decide anything yet, but it will help you decide if you want a large school or small (urban, rural, or suburban, if a state school is an acceptable choice, and so on).
Visit your guidance counselor regularly; they're going to have to write a letter of recommendation so the better they know you, the better a letter you'll get. They'll also be able to help recommend universities and find scholarships.
1-9. Care about your Grade Point Average.
Your GPA is as important to you as your parents credit score is to them. A low credit score prevents your parent from being able to get a loan, rent an apartment, get a credit card, get a cell phone and on and on. Your parents credit score is their lifeline. It opens doors and closes doors.
Your GPA is your lifeline! With a GPA many options are available after graduation. You will have many choices regarding which colleges you can attend. A low GPA limits your options. There is a program out there for everyone but having a choice makes the walk across the stage a sweet victory!
1-10. Make friends.
There's too much going on to worry about cliques, who's friends with whom, who the popular people are. The best thing to do is to just be friendly to and with everyone.
Be confident and be yourself. Get into the habit of saying "hi" to people and not being afraid to talk to new classmates. The more comfortable you become with a more diverse group of people, the more people will like you and the more you will accustom yourself to the art of versatility later in life.
1-11. Don't compare yourself with others.
It cannot be stressed enough that there's already too much on your plate to worry about trivial stuff like this. High school is only a competition with yourself. Everyday you should only be trying to get better, not worrying about how the girl sitting in front of you has nicer clothes, is getting better grades, has a hotter boyfriend, etc. Ten years from now, this won't matter.
Focus on yourself. Focus on what you can do to make yourself better. Then, most importantly, go for it!
1-12. Don't procrastinate
This is probably the #1 curse of all high school students. It's hard and it's okay if you do it occasionally, however, when big tests, exams, and essays come, be prepared. You'll only be sorry in the end, especially in college with jumbo papers and insane amounts of reading will become the norm.
It's best to accustom yourself to getting things done early and out of the way rather than waiting until the very last minute. Make a plan and a list of homework. Keep it somewhere you can see it and won't forget it. Don't forget due dates!
1-13. Eat breakfast and lunch.
It sounds stupid, but you'd be surprised how many people skip breakfast or lunch. Not only is this unhealthy, it can also take a toll on your energy levels. If you don't have time to eat breakfast at home, take some to the bus stop or buy some at your cafeteria before the first period.
It's important to jump start your metabolism the right way so it's running smoothly throughout the whole day. Lunch is important to prevent your stomach from grumbling during your last periods. A full stomach keeps you focused. Skipping meals actually only slows down your metabolism and makes you gain more weight, not less.
1-14. Stay healthy both inside and outside of school.
Don't fall for the vending machine trap. Most of the food in there is unhealthy and disgusting. Go for the soy chips or anything whole grain if the vending machine is all you have the moment.
Don't fall for the Vitamin Water trap either; it's loaded with sugar. Only if you're a competitive athlete and will be burning off those 400+ calories pretty soon should you pay for that jumbo pack of gummy bears or something.
At home, take an after school snack to keep your belly full until dinner time--invest in fruits, nuts, and healthy chips. Loading on junk food during the day is not only unhealthy but will only give you a temporary "energy" for homework or that 10-page paper you have to write that night.
1-15. Get enough sleep.
This is easier said than done, but sleep has so many benefits. If every high school kid got around eight to nine hours of sleep per night, everyone would be a much happier camper. Try to get things done and out of the way so that you get your much needed shuteye. Not only will you be more alert during the day, but it helps improve your complexion and your figure, and you'll be much more likely to pay attention in your boring classes and, as a result, ace them. Of course, this is not always possible, especially in the dreaded junior year. If you're taking 3+ AP classes and are in all those clubs and sports, there are chances you will be up until 1 AM doing homework - if that happens, skip clubs/sports the next day and nap! You are no good to anyone when you are severely sleep deprived. Naps are wonderful things.
Also, caffeine can help you keep focused - but there are potential side effects, and addiction can hurt you in the short and long term. Try to use the stimulant in moderate amounts and only when absolutely necessary e.g. an important test.
1-16. Be a trendsetter.
The only trend you should follow is yourself. This doesn't mean you should then go to school the next day wearing pantyhose on your head, or whatever. You should have your own style and your own identity, so that you make your mark in high school the right way and not as a nondescript UGG-wearing replica of every other girl (or guy) out there.
Be original, and don't be afraid to be yourself. It's a cliché, but it's essential. People are more likely to remember you and want to be friends with you if you are intriguing and different.
1-17. Try to go out during the weekends.
You endured five agonizing days of school, and the time has come to cut yourself some slack. During the weekend, if you have friends to go with, go somewhere fun and have a blast. Even if you don't have many friends, spend the weekend relaxing and doing what you like to do.
Let yourself loose and energize yourself so when Monday comes, you're all partied out and ready to focus again. But remember that school is the top priority, so don't do this if you have a ton of homework this weekend.
1-18. Never give up.
Again, cliché, but important. High school is all about making a fool of yourself but picking yourself back up, trying again, and making friends along the way. Learn to laugh at yourself when you make a mistake. Don't beat yourself up over the occasional C or D (heaven forbid an F) on a test or quiz. Tell yourself to study harder and strive for an A the next time. If your team lost a game, tell yourself to push yourself a little harder at the next practice.
Learning this will soon apply outside of school and into other parts of your fantastic life. Learn from your mistakes and you will go a long way. Just remember, .
Tips
Stay away from the drama and gossip. You have far too much more important stuff in your agenda to worry about that.
Be nice to the teachers. You don't want them hating you!
When you feel like giving up, just think of what college you want to get into. Think about an Ivy Leagues school, perhaps Harvard, Yale, Princeton, etc. If you have this mindset, you will go a long way!
Warnings
Don't overwork yourself, if you do then your grades will begin to slip and the opposite of what you want to happen will happen.
Don't worry about bullies, they aren't cool. They try to be, but they're not! You have more important priorities in your life to worry about, and it is not constructive to surround yourself with negative people. Try to avoid bullies as best as you can, and surround yourself with the positive people in your life, like your friends, to scare bullies away.
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It may help to have one 3-ring binder with pockets for each class (maybe only a folder for an elective class) with loose-leaf paper and dividers if they help. If your teacher likes to lecture, have a spiral or composition notebook for notes and jot down pictures and thoughts to help you remember- the pages are less likely to rip out than loose-leaf. Keep papers in chronological order- they'll be easier to find later when studying.\\nIf your binder starts to get full, transfer old papers into another binder to keep at home. This way you won't have to lug them around, but they will be there when studying for midterms and finals.\\n1-3. Remember that school is important.\\nYou don't have to be the nerd who holes himself/herself up in his/her bedroom Friday night or reads gigantic books in the corner of the room to be considered someone who takes school seriously. The truth is, school is important. You need it to have a good resume, and you need it to get into a good college and later get a good career that will support you for the rest of your life, but even though you decide not to go to college, school does help a lot socially and intellectually.\\nIt's important to have fun and have lots of extracurricular activities, but school should always be your number one priority. That being said, never take homework, tests, and quizzes lightly! Note that extracurricular activities are also good with college resumes as well.\\n1-4. Enjoy school\\nBalance is the key. You can be someone who makes straight A's in all advanced classes, but if you have zero extracurricular activities in your application for college, you will have a much more difficult time getting accepted. It's just not attractive either way.\\nKeep on top of your schoolwork but make sure you let your hair down a little sometimes to join a few clubs consistently throughout your high school years. You won't regret it.\\n1-5. Get involved at your school.\\nYou don't have to wear spirit colors everyday or be a cheerleader to do this. All you need to do is to stay on top of things; current events, who won the basketball game last Friday, attending school functions like dances and variety shows, keeping up with plans your student council has for the school and those kinds of activities.\\nJust like keeping up with current events and politics is important, so is being active at your campus. Not only will it bond you with other people, but it's always good to have a collective unity over a student body. It shows that you care about the learning environment that you're in that you support all the organizations at your school.\\n1-6. Take part in a sport.\\nIt's easy to forget to stay in shape when the workload starts piling up, so joining a team at your school makes it one less worry in your schedule; it's already incorporated in your daily routine. If you're going for all three seasons, that's great, but make sure you're being realistic with your time.\\nIf you're taking all honors classes, for example, and you know you're going to have a heck of a lot of homework, you may want to consider taking a season off. Try your hardest at both your sport and your schoolwork and you should be more than great- you're healthy and on top of your schoolwork.\\n1-7. Explore hobby interests and find a club that encourages your interests.\\nNot being an athlete is no excuse for not having something to do after school. If you're into art, join the art club. Music, and join the orchestra or a band. Join something and be sure to stick with it for a long time; it looks good on college applications.\\nIf you're not into any of your school's clubs, ask your principal to start a new one. Most likely he/she will say yes and it's just one quick and easy process into a initiating a new activity at your school.\\n1-8. Think ahead about university.\\nAs soon as you begin sophomore year, start visiting universities. You don't need to decide anything yet, but it will help you decide if you want a large school or small (urban, rural, or suburban, if a state school is an acceptable choice, and so on).\\nVisit your guidance counselor regularly; they're going to have to write a letter of recommendation so the better they know you, the better a letter you'll get. They'll also be able to help recommend universities and find scholarships.\\n1-9. Care about your Grade Point Average.\\nYour GPA is as important to you as your parents credit score is to them. A low credit score prevents your parent from being able to get a loan, rent an apartment, get a credit card, get a cell phone and on and on. Your parents credit score is their lifeline. It opens doors and closes doors.\\nYour GPA is your lifeline! With a GPA many options are available after graduation. You will have many choices regarding which colleges you can attend. A low GPA limits your options. There is a program out there for everyone but having a choice makes the walk across the stage a sweet victory!\\n1-10. Make friends.\\nThere's too much going on to worry about cliques, who's friends with whom, who the popular people are. The best thing to do is to just be friendly to and with everyone.\\nBe confident and be yourself. Get into the habit of saying \\\"hi\\\" to people and not being afraid to talk to new classmates. The more comfortable you become with a more diverse group of people, the more people will like you and the more you will accustom yourself to the art of versatility later in life.\\n1-11. Don't compare yourself with others.\\nIt cannot be stressed enough that there's already too much on your plate to worry about trivial stuff like this. High school is only a competition with yourself. Everyday you should only be trying to get better, not worrying about how the girl sitting in front of you has nicer clothes, is getting better grades, has a hotter boyfriend, etc. Ten years from now, this won't matter.\\nFocus on yourself. Focus on what you can do to make yourself better. Then, most importantly, go for it!\\n1-12. Don't procrastinate\\nThis is probably the #1 curse of all high school students. It's hard and it's okay if you do it occasionally, however, when big tests, exams, and essays come, be prepared. You'll only be sorry in the end, especially in college with jumbo papers and insane amounts of reading will become the norm.\\nIt's best to accustom yourself to getting things done early and out of the way rather than waiting until the very last minute. Make a plan and a list of homework. Keep it somewhere you can see it and won't forget it. Don't forget due dates!\\n1-13. Eat breakfast and lunch.\\nIt sounds stupid, but you'd be surprised how many people skip breakfast or lunch. Not only is this unhealthy, it can also take a toll on your energy levels. If you don't have time to eat breakfast at home, take some to the bus stop or buy some at your cafeteria before the first period.\\nIt's important to jump start your metabolism the right way so it's running smoothly throughout the whole day. Lunch is important to prevent your stomach from grumbling during your last periods. A full stomach keeps you focused. Skipping meals actually only slows down your metabolism and makes you gain more weight, not less.\\n1-14. Stay healthy both inside and outside of school.\\nDon't fall for the vending machine trap. Most of the food in there is unhealthy and disgusting. Go for the soy chips or anything whole grain if the vending machine is all you have the moment.\\nDon't fall for the Vitamin Water trap either; it's loaded with sugar. Only if you're a competitive athlete and will be burning off those 400+ calories pretty soon should you pay for that jumbo pack of gummy bears or something.\\nAt home, take an after school snack to keep your belly full until dinner time--invest in fruits, nuts, and healthy chips. Loading on junk food during the day is not only unhealthy but will only give you a temporary \\\"energy\\\" for homework or that 10-page paper you have to write that night.\\n1-15. Get enough sleep.\\nThis is easier said than done, but sleep has so many benefits. If every high school kid got around eight to nine hours of sleep per night, everyone would be a much happier camper. Try to get things done and out of the way so that you get your much needed shuteye. Not only will you be more alert during the day, but it helps improve your complexion and your figure, and you'll be much more likely to pay attention in your boring classes and, as a result, ace them. Of course, this is not always possible, especially in the dreaded junior year. If you're taking 3+ AP classes and are in all those clubs and sports, there are chances you will be up until 1 AM doing homework - if that happens, skip clubs/sports the next day and nap! You are no good to anyone when you are severely sleep deprived. Naps are wonderful things.\\nAlso, caffeine can help you keep focused - but there are potential side effects, and addiction can hurt you in the short and long term. Try to use the stimulant in moderate amounts and only when absolutely necessary e.g. an important test.\\n1-16. Be a trendsetter.\\nThe only trend you should follow is yourself. This doesn't mean you should then go to school the next day wearing pantyhose on your head, or whatever. You should have your own style and your own identity, so that you make your mark in high school the right way and not as a nondescript UGG-wearing replica of every other girl (or guy) out there.\\nBe original, and don't be afraid to be yourself. It's a cliché, but it's essential. People are more likely to remember you and want to be friends with you if you are intriguing and different.\\n1-17. Try to go out during the weekends.\\nYou endured five agonizing days of school, and the time has come to cut yourself some slack. During the weekend, if you have friends to go with, go somewhere fun and have a blast. Even if you don't have many friends, spend the weekend relaxing and doing what you like to do.\\nLet yourself loose and energize yourself so when Monday comes, you're all partied out and ready to focus again. But remember that school is the top priority, so don't do this if you have a ton of homework this weekend.\\n1-18. Never give up.\\nAgain, cliché, but important. High school is all about making a fool of yourself but picking yourself back up, trying again, and making friends along the way. Learn to laugh at yourself when you make a mistake. Don't beat yourself up over the occasional C or D (heaven forbid an F) on a test or quiz. Tell yourself to study harder and strive for an A the next time. If your team lost a game, tell yourself to push yourself a little harder at the next practice.\\nLearning this will soon apply outside of school and into other parts of your fantastic life. Learn from your mistakes and you will go a long way. Just remember, .\\nTips\\nStay away from the drama and gossip. You have far too much more important stuff in your agenda to worry about that.\\nBe nice to the teachers. You don't want them hating you!\\nWhen you feel like giving up, just think of what college you want to get into. Think about an Ivy Leagues school, perhaps Harvard, Yale, Princeton, etc. If you have this mindset, you will go a long way!\\nWarnings\\nDon't overwork yourself, if you do then your grades will begin to slip and the opposite of what you want to happen will happen.\\nDon't worry about bullies, they aren't cool. They try to be, but they're not! You have more important priorities in your life to worry about, and it is not constructive to surround yourself with negative people. Try to avoid bullies as best as you can, and surround yourself with the positive people in your life, like your friends, to scare bullies away.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a successful high school student requires both patience and motivation. Unfortunately, there are often many distractions during your teen years that can make success difficult. To become a successful student, you'll have to learn to say \\\"no\\\" to these distractions by using organization tools like schedules, while also maintaining a healthy lifestyle, as well as balancing your academic life with your social life and extracurricular interests. It may be hard during the school year, and also tiring, but the hard work always pays off at the end.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make good use of your agenda.\", \"描述\": \"They give it to you for a reason. Don't only write homework, but make sure to write down other stuff you'll need to remember (like games, practices, study sessions, etc.). In order to be a successful high school student, you need to have the ability to stay on top of all your activities. Use your agenda to stay organized and follow through with your plans.\\nUse your agenda to set time limits. If you're spending more than an hour on that math assignment, you're clearly not getting it, and are only hurting yourself. Stop, put it aside, move on to other homework. Come back to it later and if you still don't get it, explain what happened to your teacher. Chances are, they'll be happy to help and not dock your grade. Just make sure you've made an attempt to do the work.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay organized.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you have all the supplies you need. It may help to have one 3-ring binder with pockets for each class (maybe only a folder for an elective class) with loose-leaf paper and dividers if they help. If your teacher likes to lecture, have a spiral or composition notebook for notes and jot down pictures and thoughts to help you remember- the pages are less likely to rip out than loose-leaf. 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That being said, never take homework, tests, and quizzes lightly! Note that extracurricular activities are also good with college resumes as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Enjoy school\", \"描述\": \"Balance is the key. You can be someone who makes straight A's in all advanced classes, but if you have zero extracurricular activities in your application for college, you will have a much more difficult time getting accepted. It's just not attractive either way.\\nKeep on top of your schoolwork but make sure you let your hair down a little sometimes to join a few clubs consistently throughout your high school years. You won't regret it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get involved at your school.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to wear spirit colors everyday or be a cheerleader to do this. All you need to do is to stay on top of things; current events, who won the basketball game last Friday, attending school functions like dances and variety shows, keeping up with plans your student council has for the school and those kinds of activities.\\nJust like keeping up with current events and politics is important, so is being active at your campus. Not only will it bond you with other people, but it's always good to have a collective unity over a student body. It shows that you care about the learning environment that you're in that you support all the organizations at your school.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take part in a sport.\", \"描述\": \"It's easy to forget to stay in shape when the workload starts piling up, so joining a team at your school makes it one less worry in your schedule; it's already incorporated in your daily routine. If you're going for all three seasons, that's great, but make sure you're being realistic with your time.\\nIf you're taking all honors classes, for example, and you know you're going to have a heck of a lot of homework, you may want to consider taking a season off. Try your hardest at both your sport and your schoolwork and you should be more than great- you're healthy and on top of your schoolwork.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Explore hobby interests and find a club that encourages your interests.\", \"描述\": \"Not being an athlete is no excuse for not having something to do after school. If you're into art, join the art club. Music, and join the orchestra or a band. Join something and be sure to stick with it for a long time; it looks good on college applications.\\nIf you're not into any of your school's clubs, ask your principal to start a new one. Most likely he/she will say yes and it's just one quick and easy process into a initiating a new activity at your school.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Think ahead about university.\", \"描述\": \"As soon as you begin sophomore year, start visiting universities. You don't need to decide anything yet, but it will help you decide if you want a large school or small (urban, rural, or suburban, if a state school is an acceptable choice, and so on).\\nVisit your guidance counselor regularly; they're going to have to write a letter of recommendation so the better they know you, the better a letter you'll get. They'll also be able to help recommend universities and find scholarships.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Care about your Grade Point Average.\", \"描述\": \"Your GPA is as important to you as your parents credit score is to them. A low credit score prevents your parent from being able to get a loan, rent an apartment, get a credit card, get a cell phone and on and on. Your parents credit score is their lifeline. It opens doors and closes doors.\\nYour GPA is your lifeline! With a GPA many options are available after graduation. You will have many choices regarding which colleges you can attend. A low GPA limits your options. There is a program out there for everyone but having a choice makes the walk across the stage a sweet victory!\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Make friends.\", \"描述\": \"There's too much going on to worry about cliques, who's friends with whom, who the popular people are. The best thing to do is to just be friendly to and with everyone.\\nBe confident and be yourself. Get into the habit of saying \\\"hi\\\" to people and not being afraid to talk to new classmates. The more comfortable you become with a more diverse group of people, the more people will like you and the more you will accustom yourself to the art of versatility later in life.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Don't compare yourself with others.\", \"描述\": \"It cannot be stressed enough that there's already too much on your plate to worry about trivial stuff like this. High school is only a competition with yourself. Everyday you should only be trying to get better, not worrying about how the girl sitting in front of you has nicer clothes, is getting better grades, has a hotter boyfriend, etc. Ten years from now, this won't matter.\\nFocus on yourself. Focus on what you can do to make yourself better. Then, most importantly, go for it!\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Don't procrastinate\", \"描述\": \"This is probably the #1 curse of all high school students. It's hard and it's okay if you do it occasionally, however, when big tests, exams, and essays come, be prepared. You'll only be sorry in the end, especially in college with jumbo papers and insane amounts of reading will become the norm.\\nIt's best to accustom yourself to getting things done early and out of the way rather than waiting until the very last minute. Make a plan and a list of homework. Keep it somewhere you can see it and won't forget it. Don't forget due dates!\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Eat breakfast and lunch.\", \"描述\": \"It sounds stupid, but you'd be surprised how many people skip breakfast or lunch. Not only is this unhealthy, it can also take a toll on your energy levels. If you don't have time to eat breakfast at home, take some to the bus stop or buy some at your cafeteria before the first period.\\nIt's important to jump start your metabolism the right way so it's running smoothly throughout the whole day. Lunch is important to prevent your stomach from grumbling during your last periods. A full stomach keeps you focused. Skipping meals actually only slows down your metabolism and makes you gain more weight, not less.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Stay healthy both inside and outside of school.\", \"描述\": \"Don't fall for the vending machine trap. Most of the food in there is unhealthy and disgusting. Go for the soy chips or anything whole grain if the vending machine is all you have the moment.\\nDon't fall for the Vitamin Water trap either; it's loaded with sugar. Only if you're a competitive athlete and will be burning off those 400+ calories pretty soon should you pay for that jumbo pack of gummy bears or something.\\nAt home, take an after school snack to keep your belly full until dinner time--invest in fruits, nuts, and healthy chips. Loading on junk food during the day is not only unhealthy but will only give you a temporary \\\"energy\\\" for homework or that 10-page paper you have to write that night.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep.\", \"描述\": \"This is easier said than done, but sleep has so many benefits. If every high school kid got around eight to nine hours of sleep per night, everyone would be a much happier camper. Try to get things done and out of the way so that you get your much needed shuteye. Not only will you be more alert during the day, but it helps improve your complexion and your figure, and you'll be much more likely to pay attention in your boring classes and, as a result, ace them. Of course, this is not always possible, especially in the dreaded junior year. If you're taking 3+ AP classes and are in all those clubs and sports, there are chances you will be up until 1 AM doing homework - if that happens, skip clubs/sports the next day and nap! You are no good to anyone when you are severely sleep deprived. Naps are wonderful things.\\nAlso, caffeine can help you keep focused - but there are potential side effects, and addiction can hurt you in the short and long term. Try to use the stimulant in moderate amounts and only when absolutely necessary e.g. an important test.\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Be a trendsetter.\", \"描述\": \"The only trend you should follow is yourself. This doesn't mean you should then go to school the next day wearing pantyhose on your head, or whatever. You should have your own style and your own identity, so that you make your mark in high school the right way and not as a nondescript UGG-wearing replica of every other girl (or guy) out there.\\nBe original, and don't be afraid to be yourself. It's a cliché, but it's essential. People are more likely to remember you and want to be friends with you if you are intriguing and different.\"}, {\"编号\": 17, \"标题\": \"Try to go out during the weekends.\", \"描述\": \"You endured five agonizing days of school, and the time has come to cut yourself some slack. During the weekend, if you have friends to go with, go somewhere fun and have a blast. Even if you don't have many friends, spend the weekend relaxing and doing what you like to do.\\nLet yourself loose and energize yourself so when Monday comes, you're all partied out and ready to focus again. But remember that school is the top priority, so don't do this if you have a ton of homework this weekend.\"}, {\"编号\": 18, \"标题\": \"Never give up.\", \"描述\": \"Again, cliché, but important. High school is all about making a fool of yourself but picking yourself back up, trying again, and making friends along the way. Learn to laugh at yourself when you make a mistake. Don't beat yourself up over the occasional C or D (heaven forbid an F) on a test or quiz. Tell yourself to study harder and strive for an A the next time. If your team lost a game, tell yourself to push yourself a little harder at the next practice.\\nLearning this will soon apply outside of school and into other parts of your fantastic life. Learn from your mistakes and you will go a long way. Just remember, .\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Stay away from the drama and gossip. You have far too much more important stuff in your agenda to worry about that.\\n\", \"Be nice to the teachers. You don't want them hating you!\\n\", \"When you feel like giving up, just think of what college you want to get into. Think about an Ivy Leagues school, perhaps Harvard, Yale, Princeton, etc. If you have this mindset, you will go a long way!\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't overwork yourself, if you do then your grades will begin to slip and the opposite of what you want to happen will happen.\\n\", \"Don't worry about bullies, they aren't cool. They try to be, but they're not! You have more important priorities in your life to worry about, and it is not constructive to surround yourself with negative people. Try to avoid bullies as best as you can, and surround yourself with the positive people in your life, like your friends, to scare bullies away.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Essential Skills
1-1. Practice critical thinking.
In order to be a successful lawyer, you must be able to look at a legal issue from all sides in order to come up with the best solution. Proper analysis will not only help you to identify the legal issue, but help you to develop a sound legal argument to support your client’s position.
Make sure you have a clear grasp of all of the pertinent facts before you form your conclusion.
Don’t always rely on your client to tell you everything up front. Clients often will not volunteer information because they don’t know what is important and what is not. Ask the questions that are necessary to find out the information that you need.
1-2. Develop your writing skills.
Lawyer often underestimate the writing skills that are needed to be a successful lawyer. The reality is that lawyers spend a great deal of their time filing pleadings and other documents with the court. Almost all of these documents require some degree of writing expertise. You are much more likely to advance your client’s position if you can effectively write. As a general rule, you should create a written argument as follows:
Clarify the facts of your case.
Identify the legal issue.
Determine which laws or regulations apply to your issue.
Apply the laws to the facts of your case.
Draw a conclusion based on the laws that you have applied to the facts of your case.
1-3. Work on your oral communication skills.
All successful lawyers have excellent communication skills, whether speaking to the court, other lawyers, a jury, or their clients. They must be able to articulate a client’s position to the court, effectively question a witness, argue to a jury, and convince clients to hire them.
With respect to clients, a lawyer must be able to obtain all information from a client that is necessary to represent him or her with sensitivity and tact. Lawyers must be able to convince a potential client that they are the right attorney to represent him or her.
Attorneys also should be able to effectively communicate with other lawyers. In doing so, they can work toward settlements that are acceptable for all parties involved and effective negotiate on behalf of their clients.
In dealing with the court, attorneys should be able to effectively and concisely argue their clients’ positions without any disrespect to opposing counsel or to the court, who may not always embrace their clients’ positions.
1-4. Familiarize yourself with the courts in which you regularly practice.
Every court has its unique practices, and court staff can be very valuable in giving you information that you would not know otherwise. Although you cannot discuss specific cases with judges, they are often willing to discuss different fact scenarios and points of law with you and give you their opinions.
1-5. Complete a trial practice seminar.
Some national organizations offer trial training for those lawyers who regularly represent clients in the courtroom. While all judges and courtrooms are different to some degree, there are certain trial techniques that can be invaluable to you in any court setting. A trial practice seminar can help you learn and improve your trial practice skills.
1-6. Join a local, state, or national bar association.
When you are with other lawyers, you will be able to learn from other more experienced attorneys and exchange ideas. Bar associations often sponsor CLE seminars and other opportunities for learning that can be very valuable to your professional development. You also develop a network of lawyers whom you consult if you have questions about handling particular cases. You also may be able to engage in community service opportunities through your bar association.
1-7. Find a mentor
Every lawyer, no matter how old, needs a more experienced attorney with whom to discuss cases, try out arguments, and get answers to your questions. This relationship will give you the chance to further your knowledge and try out your ideas on someone else before you take them before the court.
2. Being Professional
2-1. Speak respectfully to judges and court staff.
Listen to them without interrupting. Your professionalism depends on how you present yourself. Being rude to judges or staff will not help you or your client.
2-2. Use tact and grace when dealing with clients.
They may get agitated or not like what you have to say, but try to look at the situation from their point of view. However, don't allow your clients to verbally abuse you or make unreasonable demands of you. You don’t have to represent every client that comes along, and you probably shouldn’t!
2-3. Listen to your client.
Never judge, just listen and advise. Even if your client has made a bad decision, which he or she will undoubtedly do at some point throughout the course of your representation, figure out how to best handle the situation and move on.
2-4. Be honest with the court, your colleagues, and your clients.
Being untruthful will get you nowhere and give you a reputation of dishonesty. Plus, your clients will not trust you, which does not translate into repeat business from clients. In extreme cases, dishonesty can put your law license at risk if your state’s disciplinary commission finds that you have violated the professional rules of conduct that govern all lawyers.
2-5. Question witnesses appropriately.
When interrogating a witness, ask appropriate questions relevant to the trial. Don't ridicule the witness if he or she becomes emotional, but maintain professional distance. Keep in mind that special care should be applied to witnesses who are minors or victims of a violent crime. A judge and/or jury will be judging you by the way you treat others during a court proceeding.
3. Maintaining Ethics
3-1. Keep up attorney-client confidentiality.
A client's case is nobody's business but yours. Disclose that information to the court and to opposing counsel only to the extent that you are required to do so and that is necessary to effectively representing your client.
3-2. Follow your state’s rules of professional conduct for lawyers.
Every state has a set of rules of professional conduct that govern lawyers’ behavior. If you fail to follow these rules, you run the risk of being disciplined, which can result in a suspension or revocation of your law license.
3-3. Comply with the law.
If you commit a crime, you not only will be subject to penalties through the criminal justice system, but also to professional discipline. Depending on the nature of your crime, you also are likely to lose your job.
4. Knowing the Law
4-1. Know your information.
Keep yourself up-to-date on your area of law. Be aware of new developments, as laws and rules often change and new cases are being decided every day. States introduce new legislation that affect your area of law practice every day. Federal laws also regularly change.
4-2. Conduct research when needed.
If you have a non-routine case involving issues that you have not dealt with before, take the time to do the legal research and find the answers. Don’t assume that you know everything, even if you have practiced in the same area of the law for several years. New issues and cases arise every day, and you have to do the research to find the solution to your case.
Legal research methods have changed dramatically over the last 20 years. Ensure that you are familiar with the most up-to-date electronic research methods. If you have a subscription to Lexis-Nexis or Westlaw, which are the two most well-known online legal research companies, then you also can get extensive training in using their applications.
4-3. Attend continuing legal education (CLE) seminars.
Not only are you required to earn a certain number of CLE hours each year in order to maintain your law license, but you gain valuable legal knowledge at these seminars. You often will hear from experts in their respective areas of the law at these seminars and have the change to ask questions that you may have. Additionally, attending CLE seminars gives you a chance to network and exchange information with other attorneys in your area of practice.
5. Making a Difference
5-1. Remember that your success is not always measured by your paycheck.
Sometimes, it’s that pro bono case or that case where you charge a reduced fee in which you can make the most difference. And earning six figures isn’t necessarily success for every lawyer. Many attorneys who work at legal aid offices, government offices, and other lower-paying jobs are perfectly happy with their careers and make a huge difference in other peoples’ lives.
5-2. Know that there are many different paths to a successful career.
Some lawyers consider themselves successful when they make partner at a high-powered law firm. Others are content to make a living in their solo practices. Still others consider non-profit or public interest work to be the key to success in their lives. In the end, a successful career as a lawyer is what you consider it to be, not others.
5-3. Manage stress.
Attorneys often work long hours and deal with stressful situations on a daily basis. Learn how to let go of stress and manage it on a day-to-day basis. This step will allow you think more clearly and calmly and be more effective in your job.
5-4. Be happy with your career choice.
It is difficult to enjoy or be successful at a career that you do not enjoy. If you don’t enjoy your job, find a job that better suits you and that you can truly enjoy.
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Lawyers must be able to convince a potential client that they are the right attorney to represent him or her.\\nAttorneys also should be able to effectively communicate with other lawyers. In doing so, they can work toward settlements that are acceptable for all parties involved and effective negotiate on behalf of their clients.\\nIn dealing with the court, attorneys should be able to effectively and concisely argue their clients’ positions without any disrespect to opposing counsel or to the court, who may not always embrace their clients’ positions.\\n1-4. Familiarize yourself with the courts in which you regularly practice.\\nEvery court has its unique practices, and court staff can be very valuable in giving you information that you would not know otherwise. Although you cannot discuss specific cases with judges, they are often willing to discuss different fact scenarios and points of law with you and give you their opinions.\\n1-5. 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If you have a subscription to Lexis-Nexis or Westlaw, which are the two most well-known online legal research companies, then you also can get extensive training in using their applications.\\n4-3. Attend continuing legal education (CLE) seminars.\\nNot only are you required to earn a certain number of CLE hours each year in order to maintain your law license, but you gain valuable legal knowledge at these seminars. You often will hear from experts in their respective areas of the law at these seminars and have the change to ask questions that you may have. Additionally, attending CLE seminars gives you a chance to network and exchange information with other attorneys in your area of practice.\\n5. Making a Difference\\n5-1. Remember that your success is not always measured by your paycheck.\\nSometimes, it’s that pro bono case or that case where you charge a reduced fee in which you can make the most difference. And earning six figures isn’t necessarily success for every lawyer. Many attorneys who work at legal aid offices, government offices, and other lower-paying jobs are perfectly happy with their careers and make a huge difference in other peoples’ lives.\\n5-2. Know that there are many different paths to a successful career.\\nSome lawyers consider themselves successful when they make partner at a high-powered law firm. Others are content to make a living in their solo practices. Still others consider non-profit or public interest work to be the key to success in their lives. In the end, a successful career as a lawyer is what you consider it to be, not others.\\n5-3. Manage stress.\\nAttorneys often work long hours and deal with stressful situations on a daily basis. Learn how to let go of stress and manage it on a day-to-day basis. This step will allow you think more clearly and calmly and be more effective in your job.\\n5-4. Be happy with your career choice.\\nIt is difficult to enjoy or be successful at a career that you do not enjoy. If you don’t enjoy your job, find a job that better suits you and that you can truly enjoy.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Most people become successful lawyers because they want to do good and make a difference in people’s lives. If that sounds like you, then you’re probably wondering what you can do to go above and beyond to help your clients navigate the complex legal system. In this article, we’ll guide you through the greatest attributes of the best lawyers, from knowing the law like the back of your hand to treating everyone you work with respectfully and with dignity. If you’re ready to take your success into your own hands, keep scrolling!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Essential Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice critical thinking.\", \"描述\": \"In order to be a successful lawyer, you must be able to look at a legal issue from all sides in order to come up with the best solution. 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Lawyers must be able to convince a potential client that they are the right attorney to represent him or her.\\nAttorneys also should be able to effectively communicate with other lawyers. In doing so, they can work toward settlements that are acceptable for all parties involved and effective negotiate on behalf of their clients.\\nIn dealing with the court, attorneys should be able to effectively and concisely argue their clients’ positions without any disrespect to opposing counsel or to the court, who may not always embrace their clients’ positions.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Familiarize yourself with the courts in which you regularly practice.\", \"描述\": \"Every court has its unique practices, and court staff can be very valuable in giving you information that you would not know otherwise. Although you cannot discuss specific cases with judges, they are often willing to discuss different fact scenarios and points of law with you and give you their opinions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Complete a trial practice seminar.\", \"描述\": \"Some national organizations offer trial training for those lawyers who regularly represent clients in the courtroom. While all judges and courtrooms are different to some degree, there are certain trial techniques that can be invaluable to you in any court setting. A trial practice seminar can help you learn and improve your trial practice skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Join a local, state, or national bar association.\", \"描述\": \"When you are with other lawyers, you will be able to learn from other more experienced attorneys and exchange ideas. Bar associations often sponsor CLE seminars and other opportunities for learning that can be very valuable to your professional development. You also develop a network of lawyers whom you consult if you have questions about handling particular cases. You also may be able to engage in community service opportunities through your bar association.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Find a mentor\", \"描述\": \"Every lawyer, no matter how old, needs a more experienced attorney with whom to discuss cases, try out arguments, and get answers to your questions. This relationship will give you the chance to further your knowledge and try out your ideas on someone else before you take them before the court.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Professional\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Speak respectfully to judges and court staff.\", \"描述\": \"Listen to them without interrupting. Your professionalism depends on how you present yourself. Being rude to judges or staff will not help you or your client.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use tact and grace when dealing with clients.\", \"描述\": \"They may get agitated or not like what you have to say, but try to look at the situation from their point of view. However, don't allow your clients to verbally abuse you or make unreasonable demands of you. You don’t have to represent every client that comes along, and you probably shouldn’t!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to your client.\", \"描述\": \"Never judge, just listen and advise. Even if your client has made a bad decision, which he or she will undoubtedly do at some point throughout the course of your representation, figure out how to best handle the situation and move on.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be honest with the court, your colleagues, and your clients.\", \"描述\": \"Being untruthful will get you nowhere and give you a reputation of dishonesty. Plus, your clients will not trust you, which does not translate into repeat business from clients. In extreme cases, dishonesty can put your law license at risk if your state’s disciplinary commission finds that you have violated the professional rules of conduct that govern all lawyers.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Question witnesses appropriately.\", \"描述\": \"When interrogating a witness, ask appropriate questions relevant to the trial. Don't ridicule the witness if he or she becomes emotional, but maintain professional distance. Keep in mind that special care should be applied to witnesses who are minors or victims of a violent crime. A judge and/or jury will be judging you by the way you treat others during a court proceeding.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Maintaining Ethics\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep up attorney-client confidentiality.\", \"描述\": \"A client's case is nobody's business but yours. Disclose that information to the court and to opposing counsel only to the extent that you are required to do so and that is necessary to effectively representing your client.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Follow your state’s rules of professional conduct for lawyers.\", \"描述\": \"Every state has a set of rules of professional conduct that govern lawyers’ behavior. If you fail to follow these rules, you run the risk of being disciplined, which can result in a suspension or revocation of your law license.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Comply with the law.\", \"描述\": \"If you commit a crime, you not only will be subject to penalties through the criminal justice system, but also to professional discipline. Depending on the nature of your crime, you also are likely to lose your job.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Knowing the Law\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know your information.\", \"描述\": \"Keep yourself up-to-date on your area of law. Be aware of new developments, as laws and rules often change and new cases are being decided every day. States introduce new legislation that affect your area of law practice every day. Federal laws also regularly change.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Conduct research when needed.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a non-routine case involving issues that you have not dealt with before, take the time to do the legal research and find the answers. Don’t assume that you know everything, even if you have practiced in the same area of the law for several years. New issues and cases arise every day, and you have to do the research to find the solution to your case.\\nLegal research methods have changed dramatically over the last 20 years. Ensure that you are familiar with the most up-to-date electronic research methods. If you have a subscription to Lexis-Nexis or Westlaw, which are the two most well-known online legal research companies, then you also can get extensive training in using their applications.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Attend continuing legal education (CLE) seminars.\", \"描述\": \"Not only are you required to earn a certain number of CLE hours each year in order to maintain your law license, but you gain valuable legal knowledge at these seminars. You often will hear from experts in their respective areas of the law at these seminars and have the change to ask questions that you may have. Additionally, attending CLE seminars gives you a chance to network and exchange information with other attorneys in your area of practice.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Making a Difference\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remember that your success is not always measured by your paycheck.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, it’s that pro bono case or that case where you charge a reduced fee in which you can make the most difference. And earning six figures isn’t necessarily success for every lawyer. Many attorneys who work at legal aid offices, government offices, and other lower-paying jobs are perfectly happy with their careers and make a huge difference in other peoples’ lives.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know that there are many different paths to a successful career.\", \"描述\": \"Some lawyers consider themselves successful when they make partner at a high-powered law firm. Others are content to make a living in their solo practices. Still others consider non-profit or public interest work to be the key to success in their lives. In the end, a successful career as a lawyer is what you consider it to be, not others.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Manage stress.\", \"描述\": \"Attorneys often work long hours and deal with stressful situations on a daily basis. Learn how to let go of stress and manage it on a day-to-day basis. This step will allow you think more clearly and calmly and be more effective in your job.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be happy with your career choice.\", \"描述\": \"It is difficult to enjoy or be successful at a career that you do not enjoy. If you don’t enjoy your job, find a job that better suits you and that you can truly enjoy.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Classroom Training
1-1. Learn to type faster.
Medical scribing requires extensive documentation of the encounter between the patient and provider. Whether it be the history, physical, plan of care, or disposition information, you are required to take note of every aspect of the patient's visit. For this reason, it is crucial for you to be able to type at a high speed. Typically, scribes are required to type at a speed of at least 60 words per minute.
Practice with online tools and resources, evaluating your initial typing speed in words per minute.
Improve your body positioning. Do not slump, keep your posture upright.
Evaluate your finger positioning. Utilizing the QWERTY keyboard maximally allows faster transcribing.
Practice with dictations, listen to something and try typing it out as you. This is an effective method because ultimately you will be typing the physician's dictation.
1-2. Learn medical terminology.
During training sessions, you will be provided with general medical terminology. It is imperative that a scribe is able to learn and comprehend these terms.
In addition to the terminology, it may be helpful to learn Latin roots, thus allowing you to interpret terms that are unfamiliar to you.
Not only will learning medical terms allow you to transcribe faster while the physician is speaking to you, but you will be able to get a better understanding of what the patient's course of treatment will be.
1-3. Understand laboratory and radiology orders.
Much like learning medical terminology, becoming familiar with common laboratory and radiology testing will allow you to get a better sense of assessing a patient's health etiology. Providers place orders for laboratory and radiology studies to obtain further information regarding a patient's condition. Understanding which studies are ordered for certain cases and why will make it easier to recognize the plan of action and medical decision-making when the physician may dictate them to you.
Do not ever hesitate to ask the provider why he placed certain orders on a patient or what the results of the study indicate. Most are happy to help clarify any confusion.
1-4. Determine the History of Present Illness.
Finally, after familiarizing yourself with all the prior aspects, you have the knowledge and understanding to write a proper History of Present Illness. When a patient presents to be seen by a clinician, it is imperative you document the story just as the patient describes, but using the appropriate medical terms and descriptions.
The History of Present Illness is the patient's explanation of what is going on with him/her, it is crucial that this history is well documented in order for other physicians, billing companies, or authoritative personnel are able to understand the story.
Practice writing a History of Present Illness by listening to an online video of a patient presenting to the emergency department explaining their complaints.
Ensure you only include information pertinent to the patient's history. Irrelevant information is not appropriate to be placed into the History of Present Illness.
Listen for specific questions the physician may ask patients while they are being evaluated and make sure to include that information in your history.
Always ask the physician you are working with if you are unsure of what the patient stated.
2. Floor Training
2-1. Always be aware of patient confidentiality.
First off, it is essential that each scribe understands the importance of patient confidentiality. In this profession, you will be exposed to a plethora of information regarding a vast amount of people, and you are required through the law to keep this information confidential.
Most medical scribes are obliged to sign a document stating that they will keep any information disclosed to them private and secure.
There are numerous implications if this is defied by any scribe, which is why it is imperative to emphasize that being a successful scribe implies an understanding that all patient information is exclusive.
2-2. Understand the documenting system.
Once you have received adequate classroom training, the clinical training begins where most scribes are taught how to document encounters using the hospital or clinic's system of choice while training in the clinic.
This is more of a hands-on approach to allow trainees to get a feel for what exactly the job entails.
Mastering how to create notes, modify notes, insert procedures or radiology reports into notes, and input proper diagnosis and disposition information is crucial.
Without grasping how to properly use the charting system, you can only be so effective, which is why taking the time to learn and appreciate documenting an interaction will help you in the long run.
2-3. Become familiar with the clinic.
Not only is it important to become familiar with the charting system, but also with the hospital/clinic itself. This may seem like a minuscule detail, but it does make a big difference in aiding the provider you are working with.
Many times, physicians are unable to recall the names of every patient they are evaluating and will refer to them by their patient room numbers.
Often times the provider will ask you to meet him/her at a certain room, or patients may even ask you to direct them to their family members. Therefore, becoming acquainted with the site you are working at can go a long way.
2-4. Establish relationships.
Finally, establishing great relationships with the providers will not only make your job easier but make it worthwhile as well! We all know physicians are very intelligent and approachable people, but they also know how to make the best of any situation and have a sense of humor about things.
Once you are familiar with the physicians you are working with, it will make your profession enjoyable as well.
It is all about the first impressions, show the physician you are a respectful, hardworking individual and that will go a long way with them!
3. On the Job
3-1. Become a good listener.
One of the most important characteristics that a great scribe possesses is being a good listener. There will be lots of information being spewed at you from patients and doctors, therefore you are required to always keep your ears open and actively listen in order to get all the details down.
This may seem like an obvious task, but when you are trying to formulate a History of Present Illness that is accurate and concise, you may get lost in your work and miss critical details that the patient describes.
Some physicians will want you to document any conversations that occur between them and a consulting physician on the phone, which will require your conscious effort to actively listen while this is going on.
Practice your ability to listen while writing a History of Present Illness while listening to an online video of a patient explaining to the physician their complaints.
3-2. Be courteous to the physicians.
Another important aspect of being a successful scribe is being courteous of the physician's time. Being a scribe will require you to be adaptable to work during hectic times in the clinic/hospital and keep up with the charting.
Many physicians will want to have all the charts sent to them before the shift is over, therefore you will need to be on top of the work to make sure they are complete and sent to the provider.
Being on time is crucial in this field. It is unacceptable to keep a physician waiting because ultimately you are keeping the patient waiting.
3-3. Be aware of patient's plan.
The best scribes are the ones that are on top of their charting and aware of every aspect of the patient's plan of care at all times. This requires respectfully prompting physicians to place laboratory, radiology, or medication orders on the off chance they forget to do so.
This directly benefits the patient by making sure everything is in place to take care of their needs.
Making physicians aware that laboratory or radiology studies have returned also aids the patients and lets the providers know that you are paying close attention to the patient's care.
3-4. Have a positive attitude.
Last but not least, the most important aspect is to maintain a positive attitude! The medical scribe profession was created in order to aid physicians and increase the amount of time they spend with their patients.
Coming into work with a smile on your face and prepared to aid the physician in any way possible is the best mentality! It will go a long way with the physician, you will be showing him/her that you are eager to work hard and soak up all the knowledge you can.
Ultimately, doing so will create a stronger relationship with the providers you are working with and the patients being cared for.
Tips
Always ask the provider you are working with if you have any questions. They would gladly help you in any way possible rather than have mistakes on their charts.
Always introduce yourself to each physician you are working with and try to get to know your coworkers, it will make the time more enjoyable.
Offer to help in any way possible like grabbing blankets for patients or answering the doctor's phone when he is not in the room.
Warnings
Medical scribes accompany the physician into the patient's room and thus are exposed to anything and everything that a doctor may see. Don’t go into this field if you are squeamish at the sight of blood, wounds, etc.
Although many physicians are friendly and understanding, they will not be pleased if you are unable to keep up with the work and/or inattentive.
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Learn medical terminology.\\nDuring training sessions, you will be provided with general medical terminology. It is imperative that a scribe is able to learn and comprehend these terms. \\nIn addition to the terminology, it may be helpful to learn Latin roots, thus allowing you to interpret terms that are unfamiliar to you.\\nNot only will learning medical terms allow you to transcribe faster while the physician is speaking to you, but you will be able to get a better understanding of what the patient's course of treatment will be.\\n1-3. Understand laboratory and radiology orders.\\nMuch like learning medical terminology, becoming familiar with common laboratory and radiology testing will allow you to get a better sense of assessing a patient's health etiology. Providers place orders for laboratory and radiology studies to obtain further information regarding a patient's condition. Understanding which studies are ordered for certain cases and why will make it easier to recognize the plan of action and medical decision-making when the physician may dictate them to you. \\nDo not ever hesitate to ask the provider why he placed certain orders on a patient or what the results of the study indicate. Most are happy to help clarify any confusion.\\n1-4. Determine the History of Present Illness.\\nFinally, after familiarizing yourself with all the prior aspects, you have the knowledge and understanding to write a proper History of Present Illness. When a patient presents to be seen by a clinician, it is imperative you document the story just as the patient describes, but using the appropriate medical terms and descriptions.\\nThe History of Present Illness is the patient's explanation of what is going on with him/her, it is crucial that this history is well documented in order for other physicians, billing companies, or authoritative personnel are able to understand the story.\\nPractice writing a History of Present Illness by listening to an online video of a patient presenting to the emergency department explaining their complaints.\\nEnsure you only include information pertinent to the patient's history. Irrelevant information is not appropriate to be placed into the History of Present Illness.\\nListen for specific questions the physician may ask patients while they are being evaluated and make sure to include that information in your history.\\nAlways ask the physician you are working with if you are unsure of what the patient stated.\\n2. Floor Training\\n2-1. Always be aware of patient confidentiality.\\nFirst off, it is essential that each scribe understands the importance of patient confidentiality. In this profession, you will be exposed to a plethora of information regarding a vast amount of people, and you are required through the law to keep this information confidential. \\nMost medical scribes are obliged to sign a document stating that they will keep any information disclosed to them private and secure. \\nThere are numerous implications if this is defied by any scribe, which is why it is imperative to emphasize that being a successful scribe implies an understanding that all patient information is exclusive.\\n2-2. Understand the documenting system.\\nOnce you have received adequate classroom training, the clinical training begins where most scribes are taught how to document encounters using the hospital or clinic's system of choice while training in the clinic. \\nThis is more of a hands-on approach to allow trainees to get a feel for what exactly the job entails. \\nMastering how to create notes, modify notes, insert procedures or radiology reports into notes, and input proper diagnosis and disposition information is crucial.\\nWithout grasping how to properly use the charting system, you can only be so effective, which is why taking the time to learn and appreciate documenting an interaction will help you in the long run.\\n2-3. Become familiar with the clinic.\\nNot only is it important to become familiar with the charting system, but also with the hospital/clinic itself. This may seem like a minuscule detail, but it does make a big difference in aiding the provider you are working with. \\nMany times, physicians are unable to recall the names of every patient they are evaluating and will refer to them by their patient room numbers.\\nOften times the provider will ask you to meet him/her at a certain room, or patients may even ask you to direct them to their family members. Therefore, becoming acquainted with the site you are working at can go a long way.\\n2-4. Establish relationships.\\nFinally, establishing great relationships with the providers will not only make your job easier but make it worthwhile as well! We all know physicians are very intelligent and approachable people, but they also know how to make the best of any situation and have a sense of humor about things. \\nOnce you are familiar with the physicians you are working with, it will make your profession enjoyable as well. \\nIt is all about the first impressions, show the physician you are a respectful, hardworking individual and that will go a long way with them!\\n3. On the Job\\n3-1. Become a good listener.\\nOne of the most important characteristics that a great scribe possesses is being a good listener. There will be lots of information being spewed at you from patients and doctors, therefore you are required to always keep your ears open and actively listen in order to get all the details down. \\nThis may seem like an obvious task, but when you are trying to formulate a History of Present Illness that is accurate and concise, you may get lost in your work and miss critical details that the patient describes.\\nSome physicians will want you to document any conversations that occur between them and a consulting physician on the phone, which will require your conscious effort to actively listen while this is going on.\\nPractice your ability to listen while writing a History of Present Illness while listening to an online video of a patient explaining to the physician their complaints.\\n3-2. Be courteous to the physicians.\\nAnother important aspect of being a successful scribe is being courteous of the physician's time. Being a scribe will require you to be adaptable to work during hectic times in the clinic/hospital and keep up with the charting. \\nMany physicians will want to have all the charts sent to them before the shift is over, therefore you will need to be on top of the work to make sure they are complete and sent to the provider.\\nBeing on time is crucial in this field. It is unacceptable to keep a physician waiting because ultimately you are keeping the patient waiting.\\n3-3. Be aware of patient's plan.\\nThe best scribes are the ones that are on top of their charting and aware of every aspect of the patient's plan of care at all times. This requires respectfully prompting physicians to place laboratory, radiology, or medication orders on the off chance they forget to do so. \\nThis directly benefits the patient by making sure everything is in place to take care of their needs.\\nMaking physicians aware that laboratory or radiology studies have returned also aids the patients and lets the providers know that you are paying close attention to the patient's care.\\n3-4. Have a positive attitude.\\nLast but not least, the most important aspect is to maintain a positive attitude! The medical scribe profession was created in order to aid physicians and increase the amount of time they spend with their patients. \\nComing into work with a smile on your face and prepared to aid the physician in any way possible is the best mentality! It will go a long way with the physician, you will be showing him/her that you are eager to work hard and soak up all the knowledge you can.\\nUltimately, doing so will create a stronger relationship with the providers you are working with and the patients being cared for.\\nTips\\nAlways ask the provider you are working with if you have any questions. They would gladly help you in any way possible rather than have mistakes on their charts.\\nAlways introduce yourself to each physician you are working with and try to get to know your coworkers, it will make the time more enjoyable.\\nOffer to help in any way possible like grabbing blankets for patients or answering the doctor's phone when he is not in the room.\\nWarnings\\nMedical scribes accompany the physician into the patient's room and thus are exposed to anything and everything that a doctor may see. 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1. Building a Strong Relationship
1-1. Talk with your spouse.
Ask about their feelings, and share yours with as well. Be honest and open about your joys and fears. Listen to what they have to say, and ask follow-up questions when they are telling you something.
Make time for conversations even on busy days.
Get into a routine where you regularly check in. You may always eat dinner together, for example.
When your spouse wants to talk, make time for them. If you don't have time, suggest a later opportunity.
1-2. Share authority.
Consult your partner about matters that affect you both. Show your partner that their opinion matters to you. If you disagree, do not dismiss the disagreement. Listen to your partner's logic, ask questions, and change your mind if they are right.
The Prophet sought the advice of his wife 'Hazrat Ayesha, and followed her good counsel.
1-3. Build trust.
Avoid telling lies. If you're not truthful with your spouse, they will never trust you. You will also become suspicious if you lie.
If you find yourself becoming secretive, ask yourself what you are afraid of. Try to work through that issue.
For instance, if you hide purchases because your spouse gets angry when you spend money, talk to your spouse about this problem. Work out a budget you can both agree on, and stick to it.
1-4. Share domestic duties.
Do not depend on your spouse to do all the cooking, cleaning, and planning. Be like the Prophet and engage in household tasks.
'Hazrat Ayesha was asked about the manners of the Prophet in his home, and she replied: "He would be helping in doing the family duties and when he hears the call of prayer he goes out."
'Hazrat Ayesha reported that the Prophet used to mend his shoes, sew his clothes and work in his household, "just as one of you works in his own house." She also reported that he was a man among men who used to "patch his clothes, milk his goats and engage himself in work."
1-5. Pay attention to your spouse's feelings.
How your spouse is feeling should always matter to you. Share in your spouse's joys, and comfort them when they are unhappy. One report says that the wife of the Prophet was on a journey with him. She was late so the Prophet received her while she was crying. The Prophet wiped her tears with his own hands and tried his utmost to calm her down.
2. Showing Affection
2-1. Express your love.
Look at your spouse lovingly, and tell your spouse that you love them. Say it often, and find new ways to say it. The wife of the Prophet, 'Hazrat Ayesha, would ask him: "How is your love for me?" And he would reply, : "Like the rope's knot," meaning that it was strong and secure. She would ask him, "How is the knot?" and he would reply, "In the same condition!"
Leave little love notes around the house.
Send your spouse a loving text when you miss them.
2-2. Kiss your spouse.
This is a simple act but one with massive impact! Kiss your spouse when you greet them, and return their kisses when they are feeling affectionate.
The Prophet says that before intercourse, you should kiss and speak to one another.
2-3. Share what you both love.
Spend time with your spouse doing what they like as well as what you like! This is the best way to nurture the marriage and become closer to each other. The Prophet initiated games with his spouses and was attentive to their pleasure.
2-4. Show your appreciation.
Thank them for all the nice things they do. Tell them what you like about them, and give them compliments when they excel or achieve a goal.
If compliments come naturally to you, give them out freely. If they don't, teach yourself to give compliments at regular intervals. For instance, when your spouse is wearing a new outfit you can tell them that they look beautiful.
Thank your spouse for good things they do for you and your family, but be sure to praise them for things they do for themself as well.
Tell your spouse you are proud of them when they accomplish something. You may praise meals they make, promotions they earn, sticky situations they mediate, or art they create, for instance.
2-5. Use affectionate language.
Invent sweet names for your partner, and you will find them more responsive and fond of you. Only use terms of endearment that your partner enjoys.
The Prophet called his wife 'Ayesha "Humayra," meaning "rosy," as she had rosy cheeks.
2-6. Be generous and giving in bed.
Adhere to Islamic etiquette of marriage and sex. Have a healthy intimate life with your spouse. Share your desires and encourage your spouse to share with you. Be generous with halal activities your spouse enjoys.
Flirting and foreplay are important parts of Islam.
Do not fall on your spouse without consent. You should both agree sincerely to a sex act before you engage in it.
3. Sharing Your Values
3-1. Be conscious of Allah in regards to your spouse.
When you are feeling frustrated or disappointed in your spouse, remind yourself to practice patience and mercy, for the sake of Allah. Remember that Allah has decreed for you two to be married to one another out of His Divine Wisdom and Will. He tests you though your spouse in order for you to learn and grow. He might teach you patience and sensitivity through them. As humans beings will not always appreciate what you do for them, Allah might also teach you to rely only on Him and work hard only for His sake. Each marriage is an individual and special bond, decreed by Allah. There is a lot you can learn from your own marriage, which Allah has created specially for you. Try to find the ways your marriages helps you get closer to Allah, and do your best to help your spouse get closer to Allah as well.
When your strengthen your relationship with Allah, He will make your relationships with other people more harmonious (in sha Allah).
Know that the shaitan (devil) try very hard to destroy marriages and this is one of their biggest goals.
Constantly engage in the remembrance of Allah (Dhikr-u-Llah). It will benefit you in many ways such as making your life more gratifying and peaceful, and warding of the Shayateen.
When your spouse helps you strengthen your character, they are supporting on your journey to Allah.
Share religious duties with your spouse
3-2. Greet your spouse with the salaam.
When you or your spouse encounter one another after a separation, say, "As-salaamu 'alaikum." Be a constant reminder to your spouse of your shared beliefs.
3-3. Make dua.
Do not neglect to pray for the strength and health of your marriage. When you make dua, ask Allah to help you achieve and maintain excellent relations with your spouse.
Tell your spouse what you are making dua for. Share your hopes and aspirations.
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Express your love.\\nLook at your spouse lovingly, and tell your spouse that you love them. Say it often, and find new ways to say it. The wife of the Prophet, 'Hazrat Ayesha, would ask him: \\\"How is your love for me?\\\" And he would reply, : \\\"Like the rope's knot,\\\" meaning that it was strong and secure. She would ask him, \\\"How is the knot?\\\" and he would reply, \\\"In the same condition!\\\"\\nLeave little love notes around the house.\\nSend your spouse a loving text when you miss them.\\n2-2. Kiss your spouse.\\nThis is a simple act but one with massive impact! Kiss your spouse when you greet them, and return their kisses when they are feeling affectionate.\\nThe Prophet says that before intercourse, you should kiss and speak to one another.\\n2-3. Share what you both love.\\nSpend time with your spouse doing what they like as well as what you like! This is the best way to nurture the marriage and become closer to each other. 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How to Be a Successful Muslim Wife
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1. Investing in Your Relationship
1-1. Be open with your husband.
Build trust by sharing your thoughts and feelings freely with him. Ask the same of him. Your relationship will grow in strength and health if you are honest with one another.
Communicate your expectations with your spouse. Tell him what you need from him, and ask him to tell you the same.
Understand that men and women have been created to be different, physically and emotionally. Each has a distinct role within a Muslim marriage but both should be mindful of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa and remain focused on the Afterlife.
Study the Qur'an and Sunnah to better understand your and your husband's rights and responsibilities to each other and to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.
1-2. Share responsibilities around the house.
You don't both have to do all the same work, but make sure that you both take on the responsibility of making your home a clean and pleasant place. The Prophet ﷺ used to help with chores and all Muslim husbands should follow his example.
Some partners may need to be reminded to help around the house. If your husband does not notice when things are messy, consider asking him to be in charge of particular chores.
1-3. Have fun together.
Get out and enjoy life in the service of Allah Subhaha wa Ta'alaa! A good friendship makes for a happy partnership. Share what you like with your spouse, and explore what he enjoys as well. Find things you both like, and make regular dates to do those activities.
Try new things together. You probably both have games, trips, sports or adventures you've wanted to do but haven't yet done.
Take turns leading expeditions and organizing new activities. Try to prioritize Sunnah activities like horse riding and archery over activities that have no Islamic benefit.
Have fun at home. If you have kids, play with them and read the Qur'an and stories of the Prophets of Islam together. Think up new ways to entertain them with your husband.
Teach your kids about Islam. Help them to understand that developing their relationship with Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa is the key to success in this life and the next. Teach them to pray and practice the religion.
1-4. Argue gently.
All couples occasionally have disagreements. Try not to let them escalate into yelling or name-calling as this is unIslamic. Take deep breaths, stay calm, and use "I" statements when you are in an argument.
For instance, if you are angry, say "I feel upset that…" instead of saying "You're mean and you make me angry!"
The Prophet ﷺ said to his wife Hazrat Ayesha, "Show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it.”
Break rising tension by reminding yourself (and your husband) to avoid the influence of the Shaytan. Say something like, "Love, let's not give in to the Shaytan. Can we discuss this when we are both calm?"
Pick your battles. Not everything that annoys you is worth a confrontation.
1-5. Discuss children.
Develop a shared understanding with your partner about the desired size of your family and how they will be raised. Procreation is encouraged in order to build the Muslim population, but if you do not want children, you are not obliged by Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala to have them.
If you decide to have children, discuss with your spouse how best to raise your children in the love and service of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.
Remember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa has entrusted the raising of future generation of Muslims with us, so we will be asked about it on the Day of Judgement and it will play a major part in determining our destiny in the Afterlife.
One of the most important decisions is how your children will received their Islamic education. Madrassa after secular school, full-time Islamic school and homeschooling are all good options.
Whichever way, make sure that they are brought up in a Shariah-compliant home and practice what they learn.
2. Showing Your Love
2-1. Show your affection
Everyone needs tenderness from others. Express your affection to your husband in the ways that come naturally to you. Find out what your loved one responds to, and show him love in this way.
If your husband likes physical affection, kiss and hug him when you greet him.
If he likes to be told that you love him, tell him freely.
If your spouse responds to compliments, look for something to compliment him about every day.
Some husbands love gifts. Arrange treats that are special to him.
2-2. Communicate your appreciation.
Show your gratitude for everything good he does for you. Express your pleasure in his company. When he accomplishes something he is proud of, congratulate them and tell him that he made you proud too. Affirm his feelings.
Leave him love notes and thank-you notes, but remember that all blessings come from Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, so say "Alhamdulillah" when you see something that makes you feel grateful.
Consider other ways of showing appreciation, such as helping him out with a task he is stuck on.
2-3. Enjoy your physical intimacy.
Islam forbids all sexual activity outside marriage but strongly encourages lawful spouses to invest in a mutually satisfying physical relationship. Explore your desires with your spouse, and encourage them to be open with you about what they enjoy.
Lovemaking should be undertaken with three intentions in mind—to avoid Allah's punishment for zina (adultery), to protect from the gaze of strangers and to procreate future generations of pious young Muslims to serve Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.
With these three intentions in mind, making love is not only an act of enjoyment but an act of worship that pleases Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa and will help strengthen your emaan.
Flirt and enjoy foreplay, as Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa encourages you to do.
Establish consent with your partner. You may speak while you share intimate moments, although excessive talk should be avoided.
Ask for permission before initiating something new. Say what you enjoy, and ask your husband to stop if they are doing something you don't like or forbidden in the Shariah. Mutual pleasure and satisfaction are key.
At the time of commencing intercourse both husband and wife should recite "Bismillaah, Allahuma jannabnash shayTaana wa jannabish shayTaana maa razaqtanaa" - In the name of Allah, O Allah! Save us from the Shaytaan and prevent Shaytaan from that which you grant us (i.e. children).
Your will be blessed if during intercourse you remain mindful of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa though it is makrooh (disliked) to make dhikr out loud at this time.
At the time of ejaculation, you may say in your mind (but not out loud) "Allaahumma laa taj,’Al lish shayTaani feemaa razaqtanee naSeebaa" - O Allah! Do not grant Shaytaan any share of that which you have granted me". These duas are important as God-willing they will help protect any progeny from harm.
Both husband and wife must perform ghusl (major ritual bath) janabat as soon as possible after intercourse and certainly before salah or reading the Qur'an.
You may make dhikr (except reading Qur'an) in the intervening time before performing Ghusl and may wish to take the opportunity to make dua together to thank Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for the gift of intimacy and to ask for pregnancy.
2-4. Be loving during breaks from sexual intimacy.
While sexual intimacy is encouraged between spouses, there are some activities and times when penetrative sex is forbidden by the Qur'an.
During Ramadan, abstain from sexual intimacy except at night between iftar and suhoor. Make sure you are rested and well-fed enough to enjoy the exertion! Remember that the reward for every good deed, including intimacy, is multiplied by 70 during Ramadan so be sure to take advantage of this.
The Shariah prohibits intercourse during menstruation. However, cuddling, kissing, and caressing your husband to stimulate the emission of madiy are perfectly fine. He will always appreciate your touch, affection and understanding.
If your husband is away for an extended period, for example on business or on a dawah (outreach) program, then maintain your chastity and seek Allah's reward by busying your mind reading and reciting the Qur'an, praying and fasting.
Remember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa is always watching so always be on guard to protect yourself from temptation by keeping up with your dhikr (remembrance of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa).
Otherwise, when in good health the wife is normally required to fulfill the husband's reasonable requests for conjugal relations (and similarly for the husband towards the wife), even if more than once in the night, or the Angels' curse will apply until the morning.
If your husband exercises his Islamic right to marry a second wife (or even up to four), then try to find a way of making all the marriages work fairly, for example by accepting that he may stay two nights with each co-wife in turn, praying for your co-wife's happiness and expressing gratitude to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa when your turn comes.
3. Being Pious
3-1. See Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa in your spouse.
Look for Allah's love in your spouse's words, deeds, and appearance. Appreciate the work your spouse does to remain close to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, and everything they do to bring you closer to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa as well.
Remind your husband to stick to practices that brings him closer to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, especially Sunnah acts of ibadah (worship).
Always keep the Qur'an at the center of your marriage. Read and recite the Qur'an together.
Ask your husband to remind you about the natural world, hygiene, exercise and other practices that help you feel in step with your faith.
Study Islam together with your husband and try to implement what you learn in your home.
Avoid unnecessary interaction or chit-chat with unrelated men. If you do need to speak as a matter of necessity it should be done in a business-like manner and never in a room alone.
3-2. Pray.
Prayer is an vital part of every Muslims daily routine of worship. Make dua for the health of your relationship. Ask Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for guidance when you are experiencing difficulties with your spouse. Ask Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for ideas on how to please your husband, and think about these questions actively when you are not in prayer.
Remember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa loves to be asked for help and guidance, so always pray when you approach an important decision in your marriage.
Set aside time after every salat to pray for your husband and children. Thank Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for having a Muslim family and ask for help to keep them strong in their faith.
Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa will hear your prayer and will answer it in the way that is best for you, even though this may sometimes seem to involve hardship.
Always acknowledge your sins to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, including those against your husband, such as forgetting to lower the gaze. If you ask for mercy and sincerely promise not to repeat them then Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala will always be inclined to forgive.
3-3. Greet your husband with the traditional Islamic greeting.
When you encounter your spouse, say "As-salaamu 'alaikum." Greet one another in this way to share your faith and celebrate your shared identity.
Teach you children to use the Islamic greeting too.
3-4. Dress in a way that reflects your relationship with Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, with your husband and with yourself.
Modesty, cleanliness, and elegance are important in Islam and will be appreciated by a good husband. Dress to express your own faith and demonstrate your commitment to Islam.
Familiarize yourself with the Islamic dress code and dress to please Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa by identifying yourself as a Muslimah.
Some wives choose to take the additional step of covering the face (niqaab) as an act of religious devotion. This is something that many husbands may suggest but it must be the wife's own decision.
Brush your teeth with a miswak and gently wash your face every day.
3-5. Protect yourself.
The Qur'an emphasizes the importance of compassion, respect, and equity in marriages. Being a dutiful and obedient wife does not mean that you must suffer abuse. The Qur'an and Sunnah set out very clear limits on how the husband must treat his wife. If you are being badly treated, suffering emotional, verbal, sexual, or physical abuse, you can divorce your partner. The Qur'an states that Allah dislikes divorce, but allows for it in the name of justice:
"If a woman fears ill-treatment (mushuz) or indifference (i'radh) from her husband, it is not wrong if (at her initiative) the two set things peacefully to right between themselves. If the two break up, Allah provides everyone out of His abundance, for Allah is resourceful, wise." (4:128-130)
Whilst the Muslim wife is normally required to obey her husband, this requirement is suspended in the case of a husband who is behaving in a way that opposes the will of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.
4:34 sets out how a husband may help his wife stay on the true path of Islam. It is not an excuse for violence.
Warnings
Don't ever accept abuse (physical or otherwise). Islam requires a good wife to be loving and obeying to her full extent of ability, but it also obliges the spouse to respect their wife, and treat her in a civilized and tender manner. Understand that this is an obligation your partner must fulfill.
Learn how to recognize a manipulative or controlling relationship. Being a good wife in Islam does not mean you have to suffer in silence if your husband is physically, verbally or in any other way abusive.
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The Prophet ﷺ used to help with chores and all Muslim husbands should follow his example.\\nSome partners may need to be reminded to help around the house. If your husband does not notice when things are messy, consider asking him to be in charge of particular chores.\\n1-3. Have fun together.\\nGet out and enjoy life in the service of Allah Subhaha wa Ta'alaa! A good friendship makes for a happy partnership. Share what you like with your spouse, and explore what he enjoys as well. Find things you both like, and make regular dates to do those activities.\\nTry new things together. You probably both have games, trips, sports or adventures you've wanted to do but haven't yet done.\\nTake turns leading expeditions and organizing new activities. Try to prioritize Sunnah activities like horse riding and archery over activities that have no Islamic benefit.\\nHave fun at home. If you have kids, play with them and read the Qur'an and stories of the Prophets of Islam together. Think up new ways to entertain them with your husband.\\nTeach your kids about Islam. Help them to understand that developing their relationship with Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa is the key to success in this life and the next. Teach them to pray and practice the religion.\\n1-4. Argue gently.\\nAll couples occasionally have disagreements. Try not to let them escalate into yelling or name-calling as this is unIslamic. Take deep breaths, stay calm, and use \\\"I\\\" statements when you are in an argument.\\nFor instance, if you are angry, say \\\"I feel upset that…\\\" instead of saying \\\"You're mean and you make me angry!\\\"\\nThe Prophet ﷺ said to his wife Hazrat Ayesha, \\\"Show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it.”\\nBreak rising tension by reminding yourself (and your husband) to avoid the influence of the Shaytan. Say something like, \\\"Love, let's not give in to the Shaytan. Can we discuss this when we are both calm?\\\"\\nPick your battles. Not everything that annoys you is worth a confrontation.\\n1-5. Discuss children.\\nDevelop a shared understanding with your partner about the desired size of your family and how they will be raised. Procreation is encouraged in order to build the Muslim population, but if you do not want children, you are not obliged by Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala to have them.\\nIf you decide to have children, discuss with your spouse how best to raise your children in the love and service of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.\\nRemember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa has entrusted the raising of future generation of Muslims with us, so we will be asked about it on the Day of Judgement and it will play a major part in determining our destiny in the Afterlife.\\nOne of the most important decisions is how your children will received their Islamic education. Madrassa after secular school, full-time Islamic school and homeschooling are all good options.\\nWhichever way, make sure that they are brought up in a Shariah-compliant home and practice what they learn.\\n2. Showing Your Love\\n2-1. Show your affection\\nEveryone needs tenderness from others. Express your affection to your husband in the ways that come naturally to you. Find out what your loved one responds to, and show him love in this way.\\nIf your husband likes physical affection, kiss and hug him when you greet him.\\nIf he likes to be told that you love him, tell him freely.\\nIf your spouse responds to compliments, look for something to compliment him about every day.\\nSome husbands love gifts. Arrange treats that are special to him.\\n2-2. Communicate your appreciation.\\nShow your gratitude for everything good he does for you. Express your pleasure in his company. When he accomplishes something he is proud of, congratulate them and tell him that he made you proud too. Affirm his feelings.\\nLeave him love notes and thank-you notes, but remember that all blessings come from Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, so say \\\"Alhamdulillah\\\" when you see something that makes you feel grateful.\\nConsider other ways of showing appreciation, such as helping him out with a task he is stuck on.\\n2-3. Enjoy your physical intimacy.\\nIslam forbids all sexual activity outside marriage but strongly encourages lawful spouses to invest in a mutually satisfying physical relationship. Explore your desires with your spouse, and encourage them to be open with you about what they enjoy.\\nLovemaking should be undertaken with three intentions in mind—to avoid Allah's punishment for zina (adultery), to protect from the gaze of strangers and to procreate future generations of pious young Muslims to serve Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.\\nWith these three intentions in mind, making love is not only an act of enjoyment but an act of worship that pleases Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa and will help strengthen your emaan.\\nFlirt and enjoy foreplay, as Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa encourages you to do.\\nEstablish consent with your partner. You may speak while you share intimate moments, although excessive talk should be avoided.\\nAsk for permission before initiating something new. Say what you enjoy, and ask your husband to stop if they are doing something you don't like or forbidden in the Shariah. Mutual pleasure and satisfaction are key.\\nAt the time of commencing intercourse both husband and wife should recite \\\"Bismillaah, Allahuma jannabnash shayTaana wa jannabish shayTaana maa razaqtanaa\\\" - In the name of Allah, O Allah! Save us from the Shaytaan and prevent Shaytaan from that which you grant us (i.e. children).\\nYour will be blessed if during intercourse you remain mindful of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa though it is makrooh (disliked) to make dhikr out loud at this time.\\nAt the time of ejaculation, you may say in your mind (but not out loud) \\\"Allaahumma laa taj,’Al lish shayTaani feemaa razaqtanee naSeebaa\\\" - O Allah! Do not grant Shaytaan any share of that which you have granted me\\\". These duas are important as God-willing they will help protect any progeny from harm.\\nBoth husband and wife must perform ghusl (major ritual bath) janabat as soon as possible after intercourse and certainly before salah or reading the Qur'an.\\nYou may make dhikr (except reading Qur'an) in the intervening time before performing Ghusl and may wish to take the opportunity to make dua together to thank Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for the gift of intimacy and to ask for pregnancy.\\n2-4. Be loving during breaks from sexual intimacy.\\nWhile sexual intimacy is encouraged between spouses, there are some activities and times when penetrative sex is forbidden by the Qur'an.\\nDuring Ramadan, abstain from sexual intimacy except at night between iftar and suhoor. Make sure you are rested and well-fed enough to enjoy the exertion! Remember that the reward for every good deed, including intimacy, is multiplied by 70 during Ramadan so be sure to take advantage of this.\\nThe Shariah prohibits intercourse during menstruation. However, cuddling, kissing, and caressing your husband to stimulate the emission of madiy are perfectly fine. He will always appreciate your touch, affection and understanding.\\nIf your husband is away for an extended period, for example on business or on a dawah (outreach) program, then maintain your chastity and seek Allah's reward by busying your mind reading and reciting the Qur'an, praying and fasting.\\nRemember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa is always watching so always be on guard to protect yourself from temptation by keeping up with your dhikr (remembrance of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa).\\nOtherwise, when in good health the wife is normally required to fulfill the husband's reasonable requests for conjugal relations (and similarly for the husband towards the wife), even if more than once in the night, or the Angels' curse will apply until the morning.\\nIf your husband exercises his Islamic right to marry a second wife (or even up to four), then try to find a way of making all the marriages work fairly, for example by accepting that he may stay two nights with each co-wife in turn, praying for your co-wife's happiness and expressing gratitude to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa when your turn comes.\\n3. Being Pious\\n3-1. See Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa in your spouse.\\nLook for Allah's love in your spouse's words, deeds, and appearance. Appreciate the work your spouse does to remain close to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, and everything they do to bring you closer to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa as well.\\nRemind your husband to stick to practices that brings him closer to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, especially Sunnah acts of ibadah (worship).\\nAlways keep the Qur'an at the center of your marriage. Read and recite the Qur'an together.\\nAsk your husband to remind you about the natural world, hygiene, exercise and other practices that help you feel in step with your faith.\\nStudy Islam together with your husband and try to implement what you learn in your home.\\nAvoid unnecessary interaction or chit-chat with unrelated men. If you do need to speak as a matter of necessity it should be done in a business-like manner and never in a room alone.\\n3-2. Pray.\\nPrayer is an vital part of every Muslims daily routine of worship. Make dua for the health of your relationship. Ask Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for guidance when you are experiencing difficulties with your spouse. Ask Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for ideas on how to please your husband, and think about these questions actively when you are not in prayer.\\nRemember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa loves to be asked for help and guidance, so always pray when you approach an important decision in your marriage.\\nSet aside time after every salat to pray for your husband and children. Thank Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for having a Muslim family and ask for help to keep them strong in their faith.\\nAllah Subhana wa Ta'alaa will hear your prayer and will answer it in the way that is best for you, even though this may sometimes seem to involve hardship.\\nAlways acknowledge your sins to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, including those against your husband, such as forgetting to lower the gaze. If you ask for mercy and sincerely promise not to repeat them then Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala will always be inclined to forgive.\\n3-3. Greet your husband with the traditional Islamic greeting.\\nWhen you encounter your spouse, say \\\"As-salaamu 'alaikum.\\\" Greet one another in this way to share your faith and celebrate your shared identity.\\nTeach you children to use the Islamic greeting too.\\n3-4. Dress in a way that reflects your relationship with Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, with your husband and with yourself.\\nModesty, cleanliness, and elegance are important in Islam and will be appreciated by a good husband. Dress to express your own faith and demonstrate your commitment to Islam.\\nFamiliarize yourself with the Islamic dress code and dress to please Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa by identifying yourself as a Muslimah.\\nSome wives choose to take the additional step of covering the face (niqaab) as an act of religious devotion. This is something that many husbands may suggest but it must be the wife's own decision.\\nBrush your teeth with a miswak and gently wash your face every day.\\n3-5. Protect yourself.\\nThe Qur'an emphasizes the importance of compassion, respect, and equity in marriages. Being a dutiful and obedient wife does not mean that you must suffer abuse. The Qur'an and Sunnah set out very clear limits on how the husband must treat his wife. If you are being badly treated, suffering emotional, verbal, sexual, or physical abuse, you can divorce your partner. The Qur'an states that Allah dislikes divorce, but allows for it in the name of justice:\\n\\\"If a woman fears ill-treatment (mushuz) or indifference (i'radh) from her husband, it is not wrong if (at her initiative) the two set things peacefully to right between themselves. If the two break up, Allah provides everyone out of His abundance, for Allah is resourceful, wise.\\\" (4:128-130)\\nWhilst the Muslim wife is normally required to obey her husband, this requirement is suspended in the case of a husband who is behaving in a way that opposes the will of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.\\n4:34 sets out how a husband may help his wife stay on the true path of Islam. It is not an excuse for violence.\\nWarnings\\nDon't ever accept abuse (physical or otherwise). Islam requires a good wife to be loving and obeying to her full extent of ability, but it also obliges the spouse to respect their wife, and treat her in a civilized and tender manner. Understand that this is an obligation your partner must fulfill.\\n\\nLearn how to recognize a manipulative or controlling relationship. Being a good wife in Islam does not mean you have to suffer in silence if your husband is physically, verbally or in any other way abusive.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"To be a successful Muslim wife, show your husband love, respect, and affection, and ask that they treat you similarly. Share responsibility for your daily life and enjoy one another's company. Together you can strengthen each other's faith and live a pious and loving life in the service of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Investing in Your Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be open with your husband.\", \"描述\": \"Build trust by sharing your thoughts and feelings freely with him. Ask the same of him. Your relationship will grow in strength and health if you are honest with one another.\\nCommunicate your expectations with your spouse. Tell him what you need from him, and ask him to tell you the same.\\nUnderstand that men and women have been created to be different, physically and emotionally. Each has a distinct role within a Muslim marriage but both should be mindful of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa and remain focused on the Afterlife.\\nStudy the Qur'an and Sunnah to better understand your and your husband's rights and responsibilities to each other and to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Share responsibilities around the house.\", \"描述\": \"You don't both have to do all the same work, but make sure that you both take on the responsibility of making your home a clean and pleasant place. The Prophet ﷺ used to help with chores and all Muslim husbands should follow his example.\\nSome partners may need to be reminded to help around the house. If your husband does not notice when things are messy, consider asking him to be in charge of particular chores.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have fun together.\", \"描述\": \"Get out and enjoy life in the service of Allah Subhaha wa Ta'alaa! A good friendship makes for a happy partnership. Share what you like with your spouse, and explore what he enjoys as well. Find things you both like, and make regular dates to do those activities.\\nTry new things together. You probably both have games, trips, sports or adventures you've wanted to do but haven't yet done.\\nTake turns leading expeditions and organizing new activities. Try to prioritize Sunnah activities like horse riding and archery over activities that have no Islamic benefit.\\nHave fun at home. If you have kids, play with them and read the Qur'an and stories of the Prophets of Islam together. Think up new ways to entertain them with your husband.\\nTeach your kids about Islam. Help them to understand that developing their relationship with Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa is the key to success in this life and the next. Teach them to pray and practice the religion.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Argue gently.\", \"描述\": \"All couples occasionally have disagreements. Try not to let them escalate into yelling or name-calling as this is unIslamic. Take deep breaths, stay calm, and use \\\"I\\\" statements when you are in an argument.\\nFor instance, if you are angry, say \\\"I feel upset that…\\\" instead of saying \\\"You're mean and you make me angry!\\\"\\nThe Prophet ﷺ said to his wife Hazrat Ayesha, \\\"Show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it.”\\nBreak rising tension by reminding yourself (and your husband) to avoid the influence of the Shaytan. Say something like, \\\"Love, let's not give in to the Shaytan. Can we discuss this when we are both calm?\\\"\\nPick your battles. Not everything that annoys you is worth a confrontation.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Discuss children.\", \"描述\": \"Develop a shared understanding with your partner about the desired size of your family and how they will be raised. Procreation is encouraged in order to build the Muslim population, but if you do not want children, you are not obliged by Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala to have them.\\nIf you decide to have children, discuss with your spouse how best to raise your children in the love and service of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.\\nRemember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa has entrusted the raising of future generation of Muslims with us, so we will be asked about it on the Day of Judgement and it will play a major part in determining our destiny in the Afterlife.\\nOne of the most important decisions is how your children will received their Islamic education. Madrassa after secular school, full-time Islamic school and homeschooling are all good options.\\nWhichever way, make sure that they are brought up in a Shariah-compliant home and practice what they learn.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Showing Your Love\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show your affection\", \"描述\": \"Everyone needs tenderness from others. Express your affection to your husband in the ways that come naturally to you. Find out what your loved one responds to, and show him love in this way.\\nIf your husband likes physical affection, kiss and hug him when you greet him.\\nIf he likes to be told that you love him, tell him freely.\\nIf your spouse responds to compliments, look for something to compliment him about every day.\\nSome husbands love gifts. Arrange treats that are special to him.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicate your appreciation.\", \"描述\": \"Show your gratitude for everything good he does for you. Express your pleasure in his company. When he accomplishes something he is proud of, congratulate them and tell him that he made you proud too. Affirm his feelings.\\nLeave him love notes and thank-you notes, but remember that all blessings come from Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, so say \\\"Alhamdulillah\\\" when you see something that makes you feel grateful.\\nConsider other ways of showing appreciation, such as helping him out with a task he is stuck on.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enjoy your physical intimacy.\", \"描述\": \"Islam forbids all sexual activity outside marriage but strongly encourages lawful spouses to invest in a mutually satisfying physical relationship. Explore your desires with your spouse, and encourage them to be open with you about what they enjoy.\\nLovemaking should be undertaken with three intentions in mind—to avoid Allah's punishment for zina (adultery), to protect from the gaze of strangers and to procreate future generations of pious young Muslims to serve Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa.\\nWith these three intentions in mind, making love is not only an act of enjoyment but an act of worship that pleases Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa and will help strengthen your emaan.\\nFlirt and enjoy foreplay, as Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa encourages you to do.\\nEstablish consent with your partner. You may speak while you share intimate moments, although excessive talk should be avoided.\\nAsk for permission before initiating something new. Say what you enjoy, and ask your husband to stop if they are doing something you don't like or forbidden in the Shariah. Mutual pleasure and satisfaction are key.\\nAt the time of commencing intercourse both husband and wife should recite \\\"Bismillaah, Allahuma jannabnash shayTaana wa jannabish shayTaana maa razaqtanaa\\\" - In the name of Allah, O Allah! Save us from the Shaytaan and prevent Shaytaan from that which you grant us (i.e. children).\\nYour will be blessed if during intercourse you remain mindful of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa though it is makrooh (disliked) to make dhikr out loud at this time.\\nAt the time of ejaculation, you may say in your mind (but not out loud) \\\"Allaahumma laa taj,’Al lish shayTaani feemaa razaqtanee naSeebaa\\\" - O Allah! Do not grant Shaytaan any share of that which you have granted me\\\". These duas are important as God-willing they will help protect any progeny from harm.\\nBoth husband and wife must perform ghusl (major ritual bath) janabat as soon as possible after intercourse and certainly before salah or reading the Qur'an.\\nYou may make dhikr (except reading Qur'an) in the intervening time before performing Ghusl and may wish to take the opportunity to make dua together to thank Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa for the gift of intimacy and to ask for pregnancy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be loving during breaks from sexual intimacy.\", \"描述\": \"While sexual intimacy is encouraged between spouses, there are some activities and times when penetrative sex is forbidden by the Qur'an.\\nDuring Ramadan, abstain from sexual intimacy except at night between iftar and suhoor. Make sure you are rested and well-fed enough to enjoy the exertion! Remember that the reward for every good deed, including intimacy, is multiplied by 70 during Ramadan so be sure to take advantage of this.\\nThe Shariah prohibits intercourse during menstruation. However, cuddling, kissing, and caressing your husband to stimulate the emission of madiy are perfectly fine. He will always appreciate your touch, affection and understanding.\\nIf your husband is away for an extended period, for example on business or on a dawah (outreach) program, then maintain your chastity and seek Allah's reward by busying your mind reading and reciting the Qur'an, praying and fasting.\\nRemember that Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa is always watching so always be on guard to protect yourself from temptation by keeping up with your dhikr (remembrance of Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa).\\nOtherwise, when in good health the wife is normally required to fulfill the husband's reasonable requests for conjugal relations (and similarly for the husband towards the wife), even if more than once in the night, or the Angels' curse will apply until the morning.\\nIf your husband exercises his Islamic right to marry a second wife (or even up to four), then try to find a way of making all the marriages work fairly, for example by accepting that he may stay two nights with each co-wife in turn, praying for your co-wife's happiness and expressing gratitude to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa when your turn comes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being Pious\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"See Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa in your spouse.\", \"描述\": \"Look for Allah's love in your spouse's words, deeds, and appearance. Appreciate the work your spouse does to remain close to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, and everything they do to bring you closer to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa as well.\\nRemind your husband to stick to practices that brings him closer to Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, especially Sunnah acts of ibadah (worship).\\nAlways keep the Qur'an at the center of your marriage. Read and recite the Qur'an together.\\nAsk your husband to remind you about the natural world, hygiene, exercise and other practices that help you feel in step with your faith.\\nStudy Islam together with your husband and try to implement what you learn in your home.\\nAvoid unnecessary interaction or chit-chat with unrelated men. If you do need to speak as a matter of necessity it should be done in a business-like manner and never in a room alone.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pray.\", \"描述\": \"Prayer is an vital part of every Muslims daily routine of worship. Make dua for the health of your relationship. 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If you ask for mercy and sincerely promise not to repeat them then Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala will always be inclined to forgive.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Greet your husband with the traditional Islamic greeting.\", \"描述\": \"When you encounter your spouse, say \\\"As-salaamu 'alaikum.\\\" Greet one another in this way to share your faith and celebrate your shared identity.\\nTeach you children to use the Islamic greeting too.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dress in a way that reflects your relationship with Allah Subhana wa Ta'alaa, with your husband and with yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Modesty, cleanliness, and elegance are important in Islam and will be appreciated by a good husband. 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How to Be a Successful Real Estate Agent
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1. Getting Licensed
1-1. Research the licensing standards in your state.
Each state has different requirements to become a licensed realtor. Search online or contact a brokerage in your area to determine the education and licensing requirements in your state.
1-2. Prepare for the real estate exam.
Study the topics covered on the real estate exam as you prepare for the test. Many companies offer test preparation services, but it is entirely possible to succeed on your own with proper determination and study.
Be knowledgeable about the types of real estate contracts prevalent in your area: exclusive listings, open listings, net listings, among others.
Familiarize yourself with real estate terminology.—There are many terms specific to real estate negotiations. Read widely about the buying and selling process, to integrate the terms into your psyche.
Understand tax laws and tax implications associated with real estate.
Be familiar with fiduciary relationships and disclosure obligations.
1-3. Register for the Real Estate Exam.
Find a test center near you to register for the exam. There are usually fees associated with taking the exam and often required background checks. Each state has its own licensing board and you should contact it to learn specifics of your location.
1-4. Apply for your license and insurance.
Depending on which state you are planning to work in, there may be different requirements for obtaining insurance or a license. Check with your local realtor association to see what requirements exist in your state.
2. Creating a Network
2-1. Partner with a registered broker.
Most states require new agents to work with a registered broker for a minimum amount of time. You are still working for yourself during this time; however, new agents operate under the umbrella of the brokerage before they are able to branch out and be fully independent.
Consider the coverage area for each brokerage firm of potential interest to you.
Find out if the brokerage specializes in buying or selling.
Research the benefits the brokerage provides to its agents.
2-2. Develop a list of contacts.
Real estate is all about who you know. Becoming connected with a wide referral network will help create a substantial body of new contacts.
Use customer management software to keep up with your list of contacts so that no one is forgotten.
Ask clients for referrals.
Sponsor local events.
2-3. Create a website and social media presence.
Connect with people who aren’t in your immediate circle of contacts by reaching out to the masses through social media.
Make social media pages dedicated to your real estate business.
Tweet listings and real estate tips as you come across them.
Monitor what others are saying/doing on social media to promote any opportunities for new business.
Post your listings and ways to search other listings (such as MLS links) on your website.
Keep your bio and closing history up to date on your website.
2-4. Exude an outgoing and welcoming personality to everyone you encounter.
Your personality strongly affects the people you interact with, so it is critical to make your clients feel special by giving them full attention while you are with them.
Get comfortable discussing contract terms with people who are not familiar with the real estate market.
Engage with new people in the community to forge new connections.
Listen to your clients and tend to their needs.
3. Marketing Yourself
3-1. Establish a schedule for prospecting.
Set aside time each week to develop new leads through email marketing or phone calls. Take time to advertise your services in small venues such as coffee shops or community gathering spots. Although buying leads can develop new business, the most productive leads come from direct interactions.
3-2. Get involved in the community.
Keep your finger on the pulse of the market by establishing a community presence.
Attend local festivals.
Sponsor local schools and sports teams.
Introduce yourself to neighbors.
3-3. Go virtual.
Make sure you stay connected with potential buyers in today’s virtual market. Many buyers do extensive online searching before contacting listings. Make your listings stand out by utilizing technology to display properties online.
Create 3D virtual tours of homes you list.
Post walkthrough video tours of listings.
Include pictures on every post of a listing.
3-4. Keep in touch with past clients.
75% of business for realtors generally comes from referrals. Make sure that you aren’t missing opportunities for new business by ignoring past clients.
Send a welcome home basket after closing.
Call clients 1-2 months after closing to follow up and make sure they’re satisfied.
Send a yearly newsletter to all your past clients; referrals may come several years after you first connected with a client.
3-5. Sell yourself.
As a realtor, selling yourself is just as important as selling property. Work to make connections with people first, and they will want to buy or sell their property with you.
4. Being a Life-Long Learner
4-1. Surround yourself with real estate professionals.
Making connections with people in the real estate industry gives you a network of professionals to draw from when searching listings. Keep your network strong by interacting with as many other realtors as you can.
Join local and national Realtor associations.
Connect with a mentor to ask questions and compare ideas.
Use client feedback to adjust your approach.
4-2. Attend seminars.
Many brokerages and realtor associations offer seminars on aspects of buying and selling or contract negotiations. Register to attend several seminars each year to keep track of new market strategies and to network with others in the industry.
4-3. Observe market and neighborhood trends.
Real estate markets are constantly changing. Be aware of the factors affecting pricing and availability in your area.
Keep a database of recent closing in the area to know comparable prices.
Track home values and trends in specific neighborhoods.
Monitor school rankings and test scores to share with clients.
Tips
Be tenacious and energetic. Don’t get down when the market is slow. Real estate tends to work in seasons with demand going up and down throughout the year; be prepared for these changes.
Use technology to your advantage. Tracking clients, providing virtual tours, and marketing your services can all be aided by technology.
Actively pursue new clients every day. You never know when you’ll meet your next client; introduce yourself to everyone you meet.
Warnings
It takes time to establish yourself as a realtor. Keep your day job or prepare for a break in income when you first start out.
Follow all ethical guidelines for realtors carefully to ensure you are fulfilling all your duties in your fiduciary relationship with your clients.
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Read widely about the buying and selling process, to integrate the terms into your psyche.\\nUnderstand tax laws and tax implications associated with real estate.\\nBe familiar with fiduciary relationships and disclosure obligations.\\n1-3. Register for the Real Estate Exam.\\nFind a test center near you to register for the exam. There are usually fees associated with taking the exam and often required background checks. Each state has its own licensing board and you should contact it to learn specifics of your location.\\n1-4. Apply for your license and insurance.\\nDepending on which state you are planning to work in, there may be different requirements for obtaining insurance or a license. Check with your local realtor association to see what requirements exist in your state.\\n2. Creating a Network\\n2-1. Partner with a registered broker.\\nMost states require new agents to work with a registered broker for a minimum amount of time. You are still working for yourself during this time; however, new agents operate under the umbrella of the brokerage before they are able to branch out and be fully independent.\\nConsider the coverage area for each brokerage firm of potential interest to you.\\nFind out if the brokerage specializes in buying or selling.\\nResearch the benefits the brokerage provides to its agents.\\n2-2. Develop a list of contacts.\\nReal estate is all about who you know. Becoming connected with a wide referral network will help create a substantial body of new contacts.\\nUse customer management software to keep up with your list of contacts so that no one is forgotten.\\nAsk clients for referrals.\\nSponsor local events.\\n2-3. Create a website and social media presence.\\nConnect with people who aren’t in your immediate circle of contacts by reaching out to the masses through social media.\\nMake social media pages dedicated to your real estate business.\\nTweet listings and real estate tips as you come across them.\\nMonitor what others are saying/doing on social media to promote any opportunities for new business.\\nPost your listings and ways to search other listings (such as MLS links) on your website.\\nKeep your bio and closing history up to date on your website.\\n2-4. Exude an outgoing and welcoming personality to everyone you encounter.\\nYour personality strongly affects the people you interact with, so it is critical to make your clients feel special by giving them full attention while you are with them.\\nGet comfortable discussing contract terms with people who are not familiar with the real estate market.\\nEngage with new people in the community to forge new connections.\\nListen to your clients and tend to their needs.\\n3. Marketing Yourself\\n3-1. Establish a schedule for prospecting.\\nSet aside time each week to develop new leads through email marketing or phone calls. Take time to advertise your services in small venues such as coffee shops or community gathering spots. Although buying leads can develop new business, the most productive leads come from direct interactions.\\n3-2. Get involved in the community.\\nKeep your finger on the pulse of the market by establishing a community presence.\\nAttend local festivals.\\nSponsor local schools and sports teams.\\nIntroduce yourself to neighbors.\\n3-3. Go virtual.\\nMake sure you stay connected with potential buyers in today’s virtual market. Many buyers do extensive online searching before contacting listings. Make your listings stand out by utilizing technology to display properties online.\\nCreate 3D virtual tours of homes you list.\\nPost walkthrough video tours of listings.\\nInclude pictures on every post of a listing.\\n3-4. Keep in touch with past clients.\\n75% of business for realtors generally comes from referrals. Make sure that you aren’t missing opportunities for new business by ignoring past clients.\\nSend a welcome home basket after closing.\\nCall clients 1-2 months after closing to follow up and make sure they’re satisfied.\\nSend a yearly newsletter to all your past clients; referrals may come several years after you first connected with a client.\\n3-5. Sell yourself.\\nAs a realtor, selling yourself is just as important as selling property. Work to make connections with people first, and they will want to buy or sell their property with you.\\n4. Being a Life-Long Learner\\n4-1. Surround yourself with real estate professionals.\\nMaking connections with people in the real estate industry gives you a network of professionals to draw from when searching listings. Keep your network strong by interacting with as many other realtors as you can.\\nJoin local and national Realtor associations.\\nConnect with a mentor to ask questions and compare ideas.\\nUse client feedback to adjust your approach.\\n4-2. Attend seminars.\\nMany brokerages and realtor associations offer seminars on aspects of buying and selling or contract negotiations. Register to attend several seminars each year to keep track of new market strategies and to network with others in the industry.\\n4-3. Observe market and neighborhood trends.\\nReal estate markets are constantly changing. Be aware of the factors affecting pricing and availability in your area.\\nKeep a database of recent closing in the area to know comparable prices.\\nTrack home values and trends in specific neighborhoods.\\nMonitor school rankings and test scores to share with clients.\\nTips\\nBe tenacious and energetic. Don’t get down when the market is slow. Real estate tends to work in seasons with demand going up and down throughout the year; be prepared for these changes.\\nUse technology to your advantage. Tracking clients, providing virtual tours, and marketing your services can all be aided by technology.\\nActively pursue new clients every day. You never know when you’ll meet your next client; introduce yourself to everyone you meet.\\nWarnings\\nIt takes time to establish yourself as a realtor. Keep your day job or prepare for a break in income when you first start out.\\nFollow all ethical guidelines for realtors carefully to ensure you are fulfilling all your duties in your fiduciary relationship with your clients.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Becoming a successful real estate agent is directly related to the amount of effort you put forth. Each state has different requirements for realtors, so be careful to follow the guidelines specific to your state. 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You are still working for yourself during this time; however, new agents operate under the umbrella of the brokerage before they are able to branch out and be fully independent.\\nConsider the coverage area for each brokerage firm of potential interest to you.\\nFind out if the brokerage specializes in buying or selling.\\nResearch the benefits the brokerage provides to its agents.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop a list of contacts.\", \"描述\": \"Real estate is all about who you know. 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1. Getting Into the Right Mindset
1-1. Love your job.
You'll never succeed in sales, or in any job, if you don't love what you do. The best salespeople love the struggle of gaining sales leads, talking and listening to prospects, and closing the sale. Only by truly wanting to be there can you put in the extra work and effort required to be the best of the best. If you don't already love your job or the product you are selling, quit and sell something else. You may not make money initially, but your hard work will pay off eventually.
1-2. Work on your assertiveness.
Salespeople walk a delicate line between making a prospect realize that they need a product and trying not to be overly forceful. By being assertive, rather than aggressive or passive, in your statements and questions to prospects, you can move the conversation forward without making them angry or defensive. Assertive statements get your point across directly and clearly without threatening the prospect. For example:
A passive question would be, "Is there any way you could let me know when we can meet again?"
An aggressive statement would be, "You've got five seconds to make a decision before I walk out."
An assertive statement would be, "Let's meet again next week. Think about my offer and have a decision ready by then."
1-3. Strive to improve.
You should always be assessing what you're doing right and using that improving upon your sales process. The best thing you can do for yourself is to keep learning and improving over the years. You should read books related to sales, attend industry seminars, listen to podcasts, and follow famous salespeople who inspire you on social media. Immerse yourself in learning and your field and you will learn skills and new developments that you can use to further your own goals.
1-4. Model your behavior on other successful salespeople.
Start by imitating the best salespeople at your company. What do they do? How do they talk to people? Ask them for tips and advice. Older salespeople, those close to retirement, are often very willing to help newcomers. You can also search for blog posts and seminars by highly successful salespeople and modify your behavior to match theirs.
1-5. Set ambitious goals for yourself.
Even if the company you work for has set goals for you, set your own even higher. Work to be the best salesperson in your company. The competition will drive you to innovate and work harder. When you have success, set your goals even higher. Even when you think you've reached a plateau, you can always do at least a little bit better.
2. Holding the Customer's Interest
2-1. Introduce yourself briefly.
There are several ways the beginning of a conversation with a prospect can go wrong. For one, many salespeople immediately launch into their "elevator pitch" without giving the prospect a chance at a real conversation. Others spend too long making small talk and force the prospect to ask why they are there. The sweet spot is right in the middle: tell your prospect in a few sentences who you are what business or company you represent. Don't talk about yourself or your product until you've had a chance to get to know the prospect.
2-2. Ask more than you answer
In recent years, salespeople have realized that the best way to draw a prospect into a sale is by asking questions rather than making statements or promises about a product. The truth is that people are resistant to being sold to. To make a sale, you instead have to ask your prospect questions until you can understand if and how you can help them. Start by asking them generic questions about their business or industry. Get to know what they care about.
2-3. Get to know your prospect's problems.
Slowly direct your questions towards assessing your prospect's problems. Is there something they wished was better about their business? Look for opportunities to ask about a problem they are having with a product similar to your own that they are already using. Ask them what they think could be changed to make it better. Again, don't make any promises or explanations about your own product yet. You still haven't convinced them of the need for a change.
Try forcing the prospect to think about the problem further by suggesting that they consider what might happen if they don't solve their problem. What would be the cost in lost sales? What would they not be able to do?
2-4. Stay attuned to your prospect's mood.
During this whole process, you may find that your prospect is not responding adequately to your questions. Notice their behavior and body language. Are they looking away frequently or talking quickly? Do they seem upset in any way? If you see these signs, simply ask if a different meeting date would be more appropriate. Realize that your prospect may be having a busy or difficult day and respect that by giving them space.
2-5. Explain that you can solve their problems.
Once you've assessed your prospect's problems, compare them to what your product offers. Can you actually help them? If not, move on; you can't make a sale when the customer doesn't want or need your product. If you can help them, ask them what they would do if you solved their problem. Formulate your questions such that you draw them into wanting to know about how you plan to solve their stated problems.
2-6. Don't mention your product until you've convinced your prospect that they need it.
At this point, you can finally launch into an explanation of what exactly your product is, what it does, and how it can solve their problems. However, don't give them a full technical product description. Instead, focus on the parts that relate to their problem and business. They can usually get full information on your company's website if they need it, so don't worry about giving it to them here.
3. Closing the Deal
3-1. Ask the prospect if they have any questions or concerns.
When you've completed your explanation, ask the prospect if they have any questions. If so, answer them to the extent they demand. Once they are comfortable in their knowledge of the product and what it can do for them, ask them flat out if there is anything stopping them from moving forward with a purchase. At this point is where your true salesman tactics should kick in. Work to think critically about their situation and what kind of accommodations or solutions you could provide them.
3-2. Encourage your prospect to make decision.
Don't ask them to decide directly, but rather coax them into making some sort of decision, whether that is meeting with your again for a demonstration or ordering a few units. If you need to, give them a few days to consider your offer and get back to you. Make sure you leave several different forms of contact information so that they can reach you easily.
3-3. Follow through on potential sales.
If you think that you have even the slightest chance of convincing a prospect to buy, keep contacting them. If the prospect asked for a week to think about your offer, call them in a week's time and ask for their thoughts. Spend the time in between thinking of better ways you might be able to help them or how you can convince them to buy.
3-4. Stay in touch with clients
After a sale, your relationship with a client shouldn't just come to an end. Instead, you should work to maintain it so that you can gain return business from the client and also hopefully get referrals from them. Work on staying in touch by sending simple reminders to your clients, like birthday or anniversary cards or messages on social media. Other ideas include:
Sending clients informative articles relevant to their industry.
Crafting a newsletter to email to clients.
Scheduling get-togethers for coffee or lunch.
Finding creative ways to stay in touch that will stand out to clients.
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Assertive statements get your point across directly and clearly without threatening the prospect. For example: \\nA passive question would be, \\\"Is there any way you could let me know when we can meet again?\\\"\\nAn aggressive statement would be, \\\"You've got five seconds to make a decision before I walk out.\\\"\\nAn assertive statement would be, \\\"Let's meet again next week. Think about my offer and have a decision ready by then.\\\"\\n1-3. Strive to improve.\\nYou should always be assessing what you're doing right and using that improving upon your sales process. The best thing you can do for yourself is to keep learning and improving over the years. You should read books related to sales, attend industry seminars, listen to podcasts, and follow famous salespeople who inspire you on social media. Immerse yourself in learning and your field and you will learn skills and new developments that you can use to further your own goals.\\n1-4. Model your behavior on other successful salespeople.\\nStart by imitating the best salespeople at your company. What do they do? How do they talk to people? Ask them for tips and advice. Older salespeople, those close to retirement, are often very willing to help newcomers. You can also search for blog posts and seminars by highly successful salespeople and modify your behavior to match theirs.\\n1-5. Set ambitious goals for yourself.\\nEven if the company you work for has set goals for you, set your own even higher. Work to be the best salesperson in your company. The competition will drive you to innovate and work harder. When you have success, set your goals even higher. Even when you think you've reached a plateau, you can always do at least a little bit better.\\n2. Holding the Customer's Interest\\n2-1. Introduce yourself briefly.\\nThere are several ways the beginning of a conversation with a prospect can go wrong. For one, many salespeople immediately launch into their \\\"elevator pitch\\\" without giving the prospect a chance at a real conversation. Others spend too long making small talk and force the prospect to ask why they are there. The sweet spot is right in the middle: tell your prospect in a few sentences who you are what business or company you represent. Don't talk about yourself or your product until you've had a chance to get to know the prospect.\\n2-2. Ask more than you answer\\nIn recent years, salespeople have realized that the best way to draw a prospect into a sale is by asking questions rather than making statements or promises about a product. The truth is that people are resistant to being sold to. To make a sale, you instead have to ask your prospect questions until you can understand if and how you can help them. Start by asking them generic questions about their business or industry. Get to know what they care about.\\n2-3. Get to know your prospect's problems.\\nSlowly direct your questions towards assessing your prospect's problems. Is there something they wished was better about their business? Look for opportunities to ask about a problem they are having with a product similar to your own that they are already using. Ask them what they think could be changed to make it better. Again, don't make any promises or explanations about your own product yet. You still haven't convinced them of the need for a change. \\nTry forcing the prospect to think about the problem further by suggesting that they consider what might happen if they don't solve their problem. What would be the cost in lost sales? What would they not be able to do?\\n2-4. Stay attuned to your prospect's mood.\\nDuring this whole process, you may find that your prospect is not responding adequately to your questions. Notice their behavior and body language. Are they looking away frequently or talking quickly? Do they seem upset in any way? If you see these signs, simply ask if a different meeting date would be more appropriate. Realize that your prospect may be having a busy or difficult day and respect that by giving them space.\\n2-5. Explain that you can solve their problems.\\nOnce you've assessed your prospect's problems, compare them to what your product offers. Can you actually help them? If not, move on; you can't make a sale when the customer doesn't want or need your product. If you can help them, ask them what they would do if you solved their problem. Formulate your questions such that you draw them into wanting to know about how you plan to solve their stated problems.\\n2-6. Don't mention your product until you've convinced your prospect that they need it.\\nAt this point, you can finally launch into an explanation of what exactly your product is, what it does, and how it can solve their problems. However, don't give them a full technical product description. Instead, focus on the parts that relate to their problem and business. They can usually get full information on your company's website if they need it, so don't worry about giving it to them here.\\n3. Closing the Deal\\n3-1. Ask the prospect if they have any questions or concerns.\\nWhen you've completed your explanation, ask the prospect if they have any questions. If so, answer them to the extent they demand. Once they are comfortable in their knowledge of the product and what it can do for them, ask them flat out if there is anything stopping them from moving forward with a purchase. At this point is where your true salesman tactics should kick in. Work to think critically about their situation and what kind of accommodations or solutions you could provide them.\\n3-2. Encourage your prospect to make decision.\\nDon't ask them to decide directly, but rather coax them into making some sort of decision, whether that is meeting with your again for a demonstration or ordering a few units. If you need to, give them a few days to consider your offer and get back to you. Make sure you leave several different forms of contact information so that they can reach you easily.\\n3-3. Follow through on potential sales.\\nIf you think that you have even the slightest chance of convincing a prospect to buy, keep contacting them. If the prospect asked for a week to think about your offer, call them in a week's time and ask for their thoughts. Spend the time in between thinking of better ways you might be able to help them or how you can convince them to buy.\\n3-4. Stay in touch with clients\\nAfter a sale, your relationship with a client shouldn't just come to an end. Instead, you should work to maintain it so that you can gain return business from the client and also hopefully get referrals from them. Work on staying in touch by sending simple reminders to your clients, like birthday or anniversary cards or messages on social media. Other ideas include:\\nSending clients informative articles relevant to their industry.\\nCrafting a newsletter to email to clients.\\nScheduling get-togethers for coffee or lunch.\\nFinding creative ways to stay in touch that will stand out to clients.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you're new to sales, the whole process may be completely overwhelming. You may be constantly working and calling and negotiating, but you can't seem to get the sales figures you want. However, by studying the habits and qualities of successful salespeople, you can tweak your own sales process and start trending those sales numbers back up. Consider the following suggestions and implement them in your process where you can.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Into the Right Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Love your job.\", \"描述\": \"You'll never succeed in sales, or in any job, if you don't love what you do. The best salespeople love the struggle of gaining sales leads, talking and listening to prospects, and closing the sale. Only by truly wanting to be there can you put in the extra work and effort required to be the best of the best. If you don't already love your job or the product you are selling, quit and sell something else. You may not make money initially, but your hard work will pay off eventually.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work on your assertiveness.\", \"描述\": \"Salespeople walk a delicate line between making a prospect realize that they need a product and trying not to be overly forceful. By being assertive, rather than aggressive or passive, in your statements and questions to prospects, you can move the conversation forward without making them angry or defensive. Assertive statements get your point across directly and clearly without threatening the prospect. For example: \\nA passive question would be, \\\"Is there any way you could let me know when we can meet again?\\\"\\nAn aggressive statement would be, \\\"You've got five seconds to make a decision before I walk out.\\\"\\nAn assertive statement would be, \\\"Let's meet again next week. Think about my offer and have a decision ready by then.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Strive to improve.\", \"描述\": \"You should always be assessing what you're doing right and using that improving upon your sales process. The best thing you can do for yourself is to keep learning and improving over the years. You should read books related to sales, attend industry seminars, listen to podcasts, and follow famous salespeople who inspire you on social media. Immerse yourself in learning and your field and you will learn skills and new developments that you can use to further your own goals.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Model your behavior on other successful salespeople.\", \"描述\": \"Start by imitating the best salespeople at your company. What do they do? How do they talk to people? Ask them for tips and advice. Older salespeople, those close to retirement, are often very willing to help newcomers. You can also search for blog posts and seminars by highly successful salespeople and modify your behavior to match theirs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Set ambitious goals for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Even if the company you work for has set goals for you, set your own even higher. Work to be the best salesperson in your company. The competition will drive you to innovate and work harder. When you have success, set your goals even higher. Even when you think you've reached a plateau, you can always do at least a little bit better.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Holding the Customer's Interest\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Introduce yourself briefly.\", \"描述\": \"There are several ways the beginning of a conversation with a prospect can go wrong. For one, many salespeople immediately launch into their \\\"elevator pitch\\\" without giving the prospect a chance at a real conversation. Others spend too long making small talk and force the prospect to ask why they are there. The sweet spot is right in the middle: tell your prospect in a few sentences who you are what business or company you represent. Don't talk about yourself or your product until you've had a chance to get to know the prospect.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask more than you answer\", \"描述\": \"In recent years, salespeople have realized that the best way to draw a prospect into a sale is by asking questions rather than making statements or promises about a product. The truth is that people are resistant to being sold to. To make a sale, you instead have to ask your prospect questions until you can understand if and how you can help them. Start by asking them generic questions about their business or industry. Get to know what they care about.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get to know your prospect's problems.\", \"描述\": \"Slowly direct your questions towards assessing your prospect's problems. Is there something they wished was better about their business? Look for opportunities to ask about a problem they are having with a product similar to your own that they are already using. Ask them what they think could be changed to make it better. Again, don't make any promises or explanations about your own product yet. You still haven't convinced them of the need for a change. \\nTry forcing the prospect to think about the problem further by suggesting that they consider what might happen if they don't solve their problem. What would be the cost in lost sales? What would they not be able to do?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay attuned to your prospect's mood.\", \"描述\": \"During this whole process, you may find that your prospect is not responding adequately to your questions. Notice their behavior and body language. Are they looking away frequently or talking quickly? Do they seem upset in any way? If you see these signs, simply ask if a different meeting date would be more appropriate. Realize that your prospect may be having a busy or difficult day and respect that by giving them space.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Explain that you can solve their problems.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've assessed your prospect's problems, compare them to what your product offers. Can you actually help them? If not, move on; you can't make a sale when the customer doesn't want or need your product. If you can help them, ask them what they would do if you solved their problem. Formulate your questions such that you draw them into wanting to know about how you plan to solve their stated problems.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't mention your product until you've convinced your prospect that they need it.\", \"描述\": \"At this point, you can finally launch into an explanation of what exactly your product is, what it does, and how it can solve their problems. However, don't give them a full technical product description. Instead, focus on the parts that relate to their problem and business. They can usually get full information on your company's website if they need it, so don't worry about giving it to them here.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Closing the Deal\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask the prospect if they have any questions or concerns.\", \"描述\": \"When you've completed your explanation, ask the prospect if they have any questions. If so, answer them to the extent they demand. Once they are comfortable in their knowledge of the product and what it can do for them, ask them flat out if there is anything stopping them from moving forward with a purchase. At this point is where your true salesman tactics should kick in. Work to think critically about their situation and what kind of accommodations or solutions you could provide them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Encourage your prospect to make decision.\", \"描述\": \"Don't ask them to decide directly, but rather coax them into making some sort of decision, whether that is meeting with your again for a demonstration or ordering a few units. If you need to, give them a few days to consider your offer and get back to you. Make sure you leave several different forms of contact information so that they can reach you easily.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Follow through on potential sales.\", \"描述\": \"If you think that you have even the slightest chance of convincing a prospect to buy, keep contacting them. If the prospect asked for a week to think about your offer, call them in a week's time and ask for their thoughts. Spend the time in between thinking of better ways you might be able to help them or how you can convince them to buy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay in touch with clients\", \"描述\": \"After a sale, your relationship with a client shouldn't just come to an end. Instead, you should work to maintain it so that you can gain return business from the client and also hopefully get referrals from them. Work on staying in touch by sending simple reminders to your clients, like birthday or anniversary cards or messages on social media. Other ideas include:\\nSending clients informative articles relevant to their industry.\\nCrafting a newsletter to email to clients.\\nScheduling get-togethers for coffee or lunch.\\nFinding creative ways to stay in touch that will stand out to clients.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Shop for school supplies.
You should have at least some of the following:
A large 3 ring binder to organize your work and notes in. If there is a rule that you have to have a small binder for each class, just ignore this.
6 pocket folders. Label one side "Homework" and label the other "Corrected".
Lots of pencils and pens.
Scissors, rulers, glue sticks, glue bottle, markers, crayons etc.
At least 3 spiral and composition notebooks for different classes.
Notebook paper. Some schools require College Ruled or Wide Ruled, check with your school first.
1-2. Wear some cool outfits.
You don't want to wear the same thing every day, right? You don't have to have the coolest American Eagle clothing but at least have some of these. If your parents are very strict, just say, "Hey Mom, I saw this really cool tank-top on the American Eagle website" and maybe go to the mall and check it out. You should have a variety of tees, tank-tops, jeans, hoodies, sweaters etc. Accessories look good too. Cheap places to get clothing are Forever 21, Target and Boscov's.
1-3. Have good hygiene.
Brush your teeth at least twice a day. Shower everyday, wash your hair at least once a week. Use shampoo on the top part of your hair, and use conditioner for the bottom. Floss everyday. You can wear perfume and body spray because no one will like a girl that smells stinky after gym right?
1-4. Don't use too much makeup.
Use mascara, light skin color eye shadow, concealer, and lip gloss. Don't use any more than this. If you use too much, it distracts from your natural beauty. You're young!
1-5. Choose a good pair of shoes.
You can get top brands like UGGS, but they are very expensive. But some other brands have their own "uggs". Converse shoes are in fashion right now. If you can't offer Allstar, you can get some cheap airwalk. Flipflops and sandals are musts. Flats are also okay.
1-6. Be positive!
If you slunk in the classroom, others will be like, "oh my god, she is so not confident." Walk in like you are walking on the red carpet. They'll know that you aren't scared even if you are on the inside. Also, smile. Really smile. Your smile will always look great.
1-7. Get good grades, and get your homework assignments done.
Aim for all A's or B's. Social networking sites such as Facebook can be disruptive, so just check your page once every week.
1-8. Behave well.
This may sound obvious, but your seventh grade marks can matter for high school placement, and bad behavior can take away from your grades. In addition, any trouble you make will be on your record permanently and may build you a bad reputation.
1-9. Have a great year and try your best!
Never blame yourself over any mistakes, simply try to improve any things you are bad at.
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You should have a variety of tees, tank-tops, jeans, hoodies, sweaters etc. Accessories look good too. Cheap places to get clothing are Forever 21, Target and Boscov's.\\n1-3. Have good hygiene.\\nBrush your teeth at least twice a day. Shower everyday, wash your hair at least once a week. Use shampoo on the top part of your hair, and use conditioner for the bottom. Floss everyday. You can wear perfume and body spray because no one will like a girl that smells stinky after gym right?\\n1-4. Don't use too much makeup.\\nUse mascara, light skin color eye shadow, concealer, and lip gloss. Don't use any more than this. If you use too much, it distracts from your natural beauty. You're young!\\n1-5. Choose a good pair of shoes.\\nYou can get top brands like UGGS, but they are very expensive. But some other brands have their own \\\"uggs\\\". Converse shoes are in fashion right now. If you can't offer Allstar, you can get some cheap airwalk. Flipflops and sandals are musts. Flats are also okay.\\n1-6. Be positive!\\nIf you slunk in the classroom, others will be like, \\\"oh my god, she is so not confident.\\\" Walk in like you are walking on the red carpet. They'll know that you aren't scared even if you are on the inside. Also, smile. Really smile. Your smile will always look great.\\n1-7. Get good grades, and get your homework assignments done.\\nAim for all A's or B's. Social networking sites such as Facebook can be disruptive, so just check your page once every week.\\n1-8. Behave well.\\nThis may sound obvious, but your seventh grade marks can matter for high school placement, and bad behavior can take away from your grades. In addition, any trouble you make will be on your record permanently and may build you a bad reputation.\\n1-9. Have a great year and try your best!\\nNever blame yourself over any mistakes, simply try to improve any things you are bad at.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Nervous for your first day of seventh grade? Follow these steps and you can have a great year!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Shop for school supplies.\", \"描述\": \"You should have at least some of the following:\\nA large 3 ring binder to organize your work and notes in. If there is a rule that you have to have a small binder for each class, just ignore this.\\n6 pocket folders. Label one side \\\"Homework\\\" and label the other \\\"Corrected\\\".\\nLots of pencils and pens.\\nScissors, rulers, glue sticks, glue bottle, markers, crayons etc.\\nAt least 3 spiral and composition notebooks for different classes.\\nNotebook paper. Some schools require College Ruled or Wide Ruled, check with your school first.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear some cool outfits.\", \"描述\": \"You don't want to wear the same thing every day, right? You don't have to have the coolest American Eagle clothing but at least have some of these. If your parents are very strict, just say, \\\"Hey Mom, I saw this really cool tank-top on the American Eagle website\\\" and maybe go to the mall and check it out. You should have a variety of tees, tank-tops, jeans, hoodies, sweaters etc. Accessories look good too. Cheap places to get clothing are Forever 21, Target and Boscov's.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"Brush your teeth at least twice a day. Shower everyday, wash your hair at least once a week. Use shampoo on the top part of your hair, and use conditioner for the bottom. Floss everyday. You can wear perfume and body spray because no one will like a girl that smells stinky after gym right?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't use too much makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Use mascara, light skin color eye shadow, concealer, and lip gloss. Don't use any more than this. If you use too much, it distracts from your natural beauty. You're young!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Choose a good pair of shoes.\", \"描述\": \"You can get top brands like UGGS, but they are very expensive. But some other brands have their own \\\"uggs\\\". Converse shoes are in fashion right now. If you can't offer Allstar, you can get some cheap airwalk. Flipflops and sandals are musts. Flats are also okay.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be positive!\", \"描述\": \"If you slunk in the classroom, others will be like, \\\"oh my god, she is so not confident.\\\" Walk in like you are walking on the red carpet. They'll know that you aren't scared even if you are on the inside. Also, smile. Really smile. Your smile will always look great.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get good grades, and get your homework assignments done.\", \"描述\": \"Aim for all A's or B's. Social networking sites such as Facebook can be disruptive, so just check your page once every week.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Behave well.\", \"描述\": \"This may sound obvious, but your seventh grade marks can matter for high school placement, and bad behavior can take away from your grades. In addition, any trouble you make will be on your record permanently and may build you a bad reputation.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Have a great year and try your best!\", \"描述\": \"Never blame yourself over any mistakes, simply try to improve any things you are bad at.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a Successful Student
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1. Developing the Qualities of a Successful Student
1-1. Make your studies a priority.
Successful students know how to succeed because they’ve made their studies their top priority. Though it’s important to make time for friends, family, extracurricular activities, and even some solo down time, you should never neglect the time you need to spend studying. If you have an important exam coming up and don’t feel prepared, then you should probably skip the big party two days before it. If you’re really behind on your French, then you may need to skip that new episode of Criminal Minds for the time being. This doesn’t mean that you can never do the things you want to do, but that you should recognize when studying should be at the top of your list.
That said, you can’t ignore everything in the world just so you can study. If a friend or family member is having a crisis, you can’t ditch him or her just to study, either.
1-2. Be punctual.
Develop the habit of judging time and learn how to arrive where you need to be on time. In fact, you should plan to be a bit early anywhere you go so you have time to get situated, focused, and ready to learn when you get there. Whether you have to take a test or have a study date with a friend, it’s important to be on time if you want to be a successful student.
1-3. Work honestly.
This means you should do your own work, avoid copying, and avoid cheating at all costs. Cheating won’t get you anywhere, and what may seem like a shortcut one day can actually get you into a lot of trouble the next. It’s never worth it to cheat on a test, and you’re far better off not doing well on an exam you’re not prepared for than getting caught cheating. Even if you’re not caught, cheating makes you think it’s okay to take shortcuts when it comes to life and studying, and it can lead to some bad habits down the line.
Don’t fall into peer pressure, either. In some schools, cheating is considered the norm, and it seems like so many kids are doing it that you might as well join in. This kind of group thinking is very dangerous and can keep you from reaching your full potential.
1-4. Stay focused.
Successful students stay focused on the task at hand. If you have to study one chapter of your history book for an hour, you need to commit to doing so instead of letting your mind wander. If you need a break, take a short 10 minute one, but don’t let it run over into an hour long break with only 10 minutes of studying. You can actually train your mind to concentrate for longer and longer periods of time, so even if you feel like you can’t focus for more than 15 minutes straight, just work on building up to 20 minutes, and then building up to 30 minutes and so on.
That said, most people really shouldn’t focus or do one task for more than 60 or 90 minutes. Getting a 10-15 minute break in between those times can help you regenerate your energy and commit to focusing again.
1-5. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.
Successful students succeed on their own terms. They don’t care what their brother, neighbor, or lab partner does in school because they know that in the end, all that matters is their own success. If you get too bogged down in what other people are doing, then you’re bound to be disappointed in yourself or to become so competitive that your mind gets poisoned. Learn to brush the others aside and to focus on doing the best that you can do.
1-6. Work on making incremental progress.
If you want to be a successful student, then you shouldn’t aim to go from a “C” to an “A” average. Instead, you should work on going to a “C+” and then a “B-,” and so on, so your progress is manageable and so you don’t get disappointed. Successful students know that it’s hard to improve by leaps and bounds and focus on the details instead of jumping ahead to the final product. If you want to be a successful student, then you have to be okay with improving little by little.
1-7. Get excited about the material.
Successful students aren’t just machines who work to get “A”s no matter what. They actually care and are interested in the material that they study, and their passion for knowledge helps them improve. Of course, you can’t get excited about every little thing you’re learning, from photosynthesis to linear equations, but you can try to find something that you care about in every class. This will keep you focused and will make it more fun for you to learn.
If you really find something you’re passionate about in class, then you should do some outside reading to get even more excited about the topic. For example, if you loved reading The Sun Also Rises in class, try reading A Movable Feast or some of Hemingway’s other works on your own, too.
2. Succeeding in the Classroom
2-1. Pay attention.
If you want to be a successful student, then paying attention in class is absolutely crucial to your success. While you don’t have to love every single subject that comes your way, you should be motivated enough to listen to your teachers, to avoid texting your friends, and to be focused enough to really hear what your teacher is telling you, and to be able to pick up on the most important aspects of each lesson.
In order to pay attention, it’s important to keep your eye on the teacher.
If you’re confused about something, you can quickly ask for clarification. If the lesson goes on and you feel yourself getting more and more lost, it’ll be hard to pay attention.
2-2. Take notes
Taking notes is also crucial to your success as a student. Not only will taking notes help you study later, but doing so will also keep you engaged in the classroom, and will help you learn the material because you’ll have to jot it down in your own words. Some people even use different highlighters or pens to organize their notes as they take them to really help them absorb the material. Taking notes will make you feel more accountable in the classroom and will help you listen to your teachers.
2-3. Ask questions.
If you really want to succeed in the classroom, then it’s important that you ask your teachers questions, when it’s appropriate, in order to get a stronger understanding of the material. You shouldn’t interrupt the lessons, but you should ask questions if you really have them in order to avoid being confused and to prepare for your exams. Asking questions will also keep you active in the discussion and will help you learn the material, too.
At the end of each class, you can also review your notes and prepare questions to ask the next time if anything is unclear. Some teachers want you to wait until the end of the lecture to ask questions. If this is the case with your teacher, be respectful of that.
2-4. Participate.
If you want to succeed as a student, then it’s important for you to participate in class. You should not only ask questions when you have them, but you should also answer your teacher’s questions, be an active member of group activities, volunteer to help your teacher during class, and make sure to be as active as possible in the classroom so you can really get the most out of the learning experience. Participating will also help you develop a good relationship with your teachers, which will also help you in the classroom.
You don’t have to raise your hand after every question, but you should make an effort to talk when you have something to say.
Remember the principle of 3-3-3. In every class, answer at least 3 questions. This may boost up your participation scores.
Participation is important in group work, too. Successful students work well by themselves and with others.
2-5. Avoid distractions in the classroom.
If you want to make the most of your learning experience, then you should try to focus as much as you can. Avoid sitting next to your friends or chatty students, and put away your food, your magazines, your phone, or anything else that is keeping you from your studies. You can reward yourself by talking to your friends, reading your magazines, or doing whatever else you do for fun later, but you can’t let it get in the way of your study habits.
If other students are an easy distraction or you feel like you might just talk to them because you're bored of the current topic, ask the teacher if you could move seats. If not, try your best to ignore the distraction and if they continue, ask them politely to stop.
Try not to think about one class when you’re sitting in another. Be present in the room you’re in and worry about the next class when you get there.
2-6. Develop positive relationships with your teachers.
Another way to really succeed in the classroom is to develop strong connections with your teachers. While you don’t want to suck up or attempt to become best friends with them, building a strong rapport with your teachers can help you when you need to ask them for extra help and can also make you gain a stronger interest in the material. Work on showing up to class on time and following your teacher’s rules so that you can make the most of your studies.
Don’t worry about people thinking you’re the teacher’s pet if you’re nice to your teachers. You’re just making an effort to be a better student.
If your teachers like you more, they’ll be more willing to help you and to answer your questions, and will be more understanding if something comes up.
2-7. Sit near the teacher if you can.
If you’re in a classroom where you can choose your own seats, then you should think about sitting toward the front of the room, near the teacher. This will help you focus since it’ll be harder to get distracted or to do something other than pay attention when the teacher is right there. It’ll also help you build a stronger bond with your teacher, especially if you’re in a large lecture hall, because teachers tend to engage more with the people who are sitting in front.
Don’t worry about people thinking you’re a brown noser. You’re just doing the best you can to absorb the material you need to know.
2-8. Take advantage of extra credit!
Take the opportunity to gain extra credit whenever possible. A lot of schools especially as you get older don't offer a lot of extra credit so grab it whenever possible.
3. Succeeding When You Study
3-1. Create a game plan for each study session.
One way to succeed when you study is to have a solid game plan before each study session. This will ensure that you’re focused, that you meet your goals, and that your sessions are productive. Block off your studying in 15 or 30-minute chunks of time and write a list of what you will do during each time period, whether you’re studying flashcards, reviewing your notes, or taking practice tests. This will keep you from feeling overwhelmed or unmotivated.
Having a list that you can check off will make you more motivated. You’ll feel accomplished and focused as you check each item off your list.
3-2. Plug your study sessions into your schedule.
Another important method for succeeding in your studies is to make sure that you have a planner and that you block off study time in advance. You should make sure to make time for studying most weekdays and even on the weekends, when it’s necessary. Though you don’t want to bite off more than you can chew, you want to avoid filling your calendar with social events and extracurricular activities and ending up with no time to study.
If you make a point of blocking off time to study, then you won’t end up planning social events during that time, which will keep you from studying. You may not even realize that your social calendar is booked until you try to make time for your studies.
You can even set a monthly schedule to make sure you take your material week by week, especially if you have to review for a big exam.
3-3. Find a studying method that suits your learning style.
There are different types of learners out there, and not every type of learning, such as using flashcards or taking thorough notes, is best for every type of learner. It’s important to be aware of your learning style so that you can best tailor your studying to suit your needs. Many people are actually a combination of different learners, so multiple styles may appeal to you. Here are some of the most common learning styles and some tips for studying:
Visual learners. If you’re a visual learner, then you learn by using images, pictures, and spatial understanding. Charts, diagrams, and color-coded notes may work best for you. When you take notes, flow charts or even some relevant drawings may be more effective than large blocks of words.
Auditory learners. These types of learners learn best by listening. Try recording your lectures and repeating them, or really honing in on your teacher's words and taking some notes later. You can also repeat your notes or the course materials to yourself or talk to experts or participate in group discussion to study more effectively.
Physical or kinesthetic learners. These learners learn best when they use their bodies, their hands, and their senses of touch. You can learn by tracing words to reinforce the subject matter, memorizing notes by walking, or by using any activities that make you move around or touch things while learning.
3-4. Take breaks.
You may be surprised to find that breaks may be the key to your success. No one can study for eight hours straight, not even that one person who is super driven or has an IV of coffee steadily pumping in his veins. In fact, breaks are crucial for successful studying because they’ll allow your mind to rest so that you can return to your studies feeling motivated and energized. Plan to take a break every 60 or 90 minutes, and do something that will allow you to rest your eyes, have some nourishment, or get some fresh air.
Taking breaks help to break down the data you have remembered into chunks.
You may do the following during your break:
Listening to music.
Reading a book.
Having a nap.
Take a shower.
Play video games.
Surf on social media.
Successful students know when they need to rest. They can sense when they’re getting tired or when studying is no longer productive. Don’t think it’s lazy for you to take a break and remember that it’s really the best you can do for your studies.
3-5. Avoid distractions.
If you want to study as successfully as possible, then you need to be able to avoid distractions when you get ready to study. This can mean avoiding studying with an unproductive friend, turning off your phone, or making sure you only use the Internet to help you study, not to check up on your celebrity gossip. Though it can be impossible to avoid distractions entirely, you can make an effort to minimize them before you even sit down to study, which will help you focus and not get off-track.
You can even disable your Internet if you don’t need it to study to keep yourself from being distracted. If you really don’t need your phone, you can turn it off, too.
If something is worrying you, then devote time to figuring it out and then get back to your studies if you can. If you feel bothered all day, then you won’t be able to get your work done.
3-6. Pick the best study environment.
Your study environment can be crucial to your success as a student. However, everyone is different. Some people like to study in their bedrooms, with absolute silence. Others like to study on a blanket outdoors, blasting their favorite music. Some people like to study on their bed. Some people like to study in the library or in a coffee shop, where they are surrounded by other people doing the same. Try a variety of different studying environments to see what works best for you.
If working in a loud coffee shop hasn’t been going well lately, then try studying in the quiet of your room or even at a park where you can feel alone.
3-7. Use your resources.
Another way to get the most out of your study sessions is to make sure you use the resources that are available to you. Talk to your teachers, your librarians, and your knowledgeable friends to get help on any materials you don’t understand. Use your library and your online resources to supplement your studies; check out the extra problems in the back of your textbook to get a deeper understanding of the material. Do what you need to do to take advantage of all of your resources to succeed.
Successful students are also creative. When they can’t get all the answers they need from a textbook, they look for other people, places, or online sites that can help them.
3-8. Get a study buddy or study group.
Some people do even better in school when they have a study buddy or a study group. Working with other people can help you feel motivated and like you’re not so alone in your studying efforts. You can also learn from other people, and can even learn by teaching others what you know. Though working with a partner or a group doesn’t work for everyone, you should give it a try to make the most of your studies.
Not everyone is a social learner. You can test the water by studying with a friend and then inviting more students to join in.
Make sure your study group is directed and organized, so you don’t end up getting off-topic too much. If you feel the group is getting off-topic, don’t be afraid to kindly say something.
3-9. Remember to have fun.
Though it may sound like fun is beside the point when it comes to being a successful student, it can actually be the key to your achievements. Just as taking breaks during a study session can help you focus more on your studies, taking breaks from studying completely to do yoga, hang out with your friends, watch a movie by yourself, or just to relax can help you regain the energy you’ll need to really succeed in school.
Having fun doesn’t keep you from being a successful student. In fact, making time for fun allows you to study better when the time comes.
Making time for your friendships will also let you relax a bit more about getting an imperfect grade. If your studies are your only interest, then you’ll be putting too much pressure on yourself.
Tips
Get a good night’s sleep! This is very important. Your brain will function differently on 4 hours of sleep than it will on 8 hours. Recommendations for sleeping schedules: Ages 1-11 should be getting 10 to 12 hours of sleep a day. Ages 12-17 should be getting a minimum of 7-8 hours.
Make time for breakfast in the morning, even if you're in a rush. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, because your body, like cars and lots of other machinery, needs fuel to be able to work properly throughout the day. Going to school on an empty stomach will leave you with more than a few problems. You could get sleepy, you could be too hungry to focus, you'll feel sick or lazy, or powerless.
Don't waste your time. Use each and every second productively and carefully.
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Be punctual.\\nDevelop the habit of judging time and learn how to arrive where you need to be on time. In fact, you should plan to be a bit early anywhere you go so you have time to get situated, focused, and ready to learn when you get there. Whether you have to take a test or have a study date with a friend, it’s important to be on time if you want to be a successful student.\\n1-3. Work honestly.\\nThis means you should do your own work, avoid copying, and avoid cheating at all costs. Cheating won’t get you anywhere, and what may seem like a shortcut one day can actually get you into a lot of trouble the next. It’s never worth it to cheat on a test, and you’re far better off not doing well on an exam you’re not prepared for than getting caught cheating. Even if you’re not caught, cheating makes you think it’s okay to take shortcuts when it comes to life and studying, and it can lead to some bad habits down the line.\\nDon’t fall into peer pressure, either. In some schools, cheating is considered the norm, and it seems like so many kids are doing it that you might as well join in. This kind of group thinking is very dangerous and can keep you from reaching your full potential.\\n1-4. Stay focused.\\nSuccessful students stay focused on the task at hand. If you have to study one chapter of your history book for an hour, you need to commit to doing so instead of letting your mind wander. If you need a break, take a short 10 minute one, but don’t let it run over into an hour long break with only 10 minutes of studying. You can actually train your mind to concentrate for longer and longer periods of time, so even if you feel like you can’t focus for more than 15 minutes straight, just work on building up to 20 minutes, and then building up to 30 minutes and so on.\\nThat said, most people really shouldn’t focus or do one task for more than 60 or 90 minutes. Getting a 10-15 minute break in between those times can help you regenerate your energy and commit to focusing again.\\n1-5. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.\\nSuccessful students succeed on their own terms. They don’t care what their brother, neighbor, or lab partner does in school because they know that in the end, all that matters is their own success. If you get too bogged down in what other people are doing, then you’re bound to be disappointed in yourself or to become so competitive that your mind gets poisoned. Learn to brush the others aside and to focus on doing the best that you can do.\\n1-6. Work on making incremental progress.\\nIf you want to be a successful student, then you shouldn’t aim to go from a “C” to an “A” average. Instead, you should work on going to a “C+” and then a “B-,” and so on, so your progress is manageable and so you don’t get disappointed. Successful students know that it’s hard to improve by leaps and bounds and focus on the details instead of jumping ahead to the final product. If you want to be a successful student, then you have to be okay with improving little by little.\\n1-7. Get excited about the material.\\nSuccessful students aren’t just machines who work to get “A”s no matter what. They actually care and are interested in the material that they study, and their passion for knowledge helps them improve. Of course, you can’t get excited about every little thing you’re learning, from photosynthesis to linear equations, but you can try to find something that you care about in every class. This will keep you focused and will make it more fun for you to learn.\\nIf you really find something you’re passionate about in class, then you should do some outside reading to get even more excited about the topic. For example, if you loved reading The Sun Also Rises in class, try reading A Movable Feast or some of Hemingway’s other works on your own, too.\\n2. Succeeding in the Classroom\\n2-1. Pay attention.\\nIf you want to be a successful student, then paying attention in class is absolutely crucial to your success. While you don’t have to love every single subject that comes your way, you should be motivated enough to listen to your teachers, to avoid texting your friends, and to be focused enough to really hear what your teacher is telling you, and to be able to pick up on the most important aspects of each lesson. \\nIn order to pay attention, it’s important to keep your eye on the teacher.\\nIf you’re confused about something, you can quickly ask for clarification. If the lesson goes on and you feel yourself getting more and more lost, it’ll be hard to pay attention.\\n2-2. Take notes\\nTaking notes is also crucial to your success as a student. Not only will taking notes help you study later, but doing so will also keep you engaged in the classroom, and will help you learn the material because you’ll have to jot it down in your own words. Some people even use different highlighters or pens to organize their notes as they take them to really help them absorb the material. Taking notes will make you feel more accountable in the classroom and will help you listen to your teachers.\\n2-3. Ask questions.\\nIf you really want to succeed in the classroom, then it’s important that you ask your teachers questions, when it’s appropriate, in order to get a stronger understanding of the material. You shouldn’t interrupt the lessons, but you should ask questions if you really have them in order to avoid being confused and to prepare for your exams. Asking questions will also keep you active in the discussion and will help you learn the material, too.\\nAt the end of each class, you can also review your notes and prepare questions to ask the next time if anything is unclear. Some teachers want you to wait until the end of the lecture to ask questions. If this is the case with your teacher, be respectful of that.\\n2-4. Participate.\\nIf you want to succeed as a student, then it’s important for you to participate in class. You should not only ask questions when you have them, but you should also answer your teacher’s questions, be an active member of group activities, volunteer to help your teacher during class, and make sure to be as active as possible in the classroom so you can really get the most out of the learning experience. Participating will also help you develop a good relationship with your teachers, which will also help you in the classroom. \\nYou don’t have to raise your hand after every question, but you should make an effort to talk when you have something to say.\\nRemember the principle of 3-3-3. In every class, answer at least 3 questions. This may boost up your participation scores.\\nParticipation is important in group work, too. Successful students work well by themselves and with others.\\n2-5. Avoid distractions in the classroom.\\nIf you want to make the most of your learning experience, then you should try to focus as much as you can. Avoid sitting next to your friends or chatty students, and put away your food, your magazines, your phone, or anything else that is keeping you from your studies. You can reward yourself by talking to your friends, reading your magazines, or doing whatever else you do for fun later, but you can’t let it get in the way of your study habits.\\nIf other students are an easy distraction or you feel like you might just talk to them because you're bored of the current topic, ask the teacher if you could move seats. If not, try your best to ignore the distraction and if they continue, ask them politely to stop.\\nTry not to think about one class when you’re sitting in another. Be present in the room you’re in and worry about the next class when you get there.\\n2-6. Develop positive relationships with your teachers.\\nAnother way to really succeed in the classroom is to develop strong connections with your teachers. While you don’t want to suck up or attempt to become best friends with them, building a strong rapport with your teachers can help you when you need to ask them for extra help and can also make you gain a stronger interest in the material. Work on showing up to class on time and following your teacher’s rules so that you can make the most of your studies.\\nDon’t worry about people thinking you’re the teacher’s pet if you’re nice to your teachers. You’re just making an effort to be a better student.\\nIf your teachers like you more, they’ll be more willing to help you and to answer your questions, and will be more understanding if something comes up.\\n2-7. Sit near the teacher if you can.\\nIf you’re in a classroom where you can choose your own seats, then you should think about sitting toward the front of the room, near the teacher. This will help you focus since it’ll be harder to get distracted or to do something other than pay attention when the teacher is right there. It’ll also help you build a stronger bond with your teacher, especially if you’re in a large lecture hall, because teachers tend to engage more with the people who are sitting in front.\\nDon’t worry about people thinking you’re a brown noser. You’re just doing the best you can to absorb the material you need to know.\\n2-8. Take advantage of extra credit!\\nTake the opportunity to gain extra credit whenever possible. A lot of schools especially as you get older don't offer a lot of extra credit so grab it whenever possible.\\n3. Succeeding When You Study\\n3-1. Create a game plan for each study session.\\nOne way to succeed when you study is to have a solid game plan before each study session. This will ensure that you’re focused, that you meet your goals, and that your sessions are productive. Block off your studying in 15 or 30-minute chunks of time and write a list of what you will do during each time period, whether you’re studying flashcards, reviewing your notes, or taking practice tests. This will keep you from feeling overwhelmed or unmotivated.\\nHaving a list that you can check off will make you more motivated. You’ll feel accomplished and focused as you check each item off your list.\\n3-2. Plug your study sessions into your schedule.\\nAnother important method for succeeding in your studies is to make sure that you have a planner and that you block off study time in advance. You should make sure to make time for studying most weekdays and even on the weekends, when it’s necessary. Though you don’t want to bite off more than you can chew, you want to avoid filling your calendar with social events and extracurricular activities and ending up with no time to study.\\nIf you make a point of blocking off time to study, then you won’t end up planning social events during that time, which will keep you from studying. You may not even realize that your social calendar is booked until you try to make time for your studies.\\nYou can even set a monthly schedule to make sure you take your material week by week, especially if you have to review for a big exam.\\n3-3. Find a studying method that suits your learning style.\\nThere are different types of learners out there, and not every type of learning, such as using flashcards or taking thorough notes, is best for every type of learner. It’s important to be aware of your learning style so that you can best tailor your studying to suit your needs. Many people are actually a combination of different learners, so multiple styles may appeal to you. Here are some of the most common learning styles and some tips for studying:\\nVisual learners. If you’re a visual learner, then you learn by using images, pictures, and spatial understanding. Charts, diagrams, and color-coded notes may work best for you. When you take notes, flow charts or even some relevant drawings may be more effective than large blocks of words.\\nAuditory learners. These types of learners learn best by listening. Try recording your lectures and repeating them, or really honing in on your teacher's words and taking some notes later. You can also repeat your notes or the course materials to yourself or talk to experts or participate in group discussion to study more effectively.\\nPhysical or kinesthetic learners. These learners learn best when they use their bodies, their hands, and their senses of touch. You can learn by tracing words to reinforce the subject matter, memorizing notes by walking, or by using any activities that make you move around or touch things while learning.\\n3-4. Take breaks.\\nYou may be surprised to find that breaks may be the key to your success. No one can study for eight hours straight, not even that one person who is super driven or has an IV of coffee steadily pumping in his veins. In fact, breaks are crucial for successful studying because they’ll allow your mind to rest so that you can return to your studies feeling motivated and energized. Plan to take a break every 60 or 90 minutes, and do something that will allow you to rest your eyes, have some nourishment, or get some fresh air.\\nTaking breaks help to break down the data you have remembered into chunks.\\nYou may do the following during your break:\\nListening to music.\\nReading a book.\\nHaving a nap.\\nTake a shower.\\nPlay video games.\\nSurf on social media.\\n\\nSuccessful students know when they need to rest. They can sense when they’re getting tired or when studying is no longer productive. Don’t think it’s lazy for you to take a break and remember that it’s really the best you can do for your studies.\\n3-5. Avoid distractions.\\nIf you want to study as successfully as possible, then you need to be able to avoid distractions when you get ready to study. This can mean avoiding studying with an unproductive friend, turning off your phone, or making sure you only use the Internet to help you study, not to check up on your celebrity gossip. Though it can be impossible to avoid distractions entirely, you can make an effort to minimize them before you even sit down to study, which will help you focus and not get off-track.\\nYou can even disable your Internet if you don’t need it to study to keep yourself from being distracted. If you really don’t need your phone, you can turn it off, too.\\nIf something is worrying you, then devote time to figuring it out and then get back to your studies if you can. If you feel bothered all day, then you won’t be able to get your work done.\\n3-6. Pick the best study environment.\\nYour study environment can be crucial to your success as a student. However, everyone is different. Some people like to study in their bedrooms, with absolute silence. Others like to study on a blanket outdoors, blasting their favorite music. Some people like to study on their bed. Some people like to study in the library or in a coffee shop, where they are surrounded by other people doing the same. Try a variety of different studying environments to see what works best for you.\\nIf working in a loud coffee shop hasn’t been going well lately, then try studying in the quiet of your room or even at a park where you can feel alone.\\n3-7. Use your resources.\\nAnother way to get the most out of your study sessions is to make sure you use the resources that are available to you. Talk to your teachers, your librarians, and your knowledgeable friends to get help on any materials you don’t understand. Use your library and your online resources to supplement your studies; check out the extra problems in the back of your textbook to get a deeper understanding of the material. Do what you need to do to take advantage of all of your resources to succeed.\\nSuccessful students are also creative. When they can’t get all the answers they need from a textbook, they look for other people, places, or online sites that can help them.\\n3-8. Get a study buddy or study group.\\nSome people do even better in school when they have a study buddy or a study group. Working with other people can help you feel motivated and like you’re not so alone in your studying efforts. You can also learn from other people, and can even learn by teaching others what you know. Though working with a partner or a group doesn’t work for everyone, you should give it a try to make the most of your studies.\\nNot everyone is a social learner. You can test the water by studying with a friend and then inviting more students to join in.\\nMake sure your study group is directed and organized, so you don’t end up getting off-topic too much. If you feel the group is getting off-topic, don’t be afraid to kindly say something.\\n3-9. Remember to have fun.\\nThough it may sound like fun is beside the point when it comes to being a successful student, it can actually be the key to your achievements. Just as taking breaks during a study session can help you focus more on your studies, taking breaks from studying completely to do yoga, hang out with your friends, watch a movie by yourself, or just to relax can help you regain the energy you’ll need to really succeed in school.\\nHaving fun doesn’t keep you from being a successful student. In fact, making time for fun allows you to study better when the time comes.\\nMaking time for your friendships will also let you relax a bit more about getting an imperfect grade. If your studies are your only interest, then you’ll be putting too much pressure on yourself.\\nTips\\nGet a good night’s sleep! This is very important. Your brain will function differently on 4 hours of sleep than it will on 8 hours. Recommendations for sleeping schedules: Ages 1-11 should be getting 10 to 12 hours of sleep a day. Ages 12-17 should be getting a minimum of 7-8 hours.\\nMake time for breakfast in the morning, even if you're in a rush. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, because your body, like cars and lots of other machinery, needs fuel to be able to work properly throughout the day. Going to school on an empty stomach will leave you with more than a few problems. You could get sleepy, you could be too hungry to focus, you'll feel sick or lazy, or powerless.\\nDon't waste your time. Use each and every second productively and carefully.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Successful students know how to focus on their studies when it matters while also taking breaks when they need them. They can manage their time wisely, stick to meaningful study schedules, and make the most of their time in the classroom. In the process, successful students also know how to have a good time, and love gaining knowledge as much as they enjoy getting stellar grades.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing the Qualities of a Successful Student\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make your studies a priority.\", \"描述\": \"Successful students know how to succeed because they’ve made their studies their top priority. Though it’s important to make time for friends, family, extracurricular activities, and even some solo down time, you should never neglect the time you need to spend studying. If you have an important exam coming up and don’t feel prepared, then you should probably skip the big party two days before it. If you’re really behind on your French, then you may need to skip that new episode of Criminal Minds for the time being. This doesn’t mean that you can never do the things you want to do, but that you should recognize when studying should be at the top of your list.\\nThat said, you can’t ignore everything in the world just so you can study. If a friend or family member is having a crisis, you can’t ditch him or her just to study, either.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be punctual.\", \"描述\": \"Develop the habit of judging time and learn how to arrive where you need to be on time. In fact, you should plan to be a bit early anywhere you go so you have time to get situated, focused, and ready to learn when you get there. Whether you have to take a test or have a study date with a friend, it’s important to be on time if you want to be a successful student.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work honestly.\", \"描述\": \"This means you should do your own work, avoid copying, and avoid cheating at all costs. Cheating won’t get you anywhere, and what may seem like a shortcut one day can actually get you into a lot of trouble the next. It’s never worth it to cheat on a test, and you’re far better off not doing well on an exam you’re not prepared for than getting caught cheating. Even if you’re not caught, cheating makes you think it’s okay to take shortcuts when it comes to life and studying, and it can lead to some bad habits down the line.\\nDon’t fall into peer pressure, either. In some schools, cheating is considered the norm, and it seems like so many kids are doing it that you might as well join in. This kind of group thinking is very dangerous and can keep you from reaching your full potential.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay focused.\", \"描述\": \"Successful students stay focused on the task at hand. If you have to study one chapter of your history book for an hour, you need to commit to doing so instead of letting your mind wander. If you need a break, take a short 10 minute one, but don’t let it run over into an hour long break with only 10 minutes of studying. You can actually train your mind to concentrate for longer and longer periods of time, so even if you feel like you can’t focus for more than 15 minutes straight, just work on building up to 20 minutes, and then building up to 30 minutes and so on.\\nThat said, most people really shouldn’t focus or do one task for more than 60 or 90 minutes. Getting a 10-15 minute break in between those times can help you regenerate your energy and commit to focusing again.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.\", \"描述\": \"Successful students succeed on their own terms. They don’t care what their brother, neighbor, or lab partner does in school because they know that in the end, all that matters is their own success. If you get too bogged down in what other people are doing, then you’re bound to be disappointed in yourself or to become so competitive that your mind gets poisoned. Learn to brush the others aside and to focus on doing the best that you can do.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Work on making incremental progress.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be a successful student, then you shouldn’t aim to go from a “C” to an “A” average. Instead, you should work on going to a “C+” and then a “B-,” and so on, so your progress is manageable and so you don’t get disappointed. Successful students know that it’s hard to improve by leaps and bounds and focus on the details instead of jumping ahead to the final product. If you want to be a successful student, then you have to be okay with improving little by little.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get excited about the material.\", \"描述\": \"Successful students aren’t just machines who work to get “A”s no matter what. They actually care and are interested in the material that they study, and their passion for knowledge helps them improve. Of course, you can’t get excited about every little thing you’re learning, from photosynthesis to linear equations, but you can try to find something that you care about in every class. This will keep you focused and will make it more fun for you to learn.\\nIf you really find something you’re passionate about in class, then you should do some outside reading to get even more excited about the topic. For example, if you loved reading The Sun Also Rises in class, try reading A Movable Feast or some of Hemingway’s other works on your own, too.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Succeeding in the Classroom\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pay attention.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be a successful student, then paying attention in class is absolutely crucial to your success. While you don’t have to love every single subject that comes your way, you should be motivated enough to listen to your teachers, to avoid texting your friends, and to be focused enough to really hear what your teacher is telling you, and to be able to pick up on the most important aspects of each lesson. \\nIn order to pay attention, it’s important to keep your eye on the teacher.\\nIf you’re confused about something, you can quickly ask for clarification. If the lesson goes on and you feel yourself getting more and more lost, it’ll be hard to pay attention.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take notes\", \"描述\": \"Taking notes is also crucial to your success as a student. Not only will taking notes help you study later, but doing so will also keep you engaged in the classroom, and will help you learn the material because you’ll have to jot it down in your own words. Some people even use different highlighters or pens to organize their notes as they take them to really help them absorb the material. Taking notes will make you feel more accountable in the classroom and will help you listen to your teachers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"If you really want to succeed in the classroom, then it’s important that you ask your teachers questions, when it’s appropriate, in order to get a stronger understanding of the material. You shouldn’t interrupt the lessons, but you should ask questions if you really have them in order to avoid being confused and to prepare for your exams. Asking questions will also keep you active in the discussion and will help you learn the material, too.\\nAt the end of each class, you can also review your notes and prepare questions to ask the next time if anything is unclear. Some teachers want you to wait until the end of the lecture to ask questions. If this is the case with your teacher, be respectful of that.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Participate.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to succeed as a student, then it’s important for you to participate in class. You should not only ask questions when you have them, but you should also answer your teacher’s questions, be an active member of group activities, volunteer to help your teacher during class, and make sure to be as active as possible in the classroom so you can really get the most out of the learning experience. Participating will also help you develop a good relationship with your teachers, which will also help you in the classroom. \\nYou don’t have to raise your hand after every question, but you should make an effort to talk when you have something to say.\\nRemember the principle of 3-3-3. In every class, answer at least 3 questions. This may boost up your participation scores.\\nParticipation is important in group work, too. Successful students work well by themselves and with others.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid distractions in the classroom.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to make the most of your learning experience, then you should try to focus as much as you can. Avoid sitting next to your friends or chatty students, and put away your food, your magazines, your phone, or anything else that is keeping you from your studies. You can reward yourself by talking to your friends, reading your magazines, or doing whatever else you do for fun later, but you can’t let it get in the way of your study habits.\\nIf other students are an easy distraction or you feel like you might just talk to them because you're bored of the current topic, ask the teacher if you could move seats. If not, try your best to ignore the distraction and if they continue, ask them politely to stop.\\nTry not to think about one class when you’re sitting in another. Be present in the room you’re in and worry about the next class when you get there.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Develop positive relationships with your teachers.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to really succeed in the classroom is to develop strong connections with your teachers. While you don’t want to suck up or attempt to become best friends with them, building a strong rapport with your teachers can help you when you need to ask them for extra help and can also make you gain a stronger interest in the material. Work on showing up to class on time and following your teacher’s rules so that you can make the most of your studies.\\nDon’t worry about people thinking you’re the teacher’s pet if you’re nice to your teachers. You’re just making an effort to be a better student.\\nIf your teachers like you more, they’ll be more willing to help you and to answer your questions, and will be more understanding if something comes up.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Sit near the teacher if you can.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re in a classroom where you can choose your own seats, then you should think about sitting toward the front of the room, near the teacher. This will help you focus since it’ll be harder to get distracted or to do something other than pay attention when the teacher is right there. It’ll also help you build a stronger bond with your teacher, especially if you’re in a large lecture hall, because teachers tend to engage more with the people who are sitting in front.\\nDon’t worry about people thinking you’re a brown noser. You’re just doing the best you can to absorb the material you need to know.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Take advantage of extra credit!\", \"描述\": \"Take the opportunity to gain extra credit whenever possible. A lot of schools especially as you get older don't offer a lot of extra credit so grab it whenever possible.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Succeeding When You Study\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create a game plan for each study session.\", \"描述\": \"One way to succeed when you study is to have a solid game plan before each study session. This will ensure that you’re focused, that you meet your goals, and that your sessions are productive. Block off your studying in 15 or 30-minute chunks of time and write a list of what you will do during each time period, whether you’re studying flashcards, reviewing your notes, or taking practice tests. This will keep you from feeling overwhelmed or unmotivated.\\nHaving a list that you can check off will make you more motivated. You’ll feel accomplished and focused as you check each item off your list.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Plug your study sessions into your schedule.\", \"描述\": \"Another important method for succeeding in your studies is to make sure that you have a planner and that you block off study time in advance. You should make sure to make time for studying most weekdays and even on the weekends, when it’s necessary. Though you don’t want to bite off more than you can chew, you want to avoid filling your calendar with social events and extracurricular activities and ending up with no time to study.\\nIf you make a point of blocking off time to study, then you won’t end up planning social events during that time, which will keep you from studying. You may not even realize that your social calendar is booked until you try to make time for your studies.\\nYou can even set a monthly schedule to make sure you take your material week by week, especially if you have to review for a big exam.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find a studying method that suits your learning style.\", \"描述\": \"There are different types of learners out there, and not every type of learning, such as using flashcards or taking thorough notes, is best for every type of learner. It’s important to be aware of your learning style so that you can best tailor your studying to suit your needs. Many people are actually a combination of different learners, so multiple styles may appeal to you. Here are some of the most common learning styles and some tips for studying:\\nVisual learners. If you’re a visual learner, then you learn by using images, pictures, and spatial understanding. Charts, diagrams, and color-coded notes may work best for you. When you take notes, flow charts or even some relevant drawings may be more effective than large blocks of words.\\nAuditory learners. These types of learners learn best by listening. Try recording your lectures and repeating them, or really honing in on your teacher's words and taking some notes later. You can also repeat your notes or the course materials to yourself or talk to experts or participate in group discussion to study more effectively.\\nPhysical or kinesthetic learners. These learners learn best when they use their bodies, their hands, and their senses of touch. You can learn by tracing words to reinforce the subject matter, memorizing notes by walking, or by using any activities that make you move around or touch things while learning.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take breaks.\", \"描述\": \"You may be surprised to find that breaks may be the key to your success. No one can study for eight hours straight, not even that one person who is super driven or has an IV of coffee steadily pumping in his veins. In fact, breaks are crucial for successful studying because they’ll allow your mind to rest so that you can return to your studies feeling motivated and energized. Plan to take a break every 60 or 90 minutes, and do something that will allow you to rest your eyes, have some nourishment, or get some fresh air.\\nTaking breaks help to break down the data you have remembered into chunks.\\nYou may do the following during your break:\\nListening to music.\\nReading a book.\\nHaving a nap.\\nTake a shower.\\nPlay video games.\\nSurf on social media.\\n\\nSuccessful students know when they need to rest. They can sense when they’re getting tired or when studying is no longer productive. Don’t think it’s lazy for you to take a break and remember that it’s really the best you can do for your studies.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid distractions.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to study as successfully as possible, then you need to be able to avoid distractions when you get ready to study. This can mean avoiding studying with an unproductive friend, turning off your phone, or making sure you only use the Internet to help you study, not to check up on your celebrity gossip. Though it can be impossible to avoid distractions entirely, you can make an effort to minimize them before you even sit down to study, which will help you focus and not get off-track.\\nYou can even disable your Internet if you don’t need it to study to keep yourself from being distracted. If you really don’t need your phone, you can turn it off, too.\\nIf something is worrying you, then devote time to figuring it out and then get back to your studies if you can. If you feel bothered all day, then you won’t be able to get your work done.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Pick the best study environment.\", \"描述\": \"Your study environment can be crucial to your success as a student. However, everyone is different. Some people like to study in their bedrooms, with absolute silence. Others like to study on a blanket outdoors, blasting their favorite music. Some people like to study on their bed. Some people like to study in the library or in a coffee shop, where they are surrounded by other people doing the same. Try a variety of different studying environments to see what works best for you.\\nIf working in a loud coffee shop hasn’t been going well lately, then try studying in the quiet of your room or even at a park where you can feel alone.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Use your resources.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to get the most out of your study sessions is to make sure you use the resources that are available to you. Talk to your teachers, your librarians, and your knowledgeable friends to get help on any materials you don’t understand. Use your library and your online resources to supplement your studies; check out the extra problems in the back of your textbook to get a deeper understanding of the material. Do what you need to do to take advantage of all of your resources to succeed.\\nSuccessful students are also creative. When they can’t get all the answers they need from a textbook, they look for other people, places, or online sites that can help them.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Get a study buddy or study group.\", \"描述\": \"Some people do even better in school when they have a study buddy or a study group. Working with other people can help you feel motivated and like you’re not so alone in your studying efforts. You can also learn from other people, and can even learn by teaching others what you know. Though working with a partner or a group doesn’t work for everyone, you should give it a try to make the most of your studies.\\nNot everyone is a social learner. You can test the water by studying with a friend and then inviting more students to join in.\\nMake sure your study group is directed and organized, so you don’t end up getting off-topic too much. If you feel the group is getting off-topic, don’t be afraid to kindly say something.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Remember to have fun.\", \"描述\": \"Though it may sound like fun is beside the point when it comes to being a successful student, it can actually be the key to your achievements. Just as taking breaks during a study session can help you focus more on your studies, taking breaks from studying completely to do yoga, hang out with your friends, watch a movie by yourself, or just to relax can help you regain the energy you’ll need to really succeed in school.\\nHaving fun doesn’t keep you from being a successful student. In fact, making time for fun allows you to study better when the time comes.\\nMaking time for your friendships will also let you relax a bit more about getting an imperfect grade. If your studies are your only interest, then you’ll be putting too much pressure on yourself.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Get a good night’s sleep! This is very important. Your brain will function differently on 4 hours of sleep than it will on 8 hours. Recommendations for sleeping schedules: Ages 1-11 should be getting 10 to 12 hours of sleep a day. Ages 12-17 should be getting a minimum of 7-8 hours.\\n\", \"Make time for breakfast in the morning, even if you're in a rush. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, because your body, like cars and lots of other machinery, needs fuel to be able to work properly throughout the day. Going to school on an empty stomach will leave you with more than a few problems. 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1. Managing the Classroom
1-1. Decide on your classroom policies, then follow through.
It’s important to show your students that there are specific guidelines that they need to follow in your classroom. Clearly state these policies on your syllabus, and expect your students to follow the policies. For example, consider:
Will you allow students to use their cell phones while in class?
Can students take notes on a laptop computer or tablet?
How many times can a student arrive late before they lose points?
Although some of these may be school-wide policies that you have no control over, you should still enforce and follow through on them.
1-2. Maintain your authority over the classroom.
While teachers should not be seen as authoritarian, it’s important that you do act with authority. Show that you are effectively leading the class by explaining the daily class schedule ahead of time, and keeping the class focused on the lesson.
Be clear that when you are speaking, all student conversation needs to stop.
Don’t hesitate to call out individual students; say something like, “Please don’t speak over me, and raise your hand if you have a question.”
Politely but firmly insist that students put away their phones, and computers as well, if your students are browsing the internet rather than taking notes.
1-3. Dress like a professional.
The way you dress and act plays a large roll in how you are seen by your students. Both men and women—especially teachers in their 20s—should dress professionally.
Wear a jacket, a shirt and tie; wear a dress or skirt to look more professional and, consequently, more authoritative.
1-4. Plan out how the class will spend its time every period.
This should be a standard part of your lesson planning. It’s better to plan too many activities for any given class period than too few. If you have an extra activity, save it for a day when you get through your lesson more quickly than anticipated.
Aim for each activity to take about 25 minutes. This will give you a rough estimate of how many activities you can plan in a class period. If you have a 50 minute class period, plan on two major activities.
Have your students complete a quiz and then participate in a group discussion. Or, for younger students, ask them to complete a hands-on activity in a group, then individually write a summary of what they learned.
Don’t plan to improvise or change plans in the middle of class.
1-5. Act confidently, even if you don’t always feel confident.
One of the most challenging parts of teaching—especially for new teachers—is showing confidence in front of a classroom full of strangers. Even if you don’t feel confident at first, fake it—students usually can’t tell the difference, and your classroom successes will turn into genuine confidence soon enough.
Use occasional humor in the classroom. Humor can often show confidence; it makes you look like you are in control of a situation if you can inject occasional humor.
Show confidence by your physical presence. Don’t huddle in a corner of the classroom. During every class period, stand up, move around, gesture with your arms, and write on the whiteboard. These motions will make you appear confident and dynamic.
2. Working with Students
2-1. Give your students plentiful and constructive feedback.
Students enjoy and expect feedback from their teachers; it shows that you are personally evaluating their work, and that you have firm standards in place.
When grading a student’s essay, try leaving four or five comments on the body of the essay, and then a three to four sentence paragraph at the end, where you detail the major successes and failures of the essay.
Give your students verbal feedback in class. Encourage their comments, and gently push them to develop more complex ideas and solutions.
2-2. Engage personally with your students during in-class discussions.
This will communicate your respect and consideration for the individual student.
Your student will, in turn, have a greater respect for you if it’s clear that you know his or her name and care about his or her education.
2-3. Treat students with kindness.
Showing your students respect and kindness should be a guiding principle when you engage with your students.
This is true in all settings in which you communicate with students: in the classroom, in your office hours, over email, or in any other manner.
Listen when they speak and do not speak over a student.
2-4. Give your students the benefit of the doubt.
It can be easy for teachers to forget that their students have a life outside of the class & required homework. However, you need to remember that many students have busy schedules and complicated personal lives.
If students claim to have had a health problem or family emergency, evaluate their claim with objectivity.
2-5. Encourage your students.
Many students see their teachers primarily as disciplinarians; they view a teacher as someone who punishes them for doing poorly on an assignment or for speaking out of turn in class. Contrary to this, through your own enthusiasm for the class topic and the materials that you are teaching, you should encourage and inspire your students to learn about the class topic.
Praise students individually and collectively for their work.
Find aspects of the class work that each student engages with, and encourage the students to develop their own interests within the class.
2-6. Establish boundaries for you and your students to follow outside of the classroom.
Many inexperienced teachers plan to befriend their students, and to treat them like friends outside the classroom. This can lead to encounters that may appear unprofessional, and a lack of a formal relationship between you and your students.
Make it clear to students how they can contact you. For example, give them your email address, but avoid handing out your cell phone number.
Be clear with your students about how long it will take for you to reply to their emails. Will you try to reply within the same hour, or within a 24-hour period?
Avoid meeting with students off campus. If you must, meet at a coffee shop; avoid meeting in places that serve alcohol, as it could send a misleading message.
3. Planning Your Lessons
3-1. Do your class preparation and lesson planning well in advance.
For teachers, few experiences are less enjoyable than staying up late the night before a class, preparing the readings or assignments that your students will complete the next day. Keep your work organized, and plan each lesson ahead of time.
It helps to have written lesson plans. At the beginning of each week, write down your lesson plan for each class you will teach.
Do your class preparation (writing assignments and quizzes, preparing videos, etc.) at the beginning of the week as well.
Monthly calendars are often helpful for a “big picture” approach. Preparing a detailed calendar a month or two in advance will help you schedule the various segments of the course you’re teaching.
If you’re teaching at the high school or college level, consider sharing the calendar with your students (even if the calendar will change slightly as the course develops).
3-2. Establish a regular schedule for your grading.
Many inexperienced teachers find themselves quickly bogged down in grading seemingly endless papers and tests. To avoid this, figure out when during the week you have time to grade, and break the total amount of weekly grading down into manageable pieces.
It helps to use a timer when grading. For example, give yourself 15 minutes to grade each essay, and 5 minutes to grade each quiz.
3-3. Use technology that will be helpful to your students.
While you do not need to always use the newest, most trendy teaching technique or teach from your students’ favorite website, it will help both you and your students if you use some technology in the classroom. Students quickly become tired of repetitive class structures and lectures. Using technology could mean:
Create a Powerpoint or Prezi to convey information.
Show your students a short, relevant film or video that will spark classroom discussion.
There are even phone-based learning apps that instructors can incorporate into new lessons.
3-4. Vary your teaching style and strategy.
This will allow you to accommodate different learning styles. Although you, as a teacher, may have a favorite way of teaching your students, consider that various students may learn better through other methods, including verbal instruction, reading texts, conversation, and hands-on experience. Experiment with different teaching techniques:
Skip the lecture, and instead help your students learn with an active group activity.
Bring in tangible objects, related to the lesson, that your students can interact with and learn from.
In discussions, provide a mixture of abstract thoughts and practical examples.
Take your students on a field trip—even in college!
3-5. Let teaching inspire your own learning.
Part of the pleasure of teaching students is that, along with sparking their curiosity to learn, you can remind yourself of the pleasure of learning as well. You can allow your teaching to maintain your own academic and personal interests in the subject matter of your classes.
If you’re permitted, make small changes to your teaching materials and assignments each year; this will keep the material fresh for you and make it more enjoyable for your students.
Tips
Ask other teachers to observe you and provide constructive feedback. Often other instructors can see strengths and weaknesses that are hard for you to see in yourself.
Observe the classes of more experienced teachers.
Ask other teachers for advice. Teaching is, in many ways, a communal activity; if another teacher has found that a particular exercise works well, ask them to explain the exercise to you, then try it in your own classroom.
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Show that you are effectively leading the class by explaining the daily class schedule ahead of time, and keeping the class focused on the lesson.\\nBe clear that when you are speaking, all student conversation needs to stop.\\nDon’t hesitate to call out individual students; say something like, “Please don’t speak over me, and raise your hand if you have a question.”\\nPolitely but firmly insist that students put away their phones, and computers as well, if your students are browsing the internet rather than taking notes.\\n1-3. Dress like a professional.\\nThe way you dress and act plays a large roll in how you are seen by your students. Both men and women—especially teachers in their 20s—should dress professionally.\\nWear a jacket, a shirt and tie; wear a dress or skirt to look more professional and, consequently, more authoritative.\\n1-4. Plan out how the class will spend its time every period.\\nThis should be a standard part of your lesson planning. 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Even if you don’t feel confident at first, fake it—students usually can’t tell the difference, and your classroom successes will turn into genuine confidence soon enough.\\nUse occasional humor in the classroom. Humor can often show confidence; it makes you look like you are in control of a situation if you can inject occasional humor.\\nShow confidence by your physical presence. Don’t huddle in a corner of the classroom. During every class period, stand up, move around, gesture with your arms, and write on the whiteboard. These motions will make you appear confident and dynamic.\\n2. Working with Students\\n2-1. 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Contrary to this, through your own enthusiasm for the class topic and the materials that you are teaching, you should encourage and inspire your students to learn about the class topic.\\nPraise students individually and collectively for their work.\\nFind aspects of the class work that each student engages with, and encourage the students to develop their own interests within the class.\\n2-6. Establish boundaries for you and your students to follow outside of the classroom.\\nMany inexperienced teachers plan to befriend their students, and to treat them like friends outside the classroom. This can lead to encounters that may appear unprofessional, and a lack of a formal relationship between you and your students.\\nMake it clear to students how they can contact you. For example, give them your email address, but avoid handing out your cell phone number.\\nBe clear with your students about how long it will take for you to reply to their emails. 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Use technology that will be helpful to your students.\\nWhile you do not need to always use the newest, most trendy teaching technique or teach from your students’ favorite website, it will help both you and your students if you use some technology in the classroom. Students quickly become tired of repetitive class structures and lectures. Using technology could mean:\\nCreate a Powerpoint or Prezi to convey information.\\nShow your students a short, relevant film or video that will spark classroom discussion.\\nThere are even phone-based learning apps that instructors can incorporate into new lessons.\\n3-4. Vary your teaching style and strategy.\\nThis will allow you to accommodate different learning styles. Although you, as a teacher, may have a favorite way of teaching your students, consider that various students may learn better through other methods, including verbal instruction, reading texts, conversation, and hands-on experience. 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Contrary to this, through your own enthusiasm for the class topic and the materials that you are teaching, you should encourage and inspire your students to learn about the class topic.\\nPraise students individually and collectively for their work.\\nFind aspects of the class work that each student engages with, and encourage the students to develop their own interests within the class.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Establish boundaries for you and your students to follow outside of the classroom.\", \"描述\": \"Many inexperienced teachers plan to befriend their students, and to treat them like friends outside the classroom. This can lead to encounters that may appear unprofessional, and a lack of a formal relationship between you and your students.\\nMake it clear to students how they can contact you. For example, give them your email address, but avoid handing out your cell phone number.\\nBe clear with your students about how long it will take for you to reply to their emails. 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1. Leading a Productive Session
1-1. Prepare for your session in advance if you can.
If your student has scheduled a session with you ahead of time, ask the tutee what they’d like to focus on. Look over their assignment sheet before you start so you have a better idea of how to provide assistance.
If you know the assignment ahead of time, you can start helping the tutee right away during the session.
1-2. Arrive at your sessions on time with all of your things.
Keep all of your tutoring supplies in 1 spot, like a backpack or tote. Set an alarm or make a note of when your tutoring sessions are so you can arrive a few minutes early.
Arriving late to a session tells the student that their time isn’t as important as yours.
1-3. Learn about the background of the student’s assignment.
Ask your tutee if they have an assignment sheet or rubric for whatever they’re working on. Go over this sheet with the student so you have a good understanding of what the student needs help with.
Some students might have a worksheet instead of an official assignment. It’ll likely depend on the specific subject that you’re tutoring.
1-4. Establish an overall goal for each tutoring session.
Ask the tutee to explain what they’ve been struggling with the most, and try to center the session around that. If you meet with a student regularly, you may be able to make a small lesson plan for future sessions. Decide if you want to focus on a specific assignment, or if your student would prefer to study a specific skill set.
For example, if a student is struggling with an essay, focus on the introductory paragraph instead of the entire paper.
If a student is really struggling with algebra, you can walk them through specific skills instead of focusing on a homework assignment.
1-5. Listen to the student’s questions and concerns.
Give the tutee plenty of opportunities to speak their mind, especially if they have a question. Keep the session focused on the student so you can be as helpful as possible. Don’t dominate the conversation with your own knowledge—instead, offer assistance and advice on an as-needed basis.
Eye contact is a great way to show that you’re listening to a student.
1-6. Ask tutees open-ended questions instead of yes/no questions.
Phrase your questions in a way that forces your students to answer and engage with the material. Don’t let your student answer with “yes” or “no,” as these aren’t good indicators of a student’s understanding. Instead, invite the tutee to explain the topic and information to you, which gives them valuable practice.
Instead of saying “Do you understand this topic?” you can ask something like, “Can you explain how you solve this problem?”
1-7. Engage the tutee with questions throughout the session.
Don’t assume that the student completely understands a topic. Instead, ask plenty of questions to check in and see how they’re doing. Remind the student that you can always backtrack if a topic seems confusing.
Get in the habit of checking in with your student every few minutes in the session.
You can say something encouraging, like: “Is everything making sense so far? It’s totally okay if you want to go over some of these topics again. This subject can be really confusing!”
1-8. Think of multiple ways to explain a single concept.
Don’t expect all students to learn and understand in the same way. Note that some tutees may be visual learners, while others may prefer to have things explained. Brainstorm different ways to teach a single topic, which helps ensure that your students really understand what’s going on.
For instance, some students may learn better with a Venn Diagram while others may prefer a bulleted, written list.
An auditory learner may benefit from a question and answer session, while a visual learner may prefer you to write or draw out different examples.
A kinesthetic, or hands-on learner, may learn better if you let them pace or walk around throughout the session.
2. Creating a Friendly and Professional Environment
2-1. Greet your tutees before the session starts.
Introduce yourself before the beginning of the session and invite the tutee to share their name as well. Offer a friendly greeting and some basic small talk to help the tutee feel a bit more comfortable.
For instance, you can say something like: “Hi, I’m Jane, and I’ll be your chemistry tutor! What’s your name?” or “Thanks so much for stopping by! How’s your day going?”
2-2. Praise your tutees so they feel encouraged.
Let your tutee know whenever they do a good job with something. A simple “good job” or “nice work” can go a long way, especially if a student isn’t confident in their own abilities. Try to praise your tutee a lot during each session, even if it’s something small.
For instance, if your tutee solves a single math problem correctly, tell them that they did a good job.
Consistent praise helps tutees become more confident in their abilities.
2-3. Let your tutee know if you aren’t sure of an answer.
Don’t be hard on yourself if you aren’t sure of an exact answer. Instead, be honest and transparent with your student about your own limitations. Use a reference book or quick web search to get the answer to your tutee’s question instead.
It’s perfectly normal and okay to not have the answers to everything!
For example, you can say something like: “I don’t know the answer to that off the top of my head, but I can look it up really quickly!”
2-4. Relate to the tutee so they don’t feel overwhelmed.
Remind the student that they’re not the only person who’s struggled with this topic before. Share a story from when you struggled with a specific topic or lesson. Honesty will only raise your credibility with your tutee, and will help them feel more relaxed and at ease with their assignment.
For instance, you can say something like: “I completely understand where you’re coming from here. I took a class where I was really confused, and I had to meet with a tutor for extra help.”
2-5. Exercise patience if a student doesn’t understand something.
Take your tutoring sessions step by step, even if it’s going slower than you may like. Work at the student’s pace if they’re stuck on a single problem, and offer continuous encouragement if they don’t understand something right away.
If you get frustrated, the student may get discouraged.
Remember that tutoring is for the student’s gain, and not for your own.
2-6. Offer a more flexible schedule that caters to your tutee.
Try to make your schedule as open and accommodating as possible. Let your tutees know that you’re happy to work around their schedule, and that your main goal is to help them succeed. Your students may feel more invested in their tutoring sessions if they know that their tutor is willing to help.
Instead of listing your own hours, ask the student what time slots work well for them. Try to work your tutoring schedule around the student.
3. Fostering a Tutee’s Independence
3-1. Give tutees moments of silence to figure out a problem.
Don’t be afraid of awkward silence in your session. Instead, encourage your students to take some time to themselves to figure out a problem. Offer your support on the side, then praise the student for their efforts!
For instance, you can say something like: “I’ll give you a couple minutes to finish up this problem. Let me know if you need any help!”
3-2. Work with the student instead of commandeering the assignment.
View your tutoring session as a set of training wheels on the bike—you’re helping a student get the hang of an assignment while helping them develop confidence and independence. Don’t solve their problems and do their assignments for them, as this won’t teach your tutees anything. Accept that your sessions are a team effort where you offer support while the student leads the way.
Some students may expect you to solve a problem for them. In this case, say something like: “Let’s go through an example together so you can solve this problem on your own.”
3-3. Center your lessons around your tutee’s interests and learning style.
Try to gauge your student’s interests as you begin the session. If your tutee is an athlete, try adding sports metaphors into your session. If the student is a musician, try making some musical connections.
Students may be more engaged in a session if you use references that they can understand.
For instance, you can say something like: “The opening sentence of your essay is like the first play in a game of golf. Your sentence kicks off the reader and gets them engaged, while the first play gets viewers invested in the game.”
4. Establishing a Tutoring Business or Career
4-1. Work with a tutoring center if you enjoy working with other people.
Look for work with an established tutoring center or university so you can provide consistent help to students. Use this kind of job opportunity to exchange tips and tricks with your fellow tutors so you can improve at your job even more!
Working a tutoring center can be a great job, though you don’t get to choose your own rates.
4-2. Start a career as a private tutor if you want better hourly rates.
Think about your own experience and flexibility before joining a tutoring center. Private tutoring offers a lot more freedom, and you can set your pricing based on your experience and comfort level. Start with $15 an hour or so if you don’t have a lot of experience. If you’re an advanced tutor with a lot of knowledge to share, you can set your rates anywhere up to $100.
Look at what other tutors are charging and try to match those rates.
4-3. Create a profile on a tutoring website to market yourself.
Find a general tutoring website that hosts different profiles. Add your resume to your profile, along with your rates and the subjects you specialize in. Wait for people to view your profile and book you for a tutoring session!
You can also make your own website to advertise yourself as a tutor.
Some great sites to use are Wyzant, Preply, and Classgap. Some universities also let student tutors upload profiles online.
4-4. Communicate with teachers to give students a specialized learning plan.
Talk with your tutee’s teacher to find out what they’ve been struggling with. Work with the teacher to solidify a lesson plan that’ll work well for the student. Try to keep in touch with the student’s teacher frequently, so you can lead a focused session that will really help your tutee.
For instance, if a student is struggling with subject/verb agreement, you can center your next tutoring session around that.
4-5. Get certified as a tutor to set yourself apart from them competition.
Visit the National Tutoring Association or The Association for the Tutoring Profession to what certification options are available for you. Keep in mind that these certifications come with a fee of up to $55 that must be paid each year.
Some organizations require you to submit a professional recommendation before becoming certified.
These certifications help potential clients know that you’re qualified for the job.
Tips
Always set professional boundaries with your tutees. Even if you’re the same age as your tutee, remember that your relationship is professional and not social.
Warnings
Keep the session focused on academics, and not on you or your student’s personal life.
Don’t jeer or criticize the instructor for the tutee’s class.
Always keep a student’s personal information confidential.[22]
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Decide if you want to focus on a specific assignment, or if your student would prefer to study a specific skill set.\\nFor example, if a student is struggling with an essay, focus on the introductory paragraph instead of the entire paper.\\nIf a student is really struggling with algebra, you can walk them through specific skills instead of focusing on a homework assignment.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Listen to the student’s questions and concerns.\", \"描述\": \"Give the tutee plenty of opportunities to speak their mind, especially if they have a question. Keep the session focused on the student so you can be as helpful as possible. Don’t dominate the conversation with your own knowledge—instead, offer assistance and advice on an as-needed basis.\\nEye contact is a great way to show that you’re listening to a student.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask tutees open-ended questions instead of yes/no questions.\", \"描述\": \"Phrase your questions in a way that forces your students to answer and engage with the material. Don’t let your student answer with “yes” or “no,” as these aren’t good indicators of a student’s understanding. Instead, invite the tutee to explain the topic and information to you, which gives them valuable practice.\\nInstead of saying “Do you understand this topic?” you can ask something like, “Can you explain how you solve this problem?”\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Engage the tutee with questions throughout the session.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t assume that the student completely understands a topic. Instead, ask plenty of questions to check in and see how they’re doing. Remind the student that you can always backtrack if a topic seems confusing.\\nGet in the habit of checking in with your student every few minutes in the session.\\nYou can say something encouraging, like: “Is everything making sense so far? It’s totally okay if you want to go over some of these topics again. This subject can be really confusing!”\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Think of multiple ways to explain a single concept.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t expect all students to learn and understand in the same way. Note that some tutees may be visual learners, while others may prefer to have things explained. Brainstorm different ways to teach a single topic, which helps ensure that your students really understand what’s going on.\\nFor instance, some students may learn better with a Venn Diagram while others may prefer a bulleted, written list.\\nAn auditory learner may benefit from a question and answer session, while a visual learner may prefer you to write or draw out different examples.\\nA kinesthetic, or hands-on learner, may learn better if you let them pace or walk around throughout the session.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Creating a Friendly and Professional Environment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Greet your tutees before the session starts.\", \"描述\": \"Introduce yourself before the beginning of the session and invite the tutee to share their name as well. Offer a friendly greeting and some basic small talk to help the tutee feel a bit more comfortable. \\nFor instance, you can say something like: “Hi, I’m Jane, and I’ll be your chemistry tutor! What’s your name?” or “Thanks so much for stopping by! How’s your day going?”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Praise your tutees so they feel encouraged.\", \"描述\": \"Let your tutee know whenever they do a good job with something. A simple “good job” or “nice work” can go a long way, especially if a student isn’t confident in their own abilities. Try to praise your tutee a lot during each session, even if it’s something small. \\nFor instance, if your tutee solves a single math problem correctly, tell them that they did a good job.\\nConsistent praise helps tutees become more confident in their abilities.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let your tutee know if you aren’t sure of an answer.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t be hard on yourself if you aren’t sure of an exact answer. Instead, be honest and transparent with your student about your own limitations. Use a reference book or quick web search to get the answer to your tutee’s question instead. \\nIt’s perfectly normal and okay to not have the answers to everything!\\nFor example, you can say something like: “I don’t know the answer to that off the top of my head, but I can look it up really quickly!”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Relate to the tutee so they don’t feel overwhelmed.\", \"描述\": \"Remind the student that they’re not the only person who’s struggled with this topic before. Share a story from when you struggled with a specific topic or lesson. Honesty will only raise your credibility with your tutee, and will help them feel more relaxed and at ease with their assignment.\\nFor instance, you can say something like: “I completely understand where you’re coming from here. I took a class where I was really confused, and I had to meet with a tutor for extra help.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Exercise patience if a student doesn’t understand something.\", \"描述\": \"Take your tutoring sessions step by step, even if it’s going slower than you may like. Work at the student’s pace if they’re stuck on a single problem, and offer continuous encouragement if they don’t understand something right away.\\nIf you get frustrated, the student may get discouraged.\\nRemember that tutoring is for the student’s gain, and not for your own.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Offer a more flexible schedule that caters to your tutee.\", \"描述\": \"Try to make your schedule as open and accommodating as possible. Let your tutees know that you’re happy to work around their schedule, and that your main goal is to help them succeed. Your students may feel more invested in their tutoring sessions if they know that their tutor is willing to help.\\nInstead of listing your own hours, ask the student what time slots work well for them. Try to work your tutoring schedule around the student.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Fostering a Tutee’s Independence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give tutees moments of silence to figure out a problem.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t be afraid of awkward silence in your session. Instead, encourage your students to take some time to themselves to figure out a problem. Offer your support on the side, then praise the student for their efforts!\\nFor instance, you can say something like: “I’ll give you a couple minutes to finish up this problem. Let me know if you need any help!”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work with the student instead of commandeering the assignment.\", \"描述\": \"View your tutoring session as a set of training wheels on the bike—you’re helping a student get the hang of an assignment while helping them develop confidence and independence. Don’t solve their problems and do their assignments for them, as this won’t teach your tutees anything. Accept that your sessions are a team effort where you offer support while the student leads the way.\\nSome students may expect you to solve a problem for them. In this case, say something like: “Let’s go through an example together so you can solve this problem on your own.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Center your lessons around your tutee’s interests and learning style.\", \"描述\": \"Try to gauge your student’s interests as you begin the session. If your tutee is an athlete, try adding sports metaphors into your session. If the student is a musician, try making some musical connections. \\nStudents may be more engaged in a session if you use references that they can understand.\\nFor instance, you can say something like: “The opening sentence of your essay is like the first play in a game of golf. Your sentence kicks off the reader and gets them engaged, while the first play gets viewers invested in the game.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Establishing a Tutoring Business or Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work with a tutoring center if you enjoy working with other people.\", \"描述\": \"Look for work with an established tutoring center or university so you can provide consistent help to students. Use this kind of job opportunity to exchange tips and tricks with your fellow tutors so you can improve at your job even more!\\nWorking a tutoring center can be a great job, though you don’t get to choose your own rates.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start a career as a private tutor if you want better hourly rates.\", \"描述\": \"Think about your own experience and flexibility before joining a tutoring center. Private tutoring offers a lot more freedom, and you can set your pricing based on your experience and comfort level. Start with $15 an hour or so if you don’t have a lot of experience. If you’re an advanced tutor with a lot of knowledge to share, you can set your rates anywhere up to $100.\\nLook at what other tutors are charging and try to match those rates.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create a profile on a tutoring website to market yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Find a general tutoring website that hosts different profiles. Add your resume to your profile, along with your rates and the subjects you specialize in. Wait for people to view your profile and book you for a tutoring session!\\nYou can also make your own website to advertise yourself as a tutor.\\nSome great sites to use are Wyzant, Preply, and Classgap. Some universities also let student tutors upload profiles online.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Communicate with teachers to give students a specialized learning plan.\", \"描述\": \"Talk with your tutee’s teacher to find out what they’ve been struggling with. Work with the teacher to solidify a lesson plan that’ll work well for the student. Try to keep in touch with the student’s teacher frequently, so you can lead a focused session that will really help your tutee.\\nFor instance, if a student is struggling with subject/verb agreement, you can center your next tutoring session around that.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get certified as a tutor to set yourself apart from them competition.\", \"描述\": \"Visit the National Tutoring Association or The Association for the Tutoring Profession to what certification options are available for you. Keep in mind that these certifications come with a fee of up to $55 that must be paid each year.\\nSome organizations require you to submit a professional recommendation before becoming certified.\\nThese certifications help potential clients know that you’re qualified for the job.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Always set professional boundaries with your tutees. Even if you’re the same age as your tutee, remember that your relationship is professional and not social.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Keep the session focused on academics, and not on you or your student’s personal life.\\n\", \"Don’t jeer or criticize the instructor for the tutee’s class.\\n\", \"Always keep a student’s personal information confidential.[22]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Successful Twitter Fan Account
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1. Steps
1-1. Choose a fandom you are in.
Make sure to only choose one fandom; you don't want to be not loyal. Some popular Twitter fandoms consist of popular musicians, YouTubers, TV shows, or celebrities that are well-known and liked by young teenagers.
1-2. Create a clever username.
Make a clever username that will make people want to follow and interact with you. Try to keep numbers and underscores out of your username and try not to use capital letters as it makes your account looks gross. Make sure the username corresponds to your fandom. Some clever usernames can include pretty & meaningful words along with your idol's first name, last name or initials.
1-3. Write a clever bio.
Making your bio appealing will draw in followers. You may think putting all kinds of fancy fonts in your bio will make it look cooler, but it will just make your bio look messy and unprofessional. Avoid fonts at all costs. Go with something simple; an inspirational quote or song lyric is best but don't make your bio too long.
1-4. Create a matching layout.
Make sure your Twitter header and icon match. There are many apps that you can use to create matching layouts like Superimpose & PicsArt for common pixel/8bit layouts. But, if you are not very good at matching layouts, go with a simple single shade of black and white or sepia for both.
1-5. Tweet in moderation.
Don't be inactive, but don't tweet every 2 seconds. Your followers don't want their timelines full of only your tweets. Unless your favorite celebrity is doing a follow or tweet spree, you should only be tweeting up to 50-200 times a day. That may seem like a lot, but when you're really into Twitter, it will get hard to keep within this limit.
1-6. Interact with your followers.
Remember, followers don't matter if they never talk to you. If you have over 10,000 followers, you should at least get anywhere from 10-100 favorites and/or 1-11 retweets minimum on most of your tweets. You do not need to interact with all of your followers, but become good friends with at least a few of them by having close mutuals (people who you follow and they follow you back) and/or being in lots of group chats.
1-7. Get to know the language and abbreviations commonly used on Twitter.
stan = people or things you idolize
user = username
mutuals = people that you follow and they follow you back
layout = header and icon
ratio = a comparison of your following & follower counts
threads = a collection of tweets you keep as usually your pinned tweet so you can keep your account organized
unf = unfollow
indirect = when someone mentions you without directly @ing you, usually just by saying the person's name
rt = retweet
fav= favorite
timeline= Twitter feed
tl = timeline
dm = direct message.
Warnings
Not everyone can be a successful fan account. This won't take a week to work. A lot of successful fan accounts have been on Twitter for a few years.
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Go with something simple; an inspirational quote or song lyric is best but don't make your bio too long.\\n1-4. Create a matching layout.\\nMake sure your Twitter header and icon match. There are many apps that you can use to create matching layouts like Superimpose & PicsArt for common pixel/8bit layouts. But, if you are not very good at matching layouts, go with a simple single shade of black and white or sepia for both.\\n1-5. Tweet in moderation.\\nDon't be inactive, but don't tweet every 2 seconds. Your followers don't want their timelines full of only your tweets. Unless your favorite celebrity is doing a follow or tweet spree, you should only be tweeting up to 50-200 times a day. That may seem like a lot, but when you're really into Twitter, it will get hard to keep within this limit.\\n1-6. Interact with your followers.\\nRemember, followers don't matter if they never talk to you. If you have over 10,000 followers, you should at least get anywhere from 10-100 favorites and/or 1-11 retweets minimum on most of your tweets. You do not need to interact with all of your followers, but become good friends with at least a few of them by having close mutuals (people who you follow and they follow you back) and/or being in lots of group chats.\\n1-7. Get to know the language and abbreviations commonly used on Twitter.\\nstan = people or things you idolize\\nuser = username\\nmutuals = people that you follow and they follow you back\\nlayout = header and icon\\nratio = a comparison of your following & follower counts\\nthreads = a collection of tweets you keep as usually your pinned tweet so you can keep your account organized\\nunf = unfollow\\nindirect = when someone mentions you without directly @ing you, usually just by saying the person's name\\nrt = retweet\\nfav= favorite\\ntimeline= Twitter feed\\ntl = timeline\\ndm = direct message.\\nWarnings\\nNot everyone can be a successful fan account. This won't take a week to work. A lot of successful fan accounts have been on Twitter for a few years.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There are many successful Twitter fan accounts out there and you may be having a hard time becoming one of them. Here are some tips.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose a fandom you are in.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure to only choose one fandom; you don't want to be not loyal. Some popular Twitter fandoms consist of popular musicians, YouTubers, TV shows, or celebrities that are well-known and liked by young teenagers.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create a clever username.\", \"描述\": \"Make a clever username that will make people want to follow and interact with you. Try to keep numbers and underscores out of your username and try not to use capital letters as it makes your account looks gross. Make sure the username corresponds to your fandom. Some clever usernames can include pretty & meaningful words along with your idol's first name, last name or initials.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Write a clever bio.\", \"描述\": \"Making your bio appealing will draw in followers. You may think putting all kinds of fancy fonts in your bio will make it look cooler, but it will just make your bio look messy and unprofessional. Avoid fonts at all costs. Go with something simple; an inspirational quote or song lyric is best but don't make your bio too long.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Create a matching layout.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure your Twitter header and icon match. There are many apps that you can use to create matching layouts like Superimpose & PicsArt for common pixel/8bit layouts. But, if you are not very good at matching layouts, go with a simple single shade of black and white or sepia for both.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tweet in moderation.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be inactive, but don't tweet every 2 seconds. Your followers don't want their timelines full of only your tweets. Unless your favorite celebrity is doing a follow or tweet spree, you should only be tweeting up to 50-200 times a day. That may seem like a lot, but when you're really into Twitter, it will get hard to keep within this limit.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Interact with your followers.\", \"描述\": \"Remember, followers don't matter if they never talk to you. If you have over 10,000 followers, you should at least get anywhere from 10-100 favorites and/or 1-11 retweets minimum on most of your tweets. You do not need to interact with all of your followers, but become good friends with at least a few of them by having close mutuals (people who you follow and they follow you back) and/or being in lots of group chats.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Get to know the language and abbreviations commonly used on Twitter.\", \"描述\": \"stan = people or things you idolize\\nuser = username\\nmutuals = people that you follow and they follow you back\\nlayout = header and icon\\nratio = a comparison of your following & follower counts\\nthreads = a collection of tweets you keep as usually your pinned tweet so you can keep your account organized\\nunf = unfollow\\nindirect = when someone mentions you without directly @ing you, usually just by saying the person's name\\nrt = retweet\\nfav= favorite\\ntimeline= Twitter feed\\ntl = timeline\\ndm = direct message.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"Not everyone can be a successful fan account. This won't take a week to work. A lot of successful fan accounts have been on Twitter for a few years.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Successful Wiffle Ball Hitter
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1. Steps
1-1. Know the implements of the game you are playing.
There are many different types of wiffle balls (circle holes all around, spiral holes on just one side, Junk Balls), as well as many different types of bats (big barrel, medium barrel, standard yellow thin barrel). It may sound obvious, but knowing what you are using is imperative in order to hit well.
1-2. Find a comfortable batting stance.
Stand at the plate in whatever way feels natural, and test how comfortable you feel in your stance by swinging the bat a couple of times. See if your swing is at its full potential in this stance. When you feel ready, settle in for the at bat.
1-3. Crowd the plate.
If you're crowding the plate, a slider or curveball that would normally be right down the tube will probably hit you. Also, you'll draw more walks and the pitcher will be forced to aim for the outside corner, which is a pitch you can handle.
1-4. Identify the ball as soon as it leaves the pitcher's hand.
Try to distinguish how it will travel based on its spin, the pitcher's arm location, the hole location on the ball, the wind, etc. There are one of four ways the ball can go:
Curve Out. The ball will tail away from your body. The arm motion of the pitcher is over the top, with the holes on the ball facing away from your body.
Curve In. The ball curves into your body. The arm motion of the pitcher is over the top, with the holes on the ball facing your body.
Sinker. The ball will drop towards the plate. The arm motion of the pitcher is sidearm, with the holes on the ball facing the ground.
High ball. The ball will rise upwards. The arm motion of the pitcher is sidearm, with the holes on the ball facing towards the sky.
1-5. Once the type of pitch is identified, determine whether the ball is worth swinging at.
If you can hit it well, swing away. If not, watch it go by.
1-6. Swing lightly.
The ball is going to have a huge jump off the bat no matter how hard you swing. Its best to slow down your bat speed and simply ensure contact with the ball is made.
Don't try to destroy the ball. Don't just try to make contact, either. Swing hard and focus on hitting a solid line drive.
Tips
In most wiffle ball games, balls and strikes (the count) are not kept track of. With this in mind, even a questionable strike may not be worth swinging at. Wait patiently for a perfect pitch to hit.
Keep your swing under control by swinging lightly.
Warnings
Lay off the low pitches. Even if it seems like a good pitch to hit, you're probably going to hit it on the ground.
Do not swing for the fences and try to hit a huge home run. Home runs come easily enough in wiffle ball. Over exertion on your swing will ruin your at bat.
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Swing lightly.\\nThe ball is going to have a huge jump off the bat no matter how hard you swing. Its best to slow down your bat speed and simply ensure contact with the ball is made.\\nDon't try to destroy the ball. Don't just try to make contact, either. Swing hard and focus on hitting a solid line drive.\\nTips\\nIn most wiffle ball games, balls and strikes (the count) are not kept track of. With this in mind, even a questionable strike may not be worth swinging at. Wait patiently for a perfect pitch to hit.\\nKeep your swing under control by swinging lightly.\\nWarnings\\nLay off the low pitches. Even if it seems like a good pitch to hit, you're probably going to hit it on the ground.\\nDo not swing for the fences and try to hit a huge home run. Home runs come easily enough in wiffle ball. Over exertion on your swing will ruin your at bat.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Wiffle Ball is a game all about offense. If you cannot hit well, you simply cannot play well. 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How to Be a Successful Young Woman
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1. Being Successful Personally
1-1. Set goals.
Before you can set yourself on the path of being successful in your personal life, it’s a good idea to set goals for yourself. By tangibly establishing what your aims are in the short, mid, and long terms, you have an easy way to remind yourself of what you’re working towards.
Write your goals on paper. Having a visual cue reminds you of and reinforces your goals. For example, you could write the following: “My short term goal is to find a nice partner and finish my Master’s degree. My mid-term goal is to get engaged and find an exciting job. My long term goal is to get married and have a family while being a successful financial planner.”
Update your goals as you meet them. Once or twice a year, reevaluate your goals to make sure they’re still realistic and attainable.
Setting unrealistic goals will not only cause you unnecessary anxiety, but can also hamper your success and the ability to meet other goals. Consider talking to a therapist about setting personal goals or any anxiety related to them you may have.
Know your list of things to do and goals will never be finished and that it’s ok. As you attain your goals and cross items off of your to-do list, you’ll also be adding new items.
1-2. Have confidence and believe that you will be successful.
Two characteristics of a successful person is that they not only have confidence in themselves, but also that they believe in their ability to succeed. By cultivating and projecting confidence in yourself and to others, you set yourself on the path for success.
Confidence comes from many sources, including knowing that you have a good education and training, good relationships, or even that you look good. If you are lacking confidence in certain areas, take proactive steps to boost it.
For example, if you don’t feel confident because they your friends are more successful professionally, then work towards garnering more professional success through education or even a promotion. If your appearance leaves you feeling not confident, improve it. Something as simple as revived hair color can do wonders.
It’s important to know that even if you are confident and successful, that failure is a part of the equation.
Disappointment and failure are components of success. Even someone like author J.K. Rowling experienced failures before they hit it big.
1-3. Don’t expect perfection from yourself- or anyone else.
As you strive to meet your goals, be confident and believe in your success, it’s important to not expect perfection from yourself or those around you. In fact, trying to be perfect often hampers your ability to perform well and can alienate those around you.
Perfectionism doesn’t mean that you’re not trying to be your best, it means you’re reaching towards an unattainable goal. For example, if you are trying to have the “perfect” body, any minor setback may hinder you from enjoying yourself. It’s best to love yourself the way you are and work from there.
Expecting perfection from others can seriously and negatively affect your relationships, even causing them to break.
1-4. Have meaningful personal relationships.
Surrounding yourself with genuine friends and colleagues who will support you through good times and bad is essential to your success. It’s important to maintain these relationships over time to ensure your success and boost your confidence.
Beyond having meaningful relationships with friends, colleagues, and families, it’s also important to have a supportive partner. A partner can instill confidence in you and will support your goals for achieving personal and professional success.
Part of fostering meaningful relationships is that you reciprocate the support and love you receive.
Expressing gratitude is a key feature of having meaningful relationships. It’s important to show anyone who helps you along the way how much you appreciate them.
1-5. Take care of yourself physically and mentally.
You can’t be successful if you don’t take care of your physical and mental health. Exercise is an excellent way to relieve stress, and increase endorphins and energy.
Taking a short walk twice a day will refresh your body and mind. For example, a 3 mile (4.8 km) run will give you time to work out personal or professional problems if you need to while providing your body with needed exercise to maintain your health.
In a world where you are easily contacted by cell phones, email, and social media, having unplugged alone time is vital to maintaining your health by minimizing how much input you need to process on a daily basis. For example, you can turn off all electronics at 10pm so that you have an hour or two all to yourself or with your family. Another option is exercising, such as going for a walk or run, to have some time alone.
1-6. Watch your finances.
It is difficult to have personal success if your finances are not in order. By controlling your financial profile, you can not only boost your confidence, but also afford yourself opportunities such as education that may come up.
It’s important to budget. Knowing where your money is coming from and how you’re spending it will help you control your finances more effectively. Part of this equation is using credit wisely and not making impulse buys that you can’t really afford. For example, you wouldn’t want to rent an apartment that cost $1500 per month when you’re only making $2000 per month.
Make sure you’re saving money routinely. If something catastrophic happens, you will need a reserve to get you through the hard times. But you may also want to save it for something special, like a big vacation, which is important to helping you recharge and, if you go with others, connecting with them.
2. Being Successful Professionally
2-1. Make a plan and set goals.
Just as you do for your personal life, you need to set goals for your professional life. By tangibly establishing what your aims are in the short, mid, and long terms, you have an easy way to remind yourself of what you’re working towards. This will also help you formulate a plan to achieve those goals.
Write down your goals on paper. It’s a good idea to have a visual reminder of your goals. For example you could write: “My short term goal is to do an internship as an editor, my mid-term goal is to get a Master’s in English, and my long-term goal is to work as the Editor-in-Chief of Vogue.”
Make sure to update your goals as you meet them. Once or twice a year, reevaluate your goals to make sure they’re still realistic and attainable and set new ones as necessary. It is often useful to discuss these with a colleague or even your boss.
Don’t set unrealistic goals for yourself. This will not only cause you unnecessary anxiety, but can also hamper your ability to meet other goals. For example, if you’re currently working in the mailroom, it’s highly unlikely you will be the CEO within a year. But you can work up from the mailroom to the reception area and then up from that position, for example.
Talking with a senior colleague or trusted supervisor can help allay any concerns or anxiety you may have regarding your career.
2-2. Get as much education and training as you can.
Having an education and job-related training is integral to being successful professionally. But you also want to make sure that you continue your education and training throughout your career so that you stay valuable to your workplace or are marketable if you choose to change jobs.
There are many ways to get education for your job. It’s a good idea to research the requirements for your chosen profession. For example, if you want to be a university professor, you’ll need a PhD and some training for being in the classroom. If you want to be a wedding planner, on the other hand, you’ll need more on the job education and training than actual degrees.
Training and the type of education that comes from practical experience is also very valuable when you’re marketing yourself professionally. For example, working as an editorial assistant at a magazine can help you get a job as an editor.
Knowing that you have the right education and training is also helpful because it will build your confidence and make you more attractive to employers or potential employers.
2-3. Have confidence and believe that you will be successful professionally.
Two characteristics of a successful person is that they not only have confidence in themselves, but also that they believe in their ability to succeed. By cultivating and projecting confidence in yourself, you set yourself on the path for success not only to yourself, but also to employers.
Knowing that you have a good education and training can help boost your confidence. If you are lacking confidence in certain areas, take proactive steps to boost it.
For example, if you don’t feel confident because your colleagues are often promoted over you, then work towards garnering more professional success through education or even a promotion. Talking to your boss or another colleague about how to improve your performance is also an excellent idea.
It’s important to know that even if you are confident and successful, that failure is a part of the equation. Both Bill Gates and Steve Jobs experienced failures before they found success.
2-4. Be passionate about what you do.
You can’t be truly successful unless you are passionate about your profession. If you don’t love your job, you’re less likely to go above and beyond for success.
Your job will feel like chore if you don’t love it. This will make you more likely to be sloppy in your assignments and not take any initiative that would help you succeed.
2-5. Don’t be afraid to take risks.
Changing your professional course to put yourself on the path to success requires taking some risk. However, this doesn’t mean making reckless decisions, rather that you should take a calculated risk.
The idea is to take a calculated risk, not something that could ultimately hinder your goals. For example, maybe you love your current workplace, but have hit the glass ceiling. When an opportunity for a promotion at another company comes up, weigh the advantages and disadvantages of taking the job and assess how much risk the switch could have on you personally and professionally. Either way you decide, you’re taking a calculated risk.
2-6. Be an effective communicator.
As the work place increasingly shifts towards more team-based work, greater customer contact, more diversity, and ever-higher employee expectations, the ability to effectively and positively communicate with colleagues is absolutely integral to your professional success. Being an effective communicator demands everything from being a good listener to being polite and having the ability to express your gratitude.
Be a good listener to anyone associated with you professionally. The ability to listen to someone’s needs or problems will not only help cultivate your relationship with the person, but also may help your own goals down the road.
Always be polite to people, even if they aren’t. The truism “you win more bees with honey than vinegar” is something you can apply to your professional life. Leaving a bad impression on colleagues or associates can have lasting consequences for you professionally.
Being polite extends to when you have to deliver bad news to someone professionally. For example, if you have to fire someone, say something positive to the person, followed by the negative, and then sandwich that in without another bit of positive feedback.
Express gratitude to your colleagues. The ability to recognize when someone has supported you is important to maintaining good working relationships. Not only will it make the person feel appreciated and show them that you respect their contributions, but you will gain personal capital among your colleagues.
2-7. Foster good working relationships.
Without having positive working relationships with colleagues at all of your jobs, you cannot be successful. It’s thus important to maintain and expand your professional support system over time.
Part of fostering good working relationships is networking. Having a broad network of colleagues and even professional friends on whom you can rely will serve you professionally not only in your current job, but also among former colleagues or those you may have down the road.<
Having a mentor who has experience in your profession is a good idea. She can provide you valuable guidance from everything on taking risks, to dealing with colleagues, or improving your skills.
Don’t expect perfection your colleagues- or yourself. This can seriously and negatively affect your working relationships, and you’re your professional success.
Know that it’s also acceptable to be wrong, especially if it means maintaining a professional relationship. This shows that you’re the bigger person.
2-8. Take breaks- and vacations.
Having time away from your job for everything from ten minutes a day to a full vacation is important to your success as well. Time away refreshes you, helps you avoid burn out, and can reset you on your path to success.
Take breaks during the day. They give your brain and body a chance to relax and refresh.
Schedule annual vacations to further help you refresh. While a ten-minute walk or a run will help you decompress throughout a workday, an annual vacation where you completely unplug from your job will refresh your body and mind.
Tips
Know that it's okay to make mistakes; just remember to learn from them.
Be consistently helpful and kind.
Never forget to praise the persons who helped you during the journey of your success.
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Consider talking to a therapist about setting personal goals or any anxiety related to them you may have.\\nKnow your list of things to do and goals will never be finished and that it’s ok. As you attain your goals and cross items off of your to-do list, you’ll also be adding new items.\\n1-2. Have confidence and believe that you will be successful.\\nTwo characteristics of a successful person is that they not only have confidence in themselves, but also that they believe in their ability to succeed. By cultivating and projecting confidence in yourself and to others, you set yourself on the path for success.\\nConfidence comes from many sources, including knowing that you have a good education and training, good relationships, or even that you look good. If you are lacking confidence in certain areas, take proactive steps to boost it.\\nFor example, if you don’t feel confident because they your friends are more successful professionally, then work towards garnering more professional success through education or even a promotion. If your appearance leaves you feeling not confident, improve it. Something as simple as revived hair color can do wonders.\\nIt’s important to know that even if you are confident and successful, that failure is a part of the equation.\\nDisappointment and failure are components of success. Even someone like author J.K. Rowling experienced failures before they hit it big.\\n1-3. Don’t expect perfection from yourself- or anyone else.\\nAs you strive to meet your goals, be confident and believe in your success, it’s important to not expect perfection from yourself or those around you. 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Leaving a bad impression on colleagues or associates can have lasting consequences for you professionally.\\nBeing polite extends to when you have to deliver bad news to someone professionally. For example, if you have to fire someone, say something positive to the person, followed by the negative, and then sandwich that in without another bit of positive feedback.\\nExpress gratitude to your colleagues. The ability to recognize when someone has supported you is important to maintaining good working relationships. Not only will it make the person feel appreciated and show them that you respect their contributions, but you will gain personal capital among your colleagues.\\n2-7. Foster good working relationships.\\nWithout having positive working relationships with colleagues at all of your jobs, you cannot be successful. It’s thus important to maintain and expand your professional support system over time.\\nPart of fostering good working relationships is networking. Having a broad network of colleagues and even professional friends on whom you can rely will serve you professionally not only in your current job, but also among former colleagues or those you may have down the road.<\\nHaving a mentor who has experience in your profession is a good idea. She can provide you valuable guidance from everything on taking risks, to dealing with colleagues, or improving your skills.\\nDon’t expect perfection your colleagues- or yourself. This can seriously and negatively affect your working relationships, and you’re your professional success.\\nKnow that it’s also acceptable to be wrong, especially if it means maintaining a professional relationship. This shows that you’re the bigger person.\\n2-8. Take breaks- and vacations.\\nHaving time away from your job for everything from ten minutes a day to a full vacation is important to your success as well. Time away refreshes you, helps you avoid burn out, and can reset you on your path to success.\\nTake breaks during the day. They give your brain and body a chance to relax and refresh.\\nSchedule annual vacations to further help you refresh. While a ten-minute walk or a run will help you decompress throughout a workday, an annual vacation where you completely unplug from your job will refresh your body and mind.\\nTips\\nKnow that it's okay to make mistakes; just remember to learn from them.\\nBe consistently helpful and kind.\\nNever forget to praise the persons who helped you during the journey of your success.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Every young woman wants to be a success in her personal and professional lives. But the path to success can be tricky and navigating it requires that you be proactive in several aspects of your life. 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If you are lacking confidence in certain areas, take proactive steps to boost it.\\nFor example, if you don’t feel confident because your colleagues are often promoted over you, then work towards garnering more professional success through education or even a promotion. Talking to your boss or another colleague about how to improve your performance is also an excellent idea.\\nIt’s important to know that even if you are confident and successful, that failure is a part of the equation. Both Bill Gates and Steve Jobs experienced failures before they found success.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be passionate about what you do.\", \"描述\": \"You can’t be truly successful unless you are passionate about your profession. If you don’t love your job, you’re less likely to go above and beyond for success.\\nYour job will feel like chore if you don’t love it. This will make you more likely to be sloppy in your assignments and not take any initiative that would help you succeed.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don’t be afraid to take risks.\", \"描述\": \"Changing your professional course to put yourself on the path to success requires taking some risk. However, this doesn’t mean making reckless decisions, rather that you should take a calculated risk.\\nThe idea is to take a calculated risk, not something that could ultimately hinder your goals. For example, maybe you love your current workplace, but have hit the glass ceiling. When an opportunity for a promotion at another company comes up, weigh the advantages and disadvantages of taking the job and assess how much risk the switch could have on you personally and professionally. Either way you decide, you’re taking a calculated risk.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be an effective communicator.\", \"描述\": \"As the work place increasingly shifts towards more team-based work, greater customer contact, more diversity, and ever-higher employee expectations, the ability to effectively and positively communicate with colleagues is absolutely integral to your professional success. Being an effective communicator demands everything from being a good listener to being polite and having the ability to express your gratitude.\\nBe a good listener to anyone associated with you professionally. The ability to listen to someone’s needs or problems will not only help cultivate your relationship with the person, but also may help your own goals down the road.\\nAlways be polite to people, even if they aren’t. The truism “you win more bees with honey than vinegar” is something you can apply to your professional life. Leaving a bad impression on colleagues or associates can have lasting consequences for you professionally.\\nBeing polite extends to when you have to deliver bad news to someone professionally. For example, if you have to fire someone, say something positive to the person, followed by the negative, and then sandwich that in without another bit of positive feedback.\\nExpress gratitude to your colleagues. The ability to recognize when someone has supported you is important to maintaining good working relationships. Not only will it make the person feel appreciated and show them that you respect their contributions, but you will gain personal capital among your colleagues.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Foster good working relationships.\", \"描述\": \"Without having positive working relationships with colleagues at all of your jobs, you cannot be successful. It’s thus important to maintain and expand your professional support system over time.\\nPart of fostering good working relationships is networking. Having a broad network of colleagues and even professional friends on whom you can rely will serve you professionally not only in your current job, but also among former colleagues or those you may have down the road.<\\nHaving a mentor who has experience in your profession is a good idea. She can provide you valuable guidance from everything on taking risks, to dealing with colleagues, or improving your skills.\\nDon’t expect perfection your colleagues- or yourself. This can seriously and negatively affect your working relationships, and you’re your professional success.\\nKnow that it’s also acceptable to be wrong, especially if it means maintaining a professional relationship. 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1. Listening Actively to Your Partner
1-1. Recognize when something is bothering them.
You need to pay attention not only to their words but also to their attitude and body language. Be aware when something seems to be bothering them.
Try to avoid taking it personally when they are in a bad mood; chances are, it has nothing to do with you. Therefore, you should avoid making the situation worse by being rude or angry in return.
1-2. Give them the opportunity to express their feelings.
Some people simply do not like to show vulnerability, and there is nothing wrong with that. However, this also means that they might not be immediately forthcoming about what the issue is.
Gently inquire about what is bothering them. You might say, “I can tell that you've got a lot on your mind. Would you like to talk about it?” Another example of what you could say is, “You seem down today. How can I help?”
If your partner does not want to talk about the issue right away, then respect that decision. They will come to you about it when they are ready.
1-3. Listen carefully
When they are ready to share with you, take the time to listen carefully to what they are saying.Validate their feelings and give cues that you are actively listening:
Avoid interrupting. Talk when they give you the opportunity or when they ask you a question.
Repeat back what they said in brief summaries when given the opportunity: “I heard you say that...” or “I understand that you felt...”
Maintain eye contact while they talk.
Show concern in your facial expression.
Ask questions about what they shared.
1-4. View the situation from your partner's perspective.
You are obviously unique individuals, no matter how much you may have in common. When you help them through issues, it will be helpful to try to view the issue from their perspective.
Pinpoint what about the issue upsets them, if they do not or cannot identify it.
Understand why this problem upsets them.
Figure out how they might solve this problem based on their personality.
Be supportive and gently guide them along the right path if you realize that they are actually in the wrong in the situation.
1-5. Offer realistic solutions.
Once they have shared the issue and gotten it off of their chest, think of realistic solutions to offer that will help the situation. Try asking "Are you looking for suggestions, or do you just want to vent?" if you aren't sure whether your partner is open to advice.
Suggest solutions that will not further aggravate the situation. For example, if they are upset about an argument they had with a coworker, do not suggest something like playing a prank on the coworker to get revenge.
Offer to help however you can. They may or may not want your help, and it is important that you respect that. They are independent and capable of doing things on their own.
Simply offer to be there for them as a listening ear and shoulder to cry on, if there is not much that you can do to help with a solution.
1-6. Apologize if necessary.
It might turn out that your partner is upset about something that you did or said. When they have shared this with you, it would be helpful to apologize.
Every situation is different. It may be the case that you stand by what you said or did and do not feel the need to apologize, and they deserve an explanation of why. However, if you had no idea that what you said or did upset them that much and genuinely feel badly about that, apologizing is necessary.
You can also apologize even if the situation has nothing to do with you: “I'm sorry that this happened to you. I'll be by your side to support you however I can.”
2. Communicating with Your Partner
2-1. Create an open line of communication with them.
Part of being supportive is being both trustworthy and trusting, and having open communication really helps to build trust.
Always be open with your partner, and avoid keeping secrets. It is okay to keep a small secret, such as what you plan to get them for a birthday gift, but you should never keep secrets about your relationship or things that happen that you know they will not like.
2-2. Share your thoughts and feelings
This applies to a wide range of situations. You should share your thoughts both when they are happy and when they are unhappy. Your partner deserves to know.
It is important to express to their how much you care for and love them. You do not have to express those feelings multiple times per day, but reminding them on a daily basis shows you care.
You also need to let them know when they have said or done something that upsets you. Part of supporting them is helping them to grow and learn from mistakes but in a healthy, supportive way. There is no need to start an argument, but gently telling your partner something like, “When you said that, I felt like you were indicating that I annoy you, and that hurt my feelings” will get the point across.
2-3. Show respect when communicating with them.
Be firm in your words, if necessary, but be polite and respectful. Arguments are almost always avoidable, and your tone of voice and word choice will impact whether your discussion is a respectful disagreement or a full-blown argument.
Blaming them only causes their stress. Instead, by carefully and thoughtfully telling them what the issue is, you set them up for success in mending the situation.
Always be willing to recognize your own mistakes and take accountability for them.
2-4. Be willing to make compromises or sacrifices.
A relationship is a two-way street, and everything about the relationship should be based on both individuals' wants and needs. Not every decision will be easy, and often, one person will need to agree to a compromise or be willing to make a sacrifice. Support them by making one of these choices when it is necessary.
One example of making a compromise is when you are planning a vacation together. Perhaps you want to go on a beach vacation to an all-inclusive resort, but they do not because it is more expensive. The two of you might come to a compromise by agreeing on a beach vacation somewhere that is closer to home, where you might be table to take a road trip instead of fly, or somewhere that is not a resort.
An example of making a sacrifice would be giving in to their wants or needs. Say that they really rely on regular exercise as a way to feel good about herself. You might need to make a sacrifice to forgo an event because they want to take that time to exercise and get that confidence boost.
3. Encouraging Your Partner
3-1. Let them know that they have your support.
Regardless of what the situation may be (for example, their sporting event or taking on a promotion at work), make sure they know that you support them.
Be excited about opportunities that arise for them, and express that excitement.
Be there in person to support when you can, like at a sporting event or at a fundraiser.
Let others know about their opportunity, if they feel comfortable with that.
3-2. Ask them what you can do to assist.
Encourage them to take on the new opportunity by taking tasks off of their to-do list so that they can better focus. Offer to take care of some chores or errands so that they can focus their attention on their needs:
Grocery shopping
Laundry or dry cleaning
Cleaning your home
Preparing food in advance
Helping with administrative tasks, like sending emails or managing their calendar
3-3. Encourage them to go after their goals and dreams.
An unhealthy relationship is one in which one person holds the other back. Show them that you truly support them by encouraging them to chase their goals.
Offer to find ways to make their goals or dreams attainable, like helping them do research and learning more about their ambitions.
When they feel discouraged, share uplifting words: “I know you feel like you're a long way from reaching your goal right now, but let's take a moment to look at how far you've come since you started!”
3-4. Be optimistic for them.
There will likely be times when they feel pessimistic. Help them turn those feelings around by remaining optimistic.
If you feel pessimistic, too, and display that pessimism, then they might give up on their goals.
Even if you do feel frustrated at times, find ways to continue to be supportive and to express that frustration in a healthy way. Find a friend to whom you can vent your frustrations, play sports, or take a walk.
3-5. Give them space when necessary.
At times, the best way you can encourage them to do something is to give them space. Recognize when this is needed, and give them the space they need.
Giving too much encouragement can become or seem nagging, and no partner appreciates being nagged.
Take this time to do something good for yourself: a warm bath, a good book, a solitary walk, time with your hobbies, or something else you enjoy.
3-6. Challenge them to be a better person.
No one is perfect—including you—and one way to be supportive of them is to encourage them to become better.
Your relationship will benefit from individual improvements, whether those are related to their attitude, personality, physical appearance, et cetera.
This does not mean that you should or can nag them. If there is something you do not like about them, you cannot force them to change it, especially if they do not want to change. However, you can inspire them to become a better person in some way.
Be open to them turning this around on yourself and encouraging yourself to become a better person, as well. Show support by improving together.
4. Helping Your Partner
4-1. Know your boundaries with helping them.
Some people are incredibly independent and dislike taking help from others; in fact, some people even find it insulting. Be aware of their feelings on you helping them before going too in-depth with helping. When in doubt, just ask.
4-2. Determine with what they need help.
It is a nice gesture to simply take care of a task for someone, but in some cases, they might need or want help with a specific thing.
Ask them if there is anything in particular with which you can help.
Consider helping with a variety of tasks, including things such as household chores, grocery shopping, completing work-related tasks, doing DIY projects, and home renovations.
Your help could also come in the form of emotional help. You do not always need to physically help them with something; being there for emotional help and support is important, too.
4-3. Offer to help in whatever way you can best help.
Know your own limitations with whatever tasks or projects they need assistance.
Avoid offering to do something that you do not know how or do not have the skills to do.
Even taking a couple of small, easy tasks off their to-do list is better than no help at all. Do what you can.
4-4. Find creative solutions to their problems.
Help them by researching a different method to accomplish a task or by thinking of different strategies to a solve a problem. Every person thinks about situations uniquely, and your different perspective has benefits to them.
For example, your partner might be trying to repair a drawer, but they are having trouble. Take some time to look up the specific problem with the drawer and methods of fixing it to show them.
Another example includes when they are having a problem with another person. Perhaps they can only think of confrontational, reactive ways to solve the problem. Maybe you could help by offering calmer, more proactive solutions.
4-5. Make your partner aware that you are there to help whenever they need it.
They might not need help on a project from beginning to end, but you can let them know that you are there for help whenever they need you.
Especially in situations of moral support, they might want to solve the problem on their own. However, they will appreciate knowing that you are there to talk and/or listen.
In some cases, you may just get in their way by being around and trying to help all the time. Know when to step away and help only when they ask for it.
Tips
Remember that they are an individual. It is acceptable to want them to succeed, but you do not—and should not—have to do things for them.
Give them space and opportunity to spend time with other people, like other friends and family members. Although you are a couple, you can each still have a little bit of a separate personal life.
Warnings
Find the line between being supportive and being clingy or obsessive. While it is true that some people like feeling that their partner is dependent on them, many people find clingy or obsessive behavior to be annoying.
Avoid being judgmental of them. This will only create feelings of resentment in one or both of you, which will damage your relationship.[14]
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Research source
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Make your partner aware that you are there to help whenever they need it.\\nThey might not need help on a project from beginning to end, but you can let them know that you are there for help whenever they need you. \\nEspecially in situations of moral support, they might want to solve the problem on their own. However, they will appreciate knowing that you are there to talk and/or listen.\\nIn some cases, you may just get in their way by being around and trying to help all the time. Know when to step away and help only when they ask for it.\\nTips\\nRemember that they are an individual. It is acceptable to want them to succeed, but you do not—and should not—have to do things for them.\\nGive them space and opportunity to spend time with other people, like other friends and family members. Although you are a couple, you can each still have a little bit of a separate personal life.\\nWarnings\\nFind the line between being supportive and being clingy or obsessive. 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When you help them through issues, it will be helpful to try to view the issue from their perspective. \\nPinpoint what about the issue upsets them, if they do not or cannot identify it.\\nUnderstand why this problem upsets them.\\nFigure out how they might solve this problem based on their personality.\\nBe supportive and gently guide them along the right path if you realize that they are actually in the wrong in the situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Offer realistic solutions.\", \"描述\": \"Once they have shared the issue and gotten it off of their chest, think of realistic solutions to offer that will help the situation. Try asking \\\"Are you looking for suggestions, or do you just want to vent?\\\" if you aren't sure whether your partner is open to advice. \\nSuggest solutions that will not further aggravate the situation. For example, if they are upset about an argument they had with a coworker, do not suggest something like playing a prank on the coworker to get revenge.\\nOffer to help however you can. They may or may not want your help, and it is important that you respect that. They are independent and capable of doing things on their own.\\nSimply offer to be there for them as a listening ear and shoulder to cry on, if there is not much that you can do to help with a solution.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Apologize if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"It might turn out that your partner is upset about something that you did or said. When they have shared this with you, it would be helpful to apologize.\\nEvery situation is different. It may be the case that you stand by what you said or did and do not feel the need to apologize, and they deserve an explanation of why. However, if you had no idea that what you said or did upset them that much and genuinely feel badly about that, apologizing is necessary.\\nYou can also apologize even if the situation has nothing to do with you: “I'm sorry that this happened to you. I'll be by your side to support you however I can.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicating with Your Partner\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create an open line of communication with them.\", \"描述\": \"Part of being supportive is being both trustworthy and trusting, and having open communication really helps to build trust.\\nAlways be open with your partner, and avoid keeping secrets. It is okay to keep a small secret, such as what you plan to get them for a birthday gift, but you should never keep secrets about your relationship or things that happen that you know they will not like.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Share your thoughts and feelings\", \"描述\": \"This applies to a wide range of situations. You should share your thoughts both when they are happy and when they are unhappy. Your partner deserves to know. \\nIt is important to express to their how much you care for and love them. You do not have to express those feelings multiple times per day, but reminding them on a daily basis shows you care.\\nYou also need to let them know when they have said or done something that upsets you. Part of supporting them is helping them to grow and learn from mistakes but in a healthy, supportive way. There is no need to start an argument, but gently telling your partner something like, “When you said that, I felt like you were indicating that I annoy you, and that hurt my feelings” will get the point across.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Show respect when communicating with them.\", \"描述\": \"Be firm in your words, if necessary, but be polite and respectful. Arguments are almost always avoidable, and your tone of voice and word choice will impact whether your discussion is a respectful disagreement or a full-blown argument.\\nBlaming them only causes their stress. Instead, by carefully and thoughtfully telling them what the issue is, you set them up for success in mending the situation.\\nAlways be willing to recognize your own mistakes and take accountability for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be willing to make compromises or sacrifices.\", \"描述\": \"A relationship is a two-way street, and everything about the relationship should be based on both individuals' wants and needs. Not every decision will be easy, and often, one person will need to agree to a compromise or be willing to make a sacrifice. Support them by making one of these choices when it is necessary.\\nOne example of making a compromise is when you are planning a vacation together. Perhaps you want to go on a beach vacation to an all-inclusive resort, but they do not because it is more expensive. The two of you might come to a compromise by agreeing on a beach vacation somewhere that is closer to home, where you might be table to take a road trip instead of fly, or somewhere that is not a resort.\\nAn example of making a sacrifice would be giving in to their wants or needs. Say that they really rely on regular exercise as a way to feel good about herself. You might need to make a sacrifice to forgo an event because they want to take that time to exercise and get that confidence boost.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Encouraging Your Partner\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Let them know that they have your support.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of what the situation may be (for example, their sporting event or taking on a promotion at work), make sure they know that you support them.\\nBe excited about opportunities that arise for them, and express that excitement.\\nBe there in person to support when you can, like at a sporting event or at a fundraiser.\\nLet others know about their opportunity, if they feel comfortable with that.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask them what you can do to assist.\", \"描述\": \"Encourage them to take on the new opportunity by taking tasks off of their to-do list so that they can better focus. Offer to take care of some chores or errands so that they can focus their attention on their needs: \\nGrocery shopping\\nLaundry or dry cleaning\\nCleaning your home\\nPreparing food in advance\\nHelping with administrative tasks, like sending emails or managing their calendar\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Encourage them to go after their goals and dreams.\", \"描述\": \"An unhealthy relationship is one in which one person holds the other back. Show them that you truly support them by encouraging them to chase their goals.\\nOffer to find ways to make their goals or dreams attainable, like helping them do research and learning more about their ambitions.\\nWhen they feel discouraged, share uplifting words: “I know you feel like you're a long way from reaching your goal right now, but let's take a moment to look at how far you've come since you started!”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be optimistic for them.\", \"描述\": \"There will likely be times when they feel pessimistic. Help them turn those feelings around by remaining optimistic. \\nIf you feel pessimistic, too, and display that pessimism, then they might give up on their goals.\\nEven if you do feel frustrated at times, find ways to continue to be supportive and to express that frustration in a healthy way. Find a friend to whom you can vent your frustrations, play sports, or take a walk.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give them space when necessary.\", \"描述\": \"At times, the best way you can encourage them to do something is to give them space. Recognize when this is needed, and give them the space they need. \\nGiving too much encouragement can become or seem nagging, and no partner appreciates being nagged.\\nTake this time to do something good for yourself: a warm bath, a good book, a solitary walk, time with your hobbies, or something else you enjoy.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Challenge them to be a better person.\", \"描述\": \"No one is perfect—including you—and one way to be supportive of them is to encourage them to become better.\\nYour relationship will benefit from individual improvements, whether those are related to their attitude, personality, physical appearance, et cetera.\\nThis does not mean that you should or can nag them. If there is something you do not like about them, you cannot force them to change it, especially if they do not want to change. However, you can inspire them to become a better person in some way.\\nBe open to them turning this around on yourself and encouraging yourself to become a better person, as well. Show support by improving together.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Helping Your Partner\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know your boundaries with helping them.\", \"描述\": \"Some people are incredibly independent and dislike taking help from others; in fact, some people even find it insulting. Be aware of their feelings on you helping them before going too in-depth with helping. When in doubt, just ask.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Determine with what they need help.\", \"描述\": \"It is a nice gesture to simply take care of a task for someone, but in some cases, they might need or want help with a specific thing.\\nAsk them if there is anything in particular with which you can help.\\nConsider helping with a variety of tasks, including things such as household chores, grocery shopping, completing work-related tasks, doing DIY projects, and home renovations.\\nYour help could also come in the form of emotional help. You do not always need to physically help them with something; being there for emotional help and support is important, too.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Offer to help in whatever way you can best help.\", \"描述\": \"Know your own limitations with whatever tasks or projects they need assistance. \\nAvoid offering to do something that you do not know how or do not have the skills to do.\\nEven taking a couple of small, easy tasks off their to-do list is better than no help at all. Do what you can.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find creative solutions to their problems.\", \"描述\": \"Help them by researching a different method to accomplish a task or by thinking of different strategies to a solve a problem. Every person thinks about situations uniquely, and your different perspective has benefits to them. \\nFor example, your partner might be trying to repair a drawer, but they are having trouble. Take some time to look up the specific problem with the drawer and methods of fixing it to show them.\\nAnother example includes when they are having a problem with another person. Perhaps they can only think of confrontational, reactive ways to solve the problem. Maybe you could help by offering calmer, more proactive solutions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make your partner aware that you are there to help whenever they need it.\", \"描述\": \"They might not need help on a project from beginning to end, but you can let them know that you are there for help whenever they need you. \\nEspecially in situations of moral support, they might want to solve the problem on their own. However, they will appreciate knowing that you are there to talk and/or listen.\\nIn some cases, you may just get in their way by being around and trying to help all the time. Know when to step away and help only when they ask for it.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Remember that they are an individual. 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1. Make time for your partner.
Giving them your time and attention lets them know they're important.
People are busier than ever, so it really means something if you create time just for the two of you—not to do chores, run errands, or get something done. Set aside time for the two of you to enjoy each other's company. You'll both feel more emotionally connected as a couple.
Aim for a weekly date night. If nights aren't an option, have lunch or breakfast together at least once a week. The point is to find a time that works.
Do activities that you enjoy as a couple. You two might go for a jog, see a movie, do a wine tasting, or swim at the lake for instance.
2. Do thoughtful things for them.
Help your partner without pointing it out to reduce their stress levels.
When you do things that support your partner without being obvious, it's called invisible support. The great thing about invisible support is that your partner enjoys your efforts, but doesn't feel obligated to do something in return. Here are some nice things you could do for them:
Get an oil change on their car when you notice it's time.
Let your partner pick the restaurant the next time you go out.
Save them the last piece of dessert even though you'd like it.
Do a task that your partner usually does and complains about.
If you have kids together, ask them to make sweet cards for your partner.
3. Have regular check-ins.
Frequent communication shows that you value your connection.
It's really easy to get stuck in a routine where you don't have thoughtful or meaningful conversations with one another. Make a point of talking every week, so you're both on the same page. You might talk about how you're both feeling or how life, in general, is going.
For instance, you might say, "Hey, it's been a while since we met up for coffee and just talked," or, "Are you free to have a quick check-in today? I just want to chat about our relationship."
4. Ask what your partner needs.
Learn their needs so you can understand or fulfill them.
If you've been with your partner for a while, you might automatically assume that you know what they need or want. Instead of making these assumptions, ask your partner what they need. They'll feel respected and will really appreciate that you cared enough to find out.
For instance, your partner might say, "I just need to be able to vent about my day. I don't expect you to solve my problems—it just helps to have you listen," or, "I need more physical connection. It makes me feel really good when you come over and give me a hug or we hold hands."
5. Practice active listening with your partner.
Put away distractions to let your partner see that you care.
Whenever your partner talks to you, give them your full attention. Turn off your phone, face your partner, and make eye contact. Try not to interrupt until their done speaking. These sound simple, but active listening tells your partner that you value what they're telling you.
If you can, have your conversation somewhere quiet, so it's easier to hear what your partner is saying.
Refer back to what you talked about to show them that truly care. Wait a few days after your partner shared their needs and ask how things are going. This lets your partner see that you really paid attention and that their needs are important to you.
6. Respect your partner's point of view.
Resist the urge to judge, so your partner knows that you accept them.
It's hard to open up to another person! Avoiding criticisms and really trying to understand your S.O.'s point of view will make them feel validated and heard. As you listen, don't think about what you're going to say in response. Just listen and accept what they're telling you.
This is a skill that can take time to develop. If you find yourself interrupting your partner, stop yourself and say something like, "I'm sorry. Please continue."
7. Help each other through challenges.
Remind your partner that you'll get through struggles together.
Your partner may feel frustrated or lonely at times. It can help them to let them know that you're there for them no matter what. This is especially true if they're facing challenges—they'll feel supported knowing that they're not going through this alone.
You could say something supportive like, "I know it feels like you've got the weight of the world on your shoulders, but you've got me by your side."
8. Balance the workload at home.
Divvy up the responsibilities so your partner doesn't feel overwhelmed.
Partners often nag or become resentful when they feel like they're doing most of the work. If you think you could have a more balanced load, try to do more around the home. Ideally, you'll help out without being asked, but you two can sit down and have a conversation about tasks if you want to be on the same page.
You could pick up groceries and make dinner on nights when your partner wants to work out at the gym for instance.
9. Show physical affection.
Strengthen your bond by hugging, kissing, or caressing your partner.
Physical touch can go a long way in making someone feel less stressed. Give your partner a gentle back rub, hold their hands, or wrap them in a hug if they've had a tough day. A little affection makes them feel loved.
Try to incorporate physical affection throughout the day—you could touch your partner's shoulder or pat their leg as you talk about your day or sit and watch a movie.
10. Encourage their dreams or goals.
Empower your partner to make them feel fulfilled with their choices.
It's hard to be vulnerable or try new things, so if your partner shares their hopes with you, be positive! Point out their strengths and help them feel like their goals are possible.
Your partner will probably feel more confident and in control of their life if they know that you've got their back with anything they want to do.
11. Express gratitude.
Tell your partner what you love and appreciate about them.
Esteem support is similar to emotional support. It essentially means that you make your partner feel respected and admired. Give them praise and thank them for being part of your life.
Be clear with your praise. Say something like, "Thanks for doing more around the house so I could have more time for my project," or, "You really made my siblings feel looked after when they visited. Thanks for trying so hard with my family."
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The great thing about invisible support is that your partner enjoys your efforts, but doesn't feel obligated to do something in return. Here are some nice things you could do for them:\\nGet an oil change on their car when you notice it's time.\\nLet your partner pick the restaurant the next time you go out.\\nSave them the last piece of dessert even though you'd like it.\\nDo a task that your partner usually does and complains about.\\nIf you have kids together, ask them to make sweet cards for your partner.\\n3. Have regular check-ins.\\nFrequent communication shows that you value your connection.\\nIt's really easy to get stuck in a routine where you don't have thoughtful or meaningful conversations with one another. Make a point of talking every week, so you're both on the same page. You might talk about how you're both feeling or how life, in general, is going.\\nFor instance, you might say, \\\"Hey, it's been a while since we met up for coffee and just talked,\\\" or, \\\"Are you free to have a quick check-in today? I just want to chat about our relationship.\\\"\\n4. Ask what your partner needs.\\nLearn their needs so you can understand or fulfill them.\\nIf you've been with your partner for a while, you might automatically assume that you know what they need or want. Instead of making these assumptions, ask your partner what they need. They'll feel respected and will really appreciate that you cared enough to find out.\\nFor instance, your partner might say, \\\"I just need to be able to vent about my day. I don't expect you to solve my problems—it just helps to have you listen,\\\" or, \\\"I need more physical connection. It makes me feel really good when you come over and give me a hug or we hold hands.\\\"\\n5. Practice active listening with your partner.\\nPut away distractions to let your partner see that you care.\\nWhenever your partner talks to you, give them your full attention. Turn off your phone, face your partner, and make eye contact. Try not to interrupt until their done speaking. These sound simple, but active listening tells your partner that you value what they're telling you.\\nIf you can, have your conversation somewhere quiet, so it's easier to hear what your partner is saying.\\nRefer back to what you talked about to show them that truly care. Wait a few days after your partner shared their needs and ask how things are going. This lets your partner see that you really paid attention and that their needs are important to you.\\n6. Respect your partner's point of view.\\nResist the urge to judge, so your partner knows that you accept them.\\nIt's hard to open up to another person! Avoiding criticisms and really trying to understand your S.O.'s point of view will make them feel validated and heard. As you listen, don't think about what you're going to say in response. Just listen and accept what they're telling you.\\nThis is a skill that can take time to develop. If you find yourself interrupting your partner, stop yourself and say something like, \\\"I'm sorry. Please continue.\\\"\\n7. Help each other through challenges.\\nRemind your partner that you'll get through struggles together.\\nYour partner may feel frustrated or lonely at times. It can help them to let them know that you're there for them no matter what. This is especially true if they're facing challenges—they'll feel supported knowing that they're not going through this alone.\\nYou could say something supportive like, \\\"I know it feels like you've got the weight of the world on your shoulders, but you've got me by your side.\\\"\\n8. Balance the workload at home.\\nDivvy up the responsibilities so your partner doesn't feel overwhelmed.\\nPartners often nag or become resentful when they feel like they're doing most of the work. If you think you could have a more balanced load, try to do more around the home. Ideally, you'll help out without being asked, but you two can sit down and have a conversation about tasks if you want to be on the same page.\\nYou could pick up groceries and make dinner on nights when your partner wants to work out at the gym for instance.\\n9. Show physical affection.\\nStrengthen your bond by hugging, kissing, or caressing your partner.\\nPhysical touch can go a long way in making someone feel less stressed. Give your partner a gentle back rub, hold their hands, or wrap them in a hug if they've had a tough day. A little affection makes them feel loved.\\nTry to incorporate physical affection throughout the day—you could touch your partner's shoulder or pat their leg as you talk about your day or sit and watch a movie.\\n10. Encourage their dreams or goals.\\nEmpower your partner to make them feel fulfilled with their choices.\\nIt's hard to be vulnerable or try new things, so if your partner shares their hopes with you, be positive! Point out their strengths and help them feel like their goals are possible.\\nYour partner will probably feel more confident and in control of their life if they know that you've got their back with anything they want to do.\\n11. Express gratitude.\\nTell your partner what you love and appreciate about them.\\nEsteem support is similar to emotional support. It essentially means that you make your partner feel respected and admired. Give them praise and thank them for being part of your life.\\nBe clear with your praise. 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Here are some nice things you could do for them:\\nGet an oil change on their car when you notice it's time.\\nLet your partner pick the restaurant the next time you go out.\\nSave them the last piece of dessert even though you'd like it.\\nDo a task that your partner usually does and complains about.\\nIf you have kids together, ask them to make sweet cards for your partner.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have regular check-ins.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Frequent communication shows that you value your connection.\", \"描述\": \"It's really easy to get stuck in a routine where you don't have thoughtful or meaningful conversations with one another. Make a point of talking every week, so you're both on the same page. You might talk about how you're both feeling or how life, in general, is going.\\nFor instance, you might say, \\\"Hey, it's been a while since we met up for coffee and just talked,\\\" or, \\\"Are you free to have a quick check-in today? I just want to chat about our relationship.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask what your partner needs.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn their needs so you can understand or fulfill them.\", \"描述\": \"If you've been with your partner for a while, you might automatically assume that you know what they need or want. Instead of making these assumptions, ask your partner what they need. They'll feel respected and will really appreciate that you cared enough to find out.\\nFor instance, your partner might say, \\\"I just need to be able to vent about my day. I don't expect you to solve my problems—it just helps to have you listen,\\\" or, \\\"I need more physical connection. It makes me feel really good when you come over and give me a hug or we hold hands.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice active listening with your partner.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Put away distractions to let your partner see that you care.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever your partner talks to you, give them your full attention. Turn off your phone, face your partner, and make eye contact. Try not to interrupt until their done speaking. These sound simple, but active listening tells your partner that you value what they're telling you.\\nIf you can, have your conversation somewhere quiet, so it's easier to hear what your partner is saying.\\nRefer back to what you talked about to show them that truly care. Wait a few days after your partner shared their needs and ask how things are going. This lets your partner see that you really paid attention and that their needs are important to you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Respect your partner's point of view.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Resist the urge to judge, so your partner knows that you accept them.\", \"描述\": \"It's hard to open up to another person! Avoiding criticisms and really trying to understand your S.O.'s point of view will make them feel validated and heard. As you listen, don't think about what you're going to say in response. Just listen and accept what they're telling you.\\nThis is a skill that can take time to develop. If you find yourself interrupting your partner, stop yourself and say something like, \\\"I'm sorry. Please continue.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Help each other through challenges.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remind your partner that you'll get through struggles together.\", \"描述\": \"Your partner may feel frustrated or lonely at times. 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How to Be a Surfer Girl
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1. Getting the Look
1-1. Embrace ocean water or use sea salt spray to get loose, beachy waves.
If you’re already at the beach, just jump in the ocean! When you get out, scrunch your hair a bit to add some waves and let your hair dry in the sun. Don’t try to get picture-perfect waves! The surfer girl look is laid-back and messy.
If you don’t have access to the sea, you can get great results with sea salt spray. Just spritz it into damp hair and scrunch.
Don’t use sea salt spray if you’re already at the beach. The salt is very drying, so you don’t want to over-do it.
1-2. Try a loose braided style if you prefer to keep your hair up.
If you would rather keep your hair up and out of your face, try loosely braiding it before getting into the water. Avoid braiding your hair tightly if you're surfing, though! A tight braid can pull and break your hair.
After you get out of the ocean, keep it braided and let your hair dry. Then, undo your braid for breezy surfer girl waves!
A loose topknot is also a great choice if you don't like braids.
If you aren't actually getting into the ocean, spray a little dry shampoo at the roots to get texture and volume.
You can also go for a choppy razor haircut and use matte styling cream if you have short hair.
1-3. Wear mix-and-match bikini sets that offer some coverage.
You could wear any bikini and call it a day, but a real surfer girl has a few requirements when it comes to her swimsuit. Mix-and-match suits are great and give you plenty of options – try to work a solid and a print in there. A matchy-matchy look isn’t really the surfer girl vibe!
Choose bikini bottoms that cut in just a little to show some skin, but avoid thongs and Brazilian cuts. Boy shorts bottoms are great if you want extra coverage.
For your top, you want something cute that stays in place, like a tankini or a criss-cross back. Avoid impractical triangle bikini tops and string bikinis, since a decent wave will knock those right out off!
Different styles of wetsuit tops paired with cute bikini bottoms are also popular with surfer girls, especially if they compete or surf professionally.
1-4. Wear clothes made by surf brands for an easy wardrobe solution.
Surf brand clothing is an easy go-to but some of the designers can be pretty expensive. Do some poking around online and see what available price points you can find. You should be able to find something for any budget!
Billabong and Roxy are popular surf brands, but there are tons of options out there, including environmentally conscious clothes made by sustainable brands.
1-5. Dress in loose, bohemian-style clothing.
You have a lot of options when it comes to surfer girl clothes. Simple, loose cover-ups, boho pants, anything crocheted or fringed, denim vests and cut-offs, thin hoodies, flannel button-ups, and trucker hats are a few choices, but you can insert your own style, too.
A lot of girls prefer a tomboy style that isn’t super feminine or frilly. However, as long as the clothes are laid back and beach-ready, you’re set! Feel free to play around with different looks and find your signature surfer girl style.
1-6. Go with casual footwear and your favorite pair of sunglasses.
To complete your look, you can’t go wrong with casual footwear like flip-flops, strappy sandals, or canvas slip-ons. Don’t forget to wear sunglasses! Mirrored neon sunnies are a good option, but there are really no rules. Go with what you like!
A fringed or crocheted tote would be perfect if you need something to carry your sunscreen, cover-up, hat, and a change of clothes.
1-7. Carry a surfboard.
This one may seem obvious, but it’s also crucial if you want to look authentic. Surfboards are expensive, so if you buy one and you don’t actually surf, you should learn! If you’re into surfing already, you probably already have your favorite board surfboard stowed away – grab it and hit the beach!
Tuck your surfboard under your arm when you’re walking on the shore.
If you’re in the market for a new board, go with something bright and bold! Cool patterns are also popular.
1-8. Tan your skin.
If you’re going for the surfer girl aesthetic, applying self-tanner will do the trick. If you’re hitting the beach and plan to get wet, though, self-tanner will probably wash right off. In that case, you’ll need to get your tan the old-fashioned way – from the sun! Build up your tan slowly and always wear sunscreen to protect yourself from skin damage, especially if you’re spending hours in the sun each day.
Go with SPF 30 or higher and be sure to reapply your sunscreen every few hours, especially after getting wet.
Use a zinc-based, reef-safe sunscreen to be an environmentally conscious surfer girl!
2. Nailing the Attitude and Lifestyle
2-1. Spend your days at the beach, lake, or pool every chance you get.
Not only will this get you the necessary tan for your surfer girl look, but people will associate you with the beach “scene” if you’re there frequently. Plus, just being on the beach and spending time with other surfers will start to rub off on you. If you’re already a surfer, try to hit the beach every day! Spend time at any body of water you have access to.
Most people don’t associate The Great Lakes with surfing, but surfers know that the waves there are awesome. Freshwater surfing is definitely a thing, so if you live near a lake or any other body of water, go hang out.
If you don’t have access to the ocean, you can always hit the local pool.
You can cultivate the attitude and lifestyle anywhere, but being outdoorsy in some way is pretty crucial.
2-2. Aim for a confident and laid-back attitude no matter what.
Going with the flow and being “chill” are deeply ingrained attitudes for all surfers. Be open to new ideas and activities! Keep your cool during stressful times and don’t worry too much about being on time for anything. At the very least, don’t ever look like you’re rushing -- you operate on beach time.
The surfer attitude is pretty similar to the traditional hippy vibe.
Unfortunately, there's no secret key for achieving confidence. For most people, it takes time and experience. Start by striving to feel comfortable in your own skin and go from there!
2-3. Get in shape and prioritize fitness in your daily life.
If you’re surfing every day, you’re already getting in a great workout! When they’re not surfing, pro surfers often do yoga and Pilates to stay in shape. Training this way builds long, lean muscle, focuses on core strength, and emphasizes breath control—all crucial to your success when you’re out there on your board. Surfer girls also spend a lot of time in their bathing suits, so being in shape can definitely boost your confidence in that department, as well!
You probably won’t be able to surf in the winter unless you live somewhere tropical, so yoga can help you stay fit and limber during the off-season.
Yoga poses like warrior, pigeon, down dog, and cobra works the same muscles you need to surf. If you’re new to yoga, check out free YouTube tutorials or download an app that can lead you through it.
2-4. Listen to chill music with acoustic guitars or ukulele.
You don’t have to do this, but listening to this kind of music can definitely put you in the right frame of mind. Acoustic guitars and ukuleles are popular sounds in surfer music, but any music that you like that’s laid back and chill will do the trick!
Jack Johnson is a popular acoustic guitarist that makes chill songs that surfers dig.
Reggae and classic surfer pop like the Beach Boys are great alternative options.
Consider learning to play the guitar or ukulele yourself! When the sun sets you can play your instrument on the beach and hang with your friends around a campfire.
Tips
Make friends with other surfers in your area. Maybe you could go running with someone or join a volleyball game, or even get surfing lessons from your peers when you start out!
Remember to take care of your skin and hair since the sun and salt can wreak havoc over time. Wear sunscreen, condition your hair regularly, and keep your skin moisturized.
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Then, undo your braid for breezy surfer girl waves!\\nA loose topknot is also a great choice if you don't like braids.\\nIf you aren't actually getting into the ocean, spray a little dry shampoo at the roots to get texture and volume.\\nYou can also go for a choppy razor haircut and use matte styling cream if you have short hair.\\n1-3. Wear mix-and-match bikini sets that offer some coverage.\\nYou could wear any bikini and call it a day, but a real surfer girl has a few requirements when it comes to her swimsuit. Mix-and-match suits are great and give you plenty of options – try to work a solid and a print in there. A matchy-matchy look isn’t really the surfer girl vibe!\\nChoose bikini bottoms that cut in just a little to show some skin, but avoid thongs and Brazilian cuts. Boy shorts bottoms are great if you want extra coverage.\\nFor your top, you want something cute that stays in place, like a tankini or a criss-cross back. Avoid impractical triangle bikini tops and string bikinis, since a decent wave will knock those right out off!\\nDifferent styles of wetsuit tops paired with cute bikini bottoms are also popular with surfer girls, especially if they compete or surf professionally.\\n1-4. Wear clothes made by surf brands for an easy wardrobe solution.\\nSurf brand clothing is an easy go-to but some of the designers can be pretty expensive. Do some poking around online and see what available price points you can find. You should be able to find something for any budget!\\nBillabong and Roxy are popular surf brands, but there are tons of options out there, including environmentally conscious clothes made by sustainable brands.\\n1-5. Dress in loose, bohemian-style clothing.\\nYou have a lot of options when it comes to surfer girl clothes. Simple, loose cover-ups, boho pants, anything crocheted or fringed, denim vests and cut-offs, thin hoodies, flannel button-ups, and trucker hats are a few choices, but you can insert your own style, too.\\nA lot of girls prefer a tomboy style that isn’t super feminine or frilly. However, as long as the clothes are laid back and beach-ready, you’re set! Feel free to play around with different looks and find your signature surfer girl style.\\n1-6. Go with casual footwear and your favorite pair of sunglasses.\\nTo complete your look, you can’t go wrong with casual footwear like flip-flops, strappy sandals, or canvas slip-ons. Don’t forget to wear sunglasses! Mirrored neon sunnies are a good option, but there are really no rules. Go with what you like!\\nA fringed or crocheted tote would be perfect if you need something to carry your sunscreen, cover-up, hat, and a change of clothes.\\n1-7. Carry a surfboard.\\nThis one may seem obvious, but it’s also crucial if you want to look authentic. Surfboards are expensive, so if you buy one and you don’t actually surf, you should learn! If you’re into surfing already, you probably already have your favorite board surfboard stowed away – grab it and hit the beach!\\nTuck your surfboard under your arm when you’re walking on the shore.\\nIf you’re in the market for a new board, go with something bright and bold! Cool patterns are also popular.\\n1-8. Tan your skin.\\nIf you’re going for the surfer girl aesthetic, applying self-tanner will do the trick. If you’re hitting the beach and plan to get wet, though, self-tanner will probably wash right off. In that case, you’ll need to get your tan the old-fashioned way – from the sun! Build up your tan slowly and always wear sunscreen to protect yourself from skin damage, especially if you’re spending hours in the sun each day.\\nGo with SPF 30 or higher and be sure to reapply your sunscreen every few hours, especially after getting wet.\\nUse a zinc-based, reef-safe sunscreen to be an environmentally conscious surfer girl!\\n2. Nailing the Attitude and Lifestyle\\n2-1. Spend your days at the beach, lake, or pool every chance you get.\\nNot only will this get you the necessary tan for your surfer girl look, but people will associate you with the beach “scene” if you’re there frequently. Plus, just being on the beach and spending time with other surfers will start to rub off on you. If you’re already a surfer, try to hit the beach every day! Spend time at any body of water you have access to.\\nMost people don’t associate The Great Lakes with surfing, but surfers know that the waves there are awesome. Freshwater surfing is definitely a thing, so if you live near a lake or any other body of water, go hang out.\\nIf you don’t have access to the ocean, you can always hit the local pool.\\nYou can cultivate the attitude and lifestyle anywhere, but being outdoorsy in some way is pretty crucial.\\n2-2. Aim for a confident and laid-back attitude no matter what.\\nGoing with the flow and being “chill” are deeply ingrained attitudes for all surfers. Be open to new ideas and activities! Keep your cool during stressful times and don’t worry too much about being on time for anything. At the very least, don’t ever look like you’re rushing -- you operate on beach time.\\nThe surfer attitude is pretty similar to the traditional hippy vibe.\\nUnfortunately, there's no secret key for achieving confidence. For most people, it takes time and experience. Start by striving to feel comfortable in your own skin and go from there!\\n2-3. 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1. Practicing Good Habits
1-1. Stay clean.
Shower or bathe often. Having clean skin and gently-washed hair will bring out your natural beauty.
Once you hit puberty, it's good to wash your face every morning, if you can. Use a facial soap or wipe that won't clog your pores.
After bathing, apply deodorant to help you stay fresh. If one type of deodorant doesn't work, try another kind.
1-2. Follow your own personal style.
Wear comfortable clothes that make you smile. If you wear things that help you express yourself and feel confident, your attitude will make you more attractive.
Don't feel like you have to blend in, or wear brand-name or popular clothes. It's okay to look different.
1-3. Try your best at school.
Get involved in a club or support a cause. Being a brainy babe is great, as you are on the right track to a beautiful future.
Remember that few people are good at something on the first try. If you don't do well at something, it's probably because you don't have enough practice! Try again. Ask for help if you need it.
Avoid bragging about your achievements. People tend to feel upset if they start comparing themselves to others too much. While you should be honest if people ask, don't rub their noses in it.
1-4. Love who you are!
You don't have to be a perfect girl, but you do need to love who you are. Just like your favorite characters in stories, you'll have flaws, but you're also growing and doing your best. If you struggle with low self esteem, you can borrow your confidence from your favorite celebrity, or God, if that is what you believe in.
If you have low self esteem, try treating yourself the same way you'd treat a good friend. If you're struggling, ask yourself "What would I say to a friend who was struggling this way?"
If you really struggle with loving yourself, talk to someone, like a guidance counselor or a trusted adult. And if you think you're showing signs of an illness like depression, see a doctor as soon as you can.
1-5. Take good care of your body and mind.
It's hard to be fun and sweet if you're feeling exhausted, too stressed, or burned out. Make time to do something fun or restorative (whatever that means to you) each day. If you don't feel right, pay attention to that feeling, and see how you could help yourself feel better. You have to take care of yourself before you are ready to be a good helper to others.
You can't pour from an empty cup. Similarly, you can't be very helpful to other people if you are feeling drained. Spend time on self care, and say "no" to things if you don't have the energy for them. Fulfill your basic needs first. You can go back to helping others once you're feeling balanced and at peace.
Try to spend less time on things that drag you down (like reading the news, hanging out with a mean friend, or whatever bothers you). If you can't avoid doing the stressful thing, then plan something that cheers you up afterwards.
If something is really stressing you out, ask for help. A parent or other trusted adult can help you deal with the problem. Suffering in silence will only make it worse.
2. Socializing
2-1. Be nice
If you're nice, people will think better of you than you could or might be. Offer to do things in class and don't be afraid to have a wrong answer.
2-2. Listen
Other people want to feel heard and respected. If you listen, and validate their feelings, they'll start enjoying talking to you. This also is a good way to learn about who they are and what they like, so you can be really good at choosing presents and picking fun activities that they would enjoy.
2-3. Avoid judging people.
If you say judgmental things, some people might laugh, but people will also feel like they can't trust you. If you don't understand how someone is behaving, avoid making assumptions. Reserve judgment, since you don't know what's going on yet.
If you think judgmental thoughts like "she's so weird" or "he's stupid," try correcting them with thoughts like "She's quirky, and that's okay. I wouldn't want people to judge me for being different" or "Maybe he just didn't know any better. I don't know why he did that, so I shouldn't assume until he tells me."
Remember that empathy is a skill. If you slip up and think a judgmental thing sometimes (or even if you say it out loud), you can work on doing better next time. A few mistakes don't make you a bad person.
2-4. Be gently honest when needed.
Friends want to know the truth. This doesn't mean that you have to be brutally honest; you can break things gently and be tactful. To be gently honest, say what's going on in a non-judgmental way, with the assumption that the other person is a good person doing their best.
If your brother is shouting and your sister is covering her ears, you could say "Would you please speak a little more quietly? I think loud voices bother our sister."
If you're shopping and a friend tries on an ugly dress, blame the dress (since the dress doesn't have feelings). For example, "I don't think it's your color" or "Its waistline isn't very good. I think the purple one was cuter."
2-5. Show your appreciation for other people.
Thank your friends and family when they do nice things for you. Give compliments, and praise people when you notice that they did something well.
Try thanking people more often when they do something for you, even if it's something they do for you a lot (like your dad cooking you dinner). People love to feel appreciated.
When you think a nice thought about somebody, say it out loud, even if the person is a stranger. You might make their day a little brighter!
2-6. Learn what's fun for other people.
Different things are fun for different people. For example, maybe your best friend likes shopping and video games while your brother likes sports and art. This can help you pick activities that are fun for both you and the other person. See what you have in common!
Don't push someone to do something "fun" that they really don't like. For example, if your quiet friend is sensitive to noises and crowds, then don't push her to go to a loud party full of people if she doesn't want to. Even if you don't understand it, respect it. There's nothing fun about being pressured.
2-7. Don't force yourself to be positive all the time.
You're a human, not a fun-bot. You can still be sad, serious, or in a bad mood from time to time. Instead of hiding your feelings, try saying them out loud, like "I'm pretty tired today" or "I'm feeling stressed and I want to be alone." This is healthy communication, and it helps people understand what's going on with you.
If you're really struggling, don't keep it a secret. Instead, go up to someone you trust and say "I'm having a really hard time with something. Could you help me/be willing to listen a little?"
2-8. Keep practicing kindness.
Think of kindness not as something you are, but as something you do. The more you practice it, the better.
If you don't have a lot of good role models, or you used not to be very kind, it may take some practice to be good at being nice. That's okay. Keep doing your best. Over time, kindness will become an instinct.
Tips
Have a theme that defines who you are.
Practice your handwriting. If it's messy, slow down. Neat handwriting makes a good impression and also makes it easy to reread what you wrote.
Warnings
Remember to do it your way. Do what feels fun and authentic for you. If something in this article doesn't quite fit, you don't have to do it! Find your own style and spirit, and go from there.
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If you don't do well at something, it's probably because you don't have enough practice! Try again. Ask for help if you need it.\\nAvoid bragging about your achievements. People tend to feel upset if they start comparing themselves to others too much. While you should be honest if people ask, don't rub their noses in it.\\n1-4. Love who you are!\\nYou don't have to be a perfect girl, but you do need to love who you are. Just like your favorite characters in stories, you'll have flaws, but you're also growing and doing your best. If you struggle with low self esteem, you can borrow your confidence from your favorite celebrity, or God, if that is what you believe in. \\nIf you have low self esteem, try treating yourself the same way you'd treat a good friend. If you're struggling, ask yourself \\\"What would I say to a friend who was struggling this way?\\\"\\nIf you really struggle with loving yourself, talk to someone, like a guidance counselor or a trusted adult. And if you think you're showing signs of an illness like depression, see a doctor as soon as you can.\\n1-5. Take good care of your body and mind.\\nIt's hard to be fun and sweet if you're feeling exhausted, too stressed, or burned out. Make time to do something fun or restorative (whatever that means to you) each day. If you don't feel right, pay attention to that feeling, and see how you could help yourself feel better. You have to take care of yourself before you are ready to be a good helper to others. \\nYou can't pour from an empty cup. Similarly, you can't be very helpful to other people if you are feeling drained. Spend time on self care, and say \\\"no\\\" to things if you don't have the energy for them. Fulfill your basic needs first. You can go back to helping others once you're feeling balanced and at peace.\\nTry to spend less time on things that drag you down (like reading the news, hanging out with a mean friend, or whatever bothers you). If you can't avoid doing the stressful thing, then plan something that cheers you up afterwards.\\nIf something is really stressing you out, ask for help. A parent or other trusted adult can help you deal with the problem. Suffering in silence will only make it worse.\\n2. Socializing\\n2-1. Be nice\\nIf you're nice, people will think better of you than you could or might be. Offer to do things in class and don't be afraid to have a wrong answer.\\n2-2. Listen\\nOther people want to feel heard and respected. If you listen, and validate their feelings, they'll start enjoying talking to you. This also is a good way to learn about who they are and what they like, so you can be really good at choosing presents and picking fun activities that they would enjoy.\\n2-3. Avoid judging people.\\nIf you say judgmental things, some people might laugh, but people will also feel like they can't trust you. If you don't understand how someone is behaving, avoid making assumptions. Reserve judgment, since you don't know what's going on yet. \\nIf you think judgmental thoughts like \\\"she's so weird\\\" or \\\"he's stupid,\\\" try correcting them with thoughts like \\\"She's quirky, and that's okay. I wouldn't want people to judge me for being different\\\" or \\\"Maybe he just didn't know any better. I don't know why he did that, so I shouldn't assume until he tells me.\\\"\\nRemember that empathy is a skill. If you slip up and think a judgmental thing sometimes (or even if you say it out loud), you can work on doing better next time. A few mistakes don't make you a bad person.\\n2-4. Be gently honest when needed.\\nFriends want to know the truth. This doesn't mean that you have to be brutally honest; you can break things gently and be tactful. To be gently honest, say what's going on in a non-judgmental way, with the assumption that the other person is a good person doing their best. \\nIf your brother is shouting and your sister is covering her ears, you could say \\\"Would you please speak a little more quietly? I think loud voices bother our sister.\\\"\\nIf you're shopping and a friend tries on an ugly dress, blame the dress (since the dress doesn't have feelings). For example, \\\"I don't think it's your color\\\" or \\\"Its waistline isn't very good. I think the purple one was cuter.\\\"\\n2-5. Show your appreciation for other people.\\nThank your friends and family when they do nice things for you. Give compliments, and praise people when you notice that they did something well. \\nTry thanking people more often when they do something for you, even if it's something they do for you a lot (like your dad cooking you dinner). People love to feel appreciated.\\nWhen you think a nice thought about somebody, say it out loud, even if the person is a stranger. You might make their day a little brighter!\\n2-6. Learn what's fun for other people.\\nDifferent things are fun for different people. For example, maybe your best friend likes shopping and video games while your brother likes sports and art. This can help you pick activities that are fun for both you and the other person. See what you have in common! \\nDon't push someone to do something \\\"fun\\\" that they really don't like. For example, if your quiet friend is sensitive to noises and crowds, then don't push her to go to a loud party full of people if she doesn't want to. Even if you don't understand it, respect it. There's nothing fun about being pressured.\\n2-7. Don't force yourself to be positive all the time.\\nYou're a human, not a fun-bot. You can still be sad, serious, or in a bad mood from time to time. Instead of hiding your feelings, try saying them out loud, like \\\"I'm pretty tired today\\\" or \\\"I'm feeling stressed and I want to be alone.\\\" This is healthy communication, and it helps people understand what's going on with you. \\nIf you're really struggling, don't keep it a secret. Instead, go up to someone you trust and say \\\"I'm having a really hard time with something. Could you help me/be willing to listen a little?\\\"\\n2-8. Keep practicing kindness.\\nThink of kindness not as something you are, but as something you do. The more you practice it, the better. \\nIf you don't have a lot of good role models, or you used not to be very kind, it may take some practice to be good at being nice. That's okay. Keep doing your best. Over time, kindness will become an instinct.\\nTips\\nHave a theme that defines who you are.\\nPractice your handwriting. If it's messy, slow down. Neat handwriting makes a good impression and also makes it easy to reread what you wrote.\\nWarnings\\nRemember to do it your way. Do what feels fun and authentic for you. If something in this article doesn't quite fit, you don't have to do it! Find your own style and spirit, and go from there.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Certain people have a tendency to light up a room and know how to make everyone smile and feel comfortable. But being sweet and fun is a skill and like anything in life, practice makes perfect. It isn’t just about the cute look, you have to know how to be a vibrant personality as well! If you want help turning the fun factor up, we’ll show you how to do it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practicing Good Habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stay clean.\", \"描述\": \"Shower or bathe often. Having clean skin and gently-washed hair will bring out your natural beauty. \\nOnce you hit puberty, it's good to wash your face every morning, if you can. Use a facial soap or wipe that won't clog your pores.\\nAfter bathing, apply deodorant to help you stay fresh. If one type of deodorant doesn't work, try another kind.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Follow your own personal style.\", \"描述\": \"Wear comfortable clothes that make you smile. If you wear things that help you express yourself and feel confident, your attitude will make you more attractive. \\nDon't feel like you have to blend in, or wear brand-name or popular clothes. It's okay to look different.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try your best at school.\", \"描述\": \"Get involved in a club or support a cause. Being a brainy babe is great, as you are on the right track to a beautiful future. \\nRemember that few people are good at something on the first try. If you don't do well at something, it's probably because you don't have enough practice! Try again. Ask for help if you need it.\\nAvoid bragging about your achievements. People tend to feel upset if they start comparing themselves to others too much. While you should be honest if people ask, don't rub their noses in it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Love who you are!\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to be a perfect girl, but you do need to love who you are. Just like your favorite characters in stories, you'll have flaws, but you're also growing and doing your best. If you struggle with low self esteem, you can borrow your confidence from your favorite celebrity, or God, if that is what you believe in. \\nIf you have low self esteem, try treating yourself the same way you'd treat a good friend. If you're struggling, ask yourself \\\"What would I say to a friend who was struggling this way?\\\"\\nIf you really struggle with loving yourself, talk to someone, like a guidance counselor or a trusted adult. And if you think you're showing signs of an illness like depression, see a doctor as soon as you can.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take good care of your body and mind.\", \"描述\": \"It's hard to be fun and sweet if you're feeling exhausted, too stressed, or burned out. Make time to do something fun or restorative (whatever that means to you) each day. If you don't feel right, pay attention to that feeling, and see how you could help yourself feel better. You have to take care of yourself before you are ready to be a good helper to others. \\nYou can't pour from an empty cup. Similarly, you can't be very helpful to other people if you are feeling drained. Spend time on self care, and say \\\"no\\\" to things if you don't have the energy for them. Fulfill your basic needs first. You can go back to helping others once you're feeling balanced and at peace.\\nTry to spend less time on things that drag you down (like reading the news, hanging out with a mean friend, or whatever bothers you). If you can't avoid doing the stressful thing, then plan something that cheers you up afterwards.\\nIf something is really stressing you out, ask for help. A parent or other trusted adult can help you deal with the problem. Suffering in silence will only make it worse.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Socializing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be nice\", \"描述\": \"If you're nice, people will think better of you than you could or might be. Offer to do things in class and don't be afraid to have a wrong answer.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Listen\", \"描述\": \"Other people want to feel heard and respected. If you listen, and validate their feelings, they'll start enjoying talking to you. This also is a good way to learn about who they are and what they like, so you can be really good at choosing presents and picking fun activities that they would enjoy.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid judging people.\", \"描述\": \"If you say judgmental things, some people might laugh, but people will also feel like they can't trust you. If you don't understand how someone is behaving, avoid making assumptions. Reserve judgment, since you don't know what's going on yet. \\nIf you think judgmental thoughts like \\\"she's so weird\\\" or \\\"he's stupid,\\\" try correcting them with thoughts like \\\"She's quirky, and that's okay. I wouldn't want people to judge me for being different\\\" or \\\"Maybe he just didn't know any better. I don't know why he did that, so I shouldn't assume until he tells me.\\\"\\nRemember that empathy is a skill. If you slip up and think a judgmental thing sometimes (or even if you say it out loud), you can work on doing better next time. 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1. Being Sensitive
1-1. Show kindness to everyone.
While you obviously want to be kind to the person you are attracted to, it is also important to extend that kindness to others. This proves that your altruism is genuine and reflects on your character as a whole.
Appreciate the other person's friends and loved ones. They are friends and loved for a reason. Find your own reasons to like and support the people who this person finds important.
Be kind to strangers. Avoid judging people you don't know. Find ways to be kind to strangers and express that you care about the world around you.
1-2. Understand the other person as best you can.
They may be dealing with something physically or emotionally or both. The main difference between men and women is reflected in hormones. Understanding what she is dealing with can be a great comfort to both of you.
The shifting in hormone balance surrounding the time of a woman's period can greatly effect her mood and personality.
A woman's brain even shrinks during pregnancy!
1-3. Listen without the intention of fixing the other person.
Sometimes people just need to be heard. Allow the other person to express their grief or concern and avoid the urge to solve the problem. Just listening comforts and affirms them without making them feel like they are the problem.
1-4. Explore their passions.
That’s right, passions. What a great place to start. Everyone is passionate about something. Learn what they love, then find out more about it. You will empower your potential partner and turn up the steam as they get excited about their favorite things and include you as part of them.
What are you into?
What do you love about it?
Can you teach me?
1-5. Check in.
Pay attention to their mood. If they need a little space, don’t be afraid to give it to them. You may seem a little aloof, which will draw them back to you. If they need attention, give it to them. If they need to be held, draw them close.
2. Being Attractive
2-1. Take care of yourself.
Even if you don't view yourself as attractive as you would like on the outside, there are things you can do to promote personal wellness. Dress nicely and practice good personal hygiene. Treating yourself with respect will attract that same respect from others.
2-2. Accentuate your positive traits.
Attraction can mean a lot of things. Physical and personal traits are both valuable. Find those things that you love about yourself and promote them. Confidence is sexy.
Maybe you have a great sense of style, dress it up. Be bold in your fashion and get noticed.
Are you really good at something? Let your talents shine. Play the guitar for your partner. Write a steamy note. Draw a picture to express your feelings toward the other person.
2-3. Have a sense of humor.
Laughing is a form of agreement, which puts us on the same page. Making someone laugh will open them up to you, and you give the bonus of having made them feel good.
Play off the things they say using the improvisation rule of "yes, and!" The concept is agreeing with what they say and taking it to the next level of absurdity to make it funny. "You're right! And wouldn't it be wild if...?"
Avoid making fun of the other person. No one really likes being teased.
2-4. Redefine playing hard to get.
This is the token element of the bad boy, and does not mix well with your sensitive demeanor. Playing hard to get is not a good tactic to use on someone you are attracted to. Let them know that you choose wisely, and you have chosen them.
3. Drawing Them to You
3-1. Ask questions.
Show that you are truly interested in them by learning as much as you can. Take a genuine interest in what they share with you. Follow this up with more questions. The vulnerability and personal nature of learning more about the other person will lead to intimacy.Try these questions:
How does that make you feel?
What can I do to help?
3-2. Make eye contact.
One of the most commonly listed turn-offs is someone who does not maintain eye contact. Attention should not be shared with other people in the room or other parts of the body. Getting to know someone on the inside is best done through the eyes.
3-3. Practice the golden rule.
Remember the other person wants to feel just as sexy and irresistible as you do. So, do unto others and see how well they respond to you. Once they feel sexy and appreciated, they will definitely want more.
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Understanding what she is dealing with can be a great comfort to both of you.\\nThe shifting in hormone balance surrounding the time of a woman's period can greatly effect her mood and personality.\\nA woman's brain even shrinks during pregnancy!\\n1-3. Listen without the intention of fixing the other person.\\nSometimes people just need to be heard. Allow the other person to express their grief or concern and avoid the urge to solve the problem. Just listening comforts and affirms them without making them feel like they are the problem.\\n1-4. Explore their passions.\\nThat’s right, passions. What a great place to start. Everyone is passionate about something. Learn what they love, then find out more about it. You will empower your potential partner and turn up the steam as they get excited about their favorite things and include you as part of them.\\nWhat are you into?\\nWhat do you love about it?\\nCan you teach me?\\n1-5. Check in.\\nPay attention to their mood. If they need a little space, don’t be afraid to give it to them. You may seem a little aloof, which will draw them back to you. If they need attention, give it to them. If they need to be held, draw them close.\\n2. Being Attractive\\n2-1. Take care of yourself.\\nEven if you don't view yourself as attractive as you would like on the outside, there are things you can do to promote personal wellness. Dress nicely and practice good personal hygiene. Treating yourself with respect will attract that same respect from others.\\n2-2. Accentuate your positive traits.\\nAttraction can mean a lot of things. Physical and personal traits are both valuable. Find those things that you love about yourself and promote them. Confidence is sexy.\\nMaybe you have a great sense of style, dress it up. Be bold in your fashion and get noticed.\\nAre you really good at something? Let your talents shine. Play the guitar for your partner. Write a steamy note. Draw a picture to express your feelings toward the other person.\\n2-3. Have a sense of humor.\\nLaughing is a form of agreement, which puts us on the same page. Making someone laugh will open them up to you, and you give the bonus of having made them feel good.\\nPlay off the things they say using the improvisation rule of \\\"yes, and!\\\" The concept is agreeing with what they say and taking it to the next level of absurdity to make it funny. \\\"You're right! And wouldn't it be wild if...?\\\"\\nAvoid making fun of the other person. No one really likes being teased.\\n2-4. Redefine playing hard to get.\\nThis is the token element of the bad boy, and does not mix well with your sensitive demeanor. Playing hard to get is not a good tactic to use on someone you are attracted to. Let them know that you choose wisely, and you have chosen them.\\n3. Drawing Them to You\\n3-1. Ask questions.\\nShow that you are truly interested in them by learning as much as you can. Take a genuine interest in what they share with you. Follow this up with more questions. The vulnerability and personal nature of learning more about the other person will lead to intimacy.Try these questions:\\nHow does that make you feel?\\nWhat can I do to help?\\n3-2. Make eye contact.\\nOne of the most commonly listed turn-offs is someone who does not maintain eye contact. Attention should not be shared with other people in the room or other parts of the body. Getting to know someone on the inside is best done through the eyes.\\n3-3. Practice the golden rule.\\nRemember the other person wants to feel just as sexy and irresistible as you do. So, do unto others and see how well they respond to you. Once they feel sexy and appreciated, they will definitely want more.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The nice guy does not always finish last. The concept of the bad boy image is overrated. The truth is, kindness can look sexy on anyone. A little sensitivity and effort can go a long way in attracting the right people to you using your sly smiles and sex appeal.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Sensitive\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Show kindness to everyone.\", \"描述\": \"While you obviously want to be kind to the person you are attracted to, it is also important to extend that kindness to others. This proves that your altruism is genuine and reflects on your character as a whole.\\nAppreciate the other person's friends and loved ones. They are friends and loved for a reason. Find your own reasons to like and support the people who this person finds important.\\nBe kind to strangers. Avoid judging people you don't know. Find ways to be kind to strangers and express that you care about the world around you.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand the other person as best you can.\", \"描述\": \"They may be dealing with something physically or emotionally or both. The main difference between men and women is reflected in hormones. Understanding what she is dealing with can be a great comfort to both of you.\\nThe shifting in hormone balance surrounding the time of a woman's period can greatly effect her mood and personality.\\nA woman's brain even shrinks during pregnancy!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen without the intention of fixing the other person.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes people just need to be heard. Allow the other person to express their grief or concern and avoid the urge to solve the problem. Just listening comforts and affirms them without making them feel like they are the problem.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Explore their passions.\", \"描述\": \"That’s right, passions. What a great place to start. Everyone is passionate about something. Learn what they love, then find out more about it. You will empower your potential partner and turn up the steam as they get excited about their favorite things and include you as part of them.\\nWhat are you into?\\nWhat do you love about it?\\nCan you teach me?\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Check in.\", \"描述\": \"Pay attention to their mood. If they need a little space, don’t be afraid to give it to them. You may seem a little aloof, which will draw them back to you. If they need attention, give it to them. If they need to be held, draw them close.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Attractive\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take care of yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you don't view yourself as attractive as you would like on the outside, there are things you can do to promote personal wellness. Dress nicely and practice good personal hygiene. Treating yourself with respect will attract that same respect from others.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Accentuate your positive traits.\", \"描述\": \"Attraction can mean a lot of things. Physical and personal traits are both valuable. Find those things that you love about yourself and promote them. Confidence is sexy.\\nMaybe you have a great sense of style, dress it up. Be bold in your fashion and get noticed.\\nAre you really good at something? Let your talents shine. Play the guitar for your partner. Write a steamy note. Draw a picture to express your feelings toward the other person.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have a sense of humor.\", \"描述\": \"Laughing is a form of agreement, which puts us on the same page. Making someone laugh will open them up to you, and you give the bonus of having made them feel good.\\nPlay off the things they say using the improvisation rule of \\\"yes, and!\\\" The concept is agreeing with what they say and taking it to the next level of absurdity to make it funny. \\\"You're right! And wouldn't it be wild if...?\\\"\\nAvoid making fun of the other person. No one really likes being teased.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Redefine playing hard to get.\", \"描述\": \"This is the token element of the bad boy, and does not mix well with your sensitive demeanor. Playing hard to get is not a good tactic to use on someone you are attracted to. Let them know that you choose wisely, and you have chosen them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Drawing Them to You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"Show that you are truly interested in them by learning as much as you can. Take a genuine interest in what they share with you. Follow this up with more questions. The vulnerability and personal nature of learning more about the other person will lead to intimacy.Try these questions:\\nHow does that make you feel?\\nWhat can I do to help?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make eye contact.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most commonly listed turn-offs is someone who does not maintain eye contact. 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How to Be a Sweet Autistic Girl
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1. Being Sweet
1-1. Do random acts of kindness.
Just like you have problems that other people don't know about, everyone has problems you can't see. You never know who might need a pick-me-up. Here are some ideas:
Give random compliments.
Hold doors open for people.
Pick things up when people drop them.
Smile at people.
Surprise people with little gifts.
Do anything else that will benefit others. Even doing a minor edit to a wikiHow article can be considered an act of kindness.
1-2. Learn how to be a good listener when people need you.
It's very helpful for them to have a shoulder to cry on. Validate their feelings and let them know that they matter to you. Here are some useful phrases you can use to get the conversation going:
"Do you want to talk about it?"
"That sounds really tough."
"I can see why you're so upset. That's a difficult problem to deal with."
"Is there a way I could help you with that?"
"Would it be helpful if we told an adult about it?"
"Do you want to talk about it or take your mind off it?"
1-3. Go out of your way to be there for people who are sad.
Hug someone who looks upset, draw them a picture, offer them gum, or pick them flowers. This will help them recognize that people care about them.
If you're shy, that's okay. Silently handing them a piece of candy or sweet little note can cheer them up. Being kind and helpful is always a good thing, even if it's done through small or silent gestures.
1-4. Show appreciate to others.
People love to hear that you care and you're thankful for them. Thank lots of people: your parents, your teachers, guest speakers, the school janitors, anyone who makes the world a better place.
A helpful rule of thumb is that when you have a nice thought about someone else, it's good to share it. It will brighten their day. For example, if you like how someone's necklace looks on them, you can say "Your necklace is pretty."
1-5. Ask other people to teach you things.
Everybody loves to feel like an expert, and asking for them to teach you lets them be helpful. Also, you can learn new ideas and pieces of wisdom from them.
1-6. Take good care of yourself first.
It's hard to be helpful and sweet if your own needs aren't being met. Pay attention to yourself, and it'll be easier to be kind to others. Your health comes first.
Eat healthy food and get at least 8 hours of sleep.
Give yourself some quiet time to relax each day.
If someone is bullying or upsetting you, tell an adult. Your feelings matter.
Never smoke, drink, or try drugs. If someone offers them, say "No, thanks!"
1-7. Be assertive
It's good to be kind, but it's not good to be afraid to upset others. It's okay not to please everyone all the time. You don't have to do everything that people ask you to do, and you always have the right to say no.
Speak up if you see something that you think is wrong.
You don't have to hug people or smile if you aren't in the mood.
Practice scripts like "No, thank you" and "I would prefer not to."
If a situation feels weird or wrong to you, even if you don't understand why, talk to a trusted adult about it.
If someone doesn't listen when you say no, tell an adult you trust.
1-8. Be kind to yourself too.
True kindness comes within, and you need to show it to yourself (not just other people). Give yourself understanding, compassion, and gentleness. Life is hard enough without being your own bully. Work on being kind to yourself.
Remember that you're allowed to have bad days. You will mess up, be cranky sometimes, hurt people's feeling by accident, and make mistakes. Everyone does this sometimes. Don't beat yourself up for not being perfect.
If you catch yourself being mean to yourself, stop. Ask yourself, "What would I say to a friend who was in my situation?" You would probably be a lot nicer, right? Treat yourself with the same kindness that you would give to a good friend.
2. Being Adorably Autistic
2-1. Express your feelings how you'd like.
Showing people how you feel helps them connect with you. If you feel enthusiastic and want to flap your hands, do it. If you're sad, find someone you trust and tell them what's wrong.
It's okay if the way you express yourself is different from the average. This is totally normal for autistic people. You're allowed to be autistic, because you're allowed to be yourself. Some may not fully understand you, but this does not mean that you have to listen to their misconceptions.
2-2. Stim
Your stimming helps you stay calm, focus, and express your feelings. It is part of your disability (just like a blind person's white cane or a deaf person's sign language) and it's okay to be disabled in public. It's cute to be you!
You do not need to act like you are not autistic; constantly pretending to be someone else would mean not being yourself. It is okay to be yourself, whether you are autistic or not.
2-3. Dress adorably.
This can mean different things for different people, but it more or less means dressing in ways that make you smile. If you love it, that means it's lovable.
Wear your favorite colors. Most people associate "adorable" with pink or pale colors, but do not force yourself to dress in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Pick comfy fabrics that are great for stimming. Try soft fabrics like microfiber, breezy fabrics, or whatever you like.
Dress in layers in case you get hot or cold.
2-4. Do things you love.
If you do things that make you smile, it will help you be positive and nice to other people. Read about your special interests, sing and dance to music, paint, build a toy robot, or do whatever you like.
Your special interests are very important. Try joining clubs and meeting people who like your interests so that you can talk about them. If you can, do something related to a special interest every day. It can help you feel happier and calmer.
Autism is not just a list of challenges. You also have remarkable strengths. You are not a burden, you are a lovable, kind, and worthwhile person.
2-5. Make sure to take enough time to relax.
Stress can be a serious problem for autistic people, and you want to avoid over-stressing yourself. Make sure that you have quiet time to relax each day.
Too much stress can lead to more meltdowns and shutdowns, as well as health problems like anxiety.
2-6. Give yourself permission to be you, and don't worry about being "normal".
You might look different when you stim, or not "act your age." You may have trouble speaking and snuggle with stuffed animals while you read Jane Eyre. This is all okay. A sweet autistic girl is a girl who isn't afraid to be herself.
2-7. Recognize that your sweet, autistic self is already inside of you.
It's okay to be autistic, and it's okay to be you. You are already wonderful just the way you are!
Tips
Remember that "sweet autistic girl" is just a stereotype. It can be a big part of you, but there's also more to you. You don't need to follow each step in this article, and you don't need to change who you are.
If you're a teenager, you might want to start learning about autistic culture online. It's a very welcoming place for autistic people, young and old.
If you're not autistic, don't try to be a sweet autistic girl. Disability is not an accessory or a trend! However, that doesn't mean you can't be a sweet adorable girl.
Warnings
Some people think that it's fun to bully people who are different, including autistic people. Stay away from these people. They are mean, and the things they say aren't true about you.
Tell an adult right away if you are being bullied or teased by someone.
Be careful if you search online for autism information. Sometimes people who don't understand autism will write articles that say cruel things. They are wrong. It's best to read things written by autistic people. (wikiHow is pretty good about this.)
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1. Building your Skills and Credentials
1-1. Find out whether the field is right for you.
A computer systems administrator’s biggest job is to keep an organization’s lines of communications open. On a given day you might have major hardware or software malfunctions to fix; you may have to rewire network cables; you may be pressed to work as fast as possible by frustrated people whose computer systems are paralyzed. None of this is easy or for the faint-hearted. On the other hand, you will be well-paid. Network administrators in 2013 made an average of $74,000, with the top earners bringing in nearly $120,000.
Other functions of the job include updating software and hardware, maintaining email and data storage, training new users on the system, connecting employee workstations to the network, and sometimes managing telecommunications networks for people working from home or on the road.
Do research before committing to a career in systems administration. There are many web resources that can give you a good summary, such as US News and World Report or Computer Weekly
1-2. Do a bachelor’s degree.
While sometimes it is possible to work in systems administration with previous experience or a professional certificate or associate’s degree, you will find that many employers prefer people with a bachelor’s degree. Doing a four year degree will familiarize you with things like programming, network security, operating systems, database analysis, and systems analysis, and systems design. Usually, you should do a computer-related major such as information or computer science.
Some college programs will include the chance to do an internship. This is a great chance to acquire on-the-job experience and industry skills while still in school. It will make you more hireable as a new graduate.
1-3. Consider further vocational training.
As a way to increase your hireability and credentials, consider furthering your education past a four year degree. For example, companies like Microsoft, Red Hat, and Cisco offer vendor certification programs in things like programming, servers, applications, and databases. While such certifications are voluntary, according to PC World 68% of hiring managers in the industry consider them to be “medium or high priority” in making hiring decisions.
You can also get certifications in Windows or Linux server systems, and there is high demand for Cloud and DevOps certifications.
You should be able to find certification programs in a variety of places. Microsoft certification courses, for example, are sometimes offered in tech schools or community colleges. You can also take them through “Learning Partners” – trainers all over the country will prepare you for the certification exam.
1-4. Become familiar with a range of operating systems.
Systems administrators have to know the ins and outs of major computer operating systems like Windows, Linux, Android, iOS, and others, in order to be able to make updates, install patches, do data backups, manage hardware, and monitor software and system performance. Cast a broad net. Familiarizing yourself with a range of systems – particularly the most popular ones – will make you flexible and more in demand.
Some vendors, again, have certification programs in their operating systems. Check with companies to see whether they offer training.
1-5. Develop communications skills.
Communication is an underrated part of being a systems administrator. Yes, much of your time might be spent in alone in the server room, keeping things going. But you will have to work with others, as well. You will need to be able to express your expectations, to propose ideas, and to offer solutions to peers and to management. Can you convince your boss, for example, to upgrade the company’s web server? This requires skills in persuasive speaking.
Try talking in front of a mirror for 15 to 20 minutes every day. If you are more serious about improving your communication skills, join a speaking organization like Toastmasters International.
2. Finding a Job as a Systems Administrator
2-1. Get entry-level experience in Information Technology.
Try to build up a background in the industry before or while you are in training. Working in desktop support or at a tech support helpdesk are common first jobs for people in systems administration. Try an internship as well. The important thing is to get your foot in the door. Make yourself more hireable by gaining practical experience on top of your academic training.
2-2. Look for administrator jobs.
Candidates who have finished a training program or degree will find that there are a good number of entry-level positions in systems administration. Often employers will look for at least 3-5 years of experience, but you might be able to include education and internships towards this number. Be on the lookout for openings. Check websites like Linkedin or Monster. If you already work at an IT firm, be sure to spread the word to that you’re interested in the field. You may be invited to apply if an internal position opens up.
Employers will often say what specializations they are looking for. They might want someone who works with Linux, for example, or RedHat. Carefully target the jobs that best match your skills. Highlight your certifications in specific programs or operating systems.
2-3. Apply.
Now is the time to reach your goal! Once you’ve found some good openings, read the advertisements very carefully. Are you what they are looking for? Take note of the employer’s preferred qualifications and any desire for expertise in specific operating systems or other software. When you put together your cover letter and resume, highlight how your training and on-the-job experience meet the company’s needs.
Say a company is looking for an administrator who specializes in Linux systems, and who has good knowledge of coding in Java and Perl. If you have the proper credentials, say so. Talk about how you have a certification in Linux, for instance, or how you Java and Perl and are also comfortable with other coding languages like Python.
As with all job searches, gear your cover letter and resume to the requirements of the job. Make it about the company and not about you. To get hired, you’ll have to show an employer how your skills can serve them.
After working in the field for a time, you should become qualified for more specialized positions. For instance, you might move into a managerial role, not just managing systems but deciding if and when to make changes or upgrades to the company’s computer system.
2-4. Join a professional organization.
There are several major professional organizations for systems administrators, like the League of Professional Systems Administrators (LOPSA) and LISA. Joining a group like one of these can be a wise career move. LOPSA, for example, offers benefits like professional support, opportunities for continued education, and professional networking, and gives a voice to the profession as a whole through lobbying efforts and public outreach.
2-5. Stay up to speed on the latest technology.
Systems administrators sink or swim by their knowledge of the latest advancements or changes in technology. You will need to stay current in the field, otherwise you risk becoming outdated. Read reviews in computer magazines; follow professional online discussion forums or listservs; network and stay in touch with your peers. You might also consider a Master’s degree in the field, which will give you even more specialized training.
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There are many web resources that can give you a good summary, such as US News and World Report or Computer Weekly\\n1-2. Do a bachelor’s degree.\\nWhile sometimes it is possible to work in systems administration with previous experience or a professional certificate or associate’s degree, you will find that many employers prefer people with a bachelor’s degree. Doing a four year degree will familiarize you with things like programming, network security, operating systems, database analysis, and systems analysis, and systems design. Usually, you should do a computer-related major such as information or computer science.\\nSome college programs will include the chance to do an internship. This is a great chance to acquire on-the-job experience and industry skills while still in school. It will make you more hireable as a new graduate.\\n1-3. Consider further vocational training.\\nAs a way to increase your hireability and credentials, consider furthering your education past a four year degree. For example, companies like Microsoft, Red Hat, and Cisco offer vendor certification programs in things like programming, servers, applications, and databases. While such certifications are voluntary, according to PC World 68% of hiring managers in the industry consider them to be “medium or high priority” in making hiring decisions.\\nYou can also get certifications in Windows or Linux server systems, and there is high demand for Cloud and DevOps certifications.\\nYou should be able to find certification programs in a variety of places. Microsoft certification courses, for example, are sometimes offered in tech schools or community colleges. You can also take them through “Learning Partners” – trainers all over the country will prepare you for the certification exam.\\n1-4. Become familiar with a range of operating systems.\\nSystems administrators have to know the ins and outs of major computer operating systems like Windows, Linux, Android, iOS, and others, in order to be able to make updates, install patches, do data backups, manage hardware, and monitor software and system performance. Cast a broad net. Familiarizing yourself with a range of systems – particularly the most popular ones – will make you flexible and more in demand.\\nSome vendors, again, have certification programs in their operating systems. Check with companies to see whether they offer training.\\n1-5. Develop communications skills.\\nCommunication is an underrated part of being a systems administrator. Yes, much of your time might be spent in alone in the server room, keeping things going. But you will have to work with others, as well. You will need to be able to express your expectations, to propose ideas, and to offer solutions to peers and to management. Can you convince your boss, for example, to upgrade the company’s web server? This requires skills in persuasive speaking.\\nTry talking in front of a mirror for 15 to 20 minutes every day. If you are more serious about improving your communication skills, join a speaking organization like Toastmasters International.\\n2. Finding a Job as a Systems Administrator\\n2-1. Get entry-level experience in Information Technology.\\nTry to build up a background in the industry before or while you are in training. Working in desktop support or at a tech support helpdesk are common first jobs for people in systems administration. Try an internship as well. The important thing is to get your foot in the door. Make yourself more hireable by gaining practical experience on top of your academic training.\\n2-2. Look for administrator jobs.\\nCandidates who have finished a training program or degree will find that there are a good number of entry-level positions in systems administration. Often employers will look for at least 3-5 years of experience, but you might be able to include education and internships towards this number. Be on the lookout for openings. Check websites like Linkedin or Monster. If you already work at an IT firm, be sure to spread the word to that you’re interested in the field. You may be invited to apply if an internal position opens up.\\nEmployers will often say what specializations they are looking for. They might want someone who works with Linux, for example, or RedHat. Carefully target the jobs that best match your skills. Highlight your certifications in specific programs or operating systems.\\n2-3. Apply.\\nNow is the time to reach your goal! Once you’ve found some good openings, read the advertisements very carefully. Are you what they are looking for? Take note of the employer’s preferred qualifications and any desire for expertise in specific operating systems or other software. When you put together your cover letter and resume, highlight how your training and on-the-job experience meet the company’s needs.\\nSay a company is looking for an administrator who specializes in Linux systems, and who has good knowledge of coding in Java and Perl. If you have the proper credentials, say so. Talk about how you have a certification in Linux, for instance, or how you Java and Perl and are also comfortable with other coding languages like Python.\\nAs with all job searches, gear your cover letter and resume to the requirements of the job. Make it about the company and not about you. To get hired, you’ll have to show an employer how your skills can serve them.\\nAfter working in the field for a time, you should become qualified for more specialized positions. For instance, you might move into a managerial role, not just managing systems but deciding if and when to make changes or upgrades to the company’s computer system.\\n2-4. Join a professional organization.\\nThere are several major professional organizations for systems administrators, like the League of Professional Systems Administrators (LOPSA) and LISA. Joining a group like one of these can be a wise career move. LOPSA, for example, offers benefits like professional support, opportunities for continued education, and professional networking, and gives a voice to the profession as a whole through lobbying efforts and public outreach.\\n2-5. Stay up to speed on the latest technology.\\nSystems administrators sink or swim by their knowledge of the latest advancements or changes in technology. You will need to stay current in the field, otherwise you risk becoming outdated. Read reviews in computer magazines; follow professional online discussion forums or listservs; network and stay in touch with your peers. You might also consider a Master’s degree in the field, which will give you even more specialized training.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Today’s workplace relies on computer systems. Without computers and networks, we would be unable to communicate or even complete very basic tasks – we would be paralyzed. Systems administrators keep the modern workplace going by maintaining and managing our computers and computer networks. As you might imagine, they are an essential and valuable cog in the global economy. But while there is good opportunity for work in the field, becoming a systems administrator is not easy. You will need specialized training and a wide skill set.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Building your Skills and Credentials\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find out whether the field is right for you.\", \"描述\": \"A computer systems administrator’s biggest job is to keep an organization’s lines of communications open. 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There are many web resources that can give you a good summary, such as US News and World Report or Computer Weekly\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do a bachelor’s degree.\", \"描述\": \"While sometimes it is possible to work in systems administration with previous experience or a professional certificate or associate’s degree, you will find that many employers prefer people with a bachelor’s degree. Doing a four year degree will familiarize you with things like programming, network security, operating systems, database analysis, and systems analysis, and systems design. Usually, you should do a computer-related major such as information or computer science.\\nSome college programs will include the chance to do an internship. This is a great chance to acquire on-the-job experience and industry skills while still in school. It will make you more hireable as a new graduate.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider further vocational training.\", \"描述\": \"As a way to increase your hireability and credentials, consider furthering your education past a four year degree. For example, companies like Microsoft, Red Hat, and Cisco offer vendor certification programs in things like programming, servers, applications, and databases. While such certifications are voluntary, according to PC World 68% of hiring managers in the industry consider them to be “medium or high priority” in making hiring decisions.\\nYou can also get certifications in Windows or Linux server systems, and there is high demand for Cloud and DevOps certifications.\\nYou should be able to find certification programs in a variety of places. Microsoft certification courses, for example, are sometimes offered in tech schools or community colleges. You can also take them through “Learning Partners” – trainers all over the country will prepare you for the certification exam.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Become familiar with a range of operating systems.\", \"描述\": \"Systems administrators have to know the ins and outs of major computer operating systems like Windows, Linux, Android, iOS, and others, in order to be able to make updates, install patches, do data backups, manage hardware, and monitor software and system performance. Cast a broad net. Familiarizing yourself with a range of systems – particularly the most popular ones – will make you flexible and more in demand.\\nSome vendors, again, have certification programs in their operating systems. Check with companies to see whether they offer training.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Develop communications skills.\", \"描述\": \"Communication is an underrated part of being a systems administrator. Yes, much of your time might be spent in alone in the server room, keeping things going. But you will have to work with others, as well. You will need to be able to express your expectations, to propose ideas, and to offer solutions to peers and to management. Can you convince your boss, for example, to upgrade the company’s web server? This requires skills in persuasive speaking.\\nTry talking in front of a mirror for 15 to 20 minutes every day. If you are more serious about improving your communication skills, join a speaking organization like Toastmasters International.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Finding a Job as a Systems Administrator\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get entry-level experience in Information Technology.\", \"描述\": \"Try to build up a background in the industry before or while you are in training. Working in desktop support or at a tech support helpdesk are common first jobs for people in systems administration. Try an internship as well. The important thing is to get your foot in the door. Make yourself more hireable by gaining practical experience on top of your academic training.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look for administrator jobs.\", \"描述\": \"Candidates who have finished a training program or degree will find that there are a good number of entry-level positions in systems administration. Often employers will look for at least 3-5 years of experience, but you might be able to include education and internships towards this number. Be on the lookout for openings. Check websites like Linkedin or Monster. If you already work at an IT firm, be sure to spread the word to that you’re interested in the field. You may be invited to apply if an internal position opens up.\\nEmployers will often say what specializations they are looking for. They might want someone who works with Linux, for example, or RedHat. Carefully target the jobs that best match your skills. Highlight your certifications in specific programs or operating systems.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Apply.\", \"描述\": \"Now is the time to reach your goal! Once you’ve found some good openings, read the advertisements very carefully. Are you what they are looking for? Take note of the employer’s preferred qualifications and any desire for expertise in specific operating systems or other software. When you put together your cover letter and resume, highlight how your training and on-the-job experience meet the company’s needs.\\nSay a company is looking for an administrator who specializes in Linux systems, and who has good knowledge of coding in Java and Perl. If you have the proper credentials, say so. Talk about how you have a certification in Linux, for instance, or how you Java and Perl and are also comfortable with other coding languages like Python.\\nAs with all job searches, gear your cover letter and resume to the requirements of the job. 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How to Be a Tax Preparer
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1. Meeting the Educational Requirements
1-1. Meet the minimum requirements.
In general, tax preparers are required to have a high-school diploma or equivalent. That is, you don't need a bachelor's or associate degree to get started or to thrive in the tax preparation industry. However, any aspiring tax preparer should be aware that the job will require some basic skills. You can prepare for the job in high school by cultivating:
Strong math skills.
Basic computer skills and typing ability.
Customer service skill and experience.
A very basic understanding of tax regulations (necessary forms and time constraints).
1-2. Take basic training courses.
Because many tax preparers don't have any formal training in tax preparation, they must undergo a small amount of training before they can begin working. In these training courses, students learn about topics like filing status, taxpayer interviews, exemptions, tax calculations, and refund schedules. These courses are offered by a number of sources, so it's best to consider several options before choosing the best one for your situation.
Some tax preparation companies offer on-the-job training, so try applying for a job directly and see if they offer this type of training. This could save you a considerable amount of time and money. Find jobs by searching online job boards in November or December.
Sign up for a training program offered by the Accreditation Council for Accountancy and Taxation (ACAT) or National Association of Tax Professionals. See their websites for more information.
Many technical and community colleges, as well as universities, offer short certificate programs that can qualify you for entry-level positions. Search for programs in your area to learn more. Some of these may also be available online.
1-3. Complete additional tax training to increase your knowledge base.
However you decide to get the training in, you'll have to complete it before becoming a tax professional. If you can, try to take advanced courses that include information on topics like estate taxes, capital gains, and retirement funds. This knowledge can separate you from the crowd.
Be sure to keep any notes or information you have from your classes, as you may need them later if you choose to pursue higher-level certifications or education.
Also be sure that any tax preparation skills learned are tailored to the state in which you will be practicing, as filing requirements vary between states.
1-4. Earn a tax-related degree to get an edge over the competition.
While a simple tax preparation course can prepare you for the majority of tax preparation roles, you may also want to reach higher by becoming a licensed tax accountant, a CPA, a tax attorney, or an IRS Enrolled Agent. Obviously, these will require much more education, and expense to you, but the opportunities for advancement and salary growth are much better. Without additional education (or owning your own tax preparation business), there is little room for advancement in the tax preparation industry.
Tax preparers can become enrolled agents either by working for the IRS for a specified period of time or by passing the Special Enrollment Examination (SEE) and applying online for enrolled agent status. After passing the test or achieving the required work experience, you can apply for enrolled agent status by filling out IRS form 23 and undergoing a background check.
2. Getting Certified
2-1. Obtain a Preparer Tax Identification Number (PTIN).
Before a tax preparer can begin work, they must also meet state and federal requirements. First, apply for a PTIN by submitting personal information (including your social security number) and a previous year's tax return. This can be done online at http://www.irs.gov. Getting a PTIN will register you as an "unenrolled preparer," granting you the minimum level of clearance to prepare federal taxes.
Note that this application will require to disclose and explain any felony convictions or problems with your tax obligations.
2-2. Register with your state.
To become fully licensed, you will likely also have to register with your state. However, these requirements vary between states. Check your state's requirements by searching for "tax preparer registration for [your state]" online. In some cases, however, registration with the state is waived or not required under state law.
2-3. Become licensed, if necessary.
CPAs and tax attorneys must obtain a license in the state they plan to work in. The education and experience requirements to sit for the licensing exam vary by state, so check with your state's board of accountancy for more information. When you've met the requirements, prepare and register for the exam. You must pass the exam in order to receive your license.
3. Finding Work
3-1. Work for a tax preparation service to gain experience.
Many tax preparers begin their careers working for an established tax preparation service. These companies will train you in local and state requirements for tax filings and are able to help you through any difficulties you may have in the beginning. After gaining this experience, you are more prepared to move on to another job, start your own business, or further your education.
The biggest advantage of doing this type of work is that many tax preparers offer both free on-the-job training and free continuing education.
While this type of work is a great first start for a tax preparer, you may only be able to find work during tax season, which leaves you out of a job for about two-thirds of the year. This is great for part-timers, but if you want to be a tax preparer full time, you may want to seek other types of employment.
There are many tax preparation services and CPA firms that are virtual, allowing you to work from home with flexible hours.
3-2. Work for a law or accounting firm to handle more difficult tasks.
In addition to specialized tax preparation companies, there may also be work available at law or accounting firms that offer tax services. In these roles, you would likely be supporting a CPA or tax attorney in the preparation of tax returns for clients. In other words, you would be doing more than simply inputting your client's information—perhaps you'd also deal with certain tax accounting procedures or the intricacies of tax law.
Finding this work can be easier if you are able to differentiate yourself from other tax preparers by specializing in a certain type of tax filing or business. For example, perhaps you could specialize in filing a complex sort of taxes, like those on international assets.
These opportunities may also be available at various other types of businesses, so be sure to search online job board and classified newspaper ads frequently for new opportunities.
3-3. Start your own business if you're self-motivated.
With enough accreditation or experience, you can start your own tax preparation business as an independent tax preparer. Start by advertising your services to the community and begin growing your customer base. With friendly and reliable service, you may soon find your business thriving and growing. With time, you may even be able to open another franchise and hire other tax preparers to do the work for you!
It may be a good idea to start with family and friends before moving on to other customers. This can help you get a low-stress start while you fine-tune your tax preparation process. From there, you can pass out business cards and rely on recommendations for more business.
This will be your best choice if you want to work part-time as a tax preparer. It's easy to run a tax preparation business out of your home and undercut the prices of some of the bigger-name tax preparation services.
If you want additional work throughout the year, consider also offering services as a tax adviser or personal accountant to your tax preparation clients.
Tips
Tax preparers can also demonstrate their expertise by obtaining certification from the Accreditation Council for Accountancy and Taxation (ACAT). This requires three years of tax preparation experience and passing an examination.[21]
X
Research source
Warnings
Unless you seek further education (as an enrolled agent or tax accountant), you may only be able to find work during the January-April tax season.
Tax preparers often don't receive benefits due to the seasonal nature of their work.
The job can be stressful, as any mistake made could cost the client a lot of money. Also, client stress can be contagious.
Computer automation may make human tax preparers obsolete, so the long-term career prospects of a tax preparer are up in the air. However, you can use your knowledge to work in other areas like tax or financial planning, if necessary.
It's essential to stay up-to-date on changes to the tax law each year, especially because the federal tax code is quite complicated.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Meeting the Educational Requirements\\n1-1. Meet the minimum requirements.\\nIn general, tax preparers are required to have a high-school diploma or equivalent. That is, you don't need a bachelor's or associate degree to get started or to thrive in the tax preparation industry. However, any aspiring tax preparer should be aware that the job will require some basic skills. You can prepare for the job in high school by cultivating:\\nStrong math skills.\\nBasic computer skills and typing ability.\\nCustomer service skill and experience.\\nA very basic understanding of tax regulations (necessary forms and time constraints).\\n1-2. Take basic training courses.\\nBecause many tax preparers don't have any formal training in tax preparation, they must undergo a small amount of training before they can begin working. In these training courses, students learn about topics like filing status, taxpayer interviews, exemptions, tax calculations, and refund schedules. These courses are offered by a number of sources, so it's best to consider several options before choosing the best one for your situation.\\nSome tax preparation companies offer on-the-job training, so try applying for a job directly and see if they offer this type of training. This could save you a considerable amount of time and money. Find jobs by searching online job boards in November or December.\\nSign up for a training program offered by the Accreditation Council for Accountancy and Taxation (ACAT) or National Association of Tax Professionals. See their websites for more information.\\nMany technical and community colleges, as well as universities, offer short certificate programs that can qualify you for entry-level positions. Search for programs in your area to learn more. Some of these may also be available online.\\n1-3. Complete additional tax training to increase your knowledge base.\\nHowever you decide to get the training in, you'll have to complete it before becoming a tax professional. If you can, try to take advanced courses that include information on topics like estate taxes, capital gains, and retirement funds. This knowledge can separate you from the crowd.\\nBe sure to keep any notes or information you have from your classes, as you may need them later if you choose to pursue higher-level certifications or education.\\nAlso be sure that any tax preparation skills learned are tailored to the state in which you will be practicing, as filing requirements vary between states.\\n1-4. Earn a tax-related degree to get an edge over the competition.\\nWhile a simple tax preparation course can prepare you for the majority of tax preparation roles, you may also want to reach higher by becoming a licensed tax accountant, a CPA, a tax attorney, or an IRS Enrolled Agent. Obviously, these will require much more education, and expense to you, but the opportunities for advancement and salary growth are much better. Without additional education (or owning your own tax preparation business), there is little room for advancement in the tax preparation industry.\\nTax preparers can become enrolled agents either by working for the IRS for a specified period of time or by passing the Special Enrollment Examination (SEE) and applying online for enrolled agent status. After passing the test or achieving the required work experience, you can apply for enrolled agent status by filling out IRS form 23 and undergoing a background check.\\n2. Getting Certified\\n2-1. Obtain a Preparer Tax Identification Number (PTIN).\\nBefore a tax preparer can begin work, they must also meet state and federal requirements. First, apply for a PTIN by submitting personal information (including your social security number) and a previous year's tax return. This can be done online at http://www.irs.gov. Getting a PTIN will register you as an \\\"unenrolled preparer,\\\" granting you the minimum level of clearance to prepare federal taxes.\\nNote that this application will require to disclose and explain any felony convictions or problems with your tax obligations.\\n2-2. Register with your state.\\nTo become fully licensed, you will likely also have to register with your state. However, these requirements vary between states. Check your state's requirements by searching for \\\"tax preparer registration for [your state]\\\" online. In some cases, however, registration with the state is waived or not required under state law.\\n2-3. Become licensed, if necessary.\\nCPAs and tax attorneys must obtain a license in the state they plan to work in. The education and experience requirements to sit for the licensing exam vary by state, so check with your state's board of accountancy for more information. When you've met the requirements, prepare and register for the exam. You must pass the exam in order to receive your license.\\n3. Finding Work\\n3-1. Work for a tax preparation service to gain experience.\\nMany tax preparers begin their careers working for an established tax preparation service. These companies will train you in local and state requirements for tax filings and are able to help you through any difficulties you may have in the beginning. After gaining this experience, you are more prepared to move on to another job, start your own business, or further your education.\\nThe biggest advantage of doing this type of work is that many tax preparers offer both free on-the-job training and free continuing education.\\nWhile this type of work is a great first start for a tax preparer, you may only be able to find work during tax season, which leaves you out of a job for about two-thirds of the year. This is great for part-timers, but if you want to be a tax preparer full time, you may want to seek other types of employment.\\nThere are many tax preparation services and CPA firms that are virtual, allowing you to work from home with flexible hours.\\n3-2. Work for a law or accounting firm to handle more difficult tasks.\\nIn addition to specialized tax preparation companies, there may also be work available at law or accounting firms that offer tax services. In these roles, you would likely be supporting a CPA or tax attorney in the preparation of tax returns for clients. In other words, you would be doing more than simply inputting your client's information—perhaps you'd also deal with certain tax accounting procedures or the intricacies of tax law.\\nFinding this work can be easier if you are able to differentiate yourself from other tax preparers by specializing in a certain type of tax filing or business. For example, perhaps you could specialize in filing a complex sort of taxes, like those on international assets.\\nThese opportunities may also be available at various other types of businesses, so be sure to search online job board and classified newspaper ads frequently for new opportunities.\\n3-3. Start your own business if you're self-motivated.\\nWith enough accreditation or experience, you can start your own tax preparation business as an independent tax preparer. Start by advertising your services to the community and begin growing your customer base. With friendly and reliable service, you may soon find your business thriving and growing. With time, you may even be able to open another franchise and hire other tax preparers to do the work for you!\\nIt may be a good idea to start with family and friends before moving on to other customers. This can help you get a low-stress start while you fine-tune your tax preparation process. From there, you can pass out business cards and rely on recommendations for more business.\\nThis will be your best choice if you want to work part-time as a tax preparer. It's easy to run a tax preparation business out of your home and undercut the prices of some of the bigger-name tax preparation services.\\nIf you want additional work throughout the year, consider also offering services as a tax adviser or personal accountant to your tax preparation clients.\\nTips\\nTax preparers can also demonstrate their expertise by obtaining certification from the Accreditation Council for Accountancy and Taxation (ACAT). This requires three years of tax preparation experience and passing an examination.[21]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWarnings\\nUnless you seek further education (as an enrolled agent or tax accountant), you may only be able to find work during the January-April tax season.\\nTax preparers often don't receive benefits due to the seasonal nature of their work.\\nThe job can be stressful, as any mistake made could cost the client a lot of money. Also, client stress can be contagious.\\nComputer automation may make human tax preparers obsolete, so the long-term career prospects of a tax preparer are up in the air. However, you can use your knowledge to work in other areas like tax or financial planning, if necessary.\\nIt's essential to stay up-to-date on changes to the tax law each year, especially because the federal tax code is quite complicated.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Becoming a tax preparer can offer rewarding and well-paying work. For example, the average tax preparer made about $68,090 in 2018. You can make even more money if you do more detailed tax planning and resolution, such as if you become a certified public accountant (CPA) or tax attorney. In addition, tax preparers deal with a large cross-section of the public and, in many cases, are able to deliver good news of a large return or money found in previous years' returns to their clients. You'll also enjoy quite a bit of job security since people have to file taxes every year regardless of the state of the economy. While it may seem like being a tax preparer would require a lot of education and training, almost anyone can become qualified in a number of months.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meeting the Educational Requirements\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meet the minimum requirements.\", \"描述\": \"In general, tax preparers are required to have a high-school diploma or equivalent. That is, you don't need a bachelor's or associate degree to get started or to thrive in the tax preparation industry. However, any aspiring tax preparer should be aware that the job will require some basic skills. You can prepare for the job in high school by cultivating:\\nStrong math skills.\\nBasic computer skills and typing ability.\\nCustomer service skill and experience.\\nA very basic understanding of tax regulations (necessary forms and time constraints).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take basic training courses.\", \"描述\": \"Because many tax preparers don't have any formal training in tax preparation, they must undergo a small amount of training before they can begin working. In these training courses, students learn about topics like filing status, taxpayer interviews, exemptions, tax calculations, and refund schedules. These courses are offered by a number of sources, so it's best to consider several options before choosing the best one for your situation.\\nSome tax preparation companies offer on-the-job training, so try applying for a job directly and see if they offer this type of training. This could save you a considerable amount of time and money. Find jobs by searching online job boards in November or December.\\nSign up for a training program offered by the Accreditation Council for Accountancy and Taxation (ACAT) or National Association of Tax Professionals. See their websites for more information.\\nMany technical and community colleges, as well as universities, offer short certificate programs that can qualify you for entry-level positions. Search for programs in your area to learn more. Some of these may also be available online.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Complete additional tax training to increase your knowledge base.\", \"描述\": \"However you decide to get the training in, you'll have to complete it before becoming a tax professional. If you can, try to take advanced courses that include information on topics like estate taxes, capital gains, and retirement funds. This knowledge can separate you from the crowd.\\nBe sure to keep any notes or information you have from your classes, as you may need them later if you choose to pursue higher-level certifications or education.\\nAlso be sure that any tax preparation skills learned are tailored to the state in which you will be practicing, as filing requirements vary between states.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Earn a tax-related degree to get an edge over the competition.\", \"描述\": \"While a simple tax preparation course can prepare you for the majority of tax preparation roles, you may also want to reach higher by becoming a licensed tax accountant, a CPA, a tax attorney, or an IRS Enrolled Agent. Obviously, these will require much more education, and expense to you, but the opportunities for advancement and salary growth are much better. Without additional education (or owning your own tax preparation business), there is little room for advancement in the tax preparation industry.\\nTax preparers can become enrolled agents either by working for the IRS for a specified period of time or by passing the Special Enrollment Examination (SEE) and applying online for enrolled agent status. After passing the test or achieving the required work experience, you can apply for enrolled agent status by filling out IRS form 23 and undergoing a background check.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting Certified\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Obtain a Preparer Tax Identification Number (PTIN).\", \"描述\": \"Before a tax preparer can begin work, they must also meet state and federal requirements. First, apply for a PTIN by submitting personal information (including your social security number) and a previous year's tax return. This can be done online at http://www.irs.gov. 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When you've met the requirements, prepare and register for the exam. You must pass the exam in order to receive your license.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Finding Work\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work for a tax preparation service to gain experience.\", \"描述\": \"Many tax preparers begin their careers working for an established tax preparation service. These companies will train you in local and state requirements for tax filings and are able to help you through any difficulties you may have in the beginning. After gaining this experience, you are more prepared to move on to another job, start your own business, or further your education.\\nThe biggest advantage of doing this type of work is that many tax preparers offer both free on-the-job training and free continuing education.\\nWhile this type of work is a great first start for a tax preparer, you may only be able to find work during tax season, which leaves you out of a job for about two-thirds of the year. This is great for part-timers, but if you want to be a tax preparer full time, you may want to seek other types of employment.\\nThere are many tax preparation services and CPA firms that are virtual, allowing you to work from home with flexible hours.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work for a law or accounting firm to handle more difficult tasks.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to specialized tax preparation companies, there may also be work available at law or accounting firms that offer tax services. In these roles, you would likely be supporting a CPA or tax attorney in the preparation of tax returns for clients. In other words, you would be doing more than simply inputting your client's information—perhaps you'd also deal with certain tax accounting procedures or the intricacies of tax law.\\nFinding this work can be easier if you are able to differentiate yourself from other tax preparers by specializing in a certain type of tax filing or business. For example, perhaps you could specialize in filing a complex sort of taxes, like those on international assets.\\nThese opportunities may also be available at various other types of businesses, so be sure to search online job board and classified newspaper ads frequently for new opportunities.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start your own business if you're self-motivated.\", \"描述\": \"With enough accreditation or experience, you can start your own tax preparation business as an independent tax preparer. Start by advertising your services to the community and begin growing your customer base. With friendly and reliable service, you may soon find your business thriving and growing. With time, you may even be able to open another franchise and hire other tax preparers to do the work for you!\\nIt may be a good idea to start with family and friends before moving on to other customers. This can help you get a low-stress start while you fine-tune your tax preparation process. From there, you can pass out business cards and rely on recommendations for more business.\\nThis will be your best choice if you want to work part-time as a tax preparer. It's easy to run a tax preparation business out of your home and undercut the prices of some of the bigger-name tax preparation services.\\nIf you want additional work throughout the year, consider also offering services as a tax adviser or personal accountant to your tax preparation clients.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Tax preparers can also demonstrate their expertise by obtaining certification from the Accreditation Council for Accountancy and Taxation (ACAT). 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1. Getting Certified
1-1. Check to be sure you qualify.
All cities have a set of requirements to drive a taxi, and you should check them to be sure you qualify. Typical requirements for drivers include:
A driver's license
Minimum Age – In most cities taxi drivers must be at least 21, though in some they can be as young as 18.
Good Health – Drivers often have to pass a health exam to assure they have no conditions that would endanger passengers.
No Convictions – Drivers must typically have no felony convictions and not be serving parole.
No Tickets – Drivers must typically have no unpaid tickets in order to get certified.
1-2. Train to be a taxi driver.
There is typically no formal educational requirement to be a taxi driver – i.e. you don't need a high school diploma – but many cities require some brief training. The specifics will vary from city to city. This training usually lasts from a day to several weeks, and covers local traffic laws, driver safety, street layout, communication equipment, and taxi meter operation. Taxi companies will usually train new hires for free, or you can seek training at a local community college or specialized taxi school. Some municipalities that require training by law include:
New York – Taxi drivers must take a 6 hour defensive driving course and complete either a 24 or 80 hour taxi school course. The longer course might well be worth it, as only 53% of test takers pass the license test.
Chicago – You must attend a 3 week course at the Public Chauffeur Training Institute.
San Francisco – You must attend an accredited taxi school and obtain a Taxi Training Certificate and Sensitivity Training Certificate.
Paris – You must have obtained a level 1 first aid certificate, or Diplôme PSC1 (prévention et secours civiques de niveau 1).
1-3. Pass any required tests.
Most municipalities, even if they do not have required training, do have a required test. Applicants are often charged a fee to take these tests. They vary in difficulty from “The Knowledge,” the London cab driver test that typically requires 2-4 years of study, to less daunting exams like the Washington, DC taxi driver test. If there is no training course, then the city will typically provide a study guide to help applicants prepare for the test. Tests cover topics such as:
Routes
Landmarks
Boundaries
Cab requirements
Business practices
Non-discrimination
Customer service
1-4. Acquire the necessary paperwork.
In addition to knowledge tests, most cities will require you to submit an application, furnish documents and undergo background checks to ensure that you have the right to work, a clean driving record and no criminal background. Typical requirements include:
A valid driver's license
A social security card
Immigrant documentation if applicable
Driving record
A criminal background check (for which you may need to supply fingerprints)
A medical examination
Drug test
1-5. Pay any required fees and receive your certification or license to drive a taxi.
The fees for licensing typically range from $40 in less lucrative markets to upwards of $300 in big cities. Fees are sometimes waived if a city is experiencing a shortage of cab drivers.
2. Getting a Taxi
2-1. Decide if you will own your own cab or contract to work for a taxi company.
Drivers who own their cabs take 100% of the fares received, but also have a host of expenses, from the cost of the cab to insurance to licensing. Employees of taxi companies either receive a percentage of fares (typically about a third) or rent the cab daily or weekly and pay all fuel costs.
2-2. Consider the costs of being an independent driver.
Depending on the city or state where you are driving, getting started with your own cab can cost anywhere from about $5,000 – mostly the cost of the cab – to nearly a million dollars. Yes, one million. In big cities where the number of licensed taxis is limited, the cost of obtaining a license is often outrageous – $872,000 on average in New York, $560,000 in Boston, $300,000 in Chicago, and $325,000 in Paris – leaving new drivers little choice but to work for established companies. Overall costs include:
The cab – Cars frequently used as cabs include Ford Crown Victorias, Dodge Caravans or Nissan Quests, Ford Escape Hybrids, and Toyota Priuses. They cost anywhere from about $3,000 used to over $30,000 new.
Insurance – The requirements for taxi insurance are much higher than for private use of your car – between $5,000-$10,000 a year.
Taxi meter – Around $180 used.
A top light - Cost from $150 for a basic roof topper up to $1300 for a video topper.
Car markings – You will need to put your business name and phone number on the side of your taxi. Decals start at $10-$25 per square foot.
2-3. Get hired by a taxi company as a cheaper alternative.
Working for a company means you will make less money per client, but it also comes without the prohibitive start-up costs. In addition, having a dispatcher can help you to get more fares. There are two ways that contract drivers get paid:
Percentage – The company pays all costs, including gas, and you take home about 30% of each fare. In Boston, drivers average about $200 gross per day, meaning they would take home only $60. In New York the average is closer to $250 for a take of $75 per day.
Leasing – The driver leases the cab and pays for gas, but takes home all fares. Renting a cab costs around $100 per day, with fuel costs of about $20, meaning take home pay of around $80 to $130 per day.
2-4. Drive your own car for a service like Uber or Lyft.
Drivers for these for-hire services are not taxi drivers and do not have to complete the same driver licensing or pay for a taxi license, resulting in higher per hour earnings. Uber charges passengers $.18 a minute plus $1 per mile, with a multiplier during times of higher demand, and drivers keep 80% of the fare. The only requirements are:
A license
Age 21 or older
A car model year 2000 or newer (2005 in some cities)
Background check
3. Being a Successful Taxi Driver
3-1. Drive safely.
Avoiding accidents is your number one priority as a cab driver, because accidents endanger you and your passengers and cost you money.
Follow all traffic laws.
Do not speed.
Take care when changing lanes. Do not weave through traffic.
Do not drive when tired or otherwise impaired.
Immediately report any accidents.
3-2. Protect yourself.
Accidents are not the only danger a cabbie faces. There are also your passengers. Taxi drivers carry cash and operate alone, often late at night, making them vulnerable to assault. To protect yourself:
Radio the dispatcher whenever picking up a client.
Keep your windows rolled up and doors locked between fares.
Be wary of passengers that give vague instructions.
Do not let single passengers sit directly behind you. Use an excuse – company policy or car balance – and politely ask them to move.
Do not drive into back alleys.
Do not resist robberies. Instead, memorize the suspect's description and contact the police as soon as possible.
3-3. Know where to get fares.
Driving a taxi is a bit like fishing: you need to know where to get bites. When first starting out, experiment with different locations at different times until you find the right mix. Some places to consider include:
Airports in the mid morning
Business districts during lunch
Suburban rail or subway stops during rush hour
Out of the way restaurants during the evening
Clubs late at night
3-4. Pass out business cards.
If you're an independent taxi driver, you'll have to work long hours in order to pay for the lease on the car and make enough money for your salary. Giving out cards can boost your business by creating repeat customers.
3-5. Know the town.
Yes, navigation systems allow anybody to get from point A to B, but really good taxi drivers know not only how to get where they are going, but the fastest routes for any time of day. More than that, they are able to offer recommendations on dining, lodgings, and nightlife.
3-6. Provide quality customer service.
The difference between getting 5% and 10% on a tip can be huge. The better service you provide, the more money you will make. To give your passengers the best service possible:
Keep your car clean.
Always call passengers 30 minutes prior to pick-up if they have pre-booked. This will keep them from worrying about whether you will show up.
Have snacks on hand for airport passengers. A bottle of water and a granola bar will be greatly appreciated by hungry passengers.
Do not talk on the phone while driving passengers. It makes you a less safe driver, and it leaves you unavailable to answer questions.
Stay calm. Do not curse at other drivers or traffic.
Be courteous and thankful. “Good morning,” “good afternoon,” or “good evening” are a must when your passenger enters the car. Always thank your passenger when he or she leaves.
Tips
If you're interested in a driving-based job but aren't set on taxiing people around, you might consider driving for a food-delivery service like Grubhub or Uber Eats, instead.
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This training usually lasts from a day to several weeks, and covers local traffic laws, driver safety, street layout, communication equipment, and taxi meter operation. Taxi companies will usually train new hires for free, or you can seek training at a local community college or specialized taxi school. Some municipalities that require training by law include:\\nNew York – Taxi drivers must take a 6 hour defensive driving course and complete either a 24 or 80 hour taxi school course. The longer course might well be worth it, as only 53% of test takers pass the license test.\\nChicago – You must attend a 3 week course at the Public Chauffeur Training Institute.\\nSan Francisco – You must attend an accredited taxi school and obtain a Taxi Training Certificate and Sensitivity Training Certificate.\\nParis – You must have obtained a level 1 first aid certificate, or Diplôme PSC1 (prévention et secours civiques de niveau 1).\\n1-3. Pass any required tests.\\nMost municipalities, even if they do not have required training, do have a required test. Applicants are often charged a fee to take these tests. They vary in difficulty from “The Knowledge,” the London cab driver test that typically requires 2-4 years of study, to less daunting exams like the Washington, DC taxi driver test. If there is no training course, then the city will typically provide a study guide to help applicants prepare for the test. Tests cover topics such as:\\nRoutes\\nLandmarks\\nBoundaries\\nCab requirements\\nBusiness practices\\nNon-discrimination\\nCustomer service\\n1-4. Acquire the necessary paperwork.\\nIn addition to knowledge tests, most cities will require you to submit an application, furnish documents and undergo background checks to ensure that you have the right to work, a clean driving record and no criminal background. 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Consider the costs of being an independent driver.\\nDepending on the city or state where you are driving, getting started with your own cab can cost anywhere from about $5,000 – mostly the cost of the cab – to nearly a million dollars. Yes, one million. In big cities where the number of licensed taxis is limited, the cost of obtaining a license is often outrageous – $872,000 on average in New York, $560,000 in Boston, $300,000 in Chicago, and $325,000 in Paris – leaving new drivers little choice but to work for established companies. Overall costs include:\\nThe cab – Cars frequently used as cabs include Ford Crown Victorias, Dodge Caravans or Nissan Quests, Ford Escape Hybrids, and Toyota Priuses. 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In New York the average is closer to $250 for a take of $75 per day.\\nLeasing – The driver leases the cab and pays for gas, but takes home all fares. Renting a cab costs around $100 per day, with fuel costs of about $20, meaning take home pay of around $80 to $130 per day.\\n2-4. Drive your own car for a service like Uber or Lyft.\\nDrivers for these for-hire services are not taxi drivers and do not have to complete the same driver licensing or pay for a taxi license, resulting in higher per hour earnings. Uber charges passengers $.18 a minute plus $1 per mile, with a multiplier during times of higher demand, and drivers keep 80% of the fare. The only requirements are:\\nA license\\nAge 21 or older\\nA car model year 2000 or newer (2005 in some cities)\\nBackground check\\n3. Being a Successful Taxi Driver\\n3-1. 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More than that, they are able to offer recommendations on dining, lodgings, and nightlife.\\n3-6. Provide quality customer service.\\nThe difference between getting 5% and 10% on a tip can be huge. The better service you provide, the more money you will make. To give your passengers the best service possible:\\nKeep your car clean.\\nAlways call passengers 30 minutes prior to pick-up if they have pre-booked. This will keep them from worrying about whether you will show up.\\nHave snacks on hand for airport passengers. A bottle of water and a granola bar will be greatly appreciated by hungry passengers.\\nDo not talk on the phone while driving passengers. It makes you a less safe driver, and it leaves you unavailable to answer questions.\\nStay calm. Do not curse at other drivers or traffic.\\nBe courteous and thankful. “Good morning,” “good afternoon,” or “good evening” are a must when your passenger enters the car. 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They cost anywhere from about $3,000 used to over $30,000 new.\\nInsurance – The requirements for taxi insurance are much higher than for private use of your car – between $5,000-$10,000 a year.\\nTaxi meter – Around $180 used.\\nA top light - Cost from $150 for a basic roof topper up to $1300 for a video topper.\\nCar markings – You will need to put your business name and phone number on the side of your taxi. Decals start at $10-$25 per square foot.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get hired by a taxi company as a cheaper alternative.\", \"描述\": \"Working for a company means you will make less money per client, but it also comes without the prohibitive start-up costs. In addition, having a dispatcher can help you to get more fares. There are two ways that contract drivers get paid:\\nPercentage – The company pays all costs, including gas, and you take home about 30% of each fare. In Boston, drivers average about $200 gross per day, meaning they would take home only $60. In New York the average is closer to $250 for a take of $75 per day.\\nLeasing – The driver leases the cab and pays for gas, but takes home all fares. Renting a cab costs around $100 per day, with fuel costs of about $20, meaning take home pay of around $80 to $130 per day.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Drive your own car for a service like Uber or Lyft.\", \"描述\": \"Drivers for these for-hire services are not taxi drivers and do not have to complete the same driver licensing or pay for a taxi license, resulting in higher per hour earnings. Uber charges passengers $.18 a minute plus $1 per mile, with a multiplier during times of higher demand, and drivers keep 80% of the fare. The only requirements are:\\nA license\\nAge 21 or older\\nA car model year 2000 or newer (2005 in some cities)\\nBackground check\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being a Successful Taxi Driver\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Drive safely.\", \"描述\": \"Avoiding accidents is your number one priority as a cab driver, because accidents endanger you and your passengers and cost you money.\\nFollow all traffic laws.\\nDo not speed.\\nTake care when changing lanes. Do not weave through traffic.\\nDo not drive when tired or otherwise impaired.\\nImmediately report any accidents.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Protect yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Accidents are not the only danger a cabbie faces. There are also your passengers. Taxi drivers carry cash and operate alone, often late at night, making them vulnerable to assault. To protect yourself:\\nRadio the dispatcher whenever picking up a client.\\nKeep your windows rolled up and doors locked between fares.\\nBe wary of passengers that give vague instructions.\\nDo not let single passengers sit directly behind you. Use an excuse – company policy or car balance – and politely ask them to move.\\nDo not drive into back alleys.\\nDo not resist robberies. Instead, memorize the suspect's description and contact the police as soon as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know where to get fares.\", \"描述\": \"Driving a taxi is a bit like fishing: you need to know where to get bites. When first starting out, experiment with different locations at different times until you find the right mix. Some places to consider include:\\nAirports in the mid morning\\nBusiness districts during lunch\\nSuburban rail or subway stops during rush hour\\nOut of the way restaurants during the evening\\nClubs late at night\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pass out business cards.\", \"描述\": \"If you're an independent taxi driver, you'll have to work long hours in order to pay for the lease on the car and make enough money for your salary. Giving out cards can boost your business by creating repeat customers.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Know the town.\", \"描述\": \"Yes, navigation systems allow anybody to get from point A to B, but really good taxi drivers know not only how to get where they are going, but the fastest routes for any time of day. More than that, they are able to offer recommendations on dining, lodgings, and nightlife.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Provide quality customer service.\", \"描述\": \"The difference between getting 5% and 10% on a tip can be huge. The better service you provide, the more money you will make. To give your passengers the best service possible:\\nKeep your car clean.\\nAlways call passengers 30 minutes prior to pick-up if they have pre-booked. This will keep them from worrying about whether you will show up.\\nHave snacks on hand for airport passengers. A bottle of water and a granola bar will be greatly appreciated by hungry passengers.\\nDo not talk on the phone while driving passengers. It makes you a less safe driver, and it leaves you unavailable to answer questions.\\nStay calm. Do not curse at other drivers or traffic.\\nBe courteous and thankful. “Good morning,” “good afternoon,” or “good evening” are a must when your passenger enters the car. Always thank your passenger when he or she leaves.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you're interested in a driving-based job but aren't set on taxiing people around, you might consider driving for a food-delivery service like Grubhub or Uber Eats, instead.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Gaining Credentials
1-1. Find a local taxidermist and ask questions.
The oldest and in some ways most straight forward way to learn the trade is to study with a practiced hand. Seek out a local taxidermist. You will need to acquire a lot of artistic and technical skill – as a taxidermist you must know how to properly prepare an animal carcass, including tanning the skin, but you must also have an eye for anatomy and movement in order to make life-like mounts.
Watch, ask questions, and learn. If he is open to the idea, try to join the taxidermist as an apprentice. If he specializes in certain types of mounts – fish, for example – ask him for referrals to specialists in other areas and begin to network while learning how to craft a variety of mounts.
1-2. Learn more about your chosen field.
You will quickly find that taxidermy can be hard, dirty, and squeamish work. Read up about the field and observe your mentor. Use this early time to decide whether, with your insider’s knowledge, you still want to commit yourself to the profession. As a taxidermist you will first have to make precise measurements of the animal carcass. This way you will be able to recreate an accurate and realistic mount for the specimen. The carcass must then be preserved until you are ready to prepare it, usually in a freezer.
Making the mount comes next. Depending on the animal, you will have to prepare a plaster cast or perhaps buy a premade form. The mount serves as the new “body” for the specimen’s skin and must be the right size.
Next skin the carcass, cutting away the hide. Usually this is done without opening the body cavity and without seeing internal organs. However, you must then scrape away all of the excess flesh and fat from the hide.
Once you have skinned the carcass, you have to tan the skin. There are several methods. Some use chemicals like salt and alkaline solutions (at one time, urine was the preferred choice), while others use the animal’s cooked brain, which contains oils that will naturally tan the skin. The latter is called “braining” or “brain tanning.” All methods are labor-intensive.
After tanning, you can finally “dress” the mount by stuffing your form into the skin. Be careful to smooth out any irregularities before sewing it up. Put final touches on the mount by recreating things like habitat and flora.
1-3. Complete a taxidermy program.
You won’t need a college degree to become a taxidermist. However, you will still need to have many hours of training and on-the-job experience. Some trade schools and colleges offer intensive two-year programs in taxidermy, which can be an alternative to a long apprenticeship. The typical trade program will train you how to use tools and chemicals to treat carcasses, make mounts, construct artificial habitat, and restore color, among other things. Some professionals recommend taking an art class or two. A course in anatomy may also prove useful. After all, you will need to work on physiology and your artistic skills as a taxidermist.
Weigh the benefits before you enroll. Graduates of taxidermy programs can begin working professionally and build a substantial portfolio while still in training. However, the cost can be more than $20,000 per year, too much according to some. An apprenticeship offers many of the same advantages but for much less.
1-4. Get a state license and/or federal permit.
Be aware that most states and countries require you to hold a license in order to mount dead game animals like birds, rodents, fish, and deer. Some jurisdictions also require different licenses for specific animals, and even your clients may need permits to possess the animal carcass. Read up on local laws.
For example, to practice taxidermy in the state of Michigan, you need a state permit that allows you to possess animal carcasses, buy specific parts like antlers, skulls, and horns, and sell mounted specimens. The permit costs $100 and is valid for three years. In addition, you need a federal taxidermy permit to work with migratory bird specimens.
Because it varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, taxidermy law is complicated. Consult a lawyer if you are unsure. You will need to be in full compliance to avoid fines.
1-5. Take a course on tanning.
Tanning is an essential part of taxidermy. Tanning the animal skin turns it into leather, preserving it from deterioration and rot. Not all taxidermists do their own tanning. Some choose to outsource this work to commercial tanneries. However, there are good reasons to learn how to self-tan skins. For example, the number of taxidermists has risen in recent years while the number of commercial tanneries has not, creating, at times, backlogs and delays. Self-tanning will also reduce your overhead costs if you own your own business, and allow you to handle tanning emergencies in-shop.
Some institutions offer specialized courses in tanning. You can also find comprehensive taxidermy courses that offer tanning in the general curriculum. Keep this in mind if you want to attend a program.
2. Building up a Clientele
2-1. Contact a wildlife professionals.
Reach out to wildlife professionals and learn about the types of animals that will generate the most demand in your area. Do you live in the north woods of Minnesota? Chances are that you could find business mounting large game animals like deer, elk, or bear. In the southwest United States you might find interest in species like pronghorn antelope, cougar, or bighorn sheep. There are also opportunities in all areas for game fish and fowl.
Once you’ve identified animals, you will need a thorough understanding of their habitat and vegetation to effectively produce artistic dioramas. You may even want to take a habitat course for taxidermists, which includes instruction on how to make artificial rock molds and install large dioramas.
2-2. Develop a specialization.
Finding a niche market is a way to establish a clientele as a taxidermist. You may find that you favor certain mounts over others. Perhaps you especially enjoy recreating the dynamism and movement of stream fish like trout, or game birds like ducks. There is also a specialized market for pets: bereaved owners who want to have their late pet cats, dogs, or birds preserved for all time. As odd as it may seem, a niche like pet taxidermy could prove to be lucrative for your taxidermy business.
2-3. Join a professional organization.
Joining a regional or national body like the National Taxidermists’ Association (NTA) is a good way to network with taxidermists and hunters of every stripe, and can give you a feel for what skills will best serve clients in your area. Such groups offer benefits, too. For example, NTA members are eligible for scholarships, get free access to the group’s annual conferences, and can earn the group’s voluntary certification.
Professional certification is not mandatory but can improve your credentials and business opportunities. Think of it as a perk of membership.
Professional groups also lobby governments and help to shape hunting and taxidermy law. A membership will keep you apprised of any changes in local regulations.
2-4. Look for business opportunities.
Taxidermy is a competitive job. Keep your options open! You may want above all to have your own shop and small business. There are other ways to make a living in the field, however. Some private institutions and museums employ in-house taxidermists to make or repair animal mounts in dioramas, like the Smithsonian or the Natural History Museum in London, for example, though such jobs are few and far between. There are jobs to be found with larger, high-volume firms or in taxidermy instruction programs.
2-5. Promote your work.
Many taxidermists do end up on their own. In that case, you will have to be resourceful and work extra hard to promote and run your business. As a small business owner, you will need financial and marketing knowhow in addition to your skills in taxidermy. Try taking a course in business management, if you can, to learn more about bookkeeping, basic business law, sales, and advertising. Computer literacy will come in handy for communication with clients, creating a business website, and advertising.
Try old fashioned door-to-door self-promotion, as well. Look for locations nearby where you can display your work, like tackle shops, fishing stores, sporting goods stores, Kmart, Walmart – any place that will accept them. Make sure to have tags identifying the mounts as yours, with your business telephone, address, and website clearly visible. Even if they decline, ask to leave business cards and price lists for prospective clients.
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Use this early time to decide whether, with your insider’s knowledge, you still want to commit yourself to the profession. As a taxidermist you will first have to make precise measurements of the animal carcass. This way you will be able to recreate an accurate and realistic mount for the specimen. The carcass must then be preserved until you are ready to prepare it, usually in a freezer.\\nMaking the mount comes next. Depending on the animal, you will have to prepare a plaster cast or perhaps buy a premade form. The mount serves as the new “body” for the specimen’s skin and must be the right size.\\nNext skin the carcass, cutting away the hide. Usually this is done without opening the body cavity and without seeing internal organs. However, you must then scrape away all of the excess flesh and fat from the hide.\\nOnce you have skinned the carcass, you have to tan the skin. There are several methods. Some use chemicals like salt and alkaline solutions (at one time, urine was the preferred choice), while others use the animal’s cooked brain, which contains oils that will naturally tan the skin. The latter is called “braining” or “brain tanning.” All methods are labor-intensive.\\nAfter tanning, you can finally “dress” the mount by stuffing your form into the skin. Be careful to smooth out any irregularities before sewing it up. Put final touches on the mount by recreating things like habitat and flora.\\n1-3. Complete a taxidermy program.\\nYou won’t need a college degree to become a taxidermist. However, you will still need to have many hours of training and on-the-job experience. Some trade schools and colleges offer intensive two-year programs in taxidermy, which can be an alternative to a long apprenticeship. The typical trade program will train you how to use tools and chemicals to treat carcasses, make mounts, construct artificial habitat, and restore color, among other things. Some professionals recommend taking an art class or two. A course in anatomy may also prove useful. After all, you will need to work on physiology and your artistic skills as a taxidermist. \\nWeigh the benefits before you enroll. Graduates of taxidermy programs can begin working professionally and build a substantial portfolio while still in training. However, the cost can be more than $20,000 per year, too much according to some. An apprenticeship offers many of the same advantages but for much less.\\n1-4. Get a state license and/or federal permit.\\nBe aware that most states and countries require you to hold a license in order to mount dead game animals like birds, rodents, fish, and deer. Some jurisdictions also require different licenses for specific animals, and even your clients may need permits to possess the animal carcass. Read up on local laws.\\nFor example, to practice taxidermy in the state of Michigan, you need a state permit that allows you to possess animal carcasses, buy specific parts like antlers, skulls, and horns, and sell mounted specimens. The permit costs $100 and is valid for three years. In addition, you need a federal taxidermy permit to work with migratory bird specimens.\\nBecause it varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, taxidermy law is complicated. Consult a lawyer if you are unsure. You will need to be in full compliance to avoid fines.\\n1-5. Take a course on tanning.\\nTanning is an essential part of taxidermy. Tanning the animal skin turns it into leather, preserving it from deterioration and rot. Not all taxidermists do their own tanning. Some choose to outsource this work to commercial tanneries. However, there are good reasons to learn how to self-tan skins. For example, the number of taxidermists has risen in recent years while the number of commercial tanneries has not, creating, at times, backlogs and delays. Self-tanning will also reduce your overhead costs if you own your own business, and allow you to handle tanning emergencies in-shop.\\nSome institutions offer specialized courses in tanning. You can also find comprehensive taxidermy courses that offer tanning in the general curriculum. Keep this in mind if you want to attend a program.\\n2. Building up a Clientele\\n2-1. Contact a wildlife professionals.\\nReach out to wildlife professionals and learn about the types of animals that will generate the most demand in your area. Do you live in the north woods of Minnesota? Chances are that you could find business mounting large game animals like deer, elk, or bear. In the southwest United States you might find interest in species like pronghorn antelope, cougar, or bighorn sheep. There are also opportunities in all areas for game fish and fowl.\\nOnce you’ve identified animals, you will need a thorough understanding of their habitat and vegetation to effectively produce artistic dioramas. You may even want to take a habitat course for taxidermists, which includes instruction on how to make artificial rock molds and install large dioramas.\\n2-2. Develop a specialization.\\nFinding a niche market is a way to establish a clientele as a taxidermist. You may find that you favor certain mounts over others. Perhaps you especially enjoy recreating the dynamism and movement of stream fish like trout, or game birds like ducks. There is also a specialized market for pets: bereaved owners who want to have their late pet cats, dogs, or birds preserved for all time. As odd as it may seem, a niche like pet taxidermy could prove to be lucrative for your taxidermy business.\\n2-3. Join a professional organization.\\nJoining a regional or national body like the National Taxidermists’ Association (NTA) is a good way to network with taxidermists and hunters of every stripe, and can give you a feel for what skills will best serve clients in your area. Such groups offer benefits, too. For example, NTA members are eligible for scholarships, get free access to the group’s annual conferences, and can earn the group’s voluntary certification.\\nProfessional certification is not mandatory but can improve your credentials and business opportunities. Think of it as a perk of membership.\\nProfessional groups also lobby governments and help to shape hunting and taxidermy law. A membership will keep you apprised of any changes in local regulations.\\n2-4. Look for business opportunities.\\nTaxidermy is a competitive job. Keep your options open! You may want above all to have your own shop and small business. There are other ways to make a living in the field, however. Some private institutions and museums employ in-house taxidermists to make or repair animal mounts in dioramas, like the Smithsonian or the Natural History Museum in London, for example, though such jobs are few and far between. There are jobs to be found with larger, high-volume firms or in taxidermy instruction programs.\\n2-5. Promote your work.\\nMany taxidermists do end up on their own. In that case, you will have to be resourceful and work extra hard to promote and run your business. As a small business owner, you will need financial and marketing knowhow in addition to your skills in taxidermy. Try taking a course in business management, if you can, to learn more about bookkeeping, basic business law, sales, and advertising. Computer literacy will come in handy for communication with clients, creating a business website, and advertising.\\nTry old fashioned door-to-door self-promotion, as well. Look for locations nearby where you can display your work, like tackle shops, fishing stores, sporting goods stores, Kmart, Walmart – any place that will accept them. Make sure to have tags identifying the mounts as yours, with your business telephone, address, and website clearly visible. Even if they decline, ask to leave business cards and price lists for prospective clients.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Modern taxidermy requires more artistic creativity than ever before, thanks in part to its popularity among hunters, sportsmen, and fishermen. It is important to develop a variety of skills -- artistic, practical, and even scientific -- if you want to be a taxidermist. While taxidermists still handle the preparation and mounting of big fish and trophy big game, today's customer brings increasingly exotic finds and wants artistic, habitat-based mounts and dioramas. To serve clients and build a name for yourself in local circles, you will need to get a sound training, hone your techniques, promote yourself, and follow all legal requirements in your area.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gaining Credentials\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find a local taxidermist and ask questions.\", \"描述\": \"The oldest and in some ways most straight forward way to learn the trade is to study with a practiced hand. Seek out a local taxidermist. You will need to acquire a lot of artistic and technical skill – as a taxidermist you must know how to properly prepare an animal carcass, including tanning the skin, but you must also have an eye for anatomy and movement in order to make life-like mounts.\\nWatch, ask questions, and learn. 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However, the cost can be more than $20,000 per year, too much according to some. An apprenticeship offers many of the same advantages but for much less.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a state license and/or federal permit.\", \"描述\": \"Be aware that most states and countries require you to hold a license in order to mount dead game animals like birds, rodents, fish, and deer. Some jurisdictions also require different licenses for specific animals, and even your clients may need permits to possess the animal carcass. Read up on local laws.\\nFor example, to practice taxidermy in the state of Michigan, you need a state permit that allows you to possess animal carcasses, buy specific parts like antlers, skulls, and horns, and sell mounted specimens. The permit costs $100 and is valid for three years. In addition, you need a federal taxidermy permit to work with migratory bird specimens.\\nBecause it varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, taxidermy law is complicated. 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Keep this in mind if you want to attend a program.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Building up a Clientele\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Contact a wildlife professionals.\", \"描述\": \"Reach out to wildlife professionals and learn about the types of animals that will generate the most demand in your area. Do you live in the north woods of Minnesota? Chances are that you could find business mounting large game animals like deer, elk, or bear. In the southwest United States you might find interest in species like pronghorn antelope, cougar, or bighorn sheep. There are also opportunities in all areas for game fish and fowl.\\nOnce you’ve identified animals, you will need a thorough understanding of their habitat and vegetation to effectively produce artistic dioramas. 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A membership will keep you apprised of any changes in local regulations.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Look for business opportunities.\", \"描述\": \"Taxidermy is a competitive job. Keep your options open! You may want above all to have your own shop and small business. There are other ways to make a living in the field, however. Some private institutions and museums employ in-house taxidermists to make or repair animal mounts in dioramas, like the Smithsonian or the Natural History Museum in London, for example, though such jobs are few and far between. There are jobs to be found with larger, high-volume firms or in taxidermy instruction programs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Promote your work.\", \"描述\": \"Many taxidermists do end up on their own. In that case, you will have to be resourceful and work extra hard to promote and run your business. As a small business owner, you will need financial and marketing knowhow in addition to your skills in taxidermy. Try taking a course in business management, if you can, to learn more about bookkeeping, basic business law, sales, and advertising. Computer literacy will come in handy for communication with clients, creating a business website, and advertising.\\nTry old fashioned door-to-door self-promotion, as well. Look for locations nearby where you can display your work, like tackle shops, fishing stores, sporting goods stores, Kmart, Walmart – any place that will accept them. Make sure to have tags identifying the mounts as yours, with your business telephone, address, and website clearly visible. Even if they decline, ask to leave business cards and price lists for prospective clients.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Getting Certified
1-1. Choose the area of teaching you’d like to work in.
There are many different age groups, levels, and specialized subjects you can teach once you have a license. Think about what age range you’d like to work with the most or which subject you like the best before you sign up for a program so you can pick the one that’s right for you.
You can also enroll in a specialized program, like special education or physical education.
Early childhood education ranges from preschool to kindergarten levels.
Elementary school education focuses on children in elementary or primary school.
Secondary school education is for middle school or high school aged children. If you want to teach kids these ages, you may need to pick a specific subject to focus on, like science, language arts, or history.
1-2. Sign up for a Bachelor’s Degree program.
Make sure the school you choose is certified by the National Council for Accreditation of Teacher Education, or NCATE, before you sign up. Then, pick out the program you’d like to enroll in and sign up for classes.
In order to be a teacher, you must have at least a Bachelor’s Degree.
Bachelor’s Degree programs usually take about 4 years to complete.
During your program, you should take classes focusing on childhood education and childhood development so you can learn how to relate to the children you’ll be teaching.
1-3. Get experience by doing student teaching.
During your degree, you’ll have the opportunity to get experience by teaching a classroom full of students. You’ll most likely have to complete a certain amount of hours in the classroom in order to graduate, and it’s a great way to get real life experience in the field that you’d like to be in.
Usually, programs require you to student teach for 3 to 4 months.
You’ll have the assistance of the actual teacher in the classroom still, so if you need any help, they can provide it.
1-4. Enroll in a Master’s program if it’s required for your state.
While most K-12 teachers do not need a Master’s degree to teach, if you’re in a specialized program like special education or counseling, you may need to get a Master’s degree. Check with your state licensing board to see what the requirements are for your state.
Feel free to get your Masters during your first few years of teaching. In fact, many teachers get Master’s degrees after they start teaching since they are required to continue their education as they teach. However, the school district will often help pay for any classes.
A Masters degree can bump up your pay.
1-5. Take the teacher certification test to get your license.
The teacher licensing test is different based on which state you’re in, but it often includes showing basic knowledge of the age group / subject you signed up to teach, and it is often formatted like a standardized test. Check with your state licensing board to see how to sign up for a teacher certification test, then study hard and pass it so you can get your license!
Even if you have a Bachelor’s Degree, you won’t be able to work as a teacher without a license.
Teaching licenses vary by state. If you plan on moving to a new state to teach, you may have to take a separate test to get a new license.
If you’re in a Bachelor’s Degree program, your professors may help you prepare for your test. Otherwise, you can search for practice tests online through the National Education Association.
2. Applying for Jobs
2-1. Get familiar with the school district’s guidelines and policies.
Before you go in for an interview, take a look at average standardized test scores, special needs programs, or free/reduced lunch percentages. This will help you focus your answers and do better on your interview overall, since you’ll know more about the average students and how you can help them during your job.
Every public school has to report this information to the state, so you can look it up through your state’s website.
2-2. Look for jobs within school districts near you.
To find jobs, search online for the school districts in your area and look for openings. You can look at high schools, middle schools, elementary schools, or preschools, depending on which age range you specialize in.
Depending on where you live, you may have several school districts nearby.
You can also look for opportunities on LinkedIn, Monster, and Indeed.
2-3. Apply for private schools if you’d like a smaller class size.
Private schools are funded privately, meaning they don’t get government money to run. They often have smaller class sizes, but they can come with lower salaries. Look for private school opportunities if you’d like to teach a more specialized group of children.
Private school positions can also come with more freedom, since they don’t have to follow all of the state guidelines for education.
2-4. Try substitute teaching until you land a full-time position.
Substitute teachers get called in any time a teacher is sick and can’t come into work. While you won’t be guaranteed work every day, substitute teaching is a great way to network with people in your field and earn money while you look for a full-time job. Find substitute positions by signing up with your school district as an on-call sub.
If a teacher is out for a long period of time, you may be able to sub for them for a few months or even a year.
2-5. Emphasize what you can do for your students.
As you talk to your interviewers, tell them about what your skills are and how they can benefit the children you’ll teach. Talk about how passionate you are about education and why you want to be a teacher to leave a good impression and (hopefully!) get the job.
For example, you could say, “I’ve been passionate about teaching ever since I was little and I’d help my sister with her ABCs. I have a lot of patience and I don’t get flustered easily, so I can handle anything that gets thrown my way.”
Or, “My Bachelor’s Degree was focused on special education, so I know a lot about teaching children who may require something other than a classic school setting. I know how to remain calm, cool, and collected under stress, which is very beneficial in this line of work.”
If you do get the job, be prepared to decorate your own classroom, come up with lesson plans, and connect with your students right away.
3. Continuing Your Education
3-1. Renew your license every 5 years.
The teaching license is only good for 5 years, and then you’ll have to apply for a new one. In most states, you’ll have to take a certain amount of continuing education classes to get a new license, so make sure you have all of those done before you apply. Then, contact your state licensing office to pay a small fee and renew your license.
Continuing education classes are usually master’s-level classes that are paid for by your employer.
The license renewal fee is usually around $40.
3-2. Go to teaching workshops to learn new skills.
As you teach, you can get notified about workshops and conferences to learn new teaching methods or information about standardized tests. You can ask your employer to fund your ticket or go to these on your own to freshen up your skills and keep learning throughout your professional life.
This is also a good way to learn about new issues in education and how to combat them effectively.
3-3. Connect with a professional organization for networking opportunities.
There are many professional organizations for teachers, and a few are specialized toward a specific subject. You can sign up to be a member of one of these organizations to connect with other teachers in your field, attend workshops, or get access to classes and educational opportunities.
The National Education Association, American Federation of Teachers, the National Council of Teachers of English, and the National Science Teaching Association are all great organizations to look into.
3-4. Get a Master’s or a PhD to further your education.
As you take the classes required to renew your license, you can apply those classes toward a degree. You may have to take more classes and pay for some on your own, but your school district will generally help to pay for any further education you choose to pursue.
Most teachers are able to earn a second degree within 5 years of their first job.
Tips
If you have any questions about getting certified, talk to your state education board.
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How to Be a Teen Guidette
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1. Steps
1-1. Don't be trashy!
No matter how old you are, being trashy is never okay! A lot of guidettes can be trashy or inappropriate, but some guidettes are very responsible and classy.
1-2. Remember, it will be hard to pull off the Guidette look if you are not Italian!
It is best to be at least 3/4 Italian. If not, people may look at you as a poser, however, Snooki pulls off the Guidette look pretty well, and she is Chilean.
1-3. Have gorgeous, long, shiny hair.
Most Guidettes either have dark brown hair or black hair. You can't be a blonde or a red head. It just won't work. You have to be Italian and most Italians have dark hair. Try straightening your hair for an everyday look. If you don't have long hair, try out extensions. Make sure that they don't look fake though. Try out Luxy Hair Extensions or Hello Gorgeous extensions.
1-4. Wear flattering makeup.
For school, use foundation, bronzer, eyeliner, mascara, and a light pink lipstick/lip balm. (Snooki uses MAC lipstick.) Also, false lashes are optional, as long as they are natural looking. Nothing too bold. Don't wear anything too dark or heavy.
1-5. Always be tanned.
In the summer, tan outside almost every day. If you can handle it, then use SPF 4 or SPF 8. This will help you get a deeper tan. Also, use a self-tanner. Just make sure that you do not look orange. Try to look brown.
1-6. Wear cute, designer clothes.
You do not have to buy anything really expensive though. Wear Victoria's Secret PINK sweats, Ed Hardy, Bebe, Armani Exchange, Guess, Juicy Couture tracksuits, etc. Wear skinny jeans, yoga pants, lounge outfits, bodycon dresses/mini skirts, etc.
1-7. Have fashionable accessories.
Wear big Hoop earrings, cross necklaces. Carry Louis Vuitton purses, Dolce & Gabbana. Wear Gucci hats and use purses from Prada, Chanel etc. Have designer earrings. In the winter, wear Uggs almost everyday. Have at least three pairs of them. Try to buy some Snooki Slippers as well for lounging around the house.
1-8. Be fit and healthy, but still enjoy some real Italian food.
If you are a REAL Italian...remember, it ain't sauce... it's called gravy!
1-9. Have blinged out nails, gel nails, or French tips.
1-10. Use the right slang.
Use words like grenade, yo, yous, hon/honey, etc. Do NOT sound fake though.
1-11. Have confidence.
You can't be a real guidette without confidence! Do NOT be shy! You can be sweet, but not shy. For example, Sammi from Jersey Shore is sweet and nice person, but she's not too quiet.
Tips
Jersey is NOT pronounced "Joysey." It's pronounced "Jerzey."
Have a nice group of friends to hang out with.
If you don't have a New York/Jersey/Philly accent, then do NOT fake one! If you do have a REAL one, then great!
Warnings
Don't do bad in school just because it may seem cool. It's not cool.
Don't do drugs, smoke, or drink!
Use heat protectant when you use any heat appliances to your hair.
Remember, you are still a teen. Don't do something that you may get in trouble for.
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Wear flattering makeup.\\nFor school, use foundation, bronzer, eyeliner, mascara, and a light pink lipstick/lip balm. (Snooki uses MAC lipstick.) Also, false lashes are optional, as long as they are natural looking. Nothing too bold. Don't wear anything too dark or heavy.\\n1-5. Always be tanned.\\nIn the summer, tan outside almost every day. If you can handle it, then use SPF 4 or SPF 8. This will help you get a deeper tan. Also, use a self-tanner. Just make sure that you do not look orange. Try to look brown.\\n1-6. Wear cute, designer clothes.\\nYou do not have to buy anything really expensive though. Wear Victoria's Secret PINK sweats, Ed Hardy, Bebe, Armani Exchange, Guess, Juicy Couture tracksuits, etc. Wear skinny jeans, yoga pants, lounge outfits, bodycon dresses/mini skirts, etc.\\n1-7. Have fashionable accessories.\\nWear big Hoop earrings, cross necklaces. Carry Louis Vuitton purses, Dolce & Gabbana. Wear Gucci hats and use purses from Prada, Chanel etc. Have designer earrings. In the winter, wear Uggs almost everyday. Have at least three pairs of them. Try to buy some Snooki Slippers as well for lounging around the house.\\n1-8. Be fit and healthy, but still enjoy some real Italian food.\\nIf you are a REAL Italian...remember, it ain't sauce... it's called gravy!\\n1-9. Have blinged out nails, gel nails, or French tips.\\n\\n1-10. Use the right slang.\\nUse words like grenade, yo, yous, hon/honey, etc. Do NOT sound fake though.\\n1-11. Have confidence.\\nYou can't be a real guidette without confidence! Do NOT be shy! You can be sweet, but not shy. For example, Sammi from Jersey Shore is sweet and nice person, but she's not too quiet.\\nTips\\nJersey is NOT pronounced \\\"Joysey.\\\" It's pronounced \\\"Jerzey.\\\"\\nHave a nice group of friends to hang out with.\\nIf you don't have a New York/Jersey/Philly accent, then do NOT fake one! If you do have a REAL one, then great!\\nWarnings\\nDon't do bad in school just because it may seem cool. It's not cool.\\nDon't do drugs, smoke, or drink!\\nUse heat protectant when you use any heat appliances to your hair.\\nRemember, you are still a teen. Don't do something that you may get in trouble for.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to be like the Guidettes who became famous on Jersey Shore, but still want to be classy? You're only a teenager so some things that they show on Jersey Shore, are not suitable for your age group. Keep reading for advice how to be the most gorgeous teen guidette ever!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't be trashy!\", \"描述\": \"No matter how old you are, being trashy is never okay! A lot of guidettes can be trashy or inappropriate, but some guidettes are very responsible and classy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Remember, it will be hard to pull off the Guidette look if you are not Italian!\", \"描述\": \"It is best to be at least 3/4 Italian. If not, people may look at you as a poser, however, Snooki pulls off the Guidette look pretty well, and she is Chilean.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have gorgeous, long, shiny hair.\", \"描述\": \"Most Guidettes either have dark brown hair or black hair. You can't be a blonde or a red head. It just won't work. You have to be Italian and most Italians have dark hair. Try straightening your hair for an everyday look. If you don't have long hair, try out extensions. Make sure that they don't look fake though. Try out Luxy Hair Extensions or Hello Gorgeous extensions.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear flattering makeup.\", \"描述\": \"For school, use foundation, bronzer, eyeliner, mascara, and a light pink lipstick/lip balm. (Snooki uses MAC lipstick.) Also, false lashes are optional, as long as they are natural looking. Nothing too bold. Don't wear anything too dark or heavy.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Always be tanned.\", \"描述\": \"In the summer, tan outside almost every day. If you can handle it, then use SPF 4 or SPF 8. This will help you get a deeper tan. Also, use a self-tanner. Just make sure that you do not look orange. Try to look brown.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Wear cute, designer clothes.\", \"描述\": \"You do not have to buy anything really expensive though. Wear Victoria's Secret PINK sweats, Ed Hardy, Bebe, Armani Exchange, Guess, Juicy Couture tracksuits, etc. Wear skinny jeans, yoga pants, lounge outfits, bodycon dresses/mini skirts, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Have fashionable accessories.\", \"描述\": \"Wear big Hoop earrings, cross necklaces. Carry Louis Vuitton purses, Dolce & Gabbana. Wear Gucci hats and use purses from Prada, Chanel etc. Have designer earrings. In the winter, wear Uggs almost everyday. Have at least three pairs of them. Try to buy some Snooki Slippers as well for lounging around the house.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be fit and healthy, but still enjoy some real Italian food.\", \"描述\": \"If you are a REAL Italian...remember, it ain't sauce... it's called gravy!\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Have blinged out nails, gel nails, or French tips.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Use the right slang.\", \"描述\": \"Use words like grenade, yo, yous, hon/honey, etc. Do NOT sound fake though.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Have confidence.\", \"描述\": \"You can't be a real guidette without confidence! Do NOT be shy! You can be sweet, but not shy. For example, Sammi from Jersey Shore is sweet and nice person, but she's not too quiet.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Jersey is NOT pronounced \\\"Joysey.\\\" It's pronounced \\\"Jerzey.\\\"\\n\", \"Have a nice group of friends to hang out with.\\n\", \"If you don't have a New York/Jersey/Philly accent, then do NOT fake one! If you do have a REAL one, then great!\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't do bad in school just because it may seem cool. It's not cool.\\n\", \"Don't do drugs, smoke, or drink!\\n\", \"Use heat protectant when you use any heat appliances to your hair.\\n\", \"Remember, you are still a teen. Don't do something that you may get in trouble for.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Theatre Kid
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1. Steps
1-1. Look the Part:
One of the best things about being a theatre kid is that you can look the way you want. Theatre kids are known for being themselves and not caring about the judgment of others.
While that is certainly not true of everyone, acceptance of themselves is a goal that theatre kids work towards. You can be any height, weight, do your hair however you’d like- diversity is key. Because theatre kids strive to be themselves, they do not feel pressured to wear designer clothes or popular mall labels. It is the art that matters, so when it comes to clothes they are like any other kids. While preppy certainly isn’t the norm, you won’t be judged if you dress like it as long as you don’t have the stereotypical prep attitude that many attribute to that style.
Comfort, in a presentable and laid back way, is key because much of the time you will be in rehearsal or in a class perfecting your craft. T shirts, jeans, converse, dance pants, flats- things like this. It’s not to say theatre girls don’t love heels, they do, but it’s just not convenient for rehearsal. Outside of the theater though, they are just like every other kid. Hoodies from musicals are a social status, saying "Hey! I saw this show! Ask me about it!".
Also, it is unappreciated by true theatre kids when others try to be accepted into the group just because they dress in a stereotypical manner. Theatre kids don’t all wear cartoon or comic tees or shirts with “witty” sayings, in fact, few do. These ideas only came about because the negative stereotype is “weird.” Also, you will not be accepted as a theatre kid just because you wear the shirt from your favorite musical. They don’t care how much you like “Wicked,” it is the dedication they want to see.
1-2. Sing everywhere you go!
Well, not literally. But hey, if you feel like it, do it. Like I said in the step above, theatre kids work at being themselves. If you feel like being a bit crazy, be crazy, and if you feel like sitting by yourself with your iPhone or reading a book- you can do that too. As far as literally singing, theatre kids do that. Feel free, be loud, sound pretty, sound awful; it’s great stress relief. While it’s true that many theatre kids do love musicals and classic music like the Beatles, everyone is different. So while you may find some who shun the mainstream radio, you’ll find just as many who love it and many in-between. Just be prepared that theatre kids love diversity in their music, do not judge their tastes. If you don’t like it, don’t listen.
1-3. Find your Dedication to the arts:
The core group of theatre kids are those who have found their passion in the art and are tirelessly devoting themselves to it. It is extremely apparent when you are not committed. Many kids who do theatre, in your school for instance, may have other interests; maybe some terms they do sports after school instead of the play. It's perfectly fine to do that, but the amount you are committed to either activity is what will distinguish you as a "theatre kid" or as a really good friend" of the theatre kids. Yet don't feel pressured to give up on all your other activities and dedicate your life and soul to theatre.
1-4. Be willing to try to fail..
.and try to fail again: Theatre, as an art, is difficult. For many, it does not come easily and it takes many failures to find a success. You need to learn to see the value in small successes so you don't feel discouraged because rejection will happen. You need to have a sense of "This is what I love and I will not give up." Many theatre kids struggle with self worth because it is such a demanding and competitive activity. Just do your best, be happy, and you will find friends and things to be proud of.
1-5. Don't Judge Others:
Theatre kids often feel judged by other groups, so don't turn around and do it too. It's hypocritical. Just because someone does sports and not theatre does not make them a bad person or unworthy of your time. Accept other's passion as you wish they would accept yours.
1-6. "'Talk about what you're doing!"'
If you're in a show, talk about it! Don't be shy! If you like a show, try to get your friends to listen to it!
Tips
Being a theatre kid is a serious undertaking. It isn't always easy because being in one school play doesn’t make you part of that group. Theatre kids (as a group) are tight knit and they stick together. It’s like a family. You need to show dedication and commitment and an appreciation for diversity. If you’re not willing to do this, and you wanted to be a theatre kid because you saw “Hairspray” and liked it, it will be difficult. Theatre is a craft.
You don't have to memorize the original Broadway, West End, and national tour casts of every musical ever created, but still make sure that you know about a variety of musicals, songs, and famous actors. Only knowing about Les Miserables and Wicked doesn't count. Keep up with the latest upcoming shows, make sure you know the famous ones (Hairspray, Avenue Q, Phantom of the Opera, Aida, etc.), and hold true to the classics.
Theatre kids at different schools and theatres are all different. While you might find more stereotypical ones at one school, they may be really diverse at another.
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T shirts, jeans, converse, dance pants, flats- things like this. It’s not to say theatre girls don’t love heels, they do, but it’s just not convenient for rehearsal. Outside of the theater though, they are just like every other kid. Hoodies from musicals are a social status, saying \\\"Hey! I saw this show! Ask me about it!\\\".\\nAlso, it is unappreciated by true theatre kids when others try to be accepted into the group just because they dress in a stereotypical manner. Theatre kids don’t all wear cartoon or comic tees or shirts with “witty” sayings, in fact, few do. These ideas only came about because the negative stereotype is “weird.” Also, you will not be accepted as a theatre kid just because you wear the shirt from your favorite musical. They don’t care how much you like “Wicked,” it is the dedication they want to see.\\n1-2. Sing everywhere you go!\\nWell, not literally. But hey, if you feel like it, do it. Like I said in the step above, theatre kids work at being themselves. If you feel like being a bit crazy, be crazy, and if you feel like sitting by yourself with your iPhone or reading a book- you can do that too. As far as literally singing, theatre kids do that. Feel free, be loud, sound pretty, sound awful; it’s great stress relief. While it’s true that many theatre kids do love musicals and classic music like the Beatles, everyone is different. So while you may find some who shun the mainstream radio, you’ll find just as many who love it and many in-between. Just be prepared that theatre kids love diversity in their music, do not judge their tastes. If you don’t like it, don’t listen.\\n1-3. Find your Dedication to the arts:\\nThe core group of theatre kids are those who have found their passion in the art and are tirelessly devoting themselves to it. It is extremely apparent when you are not committed. Many kids who do theatre, in your school for instance, may have other interests; maybe some terms they do sports after school instead of the play. It's perfectly fine to do that, but the amount you are committed to either activity is what will distinguish you as a \\\"theatre kid\\\" or as a really good friend\\\" of the theatre kids. Yet don't feel pressured to give up on all your other activities and dedicate your life and soul to theatre.\\n1-4. Be willing to try to fail..\\n.and try to fail again: Theatre, as an art, is difficult. For many, it does not come easily and it takes many failures to find a success. You need to learn to see the value in small successes so you don't feel discouraged because rejection will happen. You need to have a sense of \\\"This is what I love and I will not give up.\\\" Many theatre kids struggle with self worth because it is such a demanding and competitive activity. Just do your best, be happy, and you will find friends and things to be proud of.\\n1-5. Don't Judge Others:\\nTheatre kids often feel judged by other groups, so don't turn around and do it too. It's hypocritical. Just because someone does sports and not theatre does not make them a bad person or unworthy of your time. Accept other's passion as you wish they would accept yours.\\n1-6. \\\"'Talk about what you're doing!\\\"'\\nIf you're in a show, talk about it! Don't be shy! If you like a show, try to get your friends to listen to it!\\nTips\\nBeing a theatre kid is a serious undertaking. It isn't always easy because being in one school play doesn’t make you part of that group. Theatre kids (as a group) are tight knit and they stick together. It’s like a family. You need to show dedication and commitment and an appreciation for diversity. If you’re not willing to do this, and you wanted to be a theatre kid because you saw “Hairspray” and liked it, it will be difficult. Theatre is a craft.\\nYou don't have to memorize the original Broadway, West End, and national tour casts of every musical ever created, but still make sure that you know about a variety of musicals, songs, and famous actors. Only knowing about Les Miserables and Wicked doesn't count. Keep up with the latest upcoming shows, make sure you know the famous ones (Hairspray, Avenue Q, Phantom of the Opera, Aida, etc.), and hold true to the classics.\\nTheatre kids at different schools and theatres are all different. While you might find more stereotypical ones at one school, they may be really diverse at another.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"What does it take to be a \\\"theatre kid?\\\" It takes a willingness to be yourself, work your hardest, and an ability to look past stereotypes to see what really goes on within the theater and broadway.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look the Part:\", \"描述\": \"One of the best things about being a theatre kid is that you can look the way you want. Theatre kids are known for being themselves and not caring about the judgment of others.\\nWhile that is certainly not true of everyone, acceptance of themselves is a goal that theatre kids work towards. You can be any height, weight, do your hair however you’d like- diversity is key. Because theatre kids strive to be themselves, they do not feel pressured to wear designer clothes or popular mall labels. It is the art that matters, so when it comes to clothes they are like any other kids. While preppy certainly isn’t the norm, you won’t be judged if you dress like it as long as you don’t have the stereotypical prep attitude that many attribute to that style.\\nComfort, in a presentable and laid back way, is key because much of the time you will be in rehearsal or in a class perfecting your craft. T shirts, jeans, converse, dance pants, flats- things like this. It’s not to say theatre girls don’t love heels, they do, but it’s just not convenient for rehearsal. Outside of the theater though, they are just like every other kid. Hoodies from musicals are a social status, saying \\\"Hey! I saw this show! Ask me about it!\\\".\\nAlso, it is unappreciated by true theatre kids when others try to be accepted into the group just because they dress in a stereotypical manner. Theatre kids don’t all wear cartoon or comic tees or shirts with “witty” sayings, in fact, few do. These ideas only came about because the negative stereotype is “weird.” Also, you will not be accepted as a theatre kid just because you wear the shirt from your favorite musical. They don’t care how much you like “Wicked,” it is the dedication they want to see.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Sing everywhere you go!\", \"描述\": \"Well, not literally. But hey, if you feel like it, do it. Like I said in the step above, theatre kids work at being themselves. If you feel like being a bit crazy, be crazy, and if you feel like sitting by yourself with your iPhone or reading a book- you can do that too. As far as literally singing, theatre kids do that. Feel free, be loud, sound pretty, sound awful; it’s great stress relief. While it’s true that many theatre kids do love musicals and classic music like the Beatles, everyone is different. So while you may find some who shun the mainstream radio, you’ll find just as many who love it and many in-between. Just be prepared that theatre kids love diversity in their music, do not judge their tastes. If you don’t like it, don’t listen.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find your Dedication to the arts:\", \"描述\": \"The core group of theatre kids are those who have found their passion in the art and are tirelessly devoting themselves to it. It is extremely apparent when you are not committed. Many kids who do theatre, in your school for instance, may have other interests; maybe some terms they do sports after school instead of the play. It's perfectly fine to do that, but the amount you are committed to either activity is what will distinguish you as a \\\"theatre kid\\\" or as a really good friend\\\" of the theatre kids. Yet don't feel pressured to give up on all your other activities and dedicate your life and soul to theatre.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be willing to try to fail..\", \"描述\": \".and try to fail again: Theatre, as an art, is difficult. For many, it does not come easily and it takes many failures to find a success. You need to learn to see the value in small successes so you don't feel discouraged because rejection will happen. You need to have a sense of \\\"This is what I love and I will not give up.\\\" Many theatre kids struggle with self worth because it is such a demanding and competitive activity. Just do your best, be happy, and you will find friends and things to be proud of.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't Judge Others:\", \"描述\": \"Theatre kids often feel judged by other groups, so don't turn around and do it too. It's hypocritical. Just because someone does sports and not theatre does not make them a bad person or unworthy of your time. Accept other's passion as you wish they would accept yours.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"\\\"'Talk about what you're doing!\\\"'\", \"描述\": \"If you're in a show, talk about it! Don't be shy! If you like a show, try to get your friends to listen to it!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Being a theatre kid is a serious undertaking. It isn't always easy because being in one school play doesn’t make you part of that group. Theatre kids (as a group) are tight knit and they stick together. It’s like a family. You need to show dedication and commitment and an appreciation for diversity. 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How to Be a Ticket Broker
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1. Getting Your License
1-1. Envision your future business.
It’s important to have a goal in mind when you start any business venture. Do you want to sell local concert tickets? Or tickets to major league sporting events? Where do you want to base your operations? These decisions will impact everything from which licenses you apply for to how much startup money you will need.
Think about why you will succeed. Is your local music venue not successful at advertising? Do you notice that a sports team regularly sells out their games? You should find a market you can compete in that is also profitable.
1-2. Check with local laws.
Once you have decided which tickets you would like to sell, you need to check into which licenses you will need. States have different laws concerning the regulation of ticket brokering. Planning out this phase will make it easy for you to begin buying and selling tickets later.
Some states require you to have a ticket reseller’s license if the concert venue is in their state.
1-3. Raise capital if necessary.
Unless you have a lot of money tucked away, you will need money to start a ticket reselling business. First, it costs several thousand dollars just to apply for license. Second, you will need to have the capital to buy tickets, even though the return is relatively fast.
Banks and credit unions are a good place to check into loans for starting businesses. See this guide for ways to find out your credit score and optimize it.
You can also try to find investors in your area. Local businesses may be interested in low-cost investments or the perks that come with having ties to a ticket broker. If you keep it small and personal, you may be able to keep lawyers and accountants out of it. See this for more tips on starting a small business.
1-4. Apply for a ticket reseller's license.
You should know by now where you want to list your business address, and which venues you want to sell tickets to. This varies state by state, so a simple web search will tell you where to fill out and submit the application. You will need to have a good amount of cash for any fees and bonds.
To give you an idea, the application fee for New York is $5,000. It will vary by state.
New York also requires a surety bond held by at least two sureties for the sum of $25,000. This money is on the line to ensure you fulfill your contractual obligations.
Additional information may be required. For example, New York needs to know the status of any child support payments.
1-5. Look into joining the National Association of Ticket Brokers.
This organization has a few goals. First, it requires its members to live up to some ethical standards while conducting business. It also lobbies to expand the rights and privileges of ticket resellers, so they are on your side. It is also a good way to network and have access to a pool of resources.
2. Finding and Buying Tickets
2-1. Find out where the tickets are sold.
There are a few sources typically approved by most states. It is important not only to follow laws when selling tickets, but buying them as well. There are hefty fines for buying tickets for resale from an unauthorized source.
The most obvious source is the venue itself.
Authorized or official resellers are businesses that the venue contracts to sell its tickets for them. This is typically a cost-cutting measure for the venue.
You can also typically buy tickets from other licensed resellers. They might be looking to reduce a surplus or believe that demand for the ticket will be lower than they had predicted.
2-2. Start small and test the waters.
If you are becoming a broker as secondary or part-time job, it shouldn’t be as difficult to hold yourself back. Before you know how well you can expect certain tickets to sell, don’t sink as much money into each event. Do some shopping around and keep your profits and, more importantly, losses minimal at first. It is important to have enough capital to make it through these initial learning stages.
2-3. Buy only as much as you think you can sell.
This is a general rule you should always follow. It may seem like common sense, but there is no use for a ticket after the event occurs. You can’t sell them later, like day-old bread. This is where experience comes into play.
Events like the Super Bowl are a feeding frenzy for ticket brokers. If you are lucky enough to have a chance to buy tickets, grab all you can. It has proven to be a lucrative event for ticket resellers for decades.
Local music events are more hit-or-miss. You probably want to be more cautious about buying these tickets. The good news is that you will be out less money for each one you don't sell - especially compared to the Super Bowl.
2-4. Look into season tickets.
It has been regular practice for ticket brokers to buy season event tickets and resell them by the game. This may still be a viable option for some venues, but keep in mind that many sports teams and others are starting to place restrictions on this activity. Look into the rules for season ticket ownership before buying season tickets.
3. Selling Tickets
3-1. Set up a website.
In most situations, you will need people to be able to easily shop and pay for tickets from home. The most difficult aspect of this will be creating a secure portal for financial transactions. There are online payment systems that will interface fairly easily with your website. You might also look into directly taking credit card information. Check out this guide for more tips on setting up the financial part of your website.
3-2. Advertise on the internet.
With social media platforms numerous and free, it is easy to spread the word about your tickets. You can also buy ad space on websites and even search engine sites for relatively cheap. If you are engaged in the local music scene, you probably want to focus on your community. If you specialize in events that attract patrons from farther away, focus on fan pages in their online community.
3-3. Sell on the internet.
Now that you have found some buyers, point them to your website. Make sure you keep up with the purchases and get them their tickets on time. Luckily, if your website interfaces with an online payment system, much of the organizational and financial work will be done automatically.
3-4. Mail your tickets.
You may have an official business address, but not want it to be open to the public. The easiest way for you to get your tickets to their buyers is probably by mail. It is inexpensive and secure. Look into business rates for sending envelopes. There are commercial prices for businesses.
3-5. Sell outside the venue.
This is a popular way to sell certain tickets, but it is usually associated with illegal scalpers. If you are a licensed broker, you have nothing to worry about legally. There are additional laws determined by the state to control this activity, however. Check out all the laws that apply to ticket brokers in your state.
For example, in New York, you must be 500 feet (150 m) away from venues with a capacity of 5,000 or less. You must be 1,500 feet (460 m) away from venues with a capacity of more than 5,000.
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Planning out this phase will make it easy for you to begin buying and selling tickets later.\\nSome states require you to have a ticket reseller’s license if the concert venue is in their state.\\n1-3. Raise capital if necessary.\\nUnless you have a lot of money tucked away, you will need money to start a ticket reselling business. First, it costs several thousand dollars just to apply for license. Second, you will need to have the capital to buy tickets, even though the return is relatively fast.\\nBanks and credit unions are a good place to check into loans for starting businesses. See this guide for ways to find out your credit score and optimize it.\\nYou can also try to find investors in your area. Local businesses may be interested in low-cost investments or the perks that come with having ties to a ticket broker. If you keep it small and personal, you may be able to keep lawyers and accountants out of it. See this for more tips on starting a small business.\\n1-4. Apply for a ticket reseller's license.\\nYou should know by now where you want to list your business address, and which venues you want to sell tickets to. This varies state by state, so a simple web search will tell you where to fill out and submit the application. You will need to have a good amount of cash for any fees and bonds.\\nTo give you an idea, the application fee for New York is $5,000. It will vary by state.\\nNew York also requires a surety bond held by at least two sureties for the sum of $25,000. This money is on the line to ensure you fulfill your contractual obligations.\\nAdditional information may be required. For example, New York needs to know the status of any child support payments.\\n1-5. Look into joining the National Association of Ticket Brokers.\\nThis organization has a few goals. First, it requires its members to live up to some ethical standards while conducting business. It also lobbies to expand the rights and privileges of ticket resellers, so they are on your side. It is also a good way to network and have access to a pool of resources.\\n2. Finding and Buying Tickets\\n2-1. Find out where the tickets are sold.\\nThere are a few sources typically approved by most states. It is important not only to follow laws when selling tickets, but buying them as well. There are hefty fines for buying tickets for resale from an unauthorized source.\\nThe most obvious source is the venue itself.\\nAuthorized or official resellers are businesses that the venue contracts to sell its tickets for them. This is typically a cost-cutting measure for the venue.\\nYou can also typically buy tickets from other licensed resellers. They might be looking to reduce a surplus or believe that demand for the ticket will be lower than they had predicted.\\n2-2. Start small and test the waters.\\nIf you are becoming a broker as secondary or part-time job, it shouldn’t be as difficult to hold yourself back. Before you know how well you can expect certain tickets to sell, don’t sink as much money into each event. Do some shopping around and keep your profits and, more importantly, losses minimal at first. It is important to have enough capital to make it through these initial learning stages.\\n2-3. Buy only as much as you think you can sell.\\nThis is a general rule you should always follow. It may seem like common sense, but there is no use for a ticket after the event occurs. You can’t sell them later, like day-old bread. This is where experience comes into play.\\nEvents like the Super Bowl are a feeding frenzy for ticket brokers. If you are lucky enough to have a chance to buy tickets, grab all you can. It has proven to be a lucrative event for ticket resellers for decades.\\nLocal music events are more hit-or-miss. You probably want to be more cautious about buying these tickets. The good news is that you will be out less money for each one you don't sell - especially compared to the Super Bowl.\\n2-4. Look into season tickets.\\nIt has been regular practice for ticket brokers to buy season event tickets and resell them by the game. This may still be a viable option for some venues, but keep in mind that many sports teams and others are starting to place restrictions on this activity. Look into the rules for season ticket ownership before buying season tickets.\\n3. Selling Tickets\\n3-1. Set up a website.\\nIn most situations, you will need people to be able to easily shop and pay for tickets from home. The most difficult aspect of this will be creating a secure portal for financial transactions. There are online payment systems that will interface fairly easily with your website. You might also look into directly taking credit card information. Check out this guide for more tips on setting up the financial part of your website.\\n3-2. Advertise on the internet.\\nWith social media platforms numerous and free, it is easy to spread the word about your tickets. You can also buy ad space on websites and even search engine sites for relatively cheap. If you are engaged in the local music scene, you probably want to focus on your community. If you specialize in events that attract patrons from farther away, focus on fan pages in their online community.\\n3-3. Sell on the internet.\\nNow that you have found some buyers, point them to your website. Make sure you keep up with the purchases and get them their tickets on time. Luckily, if your website interfaces with an online payment system, much of the organizational and financial work will be done automatically.\\n3-4. Mail your tickets.\\nYou may have an official business address, but not want it to be open to the public. The easiest way for you to get your tickets to their buyers is probably by mail. It is inexpensive and secure. Look into business rates for sending envelopes. There are commercial prices for businesses.\\n3-5. Sell outside the venue.\\nThis is a popular way to sell certain tickets, but it is usually associated with illegal scalpers. If you are a licensed broker, you have nothing to worry about legally. There are additional laws determined by the state to control this activity, however. Check out all the laws that apply to ticket brokers in your state.\\nFor example, in New York, you must be 500 feet (150 m) away from venues with a capacity of 5,000 or less. You must be 1,500 feet (460 m) away from venues with a capacity of more than 5,000.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Ticket brokering is a way you can make extra money or even start a new career. Despite the shady reputations of ticket ‘scalpers,’ it is a legal enterprise – but you have to be licensed. 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You should find a market you can compete in that is also profitable.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Check with local laws.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have decided which tickets you would like to sell, you need to check into which licenses you will need. States have different laws concerning the regulation of ticket brokering. Planning out this phase will make it easy for you to begin buying and selling tickets later.\\nSome states require you to have a ticket reseller’s license if the concert venue is in their state.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Raise capital if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"Unless you have a lot of money tucked away, you will need money to start a ticket reselling business. First, it costs several thousand dollars just to apply for license. Second, you will need to have the capital to buy tickets, even though the return is relatively fast.\\nBanks and credit unions are a good place to check into loans for starting businesses. See this guide for ways to find out your credit score and optimize it.\\nYou can also try to find investors in your area. Local businesses may be interested in low-cost investments or the perks that come with having ties to a ticket broker. If you keep it small and personal, you may be able to keep lawyers and accountants out of it. See this for more tips on starting a small business.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Apply for a ticket reseller's license.\", \"描述\": \"You should know by now where you want to list your business address, and which venues you want to sell tickets to. This varies state by state, so a simple web search will tell you where to fill out and submit the application. You will need to have a good amount of cash for any fees and bonds.\\nTo give you an idea, the application fee for New York is $5,000. It will vary by state.\\nNew York also requires a surety bond held by at least two sureties for the sum of $25,000. This money is on the line to ensure you fulfill your contractual obligations.\\nAdditional information may be required. For example, New York needs to know the status of any child support payments.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Look into joining the National Association of Ticket Brokers.\", \"描述\": \"This organization has a few goals. First, it requires its members to live up to some ethical standards while conducting business. It also lobbies to expand the rights and privileges of ticket resellers, so they are on your side. It is also a good way to network and have access to a pool of resources.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Finding and Buying Tickets\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find out where the tickets are sold.\", \"描述\": \"There are a few sources typically approved by most states. It is important not only to follow laws when selling tickets, but buying them as well. There are hefty fines for buying tickets for resale from an unauthorized source.\\nThe most obvious source is the venue itself.\\nAuthorized or official resellers are businesses that the venue contracts to sell its tickets for them. This is typically a cost-cutting measure for the venue.\\nYou can also typically buy tickets from other licensed resellers. They might be looking to reduce a surplus or believe that demand for the ticket will be lower than they had predicted.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Start small and test the waters.\", \"描述\": \"If you are becoming a broker as secondary or part-time job, it shouldn’t be as difficult to hold yourself back. Before you know how well you can expect certain tickets to sell, don’t sink as much money into each event. Do some shopping around and keep your profits and, more importantly, losses minimal at first. 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How to Be a Tinder Top Pick
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1. Creating a Great Bio
1-1. Fill in your job and education to give more information about yourself.
Although it’s optional on a Tinder profile, adding your occupation and your education can help the Top Picks algorithm pick you out. The more information you provide about yourself, the more likely it is that you'll matched with someone as a Top Pick.
For example, put something like “Studied Engineering at ASU, currently working as a technical engineer for a startup.”
1-2. Use keywords to get the label that you want.
The Tinder algorithm uses your bio to assign labels that up your chances of being a Top Pick. If you want to be labeled an athlete, put “fitness” in your bio. If you want to be labeled a scholar, put “literature” or “university” in your bio. You can’t choose your own labels, so try to write your bio with key words that the algorithm will pick up.
For example, if you want to be labeled an adventurer, you could write, “I’m always jumping from city to city, traveling around and seeing new things. I don’t stay in one place very often, want to join me on this adventure?”
Common labels include “Adventurer,” “Scholar,” “Doctor,” “Entrepreneur,” and “Creative,” as well as others.
1-3. Link your Instagram to your Tinder profile to boost your visibility.
Not only will this allow your potential matches to look a little deeper into your life and personality, but it also boosts your profile and gives you a better shot at becoming a Top Pick. The more content you have on your profile, the better.
Linking your Instagram can help your matches strike up a conversation, since they’ll know a little bit more about you.
1-4. Use clear, straightforward language to avoid confusing the algorithm.
Since the Top Picks feature is run by a computer, the algorithm it uses can be duped by certain phrases or unclear wording. For example, if you say something like “My exercise includes walking to the fridge and back,” the algorithm will pick up on the word “exercise” and label you as an athlete. Stick to straight-forward statements about yourself that highlight who you are.
You can still put jokes into your profile, but try not to use humor with keywords that could label you as something you’re not.
2. Choosing Pictures of Yourself
2-1. Make sure your best picture is the very first one.
Tinder Top Picks only show the first picture of your profile when they assemble all their profiles in a grid. Make sure that your first photo is in focus, has good lighting, and doesn’t have a bunch of other people in it to distract from your smiling face.
2-2. Choose head shots of yourself to look great in the Top Picks grid.
Pictures that show only the upper 2/3 of your body from your shoulders up usually get more matches in general. If you have a photo like this, make sure you put it as your first picture so it shows up in the Top Picks grid.
Head shot images make up almost all of the Tinder Top Picks, since they look the best when compiled in a grid.
2-3. Make sure your eyes are visible in each image so you seem friendly.
Pictures where you are hiding your eyes with sunglasses or a wide-brimmed hat make you look mysterious and not very likable. Make sure your face is mostly free of obstruction so the Tinder algorithm can see who you are based on your profile.
This will also probably get you more matches in general, since it lets people see who you are right away.
2-4. Choose a photo of you by yourself so your matches know who you are.
The Tinder Top Picks algorithm favors profiles with photos of people alone, since it’s easier to pick out who you are in your photo. If you do have some group photos of you and your friends, that’s fine! Try to limit it to 2 or 3 shots, and put them near the end of your pictures.
Too many group photos can make you blend in, and people may not be able to tell which person you are.
2-5. Take pictures on a self-timer to avoid putting up a low-quality selfie.
Although it’s super easy to pick up your phone and snap a selfie, photos like that don’t look very engaging, especially in the Top Picks grid. Instead, try choosing a photo of yourself enjoying a hobby, spending time with friends, or chilling outside in nature.
If you do have a really great selfie, try to put it in the middle of your picture roll so it’s not the very first one.
Avoid filtering your selfies, especially with filters that distort your facial features. This can be off-putting for potential matches, and heavily filtered photos don’t do well with the Tinder Top Picks algorithm.
Tips
Put as much personality as you can into your profile to up your chances of getting matched with others.[12]
X
Expert Source
Lisa ShieldDating Coach
Expert Interview. 13 December 2018.
Tinder Top Picks refresh every 24 hours, so you’ll only be shown to each user for about 1 day if you’re a Top Pick for them.[13]
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How to Be a Tomboy
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1. Dressing Like a Tomboy
1-1. Wear loose-fitting t-shirts.
Go for solid prints and straight cuts. You can either wear wide T-shirts with your favorite band’s logo or other print, or a collared button-up shirt with the sleeves rolled up. Whichever style of shirt you choose, try it on before you buy it to make sure it’s comfortable.
Choose shirts in neutral colors, like black, navy blue, brown, red, and green. Camo is also a great way to make yourself look tougher.
You can also pair a neutral bottom with a colored top, or the other way around.
Some tomboys prefer to shop in the boys' or men's section of the store, but you can wear women’s clothes and still be a tomboy. Keep your clothes loose and sporty.
1-2. Look for pants with pockets, a straight cut on the legs, and belt loops.
Women’s pants tend to have a curve at the hips and taper down towards the ankle to create a slimming shape. They can also be very tightly fitted and have “fake" pockets. Instead, go for “chinos” (trousers made of a material called “twill”). Jeans are also a good option. You can also wear loose sweatpants if you’re feeling really casual.
Roll up the cuffs of your pants to shorten them if they’re too long and show off your cool shoes. It can also help your legs look stockier, if that’s the look you’re going for.
When the weather warms up, wear board or cargo shorts. Don’t be afraid of patterns and colors, but make sure they suit your personal style!
1-3. Skip the ballet flats, strappy sandals, and high heels.
Wear slip-on or lace-up sneakers, boots, or formal men’s shoes, like oxfords. Solid colors or gender-neutral prints, such as a checkerboard pattern or stripes, will help make your look more masculine. Avoid stereotypically feminine features like flowers and glitter. You can also skip the socks if you want!
TomboyToes.com makes formal and semi-formal men’s shoes in smaller sizes, so check out their website if you prefer wingtips and boots.
1-4. Accessorize with cufflinks, neckties, and hats.
Cufflinks and ties are great ways to make your look more tomboyish if you like to wear button-up shirts. Get ones that represent your favorite TV shows, animals, or movies to add more of your personality to the look. Wear a beanie or dark, flat-brim hat to add a personal touch.
1-5. Wear a simple hairstyle.
You might want to cut your hair into a short, shaggy style or get a buzz cut. If you want to keep it longer, try wearing it in a simple ponytail or bun. Avoid elaborate hairstyles involving braids, decorative hair clips, and lots of hair products. Keep your look simple and straightforward, and always go to a professional stylist for major hair changes.
1-6. Avoid wearing lots of makeup or nail polish.
It’s okay to put on a little concealer to cover blemishes or fill in your eyebrows if they’re patchy or wear lip balm, but the tomboy look is all about natural simplicity. Go to the makeup counter at the store and ask for help with matching your makeup to your skin tone or hair color.
2. Finding Tomboy Interests
2-1. Try new sports.
You don’t have to be an athlete to be a tomboy! If you’ve never played any sports before, try a game like soccer or kickball first. Once you’re more comfortable on the field, American football and Ultimate Frisbee are fun team sports.
Look for sports clubs in your town on Meetup.com, or ask your friends and neighbors where they play their sports.
You can also go to recreation centers to find out about their intramural sports leagues.
2-2. Play video games.
Video games are thought of as a fairly common male interest, but they can be fun for anyone! If you’ve never played before, ask your friends who play what their favorite games are. If you already play games, join online forums to discuss your favorite video game. If you need to buy a console, ask the employee at the electronics store what they would recommend.
Great games to start off with are MarioKart and Minecraft. Classic arcade games like Galaga and Frogger are fun, too!
Once you get more comfortable with gaming, The Legend of Zelda series, the Final Fantasy series, League of Legends, and the Dark Souls games are interesting and challenging. There are so many different games out there, so head to a used game shop to pick up affordable titles.
2-3. Spend more time outdoors.
Try hiking, camping, or climbing to cultivate a more rugged persona. You may also find that you like fishing, shooting guns at the range, or hunting. Learn how to safely do these hobbies before jumping into them by taking classes or training with a relative who has a lot of experience.
2-4. Develop a tomboy sense of humor.
You might want to learn how to “dish it out,” or poke fun at people. Make sure you can “take it” (laugh at yourself) as much as you can dish it out, and don’t be excessively mean with your jokes.
Of course, you don’t have to laugh at things you don’t find funny. Ignore jokes that are insulting to people of a certain gender, race, religion, or other identity.
Avoid potential drama by not participating in gossip.
3. Making Friends as a Tomboy
3-1. Go to events with activities you enjoy.
Go to sports games (or sports bars if you’re an adult), outdoor events like fishing and ski trips, car shows, and game releases at video game stores. If you see someone you want to be friends with, go over to them and talk to them about the event.
Don’t go to events for things that you aren’t interested in. If you don’t like cars, don’t go to a car show and pretend to be into it. It will be hard to find something to talk about!
3-2. Develop your own way of speaking.
It will be easier to make friends with guys or other tomboys if you talk more like them, but you don’t have to copy what they say. Treat the people you’re talking to like you’re already one of them; call them nicknames that they already use for each other, and talk about your common interests.
3-3. Keep a calm and confident attitude.
Don’t get upset over things like getting dirty or doing badly in a game. Instead, keep your interactions friendly and casual, and don’t be afraid to make your opinion known.
If you are being treated badly, it’s okay to confront the person who’s being mean. You may try “fighting fire with fire” to stop bullying, but don’t be excessively cruel or you’ll lose friends.
3-4. Be honest about who you are.
It’s okay to be a shy tomboy; you don’t have to be extroverted to make good friends. If you don’t want to do what everyone else is doing, you don’t have to!
3-5. Surround yourself with people who celebrate you for you.
Good friends are honest with you and support you in times of need. If someone is causing you more pain than happiness, it’s okay to say, “Hey, I don’t think we should be friends anymore.” You know what’s best for you, so surround yourself with people who support and respect you.
Tips
Not all your friends have to be boys! You can keep your friendships with girls too.
Don't put down more traditionally-girly girls. They aren’t doing anything wrong by being feminine, just like you aren’t doing anything wrong by being more masculine. To each their own!
Being a tomboy isn't bad. If you are a tomboy don't change. It's OK to be yourself. If you are a girly girl don't change to a tomboy unless you really want to. And no matter what, don't change whether you're a tomboy or not just because your friends are or because your boyfriend/crush only likes tomboys. Be yourself!
Warnings
Some people might make fun of you for being different. Try your best to ignore them, and stick with the people who accept you.
Always tell a counselor, teacher, or parent if you are feeling unsafe.
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1. Outfits
1-1. Choose clothes made of breathable, stretchy fabrics.
Part of the appeal of being a tomboy is being able to wear comfortable clothes most of the time. Look for clothes made of materials like cotton, jersey, or performance knit—these are likely to be less restrictive than materials like silk or polyester, and they'll help keep you cool if you're being active.
Performance fabrics are especially helpful at wicking away sweat, so opt for these if you know you're going to be playing hard.
The tomboy style is heavily associated with a relaxed personality.
1-2. Look for clothes in solid, neutral colors.
Choose garments that are black, white, gray, navy blue, and so on. Feel free to mix in a few other colors if you like them, but keep in mind that very bright colors like teal, pink, and purple tend to look more feminine, as do patterns like polka dots or chevron.
1-3. Opt for shorts or pants most of the time.
As you embrace your tomboy style, you'll probably want to stay away from skirts, dresses, tight-fitting jeans, and short shorts. Instead, stick with styles like relaxed-fit jeans, joggers, cargo shorts and pants, and athletic shorts.
Typically, loose-fitting shorts and pants will allow you more freedom of movement, helping you stay more comfortable throughout the day.
1-4. Wear comfortable tops that express your style.
When you're building your tomboy wardrobe, look for graphic tees, polo shirts, button-downs, and athletic shirts in colors and cuts that you like. As a tomboy, you may feel more comfortable in shirts that provide you plenty of coverage and room to move, so avoid shirts that are very tight or low-cut, unless that's what you want to wear.
Remember, it's most important to carve out your own style, so don't feel like you have to wear certain styles or avoid certain pieces just because you're more of a tomboy. If you want, you might wear all black every day, or you might wear a pink top with athletic pants when you're working out.
Try mixing and matching pieces from different departments. For instance, you might prefer the fit of T-shirts, polos, and dress shirts from the men's department, but you might prefer athletic tank tops cut for a woman's body.
1-5. Mix athletic wear in with your regular clothing.
Tomboys are typically associated with a more sporty style. Even if you don't play sports, you might find some style inspiration by checking out the workout gear section of your favorite store. Consider trying on clothes from both the men's and women's athletic sections to find the cuts that fit your body and your style the best. Then, create outfits by mixing your athletic wear with your regular clothing, like jeans and T-shirts.
For instance, you might wear a pair of basketball shorts with a baggy T-shirt for a comfy, relaxed look.
You could also wear a sporty tank or performance tee with a pair of jeans and sneakers for a school-ready outfit.
1-6. Choose a suit, jumpsuit, or comfortable dress for fancy occasions.
While you're probably most comfortable in comfy, casual clothes for most of your daily activities, you might not be sure how to stay true to your style when you have to attend a dressier occasion. Luckily, there are still plenty of options that you can be comfortable in, including pantsuits, dressy jumpsuits, and simple dresses.
If you're more comfortable in masculine clothing, a tailored suit can be a great way to flatter your figure while still feeling like you're dressed like yourself.
A dressy jumpsuit is a nice middle ground between a feminine dress and a traditional suit.
If you lean to the more feminine side of being a tomboy, you might opt for a sheath dress. These fit close to your body, which may be more comfortable for you because there's not a lot of extra fabric to deal with. However, you might prefer a slightly flowier, less restrictive style.
1-7. Avoid form-fitting, low-cut, or overly feminine clothing.
As a tomboy, you may not want to wear clothes that are revealing or that fit super close to your body, as these can emphasize your curves and make you look more feminine. In addition, you might want to avoid wearing clothes that seem especially girly, like anything with ruffles, lace, sparkles, or the color pink.
Try buying clothes that are 1-2 sizes larger than you normally wear if you want a more relaxed fit. However, some clothes, like your undergarments or sports gear, should still fit closer to your body.
1-8. Choose comfortable, supportive undergarments.
When you're shopping for undergarments, look for items made of stretchy, breathable fabrics. In addition, choose full-coverage fits so you don't have to worry about your underwear creeping up or the cups of your bra cutting into your breasts.
Sports bras are a great option because they'll give you full coverage without restricting your movement.
Your underwear style is a personal choice, so try on different styles to see what feels most comfortable for you. For instance, you might prefer bikini, brief, boyshorts, or boxer underwear.
1-9. Stick with versatile, sturdy footwear.
When you're choosing shoes, think about the activities you participate in each day. If you're athletic, you'll probably be most comfortable in sneakers, whereas if you spend a lot of time outdoors, you might prefer hiking boots. In warm weather, you might prefer flip-flops or slide-in sandals, and if you're dressing up, you might prefer loafers or sensible flats.
If you need to wear heels for a nice occasion and you're not used to them, practice walking in them at home until you feel comfortable. Start out a few minutes at a time, until you can comfortably wear them for an hour.
1-10. Toss on an oversized hoodie or a zip-up jacket if the weather's cold.
There's nothing cozier than a big slouchy hoodie on a cold day, so having a few of these on hand is a tomboy staple. You can wear a pullover hoodie if you prefer, or opt for a zip-up style if you'll need to be able to take the jacket on and off throughout the day.
If the weather is cool, but not cold, try wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt to stay warm.
Of course, you might also prefer to wear nicer outerwear, like a leather or canvas jacket. Find what you like!
1-11. Stick with simple, heavy-duty accessories.
Just because you're a tomboy doesn't mean you have to skip accessories altogether, although you certainly don't have to wear any if you don't want. However, if you do want to add a little flair to your outfit, opt for accessories like a thick chain necklace, leather cuff bracelet, chunky watch, plain band, or stud earrings.
As a tomboy, you probably don't want to wear much dainty jewelry. Not only do delicate pieces look more feminine, but they'll also be more likely to break if you're playing a little rough.
If you want to wear a hat, beanies and baseball hats are both good options!
2. Grooming
2-1. Wash your face twice a day.
Whether or not you wear makeup as a tomboy, taking good care of your skin is important. Wash your face morning and night with a cleanser formulated for your skin type to keep it looking great.
For instance, if you have oily skin that's prone to breakouts, you might use a foaming cleanser with an acne-fighter like benzoyl peroxide.
If you have dry skin, you might opt for a creamy moisturizing cleanser.
2-2. Wear light makeup or skip it altogether.
Being a tomboy doesn't mean you can't wear any makeup at all, but you'll probably feel more like yourself when your face is fresh and clean. However, you might still choose to use a little concealer to cover up any blemishes that pop up, or you might wear lip balm if your lips start to get dry.
If you do wear makeup, remember to wash your face at the end of the day. Otherwise, the makeup could clog your pores, leading to more breakouts.
2-3. Choose a no-fuss hairstyle.
Of course, there's no one way to wear your hair if you're a tomboy. However, you'll probably feel most comfortable with easy-to-maintain styles. For instance, you might wear your hair in a chin-length bob, or if it's longer, you might pull it back into a neat ponytail or wear it parted it down the center and tucked behind your ears.
If you prefer shorter hair, try using gel or mousse to hold a style that you like.
2-4. Keep your fingernails short and unpolished.
Long, polished nails look more feminine, so if your style is more tomboyish, you'll probably prefer to keep your nails bare. In addition, keeping them clipped short will allow you to still look neat and put-together, and it will also be easier to keep them clean.
If your nails are prone to splitting or breaking, try painting them with a clear coat of nail strengthener once a week.
3. Behavior
3-1. Be tough.
Part of being a tomboy means you aren't afraid to show everyone how tough girls can be! Go outside and play, get dirty, and don't shy away from things that might seem gross to girly girls, like bugs or slugs.
Part of being tough might mean playing sports like football or basketball, but you can still be a tomboy even if you aren't athletic. It's fine if you prefer to ride bikes with your friends, or even if you'd rather stay inside and read all day!
3-2. Have a more relaxed posture.
Typically, tomboys aren't known for having perfectly upright posture or sitting with their legs daintily crossed at the ankles. While you should always practice standing up straight with your shoulders back, it's fine if you tend to be more relaxed when you're sitting or standing.
For instance, you might find it more comfortable to sit with your knees and slightly apart.
3-3. Watch or play sports, if you like them.
Tomboys are often considered athletic, but even if you're not especially coordinated, you can still follow a sport that you enjoy. If there's already a team you like, watch them play and try to learn the rules and names of the players so you can chime in when your buddies are talking about the game.
If you don't have a team, ask your family and friends who they like, then bond by rooting for them together!
If you are more athletic, try joining a school team, like basketball, softball, or track.
3-4. Listen to harder-hitting music, and avoid light pop.
While everyone's taste in music is unique, if you're a tomboy, you probably won't be interested in hearing the latest soft pop chart-topper. Instead, look for music with a stronger beat and lyrics that speak to you.
For instance, even if you're into pop music, you might opt for more alternative singers like Miley Cyrus and Billie Eilish than feminine singers like Taylor Swift or Adele. However, if you find songs you like from those singers, that's okay too!
You might also choose to listen to hard rock, old-school country, EDM, or rap music.
3-5. Keep an even-keeled demeanor.
If you want to be less girly and more of a tomboy, try to keep your emotions in check, no matter what's going on around you. Although it's not always true, being outwardly emotional is often associated with being more feminine.
Being generally calm doesn't mean that you can't ever experience or express strong emotions. If someone does something to you that genuinely upsets you or offends you, feel free to speak up for yourself!
3-6. Hang out with the guys.
Tomboys are typically associated with having more male friends than female. If you want to have a tomboy image, spend more time around your guy friends, and participate in some of the same activities they enjoy, like playing video games or skateboarding.
If you have close female friends, don't neglect your relationships with them! Just don't feel like you have to spend all your time hanging with groups of girls at school if you're more comfortable talking to boys.
3-7. Do what you love, whether it's seen as feminine or masculine.
Don't change who you are to conform to what people think you should be like, whether that's feeling pressured to be girlier or more of a tomboy. Embrace who you are, and always do what makes you feel good about yourself.
Sometimes tomboys might have a hard time with their self-esteem because they don't always fit in with other girls, but they're not always completely accepted by the guys. If you struggle with your self-image, try spending time in hobbies and activities you love, and surround yourself with people who build you up.
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Opt for shorts or pants most of the time.\\nAs you embrace your tomboy style, you'll probably want to stay away from skirts, dresses, tight-fitting jeans, and short shorts. Instead, stick with styles like relaxed-fit jeans, joggers, cargo shorts and pants, and athletic shorts.\\nTypically, loose-fitting shorts and pants will allow you more freedom of movement, helping you stay more comfortable throughout the day.\\n1-4. Wear comfortable tops that express your style.\\nWhen you're building your tomboy wardrobe, look for graphic tees, polo shirts, button-downs, and athletic shirts in colors and cuts that you like. As a tomboy, you may feel more comfortable in shirts that provide you plenty of coverage and room to move, so avoid shirts that are very tight or low-cut, unless that's what you want to wear.\\nRemember, it's most important to carve out your own style, so don't feel like you have to wear certain styles or avoid certain pieces just because you're more of a tomboy. If you want, you might wear all black every day, or you might wear a pink top with athletic pants when you're working out.\\nTry mixing and matching pieces from different departments. For instance, you might prefer the fit of T-shirts, polos, and dress shirts from the men's department, but you might prefer athletic tank tops cut for a woman's body.\\n1-5. Mix athletic wear in with your regular clothing.\\nTomboys are typically associated with a more sporty style. Even if you don't play sports, you might find some style inspiration by checking out the workout gear section of your favorite store. Consider trying on clothes from both the men's and women's athletic sections to find the cuts that fit your body and your style the best. Then, create outfits by mixing your athletic wear with your regular clothing, like jeans and T-shirts.\\nFor instance, you might wear a pair of basketball shorts with a baggy T-shirt for a comfy, relaxed look.\\nYou could also wear a sporty tank or performance tee with a pair of jeans and sneakers for a school-ready outfit.\\n1-6. Choose a suit, jumpsuit, or comfortable dress for fancy occasions.\\nWhile you're probably most comfortable in comfy, casual clothes for most of your daily activities, you might not be sure how to stay true to your style when you have to attend a dressier occasion. Luckily, there are still plenty of options that you can be comfortable in, including pantsuits, dressy jumpsuits, and simple dresses.\\nIf you're more comfortable in masculine clothing, a tailored suit can be a great way to flatter your figure while still feeling like you're dressed like yourself.\\nA dressy jumpsuit is a nice middle ground between a feminine dress and a traditional suit.\\nIf you lean to the more feminine side of being a tomboy, you might opt for a sheath dress. These fit close to your body, which may be more comfortable for you because there's not a lot of extra fabric to deal with. However, you might prefer a slightly flowier, less restrictive style.\\n1-7. Avoid form-fitting, low-cut, or overly feminine clothing.\\nAs a tomboy, you may not want to wear clothes that are revealing or that fit super close to your body, as these can emphasize your curves and make you look more feminine. In addition, you might want to avoid wearing clothes that seem especially girly, like anything with ruffles, lace, sparkles, or the color pink.\\nTry buying clothes that are 1-2 sizes larger than you normally wear if you want a more relaxed fit. However, some clothes, like your undergarments or sports gear, should still fit closer to your body.\\n1-8. Choose comfortable, supportive undergarments.\\nWhen you're shopping for undergarments, look for items made of stretchy, breathable fabrics. In addition, choose full-coverage fits so you don't have to worry about your underwear creeping up or the cups of your bra cutting into your breasts.\\nSports bras are a great option because they'll give you full coverage without restricting your movement.\\nYour underwear style is a personal choice, so try on different styles to see what feels most comfortable for you. For instance, you might prefer bikini, brief, boyshorts, or boxer underwear.\\n1-9. Stick with versatile, sturdy footwear.\\nWhen you're choosing shoes, think about the activities you participate in each day. If you're athletic, you'll probably be most comfortable in sneakers, whereas if you spend a lot of time outdoors, you might prefer hiking boots. In warm weather, you might prefer flip-flops or slide-in sandals, and if you're dressing up, you might prefer loafers or sensible flats.\\nIf you need to wear heels for a nice occasion and you're not used to them, practice walking in them at home until you feel comfortable. Start out a few minutes at a time, until you can comfortably wear them for an hour.\\n1-10. Toss on an oversized hoodie or a zip-up jacket if the weather's cold.\\nThere's nothing cozier than a big slouchy hoodie on a cold day, so having a few of these on hand is a tomboy staple. You can wear a pullover hoodie if you prefer, or opt for a zip-up style if you'll need to be able to take the jacket on and off throughout the day.\\nIf the weather is cool, but not cold, try wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt to stay warm.\\nOf course, you might also prefer to wear nicer outerwear, like a leather or canvas jacket. Find what you like!\\n1-11. Stick with simple, heavy-duty accessories.\\nJust because you're a tomboy doesn't mean you have to skip accessories altogether, although you certainly don't have to wear any if you don't want. However, if you do want to add a little flair to your outfit, opt for accessories like a thick chain necklace, leather cuff bracelet, chunky watch, plain band, or stud earrings.\\nAs a tomboy, you probably don't want to wear much dainty jewelry. Not only do delicate pieces look more feminine, but they'll also be more likely to break if you're playing a little rough.\\nIf you want to wear a hat, beanies and baseball hats are both good options!\\n2. Grooming\\n2-1. Wash your face twice a day.\\nWhether or not you wear makeup as a tomboy, taking good care of your skin is important. Wash your face morning and night with a cleanser formulated for your skin type to keep it looking great.\\nFor instance, if you have oily skin that's prone to breakouts, you might use a foaming cleanser with an acne-fighter like benzoyl peroxide.\\nIf you have dry skin, you might opt for a creamy moisturizing cleanser.\\n2-2. Wear light makeup or skip it altogether.\\nBeing a tomboy doesn't mean you can't wear any makeup at all, but you'll probably feel more like yourself when your face is fresh and clean. However, you might still choose to use a little concealer to cover up any blemishes that pop up, or you might wear lip balm if your lips start to get dry.\\nIf you do wear makeup, remember to wash your face at the end of the day. Otherwise, the makeup could clog your pores, leading to more breakouts.\\n2-3. Choose a no-fuss hairstyle.\\nOf course, there's no one way to wear your hair if you're a tomboy. However, you'll probably feel most comfortable with easy-to-maintain styles. For instance, you might wear your hair in a chin-length bob, or if it's longer, you might pull it back into a neat ponytail or wear it parted it down the center and tucked behind your ears.\\nIf you prefer shorter hair, try using gel or mousse to hold a style that you like.\\n2-4. Keep your fingernails short and unpolished.\\nLong, polished nails look more feminine, so if your style is more tomboyish, you'll probably prefer to keep your nails bare. In addition, keeping them clipped short will allow you to still look neat and put-together, and it will also be easier to keep them clean.\\nIf your nails are prone to splitting or breaking, try painting them with a clear coat of nail strengthener once a week.\\n3. Behavior\\n3-1. Be tough.\\nPart of being a tomboy means you aren't afraid to show everyone how tough girls can be! Go outside and play, get dirty, and don't shy away from things that might seem gross to girly girls, like bugs or slugs.\\nPart of being tough might mean playing sports like football or basketball, but you can still be a tomboy even if you aren't athletic. It's fine if you prefer to ride bikes with your friends, or even if you'd rather stay inside and read all day!\\n3-2. Have a more relaxed posture.\\nTypically, tomboys aren't known for having perfectly upright posture or sitting with their legs daintily crossed at the ankles. While you should always practice standing up straight with your shoulders back, it's fine if you tend to be more relaxed when you're sitting or standing.\\nFor instance, you might find it more comfortable to sit with your knees and slightly apart.\\n3-3. Watch or play sports, if you like them.\\nTomboys are often considered athletic, but even if you're not especially coordinated, you can still follow a sport that you enjoy. If there's already a team you like, watch them play and try to learn the rules and names of the players so you can chime in when your buddies are talking about the game.\\nIf you don't have a team, ask your family and friends who they like, then bond by rooting for them together!\\nIf you are more athletic, try joining a school team, like basketball, softball, or track.\\n3-4. Listen to harder-hitting music, and avoid light pop.\\nWhile everyone's taste in music is unique, if you're a tomboy, you probably won't be interested in hearing the latest soft pop chart-topper. Instead, look for music with a stronger beat and lyrics that speak to you.\\nFor instance, even if you're into pop music, you might opt for more alternative singers like Miley Cyrus and Billie Eilish than feminine singers like Taylor Swift or Adele. However, if you find songs you like from those singers, that's okay too!\\nYou might also choose to listen to hard rock, old-school country, EDM, or rap music.\\n3-5. Keep an even-keeled demeanor.\\nIf you want to be less girly and more of a tomboy, try to keep your emotions in check, no matter what's going on around you. Although it's not always true, being outwardly emotional is often associated with being more feminine.\\nBeing generally calm doesn't mean that you can't ever experience or express strong emotions. If someone does something to you that genuinely upsets you or offends you, feel free to speak up for yourself!\\n3-6. Hang out with the guys.\\nTomboys are typically associated with having more male friends than female. If you want to have a tomboy image, spend more time around your guy friends, and participate in some of the same activities they enjoy, like playing video games or skateboarding.\\nIf you have close female friends, don't neglect your relationships with them! Just don't feel like you have to spend all your time hanging with groups of girls at school if you're more comfortable talking to boys.\\n3-7. Do what you love, whether it's seen as feminine or masculine.\\nDon't change who you are to conform to what people think you should be like, whether that's feeling pressured to be girlier or more of a tomboy. 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1. Acting Like a Tomboy
1-1. Play sports.
Some tomboys love sports! If you enjoy being active, spend your free time and recesses playing games. You may even want to join an organized sports team. You can try hockey, basketball, volleyball, swimming, running, football, softball, or baseball.
1-2. Try video games.
Some tomboys prefer video games to sports games. Instead of running around outside or on the court, spend your free time gaming. You can play games by yourself or with a group of friends.
Ask your parents for permission before trying a new game.
1-3. Enjoy "boy" toys.
Tomboys play with a variety of toys. Some prefer motorized toys, like remote control cars, dirt bikes, and drones; others like to play with skateboards and BMX bikes.
Also, not all tomboys have to like the same activities. You can be a tomboy that enjoys skateboarding but hates sports.
1-4. Don't be afraid to get dirty!
Tomboys are unapologetically active. They don't shy away from rough and tumble activities. While most girls prefer to sit on the sidelines, tomboys don't think twice about getting their shoes muddy on the field or ripping a new pair of jeans while climbing a tree.
Be more concerned about having fun than how you look. For example, don't shy away from a game of tag on picture day.
1-5. Hang out with the guys.
Girly-girls and tomboys don't always have a lot in common. When you're at school, you may find that you prefer to spend time with boys. Don't be afraid to spend your recesses racing around the playground with the guys. If you are having fun, that's all that matters!
Instead of going to the mall, spend your Saturday playing video games with the guys.
Instead of ballet, ask your parents to sign you up for baseball.
2. Being Your Own “Tomboy”
2-1. Be confident in your decision.
Once you start acting like a tomboy, your family and friends may start to question your decision. When they ask why you're acting like a boy, take the time to explain your choice. While you shouldn't have to explain yourself, it may help them understand you a little better.
For example, you could say “I don't want to wear dresses and skirts because it is easier to run and play in pants” or “I don't want to go to the mall because I would rather be outside playing.”
2-2. Compromise with your parents.
While some parents support their daughter's decision, others may not like that their daughter is becoming a tomboy. If your parents are not okay with your decision to become a tomboy, try your best to compromise with them. For example, you could offer to wear a dress to family events, but wear athletic clothing in your daily life.
If you feel upset by dresses, try to explain to them that they make you feel bad about yourself. Explain that you like the way you look in your tomboy clothes, and that you aren't yourself in a dress.
You might say "I am who I am. I need you to accept me. I feel bad when I tell you who I am and you tell me I'm not that person."
2-3. Seek support when needed.
As you become a tomboy, adults and kids may tease you or question or decision. If your peers are teasing or bullying you, tell a supportive adult immediately. If your teachers do not agree with your decision, speak with your parents, a school administrator, or a school counselor. If adults are pressuring you to "act" or "look" like a girl, remember that you don't have to conform to their definition of "girliness." You can decide how you want to look and act.
2-4. Determine what being a “tomboy” means to you.
Embracing your inner tomboy means that you are choosing to act and look more like a boy and less like a girl. This is a big bold step! As you discover who you are, remember that there is not one right way to be a tomboy. Just be you!
2-5. Don't be afraid to explore your girly side.
When you decide to become a tomboy, you don't have to give up the parts of being a girl that you enjoy. You can (and should) continue to do the girly things that you enjoy.
If you like wearing dresses, continue to wear dresses.
If you want to wear your hair down, you can.
If you want to watch a girly movie, go for it.
3. Looking Like a Tomboy
3-1. Wear clothes you can play in.
Tomboy fashion is practical and durable. Wear clothes that you can run around in. You don't want to worry about ruining your outfit. The colors and cut are totally up to you!
Wear pants instead of skirts.
Put on a graphic tee instead of a blouse. If you do want to wear a button up, wrap a flannel around your waist.
Rock athletic wear when you can.
3-2. Accessorize with boyish flare.
Tomboys express themselves with masculine accessories. Replace your sun hat with a backwards ball cap. Trade your ballet flats in for sneakers. Replace your purse with string bag.
3-3. Have a low-maintenance beauty routine.
Most tomboys don't want to spend a lot of time in front of the mirror in the morning. To save yourself time, you can cut your hair shorter. If your friends are starting to wear makeup, like lipgloss, skip it. These two tricks will get you outside playing a lot faster in the morning!
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Acting Like a Tomboy\\n1-1. Play sports.\\nSome tomboys love sports! If you enjoy being active, spend your free time and recesses playing games. You may even want to join an organized sports team. You can try hockey, basketball, volleyball, swimming, running, football, softball, or baseball.\\n1-2. Try video games.\\nSome tomboys prefer video games to sports games. Instead of running around outside or on the court, spend your free time gaming. You can play games by yourself or with a group of friends.\\nAsk your parents for permission before trying a new game.\\n1-3. Enjoy \\\"boy\\\" toys.\\nTomboys play with a variety of toys. Some prefer motorized toys, like remote control cars, dirt bikes, and drones; others like to play with skateboards and BMX bikes.\\nAlso, not all tomboys have to like the same activities. You can be a tomboy that enjoys skateboarding but hates sports.\\n1-4. Don't be afraid to get dirty!\\nTomboys are unapologetically active. They don't shy away from rough and tumble activities. While most girls prefer to sit on the sidelines, tomboys don't think twice about getting their shoes muddy on the field or ripping a new pair of jeans while climbing a tree.\\nBe more concerned about having fun than how you look. For example, don't shy away from a game of tag on picture day.\\n1-5. Hang out with the guys.\\nGirly-girls and tomboys don't always have a lot in common. When you're at school, you may find that you prefer to spend time with boys. Don't be afraid to spend your recesses racing around the playground with the guys. If you are having fun, that's all that matters!\\nInstead of going to the mall, spend your Saturday playing video games with the guys.\\nInstead of ballet, ask your parents to sign you up for baseball.\\n2. Being Your Own “Tomboy”\\n2-1. Be confident in your decision.\\nOnce you start acting like a tomboy, your family and friends may start to question your decision. When they ask why you're acting like a boy, take the time to explain your choice. While you shouldn't have to explain yourself, it may help them understand you a little better.\\nFor example, you could say “I don't want to wear dresses and skirts because it is easier to run and play in pants” or “I don't want to go to the mall because I would rather be outside playing.”\\n2-2. Compromise with your parents.\\nWhile some parents support their daughter's decision, others may not like that their daughter is becoming a tomboy. If your parents are not okay with your decision to become a tomboy, try your best to compromise with them. For example, you could offer to wear a dress to family events, but wear athletic clothing in your daily life.\\nIf you feel upset by dresses, try to explain to them that they make you feel bad about yourself. Explain that you like the way you look in your tomboy clothes, and that you aren't yourself in a dress.\\nYou might say \\\"I am who I am. I need you to accept me. I feel bad when I tell you who I am and you tell me I'm not that person.\\\"\\n2-3. Seek support when needed.\\nAs you become a tomboy, adults and kids may tease you or question or decision. If your peers are teasing or bullying you, tell a supportive adult immediately. If your teachers do not agree with your decision, speak with your parents, a school administrator, or a school counselor. If adults are pressuring you to \\\"act\\\" or \\\"look\\\" like a girl, remember that you don't have to conform to their definition of \\\"girliness.\\\" You can decide how you want to look and act.\\n2-4. Determine what being a “tomboy” means to you.\\nEmbracing your inner tomboy means that you are choosing to act and look more like a boy and less like a girl. This is a big bold step! As you discover who you are, remember that there is not one right way to be a tomboy. Just be you!\\n2-5. Don't be afraid to explore your girly side.\\nWhen you decide to become a tomboy, you don't have to give up the parts of being a girl that you enjoy. You can (and should) continue to do the girly things that you enjoy.\\nIf you like wearing dresses, continue to wear dresses.\\nIf you want to wear your hair down, you can.\\nIf you want to watch a girly movie, go for it.\\n3. Looking Like a Tomboy\\n3-1. Wear clothes you can play in.\\nTomboy fashion is practical and durable. Wear clothes that you can run around in. You don't want to worry about ruining your outfit. The colors and cut are totally up to you!\\nWear pants instead of skirts.\\nPut on a graphic tee instead of a blouse. If you do want to wear a button up, wrap a flannel around your waist.\\nRock athletic wear when you can.\\n3-2. Accessorize with boyish flare.\\nTomboys express themselves with masculine accessories. Replace your sun hat with a backwards ball cap. Trade your ballet flats in for sneakers. Replace your purse with string bag.\\n3-3. Have a low-maintenance beauty routine.\\nMost tomboys don't want to spend a lot of time in front of the mirror in the morning. To save yourself time, you can cut your hair shorter. If your friends are starting to wear makeup, like lipgloss, skip it. These two tricks will get you outside playing a lot faster in the morning!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tomboys are active and adventurous girls. They enjoy racing around the playground with the guys and beating the boys in video games. Since they participate in so many “boyish” activities, many tomboys also like to dress more masculine.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Acting Like a Tomboy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Play sports.\", \"描述\": \"Some tomboys love sports! If you enjoy being active, spend your free time and recesses playing games. You may even want to join an organized sports team. 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1. Thinking like a Tough Girl
1-1. Be your true self.
If you want to be tough, you first have to start accepting yourself for who you are. If you prefer staying up late to read science-fiction, as opposed to keeping up with the hottest television show, so be it. If a group of people think something’s funny, but you don’t, so what? Pretending to be someone you’re not is an obvious sign of insecurity or weakness. People can easily pick up on it, and you surely won’t look so tough if someone calls you out on it.
1-2. Improve your self-confidence.
This goes hand-in-hand with step 1. If you’ve accepted who you are, then you have the groundwork you need to become self-confident. What does this have to do with being a tough girl? Easy. If you’re confident and comfortable in who you are, then you can confidently handle any situation that comes your way. You’ll be confident in your beliefs and the decisions you make. And you won’t be afraid to let others know it. Here are some ways you can improve your self-confidence.
Make a list of things you admire about yourself, your strengths, and achievements on a sheet of paper. Turn a blank sheet of paper horizontally and either fold into thirds or simply draw two vertical lines to create three columns. In each column, write at least five things you like about yourself, at least five things you feel you’re great at, and at least five things you’re proud to have achieved. Do you think you have a great smile? Do you have a knack for making people laugh when they’re feeling down? Are you proud of the evening you spent feeding the homeless? Write down whatever comes to mind. Read over your list often as a reminder of how great you are.
Think positively about yourself. Pinpoint a couple qualities about yourself (maybe some that you wrote down in your list) and think about them often. Another tip: take those negative thoughts and reverse them. If you’re thinking, “I hate the way I look,” you could say: “My eyes are really pretty.”
Use affirmations to boost your confidence.
Call a friend or somebody who is super supportive and get positive reinforcement from them.
Dress to feel better about yourself. If you feel your wardrobe doesn’t reflect the real you or make you happy, find clothes that do. If you have a favorite top, find more tops with similar qualities. Choose clothing that enhances the physical features you admire. If you have a great pair of legs, put on a pair of shorts or find a dress that lets you show them off. Part Two on how to look like a tough girl will show you how to update your wardrobe to reflect your new tough girl persona.
Exercise regularly. Go walking or jogging daily. Take up a sport or participate in a group exercise you might enjoy. While this will help you feel better about yourself, it will also help you feel tougher as your muscles grow.
1-3. Quit worrying about what others think.
Tough girls could care less what others think of them because they realize one very important thing: what another person thinks has nothing to do with them. Tough girls don’t measure their self-worth by other people’s opinions. Once you let go of the importance of what people think, you gain power in difficult situations, and you become tougher.
1-4. Don’t take things personally.
When you learn not to take things personally, you become better able to deal with rejection and criticism. Most people who don’t feel tough, feel they can’t handle challenging situations. Being tough means you push through those difficult moments. So when faced with a situation where someone confronts you, be cool and calm. Don't let it faze you. Act as if that person is wasting your time.
1-5. Learn to control your emotions.
Being tough isn't about looking mean and having bulging biceps, it's about being able to take whatever comes. Cultivate an inner calm that can't be unsettled by other people. You can walk around acting tough all day long, but if you are easily upset, your toughness will be perceived as a façade.
1-6. Surround yourself with a great group of tough friends.
If you want to be tough, then you need to surround yourself with tough people who can give you advice and backup if needed. You can learn from these friends by listening to and watching how they hold their ground in tough situations.
1-7. Maintain a healthy relationship with your significant other.
Intimate relationships are a good place to gauge how tough you are. There’s usually one person in the relationship who takes on the more dominant role. It’s a good idea to make sure the dynamic of your relationship is a healthy one.
Take notice of how you act around your significant other. Do you find yourself mostly doing activities, watching certain movies, or eating meals that appeal only to your sweetheart? If so, you need to toughen up and take a more assertive role as a partner.
To be tougher in your relationship, start by speaking up about what you like. If you’d prefer to a nice hearty burger instead of sushi, let your significant other know. If you want to watch a romantic comedy instead of a thriller, suggest watching your preferred movie one night and your significant other’s the next. Healthy relationships have balance. Allow equal time for your significant other and you to explore both of your interests together.
If you have a disagreement, don’t think you need to scream and shout just to stand up for what you believe. Let your significant know that you acknowledge his or her feelings or point of view, and then be honest and open about your feelings and needs. State your opinion directly, without being apologetic.
2. Looking like a Tough Girl
2-1. Don’t smile.
Tough girls aren’t known for their bubbly personalities. An easy way not to smile is to scowl. To do this bite down on the insides of your cheeks, which will turn the corners of your lips downward.
2-2. Revamp your wardrobe.
If your current wardrobe consists primarily of floral prints and bright colored frocks, you’ll need to make a change.
The color black is a primary color in the tough girls’ wardrobe. So consider wearing all-black outfits or outfits in which a primary piece is black. Wear ripped denim, and clothing with a skull and bones theme. As long as you have a parents or guardians permission.
Pick out ripped denim and clothing with a skull and bones theme.
If you don’t already own these two items, make sure you purchase a motorcycle jacket and a nice pair of leather boots.
Incorporate tough-girl accessories. Accessories will help pull your outfit together, and help emphasize your tough-girl image. Spikes are a common accessory that can be found on bracelets, rings, or parts of your clothing, like the collar of a blouse or the sleeves of a jacket. You can also look for jewelry with the skull and bones image. Pick up a pair of dark sunglasses to toughen up your look. Hiding your eyes will make you seem mysterious and unapproachable.
2-3. Give yourself a tough girl hairstyle.
Some noticeably tough-looking hairstyles include short, spiky hairdos and fauxhawks or Mohawks. You can shave one or both sides of your head. Or ask your stylist to give your hair a pop of color, like neon blue or purple. Always make sure it is okay with you parent or guardian before doing this.
2-4. Apply makeup to help you look tougher.
Choose a bold (typically dark) lip color, dark eyeshadow, and thick mascara. The heavy colors will darken your expression, and give you the “don’t mess with me” look you want.
3. Acting like a Tough Girl
3-1. Don’t talk much.
Tough girls choose their words wisely, and speak only when necessary. By not talking, they come off as mysterious. People tend to fear mysterious. How to communicate without talking? Respond with body language, like a turn of your head or a grunt.
3-2. Be assertive.
Assertiveness is the essence of toughness. If you want people to take you seriously, and if you want to appear tough, then you must learn how to be assertive.
There are two ways to be assertive – through your body language and by what you say.
To show your assertiveness towards someone: face them directly, keeping your back straight, and look them straight in the eye.
Remain calm, but firm when you speak. Make sure whatever you say is direct and honest. State your point of view without being hesitant and without being apologetic.
To sound tough, start off by saying to someone "Listen...” Speak strongly and get right to the point. And then at the end say "You understand me?" and wait for their response.
3-3. Be the person in authority.
When things need to get handled, tough girls step in. You must be willing to take control of a situation.
If you’re with a group of friends, move to the front of the pack, so people know you’re the leader and the one they’ll have to deal with.
If you and your friends are getting picked on or treated unfairly, speak up.
Stand your ground by standing in their way or getting in their personal space. You can do this without expecting things to suddenly get physical. At about a foot and a half from someone you’re considered to be in their personal space. Once you get close, speak firmly.
3-4. Take on a physical activity to help channel your aggression and develop your self-defense.
Physical activity is a great way toughen up physically and mentally. You’re not only strengthening your body, you’re also developing the discipline you need to handle difficult situations.
Lift weights to tone your body and build muscle mass.
Join a self-defense class like kickboxing or martial arts. While you’ll not only learn how to better protect yourself, you may also gain a new group of tough-girl friends.
Participate in a contact sport, like flag football, roller derby, or soccer.
Participate in activities that force you to push yourself. Being tough is about being able to handle what comes your way, and being able to hang in there even when you’re outside of your comfort zone. Marathons are a great way to do this. Join 5K marathon, if you’re just starting out. If you’re daring, or looking for something more adventurous, look for a themed marathon. The Dirty Girl Mud Run is a good example.
3-5. Get a badass job.
Consider becoming a police officer, bounty hunter, self-defense instructor, or a member of the military. With one of these jobs under your belt, you’ll never be accused of not being tough enough. All require you to achieve a heightened level of physical fitness. And there will be moments where you’ll have to be aggressive and even confrontational.
Tips
Choose friends wisely. Choose friends that have their own opinions, but are willing to support you.
Just because you're tough, doesn't mean you have to trash all your girly hobbies. If you like to knit, then knit. If you love ballet, then don't quit!
If you’re girly or consider yourself to be very feminine, keep being that way. You can be true to who you are and still be tough.
Warnings
Don't be a bully. Bullying is not the same as being tough.
Ditching school, alcohol, smoking and other drugs don't make you tough. Don't hang out with people who encourage these activities.
People may still try to bully you, but remember that it’s best to walk away.
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Here are some ways you can improve your self-confidence.\\nMake a list of things you admire about yourself, your strengths, and achievements on a sheet of paper. Turn a blank sheet of paper horizontally and either fold into thirds or simply draw two vertical lines to create three columns. In each column, write at least five things you like about yourself, at least five things you feel you’re great at, and at least five things you’re proud to have achieved. Do you think you have a great smile? Do you have a knack for making people laugh when they’re feeling down? Are you proud of the evening you spent feeding the homeless? Write down whatever comes to mind. Read over your list often as a reminder of how great you are.\\nThink positively about yourself. Pinpoint a couple qualities about yourself (maybe some that you wrote down in your list) and think about them often. Another tip: take those negative thoughts and reverse them. If you’re thinking, “I hate the way I look,” you could say: “My eyes are really pretty.”\\nUse affirmations to boost your confidence.\\nCall a friend or somebody who is super supportive and get positive reinforcement from them.\\nDress to feel better about yourself. If you feel your wardrobe doesn’t reflect the real you or make you happy, find clothes that do. If you have a favorite top, find more tops with similar qualities. Choose clothing that enhances the physical features you admire. If you have a great pair of legs, put on a pair of shorts or find a dress that lets you show them off. Part Two on how to look like a tough girl will show you how to update your wardrobe to reflect your new tough girl persona.\\nExercise regularly. Go walking or jogging daily. Take up a sport or participate in a group exercise you might enjoy. While this will help you feel better about yourself, it will also help you feel tougher as your muscles grow.\\n1-3. Quit worrying about what others think.\\nTough girls could care less what others think of them because they realize one very important thing: what another person thinks has nothing to do with them. Tough girls don’t measure their self-worth by other people’s opinions. Once you let go of the importance of what people think, you gain power in difficult situations, and you become tougher.\\n1-4. Don’t take things personally.\\nWhen you learn not to take things personally, you become better able to deal with rejection and criticism. Most people who don’t feel tough, feel they can’t handle challenging situations. Being tough means you push through those difficult moments. So when faced with a situation where someone confronts you, be cool and calm. Don't let it faze you. Act as if that person is wasting your time.\\n1-5. Learn to control your emotions.\\nBeing tough isn't about looking mean and having bulging biceps, it's about being able to take whatever comes. Cultivate an inner calm that can't be unsettled by other people. You can walk around acting tough all day long, but if you are easily upset, your toughness will be perceived as a façade.\\n1-6. Surround yourself with a great group of tough friends.\\nIf you want to be tough, then you need to surround yourself with tough people who can give you advice and backup if needed. You can learn from these friends by listening to and watching how they hold their ground in tough situations.\\n1-7. Maintain a healthy relationship with your significant other.\\nIntimate relationships are a good place to gauge how tough you are. There’s usually one person in the relationship who takes on the more dominant role. It’s a good idea to make sure the dynamic of your relationship is a healthy one.\\nTake notice of how you act around your significant other. Do you find yourself mostly doing activities, watching certain movies, or eating meals that appeal only to your sweetheart? If so, you need to toughen up and take a more assertive role as a partner.\\nTo be tougher in your relationship, start by speaking up about what you like. If you’d prefer to a nice hearty burger instead of sushi, let your significant other know. If you want to watch a romantic comedy instead of a thriller, suggest watching your preferred movie one night and your significant other’s the next. Healthy relationships have balance. Allow equal time for your significant other and you to explore both of your interests together.\\nIf you have a disagreement, don’t think you need to scream and shout just to stand up for what you believe. Let your significant know that you acknowledge his or her feelings or point of view, and then be honest and open about your feelings and needs. State your opinion directly, without being apologetic.\\n2. Looking like a Tough Girl\\n2-1. Don’t smile.\\nTough girls aren’t known for their bubbly personalities. An easy way not to smile is to scowl. To do this bite down on the insides of your cheeks, which will turn the corners of your lips downward.\\n2-2. Revamp your wardrobe.\\nIf your current wardrobe consists primarily of floral prints and bright colored frocks, you’ll need to make a change. \\nThe color black is a primary color in the tough girls’ wardrobe. So consider wearing all-black outfits or outfits in which a primary piece is black. Wear ripped denim, and clothing with a skull and bones theme. As long as you have a parents or guardians permission.\\nPick out ripped denim and clothing with a skull and bones theme.\\nIf you don’t already own these two items, make sure you purchase a motorcycle jacket and a nice pair of leather boots.\\nIncorporate tough-girl accessories. Accessories will help pull your outfit together, and help emphasize your tough-girl image. Spikes are a common accessory that can be found on bracelets, rings, or parts of your clothing, like the collar of a blouse or the sleeves of a jacket. You can also look for jewelry with the skull and bones image. Pick up a pair of dark sunglasses to toughen up your look. Hiding your eyes will make you seem mysterious and unapproachable.\\n2-3. Give yourself a tough girl hairstyle.\\nSome noticeably tough-looking hairstyles include short, spiky hairdos and fauxhawks or Mohawks. You can shave one or both sides of your head. Or ask your stylist to give your hair a pop of color, like neon blue or purple. Always make sure it is okay with you parent or guardian before doing this.\\n2-4. Apply makeup to help you look tougher.\\nChoose a bold (typically dark) lip color, dark eyeshadow, and thick mascara. The heavy colors will darken your expression, and give you the “don’t mess with me” look you want.\\n3. Acting like a Tough Girl\\n3-1. Don’t talk much.\\nTough girls choose their words wisely, and speak only when necessary. By not talking, they come off as mysterious. People tend to fear mysterious. How to communicate without talking? Respond with body language, like a turn of your head or a grunt.\\n3-2. Be assertive.\\nAssertiveness is the essence of toughness. If you want people to take you seriously, and if you want to appear tough, then you must learn how to be assertive.\\nThere are two ways to be assertive – through your body language and by what you say.\\nTo show your assertiveness towards someone: face them directly, keeping your back straight, and look them straight in the eye.\\nRemain calm, but firm when you speak. Make sure whatever you say is direct and honest. State your point of view without being hesitant and without being apologetic.\\nTo sound tough, start off by saying to someone \\\"Listen...” Speak strongly and get right to the point. And then at the end say \\\"You understand me?\\\" and wait for their response.\\n3-3. Be the person in authority.\\nWhen things need to get handled, tough girls step in. You must be willing to take control of a situation.\\nIf you’re with a group of friends, move to the front of the pack, so people know you’re the leader and the one they’ll have to deal with.\\nIf you and your friends are getting picked on or treated unfairly, speak up.\\nStand your ground by standing in their way or getting in their personal space. You can do this without expecting things to suddenly get physical. At about a foot and a half from someone you’re considered to be in their personal space. Once you get close, speak firmly.\\n3-4. Take on a physical activity to help channel your aggression and develop your self-defense.\\nPhysical activity is a great way toughen up physically and mentally. You’re not only strengthening your body, you’re also developing the discipline you need to handle difficult situations.\\nLift weights to tone your body and build muscle mass.\\nJoin a self-defense class like kickboxing or martial arts. While you’ll not only learn how to better protect yourself, you may also gain a new group of tough-girl friends.\\nParticipate in a contact sport, like flag football, roller derby, or soccer.\\nParticipate in activities that force you to push yourself. Being tough is about being able to handle what comes your way, and being able to hang in there even when you’re outside of your comfort zone. Marathons are a great way to do this. Join 5K marathon, if you’re just starting out. If you’re daring, or looking for something more adventurous, look for a themed marathon. The Dirty Girl Mud Run is a good example.\\n3-5. Get a badass job.\\nConsider becoming a police officer, bounty hunter, self-defense instructor, or a member of the military. With one of these jobs under your belt, you’ll never be accused of not being tough enough. All require you to achieve a heightened level of physical fitness. And there will be moments where you’ll have to be aggressive and even confrontational.\\nTips\\nChoose friends wisely. Choose friends that have their own opinions, but are willing to support you.\\nJust because you're tough, doesn't mean you have to trash all your girly hobbies. If you like to knit, then knit. If you love ballet, then don't quit!\\nIf you’re girly or consider yourself to be very feminine, keep being that way. You can be true to who you are and still be tough.\\nWarnings\\nDon't be a bully. Bullying is not the same as being tough.\\nDitching school, alcohol, smoking and other drugs don't make you tough. Don't hang out with people who encourage these activities.\\nPeople may still try to bully you, but remember that it’s best to walk away.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you ever wished you were stronger? That you could stand up for yourself when it really mattered? And say exactly what’s on your mind? Well, now you can. You can become the tough girl you’ve always imagined with these simple steps.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Thinking like a Tough Girl\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be your true self.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be tough, you first have to start accepting yourself for who you are. If you prefer staying up late to read science-fiction, as opposed to keeping up with the hottest television show, so be it. If a group of people think something’s funny, but you don’t, so what? Pretending to be someone you’re not is an obvious sign of insecurity or weakness. People can easily pick up on it, and you surely won’t look so tough if someone calls you out on it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Improve your self-confidence.\", \"描述\": \"This goes hand-in-hand with step 1. If you’ve accepted who you are, then you have the groundwork you need to become self-confident. What does this have to do with being a tough girl? Easy. If you’re confident and comfortable in who you are, then you can confidently handle any situation that comes your way. You’ll be confident in your beliefs and the decisions you make. And you won’t be afraid to let others know it. Here are some ways you can improve your self-confidence.\\nMake a list of things you admire about yourself, your strengths, and achievements on a sheet of paper. Turn a blank sheet of paper horizontally and either fold into thirds or simply draw two vertical lines to create three columns. In each column, write at least five things you like about yourself, at least five things you feel you’re great at, and at least five things you’re proud to have achieved. Do you think you have a great smile? Do you have a knack for making people laugh when they’re feeling down? Are you proud of the evening you spent feeding the homeless? Write down whatever comes to mind. Read over your list often as a reminder of how great you are.\\nThink positively about yourself. Pinpoint a couple qualities about yourself (maybe some that you wrote down in your list) and think about them often. Another tip: take those negative thoughts and reverse them. If you’re thinking, “I hate the way I look,” you could say: “My eyes are really pretty.”\\nUse affirmations to boost your confidence.\\nCall a friend or somebody who is super supportive and get positive reinforcement from them.\\nDress to feel better about yourself. If you feel your wardrobe doesn’t reflect the real you or make you happy, find clothes that do. If you have a favorite top, find more tops with similar qualities. Choose clothing that enhances the physical features you admire. If you have a great pair of legs, put on a pair of shorts or find a dress that lets you show them off. Part Two on how to look like a tough girl will show you how to update your wardrobe to reflect your new tough girl persona.\\nExercise regularly. Go walking or jogging daily. Take up a sport or participate in a group exercise you might enjoy. While this will help you feel better about yourself, it will also help you feel tougher as your muscles grow.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Quit worrying about what others think.\", \"描述\": \"Tough girls could care less what others think of them because they realize one very important thing: what another person thinks has nothing to do with them. Tough girls don’t measure their self-worth by other people’s opinions. Once you let go of the importance of what people think, you gain power in difficult situations, and you become tougher.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don’t take things personally.\", \"描述\": \"When you learn not to take things personally, you become better able to deal with rejection and criticism. Most people who don’t feel tough, feel they can’t handle challenging situations. Being tough means you push through those difficult moments. So when faced with a situation where someone confronts you, be cool and calm. Don't let it faze you. Act as if that person is wasting your time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn to control your emotions.\", \"描述\": \"Being tough isn't about looking mean and having bulging biceps, it's about being able to take whatever comes. Cultivate an inner calm that can't be unsettled by other people. You can walk around acting tough all day long, but if you are easily upset, your toughness will be perceived as a façade.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with a great group of tough friends.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be tough, then you need to surround yourself with tough people who can give you advice and backup if needed. You can learn from these friends by listening to and watching how they hold their ground in tough situations.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Maintain a healthy relationship with your significant other.\", \"描述\": \"Intimate relationships are a good place to gauge how tough you are. There’s usually one person in the relationship who takes on the more dominant role. It’s a good idea to make sure the dynamic of your relationship is a healthy one.\\nTake notice of how you act around your significant other. Do you find yourself mostly doing activities, watching certain movies, or eating meals that appeal only to your sweetheart? If so, you need to toughen up and take a more assertive role as a partner.\\nTo be tougher in your relationship, start by speaking up about what you like. If you’d prefer to a nice hearty burger instead of sushi, let your significant other know. If you want to watch a romantic comedy instead of a thriller, suggest watching your preferred movie one night and your significant other’s the next. Healthy relationships have balance. Allow equal time for your significant other and you to explore both of your interests together.\\nIf you have a disagreement, don’t think you need to scream and shout just to stand up for what you believe. 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As long as you have a parents or guardians permission.\\nPick out ripped denim and clothing with a skull and bones theme.\\nIf you don’t already own these two items, make sure you purchase a motorcycle jacket and a nice pair of leather boots.\\nIncorporate tough-girl accessories. Accessories will help pull your outfit together, and help emphasize your tough-girl image. Spikes are a common accessory that can be found on bracelets, rings, or parts of your clothing, like the collar of a blouse or the sleeves of a jacket. You can also look for jewelry with the skull and bones image. Pick up a pair of dark sunglasses to toughen up your look. Hiding your eyes will make you seem mysterious and unapproachable.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give yourself a tough girl hairstyle.\", \"描述\": \"Some noticeably tough-looking hairstyles include short, spiky hairdos and fauxhawks or Mohawks. You can shave one or both sides of your head. 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1. Visiting Local Attractions
1-1. Cheer on your hometown team.
Surround yourself with passionate fans at a baseball, football, or any other type of sporting event, and get into the spirit of your city by experiencing it the way a tourist does. Try attending a day game in order to save money on tickets.
1-2. Get out on the water.
If you live near a lake, get your fishing license and enjoy a day of fishing, canoeing, or out on paddle boats! You may enjoy just finding a stream and dipping your feet in the water.
For safety, make sure that everyone wears a life jacket in the water.
1-3. Climb a mountain.
If you’re near the mountains, no matter the season, there is always something to do, from skiing to hiking. You can even find hot springs to dip into in the middle of winter or a river to dangle your feet in after a thrilling white water rafting trip.
1-4. Hit the beach.
If you’re near the seashore, you can spend the day sun bathing, playing miniature golf, cooling off at a water park, or riding roller coasters at an amusement park. If you stay the night, you can enjoy the sunset (or sunrise) depending on the coast.
1-5. Take advantage of the season.
Depending on whether it is fall or spring, you can go to a local pumpkin patch, apple farm, or even cherry picking! It’s affordable and the fun doesn’t end when you leave the farm--you can go home and cook up lots of tasty treats with the fruits you picked.
Check out free seasonal festivals and celebrations! Do tourists come from near and far to attend a festival in your city? Go see the cherry blossoms or the famous hot air balloon festival you've never gotten around to experiencing.
1-6. Book a tour.
Most people never bother to take a tour of their own city because they assume they already know everything, but there is always more to learn! You can see your city through new eyes while learning your city’s history on a walking or bicycle tour.
If you live on the water, you might enjoy a harbor cruise tour, some of which may offer a sunset cruise or dolphin or whale watching experience.
For a totally different point of view, sign up for a helicopter or biplane aerial tour of your city.
1-7. Buy or borrow a city pass.
Most large cities offer an all-inclusive city pass that allows entrance into several major attractions such as the aquarium, zoo, amusement parks, and museums at a discounted rate. Check with your local library to see if they offer any free attraction passes, which can be checked out and used for entrance into local parks or attractions.
1-8. Ride a rollercoaster.
If you're a thrill-seeker, why not spend an exciting day screaming down the hills and around the bends of a rollercoaster at your city's amusement park? Try going on a weekday to avoid long lines, and enjoy acting like a kid again!
2. Making the Most of Your City
2-1. Embrace your town!
If family or friends were to come and visit, where would you take them to show off your town? Learn about your town’s history, and visit museums and nearby botanical gardens and parks. Some towns may even offer a fun ghost tour or a walking history tour.
Visit the places that you have always promised yourself you would get around to seeing “one day”. Now’s the time!
Locals can often get discounts on attraction tickets, entrance fees, and day spa passes. Just ask!
2-2. Bring a camera.
Wherever you decide to go, don’t forget to take your camera or cell phone. You don’t want to miss out on capturing those special memories!
Although it is wonderful to take plenty of photographs, make sure that you stay in the moment too.
Take pictures like a tourist, not just selfies! Aim to get pictures in front of local landmarks or your town sign. This will put you in the tourist mindset.
2-3. Rent a racy car.
Even if you’re just driving around town, renting a car makes your vacation feel more special and exciting. Consider renting a convertible or a sports car to make cruising around a novel and fun experience.
Another option is to enjoy not having to drive at all. Leave the car at home and take a nice walk to dinner out, or leave the driving to someone else and hire an Uber car.
2-4. Attend free local events.
Many towns host free community events, such as free movie showings, concerts, and arts, music and cultural festivals. Check out your town’s calendar, and attend as many free events as you would like.
Bring along a picnic with delicious finger foods, fruit, cheese, and wine. Spread it all out on a soft picnic blanket and enjoy!
2-5. Go on a date night.
If you have kids, make sure that you remember to set aside some time to reconnect with your partner too. You and your significant other can enjoy dinner out, go on a wine tasting tour, attend a concert, or go see a play at a local theatre.
Plan ahead and schedule a baby-sitter for your date night, or ask a friend or relative to watch your little ones while you enjoy your night out.
2-6. Take a class.
Whether you're interested in learning to cook or drawing a still life, take advantage of any classes your community may offer. Most community centers offer discounted classes for residents. You just may make some new friends with similar interests as well!
3. Planning a Full Staycation
3-1. Set a date.
Just as you would for an out of town trip, the key to enjoying a successful staycation is planning ahead. Start your preparation by figuring out how much time you can take off work or school, and plan accordingly. In order to give yourself plenty of time to relax and to feel refreshed upon returning to the daily grind, aim for about a week off.
If you only have a weekend or a few days off, don’t worry! You can still have a wonderful time playing tourist in your hometown in just a couple of days.
Try to give your work plenty of notice, in order to avoid the stress of trying to quickly finish up projects before your vacation begins.
3-2. Establish your budget.
Treat your hometown vacation as you would any other holiday, and create a realistic and inclusive budget. No matter how much or little you have to spend, you can have a great time and usually not spend nearly as much as you would on traditional vacation.
A budget of around $500 for a week is generally a good place to start.
Make sure to take the cost of activities, eating out, gasoline, and any spa treatments into account when planning your budget.
3-3. Choose your activities.
Mix it up and include a variety of activities. For instance, plan for some outdoor activities if the weather is expected to be nice, include some physical activities such as hiking or sports, and incorporate something new that you have never tried before.
Pick up a copy of your city’s travel guide, and start choosing the activities that sound intriguing to you.
Take care to not pack too much into each day. You should leave plenty of time to relax between activities.
Build anticipation for the staycation by creating a vision board to inspire your vacation plans. Cut out pictures out from magazines to add ideas to your collage.
3-4. Ease into your vacation.
When you leave the office, try to leave your work worries behind and make a smooth transition into vacation-mode. On the evening before your staycation officially starts, plan a stress-free dinner, put on some lively music, open a bottle of bubbly, and let the relaxing begin!
By creating an ambiance of fun and relaxation on the very first night, you’ll set the mood for your entire vacation.
Try incorporating physical reminders that your home is your vacation retreat for the week. Candles and fresh flowers help to create the illusion that your home is a temporary hotel.
3-5. Let go of chores.
Use your time off having fun and exploring your hometown, not cleaning and catching up on chores. As you’re relaxing, you will inevitably create at least a little mess. Try to turn a blind eye to it for now, and let it wait until after your time off is over.
If you must occasionally lightly clean or do dishes during the course of your staycation, try to tackle it first thing in the morning in order to get it out of the way for the day.
3-6. Spend time in the backyard.
In order to make your staycation extra restful and special, you may want to consider purchasing a new hammock, or renting a hot tub for the week, which costs around $300. If you have children (even if you don't), you might drag out the tent and sleeping bags, and after a backyard campfire, enjoy a night of sleeping under the stars.
Tips
There are lots of things to do right in your own back yard. A little planning is all it takes to have lots of fun and become a tourist in your own hometown! You can go online and search your selected city. Activities are listed such as biking, hiking, bowling and more to help accommodate your staycation plans. Many apartment complexes even offer a clubhouse with pool tables, large screen TV’s, and a picnic eating area; these amenities help make your staycation affordable and fun.
Don’t let Mother Nature rain on your parade. If the weather turns bad, make sure you have plenty of indoor activity options available as a back-up plan.
Warnings
Be careful to stick to your budget. Don’t let unexpected expenses add up and cause you to go into debt.[8]
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Hit the beach.\\nIf you’re near the seashore, you can spend the day sun bathing, playing miniature golf, cooling off at a water park, or riding roller coasters at an amusement park. If you stay the night, you can enjoy the sunset (or sunrise) depending on the coast.\\n1-5. Take advantage of the season.\\nDepending on whether it is fall or spring, you can go to a local pumpkin patch, apple farm, or even cherry picking! It’s affordable and the fun doesn’t end when you leave the farm--you can go home and cook up lots of tasty treats with the fruits you picked.\\nCheck out free seasonal festivals and celebrations! Do tourists come from near and far to attend a festival in your city? Go see the cherry blossoms or the famous hot air balloon festival you've never gotten around to experiencing.\\n1-6. Book a tour.\\nMost people never bother to take a tour of their own city because they assume they already know everything, but there is always more to learn! 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You and your significant other can enjoy dinner out, go on a wine tasting tour, attend a concert, or go see a play at a local theatre.\\nPlan ahead and schedule a baby-sitter for your date night, or ask a friend or relative to watch your little ones while you enjoy your night out.\\n2-6. Take a class.\\nWhether you're interested in learning to cook or drawing a still life, take advantage of any classes your community may offer. Most community centers offer discounted classes for residents. You just may make some new friends with similar interests as well!\\n3. Planning a Full Staycation\\n3-1. Set a date.\\nJust as you would for an out of town trip, the key to enjoying a successful staycation is planning ahead. Start your preparation by figuring out how much time you can take off work or school, and plan accordingly. In order to give yourself plenty of time to relax and to feel refreshed upon returning to the daily grind, aim for about a week off.\\nIf you only have a weekend or a few days off, don’t worry! You can still have a wonderful time playing tourist in your hometown in just a couple of days.\\nTry to give your work plenty of notice, in order to avoid the stress of trying to quickly finish up projects before your vacation begins.\\n3-2. Establish your budget.\\nTreat your hometown vacation as you would any other holiday, and create a realistic and inclusive budget. No matter how much or little you have to spend, you can have a great time and usually not spend nearly as much as you would on traditional vacation.\\nA budget of around $500 for a week is generally a good place to start.\\nMake sure to take the cost of activities, eating out, gasoline, and any spa treatments into account when planning your budget.\\n3-3. Choose your activities.\\nMix it up and include a variety of activities. For instance, plan for some outdoor activities if the weather is expected to be nice, include some physical activities such as hiking or sports, and incorporate something new that you have never tried before.\\nPick up a copy of your city’s travel guide, and start choosing the activities that sound intriguing to you.\\nTake care to not pack too much into each day. You should leave plenty of time to relax between activities.\\nBuild anticipation for the staycation by creating a vision board to inspire your vacation plans. Cut out pictures out from magazines to add ideas to your collage.\\n3-4. Ease into your vacation.\\nWhen you leave the office, try to leave your work worries behind and make a smooth transition into vacation-mode. On the evening before your staycation officially starts, plan a stress-free dinner, put on some lively music, open a bottle of bubbly, and let the relaxing begin!\\nBy creating an ambiance of fun and relaxation on the very first night, you’ll set the mood for your entire vacation.\\nTry incorporating physical reminders that your home is your vacation retreat for the week. Candles and fresh flowers help to create the illusion that your home is a temporary hotel.\\n3-5. Let go of chores.\\nUse your time off having fun and exploring your hometown, not cleaning and catching up on chores. As you’re relaxing, you will inevitably create at least a little mess. Try to turn a blind eye to it for now, and let it wait until after your time off is over.\\nIf you must occasionally lightly clean or do dishes during the course of your staycation, try to tackle it first thing in the morning in order to get it out of the way for the day.\\n3-6. Spend time in the backyard.\\nIn order to make your staycation extra restful and special, you may want to consider purchasing a new hammock, or renting a hot tub for the week, which costs around $300. If you have children (even if you don't), you might drag out the tent and sleeping bags, and after a backyard campfire, enjoy a night of sleeping under the stars.\\nTips\\nThere are lots of things to do right in your own back yard. A little planning is all it takes to have lots of fun and become a tourist in your own hometown! You can go online and search your selected city. Activities are listed such as biking, hiking, bowling and more to help accommodate your staycation plans. Many apartment complexes even offer a clubhouse with pool tables, large screen TV’s, and a picnic eating area; these amenities help make your staycation affordable and fun.\\nDon’t let Mother Nature rain on your parade. If the weather turns bad, make sure you have plenty of indoor activity options available as a back-up plan.\\nWarnings\\nBe careful to stick to your budget. Don’t let unexpected expenses add up and cause you to go into debt.[8]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you feel that your budget is a little too tight for a trip somewhere? You're not alone. Many people are choosing to spend their vacations at home or in their hometowns rather than traveling somewhere. But staying close to home doesn't have to spell out impending boredom. You can spend more time feeling tranquil, less time behind the wheel, and keep some money in your pocket as well. Why not become a hometown tourist and spend some time relaxing in and exploring your very own backyard? By choosing a staycation over an expensive vacation, you’ll save money and fall in love with your city all over again.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Visiting Local Attractions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cheer on your hometown team.\", \"描述\": \"Surround yourself with passionate fans at a baseball, football, or any other type of sporting event, and get into the spirit of your city by experiencing it the way a tourist does. Try attending a day game in order to save money on tickets.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get out on the water.\", \"描述\": \"If you live near a lake, get your fishing license and enjoy a day of fishing, canoeing, or out on paddle boats! You may enjoy just finding a stream and dipping your feet in the water.\\nFor safety, make sure that everyone wears a life jacket in the water.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Climb a mountain.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re near the mountains, no matter the season, there is always something to do, from skiing to hiking. You can even find hot springs to dip into in the middle of winter or a river to dangle your feet in after a thrilling white water rafting trip.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hit the beach.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re near the seashore, you can spend the day sun bathing, playing miniature golf, cooling off at a water park, or riding roller coasters at an amusement park. If you stay the night, you can enjoy the sunset (or sunrise) depending on the coast.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take advantage of the season.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on whether it is fall or spring, you can go to a local pumpkin patch, apple farm, or even cherry picking! It’s affordable and the fun doesn’t end when you leave the farm--you can go home and cook up lots of tasty treats with the fruits you picked.\\nCheck out free seasonal festivals and celebrations! Do tourists come from near and far to attend a festival in your city? Go see the cherry blossoms or the famous hot air balloon festival you've never gotten around to experiencing.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Book a tour.\", \"描述\": \"Most people never bother to take a tour of their own city because they assume they already know everything, but there is always more to learn! You can see your city through new eyes while learning your city’s history on a walking or bicycle tour.\\nIf you live on the water, you might enjoy a harbor cruise tour, some of which may offer a sunset cruise or dolphin or whale watching experience.\\nFor a totally different point of view, sign up for a helicopter or biplane aerial tour of your city.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Buy or borrow a city pass.\", \"描述\": \"Most large cities offer an all-inclusive city pass that allows entrance into several major attractions such as the aquarium, zoo, amusement parks, and museums at a discounted rate. Check with your local library to see if they offer any free attraction passes, which can be checked out and used for entrance into local parks or attractions.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Ride a rollercoaster.\", \"描述\": \"If you're a thrill-seeker, why not spend an exciting day screaming down the hills and around the bends of a rollercoaster at your city's amusement park? Try going on a weekday to avoid long lines, and enjoy acting like a kid again!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making the Most of Your City\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Embrace your town!\", \"描述\": \"If family or friends were to come and visit, where would you take them to show off your town? Learn about your town’s history, and visit museums and nearby botanical gardens and parks. Some towns may even offer a fun ghost tour or a walking history tour.\\nVisit the places that you have always promised yourself you would get around to seeing “one day”. Now’s the time!\\nLocals can often get discounts on attraction tickets, entrance fees, and day spa passes. Just ask!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bring a camera.\", \"描述\": \"Wherever you decide to go, don’t forget to take your camera or cell phone. You don’t want to miss out on capturing those special memories!\\nAlthough it is wonderful to take plenty of photographs, make sure that you stay in the moment too.\\nTake pictures like a tourist, not just selfies! Aim to get pictures in front of local landmarks or your town sign. This will put you in the tourist mindset.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Rent a racy car.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you’re just driving around town, renting a car makes your vacation feel more special and exciting. Consider renting a convertible or a sports car to make cruising around a novel and fun experience.\\nAnother option is to enjoy not having to drive at all. Leave the car at home and take a nice walk to dinner out, or leave the driving to someone else and hire an Uber car.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Attend free local events.\", \"描述\": \"Many towns host free community events, such as free movie showings, concerts, and arts, music and cultural festivals. Check out your town’s calendar, and attend as many free events as you would like.\\nBring along a picnic with delicious finger foods, fruit, cheese, and wine. Spread it all out on a soft picnic blanket and enjoy!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Go on a date night.\", \"描述\": \"If you have kids, make sure that you remember to set aside some time to reconnect with your partner too. You and your significant other can enjoy dinner out, go on a wine tasting tour, attend a concert, or go see a play at a local theatre.\\nPlan ahead and schedule a baby-sitter for your date night, or ask a friend or relative to watch your little ones while you enjoy your night out.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take a class.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you're interested in learning to cook or drawing a still life, take advantage of any classes your community may offer. Most community centers offer discounted classes for residents. You just may make some new friends with similar interests as well!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Planning a Full Staycation\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set a date.\", \"描述\": \"Just as you would for an out of town trip, the key to enjoying a successful staycation is planning ahead. Start your preparation by figuring out how much time you can take off work or school, and plan accordingly. In order to give yourself plenty of time to relax and to feel refreshed upon returning to the daily grind, aim for about a week off.\\nIf you only have a weekend or a few days off, don’t worry! You can still have a wonderful time playing tourist in your hometown in just a couple of days.\\nTry to give your work plenty of notice, in order to avoid the stress of trying to quickly finish up projects before your vacation begins.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Establish your budget.\", \"描述\": \"Treat your hometown vacation as you would any other holiday, and create a realistic and inclusive budget. No matter how much or little you have to spend, you can have a great time and usually not spend nearly as much as you would on traditional vacation.\\nA budget of around $500 for a week is generally a good place to start.\\nMake sure to take the cost of activities, eating out, gasoline, and any spa treatments into account when planning your budget.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose your activities.\", \"描述\": \"Mix it up and include a variety of activities. For instance, plan for some outdoor activities if the weather is expected to be nice, include some physical activities such as hiking or sports, and incorporate something new that you have never tried before.\\nPick up a copy of your city’s travel guide, and start choosing the activities that sound intriguing to you.\\nTake care to not pack too much into each day. You should leave plenty of time to relax between activities.\\nBuild anticipation for the staycation by creating a vision board to inspire your vacation plans. 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Activities are listed such as biking, hiking, bowling and more to help accommodate your staycation plans. Many apartment complexes even offer a clubhouse with pool tables, large screen TV’s, and a picnic eating area; these amenities help make your staycation affordable and fun.\\n\", \"Don’t let Mother Nature rain on your parade. If the weather turns bad, make sure you have plenty of indoor activity options available as a back-up plan.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Be careful to stick to your budget. Don’t let unexpected expenses add up and cause you to go into debt.[8]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. State your pronouns and ask others what pronouns they use.
This is an easy way to respect transgender and nonbinary individuals.
Introduce yourself using your name and pronouns. Stating your pronouns reminds people that it is not always obvious which pronoun someone is using, and encourages others to state their pronouns when meeting someone. The singular 'they' (they/them/theirs) is the most commonly used gender-neutral pronoun, but many people use combinations of pronouns or neopronouns. Using the correct pronouns for people shows that you respect them and who they are.
A simple "I'm sorry! Thank you for correcting me," and continuing the conversation with the correct pronoun/name usage is the way to go when you accidentally deadname or misgender someone.
Include your pronouns in your email signature or on social media.
2. Don't assume you can tell if someone is trans based on their appearance.
Transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse individuals do not all look the same, and many may not appear to be trans or non-binary.
You should not put pressure on someone you know to reveal their gender identity if they are gender diverse. Being trans isn't about how you dress or how you act. Being trans is a state of being one's true self, regardless of what they wear or how they appear. Gender expectations are arbitrary, and trans and nonbinary people are not required to prove their gender in order to be respected.
3. Listen to the voices of trans and gender diverse folks.
Listen to the experiences of gender diverse people with an open mind and heart—they're the experts on their own lives, and one of the most important parts of being an ally is listening and giving others the space to speak.
It's also important to remember that each trans person has a unique experience. One story does not fit all. Read stories and journeys of trans and nonbinary individuals.
Support them by being a good listener. Listen to them without judgement.
Make sure they feel safe living with their families or friends and can be what they are in every setting.
Thank them for choosing you to come out. Ask them what you can do to be a good friend.
4. Use gender inclusive language.
Gender inclusive language can make a big difference to gender diverse folks.
Gender diverse language can make a lot of trans folks feel valid. Here are simple, everyday ways to use gender inclusive language:
Use the singular ‘their’ instead of ‘his/her’ in letters and other forms of writing, i.e. ‘when a colleague finishes their work’ as opposed to ‘when a colleague finishes his/her work’.
Instead of using binary language to address groups of people, such as 'ladies and gentlemen,' try more inclusive alternatives such as 'folks,' 'pals,' or 'everyone.'
Use "sibling" instead of "brother/sister," and "partner" instead of "boyfriend/girlfriend."
5. Educate yourself.
Many people have been taught that this strict gender binary is natural, but there are many different gender identities and ways for people to express them.
Your journey as an ally entails questioning and unlearning many of the gender stereotypes you accept as natural, as well as being open to new ideas that embrace and include gender diversity.
6. Be patient with those who are questioning their gender identity.
A person who is unsure about their gender identity may switch back and forth as they figure out which pronoun works best for them.
Be kind and respectful to them, including their names, pronouns, and appearance.
7. Show up in support of the LGBTQ community.
Although it is important to make an effort to be trans-inclusive in your interpersonal interactions, allyship does not end there.
It is important to show up for the trans community by attending rallies and protests for trans people. Donating to trans-centered non-profits like the National Center for Transgender Equality, The Trevor Project, and Gender Spectrum is another way to show up for your gender diverse loved ones and friends.
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Don't assume you can tell if someone is trans based on their appearance.\\nTransgender, non-binary, and gender diverse individuals do not all look the same, and many may not appear to be trans or non-binary.\\nYou should not put pressure on someone you know to reveal their gender identity if they are gender diverse. Being trans isn't about how you dress or how you act. Being trans is a state of being one's true self, regardless of what they wear or how they appear. Gender expectations are arbitrary, and trans and nonbinary people are not required to prove their gender in order to be respected.\\n3. Listen to the voices of trans and gender diverse folks.\\nListen to the experiences of gender diverse people with an open mind and heart—they're the experts on their own lives, and one of the most important parts of being an ally is listening and giving others the space to speak.\\nIt's also important to remember that each trans person has a unique experience. One story does not fit all. Read stories and journeys of trans and nonbinary individuals.\\nSupport them by being a good listener. Listen to them without judgement.\\nMake sure they feel safe living with their families or friends and can be what they are in every setting.\\nThank them for choosing you to come out. Ask them what you can do to be a good friend.\\n4. Use gender inclusive language.\\nGender inclusive language can make a big difference to gender diverse folks.\\nGender diverse language can make a lot of trans folks feel valid. Here are simple, everyday ways to use gender inclusive language:\\nUse the singular ‘their’ instead of ‘his/her’ in letters and other forms of writing, i.e. ‘when a colleague finishes their work’ as opposed to ‘when a colleague finishes his/her work’.\\nInstead of using binary language to address groups of people, such as 'ladies and gentlemen,' try more inclusive alternatives such as 'folks,' 'pals,' or 'everyone.'\\nUse \\\"sibling\\\" instead of \\\"brother/sister,\\\" and \\\"partner\\\" instead of \\\"boyfriend/girlfriend.\\\"\\n5. Educate yourself.\\nMany people have been taught that this strict gender binary is natural, but there are many different gender identities and ways for people to express them.\\nYour journey as an ally entails questioning and unlearning many of the gender stereotypes you accept as natural, as well as being open to new ideas that embrace and include gender diversity.\\n6. Be patient with those who are questioning their gender identity.\\nA person who is unsure about their gender identity may switch back and forth as they figure out which pronoun works best for them.\\nBe kind and respectful to them, including their names, pronouns, and appearance.\\n7. Show up in support of the LGBTQ community.\\nAlthough it is important to make an effort to be trans-inclusive in your interpersonal interactions, allyship does not end there.\\nIt is important to show up for the trans community by attending rallies and protests for trans people. Donating to trans-centered non-profits like the National Center for Transgender Equality, The Trevor Project, and Gender Spectrum is another way to show up for your gender diverse loved ones and friends.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There are many ways to show your support for transgender and nonbinary family, friends, and loved ones. This article will teach you how to be an ally to transgender and gender diverse individuals.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"State your pronouns and ask others what pronouns they use.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This is an easy way to respect transgender and nonbinary individuals.\", \"描述\": \"Introduce yourself using your name and pronouns. Stating your pronouns reminds people that it is not always obvious which pronoun someone is using, and encourages others to state their pronouns when meeting someone. The singular 'they' (they/them/theirs) is the most commonly used gender-neutral pronoun, but many people use combinations of pronouns or neopronouns. Using the correct pronouns for people shows that you respect them and who they are.\\nA simple \\\"I'm sorry! Thank you for correcting me,\\\" and continuing the conversation with the correct pronoun/name usage is the way to go when you accidentally deadname or misgender someone.\\nInclude your pronouns in your email signature or on social media.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't assume you can tell if someone is trans based on their appearance.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse individuals do not all look the same, and many may not appear to be trans or non-binary.\", \"描述\": \"You should not put pressure on someone you know to reveal their gender identity if they are gender diverse. Being trans isn't about how you dress or how you act. Being trans is a state of being one's true self, regardless of what they wear or how they appear. Gender expectations are arbitrary, and trans and nonbinary people are not required to prove their gender in order to be respected.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to the voices of trans and gender diverse folks.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to the experiences of gender diverse people with an open mind and heart—they're the experts on their own lives, and one of the most important parts of being an ally is listening and giving others the space to speak.\", \"描述\": \"It's also important to remember that each trans person has a unique experience. One story does not fit all. Read stories and journeys of trans and nonbinary individuals.\\nSupport them by being a good listener. Listen to them without judgement.\\nMake sure they feel safe living with their families or friends and can be what they are in every setting.\\nThank them for choosing you to come out. Ask them what you can do to be a good friend.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use gender inclusive language.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gender inclusive language can make a big difference to gender diverse folks.\", \"描述\": \"Gender diverse language can make a lot of trans folks feel valid. Here are simple, everyday ways to use gender inclusive language:\\nUse the singular ‘their’ instead of ‘his/her’ in letters and other forms of writing, i.e. ‘when a colleague finishes their work’ as opposed to ‘when a colleague finishes his/her work’.\\nInstead of using binary language to address groups of people, such as 'ladies and gentlemen,' try more inclusive alternatives such as 'folks,' 'pals,' or 'everyone.'\\nUse \\\"sibling\\\" instead of \\\"brother/sister,\\\" and \\\"partner\\\" instead of \\\"boyfriend/girlfriend.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Many people have been taught that this strict gender binary is natural, but there are many different gender identities and ways for people to express them.\", \"描述\": \"Your journey as an ally entails questioning and unlearning many of the gender stereotypes you accept as natural, as well as being open to new ideas that embrace and include gender diversity.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be patient with those who are questioning their gender identity.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A person who is unsure about their gender identity may switch back and forth as they figure out which pronoun works best for them.\", \"描述\": \"Be kind and respectful to them, including their names, pronouns, and appearance.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Show up in support of the LGBTQ community.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Although it is important to make an effort to be trans-inclusive in your interpersonal interactions, allyship does not end there.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to show up for the trans community by attending rallies and protests for trans people. Donating to trans-centered non-profits like the National Center for Transgender Equality, The Trevor Project, and Gender Spectrum is another way to show up for your gender diverse loved ones and friends.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Be a Travel Agent
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1. Education and Training
1-1. Get a high school diploma.
Typical for any job nowadays, a high school diploma is necessary to get started. This is the bare minimum for entry into an established business.
A GED is fine. Whichever form you choose, it's essential to get good grades and to learn computer skills.
1-2. Take classes in travel planning.
Having extra, focused knowledge makes you a prime candidate when you walk into any office (or start your own business).
Check out your local community colleges, vocational schools, and industry associations for classes. The classes should focus on reservation systems, travel regulations (both domestic and international), and marketing.
1-3. Get a degree in travel and tourism.
Few schools offer on-site degrees in this, but it's worth the research if one is in your area. However, loads offer classes online.
University of Southern Mississippi
Johnson & Wales University
University of Massachusetts Isenberg School of Management
East Carolina University
Robert Morris University
Strayer University
If you plan to start your own travel agency, you will need business courses as well.
1-4. Get a business license.
Depending on your location and business set-up, you may need a travel agent license (if you have a host, you may be able to use their license number). Even if you don't live in an area that requires one but are planning to sell to residents of those states, it's worth looking into.
6 US states currently have seller of travel laws:
California (the strictest and most complex)
Florida
Iowa
Washington
Hawaii
Nevada (suspended until July 2013)
Louisiana and Delaware have loose restrictions on new agencies.
All agents and supervisors/managers in Ontario, Canada must take the Travel Industry Council of Ontario (TICO) exam. It currently rings up at $32 CAD.
Travel agencies in British Columbia, Canada are required by the Insurance Council of British Columbia to take a travel insurance exam. It’s a license tied to the agency and every travel agent in the agency is required to attend 2 hours of training a year.
The licensing for those in Saskatchewan, Canada is again related to travel insurance and involves an exam required by the Insurance Council of Saskatchewan. Unlike the licensing in British Columbia though, this license is tied to the travel agent, not the agency. Agents are required to attend 3 hours of training every year.
1-5. Get credentials.
These generally take two forms; both add to your credibility as a travel agent.
Classes and training at an undergrad level and your IATAN (International Airlines Travel Agent Network) ID card.
Supplemental training at schools like The Travel Institute and the International Airline Transport Association’s Training and Development Institute. Both provide training and professional development opportunities for experienced travel agents. Examinations for different levels of certification are offered depending on a travel agent’s experience.If you have a designated area of interest, certification from an organization such as the Cruise Lines International Association could never hurt.
Beware of "card-mills." For a relatively small fee, they mysteriously give you a "travel agent qualification." It's a scam.
2. Skills and Know-how
2-1. Develop the personality.
To be a successful travel agent, you must be worldly, confident, and one heck of a networker. Even if you're working for a parent company, you have to convince your clients that you're offering them the best vacation they could possibly have.
Be adventurous. Part of the job description is willing to scope out and analyze different, sometimes dangerous, sometimes exotic, areas.
Hone your communication skills. When you're not doing on-the-scene research, you'll be behind a desk, emailing and talking on the phone. Your success rate is based on how well you can communicate.
Zero-in on the details. Every person has a different ideal vacation—making sure everything from the curtains to the bus air conditioning system is beyond the standard is what makes a returning customer.
Get organized. You'll be dealing with dozens of itineraries simultaneously. Keeping things straight and meeting deadlines is imperative to success.
Make connections. You're going to need clients to make commission, so start talking. Be the go-to for all your friends and family when it comes to travel information and itinerary organization. Start networking today.
2-2. Be well-traveled.
You cannot sell a product that you're unfamiliar with. Getting out there or seeing it for yourself puts you in the clients' shoes and prepares you for unforeseen problems.
Being able to dispense first-hand information is invaluable. Clients are more interested in hearing suggestions based on first-hand accounts of services, accommodations and geographic areas. This is the reason travel agents often receive discounts while traveling.
Knowing a foreign language (or two) definitely helps!
2-3. Know the facts.
Before you start any career, familiarize yourself with the market and what you're getting into.
The beginning travel agent makes, on average, around $15 an hour or around $30,000 a year.
In the US as of 2010, there were 82,000 travel agents (a 10% rise is projected for 2020).
2-4. Become a destination specialist.
In order to thrive in this work environment, it's helpful to have an area of expertise. Have you wandered the markets of Istanbul? Cracked coconuts in the Mekong Delta? Choose a region that appeals to you.
Some specialties could include a specific geographic location like Mexico; specific types of travel like cruises or tour groups; price-focused travel such as luxury accommodations or affordable vacations; and particular travel groups based on hobbies, special interests or lifestyles such as seniors or vegetarians.
2-5. Pick your work environment.
The number of travel agents working for themselves is increasing rapidly. Decide whether you want to work under the umbrella of a brick and mortar company or just through a host company, working on your own.
YTB, Traverse, and GT Trends all give you a website that you call "your own" for a minimal fee. They train and support you and provide your initial income. They all have a parent company; if you'd like to cut out the middleman, you can pair with the parent company yourself. As always, do the research yourself to find what's right for you.
3. On the Job
3-1. Apply for a job in a travel agency.
Starting as a receptionist or assistant can lead to more responsibilities and opportunities to advance while you're enrolled in a travel agent program.
Don't be afraid to just get your foot in the door. Some companies, like Virtuoso, recommend 20 years of experience before you start working with them.
3-2. Start networking.
Whether you're working from home or in an office, raising your voice is the only way to let people know you're getting on the ground and running. Do the research and start making offers.
Create a referral service with another travel agent or agents who can refer business to you in your specialty and you can do the same for them. You can sometimes work out a mutual-referral agreement with another agent in order to collect referral fees.
3-3. Join an organization.
The quickest way to hone your craft is to observe and mirror other professionals in your field. Join an organization to surround yourself with similar individuals who may be a few years ahead of you.
Professional organizations, such as the American Society of Travel Agents (ASTA) provide support, further education and training opportunities, resources, networking opportunities, travel tools, publication access, evaluation services, invitations to seminars, expos and summits, scholarships for students and salary tools.
These organizations also give you access to job boards and travel school directories, if you're looking for career rejuvenation.
Warnings
Beware of travel scams that offer "certification" and a website from which to sell travel, in exchange for paying startup fees and recruiting other agents under you. Often these scammers offer "certification" from their own companies, not from professional institutions that are recognized by agencies in the industry. Most people lose time and money when they get involved with "instant travel agent" scams. In short, it's a pyramid scheme.
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However, loads offer classes online.\\nUniversity of Southern Mississippi\\nJohnson & Wales University\\nUniversity of Massachusetts Isenberg School of Management\\nEast Carolina University\\nRobert Morris University\\nStrayer University\\nIf you plan to start your own travel agency, you will need business courses as well.\\n1-4. Get a business license.\\nDepending on your location and business set-up, you may need a travel agent license (if you have a host, you may be able to use their license number). Even if you don't live in an area that requires one but are planning to sell to residents of those states, it's worth looking into.\\n6 US states currently have seller of travel laws:\\nCalifornia (the strictest and most complex)\\nFlorida\\nIowa\\nWashington\\nHawaii\\nNevada (suspended until July 2013)\\n\\nLouisiana and Delaware have loose restrictions on new agencies.\\nAll agents and supervisors/managers in Ontario, Canada must take the Travel Industry Council of Ontario (TICO) exam. It currently rings up at $32 CAD.\\nTravel agencies in British Columbia, Canada are required by the Insurance Council of British Columbia to take a travel insurance exam. It’s a license tied to the agency and every travel agent in the agency is required to attend 2 hours of training a year.\\nThe licensing for those in Saskatchewan, Canada is again related to travel insurance and involves an exam required by the Insurance Council of Saskatchewan. Unlike the licensing in British Columbia though, this license is tied to the travel agent, not the agency. Agents are required to attend 3 hours of training every year.\\n1-5. Get credentials.\\nThese generally take two forms; both add to your credibility as a travel agent.\\nClasses and training at an undergrad level and your IATAN (International Airlines Travel Agent Network) ID card.\\nSupplemental training at schools like The Travel Institute and the International Airline Transport Association’s Training and Development Institute. Both provide training and professional development opportunities for experienced travel agents. Examinations for different levels of certification are offered depending on a travel agent’s experience.If you have a designated area of interest, certification from an organization such as the Cruise Lines International Association could never hurt.\\nBeware of \\\"card-mills.\\\" For a relatively small fee, they mysteriously give you a \\\"travel agent qualification.\\\" It's a scam.\\n2. Skills and Know-how\\n2-1. Develop the personality.\\nTo be a successful travel agent, you must be worldly, confident, and one heck of a networker. Even if you're working for a parent company, you have to convince your clients that you're offering them the best vacation they could possibly have.\\nBe adventurous. Part of the job description is willing to scope out and analyze different, sometimes dangerous, sometimes exotic, areas.\\nHone your communication skills. When you're not doing on-the-scene research, you'll be behind a desk, emailing and talking on the phone. Your success rate is based on how well you can communicate.\\nZero-in on the details. Every person has a different ideal vacation—making sure everything from the curtains to the bus air conditioning system is beyond the standard is what makes a returning customer.\\nGet organized. You'll be dealing with dozens of itineraries simultaneously. Keeping things straight and meeting deadlines is imperative to success.\\nMake connections. You're going to need clients to make commission, so start talking. Be the go-to for all your friends and family when it comes to travel information and itinerary organization. Start networking today.\\n2-2. Be well-traveled.\\nYou cannot sell a product that you're unfamiliar with. Getting out there or seeing it for yourself puts you in the clients' shoes and prepares you for unforeseen problems.\\nBeing able to dispense first-hand information is invaluable. Clients are more interested in hearing suggestions based on first-hand accounts of services, accommodations and geographic areas. This is the reason travel agents often receive discounts while traveling.\\nKnowing a foreign language (or two) definitely helps!\\n2-3. Know the facts.\\nBefore you start any career, familiarize yourself with the market and what you're getting into.\\nThe beginning travel agent makes, on average, around $15 an hour or around $30,000 a year.\\nIn the US as of 2010, there were 82,000 travel agents (a 10% rise is projected for 2020).\\n2-4. Become a destination specialist.\\nIn order to thrive in this work environment, it's helpful to have an area of expertise. Have you wandered the markets of Istanbul? Cracked coconuts in the Mekong Delta? Choose a region that appeals to you.\\nSome specialties could include a specific geographic location like Mexico; specific types of travel like cruises or tour groups; price-focused travel such as luxury accommodations or affordable vacations; and particular travel groups based on hobbies, special interests or lifestyles such as seniors or vegetarians.\\n2-5. Pick your work environment.\\nThe number of travel agents working for themselves is increasing rapidly. Decide whether you want to work under the umbrella of a brick and mortar company or just through a host company, working on your own.\\nYTB, Traverse, and GT Trends all give you a website that you call \\\"your own\\\" for a minimal fee. They train and support you and provide your initial income. They all have a parent company; if you'd like to cut out the middleman, you can pair with the parent company yourself. As always, do the research yourself to find what's right for you.\\n3. On the Job\\n3-1. Apply for a job in a travel agency.\\nStarting as a receptionist or assistant can lead to more responsibilities and opportunities to advance while you're enrolled in a travel agent program.\\nDon't be afraid to just get your foot in the door. Some companies, like Virtuoso, recommend 20 years of experience before you start working with them.\\n3-2. Start networking.\\nWhether you're working from home or in an office, raising your voice is the only way to let people know you're getting on the ground and running. Do the research and start making offers.\\nCreate a referral service with another travel agent or agents who can refer business to you in your specialty and you can do the same for them. You can sometimes work out a mutual-referral agreement with another agent in order to collect referral fees.\\n3-3. Join an organization.\\nThe quickest way to hone your craft is to observe and mirror other professionals in your field. Join an organization to surround yourself with similar individuals who may be a few years ahead of you.\\nProfessional organizations, such as the American Society of Travel Agents (ASTA) provide support, further education and training opportunities, resources, networking opportunities, travel tools, publication access, evaluation services, invitations to seminars, expos and summits, scholarships for students and salary tools.\\nThese organizations also give you access to job boards and travel school directories, if you're looking for career rejuvenation.\\nWarnings\\nBeware of travel scams that offer \\\"certification\\\" and a website from which to sell travel, in exchange for paying startup fees and recruiting other agents under you. Often these scammers offer \\\"certification\\\" from their own companies, not from professional institutions that are recognized by agencies in the industry. Most people lose time and money when they get involved with \\\"instant travel agent\\\" scams. In short, it's a pyramid scheme.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many people are attracted to a career as a travel agent because of the perks: discounts on lodging, transportation, and constant opportunities to see the world. They offer advice on travel, put together travel packages, research vacation spots and confirm arrangements. To be a travel agent, determine the skills you need, take advantage of educational opportunities and professional resources, and consider specializing in a particular type of travel.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Education and Training\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a high school diploma.\", \"描述\": \"Typical for any job nowadays, a high school diploma is necessary to get started. This is the bare minimum for entry into an established business.\\nA GED is fine. 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Even if you don't live in an area that requires one but are planning to sell to residents of those states, it's worth looking into.\\n6 US states currently have seller of travel laws:\\nCalifornia (the strictest and most complex)\\nFlorida\\nIowa\\nWashington\\nHawaii\\nNevada (suspended until July 2013)\\n\\nLouisiana and Delaware have loose restrictions on new agencies.\\nAll agents and supervisors/managers in Ontario, Canada must take the Travel Industry Council of Ontario (TICO) exam. It currently rings up at $32 CAD.\\nTravel agencies in British Columbia, Canada are required by the Insurance Council of British Columbia to take a travel insurance exam. It’s a license tied to the agency and every travel agent in the agency is required to attend 2 hours of training a year.\\nThe licensing for those in Saskatchewan, Canada is again related to travel insurance and involves an exam required by the Insurance Council of Saskatchewan. Unlike the licensing in British Columbia though, this license is tied to the travel agent, not the agency. Agents are required to attend 3 hours of training every year.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get credentials.\", \"描述\": \"These generally take two forms; both add to your credibility as a travel agent.\\nClasses and training at an undergrad level and your IATAN (International Airlines Travel Agent Network) ID card.\\nSupplemental training at schools like The Travel Institute and the International Airline Transport Association’s Training and Development Institute. Both provide training and professional development opportunities for experienced travel agents. Examinations for different levels of certification are offered depending on a travel agent’s experience.If you have a designated area of interest, certification from an organization such as the Cruise Lines International Association could never hurt.\\nBeware of \\\"card-mills.\\\" For a relatively small fee, they mysteriously give you a \\\"travel agent qualification.\\\" It's a scam.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Skills and Know-how\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop the personality.\", \"描述\": \"To be a successful travel agent, you must be worldly, confident, and one heck of a networker. Even if you're working for a parent company, you have to convince your clients that you're offering them the best vacation they could possibly have.\\nBe adventurous. Part of the job description is willing to scope out and analyze different, sometimes dangerous, sometimes exotic, areas.\\nHone your communication skills. When you're not doing on-the-scene research, you'll be behind a desk, emailing and talking on the phone. Your success rate is based on how well you can communicate.\\nZero-in on the details. Every person has a different ideal vacation—making sure everything from the curtains to the bus air conditioning system is beyond the standard is what makes a returning customer.\\nGet organized. You'll be dealing with dozens of itineraries simultaneously. Keeping things straight and meeting deadlines is imperative to success.\\nMake connections. You're going to need clients to make commission, so start talking. Be the go-to for all your friends and family when it comes to travel information and itinerary organization. Start networking today.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be well-traveled.\", \"描述\": \"You cannot sell a product that you're unfamiliar with. 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